{"id": "t3_o08yr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get someone out of your head?", "post": "Hi,\nI'm 22, and I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years now. We recently moved together. We've always loved each other intensely.\n\nProblem, I recently started to have feelings for an other person (a friend). This person has had a boyfriend for now 3 years, and has absolutely no ideas. Those feelings were so strong, it was hard to hide them. After 2 months of me being distant and really sad, my girlfriend forced me to say what was bothering me. I'm not a good liar, and now she knows.\n\nWe decided to give us a week alone, I went to my parents. \n\nNow, I'm completely lost. I keep on thinking about this person, and I hate that. I would like for those feelings to go away, to leave me alone. But I can't.  \n\nWhat do I do? It's been 3 months now, and I'm just desperate.", "summary": "long relationship; fell in love with an other person; admitted it; would like it to disappear, though it doesn't."}
{"id": "t3_1q8zea", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Small NSV: Went to a buffet with my husband and didn't lose my mind, did lose a pound!", "post": "I'll preface this to say that buffets have always been sort of a waste on me, since I only eat a plate or so before I'm just done, but my husband really likes them, so I go. I know that when I do go, though, I tend towards high calorie choices. Last night my husband wanted to try out a new Chinese food buffet nearby. I decided I'd eaten really lightly the day before and during the day yesterday, so I'd treat myself and cheat a bit.  I sensibly started with sushi, thinking I'd at least start off right, then went back and loaded up a plate with my usual fried/salty fare like lo mein, sesame chicken, fried rice, etc. However, apart from the sauteed string beans and mushrooms, it all tasted too greasy and heavy to me. I ended up leaving the nearly full plate on the table and going back for more sushi. I also got dessert, but only took one bite of a few things to taste before stopping. I usually feel terrible about wasting food like that and worry about what the servers think, but last night I did it anyway.\n\nThis morning I was sure I'd have gained because of all the salt and the dessert, but lo and behold, I was actually down a pound. SO close (6 oz) to the 25lb flair I can taste it!", "summary": "I resisted greasy food in favor of sushi and was sensible about dessert, lost weight."}
{"id": "t3_33mry8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] with boyfriend [25M] and hanging out with old hookups", "post": "So my boyfriend has a lot of female friends, some of whom he's slept with. Recently a girl he had a brief fling with has moved back to our town. I like her and think she's a pretty cool person but I'm still not 100% comfortable hanging out with her. We hung out with her last night and the whole time I was a little uncomfortable. I don't like hearing her and my boyfriend reminisce about when they first met and about their old adventures (over 8 years ago - I've been dating/known him for a little over a year). I don't know the timeline of their sexual relationship and don't want to - but she emphasized last night that she sees him as a brother/cousin. She was drunk while saying that and it was just an odd statement to make, unless she was trying to reassure me there's nothing more between them. Basically I'm not comfortable knowing he's slept with both of us and being in the same room as her. It makes me feel bad because she's not a bad person, I just don't really want anything to do with her - or I'd prefer to see her as little as possible. I don't want to make my boyfriend feel like he can't have/hang out with female friends, but I can't be comfortable with him hanging out with girls he's slept with. How do I deal with this? Has anyone else been comfortable with their SO's past flings? \n\nOther info - we live together & I'm his longest relationship", "summary": "Bf keeps in touch/hangs out with old flings. How can I be okay with this?"}
{"id": "t3_gdnkf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I need advice from those smarter and older than me...", "post": "I'm 20 almost 21. Work as a line cook at a restaurant 30-40 hours a week. No money saved up (car insurance is 200 a month right now hard to save) I have a semester  of community college under my belt.\n\nI need a smart move, a goal to work towards anything. I'm trying to do smaller stuff. Working out, eating better, learning a instrument, and a second language. But I have no idea what I want to do for a living. Should I even bother with college or try and self teach myself some skill?\n\nor take out tons of student loans and go to a college and get my degree. \n\nAnd what career choices are good ones? I think I'd like traveling? and lower stress. Minimal customer service. Other then that i'm open to a lot of things. Manual labor, computer, paper work ect.", "summary": "tell me what you would do if you were in my shoes"}
{"id": "t3_15ijah", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "So, my mom woke me up with a loud TV.", "post": "She was in her living room, watching TV. This was at about 8:30 in the morning, and she was exercising. She turned the TV up extra loud to hear it over her excercycle, and woke me up. I went in there asking for her to turn it down. She said she didn't have to; I explained that I always used headphones so she didn't have to deal with my noise and that she should give me a little more respect, given that I paid rent at the time.\n\nShe disagreed. I went back to my room, rather pissed off at the lack of equality. I had no lock on my door; but I had a dresser right next to it, so I pulled one of the drawers out enough so that it caused the door to not be openable. Then, I turned my speakers up really loud and blasted Gangnam Style on repeat, with the bass cranked up as high as it could go.\n\nIf you hate Gangnam Style for being overplayed, you will see why I chose that particular song. I personally don't mind it. But here's the thing about my bass; it vibrates the walls, making one hell of a lot of noise. Needless to say, my mom was not pleased and shut off the internet. But it was oh so worth it.", "summary": "Mom had the TV on loud and woke me up, didn't care that I'd respected audio levels in the house, so I countered with playing Gangnam Style on repeat with the bass thumping through the walls."}
{"id": "t3_3r7dag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (20f) of two years cheated on me (20m) by kissing two guys at a Halloween party.", "post": "Lately her and I have been having a few problems, and these problems have been brought up before a few times. One problem being that I don't show enough affection. I don't tell her she's pretty very often or don't compliment her much. I feel terrible about it, but this time I was really trying to change for her.\n\nFor Halloween she went to visit her step brother at a college and I got drunk with my friends and watched movies. Last night (11/1) we got in a huge fight about me not changing and how our relationship won't work out and basically broke up over the phone. So in an effort to try and fix it I drove to her house. She told me how at the parties she went to that two guys kissed her. The first one she pushed away, but the second one I asked her if she kissed him back and she said yes and that she did it because it made her feel wanted, which I guess I haven't been making her feel that way lately. We cried, we talked about everything, we had great sex, and I stayed over at her house just to sleep with her and then snuck out in the morning so her parents wouldn't know.\n\nWe both obviously want to work things out but aren't sure if we should. I love this girl, but the more I think about it, all I can think about is her cheating on me, and more importantly, liking it. It makes me sick to my stomach. Should I even try to fix it or would I be better off cutting all ties.", "summary": "My girlfriend kissed two guys at a Halloween party and liked it. We love each other but don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2wghd6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "One year post-pregnancy, aches and pains in hips and knees, can't even comfortably do day 1 of C25k. Help?", "post": "I'll try to keep this short!\n\n**Background**\n\n* I've always been an on again/off again (very casual!) jogger, typically doing 3 - 5 k\n* My knees have always been finicky, and I went to a physio who thought I had \"runner's knee\"\n* Pre-pregnancy, my \"runner's knee\" would flare up when I got to the 8 - 10 k distance range, even if I had a decent base (doing a C210k type program)\n\n**Current Problem**\n\nI had my baby a year ago, so all in all I haven't run for about 1.5 years.  I'm quite slim and have been doing aerobics-style classes for the past year, so I'm not totally out of shape.  Body weight exercises, aerobics, bikes and ellipticals are all fine.  However, when I run even the tinyiest bit, or even go on a long walk or a hike, my pelvis gets very sore and tight, and my knees start hurting very quickly.  I already am doing general squats/lunges/stretching type things.  \n\nI'm starting to feel like running just isn't for me anymore. Which is a bummer, because I really enjoy running!\n\nHas anyone had something similar? Can anyone recommend some stretches or exercises that might help?  Should I see a Dr?  Or should I just see a physio?  Not quite sure how to proceed.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I think pregnancy messed with my body, now I can't even run even the smallest amount without pain in my pelvis and knees.  I'm fairly certain the problem isn't just that I'm completely out of shape."}
{"id": "t3_x42wl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Christian Bale was almost my uncle. Reddit, what interesting family connections do you/did you almost have?", "post": "Saw him on the front page this evening and it reminded me of my connection.\n\nSo the story starts with my grandfather, who was kind of a player. He supposedly asked out many hot celebrities in his day...For amusement, I believe all of them. Makes him more interesting. This one I know is true, because my great aunt was present to back it up. Story starts in the 80s with my grandpa, who was a widow to my grandmother. He was then having a fling with Ms. Bale (who was either separated or divorced or something from Mr. Bale, and was not actually Ms.Bale). They're in the city with friends, having a grand old time like New York fat cats do. Riding in a limo to see/after (not sure which) a Broadway show, Ms.Bale mentions her close friend, an actress. This actress happened to be black. My grandpa was born in 1916, so he, like many others of his generation, was very racist. He casually calls the actress some racial slur, which I'm not sure of, nor would I repeat. Ms. Bale and her friends literally left him on the curb. The relationship rightfully ended.", "summary": "Dammit racist grandpa, Christian Bale could have been my uncle!"}
{"id": "t3_2wm48l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting scared for no reason and peeing on myself", "post": "(Pre-apology for formatting errors since i'm on my phone)\n\nWell, this was embarrassing and happened a few minutes ago. \nI work at a small law office which shares a building with a few other businesses, a dentist's office and a military recruitment center. There is no drinking fountain in the building, so I bring a giant 2L water bottle which I sip on all day to keep hydrated and counteract all the copious amounts of alcohol i drink (after work, of course). Unfortunately, I have been cursed with a small bladder, and have to go pee sometimes 8-10 times a day. Luckily the back door of my office opens up right near the bathroom, so I can usually drain the main vein without embarrassing myself by being frequently seen there.\n\nAs I was wrapping up work for the day, I realized I would have to pee one more time before leaving. It was slightly after 5, so when I walked to the bathroom, I wasn't expecting to see anyone in there (it is the kind of bathroom with a urinal and a stall).\n\nFuckup begins when I open the door and there is a dude who had just finished shitting and was leaving the stall. For whatever reason this terrified me for a split second and I jumped and gasped. \n\nThe guy was amused and chuckled and was like, did I scare you? I muttered something like \"haha, yeah, a little bit\" and I kept my head down, beelined to the urinal and unleashed the krakan. \n\nI was super embarrassed and very preoccupied so I didn't notice that the bottom part of my untucked, button-down shirt had slipped into my urine stream and was getting soaked. I didn't realize it until it began to sort of soak back onto my pant leg and getting my thigh wet. \n\nWell, fuck, i thought. This sucks. Then i remembered my fiancee was coming to pick me up straight from work so we could go grocery shopping. I cleaned up as best as i could, but its still very obvious. Luckily I have a P coat which is long enough to cover my pee-soaked netherregion, so i may get through this unscathed. My girl didn't notice yet...", "summary": "got startled for no reason by a normal dude taking a shit and then pissed on my pants and shirt due to embarrassment and now I have to go shopping in my shame-soaked pants."}
{"id": "t3_2t47de", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by staring too much.", "post": "Unlike most tifu's I have seen, this happened today. So, to start off I am 16 years old and have started my second semester as a sophomore, in one of my new classes (team sports to be specific) I noticed a very attractive and genuinely cute girl. I have never been on dates or been romantically involved with any girls before, because I have social anxiety and I am pretty chunky and I have confidence problems because of it. Any way, back to the story, I notice this cute girl and I can't help myself and I stare at her then I gain focus and I am focused back on the game. The day continues normally until I look back and her eyes avert away from me quickly, like when you get caught staring at someone and you act like you weren't staring. So, I thought \"does she like ME?!?\" thought it might have been a coincidence but I caught her stare a few more times. So after we dress back into our normal clothes I stare at her and question. whether or not she could like a person like me. She caught my gaze this time and she turns away and talks to some dude. The dude was pretty weird but there wasn't a day when she wasn't talking to him during class. Anyway the dude gives me a dirty look and the bell rings and I thought maybe she doesn't like me maybe she was creeped out and told her possible boyfriend that I was staring at her all class. So yeah saw her walking away with the dude and I saw her eyes on me again and they avert again. Don't know her name or anything so probably creeped out the poor girl and might get confronted by the dude, also I seem like a total creep...\nP.S. sorry for formatting on mobile.", "summary": "Creeped out a girl by staring too long/ too much, thought she might like me, boyfriend or friend or what evs might confront me. I am a huge creep."}
{"id": "t3_mjs4m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think our family dog just consumed a significant amount of chocolate. What do I do?", "post": "Okay so my father and I went out to dinner tonight and left the dog at home. I'd left half a bar of dark chocolate (about 1.5 oz, still in the wrapper) sitting on my desk. Mind you, the bar has been sitting on the desk for about three days now and the dog hasn't done anything about it, and typically doesn't. She knows not to climb on surfaces and has shown no interest in the candy before. \n\nHowever, I returned home to find my bedroom in shambles. The contents of my desk were all knocked around and a bunch of family photos were all shredded and chewed up. I found the empty chocolate bar wrapper on the ground and still can't find the offending candy. I can only conclude that the dog has eaten it.\n\nThis is something that my dog would've done as a puppy. However, she's ten now and hasn't behaved like this in years. She's acting fine at the moment, but I'm still worried. My father doesn't seem concerned about her at all, which worries me even more.\nFYI, my dog is a dachshund mix and weighs about 25-30 pounds. \nHas anybody been in this situation before? What happened? Does anybody know what to do?", "summary": "I think dog got into chocolate when I was out. My dad isn't concerned but I'm afraid she's going to keel over and die and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3wcutv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] doesn't want to walk me [20F] back to my room at night.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have officially been together for only 2 months, but we have been close since this past May. Currently, we attend college together. However, we live in different dorms. Although our buildings aren't too far from each other, I ask him to walk me back to my room since I usually hang out with him after work until 3 or 4 AM. \n\nI constantly have to beg him to walk me back to my room. First of all, it is late at night. I feel protected when he is with me. However, that is not a major concern for me as I usually feel mostly safe on my campus when he makes me walk back by myself. Second, my concern is that he doesn't care enough. To me, walking a girl back to her room is the gentlemanly thing to do. It makes me feel safe, secure, and loved; I obviously do not feel this way when he opts out of walking me back. He usually doesn't want to walk me back because he's too lazy to leave his room just to come back in 10 minutes.\n\nI've stressed this a few times with him already, but he doesn't really understand. I am his first serious girlfriend, but if he has learned anything he should know how to treat a lady.\n\nAm I asking too much from my boyfriend?", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't like walking me back to my room. Am I asking too much from him?"}
{"id": "t3_4mcvz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and my (former) best friend.", "post": "I'm a 15-y.o. female, and I'm pretty sure that I just lost my long-time female best friend (a year older), who has been with me for about 4 years.\n\nI had only two friends in school, and 'she' was one of them. We never argued a lot, but there were very rare occurrences when we didn't get along. I had already been ignored for a week once--as if my presence wasn't there at all--and I always assumed it was simply because I had said something wrong (I apologise to her, I swear). But we would always get along, eventually.\n\nIn the remaining several days before we had to part for summer, our interactions were becoming a little awkward, and it was with the knowledge that I would already be attending a different school from hers when classes return. In those days, I would see her making conversations with other students rather than me. She would always speak to my only other best friend (the three of us have been really close friends for > 4 years), and not include me in the conversation. My online messages are all unread. I have, of course, asked her if I had done something wrong; she would say \"no\", as always, without looking me in the eye.\n\nAnd now she has finally blocked me in social media. 3 months have passed now, and I cannot even fathom what wrong I could have possibly done. I don't have much friends. Now that I am in a new university, I could simply forget that part of my past and move on, but I cannot bring myself to do so. You can't just forget years of shared experiences, right?\n \n\nHell, I even dream about her sometimes. I adore her as a great friend, no less. But in those last few days together, she'd just blatantly ignore me, and wouldn't at least tell me what I've done wrong--and that really hurts me. I'm rarely emotional, but look at me now.\n\nAny help at all would be strongly appreciated. If it's me who's at fault, do tell--I'm open. Apologies for the long post.", "summary": "I have lost a ~4-year-best friend of mine, who now chooses to ignore me, and I cannot even tell what I have done wrong."}
{"id": "t3_2zu9jn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to creatively announce my first pregnancy.", "post": "This happened a couple months ago. My husband and I spend most of our time working in the overseas, and we recently came home to the U.S. for a year to apply for another long term visa. We decided that we should spend that year trying to have our first baby.\n\nWithin a week after making this decision, I realized I had missed my period. The next week I took three pregnancy tests at work, and that's right, my Mexican ass is knocked up. Instead of telling my husband right away, I came home from work and made a cookie cake that said \"I Got Knocked Up\" and a bunch of cupcakes with letters on it that, when unscrambled, say \"I am pregnant.\" \n\nHere's the FU part. Since we spend a lot of time overseas, we don't have many close friends, but we had a few people we had begun hanging out with and I invited them all over that night to play Settlers of Catan. When my husband got home that night, they were all there waiting with the board set up. I brought out the cupcakes I made and told them all to unscramble them. My husband stared at the cupcakes for a minute and said, \"I am pregnant.\" All our new friends were super excited, but my husband just sat there dumbstruck.\n\nFinally, one of our friends stopped and asked my husband, \"Dude, are you just finding this out right now? Ohhh Shit.\" My husband and I went into our room for about a half hour and he was pretty upset that he didn't know first and we didn't decide together how to tell people, and how he was put on the spot in front of practical strangers. But then we made up, cried, called our parents, and then rejoined our awkward guests for a game of Settlers.", "summary": "I surprised announced to my husband I was pregnant in front of a bunch of a people we really didn't know. Made him and everyone else feel really awkward."}
{"id": "t3_1xh19y", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Knee pain due to poor balance", "post": "I've had difficulty with distance running due to strong knee pain. My endurance is great, I can cycle for very long distances, but I can't run because my knees give out around 8 to 10 mies.\nI went to the Orthopedist who did a full series of x-rays and pronounced my knees in excellent condition. Then he had me do a bunch of balance exercises and told me that balance and \"hip stability\" was my issue. He prescribed PT, but my insurance is kinda crappy and 3x's/week PT will run me around $300/month. That's a bit steep.\nSo, has anyone else had knee issues due to balance and hip stability? What did you do? Are there balancing exercises I can do at home and not spend a ton of money on PT?", "summary": "Ortho said my knee pain was because I balance like a toddler, cost of PT is too damn high. Can you recommend a DIY balance program?"}
{"id": "t3_33k2x7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (18M) jealous of other guys flirting with my (18M) girlfriend on social media. Help?", "post": "My jealousy is starting to become a problem in this relationship. Actually, it has always been. Last year, a boy my girlfriend was friends with had kept walking her to class, writing her cute notes (something boyfriends do) and asking her if she's sure about being with me. I threatened to break up with her if she never stopped talking to this guy, because he was obviously trying to make a move. Now that she's in college, she's hanging out with more guys! 75% of her friends are guys, always hanging out with her, and after the \"friend\" she had last year, I can't stop being jealous or mad about her friends. The social media part about this, guys put heart eyes on her photos on instagram, and I tell them to back the fuck up, and my girlfriend gets mad at me for confronting them! \"You don't know what they meant by them, it doesn't mean they're flirting with me.\" I understand that she is right, she doesn't respond back but she obviously likes the attention she gets. My jealousy is also fueled by my friend group. My friends have dated my exes, I've been apart of closed door conversations about how some of my friends want to fuck my other friend's ex, visa versa. I would never do that to my friends, and in my world, most guys in college or highschool just want to take my girlfriend if they hang out with her. Or want to fuck her. She has already encountered a guy trying to flirt, and she gave him her number just to talk when we were arguing and on a break from our relationship. I have influenced her as well to be jealous with how i act with my anger and jealousy, but a big break up caused her to stop being clingy. Now i'm stuck being mad and jealous towards guys around her, and now I feel overprotective.", "summary": "I'm a jealous boyfriend and I need help to understand how NOT to be jealous. I don't want the \"Oh you should feel LUCKY guys want her!\" FUCK THAT. "}
{"id": "t3_36g84g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] want to buy my bf [28 M] of 6 months a $500 very rare video game for his collection for his birthday/Christmas. Will a gift of this caliber scare him off/ be considered too much after being laid off from his game dev job?", "post": "My boyfriend's birthday is December 24th, which is Christmas Eve. He grew up in a foster home and never got great presents for either his birthday or Christmas. He often spends his birthday and Christmas alone because his foster mother is uninterested and he doesn't have a great relationship with his birth mother. \n\nHe spent Christmas with me last year, so I went out of my way to get him both a birthday present AND a Christmas present, both of which valued above $50. However, he was so thrilled to have someone to spend his birthday and Christmas with, he showered me with 5 very nice, expensive gifts. I felt terrible. Happy, but terrible.\n\nHe is a video game artist but was recently laid off from his job. He is very passionate about his video game collection. There is one game I noticed in his collection that he only has the sequel of. I asked him why because it is very unlike him. He said it was because the original was wildly expensive and he already had a hard time affording a mint condition version of the sequel.\n\nThe cheapest, mint condition version of the game I could find is about $500. I do not make a whole ton of money, but I have saved up enough for it but now I find myself having second thoughts. I would have to buy it now or within a few months because the price skyrockets the closer it gets to Christmas. We haven't been together all that long (about 6 months) and I don't know if it would be right to drop $500 on a present just yet.\n\nI have so many questions. Is this too much? Would it be creepy to get him something that he never asked for? What if giving him a game gives him bad feelings about getting laid off? What if we break up before Christmas and I am stuck with the game? Would the game have the same value to his collection if he didn't earn it himself?\n\nAny help would be great. I am torn.", "summary": "Foster kid boyfriend with Christmas birthday and video game collection. Is it too soon to get him a $500 game for his collection, especially after he has just been laid off from his game dev job?"}
{"id": "t3_2twbfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16f) don't want my Boyfriend (16m) hanging out with his female friend anymore", "post": "My boyfriend's been very close friends with this girl for a few years, and him and I have been dating for a year and a couple months now. I've never had a problem with their friendship and I know that it's platonic, they've never done sexual stuff or dated or anything. And she had a boyfriend throughout out entire relationship, but they broke up last Thursday. Since then she has been trying to talk to my boyfriend more and I'm worried that she wants to do stuff with him. I've hung out with my boyfriend twice since and both times he got several texts from her and she hardly ever used to text him while we've hung out before. And yesterday evening I called him and he was talking to her on the phone. All of a sudden since her boyfriend and her broke up now she's constantly trying to talk to my boyfriend? I think she likes him and I don't want them hanging out anymore, when he said he was talking to her on the other line I told him he's not allowed hanging out with her anymore and he seemed angry at me for saying that. Since that I've apologized and we aren't fighting now but I think he still talks to her. How do you think I could get them to stop their friendship without \"telling him what to do\"? Do you think that she wants to date him? Or why is she so obsessed with him now that she's single? I'm so upset and I'm worried about what will happen if they hang out with eachother now.", "summary": "My boyfriend's close female friend and her boyfriend broke up, and now she's trying to talk to my boyfriend more than ever. I don't want them to, but I don't want to seem controlling or make my boyfriend upset."}
{"id": "t3_sz09p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need some advice with my laundry facilities.", "post": "I'm a student and i've been living in this great location for a little while now. The apartment is great, other than the laundry services. The wash machines constantly take my coins and jam, and the dryers barely dry anything(I am certain they are not being overloaded). I always end up having to hang everyone on a drying rack after a full cycle, and things like my Jiu Jitsu Gi are impossible to dry.\n\nI have brought it up with the landlord several times and he says \"oh i turned up the heat on the dryers\" and nothing changes. It costs $2 per cycle so $4 for a load of laundry. \n\nThe worst part is that there are no laundry services nearby so it would be very difficult to haul all of my stuff to another location.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions? I'm at the point where i'm going to take a hammer to these damn things.\n\nThanks", "summary": "Laundry sucks, i'm angry."}
{"id": "t3_19zkjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [[22m]] gf [[20]] of six months says things were going too fast and she's not capable of being with anyone right now.", "post": "A little background. I met her this summer through her then boyfriend [[28]] of two years, who (as I learned later) treated her like shit, was generally abusive, cheated on her, and used violence on her. They were in a long distance relationship and see each other for about two weeks every two months. A few weeks later I invited her over for my birthday party, we got to know each other better and practically started dating (behind his back that is). Initially I didn't want to ruin their relationship but she said she no longer had any feelings for him and their relationship was going to an end. She broke up with him a few weeks later, when he came to visit her.\n\nOur beginnings were pretty intense. We'd hang out every day, spend most of free time together, see each other almost every day and send dozens of messages every day as well. It came to a point where we practically started living together. About a month into our relationship she said that she loves me. I told her I developed feelings for her as well. We started having sex not so long after that.\nAnyway, things were going pretty good for some time, until very recently, when the honemoon phase started deteriorating. I could feel someting was wrong with the way she acted towards me, she seemd sad and unhappy, so today I confroted her about it and what she said is basically that she thinks our relationship came too fast, that she feels bad about chating on her then boyfriend, and that I am a great guy (handsome, intelligent, romantic, good in bed, blah blah), but she thinks what she felt towards me was not love but affection and that this feeling is now gone. She also mentioned that she's used to being with someone significantly older, that I am way too good for her, that she is basically incapable of loving anyone right now and needs to be alone for some time. She didn't exclude being with me in the future though.\n\nWhat should I do guys? I don't want to lose her, I love her.\n\n(sorry for broken English, it's not my native language + I'm a bit drunk and devastated)", "summary": "she broke up with her long time boyfriend to be with me, we had a really intense and happy relationship, but now she says she wants to be single"}
{"id": "t3_1y6k5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22m] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 1 and a half years, has been having communication and trust errors as of late", "post": "Everything in our relationship up until about a month ago was fantastic.  We never fought, we understood each other and acted like the bests of friends and lovers through it all.  Recently, I went back to school and our communication has been a bit strained, since I didn't do so well in last semester and have been focusing more on my studies.  \n\nLast weekend, I could tell something was definitely wrong.  She was constantly on the phone texting, conversation seemed strained and she seemed more engrossed with her phone and because of this there were problems during sex which made it not enjoyable at all.  We confronted each other and she told me she felt as if she doesn't feel as if we're in a relationship when I'm up here because I don't text as often as I used too.  \n\nOn my end, I'm worried because a new guy friend has come into her life and she seems to be putting more time into talking to this guy than to me.  I told her I would change and nothing was threatened in terms of a break up or anything, we both agreed we want this to last.  However, I can't shake this feeling that something is up and the more and more I think about it it makes me more and more paranoid and depressed. \n\nI just need someones outside opinion before I do anything or say anything irrational. I truly don't want my relationship to end with her, but with all the signs I'm getting, I just don't want to get dragged through the mud for months before something bad happens to me. \n\nNote-my girlfriend was a lesbian before I met her.  Failed relationships with men and a bad upbringing led her to hate men for a long time and I was the first guy she dated in years.  Doubt this has any relevance but I'm just trying to put all the facts out there.", "summary": "My girlfriend has been texting another man and has seemed more interested in him than in me.  At what point should I call it quits before I try and stay to long and end up getting hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_iy5sn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Non-supportive assholes -- how do you deal?", "post": "Ever since I made the decision to lose weight and get in shape, my brother and others in my family have been talking so much shit about me. Today I felt awful, and indulged in a bit of keto-friendly onion dip and chips, and the whole time my brother kept coughing and saying \"diet\" over and over. By the time I spooned the dip into a bowl, I was in tears. I give up. I'm not sure I can do this.\n\nI feel so fat and ugly, and his comments aren't helping. Before you go on that \"stand up for yourself\" tirade, know that I've talked to him many times about it and his reaction is \"toughen up\" and \"I'm an asshole, I can't help that, YOU'RE the problem.\"", "summary": "My brother is a non-supportive ass who talks down to me -- how do I cope?"}
{"id": "t3_12m1du", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26[f] who has never had children or married, dating 30 year old man who has divorced and 2 children. Part 2.", "post": "[Backstory]:( He has been divorced and has two children. I've never experienced any of those. I also realize that it takes a lot to be part of a broken family.\n\nI don't feel that my emotional needs are being met. I feel like I'm always listening to his problems, but he never hears mine. He also likes to go to strip clubs, a lot, and has all of these women who just randomly give him their numbers, etc. I'm concerned about one friend in particular of his. He says she's just a friend, but he's admitted to me before that she has a crush and she has also text me from his phone pretending to be him before. He never did anything about it and got mad at me for \"over reacting about it\". \n\nRecently things have changed though. He's been calling every day and showing a lot of improvement. I want to fall for him, but I keep having that nagging feeling in the back of my head. I did tell him that we would give this \"relationship\" one last try and then just let it all go if it didn't work. Since then there hasn't been a lot of fighting and there hasn't been any issues with his \"female friends\".\n\nI want to say I care about him, but I don't think he feels the same way towards me. He has made improvement, but it still just feels strange. I'm not sure where to go from here.", "summary": "I want to give into him, but I keep having a bad feeling in the back of my head. He acts like he has changed, but it doesn't feel like love to me or anything else."}
{"id": "t3_23rccq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Obese Newcomer.", "post": "Hi, I've had my eyes opened, I wasn't really about weight loss.. I was happy being obese... then I saw this on Reddit  And that had so much inspiration to me, I've been gaming since I was 3 years old.. I'm now 23.. and my love for food has grown with my love for gaming.. but since reading that polygon article and finding myself inspired, I've trawled through posts, read everything, read the FAQ, signed up to sites and figured out all my readings and now I'm ready to start losing weight. I'm already inspired by your guys and I hope, in the future to become an inspiration.", "summary": "Obese Gamer inspired by Gaming-esque weight loss and hopes to be as inspiring as r/loseit"}
{"id": "t3_25yell", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] boss [~80 M] is going senile and I'm concerned about my future with the company.", "post": "I work for a small startup (4 employees) handling the web development and database work.  I've worked here for about 2 years, and am quite invested since I've done a lot of work to get this company off the ground.  Lately I've noticed that my boss is starting to go senile.  Forgetting things, giving out login credentials that are supposed to be secure, and making questionable decisions that we'd discussed before.\n\nI'm concerned that he could end up killing the company.  His partner seems fairly oblivious to the issues, and I wouldn't know how to breach this issue anyway.  I'd like my work to pay off, but this is a huge issue that I don't know how to deal with.  Is there a best course of action in this situation?", "summary": "Boss is going senile, concerned about future of company."}
{"id": "t3_237df3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/f] Boyfriend [28/m] has skeletons and baggage from childhood, he's acting out. Break-up or help him?", "post": "In short, i'm at a cross-roads. Bf of 2 years has a lot of personal stuff he needs to address. It's not stuff that will be fixed in one session of therapy. It's a lot of stuff. Until recently things have been fine. \n\nNow I'm finding that these issues are affecting how he acts in his relationship with me and others. Certain things that he has done recently have led to complete distrust, simply because he withholds information until I stumble upon it and bring \"it\" up. I literally have to make a case before he confesses to \"it.\"\n\nI dont know what to do. I don't necessarily think that mental health is a reason to break up IF THE PERSON IS WILLING TO PUT IN WORK. I do think a lack of trust is a reason to break up. BUT, when the actions that led to the lack of trust are bc of the mental state of the person I'm lost.\n\nWHAT DO I DO????", "summary": "BF of 2 years is in a bad place mentally & is acting out in ways that lead to distrust. Break up or give it another chance even though trust has been broken?"}
{"id": "t3_4d7xfm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF (34m) had an online dating profile I (30f) didn't know about that was created after we started being exclusive. What do I do?! Help!!!", "post": "I (30f)found out my boyfriend (34m) of 4 months opened an online dating profile about two months after we because exclusive.  I was devastated and am freaking out.  He just told me he loves me a week ago and I feel the same.  We get along amazingly.  He is the first man in years I have felt a true honest connection with.  We made conscious mutual decision to be together exclusively and detailed all online accounts etc.  He suggested em make it fb official etc.  He is never super protective Iver his phone.  \nHe is under a lot of stress with work and an ill parent.  Thins moved pretty quick with us.  He has met all my family etc.  Hr is divorced and has been cheated on but (says)  he has never chested.  \n\nI confronted him and he said he dosent use the account.  He has never really engaged in it but just browsed.  He knew it was wrong and stored but never deleted it.  He also said that he was watching porn and then wants to browse POF because that is what he had done previously.  He told me I'm very caring and amazing and done nothing wrong. He wants to be with me and loves me.  He wants this to work.  He is deeply sorry and didn't want to hurt me.  There also had been a lack of sex in the relationship which he states is due to stress\n\nI'm town.  Ita still a new fresh relationship and I've been told when someone shows you are the first time to believe them. But then again he has been through alot and crests it a couple months ago.  I don't knoe how to feel or what to do or how to handle it.  Please help!!!", "summary": "My (30f) BF (34m) had a secret online dating account. He days it was on a whim and he never used it.  I don't know what to believe or what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ml54e", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Issues making a move", "post": "Hey everyone on /r/askwomenadvice, I am a 21 year old man with some problems asking girls out.\n\nI don't know if this is weird, but I only begin to feel attracted to a girl after I've known her for a few months. Like, I recognize if they are good looking but it doesn't really make a difference to me. I only begin to feel attracted to them after I know them for a few months and become close friends with them.\n\nThis has been pretty problematic for me dating-wise, because it's pretty awkward to ask one of your closest friends out. I usually end up psyching myself out. \n\nNormally, everyone says that the worst thing that can happen is that she'll say no, which is normally true, but I'm worried that I might stupidly ruin some of the friendships that are most important to me. \n\nI'm wondering what your opinion is on this and how you would feel if one of your closest friends asked you out.\n\nImportant note:\nI'm not one of those creepy neckbeards that complains about the friend zone 24 hours a day. I legitimately have no interest in the girls when I meet them and then one day a few months later, I do. I just feel that it's weird to make a move on them at that point.", "summary": "I'm only attracted to my close friends and when I think of asking them out I give myself the yips."}
{"id": "t3_m2dmp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have begun treatment for adult ADD. I feel I have climbed out of Plato's cave. Now that my brain functions at its full capacity, I hunger for knowledge. Help me nourish my ambitions!", "post": "A little background information:\nMy condition was overlooked until now (19) due to a combination of what I assume was my intelligence compensating for the deficit and an aversion to the idea of ADD/ADHD by a great part of my family.\n\nI first became interested in ADD while talking to a friend about her condition and, upon further research, diagnosed myself; however, that is another story.\n\nThis thread isn't about ADD and I don't want ADD to be discussed on it.  My question stems from a new found ambitious drive and the fact that, while medicated, I am able to better access and apply my mind.  A lot of my current inspiration comes from the idea of a renaissance man, Edmond Dantes, and The Most Interesting Man in the World.\n\nAll being said, I humbly ask my fellow Redditors to answer a few questions:\n(feel free to answer as many or as few as you please)\n\nWhat do you wish you would have done  (to invest in yourself) when you were 18-22?\n\nName your top 3 books/philosophers/inspirational materials of all time.\n\nConvince me why I should learn a specific language as opposed to any other.\n\nLadies of Reddit, what sort of learned habits/characteristics/hobbies/skills do  you find attractive in a Man?\n\nWhat is a skill/subject I should dedicate some time to grow/learn about that will benefit me down the road?\n\nWhat ideas/motifs should I attempt to avoid throughout my human experience?\n\nAny other piece of information you would like to give me.", "summary": "I recently began treatment for my ADD.  Now that the error in my brain chemistry has been corrected, I am far more ambitious. (and have a better grip on my intelligence)"}
{"id": "t3_2gq85b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22f) and boyfriend (21m) of 7 years moving in together for the first time across country", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years this November. We've been together since we were 14 and 15 and have never broken up. I would have liked to live together already at this point, but his parents have a rule that we cannot get engaged, married, or live together while he's in college. \n\nHe's just about to start his senior year of college and he's already got job interviews lined up for the west coast. He would like to work on the East or West coast while I'm hoping for West. We currently live in the Midwest (USA) but in separate houses. We're both concerned that because we've never lived together a move across the country to live together might break our relationship. I suggested that we do couples counseling. I have been in therapy personally for my own issues for about a year and have found it very helpful. We've had big fights in the past where I've brought up couples counseling, but he doesn't want to go because he feels uncomfortable with it and thinks we can fix our problems ourselves. \n\nI think it would be beneficial to do preventative couples counseling for this school year before we make the big move. He seems slightly more open to it than he has before because he's concerned as well and feels unprepared for the future. We have been through so much together and we're on the same page about big things like religion and children. We have a very solid foundation and there is so much love between us. We just want to be as prepared as possible so that our relationship flourishes when we move in together for the first time. \n\nMy question is has anybody gone through something similar and what would you recommend for us to be successful? Do you think couples counseling is a good idea for us? Please share your experiences and any advice you have! Thank you very much.", "summary": "Couple of 7 years moving in together for the first time across the country, curious if anyone has had a similar experience and can share advice. Is pre-move couples counseling a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_12md1j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] I am that controlling boyfriend.", "post": "Actually, I was that controlling boyfriend. I noticed it, but thought that it was just a little phase I was going through because of stress at work, past relationship experience, blah blah blah; but really, it doesn't seem like that was it at all.\n\nIt was pretty bad. I'd make mountains out of molehills, volcanoes out of mountains, and could find any reason in my head to think that she was deceiving me. Part of my personality is very analytic and I have a good memory, which didn't help at all. She would tell me about her day or a story from her past, and if something didn't add up I would prod and say things like, \"yeah, but you also said...\" or \"but wait, didn't you do...\"\n\nIt was bad, all bad.\n\nThe worst part is that in my head, I was sure that I was really in love with her and wanted her to have freedom. But in the back of my head, I was worried that deception is everywhere and its never that easy. I would get so sure of myself, becoming condescending while I told her what she was *really* thinking or did. Then, she'd finally get the straight story through to me and I'd start bawling and apologizing. I swore up and down that it wouldn't happen again, but it always would. \n\nWell, the day after I called about enrolling in therapy, she dumped me. I deserved it 100% and I'm not here to ask how to get her back, because, frankly, it will never happen. But, I'm wondering what experience and insight I can find here to help me overcome this problem. I would like a healthy relationship in the future, but I am completely incapable of having one, as I am now.", "summary": "I'm a controlling person, going to therapy soon, but wonder what /r/relationship_advice can say to help me overcome this flaw."}
{"id": "t3_1dvbic", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Pet lovers, how do you keep your home clean?", "post": "Everyone has their favorite tricks/tips to keeping a clean house, so I'm curious...and in the market for a new vacuum and/or steam mop. \n\nWe have three adult cats and one Italian Greyhound puppy and live in a mostly hard-wood apartment [two carpeted rooms and two large area rugs]. The cats are short hair but shed like crazy [black, white and grey!] and IGs don't really shed at all, but track in a decent amount of dirt from the yard. Getting sick of sweeping, swiffering and then pushing around dirt with a mop. It'd be nice to have a vacuum that picks up dirt and hair effectively on hardwood and carpet and I'm strongly considering investing in a steam mop.\n\nSo what do you do? What do you recommend?", "summary": "What are your favorite vacuums/mops/methods to keep a clean house for you and your pets."}
{"id": "t3_2vmw9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I end a friendship even though they haven't done anything wrong?", "post": "I am in a situation that I have dreaded, and since I can't sleep, I figured I would reach out.\n\nI(24F) was friends with a group of guys in college my first two years- it was maybe the social circle I hung out with third most? They all lived in my same dorm community and I was pretty close to one of the guys because of our shared interest in video games. The rest of them I just enjoyed the company of and because they were in close proximity, we naturally would grab meals and hang out in the dorm. I don't think we ever went to any parties or any non campus based activity. I have since lost touch with most of them.\n\nOne of them attempted to get in touch a few months ago since we now live in the same city. It seemed like he had just gotten out of a relationship. I told him we could hang out when I wasn't busy with work. He reached out to me again a few weeks ago and I ignored him. I know I probably should have addressed this then. Now he has messaged me saying that he wants to know why the animosity between us and why I'm ignoring him.\n\nHe hasn't done anything wrong, I just don't have the desire or social capacity to continue a friendship. I often move from one social circle to the next and will maybe find one person I genuinely want to be life long friends with. I find myself stretched thin just keeping up with that handful of friends. I find most of my time spent with them, my SO and my two sisters, and they make me very happy. Some past friends have figured this out about me, and with others it is a gradual growing apart. I don't know how to handle someone trying to come back into my life uninvited. I also can admit that my concern the first time that he wanted to explore a possible romance opportunity and I was having none of that.\n\nI don't think it makes me a bad person to not continue being friends with this person, but I don't know how to end the friendship without being an asshole. r/relationships, have you ever been in a similar situation? How do I respond to this person?", "summary": "I don't want to continue being friends with someone who wants to be friends with me because I just don't feel a closeness or desire to. Wut do?"}
{"id": "t3_44pykw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [21/F] with my hookup [24/M] recently few months, Advice Hookup: Go after it or stay put?", "post": "I've been friends with this guy that goes to college on the same campus as me for over a year. We would always catch up and hang out between classes, and even have some homework nights that would involve wine and getting our work done. I had always had a crush on him but he is so hard to read that I thought I was completely friend zoned.\n\nIt wasn't until one night I came back from the bars early and wanted to keep drinking that I asked if he was down to hang out and drink. I went over and we drank, talked and ended up watching episode after episode of a TV show. No moves were made this entire time. Then as it reached the early hours of the morning I fell asleep during one of the episodes and he woke me up to basically making out with me and hooking up.\n\nAfter this I didn't know what to do so I just sort of waited for him to say anything and I think we were both in shock so I just got dressed and we swapped a few words and I dipped out. Just recently we hooked up again after he came to a kickback I threw and we went back to his apartment with friends to play some drinking games and then I went back to my place only to get an invite to come back down. After this hookup he's the one that left me and told me was only leaving bc he had to be up in 3 hours. But we never kiss or anything after its just put on clothes and awkwardly showing each other out the door.\n\nHis friends have been pushing me to go after him and saying that he's lazy in the fact that he can want something but never really goes out of his way to get things. He also has told his friends in front of me that you cant just be friends with girls and also be attracted to them and plan to hookup because it doesn't work that way. So should I try to go after it or just keep it how it is now? My friends tell me I'm the Ice Queen and I don't show enough interest.", "summary": "Friends with a guy for over a year, just recently hooked up twice. Can't read him, confused by the signs."}
{"id": "t3_2c4fax", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I offended a girl by flirting with her and not telling her I had a girlfriend. I get that it was wrong, and have apologized, but she is acting like I am a predator. Can someone give me feedback?", "post": "When I had a girlfriend I hung out and texted with this girl I know through being sober. Sometimes it was late at night and never with anyone else around. There was some banter and tension. I never made a pass and we talked about guys she was hooking up with. I did, however, know that I was not telling her about having a gf so the banter could continue and I could feel the tension in a safe way It was selfish and unfair and I've told her so and said I am sorry. Her response was \"I feel sick. I feel extremely disrespected and unsafe around you.\" Now I know she is entitled to her own feelings, and that they aren't really my business, but I am trying to get a sense of how shitty I was because I am genuinely confused by the power of her response. Anyone shed some light on this for me?", "summary": "I hid having a GF from a girl so I could flirt with her, am I a scumbag?"}
{"id": "t3_4bfc2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my friend [27F], she hasn't made an effort to hang out with me for about two months despite being friends for about 17 years. What should I do?", "post": "I should preface this by saying that she lives about 5 minutes away from me, we've known each other for 17 years, but I don't know if she is choosing to drift away or is just naturally busy.\n\nShe hasn't made the effort to hang out with me for two months and had been declining hanging out with me to the point where we would only hang out on weeknight rather than the weekend.\n\nShe has a mom that has quite a few mental-health related 'issues' but I think the majority of her time has basically been spent with her boyfriend.\n\nI feel like she's ditching me which is fine, but I don't know what I should say if she tries to reach out.  She has also stopped texting me and only sent me one text in the course of a month and a half...Should I end the friendship if she reaches out again?", "summary": "Me [25F] with my friend [27F], she hasn't made an effort to hang out with me for about two months despite being friends for about 17 years.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2lb000", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of four months. Im inferior and can't get over it. Help me before I destroy what I have here.", "post": "So I've met the girl of my dreams and blah blah blah. We are compatible to the point of disbelief. I'll save you the details but on a personal, emotional, and sexual level we are on the same page 9 times out of ten. Our senses of humor and worldviews are in sync and so everything is just incredible. On a person to person level it's perfect.\n\n The problem is I got way more than I bargained for. She comes from a sophisticated, intellectual, and incredibly gifted family. She is one of those people that you hate just because they're so damn good at everything they do. Music (Instruments and singing), Sports, Art, Academics, and everything in between the lines. Her parents taught her french and Spanish and she speaks them fluently. She is so passionate and talented that I can't help to feel anythig but inferior in comparison. I'm rather intelligent myself, I can hold my own on a wrestling mat, and I have my own interests too but mother of god this girl does everything. Can somebody please explain to me how to get over the fact that she's just better than me? I feel like she deserves some Division 1 athlete/scholar/rockstar that has the same innate ability to be amazing at everything she does. I know it's mostly a personal problem but input would be nice. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend is basically a talented, beautiful, brilliant version of myself. How do I handle this damn it?"}
{"id": "t3_263ffl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So much feels...", "post": "My uncle, 49, has stage 4 melanoma that had spread to his brain and brainstem. They gave him 2-3 months and that was in December. Today we all said goodbye and hung around his bedside he was struggling to breathe. As far as I know he's still kicking, but should be passing any moment now. \nI lost my mother last year out of fucking nowhere. She just dropped dead at 50. \nSome of family members are concerned that I'm projecting my grief of my mothers sudden passing onto my uncle, and I shouldn't really be this shaken up about it. \nI'm offended but at the same time, it makes sense. Death has a way of confusing emotions and I'm very jumbled as of now. I guess I just needed to rant as it's hard to express my emotions into words. Thank you for reading!", "summary": "my uncle is dying and I'm being an emotional blubbering idiot."}
{"id": "t3_1g2z36", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Want to tell me the story of your life?", "post": "Hey!\nFirst off, sorry for my bad english, it's not my native language.\n\nI don't know if there is any kind of specific reddit for this, so please tell me if there is a better place to post.\n\nI'm in college studing arts in Barcelona, and i'm doing an antropology work where i have to search someone to tell me the story of his life. I thought that doing this in the street could be quite troublesome, since people might not want to tell face to face some parts of their life, so i thought that reddit could help me, becouse of the anonymity of internet.\n\nI'm not searching for an incredible and full of awesomeness fake story, i just want some real human, kinda detailed (around 2 - 3 pages), story. I know u might be just lazy, so don't even care about ortography or structure of the text; I'll have to translate it into spanish or catalan. I just want to ask for sincerity.\n\nNeedless to say, you will be appearing as anonymous.", "summary": "So yeah, if you want to help me just PM me with the story of your life, or post a comment below!"}
{"id": "t3_1mrtg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18F] with my partner [18M] together 1 year, thinking of moving in together", "post": "We've been considering moving in together. We've really been growing in to our relationship, and despise our age have matured into it. I've had a lot of struggles through the year - including my father's death. He has not left me, or avoided me, but he supported me through it all.\n\nWe're both studying a bachelor at university (first year) - he has a decent paying job (about $400 a week), and I've been getting temporary jobs here and there (Currently working 2, and earning $500 week). If we register our relationship officially and move in together, we will both be eligible for about $400-500 of government assistance each. \n\nWe are both ready for the challenge, and one way or another I am moving out of home. We won't be moving out until December-January, earliest. I will hopefully have a more permanent job, consistent.\n\nI'm seeing a lot of positives to moving in together, it may help develop our relationship further and build a life. We're certainly not ready for kids or marriage or anything. Just moving in together, into a small house/flat for rent (which is pretty cheap in our town, I've looked into it).\n\nSo, money aside - I'm really focused on the good points, and I'm hoping I'm not overlooking a crucial point. Is there some dead obvious reason not to move in together? Or any good advice on handle the situation, assuming it does go through? Or good advice for figuring it out.\n\nI want to move in with him. I want to cook with with him, and fall asleep beside him every night. I want to drag myself home after work, and have a cup of tea with him. I want to have those moments where one of us get grumpy because our assignment is due and it's not finished until 11.34pm... and the other stays up late enough to read it through that one last time before it's submitted. I want us to sort out our problems, make decisions together, and know we're in this for each other.", "summary": "thinking of moving in together, not sure if I'm missing something crucial in my decision. Would like advice or tips."}
{"id": "t3_27u2a0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16M] [Long distance] [2 weeks(sort of)]She doesn't mean it does she?", "post": "So first a bit of background, about a month and a half ago I met this girl from minnesota, we'll call her K. We talked a bit and we became fast friends. \nWhen we first met we were both in our seperate relationships, until about two weeks ago when we both broke up with our respective boyfriend/girlfriend within days of eachother. \n\nNow even before this happened we would exchange cheesy hearts and kissed and say stuff like \"I love you bb\" We purposefully said these things as cheesily as possible to show we were just fucking around and we didn't really mean it, it was just fun to do. \n\nAfter our breakups though she started to make these things sound a little more serious, we would say we loved each other when we went to bed every night before we went to bed, a few days ago she even said the exact words \"I love you\" (which is the first time she's said it like that) at complete random, and we've said it to each other a bunch of times since. \n\nDoes she actually mean it? I know I'm probably looking into this too deep, it's just I don't know what the fuck is going on, any advice would be really appreciated, thanks.", "summary": "girl I like may be hinting that she likes or even loves me shortly after we break up with our respective partners"}
{"id": "t3_12m7ap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, What silly/irrelevant/rediculous family miscommunications have lead to feuds lasting years?", "post": "My Grandma and my aunt (her daugher-in-aw) haven't spoken to each other in years over a phone that didn't get hung up.  My aunt and uncle screen their calls and frequently do not return them-- one time, my grandma called and left a message then thought she hung up the phone.  A few minutes later-- my Grandma was talking with someone in her home and used the word \"bitch\"-- this was all recorded on my aunt and uncle's answering machine and my aunt assumed it was about her and hasn't spoken to nor seen my Grandma in upwards of 5 years.  My Grandma wants to reconcile and clear the air, but my aunt won't go near her, won't let her husband (G-ma's son) and kids go there, and avoids family events.  My Grandma is almost 85-- and I think this is rediculous.  Why waste time the time you have with somone?  Why continue to hold a silly grudge?  To complicate matters further, my grandma has a daughter who lives with her and likes to be in other peoples business-- I think she is also part of the problem here as she won't drop it either.  Grandma is innocent but has a daughter and daughter-in-law who won't grow up and drop it.", "summary": "Grandma and aunt had silly miscommunication and haven't spoken in years-- What silly things have driven a wedge in your family?"}
{"id": "t3_ve0pu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My family is in a crap load of debt and we need some tips on how to get out of it...", "post": "I'm 16 and my parents don't really know english so that's why i'm here and not my parents.(we live in the US) ok, my mom can't find a job and if she does it will probably be working in a minimum wage job since she doesn't know english, for right now, she is voulenteering at a local thrift shop because she can't stand not working.. I'm soon to be a lifeguard working at 8.50 an hour and i think it will be 40 hours a week.. My dad owns a semi-truck that we're still paying off; we still have 10,000 dollars left of it. It recently had a part broken which the company he works at payed for (15,000 dollars) so right now, every check he is getting (which is basically somewhere around 2000 every 10 days or so) is not getting to us but going to his company because they say \"To get your check, first we have to deduct the repairs we payed for you\" (we didn't have the money to pay it off so they payed for us, and now we are paying them back...) we have 3 credit cards and a monthly rent of 1,300 dollars that we have no idea how to pay for right now, we tried getting other loans but they deny us because my brother screwed it up thinking he could just run away from home with his girlfriend and getting a 5000 dollar credit card to supply him with enough money, on my mom's name and took some more credit cards on my dad's name. Luckily, we payed them off and our credit is getting better.(we had excellent before that happened)", "summary": "my family needs so help with our debt crisis with terrible credit and more than 30,000 dollars in debt"}
{"id": "t3_c6tou", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help me name a student-funded scholarship", "post": "Hi reddit.  I am writing a proposal for a student-funded fellowship program for mba students at UC Davis.  Here's the deal:\nEach summer, MBA students do internships.  Students interested in finance go off and work for investment banks, students interested in marketing go for advertising or market research positions with retailers or biotech/pharmaceutical companies, and students interested in energy business go for spots with utilities.   As you may guess, those internships can pay quite well.  At the same time, there are a few students who are pursue nonprofit, government, or other organizations driven by a social or environmental mission.  Those internships often don't pay at all.\n\nSo, what many schools do, is implement a student-funded fellowship program where each student that has a paid internship pledges one (or more) days salary to support the costs of those who take unpaid ones.  The idea is that the few students who commit to supporting the social and environmental bottom lines are supported by the many who are earning well on the economic bottom lines.  Kind of balancing out the 3-legged stool.\n\nOK so this is where you all come in.  I have the proposal all written but I need a name for the fellowship.  Most everything I have come up with is a mouthful or otherwise off-target.  Here are some examples:\nNonprofit Fellowship Fund (name of the narrower program I am proposing to replace),\n\nSocial and Environmental Enterprise Fellowship,\n\nTriple Bottom Line Fund,\n\nSocially Responsible Internship Fund.\n\nSee, none of these are particularly inspired. Help me.", "summary": "help me name a fellowship that will let mba students with paid internships cover costs of students who take unpaid internships but who contribute to making the world better."}
{"id": "t3_3u5dz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how I (24/m) feel about girl (22/f) that I've been dating for a month", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for a month and on paper we are perfect for each other. On the outside, we have a lot in common in that we like the same kind of music, same food, same movies etc, but also on the inside we are the same in that, we are both quite independent, we both are ambitious, both have the same cultural values, but most importantly we approach life the same. I have met a lot of people in my life (due to my job and how my social life is) and I genuinely have very rarely met anyone who has the same approach to life as me but who I also want to pursue a relationship with.\n\nHowever I have stumbled across a problem... Normally when I like a girl, I normally fall quite fast, quite hard for them. However, with this girl, only half the time do I feel infatuated for her, while the other half I'm not very bothered. E.g. Normally when a girl doesn't text me back for a couple of hours, I get quite concerned, but with her, I don't really pay attention. I'm quite confused as to why I'm not feeling fully infatuated with her - Is it because I either:\n\na) Am not really that interested in her. \n\nb) Realise that this relationship is doomed because she is moving back to her home country at the end of next year. \n\nc) Am still numb from the pain that my ex-girlfriend inflicted on me when she cheated on me a year ago.\n\nd) Am growing up/have a job and therefore the feeling of infatuation has reduced, but I'm also too busy with work to care.\n\ne) All of the above", "summary": "Why am I not as infatuated with this girl who is on paper, perfect for me, as I normally am with other girls before?"}
{"id": "t3_2dls2g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wearing a helmet on a bike", "post": "I didn't hurt my head but I got injured in another way. So I rode a bike today, something I rarely do. I grabbed a helmet and put it on the handlebars of the bike. After riding for maybe a quarter mile the strap of the helmet which was hanging down near the wheel got caught in the front wheel. The bike immediately stopped moving and I flew over the handlebars. I landed (hard) on my knees, left arm, and hip. I have no idea how I didn't hit my head, but if I did this may have been a much more serious ordeal.", "summary": "Wear your helmet so the helmet strap doesn't get caught in your front wheeling, throwing you onto the pavement and gravel with no warning."}
{"id": "t3_32gert", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my friend [21F] 1 month, how do I back off a bit?", "post": "So here it goes, I asked this girl out in my uni class, she said she had a bf. Since then we talk, more and more every day, and she confessed she hates her relationship now, and will break it off in a couple of days. She does want to take some time off the dating scene, but wants to keep talking to me. We text, and skype, for the biggest part of the day, she takes her laptop to bed so she can skype me before falling asleep, she sends me messages non stop. She also informed me she's the kind of person that gets bored with stuff easily, like games, photography, pc games, and she added she doesnt want to do the same with me.\n\nSo my question is this: Even though we don't want to stop talking, we might need to cool it down a it so we dont get bored of each other cos we are still in the early stages. How do we go about it? \n\nThanks reddit!", "summary": "Need advice on how to back off a bit so we dont get bored of each other too early"}
{"id": "t3_megdu", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "1.5 year old Goldendoodle training help.", "post": "Hello everyone. My wife is having our first son in less than a month. I'm worried that my dog is not trained well enough to interact with a newborn and that she (dog) is going to wake up the baby all the time and possibly hurt the baby by getting too excited. My dog is awesome and she knows a few commands but only follows them when I either have treats or there is nothing going on. \n\nThere are a few issues I want to work on.\n\n - Mouthing - She is 1.5 yr old but still mouths and chews on peoples hands whenever she is saying hi or playing.\n - Excitability- Whenever the doorbell rings, a squirrel falls out of a tree, or someone walks down the road she goes absolutely insane and barks and runs around the house. \n - Escapes - She sometimes escapes out the front door and chases cats/deer around the town.\n - Jumping - anytime she greets anyone, even if its me or my wife, she runs and jumps up. She's a big dog and she could hurt my son when he comes. \n\nOn a side note, I think she thinks she's a cat. She sleeps on the top of our sofa and last night I told her to go to her bed - she decided to try hiding under my bed instead, when i tried to get her out she bared her teeth and hissed. It was very weird.", "summary": "My dog has some issues. How can i train her in an effective way to behave?"}
{"id": "t3_31sfdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 2.5 years, are taking a break, is this logical?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend of almost 3 years decided to take a break (her idea) for a few months to see if we are really meant for each other. \n\nHer reasoning for this was that she is going to turn 20 soon and hasn't experienced her late teenage years as a teenager should, and that is be reckless. She wants a break so that she wouldn't feel guilty for going out with her friends and partying. \n\nI reluctantly agreed because quite honestly, I love this woman. She is everything I could ever ask for and more in a S/O. I was heart broken when this happened, and I still am. \n\nWe decided not to talk for a few weeks just so we could deal with our own issues. Recently she messaged me, telling me that the break is still on, but that she has hope for us.  She believes that at the end of the break we will be able to rekindle our relationship and be stronger and more in love than we have ever been. In the back of my mind, I hope she is right, because I miss her more and more every single day.\n\n What I want to ask is: Am I foolish for having hope of a successful relationship in the future? Is she just playing with my emotions? What are your opinions on this scenario?", "summary": "Girlfriend wanted a break; I agreed. Am I foolish for hoping it will work out in the end?"}
{"id": "t3_41f2vn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[F21] showed my boyfriend [M21] some vacation photos I had taken with my black boyfriend few years back. He got mad and is ice cold towards me right now.", "post": "I was showing my boyfriend photos from Greece when I was there a few years ago. he is a big history buff so we cuddled in bed and looked through the photos. I was there with my black boyfriend so he was of course in a lot of those photos. my new boyfriend asked who he was and when I said it was my ex-boyfriend he replied with a pained \"oh ok\" so we stopped looking at photos and watched some netflix instead.\n\nhe got really quiet and didnt want to cuddle anymore, he just sat and read a book. after a few hours i just had to ask\nhim what was up with his reaction to the photos with my boyfriend?\n\nHe said something like \"why would you even date me? if you like black guys so much why don't you date black guys? what's the point of being with me? im not your type\" \n\nI didn't even know I had a type. I just thought he was cute and nice so we dated. He didn't like my answer, got upset, we fought and he left.\n\nI don't really understand his reaction, it was actually very shocking. He has never come off as racist in the year I have known him, more like the opposite. He is a really sweet and fun guy and this was very out of character for him.\nthat was a week ago now and he didnt text me once. nothing. at first i expected an apology but got nothing so i started texting him and he is really distant and cold in his responses. i ask him what I did wrong and he doesnt answer me and avoids the subject. \n\ni ask him if he wants to break up and he said no and then stopped responding. what the hell is up with him?", "summary": "i showed vacation photos to my current boyfriend. my black ex-bf was in some of the pictures. we fought and he left. he is really distant right now and it hurts."}
{"id": "t3_4vtsag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I feel?", "post": "So I've [M29] been seeing this girl [F28] for a while now, maybe a month. We aren't serious, but I could definitely see it getting there. Today I decided I would Google her, this is where I fucked up. I found 1 video of her, about 25-30 seconds long, of her topless. There's no audio to the video.\n\nI sort of get the vibe that she new it was being filmed, but didn't know it was going online. I'm pretty confused now. Do I bring it up? If so, how do I do it? I'm not mad, this was before I knew her, so how could I justify being mad? Should I just ignore it? I know I've done plenty of stuff I'm not proud of. Please Reddit, what would you do?", "summary": "found a naked video of my lady friend, not sure how to react"}
{"id": "t3_3vlaq1", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Stuck in between", "post": "So I'm currently a Junior in college about to go into my second semester and I'm starting to realize... I'm not interested in my major. I started out my schooling taking a wide range of classes and none of them really stuck. I liked psychology in high school because it always felt so applicable to my life, but now that I'm getting into the specifics it seems like something I don't want a career in. The few courses I've really liked in college have been: Watercolor studio, African art studies (because the professor was awesome), computer science (because it was rewarding, although I was really bad at it), and graphic design. I always find myself in class doodling or working on some other sort of project of mine. I just feel like all the classes I'm taking are just to get a degree. I never feel that inclined to learn more about the material in the classes.\n\nI'm stuck between these two paths of thought:\n1. The degree I get should be one that can eventually get me a high paying job, even if I don't really like what I'm learning about\n2. The degree I get should have me taking classes I enjoy so that I will be motivated to work\n\nI love making things; artwork, videos, working on creative projects. I just feel like I cannot make money from these activities and I will eventually reach a point when my creative pursuits lead to a dead end. \n\nI would just like some advice on what to do. I feel stuck and lost. Where do I put in energy? How should I continue on? I'd love to hear from people who have experienced something similar as well.", "summary": "Doubting what I'm doing in college and I feel like I need to change something"}
{"id": "t3_2th4y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] seeing [Late 30's M], is it weird?", "post": "So basically I've been hanging out with this guy who is in his late 30's. Almost a 20 year age difference. He looks great and seems like an okay guy but I feel like if I was in his situation I wouldn't even look at someone as young as me. It makes me think that he's strange to want to even talk with someone who is in a completely different stage of their life and are naive about a lot of aspects of life that he's experienced. He's come on pretty strong and I can make this into something if I want to. So what do y'all think, does he have issues? Using me for sex? Or can someone who is older and has dated with that much of an age gap explain why he would date that much younger", "summary": "I would feel weird if the situation was reversed. He seems like a great guy and I don't want to mess it up by freaking out about this. Do May-December relationships really ever work?"}
{"id": "t3_1zadvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my college friend [19 F] about 1 month, I wanna hang out with her but I don't have a car.", "post": "This is the link for an earlier thread I posted about her \n\nShe basically doesn't have any friends and will spend all her spring break at home playing video games. I wanna hang out with her, but both of us don't have a car. I live with my grandma 10 minutes away from her house. Would it be weird to ask her to spend a day with us playing video games and eating pizza?\n\n Another thing I could do is ask her to go see a movie with me, but I would just meet her there since I'll be going with a bike. Do you guys think it's okay to do that? I also have 0 experience with girls. You can say this is the first girl in my life.", "summary": "I wanna hang out with this girl in Spring Break, but neither of us have a car, but I have a bike and we live close to each other. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2loygv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I ask this girl out, PLEASE HELP!", "post": "I've loved a girl for 3 years now, and in the past two years we've become very close, I'm 15 and she's a few months older but also 15. We've been to the movies on our own 2 times, and been out to eat casually lots of times. I walk her to the bus stop almost every day and we usually call each other to speak on most nights. lately we organised a movie night at my place and have more on the way, it went really well and we were both laughing and having fun on our own. We are interested in almost everything that the other likes, its actually pretty creepy.\n\nHowever, she has only just started to call me bro and is talking over skype a lot less. I need to know how she feels because I hardly ever stop thinking about her, It's not obsessive but it's just curiosity. She's introduced me to her friends and mine to her and I think it's going very well. I asked my mother first, and she said to not ask her until the exams are over, but i need to know sooner how she feels or her opinions could change.\n\nShe has asked me to come to Thailand during DofE with her and her friend, for two weeks. I want to hold her hand and show affection but don't want to pressure her or make her uncomfortable. What do i do, I honestly love her?!?", "summary": "Just need your opinions, even if I should wait even longer?."}
{"id": "t3_120laj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] forgot my SO's mother's birthday, is it too late to fix?", "post": "Hopefully this is the right sub, I figured you all would have a better answer than AskReddit. Earlier this month I forgot to wish my 3-year boyfriend's mother a happy birthday. I have never forgotten to send her a card or gift, but this year my classes have been so busy I barely have time for laundry, let alone making a card. I wouldn't have even noticed that I forgot except she mentioned something to my bf 3 weeks later. She is *not* a petty woman at all (in fact, the absolute oposite- so sweet!), so I know my oversight genuinely upset her enough to remember it. \n\nWhat I am asking is- is it too late to send her something?? He told her that I sent a card and it was lost in the mail (thanks for saving my butt, honey!), but now I feel like actually sending something would be awkward. I know this is a minor dilemma, but I could use some outside input! :)", "summary": "Missed my almost mother-in-law's birthday, is it too late to make it up to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3mi668", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Fast way to regain stamina after a run?", "post": "Hey /r/running, \n\nLast week my teacher told me the school was organizing a run. Everybody has to take part in a 20 minute run, which is part of an 8-hour relay with everyone from the school. Or if you would like to you can form a group of 6 people and run the full 8 hours with them. \n\nKind of jokingly I asked a friend of mine if he would like to do the full 8-hour run, he said yes, then someone else said she wanted to join our group, and now we're going to do it... We've decided it would be best to run in segments of 10 minutes so everyone will run eight times for ten minutes. \n\nHere's the thing though, my condition is not that good, at all. Last Thursday I ran 1,8km in 13 minutes and 28 seconds (8,03km/h) and today I ran 2,33km in 14:23 (9,72km/h). There are two things I would like to ask: \n\n-What would be a good strategy to improve my stamina so I'll be able to run for a longer time? \n\n-After I'm done with the first 10 minutes of running, how will I be able to regain stamina as quickly as possible (~50 minutes) to run the next 10 minutes, and then again.\n\nI'm 16y/o, the run will be in two weeks, do you think it's possible? I just keep telling myself to just do it :)", "summary": "I need to be able to run 8*10 minutes with 50 minute pauzes in between, how do I train for this?"}
{"id": "t3_1ogwx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [21 F] of a little over 2 years. Have been \"broken-up\" for months but continued to see each other casually. She is finally moving on and seeing someone else. I'm sad. Parents and family adored her. Need advice on to break the news and get back in the game.", "post": "Hi All, \n\nSo I was totally into this girl but it is finally fizzing out. I've pretty much been in denial about the whole thing since we've \"broken up\" but it's finally now catching up to me because she's seeing someone else now. Friends and family still talk like she's my girlfriend. I know it wasn't healthy just pushing it away for so long but I need to face the music.\n\nMy family basically treated her like family because they liked her so much. I'm wondering if anyone else has had an experience like this? \n\nIdk maybe I'm just kind of venting. This sucks.", "summary": "lingered around this girl for way too long. I'm high and dry now. Need a pep-talk."}
{"id": "t3_48ig7e", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "(SOMEWHAT URGENT) Training a worker that doesn't respect my authority.", "post": "I got in to work today to find that I will be training someone to take over someone else's shift.\n\nI've only been here an hour and so far, he's shooed me away from things, taken things out of my hands, interrupted me to boss customers around, and every time he does something the owner would kill him for (i.e. using the wrong soap or cups) I would let him know how he was supposed to do it, to be cut off by \"yeah yeah yeah, I know how to do it.\"\n\nHes apparently worked at a different location previously and has forgotten a lot but insists on doing everything himself. When I try to tell him I need him to do something else he flat out says 'no.' Hes been in a phone call for the last 15 minutes.\n\nIts just his first shift. I know I have to put my foot down. But how do I do so without starting an argument? I'm stuck here with him until 10 and will probably be training him again after today, but I need to make it clear that he DOES have to listen to me sometimes.", "summary": "new guy in training. Im training him. He wont listen to anything I say. How to professionally tell him to step off"}
{"id": "t3_1yrrh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a dumb [21] male and so I'm having a lot of trouble interpreting the signals that this [21] girl may or may not be sending me. A little help please?", "post": "So okay, I'm from New York but I study in Oregon for most of the year. Recently a friend of mine who I was not really close started facebook messaging me, that was about 3 months ago, since then we've talked almost everyday. She even asks when we can skype all the time and insists we do so and keep in touch. This sort of came out of the blue so naturally I just assumed she was into me. I can't really date her given that we live across the country, but I would if I could, she's really great in my opinion. Anyways we continue to speak to each other as usual and then last week I returned to new york for a break and so given that she and I share a group of friends I was hoping we could hang out together with them all for the little time where we're both in the same town. I tried to do just that but she totally gave me the cold shoulder; not being really responsive to hanging out, leaving early when we finally did etc...\n\nAm I wrong in my original assumption that she was into me just because out of the blue she started talking to me a lot? Is she trying to play hard to get? Am I looking way too into this and maybe she was just occupied that weekend?\n\nI really have no idea how to evaluate this. Do any of you guys have any suggestions/ideas?", "summary": "I thought she liked me when i was living far away but when i returned to the same town she started giving me the cold shoulder. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_1ctcfi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I (19F) being irrational about my boyfriend's (19M) past?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. In the beginning, I felt like I put with with a lot of things that made me uncomfortable but after about 6 months the relationship started to get better. He pretty much used to smoke weed all day with his friend and do nothing else. Plus he used to be a drug dealer. He's had a history of using quite a few of hard drugs as well, but that was before we started dating. What bothers me the most is he did LSD while we were dating and he knew how I felt about hard drugs and still did it with his friends. The fact that he used to be around such a bad crowd at a young age lead him to do make a lot of stupid things. One time during the relationship, he even ditched me to hang out one of his ex-girlfriends. He apparently used to still talk to a lot of them behind my back .\n\nA year and a half later he is a completely changed person, and he tells me I'm the one he wants to marry and be with for the rest of his life, and I could see it. He dropped all his bad friends, stopped doing drugs and regrets everything from his past.\n\nI guess what my problem is, is that he is already experienced and I'm having doubts if I want to spend the rest of my life with someone if I haven't even explored other options myself (he's my first for sex and he's already many partners). The fact that he used to do a lot of heavy drugs and sell drugs at such a young age makes me wonder if this is the person I want to be with. I said he has changed a lot, but that happened very quickly, I'm afraid he could change right back into his old self. I felt like he always put weed as his top priority and pushed be aside. I guess you could say that I have a gut feeling I was being used for sex, because that's all we seemed to do in the beginning but no he is a completely different person.", "summary": "boyfriend used to be into heavy drugs, sell and smoke pot all day, continued to talk and hang out with his ex behind my back and get mad at me for even being upset over it. He put weed as a top priority over me. "}
{"id": "t3_3dspuh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Burning my Butthole with Cayenne Pepper", "post": "So I recently found out I have scabies on my legs and stomach. \n\nI made a doctors appointment for treatment next week, but I figured maybe I would find some natural remedies to at least help a little because the itching was unbearable. Turns out among the tea tree and neem oils, bathing in apple cider vinegar, you could also soak the affected areas with a cayenne pepper bath. I guess the pepper literally burns the surface mites. \n\nDesperate as I was, I set up a bath with everything: threw in the oils, vinegar, and a fuck ton of cayenne pepper. I don't know why I didn't think about this, but I fully immersed myself in the water. I was soaking and scrubbing my legs for a few minutes when I felt a strange sensation. I paused for a moment, then yelped in pain and jumped straight out of the bathtub. My downstairs was fucking SEARING...on both ends.\n\nI quickly drained the tub and tried to rinse out both my lady parts and butthole, but to no avail. Peeing helped a bit, but there is some definite bleeding in my backside and the burn is killing me. \nIt's been about twenty minutes. As I type I lay on my bed with an ice pack on my ass, trying to ride this one out hoping it goes away.\nI'm such an idiot.", "summary": "TIFU by trying to help scabies with a bath of cayenne pepper, which instead burnt my butthole and my lady parts."}
{"id": "t3_11zga9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help I'm not over my ex, its been 5 months!", "post": "Anyone else know the feeling or do you have any advice? I've been broken up with my ex for five months now. I had my time of sadness, lose, and grieving. But eventually the freedom and wild night's right after were great. I was very happy being single and free. My ex was a iron fist with no need for fun or adventure.  I even went out on some fun dates. But recent events have reopened the wound and the break up feels fresh and painful. My bf works with my ex and she overheard my ex talkin crap. She wanted to remain friends, so I tried. But here she is saying I'm reaching out to keep a \"connection.\"  It was her idea to stay friends, and I was happy to be friends. But it's been weird since she met someone a few months ago. She is happy with him and at first I was happy for her. But know I'm hurt and pissed all over again. I want nothing to do with her or her memory, but it's the only thing on my mind.  I don't know how to get over this, but I'm tired of it eating at me!", "summary": "I should be over my ex, but I'm not. Help."}
{"id": "t3_176jur", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Has anyone ever felt sexual chemistry with someone the second time around but not the first?", "post": "Backstory: I'm 22 (f) and a few days ago, on our third date, I finally had my first kiss/other shenanigans with someone I like very much.  But I didn't feel much - in fact I was rather bored and disappointed with the apparent discrepancy in our emotional and sexual reactions to making out.  A couple of days later I very grudgingly broke it off because I figured that's that - no sexual chemistry, and I didn't want to string him along.  But I really want this to not be the case because I rarely (obviously being 22 and only having just had my first kiss) meet guys whom I like quite like this.  Maybe it was just so new that I couldn't appreciate it and a second go-round would prove more lady-boner inducing?  Maybe sexual chemistry can pop up (har har) after developing more of an emotional connection?  Or maybe I'm just grasping at straws, and if it were possible to give it another shot I'd just put us both through more disappointment.", "summary": "Has anyone ever felt little sexual chemistry upon kissing/making out with someone to at first, but then found that \"spark\" a little later on?"}
{"id": "t3_266cfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(17F) am hoping to move out of my pregnant, abusive, mothers house and in with my boyfriend (18M) after I turn 18. He still lives at his parents house, what can I do to make them more likely to agree to this situation?", "post": "As the title says I need to move out of my house. My current living situation is not healthy and most days more often than not I cry for at least an hour because of my mother and how she treats me. She is also pregnant. I made a post awhile ago about this and my current situation for those of you who read this and it sounds familiar. \n\nMy boyfriends parents have briefly offered before but I don't know if they were serious or not... We plan to ask them at some point soon, they do not know that my current home life is as bad as it is and I'm contemplating telling them when we ask if it would be a possibility.\n\n As a bit of a background my boyfriends older brother got a girl pregnant his senior year in high school and she lived with them for a long time(they have since moved out) she was lazy, created messes and basically left her kid with them so she could go do whatever it's is that she does. I would be coming into their home at least looking for a job but hopefully already having one, with a license (she didn't have one, only recently got one) and car, a high school graduate (she dropped out), in an abusive home, in college, plus I cook and clean which she never did. I'm really hoping these things will swing them in my favor. Also I would only be living there for around a year or a bit longer but not by much. Please no relationship judgement, I know we are young but this is pretty much my only option and we love each other dearly. \n\nHis parents are a bit strict and weary of having another grandchild. That would work against me. At this point we aren't supposed to be in a room alone, if this happened that would be common.... \nAlso we've been together over a year.", "summary": "really bad home life, want to move in with boyfriends family, what things could I do or say to make his parents be more apt to agree?"}
{"id": "t3_1n0h95", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the best way to mess with wifi thieves?", "post": "Ok so here's the deal\n\nRecently i changed my wifi name to something funny and because i have frequent guests i left the password as password. It only took a couple days for someone to get on and massively slow my speed. I turned off my wifi using devices and saw the light was still on for wifi use.\n\nOk i think. No big deal, the pw was pw just log on your router and change it. Here's what pissed me off, the fuckers logged on my router and changed the password either to avoid detection of me seeing who they are, or to maximize their time stealing my wifi. Thats not cook, leeching wifi is one thing but refusing me access to my own network wtf.\n\nSo yah basically i know i can just reset the router but that wont fill the void in my passive aggressive soul. Any advice would be appreciated, if it matters the router is an old netgear and im running ubuntu.\n\nPlease dont grammar nazi me this has been written on my phone for obvious reasons.", "summary": "someone steals my wifi and restricts my access, im a passive aggressive bitch"}
{"id": "t3_45z1fo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [23M] of ~a year...just broke up. Any chance of getting back together?", "post": "My boyfriend and I just broke up. We're both law students and we were friends for a while before starting our relationship 1L year.\n\nI believe that the stress of law school is getting to him (we're now in 2L, he's on law review, and will start working BigLaw this summer) and that played a big part in the breakup.\n\nWe've acknowledged that we're best friends, and we both care deeply about each other, but I don't want to pine away for him forever.\n\nAre there any couples who broke up a few times along the way and still worked things out?", "summary": "Law school is hard. Is there any chance of working things out?"}
{"id": "t3_1qiblp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] About to meet girl [19/f] for the first time after months of online/text chat. Anyone have similar experience? Please share.", "post": "Almost a year ago I met this girl on a online site and since then we have text almost every day and spoken on the phone a number of times. I don't know why we have never skyped, none of us have ever brought it up. We have however exchanged pics/videos so I'm 99.9999% she isn't some stranger from Ghana.\n\nAnyway we've hit it off really well and I get on with her unlike anyone else I've ever spoken too. We come to eachother for advice and we have quite a good sense of eachothers personalities. Now recently she said she is going somewhere and with a bit more conversation this may end up being our first meeting as I've been looking to go somewhere and she suggested that I go with her as at least she'd roughly know someone. \n\nShe is an incredibly nicest person and we have spoken about past relationships, she said she isn't one to judge and I've spoken/seen people she has been out with before and she herself described them as \"not exactly lookers\", so I'm not afraid of her seeing me and being like \"what kind of creature are you\" as I'm not exactly overweight or hard to look at. I am however still incredibly nervous that we may not get along, why I have no idea. \n\nI'm not looking for advice on what to do I am however hoping that some here have been in a similar situation and how it ended up?", "summary": "Meeting girl for the first time. We get on great. Still nervous. Anyone had a similar experience? How did it go?"}
{"id": "t3_33arz7", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Discussion] I need help with school.", "post": "I know my title was vague but it's better to start somewhere than nowhere. Since I was young (6 years old) I've always been a good student. I succeeded with As in all my classes. Until last year (15). I failed my honors Chem class and this year, I'm failing 3 classes. For those of you who practice music, I feel off tempo. I feel like I'm playing on upbeats when I'm supposed to be playing on downbeats. I have no desire or drive to do my homework despite having the dream of becoming an electrical/electronics engineer since I was in 8th grade. I think I'm depressed but I don't know. I feel scrambled. I've recently taken to simply neglect going to school to hide from the overwhelming amount of work.", "summary": "I'm having difficulty with school. Help."}
{"id": "t3_19ok69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sister [25] and ex bf [25] broke up. Need advice on getting her stuff back.", "post": "My sister (mid 20's) and her ex (mid 20s) broke up. My sister needs her stuff back but this guy seems really immature about the situation.\n\nShe needs her skateboard, but he won't give it up because my sister verbally stated 'you can have it.' And I guess she also said he can use her comp cause he 'needs it for looking for work'. I proposed he go to his local library that has internet, but my sister was blinded by love.\n\nI don't want to get on this guy's bad side because he called me once threatening to sue my sister for harassment. My sister tells me otherwise and I believe her, but I also know my sister is a bit love blind and very giving in the sense she'll let you borrow it by saying you can have it cause she's not using it rather than saying borrow. \n\nThis guy really just sounds like a jerk though from our conversation (I kept my cool trying to tell him to not do anything too brash...) but when I asked to pick up the stuff most convenient, he said Sunday (asked this today, Mon.) My sister says she needs her stuff so I tell the guy if I can pick it up, but he's not responding, which apparently is typical of this guy. They met online and from my observation has been rocky from the start, but she kept trying to make it work. Paying for this guy's meals, helping with bills i guess sometimes. That type of situation.\n\nHow do I go about getting her stuff back? I need the skateboard and the computer because I've been wanting to use it but my sister's lazy and what not. I don't want to bring the cops into it, but I guess if I have to I will. Not too sure how to go about it if I were to either, but again this guy seems like he's willing to sue on any whim just cause he seems immature and is a young divorcee.", "summary": "Sister and ex bf broke up. Ex bf won't give stuff back because my sister said 'he can have it' when she really meant 'borrow', but yes she said have. Guy sounds really immature about the whole situation so I know it's gonna be a struggle to try to get these items. Willing to go to cops if it will help with getting the skateboard that she said he 'can have'."}
{"id": "t3_3myjtu", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Cold applying for a marketing position in a small local company by attaching a proposal for their business website. Feasible idea?", "post": "Hello /r/jobs, I graduated a few months ago and had no luck so far to get a job in marketing/sales. \n\nThere's a small local company (perhaps 30 employees) but they are actually pretty successful in what they're doing (known worldwide). I checked their website and it's awful. Looks like a website from the early 2000's. So I guess they are not pretty good in (online-)marketing. \n\nI would like to do a cold application (not sure if they are looking for a marketing guy) but I had no luck with this kind of application in the past. That's why I thought I try something different. I have good skills in photoshop, indesign and illustrator. As a teenager I also built websites using HTML, so I thought I build a dummy website fitted to their company and attach some screenshots to my application.\n\nWhat do you think? I this a feasible idea or will they be offended?\n\nThank you very much in advance.", "summary": "Want to add a webdesign proposal to my cold application for a marketing position in a small company which current website is awful."}
{"id": "t3_3bldmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M with my Girlfriend [18 F] Two and a half years, a break up under pressure?", "post": "Hey Relationship subreddit, this was my first 'real' relationship and had lasted two and a half years with only one other incident that resulted in a two day 'break' but had sorted itself out and we came out a stronger relationship. This two day 'break' occurred around 10 months and honestly did help the relationship and made us understand each other a lot better. After about a week of really rough communication online (we don't live together although she has spent on and off almost every weekend for the past year with me) we decided to have another break, although this time is was very different to last time.\n\nLast time it was a heated decision and we both honestly didn't want it, this time it seemed way too calm. Prior to this week we both had a lot of exams and only saw each other once or twice but since then she avoided me all week, didn't want to see me and disappeared with her 'work friends' on Friday until 12am. On Saturday I asked her if we were seeing each other tonight and she made the excuse that she again wanted time to herself. This is when I finally said that there is no use dating if she will spend all week avoiding me.\n\nShe just casually said \"Maybe we should have a break\" and disappeared, ignoring every message I sent after, other than to say \"I feel you are manipulating me\". Finally she responded last night saying that she feels this relationship is weighing her down and she wants to be single. Recently I have been on her about finding something to do after she graduates school and put an emphasis on this as it was worrying me. She used this as an example of me pressuring her and claimed love should be accepting and comforting?\n\nI'm just really lost at how one week (or so how I see it as everything was normal before) could end what has been a good relationship? I'm still hurting as its only been a day, maybe time will tell what went wrong.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me due to a week of avoiding me and claims that my pressure on her future has caused her to feel a loss of love. She is someone who runs from pressure and I think she has rushed into a decision to end a two and a half year long happy relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4i36rb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (34F) gave me an ultimatum, I realized it's a deal breaker for me(29F). He's still a good person and I'm lost on how to proceed with the breakup.", "post": "We've been together three years. He has a degree (communications), tried to go back for another (more useful) one and got burnt out. He works a dead end job now, but is happy, which is important to me. But I'm also frustrated because I feel like I have more responsibilities in our relationship. I carry him on my insurance, pay for our car (which I do use more), make our house budget/cleaning chart and am trying to save up for a house for us.\n\nFor two years, he told me this job was temporary while he figured out which direction he wanted to go with his career. Last night he sat me down and told me he needed to give me an ultimatum (his words, \"I don't mean it to be one, but it is\"). He knows his job isn't what I want him to be doing but he's okay with it. He appreciates that I've been trying to support him figuring it out, but he's going to stop that and just live in the moment....for now. He knows himself and when he figures it out, he'll be passionate and dive in. \n\nAt the time, I was relieved to hear him tell me straight up.....but after a night of sleep and a day to digest everything he said, the full weight is sinking in. This is a deal breaker for me. I respect his reasons (personal happiness is really important) and wish him well (he's a good person), but I've never been in this spot before. All my past relationships ended with fireworks, drama, tears.... this feels very \"we both are in different places.\" \n\nOur lease is up at the end of June. Do I say something now? Wait until a month out? All these feelings just hit me on my lunch break and I'm starting to panic! I know it will be a hard breakup in the sense that we both love one another and neither did anything wrong, but that just knots my stomach even more! I don't want to make him feel guilty.", "summary": "boyfriend gave me ultimatum, I realized it's a deal breaker for me. He's still a good person and I'm lost on how to proceed with the breakup."}
{"id": "t3_1nctj7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] brokeup after 2.5 years this week and I'm having urges to start talking with her again", "post": "Sorry in advance for the wall of text this seems to be! I didn't' mean for it.\nEarlier this week, my ex dumped me because she said she couldn't be a good student (we are both in university) and a good girlfriend. Before this all happened we couldn't really see each other very much but we still texted and tried out best.\n\nI've always been there for her and optimistic that we would find the time when we could to make the most of it. I drove her home from a weekend staying in our hometown and we try to figure things out but it ends up we break up and I'm heartbroken\n\nI still drive her home and do my best but she sends me a long message saying that she can't bare to see pictures of me with friends or in a relationship so she deletes me. I'm confused about the whole situation but somehow talk myself into that it's for the best. \n\nThe next day when I come home from school I see a bag on the doorstep. When I look inside its all the things I gave her through the time together. I was crushed. I felt betrayed, lonely, and couldn't understand what I did to deserve this. I quickly glance at her roommate's Facebook and see that they went out downtown and I think the worse. Of all the years I've known her, I've never seen her act like this.\n\nNow that it has been some time I am doing better. I try not to look too much into what she is doing but I feel wrong and I have urges to at least Facebook her or say hey at school. I was wondering if anyone else could relate or provide some guidance.", "summary": "my ex of 2.5 years broke up with me earlier this week and completely removed me from her life. Day after she returns everything I gave her and I still have urges to contact her again."}
{"id": "t3_30oez6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] might be falling apart and I don't know how to cope.", "post": "Me and my GF of a year and a half are going through a really rough patch. She has been telling me that we haven't been clicking. I've tried talking with her but I haven't made much progress. She has told me that she still loves me but she doesn't know what's not clicking anymore. \n\nI'd give anything for us to be where we once were. I am too in love to let this girl go. Though I am afraid that I am going to have to let her go soon. I can't make her want to be with me, and nothing in my life has hurt me more than than having the one person I love not want to be with me. \n\nI love this girl with every part of my soul and ever inch of my being, but I don't know how I can cope with a break up. Reddit, I feel so alone, scared, depressed, in pain, lost, torn to pieces, I can't think straight anymore. What have you guys done to cope with loss? I'm afraid I won't be able to, but that I might have to.", "summary": "Me and the love of my life are potentially separating and I need help. How has Reddit dealt with loss?"}
{"id": "t3_4buump", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and my boyfriend [21 M] dated for a year, he ended it two months ago and he's just now figured out that I'm \"it\"", "post": "I'm a senior in college right now and my boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year when he ended it very abruptly about 2 months ago. With that it ended pretty explosively. The initial breakup was - as normal - upsetting but fine. Within days though he was pestering me via text and through mutual friends, constantly trying to get me to talk to him. Basically, when I went back to his place to get my stuff back, it ended in an extremely heated argument with lots of yelling on his end.\n\nFastforward 2 months and we've just gotten back from our separate spring breaks. I come home to a text from him saying that breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of his life and that he would like an opportunity to talk and a chance to prove his worth to me. We ended up talking for a long time during which we talked about what had happened during our relationship and he explained to me that he broke up with me because he was intimidated by the fact that I had a job so long before him and that there were some pretty bad problems going on at home that he felt he couldn't talk to me about.\n\nWe've been texting a little over the past few days since I said we could try being friends. Tonight though, I received a long text from him saying basically he would like to date me again because he has realized that I am \"the one\" and he wants a second chance.\n\nSo confused here, I have no idea what to do and I am feeling incredibly torn. Any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend ended things with me (lots of anger involved) about 2 months ago and now revealed that it was a mistake and I'm \"the one\". What do I do???"}
{"id": "t3_1n09au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my gilrfriend [17 F] 8 months, Girlfriend has kept in touch with ex, should i be worried?", "post": "So, my girlfriend had an online relationship with a boy for two years, throughout this relationship they fought constantly and had broken up several times. Not a very good relationship, although they truly cared for each other. \n \nThey broke up a little over a year ago, she had a separate relationship and then after that ended we started going out.\n\nThroughout our relationship she has never hid the fact she talks to him - he's turned into a drug user which she despises and changed into someone she hates, although they remain friendly and keep in touch because she stills cares about him as a person. I've always tolerated her talking to him and keeping in touch.\n\nUntil one day he admitted his feelings for her and how he still loves her and how shes the only one for him. She flat out told him, she was NOT interested, and that there was zero chance of us breaking up any time soon in the foreseeable future and that she had moved on, so he needed to quit it. She was open to me about all of this and showed me he conversations as they were happening.\n\nFor a few months he would text her and she would flat out tell him, \"why are you talking to me? we have nothing to say anymore\"\n\nBut recently they have had a few conversations (completely normal, sometimes they talk for a few days then it stops for a while) and they've been arguing, and i ask her, \"if you really don't have anything to say, why do you keep talking?\" and she told me that it's not that simple, and that she cant just stop.\n\nit confuses the hell out of me and was hoping for some insight, is this something i should worry about?", "summary": "Girlfriend talks to ex, he's still in love with her, shes completely open about their conversations with me and has told him there is zero chance of me and her breaking up and that hes only in love with being in a relationship not with her, she says she has nothing more to say to him, yet continues to talk to him. I'm confused :("}
{"id": "t3_q8b4u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Purolator package never arrived at its destination, yet they claim it has. Is there anything else I can do about this? (Yes I've called)", "post": "So, I'm pretty frustrated...\n\nI ordered some flowers to be sent to my girlfriend for valentines  through1800Flowers.\n\nAll went went well, except when they didn't show up. \nI figured, \"hey it's valentines and I'm sure they have lots of orders\" \nand I gave them the benefit of the doubt. \n\nAfter a few days and them not showing up, I was very confused \nso I gave them a call and had to submit a claim.\n\nThey claim the package was delivered. \n(*Side note: My girlfriend *did* receive a call from purolator, \nbefore I called in reporting the missing package, asking if she had received a \npackage, to which she replied she hadn't)\n\nI called back again, this time with my girlfriend on the other \nline to confirm that the package had not been delivered. \n\nThe Purolator woman told us that sometimes, if there is bad weather, \nthe delivery person will find a safe place to put the package (barbecue, mailbox, shed, etc.) \n(*Side note: She also told me that if there is a car in the driveway and it is open, \nthe delivery person will \"Open the car and put the package in the car\". Scary.) \n\nWe checked all these areas and around the house. No sign of the package.\n\nShe then told us that perhaps the package had been stolen or had blown \naway and since the package \"required no signature at destination\", \nthere was nothing she could do. \n\nIf I had been given the choice by 1800Flowers to require a signature, I would have done so.\n\nShe said I should contact 1800Flowers. \nI think I will, but I'm not sure what my argument will be - I still feel the fault is Purolator's. \n\nAny advice on what I should do? \nI know it's *just* flowers, but hey, they cost me $60 and I'd like to be reimbursed. \n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "Ordered some flowers for my girlfriend, purolator lost the package."}
{"id": "t3_i2ybu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help! I need some quick advice. [first post]", "post": "Okay so here's the brief story. Me and my now ex girlfriend recently split up because the relationship was just going down hill. we still love each other and enjoy spending time together, but it's just not working right now. So we speak and see eachother a lot less but decided to still hang out from time to time and essentially be FWB. \n\nhere's where the story gets interesting, sorta. There's another girl who i talk to and we have a lot in common. Last night I went out with her and we ended up hooking up. nothing serious, just making out. Now, do I tell my ex? We agreed that if we were to start seeing other people or any fornication we'd let each other know. I feel guilty obviously but I'm kind of stuck on what I should do. if I tell her, she's gonna be pissed and I risk losing someone I care for, at the same time if I don't, everything's fine but there's a pretty good chance that she'll find out down the line. \n\nMy initial instinct is to tell her but i keep thinking too deep into it and then become unsure.", "summary": "still FWB with ex, hooked up with another girl, feel guilty. do i tell her or not? it was established that we would tell each other and take it from there... although i'm not sure if she would tell me if the tables were turned."}
{"id": "t3_28nlys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] was in relationship for 2.5 years with my bf [23 M]. No contact now for 2 months.", "post": "Just here to get some advice/insight from others.  My relationshp story was posted earlier if you want to read it.\n\nAnyways, my ex broke up with me due to him \"feeling like he was losing in indivuality, me making him feel guilty about doing stuff, and me being stressed all the time.\"  1 week after breakup we went no contact.  We never told one another we wanted NC, we just both have not contacted one another.  Nothing at all. It is like he is dead or never existed.\n\nKnowing him, I am sure he is moving on quite fast, if he has not already moved on.  Here I am, 2 1/2 months later still pretty depressed about this relatinoshp ending.  Especially with so much hardship it caused me (moved, looking for a new job).\n\nI just want to know what he is up to.  I wonder if he will ever regret what he did.  Do you think he will ever reach out to me?  Right now, I do not see us ever contacting one another again.  It realy difficult to go from talking and seeing the person everyday to the person never existing.  I want these painful feelings to subside.", "summary": "We both went no contact a week after break up.  Neither of us said we were going to go NC -we just did.  2 months later we havent communicated what-so-ever.  Think he will ever contact me? Regret his decision? The pain just sucks.  Having a hard time moving on."}
{"id": "t3_1mdqd5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "College dating advice: I suck at this.", "post": "I like this girl. She's warm, funny, and beautiful.\nShe introduced herself to me during the orientation week. I thought she was out of my league so I just considered her as a friend while hanging out. But there was lots of signs she liked me. (Her resting her head on me, laughing at my dumb jokes, etc.)\n\nI started liking her too. However, orientation week was over and for the first week of classes we didn't hang out that much. Fasting forward to the weekend, her sister invited me to their house for dinner. We had some fun (primarily with the girl I like), I cuddled with the girl while watching some movie, and I was planning on leaving. But that day my house keypad was broken and I forgot to ask my roommate to leave the door open which caused me to return to her house and sleeping over at her couch.\n\nNext morning, I helped her with dishes and we had lots of fun. But I think it was little too intimate too quickly at the time. Anyways, feeling I was being too forward, I texted her maybe 1 time to borrow her bike lock during the next week. And last night, I was studying all day at the library and asked to hang out with my friends. turns out they were at her house having a dinner and playing board games. My friend told me to come so I did.\n\nBut when I came over, she looked little cold to me. Didn't make eye contact with me as much and just generally cold. She started hanging out with this chinese guy who barely speaks english and apparently it was the chinese guy who invited my friends too. (I'm korean from la btw)\n\nIndeed, I was a bit jealous but didn't really mention it. I don't know what to do. Do I start texting her or what? I really would appreciate some help with this matter.", "summary": "Girl seemed interested initially but acts little cold now. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hb84s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16/F] with my South Asian parents [45ish M/F]. Anything less than medical school is unacceptable for them.", "post": "Backstory: I'm a girl who's going into her junior year of high school and I live in Canada. I'm starting to thinking about university and I've decided on something business related, either econ, commerce, finance etc. \n\nMy (Indian) parents however do not take me seriously when I tell them that's what I to do/major in because they believe that the only acceptable option for me is medical school. \n\nMy mom is a doctor and my dad works in business/did his MBA so I don't see why I can't follow in his footsteps, rather than my moms. It's not as if I am throwing my life away, working in finance is a respectable, well-earning career. I have taken a lot of business courses in high school and I know that's what I have a passion for. \n\nRather than reasonably discussing going to university for a business related degree, they choose to lecture me about how my life will be miserable if I don't go to medical school. They say that I have 'expensive tastes' that can only be satisfied with a doctor's salary. \n\nNow they are starting to become desperate when they see that I'm not budging about medical school. They are saying that anything STEM related is ok too. I told my parents that I don't have a passion for STEM, I used the example that I took a tech course and I hated the programming/coding. \n\nIn reply to this my mom literally said, \"it doesn't matter if you like it or not, you'll be happy once you get the salary\". So I told her that I'm not going to suffer through a 4 year degree (let alone work as that my whole life) of a subject I hate just so I can be happy with the money. \n\nI fear that by the time I go into senior year and university applications are due they will still be begging for me to switch to medical school instead of helping me do a degree in business. \n\nIf there is a better subreddit to post this, please let me know.", "summary": "Instead of supporting my passion, my parents are trying to convince me to go to medical school."}
{"id": "t3_2du8lq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I find my biological father?", "post": "First off, the reason i'm asking this is because I've never met my father. Basically I was a drunken accident between two good friends. Before my mom knew she was pregnant my biological father moved to another state for school. She hasn't seen him since and I want to try to find him and let him know that I exist. I don't know how to go about finding him. All I have is a picture of him and his name. I've tried searching his name and found a few weak leads that I couldn't very well follow up on. How can you find a person you're looking for with such little information.", "summary": "How do you find someone without a lot of information on him."}
{"id": "t3_3ecux3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M17] and my girlfriend [F16] for 11 months fight and bicker over everything, how do we stop?", "post": "Me and her fight over every single little thing you can think of, but they aren't huge arguments where we yell and scream at each other, but more of petty disagreements, that happen every day or every other day.\n\nThey have been going on for quite a while, but haven't always happened when we first started dating we got along great! We were always happy and never disagreed but past that, after about month 3 we started bickering about everything, however it is never in person only on the phone.\n\nI am asking for advice on what to do, how to stop bickering, really at this point any advice is appreciated, we both agreed we can't continue doing this.", "summary": "me and my girlfriend bicker about everything imaginable, we have ran out of ideas and we are just looking for what to do about it, any advice will help."}
{"id": "t3_43i04x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it really possible to meet the right person at the wrong time?", "post": "This past October I (19F) met a really great guy (20M) through tinder. We went on a few dates here and there and got along really well.\n\nHowever, we did run into some problems when it came to hanging out. If I had some free time, he would be working or in school (does both full time). And if he had free time I'd be in school or not home at the time (plus, I don't have my license yet so transportation was a factor too). This made it really difficult for us to hang out and see each other more. \n\nToday, we started talking on snapchat and he told me he doesn't think this can work anymore. I was crushed because I was really starting to like him and he even told me he had feelings for me as well. He said he just wants to work on himself for a while. I asked him if it's possible if things do work out in the future will he reconsider trying again. He didn't give me a straight answer saying it just depends on when it happens. \n\nSo my question for you /r/relationships is it possible to meet the right person at the wrong time? And if yes, can things work out in the end? I'm really hurt right now and don't know how to feel because this has never happened to me before.", "summary": "Do you think it's possible to rekindle a relationship after things didn't work out the first time due to timing?"}
{"id": "t3_2j0oxx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28M and 27F. I've lost my confidence", "post": "Good morning\n\nSo, I (28M) have been seeing my partner (27F) for four months now. All feels easy and simple. communication is open and easy. We rarely argue or catch ourselves disagreeing on things. The one big trick is she feels I've not been as  confident as I used to be, when we first met. She says she wants this to work, and that she wants to pursue this, but wants to make sure that I'm not the insecure person I've (unbeknownst to me) portrayed as of recently.\n\nSo I've got that going for me, which is nice. \n\nI travel for work and so does she. I'm gone for 3 week clips and she works away from home during the week. Recently, I've been staying at her place,  by her suggestion, with her roommates when I'm not on a work-rotation, this began a month ago and had me living at her place, seeing her on weekends for 3 weeks. When she comes home I like to give her the space to be home and do what she wants (she spends the week at her girl friend's house which is closer to her job until we decide to move-in together). I'm looking for a normal (non travel) job and we both feel this will fix it. When we are seeing each other with life normaling (Its a word now) out.\n\nSo... I guess, where did my confidence go? I am not sure what prompted this change. Is it because I don't want to step on her toes?", "summary": "i somehow stopped displaying confidence in myself somewhere along the line. Non traditional dating and living situation."}
{"id": "t3_gt3an", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cheapest way to run long distance networking?", "post": "Some friends of ours live a little bit away from us(1050m straight line distance), and are unable to get decent internet at their house. We have nice interwebs at our house, so I'd like to share, but WiFi isn't and option, as theres a forest between the houses. \n\nThere are a set of posts I could run the cable down to their house on, but running along the posts is approx 1760m long, which is about 17 times longer than ethernet will do. I was looking into Cisco LRE(boxes are cheap on ebay), and its slightly longer than its reach also. \n\nI'd like to have at least 1Mbps connection and a cost under $100 if possible.", "summary": "Want to run a cabled network aprox. 1700m. Cheaply."}
{"id": "t3_4xsguo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [20F] of two years, haven't seen each other for almost two months. Should I break up with her?", "post": "I'm have been dating my girlfriend for a little over two years. The first year everything was great, but then during the second year we started to become more distance. She started seeing me less and less. The 2015-2016 school year we only saw each other about 10 times.\n\nDuring the school year she said the couldn't hang out with me because she was busy with college and she had a part time job during the weekends and some weekdays. I was fine with that. I understand that working while in school is extremely hard. But I got kind of mad when her friends posted pictures of her hanging out with them during the night. It didn't really make sense to me how she could spend time hanging out with friends but barely and time with me.\n\nSo now its the summer and we have barely hung out at all. She doesn't have school and lives extremely close to me, but I still haven't seen her for over a month. I am not a clingy person, but I am starting to think she doesn't love me any more. Should I just break up with her if she isn't willing to spend time with me at all?", "summary": "Girlfriend started to stop hanging out with me during this school year. Should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2zjap8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How much (if any) of my company 401k should I use for a down payment?", "post": "My wife and I have been house hunting for about the past 5 years and living in a rental all the while. We're expecting our first child at the end of May and have intensified our search as neither of us feel our rental house is ideal for a baby/small child.\n\nWe have 2 homes that we are currently considering making an offer on. The first is a log home. We like the home and feel it would be the easier of the two to resell. Unfortunately, if we have another child we would likely have to move again within 10 years. The second is a typical, split entry home. Has more staying power for us and potential for remodeling but may be more difficult to sell. First question, which would you choose?\n\nNow for the main dilemma, I would love to put 20% down on our home but am uncertain on where to pull the money from. We have enough money between savings and the stock market to cover the down payment but would nearly deplete all of our liquid assets. On the other hand, I almost have the same amount available to me from my employer's 401k. This money would NOT be a loan but would be taxable. \n\nShould we use all of money available to us from my 401k, all of our savings, or some percentage between the two? If a percentage, then how much from each?\n\nOpen to any and all suggestions, thanks!", "summary": "I'm 30, my wife is 29. We're about to have our first child and buy our first home. Household income between 100-110k. House cost 155-170k. I want to put 20% down. I have contributed to my company 401k for 7 years and have nearly 40k and 30k available for hardship whitdrawl. That is taxable but not a loan that needs repaid. We have about 25k in savings and 20k in the stock market. Where should we pull the down payment from? Savings only, 401k mostly or split it as a percentage of the two?"}
{"id": "t3_1yehci", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I'm on court probation, am I required to report contact with the police like others on \"normal\" probation or parole? [california]", "post": "I am on court probation (non supervised probation i think was the actual term used in court) for a wet and reckless driving charge. \n\nMy now former roommates caused issues (fighting, meth ect.) that caused the cops to be called several times a day for a few days in a row.\n\n Apparently they really like getting strip searched on their way into the local jail and talking to the cute girl at the bail bonds place. \n\neach time the cops checked my id, checked my room for any other persons, usually a terry frisk and let me go. \n\nAt no point was I causing any problems for the police, detained or seriously questioned. (I wasn't there that day, i was upstairs asleep ect).", "summary": "Would I be required to report this contact with the police?"}
{"id": "t3_36fzp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and Girlfriend [17 F] of 16 months never have sex, but she fulfils all my other needs. So I need advice.", "post": "I don't know what to do. I love my gf so much.\n\nMy girlfriend and I are compatible in every way except sexually, she doesn't see why sex is a big deal but it really is hard for me, she stuck with me through a lot and I love her, but I just have this compulsion to try and have sex with other girls because I'm not satisfied in that area, I just don't know what to do.\n\nI really don't want to cheat, I don't want to lose her. I just need to be satisfied and she satisfies me in every way except sex. I mean I get sex once or twice a month and when it happens she just lays there and waits for me to finish, she doesn't get into it. If I didn't beg for sex we would never have it. I just want good sex, something to satisfy my physical needs since my emotional needs are being filled I don't want to ruin that. We have talked open relationships and she actually agreed but I know if I ever did it with another girl I would be treated as a cheater still. So guys, what should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is perfect in every way except sex and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1d4572", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm pretty sure my boyfriend's (M22) girl friend (F21) has a crush on him. How do I handle it?", "post": "Yesterday, my boyfriend had a pool party and invited a bunch of people.  I think one of the girls he's friends with has a crush on him.  As soon as I met her, I just knew.  I catch her staring at my boyfriend, teasing him in a flirty manner, and she laughs at *everything* he says.\n\nAt the pool party, she took it upon herself to let my boyfriend know that he was getting a little sunburned on his back.  Not even five minutes later, she was putting sunscreen on his back and rubbing/massaging his shoulders. \n\nShe followed him around the entire time.  This girl has got it bad for my boyfriend.\n\nIs there a good way to bring this up with him in a loving way?  We're in a five month relationship so it's not like we've been together that long.", "summary": "My boyfriend's (M22) girl friend (F21) definitely has a crush on him.  How can I talk with in about this in a loving way?"}
{"id": "t3_uiu5d", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Made a mistake and need advice", "post": "I have been seeing a friend and classmate for a while now (6 months) and I have taken her to numerous dinners. We always enjoy each others company and share the same interests. After our last dinner I told her that I havent been on a date in a real long time and was thinking about getting into the scene agian. She was obviously distressed because I am assuming she thought we were on dates this whole time. Anyways to make a long story short I ended up kissing her when leaving. It was real sudden and took her completely off gaurd. When I got home we talked on the phone and I admitted that I was unaware that the dinners we were on were dates. However I do like her and would like to continue seeing her and to make sure my actions were not crossing any lines. She said I didnt cross any lines. So, I asked her on another real date this tuesday and she agreed. This all happened on Thursday of last week. I texted her twice yesterday(Saturday) to which she didn't responed and recently tried to call her to make plans (amusement park) and she didn;t pick up nor return my call. I am wondering should I stop communication and let her figure out what she wants or send a text telling her I am sorry for how I did it, becuase I am not sorry I did kiss her. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "I kissed a girl and took her by surprise, now she is not responeding to texts or calls, need help Please and Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_1w9yo9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34M] with my separated wife [33F] 14 years, why do i feel nothing?", "post": "Quick run down of the relationship:\n\nWhirlwind romance and 6 months later Married young (20 and 19 respectively), together for 14 years, 2 kids over the course of it. In the end a number of issues ended the relationship, to begin with my own inadequacies and addictions, but after the separation thinking about it i came to terms that maybe neither of us were overly happy. 3 days after the separation she asked me back, and i refused, saying we had more issues to work through.\n\nFor a long time after this i begged and pleaded and did everything i could to get us back together, but she needed to \"evaluate her feelings\", as she for a long time felt nothing towards me. A few weeks ago she requested i cut all non-essential contact (so only discussions about kid arrangements etc were to take place). Since then i have taken steps to survive, removing many itmes around my home that reminded me of \"us\", removing my wedding ring, ive had a sexual experience with someone else (nothing major and no harm done on either side, were both aware of the current situation) and been on my first date in 15 years.\n\nAfter a recent meet up with my wife, she confessed a number of feelings, such as jealousy, missing me, her heart wants me but her head says its a bad idea etc. The only feelings i'm experiencing are pity for how shes currently doing, and exasperation at how messed around im feeling with her off again-on again contact and physical/mental affection (often not both at the same time).\n\nIs this normal? am i going through a phase where if i tell her i dont feel anything it could change in 2 weeks and by then it will be too late? Or am i finally looking at moving my life on past this relationship?\nShould i be open about my feelings and experiences (we made a clause on breakup, she didnt want to know anything i did with other people while we were separated, and told me to lie if i had done anything) or would that just end everything, and if it did is that for the best?\n\nIf someone could just live my life for me for a bit and give it back in a few months that would be grand :D", "summary": "Wife loved me, didint love me, now possibly loves me again, I loved her, loved her, and now feel nothing... what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yju82", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU naked in bathroom by my younger brother", "post": "Let me preface this with the obligatory this didn't happen today but a few years ago. Also this story is in no way sexual so I don't think it violates the weekday rule but if it does let me know. Thirdly this is a throwaway because I don't want it linked to my main account.\n\nYears ago after taking a piss at around 2am in the morning I waddled into the bathroom to wash my hands, our toilet and bathroom are separate. Anyway while washing my hands in my half awake state I managed to splash water onto myself and it dripped down into my shorts. My shorts were fairly dry but my boxers underneath got wet and it was uncomfortable to wear them so I decided to take them off. Simple enough right? Wrong.\n\nAs I was half awake and it was 2am when I went to wash my hands I left the door open and the light on. I thought to myself no one will be awake no need to close the door. So brilliant me took off my pants and then my boxers I did however leave my shirt on which was low enough to cover my member but not my soon to be embarrassment. \n\nAs I'm done getting my boxers off I hear my brother come around the corner, he was probably around 16 or so at the time, and sees me with no pants, no boxers covering my dick with my shirt and he gives me the weirdest look I've ever seen from him and he walks back to his room as if he doesn't believe what he just saw.\n\nWe have never spoken about it but the embarrassment of the situation coupled with me wanting to explain myself while at the same time not wanting to talk about it stuck with me.", "summary": "Took a piss, went to wash hands, splashed myself got caught with my pants down."}
{"id": "t3_3bt0y6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F], we will be in a LDR for the next month and it's hard not seeing her", "post": "I love my girlfriend very much and she feels the same way but I won't be able to see her during the month of July and I'm having a hard time coping because she is all I can think of during the day. We both text each other whenever we aren't working but obviously the physical intimacy is lacking. My friends have suggested seeing other girls but I would never do that to her (or anyone else for that matter) because I know that she would never consider seeing other guys. I have complete trust in her. I guess what I'm asking is how we can maintain a close emotional connection while we are apart. She would probably be open to any ideas since we literally talk about everything, even some things that other couples tend to avoid talking about. How can I continue strengthening our relationship over the next month?", "summary": "Having a hard time being long distance and I need some way to cope and maintain our awesome relationship."}
{"id": "t3_288ynx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my acquaintance [29 F] of 2 months, Not sure if I asked her out clearly enough, and second guessing myself.", "post": "I had been coworkers with a woman for about 2 months when she left the company. We were passing acquaintances, but didn't know each other super well because she worked in a different office. We'd messaged each other occasionally on Facebook (we have a really friendly corporate culture, and most of us are FB friends, so there isn't anything special about that). After she left, she was on FB a lot more, so we've been talking a lot more.\n\nI decided to ask her out yesterday. I'd always thought she was cute, but it's pretty clearly against corporate rules. We had this (altered for anonymity) conversation on FB:\n\nMe :So, I'm realizing that you're really cool. Since we aren't co-workers anymore, would you like to go out on (my day off)?\n\nHer: Hrm. Am I driving out to [town]?\n\nBecause that could be fun. THERE ARE THINGS TO DO [in place]\n\nWe talked about plans for a while, and eventually decided that we'd go to a museum in her (larger and more interesting) town.\n\nAt the time, it seemed really clear that we were going on a date, but she never actually said anything with any romantic connotations, and she's been complaining on Facebook about wanting to go do things with friends lately.\n\nDo I need to clarify that I was asking her out, or do you all think she gets that?", "summary": "Not sure if I was unclear asking this acquaintance out."}
{"id": "t3_3cat4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [23 M] and coincidentally met a great [21 F] girl over the weekend. The problem? She lives far away. Help me out Reddit!", "post": "Over this weekend I was able to meet a remarkable girl. Pretty much from the get go it was obvious that at least I was interested (I drunkenly gave her a flower at a cocktail party to start off our first conversation), but she also ended up hanging out with me the next night as well at my house, albeit with her friend. She knows I have a crush on her. I know she is interested in me at the least as a friend, but I am not fully confident if she is interested as anything more (we've only met a couple days, I'm about 60-70% sure she's interested in me beyond friendship - I thought I heard her asking her friend if it was okay to sleep over at my place but I'm not sure).\n\nI don't have a problem with LDRs provided they are serious but to be honest, I have my own life and school to focus on now anyway. I don't think I want a relationship as of the current moment. I'm more interested in down the road - this is the first girl that I met that is astoundingly pretty, captivating, and is part of my exact same culture (families are pretty much the exact same which I value a lot). Practically speaking, it's perfect material for a serious relationship save for the fact that she lives far away. Which pretty much renders the whole thing impractical as of the moment.\n\nI want to continue talking to her but I'm not sure where or how to gear the relationship. I'd like to get to know her better but also be in a place in the future where she knows I'm (likely) seriously interested and I can figure out if she is seriously interested in a relationship. \n\nI know I've only met her a couple days, but I've just got a feeling on this one...", "summary": "Met a girl who lives far away, need to know what to do to keep a relationship on the table for the future."}
{"id": "t3_2axgck", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating Taco Bell while driving", "post": "I'll start from this morning. It was a normal day for me. I woke up at around 7:30 as I usually do so I could wake up and get to work on time. I did so, worked my 8 hours, clocked in, clocked out. My coworkers wanted to go out to get something to eat, but I wasn't feeling social today, so I passed and walked to my car.\n\nHowever, I was feeling rather hungry. I'm currently on a diet, but I've been on it for a rather long time (around 6 months) so I had forgotten what the taste of a deliciously disgusting Taco Bell taco tasted like. Once I started thinking about it, I couldn't stop so I set my course to the nearest Taco Bell about 15 minutes away.\n\nAfter driving for a bit I finally reached my destination. I pulled up to the drive-thru, placed my order for 2 tacos, a crunchwrap and a large Mountain Dew. I pulled up to the next window, paid for my order, and sat the bag of food on the passenger seat next to me. I checked my phone to see what time it was, and determined that I had enough time to eat in a parking space and be home in time for my family. \n\nLet's just say I fucking ravaged those first 2 tacos. I scarfed them down like I've never seen what a scrap of food looked like before. As I'm about to move onto my crunchwrap, I get a phonecall from my wife asking where I am.\n\n\"You're at Taco Bell?! You said you'd drive Caitlyn (our daughter) to soccer practice!\"\n\nShit. I hung up the phone and stepped on the gas with one hand on the wheel and another on my crunchwrap. I was doing 70 on the highway trying to rush back to get my daughter there on time. \n\nBut that crunchwrap was way to delicious. I was paying too much attention to the deliciousness, the amazingness, the...\n\nI felt a thud. My windshield cracked. I pulled over and stepped out of my car to what was the remains of a now dead deer and a busted windshield along with other damages to my car. Caitlyn was late to practice.", "summary": "I went to Taco Bell, forgot I had to drive my daughter to soccer practice, killed a deer and busted up my car because of a crunchwrap."}
{"id": "t3_3gtyi5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24M)(24F) first relationship(2Y) ended a few days ago and I'm NOT ready for these aftermath feelings.", "post": "I'm not angry with April, not cursing her name and I refuse to \"just forget about her\". She was my best friend years before becoming something more. I'm hoping to save the friendship at least.\n\n   She was right to end it though, I even agreed as it was happening. I was becoming lazy & complacent. She climbed from one job to another to another, improving and bettering herself every step of the way. I, meanwhile, sat at one job making little effort to climb. \"I don't need you to do this for me, you should want this for yourself!\" This especially will stick with me.\n\nApril voiced her concerns multiple times in the past and I like a fucking idiot, made promises that never came to be. \n\nIn my flimsy/pathetic/ but honest defense: this was my first relationship. I was more focused on having fun and taking trips and making memories now! \n\n   We both cried, although I cried a whole lot more. She gave me a shimmer of hope at the end saying \"I hope we can still be friends\" then added a grain of salt of \"I don't know what I want\" at the end.\n\nWe had one long hug before I left her house. I told \"this isn't the end, I'm just gonna have to come back stronger and better. I'll win you back\"\n\nIt's only been a few days and I've never been so emotionally exhausted. by day, I'm lying to everyone about how I'm feeling and doing. By night, I'm drowning in paranoia that I'll never see her.", "summary": "I just want my best friend back."}
{"id": "t3_27wutv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by freezing my drink too long", "post": "So I fucked up, again... This happened just a few minutes ago and wasn't too bad, but it was pretty funny.\nSo today, my brother and I are watching my grandma's dogs. It's not very hard, so we've mostly been playing our", "summary": "Froze drink too long, exploded in my face"}
{"id": "t3_2cbvj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/m] want to ask a friend [18/f] out. When, where and how?", "post": "Hey guys! \n\nSo I've known this girl for about 3 years, she was in a couple of my classes and we talked there but pretty much had no contact out of school.\n\nWe happened to both go to the same university and we got to talking a bit more over text/ snapchat. I don't really have too much experience with girls but she seems like she could be interested?\n\nI've always had a crush on her, but couldn't bring myself to do anything about it but now I just feel like I would regret it too much not to bat least try. BUT I really have no idea how to do it?\n\nI was thinking about asking her over Facebook (bad idea?) And just saying something like \"I had a great time with you at (event we both went to), and I was wondering if you would like to get lunch / coffee with me sometime this weekend?\" \n\nThanks for any help guys!", "summary": "need some advice so I don't bitch out of asking my crush to lunch"}
{"id": "t3_nre4t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cousin Involved in a Dating Scam and Is Clueless - Help Me Collect Similar Scam Stories so I Can Convince Him He's Being Scammed and Save his Wallet", "post": "I have a clueless, 26-year-old male cousin who I'm pretty sure is involved in a dating scam. I found this out via my dad, who he is currently working for. I figured I should alert him to this asap because he's kind of down and out and the last thing he needs is to be sending his money to some hot girl who probably doesn't exist. My brother and a family friend have both been involved in similar dating scams and we've warned my cousin about them but he's in total denial. I figured if I could collect a mass of similar stories, I could convince him. Best place for stories - reddit. \n\nDetails on this supposed scam (this is what I've heard so far - I'll be collecting additional details throughout the day): Cousin met this girl through a spam text she sent out to a friend's mom (what?). Apparently, she is GORGEOUS. She is 29 and lives in Missouri (we're in California) and supposedly has made a bunch of money working out of her home as a for-hire cake decorator. She claims she has bought her own house outright due to her financial success. Despite her busy work at home schedule, she texts cousin every waking moment (I have not seen her grammar - I know bad grammar is a tell-tale sign.) She claims to be in a relationship she is very unhappy with, effectively making cousin the underdog. He tried to arrange for her to fly out to California, but she cancelled on the last minute because - surprise! - she just found out she has stage two breast cancer. That's all the details I know as of now.\n\nIt seems extremely suspicious to me and to back this up, I'm looking for similar stories. If you or a friend/family member has been through something similar, please share. The more I have, the stronger my case will be. I plan to print out the list of stories and hand them to him. I know he's being retarded, but I wouldn't want anybody to be cheated out of money like this. Thanks guys.", "summary": "Cousin is involved in a dating scam and is in denial. I'm collecting similar dating scam stories to show him to convince him he's being cheated out of his money (the closer to his story your story is, the better, so please read the description of the scam). "}
{"id": "t3_10y17d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help writing a letter/email.", "post": "So, I'm 18[m], dating 18[f]. She lives in a tight knit family. After being together for 2 years, I am on excellent terms with the family. Close enough that I have gone on family vacations with them. Her and I want to go on a cross country trip together next summer. I've decided that I am going to ask permission of her parents (primarily her father) before we go ahead with any plans. I am planning on doing so via email, as this is the way that he and I most frequently communicate. Problem is, I have no clue as to what to say when I ask this permission. Any tips on how to start a letter such as this?", "summary": "Need to ask permission of SO's father. Have no idea how."}
{"id": "t3_4vatjm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I Need Help With People", "post": "Hey r/relationship_advice, this is my second post on reddit. I want to thank anyone who reads or responds to this for their time as I really need some help. I am a nerdy guy in highschool with a generalized anxiety disorder. However, with help from my amazing mother and medication, I am able to play 3 sports, participate in the chamber orchestra, latin, service, and radio club. I have also maintained a 4.0 GPA, and I was chosen by the school staff to be a student ambassador. Even though I am in a lot of activities, I am in no way cool or popular, I have a lot of trouble with relationships. I don't know why but I can't develop close relationships with anyone really. Aside from my mom, my family is filled with hatred, drama, and alcoholics; so I am not able to connect with a lot of them and I don't really want to. I have a few friends, but we don't hang out or talk that much. I usually do most of the planning and communication. I am thankful for them, but the relationships I have with them are pretty shallow. Also I've never had a girlfriend, let alone someone who said, \"Yes\" when I asked them to go to a school dance with me. I try to talk, text, and hang out with people all the time (without being pushy or annoying). I just can't find anyone who wants to have a close relationship with me. It leaves me feeling empty, lonely, and depressed every day. I don't want to give up, I need close people in my life. I'm just not sure what I should do anymore. Any and all advice is appreciated, and thank you again for your time.", "summary": "Nerd in highschool, in activities but no friends, constantly trying to make friends, no success"}
{"id": "t3_31eka9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with the guy [24~M] I've been seeing for a month, not sure if i should mention him to my judgmental family at Easter.", "post": "I'm very happy with this guy so far, we've been getting along great. We've got good communication and we're on the same page about where we are and where we see things going. \n\nThis weekend he's meeting my family, but just my parents and siblings. He's also invited me over to meet his family for a while on Easter, which i'm very excited about. \n\nHowever, I'm also going to be spending part of Easter with my extended family. Many of these relatives tend to be somewhat judgmental and disapproving of my relationships. Not the *people* I date, but how many people I've dated, and that I put these relationships on facebook (because \"people can see how many people you date, and might think you're promiscuous\"). I've had my fair share of relationships, but never more than 2 in one year. \n\nI originally wanted to hold off on talking about him until things got more serious, hoping that my family would take me more seriously. However, I also don't want to appear ashamed of him, or like I'm trying to hide him. I appriciate that he has been so open about me meeting his family, and want to be able to share my family with him too.", "summary": "My relatives are skeptical of how many people I've dated, which makes me hesitant to talk about the guy i'm seeing; would it be better to mention him now, or to hold off and see how things go?"}
{"id": "t3_1541s6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21m] am I too pushy or needy with expressing my emotions to my gf[22]", "post": "My gf[22] and I[21] have known each other for about 4 months, we hit it off as soon as we met and talk to each other all day everyday. We made it official last month, she's told me that her exes would never do anything nice for her or tell her how they felt about her.\n\nI try to tell her everyday how much she means to me and how much I care about her. She occasionally will tell me something nice in return. I wake up before her to go to work and will usually send her a nice text to start her day off with a smile. I really care about her and am falling for her, how do I know if she feels the same? Are the morning texts and telling her often how much I care about her getting old? What can I do to help this turn into a long term relationship?", "summary": "are my frequent texts expressing my feelings to my gf smothering her?"}
{"id": "t3_dwe2g", "subreddit": "self", "title": "A little help please?", "post": "So, I've been in a relationship with my (now ex) girlfriend for roughly 2.5 years and it just ended suddenly tonight. I guess it was because of a lot of stuff that's been building up throughout our relationship. It is long distance because I'm away at college so I definitely understand why things went sour. For clarification, I broke up with her. She was fairly controlling throughout our relationship and was also extremely clingy. I never really got any appreciation for the stuff I did for her and she is also an extremely jealous person. I'm the only person that she has to rely on when she needs someone and she expects me to be at her side at the drop of a hat. We had different views on a lot of things, including religion, marriage, and children, but we were extremely serious and considering engagement in the future. Fiscally, she wasn't really appropriate for me because she is a rather large spender while I prefer to save our money. Unfortunately, I would give in on these whims and now I don't really have much to show for working throughout my high school career. Although things haven't been that good for us when we are away from one another, they are typically really good when we are together. After breaking up with her, she told me that she was going to change everything that I dislike about her because she had figured all of this out already and was wanting to fix it before anything bad happened. I told her that it was a little too late because these problems have come up before and they were never fixed, but she insisted that she would keep trying she also said that she hopes that we can get back together some time in the future. I really don't know how to handle the situation, Reddit. Can you help me out? Do I stay friends with her? Do I give her another chance? Do I try to experience more of the college lifestyle and meet other girls and date them? Any advice you can offer is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend because of problems that have occurred throughout our 2.5 year relationship and are still occurring now after \"resolutions\". She says she'll fix it. Thoughts on what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1tsvpu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19M/F] with my ex [18M/F] of 3 years, She broke up with a wierd explanation.", "post": "Me[19M/F] with my ex [18M/F] of 3 years, She broke up, with a wierd explenation:\n\nHi reddit.\nMy now ex-gf brke up a month ago,with the explanation that she dosn't like me anymore.\n\nI spoke with her yesterday and she told me that nearly the last year we were together she didn't felt good, due to low self-esteem, caused by me not showing me feelings enough for her. She felt like she loved me more than i loved her.\n\nI agree with her that i have been very bad at showing me feelings, though they were there.\nNow she's very sad and had to go to the doctor, because she might have a depression.\n\ni still love her so much, and it hurts me so bad to know that i caused her so much pain, which could have been avoided. i wish the best for her.\n\nI told her i didnt knew she had it that way, and if i only knew how much she really needed to be confirmed, then i would have tried much more!\nShe agreed that she should had told me how she was, though she had been giving clues. I'm just so bad at seeing those clues and react to them, i kinda need them told directly to my face before i get it :(\n\nNow i want to show her that i really can make her feel like my princess, becuase i really think i can, just didnt knew how importent it was.\n\nShe says that she dont want to give me a second chance because ive allready broke her so much :(\n\nWhat should i do?", "summary": "Girlfriend dumps me because i didnt showed me feelings enough, now its all too late, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_11kn4y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just finished A Thousand Splendid Suns. The end kicked my ass. Reddit, what  moments in literature/film have overwhelmed you?", "post": "SPOILER ALERT: I loved A Thousand Splendid Suns. Read it in 3 days. It was a page turner, for sure. At the end, when she puts the tape in, and it's Pinocchio, and she has no idea why... I threw the book across the room and bawled like I haven't since my best friend died. I don't know why.. Everything came rushing back. I thought about where I'd been, where I'm going.. I thought about all the amazing people in the world who will be forgotten. I thought about how cruel I've been, and how selfish. I thought about how people in the world are suffering while I am sitting in America. I thought about too many things at once, and it took me a good 15 minutes to come down from that emotional high. Truly one of the greatest moments of my literary history.\n\nSo reddit... I'd like to know, what moments in literature, film, comics, tv, etc.. have had an emotional impact on you? Preferably something that you weren't expecting. Something simple, something complex, something obscure, something famous. I want to know, what are the most gut wrenching, heart warming, enlightening, wonderful, awful twists (yes, I said it) that human minds have ever conceived of. What's made your hair stand on end, your heart drop into your stomach, your eyes swell up, a lump form in your throat, choked you up, made you shout \"NO.\" The only think I ask of you is to put the title at the top so that if we haven't seen/read it, we know not to look at the comment.", "summary": "What twists/surprises in film/literature/video games (incl. tv, graphic novels, etc..) have shocked you and drawn out the most emotion?"}
{"id": "t3_eprtc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi Reddit. I said something inappropriate around my family. Please tell me what YOU said. HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH BEING BANISHED FROM THE FAMILY?", "post": "Tonight I was at dinner with my dad and step mom. My dad is way older than my step mom. \nI asked my step mom if she married my dad while she was in college or before she started college.\nMy brother replied for her and said \"while she was in elementary school\". As a joke and everyone laughed.\nI got excited because I...I'm lame and something inappropriate slipped out...\nAlong the lines of....my dad having a white van....hiding candy in it.....driving around schools....doing things....it got worse as I kept talking.\nI don't know what the hell is wrong with me. It's like I don't have a filter. I THOUGHT IT WAS FUNNY.\nAnyway, everyone just exchanged awkward glances and my brother said \"wow, sometimes you shouldn't be invited to dinner.\" \nAnd my step mom said I was \"disgusting\". \nI decided to just  be quiet the whole night and eat lots of cheesecake. I don't know if I could have said something to fix the situation.", "summary": "Please tell me what you said that was super awkward and retarded and how you dealt with the responses of your loved ones. Are you still allowed to come to dinner?"}
{"id": "t3_24pc6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weed brings out poisonous feelings in myself [21 F] and it's hurting my relationship with my [20 M] boyfriend", "post": "Background: We've been dating for 2.5 years and have lived together for 2 years. Everything is great and open when we're sober, but problems arise when we're not, specifically when I'm not. We are normally high together at the same time, as opposed to him being sober while I'm high.\n\nWhen I'm sober I'm a very loving and nurturing girlfriend. I care about my boyfriend deeply but for the past year when I smoke weed my actions don't seem to reflect that and it's becoming a cause for concern.\n\nStarting about a year ago, when I would smoke I would be VERY EASILY irritated. If my boyfriend would irritate me in some way this poisonous feeling would just wash over me (this is the best way to describe it, it's a certain feeling that I can objectively identify as THE ONE) and I would have to restrain myself from acting on my irritation. This feeling is very hard for me to control and it scares me. I have started pointless hurtful fights, and have hurt his feeling more than a few times. \n\nHe loves me more than anything and I love him too, so obviously I need consider cutting back or even quitting weed altogether since apparently it brings out the devil in me. Has anyone else had an issue similar to this? What does this say about me and my emotional health? I really am a content and loving person and girlfriend when I'm sober, and I don't feel as if I have repressed frustrations lurking beneath the surface. I just don't want to be hurtful anymore.", "summary": "Smoking weed creates a personal Jekyll and Hyde scenario and it is poisoning my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_k8lrr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I move back in with my boyfriend?", "post": "I'm a 22/F with a 23/M and we've been together for 2.5 years. Our relationship is loving and happy, and due to the fact that we live approximately 45 minutes away from each other (both living with our parents [embarrassing, but resources we're lucky to have]) have to restrict our visits to about 2 days a week. \n\nWe did the 2 days a week for a year and a half, then we got an apartment together for 6 months. When we lived together life was wonderful, and I couldn't ask for better. Due to various financial difficulties compounded by extreme family crises, we both moved back to our parents' homes until the crises were dealt with and we had enough saved up to move out again. The time to move out of my parents' house is coming up,  I'm unsure if when I move back out it should be with him.\n\nIt has always been extremely important to me that I live by myself for at least a year, at some (relatively early) point in my adult life. My mom drilled in to me that you must learn to be alone in order to function well within relationships, and I think at this point I would feel like I had missed out on something major if I didn't experience living on my own soon. \n\nI've talked about this with my boyfriend and he understands/encourages me to do what I need to do, but I don't want to move without him. So much of my relationship with him has been spent with strict limits on time that when the opportunity arises to live with him again I know I won't want to say \"No\". Plus, it just seems like a huge economic waste for us both to be paying for an apartment, Internet, etc. etc., when we could just be splitting the bill (our low incomes plays a role in my trepidation as well), when he moves to the same city I'm moving to.", "summary": "I want to live with my boyfriend, but will feel as though I missed out on a formative experience unless I live alone (soon)."}
{"id": "t3_18aqp7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do you ask a girl to be your girlfriend, as opposed to just asking her out?", "post": "I'm 17 and I've been good friends with this girl [18] in my class for a several months now. We hang out often, help each other with stuff, do a lot of things a couple would do. But it is clear between us that we are just friends. She is comfortable enough with me to be able to press up against me on the couch and stuff like that, but she kinda seems to do that with anybody (she has a \"I don't give a fuck\" personality).\n\nShe dislikes overly romantic stuff. Which is not to say she'd be against having a boyfriend, but she won't swoon just because I buy her flowers (if that makes sense). If we were in a relationship, I don't think either of us would really want to have to go out to dinner every Saturday or anything. I just want to be able to be more intimate and personal with her, and maybe go out to a movie or something every once in a while. We've talked about what we would want out of a boy/girlfriend, and we agreed it was pretty much that. Also Valentines day is coming up, which might be a chance for me to do something.\n\nI'm pretty confused right now, how I should go about things?", "summary": "Good friends with girl, how do I tell her I want to start a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5tpw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22F with my possible LDR 25M not showing up on promised times", "post": "So Ive been talking to this guy online since september, we live in different countrys but both in Europe.\nEver since we started talking I had a good vibe of it all, he is so kind, funny, talented and handsome. He told me he liked me and I told him how I felt about him.\n\nThen we started talking about meeting up this summer, or possibly earlier in january. We talk about once a week for 4 to 6 hours.\n\nI thought things were going so well, but now he didnt show up for our skype meeting last night and Im a bit worried.\nThis happend before, he is into gambling and drinking and smoking pot, but so am I. But it does get me upset whenever he tells me he will be there and he is not.\n\nThis has happend three times already but he had a really descent reason the first two times. So im still waiting for him to show up and tell me why he let me down yesterday.\n\nI dont know what to do now. I want to be able to trust him and travel to his country but I cannot trust him, if he cant even be on skype on a promised time.\n\nAlso he has no social media or a smartphone so its really hard to keep in contact with him. This whole thing is making me insecure and doubting this thing/relationship/crush.\n\nIs this a mayor red flag or is it just coincidence that there is something comming up all the time?\n\nAnd how do I tell him I cant deal with this and something has to change for me to keep this going, without sounding like Im nagging.", "summary": "guy I like didnt show up on promised time to skype for the third time."}
{"id": "t3_3wqr01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my 28M fiance of 5 years, really need to know if I'm overreacting about some stuff. He drives me bananas.", "post": "Hello hello\n\nMy (99.9% of the time) wonderful fiance can be kind of insensitive and I don't get it and might need some like minded males or females to explain to me his side.  \n\nEg 1 - going to have sex the other day, I was on top, and am large chested. I bent over him to hop on and he complimented my breasts and said they seemed really full, like udders or something. I immediately go wtf, like that's what I want to hear that will make me feel sexy before we do the deed. He laughs a lot to himself, said he didn't mean it that way, and that he just found them so sexy and that's the first thing that came to his head. \n\nThat and he constantly is touching my ass and saying how fat it is... in an obvious he is enjoying it way, but it still bothers me. When I'm pmsing he giggles that I'm a ravenous bovine if I am chompin on some chips or pizza or something. Like he literally calls me a ravenous bovine. And he doesn't see why I would be offended because he thinks it's cute.\n\nI have told him that these things bother me, and he apologizes and says he'll work on it, but that he honestly doesn't mean them in a negative way at all. I haven't put on weight, am in good shape, but like some/most/whatever women due to societal pressures am kinda sensitive about how I look, especially as I'm not a stick. So tell me: is he passive aggressively trying to put me down or is my idiot partner just incapable of using language that deems me as cute in his mind that isn't insulting?", "summary": "moo, I guess?"}
{"id": "t3_2cdrxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex (30/f) of 2 years and I (27/m) broke up a few months ago. I really do love her but she won't tell me she does.", "post": "I know I'm going to get some crappy replies to this but I'm sucking up and I'm going to take it on the chin. \n\nFor the past year, I used my ex as an emotional punchbag. I have been going through issues which have left myself emotionally unable to stop myself from saying things and blowing up out of proportion. I was recently diagnosed with bpd which I was worried about and basically, I used her as that emotional punchbag for a year before we split. \n\nI have since come to terms with the fact that I completely cocked up, pushed her away and used her for my problems. I have really felt bad about it and I have told her I love her. She doesn't say anything back but I know that when she hears it, she changes her attitude for the better. \n\nI really want to get back with her and put this behind us. I know there's something still there even if the chances are small. I would jump at the opportunity no matter how small to show that I have come to terms with who I am and what is wrong with me. I know if we can get over this, we'll be stronger than ever and ready to take on the world. She really is the love of my life. I know everyone says it but it's true. I've never loved someone as much as I \n\nAny advice on what to do would be much appreciated and how to approach, what seems to be, this thorny subject.", "summary": "really cocked up but want everything to be back to normal (before the aforementioned events) . Willing to do anything. Need a way to go. "}
{"id": "t3_kn2yy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What cards have drawn from Community Chest IRL?  I'll go first.", "post": "For those who don't know what ham radio is, it's basically boy-scouts for people interested in amateur radio.  Instead of merit badges, there are licenses, and there are only three:  Technician, General, and Amateur Extra.  Licenses are accredited by the FCC and give you privileges to operate radio equipment within FCC guidelines.  The licensing exams are administered by volunteers of the ARRL and test your knowledge of the FCC rules and regulations, and your technical understanding of radio operation and transmission.  Technician is the easiest,  Amateur Extra is the hardest.  \n\nRecently my buddy and I took the Technician class exam and passed.  :D\n\nAfter two months of waiting for my accreditation to show up in the FCC database, I find out that all the certification paperwork the proctor sent to the FCC got lost in the mail.  I contact the proctor, who apologies for the mishap and says he'll recreate the paperwork and send it off immediately.  This morning I got an email from him saying \n\n\"My candidate roster says you passed the Technician class exam, but that you also passed the General license exam.   Did you take the General license exam?   Did you pass?  I'm going to trust you on this one.\"\n\nA lot of people took the exam with me, so I'm sure the proctor didn't remember me.  Of course I corrected him and told him I had only passed the Technician class exam, but the first thing through my head was;  \"Bank Error In Your Favor.  Collect General License\".", "summary": "[this]("}
{"id": "t3_2duxo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my Boyfriend [26 M] 8 months, my sex drive is bigger than his", "post": "I've been dating Boyfriend for about 8 months, and this isn't a huge problem or a deal breaker. I love him a lot and we have plans on marrying when I'm done with university. Unfortunately, this has been a problem for a long while now, and it's really been getting troublesome these past couple days.\n\nSee, the more time goes on, the more sex I want to have with him. I see sex as one of the few ways that I feel close to him. For him, though, sex is just an extra thing to do with the person he loves. Which is fine, except that there are days when he's just too tired to do things. And while I respect that, those also happen to be the days where I see him the least, which makes me want to feel close to him even more. It hurts to be turned down, and it hurts him to hurt me, and it hurts me to hurt him, so on and so forth. While its only been this difficult these past couple of days, we both agree that this is kind of a problem that should be resolved sooner rather than be held off.\n\nMy position is to change, and that it's my own problem that I have to deal with. He doesn't think I should, though, and that there's some middle ground that we can reach that works. I'm really not sure what to do. Masturbation doesn't really work, and forcing him to put out is not an option.", "summary": "I crave sex when my boyfriend can't put out, and we both feel bad about it. Not sure whether I should change how I am, or if there's a middle ground."}
{"id": "t3_ycj06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24f] and I [21m] feel differently about how personal the topic of sex is", "post": "This is a bit of a strange issue, but here goes. \n\nOur relationship is a little over 2.5 years. We have had plenty of sex and discuss it often between us.\n\nI find sex to be very personal and am somewhat reserved about it. I have a relatively high sex drive, but only in the bedroom. Outside of that, I really do not like talking about sex, discussing sex, joking about it, comparing it, etc., etc.\n\nOn the opposite side of the spectrum, she doesn't really find sex all that important or taboo. Her sex drive is a little low, yet she doesn't mind talking about it with friends, joking and just relating with others.\n\nThe sex drive isn't really an issue -- we have found a good balance for us. It's the latter aspect, which is how open we are to discuss it with others, that bothers me. We have a group of mutual friends that we hang out with often, and the members are all pretty open about sex, including my girlfriend, and they will joke and compare, but not me. It just makes me uncomfortable and I often get quiet or try to change the subject.\n\nI think part of the issue is that I feel inadequate, almost like I'm still a virgin, because she's the only partner I've ever had. She has slightly more experience, by which I mean only 1 prior boyfriend. To be quite honest, I get severe anxiety just /thinking/ about her being with any guy, at any point in time ever, other than me.\n\n(Which I shouldn't, because she has hardly done anything; that relationship was short and abusive, she has almost PTSD-like symptoms thinking about it, and says it means nothing to her and she regrets it. The majority of her experiences, and 100% of the *positive* experiences, have been with me.) \n\nI still feel below her in \"rank\", like I should have more experience and stories than her as well as my friends. I feel inadequate, inexperienced and weak. \n\nIt's an insecurity thing I need to get over because it's putting a bit of a strain between my girlfriend and I, and to a lesser extent, our friends. What can I do?", "summary": "I'm a bit insecure -- discussing sex, sexual experiences or joking about sex outside of the bedroom gives me anxiety and makes me very uncomfortable. Puts a bit of strain on my relationship and group of friends. I want to feel more comfortable doing so."}
{"id": "t3_1qvz53", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf [23] doesn't speak of his childhood, but I[f22] know he's traumatized.", "post": "We were friends for 10 years, before we got together. He than told me once about his terrible childhood. (He told only 3 of his friends his story)\n\nNow we're a couple for quite a few months and well, sometimes there's stuff I know that reminds him of his childhood, but it's like he's forgotten that he had told me. So he keeps pretending that nothing happened.\n\nSome examples\nLately we were watching an old TVshow, that every child watched when we're young, like Sesamestreet, and he couldn't remember a thing. (Which I think is because he forced himself to forget everything.)\nHe likes christmas, but only the food, not the stuff with Santa, and he hates to get presents. (Which is the thing childs like the most about christmas.)\nAnd stuff like watching TVshows about raising children. We talk about how we're going to raise ours in the future and that we won't will be as horrible as the parents on TV. (But striking, the things he thinks are important are always the things his parents should have done, to save him from the traumatizing stuff.)\n\nI know he likes to put his problems far away. But on the other hand, I'm his girlfriend now and we're pretty serious, isn't it good to speak about it maybe just once, so he knows I know his secret/won't tell, and most of all, I'm always there for him?\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "My bf doesn't speak of his childhood, but I know he's traumatized and I can see it troubles him"}
{"id": "t3_232o9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21] of 2 years wants to get blackout drunk at parties, I [M 23] am not comfortable with this.", "post": "Hey everyone, my girlfriend doesn't go out a lot but when she does start drinking she has a hard time stopping and goes too far and gets black out drunk. She has promised me on multiple occasions that she wasn't going to over do it with the drinking but still drank way too much. As her boyfriend, I feel uncomfortable when she is that intoxicated around other guys because she is vulnerable and her friends have proven in the past that they don't look out for her if she gets into a bad situation. \n\nAm I being a crazy, over protective boyfriend for not wanting her to get so drunk at parties, concerts, etc.? What could be a solution that is fair to her?", "summary": "Girlfriend gets too drunk at parties and it makes me uncomfortable. How can I solve this problem while still being fair to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3z7i7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] and my boyfriend [ 21/M], my boyfriend prefers anime girl over me", "post": "We are together for 2 years, currently living together so we can pay the rent. But for the past 2 months, our relationship is doing pretty bad. We are not talking to each other that much, he is spending all of his free time on computer, i am usually studying or hanging out with friends. Our last sex was 2 months ago.\n\n He was always kind of weeb/nerd but right now i am feeling it got pretty out of control. He is, and always was a fine guy to spend time with and someone who i can talk to, the -50% rent helped both of us a lot. But i am feeling pretty sad about our situation right now. \n\nHis wallpaper on pc is one anime girl, thats pretty normal, but the same girl is a wallpaper on his phone too, he even has some figures of the ONE SAME ANIME GIRL. I talked to him about this and he told me that he loves her.\n\n...... wow\n\nI googled up the name and she is 14 years old, flat chested of course.\n\nI pretended that nothing happened, not like he would care anyway. \n\nI am not sure i want to leave him, he is still pretty reliable, listening person, but this creeps me out little bit.", "summary": "my boyfriend is obsessed with one anime chick and this is not a fight i want to start because its pretty absurd, last 2 months our relationship is struggling a lot, need advice what to do next because i dont want to keep it this way forever."}
{"id": "t3_2ozphe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20 F] talk to little kids?", "post": "So I just found out my sister-in-law is pregnant for the second time. Her first kid, my adorable niece, is now six years old. She's learning so much and so fast, and she's growing to be quite an intelligent and sassy kid. I love talking to her and I'm so happy that she's finally reached an age that both of us can really understand each other and have conversations. I love knowing what's going on inside her head, she's such a fascinating little person. As much as I do love her, though, I feel like the infrequent visits we had before were awkward at times because I was never quite sure how to talk to her. \n\nI've never really been around babies or little kids. Extended family lives across the country, I'm the baby in the family, most of my friends didn't have young siblings. So I really haven't spent a lot of time around little kids, and I've never learned how to communicate with them. My niece has always been quite shy, especially if it's been a long time since we've seen each other. She wasn't always the most talkative kid even with other family members. However, she would often ignore questions or statements because she didn't seem to know how to respond, and sometimes I wasn't sure that she understood me. I wasn't sure how to phrase things in a way that would make it easier for her. Meanwhile other family members could communicate with her fairly easily, although they often had to phrase things several different ways to help her understand. I was never sure exactly what it was they were doing that made it work for her, though. \n\nSo yeah. Now that my SIL is having another baby, I think it's time I learned how to communicate with little kids. Do you have any advice or tips?", "summary": "Sister-in-law is pregnant again, want to know how to talk to little kids"}
{"id": "t3_2atpt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 F) had a MissCarriage with my (25 M) BF a year ago, I feel EMPTY and, I want to try to have a baby. he doesn't. Advice?", "post": "When i was 16 i had an abortion with my ex boyfriend. \nliving with guilt, \ntwo years later my boyfriend (23 M) and i (18 F) (being together for a year or so) at the time ended up being pregnant.\nAt first he wanted to have an abortion. \nI could not live with myself if i would have agreed to do so.\n2 months pass by and we have never been so in love. it was the holiday season and on christmas eve i began to bleed. i went to the ER and the doctors told me everything was fine and sent me home. (i saw a sonogram that day) Also that day he was not present due to being at work,\nthe day after christmas, i misscarried.\ni have never felt so empty in my life.\ni am sad whenever i see a baby, or an infant \nI want to have a child, but whenever i tell him he just says \"not right now\" or \"maybe when i'm 30\"\nwe have been together for about 2.5 years now. But this may be a deal breaker for me because of how i feel and how much i love him and want him to have my children.", "summary": "Me and my boyfriend had a misscarriage 1.5 years ago, i want to try again, he doesn't. might be a deal breaker later on."}
{"id": "t3_3mibbl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mocking a Pterodactyl at the gas station", "post": "This just happened about 5 minutes ago as I was grabbing beer. I stop by the corner gas station to get supplies for a tailgate and as I walk in the door I hear this loud squawking sound, comparable to a baby pterodactyl. I walk by the register to get to to alcohol area and I see the cashier scan an item and that noise happens again, so I just figure it's one of those alerts to confirm an item has been scanned.\n\nI go grab my beer and walk towards the register and hear the sound again, I'm starting to legit think there's a parrot in the gas station or some animal behind the counter.\n\nI get to the front of the line and I'm looking down towards my phone and the noise happens again, so I just felt the need to mock it as its been going on since I got in. \n\nThe cashier looks at me and goes \"that's offensive\" and I look back at her with a completely confused look. So while I am confused as to why it's offensive I ask if there's an animal behind the counter. The lady just looks at me and explains that she has Tourette's. She explained how it was a result of a heart condition which is why she makes that noise, which she said originates from her chest area.  I immediately felt like an idiot and say sorry that I am so sorry and I had no idea. I pay for my stuff and walk out feeling like an idiot.", "summary": "Accidentally mocked an animal but it was actually someone who had Tourette's."}
{"id": "t3_jr1wr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Questions about creating a resume with little job experience", "post": "So, I'm a (very) broke college student in my early 20s with little job experience. Life is hard in NYC when you're broke, need to eat and pay rent, and jobs here require a minimum of at least 1 year experience. It's nearing the end of my college career, and I feel like I've barely accomplished much. I've mainly been subsisting on loans and what little my parents can offer me, but it's getting to the point that I feel guilty about taking it and being so lazy. \n\nIn all honesty, I've never put together a resume because any of the jobs I've had were a couple years ago and aren't really relevant to jobs in NYC (ex. gardening from when I used to live on Long Island). I have no idea where to start, and feel pretty dejected when even minimum wage jobs here require experience. Additionally, my class schedule interferes with getting a job other than 2 days a week. I know that most people say to just lie, or find connections with people you know, but I don't even know that many people...\n\nThe jobs that don't really require experience still require a resume, and I feel silly putting such little experience on it, especially since it's from a while ago. I feel that that, then puts a lot of pressure on my personality, and I've been in a depressed slump for a while. I'm shy, and don't generally feel confident around others. But I know getting out there and doing something would help me a lot (especially finally feeling comfortable with some money in my bank account).\n\nI would like to take on an internship for the experience relevant to my major (English), but that offers no money to my broke-assedness. I'll pretty much take on whatever I can, short of fast food places (yeah, yeah..beggars can't be choosers, i know). In the meantime, I'm trying to get a work-study job in my college library.\n\nI'm not too sure if there is a better place to post this question, but I'm looking for your suggestions!", "summary": "help me get a job and feel like a responsible adult for once!"}
{"id": "t3_2q81ki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M] thinking about breaking things off with the girl I'm dating [20 F] am I wrong about her?", "post": "So we've been dating about 2 months now, I really liked her at first but I asked her where tings were going a few weeks ago and she said she didn't want to define the relationship and she wanted to take things slow but that I was the only guy she was going to talk to or anything like that (has been verified and I trust her there). \n\nFast forward 2 weeks to the end of the semester and she didn't even make an effort to see me before we left on that friday after exams. We hadn't seen each other since the Sunday then. That kind of hurt my feelings as I expressed I really did want to see her. She said she was busy with her roommates. \n\nShe goes on a week long trip and texts me a day after she gets back. Says she's told her friends at home about me and they think I'm cute and she's told her family about me too. As you can tell this seems to be counter to how shes acted. \n\nThen I asked her if she wanted to go to a Thunder (NBA) game on the 23rd and she said \"probably not, I don't really like basketball\"\n\npoint is, I'm probably going to break things off because it feels like she's been really selfish and she honestly doesn't give a damn about me and if I emotionally invest any more I feel like I'll just be setting myself up to be taken advantage of.", "summary": "Should I break up with someone who says they want to date me and has already told friends/family about me but her actions don't reflect that? Or should I give it some more time and I'm just trying to move too fast?"}
{"id": "t3_4pfr52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28F) with my (32F) sister. She has been struggling to get pregnant for well over a year. My husband and I started trying and I'm pregnant within the month. How can I approach this with sensitivity without overthinking everything?", "post": "Hi reddit! I've created this new account for anonymity. \n\nMy sister and I have a good relationship despite living half way around the world from one another. I recently found out I was pregnant and figured I shouldn't overthink it and just tell her as I would have told her in the past (before knowing about her visits with fertility doctors etc). She responded very sweetly and is texting me asking several excited questions and there doesn't seem to be any weirdness at all. She seems genuinely thrilled that I'm going to be a mum!\n\nHowever, I'm still a little worried and overthinking things in my head. I am worried that deep down she is sad and how I should best respect her feelings without making it an issue. The fertility issues she is having would have stayed between her and her husband had it not been for an awkward visit with my mother. My mum visited her (my parents also live in a different country.) and she had to tell my mum because there were so many secret appointments etc. My mum is not the most tactful person and rather than understand it was a private issue just got incredibly excited they were trying, to the point that when she left their house she left a note and candles in their bedroom wishing them luck. Cringe. So my sister and I have been bonding over how cheesy our mum is being.\n\nI'm looking for advice on how to go forward. Should I just pretend that everything is normal and follow her cues? Should I be more sensitive about the subject because of what she is going through?\n\nI can't help but feel guilty. I wasn't going to share with her how long we were trying but when she asked I couldn't lie to her. I feel awful that I got to tell the family happy news before she could. I feel guilty as a little sister to be pregnant before my big sister who deserves it so much. I started trying because it's the right time in my life but I was prepared for it to take much longer! I can't help but wish I had waited a little longer until she could have her moment.", "summary": "My big sister has been trying to get pregnant for a long time. I started trying with my husband and I am pregnant almost immediately. I want to approach the subject with sensitivity but without overthinking."}
{"id": "t3_3138pp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "A friend from my old high school asked me to prom, but I really would rather not go.", "post": "I'm a freshman in college and a friend of mine texted me last week and asked if I would be her back up date to her senior prom. I explained that I would be getting my wisdom teeth out at the end of May, and I very well may not be able to go so I can't promise anything, so I would have to be her backup.\n\nHowever, a guy in her grade asked her and she really didn't want to go with him, so she made up this story about how she was trying to work something out with a guy from the next town over, but I was her back up in case it didn't \n\nShe asked me if I would be cool going with her because if she went with someone else from her grade it would look bad. What should I say to her? I actually might be getting my wisdom teeth out during that time so I don't know. I don't want to leave her hanging but I've been to six proms and I think I've had my fill.", "summary": "A friend of mine asked me to go to prom with her and to spare someone else's feelings, she asked me to go with her, but I don't want to. What should I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_53wwzs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why the hell is she [17f] telling my [17m] best friend [17m] this? This is a bit of a dilemma (for a variety of reasons. PLEASE HELP!", "post": "So this girl and I have been talking for almost two months, and things have been going great - we have a lot of things in common, we've really hit it off, and we've both expressed strong interest through mutual friends. We've also talked about our interest in each other briefly. However, we haven't really defined the relationship. Her and I talk every day, and we talk on the phone every few days. \n\nEvery once in a while, my best friend (who happens to be a first-cousin, so we're more like brothers, with how close we are) texts with her to chat. So... today she sent really fucking weird text:\n\nHer: Wanna hear a gross, but kinda funny story? \nBest friend: Sure\nHer: 'Kay, but no judging *lauging emoji*\n\nShe then proceeds to tell him this story about how she started her period today, and she didn't realize it until she went for school. So long story short, she bled through her leggings and had to borrow clothes from her friend. \n\nSo... I mean, that would be an understandable thing to tell her best (girl) friends, but why the hell would she tell my best friend? Who happens to be a guy, by the way. I don't know, it's just really, really, really weird. I like her a lot, but seriously, why the hell would she tell him that? And for those wondering, no, I don't think she's trying to get with him - he has a girlfriend, she knows he has one, and he was one of the people she told about her feelings for me.", "summary": "mutual crush told my best friend a really weird personal hygiene story, and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_4ol1pf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by water skiing and tubing all weekend", "post": "I spent the whole weekend at my buddy's lake house with a few friends, most of which was out on the boat. Now, this was my first time at a lake house and doing all these cool lake house things. I was dying to wakeboard/water ski since I am big into skateboarding and longboarding. I assumed that I'd pick it up pretty quickly considering my experience in other balance related activities. And what do you know, I did pretty well. We took turns on the skis and also battled it out on tubes as well. \nHowever the fuck up comes in this entire week because I did *not* take into account the muscle strength it takes to hold on for your fucking life when being dragged behind a boat like that. And we were out there all damn day. So I've barely had the muscle strength in my forearms to grip just about anything. Opening the fridge? Nope, grabbing my backpack? Fucking nope. Anything requiring flexing my fingers? Absolutely not. It's been almost a week and it's finally getting to the point where I can function normally again.", "summary": "I water skied and tubed behind a boat all weekend and spent the next week in writhing pain whenever I try to grip something."}
{"id": "t3_1l24i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33M] Have Allowed Negative Dating Experiences to Turn Me Away from Love", "post": "Part of the problem I think has been my reliance on the Internet for meeting people since the age of 17. I've met women who lied about their identity, people they're sleeping with, etc. I'm not the type of guy who randomly approaches women in public. I don't see it as an effective and constructive use of my time considering the effort and money required which I can put toward better things.\n\nMy last two exes cheated and I was definitely surprised by the last one. While I wasn't \"madly in love\", my life still fell apart after learning about her infidelity and it weighed heavily on me. A year later, I'm about over it, but the damage of leaving my career, losing my place, etc. have already had their toll.\n\nSometime, I wonder if I just missed something on dealing with women. While there is still some desire in the back of my mind for something meaningful in the future, my fear is that I will never meet someone who simply wants to be with only me. Frankly, at this point in my life, a relationship isn't even high on my list of priorities.\n\nWhy keep doing something that isn't working? And friends tell me that there is someone out there for me. Who the hell knows.", "summary": "A confused guy on dating doesn't know what his future holds with women"}
{"id": "t3_1n6veb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "One Year Ago, 103lbs Later", "post": "One year ago I thought I was having a heart attack.  I thought at 32 I was going to die and leave my husband, daughter and family behind because of my selfish and lazy ways.  It wasn't one after all, but it was my wake up call. Now, one year later, I've lost over 100lbs (103 to be exact) and I've changed my perspective on life.  I just wanted to say thank you to everyone on /r/loseit who have supported me along the way. \n\n**A little background from previous posts:** \n\n* [Half Way Mark](\n* [Reached -100lbs](\n\n**What I did to get here:** \n\nI counted calories.  Everyday.  Good.  Or Bad.  I had my ups and downs, but I didn't give up.  When I lost motivation I came back here to /r/loseit or to myfitnesspal and looked at all of the amazing accomplishments others had achieved.  I challenged myself either through running to finish C25K, completing the Insanity workout program, being able to hold a plank for a minute, anything to keep me moving and learning more and more how strong I really am.  \n\nAfter starting this journey to get healthy, I came across a quote on here that has really stuck with me.  \"A year from now you will wish you had started today.\"  I come back to that quote a lot because a year ago I never would have imagined ALL of the changes I could make, but here I am.  \n\n**And now for the pictures and stats:** \n\n* F/33/5'9\"\n* Starting Weight: 317lbs\n* Current Weight: 214lbs\n* Went from plus size 24/26 to regular 14/16\n* Lost 10 inches around my waist\n\n[**PROGRESS PICTURES**]  \n\nMy goal is to get to a weight of 175lbs and see how I feel for a total weight loss of 142lbs.  I'm also working on completing the Focus T25 workout program.", "summary": "Lost 100lbs in 1 year and made a healthier, stronger version of myself."}
{"id": "t3_cib12", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "friend zone: not sure if the girl i like has attraction to me", "post": "His, \n\nI have known that girl for over 3 years and it's only a year ago that I understood that I am very attracted to her, more than just a friend. In the meantime she has gotten a boyfriend and i really don't know how to act now. \n\nWhat worsens things is that I am pretty shy and nerdy, and since more reactive than initiative. She is the type of girl though who expects initiative in a relationship. \n\nI told her about my feelings and we have never touched this theme since. The furtherst we've gone physically is holding each other's hands and hugging but I am not sure if it's more a courtesy of friendship. She did mention that she is not that much satisfied with her current relationship, though she tries avoiding exclusive hang-outs with me inviting others because \"it's more fun\".\n\nI am not sure what would be the best way to go now. Most of all I want to  know if she has some deeper feelings to me. The reason is that I would hate ruining our friendship by pushing too far. But how could I find it out, revealing it in a conversation is not an option since it would be too selfish and I guess she is equally unsure about my intentions. And I think that staying by friends and seeing what happens   I will just be locked in the friend zone.", "summary": "i have feelings for my friend who has a boyfriend. how to find out her feelings towards me without ruining our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_3raa4f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31 F] husband [29 M] married under one year, has decided to quit chewing tobacco and drinking, and I don't know how to support him.", "post": "He [29] has been alcohol and tobacco free for a little over one month and I [31/f] believe he has a major chemical imbalance in his brain, because since quitting, he has become depressed, can find no fun in anything, he has become antisocial, angry, argumentative, and is just not the person I married [under one year]. I married a kind, non selfish, motivated man, and now he is the exact opposite, in just a little over one month. \n\nI have suggested he get on a medication to help him with his tobacco cravings and restore a healthy chemical balance but he refuses. Everything I suggest, he refuses, then goes on to tell me how much he hates his life...which only makes me feel like I am nothing to him. \n\nWe have a wonderful life, beachfront property that is ours outright, we are homesteading in the wilderness, which takes a lot of motivation and things around here are starting to go undone, and I am starting to feel like the nagging wife whenever I ask him to do anything, like bucking up a log for firewood, or other things. I cant do this by myself and he is quitting. \n\nI have had endless conversations about this with him, but his answer is just, \"I just want some tobacco, and I don't want to do anything.\"\n\nSome days he is fine, but most, he is not. I feel like this is destroying our relationship.", "summary": "My husband quit tobacco and is falling apart emotionally, how can I help him?"}
{"id": "t3_333w6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] new next door neighbour's kid [10M] is driving me INSANE with his screaming, temper tantrums and swearing.", "post": "Hi /r/relationships! \n\nMy next door neighbours moved in about a month ago. They have two older teenage kids and a 10 year old son. When I went to meet them when they moved in, they seemed like a nice family, with hardworking parents and smiling kids. \n\nBut...this positive view of them is hard to keep up when I can hear the boy yelling every. Single. Day. And not just a little bit, this kid screams and swears at the top of his lungs for two hours and sometimes more. It's generally about really stupid stuff too, like \"I'M HUNGRY!\" I can hear it from all corners of the house but it's loudest from the bedroom I share with my 17 year old sister. It also makes me uncomfortable, hearing all this swearing.\n\nI have anxiety, and my hardcore university workload coupled with these tantrums are not helping at all. My sister also has anxiety and is having a hard time focusing on studying for her major exams. My parents have heard these tantrums, but they do not hear the full extent as I am home more often than them and my bedroom is closer to the screaming than their room.\n\nI have been blasting music, white noise, closing blinds, everything to keep this noise to a minimum, but I honestly don't know how much more I can handle. I'm having trouble sleeping and focusing, and I jump every time I hear this boy scream. I was wondering how I could bring this up with my parents, and maybe even the neighbours (though I doubt they'd listen to a silly teenage girl).", "summary": "My next door neighbour's kid is extremely loud and has daily swear-laden, ear-piercing tantrums that go for hours. My sister's and my study and mental wellbeing are struggling and I want to find a way to bring this up with my parents."}
{"id": "t3_4krcrj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it normal that we haven't had a fight? I'm [19/f] and he's [23/m]", "post": "Hi guys. I'm currently in an LDR with a really amazing guy. It's pretty fresh, although we've known each other for over a year. We started dating at the beginning of this year, so we've been together 4-5 months give or take. I realize it's fresh and all, and maybe I just need to give it time, but we haven't had a single argument, fight, or disagreement. I mean, it's not that I *want* one, it's just that I find it odd.\n\nIs it normal? I know everyone says arguing in relationships is completely normal, some people say it's abnormal to *not* fight, but we just haven't. We're both pretty mature and rational, we're both kinda loners and don't do much besides working and talking to each other, and we have quite a lot in common, so I guess there really isn't any reason for us *to* fight but I just feel like it's kinda weird.", "summary": "in the 4-5 months we've been together my bf and I haven't had a single fight or argument or anything, and I'm curious as to if it means anything other than we have a pretty chill relationship"}
{"id": "t3_318tb4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP my friend by grounding him", "post": "The Background:\nYou read it right, I didn't get him grounded, I actually grounded him. This particular friend has really strict parents, especially when it comes to grades, and they only allow him to have a B in one class, with everything else being A's, or they ground him.\nEvents Leading to the Prank:\nNow, I don't usually pull any pranks, but he knocked a full, heavy water bottle onto my shoeless foot (by accident). I demanded an apology, and when he refused, I vowed to prank this hooligan.\nThe Setup:\nI got another friend to get his phone (he has a really shit slide phone, but that has nothing to do with anything) and give it to me. Then, like a government hacker, I set to work trying to figure out how the fuck that not-smartphone worked. I managed to switch his mother's contact to my name (now you see where this is going) but he got the phone back before I could put my number under his mom's name! This was all going on at the beginning of class, and when class started I didn't know how I would finish the prank. But the April Fool must have smiled upon me, because lo and behold, a fire drill saved the day! Turns out that some other kids had taken his phone since he had gotten it back from me, so I told them I was pranking him, and they gave me the phone to finish my work. I finally finished and the phone was returned to him.\nThe Execution:\nYou can probably guess what happened next. As his mom (more like his dictator) I texted him and said that his grade in chemistry had gone down to a B due to a test which he thought he did badly on, and that he could forget about doing anything over spring break. I had him going for a good while, until he got a text from me (actually his mom) telling him he had to pay for his broken retainer and that she would be picking him up soon. I guess he pieced it together then, and when he cursed me out over text, I knew it was over because he would never curse at his supreme leader. Prank successful, imo", "summary": "I pranked my friend by putting my number under his moms contact and grounded him for spring break. He figured it out when his mom texted him under my name."}
{"id": "t3_2222em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] am breaking up with my [17/F] Girlfriend of two years tomorrow. I am doing it drunk. Bad idea?", "post": "I am in my 5th year of secondary school, and my girlfriend is in her 3rd. We have been in a relationship for two years as of last Thursday and I've had enough. I won't go into detail but this relationship has become incredibly taxing over the last two months. I've made up my mind, I need to end the relationship.\n\nThe problem is, I have a terribly guilty conscience and I deeply care about my girlfriend. I've tried to break up with her multiple times and I've felt like throwing up every time because I've felt to bad. I just cannot rationalize breaking her heart, even if I know it's what I need to do.\n\nI've been thinking that I would put a couple shots of vodka in a flask and meet her at the park. On the way to meet her I'll chug the flask and hopefully this will numb the pain for me.\n\nIs this a bad idea? I'm really not an obvious drunk so she won't know, but will this even help? Am I a bad person for doing this?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Is it a bad idea to get drunk to numb the pain of ending my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1bccz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When his best friends are your best friends.", "post": "I am a second year college female (20 years old) and have been with this guy for around 6 months. I know that is not a long time by any means, and I'm not about to say I'm in love, but I would like to keep him around.\n\nI never saw myself dating in college as I am more focused on my future and just experiencing everything that this school has to offer. I don't expect to hear from him everyday, I don't need to know where he is all the time, I don't expect fancy dinners, I am pretty self-sufficient. But I find that lately we only ever hang out with him and his best friends. Now I am not complaining, his best friends has very quickly become my best friends. \n\nThe issue I am seeming to have is that his best friends treat me more like a girlfriend than he does. What I mean is that we have a very sarcastic relationship, we joke with each other all the time, and I am fine with that because I know he is joking, but when his friends say nicer things to me, hold doors open, include me in things that they do and ask me how I'm doing more than he does.\n\nI'm worried that over the summer when we don't get to see each other all the time that this might start to get to me. My question to you is have you experienced this? Shouldn't he be my best friend instead of his friends taking on that role? And if so, should I bring it up to him or I am perhaps a little annoyed when I shouldn't be?", "summary": "Is it okay for me to be upset when it seems like his friends care more than he does?"}
{"id": "t3_53fxiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BF [27M] 3 months, sometimes guys hit on me in front of my BF and insult him in the process. How to react in the moment and afterwards?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nSorry if this isn't the right place for this. I think I saw a thread with a similar question but I can't seem to find it now so any advice is appreciated.\n\nI started seeing my BF about 3 months ago and he is really incredible. He's witty and kind and I find him incredibly, incredibly handsome and dashing. I think I'm a fairly average looking woman and get hit on from time to time, but I've noticed that it has gotten more aggressive or nasty with my boyfriend around? When a guy hits on me, I'll usually just say thank you but I'm not interested or I have a boyfriend. If my boyfriend is there with me, some guys will give him a full once over and say something along the lines of \"This guy?\" or \"You're outta his league\" or \"I could show you a better time\". Something completely disrespectful to my bf. I don't know where it's coming and he doesn't usually react. I'm not the most confident person so I'll usually just say that was rude or ignore it, but I want to know how I could react or what I could do to reassure my bf in those times. I know if it were me, I'd probably be a bit self conscious or upset but he hasn't said anything. I've tried to bring it up but he brushes it off like it isn't a big deal and maybe it isn't. I don't want to make it seem like a big deal if he's actually not upset, but I also want to make sure he's feeling good about us after this.\n\nSorry for the rambling! So people of reddit, I'm just wondering how you would like your SO to respond to those guys or what you'd like him/her to do afterwards or say to make you feel secure in the relationship.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Guys hit on me in front of bf and insult him in the process. How to react/respond and reassure bf that he's my jam!"}
{"id": "t3_jzvoq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what super-small, effortless act of kindness from a stranger has helped you out hugely? I'll start. Kinda.", "post": "Last night I was biking home from the grocery store with a paper bag full of delicious groceries and - of course - the handles broke off and the bag ripped. I shouted, \"FUCK!\" and picked up my groceries and put them back in the torn-open bag, which was now nigh-on useless. And now, getting my bag of groceries home is going to be tricky.\n\nBut wait! From the house across the street, a young woman reached into the back seat of her car, pulled out another paper bag, came over and gave it to me, and the next twenty minutes of my ride were once again smooth and effortless! So little effort to make me happy! Ahh, thank you, Stranger!\n\nActually, that's not what happened. That was me daydreaming. I ended up in an awkward, one-armed hug with a fist around a cumbersome bag of chips, pasta and pesto for almost a half hour. And I thought about Reddit all the way home.", "summary": "My fucking *chips,* Reddit. \u0ca0\\_\u0ca0"}
{"id": "t3_3nj93z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] feel like I deserved to get hit by my dad.", "post": "First off, I'm on mobile so sorry for any errors.\n\n I've been dating my current boyfriend for 3 and a half years and things are going great between us. We're both seniors in college and we're just honestly so excited to see what life has in store for the both of us. But I'll just admit this here: I've been sneaking him in so we can spend alone time with each other. My parents didn't know any of this was happening until my dad came home super early from work Friday and caught us. I was in the shower while my boyfriend was in my room, which is downstairs. I opened the window and made him hop my fence before my dad could see him. Needless to say, my dad and my mom have been very disappointed in me (for good reason) but my dad built up his anger against me and let it all go today. When he drove us home from the baby shower my sisters and I went to, he yelled at me for not picking up my phone whe he called it. My excuse  (albeit a bad one I admit) was that I was helping my aunt and the rest of my family clean up their apartment's party room after the baby shower and I couldn't feel my phone vibrate. When we got home, he made faces at me (like he always does when he's angry at someone) he then asked me who came over Friday. I told him that it was a guy. He asked more questions like how long has this been going on, and why did he leave without seeing him. I answered him like \"a while now\" and \"because I was scared about what you would say\". I was crying a little at this point because I was just so scared of him and thats when he lunged at me with his fist. Thankfully my mom came just in time and I told her what happened.\n\nI understand I did something wrong and I really should have told my dad I was dating someone. Because of all these lies and shit I said and done I feel like I really deserved to get punched. I'm also really scared now and I just don't know what to do from here.", "summary": "Dad caught me sneaking in my bf of 3.5 years, bottled in his anger until today, tried to punch me but feel like I deserved it. I'm scared to deal with him right now. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1xr4b1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Finally broke the compulsive eating cycle", "post": "I've been struggling for some time with compulsive overeating habits. I've been sticking to a reasonable 1,700 calorie diet over the last 5 weeks with the aim of making a lifestyle change and hoping that, as a result, my weight would drop too. This morning I finally stepped on the scale and saw I was worthy of my first flair (after 5 weeks) yay!\n\nBut then I had a crappy day at work, ate too much for lunch and on the way home all I could think about was a giant, comforting meal of  pizza, or french fries, or mac and cheese, or Chinese food, or anything fatty and greasy. When I got home, my roommate even asked if I wanted to order dinner later and I initially said yes. Then I thought long and hard about what I really wanted. I wanted something that made me feel cozy and comforted, that was warm and rich. So I changed into my favorite pjs, fired up the kettle, made myself a giant mug filled with chicken broth, and curled up in bed. As I sipped the broth, my bad mood passed, I felt satisfied, and no longer wanted take out or crappy food. I made myself a giant salad for dinner instead.", "summary": "When cravings hit, think about what the food you're craving really represents. Have a healthy option (food or otherwise) on hand that can fulfill the same purpose."}
{"id": "t3_xy4au", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am in the financial and insurance industry, but is looking to go back to school to become a vet.  Any suggessions?", "post": "I'm not 100% sure if I have what it takes to make this huge change, but I feel like being a Veternarian is something I really want to do in life.  \n     A bit of background. I'm currently 24, graduated with a finance degree 3 years ago. I'm currently a financial rep focusing on selling insurance.  Even though I don't hate my job I feel like it doesn't fit my personality.  But I stuck with it for a while because I don't like to quit easily. The idea of becoming a vet happened when a chinchilla of mine \npassed because I didn't take it to the vet in time, and I really love \nanimals. People tell me I'm a warm person and great with kids and \nanimals. I feel like this is something I came up with myself and not what other want me to be.\n     So back to reality, I did a tiny bit of research on this. The closest grad school that has this program is Cornell university (I'm located in NY) I'd probably need to do an undergrad in science or medical field.  I'm a little unsure of 8 more years of school, but I guess if there's no other choice.  Another concern is money, I only have about 10k in bank, I cannot touch my retirement and life insurance money. I'm not sure if I can qualify for any federal grant. I may also need to move back with my parents. One idea I have is to just brokage product with high residuals while I wait to get into a school. I'll also appraciate any insight and experiences from a vet or a person going back to school.", "summary": "I'm a finance major out of college for 3 years and wants to go back to school to become a vet, am I nuts?"}
{"id": "t3_4x1pyx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) am dating a (28F) for 2 years and she doesn't want to wait around", "post": "So to dive a little bit deeper, I am doing an engineering technology course which after 3 years gives you a diploma, from that you can go to another university and complete 3 semesters and get your degree in whatever field you chose (civil, petroleum, etc.)\n\nMy girlfriend just found out her career is pretty well set for the next 30 years and wants to get the next part of her life started (houses, marriage) within the next couple years which is understandable.\n\nI really want to go back to school after I finish my last year of my diploma, which I'm in now, and complete my degree because I feel as though I can handle it and the ~25k-45k bump in salary would be awesome of course.\n\nThe problem is that when I discussed this with her, she said she's not sure if she could wait around for me to start working for another 2.5 years, we work really well together, been living in an apartment together, have a dog, but it feels like I'm backed into a corner. On one hand I really want to further my education as far as I can take it, but not at the expense of our relationship. \n\nShould I go ahead with my schooling or sacrifice that to save our relationship?\n\n[b]", "summary": "[/b]"}
{"id": "t3_2ltr5t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Question for Wives: How can I [late 20M] pursue/woo/seduce my wife [late 20F] and reignite our marriage?", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 6 years. Things aren't bad, they just aren't great.\n\nLike any relationship, things started off exciting and unpredictable, and slowly over time our relationship has grown more and more dull. I'm not bored with my wife - I love her dearly. And we're not on the brink of divorce or anything like that.\n\nI just want her to feel loved and pursued and treasured again.\n\nSo, how can I spice things up and keep things fresh? How can I make her fall head over heels for me again? How do I date her in our marriage?\nWhat are some things you wish your husbands knew about romancing you?\n\nThanks a million!", "summary": "How do I date my wife forever?"}
{"id": "t3_2jrooz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M18] How to i get over my ex?", "post": "So me and my ex dated for a while and broke up about 2 months ago. The issue is a can't get over her like i'm not a stalker or anything i just really love her, I have had depression for a while and when i was with her i was so happy and i felt my life was actually getting somewhere and has meaning. Every time i think of her or see her hanging out with another guy she is with and them laughing and having fun i just think that used to be me and then i pretty much get in a depressed state and feel like doing shit all for the rest of the day. Being a college student and having 3 classes the same as her makes it so hard to avoid her. we don't talk anymore except from some short exchanges on Facebook. But i honestly love her and i have told her but it seems like there's no going back to how it was and she wants to stay single and go to party's to hook up with hot guys and stuff. Help :/", "summary": "I still love my ex a ton but she doesn't feel the same way and I'm heartbroken."}
{"id": "t3_zeyl5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23, f] have been casually dating 2 guys [26, 31].  One is getting serious.  How to break it off with the other?", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nI've been single for a long time, until recently, a few different dating prospects came into my life. At first, it was all fun, going out on dates, going to sports games, etc., I wasn't looking for anything serious. There was some kissing but nothing too heavy.\n\nNow, about a month later, things with the guy we'll call \"M\"[31] have gotten more serious, and I don't feel right sleeping with two people who don't know about one another. M's career is pretty set and he is ready for a relationship.\n\nThe other guy, \"Q\"[26] is really really great. I have an amazing time with him, but I have felt an awkward vibe when we have been physical. The one time we did sleep together was not good. I would love to have him in my life, as he's one of the few people who enjoys the same things as me, but I understand that it is his decision as to whether or not he wants to be my friend. Q has a crazy schedule, as he is still trying to make it as a writer in LA. He's doing quite well, actually, and is almost always working.\n\nBasically, tonight I'm seeing Q and I need to tell him how I feel. I don't want to drag it out any longer, and I feel that since we only slept together 1 time, it's better to end it now than continue down that road.\nAny advice for how to make this a less painful process? \n\nI feel terrible about it because I really do enjoy his company and I DON'T want to hurt him. But it is not fair of me to keep around two guys just because I enjoy them. He should be able to pursue another girl who he could have a sexual relationship with if he wants to. Which is fine with me, just not sure if he'd want to be friends still.\n\nHelp me reddit.. I can't focus on anything at work.", "summary": "I was seeing two guys casually, now one is serious.  How to end it w/the other?"}
{"id": "t3_1xzflt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 1 year, LDR trial separation", "post": "I need to get this off my chest and get some advice from the community.\n\nMy gf and I have been doing long distance for about 5 months and dating for 1 year. We will be living in the same city again come June hence why we decided to give a LDR a try. \n\nThe time we spend together has been great and we usually see each other for long weekends every couple of weeks. \n\nA few months ago I found out that my gf cheated on me (she kissed another guy in a club). I decided to give her a last chance but if I'm entirely honest, since it happened I have not taken the relationship as seriously as I used to. \n\nThis weekend, I went down to see her (hadn't seen her in 3 weeks). I got her flowers, chocolates and a card for valentine's day. She spent most of the day with her friends and I didn't even get a card in return. In the evening I cooked her a nice dinner, then we had a bit of a fall out and she spent the rest of the evening hanging out with friends. \n\nNeedless to say, this morning I was pretty fed up and have initiated a 2 week \"trial break-up\". She was really upset. We won't be talking for 2 weeks and will then meet up to decide whether to end it or continue.\n\nAm I being perfectly reasonable here or am I just being overly sensitive? Obviously I love her to bits and the text above is only really showing her in bad light - but these are the things I'm picking up on. Our sex life isn't great either. She has a slight cold and so there was no love making this weekend (even after not seeing each other for 3 weeks).", "summary": "1 year relationship, LDR for last 5 months. Things have been going downhill so just initiated a 2 week \"trial break-up\"."}
{"id": "t3_1msiki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22F] fell out of love with my on/off ex[22M] of ~6 years, need perspective, advice, or someone to talk to", "post": "Long text, sorry.\n\n---\nSo me and my ex dated for a year and half during high school. We broke up freshman year of college, but still hooked up on and off for a very long time. He dated a girl for about a year during this time, which we didn't speak during, and then we started hooking up after.\n\n---\nI felt like whenever he didn't have another girl he would come back to me. He would say how he loved me and missed hanging out with me, and I always fell for it because I was secretly hoping he was going to care about me like he did a few years back. After some time, usually about a two month span, he'd go and hook up with someone or became interested in someone else, and this process repeated.\n\n---\nThen senior year of college, we tried to date again and it lasted maybe for 2 1/2 months. He talked about his ex a lot and went out about 4-6 nights a week and would come back drunk to eat food and sleep at my place, which was conveniently close to the bars. After breaking up, we stopped speaking, and then met up before I moved home for a job in July. We started speaking and hooking up again, but we both agreed we were not dating.\n\n---\nLast week he met someone else that he's been talking to more consistently and we had an argument last night related to it. I came to a self-realization that I don't like how he's treated me for the past 4 years, and that I don't love who he is now, but who he was in high school. It upset me that a)it took me this long to figure out b)that I realized he would never be the same person that I had once really cared about and loved.\n\n---\nI guess I'm just asking if this has happened to anyone else, your thoughts on the whole thing, and should I still try to stay friends with him?", "summary": "Fell out of love with my on/off 6 year ex bf, I want perspective or advice on it."}
{"id": "t3_51s8vh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Ontario]Year of separation for Divorce", "post": "So, just on the year of separation required for divorces not falling under the categories that can get an immediate divorce.\n\nIt was discussed and agreed upon in March, but we dragged our feet and are only getting more stuff split up/finalized and a separation document signed and witnessed in the next few weeks. I'm not sure if starting the discussion in March and talking about the separation of what we have in the time since then counts at all (informal verbal agreement?). \n\nWe are getting a separation agreement signed and witnessed (finally) in the next few weeks, which may be the next best thing to a solid date if its not advised to use the verbal. \n\nAlso there is a bit of confusion on still living together in that year, it seems  we should be ok living apart in the same apartment for now (splitting up finances, separate bedrooms) though  says \"You are separated when you are not living together and it is not likely that you will live together again.\". Some of my digging around online as I do some research also suggests its required/recommended that both parties are living in separate households for at least 90 days, but don't recall where, or see it backed up in the other docs. \n\nAlso, there appears to be no legal requirement to start the timer of sorts with the courts, correct? Just you should be able to prove in court if required that you have been separated for at least a year. Doing a quick search on the sub did turn up a sorta similar case and  was cited as a resource, and several of the points there would have been ticked off prior to the discussion about divorcing and moreso since. It is going to be an uncontested joint divorce (with no house, no kids, no support to worry about) so getting the doc signed is more a CYA for each of us rather than a real concern either of us have right now. \n\nThough neither of us are likely to remarry the second we're legally divorced, one of us has found someone else in the last few months and would prefer to be legally available sooner rather than later.", "summary": "Looking for advice on how Ontario determines the year of separation and possibly best practices."}
{"id": "t3_3k1lcg", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Would like some advice and help on an apology based on depressive behavior and women ,to women. Women who have had depression would be a HUGE help", "post": "About a year and a half ago, I found I hand depression. Now depression to a person that has never had it and just hears it might label it as being sad and angry and down alot. \nDepression is actually much more than that, and it is hard to explain so I have a link here on 13 things to remember about a person with depression \n\nBasically, without creating an excuse, I was a bit rude,pushy and angry plus other things to some wonderful ladies I have met. One who has been absolutely incredible and I appreciate so much. I like talking to them and hanging out with them when I can. They have helped alot, I am getting better \n\nI dont ask here because I would not treat a women different when apologizing or that I want to sound stupid, I just want them to feel like my apology was genuine not like im giving them crap and will still be that way. What does everyone suggest I say? Do I tell them I have depression?", "summary": "Was rude to great ladies, found I had depression and want to apologize so they understand what I have been going through and know im not giving them crap ,need help"}
{"id": "t3_105txi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend is apparently in the Army. We think he's full of it. What do you think? FB pics inside", "post": "There is a kid I used to go to school with who is apparently an Infantrymen in the Canadian Army. He supposedly joined the army September 10, 2011 while still in grade 12. He had constantly been updating his FB status informing us of his career. According to him, he has done security at the Olympics, where he made 27k, trained in Germany, and is not currently located in Seoul, Korea where he was just in a fire fight resulting in 2 shots to the chest and I in the thigh. Mine and my friends suspicion aroused due the fact that during high school, he was the lazies, most unmotivated kid I knew. So Reddit, do you think he is lying?\n[Pics](", "summary": "Friends and I think an old friend is lying about being in the army."}
{"id": "t3_eate4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the stupidest thing that you've done that has caused, or could have caused a severe injury to you?", "post": "With me, it just happened yesterday.  I woke up early in the morning with sharp stomach pains, thinking I had to pee or something and that my bladder was just too full.  After going to the bathroom it still hurt really bad and I was literally sobbing.\n\nI didn't want to go to urgent care because I was sure they'd send me home saying I just had super bad gas or something else embarrassing.  Thankfully my boyfriend talked me into it, and upon finding that Urgent care wasn't open yet we went to the ER and got there within an hour after my pains started.  After getting there they started to calm down, so now I was even more sure that it was somethign dumb and I was just going to be embarrassed.\n\nAfter getting bloodwork done and a cat scan, the doctor comes in and informs me that I have appendicitis and need my appendix removed.  I was in surgery by 12:30 and have been on pain killers since yesterday and will be released either tonight or tomorrow.\n\nSo, if it wasn't for my boyfriend being more stubborn than me I could have had my appendix rupture and died, since we only have one car and he brought me to the hospital 20 minutes before he would have had to leave for work.", "summary": "I had appendicitis and didn't want to go to the hospital because I was embarrassed thinking it was just horrible menstrual cramps or gas or something, but my boyfriend made me and I got it removed on time."}
{"id": "t3_2psigj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's been over a year and a half since my ex (20F) and I (22m) broke up, but she feels inevitable to me", "post": "She's been in my life for the past 6 years. We dated for 2.5 years from the time I was 17 til I was 20. After the break up we tried to reconcile things but that didn't work out so we decided to give each other space and to meet new people. We drifted apart over the past 12 months and I thought I was finally over her but recently started talking and hanging out again. She's still the same amazing person that I remember. \nEvery time I saw her I realized that maybe I wasn't over her.  We spent some time together this past week, one thing lead to another and we ended up making out and cuddling. She feels so inevitable  to me. We had broken up once before but ended up coming back to each other and now it seems to be happening again. She's everything I've ever dreamed of. I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "Ex GF and I are starting to get close again, I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1dzbn2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Confused virgin, initiating everything with girlfriend, feeling bad afterwards.", "post": "Okay....so me and this girl, we've been dating for two months now. She's a virgin, and I'm a virgin. Hell, she's so innocent, it's not even funny.\n\nBut, we've recently started to get a lot more physical. From about the second week, we've been sleeping together. As in, we would cuddle and then sleep in the same bed. We might make out a little bit, but it was mostly the cuddling and the sleeping.\n\nThen, I started with the dry-humping, and she reciprocated, and clothes started coming off. Only above the waist, however. I quickly learned how to properly take off a bra.\n\nAnd then, just within this last week, we moved to third base. It started with me rubbing outside of the shorts she wore to bed, and then I asked if she minded me moving inside the shorts, and she said no, so I did. And she's given me a handjob before too. Mostly, though, I feel like it's been me.\n\nAnd I want it, in the moment. And she wants it--she never hasn't wanted it. But, afterwards, I always feel like shit. I wouldn't say I regret it, but I feel like a bad person. I feel bad for initiating it, and for almost pushing the boundaries.\n\nI guess, what I'm asking here more than anything, is that should this be happening? Is this one of those things that should just *feel* right from the moment you're doing it? Like, when you're doing it and when you're not? As bad as this sounds, could it be a sign that she's not really \"the one\" and that, knowing that, I should break up with her?", "summary": "I've initiated all of the physical stuff with my girlfriend, because I feel it in the moment, but don't afterwards. Is this something that I should break up with her over?"}
{"id": "t3_2cjmwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25m, also bipolar] and trying to get in a relationship but I seem to keep self sabotaging", "post": "Because of my conditions it is very difficult to just play the field and go for one night stands and the like, so ive been looking to get in a relationship for a few weeks.  I've been being more social and making a point of hanging out with different people more and go out more.  That's all been fun, but I'm no where closer,to being in a relationship now than I was a few mons ago.\n\nThe problem seems to boil down to I either attract someone who would be toxic for me (common with bipolar disorder- misery loves company) or if i do seem someone I would like to spend more time with I try to text and hangout more, and even if we set up stuff, I cancel and piss em off.  I'm more afraid of something going well than something going bad.  \n\nHow do I break this cycle?", "summary": "How do I get over the anxiety of actually getting in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_31k6mf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M/F] was doing fine with my GF[26/F] now shes dropped off the face of the earth and won't answer me what do i do?", "post": "So long story short a girl Ive been seeing for a few weeks seemed to dropped off the face of the earth on me and I don't know what to do.\n\nWe will call this lovely girl kelly, so the situation is kelly and I have been dating for about 2 months and everything had seemed to be going great. We went out we talked we kissed after the second date and I stayed over at her place after the third. Then suddenly she just stops answering my texts. I don't want to be overbearing and keep texting/calling her but I don't want to let her go either we had great times in person and a little awkward over the phone.\n\nShould I assume she just got tired of me, busy? I really want to get her back but I don't want to be a creep but its been 3 days.", "summary": "GF just stopped talking to me and I can't tell what going on What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_z75xr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bestfriend [M/19] gets girlfriend, drops me [F/19] like a rock", "post": "We've been friends for about 4(ish?) years. We've always been pretty close. Unfortunately, whenever he gets a girlfriend he starts ignoring me. This time is worse than usual though, since we're both in college in different states.\n\nBasically, this summer we took a class at my school (cheaper for him since his school is out of state) and he stayed at my house (because gas). Class lasts a month. When the class ends, he goes back to school and I pretty much haven't heard from him since. \n\nIts been a month, and I've tried texting him and calling him but he ignores me. He called once to say he was sorry and make excuses (he's \"busy\") and he referenced things I told him in my text messages, so obviously he's reading them, but just not bothering to respond.\n\nI just don't understand what's going on with him. I go from talking to him every day to being completely cut off. I can't just talk to him about it because he'll just ignore me. I don't know if its because he's got a gf now so he doesn't need meanymore, or if we're just doing the whole \"growing apart\" thing way more rapidly than I expected. \n\nI really just want to get some perspective on this, because its really upsetting me. Also, last school year he didn't have a girlfriend and we talked pretty much every day. So I'm just assuming this has something to do with her.", "summary": "Best friend gets girlfriend, goes to school in another state. Goes from talking to me every day to ignoring me for a month."}
{"id": "t3_4wwbp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] want to supportmy grieving girlfriend[15F] after an abortion, but she wants space.", "post": "I understand that she needs space to grieve, and that she needs to come to grips with what happened, after the abortion, i was her only shoulder to cry on,of course her parents were there to support and talk to, but she didn't want to due to fear, shame and embarrassment. \n\nSo after the abortion we thought it would be a breeze, that wasn't the case, it happened around 3/4 months ago and our relationship hasn't been the same, for around 3 months after it was constant battling at eachother and tears of what happened but i'd always support her.\n\nMy mum and a close friend have told me to not text her at all, wait for her to come to, open the door, then come in and pick everything up again. But i had to text her and just let her know im waiting for her and would never abandon her, any hour of the day i would be here. The reason im worrying is because she has one therapy session a week, and she doesn't talk to her mum about it as much as she should, she's even admitted shes depressed and i could see it.\n\nHer exact reply to my text was \"That definitely put a smile on my face! So nice to hear that fro you, you mean everything to me still and just for you to understand that honestly makes me the happiest person alive\"\n\nThe problem is, i don't want her bottling everything up and not speaking to anyone, i hate knowing she could be sat upset, feeling alone, and of course i don't want,after all this space, her to think i was never here from her, feelings to go,and to get a wrong impression of me.\n\nWhat shall i do?\nShould i call or text her at all?\nShould i just let her come to me?\nThanks!", "summary": "How do i support my girlfriend who went through an abortion, who wants space but could be getting worse, or better..?"}
{"id": "t3_35gg52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I just found out my girlfriend is unhappy in our relationship [4-1/2 yrs, 24/m 23/f]", "post": "I really hope you guys can help me on this one.\n\nSo I'm very technology savvy. I have worked in computer repair and the IT field for the last 7 years.\n\nI met my girlfriend her freshmen year of college (I was a sophomore transfer) and we've been dating each other our entire college career. She's graduating this year (I graduated last year and came back for an MS). I worked on her computer about a month ago because it was running slow, freezing, etc. so I looked at it over a night. While I had her computer, my curiosity got the best of me.\n\nI found myself in a junk folder that had a lot of misc stuff in it, under which I found a pro-con list that turned out to be about myself; the things she liked (pros) and the things she didn't like (cons). I saw it and it kind of shook me up. I didn't sleep well that night, as I drempt she broke up with me. The next morning I told her about the dream. She consoled me and said she wasn't breaking up with me anytime soon.\n\nMoving on, I found she had created an account on a dating advice forum, and I found all of her posts. The first ones were from back when she was in high school. Later on she posted about us. The most recent one was a day before our four year anniversary. It was asking for advice on how to break up with me because she is no longer happy in the relationship. In it she states that some of her friends and family have been telling her to break up with me for well over a year. We're involved in a lot of the same things, so it would be awkward for both of us to break up.\n\nIt's now 8 months later. I have never seen any signs from her personally that she is displeased with our relationship. I love her so much, but now that I've seen this, I feel she just puts up a front to make me happy and not make life a living hell while we still spend time together.", "summary": "I found out my girlfriend isn't happy in our relationship anymore and I don't know whether to talk to her and let her know that I now know she isn't happy, or just let things continue until she decides to end things."}
{"id": "t3_2h0ob7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [23F] with boyfriend [25M] for 8 years, need good advice to give to a troubling relationship", "post": "I have a friend that is 23 and dating a guy that is 25. They have been together for almost 8 years. The first 3 years were off and on but the past five have been solid.  Now lately they've been arguing unlike the past were they would talk it over, none of that anymore. She has brought up the past by mentioning the girls he had left her for.  And you bet he gets mad about it. You now ask, what is the root of the problem? So here it goes. \n\nShe has been talking about getting married, moving in, and starting a family. He seems to agree with the idea but later changes his mind saying that he wants both of them to have well enough jobs so that they can support each other just in case he loses his job. I understand where he's coming from and it almost seems that my friend is trying to tie him down. What I mean is she wants it so that if he ever going to go out he would have to ask her if she wants to come along or forget about it and spend the time with her. Now granted it's not all dark and miserable. There is moments where she seems happy but during the times that she doesn't know what to do with the relationship or where to go what is some good advice that can help her point in the right direction?", "summary": "Need some relationship advise to give to a friend that wishes to start a family with her boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2ny6b4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19 M) Girlfriend (17 F) of 3 years reveals that she was much more sexually active before we dated than I previously thought. How do I get over this?", "post": "I know its stupid and I know its just sex but Ive never felt so much grief in my entire life. I guess I feel this way because she was my first and only and knowing that she's been with kind of hurts.  \n\nI feel stupid for feeling so upset about it.  How do I get over it so I can move on with our relationship?  I don't even see her the same since she told me and I feel like I'm pathetic for not being 100% okay.\n\nShe's already given me an STD but I just assumed it was s fluke because she told me she'd only had sex 3 other times.\n\nHelp please", "summary": "girlfriend lied about how sexually experienced she was, a lot more than what I thought.  How do I get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_50gysh", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] When did your dog figure out there was another human in the mix?", "post": "Hey all - my wife is about 20 weeks pregnant this week, and we're starting to notice some odd behaviors in our pup that we've never seen him exhibit before. He's a 2 year old pit/lab mix. Wife has been showing a visible baby bump for about 2-3 weeks now. \n\nThe last 3 nights, he's been visibly agitated/nervous in the evenings after his dinner. He'll perk up at nothing, twitch his ears, whine, get up and wander around the couch where we are sitting, sniffing at everything. Eventually he will settle down but this has become a nightly routine and nothing he has ever done before. The last 3 nights also he has gone and stolen her house slippers from the hallway (which is where we always leave them), which is something that he literally has not done since January when we trained his shoe habit out of him. He's perfectly healthy, and we've confirmed every time that there is nothing in the backyard that could trigger this reaction. This morning, he exhibited the same behavior again while my wife was sitting on the couch eating breakfast. Normal behavior for him when she is sitting there eating breakfast is for him to sit quietly next to her on his elbows and stare, hoping for a scrap. Today he was very fidgety, whining, nervous, etc., similar to the previous evenings. When she leaves the room, he chills out back to his normal self.", "summary": "Dog acting differently the last few nights with 20 week pregnant wife. So for the dog/human moms and dads out there, when did your dog start to pick up on this and what did you observe that made you realize your pup was aware of the situation? Anything you did to help them thru the transition?"}
{"id": "t3_1iern0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] am still in love with my ex of 4 yrs.[19M] and I have finally figured out what went wrong with our relationship. When's good timing to bring it up?", "post": "My ex and I broke up April 5th due to bickering between the two of us. I realize yesterday, July 16th, that I am the one that pushed him away and caused the break up. I am still in love with him and I think that he's still in love with me. \n\nI am leaving for Argentina August 30th and coming back December 8th and I think that he was waiting for me to come back so that we could make amends with our relationship. I am really want to tell him that I figured out what went wrong and that I really want us to try again, but is it a terrible idea to do right before I leave? Should I just wait till I come back? After I figured out what went wrong, I haven't been able to sleep. I desperately want to tell him, but am afraid of the timing is off.", "summary": "Relationship of 4 years ended due to me and I realized 4 months into our breakup. I'm leaving in a month to a foreign country and truth about what happened is eating at me. Would it be bad timing to tell him before I leave?"}
{"id": "t3_xek76", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "X-post from r/relationships: [Throwaway] My housemate has been evicted, but seems to be refusing to collect his stuff. What now? (United Kingdom)", "post": "Am located in the UK. \n\nTwo weeks ago, my housemate was evicted after a spate of horrible behaviour and 'forgetting' to pay his rent. The landlord is taking him to court over the late rent payments (which amount to several thousand pounds), which he didn't think he'd have to pay if he moved out right away.\n\nHe has left everything apart from his laptop. That includes bedding, clothes and loads of personal items that I'm sure are worth a lot of money. He doesn't seem to understand that he needs to come and get it, saying that he'll \"come when he wants\". As far as I know, he hasn't even contacted any housing agencies to try and get a new place.\n\nI don't want to be stuck with his stuff until he finds a new place; I have new tenants moving in! I've contacted the city council but they just said to wait and see if he came to get it, which wasn't really helpful.\n\nDoes Reddit have any advice at all? Anything would help!\n\nThe general consensious on r/relationships is to box it up and leave in on the curb after a set date. Does this sound okay?", "summary": "Housemate evicted 3 weeks ago, didn't take his stuff. Doesn't seem to see why he should come to get his stuff. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1l8nqt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Time to end this \"friendship\"?", "post": "About two years ago I [25/M] befriended this girl \"Julie\" [21/F] who I had eventually developed romantic feelings for (we've been flirting back and forth for months). Of course I was up front with her about my interest and it turns out that the feelings are not mutual. I still remember her saying \"Don't get weird on me now\" the day after my little revelation. \n\nSure rejection hurts, but we remained friends (I'm an idiot?), with her going as far as to tell me that I'm her \"closest guy friend.\"\n\nI couldn't just abandon her completely without feeling like a dirtbag now, but sticking around was getting increasingly painful. She would tell me about her one night stands and I would do my best to act like I didn't care. The conversations involving her seeing other guys ate away at me, so I finally tried my best to create some distance from her, never initiating contact and keeping any text replies very brief.\n\nSo things quiet down for about a year, and I *feel* like I've moved on. I had very brief flings with a few other girls, but haven't totally clicked with anyone yet.\n\nThen cut to last night when I get a [text message] from Julie out of the blue.\n\nI don't know why, but I felt hurt by this for some reason, meaning I'm not completely over Julie *still*...\nSo if she is still causing me pain, do I just cut her out of my life for good?", "summary": "Have romantic feelings for a girl *friend*, feelings are not mutual. Should I end this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_wp5un", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriends mom does not take our relationship seriously.", "post": "My SO(F/18) and I(M/19) have been dating for about a year and are very happy with each other. Both me and her take our relationship very seriously and I think she may be the one. I have been nothing but nice to her family and her mom sais that she thinks im a very nice young man. Her mom is super strict and sometimes she does not let me see my girlfriend simply because she(my girlfriends mom) is tired or some other ill-contrived reason. \n   \n   She was recently talking to her mom about our relationship and her mom flat out told her that she did not see us lasting that long. Her reason being that when we (me and my girlfriend) were cooking once she did not like how I was telling my girlfriend what to do since I was the only one who knew how to cook what we were making. I was wondering if I could get some advice on how I can win my girlfriends mom over so that she will let me see my girlfriend because I am sick of not being able to see her simply because her mom is not in a good mood. Also how can I get her to take our relationship seriously?", "summary": "girlfriends mom does not take our relationship seriously. How can I change that?"}
{"id": "t3_36ofdy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Texas - Arrested on Thanksgiving, no case filed, moving out of state and can't come back for court.", "post": "A little backstory. As the title states, I live in Texas and was arrested on Thanksgiving. I was charged with \"resisting arrest\" because I was being told to leave Walmart property after yelling at an employee, but I didn't have a ride and they wouldn't let me walk. Basically they said \"Either you need to get someone to take you right now, or you have to go to jail\" so I said \"I guess I have to go to jail then.\" I thought they meant, you know, until someone could get me, but I found out after I got there that I was being arrested. I wasn't mirandized or anything, they just kind of tossed me in a cell. \n\nThis makes me sound weak as hell, but that night sort of broke me. I've always had severe anxiety, and since spending the night in jail I can barely leave my house because I'm terrified all the time. Due to both my anxiety and the fact that I'm in a terrible living situation, my family and I have to move out of state, back to the northeast. \n\nUnfortunately,  almost six months later, the court has no case for me. The woman on the phone informed me that I can move, but that I just have to wait and see when the DA gets around to filing, and then I'll have to come back for court. However, I'm low-income and seeking disability (hard to work when you can't speak to anyone or leave the house without your spouse), so there's no way I can afford to come back. I'm terrified of being arrested again, but there's no way I can come back to go to court.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Also, is it typical for it to take so long for a case to be filed? Is it possible that it never will be?", "summary": "Arrested almost 6 months ago on a bullshit charge. Spent a night in jail and suffer crippling anxiety which has made it so I have to move halfway across the country. Won't be able to come back for court if they ever get around to filing. Cannot survive being arrested again."}
{"id": "t3_2ba8h1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when a duck bit my willy (slightly NSFW)", "post": "So about 18 months ago I received two ducklings as a present. One turned out to be a Khaki Campbell and the other a Pekin. But that's beside the point.\n\nAnyway, each morning I go outside and open their cage and then give the ducks some food. Most days I'll let the ducks out in my dressing gown or put some clothes on. This morning however, the weather was a little nicer and I decided to head outside in just my boxer shorts.\n\nAfter letting the ducks out and getting a bucket of food, I squatted down and encouraged the birds to get closer to me. Lately they've been a little skittish, so I thought I'd give them some food and be more comfortable.\n\nUnfortunately my loose boxer shorts rode up my leg when I did indeed squat this morning. Ducks love worms, and you can imagine their excitement when they saw my willy popping out of my boxer shorts. One of the ducks waddled over (I was focused on the other) and had a nibble. I subsequently jumped up, shrieking like a banshee, hastily checking for grievous injury.\n\nWhile I got a rude shock when my duck bit my willy, the damage was minimal and I will be more careful in the future.", "summary": "boxer shorts rode up my leg and my duck thought she found a little worm."}
{"id": "t3_3gt6ex", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU thinking my relationship was safe for at least the first week of college.", "post": "Hello reddit, this is a throwaway because many people in real life know my primary reddit handle.\n\nI've been dating X for a little over two years, we met mutually at work, and are 2 years apart. She's starting college this year, and I've been in college for 2 years, going into my 3rd.\n\nThis past week we've been buying stuff for her dorm, she doesn't have that much money so I've been buying most of it, the more pricier items being a brand new pan set and mini-grill thing (my gifts specifically).\n\nToday she moved into her dorm, met her roomates, got everything moved in and settled down.\n\nThe last two hours shes been unresponsive via text, it was unusual but I figured she was just busy getting to know her new peeps. 5 minutes ago she cold called me and broke up with me. I'm so stunned I figured I'd make this post first, and enjoy me a Sunshine Wheat before I cry myself to sleep.", "summary": "GF moved into college dorm this morning, broke up with me this evening. Commencing the drinking."}
{"id": "t3_2wbs95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my SO [23 M] of 3 years, been married for 4 months, feels like a mistake", "post": "This may be a little long, so I'm sorry in advance. \n\n**Right before we met** I was just getting out of my first serious relationship that spanned from my high school years to 19, lets call him Harry. It was a bad breakup, and contact didn't end. We still texted back and forth. Then I met my now-husband, lets call him Will. He was great, and I stopped responding to messages from Harry, wanting to really move on and commit to this relationship.\n\n**I moved in with Will after about 2 months**, and everything was fine. But I kept thinking about Harry, and around 2 months after moving in with Will, I started talking to Harry again, and put myself into a compromising situation. I knew immediately that it was a mistake and I told Will. He was willing to work through it, so we took a week apart to make sure it was what we wanted and then I moved back in.\n\n**We lived together for 2 years** and everything seemed to be going great, but occasionally I would get feelings of restlessness, as though I wanted to be doing something more? But the thought of leaving Will was not something I could handle, I love him.\n\n**Almost 3 years into our relationship he proposes and we get married**. Now 4 months into our marriage my restlessness has gotten worst. I find myself daydreaming of leaving him, what life would be like on my own. I feel impatient, anxious. I still love Will, so much. But I just get these anxious impulses to just leave, and then I get depressed because I think about how much that would hurt him. \n\nI don't know if it's just cold feet, I'm not anywhere near the point of throwing around the word divorce. I don't want to be with anyone else, but I just feel like I missed out on something in my life? I just need some advice, really, maybe some similar stories to let me know I'm not alone in feeling like this?", "summary": "Together for 3 years, feel restless and anxious all the time."}
{"id": "t3_y2y8u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is the craziest/most hilarious thing you have done with your immediate family?", "post": "So being a kid about to leave for college in a week, I was just thinking of all the ridiculous things that have gone on with my family and friends. One of the main things that still sticks in my mind is the one time that my dad took the entire family on vacation up to a lake in Central PA. On the last night, my dad had gotten properly drunk with some of the locals. On his way back he insisted that we go \"quilling\". \nFor those not familiar with this sport, it involves a car, a bunch of drunk friends, some towels, and a shit load of porcupines. Basically, my dad convinced my mom to drive around backroads at about 230 in the morning trying to find porcupines. When we saw some on the road, my friend and i would jump out, chase them down and whip them with towels to see how many of their quills we could get. (their quills grow back and its painless for them, bring on PETA). All in all we came back with 200 some quills and a bunch of good memories.", "summary": "Dad got smacked with townies, convinced my mom to take us to whip porcupines with towels, to gather theirs quills at 2am. Ended up getting around 200, For science!"}
{"id": "t3_1z3c16", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "The triple tax-advantage of a Health Savings Account (HSA)", "post": "Health Savings Account (HSA) is used in conjunction with high deductible health care plans. This can be a very efficient investment account in order not to pay deductibles out of pocket.\n\nWhen is it worth it to have a HSA account:\n\n* If you are relatively young and healthy\n\n* If you are already maxing out your other tax-sheltered accounts\n\n* If you are not planning on having high health care cost in the next few years\n\nHow does it pays off?\n\nThe HSA account has 3 tax saving benefits:\n\n* 1) You make pre-tax contributions\n\n* 2) Enjoy tax free compounding on the money\n\n* 3) **If your withdrawals are for qualified health-care expenses** that money is tax free too", "summary": "HSA is one of the few triple tax benefited accounts in the tax code."}
{"id": "t3_3iysax", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Tennessee Hotel Night Shift Attendant", "post": "Hello, \n\nI am currently the Night Shift Attendant at an extended stay hotel which is located in Tennessee. I am also a full time student at my University. \n\nI work Monday and Wednesday from 6 pm to 9 am, Friday from 6 pm to 10 am, Saturdays from 4 pm to 9 am, and Sunday from 9 am to Monday at 9 am. The majority of my hours worked are on-call hours. I am given a room to sleep in, both on and off duty, as well as WiFi. \n\nMy duties as a Night Shift Attendant require me to be by a phone at all times to answer to a guest's needs. The company I work for only allows me to clock in only when I receive a call and clock out when I am finished. By doing this I'm working 35 hours a week. \n\nI read about FLSA On-Call Hours and how employers are to count said hours on call if within a certain distance. I'm supposed to remain on site or a good distance (1/2 mi) from the hotel whenever I'm on call. If this is the case, then I have technically worked 87 hours a week for the past 3 weeks. \n\nI don't want to talk to my manager for fear of losing my job. Because of this, I've been considering complaining to the WHD of the US Department of Labor, for they can at least provide me with job security against retaliation. Also, could the room and WiFi provided be considered compensation for my work, even though I'm working well over 40 hours?\n\nI would greatly appreciate it if you could help me.", "summary": "I think the company I work for is overworking me"}
{"id": "t3_19nvyd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[22M] Completely hung up on friend[25F]", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nSo, for some back story I've been going out with this girl for sometime. We met about a year ago, went out a few times, i'd say we hit it off and I definitely liked her. We decided not to \"date\" for a few different reason but did the friends with benefits thing for a few months. She ended up trying to see someone else a few months ago and contact pretty much stopped between us. We would talk here and there, all started by me, but that was it for the most part.\n\nAround mid January we started to casually do things again. Turns out what she was doing with this other guy didn't work out and I was happy because I had my friend back. We have since gone out a few times and some of the nights we even ended up hooking up again. Coming to last weekend, we went out and at the end of the night it was awkward. I tried to initiate a kiss with her and she didn't want much to do with it. The next day we talked for a while through text, and decided that were good friends and doing things probably isn't going to end up well, which i agree with.\n\nMy problem though is that I am so hung up on her. I definitely have more feelings for her than she realizes and i'm in a strange spot and have no idea what to do. She is an extremely important person to me, and I don't want her out of my life but I am killing myself with these thoughts and feelings that I keep having. I know i have to \"man up\" and get over it, but how am I supposed to do it when we are good friends, and I don't want to stop talking or hanging out with her in that capacity?", "summary": "Hung up on a friend, no idea how to handle it. Don't want to lose her and still want to be friends with her but it's hard and I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_2oluv0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my ex had ulterior motives.", "post": "So this is currently ongoing and I would imagine will be for a while.\n\nI had an ex-girlfriend kill herself a long ago (8th December 2007) and blame it on me, which makes it particularly hard for me to deal with today.\n\nMy recently ex-girlfriend offered to come spend the night so she could be with me tomorrow,as she had known the story for a while. I obviously got excited and thought we would be getting back together.\n\nNow she is sat on my sofa in tears at 2:30am because I got the wrong end of the stick and she feels guilty. I am rather confused and obviously rather upset too.\n\nNo idea what to do.", "summary": "Ex-girlriend comes round to fuck me, turns out she just wants to comfort me."}
{"id": "t3_gqtda", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help? Bridesmaid trying to get to wedding that starts nr Baton Rouge in eight hours, stranded in Memphis due to cancelled flight.", "post": "Writing this from London, feeling completely helpless. Two of my friends are getting married later today near Baton Rouge, Louisiana, and one of the bridesmaids is currently stuck in Memphis due to the bad weather. Her flight was cancelled last night, she's been on stand by for flights all morning. At the moment, Delta are trying to get her on a flight to Atlanta and then on to Baton Rouge, but it won't get her there until very late in the day and there's a good chance she'll miss the wedding. Still not confirmed that she has a place on the plane from Atlanta...\nCan anyone help?", "summary": "bridesmaid stuck in Memphis, trying to get to bestfriend's wedding this afternoon nr Baton Rouge. Need help!"}
{"id": "t3_1vcydm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(26M) have ruined my SO's of 17 months (31F) trust in me.", "post": "I had been masturbating to pictures of women that were not my wife, some of them were of women I knew in the past.  I love my wife and would never leave her for another woman.  I had a problem and brought into my marriage which was wrong of me to do.  I have stopped.  I apologized to her for being a piece of shit and betraying her.\n\nI now realize how disgusting it was of me to be doing that and I feel horrible.  My wife is battling with it everyday.  Her self-esteem is shot and she barely eats or sleeps.  We are on a very rocky road and I don't want to loose her.  I feel so terrible all the time and it kills me to see how hurt she is.  It makes it even worse knowing that I'm the cause of our problem.  \n\nI wish was a better person and had never done it.  I don't have an answer as to why I couldn't keep my masturbation to just porn. It scares me to ask myself how or why I have found myself there.\nCan I save our marriage?  If so how do I rebuild her trust in me?  Everyday is a struggle and I feel her getting more distant.  I will never forgive myself if I loose my best friend.", "summary": "Can I save our marriage?."}
{"id": "t3_5085ai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my bestfriend [21F], Think I am starting to fall in love with her", "post": "Ok so, me and this girl have been friends for years in a special way.\n\nWe cuddle when we watch movies, we sleep in the same bed etc. We really get along and there has never been any more than that. We have the same passion which is backpacking and well we could really be a couple but were just friends.\n\nPeople sometimes think were a couple because we are acting like one even when she had a boyfriend.\n\nSo now shes been single for a couple weeks and we just had a weekend together at my familys cottage. We did everything a couple normally do except that kissing and having sex thing. Its confusing because weve been doing that for a lot of time but now I am starting to look at her differently. I am not sure what to do because I dont want to ruin our friendship, and while we are really good friends I am not even sure if we would do a good lasting couple.\n\nIve been single for a long time and maybe thats causing me to just want a women in my life? I mean I am ready for this but I know I cant SEARCH for one to be with me..\n\nWhats your opinion on this? Should I go for it and show extra signs of my feelings when we're together ? Should I just tell her about it ?", "summary": "I think I am starting to fall in love with my bestfriend and I dont know what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_2lb98v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] think I've made a huge mistake with [23/f]", "post": "Ok, so first off I have very low self-esteem. So much so, that, amongst other things, I sometimes think all of my friends secretly hate me and only hang around with me out of pity (possibly a story for another day).\n\nAnyway, about 18 months ago I met this girl and we live pretty much on the other side of the world from each other. The main problem was that, because of work and other commitments, we couldn't visit each other and had to settle for Skype, snapchat and the like. Some weeks we talked every day, at most it would be a week in between. Over time I developed feelings for her but couldn't bring myself to tell her in case it scared her away.\n\nThis was until a couple of months ago when everything just stopped and through one way or another I found out she was spending a lot time with this guy she just met. When she posted a picture of them together online, I got really upset and stopped thinking rationally. I didn't feel like I could confront her about it either, so just cut all communication with her and removed all traces of her from my comuter, my phone, etc.\n\nNow I'm getting anxious because we have a lot of mutual friends due to the circumstances in which we met and when I see them next year I don't want it to be awkward if she's talked to them about it. I feel ridiculously guilty and recognise that I acted like a jackass. Also, I feel that if I've overreacted over nothing, then someone who was really important to me has been lost forever.\n\nIf I do try to talk to her, I don't expect her to forgive me and I wouldn't blame her if she didn't want to talk to me again. To be honest, as long as she's safe and happy it doesn't matter what the outcome of any potential communication is.\n\nI don't expect anyone to reply but thanks for reading this if you did; it felt good to get it off my chest. Thank you for caring.", "summary": "Should I contact the girl who I cut ties with to apologise for my actions/reaction?"}
{"id": "t3_3ky4zt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] dumped by my ex-date(?) [24 M] after 4 months because he wasn't able to be in a relationship because of timing", "post": "So here's the breakdown. One month before we met he broke up with his bf of 2 years, and according to our mutual friends it was very hard on him. I knew that we were going to have to take things slowly but it seemed like he was very interested in seeing what would happen between us. He just started a new job and moved to a new city (we're from the same hometown where we met, but I go to college in the city where he now lives) so things have been pretty stressful on him. About a month of dating after we both moved into our respective homes, he told me that he likes me very much and enjoys spending time with me, but he cannot give me the emotional connection that I want.\n\n**However** instead of just letting me go he said that he doesn't want me to fall out of his life, and that he wants to be my best friend if I will let him. The day after we broke up I requested that we talk and he let me come over so that I could get more closure on the situation, and then I went no-contact. 4 days later I found him on Grindr and called him out. He said he downloaded it out of boredom and loneliness, which I have a hard time believing. I asked him if we could see each other and he said not enough time had passed, but that we would talk soon.\n\nI'm really emotionally torn up about this and I'm not sure what to do. I still feel like I don't understand why he ended things with me. We were happy, having sex, exclusive. I think maybe I pressured him to label things, and he got scared. But now I feel like he doesn't care about me at all and isn't interested in getting back with me. I feel like the past 4 months meant nothing to him.", "summary": "We broke up after 4 months because he felt like he couldn't be in a relationship due to everything happening in his life. Based on the circumstances, I want to go NC until he figures things out, but finding him on Grindr really upset me. Do I let him back into my life once his issues have settled? Or do I gtfo and not look back?"}
{"id": "t3_16pxuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F[24] in a long distance relationship with M[23]; How do I deal with this?", "post": "My boyfriend of two years and I had been in a long distance relationship even before I came to settle in California. But before I settled in this country (for my mom's sake) we were doing okay with the distance. I occasionally visit his country when I have the time and the frequency of our skype chats were on a daily basis.\n\nHe hated the idea that I had stay here because I have mommy issues. We were okay on my first week here but then he started to drift apart. He doesn't even go online anymore or even try to on most days. He tells me that he's busy with school work and that he wants to pass this semester so that he can graduate. Although before he makes it a point to say hello and chat. Now, I do all the effort with long distance texting but he doesn't seem to want to reply to me so we could talk about it again.\n\nIt's sad that he's not putting effort anymore and I need advice on how to deal with this. Should I break up with him? \n\n(He also had problems expressing himself and I think he'd want me to break it off rather than he do this. )", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are on LDR and he's being distant now that I've moved again. How do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_35n1sw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/f) I have a huge crush (33/m) on my ex-teacher. Went out on a date and fucked up REALLY REALLY BAD. Should I apologize or chalk it up as a loss?", "post": "We flirted all throughout class in the most passive ways and then I asked him out on the last day and he said sure! We went to this bar and I got too drunk off of two drinks. I don't usually drink hard alcohol and he said I could have beer but for some reason I said \"No, that's fine\" and proceeded to drink gin and absinthe ... I DON\"T KNOW WHY I DID THIS. I really like him. He is so intelligent and sexy.. Then I got too drunk and started saying everything that is awful. Like how I didn't like the kids in our class, I live with my parents, my parents have money, how I *WASN'T* planning on telling him about all this. JESUS CHIST. And this is only the stuff I remember. I texted him when I got him and told him I had a good time and we should do it again. He said he did too and sure. I'm not sure he's just saying that or....? I asked him to go to coffee Sunday (yesterday) and the event happened Monday. I know really close together, but I wanted to apologize to his face. Should I? Like:\n\nI am so sorry for Monday. I am embarrassed. I think you are intelligent, interesting and sexy and I would like to get to know you more. Please don't judge me on Monday and go to the art museum or zoo or something before you leave the state? \n\nIf he doesn't text back in a week is a text apology as a last resort ok? \n\nYes, I wrote it out. I am so fucking embarrassed...", "summary": "went on a date with a 33yr old I am hardcore crushing on, got way too drunk, shared too much, should I apologize? What if it's just over text?"}
{"id": "t3_z7qb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17/M]How do I start a conversation with a girl[16/m] who goes to my school and climbing gym.", "post": "I joined a rock climbing gym over the summer and climbed a month before school started. When I first started to go there I saw this girl but didn't have any feelings for here. School then started up and noticed that she went to my school. I pass her in the halls a few times a day, which is always a little awkward when I kinda know someone but never really talked to them. One day out of no where I just started to really like the way this girl acted and looked, I have no idea why. I want to talk to her but I don't want to come off as forcing a conversation or some creep.", "summary": "How to start a relationship with a girl I know at my school and gym I've never talked to without seeming weird."}
{"id": "t3_31hby0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feeling really empty for the past little while.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm an 18 year old high school student who's in their final year. About 2 months ago I was accepted to my dream school, and as such I'll be going off their in August. I'm extremely happy about it, it's one of the best schools in my country, and the place itself is beautiful. Needless to say, this relatively early university acceptance was a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders. \n\nBut for whatever reason, I can't find it in myself to be happy. Most kids my age would be ecstatic and hopeful for the future. And while I am happy that I'll be moving out on my own, I can't help but feel incredible emptiness. Every night I just waste away the day browsing internet forums or listening to music. My usual hobby of videogames can't grip me like it used to; any time I try a new game I lose interest after a few hours, maybe a few days if I'm lucky. The only thing that can hold my attention for more than a few days is reading books, but even with that, I have to take a break every half hour or else I zone out.\n\nDo you guys have any advice for me? I have nothing to be sad about, my life is great as it is, but at the same time I don't feel happy about anything. I usually feel comfortable with my friends, but we've been talking less and less recently, due to conflicting schedules at school.", "summary": "18 year old male student got accepted into fantastic university, life seems incredibly boring and empty for the past few months, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jm5pi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] just started a new relationship, but not sure if I can trust her [26F]. Is this a red flag?", "post": "So I met this girl at my best friends wedding two months ago. We really hit it off and I went to visit her across the country a week ago. I'm head over heels for her, but I don't want to get hurt.\n\nA particular situation is nagging at me though. Last night she went to a movie in the park with her neighbor and his friend. I met them on my journey out there and thought they were weird but harmless.\n\nShe tells me today that they all got pretty drunk and one of the guys was hitting on her, the neighbor kept trying to put his arm around her, and one of their friends tried to make a move to kiss her at the end of the night. She said that she declined all of these advances and I don't have any reason to doubt her, but what bothers me the most is that the she let the guy who tried to kiss her sleep on her couch.\n\nShe says she's only interested in me and that she found those guys, desperate and creepy, but it bothers me that she didn't see it to begin with and that she didn't just flat out kick them out of her apartment. Is she just overly flirty/nice. Is this a red flag?\n\nI already have trust issues and the LDR thing is compounding them. I'd love to have an honest discussion about it, but don't want to seem controlling or overly jealous.", "summary": "new relationship and possible red flags. Neighbors came on to her and her friend and even though she said she denied their advances if bothers me that she let it get as far as it did."}
{"id": "t3_192mfi", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Feeling discouraged and a little lost - Need some advice.", "post": "I'm sure these types of posts crop of from time to time, so I apologize if you've seen this all before.\n\nI'm looking for a little advice.  To begin, I'll give you some background information.  I graduated in 2002 and joined the Air Force.  While I was in, I worked on Radar Jamming Pods and their Test Stations.  I was young and it was my first time away from home, so I didn't pursue my Associates like I should have.  I was Honorably Discharged in 2006 and I moved back home.\n\nJanuary 2007, I enrolled in the local community college and started an AAS in Biotechnology.  I gave up on that, changed my major, and instead, graduated with an AAS in Electronics Engineering Technologies in May 2010.  I looked for work in my field, but ended up as a Shipping Supervisor for a bakery in October 2010.  I'm still here.\n\nWhat I'm looking for is direction...I want to work in a field relating to computers.  I've put off getting any Comptia Certs, because I don't know if they're worth the effort / money.  I just withdrew from CTU's Online program, due to time constraints and a lack of instruction from the courses I was taking.  I did take a Web Design course during my time there and I enjoyed it.\n\nShould I try and obtain a second AAS?  A Bachelor's degree program is likely out of my reach, due to work and money.\n\nI'm including my resume for any pointers you may have.\n\nThanks in advance; sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "I need a new job.  I have some computer / IT experience and an AAS in Electronics Engineering Technologies with related military experience."}
{"id": "t3_uuast", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when I was young I was tested for my IQ and I was told it was in the upper 140s. Nowadays, I don't feel as smart. Is video games really killing my intelligence?", "post": "When I was young- 1st grade, maybe even before, I was tested for my IQ. I remember how my parents used to be so proud to tell me that the doctor said I had a higher IQ than even his. I don't remember the exact number but I know it was in the upper 140s, likely 146. During most of grade school, I felt as if I was that intelligent. However, during my final year at high school and my years so far in college, I haven't felt so smart. My mind feels sluggish at times and it doesn't seem to react with the same speed it used to. It's like a hazy feeling that I should be able to think through a problem that's giving me issues and it takes a lot more effort than I'm used to. I don't know what to think of this but I try to brush it off as simply being out of practice with the subjects I'm thinking about. I don't know if this is really it though. I don't do many harmful activities- I only drink sparingly and I don't do drugs. I exercise daily and eat healthily. The only thing I really do is play a very very large amount of video games and be on my computer for hours. I saw a comment on another thread and it made me think about this again. So, what is my problem? Is there anything I can do to regain my sharpness and should I start cutting out my excessive hours of video games?", "summary": "I was told I was super smart and I always used to feel that way but for quite some time I don't, so is my excessive computer playing to blame?"}
{"id": "t3_2ptf74", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Make me wait just to be mean? Have a little scare.", "post": "I had just gone shopping, and was driving out of the Publix parking lot.   My car was nearly to the end of the aisle when this vile woman leaned out from between the last two cars, saw me coming, and then shoved her cart out in front of me like she was daring me to hit it.  The look on her face was pure evil in a way I can't exactly explain...like she was mad at me for being there at all, and I wasn't going to inconvenience her by driving past and making her wait three seconds.  Anyway, I was only going a few miles per hour, but what she did was so egregious that I still had to brake to avoid hitting the cart.  \n\nShe then proceeded to walk in front of my car down the middle of the aisle so I couldn't go around her, and then walked diagonally through the crosswalk so I'd have to wait some more.  She also walked at a glacial pace, but that just gave me time to plan my revenge.  When I was finally able to inch out of the aisle to make my right turn, she ended up right next to my driver's side door as she meandered towards the store.  As soon as my window was right by the back of her head I laid on my horn, long and loud.  She jumped like someone had jammed a surprise thumb up her butt and whipped around in a fury, just in time to see my bird finger right in her face.  Before she had time to react, I was gone.", "summary": "Fly, bitch, fly!"}
{"id": "t3_179a5v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you rather work for more money, or would you rather have more flexibility in your job?", "post": "Right now I have a pretty OK job. I like my boss. I work from home with no one else around except for my cat and my kids when they aren't at school. Super low stress. I kind of come and go as I please. As long as the work gets done, my boss couldn't really care less about how it gets done.\n\nOn the table, I have a job for 20% more pay. The work would be similar, but I will have to be in the car for 1/2 an hour each way. And I will also be in more of a \"structured environment\". I used to work for this company, so I know a ton of people there. Super nice folks. I would be working for a dude that I am friends with. The benefits are a little better job at this joint.\n\nWhat say you Reddit?", "summary": "Stick with my current, work from home gig or take the higher paying, more structured job?"}
{"id": "t3_fc4cg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend of 3 years hooks up with a guy during a \"break\". Need advice...", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'll try to make this as short as possible, but I figured a little backstory would help set up the dilemma.\n\nI've been with this girl for 3 years. We were friends for a year before that and started dating after I got into a car accident and had to spend 3 weeks at the hospital. She was there every day and I knew I wanted to be with her. Someone who really cares about you is a thing you can't let get away and I fell in love with her when she truly saw me at my worst (wheelchair, blood transfusions, even taking laxatives to get stool samples and her helping me to the bathroom with the nurse). We then spent two and a half years together happily. \n\nThings started to get shaky in late October. She is a law student who will more than likely have to find work in the state we live and I am in marine biology. Where we live does not have many opportunities for me, and the discussions about our future was not always coinciding. We then decided to take a break to figure things out between us and see what we wanted. However, during this \"break\" we still talked often and saw each other every few days. The word \"Love\" was still in the conversations.\nTo try and wrap this up we got back together \"officially\" in mid-december. Just last week I came by her apartment to go to a movie and she was in the bath. She wanted me to look up movie times on her computer and she would be right out. When I got on the computer her facebook messages were up... now I'm not a paranoid guy and never have invaded her space before, but I saw multiple messages from this one guy one with the subject \"last night\". I opened it and found out she had gotten with this guy the day before thanksgiving (which we spent together). She said it didnt mean anything and she went to meet up with this guy, got drunk, and they had sex at her place that night... I told her we were done and left. She sends me messages and calls upset wanting to get back together, but I feel wronged in some way.", "summary": "Found out my girlfriend of 3 years hooked up with a guy while we were on a \"break\" that wasnt really a break. I feel almost like she cheated on me, but since we were technically on a break I don't know if I should be so mad or not. Any advice? I still love her."}
{"id": "t3_3qkwjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [23M] of 5 years went travelling a month ago and has slowly ceased all contact with me. Should I be worried?", "post": "*", "summary": "my boyfriend has gone travelling to the other side of the globe for an indeterminate number of months. Was initially speaking to me daily - now is actively ignoring all my attempts to contact him. Feel clingy and stupid, but something doesn't feel right."}
{"id": "t3_1uhvze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(22m) and my girlfriend(20f) just broke up and I am losing my mind.", "post": "So here it goes. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 years. We always got along and everything has been going well up untill this last week. The last week has been as testing on me as anything I have ever dealt with. We live together and have so most of our relationship. \n\nThis last week she has been going to her friends house and staying with then over night. I was none to thrilled and let her know as much. Well she said she would only be gone that one night. That was a week ago and she hasn't been home since. \n\nI would hardly get a text from her and she just seemed to not care at all. Well today I called her and asked if she would be coming home tonight. She blew up saying I didnt let her have any friends or anything. She was ranting and said she was actually at some dudes house that I don't know and has been there for a couple days. I hung up and about lost my mind. Well then the guy calls from her phone and tells me what I need to do and that I should just let it go. I lost my mind. Called her and blew up. Said a lot I regret but all I was seeing was red.\n\nShortly there after when I regained my cool I appologized and said I didn't mean it. That she shouldn't have let some guy call me and tell me what to do and I got lost in rage. We started talking and everything seemed to be going well. She and me talked for a while then all of a sudden she changes again and now doesn't really want it fixed after all. Then she wants to fix it. I keep getting mixed feelings and am losing all sanity. I just don't know how to handle all this. Help me make sense of it all please. Should I try and make it work and hope that she still wants that to or just move on.", "summary": "I want the first but I just don't know if I'm fooling myself."}
{"id": "t3_1z57mr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Getting a new job where I need to incorporate (S Corp) and am lost when it comes to taxes and salaries (and dividends, oh my!)", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinance! I'm going to be starting a new job soon at 130k a year, with a rather special circumstance. As part of the terms of me being hired, I need to set up a S Corp, and essentially be business to business in terms of the relationship with the company.\n\nI know it sounds super sketchy for a company to require me to do that, but it makes sense in context. I am 20 years old, and HR would never green light 130k for a 20 year old dude, so this is the solution that was proposed.\n\nI understand that I take on more taxes because of me being self employed (the other half of the taxes normally paid by the employer), but I am lost as to how to count anything. I should be paying myself a salary, and then paying the rest through dividends correct? Are there any sort of step by step guides on how to do this correctly?\n\nAlso, is there a way (short of sitting down with a CPA) to calculate my take home pay when counting dividends and federal/state/local taxes? I looked online at tax calculators, and they either seem too simple, or vary wildly. Some say that I would owe 10k total per year (seems too low) and some say that I would owe 50k total per year (seems wayyy to high).\n\nFurthermore (sorry for the wall of text), I'd like to setup some sort of retirement account (or accounts), but since I will be self employed I'm not sure what avenue to take.\n\nI have contacted a CPA in the area to setup an appointment to get incorporated, but was looking for some advice from more voices on the questions above. Thanks!", "summary": "20 year old dude got new job for 130k a year, and needs to setup S Corp. Not sure of what to do, or how to pay myself, or how to calculate my taxes, or how to handle retirement."}
{"id": "t3_275cl8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] believe I am bi-sexual, should I come out? Identified to bf[20M], and I don't know how to proceed. [x-post from /r/sex]", "post": "Well. I will start off by saying that I told my SO that I thought I was bi-sexual today, and he seemed to treat it as water off a duck's back. I was thoroughly surprised since he is a little jealous sometimes when it comes to other men, but I guess he could just call it \"hot\" if he really isn't taking me seriously.\n\nAnyways, that's not the point, I was always a little curious, but never acted upon the fantasies I had. I always would think of women giving me oral, or I always thought that breasts were so nice, and kind of got turned on by them.\n\nHere is where things get a little complicated. I do believe I am bi-sexual, but never got the chance to act on it. Once when I was in high school me and one of my closest friends got drunkenly dared to kiss each other, and we did. What would she think if I came out as bi? And my best friend is gay, we never did anything, but would this complicate the relationship? I'm pretty scared to tell people- should I?\n\nAlso, some parts of my family aren't that accepting of non-heterosexual relationships, so if I came out, should I just keep it to my close circle of friends?\n\nHow would I go about it?\n\nI don't know what to do.", "summary": "I think I'm bi, and although my boyfriend doesn't care, I'm afraid my friends will because of history."}
{"id": "t3_2vnzp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When should I [M24] offer to start paying for things at my girlfriends [F26] place? Or at all?", "post": "We've been together officially for a little over a month now, but have been dating for closer to four months. I've known her almost three years now.\n\nSince things became official I've been spending nearly all my time at her place. She gave me a key and has said that it's half my home too. So my dog and I are there now all the time. I still have my own apartment (six months left on the lease). We've talked some about me moving in, which will happen officially once my lease is up. But if I'm spending all my time at her place, using heat, water, electricity, etc... Shouldn't I help pay for something? Or is it too soon to talk about that kind of thing?\n\nHer internet is very slow DSL and she's off contract.. I've thought about offering to have my much faster cable internet moved to her place and just keep paying it myself.. Thoughts?", "summary": "Basically living with my girlfriend. When do I start offering to pay for utilities/etc at her place since I'm spending all my time there, even though I still have my own place?"}
{"id": "t3_2njtef", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by confusing my right and left hands.", "post": "Not today, but suddenly thought to post after reading the one about a woman nearly french kissing her father.\n\nSome time ago I was seated at a bar between my father and my wife. I was the only person having more than one drink, and I like them strong. Embarrassingly enough I was only on number two when I fucked up.\n\nThe music was good, the lights were dim, the place was warm and happy. It was just the perfect mood to stare lovingly into my wife's eyes and place my hand on her knee. After about 20 seconds of gently stroking her leg, from knee to thigh, I realize something doesn't feel right.\n\nI stop. I begin to process what my hands are doing. I look away from my wife and towards my fathers leg, where my hand still rests. Slowed unnaturally by my shame, I retract my hand and stare 1000 yards beyond the bar. My other hand, the one on my wife's side, is still clutching my drink.\n\nAs I'm coping with what happened my wife is looking around and realizing what happened. The rubbing had gone on long enough that my father had already realized that I thought I was rubbing my wife's leg and is actually having a bit of a chuckle. We all have a good laugh. They're both giddy with giggles, and I'm laughing along, but my eyes were windows into my soul screaming into a pillow with the lights off. I had another drink.", "summary": "Sensually rubbed my fathers leg thinking it was my wife's."}
{"id": "t3_30c9om", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Would you consider it unhealthy to hate people?", "post": "It's not like I'm talking about going around and murdering random people, but I don't have very many nice things to say about them.\n\nI think they are pieces of trash that are led by personal and selfish desires and if deemed necessary Would not hesitate to kill a motherfucker. So maybe I sort of lied about the murdering thing, but I really don't believe that people are worth keeping around. We sit around and manipulate each other until we get what we want. I see most people as mindless animals that are just taking up space and fucking each other so that they can produce more mindless garbage. It just sickens me to see and hear what people do to others.\n\nI mean sure there are the people who actually go out of their way to make a difference and try their best to be good people but I feel like those people are so few and far apart. I believe that all people have the potential to be amazing, but I also believe that people have the potential to be horrible monsters, and I think that most people go in the bad direction.\n\nI don't know, maybe I am just some dumb high-schooler (17 years old in case you were wondering) who is too stupid to see that people aren't shitty. Maybe you people can show me the way. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to not hate people?", "summary": "I absolutely hate people. Is this view unhealthy and if so is there something you can say that might change my mind?"}
{"id": "t3_22u9hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] I'm trapped in an extremely unhealthy, unstable relationship", "post": "My girlfriend and I date long distance. We met in a college summer program and hit it off 8 months ago. More recently, our relationship has been extremely turbulent. Long distance isn't the issue. \n\nShe's suffering from some type of depression, and maybe even bipolar disorder. Every few days is a complete emotional roller coaster. Some days she's happy, some days she calls me wanting to kill herself, with detailed plans to do it. \n\nI love her and care about her, and spend hours each day making sure she's okay. However, some days get really bad. If I say or do things that she doesn't like, she sometimes threatens to kill herself until she gets what she wants from me. If I hint at instability in the relationship, she also threatens to kill herself. Given that I'm usually far away from her (well beyond driving distance), there's often very little I can do other than talk to her and make sure I'm doing what she wants. \n\nI'm a very busy student (working and taking 6 courses), and this relationship is slowly eroding at my ability to function. I have no time for with friends anymore, my grades are dropping, and I'm starting to feel extremely unhappy myself. Her friends and family know that she's sad, but they have no idea about the extent of the problem. She says that if she finds out that I tell her friends/family, she'll kill herself before they can help. I have no idea what to do, but I'm extremely stressed and unhappy all the time now. All I want is for her to be safe/happy, but I really don't want to be in this relationship anymore. My friends and family are getting concerned as to what's wrong with me.\n\nI'm too afraid to see what would happen if I break up with her. She doesn't tell any of these details to her friends, so losing me might spell disaster for her.", "summary": "Trapped in a relationship with suicidal girlfriend. If I do anything against her bidding, she threatens to kill herself. She won't get help or talk to anyone else about this. I desperately want out of this, but moreso I want her to be okay. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1c1qvp", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Advice on how to help an elderly-ish cat", "post": "My boyfriend has two cats ages ~10 and 5 years. The older cat is awesome in every way except that he doesn't seem to like peeing in the litter box anymore. It's gotten to a point where my boyfriend had to wrap his couch in plastic, remove nearly everything else from the living room and restrict the older cat to only living room and kitchen access. The couch was initially in its normal position however the cat would get on the plastic and pee all over that so now the couch is 90 degrees upright laying on the armrest. We have visited the vet numerous times for various checkups and to receive multiple opinions and they have repeatedly said there isn't anything wrong with him and that it is a behavior issue. I don't think this is a spraying issue as he was neutered as a kitten but I could be wrong as I have never personally owned a cat before and am not familiar with cat tendencies.\n\nThe problem, however, is that my boyfriend has to travel to Japan for 6 months for work and I offered to take in his cats. While I love all animals, especially his cats (not to mention they would be pretty traumatized by a boarding facility) my relationship with the cat will not be a rewarding, pleasant one if my stuff gets peed all over. I'm also not interested in living the way my boyfriend does having to store (read: hide) everything in the bedroom. Long story short, I have a plan and would like to know what you guys think. I was thinking of purchasing a large cat enclosure and leaving it near a window with food, litter box, etc while I'm away at school and when I get home, put him in [piddle pants] so he can freely roam around if he wants although he doesn't do much roaming as it is. Do you guys think this is an acceptable solution? Any advice for someone who has never taken care of cats before (I've only owned dogs). Also, I haven't bought the enclosure yet. If you have any recommendations that would be greatly appreciated! Preferably I'd like something on Amazon as I'm a prime member.", "summary": "Elderly cat likes to pee on everything. Vets say he is perfectly healthy. Thinking of keeping him in a cat enclosure while I'm at school and putting him in [piddle pants] while I'm home. What do you think? Any other product recommendations?"}
{"id": "t3_1rh44v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have a crush on a coworker [23M]... can't gauge his interest and proceeding is awkward", "post": "I have a GIANT crush on my coworker. I just moved to a new town and started a great job in a managerial position. A few months ago we hired some temporary, part-time technicians to work on the project. One of them was incredibly attractive, I had this HUGE smile on my face the whole time we were interviewing him. I passively encouraged my boss to hire him (he was also very qualified for the position, but it definitely helped in my book that he was a total babe). \n\nWe're very nice and polite to each other, but there hasn't been any definitive flirting that I can tell. Well, there have been a few instances of teasing, but it's not like he'll just pop into my office to chat. He seems kind of reserved and I wonder if he's just shy around me because I technically work with him in a supervisorial capacity. However, he doesn't report to me directly and I don't assign him tasks on a day-to-day basis. It's more like I work closely with those who do supervise him to make decisions about the project and what needs to get done. Basically, I just can't gauge his interest. \n\nHe's one of the only other employees in my office that's my age and I don't have too many friends here yet. His employment was supposed to term soon but it seems like we might be keeping him on a while longer. I want to ask him out for a drink after work but am unsure how and when to ask him. In person while at work--like just go up to his office and ask him? Over text? What to do??! I've really got it bad.", "summary": "! I have a giant crush on my coworker but technically am one of his supervisors? We both just moved to this town and he's the only other staff member in my office that is my age. What's the best method of asking him out to avoid an awkward situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2cmuvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (16F) boyfriend (16M) hasn't gotten me a gift yet... our anniversary was a little over two weeks ago.", "post": "I don't know whether my being upset is valid or not, and I'd like some insight.\n\nOur 2 year anniversary was July 20th and I got him a cologne, a little bag of the candies he likes, and a new CD, along with a few more personal items. He has yet to get me anything, although we've made a plan on what he will get me. Our plan was to go to sephora together and he'd buy me $30 worth of products.\n\nIt sounded perfect to me. But we start to make plans before he gets his paycheck, and he always says he will have X amount left over for gas and my present. Yet every time he gets paid he doesn't have the money. He always says he is going to ask to borrow it from his parents/keep it from his paycheck but something always comes up and he can't take me. This has happened at least 3 times already. Honestly I've lost excitement in going because I feel like it's never going to happen.\n\nI can't bring it up to him because whenever I do he gets really upset and apologizes a lot, which I appreciate, but I just would rather him say that he can't take me (if that's the case) rather than continue to drag this out.\n\nI feel bad for being upset, because he's 16 on a 16 year old's paycheck. But it doesn't change the fact that he's been promising and not coming through, which is upsetting. \n\nI need an outsider's opinion so I can have some unbiased opinions to look through.", "summary": "Boyfriend planned to take me for anniversary present, hasn't, and is now a little over 2 weeks late with it."}
{"id": "t3_18if53", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My fitness pal help needed.", "post": "I have just started a journey to a new an healthier me as I realised that turning 25 being 236lbs at 5'9\" was not a good way to end a year. \nI have been cooking healthier meals and working out almost daily for 25-35 mins of cardio, and I recently started using fitbit and MFP together. \nI am as honest as I can be without kitchen scales (which I am buying this weekend) about the weight of all the foods and therefore the calories that I am eating but I find that MFP is nagging at me to eat more. \nToday I have cooked a HUUUGE meal for lunchtime that I think would serve about three people. Lots of fresh veg, a bit of skinless chicken and some quiona, when I put the amount of food into MFP it tells me the calories are too low and I am putting my body into starvation mode, I am not sure I will be able to eat even half of this meal, but I am worried that if I don't eat more my body won't be able to repair itself.\nOn an average day I will eat about 1200 calories, consisting of porridge & honey for breakfast, lunch of a meat, veg and quinoa/couscous and dinner of fresh veg, meat and sometimes potatoes. \nI don't often find myself hungry and I drink about 2-3l of water a day, if I have less I get a massive headache from the central heating system. So I was wondering if anyone else finds MFP nagging at them to eat more calories. Even on the meals that I cheat with and have a pizza MFP is still telling me I am under my calorie limit although those days are the only days it doesn't nag me about starvation mode.", "summary": "MFP nags me to eat more calories, but I don't think I can whilst remaining in my healthy diet. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_12q8vi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship of only a couple of weeks - Her, [23F] a rich, upper-class girl from India, I [22M] a working class guy from England.", "post": "We met at university, have been on a few dates, and have started a relationship.\n\nI have a few questions.\n\n**The first** is our background/wealth differences. I come from a very poor part of England, brought up and live in a small council house in the inner city (poor part of Birmingham if you're interested).\n\nShe was brought up in a massive house in New Delhi, with a huge family, very high \"caste\" and clearly very rich.\n\nBecause we're both at university, I suppose I can hide my upbringing/background. But I'm ashamed of it. And if this relationship gets serious, it will have to come out eventually (when she comes to stay with me back home, for example). How can I deal with this? I know it's the cliche of the \"princess and the self-made pauper\" but in reality I just feel like she's going to be dismayed.\n\n**The second** is sex/different attitudes to relationships. I wouldn't be happy in a relationship without sex. /r/askreddit flamed me for saying this, but I will say here as I said there - if that makes me a bad person, so be it. I'm willing to wait, maybe a month or two, but the thing is, she's a virgin, and has told me that she has had a \"serious\" relationship in the past. To me that only means one thing.. no sex before marriage. If that's the case, then sadly I would have to end the relationship sooner rather than later. But I need to know the answer for sure. Problem is, I can't think of a way to frame the question without being a creep. Any ideas?\n\n**Thirdly**.. any general advice for western guy->indian girl relationships? Differences that may arise, etc?", "summary": "Differences in wealthy/poor upbringings, cultural differences, and potential differences in attitudes to sex"}
{"id": "t3_3rznr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girfriend [18 F] 3 months, ignores and neglects me when confronted about it says she does like me tho.", "post": "We've met like 3 months ago, online, and there was a chemistry right away. But the last week she's been ignoring me while I know she wasn't too busy for me or something, when I confronted her about it she gave me some bullshit excuses and when I asked if she was as serious about whatever it is what we were having as I was she said yes. \n\nShe kept behaving in the same way and I told her it really hurt me that she was ignoring me, barely responding to anything I said and giving me no attention. I told her it really hurts me but still she did nothing about it... We don't know each other reallife but have already talked about meeting up in the future. I've acted so desperate/clingy that I feel like I can never talk to her again with feeling incredibly embarassed. But I'm also so angry and upset with how she's treating me that I consider just cutting her off completly... I don't know what to do or think about this please help. It feels like I'm addicted to her and if she completly ignores me like she's doing right now I get withdrawal symptoms.", "summary": "Girlfriend\" ignoring and neglecting me, making me feel horrible and desperate for her attention."}
{"id": "t3_2n1wm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with men - Can't trust them", "post": "My relationships haven't worked out lately and I have realized that I have never NOT been cheated on by someone. I struggle with depression, have been to therapy, and know I am not always easy to be around but I know I don't deserve this. \n\nI am having an increasingly difficult time forming healthy relationships because I just don't trust men with my heart and in turn, I can't let my guard down and really let a relationship develop. My self-esteem is pretty wrecked, too. I am really unsure what to do because like everyone, I want connection and love. Advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Been cheated on in every relationship I have been on. Preventing me from forming healthy bonds and being able to trust any guy."}
{"id": "t3_1mvivs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(23/f) have really messed things up with a great guy (28/m) Can things be fixed or are they too far gone?", "post": "So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. After the first 6 months we have issues because I'm not affection/intimate towards him unless he initiates. After some financial struggles and continued arguments about my lack of \"effort\" he became more and more distant which lead me to have intense anxiety causing me to break up with him on the basis that I did not want to live in the city he is building his career in forever. I immediately regretting this and we got back together but things were worse than ever for a month which lead to him leave me because I totally broke his trust when I broke up with him and that was really the only thing we had going for us at the time. \n\nI started going to therapy after the anxiety I experienced, that cause the original break up, and I am determined to get to the bottom why I was seemingly unable to be intimate and affectionate towards him when I am completely in love with him and very attracted to him. He has already given up hope at this point that anything will change and while I am falling apart he seems totally fine and is being extremely cold towards me which I feel i deserve for not getting help sooner, but now that I'm moving out it will relieve some pressure and financial burden I really want to fix everything and make it work, but he is completely uninterested in at this point. At this point I want to be the strong person that is able to just let him go and be happy but at the same time I feel like this is the guy I am supposed to spend my life with and I will always regret not trying to recover. \n\nI guess my question is should I try to repair something so broken? If so, where the heck do I even start???", "summary": "my boyfriend broke up with me because of lack of intimacy and trust. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_bi80p", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I may have cost my sister a job this morning. Please yell at me, Reddit, because she won't.", "post": "My sister has been diligently looking for work since she moved here three months ago. She finally landed her first interview for 9 a.m. this morning, and I told her I'd give her a ride there. She knocked on my door every ten minutes starting at 8, and apparently I kept telling her (in my sleep) that I was just about to get up, it wouldn't take me long to get out the door, etc. Also, I had myself convinced in my half-conscious state that her interview didn't start until 9:30. She ended up being seven minutes late, and was told the boss had left at nine.\n\nThe worst part about this is that she refuses to blame me or even listen to my apologies; she's down on herself for not anticipating my morning flakiness and finding another means of transportation. I don't know how long it will be until she gets another interview, but I feel like a POS.", "summary": "I'm responsible for my sister losing an interview. Yell at me pls."}
{"id": "t3_20u6uh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV, I now take a bike and the stairs to work.", "post": "As far as my weight goes, the short story is that I somehow got to be over 260 pounds at 5'9\"-ish, and then lost about 80 pounds. That was a few years ago. I was in damn good shape. Could run, was thinking about joining the armed forces. Everything was awesome...\n\nA few years later, and I fell off. I turn 24 next week, and I was recently juuuuust over 300 pounds. I live almost exactly 100 miles north of New York City. Last semester IU started commuting to the city for work and school. I still live up north, because I have another job up there. Train tickets got expensive, so I saved money by biking instead of taking the subway.\n\nI only just started eating healthier a couple weeks ago, but I'm down about 10-15 pounds right now. Just hit 286, and I'm very happy. I know it isn't really progress, but it's nice to know that it's all improvement from here. I've done it before, and I can do it again. I know I won't let myself fall off.\n\nSo the first few times I took a bike a few miles from Grand Central Terminal to my job, only a few miles, I was so tired the next day. Mostly just my legs (Coat + Backpack didnt help >.<). Anyway, it has been getting easier, and I think now that it's warm I'll take up some weekend leisure rides. :)\n\nAlso, about 20 minutes ago, I took the elevator down to street level to go buy some food, and realized I forgot my wallet, which means I forgot my elevator key. I could have asked the door man, but instead just took the stairs 21 floors up. I was almost out of breath at the top, and I'm sure I will get muscle cramps tomorrow, but it was so worth it. :)", "summary": "I bike a few miles to work now, and finally took the stairs 21 flights up. Mostly just an \"I'm excited\" kinda post."}
{"id": "t3_359f9j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by submitting the worst cover letter ever", "post": "So obligatory this happened a few weeks ago now, but I sent what is quite literally the worst cover letter ever for a job application.\n\nI had just had my wisdom teeth removed two days before writing it, so I was on quite a few painkillers and antibiotics and was quite tired for the first few days. However I have been looking for part time work for a while and thought it would be a good idea to submit an application for a job I saw online. I got out my computer and began to type, and in my hazy state I was surprisingly quite impressed with what I was writing.\n\nI proudly sent off the application, feeling quite confident in the application I was sending to the employer. A few days later, once I had completely recovered from my surgery, I decided to submit an application for a different job. I thought it would be a brilliant idea to repurpose the same cover letter I used earlier, and opened the document. As I read through it my heart sank. It was the most poorly written excuse for an application ever written. It had several grammatical errors, many missing capital letters, and a plethora of spelling errors. This is quite uncharacteristic of me, as my English was usually quite good.\n\nHowever this is where the real fuck up happened. At the end of the cover letter there was supposed to be the sentence: \"in the past I worked for [insert company here] and [insert company here]\", and instead it said \"in the past I worked for one retarded ugly motherfucker and a moronic cock-juggling thunder cunt\". No, I do not think that highly of my previous employers as you likely guessed by now, but even then what I wrote was quite mean-spirited. Even worse, at the end of my resume where it was suppose to say \"regards, [insert name here]\", it said \"retards, [insert name here]\", however that was an honest typo. I'm genuinely unsure how I managed to mess up a cover letter THIS much though...\n\nAnd then I remembered that I wrote that in as a joke to myself and had obviously forgotten to remove it. After some careful consideration, I think I may not be getting that job.", "summary": "unfortunately Hodor got the job instead."}
{"id": "t3_4t7jra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my crush[27 M] and I'm going to fuck it up.", "post": "So, I'm an emotional mess and here comes this awesome man who has romantic interest in me. The thing is, I don't know what I want. I'm date both men and women, but haven't been in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years. I'm not in a good place, right now but I don't want to \"lose\" him. He's asked me out several times and I've stood him up or made up some excuse. I'm scared. He just gets me and I know that I'll just fuck up and disappoint him and myself.  How do I stop overthinking? \n\nI'm realizing that I'm liking him more and more and he's clearly trying to get to know me better and spend time with me. We work together and I can't ignore how awkward it would be if we crash and burn. A wish I just had a template to follow and just allow things to pass. I don't know what to do/ how to approach.", "summary": "I'm a mess but I want to give him a chance."}
{"id": "t3_g7y1e", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I'm going there: I cannot bring myself to finish LOTR.", "post": "**Notice: I mean no disrespect to fans so please don't take this the wrong way.**\n\n...but I'm more than open to having my mind changed if someone can explain to me what I'm missing.\n\nMy job has an hour-long commute, so I joined the library and have been going through podcasts and audiobooks like crazy. \n\nWhile sifting through their audiobook collection I saw they had all of the LOTR books, which I've never read -- I wanted to as a teenager but never got around to it. I never watched the movies because I wanted to read the books first because I'm a nerd like that. I knew absolutely nothing about the series other than the brief introduction I had to it while playing the Interplay LOTR adventure game on PC in the mid-90's for half an hour once.\n\nSo for the first few discs I found it a little monotonous. Lots of awkward singing by the narrator, lots of painfully long descriptions of the Shire and lots of genealogy for minor characters, which I found odd. But I assumed it'd pick up since I had 14 discs left to go.\n\nI'm currently on disc 9 (right as they're getting to Rivendell) but I absolutely cannot get interested in it, though not for lack of trying. Each commute it gets more difficult for me to keep listening rather than just throw on music or the news. Every time I get to a new disc I feel like I just finished several hours of homework and I have to bargain with myself to start the next one. \n\nIt's not that I don't like it. I like Tolkien's style, the characters are ridiculously well-developed and I can appreciate how groundbreaking it was in the 1950's...I just can't figure out what's so interesting and exciting about it to so many people, and I certainly can't imagine spending 50+ more hours finishing out the entire trilogy. \n\nCan someone change my mind before I bail and take it back to the library on Tuesday? \n\nIf it matters in your analysis, my normal taste is Philip K. Dick, Kurt Vonnegut, David Sedaris and non-fiction about science, politics and religion. My favorite book is Good Omens by Gaiman/Pratchett.", "summary": "Can't get into Lord of the Rings but I'm open to giving it another shot if someone can tell me why I should. "}
{"id": "t3_1gqfhg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Societies role in our relationships. My opinion.", "post": "I wrote this after the [F/23], i, [M/22] was seeing for 2 months, thought we shouldn't be together because of a few people, who she really didn't care for, offered their opinions.\n\nWhy does society dictate ones relationship with another. All of us actors, behind an invisible force controlling how people react in front of others. We have succumb to these self-imposed shackles fearing judgement and embarrassment. The positives are few, as most relations between people tear, not by lack of chemistry, but caused by views of the truly unimportant. Perfect relations, torn apart by a societies tremendously loud input for where it should be completely silent. Most choose to embrace this scrutiny and let it trump their own free will. A few disregard the prying eyes of society and make their own choices, quickly realizing that they are not the ultimate importance. Relationships rise from human nature, but fail when constructed society deems it less than worthy. We are the cause and effect. Both the victim and assailant.", "summary": "society plays a big role in our relationships"}
{"id": "t3_ibsjx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit please help. Bought a house two years ago and now have found prior renovation work was not completely inspected.", "post": "This is a throwaway account just to conceal my identity for being such a sucker. \n\nThe story goes that I bought a house about two years ago. The place was completely renovated and looked pristine. I am no home inspector and this was my first time buying a house so I did not have the greatest eye at that time to detect problems. Anyway pretty much since I moved in I have had problems. Mainly infestation of mice, the house always being humid, water problems in the bathroom. I have had people come out and look at things but because its an old house with a new renovation people just blame that it is an old house and to expect problems. Anyway finally I could not take it anymore and just started opening up the walls and looking to see mainly where the hell all these mice were coming from and what was going on. What I find is a bunch of terrible electrical, plumbing and structural work. I went to the city today and pulled all of the records on file for the inspections and building permits. It all seems to be in order but on every inspection there is a note that says something along the lines of \"work has been concealed, appears to be compliant\". Meaning that by the time the inspectors for mechanical, electrical, plumbing.. etc got there, the construction was already completed so they really could not inspect it. Of course it was approved though. I had several contractors in to look a the damage  and got estimates as to what they thought it would take to fix everything. All of them recommended tearing out pretty much everything and starting from scratch because everything looked wrong. Seeing that I bought the house 2 years ago do I have any legal rights here? I can't afford to re-renovate my entire house.. I just spent all my money buying it! I am new to how permits work but it seems criminal for an inspector to come in and just say \"well it looks good from the outside ... approved\". Anyway recommendations on what I can do would really be appreciated.", "summary": "Bought a house 2 years ago, before buying work was done that is completely not code compliant, what are my options"}
{"id": "t3_3an29p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my Boyfriend [22M] 4 years, he wants to move in together and I'm not ready.", "post": "So like the title says, we've been together 4 years, since we were 18 and all through our college years. Now that we've both graduated and are landing steady jobs we are looking to move out. He thinks it would make the most sense to move in together and has also mentioned getting engaged but not getting married for a while. I don't want to get engaged or married until my late 20s (that's always been my plan). I also side with my traditional mom and grandma who do not think moving in together is okay until we are at least planning a wedding. \n\nI can totally see myself marrying him if we are still together in several years. But I can also see things coming between us. I'm dead set on living in another country, and I might actually have to spend six months in another country within the next couple of years. He has always mentioned that he wants to stay in the town we live in now. I am also very chronically sick (nothing terminal, but sometimes debilitating) and he doesn't handle that very well when I'm going through a flare. \n\nI definitely love him with my whole heart and everyone thinks we're perfect together, but I'm still hesitant. How do I tell him I don't want to move in together and get engaged yet without hurting his feelings and making him think I don't love him?", "summary": "BF wants to get engaged and move in together, I don't but I don't want him to think I don't love him."}
{"id": "t3_3qv4q7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Cruise Ship Injury", "post": "My wife is a singer on AIDA cruises lines. She injured her right knee in the course of fulfilling her contract, and she is currently planned to be returning from her next port (somewhere in Turkey that I can't remember the name of). \n\nWe live in NY, NY. She is a US Citizen working for AIDA. AIDA is a German company, owned by the Italian company Costa Cruises, which is in turn by the British-American company Carnival. Her primary (mine through work) and her secondary (through her parents) will not be responsible for her medical bills. Per individuals who have left on medical disembarkation before, we forward her medical bills to AIDA and AIDA takes care of them. We (I) have received no information about what is happening, and her agent is being relatively useless. \n\nLegally, this doesn't seem sound. What information do I need to extract from the company? I spoke with a medical representative at UCONN while scheduling her to meet with a specialist, who mentioned basic things like claim number, adjuster, and date of accident.\n\nAdditionally, as it may be relevant, she has a host of pre-existing medical conditions. She has a metal rod in her left leg, and she has anchors in her right hip as well as a stress fracture in her spine and a history of arthritis and mental health issues. AIDA is aware of this, but in the week she will have spent on board since receiving initial medical attention she has not received an x-ray or an MRI. All of her medication - Aleve to Xanax - was removed from her cabin.", "summary": "I know my wife - she has an exceptional tolerance for pain. When she says something is wrong, something is ***wrong***. I don't want her to get off the ship if we are missing information we will need to ensure her medical expenses are covered, and I feel that she has not received adequate or appropriate medical attention while onboard."}
{"id": "t3_3274j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/18] think my stepmother [F/44] is overstepping her boundaries", "post": "For the past couple of years my father [M/52] has been married to my stepmother [F/44] and I [M/18] think she is overstepping boundaries and is taking advantage of my father in many situations.\n\nNow, first of all, she isn't some horrible step mother, but she isn't great either. She doesn't have any kids of her own so she tries to punish me as if I was her kid, which my father allows. This would honestly not be a big deal, if she seemed sane...\n\nShe nitpicks at everything I do one week, and then loves me the next. The littlest thing can trigger her, such as what happened tonight.\n\nI ran out of batteries in my remote, so I replaced them with the batteries in my dad's remote, which were in his bedroom. I do this a lot, and then hide the used batteries somewhere obvious so he puts them in and then the remote still doesn't work.\n\nNothing happened for a while, so I assumed they just replaced the batteries, so I fell asleep. I was awakened to screaming and yelling and slamming of the opening of my door. My stepmother was yelling about how 'going into their room was an invasion of privacy'... I would understand that if the door was locked... Or closed... Or not wide open... Or if I was never allowed to go in there before... But, no. It had never been an issue before. She now told me that she doesn't trust me, and doesn't think she will be able to sleep in the same house as me...\n\nShe walked out, still yelling and shouting, and I told my father that I think it is essentially bullshit what she is doing, but all he does is nod and agree with her and say 'I need to stay on the same page as her. That's what a marriage is.'", "summary": "I can't stand this anymore, and I think my step mom is being manipulative of everyone around here. My father is letting it happen. She might not be sane."}
{"id": "t3_4lj01k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (26) says to me (23) she needs alone time and doesnt respond at all, how long is alone time?", "post": "Girlfriend and I have been dating for most 3 months, she told me she needs alone time, and she doesn't communicate at all. Like, ill send here text messages and she wont even reply. Although, if i persist she says i need to back off. Eventually saying we love eachother in a sorta direct way, but I just dont know if she is even really interested in me any more? I mean there is all types of love right? Maybe my love isnt what her love is? But, I degress. Any one tell me how much time is needed for \"alone time\"?\n\nThanks Reddit! This is my first post.", "summary": "girlfriend doesnt respond to me and says she needs alone time."}
{"id": "t3_496gnp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex[20 F] did I handle this correctly?", "post": "So we broke up about 2 weeks ago after 4 months or so of dating because she said she wasn't feeling the way she did before to which I said fine but I would remove her from everything (not blocked or anything) we used as communication because I did not want to deal with the one sided feelings in order to get over it, she said for me to do whatever I need.\n\nThing is the past few days I've just been wondering was this the right thing to do? It was my first real relationship so I don't know if I come off like an asshole by doing what I did as i'd like to be friends with her later when feelings are not involved.", "summary": "broke up with first \"real\" gf 2 weeks ago or so, removed her from most things (not blocked) in order to get over this, am I justified in doing so or did I come off as an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_1g820b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my wife [33F] of one year, My wife told me to find a job in her home state or she will file for divorce.", "post": "About three years ago we moved out of state for my job. She was able to keep her job when we moved. My wife absolutely hates it where we are. She had two arguments: 1. She will not be able advance her career being where we are, 2. She doesn't have family here. Both of those things have actually come to fruition since we moved. \n\nShe tells me everyday that I tricked her into moving by telling her it was temporary, I told her there was no time frame. This is brought up by her and ends in a full blown argument at least twice a week. She tells me that I don't care that she wants to leave and is miserable here. Now she is telling me that I need to find a job and move back, because that's a compromise from her moving down here, otherwise she is going to file for divorce. \n\nIs she right? Is me now having to leave my career and start one in her home state a compromise?", "summary": "My wife says that I should move back and find a job in her state, because that would be a compromise."}
{"id": "t3_42nf25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] don't think I'm in love with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2 years", "post": "Okay, so I [M 20] have been in this relationship with my girlfriend [F 20] for two years and it has probably been the most serious, and longest, relationship I have ever been in. We see each other frequently and get along quite well. However I feel like we have lost our connection, I feel that I may have said \"I love u\" prematurely as now I don't really feel like I do love her. I mean I do care for her and would like her to be safe and happy but I don't think I'm in love with her or she is the one.\n\nBrief history of our relationship:\n\nStarted seeing when I went through a crazy but beneficial transition in my life. I had discovered MDMA and was a frequenter of raves and such events, having suffered with depression this helped me change my life and because she helped me during this time I feel bad for wanting to break up with her. \n\nI feel like I may have rushed into the relationship as we started getting serious only 3 weeks of knowing each other and I told her I loved her while on MDMA around 3 months into the relationship. Although I believe the drug helped with our conflicts in the relationship I feel now that we have stopped taking MDMA that the drug itself was the only thing keeping the relationship together.\n\nAdding to this feeling I feel like we don't have any similar interests and that doing drugs and dancing was the only thing we had in common and now we don't do that.\n\nI am really confused as sometimes I feel like I am sure I don't love her and then I suddenly need her, I'm not sure if this is just a dependance that has occurred because we have been together for two years.\n\nSome advice would be appreciated, thank you.", "summary": "thinking of breaking up with girlfriend of two years because I feel like I don't love her"}
{"id": "t3_22hzkv", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] - Didn't comfort eat", "post": "Between October - December last year I lost 17lbs through calorie counting, portion control and exercise. After Christmas I hit a plateau that I am still working through.\n\nThe main reason for my plateau was bad habits. I couldn't shake the cravings for chocolate, sweets and Coke. I was also a bit too keen on fast food and pizza. It wasn't every day but it was enough that I'm maintaining rather than losing. It's frustrating as I only have another 16lbs to go roughly.\n\nYesterday my dog was put down. She was 14 years old. I knew it was coming but I was still heartbroken and so sad. After dinner my OH suggested going to the supermarket for some Ben & Jerry's - my favourite. My OH is normally the one to keep me on track so this wasn't sabotage. He just wanted to do anything to make me feel better.\n\nI was standing there, looking at the ice-cream, and all I could think was 'this isn't going to make me happy. What's the point?'. AND THEN I WALKED AWAY. My OH asked did I want to get a bottle of coke or some chocolate instead and I said no and I meant it. We went home empty handed.\n\nRight now I'm still really sad about my dog but I know when this passes I'll feel so proud of my decision and my ability to think rationally.", "summary": "Dog died, didn't use that as an excuse for ice-cream"}
{"id": "t3_3ck1vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(24F) am having second thoughts about mine and bf(26M)'s future", "post": "My SF and I have been together for almost 3 years and have lived together for 2. About 8 months ago, I got accepted into an art school which would require me to move to California. Back when I got into this school, he and I decided to do long distance while I was at school. But the thing is, I'm leaving on the 31st of this month and I'm really having doubts about it. He has no plans of ever joining me out there, and I don't know if I want to return to Indiana(where I am now). I've had LDRs before and none of them lasted long or ended well. I don't know what to do and my departure date is fast approaching.", "summary": "I'm leaving for art school in three weeks and having second thoughts about my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2gteic", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming the toilets in my building were \"fits it ships\" toilets", "post": "This happened a few months ago...\n\nI'm a grad student, so I work most weekends. This is important later. Over the summer, I had made it a habit of going poo in the second floor bathroom. It's a single toilet and the best in the building. Knowing I could easily clog my home toilet during my healthy eating binge and having heard from my male friends of the industrial flushing power of the campus toilets, I decided to make using this toilet my routine.\n\nUntil the fuck up. This one particular poo did not fit nor ship, thus rendering the toilet useless. It was a Friday afternoon, and the cleaning crew doesn't come in on the weekends. And Monday was a holiday. Ugh. Oh well, I thought. I still had the men's room. Weekends weren't busy, so I wasn't concerned.\n\nSaturday comes around and I use the men's bathroom as a backup. It didn't fit nor ship on Saturday, either. After that, I had to walk to the opposite side of the building and down a floor to use the bathroom until Thursday because they had to call a professional plumber...", "summary": "I took two massive poos and clogged two industrial toilets, eliminating everyone's toilet access on that floor for almost a week."}
{"id": "t3_1hbnqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20m and 19f in a case of...Dr. Jeckyll and Mrs. Hyde", "post": "Hey All,\n\nI [20m] have been with my gf [19f] for over 3 months now in a very loving relationship. We have clicked since the moment we met (randomly met on the street!) and we both think we have found someone very special.\n\n80% of the time everything is easy-breezy between us, but every time the end of the month comes around it's like a lightswitch with my girlfriend - suddenly, small annoyances fill her with rage (not anger...RAGE) and she calls me crying because she is 5 cents short on bus fare (she got on the bus w/o a problem) - you get the idea.\n\nI understand that PMS does these things to women, but I always feel like her emotional punching bag during these periods, and even if I haven't done anything to make her mad she will find a reason to be mad at me and then hold it over my head relentlessly for as long as she feels. She's even gotten mad at me for successfully cheering her up despite her best efforts to be grumpy!\n\nI guess I'm looking for everybody's two cents, because I feel sad contemplating ending the relationship just because she is damn near unbearable to be around one week out of the month when she is an otherwise amazing girl.\n\nThanks in advance for your time and sorry if the topic is a bit redundant!", "summary": "Need help dealing w/ girlfriend during time of the month!"}
{"id": "t3_nor8f", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "After finishing Week 3 Day 3 of C25K I am noticing an unintended benefit of my new lifestyle....(x-post from r/C25K)", "post": "Every day of this week, I have pushed myself to increase my pace while doing the workout. I am running on a treadmill since I already have a gym membership so I can measure exactly how much faster I am going. I went from day 1 at 6.5 miles per hour to Day 2 at 6.7mph and then today all my run intervals were at 7mph. Even though each workout is the same, I found that this keeps it challenging instead of resorting back to the idea that its something I've already achieved.\n\nSo here's the unintended part: I have noticed that with my continued success in losing weight, dieting properly, and keeping to my exercise goals that my confidence in myself is going up. I know that is to be expected but its also effecting my ability to be better in other areas of my life that I never could stick with like my hygiene, my schedule, my budget, keeping in touch with people, etc etc. It's like seeing that when I am determined to do something I can achieve is pushing me to reassess those other things and know that I can improve them too. I get more enjoyment out of striving to be an all around better adult and improving myself now so I have seen much more improvement in all aspects of my life. It's a great feeling as there things have been nagging me for years.", "summary": "By forcing myself to be better about my exercise and diet in order to lose weight, I am noticing I am much more motivated to be better in other, unrelated areas of my life."}
{"id": "t3_1kog0l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] I think my [22/f] friend needs therapy, but I'm not sure if it's my place to tell her.", "post": "We will call her Rita. Rita and I have been friends for almost 5 years. During the beginning of our friendship she had told me that she was recovering from depression but it had gotten a lot better. Throughout our friendship there are a few things I have noticed about her. \n\n1.\tShe is extremely insecure, recently she lost a lot of weight and I tried to tell her she looked great, however she couldn't accept the compliment and be proud of what she has accomplished so far. That is just an example but it runs a lot deeper than that.\n\n2.\t I'm not sure if her and her boyfriend want to be together anymore or if they are staying together because they have been together for so long/ fear of being alone (been together since grade nine)\nIn regards to the boyfriend, he has broken up with her 3 or 4 times and she always begs for him to take her back and he always does.\n\nHe just recently purchased a house with his father without consulting her on location or her desires for their home. The house is outside of the city and away from all of the things she values and she has told me that she is very upset about the purchase. (I just found out this information last night)\n\n3.\tI found she has become stagnant in her growth, she never steps outside her comfort zone and doesn't believe in herself.\n\nI haven't talked to her in almost 8 months because she was becoming very frustrating with all of these factors. Always complaining and never feeling good about herself. Well last night she called me to see if I wanted to get some coffee with her. I agreed but I'm not sure If it's my place to bring up that I think she needs professional help, or if recommending it would be a good idea.", "summary": "I think my friend is depressed and needs professional help, is it my place to tell her and if so how to I bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_4hju4b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sticking a squash ball to my head", "post": "Obligatory: This happened a few months ago. \n\nIt was a Sunday night, and me being me decided to watch some YouTube. I streamed a longer video to my TV and sat on my couch to watch. There just happened to be half a squash ball (I have no idea why) lying next to me on the table. In case you didn't know, squash balls are rubber and quite elastic and could hypothetically stick to something with suction if you pressed the open half onto your forehead, for instance. This is exactly what I did. Just pressed the squash ball to my forehead and let it stick there for a good hour while I watched YouTube. I didn't think much of it, oddly enough. After a while, I removed the ball from my forehead to use the bathroom and quite a sight awaited me when I looked in the mirror:\n\nThere was a large, dark red mark about the size of an tomato, directly on the middle of my forehead. Like a bullseye on the center of my head. There was no hiding it. My hair stopped a good inch above the top of the mark. I spent a good 2 minutes cursing at myself in the mirror. Why. Why. Fast forward to hockey practice later that evening and the mark remained the same. Now I was worried. The redness hadn't faded at all. I didn't want my teammates to see the mark so I threw a baggy toque over my head to cover the mark. I left my toque on while suited up with my hockey team and when it came time to put my helmet and jersey on, I quickly whipped up my toque and put my jersey over my head to cover the mark, and subsequently jammed my helmet on my head. The coast was clear. After the game, the toque went back on and I managed to conceal the mark from my parents. \n\nThe next day the mark was still the same size and I went to school with it on full display, much to the amusement of my classmates. It lasted about 3 days in total before it faded. The lesson? Don't be an idiot.", "summary": "Stuck half a squash ball on my forehead. Left a huge mark. Temporarily destroyed my self esteem."}
{"id": "t3_qga6h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad is seriously addicted to Team Fortress 2, and has been for the last 4 years, is there anything I can do to help him?", "post": "So my dad has played pretty much at least 3 hours everyday for the last 4-5 years, and it's go to stop, my mum is at the end of her tether and my family is desperately trying to make him quit. He works from home and does web design but spends most of his working day playing the game. He has un-installed it and reinstalled it multiple times, and currently he has 7000 hours on the game, none of which are idled. As players of TF2 i feel that some of you may understand what he's going through so any help is appreciated.\n\nSide info: he does however stop playing occasionally and makes music at [soundcloud] but never sticks with it. He is 43 and smokes and drinks heavily, and is an incredibly good artist too which makes it all the more frustrating to watch him waste his talents.", "summary": "My dad is addicted to TF2 and we need help to make him stop."}
{"id": "t3_1s5ttv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Charge-off, Paid in full on my credit report; can I get this removed?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nJust under a year ago, I moved states, and brought my credit union account to zero with the intention of closing it. However, before I was able to follow through, Paypal used the bank account to withdraw funds from Christmas shopping. This was maddening because it was my secondary account and not my primary. Anyway, I didn't discover this for months, since my credit union allowed my account to remain overdrafted to the tune of $450, and I wasn't checking that balance anymore. So now it's listed on my credit report and I'm trying to buy a new car, so it would come in very handy if it were removed. Please help!", "summary": "How do I get a $450 charge-off, paid in full, incorrectly detailed item off of my credit report?"}
{"id": "t3_2xgwbu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by starting an oil fire in my kitchen", "post": "This fuck up happened a couple years ago before I knew of reddit and now I feel compelled to share it. \n\nSo it was new years eve and my husband and I didn't have much food in the house. So I decided to make some homemade potato chips to munch on while we watched a movie. I used a pot and heated up some oil. The chips turned out okay I can never seem to cut them thin enough. I turned off the stove and returned to the couch to watch our movie. \n\nSo the kitchen in my apartment was hiding behind a corner, so there was no way we could have noticed the flames any sooner. \n\nI see a ominous orange glow coming from the kitchen so I casually walk over and turn the corner and...\nOH SHIT! FIRE! FIRE!\n\nI literally panic like an idiot. And thank goodness my husband was there to take care of the situation otherwise I would have surely burnt down the apartment. Turns out I hadn't turned off the burner, but had left it on the highest setting.\n\nSo my husband bolts into the kitchen and grabs the  pot of oil that has ignited. With some quick thinking he grabs a nearby pan and attempts to smother the flames whilst running out of the kitchen towards the door. I open the door and finally in the breezeway of the apartment complex my husband tames the fire.\n\nThere was black soot coated on the vent hood of the stove and my pan was destroyed. I am just glad I didn't start the new year by burning down the apartment.", "summary": "Nearly burned down the apartment on new years eve because I left a pot of oil on the burner and when I thought I turned it off it was actually on the highest setting."}
{"id": "t3_1hw5xv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/22]Long distance [F/20] wants relationship I don't", "post": "So this is a precautious  throwaway. I've been talking to this girl who lives a few hours away that I met once while visiting a friend. I've been friends with her for a year or two before I started talking to her. Anyways, I spit a little game at her for a month or so, telling her how fine she was and her sending me some risque photos. Then she starts talking about us moving in together and that she loves me and how hard it is to be away from me. Anyways she seems crazy and it's pretty evident from her previous relationships, and everyone's always told me to never stick your dick in crazy, but my friend is throwing a party at his house. he invited me and her and she sent me a text saying I should go with a winky and a pic of her boobs. Should I go for it???", "summary": "SHOULD I STICK MY DICK IN CRAZY????"}
{"id": "t3_10gqk6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can i do about an abusive owner?(I work in a restaurant with illegal employees)", "post": "Like any other restaurant there is a lot of crazy shit that goes on semi-regularly. The owner is an italian immigrant, who has little respect for his employees. Last year he got arrested for beating up one of our 17 yo bussers. He will pretty much do anything he can get away with. All of our kitchen and now bussers are illegal immigrants from Honduras and El Salvador. These dudes are the hardest working chillest bros out there. Favorite people in the restaurant by far. I've even learned semi-fluent spanish from them. My biggest deterrent to reporting my boss for an array of abusive actions, is my concern all my buddies will get deported or something. The servers tip out the bussers every night yet the bussers never see this money. When i confronted the manager she informed me it was used to pay their hourly wage. Our carry-out guy gets tips from time to time directly from the customer. I learned today that he has to give those tips to the owner and the credit card tips are just ignored by him. They tried to tell me the same thing when i covered for the carry out guy this morning. I confronted them then, and was told i could talk about it later when the carry out guy wasn't around. I dont know what to do. Can i report the management or owner with out my foreign buddies getting in trouble.", "summary": "I believe i have enough to report my employer for an array of abuses. Can i do this without having some of my illegal immigrent co-workers get the shaft?"}
{"id": "t3_30frb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my ex-boyfriend [22 M] of 6 months, just broke up and don't have a space to heal - living in new city with too many roommates", "post": "Basically, I just broke up with my ex-boyfriend who lives in the UK. I live in the US. Despite loving each other, I felt too young, inexperienced, and unsure of us to commit to a relationship that would ultimately lead him to find a job in the US in ~7-8 months. Too much pressure for me, and it feels too much like I'm already on the marriage track, which I'm definitely not ready for.\n\nFeeling pretty sure of the decision, even though I still love him.\n\nProblem is, it's really hard to heal from the break-up, or even just have a space to cry. I live with 3 roommates (yes, in the same room) so there's always someone around, and we're not friends. I also just moved to a new city, where I don't know anyone, and all my friends are at least a 2 hour flight away. Even though we broke up a week ago, I have yet to really have any time to myself to cry/eat ice cream/whatever and I have to constantly pretend to be happy or normal around everyone. It's eating me up. I almost cried on the L train today, in public.\n\nIdeas on what to do? How to get my own space and time to just, I don't know, \"be\"? Would welcome any suggestions on what to do after a break-up in general, ideas on self-care/healing/feeling better, etc.", "summary": "Recent break-up due to strain of LDR + bad circumstances. I am living in new city far from friends with lots of roommates, so I don't have any privacy or social support to cry with/heal in. Desperate for advice on what to do to feel slightly better or how to find a space to have a very necessary post-break-up meltdown."}
{"id": "t3_t7vwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Living with Negativity....26M", "post": "Alright so here is the quick and dirty\nMe - 26 M\nHer - 32 F\nMarried 2 years this July.\nTogether 5 years this October.\n\nWhen we first moved in together I had alot of things that I had to work on as far as being a better husband and communicating with her better, doing my part around the house etc.  Each time it was brought up it devolved into fighting but we figured that this wasn't working so devised a solution, a list!\n\nThis worked, my behaviours changed for the betterment of the relationship and myself and I feel like a better person for it.\n\nNow me, I am a generally positive individual, I try my best to maintain a relatively positive outlook on things and just be humorous.  When it comes to serious stuff I am serious but otherwise I love to smile!\n\nThe issue I am having now is that we have been having ongoing discussions for the past 6 or so months about her attitude which has been getting progressively worse.  She is employed, currently paying down her student loans and stuck with a job that she hates while she does so.  Understandably not the best situation but I am always here for her and to support her, I've helped her get her food blog started, helped her get the implements for her baking etc.  \n\nInstead of a happier more positive wife I have someone who constantly looks at the negatives, refuses to discuss our future together because it is depressing and just in general has issues showing emotion.\n\nWe have discussed this time and again, I'm getting sick of it, she is too and I'm just not seeing much improvement.\n\nI love her, I care for her but for my own mental health I am having difficulty wanting to actually spend time with her when it feels like she just hates life.\n\nKind of a can't see the forest through the trees kind of thing.\n\nI'm open to any suggestions Reddit may have on this.", "summary": "= Wife has a very negative outlook on life when, aside from her job, her life is actually pretty good and I'm trying to get her to see that/change her outlook."}
{"id": "t3_4idjhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25M with my SO 23F of three years, got into a fight over her chewing loudly", "post": "So this is sort of a small problem that has drove a wedge between me and my gf. We normally get along pretty well and I love her so much so this problem that we're having seems pretty dumb but I would really like some outside opinions.\n\nMy gf tends to chew pretty loud. She doesn't chew with her mouth open, but you know that snapping noise that some people make with their gum? She makes that noise but with her food. It's not quite that loud, but it's still pretty noticeable. I normally love that because it lets me know she's enjoying her food. However, recently we went out to dinner with my sister and she pointed out to me that my gf chews rather loudly. Since then every time I eat with my gf, what my sister said always pops up in my mind. It's gotten to the point where I asked her to stop chewing so loud when she eats, but she just gets mad and says this is how she enjoys her food and if I don't like it we can just not eat together. So now we're at a stalemate where neither of us are backing down and I just want to know if I'm being too stubborn or she is. In other words who should back down?", "summary": "GF chews really loud. I asked her to stop but she refuses. Who should back down?"}
{"id": "t3_3ya1ij", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting beat up by a girl", "post": "This JUST happened. So I was at a party and I got pretty drunk. Couldn't drive home so I walked to one of my bestriends place that wasnt too far. Ive came unannounced before and spent the night numerous times before, I know where she hides her spare key. So its like 2am and homegirl fell asleep watching tv the couch(where I usually crash when I come over.) So I crash on her bed. Heres where the FU happens. She woke up middle of the night to get water and moved to her bed without noticing me. Both of us are asleep in the same bed and I spooned her. She then freaks out and grabs a lamp and attacks me with it. She got on top of me and threw a few more swings, I was yelling \"STOP STOP STOP\" but she kept on going at me. She then realizes it was me and stops. She patched me up, we had some cocoa, laughed about the whole situation and she went on to fix the bed before going back to sleep. Now here I am buzzed telling the people of reddit how I got beat up by a girl. Happy holidays everyone!", "summary": "Got too drunk to drive home, slept in my friends bed unannounced, spooned her, she freaks out and beats my ass."}
{"id": "t3_1yqptn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25M] dating girl [37F] and not sure what to think!", "post": "Long story short: Went out drinking, and hit on a girl and her friends. We really hit it off, and eventually I would up back at her place where things got hot and heavy. Turns out she thought I was around 30yo, and my judgement put her at about 30 too haha... which doesn't mean too much to me. Come to find out she's actually turning 38 in a few weeks! She didn't believe that I was actually 25 either. \n\nI thought it was going to end as a one night stand after I left the next morning, but I left her my phone number just to be a gentleman. Well, she called me back... Fast forward a week or so: We've spent just about every night and day with each other, had tons of awesome sex, good conversation and laughing. \n\nI've really come to like this girl, and things are going well. I just can't stop thinking about her being more than 12 years older than me. I mean, she'll turn 40 while I'm still 28!! Also, she's never been married, or had any kids. Now she's mentioned to me that she wants kids, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that her 'biological clock' is ticking away. She gives me a vibe that says she's ready to settle down, and get pregnant... which makes sense considering. All of which I might not be ready for as a 25yo guy that works a lot... \n\nSo my question is: What do you guys think about a 25yo guy dating someone more than a decade older than himself? What would you guys/girls do in my shoes?", "summary": "25M dating 37F unsure what to think about their significant age gap. What would you do in position?"}
{"id": "t3_1uzc1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need Advice:My[18M] GF [19F] and I have an awesome relationship, but her maturity is less than mine. TL;DR: How do I encourage her to grow?", "post": "We are both same year college students, and our relationship is amazing. Far more than I would have guessed to happen. Sex is great, communicate often, very fair to each other, very open, no problems as far as typical relationship stuff goes.\n\nI like to consider myself extremely motivated, working hard, doing lots of different things, and overall growing as much as possible. \n\nHowever, I have noticed something that bothers me tremendously: I feel she doesn't grow nearly as much as I do. She isn't involved with much, if anything, as far as clubs, groups etc go. Although she does have real-life interests. She does alright in class, but has a pretty typical college attitude.\n\nI have talked to her about it, and she agrees that she doesn't do much, but she hasn't shown any initiative on her own to do something else (outside of the occasional party, class, and hang out with friends).\n\nAm I just being hypercritical? Will it affect our relationship in the long run? What is the best approach to helping her mature and grow?", "summary": "GF doesn't do much, how do I help her mature? Or should I even worry?"}
{"id": "t3_q7sam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Starting to have feelings for my best friend..", "post": "So I've (22M) known my best friend (20F) for two years now. We were introduced by a friend of a friend and right off the bat hit it off. We went out for for about a month but decided to just stay friends since she was just starting college and I was working a full time job while in college there wouldn't really be anytime for us to see each other. I wasn't really that upset with the decision since we were still getting to know each other. We've seen other people since then but we've never mentioned it to one another for whatever.\n\nWhile it's been two years and I assumed I've been friend-zoned, my feelings for her have resurfaced, mostly because of the fact that we talk everyday and hang out in person at least once the week. I know she's been dating someone for sometime now but she's been doing a real good job hiding it from me than usual, even cursing out her friends when they mentioned his name in front of me. I know that she's happy right now so I wouldn't dare tell her I have feeling for her or ask her out right now, but if she's single again do I? Am I just setting myself up for failure if I do, ruining my friendship with her? Anyone else ever been in a situation like this before? Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Have feelings for my best friend, do I tell her or just let it go and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_30oj20", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Learning ASL for A Guy Only to Learn He is Hearing", "post": "Insert the usual disclaimer that this did not happen two seconds ago. However, this event spread over a few months and culminated this evening at a party. Holy shit, I feel humiliated.\n\nA few months ago, I registered for a dating site. Through this site, I met a guy who I will call \"Brian.\" Brian was cute. smart, and put together. For some reason, Brian seemed interested in me. As we got to know each other via messaging, I learned he is deaf. At one point, he told me that he would attend parties and that guys would disregard him because he is deaf. This gave me all sorts of feels. He also told me that he cannot lip read English as his native language, other than American Sign Language, is Irish Gaelic. \n\nBefore we even began communicating with each other, I had already began taking sign language classes. Now, I had even more motivation to learn. \n\nTimes goes by and we randomly run into each other across the city. We communicate by signing. If we had difficulty communicating, we'd exchange handwritten notes.\n\nSo here's my massive fuck up. I didn't think to question his deafness. I avoided asking questions because I didn't want him to think that his alleged deafness was an issue for me (because it totally wasn't), etc. Anyway, we see each other at a few more parties, and tonight threw me for a loop.\n\nWe were both invited to a party. We both attended. We were signing with each other here and there...and then he did something I did not think he was capable of. Guys were all over him and he was able to HEAR what they were saying and could respond in a heartbeat. I asked him WTF was going on afterward, and he responded that he can hear/talk in addition to signing.\n\nSo yeah, I feel like an idiot.\n\nGonna slowly fade out of this one.", "summary": "Thought a guy was deaf; he totally isn't; I feel like an idiot for not figuring it out sooner."}
{"id": "t3_vr535", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I used to work as an information desk personnel at my university and dealt with a lot of rude customers.  Reddit, what's your best way to deal with angry/upset/stubborn customers?", "post": "My department sets up room reservations for events.  Our largest room was reserved for an end of the year banquet on the same evening the social dance club usually meets.  The president of the social dance club storms up to the desk, rudely states that she checked the online scheduler the night before to confirm the location of her club meeting, but it's being used by \"a banquet,\" and how could our department screw up reservations this much.\n\nI calmly told her to hold for a moment while I double checked the online scheduler to make sure she didn't misread anything.  It turns out, my facilities scheduling director anticipated this banquet and moved the social dance club meeting to another building; this was done months in advance and the president of the club misread the online schedule.\n\nAlthough, I let her know the new location of her meeting and it might have been a misunderstanding, I asked her to recheck the online scheduler.  She checks again, with me beside her and it's just as I said.  She refuses to believe that it's been that way for months and continues to complain.  I apologized and handed her business cards and referred her to the director of scheduling if she had anymore issues and she refused my offer.  Although she refused my offer, she continued to bitch about the scheduling.  I, politely apologized (AGAIN) and told her that I have no control over scheduling and referred her to my supervisor (AGAIN).  She refused my offer (AGAIN)..... BUT continues to bitch about it.  At this point, I'm annoyed, she obviously was, but I give her my all-knowing, unbreaking death stare and sternly say, \"Listen, like I said, I have no control over scheduling, if you would like to take this up with my supervisor, here is her business card.\"  I placed it right in front of her face and I stare at her for five seconds with that \"You're dead to me\" look.  Her eyes twitch (probably from the eye contact) and she slowly walks away.  Every encounter after that has been polite.", "summary": "club president continues to complain after I show her the new location of her meeting (it's already done, why bitch about it any more).  I refer her to the facilities scheduling director, she declines, but continues to bitch.  I repeat my referral to my supervisor accompanied with a death glare and she shuts up.  All forms of communication afterwards have been polite."}
{"id": "t3_14tbzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[17] drugged me the night before my[17] ultrarun.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying that though I drink and toke on occasion, despite my annoying badgering my girlfriend is completely straight edge (and this is a throwaway). She told me on Friday that I should stop drinking and smoking so often, and I agreed and promised I would, end of conversation.\n\nA couple weeks ago my girlfriend mentioned that she took one of her mom's sleeping pills that totally knocked her out (she's pretty small). I had a 12 hour run planned for Wednesday night, so I knew I would have to sleep hard on Monday night and possibly Tuesday afternoon. \n\nI asked her on Saturday if she wouldn't mind grabbing me a couple of the pills, and she brought me 2.\n\nI took one at about 9:00 monday, and didn't feel drowsy by 9:45, so I took the second one, thinking they were pretty weak.\n\nA couple non-sleepless hours later I recognized the effects as hydro's (I've been prescribed them for a couple of injuries), and spent the whole night sweating because that's what Hydro's do to me. The next day she asked how the pill worked (she thought I had taken 1) and recommended that I wash the 2nd one down with some alcohol.\n\nI told a couple friends about it, and one of them asked her today and she said she \"might have gotten confused.\"\n\nI don't know what to do, I haven't talked to her since Monday and the run was absolutely terrible because I was going on no sleep for 2 days.", "summary": "Girlfriend told me hydrocodone's were sleeping pills, recommended I wash them down with alcohol."}
{"id": "t3_3n2hr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) am developing a crush (19F) but I have been in a committed relationship with my current gf (19F) for the past 4 years.", "post": "I know I shouldn't feel this way but sometimes I can't help but catch myself on cloud 9 thinking about this person. It's more than just a physical crush in my opinion and I have no idea how I should deal with this. We all go to the same college except this girl lives in my building she's in one of my courses. We're starting to talk and get to know each other but I am very happy in my current relationship and I love my girlfriend to death. Is it wrong to develop a crush? Is there something missing in my relationship that's causing this to happen? What should I do? Any help is appreciated! :)", "summary": "developing a crush on a girl in my class but have a 4-yr girlfriend. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_516kpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex girlfriend [32F] wants to go on a family vacation with just me [32M] and our son [7M]. I would like to do it, but my girlfriend [31F] has a problem with the arrangement.", "post": "The plan would be to take our son somewhere over his winter break this year together. This is something my ex and I have been discussing for a while. We both want to give our son memories of true family vacations especially since he was so little the last time we all vacationed together. Neither of us wants him to miss out on experiences like those because our relationship didn't work out. \n\nI've approached my girlfriend, who I've been seeing for about 2 years, about this, and so far she's not been very receptive to the idea. She won't go so far as to say she's worried I will cheat on her, but she's made it clear that she's very uncomfortable with the two of us being alone on this trip together when we're as close as we are. My response has been to remind her that our son will be along on the trip, so that should reassure her that no funny business will be going on. I've also reassured her that I'm almost completely certain that my ex isn't interested in me. \n\nTo me, this is just a family vacation with my son and his mother. I really feel like it would be a good thing for him, and that is why I want to go. \n\nI just have to ask, though, is there anything wrong with my ex and I going on a trip alone given that our son is going? I can't understand my girlfriend's concern here. She knows I loved her and am committed to her, but she also has to know that I'm just trying to give my son the most normal childhood I can give him under the circumstances. Is there something I can do to prove that she has nothing to worry about?", "summary": "My ex and I want to take our son on a family trip with just the three of us. My girlfriend objects because she's worried that my ex still wants me back and that something might happen. I don't believe that's the case. Is there some way to prove that she has nothing to worry about?"}
{"id": "t3_3v9t0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some advice", "post": "Ok so this is kind of a long story but ill try and keep it as short as possible. So me [28, male] and my ex [21, female] dated for 2 years until about two weeks ago. She still lives with me while she is looking for a place. Now things were great until her dad died about 4 months ago. Things just werent the same afterwards. I tried being there for her as much as i could, but honestly i had no idea what to do. We kind of drifted apart in that time. I think we both gave up. So one day she comes home and im still asleep. Im a chronic over sleeper and slept through my class once again. She got pissed and said she cant do it anymore. So we break up because she says after all shes been through she cant waste her time on someone that is going to be lazy. I completely understand that. She says that she needs space to figure out what she wants and to see if we realize we still want to be together. Its really hard to see her everyday and not be able to kiss her and show her that i still love her. What should i do? I still love her and want her back so much. And i think i can tell she does too.", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me but we still live together. I want her back and she might too. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_4nxxvu", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Our kitty is so picky, we've given in.", "post": "Our rescue cat, Abby, has always been picky with food. When we first got her, she was quite ill and didn't like to eat anyway so that was even more difficult. Every time we think she likes a food, she stops eating it within a week and won't eat it again (Only after we have bought a months supply...).  \n\nThe thing is, we've tried to out-stubborn the cat, and it was a game of chicken we were never going to win.  And then came kitty number two, Ollie, who is just the jabba the hutt of kitties.\n\nNot only will Ollie eat any left over food in Abby's bowl, but Abby doesn't want it and actively gives it to her baby sister.  It got so bad that Abby was vomiting clear bile out of hunger at night... we tried separating them, getting new foods, giving dry food to snack on... it was no use, she didn't eat. Before anyone asks, she HAS been to the vet and they just said she's picky.\n\nFast forward to us getting a gift pack from our vet for the baby when we took Abby in to see if there is a problem. It has royal canin weaning kitty food, and we thought we'd see if Ollie liked it. Guess who likes it? Abby. It is kitty crack cocaine I don't know. We started sprinkling it on top of normal cat food, and guess what.. she eats it. It's like a seasoning.\n\nSo here is our doubt, is this ok to do? The vet seemed really passive about it, and I don't know how good this is to do. I looked up its ingredients and it almost seems just like a vitamin packed dry food. We are sprinkling so she doesn't eat more than a a few grams.", "summary": "our rescue cat won the food battle and now we give her weaning kitten food to get her to eat normally, is this ok?"}
{"id": "t3_3dfeo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Had a great date with a guy [26M] that I [23F] met online, and then out of the blue he goes completely no contact two days later. Do I reach out for closure?", "post": "I have been texting and snapchatting a guy I met on OKCupid for 2 weeks before we decided to meet and go on our first date. \n\nWhen we met, we clicked. Our sense of humor aligned, we both have the same views on religion and politics, and never ran out of things to talk about over the course of the day. (We went hiking and picnicking, so we were together for about 7 hours on a Saturday.) At the end of the night, there was a perfect first kiss, then some making out later, and talks of a \"next time.\"\n\nWe texted back and forth a little on Sunday, and then Monday I get radio silence. He finally texts me back these one word answers, and then eventually just stops responding. I check on Facebook to see if there's anything going on (as he's a fairly active user and uses Facebook a little like Twitter) only to find out I've been unfriended. \n\nThat was two days ago, and I'm afraid I've been a mess ever since (I know it's silly to get attached that quickly, but we had in depth conversations over the course of two weeks and I've always worn my heart on my sleeve anyway.) I know it's over, I just have no idea why. He gave me no indication that anything was wrong, and if going on that date with me was just acting then he deserves an Oscar. \n\nDo I reach out to him again for closure? I don't want to be the clingy girl that can't take a hint, but I'm kind of heartbroken that I don't at least know WHY.", "summary": "Had a really great date with a guy I met online, then he goes no contact two days later. Do I reach out as to why or just try to process this on my own?"}
{"id": "t3_v83z2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got dumped by my long-time girlfriend for another guy, on my birthday, by text. What's the worst thing someone has done to you, Reddit? How did you get over it?", "post": "If you want details, she called me the night of my birthday saying she needed something to talk about but my inebriated ass hung up and passed out (come on, it was my birthday and she spent maybe 1 hour with me in total). So then my girlfriend of a year and a half, and pretty much the only other person I've loved this much, dumps me saying \"it's time we go our separate ways.\" What a crock of shit. I mention I'm confused on Facebook, and she texts me saying she's met someone who is going to make her happier and she wants me to move on blah, blah, blah. What makes it worse is that I stick up for myself, saying you know what f@#k you then after everything I've done for your sorry ass (a lot, believe me, more than anything I'll probably do for anyone else) you're just tossing my shit to the curb like I'm nothing and everything we had was just pointless. \n\nGranted, we had our arguments, but who doesn't? She always wanted to improve so I did for her, and at the end of it all she says she's leaving me to make herself happy, like she's doing it for her? Like this whole f@#king relationship has been about me helping her, paying for her, giving her rides everywhere, consoling her when her crazy mom flips out, changing and constantly working on myself to improve our relationship...and then she tries to make me believe she's doing this for her? This whole thing was about her. The worst thing is she was the one who was always worried about ME cheating, about ME meeting someone else, and I honestly had the option to at least twice. I never took those opportunities and yet I feel it is heart-crushingly ironic that she would be the one leaving me for someone else.", "summary": "got heart ripped out by female, proceeded to show it to me and stomp repeatedly. "}
{"id": "t3_3uhh8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [37M] ex-wife [36F] started dating someone that doesn't want her seeing me. To respect his wishes, she has cut off contact and I can't see my stepson [15M] that I've known for nine years.", "post": "My ex-wife and I have known each other for nine years. For those nine years I have also had the wonderful opportunity of building a father/son relationship with my stepson.  My son's mother was/is the best friend I've ever had. Sometimes relationships have their issues so we divorced. We have stayed friends and have been able to be a part of their lives. \n\nAround the end of June and beginning of July she started to date someone seriously.  All I wanted for her was to be happy, which she was. At the end of July she told me she needed to speak with me. We met for lunch and the first words out of her mouth were, \"You're going to hate me.\" At that point she told me her new boyfriend didn't want her seeing me, but that it was her choice. She then told me I wouldn't be able to see my son, who I would see at least once a week to hang out, work on homework, or use the season tickets we had to one of the local sports teams.  Afterwards, she told me she would re-evaluate the situation in four months and that I would be able to see my stepson one more time to speak with him (under the supervision of his aunt). After the meeting she blocked me on all social media and had my son do the same.\n\nI was devastated because I had lost two of my best friends. \nThe last 16 weeks have been some of the most difficult I've ever faced. I contacted my son's aunt and she told me her sister hadn't told her anything about the agreement of seeing my son and that she didn't want to get involved. I'm fine with that, I don't want to cause any rifts with her family. \n\nThis Monday will be the end of four months. I have some ideas on how I should approach the situation but I would like anyone's opinion on how to proceed.", "summary": "Ex-wife's new boyfriend doesn't want her to see me, because of this I am unable to see my stepson."}
{"id": "t3_3el3z6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22f] girlfriend pays her little sisters 100$ phone bill every month when we can barely pay our own bills. She refuses to bring it up to her parents.", "post": "I'm 22m and my girlfriend 22f have an apartment together. We have a rent, phone bills etc. Both of us work full time to pay our bills. The problem is my girlfriend has been paying her little sisters bill as well as her own and we never have any extra money. We can't go to a dinner or movie at the end of the month because we have bills and food. Her parents are not the best off but they make at least 5 times as much as we do. They have pot (which I have no problem with ) and do other recreational activities. Her little sister is 13. \n\nI understand a cellphone is necessary with buses and stuff but why is my gf fronting the bill. She refused to bring it up to either of them and I've talked to other people in her family and their on my side.  I keep telling her to please bring it up to them. I didn't mind before we had all these bills but now that we're trying to start a life every penny counts.  I don't want to bring it up to her parents because I'm not exactly in the position too but this is effecting our bills. Not to mention I want her to be on my significantly cheaper service provider. \n\nHer mom also does little things like say she's coming over then shows up her, her boyfriend, his son and his sons friend. We have a tiny one bedroom and this ruined my night because I couldn't even sit on my couch and relax after work. She's also told her little sister Her and her friends could stay at our house while they attended a con which we could not house or feed. (They didn't enzd up staying but it's the principal) My girlfriends sister is family but I don't think it's her/our responsibility to care for her. The main issue though is the phone bill. What should I do guys?", "summary": "my girlfriend is paying 100$ a month for her little sisters phone bill even though her parents can afford to pay it and we cannot. "}
{"id": "t3_oo2r3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How many of you have played a musical instrument at a party and got laid because of it?", "post": "I am one of those horrible people.\nI've been playing guitar on and off for about 9 years now, I can sit down and play anything I put my mind to. I usually play a lot of fun songs like anything by Zeppelin, Guthrie Govan, and Steve Vai (basically songs that are somewhat difficult to play.\nHowever there are times when I'm hammered at a party and I can find a guitar and automatically get laid by playing the \"classics\" such as Oasis - Wonderwall, Hey there Delilah - Plain White T's, Good Riddance - Green Day, and I Will Follow You Into the Dark - Death Cab for Cutie.\nIf you do this too you know it's like fishing with dynamite but you simply don't care. I don't even care for any of the songs I previously listed (besides the Death Cab song, they are incredibly talented). And the vast majority that don't do it probably hate guys like me for doing something so simple and easy yet so effective.\nNow who else uses this cruel tactic to get laid (bonus points if it's any instrument that isn't guitar), also tell us any good related stories you have.", "summary": "I'm an asshole and I don't care"}
{"id": "t3_293vfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Roommate [24 M] 5 months, We agreed to a certain amount for rent. I ask for rent early and he says \"i'm not an atm\". Need some advice.", "post": "A little bit of back story. I am in a situation where I do not have to pay rent or utilities for my house.\n\n I decided to let my friend move in with me as long as he pays 150 dollars a month to me for rent. Today I just asked him if I could get the money early because I need gas and to get some other stuff. He basically told me that I use him as an atm. I don't understand this. We agree'd to a certain amount. I told him that I hope he didn't see it that way, because I don't see him that way at all. He has lended me 15 bucks for a leash for my dog a while back and I told him he could take it off of rent, but that's the only time I have asked for any sort of early rent from him or any sort of money beyond the agree'd 150. What's the deal and what can I say? I'm kind of upset about it and it felt like an accusation of sorts.", "summary": "Roommate says \"I'm not an atm\" when I ask him for rent money early. I don't know what to say."}
{"id": "t3_2tottt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Get paid in cash/silver+gold bullion, not sure how to file taxes.", "post": "So I'll be filing my won taxes for the first time, and I'm a little confused because of the way I make money. I work online and get paid with either btc or paypal. When I get paid with bitcoin, I sell in on localbitcoins for either cash or gold/silver bullion. I've had some issues with paypal before, and because of this I don't add all my personal/banking info. Each week I use the money on paypal to purchase around $3500 of gold/silver bullion from ebay. All of which I keep in a safe. I have money in my checking/savings account that I use for bills/expenses, so all the money I have made this year is in gold/silver. I know this seems really silly or might be a stupid thing to do with my money, but collecting gold and silver is a hobby of mine and I've just been stocking up. \nI started keeping detailed track of the exact dollar amount I was making about 4 months ago, but earlier than that I was stupid and didn't write anything down so I don't know the exact amount of money I made. \nIs there something I should do if I don't know how much I have made, and don't have a W2 or any tax info? Do I mark down that I'm self employed?\nI know this seems really confusing, so I understand if your advice is just \"hire a tax professional\"", "summary": "All the money I have made in the past year is in gold/silver bullion. Not sure how much. No employer, no W2, no records. Anything I need to know when filing this year?"}
{"id": "t3_2rgy2n", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am a fucking dumbass who can't read numbers", "post": "I mixed up two of the digits when I sent the text message.\n\nI am in a student organization that helps build primary and secondary schools in rural areas in Honduras. I went on a week long service trip last winter and it was the most amazing week of my life. I can't describe why, but being in this organization and working towards my fundraising goal has been just about the most important and fulfilling thing in my life over the last year or so.\n\nI was supposed to head back to Honduras in 5 days. For now I am home from college over winter break. I noticed last week that I made the colossal mistake of leaving my passport at my college apartment (~5 hrs away). Thankfully, I had a roommate still there who could mail it to me. With over 10 business days before leaving on my trip at the time, I figured mailing it was not much of a risk (I realize now how stupid this reasoning is).\n\nOf course, today, I checked back over my text conversation with my roommate and noticed I got the fucking address wrong. 2 numbers swapped places. I don't know if I read it wrong or typed it in wrong. The address I sent does not exist. I am a fucking aerospace engineering student but I can't fucking read a fucking 5 digit number apparently. \n\nI am lost for options at this point. It will be near impossible to track it down (it's in an envelope, no tracking #). It will most certainly be returned to my college apartment too late to get in time for my flight.\n\nI realize that this only happened because of a special series of idiotic errors that only I am capable of. I have wasted a years worth of fundraising, over a thousand dollars worth. I spent so many mornings at bake sales and sponsored events. I worked so hard and now I will spend the week at home feeling sorry for myself. I want to crawl under a rock and die.", "summary": "I made the stupidest, simplest mistake and now after a year of hard work I will miss out on one of the most incredible weeks of my life"}
{"id": "t3_553n6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] break up with my BF [21M] of two years? First relationship.", "post": "It's over. \n\nIt hurts to admit it, but it's true. We fell in love fast and hard, and were completely absorbed in our relationship for a while. And slowly it's just been fading. I love him, but I'm not in love. \n\nThere's no romance. He always gets upset at me for things that shouldn't be an issue at all (like wanting to go out and have a girls night). He spends his days sleeping and playing video games, he has no interest in working or working out or taking care of himself (or me). I feel like I'm scared to do anything because he always finds reasons to yell at me. I'm just not happy. He has told me multiple times that he doesn't trust me, and to a point I think he is very controlling (or tries to be). \n\nIt's hard. We live together, and have spent 99% of our time together for the last two years. I love him, and he loves me, but I just can't do this anymore. I need to experience being single and doing my own thing and having freedom. Maybe I am making a mistake and maybe I will regret letting go of someone who loves me, but the fact that I can't get these thoughts of breaking up out of my head is a big sign. \n\nWhat do I say? I don't want to hurt him. I've been putting this off because I don't want to have to go through the stress of one of us moving out or explaining to his parents (who treat me like a daughter). How do I even bring it up? I have never done this before and I don't know how. \n\nAlso- my biggest fear- will I regret it? \n\nThank you for any advice or comforting words.", "summary": "I want to break up with my first BF, together 2 years... I just don't know what to say or when to say it."}
{"id": "t3_3cukkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] have been discussing marriage with my [21 M] boyfriend. How long did you date before engagement or talk of marriage?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than 2 years, I've known him for almost 8, and we have now begun discussing getting married. We both want to finish school and get jobs first, even before engagement. However, his close relative is getting married, so that sparked a conversation between us. We definitely want to set up a successful future for the two of us, so it won't be for a few years.\n\nMy question for you all would be how long did you date before engagement/seriously discussing marriage? How old were you? I'm just curious to see what other people think. \n\nAlso, if you're up for it, include a 'how we met' story! I love those :)", "summary": "talking engagement with boyfriend, curious what others have done"}
{"id": "t3_11c5ie", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how has forgiveness impacted you?", "post": "Years ago in freshman year, this girl who we will call tiffany pretended to be my friend. I confided in her my darkest secrets. Well, she told the student body and I became an outcast. I had no friends and was forced to eat lunch in the library to escape harassment. Fast forward to current times I recieve an email from Tiffany. She said she remembered what she'd done and had grown since then. She wanted to apologize. \n\nI have accepted her apology and it has already begun to heal my trust issues although she is certainly not the main problem with that. \n\nAnother instance is with my mother. She'd had been mentally and verbally abusive to me. She has personality disorder and I know she needs help. I've learned to forgive her the moment she says or does something. I've become a much happier person because of this.", "summary": "Highschool sucked before I moved, my mom needs more help than I can give. "}
{"id": "t3_18pk9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24) have found out my bf's (25) mother abandoned their family. How do I be supportive?", "post": "I am in a new relationship (4 months) and discovered through my boyfriend's friend that his mother abandoned their family when he was very young. One of his friends let this slip to me after a few drinks at a party. My boyfriend has not told me yet.\n\nPreviously I knew there has been no contact with his mom and the subject is very touchy. I haven't pushed him to reveal anything. We had spoken about our pasts before, he was upset but said in time he will be able to tell me things and I am ok waiting for him to share. \n\nHe's also been hurt in former relationships and I think this has really affected him being open with me as he avoids in-depth or emotional conversations.\n\nI come from a family where my parents are still together and have no idea how to approach this or help him feel more at ease with me. I care about him very much and want to make this work. Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother abandoned family when he was young, he hasn't told me this but I found out through a friend. How can I be supportive of him?"}
{"id": "t3_14uk32", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What a great week", "post": "I had one of the best weeks of my life.\n\nOn Sunday (also coincidentally my cake day), I had an intercontinental flight to make but my passport was held by the authorities who were going to issue me a visa and were delayed in their return. After facing angry crowds in the same situation, I managed to get my passport shortly before check-in opened an ran home, got suitcase and made my flight.\n\nUpon arriving, I spent time with my girlfriend, and saw old buddies. I proposed to my lady and she said yes, and the next day was the graduation ceremony for our masters' degree, where we both graduated with distinction.\n\nIt was very hard to leave on Thursday, I wish I could've stayed behind with my fianc\u00e9e or bring her back, but we had only great moments together. I'm now at home, in bed, just thinking about everything. What a great week!", "summary": "Made my flight by a thread, got engaged and graduated from my masters all this week."}
{"id": "t3_3fus5q", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need some advice about a few things", "post": "The whole starting point of everything happened when my dad walked out on my mum after cheating. It's been an extremely messy and complicated divorce that is still not settled 4 years later. My dad has depression and has some perceived victim complex when talking about the divorce to people - to some he will lie and act as if they are still together (he didn't even tell his own family, they found out by trying to contact him through us). To others he says how my mum is the one who cheated - but HE is the one who cheated. He has also been keeping secrets and lying for many years before he left. He has lied constantly throughout the court process and won't agree to settle anything because he wants to destroy my mum - even the mediator says his behaviour is absolutely fucked and can't understand why he won't just settle things. That is only some of it - but I don't speak to him at all anymore. He hasn't supported me one bit throughout this entire process or even tried to.\n\nA knock on effect is that now my mum and sibling have depression as well. All 3 of my immediate family have depression and I do not.  It is very difficult to live with her sometimes and I don't know what to do.\n\nDue to all of this my mum is now trying to support me and the pets we have (sibling moved out of home)singlehandedly but money is extremely  tight all of the time. Due to me being over 18, my dad is not legally required to help me at all... It creates a lot of stress and I did have a job but lost it due to no hours for me. Now I have zero income. I am trying to get through uni - 4/5 days a week 1h30mins away, and do 5:30 starts most mornings leaving me somewhat sleep deprived. Moving is out of the question due to combined home circumstances, but the fuel cost is really difficult. I have only got the work experience of the job I just lost - 3 months weekend casual worker.", "summary": "how do i handle living with a family member with depression + is there anything an unexperienced student can do to try to get some extra money so I can afford to get to  uni?"}
{"id": "t3_36q1yk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 F] with my ex-bf [15 M] 2 months, having trouble letting go after getting dumped", "post": "Basically I was dating another guy (John) for a year- not bad for a first relationship- but he broke up with me in a pretty harsh way (just dumped me out of the blue on the first day back to school. I was a wreck for months). Then my new ex (Mike) comes along, and kinda lifts me back out from my depression-esque mentality. So we're both attracted to each other, but I was scared to date Mike because I didn't think I could go through anotehr breakup. But after a while, I finally relented cuz I couldn't bear to see him with other people, and he kinda said, \"If we break up, I'll make you hate me or something so it'll hurt less.\" Either way, we got together, but I was a bit clingy and needed a lot of his time, so he said he couldn't deal with it. Broke up with me gently, and said we could stay friends (we were pretty good friends in that period where he was helping me get over John). Now I want to be friends again, but I feel like I'm trying too hard. Also I still like him, and it's only been... about exactly a week. I've actually just started no contact for about 3 hours (shoulda done it right away I know, but it was hard), but I already feel like shit. \n\nAny advice? I need to let go and stop making a fool out of myself, especially because we have so many classes together. I can't keep my eyes off him and everyone says it's creepy. Help!", "summary": "He broke up with me, said we could remain friends, but I still like him and I'm making a fool out of myself by hanging around all the time. Tips for staying away (and hurting less)?"}
{"id": "t3_2bv9qb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I know my girlfriend [18/F] of 9 months cares, but she just doesn't put in any effort and I [20/M] am sick of it...worth breaking up over?", "post": "Been seeing this girl since November, she is so much fun, absolutely gorgeous and very well-intentioned...but I think she's just fucking lazy. I'll ask her out and get turned down because her parents won't let her, she has work, she has uni or she's with other friends, to the point where I've stopped trying.\n\nPart of the issue is me, because I'm too spiteful and refuse to be the one always asking. I asked two friends out to lunch today and just didn't bother asking my own girlfriend, simply because there was like an 80% chance she'd say no for whatever reason and I'd get pissed off.\n\nI tried to break up with her a few months ago for the same reason, really, and I've had words with her about it since too. I know she cares, I know that I mean a lot to her and she doesn't want to lose me...but she just doesn't show it at all [when she's not with me]. When we're together everything is really good, great even. We have heaps of fun and clearly love each other's company. But once we part ways, it might be for the whole week despite us living like a 20 minute drive away, and 90% of the time we'll only see each other if I keep asking.\n\nI've had this issue for a while but have told myself I'll wait until the end of August since by then we'll have had a few weeks with her parents out of the picture to see if the relationship actually changes, but I don't know if I can even hang in that much longer. I asked her to come over on Thursday since I hadn't seen her for a week and had been away - she was going to be at work that night and my place is closer than hers from there - but no, she was \"too tired\" to stay with me.\n\nSince I've brought it up before and nothing's really changed, should I even go through the same speech again? I want to love this girl but I just spend so much of my time being pissed off.", "summary": "girlfriend puts no effort into seeing me, tried to break up with her previously but she said it would change, it hasn't. Do I just end it?"}
{"id": "t3_47x3z3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] am upset with something the man I'm dating [30M] texted. Am I overreacting?", "post": "I [27F] have been seeing a new guy, John [30M] for a month and a half. We see each other once a week, often on weekends, and text each other every day after work, usually telling the other one what our day has been like. He is the one initiating the conversation most of the time; not sure if it's relevant, but just saying in case it is. We didn't have the exclusivity talk yet.\n\nYesterday he initiated the conversation again and started telling me about this woman at work who wanted to set him him up with someone. I asked him if she showed him pictures of the woman in question. He replied: \"Yes, she looks terrible. **I lied** and said I just started seeing someone.\"\n\nI am very upset because of the \"I lied\" part of the sentence but didn't tell him anything about it yet. He didn't seem to be joking at all.\n\nAlso, I think it's worth mentioning that our first date was outside and awesome and lasted six hours but that the dates after were mostly dinner at his place.\n\nDo you believe he is seeing me as a fuck buddy and thinks I'm cool with it, or is there any chance that he is testing the waters to see how I am going to be reacting to his behavior?", "summary": "New guy I'm dating is either being a tactless idiot or a douche, but somehow I want to figure that out."}
{"id": "t3_zld9j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In a ridiculous situation. Lawyers, Tourists, Everyone; How can I go to Brazil and marry this girl?", "post": "I'm in a bit of a pickle here, and by bit I mean a huge one. I'm 19 years old and I've fallen in love. Sound corny? It probably is. There are a lot of intricate problems, though. \n\n1. She lives in Brazil, I live in a totally different country\n\n2. Her parents don't want us to be together\n\n3. I don't have a Visa to go to Brasil\n\n4. I am of legal age to be married in Brazil, she is not (16)\n\nI've already applied for a Visa 2 months ago, with no reply. I'm getting worried. Then there's the problem of when I get the Visa, how long will I be able to stay for? Will I get it for 40 days and then be asked to leave? Can I keep extending it?\n\nWe've talked about marriage, but she needs to be 18 or have her parents consent. Her parents will not consent and 2 years is a very long time to wait. We also just plain want to wait to get married, so that it's a thing we do when we feel it's right, rather than something we HAVE to do to be together. \n\nI've looked up Brasillian law and it says that we can be married if it exempts me from going to jail (i.e. statutory rape). Again, we don't want to have sex because we HAVE to, we want it to be a romantic thing that just happens because the time and mood is right. I was thinking, if I overstay my Visa, does that count as something that marriage could exempt me from going to Jail for?\n\nI'm learning Portuguese, but I hear from her that it's extremely easy to get a job in Brazil if you speak English. Can anyone verify this? I know I'm asking a lot, but this is something I am doing for love. I will take all the cradle snatching comments. I will take all the idiot in love comments. I'm desperate at this point. Please, if there is anything anyone knows that can be of help, or even just an encouraging comment, it would be more than appreciated by the both of us.", "summary": "Girl in Brazil under legal marriage limit, I want to get a visa to fly there and stay there. "}
{"id": "t3_40nsi8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) just got stood up by the guy (19M) I've been seeing for 5 weeks.", "post": "So I just got stood up. \n\nHere's the deal. I've been seeing this guy for about 5 weeks now and we've really been hitting it off. So far everything has been really good, no problems, and we planned last night to meet up for lunch during my 12-1 break today. We texted and had unrelated conversation this morning, then at 12 I left class to go meet him. \n\nBy 12:15 he's a no-show, so I text to make sure everything is ok. \n\nBy 12:30 I'm pretty pissed off, and a friend passes by so I accompany him to lunch and text the guy id been planning to meet that I had to leave to get food since I had class at 1.  He responds about 10 minutes later with something along the lines of \"sorry, I'm awful, I got caught up in schoolwork and lost track of time\". I haven't said anything yet. \n\nI'm pretty angry, and those who know me in person know that I never get angry about anything. I don't know what to do. I really liked him and things had been going really well. If it wasn't for that I would have no trouble just not responding and never seeing him again, but I do really like him. What do I do/say?", "summary": "got stood up by guy who I'd been seeing for several weeks and had we had really been hitting it off. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_50m4jz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being weirdly obsessed with coin orientation", "post": "I was about 10 and my friend and I saw a cool infomercial (no idea now what they were selling) where a guy flattened a penny with a hammer. (If you think you know where this is going, you are absolutely right.) For some reason, we thought it would be a great idea to try that, only we couldn't find a penny, so we decided to try to flatten a dime. Shockingly, dimes and pennies are made of different materials, so we weren't making much progress, but like good little elementary school kids, we were taking turns swinging the hammer on the sidewalk by my house. When it was my friend's turn, I noticed Roosevelt's face was angled about 40 degrees away from her, and for some reason it seemed really crucial that he be facing her dead on, so I rotated the dime. I was a neurotic, whiny kid, so when my mom heard me crying, she assumed it was something minor and came out rolling her eyes before she saw all the blood. Luckily, I didn't break any bones, but I had a cool hangnail with which to gross out all the boys on the bus for the next few weeks.", "summary": "Tried to smash a dime with a hammer; stupidly got in the way of the hammer; got my pinky smashed in."}
{"id": "t3_cwgoi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit: Cute girl at the bank I want to ask out.", "post": "The bank I go to has the cutest teller working inside during the afternoons, and I try to make up reasons to go just to see her. The problem is that when three tellers, or whatever, are working, no guarantee I'll get her window. I can't really just tell the person behind me, 'No no, you go ahead, I'm waiting for the cute one.' Anyway, We've talked a few times and flirted mildly. I was super-thrilled to see that she had a copy of an R.A Salvatore book - the fourth in the Drizzt series. So she's really pretty AND into geeky fantasy? I'm there!\n\nSo the question is, well two really, How to I find enough excuses to keep going back till I get her window? No guarantee she'll even be working that day anyway. And secondly, I feel kind of creepy hitting on a woman who's working. Like, she can't get away or whatever.", "summary": "how do I ask out the cute girl who works at my bank when I might not be the next person in line to get her window?"}
{"id": "t3_3e45fh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [24M] of 14 months having some confidence/sex/etc issues.", "post": "Obvious throwaway. I apologize if this bothers you.\n\nSo, first some relevant information. I'm handicapped. Disabled. Whatever you want to call it. I have no motor functions in my legs. I've been this way for some time so my wheelchair use doesn't inconvenience my day-to-day or professional life very much if at all. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year and things have been great. He's an amazing boyfriend and is basically everything I could ever ask for in an SO. I don't want to spend too much time gushing about him, but we've never had any major issues with one another.\n\nHowever, recently, I've been beginning to see that our sexual situation has been bothering us. As I'm sure you can imagine, intercourse is a little difficult for us. Given my condition I'm limited to the use of my upper body, but things have been a little tricky. Not only that, but I sometimes feel like he 'does all the work,' so to speak. I've tried focusing more on oral and such, but it's still difficult. Does anyone have any advice for what I should do? I can see that he's starting to have some self-confidence issues about it and gets a little distant whenever the topic of sex comes up. I know that he is totally supportive of my disability and from what he tells me, he likes helping me out. He's never complained about me being in a wheelchair. He tells me that he knows what he signed up for when we started dating and doesn't want it to be something that comes between us. Obviously I need to talk to him about it, but I'd really like some pointers going in since I'm horrible at articulating the way I feel.", "summary": "Handicapped girl unsure of how to sex boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1h571b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19m] not sure how to deal with her [19f] not having enough time for one another in the future, and vice versa.", "post": "Throwaway because SO is a redditor.\n\nBackground: My SO and I have been together for about half a year now, and are serious in making this relationship work. We both go to the same college and are going into year 3.\n\nWe've both received our academic schedules for the next year, and coupled with our extracurricular activities, we will have virtually zero time for one another. The details aren't quite worked out yet, but the situation looks marginal at best, and grim at worst.\n\nI myself am very involved in my activities, but my schedules are completely flexible and negotiable on any given week. In contrast, her extracurricular activity's schedules are so invasive and rigid that it literally leaves no room for any other things except for academics and sleep. However, she is very passionate about it, and will not compromise her level of involvement.\n\nI love my SO very much, but thinking about the future year depresses and quite literally sickens me. I've been miserable ever since our schedules became set in stone, and have sunk into a mood of depression and anxiety. I'm afraid that initiating a conversation about it will deteriorate our relationship further. The first conversation was had about 3-4 days ago, and we've halted it because it brought out too much negative emotions.\n\nAt this point, I've given 3 options for myself:\n\n1. Stick it out with her throughout the year no matter what. However, if our neglect of the relationship is perceived as abusive by the other partner, then break up.\n\n2. Break up immediately.\n\n3. Wait and see if a solution pops up by the end of the first month of the schoolyear, if no solution appears, go back to options 1 and 2.", "summary": "No time for one another, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_193ycd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Why aren't men interested in me? [f/20]", "post": "Now, I don't really even know where to begin with this. I'm a 20 year old woman and I believe i'm a great person, but I just can figure out why men aren't interested in me unless they're just trying to hook up. I've had my fair share of hook ups, but never with someone i've just randomly met and i've continued to have good friendships with these men without having any desire to make a relationship out of it.\n\nI am a full time student trying to get my degree, even doing that I have plenty of time to myself for other activities. I also am a mother. Sure I had my child young, but it's the one thing that changed my life for the better. I was not in school pre child and now my life has come together more than I ever could have hoped for. My child's father and I have a great friendship, and that's all it is. We co-parent very well together. Thus also leading me to have lots of time for myself as our time with our child is split 50/50.\n\nI'd like to think that i'm a great person with a great personality. I enjoy pretty much anything and would be willing to experience new things. I've also always been told that i'm a very attractive woman. Now what am I missing here? I definitely don't need a man to make me happy, as I already am. I just know that i'd love to have that person who makes my life a little brighter.\n\nSome of the men that i've been involved with recently (but not too recently) or interested in always seem to find a way out and I can't help but think it's either something to do with the fact that I already have a child or it's just something about me. I have my entire life in order. I live in my own home, no debt, I attend college and am very close to getting my degree. If  I can tell you one thing from that is that I have my life in FAR better order than most people my age and in my situation. Much better than most of my friends too.\n\nSo, any advice would help. I'm not really sure what i'm looking for, but it's something.", "summary": "Have my life in order, mother, on track to get my college degree, what am I doing wrong in my life that men aren't interested?"}
{"id": "t3_11wwjj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "are extended car warrantys a scam to make more money?", "post": "I know pretty much nothing about cars, so I would welcome any informed advice on the matter.\n\nI drive a 2012 ford fiesta. I have paid it off. I did not buy the extended warranty at the time i bought it. I am at 14k miles, and my warranty expires at 36k or something I am wondering if it is worth the $2000 to buy the extended 100k warranty (they call it the 500 warranty because it covers 500 components) or is this some sort of scam to make more money off of me.\n\n after all, it is a new car. i doubt the engine or anything major is going to break before 100k miles. I'm a student, so i don't really have an extra 2 grand to waste if it's not really worth it.", "summary": "are extended warrantys a dealership scam? I don't have money to waste. please help."}
{"id": "t3_32furs", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My first lesbian kiss", "post": "I'll probably get caught in a spam filter since I don't post very much from this account, but whatever.\n\nI have been bi-curious for awhile, but it's rather hard to act on in the Midwest. When I told my closest friend, she was very supportive and said \"I'm surprised you haven't dated a woman yet, I thought you had already!\". I asked her: really? There's approximately 20 in this whole city, and there aren't any LGBT events or anything here. It is really difficult to have these thoughts around all of the conservative people in town (and we live in a REALLY conservative, rural town), and almost impossible to act upon them.\n\nSo I turned to online dating. I created a new profile on a well-known dating website and put myself as a bisexual woman on there. Unfortunately, all I got were a few interested women, but after a few messages they would always end up \"Me and my husband want to meet you!\". I rolled my eyes, a lot.\n\nI changed my profile to \"Gay\", and, after reviewing each profile, I messaged all of the lesbians in my area. Approximately 15 people - I received four responses.  I started seeing this one girl, Erin.  Our first date was at a nondescript place; she would flip her hair and make cute jokes.  Our second date was Saturday, and we made out on the couch after a movie, cuddling each other and looking into each others eyes.  We made out - Erin was my first kiss with a woman.  She left after I kept falling asleep on my couch.\n\nShe texted me the next day, telling me she had something important to tell me before we go any further. Erin is transgendered, almost fully transitioned from male to female for 5 years. I felt like I was too new to the community to be with a transgendered for the first time, so I told her politely exactly that.\n\nMy first kiss with a woman was with a transgendered woman. I'm not sure how I feel about it, honestly.", "summary": "She is transgender."}
{"id": "t3_mop2d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to get rid of these crows?", "post": "So long story short I bought a new car and I am trying to keep it as clean as I can. Well so I dont know how long they have been there but I noticed a couple weeks after I got my car there was A LOT of crows roosting or (whatever they call it) hanging out in the trees by my house. All of them just sitting there probably 50-100 easy. Well I'm sure you know where this is going. At first it wasnt a problem. But all of a sudden one day they decided to bomb the shit out of my car with poop. I woke up one morning and there was 30 or so blobs on my once clean car :( I washed it at the car wash and THOUGHT it was going to be a one time occurrence. Next day same thing more poop! So all this poop is stressing me out. I dont have access to a hose to wash it myself where I live. And I cant keep spending 8-11$ on car washes. How can I make them leave or kill each one of them? Or something! I live in NY so its getting colder out but I guess crows dont give a shit about the weather. Any ideas??", "summary": "Crows shit on my car make me sad? Crowicide?"}
{"id": "t3_123y20", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by misinterpreting a customer's groceries", "post": "I should give a little backstory. I'm a cashier at a grocery store, and I was on the clock during Homecoming weekend. Most of the people coming through the line was carrying typical after homecoming party food, like pizza, cheetos, and generally unhealthy snack food and mini sub platters. That kind of thing. As I'm finishing up this woman's order, she had two giant snack platters at the bottom of her cart; you know the ones with little subs and cheeses and such. Figuring she was the mother of someone going to homecoming, I jokingly ask her, \"So you guys having a big party tonight??\" She then got glassy eyed and proceeded to tell me her mother recently passed and the food was for the funeral. Never in my life have I felt like a bigger douche. No amount of profuse apology will ever bring her back to my line.", "summary": "Never assume snack platters are for a party, they might be for a funeral."}
{"id": "t3_12gcbo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HELP! My schoolmate will be expelled because of the Principal's selfish agendas. What can I/my cohort do?", "post": "Here is the story:\nA student from my school posted on Facebook, *\"What's the difference between a Fascist state and the school? The school is disgusting and shameful.\"* \n\nThis was because the Principal had berated the school as teachers have been looking at students' Facebook posts and tweets to find students commenting on the Principal's poor command of the English Language. Those students faced disciplinary actions. The Principal went on to threaten the school that if anyone dares to \"make bad decisions,\" or any defamation of the school, teachers or the Principal, disciplinary actions will be taken.\n\nThis prompted a lot of dissatisfaction in the students. One brave student went on to post the comment above. Another student commented on that post *\"fuck [the Principal's name].\"\n*\n\nThe discipline master (who was tasked to keep a lookout for students' posts) saw this and punished the two students. The student that made the Fascist/school comment had to be put through detention while the other faces expulsion.\n\nHowever, the expulsion punishment was not due to the comment, but because he \"did not apologize,\" even though he did in front of the Principal and two other discipline masters. The school board denied this and insisted that the student who wrote \"fuck [the Principal's name]\n\" continued to be impolite and refused to apologize his mistakes.\n\nIt is very certain that this is the Principal's selfish agenda, to protect her shameless dignity. The entire school shares the same view and are all in agreement that the Principal (a fairly new one) have went overboard and is taking the case too personally, and is toying with the student's future. \n\nSo what can we do in this situation?\n\nAdditional Information: We are a prestigious, autonomous, government high school located in Singapore. Both students are 15 and will be taking the GCSE 'O' Levels examination in exactly one year.", "summary": "PRINCIPAL WANTS TO EXPEL STUDENT BECAUSE SHE NO LIKEY HIM."}
{"id": "t3_120wzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the best way to get over being jealous of GF's Gay best friend?", "post": "22M, Girlfriend is 21F. We've been together for a year and a half. Her best friend is gay. At first I was uncomfortable with him since I don't know that many gay people, but the more I hung out with him (only a few times) the more comfortable I've been with him. We have complete trust in each other. Girlfriend actually went out with him when they were in high school together, then he cheated on her and then that's when he came out of the closet. They've remained best friends and like to go to gay clubs together. I feel this problem would be less of an issue if I went with them, but I work really late 5 days a week, (til 3am on weekends).\n\nMy only problem with him is how much he likes to drink which I feel like has an influence on her. I've brought that up to her but she says she will only keep drinking when she wants to. When she would instagram pictures of them together hanging at the club or wherever it made me feel uneasy. I felt it was unhealthy to feel that way and getting addicted to seeing what she would post so I stopped going on instagram completely. \n\nThe reason why I get jealous is because I feel like she has more fun when it's just him and her vs me and her since he makes her laugh so much. Does anyone have any advice for learning to accept the idea that it's okay that maybe she does have fun with him more, since he is her best friend and all.. \n\nRe-reading what I wrote here, makes me feel like this whole thing is silly, but I still would like to hear what others have to say. Thanks.", "summary": "22M worried that 21F gf has more fun with gay best friend and not sure how to get over that."}
{"id": "t3_273n7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you move on?", "post": "So I was with this girl for about 7 months. We are both 19. And I am a dude. She lived with me at my parents house for awhile until she came into some inheritance and bought a condo. That's when our relationship started turning really shitty. She just changed into a completely different person when she bought this house. \nWe ended up breaking up and a couple days later, shes found someone else and moved him into her home. I break down after this, because I really did love this girl, thought she loved me too. After being down for a couple of months they break up and we get back together. \nI fall in love all over again, and then she does the same thing to me, cheats on me and moves this guy into her house. We broke up like two weeks ago and she just told me they're getting married. \nAnd I'm still hopelessly depressed, feeling lonely as fuck and just feeling pitiful. How do I move on from my feelings?", "summary": "very sad about breakup. she treated me horribly, but i still love her. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2re3rm", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Text] Nobody cares who you have sex with, the only thing that matters is what you achieve", "post": "It's past midnight in Paris, I'll have to go to work tomorrow but turns out I can't sleep because I'm thinking about a girl. It's a weird suffering, I hope we'll be together but nothing happened yet and 10 days ago I didn't even know her. I was perfectly fine without her, but now that I want her I can't think about anything else, it's like my mind is torturing me for fun. So there I was, thinking about her and whether she's thinking about me, feeling that my life depends on her and so on, when I suddenly had a freaking revelation: Nobody gives a shit about it. If I get to fuck her, love her, marry her, whatever, sure some people will be happy for me, but in the bigger picture, none of that will matter. Nobody cares whether Einstein fucked victoria secret models or not, nobody cares whether I do or not, what does matter, however, is that fucking novel I'm trying to write. So I'll get back to work on my novel and try to remember that losing all my thoughts on girls is a dangerous, counterproductive waste of time. I'm not saying you should stop seeking girls, I'm saying you should keep your head cold and not inflict rollercoaster feelings to yourself everytime you want a girl.", "summary": "What matters is what you build in your life, not your penis."}
{"id": "t3_fmwzk", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Fresh out of college and can't seem to land a programming job", "post": "I graduated in Dec. 2010, and since then have been unable to get a programming job in my area.  Since my area is the state of Mississippi I decided to look elsewhere.  New Orleans is close by but all my attempts have given me nothing.  I have a friend in San Francisco and have started looking for work there, but so far nothing.  I haven't applied to many places in SF though because I'm unsure of the quality of many of the places.\n\nI'm worried that no REAL work experience is hurting me.  Only experience I've got under my belt is fixing computers and setting up networks for local businesses.  I did that for money since high school.  I've placed in two competitions for innovative design for two projects at school -- one of which won first place ($3500).  Other than these things I don't really have much else.\n\nIf anyone has any pointers or knows of some places to submit a resume to I'm ALL EARS.  I'm currently working a minimum wage job helping out a friend, and am getting tired of looking like the town idiot who has a degree but no job.", "summary": "Graduated Dec. 2010 (Computer Science), can't find a tech job in MS, New Orleans, or San Francisco. Looking for tips/places to apply."}
{"id": "t3_41l782", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my husband [40 M] of three years, weirded out by friendship with co-worker", "post": "This is my second marriage, his first.  We have two kids.  For a couple of years, I've gotten a bad vibe from one of his female co-workers.  They are good friends, and get along really well.  They're both musicians.  He really likes her and wants to be able to hang out with her after work, like grabbing a beer with her.  I know he texts her sometimes outside of work hours but not sure how often or what about (he's pretty secretive with his phone).  It makes me super uncomfortable and he knows this. \n\n We had a pretty big blowout a few months ago when she was throwing a party and I asked him not to go.  He thinks I'm totally irrational about her and gets angry whenever I try to talk to him about this.  He was going to go to the party regardless of how I felt about it so we ended up going together and it was fine.  \n\nI have tried to just drop it since the party.  I feel like he knows how I feel and that's all I can really do.  He hasn't been going for drinks with her or anything, which I appreciate.   I have recently found out, though, that this woman has a reputation for being a \"home wrecker.\"  My husband said it's because she went one a date with her married friend while he was separated from his wife.  This is making me feel even more uneasy about her and my husband's friendship.  I know rumor mills can get carried away, especially in a small town.  But I can't help but feel a little justified in wanting them to not be friends now that I know this.\n\nMore relevant information.... My first marriage ended because he met someone else.  So it's entirely possible I'm over reacting about this situation because of that.  I've been in therapy for over three years and feel like I've made great strides.  My husband occasionally goes to therapy with me but it hasn't been very helpful.  He gets impatient taking about the same thing over and over (his words).", "summary": "Husband's relationship with female co-workers is bothering me.  He thinks I'm irrational.  I'm not sure.  Where is the line between an innocent friendship and something more?"}
{"id": "t3_2sg0eb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by following my New Years resolution", "post": "So, like everybody else, I decided to try to be healthier for my new year's resolution. Not just exercising more, but also drinking more water. Now I'm one of those people that have a small bladder. Like a really small bladder. This means that when I drink a lot of water, I have to pee a lot, and RIGHT when I first feel like I have to. \n\nAnyway, here I was driving home from school, minding my own business, when BAM! My bladder starts yelling at me. So I'm driving now quite uncomfortably and quite anxious to get home to relieve man's water, so I speed up a bit. Not too much mind you, but just enough to feel like I'm doing something to relieve the bursting bladder. The closer I got to home, the more anxious I became, and the faster I drove. Thats when out of nowhere, the sirens came. I now have a ticket, an insane car insurance bill, all added on to my student debt. Fuck.", "summary": "Had to pee, sped home and tried to bury myself in more debt"}
{"id": "t3_2fj2mz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have been dating a girl [19 F] for about two weeks; her crazy ex has been threatening the both of us.", "post": "I met a girl on Tinder for a casual hookup. There ended up being good chemistry between the two of us and we transitioned into dating. We've had five dates so far and everything has been quite well except for her abusive ex of 8 months getting involved. She had broken up with him about 4 months ago and I was her first venture back into the dating scene. As soon as word got to him about the two of us, he began calling her phone and leaving very threatening voice-mails and demanding answers to some very private questions.\n\nShortly after that ordeal he got a hold of my number. The two times we've spoken he told me in a very threatening manner that he happens to have friends in various biker gangs and doesn't appreciate me seeing her. He then gave me an ultimatum to either stop seeing her OR to not set foot into \"his city\". I've only talked to him for 30 minutes or so; but I've come to the conclusion that he isn't the most mentally stable individual.\n\nI'm not a fan of getting involved in situations like this; I tend to avoid conflicts because my time and effort is better spent doing more productive things. And because of my lack of experience dealing with threats and unstable individuals, I'm reaching out to you /r/relationships. She has told me that he has never followed through with any of his threats over the past few months of being broken up, but I feel as if him seeing her with a significant other might be enough to give him initiative to actually do something.\n\nSo, what would my best course of action be? I really do like this girl, and have a date in the city planned with her on Sunday. But on the other side of things I'd rather not put myself in a situation where I may be at risk.", "summary": "Crazy ex of the girl I am seeing demands things and threatens action towards her and myself. What should I do?  Do I have enough to justify a restraining order?"}
{"id": "t3_f0ja1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I caught her with another guy by using the Find My iPhone website. Not sure if ill ever trust her again.", "post": "30 year old male here about to break up with the girl I saw myself marrying.\nSo I have had issues trusting my gf, we have been together for 2.5 years now. in march of 2010 I caught her coming home (we have lived in my place together for entire relationship) and she was out drinking with an ex boyfriend. I sucked it up and accepted her apology and have been dealing with it ever since. This is about the time I registered her phone with the Find My Iphone service.\nFast forward to Monday night- I get texts form her saying she was going out to pick us up some food. I come home from work late around 7pm and she is not home. she wont answer my calls or texts. I know where she is cause I pulled up Find My Iphone website and she is at the local bar down the street. I wait for 3 hours and finally get a text of her saying she was at her girlfriends house and she will be home soon. LIAR! I had enough and stormed off to confront her at the bar. Didn't see the car she was driving in the parking lot so I'm starting to think im wrong, But there it is parked IN THE BACK. as if to hide from me.\nI found her and a guy she works with (restaurant, typical for sleeping with coworkers).\nNow we are a mess and Im about to throw her out and start my life over, Sucks cause I wanted to marry this one.\nShe doesn't know I tracked her with the iPhone. And I don't think Ill ever trust her again. Is it still cheating even though I didn't catch them having sex? In my eyes she lied to be with another guy while i was at work and that's cheating in my book.\nAny advice is appreciated.\nAlso this is my first ever post to reddit and im using a throwaway account.", "summary": "My GF was fooling around with her ex 10 months ago and I installed Find My Iphone on her cell. Used it to track her and catch her cheating on me again."}
{"id": "t3_43qnf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] I [16 M] have a crush on a girl [16 F] who is way out of my league", "post": "Dunno if this is the correct place to ask, but oh well!\n\nSo it's been ~20 weeks since the start of the year and I've been placed next to this girl (Let's call her Rose) for all of the lessons we have together. At least one lesson a day. And, although we haven't spent much time out of lesson, I know a fair bit about her. Conversations seem to come naturally. She seems really nice around me but I don't know if she does that to everyone.\n\nOne thing that's stopping me from making the move is our different lives out of school. Rose spends her time partying but I'm more 'casual'. Just hanging around with my friends. Would this be too much to keep us close\n\nSo what should I do? I've heard people say 'Just go ahead. What's to lose?'. That's something I'd say but not do myself. \n\nThanks,\nTheOptical", "summary": "Have a crush on a bombshell, may be friendzoned, dunno what to do"}
{"id": "t3_25b9af", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with a confusing situation", "post": "So I have a confusing situation that I will attempt to summarize. I've just completed my second semester of college which was not so great. Here's why: I became infatuated/obsessed with an older friend [22 M] who was a close friend the semester before, but became closer this last semester. I didn't really understand the whole infatuation thing since I had always identified as a lesbian. I didn't have many close friends in college and had some trouble making them both of the semesters. Even though we agreed that a relationship would not be best, we unfortunately some sexual contact. I'm trying to move on because the situation has made me depressed and resentful, but because I have so many unanswered questions I don't know how to get the situation out of my mind. Also, I feel like I became addicted to the intimacy thing so sex is hard to get out of my mind too, haha. Also I'm anxious about seeing him and question our friendship (though I know it's not the best thing to think about) Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Had a rough semester and looking to move on and be less depressed over infatuation that had gone sexual."}
{"id": "t3_3dyn1m", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Chihuahua mix = fear-based aggression on walks, hates Gentle Leader", "post": "Hello all,\nOur Chihuahua / Rat Terrier mix, Flora, is a very sweet dog when she's inside the house. She's 2 years old, very obedient, playful, and gets along very well with our other dog who is a Dachshund mix. When we're walking her, it's a different story. She gets very anxious and fearful of almost any sound. If she suspects there's another dog, hears another dog, or sees another dog, she starts barking, baring her teeth, and/or biting and lunging uncontrollably. On a collar, she chokes herself. On a harness, she doesn't feel our corrections through the leash. On the gentle leader, she pulls on us the whole time, refusing to walk. We're afraid to try a prong collar for fear that she might impale her own neck while having one of her fits (she has very little fur and thin skin in her neck area). Any suggestions for techniques to calm her down, or other correctional devices for a walk?", "summary": "Flora hates the Gentle Leader but needs to be corrected without her killing herself."}
{"id": "t3_4dfhd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27 M] having trouble getting over my best friend / FWB [26 F] of last 5 years", "post": "I've been somewhat dating/hanging out/friends with some benefits with this girl I met 5 years ago. (We make out and cuddle, once moved onto no clothes stuff but her anxiety basically makes her shut down so thats off the table.) We were bf/gf for a few months when we first met before moving into a comfy FWB situation. The last year or two I've tried getting out into the dating scene since I got tired of waiting for her but I keep going back to her. I don't know if it's because I really want a relationship with her, maybe its because we were so close but never quite got serious, or maybe deep down she's just my safe bet. Also I'm currently moving away and this move will probably be the final nail in our coffin of her and me. A little about her is she's basically settled into asexual lifestyle due to her anxiety about sex. (\"Not that I don't want to but I can't.\") Part of me gets really anxious that it's just me she can't be with, that after all this time, she'll just end up with some guy. I mean I want her to be happy and if she really does find someone that she clicks with then I guess that's just life. I don't know about me though, I feel like my heart starts beating uncontrollably and I have trouble breathing when I think about the day when I go to Facebook and I'll see her status change to In a Relationship. Obviously feeling like dying just by thinking about whenever that day comes pretty much tells me I'm unheathily obsessed. I don't want to cling on when it's over or be controlling, I just want to be ok.", "summary": "How do I let go of girl I can't get over?"}
{"id": "t3_eq3np", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your help with a crazy ex-client that won't stop calling our office.", "post": "Obviously I can't go into specifics. This lady used to be a client of ours. She wanted to do something that was fraud and my boss said he would have nothing to do with it. She fired us. She keeps calling here trying to get a letter from my boss saying that we no longer work for her. (Yes, you read that right). She has called the office about 30 or so times in the past 45 minutes, and called my boss' cell about a dozen. I can't block her number because she uses calling cards and cell phones, so she has about a dozen different numbers she calls from. I have told her that if she calls one more time that I am calling the police to file a harrasment complaint against her. It has been about 2 minutes and no calls for far. Please help me reddit. She does this all the time and it is driving me crazy!", "summary": "Crazy lady is calling my work. Too many numbers to block. Don't know what to do. :("}
{"id": "t3_3x8upa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with a [24 F] who recently got out of a 5-year relationship", "post": "A girl i've been kinda seeing lately got out of a 5 year relationship in June. \n\nWe've gone on dates, kissed a couple times, have wicked chemistry and she's told me she likes me. However, she said recently that everything is moving too fast and too soon for her. She told me she's trying to let herself become more vulnerable. \n\nI've pumped the breaks a bit to let it breathe, but i can't help how i feel about her. She's told me she doesn't want someone to wait around for her so that does make me think i should just move on.  It sucks because we obviously have a connection and she's told me she likes me, but maybe actions speak louder than words. I understand timing is important, but I've found timing is usually never optimal for relationships.  \n\nAnyway, I've never been in a situation like this while having a fairly large history with relationships in general. I understand the emotional baggage we all carry from past relationships, so I can't truly understand what she's going through.  I feel like patience is an option, while treating it as an option and not a priority, but I really care about her.  Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "girl isn't sure if she wants to move forward because she got out of a long relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3oeqyz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help getting over a girl?", "post": "(Warning typing on my phone, so if there are mistakes I blame auto correct!) So this girl that I've had a crush on for the last 5 or 6 years messaged me on Facebook a few months ago, she has a boyfriend but claimed they were in an open relationship, we talked for a while until one day she popped into my old job to say hi, we hadn't seen each other in maybe 2 years, so we talked for a while while I was at work. After I clicked out we went out to get dinner, then went out to cruise around in my car for a while. We hooked up that night, but it wasn't a one night stand we talked all the time hung out a few more times and hooked up a few more times, until eventually one day I confessed that I still had feelings for her. She said she really liked me too but she has the boyfriend, so she claimed she was going to choose between us. A few days later I went out for town for a week to visit a friend, we Skype every night and texted every second pretty much. Little back story I'm a guy that falls for girls rather easy. To cut an already long story short, she choose her boyfriend over me yet still tries to talk to me a lot. It's been a few months since she choose him. I still really like her no matter how much I try to tell myself I don't. I really want to get over her. It's not easy for me to get girls either, so that doesn't help. Idk what to do at this point.", "summary": "have a huge crush on a girl that picked another guy and I want to know how to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_nsea0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Finally got a date with a crush of 7 years, but it comes with a catch.", "post": "So me of 21 finally got a confirmation that the girl(21), will allow me to take her on a \"date\".  That made me extremely happy was finally able to \"grow the balls\" and ask. Which in return she said yes. Things are going great so far as a long distance relationship.\n\nThere are two major problems though. The first is that I'm currently in Germany on a tour for another 4 months. So the next time I'll be able to see her and actually take her on the date will be when I come home for PCS leave(In the army). We talk every day Via Phone and Skype etc, which is nice even though I've known her for 7 years this is really the first time I have been able to see her personality for what it is, and it is amazing. She really is Liking the LDR, because she says the last couple of boy friends she has been with sex has been really involved and obscured what she has really wanted. She says she brags about me all the time about how I'm Sweet and charming and thing of the like. What are your problems, success stories to help motivate me in that way. \n\nThe second thing is as much as I like her, she has HSV-1. With the amount of research I've done on this topic I'm skeptical about it. I am clean. I just don't know what to do. I like her...way to much for my own good, just to drop it off because of cold sores down below. As i mentioned above do you guys have any success stories, problems with a situation like this? I would really like some advice and other out looks then the obvious one of dude shes got the herp, just leave it, don't ever touch it.", "summary": "I like a girl of the same age, but it's going to be a LDR for 4 months, and she has Herpes Strain 1."}
{"id": "t3_4aeq7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30M] girlfriend [28F] called me a serial monogamist. I've had three LTRs before this one. She's had none.", "post": "Over the weekend, my girlfriend of just over a year and I visited friends out of town. It was a shit-show. We fought the entire time, mainly because we were in a new city and have dramatically different interests. I want to take in as much history as possible, she wants to eat at hip restaurants. \n\nLong story short, we ended up in a HUGE fight in our hotel room that stemmed from how much money she was spending on things she considers conveniences and I consider extravagances (room service, etc.) and she said that I was being mean to her. Admittedly, it's her money, but she brings up marriage a lot and it's becoming more and more apparent that we have different values when it comes to money. \n\nShe stated that she can't be with someone who is \"mean\" and I stated that I can't be with someone with such a dramatically different interests. She again said that I was being mean and that interests are superficial as long as we love each other. I said I disagree and that those interests are the kinds of things that HELP people stay in love over long periods of time. She maintained that nobody likes all the same things. \n\nAt this point, I fucked up and implied that I have a little more experience in these matters and that the interests are extremely important. She called me a serial monogamist and said I was trying to sabotage things. I'm 30 and have had three LTRs before her. One in college that was long distance and barely counts, one when I was 24-25, and another from 27-29. The last one was very, very serious. Obviously, I only waited for about 8 months afterwards to get back out there. I'm 30, and the prospect of having a family is important to me. Is this a red flag?", "summary": "Girlfriend called me a serial monogamist. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_1b05r2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(F27) Can't get pregnant (M30) at a lost how to support her.", "post": "My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for around four years. We visited the fertility doc a while back and we both had to have surgery to even make it possible for us to conceive.  Recently we tried the to use the injections to induce ovulation.  The meds are  supposed to be 99% effective we fell in the 1%.  My wife took this bad.  She has spent days crying and now she is Mrs. Project trying to force through a home redecorating project we are scarcely qualified to attempt. \nBasically how can I help my wife cope with so much fertility trouble when she has wanted to be a mom forever?", "summary": "wife is unable to ovulate and is on the verge of an emotional break down  need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3lefau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(22/M) Just recently out of a relationship with a (22/F), looking for a silver lining if it exists. Please help", "post": "I dated a girl (22) for a year and a half. We split in summer because I moved to Florida for summer. She got a job in Panama city, right when I came home from Florida. \n\nI'll spare the details but she met up with a boy who she met after knowing on the Internet for 6 years. He lived 3.5 hours away from her. The day they met in real life he asked her out. She said yes. \n\nFast forward 1 month... he moved in with her and they say I love you to eachother and I only found this out after creeping on her tumblr. Big mistake. But she'll text me every fucking week trying to be friendly I want nothing to do with her. But I still love her and haven't moved on. I was hoping she would eventually come back up to philly and we would work on things. Because I thought her behavior was extreme and just a front and irrational.\n\n How could a relationship with a stranger from the Internet work when he lives 3.5 hours away? Well after two or three weeks they live together and say I love you to eachother. Now I'm really depressed and feel like shit. Can anyone help, or try and explain what's going on?", "summary": "basically a girl I dated for a year and a half moved to Florida, got like 3 more piercings dates a stranger from the Internet they live together and say I love you after a month"}
{"id": "t3_4c9ti1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] having issues with my divorced parents.", "post": "Okay so this is something that has been occurring my entire life, I just want an opinion that is removed from the situation.\n\nMy parents have been divorced, for I suppose about 17 years, and they are still extremely bitter about each other (my mother more so)\n\nIf I ever have an issue or a disagreement with either of them, they always belittle my opinion by saying that I'm exactly like the other parent.\n\nI realize that I'm an adult and have my own wife and soon a child. It's just an ever present thing in my life that I'm not sure what to do with, I would like a healthy relationship with both of them but at this point I don't feel like communicating with either of them is worth it.\n\nJust for an example...\n\nOver Easter, Dad was talking about a recipe and said you need to use a Pacific pumpkin. I was confused but eventually worked out that he meant a SPECIFIC pumpkin, As soon as I said \"Specific?\" He starts a tirade about how I'm pretentious and just like my mother.\n\nI didn't mean to put him down and I think my actions were reasonable. It's just so frustrating that if they have the slightest issue with me I become the respective ex in their eyes.\n\nI am literally half of each parent genetically and so it stands to reason that I'm going to have some similar traits to each of them, It's just being made to feel like dirt for something I'm not responsible for is starting to get to me.", "summary": "If my divorced parents have an issue with me I become the demonized respective ex-partner in their eyes."}
{"id": "t3_lyctx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are you feelings towards time limits on exams?", "post": "I just got out of a chemistry midterm today and I ended up running out of time with two pages that I hadn't even gotten a chance to touch yet. A handful of others were still there at the end and still writing during the extra two minutes we were given.\n\nThe entire time felt like a huge race against the clock. By about half-way through it, I didn't have time to do anything carefully. It was at the point where I was even having to just skim over the questions and hope that all my significant digits and everything were okay.\n\nIn addition to this, all the practice exams from the previous years were about half the size and covered significantly fewer things than this years midterm did and that's all we had as a reference or to try to know what to expect. So, that only made the lack of time worse.\n\nI've had other exams like this in the past, and have heard from both profs and students alike that various exams have way too much crammed into them and, to me, it doesn't seem sensible.", "summary": "Ran out of time during a chemistry midterm today and felt like I was racing through the entire thing. "}
{"id": "t3_1pfqo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I overreacting or should I just cut my losses?", "post": "Hey /r/relationships, I could use some help figuring out a situation here. About 2 months ago, I [16 M] met a girl [15 F] at a friend's party. We talked a fair amount and exchanged numbers. Over the next couple of weeks, we texted back and forth a fair bit, and became fast friends. Nothing about it was really romantically inclined, there was some stuff that could certainly be interpreted as flirting from both sides, but I tried to make it obvious that I was fine just being friends. The past few days, however, said person has since stopped responding to my texts. She goes to a different school than I do, so it makes it a situation that's difficult for me to confront in the real world. \n\nThe last time I talked to her things seemed to be on pretty good terms. She did tell me the last time we talked that she would be busy with band for a few days, so I'm unsure if she's trying to cut things off or if she's just genuinely busy. So what's the best course of action from here? Accept that she's not interested in being friends? Just chill out for a couple of days and see how things go?", "summary": "Met a girl (who I am not romantically involved with), and became fast friends. Recently she stopped responding to my texts, and I don't know if I'm just being my usual self and overreacting or if she's trying to cut things off."}
{"id": "t3_zovn8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and almost burned my house down", "post": "It wasn't actually today, it was a few years ago when I was a freshman in high school. Parents went out and told me they were coming home late one Saturday and I decided to fry some eggs for a quick snack before dinner. I put oil in the pan and wait for the oil to heat up. Just as I finish turning on the stove, my doorbell rings and outside is my neighborhood friend. So i answer the door and we start talking. Time quickly passes and before i know it my house fire alarm goes off. I rush inside only to find that my frying pan is now a fire breathing dragon and there are flames about a foot or two high coming out of it. I quickly turn off the stove and run around looking for baking soda (I was a boy scout and knew not to try to put it out with water). Takes me a few minutes and the fire is still going. Finally find the baking soda and douse the flames. The whole house smelled like smoke, the top of the oven is burned, part of the wall is stained, and the frying pan looks like it has melted. Parents never let me cook without them in the house again...", "summary": "tried to fry an egg and almost burned my house down"}
{"id": "t3_17saa3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F29] Is there something in between casual sex and LTR?", "post": "Three years ago I ended a 6 yr relationship, and it left me with a lot of trust issues. A few months after the split, my ex felt he needed to \"clear the air\" so that we could have a chance at reconciling. That involved my learning I had been completely oblivious to cheating, lying, and an arrest (yup, he went to jail for a few days and I had no idea). I know what you're thinking, that I am just super dumb. I wish that was the case, I'm college educated and have a professional career, just plain old gullible. In the aftermath, I have spent a year having exclusive relationships, the next having one night stands, and the last online dating. For the record online dating does nothing to improve trust issues, I had on guy tell me he slept with Cameron Diaz and another try to steal a set of golf clubs (and those are just the gems). \n\nThis afternoon the guy I have been seeing on and off for the last six months finally agreed to keep things casual. Now, I am free to date and see whomever I choose, and am contemplating whether I want to go the online route again. My casual relationships thus far have involved ignoring lies because the details aren't important. This isn't one sided, I fib about where I am when I'm out with other guys. Unfortunately, when I notice them my history and fear makes ignoring feel self-deprecating, and I struggle to forgive myself for ages after the bad ones.  On the other hand, I am just not ready for the LTR I want, one missed text or phone call and I flip, but I'm not attracted to someone who caters to my every wish in the long term. So Reddit, I need suggestions on what to do next. \n\n- Side Note \u2013 During this last relationship I was in a place to tell my SO about how scared of lies I am and it got a lot better, so I know that in time it will get easier.", "summary": "Super gullible w/ trust issues, not ready for LTR but casual involves too many lies, what direction should be next?"}
{"id": "t3_34s39m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21 F] tell my boyfriend [27 M] of 4 months, that I was contacted by my ex?", "post": "My ex boyfriend messaged me today asking me if I would be willing to meet and talk this week. He said he just wanted to talk about how things are going. I am leaning towards telling him I do not want to talk to him. My current boyfriend is much older then me and I am still in school. Sometimes he gets jealous easily because I go to a school with a lot of guys. I do not want to make him jealous, but I also do not like keeping things from him.\n\nShould I tell my boyfriend about my ex contacting me? Or should I just tell my ex I do not want to talk and not worry about telling my boyfriend?", "summary": "Ex contacted me asking to talk, should I tell my current boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_27t0um", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend[20F] of 1 year, she's had many past partners, she's my first, feeling a bit weird.", "post": "I told her after the second time we had sex that she was the first person i'd ever been with, but up until a few months ago, she was very cagey with how many previous partners she'd had, I knew about her ex but that and one other guy, but that was it. Earlier this month I found the real number of eight.\n\nI know that I'm the odd one with having so few previous partners (ha) and losing my virginity at 19, but I still cant help but feel a little weird about it, I know i'll get over it, but at the moment whenever she talks about any past partners shes had, it makes me feel a bit abnormal being so inexperienced.\n\nAny advice to help me get over this shit?", "summary": "She's had many past partners, she's my first, feeling a bit abnormal."}
{"id": "t3_yi3jj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What alarming/unusual thing has happened to you to make you rethink certain travel destinations?", "post": "A couple months ago I went to Miami with a female friend of mine. Little did I know I would encounter creeps everywhere - literally men waiting on the side of the road to approach us at night. On the second day there, we were walking to the parking lot to add more time for the space. It was about 6PM and there was a lot of foot/road traffic in the area. I can't remember if I was looking down at my phone or not, but my friend was walking a few feet ahead of me. Suddenly, a couple of guys pass me pretty close and I hear an aerosol spray and smell nothing but ether/paint thinner (no idea). Almost instantly I feel nauseous and have a strong head-to-toe light headed feeling, like I'm passing out. When I caught my breath I turned around and saw the two guys lingering by a parking meter watching me, then they walked away. My friend didn't see/hear anything happen, and I didn't tell anybody else walking around. I instantly felt freaked out and didn't feel right for the next hour. Needless to say, I left that night. I felt like I was in Taken 2 and there was no Liam Neeson to save my ass. I'll probably never go back to seedy Miami.", "summary": "went to Miami and got sprayed in the face with ether(?) by a stranger, almost passed out before adrenaline kicked in. Never found out what happened."}
{"id": "t3_32932f", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Why would anyone want to call themselves a gamer? (Rant)", "post": "I play video games; I have since I was a kid starting with Pokemon red. I still play them everyday, yet I refuse to call myself a gamer.\n\nThe way I see it, gaming has become more popular than ever. There are more people playing then ever before and subsequently more self-proclaimed gamers. However, since it has become so main stream, I don't see how it's much different than saying \"I'm a TV watcher\" or \"music listener.\" Now if you said you only played tabletop or something, that'd be different.\n\nThe truth is that it isn't about being hardcore or even playing games. It's about wanting to be in a nerdy subculture that pretends it's niche when that couldn't be farther from the truth. Playing games is as mainstream as it gets.\n\nNo, it's about the culture that I think is frankly ridiculous. It's a bunch of nostalgia circlejerks and pseudo inside jokes for things that are actually quite popular (took an arrow to the knee, etc.) It doesn't matter if the latest call of duty (for example) is good or not, what matters is whether it's popular with \"gamers.\"\n\n\"CoD is the same every time but the new Pokemon is pretty swell.\" \n\nThis hypocrisy and favoritism makes my blood boil. I've never played call of duty because it's not my cup of tea, not because \"that's what casuals play.\" The whole PC master race also irritates me. Who really gives a shit what someones console preference is?\n\nI can't even finish my rant. It frustrates me that I ever called myself a gamer as a kid anyway. It's just so dumb.", "summary": "it's about overused memes, politics, and inside jokes, not the act of gaming itself. It's not niche anymore so stop acting like you're part of some cool subculture. What's the point, anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_4irbwe", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My brother is having my ex in his wedding party", "post": "My brother and I are really close in age. We have always hung out with the same friends because of very little age difference. I didn't date much in high school. If he ever dated someone and they broke up, I always ended the friendship with that person out of respect for my brother. Loyalty and all that.\n\n Years ago, he set me up with one of his classmates. They had hung out maybe two times. Not great friends. I dated said guy for a few years. Bit of a fail whale on my part. He was extremely emotionally abusive. I was a size 4 and he'd belittle my eating habits (1000 cals a day-on a good day-on top of lifting or cardio every single day -- dude was a crazy bodybuilder). He ruined vacations for me by calling and texting me nonstop while I was visiting college friends for a measly 3 days. I eventually broke up with him -- came to my senses. He did some crazy post break up shit, but that's not surprising.\n\nMy brother and he stayed friends. My ex would know random information about me/my daily life/my schedule and text me about it, which was extremely creepy. He showed up unannounced at my doorstep after calling 15 times on both my cell and my home phone. This was months past breaking up and I was trying to have dinner with someone.\n\nAnyhow, it's been 3-4 years now and my brother is still BFF with this dirtbag and the guy is even in his wedding party. I'M not even in my brother's wedding party. I'm so pissed and I feel betrayed. We don't talk anymore because he kept feeding my ex stories about my life. \n\nI needed to rant about this because I've been pissed for over a year and now this wedding bullshit is the final straw.", "summary": "piece of shit, disloyal brother made my ass hole ex a part of his wedding party."}
{"id": "t3_3rjkon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] am in love for the first time and it hurts.", "post": "Hello, \n\nI'm a 16y/o male and im in love with a girl [16]. This is the first time i'm in love and it is really exchausting. I am 100% sure i am not ready for a relation yet and i don't want it either. I almost never talk with her so our relationship is non existing. Another thing is that someone else also likes her and it keeps getting in my head because they regularly chill with each other. I am at a point were i am so in love that i can't  focus on school anymore. I never had this feeling before and its a first time for me. The feeling i get is really exchausting. My heart rate goes up really high and i get a weird feeling in my stomach.\n\nI started to like her about 5 months ago and i am really in love since 1 week ago. I don't know what to do and i don't think this will go away soon.\n\n(Sorry for the really bad english grammar i'm not native.)", "summary": "im really in love with a girl but i just cant live with this fact. I don't know what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_40wvic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [19M] doesn't ever compliment me [18F] and it's a blow to my self-esteem.", "post": "We've been dating for two years, but I've found that he's hardly more than physically affectionate toward me. \n\nIt's rare to gain compliments from him. I understand that especially with some men it's uncomfortable for them to make a big deal out of things they don't typically care about with themselves. I know I'm much more self-conscious than him and I feel this may be just a stupid gendered body image problem, like how women obsess about things like thigh gaps whereas some men could give a rat's ass what others think of their looks. \n\nI feel like this is one of those situations, where he doesn't see how important it is to me to get validation from him every now and then that I'm attractive. I have plenty of male and even more female friends compliment me on my looks and personality and everything, but with him, he doesn't seem to unless I practically fish for compliments.\n\nHe'll tell me I'm sexy (pretty rarely), but I don't get 'beautiful' or 'pretty' very much. I've told him the things I'm really insecure about, but he won't comment on it one way or the other. No reassurance unless I press him, and even then he gives a positive 'no you're not ugly' answer to whatever I ask and drops the conversation. I very very rarely resort to compliment fishing, and when I do, it's because I really feel I need some kind of validation that I'm not the ugliest thing he's held hands with. He just doesn't give it, and doesn't seem to understand why I'm upset. \n\nIt just hurts my own already shit esteem that he doesn't ever comment on my looks besides when we're in bed, and even pretty infrequently at that. I've had males give me genuine compliments, and I'm just salty that I can get them from almost every friend I have besides him. I've put effort into my looks, I've made sure to tell him how handsome he is, but it just doesn't seem to work.", "summary": "My self esteem is shit and I feel like every now and then a compliment from my bf couldn't hurt. So many other guys I know have freely told me how attractive I am, a fair amount of them not even romantically or sexually interested in me (gay and taken guys, ect)."}
{"id": "t3_1hco9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18M with 18F just really good friends and may want to move to something more serious.", "post": "I need help Reddit! \nJust a little background, we are both the same age, we have a lot of things in common and we frequently flirt and cuddle and such. \nI have asked her if she wants to be in a relationship last week, but it was really rushed and she had to leave pretty quick. She told me she didn't know how she felt yet. \nMy friends told me this week, that she is into a relationship, but I don't know whether I should ask again so soon. I feel like I am being a bit pushy and come off as a little desperate.", "summary": "18m & 18F don't know how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_392ss3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jaywalking", "post": "Alright, I'll start off by saying I'm not american and I don't speak fluent english, so don't expect nice grammar or a rich lexicon.\n\nSo I'm a guy and I'm 17, this happened last Friday. I was meeting with some friends near a park that is inbetween an avenue. One of this friends I was going to meet is one of my best friends and I haven't seen him in quite a while, like 2 or 3 years.\n\nAs I was walking down the park, I see my group of friends walking down the street in the opposite side. I was excited to meet them.\n\nOk this is when the fuck-up falls into place\n\nThere was a lot of traffic that day, and this happened at night (this is important). Ok, so my friends see me and start waving so I go to them. I was having trouble crossing the street cause traffic. I stood there waiting for a window between cars to cross but they just kept coming.\n\nFinally I just thought \"fuck this people, they can't run me over, they are going way too slow\" and I jogged to the other side of the sidewalk. Keep in mind this happened at night so I could only see the car's headlights\n\nI hear a loud tire scratching (that high pitched sound) and I frozr because I reasons. There was a moment of silence and next thing I hear A LOUD FUCKING COP SIREN, FOLLOWED BY THOSE FUCKING BRIGHT RED-BLUE LIGHTS.\n\nIt was a fucking cop car, and in that brief second I thoight that I'm actually a pretty fast runner, so I came back to my side of the side walk and I ran like fuck. Like I had never ran before.\n\nI rushed for the supermarket that was in the corner, went trough the parking lot  and vaulted over cars. Some real GTA type of shit.\n\nI think a mall cop must have watched trough a security camera or something cause the greeted me at the front entrance with fucking pepper spray.\n\nSo I was taken into custody but released later that day. All of that could have been prevent with a fucking pedestrian crossing. \n\nMy eyes still hurt.", "summary": "don't resist arrest"}
{"id": "t3_31r2f0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I sell my house or continue living in it as long as I can?", "post": "2 years ago I got pretty lucky and bought a foreclosure during the down time of the housing market. It turned out to be a nice home and with payments I can afford. \n\nAbout me: 28 years old, full time job with a 26k net income after tax. I pay 780 a month for mortgage including everything but bills. I had a 30 year FHA with 3.375% interest and a PMI that will go away after 5-10 years. \nI paid 75k initiall for the house which is now worth 150k according to Zillow. I think I can get even more than that if I tried to sell it.\n\nI do not have any debts, neither student loan nor credit card. I only have an auto loan with 2% interest for 13k which will finish in 4 years.\n\nThe problem is that I only have couple of grands in my bank account and no real investments and no retirement accounts. \n\nDo you think I should sell the house, start renting and invest the money I got from the house into my retirement and such?\nOr should I wait and live in it as much as possible since it is probably cheaper than a comparable renting situation and it is early for me to worry about investments.", "summary": "I got a house and got lucky it doubled in value. Should I sell and invest or keep living in it?"}
{"id": "t3_3f2a3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M25 needs help asking F23 out on a date. But it's more complicated than that.", "post": "Hello! I'[M] 25 and single. I was wondering if you guys could please help me out with some advice on asking a girl out. I met this [F23], Elizabeth (pseudonym), last year at university while she and I were in a one year program together - we never met prior to this. We spent the better part of a year in close proximity, having mutual friends and hanging out. From the moment I saw her I was attracted - she was smart and pretty. Unfortunately, I could never get myself to ask her out. A part of me kept saying she's not interested because I never talked to her everyday, just whenever there was the occasional get together with mutual friends would there be some small talk. With the program over since last December 2014, I have never been able to get her off my mind. I have her on Facebook and I have her cell phone number, but I've never messaged her. I really want to ask her out, but I don't know what to do. Also, she lives in a different city than I do (~45 mins away). What should I do? Your help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Was in a one year program with a girl I met last year. I want to ask her girl out, but I've never really talked to her outside of occasional hang outs (none happening any more). What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1o4cpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I wrong in my convictions about jealousy?", "post": "24,M / 23,F\n\nIn two of my previous relationships, I was the jealous type and have greatly learned my lesson from being that way. I am currently in a 2 year relationship in which my girlfriend and I live together. I love her, but because of things I've experienced, I am no longer the jealous type. I won't let myself behave like that again. She gets upset with me because I don't get jealous. Don't get me wrong, if a guy were to touch her I'd knock him out. But she tells me that it makes her feel like I don't take pride in her or value her because I don't get jealous that another guy might think she's attractive or something. Am I downplaying jealousy too much? I don't feel that there is anything healthy about jealousy in a relationship, but it seems she does.", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks I should display jealousy. Due to past experiences with it, I don't display petty jealousy and feel it's nothing but harmful in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2ekrc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26 M] My girlfriend is coming over to break up with me in 2 hours please help me find the words to make her change her mind.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. She is my best friend, and she is about to leave me. She went on a trip out of town for 12 days and barely called me. When she got home she was distant, hanging out with friends avoiding me. I grew angry and confronted her. I've always felt like I was second string to her friends, but I don't care about any of that now. I just want her to not leave a relationship we both loved and cherished for 5 years over a cold fight that lasted a little over 6 days. I've loved her since the moment I saw her, I just want her to give this more time.", "summary": "I can't lose my best friend in the world. How can I make her not throw a 5 year relationship over a fight that I am willing to concede?"}
{"id": "t3_3bpvyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [25 F] with Male [28 M] can you go back to the getting to know phase once you have had sex?", "post": "I wanted the internets opinion because my co-worker and I argued at length about this and got nowhere. \n\nSo guy meets girl and they exchange numbers, talk and flirt all that jazz. They keep trying to organise a date but both are really busy. She suddenly decides to comes cover to guys house late one night, stays the night because he lives close to her work. They have sex.  \n\nNow my question is can they go back to being a cute and trying to arrange a date and get to know each other or is she now a fuck buddy?\n\nMy view is she is now a fuck buddy. My co-worker says if he is really keen on her he will still take her out on a date because now he knows he will definitely get some.  I think he is just saying that just because.", "summary": "Once 2 people have sex, can you go back to the getting to know each other phase and still go on a date and meet up for coffee....stuff like that. Is it possible to \"start\" agian? "}
{"id": "t3_349agu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shooting a toddler in the eye with an airsoft rifle.", "post": "Obligatory not today, it was about 7 years ago however I had forgot about the memory until today. God help me.\n\nIt was year 7 (11 - 12 years old) and I had made a new friend at school. We will call him Ben. Now Ben is infamous at school for being crazy, like, really of his rocker. One time he threw a chair across a classroom and peeled a metal radiator covering off a wall. Real nice guy, story for another day. \n\nNow I had been invited over for dinner and we had a laugh playing Hitman. After a while we get tired of the game so we start shooting some cereal boxes with his bb rifle. I have never even held anything like this before so I suck.\n\nHis mother gets home with his brothers (3? and 7?) and we have dinner. They show me a fun \"game\" they play with the youngest brother, they empty the chamber and blow the compressed air on the toddlers face with the rifle, he wets himself with laughter every time. I ask to have a go and lo and behold, miracle pellet in the chamber. Air blows, kid screams. The pellet became embedded in the skin between the corner of the eye and the bridge of your nose. \n\nYeah, I wasn't invited back ever again.", "summary": "I attempted to execute a baby with a rifle."}
{"id": "t3_kxxio", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do American kids have a \"dinosaur phase\"?", "post": "I'm from New Zealand. It's pretty much a secular country, ie politicians speaking about God is a big no-no. A lot of people are Christian but for the most part they are not fundamentalists, and most of them believe in evolution. Evolution is taught in science class in high school.\n\nAs a kid in New Zealand, pretty much every boy (and probably some girls) go through a \"dinosaur phase\", where they are really into dinosaurs. Their parents buy them dinosaur toys and book and computer games. The primary appeal is obviously the fact that dinosaurs are awesome giant scary monsters, but they also end up learning about the Cretaceous period and the Jurassic period and how many millions of years ago the dinosaurs lived.\n\nSo I read that [almost half of the American population doesn't believe in evolution] Coming from a scientific background, this just seems absolutely insane to me. Regardless of what you believe, the [body of evidence for evolution] is enormous enough that a person who denies it is denying fact and reason. But I don't want this is to turn into an evolution debate.\n\nMy question is, if a large portion of America doesn't believe in evolution, then do they still let their kids learn about dinosaurs? Do the kids still have a \"dinosaur phase\"? I know Creationists have a few ways of [justifying dinosaurs without evolution] but it just seems to me that the topic of dinosaurs is something that most Creationist parents would want to sweep under the carpet. I don't know.\n\nCaveat: I know things are different in different states and different communities. If you don't want to generalise, tell me about your specific upbringing.", "summary": "many Americans don't believe in evolution. dinosaurs are closely linked to evolution and the age of the Earth. do American kids still have a dinosaur phase?"}
{"id": "t3_1kr29b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "18F starting to like 18m in my new group of friends- would it be awkward if I asked him out?", "post": "Started college and joined a group of friends. They're really awesome and fantastic and we've been hanging out a lot. It's 2 girls (me included) and 2 guys. The other girl is in an LDR and the guy I like has never had a girlfriend. In order of closeness, the guy I like is friends with the other girl, then we're friends as 3, and then we're friends with the other guy but not as much as the group of 3 of us.\n\nI haven't been in college for too long but I'm interested in this guy. He hangs out with the other girl more, even though he knows that she has a boyfriend, but I don't know if he's interested in me. It's difficult to tell whether he is oblivious or just doesn't like me, but he doesn't go out of his way to hang out with me and etc. The thing is, I like this group of people and don't want to 'ruin' the group by telling him I'm interested in dating.", "summary": "I like a guy in my small group of new friends, would it be too awkward if I ask him out?"}
{"id": "t3_2gkuo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my BF [35M] three years, he broke up with me suddenly via email and then asked to stay together still.", "post": "Up until last week everything seemed fine to me. We were not fighting and there were no major issues. Then seemingly out of the blue he was depressed/upset for a few days, then he broke it off with me via email. A day later he asked to talk about it and he decided he wants to stay together to work on the problems together (apparently he felt like he was losing himself and it was all about me, although he said I did nothing to make him feel that way, it was his mindset).\n\nI ended up taking him back but I am not sure if I am ignoring a huge red flag here. This was completely out of character and I feel like everyone makes mistakes, but am I being a doormat?", "summary": "35 yr old bf broke up with me via email then I took him back. I am afraid I am ignoring a huge red flag and being too forgiving."}
{"id": "t3_12vhiq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why did God kill everyone? Please teach an uninformed atheist about christianity", "post": "Today, someone in my class said God murdered everyone. A Christian said he didn't, but he did kill them. I later asked why would God kill them, cause I was so confused. His response was because it was to protect humanity. I then proceeded to ask him how the heck does killing humanity protect it? And the only answer he had was because its God's will and he must have had a good reason to do so. \n\nI really didnt think that was a solid answer at all and seemed a little silly to be true and have millions believe it. I thought the answer would be in the bible, but he later told me he never really read the bible at all.", "summary": "friend said he killed everyone cause he was sure he had a good reason"}
{"id": "t3_3etoec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Realtionships] Me [21 F] with my husband [31 M] of 1 1/2 years, keeps trying to suckle my breasts during sex and doesnt really respect my boundaries.", "post": "We were intimate after I apologized for being very nitpicky and argumentative lately and he said he really wanted to suck on my breasts (which I know he loves and I do let him do sometimes) He attempted to once and I stopped him and continued but once the second time came around (attempting to do it again) I pushed his face away got upset and stopped sex. I asked what he was doing and he claims he was not trying to do this and \"doesnt know\" what he was trying to do.  He also got upset that he didnt climax and I got upset that I felt I was disrespected and made to feel uncomfortable and then guilty on top off that.", "summary": "Husband wants tits in his mouth I do not and I feel he doesnt respect that. Am I overreacting/What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3eaf87", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my [23 F] cousin don't want to see my cousin on our trip.", "post": "I have lived in Washington, DC for 3 years and for the 1st time my cousin (23 F), who has always been like a sister to me, is coming to see me.\n\nI have an older cousin (34 F) who lives by DC and neither of us can stand her. She's much older than us and when she was our age she snuffed us and was \"to cool\" for us. Now that we're young and having fun with our lives she gets jealous when we hang out together without her. \n\nShe's been acting very bitter for the past few years because she's not married (a big problem for her) and we're both engaged, and feels she's getting old. I had no problem with this until recently when she wasn't so nice to my fiance and talked shit about her to my mother before she even met her (jealous much?) So I have personal problems with her.\n\nShe is also very drama filed and if we don't ask her to hang out, or god forbid not tell her my cousins coming. She'll just create so much drama within our family, which I don't mind but my visiting cousin does because she still lives at our old hometown.\n\nWhat should we do? We plan to go out and get fucked up every night, something she wouldn't do but I know she'll try to make us do something else or she'll throw a tempter tantrum.", "summary": "Cousin and I don't want to hang with our spinster cousin."}
{"id": "t3_3y9kl8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18f) abusive ex boyfriend (18m) and current boyfriend (18m) are friends", "post": "Hey Reddit. Because my boyfriend is on here I'm gonna say that C is my boyfriend and A is my ex. Hope it's not confusing. \n\nI started dating A when I was only 14. The first few months were fine but then the emotional abuse started. If I talked to someone that was male I was a slut, whore, bitch, etc. He would yell at me daily and in the morning ask for a \"fresh start\" and I gave it to him like an idiot. He forced me to do sexual things that I didn't want to do. I was young, suffering from undiagnosed manic depression and anxiety, I cried almost every night, I cut, the whole nine yards. This lasted for 2 years. \n\nEnter C. He's loving, sweet, and funny. Also super handsome. He's helped me deal with a lot of that emotional baggage. We sometimes have problems communicating but we always work it out. He's never yelled at me, called me names, or laid a finger on me when I told him \"no\". He's great and I love him. We've been together for a year and a half. \n\nThe problem is that A and C are friends now. I'm not going to restrict C from being friends with people that's irrational. Plus C is a super friendly and charismatic guy, he will befriend anyone. But the problem is that I still can't be around A without shutting down. \n\nNow recently A did come at me over text. He said \"why the fuck are you telling people I beat you with a stick and have you bruises? That's fucked up on another level\". Yes that is an exact quote. After that I let him have it, I told him how emotionally and sexually abusive  he was to me, and that he had no right to accuse me of anything and that he is just plain stupid if he thinks I'm saying that (yay me!). But that was over text, and I don't know if I could do that in person. \n\nI'm just asking how I should handle this. I don't want to restrict C but I still can't bear to be around A.", "summary": "Abusive ex boyfriend and current boyfriend are now friends. Unsure how to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_2th3uo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because I hate talking on the phone :(", "post": "I'm not big on talking on the phone. I'd much rather get a text. I have an app installed that sends my texts to my computer, so I leave my cell upstairs a lot.  Pretty much anybody that knows me knows I am not going to answer the phone, like ever.\n\nMy husband left on deployment last week, and told me he would call me *with a calling card* when he was in a position to do so. Obviously, I don't mind talking on the phone with him.  So I was looking forward to it. \n\nSo I'm sitting at my computer, and the app (MightyText) is telling me that I am getting a call from an unknown number. \"Haha!\" I think. \"No way I'm answering that!\"  Immediately after that call finishes, the same number tries again.  I suddenly realize \"Oh shit, my husband is probably calling me!\"  \n\nI bolt my pregnant self up the stairs as fast as I can manage, only to grab my phone RIGHT as it goes to voice mail.  I sit there trying to send him telepathic messages to try ONE MORE TIME.\n\nHe doesn't. He leaves me a voice mail, and as I listen to it I start sobbing. Because you know, I miss him and I have those pregnant hormones that make me cry over everything. I can't call him back, and I don't have his command email yet so I can't even email him to explain. \n\nI'm mostly mad at myself, because I SHOULD HAVE HAD MY PHONE CLOSE BY.", "summary": "Missed a phone call from my deployed husband because I suck at life."}
{"id": "t3_4to4us", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my long distance boyfriend (34M).. is it normal for a guy in his thirties to go clubbing 2-3 times a week?", "post": "I went on vacation to another country and met this amazing guy. For info purposes - I DID NOT MEET HIM AT A CLUB. \n\nWe have been in a very serious relationship for about 3 years now and are soon to be married. I am going to be moving to his country. \n\nI did not have any trust issues before - but a few months ago I got messages and images from a girl - they were intimate images and she claimed he was dating her too. He told me that she is a crazy ex who is behind his life and I gave him a last chance on the condition that he is never to speak to her again. \n\nShe is not on any of his social media and he talks about her with absolute disgust if her topic ever comes up (it usually never does). \n\nI can confidently say that he has worked very hard to rebuild my trust - he skypes with me 1-2 hours every single day despite time difference and whenever he is going out he skypes me to show who is with him and then skypes again while heading back home. When he is not skyping, he is constantly messaging me - constantly. \n\nWhat bothers me is though that 34 he goes clubbing 2-3 times a week. He tells me that he goes for the music- but cant one just listen to music on their ipod?\n\nI guess I dont really understand this as I am not much of a party person (I would go to accompany him - HE LOOOOOVES to party, but never on my own). I have always viewed clubs as a place to hookup especially if you are not going with many friends (he goes with 1-2 guys), but that could just be my perspective.", "summary": "Long distance boyfriend goes clubbing 2-3 times a week. He is 34. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_gd5g4", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "In Peru on my first international vacation and I just busted my knee. Can't walk. What now?", "post": "(xpost with AskReddit) \n\nHi Reddit, I'm in Arequipa Peru with my girlfriend and yesterday we went white water rafting. Of course I fell out, and when I did, my right leg twisted, my knee went POP, and that was it. This has happened to me before back home (I'm from the US), and I haven't lost circulation so it's not too bad--but I cant walk. \n\nWe're only on day 4 of a two week trip, had plans to go bike riding today, walking around the city and exploring other towns over the next few days with the culmination of or trip being a two-day hike to Machu Picchu. \n\nI feel terrible, this has the potential to ruin the trip. Luckily we haven't paid anyone for the rest of our trip--we have been winging it with a Lonely Planet guide, but it only suggests outdoorsy activities that I can't do, so it's of little use now. \n\nMy plan is to find a doctor today and rest, but the rest of the trip? What now?\n\nHope you guys can help.", "summary": "in Peru, planned to be active and outdoorsy, hurt knee, can't walk. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_2f2xd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of one year, I can't figure out if we should stay together or not.", "post": "So I have no doubt that I love my boyfriend. We've had a really tough first year. Lots of short break ups. I've been dealing with a new anxiety problem and its been tough on both of us. \n\nAt one point we broke up long enough that I met someone very interesting, went on a date, had the best sex of my life. I remembered what it felt like to be lusted after or wanted.\n\nEver since that break I can't decide if I want to be with him or be single. What I love about being single is feeling wanted. I know my bf loves me but he never lusts for me. If I ever have doubts he never fights for our relationship. He tells me he just wants me to be happy, but if he showed some passion towards being with me it would fufil that need to be wanted. \n\nAlso our relationship is kind of stagnate. Were both in the same exact situation as last year. I'm worried that he isn't focused enough on becoming successful. \n\nBut our relationship provides love, comfort, support, the best friendship I've ever had, openness. These things I know I won't find from dating. And these things are so important for me. \n\nFor some reason feeling wanted makes me feel like I'm at my best. I'm the most confident I can be. I feel good. And this need is enough to make me doubt wanting to be in my relationship. I literally cannot decide which is more important to me.", "summary": "My relationship doesn't make me feel wanted. Enough so that I can't decide if we should stay together or go our separate ways."}
{"id": "t3_2zev6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/M] with my girlfriend [32/F] 2 years, her ex-boyfriends family.", "post": "my current girlfriend of two years as a close relationship with her ex-boyfriends family. And she wants to go hang out with them (ex won't be present) me personally don't like the idea and I think is wrong and disrespectful. She knows I don't like it that's why she has not seen them since we been together but still talks to them biweekly at least once. She invited me to come with her but I don't think that's a good idea and it will be really awkward. But she says she's going to see them soon with or without me and I don't know how to deal with this. What would you do if you are in this position? Also do you think it's worth leaving somebody over it?", "summary": "would you be okay with your current boyfriend or girlfriend hanging out with the ex's family if he/she wasn't there?"}
{"id": "t3_3cmd6x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am uncomfortable talking to women in nightclubs but am ok when it's in a quiter setting. Advice?", "post": "First time posting so hopefully i'm not breaking any rules. \n\nI've recently discovered that I'm quite uncomfortable when it comes to the nightclub setting. I'm just not comfortable with the whole idea of chatting up women in nightclubs. I've been on a few dates and I enjoy them (recently had a relationship where we met on tinder and we dated for a few months) but I rarely have the courage to approach women in nightclubs. I only really talk to them when I'm introduced by a mutual friend. \n\nI know what I'm saying probably isn't the most interesting thing but I'm just wondering is there anyone on here like this too or any advice people could give me?", "summary": "Uncomfortable with nightclub setting when talking to women. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1fstco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My coworkers do not ask me[f21] to go to lunch with them", "post": "I am a 21 year old female programmer intern at a very small company. This is my second time working here after interning in a previous semester. I get along well with a majority of my coworkers but I'm timid and I dont know how to say \"Can I go to lunch with you guys?\" When a group of them leaves to get food together. Every day one of the guys who started working here while I was gone comes in and asks a few of the guys to come to lunch with him. But no one ever asks me if I'd like to join. \n\nThere are also 2 other interns. One of them makes it very clear, indirectly, he has no desire to interact with me socially (He was here last time). The other one is new and I havent said more than 10 words to him since we started, but I would like to try to be more social with my coworkers by going out to lunch with them and I dont know how to approach this situation without coming off needy or something? \n\nsorry if this is the wrong place; direct me to the right subreddit if there is a better one?", "summary": "I am too timid and scared of being rejected to show my coworkers I want to go to lunch with them when they go together; they do not ask me if I want to come."}
{"id": "t3_1jxmwb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [24M] move forward with live-in SO [34F]?", "post": "The points: \n\n* I work in IT and am a pretty solitary guy, having her in my life makes me so much more at ease.  I have general anxiety so this is important.  \n\n* I've never really felt \"love\" from anyone but her, I had a messed up childhood so having someone this close to me is new and exciting\n\n* My college days were relatively intense, I'm yearning for the excitement of being single again but don't want to hurt SO, I'm constantly thinking about peers my age, eyes always wandering, not sexually attracted to SO anymore\n\n* She's from another country on a student visa, been living with me for 8 months.  she moved in because she was living with 6 other girls in a 2br place, all worked at the same whip-wielding restaurant to pay for school\n\n* Obviously hurting someone sucks and the feeling of being alone is terrifying (new city, no close friends)... but I do feel trapped, like I could be growing a lot more.  Was formerly polyamorous, jumped into this on impulse.  \n\n* I told her I never intend on getting married or having kids.  She accepted that, we've been monogamous for 18 months \n\n* she doesn't know many other people so I offer some level of security, but taking that away by breaking up would ruin a big part of her life, she might go back home", "summary": "feeling trapped/antsy/cheaty with live-in SO, I want to go out and mingle and make mistakes and experiment, but I don't want to ruin this girl's life"}
{"id": "t3_heuqq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "14 Tillion Dollars, What Does Reaching the Debt Ceiling Really Mean?", "post": "Aparently on monday the United states has reached its debt ceiling of 14 trillion dollars, and while i'd like to consider myself fairly well informed on how it got into this position of massive debt im not entirely clear on what reaching a debt ceiling means for the American economy.\n\nProposals from both sides of the political spectrum say that a reduction of spending is needed (with democrats proposing raising taxes in the upper braket?) but how big of a chunk of an anual budget would really be needed to put a dent in 14 trillion? You dont accumulate that kind of debt over night and i have difficulty seeing exactly how any reduction could even allow them to break even let alone start reducing this debt load given the rather large deficit administrations have been running.\n\nAnd lets say for a minute that they cant figure out a way to ease off this debt ceiling, what are the consiquences for inaction? What are other means of solving this issue?", "summary": "what does reaching the debt ceiling mean for the American government? How big a budget cut is going to be needed? what ae the consiquences of allowing debt to grow significantly beyond 14 trillion?"}
{"id": "t3_317log", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] with my FWB [23/F] for almost one month, should I consider steps towards a \"relationship\"? Anyone who's been in a similar arrangement - I'd appreciate your input", "post": "Long story short: I've been talking to this girl I met at a bar for the last few weeks. She's beautiful and smart. We've been hanging almost everyday. We text everyday. The sex we have is incredible and so different to me, in that it is longer in duration and far more intense/passionate than any other person I've been with in the past. She is very intelligent - she's a geology grad that licks rocks and can tell me intricate details about them. We have some deep conversations. I don't know why, but her being so passionate about what she does turns me on. We've gone out on dates/hang over at her place or mine all the time. We get cute surprises for each other, cook for each other, so on. \n\nOne thing we've also talked about is our feelings towards others. She told me she considers us to be \"talking.\" She told me she considers us to be monogamous. She told me she really likes me and didn't plan on talking to anyone before she left. \n\nWhat's the issue then, you may ask? She is leaving for Texas to go to grad school in August. I, too, am going to be leaving for Pittsburgh the summer after this one to attend grad school. We both are young and mobile, and have higher goals for ourselves. But I feel like we are dating. I feel like I really like her. \n\nHave any of you been friends with benefits with someone and took it farther? Is there a *need*, even, to make it \"official\" with rites like asking her to be my girlfriend, making overtly public displays of it on social media, so on, even when we both know we like each other and are already exclusive? How should I go about asking her? Should I ask her? What should I do?", "summary": "I've gotten really close to someone but she's leaving in a few months. I want us to officially be considered to be dating but don't want to scare her off/make her think I don't understand that she's leaving in a few months."}
{"id": "t3_1kjgoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18F] want to help my little brother [17M] with ideas to come closer to a [16F] girl in school.", "post": "My brother has a crush on a girl for at least a half year. She has start the same school as he but they don't hang out in the same groups. He does text with her on facebook and on the mobile, but he don't know any ideas for getting them to know each other better. He has been on dances and even danced with her one evening, but when he asked her if they could be together she said that she don't know him so well yet...\n\nThis issue is something that he only speaks to me about, not our mother and I will be moving to another town in a couples of weeks and I just want to help him. I'm not so good in dating tips, because I just talked with my now SO of soon 2 years one night and met him the next day and then we were together. (Short story). \n\nHe and I live in a small village and she lives in a village maybe 15 km away. The nearest town is about 45 km away and we live in Finland. They both have only mopeds and every cinema, bowling hall etc. is in the town 45 km away (30 km from her house). He doesn't want my mother to know everything, because she's very annoying with these kinds of stuff..\n\nAny advise, like things they could do, tips for him? I'll be very happy if I could help him a little. :)", "summary": "My brother has his first crush on a girl and when he asked her if they could be together, she answered that she doesn't know him so well yet. Any advise for him?"}
{"id": "t3_29p8bu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not pissing before ultrasound", "post": "I'm an incoming male college freshman and I intern at the local medical center to get experience and what not. Anyways, today I was in the clinical simulation lab and they asked me to be the ultrasound patient in the afternoon to let students perform ultrasounds on me. They told me to drink lots of water, as the ultrasound would be performed on my bladder and a full bladder with liquid is the easiest to view with the portable ultrasound device. You can all see where this is going right?\n\nSo I chug down about 2 bottles of water around 11 am and await the session at 1 pm. Turns out I drank a little TOO much water and my bladder is practically bursting around the start of the session. I was just pleading my brain not to think of waterfalls or leaky faucets. \n\nAs the students began to probe me to find my full bladder, I was thinking, \"This isn't too bad!\" and anxiously awaited the end of the hour to rush to the restroom. I should mention I'm extremely ticklish. Towards the end of the session, one guy managed to poke me with the probe. I'm sure it was an accident, but holy shit did it tickle... And I just lost it... I wet myself in front of a third year resident TA and about 20 medical school students. Awkward as fuck.", "summary": "Drank too much water before getting probed with an ultrasound. Got tickled. Wet myself. "}
{"id": "t3_3hbxh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (16M) enjoy being newly single after my girlfriend (15F) dumped me?", "post": "Long story short, my (ex)girlfriend dumped me over the phone about three weeks ago and I need to get back out there. I'm not looking for an emotional relationship, I just want to have a physical relationship with someone who is also down for just making out and whatever. I haven't kissed anyone in a long-ass time and I miss doing it.\n\nI just need some help on how to approach this as my ex was my first kiss/relationship ever and I have no idea how to bring this up to someone.\n\nAlso, in a week, I will be going away to this camp with my family and lots of other families and I was thinking of trying to mess around with a girl around my age that goes there. It's only for one week so I really have nothing to lose but I don't exactly know how to get this girl to be alone with me or how to approach kissing someone that I'm not even dating.\n\nBesides camp, I'd like to go out and kiss people I've just met, but I don't go to parties and summer ends soon.\nIf you have any advice on how to mentally approach this and how to actually go about doing something like this, please let me know.\n\nP.S: Idk if i should have posted this under the relationships subreddit, sorry if this isn't within the rules or whatever.", "summary": "I'm recently single and I'm looking for a casual, physical relationship."}
{"id": "t3_54ch4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] Ex [18 F] of 3 months says she misses me but doesn't love me. Can I start feelings again?", "post": "My ex broke up with me because she lost feelings. She tells me that it was a good relationship and she wishes she didn't lose feelings but she had to do what was right and not stick around just for my sake, which I understand and am thankful she didn't. \n\nMy Ex and I still talk almost every day, and recently I sent her a snaphat of one of 'our songs' with a funny caption. She texted me almost immediately saying that she is upset and misses me heaps, but she still has no feelings so we won't be able to date again.\n\nMy question is, how to I start those feelings up again? I miss her too and wish we didn't break up so I want to try and get her to catch feelings again but I don't know how to go about it especially when it seems like she is rejecting the idea of trying?", "summary": "Ex says she misses me, says she wants to get back but doesn't act that way. How can I reignite feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_4vi8jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (30, F) encourage my husband (29, M) to be more present with our baby (6 mo, M) and me?", "post": "So this isn't a very dramatic situation. My husband and I have been together 5 years and married 3. We have a six month old. We are both home-bodies and both enjoy having our own separate down time. With the birth of our baby, it has been relatively easy and natural for us to refocus our attention, in general. My husband is especially great at washing bottles, doing laundry, etc. He really pulls his weight around the house.\nWhen he isn't doing chores, his favorite thing is to be on his computer or phone. On his devices he games a lot, manages his fantasy football teams, is continually updating our finances/budget, and does a lot of research (relevant stuff for our family, typically). However, I'd love for him to give me some \"face-to-face\". I'd love to play cards together, have him join the baby and me for our walks, etc. Sometimes I feel lonely, and that brings out some frustration in me. I'd also like for him to not be on his phone while we are at dinner or eating at home.\nNow, I'm also to blame to for being on my phone. I brought this up with him and asked him to spend more unplugged time with us and told him I'd be better about being on my phone, too. He says he is on his computer doing important things for our family, but that he will work on it. So we are at a great starting point! My question is, how can I really help us both see this through. I feel like it's especially important that we aren't so tuned out around the baby.", "summary": "I'm looking for advice on how to foster device-free family time for husband, baby, and me."}
{"id": "t3_mrs4q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bloggers/Political Types/Writers. How can I start a blog that won't really suck.", "post": "I am an aspiring young writer with an obsession with politics. I try to write something every day and send it to a newspaper as an op-ed. Unfortunately, I am finding it difficult to get published outside my home state (Colorado).\n\nI figure that instead of letting the works wither on the vine, I could at least start a blog and try to get my writing out in some capacity. I have tried Suite 101 before, but I want something that is more legitimate and that has its own URL and perhaps even design? \n\nI'm poor, but could afford a domain and the hosting site. I have done some research and seen some pros and cons of sites such as Blogger or programs such as WordPress.\n\nI'm no professional, but I would like a legitimate looking and professional blog, and would appreciate any advice from Reddit.", "summary": "Help me Obi Wan Kenobi, you're my only hope."}
{"id": "t3_xn2q3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] and GF [22/f]  engaged in a threesome with a friend's GF [25/f] and it's gone bad", "post": "For simplicity's sake there are three couples in this story Couple A: Me and my GF, Couple B and couple C. Guy from couple B was having his Birthday, after a long night the three girls started getting frisky in a game of truth or dare. one thing led to another and it turned into a 3 way girls only session. Before this event and afterwards my GF (A) expressed an interest in bringing GF B into a three way. a few nights later drinks are had again everyone clearly remembering the previous night (which was agreed upon as positive by everyone involved) is casing the room knowingly. anyway couple C leaves leaving couple a and couple b behind as well as random girl D we'll call her. \nBF B leaves as it's late. i move for bed but am currently surrounded by 3 girls all drunk and dancing and somehow the party moves to my bedroom. after random girl D leaves for another bed in the house. \nso it begins my GF and GF B fool around i Have sex with my GF and barely touch GF B(we didn't have sex) feeling generally awkward, sleepy and drunk. \n\nThe next couple days it comes to light that this was planned and proposed to BF B who shot it down unless he was there as well which GF B did not tell us about.\n\nanyway shit has hit the fan Couple C found out before BF B and Couple B split up. Me and my GF feel awful about it and truly stupid. BF B has excommunicated all three of us. our reasoning wasn't sound but we felt if that first night was ok it can't be that bad. \n\nWhat can i do to make right? i feel truly awful.", "summary": "Threesome between me, GF and another friend's GF explodes into breakup and loss of friends"}
{"id": "t3_2tyw0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Coping with dying grandmother [85F, 26F]", "post": "My grandmother has been ill for a long time, but it seems like she has reached her last days.  It's not a surprise to anyone in the family, but I am struggling with how to relate to her over the next couple weeks.\n\nI went to visit her on Christmas day and she was in really rough shape.  She couldn't sit up or turn her head, and she was compulsively picking at her sweater and skin.  The room smelled like diarrhea. We had a short conversation and then I left.  She was pretty lucid, but I guess she has started having hallucinations recently.  I told her I loved her, and she said she loved me too.\n\nWhen I left, I was so upset I cried.  I want to go visit her at least one more time, but am scared.  The clock is ticking, and I don't know if it's better to just let her pass or try and visit again.\n\nNote: The nurses who care for her checked up while I was there, and had been doing something with the door closed before I got there.  I don't get the impression that they were being negligent.", "summary": "Dying grandma, to visit or not to visit."}
{"id": "t3_2wwfsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my friends [20sF] of 6 years, am I just being ridiculous?", "post": "Last summer I met a girl online who we'll call Jo. Jo had just moved to my city, and we met up and became friends. I introduced her to my friends and she started coming to our group get togethers.\n\nOver the months, I started realizing that Jo was extremely high maintenance and controlling. I felt like every few weeks she would be angry at me about something trivial.\n\nThe final straw was when I offered to introduce her to one of my single guy friends. She asked me to find out if he was interested. Unfortunately he was not, and when I told her this she took it out on me like it was somehow my fault. That was the final straw. I felt like our friendship was toxic and told her that she was too demanding and I couldn't be friends anymore. This was about three weeks ago.\n\nI didn't tell any of my friends in the group (except for one because I sought her advice) because I didn't know what to do. Now I feel like she's doubled how much she's hanging out with my friends and I am going to run into her this weekend.\n\nR/Relationships, please give me a reality check here. Is it completely wrong of me to tell my friends what happened? I feel bad putting them in a position to choose, but on the other hand I have been friends with all of them for years and want their support. I don't really know what to do. I've never been in this situation before.", "summary": "I had a friend break up with a toxic person. She's in my friend group because I introduced her to everyone. She's now doubling how much she's around, and I feel caught between a rock and a hard place."}
{"id": "t3_1dv4nl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20M) become ok with my GF (20F) texting other guys", "post": "We've been dating for almost two years. My GF will often have 2-3 guys she is \"texting\" at a time. I assume they are all harmless convos but I cant get the worst case scenarios out of my mind like she is cheating on me with these guys or something. She says they are just friends but it doesnt ease my mind much. And I know she doesnt mean any harm by it. She's an attention craver. I think it stems back to daddy issues since she didnt grow up with a dad or much attention as a child. Anyway the problem is that sometimes she'll receive a text and I know its from one of these guys. I feel like this shouldnt be a big issue but I have a lot of insecurities when it comes to girls texting other guys. Ive had bad relationship exprriences with this in the past. Anyway my first instinct is to badger her about it. Asking things like, \"whos that?\" or \"is that a guy?\". Its just the way I am to be nosy like that but its not good. Any time I ask she gets really defensive and irritated that I ask so many questions and feels like I dont trust her. I know that me being like this is only hurting my relationship. \n\nHow do I get over these insecurities and stop being so nosy?\n\nIs this normal?\n\nDo I have a right to ask these questions? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "girlfriend has guys she texts to and I cant help but be nosy and ask questions and I can see its starting to hurt the relationship. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_13ejkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[f21] tell my parents that my SO[m22] is traveling across the Atlantic to visit me while I'm in Europe?", "post": "My parents are Indian, and though they are fairly open-minded with most topics, they don't approve of my white boyfriend who I've been dating for almost 2 years (I told them about him 1 year ago). I am now doing a short internship abroad for 3 months, and he is planning on visiting. Should I tell my parents about this visit, especially if it will upset them greatly and disapprove of our decision to get more 'serious'? I know the easier thing to do would be not never tell them he visited, and to enjoy his company without having to deal with family drama. But is this a cop-out?", "summary": "Indian parents don't approve of white boyfriend, and I'm wondering if I should tell them he's visiting me abroad, staying in my room, etc."}
{"id": "t3_4640ws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31/f) SO (35/F) of 8 mos doesn't know how to express his feelings.", "post": "I have been with my SO - Bob - for 8.5 months.  We about as serious as it gets, talking about moving in together and the like.  To give a bit of background we are VERY different people.  I'm bubbly, outgoing and expressive.  He's the opposite, a bit stoic, not very social and doesn't really show how he feels.  We have opposite opinions on almost everything and most of our relationship has been coming to a compromise of some sort, but I'm at my wit's end right now.\n\nFor Christmas he got me a tumbler (from his work) and a card with \"coupons\" for a spa day and dinner.  I use the tumbler all the time, but has he followed through on anything else?  No.  My birthday was a week later.  Not even a card.  When I asked he said he called to try to arrange something, but it ended up not working out.  Last week on a date night we went to the used book store and he offered to buy me $100 worth of books for my birthday.  I wasn't pleased with the offer.  Now Valentines day just passed.  He has been sick this past week, but I am fully expecting absolutely nothing again -  not even some discount chocolate.  \n\nTo add insult to injury our sex life nosedived right before Christmas time due to work stress and injuries.  I feel completely unloved and unappreciated it.  I do really love him and there are parts of our relationship that make me very happy, I'm not sure if I've set a bad precedent and I should move on to find someone who can SHOW they care?", "summary": "SO didn't give any presents for Christmas, Bday, V-day.  What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hj1y8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend?[25 F] 7 months, Too many mixed signals", "post": "She wanted to end the relationship about a month ago saying I'm the \"perfect guy\" but too young for her. \n\nbut she's giving me mixed signals, I posted to my friend on Facebook \"I'm spending the night with **** (my family member but she doesn't know her name) she thought I was with another woman, when In fact I was in the hospital with my family. \n\nShe blocked me on everything then when I finally got round to speaking to her she told me that she couldn't sleep that night because of it\" \n\nif I don't reply within 2 days she assumes I want nothing to do with her and gets upset and says goodbye x. \n\nWhat on earth is happening, I'm so confused with all of this.", "summary": "I don't know what we are."}
{"id": "t3_bcza0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Homeworking Redditors, how do you motivate yourselves? Please share your tricks! Pretty please..?", "post": "Reddit, I am 26, the perfect age to create value, work hard, build the foundations of your life. However, I work for a small company (6 of us) we do internet researches, so we don't even have an office, we work at home every day. Also, I am planning to start my own, also internet-based enterprise, so in this project, I am my own 'boss', nobody is telling me what to do or when are the deadlines. The result? I just watch funny videos and read reddit all day, do no useful work at all. That's a shame and I am frustrated about this. Help me and earn my Eternal Gratitude!\n\n[", "summary": "] So, Reddit, what is your strategy to effectively work at home and/or work for yourself at home?"}
{"id": "t3_399ork", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know. I'm a 19 year old female. My boyfriend is 18", "post": "I told him something I never told anyone else. It is a very touchy subject. He laughed...three times. I started crying. He kept apologizing, but I couldn't forgive him. He said stuff how he would understand if I wanted to leave and called himself an idiot, among other names. He asked if I hated him. I said no, but I don't trust you anymore. Then, he asked if I wanted to be with someone I didn't trust. I still love him. I'm just hurt.  He kept saying how he is bound to fuck up like that again. He said he couldn't be happy being with me if I didn't trust him. I left and said I'm not ready to lose you. Later, I asked if I didn't trust him, would he leave. He said we could be friends. I couldn't stop crying. I asked why was I being hurt again and what did I do wrong? He said it was all his fault. I told him I didn't want him to go. I just couldn't trust him. He dropped breaking up with me, but I'm confused.", "summary": "Just read the post."}
{"id": "t3_1cubvr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Im twenty two,and im stuck in the same patterns.", "post": "I never like to see myself as a bitter or angry person.But there are things that get my quite depressed that fuel those two emotions in a low simmering heat inside of me.\n\nI have the conflicting sides of me,control/lose control.I know perfectly well that controlling what i show and express keeps things in check.\n\nBut when you cant say what you wish to people,what do you do then?I get paranoid,when my friends never text me back.we have breif conversations,which are great.I know they are busy,but the thing is is that i always text and message or call my friends to engage in conversation.Its rare for anyone to call or text or say hello to me first.its infuriates me to tell yall the truth.Why cant i be thought of?i get all anxious and wish someone would go HEY,Lets see how Jaque Is doing today.or hey,lets make jaque smile,or see if he wants to go clubbing or to the beach.Im sure i sound like a little bitch and probably will be misunderstood,but FUCKKKK,its hard to express these things to my friends,considering im just being paranoid,and it sounds like malarky when and if it is actually said.\n\nI wish i had a friend to talk to,about anything,\nsomeone who cares,who wishes to want to know\nmore about me.i simply want hope and support.\n\ni had stopped drinking 4 days ago,and being sober\nfor the first time in a long while has been hard.All these\nthings have contributed to my depression,plus drinking\nnever has helped.me and my parents had to move into a new house and rent it out;lost ours in foreclosure.its been really hard of me,living my entire life on a farm,into a neighborhood now :[ \n\ni dont want to be some stranger,\nparanoid and antisocial creep when i get older.i wish for something\nmagical;something real,and so i can feel like a human.", "summary": "I push myself too far to get attention,and i simply just wish i had someone to talk to about anything."}
{"id": "t3_2lojrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] need advice about my sister [20F], depressed college drop out furry.", "post": "Last week my sister told me that is now a furry. \n\nMy sister dropped out of university after one semester two years ago. She's been living with my parents since then. She goes to a community college, but she has failed most of her classes there. She has almost no friends, and she spends most of her time alone in her room. She is very into anime, cosplay, MLP, and is now making a 'fursuit'. I'm very concerned about her. She seems to have no goals, dreams, or ambition and she keeps falling into weirder and weirder crowds. I've suggested that my parents kick her out into a student apartment, so that she will be surrounded by other girls her age. \n\nShe will be 21 soon, on her way to adulthood, and she has shown no sign of growing up. She finally got her first minimum wage job about a month ago. My parents have saved up around 20K for her college fund, so she has the resources to go to college, but she cannot seem to pass her classes. She began taking Vyvanse for ADHD a few months ago, but I do not know if that has made any improvement. She has had boyfriends, but every one of them has been jealous and abusive.\n\nShe had an extremely abusive boyfriend a few years ago, who apparently beat and raped her before my parents got her out of that relationship. She has been in counseling because of that, and was diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD. I'm sitting here with my Mom and we're pretty much at a loss here on how to handle this.", "summary": "Sister is a dropout loser who was abused by an ex-boyfriend and has now dipped into the furry fandom. Aside from counseling, what would shake her out of this?"}
{"id": "t3_3ebucm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my crush [16 F] we got mad at each other and didn't talk for few days , now she sends a message", "post": "I have a crush on her , we flirt sometimes but last Saturday I was flirting with her , two of her friends was there . later the week on Monday friend on her said that she didn't like me flirting , that day I kinda got mad thinking ** if she don't like to talk why should I ? I got plenty of people in class to  keep my company**  later same day she asked me \" why I am talking less with her?\" and said \" are you mad? Called me to sit next to her and talk \" I just said I am busy and went talked to other friends in the class , when the school is about to end there my friends were joking and playing with get , running around , and we were throwing bags playing catch then it suddenly turned into throwing at her , I did throw a few at her. ( -.- it was a joke like thing) \n\nI went tried to talk she was mad, said don't talk to me. Was touching her arm she sounded annoyed and said don't touch. Tried a few times to talk but couldn't . Later in home we usually text at night I didn't text first. I was waiting for a message ;_; I did miss her. She didn't message. Next day came was talking to friends , I expected her to talk but remembered she she said her friend she don't like me flirting. We ended up ignoring each other whole day.\n\nYesterday she in class no talk . but last night messaged be saying don't like that , she don't like it , if there is anything to tell her , that she said bye and I ignored her , asked if I am mad at her. I said she is one who is acting weird then went to bed couldn't talk.\n\nToday was thinking , should I text her saying if you don't like me flirting then tell me or whether should I tell in person\nShe do flirt , sends flirty text , in person too flirt and let me hold her hands.\n\nWhat to do? :/ \nSorry bad grammar", "summary": "crush and me got mad at each other , she texted last night saying she ain't mad and don't ignore her. I don't what to do becz her friend said she don't like me flirting with her (crush have told her)."}
{"id": "t3_4dm0iz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] father [47 M] just told me he is dating someone my older sister's [25 F] age. Feeling conflicted with the information.", "post": "My parents are separated and have been for going on three years. My mom moved away and I still live with my dad while I finish University. \n\nMy dad has been seeing someone and when this person comes over he asks me to not be at the house. The other day, after a few nights of this, he told me the reason that I couldn't be there was that the girl he is seeing is 25 and she thought I would judge her.\n\n I feel like I have been put in a very awkward position because my older and younger sister don't know about it. I want to talk to them but I also don't want to tell them because I would have honestly preferred not knowing about it.", "summary": "My dad is dating a girl the same age as my older sister and I feel creeped out and awkward about it. I talk to my sisters about everything but I don't know if I should tell them about this."}
{"id": "t3_39z88t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] broke up with my SO [19 F] of 3 years a month or two ago.... Where do i even start to rebuild my social life and look for new relationships?", "post": "I poured all my time into her and my hobbies, i have a few friends online that have moved far away and no one in person currently to spend time with at all. I don't know how to meet new people currently. I'm fixing to be going into Bartending but i don't necessarily want to meet people at my job... Where do I begin? Its at the point that i might be ready to start dating again, but i'm not sure where to start with that either... \n\nI'm quite the nerd and enjoy lots of stuff other people would think is geeky or nerdy so this MIGHT be a factor to consider.", "summary": "No idea how to meet people that i'd want to be friends with or how to meet girls i might want to be in a relationship with due to me being socially awkward and nerdy."}
{"id": "t3_50ga1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] get upset when my boyfriend [29 M] of one year sees his friends instead of me...", "post": "I am very very happy with my boyfriend and he is a lovely, kind, affectionate man and I definitely want to be with him forever.\nThis is me asking for advise on MY issues.\n\nMy boyfriend and I see eachother usually around 3 - 4 times a week. This week I am seeing him on Thursday, Friday and Sunday.\n\nI'd usually see him on the Saturday too but he's got plans with his friends. For some reason this really upsets me. I do things with my friends during the week and if there's an event on the weekend I'll see them, but this Saturday all my friends are busy so I will be sitting on my own at home.\n\nI struggle with mild anxiety and whenever he sees his friends it really comes out massively and I start worrying about every tiny little thing! \n\nI feel like him seeing his friends instead of me means he doesn't love me as much as I love him as I'd not make plans on the weekend unless my friends made them. But he's organizing a poker night with the boys at his flat. I am really anxious about all of this and I don't know what to do to stop being ridiculous as it's unfair on him...", "summary": "Don't like it when my boyfriend makes plans that aren't with me - what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_33qcjd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing art for a redditor and not requiring a deposit.", "post": "Today I fucked up, actually it was this entire month by helping a fellow redditor who had posted in /r/artstore wanting a wedding picture drawn in pencil. \n\n[ You can see the images here] The image quality for the reference photo was terrible but I really wanted to try and help them out. They wanted it blown up to 16inX20in which is difficult with a perfect reference photo to begin with, so I knew it would be difficult. I spent weeks emailing back and forth with them, asking for feedback and the most I ever received was:   \n> The sketch looks good so far, I think the contrast and the overall picture are pretty spot-on. Something I noticed is that on the faces the lips for both look slightly off, mine seem to be protruding quite a bit. It looks really good though, I think we're definitely on the right track. Thanks for your work and patience. \n\nAfter that I didn't hear from them for weeks I kept working assuming they were busy and sent them a final image(seen above.) I let them know I could still make changes as needed, and would be waiting to hear back. They once again went MIA until yesterday, when I received this: \n>I'm going to go with another artist on this project. \n\nSo that is at least 20 hours of hard work I will never be paid for and for someone who makes their living off of art, that's a big deal. Now bills are coming do and I'm at least $100 short.  \n\n**So the lesson here for the comission-ers out there:** Communicate with your artist, give them honest feedback. It does no one good for you to compliment them when you are unhappy. We are doing work for you, it is important for both of us that you are satisfied. \n\n**And the lesson for comission-ees:** always, always, always write up a contract and require a deposit.", "summary": "I did a bunch of work and will never get paid. [Here's the picture.] "}
{"id": "t3_384qci", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[30f] Stood up by bf (26/m), has not apologized.", "post": "Boyfriend of 8 months is usually wonderful, I know that he does his very best for me and our relationship. He's very committed and very reliable. In terms of compliments, he not very romantic, and will never say I look beautiful or acknowledge my effort to look nice, or how much I mean to him. I usually have to ask him to say something romantic, which he usually obliges to, but last Saturday morning, due to this trait of his, I was feeling very insecure and asked him to say something romantic. He scoffed and said nothing. During the afternoon, he texted a couple of times and I was not as effusive as I usually am. We had agreed he would come spend the night at my house, as per usual, and he simply disappeared. He didn't show up, he didn't message. The other day, he sends me a text and doesn't mention anything, I very calmly explain to him what he did, and he says he's sorry, but he doesn't say anything else, doesn't call, doesn't send any other msg throughout the day. It's now Monday evening and he's still to contact me. He never truly apologizes, while I always do and do my best to make up to him, have I caused him wrong. I feel like he's not going to contact me unless I reach out to him (which I always do when we fight), but I feel like this time he knows very well what he did (I don't like being by myself at night, and I hate flaky people). The longer he takes to call me and apologize, the more I think about breaking up with him, as wonderful as he is. Please, help.", "summary": "Usually wonderful boyfriend stood me up, has not genuinely apologized, has not contacted me."}
{"id": "t3_tqog5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "PrOm 2012 what do i do?", "post": "So I'm a junior in high school and I recently met this girl in the advanced jazz band. (I'm in intermediate) She's a senior and we get along really well and everything. \n We were talking after school one day and she said, \"Are you going to prom\" and i said no. She then said, \"oh well you should ask someone! Girls are waiting you know.\" (which in my 3 years of high school means that she wants you to ask her.) I told her that I might ask someone but I haven't decided yet. \n A few days later I run into her at Starbucks and we start talking and she tells me that I \"should decide by monday\" (starbucks was friday)\nI went home and thought about if I really wanted to go and I decided to ask her on Monday after school when I see her. I waited for her after school where she usually goes along with my other friends and she comes by with a huge ballon and flowers. I quickly hide my flowers and kind of slip away. Being the optimistic, naive teenager I am I hoped that she was going to ask ME. but of course I was wrong and she had been asked by some random guy at lunch. We kind of facebook message each other in like 3 hour increments so she asked me for this video I mentioned to break the ice between us. I sent it to her and before I closed down facebook I asked who asked her. She told me the next day on facebook it was someone I don't know. So I gave up on that and asked her to look at this script I made for a group project. She hasn't replied since. my QUESTion is this: Is there a way to get her to go with me even though she's going with somebody else? (yea that sounds really stupid i know) Should I keep trying to talk to her? Should I be normal and goofy or indifferent the next time i see her? what should i do next??", "summary": "girl wanted me to ask her to prom. i prepared to ask her and she showed up with flowers and ballons already. i want to talk to her but idk if she feels guilty or mad. THank you everyone i really appreciate you taking time to read this :)"}
{"id": "t3_2ytgj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my almost-boyfriend?[25M] met at one night stand, been seeing for a week, great guy, scared of him drifting away", "post": "Been with this guy for a week. Knew him previously, but didn't really talk. We both got it on at a party, now we're seeing each other, kind of. Still extremely fresh. Since then we've hung out a couple of times, at the beach, and talked for hours. I'm actually starting to really like this guy and want to be with him and get to know him better. He's got a business trip for 10 days as of tomorrow though, so we won't be able to hang out. Should I say anything? Should I text him much? He has been the one taking me places for us to hang out and stuff but I don't want to seem clingy or annoying, it's one of my peeves actually. We text a couple of times a day and he always responds with really long texts.\n\nI had a bad experience a few years ago and am still a bit scarred mentally. When I was with him today we were quite intimate with hugging and kissing and I'm scared I came off as \"awkward\". So I told him very superficially what happened in the past. He just looked at me for a long time and gave me a long hug.\n\nI'm scared to scare him away, nobody seems to give me long enough for me to \"open up\" and get totally comfortable with. And this guy is really worth it. I know it's super early yet, but I want to give it my all, and I'm scared he'll drift away because of how I might act or whatever.", "summary": "Fresh relationship, guy leaving for 10 days, scared he might drift away, really want to maintain things \"active\" during those days. What should/shouldn't I say or do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sxolb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my[28F] feeling like i'm too sexual??", "post": "My girlfriend and i have been togther for two years now.We live together and have a child together.Things for the most part are wonderful except for one problem.We don't have sex.On average my GF and I have sex maybe once a month.I feel like this is not enough which causes me to start to resent her.\nI feel as though i'm made to feel like some sort of perv because of the amount of sex i want.\nI've tried being romantic,agressive,passive pretty much everything except for forcing myself on her.\nWe used to be very active and now i feel like she doesn't even view me as attracive or anything.\nJust running out of ideas on what to do.\nLooking for guidance..", "summary": "Toosexy?"}
{"id": "t3_26bveh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "For fucks sake. Just not sure what to do anymore. In love with close friend (19f) me (18m)", "post": "So this girl (she has depression and doesn't do relationships) and I had a thing last year, we didn't quite sleep together because I didn't want to until I knew she was \"mine\". Well that didn't turn out, apparently she just doesn't feel that way.\n\n It took over 6 months for me to get that much information from her. I can't just distance myself to get over her because we're in the same class and she relies on me as a close friend. What the fuck can I do because being in love with someone who can't/won't love you back sucks so fucking much.", "summary": "Fell in love with someone and somehow ended up being \"just friends\"."}
{"id": "t3_p23qu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One more chance?", "post": "Wow, where do I begin? My boyfriend and I were dating for 9 months, approaching 10. We're both 18/19, freshman in college. \n\nFor the most part, we were happy together. We had a few fights here and there, but for the most part, we were happy together. He has been battling depression and anxiety, and sometimes they get the best of him. When he gets angry, he gets very angry, and often loses control of himself. He has childish meltdowns and has slapped me (lightly) twice in the past, on two very separate occasions, when I did something to really make him angry. Every time, after the fight happens, he apologizes, and the two times he has hit me, he apologizes mercilessly. On Friday night, after a rocky few weeks of up and downs, he had another meltdown and I ended things. \n\nMy friends have been telling me for months now that he's not right for me, but I really think he is. He has his problems, but he has made so many improvements on them since we started dating. He wants nothing more to be back together with me, and I want to be back together with him also, but I can't bring myself to trust him that the meltdowns and anger (and accompanied stress) will stop. We've had so many good times together, so many inside jokes, and so many memories. I broke up with him because I questioned whether we were good for each other anymore; I felt as if our differences had finally caused too much friction. Now, though, whenever I speak to him, I still feel like I'm in a relationship with him, even though I made it clear to him that I wanted to breakup. I still do love him..should I give him one more chance?", "summary": "my boyfriend has some serious anger problems, but is getting better with them. he's lightly slapped me twice, but i have forgiven him for that. he battles depression and anxiety, and has been getting better, but it hurts me when he gets so angry and has meltdowns. i finally lost it one day, but we're still very much in love, should i give him one more chance?"}
{"id": "t3_1feykg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dont know if I [M,24] should end it with my gf[F,23]", "post": "My gf works at reception in an hotel, so she only has 1 day off work. This week they gave wednesday and she went with Two friends [m,f] to some restaurant/bar, afterwards she went with them to his friend apartment.\n\nThen they started to smoke weed and she tells me she got uncomfortable and left because she has never tried it. She was previously drinking and it was 5am, so she wasn't in her best condition. so after some time of walking and looking for a cab she was stranded in an unknown place, maybe not that secure. \n\nShe called me but I was half sleep and we weren't speaking for some previous discussion. I didn't say much and she didn't told me what was happening but her voice sounded like she was sobbing.  Anyway, the following day she calls and tells me that same story but that she called his ex bf because she panicked, and he picked her up and left her in her flat. she says they didn't do anything, that he just gave her a ride to her flat.\n\nWe been dating for 5 months and been together as a couple for 7; I think we have a good honest relationship, sometimes we argue but after a few days we are ok and have a great time together. Also his exbf is sort of a douchebag and previously cheated on her, and uses coke so not really a trustworthy person.", "summary": "she went out with some friends, then  called his ex bf to pick her up because she was stranded in some sort of insecure place. "}
{"id": "t3_cjqf5", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Thinking about therapy, implications for employment? Specifically: Peace Corps.", "post": "I've been thinking about seeking some type of therapy (most likely CBT) for awhile now to help me deal with some social anxiety and negative thinking issues for some time. I've never done this sort of thing before and while I think I'm doing pretty well in bettering myself on my own, I'd like to make more progress and get an outside opinion on some things.\n\nMy concern is that if I seek therapy, and use my insurance to help pay for it, that this information could somehow be used against me when looking for employment. I just submitted an application to the Peace Corps and as part of that application it asked if I had ever seen a psychologist and if so, the date I saw them last. I answered no, which is true, but if I now go see a therapist and don't tell them, then I'm likely breaking rules that if they found out, could lead to my termination (and I guess possibly fines/jail).\n\nIs there any way for them to find this out if I don't tell them? I really feel that it's a personal issue that doesn't concern them and I don't want it to influence my chances. Thanks!", "summary": "Thinking about going to therapy for confidence issues. Concerned that if I do, that it could somehow risk future employment."}
{"id": "t3_13ldsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [m/24] of 2 years is going into the military, I [f/25] am not sure whether or not to stay.", "post": "I am in two minds about this.  \n  \n1) Do I remain in the relationship with him and support him while dealing with not seeing him for months and months at a time? Problem: I am an independent person but genuinely hate not seeing my SO for more than a few weeks at most. I'm not sure how I would cope with months away from him. We are not engaged or married, and I have no plans to be anytime soon.  \n  \n2) Break up with him so that I can selfishly worry less (?) about him while he is away, and to let him follow his dreams without the 'girlfriend issue'. Problem: I feel like it's not fair to stress him out with a break-up before he leaves, it's the last thing he needs, right? He'll be worried enough as it is and I want his leaving for the army to be a positive experience.", "summary": "My SO is joining the army, I am proud of him and want to be supportive, but I don't know whether to help him follow his dreams and support him while remaining in a relationship, or let him go 'free', but I can't help but feel like it's a lose-lose for me either way."}
{"id": "t3_4m6oag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with female friend [19 F]: Did I embarrass myself by taking many screenshots of her snaps?", "post": "I recently discovered users can see who took screenshots of their snapchats\nI didn't know this. There is a girl I like and I took tons of screenshots. Like sometimes more than 1. I didn't do anything weird with her pics. I just have them on my phone and I like her so what right? But Now I feel ashamed. Probably she knows I took tons of screenshots of her snaps. I'm just glowing because I feel so embarrassed right now. What should I do? Apologize? Just pretend like I never did it? I didn't feel so embarrassed in a long time.", "summary": "I'm feeling like I embarrassed myself by taking so many screenshots of her snaps. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2nhq5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] and my boyfriend [20M] for almost 2 years, broke up due to long distance; left it in a bad place", "post": "We were together for almost 2 years at uni, and we even lived together. But I moved across the world for a year abroad of uni, and after about 3 months the strain became too much. \n\nWe mutually broke up, and we were both  ok. But afterwards I didn't take it well; I drunkenly text and rang him. So I decided to delete him off facebook to stop myself from embarrassing myself further. \n\nThis didn't really work, and the last time we talked was when I tried to call sober to clear the air but he was angry that I was contacting him again. He said we'd talk in a few months when I was over it but I told him I didn't want to be friends.\n\nThat was a few weeks ago and I don't know what to do. I feel so awful that I have lost not only my boyfriend but my best friend, and the idea that we can't even be friends really saddens me. I know I was in the wrong and I was so over dramatic, but I feel this is mostly to do with the fact I'm not really enjoying my time abroad.\n\nI kind of wish I'd never left my home country and him, I was happy there. I don't know what I expected to find here but I haven't.\nShould I just leave this and move on?", "summary": "Mutual break-up that I grew to regret, then I was too childish meaning I have lost him even as a friend. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_e8jko", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Since AskReddit has a rule where we cannot post poll-type questions, and I like polls as much as Jonathon Ware likes turtles, can we have a subreddit for polls?", "post": "I posted a poll on r/entertainment yesterday about [favorite TV series of all time] and it got a lot of love. \n\nSimilar threads were created by others about [favorite movie] [best director] and [favorite game] which were all received nicely, and we've always had polls on various subreddits sometime or the other.\n\nHowever, these polls only reach the subscribers of these subreddits, and even if you aren't a movie or tv buff subscribing to those subreddits but still like voting in such polls, can someone create a subreddit with clearly laid out rules where we can just have some poll fun? I would do it myself except I don't have much experience with creating and maintaining subreddits.", "summary": "Are people interested in a subreddit for polls and can someone create one."}
{"id": "t3_1jzx1t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "[Previous Post](\n\n---\n\nSo I snooped again because I saw a text pop up from him last week on her phone.\n\nLast Saturday night, she texted him out of the blue just before 10pm saying \"what u up to tonight?\". This is a week after he last texted her and she didn't respond. This was in a 20 min gap when she wasn't with me. She was drunk too.\n\nShe then met up with me shortly after at 10pm so didn't respond to any of his texts for the rest of the night/she got too drunk to function and I had to take her home.\n\nThe rest of his texts were about asking her to meet up etc with last text being at 1am. This is when I saw the text as I was still up and her phone was on the table. I decided not to snoop further at that stage.\n\nShe hasn't text back since then.\n\nI know all of this because I only decided to snoop last night because it's been bugging me ever since. She got blind drunk last night so I had to meet up with my mate and her on the street and help her get home. She was in memory blank drunk mode. On a work night too. Which just made me think wtf is going on with her so I snooped when she was passed out.\n\nAlso remembered something she said to me a few weeks ago, she said\n\n\"I used to text other guys when I was with my past boyfriends, because basically I got bored, but with you I don't have to because you're so fun\" or something like that.\n\nAnd ever since she said that it's been in the back of my mind, contributing to my insecurity, and has me thinking oh is this the start of this sort of behavior.\n\nI think you guys are right that I don't trust. And I have to admit it too. I don't trust her that much at the moment due to her behavior and my insecurities.", "summary": "2 weeks ago, guy was texting my girl sounding keen as to meetup. gf didn't text back. I snooped on her phone"}
{"id": "t3_2mh2r1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [32/M] get better at dealing with jealousy/envy/rejection?", "post": "So, I'm finally putting myself out there more. I'm talking to many people on dating sites. Setting up dates. Met with someone 'just as friends', had a cool convo, and you know what? I was fine with it. I like talking to her, I wasn't crazy in need to jump her bones, so fine...I was happy to leave it like that and go back to my 6 other prospects or whatever I have going.\n\nBut I get one text from someone, \"Hey, I have to cancel our date sorry honestly I've met someone else and I'm head over heels.\" ...and something in me just goes into panic mode.\n\nI wasn't even that crazy into this particular person, I would have been fine if she had just cancelled - so it's the jealousy? Or the rejection in favor of someone else? I think the 'head over heels' part bothered me expecially. I never get to experience that. Ever.\n\nSo now, my mentality threatens to change. That 'friend' I had met and was cool with? Holy crap, I've gotta start pushing that toward a realtionship. This has happened to me before - I'm friends with a woman, think I'm totally fine with that, and then she gets a boyfriend and I freak out and all of a sudden feel like I was in love with her all this time. What is that? How do I stop that?", "summary": "Very prone to some kind of jealousy, how to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2ykct8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by zoning out and burning myself", "post": "This fuck up happened less than 30 minutes ago... do I get a prize?\n\nBackground: I am a high school student and I generally pride myself for being part of the upper group as far as intelligence is concerned, but after my fuck up, I have been considerably humbled. \n\nThe Fuck Up: I was in chemistry today and we were doing a lab. In this particular lab we were using a little bowl called a crucible.  The crucible was still wet after being washed at the end of the last class, therefore the first instruction was to heat it over a burner to dry it out. \n\nWe heated the crucible for the required two minutes and sat it at the table to cool, as it was cooling I began to read the instructions for the next step, which required us to find its  mass. My mind had begun to wander from the lab, when I remembered what needed to be done. I promptly said \"Let me just mass this.\" I grabbed the crucible. The blazing hot, just heated by fire for two minutes crucible. It burned, seeking to remove it from my hand and stop the pain. I flung it to the ground and it shattered. \n\nThe looks I received from my teacher and the other students were those of bewilderment. They were bewildered at how I could be so stupid as to grab an incredibly hot crucible. I am shamed, and my burned finger hurts.", "summary": "I forgot what I was doing and grabbed at very hot thing, I burned myself and got looks from other students that make me feel dumb."}
{"id": "t3_3q2xqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU The night I almost killed someone.", "post": "This was like 2 nights ago, put up with it. I work at a fast food outlet, and it was during a just before dinner rush rush  period friday night. We got an order for a  burger without pickles. \n\nQuite common to get no pickles and onion etc along with some really fucked up orders. 9/10 times its some picky prick who doesn't like his onions or pickles whatever. \n\n I sometimes have massive brainsharts, mostly at work and now was time for one. I toasted the bun, put note on box to comfirm order specification and started making the burger.  \n\nAny normal person would remember that the order was no pickles, but I was in burger making mode and completely forgot. Made a perfect burger, then thought fuck these people, extra pickles for them. By extra, I mean like 12 more, a nice size handful slapped on the burger.\n\nGave said burger to counter lady, as soon as she bagged it and handed it out the window, I realised my mistake. The orger was no fucking pickles and I gave them a years worth of pickles. \n\nNo biggie, they can just take them off, or come back and request a new burger and be agitated as some people get over these things. Told the guy making other burgers with me at the time my mistake, and was aware that they'd probably come back and the manager working would be pissed off.\n\nMaybe 15 minutes later, I was doing another job in ear shot of the guy I told about my mistake and he whispered to me something like \"The burgers here.\" made no sense to anyone else, but made me shit it. \n\nTurns out the kid whos burger it was, had a deadly pickle allergy and couldve died if He ingested some pickles! His Mum wasn't very happy, neither was the manager. \n\nManager didn't find out who madethe burger, but was quite angry for the rest of the night. He is the best manager and takes his job seriously,  but can have mad jokes in the meantime! \n\nSorry to said Kid and Mother of him. My brain sharted and I wasn't being some smartarse.", "summary": "Brain sharted, nearly killed a kid"}
{"id": "t3_1yrlga", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do i not screw this one up?", "post": "**Backstory:** im in my second year of college, i've been known to go out and sleep with a lot of girls.. not really my idea of a good night or anything, but it just kind of happens. havn't really had any real dating experience since freshman year of highschool, 4 girlfriends total, all cheated with close friends, i now have some trust issues, and generally just have sex with people (i have numerous fwb) \n\n**The Situation** so few weekends ago, at the usual bar with a couple of pals, my usual buddies but with some more people from our program. get to dancing with one of the girls, start flirting, figured id try and make a move, but kept being interrupted and she ended up getting really drunk and leaving, but afterwords she added me to facebook and started chatting. girls really cool, valentines day she texts me pretty upset, the guy shes screwing around with told her shes a side chick, ( something i to myself would probably do), so i comforted her, cheered her up abit, got to shooting shit. get the stones to ask her to come watch a movie, she comes over we cuddle for abit, chat all night, and she leaves, we've watched movies and cuddled every night since. \n\n**Where im at right now** ive told all of my fwb that its over, i genuinely do not wanna hurt this girl, and i have feelings for her.she just left from our \"first date\" i made her supper, we watched a movie, cuddled, she wants things to go slow because shes weary. but im falling hard.. \n\n**The Question**soo.. what can i do to help further this, without seeming desperate and overly attached, because with her its not even for sex, i just want her around 24/7.. \n\nSorry that this got so long..", "summary": "im kind of damaged good, who might have a shot at a relationship with a really really cool girl, how do i not fuck this up"}
{"id": "t3_49fnw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26M] fianc\u00e9e [27F] is upset I stayed out late after a concert, I think she is over reacting.", "post": "I am in a long distance relationship with my fianc\u00e9e. I really like concerts, and go often. I went to a concert on Friday night, and meet an adorable couple at the show. We really hit it off with them. I liked him a lot, he was really cool, and she was really sweet/precious. We ended up staying out till 5 am and had a blast.\n\nI normally text her when I am home, but apparently I passed out without properly hitting the button. (The message was all typed out and everything.) When I woke up at 9, I apologized for not texting her, because I know she wants me to be safe.\n\nLast night, she basically said I was stupid and unsafe for doing what I did. I didn't know them, and I was not being smart. I told her that I really trusted them, and that they were harmless. She said she didn't care.\n\nI have traveled the world. I have been to over 20 countries and backpacked with strangers for weeks, in the mountains. This makes me nervous that she thinks this was so dangerous, as this seems like such a small thing to me.\n\nAm I thinking about this wrongly?", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9e was extremely upset that I stayed out till 5 am with a couple I met at a concert, because it wasn't safe."}
{"id": "t3_4aoe9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20m] and my ex [20f] broke up due to her parents beliefs.", "post": "This had been going on most of our relationship (6 months) but her parents go to a Church of Christ and long story short, if I'm not on par with their religion, then I'm not allowed to date her. They've met me once and didn't see that I was good enough so it wasn't allowed no matter what she tried telling them.  She's suffocated by them and doesn't know where she is on religion due to them forcing it on her. She definitely doesn't agree with a lot of their beliefs. \n\nWe have had very strong feelings for each other, especially for 6 months, and I still have that feeling I got the the first week we dated. Now she broke up with me because we have been hiding it the whole time and she started getting frustrated with lying and being scared of them figuring out because the consequences would be pretty great.\n\nNeither her or I are in the position to move out so options on how this could work are very limited. Talking to them really isn't going to do anything because they're so deep in religion, that there's no if, ands, or buts. We're in a rough spot and are both really stressed out and would like to be together but them finding out would not be pretty. Does anyone have an suggestions or experience with this? It'd be MUCH appreciated as I'm very upset and just want this all better.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Gf parents are VERY religious and will not allow me to date her unless I'm on the same level as them. Gf doesn't agree with most of their beliefs."}
{"id": "t3_4h8yix", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Bellingham, WA] Wife looking at buying property in Bella Coola, BC; legal implications of living half the year here in Bellingham and half the year in Bella Coola", "post": "Alternate account for privacy (people on a certain subreddit relating to Washington (the state) know my real account).\nI'm 32, my wife's 34, we have a 6-year-old daughter.\nFor the past six weeks my wife has expressed interest in buying a fixer-upper, said she was looking at one in Bella Coola, BC or Bella Bella, BC.\nShe said she wanted us to live there between January to July, and then August to December in Bellingham, but where would the chips fall when it came to things like employment, education taxes, paying the IRS taxes, citizenship etc.\nIANAL and know little on the subject of fixer-uppers, aside from Chip and Joanna Gaines!\n\nThis is a bit complex for me to understand and if anyone here can provide advice on this subject matter I'd be very grateful.", "summary": "Immigration/legal matters relating to Washington/Vancouver and Bella Coola, BC."}
{"id": "t3_zkgrq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m24] currently dating a very young girl", "post": "Currently I'm in a pretty good relationship with a girl who is younger than the \"half your age plus 7\" rule. Actually she has just hit the age of consent (16) and we have been dating pretty seriously for 5 months. Honestly I felt pretty bad about it in the beginning because when I was younger I always despised older guys dating really young girls. Now I have become what I once hated.... \n\nI truly felt when I was going to first meet her Chris Hansen was going to show up with some cameras.\n\nBut no, we have not had any sexual relations yet. However, I can honestly say I do like her for much more than that. She is much more mature,  honest and straight forward than other girls my age, which I find really attractive.\n\nShe has also told me her mother met her dad at the age of 15, married 5 years later and were happy ever since. This gives me some kind of hope.\n\nDo Parents Know?: Currently her mother is only aware that we \"talking\" but not the depth of the relationship. I know her mother personally since she is a friend of the family. However, I have not introduced myself as her daughter's companion yet. I would rather do the whole meet and greet the family when she turns 18.\n\nI'm wondering if there are currently any other redditors out there that have had a similar (successful) experience?", "summary": "Dating a very young girl. Like her for who she is and wondering if it can still work out and if anyone else has had a similar experience."}
{"id": "t3_2eimau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my boyfriend [21/m] wants me [21/f] to change. Is he being too controlling", "post": "My boyfriend of 2 months is a really sweet guy. He always tells me that he cares for me and wants me to be as pretty as I can. After the first time we kissed, he told me my lips were kind of dry and gave me a lip balm. \n\nHe explicitly told me that in a relationship a guy should be in control and that if he is doing something wrong then you should tell him off. Otherwise, you should always let a guy take control. \n\nRecently, he has been asking me everyday if I worked out. And he has been telling me to change my hairstyle because he thinks change is good. He said what is the point of our lives if we don't leave pretty things behind. He also told me to get a pedicure and manicure amongst other beauty related things. \n\nI really want to do all these things and be a prettier woman for him, but at the same time I am too lazy to do all that and I also think it might be too controlling of him ? He is not demanding anything, but he did tell me that one of the reasons he left his ex was because she didn't want to change anything for him. \n\nWHAT SHOULD I DO ? :( I really like him because he always talks to me and gives me attention. He always there to listen to my problems but then he emphasizes that he wants me to change for him and be prettier.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to change and I feel he is being too controlling"}
{"id": "t3_1l1xuw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/m] just started dating a girl [19/f] a week after meeting her, is that too soon?", "post": "Backstory: i met a girl at a club on saturday through a mutual friend, we spent the night talking and getting to know eachother and we really hit it off!\n2 days later she invited me to watch her play netball, so i did and we had fun there.\n\nWe continued speaking A LOT throughout the week and we hung out on the friday and again on the saturday. On the Saturday we were practically acting like a couple in public and around friends so we spoke for about 3 hours on what we wanted and we realised we both want the exact same things from eachother. So we agreed to start dating. Do you think it was enough time to start a relationship?", "summary": "is 1 week of knowing and talking with someone enough time to start a relationship with them"}
{"id": "t3_3y5rn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 4 months, feel dependent", "post": "While our relationship is a good one, and my SO treats me very well (is very kind, thoughtful, generous, and would never think of causing me harm) I feel unhappy with the situation due to the fact I feel dependent on him for my happiness. We are both in college, and see each other all the time- We both have apartments in the same building, and I spend the night at his apartment nearly every night. He is happy to have me, and he is on the same page as I am in terms of spending so much time together. \n\nHowever, we are now on break from college and have gone back to our separate families, and I am miserable without him. I know he misses me, but I know that he's not having nearly as hard a time as I am. I've realized that I base my happiness around him. I know this isn't healthy, but I don't know what to do about it. Any advice?", "summary": "I feel dependent and I hate it-advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3cqusb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 1.5 yrs, want to end things now during long distance though we'll be in the same city in two months.", "post": "I have been dating a guy for about year and a half. I have been having feelings toward ending the relationship for some time now (and I've mentioned this to him). We are currently in different cities for the summer but we'll be in the same city by September (where we both attend school). I'm sure the physical distance between us now hasn't helped, but we visited each other recently and I didn't feel the spark that i used to. Is it terrible to end it during long distance when we'll be seeing each other again so soon? Do i wait and give it a chance to be saved when we get back? We are starting to feel like only friends. \nI know he does not want to end things. I feel stuck. I've met someone in this city whose sparked my interest. I feel guilty, but mentally this relationship has felt distant to me for some time.\n\nNot sure if I should wait, doing it in person is usually suggested, or bite the bullet and do it now.", "summary": "Do i end my relationship during long distance, or wait two months until we are in the same city? I don't see a future together."}
{"id": "t3_39w22d", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Wrongfully sent to collections. Please help.", "post": "Just checked my credit score. Instead of the usual 679, I see 587. I start freaking at see that I have a collection agency after me for $679. T-Mobile sent me to collections on a phone that I returned to them months ago. I called them multiple times months ago after I got collection notices about it. The last rep I spoke to, probably 3 months ago, told me they received the phone back and all was fine. Then I check my credit score today, and this. I'M FUCKING BEYOND LIVID\n\nWhat do I do? If I dispute it and they remove me from collections, will my credit go back to 679?", "summary": "Returned phone to T-Mobile, got sent to collections even after confirmation of them receiving it. Credit ruined. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_pecvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi reddit, can you recommend some free, college-level physics course videos?", "post": "I've been looking around YouTube, and while some of them are great, most of them are too brief to fully understand concepts.\n\nI consider myself an above-average student, and I've been maintaining a 4.0+ GPA since I got out of high school. I study very diligently, but I'm really struggling with my physics course (mechanics and heat). My professor doesn't really explain well and is very hard to understand. On top of that, my professor doesn't reply to emails and is almost never available during office hours. \n\nI really want to pass this course with an A, but I need helpful resources from the Internet. I thought I'd ask you guys for help.", "summary": "So does anyone know any tutorial vids/free online classes for physics?"}
{"id": "t3_1mw30s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26F] with my husband [38M] of six years, yells more and more everyday. How can I make it stop???", "post": "My husband turned down an offer and hasn't received another one in two weeks. He has applied at 100+ places and is stressed. He has begun to yell. \n\nMy husband grew up in a family where the dad yelled his wife and siblings into submission. I do not want my husband to become his dad. Within the last few weeks though he has. Today he even tried to yell me out so I'd succumb to his desires. He also has been turning things around and blaming me for everything. \n\nI want my calm loving husband back. Instead I have a man who yells. How can i solve this?", "summary": "I miss my non yelling husband and am concerned he'll become verbally abusive like his dad is. How can I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3szwub", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] I am in my freshman year of college with my girlfriend [18/f]. I am having an easier time adjusting and it's putting a strain on our relationship.", "post": "I'll try to make this as brief as I can.\n\nMy girlfriend and I started dating during our junior year in high school and we ended up going to the same university. When we first moved in, we were both a bit overwhelmed, and it was really helpful to the both of us that we had each other during the transition. \n\nSince I have always adjusted pretty easily to new situations, I started to become pretty comfortable around week 3. I have gotten know a ton of people, I've made new friends and I've been doing very well in all my classes.\n\nShe, on the other hand, has been having a tougher time. She feels like she hasn't made any friends, is really struggling in her classes, and she's feeling pretty lost. I've been doing everything I can to be there for her, and spend all the time with her that I can, but it seems like we're on two different wavelengths.\n\nOne of the main reasons we're running into trouble is that since I'm meeting a ton of people and having a great time, she's worried that she's holding me back from everything. The thing is, I want to meet new friends and everything, but I wanna do it with her. I always try to get her to hang out with my friends, but she never seems happy. When I ask her why, she always says \"they're your friends, you all know each other.\"\n\nIt's beginning to feel like I have to choose between her and my friends, and I don't want that. I love being with her, but it seems like lately, I'm all she has. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated! Sorry for the long post!\n\n(", "summary": "I'm making new friends, girlfriend isn't, and it's feeling more  and more like I'm having to sacrifice having a transformative college experience for her to be happy.)"}
{"id": "t3_tztn2", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Something really nice happened today at work", "post": "Hey /r/cats..I just thought I'd tell you feline fiends about something so heartwarming that happened today.\n\nLast friday my manager was talking about how his cat had dissapeared in the night and was worried about it...I returned to work on monday and he had spent the whole weekend looking for this cat, he had now decided she was probably dead. He was really upset, saying how his 3 year old son loved her and had been distraught all weekend because he lost his furry friend. \n\nSkip to today...my manager was out of the office and I had just gotten in, sat down and was typing at the computer. I spotted some movement outside the window and when stood up i saw a tail. I went to the door and realised it was a small cat...as I pushed the door open this cat just calmly walks in, saunters across the office and sits on my manager's chair...I stand there puzzled, when my manager came back into the office, stopped dead and exclaimed \"NO FUCKING WAY IS THAT MY CAT!\" \n\nHe then proceeded to fawn over her before calling his family who were all amazed. This cat had travelled around 3 miles to an office that she had never been to before, and knew which seat to take.", "summary": "Cats are amazing."}
{"id": "t3_2jcfpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my ex-gf [25 F] 5 months, broke up on good terms, she lives in Europe and wants to visit me in the states, not sure if it's a good idea.", "post": "I am a university student (US) in my last year. She graduated and is working in Europe. We met while I was studying abroad last year. We were casual for a while but decided to be a bit more serious, knowing that I was leaving and we would break up when I did. Ended up dating for about 5 months before I left. She visited me during summer for a few weeks and it was great. We have great sex and get on really well. \n\nWe broke up when she left and it was hard, but now the dust has settled for me. I'm not seeing anyone at the moment, but I'm ready to date. Nothing preventing me. She isn't over me and hasn't dated anyone since our breakup. \n\nShe wants to visit me in a few months and on one hand, I would love to see her and I know we would have a good time. On the other, she still has very strong feelings for me and I don't want to keep this relationship going for selfish reasons. I want her to visit, but not if it means an implied long-distance anything, which I have told her many times I do not want. I don't want to string her along by telling her to travel all the way here with no intention of dating her when she leaves.", "summary": "ex-gf isn't over me. I'm not seeing anyone. She wants to visit in a few months. I would like to see her, since we have a good time together, but I think it will make it harder for both of us, and wouldn't be good for her. What should I tell her?!"}
{"id": "t3_187d6t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How do I start moving from college/parents to financial independence? (US)", "post": "I'm starting this by saying that I realize I'm extremely lucky, and I don't want to fuck it up. I don't have a precedent for my situation, so I need your collective advice:\n\nIn a few years, I'll be leaving college with no debt. I've managed a very small part-time job in addition to being full time student ($2400 in 2012, which I will file taxes on!). I'm looking at ~$3000 for 2012, + an internship stipend (which won't be much).\n\nI've been depositing my checks at a 2:1 Savings:Checkings ratio.\n\nI don't have a car and I won't need one. My room and food is taken care of (I even managed to get free housing for the summer) while I'm in college, and my parents have offered me a (rent-free) couch while I'm job-searching post-graduation.\n\nBasic goals for post-graduation:\nOut of my parents' house by winter, into an apartment, with a job.\nIt's not very realistic, but some recent alum from my department have managed it.\n\nWhat else do I need to consider? What do I need?\n\nI've been reading posts here, but I haven't seen too many very beginner posts, and I did check out the FAQs, but I don't exactly have money to do anything with.", "summary": "Graduating college next year without debt, no credit cards, small bank account. What do I need to do to become a financially independent and fiscally mature young adult?"}
{"id": "t3_2th9cr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [22 F], talking for about a month and she wants to visit her.", "post": "I met a girl online, through a friend, who after getting to her know her properly it turns out she really really likes my accent and finds me insanely cute and would like to be my first, as I am a virgin. Now the only problem is she lives decently far away (2 hours by plane) and I have never flown alone before. I would really like to do it because she is insanely hot, like ridiculously hot and the more I talk to her the more I get to like her and I feel comfortable around her.\nI mean, I don't exactly know what advice I am asking for, I would just like to know if I should do it or not? Is it weird to do that?", "summary": "Met a girl online who wants to take my V, should I do it or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2xb4wj", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "NOLA: Jazz Festival vs French Quarter Festival", "post": "Hi there!\n\nI am looking to come to New Orleans in April.  Currently deciding between coming the weekend of Jazz Fest or the weekend of FQF.  Please give me some insight!  So far, here is what I have:\n______\nJAZZ FESTIVAL:\nI don't care about the big artists, because there's always giant music festivals and artists where I'm from (Los Angeles).  The reason I want to go to Jazz Festival is because it's supposedly the biggest event of the year in NOLA, besides Mardi Gras.  So that makes me feel like I should not miss it especially if this is probably going to be my only chance to visit NOLA for a while.  I mainly would want to go to check out the vibe, culture, and food of NOLA.  And also to party - New Orleans style. ;)  Concerns: pricey hotels, is it worth it (or in other words.. is it any different than other music festivals elsewhere)\n\n________\nFQF:\nPros of going during FQF is cheaper hotels.  And also that it's free and still has local music.  But I am wondering if I will be sad or if I'm missing out by not going to Jazz Fest since it seems like Jazz Fest is a classic?\n\n_____", "summary": "JazzFest - Pros: big NOLA event; Cons: expensive hotels"}
{"id": "t3_ghxz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I just break up with him before he does it to me?", "post": "**Me: 20F**\n\n**Him: 23M**\n\n**Will have been/ would have been seriously dating for 2 years this May.**\n\nThe past few days, my boyfriend has been acting strange and trying to pick nonexistent fights. After lots of talking, it turns out that he's been \"losing intrest\" and \"hasn't felt the same\" since last summer, and he also said that he thinks I might be more invested in our relationship than he is. On top of that, he also said he wants to move to Los Angeles (about two hours away), and he doesn't see how he could be in a relationship with me at the same time. (Though this may have just been him trying to bring up the topic without directly bringing up the topic, if that makes sense.)\n\nWe've both already been saying \"I love you\" for over a year now, and he never stopped saying it, or said it less, or treated me any different emotionally or physically since last summer compared to before. In fact, he didn't even act differently. Because of this, I let my feelings get stronger, which would have been something I wouldn't have done or allowed if I would have known about his diminishing feelings.\n\nHe says that he still loves me a lot, and wants to try to make it work and \"rekindle his flame\" despite loss of interest, however I can't help but feel like he's forcing himself to try to feel for me because he feels guilty. I have a feeling he's going to prolong breaking up with me as long as possible. I still love him immensely, and never had my feelings waver. We've never had a real \"fight\" before, either, and we always had a real great time, so I was completely unaware of any loss of feelings. I feel used and stupid. \n\nShould I wait and see what happens? Should I expect things to get better? Or should I just break up with him myself because he might be too chicken to do it himself?", "summary": "Boyfriend says he's lost interest since last summer but still stayed with me. He says he wants to try to make things work between us, but should I just break up with him because he might be too afraid to do it himself?"}
{"id": "t3_tx4kj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some stupid ways you've wasted money?", "post": "I'm an idiot\n\nAbout 2 weeks ago I went into a Gamestop with cash on me, to see what I could find. I found that I could preorder a copy of Minecraft 360, which would come out in a few days.\n\nMy 10 year old sister loves Minecraft, and I'd love to get her into more games, so I decided to buy it. It cost $20, and I was assured I'd have the game when it came out.\n\nI thought this meant I'd receive a download code by email, because they asked for my email address. That was my mistake.\n\nI was with my dad that weekend. I go every other weekend. The game came out on a Tuesday. Tuesdays, I'm with my mom, in a city 118 miles away.\n\nI just now realized, two weeks later, that my game was only held for 48 hours after release, and I had to pick it up in store. My $20, which is hard for me to come by (being a stupid fucking kid and all), which I easily could have spent on my girlfriend, is wasted.", "summary": "I wasted $20 on a gift for my little sister that I never even got to see."}
{"id": "t3_o9obg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Furniture suggestions...long term project", "post": "Hi there Just moved from NY to SF with my wife and we are going to start out on our first place together since we stopped being broke-2nd-hand-ikea-furniture users. Starting out so on a budget and honestly, have no idea how to think of interior design so looking for help.\nThis intends to be a long term project, one where i post pictures of before and after, compile a list of stores and design ideas!\nDescription: live in SF victorian apartment (well, plan on, once we find it! still in a sublet), not terribly large\nSo, first task: what are the core pieces of furniture in each room? For instance, in the bedroom, i am guessing its the bed that would decide the color and kind of accessories like chest of drawers? And in the living room, i suppose i should get a couch before anything else?", "summary": "new house, building it out from scratch, looking for help from reddit, will post all advice/pictures i collect over time...long term project"}
{"id": "t3_3qbzll", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing my homework in an empty science lab", "post": "Happened about fifteen minutes ago. Pretty much I have class from 530-11 every Monday and Wednesday.. I usually get to campus early to avoid rush hour traffic and do some homework/study. So today I decided to pass some time before class in an empty science lab. It was perfect, had nice comfortable chairs and an outlet for my laptop charger right on the desk. \n\nSo about a half hour passes, then some woman comes in and informs me that all of the containers on the table behind me are cultures of bacteria and that I shouldn't eat or drink in there (as I drink my water bottle). I ask her if \"I'm screwed?\" because I just drank a full water bottle.. She reassures me that \"No, I should be okay\" and that I should relocate.\n\nNow I'm sitting in class wondering if I'm going to get violently ill. I washed my hands and face, but still who knows. I have no idea what types of bacteria were present.", "summary": "spent a half hour in a bacteria filled science lab"}
{"id": "t3_10aw9z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My apartment is infested with mice and management has done very little to help. What are my options?", "post": "So I moved into my apartment back in May. Things have constantly gone wrong since day one. Now usually when something goes wrong they take a couple days to come fix which isn't a big deal as long as its not something serious. Shortly after moving in we noticed mouse crap in the cabinets. Then we stated seeing them. We told maintenance and they came by and put traps down. We caught a good 3 or 4 mice. Then we started catching 1 every couple of weeks and seeing/hearing them every couple of days. The apartment management just kept on sending us traps. Now the mice seem to have had babies because we see mice multiple times a day and they are getting into all of my food. management seems to think that providing us traps is all they have to do and its our problem. This is a serious problem that traps won't fix. We need an exterminator but they clearly don't want to pay for one to come. But this is a health risk in my opinion. Is there any sort of legal action I can take? Or at least threaten to take to get them to act?", "summary": "Horrible mouse infestation in my apartment to the point of being a health risk. Management only wants to lay traps. Is there any way I can make them call an exterminator?"}
{"id": "t3_1uqtx2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure if I should approach my girlfriend about cheating on me [21m/f]", "post": "This is something that's been eating at me for the last few months and I just want to get it off my chest.\n\nSome back story. She had a boyfriend before me let's call him, John. She and John and a pretty rocky relationship from what I was told and witnessed myself. Anyway after a while they broke up and we got together and it was great. Fast forward to when I was away on holiday during Christmas 2012, she ends up seeing him and says how nothing happened between them. However after another incident in August she let me read through her texts and I found one from that day saying \"Last night can't mean nothing. What was i thinking. Im not that type of person\" And then a day or so after he sent something saying \"Sorry about your neck\" (she was big on biting necks and loves it done to her too)\n\nSo yeah she says she didn't sleep with him when she told me about this when it happened. But I don't think I believe her just because how she's lied to me in the past about seeing him and especially after reading those messages. Should I bring it up with her somehow or what? Thank you for reading it feels good to get this out.", "summary": "Gf saw her ex last christmas, said they didn't fuck, but found questionable texts months later, wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_1bmpmh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (23/m) cheated on me (21/f) over webcam after four+ years", "post": "So me and my boyfriend have been together for four and a half years! We recently moved out together and have our own lovely apartment... Out relationship seemed to be like no other.. I never questioned the love, loyalty, and honesty we had for each other. We never hit rock bottom and we never had serious issues together. Everything was near perfect. About a month ago, I was on his computer and came across his Facebook.. Which was logged In already... Found mail from a girl that lead me to look on his Skype. Went onto his Skype and found something I wish I never found! My boyfriend had a very intimate Skype call and convo with a girl he got off a webcam site! The things he said to her really hurt me... He said things I have never heard him say! The call lasted 15 minutes and they were both naked on the call, doing you know what.. I do classify this as cheating and surely he would have known i thought that.. I am having a lot of trouble forgiving him... he tried to convince me at first how he thought it was not cheating, he has since tried showing me he made a big mistake.. But I don't know if I can get past this.. It's ruined the special relationship we had together and I don't feel like I love him the same way.", "summary": "my boyfriend of over four years masturbated with another woman over Skype, in need of advice, has something like this happened to you before?!"}
{"id": "t3_54bcpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) asked a girl (16F) to homecoming that I hasn't gone to our school for over a year. How do I break the ice so it won't be so awkward when we meet?", "post": "So I asked this girl I had a huge crush on last year to hoco via text. We didn't really talk much last year but getting to know her via internet she's a really cool and very intelligent girl and I grew the man power to ask her to go with me. \n\nHere's the problem, I haven't sent her in over a year and she lives half an hour away how do I break the ice so it won't be awkward when we see each other face to face. \n\nWe're both really socially awkward and I feel like I set myself up for an awkward night. But she was really stoked I asked so I feel like she may have feelings for me.", "summary": "asked a girl to hoco I haven't seen in a while and I'm wondering how I should start up conversation or break the ice when we meet"}
{"id": "t3_20c4kv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with [20 F], she apparently wants to meet me but I have no idea what to do.", "post": "So I'm a student at a university and I've seen a girl around a few times from a distance who I thought was absolutely gorgeous. Since she is in a sorority and me a fraternity, I know a lot of her friends and when I asked them about her they were quick to tell me she's the perfect girl personality wise for me. So, one of our mutual friends who is really close to this girl told her about me and told me she wanted to meet me, gave me her number, and said it would be okay to text her so I did. We had a decent conversation going and it abruptly stopped. It was late, she probably fell asleep. So I followed the double texting rule and waited three days to try to reach out again. After I got the conversation going I asked her if she would like to meet me for coffee and she said she wouldn't be able to that week because of how busy she was with a weeklong philanthropy event. Even though she kept the conversation going for a while (that abruptly stopped again) I took it as a rejection and decided I wouldn't press it again. After that, I told another mutual friend who sits next to her in class and she said she actually was really busy with this philanthropy event and not to take it personal and that she'd talk to her about relationships without mentioning my name. So they talked and this girl told her a guy had been mean to her and she wanted to focus on school.\n\nThis was about three weeks ago, and her close friend said she'd give it one more try. I want to. This girl apparently is super sweet and has a great personality and I really want to get a chance to meet her but I don't know what to do and I'm scared of coming on too strong and creeping her out. What's your take?", "summary": "Mutual friends try to set me up with a girl and I'm not sure how to deal with it. Need an outside opinion."}
{"id": "t3_33cmyi", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "We did it! Review + Pictures!", "post": "My husband (!!) and I tied the knot April 9th, we planned every little detail ourselves and paid for it ourselves. (Well with some help from my parents). And all decor was DIY'D. It was a LONG year and a half, but seeing it all come together was worth it!\n\nSome things that went well...\n\n* Seeing my husband's face during our first look. He bawled like a baby and it was the most treasured moment of the whole day and probably my whole life. \n\n* Our officiant killed it! We had guest after guest comment on how beautiful the ceremony was, some said it was the most emotional wedding they'd ever been too. And a friend's mom said our vows made her question her marriage (yeah, that was a weird comment). But it was worth it to custom curate our ceremony with our officiant, it was so special and even though I was so nervous I'm glad we wrote our own vows. \n\nThings that went wrong...\n\n* My father in law hit my day of coordinator's car before the ceremony... I didn't find out about it until we checked into our hotel that night. But during our first dance it was funny to hear my husband go \"I have so much to tell you...\" Everything was fine though! He just scraped the side of her truck with his, but she handled it like a PRO. She just told him well, today is you son's day so we'll exchange info later and take care of it tomorrow, let's worry about the wedding first. She really was just fantastic all around.\n\nAdvice...\n\n* Get a day of coordinator if you can. It is SO much easier than taking care of it yourself/having a friend or family member do it. We paid $500 for a DoC to setup/break down everything and she really made the day go smoothly and kept us on top of everything.\n\n* Make as detailed of a timeline as possible. It was a little stressful coordinating who was leaving the hotel with who to the venue, etc. Also my husband had to pick a lot of people up at the airport, so maybe pay a friend from your area to be a designated taxi. It was different with us since 90% of our guests were out of town.", "summary": "My wedding was the best day of my life. Hands down. All the stress, planning, everything was SO worth it. :) "}
{"id": "t3_35gz3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (17m) not sure if I still love my gf (17f), and I think I have a crush on our good mutual friend (17f)", "post": "So my gf (let's call her Amy) and I have been dating for over 3 years. We've gone through a lot of things together, good and bad. She was my first kiss, first gf, and I lost my virginity to her. We have had many talks about the future and getting married to each other. \n\nWe regularly hang out with the same group of friends in and out of school. It consists of roughly 10 people. Around 3 of them are guys. The thing is we are all very close and hang out pretty much all the time. I've been getting very close to one of the girls in the group (let's call her Nancy). I was friends with her before I started dating Amy. Recently, I've gotten very close to Nancy. I've told her many things that I wouldn't even tell Amy. Some people have accused us up of \"flirting\" and have told Amy, who easily gets upset. Now, I'm a friendly person to begin with. I'm fine with making contact with all of my friends and I mess around with all of them, so I don't think of it as flirting. \n\nThis has put me under a lot of pressure recently though. Since our group is mainly girls, I talk to girls pretty much everyday. But I feel like I have to act differently due to my gf. I feel like I can't laugh as much or talk as much, so Amy won't get jealous. \n\nNancy trusts me and I trust her. We're pretty much best friends. But I think I might be developing a crush on her. \n\nI've started to care for Amy a little less, but I'm pretty sure I still love her. Breaking up with her would also be very awkward because we hang around the same group of people and our class is very small (97). Thank you.", "summary": "I'm not sure if I still love my girlfriend.  I might have a crush on a mutual friend. Breaking up would be awk because we have the same friends."}
{"id": "t3_4jtoml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20m] girlfriend [19f] of over a room got mad and left to sleep in another room..", "post": "Edit: Of \"over a room\"????? Meant to say \"of over a year\", fml\n\nSo this just happened.. We were long distance for like half a year, than move together in the same dorm, same university just different study things.\n\nI have no roommate for around half a year now, so we put the beds together and she kinds of stays unofficially at my room, sleeps/eats etc.. \n\nNow the problem, I will change everything to dollars so you guys can understand it more clearly since I'm from Europe.\n\nShe owes her friend like 4 dollars because she was drinking and the girl who bought the bottle wants her share, she asked if I could \"lend\" her 5 dollars, she has like 7 of her own right now. Problem is, I had like 14 left, need 3 to get back home on Friday and spent 6 more today so I could ride the bus freely for a month, which leaves me 5 dollars on food for 2 days, if I give her the money no more money left for me. She got mad at me.\n\nThen, since it's late, she went to sleep, I was like fine, I want to work on my laptop for a little more cause I'm not sleepy plus nobody will bother me, I'd write a program that needs to be finished until Thursday.\n\nShe basically gave me an ultimatum so shut the laptop down and not even use my phone because of the light. The brightness was on the lowest level, there's basically no light in the room, and it never bothers her if she really wants to sleep, I can even play games or something on it.\n\nSo I said I won't shut it off. She took her pillow and left to sleep in her own room, which is on a different floor. What should I do / how to act about it?", "summary": "Didn't shut my laptop down when gf went to sleep, left to sleep in her own room"}
{"id": "t3_okv1j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got a call about my grandpa...I need your help reddit.", "post": "Growing up I always knew there was something off about him. I loved him to pieces, but he was always adamantly anti-government and anti-corporation. I know a lot of us redditors are too but as time went on its manifested its self in different ways.\n\nWe went to the movie theater one day and he complained that someone took a picture of him. He thought he was being spied on and wanted to leave. (There was no one there, it was in his mind)\n\nOur family got a call yesterday, and it seems now he won't even leave his trailer to get food. He told the neighbor that the voices told him to stand in a hole in his house to keep people away. He's getting worse, and tomorrow I'm going to be going with my mom and anut to help deal with the situation.\n\nI was reading on wikipedia that only .3 - .7% of the population is effected Schizophrenia; which is what we believe it is as this point. I'm really hoping I can find someone to help me out here. Have you known someone who has had Schizophrenia, how did you deal with it? Any advice you can give us?", "summary": "Found out my grandpa has Schizophrenia, we're going up to try to help him tomorrow, need tips and advise. "}
{"id": "t3_208haa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (20 M) want to end things with my (21 F) gf but i dont know how.", "post": "We've been together close to 10 months now, but I just can't keep it up. I'm not physically attracted to her anymore, but I feel so torn about the whole situation. I know that I need to do what's best for me but I can't help but feel bad about it. I'm awful at breaking up with women, and I don't know if it's me being selfish or me being too nice to say anything mean to her.\n\n Her hygiene has really gone down the toilet and she is sick all the time. She let herself go since we started dating, which is to be expected when you get comfortable with someone. I don't really have feelings for her anymore, like I still love her but I'm no longer in love with her. We tried talking about stuff but it never seems to get any better.", "summary": "I can't bring myself to break up with my gf though I'm unhappy with our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2ixwva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [26 F] 4 years, afraid of physical abuse", "post": "Hi,\n\nSORRY - The title should say 26 M. I was typing it out really quickly and somewhat blinded by tears so I got that wrong.\n\nI have been in a relationship for four years now with my boyfriend. This is my second relationship. The first relationship I was in was very emotionally abusive and I left after he cheated on me with my friend. It lasted for about 2 years.\n\nI started dating my current bf  a year after that and was still pretty fragile. I grew up in a very conservative society and was very meek and would never speak up against my first bf or the current one. But as a result of new experiences and several other challenges in life (including financial and other troubles at home) I toughened up and am now a lot more happier as a result. Before, I used to feel like a total pushover but now I can stand my own ground. My bf has reacted badly to this change however and we have been fighting constantly about this. \n\nToday in the middle of a fight, he was shouting at me. This is something that he does a lot of and today was especially bad because it was in public. Usually when he raises his voice in public and I ask him to stop, he does but today he did not. I had some groceries with me during the argument. It was on the table in front of us at the cafe we were at. At one point, he got so angry that he punched the grocery bag and this really scares me. I am not sure why but it made me feel like it was a threat - that he could hurt me as well.\n\nI don't even know if I love him anymore. I really like who I am now and I don't want to change for him. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe told me today that he changed for me (he quit smoking as much because I am asthmatic, but that's about it) but I have not changed at all for him and that all my change has been \"in reverse\" (Which I guess means I am more vocal now). \n\nI don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to about this. Please tell me what I should do.", "summary": "Afraid that boyfriend may turn violent as I am not a pushover anymore. Want to know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2dtt71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] just amended bad blood with my ex [27M] and now desperately need help with a response.", "post": "My ex and I dated for 6 1/2 years and it ended HORRIBLY! He started all but dating this other girl while we were still together (emotional cheating, never anything physical). The thing is, the whole time I was reading his texts behind his back and saw his conversations with the girl, our mutual best friend, and his sister all shit talking me while having this relationship develop. I felt so crazy constantly reading his texts but everytime I would look I would find something for months. Finally, I got the strength to dump him, told him I hate him and never talk to me again, and got a new BF about a month later and we're so happy together and living together now. The ex is still with the same girl. \n\nTODAY I contacted my ex for the first time in a year and a half. I just said I don't hate you and I'm sorry for how I reacted. He said he was so happy I didn't hate him and gave me some updates about his life. It's been friendly messages and it feels like this weight is lifted off my shoulders because I don't have this burned bridge out there in the universe. (my current bf knows everything and is perfectly fine with me getting the closure I need). \n\nHere's the thing: I've always, always thought for the last year and a half that I will finally be completely healed once I can tell him that I reacted so strongly because I was reading his texts and knew the whole situation. He only told me that he went to the library with her once, so he thinks I just reacted in a crazy strong way over that. I need to say to him: Look, I reacted so strongly because I was reading the texts between you and her, you and our mutual friend, and you and your sister. I saw all the shit you talked about me and I thought that you hated me which made me want to hate you. I need to say something like that to him now to finally put this all behind me but I don't know how to say it without making myself seem insane and like I'm still living in the past. I need advice on this desperately please help.", "summary": "Ex bf and I just made amends but I still need to tell him something for my own healing and don't know the right way to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_3z81v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24, M] with my girlfriend[23, F] have been together long distance almost a year, needing advice on long term plan.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together almost a year, but it's been entirely long distance (9 hours apart) with us taking turns seeing each other on weekends twice a month, and spending a week together on a couple occasions. \n\nMy girlfriend was job hunting at the beginning of this past summer when there were two jobs opening up. One about 20 minutes from my house, another an hour further north of where she had been living. The job that was further away gave her $10K more a year than what she would've made living by me. I had no problem encouraging  this path because we had only been together a few months at that time, and wouldn't want her throwing her future away for me. \n\nDue to some unfortunate circumstances (my dad being in the hospital, her having to work multiple hours of overtime, a couple deaths in her family, etc.) we haven't been able to see each other this month and during the holidays. She told me a few weeks ago that she felt bad that she couldn't come home to me and felt lonely even though we can and do Skype, and basically that the distance is hurting her. I had already been thinking about moving up there, but was going to wait until the school year is over so I don't leave my employer in a sticky situation.\n\nI'm a teacher at a private school, and even though my pay isn't awful, I'd be the one to make the move since it's an easier move for me. It also helps that I have friends that live in and around the same city she lives and works in. I want to offer to move up there, but don't know how to bring it up to her as we've been somewhat distant with everything going on.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have been together almost a year, entirely long distance, need to figure out how to bring up an idea on a long term plan and me moving to the city that she lives in."}
{"id": "t3_39vdlr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by buying riot points", "post": "this didnt happen today, it accumulated over some time. anyway for those who dont know what riot points are, its the in game currency of the game league of legends that allows you to buy skins for champions to make you look badass. well the problem was riot (game company) kept coming out with more and more skins and my parents had lent me their credit card to buy one skin. the thing is the credit card info can be saved into the computer and you can buy more and more. you can but riot points for 5, 10, 20, 30 0r 50$ i would try and limit myself only buy 10$ worth of points every other week or so. but it added up and the total was 890$ parents were extremely pissed havent played the game since.", "summary": "i used my parents credit card without permission or restraint paid the consequences."}
{"id": "t3_16k6fd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(28m) ask my GF(23f) parents that I want her to move in with me?", "post": "She still lives with her parents. Has never really moved out of their house.\n\nDo I take everyone out to dinner?\n\nDo I sit down with just her dad?\n\nDo I take them out to dinner?\n\nShould my GF be there or is it better to do it without her?\n\nDo I wake them up in the middle of the night screaming it in their faces?", "summary": "What's the best way to ask traditional and religious parents to let their unmarried daughter move in with me?"}
{"id": "t3_2y7dbi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing my pants(NSFW?)", "post": "Throwaway account due to shame. This actually happened yesterday, but I had to debate whether or not I should post this. \n     To start off, I drink water first thing in the morning so I can start my day hydrated as fuck. The previous night, my school sent out an alarm via email stating that classes would be delayed for two hours due to \"inclement weather\". I figured that since that was the case, I could take my precious time to get prepared for school. I ended up leaving the house 15 minutes later than I should have, but I thought \"fuck it. I'll blame the weather\". Of course I pissed before I left the house, but halfway to my destination my bladder decided that I had to go again.\n     I start to bounce around on my seat to prevent an accident, and it worked until I actually reached the school. The entire parking lot was empty save for a few campus patrol cars, but I ignore this. I zoom into the first available parking spot and hightail it to the doors. Shit, they're locked. I start to do a weird skip/speedwalk to the next available exit and of course, those are locked too. My bladder is basically screaming for release at this point so I get in my car.....and piss myself. I took a 35-minute drive home in my own piss. I checked my email after getting cleaned up and it turns out that ten minutes before I left the house, the school sent another email stating that they had cancelled school for the day.", "summary": "pissy pants due to not checking school email in time"}
{"id": "t3_2arrp1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cheapest/Easiest way to order unique barcodes for retail store? Having trouble metabolizing barcodes", "post": "So my family owns a small business on Long Island. We sell things in exchange for all of your moneys. Our latest endeavor is a retail store. \n\nSo I'm doing the tech end of this. I have an old Mac Mini running Debian and a mysql server, along 2 computers running Unicenta OPOS terminals. \n\nFor the system to work the way we want, products need barcodes to scan and input into the database\n\nHeres where the problem comes in: almost 40% of our inventory lacks barcodes or has unscannable codes.\n\nWhat is the easiest and cheapest way I can produce unique barcode stickers? We have about 500 individual products without barcodes, so probably around 1500-2000 individual stickers needed", "summary": "Need to print/order/poop ~2000 barcodes cheaply"}
{"id": "t3_pa09l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just had an overwhel(m)ingly intense orgasm. Should I consult a doctor? [nsfw]", "post": "So I was jerking (standing) in the shower watching a video on my laptop for like 15 minutes. All of a sudden I began moaning uncontrollably. I have never really moaned before. Then my body started tingling, vision blurry. \n\nThe entire left side of my body went numb. I thought I was having a stroke. Then my entire body froze up. With what I suspected to be my last bit of strength before an aneurysm pops or something, I busted. It felt like my balls were exploding.\n\nI just stood there, unable to move for over 60 seconds. Slowly everything came back. I feel normal now. But am definitely weirded out. Should i see a doctor or is this something just kinda happens once every 15 years?\n\nA bit of background:\n\n* I am in my early 20s. Have been schmasturbating every day since forever. Have had plenty of intense orgasms, but nothing like this ever\n* The shower water was up to max, the bathroom was foggy. Did I just pass out a little?\n* I was watching a chloe lamb video, so it was very sexy.", "summary": "Thought I was having a stroke while I came JO'ing in the shower watching a chloe lamb video."}
{"id": "t3_hn3ks", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Just finished The Stand and... [SPOILERS]", "post": "...I can't decide if I like it or not.\n\nI absolutely loved the first half of the book, with Captain Tripps is spreading havoc across the nation, the whole event seemed completely plausible, which is another thing I appreciate about the book. I made the mistake of reading the book in public during flu season, and every time someone sneezed or coughed, I felt like running away and guaranteeing myself. Out of the all the King books I've read, this one scared me the most, mainly because of how realistic it felt and how plausible the whole scenario feels.\n\nThe second half on the other hand, was very disappointing. I liked the intervention of the various group of survivors, but the idea of 'the stand' between good and evil felt a bit anti-climatic. I hated the entire 'hand of god' finish at the end, felt like a poor climax to an excellent first half. It sent off a 'the hand of god will smite down upon evil' vibe. A literal deus ex machina.\n\nThe ending also reminded me of *The Taking* by Dean Koontz, where [spoiler](/s\"the entire 'alien abduption' turned out to be some sort of reverse rapture, with Lucifer sucking up all the bad people, with absolutely nothing to do with Terraforming or anything extraterrestrial.\")\n\nI have nothing against religious themes, but in the case of *The Taking* and *The Stand* it feels like taking the easy way out on the author's part. The whole 'the answer is God' ending feels like I've been cheated out of a good read.\n\n/rant\n\nAnyone else feel the same? Anyone doesn't?\n\nAlso, the infection/pandemic theme made me pick up *World War Z*, I'll post another rant once I finish that. :)", "summary": "The first part was very good, the second half wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_20d69q", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "How to stop bullying with a jack-o-lantern", "post": "I was in 5th grade at a new school and had to ride the bus home. \nThere was one girl who always bullied me. She would tease, insult, and be rude to me. I ignored it for a while until one of her friends started riding the bus and bullying me too. They were insufferable. They'd sit as close as possible to me and talk loudly about how ugly, fat, and stupid I was. I got a ton of this from my old school, but these two girls were the ONLY ones who bullied me at my new school. After having moved just to get away from morons like these, I was becoming less and less tolerant of their bullshit. \nSo in October, we made jack-o-lanterns and took them home. When I got on the bus, the girl and her friend purposely took the seat in front of me and started talking about me so I could hear them. They'd look back at me every now and then and start laughing. At one point they even turned around and insulted my jack-o-lantern (which I was very proud of).\nI remember getting very angry and looking down at the carved pumpkin on my lap. There was a lot of stringy pumpkin innards inside of it that I had failed to scoop out. Without thinking, I took a glob of pumpkin guts, checked to make sure nobody was looking, and neatly placed it on top of her head. She touched the top of her head, looked at her fingers and screamed. \nOf course she ran up to the bus driver and told on me, sobbing and demanding he do something about it. I got lectured and had my pumpkin taken away, but later got it back at the bus parking garage. The friend stopped riding the bus and the original bully sat as far away from be as humanly possible from that day on. Even until the day I graduated, she avoided me like the plague. It was all worth it to see her crying with pumpkin innards dripping down her face.", "summary": "in 5th grade I put pumpkin guts in a bully's hair. No more bullying."}
{"id": "t3_33aum6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18f]Help! My 'best friend' [17f] is causing me an unbearable amount of stress and anxiety", "post": "So my friend and I, let's call her Molly, have been friends since we were 7. We've had a very tumultuous relationship since we first met, she's a manipulative character and I am stupidly submissive and avoid conflict like the plague.\n\nBasically due to boy issues, my friend, let's call her Molly has decided to lead a hate brigade on my other friend. We're new friends and we're not very close yet but I really like her and was hoping to become closer to her. The new friend, we'll call her Sarah, is not at all innocent in the situation with Molly and her boyfriend but I decided not to get involved, and when I invited a group of people to my house that included her, Molly stopped talking to me for three days and guilt-tripped me reaaaally badly, but I stood my ground (I'm so proud, I have basically never done that before)\n\nShe made up with me and I thought that she had got the message that I didn't want to be involved in the drama, but she's started again and now has lumped me in as a Sarah hater just because she is. I am completely at a loss because I don't have the courage to tell Molly that I actually really like Sarah, and I'm refusing to treat her badly in any way, but I am just terrified of how Molly will react when she sees me getting on with Sarah ( I actually get along with her better than Molly.) \n\nI suffer from general and social anxiety, and have always been the submissive friend. I probably havent made it very clear that Molly isn't outright mean - she's very pleasant and manipulative and plays the victim perfectly. I just don't know how to deal with this situation, I know it doesn't sound serious as everyone around me is letting me know but I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown, I would really appreciate some advice reddit, I know it sounds so silly but it's getting me down massively. Thank you.", "summary": "my friend is trying to manipulate me emotionally, and I don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_2rh4k5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting how a car works.", "post": "So I went to the DMV to take a behind the wheel driving test. I was in one of those driver's ed cars where you insert the key and push a button to start it. After waiting forever in line, the driving instructor comes over to my car. I'm pretty nervous as I hand him my papers. Here's the first fuck up. He tells me to turn on my left signal light. I awkwardly fumble with the switches around the wheel and manage to turn on everything but the left turn signal. Windshield wipers. Right turn signal. Headlights. He looks a little pissed, but the rest of the pre-test went alright. \n\nHe steps into the car and asks me to show him a few buttons. Then he asks me to start the car. So I push the start button. Nothing. Push it again. The display turns on but the engine doesn't start. Maybe something's wrong with the key. I take the key out and put it back into the slot. Try to start it again. Nothing. Maybe I'm just deaf and can't hear the engine. Take off the parking brake, put in in drive, and step on the gas. Still nothing. The driving instructor is giving me this \"are you fucking serious look\" as I smile at him while desperately pushing all the buttons in the car. I'm getting more and more nervous and tell him, \"the car isn't starting.\" He says, \"I can't pass you if you don't know how to start the car.\" \"I know how to start it,\" I say. Several sighs and judgemental stares later, the driving instructor informed me that you have to press the brake to start the car. He promptly failed me. I am such an idiot.", "summary": "Forgot how to start a car during a driving test. Did not pass."}
{"id": "t3_2x1lvx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Question regarding TDEE and Overweight/Obese types.", "post": "So my TDEE is saying around 3K and I just realized that after almost 3 months of dieting and exercise. I was doing Insanity 6 times a week and was weight lifting 3 times a week or 4. Now I cut back to around 2 times a week on the lifting for a bit.\n\nMy question is a 1,000 calorie deficit is a drastic cut for such a high TDEE and is this okay for Overweight or just for Obese type I and II people? Where as those with less weight are best sticking at a 250 or 500 calorie deficit?\n\nI was usually eating around 15-1600 calories a day which is nearly 50% deficit of my TDEE. Didn't really feel tired or overtly hungry. I did have cheat days where I would go around 2,000-2,500 calories or such but that was rare.\n\nShould I up my calories to around 1900 to be safe? MFP has me at around 1930 calories or so but I was previously eating 300-400 lower than that. Thank you all for any input. I've been lurking and reading a ton of posts and I want to say thank you, it's been wonderful and uplifting to keep pushing through this.", "summary": "Would a 50% cut of my TDEE be too much on my body? Should I increase my calories?"}
{"id": "t3_2qbd4z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by contaminating an Indian village's drinking water source.", "post": "So this happened a few weeks ago on my holiday to India. Back story: Indian toilets don't usually have toilet paper and are more often than not simply a hole in the ground that you squat over. I went to deposit a particularly nasty load of liquid shit or what the locals refer to as \"Delhi belly\". I'd also recently been given some very expensive glasses by my parents and was under pain of death not to lose them. So I was squatting down unleashing this never ending torrent of diarrhoea when my glasses dropped off my head and fell down the hole. In a state of blind panic and fear I shoved my hand into the bottomless pit of shit in an attempt to find my glasses and, after dipping my arm elbow-deep in shit, eventually discovered them and pulled them out. As they were covered in shit I didn't put them on and instead stumbled around outside half blind to find somewhere to wash them off, finding a small shack surrounded by what I assumed was a queue of people with a huge urn of water inside. Pushing through the crowd, I quickly rinsed my shit covered arm and glasses in this urn of cold water, returned the glasses to their rightful place and, feeling rather pleased with my lucky escape, strolled outside. I then realised my FU....the queue was full of people holding various jugs and cups and a sign on the shack read \"DRINKING WATER\" in bright red bold letters.", "summary": "Dropped glasses in shit, washed them in communal drinking water urn for the needy and poor. Feel like an asshole..."}
{"id": "t3_4e4yv3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Combining finances with my soon to be husband, but I owe him $25,000", "post": "My fiance and I are beginning to combine finances and working through our plan for that. That's not the problem. 1 year ago my fiance paid off my car loan to help me with the accumulating interest. I had/have every intention of paying him back and now I'm in a financial situation where I can. However, our incomes are now going into our joint bank account and it's basically \"our money\". We talked about putting the repayments into a seperate account that is essentially \"his\", but we're not sure if that's the best way to go about it. I will not be able to pay this off completely for a couple years as we are saving for a house as well, so we don't want to wait until I finish paying him back before combining finances.", "summary": "I owe my fiance $25,000 and we are completely combining accounts and finances, how do I pay him back now that it's all \"our money\".. "}
{"id": "t3_yqxur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend want to give me an \"allowance\". [F 18]", "post": "Throwaway for identity reasons.\n\nMy SO [m 18] and I [f 18] have been dating for five, almost six years and are very serious, despite being so young. We don't live together and he works all week, so we don't see each other very often either. Out of nowhere he starts telling me I need to accept more from him. More gestures, gifts...money. I didn't know how to respond. I've heard of a husband doing this for his wife and vice versa, but never a boyfriend for his girlfriend. After refusing this multiple times, he said *this*, \"It'll make me happy.\" How would it make him happy? How should I respond? Should I take it?", "summary": "SO wants to give me an allowance of $20 a week for no apparent reason. Don't know how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_2nag1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [22 M] 6 months, he constantly posts half-naked pictures on instagram", "post": "So he and I both have instagram but I don't post anything just because I like to keep my life private and I'm not crazy about the whole social media thing. \n\nI have no problem with him posting stuff, I like to see all the cute stuff he posts, and he often posts pictures of us. But he also posts shirtless pictures of himself, and sometimes girls will comment saying how attractive he is or whatever. \n\nAm I right to be uncomfortable? I haven't said anything because I don't want to be controlling and I don't really think it's my place. But really, I compliment him all the time and tell him how good looking he is, why does he need constant validation from random strangers on instagram? \n\nMy ex was not into social media that much and I liked that about him. Maybe there are just different types of people, and I am not really compatible with current bf? The attention-craving attitude is really a turn off for me.", "summary": "Bf constantly posts half-naked pictures on instagram, he posts pictures of us too, but the attention he gets from girls makes me uncomfortable and it's making me question our compatibility. Am I being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_u4hqq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night I got promoted at work...twice. I've been working there for a week. What are some of your work success stories?", "post": "As is custom, I'll start. \n\nFor one reason or another, my full time job ended up not having any work for me to do during the summer, so I decided to take a part time job. A statewide-famous sandwich shop in my state decided to open up a new store in my town, and I applied and was hired immediately. I started training last week, and we opened the store up for the first time this week.\n\nYesterday, while pulling a double covering for someone else, my boss informs me that I've been promoted, including a raise and further duties with closing the store and sending reports off to the franchise at the end of the night, etc. I'm pleased, since a promotion in a week seems like a good thing to me. Fast forward two hours, and my boss has a personal emergency. He pulls me into his office, explains the situation, and says, \"I hate to drop this all on you tonight, but I'm gonna need you to take over as manager. I figured it'd happen anyway, but wanted to give you more time to ease into it. You gonna be okay to do it?\" I accepted, and he left to handle his business, with me in charge of two teenagers who'd worked there just as long as I had.", "summary": "Took part time job at a new sandwich shop a week ago, got field promoted twice when boss had to leave."}
{"id": "t3_1um6ng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there a non-creepy way for me [26M] to approach her [24F] at work?", "post": "Hi there, I'll try to keep it short.\n\nThere is a girl who works at my go-to grocery store who I would like to get to know better. She really brighten's up my day when I go there and I'm absolutley stunned by her everytime I go there. I know it's hard to approach people at work, but the last thing I will do is creep outside the store until she heads home - HELL NO.\n\nI've been thinking of a way to approach her but everything seems kind of creepy, like just going up to her out of the blue and telling her that I think she's cute and that I would like to get to know her better. Is there a smoother way of doing this?\n\nI know nothing about her except for her Name and her Age. But something tells me that I would like to get to know her more. I've never done nor felt the urge to approach somebody outside of a bar.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Trying to make contact with a girl who works at my go-to grocery store, trying not to come off as a creep."}
{"id": "t3_p207w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am the president of a student enterprise group, tomorrow we will try to design services or products that could provide a solution to piracy (in favour of the consumer). Reddit, what would you like to see in a solution?", "post": "Inspired by SOPA, PIPA and ACTA we would like to run a workshop where the students will try to come up with genuine services or products, that could offer a competitive solution to piracy, whilst making the consumer experience more rewarding.\n\nOur students are incredibly innovative and come up with some brilliant and novel ideas. However, what would really help is the perspective of Reddit. \n\nSo, what would you guys look for in a CD, DVD, Game or Software that would make you purchase it? What kind of service would deter you from pirating? Or what pricing system would you look for, that would leave you satisfied with the products value for money?", "summary": "Why do you pirate? What would make you stop?"}
{"id": "t3_22kxl3", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I can hear you, I'm just ignoring you.", "post": "Background: I am deaf in my left ear. The offender has been giving me trouble for the full 5 years I have worked at my restaurant. Every time she sees me she says something about how rude I am and wants a manager. I told my managers I wasn't going to interact with her and give her an excuse.\n\nShe was yelling across the dinning room for my attention and ignoring the 4 other servers on that side. I walk back into the kitchen. As I round the corner back out with a tray, she grabs my arm and says I am being rude for ignoring her.  I look her in the eye, take off my hearing aid and say, \"I'm sorry, the battery must have died.\" Her face made my Monday.", "summary": "Guest's head explodes from an unforeseen medical condition."}
{"id": "t3_13v1o7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24,f] want to be friends with my best friend from HS [m, 24], but don't know how to without leading him on.", "post": "My friend traveled around the world in the 6 years since HS and we didn't talk much. He recently moved back to our hometown, which gave us the opportunity to hang out this weekend over the holiday. Before I saw him in person we had started texting a bit. It was pretty harmless, but it is clear that he still as feelings for me. When we hung out this weekend it was a bit awkward. I'm not sure if that's because he's not as into me as he thought (I suspect he held onto strong feelings form HS that may or may not hold now) or maybe it was uncomfortable because he does still have feelings for me. Maybe it's something else...?\n\nSo now I'm unsure about how about to handle this. I'd like to continue talking to him, but I also don't want to give him false hope. If it's possible, how do I nurture a friendship without leading him on? Do I let him be the first to call or text? If he cares about me it seems shitty to never initiate contact, but then again this may make him feel false hope... Is this even possible?\n\nI should also note a couple things. There is another female in his life, but she is in another state and they're not in a committed relationship. Also, my partner of 7 years [m, 24] knows that we've been talking and that I hung out with him over break. He is totally find with me talking and hanging out with him.", "summary": "I want to rebuild my friendship with a HS friend, but don't know how to do it without leading him on. How reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_18vxvh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Today is pretty much the worst day ever.", "post": "So about a year ago I was given notice of my contract not being renewed after being in the job for several years. Well, I wasn't able to find a full time job in that time. I'm a grad student still as well as an instructor, and I found part time student employment - but I won't be making anywhere near what I was making. I have no idea why I wasn't renewed - I was given a positive annual review along with the non-renewal notice, and all my boss would say is I'm 'not a good fit' - so I suspect it was personal since there's nothing wrong with my job performance.\n\nAnyways, today is my going away luncheon since it's my last day there, and I really don't want to go. It kind of feels like going to my own funeral.", "summary": "Lost job and don't want to go to going away luncheon since I don't have anything to celebrate."}
{"id": "t3_4vsc62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my bf [24 M] 3 years, Am I wrong to be confused at why he didnt walk the dog?", "post": "MY bf of 3 years are going through a timeoff, my intentions was for me to decide if I wanted to leave or stay. We are 5 days since he moved out. Today he offers to walk the dog while I'm at work. I told him he didnt need to, he insisted.   \n\nSo i've walked the dog at 9 am. He comes over at 3 in the afternoon, and instead of walking the dog right away he stays plays with the dog for a bit and plays computer games for 2 hours. \nHe only takes the dog for a walk at close to 6 pm and only for 10 mins.   \n\nSo I asked im Why did'nt he take the dog to pee right away. He said lazy , it was hot, he played with the dog. He says im not appreciative at all that he made all this effort. I said I dont understand why you let the dog wait 8 hours to pee when you were there earlier. \n\nHe starts saying im domineering, says fuck a lot , tells me i have to always do things my way. Tells me he doesnt deserve this treatment . If I want to do things my way ,I should do it myself.", "summary": "He said he wanted to come and walk the dog, plays computer games instead, walks the dog hours later. He gets upset with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3rk3ay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my _gf__ [22 F] 2 years duration, Becoming Distant lately", "post": "I've been with my Gf for 2 years this week. But things have been tough lately. Shes been very temperamental, being unnecessarily mean and I've been responding in kind with sarcastic and annoying behavior.\n\nWe've been very close up until now, I've met all her family several times and she's met mine and we always have a good laugh, Shes my best friend and don't wish to think what life would be like without her. I know that I've been a little off with her since last month when she had what I could only call a hissy fit when I brought my brother who'd just arrived from abroad out for drinks with us, she stormed off and said some of the cruelest things Ive ever heard, things like ''I dont know how to get rid of you'' ''Youre a pest''  etc.\n\nI dont know if she meant this or was just trying to make me mad but its been nagging me ever since.\nWhat also complicates things is that she has often stated her desire to live abroad once she graduates and I feel she might view my presence as a hindrance to this and is therefore taking things out on me. I've told her I'm willing to go wherever as my current job doesn't tie me down.\n\nWe had a heart to heart of sorts last night but I'm still mulling things over in my mind.\nI wont see her now until Monday as shes gone home to work\nI've had a migraine all day dealing with the stress of this , found myself crying during work  don't think Ill sleep tonight.", "summary": "gf seems to resent me"}
{"id": "t3_t2s8t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it weird to find it hard to give sympathy?", "post": "Kind of feeling like a psychopath here...A house burnt down in my town killing all but one survivor. I feel absolutely horrible for all involved but people in his neighborhood who saw the fire happening but aren't particularly close with the family, are up in arms, hysterical, etc. I look at them kind of wtf? They weren't primarily involved and I think it's very selfish of them to be so...affected? by something that doesn't directly have an impact on them. I understand they're upset naturally, but I feel they should be focusing on helping rather than crying. So am I some weird monster who can't feel empathy?", "summary": "I find it hard to feel sympathy for people who aren't directly involved in a tragedy but are extremely upset by it anyways...weird or no?"}
{"id": "t3_4zy8xc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Waiting on job offer after interview, need advice", "post": "Not sure if this is the correct place to post this, but I am having a bit of an anxiety fit over my current situation. If there is a more appropriate sub, please direct me to it.\n\nI recently graduated from a specialized technical program and since graduating have had a ridiculous number of job offers and interview requests. I have actually turned down a number of interviews. \n\nI had a job lined up several months ago, but it was honestly not something I was very enthusiastic about, I only took the offer because they were the first to contact me and I was not sure what the job market in my field was like. We'll call then company A.\n\nLong story short, I interviewed with another company last week, let's call them company B, and they exceeded all expectations and are basically a dream come true. They paid for my flight to their facility for the interview, put me up in a hotel and paid for a rental car. I had also previously turned in my notice with my current employer at the time, because company A, which I had already accepted an offer from, had expected me to start this coming week. I left the interview with company B feeling confident but without any offer in hand. Fast forward to today, I have notified company A that I won't be able to start with them and so am officially unemployed and awaiting some word from company B.\n\nAm I insane to expect that company B is going to make some kind of offer? Should I be scrambling to find something solid? I have enough funds to keep me going for a few months if absolutely necessary.\n\nTo add some clarification, this is completely out of character for me, I have never left an employer without having a guaranteed job lined up already. I have no experience in this field but have a good amount of general management experience.", "summary": "Had offer from company A, accepted offer, got interview with company B and decided to drop company A and also leave current job without securing new employment. Need advice please."}
{"id": "t3_13jo14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22m] planning on proposing tomorrow [22f] after three years, but is it too boring?", "post": "We're both pretty traditional and low key people, and we've also talked about it a lot so I'm confident she'll say yes, but I still want her to fondly remember the proposal.\nWe go for walks every night around our neighborhood and through a park, and since she knows it coming sometime soon I figured it would be most surprising if its during something romantic that we do fairly often. My plan is to (obviously) be romantic during the walk without being transparent and then ask her when we reach the middle of the park by the bandstand. The park will be dark at this time (6:30 or so) but the sidewalks have lightposts and the center is pretty bright so I'm not too worried about her not being able to see me or the ring. I was then going to cram in whatever I could to the rest of the night, so I have reservations at the restaurant we went on our first date at over three years ago and I was going to carve our name and the date into a tree near the spot (shh.. don't tell the police).\n\nIs this too boring or rushed to propose in just the evening after work? I really wanted to ask her before thanksgiving so we could tell her family in person but I was only able to ask her dad for his blessing this past weekend.  Has anyone had a similar proposal that they regret/love?", "summary": "Proposing on walk through park followed by dinner, too simple?"}
{"id": "t3_kx89x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my suite at college just got busted for a small party. I was in my room doing work not drinking, should I be reprimanded?", "post": "There were approximately 15 people in the suite playing *water* pong and drinking a few beers, doing shots, playing music. All but 1 was underage. \n\nI was in my room doing work because I am a loser and have 3 tests on Monday to study for. \n\nThe RA came in and said party's over and told them to dump the beer, wrote down everyones names, and told everyone who didn't live there to get out. \n\nShe was REALLY nice about it and kept saying that we were all being really cooperative and polite and that would go on the report. \n\nThere was a friend of ours who is an RA there who had just stopped by and got fucked by the timing. There was a girl who will probably get kicked off a sports team, and there was the guy who was 21 who could be in trouble for drinking with minors.\nThis is all of our first offense.\n\nI talked to the RA personally and she said that if my roommates vouch for me not drinking and not being involved that will help my case, but I would probably get in trouble for just plain having knowledge of the party. But technically I never came out of the room for the one and a half hour that the party was going on for.", "summary": "Should I get written up / be in trouble like the rest of my suite-mates and the people involved in a busted party if I wasn't drinking or involved?"}
{"id": "t3_clw37", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need your help - met a 94 y/o woman who is awesome! but she does not have a shower!", "post": "I was at the grocery doing some trading and while waiting for a friend started some idle conversation with an elderly lady. (my friend thought I had already gone, so we talked for a bit). Her parents lived till they were 105 - both of them! She is still kicking so much ass at life- She cooks her own meals, dresses her self, has a great short term and long term memory, still opens the window to yell at the punk kids w/ their loud music. This 94 y/o gal has been through depressions, wars, technological revolutions. she is so happy and sharp, so being a young man I asked her a few questions (how was your teens, travel, work,) one of which was \"is there anything you miss\" and she said well taking a shower. WTF! \"I have a shower but dut to my arthritis I cant get my legs over the side of the tub, so I just use a warsh cloth... you get use to it after a few years\" (she didn't smell so I guess she did a good job of it)... but this made me really sad. I talked to a guy who said if I can find out who owns the building he would call him and make the shower thing happen (walk in shower w/chair and hand rails etc). He knows most every one in town and can call in some favors. so thats where I intend to start - and if the landlord is a slum lord then I'll will find a way to acquire a walk in shower and install it myself! Can you help me find out who owns these apts? I've looked and asked around and... nothing. its gotta be public info some wheres... right?", "summary": "shes 94, lives alone in section 8 (public housing) with a fixed income. Her daughter just passed away (at 80!)"}
{"id": "t3_3jvv9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [20F] had a dangerous EX [21M] at college. Her parents don't want her to go back but she is desperate to. How can she change their minds?", "post": "Hello everyone! I'm a [19M] going to University.  \n\nMy friend of 4 years is currently at home with her parents and they are threatening not letting her go back to university.  \n\nHer boyfriend (now ex, of a year) proved to be mentally ill and when he had an episode was a danger to himself, her, and her property.  \n\nHe has had two such episodes and his family has been very unsupportive getting his issues addressed.\nObviously we are all worried that he may get violent towards her when it happens, and as a result, her parents are determined that she may not got back to University, in order to keep them separated.  \n\nShe is very adapted to the university and would desperately like to stay rather than transfer to another college.  \n\nShe knows she can not stay with him but her parents are unmoving.\nHow can she prove to them that she will not seek them out and her commitment to wanting to go back?", "summary": "My friends parents don't trust her, what are some ways she can prove herself to them?"}
{"id": "t3_ezp9b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I hired a freelance programmer but I'm afraid he might be leading me on.", "post": "So me and a friend had this great idea for a website. I know a little html and photoshop, but not php or any advanced web programming. I found a programmer through craigslist (yeah, i know) who seemed to be legit and knew his stuff. At first everything seemed to be going great, and he's partly completed the site as we wanted it. However, he's passed the deadline we agreed upon by several weeks, and I've been hearing back from him less and less frequently. I call the number he gave me today, and whoever answers claims not to know what I'm talking about. I get this bad feeling that it's him and hes messing with me. I haven't paid him anything yet, but we had a written agreement and half of the money is sitting in an escrow account. What can I do? Is it worth it to pursue legal action? We had a written email contract that he definitely broke.", "summary": "programmer might be wasting my time or worse trying to steal my idea, should I sue him or what?"}
{"id": "t3_10p6q2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I Need Advice! My friend had a bad break up with my other friend and I'm caught in the crossfire! Need Advice! Any suggestions?", "post": "So here is the siituation: My (boy) friend had a crush on this girl who I am really good friends with. They texted constantly over the summer but had little to no actual contact. She told me that she was falling for him. This was all based off of them textng. So he tells her that he feels the same. They start hanging around each other but they can't really hold a conversation because they are so used to texting, not used to face to face contact. She asked my friend and I to third wheel to hold the conversations together. I knew that if we needed to third wheel the relationship wasn't going to go anywhere, but I agreed because I enjoyed hanging with them. So we hung out with them but then the girl decided she didn't feel anything anymore. She broke it off with him and he decided that he needed to guilt her into dates, but she didn't fall for it. He was slowly getting jealous of me and my friend sense we were hanging out with her. He told her (They were still texting, which was the worst idea ever) that he didn't feel comfortable with us hanging with her. She wanted to make hm feel comfortable so she told us that she couldn't hang out with us anymore, and it destroyed me. She is one of my best friends and it kills me that I can't be friends with her anymore, just because hes jealous. What should I do?  Should I confront the boy and the girl? He's my friend but I'm starting to regret our friendship. Need Help! Any advice?", "summary": "Can't be friends with a girl because my friend is jealous. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_12hu4b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[15, almost 16/F] My boyfriend [17/M] and I need to find out how to sleep together in a bed.", "post": "First off, I want to say that yeah, we're kinda young but we take naps together a lot. We're a lazy couple.\n\nWe're both used to sleeping on our stomachs or sides, but I'm finding it hard to find one position that works best. I hug things in my sleep, so spooning with him in the back doesn't really work unless I have an extra pillow, and we don't. However, when I'm in the back, I can't get my bottom arm under him without hurting his side (I have bony arms.) Us facing each other works for a bit, with him hugging me and me holding my arms between his and my chest, but he likes to surround me and I find myself running out of air. I can't think of any other position to sleep in except me lying on his chest, but last time we did that, we both got stomach aches. \n\nI'm hoping that this will help us out once he gets his own place and I start to spend the night there. If we're having troubles napping, I can only imagine how we're going to pull off sleep through the the whole night as well.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend [17/M] and I [almost 16/F] like to nap together but fail at sleeping together in a comfy position for both of us. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1mc83f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wedding or concert? I'm 25f, boyfriend is 26m", "post": "Boyfriend's high school friend/my hair dresser is getting married next month. I won tickets on the radio(before I knew when the wedding was) to see Keith Urban on the same night. There's no way to do both, I've already tried to figure that one out. \n\nMy boyfriend says I shouldn't feel obligated to go to the wedding. She's done my hair probably 3 times. We don't see each other much outside of that. As in, no double dates, calling/texting each other, we just see each other at the occassional group party. Very sweet girl.\n\nBoyfriend and I have been together 19months.", "summary": "Go to a wedding with my boyfriend, or the concert I won tickets for."}
{"id": "t3_fr7hv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do potential employers really look at your Facebook/myspace/other social networking site?", "post": "I'm a teenager (18) who's applying for various jobs. I'm working right now for a small, privately owned cafe, and I'm fairly sure they didn't/wouldn't check.\n\nBut now I'm applying for some large(r) retail companies in my local mall. I've handed out a resume, filled out numerous applications, etc. \n\nI've heard that employers often check a potential employee's Facebook (which is all I have, apart from reddit--no myspace or twitter or anything for me). I generally keep my page clean (for instance, only I can view my tagged photos/videos, and everything else is limited to friends only).\n\nAnyone who is not a friend sees my current profile picture, my networks (my current school) and my sex. That's it. There are photos of me on Facebook with alcohol in the pictures, though they're either not tagged or, referring to above, the only person who can view them in relation to me *is* me. My profile pictures are visible to friends, but there's nothing bad/questionable there.\n\nAm I being paranoid in **a)** thinking an employer will check my page (which doesn't seem so far fetched to me), or **b)** thinking they can find some way to view my information anyway, even though my privacy settings are fairly rigorous?", "summary": "It's not that long, and I can't think of anything clever."}
{"id": "t3_w5t7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I tell my best friend that I have feelings for him?", "post": "I'm afraid my feelings are actually love.\n\nHe is 35 (divorced), and I (female, never married) am 25. We first became friends during a job training in Japan (worked for the same company for 1 year, different sites though). After a year, I returned to the States, but we've kept in touch. We both comment how we've grown really close to each other. (If it's helpful to mention, he's Korean-Canadian, not Japanese.) We chat online, leave each other 30+ minute voicemails (Skype), send each other care packages, etc. He's told me that I am his best friend, and I've told him the same. He also calls me his \"little sister,\" and says he loves me (presumably as family :/ ) As of 6 months ago, I've been wanting something more than a friendship. Due to the fact that I can't tell him face-to-face, though, I've hidden my feelings.\n\nHowever, I'm moving back to Japan this September, and I'm going to be visiting him for a couple of weeks; should I tell him that I love him as more than a friend? If so, how? \n\nThank you immensely for reading this wall of text!!", "summary": "in love with best friend, want to tell him my feelings but I'm unsure/inept at this."}
{"id": "t3_3i917s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by approaching a tinder match in public while she was surrounded by all of her friends.", "post": "This happened around noon today, and I still have so much shame that there's a pit in my stomach. \n\nSo, I matched with a girl, and we had some decent conversation on tinder for a few days, and then she starts responding much less frequently as tinder ladies are prone to doing. Then last night I get a message something along the lines of, \"hey, tinder really isnt my thing, I prefer meeting people in person, so I'm going to delete this app. I wanted to let you know so you didn't think I was just cutting you off. Anyway, hopefully we run into each other in person someday!\"\n\nCool. Totes can deal with that. Well, today is the first day of the semester, and we have similar majors.... And I see her surrounded by a group of friends waiting for class (literally never seen her before in my 4 years of college). Whelp, I summon the largest balls I can possibly muster, and walk up and say hi... And she looks at me, first with a look of unrecognition/confusion, then with a look of what I can only describe as an \"oh fuck\" face.... And my balls immediately deflate... I'm talking possible inversion. Knees weak, palms are sweaty. Her friends are giving me weird looks and I just panic... Basically it went down like, \"oh, you don't remember me, uhh nevermind.\" And just kinda noped outta there... Then.... Then the giggles. Shit that was rough. \n\nI'm usually a pretty confident guy, and this is decidedly the most awkward moment of my 22 year existence.", "summary": "interpreted a chance encounter as divine intervention, prolly looked like an awkward stalker. Balls inverted."}
{"id": "t3_1p7jce", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to deal with this situation?Me(17/m) her (17/f)", "post": "So i have been friends with this girl for over a year and we have become very close, in the last few months i started to think about her as more than a friend and i decided it was worth giving it a shot after a few months of being scared of trying anything in case of destroying our friendship.So i expressed my feelings to her and i got rejected (first rejection, stings a lot!).We talked about it, i totally respect her answer since we don't share the same feelings for each other and agreed on continueing to be friends and i am ok with that.The thing is she also mentioned it would not be the same again and i can see why , how do i go about trying to get what we had before?", "summary": "Got rejected by best friend and need advice on how get passed the potential awkwardness and become close friends again."}
{"id": "t3_3gb2ls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 M] who doesn't treat/care about his girlfriend like he should... Do I intervene?", "post": "My friend started dating one of my good friends [16F] about 3 weeks back. But while I know it is not really my business, he doesn't treat her the way someone would if they actually liked this girl:\n\n- Initially, I had to force him to ask this girl out after he had told me he liked her and she had told me she liked him, of which he was unwilling to call her up and ask her out, and choose to do it over social media instead. \n- The day after she said yes to going out with him, he wasn't at all any happy. He didn't show any sign of being slightly happy at what had happened. \n- I generally walk to school with this girl and while he could have the chance to walk with her as well, he chooses not to and instead goes to school 10 mins later.\n- Instead of going to a party about a week ago, and she would be there, he choose to stay at home.\n\nPersonally, the lack of effort just makes me think that he is using her to get to know other girls or just to be blunt, get laid. \n\nIs it any of my business to intervene? I say this from a neutral point of view- I don't like the girl any more than friends and the guy is one of my friends. I don't want the girl to get heart-broken later and I don't like the way he treats her as well. \n\nOn top of that, knowing both of them quite well, she definitely is unaware of everything about his personality. She is quite against drug use while he almost openly tells people. Naturally, he hasn't told her the complete truth yet.", "summary": "Girl and guy who started dating. Girl properly likes him while I'm uncertain if he properly likes her. He makes little effort for her and shows little care. Also hasn't told her the complete truth about himself. Do I intervene and do something or sit back and just let them solve it themselves?"}
{"id": "t3_333f53", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Laughing at a Joke.", "post": "Throw Away account because i already feel scared and shit.\n\nWell this fuck up happened today. Today i went to the mall and at the mall i bought a pair of earrings. They were a nice Batman Pair of earrings. After the mall, Me and Brother who will be referred to as Greg, were watching CutThroat Kitchen and of you have not seen it, its a cooking show hosted by Alton Brown and he gives 4 chefs a dish to cook and the dishes can range from a simple Cake to a Lettuce Wrap. However, this show has a twist, each Chef is given $25,000 to bid on items to sabotage the other Chefs such as having their only source of heat a simple camping stove or having all their utensils replaced with Tin Foil.The food is judged by a famous Food Critic or Chef like Simon Majumdar or Jet Tila. The winner of the game keeps any money they have left over. In this particular episode, the 4 Chefs have to make a cake. Now, my brother always makes inappropriate jokes or comments but I still laugh at them.Anyway, I decided to put in my new earrings in and took off the back part of my earring and put it in my mouth for safe keeping so it doesnt roll around and get lost. It was at this time that Jet Tila was judging a cake made from one of the Chef's and said It was very nostalgic and it brought him back to his childhood. My brother decided to make a comment on this and say and he said \"My father touched me for the first time on my 7th Birthday Party.\" and I laughed and laughed and laughed. In the midst if my breathing, I SWALLOW THE BACK PART TO MY EARRING. After seconds of choking, I realize that the back part is no longer in my mouth and is now in my stomach and am currently hoping i dont feel it coming out.", "summary": "Laughed at a Joke and Swallowed something i wasnt supposed to."}
{"id": "t3_3eivmw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Me 18M and 17F girlfriend. Afraid to lose virginity. How can I help her not too freak out?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for eight months now and the topic of sex has come up quite a bit recently. She is really afraid of getting pregnant and she doesn't want to have sex yet. I'm not trying to convince her or push her or anything, I want her to be 100% comfortable when it happens. \nShe is really afraid that she is going to freak out before it happens, or during. She says that it will happen and I've seen little freakouts from her if I get too close to her. I just really want to know how I can help her not freak out, or if she does, how to calm her down enough to continue and be comfortable.\n\nHere's some background info if it helps.\n Her parents sheltered her from sex completely telling her it was bad and making it seem weird and out of place by not talking about it.\n\nI've been helping her get over the \"weirdness\" of the sexual things we do and it is really hard, but we get by.", "summary": "girlfriend was sheltered from sex, dating for 8 months, I want sex, she will freak out before/during. How can I help her through this as comfortably as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_mnipe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do you lie reddit?", "post": "I absolutely hate being lied to. Especially with a significant other, or even friends. Yes I understand that lying happens and yes I have lied and will before I die. But I choose when and how I do it, it's never to anyone I remotely care about, and they're absolutely harmless. Not white lies. But, \"no I don't have kids,\" \"no i wasn't in the military.\" Normally to strangers when I don't want to talk about my life or if i don't want you to know about me. But why do people lie about dumb things. How do you think the person you love is going to trust you about large things when they can't even trust you to tell them simple things. I understand that it's human nature to make power moves and bicker about the details but why lie at all?", "summary": "Why do you lie about things? Why lie at all?"}
{"id": "t3_1ifjtr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you respectfully flirt with a woman?", "post": "Lately I have seen a lot of posts about women getting creeped out by guys flirting with them, taking \"no\" to mean \"yes\" and similar things. I agree that women should feel more comfortable with rejecting advances, and all around should have way more freedom in our society to be individuals.\n\nNow, I want to try and be a bit more flirtatious, my best friend who is just naturally friendly, is mock flirtatious with pretty much every guy and girl, and pretty much everyone loves him.\n\nI'm not saying I want to try and be him. But I know that I pretty much never flirt because I feel like if I flirt at all or give any kind of compliment, it could be taken as \"verbal abuse\". For example, I say \"Hey so and so, I love your hair, it looks really good\". There was one time I actually just genuinely liked how a girl's hair looked, it was a unique color, and wanted to compliment her on it. I asked a female friend of mine who was nearby if it would be okay if I told the girl, and my friend says it would have been creepy.", "summary": "How do I flirt with a woman, or even give a member of the opposite gender a compliment, without coming off as creepy or making her uncomfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_15vx1j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Sent some tipsy texts to a girl I've been dating, and they come off a bit clingy.  I am not normally clingy.  Can I salvage this?  Content of texts inside.", "post": "Went out a few times in the last two weeks and always a great time.  We like eachother and have kissed.\n\nI was at a party last night and texted her that I was happy for her about a recent thing at her work, no response.  then I said \"when am I gonna see you again?\"  no response.  then I called and she didn't answer, then I said (trying to be playful) \"NAME you're really not gonna call me back?!\"\n\nthis morning, I'm like, FUCK, this series of texts is fucking weird.  What should I say to her today to play it off cool?", "summary": "see title."}
{"id": "t3_49al0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am having trouble dealing with the breakup with my now ex [21 F].", "post": "Last weekend, my GF, Sarah, of about two years broke up with me. If you want to know more details, then I'll link my previous posts regarding this whole situation.\n\nPrior to breakup - \n\nAfter breakup - \n\nSarah and I had started dating about years ago, just a few days after I had broken up with my girlfriend prior to here; so this past week has actually been the longest I have been single in about 5 years. It's also been one of the roughest weeks I have ever had, emotionally. \n\nWe have always had the same friend group, and we live together, until August, so it is really hard (near impossible) for me not to see her everyday. I have been trying to distract myself in schoolwork, video games, Netflix, and making new online friends, and I even went home this past weekend to go walk around the farm. It helped a little, but my mind always wandered back to her, wishing she were there and things we used to do together. \n\nWe had agreed that we would try to stay friends after we broke up, and so far it has been a good plan; things haven't really been awkward between us or friends, but I just can't help but still want her. I get jealous of how she is always snapchatting and texting the rest of our friends, and not me. I guess I'm not used to not being a big part of her life anymore. It hasn't helped that told me that if she were to get feelings for someone new, then she would hop right into dating; even if it were tomorrow. \n\nI know I probably sound whiny and complainy, but I'm not sued to being single. And having to live with, be around, and watch the girl you are still love with move on with her life past you, is really hard.", "summary": "I'm still in love with my ex, and I don't know how to move forward to make everyone happier."}
{"id": "t3_21q91n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19f]Keeping an innocent (but somewhat significant) piece of information from my boyfriend of a few months [21m]...", "post": "Honestly, I'm not sure how significant this piece of information is in the context of our relationship.\n\nI've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, and he doesn't know that the drunken dance-floor makeout we had a little over a year ago, the first time we met, was my first kiss.\n\nI've kissed plenty of other people since then, so it's not like he's the only person I've ever kissed. I told him that we had kissed on the dance floor last year and he barely remembered it, which I don't have a problem with. \n\nBasically, my first kiss was not that significant emotionally (but it was pretty good), but the fact that I'm dating the guy I had my first kiss with is...interesting. It wasn't his first kiss. He's my first boyfriend; I'm not his first girlfriend. Also, he's the first (and only) person I've had sex with, while I'm not the first person he's had sex with.\n\nShould I tell him that he was my first kiss? Would he find it a funny coincidence, or be a little weirded out that he's been my \"first\" for all these things? I don't want him to think I'm super clingy or that I planned this all out or something. It's true that I was a little extra interested in him the second time we met because of our past encounter, but that definitely didn't become the basis of my attraction to him. \n\nI'm debating between not telling him at all, or waiting until we've known each other for longer. The topic of first kisses may come up at some point before then, though.", "summary": "Should I tell my boyfriend that he was the first person I kissed? (Not the only person; the kiss happened way before the relationship began.)"}
{"id": "t3_1f7zxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "People who have posted about issues regarding SO's past: do you ever get over it?", "post": "From the very beginning of our relationship a year ago, bf [25] was uncomfortable with my [23] sexual/dating history.  Complete double standards.  I've done nothing he hasn't, and he's been with a lot more people.  But he's always recognized that he's being irrational and that it's something he needs to get over.  But we don't know what to do to help him get over this, and whenever we talk about it it only makes it worse.  It's been a year and he insists he still needs more time to even know if it's possible.  At what point do I walk?", "summary": "BF has always been uncomfortable about my past.  It's been a year and it's not getting any better.  Will it?"}
{"id": "t3_2zh6a9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] exclusive partner [18 F] is breaking it off because she is afraid of relationships and of getting too close.", "post": "I started seeing this girl two months ago. A month after we were seeing each other she got drunk and said she wanted to be with me. In the morning we talked and agreed to be exclusive. \n\nEverything has been great, except that she is really afraid of relationships.  She also does not want distractions from school.  So, yesterday, she came over and was talking about a lot of things, about feeling closer and closer to me and about not wanting to be in a relationship. She basically said she wanted to just friends. She asked me how I felt about that, and I said it would make me sad. \n\nThis girl is so great, easily the best girl I've ever been with.  I totally love her, not deeply in love with her, but I do love her. Now she wants to break off our thing because she is afraid of getting close.  We started having sex a little under a month ago. She said she wanted to get on birth control so we could have spontaneous sex everywhere. Early Monday morning she was saying every time I came in her she felt more attracted to me. She really does like me and doesn't want to want to spend all her time with me.  She is thinking that I will be a huge distraction in her life. \n\nSo, its just really hard to accept leaving this relationship when so many things are right just because she is afraid of getting too close to me.  I've already been super down and honestly crying a bunch. How can I get over this one?", "summary": "Girl I am seeing wants to just be friends because she doesn't want to get too close."}
{"id": "t3_2gm5ke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24f] having trouble bringing up the status of my relationship with the older [32] guy I'm seeing", "post": "So. I've been seeing a guy now for a few months. I met him right as I was getting out of a messy relationship that really fucked with my head. But he's made me so happy since I've started seeing him and I can really see a future with him. But we haven't yet talked about where we see this going. We've both said we aren't sleeping with other people, but we haven't yet said whether or not we want to be in a relationship. I'm having trouble bringing up the subject. Mostly because my last relationship ended so badly and it makes me nervous to let someone else in. I'm also worried that our age difference might be too much for him because every once in a while he'll make a joke about how young I am. \n\nI know that being scared to have this conversation seems stupid and most of you will probably think that I shouldn't be with someone I can't have this conversation with. But I guess I just can't decide if having this talk after only a couple months is rushing into something or if I'm going to sound crazy. I guess I just need a pep talk or something. Any advice is greatly appreciated", "summary": "Seeing an older [32m] guy for a couple months. Nervous to have a conversation about where we stand. Pep talk or advice appreciated.."}
{"id": "t3_31lqvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my girlfriend [30 F] of 1 1/2 years, found her online dating profile, not sure what to do", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for 1 1/2 years, mostly long distance.  Recently found her facebook and while digging around I found an online dating profile with pictures of her.  After confronting her on the phone and skype, she tearfully said her sister made the profile without her knowledge.  But most of the pictures on her profile is not on her FB and the description on the profile sounds uncannily like her.  Like the writing style is like hers.\n\nHonestly, I never thought of her as the type to cheat on me.  But when I read the profile, I didn't have any doubts it's her.  Also, why would her 26 year old sister, married with children, want to create a fake online dating profile with her older sister's photos?  I can't explain it and neither could she.\n\nNever thought this would happen (again) in my life.  You'd think by the time people hit their 30's this shit would stop.  Why do I feel like I'm still in high school.  Fucking relationships suck ass.\n\nNow I'm not sure what to do.  I think I should just dump her and move on.  Having a hard time believing she'd do this, but I'm also having a hard time believing her sister would do this.  I need some advice reddit.", "summary": "Found supposedly fake online dating profile of my girlfriend.  She claims her sister put it up.  WTF.  Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2w58ea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am considering moving into the same apartment complex as my crazy ex [19F]. Recipe for disaster?", "post": "I'm getting my own place in a few months so I'm starting to shop around. I'm from a small town that has about 8 different apartment buildings - 6 of those are very run down and dirty, one is out of my price range, and the last one (which is very nice) is where my ex lives. We broke up nearing on 2 years ago now, however she's absolutely insane. When I moved on and started dating other people she would contact them saying she's going to fight them, etc. She hasn't contacted me or my current girlfriend within the last year, however she still posts about me over social media all. the. time. (posts range from specific dates we had and she misses, to how I'm a piece of shit and she can't believe who I'm dating). Just the other day she posted a picture of her prom that I took her to when we first met and how much she misses it. I want to avoid this woman at all costs.\n\nApparently she's moving a couple hours away for school, however I'm sure she'll often be back for breaks, visits, and holidays. Would it be a terrible idea to move into this apartment complex? It's fairly small - three floors, about 8-10 apartments on each floor, and a shared laundry facility. It's the perfect place otherwise.", "summary": "Move into small apartment complex crazy ex lives in, or a slightly dirty complex to avoid her?"}
{"id": "t3_44z0oo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 5 years, have different sleep patterns - says im selfish", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years and we recently bought our own house and moved in at Christmas.\n\nI've always ran on about 6 - 7 hours sleep, and prior to moving in, I'd always do my own thing when I got home.  I'd play games, learn some code until I was tired which was usually until about half 12.  \n\nMy girlfriend is always tired and wakes up early for her job, she's usually up at 7 and out of the house by 8.  She goes to bed at 10:30 so gets about 8 - 9 hours sleep a night.\n\nI've been trying to get into this sleep pattern, but I just find myself lying awake at night or being shattered the next day from too much sleep.\n\nI'm wanting to spend some time playing some games, and with most people my age, the only time we get is later at night - hence the reason I was usually playing games from about 10 - 12:30.\n\nNow we're living together, she complains that I either wake her up because she's a light sleeper, and how it's unfair for me to go to bed later because I should be thinking about her.\n\nPersonally I think this is wrong to simply demand this, but she's as stubborn as they come, and trying to talk sense into her just results in an argument.  I've tried explaining the above, or using the fact that when she wakes up in the morning, her alarm wakes me up, as does her getting dressed etc so I end up waking up an hour earlier due to her.  \n\nI should add that I work from home in a stressful job, but she uses this as an excuse as to why I should respect her sleeping hours and go to bed at the same time (even if i lie awake for hours).  I can't go to bed later, I can't use my laptop in bed to code, yet she has to have the TV on to go to sleep to (I can't stand this)\n\nI don't really know how else to tackle it, as everything gets turned into me being the bad guy and its all about her", "summary": "GF & I have different sleep schedules.  She expects me to go to bed at the same time as her due her getting up for work, and me going to bed later wakes her up."}
{"id": "t3_esy73", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Female in need of advice on pursuing a relationship with teacher", "post": "Alright, I'd like to get some advice on my situation here.\n\nI've been friends with my teacher for years, before he became a teacher, and before I started taking his classes. I really like him. We talk online often (everyday) but talking to him in real life is more difficult, since you can't have many in-depth conversations in class. I asked him out a few months of being acquaintances (online, probably a mistake), and he turned me down then. His reasons were not because he just wasn't interested or anything like that, but because he was working on getting his life together, getting a place of his own, graduating, etc, and didn't have time for girls at the moment. He told me, at that time, to ask again in about two years. A few months later, he caught me online in a BAWW day, and everyone sucked, society sucked, yadda yadda, and he asked me if he were to ask me out right now, what would I say? I wanted to say yes, but I thought he was just picking on me, so I said no. (I beat myself up for that one.)\n\nFast forward a year, he's had only fleeting girlfriends and doesn't talk about them much. I haven't asked him out again since the first time.\n\nA few notes, he considers me attractive and intelligent, and appreciates my dedication to classes, even before he turned teacher. He is also insanely protective of me, but puts that off as being in the teacher/student relationship.\n\nThoughts or any advice at all?", "summary": "I want to fuck/date my MMA instructor, give me some third party advice."}
{"id": "t3_3ao48u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with [27/M] who's out of my league", "post": "Okay so, I will cut right to the chase. I'm 24, female, have been seeing a guy, 27, for a little over a month now. He's awesome, super perfect, everything between us is really great, and we have pretty much amazing chemistry. \n\nThe problem is that I really believe he's out of my league. During the beginning of college, I got pregnant. I decided afterwards I wouldn't be able to focus on my child and be at school full time, so I left. \n\nI'm 24 now, and my child is four. I work a pretty decent job, have my own place, pay MOST of my bills on time. I am getting ready to attempt school again from from the very beginning, but it will be years before I get a degree. I'm not well off and struggling with money is something that I encounter on a regular basis. \n\nThe guy I've been dating is completely on the opposite end of the scale. He has an amazing job, makes great money, does extremely well for himself. He just finished grad school, and just basically has all his stuff together. \n\nNot to mention the dynamics of our family and childhoods are completely different. He comes from a very wealthy well to do family. They go on family trips still, spend a lot of time together. Just a really picture perfect group. I, on the other hand, come from a lower middle class broken home. I never really spent time with my dad, and when I did it was less than memorable. I'm not embarrassed of them, but I mean, it's pretty intimidating to compare our families. \n\nThe bottom line is that my insecurities about this situation are eating me alive. It's not to that point yet, but I don't think I could ever meet his family. I don't even think they would like me or think I was worthy of their son. I'm so worried that I might ruin this because of my own fears. But I'm also worried that maybe two people who are so different might not be able to make a relationship work. Has anyone else been in this particular situation or a similar one? Words of advice?", "summary": "The guy I'm seeing is way out of my league"}
{"id": "t3_2d18cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] of one year broke up with me and is now aromantic", "post": "My girlfriend broke up with me last week. We were very good friends before the relationship ended, and have continued to be very good friends. Open the initial conclusion of the relationship, she said that she was unable to feel love or reciprocate appropriately, although up until this point that had never been a problem and I felt very loved and content. She suffers from depression and I care about her more than anything in the world so I still talk to her on a daily basis. Due to the \"nothing is off-limits\" nature of our friendship, about a week later I told her that I didn't fully understand her reason for ending things with me. She responded that she doesn't feel, and doesn't want to feel, love. Hearing that from her hit me like a ton of bricks. I did some research, and found out about aromanticism (the lack of desire to love or feel love) and shared it with her. She said it described her exactly. I've never been so upset. I completely understand that it's not her fault, but knowing that I'll never be able to be in a real romantic relationship with her just hurts to think about. I don't know how to deal with this at all. As cliche as it sounds, she is the love of my life. I've looked up my situation online and have found extremely limited examples of this happening, and how people have coped with it. I just need advice.", "summary": "gf broke up with me, is unable to feel/give love, and im crushed"}
{"id": "t3_3mpxie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] broken up about break up with girl [21 F]", "post": "I have already posted about this girl previously but just for quick background, we have known each other a while, dated for about 4-5 months, although she has had feelings for about a year. A few days ago she ended things with me and I suppose I am writing this more to vent, since I was numb to the break up until today.\n\nFor a few weeks before I could tell she was pulling away. She said she felt pressured into being official, and was scared due to a very large amount of outside stress, mainly due to her grandmother being very sick in the hospital for months. About 2 weeks ago we had a large fight, where she was very iffy about making plans for a date and I was annoyed because she had been flakey about dates recently. We talked a few days ago and she said that she had intended to give it time and see where it went but after that fight she suddenly lost feelings.\n\nBeing honest, I am devastated. I had fallen hard for this girl and the idea that I had pressured her into things and caused her to lose feelings is a tough pill to swallow. That being said, I doubt there is much I can do to \"fix\" things and try again, and she is so guilty about hurting me I doubt she would even tell me if she did still have feelings or redeveloped them. Still, any advice, comments, words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girl I had been seeing said she lost feelings suddenly and ended things. I am feeling pretty lost and hurt, looking for advice or at least to rant and blow off steam."}
{"id": "t3_54tqw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (37M) and my girlfriend (45F) couldn't handle me being away for a month at a time.", "post": "Me (37M) and my girlfriend (45F) have been together now for a year and a half.  This past March I quit my just-over six figure, with benefits, job because my girlfriend couldn't handle me being away for a month at a time and then being back for a month as the job required.  \n\nI thought I would slide into another profession easily, but that hasn't happened.  I'm now working as a landscaper, making 12$ and hour and I'm miserable.  I love my girlfriend, but the stress of wanting to have the career I want is killing me.  \n\nMy question to all of you is; would you quit a job you liked, that paid well, because someone you were seeing didn't like it, for whatever reason? Thanks", "summary": "!  Girlfriend hates past job that I want to go back to."}
{"id": "t3_2x1r6g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by showing my math teacher an inappropriate answer", "post": "A little context. I'm a junior in high school, and am currently taking Algebra 2 for math class. Every student in the school gets a semi medium crappy little lap top, which the teachers take advantage of. Some teachers take more advantage than others though\u2026 Specifically the math teachers. This year, students in Algebra 2 have to do an online math program which is beyond dumb. 1st off, this type of math should not be done on a computer, it just doesn't work. 2nd, the dumb program and the little laptops don't mix very well.\n\nNow to the fuck up.\n\nSo I'm in class, and everyone is assigned to do 25 minutes of this program. And I'm stuck on this one problem. The frustrating thing is that if you make 1 minor mistake it brings your progress down, making it harder to get to the next level. anyway, I type my answer to the question\u2026 And the box highlights red. Scanning to see what I did wrong, I conclude that there isn't anything wrong, and I enter the same answer again and hit it. Still red. Already frustrated from the previously problems, I (for some reason) start writing \"fuckthis\" in no spaces all one word, all caps, any variation. \n\nThen my bladder calls my name. I delete what's in the question box and ask to go to the bathroom. Leave the class, take my piss, come back now ready for the question, sit down with my hand up and start zoning out.\n\nTeacher finally comes, and I realized that the program logged me out (that's what it does where there is no activity). So as i'm logging in I'm explaining the problem I had at the same time. Enter the log in and password. And there it is...\n\nFuck this.\n\nI swear I deleted it. But it came back to haunt me.\n\n\"glad to know you think so highly of this class.\" My teacher says.\n\nTurns out I only got it wrong because I didn't type it in the question box right.", "summary": "call for teacher, teacher comes, see's \"Fuck this\" in the question box."}
{"id": "t3_4o51oc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 2 years, me and her friend [22 F] got really drunk and had sex.", "post": "This is the first time I've ever done something like this in my life.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have an awesome relationship and we have talked about marriage. We both have the same goals and views we are so compatible I really see a future with her.\n\nShe has a friend Alexis they have been friends for 3 years and talk all the time about everything. Me and Alexis get along but don't talk much only say and ask how the other is doing but nothing beyond that.\n\nI recently went to a friend's party and as it turns out Alexis knows this friend as well. We talked through the night and I got extremely drunk, more drunk than I've ever gotten in my life.\n\nMe and Alexis were talking we were both drunk and one thing led to another and we had sex. It's been a few weeks now and we haven't told anybody anything.\n\nIt's awkward around me and her now she gets quiet when I'm around and does everything she can to avoid me. I feel so horrible I was crying yesterday in the bathroom and my girlfriend saw me and asked why.\n\nI lied and made some excuse about missing my dead hamster and she hugged me which made me feel worse. I don't deserve her she so kind and loving and I did something so wrong to her.\n\nI'm not sure what to do please don't tell me to leave her I love her so very much.", "summary": "I accidentally slept with my girlfriends best friend and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1ljwp9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my 7 year old sister crash her friend's go kart into his dad's porsche.", "post": "I'll start off by giving you a little background.  I am 16, and my little sister is 7.  She was bored and wanted to go hang out at her friend's house down the street.  So I took her there.\n\nWhen we got there, her friend insisted on showing me his new go kart. So I said sure.  We went to his garage, and he showed me his go kart.  I asked if I can try it out and he said sure. I rode it around for about a minute and then got off.\n\nThen my sister asked if she can try it. I was skeptical at first because she's never driven anything like this.  But then I thought, *\"It has four wheels. It's not like she's gonna flip it or anything.\"*\n\nSo I told her she can. I showed her all the controls. How to steer, how to go, and how to brake. Then I step away and let her go.\n\nShe then proceeded to drive straight into a Porsche. Her friend's dad's Porsche.  Everyone freaked out, and ran inside to tell him.  And to make matters worse, they exaggerated a lot and told him the scratch was ***huge*** and she was going ***super fast*** when she crashed into it.\n\nThe dad was super nice about it, but I felt guilty as fuck. I said sorry multiple times. And I told my sister to apologize but she never did.\n\nThen about 20 minutes later as we were leaving, I told my sister to go say thank you for all the snacks they gave her and for being so cool about everything.  But instead of saying thank you, she started crying because she didn't want to go. The crying then turned into screaming and yelling and calling me names.  I finally had to carry her out of there because she refused to leave.  I kept on apologizing as we were leaving.\n\nI've never felt so fucking stressed out and embarrassed in my entire life.", "summary": "My sister crashed her friend's go kart into his dad's Porsche, and didn't say sorry. Then as we were leaving, she started to cry and scream because she didn't want to go yet."}
{"id": "t3_3cmtg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I reply to him immediately or wait if he took so long to reply to me? (Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of one year)", "post": "We communicate through email for now (don't have the time atm to explain why). He took days to respond, but he did move to a new place and told me he didn't have internet installed yet. But he still had access to internet at his work and at the coffee shops he visits because when he did send me a message he used those avenues. I spent a lot of time composing my message to him, and he didn't even address everything I wrote in it in his reply, and he took days to reply. I am confident if he really wanted to reply to me he would have used these other avenues to do so.\n\nAm I being unreasonable in thinking I should wait for longer to reply to him? Or should I excuse him and reply immediately?", "summary": "Should I reply to him immediately or wait?"}
{"id": "t3_3rmv4v", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Vegetarian Revenge: A Dish Best Served With Crackers", "post": "I've been vegetarian for about a year but I've tried to not make a big deal out of it and not many people know about it.  I live in South Louisiana where cracklin (fried pig skin and fat) is basically a food group, so people just don't understand my decision.\n\nAnyway, I have a coworker I've known for 20 years that is basically like an uncle to me and he just found out that I don't eat meat and it blew his mind.  Last week someone brought some cracklin to the office and he jokingly offered me some.  I declined and said I had just fixed a bowl of oatmeal that I needed to eat before it got too cold.  As he was leaving the break room he said I should add the cracklin to my oatmeal for some flavor.  I laughed it off.  But when I got to my office I stopped laughing.\n\nHe had put a huge chunk of cracklin in my oatmeal.  I waited for him to leave his office and I opened his drawer where he keeps his snacks.  I took a nearly full box triscuits and crushed them up.\n\nYesterday I heard him freak out as he opened the box.  I've been laughing about it since.", "summary": "I don't eat meat; dude put cracklin in my oatmeal; I crushed his crackers"}
{"id": "t3_1cfuzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [18F] with bf adds me[18M] from her super secret IG account. What does she want?", "post": "I met this (VERY hot) girl[18F] at a friend's party late 2011. She added me on fb then and was texting me to hang out and was acting pretty flirty, but when I told my friend[18F], a mutual friend of ours, this she told me she was pretty sure she was seeing someone and told me she was certain she was just being really friendly. Having gone through a break up not long before I wasn't super interested anyway so we just stopped talking.\n\nHere's where it gets weird. The other day, she somehow found me on instagram, followed me and left a comment on a picture of my dogs. Thing is, I hadn't posted a new photo or anything in 4 months. So I go check out her profile, turns out she's set to private, has like 10 followers, follows 7 people... has tons of photos, and has been active for months. So it's not like she follows so few people because she just made her account. I follow her back and she accepts.\n\nAnyway, she's liked and commented on some more photos, but she definitely still has a boyfriend. And from what I gather she's still really into him. So why would she be doing this? Why follow me with her super private, selective IG account and comment on my stuff? We haven't talked since 2011. I'd ask, but I mean.. \"Hey, why did you follow me on IG all of a sudden? What's this all about?\" lol. I honestly don't get the impression she's looking to cheat on her bf or something, but I don't know, maybe that's because of what my friend said last time around.\n\nAny advice on how to approach this is appreciated. Sorry for rambling lol", "summary": "Haven't seen this girl in over a year, only met once. Finds me on Instagram, which I haven't been active on in 4 months, and follows me on her super private account and likes and comments on my photos. She has a boyfriend she's been with a while and is apparently still really into. What does she want and how should I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_qhum8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF of 5 years probably moving away, wants me to go but I said no.", "post": "A little bit of history: I'm 23/m she's 22/f and we have been together on and off for 5-6 years now. This girl is my best friend and I will probably always love her no matter how things end up. She graduates from school in a few months and has this really great chance for a 1yr + internship in Boston, NY, or NJ (we currently live on the western part of the country) and may end up staying out of state beyond the 1yr if she finds a grad school she likes out there. Now the hard thing is that she wants me to move with her to where ever she ends up going and I flat out told her I wasn't comfortable with that **at all!** I don't even feel comfortable with moving in with her right now let alone leaving everything else behind to move across the country. I told her to go if she gets the opportunity because I'll be damned if I'm the thing to hold her back. The hard part about this is that we already tried the long distance thing at the beginning of her schooling 4 years ago and ended up breaking up for the first year that she was gone. She wants to go and would be willing to try the long distance thing again and keeps asking about my thoughts on doing LDR again. She also wants to try even though she seem hopeful it would work based on past experience and quite frankly I don't even want to try a LDR again (horrible shit). Every time she brings it up she basically leaves the decision on me about what we are going to do and I don't know what to do Reddit. Every time I think about it, something in me can't help but start counting down to the (final) end of our relationship even though I don't want it to end. Any advice? (sorry for the giant wall of text) and I will be happy to clarify anything if need be. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girlfriend is probably moving across the country for school/work, wants me to go but I'm not comfortable moving. Neither really wants a LDR so this could be the (unwanted) end of the relationship. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3wkgaz", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My SO (22m) called me(21f) a fatass while we were out drinking. What would you do?", "post": "We were out drinking. We were outside a bar on a very small patio, probably 4 feet of space to move around in at any area, though it was a long patio. I was standing at a little table, admittedly I was in the walkway and obstructing it. \n\nMy boyfriend wanted to get past me, so he pushed me. Not hard, but enough to make me mad. I don't like when people get physical when words would achieve the same thing. So I asked him, \"what you can't use your words?!\" And so he said, \"ok then. Move your fat ass.\" He swears it was jokingly. \n\nI could have handled it better I'm sure. I got very mad at him. I was being rude. So he got me alone and asked what my problem was. I told him it hurt my feelings, he knows that my weight is something I'm self conscious about because I had an abusive father who told me I was fat too. But he told me to leave because I was upset and being rude. I apologized and said that I was going to stay and see where the night went, even though I really just wanted to go home and leave even though we've been together for two years. \n\nWhat would you do in this situation", "summary": "Bf called me a fat ass jokingly. It upset me very bad. Now idk what to do ."}
{"id": "t3_pf31u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How about your best and most hilarious awesome roomate stories?", "post": "The terrible roomate threads always have me torn between laughing my ass off and dry heaving. I've had my fair share of horrific, disgusting roomates as well, but how about a little love for the people that you had a great time living with?\n\nI'll start-- after moving off campus in college, I moved into a shared house with a few other art students just a few miles from campus. This area of town was popular with the college crowd because there were houses with 5+ bedrooms to rent cheap, and was walking distance to the train (and just a few stops from campus). There were houses full of college athletes and bars all within a few blocks walking distance, so many good drunken times were had. We didn't agree to live together through school, we all just happened to answer to the same landlord (who was also awesome) who had posted an ad in the campus housing listing. We all just totally worked as roomates and had a great time!\n\nLiving with art students came with hazards like passing out on the couch and waking up to having easels all around you, with sketches of your drunk ass from all different angles on display. \n\nI also woke up from one particularly debaucherous evening and upon staggering to the kitchen to get myself a much-needed glass of water, found a 6-foot long lobster laying on the kitchen floor. My sculptor roomate has brought his hand-made lobster suit home to wear on Halloween, and the only room big enough to store it in was the kitchen... I'm not talking like a cartoon plushy costume, he built a completely realistic man-sized lobster.\n\nWe had theme parties every term, and once couldn't decide on a theme so we just had all three-- and the pictures from said zombie/ninja/silly hat party were damn fantastic.", "summary": "Art students."}
{"id": "t3_2v7yod", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and flooded my bathroom", "post": "This happened about 20 minutes ago.\n\nI was in the mood for a hot, foamy bath. I go into the bathroom, hop into the tub, add some bath salts (and no, I'm not craving for human flesh) and some of that thing that produces foam (I'm not English, sorry!) and lay on my back, eyes closed.\n\nI should mention by now that our drain plug is chipped and lets water leak from the tub into the drain, so I usually take it out and put a plastic bag. It worked like a charm. Until today.\n\nAfter 2-3 minutes, I hear bubbles in the secondary drain (the one on the floor made to prevent floods. Ironic, huh?) and realize that the water was at half the original level.\n\nNo biggie. I reach for the plastic bag to adjust it and realize that it'a gone. I look to the bathroom floor only to see it entirely flooded. The plastic bag was sucked into the drain and clogged it. By now, the tub was empty. I jumped out and ran to grab some towels. To my relief, the bag was flushed down and the water started going down the drain.\n\nBut I didn't finish bathing. And guess what? No hot water left. After a manly cold bath, I get out, dry myself and prepare for the worst. \n\nMy house has a pretty weird structure. It's made by two buildings. One hosts the bedrooms and living-room, and the other hosts the kitchen and bathroom. They are connected, but there is no door between. From one to the other is a 10 meter walk. And I had to walk slowly since the ground was frozen, and it was cold as fuck outside. \n\nNow you may be wondering why I bathed in cold water instead of showering tomorrow morning. It's because my overly-protective parents forbid me from bathing/showering immediately before going out to prevent me from catching a cold.", "summary": "Tried to seal bath tub drain with a plastic bag which got sucked in and flooded the bathroom. Had to take a cold bath and a walk through the yard."}
{"id": "t3_s88zh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, BT is trying to charge my family \u00a3140 because the phone+hub they have given to us has failed. it has never worked from the day we have had it, and we pay line rental fee's for the phone but can't use it.", "post": "BT provided us with a \"homehub\" (router) which has a built in phone. The phone has never worked, and yet we can only use that phone to get the 'free' calls that we pay for. Because it doesn't work it means we have to use a second phone, which means we receive very high charges.\n\nMy father called BT support up and asked them if they could repair it and, failing that, replace it, because the damage is nothing to do with us, and any and all filters on the phone have been checked and replaced, yet still nothing. They said \"we will repair the phone happily, just pay us \u00a3140 and we will send out an engineer\"\n\nObviously we don't want this, we would rather just have a new hub, i mean it has to be cheaper for both sides for them to just replace it? it must cost them what, \u00a340 to produce?\n\nanyway, down to the point, they aren't budging, is there anything anyone could suggest we do to make the robbing bastards give us what we pay (heavily) for?", "summary": "BT are robbing bastards, broken equipment, they want to charge us \u00a3140 to repair something that's their fault. How can we get them to fork the bill?"}
{"id": "t3_1rqhua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really need some help with my boyfriend..", "post": "Alright so Christmas is coming up and I literally have NO idea what to get my boyfriend... He already got me something and it's.. It's pretty expensive.. I don't know what it is, but we were in the car earlier and I asked him about things he'd want \"You don't have to BUY anything.\" is what he told me.. I am at a loss.. I really can't think of anything.\n\nI really feel like shit for not being able to think of a Christmas gift. I want it to mean a lot. He's a level-headed realist Atheist. He enjoys video games like skyrim (mostly WoW). He likes Mid-evil things. I just want something he can cherish forever that he will actually like... Any ideas? I have a pretty small spending amount.. And I at least want to be able to make it. (I am really artsy).\n\nWe have been together for a Year and a Half now, live together and what not. I am 20, he is 21 Obviously I am female, he is male.", "summary": "I am panicking about a Christmas present for my boyfriend and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_3alt1e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting a fart.", "post": "This just happened. I don't write very well, so please excuse my grammar. \n\nWe'll start off with my morning. I wake up late for work. Had to be at work for 0730, woke up at 0710. I work for an ambulance service as an EMT and I am currently in paramedic school doing clinicals every other day I'm not working a 24 hour shifts on the boo boo bus. So I'm rushing around trying to get my uniform together when I fell a dart brewing. Ok seems innocent enough. No. It was a bubble of doom. I knew instantly as it was coming out that it was too late and I had just destroyed a nice fresh pair of boxers. So the boxers get thrown away and now I'm wasting even more time sitting on the toilet. My bowels are doing back flips and now I'm even more late for work. So I finish as fast I could then frantically find a new pair boxers and finish getting my shit together and get out the door for a 20 min drive to work. \n\nWhen I get to work I remembered I keep a bottle of pepto bismol in my box. Thinking it would help settle my stomachs and colon I decide to take some. Well that was possibly the worst idea I could of had st the time. Someone had decided to play a joke on me and put hot sauce in my medicine. Instant burning all the way down. My stomach is now doing front flips and back flips and side flips and any other flip you could possible image. Now I need to vomit. Made it in time to the bathroom luckily. That pepto was the only thing I had in my stomach and it felt like I was spewing hell fire. Now I like some spice here and there but this was hot hot. Not a flavor hot. So now I feel even worse and I just started my 24 hour shift. Yay.", "summary": "I shartted this morning and I drank a half pepto half hot sauce mix drink that came right back out."}
{"id": "t3_l42ju", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi Reddit, a close friend of mine has just been diagnosed with Huntingtons Disease, how have you coped with similar news?", "post": "A really good friend of mine was told the bad news earlier this week, she has watched her sister degenerate with [Huntingtons] over the past 10 years and eventually end up in full time residential care, severely physically and mentally handicapped.\n\n My friend received her results earlier in the week and we (her close friends) received a brief text telling us the bad news. I have since sent a brief email offering support when her and her boyfriend (also a very close mate) are ready and to let them know we are thinking about them and love them very much. I have not heard anything further back.\n\nThing is in those quiet times I can't stop thinking about this horrible situation, I found myself making a eulogy for her in my head the other night and felt so guilty because she is not even displaying symptoms at this point and may go on to live a healthy life for many years to come.\n\nI would love to know what other redditors have done in similar situations and how best to help my friend.", "summary": "My friends has Huntingtons disease, I'm at a bit of a loss of how best to show support."}
{"id": "t3_4r6g3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] having trouble progressing with girl [17 F]", "post": "About a month ago i was asked out by a girl that I have known for about a year. I went along with it and it was all going very well, albeit a bit slow. \n\nOver time we have texted each other daily and gone on a few dates. There has been several occasions where the texts have been distanced, and I always start the conversations. Starting 3 days ago, she stopped texting back but is still clearly active on her phone (facebook/instagram etc.)\n\nI want to progress the relationship but it is proving very difficult, especially with the events of the last 3 days.", "summary": "Should I text asking what's wrong or simply wait it out?"}
{"id": "t3_2wj2en", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (19/f) tell a potential employer that I have autism?", "post": "My last two jobs ended because of certain social mishaps. I was at a retail job two weeks ago and I didn't even know there were problems, but I was fired because, and I quote, I \"don't fit in\" there. Honestly, I noticed people were acting a bit brusque with me but that isn't unusual with the 'tism so I carried on with my tasks as usual. They sprung it on me one afternoon and I almost had a meltdown because they couldn't understand. The job before that I was going through some relationship difficulties and they caught me on my phone a few times, and I had some open meltdowns at work. It wasn't good, and I don't blame them at all for firing me because I basically could not function.\n\nAnyways, I've got an interview tomorrow and I'm thinking about telling my potential employer. The psychologist who diagnosed me, however, advised me not to tell potential employers because this could sway them from hiring me. I wouldn't disagree with her. But if I were to tell him and I was hired, then it would be a lot easier to understand why I'm not acting like a fucking normal person or seem a bit strange.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_tgzuh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Drama with my BF's roommates", "post": "My boyfriend lives with four other guys, one of whom he shares a room, Max. A few days ago, we got into a heated argument that almost resulted in us breaking up. We didn't because most of the issues we have  are because of Max, a 22 year old stoner who spends the majority of his day playing video games. Max does not have a job, go to class, and lives off of his parents money, most of which goes to weed and eating out. Because of Max's influence, my boyfriend has started gaming and smoking more. At Max's request, I've stopped coming over as much and doing certain things that bother him, such as coming in from the backdoor, knocking on the window to have someone unlock the door, bringing over extra changes of clothes, etc. All of these requests are reasonable enough but they have brought stress onto my relationship nonetheless. Other than that, we get along OK.\n\nWhile my boyfriend and I were fighting, I called Max \"a useless piece of shit.\" It was unnecessary and I certainly regret it, but it was honest. However, though we were outside, one of my boyfriend's other roommates overheard when he came to smoke a cigarette and told Max what I said. My boyfriend isn't asking me to apologize to Max, but obviously that's what he would like me to do.\n\nSo here's my issue: I don't mind apologizing to Max but I feel like the informant roommate shouldn't have said anything to Max in the first place. My words weren't meant for other people and the other roommate knows that Max and I get along for the most part. Do I have a right to be angry at the other roommate?", "summary": "I called my boyfriend's roommate \"a lazy piece of shit\" and was overheard by someone else, who promptly passed the word. I'll apologize, but I feel like I shouldn't have had to in the first place."}
{"id": "t3_33j3hf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] I'm thinking I should break up with my gf [17 F]", "post": "We're in long distance relationship, but we're not very far away from each other (2,5 hours by bus). I think I should break up with her because I belive I'm source of problems. Her parents say that they like me (I'm stereotipical good and polite guy that everyone wants for their doughter). They don't want let her go to me while they'll be in another (I live in small town 30 min away from that big one), I wanted to introduce her to my mother but they don't want let her go. Everytime I say I can to talk to them for how long they want, I even said that I can sing a paper with my blood. I feel like I'm only causing problems even when she says that it's not my fault. My mind tells me that maybe I should end this but in my heart I know if I would do that I would be so sad and regret it. I love her and I want her to be happy, I just can't stand her being so sad everytime she's talking to them about this and they say they'll think over it but the answer is clear and that is \"no\". Some help, even the smallest would be appreciate.", "summary": "I feel like a problem"}
{"id": "t3_2f6n4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22 M) like everything about this woman (23 F) but her weight.", "post": "Backstory: I'm originally from Maryland, but I just came back from doing a summer internship in Boston. In late July, I met this woman from OKC.. we were sexting pics within a couple days of first contact and at first I thought all this was going to be was a hookup because of the way things started. When I first saw her in real life she ended up being a lot bigger than I anticipated and I quickly noted that she was not my ideal body type but I still enjoyed the sex.\n\nAfter sex, we just laid on my bed and talked for about 3-4 hours. We found that we had a lot in common and I realized that I actually enjoyed her company. She even bought me Chipotle afterwards. We decided we wanted to keep seeing each other, even though we both knew that I had to go back home to Maryland soon to finish up my last year of school. \n\nFast forward to last week (Aug 24), she ends up coming down to visit me for the week at my parents' place in Maryland (where I'm staying for the next 2 semesters). She's met my parents and sister.\n\nBasically, I find that I really enjoy her company, her personality, the way she supports me in my hobbies/aspirations.. everything except her body type. We have TONS of sex (2-3 times a day) but one time I couldn't finish and she asked if I thought she was unattractive and honestly I don't really find her body attractive but I think she has a gorgeous face. Of course I didn't tell her this I just said that I think she is beautiful. \n\nI like everything about this woman except her weight. She is about 5'6 and 155 and I am that same weight but I am 5'9. Sometimes I feel like I'm settling in the looks department (is this shallow?) because up until this point in my life I've only dated skinny/athletic women. Am I just scared about what my friends will think about her weight? \n\nI don't want to just cut her off since I really do like her but her weight bothers me slightly. What should I do?", "summary": "I like everything about this girl except her weight and I am a little insecure about what my friends may think of her."}
{"id": "t3_v8iax", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Looking for a Good Cat Feeder/Toy", "post": "Hey everyone!  I need some help.  Me and my girlfriend have two cats who have gotten a little food obsessed.  They were both kinda fat at one point so we, with the advice of our vet, put them on a diet of organic wet food (we use Prowl, the dehydrated stuff that you add water to).\n\nWell, they're getting a little obnoxious now.  We used to keep their food on top of the fridge, but once they went on a diet they figured out how to climb up on top of the fridge, knocked the box over and ate like a half a box of dehydrated cat food.  So, we moved it to our laundry room, on top of the washer/dryer combo.  If we ever left the door cracked they were up there again, tearing into the box.  The final straw came this weekend when we had left the door closed but they got it anyway!  How you ask?  Well we live in a loft, and they actually climbed on top of the bathroom (there's like four feet between the bathroom ceiling and the loft ceiling) found their way in the laundry room through the roof of the closet and tore open the box of food.\n\nI think partly they need something to do!  We both work a lot and I take care of my grandma on the weekends so they're home alone a lot.  I want one of those toys that you can put treats in and they have to play with it to get them out.  I've tried Kong stuff, and while they love to play with the \"snowman ball\" they don't seem interested in/able to get out food I put in it (it came with some kind of salmon paste).  I need a good toy that will let a little food out at a time to keep their attention away from raiding the food box and keep them entertained while we're gone.  Anyone have something that works well for them?\n\nThanks in advance reddit!  :)", "summary": "Need a good toy that lets out cat treats slowly to keep cats entertained and stop them from obsessivly trying to get into the box their food comes in."}
{"id": "t3_4aaqns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] 1 year, him and his roommate [18 F] used to have a sexual relationship.", "post": "So me and my boyfriend (Jack) have been together for 1 year and it's been great.\n\nHe has a roommate (brittany) who is your typical blond girl(no hate). She is very beautiful and always has male attention wherever she goes. I was using his phone and looking for a picture he took of our cat I was going to send it to myself.\n\nI got to his gallery and I saw some pictures of her in lingerie posing. I later asked him about it and he told me nonchalantly that they used to have sex. My jaw hit the floor and I asked him what?\n\nHe said for about 6 months they had sex exclusively and that he was her first. He said he didn't think it was that big of a deal and that I'm just making something out of nothing \n\nI'm very uncomfortable because they live together and she is always all over him. Examples.\n\n\u2022when she hugs him she pulls his head and puts it on her breasts this is so fucking wrong.\n\n\u2022when they are talking she'll always make some sexual joke pertaining to their past escapades.\n\n\u2022she's always texting him and even had to stop talking to me for a week because her cat died.\n\n\u2022when we came back from our trip she answered the door in nothing but a towel and HUGGED him in nothing but a towel.\n\nThis sounds bad bit we have a good relationship but I can't help but feel like it's wrong on some level.", "summary": "my boyfriends roommate and him had a sexual relationship and now she's a bit too close."}
{"id": "t3_2qoiky", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Passing Out During A Party", "post": "This F'Up happened only 20 minutes ago.  \n\nLittle Background: The night before the party i decided to watch some episode of No Game No life. Well i ended up staying up until 3:00 Am only to wake up at 7:00 Am for mass. \n\nSo I recently was hosting a party in my household with many of my cousins, uncles, and aunts. We were all crowded in a small living room with 2 couches and a few stools. I had been sitting on a stool that was close to a treadmill. We were all watching High School Musical (Don't judge) and having some good laughs. During the movie I had noticed that some of my cousins were watching vines. Then the F'Up came during my movements of standing up I had felt a big yawn. I felt exhausted and though I could close my eyes for a second. During my sleep I felt a sharp pain in my back but decided to shrug it off and keep sleeping right. Well I woke up to someone yelling my name and felt confused as all hell of where I was. I then realized I was still at the party but didn't know how I ended up on the floor. Apparently I had smashed my head on the treadmill and my back on the floor. The head bang was unnoticeable but the back pain was. My cousins thought I was messing around or was high as all hell. Apparently I had passed out for 6-10 seconds before being waking up from the best sleep. Guess I'll have to stay up all night again.", "summary": "Didn't sleep, passed out in front of family."}
{"id": "t3_22cotm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/22) am torn about breaking up with my bf (M/23) (~1.5 years) Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "I've been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and a half, and he has helped me with so many issues. After years of horrible boyfriends that basically decimated my self-image and gave me trust issues that I thought were unsolvable, my bf has been so adamant about complementing me, respecting me, loving me, being faithful and honest, etc. I feel like I'm finally past all that bullshit now, and am the best person I've ever been in my life, and I owe so much of it to my s.o. The problem...\n\nSince I was 17, I've maybe been single for a total of 2 months (if even...), and to me, that's unhealthy. I used to feel anxious about being alone and now I want the time to enjoy being by myself and hanging out with my friends (which I haven't had any friends since before college), but I'm torn.\n\nMy bf is the greatest guy I've ever been with and probably will be with. My entire family loves him, he treats me so well, and given, we have our issues, but nothing major. Part of me wants to talk to him about breaking up, but when I think about it another part of me wants to be with him. I obviously need to talk to him about this, but I can't think of a way to phrase it. I don't want to hurt this guy at all-- he's my best friend. Here's where I ask for advice. \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? I don't want to break his heart, but I know it's going to crush him. I care about him so much. Help?", "summary": "I want time to be by myself, but my s.o. is the greatest thing since sliced bread"}
{"id": "t3_49hjiw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [15/m] think I'm falling for my best friend [17/f] and I don't know how to handle those feelings.", "post": "So a little bit of backstory, I met this friend a couple years ago and we became really good friends. Initially it was over our shared love of movies and that we lived pretty close together in an area with almost no other kids our age. We started spending a lot of time together, like at least a few hours every day. We developed a really close friendship, to a degree where I really feel like I can trust her with anything or tell her anything without much inhibition.\n\nLately though I've been falling for her hard. I suppose I would say about a few months ago it started. We started hanging out a bit less frequently. I'm not the jealous type, at all, but I found myself thinking about her almost all the time, and wishing I could be spending more time with her. We started spending a lot more time together again lately and I just can't ignore how I feel anymore. I'm seriously attracted to her, both because she's incredibly physically attractive, but also because she's one of the most genuine people I've met, and because we relate on so many things; she's seemingly one of the only people who can truly understand me to the degree she does. \n\nThe issue for me though, is that I have no intention on acting on these romantic feelings. I really enjoy having her as a friend the way we are now, but the thing is, I just struggle so much with bottling these feelings. I'm normally an incredibly awkward person, and I'm starting to become more and more awkward with her as these feelings become more prevalent. A few years back one of my best friends was female and when she admitted her feelings to me it absolutely destroyed our friendship, and I'm so terrified of having that happen again, but right now I'm being sabotaged by my own romantic insecurities to the degree where it's harming our friendship. I want to come clean so I don't have to feel that stress, but I'm so terrified it's going to ruin the relationship like before. Sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Good friends with a girl for a few years, recently started developing feelings for her that are causing me to feel nervous and awkward and I'm nervous they're harming our relationship. I want to tell her how I feel to purge the stress but I'm worried because I had a very good, separate relationship with a girl ruined when she confessed her feelings and I don't want history to repeat itself."}
{"id": "t3_4z9ro2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "having intense anxiety about possibly moving out, need advice", "post": "Hello all,\n\nSo first of all thank you for reading this, now let's get into the meat of my dilemma\n\nI'm currently going to college and my parents have graciously allowed me to live in their home while I'm going to college so I can save the maximum amount of money possible, for which I am very grateful. \n\nMy father lost is Job about six months ago and has been vigorously looking for a new one. He recently has had two opportunities for employment come up. the problem is that one is in the middle of nowhere in the state we live in. They have invited me to go with them to which I have declined; I would like to stay in my current city and finish my degree. \n\nmy anxiety has been running haywire.\n\nlogically I make enough money to live with a roommate, pay all of my bills, have extra fun money, and STILL save money. \n\nbut my mind has been wracking itself with self deprecating thoughts and its honestly annoying. I was in the army and I managed just fine, so its not like I haven't been on my own before. I really don't know where this is coming from.  \n\nI'll honestly be fine no what. I would honestly enjoy the option where my parents stay and I keep wracking up savings but I'm also fine with the other option as well, but my mind keeps telling me otherwise.\n\nso I need your advice. How do I quell these thoughts of doom?", "summary": "Parents may be moving, I'm staying here to finish school, have enough money to live with roommate but my mind is very anxious and fears doom. how do I quell these thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_29npbs", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Foreigner renting a car in America - how do I not get scammed?", "post": "Hello /r/travel,\n\nI'm from the Philippines, and I'll be visiting Seattle for a convention later this year, and I'll be staying a few days extra to play tourist as well. I've read that Seattle has good public transport, but for one day I will need to rent a car (to head out to Everett for the Boeing tour/museum).\n\nUnfortunately, I keep reading about horror stories where \"the rental car company scammed me out of $1000!\". That's not something I want to be in a position to be in - that's a *lot* of money for me, and as I'm not in the US it'll be harder to fight it.\n\nSo, how can I avoid getting scammed by a rental car agency? Should I just pay the insurance, are small local agencies better, etcetera? Or is the risk so high that I should just not do this at all?", "summary": "Foreigner renting a car in Seattle, how do I not get scammed?"}
{"id": "t3_24r568", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20/f) Am I overreacting to my boyfriend (21/m) failing because he doesn't try?", "post": "So I've been with him for almost 5 years now, and ever since high school I've had this vision in my head that we would both finish college, get good jobs, move in together, and get married and live happily ever after. \n\nHowever, my boyfriend has a huge lack of motivation problem. He blames it exclusively on his depression, bipolar, and overall laziness. He has a very low self-esteem and is very insecure. He hates himself and doesn't care about anything, other than me apparently. I, on the other hand, am a straight 4.0 student with no excuses and on track to finish my bachelor's next year. But for some reason, I am absolutely in love with him and I've given him chance after chance. \n\nI convinced him to go to college because where we live a degree can go a long way. He pretty much needs a degree to get a decent paying job and is one of the few ways we would be able to eventually move out together. He's majoring in a general associate's computer degree and has his A+ Certification. \n\nSo the last two semesters, he failed all but one class. He will be running out of financial aid and probably won't get any because of his grades. Now these were easy classes as well, he even failed \"Using the Internet 101.\" He was supposed to be done and graduated yesterday. Now I don't know what to think. He was supposed to finish these damn classes for us to move on with our lives. But he didn't even try.\n\nI'm pretty much getting kicked out by my mother sometime in the summer. I don't know if my boyfriend will be able to get a decent paying job by then to help me. I'm thinking it's almost useless to push him to re-take the classes he needs to finish. He's barely tried to get a full time job in the past few weeks. My mom is also pretty much going to hate him after she finds this out.", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't have motivation to do anything, is basically doing nothing to benefit himself or prepare for our future. Says he loves me and he's not trying because he doesn't love me, blames it on depression, bipolar, and laziness."}
{"id": "t3_4y1hn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35f] ex [34m] is physically abusing his girlfriend [30somethingF]. Should I talk to her?", "post": "My ex and I were together for six years, which culminated with him holding a gun to my head threatening to murder me while he was under the influence of a drug (MXE). He has a lot of mental health problems and the drug abuse certainly does not help. \n\nSince the end of our relationship three+ years ago, he's been in a relationship with one woman and told me that he had gotten clean, which I've since learned is a lie. We have very little contact. Last weekend a mutual friend was with the ex and his gf and he was intoxicated and choked his gf in front of other people. The gf said it's happened a number of times. The next morning when everyone was sober, the gf tried to brush it off and act like everything was fine. She lives with him with her two young children. He still has guns. I'm absolutely terrified for her. \n\nOn one hand, it isn't any of my business. My life changed substantially for the better after getting out of the relationship with my ex and I don't want to involve myself in any drama. I dropped him and everyone associated with him (other than this one mutual friend) back then because of how messed up I was after the gun incident. On the other, I feel like I should tell her about what happened to me so that she knows exactly who she's dealing with (although she may already know). His behavior is clearly escalating, he has guns, and he's still abusing this drug. My current boyfriend, whose opinion I value immensely, says that I should leave it be, but he is obviously biased.\n\nI can't look at this situation objectively. What, if anything, should I do?", "summary": "Ex is abusing his current gf and I want to warn her about him holding a gun to my head and threatening to murder me."}
{"id": "t3_3v3nr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] new at dating [30sM], when to start going dutch?", "post": "Need some perspective! \n\nI've been in 2 long-term relationships since high school, so I've never really done the adult dating thing. I recently got out of my last one in the summer, and started casually dating in the fall. I've been having a lot of fun going on dates. For a while it was a string of first-dates and nothing serious, but recently I've been seeing a guy for a month and it's been going really well.\n\nI enjoy spending time with him including going for dinners as we both are foodies, cooking dinner at his place, going out to the bar with his friends, that kind of thing. This past weekend he was acting off-standish and today he said that it bothered him that I rarely offered to pay. I mean I've paid for coffees and movie tickets and a few ones offs but when I thought about, I never did the whole fumbling-with-my-wallet thing very much. He would usually pick it up, but didn't say much after that. We talked it over and I told him of course I would pay for my share from now on. I wasn't even aware of it - I guess in my eyes, we weren't exclusive and if he wanted me to pick up my tab, he would have asked for separate bills or something to the tune of, \"Let's split it.\" I would have been more than happy to - I'm not going out with him for the free ride.\n\nI wanted to get some perspective from outsiders: is there a timeline when the girl should start paying? Is it right away, or after a month? Or totally depends on the guy?", "summary": "Dating n00b - didn't know that I was coming off as ... a non-paying dating mate. Is there an expectation or timeline for when to start splitting?"}
{"id": "t3_2g7qo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [27f] scared im going to ruin things with my bf [24m]", "post": "I need help with the fact that I'm starting to get extremely fearful of losing him.\n\nWe have been together a couple months and things have been going great, our feelings are mutual and extremely strong on both ends. We are absolutely and madly in love.\n\nI have never felt so vulnerable. I've been in relationships before but have never really been with someone I would fear losing.\n\nI've found someone that if he left me, I'd be devastated.\n\nI don't want my insecurities or fear to cause problems, I get into my head alot of the times and just start worrying myself into a panic.\n\nI dont want to cause problems or push him away by becoming super clingy...I'm not even sure where I am trying to go here.\n\nHow do I cope with fear while falling in love?! I'm scared to lose him, even though there are no signs of him leaving, I'm scared something randomly will go wrong that I have no control over, I'm scared I'll push him away if I care too much? I'm just scared!", "summary": "Falling in love and moving passed fears of being rejected, abandoned? Help before I do it to myself."}
{"id": "t3_3i2ag4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking my brother in the doorway for a few hours", "post": "this actually happened to me a few weeks ago. \n\nSo, I came home after a normal school day, my little brother (13) arrived two minutes later. So first thing I do is opening the garden door to let my dogs into the garden. My brother closes the door behind me (can't open it from the outside), for fun, but opens it a second later. So he decides to go to the toilet, the guest toilet right next to the entrance. We have a glass door that separates the hallway from the rest of the house, which can be locked. (Most of the doors in our house have no keys, except the bathroom and this glass door). So I decide to be funny and lock the glass door, for \"revenge\", so he won't be able to get into the house, he can only go outside or into our small 'basement' room. I waited a few minutes sitting in a chair for him to come out and notice but he still sat on the toilet. I decide to watch an episode of adventure time, completely forgot about my brother who is still on the toilet. Then I went up to play on my computer. For exactly 3 hours till I pause it to get something to drink. I notice a shitload of calls on my cell from my brother and my mother. Apparently she came home just 1 hour ago with groceries. \nWell, needless to say, they are both furious. Though my mom is a lot more scary when she's angry. She even bought me my favourite ice, which melted, simultaneously with her patience.\n\n I'm grounded.", "summary": "I'm an idiot who is not funny and locked my brother and my mother for hours in the hallway. "}
{"id": "t3_104ss0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is blackmailing my girlfriend and I over stupid shit. We've decided we're not going to take it; any ideas for payback.", "post": "Throwaway account just in case.\n\nShort story and context:\n\nGirlfriend is here on a working holiday visa that was recently renewed. To renew said visa we had to call in a favor from a friend. Girlfriend being the trusting type she is told people she was close to including roommate (who up until recently was our friend) about the details of this process.\n\nSituation in the house has been gradually deteriorating for a number of weeks due to silly reasons. Finally we decided to leave and look for our own place. Girlfriends birthday is coming up soon and I decided id like to throw a birthday party for her before leaving. Roommate was totally opposed to the situation, saying there was no day over the next 2 weeks this would be permissible because he had work and other plans blah blah blah. Situation escalated when he started aggressively demanding his way and I called him a tyrant. \n\nHe threatened that if we even so much as have a single person over without his permission he'll go to immigration and try have her deported.\n\nUnfortunately he's a bitter enough prick that I think this is a credible threat. My situation now is this: we have 2 weeks left till we move out, how can I fuck with him as much as possible and make him pay for being a vindictive asshole without him actually carrying out his threat.", "summary": "roommate threatened to have girlfriend possibly deported if we have anyone over to celebrate her birthday. 2 weeks left till we leave, need ways to fuck with him"}
{"id": "t3_23bu77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 F] with my boyfriend [16 M]. He drinks, what do i do?", "post": "I recently had a bad breakup and a friend set me up with his friend. Its been great and im taking it a lot slower than my first relationship, but i found out today that he drinks, and did tonight at his friends house (whiskey and vodka). I dont like and try to avoid people like that but i genuinely like this kid. I made my concern clear and he seems to respect it and even said he'd stop if i wanted him to. I said i did, but that still leaves the question of if he will behind my back.", "summary": "new boyfriend drinks, i dont like it. advice?"}
{"id": "t3_u2f7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, a girl with a fake facebook identity is seducing unknown people on facebook for no reason. What should I do?", "post": "So I was added as a friend on Facebook by a girl who looked very cute, but I didn't know her. I asked how she knew me, and she said she had made a mistake, and mid apology threw in, \"you look cute.\" Basically we texted back and forth for a few days, and she was extremely, extremely flirty. My suspicious were halted when she would talk to me for 3-4 hours a night on the phone and text me virtually all day. \n\nI was suspicious, but she had a few hundred friends, a twitter account with a bunch of followers that tweeted at her, etc. It seemed legit, but I noticed one too many red flags.\n\nLong story short, I got suspicious enough I did a few reverse image searches on Google, and sure enough she is using a fake name, has real pictures, but fake info, and has added enough friends to look legitimate. This is truly a work of art. She claimed to live about 45 minutes from me, go to my University, work in a city about an hour away, and even knew a bunch of stuff about our supposed mutual church, etc. Now I realize she lives in Texas, is in a sorority, and it's all lies.", "summary": "I have her the phone number and real information of a fake girl who apparently goes way out of her way to lead people on and seduce them. What should I do? Subscribe her to cat facts?"}
{"id": "t3_32c1s8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Pooping on white carpet", "post": "This happened last week but I am trying to follow the rules. I was visiting my grandparents in Texas and had only been at their home one other time in my life since they retired and moved there.\n\nI had been consuming brisket for days because it is delicious and we don't do that in my parts. It had been unforgiving though and causing me to be rather gassy and having sloppy bowel movements. It was time to take a shower and the hot water in the guest bathroom had stopped working, so my grandma offered me to use the shower in the master bathroom. Sure, thanks grandma.\n\nTheir entire home is covered in white carpet except the kitchen and the bathrooms, directly in front of the toilets. So I strip down, turn on the water and wait a moment for it to get to my desired temperature. Then it happens. As I am stepping into the shower I fart and spray liquid disaster down my legs and on to their white carpet.\n\nFor some reason I begin to start laughing hysterically because I can not believe this just happened to me, how I could maybe make a TIFU and how the hell am I going to stealth clean this up?? I managed to attempt a clean up job but I am pretty sure there is going to be a stain. I never said a word to them about it.", "summary": "Sharted and got poop on the grandparent's white carpet."}
{"id": "t3_4k4npe", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] Just saw a dog get git by a car.", "post": "So this morning we were walking our dogs like we do every morning.  We walk on the foot path of one of the busiest roads in the neighbourhood as it has a nice steep hill,  which gives us all a bit more of a workout. On our way back up the hill we see a guy walking his dog on the other side of the street, without a leash. The next thing I know the dog starts crossing the road to say hello to our dogs(could have easily been coming over to attack our dogs) ,  the owner didn't even realise as he was walking ahead.  The very instant I thought of telling the guy to call his dog back,  a giant 4wd hits the dog,  killing it instantly. The sound was just horrific,  just a loud thump,  and the sight has been seared into my eyes.  \n\nThe guy absolutely loses his shit and starts yelling and screaming, as you would. The people in the surrounding houses start waking up and one couple came out to help with the situation. The guy that hit the dog came back 5 minutes later,  I imagine after he had collected his thoughts. \n\nAs much as I felt sorry for the owner,  I wanted to hit him so hard.  The whole situation could have been avoided by walking his dog on a leash. Especially in the dark early hours of the morning,  on a busy Street with a dark coloured dog.\n/end rant", "summary": "Walk your dog's on a lead so they don't get hit by traffic."}
{"id": "t3_tj3la", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Relationship advice for a college kid!", "post": "Reddit\n\nI'm within 6 months of attending college. I've been seeing this girl who has been nothing but my guardian angel for the 9 months i've known her. I've made it very clear to her I want to continue through college, with our respective schools only being an 50 minutes away by train. She's been having second thoughts and won't tell me, and emotionally, i'm just not that stable. What do you think i should do? i've told this girl she's my one and only, and i could be with her forever, but i don't know how to keep it that way. Anyone have any good advise for me?", "summary": "dating dream girl, need advise to get through college"}
{"id": "t3_2s78mi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (F21) just broke up with me (M23) because she needed to find herself. But I still want her - how do I eventually get her back?", "post": "So I (M23) had been dating her (F21) for two years. Recently, she had become immature and rude to me. She then went back to the US for Christmas break and days before she returned, she said she had to tell me something. She got back and said she went to a party, got black out drunk and was taken advantage of. I believe my ex 100%, but I feel this was just something extra she did to push her over the edge, to give her that excuse to say what she ultimately wanted which was to break up with me. Her rudeness and immaturity that had \"developed\" wasn't enough to push me away so that I would do the break up, so I guess I interpret this event of her getting taken advantage of as her excuse so that she could do it. When she told me this, I realised she was PARTLY the victim here and was turning to forgive her. But then I asked her if she still loved me and she said she didn't know. She said her views on what love were had changed, she didn't think it existed anymore and she felt she had completely changed. She said she had to find herself, go travelling, see the world and get some perspective. She comes from a very messed up family and suffers with anxiety issues so I understand that she needs to figure that out before she can be with someone. But I am not just losing my girlfriend, I am losing my best friend too and I do not want to lose both. I would love for her to come back to me as my girlfriend but obviously not until she has found herself. Can I still be friends with her while she tries to find herself? I don't want to completely lose her. If anyone has any like 5 steps plans or strategies, please, I would really appreciate it. And also, for those who want to call me a pussy or are just going to insult me, please don't, I'm having a hard enough time as it is, and please just constructive advice. Thank you.", "summary": "How do I get my ex-girlfriend back who needs to find herself? Can I still have her in my life as a friend while she finds herself? Constructive, strategic advice only please."}
{"id": "t3_frmqc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Need help expressing myself, being more assertive around my friends", "post": "Okay so Reddit I was hoping you could help me with a problem I've got, many of you may also have this problem. For background info I'm a guy, 22, fairly intelligent and fairly handsome.\n\nI've got a decent group of friends, 3 of them pretty close, and when I'm with these 3 dudes I can generally speak freely, express myself and be fairly assertive in partaking in conversation, but I find when I'm in a group of more than 4 people (myself included) I shut up and withdraw, I find myself just passively listening to the conversation rather than adding to it, I do this with strangers and even around people I've been sorta friends with for a year or more. It sucks because in my opinion I'm generally a pretty witty, original guy and when I was in high school I was the group clown and usually succeeded in making my friends laugh, now I'm only like that around 3 of my friends, and usually only in 1-1 conversations. \n\nI really want to express myself more and become more assertive in group conversations, because right now I feel that if I wasn't around my extended group of friends wouldn't notice because I don't really bring anything to the table. As I said this sucks because I think my sense of humour is awesome, and my true nature is usually fairly laid back and witty, and its a shame I don't often let this out.\n\nThe main drawback with this is that even in my extended group of friends I feel like a loner, I would rather be someone people would want to be around.\n\nAs I mentioned I was far more epressive and conversationally assertive in high school, but after high school I became very depressed, and self critical, basically clammed up because I didn't want to be seen as a fool (in my own eyes), I've managed to get past most of that anxiety, self criticism and depression, but i still feel like a piece of wood (or even worse, a stiff old man) when I'm with a group of people. I hope you folks can help me out.\n\nSorry if the sentences are a bit run-on.", "summary": "I need help being more expressive and conversationally assertive in group conversations."}
{"id": "t3_2si26e", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Can I be take Magnesium Citrate daily (long term) to keep me regular?", "post": "I'm a 19 year old female and I've had issues with chronic constipation since I was about 7 years old (bowel movement every 3 days or so, very hard to pass). I have tried the things that are usually recommended: \n\nI take in about 3-4 liters of water a day and I'm 5'10/135 lbs, and in the past I've taken fiber supplements and eaten foods high in fiber, but this only made me bloat an abnormal amount and didn't do anything for the frequency of bowel movements and didn't make them easier to pass. I tried exercising regularly in high school, but I could only do it if I didn't eat for hours beforehand, because the bloating I felt would make it so uncomfortable. Taking in probiotics specifically for digestive health did absolutely nothing for me. \n\nThen I read about magnesium citrate online. I ordered some on Amazon, and for the past few months I've been taking 500mg a day. If I miss more than 2 days, I don't have a bowel movement. However, if I take it daily, I am always regular. I've honestly never felt better. Nothing but laxatives have had this effect on me, but I never wanted to take laxatives long term. \n\nBut today I read that magnesium citrate basically is a laxative. So I'm concerned about the long term effects of taking it? Is it safe to take it every day for the rest of my life? If not I really don't know what else I could possibly do to alleviate my gastrointestinal problems.", "summary": "Can I take magnesium supplements for the rest of my life, or is it bad for me?"}
{"id": "t3_4hlcte", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "A guy won't admit he likes me/wants to be with me, then he gets mad if I talk about this other guy/people ask me about this other guy.", "post": "Whenever we're all bored at work, we will talk about whatever that comes to mind to make the day go by quicker.  My co-worker friends always ask me how I'm doing with my original guy 1.  When Guy 1 and I weren't talking Guy 2 and I started to hang out.  Since Guy 2 refuses to admit to me he wants to be with me, I went back to guy 1.\n\nI would like to be with guy 2, since I see him more than I see Guy 1 and guy 2 actually hangs out with me and goes places with me not just stays at the house like guy 1 does, but because guy 2 hasn't admitted he wants to be with me, that's his problem not mine.  \n\nAnd I'm getting tired of Guy 2 getting upset at me mentioning guy 1 when guy 2 won't tell me what he really wants.  \n\nGuy 2 has so adamantly admitted he never wants a relationship just wants a girl that acts like they're in a relationship?!\n\nPlus all of our friends always ask what's up with me and guy 1, too.  We've all got the same friends but guy 1 doesn't work with us, only guy 2 sees me every day.", "summary": "Guy 2 won't admit he wants to be with me, then gets upset every time people talk about guy 1 to me and it's irritating me.  Then Guy 2 gets upset when I talk about Guy 2 to people, so it's like either admit he wants to be with me but he doesn't and we are where we are, what would you do with guy 2?  I'm trying to be civil since we work together but he's making it very hard to sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_2sbpqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[27 F] has trouble with me [22 M] beeing more excited when other people are around rather than with her", "post": "My girlfriend mentioned that shes upset or even pissed off, because I seem to be way more excited about other people and beeing around them. And I am not that excited and energized when I am around her. Then I sit on the computer or beeing lazy.\n\nI am a group person, I like beeing in group with a lot of people, no awkward silence, constant brainstorming, so new ideas come up. Also we are right now travelling through New Zealand, so these people are new to me.\n\nIs there a way how I can get more energized with her? Or is it a matter of personal connection?", "summary": "I want to get more energized when only around my girlfriend, make her feel important to me"}
{"id": "t3_33i9fp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [16/m] am getting increasingly more worried that my girlfriend [16/f] cares more about band members than myself", "post": "To fill you in.We've been dating for little over 6 months now(however i have known her since childhood) and im starting to feel as if bands and band members are taking priority over me as she will talk about them extensively and admirably,and in passing has said how they're attractive etc. I have no large gripe with this,however she rarely ever compliments me(I compliment her numerous times a day and will do lovey dovey stuff like make origami hearts out of napkins and stuff) and when she does i feel as if its forced.On top of this i (unfortunately) have some jealousy issues-which ive told her about- and due to low self esteem so i automatically presume that she would pick these musicians over me.(which isnt fair i know).\nSo what id like to get an option how to talk to her about this and i don't want to straight up confront her and demand she shower me with compliments but how i can tell her that i feel as if she cares \nmore for these bands than she does for me-any help appreciated and will wilingy add more info if this post is 'popular'", "summary": "gf appears to care more about bands than me and feels like a one sided relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3naqff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17m] brother [13m] doesn't respect me or look up to me.", "post": "It's strange, I feel more like an older brother and role model to the younger kids on my soccer team or mun club than I do to my own brother. These 14 and 15 year olds really look up to me and take my advice. \n\nFor some reason, I've never really had a relationship like this with my brother. I don't want his respect in like an egotistical way, I just want to be close with him and be someone that he can look up to. Whenever I try to give advice, he always immediately pushes back or ignores it. He never wants to spend time with me and doesn't even really want to be in the same room as me. \n\nI'm a little more bookish than him, but it's not like I'm urkel and he's prom king.", "summary": "I'm not a big brother figure to my little brother."}
{"id": "t3_339oww", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friend wants me to pitch in money for gift", "post": "I belong to a friend group and when one of our friends found out her mom's cancer was no longer being helped by chemo and her condition was terminal apparently someone decided we'd send an edible arrangement. Don't get me wrong I think it was a nice gesture but we're poor college students and it was going to involve each of us pitching in $12. In our group chat another girl and I said it was too much and maybe we could find something else. That was the last I heard of it until our friend who left sent a message thanking all of us for the EA. That was in February and I've forgotten about it until now; the girl \"in charge\" just texted and asked me to pay her the $12 for the EA. \n\nI don't want to be an ass but I didn't agree to paying for it and yet I'm still expected to. I sent our friend something little on my own thinking I wasn't included in the fruit. I know $12 doesn't seem like much but I'm pretty broke plus honestly I don't really think it's fair I have to pay. the girl who asked for the money and I aren't really close so I don't know how to handle this.", "summary": "My friends pitched in to send our friend an Edible Arrangement, I didn't agree to it but I'm still expected to pay; should I or can I tell her no?"}
{"id": "t3_fw4l1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone majored in general studies or known anyone who has? Or any advice for someone who's major is not necessarily what they want to do with their life?", "post": "I am a senior in college about to get my degree in General Studies. I have jumped between many majors and could not find one that I really liked. Eventually, my adviser recommended that I consider a general studies degree. What most people think when they first hear this (myself included) is that the degree means nothing since it is general. However, after doing some research I found out that the degree is essentially 3 minors instead of one major. I found this to be quite appealing since I like to study many areas and do not have a favorite. My degree will officially be a BA of General Studies with a focus in Geology, Management, and English. I am required to take at least 18 hours of each of these subjects and at least half are at a junior senior level, but I am given the flexibility to take classes most applicable to what I want to do. Basically what I am wondering is if I will be able to find a job when I graduate and if my major is actually that important. Is there anyone who has graduated in this field of study or whose degree does not line up with their job?", "summary": "my degree is not very specific and could use advice for graduates whose career field does not align with their career."}
{"id": "t3_46oz01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my girlfriend (29F) broke up with me (29M) about 6 weeks ago. She keeps giving me mixed signals about getting back together, what should I do?", "post": "So she decided we needed some time and space from me on the weekend I was planning to propose (she didn't know about my plans), we got to talking about our relationship and some issues that had been swept under the rug for a while finally came to light on both our ends. After 2 weeks of space and time I started reaching out to try and work things out, she said she needed more time I said we should work on things together, after a bit of a discussion she decided if I can't give her the time and space then it's over and broke up with me. It's been a total of 6 weeks including the time a day space. We've stayed in contact the whole time and some days she seems to be hinting at getting back together and other days she's very standoffish and says we'll never get back together, just give up hope. With all the back and forth, I heard she was dating someone now so I asked and she said she's not, she's just friends with a guy but they're talking a lot and getting to know each other but that's it. Then the next day she's telling me how much she loves me and got upset that I deleted our pics off social media (yet she had unfriended me weeks ago). She says she wants to keep a friendship with me but I told her I can't, not with how in love I still am and specially not if she's talking to someone else because I think it's BS she won't try to fix things with me, but is willing to give someone else her time and attention. I love her, more than I've ever loved any woman before, she's the first and only girl I've ever bought an engagement ring for. My family adores her, my kids have become attached to her and call her mommy, her son has done the same with me and calls me dad. I just don't know what to do now, I'm tired of feeling depressed and being on this emotional Rollercoaster of getting my hopes up one day, and shooting me down the next. What do you guys suggest I do?", "summary": "GF and I have been separated for 6 weeks, I want her back bad, she keeps giving mixed signals. Give up or continue pursuing?"}
{"id": "t3_1ivdue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M/] got cheated on by my girlfriend of 2 years [18/F]. We broke up.", "post": "I'm a mess. She cheated on me with someone she met in Spain at a festival. I absolutely adore this girl. I've known her for about 7/8 years, and there's always been something between us. We properly got together 2 years ago, and it was the happiest I've ever been.\n\nShe's my best friend, the person who I could tell everything to. I don't have anyone else to talk to and now I'm just falling apart. She told me yesterday and I didn't sleep at all last night. The pain is unlike anything I've ever felt, and the only person who I could possible talk about it with was her. I feel more lonely now then I can ever remember.\n\nWe were supposed to be going on holiday next week together, that's out the window now. It was with my family and I have to tell them today. My family adored her.\n\nI'm just at a loss right now. I never would've suspected she would do something like this. I am so angry at her but at the same time I want to stay with her with all of my being. I don't have anyone else to talk to.\n\nShe's been my life for 2 years, and now in an instant she's gone. I just feel empty and this is the most emotional pain I've ever felt in my life. I don't know what to do, who to talk to or where to go. Please help.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me. Most pain I have ever felt. She was my best friend and I don't have anyone else. I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_f90z2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you programmers / engineers think of your project managers?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nI wanted to start a legitimate conversation about how coders view project managers and why they have those views. I am coming to the end of my senior year and I begin grad school in August where my focus will be in project management within the information technology realm. \n\nI myself have some background in coding (Java, Javascript, C, C#, VB .NET, some HTML / ASP .NET, SQL / MySQL) but not enough interest, drive, or skill to go out and do what you all do. I feel I have always been more of a people driven worker, and my passion for technology has helped me to decide to stay involved with it; this is why I landed in the world of Project Management. However, it disturbs me to see how many members of project teams despise their managers. \n\nI am asking you all this because I am finally able to start putting work in to really accelerate my learning in this sector, and one of the things I strongly believe in is getting information from the source. So I'm ask you all now;\n\nWhat do you think of your P.M.'s? Why do you think it? What would you suggest to make them better? \n\nI'm doing this so  when my time comes, I can be the best manager possible, so please no flaming.", "summary": "Going into project management. Want to know what software devs. think of their PMs, why, and what they suggest to improve; this will in turn help me be a better PM later in life."}
{"id": "t3_10ju7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "OK PEOPLE LISTEN UP! What do you believe Beauty to be? How do you define Beauty?", "post": "Ok people listen up! I am doing a survey about what people perceive beauty to be. So here's the bottom line post a discussion so that I may reap the benefits and generate a discussion. \n\nnext, you either PM me or comment. If you can send me a picture/ preferably send me a picture of what you believe beauty to be. anonymously or not, upload a photo or not, do what you wish, as long as as it relates to this question: What do you think beauty is? Maybe it is a little much to ask but I would like to have honest answers. If you don't want to be honest that's fine, I like funny shit. \n\nHere is the kicker, I want you to define what beauty is to you. I don't mean what you think is beautiful but rather what you perceive to be the definition of beauty pertaining specifically to your own life. Please post pictures as that is the main purpose aside from the notion of generating discussion. \n\nyou can also submit your photos and videos to the tumblr survey. Although I know how a lot of you feel about tumblr. For those interested it's as follows:", "summary": "?: What the fuck do you think beauty is huh? Tell me about it, no! better yet, show me! fucking show me what you think beauty is. "}
{"id": "t3_29vgvb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23f] with bf[28m] year and a half together, not sure if I'm crazy or being gaslighted", "post": "I have a suspicion that my boyfriend tells \"white(?)\" lies about almost everything, I just broke up with him after 2 months of seriously rocky on/off again. Don't live together or anything, we're about 45 minutes apart.\n\nI just need a sanity check for the straw that tipped the scale: My boyfriend posted a picture of a shot on instagram (and to facebook via instagram) last night at 01:30, I don't have him on either but my friend showed me the picture. I called and told him I was mad that he went out and drank (he said a month ago he wanted to get sober) and he said he didn't go out, why did I think that he did, but he was googling shots \"to order for when we went out together tonight,\" thought it was cool looking and took a picture of it with his phone from the computer screen and then posted it. That's really unlikely, right? I'm actually questioning my sanity at this point.", "summary": "Not sure if my boyfriend is lying or I'm going crazy"}
{"id": "t3_rkp81", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Why did I not come here before?", "post": "I was referred here during finals week last semester, but I never actually got around to looking at this sub until today. Seeing all of the posts, I can't help but feel awe and shame. Why do I take each day for granted and not strive for greatness like you do? I used to think myself a perfectionist because I force myself to be discouraged when I am not perfect, but that isn't the point of having the goal of perfection. The point is to keep moving, to welcome the defeat and criticism and just move forward and up. That's why I was reminded of [this,] and I just wanted to thank you all. My rugby club is in the playoffs now, and seeing all of these posts reminded me of what I need to be doing to improve myself and my skills.", "summary": "You guys are as awesome as anyone can get, and you reminded me of how I need to be again. Thank you"}
{"id": "t3_n2w7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What the hell can I do?", "post": "I teach art lessons to underprivileged youths at a nearby elementary school through an organization at my university. After only ever teaching in middle/upper class areas, working with these kids has been a very eye-opening experience. I'll cut to the chase though... Today was my last day working with this particular class of kids, and one table started talking about when they were afraid of their parents. Two girls admitted that their parents regularly belted them, with one also saying her dad whipped her with metal wire, too, and the other saying her dad pounded her hand with a brick. When I tried to tell them that it was wrong for their parents to hurt them and told them it's illegal, they disagreed and thought it wasn't illegal. Yet another started crying when she got a somewhat poor progress report she had to take home for her parents to sign, saying her dad was going to beat her like he usually did. A different girl also told me that her mom calls her a \"fat bitch\" and that her dad was deported and went to jail after trying to kill her mother.\n\nI asked the graduate student who serves as supervisor of the other undergraduate mentors like me what, if anything, I should do. Her exact words were, \"If you didn't see bruises, you can't say shit.\" In a sad way I agree, and I realize I also have no proof that these kids are telling the truth, although they seemed serious. But thinking about some man taking a brick to a 9 year-old girl just makes me sick.\nSo I thought I'd ask you, Reddit. What can or should I do? I need some peace of mind.\n\nSome background notes: I am a 20 year-old white female in California. My kids are 5th graders, primarily Hispanic, and low income. I am not an official teacher or counselor-- just a college volunteer mentor.", "summary": "Have heard MULTIPLE testaments from my 5th grade mentees that their parents abuse them. What can I realistically do? (that won't just be a bunch of useless paperwork that angers the parents more)"}
{"id": "t3_357181", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "They say opposites attract but can a relationship last with opposites? (25M) (26F)", "post": "I've been with a girl for two months. The two months have been absolutely wonderful. I went through a divorce not too long ago and I had met this current girl at work and was immediately attracted but was still married at the time.\n\nFlash forward about a year and I find out my wife is having an affair so we begin divorce proceedings. During all of that this new girl and I began talking and going out. I was with my wife for 7 years and didn't think I'd move on so fast but this new girl was literally the one person I would've even considered dating after everything.\n\nNow her and I are into a lot of different things. O don't really drink or dance and she enjoys going out drinking and dancing with friends, just an example. I'm 100% fine with that because you need lives outside of one another but my question is do you guys think a relationship with opposites can last or if it isn't even worth pursuing?", "summary": "Can a relationship with two opposites last?"}
{"id": "t3_m18g5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I get over bad self esteem so I can turn dating into a relationship?", "post": "This girl I've dated a couple of times is really, really gorgeous. Unfortunately, I think of myself as a major dork. I want to turn our dating into a relationship, and I think she does too. The problem is, I put her on a pedestal and say to myself, \"She deserves a lot more than you\". Any advice on how to fix my brain? I'm not looking for circle jerking (such as \"You're awesome! Who wouldn't be into a guy like you?\"), just advice on how to get myself to stop thinking this way. I can take whatever you throw at me! :)", "summary": "Bad Self esteem is getting in the way of dating progression, advice welcome"}
{"id": "t3_112iin", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I never speak to her or see her, we don't share friends or run in similar circles. It's been three years. I've tried dating other women with little success ... Why do I feel like I haven't moved on and how do I find someone else?", "post": "I wasn't sure where to post this, but felt this might be the appropriate place. It's come to this: I'm asking reddit for dating/life/relationship advice. Not that there's any shame in that, I just consider myself to be the type of person to handle these sorts of things on my own with relative ease... So, be gentle...\n\nI'll get to the point...\n\nI dated this girl three years ago and fell for her pretty hard\u2014not the first time I've fallen hard for a girl though. It wasn't even my longest relationship as it lasted just around 6 months. It was a pretty drama-free breakup, albeit not an altogether amicable one. I was hurt, frustrated, surprised, curious as to why, etc., but even though it all ended quite suddenly after an enjoyable 6 months that had me thinking long term, I knew I had to move on and went about trying to do so. I knew there would be grieving time. I knew there would be moments of weakness. I knew that she may even try and contact me and lament her decision. (In the past three years we've had three encounters where she told me she had feelings for me, all separated by periods of roughly 8-9 months.)\n\nSo, here we are: I've dated since her (nothing really serious), had other sexual partners, made what I would consider a concerted effort to get over her, and yet, I can't seem to move on. Like the title says, I think about her quite often (daily). I don't seek her out; not on Facebook, through email, through text/phone, through myspace (joke), or any other way. And I'm not crazy or possessive. (I hope.)\n\nHow do I effectively move on? I want to. I really do. I want to meet someone else. How?", "summary": "Girl broke it off 3 years ago. I've dated since, but still think about her often."}
{"id": "t3_khq1g", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Now that I have everyone's attention...", "post": "I've been waiting a year to say this: Fuck all of you who make fun of Justin Bieber. No, this isn't me trolling.\n\nReddit severely disappoints me sometimes. We say that we are a compassionate, caring, and just community but yet, when a young boy follows his dreams and actually makes it to fame we can't help but degrade him and his lifestyle. \n\nThis kid went from nothing. Literally nothing. He lived in Canada where his single, low-income, mother raised him, grew up pursuing his dream and uploaded a random YouTube video to let the world be inspired by his music. He is no different that all of the random Redditors we see who upload their videos to Reddit saying, \"What do you think? :)\" He is one of the few that made it. He practiced everyday to make it big and what do all of you do? Sit at home and fap and make fun of kids for pursuing their dreams. Do you think he took some sort of shortcut? That he magically became an amazing self-taught singer, drummer,  guitarist, and pianist over night? No. He practiced until he made it.\n\nSo have fun sitting around on the internet and living an apathetic lifestyle. You can keep waiting for the day that fame and fortune fall into your lap without any hard work or dedication.", "summary": "Fuck you Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_3xp9am", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [45+ M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 18 months, \"broke up\" but continues to have sex with me.", "post": "Before we begin, yes age gap, different life stages yada yada yada.\n\nNow we've got that out of the way, my girlfriend and I started dating in October 2014, and got an apartment together in April 2015. We got a new apartment together in London and things seemed fine. At the end of last week she came into my room and announced she wanted to break up with me because her friends were being judgemental about it and that she'd move out mid January (it's my apartment). I accepted this.\n\nHowever a couple of days after that she came into my room for \"cuddles\" which turned into her stroking my cock. I made a couple of attempts to halt this, but it's fair to say that my heart wasn't in my requests to stop this, and eventually I responded, grabbed her and we had fairly rough sex. I left for the weekend, getting a few \"why did you carry on?\" messages, but we cleared that up.\n\nAnyway I came back on Sunday, she was playing Elvis \"You've lost that loving feeling\" and let out a squeak of surprise when I came in because she was just wrapped in a see through wrap. I didn't pay much attention and went to bed to watch some TV before falling asleep. I was woken up by my naked \"ex\" giving me head after coming into the room and things ended with her riding me hard to the finish.\n\nI've tried to talk about the relationship as Id like to get back to how we were but she changes the subject. I'd really like to know what to do to keep her, but this being Reddit the conversation will suggest something different. Where do I go from here?", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me but continues to visit my room for sex."}
{"id": "t3_2cf921", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] trying to decide between two people [22M] and [23M]", "post": "I've been having a crush on a guy Alex[23M] for a while but when I first started to talk to him, he said that he doesn't like me, mainly for a couple of reasons that his family won't accept me 'cause of my religion and as I'm same age. He kept on giving me big talks about this fact saying that his perfect girl should be such and such, because of his I distanced from him even though he is nice, I knew he didn't want me so why bother? But he was getting closer to me(mentally) always talking and calling me and such.\n\nOn the mean time another guy Nic[22M] asked me out, and I mentioned to this to Alex and he wasn't supportive of it. He was kind of pissed, but few days later, I said that I have to give an answer to Nic, out of the blue, Alex comes out to say that he was planning to ask me out, he wasn't sure of it. I was in shock 'cause of this guy rejected me couple of months later and now this. I said I can't help you and you can't complain because you rejected me and that is it. But still Alex was whining saying he is and depressed etc.. \n\nI started going out with Nic, but the thing is that couple of months later, Nic is a total jerk, he doesn't care about me much and just doesn't care about me. But Alex is friendly, he's caring and he wants me to come and meet his family on an event happening in a few months later, now I'm thinking what should I do? \n\nI'm stuck between these two guys and even though Alex likes me now, his family isn't that happy with the decision of me. They are saying let's see, I'm afraid of it as well, what if we start a relationship and his family rejects me? The main reason for the family to reject is that thinking there will be problems in the future.", "summary": "Stuck between trying to choose between two guys, one is a total player and the other has some issues."}
{"id": "t3_2x6f23", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it inherently wrong for me [20f] to hang out with a [17m]?", "post": "I started talking to this guy on a dating site a few days ago. I really liked him, found him funny, cute, and charming. Now today he tells me that he's actually 17 and not 18 like his profile says. We already had plans to meet up later this week. He's going to turn 18 in a few months.\n\nI still enjoy talking to him, and if we were to have a relationship, it is legal here. I also don't think we're at very different stages in our lives since I'm only in my first year of college, and probably no more experienced in relationships than he is. Is it wrong to meet up and see how it goes?", "summary": "Is it wrong for me to hang out with a 17-year-old who told me he was 18?"}
{"id": "t3_15gzyp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I've lied to all of my friends and built a false image of myself for anyone I have ever met.", "post": "I don't know when it started. I don't know why it started. Most people put on masks or armor when dealing with others. I have so many mask and so many sets of armor. I can't pretend to be a real person anymore. I can't pretend that people know and understand me anymore.\n\nLet me try and give you some background.\n\nI am an 18 year old senior that had a chance to go to MIT full ride. I'm reasonable intelligent, 5;10, lithe wiry musculature, 140 lbs. I play sports, I did martial arts, I took advanced placement classes and I was friends with everyone. I did not date because I kept telling myself there was no one I really liked. That is what helped bring this all to a head.\n\nIt's not that there wasn't a girl that I liked enough to date, it's that there wasn't a single person around me who I could open up to. Who I could explain that I was a fake. That I lied about my childhood to everyone. That I lied about my adolescence to everyone. I've had plenty of friends, if you can call them that. I've had flings with women, if you can call them flings. I've been the life of the party and the main actor in a spotlight.\n\nI've never been me.\n\nMoving on now to the internet, I've been browsing for about eight years now. I was the generic kiddo on the internet for the first four. I quickly grew tired and developed yet another false identity.\n\nI was a 16 year old Asian girl that went to my school for years. Some of my friends still don't know mostly because we haven't talked in a while. I took on a maternal role for a forum, quickly becoming a therapist in a sense. People would come to me and ask me for life advice and other nonsense and I would lie to them about who and what I was and give them their idiotic advice. Some would come back with success stories. Others would come back for more advice.\n\nI'm really just rambling now and have no clue where i wanted to take this.", "summary": "I'm a habitual liar and have never had a real personality. I mold myself to what others want and need and have never truly been myself."}
{"id": "t3_30apnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my parents [50s M/F]. Father is emotionally abusive to my mother-questions", "post": "Sorry for wall of text.\n\nThis is an issue that has been ongoing for most of my life. My father, while incredibly successful and a great provider, has always been emotionally abusive to my mother. Luckily it has never turned physical (AFAIK), but whenever I visit home, I hear my father scream at and berate my mother for every little thing. For example, my father is an incredibly reckless driver. Whenever my mother comments on something he did that was unsafe, it turns into 2 hours of him screaming at her for constantly criticizing him. He also screams at me and my siblings about mundane things e.g. not cleaning something properly, dropping something, not using utensils correctly (?? who knows).\n\nI'm at a loss at what to do. I absolutely adore my mother and my father is enjoyable to be around when he is not angry, but I'm tired of seeing her screamed at by him. Whenever I bring up this issue, she always tells me that he is working on his temper and has other good qualities. However, my mother consistently tells me that he wasn't like this when she married him and if she had known how he would turn out, she wouldn't have.\n\nI've already told her that when I have children I will be extremely hesitant to leave them alone with my parents. Their relationship has affected my own views on relationships greatly. Beyond that, I'm not sure what I can do. Cut off all contact until she leaves him? Just continue to ignore it for the rest of my life? I have no idea what the protocol is for situations like this.\n\nAny help would be greatly, greatly appreciated. I'm tired of being a passive bystander.\n\nSummary of what he does: demeans her opinions and beliefs, always believes he is right, yells constantly, doesn't care about feelings, constantly makes threats.", "summary": "My father is emotionally abusive to my mother, with a ridiculous temper. She won't leave him. Advice on what to do as their child."}
{"id": "t3_2un1wr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling in love with a lesbian", "post": "This happened last summer at UConn. I live in Connecticut.\n\nMy bestfriend has a girlfriend, who has an apartment at UConn. I like to drink and got really drunk walking around after we tried to sneak into a bar without paying the upfront tab.\n\nWe tried to get in through the kitchen. It smelt like buffalo wings, I led the way.\n\nNon-sequitur. \n\nWe got kicked out almost immediately. Being my drunk self, I lost my friends and made new friends, which I believe were frat boys. \n\nDrunk dancing like the left shark in the Super Bowl and started talking to hot black girls. They say they have a lesbian friend. Drunk JJ only hears Barney Stinson(I love HIMYM) say \"Make a lesbian straight. Legen-dary.\" \n\nMeet lesbian friend, hook up and dance, fall in drunken love with a girl who is cool. For the first time in my life, my hook up meant something. We talked and I actually liked this girl. \n\nFast forward 30 minutes later to a random dorm. She's hooking up with another random dude. And another dude. \n\nShe hooked up with 3 other dudes after me. I don't think she was a lesbian. \n\nDrunk JJ doesn't care. She jumps on my lap and starts kissing me again after these other dudes. I liked it till I get that I'm being played.\n\nMy heart was broken until I realized there's a lot of lesbians I can turn straight. \n\nAfter leaving this random dorm, I got attacked by a deer. A deer in the middle of UConn's campus jumped me. I ran away and lived to tell this story to reddit.\n\nI was so lost and drunk my best friends girlfriend had to find me. In the meantime, I ran into a skunk who ran away from me. I believe it was because of the fake lesbian smell.", "summary": "got drunk. Hooked up with a \"lesbian.\" Lesbian kissed other guys and ditched me. Got jumped by a deer."}
{"id": "t3_1xhqet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with a girl [16 F] who I don't know how to let down.", "post": "There is a backstory behind this so let me give it to everyone straight. I'm 17 M never dated anyone before. I have made posts prior to this one based around my issues with being able to date.\n\nMy biggest issue is that once a girl peeks my interest I pursue her until she develops the same feelings. Once I understand she is interested too I sort of back off. A friend of mine called me a \"chaser\" which is what I feel I am.\n\nNow I have this girl that I know, really sweet, really smart, talented, the whole thing. I found recently she has feelings for me and we talked a bit about it after I mentioned I was aware of them. \n\nWhen we talked I gave her the impression that I wanted to date her and that we should talk in person and hang out a big more to be dating. The only issue is my gut AGAIN like always is telling me I'm not interested even though I really want to be, I'm just not.", "summary": "I don't know how to let this girl down after already giving her the impression I wanted to date her. I feel absolutely terrible about it."}
{"id": "t3_4p6ad4", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Petty pool day destruction", "post": "So yesterday my girlfriend and I were at a public pool trying to relax a little bit and maybe catch up on some reading. Unfortunately it started raining so we took shelter under a little poolside gondola that fitted two people. The two of us were sitting and talking and having a nice time when a tennis ball bounced over to us. I noticed a group of about five boys around the age of 12 looking at me so I assumed they had accidentally overthrown it and rolled the ball back to them. \n\nTwo minutes passed and another ball flies up to me. Again I rolled it back. After the third ball I knew something was up and I started to watch as the boys would wait until we weren't looking and throw a ball at us and then run up and retrieve it. After multiple throws, one of the balls flew up and smacked my girlfriend right in the chest. I threw all of the tennis balls I collected over the fence and glared at the laughing kids. \n\nThe lifeguard walked up to us with a smile and told us to let her know if they threw another ball because she would love to kick them out. She also mentioned that she had berated the kids. \n\nTwo of the kids came up and gave us a meek apology but my petty revenge was already plotted. The kids had not thrown a ball after the lifeguard's talk but on our way out we stopped by her stand and told her how they threw more balls at us. My girlfriend and I watched triumphantly as their pool day came to a sudden close.", "summary": "a bunch of kids keep throwing tennis balls at me so I get them all kicked out of the pool even after they stop."}
{"id": "t3_g6swf", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Suggestions for great sides for baked BBQ Chicken thighs. Also a chicken question", "post": "On Sunday I am having family over and I plan on baking chicken thighs with BBQ sauce. I was thinking on Saturday cook them off with skin on, then cool them and take the skins off. On Sunday bake them with Sauce, 30 mins, turn, re-sauce, 20 minutes, re-sauce, then another 20 to finish them. Anyone have a comment or suggestion that might make them better? or any alternate way of doing them (Not BBQing outside, we are expecting snow tomorrow)\n\nAlso I am planning on a Hashbrown casserole and maybe a double corn casserole recipe I have made a few times that goes over really well. Anyone have a suggestion for another great side dish that isn't overly complicated that would go well with the chicken?", "summary": "Making Chicken, asking for alternate cooking methods and great side dish suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_yg5o8", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Help Finding a Home [Maryland]", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'm trying to find a home for a sweet stray cat. I'm taking care of a friend's cats for the weekend, and in the instructions, they ask me to feed a stray cat living behind their house. She's a sweet shy gray cat, and she earned the nickname Troll for living under a small bridge over their creek. \n\nShe seems to have some injury or condition that's causing her left ear to droop and left eye to stay half shut, and she is certainly a bit ragged. Despite all she's been through, she seems to be friendly if a bit shy. Her hobbies at the moment would be rubbing her face on the reeds by the creek and peeking out of her hiding spot to watch me.\n\nI don't know much about cats or taking in strays (my family has allergies :/), but I hate to see such a gentle soul without a loving family. Is there anyone in the area who is interested in taking her in?", "summary": "I want to find a home for a sweet stray in Ashton, Md."}
{"id": "t3_267rqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if this is the right place. My [30m] SO [28f] doesn't think she's pretty.", "post": "I recently saw a commercial on TV for Dove soap. In the commercial a statistic came on the screen that stated, \"9 out of 10 women do not think they are beautiful\"\n\nMy gf [28f] falls into the 9 out of 10 women who think that. \n\nShe is blonde, blue eyes and petite. Has amazing curves in all the right places. Big breasts and a great ass. She exercises three times a week. Loves to dirt bike and shoot guns!  (I think her personality is just as beautiful as her body)\n\nWhen we walk down the street,  almost every guy we walk past checks her out. She doesn't notice this. My guy friends have all let me know I'm pretty lucky to have found a girl as good looking as her. Her female friends are jealous of her body. Her bi friend has even expressed interest in having sex with her!\n\nWhat I'm getting at here is that she is clearly beautiful to everyone but herself. :(\n\nShe recently has expressed the desire to get botox done on her forehead and between her eyebrows. Preventive measure she'll tell me. \n\nI don't disagree or think it a bad idea. I just feel like she's doing it for the wrong reason. That reason being that she feels like she's not pretty. \n\nShe had a breast reduction in the last year. And recently started getting her eyelashes extended. I think this is relevant. \n\nWhat can I do? I tell her all the time she's beautiful. I'll send random texts, leave notes in her lunch, flowers. Everything I can to get her to accept she's pretty. \n\nI want her to feel pretty before she needs to change her entire body.", "summary": "my girlfriend doesn't think she's beautiful. She is to everyone but herself. How can I help her see herself the way everyone else does?"}
{"id": "t3_wv01k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today at McDonald's I was kicked in the face by a toddler. The parents of the child refused to discipline their child claiming it was an \"accident.\" I was flabbergasted. What are your experiences in dealing with unruly children in public places as well as their uncooperative parents?", "post": "So I was enjoying lunch with my two daughters in the play area of our local McDonald's. After eating I was seated on a bench watching my children play with the other children. This little boy jumped on the bench I was sitting on several times, damn near jumping on top of me. While he was doing this I would shoot his parents a look of, 'hey, you wanna get your kid under control?\" They would look at me as if it were no big deal. The final time the child jumped on the bench he began kicking his feet all while inching closer and closer to me. The final inches of his movement landed me a round house kick to the face. I went over to the parents (who witnessed the kicking) and asked them to please get their child under control. They told me that it was just an \"accident\" their child's foot ended up kicking me...in the face. I became so pissed I gathered my children up and stormed out. Upon exiting the play area I overheard the mother of the child tell her son, \"don't worry sweetie. The mean lady is leaving.\"\n\nI am a parent so I understand that children are predictable, but it is my belief when they do something wrong they should be disciplined. I wasn't asking for a lashing from these parents, but something other than \"it was an accident.\"", "summary": "Unruly child kicks my face and parents refused to make amends."}
{"id": "t3_334ntb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I be concerned about my friend's one time use of MDMA?", "post": "So I've always had the \"traditional\" view on drugs I.e. all drugs are bad etc. When I met my friend, who smokes weed, I've attempted to open my mind somewhat about drugs. I don't have a problem with her smoking weed in fact I've tried it with her a few times.  \nHowever, last night she told me that a few weeks ago she and a couple of friends did MDMA. I'm not sure how I feel about this. Because of my upbringing, I always thought MDMA will fuck you over big style, but after I did some research I felt a little better. I'm still uneasy though. She did say \"I probably wouldn't want to do it again, it was fun and all but ehh\"  \nAm I right to be concerned that she's going to have no qualms about trying even harder stuff I.e heroin, crack, meth?  \nThere's a certain uneasiness I feel in addition, which I can't quite pin down, I think it stems to the fact that my wonderful, awesome friend is trying things I'd never considered her doing, and that opens a new side to her I've never seen before. But thats my problem, not hers.", "summary": "Friend tried MDMA, said she liked it but probably won't do it again. I'm still concerned that she may do it again too soon, do other things which will fuck her up and seriously harm herself one day."}
{"id": "t3_2wge9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my gf [19 F] of 6 months, communicate too much?", "post": "we've been speaking to eachother practically every day, atleast every few hours for the last 6 months and this morning she just started ignoring me? i see her active on social media yet she doesnt respond to anything i say, which is weird. but im starting to realize just how much we communicate so maybe this is healthy? \n\ni dont think ive ever really been in a \"healthy\" relationship before, my last gf of a year cheated on me the one and only night we decided to go off to separate parties in a year long relationship, and we communicated daily. so should i say something, or... am i being too clingy?", "summary": "is texting eachother every few hours unhealthy? we haven't spoken in 12+ hours and im feeling antsy and paranoid... am i being too clingy/psychotic?"}
{"id": "t3_2c0tmr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting high and petting my dog", "post": "Me and my brother got high this morning and decided to plug in the ole gamecube to the tv, so we go to our garage to find it. We find it and we decide to take it upstairs. \n\n(We have some stairs that lead from the house into the garage, and we did not realize our dog followed us down the stairs to the garage.)\n\nAnyways I tell my brother I will carry her up the stairs and he can keep taking the gamecube to the room.\n\n(I got a big golden retriever dog thats pretty old so she doesn't like to climb up stairs, shes around 80 pounds or something like that)\n\nAnyways as I go to pick her up, and me being high as fuck still thought she was very soft. (I was also shirtless so it felt really good)\n\nSo I start rubbing against her and hugging her and all of a sudden my garage door opens up and three construction workers were staring at me, shirtless, in the middle of a garage, rubbing against my dog.\n\n(apparently there was some work being done today I forgot about)\n\nThey just started in awe for a little bit then one of them was like \"well give you a few more mins\" and they walked away for a bit, two of them looking confused as fuck and one of them chuckling...", "summary": "I was shirtless rubbing against my dog in my garage and 3 construction workers opened the garage and thought i was probably into some bestiality"}
{"id": "t3_3e9pgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friends [20s M/F] some new most old, getting kind of annoying lately.", "post": "I have a relatively big friend group that kind of expanded around a year ago with the addition of my friend's girlfriend's friends. Lately these girls have just seemed to have non stop drama with one another and with some of our guy friends.\n\nOne of them comes to me for advice quite often and the others try to talk to me about their issues too and its to the point where I don't enjoy being around them too much anymore. So I decided to take a break from them, left the group chat that we were in and explained to whoever asked that I need my space from all the drama. I just want to know if I made the right decision.", "summary": "Drama filled friend group, decided to leave for a little. Did I make the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_3w07li", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(Advice) womens who's OH had a snip", "post": "Hi girls, looking for bit of advice in sight in to my gf. Right me (m32) and my girl (f31) been together for 7 years we have 2 kids together (plus I have 1 from previous) be our kids we said always wanted 2 no more Before our recent son I set to have the snip before he was born, but she wanted me to pull out which I did. 5 months on after we had our son she was saying she Deffo don't want any more as when we have my other kid its like having 3 while is hard work. now I booked the snip for the 11 if Jan and she now saying she don't want me to have it, is this just a woman/motherly feeling that trying hold on or something. Thing is I WANT this snip and she knows this but I don't her hating me for having this or me hating her, and it ending the relationship.", "summary": "gf can't make up her mind on snip, why?"}
{"id": "t3_2i50rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20 M] 2 years, I've lost him", "post": "So my boyfriend of 2 years and I were having a lot of problems. I wasn't in a good place and pushed him away. Now we are broken up and no longer friends.   \nWe tried being friends but he said he couldn't handle it and needed some time to get over me. Every day since we stopped talking as friends I miss him and regret all our decisions. Yet I feel with the distance and different points in our lives we cant be together romantically. We were so close and hung out every day when we were together. I know you are supposed to be able to let go of the ones you love, I want nothing more for him to be happy, I just miss him so much. We said before if given the opportunity to get back together, when I am back on campus, we would. I'm terrified of losing him from my life all together.  \nSo what should I do? Let him forget about me for now so he can be happy? I'm so tired of hurting him", "summary": "I've lost the most important person in my life, should I just let them go?"}
{"id": "t3_2nc3g6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Hotel room next door won't turn down their TV...", "post": "I moved into a super crappy extended stay hotel for a week because my apartment lease ran up on friday and I can't move into my new place until Wednesday. Horrible management, ghetto furniture, weird smell, half working heater, but whatever I'm a single guy right? Suck it up, save a few bucks by staying in a cheapo place.\nWe'll along with all that are paper thin walls and a horrible neighbor that moved in yesterday. They have a dog that barked all day yestersay and when they finally got home they turned their TV volume way up. I went and knocked on their door twice asking to turn it down with no result. Didn't get to sleep until 1 when they finally turned it off.\n\nCut to today, I've had 3 more hours of dog barking until they got home and then dancing with the stars cranked way up followed by what I think is Nancy Grace coverage of Furgeson and they won't even answer the door this time. I'm done at this point so I hooked up my laptop, maxed the TV and hit play on a 30 minute Nyan Cat loop. I'm ready to fight dirty. Up next is heavy metal from my high school days. \n\nMuted the TV at the end of typing this, I've won! They turned it down!", "summary": "hotel room next door are jerks and won't turn down tv or quiet their dog, 30 minutes of Nyan Cat full volume. Now quiet tv and quiet dog."}
{"id": "t3_s5qxp", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Studying in Madrid this July, have a free week after. What should I do?", "post": "Basically, as the title says, I'll be studying in Madrid this coming July through a program with my (American) university. \n\nI have a free week after and am trying to figure out how I would best spend it. I realize it's not a lot of time, but I'd like to hear what you would do if you had an extra week.\n\nI'll probably have seen enough of Spain (and a little bit of Portugal, probably) to be happy, so I'm thinking of traveling elsewhere in Europe. However, I'm a Brazilian citizen, which probably doesn't affect much, but it's worth considering if I have to cross borders. \n\nI don't expect to go backpacking/hiking/scuba-diving or anything like that in such a short amount of time, but I'd be very happy being a \"fish out of water.\" I love beaches and mountains, really any scenery or cities would be cool with me. \n\nBasically, this would just be a good way for me to whet my appetite with a little bit of Europe. Probably I have enough time to explore maybe two cities or so counting travel, maybe see a good museum or two and eat some interesting food. \n\nIf you have suggestions (anybody know anything about getting into the Paris tunnels?) about any thing that I just **need** to see/visit/eat/dance or something, I'd love to hear it. Also, my birthday falls during this free week, and I don't know if I'll have any companions with me as of yet, but anything I could do to celebrate my birthday would be cool as well.", "summary": "Have a free week July 28-Aug 4, will have been studying in Spain, want to see cool/interesting stuff and celebrate my birthday."}
{"id": "t3_2zqwvb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] FWB [23 M] secretly took screenshots of my nudes. I want them deleted, he said no. What do I do?", "post": "Throwaway account. I have never posted on Reddit ever so please be gentle on the formatting! I am trying my best.\n\nI met Nick* on Tinder. I was just checking it out for fun, my best friend loved and used it etc. I met up with him and we just hung out. He's a nice guy and I just had broken up with my ex. So we became friends with benefits.\n\nSince I left that summer for college, we just sext a lot. And often it was just texting but sometimes he would ask me for some pictures and I was naive  so I thought a 3 second picture on snapchat should get the job done and keep me safe.\n\nThree months into this; snapchat notified me with the little triangle symbol that he had screenshoted it. And I **FLIPPED OUT**. I told him it made me uncomfortable and so the next time we met up, I had him deleted them off his computer. And I thought he understood that I didn't like the fact that he saved the pictures. He said he would stop. \n\nRecently, we met up and I asked him if he saved any of the pictures. And he said that he didn't. However, I saw on his phone that he had one of the apps that allows you to secretly screenshot snaps without letting the other person know.  \n\nWhen he returned, I asked again. And he said maybe he saved a few and that he only did it because he really liked them and he saved them for fun. I begged him to delete the pictures and he said no. So I left. And he deleted me off snapchat. \n\nThis guy that I trusted, has nudes of me. I am terrified and I understand I should never ever taken them in the first place. But I never thought he would be this kind of person. He was so sweet in the beginning. I fear he'll share them and ruin my career. I had a nightmare last night that he had cameras in his bedroom and that he has videos too. I don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Sexted with a fwb on snapchat; he refuses to delete them. I am in fear of him distributing them. How do I convince him to delete them?"}
{"id": "t3_mt40b", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Guilt about loans: holding me back, or keeping me from being a moron (again)?", "post": "I graduated college with no debt 5 years ago (majored in English Literature, mistake number one), then threw that all in the garbage by taking out a large student loan to start a graduate program I subsequently quit.\n\nI have been working whatever part-time jobs come my way since then. I promised myself that if I ever go back to school, I would save up my money first and pay my own way because I felt so stupid about being in debt with this loan for no reason.\n\nBut I have recently decided what I want to do with my life. I want to go back to school to get started on this path, but my current job pays less than 10 dollars an hour and I can't imagine how long it would take to save up enough money to really get started.\n\nShould I go ahead and take out loans to finance my education now that I know what I want to do? Or is my guilt and hesitancy about debt rational? I know I'm miserable right now, but nothing is guaranteed and I feel like I may just be setting myself up for more misery and even deeper debt down the road if I still can't find a decent job later on (I want to go back to school to become a teacher and I know sometimes it's difficult for new teachers to find work). I really can't see finding a stable decent job with the degree I already have. I'd appreciate any advice.", "summary": "Paying off a loan for a degree I never got, now I want to go back to school but I would need to take out more loans. Should I go ahead?"}
{"id": "t3_2c2446", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My gf (17/F) is driving me (18/M) crazy!", "post": "I have been with my gf for around 9 months now, and she is starting to get out of hand. She gets upset when I cant see her because I have to work, or do something at home, etc.(we see each other about twice a week) We argue because she \"misunderstood\" what I said, and corrects herself and apologizes. We constantly get in big arguments late at night because I'll be tired, and want to go to sleep and then gets upset because she feels like I don't want to talk to her. (This happens at 11-12 at night. She stays up till 5am) fast forward an hour or two and she calls me/text saying she wants to kill herself and no one wants her. Sometimes I wake up sometimes I don't. I feel like the worst person in the world when I don't wake up.(this happens and few times a week) I can't speak nor even look at other girls because she is jealous, and gets pissed if they look at me. (example: went to get a haircut and brought her with me she got very angry because it was a female cutting my hair.) She hates my family because most people in it are jerks. Which to her i can understand but thats normal for people in my family to jerks to each other. The problem is its at the point where i cant even talk to my mother without her getting suspicious. She gets upset when i hang with my friends instead of her. She feels like i hang out with them all the time when im not with her when really its just every other week or so. Shes tried going to counseling for self esteem issues. She went to six different people and said it was a waste of time and all they want is money. I'm at the point where I feel like everything I do that doesn't involve her upsets her, and I feel like I cant love someone who doesn't love themselves. Should I just end the relationship now or try to hang on for now? Thank you for reading the wall of text and if there's anything I need to add just say so.", "summary": "gf has self esteem and jealousy issues and its driving me crazy"}
{"id": "t3_uxobl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your favorite picture of yourself?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI run a little magazine about personal favorite photographs and the stories behind them. It is basically about photographic memories, the kind of picture you keep in your wallet or on your fridge door. In the next issue, I'd like to add the section \"favorite photo of yourself\" and I figured this would be a nice way to reach a lot of people.\n\nI am no ramparting capitalist trying to use Reddit for my business, the magazine has a small print run of 1,000 copies and the sales are merely cost-covering. It is available in selected bookshops worldwide, though. If you want to find out more about the publication, just google my username \u2014 putting a direct link in here doesn't feel right.\n\nI want to select one of your photos to be featured in the magazine. I will of of course **not** publish anything without permission. I can't pay you since I don't have a budget, but if your picture gets printed, you'll receive a free copy.", "summary": "I want your favorite picture of yourself for an independent photography magazine"}
{"id": "t3_2yir4d", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Hysterectomy", "post": "I am 26 years old, married with three children to my childhood crush. We have both agreed that we are finished having kids and he was to go in to have a Vasectomy. While planning to have this done for him, I noticed that my periods were becoming extremely heavy and painful. I saw an OBGYN and found out I have an extra, EXTRA thick utero lining, a prolapsed uterus, and behind, and to top it all off, I have endometriosis.  The doctor was shocked to hear that I have three children due to all the issues I have with my lady parts. He did tell me though, that I am going to need a partial hysterectomy (take everything but my ovaries), so I do not go through menopause at such a young age. \n\nHe informed me that recovery time is anywhere from 8-10 weeks. My husband was trying to comfort me by   telling me that I could be one of the lucky ones and have a short recovery time. He told me that he knows of a lady that went back to work only after 2 weeks after her surgery. Whether I spend 2 weeks or 5 months in bed, my husband will be there when he can to make sure I am comfortable :)\n\n I had a surgery about 4 years ago to have an IUD removed by my appendix and it was done via laparoscopic and I wound up back in the hospital the next day for 24 hours due to the amount of pain I was in from the air they pump into your tummy. I have had 4 surgeries done on my ear and one on my tonsils and my recovery was normal for those.\n\nSo I guess now that you have heard a FULL life story, I would like to know what to expect for this surgery coming up in the summer and how long this recovery time is and how much pain other women were in. Also my mother does not work during the summer, so I have someone to watch all three of my kids during my recovery, so I am not worried there.", "summary": "having hysterectomy, scared. What should I expect?"}
{"id": "t3_28mk8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25F) and my guy (25M) of 6 years are in a bit of a huge argument due to another girl who has caused problems before.", "post": "Let's see my ex SO of 5 years and I have been trying to work things out, but there are some factors that pretty much scream RUN. It starts off during the middle of our relationship when he talked to this girl during us dating, it caused us to break up because I would constantly bitch to him about how its fucked up he is talking to another girl so much. It turn out that I was right in the end about them \"talking\". Well we got back together not too long after I found out, because he was begging and promising that he did not know what he was doing and that he would drop it and I was in a tough place because I lost someone(death). Well years have passed, and we had broken up again. This time he told me that he had liked her, months later we started to try and rekindle things and then I saw him talking to her again, but he claimed he was fighting with her because she was talking to a kid he did not like. I asked him why he cared so much, and he said it was because she was his friend and he despises the kid. Which I know it total bullshit, but yet we were still trying to work on things. After months have passed, we still are trying until he started hanging out at her house, and she has been attending parties at his with her boyfriend and all because they all have mutual friends. He will talk to her, and continue to hang with her and friends. This is all no problem since we are technically not together. The issue is he does not understand why I would not be with him if he was friends with her, and he thinks it would be okay to be friends with this girl if we did get back together. Can someone give me their opinion as to what you think about all that?", "summary": "Ex broke my trust multiple times with this girl, and does not understand why I dont want to be with him if he is only friends with her?"}
{"id": "t3_39ma54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my bf [24M] of 2 years are having issues because of my personal problems", "post": "I have a history of ending relationships out of nowhere. I'm not entirely sure why besides that I just get scared of the commitment that comes with long term relationships.\n\nAs of recently, I have just been feeling really not myself. I have good days and I have bad days where I feel really low. On the good days I'm convinced that I'm just being weird and that it will pass. On bad days I feel really negative and agitated.\n\nAs of recently the low days are outnumbering the good days. I feel very irritable and I feel so bad for how my bf has to deal with it. I sometimes don't feel like being touched. He is so loving and just wants to be near me and snuggle all the time but it just makes me push him away and get agitated. The more I push the more he tries to fix it and by being more loving.\n\nI have zero sex drive and I end up declining his advances because I never feel up to it. We talked last night and he said he feels like I don't care about him as much anymore. That broke my heart because i feel absolutely terrible with how I have been treating him.. being distant and not wanting to have sex. And I know he has to feel that way based off of how I act but I am having a hard time dictating how I feel and why.\n\nI don't think it is the relationship unless I just don't like being smothered with attention but it feels more than that. I quit my recent job because it was too emotionally draining and I feel like I want something but I just can't put my finger on what.", "summary": "I have been feeling \"off\" and it makes me agitated and distant towards my boyfriend who in return feels like I care about him less. I don't know what's wrong."}
{"id": "t3_19q6fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend said he'd (on average) rather spend time with his best friend..", "post": "I'm a 17f who has been in a relationship with a 17m for 2 years next week. I was jealous of his 20f best friend for a while at the start of the relationship but got over it.. even now though I always feel like he lights up when he talks to her.\n\nTurns out, on average, he would rather spend time with her than me because (quote) \"conversation flows better but thats just her personality and how she is, everyone flows nicely with her\".\n\nAm I right to be upset? \n\nAlso they've been best friends for 6 years and he's never found her attractive. He says they're like brother and sister which is true.\n\n(this will be deleted in a bit)", "summary": "Boyfriend said he'd rather spend time with his best friend than me."}
{"id": "t3_y18tw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst you have ever been screwed over?", "post": "2 months ago. I was in a good relationship and we we're both quite happy but all of a sudden she broke up with me saying stuff like i didn't care or i didn't have enough time for her. I work full time and we would hang out about 3 times a week. I learned that some guy had been telling her stuff like that for a while saying she needs a guy who will be there for her all day and all week. this guy mind you is a loser who has no job and doesn't go to school. Just love getting the shit end of the stick.", "summary": "be successful in life lose most valued thing to someone who is unsuccesful"}
{"id": "t3_2j6jlq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] am seeing a girl [20F] unlike any girl I've ever seen before.", "post": "I met a girl on OKCupid. We met up, clicked, and have been out around 10 times together now. We both live at our respective homes, me as I pay off my student loans, whereas she is a commuter at her university. \n\nWe've expressed multiple times how it would be great to actually finish a date and spend the night together but sadly it just hasn't happened yet. We are exclusively seeing one another and I'm very happy.  \n\nI am in a situation I've never been in before, as she is a very independent girl and I'm used to ones that are more communicative and open with what they are feeling and doing. I have a hard time trying to figure out what is going on in her mind. Because of this, I'm not sure if I'm being too distant or too clingy when I message her or see her. \n\nCan anyone else who has been in this situation before, shed some light on what they did to put themselves at ease while seeing someone independent? I like this girl a lot but don't want to scare her off by encroaching on her \"me\" time.", "summary": "I am seeing a super independent girl and am not sure how to toe the line between keeping in contact and friendly banter and being too clingy and smother her."}
{"id": "t3_iynih", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how should I deal with a neighborhood asshat dog owner?", "post": "Dateline- Pittsburgh\n\nAs I was pulling into my driveway one day, I saw a dog, perhaps a german shepherd mix, standing close by in the alley way, unleashed and alone.  Curious, I thought, but the dog seemed harmless.\n\nAs I am getting out of  my car, two things occur: first, the owner comes around the corner (appearance: goofy idiot barefoot hipster, but still kinda hot).  Second, the dog jumps through my open door and starts running around my front seat.\n\nI'm pretty shocked, and not sure what to do since I certainly didn't want to piss off what appeared to be a dog with powerful fuck-you-up potential.  Within about 15 seconds, the owner comes over and grabs his dog, which had left a decent amount of mud on my front seats.  He then walks away, not saying a word to me, giggling.  Rage face and expletives abound, but he doesn't respond and walks around the corner.\n\nThen I notice the big steaming pile of shit the dog left in my driveway.  Yeah...\n\nNow, a couple times a week I see him walking his dog, which always takes more big steaming dumps on the lawn of the children's hospital I live across from.  \n\nI'm always moments from yelling at him, but again, there's the fuck-you-up potential from the leashless canine.\n\nReddit, what do?", "summary": "Nuisance neighbor's dog messes up my car and shits on dying children's lawns."}
{"id": "t3_1sj431", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "(Former) Pet owners of Reddit, how have you handled your animals death?", "post": "I recently put my dog down at 9 years of age. She was born with bad hips and had an inner-organ infection. At around 15 months, she had surgery which changed her life forever. After surgery she was unable to bend her joints in her front and back legs which made it extremely hard for her to run and lay down. She was given 5 years to live and her death was expected to be by pain and suffering. Fast forward 9 years and things are getting worse and worse, she was put on big doses of pain medication and it just wasn't working like it was before. The family decided to put her down and we're all devastated, even though I am glad she isn't suffering anymore.", "summary": "Dog had bad hips and inner-organ infection and was put down"}
{"id": "t3_4kzpuj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not sure where I stand with this girl. Please advise.", "post": "Hey Reddit. \n\nLast week I went on a date with a girl I had met on Tinder. We've had trouble finding a day, so I was really excited. It was the best first date I've ever had. We laughed all the time and held hands. \n\nYesterday we had the second date which didn't go as I'd like.. Me and the girl (Sara) met at a park and it was all good. We chatted for a good half hour then got some food. By the end of date, we sat on the grass and I decided to try and kiss her and she rejected me and said it was too early. And after that it got awkward. For some reason I didn't know how to act. There was a lot of silence and I ended up saying something like 'I always try to kiss on the second date' and she asked if I had a system or something. We ended up leaving after that still joking but I really had a knot in my stomach. I texted her afterwards saying 'Thanks for tonight. It was nice. Let's talk to each other over the weekend' to which she replied: 'Thank you as well. Let's do that :)'. After the first date I got a long message, so I felt rejected. \n\nIs there anything I can do, besides asking her out again over the weekend ? I really had fun but me acting weird after I got rejected made the whole thing awkward as shit. I know the question is less complicated than what is usually asked here, still I feel like I could use some help.", "summary": "girl rejected kiss after date. I made it awkward. Not sure where we stand."}
{"id": "t3_35glxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M/17) How to let go of a shitty friend (F/15)?", "post": "I been friends with this cute girl for about a  2 years now. Although I am somewhat a little romantically in love with her (we hold hands, cuddle at home, give light kisses to each other but not  in the lips), I still get jealous when she hangs around with guys and does stuff without me. Although I care for her deeply.\n\nSo far she's been doing stuff that I don't agree with which includes doing illegal drugs, drinking alcohol excessively, having sex with other girls, and hanging out with the wrong type of people like the druggie, gang-banger, shady type of people. I feel like telling her parents or reporting her to the police for drug possession so that she can stop endangering herself with these type of people, since she is and acts far too young to be doing all this.\n\nEven though she is one of my best friends and I tell her to stop doing these things but she goes on how I'm being a too much of a \"goody goody\" in her words, I no longer want to be associated with this type of person, but I cannot help my self to break contact with her since I see her everyday at school, we talk almost everyday, she lives near me, and she is the closest I ever had to a girlfriend. \n\nWhat can I do to ensure that I can successfully break away from her? And should I tell her parents about his?", "summary": "One of my best friend keeps doing illegal activities, how do I take her out of my life? and should I contact her parents about it?"}
{"id": "t3_44ccjp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Full time student needs information on private loans to pay for rent and food", "post": "I am a full time student studying mathematics at a public university.  My father is in the military and gave me access to the post 9-11 GI-Bill, which pays for tuition and also gives me money for living expenses.  \n\nThe problem is that last semester I had to drop a 4 credit class, which put me at 11 credits, 1 under the full time student mark at my university, and now I owe the VA approximately one month of living expenses.  This means I will not be getting money at the end of the month, which I would use to pay for food and rent. \n\n I dont know where to get the money to pay these expenses.  I've considered going to sallie mae but wanted to get some advice before just doing it.  I feel like it is worth noting that I did not complete a FAFSA last year because I did not think I would need a student loan since I have access to the GI BIll.", "summary": "I need to get money by the end of the month to pay rent and food expenses."}
{"id": "t3_1dlvct", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriends Bday is coming up. I have access to a 3D printer. IDEAS!?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a bit over 3 months and her b-day is coming up. I'd like to do something special for her. It's been a huge struggle to figure out what to buy/make for her as a present because she literally doesn't want ANYTHING. She is a very charitable person and is always looking into volunteering and donating. At first I was thinking of donating to a charity/organization of her choice, but I decided that I actually want to do something instead (or maybe along with donating). I have access to a 3D printer that my buddy owns so I was thinking of making something using that. However there are a couple of problems which is why I am making my plea to you redditors!\n\n1) I have no artistic capabilities and can not graphically design anything. Thus it must be something that already exists (for example things from thingiverse.com) (Or if one of you amazing redditors can make me something that would be beyond amazing!)\n\n2) I want it to be thoughtful and a tiny bit cheesy, but something that tailors to her charitable, nice, intelligent traits.\n\n3) I have about 20 days to make and paint whatever object I decide upon.\n\nHere are a few ideas I saw on thingiverse.com that caught my eye:\n[Heart and Key](\n\n[Nice Bracelet](\n\n[Twisty Bracelet](\n\nI looked around for a good subreddit for this and I feel like this is somewhat of a thought-provoking question, hence why I posted it here.", "summary": "Need ideas for girlfriends b-day that can be printed on a 3D printer. No artistic abilities thus must be already made."}
{"id": "t3_3j4yqg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU BY TRYING TO BE A SLY LITTLE THIEF", "post": "First off this FU happened about 14 years ago. I wanted to be sly about stealing some food that I wanted. This particular time I wanted a cereal bar. So with the patience of a monk and the thought process of a child genius, I knew three things:\n\n1. My Aunt's room is directly next to the kitchen.\n\n2. My Aunt wakes up to sound and light.\n\n3. No one gets up in the middle of the night but me.\n\nSo I planned my heist ahead of time. I knew that if I had to open the box to the tasty treat while my aunt was a sleep I would wake her up. The wrapper on the delicious cereal bar was fine as I could grab that silently if I didn't stuff it into a pocket. So at some point in the day I opened the box and made it look like I knocked it off the breakfast bar. I opened half of the flap this way and it looked like my midnight  caper was fully prepped. \n\nThat night I left my room after ensuring everyone was asleep. I went into the kitchen and grabbed the box with both hands and while putting the box under one arm I grabbed the delicious **Oreo and Milk Cereal Bar** and then lifted the box back into place. Then something strange happened. I kept feeling a warm stinging sensation on my hand. I immediately turned on the light and screamed. I had ants all over my body. Apparently there was ants all over the box because when I opened the box it released the sugary smell of oreo into the air. The ants caught on to the heist and tried to stage a heist of their own.", "summary": "I tried to avoid my aunt's wrath and instead suffered the ant's wrath."}
{"id": "t3_364v07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my close friend [31 F] became intimate but now things are awkward.", "post": "So I have been in a serious long term relationship for 4 years with my girlfriend and by serious I mean I am thinking about proposing within the next year.  However, about 2 years ago I met a really amazing girl, lets call her C.  C and I have been getting closer - we text regularly, are able to make fun of each other like I do with my bros, and we usually go out for drinks at least once a week (i let my gf know this of course).  We really connect as we have the same career (finance) and she is one of the more interesting individuals i have ever met and understands me (very few people do as I think I am quite complicated).  Anyways, the other night we went out for drinks and ended up at her place.  We had a few more drinks and we end up making out - this was one of the most passionate make-out sessions I've had in a long time.  The next morning, we sober up a bit and now things are a bit awkward and I feel like shit for cheating.  She says to me that if I have no intention of being with her, its best that we don't see each other anymore. She's out of town for the weekend as she has family matters to attend to and we will talk when she's back.  \n\nI know this is selfish but I don't want to lose C as a friend and also don't want to break up with my current gf.  I'm aware that it's not fair to C but it feels like my best friend just suddenly died.  I'm not sure which direction to go ie \n\n1) break up, date C\n\n2) Never talk or see C again\n\n3) Do shit all and go with the flow\n\nAny advice on what to say when I meet up with C or advice on what to do is appreciated, thanks.", "summary": "In long term relationship, made out with close friend, close friend wants to be more than just friends but I am confused right now which way to go."}
{"id": "t3_2qgp0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27 F) shed a lot of hair and my boyfriend (37 F) wants me to pick up every single one of them in the bathroom each time.", "post": "If you ever lived with a girl before or you are one, you should know that girls shed a lot and their loose strands can be found pretty much anywhere in the house. \n\nUnderstandably, my boyfriend gets incredibly annoyed that he finds so many of them in our bathroom. So now, every time I'm in the bathroom, I always make sure to pick a bunch of my loose hair on the ground and then throw it away. I also brush my hair daily to make sure that I can catch the loose hair before they drop to the ground.\n\nI don't manage to pick up each and every loose strand in the bathroom and that's what he finds unacceptable. The bathroom floor has to be completely free of my hair but the problem is I shed a lot and so often that I can't be spending all of my time cleaning up all my hairs.\n\nIs he being unreasonable?", "summary": "I do my best to pick my loose hairs in the bathroom but the fact that I don't pick up ALL of them is unacceptable to my boyfriend. Is he being fair?"}
{"id": "t3_wyg0k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey, Reddit, I feel like I have a lot of repressed and most likely misplaced anger towards female gamers/nerds. People who may feel similar, do you consciously know why?", "post": "Obviously, it can't be all that repressed if I'm making a thread about it right now. The anonymity helps me to speak about it more openly, I believe.\n\nFrom that Nerdy Nummies chick on YouTube to pretty much 90% of the women I've raided with in WoW. Even the woman that I play with in league and know IRL irritate me greatly, even though I'd never admit it out loud.\n\nThe only motive I can think up that would make me so upset is that they are applauded for embracing their \"geekdom\" while most males are criticized. Which is pretty stupid since I like women and playing with them should be enjoyable. They tend to have pleasing voices and be more willing to play support roles(100% personal experience).", "summary": "Please tell me why it's okay to be annoyed by women who play games so I can refrain from dealing with the fact I'm a misogynist neckbeard who's unsatisfied with his own manhood or something like that."}
{"id": "t3_4czrr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] don't think I'm falling in love with my [28 F] new gf, same as last time. Worried I've got a pattern", "post": "Been seeing this girl for about a month, but we're not committed because I told her I'm not ready. She wants to be in a committed relationship. \n\nShe's had enough experience to know she won't have sex until then, which is okay with me (though not how I usually do it). \n\nWe have a lot in common: get along, have similar interests, etc. She's pretty cute and just finished grad school. I guess she fits the bill.\n\nBut I'm just not that excited about it. Lukewarm.\n\nBack in January I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 months for the same reason, and a year ago I did the same with a girl of 2 months. All 3 girls wanted to keep dating me. \n\nThere have been a few girls I've been excited about after a date or two, but they weren't that into me.\n\nI'm afraid I'm victim to the old Groucho Marx quote, \"I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member.\"\n\nThese girls are catches and I'm beating myself up for not being that into them.\n\nMaybe this is normal and just called dating. Should I break up with current girl right now? \n\nDo I just need to be patient and wait for feelings to build? That didn't work last time.\n\nShould I just be patient and hold out until a girl knocks my socks off? I think I've really gotta \"fall\" for them. But maybe my standards are too high.", "summary": "This great girl really likes me but I don't think I'm falling in love with her, same as happened in previous relationships. Is this is a neurosis, a pattern & practice, or just normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2il876", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] wants to know if overwhelming stress and being emotionally drained made you break up with someone?", "post": "5 years and 11 months (11 months engaged) down the drain. My ex-fiancee broke up with me. She said she was emotionally exhausted and extremely stressed. She is in 3rd year vet school and it is extremely demanding. We live 60km apart. I have jobs and volunteer and currently finding a career. \n\nI went to go see her because I noticed things have been rocky lately....its the typical stuff that people fight over when we see each other once a week and out lives are routine..texting is usually good morning love or goodnight love u. We never fought about anything major.\n\nI just wanted to know if anyone has broken up a relationship due to being stressed from outside factors and being emotionally drained. What does that even mean? Do you think that she will regret ending it? I think maybe she just had a melt down, but maybe some women can translate. She never gave me a real good reason for the break up. She is also seeing a therapist as well for past 6 months because she is very easily stressed out. \n\nI am on week 3 of No Contact, but I wrote a letter that will be given to her by her mom. I just want to make sure this is what she really wants. I feel that she is making a big mistake and that I can be more emotionally supportive.... I just feel like she gave up on us. I suggested that we see a counselor or i even go to her therapist with her. But she just said she can't do it anymore, that she is so exhausted etc etc.\n\nCan anyone give me some insight?", "summary": "My ex-fiancee broke up with me because she is emotionally drained and stressed."}
{"id": "t3_2296jc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (28/m) a chronically single person. I don't even know how to start a relationship with a woman, let alone maintain one. I'm totally clueless - where do I go from here?", "post": "I'm 28 and have been single for the vast majority of my life.  It's been 5 years since I've had a relationship with a woman (or even sex) and I'm honestly not sure what's going on and why I'm seemingly unable to get women to be sexually interested in me.  \n\nI've got a good, steady job, a significant amount of education and a ton of friends.  I just don't seem to be able to approach women and present myself as a viable boyfriend / partner.  What is going on and are there resources out there I can use to either learn how to change this or give me an outsider's perspective on what I'm doing wrong?", "summary": "Chronically single - what's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_4re92h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] gf [20F] sent me a really cryptic message about something she wants to talk about, but won't talk right now", "post": "I'm currently long distance with my gf for about two months since she's interning elsewhere. Last Friday I went to a workshop in another city (and am still here), and I noticed she just ceased all communication over the weekend. I sent her some messages asking what's going on, and she finally responded last night with the following sequence of messages.\n\nher: Ill talk to u when u get back from dc\n\nme: huh why\n\nher: I have something i want to talk to u about but not while youre there so ill wait for u to come back first\n\nme: i can Skype you now\n\nher: No, ill talk to u when youre back\n\nme: why does it matter where I'm at\n\nher: Oh, didnt see this\nIll just talk to u when u get back, i dont want to talk about it right now\n\nme: you said that already\n\nher: I dont have anything else to say atm\n\nI'm going back home in two days (to my place, not where she's currently at), but I can't stop thinking about this today, and it's distracting me from other things. I don't really want to press her further if she's unwilling to talk, but on the other hand I need a better understanding of what's going on right now.. if someone can help me decipher the cryptic messages she sent, it would be much appreciated.\n\nWe've been apart for nearing two months now but I have a flight to visit her in a little under two weeks.", "summary": "long distance for two months, visiting her soon, but she suddenly stopped communicating over the weekend and now says she has something she wants to talk about but won't talk about it right now"}
{"id": "t3_x83ws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Deep physical and emotional connection...but we don't want a relationship? Can someone explain?", "post": "I (male, 26) have a very good friend (female, 25) that I've recently gotten much closer to. Over the past month and a half or so we've come to realize that we are able to communicate and understand each other on a deeper level than with anyone else. We are incredibly similar, in all of the ways that truly matter. We see each other usually a few times a week, and talk every day, for most of the day, including at night for several hours. \nWe're also both physically attracted to one another, but she is just coming off of a breakup with a long term partner, and I am recently divorced, so we don't want to do anything with one another right now. But the desire is there.\n\nThe thing is, though, that we both agree...we don't feel like we want to be in a romantic relationship with one another. We don't want to \"date\". It seems...weird to us. \n\nSo my question is, what is this relationship? If we get along so well, have such a profound connection, spend so much time together, and are physically attracted to each other, why do we not feel like we want to date each other?", "summary": "good friend and I have all the makings of a great romantic relationship, but neither of us wants to date the other. Why? What is this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_c1qu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors: Have any of you ever been prescribed lexapro? Have you any advice for someone who has?", "post": "I've been fighting a losing battle with anxiety/panic disorder for the last 6 months, and have finally cracked and accepted that I need medication to get my life back on track.\n\nMy Doctor prescribed me 20mg Lexapro around 6 months ago (in the peak of all my problems - depression, stimulant use etc). I've stayed clean ever since then, and have surrounded myself with some great people. I feel a million times better, but I'm still being hit with near constant panic attacks.\n\nMy refusal to take the meds have only made me worse - I'm starting to develop hypochondria, and agoraphobia. I finally visited my doctor again, and he stated that I did make great progress in going cold turkey from stimulants and improving my state of mind, but that I really need to start taking these meds to get myself fully better.\n\nHe has now prescribed me 5mg Lexapro, and 2mg Diazepam as apparently there's a \"dip\" for the first week of SSRI usage which can be quite hard to cope with.\n\nMy main concern now however is with my being stupid enough to google it - almost every post concerning Lexpro cites weight gain. I was overweight as a young child, and had to do 6-day training sessions with a great(read:very boring and difficult) diet over the course of 2 years to bring myself down to my current weight - all of that only lead to me losing around 20lbs.\n\nMy doctor does not believe weight gain will be an issue - but if I gain weight, I will definitely wind up back in a depressing mindstate, and probably back to where I was last year.\n\nI'm also unsure of the effectiveness of Lexapro - I'm quite happy with life right now - my problem is just a constant fear of death, and severe panic attacks. I just know if I gain weight, I'll wind up bulemic.", "summary": "Panic attacks/constant fear of death"}
{"id": "t3_3pwynb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] grandma [65F] has ignored me for a month even after telling her I am pregnant.", "post": "It's a two month long ordeal but I've been trying to keep contact and a month ago she just started ignoring me. I tried calling her for three days, texting her asking her to call me and got nothing. Even random \"I love you and miss you\" texts. Ended up telling her through text that I'm pregnant. No response. My cousin is also pregnant, the other day she told me my cousins baby is a boy and asked what mine was as well as complaining she hasn't seen my daughter for two months and asking if I was ignoring her. I replied the next morning basically saying \"I know we've been talking about it, no I don't know, I texted you back when I got a chance\" my text got ignored. My husband thinks I shouldn't text her. Then she texted two days later (yesterday) \"What time will you know about babys' sex let me know\" I ignored her. \n\nI have something in my post history if you want back story on the ordeal but by going off of this even, what do you guys think I should do? \n\nMy plan is (I find out gender today) that I get my ultrasound get the picture and put it in a birthday card for my grandpa. His birthday is on Monday and I know he will enjoy it. Of corse he would talk to my grandma that day as she calls him for his birthdays wether she admits it or not. She will find out through him so why should I tell her right? Also doing a gender/pregnancy announcement on Facebook Tuesday, for everyone else. She's bound to find out.", "summary": "Grandma has ignored me but is wanting information on gender, am I right to not want to tell her directly?"}
{"id": "t3_3glhd3", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Things to do in Vienna?", "post": "In end of September or start of October girlfriend and I are going to Vienna. My cousin has a flat there so accommodation is taken care of as well as transport (train). Thing is I really don't know what is there to see apart form Madame Tussaud, Prater and Starbucks which girlfriend insists we go there (there are non in my country). Heard also something about the Zoo, is it worth it? We are planing on 5 day stay and we want to cover as much city as possible so if any one can list a local website for public transport that would be great or any info sites(aside of vienna info) Apart from all the sights any good restaurants near the center (or main train station as the flat is somewhere near) or any local pubs where young people like to gather? If any one can list a bit ''less tourist-y'' locations or less known yet still interesting it would be also great. \nI don't speak German well, is it possible to communicate with locals in English? Girlfriend does speak German but I'd like to participate in talking. And what are prices in general there?", "summary": "Planing 5 day trip to Vienna, interested in all known and less know locations, good yet not to expansive restaurants, pubs welcome as well."}
{"id": "t3_4ovr2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to handle my (F 28) boyfriend (M 30) having something of an ex lover that is also a sentimental piece of his past", "post": "My bf has a piece of furniture he's had since he was young. It's covered with stickers. One of the stickers is a name tag with his ex's name on it. This ex was like his \"main\" ex. He was stuck on her for several years (I know this because we were friends for years before dating). We've been together 7 months, and he wants to being this dresser into our house. I'm not wild about seeing her name every day. \n\nIs this petty of me? I was thinking of bringing it up calmly, just telling him I'm not super comfortable with it, but if he insists on having the piece of furniture, what do I do? Is that wrong on his part?", "summary": "Should my bf get rid of furniture with ex's name on it if the furniture has other sentimental value?"}
{"id": "t3_2aa4l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [mid twenties/F] with my overseas family--is it okay if I don't make initiative anymore now that several months have passed by since I last saw them?", "post": "I love them dearly and our family is very close despite the distance, but because of my headspace (ADHD and past history with PTSD and anxiety) several months later, I don't feel connected like I used to because I haven't seen them for such a long time and my memories have drastically faded since it's been half a year now.  \n\nI used to reach out a lot, but now I don't feel the need to reach out at all.  Is it okay if I don't make the initiative with them anymore now that several months have passed by since I last saw them?  I'll probably see them again in less than a year.  I don't want it to seem like I'm upset at them or anything, I just feel like my 'needs' have changed.", "summary": "Me [mid twenties/F] with my overseas family--is it okay if I don't make initiative anymore now that several months have passed by since I last saw them?"}
{"id": "t3_1ooboa", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "28 year old unemployed college graduate looking for a new focus.", "post": "A little background: I am a history major who graduated in 2008 (great timing) currently living in Chicago. I held a temp job in a mailroom, then worked in a bar for a couple years before getting into sales. The sales job was pretty good, but it was a work from home position, which can get rather draining when it's not something you love. I left that company because my continuation was contingent on my willingness to relocate to New England, which I was unable to do at that very time at the salary I would be receiving. Now I'm sitting around 18 months later without a job and wondering where to turn. I've worked several odd jobs at bars to make some cash, and currently volunteer as an information guy at a nonprofit hostel and as an online research assistant for another nonprofit. I'm also an active guitarist and singer, a sometimes writer, and a coffee snob who roasts his own beans (and who would love to roast beans for a living). Those things keep me busy, but I can't rely on them at this moment. \n\nNow that I've whined for a bit, I should probably get to the focus of why I'm writing. I'm definitely not suited for the jobs that \"they\" think college graduates should have. I don't feel any excitement for any jobs directed at people with my background. After a lot of research, I've recently honed in on transportation/supply chain or manufacturing, hoping to work on the operations side. As a creative person, I like being involved in the production or movement of tangible products, so this seems like a good area for me. In a nutshell, I'm wondering if anyone can advise me on how to get my foot in the door, or maybe direct me to networking opportunities. Also, it would be great to hear from someone who shares the \"liberal arts grad who just wants to make stuff\" story and can share their experience. Many thanks in advance of any help.", "summary": "Liberal arts grad is exploring opportunities in less \"collegey\" fields, wants advice."}
{"id": "t3_4tjf9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my BF [26 M] of 3 years, having trouble doing new things on dates", "post": "Hello reddit! I've been having this issue where I plan cute/fun things for my bf and I to do (things like visit a new city, take a long walk, go to street fairs, catch pokemon, ride bikes, throw a football around etc). We have been together for 3 years now and my bf does not reciprocate by finding new things for us to do but rather sticks to the usual places we go or things we've done in the past.\n\nI was wondering what your experiences has been with keeping the excitement alive, and trying new things? Does it take a lot of effort to find new things to do?", "summary": "What is the hardest part about keeping dates fun, fresh, and new?"}
{"id": "t3_1v73lh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18F] do not know what to do with my boyfriend[20M] of a year and a half , with him going away for school.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. And everything is perfectly fine. We have a great relationship with no problems, never broke up. We're really happy!  \n\nHe's a junior in college and I'm a freshman in college, I commute to a local university and he went away to school then came back  commuted to a community college for a year and now he recently got into a university where he has to go away again. We talked about it and I was really upset but I understand it's what he has to do. \n\nIt's not even distance will be the problem, it's not that far away at all, Problem is, is that he's never been single going in college and wants to try it out. He's been in relationships starting from like his sophomore year of high school. He dated a girl for 6 months, then dated a girl for 2 years, and then met me right after and we instantly clicked. But on the other hand he said really loves being with me and what we have is really good! \n\nHe doesn't know what to do. I do not know what to do.  He knows if he breaks up with me it will probably never be the same and that he will miss me, but he's telling me that he's so unsure it's eating him up. He said he kind of wants to realize he needs me by being away but I really want to stay together and see how it works out and then decide. He leaves in a week. What do you guys think we should do? Anyone have any similar stories or went through the same thing? Opinions?", "summary": "My boyfriend is going away for school, not sure if he wants to stay with me or be single, need some advice"}
{"id": "t3_2q02qz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] went out with this guy[25 M] and now I fell in love with him..", "post": "We're known each other from the internet for 7 years, exchanged pics, talked a lot in the past on the internet, liked each other a lot, but in the last 2 years, none of us kept in touch. \n\nWe work in different cities, 6-7 hours car distance. \n\nA few months ago, my job offered me the opportunity to work in his city, for 5 months. One week before I left, I contacted him and asked him out; he didn't know I was there. He accepted and we stayed like 6 hours to talk without any sexual or romantic topic. \n\nAt the end of the \"date\" he asked me when I'm coming back and he said that \"now you have my number, you can call me at any time\". And I told him that maybe we will see each other again and he said \"of course we will\" and that's it, he hadn't contacted me since and I don't know if I shoud do it, but I dont wanna push things... \n\nNow a little of myself: I'm recently out of a 5 year relationship and planned to relocate in that city and I feel stuck with this guy in my mind, because he is as I always known him: smart, interesting, people person, handsome etc. \n\nThe relocation means professional oportunities for me, but I'm not sure my boss will let me go and lately I also consider relocation for this guy but when I try to conclude things, I get extremely confused because I'm not sure he likes me more than an old internet buddy", "summary": "In love with an old friend, living in different cities, not sure if he REALLY likes me and I consider relocation there, so where do I go from here ? Am I immature?"}
{"id": "t3_2rcv3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50 F] with my[40 M/] husband, married 14 years, have not had sex for 6 !!", "post": "We've been married 14 years. He is not a 'communicator'. In fact he is a terrible communicator. He comes in the door, and either goes to the tv or to the computer. When I try to have 'heart to heart' talks with him about his behavior, he never takes responsibility, and tries to turn it around, i.e., 'well you did this or that'\u2026I try to keep the discussion on the subject. The more direct I get, he just walks away, leaving me sitting there. \nAnd I'm thinking, \"is that it?? Nothing was resolved, he just walks away???\" And that is how EVERY discussion goes when I want to talk about frustrations or issues. So nothing has ever been resolved as far as our communication and other issues.\n  There have been a number of instances where he has truly let me down, as a partner, as a business partner, and as a father to our child, and in general. Which has made me lose respect for him, which in turn has made me fall out of love with him and finally not be attracted to him. \nHe NEVER makes advances toward me. I am fit, attractive, and have men interested in me, so it isn't like I am a scary ogre! I have close friends of both sexes and have relied on them more and more to keep sane and stimulated.\nAlso in the last 7 or 8 years he has become extremely obese. The thought of having sex with him is a turn off, not because of the obesity, but because I have no attraction due to loss of respect/love for him. I think the fact that he has no self control over his eating, and lack of interest in his health and appearance in turn makes me have a lack of interest in him.\nI have no idea how to turn this around! Is it possible to become interested/attracted to someone again after they have let you down/taken you for granted??\nI still care about him as a person, and think he's a great 'friend', he is just not a true, well rounded partner, and I'm not getting what I need!!!\nWhat do you think? Is it time to move on?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3gti07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26/f] boyfriend [29M] hasn't introduced me to his family after being together over 8 months.", "post": "Bf and I get along really, really well. He doesnt get along with his family, tells me they're hateful to him, that he's the black sheep,  his family always tries to get in his business, so he just doesn't talk to some of them. He goes to his house every day, and hangs out with his grandmother and cousins on a daily basis, but I have yet to be invited over to meet them, or invited out to dinner to meet them.\n\nOn one occasion I asked if I could go in his house instead of wait for him in the car, and he said sure, but then started spriting to his front door when he got out of the car. I didn't feel like following him up his massive driveway and have to knock on the door, so I just got back in the car.\n\nHe's met with my family a few times, and they like him. He does get anxious and says they're overbearing and doesn't like that they constantly want me to come over to their house or have lunch. I agree with him.\n\nThe problem is now that my family is being judgemental because I haven't yet met his family. I am also worried that he doesn't want me to meet them, and I don't understand why. I've asked him a few times in serious discussions,  it has been talked to death, and his response is always the same: he is ashamed of his family and he doesn't want me to meet them because they're embarrassing and they'll ask me questions... he doesn't want to give his familu any kind of information about us because he thinks it ia none of thwor business. \n\nAm I being weird? Is this normal?", "summary": "boyfriend is behaving as though he doesn't want me to meet his family and I do not know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_17spu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am afraid to become over-attached to [22F]", "post": "We have dated for 5 month now and she is my official GF for 1,5month and I am afraid I might get over-attached and that I am turning into someone I do not want to be. One example, an old-highschool friend visited her and they went out partying (I went somewhere else) and he spent the night at her place (we dont live together and he doesnt live close). I am totally okay with that and I know that since she only has one huge bed and no couch that he slept in one bed with her. I trust her and I know that she would never cheat on me but still I become paranoid. She accidentally called me by his name today (and she was so embarrassed and sorry) and that freaked me the fuck out. I know that she loves me a lot and she told me that she never felt that much in love before and I believe her. Why do I still become paranoid? I couldnt sleep tonight because I was creating scenarios in my head in which she cheated on me or something else bad happened.\n\nDo I have self-esteem issues or something?\n\nI am someone who needs a lot of freedom in relationships. If I wanted to visit a female friend and platonically spend the night and I couldn't because my GF wouldnt let me, I would be so annoyed, so it seems just natural to me to give her the same freedom I am expecting of her but why can't I just be cooler about this? It feels like my emotional shields protecting me from my own paranoia are completely shut down. It feels a little like I am tripping out on MDMA or something.", "summary": "I want to give my GF freedom, but I somehow freak out about nothing even though I trust her. How do I keep my cool? I dont wanna turn into an over-protective over-attached asshole."}
{"id": "t3_3q5p97", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I (20m) obeyed command hallucinations while psychotic and am worried I'll get charged", "post": "A while ago I started hearing voices telling me I was god's truest creation and to kill myself cause doing so would give me the best reality possible.\n\nProblem is I broke into two houses (one I think ripping their door down) looking for a gun to end my life.\n\nI don't want to get legal help as I can't afford it (jobless and a pending dui charge, lost my license. It was bs I quit weed for a week and was going psychotic).\n\nThe date is in two weeks and I'm getting more and more anxious as I did intend to steal and the maximum penalties are pretty harsh. Any advice?\n\nLocation: Brisbane, Australia", "summary": "lost my shit and have pending break and enter charges as a result"}
{"id": "t3_1ks2bi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it terrible that I want to ask my boyfriend to go to a mediocre college so we can be together? (18F 17M 4 Years)", "post": "I can't talk to my friends about this because I don't need people talking about my relationship behind my back.\n\nSo basically my boyfriend started dating freshmen year and we've been in love ever since.  Some of you are gonna call it \"puppy love\" or tell me that our love isn't real but I can confidently say that I will never feel this way about anyone ever again. It's been 4 years.  If this was a superficial high school relationship, it would have ended a long time ago.  Anyways, my boyfriend has been trying to get me to study for the SATs with him. He's a really smart guy (last year he got a 2200 without studying) and on his practice tests he's been consistently scoring 2350+.  He has good grades, plays varsity lax & football, and he runs the young entrepreneurs club at our school.  I'm 100% sure he's going to get into a great college BUT I'm also sure that I'm not going to get into a very good college.  We haven't talked about what graduation means for our relationship but I seriously doubt a LDR will work out, especially with his aggressive work load.  I've always tried to be the supportive girlfriend but I really don't want to break up with him.  Is it ok for me to ask him to go to a mediocre college to be with me?  If so, how do I ask?  I don't want to be the pretty girl he dated in high school that his wife is insecure about, I want to be his wife.", "summary": "Is it ok for me to ask my boyfriend to go to a mediocre college to be with me?"}
{"id": "t3_ktrdt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mediocre problem with my \"girlfriend\" or whatever you may call it.", "post": "So.. this seems like a very mediocre problem but it has been bothering me for the longest time.\n\n1. We've been together for about four months. \n2. She isn't my girlfriend. She says she doesn't like the title of being a girlfriend and that her first boyfriend was awful. So she was only \"dating\" the previous \"boyfriends\" she has had. (So technically she has only had 1 boyfriend and the other guys were just relationships)\n3. She never has time or makes the time (She says she's incredibly busy). We probably hang out about every two weeks unless I push hard for some time to hang out. \n4. I don't know what else. She's someone I thought I would actually like and it kind of just happened. Before, she used to think I was this cool, super outgoing person (things she said before I had an interest in her) while she was this super shy girl (who actually seemed to waver on the social side). But now I'm interested in her in ways I never would've thought because of her personality and her drive and how different and unique she is to just about any other girl I have ever dated. \n5. I'm also afraid that maybe we moved too fast. Was sex on first date bad? Did it make it so it becomes hard to build a relationship since there was no tension building up on it?\n6. She has never introduced me to anybody and shoos me out whenever she is expecting anybody. \n*I just want to build that she is the type that spent her life alone from middle school to high school. Would this be the reason she treats me so? \n7. Am I just a fuck buddy to her?\n\nThe real question I'm asking is whether she isn't making the time for me because she genuinely doesn't have an interest for me and I should end the relationship or make some kind of ultimatum. Or if it is because she really is busy and really doesn't expect much time out of our relationship but she actually does hold an interest. We also live only about 3 blocks away from each other.", "summary": "In a relationship with girl; not girlfriend. Doesn't show any interest and never has time. Has sex a lot. Is she into me or am I just a fuck buddy?"}
{"id": "t3_16vt8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [f20] and my SO [m20], have been distant lately. Is it over between us?", "post": "we've been dating for almost 3 years now and I love him dearly. Lately though I've been going through a lot of stress with work and school and money problems. He doesn't work that often but he loves what he does. He doesn't go to school and never has had to worry about finances.\n\nHe's away for work right now and so we don't have much time to talk each day. Then he practically told me last night that I complain too much. HELP! All I've been doing is talking to him about my problems. I'm not negative about other things. Just my money situation, which I know is a big one. I feel like he doesn't understand since he's never had to go through this.\n\nAlso, in the past it's seemed like he's just making up excuses because when I ask for examples, he cant give me any. He says he loves me and doesn't want a break unless I want a break and think it'll help with all the tough decisions I've been having to make. Also, He won't text me back. I know he has time to text me and I'm positive he reads the texts. So why wont he just text me back. It takes 5 seconds. I can't tell anymore what he wants. He says he wants to stay with me but everything he does makes me think he doesn't. What do I do? What do I say to him?\n\nThanks to anyone who gives me advice! Ill post more if it's needed.", "summary": "My boyfriend possibly wants to end things with me but he won't come out and tell me how he really feels."}
{"id": "t3_4bd8rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] friends left me, I'm not sure why? What should I do?", "post": "Without going into too much detail, my two (supposedly) good friends of more than 6 months up and left our \"group\". I see them together sometimes and it makes me mad/confused. They gave no indication why they left.   \n\n  I want to say I have no idea what I or my other friend to prompt this, but obviously I only see my actions from one perspective. It's not so much that they didn't want to hang out anymore (understandable), but they gave no dialogue into why. \n\nI don't want to seem confrontational, but I just want to know what went wrong. And, it hurts when people you thought were your friends give no insight into why they left. Should I try just talking to them?", "summary": "My friends left me, should I try talking to them?"}
{"id": "t3_3ybrcd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20 F] of 6 months is scared that i [22 M], might cheat on her!", "post": "My girlfriend is in another country for a few months and she is scared whenever i go out that i might cheat on her with someone. I love her a lot and i would never even think about doing such thing, i'm always telling her where im going, we are texting basically 24/7 and video chatting etc. I sometimes send her pictures from the places i go to and the people i am with. \n\nBut today she told me that whenever i go out she is thinking that i might cheat on her. I told her that her insecurity might cause problems in the future. I don't know why she would think like this, i would do everything for this girl. \nI asked her if in the past releationship someone cheated on her, but she said no, but who knows what happened right? Maybe she was the one cheating and now she is worried that it will come back to her or something... Any ideas on how to solve this problem?", "summary": "Gf thinks i might cheat on her when i go out while she is not home for a few months, We text, skype 24/7 but for some reason she has stupid thoughts about me cheating on her."}
{"id": "t3_1p7blk", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "[Technology] We really gotta stop the carrier exclusivity for certain phones.", "post": "I know we don't see a lot of technology related posts (or maybe I haven't been browsing this subreddit much), but there is this one thing that recently frustrated me.  \nSo if people recall, when the iPhone first came out, it got the AT&T exclusive deal and if you wanted to have it unlocked, you could only jailbreak it. And when you jailbroke it and unlocked, as always, Apple patched it so they could have their grip on being AT&T only.\n\nNow I am probably one of the few who is giving Windows Phone a chance. I went from an HTC 8X (which was good for the Beats engine) to Nokia Lumia 925 (which I love. Especially the camera). Before I got the 925, I had the 8x, and I remember hearing that the 1020 was going to come out, and what do you know? AT&T exclusive. The only 41 megapixel phone with a sick lens to be exclusive to AT&T. Then I see that the \"exclusive\" 925 T-Mobile phone suddenly comes out for AT&T.  \nNow a couple months ago, there were rumors of a phablet phone that was rumored to be on AT&T, and lo and behold, a few days ago, they reveal that it will be for AT&T. I am really frustrated. Then they reveal that there will be a Windows RT tablet - the 2520...aaaaannnndddd once again, AT&T exclusive.\n\nThe problem is, AT&T had the exclusivity for the iPhone for a good four years, and jacked a lot of customers. Now rather than helping the competition (T-Mobile, Verizon, Sprint), phone companies are still doing that, helping the company gain monopoly over the customers. I personally have T-Mobile, and paying $110 for 5 phones is pretty awesome, but I cannot get the really awesome phones for the discounted price. And even if I buy them for the full price and have it unlocked, it won't be LTE compatible.", "summary": "Phone companies release a flagship phone, it comes out for AT&T. iPhone comes out - AT&T exclusive. Nokia Lumia 1020 comes out - AT&T exclusive. Lumia 925 comes out, for T-Mobile, AT&T gets one of their own. Now the WP 1520 phablet comes out -AT&T exclusive. Even the freakin 2520 LTE tablet is AT&T exclusive."}
{"id": "t3_3a1j3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [24F] of almost two years - Her Mom hates me and I have no idea why.", "post": "So basically I've been dating my girlfriend for close to two years. We are super solid, live together, have a puppy, etc. I'm not worried in the slightest about our stability. However it's becoming a bit of an issue that her family isn't exactly into the idea of me. Her Mom is incredibly cold and standoffish to me and will repeatedly tell my SO that she is basically fucking up by dating me. \n\nNot that this is the be all end all to decide if I'm worthy to date her daughter, but I have a great job/own my own house/and have been nothing but pleasant to Mrs. SO since day 1. It also doesn't help that her parents aren't very social people. They don't like to go out for dinner or do activities that COULD serve as a bond for us. \n\nOn the other side of the coin, my SO is super close with my family and we do things quite often. Granted my family is more outgoing and likes to go on trips, concerts, outings, etc.\n\nWith the fact that I'm not going anywhere and I can tell it is starting to bother my SO more and more... I'm looking for some advice. Anyone been in a similar situation or have some perspective?", "summary": "SO's Mom hates me. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jkysl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to handle this. (25/f)(30/m)", "post": "Throwaway since he's a redditor. I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now. I'm in my mid 20's, he's in his early 30's. He had an affair with his ex and some substance abuse issues. I decided that he was really remorseful in coming clean. We decided to give our relationship another chance.\n\nHe's been a totally different person. He's been thoughtful and loving and kind. He's been apologetic and taking responsibility. \n\nI guess I'm feeling like it's too little too late. I tried SO hard to make this relationship work. I did everything I could possibly do to be a good girlfriend. I was so good to him. It's about 6 months after the fallout and I'm still insecure. I am beginning to distance myself from the relationship emotionally. I'm truly scared of getting hurt again and even though his actions are a complete 180, that fear is still there. I live in constant fear of another bomb dropping. And now I'm starting to get to the phase where I don't care if I don't get to talk to him much throughout the day, don't mind if I don't see him, etc. I know that's a problem. \n\nI feel like I can't win. I do care about him so much. He's made so many efforts in the last six months and I'm so proud of all he's done. Still, I can't sleep at night, I constantly question myself and my self worth. I feel beaten down despite his attempts to build me up. I know he's going to propose to me in a few weeks, and even a few weeks ago I'd tell you that's all I wanted. Now I'm starting to feel like I'm not respecting myself by staying with someone who could be so hurtful towards me. \n\nSometimes I have angry spells about everything and I'm not sure if this is one. I know if our relationship continues I have to let this go but I'm just not sure I can. Is it a lost cause? I want us to work, I know how great he is, but I'm just not sure I can recover from something so emotionally damaging.", "summary": "Boyfriend has affair but makes huge strides to win back trust. Girlfriend still having issues letting go."}
{"id": "t3_15xnol", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] Enamored of my best friend's sister [21/f]", "post": "Using a throwaway just to be safe. Mostly.\n\nI've known one of my friends for around 10 years, and though we no longer live near each other, I make an effort to spend time with her a few times a year. She's practically a sister to me. In that time I've become close to her family, including one of her sisters, let's call her Olivia.\n\nOlivia may or may not have been fond of me for some time. In recent years, my friend sent me teasing texts like, \"When are you visiting again? Olivia misses you.\" At the time, I liked Olivia as much as one likes any annoying-but-somehow-endearing younger sisters of your best friend, so I rolled my eyes and humored her. I figured it was a phase, and it probably was.\n\nWell, as it happens, I hate myself; Olivia has grown on me. After teasing Olivia through her college years for being in a related discipline embroiled in a conflict with my own, she switched to my major. Funny, that. Having the ability to share in obtuse conversations certainly enabled us to spend more time together, and I find myself stupidly grinning at even the worst of her puns.\n\nFast forward to the present. Olivia and I are both graduating in the spring. Part of me knows that keeping my mouth shut is the safer course of action, and much of this could just be me projecting, but I still want to open up to my friend before we all part ways. I'm trying to conceive how best to broach the topic with her, as it's going to be awkward regardless. I know all the risks involved, and I even considered the cataclysmic scenario in which it's my friend and not her sister who has feelings for me, which is ridiculous, but you know what they say about truth and fiction.", "summary": "Falling for my best friend's sister, not sure if the feelings are reciprocal, deciding whether or not to potentially shoot myself in the foot by opening up to my friend"}
{"id": "t3_517sh6", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (30M) need advice for moving on from ex (23F) after a 15 month relationship", "post": "I can't seem to stop thinking about and wanting to get back with her. We were in a committed relationship for 15 months. We lived together the last five because one of her roommates moved out and we felt ready to live together. We had talked about marriage, kids, a house. We adopted a dog together last summer. The last few months I had started a new job, than got let go due to inexperience and started a new one. I was under a lot of stress and wasn't myself. I was never vicious but was low on energy sometimes due to working a lot of over time and than needing to look for a job again. She ended it because she felt that we didn't fit anymore, I wasn't focusing on myself enough and that I was smothering her. Some things didn't really add up. Months ago she told me I wasn't romantic and passionate enough, than at the end she said I smothered her too much. She said that she likes events more than material things but didn't seem receptive to events I tried to plan that we both were interested in. She also got jealous of gifts her roommate was getting from a friend. She got jealous of her roommate going out to dinner all the time, even though we started a diet together (her idea) and she had said that she liked eating at home cause it was healthier, she had more control over the ingredients and we could save for trips. Even though I know it sounds like I could never make her happy. I want us to try again. I thought this woman was my soul mate, I had never loved anyone as much as I loved her and for so long it seemed that she felt the same way. I was gonna propose to her this Christmas. I know I need to let go but its hard sometimes. I hang with friends and work on my projects and hobbies. Yet time to time I find myself texting her, looking at her face book and wanting to hold her again.", "summary": "30 (M) Advice for letting go of my ex 23 (F) of 15 months, who was contradictory about what she said she told me she wanted versus what she told others and how she acted. Thought she was my soulmate, its been a hard adjustment."}
{"id": "t3_42unu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend 26/f like to look at attractive people and wants to get to know them. Me 32/m questions if she's really long term material.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been going out for nine months.  It is currently long distance since she had to move away for work and I am in the process of following her out there (location where gf is working is also my career goal).\n\nShe tells me the banker that helped her sent a thank you email, and that she responded while she was still in the parking lot.  She said she also looked him up on Facebook.  She said the reason why she emailed him back was because he had a cute smile.\n\nI asked her why she did this and she said she can't help but want to be in the company of beautiful people.  She wants to get to know beautiful people and treat them nicer than others.  She says her heart still belongs to me but she likes looking at attractive people and wants to hang out with them.\n\nI talk to her calmly about and ask her how would she feel if I did the same.  She said it wouldn't bother her but I know in real life she would feel differently.  She says she doesn't feel like she should change.  She says her heart belongs to me but she might have eyes for others every once in a while.\n\nI ask her to get her friends opinion but she says shes too embarrassed to ask because she even feels that if your with someone they should have your heart and your eyes.\n\nI know this is opposite of normal relationships (guy/girl).  Could this be my insecurity or do you think I have a valid point.\n\nNow she thinks we won't work out because of this fact that she does not feel she wants to change.\n\n*Long distance sucks, if you can avoid it, do so.", "summary": "Girlfriend looks at other more attractive guys and wants to get to know them and hang out with them."}
{"id": "t3_3u3c2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My cousin [f31] is getting married in June and asked me [f21] to be her maid of honour. I have no free time and don't know what to do", "post": "So my cousin is getting married and while I'm really happy for her I don't think I'm responsible enough to take on the MOH role. I'm in school and also have a job. I've never even been to a wedding! Her friends organized a surprise engagement party for her and I feel horrible for not partaking. I just feel an immense amount of pressure and to be honest I don't necessarily want the responsibility. \n\nMy cousin knows this, yet still gives me hints that I should start organizing something. I don't even know where to begin. I have too much on my plate right now really need to get my shit together. I know she will get really upset if I tell her I can't do it. \n\nWhat do I do Reddit?", "summary": "cousin asked me to be MOH at her wedding. I have too much on my plate to organize anything and I know she won't forgive me if I bail"}
{"id": "t3_15w424", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Offended my GF[22F] last night on accident by saying she doesn't have a passion...", "post": "My GF[F22] and I have been going out for almost two months. Things have been going alright so far, but last night I was kind of a jerk to her, and I feel bad and I also don't know where this 'came from'.\n\nI have a passion for writing, and I have this opinion that most people in life have a passion for something, even if they don't know what it is yet. I feel bad for people that haven't discovered this passion, and I feel REALLY bad for people that spend their whole lives living mediocre lives, working at mediocre jobs, doing nothing really of any importance. Maybe I've read too much Nietzsche. Anyways, last night my GF and I were out having dinner, and I was a little tipsy, and somehow we got to talking about my new book that was out, and eventually, I started talking about this opinion I have of people and their passions, or lack thereof.\n\nI was a jerk. I didn't realize it at first, and I wasn't purposely trying to be a jerk either. I was just broadly talking about how the vast majority of people have no passion and that I feel sorry for them. But then I mentioned how she once told me she was majoring in marketing because \"most people do\", as an example.\n\nShe got a little upset and offended and we talked about it for a while until things were okay. We basically discerned that we were different. She thinks it's okay for someone to be mediocre and that it's okay as long as they are happy, where as I think one should always strive to become the perfect and moral upright citizen.\n\nShe said she was upset that I basically told her she has no passion, and I felt like such a jerk. That wasn't my intention at all. Things are okay now, and she said she knows I wasn't trying to be a jerk, that we are just different and I accidentally offended her, but how can I be more careful with my words in the future? Where exactly did I go wrong, was it mentioning that she didn't have a passion, or bringing up the subject in the first place?", "summary": "While talking about how the majority of people have no passions, I accidentally offended my girlfriend [22F]."}
{"id": "t3_3ymn51", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Insecure about every opinion I have about art and entertainment", "post": "I'm extremely worried about my opinions on anything related to music, movies, books, shows, or otherwise related to matters of taste and culture.  I'm worried that I'll say the wrong thing and that what I like or dislike will somehow reflect negatively on my intelligence or worth.  There's a sizeable chunk of the internet that seems to hold an unwritten notion that the minority of smart people like one set of things and the \"idiot masses\" like another set of things and never the twain shall meet.  I don't know if I'm smart or if I'm part of the ostensibly vast masses of idiots that are, according to various rants I've read, apparently responsible for the death of culture and the plummeting quality of everything.\n\nTo make things more difficult, I don't know which opinion I read on something is the \"smart\" opinion.  So I don't even know what I should even be looking for.  All I know is I've seen a couple of movies recently and I've been scared to death to say anything about them lest I confirm my nagging doubts about my intelligence and perception (or, rather, lack thereof).", "summary": "I'm insecure about my opinions in entertainment.  I don't know if I'm smart or not, and if my opinions will reflect negatively on me in that respect."}
{"id": "t3_spy73", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fiber, fat loss, and other f-words", "post": "Guys, what the heck does fiber do to help with weight loss?  Anything?  \n\nI've been paying attention long enough to know that different diets and diet fads come and go.  I remember a couple of years ago you couldn't turn on the tv without seeing a commercial for some kind of fiber bar, cereal, shake or something like that.  Now, I see that those aren't nearly as advertised as they used to be.  \n\nDid people find out that they weren't as effective with weight loss or healthy lifestyle as they had advertised?\n\nPersonally I had lost about 40 pounds while I was eating extra fiber.  The bad thing about the fiber bars however is that they are often high in calories and offer very little to me by way of satisfying hunger.\n\nplus they make you fart, a lot.  (thats the other f-word, sorry if you're disappointed.)  I think that they should actually put a little warning label on the box that says, **warning! do you not eat these unless you are ok with farting for the next 6 hours!**", "summary": "does extra fiber in your diet really help with weight loss or does it just make you fart more?"}
{"id": "t3_2c3ndb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am very certain my gf [20] is going to break up with me tomorrow. What would you do?", "post": "We've been together almost two years now and it's only recently been getting really rocky. \n\nI screwed up a an outing (concert) by getting too drunk and not really knowing the what was going on. \n\nIt wasn't the first time I got too wasted, but never liked to drink before, she kinda reintroduced me into it. I accept responsibility though. \n\nShe said she didn't know how to feel about us anymore and wanted time off. \n\nI've been devastated ever since. I left town to visit relatives the day after and am returning home tonight. \n\nIn that town, our mutual friend is there who happens to be my gfs best friend. I contacted her to ask for advice. \n\nGf told me she found that unattractive and immature of me, I told her I was just in search of a way to fix the problem because I love her so dearly. \n\nShe asked if I was back in town, I said no. She asked me to tell her when I get back because we'll have to talk... \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I have reason to believe my girlfriend is going to break up with me in person tomorrow. I want to do everything I can to save this relationship. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3dg6r1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking my dog", "post": "Hey guys, this happened not 10 minutes ago. Long time lurker, but I feel like this will make a good first post.\n\nSo I'm out walking my dog, listening to music and smoking my vape. A few blocks down, I cut off the main road into a parking lot, less cars and whatnot. In the back right corner of this parking lot, there's an exit onto a side street parallel to it, which is where my dog and I were heading when I notice something out of the corner of my eye. There's some sort of power transformer box thingy in the corner, surrounded on 3 sides by fencing. Next to this box, I notice a kid, we'll say mid-teens, standing faced away from me.\n\nLIVE LOOK INSIDE MY BRAIN:\nHey, why are his pants around his ankles?\nHey, why are there arms wrapped around his waist?\nHey why is there a girl in front of him on her knees?\nHey, why is her head moving back and forthHHHHOLY FUCKING SHIT DUDE LOOK AWAY LOOK AWAY, MAY DAY MAY DAY\n\nKeep in mind, I'm at about a [7], only one action came to mind: look away awkwardly as the girl catches my eye and speed-walk the fuck out of there, and in the words of Mike Birbiglia, \"BATTER UP\"\n\nOh, did I mention it was raining out?", "summary": "Walking dog, witnessed awkward teenage parking lot blowjob in the rain."}
{"id": "t3_hpahk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Carpooling is financially beneficial, but I can't deal with my coworker all day long every day", "post": "My coworker and I have to drive to a city over an hour away every day for work. So financially it makes sense for us to take turns driving. The problem is, I can't stand this guy all day long. I come home from work every day exhausted--not from the work but from being around my coworker for the whole day.\n\nHe talks too much, either about meaningless bullshit or really, really weird things for which there are no good responses. He complains all the time about who's not doing enough work or how others are doing their jobs, etc, no matter how many times I tell him to quit worrying about everyone else and just do his own work. And this is all made worse by the fact that we have to get up really early to be at work on time and I do not do well with that.\n\nFrankly, it'd be worth the financial hit to not have to spend every day with this guy.\n\nAnyone have any advice on how I can nicely break the carpooling setup or something? He likes me a lot and he's the one who got me this job, so I don't want to be mean and tell him the honest reason why I don't want to drive with him every day.", "summary": "can't stand coworker all day every day, need to find a way to break financially beneficial carpooling arrangement without hurting his feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1l3ehu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] and [20F] dating for almost 5 years, we are looking for a Triad relationship with another F, any tips? So far the most difficult part is finding a person...", "post": "Hi, we have been dating for nearly 5 years and talked about it for quite awhile, and we have decided we want to add in another female into our relationship.\n\nThis stemmed from first both of our fantasies of a 3some, but we like to play it safe, and we eventually want to not use condoms, the only safe possibility of this is to have a triad relationship with this new person.\n\nAside from the sex, we understand that, like our own, relationships need to be fostered. And my SO and I have discussed how dates would work, or having singular sex with the other partner when the other one is not around or busy. We want to keep it fun and lively, and we want the other F to feel loved, but none the less under our respective wings. \n\nWe have a pretty clear typical Male and Female role, so she treats me as a king, as i treat her a queen, but she loves playing master and slave, we potentially foresee an issue with a 3rd coming in because for her, she would be at a \"lower tier\" than us, but not like a slave maybe more like a child (I cant think of something more appropriate, but we def want to consider her part of our family, so she gets the same love, but she must understand that she is under OUR wings)\n\nAre our expectations too high to be realistic? Has anyone experienced a long term Triad relationship? Any tips on where to look? I have tried /r/r4r and /r/gonewild, craigslist, local forums, to no avail.\n\nJust so you all know, its my SO who brought up this fantasy. She gets really aroused at seeing my pleasure, and literally dreams of me having intimate encounters with other people as she watches. She said just to start even, she if fine if the lady in question just wanted to have intimate encounters with me first, while we work towards that intense 3some.\n\nAny interested candidates on here? We are in Vancouver, so shoot me a PM if you are.", "summary": "SO and I dating nearly 5 years, we want a triad relationship, help us out!"}
{"id": "t3_10bdgs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I found what I was looking for, what now?", "post": "My boyfriend of 2+ years (27) went out of town this morning, and I did something bad...He is super secretive and freaked out when I was looking through his phone pictures a few days ago (so far I'd only seen pictures of our cats in there..) which made me curious...Add to this the fact that I'm extremely insecure in our relationship because he isn't affectionate or sexual with me anymore (we haven't had sex in weeks, and it's not for my lack of trying). So I snooped. I should know better, I'm 26, and this always ends badly..but I did it.\n\nWhen I started looking around the computer I found emails from March...craigslist emails to and from girls with explicit pictures and requests/plans to hook up. We broke up in mid April for about 2 months but this was a whole month before that. We now live together, and even though hes very secretive and shady still, I didn't see anything from after we got back together.\n\nSo...now what? I feel sick to my stomach and I know that looking at his email was wrong, but I was hoping not to find something like this. Do I confront him? Wait until he's home? Ignore it? Help...I'm freaking out.", "summary": "found evidence of cheating while snooping. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_wqfe5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to stop hitting my boyfriend. [19F/19M, 2+ years]", "post": "I know, I'm horrible, and that's why I'm asking for help.\n\nLet me explain the extent of the situation.\n\nI'm not bareknuckle beating him in the face for asking to hang out with his friends or anything like that, but I will unthinkingly slap/rabbitpunch his shoulders, biceps, etc. if he does or says something I don't like.\n\nSay he starts tickling me, for example, I will often reflexively cobra-strike back at him.\n\nIt has been happening for a while, but I think that due to the common stereotypes about domestic abuse and the like, neither of us considered it seriously, other than me apologizing profusely after doing it actually hurt him. He's a big guy and I'm a small girl, so it even further skews some thoughts on this.\n\nWhat finally made me step up and try to reach out or learn how to fix myself is that he's been asking me why I hit him all the time. I usually clam up when he asks but it makes me want to cry. He is such a sweet guy and I really want to do better and be the girl he deserves.\n\nIs there any advice you can give me, Reddit?\n\nPlease feel free to ask for more detail if needed.", "summary": "I hit my boyfriend and don't want to. Help."}
{"id": "t3_ziy5l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Tips on dealing with girlfriends sisters please [17/M][17/F]", "post": "My girlfriend I have been dating for 2 years and she has 3 sisters, all in their twenties. The youngest one, I get along perfectly fine with. The older two, are, just, not my favorite people. Since the day I met them, they kind of glare at me and I felt bad just by being there. I said hi and they said hi back, that was all. I feel so uncomfortable whenever I'm even close to them, I've always been a really social easy to get along with person but with these two women, it seems impossible for me. Whenever they pick my girlfriend up, she's always telling me to go say hi, I always kind of wave and it always seems like they saw me wave but pretend to look down or towards their phone. I really love this girl, but these two sisters are driving me crazy. I need help/tips please! If I am the one who is wrong, please tell me what I can do to improve, what can I do to talk to them, how can I get along better", "summary": "Girlfriends two older sisters are driving me crazy, need tips on getting along with them"}
{"id": "t3_14y025", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by vometing over a hot girl I was chatting up", "post": "So I was out with a few friends in out the town at a bar. I noticed this girl looking at me when I was walking out to the toilet.\n\nI decided when I came back I would go to the bar where she was and try to start a conversation. We hit it off pretty well. She was pretty and really good fun. I had a few drinks in me by this stage but I was still sober. \n\nSo then... I asked her if she wanted a drink and fancied a shot. So I ordered her a drink, me a drink and two jagerbombs... Any time I have taken them in the recent past they have always came back up within a minute, but I was just having so much fun I thought I would anyway.\n\nSo I got her number then we took the shots. And I just stood there like I was going to burp.\n\nIt was about that time when I could feel the gag reflex coming on and I covered my mouth thinking if anything came up I could swallow it... I know... What was I thinnking. Next thing I knew, I threw up a serious amount of sick (had a big dinner a few hours previous). Luckily it didn't go over me or her but the bouncers didn't take too kindly to it and I was thrown out the front door within minutes.\n\nI know I fuck up bad when it comes to women sometimes, but this blows everything else out of the water. I am too ashamed to even tell my friends about this and I have been sitting around all day thinking of how much of a dick I am. Throwaway as my friends would know my account!!!", "summary": "chatting up a hot girl and having a good laugh, bought shots and boked up infront of her..."}
{"id": "t3_16e6aa", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I need help...", "post": "Basically. I *always* make the wrong decision. Whenever I am presented with a decision to make, I choose the wrong one. Currently, I just moved from USA to Brazil. I'm a dual citizen. My parents are divorced, I lived with my mom in USA, and my dad lives in both countries(he works in the US then takes the money to Brazil, thus making more for working less). So I came to Brazil thinking I'd be happy here. \n\nHowever, I came here with a very bad smoking problem. I smoked every day, all day. Literally. (marijuana, just for clarification) So when I got here I was really bad, I couldn't eat, sleep, enjoy myself at all. I couldn't do anything... Or rather, didn't want to do anything. Soon after I got here I went to a doctor. He gave me an anti-depressant and some other medicines. It went well for about two weeks, but now my mood fluctuates. Very quickly. I'll be happy in the morning and depressed in the afternoon and then happy for a little bit and then depressed again. It's gotten much worse when I passed the bridge where my best friend died 8 years ago. I cried for about 30 minutes. And couldn't say his name or think about him without crying. I talked to my cousin who is friends with his uncle, and he agreed to take me to his grave. Ever since then I've been a complete wreck. I thought it'd make things easier. Like as if I could say goodbye because I wasn't able to before he died.\n\nI thought by moving here I could escape my problems that I had in the US, but of course, they followed me here. I often get depressed because of the things I left behind and what I don't have here.\n\nThere's probably more but my short term memory is so awful cause of all the smoking I forget things all the time. As of now, this is all I can think of.\n\nSo now... I don't know, I just had to get it all out I guess. I just need some advice I guess. What do I do with my life? How can I be happy? And I don't know where else to turn to.", "summary": "Depressed. Don't know what to do with my life. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_49nwvy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I refuse to sign an amendment to my Employer contract which was not pre-agreed? (Location: UK - Wales)", "post": "What are my options in relation to changes being made to my employment contract? Can I refuse to sign something I did not agree to without it affecting my employment?\n\nBackground:\nMy employer pays for our exams and training. It has not been stated that we would need to repay these costs until recently. It was announced last month  (2 days after I booked my next exam) that we would be liable to repay costs in the event we leave the company within 36 months of the cost being incurred. Today we have been given a document stating it's an amendment to our contract amednmnd the changes are to be implemented immediately.\n\nMy problem is I have an interview lined up 31 March. I've had a first interview with the company (1 march) and they have called me back for a second interview. \n\nI calculate the costs I would owe my current employer as \u00a3530. I only earn \u00a31,106 at present and cannot afford to lose that amount from my pay or I cannot afford to pay my half of the bills/rent and my SO wouldn't have the available funds to help me out.\n\nCan I refuse to sign this document? What is the smartest move here considering I did not agree to these costs prior to taking the exams and certainly wouldn't have sat them if I had known?\n\nMy issue is that I don't want to kick up a fuss and create tension if I don't end up getting the job. But on the other hand, the interview is promising (I have a friend at the company and the Directors I've already met have apparently gone up to her and told her how impressed hey were... so I'm hopeful).\n\nI think that's enough info.... but happy to expand if necessary. New job would be a  \u00a34,500 pay increase; walking distance so less fuel costs; less travel time etc.", "summary": "employer is making changes to my contract and they have asked me to sign it. How can I refuse and would this affect my employment?"}
{"id": "t3_11ohag", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Looking to adopt a dog that will protect my small house", "post": "I live in a duplex, (my friends own the other half)  in a fairly bad neighborhood. I'd like to get a medium/large dog that would be good in a small house but also has fairly good guarding instincts if it was necessary. Also, low maintenance and lazy dogs are a plus but not entirely limiting factors. \n\nI considered a retired racing greyhound because they are lazy,  which fits my lifestyle, but my neighbors do have a fairly high energy dog, and I'm afraid that it would be too rowdy. Also, I know that they aren't very good guard dogs.\n\nAm I looking for some sort of super dog that doesn't exist?", "summary": "need big, cuddly, low maintenance, apartment guard dog. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_45koxf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Flirty and responsive in person, very quiet over text?", "post": "I'm 18/m in college There's this girl I met at a Christmas formal who lives near me. When we met we were very flirty with each other and just had fun. However I went home for the Christmas holidays and only got back recently. We have had a couple of socials recently where I've seen her but I assumed she just didn't really remember me. However it turns out I was wrong, she seems to remember me very well. She's very shy so she hasn't really tried to make contact yet but I've caught her staring a few times and when I walk past her she seems has difficulty trying to hold back a smile. I only noticed after my friends pointed this out (stupid I know) but regardless I decided to message her. Problem is, she seems super responsive to me when we talk in person, but over message she's very cold and quiet. I know she's shy as she's confessed herself and she hardly uses Facebook but I'm not sure if she's interested as judging by the fb messages. We've recently started classes again so I know I probably won't be seeing her at any socials soon (I do engineering she does physics). Should I just ask if she just wants to hang out sometime just the two of us or should I just assume she's just being friendly? Any help greatly appreciated.", "summary": "this girl acts differently in person compared to text. Should I ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_18vh9y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] Need friendship help", "post": "I have trouble getting jealous and paranoid the more I get to know someone. I had my best friend pass away in high school, and I kind of became a social recluse after that. I lost a huge amount of confidence because I realized I didn't have very many good friends, and because I developed a large fear of abandonment (the lack of confidence ironically led to my social withdrawal). Now I'm in college, and I get very scared/paranoid when trying to go from acquaintance to actually hanging out with someone. It's like I think there is no way they want to hang out with me, or I'm worried about coming on too strong, or being rejected. I really dislike this, as I know it's pretty irrational, but I can't control the feelings. I would like some advice on getting over this.\n\nAlso, with existing good friends, the better friends I become with someone, the more worried and jealous I typically get. Like if something happens and they have to break plans, I usually get mad (but I don't let them see that I'm mad), even if it's for a good reason. I also worry that they are ditching me on purpose. If I see my good friends hanging out with others I get worried about approaching them, like maybe they don't want me around--which just makes me jealous. It's like for some reason I think if I get to know someone/let them know me, they will realize I'm not worth the effort or time. I'm just really unsure of what to do about this.\n\nI should also mention that here at college, I have had five best friends transfer/drop out--not because of me, but due to financial problems or grades.", "summary": "need help with irrational fear of abandonment and jealousy that permeates all my friendships."}
{"id": "t3_3ygbh9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my ex [19F] of 2 years, when we decided to break up for the semester, we said we'd talk during the winter break, but...", "post": "My ex girlfriend and I dated for 2 years and broke up at the beginning of September, we ended in good terms and stayed in touch throughout the semester. When we broke up though she said she didn't want us to stop talking, and we'd talk about us in the Winter break... \n\nHere comes the winter break, and 2 weeks later we've hung out twice. Once with all of our friends, and once just the two of us (we didn't talk about us just had lunch and caught up. It went well and i even noticed she's still wearing a ring i gave her on our 2 year anniversary). \n\nNow though, I asked her if we could talk yesterday and she didn't respond at all and it's almost like she's avoiding talking about it. Today, she wasn't in a good mood when i texted her to see if we can meet and talk about us. Caught off guard, i told her if she didn't want to talk about it right now, i'd back off. She responded with \"That would be nice.\" \n\nI'm just confused with what's going on. It seemed like we were going to get back together, as she was still wearing the ring, and well I may just be blinded because i want her back. But now I'm just unsure, confused and a little hurt. I'm going to back off as i said i would, and contact her again in weeks to come.", "summary": "Ex Gf and i said we'd talk after a break up of 4 months-ish, but she seems to avoid it. Do any of you guys have any thoughts on this? I'm just in need to talk to someone."}
{"id": "t3_3f5dit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] can't help being jealous of my best friend [20 M] and it's hurting our relationship", "post": "My best friend from high school, let's call him Harry, is really successful. Like, ridiculously so. Self-made multi-millionaire at 20 after starting his own business at 18 while also graduating from university 2 years early. We were rivals in a bunch of things at school, and it wasn't a problem, but had a big fight when I was rejected from my first-choice university after Harry also applied and got in with a very similar resume, even though he had no intention of going. We made up, and later he offered me a chance to join him in starting his business (part-time while studying), but I declined.\n\nIn hindsight, I think that not putting enough effort into university applications and not being willing to commit to the work associated with a start-up are two of the worst decisions I've made. I'm fairly high-achieving by most standards: have ended up at a top university anyway, getting good grades, currently working a well-paid internship, etc. Of course it's difficult not to be comparative, but by itself the fact that I'm jealous of Harry is something I think I can deal with. What's making it really problematic that his successes are closely correlated with my own biggest regrets. Since we're living in different countries right now, it takes some effort to Skype and stay in contact; but because of those associations and the emotional response I get when thinking about them, I'm increasingly hesitant to do so (he talks about his academic and corporate work a fair bit, since they're very big parts of his life right now), and have to focus on pushing down those feelings when we're talking. Of course this is my problem not his, and I'm not sure it's the sort of thing I'd want to discuss with him, but I'm wondering how people would recommend dealing with this.", "summary": "Want to be happy for my friend's successes but they're reminding me specifically of my own regrets; advice for dealing with this?"}
{"id": "t3_49lw9q", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Protecting my brand - question", "post": "I'm starting a business (only local and online at first, no brick and mortar) and at first this will only be selling apparel. \n\nI have a name of the business, a name of the apparel line, and a logo. I've check trademarks and everything is fine - do I need to trademark the name before I sell anything? \n\nThe trademark (I believe has to be done separate since the names are slightly different between company name and apparel line name) is expensive I think (700 up front maybe?) - didn't know without doing that if I had any protection if someone stole my name and or logo.", "summary": "if I start an apparel line and don't trademark the name or logo, do I have any protection against someone stealing my name/logo? [USA] [Pennsylvania]"}
{"id": "t3_2265nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Ex-Fiancee[27 F] 5 years, how long until it doesn't matter?", "post": "Fairly new Redditor here, and a private person so posting something like this should show the level of lost I'm at...also sorry if format is wonky. \n\nAnyway, had a relationship with an awesome girl starting Jr year of college and extending through 3 years after graduation. A little bickering but no big fights and we got along really well 95% of the time. We had moved in together, both had stable jobs and were engaged to be married in 7 months time. (Had been engaged about a year at this point.)\n\nOne night she wakes me up 1-2 AM and simply says \"I'm done.\" No clue or hints leading up to it, just two words, goes downstairs to sleep on the couch, and has packed essentials for a move to parents house while I am at work the next day. In 6 months she's married a new guy but claims all that happened \"after us.\" Come to find out her parents resented me for... reasons (honestly never clear on the what or why) and basically had been telling her to do better for a few years. YEARS! \n\nSo...it's two years later and I'm with a wonderful girl for almost a year now. Problem is I go into these funks where all I can think about is what I lost, what could I do different, etc. This sounds bad but probably 2-3 times a month I wake up and my first waking thought is crippling disappointment that she's not there next to me. I am 100% committed with my current girl, but deep deep down I don't know how I would feel if relationship prospects with the ex weren't 100% killed. How long (or how do I) get back to \"normal\"? Any advice on ways to stop dreaming/imagining about the life we were planning?\n\nThank you fellow Redditors.", "summary": "Ex fianc\u00e9e left me 2 years ago, how long until it stops weighing on my psyche/life in general?"}
{"id": "t3_3nkpkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my now ex-gf[27 F] of six months, I am having trouble with no contact.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nI went out with a verbally abusive, manipulative girl for 6+ months. I don't want to get into details because that is not the objective of this post and I have already dumped her, but last saturday we were sleeping together and at around 3:00 AM she woke up and started throwing insults at me. She said that she felt weird sleeping that night, and I told her that I felt weird too because she always hugs me and that night she was sleeping not facing me, but almost in the other side of the bed, with her back turned. When I said that I felt a bit awkward too, she erupted and started yelling and telling me that I am a child, and that she is not my mother, and that she wanted to go home, all because I told her that she was acting a little bit distant that night. She started saying that I am not a man, that I frequently cry, that all I want is her attention, etc. Anyway, after I told her to calm down and speak like adults, she went crazier than ever, locked herself in the bathroom (of my own house) and refused to leave. I finally told her to just open the door and leave my house, and that I did not want to see her anymore. She agreed, I walked her to a taxi and gave her some money to pay for it. The next day I offered to talk about what happened but no more answers. As I am very afraid of her, I have blocked her everywhere. Whatsapp + work (we work together). \nI am having trouble not thinking about this and I have never went \"no contact\" with anyone before in my life and it is hard for me to forget her currently.\nAre there any tips to avoid thinking of this? it's like all the times she abused me are now coming back to me to haunt me. Also I see her everyday and that makes it harder. At work she looks like a normal, quiet person, not the person that insults me constantly and degrades me to the point where I a became numb and indifferent.\nTHanks", "summary": "Finally took the courage to break up with verbally abusive GF, having trouble with the no contact thing."}
{"id": "t3_htosk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have lost all my motivation to go to work", "post": "I recently switched jobs (5 months) from a larger institution to a smaller company. Over the last month I have gotten very disillusioned with my new job, I miss the camaraderie of my old job as well as the lower level of stress. Also the old job was much closer to my house.\n\nFor me the most important thing is not my job, I don't have the ambition to be in a super high paying job, I like having an average job if it means I have the energy and motivation to do that and extracurriculars.\n\nI recently applied to a different job posting at my old company. I feel totally unmotivated to go to work and I've called in \"sick\" about 3-4 times the last month....\n\nI guess what I'm asking is; how do I stay motivated to keep going to work right now, at least until I get another job, and should I just go back to my old boss and ask him for my old job back (as opposed to trying for this new position). He mentioned I could do that because he likes me.", "summary": "got new job, don't like it anymore, can't motivate myself to go, should I beg for my old job back?"}
{"id": "t3_2pwscm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [18 F] been cheating with my friend [18 M] on my long distance boyfriend [18 M] and now I may be pregnant", "post": "Been dating my long distance boyfriend (lives in England and I'm from America) for just over a year, I'm in university now (In England but were still at opposite ends of the country) and became best friends with my roommate and now there are benefits with that friendship as well as I may be pregnant with his child (as of the 13th last Saturday).\n\n Planning on breaking up with my boyfriend (not because of the pregnancy thing) I just don't feel the same that I used to with my boyfriend and its way to difficult and expensive to keep this long distance thing going. We also have different plans for the future and I'd been thinking about breaking up with him even before the thing with my roommate even started. \n\nI honestly would have broken up with him already but we planned ahead and had bought train tickets to spend Christmas with him and his family 3 weeks in advance, I'm leaving in two days. It's too late to back out now and I can't refund the tickets.\n\n But I'm more worried about being pregnant, it just terrifies me because, if I am, my mom will probably want me to quit school and come back home and that's the last thing I'd want. Also abortion is out of the question, not because I'm against it or anything, I highly agree with it, I just personally could never do it. And I'm highly considering adoption but which country would I have the baby in because I still would want to be apart of the child's life. The last thing I would want is for the child to think its mother never wanted it. I'm just really scared and need any advice. Thanks guys.", "summary": "May be pregnant with my roommate's child, gonna break up with my long distance boyfriend, I'm in England for University but from America and I don't know what I'll do if I'm pregnant! No Abortion though. Please any advice or thoughts would be amazing. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_1rdlia", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20 M] went on a date but was it really a date?", "post": "So first a little bit of backstory to put things into context: I recently started university and got along well with a girl. I subsequently asked her out for dinner to which she accepted. It wasn't explicitly mentioned that it was a date but I guess I assumed it was implied which probably was a bad idea. The \"date\" went extremely well and I did have a wonderful time with her and although I really do like her, I get the impression it's one sided.\n\nDuring the date, I told her that I considered this a date and whatnot and well I feel like I've put my foot in my mouth. How do I now tell her that I don't really care what happens and I would rather keep her as a friend than be awkward around each other?", "summary": "Went on a date which may not have been a date in her eyes. Let her know and now it's a little awkward but would prefer it not to be. How do I go about talking about it?"}
{"id": "t3_35ober", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[HELP] My girlfriend's dog isn't trained, and she refuses to let me train him...", "post": "Her dog has been with her since it was 8 weeks old. He is always at her side and she spoils him.\n\nHe also has the bad habit of begging for food when we are eating because she gives him food from her plate. She believes dogs in nature just expect humans to share food with them and she is completely okay with letting him lick the plates and bowls clean \"if he didn't beg\". Which just means if he lays by her feet and stares at her, she will eventually give him food. How can I break this behavior?\n\nHe also doesn't use his dog bed to sleep in, instead he humps it. And she allows him to hump it. He humps sheets, pillows, anything and she doesn't scold him at all. I'm afraid to get a cat because he might start humping it.\n\nUpon the front door opening he makes a break for it. He doesn't wait, doesn't hesitate. And just runs for it, which makes me afraid I might come home from work and he will run out and I'd have to chase him down.\n\nHe also barks randomly at random times even after being let out or played with. It's quite annoying when I'm trying to sleep and he is barking up a storm and scratching the bed I'm sleeping on.\n\nHe sleeps on top of the couch and I try to make sure he stays off the furniture but according to her \" thats just what he does\"\n\nIf he is on my bed or the couch he will also start trying to dig and I dont like him doing that to my sheets because he's a dog with nails and I don't want my sheets or couch ripped.\n\nEvery time I try to bring these issues up to her she tells me it's her dog, not to yell at him, don't push him down when he's jumping on things, etc.\n\nHow do I fix this situation? Or am I overreacting?", "summary": "girlsfriends dog is not well trained and she believes it is fine. But I believe a dog should be trained. Am I overreacting with the dog's bad behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_2ujzck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21m) girlfriend of 1 year (21f) wants to watch me have sex with another man. I am repulsed by the idea but she's pressuring me", "post": "Hey reddit, so, my girlfriend recently said that we should try new experiences of the sexual kind. So we tried role play, BDSM, and some toys and it has been great so far.\nBut recently, she told me that one of her biggest desires is to watch me have sex with another man while she masturbates.\nI thought this was just a fantasy of hers and that she'll get over it but she keeps bringing it up all the time, and even said that a gay friend of hers is down for it.\nI consider myself to be straight and I'm not aroused by the thought of gay sex.\n\nShe said that I should be more open and progressive and that everyone is bisexual deep down. I love her to pieces but I can't change my sexuality for her, and like I said, I'm repulsed by the idea of gay sex. \nWhat should I do?", "summary": "girlfriend wants me to have gay sex while she watches; I don't want to but she pressures me, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_eupn9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out my best friend self-harms. What do I do?", "post": "A bit of background on her: seventeen, in high school (as well as myself). Straight-A student, probably going Ivy League. Quiet around most people, loud and hyperactive around me. Likes to read. Popular, but I've noticed she seems to crave attention a lot -- she's a self-described 'camwhore' with a 'god complex', and I've seen her do various 4chan tinychats with thirty or forty guys, even though she was [doxed] once. I don't ever say anything about it, as it's her business. She was also homeschooled as a kid -- didn't go to public school until age fourteen.\n\nShe has panic attacks and cuts typically when her parents tell her she's doing something wrong, whether it's minor or not. She says she 'doesn't like to think [she] does things wrong, just different' and she 'wants them to know she cares.' I know she cuts because she sent me a picture. I deleted it, even though I know now I really shouldn't have.\n\nI also know I have to tell someone, but I don't know who. Her parents wouldn't believe me, and she's convinced that cutting is the only way to release pain, so she won't get herself help. Can I help her? If so, whom should I go to? I'm not sure the school counselors are of any use -- I've been through this a few times with different people and different issues, and they're very negligent in these sorts of matters.", "summary": "friend self-harms, need to know how I can get help for her, I'm fairly certain I'm the worst friend ever."}
{"id": "t3_547d5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M/F] with my [23 /F] 3 years,gf buyed a expensive washing maschine..", "post": "My gf and I agreed on buying a washing machine We are with two and live in Peru so a cheap small washing machine was enough for us two, when we entered to the store she wanted to buy one for 200$~ and I one for 150$ we live in Peru this is actually a big sum of money. But she didn't want a cheap one for some illogical reasons  we got in a fight in the store and returned home\n\nand now a week later she buyed one for 400$~ without asking me and it is 14 liters we are only with 2 people the cheap small washing machine would actually be better because it was no front-loader and i did extended research on it.. and we rent a room now we are stuck with this big ass washing machine \n\nand 400$ is ridiculous i make around 200$ a month and cant save that much.. she payed with her own money is her reason but now she will beg me for money for food and she wont help with paying rent she is basically broke and expect me to take care of her \n\nfor all these years together we never had problems i am so mad and it makes me littery sick i want to break up intermediately but all our friends says i am over reacting...", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_27fsw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my GF [22 M/F] ~3 months now, need help deciding if what she did is innapropriate", "post": "So basically, we've been dating for about 2.5 months, and so far we've never had a fight, we get along pretty well, but we both have very little relationship experience so do's/don'ts seem a bit shady at times. Case in point, she has a friend from school who clearly has a crush on her, let's say James. \n\nThe first time I met him he was chill, but then the second time he begged her to come to his party (two of her other friends went, he sent 3 texts in a row, even said she could bring anyone...) I was with her at the time, so she took me with. He greeted me but then he proceeded to ignore me several times when I was only a few feet away, just be cold in general. He would take special notice of her while we were all around the game. I brought it up later that night and she eventually she agreed and said \"fuck him.\"\n\nShe proceeded to go to a few more of his parties which is okay since her other friends went, but then the problem came again when she him and one of her besties went out while I was workin, once again fine. BUT while they were out, he came up with a reason to pick her up 3! times, fake throw her into the water 2x, and then bet her that he couldn't carry her to the apartment... a 30 minute walk...\n\nAnyways, I mentioned it but she just shook her head but we didn't really delve into the topic. I've never been jealous in a relationship before but this has made me feel uncomfortable if not jealous. I think it mostly stems from the fact that he ignored me and was so rude to me the second time we met, seeing has he met me and he's willing to filrt with my GF... Anyways, are my feelings unfounded?", "summary": "GF being hit on by a guy friend of hers (who just exited a relationship), she got picked up by him literally 3x a week ago, he ignored me when i asked direct questions when he met me for the second time. Not sure if I should feel uncomfortable by this situation, thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4buor2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (34f) decided I can't get over the things he (38m) said (thanks to your advice) but I said I forgave him.", "post": "Original post:\n\nIn a nutshell, stressed husband lashed out verbally at me in an argument (through text) calling me fat, a pig, gross and the reason he has a low sex drive.\n\nWe did sit down a couple of days later and talk it out.  At first he attempted to tell me it was sort of my fault for pushing him.  But he woke me up in the middle of the night and very sincerely apologized.  It was a very heartfelt apology with no attempts at justifying his behavior.  I said I forgave him and we had sex (even though, no matter what, those words were in the back of my mind).\n\nThings went back to normal.  But not in my head....I keep thinking of those words.  I try to push it out of my head but they are there.  And now everything makes me upset and insecure.  I keep thinking about his young, slim assistant that he works with and thinking he must be looking at her and thinking I'm such a fat pig comparatively.  I went to text him and the last text was there....where he called me those horrible things.\n\nHe thinks we are cool now.  He called me twice today to say hi.  He called me Sweetie when he left for work.  We are supposed to be booking a trip to Florida for April.  And......I just feel like I do NOT want to be here anymore.  Those words were so viscious (fat, useless, pig, cunt).  I'm a bit horrified that my brain accepted his apology and had sex with him again.\n\nAfter forgiving him, how would I extract myself?!  I can't even imagine how to go about that.  We are married and I can't just walk away.  He did make an appointment with his doctor to talk about stress.   I could get over it if he hadn't gotten so mean and personal.", "summary": "Husband visciously verbally abused me in an argument and then blamed me.  He then offered a very heartfelt apology and I forgave him and we had sex.  Now, the words won't get out of my head and I feel strongly it will happen again and I want out."}
{"id": "t3_rg8sj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Gf is in her senior year of graphic design and her tenured professor is destroying her love for her profession. What can be done?.", "post": "Sup reddit, sorry for the long title. I didn't know what to title it as while still be breif.\n\nAny way, my girlfriend of two year is in her final semester of Graphic Design and her professor is deliberately holding back assignments just to give them to his students all at the same time. Seemingly just to watch them squirm. \n\nLast semester my gf and her band of Graphic friends banded together and filed complaints against him because he used to take out his personal problems on them and held personal grudges against students that would result in a bias showing up in their grades. He was reported and since then has kept his personal feeling out of his work.  Now though I am sitting here watching as he is purposefully not telling his students about things and giving them assignments solely based on the fact that he feels they aren't \"stressing out enough\". \n\nIn the past two weeks I have seen my girlfriend stay up at atleast 2 o'clock every night doing homework for this man in the hopes that she can get everything done and enjoy some relaxation. Just to find out on the turn in date that she has 3 more assignments all due at the same time and a portfolio review by her idol that he forgot to mention to them.\n\nIn the previous semester he has driven my girlfriend and a couple other students into a deep depression. They kind of just went numb and didn't feel anything and would just start randomly crying while doing homework. It was the most disheartening them I've ever seen in my life.\n\nHer whole class is discouraged and can't seem to form enough confidence to try to do anything because he is infact tenured. What can be done so that future students don't have to go through this mental boot camp this man has planned for them?", "summary": "Girlfriends tenured professor got reported for bringing his personal life to work and taking it out on his student. Next semester he turns into cynical douche that holds back assignments and make them due all at one time just to see his class squirm. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ug8jp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The (shortened, not-so-detailed) story of me [16M] and my ex [15F]", "post": "Four things before I start: 1. I'll be using faux names, me as Jack, her as Kit. 2. It was short, but wonderfully amazing. 3. I am a junior, her a freshman. 4. She is bisexual\nSo, me and Kit met at band camp, and quickly became friends, mostly because we both play clarinet. Apparently, she really liked me from the start. I liked her as well. Jump ahead about a month, and you find me and Kit at an after-game party. She soon asks \"Hey Jack? Would you like to be my boyfriend?\". And I reply \"who wouldn't, Kit?\". Soon, we are cuddling on a nearby bench.\n\nJump ahead about 2 weeks, and you'll find Kit slowly unzipping my pants(we are both needy on the sexual side). Soon enough, I get a good sucking. And a little later, she gets a good show of my finger tricks. Again, jump ahead a week or so, and you join us in an adventure:\n\"Hey, Jack?\"\n\"Yeah?\"\n\"Where's the quietest place we can go?\"\n\"Follow me, my lovely Kit\"\nI lead her to the guest bedroom. She hops on the bed, and tells me to undo my pants. I do so, and then she follows. As I lean her back, I mention how sexy she is. It gets sweaty in that room for a few moments.\n\nSkip ahead, again, 2 weeks, and you'll find me sucking her breasts. Again(for the laat time), skip ahead a few weeks, and you'll find us hardly talking to each other.\n\nI'm gonna need help to get over this, guys.\nWe are friends, as in we still contact each other, and, plot twist, she would like to go to prom with me", "summary": "found a cute freshman at bandcamp, got intimate together, lasted about 2 and a half months, break up, depression for me."}
{"id": "t3_3mh2dr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my (28F) best friend (29F) of 20 years had cancer for the past 7 years through a Facebook post. At a loss for words.", "post": "First, the goods news. She is no longer living with cancer!\n\nThis morning when I woke up and for some reason grabbed my phone and checked Facebook immediately. I rarely do this. This first post I see is from my best friend announcing that today is a good day because she is cancer free. I was in shock because I didn't even know she had cancer!\n\nClearly she has her reasons for not sharing this information with me, but I feel like an absolutely terrible friend that she felt she could not tell me. Furthermore, I have known a lot of people to get cancer in the past 7 years, and I always would tell her \"so and so has cancer and I'm really sad, hoping she/he will get better soon\" and if I'd known she also had cancer I wouldn't have brought it up so much!\n\nA bit of background on our friendship and why I feel I've been an insufficient friend to her:\nWe met in elementary school and were bffs. During my second year of high school, I had to move so we stopped seeing each other as much. We still hung out when we could and she was always my best friend. At the end of high school I started dating a guy who turned out to be abusive. We were together for 5 years, and throughout that time period he slowly isolated me from my friends and family, and said mean things about the people closest to me. (Things like my parents didn't really love me and other fucked up things.)\n\nAnyway, I got out of that relationship, so i started hanging out with her more again. It was a relief to me that she didn't completely hate me for my time spent being distant. For the past five years we've lived in different cities, but we still see each other once in a while and write letters to each other. (We've always sent each other snail mail)\n\nI'm currently working on a reply to one of her letters, but I don't know how to approach this topic, since I found out through social media and not a personal message. I already feel terrible that I haven't even sent her a text.", "summary": "My bff had cancer for years and I never knew. Feeling insecure and like a horrible friend. Not sure how to express to her how happy I am that she is OK."}
{"id": "t3_1hkiim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] My GF[27/F] constantly compares my[25/M] sex performance with her ex-bf. Should I be worried??", "post": "Been with her for about a year and half. She was with her ex-bf for about 5 years before it ended very badly scarring her (which I deal with still but that's another story). \n\nThe problem here is that she's my first and took my virginity and she is simply not satisfied with sex with me. I had some performance anxiety and such but we worked through it and I thought things were fine. She just gave me a heart to heart that she knows how good sex is and I'm not yet up to that level. She's great that she's been incredibly patient throughout this whole time and always been trying to give me tips and we always talk during sex. She's worried but not yet ready to break up with me yet, even tho it's her deal breaker. And no I have 100% confidence she isn't cheating on me. That said, should I be worried that I'm constantly compared to her past partner?", "summary": "Feels constantly compared to GFs' ex-bf in terms of sex. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3b7xws", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a dog off the balcony", "post": "Ok. So I live in a 5 story apartment on the 2nd floor. Yesterday a friend of mine gave me his dog because he is going on a trip for 3 days. The dog is a very cute pure breed chihuahua. I can't however take him out yet because he isn't vaccinated so I thought I would be outside with him on the balcony. Then I had this brilliant idea about re-acting the Lion King scene where the monkey holds the lion over the cliff. I did excacly that. I held him over the balcony and screamed: \"Ay, sequennah bla blabla blabla!\" Or something like that. The problem is, that the dog got scared and jumped... off the balcony... I immeadeatly freaked out and ran down the stairs. There wasn't much left of him. I am now under my bed thinking of an excuse to tell my friend. The best one right now is that he got stuck in the washing machine. But hey, when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade, right?", "summary": "Don't watch lion king."}
{"id": "t3_li3dl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help me get an SO!", "post": "I'm a full time student (female) and I live off campus. I'm a science major so I've surrounded by guys all the time but no matter what I do it seems that no one is interested in me. I'm not that shy, and I try to put myself out there but it seems every guy (even the engineers) want an Artsy or Social Science chick. I've always preferred the \"brainy\" or \"nerdy\" type of guy (can't think of a different way to put it). So, Please guys of reddit, since I know most of you are science guys, tell me how to get you interested in me! \n\nOh and this is an throw-away account. I have some female redditor friends that I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing I made this post.", "summary": "What can I do to get one of you redditor/science-y type of guys interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_te0xa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Managers and/or military personnel; please help. What do you do when someone you're in charge of just won't listen to you or do his work?", "post": "I'm in a leadership position in ROTC and we are in charge of drilling and marching cadets. I have a slacker who just won't pay attention or listen to rules. He is always half-assing everything, and in turn other cadets follow his influence. My colonel is chewing my ass because I'm responsible for him. \n\nNothing I do phases him; he's the kind that was forced by parents into ROTC, and he's the kind of person who never follows rules and does drugs and has attitude problems. \n\nI try being nice to him, but that doesn't work. I gradually became stricter and stricter, even issuing push ups, and he flat out gave attitude to me and refused to do them.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "In ROTC, a slacker refuses to listen, and in turn my colonel chews my ass. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i2p7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] I think I want to end a serious relationship, need advice. Her[16MF]", "post": "I have been dating this girl on, and off, for over 5 years, some may say it's probably not serious, but it is. But my ex [18F] has recently re-kindled a strong passion I had for her for a while, about 6 months. I want to give it another shot, but I don't know how to cut the ties with the relationship I am in. I really love my current girlfriend, but I want to give my ex another shot, and I have no idea what to do. My current girlfriend is very attached to me, and I don't want to lose her, so I need real advice.", "summary": "Recently started talking to an ex, want to give it a try, don't know where to end the current one I am in."}
{"id": "t3_2foe4n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] - cannot handle my friends [same age, M/F] hanging out with my parents", "post": "Hi - kind of a weird question / situation. I'll try to be brief.\n\nI am from country A, did high-school in country B, and am currently in the United States for college. My friends from country A are doing a month-and-a-half long trip to country B. Since my family lives in country B, I suggested that my friends, when they get to the city we live at, stay at our house so they don't have to pay for hotels and my parents could show them around.\n\nThe problem, as I found out, is that I *cannot deal with it*. \n\nI cannot stand the thought that my friends and my parents are making memories (in the most literal sense) without me. Like, these are two groups of people that have only come together because of me, and the fact that I am not there and that they are doing (fun) stuff together unrelated to me is making me really anxious. Basically, my parents are taking them out to restaurants/attractions and are basically being awesome for showing my friends around the city.\n\nI remember having this as a kid too, it just hasn't surfaced in a while. When I was about 6 or 7, it was my mom's turn to carpool the kids from school and everyone got to the car before me, and hence waited for like a minute until I got there. When I found out that they had all waited together for me (for a really insignificant amount of time, no one cared) I broke down and cried. I remember everyone being really confused and didn't understand when I tried to explain.\n\nSo, definitely something I need to talk to my therapist about, but I wanted to know if anyone has ever encountered something like this and what are people's thoughts on this.\n\nIt's like a weird mixture of FOMO/jealousy/homesickness. I realize this is not normal.", "summary": "my parents are being awesome for showing my friends around while I'm not home, and I cannot deal with them having fun and literally creating memories in which I am not present or related to."}
{"id": "t3_4ku8yj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] of almost 3 years, suggested taking a break?", "post": "A large group of our friends are going to this weekend camping festival and due to the size of it and how we are all arriving on different days it is unlikely that I am sharing a tent with my girlfriend.\n\nShe recently suggested that we \"took a break\" for the festival. At first I was shocked and didn't know if it was because she didn't want to spend time with me, had stopped liking me and even wanting to go out getting with other boys.\n\nI obviously said no and asked why she wanted that and she just said she trusted me however didn't trust my friends and thinks they would egg me on to get with other girls and fool around a bit.\n\nI'm really confused about the whole situation, she says she was \"testing me\" to see if I would want to take a break however that feels like she doesn't trust me. Also I feel like maybe she doesn't like me as much as I thought seeing as she suggested we break up so I can fool around..\n\nI'm really confused about this whole situation and just want some outsiders' opinions to sort of guide me through it.", "summary": "Girlfriend suggested we \"take a break\" so that I could get with who I want just for the weekend and has left me very confused."}
{"id": "t3_4otdu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27m) am not allowed to have any emotions in my relationship with my gf (22f)", "post": "I've been together with my gf for a few years. During our entire relationship it's always been difficult for me to express my emotion or discontent with something. Ive even read how to bring up things in the most non confronting, complying manner. Every single time it has ended up being flipped around and I am suddenly the asshole. No problem I apologize for whatever because I get tired of the discussion not going anywhere except me being dogshit. \n\nLately it has gotten really bad. It's either gotten really bad or I've just had less tolerance for it lately. \n\nI asked her mother a question and when she answered I replied \"ok\". My girlfriend gets mad and scolds me for saying \"ok\". \n\nIn general if im sad and I don't smile, I'm dog shit. \nMy back hurts so I'm not smiling I'm dog shit and get put down. \nSomebody said something highly offensive to me? I'm dogshit because I don't smile. \n\nI am literally dogshit if I have any sort of emotions. I'm only allowed to smile pretend to be happy otherwise I'll get shit for it. \n\nSometimes when Im not smiling she asks me what's wrong and says she knows something is wrong. I've gotten into the habit of telling her nothing is wrong at all because I know it will backfire if I tell her what's wrong, so I'd rather not deal with it. \n\nI get a lot of attention from other girls and although I've been highly against it before, it's very tempting to cheat right now. There are certain circumstances that binds my girlfriend and I together, but some of these girls  aremuch kinder to me than my girlfriend is. \n\nWhat do I do. I'm sad as fuck", "summary": "I am dog shit for having emotions."}
{"id": "t3_1npgmj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] I may have just lost a friend [20F].", "post": "A little backstory from a post about a month ago \n\nSo here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's \"too risky\". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything.", "summary": "The love of my life is dating my friend and chose him over me despite having a stronger relationship than him. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3sxs3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] My friend won't hang out with me because she is on makeup break? [23 F]", "post": "She is a cosmetologist. She wears a HEAVY amount of makeup. All the time. Recently she started breaking out in acne, that is what she told me. She told me she cried for an hour because of it and she has never had a break out this bad before. So she is on a \"Makeup Break\" I asked her how long and she said a week.\n\nI asked to hang out and she said she couldn't because of makeup break. I told her I didn't care if she didn't wear makeup, she said that I would care. I don't know, our friendship is just platonic right now,\n\nSo now I feel kind of hurt and weird. Is this even normal? For a girl to not see her friends without wearing make up first? What am I supposed to say? I'm kind of upset actually, I feel played with.", "summary": "Female friend won't hang out with me because she can't wear makeup right now because of acne or something, taking a makeup break. I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_52gr1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23/m] is a picky eater and I'm [23/f] sick of it.", "post": "My boyfriend is a horrendously picky eater, both when we cook at home (most of the week) and when we go out (once or twice a week). He'll eat only white chicken meat, steak, pizza, spaghetti or a hamburger. Green beans are the only veggie he'll touch, and he has to be vigorously persuaded to eat any fruits, after which he expects to be praised as if he's done something wonderful.\n\nI'm an adventurous eater, and I work out hard during the day so that I can enjoy something I like for dinner. I love sushi, curries, gyro, pho, ramen, etc etc. Boyfriend won't even try any of these, for a plethora of excuses.\n\nI'm fine if he contains his picky eating to himself, but I'm sick of always going to his restaurants because I can find something I'll tolerate on their menus, and he won't go near any of mine. I want to be able to cook more adventurously at home (usual menu is chicken breast, rice or potatoes, green beans- BORING) without him whining and just eating a muffin or frozen pizza instead. I'm worried about his health and I resent not being able to do something I enjoy.\n\nIn the past, we've had very nonconstructive conversations about this. He got defensive, I got snarky. I need a way to reframe the issue, maybe some scripting help or practical compromises. Any ideas?", "summary": "boyfriend is a picky eater, I like a bunch of foods he doesnt. I usually let him have his way, but I'm over that. Help please?"}
{"id": "t3_1iyhay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] was supposed to meet up with my childhood friend [20f], she didnt show up and she\u00b4s not seeing or responding to messages anymore..", "post": "So I have this female friend I\u00b4ve known since we were like 6 years old. we were good friends back then and we went to the same school untill we were about 16 (she\u00b4s born before summer holidays and Im after, so shes a bit older but in the same class). Anyway, I barely saw her for a couple of years, but when I did she was always kind of flirty, I just didnt pick up on it because of shitty self-esteem at the time(she has been flirty with me the last two years or so.). Recently we had a conversation on facebook and she seemed super excited to speak with me, commenting on how awesome everything I did was and whatnot. Lots of smileys in the chat. She said she was gonna come over and meet me at my place a week and half ago, but never showed up. Since then I\u00b4ve tried sending her a couple of messages asking whats up and trying to get a conversation starting when she was logged on to facebook, which is where we\u00b4ve stayed in touch, but she hasnt even seen the messages. Im sort of thinking she overthought the entire situation and got cold feet in the last minute, and is now scared to talk to me since she thinks shes let me down or something, or of course something completely different could have happened, but since she has been posting stuff on her wall I presume she would have had the chance to at least see my messages... Im thinking I wanna send her a message asking if she\u00b4s ignoring me and if somethings happened, but I dont want to get to aggressive either. Im not really sure if I should take some more action myself or just let her come around by herself... Any advice?", "summary": "A girl I\u00b4ve known since childhood and I\u00b4ve kind of lost contact with has been flirty when talking to me on chats and randomly meeting her for the last couple of years. We decided to meet up, but she never showed. Now she hasnt responded or seen my messages since we were supposed to meet up. I dont know if I should just let it go or pursue this further, I really want to pursue it but I feel like I might come of to agressively."}
{"id": "t3_ldnps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "G/F refuses to move away from the city ever", "post": "My current g/f (she is 24) of 5 years and I (am 28 turn 29 in Jan) are living together. She works in the financial business at a call center and I work at a engineering company designing and building plants. I am a recent grad and got a job here in the town she grew up in and where we both went to college. We have been talking and I told her at some point I will prob wind up in the field or will move to a job site for awhile to gain experience to advance. She straight up said if your career means that much to you then go. She refuses to leave our area b/c of family. I then asked what if I go to field and come home every other weekend or every weekend if it is close enough (a bunch of people do that in our office) and she said no, she doesn't do long distance relationships. She called me selfish and I should want to be with her. I tried to explain at some point I will need to go to advance my career and I cant work at the same job and the same area my entire life and her response was just find another job in the area. She responded we can't just get married and buy/build a house and just turn around and sell it, that it makes no sense we might as just rent. I am not looking to move nor do I want to really atm. If I do I want to come back to the area eventually. I just feel if the opportunity for a better job or good experience was come along in a different area i should be able to take it or at least discuss the options at the time and have the ability to maybe take it but she is basically say no now. I know it is kind of hard to play the what if game but feel this is something we would talk about before we think of marriage which i have been thinking about.", "summary": "oneday my job i might need to move for work but g/f basically says i refuse to leave the area no matter what."}
{"id": "t3_4f9cnh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] told my younger sister [18F] to break up with her toxic boyfriend [19M]. My parents are now mad at me for \"breaking up the family.\"", "post": "I could tell from the start my sister's new boyfriend was a toxic individual. I wanted to tell her to break up with him, but I was scared to do so. I built up the courage to tell her after 3 months. She was just in a fight with him, and I told her to break up with him because he was a toxic person, and she was just starting to realize that. The next day, she broke up with him.\n\nWhen she told our parents that she broke up with him and I had really helped her, our mom was *furious.* She went off on me and yelled at me for about 10 minutes because I had \"broken up the family\" and that her boyfriend had been a perfectly nice person and was not toxic. Our father was on her side, but my 4 siblings (including the sister mentioned) were on my side. They said they had realized he was a toxic person, but hadn't spoken up.\n\nNow, I don't know what to do about my parents. They're threatening to go no contact with me because I'm an embarrassment to the family. Do you have any advice for me, Reddit?", "summary": "I told my sister to break up with her toxic boyfriend. My parents are now mad at me for \"breaking up the family.\""}
{"id": "t3_3dnykk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25[m] Need advice on dipping in family biz ink.", "post": "For the record i've always been against doing this for obvious reasons.\n\nAnyways- there's an employee at my Family business  that i've had my eye on for some time. I don't work there but I come in on a regular basis.\n\nI want to ask her out but never do because:\n\n*1. she's busy doing her job whenever i'm there\n\n*2. I can't find an opportune private moment that won't make it fucking awkward for her and potentially embarass her (and me)\n\nMy question is.. would it be completely bush league of me to ask her out over a FB message?\n\n... I have always been an in person type of guy but I literally cannot find an appropriate time to ask her out for a drink.", "summary": "Want to ask employee from family biz out for a drink, Can't find appropriate opportunity to do it, considering asking her out over private FB message but am conflicted over it being so informal"}
{"id": "t3_2ltoti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my husband[28 M] I don't feel like he's emotionally supportive", "post": "My husband and I have been married for 5 years now we have two kids and he is a very good father. He is very sweet to me and respectful and honestly by most accounts we have an excellent relationship. Except that he isn't really emotionally supportive. When I turn to him to tell him how I feel about things he doesn't know how to respond.  I'm feeling very lonely because I don't have many friends or family here (plus my family is f'd anyway). I spend all of my time watching the kids, doing house work, or an college homework (I'm also taking 5 courses). I'm not sure what I should do?  I'm wondering how much I should weigh/value emotional support in the scheme of things?", "summary": "husband not emotionally supportive enough"}
{"id": "t3_2dqqbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 1.5. Today, my girlfriend is modeling for the first time. How do I remain supportive without letting my jealousy ruin our relationship?", "post": "A bit of background on myself: I am a photographer by trade.  Somewhat as a joke, my girlfriend has always playfully been very against my taking photos of her.  It hurt and annoyed me at first when she played coy, but eventually I just stopped trying to involve her in my work.   \n\nShe is a very attractive girl - to the point of being openly approached constantly whenever she's out at no matter the setting (work, etc).  That said, she grew into her good looks and somewhat enjoys the attention she gets now.  Recently, she was asked to model for a clothing company startup she is a fan of.  Excited with the idea, she agreed.\n\nAt the moment, I am a mixture of supportive, jealous, insecure, and unsure.  The photographer inside me is against the idea because it's unpaid and I feel they're taking advantage of her.  The boy in me is jealous that she is so enamored with the idea and was so resistive to me (taking photos) initially.  I'm also just not that comfortable with my girlfriend choosing to be ogled by people online - perhaps a bit possessive/insecure, but I just don't love the idea of her half naked all over the internet and lastly... The boyfriend in me is being supportive and pushing her to do something she wants to even though I really feel bad about it.  \n\nI don't want to push her away and I want to see her happy.  How do I deal with my own insecurities and jealousy with this situation.  She's at the shoot right now and having a great time.  I'm at home in knots.", "summary": "My girlfriend is modeling today for the first time and really enjoying it.  I'm insecure and jealous because she's never shown the desire to do that with me and I feel uncomfortable with her choice to be ogled."}
{"id": "t3_3hu561", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22 F] deal with seeing my ex [21 M] kissing other girls?", "post": "My ex and I had a strong and passionate relationship. After a string of fights and him deciding that he needed time to focus on his own life and work, he broke things off. Nonetheless, we eventually became close again and this lead to me knowing that I still have feelings, and I do think he has some as well (I can tell by the way he goes out of his way to speak to me and see me). But whenever I bring this up, he is not interested in discussing (and actually starts seeing me as too clingy and obsessed) because he is enjoying the independence of being single and being able to focus on himself, no drama.\n\nFor me, single life has not been bad. I go clubbing and I kiss guys. I've also been on a few dates. Most of this was as a way to get over him though, and also because it seemed like a natural thing to be doing.\n\nNow, he has really started living his single life as well and has started clubbing lots and kissing girls, and him and I speak less. This makes me feel incredibly sad, when really I have no right to. He's allowed to do this and also, I've been doing the same thing.\n\nI just don't know how to think and react and exactly what these hook ups mean to guys. He did wait a long time until after the break up to start kissing girls, so it's not really a rebound. But I'm wondering whether it's a sign that he has just moved on from me.", "summary": "Still have feelings for my ex. Seeing him kiss other girls brings me a lot of difficulty."}
{"id": "t3_plkeu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "dark fantasies", "post": "I have very dark sexual fantasies.  Most of them involve rape/torture/submission.  Sometimes it is quite graphic, really the more graphic the better.  Violent pornography is what I really like to watch.  I can do solo, softer stuff but my mind always makes it very dark.  I build stories in my head about how the girls deserve to be raped and murdered.  I read involved stories of rape and humiliation, typically the girls in my fantasies range from teenagers to 30s.  I want to stop thinking about these fantasies, but I can't get them out of my head.  I am very afraid that if they get stronger I will act on these fantasies.\n\nBefore, I'd only have these dark fantasies in private but now if I'm around pretty much any attractive female I have them.", "summary": "nothing important was said."}
{"id": "t3_54kh8u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] friend [20M] is emotionally draining me without realizing it. How do I gently tell him to stop?", "post": "Hello, r/relationships! \n\nI have a friend I've known for 2 years. We're pretty close despite some differences, though lately I feel like he is exhausting me.\n\nMy friend has a horrible home life. He doesn't deserve any of it and I feel terrible for him. He's been struggling a lot over the last year with anxiety and depression and seems to be on the verge of a breakdown. However, he's basically been using me as his therapist. Every time we see each other the conversation quickly veers into that direction and he's miserable. \n\nNow he doesn't do this on purpose. He's a good friend who has always encouraged me to talk about my issues, too, but they are nowhere near his.  I've encouraged him to get therapy and he says he will but always has an excuse. How can I , very gently, get him to stop?", "summary": "Friend who's going through a bad time constantly vents to me. Please help me get him to stop."}
{"id": "t3_36xvrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and my girlfriend [16 F] are going to sleep together for the first time. I'm anxious.", "post": "I'm a very anxious person in general, sometimes to an obsessive degree.\n\nWe've been together for over two years without having sex. At first she was too young (14) and now she wants a time when she is free of stress so she can be relaxed and not have to worry about anything else. The.. event itself will take place in about a month, after she finishes her exams. We've considered it now and then through the time we've been together but always decides to wait.\n\nNow it isn't being put off any longer. And, while it has been a TORTUROUS wait for me (worth it, to be with someone like her), it suddenly seems... rather sudden and immediate. \n\nGod knows I want to, and I definitely don't want to wait any longer, but at the same time I don't know how I'm going to be fully ready by the time it happens. \n\nI understand on an intellectual level that it is not that big a deal. Just sex, right? But emotionally it seems like a great deal more than that.\n\nAnd I know that it is for her. We're very open in discussing these matters. To her this is a really big deal; her virginity is something she can only ever give to one person and she wants it to be meaningful. It's sharing a more intimate part of herself than she ever has before.\n\nI understand and even agree with her. But that kind of adds pressure to the situation. I don't want to screw up and make her first time something she doesn't want to remember. And I don't know if worrying about it will just make it more likely to happen.\n\nI'm not even sure what I'm asking here. As much a chance to just talk about it as possible,I guess; my only confidante aside from my girlfriend is asexual, and as such she can't give much input here. But do I really have anything to worry about? Just how badly CAN I screw this up? And is there anything I definitely, definitely shouldn't do?", "summary": "there's a lot of buildup and pressure surrounding my first time and I don't know how to think about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_e3yso", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this guy crazy? Should I be careful?", "post": "So Reddit, I'm your average nerdy 20 year old guy and a new guy just started up at my work (He's like mid 40's). Anyway it has been my job to train him and get him up to date with all of the systems we support (I work tech support at one of the biggest banks in my state). \n\nLately I have noticed that no one around the office really talks to him much so I have been engaging in conversation with him about out of work stuff and just general chats. We haven't really talked about a many things but he seems pretty legit. He invited me out for beer on Friday night with one of his other mates who used to work at the bank, so I said that sounds decent. Today he asked me for my mobile number and without hesitation I gave it to him. (Not thinking it would be a problem).\n\nFast forward to about 3:15pm today, I left work about an hour early because all of my systems had crashed and I was basically useless at work so I told my boss I'd start an hour earlier tomorrow. I get home and go straight to bed for a little kip, I wake up to find 4 missed calls from his mobile, 3 voice-messages and 2 calls from what I presume is his house phone asking where I was. Does this just seem like legitimate concern? Or is this weird from someone you hardly know? Is this more of a generation gap? Because i'd usually only send a casual text message in this situation. Comments from older redditors would be extremely helpful!!", "summary": "New work friend is a serial phone caller. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4jcq48", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have deep feelings for my friend[23 M]. How to get over them and is it possible to still be friends?", "post": "I met him in October last year at university. We immediately clicked and since we have the same major, we took the same classes. I think he liked me at first, he would text me all the time and ask me to hang out on weekends. He is a very nice guy and I really enjoyed his company and looked forward to getting his texts everyday.\n\nAt the beginning of this quarter, things started to change. He started texting me less and no longer asked me how my day was and that's when I realized that I have feelings for him, and it shocked me how intense they were. I was thinking about him 24/7 and it affected me in a negative way. I no longer wanted to hang out with anyone, I got bad grades in all my classes and I just slept all the time. The texting almost stopped right now. I still see at school everyday and we spend our breaks together, he's nice when I'm with him and still teases me and jokes around.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do and I'm not sure what he's thinking, I sometimes wonder if he just doesn't want spend our break time with me but is too nice to say so and I wonder if I pushed him away when I was having a hard time controlling my feelings when I'm around him by being cold and ignoring him. I want to stop thinking about him and move on. I really want to focus on school and get good grades since is not too late.\nDistancing myself from him is not an option at this point since we are taking the same classes. Also, I can never be in a relationship with him because of some circumstances. How do I stop being so miserable all the time? How do I stop waiting for his texts when I know he won't be sending me anything? Is it possible to get over him and still be friends? He hasn't done anything wrong and it doesn't feel right to be mean to him. Please help me!!", "summary": "I have feelings for a friend that I see everyday and they're affecting me in negative way. How do I control/stop these feelings without losing him?"}
{"id": "t3_3lss9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my relatives [20-60s m/f], they keep talking and posting about a racist tradition and other stuff", "post": "My mom is from a European county that has an extremely racist holiday tradition. This year people are finally thinking about getting rid of it.\n\nThe problem is that lots of white people in said country see nothing wrong with the tradition. Now that the holiday season is around the corner, my relatives are starting to post pictures of this tradition on FB with descriptions ranging from 'keep *tradition* the way it is!' to 'if you don't lije *tradition*, go back to your own country!'. Some posts actually attack the minority that is affected by this tradition.\n\nThe person who posts the most crap is my grandpa, whom I live very, very much, and I know he loves it when I like/comment on his FB stuff. He also tries to talk me into accepting that this tradition is great. I didn't want to argue, so I made a joke about it and now he thinks it's okay to say even more racist stuff to me about immigrants and stuff.\n\nMy mom, who is a very smart woman, even thinks that the tradition is great.\n\nLuckily, I don't see these people in real life because they live in Europe, but it pains me to see them advocate this stuff. I can't just delete my grandpa and other relatives off of FB, but I am worried that one of my friends sees his posts. I also just want people to not talk to me about racist stuff. What should I do? Just delete FB? I'd really rather not, because it's how I keep in touch with my European relatives.", "summary": "family members post racist stuff on FB and want to convince me that they are right. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_10ehhv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your darkest secret? Here's mine..", "post": "Here's the full story: \nMy girlfriend and I go to visit my sister and her husband for the week.\nThe weekend before we leave, we decide to mark the end of an epic week with a night of drinking. It's Saturday night, and we're busy getting sloshed: a couple rounds of King's cup, beer pong, and Sake Bombs got us feeling real nice. It started to get really late and I ended up crashing on the couch while my girlfriend went to bed.\n\nI remember waking up at 2 raging horny. And I mean, RAGING. The last time I felt so virile was when I was an 11 year old hormonal boy. So I did what every horny guy in a relationship would do; I went upstairs to see if my girlfriend would be down for some sexy-times. \n\nThat's the last thing I remember. The following portion is from what she has told me. Apparently, I entered the room and lay down next to her. I started kissing her pretty aggressively which instantly turned her off. I didn't know about this, nor could I tell from her body language because I was piss drunk still. I forced myself on to her and began talking to her in a way that made her feel uncomfortable. I kept going because I thought she was into it. She couldn't bring herself to say \"no,\" or try to physically stop me because she was afraid of me.\n\nI come to find out, after we arrive back home, that she felt very uncomfortable and very violated. She continued to say that she didn't feel safe around me, and that incident will make future sexy-times hard. Now, I can't help but see the word \"RAPIST\" everytime I look in the mirror.", "summary": "I raped my girlfriend in my sister's house"}
{"id": "t3_1quvbk", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I do think this may be the beginning of a great adventure", "post": "I joined this sub about 2 months ago, and have lurked a bit since. Congrats to all of you who are succeeding and good luck to you all who are still on the journey. \n\nI need to lose a lot of weight..I'm almost embarrassed to say the number, it just seems too much. It seems impossible. I see some of you all have done it and more, so there is that. :)\n\nI've had a set back lately, meaning a hormone I'm on for a health problem has helped me gain 15 lbs. in a matter of weeks. Yes, i realize I gained the weight because I'm shoving food in my mouth, but when you're hungry, you're hungry! \n\nWell, having to go to urgent care (for a different problem...ear infection ouchy) and seeing the scale go WAY higher than it ever has, I just about cried right there. That poor nurse saw that I was about to lose it, but she was nice about it. \n\nI HAVE to lose weight. There is just no going back now. The 100's of starts and failures don't matter anymore. Do or do not... there is no try. \n\nI'm also a mom to two busy teens, work part time and am going to school 3/4 full time, so I got that going for me. Exercise time is just not happening for a few more weeks until I get those 4 papers written for my history class, and a Christmas vacation (where I think I'll get LOTS of exercise, oddly enough). For the next few weeks, exercise will be on the fly. Taking the stairs instead of elevators, parking a little bit further when shopping, etc. \n\nSince my embarrassing dr. visit on Wed. night, I've begun casually going Paleo/Low Carb/Keto with very little effort. I think I've already lost 5 lbs. by cutting out bread, chips, sugary anything, rice and potatoes. Eating more vegetables at meals, etc.", "summary": "I'm uber-fat, and going to follow through this time. Wish me luck!"}
{"id": "t3_12ztm8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate has told me many disgusting band camp stories and so I'm curious: What are YOUR most horrifying stories from band and/or camp?", "post": "The main story that stuck with me involved my roommate and this guy that everyone in the band absolutely hated. For the life of me, I can't remember his name, so I'll call him \"Dave\". Dave apparently was an asshole to everyone and if there's anything to take away from this story, it's to not piss off band geeks.\n\nMy roommate's high school band was traveling by bus to a school in a different city for a competition. Dave had been messing with the people in band all week and as a band member himself, would be accompanying them to the competition. The bus ride was going to take around 4-5 hours and a group of trombone guys (including my roommate) decided it would be a great opportunity to get back at Dave. They sneaked into the band room, opened Dave's trombone case, and stole his mouthpiece.\n\nOne by one, the guys took turns jacking off into it. One of the them stuck it up his ass. Another pissed on it.\n\nThey made sure to wipe off the more obvious fluids, but didn't rinse the thing out. Instead, they stuck it back into Dave's case and watched as it was loaded into the storage section under the bus. There, the mouthpiece sat. Did I mention it was May? It was fucking May. For 5 hours, that mouthpiece sat roasting in shit and piss and semen like a fetish-loving prostitute in the trunk of a car. When the bus finally stopped, Dave took it out and played his trombone as if not a single thing was wrong.", "summary": "Roommate and his friends subjected a mouthpiece to the bodily excrement trifecta and left it to roast in the summer heat for 5 hours."}
{"id": "t3_2l10du", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Something has happened to me.", "post": "Last night, some friends and I drank quite a bit and decided to smoke some weed. They seemed totally fine afterwards...just giggly and stoned. I, however, had the worst ever reaction. I laid there on my bathroom floor, completely numb, feeling that time was literally standing still. I was extremely delusional. Over the course of what could have been 2 minutes or 2 hours, I felt my life being drained out of my body. I went through stages: fear (am I going to die? I don't want to die!), contemplation (if I die now, am I okay with myself as a person?), anger (I'm a shitty person anyway and I deserve to die like this), shame (what kind of person am I, for dying, stoned, on my own bathroom floor?) and acceptance (I am going to die, and that's okay). I ended up laying there waiting to die because I felt like my organs, my heart and lungs, were expanding and getting ready to pop and collapse. I ended up getting violently sick before rolling over and passing out on the floor. I woke up several hours later and dragged myself into bed. I think I realized at that point that I wasn't dying then, but something changed inside of me. My own mortality slapped me in ye face. I don't spend every day worrying that I might get killed, and I was sure that I was fine until I realized that people die accidentally every day and that last night could have been the end of the road for me. My cold bathroom floor could have been the last feeling I had. \nThis morning, I woke up hungover, but alive. Something has changed though. My own mortality is hovering over my head and I can't keep my head clear. I'm sure that with time, the preoccupation will fade, but I can't get over this crippling fear that I could die at any moment.", "summary": "A near-death experience makes me acknowledge my mortality, and I am extremely preoccupied and fearful of it."}
{"id": "t3_10jqf3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, give me your \"thought of the day\".", "post": "I work as a security guard at a casino and often I find myself standing around with nothing too do. The busy nights are hectic and crazy, while on the slow nights I swear I've seen tumbleweeds rolling through the casino floor.\n\nFor the record I do work and I work hard, but on slow nights I am really required to do nothing other than stand/walk around and look imposing. We are more-or-less there too portray a presence of authority and until something happens I am bored as fuck.\n\nTo pass the time I've been giving myself a couple of topics to ponder throughout the day, and then taking notes of my thoughts in my notebook after work. Just something to think about and pass the time. I've also written joke haiku's, but we'll save those for later.", "summary": "Bored at work, give me something to think about."}
{"id": "t3_2dsn2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] don't know if I still want to be with my boyfriend [25] of 5 years and it's killing me.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. Sorry for any grammar mistakes - english is not my native language. Also sorry for being chaotic, I'm a total mess right now.\n\nFirst thing I'd like to say is that I have anxiety issues and borderline personality characteristics. That being said, lets get to the point.\n\nI don't know if I love my bf. I don't know if I ever did. He was my first bf and I was his first serious girlfriend. We're both introverts. I've never said the magic words, he did couple of times. I know he's a perfect boyfriend but I'm a terrible gf. He has summarised this very well - it's like I want him to be with me but I don't want to be with him. We had conversations about how I feel, that I'm confused and I really don't know, what do I want. There was an idea that he would move out (we live together 4 years) and see what happens. But the single thought scares the hell out of me. I'm terrified of being left alone. I don't have any friends on my own and I'm really dependent on him. I have social anxiety, graduated from college and don't have a job.\n\nWe always said we don't want to get married, because \"love is enough\" etc. Then, yesterday we went to a friends wedding and since then I couldn't be more miserable. I looked at them and at the other happy couple (also his friends) and couldn't stop thinking how unhappy I am and I couldn't possibly vow to stay with my bf for ever. I feel like I'm with him for nothing but selfish reasons. I mean, I want him to be happy, I don't want to hurt him. He's my best friend, we were happy. He still says he's happy. But I'm not. Even though I have everything.\n\nAnd this is pretty lame but I need some strangers from the Internet to tell me what's their opinion about my situation. What the hell is wrong with me?", "summary": "I don't know if I've ever loved my bf. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_f502h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shall I sing for you, Reddit?", "post": "A bit of background first. I've been in choirs/choruses since I was a soprano, about 12 years now. I've always loved singing, and can do one hell of a tenor line. Recently I've started tinkering with audio development software for the hell of it, and really enjoy it. So to put these two hobbies together, I've decided to record a choral/harmonic piece by myself for my personal amusement. Of course I'll share, though.  \nNow here's where you come in, Reddit. I've been tossing around ideas in my head for what song to sing, but can't pin down anything definite. I need your help in choosing a song, something with strong harmonic vocals, and not too dependent on the instrumentals. I'm not too particular as to genre, so feel free to throw down whatever you have! I have a sample of some singing I did previously somewhere, I'll have to find it and post it so you have an idea of what I sound like. I want to get started soon, so I'll do whatever song is most upvoted in 10 days. I look forward to the opportunity to serenade you!", "summary": "tenor taking requests."}
{"id": "t3_3d4xaf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: [UPDATE] Changed my mind to move in with roommate S", "post": "This is an update to this post: \n\nSo after almost a week of silence (minus a very brief, probably twenty minutes long visit on Wednesday), S showed up Friday night with her dad. **Her behaviour did not change.** She started making comments about the state of the house, which did not change while she was gone. She asked why her bike had been moved in to the living room, we told her it was in the way of a potential tenant who would be looking at another room we have available. \"Don't touch my bike.\" J: \"It's in the w--\" S: \"Don't touch my bike.\" Even her dad was like, \"It's okay, they'll move it when they're done. Or I can move it.\" Shortly after that her dog walked over to me, and when I pet him she pulled him away and said, \"Don't pet my dog. Gross, he probably has herpes now!\" Then she started talking out loud, in a gossipy and mocking voice, to... I'm not sure who, since her dad was outside. \"Oh my God, they're acting like he just walked over to them like nothing! Wooow!\" She has stopped making sense when she speaks. I'm really concerned for her mental health.\n\nAll of this is very petty and not really a danger to us, so I'll skip to the next part - her dad told us that **they spoke to a lawyer and threatened to sue us for \"emotional damage\".** He said she has \"every right\" to go forward with legal proceedings and that the lawyer knows each of our names. I called the police department that night and the officer on the phone told me that the only people who get in trouble for emotional damage are employers and that he \"doesn't really know what she's trying to do.\" \n\nThat night we all ignored her. J and A went out to see some friends again, and I hung out in my room with another friend of mine. Thankfully, J got a lock for my door the previous day. S invited a friend of hers and they talked loudly in the living room about how horrible we are. S and her friend ended up leaving at 1:30 Saturday morning. We haven't seen her since.", "summary": "S pushed me because we hurt her feelings and she wants to sue all of us for it."}
{"id": "t3_38ae2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to start over. Where do I begin? [24,m], [24,f].", "post": "My ex-girlfriend [24/f] and I [24/m] broke up three days ago after only a year and a half together and I'm not sure what to do right now. It was a very involved relationship, we saw each other everyday and i was close to her family. My own friends and family have told me that I should work on myself but I don't even know where to begin. I feel as though through the course of this relationship I sort of lost sight of the goals and aspirations I once had. I exercise occasionally and am working on my fitness as some of my friends have mentioned but I guess I'm just looking for other outlets.", "summary": "Not sure what to do now that relationship is over."}
{"id": "t3_3w8lj9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[21M] Came Into Money, Interested in Buying A House", "post": "Throwaway for reasons.  I feel extremely fortunate to be in this situation. I'm 21, still in school (which is being fully paid for), and have come into a sizable investment account started by my grandfather.  I have no credit cards, no debt, and am currently making around $30k a year from investments and part-time work.  I am interested in taking a portion of the money (about $300k) to be able to build a house, but I'm unsure of the best way financially to go about it.  I am interested in spending more to build because I would like to start out with no hidden problems and getting a better lot than I could if I were just buying.  I would rather build a house that I like and enjoy enough to be stuck with for 15+ years than buy a house for quick resale.  The idea of paying all cash to build a house is appealing, since I'm pretty sure I do not have a good credit score yet, but I'm unsure if it is the smartest thing to tie up a good portion of my assets in a house just to avoid paying interest.  I am wondering if it is best to pay cash for the land and construction, finance one or the other, or finance both.  If financing is the best course, I'm also interested in paying it off early, especially once I'm out of school and hopefully making more money.  Anything I'm forgetting to add about my situation I'm happy to edit in.  Thanks!", "summary": "21, no debt, no credit, interested in building a house and the best way to pay for said decision."}
{"id": "t3_er6tz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My thoughts on my own Christmas this year - am I doing the right thing?", "post": "Firstly - sorry for the 'downer' on a day like today - just really on my mind.\n\nWell Reddit, another year has come around and its Christmas - I work in retail so I'm surrounded by people that are talking about doing everything with the family and friends, buying presents for everyone, so on and so fourth.\n\nWith my career, and it being my own choice, I sometimes have to move to different places to manage stores, its still a yes/no choice but to move up its something that I have to do and shouldn't really say NO to, as its something that is somewhat required of you (see of it as, what are you willing to give up to get a chance of a life time) - although I'm starting to think just how much of my own life am I giving up to chase my dreams?\n\nI don't live with my family anymore, and I'm roughly 1200km from them (not much, I know, but we are talking about $600 in flights, possibly more for return) - my girlfriend is now even further away, and shits getting pretty tough there too with the distance and not being able to be there for each other.\n\nI left most of my friends, and rarely hear from them now (could be partly my fault not speaking to them either, but frankly I'm pretty busy most of the time and we just end up drifting apart).\n\nSo reddit, without giving you the entire life story, I ask for your guidance:\n\nMy job could potentially give me (X) amount of money to live comfortably for the rest of my life, filling a dream that I fill I would love to achieve - but in the process losing the closeness of friends, family and loved ones - but possibly getting them back in the end?\n\nOr do I get out now, move back to family and loved ones (in an area possibly without as good job prospects and in some ways settle for 'second best' or have to work even harder to get where I want to be?\n\nIf you have any questions, I'll try to answer them - I mean, I don't have anything to do today on Christmas, right? I'm alone and self reflecting!", "summary": "I'm doubting my choices and its not even the new year - stay with my current job (possibly dreams/aspirations), potentially lose loved ones/family OR leave all that and go back to them"}
{"id": "t3_2hwy2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [27 F] of several months, and a tax disagreement?", "post": "I'll do my best to keep this concise.\n\nMy wife has a chronic illness. As a result she doesn't have a 9-5 job, doesn't earn much money, and really, really needs health insurance.\n\nOur state didn't expand Medicaid, and my employer offers health insurance but it would cost an arm and a leg to cover her with it. She qualifies for subsidies on the market as long as we can bust our asses and keep her income high enough.\n\nThe trick is she would lose those subsidies if she has any other way to get coverage - i.e. my employer. Long story short, she's going to lie on her taxes and file as \"Single\" and obviously I have to as well. \n\nI am incredibly uncomfortable with lying on my taxes but both she and her mom (who was, to be fair, a tax attorney) think it should be okay for one year. I would imagine most people wouldn't lie to say they were *single* on their taxes, so I guess there's that.\n\nI don't see a realistic way for us to afford coverage through my employer, unfortunately. I'd love for this to be a \"put my foot down\" moment but if that results in her losing coverage I don't think I can justify it.\n\nWe all have to make sacrifices in marriage ... is this a reasonable one for me to make? I guess worst-case scenario is we get caught and busted for a large fine. Which puts us back on square one (or square 0.5, due to the fines ...)", "summary": "I have to lie on my taxes for my wife. Is this just a matter of sacrificing for the wife, or should I put my foot down? Anyone else (come on throwaways) had to do something similar?"}
{"id": "t3_18rpsf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My employer asked me to hire a \"skinny girl\", what can I do?", "post": "Obvious throwaway account, I was recently hired by an online shoe retailer (2 months) and there has been some obviously sketchy business practices going on. My first clue was during the job interview when the hiring manager asked if I was married (clearly against the law but I didn't mind at the time because I am married and it helped me get the job I kinda needed). My position in the company is fairly unique, I work with the newly hired Marketing Director and last Friday she asked me to put up a job listing, interview, and hire a new customer service person. I asked what specific requirements and she said  \"a skinny girl\" and added \"preferably Chinese.\" There is obvious Chinese favoritism going on as well, incompetent people being hired over qualified, senior employees presumably because they share a nationality with the owner, but I would rather just focus on the blatant sexism. What can I do that actually makes my life any better?", "summary": "My boss asked me to hire a \"skinny (Chinese) girl\", what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_19307c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F24] am not looking for a relationship, but am infatuated with my coworker [M26]", "post": "I [F24] moved overseas for work about 18 months ago, breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 years to do so. I'm convinced the break up was the right thing to do, but it's hit us both very hard and I don't feel ready to move on yet.\n\nWhen I started working at my new job, I immediately noticed that one of my coworkers, Mark [M26] was pretty cute, but didn't give it much more thought. The two of us are the youngest members of our team by a significant margin. We happen to come from the same country, he's been here for about 3 years. There aren't many young single women in my industry, so for the first few months I was swamped with suitors, but Mark (as is proper for a coworker) never showed any sign of interest.\n\nAbout 6 months ago my team moved offices, and I had to start sharing an office with Mark. Naturally we started to casually chat more once we were crammed in the same 12 square yards for 9 hours a day, and I've slowly started to develop an irrational infatuation with him. I get unjustifiably upset if he calls in sick for the day, or even just shows up a little late in the mornings. He's perfectly friendly with me, but has never shown any sign of wanting to have any social interaction outside of a work context (I do meet with other coworkers outside of work sometimes). He's straight but been single the whole time I've been working here.\n\nThis infatuation is stupid, I'm not ready to start dating again, I know that coworkers are totally a no-go zone, he's shown no interest in me, and I don't actually think we'd even be particularly compatible. I haven't let my infatuation get in the way of my work, if anything I'm working longer hours because he tends to leave later than I would otherwise. I know I have to get over him, but I just don't know how to go about it since rationally I don't want to look for or get into any kind of non-platonic relationship with any guy right now. Advice, please!", "summary": "I'm obsessed with my countryman office buddy, but don't actually want to date anyone right now. How do I get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_3570nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Serious] How do you properly end a FWB relationship?", "post": "Really, I guess it's more just a fuck buddy situation. Me (m/38), her (f33) have been seeing each other for a couple months. Basically amounts to me going to her place after work a couple nights a week. We don't have anything else in common and I'm getting a vibe that she wants more. I know that means it has to end because I don't want to take advantage. The sex is amazing but nope. I just don't know how to end it without coming off as a dick. \n\nAlso, she hasn't touched on feelings so I don't want to bring that up either. I'm just not comfortable with the whole thing anymore.", "summary": "I'd like to end a FWB relationship without sounding like a dick."}
{"id": "t3_1grfa3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Roommates dad make me wanna punch a small child in the face", "post": "Alright, I've heard this is the appropriate place for a rant like this. \n\nSo back in February I moved into my friend house. It started out good I used the move as a chance as a fresh start. I got a new job a new attitude and started a new chapter in life. At first my roommates dad, lets call him John) was nice and friendly all the time. Then in may he quits his job now up until this point he and his son, my roommate would spilt rent. Then his daughter also moved in which left John I'm the living room and me on the floor. He didn't look for work at first then he found an odd job and got some rent money. After that he stopped looking for work entirely. Sitting at home all fucking day watching Netflix and playing Xbox. Then he started making fun of me and not doing fuck around the house  Skip to now he still doesn't have a job an isn't looking dipole me spending my own money for bus tickets. Then I decide I'm going to be a little more healthy so I put some water I'm the fridge he then tells me how stupid it is having water and refuses to have anything but iced tea in the fridge. Now earlier this week me and my roommate spent 600$ on groceries which included Arizona iced tea. I'm at the end of this leash. He acts like everyone needs to service him before themselves and his making fun of me gets worse everyday. It's to the point that its the only time he's talking to me. I'm like on the edge of blowing the fuck up on him for acting like a fucking 6 year old and being a lazy dick. \n\nUgh.", "summary": "roommates dads a fucking asshole and its bugging me"}
{"id": "t3_24kmzh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "His ex still texts him.", "post": "So my SO (20m) has been with me(20f) a little over a year and it has been an LDR since day one. He had broken up with his ex several months before we even met and she still texts him occassionally to this day. He apparently got a text from her today that she was in the same town as he is and that just screams a red flag in my head. Why would she contact HIM of all people after not talking to him for 6 months and suddenly this?! I'm so dumbfounded and lost and would like to ask for any advice on how I could smoothly tell my SO to stop contacting, let alone, keep her number in his contacts...which I don't understand at all..its really frustrating and this is my first post. Sigh..", "summary": "SO's ex still contacts him, don't know what to think or say, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_drh8z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm great at small talk, but how do I move past that?", "post": "Reddit, I'm great on first and second dates when a lot of it is asking questions and getting to know about the other person. In fact, I love meeting new people because I'm pretty decent at small talk. After the first or second date though, I seem to run into a wall about what to talk about. \n\nIs this a problem of just 'chemistry' (fuck, how does it work)? I'm great hanging out with friends and with girls that are in that damned friend zone. I just can't seem to make it work on a one-on-one setting with a girl I'm interested in, in a date situation. I'm just wondering if anyone had any tips out there. Thanks!\n\n(Note: I have been in relationships before (21 years old), but I feel that this seems to be part of the reason why they don't go anywhere and just kind of fizzle out.)", "summary": "How do I come up with stuff to talk about when dating a girl once all the small talk introductory stuff is out of the way?"}
{"id": "t3_2805zi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, what is a good name for my fitness team at work?", "post": "At work I'm participating (being told I need to) in our corporate wide \"Step Up\" challenge. We record our activity and \"steps taken\" throughout the summer, and at the end of the summer, the group with the most steps, wins...something. My boss saw the names of the other groups, decided we needed a better name. He told me to ask Reddit! \n\nSo, about us:\n1. 1 male, 5 females 2. We work in the banking industry/large corporation 3. Smaller city, 50k 4. I'm in my mid twenties, everyone else is 50+ 5. Rhyming or plays on words dealing with banking is a plus", "summary": "Name our \"physical fitness\" group"}
{"id": "t3_47md7h", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Put a deposit for a Kitten way back, found out I'm allergic to Cats. Advice?", "post": "Okay I believed that I was not allergic to anything after being told by my parents and everyone in my family that I do not have allergies and had tests done.\n\nI put down a deposit for a Ragdoll Kitten, $350 for something not even born yet.\nNow I just found out I'm allergic to Cat Dander. \n\nI don't know what to do. I want to get a refund but I'm first gonna ask you guys and do research. Should I get a Ragdoll even if I am allergic? I've heard all stuff about them being great cats for people with allergies and I heard the exact opposite as well. I know Cat Dander comes from saliva. \n\nI fell in love with Ragdoll Cats so this is just difficult for me to come to terms with. \n\nI just need extra insight and advice.", "summary": "Put a deposit for a future Ragdoll Kitten. Tested positive for Cat allergies. Should I keep the kitten, or get a refund?"}
{"id": "t3_nasge", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the strangest conversation you've ever had online?", "post": "Give me your best story of being creeped out by talking to someone on the internet. Here's mine: When going through college, I became severely depressed. I also developed horrible habits like isolating myself and sleeping very little (maybe once every three days or so). When I couldn't sleep, I would go online and talk to total strangers. One night, I had this woman on Yahoo Messenger IM me. Her little avatar was a picture of a very built pit bull. I had never seen a dog with such worked out muscles, I figured she showed dogs or something. Nope. Just fucked them. She ended up telling me how fucked up her life was and how since her husband wouldn't sleep with her, she had to resort to having sex with the dog. The worst part? She kept on trying to convince me that I should try it.", "summary": "Spoke online to a stranger who was into bestiality."}
{"id": "t3_2p0kd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Difficult situation. I (m29) am in love with one of my best friends (f28).", "post": "Here's my situation:\n\nI am in love with my good friend and coworker. We've both worked at the same ad agency in NYC for several years and over that time have developed a really solid friendship. We often talk, half-jokingly, about how we should travel together. Now there is a chance that our company might send us both abroad to work on a project together. I know she also really values our friendship, but I can't tell if her feelings go any deeper than that, like mine do.\n\nThings are a little complicated by the fact that as long as I've known her she's had a long-term boyfriend, except for a short period last year when they took a \"break\".  It's also complicated because we're all part of the same friend group so I often have to see them together, which is usually torture for me. I'm not exactly buddies with her bf, but we have many friends in common. \n\nSo, what do I do?  Do I just tell her how I feel and risk alienating myself from our group and possibly losing her as a friend (while still having to work with her)?  Do I wait and hope that things eventually fizzle out for good with her bf? Or do I just accept that I might never be with her and try to enjoy the strong friendship we have.\n\nThanks in advance for any advice.", "summary": "In love with my good friend and coworker, who has been unavailable as long as I've known her. If I tell her how I feel, I risk losing friends, including her."}
{"id": "t3_34dg2j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not reading.", "post": "So this happened a few minutes ago as of typing this first sentence. I was browsing the Steam store looking to see if anything was under 5 dollars. I had recently sold two Chroma 2 cases and I had a few bucks that I could spend. I didn't want to spend it on skins and especially keys so I decided to find a game just a few dollars. I come across [this] game and after reading a few of the reviews I decided to buy it. It was 3 dollars and looked like it could run on my laptop after quickly glazing over the specs so I bought it. \n\n\u00a0 I download and install and was ready to play. As soon as I start to get into battle, not even 5 seconds of playing, boom, game crashes. I reply in the probably most reasonable way possible with a simple \"What the fuck?\" I reload and try to play again thinking it was a simple fluke and it would resolve itself. Nope, crashes again. More annoyed and getting more irritated, I check the reviews to see if any mention of crashing. Nope, no mention of crashing. Checks the PC specs annnnnd, drum roll please, \"Graphics: ATI or NVIDIA (Intel HD NOT supported)\" Well then, isn't that dandy, my laptop just so happens to have Intel HD integrated graphics. Now I have a game that I can't play sitting in my Steam library wanting to be played.", "summary": "?: Fuck integrated graphics."}
{"id": "t3_12we4d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My 12 year old brother recently confessed that he was molested by his doctor. My mother does not want to press charges because she doesn't want to put him through any more trauma; I think it is better to deal with it now. Reddit, how can I convince my mom to press charges against this doctor?", "post": "Throwaway acct.\n\n6 months ago, my younger brother explained to my mom that he found the doctor that he had his sports physical with \"creepy\" and that he didn't want to go back to him again.  He explained that the doctor had touched him for a long time, but my mom thought that it was just his reaction to having his first physical without her in the room.  6 months later, after learning of similar charges being brought against the doctor by others, my mom talked to him and he confessed that he knew what the doctor had done was wrong, and that it had really scared him.  I won't go into any details, but what he described was indisputably molestation.  My mom is afraid to press charges because she doesn't want him to have to describe the situation any more than he already has.  Personally, I think that not dealing with this now is going to really fuck him up down the road.  Reddit, do you side with my mom, or me on this?  If there are any professional lawyers, psychologists, etc that have dealt with this, what is the right decision right now?", "summary": "Younger brother molested by doctor.  My mother thinks we should shove it under the rug; I think that dealing with it now and pressing charges will be best for him long term."}
{"id": "t3_17yxf0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with people who are trying to have a life competition with you?", "post": "I am in college, and am a photographer, I had this girl last year who I became friends with because we were both into photography, she asked me many questions, tips, advice all that stuff because I had been doing it longer and I was completely ready to share everything with her, while not really gaining anything in return accept a kind of satisfaction from someone wanting my help.  \n\nShe now constantly talks down to me, not just about photography but about everything, and literally just treats me like shit unless it suits her to do otherwise (basically never) I have a hard time being a bitch, and I always end up just being nice when I want to stand up for myself.  She has literally shoved everything about her life that I don't have in my face her family/friends/home/money/boyfriend (she has rich parents/family who have bought her every piece of equipment she has and paid her way through school, this only bothers me because I have worked very hard for what little I have, and she always whines about money, while I often am broke and rarely bring up financial problems)  \n\nShe is also (after having done photography for only 6 months) getting paid work, I have yet to have this, and it really is sheer luck but the very first \"collaboration\" we did together she had a model and invited me along (all fine) I said \"hey I know this awesome spot, and I have all this paint, and here is some awesome stuff we could do!\" then she posted all her photos before I did and didnt mention me so everyone thinks I copied her, and it has worked that way for many things to follow and I am just wondering how you people deal with being enraged at someone who you cannot avoid, also I think if I blatantly stop talking to her the rest of the people around us will think I am the one being a bitch, which also bothers me, what do I do?", "summary": "Competitive bitch used me for inspiration, and now treats me like a follower and is very spiteful and condescending what would/have you done/ what should I do? "}
{"id": "t3_c3nuz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need advice, I want to start my own small business.", "post": "I am a current art student studying metal art and graphic design. I am transferring schools this fall and will not be able to use the welding room at my current school any more. There are no studios in the town I live in that are affordable for me to rent space in to weld.\n\nI have a group of people, some artists some business majors, that want to invest in starting a studio space where you can pay for studio time to unlimited use of all the machines. We have a company willing to give us a great price on many used machines. I am fairly reasonable and understand that this might be an idea that takes some time to get off the ground and even more time to turn a profit. I just want to be able to create an environment in which people artists and students can work on projects and be surrounded by like minds.\n\nThere is an area around my community college that is mostly industrial spaces and would most likely be ideal for what we need. We would also have a dump site out back for people to dump their unwanted metal and appliances that we can deconstruct and have for use in the studio. All of the people I am working with are highly experienced in different areas. I know the ins and outs of Mig and some oxy acetylene. A few are extremely talented at Tig and plasma cutting. \n\nIs starting a small business reasonable in this economy? Have any of you started a company before and had it been successful? Has anyone ever been a customer of a company like this?", "summary": "I want to open a welding studio to rent to artists and students. Is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1m4zs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[18/F] of 1 month, told me[19/M] that she doesn't believe in love, but I do!", "post": "So I've known this girl for about 3 months. She blew me away from the minute I first met her in my friends house. We hung out a lot (4/5 nights a week) over summer, just as friends. I asked her out about 1+1/2 months ago and things are going good!\n\nBut there's one thing that has been bugging me. She openly admitted to me about 2 months ago that she doesn't believe in love. She said she thought she was in love in a previous relationship, but now realizes she wasn't at all.\n\nThis is bugging me because I know I'm very capable of loving another person. I'm worried that if I grow to love her after a while, she won't feel the same.\n\nIs this an opinion that a lot of people have about love? Do you think I can change her opinion? Or do you think I'm wasting my time and I'm asking for my heart to be broken?\n\n.. I'd rather clear this in my mind while I'm still in the early stages..", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't believe in love, I do. What happenes if I love her and she doesn't change her view?"}
{"id": "t3_tbzrg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Where do I find these so-called \"girls\"..? 16/M", "post": "I am a 16 year old, straight male currently attending a high school in Maryland. To start, I'll say that I'm really just an awkward person. I never was very popular in school and never really stood out much. I normally stick to myself, and if I'm not at school then, more often than not, I'm alone at home. My interests include technology, gaming, Japanese culture, and many sciences.\n\n  I really would like to be able to meet someone with whom I share some interests and is just as awkward as I am. With all the social discomfort I've felt all my life, all I want is a relationship where both of us could feel 'normal.' Honestly, the best day I could possibly have would be a rainy day spent inside playing Super Smash Brothers and watching anime with the girl I love.\n\n  The kind of advice I'm looking for with this post is: how would I find an awkward, nerdy girl with my interests? And if I did find her, how would I confront her if she really is that awkward?", "summary": "16yo socially-awkward male doesn't know how to confront/find equally awkward girls."}
{"id": "t3_2c9c6z", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (27F) have a question for you about the landmarks in your relationship(s).", "post": "*Not sure if this belongs here, but /r/relationships does not allow general questions, so....help me out please!*\n\nI've been dating my SO (34M) for about a month so I don't need to worry overly much about this right away, but I like to be prepared. I'm looking for the time frames that you experienced with landmarks in your relationships, to give me a ballpark. Examples include:\n\n- When did you exchange keys?\n- When did you first say \"I love you\"?\n- When did you start to feel like your respective homes were a place you could \"feel at home\", i.e. you would do dishes or help with chores even though the place wasn't your own?\n- When did you start farting around each other?\n\nThings like that. What do you consider landmarks? When did they happen?\n\nWe spend most of our time at my place for convenience and he seems to fit in to my home nicely. He is comfortable making breakfast or doing dishes and has offered to help with other chores if I happen to need to do them when he's over. So far I've turned down his offer to help with other chores, but I do appreciate the gesture.\n\nI have a history of moving in too soon, so I know I need to wait QUITE a while before I ever even consider that move. Like, over a year. At least. I just don't know how the rest of it should/could play out. I do expect some widely varied answers, so any details as to why you think it was good timing/later than normal/sooner than normal would be much appreciated.\n\nWe started farting around each other almost immediately. What a relief!", "summary": "What do you consider the landmarks in your relationship(s) and when did they happen? Do you think they happened right on time or sooner/later than average? Why?"}
{"id": "t3_28b1cb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I love my wife [29/f] but I feel like something is missing [28/m].", "post": "I have been married for about 3 years now and I absolutely love my wife. She has been the best partner I have ever had. We have had ups and downs but we always seem to work things out and we have a healthy sex life. Things are going well but I just can not seem to shake the feeling that I want more. I have lived a prim and proper, mostly conservative lifestyle up until my later years in college. I got a taste of different types of lifestyles and I have always been amazed by them. My wife was the typical break away who decided to distance herself from her family and enjoy any experience she could. There have been tales of hitchhiking with hippys and free love and all that. She has a view of people that I never had (I have been fairly cynical) and it has enabled her to meet some very interesting people from all walks of life and allowed her to make very intimate connections with these people. Well she eventually met me and she changed my outlook on the world. \n\nWe were married right after we both graduated from college and we have taken up a fairly traditional lifestyle. She has mostly transitioned away from the past. After I had a brief chance to experience what she had experienced and after all of her stories, I was a bit jealous. I feel like our marriage has cut me off from having those intimate experiences with anyone other than her. There is a sexual aspect to this but it is also about simple intimacy. Neither of us hinder each other in the formation of new friendships but sometimes I wish we could have more. We have briefly discussed additions in the bedroom but I have never been sure if she was actually interested or if it was just her indulging me. Plus, neither of us would know where to start. I have not really discussed this with her because I don't want to hurt her and she has a way of avoiding discussions like this. \n\nI have maintained the status quo and told myself that those times were over. I thought I would move on from it but even several years later I can not shake the feeling that I have repressed something within myself.", "summary": "Loving and amazing wife who has had more interesting life experiences and intimate interactions, and I cannot get past the desire to have those experiences as well."}
{"id": "t3_2wys8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f18) need help getting over somebody I'll never see again (m28)", "post": "I'm currently on a holiday in Malaysia with my dad to visit relatives and friends. Last night, I met a man at a bar and we just couldn't stop talking. We went back to his place after the bar closed, and we just talked for three hours straight before it was time for me to leave. We kissed before I left, and as corny as it sounds, promised to meet again in our next lives.\n\nThis may sound stupid but I can't stop thinking about him. I've only known him for six hours but he is the only person that I've felt these feelings for. He's also incredibly nice, sexy, funny, and polite. It was just so nice to have someone not push themselves on me for once. A lot of the boys who were interested in me begged for kisses, sex, nudes, etc but not this one. No, we just sat together and talked. He hugged my legs when I rested them on his knees, but he didn't beg for physical attention like the other guys.\n\nI know we can't be together as he lives in Italy and I live in Australia, and the age gap is also another problem (he doesn't know how old I am). We didn't exchange any of our contact details as I think we both knew it wouldn't be able to work out. \n\nHow do I stop obsessing over this guy? I've been trying to remind myself that I'll never see him again and it's useless to hope and dream about anything but it's so hard to stop D: and I don't want to forget about him either, even if I never see him again he's still such a nice person that he holds a special place in my heart.", "summary": "met dude at bar, kissed, now I cray"}
{"id": "t3_39ujux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a suspicion that my(22M) crush (21F), who recently started to express romantic interest, stole a number from my contacts list might be seeing my friend. I don't know how to handle it.", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief and I want to make it clear that relationship between my crush and I is extremely complicated as she had a rough childhood and is a sex addict with bipolar disorder.\n\n I suspect she lifted the number from my phone because she has expressed interest in him before. My crush and I (after knowing each other for 6 years) were finally beginning to get close so we hung out a lot. I seem to vaguely remember her taking my phone for some reason. I took it back and thought nothing of it. My crush becomes distant and  stopped talking to me for a week. After that she hits me up and tells me she wants to go to a bar. So I go to the bar and when I walk in I see her and on the other side of the room I see my friend with a lady. I walk up to my friend to greet him and he's giving me the cold shoulder for some reason.\n\n FF a few days later, my crush and I are discussing a restaurants and she tells me of this french place, I don't remember the name, and she was talking about how she didn't like it for one reason or another I want to say bad service and the fact that they served french fries.\n\n Yesterday I go to lunch with my family to a french place we've never been before. So we go in and I order the Croque Madam. The food took a little bit and the place seemed a little disorganized due to a wedding happening. My food finally arrives and guess who it is, the guy friend who was distant to me at the bar. So now I'm stuck with this little dots that my mind can't help but connect and I'm not sure what to do with them. I was thinking about confronting them both but I don't know if I should. I have a mutual friend between the guy and I so I'm going to ask him what he thinks of the situation. What do you think?", "summary": "My crush started being romantic towards me. Suddenly stops not too long after she grabbed my phone and did something with it she stops talking to me. When she starts again she is distant. Friend at bar when meeting with crush is distant. She talks about a french restaurant, he works at one. All this brings me  anxiety. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_xlsh6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] I don't know if my long distance relationship can work with her[19/F] any longer, but I still love her.", "post": "I've been dating this girl since my senior year of high school (almost 3 years). Her personality is amazing, and I get along with her quite well in person, but recently things have been getting a little awkward.\n\nYou see, she is going to be studying abroad this fall, and to make matters worse, her family is moving from our hometown. Up until now it's been a \"back of the mind\" thing, but with the summer quickly drawing to an end. In addition to this, I am transferring schools this term, and starting college anew, but I'm starting to really dread the next two years of school.\n\nShe has always been there for me, and she makes me feel incredibly happy whenever I see her, but she seems too distant when she's away.\n\nWhenever I think about breaking up with her, I get incredibly sad, and if school could be over now, I feel like we would be quite happy together.\n\nAny advice, or stories of a similar relationship that you've gone through would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "My long term, long distance girlfriend is studying abroad and moving away come this fall, and Idk what to do"}
{"id": "t3_171vvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I tell Tom (33M) that I (33F) slept with Alex (33M) the night before we first slept together?", "post": "Week 5: I had been casually dating Tom (33M) and Alex (33M) for a month, not sleeping with either. Tom made it clear that he liked me but he did not want anything serious. I had sex with Alex, who did want a serious relationship, after which I stayed awake as he snored, realising that my heart was not in it. I called Tom the next day and he asked me to come over. We had sex. I never asked Tom for a commitment, and I ceased contact with Alex. \n\nWeek 9: Tom said he had fallen in love with me, sees serious relationship potential in us, and asks for a commitment.\n\nWeek 13: Present day. I have been faithful to Tom, who never knew about Alex, but knows of my 4 other past relationships. I am not in touch with Alex or any other ex.", "summary": "Tom (33M) told me (33F) he couldn't commit to anything serious, but after 9 weeks of dating and 4 weeks of sleeping together, asks me to commit to a serious relationship. I slept with Alex (33M) only once, one day before first sleeping with Tom. Should I tell Tom about Alex?"}
{"id": "t3_2jz1tv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F25) don't like my SO(M24) friend who's a chick", "post": "She is very flirtatious in front of me with him and doesn't show much interest in me. I think it's rude and I'm trying to find the best way to handle this. \n\nThe first interaction I was a bit standoffish after detecting her proverbial drool, the second interaction I tried being nice. Both times she was very into my man, way more than her own boyfriend who was there. I get it, they're close friends and go way back, but I don't like it at all.\n\nI want to be classy and graceful about this and I get along great with all his other friends. I had a bad experience in the past with a boyfriend who was inappropriately close to his friend that was a girl, turns out they had hooked up in the past, anyway I'm a bit sensitive to this whole situation because of that past experience with a different bf. \n\nLadies, how do you handle this? I trust my man but don't enjoy us all hanging out, but I want to be a chill gf. Men please chime in too.", "summary": "how to handle flirtatious friend?"}
{"id": "t3_18xkwy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Private caller left voice mail saying I needed to be hurt and was going to do something to me I'd never forget. What do I do?", "post": "I was laying in bed Monday night around 11pm. My phone started ringing and it was a private caller, so I just silenced it and went to sleep. I didn't notice they had left a voice mail until this afternoon. I go to check it, and the voice sounds distorted like it's from a Sci-Fi movie or something and I merely thought it was some random prank. The more I listened to it, the more I was able to decipher and discovered it was very personal. The message goes as follows:\n\n* \"Hello evolihsox. I was sent to you by your boyfriend [his name here]. *giggles* He told me that you need to be hurt. What a very nice girl I am. Very bad you are. And I'm going to do something to you that you will NEVER forget.\"\n\nAfter that there is some shuffling noises and the voice mail message is over. Now let me make it *clear* that my boyfriend and I have a perfect relationship. He is as scared and shocked about it that as I am. It's a very twisted message. We've talked about it a lot and can't come up with anyone we know who would have the motive to do this. One thing I thought of was my number is out on my Facebook, but for friends only, so it's possible it was someone from there. I am good about not adding people I don't know. I was also going through my Facebook account settings and it showed that I had been recently logged in at Pennsylvania and Virginia - I've never been there in my life! My neighbor cop says there is not much the police can do without a court order. What steps do I take now? I'm so frightened if this is serious.", "summary": "Got a threatening voice mail from a private caller that knows me and my boyfriend saying I should be hurt. Neither of us have no clue who it is. Also someone logged into my Facebook in PA and VA. Don't know what steps to take."}
{"id": "t3_fblvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I have poor decision making skills now I need advice.", "post": "I just want to preface this by saying I know that what I did was incredibly stupid. I was being a stupid girl and my mom taught me better but what's done is done.\n\nI was dating a boy (long distance of about 3 1/2 hours) and he wanted to learn to play guitar so I let him borrow my guitar and amp instead of buying his own. I made it very clear that it was just a gift, it was never a problem. Then he wanted to go back to school and was a few hundred dollars short so like an idiot I agreed to let him pawn my guitar and amp. He promised he'd get it right back out. Well surprise, surprise he didn't. In fact last I heard he had forgotten a payment on it. Luckily his brother is friends with the owner so I don't think it will get sold.\n\nAbout a week and a half ago we broke up because I just could not handle his temper anymore. I want my guitar and amp back but I'm not sure how to get it. I can't just have an officer escort me over because it's in pawn. I'm not sure what my options are but I want us to move on and I can't right now because he has my stuff. \nHe wants me back so I think he's using it as leverage to do that but I've made it very clear that isn't happening. So if any of you know anything I can do, perhaps legally to get my stuff back let me know.", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend has my stuff in pawn and I want it back."}
{"id": "t3_399w5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/f] have been seeing someone [26/M] for a couple months and not sure how to move forward.", "post": "I've been talking to someone for about two months now, maybe less. I'm not the best at dating and what not, such as knowing what happens. Especially online dating. We have met already and have hung out multiple times as well as gone on a date or two. Our hang outs have been dinner, movies, and other random stuff, but we've only really been on one or two dates. The other times were with other people, so it wasn't really one-on-one. I've slept over his place a couple times, but have only had sex once. We used to talk every day, but more recently it has been every other day or every couple days. Which is fine, we have busy lives. He especially has a very busy life. \n\nHowever, I'm not sure how dating really goes. I'm not really sure what he wants, nor am I sure how to bring it up in a conversation. I deactivated my dating profile a few weeks ago because I came back to over 100 messages one day and there was no one I was really into. Also, I was a bit hung up on this guy. I recently just reactivated it, due to boredom and unsure if this guy was into me, and I've noticed he's online almost every night. I'm very much into him, but not sure if he feels the same. I'm not sure when in the \"talking\" stage, I bring this up. It seems like he is into me and I sort of had a conversation with him the other night where he said he wasn't interested in a booty call. \n\nAm I overthinking it or should I just let it happen and see where it takes me? Do you think I should bring it up? Do you think it's too early to think about this stuff? Give me your advice.\n\nI'm terrible at dating.", "summary": "Been talking to someone for a couple months. When's the best time to ask what they're really looking for or if they want to take things to a more serious level?"}
{"id": "t3_3mnppg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my dad [60 M]. Useless relationship.", "post": "Not sure if I posted in the right subreddit...\n\nI've always felt like my whole life that my dad has hated me and not wanted to be a part of my life.  I can't even \nsay, \"hi.\" to him without it being weird.  I have never had a full conversation with him.  When I was younger he \nwas an asshole to my mom to the point even family couldn't believe she put up with him.  Like, he's an arrogant \ndickhead.  He thinks he's fucking perfect and never makes mistakes.  He has no problem calling anyone stupid for \nany reason.  I'm 30.  I didn't live with my parents from 18 to 28.. Recently had to move back because I couldn't \nafford to live anywhere else.  It's so weird that we can't even say, \"hi\" but he'll gladly yell at me for random \nthings.  I asked my sister recently if she felt the same way as me and she did.  I also asked my mom if he even \nwanted children.  She said he did but I don't believe her.  I just feel like what the hell did I do to make you \nhate me??  I talk to friends about this weird relationship and actually have one that has a similar one but \neveryone else doesn't.  I still even try to do nice things for him!  Hate myself for that... so I stopped. \nIt's pretty pathetic, I'm trying to not even acknowledge him anymore.", "summary": "Am I the only one with this useless relationship?  What's the best way to handle it when you feel like your own father hates you?  I know that people have it way worse so should I even be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_1xemcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm leaving my boyfriend of three years because he refuses to flush the toilet and wash his hands.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are best friends, and I've never had stronger feelings for another individual. Three months ago we got a place together, and I'm already regretting it.\n\nThe burping, I can handle. The farting, I can live with. But I will no longer put up with his terrible hygiene (or lack of it). I constantly feel disgusted and uncomfortable in my own home. Every time I step into the bathroom, I get to see his bodily fluids in the toilet. And he never washes his hands, even after taking a shit, unless I tell him to. Like a three-year-old child, I have to tell him to wash his fucking hands, or else I refuse to let him touch me or come near me.\n\nI don't understand why it's so difficult to do. ~~If he really loved me, he'd want me to live in a comfortable and safe environment, right?~~ I've talked with him about it so many times that it's like he doesn't understand words (and he's not a stupid man; in fact, I'd consider him to be the most intelligent person I've met). He'll say \"okay\", the conversation will end, but then he'll \"forget\".", "summary": "Boyfriend won't wash his hands or flush after using the bathroom and doesn't care that it makes me feel disgusted, so I'm out."}
{"id": "t3_2ih04u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my new friend/crush [31M] of one month, he has been showing obvious signs of interest towards me for the past month. Two days ago he told me he has a long-distance girlfriend. So confused, Reddit help!", "post": "A little background about myself: I have not been in a serious relationship since I was 21 and have only dated casually since then. I am open, available and looking for a more long-term relationship.\n\nAbout a month ago, I started hanging out with this guy who I've discovered to be the most caring, kind, and encouraging individual that's been in my life recently. Signs started to show early that there was some kind of attraction between us. Here are some things that have happened in the last month (some still happening):\n\n-prolonged eye contact and lots of easy, fun conversation\n-prolonged or tight hugging\n-after saying goodbye, our eyes often meet once more before departure (with smiles)\n-texting everyday starting in the morning and lasting into the evening\n-he has said things like \"you are the nicest person I have ever met\", \"I see you as one of the people who will always be in my life\"\n-while on a weekend trip with friends, he threw his arm around me while sleeping (multiple friends sharing a bed)\n-he said he would treat me to dinner (which he then turned into a group thing)\n\nA couple days ago he told me he would be gone the next week because he was going to see his girlfriend (who lives six hours drive away) and expressed that they have been having difficulties for the past six months due to the long-distance. I learned that they have been together for 3+ years. \n\nI love that he shows an interest in me but realistically I feel that it is unfair and that I'm being led on. I'm scared to say something because I don't want the attention to stop, but I know I am in a vulnerable position. I secretly want him to break up with his girlfriend. Reddit, any advice is welcome, please!", "summary": "Just found out the man I'm interested in, and thought was interested in me, has a girlfriend. What course of action do I take?"}
{"id": "t3_2auss7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last night I [24 M] attempted to call it off with my girlfriend [23 F] because I fear that I will not be satisfied with way the future unfolds down the road. Details inside.", "post": "Reddit, I need feedback.\n\nI am in the middle of a sticky situation with my SO. I am hesitant in making a decision at the moment because I know that it is a defining choice that must be made, one that will ultimately affect the future and change the direction our lives are headed.\n\nShe is a single mother who wants to get married and have a family one day and I am an individual who prefers to think in his best interests. We have been together for nearly 3 months and I have had a reoccurring urge to step out from the plans we've made together. \n\nOur plans to get married one day and be parents to children have turned me off to the relationship to the point of shying away from her affection, which is creating a rift between us. All the while I am unmistakably in love and teetering on the edge about what it is that I want and what is best to do in this particular situation.\n\nI would have less of a problem letting go of this relationship if I weren't so aware of the fact that this person absolutely loves me the way I need to be loved, I know for a fact that she would never leave or put me in a bad spot. It's the possibility of ending up being unsatisfied with my life later on due to the responsibilities of raising a family that have driven me to this point. I feel there is more to life than children, but is the fear of being that kind of man worth letting go of a woman who would do anything for you? What if we are meant to be together? Will I regret my decision to leave later on once I'm old enough to want that kind of life?\n\nShe told me last night that she is getting tired of waiting for me to \"figure things out\" and that she doesn't want to be strung along anymore. I need to make a decision today... please help by pointing out things I should be considering. I truly love the person I am with but I am truly afraid and unsure of walking down the path of a married man with kids. I am afraid of those types of regrets and wish to avoid them if at all possible.", "summary": "In love with girlfriend but afraid of committing to a foreseeable future with children."}
{"id": "t3_2hm109", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and my boyfriend[29 F] of 1yr 9m, I don't see him as a lover anymore but I don't want to break his heart by leaving.", "post": "My boyfriend is lovely and quirky but for a few months now I have found it hard to be physically attracted to him. He makes me laugh and we have interesting conversations, but I now think of him as a close friend. \n\nHe has low self esteem when it comes to our relationship because I suspect his ex made him feel like he didn't deserve her. \n\nI couldn't tell you when I first felt the lack of attraction towards him or if there was some kind of moment that sparked this in me. He is the longest relationship I have had by just over a year. \n\nWhat makes it worse is we always blatantly talk about marriage and kids, so it's like we're already settled down. It's nice to be comfortable with someone as I've never really been good at making friends or even interact with the opposite sex.\n\nMy main fear is hurting him as I do love him, I just don't want to lie to him or to lead him on any further than I already have.", "summary": "Gorgeous human being that is my boyfriend will be hurt if I leave, how do I rekindle my sexual attraction or how do I leave?"}
{"id": "t3_4i6xb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] and my girlfriend [33 F] are considering marriage...what are some ideas on how to handle finances?", "post": "I've recently entered into a relationship and we've been together for about 6 months or so.  Things are going well to the point we've casually talked about marriage, which brings me to the point of this post\u2026finances.\n\nLet me paint the picture.  I make about $75k/year, 401k I've been contributing to since I was 23 and my only debt is my home.  I also have a ROTH IRA, a savings account and a couple of small brokerage accounts.\n\nShe's makes about $40k/year, paying off student loans, car note, no retirement acts, pays a 3rd party for healthcare and lives at home.  She doesn't currently have any savings or retirement accounts, but she wants to start an IRA.\n\nI'm ok with this, but here's the deal, I'm good with finances and while she's not bad, I'm better; so we've agreed that if we were to get married I'd handle the finances.  I think I know how I want it to work, but I want to explore everything.  How do you handle finances in your marriage or what would be the ideal way to handle it?\n\nHere's my current plan:\n\n1.\tBoth paychecks go into one account (Joint Account)\n2.\tThe Joint Account is where we pay all of our bills, food expenses\u2026everything\n3.\tWhatever we have left over each month would go into our individual accounts that we can spend on whatever we'd like to, this is an equal amount sent to both accounts\n4.\tI'd put her name on all of my accounts as a joint user\n5.\tWe'd start funding her IRA\n6.     I'd also add her to my insurance", "summary": "Trying to figure out the best way to handle a dual income\u2026looking for any ideas"}
{"id": "t3_3l8sob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] wants to get back together with my [28M] ex-husband [relationship]", "post": "Ok so Heres the back history we met five years ago, and I fell in love with him the first time I saw him. It was a whirlwind romance and we were married 6 months later. My Dad hated him from day one because he is Russian and my dad thought he was a hoodlum, but my other family members excepted him. After we were married we both became horrible addicted to crystal meth and our lives and relationship went south pretty fast. \n\nWe went from having a nice home and a business to living out of a van and him having to steal to support our habit. He ended up going to jail and is breaking up. While he was away, I got clean and attempted to date other people. When I was dating other guys they would tell me I was cold and aloof, but my heart didn't feel for them what I felt for my ex. \n\nFast forward to a week ago and we hung out and all the feelings came rushing back.He is now clean too.  We are still very much in love and are together again. My sponsor is ok with the idea of us getting back together as long as we are clean and I do not become codependent with him again. I'm just scared since I have been living with my dad , who im pretty positive will kick me out if/when he finds out. My ex/husband/boyfriend says it will be about a year until he gets fully back on his feet financially .", "summary": "I want to get back together with my ex, but am scared what my dad will say"}
{"id": "t3_2lzies", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my ex best friend [22/F] of 9 years. Wtf do I do?", "post": "Throwaway. If the formatting is weird, I'm sorry, I'm on my phone.\n\nI've been friends with Jane since middle school/high school. It wasn't until this year that things got sour. I'm not sure what caused this, but our friendship became more of bitter aquiantances. We argued over the littlest things like not replying to a text or changing plans. But as I reflected on the past few years, I've come to a realization that she used me more than she tried to be friends with me.\n\nDon't get me wrong, she had her moments. A few, and short lived. But I miss her. I know I probably shouldn't contact her again. I just don't know how to handle this situation.", "summary": "Ended a bad friendship but I miss her. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jz4xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my co-worker [22M] - I made it awkward, any advice?", "post": "Got a new job. Trained with co-worker, we're friends, he's cool. Hang out sometimes. Drink after work with other co-workers. Briefly think he likes me. No idea if he does. Don't really entertain the thought. \n\nWork there for 3 weeks, briefly see co-worker daily, always nice interactions.\n\nCo-worker invites me over to hang and stay the night. That sounds like code to me, so I mentioned I thought he was cool and that I'm not keen on staying the night because seeing other guy. Never brought up this guy before. Pretty personal to be sharing at work, my dating escapades. Co-worker must not have figured it out or stalked me online enough.\n\nCo-worker is sad. Short sentences, suggests we don't hang out. Feel like I did something wrong. Mention the convo is weird, we \"reset\" and he invites me over again. This time another friend of his is coming. I've met him, we all get along very well. So everything is fixed right?", "summary": "Assumed my co-worker liked me, mentioned we couldn't date. I hope I didn't break a friendship. I totally get why girls like to be friends with gay guys."}
{"id": "t3_3zsmvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20sf) with smelly gym guys (20s? 30s? M) duration a couple of weeks.", "post": "I'm (20s f) a pretty avid runner. My apartment building has a small gym that I run at every day, the same time eacy night on week nights. I can't run outside as I am 9/10 on call for work and must be within 15 minutes of my laptop at all times. \n\nA couple of weeks ago 2 guys (20s? 30s?) started coming to this small gym at/slightly before the time I go. Great for them! Except they smell like sweaty funky taint marinated in ball funk. It's horrendous. I've seen people gag coming into the gym. Their miasma of stench is so pervasive you can almost taste it. Like I don't see how if you shower, launder your gym clothes, and wear deodorant you could possibly exude such a god awful BO fog. I suspect they don't do any of these things. \n\nIt's a small apartment gym. There's really no gym management to complain to. Would it be an asshole move to talk to them about this? I'm not generally good with people and I can't think of a non terrible way to tell these guys they fucking reek. I'm normally anti passive aggressive notes but would a note do it?", "summary": "2 new gym goers at my building's painfully small gym smell like raunchy rotten fromunda cheese, how to address their tremendous funk"}
{"id": "t3_b9sn1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how many of you are actually gay?", "post": "This question has been nagging at me for a while. \n\nReddit is an incredibly progressive group of people who, from as much as I've read in my year or so of lurking, support gay rights and who are opposed to bigotry and dare I say (I say \"dare I say\" because I just really hate this term) homophobia. After searching for the term \"faggot\" on Reddit, one is met with an overwhelmingly large number of submissions which villainize the use of the term. This is awesome. Nonetheless, I see posts that include terms like \"judgemental faggotry\" ( I shadyURL'd this) which of course is no fault of the community, but still, it makes me question what percentage of Reddit's constituency must be batting for the other team, as it were.", "summary": "Reddit is great, but sometimes things slip. How many of you are gay?"}
{"id": "t3_1nw4d1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex GF [18 F] broke up, awkward, and see each other everyday", "post": "In college my girlfriend and I dated for 3 months in our first semester of college and we spent a lot of time together. Due to family issues it was just wise for us to no longer be together so I called it off, she didn't necessarily want to but it just was wise because she had asked to take breaks several times in the young relationship. \n\nShe was unable to attend the second semester of college but now that it is our second year she is back. We are on the same sports team at school and so we see each other 6 times a week. I was hoping that we would remain friends because I enjoyed her company and didn't see anything wrong with that. I had noticed she was distant so I confronted her about this and told me that she worked hard to get over me so it'd be awkward because we are in the \"ex-phase\". I had no problem with the break up but I am upset that we can't be friends and that everything we ever had is forgotten and she basically ignores me and I ignore her. \n\nShe talks to a team mate who is a great friend of mine so he tells me that she thinks I still like her which is not the case but I don't want to talk to her because she is angry with me due to our previous conversation in which she found out I lied to her about a girl I had dated a year before her. \n\nI would love to save the friendship, I was not hurt by the breakup but she was and now I am hurt because she doesn't talk to me about any of the problems we have. She instead goes to our team mate so that he can tell me what her problem is with me. I don't know if I should even bother talking to her ever again, or even quit the team just to not see her. Or maybe there is something I can say so that we at least speak and are normal friends.", "summary": "ex girlfriend is a team mate on a college sports team. She uses a mutual team mate to bring attention to the problems between us and I dislike the fact that she wants nothing to do with me. I would like to remain friends but would it be best to just cut my losses and do the block her on facebook, delete snap chat and quit the team? I no longer have feelings for her but she said that a part of her will always love me."}
{"id": "t3_ybil1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When does the guy stop paying for dinner?", "post": "I [27/M] recently got into a huge fight with my--now ex-- girlfriend [24/F].\n\nWe'd been dating for about 2 years at this point and I still largely pay for all of our meals as well as our apartment + utilities. I have a nice luxury loft apartment and she keeps a very small--think glorified storage closet--apt in a bad neighborhood. She literally never goes there except to pick up and drop off clothing because I don't have enough closet space for two people. She doesn't pay a penny to live in my apartment or drive my car (we split the gas costs even though she drives it 80% of the time for her work and I walk to work.)\n\nWe both have good jobs. I make about twice what she does, but I have crushing student debt that I'm trying to pay off as fast as possible. I pay off about $3.5K of student debt a month, which really cuts into my cash flow, as you can imagine. She has about 1/10 the student debt I have.\n\nI recently started suggesting that we split our food bills more evenly. I suggested that she could pay for her own meals and I'd pay for mine. Obviously we'd still go on dates and I'd pay for her meals, but on a day to day basis, I suggested that we split the food costs.\n\nWe ended up getting into a huge fight and then lots of old, old stuff came out and we ended up breaking up.\n\nAt this point, the relationship issue is moot, but she was my first really seriously, long-term relationship.", "summary": "When do you think is OK for the couples to start splitting the bill? I don't know if I was out of line or not."}
{"id": "t3_1uhqz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [20 F] of 5 month, she keep our relationship secret from her ex.. [HELP]", "post": "Hey fellow redditors.\n\nI'm making this thread just to vent out a little and seek some help or maybe solution from an external point of view. I'm feeling very uneasy right now and I don't know what to do.\n\nMy Gf was living with her ex of 3 years. She loved him but wasn't in love with him. She fall in love with me and broke-up with him and had to move in a smaller appartment for me. The thing is.. She wants to keep our relationship a secret from him..I told her that I understood how a 3-year relationship couldn't just be ended overnight without some element of grieving and that I would try to control my feelings of jealousy and paranoia while she sorts through her emotions regarding the ex. I truly believe her when she tells me that there is no way she would want him back, but I can't help but think that she is in some way leading on the ex. They txt, call, even arrange get togethers for coffee or just to hang out at her place to watch TV (when I'm not there). She doesn't keep any of this a secret from me, and I have no suspicion that anything unsavory is going on. It just bothers me that this sort of charade goes on and she is unwilling to let the ex-boyfriend know that she is in another relationship already.\n\nWe've been together for 5 month now and she makes me very happy.. I love her and she loves me back I have no doubt.. But I still feel uneasy regarding that situation.. We talked about it not so long ago, I told her how I felt and she told me to trust her and promised me that she will make things right for us and that she will tell him when she's ready to..\n\nSo I guess right now all I can do is wait and trust her? I just really wanted to know what you guys think of this situation.. Is she hiding a reason as to why she doesn't want to let him know? I'm just confused right now.. sorry for the long post and the bad english.. :(\n\nI'm thanksfull just to the fact that you are reading this.. :)", "summary": "My GF keeps our relationship secret from her ex. She told me to trust her but I still feel uneasy :/"}
{"id": "t3_36ibj9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by surprising my brother", "post": "This did not happen today, in fact it happened two weeks ago. My brother and I live about 3 blocks from one another. We are close but don't get to spend much time together as he is a new father and has a very demanding job.\n\nEvery morning I catch the bus at 8:10am to go to work and sometimes my brother will be on i,t and we just talk for a little bit and what not. So I get on the bus this fine morning and see my brother. His backed turned and me being the little jackass brother that I am (who was taughto be one by said older brother) decided to sneak up behind him and grab his boob. Yes, I grabbed his boob on a bus at 8:10am in front of many commuters. I have done this before and we usually get a good laugh about it...not this time though.\n\nWhen I grabbed his boob, he obviously knew it was me and turned around to greet me... unfortunately his arm hit my shoulder as he was turning and his new iPhone 6 went flying into the air and smashed to the ground. First landing on the case whew) and then flipping in the air and landing on the front and smashing the screen into pieces.\n\nWe look at each other and then the phone...we do this about 3-5 times for a good 5 minutes. Silence ensues and I just look at him and say \"so...going to the apple store today then?\" and to which he replies \"Yep and expect a bill\". Total charges for boob grab that broke a phone? 150$", "summary": "grabbed brother's boob, down 150$"}
{"id": "t3_490qg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16/m] How should I approach this girl? [16/f]", "post": "Let's start with background information about this girl\n\nThere's this girl that I really like. We're in science class and I have free period with her. I also sometimes pass by her on the way to class everyday. In Science Class, we show little glances of each other. I'd usually look at her for a few seconds and when she looks back, I either smile or look away. Sometimes we see each other and we both smile -- but it could be that she's talking with her friends as well.\n\nIn Gym class, we notice each other but she's with her group of friends and I'm with my own group of friends. Kind of hard to get to know her. Today in gym, we actually lined up against a wall and I was next to her. I was nervous since we were both talking to our own little group of friends I guess.\n\nWe always make eye contact in some way and I feel like she might show some interest in me too. I really have a huge crush on her. What's also interesting is that prom is coming up in about a month and I really want to ask her to it -- but then again I don't know her very well. Any advice?", "summary": "I really like this girl and I think she may like me back and I want to know how to approach her. How should I do it or do you guys have any advice"}
{"id": "t3_pobnw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Stay put, or explore?", "post": "So, Reddit, I have a query for you. I am twenty years old, I have worked for the same company building high voltage electrical components for two years, I have good job security here, my employer, and the owner of the company like me personally, and are satisfied with my work. It's somewhat of a dead-end however. The best paid technicians, which is what I am, only make $35-40k a year. I could stay there and be financially secure, and make enough to get by, and facilitate some lesser hobbies of mine, but I don't think i'd ever truly be happy working there, as my co-workers make it somewhat high-stress. \n   I've lived in mid michigan my entire life, A close friend of mine has been on a few different internships to Aspen Colorado over the past few years, and she asked if i'd like to move out there with her. She says i'd love it, and quite frankly, I think that I would. I would love a fresh start in a new place, with new people, I'm a generally well liked enough person, and would have little to no problem making friends anywhere new. Should I seek employment there, and move on out to colorado on a whim, or should I stay here and continue to work for the same company, and not experience any other areas?\n     I would like advice on this from anyone who's ever made a big move, to a new place, with little or nothing to go on. I have about six thousand dollars in cash saved up, that I could use for the initial move and expenses, but is it worth it? Should I pick up and move half way across the country simply on a hunch? I know i'll never be truly happy at my current job, but for all I know this whole thing could go crashing down in flames, and I would be broke, jobless, and a hell of a long ways from home, and the little close family that I have. This plan has just started forming today, I apologize for the lengthy post.", "summary": "Should I stay at the same relatively dead-end job, or move across the country on a whim, to experience other things while i'm young?"}
{"id": "t3_528asx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of a year and a half, are having issues with the military.", "post": "I messed up pretty badly in school about a year ago and to sort of make up for it and to give me a little break from that environment, I decided to enlist in the Army National Guard. I did this rather hastily and signed the contract without even telling my girlfriend who I love very much. I knew that if I talked to her about it, she wouldn't understand why I needed to go and she would be able to convince me to not leave. So needless to say, she was pissed, but mostly sad when I had to go. I am now two months from finishing my training but everyday that I am here is another day that I am not with her. It kills us both very much. I do my best to keep a positive attitude by laughing, cracking jokes, smiling, and whatnot whenever we have conversations but her pain and sadness still permeates through the smiles and that just fucks my world up. I hate that I have caused her so much pain and that I am putting her through this, especially since she still views this as unnecessary. I will be back in two months, but two months is a very long time when there is so much sadness in her eyes. \n\nI'm honestly not sure what I want out of this post, but I guess is there anything I can do to make things better? Or any advice you all would have for me to make these next two months go by easier for her?", "summary": "Joined the Army, girlfriend is sad which makes me sad. What can I do to make things better?"}
{"id": "t3_2k3zi1", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Revenge on a New Roommate", "post": "I share an apartment with my boyfriend. There are two spare bedrooms which are a constant rotation of friends-in-need. We recently invited a friend to stay with us while she figures out what her next step in life is. \n\nNow, I want people to feel at home in my apartment, but she keeps moving things around so we can't find them, using things that aren't hers, and ruining our possessions. Her version of an apology is an explanation of her actions followed by, \"So I'm sorry if I am guilty, but I don't think I am.\"\n\nLast Sunday I got around to sorting through laundry she took it upon herself to wash. She ruined an expensive pair of fingerless mittens knit with alpaca yarn and she lost a prized shawl, gifted to me for being the Maid of Honor in my best friend's wedding this past summer. When I explained as much, and how I knew she was the guilty party, she insisted it wasn't possible she was at fault, and if she was, I shouldn't be upset with her for things she did weeks ago. \n\nYou can understand, I'm pretty annoyed and generally disinterested in her disrespect. \n\nSo I'm keeping all of her clothes that were mixed in my laundry that she washed. I won't even wear any of it, but if she feels no remorse losing my shawl, I don't feel too guilty either.", "summary": "New roommate washed my laundry without asking \"to help me out\" and is unapologetic when I point out that she ruined some irreplaceable items, so I'm keeping her clothes that got mixed into the load."}
{"id": "t3_11ro42", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear reddit, if you have a \"blank canvas\" bedroom, but couldn't drill into the walls, how would you spruce it up?", "post": "Hey Reddit, \n\nI recently came home from my buddies place and was amazed by his room. It was in the basement and he had really spiced it up with a grey and red theme, light fixtures all over the place, cool shelves with his stuff on them. and some nice art work. It was a very personal and individualistic room. I couldn't help but think that having a room like that would make me want to spend more time at home and in my room itself instead of running out of the house. \n\nThe problem is, my parents wont let me drill into the walls, and i cant come up with any sort of decoration style that would make me happy and express individuality. Do you guys have any ideas? If this was your room what would you do to make it reflect you? Anybody have suggestions as to a place on the interwebs i can get inspiration from?", "summary": "Need help personalizing my room, cant drill in walls. looking for advice/ inspiration."}
{"id": "t3_4rjtkr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(42f) boyfriend (40m) of 3 years lied to me basically the whole time and I want to stop hurting.", "post": "He was abusive at times. I stuck by him forgiving him and he seemed to have calmed down and his love grew for me. The last 18 months he was in jail and him mother died before that. He really had nowhere to go so I thought. I couldn't really deal with the stress of him getting out because I knew I really couldn't have him move right in. I blocked his calls for like two weeks but little did I know he said he stopped calling me anyway. Probably talking to his \"kid's mother\" as he put it. I didn't even know he had a child w someone. He never talked about it ever nor did his mother or brother. I'm just having a hard time dealing with all the times he said he loved and missed me, calling me babygirl. The cards he made me and the plans we made. I'm trying to find closure. I could use some comfort reddit. Thank you! xo", "summary": "trying to find closure and not hurt anymore my boyfriend I really loved hit me with something I never seen coming."}
{"id": "t3_r5vnj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have I been friendzoned?", "post": "Before I begin,  let me tell you that I am a girl to avoid any confusion later. Also,  this is the boy I consider(ed?) my best friend. \n\nSo me and this boy have been friends for 6 years and we're really close. We are both seniors in high school. He asked me out in October and dumped before Christmas. He gave me reasons like \"I don't want to be in a relationship that will have to end when we part for college\", \"I'm done with high school dating\", \"I need to focus on myself right now\" and the infamous \"I just don't want to ruin our friendship\". As much as it sucked to hear,  I accepted it. He kept sending me messages about how much he wanted me but couldn't have me. Fast forward to yesterday when he tells me he's dating someone. An ex-girlfriend. What?We still hang out and talk like we did before we were dating.", "summary": "Dumped by best friend/ex-boyfriend because he \"doesn't want any more relationships\", and dates ex-girl friend soon after. "}
{"id": "t3_16g3hc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do I stop finishing other people's statements?", "post": "I am \"fast\".\n\nThis is the word that has always been attributed to me. I talk fast, I think fast, I move fast. I am speedy, I am hyper, I am ADHD, I am smart.\n\nBecause I think so quickly, my conversations go like this.\n\nThem: \"Man, I love zebras. Yesterday I-\"\nMe: \"-went to the zoo? Yeah, zebras are awesome. Have you seen okapis?\"\nThem: \"I think so, they're shy and-\"\nMe: \"-live in Africa, yeah.\"\n\nI not only pretentiously assume I know what they're going to say next, but cannot physically stop myself from interrupting them *with their own thoughts* because I'm too impatient to wait the extra 5 seconds for them to finish their statement. Also, many times what I interrupt them with is not what they were going to say. \n\nBut of course before they can say \"that's not what I was going to say\" I'm off on a tangent about sombreros and the philosophy of maple syrup or some bullshit.", "summary": "I interrupt people with the end of their statements. I am too speedy and have too many words to get out."}
{"id": "t3_2tnn8q", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Finally able to walk/jog 2ish miles after being out of commission for 10 months.", "post": "Ten months ago I was sitting at a stop light when I am hit from behind by an SUV going 35+mph slamming me into the car in front of me.  I didn't go to the ER because I didn't feel to bad plus I am a graduate student and didn't want to miss class (in my program you are only allowed one absence per class or you fail). \n\nThe six months was spent struggling with excoriating back pain. My weekly workouts went from a couple hours a day five days a week to being lucky if I could sit/stand for more than thirty minutes at a time.  I ended up gaining back almost fifteen pounds of my eighty pound loss. I working out had been my release and without it I was left feeling defeated and depressed. \n\nI went to the chiropractors for several months but it didn't help at all.  After repeatedly telling my doctor how bad I was hurting (for months) he finally (reluctantly) agreed to an x-ray. I got a call the next morning telling me that he figured out why my back had been hurting so bad\u2026I had fractured my L5. I was relived that my doctor finally believed me and that we could finally fix it. Did physical therapy for a few months to no avail and finally was referred to an orthopedic surgeon. It took months to get in but a week after my first visit he scheduled surgery. \n\nWhich was a week and a half ago. So today after being out of commission for so long I was able to finally take baby steps to getting back to where I use to be.   It is extremely discouraging at first that I wasn't still able to run like before but some movement is better than none at all.", "summary": "Broke my spine in a car accident 10 months ago and couldn't work out. Gained 15lbs and a lot of self-loathing.  A week and a half post surgery and I am finally able to walk/jog a few miles without pain."}
{"id": "t3_3seooh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [29 M] who has a history of abortions, told me [25 F], his GF of 6 months, that he no longer wants to have sex due to his fear of getting me pregnant.", "post": "This weekend my boyfriend confessed that the reason why we haven't had sex in a couple weeks is that 'when things start going well' he ruins it by getting the girl pregnant.\n\nI am a very sexual person and if I had it my way, I'd have sex everyday, multiple times a day. So when he drops this bomb, I really don't know how to take it. I take the pill religiously, however we do not wear condoms. \n\nHe has always been very upfront about his past --- including the abortions that he's had with multiple exes. However, when he told me that he doesn't want to have sex until we're married and ready to have kids, I was taken aback.\n\nI want to be there for my BF and support him in anyway possible. Is there anything that can help him with the guilt and anxiety that he's feeling? Have you ever experienced this personally? Any advice would be appreciated. \n\nThank you!", "summary": "BF [who has a history of abortions with exes] doesn't want to have sex until married due to his fear of getting me pregnant. Any experience or advice on how I can help my man out would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1kx1tq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Reddit. I'm a 29 year old girl from the UK whose long term relationship has just ended. Where the hell do I even start dating?", "post": "I was in a relationship with the same guy for long time years. We were never suited. Made a massive mistake, we broke up. Lost all but two friends who are already in relationships and settled. That was three months ago.\n\nI don't want to pick up guys in bars, I hate clubs. I work with older women that are settled with families, babies and belong to nappy clubs or whatever parents do.\n\nOnline dating seems good but also from old work friends experiences it can be tedious. I'm willing to give it a go despite this but have no idea what to look out for. I also don't know where to meet single people in real life.\n\nAlthough both my exes have told me I'm pretty, I really don't think I am so there the whole self esteem thing. I'm friendly and flirty, but would wait for a sign someone liked me. So if I were sat in a bar I wouldn't just walk up to a strange guy and give him my number. Once I know someone I've got no problems with making moves. The thought of speed dating fills me with fear.", "summary": "Was in a relationship for years. Now single. Feel old. Weird mix of shy yet flirty. No single friends. Where do I start?"}
{"id": "t3_q0ts5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've been friendzoned by the only girl I've ever considered to be marriage material. What do I do?", "post": "So here's how it is: We met in high school. Became friends. Dated briefly in Year 12, but it didn't work out because we were young and I was kind of stupid. \n\nSince then we've always been close, despite living 3 hours away from each other. Over about 4 years, I have had spouts of falling in love with her again, only to give up after always being friendzoned.\n\nNow I should be clear: in the past this girl has always been a bit insecure, and she dated plenty of boys to feel better about herself. After she woke up and realised how unhealthy that was, she made a decision to be single for at least a year. Now, she's happy with herself, because she took steps to change her life (yep. she's a keeper.)\n\nSo here's where I'm at now: we're both single, and we both enjoy that for now. But we're also really, REALLY close. I am crazy about her, but I have no idea whether I should give up and drift apart, or whether this could turn into a relationship in the future.", "summary": "I am friendzoned by the girl of my dreams, who wants to be single for a while . Should I cut loose from her, or wait for a chance at a future with her?"}
{"id": "t3_151e86", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Feeling a bit under appreciated. How do I hint to him?", "post": "So my SO and I have exchanged Christmas gifts quite early this year. I was pretty damn excited about him opening the gifts I got him -- all wrapped and tied with a bow and shit. \nWell, he pressured me to open mine. He told me to close my eyes. And at this moment, I'm all excited and shit. Then, he puts my hands around it. I open my eyes and its a little bottle of Honey Jack. Now, I love alcohol as much as the next person, but my heart just fell. I had gotten him something.. more sentimental. \nI got him this awesome Indiana Jonesy leather covered flask and a nice bottle of Abercromie & Fitch's Fierce cologne.\nWell he opened his gift tonight,  and to see his face light up made me feel so happy. But I couldn't help but feel disappointed and not as appreciated. I'm really not a naggy, whiny SO. But this feeling leaves me a little sad and unimportant.  \nBtw, we've been kinda together for a littler over a year.\nWhat should I do? Should I tell him straight up? If I do and he gets a gift, ill feel like it's only because I told him and that would just defeat the purpose.", "summary": "SO and I exchanged gifts. Mine was more sentimental, his a bottle of alcohol. Feeling under appreciated. If I tell him how I feel, how do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_mor78", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My wife of three months threatened to move out.", "post": "Backstory: Been with her for about 4 years, things were great.  3 months ago we get married. We both work a lot, opposite schedules, and rarely see each other.  We bought a farm together, and have been settling in there too. Gradually she has withdrawn to the point of frigidity, and basic intimacy, holding hands, kissing, smiling. She comes home exhausted and sits there, at times I have to wrestle basic sentences out of her.  She says it's stress from work, and not to worry. I started picking up her end of basic work around the house and farm to help her out with stress. Still though whenever I try to do anything special, or social with her she always resists it, with rules, stipulations, or being negative, and an overall close-minded downer. Not her personality at all, but there it is time and time again. Conversely, she also will go and hang out with her friends over night regularly with carefree ease.  \n\nYesterday, as I serve her breakfast she says that, she doesn't take care of me.\n\nWhenever we have time off she flees from my presence. Today, Thanksgiving was no different.  She talks about driving over an hour away to her friends McMansion for a Walmart thanksgiving. I reminded her of years past when we have done that and she ended up being exhausted at the end of the day, she just got off a 15 hour shift. She also never framed it within the context of me coming along, and left me saying she was only going to be there a few hours. \n\nEven though she works at a grocery store and finds it impossible to bring food home. I went and got ingredients for at least a home cooked meal tonight.  Well I fell asleep, waiting for her. Got a text at one in morning saying that she was going midnight shopping.  So I finally called her out for being inconsiderate, and wish her a happy thanksgiving. \n\nShe now wants to come get her dog and leave. Then goes on (via text) about how she constantly fails and pretends to be happy around me for months, and she should just grab her dog, who is attached at the hip to my dog, and leave.  \n\nWTF?", "summary": "New wife has gone frigid, and seems to have regrets about life, as a result treats me like shit on a regular basis. Now wants to leave. "}
{"id": "t3_4x2bz7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost drowning myself", "post": "So this happened when I was around 10ish.\n\nI was having the usual bath - filling up the bucket, getting the jug to pour over my head - and as I always loved to do, I swirled the water in the bucket so it looked like a hurricane, I would then proceed to dipping the tip of my head in the bucket so that my hear would swirl up as well.\n\nI did this every bath time so it wasn't unusual for me. However, this time I thought, 'why not try dipping my whole face in while the water swirled'. So that's exactly what I did. A second later the water stopped swirling and for some reason I panicked and inhaled+swallowed all the water I could. \n\nFuck.\n\nI pulled my head back, and I couldn't take a breath no matter how hard I tried.\nWould I really die today? Death by mini hurricane? Fuck no. I swallow with all my might and took the biggest fucking breath I could muster.\n\nA second later I was gagging and coughing, and a few minutes later I was regretting that I told my mom what happened.\n\nShe even promised she wouldn't tell anyone >.<", "summary": "Almost drowned myself by submerging my face in a bucket of swirling water to 'see what would happen'"}
{"id": "t3_2ydv4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] was with my new girlfriend [17F] and I couldn't perform when it counted.", "post": "So I haven't had the best luck with the ladies in my life, but I finally got a girlfriend and I'm crazy about her already. She's hot, smart, funny, everything I wanted in a girl. \n\nSo we're at my place and things get hot and heavy and we begin kissing and taking off clothes. First off, the furthest I've gotten with a girl before this was a blowjob when I was drunk at a party. Anyway, clothes are off and I'm hard as a rock waiting to go.\n\nI go down on her and I'm still rock hard and she climaxes and she's ready to return the favor to me. When she goes to blow me I start to go soft for some reason. I;m trying to concentrate on her and the generous, hot action she's doing but I just can't focus. I'm so confused and to compensate for that I go down on her again and the erection returns.\n\nShe says she wants me to fuck when I'm done going down on her and I get up to fuck her and I lose the hard on again. After that she was accepting and said we could wait (I'm still a virgin) for the next time we get together. I'm not sure why I kept losing the hard on when it mattered. If it changes anything I always over think things and I'm in my own head a lot. \n\nI talked to my best friend about and he said that I was probably nervous, but I'm completely ready to lose my virginity.", "summary": "Hooking up with new girlfriend, get hard when I go down on her but soft when she blows me or I'm about to fuck her. What is the possible reasoning behind this?"}
{"id": "t3_2m6udq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (27M) get gf (28F) to renew her passport, so I can propose to her in Venice?", "post": "Ok, so first of all this is a throwaway account as my other acc contains my real name (error!)\n\nAnyway, I need some advice on how to get my gf to renew her passport...\n\nBasically I've been with my gf for almost 6yrs, we've lived together for almost 5yrs and are very settled indeed. I want to propose to her in Venice next year. She's a teacher so we are limited to the school holidays.\n\nHowever, her passport expires in spring next year (exactly when I'm planning to take her). I want to keep the trip a surprise until the day before, but this passport issue is quite a logistical problem! \n\nWe were out with friends last night and we were all discussing summer plans and about how it would be nice to go away together. I used this as a good point to enquire about her soon-to-expire passport. She told me that she would definitely look to renew it before the summer as we usually go on holiday abroad. But I need her to get it renewed at least a month before my planned trip to Venice.\n\nSO, my question to you fellas & ladies out there, is how do you think I can slyly get her to renew her passport in time?! \n\nBecause plan B (aka the easy option) is to just tell her I'm planning a trip away (without telling her where) and that she'll need to renew it. But this takes the fun out of the surprise of the trip! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! :-D", "summary": "GF's passport due to expire next spring, need her to renew so I can propose in Venice"}
{"id": "t3_2bo1jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] dating a [19 F] off and on for a year. Experiencing intense sadness and anxiety when away.", "post": "I've been dating a girl off and on for about one year now.  Things have been complicated for a variety of reasons but it's finally stable and we've been going at it for about a month.  \n\nI feel crazy for feeling this way and I acknowledge that, but I can't help it.  When we're hanging out it's fantastic, really fantastic for both of us.  Through everything we still have a stupid amount of fun together.  \n\nThe problem is that whenever I'm not hanging out with her, I become really sad and anxious thinking about the two of us and I can't stop it.  I assume it's a personal issue but I don't know how to fix it.", "summary": "I'm dating someone whom when I'm hanging out with have a fantastic time but when I'm away experience intense sadness and anxiety.  Has anyone dealt with this and how do I better the issue?"}
{"id": "t3_2xo7yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Let me [20m] tell you a story and afterwards ask you this: is Paula [18f] being a bitch?", "post": "Let's say there's a guy called John [21m]. John kinda likes Paula and he wants her to think of him as a nice guy, get a good rep with her and such. John mentions Game of Thrones to her, and she says she's really into it, and also that she even read a few books before the show started airing.\n\nJohn gets excited, because them both like the same thing a lot! Then he offers to lend her the dvd box of the second season, to be a nice guy and maybe win her heart little by little. She accepts!\n\nPaula then proceeds to carry out the dvd box to another guy's house, watching the series with him as well as making out, on John's expenses. Is Paula a bitch?", "summary": "John lends Paula some dvds in the hopes of having her into him, and she instead goes out to watch them with another guy, making out with him. Is she being a bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_42eqva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What my boyfriend [23M] views as \"the silent treatment\" I [23F] view as \"cooling off\"", "post": "I'm having difficult communicating something with my boyfriend, Jeff, of nine months. \n\nA little about myself: I am the kind of person who has trouble concealing her emotions. If I'm stressed, sad, excited, nervous, etc., it's really obvious. I have a terrible poker face. I also have very physical reactions: I get really flushed and hot when I'm nervous, I cry really easily, my heart beats really fast when I'm angry, etc. I have a hard time thinking clearly or rationally when I am particularly emotional.\n\nThrough my life, I have developed a way of handling this. If I feel myself getting really angry or upset, I immediately give myself some cooling off time-- I just need alone time to hang out with myself and gather my thoughts. \n\nHere's how this translates into relationships: when I am upset with my SO, I just need time to cool off and properly process my emotions before I can address them. Otherwise I just start crying and can't articulate how I feel. Jeff, on the other hand, needs to address things as soon as they happen, and he won't let up until we talk about things right then and there. \n\nA rundown of how this goes when we fight: As soon as things start to get heated, I will say \"Okay, I just need a little time to myself to think about this. I can't talk to you with a clear head when I'm upset.\" To HIM, I am being passive aggressive and giving him the silent treatment. When I leave to spend time alone and then come back for a few hours, he is even more upset about our fight. He thinks that I leave the room as some sort of punishment. \n\nI can't seem to get this across properly. I hate being made to talk about my feelings as soon as my emotions become noticeable. That's not how I handle things. But to Jeff, he thinks that my going off and being alone is some sort of manipulation tactic -- that I leave as soon as things start to get tough, that I'm not willing to stay and fight for things to make our relationship stronger.", "summary": "I need time alone to think rationally whenever I get upset. My boyfriend Jeff thinks that I am being passive aggressive and pouting when I do this. He thinks its a manipulation tactic, and I don't know how to explain it any better."}
{"id": "t3_44s2md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [25 F], loosing sexual interest, comparing her to others. My own insecurities?", "post": "Hey everyone. \nNot sure if this a /r/relationships post or a /r/psycologyfuckinghelpimloosingmymind post.\n\nNot sure where to start.  I met my current g/f 2 years ago when I moved to Colorado and fell in love with her at first site. She has been there through the worst and best of everything.  I was pretty much crippled for 6 months because of some surgeries and she was there to hold me when I had mental and physical break downs.  She was there for when I had to come off all the prescription pain killers and anti-depressants I was on, she was there rubbing my back when I thought I was dying from the withdraws and pain, or holding my legs when they weren't working or I couldn't feel them.  I seriously cannot live without her, but..I find my self wanting other women. Especially fitter women.  My g/f is a little heavier, nothing to be embarrassed about, but I'm always thinking of her fit cousin or her fit sister, and wishing she was that fit, something she is already insecure about.  Even though, she has sacrificed herself for the past 2 years taking care of me...\n\nI'm also very insecure.  I went from being a fitness nut and in great shape, to a slob because of some health issues that kept me down for almost 2 years. I hate how I look, I hate what I do for work (full time developer 40+ a week), I don't think my masters program is for me because I can't enjoy it (full time environmental science), I always feel like I'm on the verge of a mental break down, I don't think i'll ever make it out of this shit health situation, I don't sleep, I want to sleep with other women, and sometimes try hooking up with a guy.  WTF is wrong with me. Most dies I want to die and not even think about putting her through this anymore.\n\nAny advice would be great.  I understand what and how I think isn't right, but sometimes I can't help it.  I have a strong suspicion it's my own self insecurities.", "summary": "I'm an insecure boyfriend who thinks fantasizes about other women except  the woman I love."}
{"id": "t3_2w6vkr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Thoughts on a prenup", "post": "I proposed last weekend. We've talked about it for a long time, I just finally got around to doing it. \n\nNow to the important stuff. We've been together for over 5 years, lived together for four. She's extremely responsible with her money, which is one of the reasons I haven't really thought I needed one. She pays me a set amount a month for rent, we just kind of split other things like groceries and such. I'd say I generally pay for going out to eat, vacations, etc. But I make a lot more than she does, so I don't have a problem with that. Even though we have separate accounts, I'd say we both consider things ours. I do own a house, but like I said, she's paying a little over a 3rd of that payment a month.\n\nI don't want to sound like I have love blinders on, I'm a pessimist generally, but I can't really see the need for one. If something ever did happen where we got divorced, which I really can't see but I know people change, should I still get one? Honestly if that happened, I know myself, and I'd be civil and fair about who get's what, I could guarantee that. I really couldn't see her being any other way either, we're a lot a like that way.\n\nWe're not going to have kids, and if we did split, I'd feel she was owed at minimum, all of the money she paid towards the house, if not half of the house itself. \n\nSo, should I still look into getting one? Feel free to be as critical as possible about my views on things. She already asked me if I wanted one, as I technically have more assets than her (even though I consider them ours), so getting one wouldn't be an issue. I feel the fact that she asked that speaks to her financial responsibility.", "summary": "have a financially responsible fiance. Can get a prenup if I want, but don't feel like I should. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_52gyfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How many people do you reckon get cheated on but they never know?", "post": "Was just thinking about this today and feel like my gf is but we're LDR and I'm not sure there's anything I can do about it. But I was wondering how many people get cheated on but they never find out - that's what would kill me inside... I would much rather know and either move on or end it, suspecting but not knowing would be awful.\n\nI have a friend (M 23) who just got engaged to his long term gf and I know he's cheated on her at least 3 times, it's really quite awful, I've thought about telling her but then maybe it isn't my business?", "summary": "questioning cheating? and should I tell my friends fiance he's cheated on her several times?"}
{"id": "t3_2aawhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have a crush on my [18 F]friend, not sure if she has a crush on me too.", "post": "So, I have a crush on this girl since I met her in our freshman year of highschool. I think she has had a crush on me too, but I'm not sure.\n\n \nShe once put her phone on my cellphone without me asking for it. She gave me a nickname which none of my other friends use, and I love when she calls me by that nickname (I also have a nickname for her, that only I use). She would also sit beside me in all classes. She liked to hold hands with me \"because of the cold\", but then, no matter how the weather was, I would just grab her hand, or she would grab mine, just for the sake of holding hands. A friend of mine (female) always said that it was weird. \n\nThe problem is, she's living in another city now. She is visiting her mom in my city, and I asked her out last Sunday, and I was planning to tell her about my feelings. But I didn't. We had a great time, talked for a couple of hours that felt like a couple of minutes, but in the end I couldn't say anything. \n\nShe's leaving this Saturday, and I said I wanted to see her again because I had something to tell her. I think she already knows what it is about (after this text, anyway).\n\nWhat do you guys think? Is it possible that she has a crush on me?", "summary": "I'm not sure if this girl has a crush on me, but there are some signs out there that she does."}
{"id": "t3_3btr97", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Foot swollen after Salicylic acid wart treatment", "post": "Hi there,\n\nBasically, I have had a plantars wart on my right big toe for almost two years and the past couple weeks I have been fighting it pretty relentlessly. I have been doing freeze treatments, applying salicylic acid, and removing layers of dead skin.\n\nThe last time I removed skin was on Monday night. I got deep enough that I felt I was almost at the base of the wart. In an attempt to get closer to the bottom, I picked at the wart with my pocket knife (consistently disinfected the knife and my foot with lots of rubbing alcohol and wore gloves). I got deep but only deep enough to draw a tiny amount of blood. I then started reapplying my Salicylic acid treatment to the area from that night until this (Wednesday) morning.\n\nToday, my toe was very sore all day at work, and stung fairly sharply on the spot of my wart. I figured it might be from the salicylic acid, so when I got home from work, I soaked my toe in apple cider vinegar in an attempt to remove the dried acid. However, this didn't get rid of all of it. Also, at this point, I realized my toe and was getting fairly warm and swollen, and that the rest of my foot was getting a bit warm as well. After this, I took some isopropyl alcohol and a knife, and gently rubbed/peeled away all the visible dried acid left on my toe. However, my toe doesn't feel any better. I am currently laying with it raised and covered in neosporin.\n\nLong story short, should I be concerned about some sort of infection or anything? Or could this just be a normal response to my treatment? I have no known allergies, other serious medical conditions, or anything like that. I am a 20 year old white male and am (hopefully) healthy.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Did a bit of self surgery/salicylic acid treatment on my plantars wart. Now my toe is red and swollen. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_3hhblc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] of 1.2 yrs, in a sticky uncomfortable situation and we need help.", "post": "I'm keeping my identity anonymous.\n\nMy girlfriend went out one night and got really drunk and she heard from her friend that she kissed her ex-boyfriend.\n\nI wasn't aware of this, she didn't want to tell me but I found out through a friend that she was speaking to.\n\nI told her I knew and now she's not sure that she can stay with me because she said it isn't fair on me.\n\nShe's messaged her ex asking if he could remember (They were both really drunk) and he said that it might have but he can't say for sure.\n\nWhat should I do / what should she do?\n\nI love her so much, I've already told her that I'd be willing to forgive her if it happened or not.", "summary": "Potential cheating but very drunk, now we're not sure."}
{"id": "t3_1ky0nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] was dumped 4 months ago. Need some advice about getting back into dating", "post": "My boyfriend left me four months ago. We had been together almost three years. I really felt that the breakup was devastating. It took me a bit of time to get to where I am now. I realized that our relationship was unhealthy and my SO treated me poorly. I finally feel like my self again and I am happy in my life.\n\nI'd really like to go out and meet new people. I'm not really sure where to start. I'm worried it is going to feel strange. I'm worried about being awkward. I was completely committed to one person for almost 3 years. It seems it will be hard to open up. I'd love any advice on how to get back out there.", "summary": "long term bf left me. I took the breakup hard, but I am finally at a good place. I want to start dating again and I'm not sure where to begin. Advice would be lovely."}
{"id": "t3_20q08i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] was dumped by my [23 F] on my birthday and now she is in a relationship with my friend.", "post": "She broke up with me on my birthday 7 months ago, ending a 7 month relationship, because I didn't contribute to the rent, I stayed at her apartment and went to my college classes. She said 3 days earlier that she would breakup with me if I didn't find a job in 2 weeks, she broke her word. She said that I wasn't mature enough for a relationship. She told me not to get stuck on her and that I would find another girl. \n\nThen as of recently we stopped being friends with benefits because she has a new squeeze: my friend who I introduced her to. He told her to ignore me and she complied and now I am being treated like the bubonic plague. She threatened to throw out some of my clothes if I didn't give her marijuana and ever since(a full month later) she is still ignoring me.\n\nI would really like to get her back, but I understand that might not be an option. I am struggling for the first time in my life to be independent and will soon move to a state where I can start the business I want to but it will take some time before I am successful enough to support her and give her what she gave to me. \n\nPersonally it hurts but it seems like the best option is to move on, still I am having a hard time getting over her and I feel like she is telling me to fuck off. I think we both made mistakes but I think that her actions are unacceptable.\n\nHow should I deal with this and how do I have healthier relationships in the future? And how do I deal with this heartbreak?", "summary": "She broke up with me because I didn't pay rent, now she is with my friend and ignoring me. I don't know if it is worth it to salvage this relationship or if I should just move on."}
{"id": "t3_3cbmvj", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Help a middle-aged new college graduate improve my situation", "post": "I'm not actually graduating until next spring, but I thought that this would be a good time to ask, so I have plenty of time to get things in order or to possibly pursue some of the things that are advised.\n\nHere's the story: I'm 35 years old, a Marine Corps veteran and a married father of 3. At this time, my wife doesn't earn much at all and we're barely making it on my blue-collar income of around 43-48k/year (depends on overtime availability).\n\nI hate my job, and I'm finally finishing up my degree so that I can move into something else. Unfortunately, I've heard too many horror stories about recent grads being offered $13-15/hour and taking it because it's actually pretty good, relative to other offers or opportunities.\n\nI'm terrified that despite my education, I won't be able to move into anything that pays more than I'm currently making \"right out of the gate\", so to speak.\n\nI'm not afraid to move if I have to, and I can learn pretty much anything I need to. My BA will be in \"Integrative Leadership Studies\", which is just a generic Adult Degree program at my college.\n\nI'm not afraid to continue on to a graduate program, but I'd like to leave my current job first, if at all possible.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice?", "summary": "Help me to escape my dead-end, blue-collar, criminally-mismanaged, racist-filled job when I graduate next year, please."}
{"id": "t3_2ew8aj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] with a girl I like [20F] I don't understand girls...", "post": "Ok, So I have been seeing this girl for a few weeks we are only new I know but I just don't understand whats going on and its making me feel sick.\n\nSo I really, really like her in fact I have never met any one that I have got a long with so well with before in my life. We did meet online and I have a feeling that she is bored of me or has started talking to another guy. \n\nShe has been talking to me non stop for over 3 weeks now, well over 30 times a day but the last couple days she has just stopped. She said her phone went flat yesterday then told me she feel asleep last night. I asked her if she wanted to get something to eat before the movie as we are still getting to know each other and 5 hours later she said no so I asked her what time did she want to see the movie and she said 10 ish I guess.\n\nHow can I show her tonight that im not desperate but I do like her?\n\nAny tips would be good as I feel I might have been pushing things a little to much asking her out for dinner as well.", "summary": "A girl I have been talking to for a little while, is coming up with excuses not to talk."}
{"id": "t3_3dw22g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my Fiancee [27 F] of one and a half years, I found out she cannot leave me because of financial reasons", "post": "About 8 months ago we had a very bad fight. She had caught me in a lie (nothing about cheating, but it was something I lied about my past that was important to her). She was on the verge of breaking up with me. All of a sudden, we were fine about a few weeks later, and we rarely fought about that reason. \n\nNow, I just came to realize after a breakdown she had, that she may actually want to break up with me but she can't because she relies upon me greatly (much greater than I thought) for financial reasons. Basically she'd be out on the street and so would her mom (she sends her money from her part time job). If it were only her she said she could be \"free\" in her own words (but I think she might have been implying that she *would* be free if she had the chance.\n\nI'm not 100% sure what she was saying, that she *would* definitely not be with me now if it weren't for financial support, or that she is just upset because she doesn't at least have that choice. \n\nI can't figure it out, and I am devistated obviously! She just went to sleep and I don't even know what to do. \n\nI don't want to force someone to be with me while they don't want this, love isn't a one way street. Even if she tries to \"make the best of it\" to be with me, I only want someone with me who's in it 100%, especially since we plan on getting married. \n\nWhat to do? If I leave her because she's not 100% (or so I think) I would feel guilty, on top of that, her and her mom on the street (or at the very best couch surfing with relatives).", "summary": "My fiancee might be stuck with me and not be 100% \"into\" me, but may be staying with me due to her financial situation"}
{"id": "t3_2nieag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can my [25/m] boyfriend and I[23/f] split the holidays?", "post": "I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. For the last 2 years, when Thanksgiving and Christmas came along, we spent it with our own families. His family lives 5 hours away from my family, so it's not very realistic to spend one day with one family, and then go to the other one's the next day. I would really love to spend a holiday with my boyfriend, but I feel bad for my parents. His family makes a much bigger deal out of holidays than mine, and he likes his family a lot more than I like my family so I can't convince him to come spend the holiday with my family. Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I could still go with him to his parent's house over mine, but I hardly ever see my parents. My parents are currently spending a lot of money on me to put me through school, so I feel like it's really selfish of me to ditch my parents to spend Thanksgiving with my boyfriend and his family.\n\nSo I guess the main question is: Should I go ahead and finally spend a holiday with my boyfriend of 3 years, or should I spend it with my parents since they've been such good parents and I feel bad?\n\nAnd for another question... How can my boyfriend and I split holidays in the future so that everyone is happy?", "summary": "We are not used to spending the holiday without our parents and feel bad about doing it, but we also want to finally spend a holiday together since we haven't in the three years of being together."}
{"id": "t3_vdwfs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been scammed via reputable institution? Did you win or lose?", "post": "I think this might be my first one...  \n\nBasically, signed up for virtualhighschool.com.  Five hundred dollars. Only ONE mention of a deadline. Even in the FAQs they ask question related to the time it would take to do the course... nothing. They even apply across the website they have no deadline! The whole entire website; ONE mention: The online school's registrar cited a paragraph in the registration process, which my parents filled out because the majority of people taking online high school courses do not have their own credit card.\n\nAnyway, couple days ago, course got taken down (via deadline), without prior notice, and now are charging me two hundred dollars to rebuild my course (said fee was NOT outlined in the citation of the paragraph of the registration process that the registrar provided me with). Now, angry as fuck, I ask her to rebuild my course, and they wont even email me back.\n\nI did some research, and found these, under the Consumer Protection Act, 2002, Part III Subsections 14 and 15:\n13. A representation that the transaction involves or does not involve rights, remedies or obligations if the representation is false, misleading or deceptive.\n14. A representation using exaggeration, innuendo or ambiguity as to a material fact or failing to state a material fact if such use or failure deceives or tends to deceive.\n15. A representation that misrepresents the purpose or intent of any solicitation of or any communication with a consumer.\n\nAre these worth anything? Is there more? Or is literally my parent's selective memory going to cost me a couple hundred dollars?", "summary": "Took courses online, institution fucked me over with some sketchy claims. Want to know where this can lead"}
{"id": "t3_1iqlpj", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate a majority of the females in my age group.", "post": "23 year old male here. I don't know what else to say about this other than I hate the personalities of the 21 to 28 year old female population. A majority of them are completely superficial and have no drive beyond being the pretty girl or the object of physical desire. Having a conversation with them is like pulling teeth and hardly consists of any real or meaningful topics. Drinking, social media, and 'pretty' things. Basically the only three things that matter to women in this age bracket.\n\nI know I know... This is not true for everyone/fuck stereotyping/everyone is an individual bullshit. But seriously, take a look at your Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter account. You'll find a majority of this to be true. And of course you'll find the great ones who are just awesome people, but I feel like they are rare and very much exceptions to the rule. \n\nI compare them to the women I work with, who are around 30+ years of age, and the personal experiences I have had with them. A higher percentage of these women are incredibly funny with a deeper sense of humor, enjoy a broad range of topics in conversation, and treat people with much more respect. \n\nI guess the", "summary": "is basically how much I want to be out of the twenties and not be surrounded by people that are so vain it's almost painful to watch at times."}
{"id": "t3_d2iki", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Filming inside an airport, is it illegal?", "post": "Ok, heres the story:\n\nI was flying from Fortaleza (Brazil) to Stockholm (Sweden) with a connection in Lisbon on Monday evening. Once I got to the Fortaleza airport the flight got delayed a couple of hours but the TAP staff guaranteed us that we wouldn't miss the transfer flight in Lisbon even though it would be a very tight time schedule. Once in Lisbon we (pretty much everyone who was going to Stockholm) ran to the gate just to be denied boarding under the excuse that our luggage wont make it to this flight so we couldn't board, when asked if they could just let us board anyway and then send our luggage the TAP staff girl just said they wont do it. We all went to the transfer desk, pretty upset, only to find a huge line of people from other flights already complaining about their situation. From the 3 attendants in the transfer desk, only 1 was working and the other two just calmly said to us \"We cant help you, you should get in line and wait over there.\" There were pregnant women, people with babies, elderly and everyone stressing out because it has been over 2 hours and the line hasnt move a thing. Soon enough chaos starts and I hear the TAP woman screaming to a customer \"You shut the fuck up! And you too sir!\" (in portuguese). \n\nThats when I pick up my phone and start filming when a lady which was in line with us says: \"You better put that down, you dont have any permission to film here and if you continue, I am allowed to throw your phone away.\" I said it would be illegal of me to publish it but Im filming it to myself and I can do it. She said she was from the press and she knows the law and I cant do that. I didnt want any trouble because it was already a mess over there so I put my phone down and told the lady to fuck off and so we stayed in line until after much trouble, we managed to get home the next day. \n\nSo reddit? Is it wrong to film inside an airport? Was she right and I wrong?", "summary": "During my flight back home, I started filming after a small incident at the Lisbon airport to which a lady said I couldn't do that and threatened to throw my phone away."}
{"id": "t3_4x02ii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24/F] wanted to break up with me [23/F] - did I wrong her?", "post": "We've dated for about a month and a half. She wanted a serious relationship. To preface the situation - she told me about a time when she was having exams, and she vomited. Her parents or boyfriend at the time would take care of her.\n\nI came down with a bad fever and was coughing blood. I took a week off school and work. She took time off studying to spend half a day taking care of me. Two days later, she has her final exam. While I'm at home recovering, she calls me to let me know that she feels extremely ill and threw up in the middle of her exam. I tell her that she should call 911 immediately as I won't be able to come to her and she does that, and is hospitalized for the day. I do not visit her, as I feel quite sick and fear that I may have passed something to her.\n\nThe next day, she goes home to recover, but is still feeling quite down. I go to visit my parents to pick up some mail. I ask if she needs anything at this time, and she declines, telling me that she doesn't need me to help her now.\n\nA week later, she tells me that she wants to break up over the situation. Her friend had to take care of her in the hospital, and he asked where her boyfriend (me) was. She also pointed out that I was feeling good enough to visit my parents. I was still coughing blood and had a fever at that point, and wasn't thinking very clearly. I had feared that I may have passed something to my girlfriend and that visiting her in the hospital could be bad for both of us.", "summary": "Girlfriend takes care of me while I'm very sick, then vomits during final exam 2 days later. I didn't visit her in the hospital, and she wanted a breakup after that. Am I negligent in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3epn6n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being neighborly and coming off as creepy", "post": "Obligatory, this happened last week.\n\nSo I live in an apartment complex and I had a new neighbor move in across the way.  I've been studying for the Texas Bar for approximately 3 months, hovered over my computer and reading law.  Basically, I've had pretty minimal human contact.  Now, I'm not normally socially awkward, quite the opposite, but I guess I'm so out of practice, I couldn't help myself.  As I exited my apartment, my new neighbor exited simultaneously.  She is approximately in her younger 20s.  Here is the exchange:\n\nMe- \"Oh hi, are you our new neighbor?\"\n\nHer- \"Yes\"\n\nMe- \"Well nice to meet you, I'm Aulstin, and I live in the apartment across from you with my wife, (wife's name)\"\n\nHer- \"Nice to meet you.\"\n\n*This is where I get weird*\n\nMe- \"So do you have anyone else living with you?\"\n\n*Why did I ask that?*\n\nHer- \"No...well, I live with my dog.\"\n\nMe -\"Well, I'll let you know if I see any suspect characters hanging around.\"\n\n*What?!?  What does that mean*\n\nHer- nervous laughter, \"Ok.\"", "summary": "Divulge of human contact, I make awkward conversation with my brand new neighbor, who probably thinks I'm crazy"}
{"id": "t3_2uuxol", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Which life choice should I take (career)", "post": "I know this is pretty minor compared to most of the posts here.\nBut currently I'm in my second last year of high school and a few career choices have opened up for me. I'm currently doing an IT course which will land me a certificate 3, and if i want, i can start an apprenticeship with a company when i want. I'm quite 'tech-savvy\" and am getting great results in the class, and i've been seriously thinking about this as my career path.\n\nI am also looking it studying Physics at university. I get A-B grades for Chemistry, Physics and Maths, and they're my favorite classes. Im looking into enrolling into Melbourne University (Im Australian) as it is arguably the best in the country. If i keep my results I will be able to get into the course of my choice, but am unsure whether this or IT is the way to go. \n\nIT gets payed a lot less on average, but is definitely a head start in the sense of money such, but overall i think i'd end up earning more as a physicist. I think i'd be very happy as either so i doubt that will affect my choice. Any advice and arguments to help me decide would be great. Again sorry if this is so minor compared to some of the posts, but i do appreciate you reading this.", "summary": "Not sure whether to become IT professional or Physicist."}
{"id": "t3_2htgtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my friend/ex [24 F] \"together\" for a year put the nail in the coffin.", "post": "I was just staring at this text box for the longest time. Just thinking about what I wanted to say. and in the end its not like a long drawn out story will make any difference. I just want to vent. \n\nThe title says what happened. this girl i had been associating with we were a great team, always fun, always laughs always a good time. we were close. she came onto me strong out of her relationship. but in the end decided to go back to him.\n\nperhaps not directly, but her life is such a mess and he is the only one that can give her stability because he does everything she asks him to. always awaiting a command always willing to let her if need be even cheat on him so long as it suits her needs.\n\nI didn't let that happen. and its caused such a rift between us that its now over. and here i sit. day 5 into no contact. not because i want to get her back but just because i can't deal with the pain knowing her ex is always around or some other guy is always around. the questions the insecurity the sleepless nights wondering if she's snuggling up to another man that's not me. \n\nShe contact me on the second day of no contact sending me a video of her doing cute things basically a movie version of a selfie and how she couldn't stop thinking about me. I ignored it answered the next day saying \"loved the video\" and that was it. She keeps liking my pics on instagram its like she's still with me but not. its just silence. \n\ni'm a wreak, drinking, smoking non stop. but all i can do is drown out the pain. and hope for a better tomorrow. Nobody needs to respond to this. I just wanted to vent.", "summary": "girl broke up with me for her ex who she broke up with him for me. , no response needed i just wanted to vent."}
{"id": "t3_23k9om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M] Girlfriend [17F] lives in an abusive household", "post": "Hello, Reddit.  I usually don't post much but this is a big problem for me and I would like to get more points of view, information regarding the situation, and any possible courses of action I could take to help.\n\nFirst off, I would like to say I love reading both this subreddit and r/longdistance. I love seeing how supportive you guys are and it restores my faith in people quite often.  I like reading both subreddits when I'm upset.\n\nMy girlfriend, lets call her Samantha, has a lot of issues with her home life.  Her mom is bipolar and quite frankly nuts, she has these episodes where she physicially abuses Samantha and her younger siblings that live with her.  She has gone as far as throwing razor blades and glass objects at her.  Samantha does everything she can to make her mom calm down, but sometimes this is just met with even more violence.  Her mother will hit the younger kids as well and Samantha does her best to protect them and stand up for them.  \n\nEven when she isn't going through an episode like this, Samantha's mother doesn't treat her well in any respect.  She gives her the responsibilities of an adult, yet treats her like a child.  Samantha has 2 facebook accounts, the initial reason being that her mother wouldn't let her talk to her dad and his side of the family, but now she uses it a lot to talk to my mom and I.  Her mother knows the account information for her original one and goes on there and reads her conversations and such.  She does everything she can to control every aspect of Samantha's life.  It seems like she's even trying to break us up, but I doubt that's going to work out for her.\n\nMy mom told her that we would all come up with something together to do to help her, but I honestly don't know what kind of a solution could be presented.  I would love to hear reddit's opinion and if you guys think there's anything we can do to help her.  We are all here to support and and do whatever we can.", "summary": "GF's mom is abusive and controls every aspect of her life that she possibly can.  Would like to know how I can support her/possible courses of actions I could take to do anything about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_50r8lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M20] worried about emotional manipulation from girlfriend [F20].", "post": "I've found recently that my girlfriend has been saying things which make me feel uncomfortable dye to the way they're said. We're not doing great at the minute so I'm concerned this is changing my thinking. \n\nEssentially, we had an argument recently and now talking between us is more stilted (we're in different countries right now, by the way). The things that have me worried are when she says things like she needs to talk to me to distract her from thinking about hurting herself and that she \"hopes I know\" she's depending on me to make her happy. \n\nI don't want to seem overly selfish, I'm concerned about that. Of course I want to help and I have for as long as we have been dating (around a year and a half now). It just feels like some of these things are more of a threat than asking for help. This is partially caused by the fact that when I try to offer suggestions they're met with rejection as being too hard, not what she wants as the solution or simply as not going to work. \n\nI feel guilty writing this and I feel guiltier that I've been considering the future of our relationship recently. It feels like she's making sure I know just how guilty I should feel if I left. This is made worse by her recently accusing me of fostering her dependency on me while I'm not dependant on her (I'm not sure how I did this and when I tried to offer her ways of becoming more independent they were shot down). \n\nAm I being selfish here and thinking too much about my self, not enough about her? I do want to help and I don't want to make it all about me but these thoughts keep coming back to me. I'm not sure what to do so any advice is appreciated. \nHas anyone experienced anything like this before?\nAm I wrong here and being overly defensive or is this manipulative?\nMost importantly, where do I go from here?", "summary": "It feels like my girlfriend is threatening me to ensure I stay with her. I don't feel like this is right but I'm not sure if I'm being overly selfish. "}
{"id": "t3_32ekzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "As a [22f] I'm dying to know if any LTRs don't fizzle out", "post": "As above, I and my boyfriend are both 22. We've been dating for about 2 and a half years now. As with a past long relationship, I'm noticing a general fizzle. Less desire to spend time with him, less desire for sex, general annoyance with his jokes and things he wants to talk about. It's not necessarily that I don't love him... but I'm slowly feeling the relationship loose excitement and passion. I had a similar experience with a past relationship, and at this point I'm starting to wonder: is the normal? Does this happen to everyone? People in long term relationships... is it possible to not get bored and ambivalent about your partner? I'm honestly curious if people actually stay in love.", "summary": "does anyone not eventually get bored in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1bgiup", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I think my beagle is sick. Can anyone offer any insight/share any similar experiences? (x-post /r/beagle)", "post": "So last Friday (March 29th) my 5 and a half year old beagle, Miles, started acting weirdly. He would start shaking and quietly whining. My family and I chalked it up to being in a new environment since we brought him to stay with us overnight at my grandparents' new home. This wasn't too worrying to us, since Miles is epileptic (relatively common among beagles) and we assumed he was having a mild seizure. But the problem persisted through the night and every couple hours he would start shaking again on every inhale. Also, he refuses to jump onto the furniture he knows he's allowed on; he chooses to stay on the floor and whine or I have to pick him up to be on the furniture with me. What I noticed starting yesterday is that he seems to be in pain around his bottom ribs and haunches. I tried lightly poking him in those areas every couple of hours and every time I do, he yelps. \n\nThroughout all of this I noticed what worries me the most. As any beagle owner would know, beagles can't shut up around food. Never before has Miles acted calm around food, let alone slept in his kennel during Easter lunch in a strange environment. He won't run up to snatch a treat out of my hand, either. I have to offer it to him a few inches from his nose, or, if I throw it on the floor he might be bothered to mosey on over and chomp it up very slowly. \n\nDoes anyone know what may be wrong with him?", "summary": "5 and 1/2 y/o epileptic beagle showing pain and loss of appetite. Never seen symptoms like this in him before"}
{"id": "t3_24t9q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (27M) keeps on mentioning his ex. Am I (23F) overthinking?", "post": "We've been dating for almost a year. He's my first serious boyfriend. He has a few relationships in the past but the last one hit him hard and left a dent in his heart, to the point where he became a borderline alcoholic along with other health issues from the break up.\n\nRecently, every time we go out whether with just the both of us or with friends, he mentions his ex a lot. What they used to do, where they used to go, what they did at a particular place. And he'd go on and on about it. I can't help but feel uneasy. I'm starting to think I'm just a replacement.", "summary": "boyfriend mentions his ex way too often. Am I overthinking? How should I go about this?"}
{"id": "t3_4a25r2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] want to reconnect with a guy [25M] I text-flirted with about 6 months ago. But how?", "post": "I met a guy at a friend's party about 6 months ago and had a great, alcohol-fueled time. Our mutual friend lives in a nearby city, whereas we're each in a separate part of the suburbs (and therefore wouldn't run into each other too easily). We texted on and off for a few weeks, but it fizzled out (mostly my fault). He initiated it all, said I was 'hella cute,' and did make an effort when I didn't respond for a while. He seemed more into it than I was at the time, but he's been on my mind lately.\n\nI was sort of involved with someone else at the time and completely bungled it with this guy. I feel guilty about this but would like to reconnect and actually spend time in person. Is it worth the shot? Or has too much time passed? I'm also not sure how to start a conversation with him again.", "summary": "How can I text this guy out of the blue to hang out?"}
{"id": "t3_3boiul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] feel like I'm living my life for my mom [52/F]", "post": "I love my mom very much. We have put each other through a lot of terrible shit and for 3 years now we are on good terms. She is honestly one of my best friends. Right after Highschool, my mom kicked me out because of a drug addiction so I moved to a different state and started working full time for 3 years. Shortly after my move, when I was 17 I got clean off of heroin and alcohol and have been ever since. My jobs paid well and occasionally I could afford to take time off to ride trains or hitchhike around. That's where I fell in love with traveling, not knowing where I was going, and not having any responsibilities, well instead of going back to work. I learned that when I am in the city I feel trapped, sick of all the people, depressed, and unmotivated. I decided to go to college because of a scholarship and my mom is helping me pay for the costs.\n\nSo here I am in a big city. My lease is up in a month, probably going to lose my last job on Thursday, and I am scheduled to go back to school in September. But I really don't want to. I love school and learning but I want to travel and live in my car for a while and work odd jobs. I told my mom this and she started crying because she has lived that life before and it took her to a dark place and she is afraid that would happen to me. She started begging me to reconsider the direction I want my life to go and to stay in school. Now I feel like an asshole, but I am being honest with myself. And the only thing stopping me from leaving once my lease is up is my mother's anxiety. What should I do here? I would feel very guilty to leave and put my mom through that, but it is what I want and my life right?", "summary": "Feel like I'm living my life for my mother"}
{"id": "t3_2tnp71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tired of failed relationships, lonely. [24M]", "post": "Just as the title says, I'm lonely, and tired of it. But every one of my relationships fail. It may be that I'm looking for the wrong things in women, or just that I'm not all that great at relationships. Most likely a combination of both.\n\nI have terrible self esteem, I'm an introvert, and a fat guy. ~300lbs at 5'11\". Not super fat, but fat enough. Anyway, I've a always been the person who feels very lonely if he's not with our talking to someone. I don't know how to get over that. It's difficult to find anyone around me, so I resort to long distance, but that has an even lower chance of working. \n\nWhat I'm trying to ask is.. Anyone who has been happy being single, how do you do it? I don't understand how it works. But I see that as my only option right now.", "summary": "How do I convince myself that being single is better?"}
{"id": "t3_3lcgl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] have been out of a 5 year long relationship for 4 months, and I have no idea how to get back out and dating.", "post": "I dated a young woman for 5 years. We lived together. Our breakup was not dramatic, just a necessary and sad consequence of personal issues on both or parts. \n\nI don't pretend to be 100% over the last 5 years, but I am comfortable with the fact that it's over, and that I would like to move on and begin to explore my other options.\n\nHowever, my ex and I went to high school together. I went through all of college without ever dating. I have never done what constitutes the normal dating process, and am at a total loss for how to proceed. Apps for casual meet ups like Tinder primarily produce awkward conversations with people who end up being robots. I'm not unattractive, but I'm not in shape either. I'm reasonably well-off, employed, and all those other things that you think of on a basic, superficial check list.\n\nBut disregarding all that, I have no idea how to begin. I'm in a new city with no close friends, and I would love the opportunity just to connect with young women my age. It's strange\u2013 I've never had any anxiety or difficulty around conversation with women before, and I don't now, either, but it is definitely kind of paralyzing not knowing how to start.\n\nI know this isn't a super unusual story, but if you try and google how to start dating in your 20s just about everything is either about being a woman or about how to act like a total ass. I'm trying to avoid both of those. \n\nAnyone have any advice? Pointers? Tips?", "summary": "\u2013 Broke up after 5 years, trying to learn how to start getting into dating."}
{"id": "t3_553zb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] am starting a new relationship with a woman [27W] for about a month now. I have significant trust issues from many aspects of my previous relationships, I need help.", "post": "I haven't been in a serious relationship in about 3 years, and my last 2 relationships have ended with me being cheated on. \n\nNot to start a pity part, but I feel it relevant, so I also have abandonment issues from growing up, with my family dropping me like a bad habit which resulted in my being homeless in my mid teens, and my brother last year choosing not to be a part of my life when I finally found some success to be proud of, as he insisted it changed me.\n\nI feel oddly distant with this wonderful girl, expecting her to change her mind about wanting to build something with me or simply finding something better and leaving me. I have been very open about my past with her and she has been nothing but supportive and patient.\n\nWorst of all, these trust issues manifest directly during sex. If she gets on top of me, I immediately feel uneasy and lose my erection, leading to her being frustrated, though she tries her best to hide it. If I'm on top we have no issues, and I can consistently pleasure her in other ways, but she insists her being on top is a must-have position in the sexual aspect of our relationship.\n\nShe's a great girl, we have no issues in the relationship on the surface, we don't argue, we are happy, but I have this nagging and sinking feeling inside of me when I think about the future. It makes me feel terrible, and I find myself in an odd cycle.\n\nI come you to you all for help and guidance, I would greatly appreciate any help and tips.", "summary": "Been burned one too many times, trying not to drag that shit on into a great blossoming relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3j4v45", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding to cut my own hair (uh oh)", "post": "Recently I bought a new electric trimmer for my beard. It came with an attachment for trimming head hair... Today I'm in need of a haircut so I think \"fuck it, i'll give it a whirl\".\n\nI look up some guides online, I set the thing to 5 to start off and get on with it. Now as this thing is a beard trimmer first and head trimmer second the damn thing keeps getting clogged with my hair and I'm having to take the guard off to clean it every 20 seconds or so (hey no biggie).\n\nTime goes on, the thing gets clogged, I clean it out, everything's normal and I go back to shaving my head...\n\nBzzzzz! I take two big streaks of hair, down to the level of Ewan Mcgregor in trainspotting out of my big fucking microwave oven sized head. I'd forgotten to put the guard back on...\n\nI look at myself and just go \"awww you dumb cunt\". \n\nNow I have to shave my hair down to that level which is probably about 0.4mm in length. The thing is the head trimmer attachment doesn't go that far down and I have to use the beard trimmer for the rest of it.", "summary": "I'm a cunt."}
{"id": "t3_35wlht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with [32M] coworker, awkwardness", "post": "Long story short we were friends, he was like a mentor, I was looking for a place to move, he recommended his area, we hung out, eventually admitted we like each other, both not comfortable dating coworkers (plus I just got out of a LTR), we both backed off, and now I feel like things are awkward.\n\nBecause we live in the same area, we randomly run into each other when taking the metro.  Depending on who sees who first, the other person will avoid (e.g. he avoids me, then I avoid him, etc).  We're both super immature as you can see.   Also because technically I moved into HIS area, my paranoia makes me think he thinks I'm a stalker.  So awkward.\n\nI fucked up.\n\nWhat do?", "summary": "While looking for a place to live, coworker recommended his area, so I moved into his area.  Post-move we sort of liked each other and then backed off.  Now when we run into each other and it's awkward.  I feel paranoid that he thinks I'm stalking him."}
{"id": "t3_2d15fm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Misunderstood lawyer rate [WA]", "post": "The missus and I are having a dispute with a landlord, and we had to turn to professional legal advice. But that is not what it is about.\n\nAfter an over-the-phone free consultation, we set up a more in depth meeting with a lawyer. We had believed he said over the phone his rate would be $75 per hour. We asked to confirm it and he did. Our dispute with the landlord seemed simple, so I was relieved the rate would be reasonable.\n\nWe went to the meeting, he went through our lease and we discussed several emails. He said he would write the landlord a letter, but he never did get around to that. Just sent us some other background information. It was not what we wanted. So the next day, when we asked again for the original letter, we asked him how many hours he had accrued on the other things he sent us, worried our bill would be inflated. He did not give us a tally, but he did mention his time was not cheap at $275. That was the first we heard of this new price. He claims it was always $275.\n\nWe would not have gone to him had we known the price. Luckily, we caught this error after only a day of working with him and we immediately dropped him. But now we have a dispute over the price to pay the lawyer for about 5 hours he has claimed to have worked so far.\n\nWe never received, nor signed, nor heard any other communication on the lawyers rates between when we first scheduled the appointment and when we learned of his claimed \"true cost\". In our favor, we have text messages between the two of us discussing his rate as being $75 immediately sent after the initial appointment was booked.\n\nI do not want to stiff the guy, and I do not want to get into another dispute when I am already dealing with my landlord (now on my own and without much more to go on.) But, the amount he is asking for is equivalent to a whole month of rent. I am willing to pay him the original amount I heard for the hours he claims, but he does not agree to that. What options do I really have here?", "summary": "We can swear that the lawyer first said a rate of $75/hour. He claims to have done about 5 hours of work over the course of a day. The next day, he says his rate is $275/hour. We never signed a rate agreement, so it is his word versus ours."}
{"id": "t3_3bykhl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I dont know what she wants...", "post": "There is this girl in my school (I'm a junior in high school) who has been talking to me a lot more suddenly. We have lot of the same interests, and over the past month I have begun to really like her for her personality, even though she is also good looking.\n\nMy problem, is that I don't know if she just wants to be friends, or is romantically interested in me. At first, I thought she was way out of my league, but I feel like she is dropping hints. When she described her \"type\" of guy, she basically described me (I may just be paranoid) and in person she makes physical contact with me a lot and initiates the conversation too. She also made me brownies :) and even burned me a CD of all her favorite songs, but idk if these are romantic gestures or just friendly gifts.\n\nI am okay with it if she just wants to be friends, but if she really is into me I would be okay with being more than friends. Im kind of at a crossroads right now, because we have yet to hang out alone and it could really go either way from here. Most of all though, I don't want to fuck up our relationship for the rest of high school by making the wrong move here, so I'm looking for any advice I can get.", "summary": "guy likes girl, thinks girl likes him, but doesn't want to make the wrong call and mess up friendship"}
{"id": "t3_1qx946", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M], short- do i still have a chance?", "post": "So I've talked to this girl a couple times, not texting or anything just when i happen to see her. i met her through some mutual people, and i asked her out to do something sometime.\n\nshe said \"you're very cute and such a great guy, but i'm not looking for anything right now because i feel like i'm so busy all the time. so can we just keep it at friends :)\"\n\nshe does work a lot, and does have a lot of school work all the time so i know shes being honest. I just want to know if anyone still thinks there's a chance at all in the future or she was just telling me really nicely(because she is really nice) that no i just want to be friends.", "summary": "girl sends me text i don't know if i still have a chance or not."}
{"id": "t3_3n853p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys I like [F24] don't want to date me because on top of being shy and introverted, I don't have a normal family.", "post": "I grew up lower middle class and my parents never really pushed education on me. My older brother became a mentor for me in life and I am where I am because of him. I've also met a ton of other great people in my life, so in that aspect I'm very fortunate. \n\nHowever, because of my childhood and my dad, I was very social at one point but as I get older I feel like I've become much more introspective. I haven't done much in my life like travel abroad, volunteer, play sports or do any of those things that come as a normal thing to most people in my college. Feels like I missed out on a lot, but I'm okay with that. I'm still striving forward for what I want in life and I'm hard working so I know I'll get there.\n\nThe thing is - usually guys I date will have had done those things or likes girls that are well-rounded, smart, and have a great family. I can vouch for my personality and humor, but I probably would never have a guy I date meet my family unless it was pretty serious. I don't look very good on paper.", "summary": "I'm shy & introverted, don't have a normal family...how do I date?"}
{"id": "t3_3wvwv9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[insurance] I can no longer afford insurance for myself and my family", "post": "Okay... Long story short.\n\nMy wife was a school teacher but hated her life. At this time i was working full time and working on my degree. Well things flip flopped around and I ended up going to part time at work because I needed 50 credit hours to graduate and it was either get it done in one year or, because of prereqs, get it done in 2 1/2. After I moved to part time we got pregnant (planned) and my wife decided that she couldn't do the teaching thing anymore so she switched jobs. We were not thinking of the insurance implications. \n\nWe went from $90 a month to $750 for the three of us... thats right $750. We tried to split it up because coverage for her and the baby is $320 and my employer will offer me insurance for $380. We still couldnt budget that. So i go to the healthcare.gov website and apply but because my employer offers coverage i get no discount. I am now officially paying $175 for the worlds worst insurance only to avoid paying premium increase on our house and car insurance as well as the stupid tax for not having any. At this point I am wondering if it is even worth it to have a job because even though I would lose my part time income of 29k we could save 12k per year in day care costs and who knows, maybe get free health care (this of course really isn't an option)\n\nI would like to know if there is some sort of advocacy service that can help me navigate the insurance system so that I can get my family affordable insurance without paying over 15% of our annual  income.\n\nSorry if this comes across ranty but i just get discouraged when two people who try to plan, go to school, contribute to society, and stay employed end up getting shafted this hard when they simply want to get a pair of glasses and some back adjustments.", "summary": "My wife and I decided to get degrees and have a kid. We apparently made bad choices because now we owe 12k per year in childcare costs and our insurance went from $90 per month to over $500. "}
{"id": "t3_42bt93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my boyfriend [37M] of 11 months, long distance relationship says I'm being to needy.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months, the first few months of which we lived in the same city. He recently moved away for work and we are now living in different countries.\n\n  If I had my way we would be texting trough out the day because that's just the way I operate and when something noteworthy happens, he is the first I want to tell. That doesn't go over well with him because he feels like I am bombarding him and he can't get other things done, which I'm fine with. I've been trying to keep my texting to minimum. \n\n We've also had other issues where he was feeling suffocated when I wanted to spend the night with him most nights, but we worked through it.\n\n So right now we are trying to make this long distance thing work and I know he doesn't like to text or be texted a lot so I suggested (after reading a whole bunch of long distance relationship tips online) that the first person to wake up or go to bed would text the other goodnight or good morning. That way we know we are thinking about each other and it's a way to keep our everyday contact alive even if we are thousands of miles away.\n\n While he initially liked the idea and texted goodnight and good morning he has not done so these past couple days. I brought it up to him and he got very defensive and said that I was being needy and that he doesn't want to text me because he HAS to be because he WANTS to, which I totally understand. Except when I've tried to just let things flow I'll get one text every two days and that's just not enough I feel to keep a long distance relationship alive. So I would like an outside opinion on this; Am I being to needy? Should I just be grateful for the attention he gives me and leave it at that?", "summary": "Boyfriend that lives in different country doesn't want to text me good morning and goodnight. Thinks we should just let things happen naturally but then never texts if we do."}
{"id": "t3_1jelwl", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "I learned the hard way, use a sticker to seal your invites!", "post": "So I checked my mail today and we got our first two RSVP responses back! The bad part is that one didn't have anything in it and it was folded shut instead licked.  The other had some random thank you note for a graduation for \"Becca\". We first thought that the mail man opened our RSVPs but then realized we just sent out the invites two days ago and responses that quick are too fast for the government mail system.  We then came to the conclusion, to our horror, that the invitations with the RSVPs must have opened up in the mail and they mailed our RSVPs to us since they already had a stamp and our address on them.  So who knows how many opened up and we don't know who's 2 invitations were opened.", "summary": "Use stickers to seal your invitations to ensure they don't open in the mail!"}
{"id": "t3_w5xiz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If one day you woke up and your significant other was in another equally attractive body, but was exactly the same person inside, would you still be attracted to them? How would that work itself out?", "post": "I was thinking to myself, what if I woke up to my girlfriend but she looked physically different, yet on par with her previous looks (to me)?  Let's say she was an 8, and was still an 8, to my own individual tastes of course. Also, let us say that through detailed conversation, she could *prove* that it was her, and by some wormhole, she was in a different body. How do I react to that?\n     I suppose some part of me would reject the idea, due to me initially falling in love with all those small physical intricacies that make a person who they are.  Then another part of me would still love her, and learn to just love the *new* her.\n     Overall I think after the initial mind trip of seeing my girlfriend in a different physical body, I'd accept it, move on, and just enjoy the company of my girlfriend in a new equally hot body.\n\nNo edit, just don't care about spelling and grammar. Bleh.", "summary": "No weed was smoked, my girlfriend is hot. . .again."}
{"id": "t3_36o0kt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by browsing reddit", "post": "This happened to me yesterday. After i left work i was browsing the main page while my car warmed up. I see a NSFW for worst websites or something like that i click it, its taking too long to load so I lock my phone and drive home. A few hours later my sister its at my place and we ordering some stuff for her wedding. I forget all about what the last thing i was doing on my phone and i needed to call the bridal place so i unlock my phone. This is where it gets funny i guess. My mom is sitting next to me and my sister behing me we are at my computers desk, so i unlock my phone to see two links on the screen one a girl has some guys foot in her vajayjay and the second link has a girl with a large dog, you can imagine. My mom jumps surprised and asks wtf are you watching my sister just plays cool and im trying to explain and keep getting stuck cant say a full word and i mumbled reddit, link, didnt know, bloglike website. No one said shit after that and we continue shopping. Now my mom always open the bathroom door to ask me whatever she feels like when im using the toilet. Well later that night she is screaming from outside my room asking me stuff lol she didnt even came in the room lol.", "summary": "Opened an NSFW link on my phone, took too long, locked phone, unlocked phone with my mom and sister sitting next to me they saw the links and picture from the NSFW reddit. My mom wont come into my room."}
{"id": "t3_47hofj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am so awkward that it comes off as rude", "post": "I have poor social skills, and they seem to get worse with each passing day. I am in college now, and I'm so awkward that I appear rude. \n\nFor example, today my floormate's 'sister' was at my floormate's room, and they were just stopping by or something. We make eye contact and then I awkwardly look away and continue fumbling for my keys. And then she says 'hi', and it's awkward. It's likely she thought I was being shy, but the thing is that I don't necessarily come off as shy but as antisocial. I think it's something to do with my appearance. \n\nAnother time, me and this guy I am somewhat friends with were at the laundry room, and I look terrible. I was coming down from stims, and I was kind of embarrassed I guess, so I pretended I didn't see him and left, though I definitely should have said hi. \n\nIn general, I never say hi to people. I only say it when they say it first. I also don't say people's names. They are always like, \"Hi /u/rudeawkward\", and I'm awkwardly like 'uhh hi'. \n\nThe other thing is that I don't recognize faces, so it makes things super awkward because I don't remember people, which is also another reason why I don't acknowledge them, which comes off as rude. \n\nI'm also awkward about saying 'thanks'. I say it excessively, and they I get aware of how excessive I'm being, then I can't figure out how to properly phrase things. \n\nAlso, with conversations, if I'm not interested in the subject, my mind starts wandering, and I panic that I'll need to respond soon to the person I'm talking with, and then I get nervous. Also, more than two hours of being with people is super tiring for me. I get very tired. \n\nI'm definitely not fully expressing the extent of how awkward I am, and how rude it comes off. I don't strike people as shy is the issue. My awkwardness makes me come off as cold and uncaring, which makes it hard for me to make friends.", "summary": "How can I appear more polite and less rude?"}
{"id": "t3_1eu8ci", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog with sore paw.. not a happy pup! Please help?", "post": "So tonight I have to take my dog back to the vet, for his wee paw. He has been ill today and keeps 'fighting' with the cone he has on to stop him licking the sore part of his paw. My problem is that i have to get him to the vets tonight, we're getting a taxi but I'm not sure how to get him from our house to the car! basically when i go near him he gets very agitated, so my question is how do i calm him down enough to pick him up ? Because he cant walk on the paw its the only way I'll get him out to the taxi :/", "summary": "how do I calm my dog down enough to pick him up so I can safely get him to the vets without further damage to his paw?"}
{"id": "t3_3esnmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents are taking a \"break\"", "post": "So my dad (M/38) and mom (F/35) have had issues for awhile, but they always seemed happy. They've been married for 16 years and I always thought they were perfect together. Today, they told my little brother and I that they had been hurting each other recently and it wasn't healthy and that my dad decided to move out. They still love each other, but need time away from each other to decide what to do. There are no other people/lovers involved. Either way, I'm crushed. I am not even 2 weeks out of a break up with my first girlfriend/love. I really want to talk to her and get comfort but that won't happen due to NC. So Reddit, I would love it if I could get some words of advice on how to deal with this.", "summary": "Parents who have been married for 16 years are taking a break from each other, and I am crushed."}
{"id": "t3_3zl0bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] with my ex [25F], she wants another chance. Should I give it to her?", "post": "We dated for 5 years and broke up amicably.  We continued communication for 2 years, and both dated around.  We did not talk about it really, just assumed it of each other.  Recently, she wanted to come visit and I told her okay but we shouldn't sleep in the same bed.  This led to why, and that led to things we hadn't really discussed upon breaking up.   So a lot came out, MOST IMPORTANTLY that she's still in love with me and wants me to give her a chance.\n\nThought about it a lot, and I'm not still in love with her.  But we were together so long and still remained friends, so I felt she deserved it so I can give her that chance.  I told her all of the above (that I'm not in love with her, but she's earned a chance), but have really gone cold on the idea of us together.  I just don't see it, but she believes the reason I'm open to the idea is that I still have feelings for her.\n\nI guess I grew cold on my decision because I misunderstood what she meant by giving her \"a chance.\"  She interpreted it as me being open to her emotions, and I interpreted it as she had something to prove to me that she felt I hadn't seen or something.  I'm not really the type to piddle around and worry about this shit all the time, but it's what I've been doing.  I don't really see us together, but I do care about her and want her to be happy.", "summary": "So, should I give it a shot or no?"}
{"id": "t3_e6dmd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How shitty of a person am I?", "post": "This is a throw-away, and as kind and respectful as you are Reddit, I want your honest opinions.\n\nOver the weekend, I ended up sleeping with two different girls within about a 14 hour period.\n\nThe first girl was early in the day, maybe 1-2pm.  I was talking to her and asked her to come over and get lunch and make out.  Her and I have sort of dating the last year.  I say sort of because it has never been official, we've discussed it numerous times and never decided to make it exclusive.  We have sort of a cutesy relationship in terms of how we act around each other, so it's not a clean pump and dump.  She lives about an hour and a half away, and I see her maybe once a month if that.  We're kind of on the tail-end of whatever it was we've been doing for the last year or so.\n\nThen later that night another girl called and asked to hang out.  She has a thing for me, and I'm conflicted.  She's cool, and a solid friend, but sometimes attractive to me, sometimes not.  Everything was normal, and we watched a couple episodes of LOST, and then I told her I wanted to go to sleep (asleep sleep).  Then jokingly asked her if she wanted to start drinking, somehow we ended up drinking, and 2 hours or so later, she told me she was tired and we needed to go lay-down.  We have a slight history of hooking up.  Like twice in a couple of months.  Anyway, she obviously stayed the night, and we ended up sleeping together.  How should I feel about myself for doing this?", "summary": "I slept with two different girls within 12 hours of each other. Both have feelings for me, and have a vague sort of ending relationship with one.  Am I shitty person?"}
{"id": "t3_4nhjgo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my spanish finals a condom ad", "post": "So my spanish finals were to make a spanish ad for a product of my choice. I made a sort of burrito wrapper that would hold the burrito together and not let it spill it's insides. My teacher okayed the idea and so I started to produce it. I got some of my friends to help me film the ad so it would have a higher production value. We encountered the problem of not actually being able to make something that would look original and hold the burrito together, so my friends and I went down to CVS to buy some condoms to make it look original and authentic. We filmed the ad and it looked great, there didn't seem to be any problems, except for the fact I had filmed scenes where my friends put condoms on sausages and cucumbers. I put the ad on a flash drive, forgetting that I had actually made some suggestive scenes. So when my spanish teacher showed my ad to my entire class she stopped in the middle and said\n\t\"This is not acceptable,\"\nThe whole class went quiet and she took me outside the class to talk. She proceeded to verbally kill me and with every word she said, my heart died. I am now writing this as she talks to the principle of my school. And so for my punishment I'm assuming I'm going to get a F and fail my class.", "summary": "I made my spanish finals a little too suggestive and most likely will fail my class."}
{"id": "t3_3ir7rl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am confused as to what I want with my gf [18F] of a little over a year", "post": "We started dating my junior, her senior year and have been ever since. Now I am a senior and she is away at a college within reasonable driving distance. I love her and she loves me. While we are content with each other (we like to see each other, like some of the same things) I do have a few concerns about us. \n\n1) I have never had another serious relationship with anyone else. I feel like I cant make an informed decision of weather I an truly happy here unless I take some time to sort me out and try dating some other people to see what its like.\n\n2) While some of our interests overlap, other things don't mix, our love languages are different (I'm big on touch, her not so much, but she puts up with it to an extent), we like different kinds of movies and stuff etc\n\n3) Our families are from different socioeconomic classes, mine higher than hers. This isin't a big deal to me, but it adds stress to when I think about a possible future for us (how we would deal with bills/stuff, her family (and extended family) structure is different, much larger than mine and just a completely different dynamic).\n\n4) While every time I have told her I love her, I have 100% meant it, I think I'm too young to choose a forever partner. I think I need to build my own life and see what else is out there.\n\nI have been discussing this with her and we considered an open relationship so I can see what else is out there, and while she agreed at the time, I don't think she is ok with me being with anyone else while we are \"together\", which I completely understand, but in that case I don't want to string her along if the end goal is to just be \"ok\" this year and break it off when I go to college net year. \n\nShe says I'm selfish, and I agree, but I'm having to weigh my love for her vs. doing what is best for me.", "summary": "Cant decide weather to stay with gf of a year while she goes to college, or break it off and explore other options. But I do love her and don't want to lose her."}
{"id": "t3_1ai3o2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22M] confront my friend (and ex girlfriend) [21F] about my remaining feelings for her", "post": "Recently myself [22M] and a friend of three years [21F] (not close, on and off) hooked up and from there began a relationship. We dated for four months before she called time on it in January because she \"wanted to be alone\" and by herself for the last few months of our last year of University (although she followed this up by saying she would probably \"regret\" her decision in a few weeks and that I was \"the best\" boyfriend she'd ever had, great closure, huh?).\n\nI understand all her reasoning behind it, the last year being stressful and to add a relationship onto that would be extra tough. However, although I agreed to still be friends with her, I still have strong latent feelings for her. I have attempted \"No Contact\" a few times but keep getting drawn back into texting/messaging her. Every now and again I will feel like I'm over it only to see her around, get a text or be at a party/gathering with her and have everything rush back.\n\nI'm sick of this, and so have resolved to bite the bullet and confess that I am still attracted to her, and, though I'm aware that at the moment she just wants to be alone and be friends, its not something I can change for now.\n\nI don't, however, know how to approach this. I obviously shouldn't (and don't plan to) do this over text or messaging. However I also feel a phonecall would be too impersonal and wouldn't get my point across properly. I was thinking of inviting her to have lunch at a neutral location (a cafe on campus or similar) and talking to her there.\n\nSo, the crux of the matter is what do I say and how do I go about it? I don't want her to feel like its her fault or that I'm going to ignore her / be a dick about it. If anyone has any ideas or suggestion it would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Still have feelings for a friend and ex girlfriend and want to know how I can tell her this without alienating her completely or coming off as a dick."}
{"id": "t3_2mdm3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [19 F]: She force me to ask her each time I'm going out", "post": "I'm living with my girlfriend in a flat, we're together for almost a year now. She was living in a very catholic foster family, where they forced her to do many things against her will, also downplaying here diseases. I've took her out of there, gave her private medical insurance (I got it for free from my job but her foster family didn't allow her to do so while she was living with them).\n\nFast forward to today, 4 months after she left her foster family, every time I'm going out anywhere (with friends for a beer, training session of running a business, overhours at work) she wants me to ask her if she's okay with it, even tough she doesn't have any specific plans for that day. Also, it's not that I have to say \"Can I go?\" but rather \"I want to go\" instead of \"I'm going to\".\n\nShe says that \"it's how it works when you live together\", but I really had another point of view of a relationship, especially what women really wants in men... I'm more of a person that decides what to do and just does it without looking for a permission.", "summary": "My GF makes me ask each time I want to go out, even when it's connected to my professional career"}
{"id": "t3_12krw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey I am in a situation. I like a girl. However, I am looking for a platonic relationship with her. I see her everyday, but am scared that if I go and talk to her, she might think I am hitting on her. How do I approach her?  This is at my workplace and she is in a different department.", "post": "I am a 28 yr old guy who likes a 25 yr old lady. She is at my workplace, though a different department. It is an open bay in the same floor.\n\nI see her everyday and literally stare at her. She knows this and acts coy when I look at her.\n\nThe reason I like her is because she is the typical [\"girl next door\"](\n\nHowever, I do not want to have a relationship with her. This is mainly because she is from a different community than I am. All I want to do is know her & befriend her...and may be have her as a friend for years.\n\nHow do I approach her? How to break the ice? There is no way we can meet in cafeteria, etc or have common friends who can introduce her.\n\nI want to tread with caution as she is aware of my interest in her.", "summary": "Guy needs suggestions in breaking ice and being in a platonic rel. with a girl."}
{"id": "t3_3bpwqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my two best friends who date each other [22 M and F] of 4 years, found out one cheated and need advice", "post": "Hey reddit, obvious throwaway just to be safe. This is an odd situation with me.\n\nEarlier today I was at work having lunch, when Kate decides to tell me and another co-worker a secret of hers. It went something like \"2 years ago, Adam that used to work here engaged in sexual activies\" - she knew I was friends with Adam, she did not know that he lives with me however. \n\nNow, normally I would confront him about it, ask him wtf he is doing, he's my best mate - but he tends to not always think with his head. The problem lies with the fact his girlfriend is also a very good friend of mine, and so if I confront the issue between them, im walking away without a friend. \n\nI know he's better than this, but I am extremely upset. Furthermore, if it was something that happened 2 years ago, I would accept he fucked up and moved on, but Kate decides to tell me that he contacted her this spring. Which means, once a cheater always a cheater. His excuse for it was pathetic, Kate knew she fucked up and declined any more efforts of his.\n\nSo reddit, what should I do? Part of me is inclined to erase this from my memory, it's none of my business, it's between Adam, Kate, and Adam's GF. On the other hand, Adam's gf is crazy about him, wants to marry him, and seeing her waste her life away on this guy is heartbreaking. If I told her, I am scared of what he might to do - he lives with me and it will get ugly, as he has anger issues  (albeit, not as bad as they used to be) and tends to act on impulse rather than with his head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you.", "summary": "Best friend cheated with a co-worker, his gf is also my best friend and I am stuck in situation where want to drop the issue, it isn't any of my business, but I feel she deserves to know."}
{"id": "t3_4zo31j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying all six sliders at Steak & Shake", "post": "This actually happened when I was young, but you understand. \n\nIt was about 1 in the morning and I was out with the boys. They were playing cards on our table at Steak & Shake while I watched. We order our meals. I was indecisive and so I told the waiter \"1 of every slider!\". He put down his pad and said \"Really, dude?\". I don't tolerate this kind of disrespect and saw it as a challenge. \"Yes,\" I said, \"All six, with cheese!\" About 35 minutes pass and I've drank all my water. No refill would be given to me. The boys finished their meals and we're ready to leave. I said \"Hold on fellas, let me eat! but they wanted to leave NOW. So I crammed the last 2 sliders, a buffalo and a frisco, right into my mouth and swalloed. However, they got caught in my throat. Having no drink I could not down them. My instincts kicked in and I projectile vomited onto the table, including on the man's tip. I got up and said to my buddies \"We gotta get out of here, boys.\" They asked me why just as the waiter came to the table and began to gag. We ran. And since then the boys refuse to buy me lunch or even take me to lunch.", "summary": "Steak & Shake Sliders slided at a high velocity from my mouth, drenching the table and money in vomit."}
{"id": "t3_1h8mer", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So hypothetically what if I photoshop my degree?", "post": "I've managed to play it off fairly well at this point in my life but after some bad decisions and poor financial planning, I pissed away my chances for going back to college for a long time. My dad has 3 degrees of his own and we effectively have the same name short of my first name, which I've contemplated on changing. I've got plenty of experience in my field but many serious jobs won't even consider me unless I have that degree and many companies I've found just don't call the school to check. Am I stupid for thinking this could work if I keep the degree down to a bachelors or masters? What are the drawbacks if i do decide?", "summary": "Seriously contemplating photoshopping degree, what are the drawbacks if i do?"}
{"id": "t3_ielvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to understand his point of view on this monogamy issue...", "post": "ok.  We have been together 5 years, me and his both 24.  I am his first serious relationship and only sexual partner\n\nQuick and simple: I have never made a big deal out of sex, and, in general, would not mind an open relationship.  However, my SO would never ever allow me to be with another man, so because of that, in this case, I don't feel comfortable being in an open realtionship with him.  Because he knows my views on sex (that I don't care all that much about monogomy) he considers this to be me playing tit for tat with him, and considers it unreasonable.   He is young and has only been with me, I understand him wanting to explore sexually.  But again, I would not feel comfortable in a one sided open relationship.  He said its not about me, this is something he wants, why am I making it about myself, tit for tat, etc.  \n\nSimilar example: he got upset when I mentioned i wanted to go to a bar some years ago and said he's not comfortable with it. I respected that.  About a year later, he asked to go to a strip club with his friends. Here's the thing, do I care about a boyfriend I am with going to a strip club?  In general, No.  I get that it's all fun.  But again, I would expect that same freedom to be granted to me.  Because he would not even allow me to go to a bar even though I don't drink and would just go with friends to hang out, yeah, I told him no don't go, I don't feel comfortable. Again, another fight about how I'm fucking him around playing games with him.  I'm really not trying to, it's just with this particular situation I would have felt entirely disrespected.  He said it's my fault for feeling disrespected.", "summary": "boyfriend wants open relationship but wouldn't feel comfortable wit me being with other guys.  Claims I'm playing tit for tat to deny his request"}
{"id": "t3_2o9kca", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By recognizing a girl i went to HS with on Reddit and telling her.", "post": "throwaway for obvious reasons. THIS HAPPENED TODAY.\n\nShe posted a pic of herself celebrating something and decided to share on the website, and got alot of points for it. Thus, being seen by alot of people. I.E ME. My first reaction was \"oh good for this person, that's amazing\". My second reaction was something like...\"wait I know those eyes\". This was around 2 AM. So the genius that I am decides to message her pretty much stating (insert name here)? I thought to myself, that's not creepy right? It probably is, but she'll understand. if anything she'll ask who this is. NEVER HAVE I BEEN SO WRONG IN MY LIFE. Since i'm still up I decided to log back in and see if I had gotten a reply. she NOPE'D outta there and deleted her account. So I probably made her **SUUUPER** uncomfortable, and people really don't need that. if you happen to read this know that I'm incredibly sorry and I will never do that again. uhh. congrats. ... :(", "summary": "PM'd her. She nope'd outta her account. probably feeling insanely uncomfortable, because who does that. only stupid people do. **IM SORRY**"}
{"id": "t3_48htj8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] duration, we're LDR and I'm starting medical school", "post": "Hello! My girlfriend and I met on a volunteer abroad trip and dated for two years before she moved away for a 1 year intensive master's degree program. I'm starting medical school in June and will be there for 3 months before she comes back to our home state (her Master's degree is several states away).\n\nWe've been doing a LDR since September and up until a week ago, there was, without question, no problems. We've had no trouble communicating.\n\nIn the last week or so, something changed with me specifically. She still acts the same as she always has, but I've had trouble... caring. Like when she talks about her day to day or anything, I just daydream about being single. I look at other girls all the time and imagine the fun of single life.\n\nI flew out to her to see her for Valentine's day and everything went awesome. We had a blast. But now, it's likely I won't see her at all until she comes back in June. I will already be balls deep in medical school.\nNow everything I've heard from medical students has said that relationships often die the first couple of months, but anything is possible. I've heard some success stories but mostly negative things.\n\nShould I break things off? I really do love her and I have actually thought about proposing in the past, and it's absolutely CRAZY how fast things are changing within me. Like three weeks ago I would have said things were never better, and now I feel like something broke in my brain and everything changed.\n\nIs this just a a momentary lapse, or the calm before the storm?", "summary": "I'm in a LDR with a girl for several months (we dated 2 years before the LDR started), and she comes home in a few months. I feel differently now than I have in the recent past. Should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_26q5kc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M/F] with my \"essentially gf\" [16 F] of a few days, Girl likes me and I like her back. My close friend also liked the girl; don't know how to tell him.", "post": "Ok so here's the situation. So I started crushing on this girl at my school. I started to flirt with her and started to talk to her more. A few days later, one of my closest friends tells me that he likes her too. At that point it became awkward because i didn't know what to do. So i just tried to surreptitiously flirt with this girl without my friend noticing.\n\nThat didn't work very well because he noticed. He started becoming jealous of me and started shit talking me behind my back. He's even gone as far as to confront the girl that we both liked and told her to stop talking to me and talk to him instead (WTF that's pretty damn weird). He seems to think that i'm not actually into the girl and i'm just being a massive manwhore (the guy is a good guy but i think he's just wayyyy to sensitive about girls).\n\nFast forward one month to now. This girl and I have been talking A LOT for the past month and one day she confronts me at school and asks if i liked her. I confessed and she told me that she has feelings for me too. But right now it is the middle of exam season and both of us are very busy so we agreed to not date until summer.\n\nNow the problem is that my \"friend\" doesn't know that she likes me and is still deeply in love with the girl who i'm, in-practice, dating. I really don't want to ruin our friendship because of this so i'm trying to find a way to tell him about this without making it seem like i \"stole her\" from him (which i totally didn't cuz i started liking her before he told me)", "summary": "My friend and i both liked the same girl. The girl chose me. How do i tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_mzcfr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Laid off after two days on the job, what's a entry level person to do?", "post": "Fresh out of college, trying to get a job as a server though I have little to no experience with it. I really wanted the job because serving is a skill I want to have experience with. This local business hired me, I told them upfront I had no experience but was a quick learner. They started me off first day as a dishwasher, and I handled it fine. The second day they wanted to start training me as a busboy and ease my way into a serving position. I was so excited for this opportunity to move up that quickly. I paid close attention, asked a question for clarity when I didn't understand something, and made sure that the guests were well attended to. At the end of the night they told me good job and though there were a few things I needed to work on they didn't expect much for my first try at it. \nI go into work today and the manager (who wasn't there the night before) sat me down and told me that they were letting me go because they didn't feel I wasn't good enough and that they needed someone with more restaurant experience. Though I only worked there for a few days I was devastated. It's a shitty shitty feeling when someone tells you you're not good enough. I mean, I'm smart I'm competent I feel like I'll pick things up once I get a hang of things. \n\nI've been scrolling through Craigslist the past few hours looking at more restaurant positions and all of them say the same thing \"2+ years experience required.\" Even a dish washing position is required to have multiple years of experience. I feel like the problem out there isn't that there aren't any jobs, there's tons of them I just looked at. It's just the pool of unemployed is so large that businesses are demanding the highest of qualifications for some of the most entry leveled jobs. So my question is how is someone who isn't as qualified compete in our world today?", "summary": "Got laid off for not having enough experience, how can someone who is \"inexperienced\" compete in today's job market?"}
{"id": "t3_x4k9p", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Texting charges? USA to europe", "post": "Not sure if this is the best subreddit but I'm at a restaurant in Italy on my iPhone and I couldn't find anything better. I have AT&T and paid for 500 texts for while I'm here. I just checked my at&t app and it says I've used 57/500 texts, but I'm pretty sure between sending and receiving its been more. Does it charge for both, or just sending?\nI've been texting my boyfriend who is in California, he has Verizon. Does it charge him to text me while I'm here? I figured it would charge me both ways and the 500 I bought would cover it but now I'm concerned since it only says I've used 57. I haven't counted I'm just pretty sure it's more.", "summary": "does it charge someone in the US to text someone who is visiting Europe (that is using an american phone)? Even if the person visiting Europe paid for 500 (international?) texts?"}
{"id": "t3_2nkrmh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By ignoring an attractive girls obvious advances.", "post": "So this actually happened about a year ago, I was reminded of it by a askreddit thread regarding how women let a guy know she likes them.\n\nSo me and friends decided to go to a club we are all drinking and I am very much intoxicated at this point so we assume hitting the dance floor will be a good idea. The dance floor in this club is basically empty apart from groups of people huddled together. So me and my friends start \"dancing\"(and I use the term loosely) next to a group of very attractive girls. Now one of the girls starts backing up to me and grinding against me, so in my head I think \"Wow this girl probably doesn't know I'm here and it would be creepy for me to stay here\", So being the gentleman that I am I move back a bit to give her room. Noticing that I've moved she looks back bewildered and I mutter like \"Sorry about that\" and continue my shitty dancing with my friends. A couple of minutes later she moves back and starts again. At this point I'm thinking \".. Fucking hell how much room does this girl need!\" so I move back again and she follows this then happens a couple of times until eventually I get annoyed and say like \"Fine I'll move over there then!!\" and walk to the other side of the club followed by angry and slightly confused looks from the hot girl and her friends.\n\nMy friends then advise that the girl was grinding me and trying to get me to grind back.. I have no fucking clue what grinding is but I imagine I would of enjoyed it if I wasn't so clueless.", "summary": "Girl grinds against me and I figure she needs more room.."}
{"id": "t3_3829kk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to an indoor swimming pool stoned", "post": "Some friends and I were sitting at home - getting kinda stoned - when suddenly my friend comes up with the idea that we go to an indoor swimming pool. It's really weird since it's not something any of us have tried for ages, but what the heck, it's nearby, so here we go. We get there and start changing clothes. My three other friends get done and go to the pool, but I'm kinda slow, so I didn't get that far. I started changing, but felt a sudden urge to pee before i go in. I go to pee and when I'm done it feels like I've been gone forever, so I'm eager go there, and I look around for my friends. I stand there for a few seconds, looking at hordes of families and kids, but I finally spot them and start walking towards them. So when I got over there I go up on the diving board and look at my friends who are all laughing hysterically while looking at me. I don't know what the hell is going on until the lifeguard yells to me from the other side of the swimming pool. \"HEY MAN - You have to wear swimming trunks\". I look down at my little guy like: \"what's up\", then out at the swimming pool and approximately 50 random people checking me out (won't specify, but too many kids... way too many). So i cover my junk and start running out of there when I see the lifeguard pointing at the \"no running\" sign, ignoring him completely until i'm back in the mens room. I didn't go back in...", "summary": "Went naked in a swimming pool with lots of families and kids looking at me."}
{"id": "t3_2i1q6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [19F], and my mother wouldn't approve of me 'online dating'.", "post": "I'm so sorry this is all so muddled, I just don't know how to explain it properly. Also wasn't sure what to flair this as, so I just put it as 'dating'.\n\nI am a 19 year old female, never had a boyfriend and only had my first kiss a few months ago, so I'm relatively 'innocent'. I know Tinder isn't really a \"dating app\" but I installed it a few months ago just for fun, until it turned into me actually agreeing to meet up with guys who I hit it off with. But I'm facing the problem of my mother, who I haven't told that I'm meeting people online, because I know she would get angry or not allow me to meet people.\n\nI've only met one guy from Tinder in real life, and the only reason I did was because I lied to my mum about where I was. Today I was supposed to meet up and have lunch with another guy I met on Tinder, so I told my mum I was having lunch with a boy in the city. I was contemplating just saying I was having lunch with friends, but decided to tell her i was going with a boy, but not that I met him online. Then I realised that i made a massive mistake, as now I have practically dug a grave for myself, when i told her I met him locally when he actually lives nearly and hour and a half away, and became really evasive about other details. So I ended up cancelling the date, and I'm going to be questioned SO much by my mum that i'm going to have to confess that I lied and that I met him online, and that's going to cause a bit of strife.\n\nI feel so pathetic about virtually needing my mother's consent to go and meet people! I know about 'stranger danger' and am safe when it comes to this, so how do I go about meeting people from online with my mother being so over-protective? I honestly don't know how anyone my age does it.", "summary": "Mother isn't approving of me meeting people online and I ended up digging myself a hole by lying. Should I tell her I met the guy online? How should I tell her? And should I stop 'online dating'?"}
{"id": "t3_1ys9ul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] She [22 w],Made out drunk, wanted more but couldnt.", "post": "I was on her birthday party. We liked us for a year and saw each other in a couple of small house parties but i wasnt sure how much she liked me. \n\nWell the moment i entered the party she made it pretty clear where we both stand. \n\nShe was already drunk and was quite touchy. When we were alone i went for the kiss and we made out a couple of minutes until she had to go back to the party. \n\nWell over the time of the party we made out on and off when we had time and space. \n\nWe both were now pretty clear that we wanted more. \n\nThe problem was that we had to wait for the party to end. Wellll that didnt happen. I eventually left at 5 in the morning tired we agreed that i d call her the next day. \n\nMe leaving her alone wasnt the best feeling but staying was a torture i couldnt have made it without falling asleep.\n\nI called her today. We will meet this week.\n\nI think we know each other quite good but i believe she doesnt know me aswell as she may think and that freaks me out.", "summary": "Finally made out with a girl i liked. Both wanted more didnt happen left her at 5:00 in the morning in a cab."}
{"id": "t3_42e8ro", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my shitty slipper at an old lady.", "post": "This happened 10 minutes ago. I was walking home from the grocery store\u2014 a full bag of stuff ranging from milk to toothpaste, in either hand. This stuff was really heavy, so I wasn't really looking down, scanning the road for potential shit for my feet to squish; I just wanted to get home quickly before my arms separated from my body. You can probably guess what happened next, I stamped on a surprisingly large piece of dog shit. Or maybe it could be human shit, who knows. I don't know my shit. I didn't know what to do. My house was just two blocks away, but I didn't want to keep walking in my shitty slippers. So I decided I'd try to shake most of the shit off of it. I shook. Nothing happened. I shook harder. Nothing happened. This shit was made of super glue. I see the old lady who always wants to start a conversation with me for some reason; she's approaching me. I freak out. My arms pain really bad. So I shake my slipper really violently, and it comes off and flies right at the old. It hit her left boob, shit side up. I didn't know what to do, again. I was freaking out even more now. I had two options\u2014 wait, apologise, take my shitty slipper home and have a fucking long conversation with the annoying lady; or run home one slipper less. I really didn't want to talk to the lady, and eh, I could buy new slippers. I had just a few seconds before she approached; the shock of the flying shitty slipper was still with her. I committed, and ran\u2014 nay, wobbled like a penguin wearing one slipper. This still isn't over. The handles of one of the bags tore. It fell off. I lost my wobble-rhythm and the other one fell too. I lost my balance and fell with it. I just left all the stuff there and sprinted home.\nI don't know what I'm going to tell my mom.", "summary": "Stamped in shit, tried to shake it off. It hit an annoying old lady. Dropped all my stuff while trying to run home."}
{"id": "t3_54ykqu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [30m] of almost 2 years doesn't make me [21f] happy anymore", "post": "So we've been dating for almost two years now. He doesn't stimulate me mentally, never has. He's such a nice, hard-working kinda guy. Anyone would be lucky to have him. I just feel, BLAH. I have all these hopes and dreams, free spirit kinda stuff. Travel. He isn't necessarily against this but isn't excited about the same things for our future. This makes me feel entirely selfish but I'm young, in school for another year, and I want to be spontaneous. He is anything but. Likes plans, lists, wants to stay in this area, settle down. The age difference may play a part I guess. The other half of me likes he stability and comfortability he brings to my life. I guess I'm asking if I should act on my impulses. Am I an awful person for feeling uninterested?", "summary": "older boyfriends doesn't interest me or entertain the same spontaneous ideas for the future together. What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_38ubfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [16m] tell her [16f] how I feel/felt? Ready to move on/make last ditch effort after 2 months of flirting", "post": "Male 16. So I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks now, and we really seemed to click. A few weeks ago she was being really flirty, and seemed like she wanted me to ask her out. I was waiting for the right time to ask her out, but she was never just by herself with me to ask. \n\n   A week went by and I tried talk to her and she just seemed really distant, like she almost wanted nothing to do with me. We had this off and on relationship of her being really flirty and then really distant. This has lasted 5 weeks. This [thread] I posted in r/teenrelationships sums it up pretty well. \n\n   Anyways, I'm ready to make one last ditch effort/try to move on. What I'm asking for is advice on this one matter: Should I tell her how I feel? I think it could help me get my feelings for her off of my chest and make it easier to move on. On the other hand, if she gets all touched and stuff and wants to go out with me after that, then hey, that's great.\n\n   I do realize that telling girls how you feel isn't really fair to them by overloading them with all of that baggage. I do realize that I could create a completely irreparable relationship with this girl. I'm just ready to make one last ditch effort, or make an effort to move on.\n\n   What do I do, r/relationships? Do I tell her how I feel, or do I just soldier on?", "summary": "Off and on relationship with this girl, ready to make last ditch effort/try to move on from her. Need advice on whether to tell her how I feel or not."}
{"id": "t3_zfcq6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help me get out of paying this bill? If anyone can do it, it's you guys", "post": "So my computer died the other day and in my frustration I made an appointment for the next day for a computer man to come to my house and have a look at it. However, the minimum fee just to have a look was $160, so I thought F that and took my computer to a shop instead. I called the computer repairman company asking to cancel and they said that I am still required to pay them. I never gave them my credit card details so instead they emailed me an invoice. \nNow, am I actually required to pay this? I feel like they are trying to rip me off, how can I argue my point?\nThanks for reading!", "summary": "I cancelled an appointment but now I'm being asked to pay for it anyway."}
{"id": "t3_2t8zc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my married online friend [30 F] 3 months, strained emotional relationship", "post": "I posted a few weeks back but deleted the post. The summary of the situation is this: I met a female gamer playing an mmo who is currently married with two kids  and is in an emotionally abusive marriage. She has been in this marriage for 10 years. My insecurities caused a rift and our contact has become strained. \n\nWe became close, feelings were very strong and we professed our mutual love for each other. We chatted and Skyped often. \n\nIn time, though, my insecurities and unease with the situation placed stress upon us both which has brought me to where we are. I tried to break off contact two weeks ago and stated as such. She was devastated and I ended up being unable to follow through. We decided our best bet was to try and remove the emotional side from it and I have been unable to do so.\n\nI've really struggled with everything. I feel like I love this woman and I know that my constant worries and questions caused the rift. It became very hard to not feel sad when her husband would call and interrupt our Skype sessions. Or when she suddenly changed factions in the game we played and seemed no longer wanting to play with me. I would make my feelings known and she tried to reassure me. It all became too much, as she felt as if it wasn't enough and she couldn't be enough. \n\nThis past week, I told her that I couldn't handle just being friends right now and I should try to take some space. She explained that she doesn't feel the same as she once did and she doesn't know what the future holds. She said she isn't able to write things off for good yet but space and time are important. \n\nMy questions are this:\n\nIs there hope or is it worth holding out hope for a future? \nAm I wrong to feel so bad about how I handled the situation?\nHow can I overcome my insecurities relative to this situation?", "summary": "I've struck up an emotional relationship with a married woman and couldn't handle the situation. Looking for advice on how to preserve our relationship or move forward."}
{"id": "t3_2c100k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I sent my estranged friend an anonymous letter and I don't know how to process the response. Advice would be appreciated.", "post": "She and I met in freshman year (I was 18, she 17) as neighbors in our dorm. We lived together for several years (about 3) but at some point started to have our insecurities interfere with our relationship. Our friendship faced several set backs and pretty much fizzled out in a rather dramatic fashion. At first this was okay. I was angry and couldn't communicate or forgive. At the time I didn't want to acknowledge that I had made mistakes too. \n\nA long while had gone by since I'd thought about her. I've been dealing with a lot and have kind of gone down this hermit path, I honestly have no friends in the city I live in. In my loneliness, the thoughts of our good times came to mind and I just started missing her so much. Now go to several days ago - I sent my friend an anonymous message on tumblr basically saying I loved them and always will. Of course this could be interpreted both as friendship-love or romantic, so this could have been unclear. A few messages later (still anonymous) it was basically said that she had realized who it was and that they had let it go (meaning our past problems). \n\nQUESTION: Now in my note I had hinted I wanted to rekindle our friendship so, should I take this 'all is forgiven' attitude as she is over the past and that's it- no chance; or, is the person over the past and open to something? Sorry that was pretty drawn out or if this all seems petty. It's just this person meant so much to me at one point. My feelings got hurt and I hurt their feelings, and then it was just done. Time has passed, making reconciliation that much more unlikely.\n\nAm I being delusional or weird for holding on to some memory of a person?", "summary": "Sent friend an ambiguous and anonymous letter on tumblr in hopes to rekindle relationship; don't understand the response."}
{"id": "t3_4dlg74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriends [26 M] past haunts me.", "post": "Basically I want your opinion on dealing with a significant other's past. \n\nI hate my boyfriend's past. I hate his past relationships, friends with benefits, and friendships with other females that he had before me. I hate the girls he used to be infatuated with, the girls he was attracted to, etc.\n\nI'm the type who asked him for all these details, but ultimately hearing them made me upset and obsessed and filled with hatred.\n\nI snooped on his computer, his old profiles, and found things that I didn't like.\n\nMind you, this is the PAST. All these things that happened before me, shady or not, are a thing of the past: nonexistent. \n\nWhat do you think of your partner's past? How do you deal with it? Do you even care about it? \n\nI hate my behavior and would love to hear other people's perspectives on this issue.", "summary": "I want to hear other's opinions on dealing with their partner's past/history with other people so I can get some perspective and hopefully mature a bit."}
{"id": "t3_512cex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [25M] of 5 years. I think I want to move on, but I'm scared and feel guilty.", "post": "I really love my 25M boyfriend. We've been in a great relationship since the start. We live together. I've now finished school and am unsure of where the whole thing is going. Nothing is really wrong, but I don't feel satisfied. Am I chasing a golden goose?  \n\n**Here's what I love about my relationship with him:**  \n\n* I love the guy and he loves me\n* My parents and family love him, which is very important to me\n* We agree on all fundamental values & beliefs\n* We talk about getting married in general\n* He makes me laugh\n* He is so smart and caring\n* I trust him with absolutely no reservations \n* He is the kindest, most wonderful person in the world and I've never met anyone who didn't like him  \n\n**But**  \n\n* Though we've talked about marriage, there's no proposal/engagement/plan with real goals\n* We've been together for so long that I don't remember what it's like to be myself\n* I'm attracted to more than one person outside of the relationship, and that terrifies me\n* I hate it when I feel like I have to drag him to go out and have fun/justify wanting to go out and have fun (like at bars, dancing, etc)\n* He still has 3 more years of school left and that seems like such a long time to wait to settle down\n* I feel like I'm trying to justify being unhappy because our relationship is wonderful on paper and I feel like I'm just a shitty whiner/guilty about wanting something different  \n\nSo what do you think?  \n\nThis is just what happens to people our age, right?  \n\nI'm just a big whiner, right?", "summary": "Long term relationship. I really have no idea what's right. I think I want to move on but not sure if I'm justified/can handle the disappointment and grief."}
{"id": "t3_134zh1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my GF the truth about a white lie.", "post": "About nine months ago - three months into the relationship - my GF and I were on a date. On that date we talked about my dating history. The gist of that conversation was that she feels insecure because she has only dated one other guy besides myself, and I've dated quite a bit of girls before her. \n\nUpon walking out of the restaurant we run into a girl who was drinking at the bar. She says hello and I say hello, and we walk out. My GF asked me if that was one of my exes. She was, but of course I say 'no' because I knew she was feeling insecure about that specific thing. \n\nNine months later I tell her the truth about that incident because we had another conversation about my past, and that ex was specifically mentioned. The conversation was much more joking this time, so I figured she wouldn't be to bothered to know that she actually met that ex. \n\nNow I'm in the dog house for lying.", "summary": "Lied to my GF a long time ago and I told her the truth. Now I'm in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_3irukr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F, 24] had a falling out with friend [F, 23], have anxiety when I need to see her in group situations. Help!", "post": "I'm coming to you with a weird problem which has probably occurred before. However, I am curious to see what others think about this problem, and if anyone has any tips for dealing with it.\nA few months ago I had a falling out with someone I considered a great friend. I won't really go into details other than to say that we were both at fault with our shitty behaviours. Nevertheless, I am trying to put this episode in the past. However, we are no longer friends at all anymore.\n\nHowever, we have a lot of mutual friends. I have purposefully kept quiet about the situation to avoid drama, but my former friend seems to have been gossiping to her close friends about me. So it appears that there's a whole group of people who think I'm not worth being around.\n\nNormally that wouldn't annoy me, because I have a lot of good friends and not a whole lot of free time due to my job, career prospects, etc. However, I do occasionally have to see this former friend at parties. Usually her group of friends is with her and I can't help but feel anxious when I know I'm going to be seeing her. However, these gatherings are the only times I get to see some of my other friends, so I don't want to avoid them altogether.\n\nHas anyone ever been in similar position here? How did you deal with it? I have a feeling that even if I try saying a polite hello, my former friend will just ignore me. Should I even try to be polite? I want to avoid awkwardness but it's difficult when you have mutual friends who don't know what happened. But I can't help but feel really keen anxiety when I think about having to interact with her. I really don't want to, but I want to see my friends. \n\nDo you recommend talking to my friends about what's happened, or just staying quiet for now? I didn't want to stir drama but was thinking that maybe at least some of my close friends", "summary": "Had falling out with friend, still have to see her at parties with her group of friends, feel anxiety about going but still want to be social. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ymoa8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/M] My girlfriend [16/F] and I are starting to become sexually active and both have overbearing parents. Any help would be welcome!", "post": "Hey guys, so firstly, I'd like to say thanks for taking the time to read this haha. My girlfriend and I have had sex before but it was sort of pressured and we both couldn't enjoy it since my parents and her parents had been home during both attempts. We've been able to do blow jobs and eating out and stuff like that without a problem but we can't seem to enjoy sex without the fear of a parent walking in or being too audible.  We want the house to ourselves and just have our parents be fine with it but neither of us see that happening.  She has already gone to one appointment with her mother to obtain birth control but her mother still doesn't necessarily approve of it, she says we should wait longer (it's been 8 months).  I don't see what the issue is with two teenagers being sexually active and we are both our first relationship.  Any help is appreciated.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "gf and i wanna get sum fuk but parents are bad"}
{"id": "t3_1fjtze", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Finally took the plunge and started NC", "post": "It's just over a month since I broke up with my SO. We've seen each other a couple of times since our mutual breakup and he has helped me through some tough personal times since then, but things got really hard for me after I slept with him over a weekend trip away with some mutual friends. I just miss him and regret ever agreeing to our mutual breakup without ever really voicing what I wanted. \n\nI'd like to think that we will still remain close and supportive friends, and I hope we do, but being able to see his Facebook and follow his every move was just destroying me and making my depression all the more difficult to deal with. Which is why I've (finally) decided to start NC and just get on with myself. I've unfriended him and it was hard but very liberating. I know I'll certainly see him in person in the near future again due to our mutual friends and common interests, but knowing that I don't have to speak to him again unless it's on my terms is both painful and good.\n\nIt has been a horrible, painful, depressing ride but lurking around here in /r/Breakups and seeing that I'm not alone has helped a lot. Thanks everyone.", "summary": "broke up a month ago, stayed in contact, made things difficult for myself. Finally initiated NC and feel better even though I want to keep talking to him..."}
{"id": "t3_4fplod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[NSFW] BF [22 m] and I [23 f] can't agree on this boundary", "post": "Together 2 years.  I'm using a throw away because this is a bit of an awkward problem I don't want associated with my main.\n\nMy boyfriend and I are pretty good at compromising, and have always been good about approaching the problem as a team. However, the current discussion we're having is something we've been unable to compromise on.\n\nMy boundaries are pretty strongly associated with interaction. So while I have no problem with my bf looking at porn or gonewild or whatever, commenting or messaging someone on those or other mediums is not okay. \n\nI found out fairly recently that my bf downloaded mods for a popular game that allow you to \"have sex\" with other characters, and that he had specifically downloaded characters, characters with certain appearances, and some characters resembling celebrities. \n\nWhen I found this out I was very upset. Maybe a bit of an overreaction, but I think that's because I saw his comments on subreddits talking about these mods and characters, and a comment that basically crossed the line for me because it was on a nsfw photo album. \n\nWe discussed it, we cried. I reiterated my strong feelings about interaction and commenting and he apologized and said he understood. He suggested he should uninstall the game and mods.\n\nNow he wants to reinstall the game, and had been planning on re-installing the same mods. \n\nWe can't come to a compromise. He feels that the modding is basically porn and is therefore fair game and none of my business. I feel that the modding (and involvement with selecting new mods, new characters and involvement with the modding community) is too interactive and is something I'm not comfortable with, as I feel it crosses the boundaries of our relationship.", "summary": "Boyfriend was using sex mods on a video game and somewhat involved with the community and wants to continue. I'm not comfortable with that. Is there any way we can reach a compromise on this?"}
{"id": "t3_23rrcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 7 months, only likes to text me to talk. Driving me crazy", "post": "My bf only likes to talk to me through text. I'm all for texting with people about small stuff, but having a conversation via text is difficult. It's impossible to say everything you want to say without writing an essay and there is tons of room for miscommunication. I find that the conversation are very superficial when texting. Mostly they go like \"Hey\" \"How are you what are you doing\" etc. I'm getting bored with superficial talk. I crave more deeper and intellectually stimulating conversations. He says he hates talk on the phone and when I call him, he has nothing to say and sounds bored. I offered to video chat or something, but he doesn't want to try. \nWe don't see each other often, so we end up going long periods of time without seeing or hearing each other, only texting. I feel no connection when we text. He sees no problem with this. Am I wrong to be annoyed?", "summary": "Boyfriend only likes to talk through text. He sees no issue with it. Am I wrong to be annoyed by this?"}
{"id": "t3_4h2him", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] with my wife [38 F] of 14 years, she is out again and again this week", "post": "My wife has been going out a lot recently, maybe for the past month or so. She just left for another night out with her friends and I feel like it is too much. This week alone she was out Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday and will be out again tomorrow.\n\nShe goes out for a variety of reasons and always has. It is mostly the frequency that has increased. Girls night out, game nights, to watch shows or sports, to movies and also parties. \n\nI have no reason to think she is cheating. She has admirers but they haven't changed her habits any and haven't gotten any closer to her. I checked the obvious things like fb and text (I have permission) and saw nothing. She doesn't really hide anything from me anyway.\n\nThings that have changed recently are that she is working out frequently now and has been since January. She is in much better shape. Her wardrobe has expanded but it was always good and she has always been known for her style. Maybe one style related thing is that she has gotten into a kick of dressing like she did in college again since the 90s stuff has come back in. So these things are different but are also not very conclusive to me.\n\nShe has one friend who I consider a problem friend (heavy drinking, some drug use, generally ugly behavior) but she is actually hanging out with that friend less lately. So I don't think it is anything to do with her or that group.\n\nShe sometimes ignores me and she does the phone, texting, fb thing all the time but that is something she's done for a long time now, and I don't know any husband in our circle who doesn't have a complaint about that right now. \n\nAnother issue is I am heavy and out of shape and she has let me know that. I am definitely falling behind as she becomes more fit.\n\nSo my questions now are why is she going out so much? How do I let her know this is too much (if it is)? Is there anything I might be doing wrong--I haven't changed recently but maybe that is the problem?", "summary": "My wife has gone out yet again tonight. I am feeling neglected now. I have no reason to think she is cheating. She has improved part of her life. Why is she suddenly out so often and what is fair to do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_llyk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi Reddit!! I'm depressed!!! Or at least i think i am...", "post": "Ok, so, in the past 4 months, my life has changed DRAMATICALLY.  I moved 2500+ miles away, got an awesome job, picked up a hobby that i've dreamed about since i was a little kid, and live in the specific place i wanted to live.\n\nUnfortunately, in the past 3 weeks or so, i've fell into a funk that i just can't shake.  My day to day life is awesome, I make great money, i do what i want, and my hobby blows my mind every time i do it (spearfishing), but my overall mood is leaning towards bleak.  \n\nThe only thing that hasn't improved about my life is i left a relationship that i wasn't that serious about when i moved.  I've had a reasonably short dry spell (barely over a month), which i don't thing should have this effect.\n\nWhat's wrong with me?  How can i fix it?", "summary": "I'm living the dream, but can't shake the blues.  What's my problem?"}
{"id": "t3_1dgok4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For people who are atheists (r/atheism), why do you poke fun at Catholics for believing in the Catholic God?", "post": "While I don't condone every negative action of the Catholic religion, I think its cruel to be mean to them. \n\nWhile I am Atheist, I can understand why some people follow religion. I don't hate or make derogatory terms to people who choose to believe in a god. \n\nI don't make fun of Catholics because I can understand why they believe in a religion. They want a reason to believe in life after death because death is a scary concept. A lot of people on reddit make it seem like religion is a horrible thing. While I am firm on my atheist stance, I love the fact that religion existed because it defines our history as a human race. People need religion to explain things they cannot understand or cope with. Whats wrong with not facing reality?\n\nAs an atheist, we have to accept that we are just a tiny speck in the entire universe. I think its logical to assume that people refuse to believe that because it sounds negative. Why must we poke fun at the uneducated and delusional?", "summary": "Why can't Atheists understand that some people need religion because they can't cope with reality? Is it alright to make fun of people who can't cope with reality?"}
{"id": "t3_4pqyq2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20M] Time-limited relationships", "post": "At the end of last semester I had to break up with my girlfriend, who transferred to another college. During the last month or so it was rough, we didn't talk much (partly due to stress and schoolwork) and whenever we did it seemed like we were both thinking about the end. LDR was out of the question, I don't really have much faith in it anyway. I tried my best to live in the moment and make the most of the time I had but every time I saw her it reminded me of how I would eventually have to move on. I guess it doesn't sound the same when I write it, but I was feeling pretty depressed.\n\nNext winter I'm transferring back to Bates. In the time I have left, is it worth it to try and seek out new relationships? I'm not afraid of being alone, at this time in my life I'm still focusing on improving myself anyway. I don't want to put all the work into building a relationship only to have it end by necessity.", "summary": "can you have a happy relationship even when you know you're not going to be together for very long?"}
{"id": "t3_1cerk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(m23) GF(f22) has concerns about moving in together. Dating 2yrs+", "post": "Background:\nGF and I started dating during college, I graduated and work full time. My gf is finishing her master's program in a month and will be working full time. I have suggested we move in together once she graduates, currently we live separately without roommates. She and I both believe that moving in has a number of benefits both financially and for our relationship. \n\nOur primary issue comes from her parents who both immigrated from China in their 20s. I have met them both and the father is reserved but intelligent and caring about his daughter. When my gf spoke with him regarding the decision his suggestion was to consider buy a house as it's a better investment. \n\nThe mother is much more opposed to the decision than her husband. On multiple occasions she has had long discussions with my gf using several different arguments to convince my gf to not move in with me.\nPrimarily they boil down to a) Purity - Presumably my gf's mother does not know we regularly have sex b) Appearances - living together looks bad to the Chinese community c) Finances - Breaking up during the lease may lead to financial hardship for one or more parties. \n\nI've already spoken at length with my gf regarding her mother's reasoning and we agree that they are not very convincing. However my gf is very close to her family, much closer than I think I am able to recognize. As such, she does not want to hurt her mother by going against her and is extremely anxious and stressed about what kind of damage it could do to her family dynamic. \n\nSo reddit, my question to you is how can I resolve this? My gf has stated again and again how excited she is to move in together, but once her mother calls she is anxious and stressed and has second doubts. I have tried to simply argue her mother's points away, but I feel like the issue transcends a pros/cons chart. I do not want to pressure my gf to live with me if she is not ready, but I would not like to see a good opportunity wasted by what I consider to be a controlling parent.", "summary": "GF has concerns about moving in with me"}
{"id": "t3_51itho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend doesn't bang me anymore; fantasizes about having sex as a woman", "post": "My boyfriend [32M] and I [29F] don't have sex anymore. We've been dating for several years, and we've never had a very active sex life together. He often gets nervous when I initiate and is unable to perform. This has happened so many times that I've stopped trying. \n\nI also discovered that he has a longstanding fetish for dressing up as a woman (only in private) and imagines having sex as a woman. To me, it feels like he spends his sexual energy on his fetish, and our sexual relationship suffers from it. I'm not sure if we simply aren't compatible, or if there's something I / we can do to build up our sex life. Aside from the lack of sex, our relationship is good. Has anyone else experienced a similar situation? What should I do?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I don't have sex anymore. Is it because of his fetish for dressing up as a woman?"}
{"id": "t3_1wonjz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Buying A Car with Bad Credit?", "post": "I am a college senior looking to buy a new car, but I just realized my credit is total shit due to A) having less than 2 years of credit history and B) 4 Derogatory marks from hospital bills that have been resolved. My score is a 582 :( \n\nThe problem is, my car is a low MPG money pit that is unreliable, and I am starting to really feel the sting of needing a vehicle that is NOT all those things, maybe with a warranty.\n\nI am up shit creek without a paddle and feeling a little despondent, seems like my only option to get an affordable payment is either get a car with a lease, or an older car that could have problems.", "summary": "need advice on buying a better car with shit credit. "}
{"id": "t3_4bmiu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me save this situation!!!", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nSo this guy [21M], say Chuck, and I [23M] know this girl [21M] Gloria, let's say. Chuck and I hang out at this regular spot and so have chit-chatted and learned that Gloria has flirted with us both on separate occasions and both of us agreed that she was a helluva catch -pretty, witty, musical, etc. The way that we talked about her was in a respectful \"man, I'd like to get to know her, she's really cool\".\n\nAnyways, up until yesterday, we didn't know Gloria was available. So my buddy comes up to me a few days into it and says \"guess who swiped right?\" It was her! Now he's not very good at starting tinder conversations, so I just up and tell him to give her my number (as a joke, but play it off). I'm thinking to myself \"hell yeah I want her to have my number!\" \n\nAnyways, he texts \"Jimmy wants you to have his number 555-5555 and here's mine 555-5555\" and I feel like this is still in the realm of funny. But then he goes ahead and puts \"choose wisely\" which I'm worried might be too dead pan. I'm initially not too worried about it because when I last saw Gloria, we had the comfort level (with each other) of cracking sex and masturbating jokes. \n\nI can play this off in person, but text is pretty hard. And if we scare her from coming back it might come to this. So, over tinder, unless how can he do a follow-up to reconcile this situation and/or let her see the situation as the stupid fumbling of two young dudes that it is?", "summary": "2 guys like a girl. One guy gets a swipe right form her on tinder. Other guy convinces his friend to send their numbers as an ice breaker. How do we convince her this is a funny and not creepy scenario?"}
{"id": "t3_298sjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22/M] is a little uncomfortable with me [22/F] returning my ex's things. [dating for 4 months]", "post": "Hey r/relationships, slightly petty concern ahead!\n\nI recently told my boyfriend very candidly and openly that I needed to return my ex's stuff. My boyfriend had mentioned early on in the relationship that he was nervous about my feelings towards my ex considering I moved into this relationship just 3 months after I broke up with him. When I heard of these concerns, I immediately deleted my ex off facebook and my phone hoping I could quell his worries. He is still friends with his ex on facebook, and I have not said anything because I am trying to not let stuff like that bother me. \n\nHe has some trust issues, and when I mentioned bringing my ex's stuff back he fell silent. I asked him if he trusted me and he said \"I'll have to.\" I asked him how I could do it to make him feel better and he suggested I tell my ex to pick up the stuff from my place. I agreed that I would try but while I think that making him feel is my first priority, I feel a little rude for asking my ex to make the trip. \n\nHe promised he would work on these trust issues, but when I mentioned it to him, he kindly said that although he knew what kind of person I am, knew what to expect, but I had to \"build a rapport\" to maintain and prove that the trust was warranted. I was a little confused because I felt like I deserve to be trusted initially, as I trust him, but perhaps we have different viewpoints.\n\nAre his views on trusting people warranted? Am I an idiot because I trust people too easily? What else can I do to build this trust?", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't want me to go and drop off my ex's things because of trust issues and wants me to ask him to drive by and pick them up."}
{"id": "t3_4yyi8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BFF [14/F] of 2ish years has a crush on me [14/F]", "post": "My best friend of 2ish years has a crush on me. She first told me about it a couple months ago. I told her very kindly that she meant a lot to me as a friend but that I had no romantic feelings for her. It was awkward for like a weekend but then she seemed to get over it and we went back to exactly the way we were before. \n\nFast forward to a week ago when she told me she liked me a lot in a more than friends kinda way. I again replied that I had no feelings for her. She said it was just a dare and that it didn't mean anything. I was a bit skeptical but I bought it. Then yesterday I was hanging out with her and another close friend and they kept kinda hinting at her liking me and asking who I liked and stuff (this isn't out of the ordinary, she's always been interested in my love life). Also, she wouldn't tell me who she likes and she always tells me. At the moment I'm still trying to figure out my sexuality, but I'm pretty sure biromantic with a preference towards guys. Am I blowing this way out of proportion? What should I do? Just to be clear, I have zero interest in a romantic relationship with her.", "summary": "My best friend of 2ish years has a crush on me, but I have no interest in reciprocating"}
{"id": "t3_4h6ah8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] Want to be a stay-at-home dad, how/when do I bring this up when dating?", "post": "Hello! \n\nI am currently doing the whole college/dating and I'm starting to think seriously about my future in terms of marriage and family.\n\nI suffer from a form of depression (maybe not relevant but I am medicated and it took me a year or so of therapy to get my life under control) anyway, working full-time and in general career pressure has often times made life with my condition very difficult. I am in a good place now with med's doing wonders and cognitive therapy also helping. \n\nRight now I work part time and I also have a sort of vanity freelance career that I enjoy very much. I'm really not interested in earning lots of money or becoming \"successful\" in a traditional sense. I would really like to keep pursuing what I do now because it makes me happy to a large degree. \n\nSo the point of the post here: I don't want (or think I can handle for that matter) to be the traditional 9-5 pursue some career traditional dad, But I do want to get married/raise a family. I've started dating but I dont know how to go about finding the right symbiotic match. (the perfect match would be a woman who wants to have a fulfilling career and would therefore want me to be at home raising kids) and when/how do I bring this up over the course of dating? Its basically the single most important aspect of what I look for in a match. In fact im not sure marriage is for me otherwise. \n\nApart from that I feel I could do a really great job in this role, sure it isnt traditional but Im not a traditional person. I'm patient, good at cooking, dont mind cleaning and I'm really great with kids. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "I've started dating, I Want to be a stay at home dad because I think I'd be great at it and I also suffer from depression. How and when do I tell a date about this and how can I go about finding the right kind person to date to begin with?"}
{"id": "t3_zlpja", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I can tell he is interested, but he never texts me first.", "post": "I'm a 17 year old female and he's an 18 year old male. \n\nI saw him the other day at my friends house, and we hung out together in a room with a few friends the whole time. We sat really close to each other, he put his arm around me, and one point i put my head on his shoulder and he played with my hair, and he ran his fingers down my back at one point too. He was doing little things like that so i know he's interested. \n\nBut the problem is I'm always texting him first. He carries on the conversation, but I always have to start it. Sometimes he'll stop replying after a bit too. I mean, I know he's interested, but he never texts me first, and I feel like I'm annoying when I always text first. Plus he doesn't ask me to hang out with him either.", "summary": "I like this guy and we flirt in person, however he never texts me first. What does it mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1fbs0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27f] want to propose to my boyfriend [25m] on our 5 year anniversary.", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years (August 30th!), in the most loving and amazing relationship I think anyone could ask for. We value the same things, make each other laugh until we cry (or fart), love each other's families, share interests, and respect one another's personal time and space. I can see myself with this man in 60 years, two old farts having a laugh at our grandchildren's expense. He is my guy, and I am his gal. That's really all there is to it. Also, the sex is AMAZEBALLS.\n\nI know he wants to marry me, but I feel like he's waiting until the \"right time\". Waiting until we are a little more financially stable, until blah blah blah. I think within a year or two we will be financially ready to move into a larger place and get a dog and do all that \"pre-kids\" marriage stuff. A nice long engagement, and we're all set.\n\nI want to propose. Personally, I think he'd get a kick out of it. He comes from a long line of feminists. I don't think he'd say \"no\", and really my biggest fear is that I'd steal his thunder. I have something truly spectacular in mind, but would like Reddit's take on it before I do something crazy.\n\nWhat do you think, guys? Should I go for it, or wait to see if he possibly pops the question first?", "summary": "I want to propose to my boyfriend of five years, but don't want to steal his thunder. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3gtdu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am in a secret relationship with an old friend [17F] that is causing problems with other friends", "post": "I really don't know how to handle this, hence why I'm posting here.\n\nRecently, my good friend Pat confessed his love for Amanda, the girl I am in a complicated relationship with. Amanda doesn't want to tell Pat off b/c she does not want to hurt their friendship. I've been having to lie to Pat about where I am b/c I have been spending the night at Amanda's house quite frequently lately. I don't like lying to Pat about it. He definitely knows I've been lying because he has told me he's seen my car in front of Amanda's house. I don't know what to tell him because Amanda doesn't want Pat knowing about our relationship.\n\nHow should I go about things?", "summary": "In a secret relationship that causes me to lie to a good friend"}
{"id": "t3_1m8dyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ME [21M] is getting too obsessed with my girlfriend [21F]..Please help me out!", "post": "So I have been going out with girl for only 3 months, but I'm really falling in love with her. We made out on the first time I ever saw her in my life and ended up staying late with her talking and other for several weekends. We talk all the time on facebook and we really agree and everything was going so perfect until about a week ago.\nLast week we met everyday and I went to her house for the weekend were we when always together and slept together in the same bed (not first time).\n\nNow 2 days ago her period was late and we had a preg scare and she took a test and it was negative so we went out for drinks and she confessed that she felt too suffocated this weekend as I was with her all the time as before she starting going out with me, she had just ended a long relationship.\n\nNow I am becoming really obsessed it is freaking me out, I am not feeling normal and I check her facebook instagram all the time to check for new posts/pictures etc as I get really jealous even though I really trust her.\n\nI will soon be going on holiday for a whole, will this be good for me? Please help me out as I am feeling like shit and the last thing I want to do is loose her or scare her away as I m really starting to love this girl.", "summary": "Getting too obsessed with my girlfriend, always checking her facebook, instagram etc, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jbgpm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey guys, do you know how to get a ridiculous hospital bill reduced??? Details inside.", "post": "I had a bike accident and broke my wrist and separated my shoulder and some road rash. I went to the hospital where I waited 4 hours to get an x-ray. I was also given pain medication that was injected to me without telling me how much each shot would cost. They injected me about 4 times total. They also cleaned some of the road rash and put a temporary cast on me and referred me to another doctor. This cost me $1867. This seems a little unfair. I did not ask for pain meds nor was I told how much it would cost me. Do any of you know if I have something going here? Do any of you have a success story from a similar situation???", "summary": "Hospital charged me a butt load for stuff, one of which I did not even ask for nor was a told how much it would cost. Do you know what channel I should go through to get my bill reduced?"}
{"id": "t3_1li580", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[20F] am undateable because of my ugly personality or high standards?", "post": "I just turned 20 recently and I realized that I have never kissed, had sex, or been in a relationship. I have been on dates and asked out, but I never been really interested in the guys that pursued me. Before I thought my lack of relationships was due to my intense career goals and ambitions so that I never had time to be in a relationship. \n\nI am constantly told how beautiful and smart I am by my friends and strangers, but recently one of my close girlfriends told me **\"your ugliest trait is sometimes your personality.\"** At first, I thought it was funny and true, but I soon realized how disturbing that statement was. Have I never been in a relationship because I have an ugly personality?\n\nI don't know how guys put up with me, but quite a few guys have asked me out, and I felt none of them were up to par. I take relationships very seriously; if I don't see a possibility of us getting married one day, then why would I waste my time? As a result, I have pretty strict requirements when it comes to guys because I know what I want (family oriented, smart, funny, taller than me, etc). I tend to find guys my age immature and irresponsible, which is why I am becoming more and more attracted to older guys (mid 20s). \n\nWhat's wrong with me, reddit? I feel like now is good time for me to be in a relationship, but I don't know how to make myself dateable?", "summary": "Never been physical or in a relationship with a guy. Ugly personality? High standards? Or both?"}
{"id": "t3_l24pf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "has anyone on reddit attended the College for Creative Studies in Detroit, MI?", "post": "i'm currently a junior in high school and am interested in getting a degree in fine art and/or art education and one of my teachers handed me a full course guide/information/admissions info bundle on the College for Creative studies in Detroit.\n\ni thought this was really coincidental because i \"grew up\" within 5 miles of this place, but recently moved to New York.\n\nanyway. i like what i read, but the portfolio requirements seem a bit hazy. so here are my questions.\n\nif i apply, what should i include in my portfolio? (i mainly draw/paint, but am decent with photography.)\n\nif you attended this school, what was your experience like there is it as good as it seems?\n\nany other random advice you want to throw in?", "summary": "i'm interested in attending a college and am looking for alumni to give me some \"insider info\""}
{"id": "t3_1plit6", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My house is a pig sty", "post": "I am the oldest child of our household at 18 years of age. I also am probably the least respected. I have two younger sisters and live with both my parents. \n\nWe are doing renovations to our house by ourselves and they are going very slowly. My dad works all week and saturdays. He gets laid off in the wintertime months, which is when he works on the house. \n\nI'm pretty sure my mom is a clothing hoarder as she hates throwing clothing away. My sisters aren't much better. I can part with anything if it means less junk in the house. \n\nOur washer and dryer are in our basement. There's a table next to them for sorting and folding but it all just piles up and people grab what they need from it. The basement floor is covered with clothing and the shelves covered with stuff my parents won't part with. \n\nThe kitchen is next, dishes pile up and the table becomes a pile of mail. We don't eat at our dinner table. My mom loves to keep leftovers until they mold in the fridge. Then she trashes them. \n\nLiving room collects clutter on every open surface. And our upstairs hallway has sheets of drywall in it as of now. My youngest sisters room is filled with junk that seems to belong to nobody (she'd rather sleep in the living room because her room is under construction). \n\nMy room is generally clean, along with my middle sister. My parents' bedroom is in the attic as it is the nicest room. But there is another room between their room and the staircase up that is also full of junk nobody will claim. My parents room is full of clothing.  \n\nSome of this junk actually gets thrown away during major cleaning sessions that seem to do nothing. But it all ends up in our garage. Our garage is loaded with junk. \n\nHow can I pressure my family into being cleaner and more organized. If I sort clothing or mail, my mom flips but she'll get over it. I'm home alone all day most days and can do a lot without interruption. Any organization tips?", "summary": "need to make my house clean. Family has cleaning/hoarding problem."}
{"id": "t3_e74mh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Perhaps you can help with my medical problems", "post": "First, stomach cant burp almost. It wants to, but the mechanism to burp seemed fucked up. It cant burp, so I get sick, and it tries to eject everything instead. I hate eating now, since it hurts from the first few bites. And then after I eat a meal it hurts. Lots of discomfort. I have to force myself to eat sometimes. But, could that be due to saliva or something? I noticed when I throw up its...weird. Its like a blob of spit almost...could that be due to swollen tonsils? They stay big, but when I get sick, they get even bigger and hurt. I cant eat or drink for a few days. Also, my lymph nodes kinda get like a ball shape you can feel...\n\nAnyway, that one is not so bad I guess. Ive been smoking MJ, and even with that I cant eat. But If I smoke a LOT, then I can at least eat a few bites. So, found a fix..\n\nThe sleep problem seems to be destroying me right now. I cant sleep from the time 11-2 is seems. For the last year at least. I have hypnagogia, so I play a \"movie\" or dream before I fall asleep fully. Ill be in the deepest thought you can ever have, and it will play automatically. Its sorta like inception. But after the movie, usually around 30 minutes, ill wake up. but lately ive been catching myself even before that. when it starts, ill think, wtf am i thinking about, and then be like, DAMN. When I finally fall asleep, i feel im not sleeping deep. Or if I do, no more than a hour. I wake up exhausted. I never get the tired feeling/sensation/chemical until the day. I take a nap, and I feel so much more rested after a few hours. But I cant take naps during the day everyday. Even if I dont nap, Ill be god damn tired all day. Then 11 comes and im fucking wide awake. Its hell. Weekend or weekday I cant sleep at night. Ive tried just about all the things they tell you to do. None work.", "summary": "cant get tired to trigger at night. only during day. and if wait until night, it goes away. also something with tonsils, but dont worry too much about that."}
{"id": "t3_2whmmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24F) boyfriend (26M) of a year is driving me crazy with his condescension after his first semester of college", "post": "I'm in my last year of college and my boyfriend is in his first (he was in the Army from age 18-24). We've been dating for over a year (1y4m, to be exact) and we've always been able to have intelligent conversations with one another and I really liked him because I never felt like he was condensing, which is a problem I've had with most guys. Honestly, I'm pretty cute I guess, and most guys never really cared about me for my intelligence. Not saying I look like Heidi Klum and have the brain of Steven Hawking, but I'm not bad in either area and it was nice to have someone who appreciated me as a whole person. \n\nWell, now that BF has taken Baby's First College Class, he's being a classic freshman know-it-all. Today, when I said that I thought I saw that the weather was going to warm up, he said, \"No, -15 is less than -10\". Uh, no shit? This kind of thing has been happening a lot lately, and I've tried to downplay it and make a joke out of it, but it's starting to really hurt my feelings. And it's fucking annoying.\n\nHow do I tell him that he's been condescending lately? I'm afraid if I say it outright he'll either: A) Take it as a personal insult and become defensive or B) Act all superior and not listen to my feelings.", "summary": "Boyfriend has taken one semester of college, knows everything. Looks down on a mere mortal like me."}
{"id": "t3_2adscz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update Me [38 M] trying to figure out if my wife [34] of 2.5 years, cheated on me in the past", "post": "[Original post](\n\nOkay I finally talked to my wife. I was really nervous and tried to set up a good opportunity. When it got as good as I though it was going to get I just said \"So, did anything ever happen between you and dude?\" Not the smooth delivery I had hoped to make.\n\nShe said \"You mean like romantically? No, no never.\" She seemed very sincere, and I believed her right away.\n\nI went on to tell her all of the reasons I was worried, and she was very understanding. She was upset that I didn't trust her.  She did start crying when I told her about my fears that our daughter might not have been mine. She was upset that I would even think that, which is what I anticipated, and one of the main reasons I waited so long to tell her.\n\nI put her in my shoes and asked how she would feel if a female coworker of mine acted in a similar way. It seemed like she hadn't considered that, and she admitted to being jealous and insecure in the past, which made me feel better.\n\nShe made lots of reassurances that if she was ever unhappy enough in our relationship that she would think about seeing someone else, that she would let me know things were bad way before it got to that point.\n\nIt's hard to describe how you can tell someone is telling the truth, but I could really tell. Unless she is some kind of amazing liar, which I think I would have known about after 16 years.\n\nShe did defend her douchey friend's actions a little, which I was bothered by. She said he always says things like that and doesn't really mean anything by it. I still think he's just a dipshit. I told her I didn't want to hang out with him and his wife anymore. We have moved 1200 miles away from where they are now, so it doesn't really matter.\n\nSo, yeah I am the paranoid insecure jackass that I was hoping I was.\n\nThank you all for your thoughts and advice.", "summary": "I asked her straight out if anything had ever happened between her and tactless shithead. She told me no, very convincingly. I am the ass."}
{"id": "t3_nt8i0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Promised not to watch strippers - Condone or Condemn?", "post": "I was at a bachelor party recently where I witnessed an attendee (not the groom, or anyone of significance really) get up and leave the room when the strippers arrived. When we questioned where he went to he explained that he had promised his wife that he would not watch the strippers - and left it at that.\n\nIt later resulted in an interesting and fairly split discussion whether this man was a strong willed, good partner (it takes balls and honour to flatly admit you didn't watch a strip show because of a promise made - and then stick to it), or whether he was insecure and in an unhealthy relationship (no wife should expect that from a man, and no man should have to promise it to his wife) - or maybe there is a healthy middle ground?\n\nWhat are your opinions on this situation - Would you expect this from your partner, and / or how would you react if this was expected of you?", "summary": "Man promises wife he won't watch strippers at a bachelor party - WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_1xjwzu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lonely, but I have no reason to be! What is this?", "post": "I (29F) am lonely. I am fairly introverted. Very ok with spending time alone, but can also enjoy company of others. I've never been depressed, nor do I really have any reason to be. I have a great career and love the direction life is taking me. I am single. I spend lots of time with great friends, I have lots of great sex, I eat lots of yummy food, I exercise, I spend hours upon hours doing things I love.  \n\nIf life is going so well, what is this loneliness I'm feeling? Many other friends are beginning their lives with an S.O. while I do it alone, so that contributes to this feeling, I know. However, I haven't met any ONE person I want to do this with.\n\nThoughts? Personal experience? Anything? I'd love to hear more perspectives, reddit!", "summary": "Life is great, why lonely?"}
{"id": "t3_1j1wkh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [29/m] girlfriend [27/f] still has her old boyfriend's stuff all around her house.", "post": "Well, I have been dating this girl for about 11 months, and things are pretty good. We've had issues and worked through them, just like any other relationship, but this is starting to.. well, at least make me think twice. \n\nShe was maybe 5 or 6 months out of a 4 year relationship when we started dating, and they lived together. Its been over a year now, and she still has a book collection of his (upstairs in her sewing room, his old game room, where she spends a decent amount of time) as well as movies and VHS tapes of his in her living room (she does not own a VCR). There is also still a framed picture of him in the upstairs room. \n\nNow, I've brought this up and gotten responses along the lines of \"I don't even notice them\", or \"They don't bother me at all\". Given her nature, I think it's definitely possible she just doesn't even think twice about it, or care really. Fair enough. But there is a part of me that just makes me wonder if she's still hanging on to something, or what? \n\nI understand people are entitled to their memories and what not, but I'm still weirded out by the picture. Gifts and the like I understand and don't mind, but these aren't gifts... They're *his* possessions. We've casually mentioned living together someday, but I won't let it progress past casual talk if shes not willing to move her ex's stuff out of her life in order to make room for me. \n\nAm I overreacting about this minor stuff? Or does anyone else think it's time for her to get her ex to come get his shit?", "summary": "Girlfriend still leaves her ex boyfriend's left/forgotten stuff around her house."}
{"id": "t3_2e6kkv", "subreddit": "running", "title": "There's something to be said for some time off", "post": "Last month (July 19th to be exact) I went for a 6 mile run and totally blew my knee. I RICE'd it and saw my PT, but no matter what I was doing I still had to take some time off of running.\n\nI got really depressed pretty much right away and in an effort to keep myself sane I turned all of my normal running energy to strength training. I had been running about 25 miles per week, 5 days per week, and did two short (15 minute) basic calisthenics workouts on short run days.\n\nWhen I had to stop running I started working out 4 days a week doing about 30-40 minutes on a hill climber set to maximum incline and resistance and was doing about 30-40 minutes of core and upper body strength training. Over the last 5 weeks, no running, I have unintentionally dropped about 3 pounds with no dietary change. I tripled the number of push up I can do and I quadrupled the length of time I can hold plank.\n\nBut here's the amazing part- today I went out for my first run since July 19th and I felt so good and so light, yet strong. I felt fast but I told myself that it was probably just because it'd been so long. But when I checked my pace at the end- sure enough it was about 25 seconds faster than my old \"normal\" pace. In fact, my pace was the fastest I've ever run that distance (3 miles). And I didn't stop running because my body had to, I felt like I could've kept going for another hour at that same pace! I only stopped because I didn't want to go from zero to 60 and risk reinjury. I feel like a million bucks!", "summary": "Took 5 weeks off for an injury and concentrated on strength training and my first day back to running was fast and easier than ever before!"}
{"id": "t3_13f44s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me with financial and scholarship advice for college?", "post": "I am a white, male high school senior of middle class parents from the northeast US. I recently applied to several private colleges that I doubt will give me any scholarship money if I'm accepted. My parents make too much money to get any federal aid but not enough money to pay for college without taking out huge loans. I'm near the top of my class but not smart enough to distinguish myself. I'm not athletic and am interested in theater and music but not good enough in either of them to be noticed. I'm good at a lot of things, but not great at anything. Even in my small high school I can see that there are a lot of people just like me but with better grades, or strong in athletics that make them look better than me to colleges and scholarships. I recently lost a scholarship even though I spent an entire summer volunteering because the other kid went on a service trip to Africa for two weeks when I would have never been able to afford to do something like that. I have no idea what to do to find scholarships that would choose me over someone else because I've had no life changing experiences and haven't overcome great odds. Does anyone have any advice for me?", "summary": "I have a major first world problem."}
{"id": "t3_g1t9g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A shy guy's guide to dancing?", "post": "This has probably been asked before but I couldn't find it, so forgive me if it has.\n\nAnyway there's a huge party happening in my town Saturday night, (2500+ people if facebook can be believed), basically intended to recreate a club for those under 21. The problem is, I have zero idea how to dance. I've alwAys been that shy quiet guy. My only attempt  to break out of this at a dance was freshman year, and my mom decided  to surprise me by volunteering to chaperone, crushing any chance. Had of tying to be outgoing. \n\nI went to a total of half a dance in high school and am clueless on a dance floor. I'm not looking for pickup advice, just advice on how way to dance with a girl and not look like an idiot. And 'just forgetting every one is there' doesn't work for me. If no one else was there. Wouldn't be dancing. Surely, i Can't be the only one with this problem?", "summary": "How to dance and or grind with zero experience?"}
{"id": "t3_m0huz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": ":insert title about needing to just write it down: ...but really", "post": "So me and my long time SO split within the last month and it has been the most lonely destructive period of my life.  Little backstory, we had been together for two years and over the summer I realized that this woman is who I want to spend the rest of my life with (I'm 20, she's 23) and I know the majority of you would say \"wow cool emoness you're only 20 bro it wasn't going to work out anyways\" but really I'm quite down to earth, she is the one.  The problem is I don't come from much at all, actually she is the only person I really consider as \"family\".  She has opened my eyes so much, I moved to be with her and spent a year going to a community college before I finally got into the college I wanted to go to out of HS but got rejected from.  Anyways since I don't come from much as I stated before I realized if I was serious about wanting to marry this woman I needed to put myself in a financial situation to support her. Que workaholic me.  I worked two full time+ jobs all summer to show her and myself that I could do this.  Well after 80+ hours of work and literally no days off for months this really drives a stake through a relationship.  Compound that with working that much turned me into a conceited selfish fuck who no one in their right mind would want to be with.  So about a month ago we called it quits.  So in this time my ratio of drinking:school is quite one sided.  It's been tough lately because I found out I might not be going back to school next semester and my mother is going to jail.  Like I said, she was my only family, that crutch was jerked out from under me and it's all my fault.  My life is a joke, school? work, drink. Repeat.  ::facepalm::", "summary": "found the one, fucked it up."}
{"id": "t3_4wd3ij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [25m] girlfriend [20f] abusive?", "post": "I've been with a girl since February now and actually posted here about her before, about us having odd arguments, the overwhelming majority said to get away.\n\nOf course I have not listened but something has scared me.\n\nThe other night she asked me to stop talking to a female friend I've had for around four years now. I thought it was strange, questioned why and she flew off at me. She then said I didn't have to stop talking to her and all was well. \nThen later the same night she brought it up again.\n\n'Have you deleted her from everything?'\n'Well no, why?'\n\nAgain she flys off tells my me I should have done it.\n\nFast forward about an hour and she's throwing things and wrecking stuff in the flat. She starts hitting her hands against her head so I grabbed her hands to stop that and try to calm her. She started lashing out at me so I got behind her to hold her, she then bit and scratched me so bad that it still hurts and was fairly deep.\n\nAfter that she wants us to be normal but keeps saying I abused her and went for her. It makes me feel like shit every time she says it.\nShe constantly asks who I'm talking to. Who they are. Why I'd even bother with them.\nEvery female friend is 'some slut' or 'some bitch'.\nShe asks what I'm doing every time I pick my phone up.\nAlways has to know how much money I have.\nWhat I'm doing at work.\nWhy I'm home late.\nWhy I'm home early.\n\nIt's driving me crazy. Well not crazy. I just want to be alone. I've never felt so controlled.\n\nAfter the 'fight' I asked her to leave. She packed her things but then said no one can pick her up, so we should act normal and be together.\n\nI've asked her to leave before and it just seems like she won't.\n\nI've no idea what to do.\n\nI feel so horrible all of the time.", "summary": "Girlfriend might be controlling."}
{"id": "t3_1wjs09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm having a hard time deciding if I f/28 should move cross country to help my mom f/54. She has cancer.", "post": "My mom has bone cancer and has had it for 5 years. She went into remission and now needs another major invasive surgery. She may have five, six years to live, or more, or less depending. She is very good at putting up a front and hiding everything that she is going through. But it will get bad and I want to be there for her and for me personally. I worry that the rest of my family dont do anything to support her emotionally. They act like nothing is wrong because they are I don't know? In denial? \n\nAnyway the hold up is that I'm in school, getting a very late start on my education (I'm one of those failure to launch type people) and going back would royally mess that up. And I have friends, other family (my dad with less serious health issues but no support system besides me) and a life in my new location. It's a city, hometown is small. Not sure I could even get a job back home. Anyway I feel stuck in a rock and a hard place. Can someone please give me advice on how to make these decisions", "summary": "please actually read if you give me advice"}
{"id": "t3_17tcxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22/M] stuck with my girlfriend [19/F] who wont let me leave.", "post": "My girlfriend [19/F] and I [22/M] has been together for about 10 months and living with eachother for about 7 or 8.\n\nShe has Borderline. At first it was OK, I had the power and strength to cope with her. But over time, it's been tearing my whole being to bits and pieces. She is awefully jealous. She wont let me have any friends of the other gender, even though I've never cheated on her in any way. That's because she thinks I wont stay true to her.\n\nI tried today to tell her that I don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore, but she just said \"NO\" when I said it was over. She started sobbing and begged (spelling?) me to talk with her about it later instead. Weak as I am, I couldn't deny her that. I do love her, but I don't see any way we could stay happy together in the long run.\n\nAny advice on how to break up with her?", "summary": "Stuck in a destructive relationship and it seems I can't get out."}
{"id": "t3_3md7ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend[29 M] 3 months, Honeymoon period over already?", "post": "Throwaway because my guy knows my account. My boyfriend and I met online, and hit it off very well despite living about an hour drive away from each other. He seemed very attentive and involved in our relationship. I've met his family and we are exclusive. \n\nFlash forward to now, and contact/involvement has dropped off exponentially. I initiate our outings, sex, and conversations. I feel as though we've been married for years. I've asked him if everything is ok, and he tells me that we're good. When we hang out (only after I drive to him), and we typically eat (most of the time with me cooking) while he watches TV or plays on his phone. We had awesome conversations (both serious and lighthearted) and laughed a lot in the beginning, but I wonder if this is too soon for those to stop?\n\nSince I figured I was making myself too available, I've stopped bringing up hanging out and such and he has yet to ask me about it. I've communicated my concerns and he made it seem like he understood me, but said \"Some people don't have as much energy as other people.\" \n\nI fear that he just wants a woman who will cook/clean for him.", "summary": "How long does the \"honeymoon\" period typically last? New bf seems way too comfortable too soon"}
{"id": "t3_1wi662", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of 1 year, on a break because of his lost desire for sex.", "post": "We went a few days without talking at all so I finally ask him what's up. He keeps saying he can't explain it but he's sorry and that the fire is gone from the relationship. We meet up to talk about it in person and he says he lately has no sex drive, asks me why we need to have sex every time we hang out (2-3 times per week usually).\n\nThis made me feel really insecure and took my self-esteem down a notch but told him I wanted to fix it. His solution was to keep on doing everything else the same but just take a break from sex to see if that fixes things. I feel that there is an underlying issue with the relationship such as him just losing interest because we've been together for a while. So I suggested a break from seeing each other/talking entirely and see how it feels.\n\nOn my end it feels like shit. I want to call him just to talk about our day or to say I miss him. I don't want to sound pathetic or desperate to him. It gets a little easier each day so I'm wondering if I should break it off completely so there's no lingering hope of getting back together. That's the only way I see myself truly moving on.\n\nShould I stay in a relationship where he is confused about his feelings and physically uninterested? Or should I break things off and try to move on?", "summary": "No sex drive on his end, wondering if this is underlying emotional problem and whether I should stay in the relationship at all."}
{"id": "t3_43jw7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Person I'm dating (both 24[f]24[f]) broke our exclusivity rules. Worth saving?", "post": "Been together approximately one month, however have not firmly spoken about the boundaries of the relationship apart from deleting dating apps and saying we weren't seeing anyone else. We decided we weren't ready to use any form of labels or terms yet\n\nIt's been going well, met each other's friends etc except today she discloses that she slept with someone approximately 1 week ago. It's someone who she previously was interested in a romantic relationship but rejected her. She stated that she was enjoying what we had etc, and she feels this person would not have a relationship with her,\n\nAt the moment I have let her cool off (she's feeling a lot of guilt, confusion) and have told her to have a think. I think I'm happy to continue if she is able to prioritise and choose me, and really work on this. This might involve having to drop contact with the person she cheated with However it feels so early to be having to work on our relationship. I feel like if she doesn't immediately know then it's not worth it\n\nWhat would you do? Say? Would you even consider continuing? Under what conditions?", "summary": "been together less than a month, she cheated and is appropriately remorseful. However has a soft spot  for the person she cheated on and I've no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_4di2io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [ 21 F] 1 month -- not sure what a good \"relationship\" should feel like...", "post": "So my gf of 6 months just broke up with me about a month ago.  I was beyond infatuated with her.  I knew from the get-go that she was amazing, and I loved spending time with her.  \n\nThere wasn't much time between the breakup and the new girl.  The new girl is prettier and nicer than my ex, but there's just not as much chemistry between us.  I enjoy spending time with the new girl, but I don't feel the same \"infatuation\" as I did with my past gf.  \n\nI would like to start a relationship with this new girl, and just hope the chemistry starts to build, but I'm just not sure if that's normal.  I've only been in 3 meaningful relationships, so I'm not an expert on the subject.  Do most relationships start with a spark of instant chemistry, like mine and my ex, or does the chemistry build and increase over time?", "summary": "me and ex had instant chemistry and loved spending time together; new \"SO\" doesn't have the instant chemistry, but I don't mind spending time with her, and wouldn't mind starting relationship.  Which type of relationship is \"normal\"?"}
{"id": "t3_dk65s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I try to meet up with a brief LDR I had over the summer?", "post": "I met this amazing woman at a wedding in France this summer. I had just gotten directly out of a 10 year relationship filled with too much I never should have put up with (it was my first relationship and it had been going on since high school). We spent the night together and the next month I came back out to Paris a lovedrunk fool the next month for a week. We had an amazing time together discovering and having an adventure in the french countryside. She captured my imagination wholly and reciprocated my affection in turn. I fell hard and fast for her in short and I think she did the same for me. We left eachother saying that we'll try the LDR thing despite how hard it was and I told her I'd come back in 2 months to see her.\n\nI came home, changed my life around the travel (got a roommate, cut all my living costs, started learning more french, among many other small things). We communicated via phone and email daily in the meantime.\n\nThe date I was supposed to come back fell through because of her, and a couple of weeks later after a long conversation about her being confused about what she wanted to do with our relationship, she writes me a letter saying that she met someone else who lives in Paris. A mutual friend tells me that it's bullshit and the long distance was too much.\n\nI hit the gym and tried to forget about the whole thing, but I can't stop thinking about her.  I haven't talked to her in a month now (it's been 2 months since we broke up, I sent her an email saying happy birthday and she replied) and I'm going back to Paris later next month and then Italy. \n\nShould I try to meet up with her or let this thing die?\n\nThe whole thing was an amazing experience for me, it flipped my life around after a shitty drawn out relationship. It just seems like such a shame I couldn't hold onto someone so unique and amazing longer.", "summary": "She's from Paris, I'm from California. We hooked up at a friend's party and I came back a month later to spend 5 amazing days with her. After everything fizzled. Should I try to meet up with her again or let this thing die?"}
{"id": "t3_xj9lv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what kind of effect do you think that crime shows/movies might have in reducing the occurrence of thought-out, \"intelligent\" crime?", "post": "I had this thought a few days ago when watching an episode of NCIS and they did the usual \"create a super high resolution image from a very low resolution image.\" I got to wondering how much of it is real and how much of it is fake (or, conversely, how much might be under-exaggerated). Based on these types of shows/movies (bank robbery, conning, etc.) where the bad guy nearly 100% of the time gets caught, only an idiot would think it would be a good idea to do any of this stuff, and from my [limited] knowledge of the general criminal, I'm under the impression that they are mainly uneducated people in dire situations (or psychopaths/mentally unstable.. but I'm thinking mostly with regards the heist type of crime -- not assault or murder) that are driven to extreme lengths to make the \"easy\"/\"quick\" dollar. So I wondered, is it possible that these shows/movies that show the criminal, no matter how smart and creative, almost always getting caught could actually be (subconsciously or consciously) reducing the amount of more well thought through crime throughout the world?", "summary": "Could broadcasting hugely technologically advanced law enforcement always being able to catch the criminals be a way of making \"smarter\" people automatically not consider a life of crime?"}
{"id": "t3_e0qpk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Honest question: Would some American please explain me why people are voting for republicans? (I am from Quebec)", "post": "Some background first: In Quebec we have a couple of parties, but our rightmost party isn't even near your Democrates. \n\nI heard some Americans call Obama a communist; I think we all agree that this is a fallacy, but it couldn't be any farther of the reality. Every party in the US is from the right. \n\nThe Health Care Bill is not really a new social contract, it is just common sense: Before that, you were giving more money (for health) to Africa than your citizens.\n\nI understand that the political parties need funding because there is no public funding. The best source of funding are the wealthy: Companies and millionaires. \n\nNow what I don't understand is how a full country can support parties that make laws for those friends; they are not the majority, they shouldn't win so easily over the poors.\n\nI often see \u00fcber redneck retards shouting total crap in the medias; like that father who was planning to burn the Koran on 9/11, but these are the minority (please confirm that). We have some of those freaks here also, we ignore them and life goes on.\n\nI have went a couple of time on the east coast, NYC, Boston and such and we aren't different people. Everything's oriented towards consummation, but despite super-patriotism and a couple of pounds, we alike.\n\nSeriously, why is the population voting republican, ignoring climate change, supporting oil companies, destroying bills made for those in need and declaring war to whomever they feel.\n\n*I am sorry if that sounds racist, I just don't understand, please enlighten me.", "summary": "The democrates are already a party from the right, so why vote for the extreme-right?"}
{"id": "t3_4a7qz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] don't understand my crush [25 F] absolutely anymore", "post": "So I've known this girl for almost 3 years now. We dated a little while when we met, but as soon as things started to get little bit more serious, she moved to Australia for 2 years (in my defence, she had the tickets bought before we started dating).\n\nNow last november she came back, at that time I was at sea (working in the Navy). Since February we've been seeing each other again, been to the movies, restaurants, just hung out at each other's places etc, it's been fun. \n\nCouple days ago I asked her, what does she think about a relationship, to which she replied that she's not really looking for anything serious. I reluctantly agreed. Since we've known each other for some time now, I won't start ignoring her just for that, better to stay friends. \n\n2 days ago I had a party at my place, to which she came also. By time others fell asleep, we stayed up the whole night, drank and watched some stupid cartoons and spooned like there's no freakin tomorrow (got horrible blue balls from that). For a girl, who told she's not looking for a relationship, that was kind of odd thing to do, am I looking at \"friends with benefits\" kind of invitation or something? Confused af.\n\nSorry for long post, let there be a invisible potato.", "summary": "girl i've liked for a long time told me that she doesn't want a relationship right now but 2 days later proceeded to spoon with me the whole night."}
{"id": "t3_37psme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [26M] 9 months, don't feel like we spend enough time together, want to know if I'm being unreasonable or clingy.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months, we met online. I'm his first girlfriend. I've met his friends, family, he tells me he loves me and talks about one day moving in together, marriage etc so I feel that he does care... However I don't feel like we spend enough time together and was hoping to get an outside perspective! \n\nWe live half an hour away from each other, and our workplaces, and have similar work schedules. He plays sport twice a week but otherwise has no other commitments, and we have no housemate issues or anything that would prevent us staying at each other's houses. Despite all of this he only wants to see me one night during the week and one night + morning on weekends. \n\nI don't feel like that is enough (2 nights during the week and a weekend day + night would be better) and we've had a couple talks about it, am I being unreasonable? How often do other couples, who've been together under a year, see each other? Is this 'normal' until you move in with someone?\n\nI feel like I should also note that this is a pattern for me... I have had several boyfriends and always seem to pick 'busy' guys (according to my friends), whether that is because they don't want to be serious with me, or I'm just attracted to guys with a lot going on, I don't know! All I want is for a boyfriend to come home to and it never happens!", "summary": "What is a 'normal' amount of time to spend with your partner when you don't live together?"}
{"id": "t3_360oxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my wife [26 F] 5 years together, Third week into our trial separtation", "post": "5 weeks ago I came home from work and my wife told me that she would be moving out in a week and a half. \n\nWe are in the third week of her moving out. I am in our house that we bought 2 years ago and the daily reminders of her being gone are finally settling. I feel like I am the only one trying to make this relationship work right now. My heart broke when she left and I am trying to rebuild trust in her so that we can be happy if she decides to come home. \n\nShe has been in therapy for 2 years and I just started 4 weeks ago. I am coming to many realizations and am confronting the issues that I made in our relationship. I know that now that I have seen that fear was controlling me I never want to go back to that dark place again. She tells me that she is afraid of feeling trapped in the relationship and not being able to keep her voice to ask for what she wants. \n\nTonight we had a phone call. (The happen every 2-3 nights) I asked her if she was leaning to one side or the other in terms of coming home. She is against the relationship right now. She isn't working on rebuilding the relationship, she is trying to figure out if she wants the relationship at all. \n\nShe is the most important person in my life. I love her so much and it hurts an unthinkable amount that she doesn't want to try.\n\nHow do I maintain my trust in her with her crushing my hope so heartlessly? What do I have to say to let her know that I am making so much emotional progress and positive growth?", "summary": "Wife left for a trail separation and just told me she is leaning away from even trying to rebuild the relationship. How can I keep the hope and trust alive? How can I let her see I am changing for the better?"}
{"id": "t3_2dem73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend(28M) says he's \"NEVER getting married\"", "post": "*I've tried searching for a thread similar to what I'm trying to ask, but couldn't come up with what I'm looking for...*\n\nMy(24F) boyfriend(28) has told me countless times he's NEVER getting married.  **Ever** to *anybody*.   He's not a dick about it, and he says he's committed to me... just that he doesn't believe in marriage. \n\nMarriage is something I view differently then him, and is ultimately my end goal.  No, I don't want to get married right NOW (We've been together 15ish months give or take) but it's something I want out of life...    I can't make him sacrifice his thoughts, and I don't think it would be fair of him to ask me to sacrifice my own...\n\nSide note:  We've lived together since November, and I'm 28 weeks pregnant. (Unplanned.)  Our relationship is overall awesome, we get along better then anyone I've ever been with.  No major complaints other then this marriage disagreement. \n\nBasically, what I'm trying to ask is... Has anyone had this experience and it ended up that the man or woman changed their minds?     Has anyone felt they did NOT want to get married, then changed their own mind?   Do you regret it? \n\nAlso, is this a red flag?  Do we need to asses the situation and deal with it in the present?   If we're going to end up ending things in the future due to the disagreement on marriage,  is it better to do so now before it's dragged out for years? \n\nI'm just lost. (and emotional, fucking hormones).", "summary": "Boyfriend says \"no\" to marriage.  Something I want in future.  Want your stories if this has happened to you or if you've been this person yourself.   Also curious if better to end things now, if it will just end up that way anyways. "}
{"id": "t3_2pbqx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30 M] Can a relationship work with no chemistry?", "post": "I'm kind of a unique situation... 30 years old never had a gf, never done anything sexual, just recently started online dating.  (Reason for my lack of experience is being extremely shy, low self esteem)  Reason I've started online dating is an attempt to salvage what's left of my life.. figured even though I wasted so much of my life at this point there's no reason I should just die as a lonely virgin, so i decided to at least TRY.\n\nAfter about ~5 or so weeks I've met two girls so far, got at least one more to meet in the near future.  Problem is, I am a bit awkward (Ok, I am a lot awkward.)  I feel like I do not \"click\" with anyone, and would not really know how to flirt, etc.  Question is this: how important/real is this \"chemistry\" thing?  If I don't feel anything, is it possible to develop these feelings over time?\n\nIn other words, should I force the relationship forward just because I so desperately want one?  Or should I move on when I don't detect this \"chemistry\" thing, and have the gross audacity to actually *turn down* an attractive female when I'm a 30 year old desperate virgin?\n\nDating and relationships are just so alien to me and I have no idea what I'm doing or how to even interact with the opposite sex.  At times I feel I'm being irresponsible even trying, and I have no right to date anyone :/", "summary": "Can a relationship work without chemistry if you and your partner do not \"click\" with each other?  Can these feelings develop over time if you force it?"}
{"id": "t3_3h9fij", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trying to have two females hook up in my backyard.", "post": "So this happened about 20 minutes ago.\n\nI was in the back yard, replacing a damaged sprinkler head. I dug up the old one, and removed it when I noticed that the hole was slowly filling with muddy water. It was so murky, I could not see the bottom of this 5 inch deep hole. So, I get the new sprinkler, attach a 1 inch male coupling to the bottom, and then attach another 1 inch female coupling to that, so that the new sprinkler would sit a little higher, therefore be more visible while mowing. I lower this into hole, and start twisting, hoping that it will snag onto what I had assumed was another male end at the bottom.\n\nAfter doing this for about 2 or 3 minutes, I am starting to get frustrated. I reach in there to feel around, but the hole is too narrow for my grizzly-like hands. I try using towels to get the water out, to no avail. I try to widen the hole by using said water to turn dirt walls into mud, so that my hand might fit better. At this point, I am ten seconds away from making the hole larger using a shovel, and possibly having more dirt and debris fall in, when I look up at the old sprinkler head. I realize my foolishness. Attached to the bottom of it is the male coupling that I had been attempting to attach my female coupling to.\n\nI pop off the new female coupling, sink that sprinkler in, give it a good twist, and vam, bam, boosh. Filled up the hole, and am now sitting here, glad none of my friends were around. After realizing my mistake, I had it done and said with, within 1 minute.", "summary": "Tried to get two female couplings to fit together, wouldn't work, got it to work by getting male in there."}
{"id": "t3_4fx598", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Costa Rica, Nicaragua, or...?", "post": "R/travel, you guys have been good to me, helped my wife and I put together a killer 2 week tour de Spain, both of our first times out of the country.\n\nNow we are looking at a 7-8 day trip in 2016, maaaybe early 2017. Weighing out what both wife and I want, ideally we could get:\n  -relaxation \n  -zip lining (wife says zip lining is a must)\n  -relatively easy travel from west coast (avoiding jet lag on such a short itinerary)\n  -no car rental (fine w cabs/ trains/ bus)\n  -if we're doing a relaxing vacation, I'd love if we could be on the beach\n  -other activities: day hikes, snorkel, kayak??\n  - good food/ drink hopefully!!\n\nI was trying to figure out where to get started on a Costa Rica itinerary, when someone strongly suggested Nicaragua. Part of my downfall is trying to do too much, so help me keep it simple :). 1-2 locations over 8 days would be perfect.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "need destination for 8 days of beach relaxation, good food, and some adventure. Flying out of SAN or LAX."}
{"id": "t3_2y72rm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my romantic interest [18 F] 2 weeks, not sure what to do", "post": "Hello /r/relationships. I've been dating this girl for 2 weeks (only had one date, we're both in the army so it's kinda complicated), but we've known each other for two years, and been great friends for over a year. We've had a hiatus after some ugly things surfaced, but lately we got in touch, and I decided to ask her out, because I'm 18 and never actually had a girlfriend or even a date before.\n\nSo we went out and whatnot, but no touching or whatever occurred. While I'd usually be concerned she's not interested in me, knowing her personality, she's quite shy and somewhat fears touching and whatnot, so it's understandable. \n\nTomorrow we're going on another date, and I was wondering if to just flow with the situation, or somewhat push forwards and ask her if she wants a more serious relationship, i.e. actually be a couple. While she shies away from contact, when you approach her with these things, she's honest and says whatever's on her mind. So I was wondering if I should or shouldn't do so - because we've been good friends for over a year, we know each other well, so is it worth bothering going on regular dates or should I just try and \"force\" the issue on her?", "summary": "Known her for over two years, been on one date, want to know if to try and force the issue of relationships onto her or not."}
{"id": "t3_21ovzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [18F] of almost 2 month, sexless relationship.. what should I do?", "post": "we're both in university. It's been almost 2 month since we started dating. We make out, i usually do all the caressing though.. you know, sucking on her tits and all, i went down on her first time last night. She CRIED.. she said it was mixed emotion of being scared and relief that I didn't go too far... She's a virgin. I understand everything could come quite scary. I cautiously asked for a bj because I was blueballed obviously.. She said no. She even wrote me a letter saying she wants to do it when she feels ready. I feel like she likes me, but I don't know what to do in this situation. Sexless relationship sucks balls.", "summary": "No sex, should I keep this relationship? do you guys see any progress possibly happening in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_2g600u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] after 18 months, amazing and beautiful relationship but broke up because its not the right time for me.", "post": "It was my first love. Her 5th. Amazing from the start, she's the loveliest person ever and we were/are deeply deeply in love. But we broke up because she wants to invest her time and heart in someone who is safe (looking forward to marry), while I can't give her that. \n\nIt's not that I can't invest myself completely, I could, but there's a little voice inside my head that I had been muting for a while that says I should meet more girls and satisfy professionally without being tied geographically.\n\nThere is just something that's killing me and it's the fact that we are not mad at each other, so I keep asking myself why not get back together? Sometimes I don't have an answer but I feel that if we do, it would be just for fun in a sort of YOLO fashion. We would end up breaking up later with more memories and feelings to defeat. Am I being stupid?", "summary": "Why not get back together if we don't hate each other?"}
{"id": "t3_19tfte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) asked her (18f) to marry me a month into the relationship, and she said yes, but...", "post": "I'm (18m) roughly a month into this relationship with a girl (18f) who has turned my entire world around, and we can't get enough of each other. We go to college together and see each other all the time. We agree on every single issue that has come up in news and in society: abortion, marriage rights, how to raise kids, religion, etc, etc. We spend easily over 6 hours together a day about 5/7 days a week and have told each other things we have never told anyone else before. I have no doubt in her, nor her in I. And she did say yes to my proposal.\n\nHowever, my parents, and her parents both know that we have only been together about a month now, and I am just curious how it is we should clue them in on this situation in the least freak the hell out sort of way possible... Her and I both more or less come to a blank on this. We also don't plan on getting married until 2015 when we're out of school, or at least transferring. Any help on this would be great.", "summary": "I asked a girl to marry me very early in a relationship, she said yes, we're excited for it but don't know how or when to tell family/others."}
{"id": "t3_12vzes", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors: Have you been hit on by a manager that's different sexual orientation that knew you were not the same preference?  Good or bad outcomes that came from it?", "post": "While in HS I worked at a theme park over several summers.  I went back one more year in college and a former supervisor had been promoted to a very high up position.  I was living close to his house and he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime.  I didn't think anything of it.  I knew he and his wife had divorced and figured he wanted to have an excuse to go to the bar.  \n\nWe had a few drinks and went back to his place for a couple more drinks as the bar closed.  He switched from beer to some heavily poured mixed drinks at a fast pace.  He began to talk about his life and got into some DEEP shit, and got emotional.  I just kept listening trying not to be a douche, thinking maybe I am helping.  Then he started saying \"I haven't felt so close to anyone like this before\".  I said \"that's understandable, you are talking about some heavy stuff\". He kept going saying \" I feel like I want to hug you.  Maybe hold you if you want to sit over here\".  I told him I was comfortable where I was.  He kept going and I politely got up to leave and he changed his tune quickly.  He tried to give me a hug at the door but I switch it to a handshake.  I felt bad but not much I could do.  He was ten years older, two levels higher than my boss, and most importantly I am straight.\n\nA couple of weeks later I did something at work that would have been cause for immediate termination (one of those bureaucratic safety things where no one could have been hurt but it's just a rule).  He was in charge that day and he changed the violation to a lesser offense that allowed me to keep my job.", "summary": "My boss' boss' boss' (male) hit on me (straight male) and I turned him down during his emotional moment.  He saved my job a couple weeks later."}
{"id": "t3_kmc1q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible that the presidential election is really a variation on the movie Dinner for Schmucks?", "post": "So I've been thinking a lot about the United States election and the candidates that the GOP has been putting out there the last decade. Most of the candidates have been so absurdly unqualified and unintelligent, it's almost impossible to believe that they legitimately are running for president. What I'm proposing is that the GOP no longer takes the presidential election seriously, and that the whole election is similar to the movie Dinner for Schmucks (slight spoiler ahead). \n\nIn Dinner for Schmucks, a dinner is hosted where each person must bring one guest. The goal is to be the one who brings the biggest idiot, a person who is so stupid they don't even know ridiculous they are. I propose that very, very wealthy Americans who may be involved in the GOP are actually going out and finding the most ridiculous candidate they can, and making a quite substantial wager on their idiots. The person whose idiot makes it furthest in the election or gets the most votes/news coverage wins. These same people pump in campaign donations to help their schmuck out. All the while, the schmuck thinks they are legitimately a candidate for president, but in reality, they were never meant to win, just to be entertainment until they eventually fall out of the election. This explains Palin, Perry, Bachmann, etc. What do you guys think? I really believe I might be getting at something.", "summary": "GOP candidates are idiots who rich people are making bets on but don't know it."}
{"id": "t3_45siru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20F] and I [22M] of over 1 Year are having issues regarding differing views on Sex before marriage and living together. I really need some advice or other experiences here, please help Reddit.", "post": "Essentially, my girlfriend believes in the whole Sex after Marriage and no Living together till marriage whilst I believe the opposite and after 1 Year and 2 months it's starting to get messier. \n\nTo start off, a little back story; my girlfriend is of Christian background and I'm not, and she did tell me she didn't want sex before marriage about 4 months into the relationship. A but late, but I respect people's decisions and don't want to push them into these things. She's a Virgin, I'm not, but I thought this girl was awesome and though \"fuck it, not worth breaking up just because she doesn't want sex\". \n\nSo recently, Valentine's day, I (stupidly) brought up the situation of living together and sex before marriage, I always saw sex as an important part of a relationship and a way to intimately connect with your S/O and express your love. I also feel that living together before marriage is a great test, because some people cannot stand living together even when in a relationship. My girlfriend believes all this should happen after marriage. \n\nA part of me feels like it's her parents who are also heavily influencing her decisions, she always brings it back to disappointing her parents with her decisions. Whilst I respect that, some times I feel her parents are controlling her indirectly. Am I wrong to think this?\n\nSo after an argument last night, my girlfriend and I came to the point of \"do we break up, or wait till marriage\". And I'm left here really confused and stuck. I don't want to break up but at the same time I'm so worried,confused and I feel like I'm missing something now. Have you been in this situation? Do you have any advice that can help me? What are your views....I'm at a stump and I'm scared I'll make the wrong decision.", "summary": "My girlfriend believes in sex after marriage and living together after marriage, I believe the opposite, arguments happened, might break up, what do I do? Don't want to make the wrong decision."}
{"id": "t3_1cwjgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23f] strike a balance between comforting and criticizing my boyfriend [23m] in his job search?", "post": "We're seniors in college and have been dating for 7 months, it's been a lot of fun and has been the most healthy relationship I've ever been in.\n\nI was raised by an extremely critical father, and I've internalized that critical attitude. I realized early on that my former way of communicating/criticizing hurt my boyfriend, which I hated! So I tuned it waaay down and I've become a much more positive person as a result.\n\nHere's the thing: we go to a really prestigious university, which is supposed to make it comparably easier to find a job, but it's 3 weeks until graduation, and he has yet to find one. He has been networking/emailing people/interviewing all year but he hasn't been able to find anything yet. His resume is stellar.\n\nToday he had a phone interview for a job at an awesome charitable foundation, but it didn't go well. I was pretty sure it wasn't going to beforehand. He is always joking around and doesn't come off professionally. He's not an expert in the field he was interviewing in, and last night when he was \"preparing\" he was lying on the couch randomly reading this and that about the company and kidding around with his roommate saying things like \"global development swaaag.\" When I suggested \"why don't you practice talking about this issue like you're in an interview\" or \"why don't we think up questions and you can write out potential answers\" he wasn't really interested.\n\nThe interview went really poorly, and he's dejected. I want to be there for him and comfort him, but he has a different interview on Wednesday. It is taking all of my willpower not to shake him and say \"LISTEN SIT DOWN NOW AND PREP SERIOUSLY UNTIL YOU KNOW THIS SHIT COLD.\"", "summary": "Am I out of line to trying to convince my boyfriend to prepare more/differently for his job interviews? I mean it's his career not mine. I just know he deserves these jobs and COULD get them if he really focused. Do I just keep my mouth closed and tell him good luck?"}
{"id": "t3_22ko5n", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Has anyone had any visa issues whilst traveling / backpacking? If so, what did you do or is there anything I can do?", "post": "Hi all, \nSo I have been banned from Uzbekistan and not for any good reason. My boyfriend and I went to . our appointment to get our visa at the Uzbek embassy in Bishkek and we were told we don't have an appointment. The man wouldn't even allow us to talk. Just shouting and . screaming so I said to my boyfriend 'this is ridiculous'. The man then asked what I said to which we turned around to explain and he wouldn't even let us talk again, he just said I'm cancelling your visa. \n\nA local family we are staying at called to find out what happened and he said I was rude and swearing which is not true at all and that he would not issue the girl (me) a visa. When the family tried to explain I didn't swear at all he refused to listen and said I broke some imaginary rule. \n\nWe made another appointment to which this man made sure to come . our for our turn and kicked me out. My boyfriend was issued his visa and again I attempted to apologise and actually explain I never swore and the comment which he didn't even hear was an expression of frustration to my boyfriend but alas he just kept screaming and shouting so I walked our in tears. \n\nSo now I'm on my own in Kyrgzstan trying to figure out my options but I don't have many as I have an Azerbaijan visa for the 3/5 and it cost too much to just not use it. I can't go to Uzbekistan or Turkmenistan and I spent money getting my letter of Invitation. \n\nIs there anything I can do? This man refused me on personal grounds. I have been traveling for 9 months and have has no issues. He didn't even look at my paperwork. Anyone here have any similar stories?", "summary": "Got banned from Uzbekistan. Anyone I can contact or anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_1nu3p1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17M) personal experience with confidence.", "post": "I didn't have any and because of it I royally fucked up my only chance of dating the girl (17F) I was mad about. \n\nWe had been talking for a year and I was petrified of asking her on a date. Anyway fast forward 4 months I finally do It I ask her on a date and she rejects me, ironically she had an interest in me as well but I had left it too late and she didn't feel the same way about me.\n\nI felt like a massive dumbass and the fact she wanted to go further into the relationship as well just added insult to injury. So my advice is **go for it!** in life, opportunities do just run up to you have to run after them. I failed to see this and because never got to experience a relationship with an amazing person.", "summary": "I left shit too late and got rejected because of it."}
{"id": "t3_1a3j03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M26] am having excitement issues with my girlfriend [F23]", "post": "My girlfriend of 6 months and I are, for the most part, very happy. We get along, enjoy being with each other, are both fairly laid back and have been able to communicate well (IMO).  We are having one problem though that we haven't been able to resolve. I brought up that there is a lack of excitement. Generally speaking it's an everyday life sort of thing but it also extends into the bedroom. She is very reserved and I've tried not to push that but lately it's been an issue for me.  She will attend activities but doesn't really participate and in the bedroom area it's pretty much the same thing all the time. I guess what most would consider plain sex. No foreplay, standard positions, I have to initiate and do most of the work, only on the weekends because she says staying at my place during the week is too much work. I've had a little more colorful sexual past and am more open so for me this isn't enough. \n\nI've brought up that I would like a little more excitement (having her suggest events for us to do and just anything really new in the bedroom and staying over at my place during the wek) but it didn't seem to go anywhere.  I also asked if she would stay at my place during the week (we work at the same place btw) but that also didn't go anywhere. She does have an older small dog that she isn't comfortable leaving at my place during the day and doesn't want to leave alone for that long so I understand that concern. I would stay at her place but she lives with her parents and her dad works with us as well (huge company but yes, small world).\n\nI guess what this all boils down to is 1) Are either of us being unreasonable? 2) Is this something that seems surmountable? 3) What do I do next since I've already made her aware of my concern?", "summary": "Girlfriend does not provide enough activity or excitement in our relationship, socially and sexually."}
{"id": "t3_36fec1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17 F] told me she has had crushes on my best friend throughout our relationship.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 1.5 years. My best friend and her have had history before we ever went out, nothing serious just sexual tension. She recently admitted to me that she has had a tiny tiny crush on him during parts of our relationship. She says that it is just because they are good friends and she gets confused sometimes. She also says that it is not romantic and it is not a sexual attraction at all. Does this sound right? what do I do? Also, i am not worried that she will cheat on me at all.", "summary": "My girlfriend has had small crushes on my best friend while we were dating."}
{"id": "t3_49xoji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if husband [25M] is angry at me for not being sure if I'm in love with him or not.", "post": "I love my husband sometimes, but I don't love him all of the time. I may feel bad for him sometimes, and try to love him out of pity, but I know that isn't love. I just had to get that off of my chest. \n\nMy husband knows that I loved him enough to have given my virginity to him. \n\nI don't like it when he guilt trips me to try to get into my pants faster when I don't feel like having sex.\n\nSometimes I'm not sure why I married my husband. I hope that it's not out of pity. I'm scared that if he ever finds out that I get guilt tripped easily into \"love\", he'll get angry that I may not love him as much as he loves me.\n\nWhat should I do? I'm scared that he has already figured it out that I may never love him as much as he loves me.", "summary": "Not sure if husband [25M] is angry at me for not being sure if I'm in love with him or not."}
{"id": "t3_4g6m1r", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Masturbation/Sexual Thoughts and Images While in a Committed Relationship", "post": "Hi, this is a 22 year old American male.\n\nI've been dating this girl for almost a year now. She's wonderful, beautiful, smart, caring, passionate, etc. I do love her so much. Like many couples, we started out as friends. Eventually, we became amazingly close friends, and -- I believe -- the source of incredible amounts of joy for one another. All she had to do to make me smile was mouth the word \"bean\" (she's Brazilian and the way she says it with her accent is adorable -- I realize this might sound creepy to some haha). And whenever she saw me from a distance she'd lift her head up and grin and jog towards me to give me a hug.\n\nSince we entered into a serious, committed relationship, it's become apparent that I have sex-dreams far more often than I realized. Since we basically live together at this point, she sometimes hears me in the middle of the night, moaning in a way that seems obviously sexual to her. This upsets her, unsurprisingly. What's frustrating is that I often don't remember these dreams, and even when I do, it feels like something out of my control: I'm no expert lucid dreamer. \n\nToday, she also asked me if I ever masturbate to the thought of other women that I know. I didn't want to lie to her, so I admitted that yes, I occasionally do. This also got her very upset. \n\nBased on these situations I've got several questions:\ni) How would you all feel if you knew that your significant other was sometimes have sex-dreams about people other than you?\nii) How would you feel if you knew that he/she sometimes masturbated to the thought of other people she/he knew? that she/he didn't know?\niii) Do you think I'm morally obligated to censor my own thoughts? As in, is it wrong of me to fantasize about other people I know while masturbating? Should I try to find a way to stop having sexual dreams?", "summary": "My girlfriend feels that she can expect me to never have sex-dreams involving other women, and to never imagine other women I know when I masturbate. Do you think this is fair of her, or that I'm in some way being abusive?"}
{"id": "t3_1pq03v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28]Female with this guy[31] I've been dating for 3 months. He has so many beautiful friends that are girls...Hard to not be jealous/insecure.", "post": "So I've known him for a few years now, but only recently have we started dating. He's definitely someone that I care about and he hasn't given me any reason to doubt his sincerity.(so far)\n\nBUT, the hardest thing is that he goes out dancing a lot (that's where I met him and we do that regularly) and has SO many friends that are girls. They are beautiful, smart, fun, creatures and sometimes it's just really hard to trust that he's really just interested in me only. \n\nHis Best Friend is a girl.. that CONSTANTLY facebooks him \"I love YOU!!\" etc... and it's just so uncomfortable.", "summary": "What should I do?? I really don't want my insecurities to ruin this, but it's just so insidious- this feeling."}
{"id": "t3_2jrg3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy (25 male) I've (24 female) been seeing for a month went through my ipod (the photos) after I accidentally forgot it in his car, how upset should I be?", "post": "I had given him the passcode the day before while I was driving so he could change the music.\n\nPrior to this I had been very clear about having trust issues and really enjoying my privacy. He claims that if the tables had been turned and I looked through his photos he wouldn't have cared in the slightest. \n\nIn his defense he was slightly sleep deprived...and although he apologized he thought most people he knew wouldn't react the way i was and thought I was being overly sensitive. \n\nFor the record, there were no inappropriate pics but there were some embarrassing selfies i had taken while drunk, lol. So I'm pretty mortified and honestly that's contributing to my anger. The bottom line is that I feel it was an invasion of privacy and it says a lot about him, what do you guys think?", "summary": "Guy I've been dating went through the pics on my ipod after I forgot it in his car, should I end it?******"}
{"id": "t3_qhkrl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So often it's portrayed that finding a fellow redditor is a special occasion... how many of you disagree and feel it's quite commonplace?", "post": "I see so many posts where redditors find someone having a reddit related conversation and ask \"when does the narwhal bacon?\" to which the other redditor replies \"midnight\" and they make it sound like this is some huge deal that they found another redditor out in the world...\n\nThis leaves me wondering, is there really such a majority that are one of the few they know that reddit? \n\nMaybe it's because I'm a computer science major in university and my friends are inherently nerdy but even people that I've known since freshman year who are now all different majors and walks of life (and levels of nerdiness) are all redditors. They may not be as into it as I am and check the site multiple times a day but searching my mind, I can only think of maybe 20 out of the 200 or so people I hang out with regularly across my various friend groups that don't check reddit at least once a week. I could even go as far as to say most of the people  I interact with on a daily basis, friend or not, I generally assume most people have at least heard of reddit and checked the site at least once (and I think this because of the people I've met at university, most of them have.)\n\nSo to reiterate, I suppose this is my question (", "summary": "):"}
{"id": "t3_2603e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Um, huge WTF moment with friend/fwb (30m) and his girlfriend (23f). I am 24f.", "post": "I don't sleep with taken guys. I was not even aware my friend, Dennis, was seeing someone. We have flirted, he took me out a few times, so thinking we were both single attractive people we fucked. \n\nThe next morning I go downstairs and there is someone watching TV. I think it is his roommate's out of town girlfriend. She introduces herself as Dennis' girlfriend, Marie.\n\nI am shocked, horrified, and apologize. I don't even have real clothes on (boxers and tshirt.) She tells me I am very pretty and she does not mind if he sleeps with me. She is just glad to meet one of the girls he likes. Then she offers to make me breakfast. \n\nI am not sure what the fuck is going on. Dennis comes down, doesn't even freeze, and asks for pancakes. She makes them for him. \n\nI ask Dennis if we can talk. Marie tells me she has some clothes I could wear if I don't mind and she goes, gets them, a brush and unopened toothbrush. She then tells me to take a shower and then they will answer all the questions. \n\nI am like, okaaay. \n\nWhen I am done, have all my shit together, I go back down and ask what the fuck is going on. \n\nDennis tells me that Marie cannot have sex. They don't go into details, just that due to issues she is unable to have intercourse and Dennis gets his needs met by other girls. \n\nI am furious at this point because... who doesn't tell me that? \n\nIt isn't an open relationship so much as an agreement. Dennis pays for Marie to live there, Marie handles everything else. So... she's like a maid. \n\nI just feel like a total slut for this all happening. How did I not see this? And what do I do now? I work with Dennis sometimes (he works as a freelancer in my office) and I feel terrible. Just awful. What do I do now?", "summary": "Found out guy I slept with has weird ass relationship. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_yfia6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend's low libido is affecting our relationship. Any advice?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for just over two years now. We are both 21 years old. In the beginning, everything about our sex life was perfect. It was consistent, passionate, never boring. She started on birth control a while back and its been all downhill from there. She rarely shows any interest sexually unless I initiate things...and even then its hard to get her to respond to my advances. Its gotten to the point where I feel self conscious every time I try to touch her sexually because I feel like I'll inevitably get denied. \n\nI've told her all these things and tried to talk about it, but every conversation is the same. She swears that theres nothing wrong with me and that she doesnt know why her sex drive is so low. Thats as far as it ever goes...no talk of how to fix it or what we can do to make our sex life healthy again.\n\nOn top of all this, on the off chance we do have sex (once every week or two)..I cant last as long as I used to. I dont know if its because of the infrequence, or increased anxiety about performance or what. It just makes me feel even more insecure and worried that shes lost interest in me sexually.\n\nAs far as everything in the relationship outiside of sex is concerned, everything is still fantastic, but i can feel the sex problems causing a a bit of a rift between us. I'm generally an insecure person, and all of these issues make me worry about my own value in the relationship..not to mention how much I worry about the possibility of her cheating on me. She still HAS a sex drive. Shes even admitted that she masturbates as much as she used to; its really seems like its just me shes lost interest in, not sex.\n\nAny advice reddit? How can I get my girlfriend to REALLY open up to me about her sexuality. What could I do to try and get our sex life back to normal. Is this just a mark of being in a relationship for as long as we have?", "summary": "Girlfriend never initiates sex/frequently denies me. Its super frustrating and hurts my self esteem. advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4zorlt", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Girlfriends identity was stolen went into investigation and now trying to make her pay and take the money that was stolen, help!", "post": "Hello everyone, Recently my girlfriends identity was stolen and shes going through a lot of bad news back after back and we really need some help here.  It started off with the money she already had in her account being withdrawn ($1100) then the person bounced about $6000 grand in checks, opened up a new bank account and tried to get a credit card. The person also opened up a Costco card in her name a bounced a $600 check in her name as well.  \n\nAll of this went down while she was working!  Right after work she went to the police station and made a police report We went to chase and sat down with one of the people there and asked him if they could cut us a check since it was very clear it wasn't us.  He agreed he should be able to do it then called corporate and they told him otherwise even after speaking with their supervisor.  He told us that they wouldn't be able to cut us a check until the investigation is over so we waited.\n\nFast forward to yesterday she gets a email stating that she will not be receiving the money that was taken from her accounts and shes now responsible to pay back all the bounced checks! How is this even possible?! When we first made our accounts (we went the same day years back) they took pictures of us so they know what we look like. \n\nPlease I'm begging for any bit of advice you might be able to give i appreciate every comment thank you!\n\nP.S.* We are from NY", "summary": "girlfriends identity was stolen took all her money bounced checks in her name and now is trying to make her pay."}
{"id": "t3_1fkpep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal for me(21m) to be uncomfortable with her(18f) posting nude pics of herself on Tumblr?", "post": "My gf of just over a year sometimes posts nude pics of herself on her Tumblr and I'm really uncomfortable with it. I feel like such a hypocrite because I was fine about us posting in r/GW, It was my idea. posting pics of yourself to anonymous strangers for shits n' giggles is fine with me, But when it's on her Tumblr it isn't really anonymous at all, it's mostly her friends, be it male or female. She isn't posting smut, It's pretty tasteful for the most part. I'm just really uncomfortable about the idea of her friends seeing her naked. Is it normal for me to not be ok with this, or am I just being stupid and jealous? How would you feel in this situation?", "summary": "gf posts nude pics of herself on Tumblr, I'm not really not ok with it. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_sqx7b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I encountered a racist old white lady today, What other stereotypes have you met in the real world?", "post": "Me and my friend were sat in a takeaway which is staffed by Indians. They were playing some Indian pop music on the telly, I think it was Punjabi MC. My friend and I were laughing because the music video for it was funny, when all of a sudden a wild old white lady appears and says \"do you understand what he is saying?\" We both said we didn't. Her reply \"Good, because where I come from we wouldn't allow this sort of filth.\" This was in a place full of Asians and she said it quite loudly. My mate laughs nervously. I just look at her and say \"Racist.\" We grab our food and walk out.\nAs a middle class PC brit, it was pretty daring.", "summary": "Old white lady said something racist, called her racist."}
{"id": "t3_3ddq5e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally showing nude pics to my 12 year old sister.", "post": "Today I totally fucked up my image of a good innocent brother by accidently showing pics that too dirty one to my younger sister.I had totally forgotten about the fact that I had downloaded some dirty pics from a subreddit .\nSo it was a good summers evening and I was on the terrace when my sister joined me so we started talking about some stupid things that girls talk about and suddenly she asked me to click a good picture of her so iam like ok totally ignorant of what I'm carrying in my phone. So I clicked a pic and opened the gallery to show it to her , and bam what orbs up on screen is a pic of a nude girl showing off her genitalia. I've never faced stuck an awkward embarrassing situation. Good forgive me.", "summary": "Nude pic to sister shown by mistake. Totally embarrassed."}
{"id": "t3_1pi213", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my 25 [F] Not quite yet, some advice to move to the next step....", "post": "Met a girl through mutual friends a few weeks ago. Hooked up last weekend (a few days back) and she stayed at mine. Everything but sex. Want to turn it into a relationship (otherwise would be posting in r/pickup) Getting that urgent excited feeling that only turns up when it's a big deal. \n\nChatted online the day after we hooked up and she stayed, have ignored her since, but she has liked a couple of old photos on facebook. (stalking obv). \n\nWhat now? How cool do I need to play this? How do I do the 'I'm interested, but not creepy' thing, that a guy that hasn't been in a relationship in a while does?\n\nAnyone able to offer some practical advice?", "summary": "Want girl. Took girl home. Don't want to fuck things up..."}
{"id": "t3_2cyh9f", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I Drop out of College?", "post": "this is a classic story of how from high school i thought college would be the best for me. i have never had money nor a job and have been basically babied all my life. i entered an art college straight out of high school, signed up for student loans and entered a really expensive one that just wanted my money. about 1-2 years in i started getting sluggish demotivated and just started failing and dropping classes. i was depressed and i didn't want to do work. I have been there for 5 years now almost done but I had a sudden burst of depression that made realize i was just doing this for my parents. so with 4 classes left i decided i just want to be independent. so i worked up my courage and told my parents everything and my step mom understands because she has been in that situation, my father thinks I'm trying to make him the bad guy and thinks all his work at his crappy job means nothing to me. so my question is should i finish which might take longer because of how much i hate it there or should i get a job now and start paying off my debt?", "summary": "parents made me go to college. hate it there. i am almost done. i don't want to finish."}
{"id": "t3_2xcwac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know if (or how) I [22F] should tell my boyfriend [25M] I really don't like what he got me for Christmas.", "post": "Yeah I realize it is now a long time since Christmas and this part of my dilemma, which I guess is my own fault. So for Christmas my boyfriend (of ~10 months) got me a gift certificate for a \"makeover and photoshoot\".  I can't really imagine doing anything much worse than spending my day having my hair and make-up done than having my photo taken for two hours. Okay, maybe a bit dramatic but I'm really not that kind of girl and my boyfriend does know that. I guess he could be hinting that he wants me to dress up a bit more but I didn't really think he cares \u2013 I think it is more likely that someone told him it was a good gift idea or something he got for an ex that they really liked.\n\nAnyway, I pretended I liked it and hoped he would maybe forget about it and I wouldn't have to use it. But, more recently he keeps asking me when I'm going to go and if I've booked it yet. I'm all \"oh yeah I'll do it soon I'm so busy at the moment\", which is obviously not an excuse I can carry on forever. So my question is should tell him I don't want to go? I would feel bad because it has been a long time now that I've pretended and he probably did put quite a bit of thought in what to get me. Also what if I do tell him, what would be the best way to bring it up without sounding like an ungrateful bitch? Or should just suck it up and go? Obviously I could make it through, especially if I had a drink or something before to help me enjoy it a bit more but I really don't want to. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend gave me a gift certificate for a makeover and photoshoot that I really don't want to go to. Don't know if (or how) I should tell him, or if I should just go."}
{"id": "t3_4wsu0i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] having a crush on [22 F] and I need advice", "post": "Ok, So I need some advice here or just someone who tells me its gonna be OK.\nI have a hard time talking about feelings and such with my IRL-friends so here goes: Im 29, been single for 2 years now (been through some hookups/one night stands and such). I met this girl a couple of months ago,we had sex on the first date,the second but not the two times we have met after that. And I havent been thinking about this girl alot but recently I have, we text and we snapchat, and im starting to feel something. Problem is she's seeing and sleeping with another guy, she's open about that and thats ok.. Ive slept around a little aswell since we are just dating,its quite casual as you would say. But im not dating/seeing anyone else but her. I dont even know how much I like this girl, she's 22, and thats too young. Anyway, recently my life's been going downhill, Im a bit lost, dont really know what job I want and such.... fuck this isnt even making much sense, I know im supposed to be cool with it, I know its casual,I know we are not exclusive. I know all this. this is eating me up!", "summary": "dating a much younger girl,shes dating another guy at the same time, and I feel messed up. Need advice or maybe I just want to ventilate..."}
{"id": "t3_4akl7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [M-22] stuck in the past and can't stop thinking about her [F-21]", "post": "I used to be friends with a girl. About 7 years ago, A girl I knew started to talk to me. Turns out she had a crush on me. I didn't reciprocate, but as time went on, I got to know her and eventually started to feel the same way about her. \n\nWe started to see each other on and off, but it was nothing serious. Eventually though, I wanted to make it serious. She didn't. I took it badly. Really badly. We stopped talking to each other and she then got a boyfriend. \n\nI started college soon after that so I started to move on. I met a new girl in my third year of college and we hit it off and started dating. We broke up and coincidentally the first girl, broke up with her boyfriend of three years.\n\nWe started talking again and all my old feelings came flooding back and we started seeing each other again. Well, I guess I didn't learn from my first mistake because I wanted to date her again. I kinda knew she wouldn't want anything serious with me this time because she was seeing a few other guys aswell... \n\nI found out through a mutual friend of mine and her ex that she was quite unfaithful throughout their three year relationship. So, I took that as a cue to push myself away from this girl before I ended up getting as hurt as the first time. Talked to her about my feelings and she confirmed that she didn't feel the same, so I decided we should no longer be friends.\n\nIt's going on a year and a half since I last spoke to her, yet for some reason I can't stop thinking about her.....\n\nI really don't know what to do at this point, I've seen other people in that time aswell, but I still find my mind drifting back to her.\n\nI don't know what to do.\n\nThanks for your time.", "summary": "A girl broke my heart and I moved on. Couple years later we start talking again and my feelings for her came rushing back. She still didn't feel as strongly for me as I did her. Decided to stop being friends with her so I don't get hurt again. A year and a half on, I can't stop thinking about her."}
{"id": "t3_r9ubw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think i fucked it up, salvage advice/confirmation of negligible potential sought", "post": "My story is, (24m)i have been out of relationships and even have had literally no sex life for a while.  I met a girl(22f), who i think is awesome, and she has a boyfriend.  That isnt the problem.  I respectfully act as a platonic friend to the girl i originally had feelings for, and to a lesser degree her boyfriend.  Now, somehow or another while i was drunk and we were all hanging out at a bar one of her friends(19f) came up to me and started giving me compliments and all that, she posts on a sexual comment i made on fb later on that night, i get her number not very long after (next day, first time we talk on fb).  We have been meeting up to see eachother with other people around and she always kisses me, which i am loving.  I even got her to go see a big concert with me in a city thats 30 minutes away (she brought her friend tho, and we didnt do anything but kissing/a little dancing)  Yesterday i txted her early in the day and she said \"Im in a terrible fucking mood\".  I ask why, she sais its personal, so i say ok, you dont have to tell me if u dont want, as long as you still talk to me.  she sais \"okies\"  and i guess i may have danced around it to see if she would let anything else out.  \"so what are you pregnant?\" lol gawd no etc etc.   well, i finally send her a last one saying to hmu if she wants to hang/talk/wtfever.  she didnt, and instead made open facebook posts about how happy she was and shit.  \n\nheres where i fucking blew it reddit:  seeing the fb posts i txted her \"hey u up? i wanna talk to u im gettin this wierd feeling that i missed my chance or somethin...\"\n\nits 730 am.  should i just go get drunk or something and try not to think about it? cuz im kinda stewing in what closely resembles highschool style rejection.", "summary": "this girl has been meeting me, kissing me a lot, i think she met another dude, what can i do to help myself in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_g3osh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I convert a print book to an ebook?", "post": "There's a book I'd like to read that isn't available as an ebook.  I'm perfectly willing to buy a DRM-laden ebook version of this book, but it's simply not available.  I bought hard copy of this book (actually 3 books, but that's splitting hairs) but, being a techie, I'd really much rather have an ebook.  Preferably in .pdf, .doc, .rtf, or some other flexible, easy-to-use format.\n\nThere has to be some way of turning a physical book into an ebook other than individually scanning each and every page by hand.  I'm sure there's some kind of specialized machine that can do it, but I don't have one.  I'd be more than willing to pay for temporary access to such a device; maybe mail the book away, or bring it to a Kinkos-like place.  The thing is I can't manage to find any service that does this.  Maybe my google-fu is weak, but all I can find are websites and programs that convert one ebook format to another, and 1 or 2 services that are only intended for authors/copyright holders (and they make you sign a thing certifying that you are such).", "summary": "I own a physical paper book that I legally bought and paid for.  I'd like to convert it into an ebook.  How can I easily do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2pp8n2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F], feel like I am no longer interested.", "post": "To start, I apologize if this is a little disjointed. I'm terrible at these things.\n\nMe [25 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] have been together for about 2 years. Lately I have been feeling like I am no longer interested in this relationship at all. \n\nOur relationship started wonderful, but lately I have been thinking more and more about whether or not I am truly in love with this girl. It seems the more that I am with her, the less I enjoy her company.\nI enjoy her as a person, just not as a significant other. We no longer seem to have anything in common, we haven't been on an actual date in forever.\nWe both work in the food service industry and usually have opposite schedules, which also makes this a whole lot harder.\n\nThis all lead to the other day when I met one of her friends. My girlfriend had to make a store run, so I had to play host to a stranger. We started talking and hit it off immediately. And I mean hit it off. We we're both surprised at how much we had in common.\n\nNow I'm not sure what to do about all this. Part of me wants to try and put my current relationship back together and the other part wishes that I was single.", "summary": "Seemingly not interested in my current relationship. Seemingly very interested in a new one. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_347hex", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Dating a girl with a dog that hates men - How do I overcome this adversity and make this pooch at least tolerate me?", "post": "Been seeing this girl and it's gotten the point where we're sleeping at each others places.  She has this dog, kind of a poodle or something (not exactly sure on the breed, small, white, kind of curly hair).  She (dog) is cool in the dog park, pretty decent on a leash, but in her own dwelling, does not like men.\n\nDog has no history of abuse by men, but the dog does not like men.  She is pretty territorial and barks when I even get close to her closet door (where she keeps the dog when I'm around, it's a huge closet, no sketchy neglect or anything).\n\nGetting to the point where I have to meet this small beast and make nice-nice.  What is the best way to do so?  Apparently, she nips at hands/heels and will just stare me down and growl the entire time.  Should I arrive with treats?  I've raised pups on my own and never had a problem but mostly German shepherds and Dobermans.  Never thought I'd struggle with a poodle.  \n\nAny help or tips would be great.", "summary": "Dating a girl that has a dog that hates men and I have to overcome this, or at least attempt to do so."}
{"id": "t3_3lgd8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my fianc\u00e9e [27 F] 3 years, she proposed to me over a year ago and has been pressuring me to \"counter propose\" ever since.", "post": "Our relationship has been great the past 3 years.  We rarely fight and we have a lot of fun together.\n\nBackstory: over a year ago I ended up helping her with a medical issue and took her to the hospital to be treated for dehydration.  Carrying her in my arms, the whole nine yards.  She felt extreme gratitude afterwards and decided to throw tradition out the window by buying a pair of wedding rings and proposed to me, taping the whole thing using her laptop and recited a speech for me.  She liked it, so she put a ring on it.\n\nWe've been pumped about getting married ever since then, and have been waiting for her to be done with graduate school before we officially drop the money to tie the knot.\n\nThe problem is that in my mind, and from what we've been telling everyone, we are officially engaged and that she proposed to me.  She's been wanting me ever since to do a counter-proposal, where I basically propose back, and have a whole long written confession of my love for her.  Now, I obviously have no problem in doing so, but she said she feels like until I do so our engagement is \"fake\" (her words).\n\nI feel like it's a bit messed up to have that sentiment.  Maybe I'm being paranoid, but I think that whatever proposal I come up with is just going to fall flat of her expectations, considering the magic of the surprise will not be there.  Not to mention, it kind of kills the mood if she is literally *asking* me to propose to her.\n\nAm I being an asshole?", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9e proposed to me, wants me to propose back but has been pestering me.  I feel like the engagement is already set, and being asked to propose kills the mood.  Am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_315wkg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] like this girl [21F] but she is into some things I have quirks with.", "post": "Okay, this girl and I have been talking for a few weeks, we've both admitted that we like each other and our flirting has upgraded to more affectionate stuff. \n\nI really like just hanging out with her for an assortment of reasons; she's easy to talk to, she plays video games and is not terrible at them, and she's funny. I could talk to her for hours about anything, we also enjoy watching movies and tv shows together.\n\nThe problem I am having is that does / has some things that I've always kind of avoided. Such as: tattoos, nose ring, drinking, and smoking pot. Not saying any of these things are bad at all, I just have always avoided them because I'm not personally into them.\n\nSo that's my sitatuion, I don't know if I should continue with this girl or if it's probably doomed since there are things I don't know if I'll be able to accept in a relationship. Thanks for any advice!", "summary": "Like girl alot, she does somewhat major things that I don't like."}
{"id": "t3_3ljh2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27m) am dating a married woman (27f) and we've been seeing each other for four months now. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I'll keep this brief. I always wanted to be married, want a family and kids, that hasn't changed. Dating has been crappy for me as I've been so focused on working since I come from a very poor family. I'm 27 now, doing well with my career (well enough for now anyways) so I have more \"time\" for dating.\n\nUsed Tinder for a while, had some fun flings, met a chick who was in an \"open marriage\" and just wanted to date. I thought it would be easy sex, went along with it. One thing led to another and now I love her, and she loves me. She admits this, but does not want to leave her husband (which was the first guy she ever dated, and according to her friends screams at her and manipulates her and is garbage, but it's her decision)\n\nSo, she doesn't want to leave him, loves me, I love her... I've been dating her for around four months now and I've been keeping it going hoping to build a bond with her and when I can have a 'very' serious talk with her about things I'll have more of a potential for her to consider my words about our future.\n\nI need some advice. What should I do here? Should I stop seeing her?\n\nOh, and a side note... I'm terrified this woman is my soul mate. I've been in love, dated... and never felt a connection in my life like I do with this woman. So there's that. (Sorry for broken jumbled post)", "summary": "I'm worried a married woman is my soul mate, we love each other but she also loves her husband, I'm confused, she's confused and I don't know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_37t0w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(22F) with my sister(18F) and her boyfriend(17M) Should I say something?", "post": "My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now. They are each others first relationships. \n\nI recently got out of a 3 year abusive relationship. My anger toward my ex might be clouding my judgement but I'm not sure. \n\nFor a while I've been noticing dysfunctional things in their relationship that remind me of my ex. Her boyfriend is acting like a typical 17 year old boy and is really into the physical aspect of their relationship. My sister is borderline verbally abusive to him. She says things like, \"I don't know why you love me, maybe you shouldn't.\" I feel that she treats him poorly, is rude to him and expects way too much out of him. She tells him that we, her family hates him. I've heard them talk about getting married when he turns 18 so they can have sex without getting in trouble with my conservative Christian parents. \n\nMy sister leaves for college in the fall and I think that's creating more strain. They fight a lot more often. \n\nSo I'm wondering, do I say something to the boyfriend? I've talked to my sister but she doesn't listen, she just assumes all my words mean I hate her relationship and her. I think there's potential for mistakes, heartbreak and regrets on both their parts and I don't want that to happen. Should I talk to her boyfriend, tell him we don't hate him, we just have concerns?", "summary": "sister is really mean to her boyfriend; boyfriend wants to get married so they can have sex. I want to say something before this all blows up in their faces."}
{"id": "t3_3hqntl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by damaging my guitar while drowning my laptop", "post": "I was feeling pretty good, practising the solo of Smoke on the Water on 110% speed for my gig this weekend. While rocking I accidentally knocked over a large glass of water. 1/2 litre of waters on my laptop. I try to quickly flip the laptop while removing the battery before the whole thing short circuits. As the speakers of my laptop begin to sound as underwater speakers (blub blub blub goes the backing track) the guitar snaps loose from its strap and clashes on the floor. \n\nThe neck of my guitar now has a nasty rip/tear of about 15 cm and I do not know if my laptop will ever start.", "summary": "rocked water all over my laptop, destroyed my guitar in the panic which ensued "}
{"id": "t3_165gfv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it my Girlfriends place to tell her friend she is raising her daughter to be a loser?", "post": "So my on and off again girlfriend have one thing in common. We were both poor growing up her more so than I was. Her friend who had her daughter at 14 and for the major part of her life raised her by herself until she got married for 1 year to s long time friend and then divorced has at least accomplished the goal of keeping her sexually promiscous daughter on birth control.\nWhere my girlfriend takes excpetion is on the following issue.\nThe girl who is 16 \"lost\" her iphone 4S and demanded that she get an iphone5 as a replacement or else her \"rich kid\" friends would ostrocize her. But lets be real Leaside in Toronto Canada is more like a Middle Class Neighborhood where the families are two income and in mkst cases inherit the houses. Imho even if she was poor if they had a likeable personality she wouldn't be so caught up with kids who will alienate you for not having the latest thing.\nWhat my gf witnessed is that the mom went along with a plan to get a kid to pay up the difference for the newest phone for the daughter. To me this is a landmine my GF should say nothing. \nAlso getting a kid to give you a coupke of hundred just cause he happens to like this girl lets call her \"insecure teenager\" is just asking for drama. Hes 15y/o what happens if his parents finds out? \nAnd what about this girl? Is she being taught to use men and only value people on material wealth? Is this a white trash thing? \nIm an immigrant so although I was poor my rents encouraged me to treat people with dignity. My parents jobs also dealt with people with intelectual disabilities and battered women.\nMy Ex-gf=gf. Was raised by her grandparents so she was severely physically abused and had a certain level of candor instilled into her so I guess what Im wondering is How to encourage her to just avoid the topic altogether because its none of her business but also let her know that most people would also find it appaling that a 30 year old woman is encouraging her daughter who doesnt like this kid to take his money.", "summary": "homeless friend living with her friend witnessed her friend encourage her daughter to use a 15y/o boy for money. How do we avoid the landmine? How do we validate that most parents dont teach these set of values to their kids?"}
{"id": "t3_2jp68s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/m] slept with another girl, while still having a semi \"thing\" with my ex[20/F]. Need advice.", "post": "My ex and I dated for 3 years. Those 3 years were good, but near the end we started drifting apart. Along with that I made a decision to move to another city because of my academic pursuits. We decided to break up mutually. We had sex once last time and she said \"Last time.\" \n\nFast forward 3 months we are still talking and everything. Within this time I asked her if she wanted to pursue an LDR, she declined, said she likes the way things are. I'm thinking she just likes the freedom of talking to other guys. Or in particular, this one guy that was hitting on her during our relationship (She's told me she's hung out with him, but they aren't a thing). \n\nI went home for a weekend, last weekend. And went out with the bros, got super hammered, attempted to sleep with a girl (guy wouldn't awaken). I woke up feeling like a piece of shit(Not hungover wise). Even though we didn't have sex, I tried to do it. It's like I basically cheated.\n\nA few days later, I saw my ex. Now, I know this part is really stupid too but here it goes: We hung out, slept over, had sex. We talked about us, and said we said we still love each other. But, she doesn't want a long distance relationship and that we should stop talking in November. \n\nI feel extremely guilty about all of this. I don't know what to do. I know we're not in a relationship, but I still feel like we are. I'm sure my ex will hear about this.", "summary": "Mutual break up, moved cities. Never stopped talking. Wanted an LDR, but she didn't. Came back home. Slept with a girl(kind of), while still having a semi-thing with my ex. Don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_gh6ya", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lies on my performance report. Can reddit give me some career advice? (Teacher)", "post": "I am a Spanish teacher at a top-performing suburban school. Most Spanish programs that I have seen are woefully deficient, and have very low academic standards. So unlike some other teachers,I set up my grading policies so that the students actually have to demonstrate proficiency in the subject matter if they want to get an A or a B.\n\nUnfortunately this pissed off a few wealthy and powerful parents that didn't care if their kids learned any Spanish, but insisted that they have a high GPA.\n\nSo I went from being rated proficient across the board first semester to being rated unsatisfactory second semester. Around Christmas, my principal told me that there were concerns that I was giving too many assessments, pacing too fast, and not having a sufficient variety of activities (That is, games and parties.)\n\nHe told me to go over my pacing and policies with my department head and do whatever she asked me to do. I went over these things with her in detail and she told me that I was giving an appropriate number of assessments, and that my pacing and variety of activities was fine. In fact she said that I was being too easy on the kids.\n\nNow I find that I am being non-renewed (fired) for these very things that I was told were OK.\n\nMy principal told me that I could resign by Monday so that I would not be classified as being fired. I think that it is unlikely that he is trying to do me any favors. If I resign in lieu of non-renewal, it really doesn't make any difference that I know of to future prospective employers. Can you tell me what if any advantage a resignation would have for me? Or what I can possibly do to help my situation?  My department head is sympathetic, but completely unwilling to stick her neck out for me.", "summary": "My principal is trying to screw my career because I am striving for excellence instead of settling for sub-mediocrity. I can prove that much of the stuff on my evaluation is false or unfair, but the principal is basically god, and no one else cares."}
{"id": "t3_27bn96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with exchange student [21 F] having first \"Skype Date\" today, I'm very nervous", "post": "Hey guys, I've been posting about my situation with this girl Kaori here.\n\nKaori is an exchange student that came to Mexico to learn spanish, she works as a teacher. When I met her she had a boyfriend from Japan but the guy cheated on her and now they're not dating anymore.\n\nKaori had some issues weeks ago; all of her japanese friends left her to return to their countries, a mexican guy that was very kind to her asked her out and tried to do innapropiate things to her, and her family \"disowned\" her, so she pretty much can't go back to Japan but doesn't feels like Mexico is the place for her.\n\nShe's very shy arround males, however today pretty much for the first time ever she sent me a PM thru Facebook to tell me she really wants to Skype with me and get to know me more.\n\nI'm VERY nervous about this, she lives an hour away from my city and knowing she wants to speak makes my heart beat so fast and I start grinning like an idiot and having twitches on the left side of my upper lip (a nervous tic). I've had a girlfriend before but she pretty much did all the job of talking to me, since I'm very shy too.\n\nIDK how to talk or act, since I just feel I can't \"be myself\" since \"myself\" is so nervous and laughs at everything for no apparent reason... \n\nWe're paracticing conversation since she can barely speak spanish, but it seems it's the first time she talks to a guy thru Skype and she's nervous too so... IDK what to do", "summary": "First time I'm talking to my crush via Skype, makes me really nervous."}
{"id": "t3_2dqaxj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying 'Hi'.", "post": "Life is hard being a socially awkward teenager. \n\nI work at a restaurant, and there is this one girl I kinda like. We work different jobs there, but I do sometimes run into her in the back office. I barely talk to my colleagues, but I wanted to change this. So today, I was getting out of work, when she walks in to the back office. I tried to say hi, but I did not have something to drink during the last 3 hours of my shift, so all that came out was a sound similar to the sound an old man makes after running 10 miles. She looked at me kinda weird, and we had a stare-off for like 3 seconds, until she decided to leave. I walked to the exit just behind her, until I realized I had forgotten something. She must think I'm a fucking creep now... Thanks throat..", "summary": "Tried to say hi, seemed like a goddamn creep"}
{"id": "t3_51keev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] can't stop cutting. Boyfriend [32M] understandably pissed. [personal]", "post": "Throwaway, obviously.  Long and short of it, I'm addicted to cutting myself.  I have depression, anxiety, AHDH, PTSD, Tourette's, and chronic insomnia.  And yes all of those things have been diagnosed by doctors at least twice.  I'm not looking for attention, just a solution.\n\nI do not cut myself often.  Maybe once every few months.  The meds I'm on make me feel very flat so sometimes I just like the pain.  Other times (like tonight) it was just to relieve stress.  My boyfriend doesn't understand that it's less about hurting myself and more about satisfying an urge.  \n\nI'm not looking for people to tell me to see a professional.  I see a professional, I take my many meds as prescribed and I see a therapist.  \n\nJust... Are there other people out there addicted to cutting?   What are the alternatives?  I know this isn't healthy.  I need to stop and I'm looking for advice, any advice.  My therapist told me to try holding ice cubes but it doesn't work.  I'm not trying to hurt myself bad or get bad attention (I started cutting on my thigh so people wouldn't see) sometimes I just need it,  but I love my BF so much, I want to marry him.  But he, understandably, hates that I cut.\n\nI know I'm wrong, I know I shouldn't cut.  But it seriously can't help it.  The scars on me make me so ashamed because I know people see them, I see them looking.  I just need an alternative.  I love my boyfriend so much, I don't want him to think I'm a deranged lunatic\nWho needs a razor to the skin to function.  He's very supportive, and loving, but obviously he wants it to stop.  Who wouldn't?\n\nAnyone out there chronic cutters with good advice?  Thank you in advance.", "summary": "I love cutting myself, love of my life does not.  I need alternatives."}
{"id": "t3_103e7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I need your help with an over-protective mother.", "post": "I'm 17, and recently started seeing a 20 year old. We've become extremely close, and since I met him I've been much happier and more motivated to do well in other areas of my life. I already get good grades at a difficult school, play sports, and have never had problems with drinking or drugs. Our relationship is what keeps me balanced.\n\nMy parents have been divorced for several years, and I live with my dad nearly full time. My mother is a bit over-protective, so I anticipated some difficulty, but not like this. She thinks that the age difference is too great for somebody my age, and doesn't want me to date him. This, I understand; it's her prerogative to be concerned. It can be worked around. The real problem is that she is now trying to attack my dad legally for being a bad parent, neglecting my safety, etc. On top of this, she refuses to talk to me about how we can compromise, just insists that this is in my best interest in the long run. \n\nI've been looking for articles about how being in a stable, loving relationship is healthy for young adults (articles seem to be the best way to get through to her), but I can't find many that address the pros of teenage relationships. What I really need is to convince her that this is a healthy thing, something that falls in line with her need to 'shape me into a good young lady'.\n\nAny ideas?\n\nNote: \"you're 17, you're too young to be dating, just enjoy life and don't feel like you need to be with somebody...\" Yes, yes I know. This boy fell right out of the fucking sky, and I care about him and trust him more than almost anybody. I'm not going to give up on this just because of some age/family issues.", "summary": "my mother won't support me dating a guy 3 years my senior, is now legally attacking my dad because of it. I need to convince her that relationships like this can be healthy and good, I need her support in this."}
{"id": "t3_171byh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate's boyfriend never leaves, but its more complex than it seems. Please help!", "post": "I live with some college girlfriends in a small city in a very old home. I pay rent, utilities, (which include water, gas, heat, cable, internet, etc) and my own foodstuffs since I'm on a specific diet. I have known this girl for 5 years, and she has a boyfriend that NEVER leaves. It's not like he's a typical mid twenties burnout either - he's a teacher in a great school district, makes good money, and has his own place sans roommates less than two city blocks away. \n\nBasically, he is always here. Never leaves for more than his workdays and to pick up clean clothes from his place. He literally lives here, showering, cooking, doing laundry, and hanging out in the common areas even when his girlfriend isn't here. PLus, they have loud sex every night, which doesn't really bug me, but its getting a little annoying when you have early mornings and you are awoken to a slamming headboard at 2am every night...\n\nHere is the real problem though. Many other sites that address this problem suggest that the boyfriend should chip in with rent and/or utilities. Here is the kicker - the roommate doesn't pay rent since its her fathers place. She has a joint bank account with her Dad (who is my landlord) to which she pays me the utilities that are in my name. She is a new grad and unemployed, so I know she isn't paying rent with her own money.\n\nMyself and the third roommate are getting seriously frustrated. We both work hard at out entry level jobs to make ends meet, plus the work in maintaing the house. I basically feel like I am financing their love nest, and I'm sick of it. \n\nSorry that was so long, I feel much better getting all that out.", "summary": "Roommates boyfriend never leaves but roommates Dad is my landlord. How do I get them to spend more time at their place or have him pitch up with the cost of maintaining the house?as"}
{"id": "t3_3c0grc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Missing a suitable excuse to see my[20M] long distance girlfriend[20F]", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit for this...\nSo my girlfriend is in our home town at the moment and I'll be traveling there to see her. We both haven't told our parents about our relationship, we have talked about this so we're both comfortable with it. My parents would react extremely surprised and would immediately want to know everything about her and meet her the same day.\n\nI need a car from my parents for the whole day to see her and really need an excuse firstly why I'm in town altogether and secondly why I need a car the whole day... Can you think of an excuse that might work? I still have friends there if that helps.", "summary": "I need an excuse for my parents to use their car and see my girlfriend a whole day without them knowing I'm seeing her."}
{"id": "t3_25uu21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my [25F] 5 dates, Girlfriend sent me an article, I came here asking for advice, got abused, but solved it on my own no thanks to the abuse.", "post": "**Original statement that chummed the waters here:** It sucks, a consequence of being wronged is being angry. Which interferes with happiness and peace of mind. It can lead to hatred or dislike which prevents bridging a gap. I hope you don't get mad at me for saying that. It's letting the person who wronged you hurt you even more, limiting who you can be. Defining you by your reaction.\n    \n**Followup statement that cleared it up with her:**  \nHey, I responded from my own experience and what I have learned is needed to be happy. If you disagree with my viewpoint let me know and help me to understand yours. We have different experiences and I won't naturally understand your perspective. I feel like I upset you and I am sorry if I did.   \nHope you had a fun night with your friends.\nI was responding to the article which came across as very angry to me.\n\n    \n* Contrary to many assertions she is not angry and we are still together. Thanks for the abuse. /s", "summary": "r/relationships isn't always friendly or helpful."}
{"id": "t3_3qz8rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) now ex boyfriend (25m) spent months lying to me and telling me I had psychological disorders but I still love him", "post": "My boyfriend of 14 months (who I also live with) broke up with me last night.  I found out that he had stopped loving me a while ago and no longer thought our relationship was worth working on.  However, he had been hugging me and kissing me and telling me he loved me up until an hour before we broke up with no care to the fact that in reality/in his head, none of that was true.  \n\nWe have been having issues for a few months and trying desperately to work them out (I've done literally everything I could think of to make him happy and be the girl he wants).  He kept telling me nearly every day, a new thing that I was doing that 'wasn't working for him' so I would change that and work on that and he'd still tell me he loved me but it wasn't true.  He is a clinical psych MA student (not licensed, hasn't finished his degree) and kept trying to diagnose me with borderline personality disorders and blaming me for his unhappiness.  I asked my psychologist (licensed, degreed, etc) and he said it has literally never occurred to him that I might have BPD.\n\nBut I still love my boyfriend, now ex boyfriend (and typing that is breaking me).  I feel the worst mix of loving him and hoping he will change his mind and anger at how terribly he treated me.  I feel unable to survive this.  I'm sure this is the wrong place to come to for help but I just need some advice or support or someone to just call him an asshole for me.", "summary": "Ex boyfriend lied and treated me like shit, still love him though"}
{"id": "t3_1izgd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "General question: What are some reasons why a friendship may not translate into a successful relationship, and how can you transition back into friendship after a failed romance?", "post": "This is just a general question about either your personal experiences or opinions. Lots of people say it's good to be friends with your SO before you become partners, but obviously not every friendship can translate into a successful relationship. Assuming two friends try the dating thing, what are some reasons why they might not work as a couple? And if the relationship fails, how can those people transition back into a platonic friendship?\n\nIt should be noted that I'm not asking for advice, so there's no need to suggest ways to date my friend or anything like that. I'm just curious to hear your stories!", "summary": "What factors make some friendships fail as relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_xjxph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I HATE cuddling. SO loves it. Help?", "post": "Myself, 20, him 21. Been together for over a year now. We're mainly a LDR couple so we don't spend many nights together. But when we are together, he's like an over-affectionate kitten. He wants to cuddle when we watch TV, he wants to cuddle when we go out to dinner, he wants to cuddle when we go to sleep, he wants to cuddle after sex, I think you get the point by now. \n\nI have never been a cuddler. I can stand it for about, five minutes tops, before I cramp up, get uncomfortable, or start sweating. I've tried readjusting myself, but that usually ends with me elbowing him or making myself even more uncomfortable. I've brought this up before, and we will cuddle less, or on my terms for a couple days, and then the next time I see him, it's right back to where we began. I don't like bringing it up, because it makes me feel cold and unloving, and I know it hurts him that I'm not a cuddler.\n\n This is significantly worse when we try and go to bed. He basically drapes himself over me, even though I've told him very frankly, 'Honey, I love you, but please don't fucking touch me when I'm trying to sleep', I have a difficult time getting to sleep as it is, and gently pushing him off of me every ten minutes doesn't help. \n\nAnd the sweat! I'm not one who sweats a lot, but after prolonged skin on skin contact, I'm a puddle. It's uncomfortable. \n\nWhat can I do about this? How do I sweat less during cuddletimes? How can I tell him in a not cold hearted ice queen sort of way?", "summary": "I hate cuddling, SO loves it, I sweat too much"}
{"id": "t3_404nyw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I want things to fall apart so I can finally change.", "post": "I'm at a top ranked graduate school, doing better than I ever have academically and making friends- yet I'm miserable.\n\n I've been in the middle of an eight month eating disorder relapse. One failed treatment episode over the summer. Three different therapists. Three different dieticians. Two different doctors. I know it's not all them but I feel like nobody in these teeny town knows how to deal with me. Feeling frusturated and hopeless. Had recovery before but can't seem to get back to it.\n\nIn the past, my entire life has been completely unmanageable when I'm struggling and this is not happening this time; this concerns me as that was always a catalyst for change.", "summary": "successful\" yet cannot kick eating disorder despite multiple treatments."}
{"id": "t3_54i2x9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my _Friend__ [23 F] 2 years of something confusing", "post": "These past couple of years I had it very rough when it came to socializing and being happy. Well, friends kinda used some drugs and I was left alone for a while I later found out...but, before that....\n\nI started to stay away from it as I lost confidence, had low self esteem,etc. I eventually and mutually met someone. I was shy but she was outgoing so I guess it evened out somehow.Asked me alot about myself and it felt good. We were going to be meeting more often so next time....when that came she randomly came over and hugged me and introduced me to some friends. We talked for a bit,said she was a bit concerned with her apperance and then she blurts out...let me give you my number, we will get lunch soon which we did. Went well. \n\nI bonded with her more and more as I saw her, got a random selfie with her which was odd, but also was called sweet for a thank you I gave her. \n\nNow there was times she was very rude or inconsiderate. She is known by others to be immature but I look past that most of the time as she did help me out. \n\nThe weirdest event was her kinda following me. I was going to a game with friends and invited her and her friends like a week in advance. Gave her a heads up and she said she was busy, so I left it at that. I go to the game and was walking around and look down and saw her and all her friends. Okay someone else could have had an idea to go but come on that was a bit weird that she showed up then and there when she basically said no. \n\nI dont want to go into too much detail to things unless needed but I didnt know if I was being played here or she liked me or it was her personality or I dont even know what. I personally grew to like her but have not seen her in a while for certain reasons.", "summary": "Met somebody for them to be nice, and rude and curious all at the same time and dont know what I should do now"}
{"id": "t3_17wnni", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has screen-sharing been throttled on Skype and are there alternatives?", "post": "Hello friends!\n\nI am in a long distance relationship and as such Skype has been a major boon to the quality of our lives. This has been downgraded somewhat recently.\n\nMe and my girlfriend would screen-share so we could enjoy movies and episodes together. It might not seem like much but we cherished the ability. I subscribed to the Skype service solely to keep that for us. \n\nSome time ago screen-sharing just stopped being able to cope with running video. I think this was around the time Microsoft acquired Skype although I'm not sure. This is confounding since both of us still enjoy good web connections and use high definition webcams that stream very well under normal conditions. \n\nFurthermore we have discovered that if we screen-share for any reason our call is seemingly throttled and we have to recall to regain quality.\n\nI have googled this to no avail and I was wondering if anybody has any knowledge about this situation and/or knows a working alternative?", "summary": "Is the Skype screen-sharing service throttled now and are there alternatives for watching video together over the internet? Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_2msoub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M20) don't know of SO (F19) of 4 years is being fair.", "post": "A few months ago, we had a pretty big argument. She was upset over it, and I asked her repeatedly if there was anything that I could do to help. She said that she was fine and during the week we had tons of fun so I genuinely believed she was fine. The next few days she messaged me telling me that she's horribly sad, and that she can't believe that I let her feel sad when we were together. \n(Oh! Quick note, she lives in a college a few hours away, and comes to visit every other weekend along with her best friend.) \nNow, this isn't the first time she gas done this, this happens weekly, where she does not communicate clearly how she's feeling and what she wants me to do, then she explodes on me. \nI was furious that she would have the nerve to tell me that I didn't try to make her feel better when I had at one point begged for her to tell me how she was really feeling, so I ended things with her compulsively (over text, so a total dick move on my part). She then called me a few seconds later telling me she was sorry and that she was wrong. I told her that I made a super compulsive decision when I \"ended things\" and that I was sorry and didn't mean it at all. That I just acted without thinking.\nEverything was fine and dandy, until recently.\n This is the problem:\nNow she's telling me that she is VERY sad because I broke up with her (even after I apologized to her for doing so, and practically begged her to believe that I didn't mean it) and she says that she is feeling insecure about the relationship because I had \"ended things.\" She wants me to make it up to her by doing this grand gesture for her as a way of showing her that I really do love her (which I do) and to make her secure of this relationship. She wants me to make her feel better. And she's very upset that I have not done it yet.\n\nIs that fair of her? I don't understand how it could be, but maybe I'm wrong. And what can I do to solve this issue?", "summary": "GF is sad that I broke up (not really) with her, and now wants me to make her feel secure about the relationship again by a grand gesture."}
{"id": "t3_y2663", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] Gf doesn't think I put an effort into spending time with her.", "post": "Ok here is an update of a post I made yesterday. \n\nI'm 27 and she is 28.  We've been together 2 1/2 yrs. and we live together.\n\nYesterday she got mad at me over the phone for not wanting to go to the beach the next day (she was on a lunch break). After we hung up she texted me and said I never try to spend time with her. I apologized and said let's go. She said she was over it and will go with friends. \n\nAfter that she texts me and says she is going out after work with friends and wont be home until late. She also said she can't go to my friends wedding next week. \n\nShe doesn't come home  till midnight last night and when she walks in she doesn't speak to me and proceeds to watch tv in the living room and then she slept on the couch. \n\nIn the morning I wake and she is in the bed. I try to hug her but she pushes me away and says  nothing. I fall back asleep. When I wake up again she is in the living watching tv. I say good morning and she doesn't reply back. \n\nNow I'm in the bedroom and she is on the couch watching tv. I don't want to fight with her but I want us to talk out the situation.\n\nI don't know what to do reddit. Is this acceptable for a partner to be like this? Should I talk to her?", "summary": "Gf got mad at me yesterday for not wanting to go to the beach. She has ignored since then and we live together."}
{"id": "t3_4alii9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flooding my classroom and forcing my entire class outside for 2 weeks.", "post": "Okay so to start things off this didn't happen today, more like 12 years ago. \n\nSo I went to a small country primary school in Ireland. We had maybe 200 students total, if even that and my class (6th class, highest grade in the school, we were all roughly 12) shared a room with 5th class. The school is just outside of a small town and on rare occasions the water would turn off completely. This has only happened maybe twice while I was at the school.\n\nOne day the water went, towards the end of the school day. We had PE outside at the end of the day and afterwards some of us stayed playing until we were getting picked up. I went in to get my stuff before going home and went to wash my hands. Turned the tap on but nothing came out. At this stage the school was basically empty and the teachers were gone home. I didn't notice that the plug was in the sink and didnt think to turn the tap off again as there was no water coming out.\n\nShoot forward to the following morning and the room is completely flooded. The room is about 90% carpet so that is completely soaked and starting to stink. Its early june at this point and while I know Irish weather gets a bad rep it was a nice summer. We had to spend the last 2 weeks of school outside (literally no there room in the school for us) and while we did do some actual work we mostly got to play. We had taken our exams for secondary school already so there was nothing to study for. \n\nI never told anyone it was me but I knew immediately that I had done it. I spose it worked out for me but I know it probably cost the school a good bit of money seeing as it was a small school. Principal also took the blame for it cause she used to check to make sure the taps were off to avoid this. Felt bad for her but it was pretty good for me.", "summary": "Flooded my school when I was 12, had to spend 2 weeks outside, teacher/principal took the blame for it and cost the school some money but I was never found out."}
{"id": "t3_3cm29c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] sister [20F] got engaged 4 months after I did, am I wrong for being upset?", "post": "My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years and lived together all through their 2 years of college (canada), and my fiancee and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. We got engaged 4 months ago after living together for 1 year. My sister brought it up to me that she wanted to know if I had any problems with her getting engaged since I just got engaged, at first I told her I was happy for her and then before it happened I told her I'm mad about it because I feel like they are going to take away our moment and showing off our engagement. When I told her I was mad she apologized and said there is nothing she can really do and that she doesn't want to or plan on taking away from their our engagement, but i'm still upset and feel like they only got engaged to one up us and because we got engaged.\n\nAm I in the wrong for being upset about it or is she being a terrible sister?", "summary": "My sister and her boyfriend[20M] got engaged 4 months after my fiancee[21F] and I did, and I'm not happy about it."}
{"id": "t3_f8x9a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell my professors that I missed two weeks of class because I was going through opiate withdrawal?", "post": "From sometime in October until just before school started up again two weeks ago I was hooked on pain killers. I started with morphine and eventually got to a point where I was doing almost any opiate I could get my hands on, with the notable exception of heroin. \n\nI made the decision to stop after the holiday break because I saw how my world was falling apart: my grades dropped, I became a farcical character in my social circles (became \"that guy who's always high\"), and I had a couple close calls with the police.  These, among other reasons, prompted my family to tell me how worried they were about me, so I decided I could just go cold turkey and it would not affect my studies too much.\n\nWrong.  I have missed almost every class since two weeks ago, with little to no contact with any professors.  The few classes I did attend I went a sweaty, detached mess of a man.  My problem now is that I need to pass these classes, preferably with decent grades.  This is my last semester and I really want to be done.  \n\nSo, I come to you, Reddit, with the hope that some one out there can point me in the right direction, so I might get my shit together. I don't really know how to approach anyone about this in person, and I'm absolutely terrified of facing my peers and my instructors. Also, to the best of knowledge there is nobody, including parents, friends, etc., that knows the full extent of my problem.\n\nIdeas?", "summary": "I started started getting fucked up, I quit getting fucked up. Now I need advice on how to tell my professors so I can get my shit together.  Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4nvckn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] seem to be getting rejected from my class in school?", "post": "So I'm in media studies in school, at the moment we are making a short film. Not to bad right?\n\nExcept, my class seems to exclude me from everything, this ranges from conversations, group projects, stating my opinion etc.\n\nWe recently got a new student in our class, he has been in our class for 2 days and everybody is being extraordinarily nice and polite to him. Half of the groups who are making a short film are asking if he can help out with acting in it. One group couldn't film for a week because they needed 1 extra person, yet they never asked me or even considered it. I feel extremely lonely in class, besides the teacher talking and giving me ideas now and then.\n\nI just want to know why nobody seems to like me, is their something wrong with me? Is it my fault? Why am I the one being treated like rubbish? I'm genuinely a nice guy with a humorous personality.", "summary": "I get rejected in class and don't know why, any tips on how I can change this would be great."}
{"id": "t3_33grvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [23M] angry at me [21F] because I sat on my brother's [25M] lap. Thinks my brother wants to have sex with me.", "post": "If you think this sounds crazy you're not alone. Let me explain.\n\nYesterday my brother's girlfriend had a promotion and they invited us to have dinner and celebrate. When we (bf and I) arrived at the restaurant my brother and his girlfriend were there, sitting in chairs waiting to be seated inside. There was no other chair and I was wearing heels and was a little uncomfortable so my brother offered me his chair but I just told him not to be silly and sat on his lap for maybe 2-3 minutes until our table was ready. That was it.\n\nWhen we got home my boyfriend basically \"confronted\" me about what I did and said it was a stupid thing to do. He explained that things like this might cause my brother to develop a sexual interest towards me and it's not good. I think it's nonsense of course. He actually said that he could feel my brother getting hard or something (how? I have no idea). He says that in general I should act less slutty with my brother. I asked him to make some examples of my slutty behavior but he said general things (no specifics). I wasn't in the mood to argue so I just said whatever. This morning he talked about this again and I get the feeling he's not gonna let this drop. I literally have no idea where this is coming from.", "summary": "Boyfriend says I act slutty around my brother and this will cause him to be sexually attracted to me."}
{"id": "t3_wptzu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm currently in a 2 YEAR VOLUNTARY dry spell because of my now ex-girlfriend and stupid reasoning, what are your \"are you freaking kidding me\" moments?", "post": "Reddit, I started dating this chick freshman year of college and we kept dating all four years. However at the end of sophomore year, she got accepted into some over seas program that's going to keep her out of the US for 2 years, which I thought sucked, but was still pretty awesome for her. Before she leaves I ask her if we should stay together, or breakup since we wouldn't see each other for two years. So she wants to stay together, so i figured it would be super tough but still doable. So while shes gone we talk pretty much every day with skype and everything and everything seems to be going great. \n\nThen at the end of senior year we both graduate and shes coming back to the US. We hang out right when she gets home, i picked her up at the airport because she landed ridiculously early in the morning and her parents have work. So i take her out to some diner for breakfast where she tells me that she \"hasn't been very faithful.\" I ask her to explain because that clearly doesn't sound good, and what she said pretty much boiled down to she's been sleeping with dudes the whole time, starting about a MONTH after she left the US. \n\nI asked her why she choose not to tell me about that, and she said that she felt like she needed to tell me in person, and that Skype or a letter was too impersonal.... Are you kidding me?\n\nNow I have an hour car home with her, which was understandably silent. One of the first things I thought of, not the first, but certainly up there, was that I haven't had sex in two years. I was voluntarily celibate for two years because I'm an idiot. I'm not really mad at her over the boning, I get why she did it because i really fucking wanted to, but still ridiculous that she didn't tell me because of that retarded reason.", "summary": "GF of 2 years goes over seas, we keep dating for 2 years, she bones a bunch of dudes, while I go sexless my junior and senior year of college. She doesn't tell me for 2 years until I see her again in person because it would have been too impersonal otherwise. Fucking really?"}
{"id": "t3_25p3yq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18f. Am I going insane? Are my relationship expectations too high?", "post": "I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to \"marginalize his friendships.\" When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. \n\nIt's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions.", "summary": "I don't want SO to have contact with ex's and all the men I have met find this to be controlling. Am I wrong for wanting what I want?"}
{"id": "t3_2ue32v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being curious", "post": "I was driving to my SO's house when there was an unusually large amount of traffic during this one stretch of the highway. I Finally get to the area where I see police lights, and there's about 7 sheriff vehicles parked along the shoulder, but I don't notice any city police or highway patrol, nor were there any civilian vehicles which I thought was pretty odd, and I'm thinking hmm must not be an accident I wonder what the fuck is going on. Some time passes and I'm finally at the point in which I'm parallel to the main amount of police activity so I decide to look over because I'm curious as fuck. I really want to know what the fuck all this bullshit is about...and then I see it just laying on the ground uncovered, no tarp or nothing over it. There is a fucking body, a fucking dead human body lying in plain sight. Clear bag around it's head. Presumably dumped on the side of the fucking highway in what must have been broad daylight based on the fact that the body was still there and wasn't even fucking covered up. Like that fucking teaches me to never rubberneck again.", "summary": "saw a dead body, presumably from murder."}
{"id": "t3_3kga4r", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "(M) Kinda new to having a female friend...", "post": "-Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit but I figured it was a good place to start-\n\nSo I just started my college career (woo) and one thing I'm not sure about is female friends. I had friends who were girls in high school, but all of my REALLY close friends were guys. I'm on a co-ed floor, and I'm getting pretty close to a girl who lives near me. I have a girlfriend (goes to a different school) and she knows that, so she knows that I'm not interested in more than a friendship (I would hope), but I'm really interested in being close friends. However I'm not really sure what I can/can't do with a close friend who happens to be a girl... Like if I went to get food with a close guy friend or took a bus from campus to a store to get something with a guy friend it wouldn't be weird, but are there some things you don't do with a friend who's a girl that you'd do with a friend who's a guy?\nThanks for the help, I don't wanna like lead her on or something that would ruin a friendship because I really would like to be friends with her.", "summary": "I just started college and am currently getting close with a girl who I only wanna be friends with (I have a gf), how do I not fuck it up by making it weird."}
{"id": "t3_1prvzc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "So I have this friend...[M]", "post": "One of my best friends, lets call him Greg, has a routine. Once he meets someone he wants to be friends with he ditches all his current friends and becomes best friends with the new guy. \n\nAfter about a month, Greg comes back to his old friends with the new friend and integrates him in to our little group. Everything is great; everybody is friends. \n\nBut after a while, Greg stops being as close with new friend in order to make the new friend, say Allen, feel like he messed up and lost his chance to be friends with Greg. Allen is mad and acts like a dick to Greg and Greg does it back. After a while, Allen decides to stop being friends with Greg, but that would mean losing all his new friends who he met through Greg, who he likes better than Greg anyway.\n\nUnfortunately, all of Greg's friends are on Greg's side because he put them though the \"best friend\" routine too and they have turned in to his brown-nosing army. \n\nAllen can either apologize and keep his friends, but be caught in Greg's manipulative trap again, leading to the same outcome or stop being friends with all of them.\n\nWhat should Allen do?", "summary": "I have a friend who is a selfish manipulative sociopath and a pathological lair who turns his friends in to dick-sucking monkeys"}
{"id": "t3_2u4dlj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27m) relationship questions!", "post": "Hi reddit. I have been doing a lot of self reflection lately, having just come out of a 1.5yr relationship 2 months ago. \n\nThere's something about myself I developed during this relationship that I don't like and I think it's unhealthy. It's hard to explain but I became very attached to this person, so much so that I would get very anxious when they were away from me. It made me uneasy when ever she was out or away. I kept thinking she would meet someone else. I felt as though she is wasn't really interested in me, and I would do things to make her jealous. \n\nI had really high self esteem going into the relationship, but it got lower and lower during my time with her. It felt as though she always kept me at an arms length, saying she has to maintain her independence. She kept secrets, and didn't really communicate to me. She would flirt with other guys. When I told her my feelings that I don't appreciate that, she said that she can do what ever she wants that she's a grown woman. \n\nIt's confusing me because with my ex-ex-gf, it was different. I loved when she would go away and I had time to myself. I missed her still, but it wasn't crippling and playing on my mind all the time. I could still relax and look forward to having her come home. \n\nCan anyone identify what is going on here? I don't want this to carry on into future relationships. Any more info needed or questions I'll be  sure to answer! Thanks", "summary": "I would enter a state of anxiety when apart from my ex. Very unhealthy. What can I do to not carry this over into future relationships."}
{"id": "t3_3gmdxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Still \"hanging out\" with my ex [20M] 7 months after our breakup?", "post": "My [18F] ex boyfriend [20M] and I have this incredibly weird \"thing\" going on, if that's even the right word for it. Back 7 months ago when he dumped me, I completely lost my mind and was obsessed with getting him back. He was kind enough to keep seeing me after we broke up, trying to console me I guess and thought that if we stayed friends, the breakup would be easier on me. \n\nWell, after awhile, it just turned into us being friends with benefits. We still act like we are dating, still say \"I love you\" to each other, still sleep together, but we have not gotten back together yet. At this point, I can't tell who is using who and when it will all come to an end. \n\nDespite the games he plays (not texting me back sometimes for an entire week, occasionally talking about us being together again, but then hinting to me that he's been with other girls and is looking for a new girlfriend that isn't me), I still love him so much. I know what we have right now is incredibly unhealthy, but I can't seem to stop seeing him. It's been going on for so long now that it's starting to feel normal to me. \n\nHas anyone else ever had this happen? A relationship that - even after the breakup - isn't really over? I'm at a loss with how to end things, and I'm not even sure I really want to.", "summary": "My ex boyfriend and I still act like we are together even after breaking up awhile ago. Sometimes he leads me on to believe we have a future, and others, he's distant and seems like he wants nothing to do with me. Could use any advice at all!"}
{"id": "t3_15mi7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My introverted boyfriend (25m) is constantly making me (22f) feel guilty for wanting to spend time with him.", "post": "I feel I owe it to those who responded to the original post to give an update... the original thread is [here] \n\nSo after considering all of your advice, which was truly insightful (even the leave him comments), I found some courage and spoke to him..  I made it known to him how *I* was feeling rather than what *he made me* feel. \n\nHe was completely shocked and upset to find out that I was feeling guilty, needy and unstable when I looked to him for communication. He said it was never his intention to hurt me that way. What he explained to me was that he doesn't want me to become a chameleon of sorts, that he didn't want me to lose a sense of myself just because I am his girlfriend. He is aware that I have insecurities, and that I am not the sum of my insecurities. The whole 'communication' thing is his way of letting me be independent because when he first met me that's what I was. And that's what he found attractive about me. \n\nI am aware I can lose a sense of myself when I am involved with someone else. When I left my ex of three years 13 months ago I realised I was the female version of him, that I had lost all sense of who I really was. It took me the best part of a year to find myself again, and that's who my current boyfriend fell for. So really, this is a lesson for me to not fall into my old ways. My current boyfriend said he would not like to date a female version of himself. That, to me, is the most reassuring/nicest thing anyone's ever said. Instead of \"fitting\" to him, the way I am already is perfect enough. \n\nBack to the communication thing, I told him I did need more communication, that although I understood what he told me I still felt some communication everyday is needed. He said he'd do that for me, if I stayed true to myself. It was a compromise. My first compromise with a man. And it feels right.", "summary": "we compromised... I will stay true to who I am and he will be more communicative with me"}
{"id": "t3_1skudx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my ex gf [18F] have just broken up and I need some reassurance", "post": "Will start with a little back story:\n\nI had been with my gf for a little over a year, and it has honestly been one of the happiest years of my life. My gf adored me and made me so happy. I moved away to university in September whilst my gf stayed at home and we've seen each other semi-regularly since I've been away.\n\nSince I moved away however it has felt different. Don't get me wrong, the amount I love and cared for her hasn't changed, but I have been beginning to feel that I am not ready for a serious relationship at my age. There are many things that I would like to do whilst I am still young that I couldn't do with a serious gf and I was beginning to not be able to be the bf I wanted to be for her because my heart wasn't 100% in it. It had gotten to the stage where I just knew I had to end it because I was, and have been for a while, staying with her to avoid upsetting her, as opposed to it being what I truly wanted which are not the right reasons to be in a relationship.\n\nI know that my gf is completely crushed. She straight away blocked me on social networks and now I am scared she will never talk to me again. I know I have really hurt her, but I want nothing more than to remain friends with her eventually, but the hurt I know I have caused kills me inside, even though I feel I have made the right decision because I wanted it to end on good terms (well terms that weren't fighting terribly etc.), I still feel like shit because of what I know I have done to her.\n\nI am just looking for some reassurance that my gf will be okay from people that have maybe been in similar situations themselves, because right now I feel like a terrible person and it's horrible.\n\nSorry if this message isn't the best written, but thank you for reading if you've gotten this far.", "summary": "Broke up with gf, I have crushed her, need reassurance that she'll eventually be okay because I feel like an awful person."}
{"id": "t3_1m7hax", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping my phone", "post": "So a two weeks ago a friend and I had this awesome idea to go to the local pub and split a bottle of Jack Daniels. Midnight comes around, the bottle's empty, we're shitfaced drunk. The pub is about to close so like any sensible drunk would do, we went searching for another one. Along the way i had some destructive urges that needed to be fulfilled, bending over some aluminium signs in front of the local store settled that. By the time we got to the next pub i was so drunk i couldn't stand up, let alone walk in a straight line, so my mate calls my partner who kindly picks me up and drives my drunk ass home. Morning comes around and where the fuck is my phone? Couple of days later i get a call from local law enforcement who have somehow retrieved my phone. When i go to pick it up i get asked why my phone is sitting underneath some destroyed signs. I'm no liar so fessed up and will get just a warning once i pay for the signs to be repaired. I'm an idiot", "summary": "Got drunk, smashed some shit, accidentally left trail of breadcrumbs for police to find me."}
{"id": "t3_18eekf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22f] break up with my long distance boyfriend [26m] before or after Valentine's?", "post": "We've been dating for a little less than a year, on and off, and have been FWB for two.  Have broken up once before, got back together at Thanksgiving.  We don't have plans to see each other on V-day - he'll be working all day, and lives a 12 hour drive away, and I have to work this weekend.  I told him I would drive up next weekend, and he is planning our \"V-day\" already.  I am certain that I want to end the relationship; however, he does genuinely care about me/love me and I want to minimize the damage.  Would it be better to get it out of the way now, via Skype, or should I drive up next weekend and then tell him? I'm worried that it will be worse if I come up, he's planned a great V-day event, and I ruin his weekend.  Is it a dick move to end it via skype?  I know the timing is terrible, but I really don't want to hold out, miserably, for another month just because of a Hallmark holiday.", "summary": "Should I break up with my long distance boyfriend via Skype before I drive up for a planned V-day weekend, or in person after coming up?"}
{"id": "t3_ku73k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What minor decisions have you made that you could have just as easily gone in a different direction and completely changed your life?", "post": "When I was 22 I had just gotten out of the military and was looking for work. In the end, my choices were either Gamestop, or a CSR at a cable company. I chose the CSR job because while it looked like more fun, it paid slightly less. Looking back now (6 years later) I realize that had I taken the Gamestop job, my entire life would be different. I'd have gone to college (I wound up dropping out several times, and haven't gone back), entered the job market, wouldn't live in Manhattan, would make way less money, wouldn't have met my (now ex) girlfriend, wouldn't have any of the friends that I have now. But instead, I wound up working my way up through the cable company from CSR to Engineer (think sys-admin, not pole-monkey) and ~17 months ago left for my dream job, working at a cable technology startup. At the time, it was just a \"Meh, I guess that extra $1.50/hr would be nice\", but now, it's the basis for my entire career.", "summary": "Picked a job when I was 22 mostly on a whim, and now 6 years later, all of my success is built on that one shitty CSR  job I started out on. How about you. What minor choice could have made you a completely different person?"}
{"id": "t3_47y2gt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (28) of almost 2 years told me (24f)he just feels empty about us last night and I left to give him some space. What do I say to him when he comes back?", "post": "As far as I could tell, we had a great relationship! Last week, he suddenly sprung upon me that he was feeling down; all week I tried to cheer him up by making sure he didn't have to worry about chores, cooking etc. \n\nLast night, he told me that the problem was with us. That he felt 'empty' inside when he thought of us. After going out for almost 2 years and living together for 8 months, this came as a huge shock. After tears from me I decided to leave, to give him some space. I came back home today and he's gone - told me he's at his sisters and will come back tomorrow morning. \n\nI'm distraught, and I can't figure out what to say to him when he comes home. I've moved across the country, and gave up a job I love for him. I don't understand what's gone wrong, and I think there's more to it, but he won't communicate with me. What do I say to him tomorrow? How do I get a resolution? How can I survive being on a break, if that's what he says he needs? \n\nI want to fight for us, but not if he doesn't want me to. He can't tell me what he wants.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have gone on a break. He comes home tomorrow,  what do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_o2vo1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So...the month of December was pretty much a giant middle finger to my progress so far. Time to pick up where I left off!", "post": "This is my first post here so I'll fill you in on my story so far:\n\n5'10\", male, 23 years old, currently 173 lbs (in the normal range, but I've still got more fat to lose to reach my goal).\n\nAt my heaviest I was 235 (in 2008) which I slowly brought down to 200 by July of 2011. From August to November I got more serious with my diet and exercise and got down to 165.\n\nThen came December:\n\nFinal exam season hit, and along with it came copious amounts of coffee, energy drinks, and general bad eating habits as well as lack of exercise. However, I was alright with relaxing my diet as I was stressed about exams enough already.\n\nThen exams finished and I went home for Christmas, where my mom had a fridge full of terribly delicious foods and snacks. Chocolates and candy were everywhere for guests (and me, apparently.) \n\nCombine that with seeing friends from home and drinking every other night, eating out most of those nights (and not making sensible choices, no less!), plus Christmas parties, Christmas dinner, New Years Eve party, etc. \n\nLong story short, 8 pounds gained. In one freakin month!\n\nThat's pretty much a whole month's progress. Gone. Not to mention the wasted month that I could have used to lose ANOTHER 8 pounds. I'm so frustrated with myself that I let it get that bad.\n\nBut I've now moved back to my place, where I have control over my grocery list, and I'm getting back on track. The chicken and vegetables are back on my list of staple foods, and its goodbye to all the sugary, processed, or deep-fried garbage that I inhaled last month. \n\nThanks for being here loseit! You guys are what make it possible to say no to my previously unhealthy lifestyle and strive for a better life :) Wish me luck!", "summary": "December was a perfect storm of events in my life that I used as excuses to eat/live like garbage. Now all temptations are gone and its time to lose it again!"}
{"id": "t3_30ooqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By looking at my GPS.", "post": "So I was driving to Upstate NY to help my SO move some of her deceased grandmother's possessions home. I had just driven from CA to VA without an incident. I was 13 minutes from my destination. A police officer was passing me as I looked at my GPS, which is on my phone, which was resting on my knee. He pulls me over. Mind you I was going the exact speed limit in the right most lane. \n\nTurns out that in the state of NY, I dont live there and I have obonly been there like 2 times prior, that driving while holding an electronic device of any type is illegal. So he takes my license and does a check in his car. It takes forever for him to do the lookup. While he was doing the lookup another officer pulls in behind him.\n\nI have watched cops before. It is never a good sign when backup arrives. I am thinking that I have some hidden parking ticket or warrant. Great I think,  as I soil my pants just a little. The officer comes back up to my window. He hands me my license and apologizes that he is force to give me a ticket. He is nice enough to give me the DA's number and lets me use his pen, so long as I dont stab him in the neck with it. I asked if it would get me out of the ticket, had I stabbed him in the neck. He said no. \n\nI thanked the officer and asked if I were allowed to drive while holding printed instructions. He informed me thst in NY, at least, I could be drinking coffee, smoking a cigarette, eating breakfast, and read the Sunday paper. I just needed to keep one hand on the wheel. I thanked him and went on my way.", "summary": "Ticket for driving perfectly, but was holding a GPS. Learned I can drive and perform open heart surgery, so long as I dont hold an electronic device, but keep a hand on the wheel."}
{"id": "t3_wdd3n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "why do people not acknowledge other people when passing by?", "post": "I was going to the store today, and i just happened to pass by woman who was a little above average in looks, and height, nothing really special about her. I have a habit of making eye contact and smiling to most people I cross paths with just because its nice, and theres no harm in smiling. Anyway, as soon as we made eye contact she immediately her head down, and looked away, but as soon as we passed she put her head back up again and continued as if nothing happened. This has happened to me a lot before, but for some reason today it really struck and bothered me. So Reddit, what is your take on why people do this?", "summary": "tried to be nice and polite by smiling to a stranger, she immediately averted her gaze. why do people do this?"}
{"id": "t3_32vq9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF [25 F] of a year, she insists on getting tattoos and piercings and I find them unattractive.", "post": "GF of a year is into tattoos and piercings and has one of those haircuts where it is all shaved and died weird colors.\n\nWhen I met her she was a brunette, no visible piercings or ink, no glasses, working a serious job.\n\nNow she has been slowly re-branding herself, or whatever you want to call it. Cutting her hair weird, got those big thick rimmed glasses, lip rings, nipple rings, getting a tattoo that takes up her whole leg, and doesn't seem to be slowing down.\n\nI'm not going to tell her how to live her life, the piercings were fun, the hair was cute, but now it's permanent and it really just isn't attractive. She's adding more and more and planning bigger tattoos and the one she has takes up a whole leg and it is actually, surprisingly, bothering me. \n\nI didn't think I'd care, but it turns out it's just... unattractive to me. I find myself actually turned off by it. \n\nAbort relationship, or try to live with a wild child?", "summary": "GF getting tattoos, I think they look bad and affect my attraction to her."}
{"id": "t3_2flxf3", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My best friend and his sister hate me. I dont think Ill ever be able to talk to him again.", "post": "I just got a FB message from his sister saying something along the lines of \"Stop spreading such disgusting rumors about me. Take you're pathological lying somewhere else. my brother hates you and thinks youre a jerk, but is too nice to tell you to fuck off. Jerk.\". I never spread rumors about her! Im in the 11th grade and she's in the 12th. Im really scared that they both believe this. Im close to tears. How can I even talk to them? Please believe me, Im a nice guy. I dont hurt anyone on purpose. My friend has been avoiding me since July. I just that that he was busy.\nSorry for writing so much. I can even imagine going to school now (of course I am going to school). His sister is extremely popular and she's everywhere.\n\nShe said that I was spreading a rumor that I walked in on her while she was having sex.\nI never spread that rumor, nor did I walk in on her. My friend did and he told me about it in 7th grade. Thats why they think it was me. But she thinks I spread the rumor now. I forgot about right after my friend told me.\nI just cant bring up that topic. The fact that they think i spread the rumor makes me not able to even think of looking at them anymore. Im scared of how they'll look at me or act. Should I wait or does that not help", "summary": "Best friend and sister think that I spread a rumor about walking in on his sister having sex. I never did. I dont want to loose my friend. Im scared too talk to them face to face. They wont talk to me over facebook. They are ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_2lbel1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17 F] of 4 months told me [19 M] her education is more of a priority than our relationship.", "post": "The day before she said this, she was at my house and I was complaining about how she never does anything when we're alone together, she always waits for me to do something. She doesn't touch me ever and she doesn't ever make a move. I need my physical stimuli haha! \n\nAnyways, that day I just felt so alone. She would literally stare into blank space instead of looking at me. She wouldn't acknowledge me stroking her leg or anything. All she wanted to do was play mariokart it seemed like. When I started complaining, she said that sometimes she feels like she doesn't know me and that she feels like we have way different takes on how a relationship should be. \n\nShe had to go home and we didn't finish the conversation, but I told her we need to talk about this face to face and not over messaging and she said okay. The problem with that is, she never has any time to talk face to face because she is in color guard at her school, but I was willing to wait until she did have time.\n\nThe next day, I tried talking to her over messaging, not about anything just a \"Hey, How was your day?\" and she blew me off. She said she had too much homework so she couldn't talk to me. I said, \"Okay, sorry, but real quick, can I pick you up from school tomorrow?\" and she said, \"I have things I need to do tomorrow, sorry\".\n\nI said, \"What about our relationship though? We really need to talk.\" and that's where she said, \"grades go out Friday, my education and eligibility for color guard are more of a priority right now\".\n\nI haven't talked to her since then. Should I give her some space? What should I do?", "summary": "We had a disagreement, and I wanted to talk about it, but she said \"my education and eligibility for color guard are more of a priority right now\". Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2rpj9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23M] and I don't know if I will ever be capable of having a relationship due to personality problems", "post": "I have serious issues with relationship anxiety. I've never been in one in my life. \n\nI find that the moment I encounter a girl I immediately start to block them out from my life. I refuse to let relationships progress beyond mere acquaintances because I don't have the confidence. \n\nEverything about traditional relationships turns me off. The idea of having to interact with each other every day is not appealing. I have no interest in meeting family, recognising holidays or birthdays. \n\nI'm a lonely person, but the only type of relationship I see working out for me is one where we hardly recognise each others existence. One where my SO just sits in the same room with me and we occasionally exchange opinions while doing other things.\n\nYet I want one badly. But I don't think this will ever be possible the way I currently am. I'm starting to get upset about this. \n\nAre there any other people out there like this? At all? Or am I really being stupid and should just give up if I'm not willing to budge?\n\nI think I should just get a cat and be done with it/", "summary": "I'm not willing to interact with a SO like most normal people and I'm deeply confused."}
{"id": "t3_22hlpg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey guys. So [15/f]I'm in my first [15/m]relationship right now and I need some tips.", "post": "We're both 15 and have been dating since November-ish when he asked me to homecoming. We've gone on a few dates (bowling, ice-skating, etc...). I asked him to Vice-Versa (Turn-a-bout, Sadie Hawkins, whatever you want to call it.\n\nAnyways, this is my first relationship and I don't know if I'm doing it right, if that makes sense. I just need advice on anything you can think of to make sure I'm not doing everything wrong. We text sometimes and I make sure to at least offer to pay for half of the dates. We have one class together and I make a conscious effort not to be annoying or bother him or anything. \n\nI also need a little bit of help trying to find things to talk about. We have a lot in common and he's made efforts to try and do things that I like and watch some of my favorite shows. When I try to do the same, he just responds with \"Oh, cool\". I'm not the best at talking when it's just the two of us, but if we're in a group I get a lot more talkative. I was wondering if y'all had any advice on how to keep a conversation going with him.\n\nSorry for the essay.", "summary": "I feel like I'm doing everything wrong ever."}
{"id": "t3_3dlj9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my 35 [F] married 1.5 years, she wants divorce but I'm about to get a job with huge salary+stock, is she able to get half?", "post": "My wife and I have had a horrible time at keep our marriage going strong due to some issues I've had with her moral boundaries and me thinking she cheated on me in the past. Needless to say, I don't feel respected in our marriage at all, and we're heading towards a really sticky divorce. She's thrown her laywer friend's in my face, claiming she'll take me for half of everything that I'm worth (even though, currently, I'm not worth anything).\n\nIn 2 weeks, after 7 months of not having a job, I'll be working at a place where I'll be paid 6 figures with a 6 figure stock option. Neither of us have currently filed for divorce, but even if she files for divorce 1 day after I start, is she eligible to receive half of my stock? Note that I will also be making more than her. I don't want her to take me for everything that I have just because I refuse putting up with her abuse. \n\nAlso, side note, she's physically abused me in the past with me having photo evidence of my bleeding face, etc., but I never reported it to the police, I only told close family/friends. Is this something I'd be able to use to hold leverage against her in case she tries to swindle me? Any help or advice would be appreciated. Also, if you're a lawyer in the NorCal area, legal counsel would never be turned away. Thanks!", "summary": "Wife wants a divorce, and I start a new job in 2 weeks with a 6 figure salary and 6 figure stock options. Is she liable to get half even if she wants a divorce now or applies for divorce after I start the job? [California laws apply here]"}
{"id": "t3_4m9swl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Stepson [05 M] 3 years curious about help", "post": "I was called to pick my step son up from school as he was violent with a few students and struck a few of the teachers.  This behaviour has happened in a small amount previously. \n\nfast forward to this week after my step son spending a week out of school with his father. Monday was sent to the office due to throwing furniture\n\nTuesday peed in the school yard and convinced another student to do it also \n\nWednesday he asked a male student to pull down his pants and proceeded to touch the other student.  \n\nI do not know where to proceed punishment wise or where to get help", "summary": "My five year old step son is being a danger at school and sexually assaulting other students what can I do."}
{"id": "t3_4q9ywg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24F) tell my friends that I'm really down from secondary trauma/compassion fatigue?", "post": "I've been working in nonprofits since I was 17.  Right now, I'm in a low patch personally.  I'm currently in a high stress position that involves processing large amounts of information from people who are currently (rightly) afraid for their lives or who are struggling through a transitional period.\n\nIt's wearing me down.  I had some recent changes in health insurance, and I'm waiting for an appointment to talk through things with a professional.  But I'm at a really low point emotionally.  I can feel the constant stress, I'm constantly doubting myself, and at this point I feel like I'm not even good at my job anymore.  I was already struggling and then recently a client has stopped contact and it means that he may have been killed or killed himself.  We're trying to track him down but this was kind of my final blow and today I feel like I can't even get out of bed.  \n\nI know that I need to talk to my friends and let them know that I'm struggling so hard.  I know that this is like textbook secondary trauma and I need to protect myself from the weight of everything else going on, but I don't know how to talk to my friends about this.  I think part of it is that I've only been in this current city for about a year so most of my friends I've known for 6 months at most.  I'm not sleeping well and I can just feel a weight in my stomach.  I can't talk to family because my mom has medical issues where she should not be worrying about me and my family is very small / aren't nonprofit minded people who understand the issues of secondary trauma.", "summary": "I know that I need to reach out to my friends and let them know that I'm struggling with secondary trauma from my job.  I'm waiting for an appointment with a counselor but I know that I need to talk to friends as well.  How do I let them know that I'm struggling?"}
{"id": "t3_35oijb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] BF [24M] of 1 year eats his nails like candy", "post": "This may seem like a silly problem but it has become a major issue for me. Nail biting has ALWAYS bothered me. I'm weird about sounds and usually repress it but nail biting makes me cringe deep in my socks.\n\nWhen we first started going out we were usually doing physical activities together. I saw him do it occasionally, but now that we spend more time reading/watching tv/sitting I've begun to notice his nail biting more and more.\n\nI find it hard to watch movies with him due to the constant clicking. He does it at restauraunts, when we're with family, driving, basically any spare moment when his hands are free. I've never been a nail biter and don't really get it, but this is driving me up the wall! He's not an anxious person, but I feel the biting has increased lately. \n\nSo, nail biters of /r/relationships, what is a reasonable way to deal with this?\n\nSuck it up cause I'm being neurotic?\n\nAsk him to stop and offer him that bad tasting nail polish?\n\nTake up knitting with him?\n\nAccept that nail biting is who he is and who I'm not?", "summary": "My bf takes finger food a little too literally. What's a reasonable response?"}
{"id": "t3_4klgud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) cannot get out of abusive relationship with my boyfriend (30M)", "post": "Okay so I've been in a two year relationship with this guy. I was 18 and he was 28 when we started. Things were great, even perfect for a while. Then he started getting controlling.\n\nSlowly I stopped seeing friends my age. Stopped talking, hanging out with anyone but him. He became very jealous if guys looked at me or talked to me. He started to control how I dressed, what I did and when, everything. \n\nHe loves to tell me everything that is wrong with me. I suffer from depression/anxiety and have very low self esteem so over time this has just broken me. I believe I am what he says. He cusses me out, calls me every name in the book. \n\nSometimes he'll hit me, or shove me, or grab me hard. He's very possesive. I'm in love with him. And I don't see how anyone else would want to be with me or love me. \n\nI've been thinking about leaving for the past few weeks, to take a break. When I brought it up to him, he flipped out and said I couldn't leave. How could I just quit on us, etc. \n\nI'm far from any friends or family I do have. I just feel so alone. \n\nAm I being selfish? If I want to leave this guy, what's the best way? Do I even deserve to?", "summary": "Think I am in an abusive relationship. Don't know how to get out."}
{"id": "t3_2rmfet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M/] with my ex-gf[21F] Broke up after 4 months, i still have questions", "post": "We ended on good terms with out a fight or anything.\nShe was not in love with me as she was before and did not love me as much as she did love her first bf.\n\nWe broke up last sunday, but the few days before i felt bad, kind of unloved and insecure. But now that i re-read the texting between us i think it might have been for no reason.\nBecause i felt so bad and could not wait anymore, i called her satuday afternoon and asked if everything was fine, and she reponded with yes, and we ended the conversation.\n\nWe Already had planned to go on a date sunday, but satuday evening she texted that we should talk.\n\nSo now that we broke up, i still want to ask her if i felt bad those few days before the break up were right (because i could somehow feel her doubs?) or if i'm imagining things, but i don't know if it's a good idea the contact her.\n\nShe did tell me i did nothing wrong but i can't stop thinking and how i could have done something differtent to keep us together", "summary": "contact my ex-gf to ask if my feeling for being unloved were right or not"}
{"id": "t3_2t1gd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't say things I don't mean. I found out my BF tells me he says things he doesn't mean. I feel like I lost my footing with him.", "post": "If I'm happy I'm happy. If I tell someone I'll do something I'll do it. If I don't want to do it, I don't offer. I'm pretty straightforward, and I guess the downside of that is that I can be blunt and self-centered. \n\nMy BF[23] of almost a year and I recently had a conversation because to me, it felt like he would never keep his promises. I asked him to keep his word, or at least stop telling me things he couldn't keep because, especially not to offer something I didn't ask for and then fail to do it. \n\nUltimately, we decided to try harder and put it past us, but I'm having more trouble that I thought I would. \n\nDuring this conversation, he told me that I was too harsh on him and that it wasn't fair for me to expect him to hold up every single little thing he says, when some of it is things he'll say so he doesn't hurt my feelings. It's the thought that counts and when we're in the opposite situation, he just appreciates that I would offer something (let's go somewhere, let's have lunch together, i'll do this for you) and that he wouldn't care if I don't follow through. \n\nThe impression I got was that he would basically say some things he never meant to follow through, or really doesn't want to do, just so he wouldn't hurt my feelings. \n\nI had no idea this was the case and now, every conversation feels like a potential mine field. It never occurred to me that he felt pressured to have to say something to please me, and now I think twice about anything I tell him. My conversations with him became limited and superficial (he asks how was your day, and i\"ll reply not bad, despite it having been pretty crappy), I feel like I lost my footing completely with him. \n\nDoes anyone have any experience like this? How do I make it better ?", "summary": "Boyfriend tells me he says things he doesn't mean to me, things just for the sake of manners, and I am now doubting a lot of the interaction we had the past year. I don't feel very comfortable talking to him anymore. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_247lkt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by listening to music while browsing r/all.", "post": "First off, this account is a throwaway.\n\nAnyhow, I was browsing /r/all and listening to my YouTube 80s playlist in another tab. I come across an NSFW GIF that was really hot (the girl with the gum). I get the urge, so I load up pornhub and before you know it I'm full on into it, and I didn't stop the music. The video suddenly stops right in the middle of my jerking, so I try to start it up again while furiously continuing with my other hand. I'm not sure what happened next, but the tab shut and I came to climax to Boy George in Karma Chameleon on my YouTube 80s playlist. I let out an audible yelp, and it was just awful.", "summary": "Came to [this] by mistake."}
{"id": "t3_2brgjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] one year, I am paying for a vacation that turned out to be more expensive than I thought.", "post": "I have been with my fantastic boyfriend for one year. He is amazing, I am pretty sure I love him even though I have not told him yet. Months ago I bought tickets for my friend and I to go to portland in August because they were so cheap. Turns out my friend can't get the time off and the tickets are non-refundable so I ask my boyfriend if he would wanna go and I say I'll pay for his plane ticket. He says he \"would love to go with me\". Well my boyfriend doesn't have a job right now so I feel bad making him pay for half the hotel room, I tell him I will pay for the hotel room all three nights without thinking. Now things are going to cost me at least $850. I just keep thinking he has not told me he loves me either, for some reason I just can't stop thinking about the fact he probably would not spend $850 on me. I feel like a fool for spending so much on him. I am worried I am going to start resenting him over this. I don't even know how to approach the situation or what I want my end game to be.", "summary": "About to spend $850 on my broke boyfriend to go on a vacation with me. Can't stop thinking about how he probably wouldn't spend this much on me if he did have the money."}
{"id": "t3_3p1w9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23F] wants to break up with me [25M] because she is overworked with her first year teaching high school and does not have time for a relationship.", "post": "My girlfriend and I met while I was in law school and she was in graduate school for teaching. We have dated almost a year now, and have been though significant life events together during this time such as my father dying, taking the bar exam, getting her first teaching job, etc. \n\nShe now is a couple months into her first semester teaching high school science. This is obviously an extremely time consuming job, and one I have trouble relating to due to my current job not being as strenuous. Matters are further complicated by the fact that after I took the bar, I moved to a city about an hour and a half away to start my job. \n\nShe has determined that she does not have enough time to commit to both a relationship and her profession. I have tried to be as understanding as possible, with varying results. My point of view is that if we can just get through this semester, then the next one will be 10 times better because she will be teaching the same classes all over again, but starting anew with a new batch of students and restarting the same material she has already taught. Thus, not as much planning, learning new material, etc. \n\nI am looking for any input people might have on dating first year teachers. Suggestions for how to make their life easier, dealing with their crazy work schedules, discussion points on how the 2nd year of teaching is easier, anything I can discuss with her in an effort to try and keep going a little longer. I am afraid she is making a rash decision that could be resolved by Christmas.", "summary": "Overworked first year teacher girlfriend feels can't have both relationship and career, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_jxi0u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 17 and going to be a father. what do i do?", "post": "I am 17 years old about to turn 18, my gf is a year younger.\nAbortion is NOT an option, and Adoption isn't really viable option either.\nI am supposed to start college this October, i am currently working with a Company as a Co-op employee. i get paid decent money for my age an experience, with a wage increase every year. I have not made any payment to the school for tuition or housing. My gf lives 30 mins away from me. The school is an hour from me and 1:15 from her. she is in a college/ high school where she gets her high school diploma while earning college credits and working towards a associates degree. My parents will probably kill me  when i tell them. her parents will be more understanding i think. what are we supposed to do? how are we supposed to get our education? where should we live? what about money?(i don't wanna have to rely on our parents the whole time) I'm freaking out right now and i don't know what to do. Reddit please help me.", "summary": "I'm supposed to go to college soon but i screwed up and now i have no idea what to do about everything. please help me Reddit for my life is about be turned upside and everything that i thought i had planned out is an "}
{"id": "t3_3ywac8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 9 months, she says she cant trust me and i reminder of her disgusting ex", "post": "hi everyone, so i need some guidance. Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now. in the beginning it was all fine, but she is constantly trying to control me. it started with how she hates it when i play games and I reminder her of her ex. then she said if i want to watch football, i could, but she would not come over because it would be a waist of time to watch football with me. when she is with me and i text one of my best friends back ( who is a guy ) she gets all pissed and says that i am constantly busy in my phone. we dont have anything in common except the fact that we wanted the same things in a relationship when it comes to trust. \n\nLast night we had a fight for over 3 hours because she was pissed that I removed a lot of people out of my Facebook, but not enough girls. and she thinks i have the girls on my fb to keep checking them out while they are all old colleagues or old classmates\n\nI am not sure if its right to stay in this relationship or not, and i am scared of breaking up.", "summary": "gf says she cant trust me, gets upset when i text a friend back and wants to fully control me."}
{"id": "t3_4jlq7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22[M] with my GF [19], how to support her during her exams while in LDR", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nMy girlfriend is studying for her exams this month, while I have my exams in about 4 weeks. I live in a city about 2 hours away from my hometown which is also where my girlfriend lives with her parents. I go home in the weekends, so I usually only see her in the weekends. \n\nNow it's only her first year of studying and it's sometimes tough for her because most of our friends also only have their exams in a few weeks and can be a bit more relaxed these days. I call her in the evening or during her breaks sometimes, only for a few minutes, but just to check in on her and to let her vent a bit about how the studying is going. I find it quite difficult to support her while I can't be with her to just give her a hug or to have dinner with her etc. So does someone maybe have some tips what I can do to brighten up her day during her long study days?", "summary": "Need some tips to support my GF while in a LDR"}
{"id": "t3_1n7zd0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Where do you meet girls?", "post": "So here's my problem.  All through college I was too scared to approach/talk to women that I found attractive, much less ask them out or anything, mostly because of some anxiety and self esteem issues.  Now I'm back in the city to start a grad program after a year off since getting my undergrad, and while I feel like I have worked through a lot of those issues, my problem is that now I have no chance to put any of that self-confidence into action.  I live 20 min. out of town in the middle of nowhere, my classes only meet three times a week, and since I just moved back I have zero friends.  Therefore, I have no one to go out to bars with and no chances at getting invited to parties, both prime spots for meeting girls/people in general (and also the only places where I feel comfortable approaching people).\n\nMy program is pretty intense, so to be honest I really don't have time to dedicate to being really active in a student org. or an intramural team (not that I really do team sports anyways) and I just feel like it's this vicious cycle where I don't meet any women/people because I don't go to parties/out because I don't know any women/people because I don't go to parties/out...etc.  So I guess question is where the hell do you meet girls? I can't do the anywhere/anytime \"just go up to them and talk thing\" because, let's face it, that's completely ridiculous unless you're pretty good looking or something, but any advice would be great.", "summary": "Where to meet women if you can't go to bars/parties/don't know a soul"}
{"id": "t3_2lg4fb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18M] going to a party where an old middle school crush [17F] is also going.", "post": "Story time! Back in the summer after 8th grade, I hung out with my group of friends everyday for the whole summer. There was this girl in the group and I really liked her. Like I had the biggest and dumbest crush on her. I was only 13 so I didn't know shit, but I was thinking she's perfect for me, I gotta marry her and all this dumb stuff. The puppy love was so strong I wanted to be a part of her life and I wanted her to be a part of my life. I never had the courage to ask her out, and we went to different high schools. Eventually we stopped talking but during high school I never really liked anyone else. Every other girl felt dull compared to her. I still get nostalgic thinking about her and what would've been different if I had the balls to ask her out. Anyway I'm going to a party this Friday and I heard she's coming. I honestly don't know what to do to so this goes great and eventually ends up in a relationship.", "summary": "really liked girl from middle school but too much of a coward to ask her out. Gonna meet her at a party and need advice on how to not screw up and get this to end in an relationship"}
{"id": "t3_vje0j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The first time I had blue balls I convinced myself I had testicular cancer or something of the like. What is your most naive moment, Reddit?", "post": "So when I was in my first year of college, I started sleeping with this girl  I had a crush on (just sleeping, nothing else). You see, Its a long story but her mother had just passed away and I was kind of her go to person throughout the whole grieving process. So I stayed with her at night and helped her sleep and held her all night. Problem was, I would wake up with raging boners from sleeping with her all night and started to get a really built up case of blue balls. Being the naive freshman I was, I had never experienced the heavy, painful feeling and my brain could think of no other alternative than some sort of nut tumor. (For the ladies, **It is a real thing** and it feels like someone pumped a litre of extra fluid into your nuts). So, I head to the doctor for the most awkward and embarrassing appointment of my life where he tells me I'm fine, and prescribes violent fapping.", "summary": "College freshman: Gets Blue Balls, DIES (almost)"}
{"id": "t3_314qet", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Discussion]Is it worth giving something your everything?", "post": "I am not sure this is the right sub to post this, but here it goes... When I was about 12 years old, I knew what I wanted to do with my life. I started playing table tennis, and I really gave all I could. I trained 7 days / week, played into two different competitions, and boy, did I love it. I was always in the top 16 of my age category, and the feeling I got from my trainings, matches and results is really priceless. After a few years of being very good, but never close to the best, I kept hearing the same thing over and over again: you started too late to become the best there is. If you started 3 years earlier, you now would be at the top. This is the moment I drastically decreased my training volume, and I got in some kind of a slump. Did I fall into a depression? I wouldn't call it that, because I still felt happy; I had an amazing family, group of friends, I was lucky to have the opportunity for great education, and I was an overall happy boy.\n\nNow I am 23 years old, and I wonder: what is the point of giving it your everything, train every day, live for your dream, breath your dream, when you know you can never be the best at something?\n\nI recently started playing basketball, and once again I really love it. I found myself a nice team, and I practice a lot (with the team, on my own, in the gym), but the slump feeling has come faster now. I am nowhere near my peak, I understand that, but why should I work for something so hard, if I know I can never be someone of value in it? And if I won't work hard for it, why work for it at all?\n\nI am really searching for reasons to keep on going, and to keep on playing sports, but I lost a purpose, the moment I realised I can't be the best anymore", "summary": "Why train if you can't be the best at something?"}
{"id": "t3_3agrz9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to help the homeless.", "post": "I was sitting in a parking lot eating my recently bought white castles when all of the sudden a homeless man on a bike shows up and knocks on my window. I roll it down and he asks for money, because he is hungry and wants to go to white castles and get something to eat. I figured, \"Hey, white castle is right there. He isn't going to not go inside and get food.\" So I gave him some cash. \n\nThe man rides his bike over to white castles, stops outside for literally 10 seconds, and then takes off and bursts down a dark street, which I presume is where he went to buy his crack at.", "summary": "Homeless man tells me he is hungry. I ended up supporting a crack habit."}
{"id": "t3_1800td", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Apparently I want to sleep with my two best girl friends who I can never touch.", "post": "Sorry, title sounded a little awkward but I guess it makes sense. So basically the other night the girl I've been sleeping with (call her F) regularly comes over and stays over, we have sex and then pass out before we have class the next day.\n\nI have a really hard time sleeping, especially staying asleep, and so a lot of times I'll wake up, but F is a really sound sleeper and it never really bothers her. I remember waking up at least twice, and both times F was snuggled next to me, her head on my chest, but when I looked at her, it wasn't her. \n\nI'm in a fraternity and so we have sweethearts who are some of our best friends, but one of the things is that we absolutely CANNOT sleep with them or have sexual or romantic intimacy, since that would put the relationship between the girl and the entire chapter at risk. BUT, both times I woke up, I saw a different girl. Two of our sweethearts (call them S and B) both have a lot of physical similarities to F, all short brunettes who are cute, and so somewhere along the line of waking up I saw first B, then S, instead of F when I woke up. \n\nI loved it. I like F a lot, but we're just keeping things casual so we're not in a serious relationship or anything, but I spend so much time around S and B as friends, with no romantic or sexual stuff between us (except one time with S before she was a sweetheart). But, I can't act on the feelings I have towards either one, which is that some days I feel as though I might be in love with one or two of my best friends, and that maybe the girl that would be perfect for me is standing right there, and I can't do anything about it.\n\nI just wanted to tell someone this, because obviously if I tell any of my brothers/other sweethearts shit might hit the fan and people would look at me differently.", "summary": "instead of seeing the girl I was sleeping with when I woke up, I saw my two best girl friends, and now I'm worried there might be a deeper feeling than just friendship, at least on my part."}
{"id": "t3_3ld8u9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my roommates panties and leaving them on my bed", "post": "So for context I live with a friend from highschool(Joey) and his girlfriend (Stacey). We're all 24 and we're all pretty laid back roommates. So today I was washing my gym shorts.\n\n I go to throw them in the dryer but I noticed that there's already clothes in there. Being the good roommate that I am and not wanting to displace them like so many Californian drought refugees, I simply threw my shorts in the dryer with my roomies clothes and flipped it on.\n\nAn hour later the dryer dings and I grab my shorts. I throw them on my bed without paying much attention. It's at this point that my roommates panties fall out of my shorts. Of course I don't notice them and continue on with my dumbass life.\n\nA few minutes later Stacey gets home from the gym and knocks on my door. We're doing some small talk for awhile and then all of a sudden she stops and goes \"Are..are those my panties..?\" Pointing at her panties laying on my bed. I'm literally dumbfounded. I have no idea how they got there and as I'm struggling trying to explain myself she walks over and grabs them with a disgusted look on her face and walks out of the room.\n\nSoooooooooo probably gonna need a new place to live soon Hmu.", "summary": "accidentally stole my friends panties and she thinks I'm a pervert now"}
{"id": "t3_2yccml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] want to do something nice for my boyfriend [26M].", "post": "I've been a real pill this semester, cause my stress levels have been through the roof with schoolwork. My boyfriend has been nothing but amazing: giving me time to study when I need it, helping me figure something out when I'm in tears, and just being super supportive. He recently went to PAX East and got a book signed for me (I didn't ask him to and didn't know he was doing this) because I was really sad that I couldn't go. I really want to do something nice for him, but I'm having a hard time thinking of ideas...my head is too full of school things ;-;\n\nAbout him: physics phd student, loves biking and running, (and forces himself to swim), enjoys reading (favorite book is The Name of the Wind), watching neflix, and casual gamer.\n\nI don't have a whole heck of a lot of money, since I'm in school full time, but I do work too, so I can spend a bit on this. Maybe like ~$100? Spring break is in a week, and we live about an hour north of Boston!\n\nGive me your fun ideas!!", "summary": "I've been a stressed-out crazy girlfriend this semester, and I want to do something nice for my boyfriend, but need help thinking of ideas!"}
{"id": "t3_2lfj9r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [20F] has depression and refuses to get a job.", "post": "So I am stuck and dont know what to do. Im not asking for a solution im just asking for your opinion.\n\nI have been seeing this girl for about 6 months now and it started out well. She was unemployed and actively seeking employment and living a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise. She is a nice girl and my freinds like her and get along with her well.\n\nShe had a previous relationship that ended badly and she got abused by her partner. She is on heavy medication to treat her depression and sometimes will cry for hours for absolutly no reason. I do my best to comfort her but it is hard for me to understand how it feels as i have never really felt bad depression.\n\nI have been helping her look for work but now she doesn't even try. She has done self harm in the past and has bad scarring up her left arm. She has also stopped exercising and gained weight but she is still the kind person she was when i first met her.\n\nI have talked to her about work and exersise and she gets upset when i mention her weight and just says she is still looking when i ask about work. She texts me at least 40 - 50 times everyday when im at work because she is bored. She says things like \"promise you wont leave me\" and \"i dont know what i would do without you\" things like that a lot.\n\nI have tried talking to her parents aswell but they baby her too much and wont push her to do anything which i think may be the cause of the problem.\n\nIf she is away from me for more than 2 days she gets upset and depressed. It is starting to affect my personal and work life but i am honestly scared she will harm herself or go off her meds if i break up with her. To be honest i dont want to break up beacause i like her a lot. I only want to help her but how can i do this if she wont help herself?", "summary": "my girlfreind has depression and wont get a job or exersise and has a past with self harm. I like her and dont want to leave her but she is starting to drag me down with her."}
{"id": "t3_2xd7hg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22m] decided to break up with my girlfriend[22f] and I don't know if it's a good moment", "post": "I wrote a post yesterday explaining that I want to break up my 4 years relationship.\n\nI said that I don't feel the same, because she hates my friends and she is living miles away from me because she doesn't have money to stay in the city to continue her degree.\n\nToday she has failed an exam and she is coming next monday to see it.\n\nIs it a good moment to speak about my feelings?\n\nI'm not sure if it's the right moment but I don't know when I'm going to be face to face with her again. It could be months.\n\nI need advice.", "summary": "Is it a good moment to break up with my girlfriend if she failed an exam today? I could not see her during months."}
{"id": "t3_1q5scv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm stuck with what happened tonight. I don't know what to think. (This is all over the place, I'm sorry.)", "post": "I'm 32/F he's 29/M, together 1 year friends for 2 before that off and on. My guy we'll call Luke and I went to our first pregnancy appointment today. I'm about 6 weeks. We've had a crazy day with his car not working right, supposed to be fixed but the hood flew up and crashed into the windshield while on the highway. Took it to his mechanic and we got another car to get home in. \n\nOn our way to my place there's this stray cat in the road and it darts back across the street in front of the car. Luke doesn't even brake or swerve to miss it. We've talked about moving in together but he doesn't want my cats to come along. He's never had indoor pets or much of pets while growing up. Cats have been my companions all my life. My first pregnancy 9 years ago I went it alone and because of where I was living I had to give up my cats then to have the baby, alone. I gave them up. It wasn't feasible then. So here we go again. He wants me to give them up because he doesn't want inside pets. My Harley has food allergies and is racking up lots of debt for me with health problems and expensive cat foods. Mallory can be obnoxious sometimes. \n\nHe lives with his parents has for 7 years now. I have my own apartment and bills and such. He's never had to be responsible or adult until now. He won't have a civilized conversation about keeping the baby or not. Is this really a good choice, what's the right answer? He says we can do it but the cats have to go. Even then he still wants to maintain two apartments. I get SSI Disability and am looking for work. He has a stable job. We need each other to do this right. But his lack of empathy tonight with the stray cat leaves me feeling scared of him. \n\nAny advice? This is my first time having a partner to have a baby with but I feel like I'm doing all the sacrificing.", "summary": "Bf and I are expecting and he wants me to get rid of my cats. Tonight he tried to hit a cat with his car."}
{"id": "t3_2i2hz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my [53 M] father, he's slowly killing himself and excusing it all away", "post": "My dad is an alcoholic with emphysema and persistant problems with recurrant staph infections, a ruined knee, bad hips, morbidly obese, and co-dependent on his mother, who is 73. He also still smokes two packs a day.\n\nI love my father. He is a wonderful, kind man (sans his religious, political, and social beliefs). I have learned a lot from him my whole life, and he is the parent who I am closest to. He raised me for 6 years of my life, just the two of us. \n\nHe hasn't been able to work in about 6 or 7 years. Lost his job in the Recession and blames Obama. Has a myriad of health problems like stated above. \n\nHe spends his disability money on alcohol, cigarettes, still gambles from time to time, but yet relies on my grandmother for so much. Also lives with his toxic, horrible father (my grandfather) because he thinks he's too good to live in an apartment anymore so he and my grandpa share the rent. \n\nI can't bring myself to fly to visit him anymore. It breaks my heart every time he takes a drink, every cigarette he smokes. He came to visit us a few months back, and most of the time he spent asleep, as he does in his usual day. \n\nHe requires my bro who lives with him to pick up so much of his slack, but won't do anything to change his situation. \n\nI want to save his life, I want to fix him, I want my father back. How? It kills me inside when I talk to him because between the alcohol and pills he's prescribed it's hard to really have one conversation without him getting confused or sidetracked. \n\nMy father used to be a hard worker, though he has had a tendency to have grandiose plans that never happen. I don't believe it when he says things will happen a certain way. He also refuses to admit his liver could be damaged from drinking or that his breathing problems are that bad.", "summary": "My father is an alcoholic with emphysema who has insanely bad health but continues to drink and smoke while excusing it... he is killing himself and burying his problems (health and family related). Smokes two packs a day and drinks about a pint of vodka everyday at least. How do I get my father back? Me, bro and sis are worried but angry with him."}
{"id": "t3_23c5lt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF (30F) doesn't want me (28M) to watch movies that might have an attractive girl or slight nudity in them. Am I crazy or is she being drastically immature?", "post": "My gf of 8 months has started this thing of asking me to not watch certain movies/tv shows because of the possible nudity or attractive women in them.\n\nIf we go to a movie and a scene comes up, she has literally asked me to look away. If we drive anywhere, she'll watch me to see if I glance at a billboard to see if I'm looking at any with women on them. She's told me before that she thinks I look around too much and that she thinks I check women out all the time. We've been out at the mall or some other place and she'll get mad at me because she thinks I'm checking out a woman that literally just walked in front of me and I didn't look away. She's gone through my facebook asking me about every girl on my friends list. She's told me that she doesn't like certain girls that work for me because she thinks theyre too attractive (I'm a dentist, all of my employees are going to be female). She's asked me to not talk to certain female friends of mine because they've hugged me in front of her and she felt they were trying to disrespect her.\n\nI've asked her about this and she says that it's a loyalty thing for her. She doesn't think any guy should even glance at women other than the one they are with because her father doesn't do it and that she feels like they aren't loyal to her if they do.\n\nI tried explaining the difference between staring at women and just a glance. I've tried explaining how men are made and that it's natural to notice. I have no problem not staring, but I do have a large problem with being told to look away from a scene on TV or a movie because she feels like it's not being loyal to her. I care for her a lot but I honestly think she's very immature about this and that it's turning into a control thing for her. Any advice?", "summary": "GF doesn't like me basically seeing other girls because she thinks its being disloyal to her."}
{"id": "t3_3fvvj7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling two coworkers to rub their genitals", "post": "As most of the stories here this fuck up did not happen today but a few days earlier. \n\nI work in IT so most of the day I am in my office on the second floor and don't have to leave it unless I need to do some field work in helping with our clients tech problems. It was one of those days with nothing to do, hot outside so I opened the windows. The new tablet arrived that day and my boss told me to play around with it. If we want to sell it we have to know how it works. Of course I played around with it and installed windows 10 as the dual boot option.\n\nSome of you will know now about *Cortana*, the Siri of Windows. Since I did not want to disturb anyone I search for a headset and plug it in. *Let's try this Cortana out.*\n\nSo I started talking to it, just some basic input like \"Open Browser!\" or \"Go to google.com!\" and happy with the results (it did precisely what I wanted to, yay!) I decided to try some more difficult things. I opened the editor and wanted cortana to type. But nope, nothing. Still I was amused by the fact that she recognized everything I said so far so I tried some more difficult sentences.\n\nPlaying around wih Cortana I did not recognize how loud I was actually speaking. And I got my windows wide open. With coworkers standing underneath them.  And they clearly understood me when I was saying loud and clear: \"Get yer packets together!\" Looking up at me and seeing me in front of a monitor with a headset on it looked like I was talking to a client so they straight went to my boss and complained and he immediatly showed up at my office and telling me about that. While I tried to explain what happened I unplugged the headset by accident and the only thing Cortana said was: *\"Would you like to search for \"packets\"?\"*\n\nMy boss and me stared at each other for a second then we burst into laughter.\n\nSo I'm gladly out of trouble for this time cause my boss is a cool guy, still my coworkers seem to unlike me now...", "summary": "Played with Win10 Cortana, insulted coworkers with that, thought I'd be in trouble but good boss is good."}
{"id": "t3_1ulbeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When did NC start working for you?", "post": "first love [24m] and I [20f] broke up 9 months ago but only decided to initiate strict NC 3 weeks ago. I still think about him and miss him constantly and I know he's been seeing another girl so that makes it about 100 times worse. I lost a lot of my social circle due to the breakup so I'm alone a lot while he's with good friends all the time. I just feel crappy a lot and constantly have this lingering pain and him in the back of my mind and I'm scared it'll never go away. Can someone share some personal stories of hardship so I feel less alone? Will NC eventually do what it's supposed to at some point. I don't feel much different now than I did when we initiated it.", "summary": "Need some reassurance that NC will do what everyone says it does because I'm afraid this lingering pain and lonliness I have will never leave."}
{"id": "t3_2ymzxe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26m] want to break up with my girlfriend[36f] of 20 months, but still love her and feel extremely guilty", "post": "I love my girlfriend dearly, but she has kids and I have no children of my own.  I don't feel like I'm right for fatherhood, I'm a very irritable person.  I feel she wants to get married and settle down, and because of her age it's fairly important to her.  I'm not ready for this, or to be strongly tied to anything.  The only thing stopping me is the guilt, I love her and fear I might crush her... and make her jaded, emtionally insecure for future relationships.  Am I being weak? Am I being to considerate?  Will she be OK ?  I appreciate any advice, thanks redditors", "summary": "still love girlfriend but want to break up as I want a different life path than her.  I havent been able to end it as I fear I'd crush her, please help thanks"}
{"id": "t3_2m4qv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boss [40ishF] - I can't work over Xmas, so I'm going casual. Do I tell her why I'm doing it?", "post": "Hi Reddit: here's a lot of info on my story, some of which may in fact be relevant to the issue. I like to ramble, so bear with me.\n\n6 months ago, I got hired on at a facility that requires significant staffing 24/7. There's a decent turnover rate, so I'm about halfway along the seniority line, but there are still plenty of people ahead of me.\n\nWhen I got hired, I made sure to bring up the fact that I had, in February, booked 2 non-refundable plane tickets to visit my family over the Xmas holidays. Their response was non-committal, but somewhat optimistic. Being so junior at work made me unsure that I would get the time off, but I remained hopeful anyway.\n\nI have two remaining grandparents, both almost 100, and I genuinely expect to hear pretty much any day now that at least one of them is dead. I haven't seen either of them in over a year now, so come hell or high water, I'm going to visit them for Xmas. I told my family that if my vacation didn't get approved, then I would just have to quit or something.\n\nIt didn't get approved; I'm scheduled right over Xmas. Don't get me wrong, I don't in any way fault my employers. I know they can't do anything about it; they have to have staff. They can't just approve everyone's holiday hours.\n\nThat being said, I AM going, which means I have to switch to a casual position at my job. They'll probably guess why, I suppose, but I'm not entirely sure it's a good idea to be forthright with the rationale behind my decision. I have a very good possibility of getting my current position back after the holidays, given the incredibly slow rate at which my employer adds new staff, so I want to burn as few bridges as possible.\n\nSo, my question is: Do I tell them the whole story? Do I explain why I'm doing this with the hopes that they will be disappointed but understanding, or do I avoid mentioning this altogether?", "summary": "My holiday request wasn't approved, but I'm still going to go visit my family. I have to become a casual worker in order to do this; do I tell my boss why, or do I just avoid the truth when breaking it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_2jrjn0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21F) with my boyfriend (22M) of four years, in love but I have an intense fantasy of having sex with a woman.", "post": "at the start of my four year relationship, I thought I was completely straight, realised I was also attracted to females, but never had any desire to experiment. as I became more sexually experienced I realised I wanted to have sex with a girl. it's something that has been on my mind for about 2 years and I can't seem to get over the fantasy. \n\nmy boyfriend knows about this, though probably not aware of how strong my desire is. I don't think I could go my whole life without doing it, I mean i could, but I would definitely feel like I am missing out on something. it's started to affect how satisfied I am with my relationships sex life (we still have sex frequently, and I enjoy it, but I find my mind wandering to how it would feel if it were a girl). \n\nmy boyfriend has actually said he would be okay with me doing it, and thinks it would be hot. he's even suggested a threesome (not sure I could do that) or him just watching me with another girl. I'm more inclined to the latter option, but if the girl was willing to include him in it as well, I might consider it, although the idea is a bit nerve wracking for me.\n\nso my question is, is it possible to explore your sexuality outside the relationship without damaging it, and if so, how would I even go about finding someone that would agree to sleep with me (us), no strings attached, possibly have my boyfriend watch or join in?", "summary": "in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years but fantasising about sex with women, want to make this happen in real life but not sure if I should/how to proceed. "}
{"id": "t3_2uqagt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [20 M] tell my SO [20 F] that she has gained weight?", "post": "Let me preface this by stating that I have nothing at all against fat people. It's a body shape like any other and should be respected as such.\n\nThat being said, both my girlfriend and I would prefer to stay in shape. About a year ago we agreed that if one of us were to even start putting on weight, the other would let them know. Well, over the past few months she has been getting a little heavier. Nothing crazy or off-putting by any means (I'm attracted to her regardless) but I can't help but think about when we made that promise. \n\nWe're very close and communicate well but she can get rather emotional sometimes so hurting her is the last thing I want to do. She mentioned to me that her mom had just recently commented on her weight and she (my SO) seemed pretty offended. \n\nFor background and to preemptively answer some comments that may pop up: We don't live very close to each other and have relatively busy schedules so asking her to join me at the gym would be difficult. She's active through other activities but her diet isn't great.\n\nShould I say something? If I did, how would I bring it up?", "summary": "Girlfriend put on some pounds. I don't mind but we agreed (some time ago) to let each other know if this were to happen. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1munm0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am just so confused", "post": "So last month at a party for my grandma's birthday, my grandma says there is this girl that she wants me to meet.  I'm apprehensive because my grandma is famous for setting my brother up on a date with a one armed girl. No offense to the one armed ladies out there, it just took my brother by surprise.  I also haven't dated much (read: at all), but I finally got a handle on some major depression and anxiety that has ruined my life for the past 10 years, so I agree to meet her.\n\nSo we go on a few dates, and awesomely enough she is not only cute as hell but fun to talk to and hang out with.  I have an awesome time, and as far as I can tell she has a great time too.  Couple of days after we last get together she asks if we can put off getting together again while she hunts for a job.  I say of course, because that seems pretty understandable to me.  \n\nI text her a few times, asking how the hunt was going, or seeing if she had time to get dinner blah blah.  Didn't ever hear anything back.  5 weeks go by, don't hear anything.  O well, she is either still on the job hunt, or just not interested I suppose.  Then this morning I get back from the gym to see she accepted a facebook friend request I sent her a long time ago.  According to my notifications, she accepted the request, liked some status I made yesterday, then unfriended me.\n\nSo I write this to repeat that clich\u00e9 of I don't understand women.  Also, I'm letting facebook news bother me, so that's pretty cool too!", "summary": "I'm a 25 year old with the problems of a 16 year old and want to complain like a 10 year old."}
{"id": "t3_4yg7lk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [20,M] message this girl [20,F] that I had a crush on in high school?", "post": "So back in high school, I had this girl in one of my classes I had a crush on. Well, because I didn't have the balls to ask her out, I didn't go for it. We talked like maybe once or twice through high school since I was too shy.\n\nSo fast forward to today, nearly 3 years after that class, and she popped up on my facebook suggestions. So I added her and she accepted. Since my facebook and instagram are also linked, then she came up there and so we followed each other back.\n\nAnyways, I was just wondering if there is any way I could message her and try and ask her out, or is it too little, too late?", "summary": "read title"}
{"id": "t3_4zcbfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] want to reconnect with friends that I have not kept in contact with for years but worry about a negative response from my friends and GF", "post": "Recently I've [23M] decided to reconnect with 5 friends whom I've not kept in contact with for years. I've only talked to one of them [23M] through text messages. He's one out of the 5 that I feel comfortable around the most. However, there were many occasions where i disappointed him e.g. neglecting my studies, copying his and other friend's notes for reference. There was also a time when I annoyed him rather badly because of a few words that i thought was alright to say but he took it too seriously which led to a cold war that I never apologized for and regretted much later on. I do intend to apologize to him during the meet up. He seemed OK about meeting up but suggested that we invite the others too and also mentioned that it might be a bit hard for him to meet up as his school just started. \n\nAnother friend that I'm am comfortable with in the past and keen on reconnecting with is female [22F]. She has just returned from abroad while on school vacation but I'm unsure when she'll be flying off again. However I'm currently attached to someone [22F] and feel that my friend might not respond well to a meet up as she did have some form of affection/interest for me back then. The both of us have never been in a relationship together though. She dropped a few major hints along the way, especially towards the end that she liked me but i always left her hanging and she gave up eventually. I'm not sure how she would respond to me asking for a meetup after not keeping in contact, leaving her hanging and also being in a relationship currently.\n\nI worry that it might also worsen my on the rocks relationship with my GF. My gf did mention in the past that she was fine with me having female friends but I didn't really have any female friends that I kept in contact back then. So I'm not sure how my GF would react or how it would affect the relationship if I told her I would be meeting up with an old female friend.", "summary": "Keen on reconnecting with a few good friends. Not sure if my friend [23M] has forgiven me for a past conflict. Unsure how a female friend [22F] that expressed interest for me in the past will respond to a meet up when I'm already attached. Also unsure how girlfriend [22F] would react if i tell her about meeting up with female friend."}
{"id": "t3_1028r9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Wife left me: Claiming \"mental cruelty\" as grounds for divorce. Options?", "post": "Going to keep this short and to the point.\n\n23. Illinois. No kids. Just a house.\n\nMy wife left me last June and filed for divorce on grounds of \"mental cruelty\". We were amicable and agreed upon everywhere else in the divorce papers. We agreed how to split our assets and $ and all the other details. The onus came back to the wording. \n\n\"Extreme mental cruelty.\"\n\nShe told me she had her attorney file under \"extreme mental cruelty\" because it would be the most expedited way to end our marriage. In illinois you have to wait 6 months to get a no fault divorce. I asked her if she would wait the extra few months to just get the \"no fault\" divorce because in no way did I ever do something like that to her. She said her attorney told her the wording didn't matter and was pointless to wait.\n\nSo today I am served by a detective, while at work and in front of my boss, with divorce papers and a court summons in October.\n\nWhat can I do to fight the wording of the divorce? SHE left me and I tried everything I could to keep her to stay. We had been together for a total of 7 years so of course there were moments where we had fights or where I yelled. We were young and dumb and she yelled just as much as me.\n\nWhat are my realistic outcomes here? I am consulting an attorney soon but seeing as I am not made of money (like her family) I wanted to see what you guys thought first.", "summary": "Wife files for divorce on grounds of \"extreme mental cruelty\" because it would \"speed up the process\" and she kind of believes it now. Together for 7 years so of course we had disagreements. What are my options? She doesn't want to wait for a nofault divorce, won't agree to switch the names around, and I'm sure has sob stories ready to throw at the judge."}
{"id": "t3_4jrv65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "high school sweethearts", "post": "So my gf [21F] and I [22M] have been together since we were both 17 and love each other very much. We don't fight that often, get along great, and make each other happy. We have been each others first at pretty much everything outside of kissing.\nThe problem is, that every once in a while I feel really bothered by the fact that I havent really experienced anything sexual other than with her. I dont have any problems with how it is with her, but it drives me crazy thinking that since I really dont see us breaking up, I wont ever be able to have any of those experiences outside of this relationship. I have never really known what it would be like to be single as an adult. It may sound stupid but sometimes I imagine what it would be like to pick up a girl, and it really feels like I need to get this out of my system. \nI have never, and would never cheat on her, but I find myself wishing I had met her a year or 2 later just so I could have had any experience at all. I talked to her a couple of times of maybe having a break at some point in the future just to experience things but she doesn't think she could handle that and have us get back together... what should I do?", "summary": "together since high school with no experiences other than with each other"}
{"id": "t3_la3tj", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, where the hell should I get married? Help!", "post": "* My fiance and I live 300 miles apart; he lives in St. Louis, and I live in Alabama. \n\n* In seven months, I'll be moving to live with him permanently.\n\n* Our tentative date for the wedding is May 2013. \n\n* We have no idea where to have the wedding. \n\nI'd been leaning towards having it in St. Louis, since by the time of the wedding, I'll have been living there for a year. Also, the city has more of a \"party\" atmosphere in general. Many people in the South (parts of my family included) can be a little uptight when it comes to alcohol. I want the wedding to be a drunken celebration, and I want to attract a fun crowd.\n\nMy mom really wants me to have it here in Alabama, because she thinks most of my family won't be able to afford to go if we have it in St. Louis. She says it's customary to have the wedding where the bride's family lives. \n\nAnother argument she has is that my family is much larger than my fiance's, so I have more people to accommodate. She tells me to have the wedding where I want, but I know she'll guilt me forever if I don't have it here.\n\nI wouldn't mind having it in Alabama, but I think it would make planning harder. I would love to have my family/friends to be able to come, but I also want *his* family/friends to come too.\n\nMy fiance is little help and doesn't have a strong opinion either way. His parents aren't picky where the wedding is either.\n\nI've asked others for their opinions, but I was hoping that maybe Reddit can provide some magical answer that I haven't thought of yet. Or maybe some insight I haven't yet considered.", "summary": "My mom wants my wedding to be here in Alabama, but I kind of want it to be in St. Louis. Can you please help us?"}
{"id": "t3_12zdx9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. What sound can you absolutely not stand to hear?", "post": "So a little context... I was working the night shift in the emergency room last night (Janitor, before you ask), when this woman who had been lying on a stretcher in the hall all night, mostly sleeping, started grinding her teeth ridiculously loud. This was no ordinary teeth grinding my friends. I don't know if I can accurately describe it. It was very loud, and short bursts very quickly.Sort of like that classic horror movie violin sound, but with teeth. My teeth were hurting just hearing it, and she would stop no matter how many times the nurses would tell her to, and try to offer her food or ice chips to chew on. That sound will haunt me to the end of my days.", "summary": "The sound of a woman grinding her teeth now haunts my nightmares."}
{"id": "t3_1z6lkw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Hey r/jobs, I need some advice on an upcoming promotion!", "post": "First off let me say that I love my job.  I get to do what I love, in a killer place, but I don't really make a lot of money considering the field I'm in.  I work in a non-profit museum institution doing video production, and AV technical support as a secondary element to the job.  My salary is barely ok for an entry level position in my field (~30K), even though the work I've been doing up until this point is quite beyond entry level imo, but that's neither here nor there.  \n\nMy predicament is that my boss is taking a job elsewhere, his title is manager of AV, and they want me to take his job, but keep the creative responsibilities I have now.  While I agree I do want to keep making creative videos, I'm weary that they're going to try and dump his work load (relatively little in comparison) on top of mine with a minimal raise.  There is very much a rank non-profit culture here, very top heavy, and upward mobility is notoriously difficult (just as a caveat to anyone who might understand the particulars).  \n\nAnd so my question is, how do I figure out in a cordial and non-confrontational way how much is fair for them to offer me for the promotion with additional responsibilities?  I realize I could just ask my current boss how much he's making but that doesn't seem proper or legit, plus he's been here for 20 years so they can always pull the seniority card.  Any advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance!", "summary": "I'm in the mix for a promotion (taking my current boss' job who's leaving the company), don't know how to negotiate the upcoming salary offer.  "}
{"id": "t3_2wahhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I honestly don't know/can't tell if he (21M) likes me (21F )or not, thoughts?", "post": "There is this guy I like, I've known him for nearly three years. I can't tell if he likes me. Anytime I am at a party he's at, he always comes up to me and we chat. We worked together extensively as classmates. For crying out loud, he gave me one of his bongs out of the blue. And asked for nothing in return. ONE. OF. HIS. BONGS. That's awesome shit right there.\n\nI don't know if he likes me or not. He seems flirtatious but anytime I invite him over or ask him to hang out. He doesn't respond or he can't. I have a knack for being able to tell if a guy likes me or not, but I can't seem to pinpoint him. Thoughts? Advice?", "summary": "He seems flirtatious enough, but doesn't really respond to invites. Does he like me?"}
{"id": "t3_1wptri", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m] I can't decide whether or not I should break up with my partner [16/f]", "post": "I've been debating on the topic on if I should end my relationship. I'm not sure if what I feel for (let's call her Kelly) Kelly is genuine love, yet I have a strong feeling that it really is. Perhaps it's just because I'm going through high school and this is just the result of raging developing testosterone, but I digress. The kicker is that Kelly is near-depressed and mainly relies on me for emotional and moral support because of her abusive family and she can be self-abusive if she reaches a certain point of sadness (Note: when we broke up before it was because of her abusive father getting mad at her and out of emotion she broke up with me since I didn't come to offend her. In retrospect, she felt guilty about it and decided to re-start our relationship. She said she became a shut-in and didn't eat for two days, looking back that seemed somewhat ridiculous.) I feel like she also expects too much of a person like me with no type of job and her unneeded materialistic ideals are malicious to both my psyche and my bank account (I have no job). More and more, we are having arguments and fights starting for no apparent reason; just earlier today she got angry at me since I decided to hang out with my friends instead of her (but I was going to see her in a few days anyways). I also feel like that she'll become terminally depressed since she tends to be over-dramatic about things and do dangerous things to herself... I care for her, but her security, well-being, and health may be in danger if I end our relationship. Please respond, Reddit.", "summary": "I don't know if i want to break up with my girlfriend but I worry for her future and her well-being if I do decide to cut it off, yet I've been feeling more miserable with her lately."}
{"id": "t3_15n1jv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F18] having trouble deciding if I should stay with my boyfriend [M19] of a year or follow my dreams.", "post": "This is my first post, so if I need to explain more about anything, please tell me!\n\nObviously by reading the title, I should follow my dreams especially since we're so young. But I've (F18) been dating this guy (M19) for a little over a year now, we started dating in high school and we started college this fall. I'm having trouble deciding because he's so wonderful. He's a one in a million guy. I really love him with all my heart. He's also my first boyfriend, my first love. The only thing that he lacks is an adventurous side.\n\nI know we're really young and there's a likely chance of us growing apart as we grow older, especially if we go to school together for the next 4 years. I know that if I don't follow my dreams now, I'm not going to have the chance after college. So if we break up later in college? I'll have to live with regret.\n\nI say I'm not going to have the chance after college because I'm studying to take over a family business and I won't have much (or any) time to do what I want for a very, very long time. In college, I really want to study abroad. I want to take a year off school to travel after my 4 year degree. I want to see the world. I love seeing new places, trying new things, and meeting new people. My boyfriend just doesn't have that in him. He loves it where we live. He wants to stay here forever. He hates traveling.\n\nI guess I'm having so much trouble because, while I'd love to follow my traveling dreams, I can see myself living quite a nice life with him. I don't mind cozy, either. With my future job there is a lot of traveling involved, but it's work travel and it's only a couple days at most.", "summary": "My first boyfriend of 1 year has no adventurous spirit, I do. We're very young. Our relationship has been wonderful, he's an amazing guy. Should I end our relationship that has no problems to follow my dreams, seeing as this might be my only opportunity?"}
{"id": "t3_4dzxik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "36M W/ 30F, 2+ years. Feels great, but gut feeling doesn't feel good.", "post": "Hey /R\n\nIn 36, she's 30, together almost 3 years. Everything seems great. Marriage is definitely a possibility. We are very happy and committed. \n\nBut..\n\nGut feeling is making me think twice. Here's how:\n\nMonths back, she arrives home, exuberant. She went to a store on way home from work and was clearly excited. She mentions the guy that owns it. Describes him. Goes out of her way to say she mentioned me, her bf, to him. I get a weird gut feeling I've never had before. I let it go. \n\nA month later, we go to this store together. It's closed, but the owner is there. We are walking past, I stop to ask about the opening times, she beelines away, unexpectedly. He stares at her, recognizing her it seems, from a distance. Doesn't look at me, right in front of him. Why did she beeline? Why would she suggest going there together if she was flirting with this guy? I get a really heavy gut feeling. \n\nWe go again, together, store is open. It's weird. He stares at her the entire time. It's clear the other guys working there are checking her out too, like there's a secret I'm not in on. Really weird encounter. No question they recognize her. \n\nThe next time. Im not there. She tells me that this guy comes up to her on the street in a different part of town. Grabbed her shoulder and is like, what's up. That's straight up weird. How does he feel comfortable doing that to someone who is by all intents a stranger? \n\nIt doesn't add up and I've never had gut feelings like this before. I am not a jealous guy. Something doesn't add up. \n\nIs this a case of a guy that likes my gf? Or am I breing kept out of the loop? Forget it or follow up?", "summary": "Gut feeling I'm not getting the whole story with this guy and my girlfriend. Forget it or follow up?"}
{"id": "t3_328kow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how on earth do you deal with ants?", "post": "Reddit,\n\nPLEASE help me figure out the best way to get rid of all these damn ants!\n\nI've tried 2 different things, Ortho Maxx spray on the inside and outside of my kitchen bay windows, near all the window edges, where the wall meets the floor, window ledges, everything that i could think of....they still keep coming. Also, have tried an outside only type of pellet drop that you make a \"barrier\" with and no bugs can cross it. Its been about a week now and every day i find 25-100 ants inside my house still, 95% of htem are dead near the entrances they chose to come in at, which is getting annoying to clean...but there are still the ones alive crawling around everywhere.", "summary": "How i get rid of deez ants?!"}
{"id": "t3_kchpx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "lol at `smart`women....", "post": "So i was browsing plenty of fish . com today just for the lulz and maybe some scene hoe jack off material.... when i came across a lot of girls profiles....\nalmost all were `education : some uni/college `and then id look on occupation and see shit like cashier, hostess LMAO why the fuck would you go to uni and then have a shit job like taht..... first of all if i was even interested in you i wouldnt even date a chick who is too dumb to finish college or uni.... fuck sake ill work my ass off and you make minimum wage selling shoes and fries%\n? fuck that shit", "summary": "bitches out on dating site are fucking losers in my eyes and i wouldnt date them at all... would you fellow redditors?"}
{"id": "t3_230abp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my bf [26M] of 3.5 years, he is mutual top snapchat friends with another girl. I don't know what to think", "post": "I [27F] have been with my bf [26M] for 3.5 years. Last summer, he got snapchat. I noticed pretty quickly that his top friend had a girly sounding handle, and asked him who it was. He said it was the male cousin of one of his close friends, but I googled the name and it turned out to be a girl (she used the same handle for twitter so I put 2 and 2 together..). After confronting him, he admitted the truth and said he lied because he was worried I would freak out. Then I asked why is A GIRL your top friend? He claimed she just sends out tons of snaps to EVERYONE, but since he doesn't use snapchat that much, she is just his top friend. This also turned out to be a lie for three reasons: 1. I've seen his snap history and there is evidence of them snapping back and forth, 2. He is also **her** top snapchat friend, and 3. His snapchat score is almost 3000 so yes he DOES use it a lot. I found out #2 by adding her on my own snapchat and viewing her top friends. \n\nNow at this point I realize this all sounds very very incriminating. But he has a way of explaining things away that has thus far kept me satisfied. He SEEMS to be sincere when he says there is nothing going on. His explanations, which are that she is just a friend, and has a boyfriend, and he would not do anything wrong SOUND ok and to be honest I really really want to believe him. Because I love him and this breaks my heart. Is there any tiny sliver of a chance that this is not what my gut thinks it is? Because as I'm typing this out it seems like any rational person would conclude his ass is up to no good. HELP", "summary": "BF is mutual best snapchat friends with another girl. Is that evidence enough to conclude cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_20qeq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] boyfriend [24 M] told me he wanted to see me express my more feminine side more. Is it wrong for me to feel offended?", "post": "Last night, my boyfriend and I had a talk about our relationship.  We've been together for 5 months and this is my first relationship.  He feels that he needs space from me since we've been spending a lot of time together ( I slept over at his place everyday for a week). \n\nOne thing he brought up is that he wants to see my soft and gentle side more often, since he feels I can be pretty rough and tumble.  He told me likes girls that are in touch with their feminine side and that he feels I can benefit from exploring that side of myself. \n\nI can't help but feel really hurt and angry at this.  It does not feel like he accepts me for the way I am, and that he wants me to change to fit more into my gender role. I understand that is a criticism he has for me, but I just feel me changing that way would only benefit him in the fact that he would like me more.\n\nI also feel he brings up his ex-girlfriends a lot, and there is still someone he is not completely over.  Along with that and what he told me, I just feel like I'm always comparing myself to his past and never quite living up to what he had before.\n\nIs it wrong for me to feel like this is an unacceptable thing for him to ask me to change about myself?", "summary": "Boyfriend tells me to be more feminine, I want to tell him to fuck off and let me be me."}
{"id": "t3_2t0y4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15 M] was broken up with by my Girlfriend [15 F] after only dating for a month, friends act like I should feel bad", "post": "I dated this girl for only a month, and she broke up with me because she decided she might be a lesbian. We've only been broken up with for a little over a week now, and I've accepted it since it wasn't for that long and we broke up on good terms\n\nHowever, everyone acts like I should be completely heartbroken. She was my first girlfriend and I did really like her, but I'm nowhere near as bothered by it as people think I should be. I keep hearing people say I need to take time out to find myself and that I'm rushing things by wanting to find someone else now.\n\n Is it really wrong for me to move on so soon, or am I just doing things at my own pace?", "summary": "First girlfriend breaks up with me because she's a lesbian, friends think I'm moving on to quickly, I disagree and want to know what reddit thinks."}
{"id": "t3_qetcv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most obvious thing you have hidden from your parents?", "post": "As for me, my friends and I decided we would roll one summer night while my parents went out to town and thought we'd be okay by the time they got home. WRONG. We ended up taking the most fucked up pills I have ever put in my body. Hallucinating all night and staying awake all night. In the morning my friends and I still have had no sleep and were still high as fucking balls. Our pupils were beyond dilated and we were all drenched in sweat from head to toe. We hid in my basement the entire day trying to find a way to leave my house without having to confront my parents as we were all clearly on meth.\nMy mom ended up coming downstairs and talking to me I avoided all contact. I don't know how she didn't know. After she left the room I quickly called one of my friends to pick us up from my house and we ended up sitting at a park for 9 hours fucked out of our shoes. I still cringe when I think about talking to my mother while so fucked up.", "summary": "Was fucked up on BAD drugs and had to talk to my mother on them"}
{"id": "t3_pcv5t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Chewing my cud on a gone relationship....your thoughts?", "post": "This relationship is quite definitely ex, but tonight, I'm really hoping I did the right thing.  \n\nWe were together a LONG time, and thought we were going to be together forever.  Then, something happened.  I figured out how to orgasm for the first time, and got more demanding in the bedroom, just about the time that he seemed to get more sexually repressed.  He decided it wasn't ok for him to have a porn stash and insisted on deleting it, though I asked him to please keep it.  He stopped initiating sex, saying that he always felt like he was doing it wrong.  I became more outgoing, and he didn't like that, and so decided that I had had an affair 3 different times (I hadn't cheated, but he thought I had).  I told him I'd really like him to seduce me, and he said that seduction was evil and I was bad for wanting it.  He said he wished that there was something he did that I disapproved of, so that he could give it up and balance things out a bit.  But I didn't see anything wrong with his minor vices; if it made him happy, I was glad to see him do it.\n\nEssentially, I became aware that there were things I really wanted in my life that he wasn't willing to provide and didn't want me to want.  And so I left.  It felt dishonest to stay, and I was convinced that if I stayed, I would start to behave badly and eventually cheat (instead of just fantasizing about it).  \n\nI wanted to be Good Girlfriend Gina, always willing to be understanding and able to deal, but eventually I hit my limit on patience.  He clearly thought I was an awful human being for leaving.  Was there something else I could have done, that I didn't do?  \n\nI guess my question for you comes down to this -- **(", "summary": ") what do you do when you're in a long-term committed relationship and an important issue comes up where you fundamentally disagree?  Where what one person really wants is something that the other person regards as morally wrong?  He thought I should live by his newfound boundaries; I felt like I had to leave or cheat.  What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lyor2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] with my EX GF [18F] 2 years, We broke up because I flirted with another girl", "post": "# Part 1\nI'm finding it hard to understand something. My ex GF broke up with me 6 months ago, I tried winning her back for 6 months. We would see each other once every 2 weeks and we'd get on like 2 peas in a pod and she kept leading me on, however 2 days after seeing her she would tell me it was a mistake and that we can't speak anymore. This of course was really unfair and caused me great depression. \n\n# Part 2\nAfter dealing with this for 6 months I decided to completely cut her out, and I've been doing good by not messaging her anymore. She still messages me almost every 2nd night. I don't get it.. She doesn't want anything to do with me however she still messages me. Surely if someone wanted to cut someone out of their life they wouldn't go through all the trouble of constantly messaging someone? \n\n# Part 3\nI guess what I'm trying to get at is, does anyone have an explanation as to why someone who broke up with me keeps messaging me even after I said goodbye for good? \n\nThanks", "summary": "Brokeup with ex 6 months ago because of something I did, fought for her for those 6 monthts. Finally let go as she wanted and she still messages me. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3n2ygy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my fiance [48M] of 2 years, finding it more and more difficult to work together at our job.", "post": "We met at our job, with him being a supervisor and I, an entry level worker. I have worked there for seven years while he has been there for four years. We fell in love quickly and have went strongly together ever since. \n\nHowever, a few months ago I was promoted to supervisor, too. I was happy because it meant more money for us to accomplish our goals. I thought he was happy as well. Only now he takes to arguing with me at work and shaming me when I make a mistake or take too long to complete a task. I kindly let him know that I feel he isn't addressing me respectfully and he says nothing in response. \n\nA few of those blow up times have been in front of other coworkers, which I find embarrassing and unprofessional. The next day, of course, it's like it never happened. \n\nIt makes me feel like a complete failure and my heart breaks every single time because this is the person I love more than anyone else in this world. I don't want our work arguments to affect our relationship together but he literally gets so mad at me he stops talking to me altogether. \n\nHe has been married twice. I'm a late bloomer. This is the first (and I'm hoping the last) long-term relationship I've ever had. So I'm having trouble understanding how someone who loves you can speak so harshly and get mad so quickly for the tiniest things.", "summary": "Fiance/coworker makes me feel horrible at our job and I'm afraid not finding a solution to the issue will hurt us both inside and outside of work. "}
{"id": "t3_1eiydb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too early for me [27m] to buy a plane ticket for my SO [25F] for a major vacation?", "post": "So I just met this girl about two months ago and everything has been going great.  We see eachother everyday, common interests everywhere, amazing sex, etc.  Problem is that in about a week, my work is sending me to Japan for 5 months.  I really like this girl, but its obviously unfair for me to expect a long distance relationship this early in the game.  We've both said that we aren't going to be looking for anyone else while I'm gone, but that we can't really apply any labels once I leave.\n\nThat being said, my work is not only paying for all of my airfare, but they are also giving me a pretty hefty bonus for going there (about $20,000 plus incidentals and living expenses).  She has toyed with the idea of getting a ticket and coming to visit me, but I know the cost is a big concern (its about $1200-1400 from where we live).\n\nWould it be weird for me to offer to go in on it with her or pay for half or something?  I feel like I'd really like her to come and I know she does too, but I don't want her to feel like I'm pushing too hard this early.", "summary": "I'm very into this girl I've known for 2 months.  My work is sending me to Japan and paying me extra for it.  Should I offer to help pay for the cost of her airfare so she can visit?"}
{"id": "t3_25ouet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have been on two dates with her [20F], she seems very shy and insecure. Should I run?", "post": "I met this girl through a friend, and we've been on two (double) dates with two of our very close mutual friends (my best guy friend & female friend are dating, this is my best female friend's friend.) Each time in person she's very quiet and distant with me, and really doesn't talk a whole lot.\n\nI understand some people are naturally shy, and that's okay, but she consistently texts me [very pessimistic things about herself] I'm wondering if I should let it play out, or take the red flags and run. She's otherwise a really nice girl, so I'm a little stuck on what to do.", "summary": "Been on a couple of dates with shy, insecure girl. Do I let it play out, or accept red flags and run?"}
{"id": "t3_tkrcp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, what is the most awkward way you've handled someone asking you out?", "post": "So reddit, how have you awkwardly handled being asked out? I think I set the bar pretty high from my awkward and anti-social self:\n\nI was sitting and eating lunch in the cafeteria of my school when a girl I had a huge crush on asked me out. I was super suspicious since I'm known as a smart but nerdy person. I said, \"I don't know.\" and she responded pretty much by saying,\"Okay, you can think about it and tell me later\" with a surprised look. I was nervous, because I had recently told my friends I liked her, and if I said yes, and it was a prank, then my reputation would be screwed. I ended up saying, \"I don't know\" for around 3 days when she stopped asking me if I had made up my mind. I still think it was a dare because when I asked, she said it was for \"personal reasons\". If it was actually genuine, then  I hate myself.", "summary": "girl of my dreams asked me out, I said \"I don't know\" for three days. She says she wants to date me because of \"personal reasons\". I thought she was being dared."}
{"id": "t3_246soa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My F(21) guy friend M(21) seems like he's competing with me?", "post": "We met on the first day of college, 4 years ago. I found him to be a little standoffish and didn't really like him. But we remained friends and things got better.\n\nThe problem is that he's VERY emotional. More than any of my girl friends. He's pretty insecure and it comes out in a competitive way. The first week we met he asked me \"How do you have so many friends?? I don't get why people like you\" Not in a joking manner.\n\nHe says things like that to me often. It's like he's always trying to compete with me. I told him I was applying for some cool jobs this summer and he was like \"What makes you think you're qualified for any of those?\" in a really rude tone. (I got hired for 5 of them...)\n\nHe's like a light switch. One day he'll be super nice (or I obviously wouldn't stick around), and the next he'll be moody and scolding me for something. He's almost like a father figure. He also calls me \"bro\" or \"dog\" all the time when I've brought it up before that it's annoying. Like, it's excessive and he does it all the time. Even in text.\n\nHe gets mad if I go over to his house (I'm friends with his roommates) if he's not the one who invites me. He invites me over like twice a month at most. He'll be really rude when I'm over and be like \"Oh, I didn't know you lived here now\"\n\nI don't want to end our friendship completely, but it's really annoying behavior. I'm a really sarcastic and joking person, so I just reply back with a snide remark and brush it off. Most people stop doing these things once they stop getting a reaction out of me, but not him. \n\nGuess I'm just looking to see if anyone was in a similar situation with an insecure friend, who's a bad friend some of the time. Any advice?", "summary": "How do you deal with an insecure guy friend?????"}
{"id": "t3_21foih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27m] ex [28f] sold me her car 4 years ago. 6 months after breaking up, she now wants more money for it.", "post": "We broke up about 6 months ago now and we sometimes bump in to each other... it was about as mutual / nice as a breakup gets but she instigated it and she was also first to move on... we've still been on talking terms up until now... if i'd see her, i wouldn't avoid her etc... and i told her i wanted her to be happy (which i meant)...\n\nAbout a month ago, we bumped in to each other and were chatting about random stuff.. she brought up about how 4 years ago i bought her old car and how i got a great deal at the time from her... she wanted rid of it at the time and wanted to pay her loan off quickly so i ended up buying it at about 40% less than what it was worth - but hey, we were partners so i felt it didn't matter... it wasn't like i was ripping her off - she knew what it was worth and agreed that i should buy it. Since then I've been the legal owner and been taxing, insuring, maintaining it. Anyway, i thought it was weird she was bringing all of this up and i was quietly annoyed but i kinda just brushed it off as banter and forgot about it.\n\nToday, after about a month of no contact at all, i get a message saying she thought i should be offering her something as compensation for this car deal that happened 4 years ago... \n\nAm i right in thinking that this woman is completely insane and I've got every right to tell her to f*** off and not speak to me again?! Because that's what my gut tells me... i'm so disappointed in her and have lost a huge deal of respect for her over this.. i thought we could stay civil / friends and now it just seems she doesn't give a shit about me and only cares about making herself happy. But I want an outsider's perspective before i respond...", "summary": "bought my ex's car 4 years ago, now she wants more money because she feels hard done by."}
{"id": "t3_49jkzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23F needs advice. I cover very very dark circles under my eyes with concealer and am worried about every showing a man what's under my makeup. Is this deceitful?", "post": "I'm sure this sounds silly to some, but I am a pale white woman with dark burgundy circles all around my eyes. I got bullied horrendously for this in school, and have spent a lot of money and time finding ways to cover this up. At the moment I cover them up with concealer(s), but I'm really worried about a future partner seeing them. \n\nI've been single for the last three years, during this time they've gotten worse. When I have been seeing people I've woken up early to put make up on. I'm worried that if I ever get comfortable enough with partner to show them they'll feel conned? I cannot state how bad they are, it is at facial deformity level. I know some will suggest showing them early on, but the thought of a new person seeing them before I trust them emotionally gives me a panic attack. \n\nI'm open to therapy for confidence (I spent 3 years in my teens not looking in the mirror and I know therapy could help) but I know 100% this isn't an issue in my head or one I'm exaggerating. At a recent consultation for possible treatments med students were called in and I was told I was the most extreme case they had seen in 35 years practice. It's actually quite shocking to people when they see it for the first time.  \n\nHow should I proceed with this issue?? Would you feel conned finding out your partner had this issue late in the relationship? What should I do about it? Has anyone been shocked when they eventually saw their SO without makeup?? At the moment I'm avoiding relationships because I don't know what to do about this. \n\nAlso, I don't want this to come across rude but I'm not looking for advice on treatment. I've seen GPs, cosmetic surgeons, skin doctors and anyone who has even half claimed to have a treatment. I've also tried every treatment including skin bleaching, more water, allergy treatment, more sleep etc and have read close to every page about it online.", "summary": "I hide a very ugly blemish on my face and am worried about how to approach this is in a relationship. It's outside the normal realm of looking rough without makeup, I look like I'm dying/a different person. How to I introduce this to a new partner?"}
{"id": "t3_392sdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [29F] with my boyfriend [29M] of six months; sexual drive disparity", "post": "[Original post] \n\nAfter reading everything, and thinking hard about it, I had a really good conversation with my boyfriend.  I know a lot of people were saying to break up, but I made the decision that his company and everything else that's great with him is not worth losing over sex.\n\nI told him how I was worried about not being satisfied, and basically explained that I reddited about it and what everyone had to say \n\nWe agreed that we would both work on satisfying each other, and we had a really wild night of sex the next time I saw him (a day later).  We had sex again a couple days later which I was fine with because we had such incredible sex a couple days prior.\n\nI guess ultimately, the compromise is quality over quantity.  I feel satisfied by him on so many other levels that I'm willing to deal with my horniness on days he's not wanting sex.", "summary": "Spoke to bf, we agreed to compromise (I'll turn it down a bit, he'll turn it up).  Made a decision to increase sex frequency a bit, but also making sure sex is passionate and great quality to satisfy me longer.  "}
{"id": "t3_1rz6sn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19/f) live in a different state as my family with my (20/m) husband. Having major issues with my in-laws and Christmas.", "post": "Sorry guys, this is going to be all over the place. I'm on my phone and I'm not very good at writing stories. \n\nI married my high school sweetheart 3 months ago (yay!) And moved out of state to follow him in his travels with the navy. I didn't care to leave because I knew we would always go home for the holidays, and if he couldn't, I would just go home by myself.  I'm very close to my family and would be miserable without visiting! Unfortunately my husband isn't so close with his parents because they're crazy racist. He's white and I'm hispanic. So racist to the point that they won't even allow me in their home. They say the nastiest things about me and the hispanic community to my husband and his younger siblings. My husband always defends me or just walks away. We got married at the courthouse and both of our families were invited to come witness it. All my family showed up and not one person from his even did so much as to call. My family absolutely adores my husband, they're very loving and open. And they of course want us to come stay with them for Christmas. He loves my family, but his parent's want him to stay at their home for Christmas.... Without me. I can't even described how much it hurts that he's actually considering it. Though I understand that he wants to see his younger siblings. I don't want him to go. I want him to come home to my family with me. My home is somewhere  we're both loved and accepted. His family makes me feel like scum and disgusting. Which is crazy because his family is trailor poor/white trash and I come from a very well off and civilized family. \nI feel like it might be selfish and bitchy of me to ask him not to stay there. I know that its his family, but they're so unreasonable. Am I wrong for being hurt and wanting him to come home with me?\nAlso, other than this we have an awesome marriage. This is basically our only issue. And we've been dealing with it for years.", "summary": "My husband's family is super racist and hates me and want him to spend Christmas away from me and that make me feel sad."}
{"id": "t3_yedtm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does a college student move states?", "post": "To begin, and give context, it seems now two years after graduating high school that I am just sick of where I live. (No this isn't a *wah me* post.) So, I have always had the attitude, that if I don't like something in my life, I want to change it. \n\nI don't like being around people I grew up with. I am subscribed to my city's subreddit, and it seems that people only talk about where they would rather be, due to extreme heat and lack thereof things to do.\n\nHowever, now I am asking you redditors for help and to see how you guys have moved on your own.\n\nBeyond actually *deciding* which city I would want to move to, (I have narrowed down my decisions,) I need help on how to finance the move because right now, it seems completely unrealistic for meand it pains me. I feel somewhat trapped here. Now I have the transportation to move, and I could quite possibly put down one months payment on my lease. However, only being a college student, I don't have the experience to be considered for a job that one could just accept via the telephone. I would need an entry level job. It seems I would need a job previously to moving, because I can't spend weeks without pay scrambling to find a job.\n\nI find myself in a catch 22.\n\nI need success stories. Have any of you redditors out there moved all by yourself without the help of affulent parents or have handy tips for me to make my dream a reality?", "summary": "A college student who really feels like he needs/wants to move, however, is unable to make this step financially."}
{"id": "t3_1ti21o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28f), my husband (29m) and his family Christmas Party.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for three years.\n\nWe moved back to his home town shortly after getting married. One of the downsides to moving to his home town is that we are insanely far from my family, but our job prospects were better there, so we went. He has a very large family of Uncles, Aunts, and cousins galore. All very nice people, no real issues there.\n\nThe problem is that they have a yearly Christmas party and I have very bad anxiety issues. The past three years I've sucked it up and gone any ways, ending our visit with very bad panic attacks and my poor husband has had to cart me away back home (not that he complained).\n\nWe tried to compromise last year a little bit with going for two hours, but I really felt like I was ruining the party for my husband, who really only sees his family this one time a year, regardless of how close we are.\n\nThis year, I said that I'll just stay home and he can go as long as he wants. He's reluctantly agreed but is worried about what to say to his family about my absence. He doesn't like to lie, so he doesn't want to say that I'm home sick, but he also doesn't want to have to explain my anxiety, because thus far his family hasn't put that together yet and they would likely (this is just a guess) say that I should be going any ways to get over it. He doesn't want to argue with them the entire night about the benefits of treatments for anxiety disorders.\n\nSo my question is, what should my husband tell them when they ask where I am?", "summary": "Anxiety keeps me from the party. Husband doesn't want to lie, but feels the absolute truth would just cause a non-stop discussion about my anxiety (not fun!). What should he tell his family about me not being there?"}
{"id": "t3_1z7qx6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] and a newly met girl online [22F] What do i do now?", "post": "So I recently posted on CL looking to meet with someone new in my area for nothing too serious but something that could develop in the future and I got messaged by a girl who was interested. We Exchanged numbers but have been talking online more. \n\nOur plan was to get to know eachother and then maybe meet up and go on a date but in the few days we have been in contact she hasn't been engaging me in any convos. I text her and she doesnt respond but does when she is online through skype. I don't know if its a change of heart without telling me or something else but I really want to talk to her more but not come off like im pushing too hard or acting like a stalker.\n\nShe initially gave me her number and sent me a photo of what she looks like without me even asking so it doesnt seem like she isn't interested, and when I do initiate a convo she replies to me, but every time I bring up the idea of talking in person or arranging to meet up she seems to either not reply or ignore answering the question, and I cant work out why seeing as our main intention was to meet up!\n\nSo what do I do now to get her to talk to me and/or want to meet up without seeming like im being forward?", "summary": "Met girl online, both interested in meeting up but she makes no effort to talk to me and disregards when i ask to meet up."}
{"id": "t3_3519po", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 4 months, will travelling together ruin our relationship?", "post": "My boyfriend and I met over 2 years ago in college, but were never close until we started hanging out a bit last year. Anyway, we started going out in January, and I'm so happy, so comfortable and so in love with him. He's my first boyfriend (serious or otherwise). \n\nWe're from California and are planning a trip to New York this summer. We've never travelled with a partner alone (again, I'd never had one and he's had only one other) and I don't think he's ever really been outside the west coast. \n\nI grew up Catholic, and in a conservative area. My parents are not at all too religious, or fanatics, but I've always been instilled the whole \"wait until marriage, it's inappropriate to visit his house to watch movies, you can't travel with him\", etc mentality. Needless to say, my parents don't know of my trip, even though we both live with our parents. \n\nMy question is: I've always heard that sleeping, or travelling, or doing \"married\" things will make the man less committed and less likely to marry you in the future. I'm genuinely sure I want to marry him some day but I know men think differently. How true is this? \n\nAny help would help. Thanks so much!!", "summary": "Boyfriend and I will be travelling together and I'm afraid because of this he won't marry me eventually."}
{"id": "t3_11ntk8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's that craziest thing that's ever happened to you in a car?", "post": "My mum was driving me to school one morning. We were talking normally when a spider came out of what seemed like nowhere. We freaked out. There was a fucking spider on the roof! We froze. This is some serious shit. This isn't just a daddy long legs. This is an Australian spider. Next thing we know this beast starts to drop from the roof. By this stage my Mum and I are both flippin' out. The spider starts to swing over to my mum, who is driving. She screams and then hit's the thing over to me! Now I'm freaking the fuck out. The spider jumps off me and then lands under my seat. It scatters off under the chair. We decide to pull up and end this. I get out of the car and try to find it from under the seat. As I'm looking for it, it runs out onto the back seat floor and then under the mat. This is the moment where I do from childhood, to manhood. I take my shoe off and then smash the thing. I got it. I then flick the dead spider out of the car.", "summary": "There was a spider in the car and my mum hit it onto me."}
{"id": "t3_sp9va", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the weirdest thing a complete stranger has ever said to you?", "post": "I was at the gym and this lady that I've never seen before comes up to me and starts telling this story about how zinc and magnesium pills helped her son to grow a significant amount and that I should try it out if I ever want to be taller (I'm 5'7\" and most likely done growing). \n\nAt this point I'm a little confused, but not trying to be rude I ask her when she started giving her son these pills and she said \"From when he was 4 all the way into adulthood.\" Well no shit your 4 year old son is going to grow no matter what you give him. I told her that was interesting and walked away.\n\nAbout 10 minutes later she approaches me *again* and tells me a story about how she gave these pills to her daughter too (also starting at a young age), and how they helped her to be taller.", "summary": "crazy lady at the gym wants me to be tall"}
{"id": "t3_2fe06d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [18 F] since 3 month, in a long distance relationship, she's depressed", "post": "Hi, first of all, sorry for my english ...\n\nso i'm dating this girl that i really, really love, but we are living in different countries and can only see each other on vacations and like 1-2 week ends each month, wich is hard but wont last more than a year since i plan on moving in nearer.\n\nBut there was this last week end when i came to her house for the first time (She usually went to mine) and met her family, everything went smooth and all but now she is super sad because she misses me a lot apparently, and she got intrusive thoughts like she'd preffered i didn't came that week end.\n\n I don't think i'm losing her but i want her to be happy again. And all my listenings and advice don't seem to help a lot, even if it used to solve everything until now... \nWhat else can i do to show her ?", "summary": "What can i do to make my \"depressed\" (she didn't go to the doctor so nothing official) happy ?"}
{"id": "t3_348e6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] and my best friend [21f]. should I go further?", "post": "she, is my best friend since junior high until now. i got to know her because i was going out with her cousin till senior high, and she was with my friend. \n\nfor college, i went overseas for 3 years. we was sad because it would be hard to meet each other anymore but we still keep in touch occasionally. on that time span, none of us got a new gf/bf.\n\nwhen i return, everything went back to once it was. we go to movies, coffee shops, dinner, play games etc like any other best friends would do. \n\nhowever, there is one thing that changes. we always avoid unnecessary body contact before but now she become somewhat touchy, and so i would respond. she would occasionally grab my shoulder or arms, or correct my glasses. she often complain about her hair being dry and ask me to touch it. later i also found myself grabbing her hand when we cross streets. \n\nright now i am not sure what should i do and i need advice. I love her. I want to confess and take our friendship into a romantic relationship, but if something goes wrong, it may end our friendship. even after that, whether is her answer, i got no idea what should i do..", "summary": "need advice"}
{"id": "t3_1bnho7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking downstairs and 430am to go to the bathroom.", "post": "So. It's 4:30am and I have to pee...I walk downstairs and notice the kitchen light on...odd it's 4:30am usually no one is awake...boy was I wrong! I get into the kitchen and see my husband standing there...then suddenly I see a light blue wadded piece of fabric and notice the tag. It's a pair of light blue Victoria's secrets panties...I don't own light blue Victoria's Secret panties. At this point my head is flipped, I realize these are my friends panties, a girl we opened our home up to while she was visiting from California. Who actually hasn't been here for awhile as she is visiting her dad...instantly he tells me it isn't what it looks like...I ask for an explanation...At this point he hasn't really told me what he does but all I know is he's \"had a thing for women's panties for a year and a half now\"...so I start assuming he's jerking off in them....Nope...apparently he likes to WEAR them...I'm not fucking sure how I am suppose to feel right now other than now I know why none of my panties fit, they are all stretched (which pisses me off even more because I spend a lot on nice panties...don't judge)...because my husband has been wearing them...who the fuck does this??? \nSorry about poor grammer, punctuation, spelling, wall of text, ext. it's 5:07am if you don't like it, kiss my ass.", "summary": "walked downstairs and caught my husband with panties...turns out he likes to wear them."}
{"id": "t3_td5c0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How soon is too soon to meet a SO's parents?", "post": "I've been dating this guy for just over a month, but we've spent pretty much every second of our free time together. As in 6 sleepovers a week, and Friday night - Monday morning without a second apart. So it feels a lot more serious than your average one-month relationship. \n\nHe invited me to spend Mother's Day weekend with them. They live a few hours away. I would not be going home for the holiday anyway, so that is not a factor.\n\nMy questions:\n\n1. Is it too early to spend a whole weekend at his parents' home, regardless of the holiday?\n\n2. Is it too early to spend what I consider to be an important family holiday with his family?\n\nMy instincts are telling me that I should just wait at least another month, but I don't want my declination to put a damper on the relationship or hurt his feelings.", "summary": "Dating guy for a month and he wants me to spend Mother's Day weekend at his parents' but I'm afraid it's too early for that."}
{"id": "t3_15p1xl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Will reducing my cynicism actually make me a better person?", "post": "I seem to have no filter, and generally say what is on my mind. I don't try to be a dick, but from time to time, I will definitely say something offensive or cynical (more so the latter). I don't enjoy provoking or angering people... but I also like telling the truth at all (or most, let's be honest) costs. \n\nI am wondering if my actual personality is just naturally cynical and it makes me who I am. Would I be more liked if I held my tongue? And more proper a question- would I actually care if I wasn't being true to myself?", "summary": "Fellow cynics or friends of cynics- How can a cynic be his true self AND be less cynical?"}
{"id": "t3_26yogz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [27 M] of 2 years, can't stop thinking of another man", "post": "Hi redditors :)\n\nI'm in relationship for more than 2 years and I'm happy. We are looking for flat to move in, BF is working for 4 years, I'm senior year at college, looking for a job. We are planning our wedding next autumn, kids after that etc. I really love him and want to spend rest of my life with him, but...\n\nLast summer I (we) met a guy [32 M] who is living 1500 miles away from us and I can't stop thinking about him. Every day he cross my mind several times. When we were together I felt so weird, but beautiful. We spend some time together mostly talking and we stayed friends. Sometimes we talk over skype (BF know about it) just to continue friendship. I can't get my mind of him. I don't know what to do? What's happening to me?", "summary": "In a happy relationship for 2+ years. Last summer met a guy I can't stop thinkig about."}
{"id": "t3_tt3dx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Did you ever try to do something in real life from a cartoon because you thought, or didn't think, it would work? How did that turn out?", "post": "I would see cartoons slip and fall on banana peels, i didn't think it was true that you could slip and fall on one. I did my own study of banana peels. I called it, \"Project slip and lie\" I ate about 3 bananas and put some peels outside on the sidewalk to see if people would slip while i hid behind some bushes. After a while, no one walked by. I took matters into my own hands and walked over one, nothing happened i walked over the others, and slid a bit, but not enough to fall. I had the bright idea of talking off my shoes and socks to attempt this, by this time my Grandpa was watering the grass while i was on the driveway. I walked onto one fast and slipped going midair slamming my head on the bumper of the car. I cried and my Grandpa rushed over seeing this thinking i broke my neck. He asked why would I do such a thing, i replied with \"I just wanted to see if I could fall on a banana peel!\" He, with a confused as fuck face said, \"Well of course you can! Haven't you seen it on the cartoons!?\" Never doubted cartoons again.", "summary": "Yes. You CAN slip and fall when you walk onto a banana peel. It hurts."}
{"id": "t3_1jzj82", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Could use some advice...", "post": "Fair warning, this is my first post to Reddit, and I'm on mobile. Please bare with me.\n\nA week ago, I decided to start a (hopefully) lifelong journey to slowly yet steadily improve my life. I bought a scale, and weighed myself at 340lbs. I wasn't nearly as upset as I probably should've been, considering I was expecting closer to 400lbs.\n\nThat very day, I took the first step. I made a myfitnesspal account, and tracked a typical day for me, with no changes. I was very, very quickly disgusted. I discovered two things that fascinated me. The first being, that I DONT over eat. I do however, drink incredible amounts of calories. I found I was drinking TWO THOUSAND calories on a good day. Well, clearly I've established what I need to change most, right? Right.\n\nThe next day, and every day since, I've completely stopped drinking soda, and went into what I believe was a sugar/caffeine withdrawal. Years of drinking hundreds upon hundreds of calories worth of soda has left me more than a little messed up. I allow myself 1 glass of coke a week, and so far this has kept off any cravings, yay! \n\nNow for the advice I need. As I said, I've been tracking my progress with myfitnesspal, hoping to lose 100lbs within a year. Myfitnesspal puts me at approximately 2500cal/day at a loss of 2lbs/week. And I'm actually having trouble meeting this. Just wondering if I should be concerned if I'm not even coming close to the calories that are suggested I eat in a day. Note, I do NOT feel hungry.", "summary": "Having difficulties meeting my calorie goals, and sometimes end up 100s below an already low goal (for someone my size), should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_36ywxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and ex bf [26 M]: been together for 1yr, he is a recovering drug addict who relapsed.", "post": "Hi. It's my first time posting and just want any advice for my situation and that it does hopefully get better--emotionally, mentally, etc.\n\nA quick background= I had been with my boyfriend for a year, he was honest about his status as a recovering drug addict, we fought because of his problems that stemmed from his recovery.\n\nOrdeal= He relapsed and started acting weird. I am a straight edge person so I didn't know he had been using again and he obviously didn't tell me. I was worried and scared so I contacted a relative of his. Long story short, his relative came and got him and we parted ways. I was later notified by said relative that I should cut all communication with my then boyfriend. I told his relative that I understand because my then boyfriend's recovery is important and relationships can trigger recovering addicts but that I was hurt because we were very serious and I was always there for him, even when his family wasn't.\n\nI know now that the desire for recovery must and can only come from the addict for it to come to any fruition. I have been an emotional wreck because it has been a few months of no contact with him or his family and I don't know what is happening. I am respecting the family's wish of no contact and their son's recovery process. I know this sounds like a broken record, but I still love my recovering addict and I haven't been able to \"detach\" and move on.\n\nAny tips, hints, or whatever will greatly help. Even if it is an \"internet slap\" for me to get my bearings straight. Am I doing the right thing for not contacting them? I don't know if my recovering drug addict knows...I'm worried that he thinks I abandoned him.", "summary": "My recovering drug addict boyfriend relapsed, I called a relative of his for help, the relative came to get my boyfriend. I was later told to not contact my boyfriend by said relative and haven't done so in a few months. Any advice/suggestions will be greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2ni4jq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am leaving to college on the opposite side of the country and I need help with what to do for my last months with my girlfriend [17 F] of two years", "post": "This is probably going to be short because I'm on mobile.\n\nI recently got accepted into a college in northern Michigan and I'm currently living in Georgia. My girlfriend and I have one of the best relationships I have ever had in my life and we are strong about communication between each other. We both know it's coming up soon, but it's inevitable that we will have to break up when I leave to college.\n\nBefore I leave I would like to do something special with her. What would /r/relationships recommend I do? I'm really lost if I should start to move on or make the best out of what I have.", "summary": "What should I do with my girlfriend before I leave to the other side of the country"}
{"id": "t3_4xomti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23F) with my boyfriend (26M) - how do I get over something that wasn't his fault but is still causing anxiety and insecurity?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and now, things are wonderful. However, while I logically acknowledge his, it's hard for me to feel it emotionally. \n\nEarly on in our relationship (March-mid June), he underwent a lot of life stress that caused him to become a completely different person - he was distant, doubting the relationship for no good reason, regularly 1-3 hours late to meet me, etc. We talked about breaking up (amicably) but we didn't. During this time, I tried my best to be understanding and I basically put aside my needs (e.g. affection or wanting to hang out more) so that he could have space to deal with his stress. As a result of everything, I became a little depressed and also incredibly, frequently anxious about everything.\n\nNow, he is back to being wonderful, affectionate, supportive, and considerate again. However, because I've been habituated to negative norms for those 3 months, I have a hard time re-setting and accepting the new norm. Even though things have been good for 2 months now, I'm still  cripplingly anxious. I still don't give him the benefit of the doubt. I still worry that we are on the edge of breaking up. \n\nWe've talked a lot about this and we don't know what to do. I know that his feelings and actions in his stressful period are no longer relevant or applicable. He's debunked some of my worries, like my fear that he doesn't think our relationship is good. He's working to address my needs. I know I need to get over the past, but I don't know how. My pent-up emotions are now bubbling over and I'm more irritable, negative, and accusative, but I don't want to be. It's not that I can't forgive him, since he didn't do anything wrong, but I don't know how to change my fearful, anxious mindset and cognitive distortions of the present. \n\nDoes anyone have any thoughts, advice, or similar stories? Thanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend went through a super stressful time that put a strain on our relationship. Now things are wonderful but I can't get over some of the mental damage it caused."}
{"id": "t3_3qox6k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving feminine hygiene products in the bathroom with visitors in the house", "post": "Just happened. I'm mortified. \n\nMy flatmate's mother and sister are visiting for a while, I haven't met them yet as they arrived late last night. This morning I went to the bathroom to deal with this time of the month that girls have, but I forgot to actually deal with the stuff I was supposed to throw out.\n\nThe toilet is next to the bathtub and I'd wrapped my pad in toilet paper and put it on the side of the bathtub, intending to throw it out in a second. Obviously I forgot and happily left the house for a couple of hours. \n\nI come back to my room and hear that they're showering etc and when I go in the bathroom, behold, I see what I'd left there. Yeah it's in paper but it's fairly obvious.\n\nI think I'll just hide in my room until they leave.", "summary": "being a girl is terrifying"}
{"id": "t3_1hl5t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of one year told me last night that she hopes to get married eventually. We're both 18 and starting at the same school in September. I'm kind of freaking out. Any advice?", "post": "So I slept at her house last night, and I guess the usual pillow talk got pretty emotional (\"I'll always love you,\" etc.), to the point where she asked me \"Do you want to know a secret?\" and then said \"I wanna marry you.\" We've been going out for a year and were very close friends for a year and a half before that, and we've become pretty dependent on one another since we got together. I do love her... But we're only 18. We both have a lot of living and a lot of growing up left to do, and there's no way I'm ready to make that kind of commitment or even consider it.\n\nAt the same time, I care very deeply for her and I want our relationship to continue into college, but I have no idea what the rest of my life might be like, and obviously, I need the chance to make my own choices and become an adult before I can promise anything.\n\nI didn't say I wanted to marry her too (then I'd really be in a dilemma), but I said I had thought about it before and it had always seemed like it would work out (maybe that was stupid, but at that point I was pretty shocked). I don't know. I'm not sure how to handle the situation, but I know I need to do something. Any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend drops the ball, I need to set some clear boundaries without ending the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_38x1r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30M] falling for a coworker [24F] and my wife [30F] knows; small child involved.", "post": "So, my wife and I have been together for approximately 11 years, and married for 4 of those. Everything has been mostly great, we have our ups and downs, but what relationship doesn't?\n\nAround a year and a half ago, we got pregnant, and were both very excited about having a baby. The Pregnancy came and went and out came a perfect little girl. \n\nAround 3 months ago, my place of employment hired a new server and we instantly hit it off. At first it was just a genuine friendship shared with other employees, but it has turned into more than that. We began talking outside of work, and what most would consider, inappropriate levels of flirting (never met outside of work or engaged in any physical contact). This was going on for about 2 weeks before my wife found out. Which of course resulted in a big fight that lasted several days/nights. \n\nI love my wife, I do, but the spark is gone and with this new interest, I honestly don't know if I want it back with her or not. I also don't want to lose my daughter, or for to grow up with out a dad around.\n\nWhen I became a parent, did I give up any right to happiness? Is that just one of the costs?\n\nI know how incredibly selfish this comes across as, and I guess it is. This 'fling' likely has already ruined my marriage, and I'm sure it doesn't mean anything to the other person involved. I feel it speaks to a great issue at hand though. If I'm so willing to throw away an 11 year relationship for something new and meaningless, what does that say about my marriage or me?\n\nPlease help, I'm just trying to make sense of my feelings and what I'm supposed to do; I'm not looking for validation.", "summary": "Happy marriage, introduce new love interest, consider throwing everything \"good\" away to be with other person."}
{"id": "t3_j7iiv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me and my depressed summer cutie", "post": "I'm 21 and the girl I'm talking about is 21 (about to be 22), here's the story... This girl is from out of state and goes to the same college as me and has of late become homesick and depressed. She says she is done with guys for a while and is confused right now. She has been going and staying out at my parents house (how I met her) because she met them at church and feels at home, at their house. She does housework to pay my parents back and they let her stay over whenever and she studies over there as well for summer school. I live in the same town and have been making excuses to visit my parents house lately... She has been there in and out all summer and I have come to know her over the past few weeks and she is a nice but shy girl. We have had a few conversations but nothing serious and I'm kind of interested in asking her out but don't know how to go about this. How do I get her away from my parents to ask her out? Or how do I ask a girl out in front of my parents? Or do I just let her have this time without complicating it? Help!", "summary": "Girl staying at my parents house. I want to ask her out but don't know how..."}
{"id": "t3_2cw0wb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "over but not forgotten?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI've been in a relationship with my gf for nearly 2 years, and I'm absolutely in love with her. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else- cringe i know.\n\nhowever I have this ex... she's a bit promiscuous and looking back on it, she didn't treat me well and we were never technically a couple.. I would never go back there, but now and again i find myself checking up on her social media, I don't really know why, it kind of just happens, like I used check her instagram, facebook and tumblr now and then, but I deleted her off fb, twitter and insta so she could never cause my relationships problems by messaging me (she still wants to be friends but it upsets my gf so I don't want to)\n\nnow I keep checking her tumblr and I don't know why? she posts very revealing photos all the time but I don't really dig that too much, I'm more than happy with my GF's body..\n\nWhy do I feel the need to check these things? I know I'm over her but why can't I just leave that?! maybe it's the forbidden fruit side of it or the curiousity... \n\nI think part of the reason is that a lot of guys think she's really sexy and whatever and I wanna look and be like \"totally did that\" but I think that makes me an asshole\n\nI don't really know what i need advice on, maybe to get over it and stop being a pussy, or maybe reassurance that it's fine..", "summary": "keep looking at social media updates of my ex "}
{"id": "t3_1uk7ee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he [M24] no longer interested in me [F20] or just really busy? (1 year)", "post": "The first six months of my relationship (I would describe as middle-distance, about 2-4hrs travelling depending on where we are) were amazing - he was caring, sweet, generous, surprised me and we saw each other lots. The summer as hard - he picked up more work and decided to go back to college and we argued a lot because every time I said I wanted to see him and he was too busy, I would get upset. Fast forward and in the last 6 months we have seen each other a total of 6 nights. We text frequently, we do not Skype or phonecall each other. His communication is very minimal and the things he used to do to make me happy (snapchat, sexting, pictures, messages) have all but dried up. Recently he took me for a romantic weekend break, but we haven't seen each other for the following six weeks. Every time I say I miss him and want to see each other more, he kicks off and says I am being selfish because he works really hard and is trying to juggle a degree with his work. When we are together, it's great, the sex is amazing, and we don't argue. He is affectionate and generous. \n\nHe has exams at the moment so I don't want to bring it up again. I am totally and utterly besotted with this guy, I love him more than anything, but everything is saying he isn't interested. He doesn't want to sext, rarely wants to talk and hasn't expressed any desire to see me. I don't want to ruin his exams but I want to move forward and gauge what he wants from me.", "summary": "Minimal contact and seeing each other. He used to adore me, and I still adore him. Is he actually totally snowed under with work and exams, or just bored and doesn't want to break up? How can I ask him for more commitment?"}
{"id": "t3_15esgh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [f22] depression starting to hurt my boyfriend [m26]", "post": "We've been together (long distance but visiting for a week or two every few months and living together during summers) for nearly three years now. Ups and downs but mostly awesome. Best friends, good communication, lots of sex, mutual interests, etc. I'm kind of high maintenance (emotionally) and needy and I've always been really upfront about that, but it works because he loves getting and giving a lot of attention and taking care of someone. We're good to and respectful of each other.\n\nThe problem is though that he's also a fixer, personality-wise, and relentlessly positive - mostly because he's at a really good place in life right now. I've had chronic cyclical depression for about nine years and it takes a huge toll on my mental health and personal happiness. This really bothers him, and it is increasingly problematic because he has the attitude of \"well you just need to stop thinking that way!\" and it's not quite that simple. The longer it doesn't get better the more it affects him and us.\n\nIt actually has gotten better. At this point it's more situational - I'm in college in a state I hate studying something I don't care about anymore but can't switch from and I don't have many friends because I have a hard time maintaining friendships and my family that I'm financially dependent on due to school is objectively awful (that's a whole 'nother can of worms). When I go home to him it gets a lot better usually. I have his family, who loves me, and him and a close-knit group of friends. I think my depression will recede drastically when I graduate and move there permanently but I don't really know that.\n\nIn the mean time it hurts him. He doesn't understand why I can't just stop being so negative, he worries constantly about me and feels miserable when I'm miserable (which I really hate and intensifies my general feelings of guilt). I have no idea what to do, honestly.", "summary": "my depression makes my boyfriend feel sad and I hate hurting him"}
{"id": "t3_2y4mc7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/M] have a crush on a girl [16/F], we're good friends and I wanna get a relationship going, how/where to start?", "post": "Hello everyone, this is my first time asking the internet for advice on something but I really want this to work out for me.\n\nSo basically; this girl and I have known each other for about 4-5 years and we're pretty good friends and we get along pretty well, I'm good at making her laugh and she's great to talk to.\n\nWhen it comes to relationships, I've never even been in a semi-serious one before, although I'm after a stable, happy relationship that revolves around actual love and caring for each other, rather than the increasingly more typical \"whoo, relationship means sex!\" kind of relationship, what I'm trying to say here is I want this to count.\n\nI don't really want to go into too much fine detail here, but I'm after advice on how to get the ball rolling, whether digitally or in person. (I know in person makes them feel more special, but if I can't muster the courage, nobody's gonna be feeling special but me after I blow my chance.)\n\nWould it be better to ask her on a date? Just tell her how I feel about her and see her response, then move forward or withdraw depending on the response? Or the typical \"Will you go out with me?\" kinda thing.\n\nNow let's say we get this going, then what? We're both currently attending school, I don't have a job, so I have little to no income, so movies and dates can't really be a common thing, maybe occasional... maybe...\n\nI'd just like to reiterate that I lack confidence with relationships to the point I am actually slightly depressed (Not attention seeking, just elaborating on the case, haha).", "summary": "How to get a relationship going with an unsuspecting (I assume she doesn't know) crush, if something does start, where to from there, as students?"}
{"id": "t3_2weoov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] Been going out for over a month now and while I'm not going to accuse her [25 F] of not being over him (yet), somehow the ex is brought up almost every date", "post": "That trail? Yeah, she hiked it with him. Her car? Yeah, she bought it from her ex's father for a steal! We're watching something on Netflix while cuddling? Did I mention she and her ex still share an account? (Admittedly, I share mine with my ex as well, but I don't just volunteer that information.) We're watching freaking WWE? (Yes, we're both fans DAMMIT /Vince) Oh, her ex got her into it.\n\nI like her a lot, she's really sweet and maybe she doesn't mean anything from it but it's getting prettttty damn annoying. I feel like I'm in that awkward space though where we actually haven't been seeing each other long enough to 'confront' her about it. Gut feeling is that no good can come out of continuing this but wondering with the love doctors of Reddit have to say. Thx.", "summary": "Ex gets brought up every other conversation. Exaggerating."}
{"id": "t3_habsi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is he just not that into me? 26f", "post": "(repost from /r/okcupid because I'm dumb)\n\nOk, I feel like such a high schooler having to ask this, but I was hoping reddit could help me out here. I'm newly single and I feel like I'm completely lost trying to get back into the game.\n\nSo, I met a guy on okc. Things seem to be going really well. His picture wasn't that exciting, but we had a lot in common so I gave him a shot. He's funny, nerdy, loves all my favorite stand-up comedians, loves Firefly, blah blah blah. On paper, the perfect man. In person? He's also freaking GORGEOUS. And still funny and nerdy. He's the first guy I've met on okc who I felt genuinely excited about, rather than just cautiously optimistic.\n\nSo here's the rub: we've been on four fantastic dates, but he hasn't made a move. Not even a peck on the cheek. I'm starting to wonder if he's not attracted to me. He seems like the type of guy who's been a nerd his whole life, and doesn't realize he's hot, so his confidence might not be there. I'm tempted to make the first move, but I also suspect he's just old-fashioned, and that would completely turn him off. What do I do? How many dates do you all usually go on before it feels right to make a move? How do the men of reddit feel about the woman initiating?", "summary": "I've been on four dates with a man who I want to hump into a stupor. I would do awful, unspeakable things to him. He has not even kissed me yet."}
{"id": "t3_1v6hwx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "First serious relationship and lost", "post": "I'm a 20/f and My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. The \"butterflies\" stage ended when we'd been dating for about 5 months and I've been confused ever since. As this is my first serious relationship, I was/am very naive and thought the butterflies lasted forever. \n\nMy main issue is just not knowing what's \"normal\". I do realize that everyone has their own \"normal\" but I question everything in my relationship--everything from my own sexuality to how often I should want to be texting him. He is perfect; he's seen me at my best and worst and still loves me. Any issue we have, I know I can go to him and we will work it out. These facts lead me to believe that he is not the issue, but I am. \n\nI know I love him and I'm pretty sure I'm in love with him but I'm just not happy. I think this is because of my anxiety/depression, which also makes me very insecure, but like I said, I'm questioning everything.", "summary": "I'm new at serious relationships and don't know what's normal!"}
{"id": "t3_21oly0", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Potential employer asks for a photo of me. This is illegal though. How do I refuse his request politely?", "post": "Some information, I was applying to a job and they requested I send in a cover letter, resume, and recent photograph. However this is not a modelling or entertainment company. It's a marketing intern position. \n\nI just sent my letter and resume and felt that if they were really interested, they will contact me. \n\nThey did contact me, but not for an interview but for a photo.\n\nI checked labour laws and it states unless its a modelling or entertainment position, they cannot ask for a photo.\n\nHow do I politely decline sending a photo. I want the job still but I don't want to come off as rude. I was thinking of writing \"how about I come in for an interview instead?\" But would that be rude for me to impose that on him? And if he says something like \"we need a photo before extending an interview\" can I just outright tell him that question is inappropriate by labour law standards or should I say \"not applicable\" ?", "summary": "I want the job but don't want to send in a photo. How to tell him \"no\" with potential to still get job"}
{"id": "t3_28f3tn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Cali] Buying out of a co-owned house and other legal disputes.", "post": "We were gifted a portion of a house that we co-owned and the other family members wants us to give them the money ASAP. We are happily going to give them the money, but the biggest problem is that our grandpa is living in the room we want to rent out. Renting out the room is the only way to pay for the massive loan we had to take out, and we want them to take care of our grandpa in their house. They are already cashing in his social-security and are his legal care-takers, but they don't want him in their house; they just want to keep cashing in the checks without him having to live there.\n\nI am having a lawyer draft a document to try and protect ourselves from them asking for more money, but we also have another stipulation that we wanted added that would have them take our grandpa out of our hands. He said that we would have to draft two separate agreements for giving them the money and to have them take grandpa to live with them. \n\nThere is no guarantee that they would sign the second form, and we are scared that they would take the money and run without us being able to have a place for our grandpa (within the family). We don't want him to be in a senior home, which is the worst outcome possible.\nIf we didn't have to rent out the place because of the loan, then we would gladly keep our grandpa with us.\n\nThey also threatened to sue us for their money, even though they gifted us the house. Technically we already own the house and we don't have to give them a single penny as it wasn't a sale or agreement written out already, but we aren't dicks like them. The questions is just if we can have the two documents combined into one, where they would have to provide our grandpa with somewhere to stay and then we'll give them the money. I know it's a tall order, but I'm not sure of what to do anymore.", "summary": "Secondary family wants money even though they forced the sale on us and already gifted us the house. We want to give them the money but we need to have our grandpa in their custody/house to make sure he is taken care of, because we need to rent out his room. "}
{"id": "t3_5193zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] my father [61M] sometimes seems to not care about me, and it really hurts.", "post": "Im not even going to bother post all the abuse he's done to me, posted that in other places. But\n\n-first visit to the gynecologist, (was 19 then too, thought there was something wrong, wasn't. Lol yeah right, like I'll have sex before 25) and the doctor prodded and was super rough and I came out crying and my dad told both my mom and I \"forget it! It doesn't matter\", \"drop it now!\", etc.\n\n-I had a boyfriend for a year. My father never bothered to meet him. Didn't seem to get too mad at all when I told my parents my boyfriend abused me.  \n\n-I have heard nasty things my father said about me when he thought I wasn't listening.\n\nI am in college but there's no way I can move out.", "summary": "I don't think my dad cares about me and it hurts. I have no other male family to turn to, as my dad moved us thousands of miles away from my only family (other than parents)."}
{"id": "t3_4auqcg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my BF [26 M] 5 years, I'm no longer sexually attracted to him", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, we met in college and had one year together since then we've been long distance going from seeing each other every month for a weekend to now we have 7hrs between us and we see each other every 4-6 months. I will be graduating (Masters degree) in June and we had planned for me to move down to where he lives.\n\nI truly love my boyfriend but our relationship has become stagnant, he's been depressed for a while and started taking meds for it (relevant in a bit), he seems to think that everything will be great when we're living together but the last two times I saw him (Christmas and Thanksgiving) had me reconsidering my relationship. He got absurdly drunk at two events we attended and it was mortifying, he stated it's because he's stressed, depressed and knew we would be parting soon, again. \n\nBluntly, I am not attracted to my boyfriend sexually right now. Sex with him was a chore the last two times we saw each other (if I'm completely honest it's always not been the best), he couldn't finish because of his meds. Usually he can't finish inside me for whatever reason and instead jacks off which does nothing to make me feel desirable in this relationship. \n\nI love him but I question how well I know him, he is very closed-off and whenever I have pointed out concerns/issues he says it'll be better when we live together...\n\nHow do I fix this? I don't know what to do. My entire adult life so far has been tied up in this guy. I love him deeply but I feel dread at the thought of a lifetime of our current relationship/sex life. I tried to keep this concise, if you have any questions I can answer them in the comments.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend deeply, we are long distance, barely see each other, our relationship is stagnant and I find myself no longer attracted to him. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_1lv36n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my partner [20F] of 2 years, been told she no longer wants sex due to personal beliefs.", "post": "**So this is the background**. We have been dating for close to 2 years now and we both love each other dearly and plan to be together for our lives. She is a Christian and I am agnostic, so no real strong specific religious beliefs for myself. As a Christian herself she holds no strict conservative views...ie gay marriage, role of women in a relationship etc. \n\n---\n\n**We didn't have sex until 8 months into our relationship and all was going well until now**. Around a month ago a couple from her young adults bible study group decided they would no longer live together because they aren't married. This triggered her decision to no longer want to have sex. This was suddenly laid out to me and I was very frustrated but we have tried to talk through it a few times since then. We still aren't having sex and I feel like I've just lost a part of our relationship. I've told her that we are already in a committed relationship and marriage shouldn't just be a reward for sex. She agrees with me on this and keeps telling me that she wants to have sex with me too but can't give clear reasons why she can't anymore. She also agrees that nothing really changes in our love with marriage or no marriage. I've tried to give her my point of view but it feels like they just fall on flat ears. We have talked about marriage before and we both know its still at least 4 years away. I love her very much but I find now that this is making us argue when we never used to. \n\n---\n\n**She never had an issue with it until the couple from her young adults bible study moved out**. How can I try and go about this situation and bring things the way they were? I also fear this decision could cause a cascade of others that affect our relationship. I feel like I could just ignore the issue but that would just cause frustration. However I feel like I'm being unreasonable to her for wanting sex. How can I talk to her about this?", "summary": "GF of 2 years no longer wants sex for Christian belief reasons. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_zmft1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, at what point, if any, do you believe artificial life should be considered \"alive\" and unlawful to destroy?", "post": "I was reading the artificial heaven question on this subreddit, and it got me thinking...too much. I've been watching a lot of scifi TV shows lately, and keep debating with myself about the point at which artificial life should be given the same rights humans have.\n\nI thought about it for a while, and concluded humans are similar to robots. From what I know, we have signals going through our bodies and neurons interacting to give us everything that makes us human (consciousness, self-awareness, etc). So I figure any type of artificial intelligence that reaches this level should be given the same rights, right?\n\nBut at the same time, wouldn't artificial intelligence just be a computer's imitation of consciousness, self-awareness, etc? And is that all we are too, except our brains imitation?", "summary": "At what point should Data or Marvin be considered \"alive\" instead of just a computer imitation of humans? And if none, isn't that all we are, a neurological system's imitation of those same traits?"}
{"id": "t3_3cej6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26f woken up by fire alarm & 28m passed out drunk on couch", "post": "I (26f) have not been getting enough sleep lately, so knowing I had some free time last night, I decided to take 3 melatonin & get some actual good, deep REM sleep to reboost. My boyfriend (28m) was drinking beer and playing video games with a friend as usual. Did not think too much of it. Fast forward 6 hours later, and I wake up to the fire alarm blaring. I run to the kitchen to see a giant pan of ramen burning on the stove. The kitchen was filled with smoke so I turned off the stove and rushed to get the windows and doors open. \n\nHe almost set the fucking house on fire. It took me a *long* time to wake up from the alarm because it made its way into the setting of my dream. I took 3 melatonin. I normally don't wake up for anything. I am so shaken up right now. We have a dog and two cats. I know it could've been worse, but how do I get him to see the seriousness in this?! His drinking has gotten out of hand and I'm worried he's going to brush it off as not a \"big deal\".", "summary": "Bf almost set house on fire in middle of night, how do I get him to see his drinking is out of hand (he's in denial)?"}
{"id": "t3_1fhooz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help recovering after the affair. (23/f)(31/m)", "post": "My boyfriend had an affair. We've been together nearly 2 years. It's been several months since the affair ended and we are working on it. He's given 110% to proving himself and getting help for substance abuse issues as well. Things are better between us now than they've been in awhile. \n\nSometimes I have a really hard time coping with it. I guess I wanted to see if anyone had any advice they could offer? \n\nIt's like this awful rollercoaster sometimes. I can't believe he did such a hurtful and selfish thing to me, and to the other woman. She and I have talked at length, and while it's been helpful at answering questions, it's also just something else to be sad about. \n\nI know he regrets what he did. He's taken full responsibility for it, he hasn't shied away from anything I need to ask, and he's gone the extra mile to show me he wants to earn my trust back. \n\nHonestly sometimes I just feel so broken. And I don't want to keep throwing it in his face because he's well aware he fucked up and it's something we can either move past or stay stuck at. \n\nI want to move past it. I am obviously hurt and angry with him, but also with myself. I feel like by staying with him, I am making what he did okay. Or that I'm not respecting myself. On the other hand, I know people fuck up, and I've never been one to give up on people. \n\nIs this just going to take time? Am I being an idiot?", "summary": "Boyfriend had an affair. His actions show he's trying to fix things, but I still feel hurt months later. Anything that can help?"}
{"id": "t3_1n0asc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How involved are you in the nonprofit sector or Not-for-Gain Organizations in your country? (btw - it's my cake day!)", "post": "I can't believe it's been a year already. I've seen some moderate growth on /r/nonprofit over the past year. So please, come by, say hi, and give us your feedback!    \n    \n    \nAlso in the last year, we got to see this TED talk make some waves: [Dan Pallotta: The way we think about charity is dead wrong](\n\nWhile some of what Pallotta said is still under scrutiny, a great idea is propagating: if we invest in the infrastructure of a nonprofit, it can grow immensely. If we give nonprofits and NGOs  the means to do their own research, their work will be more effective at *solving* problems, and not just providing \"Band-Aid\" solutions. \n\nHowever, we must demand transparency -- there are a few scams out there, as uncovered by \"[America's 50 Worst Charities] Basically, things like the \"Kids Wish Network\" making money by pretending to be the \"Make-a-Wish Foundation.\"\n\nWhile Bill Gates made the odd choice to invest even more money into better condoms, he also signed \"[The Giving Pledge] this year -- a cohort of high net worth individuals pledging to give away half their wealth in their lifetimes. (Certain members, naturally, are also under scrutiny, but it's still a big deal). \n\n**Finally, and most importantly, there's the Reddit community's involvement** in the \"[third sector] By raising awareness of articles like [this] you are helping to reshape the culture. The biggest asset you have, Redditors, is your input. Your ideas. There are many energetic young people who would be very valuable at any one of thousands of charitable organizations across the globe. I don't believe you have any duty or obligation to get involved. I'm not here to preach.  But I do believe your input is invaluable.", "summary": "What do you think about not-for-profit organizations and the work they do? Are you involved, or have you thought about getting involved?"}
{"id": "t3_3makqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] want to tell my girlfriend [24 F] about my mother's medical condition", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for eight months now, initially casually and seriously since two months. She is American and we both live in the US, but I'm originally from Spain and my family still resides there. We are both going on vacation to Italy next week and have an eight hour layover in my home town. Although we haven't decided what to do during this time, it is quite likely that she will meet my parents.\n\nMy mother is disabled due to a severe stroke she had a few years ago and can no longer speak, walk, nor take care of herself. She stays at home with my father and has a nurse take care of her while my father works. I have not yet mentioned this to my girlfriend, partly because I have not found a good time to bring it up and partially because I am very reserved about sharing this information with other people. I believe I have also not completely made peace with the situation and have only ever confided it to my best friend and my now ex-girlfriend.\n\nMy girlfriend's family also has various medical issues, which she has always been very open about. Although I know that my situation is nothing to be ashamed of and that I have every right to avoid telling her until I feel comfortable, I can't help but feel a bit lousy about not telling her earlier. I just hope that she doesn't feel that I did not trust her enough to tell her without the pressure of her meeting my parents and that this has a negative effect on our relationship. The truth is that I absolutely trust her with this and that she is one of the most important people in my life, it's just that whenever I tried to tell her I got cold feet.\n\nI guess all that I am looking for with this post is some reassurance that she will probably completely understand why I have withheld telling her and that I didn't do anything wrong or questionable.", "summary": "Girlfriend will be meeting my mother next week. Withheld telling my girlfriend that my mother is disabled until now. Looking for some reassurance that I have not done anything wrong or questionable."}
{"id": "t3_2mvpda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, help me [28F] understand what I'm feeling for my ex's besfriend [32M] and how to move on!", "post": "I was in an unfulfilling relationship for two years because I was too afraid to break up, I hoped it would get better but it didn't. I'm glad it's over now (2 months ago) but...\n\nDuring the last year of the relationship I started noticing that I have deep and strange feelings for my boyfriend's bestfriend.\n\nThe way I feel around this guy is different than anything else I've ever felt before in my entire life, very powerful and kinda obsessive. \n\nI tried very hard to block it and get over it, but he's still very present in my mind multiple times a day. We have tons of friends in common and live in a small town so I run into him occasionally. \n\nWhenever he enters the room I get extremely anxious, the entire setting becomes about him in my mind but I try my best not to show it to him or anyone.\n\nYes I find him extremely attractive but it's not just that, he used to show me lots of care and attention. He's very intelligent. He has issues because he grew up without a family, I have this strong urge to be there for him and make him happy.\n\nI know we can never be together because that would really hurt my ex-boyfriend (my ex is a great guy and doesn't deserve this), plus I don't even know if he likes me back.\n\nHonestly, I always felt that he liked me too because I had special treatment, he looked at me whenever he made jokes, there was always this powerful electric atmosphere whenever we were alone. I caught him looking from afar more than once. But then again it could have been all in my stupid delusional head.\n\nSo.. I absolutely know that I need to move on now.. but I really, really REALLY feel the need to know whether he felt something for me as well or not. I truly wish I didn't have this need.", "summary": "I have feelings for my ex's bestfriend, I don't understand what they are but I need to get rid of them because there's no future. Dying to know how he feels about me but no good can come out of that."}
{"id": "t3_4tj3gc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kissing a turtle", "post": "ok, this happened like 16 years ago when I was eleven years old. I was at my Aunt's house and playing with my cousin's turtle. I was pretending the turtle was racing down the walkway against other turtles. (I was a weird kid) so of course because this was my imaginary turtle race, the turtle I was playing was the winner! So, elated at our mutual victory after a lengthy imaginary training filled with imaginary trials and tribulations, I gave the turtle several kisses on his turtle nose. He responded to my gleeful kisses by latching on to my upper lip, real hard. This hurt, pretty bad. So I ran up the steps to my Aunt's porch, holding the turtle to my face still, since he wouldn't let go. I was already crying from the pain, but my cries were muffled by the turtle being in front of my mouth. My dickhead cousin, Charles spotted me and thought I was eating cheeseburger or something. (He's a moron in addition to being a shitty person) so he just ignores me. I run to my Uncle, who is a giant Texan and he immediately sees the problem and grabs me and we go back outside. First, he tries to wedge the turtles jaws open using a flat nosed pliers. This is unsuccessful. This turtle was tenacious. He then ingeniously decided to hold me by my feet and dangle me upside down, with the turtle's back resting on a limestone bench. Sensing that he was on his back and deciding the more pressing issue was to right himself, the turtle let go of my lip finally. However, once his mouth was no longer pinching my lip, all the blood would rush to my injury, causing intense pain and I screamed again, frightening the turtle and causing him to clamp down on my lip again. This process repeated multiple times until I finally realized I needed to not scream when the turtle let go of me. By the time the situation was resolved, half a dozen or so family members had gathered around to watch laugh at the scene. My Aunt took great joy in telling that story until the day she died.\n\"Remember that time you kissed a turtle?\" \"How are you ole_Frank? been kissin' any turtles lately?\"", "summary": "I kissed a turtle as a kid and it bit me."}
{"id": "t3_53a9fq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18F] jealous of my friend [17F] and it's taken a toll on my self-esteem and the friendship", "post": "I'm on mobile and new to Reddit so if anyone could show me how to add flair/direct me to a more appropriate subreddit that would be very appreciated. \n\nI've always had low self-esteem. I'm 5 feet tall and slightly chubby, but still within what is considered a \"healthy\" weight. I've suffered from acne for most of my life and while it's calmed down a bit now, I still have scars and occasional breakouts. I even posted to r/amiugly and... the results were less than satisfying. I also have anxiety and some minor depression which makes everything 10x worse. However, I'm blessed enough to have a loving and understanding  boyfriend who prefers my body type and makes me feel beautiful.\n\nMy friend is tall, thin, and pretty. She's always been loved by just about everyone she meets, while I've always been shy and quiet and generally forgotten about (seriously, if you asked anyone in my high school, no one knew who I was and everyone knew her). She's perfect model material, so much that she was scouted (during a shift at McDonald's, no less! I hate how the uniform makes me look, but she's model material even at work). Ever since she got scouted, I've felt worse about myself. I always knew I wasn't as pretty as her, but now it was confirmed. I'm the ugly friend. \n\nI've since been... avoiding her. I feel horrible about it, but I can't bear to look at her. The fact that she had this opportunity handed to her on a silver platter because she won the genetic lottery makes me incredibly angry and jealous and sad. The fact that I'll never be beautiful and recognized as such makes me feel worse. The fact that I'm being so petty over this... you get the picture. I don't know what to do about any of it. I can't bring myself to talk to her about it. I'd love any sort of advice.", "summary": "my friend is a model and I'm jealous. It's brought down my self-esteem and made me want to avoid her."}
{"id": "t3_gys44", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help Reddit! my two best friends are likely dropping out of school and i'm not sure what to do.", "post": "To keep a long story short, for reasons regarding the law two of my closest friends (whom i started here with) and have both known since middle school are very likely to drop out. In fact depending on how things go they could end up incarcerated. \n\nTo makes things worse i am not very good at meeting people. This is in large part due to the medication i took from early childhood (Concerta, and other ADD/ADHD medication) has left me ability to meet people in a public place.\n\nSo i came here to ask for some help, or just suggestions, normally i would simply talk to my closest friend (attending a different college in state) but i have no means of contacting him (cell phone is broken).\n\nI feel lost and confused. Another thing weighing heavily on my mind is that my parents seek to buy a house in the town my current schooling is located in, and they are VERY serious about it, i've already looked at multiple houses for them. But to tell them why they should stop would be to tell them everything thats happened. (  my parents and my friends parents talk frequently and my friends have not told their parents what is going on for reasons of their choosing and i WILL NOT say something that could possibly compromise that.)\n\nI've thought of attending my closest friends school, which is instate but to be honest i'm not sure if my transfer would go through. I've also considered CC (community college) but i am saving that as a last resort.\n\nany suggestions, or advice would be great.", "summary": "two of my closest friends since childhood are about to drop out of college (due to reasons involving the law) and with my inability of meeting new people i not only feel incredibly lost now at my school but am lost as to what to do with the coming year. ALSO i am not homesick, the town i attend school in i have spent summers living in, i have an aunt and uncle, and a set of grandparents all of them i am close with."}
{"id": "t3_2637gy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] having problems trusting again after being cheated on by ex", "post": "Not using a throwaway because who gives a fuck\n\nA while ago my (ex)gf of around 7 months cheated on me.\n\n Now, I understand that I need to get over it, and I pretty much have, my problem is trusting my now girlfriend, lets just call her S, because she goes to a different school around 30 min away from me, and lives that far away too. She has a \"party\" background, while I on the other hand don't.\n\nHowever, she says the partying days are pretty much done, but I suspect that is because she goes to an online school, but that will change at the beginning of next year when she'll go back to a real high school because it looks better to graduate from.\n\nLike today she, without telling me, went to a \"pool party\" as she put it, that consisted of her, 2 of her friends (both girls, and 4 guys. That made me extremely unsettled. Am I over reacting, or am I justified in being unsettled by this? I feel weak and insecure when I keep telling myself that I shouldn't be. Any advice on how to get over this?", "summary": "I have severe issues trusting people, especially in relationships, after my last girlfriend (now ex) cheated on me after around 7 months. I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_4v07nr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf[21f] of almost 3 years broke up with me[24m] two weeks ago.", "post": "So after she broke up with me by only saying \"she was no longer invested in our relationship\" I severed all communication with her and deleted her off all social media. I'm slowly trying to get myself into a better place but a part of me wants to talk to her and get a more in depth reasoning as to why she made the choice. To me it came out of nowhere and a part of me wants that closure. The only thing is I don't know if knowing what she has to say will make things better or worse for me. I'm in a pretty dark place and I don't know if I can handle more pain at the moment.", "summary": "didn't get closure, not sure if I should"}
{"id": "t3_n4lka", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "University Advice as finals are coming..TLDR at bottom.", "post": "Hi guys! Ill try to make this short.\n\nEssentially, I have been blowing off class and I am paying the consequence. Over the past two weeks Ive been getting tutoring set up to review. Since I did this last time and got a 1.54 GPA, my mom drew an ultimatum and said if I get anything less than a 3.0 then I will not be going back to college.\n\nIts a week before finals week, and specifically 5 days before my first final. Ive been getting tutoring help like I said, and my mom has been gladly paying for it knowing it will help me. She knows Im struggling but she doesnt know how bad Ive been doing. Im in the D to low C range for Math and Physics, with my two Chem seminars and my Chem class picking up the slack (hopefully around Bs for all three..but I missed a chem midterm and that doesnt help...I was just feeling meh about it)\n\nMy mom knows since I got tutoring Ive been trying hard and connecting with her more, which I havent throughout the semester as much. She loves it, and I guess its nice too :). Anyways I wasnt sure if Im supposed to soften the blow or study my ass off, not let her know, and pray to god I do well on these 3 finals.", "summary": "I failed last semester, my mom said I need a 3.0 to go back to my university or else I go to community college again. I havent been doing too well gradewise, and she knows about it, but not as much as I do, meaning theres a big likelyhood I wont comeback. Do I tell her now, or when I get the report/go home........And in my situation, with the going to Community College, what do I do? do I try to reason with her? Ive been studying alot more these two weeks because of tutoring, and maybe because of finals. "}
{"id": "t3_1ffabw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M22] am in love with a girl[F20] who's family doesn't want me.", "post": "Spring of 2012, I started a relationship with this Chinese girl who I've known since high school. We have been dating for over one year. We have hard times, she doesn't know if we can end up together because I am Vietnamese, but we end up falling in love and having the most amazing year together. We were so happy together and always worked everything out so well. We were a team and did so many things together and spent a lot of time together. She and I literally had the best year anyone could ask for in a relationship.\n\nWell now, she just went back to China and breaks up with me the first day she gets back there. She cries a lot and is in a lot of pain making this decision. Her Grandmother and Aunt simply don't want her to date Vietnamese people. They said that how would our families talk to each other and hang out, yet my ex? girlfriend says they would probably be ok with her dating or marrying a white person. I am in a lot of pain, and I feel like this is so unfair, to be judged on race. She still says she loves me a lot and all that she needs is me, but is unable to go through with it. I don't know how I should feel or what I can do. I don't even know if there is anything she can do. I love her so much and this is the worst week I've ever had following the best year I've ever had. How should I/we proceed?", "summary": "her family doesn't want her to be with me because I am Vietnamese, not Chinese."}
{"id": "t3_kzmdm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Advice On Approach", "post": "I'm 22/M and she is 20.  We both go to the same university.\n\nFirst let me preface this by saying that I haven't dated in about 4 years.  My last relationship was during my junior/senior year in high school and it lasted almost 2 years before it ended badly.  Just thought you guys should know so you have some background info.\n\nNow for where I need advice.  I haven't quite met this girl yet, but I saw her at my roommate's ex-girlfriend's apartment.  My roommate and I live just a few doors down from them.  Based on what I can gather from friends that went to high school with her and a quick glance at her facebook page, she seems like she would be a pretty good match for me.\n\nSo I guess the question that I am posing is how should I go about getting to know this girl?  Should I just outright ask my neighbors about her and if they would be willing to set me up on a date or invite her to a group get together type thing.?\n\nIf the latter option happens (group get together), any advice on how to know if I should ask on her on a date will be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girl I want to pursue is a friend of my roommate's ex.  Not sure how to approach getting to know her."}
{"id": "t3_l13dt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does existentialism bother anyone else?", "post": "The very thought that one day soon I am going to be dead, and that everyone on this planet who is alive at the same time as me will be dead in a hundred years is cripplingly depressing for me to think about.\n\nThe fact remains that I will spend a great deal longer not existing, than existing. That simple fact echoes through my head these nights, and is a great hindrance to any kind of fulfilling life I may try to lead.\n\nWhen I die, when my eyes close for the last and final time, my soul, my consciousness, my being will cease to exist. The world will keep going. I will stop, and it will continue. My body will be disposed of, presumable cremated and my ashes will become part of a landfill or other garbage disposal fixture. \n\nI consider death to be very much like sleeping, without dreams. The only difference is that sleeping usually results in waking up a few hours later. Death is absolute sleep. Unending rest. An infinite period of zero concsiousness. Unsettling to say the least. \n\nAs a single human being, the dominant species of the planet know by humans as Earth, which revolves around a star which we refer to as the sun, in the milky way galaxy, which is one of god knows how many, and dwarfed by the existence of the great vast expanse of the dauntingly enormous vacuum which we call space, that is interespersed with heavenly bodies presumably similar to our own, which may or may not have life itself living upon them, I am the single most insignificant spec of matter in the entire universe. Any human being who does not believe this to be true is a complete and utter fool. Time waits for none of us, and will take all of us in the end. The end, in this case being a hundred years or less.\n\nHow does this not make you want to curl up into a little ball and cry yourself to sleep?", "summary": "Existing is a bitch, anyone agree?"}
{"id": "t3_4tdw1u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help I [23/M] made the worst mistake of my life. GF [23/F](serious)", "post": "I fucked up. I have been with my gf for 4 years and I was happy. I just threw all of that away 2 nights ago. I was drinking with some coworkers and it was this one coworker. I instantly regretted it and the morning of I told my gf my mistake. She cried and just ran out. I myself hate cheating too. I have a biological father who did that to my mother and I fucking did the same thing. She's on the other coast right now we were suppose to go together but I fucked up the previous night. We were planning on moving in together in September but I fucked it up. We haven't talked since she left. She said were on a break right now and we'll talk when she comes back in a week. I hate myself so much that I think the only way to make this right is if I just end myself so I can never hurt her again. I tried twice. My biggest fear right now is even if she takes me back it won't be remotely similar to what we had before. I don't think she'll be happy like that. I honestly don't know what will happen and I don't know if I can live with the results.", "summary": "I cheated on my longtime girlfriend who I saw my future with. I'm scared and hate myself. I love her."}
{"id": "t3_1ym7dr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (18m) having trouble asking out my best friend (18f)", "post": "I feel that this is going to be a long post. To start we're both in our senior year of high school and have known each other since sophomore year. When we first met I really didn't notice her that much and didn't talk to her until another friend introduced us to each other. After that we really hit it off well and I just thought we could be really cool friends.\nFast forward to next year and we have the same class again so we hang out constantly and try to partner up because we're both awkward around other people. (Side note we both are also on the swim team at our school so we naturally hang out a lot) People immediately notice and assume we're going out but we both fervently deny it as we're just friends. I was considering asking her out at this point, but was crushed when I found out she had just started going out with another guy before I could even ask. They break up at the end of the year because he was an asshole to her. \n\nFast forward to this school year and I finally get her number so we're chatting pretty regularly and not relying on school to talk anymore. I'm finally getting my confidence up to ask her to homecoming just as friends so she wouldn't feel awkward when she tells me her friend introduced her to a football player from another school. They never date but he decides to take her to homecoming so I never even go just saying I hung out with friends that night. Except that my best friends date never showed up, and that she was forced to tag along with a friends group. At this point I'm getting frustrated and want to protect her from more bad relationships but I don't want to ask her out and ruin our friendship should it not work out. I only recently asked her to prom as friend after mustering my confidence and want to be able to try to ask her out then. I've never been in a relationship before because I hate the awkwardness that it causes but I really like her. Is there anyway I could tell her how I feel without ruining our friendship?", "summary": "Trying to ask out best friend but don't want to ruin our friendship should it not work out. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3cvtky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and my girlfriend [17 M/F] will met again for the first time in 2 years.", "post": "I'm Mexican and when I was 16 years old I went to a little town in US Virginia as an exchange student for a year, there I met this beautiful 15 years old girl, by the half of the year we became very good friends and during the last 3 months we became boyfriend and girlfriend. \n\nAfter that I went back to Mexico and we have been talking together only by Facebook and Snapchat. It has been 2 years now, I just finished high school,I'm 18 years old and she is 17, and I'm finally capable of going back with her to VA. It is just for a week and I'm staying at her house. \n\nWe both are excited and quite nervous, so I wanted to see any of you have any tough or advice for me.\n\n BTW: We both are the introvert kind of people (if that makes any difference in your thoughts).", "summary": "I'm going to see my girlfriend for the first time after two years, and I'm nervous."}
{"id": "t3_3b1dy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] am worried that I can't feel attraction or romantic love.", "post": "I've never experienced attraction, at all, and I think I might like to fix that, but have no idea where to start. I was in therapy for a year before I couldn't afford it anymore, but it didn't seem to help much. I'm not even sure that it's something I want. \n\nI think it probably has something to do with my background- I was raped when I was 8, and have a father that was severely emotionally abusive to me, as well as physically abusive to my mother and brothers. But I don't know how someone can make themselves feel something that hasn't ever existed for them. I'm kind of having a hard time putting stuff into words so sorry if this lacks needed detail. Feel free to ask questions and I'll answer them to the best of my ability.", "summary": "Can't feel romantic love or attraction. Sexually and emotionally abused in the past."}
{"id": "t3_3e0r59", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my[40 M] have dated for 6 months...But age is an issue", "post": "Short Story... I met a guy and he has kids. He's 40 and I'm 32. I'm only 7 years older than his oldest and she mentioned he was robbing the cradle. He doesn't want his relationship with his daughter to be anything like his relationship with his father... They're very close and he believes that it will cause some issues with their relationship. We have so much in common and enjoy our time together, but there is my age...\n\nIs this common? Not to pursue a relationship because of the age difference between significant other and child? Is this not a hurdle that can be overcome? I've never been in this situation before, and it's the most heartbreaking situation to be in. I can't change my age.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_n7kjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what were the biggest \"butterfly effect\" events in your life? I'll start.", "post": "By \"butterfly effect\" events I mean things that happened or that you did that ended up having profound conseqences on your (or someone elses) life, the sort of consequences that no one could ever have foreseen.\n\nFor me, it was meeting my now best friend over twelve years ago in a computer club (yeah, we were nerds back then). He asked someone for a good place to get free subdomains (having your own domain name was mostly unthinkable to us at the time) - and I happened to know a service that offered just that.\n\nSo we started talking, and within a couple of weeks became good friends. Now, throughout the last decade, he's become one of the most influential people in my life - we've lived together in a student's dorm (where, 8 and a half years ago, I met the woman I'm still together with today), we've travelled together, been through tons of shit together, and his passion for science sparked my interest in it as well (which, in turn led to me starting to study Biology).", "summary": "had the course of my life altered by telling someone at a computer club about subdomains."}
{"id": "t3_4qfh6j", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm 18 and getting anxious about my job far away from home", "post": "I'm graduating this week and I signed up for a job as a hotel waitress which lasts 6 weeks away from home in hope I'll build up some confidence and independency because that would be my first time doing something by myself. I thought that would be a good start because I've planned on traveling by myself aswell.\n\nThe departure is on this sunday and now I'm getting anxious and I feel regret for signing up because I found out that it is a 5-star Hotel I will be working for and I have very little experience. What if work is too much for me (mentally and physically)? What if I can't get along with the co-workers/chefs because I'm shy and introverted and get easily hurt? \n\nIf anyone has similar experiences please give me some advice I'm feeling so scared right now :(", "summary": "First time working far away by myself as a hotel waitress in a 5-star hotel and scared of messing up."}
{"id": "t3_281zcf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [15M] of 9 months wants to hang out with my ex-best friend, should this bother me (16F)", "post": "Okay so my past best friend, Anna, and I stopped being friends soon after my boyfriend and I got together, mostly because of drama and jealousy between the two of us. My boyfriend and her have some romantic history, one date, flirtation, etc. And Anna has a reputation of not being very loyal or virtuous? Anyways, Anna is leaving this year and not coming back and wants to try and smooth the water between my boyfriend and her I guess? She has asked him to hang out, maybe watch a movie...The thing is I trust my boyfriend so much and I have so much faith he won't do anything, but something about the whole them being alone thing makes me very uncomfortable. At the same time I don't want to be that crazy bitch girlfriend who won't let her boyfriend do things. So I guess my question is whether or not I should let this happen? Because ultimately my boyfriend won't go if he knows it makes me so uncomfortable. Any advice is helpful, thanks! :)", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to hang out with my ex-bestfriend"}
{"id": "t3_2klf7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf[m21] told me I[f21] am overly attached, but blames me i don't spend the nights at his place?", "post": "my bf and i are together for 1 year and a half. we are both in college, and we see each other every day. we go to classes, and after, if we have time, we go to his place, sleep for couple of hours or see a movie and then i leave to my house (i am from the town where the uni is, while he is from another town, and here lives alone).\n\nafter a year of relationship, we started to have some arguments about me not staying the night. my parents are not comfortable, bc they want us to focus on school,so they aloud me only once in a while to do so. also, he started to leave the town,to his parents house each and every weekend, and i feel like we dont spend anymore quality time. i tried to talk to him about it, but it generated a big fight, with him accusing me i dont like his parents/he feels better at home/i am being clingy, posessive and overly attached.\ni try to help him, we used to clean his house together/do the dishes, and now, im the only one who does it, while he plays games/watch tv.\n\nanother thing that bothers me is that i noticed he started to flirt with other girls. he says he likes to flirt and he will never cheat on me. i tried to be ok with it, but is difficult to see how he hides his tablet/phone when he gets a message . i told him how it makes me feel, we even had several arguments, but  again he accuses me of being posessive, overly attached and jealous. and he told me that my jealousy will push him to either cheat on me or break up with me. and although i am ashamed to say it, i snooped. and on his fb, he asked girls to go to the gym with him, even though he refused to go with me, saying 'we dont have to do everything together\".also, there were some erased conversations.\n\nso reddit, am i being overly attached?", "summary": "my bf blames me i dont spend the nights at his place, but accuses me of being overly attached because i dont like he flirts with other girls and that he leaves the town each and every weekend. am i posessive and overly attached?"}
{"id": "t3_29m15y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my fucking clock cleared.", "post": "I was browsing /r/nosleep (NSFL) and listening to Alanis Morissette like it was any other last week of the month. I had a hunch. What if I started investigating some of these stories and their authors? I forgot about that immediately and went to take some Dramamine. That's when it hit me. I haven't even seen out the window in about an hour! My \"crowdsourcing girlfriend\" was conked out in the living room, so I NEEDED to wake her up and shake her up. Mistake her up. She took a fast swing and struck \"Twelve\" right on the handfather clock behind me. I'm not the type to scare easily so I told her \"keep calm and don't watch out\". I MEANT IT but she thought it was a meme so she fell back asleep.", "summary": "I can handle a whole lot worse than this!"}
{"id": "t3_tp1s0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When will the Age of Vigilante Justice come?", "post": "I wonder when will the day come that organized groups of citizens, operating as vigilantes, can defend the rest of their community. I do know that many cities have good police, great police forces even, who do the best job they can in protecting the public. But I honestly believe the amount of crime and danger will only increase as police forces struggle to cope with less resources and more demand for their help. \n\nI live in a medium-sized town. We used to be \"the kind of place you could raise a family,\" but now live in fear of being stabbed or shot for smiling the wrong way. A few months ago, a group of young girls were followed for miles through town (on their way to Starbucks) and shot at because of the color of their car. My own step-father was attacked by a group of teens and young adults and riddled with bullets on his way home from school (he survived and is a ridiculously gentle looking man and absolutely kind to everyone he meets). Just this week, a young man was shot to death outside his home and the police took over 2 hours to respond to the call. This young man had no known gang ties and no criminal history. I know these are extreme examples, but they are becoming increasingly common. \n\nNow I live in a relatively calm town, I know the pervasiveness of fear and crime is worse in much larger cities...\nI know people will use examples like the Zimmerman case to argue against this idea, and I hope for a meaningful discussion of this concept. I say it COULD be possible for vigilantes to operate under a widely accepted moral foundation that keeps the safety and protection of the public as it's focus. (think Batman) \n\nThose who organized and led the American Revolution and the Civil Rights movement were considered radical terrorist groups or gangs at first, yet triumphed for a greater good. Society would likely shy away from supporting this type of justice, and most police and politicians would condemn it. \n\nBut, are we not close to accepting the creation of independent, local protection groups who are held accountable to the public and not limited by a police bureaucracy? How do you all think this would or wouldn't work?", "summary": "Do you think society will soon accept groups of Batmans to protect it from itself?"}
{"id": "t3_1nglgt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/M]I am having anxiety over the girl I'm seeing (24/F) because she's afraid to take the next step.", "post": "Hello people, I am in need of some relationship advice.  To preface this I have to start by saying I've been cheated on in the past by 2 different girls one of which I was just shy of getting married to before she came clean...so I'm not the most trusting person in the world anymore.\nI have been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and when I first met her roughly 4.5 months ago she still had a boyfriend. I am aware that this looks like a rebound thing but he was a long distance bf and we've taken things very slow because I wanted to ensure that I was not a rebound. Things have been going smoothly with us and we get along very well. Over the summer she got another job and is moving to a new place (which is closer to her work and to me coincidentally) so she has not had as much free time to spend with me the last few weeks. Here is my problem, she is afraid of commitment especially since she just got out of a 2 year long distance relationship and she does not want to commit to becoming official. Another reason is that she has very little free time lately because of the new job and getting her house ready for the move. I have a growing fear that she doesn't want to commit because she wants to \"shop around\" I have this anxiety even though we have had the exclusive talk.  \n\nSo how do I bridge this gap of where we are in the relationship?", "summary": "She won't commit, I am having anxiety over the possibility she is \"shopping around\" even though I really don't think that's the case."}
{"id": "t3_2mcqix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my roommate/girlfriend [22 F] of ~1 month, started out as housemates at the start of the semester then started sleeping together / dating...", "post": "We have now been sleeping together (sex and sharing a bed every night) and spending a lot of time together for about a month now. The conversations that we had about our relationship initially made it sound like she wanted more than FWB (asking if we could be exclusive, etc.) and I have been getting vibes that we are starting to get closer. \n\nThe problem is that she is doing a semester abroad in January (8 months total) and has made up her mind that she wants to be single when she goes. (She told me this tonight.) I can understand where she is coming from. I am unsure myself if I want to be in a long distance relationship for almost a year, but would also be willing to give it a shot if she was. I guess I was hoping to see where we were in January before I made a decision. \n\nIt just seems awkward as fuck to me to keep our relationship going the way we have and then just say goodbye in January. I honestly would probably just get out now if she wasn't also my roommate. I'm not really opposed to keeping a casual FWB relationship but I guess I just wish I knew thats all she wanted from the start so I wouldn't have gotten as attached.", "summary": "Started relationship with roommate, she is moving away and doesn't want long distance relationship."}
{"id": "t3_37wvcg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my (ex?)GF [25F] dated for 1.5 years, is \"wanting to be independent before committing\" really a good reason for this breakup?", "post": "A year and a half ago a beautiful woman was living in a city all by herself with a boyfriend she didn't really even like, so she decided to move to a new city. That was my city. Within a few months of moving here, we met. We knew we had to be together. We fell in love. We are both intelligent, good communicators. \n\nRecently, her best friend moved in with her and this friend, as well as her other roommate, are both just out of college and single. Along with this, many of my friends are moving away and I was not giving her the space that she needed.\n\n She dropped it on me this Monday that she thinks we will end up together, but she really just might need this time to be single. There was nothing seriously wrong with our relationship besides this. I mean, we had our troubles like anybody else, but things were going well besides this. We both see ourselves ending up together, and I know she isn't lying about that.\n\nI proposed that we really try to give her as much space as possible. I will not be her number one priority, but honestly, I love this woman to death and would not mind taking a backseat for a while. I truly believe the strongest way to deal with this would be for us to find independence within the relationship. Is it really necessary to risk throwing away a beautiful relationship with a potentially great future without giving this a try first? Has anyone been through similar? We have been talking the past week and she seems to miss me. I am heartbroken wondering if she will give this a shot. Should I even be wanting to take the backseat for a while? I am so confused and need some wiser words than my own.", "summary": "GF of 1.5 years wasn't being given enough space. She has a fear of committment and potential grass is greener syndrome. We love each other and both see a future together. Is breaking up really necessary or can independence be found within the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3vkayq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my girlfriend [23F] Fantasy Issue", "post": "So I have been dating my girlfriend for over 3 years and we have had a really great relationship. I love her more than anything in the world and I could never do anything to hurt her.\n\n Last night I was drunk and I called a sex massage parlor to fulfill some type of urge because It is a personal fantasy of mine, but I would seriously never actually go through actually going to one. Like it really does not even appeal to me at all it's really just more of the thought of the fantasy. \n\nThis morning my girlfriend needed to use my phone and in doing so saw that I had had been searching for sex parlors and even made a call to one. It made her really upset and now she thinks that I am cheating on her. I tried to explain that I would never do actually do anything like that but she doesn't want to buy it. She doesn't know what to think because nothing I say really explains the situation or my motives behind it.\n\n Again I love my girlfriend more than anything and it really hurts that she nows feels like she cannot trust me.", "summary": "please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1ccmv2", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Please don't do this. It isn't cute and in fact its annoying.", "post": "So while I am planning our wedding, I am also the age where my friends are getting married at a rapid rate. Up to 8 weddings this year. So I went to check my mail, another invitation (make the 9) and an invitation to a bridal shower. I sit down on the couch, with a cocktail in hand, and open it. Out comes purple and silver glitter EVERYWHERE. The maid of honor had thrown glitter in the card, and than put it in the envelope so when you opened it, the glitter went EVERYWHERE and I mean everywhere. I had to vacuum my cat. As a fellow bride, please don't think glitter falling everywhere is spirited. We aren't 12.", "summary": "Under no circumstances should you put free flowing glitter to spew out all the over the invitee in the invitation."}
{"id": "t3_2txodh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Being Nice", "post": "So I met this guy at the beginning of the school year, thinking that he was a pretty cool dude to hang out with. I was nice to him, cause he was nice to me.\n\nFast-forward to a few months later. I'm sitting in class, next to him, and I see flecks of white stuff coming out of his mouth. Like those little wet white boogers that you sometimes get. I was concerned about this, not for his sake, but for mine, as I didn't want any of that crap getting on me or my stuff. I decided to keep a close eye on him from then on.\n\nI wonder now whether or not if knowledge is better than ignorance, cause I go through a living OCD hell of one huge dilemma; getting the fuck away from that disgusting boy.\n\nHe rotates his jaw while his mouth is closed, and then professionally blows out a ball of condensed phlegm, just like how those Amazon tribes blowdart animals for food. He spits out his inner mucus around his radius of 5 feet, splatting everything with that fucking disgusting fluid of his. He spits on the inside of his shirt, on his hands, on his pants, on his comb, on his backpack, on other people; basically everything.\n\nI could perhaps tolerate his presence if he didn't spit on his dirty fat paws, and start using them to touch other things. Worse, he's a very touchy feeling kinda person, so he tries to touch other people and me. I try to avoid him like the plague, but he has some kind of a homing sensor and he pops out everywhere I go.\n\nI don't know what to do. I fucked up by being nice to him, and he's trying to get close to me; literally and physically. Redditors, what should I do?", "summary": "Was nice to a kid, turns out he's the grossest motherfucker I've ever known and he's trying to become close to me (in more ways than one). FML"}
{"id": "t3_3bg9qh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Us [50 something M/F] with our 20-something kids home for their last summer; we need privacy how do we get them to understand", "post": "Kids are home for what should be their last summer before graduating from college. They are working during the day in and out with friends evenings/weekends, and frequently have friends/boyfriends over at all hours. No curfew and I don't want to put one on them at this age. \n\nWe don't object to them being here (they clean up after themselves, cook etc) and we are overall happy they are, except for one thing.... \n\nWe live in a small house with thin walls. And their dad and I never know when they may be traipsing in, or are still sound asleep and we don't realize they are still home -- i.e.,  we think we are alone and we aren't. And it's effecting our sex life -- which has taken quite an upswing since they went away for college!\n\nHow do we tell them to text or something before they come home with a pile of friends? Do we tie a sock to the door handle, or what? That seems weird and awkward.", "summary": "Older Redditors - how do you still have a sex life when your college kids are home for the summer; younger Redditors - how are you respecting your parents' space & privacy while you are home for the summer? How would you want your parents to give you the hint?"}
{"id": "t3_24cohd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do I go from here..", "post": "Alright, I've never tried this before, and am honestly just seeking some genuine advice. \n\nI'm a 19yo male, my girlfriend 21. We've been dating for about six months, things were great to start. We actually met at work and eventually started dating. Contrary to popular belief, our relationship was great. We spent every second together. We woke up together, worked together, slept together, every single night; things were perfect. \n\nA little backstory, she has two kids and I have none. This is my first interracial relationship, so her being my first black girl is special to me, as well as her. When I met her she already had about 1100$ in bills monthly, with aspirations for more. This job was her first fulltime, she had previously made all of her money in the strip club. The fulltime job was only enough to get her by, and she wasn't happy in the position, so she quit and is now back in the club. She consistently enforces the belief that she is looking for work and is attempting to get out of the club, but our relationship is getting worse.\n\nWe spend about 20 hours a week together at this point, all whilst living 20 minutes apart. I work midnights, she doesn't. We always believed we would make it, we had that click, but now she has doubt's. We argue more.consistently, I'm miserable consistently with lack of attention from a loved one, and feelings of solidarity with no consolation. We had a \"make it or break it\" conversation the other night, where she placed the perception to me as if shed given up. Our goal was to save money, get a place together, and fulfill our dreams, and now she seems so distant. \n\nI understand I am young and the world is at my fingertips, but I genuinely love her. My heart aches when I sense a negative connotation. \n\nAt this point, anything can help. We're currently striving for a comeback, but I feel as if i lost a piece of her along the way.", "summary": "I'm young and desperate for guidance."}
{"id": "t3_e0mu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just getting it off my chest", "post": "I am 33, my ex is 32. She left me on Fathers Day. We have twins, 10 yrs. old. I am currently going through a cycle of craziness. See, she had a stroke, and decided to leave me for a diff. life. I am a little heartbroken, but then she went ahead and got pregnant, then tells me she's leaving, and moving 8 hours away. She wants the kids 2 months in the summer.\n\nHow do I deal with the heartache my kids are about to go through? How do I deal with my responsibilities for the house, the kids, the full time job, etc? I have no room for anything, and I am constantly stressed out. I don't feel like I am making ends meet, things are going boing all around me and now whenever someone makes a suggestion of how I can make their life easier i want to smash them in the face.\n\nI just told my new girlfriend that the reason we don't get much private time is that my kids are 10. She is hoping for more structure. I am hoping for someone to make my world simpler, not more fucking hard.\nI kept the kids and the house and I don't feel better. I feel abandoned.\n\nI love my kids but can I do this? does anyone have experience going forward in this sort of situation?\nMy ex gets sickly then can't do anything, then she gets well and complains about the kids clothes when I send them over to her apartment. She is a sanctimonious mess to me.\n\nIt's simply a roller coaster. I am the dad. I am more stable, healthier, but she makes 10k more a year. Should I be doing this? I don't want my kids lives to change because of her.", "summary": "fml"}
{"id": "t3_45fytz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (m/20) closest friends have been avoiding/ignoring me lately", "post": "Recently, my group of friends have been tol busy to hang out, don't respond to my texts or calls, or make plans with me in person but later cancel them via text saying they are \"tired\" or could hang out 2 weeks from now (not even joking, one of them legit said he'd be open to chill 2 weeks from now even though we made plans for later today )\n\nSo, about these friends. Its a pretty diverse group of people. Ages vary from 18-24. Ive known them for several years. In fact, one of my best friend is one that Ive known my whole entire life, but he never wants to hang out anymore. I would say I get along well with all of my friends in person, even able to make plans to hang out, only to get a text an hour later from 3 or 4 people saying they cant come, or are too tired. \n\nAnother one of my best friends, who is 19, spends time with me about once a week. He then tells me would should do somethinf next week, he'll say he'll call me next Monday. Monday rolls by, and Tuesday, I text him Wednesday, no response, call him up Thursday and send him another text, and dont get a response until today, friday. Its aggravating to have to deal with that kind of stuff. Especially when its the type of person who is on social media a lot so he is obviously on his phone. I even asked the friend I mentioned forst if they two still text, and sure enough they do. \n\nAs for me, Im generally understand of certain issues or things that happen out of the blue. My friends do work, but I dont text them or make plans for ehen they are busy at those times. Im pretty open about whatever problems I have, often discussing it with my group of friends, who do a great job of at least listening and offering advice.", "summary": "Friends Ive known for years havent been responding to my calls or texts for the past couple of weeks. If they do respond, its often a week late. If I see them, everyone has a great time, and they would often want to make plans for the next week, bht never stick to them or contact me back."}
{"id": "t3_4oua8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have been dating someone [20F] for a month and she's suddenly said she's unsure...", "post": "Have been dating this girl whom I met through a mutual friend for roughly a month. Everything was great, we went on a variety of dates, talked/texted every day, were intimate up to a point e.g. held hands, regularly made out - hadn't slept together yet though! We are in the same group of friends, see each other 2-3 times per week (just us) and everything seemed to be progressing very well...\n\nOut of the blue she said she wanted to talk so we met up and went a walk, and she explained to me how she has never been treated as well as I treat her (as her previous bf's were dicks) - but she \"doesn't feel 100%\". Basically she said that shes very confused as to why shes unsure about us because she likes spending time with me, everything about me, and how she's never been treated this way.\n\nShe went on to say how she doesn't know what she wants, she said she really likes me but thought it would be unfair to not tell me about how shes feeling unsure. I asked her what she wanted to do going forward and she said she didn't know. I then basically said that we should take a break from things and see how she feels, as she said she didn't feel like this 2 days ago yet somehow feels like this today.\n\nLooking for some advice on what is actually going on here, is she lying to not hurt my feelings or is she honestly unsure because she's never been treated this nice and doesn't want to go 'all in' in case she gets hurt?", "summary": "Girl I've dated for a month suddenly 'confused' and 'is not 100%' even though she told me she's never been treated as well as I've treated her the past month. Is this just an excuse or should I give her time to clear her head?"}
{"id": "t3_3jk2t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where to start and how to make my [18 M] intentions clear with this girl [18 F]", "post": "So today I 18 M got a really cute girls number! So we are in calc class at college and half way through the second week we were walking out of class talking about the quiz and our majors, right when we were getting ready to part directions I said \"hang on...okay you really cute, can I get your number?\" She giggled and said yes (success!) Now I want advice as to were to go from here and how to make my intentions clear (to avoid friend zone)\n\nTo explain, during class she suggested that we (me her, and three others near each other get together for a study session). Now I want to make my intentions clear that i think shes cute and i got her number to talk not to study. (although study would be nice, i want to potentially go out on a date in the future not just be stuck talking to her in group studies). Haven't texted her yet, we have class tomorrow, and would like some advice", "summary": "How to make intensions clear that im interested in this girl"}
{"id": "t3_106z5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21] made a mistake and lost some trust from my gf [20]. What will our relationship look like now? When will the relationship begin to be fun again?", "post": "I really could use some insight. \n\nIf you look in my history, my girlfriend was disillusioned to my friendship with my ex. I since cut off contact with my ex, have had many long talks with my girlfriend. \n\nMy girlfriend is still upset. Very upset. I have taken her on a few dates and we still spend time together, but she isn't really enjoying herself. She wants me to \"wow\" her with well-planned dates and extra time and effort.\n\nThat's fine with me! If that's my penance, I am not afraid to do it. However, since the event (a week ago) she hasn't contributed anything to the relationship. She's happy on dates and upset when I don't plan anything.", "summary": "I want to keep trying and win her over.  Does anyone have any ideas on how long I should keep planning dates, how long I shouldn't expect her to contribute, or anything else to keep in mind?"}
{"id": "t3_3a7h4d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating an entire bag of sunflower seeds without removing the shells.", "post": "So I have made it home after a long night of drinking and realize that I am starving. I am too drunk and lazy to make anything so I grab a bag of sunflower that i had purchased earlier in the day. At first I begin to shell them however this required too much effort so my drunk ass says fuck it and just starts chewing them without bothering to shell them. Hours later I wake up with a TON of pain in my mouth and check the mirror and find a FUCK LOAD of sunflower seed shell shards sticking out of my gums. It feels like I just took a bite out of a cactus. It gets worse. I have to shit really bad but the poop inside of me is so large and rock solid from all of the fiber that I cant get it out. I try to push hard but there are so many razor sharp sunflower seed shards poking out of it that i can feel it slicing my ass open. It feels like I am shitting out a fucking pineapple and when i force it feels like my rectum is splitting open. An unsuccessful hour and a half passes and i begin to get nervous. There are now drops of blood dripping out of my butt. I am in so much pain and I cannot for the life of me force this poop out so I decide to head to the ER. By the time i get there my boxers are soaked in blood. I am so fucking embarrassed that i would almost rather bleed out than tell them why I am here. They take me into the back, i take my pants off and lay on the table. They tell me they are going to try and pull it out. I cant believe this is really happening. It only took about 5 minutes for them to pull it out but it was the most excruciatingly painful 5 minutes of my life.", "summary": "got drunk, ate entire bag of sunflower seeds without shelling them. seeds formed a giant poop with razor sharp shells sticking out of it. could not poop it out. anus started bleeding. went to ER. they pulled it out. felt like shitting out broken glass."}
{"id": "t3_35awwd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Is my romantic interest (21/f) messing with my feelings?", "post": "Hello,\nI'll start of by saying I'm not normally romantically minded. Work and studies have always come first and I have only had one girlfriend before this; however, I have totally fallen for this girl.\n\nIt started in late 2014 when I began chatting to her and I quite quickly admitted my feelings for her. We speak most evenings messaging each other hours. Sometimes we will video call. The problem is she has a boyfriend that she started dating about a week before all this started (I was rejected).\n\nOne of my friends says I'm 'hooked'\u2122. To my surprise, she has admitted her feelings for me on a few occasions, and says \"she shouldn't feel this way about me\" because of her boyfriend. She has also recently mentioned a few issues with her and her boyfriend, and that she will have to end it with him. But now it's like she had never said it to me!\n\nI'm currently away at the moment and I will be traveling to see her for a week soon. We have activities planned like cinema etc.\n\nI already know I shouldn't be on the 'hook'\u2122 and I should stop it but I like her a lot. I have already considered cancelling my visit to see her and stop talking to her at the expense of my feelings. Please help! any advice or similar circumstances. What do?", "summary": "I like a girl, she has a bf. I think she likes me. I'm on the 'hook'\u2122"}
{"id": "t3_1xc0ta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think we're finally on the right track!", "post": "My boyfriend(34) and I(24f) have had a very problematic first year. For some reason we stuck it out. Despite all of these problems we've had, something has told me that were meant for each other; that we are a prefect match. \n\nThings have finally gotten so much better after all the work we've put in to this relationship. A month ago we had a dead bedroom for 6 months and our communication (relationship-wise) was practically non-existent. We fought about the most ridiculous things. We were really great everywhere else, though. We think on the same wavelength, metaphorically speaking.\n\nThere was a shift recently after an emotional rough patch in our relationship that almost ended in a break up. We've finally started to communicate.  Our affection level has gone from nearly 0 till about a 6 and we're slowly becoming more comfortable with each other as a romantic couple. \n\nI think our biggest issue was trust because of previous failed relationships and it led to poor communication. I feel like we've finally overcome that. \n\nI'm wondering, do you think we can eventually reach that perfect romantic bliss? I've never been interested in such a thing until I met my boyfriend. I want that with him.  Is it possible a relationship can start off so rocky but end in happiness? What do you think?", "summary": "Can relationships start out rough and eventually become strong? Can love actually conquer all challenges? Can redemption last?"}
{"id": "t3_4i1v8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/F] don't know if it's appropriate to give my number to a guy [18/M] who went on a couple dates with my friend's [17/F] older sister [19/F].", "post": "About a year ago, this guy asked my friend's sister to prom. He was interested in her, and she basically had no interest in him. She said yes, but only as friends. Even after this he clearly still had feelings for her. She didn't really have any interest in dating him, but she thought maybe she'd try going on a couple dates with him. She wasn't sure if she genuinely wasn't interested or she was just scared because she hadn't really had any relationship experience before. \n\nI know this guy because we have a class together and we sit together. He's somewhat shy, but sweet and funny. We've spent some time together, we co-led a group of kids at a volunteer event, and obviously I'm around him every day. I definitely have at least some feelings for him, and I can't really tell if he reciprocates, he's just generally a very quiet person.\n\nHim and my friend's sister went on a few dates, and as it turned out it was somewhat awkward and very very platonic. Neither of them attempted to make any move on the other, and things were generally very tense. Like, sitting down and having a pro-cons conversation about kissing eachother and then not kissing eachother tense. She plans on breaking whatever this is off with him the next time she sees him, but she doesn't even know if this will be necessary because they haven't even hung out in a month. Any interest that either of them had is dead.\n\nAs I said earlier, I kind of like this guy. Graduation is soon and we'll soon be going our separate ways, though we'll still be in the same area. Should I just give him my number, whether it turns out to be platonic or not? Or should I just steer clear?", "summary": "Have a bit of a crush on a guy who I see every day and won't be seeing soon, he went on a couple platonic dates with friend's sister, should I even bother giving him my number?"}
{"id": "t3_236r9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [26F] of 3 months, how do I get over my insecurities around all of the interests/activities he and his ex share?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been \"official\" for three months, dating for five months. He is still friends with his most recent and \"big\" ex. I have hung out with her at a couple of parties and we even had dinner together just the two of us a couple weeks ago to get to know each other better. She has been really nice to me and told me she is happy that he found me, wants us to be friends, etc, etc. Both of them have assured me that there are no residual feelings and I have no reason to doubt them- that isn't the issue here. \n\nThe issue is that I feel insecure with all of the history/interest that they share that he and I don't share. For example, they dated for 2 years, traveled internationally together, have the same friend group, have a lot of the same interests like mountain biking, going to music festivals (e.g. Bonnaroo), and they are even working together on some local events (e.g. planning a TEDx). \n\nHe and I get a long really well, communicate well, and have even done a 6 day trip to the Mexican jungle together, but I can't help but feel intimidated by all the aspects that they share that he and I don't. It makes me feel kind of like the odd man out? For instance this summer they will probably go (with other people) on mountain biking trips- something I am just not into. I hesitate to bring this up to him, because there isn't really anything he can \"do\" about it. \n\nSo, how do I stop feeling insecure about this and start feeling better?", "summary": "Boyfriend and his ex share a lot- friends, interests, event planning and I feel insecure about it. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_219b7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "32/m with 31/f for 6 months - She is secretly checking her ex's facebook every night, texting/crying once a week.", "post": "I'm wondering how to handle this situation and if my GF is really ready for a relationship based on some of the things I have seen. She spends a lot of nights over at my place, and I noticed that whenever I went to take a shower before bed, after I came back she would be on my laptop and quickly close down some open tabs. I didn't think much of it the first few times, figuring maybe she was looking at something embarrassing, but then I noticed it turned into an every night thing whenever we spent a few days together.\n\nI checked my browser history, and she is looking at her ex's facebook. Specifically, her ex, and her ex's new girlfriend. I know that she had a rough breakup very shortly before we started dating. She was married to him for 6 years and said that he was very controlling and not a good match for her, and when she wanted to leave he put her through a huge guilt trip and made it difficult. I've noticed that about once a week she will exchange a few texts with him and be off in the bathroom crying about it. \n\nThat said, she has told me how happy she is with me and doesn't know why she is still sad about a bad relationship ending. I figured some of it was just curiousity over what her ex was doing and who he was with, but coupled with the crying about it makes me wonder if she is just not over him.\n\nI don't know what to do about the situation because when she does the weekly crying routine, she is emotionally wrecked for the whole night and it sucks. I've tried to be understanding and give her space, but it's not getting better. The Facebook thing also affects her. During the day/evening she will be flirty and talking about all the stuff we're going to do in bed, and then after I get out of the shower and she's been on his Facebook, it's like she's emotionally unavailable the rest of the night.\n\nI really love her though so I want to try and make it work, it's just I'm not sure of the right way to handle this situation.", "summary": "GF is looking at her ex's facebook all the time and texting/crying once a week with him. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_50iiei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25,m) confused about my relationship with my ex (23,f), who I dated 7 years ago.", "post": "This girl (we'll call her Claire) was my first gf ever back in hs. We dated for about a year but distance drew us apart. Our breakup was a little messy and for a few years we didn't talk. Fast forward and we began texting again 'as friends'. We both moved back to our hometown after college and I expected us to have a great friendship, as that's what we both wanted. In my eyes a friendship would consist of hanging out, doing things together, etc.\n\nEver since she moved home she refuses to hang out with me one on one, as she believes it's 'too close to bf/gf'. As much as I would try to get closer with her she would equally push me away. However, her and I text all day every day, she tells me all of her closest secrets and innermost thoughts, we talk on the phone about her problems etc.\n\nI'm really confused about all of this. She treats me 'like a boyfriend' via text/phone but she treats me as LESS THAN a friend in person. I finally decided to bring my frustrations up to her and mention that 'it's our last year possibly ever in the same state (before grad school) and that I wished things went differently etc. She took this as me confessing my love and told me 'too bad but I don't feel the same way.' Basically a generic 'friend-zone' response that she has sent to multiple guys before.\n\nI really don't know what to do anymore but it's wearing on me. I have tried to bring things up to talk about what relationship we have and she completely blows me off month after month. And yet I'm still there anytime she needs to talk about issues or even other bf issues (which i told her to not bring up to me multiple times) On one hand I feel like I need to do what's best for me. Which includes slowly cutting her out of my life. On the other hand we've been 'friends' for so long now that I'd feel awful 'abandoning her'. I feel like I love this girl and it sucks. Idk what to do anymore.", "summary": "dated girl for a year, she came back into my life as a friend. Refuses to treat me like an actual friend. Maybe it's because I'm in love with her? Please help"}
{"id": "t3_3k3y3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of less than 1 year, how can i tell if we're emotionally compatible?", "post": "Been dating this guy for a year, we see each other almost every day for at least an hour, and spend at least all of Saturday or Sunday together.\n\nIntellectually and sexually we connect fine, a lot of common ground, no complaints at all in those areas.\n\nBut for some reason I don't feel... the same connection in my heart (whatever that means)... that I've felt for my exes (exes who I didn't connect with as well intellectually and/or sexually, in relationships which ended because precisely of that). For what it's worth, my last two relationships were both serious, 4 years each. \n\nHe's a good guy, I trust him, am physically attracted to him, respect him, we talk about marriage and whatnot, etc, etc...\n\nI'm just not really sure what's going on and I don't know how to work on it, or if it's something that can be worked on. Or if there's something wrong with me? Or maybe it's because I'm remembering the emotional connection that developed with my exes after years of togetherness? And maybe it's too soon to expect that level in my current relationship? I don't know.\n\nhas anyone else felt this way?", "summary": "I really like this guy, but for some reason I don't feel as emotionally connected to him as I would like. Is this fix-able? How can I communicate that I need more of an emotional connection? How can we work on that?"}
{"id": "t3_2ljae9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 F] with [30s M], why do they say/do things to create intimacy/feelings and then just drop it?", "post": "When someone says, \"You are beautiful, wonderful, sexy...\"  This is ongoing, whether they \"get some\", or not.  How can people just drop the contact or relationship?  This has been an ongoing thing in my life and I get blindsided every time.  I don't get it.  When the last email, text or physical contact was wonderful... then either NOTHING, or a very vague text... then nothing.  I've almost gone crazy wondering if they're ok, is it me, is it them?  I know I'm old enough that I shouldn't be letting this bother me, but it does.  \nI know that I have not been too needy... I'll alternate between contacting him, or letting him contact me.  No endless texts throughout the day.  If a day goes by, I'm not all over him asking him if he's mad.  Please, any helpful insight would be appreciated.\n\n**Examples of last messages... \"You are amazing!\"  \"I love thinking about you and I together.\"  \"Can't wait to see you again.\"  \"Talk to you tomorrow.\" (After chatting everyday for 2 weeks.)", "summary": "How do the feelings just disappear?"}
{"id": "t3_3paky3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bumming a guy two smokes", "post": "This was about an hour ago, here's some context\nI'm at a Mini Makers Fair which is a family oriented event that showcases technology, kids programs and other things associated with \"makers\".. basically creative tech fair for yuppie families.\nWhatever.\nI was helping display my friends interactive musical sculpture.\n\nMy point is I was at a nice family event and not just hanging out on the streets of downtown or somewhere more likely to get swindled.\n\nI was taking a cigarette break and piddling around on my phone.\nA guy cursing, looking into his empty pack spots me and asks if he can \"buy a couple smokes off me\"\nOn average the going rate for an American Spirit is $0.35, $0.50 if someone is feeling generous.\n\nI, out of habit, act put off whenever someone tries to bum smokes off me. This is to give them a chance to rescind their offer without me saying \"No\" outright. \nIt's something I started doing with my friends who are chronic bums so they realize I'm not an endless free cigarette machine.\n\nBut, the guy offered to buy right? He had his wallet out, right? \nI busted out two smokes for him which he takes with a thanks me briefly.\nI'm still kinda absorbed partially in my phone but notice he pauses and then starts to walk away.\n\"I'll be right back with something for you\" he says.\n\nI guess I figured he might work at one of the booths that have some cool, silly swag for me? But I remembered thinking it was weird he took his wallet out and then didn't give me any money.\nMaybe he didn't have any single dollar bills?\nI waited around for quite awhile after.\n\nJust lame because I'm generally pretty generous but it's situations like this that make that generosity go into hiding for awhile.", "summary": "guy offered to buy smokes off me and then just took off without giving me anything instead. I blame myself for being ignorant of peoples petty greed."}
{"id": "t3_28iehu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I [21F] do with my SO [22M] after graduation? Break up or try and make it work?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five months in the last semester of college and graduation is in a week. I am meant to fly back to the US (where I am from) and he is from the UK so he is going to stay here. We recently told each other that we love each other and really want to stay together, but we don't know how that is possible what with us being from two different countries and all. I have EU citizenship so it is easy for me to stay in the UK, which is why I have been looking into jobs in the major cities in the UK. I have received several interviews for a few things which sound promising, so I have yet to hear back from them.\n\nUnfortunately, my flight is for less than two weeks from now and I don't know what to do in case I don't get the jobs. I don't want to break up because I really feel like we have something real and I don't want to let it go. I guess an option would be to see the summer out and try and find something either in the UK or he could look into the US. I just need advice... I hate things like this because it's not fair to let go of something great and that feels so good just because of distance. I've done it before and it fucking SUCKS. Anyway, advice will be appreciated!", "summary": "5 months, graduating soon, in love, potentially long distance, break up or try and make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_c9o6d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your advide.  I want to protest BP but I have no idea what to do.", "post": "I am a recent college grad (a week tomorrow!) with some downtime before my career starts in Baltimore, MD.  I'd love to do an old-fashioned picket.  What makes this really important to me is that every time I drive by the BP on Route 40, it's packed.  People are still shopping there, and I think it's dumb.\n\nI don't know what I need to do to protest.  If it's just me and a few friends, do I need a permit?  How would you recommend making signs (as inexpensively as possible, pls)?  And, what should they say?\n\nAs a recent college grad, I still have a ton of contacts on campus, including with groups like Students for Environmental Awareness and Solidarity Coalition, which I think would be super down for this.  I'm nervous that no one is around for the summer and that my protest may just be some friends and I.\n\nI was also thinking of handing out slips of paper with links to what's going on, probably BBC sites.  People can get a take-home message too.\n\nI have a police officer friend, and I messaged him so hopefully he can help me.  Outside of his advice, do you guys have any ideas to make this really productive and sweet, as well as not getting me arrested?  Thanks!\n\nAlso, please show up, Reddit.  Anyone in the area, please come.  Hold a sign for five minutes, yell some catchy chants, and change the consumption habits of Baltimore citizens!", "summary": "I want to protest BP but have no idea how, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1j2hrb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[WA] Landlord failed to transfer power service after promising to do so", "post": "I recently switched to a different apartment complex that is owned by my rental company. When I went into the leasing office to sign my new lease I asked if I had to do anything special to change my power utilities account to my new apartment. They said that all I had to do was fill out a form that they had with them, and they would transfer the service for me.\n\nWell, they didn't transfer the service, they only added an account, and I got charged for 2 months of power for an apartment that was leased to someone else. I called my utilities company and they told me to take it up with my rental company and that they couldn't do anything about it. I am going to see my rental company tomorrow, and want them to reimburse me for the two months of electricity.\n\nThey have been sort of rigid in the past, does anyone know of any recourse I have against them telling me no?", "summary": "Rental company said they would transfer power service, but only added a new account. I have 2 months of utilities charges for which I should not be responsible. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_nx7ov", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Weight loss problems.", "post": "I have been trying very hard these last few weeks to lose some extra weight but I can't seem to lose it fast. Everyone in my family is overweight and we are all making it our goal to lose some. I seems that I am the only one not seeing much change. In December alone my dad has lost about 10 pounds. I know that different people lose weight differently but it is still really discouraging that I have not seen much change in the past month but my father has seen a huge change in both weight and appearance.\nI would like to know if anyone else out there has had similar problems in the past. Also I am trying to find different ways to \"jump-start\" my weight loss. I am eating a lot better and exercising almost every day.", "summary": "I cant seem to lose weight, can someone give me tips."}
{"id": "t3_3ipf37", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What is this \"power play\" thing?", "post": "So I took a gal out for dinner at a casino. She ordered two appetizers (didn't share), a bunch of drinks, then steak and lobster, which came with a salad. Over the evening she didn't really let me talk, but she mostly complained. She ignored me 28 times to txt on her phone. Our food came and she sent back the lobster and had it replaced with shrimp. So she ate the shrimp, did not eat the steak, nor the accompanying veggies. She gave me an attitude that after we ate when I didn't give her money to gamble. She was really into her video slot so I said I had a good night, and told her I was leaving (politely). She gave me a half hug, did not look up from the machine to make eye contact nor did she thank me. Some other odd things she did: told me to tip more (15% wasn't enough) then complained about the service, how her legs got sweaty because it was too hot, smoked and blew towards me when she knew I am asthmatic, then ordered more complimentary bread at the end of the meal and ate it.\n\nSo I walked out of there thinking ok, we didn't click, she wasn't interested in me, I definately wasn't interested in her, as I found her behavior repugnant. No big deal, no big loss. (well actually HER loss) So a friend asked how it went and I said eh, not going to happen. Told him what happened and he said, \"oh she pulled a power play on ya.\" I didn't think much of it at the time, but is that a new dating thing? Kinda like playing hard to get? But instead you act all domineering or self absorbed to get attention?", "summary": "I thought I went out with a (female dog), because she treated me like crap. Now I'm wondering if how she behaved was her actually doing some new dating thing called a power play."}
{"id": "t3_3cq9w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my new girlfriend [24 F] of 2 months. I want to learn her fetishes/fantasies.", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months and things are going incredibly well. However, I have a feeling that she's into some kinkier type stuff based on our normal sex life. She really seems to enjoy rough play; choking, spanking, and just general rough sex, and has also mentioned getting piercings just for the 'pleasure of the pain.'\n\nI am open minded to a good deal of things, but I don't want to bring up any suggestions for fear of the awkwardness and judgment that can quickly derail a new relationship...especially if I've completely misconstrued things. At the same time, I don't want to bore her with regular sex if she's into much kinkier things. Does anybody have a suggestion on how to broach this topic in a subtle manner?\n\nAlso, I remember a post or comment a while back that mentioned a site where to partners could list their fetishes/fantasies/desires etc. and it only shows the ones you both match up on. Does that actually exist, or am I just imagining things?", "summary": "What's the best way to find out my new partners fantasies and fetishes?"}
{"id": "t3_3wvvvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom's [50 F] relationship towards my father [55 M] is affecting my brother [14 M]. He's being drawn into their conflict. I am an [18 M]", "post": "So, for background, my parents are Chinese immigrants and got married pretty young.  They've never been particularly affectionate with each other (almost zero displays of affection whatsoever), but that's fairly normal for Chinese couples. However, they also argue a lot. If they weren't Chinese immigrants, they probably would've divorced, but it's not really part of the culture so they haven't. Just that by itself wouldn't have been too big of a deal, but I think my mom's resentment is starting to affect my fourteen year old brother's relationship with my father. Those two have always been close, but lately it's become almost co-dependent. \n\nI feel like my mom has caused this sort of confirmation bias in my brother's mind; every good thing that my mom does and every bad moment with my dad sticks with him and every argument with my mom and happy moment with my dad gets forgotten about. There's this us against the world mentality that she's instilled in him and it makes it a lot harder for my dad and I to interact with him. It hurts me to see, and I don't know what to do. I know that many of you will suggest a divorce, but I don't know if that's possible. Also, I'm not really in a position to make that happen. And, to be honest, I'm scared of the thought of them splitting up, despite the situation.", "summary": "Little brother is being drawn into conflict between my parents."}
{"id": "t3_2yq3zu", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Seeking advice for non-traditional co-ed shower", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I don't like the notion that the wedding is all about the bride \u2014 he's getting married too! So, for instance, we will both be escorted down the aisle. \n\nMy mom and some friends are hosting a wedding shower for us. I am adamant that it is not a *bridal* shower \u2014 it's for both of us. In keeping with our non-traditional-ness, **we would like to invite people who are important to us, no matter their genitalia**. \n\nMy mom thinks we should invite all our friends' significant others, since it's a co-ed shower. But some of these people we haven't met or have only met a few times. They certainly wouldn't make the list of \"people most important to us.\" \n\nThings get a little complicated if we don't invite the SOs, because my mom wants to put \"co-ed shower\" on the invitation (so she doesn't get inundated with calls like this: \"Wait, did you mean to address this to Amy AND John?\"), but **I don't want people with long-term SOs to feel shafted because the SO wasn't invited**. We don't exactly want it to be a \"couples shower\" \u2014 just a gathering of people close to us. \n\nAny advice? Maybe an alternate name we could give the event so people still understand it's a shower and that it's okay to come if you're a man? We don't want the guest list to get so big that it's basically another wedding. (Plus, space is an issue; it'll be held at my parents' house.)", "summary": "We want to have a co-ed shower, but we don't necessarily want to invite all our friends' SOs. "}
{"id": "t3_1zg1kj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my exgf [21 F] one year, she broke up with me, now wants to get back? But dilemma. .plez read", "post": "Long story short: \n\nI dated her for over a year. We are in a long distance relationship, about 200 miles away. She's in college while I work. She broke up with me because we were getting into stupid arguments abd she cracked..she had enough, didn't want to do it anymore. I was upset and sad. Didn't talk to her for almost a week. Suddenly, I get a message from her about a week later after our break up. I initiated no contact rule(for that week, she messaged first) at first asking if I was in the area cuz she saw my friends. Then proceeded to ask if we could meet up and discuss aabout our breakup. I saod there's nothing tp discuss but she said she wanted to see me so it can be more personal..since she vroke up over phone. I realize she wants to get bacl together and she wants me yo make the travel. The problem I'm not sure if she's doing it to just get closure of some sort. Maybe make up then dump me again after a few days or weeks later. Also, the travel is long and expensive. I would only spend a day with her befpre going bak on sunday..for work on monday. But I also believe that shes the one who broke up with me, shoyldnt she be the one making the trip over.....not me? I'm just confused...need insight...\n\nShe claims she's a broke college student, which is true but I offered to pay..she said no. Maybe she's lazy? Idk something just doesn't feel right. But I thibk she should be the one making the trip to see me ...since she's the one who broke up with me.", "summary": "Gf broke up wanta to get bak together..but shouldn't she be the one makin the effort"}
{"id": "t3_2wgtjk", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSF: A whole new life, From weightloss, to romance, to work; Things change!", "post": "All right so I've lurked on r/loseit and r/progresspics for quite a while now, just feeding, mostly my jealousy but some motivation, off of peoples progress. Between reading your guys' accomplishments, a bit of new romance that sprung up, and landing my soon to be job that is paying double of my current lame minimum wage job, it served as the catalyst to get me motivated.\nA little bit about me, I like doing the stereotypical / classic kind of things, such as giving a stuffed animal & candy on valentines or, a little more relevant to this post, starting my weightloss as a New Year's resolution. So on January 1st (albeit I forgot to take a before picture) I set off on my weightloss journey.\nSo here we stand today, my 1st milestone for me. And damn am I excited to share it. I started at 305lbs, and as of today I am 284! 20LBS!!! I had one pair of jeans that fit, a waist size of 46 (always were a tiny baggy on me), but here I sit in an old pair of jeans from a few years back that are 42's! Guys and Gals I'M JUST SO PUMPED. And thats my story, when my next 10lbs has dropped off or I find myself down to size 40's I'll check in again.\n\nAlso, for whats its worth, my goal is to someday be in the 100s even if its 199lbs!", "summary": "My weightloss milestones this time around is 20lbs lost and from a 46 waist to a 42 wasit!"}
{"id": "t3_1brdkk", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How would I(m18) salvage friendship with girlfriend(17f) after breaking up with her after 1-1/2 year relationship?", "post": "I've(18m) never had much luck with girls but I've been shaping up my life together and would like to be a little more adventurous when it comes to the relationship world. I broke up with her(17f) after a 1-1/2 year relationship and told her that this was why, ensuring her that it wasn't her. Obviously she was still upset, and now she's giving me a choice of either actually going my separate way and possibly losing her completely, or being with her. I don't want to be in a committed relationship right now, but I also love her still; neither of these options will work. I'm trying to make my own option, where we remain friends and possibly, after college, think about becoming more serious. Is this possible? And if so, how can I do it?", "summary": "How can I(18m) salvage friendship for possible future relationship with ex(17f) after breakup of 1-1/2 year relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1fxaut", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there any way for non-Americans to help fight against government surveillance and other related activities?", "post": "I am a British citizen. (I've never visited the United States, for the record) After watching the video \"The Terrifying Future of the United States\" by the YouTube channel 'stormcloudsgathering' and reading various articles about government surveillance on private citizens, I wish I could help to put a stop to all of this but I'm not an American. \n\nI find all of this disgusting and wrong. I'm now actually convinced that the United States is slowly becoming a totalitarian state and the world could soon follow suit. Reports are coming in that British Intelligence is now co-operating with the U.S. government over surveillance. (Plus we all use Google and Facebook over here just like everyone else) Is there anything that a foreigner could do to help?", "summary": "Can non-Americans do anything to help fight against government surveillance?"}
{"id": "t3_3688w0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [26/f] in US and my best friend [32/m] is not. We discovered we have deeper feelings...he went home, now wants to step back. how do you deal with it?", "post": "Someone I consider to be a best friend and I actually \"met\" here through reddit. Some time later, we decided to meet despite a great distance between the areas we live in. After spending time together in person, we discovered deeper feelings we have for each other, and I think we were both a bit surprised. It was very intense and very real. \n\nNow, he is back and we're apart again. I thought it would be fine because we could still talk, skype, etc. Not the same, but I'd rather have someone like that in my life in some way than not at all. Well, he is asking if we can \"cool off.\" I'm so confused! We had conversations before parting that we would continue talking, that things wouldn't change, etc. \n\nDo I just back off for awhile and wait? Do I cut all contact?\n\nPart of me wants to say \"forget it,\" because I was probably was being naive and stupid, but then our friendship alone means a lot.\n\nI'm sorry this is vague and probably a rambled mess.", "summary": "Met a guy on reddit, became best friends, met, discovered deeper feelings, he went home, and now wants to change things."}
{"id": "t3_rj888", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Gamers of old and new, What is your stance on  comedy/humor in games?", "post": "To be a little more clear, these are my thoughts on comedy/humor in games:  I wish there was more.  I'm not talking about making a game like Half Life or Mass Effect a total laugh-fest.  I'm talking about optional quests that may have an effect on the story in a small way, but are just for fun.  Something you can do to break the tension in a game like Mass Effect.  The first example that comes to mind is Soul Caliber 2 with the comedy weapons.  They didn't have great power or help you in some magical way.  They looked strange, made strange sounds, and were there just for the heck of it.  \n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is, I would like developers to add some humor to our games (even as DLC) for those of us who like that.  I would love to unlock a scooby-doo style ending for Mass Effect 3, or have a giant afro unlockable helmet in Halo Multiplayer.  Why not have an all powerful squirrel boss in a Final Fantasy game, or a find a necromorph in Dead Space trying to figure out how a bra works.", "summary": "I would like to see more humor in games, even if it was DLC or a secret ending."}
{"id": "t3_53mmy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should a [20M] being acting childish after a week long relationship?", "post": "This guy [20M] and I [18F] have been talking for awhile and started dating for more than a week. We started dating alittle a week ago but it came to the point where I said it was best for us to be friends. He didn't do anything wrong, nothing about him was bad.. It was just me who wasn't sure about my own feelings. Being single and depressed for a year took a huge toll on myself and so I never thought about myself being in another relationship.\n\nI explained him how I felt and he seem to understand so we left it off as a mutual agreement. But recently, he has deleted me off of social media and treat me as if I broke his heart. He would respond to my text in the very blunt and short way instead of excited and thorough. I would have gave this guy another chance if he did take my feelings into consideration but after what he has done, it seems to be a huge \"fuck off\" to my face.", "summary": "Did I do something wrong or is he the one to be wrong of his actions?"}
{"id": "t3_556i5b", "subreddit": "college", "title": "CC transfer student need help with deciding on major.", "post": "Hey everyone, \n\nThis is my third year at community college and I'm going to be applying to colleges this year. \n\nThroughout the years at community college, I've been thinking about what kind of major I should be doing or career path after college. I've never had solid grasp on what I wanted to do, so I usually followed what my parents and friends guided me towards. \n\nIn my first year at CC I thought about majoring in computer science, but after taking some programming classes I was shocked to find out it was completely different from what I thought computer science was. \n\nThen in my second year, I thought about doing electrical engineering because my dad told me it was a safe and stable major to choose, also because he works in a engineering company himself. I thought to myself this was going to be the major I'm gonna stick to, but after getting obliterated by physics classes I was discouraged and changed my mind about engineering major. \n\nNow here I am in my third year, still debating what major I should be considering. However, I was considering maybe majoring in mathematics because it is somewhat related to a career path I was interested in, which is cryptography.  \n\nHowever, I've read about some stories about math majors who've went onto upper division classes and ended up changing their majors because it was not what they expected. I'm aware of what the upper division courses for maths are like because I've looked up some problems people post, and it does terrify me quite a bit. \n\nI guess I'm worried because if I do end up majoring in mathematics, I may end up switching my major when I transfer because I don't have enough guts to handle it. \n\nI'm sure a lot of people on here had similar problems or anxiety like me, having doubts about one's ability, how did you guys decide on your major and what advice can you guys give me? \n\nSorry for my disorganized post, my thoughts are jumbled up so I can't put together my thoughts well together. I appreciate any feedback or comments.", "summary": "A CC student who will be applying to colleges this year. Worried about what to major in and worried about my ability to do well after transferring. Need guidance."}
{"id": "t3_3i230d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update 2] I [18 M] want to ask out a girl [18 F] out on a date, general tips needed.", "post": "[Original](\n(Clarification on this one, I didn't mean the one as the girl I wanted to marry)", "summary": "Girl ignored me again, I cease conversation. Happen to run into her on campus. Should I try talking to her again?"}
{"id": "t3_k50q4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have no friends, people dont like me, women have no interest in me, and I try everyday to smile. What am I doing wrong?", "post": "A short biography on me: \n\nI am 26, male, living in Los Angeles. I have lived here for over 2 years and I have managed to make no friends, not from lack of trying. I manage to make everyone I meet either not like me or just not want anything to do with me. The same goes for women, I have gone out with a fair share of women and everyone of them loose interest in me almost instantly. \n\nI have no personal life due to not having any friends, and the only hobby I had I can't do because it requires lots of money (See cars). \nI have not let it get me down I always try to smile and be in good spirit, and I don't think I'm ugly or scary looking either. It gets real hard, it hurts a lot to get rejected over and over. The old saying goes there are plenty of fish in the sea. It is starting to feel like maybe there isn't. \n\n \nThere can only be one possibility and that is me, I must be annoying or possibly self centered. Which I can understand, but what can I do to change that? \nI want to have friends, I want to be liked by others, I would like to be that guy people want to hang around. \nSo in short I would like to know what I should be doing different?", "summary": "I have no friends and people dont like me, I would like to change, help me?"}
{"id": "t3_2mv0mx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] really depressed, can't get ex off my mind, can't seem to want to move on.", "post": "My ex dumped me about a month and a half ago. I have been with three women in the past three weeks but it really does not feel the same at all. I talked to my ex on the phone about a week ago, just telling her that her new boyfriend is a piece of shit and that he's brainwashing her into not talking to me, etc. It might sound crazy but the only reason I was with those other women was because I thought it would win back this ex that I was seeing a lot for 2 months.\n\nShould I write my ex a love letter telling her how I feel? Should I call her once a day? Or should I just move on and try to find another girl like her? I do not want her to be the one that got away, and cannot seem to move on no matter how hard I try. She was basically my polar opposite, but I suppose that's why we were so attracted to each other.\n\nDoes true love just fade away? Why hasn't she even attempted to contact me this past month and a half when that's all I've been trying to do is to get a hold of her. Life seems so meaningless without her and I really don't know how to deal anymore. There are tons of suitable partners around me but I don't feel the same way about them to any degree.\n\nI'm really just looking for any kind of advice. I love her, she loves me, but she can't seem to get over the fact that I asked if she was being unfaithful a couple of times. When the fight occurred I was 2 weeks behind on all of my school work and in the middle of a project, so I was stressed as hell in the first place, and then she being REALLY SARCASTIC which I struggle with regardless. These two things coupled together make me unbelievably furious, and I completely over-reacted. Not to mention how little sleep I was getting while I was with her. Should I be afraid to just show up to her house and give her the love letter I've been working on?", "summary": "I really miss my ex and can't seem to get her off my mind. Should I wait for her to break the no contact (because I already have), or should I just go to her house and see her in person?"}
{"id": "t3_2pipo1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mixing smoking and drinking", "post": "Well it wasn't today but last night. After a long night of drinking at a brewery tour, me and my friends went back to a friends apartment. My one friend asks me if I wanted to smoke a bowl. I said yes and took it, coughing a lot afterward.\n\nThis is when it gets bad. The mixing of the two sent me over the edge. This caused me to try and run outside. I threw up in the hallway, outside and have my head wrapped around the toilet for the rest of the night. The only way I was able to get up after at least 2 hours was when my sister got me up to go to the car where my dad was to drive me home. I had convinced myself that what I smoked had been laced but I think I just greened out. \n\nThankfully my parents are chill so all they were was worried. I had a full puke station and water supply set up in my room when I got home.", "summary": "mixed smoking and drinking and ended up wrapped around a toilet all night and having my dad pick me up."}
{"id": "t3_24vgno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] having trouble with gf [18/F]", "post": "Me and my girlfriend we're in the back of my car making out when she says she has to go home to check in, I being the idiot I am convince her to stay a couple min. Acouple min later the unthinkable happens her nazi of a mother rolls up and taps on the window. Her mom takes her home and gets her phone taken away along with most of her stuff. so we don't talk till Monday(happened on Friday, and we don't talk at all barely made eye contact in our same class. And don't talk at practice. When I confronted her about not talking at all. She said that she can't get in anymore trouble, and that it's complicated. What does this mean?? Is there another guy? Did this one incident and three days just kill the whole thing?", "summary": "nazi mom catches me and girlfriend takes daughter home. Won't talk to me, and dances around the question when asked. "}
{"id": "t3_10dhu6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most elaborate thing you've ever done for love?", "post": "It may be a ridiculous question, but I'm feeling awful, and need something to cheer me up. There's a girl who I rather fancy, who I tried to get closer to. What I did was set up an intricate systems of clues, like a treasure hunt type thing. I messaged her and asked her if she liked riddles. She said that she supposed so, and I gave her the riddles. The first was a simple shift cipher that asked a question that held the location of another clue, inside of a locker. Inside i had another clue, and this was a pig-pen cipher, that decoded to be another shift cipher that lead to a URL. In this url, I put in a bit of javascript that let's me encrypt stuff (easy to hack into, but has a nice interface made by Vincent Cheung) that had a picture of a location at our school. She went there and found the other clue which unlocked another passcode on the website. In this new one, it had a 10 digit code encrypted in some archaic language that I found that turned into my phone number... And that's the story of how I got her number. We became rather close after that. For about half of a year. She doesn't talk to me very much nowadays... I get lonely.", "summary": "I made a scavenger hunt to get closer to someone and to get her phone number."}
{"id": "t3_2w3slm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) can't stop dreaming about my ex(22F)", "post": "So we broke up on October of 2014. We happily dated for a little over three years. She ended up cheating on me, and knowing that I could never trust her or forgive her for it decided to end the relationship. It was hard but I felt like it needed to be done. I also cut off all contact from her and she didn't really contact me either but once to apologize. Maybe she wanted to be friends but I made it clear that it wasn't gonna happen. Ever since the breakup I would dream about her from every night to a note a few times a week but it still happens. In most of the dreams I've had we're back together. But I know that's not what I want. Now it's been almost 5 months and all rational thought says I should be over her, but I can't stop these dreams. I don't know what to do to stop them. Has anyone had this experience? What did you do to stop these dreams?", "summary": "broke up with my gf 5 months ago but still can't stop dreaming about her."}
{"id": "t3_2pffr5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "File jointly for common law?", "post": "My \"wife\" and I have been together since 2002 and have had a son since 2004. We bought a house this year. She has no income other than ~$1k that comes in from some farmland she inherited. I've been filing singly with her as a dependent for years, but I'm wondering if there's any advantage or disadvantage to filing as married via common law. I make $90k. (February I switched from making $42k to $75k and October to $89.5k).\n\nBefore anyone starts beating on the \"STFU, you're doing well\", I've actually had a pretty bad year despite all the above. The circumstances that lead to the job changes were unpleasant and its been a health issue year. Additionally, I've had a lot of bad financially and otherwise years before this one and have ~$40k in misc debt counting a car, but not counting the new house.", "summary": "would filing jointly as common law be of an advantage if she's not really making any income?"}
{"id": "t3_35zamy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending my girlfriend a photo of a shirt", "post": "So, this just happened two weeks ago, and I'm just now facing the shit-storm.\n\nMy girlfriend does wild land firefighting. Well, so needless to say we are in a short-term long distance relationship. \n\nBack story: her and I have been friends for two years. We got together in March (Pi Day!), and she spent her vacation with me during spring break. Well, she and I had lots of sex and clothes were thrown everywhere.\n\nLast week I was cleaning my room and I found a shirt at the foot of my bed, but inside the corner of the bed frame. So, I sent my girlfriend picture of said shirt and said, \"You left this here.\" Well, she went home yesterday, and started looking through her stuff, and she had both shirts she had brought.\n\nShe sent me a text that said, \"We need to talk.\" This is also known as, \"The four words that make your buttcheeks clench.\" She calls me and tells me she has both shirts and has no idea whose shirt I have. I told her, \"Well, that makes two of us.\" I honestly don't know. \n\nI'm not fucking around on her. The last time I had sex was in December (more than likely this one's), and then there was that fooling around thing with that girl from work at the beginning of January, but no sex happened. I'm not fooling around on her, but I don't want her to feel like I am.\n\nHer tone says she is going to let it go, but I'm not trying to give her a reason to doubt me.", "summary": "sent my gf a picture of a shirt I found in an obscure place in my room, and now I think she doubts me. I am fucked."}
{"id": "t3_4rg5g5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15M] sister [24F] is getting married and all my sisters & females in my family are completely crazy ever since they started planning the wedding", "post": "My sisters and mom are out of control, I have no idea what's happening but ever since they started planning this wedding it's like they are different people. \n\nThey are getting upset over flowers for fuck sake, it's flowers and yet they argue with each other about what is going to look best. One sister thinks purple, the other thinks red, my sister (the bride) likes white roses. The ask me what I think and I say white. Next thing I know I am a typical man that can't color match to save my life. \n\nThey are all freaking out over dresses when they have 6 of the things in their wardrobe. They completely ignore me when I ask/tell them something. They are always hovering around this stupid book with the wedding planner. These people are crazy you would think like the world would end if one thing went wrong. \n\nI can't have a conversation with my sisters without it being about the wedding. The wedding is taking place in Cleveland because that's where her dream venue is. Keep in mind we know no one that lives there so it's a pain in the ass to get there and a huge inconvenience for everyone. When I talk to my sisters or mom it's always about the fucking wedding. \n\nThe get angry if I don't show interest, they send me pictures of suits they want me to wear and if I don't reply I am worse than satan. I don't understand what's going on, It's like they are losing their minds\n\nI am losing mine as a result, I hate this fucking wedding! goddammit morning and night I hear about it. I tell them to shut up and I am sabotaging her day", "summary": "My mom and sisters are acting crazy over a wedding. I have no idea what's going on"}
{"id": "t3_487ag2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] roommate [28F] slept in my bed without asking me.. I had left a toy in my bed.", "post": "I moved into my new place in December after seeing an ad online for a girl looking for a roommate, we met up a couple times and figured we could get along enough. I travel often for work, and can be away for up to two weeks at a time, so I've been there for half of the time.\n\nI did not know her before we moved in together, and things are still just roommate-ish - we aren't friends or anything yet.\n\nAnyway, I got a text from her earlier tonight saying that she had slept in my bed all afternoon because her friend was snoring too loud in her bed. I'm not sure why as we have a perfectly functioning couch in the living room?\n\nBefore we had moved in, we had discussed boundaries. ie: Don't eat each other's food, respect each other's personal space, etc. If this was a close friend of mine, I would probably still be weirded out by them not asking first.\n\nOn top of this, I have been travelling for two weeks and I left my vibrator under my pillow. Maybe that's stupid or gross or weird, but it isn't like I expected anyone to be sleeping in my bed. I'm hoping she didn't find it, because I am beyond embarrassed.\n\nI feel really weirded out by this, and where we are month to month, I can easily move out. The whole situation makes me wonder what else she might be doing with my personal space when I'm not there. I would never go in her room, but I've noticed she has been in mine before.. like she had put chairs in it if people were over, etc.\n\nAm I overreacting?", "summary": "Roommate slept in my bed without asking me, and I had left my vibrator out on the bed."}
{"id": "t3_kl657", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What were some absurd conclusions that you made about sex when you were first learning about it?", "post": "When my friends first discovered what condoms were we assumed only women used them. We came to the conclusion that women wore them on their nipples.\n\nI never really had \"the talk\" with my parents so everything I learned about sex at a young age was through television and music (My friends and I had dial-up internet so that's out of the question). I bought a South Park soundtrack around 10 or so and there were a couple skits about dildos. I remember listening to this cd one day while I was traveling with my dad and instinctively asked him if dildos were real or created by South Park. I don't exactly remember what he told me, but my 10 year logic came up up with the conclusion that dildos were what people used to have anal sex with each other.", "summary": "Women wear condoms on their nipples and people have anal sex only by using dildos."}
{"id": "t3_4yxvro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] promised my Catholic grandmother [70sF] that I would be baptized. Questions and concerns.", "post": "To note, because I find it at least somewhat relevant: I'm a transgender woman; 7 months HRT; living full time as a woman; visibly trans.\n\nFor years, my grandmother has been trying to get me to be baptized and embrace the church. I went to Catholic middle school, but I'm not really about religion. I don't hold anything against it or those who practice, but I don't have the most important part of being religious - belief. We've had many discussions about my lack of belief and she usually \"forgets\" and brings it up later on. For years before I started transition, she said she worries about me going to hell for not being baptized. While, I don't share her concern, I understand that it is a very real concern that she has, and I don't want her to worry.\n\nSo I offered to become baptized, but told her this doesn't mean I'd be joining her in church or identifying as Catholic. She was OK with this, and is now very excited and eager for me to do this. I refuse to *start* the process until my name and gender marker legal work is finalized, however. \n\nMy concern is this: I'm a trans woman - visibly so. She states that there are gay and trans people who attend her church, and they are inclusive, so this shouldn't be *too* much of an issue. I'm also agnostic, have zero desire to personally be baptized, and I'm afraid that this gesture might offend Christians. I wear a gold cross that was a gift from my grandmother, and it's been in the family since 1910, and also worry that also might be offensive to Christians. Another concern is that they may simply deny my baptism because I'm not really comfortable declaring my love or faith for Jesus - I refuse to lie in order to do it.\n\nIs this OK for me to do? Is it even possible? I'm hoping I didn't bite off more than I can chew.", "summary": "agnostic trans woman agreed to get baptized, concerns over offending people."}
{"id": "t3_4elywy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (21f) doing what is right for my daughter (3f) now that her father (23m) is dead or am I just ruining her life and my chances at potential relationships?", "post": "My daughter is 3. Her dad (23m) is dead. Her dad and I(21f) were no longer together,(we were together two years but had been broken up for two years) however I am closer to his family than my own due to years of abuse and neglect with my family.\n\nMultiple different men (26m&28m) are saying that if I want things to work out with him then I would need to cut my daughter's dad's family out of both of our lives because he and his family is going to take over their role.\n\n (Just to be clear I am not slutting around a lot, my daughter hasn't met any of these men... I just start talking to a guy, make it clear about her dad's family's role in her life and they basically tell me how they are going to take over that role and how her dad's family will start to not be involved. Then due to them saying how they don't want her dad's family in our lives I stop talking to them because I love her dad's family.)\n\nTheir basic reasoning is that her dad's family would undermine him and compare him to her deceased dad all the time. He doesn't know her dad's family and I know for a fact they never would. Also, the other part is that he believes he would become her only dad because he will be the one there for the majority of her life.. I feel as if they are wanting me to pretend her dad never existed and I don't feel comfortable with that. \n\nAm I being unrealistic thinking that all of this is wrong and that I need to avoid talking about my daughter's biological dad around her? Should I be acting like he never existed? I thought I was in the right to keep his spirit alive with my daughter because she really does act like her dad. And because I don't want her to forget him. But now I am worried that my view on this is skewed.", "summary": "My daughter's dad is dead, should I pretend he and his family never existed like these \"prospective\" bfs want?"}
{"id": "t3_4dmzlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I [18M] betrayed my girlfriend's [18F] trust and I can't remember how", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half now, and we've been going really strong! I'm totally head over held for her and she's the same for me. We live pretty far away so we talk on the phone a couple of times a week. When I met her she had been going through some really rough medical problems and we've been helping each other out a lot!\n\n When she and I went for a walk last weekend she said that she needed to tell me something about her medical stuff and last year that she hasn't told anyone else. Then when she was talking on the phone with me Monday she wanted to tell me more, so she asked me to catch her up on what she told me so far. \n\nI'VE COMPLETELY FORGOTTEN THE EYE OPENING PIECE OF INFORMATION WHICH SHE CLAIMS IS THE ONLY THING SHE'S KEPT FROM ME THROUGHOUT THE TIME WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER!!\n\nI can't believe or imagine why it's gone from my head but when I told her I was so sorry and I couldn't remember she got really emotional and now she hasn't been communicative or trying to reach out to me at all. \n\nI feel so guilty that I forgot, and my heart really hurts. All I can think about is what a douchebag I am.\nI'm writing her a letter now, but I was hoping I could get some advice on what to say, or insight to why I forgot the secret.\nMy only idea is that maybe it was something that I thought was already established and I didn't realize that was the big thing? Anyway I'd love some advice. I really love this girl and I feel like I broke her heart.", "summary": "I completely forgot a really important secret my girlfriend told me in confidence and I feel extremely guilty about it"}
{"id": "t3_4fgayu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15 M] and my friend [15 M] have been acting \"gay\" for each other as a joke between us, but he just came out and is actually gay.", "post": "I have been friends with this person for a few months now, and we honestly get along very well. He's a funny guy, and we play a lot o' games together as bros. Whenever we're out together or at some sort of group gathering, we jokingly always act as though we are secretly deeply in love with each other and get all touchy. And up until now I thought he was straight, so I didn't really think much of it. (For reference, I am a bi-curious straight male.)\n\nAnyway, today he finally came out to me and a select few as gay after realizing he felt this way roughly 2.5 years ago. I was really happy for him, because it was honestly a huge weight off his shoulders and it makes me happy knowing that he feels better about this. However, now I feel incredibly awkward. I'm not sure whether or not it's still okay to do the whole \"gay couple\" act with him at this point, because I don't want to play with his feelings like that knowing that it might not necessarily be an act on his part.\n\nI am going to try talking to him when I get the chance and see what he says, but he's notorious for not giving very clear answers and I don't want to pressure him so soon after he has built up the courage to come out to me and a few others. But I don't know whether or not it's still okay to do this, and I'm not sure whether or not he might even have feelings for me, since he doesn't really do the \"gay couple\" thing with anyone else. I really don't know what I'm supposed to do here.", "summary": "The friend I used to pretend to be \"gay\" with is actually gay and now I don't know how to act around him."}
{"id": "t3_pn3jz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, i need your help!", "post": "Hello, Reddit, i regret to say this is my first post on reddit, so this probably won't help me out much in the long run. Anyways, in the near future i will be taking a road trip from Spokane, WA, to L.A., California. I am working a minimum wage job which barely pays my basic bills and leaves me with about 20 bucks pocket change every check. For the moment, it's permanent, so there's no changing that. I need to earn upwards of $500 somewhere within the next 2 weeks, and my job cannot supply that by any means. \nDo you have any ideas or suggestions as to how i could obtain that kind of cash? i'm not stealing or swindling, and i'm perfectly fine with honest work to earn what i need. I live in the suburbs, with not too many people my age (18) living near me.", "summary": "Need $500 bucks in 2 weeks. How?"}
{"id": "t3_1koy3r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Employer still hasn't paid workmans comp bills, now they are in collections. What should I do?", "post": "Some background: I was injured on the job doing exactly as I was instructed to remove and replace an exhaust fan belt. I was locked out on the system and following all safety protocols. The wind picked up and caught my glove in the belt and pulley and pulled me off of a 12 foot ladder and dumped me on the ground. I had nearly severed my fingertips and had gotten a piece of metal lodged in my eye, somehow, I have no idea (was wearing safety glasses). \n\nI was taken to the ER due to the amount of blood, swelling, etc... that was in February. I have an ER bill for 1100 dollars and an eye doctors bill for 250 dollars in collections right now. I have told my employer about this about once a week since I got a 90 day notice. I took them a copy of the collections letter and gave their number to the collections agency. Neither has produced any results. I have been told that it will be taken care of every time I go in there. And I even demanded that they write the check on the spot while I was there... this didn't happen either as the VP of finance has been out of the office every time I go in there. I was told that it would be taken care of and that if I made too much more noise I would be put on the off list for an unspecified amount of time.\n\nI don't really want to make a huge stir about this and I don't want to lose my job, because as I am constantly told I am lucky to just have one. Should I go to extremes? Or should I just wait it out now that it's already done the damage to my credit score?", "summary": "Got hurt in Feb, employer wont pay comp, now I have bills in collections. Go big or go home?"}
{"id": "t3_izojx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "A question of character", "post": "I (24f) have lived a very sheltered life,have been quite abused (in all categories), and struggle with many health issues. What I am beginning to see in not just my SO of 5 years but others is how different their characters are from mine. \n\nFriends, it does not really bother me much. I mean i sometimes trip out on what they say and their selection of words but I don't seem to judge them as much as my SO (obviously). \n\nI have been noticing that my SO, in various situations would do something that in my opinion would be morally wrong. The thing is, all of them are literally hypothetical. Like we would watch a movie or read about something and he would say, \"oh if that was me I would have totally done blahblahblah\". Usually the blahblahblah part is something that I find totally the wrong thing to do morally. \n\nI was raised in a very abusive household and yet i'd not hesitate to open doors for elderly, try to help out homeless, and I am not against the world at all. My SO is opposite but he is totally affectionate to me and it just seems like his words do not match his actions towards me and those who are close. \n\nShould I be worried about this? I understand everyone is different and I totally respect people for their choices but it just seems like my SO would be a villain in most hypothetical situations whereas, I would be a hero. \n\nHas anyone ever encountered something like this? Is it a red flag? I mean he has loved me through all my faults, disabilities and handicaps which I think takes someone special to do so. Also, he is not abusive or negative to me or anyone at all.", "summary": "My SO is more of a Slytherin whereas i'd be in Gryffindor for lack of better example. His hypothetical choices scare me."}
{"id": "t3_2qyju6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [22F] says she wasn't initially physically attracted to me. What should I do?", "post": "Just like it says on the tin. My SO of 2.5 years recently admitted to me that she didn't initially find me attractive, although she claims that changed after she got to know me.\n\nI certainly understand that a person's overall attractiveness is a function of their personality, and one's level of attraction to a person can change over time, I'm very upset that she never felt any *physical* attraction for me. \n\nIt's great that she's \"attracted\" by my personality and all, but I can't help but feel that this isn't good enough. I thought she was physically attractive right away. I feel pretty terrible about myself that she didn't feel the same way. I don't want to go on in a relationship where I feel that I'm not good enough for her.\n\nI still love her very much, and I know she loves me. I'm pretty crushed at finding this out, and I don't know what to do about it. It seems to me that she was immature to think she could have a satisfying relationship with someone she didn't click with physically. I want her to be happy, so I can't help but wonder if we need to break it off so she can find someone who actually works for her physically.\n\nIs this an overreaction? I think I'm emotionally compromised because I'm so upset about this. So I'm hoping for advice from a few smart people here.\n\nWhat should I do? Is there a way of understanding what she's told me that doesn't make it sound so bad? What am I missing?", "summary": "girlfriend didn't feel any initial physical attraction to me, but says that changed when she got to know me. This bother me. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_n37jn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How did you escape disaster? I'll start.", "post": "8 years ago, as a sophmore, me and my buddies went to his car and smoked a bowl between classes, we show up to our next class about 5 minutes late, and the teacher being a bitch said we had to go to the office and sign in, so we do, and the office secretary obviously knew we were high so about 10 minutes after signing in, we're called into the office, I had a pipe and a 10 sack in my backpack so at this point I was shitting bricks, they placed me in this small ass 4x4 printer room with the yard duty. I knew I was screwed because the room was so small I had no chance to hide my stuff. I opened the small pocket of my backpack where everything was, and took out a pencil. I started twirling the pencil around in my hand and noticed that the yard duty was watching the pencil, so i keep doing that and then I flick it up in the air. As it falls to the ground, I reach for it, and with my other hand I grab my pipe and slide it under the printer. When my principal was done interrogating my friend I was called in. She had just escorted him to another room to sit until they figured out to do with us. I walk out the printer room, see she is across the room from her office, so I B-line into her office grab the weed and put it on the book case. Cop gets called in to search my things, and he's tripping because he keeps saying he could smell it. It was literally behind his head nose level. After searching my stuff 4 times he gives up. They lock me in the office and tell me to wait while the police officer talks to my principle. When I was alone for about 5 minutes, I took the weed off the bookcase and hid it in her desk drawer. I ended up getting suspended for being high and they tried to tell my mom I have a drug problem and wanted me to go to rehab. My mom pretty much laughed in her face and told her it's just marijuana. Never heard about it again, but the teacher did \"resign\" at the end of the year.", "summary": "Got sent to office for being high, hid pipe under printer, hid weed behind cops head, then in principles desk. She resigned at the end of the year."}
{"id": "t3_20u8r0", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "RE: Planned euthanization of a family pet question, It went well and I learned a lesson.", "post": "Previous post:  \n\nThanks for all the advice.  It was great to hear differing views on the subject and helped me through it.  My 7 year old however made it easy on me.  \n\nAs we were skiing on Saturday, halfway up the lift he asked the question \"Is Bongo going to die?\".  He broke the ice so I didn't have to.  He was upset but we found a nice quiet place in woods/snow and sat and talked a while.  He had already figured it out, knew the reasons and while upset he said was going to remember all the fun times he had.  He wanted me to tell him funny stories of Bongo from before he was born. I was amazed how smart he was and for lack of a better word, mature.  I was a proud dad in our moment of sorrow and that helped me through it.  Amazing how such a young kid can help, so parents don't underestimate your kids ability to deal with a tough situation.  I learned my lesson.\n\nMonday came, my son requested to take bongo out one last time to throw the ball, Bongo gave it his all, only 2 retrieves before i had to carry him back inside.  He said his goodbyes and went to a friends house.  Procedure was painless and calm and when kids came back Bongo was gone.  Whole family upset still but its getting a little easier every day.\n\nMy daughter as we figured didn't understand.  Was asking for Bongo on Tuesday looking for him.  We had to explain it again.  It finally clicked as was noticed this morning, she was super clingy and didn't want me to leave for work, because i might not come back like Bongo.  Heartbreaking so i stayed a little while and explained it again.  We made a picture book of old pictures of Bongo so she could look at it whenever she wanted and remember.  My son is going to write some funny stories about bongo to include.  This seems to be working well in helping them.\n\nHopefully my experience can help others going through similar difficult situations.", "summary": "Don't underestimate your kids ability to handle a difficult situation, they may be smarter and more mature than you think.  Also when dealing with loss, print out some pictures and make a small album.  Focus on the funny stories, write them out etc."}
{"id": "t3_495mdp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking an old pop with my bogeys in it.", "post": "This just happened.\n\nI've been working on the computer all day and have a couple of cans of pop around me. I dispose of my boogers in an empty can and toss it later.\n\nWell I took a break and didn't finish the pop I had been drinking, came back with a new one and got back to work. Started picking my nose and putting it in this can that wasn't quite empty, without a care in the world.\n\nWell I grabbed the not-quite-empty can and felt that it still had pop in it. Not wanting it to go to waste I slammed the rest of it...\n\nI noticed when I went to go swallow that there was some meat to my Pepsi.", "summary": "I drank meaty booger Pepsi."}
{"id": "t3_3jmnus", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Moved into guy's Apt and Moving Out 1 month in. Who finds replacement?", "post": "Hello,\nI don't know if this is so much a legal question or more of a responsibility question- So I moved out of my studio last month paying $650 per month in Chicago. I moved down the block to someone off of Craigslist because I thought the place was great. A house in a city with a porch! I love porches! But living there for a few days, I found that I didn't inspect the place well enough- the place is pretty ratty for a number of reasons, and my roommate doesn't seem that motivated to make improvements. He's a nice guy, but not really the cleanest. The situation is kind of awkward since when I brought up making improvements or contacting the landlord, he didn't seem that enthusiastic and basically responded that the landlord was unlikely to respond to fixing our broken sink and things like that. Well anyways, I found a much cheaper place ($300 cheaper per month! It's just not nearly as convenient a location: 2 miles from train instead of a block). But the people are already my friends and I think I could be a lot more relaxed there. The newer place would actually feel like my place instead of living in someone else's place.\n\nMy question is this- since my roommate described it as a month to month deal, here are my questions- \n\u2022\tWhose responsibility is it to find someone to take over my room?\n\u2022\tHow much advanced warning should I give my current roommate without making this too weird? Immediately?\n\u2022\tShould I tell him I'm leaving cuz the place sucks or should I say I found a much cheaper living situation?\n\u2022\tHow can I protect myself in this situation?\n\nI literally have not signed a thing and my name is not on anything. That may have been really irresponsible since  I don't really have any protection but I don't have any responsibilities either necessarily.\n\nIf I posted in to the incorrect subreddit, lemme know.\n\nAny advice would be helpful. Thank you!", "summary": "Moved in at beginning of September to month to month rental place without lease, decided I'm moving out end of September. who's responsible for finding new tenant- me or other roommate whose lived there whole summer?"}
{"id": "t3_2q9ebl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m/18] got involved with a girl [f/19] in a relationship, but she doesn't know how to leave her bf.", "post": "A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. \n\nBeing college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. \n\nJust as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. \n\nObviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place.", "summary": "got involved with a girl with a bf of 3 years and just when she's about to leave him for me, his mom is diagnosed with cancer."}
{"id": "t3_4l0bal", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "19f with fiance 20m and roommate 19m- fiance and I recently got infected with scabies and have started treatment, roommate refuses", "post": "Recently, my fiance  (20 m) and I (19f) moved into a new apartment with a mutual friend (20m) and somehow contracted scabies (don't know how). We've both been itchy af and have been to the doctor who confirmed that it was scabies for the both of us. Our room mate (20m) has not had symptoms of scabies bites appear yet but I have asked him to get treated as well and to treat his clothes and linen so that our apartment does not get reinfested after treatment.\n\nMy room mate refuses to buy the lotion needed to kill the mites on his skin (if there are any on him) and refuses to rewash and dry his linen and clothes. I'm scared that if he does not get treated the infestation of our apartment will not go away. I'm almost there to asking him to move out if he refuses treatment . He is not on the lease.", "summary": "infestation of scabies mites in apartment, roommate refuses treatment and I'm scared of reinfestation. I'm itchy af D:"}
{"id": "t3_2zr637", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18M] broke my girlfriend's[16F] trust and I need fix it but have no ideas. Story included", "post": "To start off, both me an my gf are still in high school and we've been dating for over 7 months and we love each other very much. \n\nThe story is, one night after work, my ex/ friend[17F] texted me asking if I wanted to hang and since I didn't want to go home at the time, I thought \"why not?\" (That was fault #1). I forgot to text my gf like I usually do so when she texted me, I straight out lied to her saying I was still working even though my shift ended (fault #2). \n\nWhile I was hanging out with my ex and another friend[18F] who is mutual between my gf and her, the other friend took a snapchat and sent it to gf, digging me in the hole I dug already, deeper. So I'm fucked by this time, and I didn't even know it. \n\nThe morning after, she calls me saying we need to talk. She confronts me about it and I confess everything. She then says \"I can't trust you anymore and I can't believe you lied to me -OP-.\" \n\nI need some idea that will help me earn her trust back before I lose her altogether. I understand if you do not assist me, and tell me that what I did was wrong, but I would be forever grateful to the reddit /r/relationships community if they helped a poor teenage soul out of the mess he made. Any ideas will help.", "summary": "lied to my girlfriend, lost her trust, need ideas to fix my problem I dug myself into"}
{"id": "t3_1c3uor", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My niece is 13 and has decided she wants to live with her mother. Her father was granted custody over 8 years ago.", "post": "Want to preface by saying I'm living in South Carolina, US. Thanks for any advice!\n\nAlmost 9 years ago my mother-in-law was in a physically abusive relationship and one night a fight escalated to the point where a neighbor called the police. Both were taken to jail while my two nieces were at the home. The girls are around two years apart and have different fathers. One of them came and picked them both up and took them to his house that night.\n\nI want to say first, I don't blame him for wanting full custody. I would more than likely do the same thing in his shoes. He filed for full custody and won. My niece sees her mother every other weekend.\n\nThe hearing was almost a decade ago, and a lot has changed since the case was over. My mother-in-law is now completely sober, she divorced her abusive husband soon after the fight they had that landed them both in jail. Since then she has met someone new and they have been married for a few years now. He's a good guy and treats the girls great.\n\nNow my niece wants to move back with her mom. She wants to live with her sister that she can relate to. She is very unhappy living with her father. Actually she just recently visited a therapist and her conclusion that my niece is on a road to depression. Her father and step-mother are very controlling. They do crazy things like make her wear bows in her hair and pick out the clothes she wears. My niece is not a bad kid. She's never been in any kind of real trouble. She says she feels like an outcast living with him.\n\nIs there anything my niece or her mother can do to get this changed? Will she need get a lawyer and have a new custody case all together? Does my niece have a say at all? Like I said she just started to see the therapist which agrees that she needs more time with her mother. Couldn't a judge hear her opinion?", "summary": "Niece wants to live with her mother, but father has full custody."}
{"id": "t3_2zmt63", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "18M college student, who has no real knowledge of financing (UK)", "post": "Hi guys, I've been subscribed to this subreddit for a while now and have seen the great advice people on here have to offer so I thought I'd have a go at asking you guys what you think I should do about my current situation.\n\nI'm 18 years old and am currently studying Computer Science at college, I'm unemployed and am on the job hunt at the moment. I have a big problem with wasting money as soon as I get it, and as I currently don't have a job, I literally cannot afford to keep splashing out money on stuff I don't really need.\n\nI get \u00a3192 a month, \u00a3124 on the first of every month and then \u00a368 on the 15th of every month, I also get \u00a330 a week from my mum for travel + lunch money for college. I find myself in the same position every month, the \u00a3124 lasts me about a week if I'm lucky and the \u00a368 doesn't even last me 4 days. \n\nIt's frightening when I think about it, how quickly I waste money. The thing is, it's not even like I'm spending my money on anything important; it either goes on games, junk food...and that's pretty much it. \n\nI really want to change this though, I want to be able to have a bit of cash in my wallet and not worry about having no money. It would also be great to be able to put some money aside for the future. \n\nAs I stated in the title, I don't really have any knowledge on personal financing so I would really like to know how I would go about doing this?", "summary": "18 y/o college student from the UK. Get \u00a3192 a month but waste it on a load of rubbish. Would really like to get some advice on how to stop spending so much, so quickly, and also how I would go about starting to save money for the future."}
{"id": "t3_192h7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend's boyfriend is being controlling. Breaking me and my best friend apart. Any ideas?", "post": "I'm 17, she's 17. Her boyfriend is 16. Me and her hang out constantly, we also share some classes together. I've also known her longer (1year). They share no classes, he's younger, and they've been dating for 1 month. \nThe thing is, I write a FACEBOOK post about her and I jump-starting her car because we killed her battery;\n\nAnd he gets off on a storm to her about how that's \"disloyal\" or something. \nHe's messaging me now as we speak about the post and how he \"doesn't want any problems, because it's our 1month anniversary\". Fuck his problems. Any advice on what I should do? I understand that I should respect their relationship, AND I DO. But the fact that he got worked up over that is a red flag to me.", "summary": "My best friend's(F17) boyfriend(M16) gets extremely jealous over facebook post, shoots my red flag up sky high"}
{"id": "t3_4jmvwt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is someone trying to scam me?", "post": "Okay I work at Walmart. I'm a department manager over a couple areas. I try to be pretty outgoing to customers as I see them. One approached me and said I had left an impression on him about how I greeted him and how he was looking for people interested in a sales position with a company he works for.\nHe said they are planning a job fair next year and we're looking for people interested. So he took my name and phone number and said he was going to text me later.\nBasically what I thought this was fishy so I was wondering if anyone else thought this was weird. I mean I'm gullible but I wasn't born yesterday.", "summary": "is it common for someone to scam others by trying to convince them he's offering a job."}
{"id": "t3_1sawys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Giving my[29m] gf/fiance [23f] an ultimatum - am I wrong?", "post": "She has extremely controlling/manipulative parents, and she's from a foreign culture. In practice, this means that she can't actually do anything with me beyond spending a few hours together, though we've been a couple for the past couple years. \"It's not right\" for her to spend the night at my place, even though I reside pretty far away; \"It's not right\" for her to go on a trip with me to visit my family in Los Angeles, which is pretty far from the Midwest; \"It's not right\" for us to go on weekend trips, because that would look bad to the gossipy neighbors/community.\n\nThis is from her and her parents. I asked her to get married a while ago, and she agreed, though said she wouldn't tell her parents until after she got her Master's degree, which is a couple years from now, as she somehow owes it to them to finish not just a regular college career, but all of graduate school, before she gets married.\n\nIt's been a while, and I have her the ultimatum: either we get married next year, you give up this cultural stuff that keeps us apart and actually do some things with me, or we part ways.\n\nShe's upset, of course, and doesn't like that I've given her such an ultimatum. I feel guilty about it; should I? Am I doing the wrong thing? I love her, but I don't know how long I can go with this semi-relationship dominated by the wishes and desires of her parents (who, by the way, she resides with).", "summary": "Gave my fiance an ultimatum: marry me, forget tradition and spend time with me before marriage, or part ways. Is that really mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1j8y7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[28F] with my Fiance [27M] 11 year relationship, Trying to end it but I need advice", "post": "Guys, I can't do it.  I know I need to.  I've known I needed to for a long time.  But I didn't want to be the person that just gave up.  I kept holding onto glimmers of hope and the potential that our relationship would grow into a good thing.\n\nIt might be so much easier if we were in a bad place.  There are times he's so mean and disrespectful and I think 'okay, now. do it now'.  But I didn't.  And I have no such anger or sadness to grasp onto right now.  It's peaceful, we're not fighting, I don't know what to do.\n\nRight now, he's completely unaware that I've had an interview with a house full of people I want to move in with.  He's so fucking unaware and it's killing me. This is one of our peaceful lulls and I just can't convince myself that I need to leave.  I'm so afraid that if I *do* get this living position that I'll say NO just because I can't take breaking up with him.\n\nI hate that I'm going to have to tell him, while he thinks everything is good, that 'oh, I've been looking for a place to stay'.  To look him in his face when he thinks nothing is wrong and then just crush him will crush me too.  I'm almost willing to stay just so he won't get hurt.  But I know that's not good for either of us.  I won't be happy.  He won't be happy.  Typing this all out is helping me clear my head, but jesus christ I'd be lying if I said it's making me any more brave.", "summary": "I'm terrible a chicken shit and I need some courage/advice to break up with my long term boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_3982ag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] want to date my best friends ex [23F], but I'm afraid it could ruin our friendship", "post": "So my friend (John) broke up with his girlfriend (Shiela) of about a year just about a month ago. While they were together, Shiela and I always seemed to get on pretty well. There were even a few times when we were all hanging around with friends, and it felt like we were a couple, even with John in the group.\n\nI'm pretty sure that Shiela has feelings for me too, and we've been flirting back and forth a bit since their breakup. I'm scared that if I tell John that I want to date Shiela that it could damage our friendship, but the same could happen if I go behind John's back and start dating her without saying it to him.\n\nHas anyone been in a situation like this before, or have any advice on what might be the best way to go about keeping the friendship, but also starting a new relationship?", "summary": "My friend just broke up with his girlfriend of around 1 year, but I'm crushing on her hard."}
{"id": "t3_3i08zk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my [21 F] dating 4 months. I really like her but I'm not in love with her. Is it wrong to continue dating her?", "post": "She's great. Gorgeous, fun and always up for anything, but I just don't get that butterflys in the stomach feeling that I've gotten with other relationships. The thing is, I'm not sure I'm looking for anything thaaaat serious, and this is honestly great for me. Just having a cool person to hang out with and have sex with is wonderful. But she loves saying all these gushy sweet things to me and I feel really bad just knowing that I don't feel the same way. She'll text me frequently saying she's thinking about me and I'm starting to feel terrible that I really only think of her when I'm with her. I don't see us getting married, but I also see no reason to break up with her.\n\nAm I doing something wrong? I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I honestly wouldn't be that devastated. I just want to make sure I'm not being an awful person by staying with her even when I don't love her and don't think I ever will.", "summary": "Like my girlfriend, don't love her. She loves me a tremendous deal. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4xygl7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting run over by an ice cream truck", "post": "So, obligatory this did not happen today.\n\nYou should know I'm a guy with his pride. So when my SO started mocking my coordination for tripping over stuff, I got pretty mad and decided to prove to her that my coordination is perfect. Needless to say, just a few days later I was roaming the neighbourhood on my brand new unicycle while juggling some tennis balls (3, to be exact). \n\nThat's where the fuckup begins. One sunny day I was riding around the area when suddenly this ice cream truck appears from behind the corner and heads for me. I could do nothing but watch the kid behind the steering wheel desperately try to stop the truck - luckily, at the last moment he realised he can simply turn the wheel, so he did not break every single one of my bones, just a few ribs and a hip dislocation. \n\nTurns out was also the time when a lot of illegal immigrants began to come over here - god bless you, Merkel - so some employers felt like it was a perfect opportunity and 'hired' many those people for some shitty money without any contract or training. What's even worse is that the kid driving was quite literally this - a kid. \n\nWe finally agreed not to call the police after he promised me a free vanilla scoop every time he was around. My SO was super mad and my unicycle went straight to the garbage can, but damn me if it wasn't worth it.", "summary": "Recently got hit by an ice cream truck that was driven by an under aged illegal immigrant while I was riding my unicycle and juggling tennis balls."}
{"id": "t3_2wu9jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] I hooked up yesterday with my Ex-Girlfriend [19 F] of 1 year and found out she has a girlfriend.", "post": "I want to start off by saying this is one of my first posts, and it is the strangest situation I have ever been in.\n\nlast year I was sexually confused and shared sexually explicit images to another man from my phone while I was dating my girlfriend (I have since realised I am pretty much 100% straight). She saw the messages and images and we broke up. just before she left to go on holidays, we hooked up again with the possibility of getting back together when she came back. \n\nsince then, we have had conversations all leading to the same conclusion that I essentially cheated on her and our relationship would never be the same because of it. I accepted this because I know that there would always be the possibility I would do it again or worse. \n\nYesterday, I had my first conversation with her in 3 months, and it was clear she wasn't over me... and I wasn't over her. We hooked up and went back to my place, where she revealed she has a secret girlfriend. while she was saying this, she kept repeating how she was very confused about the situation, how before this she wasn't at all interested in women.\n\nI am the second person she has told after her best friend, and I do not know what to do. she says she has an emotional connection with this girl who I know because she was trying to get with my girlfriend while we were together. after she told me, I didn't try to force anything, we went and got pizza and then she went home. I miss her so much and after yesterday, I literally can not think about anything else. What can I do to help her decide", "summary": "My ex girlfriend who I am still in love with has a girlfriend and I have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_vraep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF's Ex bending over backwards for her.", "post": "I've (22) been with her (31) a few months (3-4), we're both in school, which is how we met.\n\nOur relationship is pretty loose I guess you could say, I like her, quite a bit, but due recent past events (with other women, before her) I'm unable to allow myself to fully trust people, therefore I haven't become super-overly attached. Spending the summer 250 miles away also makes things difficult, furthermore making the relationship loose.\n\nNot long after I'd met her I'd found out that she divorced about a year ago. The marriage could be called one of convenience, (she didn't have papers, they got drunk and got married in Vegas) Stayed married for a 3 years, divorced due to her being unhappy. (This is what I've heard from her at least).\n\nHer ex apparently isn't over her and is trying to win her back, by bending over backwards, and generally being around when I'm not there.\nFor example, he lends her his car quite often, helped get her a summer job through connections of his, has made excuses to go with her when she goes out of town to see his sister, who she is good friends with.\n\nI'm sure they text some, but I haven't had the nerve to look at her phone history (seems like an invasion).\n\nI've told her that I'm uncomfortable with it, but she assures me that she doesn't have feelings for him, or the desire to hook-back up. And she uses his car ect out of convenience. She says she's afraid to totally let him go, and essentially fuck off, due to him having connections through the school we're at and the possibility of her papers being revoked (she's from Mexico)\n\nWhile I don't have any concrete reason not to believe her, I'm also not naive enough to completely trust her in regards to her ex.\n\nNot sure if she's over her ex, should I be more suspicious?", "summary": "GF accepts gifts/favors from Ex-husband out of 'convenience'."}
{"id": "t3_55apbj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Am I the only one who studied something but doesn't have a job?", "post": "So it's been 3 years since my studies, I've only got about a year and few months experience, and that's half within my field and half out of it. I didn't study something irrelevant, I studied IT.. I know it's been 3 years out and technology is advancing. How ever online I always go over the latest Microsoft certificates or comptia practice questions and tutorial's online. I know I'm probably not so good at what I do because I'm obviously still a junior. However trust me when I say, I go over a bunch of questions, tutorials and video learning stuff I find online. My city I'm from unfortunately isn't that much in the technology era yet, where almost all small to medium companies should have some part time \"IT guy\" there or something. I admit I have a bit of a anxiety issue and get quite nervous at interviews but that should natural to humans? Anyway it's not every interview I'm nervous at just a few. By the way the sad part is that I've been to 7 interviews this year and got none of it. I'm afraid of my future. Can you guys please offer advice or your own professional employment issues.", "summary": "Any advice? Please share your job search struggles too, hope I'm not alone."}
{"id": "t3_3ll9wf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By drunkenly making out in someones bathroom", "post": "So this literally just happened last night and I am typing whilst recovering on my sofa. I go to pretty intense Uni, UWO, both for work and for partying and last night I went to a friends house warming party. People were chilling music was bumping etc. Essentially I consumed 1/2 a bottle of Jack Daniels and 1/2 a bottle of tequila and somehow managed to chat up a girl, will call her J. One thing lead to another and we headed to the bathroom. As we were furiously making out and taking of our clothes, I somehow managed to slip and fall straight into the tub with her, which would have been fine, if not for the fact my head slammed against the soap holder in the tub.\n\nThe thing smashes into pieces and my head starts bleeding. A lot. My entire chest is covered in my own blood in a very short span of time. I can't feel much because of the alcohol and now J is kidda freaking out (understandably). She gets toilet paper and gets we to put pressure on the wound whilst she calls an ambulance. When we are leaving, the whole party is freaking out because they think the cops will show up. I essentially spend all night at the hospital, getting stitches whilst J (bless her) keeps me company. I ended up with 18 stitches on the side of my head. But I did get to stay at Js after I got released from hospital!", "summary": "Went to a party, got much drunker than I should have, ended up leaving the bathroom looking like a scene from a horror film, now have a new set of scars on my head but potentially wifey material"}
{"id": "t3_3xnc8h", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "USPS mysteriously sent me someone else's package - readdressed it to me [US]", "post": "Mysterious situation. Sorry about the text wall. Located in the United States.\n\nA few months ago, I bid on (and won) an auction for tools and other supplies on a popular online auction website. The package was mysteriously delayed during shipping at one of USPS's sort facilities due to what I assumed was the rather extreme inclement weather.\n\nOnce I received the package, I found a letter from the postal service INSIDE the box stating that due to a mishap at the facility there were packages that became dislodged during shipping. If any problems arose to send a letter to their complaint department. The package did not contain the tools but rather an incredibly large number of sealed DVD sets to a very popular TV show. \n\nI contacted the seller and he had no idea what I was talking about with DVDs. He stated that he sent only the items pictured in the auction. I have no reason to believe that he was being disingenuous because when you compare the price of both items on Amazon, the overall value of the DVD sets is much, much higher.\n\nAfter some back and forth with the USPS I was able to reach someone who started an official search at the three USPS sort facilities in the region. After three months they terminated the search and stated that my item was not found. I also inquired what to do with the DVDs that I received. Initially they said to keep them sealed because if my original package was found, they may need me to send the DVDs back to the sort facility. But later they essentially told me on the phone that they didn't know what to do with the DVDs.\n\nMonths have gone by, and I decided to try and recoup my money so I've started selling them locally. I've only sold a handful, but I began to wonder what kind of legal ramifications I could run into ? Also I became paranoid that the DVDs may contain some kind of elicit or illegal material so I unwrapped several of them and skimmed through them on my computer. I could not find anything out of the ordinary. They appear to simply be the entire DVD set of the TV series.", "summary": "Mysteriously sent huge box of boxed DVD sets of a popular TV show. USPS lost my original package. Seller had no idea what I was talking about. Want to sell DVDs to get my money back."}
{"id": "t3_4jc2b9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] asked a girl [17 F] for her number at a party.", "post": "Went to a party. Met a girl, talked her for a long time. Had a lot of laughs about all sorts of stuff at the party. So at one point we're sitting down, and her drunk friend stumbles over to where we're sitting and says:\n\n\"Is there something going on here? I feel like you two should \nexchange numbers.\"\n\nSo, I didn't want to be impolite..I asked this girl for her number straight away as she sat next to me. She smiled and watched me put her contact info in my phone. Me, acting like the biggest goof ever, is smiling really really big and so the night goes on. We hold hands and compliment each other and what fun we had as I walk her to her car.\n\nIt's morning now. I don't know what to say. Or if there's a guide on how long to wait before I call her..or text her. I've never done this before. Any advice?", "summary": "Pretty girl gave me her number. Now I am asking the internet for advice on how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1uo7xc", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Complain to the rental company? Then enjoy being slightly annoyed...", "post": "So my fiancee and I recently moved in together in my hometown. When we moved into the apartment about 5 months ago we were immediately greeted by an older lady who lives in the apartment below us. She wanted to \"introduce\" herself to us and bring us a fresh pack of light bulbs (guess she was out of pie). After introducing ourselves, she proceeded to continue speaking to us for about 45 minutes about how horrible experiences she has had with the renters above her with noise. \n\nFast forward a few weeks later and we have a letter on our front door from our realty company explaining that the lady below us and her neighbor have complained that we are too \"heavy-footed\" when we walk around our apartment and we need to try to quiet down. We called the realty company to call bullshit on this complaint because we weren't home when the alleged incidents were occurring, and they quickly agreed that it was stupid, but would tell the neighbors to come knock on our door if they heard it again. \n\nA week later and as we are paying rent the landlord pulls me aside to explain that the complaints are still coming. Naturally this infuriates me as we have not heard from our neighbors and they continue to smile and be talk and ask for help on taking out the garbage and other neighborly things you that younger folk should always help older people do. \n\nWell, since I can see where their respective chairs are located from their doorway every time I walk up stairs to my apartment, I always know when it is a good time to clean up. So every time I see them sitting down ready to enjoy reruns from Andy Griffith or, presumably, to watch the Weather Channel, I bring out my vacuum cleaner and proceed to vacuum my apartment for a good 20 minutes...right above where I know their heads are. Take that, you geriatric fucks.", "summary": "old couple complain about too much noise from my apartment so I go Patrick Bateman on their asses."}
{"id": "t3_13n32b", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She [17F] likes me [17M] back but her best friend also likes me :\\", "post": "For the past few months, this girl (Girl 1) I go to high school with has been flirting with me and things have been going pretty well. Recently, she told her best friend (Girl 2) that she likes me and how she wants to be with me etc. \n\nWell, it turns out Girl 2 started liking me a little while before she found out that Girl 1 and I have been flirting for the past few months. Being the good friend that she is, Girl 2 decided to keep quiet about liking me because she didn't want to ruin/get in between me and Girl 1. \n\nHowever, recently Girl 2 finally cracked about how she liked me and told Girl 1 everything. Now Girl 1 is acting distant because she doesn't want to ruin her friendship with Girl 2. But the thing is, Girl 2 is encouraging Girl 1 to not give up on this relationship because Girl 2 knows that Girl 1 really likes me.\n \nAt this point, both me and Girl 1 are avoiding each other and I'm trying my best to kill these feelings I have for her because I don't want to ruin their friendship. The thing thats killing me is that we both like each other and everything would be perfect if it wasn't for this one detail :(\n\nEven Girl 2 wants us to be together and she is mad at herself for liking me and telling Girl 1 about it in the first place. \nI'm stuck in the middle of all this and I don't know if i should back off or if I should still have hope in this entire situation.", "summary": "Me and this girl like each other but her best friend also likes me and now things are messy because no one wants to hurt anyone else."}
{"id": "t3_2tdryc", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need help finding ways to love myself", "post": "I apologise now for the rambling that is about to go down.\nI'm 17 and currently living in a psychiatric Hospital as I am struggling with depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder.\nDuring group therapy, I learnt that love (from others or from yourself) is very helpful when trying to fill an emotional void.\nFrom this theory, I decided to make a self-love jar. What it means is that I'll have a jar full of popsicle sticks and every popsicle stick will have a self-love suggestion on it. Each day I will pick one stick randomly from the jar and do what it says, in effort to increase my view of myself by doing nice things for myself.\nWhat I need help with is ideas for what to write on the sticks. I have a few ideas (which I will list in a comment), but I need more; I'm not the best with ideas. \nThank you so much :) I really appreciate it <3", "summary": "Help me with suggestions of nice things to do by myself"}
{"id": "t3_2a1k22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] broke up with my gf [22 F] of less than a month because of the trauma of being woken up by her seizures", "post": "In the beginning of a wonderful relationship, I was woken up one morning by my (ex)girlfriend convulsing beside me. She had two \"pre-seizures\" and though I supported her completely I was mortified. It was a terrifying experience. I knew that she had had them some years back, but was not warned that this might happen.\n\nThe spark was gone - it permanently changed how I felt about her, despite my efforts to keep it alive.\n\nThe relationship had been awesome up until that point, and now I can't shake the feeling that either A: I'm an asshole and/or B: I screwed up what could have easily been the best relationship of my life to date.", "summary": "Traumatized over awesome gf's unexpected (but life-long) seizures one morning, we broke up. Am I an asshole? Could I have prevented this in any way?"}
{"id": "t3_39wxim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my ex-GF[24F] of 6 months, Is there a way to reclaim affection or sincere friendship few months after breakup?", "post": "Hello reddit,\nMy ex-gf and I broke up few months ago. It was a long distant relathionship, which was aspiring for a normal relationship after her contract would've expired (3 more months from now). We had a chance to see each other once a month or two.\n\nWe broke up after she had started to avoid conversations, and had met some new people at work. I was told that she could not handle leaving me there waiting for her and yearning for her to  tell me about recent events at work etc. (although I had no problem with her going to parties or not wanting to tell me everything everyday, which I thought I had emphasized enough for her to understand, I'm rather a type of a man who tries to understand other's pov).\n\nWe had a chance to talk a few days ago first time after the break up and it was a decent conversation. When we were on a break, I had a time to clear my mind and rethink several issues and with all my earnest feeling I do believe that it is the woman I'd like to walk down the path of my life with. \n\nAt this point the question arises, is there any way to get back the affection we used to have? \n**In the positive case**, what kind of actions or ways of telling her about that may make her realize that I care about her happiness more than my own may have a chance to reawaken her feelings?\n**In the case of negative outcome** is there a way to rouse the friendship we had before?\n\nNote, that we will meet, together with our common comrades, for a few days, but I do believe we will have a chance to talk one-to-one.", "summary": "We broke up, looking for a way to restore the relationship or at least save the friendship."}
{"id": "t3_nmoa5", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Question on Medical Care in Jamaica", "post": "I was recently surprised by my SO with a trip to Jamaica (I have no clue what I've ever done to deserve that).  Sadly I have a doctor's appointment in the US smack dab in the middle of the trip.  I was in a car accident a few years ago and had my femur shattered, I'm currently in physical therapy and being prescribed Tylenol with codeine.  I'm able to do my physical therapy excercises at home, but the doctor can't move my appointment with him to get another T3 prescription with him up to before the trip.  I know tylenol with codeine is available over the counter in some countries.  Is this the case in Jamaica?  I only take it as needed, but I'm a bit concerned I'll have to miss out on some swimming/hiking etc while I'm there due to my pain.  First world problem, I know.", "summary": "Got hit by a Jeep : Is Tylenol 3 available OTC in Jamaica?"}
{"id": "t3_27zmo3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21M] torn between where to go. Confused about 2 women, both [20F]. Been in a relationship with one for ~1.5 years.", "post": "Hi all. So I've got quite a long story here, but I'll try and keep it as short as possible. \n\nSo to begin, me and a woman I dated for 3 years broke up nearly 2 years ago. Contact was cut completely within 3 months, and I haven't spoken with her since. Around that time she began dating another guy. A while after this, I also began dating another woman. \n\nSo me and this woman have dated for the past 1.5 years roughly, and things have definitely had more downs than ups. We have fought constantly, never seen eye to eye, and don't share any hobbies. \n\nMy ex and I, on the other hand, completely got along, would have a few big fights here and there, and shared mostly the same hobbies. \n\nMy current girlfriend and I have been on and off for the past few months, and right now we're in a hiatus. But, for the past few weeks, I've caught myself thinking about my ex more and more, and I'm not sure why. I hadn't thought about her in a long time, and lately I can't seem to get her out of my head. I legitimately miss her.\n\nSo through the grapevine, I've heard that my ex and her boyfriend aren't exactly doing the best, and things are falling apart. I want so badly to text her or something. But I just don't know if it's right. \n\nCan anybody give me advice here? I'm absolutely lost and confused right now. Thanks to anyone who can help!", "summary": "Been broken up with ex for 2 years and dating another woman for 1.5. Really thinking about ex lately and need advice on if I should talk to her.."}
{"id": "t3_naj6l", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "This is my mom's amazing giant kitty Bart. (He was named by the shelter.)", "post": "My mom adopted him in late 2009. He was sent back from the shelter TWICE, despite the fact that the shelter strongly warned the adopting families that Bart was a mature, independent cat who didn't do well with children and needed to be the only pet. Apparently, when he was returned, it was because he was \"mean.\" My mom adopted him, let him do his own thing in the house, didn't get in his space at all, a month after she adopted him he jumped into her lap.\n\nNow, he follows her from room to room. He's friendly and loving to both me and her, and loves sitting in our laps- which can be a problem, because he's a HUGE cat who weighs like 18lbs! He's a giant panther cat stalking around, but he's a sweetheart, and even acknowledges and accepts strangers now (if they offer attention)!\n\nPoint being, if you're going to adopt, PLEASE make sure you listen to the shelter about the temperment of the cat. Cats are wonderful, loyal, loving creatures, but they are NOT submissive, they are NOT dogs, you CAN NOT \"train\" them (past a certain point), they will not BEND to you. You can support them and take care of them and they WILL love you undyingly, they will follow you around, purr in your lap and constantly try to attack your feet from under the bed. Just acknowledge that they are little people with personalities. :) Bart is a CHARACTER for sure. :)", "summary": "My mom has a beautiful giant cat named Bart. He was sent back twice and almost euthanized because people DIDN'T LISTEN TO THE SHELTER, but thankfully my mom saved him. :)"}
{"id": "t3_2hy1mm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my two week old girlfriend [17]. Just asked me to go to her cousin's wedding...", "post": "Okay so this girl has had a high school crush on me since freshman year. Always saying stuff like \"you could be a model\" and such. SHE asked me out in sophomore year. She was bisexual so I didn't think it was all that strange for her to ask me. That's just how she rolls I guess. I politely declined. \n\nYou wanna know why I declined? A couple reasons. Some kinda selfish that I feel bad for. She lives very far away from me, she is mexican and slightly overweight which I really don't mind but I got made fun of a lot for taking her to homecoming. She had a girlfriend on and off for two years. And, as douchey as it sounds, I felt like I could do better.\n\nCome this year, senior year, she asks me again. All I had been doing was whining to myself about how girls show no interest in me and I hadn't had a girlfriend in so long and it would make her so incredibly happy. Also I've always respected her ability to stand out and be herself and I think she's a fun girl to hang out with. And honestly, I think she looks pretty cute too. So I said yes.\n\n It's beek about two weeks. Last weekend we went to a baseball game. It was fun. Now she just texted me asking me if I wanted to attend her cousins wedding. o.o what the hell. that was a jump. That sounds like stuff you do with your husbund to me. I think she may be a little obsessive. Should I get out of this? and if so, how the flying fuck would I do that?", "summary": "Very new girlfriend wants me to attend a wedding with her. Wondering if I should abort mission."}
{"id": "t3_16n9ka", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Help me plan our honeymoon, South America in summer?", "post": "Hey /r/travel!\n\nMe and the gf are getting married june 1st and are trying to plan the honeymoon. We have 8 weeks from end of june to middle of august to spend. Our plan is to spend 1-2 weeks home in Sweden and then go somewhere semi-adventurous for the remaining 6 weeks\n\nOur initial plan was to go to South America, maybe start off in mexico and then finish off in peru or chile. From some reading from wikivoyage i got the feeling that most of SA has rain periods during summers.\n\nMy questions to you /r/travel are:\n\n1. Will it rain a lot in central/northern america during july/august?\n2. What would you recommend us seeing in these parts of the world? \n3. How far in advance do we need to book inca trail?\n\nOur interests are mainly hiking/outdoors, adventures, sports and living some of the local cultures.", "summary": "Will Central/South America be good during summers? And what should we not miss during our 6-8 weeks there?"}
{"id": "t3_14xchl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate has started stealing from me. Reddit, what would you do?", "post": "Reddit, I come to you in search of life advice. Recently, I caught my roommate stealing from me. She took the charger for my computer out of a common area and hid it in her room.  I waited until she left out to make absolutely sure she took it and searched her room. I had a VERY good reason to believe she had took it. I found it in her room and took it back. I'm going to put a keyed lock on my door, but I don't know what else to do. There are another 6 months on the lease and I can't live with the fear of constantly having my personal items taken or damaged.", "summary": "My roommate is stealing from me. Took back what she stole. Don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_25va35", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to be the peacemaker during mine [26/m] and gf's [26/f] terrible fights.", "post": "I've been dating my gf for 11 months now and for a while I've been commuting 3.5 hours on 4 day weekends to stay at her place while I was in grad school.  Now that we spend all days together, we seem to bicker a lot.  In addition to the bickering, we'll have long 2+ hour arguments (at least once a week.  Sometimes 2 days in a row) that always, ALWAYS end with me thinking \"this is fucking crazy\" and just apologizing and eating my words and feelings to settle down the argument.  \n\nIn 11 months, I don't think once she's started the compromise/apology/or anything to end the argument.  She thinks I'm generally selfish and that I \"paint her out to be a bitch.\"  And sometimes she'll straight up lecture me like I'm a child.  \n\nIt's really hard to always have to be the first one to say sorry.  And then take the blame for the whole argument.  \n\nSometimes she even throws stuff when she's really mad.  I'm also beginning to think she doesn't respect me at all.  \n\nThe worst part is - I'm TERRIFIED of being alone.  Before I met her, I had no real friends, no life, I spent way too much time on the computer.  With her, I can be engaged soon, be living with her in an apt, have a dog (her awesome dog), and cool friends (her really nice friends).  Without her, I'd live at my parents for a while, have very rare hangouts with very few friends, be lonely as hell.  She's a great package deal.  And the thing is, I really don't think I could do better than her at all.  She's beautiful, smart, and when we do get along, it's like a fairy tale.  We have a real strong connection and compatibility when we're getting along which is about 85% of the time.", "summary": "how do I make peace with being the peacemaker and come to terms with swallowing my pride every time?  What do I do about the fact that I'm so much better off with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3v5soi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F], I don't know what I want in life. What's wrong with me?", "post": "Backstory - Going through a very amicable divorce. Got married very young (almost 22). Husband was/is very ambitious (go-getter, makes good money, pushed us to buy a house, pushed for us to settle down). I wasn't ready for a lot of those things, so I dug my heels in and made it difficult for progress. But I'd always been so responsible my whole life (never partied/drank/drugs/went crazy, went to college straight out of high school, didn't have any debt after college, etc.) and I wanted a chance to just have fun and never got it.\n\nNow that we are in the middle of a divorce, I can't hold him back anymore (which is a good thing, and only a small part of why we split up). \n\nI don't know what I want though. I have plans to go to grad school next year and I am already ambitious in my career, but i just don't know what the hell I want out of life. \n\nI know what I DON'T want - I don't want to get married again, I don't want huge debt again, I don't want kids, I don't want to hold anyone back ever again, I don't want to move out of my hometown ever again, I don't want to miss any more big family events. \n\nWhy do I feel like such a loser? Everyone my age seems to want all those things I had/would have had (a house, house projects, possibility of kids, ambitious husband).", "summary": "I don't know what I want in life. What's wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_4bjgap", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How should I (F19) stop getting overly fearful of losing my (M20) s/o?", "post": "So basic background I suppose. \n\nI have a fianc\u00e9 who is 20 years old and we have been together for 3 years. He is super awesome and I am dang lucky to have him. \nI've had another relationship that felt ALMOST as strong as mine and his, but it ended poorly. They guy that I had dated in high school passed away and it took me a while to get over it completely, but I eventually did.\n\nBut now sometimes I wonder how in the world I could ever handle losing my current guy. I understand death is a natural part of life. And I understand that I am pretty young to be worried about that. But I don't know why my stupid brain worries about that so much. I'm sorry if I'm not posting this in the right place. Reddit has been super nice to me and I just need to make sure I'm not a crazy person and that there's a normal explanation for it.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "high school boyfriend passed away, how do I stop thinking about aftermath if current s/o were to?"}
{"id": "t3_uncq5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do parents \"Demand\" respect?", "post": "I hope I don't sound like a whiny teenager since I just turned 17 today. But why do people expect children to respect there parents so much? I never understood this I remember a George Carlin bit where he says something like \"A parent should get respect by the way they raise there kids.\" That's probably very wrong but someone will find the link. I just want you to help me understand why all parents expect respect from their children when the majority don't even show there own kids respect. For example my mom has told me: she hates me, called me ugly and a loser. When I confronted her she said it's \"no big deal\" yet she still says \"Im your mother do what I say and respect me\".  I have seen this with my other friends too where less then satisfactory parents \"demand\" respect. What happened to give respect, earn respect? \n\nOn a side note. How can I stop my mom from taking pictures of me? I despise pictures (not cause of self esteem problems ). I don't believe in pictures at all yet she's always trying to sneak pictures of me. She has no respect for my beliefs on these matters. Whenever I refuse to take a picture she makes remarks like \"Oh, he thinks he's better then us\" or \"He's to good to take pictures\", I asked her more then a dozen times to NOT TAKE pictures of me. i sound like a girl :( sorry about the poor English its not my first language", "summary": "my cats name is misty and sometimes licks milk off my chin and my other cat knocks stuff down"}
{"id": "t3_3m8l4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Our friend [22M] is an an abusive relationship with [21F]. What can we do?", "post": "I am friends with a soft spoken guy - we'll call him Chad - in our social group (all friends from college) who is in an emotionally abusive relationship. His girlfriend Christina pushes him around, dictates his schedule, speaks on his behalf, and has no qualms with tearing him down in front of everyone. A few incidents have occurred over the past few months that have really made the fact that Christina is emotionally manipulative and abusive hit home. The only problem? Chad either doesn't see it, or he's too afraid to leave for fear that we will choose her over him.\n\nMy boyfriend and I want to help Chad, but we worry that Christina is keeping him from interacting with us. Our invitations to him to hang out have gone unanswered and he often seems nervous to speak with us when in a group setting. We've decided that the best course of action is to get him alone, to talk to him, and to tell him that *we are here*, we see what's going on, and we want to help. He won't be alone if he leaves Christina; he will still have us (at the very least) there as a support system.\n\nOf course, if this goes badly (if Chad doesn't leave and Christina finds out what's happened), it will cause **massive** chaos in our friend group. We will probably be unceremoniously punted from our social circle. \n\nWhat should we do? My boyfriend and I have discussed this at length, and we genuinely feel that someone needs to reach out to him and let him know that he is not alone. Emotional abuse can be absolutely soul searing, and we want to offer him a life jacket if he needs one. At the same time, we realize that this may be the beginning of the end of our group of friends. How can we approach this delicately?", "summary": "Our softspoken friend is in an emotionally abusive relationship. By bringing this up to him and encouraging him to leave or seek counseling, we risk destroying our friend group. How can we delicately navigate this?"}
{"id": "t3_tsiud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I become unstuck?", "post": "So, I live at home and work at a job I'm not too crazy about. I've been applying to jobs I want for 2 years now, with 0 luck...I spend hours on my cover letter (even researching organization mission statements), I tailor my resume, I research the recruiter's name (but not always)...but everything feels like a dead-end. I think its because my current job is at the bottom of the totem pole and isn't related to what I want to do. I have 2 degrees and I've started a hobby website related to my career interests, but so far, still no luck.", "summary": "I'd like to move out and start my life, but nothing seems to be working. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_wnm1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Past and present drug users/abusers/ and dealers, what are your craziest drug-related stories?", "post": "An ex-friend of mine (let's call him rob) got hurt real bad a while back and was prescribed perc's for the pain. He wasn't into the idea of getting hooked on them so he barely took the pills. One day someone asked him for a free pill, and that's where the downfall began. Eventually and slowly Rob started to distribute the pills and began selling them. After seeing how fast the money came (over 20 grand in one month) he pretty much was the biggest perc connection in the area. \n\nAt this point he was buying them illegally rather than getting them prescribed, so when his suppliers weren't able to meet the, he got about 20 grand together and flew to florida to get his pills. After finding a \"reliable dealer\" and testing some of the perc's, he was happy and bought them, then flew back. \n\nFirst deal back in my state, was a major one. Rob went to meet up with the buyer, and when they went to exchange the product, the pills... Were fake. All of them. In a single blow all his business was gone. \n\nNow this is where Robs luck truly runs out. Being a semi-small town where this was all happening, the cops caught wind after a few months. Rob had quit the dealing due to the fake pills, but barely a few days later, while Rob was at a fellow drug-dealers house waiting for pizza, things got suspicious. Their regular pizza guy wasn't the one deliviring, but it was a guy in his mid-40's. For some reason Rob opened the door, and immediatelywas bum rushed by 10 cops. \n\nBoth Rob and his friend were placed under arrest. The cops found the 10000 fake percs, and looked like they hit the jackpot, thinking they were real . Fast-forward after court, percs were found as fake and all Rob got was a year in jail for possessing fake drugs.", "summary": "guy starts dealing percs, goes big fast, gets ripped off for 10000 fake pills, gets arrested by cops with them, and gets away with only 1 year of jail."}
{"id": "t3_46cijs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[15M] Looking a fresh start w/ [15F] after an awkward Freshman year", "post": "During Freshman year of High School (Grade 9) a girl *[15F]* and I had fallen head over heels for each other. Right off the bat I had asked her to Homecoming without us really knowing each other whatsoever so it was awkward to say the least. \n\nWhenever we talked it was really awkward as I was shy and battling depression after the death of my dad, whereas she has a naturally shy personality. **I really had no idea what to talk about and still do not.** Whenever we hung out together it was awkward to say the least as we didn't talk all that much because I was so shocked/amazed/whatever you want to call it that this was actually happening and had no idea what to say or do. Added on to the fact that she had a friend who was third-wheeling the entire time and replying to questions I had asked to my crush, not her. \n\nA few weeks had gone down the line and we were falling for each other even more, but couldn't really progress due to her friend. It was still awkward, but I got her phone number! But, we had only texted once, and it was a very awkward conversations filled with tons of \"lols\"..\n\nThen a \"friend\" of mine who is naturally outgoing and jumps from lady to lady, started flirting with her. At that point I just gave up, not because it was a lost battle, but because I just didn't feel like fighting another battle anymore. \n\nWell it's now Sophomore year (Grade 10) and I never really loss feelings for her, and I feel it's the same for her because we never really got to know each other. I don't share any classes with her and I have no idea what to talk about ***still*** because of how awkward the year before was. I still fight depression, but for the most part I'm back to being outgoing and more charismatic like I used to be, long before I had the depression. Even though that is the case, I honestly have no idea how to approach this situation.", "summary": "Fell for a girl during Freshman year, but it was awkward due to my depression, shy personalities + her third-wheeler friend. My \"Friend\" flirts with her, but loses feelings. Fucking up what I had going."}
{"id": "t3_428smb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] with my overprotective parents, how do I stop them?", "post": "Hi, I hope someone can help me out here.\n\nBasically my parents are overly protective. Apparently I got electrocuted when I was seven, so they want me away from computers and tech. They're also scared I'll watch porn or see inappropriate videos on the laptop Grandma bought me at Christmas. For the record, no, I didn't watch any porn or any weird videos at all, except for the music video of Tongues.\n\nBut how they do it is insane. They first take away my phone and my laptop before I go to sleep. I can't have ANY electronics in my bedroom. Ever. They won't let me charge my phone next to my bed, or stay up late to read about the interesting article i found on the laptop or something.\n\nThis started from Beijing, when I was 10, all the way to Korea, and now I'm 16. I'm so desperate, I've been tempted sometimes to make a recommendation to where to hide my phone. (\"up your ass\") But I'm just...how do you say it... horrible in the inside, but nice on the outside. I think this is the best kind of people - you don't show it on the outside.\n\nHow do you guys deal with crazy parents? Do I have to be rebellious against my parents? \"No, I'll have it in my room, and you can't stop me!\" will probably result in my phone bills canceled and my devices sold off. How do you guys counter?", "summary": "Deal with overprotective, tech-hating parents?"}
{"id": "t3_3pnq90", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Sketchy job offer", "post": "Long time lurker, first post ever. I'm looking for a bit of help trying to figure out if this potential job is legitimate. Regardless of my desperation, I'm typically rational when it comes to making big life decisions but last week, I received an email from a recruiter about a potential \"Project Management\" position from a VC from Delaware and all I had to do was apply on their website if I was interested. I was already sketched out but 2 things checked out: 1. Recruiter had a corporate email and 2. The website seemed really legit, so I thought that it wouldn't hurt to apply. There was no financial information requested, only my address and phone number as well as my references.\n\nOn Monday, I received another email, asking to schedule a phone interview. At this point, a lot of emotions take over and I request for a call at their soonest availability. The next day, I receive the call right on schedule by a female with a heavy Russian-ish accent. I was asked a couple basic questions like my typical workday and my career goals. It was very brief, 8-10 minutes but I immediately felt that I was being scammed. After the phone call I do even more research and found that the site has been active for only 21 days.\n\nToday, I got an email about the next step from a Sr. in Human Resources. Attached was a contract for a one-month paid training which is apparently a part of their \"screening process\" before they decide to hire full time. Again no financial info was asked from me, just e-sign the document.\n\nThe document says that the corporate address is in Kowloon and I haven't been able to find ANY contacts on linkedin but they included a bunch of address for the new office in Los Angeles. I'm going to call all the numbers to see if I could speak with anyone. How should I go about all of this to find out if this is a real job and also a what is the best way to protect myself if it isn't?", "summary": "Got a paid offer for training, can't find any info on the company but they've passed every test I know on typical job scams. What should I do to check and/or protect myself?"}
{"id": "t3_4kvsof", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting real fruit in a bowl with fake fruit", "post": "This actually started a couple days ago but some back story.  For some reason it's a thing to have bowls of fake fruit around your house.  I thought, \"That looks cool.\"  So I got a bowl and put some fake fruit in there.  Small green apples, lemons, oranges.\n\nThen I get a bag of actual lemons and rather than just having them loose, I put them in the bowl with the fake fruit.  I had a business trip I had to go on and when I got back there was a really gross smell in the air.  So I am looking around, trying to find what it could be.  Of course I walk right by the bowl of fake fruit.\n\nSo I start cleaning everything, all the perishables out of the fridge and pantry.  Paid someone to come in and clean and nothing.  Still the smell.\n\nFinally I look in the bowl and what I thought was a green apple was actually a moldy lemon.  Immediately I go to throw it away and the mold explodes on to my face.   I was on the verge of throwing up but I managed to get it in the trash and then proceeded to clean all the fake fruit.\n\nFor about 3 hours all I could smell was that moldy lemon.  It was gross but I was dealing with it.  Then it started to actually make me sick.  Almost feels like the flu.  I know from a past experience that I am very sensitive to mold and had these exact symptoms so I am sure that moldy lemon made me sick.  \n\nEvery hour I put between me and that moldsplosion I feel better but still not 100%.", "summary": "Mixed real fruit with fake fruit and didn't notice mold until it exploded on me and made me sick."}
{"id": "t3_414nnv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/F] My girlfriend of 6 years [30/F] and my two best friends are seperate entities!", "post": "So, it's one of my best friends birthdays and our third amigo and I are taking her to eat dinner tonight. My girlfriend typically visits me over the weekend because she lives an hour away,  so I asked her if she would be okay with me going to dinner with my friends tonight. She gets along with my friend who's having her birthday, but my other friend does not get along with her. My birthday friend has a weird hang up about taking significant others if she cant take hers, hes busy working tonight. So if I was to bring my significant other, our other friend would insist on bringing her boyfriend because she thinks we are violating the three amigos rules if I bring my girlfriend. I have expressed that my girlfriend has to travel to visit me on the weekends, so if we ever do something on the weekend it's hard for me to tell her \"sorry you have to stay home while I go out\". Not cool. Anyway, my girlfriend told me that she felt rejected by the birthday friend because she thought they were friends and even told her that she wanted to celebrate with her. She told me that she never wants to hang out with my friends again because of this. I don't know how to respond, and I'm so wrapped up in the middle of it that I am losing sight of what's right and what's wrong, what's mature, etc.,\n\n Who's right? Who's wrong? Am I an asshole? Help!", "summary": "my girlfriend doesn't like my friends because my friends are divas and want me all to themselves."}
{"id": "t3_vj9oo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How has discovering Reddit affected your use of Facebook?", "post": "I joined Facebook while in graduate school several years ago and found myself needing to be on FB if I wanted to get info about study groups, parties, local events, etc. While in school I did find it to be a great distraction and way to keep in touch with friends, family, and acquaintances. Then I found Reddit, and everything changed.\n\nI have found a direct correlation between an increased use of Reddit, and decreased use of FB. What drew me to Reddit was the open nature of communication between strangers vs. my sheltered group of idealistic friends that I have chosen to add to my click. (I'm feeling a bit self deprecating at the moment.)  For a social platform, Reddit maintains decorum through rules, self moderation, and effective moderators and yet it feels like a much freer method of communication.  I do not feel like people are out to make money on me here on Reddit, rather people just want intelligent discussion for the most part.  The biggest issue making me transition is the level of activism between \"liking\" something on FB and actually doing something about it like offering money or physical support. Great that you want to show me that you support ending your issue of the day, but I would rather not hear it from you unless you are doing a bit more than sharing the article. Redditors appear to be a community of anonymous individuals who will support a complete stranger if the situation is deserving, and I like that. \n\nI don't want to sound like a hipster here, but I think I'm over Facebook.", "summary": "The more I use Reddit the Less I use Facebook and I am happy about it."}
{"id": "t3_3jw3kq", "subreddit": "college", "title": "[Freshman Advice] Partying/Early Social Questions", "post": "Hey everybody!\n\nI'm going to preface this with the fact that I'm a great student, I'm on top of my studies, and I'm currently in the process of applying to clubs and getting involved with organizations around campus, that said:\n\nMy first two weeks of college has been, well, much more uneventful than I expected. I have been looking for opportunities to go party on the weekends (nothing too stupid I promise) but I can't seem to find anything. It feels like frats run the party scene at my school (UF), and the only way to have any fun on a Friday/Saturday night or tailgate is to be a part of one. Basically", "summary": "as a freshman does anybody have advice on finding parties and that sort of thing? (To be fair I've only been here two weeks but a lot of people I know were finding stuff on the first night)"}
{"id": "t3_2e96hx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] have this odd relationship with my co-worker [20/M]. He's very flirty, even though he knows I'm in a relationship with my bf [23/M] of three and a half years.", "post": "I live in a new town for school, and I live with my boyfriend. I haven't made many friends until I recently started a new job, so my boyfriend has pretty much been my only friend. I've met nice people at my new job, and I'm happy to say I'm forming friendships, finally. The trouble is, one of my co-workers that I've connected with is very adamant on hanging out--which would generally be fine if he wasn't so flirty. After I told him I had a boyfriend I figured he would back off with the sweet talk, but he's making more sexual \"jokes\".\n\nI feel like calling him a \"creep\" is wrong because he is a genuinely nice guy, but clearly a hopeless romantic. I can't tell if he's humorously flirtatious with all girls because he jokes and flirts with a few of our co-workers, or if he's looking for something sexual. He doesn't get my blatant hints. How do I let him know I'm not interested? I'm afraid if we hang out, he might try something and I really don't want an awkward situation to arise at my new job. Things have been going well, but this kid is making things weird.", "summary": "My co-worker is way too flirty with me and I can't tell if he wants to be friends or if he's looking for something sexual. I have a boyfriend I'm faithful to, so I'm a little uncomfortable with my co-workers advances."}
{"id": "t3_jvk9o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, maybe you can help me.  There are some kids in my neighborhood that won't leave me alone.", "post": "Here's the story:\n\nTheir dad thinks I'm hot (evidenced by the wolf-whistles I get from across the parking lot when I'm outside).  He gave me his number, and when he drives by he waves and makes his kids wave and say hi to me.  It's annoying as hell but up until a week ago, it wasn't anything I couldn't just brush off.  About a week ago, he called me over to their house and I went in, talked for a little bit, then he asked if I'd go to the beach with them.  I said no, he started in on me saying that I don't do anything, that I need more friends, blah blah blah, so finally I said yes with the option to call it off later just so he'd shut up about it.  I went home, his 3 kids came over and hung out for awhile and I made them dinner, because I was going to make dinner for me and my son, who was having fun playing with them, and I was taught that it's rude to make a meal just for yourself if you have guests over.  \n\nThe next morning, I called the father and told him I wouldn't be going to the beach with them (forgetting that that means he'd have my number now, foresight fail on me), and went back to business as usual.  Now, for the last few days, the 3 kids have been bugging me, wanting to come over again.  They're nice kids if a bit rambunctious, but I have my privacy and I like it a lot, and I want them to stop bothering me.  Do you have any suggestions to get them to go away other than just ignoring them and hoping they'll get the point?", "summary": "How do I get 3 nice kids to leave me the hell alone without hurting their feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_2v0nke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is an appropriate and healthy way that I [31 M] can officially break up with my ex GF [30F] of 2 years.", "post": "GF on and off for 2 years and I have had major issues with her flirting through texts and various forms of social media... Every time I confronted her about it she only hid it better or took it to a different social media platform.... Have broken up many times and got back together with the intent on her working on it... This last time I decided this is it, however we said we would take a month 'break' of no contact to see if we really wanted this, then meet up and talk about our plans.....\n\nI don't want to meet up but she keeps insisting we do, seeing her would make my heart decide for me and I know I will end up with her again, or at the very least, sleep with her again... I know thats not healthy. I love this woman, deeply, if not for the lack of trust and her decision to continue the flirty behavior, I would more than likely marry her. I want her to really work on herself and grow and be happy with her life after this break. I want to break up formally with her but I'm not sure how to do so in a healthy way. She says she needs closure but I don't know what to say. I'm not going to see her face to face, I dont even want to talk on the phone. But I want to break up in a healthy contructive way where we both leave this better than when we came in.... \n\nHelp?", "summary": "I don't know how to break up with my GF of 2 years in a healthy way. Want to look for a constructive way to break up. help"}
{"id": "t3_13x97y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need guidance after gf [20F] cheated on me [20M]", "post": "My partner and I have been in a relationship for 10 months now, 3 of which have been long distance where there were frequent visits (every 2 or so weeks). We both found it very difficult being away from each other and would speak every night on the phone for at least an hour.\n\nLast week she cheated on me while seriously drunk with someone we both know but not very well. She called me the day after and told me what happened and apologised. She hasn't blamed the alcohol but it does help me understand a little better. I told her it was ok and that she should come visit me so she drove to my house. That night we talked a bit about what happened and she kept apologising and asking how I was dealing with it. I was struggling to cope and kept picturing it in my head. \n\nThe next day it all started getting to me and I got really distraught. We talked more about it which kind of helped. The last few days have been really difficult although I do kinda feel more positive about the relationship at the moment. I've had depression for a while and she has been good through that and tried to help as much as she could. She's also started doing a few things to help try to make it right - she quit drinking after we talked and has promised to tell me if the guy ever contacts her, and has given me access to her texts and facebook messages.\n\nShould I stay with her? I still really love her and it seems like she is trying really hard to make this better and really regrets what she did. How can we rebuild what we had?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 10 months cheated on me and I'm wondering if we should stay together"}
{"id": "t3_36zwy3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a blowout.", "post": "My brother is sick so my mother sent me to the shops to get some cough mixture. Anyway, I decide that this is a good time to give my bicycle some time out.\n\n Where I live, there's this hill where there's an offroad shortcut so you can get 3 seconds of fun on a mountain bike. I decide that I will. \n\nAs I'm entering the shortcut, I hear something which sounds like a jet engine. I live in a small town and know for sure that no 747 would land at our local airstrip unless all engines are down and there is a giant wall of ice in front of it. I look up to investigate and am disappointed that it is just an 18 wheeler on the freeway which passes through my town.\n\nNow at this stage, I am already at speed in the shortcut and I go over this rock which I have been avoiding skilfully for months now. My front wheel goes over it. The fork does its job and absorbs a lot of the force. (Newton's Second Law In Terms of Momentum I thank you) Having a hard tail, my back wheel is a different animal. I got the rock with so much force that it blows a hole clean through the inner and send a me on my way practically riding on the rim.\n\nRealising my fuck up, I stop get off and say the word 'Fuck' for a solid 5 minutes... I decide to tie up my bike at the nearest light pole and proceed to walk the rest of the 5km walk to the shops. Now, a 30 minute trip has become a 2 hour walk... And I'm still pissed as fuck.", "summary": "Sent to shops, took bike, head in clouds, blew out, blew up, walked the red mile."}
{"id": "t3_kwzn8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear older people of reddit, how do young people not end up sad like you?", "post": "I'm a young person, quite new to reddit, and I have just started college. After much exploration of reddit (I'll admit, mostly the front page), Ive noticed a trend amongst SOME of its users. A trend that highlights some depressing views on life such as:\n\n* life only gets harder\n* young people are naive and blind to reality\n* our expectations for life are almost entirely bullshit\n* looking back on the past, the present sucks, and the future doesnt look much better\n\nA good example of these ideas is [this post] as well as many of the \"college freshman\" memes\n\nI stressed the word \"some\" earlier as to not generalize redditors as whole, but I believe there are enough of them out there for you to understand who I am referring to and the sentiment which I am describing.\n\nNeedless to say, this has not been the most supportive ideology for me to start off a stressful freshman year with. Im not asking you stop these posts, Im not asking you to tell me your life story or how you ended up learning this lesson, what I am asking is that you tell me what I can do as a young 17 year old to make the most of this time I have before it gets \"harder\" and how I can do my best to avoid the disappointment and pessimism that leads middle aged souls (and adults of all ages) to look back on their lives with regret.\n\nIf one thing is for sure, I am in no hurry to grow up, but we all know that can happen faster than you think. So please offer your best advice! Thanks!", "summary": "I am 17 and want to know from older people how not to waste my youth"}
{"id": "t3_235knm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] My girlfriend[17/f] has told me she's having suicidal thoughts.", "post": "She says that it has been happening for a while and I don't know what to say. I want to help but everything is met with things like her feeling like an inconvenience in everyone else's life. The problem I have, though, is that I don't want to be with her for unrelated reasons, but still want to make sure her life doesn't end. She has barely any friends besides me and it's a lot of pressure.  She has separation anxiety and depression, which is taxing, but not the reason I want to break up with her. I just want to make sure she's okay, but I can't torture myself always feeling like I need to take care of her.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to kill herself, and I want to break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_37pj1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M17] have dated this girl [F17] twice in this year and she dumped me twice, we are still friends, I realize I still liked her a lot, should I just ask her out again? Help", "post": "We're both currently enrolled in high school. Me and her dated for several weeks during the end of the last year's school year. After summer break, school started and we had classes together and we both became friends again, eventually we got back together, but then she dumped me again only after a short period of time (less than a month) cause of something I did which was not serious at all. Semester one passed , we are still friends to this day. And I feel like I still really adore her and such. I'm just wondering whether I should just tell her that I like her again or should just forget her and start new relationship.", "summary": "This girl dumped me twice in one year, but I still really like her, wondering if I should ask her out again."}
{"id": "t3_11eu8p", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My pup may have just prevented a fire.", "post": "I have a 7 month old Labrador Retriever puppy named Sonny Boy and I'm so proud of him, I just had to share! \n\n  About a week ago I brought out the space heater because my family room is pretty cold but I don't feel it's cold enough to warrant turning on the heat to the entire house. When I brought it out Sonny sniffed it cautiously and accepted it without a problem. It's been on and off for at least a week with him paying any attention to it, which is why his behavior last night was so strange. \n\n   So, last night I was curled up on the couch alternating between watching TV, surfing Reddit (obviously, right), and playing with Sonny. We were cuddling on the couch when he got up and started pacing the room, whining every couple of steps. He started circling the space heater. \"Leave it alone, Sonny. It's just the heater.\" He sat down and stared at me. \"Sonny, come back to the couch.\" He stands up and circles the heater once more before he begins barking at it. Obviously annoyed, I get up to show him that the heater isn't going to eat him. That's when the smell hits me: THE SPACE HEATER IS OVER HEATING! I quickly pick it up and realize that the heater is turned up to the max, something I never do because its a very old space heater and can't handle being cranked all the way up. I turn the heat down and unplug it, just to be safe. I turn to Sonny, who is just standing there wagging his tail, and give him the biggest hug ever, accompanied by a bunch of treats! I can't believe I didn't realize I was in danger of burning the house down, I was in my own little world. The smell was even strong enough to reach to my parent's room; my dad actually told me to go check on the furnace.\n\n  I felt like sharing this because my family doesn't seem to understand the significance, they think I'm biased by my love for Sonny. But I know better. :) I didn't think I could love him anymore, but he definitely proved me wrong!!", "summary": "My pup redeemed himself after making me play Keep-Away with a dead pigeon."}
{"id": "t3_3i7isn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This girl I'm seeing [26F] wants to stop seeing me bc of my financial situation. I'm [24M]", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for almost a month and we really like each other, but ever since I've been hanging out with her my credit card dept has increased by 1500 dollars....on top of that I also owe 10000 in dept to student loans + car payments. I want to get rid of this dept asap, this way I'll be able to build my capital. \n\nSo when I told her that I want to cut down on my spending she said that it was a huge turn off for her and that what I said is a dealbreaker. \n\nSo should I just let the two of us break up, while I'm still not fully emotionally attached to her, or should I find a compromise with her? Or should I allow us to break up without resistance because she couldn't understand that I need to work on my finances (knowing that this issue would cause problems in the long run)?", "summary": "I'm in dept and want to cut down on spending, and because of this she wants to breakup with me."}
{"id": "t3_ox929", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dropped out of college as of a weeks ago, what can I do?", "post": "*week\n\nI was looking to major in Computer Science Engineering but couldn't even get through my statistics and Physics course.    I now have 33 credits and a C- average.  My college was one that was wellknown for it's engineering program.  I've made one SQL database in my entire life, and have only had novice experience in Java.  I am lost and don't know what I want to (and still can) pursue at this point.\n\nI am feeling dejected and down.  The college was all I ever wanted, it gave me grant that paid for the tuition completely and most of room and board.  I am regretting and blaming myself for being unmotivated and didn't seek help until it was too late.  I know and it's all my fault.\nI also cannot pay for college out of my own pocket.\n\nReddit, what can I do?", "summary": "Thanks, I'm going through a rough patch, just need someone/a community to talk/listen to, anymore advice please?"}
{"id": "t3_2uqa23", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not paying attention to my Facebook messages", "post": "I am currently deployed to Afghanistan, and the military life has been pretty hard on my marriage. I've been having a lot of my mind and you could almost say borderline depressed. There is a lot of stuff that I can't just tell my wife, especially over a social network site, but I don't lie to her. I tell her I have a lot on my mind and I will tell her all about it when I get home. I didn't think it meant anything beyond that. My job here is a desk job, and I get a phone call from my supervisor about the 15th rumor of when we are actually going home. So, I message my wife, \"oh my jesus, I just don't care anymore!\" What I then noticed is that she sent something just before that that went along the lines of, \"I think I know what's been on your mind. I know we haven't had the best marriage due to your deployments but we've been through too much just to give up.\" Of course right after I see that, I attempted to correct myself. I typed 2 words and then, out of nowhere, power outage. Our internet went down for numerous hours and I think my wife thinks I really don't care about our marriage anymore. When it finally came back up, I got to send the message I meant to send and apologized. She hasn't messaged me back yet...", "summary": "Didn't pay attention to a previous message from my wife and made it look like I didn't care about our marriage."}
{"id": "t3_43lz06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] told my roommate to move out by May, my girlfriend [29F] wanted by the end of February, and is now calling the relationship over.", "post": "Long story. Ultimately, my girlfriend who I have been with for about 7 months now, has never liked my roommate and thinks he is the devil, full of darkness. I will grant her this, his drinking habits do bring in some darkness and have caused problems. I see this need for roommate shift, and me wanting to live alone (and eventually with her) as our lifestyle choices no longer matching up. To her, I choose my roommates wellness over hers. I gave a date I felt comfortable with since it is my grad school graduation month, which I decided going in I would want to live alone afterwards, but to her, I am a pussy and surrendered. I see it as me having a heart for a long time friend.", "summary": "Girlfriend wanted my roommate to move out by February's end, I gave a different month, now the relationship may be over."}
{"id": "t3_1u3f8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] may have some serious feelings for my hairdresser [21-23 F] I want to spend new years together and I need some serious advise!", "post": "So currently I am 19 years old. I think she between 21-23, not married, and has been cutting my hair for a few months. She always gives me dollars off my next hair cut and hums ever so sweetly. She talks to me about making up our own stories and intrigues me ever so. I can't get her out of my head and as I was walking out I heard her say \"no\". As I left I got a burst of inspiration and wrote my name with my phone number. Rapping it in a dollar I told the other person to make sure she gets this. There is a small chance I may have wrote the wrong number down. Regardless, I want to call up the hair cutting place and ask if she is there. If she is, I can buy some hair jell and ask her out. Would this be wise? I need advise!\nStill no call the next day...I really want to spend new years eve with her. Should I put forth more effort to contact her? I really hope that I can build a relationship and explore my sexual fantasies with this individual. She is all I can think about. Reddit, I really need advice to handle this situation. I am so lost.", "summary": "I have bad feelings for my hairdresser and want to spend new years with her. She is amazing. I gave her my number but no response. May have wrote down the wrong number...*"}
{"id": "t3_2mgt9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "an old flame [27M] and I [21F] are considering a FWB situation, but I'm a little uneasy.", "post": "brief background: met James earlier this year through OkCupid. we went on a phenomenal date, had great sex, and were both pretty into each other. James is bipolar and lives two hours away, and a few days after our great date, he told me that he didn't think he was stable enough for a relationship with that much distance (he's an artist so money is sporadic). I was pretty bummed, deleted him off of Facebook, and moved on.\n\nfast forward to last week. I started dating someone after James and that relationship ended last week. by coincidence, a few days later James reached out to me to ask how I was and to say he'd been thinking about me. we decide we should hang out in the next few days and meet in the middle at a hotel (to spare the distance and because I needed to get out of my house). we get drunk, have sex, cuddle, have a great time, even spend the next day together going to a few shops.\n\nnow James and I are talking about striking up a FWB arrangement, but I guess I'm a little concerned. the emotions weren't there when we hung out last week but I think that has a lot to do with my relationship recently ending and I have a feeling that if we have sex regularly knowing that we already had strong feelings for each other at one point, it's going to turn into a relationship. I guess I just don't know if you can have one without the other in this situation.\n\nany advice? anyone been in this situation and can share their experience? I wouldn't be opposed to a relationship with James way down the line and I think he knows that, but obviously with the distance and his instability, it's a little hard to gauge.", "summary": "old flame and I hook up after ending things due to distance. want to pursue a FWB arrangement, but not sure if you can have a true FWB with someone when you both have feelings for each other."}
{"id": "t3_40366g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] colleague [28 F] is cherry-picking my responsibilities at work - what do I do?", "post": "I've been working at my current company in the marketing department for 5 months, colleague in question has been there for one year. The company is a start up and only two years old. \n\nRecently, my colleague was given a lateral promotion of sorts: She's going from running our digital marketing to managing brand communications, as the former role wasn't really working out.  The head of our department (who hired me but didn't get along with her) resigned a few months ago. My colleague is temporarily being managed by the CEO, who told her to write her own job description.\n\nSince this shift in her role a month ago, she's been suggesting to me and others that she now has some management authority over me and the work I do. It started with unwanted suggestions on how I should do my job and her cutting me off in meetings (she talks LOADS) but now is escalating to her trying to take elements that were originally in my job description for herself (i.e. blogger outreach) and delegating tasks to me. She's positioning herself as middle management but as far as I know no one has officially given her this authority.\n\nIt's clear to me that she has no direction in what she's supposed to be doing and is therefore trying to make herself look busy/important, but I'm finding it increasingly challenging to deal with her. Some of my colleagues have noticed this behaviour from her too and one said she's toxic to the business, so I'm trying not to take it personally.  However, the management team love her so I'm hesitant to say anything to my temporary manager. I realised today, though, that I am now miserable in a job I used to enjoy. What should I do? Should I try to talk to her or just bite the bullet and go to my manager?", "summary": "Colleague is overbearing and it's driving me up the wall, but key managers (including mine) think she's great. How should I handle this so I don't go from being a top performer to  fired over this?"}
{"id": "t3_2diupr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F], wondering what love feels like for different people? Is it different for every Person?", "post": "As someone with severe commitment issues, I never really understood how love should feel like or how it feels. When someone asks me if I was ever in love, I never really know what to say. I think I was. At somepoint in my life I want to settle with someone I love but how do you know if you really love them? I personally believe that everything and everyone is replaceable but I also wish for a happy ever-lasting marriage one day. I know this is a paradox but I am still so curious! I feel kind of stupid asking this but oh well.\n\nDoes love feel different for different people?\n\nHow does it feel for you? How do you know?", "summary": "Never understood love and how it should feel"}
{"id": "t3_2fj9u1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] Lost [16/f] contact info!", "post": "Okay so i am asking, and i'm going to try to request advise in the most non-creepy way i can think of. Here goes nothing. So basically i am 17 and i went on a vacation with my family. While in branson i met the most amazing girl in my life. She looked stunning and we had everything in common i.e. we talked the entire day without really doing much else. I could tell we were an instant click so by the end o the day she gave me her phone number and she told me where she lived which, coincidentally, is about half an hour away from me. When we said our goodbye it felt like the da best eva especially considering i didn't know what would happen. The next day my phone crashes and by the time i get it fixed my parents changed the carrier company so my sim card got wiped. I started freaking out because i don't remember her last name or her phone number. The thing i have to go on is her first name her neighborhood what high school and what she looks like. Does anyone know how to i can find her? I already tried social networking but to no avail.", "summary": "I met a chick who clicks with me and i lost her contact info. I need a new way to find her."}
{"id": "t3_2rx0pz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Agreed to meetup Saturday but haven't heard from since", "post": "Hello reddit..\nI need some advice. I've been talking with this girl for about 2 weeks now. We went out last weekend and it went great. We were working on setting up another date and she told me that she was concerned about distance (its about a 30 minute drive). I messaged her back and said that i agree with her but there are ways around it. Anyways, after that she messaged me that sue would like to try and said that maybe we could set something up for Saturday (tomorrow) i replied that that sounded great and i was looking forward to it. I havent heard anything since (this was tuesday night). Ive texted her a couple of times just wishing her a good day at work (no more than once a day). I'm not sure what to do. Part of me wants to text her again but its now been about 5 texts since her last response. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "Went out with girl. She was concerned about distance but decided she wanted to try anyways. Set something up for saturday (no set time etc.) Haven't heard from her sense. 5 texts now with no response"}
{"id": "t3_32o68g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] hanging out with a bunch of girls too much a bad thing?", "post": "I came home after being away the last couple of years. During my time away I developed a lot of confidence particularly around girls. I have been getting a decent amount of attention from girls who I feel are expressing interest, and I have dated some of them, whilst being friendly and texting others. \n\nI'm currently single and I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend but I'm just kind of going with the flow right now. Basically, I see a lot of potentials but I'm not really worried about making any moves, however I can sense signals. I'm just worried about making friends with too many girls and fear that I may be leading some on while I'm just happy being friends. I find myself hanging out with a lot of girls, I just enjoy their company more than guys. Is it bad to have too many friends that are girls? \n\nI am not trying to brag. I'm just a little concerned as to where this may be heading. Does reddit have any ideas/thoughts/ways to handle this?", "summary": "Hanging out with a bunch of girls, I just enjoy being friends but fear I'm leading some on. Is it bad, what should I do."}
{"id": "t3_40dish", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] and my closest friend [20/F] of 1 1/2 years - she doesn't want a relationship (with anyone, just not me) but has feelings for me.", "post": "Her and i got into a fight a few months ago and we both told each other we have feelings for each other, so naturally I asked her out. She told me she doesn't want one even though she has strong feelings for me. Whenever her and I get really close to each other she pulls away and we fight. this is a continuous cycle. I finally asked her why she does it and she told me it's because she doesn't want to get hurt again. she wants to be friends but is too scared to date again.\n\n   I do like her but just being friends is also torturing me. I want to prove to her that some people can be trusted. She said she doesn't want to lose me but I just don't know what to do. I told her i needed to be alone for a while to think of my next move. I don't want to lose her either but just being friends isn't enough.\n\n   Maybe I'm being childish but its killing me inside that she won't even though she flat at told me she does. Should i give her some space? Maybe I need to move on. I just don't know.", "summary": "best friend and I have strong feelings for each other, but she is scared to date. Should I continue trying with her, or let her go."}
{"id": "t3_3z1ot9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19F] and myself [20M] have been chatting recently and both claim we miss each other. What do I do?", "post": "**Background:** I dated a woman who I'll name Alexa for two years, starting in my senior year of high school. We broke up before I left for university, because I did not want to move in with her in my new city, and things got fairly passive aggressive. \n\nWe got back together again as university started however, and things were alright for a while. Jealousy soon started damaging our relationship, and eventually, we broke up again in March 2015. \n\nAlexa was the love of my life, and although I have dated around since March, I have still not found anyone who made me as happy or challenged me as much as Alexa did. \n\nRecently, we've been making contact with each other. Every now and then she might call me, and we'll chat, say we miss each other. Sometimes we'll text. She's dated around a bit, as have I. I live in a different city than her however (4 hours), and she does not like the idea of a long distance relationship. \n\nI guess my question is, is this even worth pursuing? She was the love of my life, and I still carry very real feelings for her. But we have broken up twice now, and she does seem to have very unrealistic ideas about how the world works. \n\nJust looking for advice.", "summary": "Ex and myself have been chatting, unsure if I should pursue."}
{"id": "t3_494sas", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping a little girl at the park", "post": "Before we start this, I'm 17, at the park with my brothers, 15(C) and 5(S) , we decided to go out and play. \n\nSo I was in the bowl and this little 4 year old girl who was S's classmates cousin, comes up to C and asks to be spun. Us being us we think okay we'll spin you so C picks her up and puts her in the bowl and gives her a little spin. Not 10 minutes later after we go to find S after who we think are the parents come around the area, then we hear some people questioning some teens notably this man in a wife beater who looks like he hits on girls half his age at the mall, starts to talk to some kids on the other side of the park.  I hear from a blond fat woman \"it was these little fucking punks over here\" \"the dumb ass in the green and the fucker in the plaid\" wife beater looks at me, above him on a play structure with S and says \"did you spin my niece?\" Why yes we did good white trash man, what's so wrong with that? \"don't you ever look at her, speak to her, or be around her again, got it?\" he tells me in a threatening tone. okay uncle of the year, thank you for swearing at us and calling us names to set an example for your niece.", "summary": "We helped a little girl and got bullied out of a park by a man who was about 10 years older than us"}
{"id": "t3_4esaax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] can't understand what went wrong with my guy [23M] and need closure", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. Basically, I have known this guy for 3 years now from overlapping friend circles. We have always been very flirty with each other but never really let it go anywhere, up until a couple of months ago. \n\nThings finally came to a head and we had a talk: he emphasized that he was \"very into\" me. BUT this guy has been known to be a bit of a player in his past, so I brought up my concern of being a fling to him. He adamantly told me he didn't see me as a fling and was even the one to establish that he wanted us to be a consistent thing. \n\nI eventually caved and had sex with him a few weeks ago and everything went great, until he started to avoid me. I had texted him a week later to see if he was out and wanted to meet up that night. He was absolutely hammered and not in a state to hook up so I chalked it up to bad timing and decided to try again the next week. He then started to make up excuses about being busy and has since been really awkward around me. \n\nNow I'm questioning everything because even though I knew he had a reputation, I thought we had established a level of trust with each other since we were friends for a couple of years before anything remotely physical ever happened. I had wanted to confront the situation but I don't know that he would even own up to anything. How can I handle this and move on??", "summary": "Friend of 2 years expresses feelings to me and then disappears right after hooking up"}
{"id": "t3_36y5fi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mouth", "post": "EDIT: I was going to call this TIFU by opening my mouth but somehow it turned out as TIFU by mouth\n\nThis one ACTUALLY happened a few hours ago\nSo basically here's what happened: me and a friend went to see Poltergeist, on the way back we stopped at a gas station\nI was feeling a bit sick so I grabbed some medicine. It was suppose to make me feel better but it was probably what fucked up.. So I put it in my mouth (note: it was some kind of gum medicine but I thought it'd work) and start chewing \nAfter about 30 seconds I start gagging and feel pressure in my chest. I knew exactly what was coming. I should've just got out of the care and ran for a trash can but instead I opened my mouth to say something\nPUKE POURS OUT OF MY MOUTH LIKE A WATERFALL!! I'm gurgling and puke is all over the car and it is ruined \nI ruined my new shirt and shoes.. I ruined my popcorn (we were able to keep it) and everything was covered in puke! I jump out and try to scream something but only puke even more.. I lose hope by now because puke is blasting out my mouth and nose\nAfter I stop my friend looks at me and just laughs his ass off we tried to clean up the car but it still looked bad . I feel so awful", "summary": "I don't use common sense and ruin my friends car "}
{"id": "t3_kaabg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one improve it's drawing skills?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm a designer (multimedia designer, see  and I like to draw as a hobby. The only problem is that i'm stuck in a loop that i keep on drawing the same stuff over and over again.\n\nDo any of you redditors have useful tips to improve drawing skills or exercises that can help? Tutorials on the internet and books are like: STEP 1. DRAW T-REX, STAP 2. DONE.\n\nFor science I made a few quick sketches with my tablet. I think I can grab my sketch book with more examples. I can also draw something for you! (for science)....", "summary": "Help me improve my skills and I love unicorns."}
{"id": "t3_221o5t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "foreman won't talk to me", "post": "Hey so I started this job two years ago. I am thinking of going elsewhere. I just wanted to confirm with you guys that I'm making a good choice.\n\nWhen I started there, there was a co worker who started 4 months before who would berate me and yell at me and my foreman would go around telling everyone that this co worker was the best and best worker they have ever seen.\nI went and told my boss about the verbal abuse and harassment after a month this co worker quit.\n\nFor the next 8 months this foreman than would glare at me and tell me to work harder and tell me I wasn't a good worker, among other things.\nI did tell him to treat me fairly and that hey this isn't right.\n\nSo things settled for a while. Now for the last three months. He doesn't even talk to me at all anymore. He will talk through our work lead to talk to me.\nI have tried talking to him but all i get is one word answers\n\nI take it he's either just hates me or is intimidated to talk to me cause I stand up for myself.\n\nI have been looking for a new job and might have a new one in two months. But it does eat me up a bit that it has gotten to this point and oh yeah he is nice to everyone (just wish he would grow up and talk to me about the problems he's having in his head with me)", "summary": "foreman glares at me still, doesn't talk to me, has to tell our lead if he needs to say something to me, responds in one word answers"}
{"id": "t3_4381l5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance BF of 3 years (18M) doesn't seem that excited to see me (18F)", "post": "My long-distance boyfriend is home for the weekend but he doesn't seem that excited to see me. I met him on his way back from the coach station yesterday evening, after I'd been at college and work. I just wanted to hug him and kiss him straight away, but he kind of just ignored that / didn't reciprocate. Example: I pulled him towards me and kissed him when we were walking up my street, just because I haven't kissed him for 3 weeks and I wanted to. It wasn't forced or anything, but then he kept saying we should stop because we're in the middle of the street (it was 10:30pm, no one else around) and we should 'save it for later' (I'm at college/work 'later').He also said the same thing, and that I was getting 'carried away', when we were kissing after he walked me home. Isn't that a good thing?\n\nHe is pretty shy and does tend to internalise a lot, but we're very close and open with each other. \n\nWe've only been apart 3 weeks this time but found it more difficult than other times. It was all 'I miss you' texts, but now he's home... I don't know. \n\nI don't know if I've just got unrealistic expectations of what his reaction 'should' be. I kind of want him to jump on me and hug me and kiss me. I guess I just didn't feel that wanted. BUT I don't know if I'm just over romanticising / idealising the situation. \n\nNote: we've been together 3 years and have been long distance for 4 months.", "summary": "my long distance boyfriend doesn't seem that excited to see me. Are my expectations of what his reaction 'should be' unrealistic? Thanks in advance x"}
{"id": "t3_1hku9p", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Me [29:M] recently broke up with my gf [28:F] and now I don't know if I'm regretting it or just missing her...", "post": "Here's the post about our breakup a few weeks ago - \n\nNow I find myself thinking about her more and more each day. I know there were parts that weren't great, because I can read that post. However, we've had a little bit of contact here and there, but nothing about the breakup. Just chit chat things about finding a place to live and stuff. We're still friends on Facebook and Twitter and she *seems* like she's doing all right, but maybe she's just doing that to make me feel less guilty...? I don't know.\n\nI guess I'm just not sure what it is I'm feeling. I thought I'd be able to just move on and be fine because I was never really emotionally invested. Am I just bothered because she *seems* all right or do I really care more than I think I do? I want to send her an email (yes, an email of all things) and tell her what I'm going through and that maybe I'd like to hang out some time soon. I'm just afraid of building her hope (and mine?) up and then letting us both down if that feeling isn't there again...I'm not sure what i want to do here and I just don't know exactly what it is I'm going through. \n\nShould I send her an email? Should I try and get together with her and see if something is there? Should I even try? Or should I just delete her from social media and invoke a strict NC? Any advice would be decent.", "summary": "broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago, thought I'd be fine...now I don't know what I'm feeling. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1plkeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [22M] said he likes me [22F] too.", "post": "He [22M] and I [22F] have been talking a lot for years. I like him [22M] but he did not seem to like me. I decided to date someone who did [X]. I told [22M] and asked if he minded. [22M] said that he didn't. I started dating [X] but I felt guilty for still talking to [22M]. I told [22M] that we need to stop talking. [22M] said okay. We stopped talking.\n\nDating [X] was okay. [X] is a good person. But then he wanted to meet my parents and I realized I didn't like [X] so I broke up with him. I also realized I still like [22M] and that I need to get over him before dating someone. I decided that it would help me move on to be directly rejected by [22M]. \n\nI told [22M] that I like him. [22M] ignored it and started making conversation as if we haven't stopped talking for a long time. I was confused but I made conversation back. Then [22M] told me he was upset about before and he asked me about [X]. I told him that [X] and I broke up. I explained why I dated [X] and I asked [22M] if he was going to reject me now. [22M] said no and told me that he likes me too but that he was afraid to ask me out. I admitted that I didn't know what to say and that I thought he was going to reject me. I told him again that I like him but he didn't say anything back. \n\n[22M] is likely going to respond tomorrow but I don't understand what is going on. I feel weirdly calm and detached but earlier I was really emotional and even crying.", "summary": "He told me he likes me too."}
{"id": "t3_1kg35v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fishing down my top for money to pay for cigarettes.", "post": "My mother and I recently passed an enjoyable week in Spain. On our last evening there, she remembered that my father had asked her to buy him some tobacco, as it's cheaper there than at home. So we wandered along the city streets of Madrid until we found a tobacco shop. I waited outside, then after a while she beckoned me in. She was twenty euros short, and remembered that she had given me 50 euros for emergencies. Which I had placed in my passport-carrier around my waist, under my clothes. While in airports getting out my passport simply involved lifting up my top slightly to remove my passport, on this evening I had chosen to wear a dress. Given that reaching under my dress to the purse would involve flashing my underwear to a shop of Spaniards, I decided that the most decent option was to plunge my hand down the top my dress, rummage for a while finding the zip on the passport holder, extracting the note and closing the zip, then to slowly remove my hand holding the 50 euro note without accidentally pulling up the dress. This attracted a fair few stares, and I was thankful to leave shortly afterwards.", "summary": "Money needed to pay for father's tobacco was in pouch under my dress, had to rummage round with my arm between my boobs to get it out."}
{"id": "t3_3rnogx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF [20F] for 4 years, she wants to explore the outside world but I still love her so much", "post": "My girlfriend who has been with me for 4 years since we were 16 started showing signs of lost interest, her texts are short and short and simple despite me sending long texts and she sometimes find me clingy and annoying although I didn't do anything different from the past 4 years. I txted her my feelings and she said we should give each other some time and space, and that she doesnt want to commit to anything for her life because we're only 20 and she wants to explore since we're both each other's first.\n\nI still love her a lot and we agreed to just give each other a week but I cannot resist myself from sending her our memories or wanting to talk to her. My heart stings really bad because she was a big big part of my life for a long time and now my life feels meaningless when I go to work or school. \n\nI feel horrible every minute especially when I wake up and when I'm at home alone, what should I do about this? Should I wait at her house or txt her today ( its been 3 days )? I feel so helpless, lonely and sad and all I want is her..", "summary": "GF for 4 years since 15 wants to explore the outside and doesnt want to commit to me forever yet, I still love her a lot but not sure what I can do"}
{"id": "t3_14onm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25F) FWB relationship (w/24M) is at the brink of something awesome, or death.  I just can't tell which one.", "post": "How do you know if you should go for it or just quit?\n\nWe met in college at age 20, and basically started a FWB relationship right away.  Each of us were just getting out of long-term, first-love relationships so neither of us were really looking for anything serious at the time.  At first I felt it was a bit of a rebound, but it's now been 4.5 years and I'm still as crazy about him as I was on day 1.\n\nHe's awesome, charming, honest, smart and one of my closest friends.  I can tell him anything in the world.  If he says he'll be there, he'll be there.  I love his friends, his family, and I think we have a pretty healthy, stable relationship going (unlike with my ex).\n\nSo.  Recently I've realized I want more than this FWB relationship.  I want to actually open up and *love* him.  **The problem:**  He's totally still hung up on his ex-girlfriend.  I know he's not actually seeing her or even in constant contact with her, it's more of this idea of perfection, a holding out of hope, illuminating-the-past type of thing.   Still, it's in the way.\n\nShould I run?  Does FWB turned relationship ever work out?  Do I give him time to get over his ex?  Is it worth risking a great friendship to move into relationship territory?  It's all such a scary thought, and it's just getting to be too much.\n\nHelp me, Reddit!", "summary": "Been FWB with this guy for going on 5 years now... give up or give in?"}
{"id": "t3_559mc2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(19m) I have some unresolved issues and it is plaguing my relationship with my (18f) girlfriend...", "post": "So, I don't usually post this kind of stuff but I honestly don't know who to turn to for help. Since I was 14 I have had a crush on my best friend (well... more than a crush) and she has had the same feelings for me. However, we were both too scared to make the first move and entered a bit of a stalemate for four years before she got asked out by some guy and I tried to move on. I started dating my girlfriend shortly afterwards and it lasted about 8 months, then things fell on the rocks on account of an acquaintance of ours and she dumped me. We are giving it a second go but things are still really shaky and one of the biggest problems is the situation with my aforementioned best friend... We still have strong feelings for each other and almost every night after she's had a few and I'm honestly too exhausted to give a damn (pretending not to have feelings is hard ok?) we always turn to talking about how things could have been and how we each wanted the other to make the first move. My girlfriend has started to notice the tension and fully expects me to dump her though I have no intention of doing so... Also I should mention that one of my exes came out of the woodwork, falsely accused me of sleeping with and impregnating her and told my current girlfriend who now has no faith in me at all. Her parents also hate me due to the original scandal with the mutual acquaintance and for some reason, she is blaming herself for all of this and wants me to dump her while also not wanting me to dump her... CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME? Thank you in advance...", "summary": "I'm trying to date a girl despite all odds and still having feelings for another person whom I know I'll never get with and its ruining my ability to treat her like she deserves... advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2gn7y2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] husband [34 M] - 12 years and he wants a break", "post": "We've been solid for 12 years. Solid. We had plans, we had ideas, we were on the same page. Until this year. After coming back from vacation (our first big trip together) we decided to book another for the end of the year, continue to be selfish and have fun, and that we would get back to real life stuff (houses, bills, kids in the future) down the line. We've always been good but we'd had some really heavy things happen within our extended families and social networks and we both needed to let loose a little. \n\nIn the last few year, he's encouraged and supported me in finding and exploring my identity. (after caring for an unwell family member and becoming quite isolated). But in doing so, he's lost his love for me and he's told me he wants some time apart. His mental health isn't great, but I didn't know this. He was feeling lonely and left out of parts of my life, but I didn't know this. I was feeling like he was happy with the wacky balance we had in place. This has been complicated by the fact we have had house guests on and off for significant periods of time all year, and this has forced us to live more like flatmates than as a couple. \n\nI didn't see this coming. I knew it wasn't good but I thought we BOTH knew this was just a time and place issue, not an \"us\" issue. Now I'm sitting here, packing to go and stay with a relative for a while, and grieving the future that I thought I was going to have. Updated to include - he has a history of depression, and has gone back to see his doctor which is positive. I've asked that no concrete decisions are made until he's been in treatment for a few months. \n\nWe love each other. We are best friends. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he will ever want us back.", "summary": "Solid relationship with no major dramas, he wants a break, i didn't see it coming."}
{"id": "t3_2blhi2", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Hit a wall, or fell off a cliff, during my marathon training", "post": "I have a problem with running and am hoping to hear that my problem is fairly common and that there's an easy solution. I'm not sure. \n\nI am currently training for my first half- and full-marathons, in Chicago this September and October. I have been running consistently for the last few months. Maybe not as much as I should, but running 8 miles at 80 minutes was no problem and something I did a few times per week. I had a 14 miler that had some walking, and many shorter ones. \n\nTwo weeks ago I left to do some traveling. I packed my gear and intended to do some serious running while away. But I was quickly frustrated because I couldn't seem to run more than 2 miles without losing all steam. At first I thought I just had a bad day. But it's been two weeks now, and not once have I managed three straight miles. \n\nThese are all my guesses: \n\n1. Switched time of day that I run: I was running late mornings, early afternoons. During my trip, I had to shift to the early mornings. I figure this was needed anyway, since the half and full marathons are morning runs. \n\n2. Change of bed? \n3. Stress due to travel? This was all in the northern midwest, though, so I wasn't grappling with significant climate or elevation changes. \n4. Change of diet? I had been eating fairly lean before, but then was wiped out by a hard run for days at a time. A friend told me I should be eating a lot more. I increased my diet, and my running plummeted. \n5. Reduction in alcohol consumption. Yeah, this one is weird. I was drinking too much and cut way back, down to nothing for a week (which is a long time for me). Energy plummeted a few days later. \n\nAny thoughts? Anyone have a similar experience? Should I be worried?", "summary": "Could run 8 miles with no problem, often more. Some changes happened, can't run 3 miles. Not sure why."}
{"id": "t3_2nevl3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and scalded my crotch", "post": "I'm in college near my hometown. I live on campus but my best friend from high school commutes. As I work nights, I don't get to see him too often. All my classes were canceled today, so we met up and went to Sonic. Now, we had recently discovered their chicken dinner, and it became a tradition of sorts to get this every time. It comes with chicken (who'd have guessed?), tots, toast, and gravy. The gravy always comes at a temperature similar to that of the sun's core. I took the lid off and something slipped. Next thing I know, it is upside down on my lap and burning the hell out of my lap. With my oh-so-sorted-out priorities, I slam my legs together, thereby rubbing it in deeper, and hip thrust to avoid it getting on my friend's truck seat, while putting my free hand under myself. The gravy fell into my hand and began to thermally corrode my skin (or so it felt). All the while I am screaming profanities at the top of my lungs and air humping, shaking his truck. Then we had to call for extra napkins and I'm out here nearly crying in pain as the guy skates up to us. Sweet. I just got to the dorm and showered and cleaned my clothes. I have a very tender left hand, singed hair and a small blister on my groin, and still have to pack.", "summary": "spilled gravy on crotch. Second-degree burns on hand and inner thigh."}
{"id": "t3_2nq1dc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23 M] started dating a lovely woman [23 F], what does she mean?", "post": "OK, so I've started to date (4 dates so far) this woman who is really nice. We met at a college extra curricular lecture and things have been going swimmingly. My issue is me I believe, and I really could do with some advice.\n\nSo I'm really inexperienced with women and I'm pretty much flying by the seat of my pants right now and just trying to keep my head above the water so I'm doing my best to try and not scare this woman away. In my quest to do this, I've realised that I haven't really initialised any physical contact and it has all come from her. So for instance, at the end of the second date she gave me a peck on the cheek as way of saying good night. After the fourth date, I was still scared of offending her by holding her hand and putting my arm around her (I not a smooth man!) and she ended to date by just gunning for it and sucking my face off (totally not complaining!). Anyway, I decided to text her that I really like her and that the reason I haven't made a move yet is because I wasn't sure she'd appreciate it. She text back saying that she's not looking to rush into anything and moving slowly is maybe the way to go but she really enjoyed the evening as is looking forward to our next date. What does she mean by this?", "summary": "I'm awkward, woman kisses me, I apologise for being a wimp, she says she's not looking to rush into anything, what does that mean?"}
{"id": "t3_i8vay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Tricked into monogamy", "post": "26, f here. I started having sex with this 31 year old guy I know through friends, thinking he was casual about relationships. 1.5 years later I suddenly find myself hearing about how I'm spending too much time with other guys and he doesn't feel like I'm that into him. I do try to make him feel loved, but I thought we agreed from the start that this isn't what we want.\n\nWe both want this relationship, but disagree on the terms. I don't want to be exclusive, but I want him. Why is it that the one who wants the exclusivity always seems to be more in a position to make demands, even when otherwise was specified from the start? The advice I get is \"Leave, you want different things\" or \"If you like him he should be enough\". Why is the jealous one assumed to be the one who'd have the hardest time giving the other person what they need? \n\nAnd yes, we have talked. He won't have it and he's making me feel like the one that's breaking us up. \n\nI'm not talking about fucking lots of guys, even kissing is off the table.", "summary": "After falling for a guy I discover that he doesn't want to be as casual as he told me from the start and now I have two less than tempting options."}
{"id": "t3_2yzpim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23/F] overthinking with my relationship with him [26/M]", "post": "About 7 weeks ago, my coworker (bad, I know) and I started seeing each other. We spent the first 2 or 3 weeks getting to know each other outside of work, went on a couple dates and then eventually slept with each other. We have seen each other outside of work twice a week since we started talking, and he took me out to meet his friends a couple weeks back.\n\nAt the start of our dating, he was a little nervous because he did not want it to effect work. We agreed early on to keep it professional at work (and we still do.) He and I have also ended long term relationships last year, and our exs both screwed us over pretty bad.\n\nI'm not looking to rush into a relationship, but we are coming up on 8 weeks of seeing each other and it kind of feels like he is my boyfriend already. We connected immediately and have been getting along very well. He even held my hand in front of his friends. I know I would want to be exclusive with him eventually (I'm not seeing any other people, but I also have no desire to. I'm not sure if he is) but I am wondering if it sounds like it is headed in that direction. It just seems like 2 months is long enough to have an idea of where things are headed.\n\nI know I need to just talk to him about it, and I will sooner or later. I just don't want to bring it up and have him feel like I am rushing him or pushing him to do anything.", "summary": "Do I need to chill out and be patient or what?"}
{"id": "t3_4qvh2a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (17/M) needs some help with asking out a (17/F) friend", "post": "I known said friend since elementary school and we are going into our Senior year of high school. We text small talk just about every other night. This has been happening for a week now. I never felt this way about someone ever before and its keeping me awake at night. I would love to ask her out but I fear of getting rejected and her stop talking to me. I know there is no reason not to ask and just go for it. If there is any other advice besides just going for it. Is there any way to see if she is interested in me other then asking. Any comment is appreciated.", "summary": "To scared to ask out girl in the fear of getting rejected. Need advice in going about asking her out."}
{"id": "t3_3brhjb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU seeing Michael Cera live", "post": "So this happened last night...\n\nMichael Cera was playing a gig and I had bought my tickets months ago. I was super excited because I would get to see Michael Cera in person and I'm a big fan of Arrested Development, Scott Pilgrim etc etc pretty much anything he's done.\n\nSo me and my friend got some rum and some \"Goldslick\" style vodka like they have in Superbad and started pre-drinking.\nWe finished the bottle of rum and brought a little with us for the bus journey.\n\nNow at this stage we were both kinda drunk but not too bad, so we keep drinking and get off the bus and start walking to the venue...\n\nThis is where I don't remember much else..\n\nSo apparently what happened was that we got to the venue and saw that the gig had been moved elsewhere. It's around this time that I get hit with all the drink I had just had and become a mess.\n\nI am stumbling around the street, trying to chat to everyone, pissing in front of children and telling them to fuck off...\n\nWe go to a bar and my friend makes me drink 7 glasses of water in attempts to sober me up. \nShe talks to the barman who suggests she puts me in a taxi and send me home, all the while I'm trying to convince the barman that I'm actually a nice guy!\n\nShe takes his advice and puts me in a taxi, she then heads to the gig....\n\nOk so this is where my memory comes back...\n\nI don't know how long I was in the taxi or where I went but it is now dark and I am outside the first venue banging on the doors for them to let me in, I am pleading with strangers and passers by to help me get in.\n\nAll the while the gig is one in another part of town and I'm trying to get into a closed building...", "summary": "Went to see Michael Cera, got too drunk, tried to break into the wrong venue"}
{"id": "t3_1gho38", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Enjoy my super lactose intolerance fart", "post": "I was standing in a bus at rush-hour and this woman thought she was better than everyone else and deserved more standing room. She was occupying enough standing space for three people yet she kept pushing against me with her elbow or bag. She was pushing me so much I banged into the person sitting in the chair in front of me and I had to keep apologizing. She got so pushy she ended up putting her back right against mine and our bum cheeks were actually touching. Now I was not only irritated, but I feel like my personal space was being invaded. I tried to politely say excuse me a few times but she ignored me. Sooooo..... I'm super lactose intolerant and had had a piece of chocolate before I left for work. So when her ass was pressed right up against mine (I'm talking cheek-to-cheek) I let out the nastiest silent dairy fart right into her butt. I like to think I farted right into her soul.\n\nI'm super embarrassed to admit that I farted but it was the only way I could think of to show petty revenge.", "summary": "Enjoy my rancid dairy fart you fat bus cow."}
{"id": "t3_2dbct8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] mom [52 F] found my condom stash with a pair of old \"dirty\" socks", "post": "So I just realized today that my bag of condoms were on my night stand. My mother hasn't been here in a couple of days as she have been at my step dad's. The fact she found the condoms aren't bothering me, but the fact she found of sewed colorful girly socks is what's bothering me. They were still where I let them a long while ago, but they are now clean (I didn't clean them myself) plus 3 new socks to accompany them. This is really creeping me out and I don't know how to react. She came home 3 hours ago and is now in bed, but I haven't seen her since I haven't left my room. I have both a sister and a step sister, but the socks belong to none of them and I'm scared that she may think they belong to one of them. Please help.", "summary": "My mom found a pair of sewed socks and added more to the stash."}
{"id": "t3_35k2lp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35F] SO [34M] of 2 years says I nag too much. What do I do instead?", "post": "He said it really bothers him that I nag and that I treat him like a child. I'm trying to change thus but I don't know what to do instead. For example, he is the type that if I ask him to clean a mess he made, he'll say \"ok later\" and then leave it there for a week. With my new no nagging policy... what am I supposed to do/say instead?? Just silently seethe? Clean up after him? I feel that's unfair. \n\nAnd I feel like this way of being will actually cause more arguments. For example today I asked him to put the air conditioner in our bedroom, and he said no another day. His dirty clothes in the room also totally reek, so I gently asked if he will be doing laundry today, he said no. So rather than my usual responses to these things, I just now let him know I'm sleeping on the couch tonight cause the room is hot and his clothes smell. He seemed pissed. I also earlier cleaned most of the house, and in return asked that he just do the dishes. They're still sitting in the dishwasher. Do I just say nothing? What does someone who doesn't nag do in these situations?", "summary": "My SO is messy but I'm trying not to nag anymore, what do I do/say??"}
{"id": "t3_4kcl41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] made out with a friend [24 F] she says she doesn't want to lead me on. What?!", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nSo my old friend was flying into town for the weekend to town to visit her best friend. I asked her to make some time for me because I haven't seen her in 2 years and she complied. \n\nWe had a lot of fun, things escalated pretty fast and we ended up making out on the way to her place. Nothing more happened because I blew it from being overly excited. \n\n2 months later I end up going to LA to visit some friends including her. We built up the sexual tension all night then when I go for the kiss she verbally stops me. I knew at that moment she is thinking of the future consequences and that I should have kissed her right then and there-- but I let her continue.\n\nShe told me she doesn't want to lead me on.\n\nWhat the... lead me on to what? We live three hours away in different countries! \n\nLater on as she drives me to the hotel, she claims to have broken other boy's hearts (fear of losing a friend?) And that she is using me for practice. She tells me that she is confident that I could get a kiss out of other girls, which was a little pateonizing. \n\nWe get out of the car, I try to put on the moves and she playfully dodges my attempts to kiss her. Jesus, haha. I kissed her on the head and left.\n\nWhat is going on in her head? We had more fun on this date than the previous one but still she doesn't want to make out, even though she is attracted. Could it be some fear? Some insecurity? Is she actually the one developing feelings? Something has to be up because \"I don't want to lead you on\" makes no sense in this context.\n\nOpinions appreciated.", "summary": "Platonic girlfriend and I meet in my hometown. We make out. We meet 2 months from now in her city and now she doesn't want to kiss because \"she doesn't want to lead me on\" even though there is nothing to lead me to because we live 3 hours away by plane, in different countries! Why did she not accept the kiss the second time?"}
{"id": "t3_3hz4lj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18/M) Don't know if I should pursue her(17/F), some opinions would be nice.", "post": "So I just want to clarify that no I'm not a anti-social guy who is being friendzoned by a girl who is out of my league.\n\nSo I'm taking a friend of mine who is super pretty to my matric dance(prom) and I started becoming more interested in her after I asked her to go with me on a date. So I asked her and we are planning to go on a date after I finish writing my exams and before the dance(prom), and she seemed keen when I asked her so I guess that's something to go on. Also at the beginning of the year my one friend tried to set the both of us up to go out and from what he told me she was interested in me but it never happened because we just weren't comfortable with each other then and it was difficult to speak to her at first.\n\nNow the problems start with the fact that I'm moving next year to another city 12 hours away from where we live to go to varsity. Now I stay committed when I get into relationships but long distance would be tough on me and I'm not sure about her. I brought it up with her before I asked her out that I'm going to be leaving and she seemed pretty disappointed by it.\n\nThe second problem for me is that this year was also the first time I've been in love with someone and the first time a girl rejected me when I asked her out - this is a long complicated story I don't wanna explain XD. Anyway some days she would pop up in my mind and I would get bummed out about it and also somebody in my grade is bringing her to the dance so that kinda sucks a little. After I stopped speaking to this girl that I fell in love with the girl I'm taking to the dance seemed to become a little bit more interested in me and started talking to me more often.", "summary": "Not sure if I should go for this girl as I'm moving next year and there's some issues with a past love interest."}
{"id": "t3_oanxr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you remember the last wet dream you had?", "post": "I recently had the first wet dream i've had in years, I was in the middle of a lucid dream where I met up with my celebrity crush, Emma Watson, and the girl I've been in love with since high school. It started very slow, we were all hanging out in a mall. Typical stuff ensued, we went to the arcade, had lunch, wandered. About the time I realized I was dreaming you know i Capitalized. I fucked Hermione hard in the middle of this Mall like I was Jason Statham in \"Crank.\" [A Visual] after that she sat on my face while the girl from high school rode me while I was in her tush. Let me tell ya I did not last long in this dream. I thought you just stopped getting wet dreams after awhile, I was wrong.", "summary": "I banged Emma Watson and a girl from my high school at the mall, everyone watched"}
{"id": "t3_35r6x3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my backpack off the seat next to me on the bus", "post": "This happened about an hour ago.. When the bus is fairly empty I'll keep my stuff on the seat, but as it fills up, being the true Canadian I am, I move it off the seat onto the floor to allow someone to sit. \nWe arrive at a stop, and an older man with a scrunched up face comes and sit beside me. The stench of cigarettes and and everything else that is death invaded my nose. I swear this man must've been smoking out of every orifice to smell that strong.\nThis is where I fuck up. Being sensitive to smells, and the putrid aroma wafting from him, I began to gag. And then my asthma kicked in too. So now I'm coughing while trying to keep my stomach contents down. Him not understanding the situation asks if I'm alright. My mouth filled with vomit, but luckily I clamped my hand over my mouth in time. I just shook my head and felt bad, because he obviously is clueless that the reason I'm almost spewing everywhere is him. \nI sat back in my seat and slowly downed my breakfast for the second time. Luckily he got off about 3 stops after that, but the scent is forever burned in my nostrils.", "summary": "Almost spewed on a bus thanks to someone not knowing how much they reeked"}
{"id": "t3_34zrvr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my nephews play with my Lego", "post": "This FU actually started last week, but I hadn't noticed the consequences until today.  Sorry for the wall of text, but I need to vent.\n\nSo my nephews are visiting, and I thought I'd be a good uncle and give them some toys to play with.  I have some old Lego sets I used to play with so I gave it to them and let them go at it.  A few days later I saw one of my nephews playing with Obi-Wan's spaceship... Except its wings had been taken off.  I thought, \"No big deal, they're easy to put back, and that's not my favorite set anyway.\"  \n\nToday I come home, and my mom mentioned that the boys might be mixing my Legos with ones they had bought.  So I look and am horrified to see all of my Lego sets taken apart, including a soccer van that I was really fond of.  Luke Skywalker had no pants on, all the soccer players were missing hands and hair, and Darth Maul was missing his cape and arm (I didn't even know it was possible to take a Lego arm off).  So now I am taking my Lego sets away from them, which will be okay since they have their own now.  I'll probably try to put them back together, but I don't have the instructions for the van, so I'll just have to have a funeral or something :(  And I just realized that I sound like Lord business from the Lego movie..", "summary": "Kids these days don't know how to play with Lego."}
{"id": "t3_2c69ft", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] Need advice with a crush [17/F]", "post": "I have this long time crush on a girl I like and we used to play a lot of games together.\n\nWe actually met through an online game and had a relationship. Unfortunately, that didn't work out and I broke up with her after couple of months. While breaking up, I've said some mean things to her.\n\nfast forward 6 years; I started talking to her again and the old feelings came back for both of us. Although we liked each other we didn't start anything this time and talked around 12 hours everyday for about a month. Then I noticed that other guys began to get her attention and by showing too much jealousy and confronting her, I suspect that I began to be a turnoff for her which eventually lead to her telling me that she no longer has feelings for me. But she still wanted to remain close friends. I've tried losing my feelings for her and be the best friend that I could be, but due to my immaturity, I stressed her out with my feelings and decided that I need to step back for her to be back to normal again.\n\nWhile this was happening, a friend of mine [20/M] began to become really friendly with her and started playing with her. When my friend came home from work, they would be playing until they sleep. She considers him a close friend and spends all night playing with him. This one time we were playing a game, around the time my friend comes home and she told me that she has to go play with him. Which led me to believe he was closer her than I.\nMy close friends are telling me to forget about her and that there's someone else better for me, but I still really want to be her friend and eventually be something more in the near future.", "summary": "I stressed out my crush with my feelings and now we're distant. I suspect my friend of hitting on her, despite her knowing. I want to get closer to my crush again, but don't know if that's a good thing or there is no hope for me."}
{"id": "t3_1zjxt3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) girlfriend (20F) of one year can't be alone and I am afraid it will drive us apart.", "post": "I wanna preface this by saying I have two different questions,  but they both seem to stem from the same issue. \n\nI've been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now and the relationship has been great. We're both pretty different people,  but we have been able to work out whatever issues have come up except for this one; she cannot be alone and I feel like a dick when I need alone time. \n\nI spend nearly every waking moment with her and while I love the time we spend together,  I need some time to focus on myself and do some things I enjoy, like video games, that she doesn't want to be a part of. I rarely get any such time because she needs someone to be with her. \nShe has some pretty severe depression and while shes on medication for it, there are times that it only helps so much. There have been nights where she has talked about killing herself or starting drugs and I rush to her. When its normal and I leave, she is sad, but tells me its okay. I feel like a dick for taking time for myself and worry because I want her to be okay. I don't know how to convey that I need space for myself without making her think I don't want to spend time with her.      \n\nThis leads me to my second problem; I'm leaving for law school in about six months and im very worried about leaving her alone and being unable to be there for her. \n\nI have tried to bring it up before,  but she threw it back to me and said I was calling her crazy and that I wanted to break up with her. I'm just very scared of her doing something serious to herself when I can't be there for her and I don't want any resentment to come from this. I told her she needs to work on this, but her reasoning is that shes going to be okay the next day so it's okay, I disagree though. She has admitted that she can't be alone which frustrates me even more that she won't try to get help. I don't want to do a long distance relationship only for her to tell me that she needs someone around.", "summary": "my girlfriend can't be alone, I don't know how to tell her I need time alone and can't always be there, Im also leaving for law school and scared for her and our relationship that I can't be there."}
{"id": "t3_1lw427", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Does she not like me?", "post": "I wasn't very good at the dating game in high school, and now I'm at a university and was interested in getting involved. I met a girl my second day there. She's so smart, so pretty, has amazing hair and I could go on. She's softspoken though, so that's where the problem arises.\n\n   We've hung out a couple times, though she doesn't text me often we've gone out for lunch and dinner and walked around for a while after. I'd seen her walking around with other guys, but she always stops to say hi and we hug usually even in front of them so I'm not like jealous or anything. She says sweet things that I thought meant she was interested in me, but these past three days we stopped talking entirely when I asked if she wanted to hang out again at a bbq event for our dorms. Today we had sort of a freshman thing together and she would NOT make eye contact with me. Yet today at lunch she was alone and came to say hi to my roommate and I.\n   \n   What do you think, Reddit? Am I in the wrong in not making more conversations with her? What should I do in either case that she is/isn't interested or what can I do to find out?", "summary": "Girl is quiet (I think, she said this to me) and we hadn't talked in a couple days and now things are awkward. I'm interested in her, she's sent mixed messages. How do I find out if she is/am I screwed?"}
{"id": "t3_1nwm08", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You're racist, loud and rude? Enjoy your tv-free weekend!", "post": "I work in tech support and our ISP also provides cable tv, this just for some background info for this story.\n\nI was working on a friday evening and we knew that there was a problem with the tv head node in one of our bigger cities that we supply. The service interruption was only brief though, after a few minutes, the clients just had to do a new channel search on their devices and that's it.\n\nOne client called us and from the beginning I knew she was trouble. She sounded drunk and was screaming the whole time. She was - what are the odds! - from said city with the little tv problem and she was blurring racial slurs, insulting me and my coworkers and throughout the conversation, she was mentioning that she only got four channels (out of 150) left: the Turkish and Serbian ones. Now, she was racist as hell, cursing those channels, generally condemning foreigners and screaming for her beloved tv channels.\n\nThe good thing is, I knew exactly how to help her: all she had to was a channel search and she would have been all set. So I told her:\n\n\"Unfortunately, there's a problem in <town> with the tv node, our technicians are working on it at the moment, but I do not think they will be able to contact you before monday.\"\n\nSilence.\n\nThen screaming again. \"What? The fuck?! No, I don't want this fucking foreign channels, I want my RTL (really shitty private channel with lots of \"reality tv\") back!\".\n\n\"Well, unfortunately, there's not a thing I can do to assist you further on this matter, have a nice weekend.\"\n\n(racial slurs and cursing, as I was terminating the call).", "summary": "racist bitch was cursing and insulting me, I did not help her get her tv channels back."}
{"id": "t3_2oyl0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having relationship problema because of too much sex", "post": "Its kinda odd that our relationship has been starting to hit rocky shores because of this topic but it seems very reasonable. My girlfriend and I (both 17) are starting to have relationship problems, as we are starting to fight more, get in more arguments and just frankly not get along too well. \n\nWe've been dating for more than a year and our sex life has been better than excellent. But it's starting to come to the point now that she feels that all I am interested in half the time is just having sex since it is all we do. Whenever were at each others houses we always have sex like its a given as to what we would do that day. She thinks that it's starting to take a toll on our relationship as we can't do anything but have sex like hangout without it. Obviously I love her so very much and don't want our relationship to end but it seems its very close to the finish. \n\nI really want to change our ways because I do believe half of it is my fault because of how horny I am. (trust me she is also very horny too) I don't know why but it always seems I get too heated in the moment and want to rip my clothes off and have sex with her but I really need to control that now since she sees the negatives of only having sex. we both go to school at the moment so we don't spend that much time together other than school so when we do see each other we are going to have sex. what should I do if I want to try and fix my relationship as its too based on the sex we have? (ofc its not the ONLY thing we do but it is a good portion) I love her and I really want to fix things as I understand how she feels and how she thinks our relationship is too based on sex. Would love to hear some of your guyss opinions and stories.", "summary": "always had a lot of sex with my girlfriend, she is starting to think that's what our relationship is based on and is unsure if she loves me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4r4vie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] can't stand my SO [27M] touching me.", "post": "We have been together for four years and I only recently (6 months more or less) started to hate being touched by my SO. And when I say being touched, I really mean any touch, slight contact, kissing, holding hands, and of course anything sexual. \n\nI'm really trying to find out why i'm feeling this way and how to fix it. \n\nI haven't told my SO about it because i'm afraid it will hurt him and he really didn't do anything to cause this. I just let him touch me just like we did before and endure it, but it's really driving me crazy every single day and I can't keep feeling this way for the next X months.\n\nI never had issues with being touched in the past and have always enjoyed physical contact, haven't been physically abused or anything and we are not having any other relationship issues. I can't link this issue to any event.\n\nAny tips to help me?", "summary": "Recently started hating when my boyfriend touches me."}
{"id": "t3_3qx7mo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting 13 year old girls play with my DJ set before my show.", "post": "So I was playing a bar mitzvah, it was actually my first DJ gig as an official DJ, I'd played house parties and stuff but this was my first time getting paid. Anyway, for all the parties I used a pair of computer speakers, Alesis Elevate 3s if you must know, but this was a bigger venue so I decided to use a different setup. \n\nI used my big huge Klipsch kt-lcr speakers but I couldn't find an amplifier, so I used my AM/FM stereo, a fairly nice one from the 90's, I'd been DJing with this setup in my bedroom for a while and everything worked fine if you kept the bass down a little. \n\nI got to the party a little bit too early and I was still setting up. The bar mitzvah kid's twin comes up with one of her friends and asks if they can play with my set. It's all setup so I thought \"Eh, what could possibly go wrong\" I delve under the mess of wires and cords to setup a few lights when I smell a plasticy smell and start to see smoke.\n\nThe noise starts to spontaneously weird out, the bass cutting in and out, until it just stops altogether. Anyway I come out from under the set and look at my board, the girls had cranked the bass and were scratching. I couldn't really tell about the bass, the speakers were pretty bassy and they were scratching. I shooed them off and thought maybe they were messing with the high-pass. I cue up another song and I hear a groan from my setup and then smell more smoke. I finally see it.\n\nMy FM/AM receiver is in flames. I immediately unplug it and start waving away the smoke, the fire has already started to go out. I wait a couple minutes for it to cool then try to play something else, but the lights on the stereo won't even come on. I had to play the rest of the show through the bar mitzvah's crappy bass amp.", "summary": "Let two 13 year old girls play with my set before the show, they jack up the bass and burst my amp into flames so I have to play the show on a crappy bass amp."}
{"id": "t3_1mexex", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I [22F] teach my Asian boyfriend [20M] English without messing up our relationship dynamics?", "post": "We've been in relationship for 2 years and we communicate exclusively in English. Neither of us are native speakers.\n\nI tried to help him with English at the beginning of our relationship but it was just awkward. He was too stressed and embarrassed to make any mistakes in front of me, and I didn't want to make him feel bad so it was just a waste of time.\n\nBut he's taking an English exam now which is important both for his future job and for better communication in our relationship.\n\nI want to tutor him. I think I would be good for the job, especially because I know him so well and I know which mistakes he makes most often. Of course, I never do and never would correct him while we are actually having a conversation.\n\nBut I think I could help him while he's studying. I don't see the problem really, he knows many things I don't and actually he speaks other foreign languages while English is the only foreign language I know, so I don't think I'm superior to him in any way.\n\nHow can I offer to help and how can I make it clear that he's got nothing to be ashamed of?", "summary": "I want to tutor my boyfriend in English without coming off as better than him."}
{"id": "t3_17p5a7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need some advice!!", "post": "I wanna start off with a back story. I've been overweight for as long as I can remember... I really first noticed it when I was about 9-10 years old at that point I tried to become more active but shortly lost it when my dad got a new job. Around that same time I had also expressed to my mom that I felt food was the only friend I had and was the only friend that could move with us. Fast forward to when I was a freshman in HS I became increasingly more active because I didn't have a bus to take me to school and back. At this point my mom decided to put the family on weight watchers and we got a gym membership.  I went from being 230 lbs to being 175! I felt awesome but still had a bit more to go! I kept most of that weight off for a year until my mom stopped trying anymore and started making and buying crap foods. \nI'm now 22 years, 5'11\", and a whopping 250 lbs. I'm done with it! I want to lose the weight! I envision myself about 100 lbs smaller! My biggest road blocks at this point, my husband doesn't need to lose weight, healthy food is expensive, and I have a slipped vertebra and bulging disc in my lower back.. exercising too much causes excruciating pain. \n\nBasically I need advice.  What should I do, how should I do it, is there anything that's helped jumpstart your weight lose endeavours? I know I just need to do it, but how?  How can I just do something when it feels like all odds are stacked against me...?", "summary": "been overweight most my life, gained back all weight lost and then some, healthy food costs to much, have medical problems, need help! "}
{"id": "t3_42eskt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19F] I have a gross girly crush on a co-worker [21M] but I don't know whether to give up or pursue", "post": "Throwaway because my manager is a redditor.\n\nI started work at a college job a few months ago, first started off because I needed money, but now I really love it and I would hate to leave my job. My shifts are timetabled around availability and lectures so sometimes I won't see some of the people on my team for weeks at a time. Worked my first shift with one of my coworkers a couple months ago and my first reaction was that he is totally my type but I should just get over it because I should be professional. Work a couple more shifts with him and we talk during the breaks about our interests, and he'd always greet me with a smile and ask me about my day. He's quite a quiet guy and I see him around every now and again on campus outside of work, but not much.\n\nThen I fucked up and caught feelings. \n\nHere's the kicker: because of timetabling availabilities, I haven't seen him since mid-December and I don't know whether it's weird for me to have feelings for him even though we haven't talked or seen each other for almost a month and a half. He graduates this year so part of me wants to pursue it, but the other part of me really really doesn't want to make things awkward at work. I also know that he's busy with extra-curricular activities and his degree as well, so I don't want to waste his time. I've been to some nights out where I thought that he would go as well with his friends as so I could 'coincidentally bump into him' but he doesn't show for most of them so I haven't hung out with him outside work.", "summary": "shy, awkward 19 year old female too young for office romances. I assume this is how romcom characters in office romances feel."}
{"id": "t3_1oax7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [28F] handle seeing a guy[25M] going through a rough time in his life?", "post": "I have recently started seeing someone I met online. We were instantly attracted to one another. We talked for about month before we met for our first date. We talked numerous times a day since the day we started talking. Shortly after we started talking he began dealing with issues with friends and living arrangements. I've been understanding about the whole situation and have given him his space.\n\n There had been a few instances where he had confided that he has a rocky history when it comes to relationships but never fully expanded on it. I never pressured him to go into greater detail as I didn't want push him away before we even had a first date. \n\nWe had our first date a few weeks ago, it went amazingly. Since our date we still talk on a daily basis. Unfortunately his situation hasn't improved. \n\nWe like eachother, but I can't help but feel at times I'm being used a crutch during this rough time. He will go back and forth between distancing himself from me and trying to get closer to me. Its mentally draining dealing with the push and pull. I'm not looking to rush to  anything with him, just trying trying to figure out how to proceed. Help!", "summary": "Newly dating someone with a lot of issues going on. How do I proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2b7o6w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What is a better bank than WellsFargo?", "post": "I currently use WF because I move a lot so its nice to have a bank in every state that I go to. I also like the features such as mobile deposit (which everyone is getting now), their customer service is usually nice and cooperative, ATM deposits which happen automatically, and them being open on the weekends / late on Friday.\n\nWhat I don't like about WellsFargo is their fees, as long as you have money they are fine but other than that they screw you and try to take your money. \n\nI'm trying to switch now because they decided all of a sudden that I couldn't use my consumer credit card for bill-pay. I'm guessing they sent a letter / email or something at some point (which I've yet to find) with some small print about it; this was an advertised feature of the card and still is (can they do this?). Bill-pay on the card isn't that big of a deal because I stopped putting money on it and then immediately paying all bills with it and just started using my checking account, I do however use it to pay for recurring hospital bills which I automated, I don't want that in checking and risk over drafting it because I forgot about it as I'm very forgetful sometimes as to when something is supposed to come out / automated things like this.\n\nWhat is a better bank with better or similar features that has banks throughout the US for when I travel or move? I'd like ATM deposits but if they have the financial side I can work around it. I would also like a credit card that I can use bill-pay for.", "summary": "Wells fargo stopped allowing credit-card bill-pay which makes them not so appealing to me, what is a better international bank that has credit card bill pay and / or better rates? I'd prefer they have some hours to work with my schedule such as being open on the weekend or late on Fridays."}
{"id": "t3_1bsul2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "College Grad Money Questions", "post": "Throwaway here to keep this info off of my main account.\n\nI worked my ass off throughout college and am one of the lucky few to be graduating without student loans.  I just accepted a job for $55,000 + $2500 bonus per year.  I have $7,000 in savings right now. I figure I will get about $3,000 per month after taxes.  What should I do with the money that I will be able to save when  I start working in a couple weeks?  I'm assuming that there is a better alternative than to put it all into a regular savings account that gets %0.004 interest.", "summary": "I should be saving $1500/month after bills, whats the best thing to do with my savings?"}
{"id": "t3_4mvl8f", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Smelly puppy, can I bathe him?", "post": "I posted on this subreddit that I wanted to keep a puppy, found this street puppy that was near death and gave it some food milk etc. and took him in, got him vaccinated etc.\n\nI got him some flea powder, flea collar, shampoo etc. but the shampoo clearly says not for use on puppies. Now I'm not sure wether this is because they shouldn't be wet or because they have sensitive skin so I just want to ask reddit wether I can rinse my dog (and dry him off with a towel) because I'm not allowed to actually keep the dog inside but I'm 90% sure the streetcats are going to kill him like they did with this street kitten I befriended, so he's in my room but he's really smelling it up.\n\nHe's really small, about 8\"-10\" in height so I'm very sure he's under 6 weeks.", "summary": "can I bathe my puppy?"}
{"id": "t3_45x0k3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong of me to ask my boyfriend [23/m] to stop a new tic that makes me [21/f] cringe?", "post": "Not a very big problem, but annoying nevertheless. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and he's very stressed out lately. He's developed this tic in recent months that really makes me cringe for no reason at all.\n\nHe lets his nails grow out a bit long and he clicks them together. I don't know how to describe it, but he'll make a clicking noise with the tips of his nails by pressing them against each other.\n\nIt makes me cringe really hard and I can't STAND the noise or the idea of it. I've asked him to not do it around me, but he forgets and when I gently remind him he gets angry. He asks me why it bothers me and why I want to tell him what to do with his own nails. \n\nHe's doing it more frequently, sometimes also while we're talking. Sometimes he does it to tease me, often he does it without noticing.\n\nIs it unreasonable of me to ask that he doesn't do it? I know that if I walk away every time he does it, he will feel slighted. How do I go about this?", "summary": "boyfriend has a tic that makes me cringe. Is it unreasonable to ask him not to do it around me?"}
{"id": "t3_1f2uk8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21m) seeking advices with (21f) i've been seeing/dating.", "post": "so i (21m)'ve been seeing this girl (21f), we went on couple dates and its pretty clear that we like each other, the problem is that after our lunch date today, she drove us back to her college, and about to go to a show with her friend, i was gonna meet up with my mate from the same college, anyway, of the all the recent times we caught up, we either end it with kisses or at least hug, but nope she didnt do either today, the scenario was us two and her friend, i thought she was in a rush so didn't worry about it coz i was planning to see her again after i caught up with my mate. i asked her when does the show finish, she told me its 3hrs ish, i told her i might still be around, told her to text me when it finishes. time forward 3hrs(we actually studied in the 3hrs time), didnt get a reply from her, so i started leaving her college, on the way out, of course she is on her way back, this time with our common friend (20f), so we(3 of us) chatted for a bit(like normal friend convo for couple minutes) it was getting weird, so i was like ok im gonna go now, i was expecting she'd come give me a hug or something but nope again, she's acting like we are normal friends and still havent heard from her....\n\nso what do you guys think? we actually never discussed what we are, but i know for sure she's not that type of girl who wants a fling, she wants something serious. now i think about it, when there are people around us who know her, she wouldn't hold my hand or anything intimate, only when we are alone, she'd let me hold her hands and make out.", "summary": "been on dates with a girl, but never discussed what we are, and she doesn't want her friends find out about us, but her mum knows about us, what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_pefdj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what are some things you've done to blow  your GF/BF away for Valentines day?", "post": "Im taking my GF(you know that girl that you finally get a chance with and recently just started seeing and so far she has been nothing short of amazing...yeah that's this girl) out for a 4 course Italian dinner with bottomless champagne. \n\nWhat can i do to really impress her besides the dinner? She fucking hates flowers and sappy ass shit. \n\nI'd like to hear both the success stories of what worked and the failed stories of what definitely doesn't work. At the end of the story please share your current relationship status you have with the person from your story...", "summary": "Tell us wtf you did for someone on Valentine's Day whether it worked or not and if your still in a relationship with that person."}
{"id": "t3_1w630j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend (M/19) talking to girl that hit on me (M/19) previously. Do I tell him?", "post": "So I am extremely good friends with one of my bros. I used to work at a low paying job and I knew this girl who also worked there. She texted me multiple times and it was kind of weird. She seemed a little bit like a slut but I'm not one to judge. I was 100% not interested in her but she kept texting. It never went anywhere just so you guys know.\n\nHowever, my friend went out on a date tonight and I found out that it's the same girl! I know if she ever hangs out with our \"friend group\" she will recognize me and it will be weird. Should I tell him that the girl tried to hit on me? Do I sweep it under the carpet and not tell him? I personally don't think it's a big deal but it could get weird if they become more serious. I want the best for my friend and I don't want him to have his heart broken by a girl who is a slut and doesn't want the best for him", "summary": "My friend is talking to a girl who might be sketch and hit on me. I want the best for him so should I warn him even though he is super into her?"}
{"id": "t3_vtyc4", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Playing tug-of-war with kids over stuff they're not supposed to be playing with... what do?", "post": "I don't have a ton of experience babysitting, but I'm about to become an au pair and I want to work out a couple kinks.\n\nHow do you deal with kids who won't give you something they're not supposed to have when you ask for it? For example, I'm babysitting my little cousins tonight and I had to yank the remote control out of a 20-month-old's hands. I asked her for the remote (her brother was watching the TV or I wouldn't have cared) and tried to take it from her gently, but I ended up having to yank it away from her with more force than I would have liked to use with someone so little. The resulting tantrum was epic. I didn't like grabbing something from her somewhat harshly and was wondering if there's a better way to go about getting them to drop something they won't return. Or am I just being a sissy?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "How do you get a little kid to drop/ give back something they're not supposed to play with without yanking it out of their hands?"}
{"id": "t3_1l7ijx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/23) have serious troubles (on my part) communicating and relating to my mother.", "post": "I have never really been able to talk to my mom easily. My parents divorced when I was about 3, and I have always been a bit of a troublesome and angry kid (and now adult). She is way more extroverted than I am and talks far more than I do. She has always been understanding, helpful, and supportive of whatever I do (despite being quite controlling of my life), but for some fucked up reason I resent her. Whenever her and I are alone I feel agitated, frustrated, and annoyed, so I just can't have a proper conversation without getting sarcastic and snippy, and shooting down what she says.\n\nI honestly have no idea what is wrong with me, and it has been eating me up for my whole life and I don't know how to fix it. It feels like there is a mental block in my mind that prevents me from having a positive relationship with her, and I feel like I need some sort of therapy to fix it. She has been nothing but tolerant of me my entire life, despite me being a shithead most of the time.\n\nThe thing is I want to be able to relate to her, and I know that's all she wants, but my mind will absolutely not let me do it. Whenever I'm by myself I hate myself for being such a bad son. Has anybody had any experience with this, or have any advice about it? Thanks.\n\nI'm fully aware of how much of a bad son this makes me, but I can't change it.", "summary": "Something about me makes me unable to communicate with my mom in a nice and constructive manner, and I don't know how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_2wwkj4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep in my bros bed", "post": "Alright, so this happened two days ago, on saturday afternoon. To set the scene, I go to a pretty large school in the south and the weekends pretty consist of drinking a lot and socializing. I got to the house where a few of my bros live at around 4 and to kill the time we decided to through a movie on and chill until it was time to start drinking and go out. HBO recently started carrying Bulletproof Monk so we throw that on. Turns out its fucking awful. I end up falling asleep on the end of his bed laying ~~horizontally~~ like a dog.\n\n     Falling asleep was the beginning of my fuck up. I briefly remember a nightmare of being chased by some hellacious creature, I turn back to look at it while running, but cannot find it. I look forward. BANG I hit something.\n\n     So I come to stumbling up the stairs of my bud's house with a massive headache, not knowing what the fuck has happened to me. I  rub my head (much to my chagrin it feels like its been beaten worse Denver in the super bowl last year) and find my hand covered in blood. I basically fall into the living room where all my friends are drinking and ask what the hell is going on and what happened. I simply can't talk and am concussed as fuck. I walk into the bathroom to find a major gash at the top of my head and blood all down my face. The next thirty minutes is comprised of me being in complete shock, not knowing where I am, and wondering what happened to me. I finally gather myself and start cutting up with my friends. This is when the guy who's room I fell asleep in walks through the front door holding a golf club... Not pointing fingers, but seriously, i'm suspicious now. \n\n**TIFU** by falling asleep on a bed doggy style, having my best friend hit me in the head with his golf club and being majorly concussed.", "summary": "Fell asleep on the end of a bed, had a nightmare, probably rolled off the bed, split my head open, and got a major concussion."}
{"id": "t3_2ajfbt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving blood stained panties in my purse. [NSFW?]", "post": "Okay, that title made me realize how embarrassing this really is.\n\nI was at work and bam, Mother Nature decided to fuck me over right then and there.\n\nI had cramps earlier in the day, but I thought \"oh, must've just be gas.\"\n\nHow wrong I was.\n\nI felt the start of a fountain in my pants.   Shit, I thought to myself, and made it to the bathroom.\n\nSure enough, a small pool of blood was in my underwear.\n\nFuck.\n\nLuckily, I was prepared for this. I had extra underwear in my purse! I changed into them and realized I had NO WHERE TO PUT THE DIRTY PAIR.\n\nI had three options:\n\n1. Throw them away. \n\n2. Leave them in the bathroom and pick them up later.\n\n3. Wrap them up and shove them in my purse.\n\nI didn't want to waste a perfectly good pair of underwear that could easily be washed, so option one was out. I didn't want to risk my co-workers finding them laying in the bathroom, so option two was out.\n\nI tried to wipe most of the blood out. I wrapped them up in toilet paper and put them in the extra compartment in my purse. \n\nSome hours later, my friend (one of my co-workers) asked to borrow a tampon. (I guess the thing about females' periods syncing up is true?)\n\n\"Sure,\" I said, \"they're in that zipper compartment in my purse.\"\n\nGuess who had forgotten that they had bloody panties in there? It's me!\n\nShe reached into my purse. That's when I remembered.\n\n*Oh fuck. Fuck, fuck, fuck.*\n\nIn one swift move, she grabbed the tampon and lo and behold, my underwear fell out. Yeah, she noticed. She just stared at them, unsure of what to say, and left with the tampon.\n\nApparently, she's a gossiping bitch, and decided to spread the story to almost everyone I work with. My boss can't look me in the eye.", "summary": "friend knocks bloody underwear out of my purse, everyone finds out."}
{"id": "t3_10mqgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'[M21] worried and she's [19] confused", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been going together for a little over one month and things have begun to get a little hot and heavy. Passionate make out sessions, heavy petting, etc. Now as things got pretty intense I see the definite signs of arousal, erect nipples, heavy breathing, dilated pupils, and she seems to be getting a little wet under her jeans.\n\n We break from anything more serious because time has become a factor but we just talk about what we enjoyed i learn some things about what turned her on but then she drops that she has considered herself asexual, but based on what both of us have seen that night she's in an interesting place.\n\nTo me she was clearly aroused and might have proceeded further, and she's not too sure what happened either as it's not how things usually are for her. I'm giving her time to think about everything and don't plan on pressuring her one way or another. I care about her enough to be fine with her if she feels like having sex with me or not. I just want other peoples input to assuage my worries, I'm just a worrying person.", "summary": "My girlfriend considers herself asexual but seems to be sexually attracted to me and really doesn't understand. I'm just looking for what others think about it."}
{"id": "t3_3rqmi5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By browsing the YouTube Comments", "post": "[This was about a few months ago] So I'm pretty sure that ALL of you know of Agar.io by now (It's like 3D Online snake) and how popular it's become among the YouTube community. Well one day I was reading the YouTube comments of a video (Much Shock, Such Obvious) by I think Kweeblekwop, and I saw that someone posted that he should play Agar.io, and because there were a lot of replies, I thought the YouTuber replied, so I clicked show more replies, and the first comment I saw, said [***WARNING, THE WEBSITE IS CURRENTLY SHUT DOWN TO MY KNOWLEDGE, BUT USING AN ARCHIVING WEBSITE, CAN BE VIEWED, BUT IN DOING SO, YOU ARE POSING A RISK OF: SEIZURES VIA FLASHING LIGHTS, EAR RAPE VIA LOUD SOUND, AND BEING SUPER SPOOPED IF VIEWING LATE AT NIGHT***] AGOR.io, so me being super tired because it was 3 AM, I clicked on it, and I was jump scared by a VERY fast flashing [color inverted] image of Jeff the Killer, with a sound that increased in pitch very fast, and because that woke me up faster than a kid on Christmas Day, I immediately tried to close out of it, and a popup came up and said: LOL U SKARED BRO?!? And then I immediately ran to bed as soon as that ordeal was over.", "summary": "Jumpscare version of Agar.io, got super spooped."}
{"id": "t3_3yt5jt", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Can we have a \"Post Your Dress\" thread?", "post": "Hello /r/weddingplanning!\n\nI am very new to this sub and I am obsessed! I'm not engaged yet myself but SO and I have talked a lot about it and it is in our near future for sure :) ANYWAYS. I'm specifically fascinated by all the wedding dress photos that people have been posting. One thing that I find myself constantly wondering as someone who will be shopping for one is 'WOW, how much does that beautiful thing cost??' **So I'm wondering if y'all would be ever so kind as to post photos of you wearing your dress as well as including the following info: dress name, cost, place of purchase, size?, and any other info you'd like to include regarding the dress.** I think this will be great to see all the posts in one place (and feed my new wedding planning obsession) :)\n\nI realize that there are already subs dedicated to wedding dresses but they are so small. So I'm posting here in the hopes that we can get many people posting their dresses and then we can all gush over them in one place. \n\nAnd a side note on future individual dress posts:\nIs anyone interested in making a 'requirement' that dress posts include 'stats' in the post title? Similar to how /r/progresspics requires body stats so we understand the context. This would include things that I mentioned above like dress name, price, place of purchase, etc. Can even include dress size for more context (unless poster is uncomfortable sharing that info). What do you think?", "summary": "Post your a photo of you wearing your dress and include info: dress name, price, place of purchase, and any other info. "}
{"id": "t3_2o0fk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ex [21 F] of nearly 1.5 yrs on/off, ended it for good, no more contact. Want to start over as a better person but don't know how, help!", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster here. Used to read heavily into seddit when I was in high school, gained a lot of confidence then when I started to be a bit more successful I kinda stopped. Just broke up with the gf today (first ever break up for good) and as to be expected I'm very sad. I'm proud of how I handled it but she was a big part of my life and now I'm just lost. I kinda know what needs to be done (become a better person, get healthy, expand my knowledge, etc.). Surprisingly not many mentions on reddit how to completely start your life over after a break up, and I'm just here looking for some guidance and maybe some friends to talk to. So how have you completely started over and got to where you are at today?", "summary": "First break-up, want to rebuild as a better man but dont know where to start"}
{"id": "t3_hq11r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why don't self posts get karma?", "post": "I understand that they used to and that people [complained] because there were lots of \"vote up if\" type posts that were getting karma. Removing karma from them, however, does not appear to have changed things. They've always been reported and deleted (none are on in the pages [archived by archive.org] for the time before it was removed). They still show up from time to time (despite it actually saying right above where I'm typing this \"*Beginning your title with \"vote up if\" is violation of intergalactic law.*\"), then they get reported and removed.\n\nHowever, one effect that this has influenced is the creation of rage comics and an increase in screenshots. I've even noticed that increase just over the last year. Now, I'm not saying that they wouldn't happen if self posts got karma, nor that they are always inappropriate, but it is evident that there are some things that would be better as self posts that are instead posted as screen shots or rage comics and it's hard to not think that the lack of karma for self posts plays a part in this.\n\nSo, I think we should revisit this decision. It seems to me that self posts add original content to reddit and should be encouraged. This very, and very popular, subreddit is a perfect example. It accepts nothing *but* self posts. [IAmA] is another perfect example of a popular subreddit that is affected by this that is also quite popular. So, is there any reason we shouldn't start letting self posts get karma? If there is not, what kind of karma would be the most appropriate for them?", "summary": "Removing karma from self posts doesn't seem to have had the intended effect and may have caused other problems, why not give it back?"}
{"id": "t3_10icak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting married without resolving the kid issue?", "post": "**F26 (European), M24 (American)**\n\n**Dating almost 2 years, long-distance for most of that time.**\n\nWe met while I (F26) was visiting a friend on the west coast. Hit it off instantly and kept in touch via fb/skype when I got home. It only took about a week to decide that it was worth a shot and since then we've been happily dating, traveling back and forth between continents. Even though we're long-distance, we've managed to spend almost 7 months living together, so we do know that we get along well and can live together without any major issues. \n\nHowever. We do have one huge problem and we don't really know what to do about it, so we're turning to you for help. He wants kids, I kinda don't. I'm fairly set in my ways. We want to end the long-distance part, but moving in together permanently would getting married so I can get a visa. Him moving here, which wouldn't require a visa, is impossible for various reasons. I wouldn't mind getting married or even moving there to a degree (I've lived in the States before, for college, and I get along really well with his family and friends), and he has no issues with that part either...but...the kid issue is something we can't ignore. We both love each other very much and it'd hurt like hell to have to break up over this, when everything else is working so well. This is my first serious relationship, his second/third depending on how you define \"serious\". What do you suggest we do? I have issues of my own - not being happy with my job and where I am in life - but I'm not sure going all Suzy Homemaker would make me happier. It's not something I've even considered an option before, coming from divorced parents and being a complete forever aloner (relationship-wise) before I met M24.", "summary": "f26, m24, we love each other very much and want to get engaged/married but can't decide on the kid issue. At this point, it's kind of break up or get engaged, since we don't want to waste each other's time."}
{"id": "t3_2grkrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) feel socially inferior to (19F) gf", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for one year and while our relationship is amazing I can't help but feel that our social circle is completely different.\n\nI don't get invited to parties, I have a close group of three friends, we do everything together. \n\nShe has a few groups and what seems to be many guys and girls she knows.\n\nWhat I'm saying is, most of my social events stem off her. Without her I would not do things like clubbing, bars or parties.\n\nMy question is, do you or your partner have any social differences? If so, do they bother you?", "summary": "my girlfriend has more of a social life than me"}
{"id": "t3_46z3fw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not checking the showtimes online", "post": "Little backstory: I live in Malaysia, work in Brunei (Google it if you don't know where these countries are)\n\nSo I watched Deadpool last week during the holidays with my friends and it was freaking awesome. Now that my holiday is over and I'm back at my work place, I've decided to watch it again with my colleagues.\n\nI was hyping them up with all the fun Deadpool facts on the way to the cinema and they were super excited to watch it. Until we reach the cinema and noticed there were no showing of Deadpool. A quick Google revealed that it is banned in Brunei. Now I got 5 angry co -workers blaming me for getting them all excited for nothing.", "summary": "didn't know Deadpool was banned, hyped up 5 co - workers for the movie and they are about to un-alive me"}
{"id": "t3_3hv56y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31F] need advice for my SO [34M]. Doesn't give honest opinion until I pull teeth. What can I do?", "post": "I'm in a relationship where I can't seem to get an honest answer out of my SO the first time I ask.  Not about cheating or anything, just normal things like what he wants to eat, or advice.\n\nHe's very nice and tries to predict how I will react, then tells me his vague, not-so-honest answer, the answer he thinks will keep me happy.  This doesn't work.  He's a very bad fortune teller when it comes to predicting how I will feel.\n\nRecently I came upon a major decision in my life~ give up my old job or go back to it?  I would end up with an unemployment gap where he'd have to pick up the bills I pay.  I asked if he minded, until I got a better job.  Vague answer.\n\nAsked again, no he doesn't really mind.\n\nAsked again, okay, he does mind a little and would rather not do that.\n\nBAM!  2 weeks of back and forth wasted when he could have been honest to begin with.  I will admit, the more I have to ask, the less patient I get.  I hate uncertainty.  Being unsure stresses me out.  Having uncertainties has put me out on the street before, and I like things to be clear now.\n\nIs there any way to get someone that's \"too nice\" or that mistakenly predicts how I will react to his answer to answer honestly, *the first time*?  Do I need to be more or less direct?  \n\nOr, at the very least, how can I keep from growing angrier and angrier each time I have to ask the same question?", "summary": "SO answers vaguely over little and major questions.  The more I ask, the more layers I shed until finally he tells me what he REALLY thinks.  Is there any way to bypass this process and just get a clear answer, the first time?"}
{"id": "t3_17nnx1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anybody else had fishy business when dealing with Time Warner Cable?", "post": "I came home today and saw a cable bill in the mail for twice the amount that I am normally supposed to pay. I called them to ask why, and I eventually got in touch with someone who could help me, after being transferred all around the world. He looked up my account and told me that I hadn't paid my bill last month, which is why I was being charged twice. My bill is normally paid for automatically via credit card, and when I told them that, he said my card declined their charge last month. Now I'm pretty good about keeping my credit card balance low, so I thought that was strange, but I thanked him for clearing it up and hung up.\n\nImmediately after hanging up, I checked my credit card statement online, and sure enough, I had been charged last month for my cable bill. Needless to say I was pretty pissed off, so I called them back. I explain to the new person what my situation was (including how I just checked my statement). He looks up my account and tells me that I have a zero balance....meaning I actually did not owe them anything. This really confused me because I literally had just got off the phone with someone saying that my account showed that I owed them 2 months worth of cable bill. I told him this and he said that other person was simply wrong. I didn't expect either outcome because I hadn't been changed for this month so I should owe them a month's worth of cable. Part of me is concerned that next month I will be charged for 3 months worth, but another part of me is concerned that they were trying to pull a fast one on me, and since I caught them they just said I owed nothing to keep me from asking questions. Has anybody had a similar experience with TWC?", "summary": "i got charged double my normal cable bill. i was told that i hadn't paid last months bill but when i checked my account it showed that i did. when i called them back all of a sudden i magically never owed them any money at all...smells fishy"}
{"id": "t3_njcdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend has never instigated sex.  Not once.   Advice from women pleeeasseee.", "post": "I am 21 and she is 20, we have been dating for about 19months.  \n\nThis being said, we are a very sexually active couple, being a 21-year old male, I have the sex-drive of a 21-year old male.   Because of this I know she is completely comfortable with sex, never once has she denied it and she is always into it, but not even once in almost *two years* has she instigated it.  I have brought it up to her so many times and everytime she just says sorry, but then it's instantly forgotten about and *nothing* changes.\n\nI can't figure out what to do because theres clearly not much I can do to fix it if telling her about how much it bothers me has never changed anything in the long course of time that she has known its bothered me.\n\nIf you are wondering why it bothers me it is quite simple: I see sex, when in a relationship, as a very important thing and as the most explicit way to show someone you care about them if you're willing to let them see you completely naked and you will please them.  Therefore I get greatly bothered by her never putting even an ounce of effort in to starting it off, not even making out.  I have *every single time* for almost 2 years.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "After almost two years of a sexually active relationship, girlfriend has not once instigated the sex, not even made out, I have had to start it *every single time*."}
{"id": "t3_2y1u02", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Itching from jaundice: any tips?", "post": "I am a white, British, 23 year old female, about 9 stone, and 5'4\". Suffer from constant nausea (over two years now) so am taking an anti-emetic metoclopramide (sp?) but try not to take it unless I really can't cope. Still awaiting an appointment with gastroenterology. This is just additional information incase it is relevant. \n    \nI have mild jaundice, my doctor thinks I have gilbert's syndrome as it comes and goes. I have had an ultrasound of my abdomen and nothing untoward, thankfully.    \n    \nMain thing with this jaundice that I hate is the itching. Constant and inescapable itching. I wondered whether there is anything I can do about this itching. I  trying not to scratch as it makes it worse. Itching mainly on legs.    \n    \nPlease help before I tear my skin off.", "summary": "gilbert's related jaundice itching. Any tips to alleviate it?    "}
{"id": "t3_3ivq6e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to defrost", "post": "First, english is not my native so please be forgiving...\n\nThis one has happened a few years ago. As long as I was still living with my parents I never helped doing the housework. When moving out, I had to learn everything. Today I'm quite successful at living on my own, but it took some harsh lessons.\n\nOne of them was the day I decided to defrost my freezer the first time. \n\nThe freezer stands at the left wall, directly opposite to the ceran stove.\n\nI put a cooking pot on the stove, waited until the water cooked and put the pot aside. Then I noticed I hadn't removed the compartments out of the freeze. I took them out and put them on the next best firm surface, right behind me. Then I put the pot in the freezer... and noticed that the aforementioned firm surface had been the ceran stove. Of course the plastic melted within seconds. I could remove the compartment, but It left a large amount of melted plastic on a brand new stove. Brilliant.\n\nSo I couldn't help but had to drive to the next supermarket to get one those razor-sharp knives used to clean ceran stoves.\n\nSo, back home I put out the knife and scraped the plastic from the stove. Of course some crumbs left on that knive and I wanted to remove them with my finger. Did I mention those knives are razor sharp and cut you almost already when you look at them?  \n\nOf course I didn't have plaster in the house, so took some toilet paper around the bleeding finger and drove back to the supermarket to get plaster. After that I took great care not to move again the rest of the day (except that there was still a defrosting freeze I wanted to throw out of the window by then)", "summary": "Learnt to do my housework the painful way."}
{"id": "t3_3vymlo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [24F] for ten years broke-up six months ago; now I feel angry to myself and can't talk to people", "post": "Hi.\n\nWhen I was in fifth grade, at 2005, a beautiful girl asked me to be her friend; and we were together until six months ago, that's around 9-10 years. I can't remember the times I wasn't with her. I don't have a memory which doesn't include her.\n\nI was never comfortable around people, and only with her I was relaxed, I could talk comfortably only with her, and we always said that we won't leave each ever. I was very happy.\n\nAnd things start to get bad. I couldn't met her expectations. She got depressed, and I couldn't help her; I couldn't find correct words to say to her, and I couldn't make her happy. After the treatment for her depression, she (correctly) left me, and blocked me everywhere except one messaging service.\n\nAfter that, I was just making myself believe that she'll be back, we'll be together and happy again. But she clearly isn't. Recently she told me that she's with someone else, he loves her very much etc. \n\nAnd there's me now. My only memories are with her, I don't talk with anyone except my coworkers. I don't feel *anything* since she left me, I'm not sad, I just don't want anything. I have a job and working for M.S degree, and I just *continue* them, without doing anything for my life. Every day I think about her for a few minutes, and I just feel angry, I don't know why.\n\nShe isn't returning, she made it pretty clear. But it left me in a pretty bad situation, without anyone to help. This is the first time I'm saying these.\n\nActually I don't know what I'm trying to achieve with this post. Maybe writing about it helps.\n\nHave a nice day everyone.", "summary": "I was in a relationship for all my life, she dumped me, and I don't know what do to know."}
{"id": "t3_oo0q9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats the best revenge you have gotten on someone?", "post": "To start I know there are other posts like this but a lot of them are old and/or have very little response. \n\nI'll Start, my university housemates were constantly stealing all my food, it got to the point i had to keep it all locked in my bedroom, I still had to keep fresh things in the shared fridge, which would often get used as well, one night i went out for a few hours and i came back and nearly all my milk had gone (had a full 4 pints) and some other stuff meat i think (possibly bacon), anyway i had enough (as this had happend a lot), so i put about a pint of half milk and half piss, i measured the weight (so i could accurately check it) left it in the fridge over the next few hours it dropped by around half. Mission achieved.", "summary": "My housemates are assholes, I piss in milk, they drink it, mission achived."}
{"id": "t3_4amspg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Financially Manipulated College Student, Chicago-IL", "post": "I moved in with my girlfriend last year. The lease has both of our names, SSNs, etc on it but only I signed it because she was too lazy to show up that day. She never got around to signing it and moved out a few months ago. At the time, she and I were going through emotional things so I gave her space but all of a sudden her father who was never in the picture before just entered. She used him and his money to hire a lawyer. \n\nShe insists I am harassing her because I only texted twice and emailed once asking her if I'd ever see any of the money back. I have the renters insurance policy that has both of names on it, Chase QuickPay's from her a long time ago when she did contribute to the rent a few times, and Chicago tenant laws state that when a person has lived in an apartment/house longer than 2 weeks they are given \"tenant status\" and must pay rent...well she lived with me for 8-9 months.\n\nShe got a lawyer because she knows I'm an orphan with (no family/friends) no support and I spent my life savings on the apartment so I'd have no chance of hiring a real lawyer. We had a \"shared credit card\" that I used for groceries, bills, etc and she used to buy clothes ($550+ a few times).\n\nI'm completely broke and lost about what to do here. I really need the money she owes me to pay rent/tuition. I should mention that she signed a letter stating that she owes me $3k. What can/should I do?", "summary": "GF moved out, owes me money but won't pay."}
{"id": "t3_3qhhhk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having my friend change one word in a document", "post": "So since it's hack your school network week I figured I'd make my first post this. This happened last year and there is a little backstory . My school has a gaming club and they download computer games (illegally) and put them on a folder in the commons folder on our schools network. So any ways me and my friend would always go to his moms room (she is a computer teacher and has a bunch of computers and let's us on our phones and shit). We on occasion would play games from the gaming club folder  until one day all the games were deleted because they were pirated but they left a note saying why they were deleted. Here is the FU.anybody is able to edit the document so I tell my friend \"hey you should change one word.\"(badass right). He agreed to do it and changed. 2 days later the gaming club lady is at his moms room pissed off. When he changed the word it apparently said he created the document. Anyways she had our IT guys inspect every computer to see what actually happens and then proceeds to tell us \"this is what happens to my gaming club when kids decide to hack the school server\". needless my friends mom was really pissed when we told her what actually happens", "summary": "I tell my friend to change one word in a document, gets accused of hacking and gets his computer privalages banned until IT searches every computer he uses."}
{"id": "t3_1wduya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and my [21F] gf of 23months broke up about a week a ago. How do I move on?", "post": "Basically, she wanted a break (here:  )  and I could tell things were changing. Some things I've realised since then:\n\n* It started back when I was in the hospital last Thanksgiving. And from what she has told me about being too involved in this relationship, I believe that seeing me in the hospital made her realise how much she was actually falling for me and that got her scared.\n\n*I've made the mistake of also becoming too involved with her. I could have dealt with some space, but not a break up. I'm not very sociable and I don't interact with my close friends regularly because of distance.\n\nI really loved this girl (I'm 21, I feel like this. I may or may not feel the same way in probably a year), and to be honest, it really got to a point where we both talked about the future, even hinting that we would love to marry each other. \n\nI guess, I just feel really lonely right now having lost my only constant support here at college. It's really difficult to meet up with other friends especially since I commute. I would love to talk it over with her one more time, but it seems she just wants some space right now, and I do think it's best for both of us.\n\nThis relationship was honestly my first one that lasted longer than 4 months, and one in which the \"new relationship\" feelings definitely wore off but then you just found that new attraction in the other. I loved that. \n\nIt also doesn't help that I was hospitalised right after the break up. Some friends made some time to see me, and I really appreciate that. But it's always so hard to see them normally. I can't even resume daily activities for a while and am just sitting in bed for the next few days as I recover from surgery.\n\nI guess, my big question is, *how do I move on?* I honestly can't take the nightmares, the sadness, and the moping. I'm scared I won't be able to make friends to keep me company. I'm scared of all the nights I'm actually going to be alone in my apartment.", "summary": "What's the best advice do you have for moving on? I'm sure others will probably find this useful."}
{"id": "t3_nzaae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, have you ever thought of a genius invention on your own, that later in life you found out made someone else rich?", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm 19 and I currently go to Virginia Tech University in the U.S. Ever since I was little i would always come up with inventions in my mind that I didn't have the ability to make myself and would never share for no particular reason with people that could. One that I remember, that recently I found out had been invented was a machine that would tell people how many parking spaces were available and where those parking spaces were in a parking garage. I'd always hate going to the mall with my family and being stuck searching floor after floor of the garage for a spot, and thought that what if someone could create a small sensor like an invisible laser that you could install over every parking space to signal whether a car was under it or not, if the space was free it would light up and direct cars to it. This was 5 or 6 years ago when I was in middle school. The first time i saw one of those boards that tell you if a garage was full I thought to myself, wow that could've been my idea that got me rich, if only I capatilized on the thought. Yesterday as I was parking my car I noticed green lights over spaces that were free and red lights over spaces that weren't...someone had invented what I thought of years ago and put it into reality. Of course someone else deserves the money for the hard work, it just sucks to think that could've been me. Any of you have any similar stories to share?", "summary": "I came up with an idea to speed up finding spaces in parking garages years ago, never did anything about it and someone else invented it recently. Any of you have similar stories?"}
{"id": "t3_vx4lp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend and her ex.", "post": "Hi,\nThrowaway account. I'm M/22. I was with my girlfriend for about a year then we split because she went travelling. We are now back together and met up overseas and travelled for a few weeks then she has a few weeks travelling by herself before she returns home.\n\nI have noticed she keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriends, one in particular, who she has told me a bit about but overall been very closed about it. She is going to his country visit. All she has told me is that she is staying with a \"friend\" there who she met when she lived there. I'm about 90% sure it's him.\n\nMy issue is not that I mind her seeing an ex boyfriend, it's that she is not open about it and still doesn't tell me when I ask her who she is staying with. \n\nWhat is the best way to bring up the fact that this makes me uncomfortable? I am going to try to address this on skype.\nI've tried not to blather on too much but ask if I have forgotten any important details.", "summary": "I think my girlfriend is going to be staying with her ex-boyfriend in another country. How do I tell her I'm not comfortable with this?"}
{"id": "t3_2uu7zv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 17/M and trying to see if a girl [17/F] is playing with my emotions for fun", "post": "So I recently asked this girl out and it didn't go too well. I asked her if she was busy next weekend and her response was that she was always busy after asking me if it was just a joke. Obviously I was a little hurt, but I didn't cry or anything.\n\nA few days later she asked me in class if I was mad at her and I kept telling her no. She didn't believe me and told a friend of mine that I'm pissed at her. That friend told me that he went to talk to her after I asked her out and she was basically said that she didn't know me too well.\n\nMoving on, she asked me again if I was mad, I told her no, and asked why she thought I would be mad, and she mumbled something about rejection. So i told her I'm not mad over that, but I also told her i heard some stuff ( relating to the fact that my friend told me she didnt know me too well). In reflection, that wasn't the greatest thing to do, but you live and you learn.\n\nShe tried to narrow down who told me the information I'm \"mad\" about and she thinks she knows who it is. On top of her repeatedly asking me if I'm mad while smiling, she's been making some odd jokes. In class someone asked me if I liked them, and she blurted out that I **love** her and then turned and smiled at me. She also stole a seat next to my friend and a guy in the class told me to just sit in a seat next to her. She then said, \" yeah (my name) sit here and smiled again.\n\nI can't really tell if she's trying to be friendly and make light of the situation, or if she's getting a kick out of playing with my emotions.\n\nWhat do you all think?", "summary": "Girl is making odd jokes and repeatedly asking me if I'm mad after she rejected me going out with her."}
{"id": "t3_gbrez", "subreddit": "self", "title": "PREGNANT!  I'm 20 years old and I just found out I'm pregnant, can anyone give me some tips on how to handle this situation?", "post": "On Wednesday, I started my period.  But then my boyfriend and I decided to go ahead and have sex without using any protection at all.  I have poly-cystic ovarian syndrome, so usually I don't get my periods regularly.  I woke up Thursday morning and my period had stopped.  It is Friday evening and I just took a pregnancy test which clearly displayed \"POSITIVE\".\n\nRecently, my doctors have thought that I have endometriosis so its been pointing to the fact that I might not be able to have children.  I was supposed to be diagnosed next month but now I guess I have nothing to worry about...\n\nPlease reddit, if any of you have or know anyone who has been in a situation similar to mine before, I would appreciate any information you can give me and my boyfriend at all.  Both of us are currently in school and working, but still live at home with our parents.  We have been together for a little over two years.  I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 22.  We have always talked and planned on having children, getting married, the works....but did not plan on this happening so soon.  I know we were stupid, but it's a done deal now.\n\nSorry reddit, I am just kind of in shock right now and don't know what the fuck to do except ask you guys/girls for help, in any way/shape/form possible!", "summary": "20 yrs old, pregnant, scared shit-less and need advice!!!"}
{"id": "t3_2b2chw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "3 weeks later, my boss still hasn't given me a contract to sign. WTF should I do?", "post": "This is a post that first started here:\n\nI like my new job, it's with a respected firm led by a well-regarded local professor . . . but it's been three weeks and I still don't have a hiring contract to sign. I'm not sure what to do. He asked for all other hiring documentation (I9s, proof of insurance, voided check, etc.) but hasn't gotten a proper hiring contract for me to sign. He's been \"editing it\" since last week. I wrote to him in an informal email that the end of the week (today) is my personal deadline to complete paperwork, and it's almost 11 (Half day) and I don't have anything. I'm confused and hurt - this is not how you treat people, especially build trust with new employees. He's really well-respected, and this could be a lucrative post-graduate career should I stay, but how can I (and him) respect myself if I do without a contract for much longer? \n\nI plan to send an email saying that I've enjoyed the work thus far and am available next week as planned pending the receipt of a contract to sign, etc. Is this too demanding for a newbie? Am I a pushover? \nWTF do I do and still hold my head high, here at work and in general?\nAlso, if I send that email, will it fuck up our relationship as mentor-mentee?", "summary": "New job, great job . . except no real hiring process! I'm \"on the team,\" but boss is slow with paperwork. Should I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_2pzsvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] am at the lowest point in our 3 year relationship and possibly in my whole life, and for the first time ever I feel abandoned by him [20/M].", "post": "For the past couple of weeks I've been having major anxiety issues and today I had a mild panick attack. Just when I needed him the most, it seems that he's decided there's nothing he can help me with, so better leave me alone while he's having fun with his friend. Before this he always cared, he tried to make me laugh, when there was nothing else he could do. Now it feels like he's even mad at me for being like this. \n\nIf this happened to anyone else, I'd say fuck that guy, get rid of him and find someone who will be there for you at your weakest moments. But it's been 3 years, and he never was anything like this. I still hope that he will come back, just don't know what to do until that... Do I just wait? Do I try to talk to him again and again til he realises what has happened from my pov? Please, help. I feel very alone, helpless and lost...", "summary": "Boyfriend left me alone at my worst, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2p6ezs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/] with my GF [23 F] 5 months, I feel sick about something I did.", "post": "HI guys, \n\nI feel like a horrible person, please help me.\n\nLast year December I started dating this wonderful girl, and it all went well until the start of February. I had to leave for an internship to Australia ( I'm from Belgium, so a very long distance).\n\nWe decided to keep contact and try it, but didn't have a relationship.\n\nNow during these months (February- June) we kept in touch and skyped very often, but did not have a relationship.\nNow somewhere in March i had a one night stand (F,24), which i never saw anymore, but i felt guilty about it. \n\nI never told her, we just kept in touch and afterwards when i came back we did get a relationship and it all went well.\nNow 5 months later i feel really bad for never telling her about it, so I don't know if I should tell her or not, and how she will react.\n\nPlease help me!", "summary": "Was dating with a girl, had one night stand, then relationship with the other girl, now i feel guilty."}
{"id": "t3_2a3hki", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by crushing my ass against an iced road", "post": "So, this was not really today but some years ago but thought I'd share it since it might bring some laughs around the redditors.\n\nSo first of all, i live in Sweden and the winters in sweden can be brutal as shit, and this year it was. \nSo i was waking up late for school, and i live some miles away so i had a buss to catch, all drowsy and exhausted i get outside to make my way to the buss and its some -25 degrees celsius where i live, and the day before, the snow had just began to thaw out. Anyway, when i get to this road that is about to brutaly rape my asshole with pure ice, i notice that beacuse it thawed the day before and a tractor has been driving around the snow that's falling, it had left a trace of ice that looks like something that would be cool walking on for fun 6:30 in the morning when you hardly even know you're alive beacuse your so tired. I walk on them, i trip and the pain that struck my ass is like nothing i could ever imagine, i now look like an old man looking like he's gotten shot in the ass with a shotgun. I bruised my asscheeks and the part between the ballsack and the asshole, it was so hard for me to take a shit so i had to do some special squat in order to take a freakin' poo.\n\nMoral of the story, don't do stupid shit early in the morning.", "summary": "drowsy me thought it would be a good idea to walk on ice, my ass did not."}
{"id": "t3_2x8mv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I respond to people I work with asking how old I am? (26f)", "post": "I started college when I was 17 and knew what I wanted to do right off the bat, so at this point I've been in my field for nearly a decade (I had a job in college in my field). I also got married at 19 and had my first child at 20, and I'm very good at my job (I'm a graphic designer/marketer) so I am in a position in life that is usually normal for someone about five or more years older than I am.\n\nI feel capable at my job and in my element running meetings with men twice my age, but every once in awhile someone I work with in some capacity will ask me how old I am. Frankly, I don't want to tell people, I'd rather it be ambiguous. I've noticed a marked difference in the way people respond to me once they have confirmed that yes, I'm younger than they think I am and don't just have a fantastic skin care regimen. How do I respond? Do I lie? Do I just live with it? Is there any professional way at all to respond to that question without saying 'none of your business'?", "summary": "nosy people want to know how old I am, how do I tell them they're not supposed to ask people that."}
{"id": "t3_1ep4h0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was something you did for the right reasons but regretted later?", "post": "Some girls came and stayed at my family's home for a week a few summers ago.  One of them was in a relationship with a guy and they had been together for years.  Over the week she and I hung out a lot and we clicked very well.  The night before they had to leave we were watching a movie without anyone around.  She started holding my hand and snuggling up to me. She looked at me like she wanted to make out.  She was hot but I reminded her she had a boyfriend.  I didn't want to ruin a good relationship.  They left the next day and she refused to talk to me after that, even as friends.  Now she is married to the guy and I'm happy for them, but I still kinda wish I had taken that chance (insert confession bear meme here).  Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation?", "summary": "I didn't make out with a girl because she was in a committed relationship but somewhat regret that decision now."}
{"id": "t3_46g1re", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my class to \"Kill the Commies\"", "post": "Obligatory this happened yesterday in my History class. I was assigned a presentation on the progressive era of the US with 2 other people. We were working fine for the first few hours until one of my group members decided to add the Chinese flag to the title slide (Immigrant reform). I disagreed with him about adding the flag but both of my team members thought it was fine. So, just for fun I changed our title to \"KILL THE COMMIES\" and we all had a laugh and figured we would change the title back before our presentation. That didn't happen. A few other groups presented before ours and we were feeling confident in our presentation. We opened our PowerPoint to see the horror that had occurred. \"Kill the Commies\" in all caps plastered upon the projector screen with a Chinese flag in the background. I can't even describe the feeling of everyone staring at you WTFing. Our entire presentation derailed from that point on. The worst part of this entire thing is that this presentation is worth a considerable portion of our grade. Still awaiting my grade but I have no hope for anything above a 0.", "summary": "Changed PowerPoint title to Kill the Commies and presented it to my class"}
{"id": "t3_2gv6nv", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "12 wk old kitten has diarrhea, already dewormed. Any advice? (vet appt. already scheduled)", "post": "I have a 12 week old male kitten that has been having diarrhea for the last couple of weeks (he has already been dewormed). I took him to the vet and he gave me some meds. They seemed to help for the first few days, and his poop was more solid. Today was his last day on the medicine, and I noticed that he was back to having diarrhea (not totally liquid, but definitely not healthy normal poop). \n\nMy vet brought up panleukopenia as a small possibility when I saw him, and that really freaked me out. Obviously I'm really hoping that's not it, and he has a stomach bug or parasite. I've had experience before with a kitten that had bad diarrhea, and we switched him to a diet of rice and chicken for a month or two. After that he went back on hard food, and he's been fine for the last 9 years. I was thinking of doing this with my kitten as well...\n\nI'll be taking the kitten into the vet this next week again to try and see what's going on, as well as dropping off a fecal sample. Does anyone have any experience with panleukopenia and it's symptoms? AND does anyone have any other ideas/advice for helping settle his tummy?\n\n(**side note: He is not lethargic, and plays constantly. He drinks and eats regularly, and no vomiting)", "summary": "My kitten has been having diarrhea issues (already dewormed). Any advice to help him?"}
{"id": "t3_1plmc5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "ELI5 Why is it some people get assignment done in no time and others take forever?", "post": "I always considered myself pretty average when it comes to assignment (you know like 5 page long essays) I really never had any motivation, but I can tell you for sure, and this holds true even at university: It takes me 1h per page, search / planning included. \n\nIf I have a 5 page essay, it will take me 5 to 7h (depending if I take breaks)\n\nToday, I did 3 assignments of 4 pages in 14hours, two of which I had to research sources. \n\nI really don't mean to brag and this kind of \"ability?\" always made my work feel worthless, as I feel like I'm putting no effort in it.\n\nWhen speaking to classmates, they planned 3 days for 1 of the assignment, now I do proclaim the same thing to my family, but truth is the 3 days would be spent playing video games and what not, and the actual work will pretty much always be done day before due.", "summary": "Is it just me being somehow \"talented\" (I doubt it) or is there some kind of trick my subconscious mind plays to keep me from failing my assignments? "}
{"id": "t3_g586i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having doubts about my relationship", "post": "Throwaway since my gf reads reddit.\n\nBackground: I've been with this girl for a bit over 2 years. She's my second serious relationship (the former lasting about 3 years), we're both in our mid twenties (I'm male btw).\n\nWe have a pretty good relationship with no major problems, so I feel like kind of a jerk for this. I've gotten to the point where I can't see myself being with this person for the rest of my life and lately I've been feeling that I'd like to experience other things and date other women.\n\nIf any of you have been in this situation, how did you deal with it? Should I just man up and stop being selfish? Or should I cut the chord now before things get too serious (she's started looking at places for us to move in together)?", "summary": "Have a good relationship with my gf, but I've been having doubts."}
{"id": "t3_2g2dgu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting trapped in a changing room.", "post": "This didn't actually happen today, it happened some years ago when I was 14, but oh well. So the story goes like this: I was on vacation in another country and was shopping at the mall with my mom and grandmother. I needed to pee, but found that the bathroom had no toilet paper available (as is common in that country), so I decided to just hold it and wait till we got home (you all know where this story is going now). We continued shopping and I went to try on some pants in a store. As I was trying them on, the urge to pee suddenly became overwhelming. I felt like I was going to explode. I quickly got changed back into my own clothes but found that the door of the changing room would not open. Oh shit. I felt the pee start to come out and suddenly I was pissing like a racehorse in a changing room stall. I remember thinking that it was just a bad dream and I would wake up, comfy in my bed, pants dry. But alas, this was my reality, and to make matters worse, I discovered that I was on my period when I looked down to find that I was standing in a puddle of bloody urine. My mom starts calling me to come out and show her the pants I was trying on. I told her the door would not open. She starts panicking and tries to climb in from under the door, sees the puddle of blood... proceeds to yell at me for embarrassing her (because she's the one who should be embarrassed /s). NOW I manage to get the door open, and the staff come around all shocked. Everyone is staring at me in my piss-and-period soaked pants... on the upside, I did buy the pants that I tried on... so that's a win in my book.", "summary": "Got trapped in changing room, pissed myself while on my period, hilarity ensued (not really)."}
{"id": "t3_hskpa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I met my soul mate and was so in awe with him.. until I found out he dropped out of community college and has been a full-time cashier ever since. I'm a doctor who makes six digits.", "post": "We talked for hours and shared our interests, many of which we share. I became so infatuated with everything about him.. he is literally a male version of me. Then I found out he dropped out of community college and has been working as a cashier at a convenience store ever since.\n\nReddit, is it wrong that I suddenly became unattracted to him? Comparably, I have a high-paying job and I feel like taking this relationship any further, and even possibly to marriage, just couldn't work out. I feel *terrible* but does anyone understand my situation that can offer advice on what I should do? Am I wrong to think about it from a logical point of view, rather than a \"this could be my soul mate\" point?", "summary": "I really love everything about him, except his career/income. I make 6 times more than he does. Would you give all of this for true love?"}
{"id": "t3_22xqj7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 18] just found a girl [F 18] whom I've only met a few times on FB recently-after two years of not talking.", "post": "So the first time I met this girl about 2 years go at church- I felt an instant connection with her. I finally found her on Facebook and we've been talking. She's ok with hanging out-and I dont think I'm in the friend-zone because she's so open to go out. But she just posted a relationship update to make it \"Facebook\" official. What would be a good plan? We're getting together in a little over a month to shop around at a record store, a hippie shop, etc. I just feel like even though I don't know her that well it was like a spiritual and emotional connection. But she's in a relationship which I assume is serious. Should I assert my feelings for her when we meet up? I'm not sure what to do-in my mind she's life partner/wife material because she seems perfect for me. At this point in y life I really don't want a girlfriend or children but she makes me think otherwise.", "summary": "Girl feels like soulmate, in a relationship-meeting up soon to hang out for a whole day. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_17w8he", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, who is the most important person in your life, and why?", "post": "Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything.", "summary": "My kids think I am awesome cause I can make curry and cookies, and they are the best thing that ever happened to me."}
{"id": "t3_223kqf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my SO [23M] of 1.5 years, how do I deal with his non-communication", "post": "I am in a long distance relationship with my SO. We have been together for 1.5 years. We live close enough (4 hr drive one way) that we can see each other pretty much every weekend. \n\nWe have always had communication problems. My SO hates texting and would rather call. My question is he has been out of town on vacation with a bunch of friends (mix boys and girls) and although I trust him completely I've been having a hard time dealing with the loneliness since he has been away. In the week that he has been gone I've gotten an average of one text a day and only 2 calls total. \n\nHe is has gotten much better at communication since we started dating, but since he's been gone on this trip he has regressed substantial. I have asked him to try to call me more but he hasn't, so I don't think I'm looking for a way for him to change. Just a way for me to deal with the loneliness.", "summary": "SO is gone away on vacation with friends. Doesn't call or text. How do I deal with the loneliness."}
{"id": "t3_4ddypt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m18] am having some trouble with my prom date [f17] need advice on what to do", "post": "Me and this girl have a long history. Me and her shared feelings a couple years ago but never dated. We stopped talking for a while due to shifts in our groups of friends. This year we started talking again and it seemed okay. I asked her to prom. I asked her in front of a small group of people probably around 10 and she said yes. She didn't seem against the idea of going with me. Now whenever I talk to her she doesn't seem involved in our conversations. I also don't talk to her very often. I'm getting this feeling that she may not want to go with me to prom but she didn't have prior plans as her friends have informed me. So all I am asking is what should I do. Is it best to just ignore this or take a direct approach.  Thanks in advance. Sorry for format I'm on mobile.", "summary": "prom date troubles need advice on what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3yj8o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my baby-momma-to-be [23 F] having a baby and not sure how to proceed", "post": "A girl from work was really interested in me and we started hooking up casually.  Now she's pregnant.  \n\nI'm not particularly crazy about her and not very keen on a relationship, but think it would be a good idea financially and beneficial to move in together so that I can be there to see my baby every night.\n\nWe each have a kid of our own, but they get along great, I think they might enjoy living together.   \n\nI see a lot of benefit logistically in this, however, when it comes to emotions, I'm not in.  She's very attached and we have differing views of relationship and love that don't quite align.   I'm not sure if that's something that I'll come around to, am I suppose to settle?  \n\nI've abandoned the idea and notion of love entirely, i see value in a partner, to a degree.  I like doing my own thing.  I've just gotten used to being single and have been enjoying it. \n\nI'm scared of two things here.  1) being in a relationship for the rest of my life or making some tangled web that hurts a lot of people or 2) not being around future child enough.", "summary": "I don't really want to be in a relationship, but I want to be near my child."}
{"id": "t3_1lscwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you think its posible for Me[20M] to win back my [18F]?", "post": "We have been apart for about 2 weeks now, but i does not seem like we are apart at all. We still talk and see each other regularly and every time we do see each other she is kissing and cuddling me and she says she still loves me.\n\nBut the reason we broke up is for two reasons.\n\nThe main reason she said is that i didn't appreciate her enough, i never went to great lengths to make her happy such as taking her out to do fun things or doing romantic things. She felt like we were only friends as we also only saw each other about 3 times a week and when we did see each other most times we just chilled in my room.\n\nThe next is that i think she wants some freedom as she is been in a relationship for the past 5 years of her life, 2 with me 3 with her other ex. Also all her friends have turned 18 and one her of favorite thing to do is drink.\n\nSo my plan has been to let her have some freedom for a couple of months. But stay in picture and every time i do see her i make a real effort to take her out somewhere either fun and exciting or romantic and show her that i can be a better boyfriend.\n\nDo you guys think it's possible for me to win her back?\n\nOr should cut all communications?", "summary": "gf broke up me because didn't appreciate her enough, want to know if possible to win her back"}
{"id": "t3_pmb3o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with a friend that criticises you too much?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nI've been having problems with a friend of mine right now. We hadn't seen each other for quite some time, and when we met again at school, we both changed very much. Unfortunately around that time I developed very borderline-type symptoms which are now gone (luckily). I had extremely low self-esteem and hated myself, thinking others would do that too. I talked to my friend a lot about that, she was always assuring me my thoughts were irrational. During that time I also helped her very much with a particular issue, I was the only one she talked to about this issue. Nevertheless after a while she got pretty pissed and I stopped talking to her about that.\n\nNow she's the president of a club at school in which I'm one of the best and oldest, but this year my motivation to work for this club is really low and the others don't know what to do, so nobody does quite enough work. Especially when I don't do something she gets really angry and I'm pretty sure she only does that because she knows me well and I could have done the things.\n\nToday we had to work and a few of my proposals regarding structure were not met with delight. That was just too much for me. I didn't do anything, but I decided I won't let her treat me like that again.\n\nWhen she's angry, she doesn't really scream, just gets into a really serious and angry tone which I despise. It doesn't help that I get angry as well (I have a tendency to counter anger with anger). I just don't want that.\n\nI know I do some things wrong and I have some issues, but another good friend of me can manage to tell me that without being an idiot over it and that works far better.\n\nI just don't want to deal with my friend anymore, seeing that she criticises things about me too often. If I talked to her, she'd just go \"I have a right to express my opinions and you did THAT... wrong\" and I'd have no argument. Any advice?", "summary": "Best friend is often very critical and gets angry a lot, which pisses me off. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4c4rpu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22m] I'm in a long distance relationship with my [21f] girlfriend and I honestly just want it to be done but she won't let it.", "post": "So we've been together for about two years seeing each other for a few weeks every few months.  I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship I have full time.  My girlfriend wants me to move there. She lives about 1500 miles away in North Dakota.\n\n I can't take my child away from all their family here where I am. But everytime I try to end it with her she threatens to kill herself. I know this is probably a common topic but I'm honestly just lost.  I want it to be over for both our sakes. She doesn't really have anyone I could alert to help her and I'm scared if I call the cops she'll lose it. Any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend is crazy won't let me out."}
{"id": "t3_3r4pqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] needs advice on how to proceed with [18 F] whom I met and hooked up with at a College party", "post": "Last night was a great night for me. As a social college freshman whom hasn't always had his way with Women, last night was a personal victory for myself for sure. \n\nSaw a girl whom i've never seen before at a party. I asked her name and said that she was beautiful and asked her to dance. After a while we start making out. I make out and dance with her for almost an hour and a half at the party. \n\nThe party is starting to end so we finish dancing/making out and she wants to leave, so I of course offered to walk her home, which she said yes to.\n\nUpon arrival to her room, she makes it clear that we couldn't have sex because of her roomate, and I reacted with a sort of, \n\n\"that's alright, but let me get your number regardless.\".\n\nAfter that I got her number, kissed her goodbye and haven't talked to her since. I since then have contemplated long and hard about what to do regarding pursuing her, because on the way back, she really made an impression on me that I could be in a relationship with this girl. Usually the hookups are just meaningless fun but I feel as if it isn't the case this time. I have her number, and because I have her number but she doesn't have mine, its up to me to figure out what to do (aka its up to me to mess it up).", "summary": "How should I make the first move/how do I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_xssj5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My disabled little sister is getting bullied. What advice can I give her?", "post": "My little sister is 14 years old and has cerebral palsy. She is functionally fine except for her legs. She's been in a wheel chair most of her life but can walk, albeit not very far, with a frame. My mum is quite overprotective of her and she doesn't go out of the house except for school and the times I take her to the movies or whatnot. \n\nHer only real friend is a kid named Jordan who she only knows because he is the kid of one of my mums friends. He's a few years younger than her and they don't go to the same school.\n\nI live with my girlfriend and don't see my sister as much as I once did but when I went to visit last weekend she told me she was getting bullied at school. Apparently a lot of the kids have taken to calling her a lesbian and this is upsetting her quite a bit. I asked my mum about it and she said it's been going on for awhile and she's spoken to her teachers about it. But this doesn't seem to have done anything.\n\nWe didn't actually discuss whether she was a lesbian or not, apart from the fact that that is just not a conversation I want to have with ANY person that is 11 years my junior, especially not my baby sister it's just not something that really concerns either of us. We've talked about being gay in the past, as our next door neighbors are a gay couple that come over just about every other day, and she is very much of the opinion that it just doesn't matter who you love, as long you're happy.\n\nThere wasn't really a lot of advice I could give her outside of \"aim for the throat\". I too was bullied at school and eventually it stopped because I started to pummel the people doing it, but as you can imagine that's not really something I can tell my sister to do, even if she was actually capable of doing it.\n\nSo basically has anyone got any advice I can give to her?", "summary": "14 year old sister, in wheel chair, called lesbian at school, knows there's nothing wrong with that, more the fact she's getting bullied."}
{"id": "t3_tj2pz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats your best \"control your fucking kid\" moment you have ever seen? Here's mine..", "post": "So the people across the street from me have ended up adopting about 5 kids. The youngest one (about 5) constantly runs all around the neighborhood annoying the shit out of everyone. Her parents are never home and she is allowed to do basically what ever she wants (I'm pretty sure she has some metal issues as well). So about an hour ago I hear some sirens and I look out the window to see an ambulance in front of the house down the street. I go outside and stand on the driveway to get a better view and what do I see? The little brat of a kid is running around the EMTs and actually trying to go into the house where they are working. While all of this is happening her parents and older siblings are no where to be found. I really wish they would just move already...", "summary": "Little kid is allowed to run around the neighborhood, gets in EMTs way while they are presumably trying to save someones life."}
{"id": "t3_dwuhh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Any got a snappy, subtle comeback for a juvenile and jealous fellow suitor? (in text?)", "post": "So this girl I know was in a picture with me in one of those poses, you know, where one of you is holding the camera at arms length? It got posted on facebook, real cute. Anyway, another guy we both know who is younger than us by 4 years has a massive crush on her. He spends way more time with her than I do, because I work a lot, and it's pretty obvious to everyone.\n\nThing is, though, this girl is real flirty to other guys, particularly me, partly because I'm the next-most present person, but also because I'm just swell. He doesn't like it. And as the immature bozo he is, he takes potshots at me occasionally (in words of course) especially when the flirting is afoot. Now, I'm not one to bother getting into it with him (he's like 6'5'') because that will surely get me nowhere.\n\nThat was my position on it UNTIL he commented on the photo. In it, we happen to be dressed as avatars for a halloween party, and it just so happens that I have reddish long hair so I just braided it rather than get a black wig. I commented in the pic that I look crazy. Well this wise guy, who was also at the party as an avatar painted blue, decides to comment on it with, \"you're covered in blue makeup and have your hair braided like a kindergarten school girl... I think your crazy is more internal than aesthetic.\"\n\nWTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  If I thought he was a friendly dude I'd laugh it off, agree and all. But no. Now it's posted on facebook for the internets to see it. LAME NO THX. So I feel the need to post a snappy but subtle comeback. AND YOU CAN HELP!", "summary": "i'm in a pic with a girl on facebook, jealous guy is jealous, posts snide comment. Help me reply with wit and subtle jabbery!"}
{"id": "t3_3p7ucm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a shitty morning and going to McDonald's", "post": "About two days ago actually I had a really shitty morning.\n\nFirstly my alarm does not go off. So I didn't have breakfast. Rush to the train station and I miss my train by 15 seconds.\n\nSo, minding my own business as I finally make it to my campus I decide to hit up McDonald's (their hash browns are really nice in Australia).\nSo as I'm walking down campus to get breakfast I hear a whirling sound. Wheels. Roller blades?\n\nI turn my head around and for about half a second I spot a little girl maybe 4 or 5 years old on a scooter. Then suddenly everything stops and I hear a sickening bang. I didn't feel anything so I thought I imagined it but sure enough she had fallen over, her little razor scooter tipped over with her.\n\nI freak out and ask her if she's okay, if she's bleeding, if her parents are nearby. On the inside I was swearing like a sailor.\n\nLuckily her dad was not too far behind, along with the girl's little sister. She wasn't hurt, there was no bleeding and by the end of it they're all consoling me instead.", "summary": "I thought I nearly killed someone because I was walking along minding my own business before they collided with me. Don't go to McDonalds for breakfast."}
{"id": "t3_2ltkud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28/F] Trying to be classy. And date several guys at once.", "post": "I recently got out of a long term relationship and am sick of being a serial monogamist. My goal for right now is to go out on actual dates (dinner, drinks, coffee) with different men, and go out on several dates and get to know them as people, and then selectively get physical with them if it feels right. Its working pretty well: I've made it clear to them that I am in no way ready for a commitment and they've each acknowledged that.\n\nExcept I finally slept with one. And he's very into me. And texts me all the time. I hate texting in general and frequently don't return texts.  (I have told him that I suck at texting but still texts me all the time). Now I'm feeling like I'm going to break his heart, even though expectations were on the table. \n\nDo I (1) need an attitude adjustment because I've been clear about my expectations with each person or (2) am I playing with fire and potentially being irresponsible by engaging with people in a romantic context and then only responding to their texts/calls when it suits me? (I'm also a genuinely busy person).\n\nI am open to general advice as well on actual dating and balancing sex and communication. (The only person I know who went on a lot of actual dates is my very old/old fashioned grandmother, and she definitely could not relate to a Tinder world.)", "summary": "I need tips on how to classy date, communicate with several different men in a limited amount of my time, and not break hearts. Oh, and potentially sleep with several men at a time while maintaining my dignity."}
{"id": "t3_ixr6n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my idea for a charity called \"Untouchable to Untouchable\" good?", "post": "I recently traveled to India and was shocked to learn the caste system is still alive and well in India.  While India I saw true poverty.  If you've seen \"Slumdog Millionaire\" you have glimpsed the surface of poverty there.   In Bombay I saw children who were 4th generation beggars.   They were also 4th generation high school graduates.   They lived on the sidewalk.    These people envied those who lived in corrugated tin roofed shacks.  These people lived essentially in huts made of 6 beams of wood and plastic tarp.    Most of them expected they would remain desperately poor their entire lives.   Then I went to the country side and saw people who were literally starving.   The only thing worse than seeing such abject poverty was the attitude most people had to them.  I would describe it as \"it's very sad, but that's the life they were born into.\"    \n\nMy idea for a charity would be one that takes children of the lowest caste- the untouchables and brings them to live, learn, and grow up in the US.   In the US there would be one goal for these kids- to make them into lawyers, doctors, engineers.   I like this idea because it says \"fuck you\" to the attitude that birth determines your place in life.   \n\nI don't know where to get started but I've been thinking about this for a couple of months and thought I would ask reddit.", "summary": "OP wants to start a charity that takes the poorest, lowest caste Indians (untouchables) and turns them into awesome professionals (untouchables).   OP wants to do this to say \"Fuck you\" to belief that birth determines a person's success."}
{"id": "t3_h96ln", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "GF was sexually assaulted by neighbor. What do?", "post": "I'll try to keep it short. I've been with my GF for a year but she just told me that she was assaulted by a neighbor on mothers day. I'm really protective, i don't like guys hitting on her so i almost blew the fuck up when i heard this.\nOn mothers day she had to get a business card from her neighbor (there are 2 guys next to her and one of them does a vhs to dvd transfer service) she goes over and rings the doorbell. The wrong neighbor answers and he drunk and high, so she tells him not to worry he can do what he wants on his own time. He offers her some wine and to see the house. She doesn't really want to but she feels safe because its a neighbor. They look at photos for a little bit and she tries to leave but he wont let her. He then grabs her boob and tries to kiss her by then she is trying to push him off (he's a big guy) and as she is making a way for the door he grabs her by the waist, he let's go because the garage door was opening at the same time.\nSo that's the story, I was ready to beat the shit out of this mother fucker but he does construction on the weekdays so he will be back on the weekend. She wanted to wait to see if he was remorseful or not but i say fuck that something has to be done. And she didn't want to tell the other roommate because she thinks he might get kicked out but i think thats the first thing she should do. I was ready to go over there with my best friend and beat the shit out of this asshole but i'm worried for my gf because he could hurt her if i'm not there. Filing a police report would probably be the best idea but she has heart surgery tomorrow so i don't think she wants the extra burden right now.", "summary": "My GF's neighbor tried to rape her basically."}
{"id": "t3_21e1dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31 F] with friend [24 F] want her happy but don't want to lead her on", "post": "We've seen each other around, but only recently are we friends.  Yes, there's attraction there (she's lesbian, I'm non-cis). \nI'm in a long term committed relationship (friend is aware).\nShe's in a 2 yr committed relationship.\nHer girlfriend treats her poorly. She's aware of it.  She's unhappy.\n\nI'm a supportive person, and even the most basic nice things you say to friends (you look nice! thanks for the delicious dinner! It's cool you like \"x\") is shocking to her. \n\nI want her to find someone who treats her right.  Treats her how she deserves.  It's too early for me to butt in specifically. But I want to drop hints that she deserves better, without implying that I am that something better.\n\nWhat makes it so difficult is that if I had met her earlier in my life this wouldn't even be a debate.\n\nAny Ideas?", "summary": "How do I tell the most amazing girl that she deserves better than current gf, without implying I'm that something better (because I can't be, not because I don't want to be)?"}
{"id": "t3_s3ufg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just noticed I don't have full access to my boyfriend's facebook profile. Should I be concerned?", "post": "I'm pretty sure this is a stupid thing to be concerned about in the grand scheme of things, but I could use some input.\n\nI was looking for one of his friends who got married recently (couldn't remember her amended last name, but I knew they were facebook friends) so I went to his profile to check his friends and locate her. But I could only see our mutual friends. And I thought it was weird. And then I noticed that his profile was pretty much the only one where I could not see a complete friends list, so I'm thinking he's got privacy filters set. \n\nNow, I KNOW he updates his filters regularly (a long while back we were having some relationship issues, and I was blocked from seeing most of his profile for a brief period of time), and he has coworkers on his friends list and screens his posts from some of them. \n\nThe thing is, I don't think I'm an overly clingy girlfriend (and he has said numerous times that I'm not). I don't try to control every aspect of his life. So I'm not sure why I no longer have full access. \n\nI'm concerned because he's had a habit in the past of poor communication (which he has attempted to work on). But he does tend to close off, and if he DID have something he wanted to keep from me, this seems like one of the ways he might attempt to do so.\n\nIs it acceptable to ask if it was just an oversight or if it was intentional? Is there a good WAY to ask? Is it possible/likely that it is just a mistake? Or is it possible he has something to hide? I'm not going to fly off the handle; it's just that his track record has been such that this could be nothing, or it could be SUPER HUGE, and I won't know until it's too late.", "summary": "Can't see my boyfriend's full facebook profile for no good goddamn reason; should I be concerned/call him on it?"}
{"id": "t3_3g3l8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] aunt [50F] keeps inviting me to sleep over at her house.", "post": "So for the rest of the summer I came to stay at my moms birthplace. My aunt[50F] keeps asking me to sleep over at her place. I don't want to go there because I'm not comfortable with her. Ever since I was a kid, she's always treated me and my brother like trash. She always tell everyone how her child is better etc. She has always been a two faced *****. Currently I'm staying with my uncle [39M] (my moms youngest brother) because since he's the youngest we're more connected. Like, he used to spend a lot of time with us growing up so we're more in sync I guess. \n\nThe problem isn't really me avoiding my aunt. The problem is she's making such a big deal about it like we've always been close. She's so childish, telling my mom[53F] things so my mother can pity her and force me to stay with her and I hate it. She makes people feel bad for her and then she stabs my mother in the back. (Making false statements so their other siblings can despise her. Turning on her on their own parents. We never had a good relationship with our grandparents because she ruined that relationship.) And still, my aunt has the audacity to make my mom feel bad that I don't like her. I have explained the situation to my mother, but still she forces me to stay at her place. Even if she already knows her sister is a *****. My mom is the eldest out of 6 children so maybe that's why she's making me keep a good relationship with my aunt. But I am turning 24 in a couple of days I'm pretty sure I can decide who I want to keep in my life.", "summary": "my aunt kept inviting me to sleep over at her place. I'm not comfortable to be around her because she is a total ****. but my mom also forces me to go because my aunt is telling my mother that she is feeling hurt because she knows I don't like her."}
{"id": "t3_526jx8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[WI] Underage Possession", "post": "Ok so me and my friend went to a liquor store off campus.  We bought a bottle of liquor each, put the bottle in our backpacks before we left the store.\nAs we were walking back to the dorms, two officers pulled over and got out of the cars to talk to us.  They asked if we had our id's on us, and then after explained that they saw us leave the liquor store.  They found out we had fake id's and asked us to open our backpacks.  We did, and they only gave us an underage possession ticket despite the fakes.  \nAnyway, I was just wondering what other actions we could have taken.  Did we have to consent to a search?  Does leaving a liquor store (that also sells cigarettes and other things we could have legally purchased) constitute enough evidence or suspicion for a search of our person?  Did we have to give them our ID?  Can they assume we are younger than 21 based off appearance alone?  Thanks for any help.", "summary": "Got an underage walking back from liquor store, not sure if I know all my rights in the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1xceu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a silly problem [M16] and gf [F16]", "post": "Ok so I have been dating her for about three weeks and the other day she brought up the fact that when she was at a party she was \"hooking up\" with this guy (before we were dating or talking). When I asked what that ment she just said that they didn't have sex.\n\n I told her I didn't want to know that and this has been bugging me ever since. I haven't gone past making out. I can't figure out if this bugs me because she brought it up or maybe I feel that when we get to that point of getting a hand job and blow job that it won't feel special to me because she has already done it. She wasn't dating the last guy.\n\nI haven't felt this way with other girls that I've been into that have lost there virginity. Every time Every time I think about this it gives me a huge lump in my stomach. I feel like I don't have any reason to feel like this but it really gets to me. Anyone experienced this or any suggestions? Thanks", "summary": "Weird feeling about gf's past encounter."}
{"id": "t3_2ze5q0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my ex out for dinner", "post": "Ok. So like many posts this FU was not today, but back in December. \n\nBACKSTORY: I had dated this girl freshman year of Highschool. Things were good, but I broke up with her out of peer pressure. I was a self conscious Freshman with little self esteem. I regretted it for years, and the fact we ended up being FWB a couple times did not help. \n\nSo we both get through our first semester of college, myself at a school in Tx, her in Ok. Didn't see each other often, but we did snapchat back and forth once and a while. Well over break she says she is tired of being single, her ex was shitty, blah blah blah. I offer to take her out.\n\nWe both dress up, and I took her to this little seafood restaurant, and go see a movie after. The movie I wanted to see so that wasn't really a problem. But I paid for all of it. Every dime.\n\nThroughout the course of the evening all the repressed feelings I had resurfaced, we kissed, it was a bomb time. \n\nAt the end she asks me to drive her to her ex's place. Are you kidding me?!? Which then she calls me right after break to tell me she's dating him again. \n\nSo cool, now I have this slight feeling of desire, mixed with the burning hatred from being screwed.", "summary": "took an ex out to dinner, brought up old feelings, got played, now I want to hate her with the fire of 1000 burning suns but still can't completely despise her."}
{"id": "t3_1xpd3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] just read a comment that makes me feel quite hopeless.. /r/relationships, is it true that it's always the same experience you have with someone you like?", "post": ">Those who have dated a lot (and the people who made Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind) will tell you that you end up desiring the same type of person over and over again. It's the same restaurants, the same conversations, the same jokes, the same view of familiar places, the same stories of your childhood told to a slightly different person with slightly different looks and habits. A slightly obscure author said, \"I like young girls. Their stories are shorter.\"\n\nIs this true? Because it makes me lose all hope of ever having a meaningful relationship with anyone if all I'm ever gonna find in someone else is just some lesser version of [this](\n\nHell, I got depressed watching Her because the main character seemed to be doing and saying things almost exactly the same as I did. So if she (a girl I liked ) is all that  I'm gonna see in someone else, then what's the point in any of this?", "summary": "In your experience, does it always feel the same when you like someone, as in do you act the same way? Say the same things?"}
{"id": "t3_2gh4mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my [26 F]. Chemistry/kissing problem. Is it just not meant to be ?", "post": "A girl that I've known for a few years and I began hooking up recently. I'm extremely attracted to her; we have tons in common and just generally get on great and have become very close. However, the kissing is just..awkward. \n\nWe both have different styles and both want to seem to lead. We acknowledged it and tried to work on it. I kissed her my way and she tried to follow suit but we just weren't synching up and couldn't get into a rhythm. She got paranoid then and wouldn't kiss me the way she usually goes about it.\n\nShe's pretty much conceded that it's a deal breaker and that we just don't have sexual chemistry. I'm not so sure. Yes, it was awkward but I wanted to work on it and hopefully we'd eventually get there, and I was still turned on during it.\n\nEverything else is perfect apart from this one thing.  I really thought I might have something with this girl.  It's something that's never ever happened either of us before.. kissing just comes naturally right? Or at least you usually adjust to what's happening. Maybe we put too much pressure on fixing it?\n\nJust wondering what peoples thoughts are on this? Are people sometimes just meant to be very good friends? Is it a sign of no sexual chemistry?", "summary": "hooking up with a girl I really like and she likes me, kisses just arent synching/awkward. Is it a sign that we're just not compatible or can it be fixed ?"}
{"id": "t3_29hvmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my [25F] together 5 months and she has issues over FB photos and posts from past relationship.", "post": "So this girl and I have been in a pretty serious relationship for the past 5ish months. She is a little older and has a 5 year old girl from a past relationship that I have just fallen in love with. I have always wanted kids and this has given me a taste of what it is like to be a Daddy.\n\nWe both love each other very much and the kid and I both love each other as well. I have taken the little girl fishing, to the zoo, on walks with the dog, etc.\n\nMy SO and I have lived together about two months and it has been a little rocky because of our situation but in terms of the relationship between us it has been great.\n\nWe met each other in detox and I went to rehab for a few months. We talked while I was there and when I got home we got together.\n\nNot too long after we started getting serious and I started getting involved with the kid she started asking a lot of questions about my ex because of things she saw on Facebook. She believes that my ex is still in love with me and that since we were together so long and still has a lot of pictures up of us together, of which I was also guilty. She asked about a couple casual conversations that my ex and I had in the last few months and I told her honestly that it was just casual conversation.\n\nShe seems to think the contrary and believes that it is only a matter of time before we end up getting back together. I tell her there is no way in hell I would do that regardless of being in a relationship or not but she is persistent.\n\nShe is so afraid I am going to break her and her daughter's hearts.\n\nI don't know what else to say to her at this point. I deleted all our photos, unfriended her, told her to please take hers down.\n\nThis has not done anything to persuade my SO otherwise.\n\nI just want a little perspective on what this is all about or what the next possible moves on my part could be.\n\nI really love this woman and her little girl and I dont want to lose them.", "summary": "SO is paranoid that I will break her and her daughter's hearts because of old photos and minimal to no contact with ex."}
{"id": "t3_lyl7v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Small community org trying to get teens involved. ideas?", "post": "so this is a little bit of the old \"le sigh, how do we get teens to care\" and part of it--well, no that's most of it.\n\nI work for a small community organization in Brooklyn, NY and my job is to try to get high school kids involved in our programs and the community (and programs involving them being involved in the community)\n\naside from making our posters say \"come to our super cool program\" and making the background a cat, what else can we do that kids could get interested in? I don't just want programs they come to (yes, those too), but I want them to feel empowered and I want it to be more than JUST because of marketing--though I'm happy to take marketing ideas as well, I'd love getting more people to know that we're doing super cool things    \n\nthe community is famously homogeneous but I'd like to avoid pandering to stereotypes ideally I'd like to get the entire community involved in something environmental and local (growing cucumbers for pickling for example), helping clean a local place of worship...  \n\nI'm sure others have had lots of experience with things that have worked (or maybe could/could've worked).  \nwhat have you got?", "summary": "? How do I go beyond giving high school kids something to do for an evening and move them towards giving them *something to do*?"}
{"id": "t3_3llhf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [43 M] with my new partner [37F] 3 weeks duration, first time trying to be intimate I had a failure to launch due to psychological block.", "post": "So here is my issue. First some background, I am fairly recently divorced (1 year) coming out of a really bad marriage of 15 years. It was a bad breakup with lots of bitterness on both sides, add to that 2 kids who I now don't get to see as often as I would like. I went from that right into a horrible abusive relationship with a much younger woman (24 F) who essentially saw I was incredibly vulnerable and used me for financial gain while filling my head with how I was a really terrible person which is why I ended up divorced and that she didn't know why she stayed with me. The end result was any self esteem I had was ruined but I somehow got addicted to her. \n\nI finally left that relationship 3 months ago after I just couldn't take it anymore. I really worked to try and improve myself and have lost a bunch of weight and my general outlook on life has improved. I met a really nice woman a couple of weeks ago and we clicked. I really like her, she likes me and hey things seem to be looking up. \n\nSo the problem, we decided to become intimate and things seemed to be going good but I couldn't get hard. I was into it, wanted it but it just wasn't happening. First time ever for me that this occurred. I have no problem getting an erection if I masturbate so it's not physical but psychological. I still have in my head the crap my ex gf used to tell me plus I guess lingering guilt over my divorce. So how do I overcome this, because I really want to develop this into a healthy relationship.", "summary": "History of bad/ abusive relationships, met nice new woman experienced failure to launch due to psychological block first time we tried to get intimate."}
{"id": "t3_gl4cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Current bf of 4 months wants to go on vacation without me and the thought of it is eating at me", "post": "I'm a 17 year old female and he is a 21 year old male. We've been dating for about 4 months and we're madly in love with each other. He's never had a gf before me and i even took his virginity. We've never been apart for more than a day and when he mentioned the idea of him going to Austin, it kinda crushed me. I'm always telling him that he should hang out with his friends and i'm always supportive of whatever it is that he's doing so of course i acted like it was no big deal and i told him that i'm really excited for him and that he should definitely go. He could hear it in my voice that i was upset but i kept on denying it. \n\nHE'S ONLY GONNA BE GONE FOR 1 WEEKEND. Like i feel so dumb that i can't even handle 2-3 days without him. I feel so clingy and desperate. I trust him 100% but i DON'T trust the people that he's going with. One of the people going is his friend that i do not like at all. He's EXTREMELY rude to me almost every time he's comes over and he's rude to my sister and he's even a dick to my bf. He's vulgar and he's constantly getting sloppy drunk, and starting fights. He's a fucking cokehead for God's sake. \nAnd another person that's going is this girl that, for some reason, i have myself convinced she likes my bf. She's really flirty towards him and has pet names for him and everything. I don't trust her or anyone for that matter. \n\nI know all of them are just gonna be rude to him and take advantage of him while they're there but he doesn't see that. Ugh i feel so retarded.\n\nTell me i'm over reacting", "summary": "bf wants to go on vacation with people i don't trust without me and i've never been without him for more than a day"}
{"id": "t3_aoeg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: Risk of pregnancy having sex without the pill.", "post": "(Throwaway account) My girlfriend and I have been dating 3 years, and are yet to have sex for one and only one reason: fear of pregnancy. Her mother had her when she was 20, and we are not looking to land ourselves in a similar situation. Because of her past, her mother is adamant about no sex before marriage. I know, hypocritical, but she's looking out for her daughter. For this reason, she cannot talk to her mother about the pill; she refuses to budge. I was just wondering what our risk of pregnancy is using only a condom as contraception. I've seen articles saying that they can have up to and even above an 8% failure rate, but almost entirely because of improper use. I'm looking for advice from people who have had sex without the pill. Thanks!", "summary": "What is the risk of pregnancy using a condom as the only form of contraception?"}
{"id": "t3_1to82u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] is in a conflict with my grandfather who is probably going to die in the next few years", "post": "This problem isn't about bf/gf but family\n\nSo long story, I don't talk to my grand father (papa) anymore because he's raising his 10 year old son to hit his mother and is trying to make him have autism (he doesn't want to accept he's responsible for his son becoming messed up so now he's forcing him to be autistic by telling him that he's not good around people, that he needs special help and that he's allowed to do what he wants *self diagnosis too* ). There is also the fact that he was incredibly heartless to the school across the road from him. Because of some architectural conflict that couldn't be helped my papa started putting up catholic hating signs and it upset the girls at the school and me and he refused to take them down.\n\nSo my problem is now that I haven't spoken to him in 2 years because he just seems to be getting worse and worse with alzheimer's and soon will need to be on an oxygen tank because he's lungs are starting to fail him (heavy smoker for 50 years) My family want me to forget everything and just talk to him again but I don't feel right about it, I don't want to be part of it.\n\nWe have a lot of loving memories before he started losing his mind and going crazy and I don't want those memories tainted with what he is now.", "summary": "My grandfather is losing his mind [alzheimer's] + [lungs starting to fail] and is being offensive to a catholic school and is teaching his son [10 M] to be autistic [self diagnosed] I don't talk to him, haven't for 2 years but now I'm being told to forget about it by my family even if it doesn't feel right."}
{"id": "t3_2nr0m8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23/Genderfluid] go on a date with a guy [23/M] I met on OKCupid this week?", "post": "So, I got out of a complicated polyamorous relationship a few months ago, and I'm just now starting to get back on my feet.  For fun, I revived my old OKC account and have been talking to a few people.  One of the guys texted me last night and asked me if I wanted to go out tonight.\n\nI'm wary of accepting for a couple of reasons.  One, I don't know this guy.  I don't know if it would even be safe.  Two, I'm not sure I'm actually ready for dating or relationships or anything right now aside from harmless flirting.  Three, I have generalized anxiety disorder and meeting new people is sort of terrifying.\n\nBut my therapist has been urging me to get out of my shell and meet new people, so I am wondering if I am being too paranoid.  Should I go out (obviously meeting in a public location and letting my friends know where I am) and try to meet this guy?  Or should I play it safe for now?", "summary": "Not sure if I should take a risk and go on an OkCupid date."}
{"id": "t3_2n5mb7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going not reading a sign", "post": "It was actually mid-august. Me and my cousin are at this water park. One of the only good slides there stood out like the Burj Khalifa. 60 feet high and it drops so steeply, that the whole ride lasts only for <5 seconds. Anyway after waiting 20 minutes in line we notice a sign saying \"Slide safely\" basically a diagram showing you how to not leave the slide in a body bag. Me being the stupid ignorant \"just look at the picture not the words\" shit that I am, can't even do that properly. I glance at the picture only looking a the top telling me to cross my arms. So my cousin goes downs the slide and basically he''s waiting for me to go. When It finally gets to my turn the lifeguard says \"so did you look at the slide safely sign and know what to do.\" I just nod and remember to cross my arms. As I go down the steep ass slide everything seems fine until I reach the buffer (break) pool at the bottom. I'm wearing a swimsuit without mesh so just bear with me here. The bottom of my swim suit goes so far up my ass I could've sworn that Ron Jeremy got in my shit walls. As I would later learn you were also supposed to cross your legs. My cuz asks me how it feels and I reply, \"I think i just shit myself,\" in a calm tone. As I walk to the other line with a humongous rectal pain and basically a limp, I notice brown water coming dripping down my legs. Great, I actually was shitting myself. \"I have to go to the bathroom and I'm going to be a while,\" I tell my cousin. \"Why?\" he asks. \"Because Satan's asshole has summoned all the way down to my legs (and by now my feet),\" I reply. It took me 20 minutes to fully wipe my ass, and I also quickly learned, shit was the least of my worries. I was bleeding! From my ASS! No not like when you take a really  sharp shit and you see blood on your feces bleeding, like I COULD FILL A WHOLE RED CROSS VAN with my  B type, bleeding. Here's a pic of the slide:", "summary": "Read the fucking sign or at least get the whole picture (pun-intended)"}
{"id": "t3_16j75y", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Should I encourage my boyfriend to exercise and eat better or is this his own issue to deal with?", "post": "When I met my boyfriend almost two years ago, he was fit and in shape. We used to run together and go hiking all the time. He was stressed out for awhile and drank a lot, and six months ago he had to move away for a different job. His new location doesn't have nice places to exercise outdoors, and he hates exercising indoors. He has gained about 30lbs since I met him and I know it affects his self-esteem. He recently found out that he is \"overweight\" and he constantly calls himself fat. I tell him that I love him and that if he is unhappy with his body image, he should exercise. But, he always makes excuses. I wonder if I should encourage him more. Is this a good idea or should I let him deal with this issue on his own. I don't want him to take my encouragement as \"I love you less because you're overweight.\" That's not the case. However, I do worry that if he continues to gain weight he could suffer health consequences since his family members have Type II Diabetes. I also just want him to feel better about himself. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Boyfriend complains that he's fat but won't do anything to get back to his healthy weight. Should I encourage him or let him deal with this alone?"}
{"id": "t3_3fp4fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It pains me (22F) to see an ex (22M) of 3 years, in a relationship with someone else. How do I move forward?", "post": "As mentioned in the title, I'm having trouble moving on from someone I dated 3 years ago. It's been a while, I'm in a good relationship now, yet one part or me can't shake this feeling of \"what could have been?\" With said ex. When I see him with someone else (online/school (we go to the same school)), I can't help but feel loss. \n\nI know my ex isn't right for me. I know I don't want him. Yet for some reason, I'm having trouble letting go of the last few feelings for him.\n\nFellow redditors and relationship gurus, can you give me any advice so I can help myself finally move forward and fully appreciate future relationships?", "summary": "still wonder what could have been with ex of 3 years. I know he isn't right for me but I'm having trouble fully moving on from him. Advice appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_4i5x0a", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My father recently underwent a quadruple bypass surgery, due to the surgeon's mistakes, he had lost his vision.", "post": "My father is a 52 year old man, located outside Philadelphia, PA, and is one of the hardest working, kindest people I've ever met. Due to an accident he endured in his 30's (he broke over 10 discs in his spine), he was no longer able to easily do sports/exercise, and therefore gained a good amount of weight over time. He was told that he had to have an urgent, quadruple bypass surgery a few months ago, and checked in to a local hospital (University of Pennsylvania unfortunately had no last minute openings). After the surgery, the surgeon had apparently nicked my father with a tool, and had triggered a ton of internal bleeding, which he did not notice and proceeded to sew my father up. Overnight my dad lost a TON of blood, and the nurses/doctor had to resuscitate him twice, bringing him back to life. This blood loss lead to a mini stroke, which in turn, one or two days later, caused my father to lose his vision. Fast forward a few months, and his vision has only come partially back. He is such a hardworker, and not being able to be independent has really caused a lot of mental stress for him. He also is not sure how much longer he will be able to realistically work, and is no where near retirement. \nMy parents had apparently given the medical records to a large law firm in Philly, who, after months, have come back to say there is \"no case against the doctor\". My question is, how could there *not* be a case, considering the doctor had severely messed up the surgery, and caused him to lose his vision (and possibly end his career)? Should they seek a second opinion, or does this seem to be a dead end? I also think I may go to the media if nothing comes of this.  Any help is extremely appreciated.", "summary": "father has heart surgery, doctor cuts him and causes massive internal bleeding, doesn't realize it and sews him up. Overnight he almost dies, has a mini stroke, and needs to be pumped full of blood. Parents lawyers claim no case against doctor/hospital."}
{"id": "t3_2v0mg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just broke up with my [20F] boyfriend [21M] of 2 years for what I think was a good reason, I feel so horrible and empty.", "post": "My boyfriend,  well I guess ex bf and I dated for a bit over 2 years, during which we lived together. We were not perfect and had many problems but were committed to working it out. We did argue frequently but both knew that we loved each other. I don't know how it happened but over time, my romantic attraction towards him decreased to the point that it's pretty much non existent. \n\nHe's my best friend. I love talking to him and being around him, but when it comes to sex or intimacy I just can't do it. I thought long and hard and chose to end the relationship half out of respect for him. I feel everyone deserves to be in a relationship where both parties want each other equally. I can't offer him that and want him to be happy in his future . As well although I know he was never mad about it. I was also feeling increasingly guilty over the lack of sex in our relationship because of me. \n\nTo me these are all logical points ( correct me if I'm wrong),  but my emotions are getting the best of me. I wish I could change the way I feel. Now I just have this horrible void in me. He was such a big part of my life and I'm just hoping I made the right choice.. Please give advice/opinions, he's saying I just didn't try hard enough. I just want to lay in bed forever. .", "summary": "Broke up with bf of 2yrs due to a lack of intimate interest , trying to decide if I made the right choice ."}
{"id": "t3_15pn52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] fell in love with the man [21M] who raped me 3 years ago, and now I can't sleep with him without having a breakdown.", "post": "When I was 16 I was raped by my friend who was 18, after being given a bloody nose and several bruises I just kind of.. gave in. He cried when he saw me three days after it happened. We talked about it for two hours that night, he couldn't stop apologizing and telling me he couldn't sleep because of the guilt. He apologized so many times and said that he felt like complete scum of the earth. He bought me flowers every day for two weeks, got them delivered to my house. For about a month after, he called every day to say he was sorry. Every day.\n\nI forgave him. Because he was so sincere. He was sorry and I knew he meant it. It wasn't like him, usually he was like a big brother to me. We just went back to being friends, but eventually we fell in love. Three years later, we're living together, we've been together for over two years. I haven't told anyone (except for whoever reads this post, I guess) because if they knew they would think he's a bad person and he's not. He treats me like gold. We don't talk about what happened because it's a part of the past and unpleasant for both of us.\n\nHe is the perfect man, he listens to me and takes me to dinner on weeknights and runs 5Ks with me and cleans the house and sings to me just because. And I love him, I completely love him.\n\nBut everytime we sleep together I get flashbacks of that night and I start crying and shaking and I can't do it. We try again every few months but I have a breakdown everytime. All I can think about is that night when I was bleeding and crying and terrified. \n\nI know that he loves me even though we don't have sex. But I really wish we could. What do you think we should do? Is there anything we could do that could make it possible for us to sleep together? Thank you, and please don't recommend that we break up.", "summary": "Three years ago I was raped by a close friend, after he apologized and bought me flowers and showed true remorse we started being friends again, then fell in love and are now living together. I can't sleep with him because I get flashbacks of the night that he raped me, and I start crying and get terrified."}
{"id": "t3_3hg2hb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] growing frustrated with my LDR girlfriend [19F] playing video games", "post": "So a little background. My girlfriend have known each other two years, we started off as friends and have slowly progressed into a relationship. We are official 3 months but have been seeing each other much longer, we stepped out of friendship about a year ago. We are long distance (around 4 hours) and we try and see each other for a week, twice a month.\n\nNow the thing I really need help with is this, she tends to play video games a lot and recently it's been during important conversations. I am a really insecure person, growing up with alopecia and struggling greatly with the way I look. She has been great and has always stressed to me to text/call her when I'm feeling low about myself or ever feel not good enough. Today I text her this (I was at work so could not call) we text back and forth for about an hour before she disappears and is playing some online games with some friends. It is not the first time she has done something like this. It's not even always about me, if we are having any important conversation she can run off a lot.\n\nThe question is, am I just being absolutely ridiculous? I feel selfish expecting her to be there all the time. I just don't know what to do. I am getting help for my self confidence but I just wish she was there more often and for her not to run away mid conversation. What should I do?", "summary": "LDR Girlfriend playing games during important conversations."}
{"id": "t3_1beto7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I fixed something! One stupid little thing that I broke to begin with is now working again.", "post": "As the new admin of IT at my library, I inspire confidence in all the employees just by being here while they work on their computers. When anything electronic needs any kind of maintenance, repair, instillation, etc. *I ride down from Mt. Olympus and activate my powers of computing to quicken all the digital world.*\n\nThe only problem is that **I am shit with computers.** I have no idea how I got this job because most of you reading this probably know better how to use them than I do. I broke explorer by trying to install an update. *I'm that bad at it.* \n\nBut I fumble through this and everyone cheers! \"Great job, Crazybay. You are vital to our staff, CrazyBay.\" \"Do you want another raise? No? How about we just buy you subway once a week, put you on salary, and pay your cell phone and internet bills?\"\n\nI recently screwed up one of my bosses computers pretty bad (it may have not actually been my fault but probably was). After a full weekend of stress and reading dozens of pages of stuff on support.microsoft.com, I not only unbroke it, but I also installed the ghetto new circulation system on her office computer!!\n\nThis shouldn't matter as much as it does to me but now I feel just the slightest bit validated in receiving the beef-up paycheck that came with the job.", "summary": "I got an IT job (that I am severely underqualified for) and I am delighting in my small victories of repair and maintenance success!"}
{"id": "t3_1mzb51", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, what is the best prank you know?", "post": "My friend texted me last night posing as a relatively cute girl that actually existed on fb. (I had gotten a new phone that day so I lost the majority of my contacts). I fell for it for 18 hours then realized my friends had been way too interested in the situation, as if they knew. Then realized my friend had been texting at the same time i,got replies. Called him out and he confessed. Now I need revenge. I'm not talking about an old banana in the locker or a whoopie cushion, but a juicy, diabolical prank. Make up your own for all I care.", "summary": "Friend pulled a joke on me. Need revenge. "}
{"id": "t3_1pprvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [44 F] with my friend [44 F] 32 years, I lied to her 25 years ago and having anxiety about it now.", "post": "She and I have been best friends since we were children and have been through a ton of shit together and are still best friends to this day. \n\nShe liked a guy when we were 19 years old and they had slept together a couple of times.  He didn't want a relationship but she did, so she ended it but still had feelings for him.\n\nI do not remember the time in between but he came on to me and I slept with him.  She had moved away by this time. Word traveled fast and she found out and confronted me on the phone.  She asked if it was just once and I said yes.  She asked if I was drunk and I said yes.  Both are not true.  It was twice and I wasn't drunk.  No excuses.  I broke the girl code.  I was so afraid of losing her that I thought this way she would know kind of what happened and I had a better chance of retaining the friendship.  I am honest when I say there was no maliciousness involved in not telling her.  Truth is, I was and may still be a coward. Come to find out years later I trickle truthed her. \n\nI have generalized anxiety.  For whatever reason lately, this incident is first and foremost in my head when the anxiety hits.  I keep thinking I should tell her but it may just be to assuage my own guilt and a way to reduce the emotional pain.  I have spoken to my psychologist about this and he said that it was so long ago and she knows the act that happened that there is no need to hurt her again unnecessarily.  He seems to think that my anxiety is looking for an outlet and has latched on to this event.  I honestly hadn't thought of the event in years.  So much has happened in both our lives (marriages, children, etc) that it seems like ancient history. I don't know what to do and would appreciate some outside perspective.  Thank you.", "summary": "Broke the girl code 25 years ago and lied about it.  Anxiety is shining a spot light on it and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_23uwcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] am very confused by my boyfriend's [22/M] sudden change in behaviour - he's suddenly become very distant, to the point where I'm even preparing myself for a breakup. Am I over-reacting?", "post": "Our relationship so far (a few months) has been going great. When we're together he makes me feel very loved, and very wanted.\n\nHowever, over the past two weeks, he has made me feel the exact opposite of 'loved and wanted.' I'm starting to remember what it feels like to be single.\n\nIt's been two weeks since we've hung out and our one attempt at making plans since then has fizzled over. \n\nBut I know that when we do actually organise to hang, I'll be sweating bullets in fear that he'll be about to break up with me.\n\nHe's the first guy that I've really cared about, and this is not a fun time for me.\n\n____", "summary": "everything was sunshine and lollipops, but then my boyfriend seemed to drop off the face of the earth. I'm afraid he's about to break up with me. Am I over-reacting, or should I just calm my tits?"}
{"id": "t3_m6nf8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having lunch with a General. Anything you want me to ask him? (X-post from r/military)", "post": "I'm in OSAN AB, Korea and since I got put in for an achievement medal for some work-related stuff, I got told to go have lunch at this thing with the USAF PACAF commander, Gen. North. He's a four-star general. Usually you're supposed to have a few questions ready to ask so you don't look like a douchenozzle, but since I'm in such rush to hit my DOS, I really don't have much for him.\n\nAs a point of reference, I have a line number for E-5 so I'm really not trying to troll the guy, since general officers tend to win the troll war, but if anybody has any questions, it'd help me not look like a slacker. I'd of course report back to ya with whatever he answered with.", "summary": "Does anyone have any questions for a four-star general?"}
{"id": "t3_4dut5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my boyfriend [21 M] and our 1 year anniversary fiasco", "post": "To keep things short and sweet, we live about 2 hours from each other and today was our 1 year anniversary. I took off as did he and I made the trip last night to go visit him so we could celebrate our 1 year together. Today however, we did nothing but look for clothes for his new job as a server.\n\nWe woke up early and tried to make things snappy, as 4PM rolls around we're finally wrapping things up but we're both frustrated because we wanted to have a day together to do 1 year anniversary things (go to museums, get food, go see a movie). Due to it being such an ordeal going from shop to shop, mall to mall that by the end of it we didn't have time to do any of it because everything would be closed after we battled through city 5o'clock traffic. He had a melt-down because I wanted to go back home and sleep in my own bed because I was exhausted and I didn't see a point in staying if he had to work at 7AM the next day.\n\nMy question to you, reddit; Am I totally out of line for being upset that he didn't really take care of his commitments before hand or am I just a needy little bitch? Please help me understand his side because I so badly want to get over this but I just cant understand his train of thought when I stopped my multiple projects a day early so I could come on Wednesday night and not Thursday morning.", "summary": "On our 1 year anniversary, we shopped all day for clothes for his new job. Am I a baby back bitch for being upset?"}
{"id": "t3_38lmwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] Can't find dates let alone a relationship", "post": "I'm 25 and have been actively looking for a relationship for over 2 years now and have not even gone on so much as a date, I use online dating, go out to shows, go to clubs and plenty of other places but have found no luck.\n\nI have no problems with long distance relationships but those too have eluded me. I feel as if I'm pretty good looking and am an interesting guy. But while maybe not the norm for the area I live in, I thought it wouldn't be THIS hard to find someone, especially since I don't mind long distance.\n\nDoes anyone else have a similar problem, man or woman?", "summary": "Do You have a problem finding dates?"}
{"id": "t3_37ruep", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[IL, USA] Speed bumps causing damage", "post": "I was heading through a local privately owned trailer park to get to my grandmother's house and on the way there, I hit a speed bump. I was going the posted 25 mph but I didn't notice the bump. These are very steep bumps, about 5 or 6 inches tall and without any warning signs. The bump rocked my car and my car immediately started making nasty sounds when I turned. I brought it into a mechanic and they said I had a broken right axle and a damaged socket joint and the whole repair cost me $300. The car was a 2001 Ford Taurus but was well maintained and cared for.  My mechanic would testify to that.  Do I have any grounds in small claims court?", "summary": "An unmarked speed bump in a private community busted my axle even though I was going the posted speed."}
{"id": "t3_iudfu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit: If I posted a link to my psychology experiment, would you guys troll all over it?", "post": "I currently am doing research at nasa branch jpl in southern California studying the psychological factors that affect risk assessment and cost estimation. We have an online test and my boss wants me to get more data points into it, and i thought of reddit. It's a short task, about five minutes of your time, but I am really scared that internet people are not to be trusted. But im wrong, right? It's for the good of science and Redditors are progressive, intelligent, helpful souls, yes? I am really scared and concerned that internet anonymity will allow most of the people i send this test to just completely not give a shit about it and put in random crap answers, even though their email and name and stuff will be verified. If you guys are for realsies and can convince this tortured soul I shall post the site up as soon as it's ready (it isn't ready yet).", "summary": "are you going to fuck with my research or not"}
{"id": "t3_3limh3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reserving a flight for the wrong date", "post": "A couple of weeks ago, I reserved a flight to go to college for what I thought was September 19th (tomorrow). Just making a second check of my reservation today, I realized that it said the 26th (one week later) instead of the 19th. I spent about an hour trying to figure out my options to fix this. I was flying out of a small airport, so all flights to my destination were sold out. The same thing goes for all surrounding airports. Finally, I called customer service and was able to get a flight leaving the 20th, a day after originally planned, but I guess it will have to work. It ended up costing me practically twice as much because my ticket was nonrefundable.", "summary": "I reserved a flight for a week later than planned. It was a costly mistake (literally)."}
{"id": "t3_2j7rwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] don't know how to handle this FWB thing with this girl [18 F] [Couple weeks?]", "post": "I'm not really sure if this is the proper subreddit but I'll try and make this fast and to the point.  I've been banging this girl that I hardly know, more of a friend of a friend really, for a bit now.  I've never really had any decently fufillig relationships before, and this is really the first time I've ever been intimate in any way with someone before.  Not only in terms of sex but just anything, even just sharing your body with someone like that. \n\nI'm sure I didn't rock her world or anything, but yet every time she's over at our house (live with two roommates) no matter how little we actually talk or how uninterested she seems she always ends up going to my bed and we always end up fucking.  Don't get me wrong its nice, but I'm started to get worried about the future of this.  I don't want a relationship right now, or at least not one that I am not entirely behind, too much other shit on my plate.  Her friend told me she basically feels the same way, but she also kept getting me to text her and now the girl herself left her number on my bed.  Its not like she doesn't seem alright, or that I wouldn't mind this sort of thing going on for a little while longer but what if I meet someone whom I actually want to 'pursue' while this is happening and she ends up getting hurt making things really awkward every time she's over?  Or even worse I think I just might be scared that if I get to know her I'll fall for her and essentially have the reverse to happen for me.\n\nI dont know, I guess I just hate putting effort towards things I'm not invested in...  While talking to her is obviously good and I do want to get to know her more, I feel like texting her and making this something more than it is is just asking for trouble down the road...help?", "summary": "Have a FWB kind of arrangement going on with more of an acquaintance haha, but starting to worry a bit about where it might go and if I should break it off before something happens.  Am I being overly paranoid/analytical?"}
{"id": "t3_3jkuxm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25/F] in grad school, my BF [26/M] has a traveling career, and our relationship of 4 years has become distant... should we break up?", "post": "I'm in my third year as a medical student and my BF is a consultant and he travels all over the place for work. He comes home from time to time on the weekends (like twice a month) and we would hang out and stuff but I feel  like we are becoming distant. I have my own group of close friends that I always hang out with and they're usually with their BF/GF and i'm usually alone since he's away for work. I feel kind of left out at times and there are numerous of people that have tried to hit on me because they think I'm single. I usually brush it off because I love him and we've been dating for 4+ years and I want to stay faithful. He is usually stressed out from work and when he comes back and he doesn't want to do stuff that I want to do with my friends.\n\nWe have been arguing a lot recently since we usually talk every night, but he's been out with his co-workers drinking at bars after work almost every other night. When he comes back to his hotel, he would just be like \"I'm so tired, can we talk tomorrow?\", etc. When I hang out with my friends on the weekend and he's not there, he gets jealous. He has trust issues in the past and I completely understand him. He would be really mad if he found out that I've danced with other guys or got completely drunk from time to time. I'm not trying to hook up with anyone or anything, I love him dearly. I'm just trying to have fun with my friends since he's never here.\n\nSo, I don't know if I should continue to be with him... or break it off. He's a really perfect guy and he's never done anything to make me feel jealous or uncomfortable. But his actions lately and all of the arguing is making me question myself. What do you think  I should do??", "summary": "I'm a 3rd year grad student, BF has traveling job. We don't see each other often and we've become distant. He's been shady about going out with his coworkers and gets mad if I go clubbing/hang out with friends. We have also been arguing a lot lately. Should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_13q7tp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "18 year old guy, first relationship. Please help.", "post": "We split up in the middle of the summer because she was leaving for the semester, and she wasn't into me anymore (or so she claimed). We got back together at the end of the summer temporarily when our families stayed at the same hotel for a week during vacation.\n\nShe left for the semester, started hooking up with a douche who eventually cheated on her and got expelled. I made a terrible decision and hooked up with one of her friends and had a brief fling with another one. I was incredibly depressed and looking for someone to cling to for support. She had a brief fling with another guy and is currently pursuing a third. We talk a lot over email and chat, although it's mostly me who initiates contact. Towards the beginning of the semester I asked several times if she wanted to get back together and she said it was too early to tell. The last time, I pressed her for an answer (was a month or two ago), and she rejected me pretty brutally.\n\nShe came back for thanksgiving break and didn't particularly want to see me, although she wasn't totally opposed to it. She went to a random party and hooked up with several guys but apparently they weren't particularly desirable. She posted a bunch of shit on her tumblr about lost love and missing someone. She could mean me, or could mean the guy she's currently pursuing. I have no idea. She posted a picture with the caption: \"You used to be alright. What happened?\" and said \"[name], lovie, this is for you.\"\n\nThose are the facts and I have no idea what to make of them. I think she still has feelings for me, but is also angry/disgusted with my hooking up with her friends. I've apologized and explained myself to her, and I don't know how best to help the situation now.\n\nI would really like to get back with her when she gets back, but I don't know if that's possible or how best to go about doing that. My idea was to give her some space for a month (aka no contact) and seeing how she feels when she gets back. Am I an idiot? What should I be doing? I have no idea what to do. Please please help.", "summary": "my girlfriend and I broke up for the semester, I got with 2 of her friends briefly (huge mistake), but she may still have feelings for me. Is it even possible to salvage something?"}
{"id": "t3_1xlbk0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17f] cannot figure if crush [19m] is interested in me or just bored. How can I ask?", "post": "So I've been chatting on fb almost weekly for substantial periods of time (20 min - 1 hr) with a boy who graduated from my school last year for almost a year now and I can't tell if he actually enjoys our conversations or feels obligated to respond and wishes I would leave him alone. I've been able to see him in person a couple of times since he left for college (once when I visited his city and asked and once when he came back and said he'd try to see me, which he did.) over Christmas break I tried to see him and he was busy (legitimately so, I believe, but there was no mention of trying another time) and when I messaged him he took much longer than usual to reply so I decided not to try contacting him in case he was trying to get rid of me (I almost always start the conversation.) A little over two weeks later, he messaged me and we talked for about an hour. I messaged him about a week after to say our school had posted a baby photo of him (he's the son of two teachers, that's why it was posted) and we talked for a while. There wasn't a clear ending to the conversation as we seemed to miss when the other was online but we were having a good conversation when he just stopped responding. It's been three days and he hasn't even read the message. \n\nI can't figure out what's going on here. Does he actually want to be friends or does he just like talking to me when he's bored or am\nI the annoying girl who can't take a hint? Can I ask about it? I'm worried to say anything because it'll probably come off as needy (and maybe it is) and I'll look extremely insecure but at the same time I'm tired of constantly wondering about this. I hate that I get worked up waiting for him to reply and I'd just like to know what he's thinking so I know if it's even worth it to continue making an effort to be friends. \n\nWhat should I do? Is there any eloquent way to approach this or should I just let it be?", "summary": "I want to know where I stand with a guy but his spotty replies are making it really difficult to find out. Do I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_4z7qlq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be inappropriate for me (20F) to ask a new friend (30-40sF) if I can live with her?", "post": "I was planning to move into my new apartment in exactly a week. This morning I found out that we are not supposed to have pets there (I have a small dog).  One girl who lives there has a cat and she was forced to take it to her friend's place. \n\nI met a lady last week at the dog park and we got to talking for a bit. She and her partner live in a 4BR house, just the two of them, and are currently converting their spare rooms into an Airbnb. She was super excited about it and even said she's not doing it to make money, she just wants to meet new people and provide a cheap place for people to stay, as a lot of places in my area are way overpriced. Before we left she gave me her cell because she found out I do a lot of house sitting and said she would love for me to house sit for them as they travel a lot. \n\nMy question is: would it be inappropriate for me to ask if maybe I could rent out one of her spare rooms? Maybe not all year, but at least until I could find a pet friendly apartment? I only hesitate because I just met her, and don't want to make things awkward between us.", "summary": "in desperate need of housing, met a lady at the dog park with 3 spare rooms she's planning on using for an air bnb. Would it be weird if I ask her if I could rent out one of her rooms until I find something permanent?"}
{"id": "t3_1d8rmc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "F/20 Should I be worried about our future together?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months and we're planning on living together this coming fall. He and I won't see each other during the summer months since we'll be in different states working, and we'll move in together right when he gets back. I am one hundred percent ready to make this leap with him, but what makes me hesitate is that he recently told me that his love for me comes and goes in waves, and that he feels more fulfilled when he is alone because he is more productive. This brought on the topic that he thinks that living together like this will either solidify our relationship or end it. I think it's a bit strange to bring this up while still planning on moving in together... Our relationship has been a bit rocky because of the lack of productivity together. When we're together, we just want to BE together: not be bothered by friends, school, etc. Just be in each others company. This has made both of our grades suffer, and friendships. Which has soured the relationship. We both said that when we look back on our history together, it's been great but not as great as it could be because of how little we have actually done. I am just worried that this isn't the right step to take in our relationship if he feels so rocky about it, and if our relationship is based off of a history of non-productivity. \nHave any of you been in this situation? And what did you do to fix it? Or can it be fixed?", "summary": "In relationship that is leveling up: moving in. Boyfriend mentions love has wavered. Have problems with being productive together, want to fix it before the inevitable.  Advice!"}
{"id": "t3_2vvlmx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a customer cry", "post": "I work in a supermarket. One of my jobs is to supervise the self serve checkout machines, yes those annoying machines that wont shut up about unexpected items and whatnot... \n\nQuite often customers leave their groceries or personal belongings behind even after paying. When it is really busy I don't notice until they are long gone so I just put their items behind the counter and forget about them. This happens quite often (people are stupid, no offence) including today when someone left a rose behind. I remember them buying a lot of items so they must have forgotten about it.\n\nI saw the rose lying against the machine so I decided to put it back in the bucket of water just next to the store entrance. As I turned around this cute girl was standing on the other side of the self checkouts using one of the machines but looked at me as I was walking in her direction. Without hesitation I then just gave her the rose, I didn't even think, and said \"happy valentines day\". \n\nShe held the rose and just stood there without any change in expression for a good 10 seconds. During that time all I could think of was how awkward I felt and how I shouldn't have just done that, I felt immediately sick. She then started crying saying how nice it was for me to give her the flower and walked out of the shops without any of her food. She walked away pretty fast too, almost like a slow jog, while trying to hide from everyone how much she was crying.\n\nI then had to put back all her food at the end of the day.", "summary": "Made a customer cry and leave with embarrassment after giving them a flower."}
{"id": "t3_y1vip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21m/22f] Dating for 18 months, no plans for the future...?", "post": "Hi /relationships, this is my first post. I read the rules, but please let me know if I missed anything :)\n\nSo I've been dating this wonderful girl for about a year and a half now. She absolutely adores me, would do anything for me, and I would do the same for her. We're both college grads and live near each other in a bigger city. \n\nBut as much as I enjoy our relationship and feel devoted to her, when I look to future I can't see us together. Whenever I think about moving in together, or even getting engaged, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach. I can't picture marrying her. I can't picture marrying anyone right now.\n\nI think what we have is just a \"comfortable\" relationship. But when do I need to either commit to the next step or break it off? She was looking at apartments online the other day and started using words like \"we\" when describing moving into them. We had a talk about how I wasn't ready for anything a few months ago and she seemed to be on the same page, but lately she's been hinting at the long-term kind of things, and says her family is asking her about me and our plans as well.", "summary": "happy with my girl for 18 months, not ready to move further. Do I keep going at this level or break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_1gn4e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[19F] boyfriend[19F] told his friends I was a virgin. Should I be mad?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months and I called him tonight while he was smoking weed with his friends... Well, his friends began to say various things about him in the background, such as loud discussions about his sex life and what he thinks of me. My boyfriend started to get very nervous when one of his friends claimed that he slept with three girls when my boyfriend has claimed to have slept with one.\n\nFinally, one of his friends shouts \"hey is that your virgin girlfriend your on the phone with?\" I felt as though I was being mocked and immediately said that we should say goodnight. I don't know if it is me overreacting, but I feel like that is something that should be kept private between me and him. Am I right?", "summary": "My boyfriend told his friends I was a virgin. I am very bothered by it."}
{"id": "t3_2xg3xa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I give up ?", "post": "Hi everyone I am in love with someone for the past 3 years I haven't told her we are good friends I remember the first year I liked her she liked me but I was scared to do anything.\n\nShe is always going out to other boys she is beautiful funny smart everything and when I think that I couldn't be with her I just get all depressed and shit.\n\nOne of my friends asked her what does she think about me she said just friends and nothing more I love her \n\nI know I wont be with her and I think if I did ask her it would be awkward or we wont me friends anymore i don't know what to do ask her or don't if I do she will most likely say no since she sort of all ready said it ? This is more getting of my chest as well but I need advice.\nI'm 16 she is also 16", "summary": "loving someone for 3 years debating to ask her out good friends don't want to ruin friendship"}
{"id": "t3_1emvp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m24] am developing strong feelings for a friend [f23] who is in a relationship.", "post": "I don't think this is going to be an incredibly complex query. There's only so many things I can do in my situation. I just need some common sense up in here.\n\nI really like her [f23] and I [m24] get the impression she likes me back. Nothing serious or cheat-y for her current bf [m23] of 1.5 years. Little stuff. The way we smile when together, body language, etc. I guess the most that I can safely claim is that I mean a lot to her, and she means a lot to me. We see a lot of each other, which is a complicating factor. I'd suspect that I take second place on the list of people she sees most often, with first place being obvious.\n\nSo it all sounds like roses except that she's in a relationship, which I totally respect. Inciting any sort of adulterous behaviour is very much not on my agenda.\n\nI just don't really know what to do here, though its probably obvious to you fine folks. It's been an absurdly long time since I've been in a situation like this and I really don't know what the right course of action is. \n\nSitting around and waiting patiently until the next time she's single really seems like the wrong way about this. I *think* (maybe wrongly!) that my general plan should be to keep that card close to the chest and focus on other opportunities until maybe one day we're on the same page. The problem is that I just don't really know how to handle the friendship in the meantime.\n\nDo I see more of her or less of her? Do I try ditch my feelings because the whole thing is doomed to fail? Do I tell her how I feel and feel like a scumbag for putting myself between the two of them, or do I not say anything at all and feel like a scumbag for being dishonest about our friendship? Is there any way to not feel like a scumbag? In a way, explain like I'm five. Assume I'm totally clueless because I probably am.", "summary": "I have feelings for a friend (among my best friends) who is in a relationship. I don't really know how to handle the friendship. We see a lot of each other right now and I feel like considering the circumstances that can't be good, but creating distance sort of seems selfish in a way. Can't help but feel bad. Seeking guidance."}
{"id": "t3_e57xt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Good girl question", "post": "I live in a city where there aren't many \"good girls\" so to say or at least they're very hard to find. I believe I've found one but because it's been so long, I'm almost at a loss at how to go about being with her. I haven't had a real relationship in over 2 years, just a lot of flings or casual hookups. \n\nWe've been on a couple dates, we're extremely flirty and have great chemistry. I only got a kiss after the 3rd date but nothing too major. Now I'm use to aggressive girls who make it clear what they want. I haven't dated a reserved girl in a long time, so I'm not sure if I'm reading things right. She's very flirty and we talk throughout the week but when it comes to dropping her off at the end of the night, she settles for a kiss and goes in. At first I was going to brush it off as she's not interested but she clearly wants to keep hanging out. She knows some of my previous girlfriends, I'm not a player by any means but I rarely get involved in an actual relationship. I do like her and don't want to push her past her boundaries before she's ready but I'm like a 13 year old all over again when dealing with a good girl.\n\nSo end all question, does she seem like a good girl that's just taking things slow? To reiterate, I haven't been with a girl in a long time that has made me go through the paces in regards to first kiss, etc.", "summary": "after a few dates, everything seems good but she seems to either be taking things slow or just not interested."}
{"id": "t3_3nuf9x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling out a line cutter", "post": "I was at a grocery store last night, picking some stuff up for a date, and I got in line at the express counter, but a man came over and stood in front of me. At first I thought I'd let it go, but then decided to say something, so I said something alone the lines of \"hey, um, sorry, I don't mean to be rude, but I was standing right there when you came over and got in line . . .\"\n\nAnd he let me go in front of him, at first apologizing but then said \"it's not a big deal, you don't have to have a cow about it.\"\n\nFirst of all, WTF is this, 1998? Second, I wasn't having a cow, I was trying to be as polite as possible in letting him know he'd cut me in line. So now I am a little agitated, and said \"well you don't just cut people in line!\" and we got into an argument about whether he knew what he was doing. He said \"fuuuuck yoouuu\" and I said \"fuck you too,\" and he flew off the handle, started calling me a bitch over and over as I was paying for my stuff. It was really, really terrible and I was badly shaken by the end of it.\n\nI know I wasn't nice, it was a bad idea to engage after he made that \"have a cow\" comment, should've given him the benefit of the doubt when he said he didn't see me, and I really didn't need to return the f-bomb he hurled at me. Should've just let it go.", "summary": "told a guy he cut me in line, got in an argument, things got ugly and he swore at me and called me a bitch repeatedly."}
{"id": "t3_1fqll0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[m19] want to know best way to not get boring to a girl [f22] who I kinda have a thing with", "post": "So im starting to get to know this girl[f22] better and I[m19] want to make sure I dont get boring, it has happened to me before.  We just spent 2 weeks together at a spring class thing that was in the mountains.  There was about 10 of us that built a pretty tight nit group but me and her hit it off real well.\n\nSince we were with each other basically 24/7 for two weeks, we didnt have to text to talk(could just talk in person) or have to plan to hangout, it just happened but now that were back home I want the \"thing\" to go somewhere but im afraid I will get boring.\n\nWhat do you all think i should do to not get boring and to get this to go somewhere.  Oh and one more thing, she does have a slight concern that where to far apart in age but she doesn't consider is a huge deal and she seems to be interested in taking it further as well.", "summary": "spent 2 weeks basically with girl 24/7 during a off campus college class, theres a spark but I dont want to get boring and her to lose interest...suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_331opp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [18M] is very angry at me [18F] because I don't like jewelry.", "post": "We have been together over two years, but got in a very large fight today. We have large fights occasionally where my boyfriend just gets blinded by his anger. \n\nI have never ever liked jewelry, and haven't worn a single item of jewelry since elementary school, my ears aren't even pierced. Even with this fact, my boyfriend continues to buy me jewelry.\n\nI haven't been rude about it up until this point, because you shouldn't ever really refuse a gift. But I do make a point to him that I don't like jewelry, and never wear it, while trying to be as polite as possible. For some reason, he can't understand this about me and continues to get angry that he buys me jewelry I don't wear, etc. etc. He just seems to not understand I don't want this type of typically \"nice\" gift. I still thank him for the original intent, but at what point should he start treating me as a person with individual likes and dislikes? He just expects me to like typical \"girl\"  things. He's very upset with me and calling me ungrateful. Sigh. Maybe he's right. It's just something I will never be able to like but am expected to be grateful for anyway :/ \n\nAlso, I would understand if we just started dating, but it's been two and a half years of this. I don't want to lie to him about my interests though.\n\nHe is also trying to break up with me right now....but he does that every time he gets angry.", "summary": "Boyfriend, after 2.5 years....still can't accept that I do not like jewelry at all. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1dxn8p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "F[19] Met a very nice guy, but he is leaving very soon!", "post": "Basically, I've recently met this very nice boy that I instantaneously fell head over heals for. He's very sweet and I feel that he is perfect match for me and he feels the same! We've only known each other for a month and we are both 19.\n\nUnfortunately... we're both young and in college and he is moving back in with his parents for the entire summer, starting on the 21st or so. So we'll be roughly 4 hours apart for around 4 months.\n\nMy question is, what should I do now? At this point I feel like I'm falling harder and harder for him, but I'm afraid that I'll be really sad and lonely when he leaves. Should I stop seeing him until he gets back? Or should we keep in touch? Help me not be irrational, because if he asked me to be in a long distance relationship with him, I might consider it.", "summary": "Falling for a guy who is leaving far out of town for 4 months. Unsure of what I should do about it!"}
{"id": "t3_3ealg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 2 months and am having second thoughts about it", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for two months now. We started dating a month after we started talking, and at the beginning it was rough because it was summer after college and we were both home, not being able to see each other for a few months. After coming back for school (a few weeks now), I realized that being together isn't all that great. I feel like we having nothing to talk about, differences in humor, he's prone to \"teasing me\" (makes jokes about acne, weight, etc.) that became increasingly irritating. I don't actually feel like I like him emotionally, but since I've never been in a relationship before, I can't tell if this is just me being too picky and having high expectations. Should I break it off, or is 2 months of dating too short to really know if I \"like\" someone? I mean, when we're being nice and actually talking and laughing, I feel great, but other time, I have to constantly ask myself if I'm actually enjoying the relationship or just wasting my time.", "summary": "Dating for two months, not sure if I like the guy. Too early to tell, or should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_27v4cy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/M] am in a new relationship with a girl [19/F] who's ex cheated on her. I have once cheated before (a kiss only) and I feel I should tell her, how would I do that?", "post": "This was posted in a thread in /r/askreddit about people cheating on their SO's. I posted it late so it probably won't be seen but it is an issue of mine I am trying to suss out. Maybe you guys can help me?\n\nI have only cheated once and that was with my ex. It was one of those relationships where we really should not have gone past the \"just friends\" stage but we were both single and desperate. I know, great grounds of a relationship right there.\n\nA couple of months of really awkward dating I go out to town with my mates, i get drunk and end up kissing someone from my university. This would be the first time I had ever cheated so I kinda freaked out a bit, the next day I messaged my mate about what happened and later during one of my rugby games my girlfriend got to my phone and checked my facebook and saw the conversation.\n\nIt all went down hill. She broke it off with me and I eventually dated the girl I kissed. That didn't last long either.\n\nIt's one of the things i regret most in my life is not being true. I have a new relationship now with a girl who I really care about. She is beautiful, kind and supportive and has a great personality and I will always be true to her, We just click together.\n\nHowever she does not know about this small bit of information about me about my one time cheating... and she has come to me after a relationship with a guy who consistently cheated on her countless times. I want to show her that she can trust me and that I am a one girl man but I am not sure how to approach her with this information without it going haywire...\n\n/r/relationship_advice, please tell me, how can I approach her with the truth but still save face and keep what we have going strong?", "summary": "I cheated once with only a kiss, new girlfriend's ex cheated on her constantly so she has trust issues (she admits that). I feel to be truthful to her I need to tell her about this one time but still be able to assure her that I am true to her. How can I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_1uyfbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my GF [16F] 1 month, she stops talking when conversation is about me.", "post": "It seems that whenever my girlfriend and I text each other back and forth it alway has to be about her. Yes I know women like talking about themselves, but this is too far. Whenever the conversation turns to me for a change, she becomes dry and even just doesn't reply. Even if she asks me how my day was, and I say something like ' personally one of my best days in a while', she will not even ask why and just ramble on about herself and her day.\n\nI need help deciding what I should do. I mean a healthy relationship involves good communication and trust, right now, those 2 are atrocious in my opinion.", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't ever talk about me, only herself."}
{"id": "t3_4rij3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 29F am feeling very insecure about my 32M boyfriend 3 years because he had cheated on me in the past. I need some tips and advice.", "post": "Parker and I have been together for 3 years. Very very early on he cheated, and we went to couples counseling because he was very determined to make me feel important and make the relationship work. It ended up helping a lot and we have a good relationship.\n\nBut there is that just nag in the back of my head that I am so insecure. I am open with him about being insecure at time but he just says I need to not worry about things, and that he has done what he can to help me with my insecurity but he doesn't know what else to do and it is up to me to get over my insecurites. Which I get that, he said it from a place of love and I wasn't upset.\n\nEvery relationship I have ever been in I have been cheated on. Which sucks, and it sucks that it happened with Parker but I am just a little screwed up from being cheated on so much.\n\nI want this to work with Parker, and I trust him but sometimes I just feel so insecure. Last night a pretty girl at the bar we were at who he is friends with came up and started talking to him and it was harmless and whatever but on the inside I just felt so insecure.\n\nI have a great career and a good life and yada yada. I just don't even know what to do. I know I will kill the relationship if I continue on like this. \n\nHelp :(", "summary": "Insecure, and have been cheated on in every relationship I have ever been in. Need some advice to get over my severe insecurities before I ruin my current relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3gp867", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I 20m am bring asked by parents to loan them 2500 usd in order for them to fight an \"illegal foreclosure\". Ideas?", "post": "I have already lent them well over 1500 in the past year, which I have yet to see any returned to me. They are also asking my brother for the same amount for a total of 5000 in order to cover attorney fees. My parents say that Wells Fargo illegally foreclosed their house and that they need this amount in order to,\"take the lawsuit to Los Angeles Superior Court.\" However I haven't been supplied with much details Pertaining to the lawsuit and haven't been to find much on my own, therefore I'm in  need of a bit of help regarding where to start.", "summary": "Parents  want 2500 from me for lawsuit against Wells Fargo for foreclosure. Where to begin?"}
{"id": "t3_2t9tzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] have been with my girlfriend [19 F] for 2 years. She just told me that she was not a virgin the first time we had sex a year ago. Am I crazy for feeling betrayed and wanting to end the relationship?", "post": "To preface, I was really open about sex in the beginning of the relationship. I told her that while I do not mind if she had done it with anybody before, she should let me know as I had never done it with anyone before her. I also made it very clear that I wanted to give up my first time with somebody special, and a year into the relationship, I decided she was the one. I had 3 fairly serious girlfriends before her, but I never got to the point where I wanted them to be my first. \n\nI honestly feel a little sick looking back on our relationship now. She would joke about how she took my v card and how I took hers. She always said how she was happy I was her first. I feel really betrayed that she could lie to me so easily for so long in the relationship. I believe this is the end of the relationship. \n\nAm I crazy for feeling so betrayed? I'm talking to my girlfriend tomorrow to likely end the relationship.", "summary": "Girlfriend lied to me constantly that I was her first. I want to end our relationship because of her ability to lie straight to my face."}
{"id": "t3_1apkug", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "At my new job they make me ride in the back of a 1 ton box truck, What can I do Reddit?", "post": "I got a new job, and it pay's quite well, (especially for a broke 20 year old) but every day they have me get in the back of a 1 ton truck, because there are too many guys and not enough seats.\nI am the only one in the back and we drive for about 20 minutes with me back there, It is pitch black and mostly full of heavy stuff ( I do not want to go into detail, never know who is reading) While in the back I am sitting on a pallet, with obviously no seat belt or anything to really hold onto, I am terrified of getting into an Accident as I would be absolutely mangled.\n\nI did raise concern to my supervisor when he first told me there were no seats and I'd have to ride in the back, (as he opened it up for me to get in) And he said, It's this or go home. Normally I would have walked away, but this job paid higher than anything I had gotten a shot at before, and the big thing is...It's Government work, so I am trying to get my foot in the door for a different Government job.\n\nSo Reddit...What are my rights, I do not want to lose this job and be silenced by the government.", "summary": "I got a new job, pays too much for me to turn down, they make me sit in back of box truck, dark, bumpy and in high traffic area. Is working for the government, Don't know how to go about"}
{"id": "t3_1bj2x7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Interviewing with a company with no website or information online, How do I prepare?", "post": "I applied to a job posting I found on Indeed.com for a company I'd never heard of. I applied because the job posting listed it was looking for a structural design engineer with a masters degree which is the job position I'm looking for.\n\nToday I got an email extending an offer of an interview with this company. I accepted the interview offer and began to research a little about the company only to find out that I can't find any information about the company. I can't find a company website or any prior buildings they've been involved with.\n\nWhen the interview comes how do I make them think I have done my due diligence and prepared by learning about their company values and projects when I can't find anything about them?", "summary": "Can't find any information about company. How do I sound informed in the interview / what questions should I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_2fytrr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying a social experiment", "post": "to start off and give context I work got a seasonal job at a big amusement park chain of which I wont name for privacy purposes. as an employee we get free tickets and passes. one of the rules that come along with them are that we are only allowed to give them away and not sell them. well on Facebook i tried to see how many people who i don't regularly talk to would suddenly want to be my best friend when i offered to sell these passes at a discount rate. after a few hours of it being up and getting the results i was expecting i deleted the post. \n\ntoday i was called into the security office of my job and they interviewed me in a small room for about a 1/2 hour before telling me that i was suspended and would be under investigation. kept my cool because i did nothing wrong and never actually sold them but still it means less hours this week and a smaller pay check", "summary": "pretended as if i was going to sell free shit given to me from work and got suspended from work while they try to find a reason to fire me."}
{"id": "t3_rirfd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is hypnosis as  learning possible?", "post": "I've happened to see/read a lot about hypnotists being able to \"instruct\" people to do things while in some form of a hypnotic state (like the classic sleeper agent spy who will perform an act when his hypnotic state is activated). There have been plenty of movies and entertainment TV shows that showcase this, including one I saw a while back that purported to show that it was possible and effected. There's also the use of hypnosis as for drug/alcohol/mental status therapy that has plenty of anecdotal evidence to support this.\n\nHowever my question revolves around whether students could be hypnotized and taught material as is in a normal class and usefully retain that information when not in a hypnotic state? I'm a college student and (no surprise here) the idea occurred to me while cramming for an exam.", "summary": "1) What's the scientific evidence surrounding hypnosis, if any? And 2) Can hypnosis be used to effectively \"instruct\" people in complicated subjects for use while not in a hypnotic state?"}
{"id": "t3_1gfwsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] and my girlfriend [21F] of 9 months tells me she does not want me in her life seemingly out of the blue.", "post": "A little background.  We have been dating for almost 9 months and have had ups and downs with stresses of attending school and both doing hard science majors.  \n\nBasically she claims that I only do nice things for her when something is going wrong and that when she does nice things (like a small note) I don't say anything.  We have had arguments of this before and it had seemingly been resolved.\n\nNow that it is the summer and she is back home with her family about 5 hours away from me.  I visited about 3 weeks ago and we had an amazing time.  We both wish we could have spent the whole summer together.  \n\nLast week she was agitated with her family, specifically her dad and brothers and I had spent a lot of time talking to her about her frustration.  She said she did not feel like she was loved enough.  So for the last week or so I have been trying to do nice things for her here and there because of this (like sending a handwritten card, and flowers).  As this has been happening she seems to be getting more distant with me.  I try and get at what is really bothering her and she is does not give me a straightforward answer. \n\nThen last night she just goes off on me late at night.  Saying I am not good enough for her and that I am a self centered a-hole.  Telling me to f off and she doesn't need me.  Just continues to say all of these extremely hurtful things to me.  I didn't try and reason with her much, just told her that whether you ever believe me or not I care for you deeply (and things along those lines).\n\nIt seems like she is taking all of her anger out on me from other things going on in her life and I do not understand how to respond.  Should I try and talk to her or just leave her alone for while?  I am at a loss of what to do because it seems like it is coming out of nowhere.", "summary": "All of a sudden my girlfriend who is normally a very loving person says she does want me in her life and that I am a self centered person because of previous events."}
{"id": "t3_3x9w36", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by studying for finals", "post": "This happened yesterday, after a 6 long day marathon of studying for three finals that are right after each other, I was ready to begin my winter break. I called up my uncle to pick me up and two hours later he finally showed. He asked me to drive since I know my way around my campus more so I did. Little did I know, 12 cans of Monster, 4 hours of sleep and the adrenaline pumping through my veins because of the excitement of winter break would impair my driving skills. As I pulled out of the parking space, I drove directly into a cement pillar causing $3000 worth of damage to the front of my car. I didn't even get out of fucking parking garage. I had to use my shoe strings to keep the bumper from falling off and hitting the front wheel. On the bright side, I got high marks this quarter.", "summary": "I studied too much for finals, drank too much caffeine and didn't have enough sleep causing me to ram a cement pillar in a parking garage."}
{"id": "t3_39hn8x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wearing a cup.", "post": "So this actually happened in 8th grade, about 10 years ago.\n\nI played baseball when I was younger, and was always an infielder, until that year in 8th grade, my coach (who was normally the high school wrestling coach) was the brand new boys baseball coach at the middle school.  Anyway, he moved my permanent position to outfield, since I was the best pitcher.  Okay, makes sense.  However, being the stubborn little prick that I was, out of like some sort of vendetta, I decided to stop wearing a cup on days I wasn't pitching in an actual game.\n\nThis brings me to one particular practice.  He used to have this drill he thought would sharpen our reflexes (not unlike drills I used to run in AAU too, but he kind of went overboard).  It was called Devil's Hole.\n\nHe would stand at home plate with a bat and ball and hit us grounders.  The catch was that we weren't in the field, but lined up in front of the backstop, approximately 15 feet away.  He would fire the bad boys too.  I mean, WAY too hard for 13 year old kids to be gobbling up.  Anyway, he would hit us grounders until we missed, then the next kid would go.\n\nSo my first time ever doing it, I was on a roll.  I was at like 9 or 10 in a row or something, when another kid on my team decided to fake-throw a ball at me because everyone was joking about how I could probably catch 2 balls at once.  Well, when he did that I made the mistake of looking at him and sort of flinching.  As soon as I was done flinching and realizing he wasn't actually going to throw it, BAM!  Line drive straight to the left testicle.  That sucker was as big as the baseball that hit less than 2 minutes later.  My coach told me to go to the nurses office where she proceeded to check out my swollen ball.  Had to go to the hospital where they gave me several treatments of ice.", "summary": "Didn't wear my cup to baseball practice, ended up with a nut the size of a baseball."}
{"id": "t3_1jfpgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Whats the proper \"Wedding etiquette\" in this situation?", "post": "One of my close friends from high school (we are both 22f) is getting married in a few months. Due to going to college in different parts of the state and life craziness, we only see each other maybe three or four times a year, but we are still close. Due to us not seeing each other often, I've only met her fiance twice, and she has never had a chance to meet my boyfriend(25m). My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year now, and I'd feel weird going to an event like a wedding without him, especially because he just took me to one of his friend's weddings a month ago. That said, my invitation didn't seem to include a plus one or a guest- can I ask my friend if I may bring him?\n\nI am not sure of the size or expense of her wedding, but I know both the venues they have reserved are fairly large. Is it rude to invite the boyfriend considering my friend has never met him? She definitely knows he exists, in fact we started dating very shortly after she and her fiance did so her and I talked a lot during the awkward starting out phase of our relationships.", "summary": "Friend is getting married, invited me specifically but did not include a plus one. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, but she hasn't had the chance to meet him. Is it alright for me to ask her if I can bring him?"}
{"id": "t3_3aayil", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Feel like a moron after surely failing important exams", "post": "The past 2 weeks have been a fucking nightmare for me.\n\nGod the horrible pressure of getting high grades to get a place in university, 2 years of hard work and shitty misery for the prospect of getting into university yet all it takes is 2 weeks to fuck it all up.\n\nI've always hated tests, the pressure to do well in them makes me feel sick to my core even if the test doesn't hold any significance, but when you're told that the tests you're about to sit pretty much dictate your entire future? That shit terrifies me.\n\nMy chances of getting into university before were slim, the grade requirements are just too ambitious for me despite them being so average, yet now I know for sure I'm not getting in, because all it took was one fucking bad test and I've sealed my fate, 2 years of education down the shutter for nothing.\n\nI've never been the sort of person to deal with emotions well, I'd much rather allow my misery and self loathing to fester inside than burden other people with my shit constantly which in hindsight is a terrible idea because now I'm just a fucking emotional wreck when I'm not around others.\n\nI have my final test tomorrow, I could be doing my best to prepare for the test but I've reached the stage where I no longer give a toss because preparing sure as shit didn't help me for the last 5 so why would it help now? I'd much rather sit around feeling sorry for myself like the cretin I am.\n\nI understand that I may look back at this moment in my life in 5 years and laugh about it, and any of you older folks out there may just dismiss me because I'm not old enough to have \"problems\" yet but in terms of myself I have pretty much pissed away the most important opportunity of my life so far despite trying so goddamn hard to do well.\n\nI don't want to tell my family I've fucked up so horribly, I've told them I'm \"quietly confident\" in my performance but they're going to find out in a few weeks time that I'm a fucking moron.\n\nI haven't read this back and I'm probably going to delete it once my anger subsides and I realize how cringey this whole thing is.", "summary": "Failed a group of important tests. Feel like a moron. No drive to keep trying"}
{"id": "t3_159vv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like we [M]issed a step in the relationship.", "post": "Backstory: \n\nMe: 22 \nHer 22 \n\nBeen friends with benefits for the past year started officially dating about 3 months ago.\n\nStory: \n\nThis is the first time i've actually dated a \"friends with benefits\" person.  My intention when the relationship started was really casual.  We watched movies all the time and had the same taste and i loved it and then after we would have sex.  It was perfect.  Fast forward about a year and here we are dating (I asked her after i started feeling things for her). \n\nHeres the problem though.  I think we went so far into the physical part that i never really got to know her mentally. I'm not exactly liking the chemistry we've had together as bf and gf.  I told her I loved her once while drunk, she did say it back.  But we never really say it after a good night together and thats not her fault I just honestly never feel like saying it.  Even things like telling her shes beautiful or that i love her smile feels weird to say in front of her.  She's not good at taking compliments so that may be the problem, but I think its more me feeling weird saying those things to her.  My last gf and I would always say things like that and I never even thought twice about it.  I think shes beautiful and i love the sexual chemistry we have, but I really think we moved too fast and before we knew each other we got really physical.  \n\nDoes that make sense?  I feel guilty because I know my intention to hang out with her is to have sex but its not like I want to use her or anything I really do love being with her. \n\nI feel like i got into a relationship with myself, I need some kind of push back.  Aren't the best relationships the ones that push each other to be better people?\n\np.s. I didnt know how much detail to put so if anything is vague id be more than willing to elaborate if something is confusing.  Thanks guys.", "summary": "Physical relationship before spiritual/emotional connection think i moved to fast with this one."}
{"id": "t3_3qyf5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] wasn't invited to birthday gathering of 5 months [25M]", "post": "Hi, my feelings are a little hurt and I think this is a sign I should end this situation with a guy I'm seeing but I need some help in organizing my thoughts.\n\nI seen this guy about 1-3 times a week for the past 5 months and we communicate every single day. Last week I started getting weird vibes from him (he doesn't cuddle with me as much and looks at his phone more). After I left his apartment, he hasn't tried to initiate any conversation for about 5 days. His birthday was coming up and he was inviting his friends to hang out (both female and male) and did not invite me. I messaged him the day of his birthday  to congratulate and asked if he was doing anything. He explained again he's going to hang out with his friends, but made no mentioning that he wanted me there. He also later in the night hung out with coworkers as well to celebrate.\n\nIn the past I've planned things for us and asked myself to hang out with him but generally if he's already out with people and I ask to join,  he has a reason I shouldn't be there. He takes a lot of initiate so I think he just didn't want me there at his birthday.\n\nI feel like if I express my feelings I will seem needy. He's not my boyfriend. I feel like I don't seem important enough in his life to want me there to celebrate for him.\n\nI would like to continue to be his friend, but how do I express that I get the sense he doesn't like me as much anymore and it's better to end it now and the lack of invitation was a sign he didn't want me there?", "summary": "guy of 5 months didn't invite me to meet him and his friends on his birthday. What's the best way of ending this?"}
{"id": "t3_1sd2xe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [18 F] 8 months, Emotionally Abusive?", "post": "I'll keep this short. I needed to vent to people besides my friends so they don't get sick of it.\n\nI dumped my ex a few days ago because she got distant and I found out why. She was reaching out to dudes she barely knows on facebook giving out her phone number.\n\nI don't want someone this insecure in my life that she'd drag me around while she so sought out a new dude.\n\nProblem is today I find out she's going out with these guys and it hurts like shit.\n\nI'm trying to turn this positive but I can't keep harassing friends and fam for advise.\n\nHow do I stop replaying the relationship and regretting stuff and be happy on my own?", "summary": "How do you get past the anger and regret of a shit ex?"}
{"id": "t3_4az82j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My FWB(f17) is getting too attached to me(M16), How do I get out of this situation", "post": "So I recently noticed that my FWB is getting too attached to me. She would ask if I wanted to go to the movies with her or go hang out at school events. I told her I was busy but truth be told I wasn't. She is hot and the sex is amazing but we don't really have things/qualities in common. I feel like the only thing we have in common is sex. She wants to get to know me and try going out but I just want to stay fuck buddies. \n\nHow do I tell her I just want to fuck her brains out? I feel like if I tell her we won't fuck any more. How do I end this where we still are FWB or is that not a possibility?", "summary": "My FWB is getting too attached to me, she wants to try going out but I just want to fuck her brains out. How do end the problem where at the end of all this we still are having sex or is that not a possibility anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_1h82uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/m] with my (ex) [24/f]", "post": "I've been having a rough time with my ex. Things were great for a while, but when she got reunited with friends from undergrad, she became a different person. It's been about a month since we broke up, and all we do now is argue, mostly about how she's just up and thrown me to the curb.\n\nHer roommate is my best female friend. She was helping my ex hang a picture in her room recently, when she noticed that the stuffed animals and little gifts that I made/gave to her, were still very much in plain sight. The last I left the apartment, we were arguing, and I told her to just throw everything away since I obviously don't mean a thing to her.\n\nDespite the personality transformation, and the fact that she's probably not the right girl for me (no matter how great the sex was), is there significance to the fact that the stuffed animals and little gifts I gave her are still around? Or is it just me trying to find a little bit of hope to hold on to?", "summary": "Do girls keep gifts around because they want to get back together, or is it just for no reason at all?"}
{"id": "t3_325c2b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19/F] boyfriend [23/M] having some relationships that make me uncomfortable.", "post": "Let me start out by saying, I'm not a jealous person. I want my boyfriend to have a rich, full life with lots of friends and fun. We've been dating almost two years now, and he's always been kind, respectful, and trustworthy.\nRecently, however, he's gained a female friend that is ... Well, obviously attracted to him. I don't like this, but I know that it would be unfair of me to tell him not to hang out with a friend. Except, I found out that when they hang out, a lot of the time, it's the two of them alone, together, in his house. (He has a roomate, who is not home often.)\nThis makes me really uncomfortable. I told him, using those exact words, but he doesn't seem to think there's anything inappropriate about inviting a single, attractive girl into his home with just the two of them when he's in a committed relationship. \n\nIs it unreasonable for me to ask him to not bring other girls to his house alone like that? Especially when they are attracted to him like she is?", "summary": "Boyfriend of ~2 years bringing girls over to his house where they hang out alone"}
{"id": "t3_299s2r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M21] break up with my girlfriend[f18]?", "post": "I don't know where to start. I just moved to a different country, at least 6 hours away from my girlfriend. We've been dating for 9 months but I feel like I should break up with her. \n\nI'll try to keep it concise and list some pros and cons.\n\nCons:\n\n-The shallow part; I'm no longer attracted to her. Her mum forced her to cut off all her hair (wtf??) and it's going to take a long time to grow it back. It honestly all started going downhill from here. It kind of forcefully pulled me out of the honeymoon period. \n\n-Long distance relationship, I can see her at most one week every 2 months, and I have to work during that week. \n\n-She expects me to skype with her every day, but she's pretty bad at conversations so I have to lead the conversation, and I'm only marginally a better conversationalist than her. It just feels like a chore.\n\n-I've always felt like I put more effort into the relationship than her. She never actively tries to make time for me.She could have seen me on my birthday but she didn't even try.  I usually have to initiate everything (including sex). And I can't remember any time that she did something romantic for me or surprised me. I've done countless things for her. Like taking a 2 hour train ride to give her flowers and seeing her for 30 minutes on V day.  \n\n-I'm relatively sure she has a mild case of Asperger's syndrome. I've never really gotten more than 'I love you\" out of her. And usually when I say it first.\n\n-I think I was more in love with the thought of having a gf than with her.  \n\npros:\n\n-First girlfriend. I've definitely grown a lot during our relationship. \n\n-She does care about me and I still care about her. \n\n-It would be really hard to break up with her because I don't want to hurt her feelings. But I suppose I can't delay it forever. \n\n-She puts up with me?", "summary": "There's not much to summarize, just skim it if you're too lazy to read. Or don't."}
{"id": "t3_2ynwia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my partner [19M] he really doesn't want to be a parent", "post": "I am only 5/6 weeks along anyway but\n\nI recently moved into the house we share now.\n\nHe didn't mind too much and seemed happy until he thought about it and now he's completely against it because of our ages and the fact my visa to live here isn't completely settled yet.\n\nIf I keep it, I know I'd be welcome and he'd be expected to leave the house not me if he didn't want to be involved.\n\nI currently can't work because of my visas. I also wouldn't be able to claim any aid from government if I did keep it.\n\nHe asked why I can't just wait a year or two for a baby, but I feel guilty. I am not against abortion, it's just I don't want one personally.\n\nHis family (who we live with) would no way in hell accept me having his child and then giving it up for adoption, it would cause too much fuss.\n\nI really just need some outside opinions on this.\n\nAbort and wait a few years? I will feel guilty about that though.\n\nKeep it, struggle with cash and possibly ruin my relationship?\n\nI told him before if I lost it naturally I wouldn't mind but I just don't want an abortion, I'd rather have it. He wasn't happy but he wasn't angry with me just hugged me then went to bed.\n\nI really don't know what to.\n\nI don't want to run back to my country pregnant.\n\n___", "summary": "5 weeks pregnant, partner really doesn't want to be a parent, I don't want to adopt, family would be difficult to give up for adoption, also not a citizen yet and even when I am I won't be eligible for aid."}
{"id": "t3_gsu1n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit can you help me ask some final questions to my grandmother? The world may just be better for it.", "post": "So a little back story, my grandfather died about 15 years ago and because of the nature of my grandparents I wasn't able to find out about his experiences in the war or in life.\n\nMy grandmother is like the Queen mum (see Britain) and because of this light that I have grown to see her in... I have always found it difficult to ask her any serious questions or even say anything that may offend her in the slightest. As a result I have not gotten any information from her about her life.\n\nI was just visiting her on the weekend (she lives a number of hours away up a mountain on a dog sanctuary) and I was going to muster up the courage to ask her if she would like to exchange written correspondence with me. Before I could do this however, she approached me and said; \n\n**\"If there are any questions you want to ask me... you should do so, I will not be around for much longer\"**\n\nAnd so I made my offer of written correspondence and she gladly accepted it. \n\nShe's like 93 or something and after about an hour of discussing her childhood and my extended family, I discovered that someone in my family invented Morris code and someone else invented the steam engine. So she's got information and I need it out of her.", "summary": "What are some solid questions that I can include in the first of (hopefully) many letters to my old grandmother. I need them to be well-worded so that they may guide her to reveal as much of her life and wisdom as possible before...well... the inevitable."}
{"id": "t3_34figh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Scale dilemma: weight at dr's office different", "post": "What would you do?  \nI'm carefully monitoring my weight each morning as it helps me stay accountable, and I care about each and every pound (and half pound for that matter). \nI've been at 136 for a few months and slowly inching down to where I was at this morning, which was 134.  \nI knew I had a dr's appointment and would be weighed with clothes on, so I weighed myself with clothes on and it was 136.  \n\nBut at the dr's office with their scale (digital...just like mine) it weighed me in at 132...and that's WITH clothes on. So that's 4lbs off from my scale at home.   \n\nWhich scale is correct? Is my home scale not good?", "summary": "dr's office scale showed my weight at 4lbs lighter than my home scale"}
{"id": "t3_2h8zlg", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Intimidated by approaching groups of girls, but I'm always solo and I never know how to break the ice.", "post": "Recently I've realized I have trouble approaching groups of girls (usually never more than 3) because I don't know how I'm going to introduce myself and break ice. Attractive girls never go out alone (while single), so I'm left to *try* to make conversation with girls that travel in packs like wolves. Any time I do try to talk to one or take on the whole group I can't ever single out the one attractive girl I want without totally ignoring the other girls (coming off as rude and shallow), and any time I try to just single out one girl and talk to her that girl won't want to leave her group of friends.\n\nI'm 19, 6'3, fit, tan, handsome, smart, polite, dressy, guy but I just can't figure out how to get past this dilemma of meeting new women in public. I don't have guy friends that like to talk to girls (\n\nFurther, is there a place where single girls usually go to?", "summary": "How can I talk to groups of girls in public with goals of making friends and even serious relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_mqszy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm not physically/sexually attracted to my partner and I need advice.", "post": "I've been dating my current partner now for about 10 months and I care about him deeply, but I don't have any physical attraction towards him.  I haven't had sex with him in about 3 or 4 months because I just don't want to.\nThe problem is that I'm a healthy 20 year old with a fully functional libido and in a moment of alcohol fueled idiocy I had sex with am old crush that I've been VERY attracted to for a VERY long time.  \n\nBasically I'm not sure if I'm just kidding myself in the relationship or if I'm just being too shallow.", "summary": "In love with and dating someone I have no physical or sexual attraction to. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_30w2y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] girlfriend [19 F] keeps getting upset with me because I don't text her 24/7", "post": "Hey r/relationships! This is my first post here and I'll try to keep it short and to the point. I've known my girlfriend for about four years, but we just recently started dating about two months ago. We see each other almost every day, and on top of that I text her daily as well. It usually ends up being a couple short conversations about miscellaneous things, but IMO it is more than enough to last until we see each other again. \n\nAbout a month ago, she had a talk with me about how she feels disconnected and I don't text her enough even though I text her every day and we spend time together almost every day. I told her I would work on it, and I tried, but texting is impossible for me and it ends up consuming so much of my time that I don't get schoolwork done that I should be doing. The problem is that my days are usually so boring that I have to spend upwards of ten minutes just to think of things to keep the conversation going. I hate texting in general and for the most part don't even text my closest friends unless I'm seeing if they want to hang out. \n\nFast forward to today and out of the blue I get a very long message about how I don't talk to her enough and how she feels like an annoyance. I've told her multiple times how difficult it is for me to text people because I literally don't know what to say, and she says she understands but doesn't really do anything about it. I'm not sure how to rephrase my point or come to a compromise because I've restated it in so many different ways, but they get ignored every single time. \n\nAm I at fault here? If so, what can I do about this to prevent further issues?", "summary": "Girlfriend feels disconnected if I'm not texting her 24/7 even though I've mentioned to her time and time again how much I dislike texting and how much of a chore it is for me to hold text conversations with anybody regardless of my relationship with that person."}
{"id": "t3_4qsjnd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Got into an argument last night with my [26 M] GF [22F]. We worked things out but she told me she sees no future for us.", "post": "A little background, we have been dating for 7 months now. We met a year ago became best friends since we have almost everything in common. I really enjoy spending time with her and I believe she betters me and she does sincerely cares about me.\n\nLast night she went to visit a friend, I told her I was disappointed and my mom was looking forward to seeing us together. We got into an argument and at one point she said she doesn't see a future with me since she doesn't really like my family because she has nothing in common with them. She just tolerates them because they are my family. \n\nI never asked her to like them or even see them that often, just every now and then. Of course I never expected her or even wanted to force her to go to all my family events. But she still said that and it's bugging me. I really don't care if she doesn't like my family, I don't want to be around them all the time either. But if she thinks like that then she must still have doubts that she doesn't want to be with me. Am I wasting my time in this relationship? I thought we were on the same page about spending a really long time together. I asked her about it and she says she doesn't know the future and only worry about now, but I don't want to waste time in a relationship that is potentially doomed.", "summary": "gf said she doesn't see a future with us because she doesn't care for my family, it doesn't bother me she doesn't like them but obviously she thinks she doesn't see a future for us. Am I wasting my time?"}
{"id": "t3_155a00", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Getting mixed signals from a girl I'm interested in [21/m][25/f]", "post": "I went out to a bar last night with a coworker, her boyfriend, and her cousin. The night started off okay, me and the cousin where chatting and getting along pretty well. Then her 'ex' (they talked for a while but he told her he wasn't looking for anything serious) showed up and they spent a while talking to each other. He eventually left and I ignored her for a while (I mean c'mon she shunned me for an ex). Next thing I know she grabs my hand and we are alone outside the bar making out (I assumed it was a \"I hate me ex I'll just make out with you\" type thing, but she is cute and I had a few drinks in me so I went with it).\n\nAfter the kissing ended I mentioned her ex and she apologized profusely and said she had no idea he was going to be there and she just isn't sure how to act around him yet. She said it's totally over between them. We talk about how we both are looking for a real relationship and we are definitely interested in getting to know each other more. We exchange numbers and make plans to see each other today, but nothing was set in concrete. My coworker asks me today what I thought of her, I said she's pretty cool and ask if she said anything about me, apparently \"i'm a good kisser\". \n\nSo I call her this afternoon and ask about a time to hang out, she says she is going to lunch with a friend and will get in touch afterwards and let me know a good time (I was at work till later the evening anyway). She then texts me a few hours later saying she forgot she had plans with a friend and she is free tomorrow if we want to get together then. Now I have become pretty jaded with dating and the opposite sex in general, so I immediately doubted her \"prior plans\". Not too mention I'm not the most confident person in the world so I immediately assume that she's blowing me off. \n\nAm I over thinking things? Do I have legitimate concerns? I'm definitely interested in this girl and I want things to work, but I don't want to waste my time either.", "summary": "Met a girl, watched her talk to her ex, we kissed, exchanged numbers, made plans, she forgot about prior plans with a friend. Does this seem odd? I'm f'in confused."}
{"id": "t3_3mdg1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24/M] boyfriend [24/M] of 7 months wants to keep living with his parents, made me scramble to find a place to live on my own.", "post": "I really love this guy. We have been talking about getting an apartment together for several months now.\n\nI lived a state away and kept driving all the way to the city near where he lives to go to job interviews. I finally got hired, and his parents took me in for a month to live with them while I find a more permanent place.\n\nI thought everything was going to turn out great for us, but then my boyfriend told his parents he was moving out with me. They got upset with them, and then he said he couldn't move out.\n\nI have been trying to talk him into it. He just says his parents are getting old (50s) and are lonely without him around. He claims it's a Chinese thing. They don't know about our relationship or even that he is gay. My boyfriend says it will break their hearts to find out he is gay, so that's also a secret.\n\nHe thinks his parents will never speak to him again if he moves out, and he will also somehow ruin his sister's wedding in November.\n\nI keep trying to talk to him about it and trying to get him to make a plan to move out and help his parents to adjust, but he won't have it. He just gets all emotional and says, \"I can't. I can't\" over and over. He doesn't even want to try. That or he lays in bed sobbing and refuses to talk to me.\n\nHe actually wants to move out (or so he says), but he is far too worried about what people think of him. \n\nI ended up finding a place to move into on my own, and it's far enough away that we won't see each other every day. What should I do? I trusted him to come through for me, but I don't know if he ever will now. I'd hate to look back on the time that we were living at his parents' and having a relationship in secret and saying that that was the peak of our time together.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_grdkk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I Arrogant?", "post": "I am asking reddit this because a debate with my friend has left the answer up in the air.  A little outline is needed.  I am a cynic, of that there is no question.  This is due to the fact that I judge people heavily on the way they act and the decisions they make, and I rarely like what I see.  Now, this is where my friend believes my arrogance comes into play (and it may truly be arrogance)\n\nIn my mind lying, cheating, and stealing are bad, and I would think that anyone who doesn't believe that is silly and in the minority.  While it has been without perfection, I have lived my life by those standards; I don't lie to parents or cheat on girlfriends etc.  An extreme, yet stupid example, is the fact that I never wanted to lie to my kids about my experiences with drugs and alcohol in h.s like many parents end up doing, so I didn't drink or smoke all throughout high school, almost entirely so I could tell my kids \"No I didn't, and you don't need that to have fun\" (Weird and lame I know) after graduating i started to drink and smoke, straight edge was never meant for life, only so I could be honest to my kids while still teaching them some sort of a lesson.  \n\nThis mentality, unfortunately, has fed my cynicism.  I look, meet, and interact with people, and I will inevitably put them through this judgment based on how I think good people should act.  I don't respect vulgar people just trying to get laid, I don't respect fishing for attention, I don't respect taking advantage of others\u2026 the list never ends.  So the question is, does it make me arrogant to look at people that act in this way, who act poorly, and to look at myself and how I think people should try to act and say\u2026 I do the right thing, I don't hurt people or manipulate, I am in essence, a better person.  And if it is arrogance, is it justified?", "summary": "People should strive for goodness in all aspects of life.  I have done that to the best of my ability.  Does it make me arrogant to notice people who fail to do this, and who in fact do the opposite?  Am I a jerk for noticing I do this better?"}
{"id": "t3_2bad15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why don't I want another relationship? I want to want one. Please help!", "post": "Let me preface this by letting you know I'm 25, male, and in the military. I've had many relationships in my life and although some have had their ups and downs, I don't regret a single one. My last relationship ended 6 months ago in divorce. We were together for almost four years and married for the last year and a half. Obviously I was devastated when she bailed but since then I've become happy being single. I've got decent friends, I enjoy movies and video games, I like going out drinking with my boys and exploring new areas and trying new food. I've also became very introverted but I'm happy being that way.\n\nI'm very confident when talking to a woman. You could even say I have game! But it feels like such a hassle now. Texting and messaging just feels like a chore. Having to talk to someone every day feels like a responsibility I don't want. Flirting doesn't feel fun anymore so I don't do it. Sex is awesome but I'm pretty satisfied sexually with wacking off.\n\nI don't want things to be this way. Is it normal? Have I just not met the right girl or some shit? I want relationships to be fun again, but even the thought of taking a girl out on a date seems like a borderline chore. What should I do? So I just accept my current situation? As I said, I am mostly happy. If it ain't broke then don't fix it, right?", "summary": "I feel like relationships have become a chore and I don't want to feel this way anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4kafwy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I (24, female) found out that my boyfriend (23, male) responded to a male seeking male casual encounters ad on Craigslist while out of town. Advice needed!", "post": "Background info: He and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. Basically fell head over heels, and moved in quickly together. We had plans to move to a new city in August where I will be starting my first year in law school. We have an apartment reserved and everything is taken care of. I have never had any suspicions and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with. He makes me feel beautiful and worthy of companionship. \n\nA couple of weeks ago he was sent out of state on a short 5 day business trip. He works for a retail company and was helping to set up a new store. \n\nSince his return, he's just been a little off. I felt horrible (and still do) but I did something shitty and went through his phone. \n\nFound out he had responded to a man looking for man casual encounters ad on craigslist. His email sounded very comfortable, as he knew the acronyms and typical format. He sent it the day he got out of town. The man responded 3 days later, to which my boyfriend offered to host. There is no other communication that I could find.\n\nWhen I confronted him, he said that he has no idea why he even responded to the ad. He said he didn't want to actually meet up, but had the urge to talk to someone online only. He claims that what I have read is the only communication he had and that he has never physically cheated on me. He also said that this is the only instance where he was interested in talking to a man sexually. \n\nI have no idea what to do. I love and care about him deeply and I have never connected so easily with anyone. I do not know what to believe and whether what he is saying is bullshit.", "summary": "Caught boyfriend responding to ad for sex with a man while away on business. I am happy for the first time and have no idea whether to work through this or walk way"}
{"id": "t3_1xgsti", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend M(22), and I F(21) have been dating for 3.5 years but I suffer from an anxiety disorder and this has given him severe performance anxiety. How can we stop the positive feedback loop?", "post": "I suffer from an anxiety disorder, which has recently gotten much worse with both of our college graduations coming up, my classes being very work heavy and fear that I might be doing poorly at work. Because of this, I burst into tears when he is unable to become erect (which used to only happen rarely when he was too tired but now it happens every time). He told me he becomes incredibly anxious when we are about to become intimate because he really wants to perform well and he really really does not want to make me cry but this makes it impossible for him to become erect, then I cry... \n\nYes, I have really tried very hard to be supportive and pretend like it doesn't bother me but that is really difficult (and frankly, I am a terrible liar). Especially when he can hear me sobbing in the other room afterwards. I cannot stop it from happening! I try to hide the crying from him but I know he knows, and that makes him anxious which makes him unable to perform next time.\n\nHow can we stop this positive feedback loop and have stress free, enjoyable sex again?", "summary": "Positive feedback loop of performance anxiety mixed with my own anxiety when he is unable to perform. We would like to be able to have stress free sex again."}
{"id": "t3_45e11h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have a post-break FaceTime call today with my boyfriend [20M] which is very likely going to end in a break up, any tips?", "post": "Hey guys! I just wanted to thank all of you for your help so far, I really appreciate everything. You can find the previous detailed post on my profile. \n\nMy boyfriend broke the 10-day break we were on yesterday and it started off friendly but he seems to have gotten colder (as usual) towards the end and I proposed a FaceTime call, which we'll likely have sometime tonight.\n\nDo you have any tips for break ups? And what I should ask him? All I have so far is:\n\n- When did this start happening\n- How do you feel exactly\n- I'd like to ask about a couple of guys I've had suspicions about too\n- (towards the end) Do you want to continue to be friends in the near future?\n\nI'd really like just a casual sit down call where we can discuss everything respectfully so I hope he gives me that, god knows I deserve it.", "summary": "10-day break to potentially avoid break up is over, although FT call tonight indicates break up. He had to do the thinking and not myself (reason for breaking up was that I was 'perfect' but he had a 'no' feeling lately). What should I ask for closure/ general break-up tips? It's my first time and I don't feel too emotionally prepared."}
{"id": "t3_371m4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (27/f) not happy just being around my husband (25/m)", "post": "I met my husband 4 years ago in college. We dated 3 years before we got married. We moved abroad for graduate school 9 months ago. We both are attending different schools in the same city. I'm not happy being away from my parents. I find it very difficult. I want to go back home and live close to them. I need to tell my husband how I feel but I'm afraid he's going to be a number of things. Disappointed, angry, sad, etc. I know it's not normal for a 27 year old to want to run away to her parents but I truly do. If he doesn't want to come with me, I want to split up. But I don't even know how to begin discussing this with him. And I'm embarrassed of what others might think of my decision. \n\nAny suggestions on how to broach the subject? Things I should add?", "summary": "I want to be closer to my parents and don't know how to tell my husband."}
{"id": "t3_3fb38h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my brother a slave in a shoe store", "post": "My brother and I decided that we both needed to go shopping and since I had recently ripped my trusty Sperry's in half (RIP Sperry's) I made the executive decision to head to the shoe store. After finally deciding which shoes I wanted to wear, my brother and I headed to check out. \n\nI put my shoes up on the counter, made some polite conversation, and went to pay while the cashier finished bagging my shoes. Let me preface this by saying that my cashier was black, whereas I had the resemblance of a privileged white girl. Thinking I was witty, I turned towards my brother and said \"Get me my shoes, slave!\" Implying for my brother to grab the bag for me while I put my wallet away... However I wasn't facing anyone, he had absentmindedly wandered over to admire the basket of socks, not paying attention to me. \n\nThe cashier's mouth fell agape. I could see the glare in his eye. And the other cashier turned in horror. Here I was in the midst of what could possibly be described as a hate crime, and I had no idea what I had done wrong. As I grabbed my brother it hit me like a ton of bricks and I snapped up my shoes as quickly as I could and ran out the door.", "summary": "I inadvertently called my cashier a slave and now I'm probably on one of the NAACP's lists"}
{"id": "t3_45qofm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [17 M] I theres a girl [16 F] and she just won't leave me alone..", "post": "So 3 days ago, this girl hitted on me, and I gotta say. It was really awkward. \n\nI can tell she likes me, because 20 minutes into our conversation she said that we should go out sometime this week (as a date). I couldn't say no, because this is the first girl that's ever REALLY liked me I guess so I'm not too much of a big guy when it comes to talking towards girls.\n\nBut the thing is, she won't stop constantly texting me. Yesterday, I was actually hoping with all my sins she wouldn't text me, and BOOM. She did, and it didn't stop. She asked me at 2am last night to skype call her and so on. And all I'm going to say is now, it's pretty fucking annoying. \n\nI know I've liked girls in the past and hit on them and shit, but I'm NEVER this desperate. I'm happy that someone likes me. But I don't have any interest in her. \n\nSo how do I like, without upsetting her, say that I'm not interested in her?", "summary": "What do I do this this girl here?"}
{"id": "t3_vykp7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "22 and whining about parents... (ranting ahead)", "post": "I spent four years living half a country away from my parents, and those four years were great, but expensive. So when my parents moved closer to me, I moved in with them, looking to save money and finish school. \n\nIt's been going pretty well. I go to church with them once a week (they're fundamentalist Christians), I don't drink or go to parties and I work to pay for school. They cover my room and board, and occasionally drive me around. \n\nLast week however, I had a friend come up from Toronto, (about an hour and a half away.) I went to a movie with said friend (Magic Mike) and told my parents I was going to see Abe Lincoln. Ignoring the fact that it's not as terrible as it sounds, that I'm 22 and lying to my parents, my mother somehow found out. \n\nNow she's all cold and \"I'm too angry, we'll talk about it later\" and I want to be like \"no! We're not going to talk about it later. We're not going to talk about it ever, because it's none of your business.\" I appreciate what they've done for me, and they've been a huge help, especially in the last few months, but sometimes I want to tell them that parts of my life have nothing to do with them. \n\nI'm tired of not dating because they won't approve of the guys I date and sick of listening to her every single week, \"will you be in heaven with us?\"", "summary": "my parents are being weirdly controlling about movies I see after I stopped drinking, dating and dancing when I moved in with them."}
{"id": "t3_3fzbhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] broke up with my girlfriend [16 F] (and also my classmate) after 1,5 years of relationship. Really confused", "post": "I started dating my GF back last year. We have been together since 4.4.2014 and broke up yesterday. The last few weeks of relationship were all about \"we don't have anything to talk about anymore, should we break-up? am i going to miss her?\" and about all of this. \n\nI think we spent tooo much time together during the past one and half years together and recently had no topics or ideas to talk about. When we spent times at mine or her house.. we just watched series, cooked food and ofc. we talked but it wasn't the relationship it used to be. I think I made a mistake and want to get back together... kind of. I know that the way the relationship was going was wrong, and we broke up about 2 times and one breakup lasted 11 days, being just a break. But I still miss how we hugged, cuddled, kissed... the way she talked, the way she smiled and I really miss her alot. We ended up our relationship in the good terms, we also have been friends before we started dating and we both said that we hope to be friends again, we told ourselves all the nice words and told ourselves a bye.\n\nShould I wait some more? Should I tell her something before she changes her feelings from \"i still love him\" to \"i dont care about him anymore?\" I look at her as a part of my life even though we are super young. But it was my first relationship to not last 1 week and well, it lasted 1,5 years. Might things get better? I knew I couldn't do alot of things while being with her because I was scared and I don't know why... thats maybe why I wanted to break up.  Now i think about getting back and fix it.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend of 1,5 year. She is also my classmate and I miss her so much, from what she did to how she smiled. She once broke up with me but we got together in the end (break lasted 11days). Last few weeks didn't feel like relationship at all, no matter how hard we tried. Thinking back now, I don't know why did we break up at all though, might things go right if we get back together?"}
{"id": "t3_14zyx7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Feeling like a failure is the worst feeling", "post": "Over the past two years, I've had to live with panic attacks, mostly university related. I had a few sessions with a psychologist last summer, and everything seemed to get better. Now I've switched semesters and am in a group with extremely ambitious, competitive people. I like them, they're not competitive in an elbow-you-out-of-the-way kind of way, but more in an aww-you're-cute-with-your-attempts-at-intelligence kind of way. Not malicious. It also doesn't help that they're all male and I am female in a subtly sexist faculty.\n\nToday was the final exam. I didn't go. It was an oral exam with one of the boys in the group. I don't know why I didn't go, I studied. Not an excessive amount, but I would have passed. I just sat at home and watched the time pass. \"Now they're registering for the exam. Now they're letting people in. Now they're starting the exam. The exam will be over soon...\"\n\nOne of guys called me, said to come to the next appointment (the exams were all at different times/in different rooms, tested as a pair). I told him some bullshit story. He said to try again tomorrow.\n\nI don't know if I can go tomorrow. I feel panicky and sick...I had two panic attacks today already. I think it makes me look weak. I feel weak. I'm terrified of looking stupid in front of people and I can't stand oral exams because of it. I still have a few oral exams to catch up on because I got a doctor's note each time to avoid them. I don't know if I can follow through with a lie to get another chance to take the exam, I'm bad at that too. I turned off my phone. Haven't answered any emails or messages. What would I say to my friends and family when they ask how it went? I can't say I was there, because then the follow-up questions will come - which examiner? what topics? blah blah. \n\nEvery time I think about going tomorrow, I start to panic. I would much rather not go and just avoid it. I even got a doctor's note just in case.", "summary": "I panic before exams. Then I tell different lies to different people. Now I feel sick."}
{"id": "t3_40dqo8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by nit looking twice", "post": "(sorry for my english)\n\nThis actually happened about two years ago, when I still attended high school.\n\nIt was a rainy morning and I was waiting for the bus to school. When the bus arrived, i spotted my friend/shoolmate sitting by the window. I knew it was her, becuase she is quite high, has long, blonde curly hair and a really characteristic face. \n\nSo i entered the bus, bought a ticket and made my way to her. She was still looking out the window, so she apparently havent noticed me yet. As a banter i tapped her nose with my finger so she would turn to me. She did, and guess what? IT WASN'T HER! I tapped a nose of a complete stranger on the bus with a vicious grin on my face. When i realized it wasn't my friend, i lost it. My face turned red and i couldn't find a right thing to say in that situation, wich lead to me saying something like: \"Sorr.. I.. I thought.. you.. I..\", and then i just backed away and ran to the absolute opposite part of the bus.\nI felt really awkward and i still cringe a bit thinking about it even though it's not really that big deal.", "summary": "I touched the nose of a complete stranger on the bus, becuase i thought it was my schoolmate"}
{"id": "t3_pfig2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my dog a lesbian?", "post": "Ok so i got my dog several years ago and from the beginning we have noticed that she has some strange habits. First I will tell you her background though. We got her when she was 3 years old at the ASPCA. They had her \"fixed\" because that is just there policy. She is a white Havanese and the previous owners claimed to gave her up because they were moving, but we actually think it is because she can't get house trained no matter what we do. \n\nWe brought her home and one of the first things she did was start \"hugging\" my moms leg. We thought this was sort of cute and wierd (if you are wondering why we didnt notice this at the ASPCA is because the dog was always on the leash there and probably because she was really scared). Suddenly she starts making this pelvic motion! We realized that she was humping my moms leg! My mom got her off but then my dog went over to my sister and started humping her leg also! My sister also got her off immedietely. Dog came over to me and my dad but all she did was lick us and stand on her hind legs to get higher. No humping involved. Whenever a girl comes over to my house we need to warn her about what our dog will do. It almost always happens anyway though because she doesn't believe us. Again this NEVER happens with guys. Also if you get on your knees to get on my dogs level (she is about a foot tall) she will sort of hug you but will try to get to your, uhh, package and try to lick it. If you are a guy though she just basically trys to get you to pet her. Does this mean my dog is a lesbian? I have never heard of a lesbian dog before. Does anyone else have a gay/lesbian dog? Also does anyone know how dogs recognizes girls from guys because I only distinguish girl dogs from guys dogs 1 way and that one way is not really applicable to humans.", "summary": "I think my dog is lesbian"}
{"id": "t3_2fu8ih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(m18)(f17) me and my girlfriend have been together 4 months and are struggling in an ldr please help", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months but it feels like 4 years we constantly talked to each other and always spent time together we even talked to each other on the phone for 7 hours we could always agree on things and our personalities fit each other perfectly we told each other about our pasts good and bad and we both hated being lied to.\n\n When we headed off to college in Aug. The first 3 weeks went smoothly there were minor arguments about communication and how we should spend our time but we kept chugging. But we had a major argument a few days ago about me listening to her. It was so bad we almost broke up and yesterday we had another argument about me telling her things about what's going on in college. When she asked me a question about something I panicked and acted dumb and said something stupid and that triggered a massive argument and she's still mad.\n\n We've talked about it before and I said I want to change and fix it but its to the point where she doesn't believe me now. And she says she doesn't care what I do anymore. Is there anything I can do to fix it and get things to be awesome again? \n\n(", "summary": ") I keep saying its going to be ok but my gf doesn't believe me"}
{"id": "t3_1cdysu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your, \"Everything happens for a reason\" story?", "post": "My story:\n\nI was not the most hardworking kid in highschool and therefore found it extremely difficult to find scholarships or grant money for when i actually started going to college.\n\nIn November 2011, I moved in with my grandparents. Almost immediately, i got a job in order to pay for my college expenses. At the time my grandparents were having an incredibly hard time supporting themselves, let alone me. I had been basically fiscally abandoned by my parents with little to no money, to my name. Anyways my grandparents were beginning to think about filing for bankruptcy. My grandfather was on his way home from work one day early in October (2012), fell asleep at the wheel and was killed in the resulting car crash. His life insurance settlement paid off for nearly 500k. My grandfather whom i loved with all my heart, wanted nothing more than to see me get a college education. Now just shortly after 7 months later, I'm graduating with my associate's degree with a 4.0. Hopefully in another few years, i'll be on my way to being a surgeon, and making enough money to take care of my grandmother, who has helped take care of me.", "summary": "No money for college. Grandfather dies in an accident. Resulting life insurance policy takes care of my college expenses. Everything happens for a reason."}
{"id": "t3_lfye7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A year ago, I saw an abandoned dildo in a parking lot.  What other things have you seen in in strange places?", "post": "About a year ago, I helped my Aunt and Uncle go Christmas shopping for my little cousin. They both have MS and getting around is a bit difficult, so I drove them around, carried bags and carts, etc. while they tagged along and paid for things. Well, our last stop was Toys R Us. We pull into the parking lot, get a space and begin walking to the store. I noticed that there is something lying in the middle of the parking lot about 30 feet in front of me. People walking by are taking a wide berth around it and generally looking at it in disgust. It was a GIANT rubber dildo. (NSFW) One mother with a small boy about had a heart attack when she looked up from her phone and saw her small boy making a beeline towards the wretched thing. Well, I got up close and noticed there was actually poop on it and a small amount of blood near the balls. My Aunt and Uncle walked by it with me, we were completely silent in the store and when we left with our purchase, the mall security had the area cordoned off with cones and had the dildo covered in a small white hand towel. They were all standing around it, scratching their heads, generally trying to figure out what the fuck to do with the thing. It looked like a crime scene for a giant Lorraine Bobbit.\nI never figured out what happened with the dildo. There wasn't anything in the papers about it, I've still never to this day spoken about it with my family. Its like I have this memory of a dildo murder lodged in the back of my mind, the little dildo pee-hole is chewing on the back of my brain, begging me to let it out, but I can't.\nBecause what kind of Nephew starts a conversation with \"Hey, you remember that time we saw that HUGE dildo in the Toys R Us parking lot? What the hell was that all about?", "summary": "Ghost Dildo."}
{"id": "t3_1mkzkt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get an idea from paper to production?", "post": "So I have done art for years. Photography and painting (acrylic) mostly. A while back I painted something and have had a lot of positive feedback from friends and family. Currently this piece is displayed in my house and on Facebook. \n\nI think the design and concept / message behind it is very marketable especially now. Anyone ever been thru the process of copyrighting something and getting it into production as tshirts, decals, things of that nature? Sure I would love to make a shitload of money on it but honestly I think it's a strong message that will challenge the way people view current events. I am having trouble finding any reliable answers in my recent research. Any help?", "summary": "have idea, need help getting it out."}
{"id": "t3_jpn0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best thing a friend has said to you that he would have never said if he was sober?", "post": "I was at a party and, since I don't drink, I was one of two sober people. One of my friends was gone, and he nearly destroyed both my drums kits. So I helped him, (he's a proud bugger, so it was harder than you think), let him lie in a spare bed and gave him a bucket. Leaving him, he said \"Dude, don't bugger off on me\". I turned replied \"Don't worry I got your back\". Then he said \"You've always had my back\", he then passed out. He hates receiving outside help and rarely comments on others helping him. So when he said it I first though it was drunk babbling, but (since i've known him from when we were 4) I could tell he was genuine and he meant it as praise.", "summary": "Helped really proud drunk friend, he admitted that he's always appreciated my help."}
{"id": "t3_i7fa0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is the extra attention you're getting actually slowing down your progress?", "post": "Hi all! I'm 25/m 5'8\", been dieting and exercising for about 12 weeks now. Dropped about 20 pounds, starting at 240 and currently standing at 218 this morning. When I started, I stayed away from a lot of social gatherings and just focused on my program. Well honestly I was just a bit self-conscious about how much I gained. I also have a skin condition on my face that causes rashes to break out a lot. Anyway, I skipped out on a lot of birthdays, graduations, etc. Around week 8 I felt confident enough to start going out again, the diet has pretty much eased the rashes on my face and I'm more clear than I have been in awhile. My friends noticed my weight loss immediately. These days I'm starting to attend more gatherings and kind of regretting it, haha. I find it hard to stay away from all the drinks and snacks that come along with it. From starting at a pace of 2-5 pounds lost every week, I haven't lost any weight in the past 2 weeks. Thankfully I haven't gained.", "summary": "Now that I'm more socially active, I'm finding that I cheat my diet a lot more than when I started. Anyone else struggling with this?"}
{"id": "t3_13y89l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get a solid response from a girl I've asked out 3 times and gotten an iffy response in return, but I KNOW is interested in me?", "post": "I met this girl on Okcupid. We hit it off and after a few messages I asked her out to dinner in which she replied \"I'm really busy for the next couple weeks, but I'll see what I can do\". I figure she's letting me down nicely and never expect to hear from her again.\n\nFour days later she messages me back with her number! Word. We text back and forth a few times over the next few days and I ask her out one more time and I get the same sort of response. However, I figure she's being honest because she not only gave me her number in the first place, but has talked about sex, that she wanted to teach me how to dance, and all this other stuff that proved she was really interested. If anything, the fact she keeps responding to me, someone she's never even met, tells me she's being honest.\n\nSo after this, I go on vacation to Florida where I am currently (it's been almost two weeks). I asked her if she was busy next week again, but made a rookie mistake, gave her another thread at the same time, and she latched onto that instead of the real inquiry I was interested in. Oh well. A few days later (about 3 or 4 days ago) I ask her again and she replies \"I'll see what I can do :)\".\n\nSo here I am today. I get back on Friday. I've been talking to this girl somewhat for roughly 3 weeks. What do I say to get her to commit to a date on Saturday? If she gives me another iffy response should I keep trying MORE? I mean as long as she's responding, she's clearly interested right? I just don't want to come off as pathetic seeing as this is like the 4th time I've asked her out.", "summary": "How do I word asking a girl out who's given me an iffy response 3 times, but I KNOW is interested?"}
{"id": "t3_3b4loe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kissing my coil", "post": "So those who aren't into vaping, there is a type of atomizer you can use where it allows you to build your own coils. This allows basically anything you want without having to buy a whole new atomizer, or buy a new set of coils.\n\nSo here I am, running a low resistance build, talking on Skype with a music buddy. I put some juice on the coil, and put it down without the cap because I get distracted. I found something absolutely amazing and had to show it to said music buddy. \n\nSo about five minutes later, I go to take a puff. Hold the button, coils heat up, vapour pours out, and nothing to contain it.\n\nPressed two red hot coils to my lips.\n\nNow how do I explain this one to my brother?", "summary": "Red hot metal hurts."}
{"id": "t3_2ismfp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Texting My Sister.", "post": "This happened last Friday night, but the consequences didn't fall upon my person until today.\n\nBit of a back story for relevance - I am temporarily living with my Mother again and she stared dating this guy, we'll call him \"Stew\". Stew is a major doucher and uses her, then makes her feel like shit, when I come home from work I have to deal with it. They've been on and off dating for 5 months now.\n\nSo last Friday night Stew and my Mother have another falling out, where my Mother comes home all upset because he is being a major asshole again. After she settles down and goes to bed, I text my sister about it. I wax poetic of how much of a prick Stew is and how I am tired of having to run damage control.\n\nJust as I send it, I realize that instead of starting a new conversation with my sister, I actually responded to an old group text my Mother sent to me, my sister and... Stew.\n\nThe next day when I come home from work my Mother says she was pretty pissed at me, at first, but then realized I was right and told Stew this was wake up call for both of them. From the way she put it, it was implied everything was fine and they even made plans to go out of town next weekend.\n\nSo today I come home from work and my Mother is in tears, informing me Stew just broke up with her, and he used my text message as an excuse. She then goes on to tell me she'd rather be treated like shit then be alone.\n\nNow my whole family hates me.", "summary": "I sent a bitchy text about my Mother's asshole boyfriend... To my Mother and her boyfriend and broke them up. Now my family hates me."}
{"id": "t3_3dzhzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] trying to figure out how to approach to cute waiter [20ish F]", "post": "I know this situation is much less serious than other posts...so bear with me.\n\nHere's a little context: I'm 20 and single. Almost done with college. Work two jobs, have zero debt, and am putting myself through school. I have a solid group of guy-friends and am pretty social. I've been single for about a year and a half. I've never found it difficult to talk to a girl...like ever. Until now. \n\nI go this breakfast restaurant every Monday and Friday morning. Recently (within the last couple weeks), I noticed they brought on someone new...this cute new female waiter. She appears to be around the age of 20. What attracts me so much to her is her innocent appearing personality. Very kind, humorous, and pretty. \n\nI can't get this girl off my mind. It feels weird with me being a customer coming into their restaurant...how do I approach her without freaking her out?!?", "summary": "Should I approach this girl and ask her to coffee? If so, how?"}
{"id": "t3_rn7xh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to consider when preparing a roadtrip from SoCal to NorCal?", "post": "My spring break started yesterday and I am planning to go from Southern California to Northern California stopping at various universities along the way.  I'm coming from Los Angeles and will be stopping at UC Santa Barbara, UC Berkeley, and finally stopping at UC Davis.  I am planning on going the entire week so I will seperate out the car trips, so it would be 4 hours each trip to each location.\n\nI have taken into consideration food and gas fees.  Was wondering if I would need to know the location of hospitals and emergency rooms just in case.\n\nThis is my first time planning such a trip and I will be going alone.  I also need help convincing my parents to let me do this.  What should I tell them?  I am 19 and consider myself responsible.  They used to be very leniant but have recently cut back due to increasing stories of teenagers getting in car accidents in my area.", "summary": "Planning socal to norcal trip, what do I need to consider?  How do I convince parents to let me go.  I am 19 years old."}
{"id": "t3_nvmcq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "End of 2011 is near... What is your most proud accomplishment/moment of the year?", "post": "I'll start....\n\nI was on vacation with my family out near Montalk on Long Island. We were spending the day on the beach. There was an incredibly strong under toe that day. About every other hour, there was someone getting pulled in with the lifeguards pulling them out. There was one moment where this teenage girl got pulled out and she panicked. I was nearby and could see the fear in her eyes. I started to swim out to her while her brother also came out to grab her. Her brother got out to her quicker than I did, and he pushed her towards me. I grabbed her and, with the help of the waves, was able to get her to the lifeguards who got her in safely. Now the brother was stuck and couldn't get back in because he used all his strength to get to his sister. I grabbed him and started swimming him in. The lifeguards took over when I got closer in.", "summary": "Helped save two people's lives."}
{"id": "t3_3fsrby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24M] am uncomfortable about my friend [24M] dating my ex [23F]", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI need some outside and wise opinions. I'll try to make this short, here are some backgrounds details:\n\nLet's call her Amy, she is one my best friend's sister. We met each other when her brother invited us for some activities and we clicked well. But our relationship didn't survive mainly because of long distance (because of work) and we broke up few months ago.\n\nLast month, she came back in our town and she will stay a couple of months. My problem started at her brother's birthday party where she met one my good friend (let's call him Bill) and it looks like that the same thing happened between them than between her and I when we met. \n\nBill knew she is my ex and he knew we broke up only few months ago. I can't help but feel betrayed and hurt about that... I told about this to few close friends, some told me that I shouldn't blame them.\n\nWhat do you think ? How can I handle this ?", "summary": "Am I right to be mad at my friend dating my ex ?"}
{"id": "t3_2c7dlw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting my mom a pornhub video link", "post": "Alright, so I couple days ago i was browsing the hubs, if you know what I mean, on my phone. To be honest, I was in the mood for a quick boosh before I hopped in the shower. I was looking for videos to go along with my boosh and I noticed the video would not play. I copied the video link to try it in a few different browsers.\n\nFast forward to today, My dad and I have been looking for a car to purchase. We both went to look at one today and both my mom and aunt wanted to know what it was like. I texted my aunt first, explaining how it went. This is where the fuck up is. After i sent the message to my aunt, i tried to copy it so i can send it to my mom too since i'm too lazy to type one seperate for her. You can probably guess what went wrong. IT DIDN'T FUCKIN' COPY. I go to my mom and I's text conversation and I paste the pornhub video link (when i thought it would be what i sent to my aunt) and hit send immediately after i paste it. Lo and behold, I send a pornhub link to my mom.\n\nI started to panic, not that i would be embarrassed or anything, but it is my mom i sent it to. That is a little weird. After i sent the link, i simply texted \"Woops, meant to send something else\" and then I pasted what was meant to be sent in the first place. She didn't say anything about the pornhub link, so I think she was completely oblivious to it. I haven't spoken to her in person yet, hopefully i got away with it.", "summary": "I sent a pornhub link to my mom when I meant to send something I sent to my aunt that supposedly \"copied.\" Not."}
{"id": "t3_33ais7", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I am so incredibly turned off by rescue organizations.", "post": "To preface, I am a National Guard veteran recently leaving service suffering from depression and I'm looking for a companion animal that will give me a reason to wake up in the morning and have at least something to look forward to in my day.  I'm currently looking to adopt a dog which will be my first pet that I've had while living on my own.  This means that I don't have any reason to have a fenced in yard yet or any sort of veterinarian referral which seem to be the two foremost blanket requirements in adoption.  I live in a somewhat remote area so it's not really feasible for anyone to do a house visit either.  How the hell am I supposed to give a needing pet a home?  Why do I need past experience with that dogs size or breed?  My main vent is to mention that it's easier to buy one firearm a day every day of the week in the US than it is to save a pet that could possibly be my best friend.  Does anyone have any advice for me?  I know I should probably look for other venues but shouldn't I be able to adopt a pet that has been rescued from previous owners or high kill shelters more easily rather than letting them float in foster care limbo?\n\nTy for reading, if not:", "summary": "Rescue organizations adoption policies are largely bullshit when it comes to first time dog owners."}
{"id": "t3_3jkwvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [26 F] wants me [26 M] to back out of lease with my BFF [27 F]", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for two and a half years. I've recently had to move because I'm attending a graduate school partly because I wanted to remain close to her. The graduate school I got into was also the same graduate school my best friend who is a girl is also attending. This year I was trying to save money by living with a roommate and I thought my best friend would be great since we have spent alot of time and know each others habits. Originally my girlfriend gave the OK to live with my best friend, but now with two weeks before me and the best friend were supposed to move in we get into a huge argument and she says she doesn't want me to move in with my undergrad best friend. I don't want to back out because I gave my best friend my word and I feel like a jerk backing out in the last minute, but if I do live with her I know my girlfriend is going to resent me for the rest of the year.", "summary": "What should I do if my girlfriend [27 F] doesn't want me to move in with my best friend [26 F] I've already promised to live with?"}
{"id": "t3_12gmyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tips on meeting people in a new (small) town?", "post": "I've (24,F) recently started my PhD program (well, three months ago) in a new town about 3,000 miles away from my old home. The town is pretty small (<36,000 people, including students). My department isn't very social and I haven't had any luck meeting people in my classes. I guess you could say that I'm not really a social butterfly.\nI know all of the bartenders at my normal watering holes, but I haven't made any meaningful relationships out here. With the stress of a new grad program, I could really use some friends.\nSo, Reddit, do you have any tips on how to meet people in the big kid world?", "summary": "How do you make friends in a small adult-based town?"}
{"id": "t3_3il3y7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by turning on the fan", "post": "This happened last night and is still ongoing. In the house I rent there had been a problem of raccoons getting into the attic, though they haven't done it lately. Last night I heard that one had got in again and was banging against the air ducts. \n\nI got the bright idea to turn on the furnace fan (but not the heat) to make some noise and scare it away. When I turned it on, at first nothing happened but as the fan spun up there was a loud series of thuds and bits of  insulation and fur started spraying out of the registers. I cut the power to the furnace and everything stopped, but now the house if filled with a sickly stink of dust and old meat. \n\nI started to panic that I had killed the raccoon but I can now hear it through the cold air return, whimpering and pawing at the fan blades. I called my landlord and they trying to get animal control and the furnace repairman to come ASAP.\n\nHere is a video I sent my landlord of the noises I can hear through the cold air return. [Sound of raccoon in the furnace](", "summary": "Mission Impossible raccoon in the air ducts survives a ride through the furnace. "}
{"id": "t3_4tlhqw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit cards and Credit History. Is it safe to close old accounts?", "post": "Hello!\n\nI hope that someone can lend me some advice for a situation that I find myself in. Here's my situation:\n\nAbout 10 years ago as I was traveling, I applied for my first credit card which was an AMEX delta card. For the years after, I traveled often, and got benefits from this card.\n\nNow, after I have recently graduated college, and landed a full time job, I no longer have time to travel as much, and therefore have no need to use the Delta card. Last year I paid off my balance with the card, and haven't used it since.\n\nRecently, I had to pay the $95 annual fee, and realized that I should perhaps consider another credit card. I thought about closing this account and applying for a cash rewards card.\n\nNow my issue is that this is my ONLY and OLDEST credit card account. I would like to close the account and apply for a Bank of America cash rewards card as my checking/savings accounts are with them. However, I am concerned with how this will affect my credit report.\n\nWill closing this account greatly affect my credit score?\n\nI even spoke with the reps at AMEX about downgrading to a cash rewards card with no annual fee, and apparently I cannot do this as my AMEX card is linked with the Delta account. I do not want this card, I'm stuck in a pickle...\n\nAny advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "I want to close my oldest credit card account for another credit card that offers cash back rewards. Not sure if this will negatively impact my credit score. Is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_49ohyh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by microwaving pizza", "post": "This happened about 2 weeks ago, but I didn't want to post it. Finally I grew some balls, and here it is!\n\nI was in the lunchroom, returning with a pizza and a Sprite from the local Italian fast food place. I sat down at a table, and put down my sprite before taking my pizza to the microwave. I normally don't microwave my pizza's, since the place I normally buy food at heats it up for you, but since I was in a bit of a rush (project presentation happening right after lunch [dammit, music!]), I told them not to bother with the heating. I stuffed the whole thing in the microwave and turned it on for one and a half minutes. Here's the FU. The pizza comes in a sort of tinfoil, but with a paper outer layer. I don't really know how to explain it, but it doesn't behave like regular tinfoil, and looks and feels like paper on the outside, but on the inside it's reflective, like tinfoil. So I think this is perfectly ok to microwave, since it is paper. WRONG. It's tinfoil with a paper layer on the outside. So I walk back to my seat, sit down, open my sprite, have a sip, and see the microwave ignite. I then dash up, and yank the power cord from the socket. Then the thing explodes. The microwave door pops open, and the most cancerous smoke that I have ever seen billows out, along with flames from my now incinerated pizza. I take my sprite, which I had placed on the table one which the microwave sits, and dump about a quarter of it's contents on the fire, which puts it out, amid a rush of steam. Now, I get hairy looks by all my teachers, and I'm crowned the Dumbass of 2k16. And of course, the microwave is broken. Fuck...", "summary": "Tinfoil with paper outside fooled me into exploding the lunchroom microwave."}
{"id": "t3_3azzbt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I like being single most of the time but sometimes I get lonely and make \"mistakes\". How do I stop this?", "post": "I'm in college and about to graduate so I really feel like being single is the best option for me. I usually enjoy it but sometimes I feel extremely desperate for male attention. During these times I usually do one of two things: 1. Set up a Tinder account and talk to a guy for a week or two, eventually meeting up to get drunk and have sex (even though I never admit to myself that's what's going to happen). If it's not Tinder then I'll just end up going out with my friends and having sex with a random guy because I drank too much. \n\nI don't really know what the problem is that makes me feel lonely and sexually frustrated. I do know the next day after finally having sex with someone I feel used and disappointed in myself.", "summary": "I get lonely and go have sex, please help me stop feeling lonely so I stop having random sex."}
{"id": "t3_17k2ye", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do i make a move?", "post": "OK I'll try and keep this short. Last year I [19m] met this girl [20], who I pretty quickly became friends with. At the time i quite liked her but she had a boyfriend. However she's an awesome girl so i was quite happy just being friends. Over the last year she split up with her boyfriend and I started and stopped seeing someone else. I've known her for about 18months now and recently we have started hanging out more often and I seriously can't get enough of her. I'd love to try and move this relationship forward but i don't know if she is romantically interested in me, I also don't want to ruin our friendship. Should I make a move and if so, how?\n\nAny advice will be much appreciated! thanks guys.", "summary": "Want to turn a friendship into a relationship, not sure how!"}
{"id": "t3_2i5aro", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Landlord sold property - New landlord trying to increase rent during lease period.", "post": "My fiance signed a lease with three friends last year, that started June 1st, 2014 (through May 31st 2015).  A month before that time, after being diagnosed with cancer, the landlord sold all his properties to a rental company.  The new company stated at that time that they'd honor all the old landlord's leases.\n\nFast forward to today, October 1st.  In this college city, leases that start on June 1st get signed in October for the previous year.  My fiance and her roommates intend on renting the property again (June 1st 2015 through May 31st 2016).  However, the rental company not only wants them to sign the lease for the next year, but sign one of their leases that superseeds the current one.  This wouldn't be a problem, except for the fact that they are also trying to raise the rent on the *current* lease by $30 per month.\n\nMy understanding is that a lease can't be altered by either party unless it is mutually agreed upon.  I don't know if that's the case if the property is sold, however.  Anyone have experience with this?", "summary": "Old landlord sold the property after lease was signed, new owners want to increase the rent on the current lease.  This legal?"}
{"id": "t3_yalwp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most unjust thing you have ever seen or heard of a school system doing?", "post": "Here's my example. Back when I was in high school, my senior year when I was 17, I was going through a really, really rough time. My parents were highly abusive and I ended up leaving my house to get away from it. A certain lady that works for the school was also one of my best friend's moms. She was a really mean woman, and completely batshit crazy. I told my friend what was going on with me and she in turn told her mom hoping she maybe could help me. Every day after that, the lady screamed at me in the lunch room/ hall ways ect. about how I'm just lying, trying to get attention and telling all of my home life problems to anyone who was around me. I also missed a bit more school than usual because I had no way to get there. This woman tried everything in her power to get me expelled for this. She told my teachers to fail me and even told the principal I hit her daughter(flat out lie), basically making every day of high school a living hell for me and made me scared to even enter the building, as I didn't know what she was going to do to me that day. She also called all of my other friends at their homes from her home and told them, if they didn't stop associating with me, they would also get expelled, and of course called my mother and grandmother to tell them she found drugs in my locker (I've never touched any drugs in my life). Anyways, I went to the school counselor to tell him what had been going on with my family and with this lady. He said there was nothing the school could do. I asked him how he could say that when the school is supposed to be against bullying, as an employee of their own school was doing the bullying. He responded with \"who said we were against bullying?\" The woman found out I went to the counselor about her, so she went to the principal and told him I was leaving death threats at her house(another ridiculous lie). Let's just say, he believed her.", "summary": "I went from a girl that was ridiculously shy, nice,nerdy, quiet, got straight A's and had perfect attendance, to barely graduating high school because an employee of the school decided to ruin my life and bully me to no end for no reason at all, and the school wouldn't do anything about it."}
{"id": "t3_1eoldm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "\"Getting back out there\" sucks.", "post": "It's been two months since I (29m) broke up with my ex (23f). Since I have done a lot to improve myself. I doubled down on my schooling, lost 27 pounds, and have been doing more things that I enjoy. \n\nThe issue is my breakup was amicable. We were just two people going separate ways. While it was mutually agreed upon the pain has still been pretty raw until recently. I now feel like I am in the position to start dating again! That's a pretty big step for me the only problem is I'm only meeting two types of women. The first group are women who aren't looking for anything at all besides friendship. That I am totally cool with but having the door open for a possible relationship would be nice. The other type is what gets me. The type of woman who wants to be in a relationship NOW, wants kids NOW, and wants it all delivered to her by a charming prince on horseback. The worst part is that this has happened a couple times in the last week and a half! \n\nIt just seems like I can't find a happy middle ground. I really don't want to rush into anything and sitting around talking about some girls' guy troubles gets old quick when you have your own problems.", "summary": "two months past breakup and am ready to date again. All women I meet want to be just friends or want to be married after a week. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3bdmvo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by open sourcing a personal project", "post": "So, I decided to open source a small side project that I've been hacking on for a while and put it on GitHub. I made sure to sanitize my configuration files, remove any local development usernames, passwords, and the like.\n\nHowever, one thing escaped my mind: buried somewhere in the depths of the source code, I had left a hardcoded Amazon Web Services key. \n\nFor those who are unfamiliar, Amazon provides many \"cloud\" services for developers\u2014from servers to storage and other useful things like video encoding. Now, note that they target anyone from personal users like me to the largest of enterprises, which means that some of their server time can be *incredibly* expensive (we're talking in the dozens of dollars per hour here on the low end of their \"extra large\" cloud server instances). I'm sure many of you can see where this was going.\n\nAnyways, I get an email from Amazon that tells me that my account key has been compromised and that I should immediately check my billing statements for \"unauthorized or fraudulent activity.\" \n\nShit.\n\nWith a sinking feeling in my stomach, I navigate to the billing dashboard, and...\n\n[Oops.](\n\nI've proactively blocked charges from Amazon with my credit card company (thank god for good customer service from American Express), but Amazon hasn't made contact with me since the initial email. Time to see where this fun ride will take me.", "summary": "They're called \"private keys\" for a reason."}
{"id": "t3_3ac2yw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my partner of 4 years [29 F], my guilt about cheating is crippling me. What should I do?", "post": "At the start of our relationship I made a huge mistake and got drunk and slept with my ex boyfriend. At the time I was all over the place about my feelings - do I like men/women? (she is the first woman I slept with) - and I ended up hurting everybody.\n\nI decided to come clean about it after a few months because things were getting more serious and I thought she should know what happened. \n\nHer ultimatum was to cut him out completely. No talking, nothing, ever again. I feel immensely guilty because of what this meant for her and for him. I understood and accepted that I would have to cut him out, and still do. However, my sister is still good friends with him and I am, 4 years on, avoiding situations where I might bump into him.\n\nMy sister says I'll have to 'get over it' and that I'll need to see him one day (e.g. when she gets married). This fills me with dread - I am scared of mentioning it to my GF because she will be very upset and angry if I have to be anywhere near him - but my sister is my sister...I'm not going to say 'I won't come'. She won't back down either - my ex WILL be there. \n\nI think about the pain I've caused (and will cause in the future because of the mess I made) and I feel so ashamed. I don't know what, if anything, I can do to make things right. I wish I had never been so stupid.", "summary": "cheated on partner with an ex (M) at start of relationship. Biggest mistake of my life. Admitted it after a few months. Cut him out of my life completely. He is still friends with my sister and I know I'll have to see him one day (e.g. when he gets married). What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_12jfyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to get my mother to stop thinking I'm 5?", "post": "Me: F(14) and my mother: F(40's)\nI love my mother to death, don't get me wrong, but I feel like she thinks I'm 5. She doesn't like me to wear my boyfriends jacket, for the sole reason that it belongs to my boyfriend. I want to get her to understand that I'm not a little kid anymore, I'm a teenager. Teenagers are horny, hormonal, unreasonable beings, but we exist and you have to deal with us. She doesn't want me to hang out with my boyfriend because she doesn't want me kissing him. And who is she kidding? Teenagers kiss, they hug, they makeout, they have sex. I'm not ready for sex, not for awhile, but I will be one day. I'm not deluding myself that I am going to marry anyone that I meet in highschool, I'm not that stupid. How do I get through to her that I am not a baby, that I will have sexual thoughts and feelings, and that she needs to stop smothering me and freaking out over small things.", "summary": "My mother treats me like a child, unsure how to explain to her."}
{"id": "t3_4s7fll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fiancee [30F] wants an expensive wedding. How can I [30M] talk her down without looking cheap?", "post": "My GF recently became my fiancee.  I am sure she's been planning this day for a while in her head, but the only two details I've heard so far is that it is a \"$60k wedding\" and \"the groom/his family\" pays for it.  For reference, she is not from the U.S. originally (although she became a citizen in her teens), so her culture is weighing in here.  Her culture (middle eastern) is big on over-the-top events and the professional success to back it up.\n\nWe can technically afford this wedding, as between us we make about $300k/year, but I come from a lower middle-class background and spending $60k on a single event just seems preposterous.  It might even cause negative feelings with my family because no one has had a wedding that cost even half that much.\n\nThe problem is that I don't want to just say \"no\" because then I would look cheap.  I believe that she should get the day she wants, but I also think she could have just as great of a wedding on less (maybe $20-30k), so my challenge is to convince her that she could be happy, especially if it means we can keep it from impacting other milestones.  For example, she has already started talking about buying a house in the next 1-2 years.  Well, the average house exceeds $1 million in our area, so an expensive wedding is going to push that timeline back by a year or so if we are to contribute equally to the downpayment. (I'm 100% footing the bill for the wedding, remember).  We also both agree on trying to become financially independent of work as soon as possible, and are in general frugal people.  For example, we live in an old, cheap apartment, and she recently bought a used car.\n\nWhat can I do here?  Advice from people with non-American partners is particularly appreciated", "summary": "Fiancee wants an expensive wedding, possibly for cultural reasons, and I think we can be happy with less.  How to make her believe this?"}
{"id": "t3_20lslu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21F], SO [22m] and I broke up today, could use some support", "post": "I posted this in twoxchromosomes too but I was hoping I could get some help from this community too.\n\nI'd only been dating this guy about 3 months, so it was never very serious but we just broke up and I feel kinda shitty. The thing is, I've been unhappy the last month with him and I've been telling myself I need to end it for a while. He just didn't treat me that well (or at least not by my standards).\n\n I went over to his place today knowing we would have to have a serious talk about the way he's been blowing me off and I knew it was likely it would end in us breaking up. Well, before I could bring anything up he left the room for a couple minutes, came back looking upset and said 'we should have some time apart' and that he was worried I was getting too attached because he's leaving for the army in the summer so it couldn't get too serious. \n\nIt was definitely a relief when he brought it up first since I'm kinda terrible at breaking up with people. Even though it was mutual I still feel shitty. Honestly I'm still confused why he wanted to be with me in the first place, and he pursued me. \n\nI know this is for the best because he didn't treat me the way I wanted and he's leaving in a few months. But it still hurts =/ I don't want to cry about it (I shed way too many tears over him while we were together to afford to cry anymore about him now) and I don't want to feel this crappy.\n\nIt hurts so much more because I spend so much time alone because I don't have many close friends and I don't see people very often and I'm not that close to my roommates. So I was hoping I could get some advice/support/stories/any other help from you guys.", "summary": "mutual-ish breakup today and I just can't help feeling so shitty"}
{"id": "t3_1cltu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl[20f] I[22m] fell for is moving away for the summer in a month, how to proceed?", "post": "I've known this girl for about 2 months now and we've been on and off but never had sex. Just recently, she admitted she was falling for me even though she has a boyfriend. I told her I felt the same way but she needed to ditch the boyfriend before I would do anything. Three days later she texts me saying she broke up with her boyfriend, got a job in a different state, and still likes me, but feels like it wouldn't work out between us. I also don't want to do any long distance stuff.\nProblem is, I'm still really into this girl and can't just forget about her. \n\nI know that if I continue pursuing a relationship with her, I'll only get more hurt when she inevitably leaves in a month but I can't convince myself not to try. I still haven't responded to her message because I'm unsure of what to say to all that news coming at me at once.\nWhat do I do next? I should mention I will see her again in September when we start class again.", "summary": "Girl I fell for admits feelings for me, she dumps current boyfriend, tells me she's moving for the summer and that she doesn't think things will work out between us. I can't just forget about her so I'm having trouble deciding what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_es7rm", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Thanks for nothing, a**holes!", "post": "2ft of snow with 4ft drifts. \n\nThanks for nothing neighbors who waved to me using their snowblowers and watching me struggle shoveling. I've only been at it for two hours and have another three or so to go.  Please don't walk to 100ft to help or offer to use your snowblower.\n\nThanks for nothing to the lady that lives above me. Please don't lift a finger and send any of your three kids (ages range from 19-13) down to help me. I have other beefs with your laziness but this finally set me off.\n\nThanks for nothing to the plow guy that said you'd be here but hasn't showed up, it's now 4:13pm.\n\n/rant because I have another 3hrs ahead of me.", "summary": "I'm shoveling a ton of snow and no one seems to want to help."}
{"id": "t3_2pddgy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smashing my roomate's computer", "post": "I would imagine this is every college kid's worst nightmare.  I had an 8:00 exam and awoke to see that the time was 9:13\nSHIT\nI immediately threw on all the closest clothes and shoes i could find and Ran out.  On my way, however, i clipped the charger cord to my roomate's computer and it slammed to the floor, which woke him up.  I don't know for sure whether it's broken or not  I didn't have the time to deal with this directly seeing as how i was over an hour late to my calculus exam.\n\nThe professor let me take the exam with the 90 minutes that were left in the exam block.  \n\nAfter getting some breakfast, I'm now back in the room at 11:34 and my roomate is still asleep.  the computer has since been moved (possibly inspected?)", "summary": "late for exam, tripped on a cord, roomate's computer fell"}
{"id": "t3_22kik2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] dating [36 F] for several weeks, she said \"I'm too available\"", "post": "I recently started dating this woman, or rather started dating this woman again. I asked her out three years ago and we went on a few dates, and we didn't click. We remained friends, and we recently both found ourselves single. So, she asked me out to rekindle what we had going before. \n\nWhat attracted her to me was how much I had changed. Three years ago I was really immature with no real direction in life. Now, seven months after a devastating break up, I completely turned my life around. I've lost over 50 pounds. I'm exercising, eating clean and all around taking care of myself. Life is going awesome for me now.\n\nSo, she's back in the picture. Things are going really great between us. I'm trying new things with her that I haven't done with other women. I used to be a somewhat cold, cerebral person and not very affectionate. Now, I'm taking chances. I'm not overanalyzing and looking for \"signs\". I got handsy on her on our second date, I took a chance and kissed her. These things would take months in previous relationships. \n\nI've also decided to be more communicative. She likes to text, so I've reciprocated by texting her quite a bit. I've never been really chatty on text, but again, why not, I'm going to text as the mood strikes me, rather than again overanalyzing. We'll probably send each other like ten texts a day, although I find myself texting her more.\n\nShe gave some feedback to me which has got me thinking. She said that I'm too available. I'm not much of a challenge. Now I'm getting back into overanalysis mode. I sense I might be beginning to turn her off. How can I adjust my communication pattern with her to not be so \"available\" and be more \"challenging\"?\n\nI'm a person who goes all out in self-improvement and my work, where my enthusiasm has brought tremendous results, but I'm sensing this might not be the best approach for relationships.", "summary": "I think I might be turning my girl off by being too available, but I don't want to turn her off by being too cold. What's the middle ground here?"}
{"id": "t3_2q6t95", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm stuck... Should I keep working a shitty minimum wage job and pay off my 20k loans from cosmetology school asap, or go back to school for Computer Science and and pay the bulk of all my loans off later? Please help :(", "post": "Going to school to become a hairdresser was the worst mistake I've ever made in my life. Ever since I was like, 12, my parents told me that would be wise to do since it's only a year and you can be set with a career at a very young age. I'm only 20, and I'm in 20k in debt for something I can't even get a job doing and hate. I have fallen in love with computers and am starting to learn how to program though, and I really want to go to school for it. No one in my family has gone to college so I don't have anyone who can give me advice on this. \n\nRight now my hours have been cut at my shitty Subway job, and I'm lucky to get 20 hours a week (for example, next week I get 12 whopping hours). I'm at a point where I have to get a new job either way. But I don't know whether to look for something full time so I can try to pay my loans off within three years or so and THEN go to school, or just get a better part time job now and go to college at the same time. I'm not really thinking straight on this because I am fucking miserable with the situation I'm in right now, I never thought I would feel like a stereotypical loser who never left their hometown after high school and isn't working towards becoming anything better. If I knew it truly was smarter to pay off these loans first, I might feel better about myself right now. \n\nI only have about $200/month in bills to pay, so a part time job would suffice. I would make really good money once I actually get to the point of getting a cs degree, so that's not an issue at all. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Have 20k in loans. Unsure about going back to school and getting a computer science degree before paying off all my current debt. Only have $200 in monthly bills. Should I pile on more debt so I can be making more money (MUCH more) in five years or so?"}
{"id": "t3_de5x4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do after a 7 year relationship", "post": "My ex left me 2 and a half months ago. She came home from work one evening and told me she wasn't happy, and that it was all things that we had worked on in the past, and they had all come to a head. She left the next morning to 'think about it'. A week later, it was all over. \n\nThis situation didn't feel like a 'cut/gym/money' situation though since then, I wish things had progressed quicker.\nThe major issue has been that I work days, she works evenings. this was hard when we were together, but it's even harder to communicate now as it's not like she lives here anymore.\nWe're finally sorting out the last of our stuff now (house we rented/I rent, cat, etc.), which should all tie up at the beginning of October.\n\nI'm now stuck in Limbo. I think I want to start dating again, but I have no idea how to tell if I'm ready, if I'm just on the rebound, or if it's even fair to until I sort the last of our stuff.\n\nFirstly, when should you 'cut/gym/money', and when should you not?\n\nSecondly, what the hell do you do after a 7 year relationship? How long to wait etc.", "summary": "still wrapping up a 7 year relationship, 2 1/2 months since split, what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3q6ad6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking what document I shared with my teacher", "post": "No, this isn't some horror story of how I shared erotica with my teacher, sorry but it's far more tame. So in my physics class, we had a lab due ~2 weeks ago; my lab partner and I did the experiment, worked out the math, then went home to each do our own lab reports. I finish it and share the Google doc with my teacher; everything is well and good until a few days later I get an email from him that read \"marquisad98, I can't even grade this it is that incomplete.  Please finish and get it to me ASAP!\" So I'm freaking out now - \"what did I do wrong, I thought I had met all he requirements?? This looks complete!\" He gave me a 4 (out of 100!!!) on it and brings my grade down to a 50. Here's where the TIFU come in; flash forward to this morning, I'm sitting at my desk going through my emails and I come across his from 2 weeks ago and I remember that I never fixed the report. I click on the google docs link in the email and as it opens up the report I realize just how fucking stupid I am; I had shared a half completed copy of the report. I had started on Docs but moved to Word to finish it because my wifi was acting up; the doc I shared with him was the google doc with half the data, no calculations, and no conclusion. Needless to say I quickly emailed him explaining my situation with a link to the REAL report and I'm praying that he accepts it.", "summary": "I shared a less than half completed report with a professor, got an irate email about it and a failing grade; took me two weeks to realize I submitted the wrong version of the paper. Currently begging for forgiveness and trying to explain the situation so I don't fail this quarter"}
{"id": "t3_2zxj0l", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I wish I could tell her.", "post": "It's really kind of ridiculous. We'd been friends for so long, and when feelings started developing, I wasn't really surprised. I told her how I felt and she said it was the same for her, so we became a couple and it was really great. She was the first I'd been with that really supported me in my decisions, and I supported her in hers. \n\nWhen she left, it was so sudden I was really taken aback. She only ever said anything doubting us months beforehand, and when I asked to try and talk it out and help her feel better about it, she shrugged it off. I told her I would do anything to help make things the way she wanted them, but she said everything was alright, and for a while it was. \n\nWe still talk sometimes, but god, every time I'm screaming in my head wondering what I did wrong. It's not even that I feel the need to be with her again, because I feel like it's important for us to find out the kind of person we want to be with and she decided I wasn't it. It's rough, but that's her decision. \n\nI just want to know why she chose to end it when it seemed so great. Now we just stay quiet and pretend it never happened, which is the worst part because we used to be so open with each other, well before we ever had any romance. Now that old friendship is gone.", "summary": "Things seemed great, but not the case. She left, and I'm left wondering why. Now, it feels fake to be around her."}
{"id": "t3_2lsxsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [19 F] stick it out with [18 M], or is he too stuck up over his ex-girlfriend?", "post": "I met this guy Alex through mutual friends at college about a month and a half ago, and we hit it off really well. We see each other about 2-3 times per week; usually, we will hang out at my apartment, but we've also gone on coffee dates and study dates at the library, and he even invited me to his fraternity date function and introduced me to most of his friends. We talk pretty much every day. I'd like to take the relationship further with him (we've hooked up, but not past 2nd base) but I don't feel entirely secure with our relationship enough to do that yet.\n\nI've been single for about a year, but he just got out of a 2 year relationship with his high school girlfriend, Abby (about a month before I met him). From what I've learned from mutual friends, Abby still likes Alex, but I'm pretty sure it's not reciprocated. It's confusing because Abby goes to the same college as Alex and I, and he still hangs out with her. Having her around all the time has me questioning our relationship. We haven't had the \"defining the relationship\" talk, so I'm not really sure what we are. \n\nI don't want to ask him what's going on between the two of them because 1). He hasn't brought up Abby to me, I mainly know about her though mutual friends 2). I'm not sure if it's my place to ask at this point and 3). they obviously have a lot of history together, it would make sense if they were trying to be friends. But his mutual friends have all said they don't know what's going on between Alex and Abby.\n\nMy gut tells me he likes me and isn't using me, but I also get the feeling that he doesn't really know what he wants. Should I try to define our relationship, keep going with the current situation for a while to see if anything changes, or just try to talk to him about his ex? I don't even know how to start any of these conversations. I feel really lost, but I really like this guy and don't want to lose him from lack of /or too much communication.", "summary": "Met a guy at college, he doesn't seem to know what he wants and still hangs out with his ex."}
{"id": "t3_2y87uv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking home late at night.", "post": "I live in a college town. It's a generally safe area, so I was waking home this evening (~1 mile) and as I neared my apartment, I came across a guy doubled over. Being medically trained, I felt compelled to make sure this guy was okay. I call out to him, and he waves me over. He's throwing up, I'm rubbing his back, and I offer to take him to the hospital. He says he can't, that he just wants go home. I felt a little freaked out being alone, but I really didn't want to leave this guy, so I ask him for his phone and make Siri take us home. \n\nThe guy starts getting really flirty, which I outright ignored, pretty much carrying him to his apartment. I was getting frustrated and uncomfortable but I really didn't want to leave him drunk sitting around outside, and we were only a few minutes away from his apartment. He threw up twice: once in the bushes and once down my back as he hugged me and slurred \"thankyousomush.\" I finally get this drunk bastard home,  and he tells me he lives on the second floor.\n\nI carry him up the stairs. We're standing next to his door and I reach into his pocket to get his key because he can't do it. He takes this as an invitation and begins undressing on this balcony to his apartment. I quickly realize he left the door unlocked and open the door and shove him inside, ready to bolt when he begins throwing up again. I take him to a bathroom and sit there, trying to decide what to do next. \n\nThere's a few loud knocks on the bathroom door, and it swings open. Cue a huge black guy, staring at me, and this guy, completely naked laying on the bathroom floor. I'm like fuck it, his roommate is here, I'm out. \n\nI stand up, and awkwardly mumble \"good luck with that\" and head out the door.\n\nOne set of stairs. Two sets of stairs...\n\nThree sets of stairs.", "summary": "I just shoved a naked drunk guy into some other dudes apartment. "}
{"id": "t3_fhfaz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm think that my friend is taking advantage of my goodwill.", "post": "( *My mom came to me today with this question. I told her reddit might help her out. This is what she typed:* )\n\nI have a friend through theatre, that I help regularly with designing lights, set, and directing for a very small amount of money (stipend).  She is a high school theatre teacher who doesn't know much about technical theatre, so I have helped rescue some of her shows, that were pretty bad.  The principal has even told the teacher how impressed he is with my work (I get program credit for designs).  I love what I do, and I don't mind helping the program and her.  \n\nThe most recent show is a large scale musical, that requires hundreds of hours of research and construction, with lights and set.  **She is asking me for my sketches and other materials to put up in her classroom to \"teach\" her class how it is done.**  She likes to come in to the shop and try to change things.  \n\nFirst of all there is no time, because she waits till the last minute to do everything.  \n\nSecondly, she doesn't know what she's talking about.  \n\nI feel like my methods (along with creativity) of designing are part of why my designs stand out.  I don't really want to share all of my research material with her because:                              \n\n**1.** I worked really hard getting my degree in design and graduated with honors, and I don't feel responsible for teaching her how to do her job better. \n\n**2.** If I give her my info she will most likely come into the shop more often telling me how to do my job, wasting more time that I never have. \n\nWhat do I do without jeopardizing the relationship?", "summary": "If I help my friend by giving her my research for free, I'll be making her better at her job while I still get paid a fraction of what she does. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4brqpt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (22/f) am crazy about my boyfriend (27/m), but we haven't been dating long. Should I wait to tell my family how close we are?", "post": "Reddit, I am so insanely, head over heels in love with my boyfriend, J. \n\nHumble bragging about us: We met when I moved to a new area for my job in July/August. We had been really great friends for months and ended up getting together on Valentine's day. We got very serious very quickly and have spent nearly everyday together since (admittedly, it's a little bit much but it's the honeymoon phase and we can't get enough of each other).  I don't think I could have dreamt of a better match for me. J's brilliant, creative, confident and unbelievably kind. His humor is clever and nerdy and immature in all of the right ways. He is so thoughtful and amazing at communicating, which is especially important because that is not my best trait. I've never been able to talk to anyone the way I can with him... And I've opened up more with J than I ever thought I would (with anyone). I could go on for pages just gushing about how infatuated I am with him. \n\nNeedless to say, we're both serious about this... we've said the I-love-you's and started looking for apartments to move in together in June. We're talking about long-term plans and I've already met a huge chunk of his family. It's real. I never would have imagined myself to jump into a relationship this quickly or intensely, but it's really real. And I'm thrilled!\n\nI want to yell it from treetops and tell the world... but I'm worried that people might think I'm being silly or naive and rushing into it. I am very close with my family and desperately want to tell them that I love him  and how serious we've gotten but I would be really upset if they wrote it off as some sort of tryst. \n\nSo that leads me to my question: Can I tell my family about my intense, new relationship? Or should I wait it out and bring it up on a more \"normal\" timeline?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend after ~6weeks of dating him. The 'pace' of the relationship doesn't bother me but I'm worried my family will write this off if I told them about it now."}
{"id": "t3_cd2pz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need to gain weight! Any ideas?", "post": "I'm currently one of the thinnest people around, at 5'9'' and 120 pounds. I want to gain some weight and look better, because I feel terrible about myself (but that's a story for another day).\n\nNow before you tell me to sit on my ass all day and eat a lot, well, that's already what I do. Internet at home, games and movies with my broskis, I live a pretty sedentary life. I eat four meals a day and continually snack, and everyone is all, \"OMG WHERE U PUT FOOD BRAH?\" I'm not bulimic or anorexic or anything like that.\n\nFor awhile, I even tried exercising, which I really should take up. I want to put on some weight and muscle in time for senior year at high school. I'm pretty sure at least some of this is hereditary, as almost everyone in my family is thin.", "summary": "How do I gained weight?"}
{"id": "t3_4qlne5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my BF [28M]. Viewed his web history and am worried...", "post": "*we have been together for 4 years. \n\nI'm in my last year of college and finishing my thesis. My laptop stopped working and the warranty has expired. It will cost several hundreds to fix upfront. The place to fix it is also pretty far and out of the way. I'm currently borrowing my boyfriend's laptop to finish up work when I'm not in school. Recently when I borrowed his laptop to use I accidentally closed an important tab and had to view his web history to restore it. I normally don't do this. When looking at through the history I noticed he visited some weird places. \n\nHe has visited a subreddit that was banned and relatively popular on reddit that has now moved to voat. It's one that hates on overweight people. I couldn't help myself and clicked on one of the pages. From what I saw he hasn't commented on the place and he doesn't have an account. I don't really support that place so I'm not really sure how I should feel about this. He's a kind person in real life and doesn't seem to fit in there.\n\nAnother reason and the more important reason I'm concerned is that he used to suffer from an eating disorder. Even though he is still underweight, he still frequents the weight loss subs on reddit. Should I talk to him about this? I'm more concerned about him relapsing into disordered eating behaviours. Currently he is 140 lbs and 6' 4\". His weight has been increasing steadily and hopefully he will be at a healthy weight soon. I also feel kinda bad that I violated his privacy.", "summary": "BF used to suffer from an eating disorder and is still underweight. From his web history he has been visiting fatpeoplehate on voat and weight loss subs on reddit. I'm concerned about him relapsing into eating disordered behavior. Should I speak to him about it even though I have breached his privacy? "}
{"id": "t3_4mro18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys please need advice [28F] I tried to play hard to get and it backfired, now he [34M] is not calling me or texting me??", "post": "I took advice from my stupid friends and they told me that if you make him work for your affection, it always ends up in a better relationship that's guaranteed to turn long term.. when he puts in effort to make u open to him.... or so they said\n\nI tried this with this guy I met recently at a convention (related to my work) and we had a few dates and I really liked him, but I tried to do it as my friends said and acted like I wasn't sooo interested (even though I was falling deep inside), and played down his advances towards me... he didn't push too hard and was very polite & a gentleman... \n\nanyway its been almost a week now since our last date and he hasnt texted me or called me... i texted once saying Hi and what he's up to... but no reply , and I have no idea how else to get in touch with him... did I drive him away from my silly move?? I really want him back... \n\natleast, want to talk with him so I can be more clear about my feelings.... I regret this so much, he was so wonderful!", "summary": "tried to be a smart ass and played hard to get, drove him away possibly"}
{"id": "t3_4eds4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] met the right person [19F] at the wrong time.", "post": "So, currently in college (that's our way of saying before university in the UK) and i've been with this girl for a year and a half. I love her, and think she's amazing. But the downside is, i'm 18. I want to go and experience lots of different things in lots of different places, but I can't go and travel and do amazing things with her. I want to go and do these things myself and make new friends. \n\nI'm worried however, that if I approach her with this she'll go for it, but when I come back she'll have moved on with the relationship. We both feel the same way about each other, that's clear. Another point to make is that she has made plans to go and travel around Australia herself. \n\nThis may seem like a very selfish post, however I hope you can all understand that i'm young and want to expand my knowledge of the world and have my own individual experiences. For this to happen i'm looking at 2 or so years. Which is a long time I know, but as the title says, I met her too young. I'm not looking for criticism, i'm looking for people's own similar experiences and how they went about dealing with the situation. Thank you for reading, if I don't reply, i'm sleeping.", "summary": "I met my gf too early, I love her but want to take a break and go travelling for two years and refine myself as person. What are your past experiences and how did you deal with them?"}
{"id": "t3_n0512", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My house was broken into on Black Friday and I know exactly who it was. I have no proof but when my prime suspect says to me \"It ain't that bad is it?\" I can't help but want a way to get back.", "post": "This guy and his buddy live down the street from my house in these shady apartments that I've never been a fan of. They took my TV, 2 iPods, and my laptop. What pisses me off even more is they traumatized my dogs (One that is already on medication for anxiety), and I have to replace 2 doors because they couldn't just finish breaking the glass on one and instead kicked in the whole door on the other. \nI told the cops that I suspected these guys but since no fingerprints were left, there is no evidence to go on. \nI think breaking out the Batman suit is out of the question but I need to make the neighborhood safe again!\nWhat shall I do reddit????", "summary": "House broken into, know who did it, can't prove it, need (mild) revenge."}
{"id": "t3_17fp2w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when i puked on a child", "post": "Last night I was out with friends, and we all had off the next day(today). So we decided to drive to M's house and get plastered then have the DD take us to get Chinese food. I guess at one point during the night my manager asked me to sub for one of my coworkers on... you guessed it,\nTODAY!! And drunk me thought \"hey I need the money, GO FOR IT\" but when i woke up today at 4 AM to open the pool at a little place called [home] ( but when I woke up this morning it took every ounce of determination in my body not to puke. So I clock in and do my typical opening duties and then i get up in the stand, my first shift (5 to 6) was alright except for the Chinese was churning in my stomach for 45 minutes and it was getting worse, and at this time it was when the parents were bringing in their children for swim lessons around 5:50. and as i looked down at the child trying to hand me something I burped and then that was followed by a massive jet stream of beef and broccoli and lemon lime gator-aid right onto the poor childs face.... and into the pool....that i had to then close and clean.", "summary": "got drunk, and puked on a child"}
{"id": "t3_2bre6l", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is my plan reasonable?", "post": "First, thank you everybody. I lurk in this sub a decent amount. And have learned tons and gotten out of debt due to your discussions.\n\n30 y/o. No debt of any kind. Single, no children.\n\nOwn a reliable vehicle paid off. No large property owned aside from the car.\n\nIncome $6780.84 a month before taxes, SS, Medicare, etc.\nRent & utilities is about $1200 a month.\nI save $1542 every month into my emergency fund (Currently at $14,909.26).\nDeposit $1458 every month into Roth TSP (Currently at $3,745.84).\nDeposit $458 every month into Vanguard Roth IRA Target Retirement Fund 2045 (Currently at $11,460.24).\n\nThe remainder I save in my checking account and use for food, fuel, and any other costs.\n\nAfter I have $20,000 saved up for my emergency fund, I'd like to save at least $50,000 for a down payment on a home. I don't see myself purchasing a home anytime soon but would like to keep the option available by preparing for it.\n\nThe nature of my profession requires constant relocation. So I won't buy a home probably till I retire or decide I'm tired of moving every few years and change careers. Is this a good course of action? \n\nIf yes, is there a recommended method to save that $50,000 while earning interest safely and ability to withdraw it without penalties?\n\nIf no, what other options should I consider?\n\nThanks again!", "summary": "Want to save for down payment on a house, best way to do it? Or am I stupid for wanting to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1kopoe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "20 (m) with a 19(f) girlfriend, need urgent help", "post": "Hey guys I need some serious advice on something, my girlfriend of 6 months is losing her sex drive big time, and its really putting a damper on our relationship.\n\nWe both have talked about it numerous times but at the end of the day I can't shake the feeling that whenever we do it (1-2 times a week) its only because she knows I'll be upset if we don't.\n\nIt never used to be this way when we first started dating, and then she went on BC, which we have both discussed as a possible reason for the decline in her sex drive, but she doesn't want to go off of it and she doesn't seem to mind the lack of sex. \n\nWhat truly bothers me about all of it is that I genuinely feel like she doesn't even enjoy it anymore, and therefore the sex itself is sucking, a lot.  \n\nAll I wanna know is if laying off of initiating, (which lately has been every time were alone in my room, and getting denied like 40-50% of the time) will help, or if she will merely see it as a relief and be content with rarely ever having sex anymore. help reddit!", "summary": "Girlfriend of 6 months is losing sex drive and doesn't seem to mind, how do I make her want to have sex again?"}
{"id": "t3_39kfr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hi /r/relationships, i have never gotten into an actual relationship before, i need help with commitment issues.", "post": "Hi reddit, I (19M) have never been into a real relationship before. \n\nRight now, i am interested in a girl, and she isn't rejecting me yet, which is nice. I want to be more than just friends with her. I recently took a picture with her, she doesnt mind me me getting close up to her. I dont know, i feel I might stand a chance to get together with her if i asked her out one day. I am liking her for her attitude towards everything. Not because she has something in common with me or because of her looks. \n\nBut here is my problem, i am afraid of commitment. Does anyone of you have that has any tips to overcome it or overcame commitment issues before?\n\n I constantly think, how am i going to maintain this relationship? What am i going to do if she gets tired of me? What happen if she gets to know me more and doesnt like the side of me? She doesnt have anything in common with me(not that i know of, i have only known her for about a week), what am i going to talk to her about all the time?", "summary": "Like a girl, fear commitment. Needs help."}
{"id": "t3_3bpcdp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it worth trying to start a relationship right before I (18M) go off to college?", "post": "Last month I went to my prom with a friend, and then her prom as her date. After her dance I started to realize that I had a small crush on her. \n\nThe problem is that both of us will be starting college in different states in August. I've read nothing but arguments against going into college with a girlfriend. I'm also not entirely sure if I really want to be with this girl or just like her as a friend and want to be in a relationship since I've never been in one or even kissed a girl yet (I'm also good friends with her brothers who are the same age, which makes me feel kinda weird about dating her).\n\nSo do you wise people of r/relationships have any advice for me?", "summary": "Should I try to pursue a relationship with a girl right before we leave for college?"}
{"id": "t3_1ei536", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone tried (or currently in) an open marriage?", "post": "I know there's probably a subreddit for this, but thought I might hit a broader audience in askreddit. Here's the situation. My husband and I are in love, married for 9 years and have 2 young children. We are super happy except for in the bedroom. Our libidos are totally mismatched. We're talking about an open marriage. Does this work? Neither of us wants a divorce, I just can't be bothered to want sex much more than twice a month, and he wants it like every day. I feel like if he can have his sex needs met outside, things would be OK. I worry, obviously, about the risk of him getting involved with someone emotionally, or him sleeping with someone who is crazy. I'm also not sure about the logistics of how we/he would make this happen. We're Americans living in another country...there's lots of prostitution where we live, but it's not legal and I worry about him getting fired from his job if he ever got caught. Here's the other thing. he doesn't drink, so meeting someone for a one night stand at a bar is not really an option (I know he could still go to a bar, but his not drinking is more important than him meeting someone for sex).", "summary": "do open marriages really work?"}
{"id": "t3_2t0e9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 2.5 years [28F] wants to have kids with me [28M] I don't. I haven't told them I've had a vasectomy.", "post": "We've always used contraception (her taking the pill) but over the last three months she's forgotten taken her pill three times. She's been taking the pill ever since she was a teen, I can not conclude if they've missed it by accident or not. Since she's forgotten her first pill I've worn a condom since.\n\nShe has now finished her packet and isn't going to get a prescription so for the foreseeable future (she see's me wearing the condom as good enough, and wants a \"break\" from artificial hormones).\n\nNow recently, more than usual she's been talking more about wanting to have a family. She's known since the start of our relationship that I do not wish to have one (Do I need to explain to Reddit why? Everyone usually demands an explanation). She thinks I'l change my mind about the topic in the future but I'm certain I won't.\n\nI've never let them know I've had a vasectomy. Do I tell them? Do I keep it to myself?", "summary": "We've always been on contraception. She's been hinting about having kids recently. They don't know I've had a vasectomy."}
{"id": "t3_3bgh3w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going too far out in the ocean", "post": "So I visited the ocean for the first time ever today. My friend and I were having fun getting smacked by waves and whatnot, but were slowly going out further and further. At one point I see him further out than me, and to the left, so I started swimming that way. Since the waves were pretty big I couldn't really see him on my way over. Next thing I know I'm way far from shore, and the waves are getting pretty big. Little did I know, I was stuck in the rip tide. At this point my friend had already started heading back because the life guard was whistling, which I hadn't noticed.\n\nSo now I'm way out there, being pushed back more with every wave. I was swimming as hard as I could, but making no progress. Finally a life guard comes by on a jet ski and tells me to swim left. Well I look ahead of me to see how far I was and then I hear him zoom away. Upon turning around I see a giant wave headed right at me. Well that shit took me way up in the air, and then way down in the water.\n\nLuckily I managed to surface, and swam harder than ever to get back. When my arms weren't doing the trick themselves, I started kicking off really hard with every stroke. Finally I get back to standing depth, but I was too tired to even walk. I just let the incoming waves knock me closer and closer. When I reached the shore itself, the lifeguard was standing maybe twenty feet away telling me to go over to him. Took one step and almost collapsed because my legs were like jelly from kicking off so hard. \n\nAfter that, I layed in the sand for what seemed like an hour catching my breath. I have never felt to hopeless in my life, or so tired. I was honestly on the verge of giving up out there because it was so tiring trying to swim against the waves. Of course, when I got back my friend told me that the first thing the lifeguard asked him was if I was drunk.", "summary": "first trip to the ocean results in me almost drowning. Legs turned to jelly, and my mouth was salty."}
{"id": "t3_nh2oa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I ve got quite an interesting and confusing question..", "post": "This is my mom and two uncles, all same parents, *i think differently*.\npicture:\nHere is my grandmother:\n\nMy grandfather has a red undertone, as far as I remember.\n\nI really don't think my mom has the same father.\nShe goes tanning but in this picture, she hasn't gone tanning in over a year. My grandmother is Chinese, Hawaiian, and Portuguese.\nNot quite sure about my grandfather but his last name is Baldwin, so I ll say English, Irish and native Ameriiocan.\n\nI tried asking her and she gets defensive and says her mother wasnt like that. My grandmother died when I was 9 and I don't talk to my grandfather. the rumor is that my grandfather was abusive, and my mom is\nthe youngest, so you never know.\n\nwhat are you opinions?\nAm I wrong for thinking that?\n\nI m going to school for forensics, so I know somewhat on how genetics work. The photo of the twins, where one was black and the other was white, but I really don't think that's the case here.", "summary": "Look at photos. I think my mom has a different dad than my two uncles."}
{"id": "t3_1j8145", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm a hypocrite.", "post": "Ugh, I feel like such a hypocrite with this, but I need to get it off my chest. I have looked at porn, me and my bf have a long distance relationship and when he is aways and the urges come I look at porn but today he tells me he does the same and I got a little bothered. I did not flip out or got angry at him because it's stupid haha I do the same thing, I kept it inside...haha I know I'm a hypocrite, but I wonder if more people feel like this sometimes. \n\nIt's something perfectly normal and well I know I sometimes can't be there for him, it just kind of bothers me he looks at other girls? haha I'm not even sure what is the bother.", "summary": "My boyfriend looks at porn, I do too and it tiny bothers me and I'm a hypocrite for it."}
{"id": "t3_mu3qa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am able to directly talk with US Senator Ben Cardin, as well as some members of the House. Help me out with Protect IP and SOPA.", "post": "So, the title says it all. I am a 15 year old teenager, to start off. I don't know all that much about Protect IP and SOPA, but as a new user of Reddit, I have seen lots of posts and decided to get involved. That being said, from my limited research, I am still unsure as to what *exactly*  SOPA and Protect IP are. I understand the basic concepts, but if someone could please elaborate on them in an unbiased fashion, that would be great. I need to know enough on the subject to be able to speak confidently. I will also continue to do outside research on my own. \n\nI will not reveal details of how, but I am almost certainly able to meet with or have direct contact with US Senator Ben Cardin. I am a resident of Maryland. I am fairly confident that he is in fact a co-sponsor of Protect IP. Reddit, I would like for you guys to help me out with my \"pitch\" to him, or what exactly should be said in the short amount of time I can speak to him - roughly 1-3 minutes. I would like to change his mind about Protect IP. \n\nI am also involved in a leadership and advocacy program which takes us to Washington D.C to meet with members of the House. I am not positive as to who I am meeting, but I know I will be meeting with \nrepresentatives. The same goes for above in regards to talking to them. \n\nAll help is appreciated, and I am really interested in what you guys have to offer me. I will be sure to follow up on what happens in the next few weeks, when I will be visiting.", "summary": "meeting with powerful government officials, help me pitch our philosophy about SOPA and Protect IP*"}
{"id": "t3_2raolc", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Female co-worker (23/f) has been apathetic to me (30/m) for months in spite of my best efforts to befriend her, so I gave up. Now she's suddenly paying a lot of attention to me out of the blue. Does she like me?", "post": "I started a new job back in September and met a woman there I liked. At first things were amicable, then I started to get a crush on her. I started doing things for her to show her I liked her, and she did catch me looking at her a few times. I also went out of my way a few times to give or get her stuff (cold medicine, cigarettes, weed, I let her \"borrow\" several lighters I never saw again). Then she became sort of indifferent for awhile. I figured she wasn't interested so I decided to move on, and I backed off. I wasn't constantly trying to chat her up anymore, I wasn't going out of my way to help her at work like I was, etc. I then found out her ex was going to be staying with her over the holidays, and then I *really* lost interest. \n\nI started talking to another girl (24/f) at work, becoming pretty friendly, and quickly found out she was already with someone so that was over before it began. Right around this time, the first girl suddenly started paying a lot of attention to me. *She* has been trying to chat *me* up, and doing stuff for me. She heard I was looking for a place and brought in about 20 pages of listings she printed off the internet, she offered to let me keep my stuff at her place, she's been getting me drinks (water, soda) during work (we work in a brewpub) and last night when I got off and went to order a beer she went out of her way to make sure *she* got it for me (she's a server there, not a bartender or bar back). I can't figure out if she's actually starting to like me, or if she's just trying to balance her cosmic karma.", "summary": "Got into a girl who didn't seem interested and as soon as I gave up she started paying attention to me"}
{"id": "t3_2809m0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Her (23f) me (23m). I think I need to breakup with my gf.", "post": "So, we live together and have been since the beginning of our relationship. When we met I was in a little financial trouble and was about to move back home. The best solution at the time was to have her move in until I got back on my feet. I got my shit together but now I'm realizing that we moved way too quick. She's very sensitive and even the thought of not living together drives her to tears. A big thing too is she's not very independent but she's crazy smart. She suffers from depression and hurts herself over seeming small things. She needs someone to help her emotional and I know I can't help her. I'm not the best at giving compliments and that makes her so angry. We've been together for 18 months and I've been feeling this way for little more then 2 months.", "summary": "How do you breakup with someone who's not independent and suffers from depression?"}
{"id": "t3_1cd1st", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22f] ditch this guy [27m], or am I jumping to conclusions too quickly?", "post": "We've been dating for about a month or so.\n\nThe good about him: he's taken me out to dinner, parties, breakfast, etc. He texts me nearly every day. He seems to communicate well, he's told me that he is looking for a relationship and that he likes me, etc. He told me that he doesn't like to 'hook up' with girls, that he likes to take it 'one at a time.' He said he likes being in relationships.\n\nThe bad: the last time we hung out, he seemed disinterested. I felt like I was having to carry the conversation. He didn't actually say much at all during dinner, and we just went home and passed out. One time at a party, I saw him going downstairs with a girl. I followed, and they were hanging out with a bunch of people smoking weed. It got me suspicious. He hasn't mentioned anything about us getting exclusive since we last talked about it awhile back. He seems to party a lot. He doesn't really compliment.\n\nThe thing is, I like him, but I don't want to get hurt.\n\nAm I just being over-analytical or is this guy a douche that is just leading me on? Also, how would I tell him that I no longer want to see him? We just hung out the other night, and I acted like everything was fine and dandy. It was when I got home and thought about it that I second guessed this guy.", "summary": "New guy I'm seeing seems really cool at first, then after a month things start to only be about sex. The other night at dinner he seemed distracted, and I just don't really want to set myself up to get hurt."}
{"id": "t3_2v3nu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] I'm in a tight spot.", "post": "I'm having to take off a semester simply because finances ran out and I didn't get to transfer to another college. It's of no fault of my own, I have a good GPA I just tried to transfer in between semesters and they were already full. Today my step-father [50M] told me that I have to be a full time student in the summer or I need to find another place to live. He told me that I have such big plans (I want to be a teacher... Not grandiose plans) and I'll never be able to do it. When I leave I can take what I've bought or other people (not my parents) bought for me, which is some of my clothes, my books, and my video games (which I'll probably sell to get something to get me around or a phone). What do I do? My mom doesn't know that he wants me gone and if I tell her he'll tell her to kick me out or that he'll leave. And his income is important so I'm not going to do that to my mom. I'm lost.", "summary": "I may end up homeless soon enough. I don't know how to approach it."}
{"id": "t3_2n9omk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm too old for this. Would appreciate some help on asking this gal out.", "post": "I'm a 20 year old male, today I'm asking an 18 year old female out. She made a remark about how if I was to ask her out it would have to be in a super cute way. Well, here's what I plan to do. Please tell me if it's embarrassing, (because that's what's going through my mind,) Or if it's a decent idea.\n\nSo she's a sporty kind of girl. Likes the color pink, and sweets like any girl.\n\nPlan: I have a shirt, it's pink with grey lettering that says \"Damn near Perfect.\"\n\nOn the shirt I'm going to lay a piece of chocolate and vanilla fudge that I made at my job. \n\nOver the fudge I'm going to lay my senior key necklace with my senior class ring on it over the fudge. \n\nIn front of that little dispay will be a single rose with a pink ribbon.\n\nAnd finally I will have a little piece of paper with some fancy lettering that says something to the extent of, \"hey let's make this a relationship. yes? no?\" Exact wording escapes me.\n\nThe more I think this over, the bigger fool I make myself out to be in my head. Is this cute or no?", "summary": "Is my idea to ask a girl out, cute (like she wants,) or essentially stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_fx73t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it illegal in Florida to own a squirrel? Story included, please read.", "post": "My 20 year old female cousin, who lives in Florida (I'm in CA), has informed everyone that she is now the proud owner of a squirrel. Long story short, she is a dumb ass. Apparently she found it on the sidewalk, took it home and has been \"taking care of it\". I don't know exactly what that means but I know she mentioned formula. \n\nTo her credit, she *is* and animal lover and would never intentionally harm an animal. I just think she will end up doing just that by not allowing the squirrel the quality of life it deserves. I can't let this happen, but she is extremely hard headed and won't listen to anyone. I'm sure there are options out there, whether it's taking it somewhere that will care for it properly and then let it free, or maybe a zoo or sanctuary. \n\nHere's the kicker. The girl is an on/off drug addict, has no money, and lives with her loser boyfriend in an apartment with 5 or 6 other people crammed in. Once while driving in the car, she was complaining about gaining a little weight. Her Mom (who is equally ashamed of her) asked her if she could be pregnant and her response was \"I don't know, I guess I could be.\" Her Mom and I then asked her if she was on birth control and she said no, that it was too much of a hassle, and then informed us that if she were to get pregnant, it would be okay because it would be part of \"God's plan\". As an Atheist, it took everything I had in me not to smash her teeth in with my fist.\n\nSo my question is, if getting this squirrel in to a safe, natural environment is out of my hands, what can I do? I am not normally a snitch, but I would really like to call some time of authority. The point would not be to get my cousin in trouble (I don't want to do that) but rather to save this poor baby squirrel from a miserable life.", "summary": "My idiot cousin thinks she can keep and raise a baby squirrel."}
{"id": "t3_3cxvib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] would like to have more 'close' friends [M and F] but I am afraid it'll be bad for my relationship with my SO [23/M] Advice?", "post": "Hey everyone, \n\nI have been in a relationship for about three + years now. \nShort summary: Long distance relationship, will live together in a month, happy relationship, skyping a lot daily; result of that is that I have only 1 close friend (who's moving 300 kilometers away this august) and 2 friends I do not see often. Because I skype a lot and don't do sports anymore I do not have many contacts outside my SO/family. \n\nI miss laughing, netflix'ing and being lazy with someone (other than my SO) to socialize with. The thing is, he's kind of jealous (distance makes it hard to not go crazy sometimes) and he thinks everyone I meet (example: at work or study) is somehow into me. I do not engage into a social/more-than-colleague relationship because I do not want to cause any trouble. \n\nDoes anyone of you have advice for me about finding a balance? Or how to make my SO accept male-friends/contacts? Make him less jealous? My relationship is very important for me and keeps me going every day. \n\nSometimes I just feel like talking about the stuff going on in my head other than my SO [he knows everything anyway] and want to hear another opinion. Right now I feel like I have no one to talk to beside him.", "summary": "How can I make my SO accept that I want to make/have close friends [M and F] without being jealous or anxiously about me leaving him/others hitting on me?"}
{"id": "t3_2d9hkd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally calling a guy's wife fat", "post": "A little back story first: I go to the same bar almost every weekend because it's close to my work and I'm friends with most of the bartenders/bouncers. Because we're all buddies, there is a lot of shit talking that goes on between everyone, but it's all in good fun. This has gone on for years, with the new staff being brought in to the shit talking circle. We never get disrespectful, we know there are lines and they are never crossed.\n\nNow, Saturday night I drank a bunch of whiskey, maybe a little more than I should have drank. I was talking to one of the bouncers (around 450+lbs) at closing time and he started a sentence with \"I was talking to this fat girl on the patio\" and I thought he was gesturing to a large woman (5'4\"ish/200+lbs). As I realized after, he was just generally moving his hands as people tend to do when they talk. I followed what I thought was his gesture to the woman and said \"what, like that woman sitting by herself?\" Looking back, I think he took the word \"like\" as in \"similar to\" where I meant it as a question of if that was the woman he was talking about/gesturing to. He looked at the woman I asked about and said \"That's my wife\"\n\nNow I think he's joking because it's not an uncommon style of line among my friends. See an old drunk guy falling down, a stranger laughs at him, go up to the stranger and say \"Hey, that's my dad.\" The awkwardness gets laughs. I thought that was the situation here and just kept walking outside. The bouncer comes up to me outside and starts screaming in my face about being disrespectful, needing to shut my mouth, \"are you saying my wife is fat?!\" etc. I tried apologizing to him and explaining to him it was just a simple misunderstanding, but he had already gone full rage face. The whole thing was made worse because apparently he had to deal with someone making fun of his wife earlier in the night. I hadn't said anything negative or derogatory about her. But I know he took everything very much the wrong way and my misunderstanding surely lead to it.", "summary": "Inadvertently called a guy's wife fat because I thought he did."}
{"id": "t3_2cbfge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F21] am considering proposing to him [M27].", "post": "We've been together for 5 years. We've been apart the last 11 weeks because I had to leave for work. I'm coming home on Monday from this 11 week separation. I'm considering the idea of proposing to him when I get back. We are both very serious about our relationship and commitment to each other. \n\nWe've discussed marriage before, and agreed that it's something we want to do. The only thing that we haven't ever decided is when to do it. After being apart from him for so long, I feel like I've realized that I am so ready to make this commitment. He is absolutely the love of my life, and I want to make it permanent. \n\nSo what are your thoughts on me switching up the gender roles and proposing to him? How do I do it? Do I get a ring? Is this a terrible idea?", "summary": "I'm ready to take our five year relationship to the next level. Do I propose?"}
{"id": "t3_3xve8t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally walking across the North Korean border", "post": "I am an English teacher in Dandong, fairly big city in northern China. The city is pretty much right on the border of China and North Korea, and the border is something like 900 miles long and very sparsely guarded from what I heard and what I can see with my own two eyes. I've been here for roughly 2 months and against the advice of my Chinese colleagues in school (because I'm a restlessly curious person and more relevantly I'm a complete fucking idiot) I went for a long walk without thinking of where I was heading. Now I've been on walks before, usually for exercise. Normally I just walk around the populated areas, the downtown district and whatnot. Today I was pissed off because I had an argument with my coworker, full of pent up energy and consequently just kept walking in a straight line down the road, away from civilization and then across an empty concrete bridge over a river. 5 minutes after crossing the bridge I got out of my meditative trance and thought for the first time \"Where the hell am I?\" And then I sort of panicked. There were no signs or people around, just muddy countryside. Having seen all the documentaries and read all the articles about North Korea, I prayed I had not just inadvertently wandered into the Hermit Kingdom. And still the idea was so laughable, I seriously didn't believe it would have been that simple to cross into and keep going without being stopped. But out of panic I turned around and walked back to the bridge telling myself I was a paranoid pussy. I called my friend on the phone walking back and told him where I walked roughly and he just screamed at me to \"STOP TALKING AND RUN BACK ACROSS THE BRIDGE NOW\". We met shortly after, forgot about the argument we had and he was laughing his ass off. I pointed out the route I had taken and he confirmed yes I had crossed into North Korea but not that far. Almost far enough to regret it.", "summary": "accidentally walked across the Chinese border into North Korea"}
{"id": "t3_4g5fw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex BF's (40M) birthday is next week. I (35F) can't decide whether to acknowledge it.", "post": "My boyfriend [40 M] and I [35F] were together about 3.5 years.  It was a good relationship.  No fighting or arguments.  We broke up about 9 months ago because he has a fear of commitment and I was pushing for him for a deeper relationship. Break ups are never easy.  We exchanged our stuff and immediately went no contact.  When we broke up he said he wanted to be friends but there was no way I could have done it in light of my feelings.  I had a hard time getting over him and if I'm honest, I still have some work to do but I'm much, much better. I've gotten on with my life and feel good about myself.\n\nIt's his birthday next week.  I can't decide whether I should send him a happy b-day text.  Part of me thinks that I shouldn't because he didn't acknowledge my birthday during the period when we were \"taking a break\" before the actual break-up and maybe it's better to let sleeping dogs lie. The other part of me thinks I should because it is likely we will one day run into each other and it could eliminate some of the awkwardness.  Also, the relationship was pretty good and I really appreciate the time I spent with him.", "summary": "Should I send my ex a happy birthday greeting?"}
{"id": "t3_4ywra7", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (33M) after recent breakup, don't know if I'm ready for dating again", "post": "Hi everyone.\n\nRecently my long term relationship ended, and I'm still struggling with some issues after the break up. Let me summarise:\n\nI was in a relationship for 8 years, half of that living together, which seemed to go very nicely as we were even organising our wedding just before the break up. But important changes in life (mainly me moving to another country for a new job) ended up revealing some insecurities, lies, and finally ending the relationship due to lack of willing to go forward by my ex-partner.\n\nThis happened 6 months ago, and even if at the start it was very hard, suddenly living alone in a different country when months ago I was planning a wedding and considering having kids, I was lucky as I joined a very nice group of people at work and my old friends even if far away have helped a lot.\n\nAfter the first months of missing my ex, it transitioned to just missing being with someone, and then I was able to just focus on myself, enjoying life and improving both my body and mind.\n\nAnd then... I started considering looking for women and dating. The problem is that I'm not really sure that I'm really prepared for a new relationship, or if I'm looking at it because I feel alone. This was my only serious relationship, so this is unexplored territory for me. Thinking cold about it, I kinda believe that I should wait until I don't feel the need to not be alone (6 months after 8 years is not that much after all). But at the same time I think that this relationship has showed me how much a family guy I am and that I really want to share my life with someone. And being 33 I'm starting to think that I don't have that much time if I want that type of life too..\n\nMy question is, how do you know when you are ready to date again, if wanting to be in a relationship is something that you are not going to just forget?", "summary": "unexpected breakup after 8 year relationship, I feel the need to be with someone but I don't know if it's too soon."}
{"id": "t3_4k4uu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] housemate [19F] is dating a guy [23M] who I found on a dating app", "post": "Hey all! I'm just looking for a little advice on what to do. \n\nI just recently moved into a new apartment, and I get on really well with my new housemate, lets call her April. She's funny, and really easy to chill with. I'm hoping we can become good friends. \n\nRecently (the past 3 months) Aprils's been dating this guy, Greg, that she met on a dating app. She's been turning down other dates and claims that it would be wrong to see other men as she's so into Greg. They hang out regularly, text often and all that good stuff. \n\nMe, thinking that she had such good luck on the app downloaded it as well. I saw Greg. He was online and had put out a date request, but I can't tell how long ago that was posted. From what I can tell he's still looking for other people. \n\nThe thing is, I don't know my new housemate very well. I understand her to be monogamous, but don't know their relationship dynamic. I don't want it to be weird if I say something, but I also don't want her to get played.", "summary": "My housemate seems to think she's exclusive with a guy she met online, I saw the same guy online still actively looking for people. Do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_1lk5jw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Told off my friend/boss, what to do?", "post": "So I was at a party with my friend (who happens to also be my boss) and the girl I've been seeing/hooking up with. It's a pretty big party and everyone is drinking etc. My girl is acting kinda weird, flirty with other guys and generally not too attentive to me. I tell her I'm feeling tired and want to leave. I walk outside briefly and when I return she's making out with my friend/boss. Basically ended with me telling him off, to go fuck himself, that he fucked up etc and with her begging me to get in the car with her. I ended up getting dropped off by someone else altogether. They both seemed fairly sorry but I still haven't really talked to either one since. Not sure what to do, lots of mixed feelings, work is approaching on Tuesday and ill have to see him.", "summary": "My friend who is also my boss kissed a girl I'm seeing and I told them both to fuck themselves, don't know how it's gonna be returning to work on Tuesday or what to do "}
{"id": "t3_3p9mfw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [19m] GF [21f] of a few months, is an extremely picky eater and i don't know how to tell her i'm embarassed", "post": "I just saw a post about another guy who doesn't like his wife's food and it made me think about my girlfriend. She basically eats chicken fingers and fries (she eats some other things but it's very limited). It's embarrassing and i've told her that i wished she would try other foods but she just says that it all \"looks gross\".\n\nI am in the military so i had to leave back to my base and we are currently doing a long distance thing. I'll be flying out to see her in a few weeks and she'll be flying out to see meet my family during the Christmas holidays. I'd be lying if i said i wasn't embarrassed of her being such a picky eater around my family because we really are not picky eaters.\n\nIt's almost more frustrating that she won't even try anything new. When we go out to eat at a fancy restaurant and she gets chicken fingers and fries or just like a plain pasta it's embarrassing. I want to take her out to nice places to eat but it just feels like a waste of time and money because it just seems like she doesn't appreciate it at all.\n(excuse grammar and stuff)", "summary": "She usually looks at the kids menu before the adult menu."}
{"id": "t3_1i44el", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17/F] and I [18/M] just found out her mother has been having an affair.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3 years now. I get along well with her parents and grandparents, and it is safe to say that I am part of the family. I phoned her earlier and she told me that her mum was \"gone\" and went into detail about what happened. I have done my best to comfort her for the time being, and it has seemed to have worked, its just I don't know what to expect in the coming days, weeks and months. \n\nObviously, I love her to bits. I just want to be there for her and help her in whatever way I can. We trust each other enough to talk about anything, but neither of us have experienced a family breakup so we don't really know how to deal with it.\n\nI just feel terrible, her mum was somewhat like extended family, and I feel a kind of loss also. \n\nThis is a situation where neither of us really know how to react.", "summary": "Girlfriends mum had an affair, looks like a divorce situation. What can I do to support my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_4y9e0m", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Fixing credit - No FICO score", "post": "I searched and found some info on this sub, but I am looking for more advice. I am trying to work towards buying a house for my family, and I am not sure what steps to take to get myself in a position to get some kind of first time home buyers assistance (loans, grants, mortgage, whatever). \n\nMy main concerns are:\n\n1. According to my credit report, I  have 5 \"closed accounts\" with a positive balance due. Am I better off letting the old ones go past the 7 year mark? Is there a difference between paying it in full, and letting it drop off after 7 years? \n\n2. My credit score is unavailable. Due to swearing off credit cards after paying off 20k in credit debt 15 years ago and going \"off the financial grid\", I have zero credit history. When I was young I got credit card offers in the mail every week, but I've gotten nothing in the past 15 years. Does this mean I can't get a credit card now? Should I just apply for one and see what happens, or is being denied going to hurt me more?", "summary": "my credit score is non-existent"}
{"id": "t3_2kcvo1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] think my [20F] girlfriend might be a kleptomaniac.", "post": "We have been together two months and she had told me tonight that she likes to take things every now and then. Apparently the last time she did it was two weeks ago and it was \"just a 50 cent chocolate bar\" but she had also done it recently with an item that was \"$50-$60 \". I'm not really sure how often she does it but it doesn't seem like that was the first few times or the last few times. I asked her if she felt wrong towards stealing and her excuse was she wasn't doing anything bad and she like the feeling of being sneaky. I guess she isn't directly hurting anyone but I don't really know how to deal with the situation. She also is the type of person to feel attacked if it gets a little bit confrontational, although it rarely ever has in our relationship. Maybe once or twice. I don't think I'm comfortable with her doing this, is there any way to talk to her without making her feel like she is a bad person? I really care about her so I'm also wondering if I'm overreacting.", "summary": "girlfriend might be a klepto, any advice is helpful. Also might be overreacting."}
{"id": "t3_1ae37s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors- What was your most epic hack ?", "post": "Can't provide proof for obvious reasons, but in the 1980's I hacked a microVAX on a missile range in Baluchistan and downloaded flight tracking data on Pakistan's nascent ICBM tests. Transferred them to a DOS computer with Kermit. Analyzed the files with MATLAB. Determined the flight characteristics. Put the analysis, source data, and files onto double encrypted floppy discs. And had someone courier them back to the states and give them to a CIA contact. Bugger remembered the decrypt code wrong, and I had to give that over an open line in roundabout-speak.\n\nWhy ? Because I am first and foremost, an American citizen, dagnabbit. And the Chinese officers stomping around, bugging my hotel room, and generally teaching the Pakistanis how to make missiles, we pissing me off.\n\nHow ? Stupid administrators left the admin / password default login active. Freaking easy.", "summary": "Hacked ICBM secrets for the CIA"}
{"id": "t3_43rdx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] just became exclusive with [27F], how can I figure out if she likes public affection without suggesting it?", "post": "I'm sure it's obvious but I'm new to relationships so excuse the question if it is something blatantly obvious. I'm neutral, but I understand people usually have a preference for whether they like to show public affection or not, eg holding hands/kissing. The girl has been making me take the lead on most things and I'd rather not do it if she isn't overly into it. I also don't want to just naturally do it in case she misunderstands that I prefer to do it.\n\nI'm meeting her for our first date since becoming official later today. Should I perhaps just casually text her asking before we meet, or is there better way to go about it?", "summary": "Should I just ask if she likes to show public affection? I don't want her to misunderstand that I like to."}
{"id": "t3_2ysjjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex [25 F] 8 months. I'm really struggling with what she wants from me.", "post": "Okay, so I have a lot of feelings still for my ex, not in the \"HEY LETS DATE\" again way just emotion I suppose, we broke up (she ended it with me) but used to get angry if I would date someone else. \n\nShe wanted to be friends but yeah, she'd get angry and block me if I went on a date with someone and she found out. It left me in a very weird situation because I like my ex, she's a nice person and I'd prefer her to be in my life rather than completely gone.\n\nfew months ago she went out with another guy which is fine but I'm not sure why, the guy she went out with was everything she hated in a guy and I felt like she did it to kind of wind me up by letting me know what they're up to etc. \n\nLow and behold we had an argument as she found out I was now in a relationship with someone else and we're going great :). when my ex found out she hit the roof with stuff, refused to meet up and talk everything through like adults, wouldn't pick up the phone and eventually blocked me on Whatsapp, Twitter, Facebook etc, saying don't contact her. \n\nSo I haven't it's been over 2 months but recently she's unblocked me on these things and I'm weirded out as to why she would? I did what she told me with not contacting her, but now she's unblocked me on all these and 0 contact for that time I'm worried as to who should maybe say the first words? I want her as a friend, she's been a big part of my life and helped me through a lot of difficult times and our relationship seemed good.", "summary": "We got in an argument, she blocked me on everything saying don't contact her, few months later she's unblocked me and I'm wondering if I should maybe try and reach out to her. "}
{"id": "t3_26o9sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [19 M] who is curious if this [21 F] likes me?", "post": "So I work with this girl I'm 19 (M) she's 21(F) and we have so much fun working together. I never see her smile as much as she does when we work together and she told me she has fun working with me to. We spend the whole time talking shit to each other playfully and when we're not working together we'll usually snapchat each other.\n\nWe knew each other a long time ago and our parents are friends. I got the job because she put in a good word. Even though we knew each other when we were younger neither of us really remembers much of that so we've in a way only known each other for about 8 monthes or so. We also have a lot in common and I've started to fall for her. \n\nI don't really know if she likes me or if we're just friends. She likes to over exaggerate the age difference by calling me fetus, so I don't know if the age thing is a big deal for her or if she's just being playful.\nThis girl is so different from most girls I've met she sometimes will say she doesn't like anyone we work with and then other times says she is friends with everyone. She is such a mystery and so hard to figure out. At this point I'm trying to figure out for sure if she likes me or not because \n\nI don't wanna say anything until I'm sure because of the whole our families are friends and we work together an I don't want it to be awkward thing. Sorry if this wasn't well written or explained.", "summary": "Does this girl like me?"}
{"id": "t3_2m2r7b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She(22f) confuses me so much, I(22m) don't understand what she wants.", "post": "Me and this girl have been friends for a little bit. I felt like there has been an attraction between us so I asked her if she thought so. She said she thinks there is something between us but she doesn't want to pressure it.\n\nI asked her if her if she wanted to see where it could go, no pressure. Then she said she's doesn't know and wants to stay friends. I'm okay with that.\n\nNow we hung out again, and she says things that seem like she wants something. Like she's implying that she wants me. For example, We were talking and i mentioned that im slighty younger then her(by 9 months) and she says, \" I dont know if this is going to work out between us, i dont go for younger guys\" in a flirty way.\n\nWhat does she mean? I dont get it. Should i make my move next time?", "summary": "I told a girl i was liked to her, she said she wants to be friends but now shes saying suggestive things like she wants something more."}
{"id": "t3_3oei3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] am wondering if I should ask her [18/F] again.", "post": "I dated this girl and it was amazing. She was diagnosed with an apathy disorder earlier this year and...We broke up due to her wanting me not to be troubled with her mental disorder. I said to her that it won't bother me but she really wanted it as she wanted to focus on her studies and because this may be my last year she said she thought hard about it and wanted to break up.\n\n2 Months later we talked about it and I asked her questions. She said she still had feelings for me and that over time it will go away. I confessed and told my feelings. I just wanted to know. I told her I won't bother her about it anymore but...I just can't bare to see the feelings go away over time as it is painful...\n\nI want to get back with her but I have this conflicting feeling of not doing it due to what she said of how she does not want to. Should I atleast tell her how I feel about all this? Right now we are good friends and we enjoy each others company, but due to this complicated scenario I just can't stand the thought of us breaking up not due to incompatibility but due to how she decided that I can't handle her mental disorder.\n\nI would love some advice.", "summary": "I dated a girl and broke up due to her having a mental disorder. We still both like each other but are not dating each other. Should I ask her out again?"}
{"id": "t3_29fs9e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] he is going to college.", "post": "I am so torn.\n\nI am in love with my boyfriend, who also happens to be my best friend and soulmate. I have dated guys before, but it is so different with him, I do not want to imagine my life without him.\n\nHere's the thing: I have one more year of high school. He is going to college 4.5 hours away.\n\nI already know that the harsh reality is... Long distance will not work. We depend much on each other's physical presence, and I could not imagine a \"texting-skype\" relationship. Seems unhealthy.\n\nHowever, we have the next two summer months somewhat together (maybe few weeks where one of us is traveling). I am assuming that making the most of this time would be best. However, I am absolutely terrified of the heartbreak that is just around the corner. \n\nBack in March I was crying in his arms, asking him what I'd do without him, and he said: \"Oh gosh, don't even think about that, it is SO far away.\"\n\nYet here we are.. And I don't know how to deal with these feelings and emotions.\n\nI am very much in love, but am subsequently already grieving the prospective loss of this love. \n\nI have no idea how I am going to get over him. I just don't know how to deal with the situation, and the anticipated heartbreak as every corner of the town and school reminds me of him.\n\nAny advice on how to cope? Feeling really lost.", "summary": "Boyfriend leaving for college, how to deal with prospective heartbreak?"}
{"id": "t3_zfqf4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have absolutely no idea what to do with my life, and it stresses me out almost daily. [22 M]", "post": "Pretty much what the title says. I'm about to graduate junior college. I want to start my life with my girlfriend very badly, but I just don't know what to do. All of the things I've had interest in have been deemed un-attainable by friends and family. My best friend regularly tells me not to get my dream job, but to get some office job and shoot for 3 figures. Also: I'm retarded at math, so my original major choice of Astronomer, and my computer choices thereafter are kind of a bust. I thought about being a Writer, Voice Actor, and pretty much every job in the video game industry that doesn't have anything to do with math (not many). Everyone says \"Those jobs are really hard to get...you should just work at [insert soul-sucking job here], or in the Oilfields (local industry with a bunch of high-school drop outs, drug addicts and other terrible kinds of people).\" Every birthday that goes by it presses down on my shoulders further. Friends complete degrees, start families, own homes, and here I am: 5th year of Junior College because I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I don't know what to do with my life, and my friends/family and math ineptitude haven't helped. As I keep getting older this worries me more and more."}
{"id": "t3_4lguc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] failed to launch from my family", "post": "Grew up in a middle class family, but constantly smothered by my mother, never given a chance for independence, and dad was never around, so no male influence growing up. \n\nEven when in university, she would bring me boxes and boxes of food, I tried to refuse, but it basically made me complacent to never need to shop, and by not having debt, and crippling social anxiety, I hardly went out for anything except classes.\n\nSo, I snapped at graduation, having both internships fall through and no social connections, I just left, everything, to go live in Asia for a while, and teach English. Worst decision of my life, I was completely unprepared to deal with a job so remotely different from my technical background, not to mention the culture shock. I did grow a bit, and realized all my flaws, and how much I missed during uni. My work during Asia allowed me to basically break even, so it was only time lost.\n\nI've since then come back, crashed at their place, unable to find a path or direction, longing to go again, because I dont have any support in any form back here. I'm currently over an hour away from the nearest city, and not mentally equipt to handle cold weather depression, a big reason why I'd go again to a warmer climate, but know I wont really be able to support myself.\n\nSo, my family is also incredibly toxic, in being back here, my sister and dad have constantly put me and my ideas down, I'm getting to the point of giving up on everything.\n\nNo real relevant work experience, somehow success is measured as being able to land and work up in a 'career' job, not make money from passions. I probably look like an entitled lazy idiot, but depression, anxiety, and ADD are killer mix.", "summary": "failed to launch, what now?"}
{"id": "t3_2hvl70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] texting a [22F] after hook-up, now she stopped replying", "post": "Hi!\n\nI've met this girl and we've been on 2 dates and a movie night at her place which ended in a f-close. We get along great and I enjoy spending time with her. So a couple of days after we met I sent her the following text.\n\nMe: I need some help from me dating coach (inside joke)\n\nHer: Alright, let hear it\n\nMe: I've met this cute girl a couple of times now and I was wondering if you got any ideas on what to do next? (kinda regret sending this message, I sound like a beta)\n\nSo she didnt answer that text and 4 days later i sent her this\n\nMe: Usually I dont text twice in a row, but I have enjoyed the time we spent together and would like to meet you again.\n\nShe: Im sorry I've been off lately and forgot to answer your text. But yes, I would like that =)\n\nMe: Something happend?\n\nNo answer. Was thinking of sending her a simple text along the lines of \"Hey Im going to (insert random bar/fun activity here) on friday, you should come along\" and if she doesnt reply I'll just forget about her.\n\nDo you guys have any advice to give me?", "summary": "A girl stopped answering my last two texts, should I give it one last try or just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_4d38d6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally committing a hate crime", "post": "So this happened yesterday, but with the state of the subreddit I figured it'd be best to wait and post today.\n\nA few weeks ago I saw a great deal online for bully sticks. For those not in the know, bully sticks are bull penises, and my dog loves them. \n\nI place my order and completely forget about it. A few weeks later I'm checking my card statement and realise that I'd paid for the bully sticks, but they'd never arrived. I check the shipping tracker and see that they were delivered over a week ago... to my neighbour. \n\nThat's when I realised that not only had I sent my neighbour a bag of dicks, I'd sent my HINDU neighbour a bag of BULL dicks...", "summary": "made a typo, sent my neighbours a bag of holy dicks."}
{"id": "t3_36r8gg", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[HELP][VENT]The vet told me my dog is EXTREMELY aggressive. What steps should I take?", "post": "So back story about the dog, His name is lei and I adopted him from my local humane society about a month ago. He's a 4 y.o. shiba inu who, from what I have seen, is the sweetest dog. He also gets along quite well with my cat(he will sometimes bark and try to play with the cat -.-) but other than that they will lay right next to each other and go to sleep. So after having the dog for 2 weeks I thought I would bring him to the vet to turn in his papers and register him in the system. Before doing so, my dog has been around 20+ new people and I've never had any issues with aggression. (No hand biting, growling, snapping, etc) He is really shy around someone he first meets but other than that he's fine. As soon as I got to the vet my dog was clearly nervous/scared/anxious. After waiting for almost an hour to be seen I managed to calm him and have him sit next to me on a bench. Once our name was called, however, the noise from inside scared him out again.(trying to go back out and having his tail down) The lady who takes my dog is clearly irritated at the type of breed I have. She talked to me as if I knew nothing about the breed and snapped angrily about how aggressive the breed was. After waiting for the nurse to return with my dog she proceeded to tell me about how my dog is EXTREMELY people aggressive and ill have a lawsuit on my hands if I don't fix it. Then handed me 50 million pamphlets on dog trainers in my area. What should I do? What's the best course of action? Get my dog evaluated? Or go to a different vet? It' crazy because I've been going to this one my whole life and never had an issue.", "summary": "Rescued a 4yo Shiba. Haven't had any issues yet. Vet told me my dog is extremely aggressive, told me to get the problem fixed. Have yet to see aggression, extremely confused.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ty1rs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my ex-BF [29 M] of 3 months - he's still mad at me, but I would like to meet up with him to resolve things", "post": "Hi! I need some advice. :)\nMy ex-BF (29M) and me (30F) were dating for around 3 months and broke up because we were fighting a lot. I think we were both stubborn for no reason, and said a lot of hurtful things.\nIt has been around 2 months since we broke up and we had very little contact in the meantime.\nHe is still mad at me I think, even though we were both at fault for the breakup.\nI would like to meet up with him to resolve things, I don't know if I want do date him again, I sometimes still think I have feelings for him, but I'm not sure. \nAnd the problem is that he is sometimes like a child, he has an attitude that someone who betrayed him is \"dead to him\". I send him a message for Christmas and he replied, but was very cold to me.\nSo what would you do if you were in my shoes? Would you contact him and try to meet up? I need advice.", "summary": "Ex-BF still mad at me after breakup, but I would like to meet up to resolve things!"}
{"id": "t3_gce0n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the first illegal action you did, other than using Napster or watching porn while you were under 18.", "post": "Just went out to a fancy restaurant that my friends and I always wanted to go. They just came back from Spring Break and it's the first time the mates and I were all home together since freshman year of college started. So we go to this place, a bit under-dressed and all the richies were watching us converse loudly and talk about our college experiences. Now, this place isn't the super fancy high class ones nor is it like an Outback of sorts, but it was somewhere inbetween. We were being waited by this asshole looking lady who seemed nice at first but she treated us like shit after we ordered a bunch of expensive stuff and gratuity was included in the tip. Anyways, we all had our steaks and we were missing stuff. We let her know and she was outright rude about it. She told us that \"We don't make mistakes, especially me. I'm the best one here, blah blah blah.\" She eventually left and only came back to refill our drinks once. Anyways, we got the bill and she ended up charging us extra for the stuff we DIDN'T get. We asked her for the manager but she said he's busy. Anyways, we all decided that we'd had enough of it and while she wasn't looking, we all ran out of the door and drove away.", "summary": "Dine and dashed on a bitch"}
{"id": "t3_srsiq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your worse travel story?", "post": "Several years ago, a few drinking buddies and I were driving to Virginia on vacation. After driving for nearly 16 hours straight, we stopped for dinner one night in Maryland. I forget the name of the town or the eatery, but we ate at this little cafe right on the main drag. We were too tired to realize it at the time but the place only served vegan meals. Being the incredible dumbasses that we are, we neglected to read the menu and instead ordered cheeseburgers in the hope that we could eat quick and get back to driving.\n\nThe meals come out and we scarf them down, totally oblivious to the  other patron's horror. We pay for our meal and get back on the road, intent on making our destination by morning. About an hour later, we all start to feel rumblies in our tummies.\n\nWhat happened next will go down in legend.\n\nSimultaneously, the four of us get violently ill inside my buddy's truck. Somehow, and to this day I thank him for it, he gets off to the shoulder of the road and we all sprint for ditch. For the next half hour, anyone on 95 going South could see four rednecks losing their non-vegan, vegan chef prepared meals in the most horrible way possible. It was so bad that even after we were done, none of us could eat or drink anything besides ice chips the rest of the trip", "summary": "Four rednecks mistake a Vegan restaurant for a burger joint, get food poisoning by said restaurant, make an ass of themselves on interstate.*"}
{"id": "t3_3d0wk7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [24 F] hopefully more than one date", "post": "Recently, I met someone from an smartphone dating app (not tinder, but similar). We talked for a few days and realized we had a lot of similar interests so we decided to meet up yesterday. We both had a great afternoon and she's someone I'd really like to get closer with. Only problem is she lives 60 miles away, so close enough for a day trip but a little too far just to go for dinner or something like that. I dont live in a major city either and 60 miles is a few counties over.\n\nMy question is how can I get to the next level with her despite living an hour away? I dont mind driving but at this point we're still getting to know each other and have to be doing some kind of planned activity to feel comfortable, which is difficult to coordinate when you dont live in the same place and are two busy people.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "summary": "Met a girl I really like and get along great with. She lives an hour drive away. How should I go about the initial dating stage?"}
{"id": "t3_2kyfp1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping my dad split logs", "post": "2 years ago hurricane sandy came through, and we actually made out pretty well. A fucking massive tree did fall on my house, but it hit another tree on the way down, and that kinda softened the blow. In any case, after a lot of other stories, we got the tree off the house.\n\nMy family is pretty good at making the best of things, and we thought \"well, now we have a few thousand pounds of firewood!\". We have a fireplace that we like to use.\n\nYou can't use the logs right away because they have to dry out. I honestly don't remember if we split any last year, but even this year we have plenty left. So, I figured I'd be a good sport and help out, and split some logs.\n\nMy dad was in an accident recently, and broke his wrist, so wielding an axe isn't exactly something that's very comfortable for him. Another incentive for me to help out. It's at this point that I should note- He got a brand new handle for the axe about 2 weeks ago.\n\nI grab the axe (actually a maul but whatever) and the sledge, and he gives me some pointers. I hit like 4 logs off center, and make real crappy attempts. At this point I'm feeling like I'm not helping much, but he's cool about it.\n\nOn the 5th or 6th log I over swing, and BAM I bust the head clean off the handle. I casually tossed the handle down, looked at my dad, and said \"well, looks like I owe you a handle.\" I felt pretty damn bad.\n\nFortunately he was cool about it, and said that's part of learning.", "summary": "Tried to help dad who can't really split logs due to injury, busted the axe apart, he was pretty cool about it."}
{"id": "t3_1183hq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your most regrettable \"Socially Awkward Penguin\" moment?", "post": "So I was visiting San Francisco for the weekend, and I sort of got sucked into attending a \"Florence + Machine\" concert. I wasn't too excited to be spending my Friday night there but I dealt with it. We were in the assigned seating section and I was glad to see that my seat was next to a very cute blonde gal. After a few minutes, this girl giving me signs that she might be interested in me. As the night went on, these signs became more and more obvious and I wanted to strike up a conversation so badly...but instead I sat there awkwardly the entire night, too afraid to even look in her direction. At one point I thought that if I consumed some alcohol I would think of something great to start the conversation with, but I ended up acting becoming even more awkward. The reason I regret this is because now that I'm back home from California, I have absolutely no way of knowing who she was, where she was from, or if she was actually interested. Plus I'll never be able to explain why I was such an awkward asshole! \n\nI have to finish with saying that I work in a job that requires me to constantly socialize with people so I have no idea what the hell happened to me to make me freeze.", "summary": "A very cute girl I saw at a concert spent an entire evening trying to get me to talk to her. Instead of getting to know her, I spent the entire night being very awkward, not knowing what to do or say."}
{"id": "t3_1ee8vd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do my (F25) parents need to meet my SO's (M27) parents?", "post": "So my SO's mother lives over 5 hours away from us and my family. She is coming to visit and has made a point of saying how she expects that she will be invited for a dinner or something with my parents.\n\nWe have been living together for close to a year, probably going to get married, though I'm not really sure yet. \n\nI would prefer to wait until we decide to get engaged for this meeting to happen because his mom is bat-shit crazy and talks endlessly about random shit like stories about people we do not know and never will know. \n\nAt the same time she makes no effort to get to know us. She says that \"she loves me as her own family\" yet really knows nothing about me because on the occasions when we go to visit she doesn't let me get a word in and doesn't seem to want to talk about anything of relevance.\n\nI know my parents' personalities wont jive with her personality, and worry that them getting together is a shit-show waiting to happen. Add this to the fact that I'm not 100% sure on whether I want to marry this guy, I just don't think I should be forced to set up an awkward meeting between my parents and his mother.\n\nWe did have a discussion about it before, but he ended up just getting frustrated and dropping it so as to not jeopardize our relationship. But I still feel he is resentful about this and I'm sure it will come up closer to the time when his mother is going to visit.\n\nAm I being fair? How can I explain this to my SO without coming off as being stubborn?", "summary": "I don't want my boyfriends crazy mother to meet my parents until I'm completely sure he's the one I'm going to marry."}
{"id": "t3_4wym9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [36/F] coworker [late 20's/M] who inappropriately hit on me just asked me to write him a letter of recommendation", "post": "I am in a very happy relationship and a guy I work with flirted with me a few months back.  He said that he found me \"stunning,\" but he said it in a casual way in the middle of a conversation when we were consulting about something else that was fairly serious.  I was very uncomfortable with it and told my boyfriend about it, which then made him uncomfortable.  He said I did nothing wrong, which I agree with, and since then I've tried to avoid the co-worker as much as possible.\n\nAlso since then, it came out that he hooked up with a colleague at work and then treated her poorly, causing her to be so upset she quit the job.  I have noticed many many more ways that he is inappropriate, has horrible boundaries and moreso just has huge issues.  We work in the mental health field and I have a higher position and degree than him so it REALLY bothers me to see how he acts.\n\nToday he asked if I would write a letter of recommendation for him to go to counseling school.  I personally think he could be a good clinician, if he had more training, so I think it's a great idea for him to learn boundaries, ethics, theories, etc.  However, I feel really weird about writing him a letter of recommendation, mainly because my boyfriend was uncomfortable with him flirting with me, and also because I don't think he has good judgement at the moment, but he could eventually have it with the proper training.  I'm a people pleaser so in the moment I said yes.  But now I feel awkward, what do I do?", "summary": "Guy at work hit on me, has horrible boundaries now he wants me to write him a letter of recommendation to go to school in the mental health field."}
{"id": "t3_2ynenq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [21/M] been dating this girl [21/F] for three weeks and I'm not sure if we're moving too fast.", "post": "We both have amazing chemistry and it seems we're almost always on the same page. We're both pretty infatuated with each other. Never before had I had the urge to text a girl almost daily (and I'm known as a horrible texter), see a girl often or really get to know them.\n\nWe both have never been in a relationship before and are typically scared of commitment. I mentioned last week that I felt we were moving too fast and we should take it slow. I told her I don't want to hurt her if we don't work out and she said she's strong if it happens, and that she said we'll see where time takes us. \n\nWe had one drunken talk this past weekend and admitted our feelings to each other. I said I was falling in love with her and she said she really liked me. At one point in the conversation, she almost said I love you...but stopped. She started getting emotional and started crying and I wasn't sure if it was out of happiness and/or sadness. She said she never gone this far with a guy and I mentioned the same. I said for us to be monogamous but not official to determine if our feelings are real and not circumstantial. \n\nAt these times when I talk about the state of our relationship, I feel like she always agree with what I say and doesn't give any dissent. I don't know if this is a good or bad thing. \n\nI'm probably being an asshole right now. I feel like I'm trying to fight the feeling of falling in love/being in love because I've never felt these feelings before and things are going too smoothly to be true.", "summary": "I've been dating this girl for three weeks and we both have never been in a relationship before nor gone this far with someone in terms of dating, thoughts? "}
{"id": "t3_31gtio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26m) have had a falling out with a good friend (25f), but I need to tell her something.", "post": "Hello everyone, first off, sorry for the vague title, I suck at titles apparently, let's hope I don't suck at typing the rest ;)\n\nObligatory mobile/non native sentence.\n\nLong story short, I have/had a very good friend (25f), we had a very good bond but for the past few weeks we had a falling out. \n\nThe problem however is that she is in a bad situation with someone else, her dancing teacher, whom she had an argument with. \nI know her teacher personally as well, so I know every detail of the situation since a few days (before that I wasn't really digging into their problem but it came up in a conversation).\n\nNow the thing is, I know what to say to both of them so that they can resolve their problem, something I know will make my friend a lot happier. \n\nHowever, I know she won't like me (or anyone for that matter) interfering with her life and chances are she won't react positive towards me nomatter the outcome.\n\nSo what do you guys think I should do?\n\nOption A is I keep completely out of it, nothing changes.\n\nOption B is I do what is necessary for them to fix their problem.\n\nHonestly I care more for her being happy (dancing is a BIG thing for her) then her being pissed at me, hell, I'd see it as an heroic sacrifice, she'll hate me but her she can go back and do something she loves.\n\nSo I'm leaning towards B, get myself involved, fix this for her, nomatter the fallout. \n\nSo people, advice please, are you going to talk me into it or out of it?\n\nCheers!", "summary": "friend and I aren't talking, I know a solution to a big problem of her. Should I help her even if it won't help me?"}
{"id": "t3_1u5ae6", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How to deal with a family member believed to have dependent personality disorder?", "post": "Some backstory: \nAbout 2.5 years ago, my grandmother had a stroke and didn't tell anyone. Because of this, she now cannot communicate with the world. She cannot speak coherently, read, or write, but is otherwise physically sound. My family and I think that an assisted living community is the best for her. How we're going to do that is another matter. \n\nThe stumbling block with all of this has been my uncle, who is, for lack of a better word, a manchild. He cannot manage money, cannot live on his own, and is generally not responsible. He currently works for minimum wage in a nursing home kitchen and constantly talks about trying to join religious societies in either New York or Massachusetts (barring the fact that he's been kicked out of at least 10 such organizations previously). He lives with my grandmother and refuses to take any responsibility for her well being or inform my mother or my aunt as to what is going on with her. Every time we tell him how we can help, he simply says \"oh, okay\" and disregards it. \n\nA few months ago, my aunt was going through my grandmother's things and discovered several books on dependent personality disorder, and my mother (who is a psychologist, but does not practice), thinks that this is fairly accurate. We know that in order to move my grandmother, we have to do something about my uncle, but we don't know what. Any kind of therapy seems to be out of the question, as he cannot make a long term commitment like that and we think whatever disorder he has is too ingrained to be fixed.  \n\nMy mother and aunt have both made clear that he is not welcome in either of their houses, so him living with any of us is not a possibility. Both my mother and aunt live several states away from my grandmother's house, and my aunt says that she cannot provide much assistance in this matter due to her job and kids. Basically, my mother and I have to figure out everything, and we're not sure what to do about him. \n\nMy mother owns a small cottage fairly close to our main house, and we are thinking that we could rent this to my uncle if he can find some sort of job close by. That's our only option now.", "summary": "How to deal with adult manchildren?"}
{"id": "t3_1jz0hd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24/f] am having trouble forgetting about my ex[28M/] of 5 yrs. Should I talk to him again?", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I had been together for 5yrs. He was there for me in my darkest times when I had no one and no where to go. He was like my other half and we could do absolutely nothing together and be perfectly happy. I miss staying up all night playing video games and building forts. I miss feeling like I had a family. We broke up because he was texting other girls and hit me when I confronted him about it. I went to rehab and stopped all communication with him. When I got out I received messages from him but did not respond. Now I can't stop thinking about him. I feel like a need closure or just to talk to him. He was the only person I had for so long and I don't know how to just forget him. Should I reach out or just move on?", "summary": "Should i reach out to my EX?"}
{"id": "t3_sz4oy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone tried to break in, need some advice", "post": "The other night I was playing The Walking Dead.  It was a little after midnight and I was really getting in to the game, then I heard the sound of glass breaking.  I have a python, so at first I figured one of his lights broke.  Checked the lights, they were fine ... so I started walking around the house, but not after grabbing my rifle. \n\nI didn't find anything.  I started to wonder if the noise was a sound effect in the game, or maybe I'm just going a little bit insane. \n\nThe next morning I noticed some broken glass in my spare room.  I moved the blinds and found broken glass on the inside.  It seems like someone was pushing up on the glass from the outside, but used too much pressure.\n\nI talked to a cop friend and he said there's no doubt about it, someone was trying to break in.  He said somebody was going to be inside my house, while I was there, and I wouldn't have known about it at all.\n\nI'm a single guy and live alone.  I have my kids on the weekend, and thankfully it wasn't this one.  I'll be honest, I'm freaking out a little tonight.  I guess I'm here because I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with the anxiety of knowing someone was trying to get in here.  I wonder if they picked me for a reason and if they are going to try again.  I still haven't fixed the window, and it's very, very obvious that it's still broken (cardboard and electrical tape...).  It can be seen from the road, and the sidewalk is probably 10-15 feet from the window.", "summary": "someone tried breaking in, freaking out that they might come back.  what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3pi8wt", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Breed] Best dog for cuddling?", "post": "My boyfriend has a family def mutt Chiweenie, Hercules,  he's a cutie pie and cuddles like crazy.  I was thinking about getting a dog, and I desperately wanted dog that wants under the covers and loves cuddles and loves the attention like Hercules.  I'm pretty willing too spend time training, grooming, and exercising him/her, and I don't plan on having children, like at all.  I've had dogs in the past(family dogs).  I guess I could get a chiweenie, but I wanted too know my options for a cuddly dog. Would a deff dog want cuddles more?\n\nExtra: Not gonna lie I wanted too be one of those girls who carry's around her puppy(though if that's bad I won't).  I tried looking it up, but I just get 'cute dogs that Looooove cuddles [PHOTOS] MUST SEE CLICKSCLICKS CLIIIICKS - Buzzfeed '. So, reddit what do you think?", "summary": "What dog breeds love cuddling and want constant attention and love?"}
{"id": "t3_1jx3t0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the whole 'WakeUpNow' business opportunity and how legitimate is it?", "post": "Recently a couple of people I know started promoting this business called 'WakeUpNow'. They were explaining to me how they are this business that offers discounts on travel, groceries, and many other expenses, and it is an opportunity for you to make money by marketing their business. I was told that the system works by getting a certain number of friends & family to 'sign up' with this business, and then when you have enough people under you then you can start earning $600 to $10k a month, just by solely marketing the business & signing people up, and supposedly they offer you take vacations at huge discounts, just by \"taking a picture of the receipt and posting on a social media website and claim 'in a business meeting', and then the company reimburses you\". Now doing some research, some people say they are a scam and don't do it, others say it is a legit business and not a pyramid scheme.\n\nI'm looking for legitimate answers. Is it pyramid scheme? How does this company generate money? Anyone on Reddit have experience (good or bad) with this company. **I am not interested in this company**, I'm just digging for details on what this company is about?", "summary": "People I know are into this 'WakeUpNow' business opportunity, some say it is fake, others disagree. What's the whole idea with this company?"}
{"id": "t3_299f62", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make soldered connections", "post": "TIFU because I was tasked to replace an electrical component on some equipment on a customer's machine. Easy enough, I thought, as I drove to Reno, NV this morning. I found out they old wires were soldered in and the new ones would have to be soldered onto the new component. Three wires and 15mins of work and I'd be out. Well as I was finishing up the solder the last wire's solder looked uneven so I decided to warm it up again and spread the solder out a little better.... Since I had already started cleaning up when I made this decision my alligator clip for holding the wire in place was in my toolkit and I didn't realize how much \"spring\" was in the wire. As soon as the solder liquified, the wire popped off and slung hot solder onto my lower lip! It burned like hell but I pulled it off and finished the job and cleaned up my tools and was having the customer sign the work order when I noticed my forehead felt funny... Then I looked in the mirror in the washroom..... I now have a section of my right eyebrow missing but it looked very 80's with the shine of solder!", "summary": "Having your eyebrows waxed can't hurt more than pulling solder off of your eyebrow!"}
{"id": "t3_1z9ob8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(25m) I have been asked by my (30f) gf the hardest request ever and it will probably end us. Update 2", "post": "Link to the first post", "summary": "ex did a u-turn, says she wants to be single, I feel miserable."}
{"id": "t3_50xnbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] Became a supervisor, How can i get them to respect me?", "post": "I'm a 19 y/old college student who landed a supervisor position (im hard working but it still amazes me). After a month of training i'm soon to get my first crew. We have learned a lot about the rules and how to do the job perfectly.\n\nThe problem is its only been a month working here, and i'm going to be in charge of employees who are upwards of 40 years old. My supervisor just tells me, I project authority, and to just stand my ground and i say \"ok, i understand\". Truth is I don't know what that means. I'm afraid that they will resent me for being young and inexperienced. I am hoping they just see how amazing I am at the job, but not resent that i'm better than them.\n\nI'm also not a big guy, i'm 5'6\" and 140 lb's . I had to shave my head and facial hair to look my age. So any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "How to develop a good relationship with my employees and earn their respect, at such a young age."}
{"id": "t3_gumbl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fucking your friend's sister.", "post": "So I've had a lovely bromance going for the past couple years. We met at an internship, and quickly became really good friends. He is 26, I am 23, she is 23.\n\nAfter a horrible breakup I found myself flirting with his sister, who is my age, and ended up fucking her. I never told my friend, as he has always been very protective of her. The stupid decision had been made however, and in my regret, I hid the truth. I talked about the situation with his sister, and we forged a mutual understanding to not get serious(i think.)\n\nAnd then my roommate fucked her. A bunch. And then rejected her when she asked for a relationship- which stirred the pot up, and all the truth came out.\n\nHe finally confronted me about the situation in a parking lot, saying \"you've betrayed me in a way I would have thought unimaginable. I have nothing left to say to you.\" He then flicked his cigarette, and drove off.\n\nNot knowing what to do, and being nonconfrontational, I wrote him a letter admitting guilt and apologizing. \n\nWe haven't talked since. I'm thinking I should just call him, and that the letter may have been seen as a weak response- but it's always been the best way for me to say something.", "summary": "fucked my friends sister, didn't tell him. he found out. not talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_161ljd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do I not have the same connection with my group of friends as they have with each other?", "post": "Well I have a group of friends, first started out as me and another guy in freshman year then grew to 4 and now it is up to 8 people stable that consecutively hang out all the time. When we are together hanging out, they do things with each other than they don't do with me, such as 'cuddling' ( not couple cuddling but friendly cuddling ), laying on each other, and other stuff really close friends would do.\n\nI see them do this almost daily and I feel cut off from the bod they share. I feel left out and often I am left out of certain activities they do. Relationships between people in the group have been attempted but were shut down and now they have been 'banned' in the group. \n\nI am not treated like they treat each other, almost to the point of feeling like they don't want me in the group any more. The things they say, their body language, and how they act around others makes me feel secluded and alone, but if I were to leave the group l, I would be back to square 1 with no friends. My social anxiety and general shyness makes it difficult for me to make new friends. I am the one that just sits there quietly because I cannot think of anything to say or cannot get confidence to say it. \n\nI am not sure what to do, should I keep up my false veil of acceptance or should I talk to them or just destroy any hopes at keeping friends past college life and cut off contact? It kills me inside to feel left out of certain things. They always text each other and throughout the day I feel lucky just to get one text from any one of them. \n\nI don't know, I feel like I am ranting or trying to get pity but I am really feeling like I am being left out of the group friends type closeness.", "summary": "feel like I am being left our of close friend interactions even though I try to be a close friend to them."}
{"id": "t3_qeusv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We want to have sex, but she's absolutely terrified of getting pregnant... is there anything I can do to help her through it?", "post": "Obligatory info: we're in our early 20's, been together for a long time and we're both virgins. We're extremely attracted to each other, madly in love and fool around on a regular basis, doing just about everything except going all the way.\n\nThe only reason we haven't sealed the deal is because she's *mortified* of becoming pregnant. Practically to the point of a phobia. We'd obviously take every precaution we can to avoid that, but she's heard plenty of stories of people getting pregnant while using multiple forms of birth control, so regardless of how careful we are she'll still be very scared of the risks.\n\nI love her a lot, so I'm not pressuring her into anything. Her fear is reasonable (I'm worried about it too) and I'm willing to wait as long as it takes, she knows all of this. **This isn't a deal-breaker at all**, so if you think I should just break up with her, that's not going to help me.\n\nStill, I worry she'll never get over this. Nothing is 100% effective, so how will she ever agree to take that risk, if she hasn't already? What could more time do to calm those fears?\n\nIs there anything I can do or say to help her without making her feel pressured? I understand that patience is the right course of action on my part, but I just don't see how more time will help. Maybe it will? I really have no idea, this is something I'm completely inexperienced in. Has anyone else gone through this?\n\nThanks in advance, I'll answer further questions if it helps.", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_289wq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M/F] Just Started Seeing This Girl and Her Ex Is Threatening to Hill Himself", "post": "Met a great girl last week, we've been clicking so fast and I know that we have something great going for us. We went out on our first date and she explained to me her situation with her ex, which had me in awe and I did not really know what to tell her.\n\nShe was about to break up with her ex when I think he started to sense she was going to. They were staying in a hotel for the weekend, and he threatened to kill himself by jumping off a balcony. When she tried to restrain him he threw her away where she ended up going through a glass table. To add fuel to the fire he began telling people she raped him on the trip and he doesn't trust her anymore.\n\nThe worst part is he texts her just about everyday and she is clueless on how to handle it. She doesn't want to feel responsible if she does end up killing herself, and she complies to talk to him just to avoid this. She assured me there are no feelings at all, but she does it because she couldn't live with herself.\n\nI literally had no idea how to respond. I told her I was glad she was sharing this with me, but I really don't know how the handle the situation. Usually when people say they're going to kill themselves over a girlfriend, it's just to find a little glimmer of hope and to hold on to something that is not there. This girl has a huge heart and I think she really doesn't want to feel that guilt.\n\nHow do I go about helping her out in this situation? It seems really tricky and I don't want to get in the middle, but I really like this girl and he needs to back the fuck off.", "summary": "Started seeing a new girl I really like, her ex threatened to kill himself when they broke up, he started harassing her, and now she doesn't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2vd5kn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blowing up my PSU", "post": "My system isn't that great, but it's pretty damn good. I've got an AMD Phenom II x4, 4gb Adata 1333 Ram, 2TB Seagate HHD, a 450w Ultra", "summary": "Overclocked a 500w graphics card on a 450w power supply. ***BOOM***"}
{"id": "t3_1m18i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22M] not sure how to ask out friend's sister [19F]?", "post": "* I'm 22M\n\n* Friend, Leah, is 23F\n\n* Friend's sister, Jill, is 19F\n\nI think Jill may be interested as well but I'm not sure. I don't want to keep asking myself \"what-if\" and I want to just ask her out but I'm not sure how to go about doing it.\n\nJill, Leah, and I all have pretty much the same group of friends. So, I never really get a chance to be alone with Jill to ask her out. Even if we aren't out with our group of friends, it'll always be with Leah as well since the two sisters are really close.\n\nI don't think I should ask Jill out when Leah is there as well. Should I just ask her out through text or would that be too impersonal?", "summary": "How do I ask out Jill if her sister is always around?"}
{"id": "t3_17hyaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have been talking to a [22F] for 3 months now and just found out she had sex with my roommate while I was home over break.", "post": "So I have been seeing this girl for about 3 months now. We haven't made things \"official\" but have both confessed feelings for each other and decided to take things slow and \"do it the right way\". We started hooking up some back in November but hadn't progressed to having sex until last week. A few days after while talking with one of my other friends, he tells me that her and one of my roommates had sex on New Year's Eve. When I confront her about it she breaks down crying and apologizing. She said \"she didn't know why she did it\" and that \"it just happened\". She swore that nothing like that would ever happen again and that she really wanted to be with me. When I asked her why she hadn't said anything she told me it was because her friends had thought it best not to. She acts like she really regrets the whole thing and how she handled it but I'm not sure I can get past it. I've asked for some space which she has given me. My question for you all is how should I handle this? On one hand I believe that everyone deserves second chances. While on the other I don't know if I can ever get the thought of them having sex out of my mind. On top of that, it makes me feel like the whole \"taking it slow\" thing was all for not. What felt special at the time seems like jack shit when I know she gave it up to him after one night.", "summary": "Roommate had sex with girl I was talking to while I was home over break"}
{"id": "t3_39j26m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22/F] suspect my guy-friend[24/M] who wants to sleep with me is still taken and using me to sleep around with", "post": "My friend 'Sean' and I have known each other for a little over three years. We're fairly good friends, but somewhat fell out of contact a while ago when he graduated from our university. We share a pretty large friend group, though, and they usually know how he's doing and trying to invite him to our outings. Through the group I knew that Sean was dating 'Maggie', a younger girl(19) from out of town. \n\nBut last April, Sean contacted me out of the blue and started striking up conversations over messenger, ostensibly to seehow I was. I enjoyed talking to him again after a few months of no contact, and soon after our conversations started he told me he had been thinking about me and wanted to sleep together at some point. I asked if he was still with Maggie, and he said he had broken up with her the past month.\n\nWe continued to banter the following months, and eventually scheduled our first 'date' for this upcoming Saturday. I was pretty excited, and was hanging out with some of the guys from our friend group today. Sean's best friend, 'Matthew', didn't seem to know that Sean and I were seeing each other, which struck me as weird since Sean tells Matthew everything. Later that day, Matthew also offhandedly mention that he had been hanging out with \"Sean and his girlfriend\" last weekend.\n\nI'm not sure if it's a misunderstanding or if I'm overreacting, but I'm worried that Sean may still be seeing Maggie and trying to sleep with me behind her back. I had a big crush on him a year or so ago(which he knew about and did not return at the time), and I'm worried he might just be trying to take advantage of me and my feelings. How do I broach this subject with him without sounding accusatory?", "summary": "I suspect my friend[24/M] might be taking advantage of my[22/F] crush on him to cheat on his girlfriend, and I'm not sure how to get the truth out of him."}
{"id": "t3_yiufm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Spanish/English speakers of Reddit. What are good resources/tools to help a 20 year old Spanish speaker learn basic English?", "post": "I am working with the Migrant Education program in New Hampshire. This boy is 20 years old, a Spanish speaker, and knows very little English. He wants to learn basic vocabulary in English. So far I have been looking for podcasts to put on his Ipod to listen to while he works. However, most of these podcasts are too advanced. He has also expressed interest in watching movies in English with Spanish subtitles, but most of these movies move too fast for him. I am trying to find something that moves slower without being at a child's interest level. His English is EXTREMELY limited. What tools/tricks do you suggest?", "summary": "He is a twenty year old Spanish speaker who wants to learn VERY basic English preferably through auditory or visual means. I'm trying to find age appropriate lessons."}
{"id": "t3_20blhe", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Training for my big goal helped me crush my little goal.", "post": "I've read several times on this site how the best way to get your shorter times faster is to run longer distances.  This never really made sense to me, but as the most amateur of the amateurs, I never gave it much thought.  My primary goal of running four miles in 32 minutes was put aside to train for a half marathon in under two hours, and I pretty much forgot about the shorter run.\n\nAbout a week ago I posted a [race report] from the half marathon I did in Chiba, Japan, eight minutes under what I was initially shooting for.\n\nI came back to the states on the cusp of Monday turning into Tuesday, and by that point I hadn't run since the previous Sunday since I was on vacation and needed a lame excuse to be lazy after a very physical seven weeks.  I went to the gym Tuesday and Wednesday morning to get back into the routine of things, and focused mostly on pull-ups and other body weight exercises, along with some short stints on the elliptical to get the blood flowing.  Plus, I had to lose them ramen and beer pounds.\n\nThis morning, I decided that instead of hitting up the gym, I was going to lace up my shoes and head to the park.  While I was stretching, I thought I might as well aim for four miles and see how far away I was from the eight minute pace.  Mind you, I thought I would be close, maybe a half a minute away in either direction.  At no point had I timed a straight four mile run, and I hadn't really done any balls to the wall running since I was going for half marathon pace.\n\nHere is my [Garmin Connect] report, including the splits.  I came in at 30:01, a full half minute quicker per mile than what I was shooting for.  I'm going to keep on running Saturday 10 milers and train to get this down quicker, making more difficult goals along the way.\n\nIt's a beautiful day in this city.  I think I'll go back outside after I finish doing laundry.", "summary": "If you run longer, you'll run faster."}
{"id": "t3_20c1hv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[22F] told me[22M] \"Why are we still dating if I make you feel angry/sad?\"... We have been together for almost 3 years.", "post": "I've heard that phrase 2 or 3 times and I've had enough. Sometimes I feel like she wants ME to end the relationship for whatever reason. After a small argument we had, it went something like this.\n\nHer: \"Why are we still dating if I make you feel angry/sad?\"\n\nMe: \"Because I love you? Are you telling me that you want this to end?\"\n\nHer: \"No\" \n\nMe: \"So why did you bring that up?\"\n\nHer: \"I love you so much and it's not like I want to solve this by breaking up, but I don't want to hurt you\"\n\nShe's very sweet and she always tells me how \"happy\" she is with me, our sex life is great (she lost her virginity with me), we always have a great time when we are together, etc... Most of our problems are caused by lack of communication or misunderstandings.\n\nLately I've had a \"feeling\" that shes hiding something from me, she's \"acting\" normal, but I just have that strange feeling that something is not \"right\", for example, a few days ago she went out with her sister (that's what she told me, honestly I'm not sure) to do some errands, she was SO reserved when she was explaining me what she was doing, where she was and why she didn't replied to my messages... Some stuff seemed a little bit \"suspicious\".\n\nWhen she goes out with her sister (or her mom) she always messages me \"We are almost home\", but that day she wrote \"I'm almost home\", implying she was alone. Maybe I'm just f****** crazy. We live like 3 hours away so we only see each other like once per week.", "summary": "My gf told me \"Why are we still dating if I make you feel angry/sad?\" after a small argument, I would never say something like that to her. Is it normal? Is it a warning sign?"}
{"id": "t3_3nvnbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [38F] with my step-aunt [80+F] just had this posted to my facebook about money she thought she deserved that my Dad inherited and subsequently what I will inherit.", "post": "Original post \n\nThanks everyone who commented and the positive vibes.  I'd really wanted to express my anger but I didn't want to react only out of anger and this seemed like the right place.  \n\nI saved a screen shot of the page and sent it to my attorney.  He printed it out but I'm not certain if she broke any laws.  I had considered giving her the business that my step-mom ran, but since the estate hasn't closed nothing is mine to give away.  I'm that estate's admin so I can discharge their debts and pay their bills but that's about it. \n\nMost of her nasty comments were just her opinion so I don't think its libelous towards me or my Dad.  Other than the Muslim thing, but I don't consider Islam to be an actual insult. \n\nIt took some restraint but I'm taking the high road for now and not making any kind of reply to her directly but I confess a small, indirect FB jab without being specific. \n\nShe unfriended me but then made a friend request right after that, I don't know if she wanted to read replies or make a change, or if her other family members told her it was a mistake.  I deleted the request.", "summary": "Not responding, lawyer has the screen capture"}
{"id": "t3_hjzk0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "\"Give the goat head\"?", "post": "A coworker of mine said, \"I'll run some preliminary tests first before I give you the goat head\" over AIM. \n\nShould I have corrected him? If so, how should I have responded?\n\nI'm asking reddit because there are a lot of people who have (strong) opinions on grammar nazis and when to behave like one. \n\nMy opinion is that so long as the main message is conveyed well enough, I don't say a word. (For example, everyone knows what a grammar nazi is. Should I have taken the time to find out whether \"grammer\" and/or \"nazi\" should be capitalized? I don't think so.) But I also wouldn't mind if someone corrected me. It's kind of for my own edification, and I think it improves how well I can express myself with words.\n\nSo, in the case with my convo with my coworker, I didn't say anything because I knew what he meant. But I also thought, \"What if he uses that phrase incorrectly again? What if someone corrects him later and he thinks that I don't know the correct usage because I didn't say anything?\" I might be thinking about this too much. \n\nAnyway, what would you have done?", "summary": "A coworker of mine said, \"I'll run some preliminary tests first before I give you the goat head\" over AIM.  Should I have corrected him?"}
{"id": "t3_2lzu8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] was seeing a guy [26M] for about 2 weeks. I think he took nudes of me, and may have shared them.", "post": "Ok. So I was hooking up with a cowoker (I know, horrible idea) for about two weeks back in August before I broke things off. There were several red flags: \n\n1) I told me he \"loved\" me after about three days.\n\n2) He didn't understand the word no, and I had to either yell at him to stop trying to have sex with me or physically leave the room for him to get the message (made even worse by the fact that I, myself, have been raped and he was aware of this.\n\n3) There were two/three incidents when I was in bed, naked, mostly asleep, he had his phone out and pointed towards me. \n\n4) When I tried to end things, he grabbed my wrists really freakin' hard and pulled me towards him while yelling \"NO!\", and that I couldn't break up with him because he loves me (I'm 133, he was like 200? of solid muscle). Super scary.\n\nNow, I don't know for sure if he actually took any photos of me. But he recently switched to working the night shift, where I work middle shift - so I do still have some interaction with the night shift people. Since he started working nights, people at work have started treating me differently. \n\nSo, I don't know what to do. The last time I saw him at work, I said we needed to talk, but was running late for the bus, so I had to go. I gave it two days and then texted him about it. No response. Any advice? I am partially hesitant to see him one-on-one as he did scare me a lot...but I feel like I have to know what's going on and if he took any pictures of me.", "summary": "Coworker I hooked up with for 2 weeks may have taken nudes of me. May also be talking about me behind my back at work or something. Have tried to contact him to talk about it, no response. "}
{"id": "t3_1nsn9h", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I asked a girl out. Still haven't gotten a response.", "post": "Hi, Reddit, just felt the need to talk about this on here so I can try and, well, *get it offmychest.*\n\nI'd talked to a girl for a little bit, she seems super cool. This was over Facebook, and we exchanged phone numbers a day later. What was really nice was that it seemed that there was a mutual interest. Naturally, I was excited. We talked about hanging out together soon, that was pretty much it.\n\nSo she asked me if I was going to this school dance over Facebook- when I got home, I saw that and replied, telling her that I wouldn't be able to go. There were some more complications involved with my not being able to go, but it isn't really relevant to what this post's about, if that's okay.\n\nSo I said that while I wasn't able to go to that dance, I was wondering if she'd like to see a movie or something like that the next week.\n\nSince we were talking over, well, Facebook, it showed me that the message was seen by her, but I haven't gotten a response yet. I suppose I just shouldn't worry about it, but I'm kind of eager to know if she'd be up for it or not. \n\nIt's ridiculous, I suppose, but this sub is called 'offmychest.'\n\nAdvice? Pointing out what I'm doing wrong? OP is fag?", "summary": "asked a girl out, a day's passed, still haven't gotten a response."}
{"id": "t3_39cwyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend[26 M] of almost 2 years, live with his parents, we're trying to get healthy. How do I get his mother to understand this?", "post": "So my boyfriend and I stay with his parents, and we are both constantly on the go. We are saving to buy our own place and we live in Hawaii so it is very expensive here. So, just moving out isn't an option. \n\nHe and I are trying to eat healthier (his parents say they are too) but when I cook, I need to cook enough for everyone in the house rather than just the 2 of us. That would mean 6 of us total. \n\nHis mom does the grocery shopping and we do some as well. I am getting so sick of her buying crap food. She buys only cheap and processed food and if I don't cook then they eat crap when I'm not there or if I don't cook. I could do all the grocery shopping but thats expensive for a family of 6. She says she wants to eat healthy but all she buys is crap. Spam, vienna sausages, ground beef, cream of mushroom, and other things.  NEVER buys fruit and when she does, it goes bad because she doesnt cut. it only gets cut if my boyfriend or myself cut it. She'll buy vegetable here and there but rarely because she says they go bad to fast, but thats because she's always trying to make junk food.\n\n And for meal prepping, thats impossible in that house. If you have food in there, and someone wants to eat, there it goes! I can deal with this but its mainly the buying groceries and cooking. I don't know what to do with this woman. I understand she gets home late from work and just wants to throw stuff together but shes going about this wrong. What do i do?", "summary": "my soon to be MIL is lazy and is saying she ways to get healthy but doesn't do anything for it. I don't want to do all the shopping, and cooking for a family of 6. HELP?"}
{"id": "t3_yk9nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (23) plays online games with his Ex. Should I be jealous? I'm 23.", "post": "We've been dating for a year, and he's a great guy. There's only one thing that bugs me: he still talks to his ex. They play League of Legends online and talk on the phone sometimes. They also talk on gmail chat, and she frequently posts on his facebook.\n\nThey were best friends for a year before they dated, and then dated for 3 years. He says that he's not attracted to her, and that he's completely over her. I do believe him, but I've told him several times it makes me uncomfortable that he talks to her. I haven't demanded or threatened that he needs to stop talking to her. \n\nWhat should I do? Would it be unreasonable to ask him to stop talking to her? If not, how do I not have this bother me as much as I do?", "summary": "boyfriend still talks to his ex. I don't like it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1m0hci", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I got yelled at for standing up at a concert while the people behind me wanted to sit. Am I the asshole?", "post": "I was at a concert this weekend supporting my favorite artist. Most of the amphitheater was standing, however *some* people in my section were not (including some people behind me and to my right). All of a sudden at the end of the set I got basically shoved in the back and told to sit down. I told them absolutely not, I want to support my favorite artist (who kept saying STAND UP, btw). I paid over $100 for these seats and I want to have a great time.. after all this IS a concert. Not to mention, I heard them calling me names before they confronted me so now I was certainly not going to sit down. Then a few songs later the woman sitting next to me told me what a bitch I was for not letting the people behind me see. Was I in the wrong here?", "summary": "I stood at a concert while the people behind me sat and I got screamed at... am I in the wrong? "}
{"id": "t3_m9g3r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, are my parents in the wrong?", "post": "WARNING: WALL OF TEXT!!!\n\nThis year I started college as a freshman at one of the biggest party schools in the United States. I was never a party goer in high school, and being exposed to alcohol and marijuana at one time was, as some would say, overwhelming. I talked to my pothead friends back home about things I should try over Facebook and joked about cocaine use (neither of us ever used cocaine, but my hall mate sold). Just earlier this week my mom called me weeping about how she thought I took cocaine and I was addicted to the stuff. She had read my Facebook! I had never given her the password or permission to look at my Facebook. Obviously this was an invasion of privacy, but I didn't mind it much, all she cared about was me. She told me she wanted me to fly home, but I told her I should stay because this week could determine if I passed or failed. She cried about how worried she was, so I agreed to fly home and see her. As soon as I landed, I was driven to a care clinic where I was to be administered a drug test. Before the test, I admitted to her that I had been (barely)drinking and smoking pot at school. The test came out positive for alcohol and THC and nothing else. She still wasn't sure I was telling the truth, and now she wanted me to stay home and work for the rest of the semester. 'Sure' I said. I realized both my parents were scared and there was not much of a chance of me passing anyway. Soon after all of this I realized that all of my shared savings account between my mother and I had been transferred to her bank account. I asked for my money back to go buy Skyrim, but her exact words were \"why don't you pay me back for the flight?\" I agreed, because I had several thousand and the flight only cost a few hundred. But she quickly snapped back saying \"well I'm not giving any of it back, you will have to pay it off with the money you earn with your job.\" Now I'm stuck at home for the rest of the semester with no money and away from all my friends.", "summary": "My mom made me feel guilty enough to withdrawal out of college (something I didn't want to do) and then took all my hard earned money (well more than the plane ticket) and told me to pay her back for the plane ticket with the money I would earn working the rest of the semester."}
{"id": "t3_1l4m5h", "subreddit": "college", "title": "As a future transfer student, what types of things should I do to boost my resume at my current university?", "post": "So I was put on the waitlist for the college I am hoping to attend last year as a high school senior, and never got in. My letter, however, said I would be a competitive transfer applicant in the future. So basically, I am trying to spend one year at the university I am at now, and then make the transfer to the other school, assuming I get accepted. So I am asking, what should I do besides get good grades and get involved at the university I am at now to improve my chances of getting in this time? Sorry if my grammar sucks.", "summary": "What should I do on campus as a freshman to help my transfer application to a different school?"}
{"id": "t3_2yljux", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally insulting my crush.", "post": "So I'm sitting in class on test day waiting for this girl to show up. I've been crushing on her and recently got her number. She walks in, sits down, and i notice that it looked like she rushed in. And thr first thing out of my mouth is, \"you look like you just woke up.\"......what have I done. No no NO! I meant you *rushed* in like a person who just woke up, not that you *look* like a person who just woke up.\n\nBut there's no time to backpedal because just then the teacher is passing out the test. For the next hour all I feel is shame and embarrassment. I texted her after class( I got done before she did) saying I was really sorry. We exchanged a few more texts. But now it's been more than a day and I haven't heard from her. \n\nI feel so stupid, first girl I've met in a while that could be more than a hookup and I completely blow it. I have class with her tomorrow and I'm not sure how it will go. I think I should apologize in person but maybe that will just be more emberassing. I think this is how the Seahawks felt after the Super Bowl.", "summary": "Told my crush she looked like shit."}
{"id": "t3_qkhfz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I owe Chase 50K and they won't let me pay, what do I do?", "post": "I have been unemployed (or without full time employment) since graduating in December of 2010. In September of 2011 my loans became due. I tried to deal with them then by staggering payments and trying to get an economic forbearance, but they would have none of if. Yesterday I called them again to try to work out a payment plan and they told me that the loan has been \"charged off\", and that I would have to deal with Chase's collections branch. They (the collections office) told me that the loan was now due in full. They added that no payment options were available aside from full payment, financing would have to be obtained through an outside party. I have no credit, I have no job, there is no one that is going to loan me 50K right now. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do at this point. \n\nside info: this is two private student loans, my wife co-signed, I own a house that I'm afraid will have a lien put on.", "summary": "By the time I could make payments on the two loans I had taken out, they went into collections. The bank is not willing to work with me in anyway to resolve the problem other than full payment."}
{"id": "t3_3p1eys", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by finding my brothers hentai blog NSFW", "post": "(I'm using a throwaway account because he knows my reddit username)\n\nMy brother really likes drawing, and he is damn good at it. So when he announced that he had posted some of his art to the internet in hopes of finding commissions, I thought that it would be nice to see some of it, so I went and googled his usual username, and from there, I found his tumblr blog. The blog was all about his art, which I looked through, and ended up seeing all the posts (of which there weren't many). It was at that point that I noticed the link at the top which said \"NSFW Art\". I internally debated for a moment as to whether I really want to see what kind of art he had done that would be considered NSFW, but my curiosity got the better of me, so of course I decided to click the link. I guess I got what I was expecting. Now, I'm going to get very detailed on what the art actually consisted of (although I can promise that it was NSFW), because of the small chance that my brother will ever see this, but I what can say, is that when I woke up this morning, I did not intend nor expect to end up seeing small chibi-like characters with cat ears having sex, which is a weird enough experience as it is, but trust me, it feels a lot weirder when you know that your brother made it. And that is why you should never be curious about anything, *ever.", "summary": "\u2572/( \u0361\u00b0 \u0361\u00b0 \u035c\u0296 \u0361\u00b0 \u0361\u00b0)/\\\u2571\\"}
{"id": "t3_w4ujh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should my brother of 13 years be allowed to play Skyrim?", "post": "Background: My brother wants to start playing Skyrim. Since I used to be a notorious gamer myself my father has asked me to decide if my brother should be able to play this game or if he really is to young, since its age limit is 16 (in my country). \nNow I'm not sure what to say on the one hand I don't want to be the bad parent to my brother that doesn't allow him to have fun (you know how these kids are) but on the other hand I want to provide a fair evaluation why he should or should not be able to play, to my father.\n\nCould you also name reasons (for instance what parts in the game make it an absolute nogo) for why he should or should not be able to play.", "summary": "Father asked me to decide for my 13 year old brother whether he should be allowed to play Skyrim which has an age limit of 16 in my country."}
{"id": "t3_1soh6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am finding myself seeking validation of my appearance from others, while not taking seriously my long-term boyfriend [20M]", "post": "I think part of this has to do with the fact that I spend a lot of time with my boyfriend and his friends, so I'm constantly exposed to the way his friends talk about girls - not in a derogatory way, just kind of admiring certain girls' beauty and bodies.  I feel really immature for getting insecure when this happens because I know I'm pretty and I'm sure any of those guys would say the same. My boyfriend has hinted that his friends have said things about me being attractive before, but he always refuses to go into detail. I just wish every time I hung out with them I wasn't wearing sweatpants with no makeup on, because I feel like then they'd think of me less like a bro, and more like a hot girl. When I talk to my boyfriend about this and he tells me I'm beautiful, it just seems meaningless because of course he'd say that - he's my boyfriend. I feel really stupid and selfish for wanting more because I'm truly in a really happy relationship. I am just sick of my insecurities and I was wondering if this is a normal thing to feel. Does any of this make sense? Sorry, I'm typing on my phone so it's hard to look back and proofread.", "summary": "I love my relationship and my close friendships with my boyfriend's friends, but I keep finding myself wishing that they viewed me as a pretty girl, rather than just as a \"bro\""}
{"id": "t3_40kiox", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting some food.", "post": "Well this happened about an hour ago. I was at a restaurant with family. We ordered our food and sat down to eat. All was good up until we finished our food. At this restaurant they gave us Styrofoam plates and my cousin thought it was pretty funny to write \"suck my ass :)\" onto  his plate and it was directed at me. We didn't think much of it and we figured they are going to get thrown away. At this particular restaurant they didn't have a trash can and we had to give them the plates our selves. We left not thinking about it at all. As we were about to leave the owner or manager of this establishment told us we might as well not come back for the note we left them and now I can no longer go back. The worst part is one of them was a teacher at my school and its a pretty small town. I have no idea what tommorow has in store  for me but I hope it just blows over.", "summary": "I went to eat at a local restaurant. My cousin wrote suck my ass smiley face on his Styrofoam plate. And we are now banned from there."}
{"id": "t3_ss5ik", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad asked for my opinion on his girlfriend moving in - what are some things I should tell him to consider?", "post": "So, background. My dad has lived alone since '04, with me living their on and off. In the last two years, I lived there full-time until I moved out of state for university. Today he called and said that his girlfriend of 2 months is looking for a place to live, and that he was considering moving her in, but she wanted my blessing on this first since I still live there part time.\n\nI've decided to say yes as it is my dad's house and my dad's life, and when I come back home I'm looking to rent a place with my boyfriend anyways. However, the situation is quite rushed, and I want to bring to make sure my dad considers everything about the situation before he jumps in headfirst. So far, I've brainstormed these things:\n\n* Why does she need a place to live? There is a big difference between looking for a new place when your lease is up and being kicked out for not paying rent.\n\n* Will this cause drama with your old ex (whom you never let move in after 2 years) at the bar you both go to?\n\n* Will this cause drama at work since you and your girlfriend work at the same company?\n\n* How well do you *really* know her in such a short time-span?\n\n* Is there enough room to move her in? You've said the house is \"cramped\" when I live there.\n\nSo Reddit, am I missing any big considerations? I've never met the gal, and since I'm 500 miles away I probably wont until summer vacation. Am I right in giving my blessing for them to move in together? I'll probably call him later tonight or tomorrow to talk about it again.\n\nThanks in advance,\n\n-amavit", "summary": "My dad wants to move his girlfriend of 2 months in, what are some things I should have him consider first?"}
{"id": "t3_2k0nb8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Speeding down highway. Can I get a ticket?", "post": "18, Male, Tennessee.\nI was speeding, like 120 in a 65. Some girl kept trying to speed up with me in a shit car, I drive a turbo g35 it was no match but she wouldn't budge she'd push her little car around trying to pass me, and obviously putting her life in danger, I'm no godly driver but I know my car, and the road. I knew what I could do speed wise, and I constantly took it back to around 80 before she'd speed up. Eventually I had to turn, and she held up her phone, and a piece of paper, I assumed it was her number but now that I think about it she probably got my tags and plans to report or something, I want to know could I get in trouble? \nOn mobile.", "summary": "a girl saw me speeding, sped up grabbed tag number and held up her phone, what will/can happen? "}
{"id": "t3_3bukip", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "i just found out my off/on ex of 8 yrs is dating the girl he met off tinder and cheated on me with", "post": "im so shocked i could fall over and die at any second. im 23f and my ex m27 who ive been madly in love with since i was 15... we remember what we ordered on our first date in 2007... just this year we went to like 6 concerts together and then boom... one day he told me he didn't want to marry me was tired of hurting me and leading me on and wanted to fuck multiple women. \n\nso he was seeing me and this other girl and i messaged her and told her he was playing her and she made him pick between us and at first he told her he couldn't but he is publicly in a relationship with her now...\n\ni'm like he told me she was bigger than me and her tattoos were ugly. if he dated her he'd leave her for someone hotter... i was the sexiest girl he's ever been with (that's pretty much the truth)... he told me he was already bored with fuckin her and she couldn't give head for shit. \n\nso i'm like every guys dream girl (i've beaten a bunch of old nintendo games; earthbound, a bunch of zeldas, i can run through mario and beat it a second time without dying... i can cook and clean and i'm submissive and can deepthroat love anal... 36d 5'3... i waitress and make good money... ugh) \n\nwell anyways... i just don't get how one day he could just up and leave me like 2 months ago and already be with someone else... his sister has met her which means so has his grandma. i'm devastated. like he's my first love... how do i just get over this?\n\ni feel like i got dumped all over again. srsly fml.", "summary": "im whiny and wallowing in self pity sorry"}
{"id": "t3_2s9e3t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] Relationship cannot advance because my girlfriend (22/f) refuses to talk about anything else but the same problem.", "post": "My girlfriend (22/f) is having trouble with her roommates, which is causing us to drift apart due to it being the only thing she ever wants to talk about.\n\nMore specifically, she gets mad that she will do something and be given hell for it, and then no one says anything when another one of her roommates do the exact same thing. She also feels that because she is so invested her career that she is drifting apart from her roommates who are having a harder time trying to relate to her, but she claims that they are not even trying.\n\nThese are the two big problems that constantly affect our relationship because, despite having sat down countless times to discuss this and work past this, it continues to happen and she continues to bring it up. I'm a really patient guy, but this has been occurring for the last 5 months and I thought I'd bring this up to the reddit community for help.", "summary": "Relationship at a standstill due to recurring problems with her roommates."}
{"id": "t3_10e6pr", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Babysat a kitten over the weekend who turned out to have fleas - what should I do?", "post": "I'm looking for some advice - I babysat a kitten over the weekend who it seems like just started getting fleas.  The owner had been aware of the flea dirt, but didn't do anything about it (and also didn't tell me that this was happening).  I found a few adult fleas on the kitten, and informed the owner and told her she needs to treat the kitten.  Now, I'm wondering what I should do about my apartment.  It seems like this was early on in terms of when the fleas started, however, I'm worried because I was hoping to adopt a new cat soon as my former cat passed away earlier this month.  Do you guys have any advice for how to treat my apartment and also how worried should I be about possible flea infestation?", "summary": "Babysat a kitten with fleas for a few days, no cat of my own currently, what should I do to treat my apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_mnbvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: What MacGyver moments have made you feel like a total badass? I'll start....", "post": "Just got inside from my apartment balcony after a half hour of trying to fish an envelope off the balcony below me with a tent pole. So I was going to throw my credit card down to my son's mom who was going to buy him some Pop Tarts because I'm on the 3rd floor and she'd just run down with the wrong card by accident and didn't want to come back up. I put it in a random envelope that was on my table just because it felt like the right thing to do before tossing it down and the envelope caught the wind and sailed onto the balcony directly beneath mine, which belongs to an unoccupied apartment. Too far from my balcony or the ground floor for a broom to reach, maintenance guy not available, I ponder 5 minutes or so. A light bulb flashes in my head....tent pole. I inserted each segment of the pole into the end of the other, but ultimately when I held it vertically the weight of it pulled it apart. Pulled it back up, scotch taped each joint (no good tape in the apartment, of course), gave it another 20 minutes, and bam, knocked it to the ground and went down and got it. My son's enjoying a blueberry poptart....Fuck yeah", "summary": "Got my credit card back with a tent pole, some scotch tape and a half hour on my balcony. "}
{"id": "t3_2zv31f", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Help! Need some advice with a girl! (M;16)", "post": "I went to the movies with two of my friends (They both are dating) but one of them brought one of their friends and apparently she really likes me since that night. \n\nThe next weekend I had a movie night at my place with the same people. The girl and I were cuddling, but I couldn't get my arm around her (I kept trying to, but she didn't notice my arm stretching out) but I think not having my arm around her really bothered her. How do I get her attention so she can lean forward so I can move my arm around her? The situation will most likely happen again and I am just curious.\n\nThe next day the girl, my friend (the one in the relationship), and I went to the beach. She seemed fine that day, meaning she still liked me, considering we took a picture together at the beach.\n\nAlso, the girl JUST dumped her boyfriend the weekend before the movies (at the theater, the night I met her), so it's only been two weeks. Her previous relationship was only 2 months. We both like each other, but I don't want to rush it just in case her emotions aren't all together yet", "summary": "How do I get a girl's attention so that I can get my arm around her? How long should I wait to ask a girl out, whose only been single for 2 weeks since her last break up (previous relationship was 2 months)?"}
{"id": "t3_10rmpv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[18m]Hit off with girl at party, exchanged numbers, she set up a date... Now she says she might cancel due to studying, not sure how to proceed.", "post": "Met a girl last night at a party, we talked ages and then exchanged numbers, she invited me for a drink at a bar this evening, earlier when I texted her about what time she wanted to go she says she might not be able to go due to studying.\nI played it cool and said to text me later to say whether she is coming or not. \n\nI'm not sure how to go forward, we got on really well last night and she suggested the date and location, is her excuse legit? Should I try to setup an alternate date when (if) she texts later or contact her tomorrow morning about a new date? I've read that you should be positive and let the other person know you definitely want to spend time with them. I want to show her I'm interested without seeming desperate to go out with her.", "summary": "I met a girl, swapped numbers, she asked on a date, now she might cancel. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ccvob", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching the film Chappie", "post": "Background: I had some important things to get done today. I had to pay some extra rent on my place, sort out references and paperwork for a new job I'll be starting next month and a new house (I'll be moving away from where I currently live). I have also recently broken up with my SO of nearly four years, so unsurprisingly I'm an quivering, emotional wreck. \n\nI've always liked Neil Blomkamp's movies; District 9 was amazing and Elysium was ok. Chappie seemed like a fun-filled, action-packed hour and a half I thought. How wrong I was. I had *no* idea how emotional this film was. Without ruining the film, there's a lot of scenes when Chappie (a robot) learns about the world and starts asking some thought provoking questions about life. I got to a point in the movie and I totally lost it. I was sat there absolutely sobbing my eyes out for some bizarre reason. I'm a reserved guy, and considering the emotional impact my breakup had I did damn well on the crying front. It all came out during this movie. \n\nTwelve hours later, I have lost the place I was supposed be living at, I'm late sending a contract to my new job, and I forgot to book/schedule a bunch of other semi-important things.", "summary": "Watched Chappie, turned into an emotional wreck, forgot to do a bunch of stuff which basically set my life back a month."}
{"id": "t3_4fn7lc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [28 M] get over my long-term GF [25 F] of 3 years", "post": "So I'm reaching out here because I've been having a hard time essentially getting over my ex, who I felt was the one (it's nearly 3 weeks now since the break up). \n\nWithout warning, we broke up when I found out she had gotten close with someone else during her break (vacation), and she said that she felt different about me when she had come back. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around having 3 years of good times, shared dreams, fears, and goals, and us working toward our future together, to be suddenly undone by one week being away. \n\nI feel devastated, and having already had trust issues prior due to childhood reasons, and a prior relationship, I feel like they've gotten worse (which I've opened up to her about before). She made me feel secure, loved, and wanted, especially since a lot of family oriented goals were brought up by her first. For everything to be suddenly turned upside down crushed me. \n\nI'm sure everyone feels this way after a breakup, but I'm just not sure how to handle the emotions that come in waves. You know, some days are better than others, but then I just have bad dreams about it nearly every other night. It also doesn't help that she's already moved on, and already in a committed relationship with this other person, and my mind keeps drifting to it.\n\nSo what do I do? I've been wrestling with the idea of reaching out to her somewhere down the line, and trying to seek closure, but I don't think that would be a good idea. I don't know. I'm not really used to this kind of rejection, much less from a relationship that felt like it was going great. Especially since it was someone I felt so comfortable opening up with, and had so much in common with, you know?", "summary": "Found out my ex of 3 years cheated on me with someone during her vacation (broken up for nearly 3 weeks now). How do I get over her? Do I reach out and seek closure sometime? "}
{"id": "t3_4dqaca", "subreddit": "self", "title": "TIFU By having a good morning. (I wasn't allowed to post to /r/todayifuckedup but I needed to share my story)", "post": "This morning was a morning like most others. Sure I was a bit tired from using robin all night, but I was optimistic for the day ahead.\n\nAll this changed about half an hour ago.\n\nI was approaching my uni and walked under a tree that hangs over the footpath. As I did, the gods looked upon me with vengeful hatred, and I was showered with what I can only describe as liquefied hate.\n\nFor a few moments I thought, oh wow, that rain started quickly. Until I realised it was hot. And green. And it stank like death. \n\nIt turned out that some vile little fucking pigeon had looked upon my optimism, and literally decided to shit all over me. \n\nSo then I had to walk home, the smelliest I've ever been, with a green streak of pigeon shit down my nose, sticky hair, avoiding as many people as possible. Got home, took a shower and have put my clothes on to wash.", "summary": "FUCK PIGEONS"}
{"id": "t3_s1knx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What kind of employment scam is this?", "post": "Throwaway account.\n\nSo I'm out and about at the grocery store, and I end up talking to some fellow who was trying to decide on an ingredient for something he was making (I happened to be familiar with this smoke-points and stuff with cooking).\n\nWe get to talking and he asks me what I do. I tell him I'm unemployed and looking for work. He mentions that his company is looking for people, gives me his phone number, contact info, website, describes a bit about what they do.\n\nHe invites me to some type of open house / group interview tomorrow.\n\nNow, this fellow was well-dressed, friendly, professional, and seemed very legitimate. But I'm naturally a very skeptical person, and it seemed that offering someone a job interview in the middle of a grocery store, while not unheard of, is probably uncommon.\n\nSo I went to the website he gave me. It was suspiciously generic and nonspecific. I googled a few phrases from it, and found a *ton* of identical websites with minor differences (different company names and contact info). Here are three random ones:\n\nThis obviously strikes me as highly suspicious. What's going on here? I tried googling this, but I couldn't find any information. Am I gonna show up and have my wallet taken, or be asked for money, or what? I assume that I shouldn't show up...\n\n... can anyone who knows what this is about, clue me in? Thanks.", "summary": "Guy offers me job interview tomorrow, but website is extremely suspicious and seems to be duplicate of other websites."}
{"id": "t3_19uzt5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24M] just broke up with her[25F]. I am going crazy soon. Please advice.", "post": "[This] is my story.\n\n3 days ago, the relationship ended due to alot of things. I pressured her to think carefully of our future, she started to distance away (not replying messages, less cares). So i got paranoid and did some very stupid things.\nI am working in the same shopping mall with her, different shops. I started to check on her alot, her phones, spying on her working because i thought she was getting together with another man opposite of her shop (lets call him A)\n\n1 day, i called her saying goodnight, but i found out right after we ended the call because she sounds very tired, she actually called (or being called by) someone else and talk for another 40 minutes. so i freaked out and confronted her. She said she was talking to her husband, but i will never believe she can talk to him for so long. so i pressured her and finally, she confessed that she was actually talking with another guy(she said its not A). then all hell broke loose.\n\nshe wanted to end the relationship, saying that it is mostly my fault because i did not believe her. i did everything to stop it, but she insisted, telling me to find another available woman.\nnow, for the last 3 days, i am spying on her at work, confronting her every 6 hours to take me back, tracking where she was going (phone tracker i installed before breakup) to see whether did she really had another guy already.\n\ni found out she got really close with A. i confronted her and she says he is just a friend. i cant sleep at night without alcohol (i didn't really like alcohol before), stalk her everyday, even to the point i went to places she went after work to stalk her.\n\nso reddit, please help before i lose my mind.", "summary": "bad break up, going for alcoholism(i think)"}
{"id": "t3_3spdfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "**Update** My [25 M] GF's [24 F] male friend is making me uncomfortable.", "post": "Original post \n\nI talked to my girlfriend about the \"platonic\" friend she had met while traveling in Europe. I told her how uncomfortable it made me, it hit a breaking point that day when I needed to use to phone to call mine (lost it in the couch) and the first fucking thing I see is a FB message from asking for a sport bra picture, that led to me bringing it up during dinner.\n\nShe said \"Yeah, I know he's a fucking creep, I see how it makes you uncomfortable, but you have nothing to worry about\". I told her flat out I don't want him in the apartment, and she said she didn't plan on having him over unless they wanted to order out for dinner.\n\nAll good, right? I'm still not sure. I messaged this guy through FB telling him to back off, he decided to block me, and when I logged into my gf's fb I noticed one of them had deleted the entire conversation, I guess one or both of them were suspicious that I had read the entire thing. I've been gone for a week and I won't be back until 12/1, he was supposed to visit this week but ended up having to go to Kentucky...now he's going to be there this weekend....I'm incredibly paranoid. The problem is that I can't really divulge this shit without admitting I've gone through my gf's personal conversations...I've been logging into her FB since I've left to see their messages.", "summary": "Talked my gf about this guy making me uncomfortable, she told me I had nothing to worry about, he's just a creep. I messaged this guy to back off, he blocked me, and their original full fb conversation has been deleted, and he's going to visit her this weekend and I'm gone until 12/1. Problem is I can't voice my paranoia without admitting I've been going through my gf's personal conversations."}
{"id": "t3_1hbpsp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (28F) just need to vent about my ex (30M) a little", "post": "So we were together 5 years and living together most of that time. We broke up two months ago because things were pretty bad and he had a lot of his own issues to deal with. He basically told me that I'm an amazing GF but he's just so fucked up right now in his life that he ends up being a terrible BF and I don't deserve that etc. He told me that he still loves me but he could barely keep his shit together let alone be a decent boyfriend. He just couldn't be in a relationship right now\n\nI understood this, and knowing his past and his problems this made a lot of sense. He was treating me pretty bad the last year of our relationship (i don't mean abusive) just inconsiderate and consumed with his own issues.\n\nWell, two days ago I found out he was seriously dating another woman and I feel absolutely shattered. The break-up was a good thing, for both of us, but I'm stunned he's already dating seriously. \n\nI feel hurt because I truly felt for him and the tough time he was going through, I cried with him, and now I feel like it was all bullshit. I feel like he actually just wanted to find someone better than me\n\nAnyway I've never felt more rejected in my life. I never thought it would affect me this way but I find myself utterly heartbroken.\n\nsomeone please tell me this gets better", "summary": "two months after breaking up because he couldn't be in a relationship, my ex is already starting one with someone else.  Rejection and sadness ensue"}
{"id": "t3_2y7kqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing or brushing my teeth for 5 days whilst on a school trip.", "post": "So this didn't happen today like many other posts on here. This happened 5 years ago and I went on a residential at school. I arrived at my room with 6 other friends and we all unpacked. I noticed I didn't have my toiletries bag with me. I thought I must have not packed it by mistake. All I have to do is ask one of my friends if I could borrow their stuff. Only, I decide not to do that. \nIt was an exercise based trip with a lot of sports in the middle of the summer so it was very hot. I went swimming in the ocean, playing football (Soccer), caving etc. \nI speant all my money on the vending machine buying mints to try to keep my breath smelling bearable and I wore a hat at all times because I can imagine my hair was extremely greasy. \nI can't imagine how bad I smelt and nobody told me. Now here is the worst thing about it. My toiletries bag was with me the entire time.  It's just that when I had to pop out of our room when I was unpacking, one of my friends picked up the bag by mistake and instead of putting it back in my suitcase, they stuck it on the floor behind my suitcase and when I pushed my suitcase under the bed, it pushed the toiletries bag back to the wall. I didn't realise until I was packing to leave when I did a quick sweep to see if I left anything, to find that bag pushed up against the wall.", "summary": "I went on a sports trip without my toiletries, only to discover when I was leaving, I had it on me the whole time."}
{"id": "t3_1eomnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 19[f], am in love with my best friend 20[m]. How can i get him to fall for me?", "post": "I have been in love with my best friend since year 2 of our friendship. He is the only person i trust in this world. \nWhenever he describes his perfect girl, he describes me, i don't even think he realizes it. He even goes so far to say \"I want to marry my best friend\". \nIts confusing, because he shows no interest in me thus-far. We get along great, we joke about & have fun.\nI've loved him for the past four years, when i first realized it, i let him know. But he said didn't want to ruin our friendship. Ever since then I've acted like my feelings aren't there. I even give him helpful realtionship advice.\nHe is the only person i know i could trust in this world. \n\nWhat i want to know is how can i make him fall for me too? How can i show him I'm right for him?", "summary": "I, 19[f] have been in love with my best friend 20[m] for the last 4 years. how can i show him im right for him?"}
{"id": "t3_4eam54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with a girl I just took on a date[21 F] i am unsure as to whether I ruined it", "post": "I am not going to lie. I suck at 'dating'. I have been in relationships, but I fell into them without a 'date'. This was the first proper date I have had...ever.\nNow, it started a bit blandly. I live in Sweden, but I am British. Meeting girls is hard for me. We had spoken for about 2 weeks on the phone. It just took a while for my arse to get into gear and talk.\n\nNow, I asked her, perhaps stupidly, if she was still attracted to me after meeting. She said 'yes'. She, however, did not want to kiss me (she said she is not 100% sure yet. maybe in the future). This bothered me a touch because on the phone she had been talking about all the random hookups she has had (one night things). I did not go there for sex, so that is fine. Just...I don't know why she had to decide on kissing me or not. We didn't kiss, but hugged goodbye (she called me back)\n\nThroughout the day, she gave off 'signals' that she may have liked me. Her knees pointed towards mine, touching my knees etc. This may not have meant anything though.\n\nShe did ask if I wanted to hang out soon. i said 'yes'.\n\nBut, now she seems to be talking not so much. I get she may be tired, but she told me she was sleeping today but she was still online on Facebook (maybe too tired to talk?) and that we could talk tomorrow.\n\nI really like her. She knows I am after something longterm, maybe to get a girlfriend at the end. So y'know.\n\nHow can I tell if she likes me? Why would she not want to kiss me if she was attracted to me?\n\nGah.", "summary": "I suck at reading girls and finding out if they are attracted to me. Man alive."}
{"id": "t3_1uizlh", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog is afraid of the basketball pole that's always been there? (hasn't been afraid of it previously)", "post": "I have a chihuahua (pug mix) dog, (1 yr/5 months old). We usually take him for walks around the gated apartment complex, where the gardens are at, the neighbors have a basketball hoop (the ones filled with water to keep it standing). One day they left a carpet out in the sun to dry & he quite like it (he was rubbing/nudging on it & I guess when the thing shook/or when I lifted him to hop on the carpet it scared him).  Ever since he hasn't been ANYWHERE near it, he doesn't want to even go outside anymore near that area (he'll just go potty & come right back inside).  I have tried carrying him over there and just holding him walking towards it, but right when I put him down he runs for his life back home. Tail is in between his legs, never seen him like that before.\n\nHe has never been afraid of going over there before at all, EVER, always had to go over there to potty on his usual spots, and has never had a problem until that incident...\n\nI have never seen him afraid of anything before like this.  Also, not sure if this is because recently a neighbor brought their friends dog over to play (near that area/female retriever/poodle mix but he's never seen her).\n\nI have tried to put snacks (in a trail) near there and have him slowly go out so he wouldn't be afraid, but once he eats all the snacks in the trail, he runs right back home.\n\nI have also attempted to put the snacks on the basketball hoop base & he has just eaten the food (or merely ignored it in panic/looking up all the time to see if anything is going to fall on him or something)...\n\nWhenever he leaves his safety area (home) he looks up & around but mostly up... How can I help him see that the basketball hoop is not dangerous? (ie. it's secure & won't fall over anytime soon even in gusty wind conditions)", "summary": "Dog afraid of basketball hoop that has always been there, was not before, need him to not be scared of it so that we can walk past that area or near it. How can I help him overcome that fear?"}
{"id": "t3_3lph6b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a dark joke.", "post": "OK, like many other submissions, this wasn't today. I would've done this the day it occurred, but my computer was fucking up that day.\n\nThe day was August 31st, 2015. The sky was blue, a there was not a cloud in sight. I was sitting in my 9th grade reading class when suddenly, the teacher stands up and says \"Today, we are going to reading a book called 'Schooled'.\" For the people unaware of what the book 'Schooled' is, it's about a boy who has to a public school after living at a commune for all of his life. But, the teacher also added that we have to know what a commune is. So, she was explaining to the class what a commune, and she began to tell us about the story of what happened at Jonestown back in the 70's and she said something on the lines of \"The people there were forced to drink Kool-Aid mixed with cyanide\"\n(Here's where the fuck-up begins.)\nMe, being the retard I am, stand up and shout \"OH YEEEEAAAAHH\" like the Kool-Aid guy would.\nNeedless to say, no one appreciated it. I sat back down in my seat, and waited for my punishment.\nI got 3 weeks detention and a phone call home.", "summary": "because I want to: I tell a dark joke, I receive 3 weeks of detention."}
{"id": "t3_48112n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] want to mend a broken friendship with a [20 M]", "post": "So things between this friend and me got messy and I now realise that it's almost entirely my fault. I was unfair and sometimes rude while he accepted it. We nearly broke contact completely but I realised what an idiot I was and apologised and tried to make things better.\n\nThe best we are at the moment is facebook friends and we send eachother messages on birthdays or sometimes like photos. That's it.\n\nI really want us to be closer again. So in a few weeks I'm going to go back to the same city where he lives and I was going to try and ask him to meet up. I'm just not sure how to. I think after all the drama he won't be interested in meeting me but I somehow want to show him that it won't be like that again.\n\nI feel like sending him a message simply asking if we should meet would seem weird because it would almost be like I was pretending that nothing happened between us. But then if I acknowledge what happened in the past and say something like 'I'm sorry and I don't want it to be like it was before', then I'll just be reminding him of what it was like.\n\nI feel like the relationship is so delicate and any wrong move would ruin what's left of it. So that's why I came here. Hope you can help.", "summary": "Want to meet a friend who probably doesn't want to meet me"}
{"id": "t3_2i8pjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/F] ex BF[18/M] sent me a video of himself and I think I just cheated on my new BF [20/M]", "post": "(Background) I just started university this year and before summer I broke up with my HS boyfriend of 2 years. I was in love with him, he was my first in everything and he is undeniably good looking. Unfortunately he turned 18 before me and went to the bar and proceeded to cheat on me while drunk and that ended the relationship.\n\nI'm currently seeing someone I met during orientation and it's pretty serious, I like him, he's different but to be completely honest I'm not as attracted to him as I was with my ex. Anyways a couple nights ago he (my ex) commented on an old instagram picture of us, against my better judgement I replied and we started texting (I thought it was harmless) and it somewhat felt like old times.\n\nTwo nights ago I got a message from him and it was a video of him masturbating, of course I was shocked at first but that wore of pretty quickly and I got turned on, like really turned on. He called when I didn't message instantly and I guess we had facetime sex. I felt so horrible when I woke up.\n\nI can't explain it other than I'm still very much attracted to him, he is extremely good looking, I can't not be. I have been ignoring him since then. I had a date with the guy I'm currently seeing tonight but I cancelled because I can't face him, to me it counts as cheating and I was cheated on before and it almost broke me, so I pretended to be sick. I'm pathetic and weak. \n\nSidenote: I know he *(my ex) is flying back home for thanksgiving as well and  our parents are friends and I know they'll force me to atleast say hi to him so I can't hide. It's coming up soon and I'm just so confuse, I can't talk to any of my friends because I'm to embarrass. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Ex sent me a video of himself masturbating and we had phone sex and now I feel awful, I'm just completely lost as to what to do next"}
{"id": "t3_pop9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "twins of reddit, whose got a funny twin story?", "post": "let me start\n\nmy twin brother and I would religiously eat in this family run Japanese restaurant, good food super cheap.  I would go in the day and he would go of an evening.  We would never go together because of differing shifts.  I would go alone and he would bring his girlfriend.  I convinced by GF to go and she loved it (again cheap and good) and well that's when all hell broke loose.   It took around three visits, but the wait staff started getting really shitty with us,  started giving my GF dirty looks and on the final visit literally threw our plates on the table.  Only figured out on the way home they thought I was banging two chicks and using there restaurant as a rendezvous point.", "summary": "I ate a toy car and was found in my brothers hip"}
{"id": "t3_2fjrmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20/M) cannot figure out this girl (20/F) and what she's doing", "post": "I met this girl in college earlier this year and got completely blown away by her. I got a chance to talk to her because we were doing a project together. We got on pretty well and made each other laugh and talked a bit about ourselves. She even touched me a good few times, I think that is meant to be a good sign, but there wasn't massive flirting going on i'd say. I finally got the courage to ask her out but she said she had a boyfriend. She said she wanted to be friends though but I texted back that we probably shouldn't be friends since I really like her and she has a boyfriend but I said I wished them all the best. She didn't reply to this and when I had to text her one more time about the project where I said I didnt want to seem rude for saying I didn't want to be friends, that I enjoyed hanging out with her and that I would add her on fb when I made a profile but she didnt respond to this either. I saw her a few days after looking at me after we had an exam.\n\nI moved on over the next couple of months and added her on fb since I had only just got it (long story). She accepted the friend request and we hadn't talked until a few days ago. Im going on a trip to the city she;s from and asked her for advice on where to go. She didn't respond to this and I checked a day or two later seeing that she had seen it but not responded. However she hasn't blocked me or anything like that. \n\nI just don't really understand whats going on with her. We seem to be getting on fine then just no response after that. Is she just repulsed by me? Awkward about the situation (although we won't see each other in college again as she was on an exchange)? Is she thinking I'm rude for saying i didn't want to be friends? Maybe her bf doesn't want her talking to me? I cant figure it out. Thanks for any help.", "summary": "Girl stops responding after I ask her out when we seemed to be getting on well."}
{"id": "t3_12ojrb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We are expecting a baby girl in February and want to tear up the carpet downstairs/put down something easier to clean...", "post": "But we are at a standstill with the opinions we are getting.  We do not plan on staying in this house for more than a few more years.  I just can't handle the carpet anymore with pets and I'm assuming it only gets worse with kids.  We aren't made of money and obviously don't have that much more time but we are hearing vinyl tiles won't last and are a pain to get up.  We put pergo in a room upstairs that seems to be working well but that's a low traffic area as opposed to downstairs which will be a high traffic area.  I need all you home improvement/construction savvy people to give us some advice.  My husband is planning on doing it, as again we can't afford to hire someone, so ease of installation is important.", "summary": "We need advice on easy to install/hardy/easy to clean flooring for a high traffic area."}
{"id": "t3_17ih79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would be the the most beneficial second language to learn on my own?", "post": "I live in the U.S. and I've always wanted to learn another language. I've been debating between Spanish, Chinese, or Hindi. Spanish, for obvious reasons (in the U.S. that is). Chinese because I just think it might be useful in the future, as their world influence is growing. Or, Hindi because I work with overseas developers and I think it would be nice to be able to communicate with them in their native language. I worry about Hindi because I know there are tons of different dialects and languages spoke in India, so my learning that my prove useless anyways. What are your thoughts, reddit?", "summary": "spanish, hindi, or chinese; or, convice me of a different one to learn"}
{"id": "t3_2i8v5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [18 M] been pursuing a girl [18 F] and I'm having trouble understanding if she's as interested as me.", "post": "I'm a freshman in college and I met this girl at a club meeting  and we instantly became interested in one another. We had dinner the weekend of that week after she gave me her number. Our personalities and our interests seem to click really well.\n\nWe've also gone out twice after that, both times have been great. But there are a few things that are making me skeptical of whether she sees me as a friend or something more. She almost always mentions her exes at least once while we go out together. But she always talks about them in derogatory ways, so I'm wondering if her talking about her exes would mean she just sees me as a friend, who she can tell everything to, or she's seeing our new relationship as turning over a new leaf. Another thing that makes me skeptical of her interest is that we have been going over for almost a month now and we haven't done anything \"physical\" besides hugging. I'm not saying we need to have sex every date, I'm asking if it's normal for a girl to not kiss (peck or makeout) the guy he's dating after almost a month of going out with him. To be fair though, I haven't made a move on her yet so some feedback on whether I should do that or not would be awesome, since at the same time I don't want to pressure her into anything and move our relationship to quickly. However, my big fear is that our relationship moves too slowly and she thinks I'm not interested in her, so I want to make sure she sees me as more than just a friend.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_wivqc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got through reading horrible coworker stories.  Reddit, tell me your awesome coworker stories.", "post": "My boss a couple of jobs ago was the perfect boss. Took the heat for me coming and going as I please (I regularly got early morning inspiration and come to work at 5am, no one else came in until 9ish. When I left at 1pm, she asked no questions). She was what a project manager is supposed to be. She tracked progress, kept expectations in check, communicated, and most of all she kept the heat off of the people doing the work. She recognized that she could never do our job, and rewarded us thusly. On our first project together, I was over most of the high-visibility portions of the project. There were months that I worked 80-hour weeks on end.\n\nAfter everything was done, project was a wild success and everyone was extremely happy. She was promoted to Sr. in the PMO, and she made sure that even though I was at the highest level for my job at our company that I was promoted to a new level. THEN at annual review, she was willing to cut her raise % to allocate to me. I wasn't even thinking of leaving, she did it as a \"Thanks\". \n\n2 years later, the company started to go downhill fast. We both jumped ship to different firms. 2 months ago, she got me on with a truly awesome company that she had moved to, but this time I am her equal. We work great together, and I still lovingly refer to her as \"Boss lady\".", "summary": "I got lucky and had a bad ass boss, and now we work together again as equals."}
{"id": "t3_2rh0y1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do you stay healthy and \"resist temptation\" in a very unhealthy household?", "post": "(bit of a rant ahead) \n\nMy family is *extremely* unhealthy. Both of my parents are obese and my brother is one of those very picky eaters whose diet mainly consists of fast food, frozen junk, and just generally unhealthy meals/snacks. I've been trying for years to get my family to have a more healthy diet, but the most I've managed is getting them to finally buy some frozen vegetables (and I'm the only one who eats them). Needless to say, there isn't a lot of healthy food in my house.\n\nI've managed to avoid becoming extremely unhealthy, but I've always been \"chubby\". I don't know what to do. For a while I said \"fuck it\" and started buying a lot of my own food, but it took up too much room in the kitchen so I had to stop. I still cook almost all of my own meals.\n\nThe thing that frustrates me most is that I know first-hand how much easier it is to stay healthy when I'm not surrounded by junk food. When I studied abroad, living in a family who barely had junk on hand, things like chips and pizza were a *treat* like they're supposed to be. Unhealthy foods rarely crossed my mind.\n\nI know there's not really much else to it besides sucking it up and controlling myself, but any kind words or \"tips\" would be helpful. I've recently gained a fair amount of weight and feel like I have to take this very seriously before I start heading down the road of my parents. I have zero real support from anyone around me, so it's difficult.", "summary": "My house is filled with junk and I have no control over it. How do I avoid the abundance of quick junk foods and stick to a healthy (but quite limited) diet?"}
{"id": "t3_1w2t6v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "she doesn't know i know -- girlfriend's adderall prescription", "post": "Well. I feel like an asshole due to the invasion of privacy but I'll explain that in a second...\n\nIt all goes back to when I was driving her car because I didn't have one at the time. I was looking for some kind of chapstick and found a bottle of adderall in the storage between the driver and passenger seat.\n\nI didn't say anything for a couple weeks because I had no idea how to approach it. I finally brought up the subject in a \"general\" way and she told me that she had taken it a couple times when she lived in NYC (1.5 or 2 years ago) but does not take it currently. I THEN brought it up a week later, telling her I FOUND IT by accident, and she said that her therapist had prescribed it but she won't be taking it and won't be getting it refilled.\n\nHere's the horrible part:\n\nI looked at her text messages because part of me didn't trust her. What did I find? A text message to her therapist from this past weekend asking the therapist to refill the prescription for adderall. \n\nHow the hell do I approach this? I only ask because I'm not sure if I should be worried. Do I even say anything or do I just respect privacy? We live together. I'm aware this is amazingly hypocritical but shouldn't she be sharing this with me? Or no? This is the best relationship that's ever happened to me... curious if anyone else has experienced something similar.", "summary": "girlfriend told me she wasn't taking adderall, then I found text message to her therapist asking for a refill of adderall this weekend"}
{"id": "t3_httrm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the hungriest you've ever really been?", "post": "[This] thread got me thinking about the \"disgusting\" things I'd eat if I was *really* hungry. I don't mean the kind of hungry when lunch is still two hours away and the coffee you had for breakfast isn't helping anymore and you groan to your coworker *\"I'm starving!\"* I mean hungry like you haven't had a bite to eat in days and you're not sure when you'll eat again.\n\nFor me, it was 1994 and I was 20 years old living with my first boyfriend. We often survived on end-of-day leftovers at our crappy fast food jobs. Business got slow and we both got fired from our jobs and we were just too dumb to think about the fact that the money we were spending on cigarettes and Dr. Pepper should *probably* be used for PB&J. \n\nHe got a part time job at KFC so he got at least one free meal a day, and I'd usually walk there to share that with him. It was almost Thanksgiving and his hours got cut back from 24 a week to 18, then 12, then they let him go altogether. Just before he left, he stole a bag of powdered mashed potatoes. (Desperate times, desperate measures?) We ate mashed potatoes for every meal for a week until it was just gone. Then there was nothing, and it was the day after Thanksgiving and all the food pantries were closed, and then it was the weekend and we were SO hungry.\n\nThose three days with nothing but water were probably the longest of my life. Strangely, after the 24 hour mark I stopped feeling hunger pains and just felt tired and moody. Any time I thought about food, I'd drink water or eat ice. (I found out several years later that while I had been starving, my boyfriend had been secretly visiting his family and having lunch or dinner with them. His family hated me, they felt I stole away their little boy, and there's no way they'd have fed me. My family wasn't talking to me because I was \"living in sin\" with him, so I didn't have backup like he did.)", "summary": "I once went 3 1/2 days with no food. Physically, it wasn't torture. Psychologically, I thought I'd *die* I never want to be that broke again."}
{"id": "t3_1lx3g9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Scared of everybody", "post": "So I need to just put this out there, get it off my chest, whatever. It's probably going to be long so sorry in advance. Ever since I was really little I've been really shy. I've made friends here and there but I usually do something self-absorbed to push them away or simply let them drift away. I've always struggled with the social side of school and that's actually been really inhibitting but I'm getting better at it. I am in a relationship and I'm close-ish with my family so it's not like I'm totally alone or anything, I've mostly gotten used to being an introvert or shy or whatever. It's becoming more of a problem now though as I'm trying to support myself. I have one job where I get to work alone most of the time and that's awesome but it's not enough to pay rent and bills. I need another job. I've gotten interviews and even a few job offers but before I go in I always psych myself up about how terrifying it's going to be or how everyone is going to dislike me or something. Right now I'm sitting in a parking lot a few blocks away from a job I was supposed to be starting today. Before this I did have a second job but I left it because I couldn't handle the stress of talking to my coworkers everyday. My boyfriend is getting understandably frustrated with this situation so I don't feel like I can talk to him about it. I don't know what to do anymore. Halp.", "summary": "I'm really shy and letting it take over my life. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_r7os7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is something that someone has done (or tried to do) that you couldn't believe they had the nerve to do? Mine just happened.", "post": "I was working my shift as a cashier at a fast food joint, when a shifty character walked up and ordered something of a dollar menu, which (with tax) was $1.08. He paid with $10.08, i gave him $9, he then says \"Oh man, did i pay with a $10? Can i get that back?\"\n\nI replied with \"Yeah, if you give me $10.\" He complies, then I tell him he still owes me a dollar. He gives me a dollar, then another dollar and then asks for 4 quarters back. I hand him the quarters then he asks if he can get an \"even $20\" for a $10, a $5, and 5 $1s. I give him a $20 for the change then he asks me to count it all back to \"make sure he gave me $20.\"\n\nAt this point I know what he is up to, and honestly can't believe it.\n\nI count it out on the table in front of him, and sure enough, he slaps the $20 I just handed him on top of the stack and says \"Now can you just give me 2 $20s for that?\" \n\nI look at him and reply with \"That's my $20 i just handed you from the register. I'm not giving you $40 to hand me back the money from my register.\" Then I grab the $20 off of the wad and tell him he can keep his wad of bills. At this point, he puts an additional $20 (a $10 and 2 $5s) on top of his first $20 and says \"Can I just get an even $40 then?\" I count it out to make sure it is $40 then hand him 2 $20s. Then he finally walked out with his food. \n\nA man behind him in line said that it was actually a pretty common scam and that he was glad i saw through it. Then i went and talked to the cashier at the gas station the restaurant is attached to and sure enough, he had tried to get them there too.", "summary": "A man tried to scam the fast food joint i work at out of 20 dollars."}
{"id": "t3_2w561s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] is leaving me [20M] for now because she's unhappy", "post": "Hi. My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. Recently, she has broken up with me. She says it is because she is unhappy. To be honest, I have been a shitty boyfriend lately. I love her and she says that she loves me. \n\nRecently, she has been talking to this other guy. However, she says she has been unhappy for three months. She says that she was planning on breaking up with me for a while. She says she is not breaking up with me for this guy. We still live together, she still likes to cuddle. I'm so confused. She. wants her space she says, and maybe in a few months we'll work it out. She doesn't want to work it out because she feels like she needs to focus on herself and that I've had too many chances. I love this girl. Do I keep fighting or just wait it out? I don't know.", "summary": "girlfriend of 3 years wants space. Probably another guy involved. Doesn't want to work it out. Live together. Do I keep fighting or wait or what"}
{"id": "t3_4enik3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF[25F] broke up with me [23 M] after 2 years, she loves to randomly pop up and text me especially late at night. Please help me not feel like a terrible person for ignoring her.", "post": "Basically as the question states. me and my gf broke up a few months back and it hasn't been easy. She broke up with me but it was somewhat mutual in the end. She is a great person we just weren't compatible. Now she randomly messages me and while I do care and like her as a person it is too hard to be friends and when I see her name I feel like it sets me back a little every time. So as of today I started to ignore the text and not responding. I feel like such an asshole. Why should I not feel bad about ignoring her?", "summary": "Why shouldn't I feel like a dick for ignorning her?"}
{"id": "t3_15u5rd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [21M] in a relationship with a [44F]. But there is a problem on her side of things..", "post": "Not going to bore you but attempt to be straight to the point. \n\nI've been with her around 4 months now and I've met 2 of her children (13M/4M) and I know they're quite young and probably don't understand relationships yet but they're perfectly fine with it and welcome me with open arms (well, the 13 year old anyways, get on with him really well whereas the 4 year old just want to play all the time)\n\nAnyways, only 1 problem is that she has a 21M son who lives away at university most of the year but has been home for the past 15 days or so.\n\nNow I've gotten to see my girlfriend on occasions but not as much because of him being around, but the problem is she's afraid he'll go off the rails if he finds out about me with me being the same age. She said she feels so close to me and can't leave me because it'd break her heart but she's fighting a huge battle in my opinion and I don't want her to lose her son. The last thing I want to cause is a family rift. \n\nI want to be with her so much and I can't decide what to do or what to suggest to her. \n\nCan anybody help or advise me on what I could say/do?", "summary": "Girlfriend has a 21 year old son the same age as me and she's afraid if he finds out she'll lose him"}
{"id": "t3_48zfmk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with my friend[18F], at my wits end dont know what to do with her behaviour", "post": "Where to even start?  sorry if this is all over the place my head isnt screwed on right now at the moment. Friendgroup has been together for 6 years. We see each other everyday at college (UK). Claire, 18, is a sore point in the group. 8 in friend group.\n\nExamples of what she does: Has favourites in the group, 2 friends she obviously prefers over others. The other day we were sitting in a rough circle and Claire turns her chair around so her back is facing me and someone else. I'm the least favourite along with another friend who she is a bit more friendly with.\n\nClaire is very condescending. She is the youngest in the group so we rule off her behaviour as her being immature. She became close friends with a girl outiside the group, Jenny, and she immediately drops ties with the rest of the group aside from one girl, her favourite. She's always obviously hunting for gossip and never seems genuine. She is manipulative and forces us to do things she wants ie going to a particular cafe when none of us wanted to go there.\n\nHer 'favourite' of the group is getting annoyed with her behaviour and now prefers isolating herself at break times over talking with Claire. What should we do in this situation? I have spoken to the others and they feel I should say something. I don't understand why she is targeting me, although we do have theory or two.\n\nFeel free to ask for more information.", "summary": "friend causes drama in group, hurts me more than i let on this is getting hard to deal with"}
{"id": "t3_27um6b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/F] Is is strange to move out of a living situation with your SO [30/M] but stay together?", "post": "Hey all,\nReally bad at posting, apologies in advance.\n\nI'm a 24/F and have lived with my bf 30/M for about a year (just had 2 year anniversary.) This has been the first time either of us lived with a SO, and while living together was great, even for a small apartment (no arguments about things like dishes, or messes, partying etc.) in the past couple months we'd been fighting a lot about our long term plans, my personal career ambitions, and his more hedonistic approach (make money to make ends meet.) This past winter I decided to go back to graduate school full time, locally come Fall 2014. Initially we were going to look for a bigger APT and live together while I was attending.\nBut after massive fights, inability to escape each other, ultimatums etc, feeling we couldn't resolve the issues, I applied to live in grad housing instead, though the university is closeby. I figured we'd take a break from each other when school starts.\n\nThat was last month. Ever since making up, we've changed our dynamics, I've become more affectionate, rekindled in our passion, and both of us, more understanding, he of my stress w. school, I with his complacency w. where he is now.\n \nNeither of us want to break up now when school starts, and I'm starting to realize all the closeness, and support I'll miss if I do live separately. Also I know it would be financially harder for my BF to live alone though he's stated he'll \"make it work.\"  (I myself will be on loans so living together just means less repayments).\n\nIs it unusual for a couple to move out but continue dating? Would trying to live together another year hurt what's healing? Or am I going to regret moving out? He's been so supportive, in times of stress already.", "summary": "Bf and I had several fights a couple months ago and could not seem to fix things so I decided not living together next year when I went to graduate school. But after realizing we didn't want to break up, and having our 2 year anniversary, becoming a healthy relationship again, I'm wondering if living separately will help or hurt us?"}
{"id": "t3_s1qmj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, I lied out my ass on my resume, now I have an interview tomorrow. Am I screwed?", "post": "Here's the gist: I took a class designed to teach me how to do a specific job in the IT industry. They helped me create a resume filled with jobs that I have not done, and knowledge I only have classroom experience with, and suggested I upload it to a couple of websites. Just a few minuets after I finished posting my resume on one site, I received two phone calls and an email. I have an interview tomorrow morning with a recruiting company. The people who taught the class suggested going through recruiting companies to look for a job, as they wouldn't care so much about the fact that I have never actually done this job, despite what my resume says. My dad has been a bit of a downer about this. He thinks I should come clean as soon as I get in there. The people I took the class through advocate keeping up with the lies. What should I do, Reddit? Will they find out? Will they care? Can I get in any real trouble for this? I am nervous and working myself up about it.", "summary": "Lied like a whore on my resume, got an interview. Am I going to get in trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_l7t9y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Well, I don't know where else to post this", "post": "So I recently moved to a new school and on my second day, met a girl who shall here forth be called \"Kim\". We became fast friends and I realized that was I was starting to develop feelings for her, but these feelings were stronger than I had ever had for anybody before. I was going a little out of my mind keeping my feelings for her in, and finally on Friday I told her my feelings and she essentially said that she gets it, whatever, and we carried on as usual. This was fine with me, and we actually talked all day Saturday. However, on Sunday she ignored me, and today she's been scattered in replying to my texts and other attempts to communicate. This is my first point. My second, is that after I started talking to Kim, she introduced me to her best friend, who we shall now call \"Ruby\". So I was pining after Kim, but at the same time I really wanted to make a connection with Ruby. We shared a lot more interests, but I still had stronger feelings for Kim. Now, when I was going crazy, Ruby really helped me out and gave me good advice. She has consistently given me good advice and been really helpful at any moment in our friendship. Once I told Kim about my feelings, she started to stand out to me. Ruby seemed so... different then. I realized that this entire time, I've tried to repress any feelings I had for her, as I didn't want anyone other than Kim. I have such a different feeling towards Ruby though. With Kim, just talking to her makes me happy, but whenever we fall out of contact, I just start to get deep emotional pain. But I can't really put a finger on my feelings for Ruby. She makes me happy, and I feel such a need to make her happy and protect her from anything. Right now, I am in immense conflict with this, and could really use some advice.", "summary": "I told the girl I have feelings for that I liked her, only to realize that I also had strong, yet different, feelings for our best friend."}
{"id": "t3_nuwbc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriends parents can't accept the fact that he's gay.  need some advice.", "post": "Now I know this is a common problem, but I really don't know how to help him out so I appreciate any help.\nOK so we are 22, both out, but I have not meet his parents yet and they don't know about me. His parents don't really understand that being gay isn't a choice.  They are a very traditional Christian family.  My boyfriend is the oldest son of 10 children (3rd oldest) who were all home schooled (holy shit right?) he's very close with them and loves them all but only half of his family knows he is gay.  His parents don't want the rest to know. which I can understand because they are so young they wouldn't understand.  but he has had talks with them about it not being a choice and their argument is that it is a lifestyle choice.  they think he's choosing to lead a miserable life living in sin and going to hell.  They think he is confused.  They still love him and have told him that they aren't just gonna kick him out of the family, but that he needs to think about what he's doing and that the rest of his family looks up to him.\nNow he's a smart guy,  he knows the arguments but he feels guilty because he doesn't want to disappoint his family.  and he knows he shouldn't feel guilty but he does.  If anyone can give me some advice on what I can do for him or what he can talk to his parents about or anything at all, please help.\n\nI greatly appreciate the comments so far everyone, Thanks so much, please keep em coming!", "summary": "Boyfriend has religious parents that can't accept the gay lifestyle he is living."}
{"id": "t3_3r5uw3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Illinois]: My friend's parents are stating that they are going to forcefully remove her from school", "post": "I've never done one of these before so please bare with me.\n\nMy friend's [16 F] lives in an abusive household, to my knowledge verbal, but i do not doubt that there is physical abuse. She is forced to work two jobs and she is not allowed to quit. As a result her grades are below average (D's). Her parents continue to abuse her by calling he retarded, stupid, and a lost cause. They are pressuring her to drop out, but tonight they stated that they are going to pull her from school. She is a junior in High school and does not want to leave.\n\nI need to know if they can do this, and if not, what steps can she do to remove herself from this position. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Some quick information about laws regarding this is what I am looking for, however any help would be greatly appreciated. I'm sorry if I'm breaking any rules by posting on behalf of somebody, but it has gotten very drastic. Please help.", "summary": "My friend's parents are deprive her of her right to a basic education against her wishes."}
{"id": "t3_1dru4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[20F] tell my bf[20M] that I don't like sex?", "post": "I[20F] have been with my boyfriend[20M] for 2 years and 4 months.  I've been having doubts about our relationship on my end, but I think I've determined the problem - I don't like sex.\n\nLast night we were having sex, which I initiated, yet while we were doing it, I just kept thinking about how I'm not enjoying it and wishing it would be over.  \n\nI have \"basic human instincts\" and get horny, but as soon as I \"do something about it\" I no longer enjoy it.  I think the reason I've been having doubts about our relationship is because I don't like sex.\n\nI don't like receiving sexual acts and I don't like giving them; I also don't like having sex.  When I'm horny I think about how much I would enjoy sex but as soon as I do something about it (masturbation or with my partner) I no longer enjoy it.\n\nHe's a \"normal\" person and really enjoys sex, oral, etc.  How do I tell him that I love him but I just don't like sex?\n\nHe's very sensitive and can't take even the most constructive criticism well.  I don't want him to think it's because of him.  It really is just me and that I don't enjoy sex.", "summary": "How do I tell my long term boyfriend that I don't enjoy sex?"}
{"id": "t3_1xm5qv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [27/F] just broke it off with me [28/M] and I'm feeling lost and confused.", "post": "We've been dating for 3 years and we've been great friends since high school.  We got engaged in November and were about to lock up a venue for our wedding when everything came down.\n\nWe talked on Sunday because she had been stalling on signing the agreement with the venue, and she said she wasn't sure she was ready to get married.  She then said that she needed some time to get her head straight and then said that she wanted to take a break for a few months to figure out what she wants.\n\nWe got a house together in July, and things had been going great.  We were both happy.  I feel like she is scared of the responsibility and commitment that a relationship requires.\n\nI don't know how to get her back and I'm terrified that I won't be able to.  I love her to death and the last few days have been brutally tough.  Any advice or thoughts on this to help me out would be much appreciated.  I'm in the dark here.", "summary": "Friends since high school, dating 3 years, engaged for 5 months, fiance broke it off saying she needs time to figure out what she wants.  Feeling lost."}
{"id": "t3_44zjbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be wrong of me [26F] to lie to my husband [23M] about some money he lost?", "post": "My husband and I were sheltered virgins when we met. Not an excuse, but some background on why we are immature idiots. Anyway, we have had to rebel against our strict, narcissistic, critical parents (my mom, his dad) in order to be independent \"adults\". \n\nWell, we still don't know how to life and are learning the hard way... through painfully stupid mistakes. On New Years Eve, we were on our way to the bank to deposit $500 cash to pay the rent due the next day. One minute it was in his hand, the next it was gone. We went back to retrace our steps and saw a couple of lonely $20 bills drifting in the wind. We both had a good cry that afternoon. I got over it eventually since I  figured we had JUST enough cash to make up the rent and pay additional bills too. Our bank accounts would be less than $5 for a bit but we'd manage til next paycheck. \n\nHe didn't take it as well. His dad was worse than my mom so my husband already suffers from low self-esteem, depression, etc. He's getting better, but after dropping our rent money he told me that he honestly just wanted to kill himself. Well he's better now, but I know it still haunts him.\n\nWell, yesterday it happened again. He had $60 cash that he took out and it's not in his pocket, not in his wallet, not in my purse. Again, he's really upset about it. I want to take it out of my account and tell him that I found it. Maybe it will make him feel better. But we never lie to each other about anything. We don't keep secrets and we tell the whole truth no matter how hurtful. I'm afraid that this white lie will be a stumbling block for more lies in the future.", "summary": "Earlier this year, my clumsy husband lost a lot of money and is really depressed about it. Yesterday he did it again. Can I take it out of my account and tell him I found it so he doesn't feel so stupid? Or is it better to just let it fix itself with time?"}
{"id": "t3_28eu27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "17 M, worried about being in a relationship", "post": "So, for the first time in my life I've found a girl that may like me and she's a good friend. I'm not worried about the actual asking her out part, I'm talking to her more now and asking her to go to the movies next week. \n\nBut if she says yes, it hit me tonight I'm worried about actually being in a relationship. How do I be a good boyfriend? I don't want to be extremely awkward or make her regret being in a relationship with me ( if she says yes). \n\nEvery girl I've asked out before has rejected me, I don't want to let the chance pass me by, how do I be a good boyfriend Reddit? And is it worth explaining how I feel to her, that I really like her but worried about being a bad boyfriend because of my lack of experience with girls?\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "How do I be a good boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2o583y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm an italian [24 M] with this american girl I'm dating [22 F] and I don't know if there's some cultural differences in how to flirt and text.", "post": "I live in in Italy and she's here to study for half an year. Let's call her \"Jenny\".\n\nWe met through online dating and we kinda hit it off, it's been a couple weeks of dating now and all seems good, except for one small thing: if I don't text here, she doesn't.\n\nThis is honestly something new for me: every girl I've been before with (italian girls) were pretty much \"active\" in texting, like if they don't hear from me for a while they would text me or even call me.\n\nWe saw each other last Sunday and now it's Wednesday and not a single word from Jenny. I was going to wait for her to text me (since I started all every other \"exchange\") but I'm not so sure I'm doing it right.\n\nI'm probably overthinking this, but I wanted to be sure I'm not being pushy. I'm also pretty forward in complimenting her when the situation is right, but she's been super embarassed by this.\n\nI know it sounds weird and I'll ask her directly sooner or later, but hey, here on reddit I'm sure there is some americans who can help me understand USA social norms :)", "summary": "italian guy dating american girl who doesn't ever start texting me: is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_4yphr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being stupid trying to wait for a 'fairytale' romance?", "post": "Just wanted to get this off my chest and wanted to hear your thoughts. I love this sub and the obvious love people have for their partner's on here is beautiful. \n\nAnyway I'm 18 and male and I would say I'm fairly old fashioned romantic wise. You see I want a relationship but I have one very strict standard. I don't want to date girls who have had sex before. Now let me explain why:\n\nI haven't had sex before not because I couldn't have but I didn't want to. I want to wait for the right special person, I feel sharing your first time together is a part of true love. Obviously its not all about just that but it would buy me. I feel when someone loses their virginity they give a part of themselves to that person that they never get back. \n\nSo yes maybe I'm wrong, ideally the person I lose it to, is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.", "summary": "I want true love and I feel sharing your first time with someone is important."}
{"id": "t3_13n6ou", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I dont know who I am", "post": "Not in the amnesiac sense.  I just dont know what makes me me anymore.  I always remember being the smartest person in a room, but now with my new job, my inexperience makes me the dumbest person around.  I used to be really in to Jiu Jitsu, I started in college.  I had the same partner for four years, and we even started dating.  Then she went to a different section of the united states, and I started trying to set my self up to be able to move to her.  She left me, and married her instructor in like a three month span.  I dont know what to do, it almost feels like there is no point to do the martial art anymore.  I always prided myself in being in the number one fighter of my social circle.  I know, being half a country away, they arent in my circle anymore, but as the very least my ex is a fellow Redditor. (so of course im using a throwaway.)  I cant find new employment, I cant move out of my parents house.", "summary": "all the things about myself I took pride in/was hopeful about, all the things that were a the defining aspects of me, are gone and failed."}
{"id": "t3_1e3ehs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost the weight, keeping it off - how can I help my sister?", "post": "Hey you guys, I need some help. I went from ~160 to 105 over the course of my first two years of college ([Obligatory progress photos, bam] I made all the appropriate lifestyle changes, lost the weight, have kept it off, and everything is pretty great now.\n\nI have one problem, though. How can I help my sister? She's 22 (I'm 20) and has always had a tough time with her weight. She's about 5'6\", maybe 270lbs or so. After a life full of bullying and having relatives pressure her to lose weight, she instantly shuts off at the suggestion of not only weight loss, but any lifestyle changes at all.\n\n We come from a podunk Southern town where there is almost no access to healthy food, let alone the sort of affluent culture that teaches healthy habits. Because of this and her history with bullying, she thinks of me as preachy and elitist because of my \"choosy\" attitude towards food. I lost all the weight mainly by eliminating all processed food, something we basically grew up on, which she still eats.\n\nShe married her high school sweetheart and is now a military wife on a base far away from my university in our home state. Like I said, she eats how we always did, I think she's said her husband has gained like 90 pounds since they got married in 2009.\n\n Basically, she's far away and completely shuts down at the idea of any lifestyle change that promotes health, taking it as a personal attack on her weight. She has a multitude of health issues, from anxiety and depression to unusual liver issues and PCOS. She has to take lots of pills, but considers herself in good health and just wants all of her family to leave her alone about her weight. The thing is, I didn't even lose weight intentionally. Just being in an environment that was 100 times more conducive to walking and eating well made it happen for me. That's why I only talk to her about foods that I think are exciting, like avocados or yellow squash (my two favorites).\n\n**Having changed my body and life so drastically, I can't watch her health deteriorate like this while we're both so young. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "me healthy now, sister not healthy, far away and completely recalcitrant, what do"}
{"id": "t3_23n0cc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my SO [30 M] 1.5 years, Those who have been on a break due to depression/needing space, and really love each other. How did you make it work? How do you navigate a break?", "post": "My SO (30 M) and I (23 F) have decided to take a break due to his holding back for months that he was getting depressed. I have had mental issues my entire life that include OCD, Anxiety and Depression so I understand how hard it was to him and where it was coming from. \n\nHe didn't want to lose me from his life, and I didn't want to lose him. We love the hell out of each other.\n\nNeither of us have had a \"break\" before, and we want it to work/be beneficial.\n\nas he said \"I want to look back on this one day with you and agree that it brought us closer and made us stronger\". \n\nSo, we decided that the onus of contact is on him, and he calls me twice a day to talk. We met up today {had the conversation on Friday} because he *really* wanted to see me. I'll admit i wanted to see him too.\n\nSo those who have been on a break, and it was successful please advise!\n\nWhat were your ground rules, how long was your break, what do you *do* to make sure its successful?", "summary": "SO and I , very much in love, needed a break to deal with Depression and OCD {His depression, my OCD}. How do we navigate this?"}
{"id": "t3_32r9i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] friend [20F] invites/begs me to accompany her on unnecessary shopping trips then asks me to pay for gas.", "post": "I come from the city so I'm a veteran public transportation rider. I attend a University where the public transportation isn't in abundance but still reliable. \n\nRecently my friend has gotten a new car and in excitement, has been using it frequency. This has led to her asking, and later begging me to join her on trips to the store/mall/anywhere off campus. \n\nAt first, I agreed to these trips since she was still in that \"freedom\" phase of owning a car. After a few weeks, she'd started demanding gas money for her service. \n\nI would normally pay for all my goods and services, but I'm baffled at this. She invites me on this little runs willingly, and mostly to places I do not need/care to go. I have told her often that I would rather use the public transportation as my University student fees pay for it. When I turn her down, she asks again or passive aggressively comments on not spending time with her. \n\nI do not have a lot of money compared to her. She comes from a rich family and has a fair bit of cash on her at all times. \n\nI do not understand the underlying issue or how to address it.", "summary": "Well off friend invites, then begs me to go on unneeded shopping trips. When I do go, she demands I pay for gas. "}
{"id": "t3_p1d9p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do?", "post": "About a month ago my friend came over and we went to gamestop so he could buy a few games. About a week earlier I bought battlefield 3 and never took it out of the bag and just put it on my xbox. SO my friend gets his three games and comes back to my house. When he leaves he accidentally takes my game because it was still in the bag and he didn't realize it was mine. He goes to college 45 minutes away so I just now got it back yesterday. So the game is opened because I needed a code from it. No big deal because I told him to open it. I start playing it last night and it freezes about 30 minutes in. I think it is just my xbox. I am playing tonight and it freezes again so I take it out and look at the disk. There is a big have circular scratch on it. I know that there is no way I did. So I call my friend and he says he hasn't played it and basically that he isn't paying me back. Is it right for me to make him pay it back? What should I do?", "summary": "Friend accidentally took brand new game, got it back with a scratch, friend wont pay"}
{"id": "t3_2keh1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife [25 F] says Ok to open relationship, how do I [29 M] talk to other women.", "post": "It's been 3+ years that she said she wouldn't mind if I sleep around a little bit as long as I'm not hiding it from her. We have been together for 5+ years. She has a less sex drive and gives me this option and I didn't even ask for it. At first I was confused and doubted her so never tried to sleep around. But now, after years of her saying it's OK, I actually want to give it a go. We are in our 20's and I'm not getting any younger.\n\n I talk with this girl I like and we get along VERY well and we have 3 weeks left in the same program we are in (I met her at the program 6 weeks ago). We have gone out for a drink just the two of us once and plan for a second night. We take coffee breaks together a lot as well. She knows I'm married and she's not in a serious relationship but is dating. \n\nMy question is, how would I bring this opportunity up with her. She is currently dating, she mentioned it's not and will never be serious with him. I almost want to just let her know my situation and see what she thinks but I think that is not the best way to go. I want to be her next FWB when those 2 break up but by then, our mutual program we attend may be over and may not see each other again.", "summary": "I want to tell a \"crush\" I am in an open relationship that I have never tried out."}
{"id": "t3_13x5tl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I stay or should I go (24f)", "post": "Hello reddit. Sorry for the throwaway, my boyfriend (m27) is the one who introduced me to reddit, so I'm sure he'd find this post if I used my real account. \n\nMy SO and I have been dating for a year and a half. We met at work and saw each other pretty much everyday. Recently he took a new job about 200 miles away so we see each other about every 3 weeks.\n\nMy dilemma is that he WILL NOT talk about the future. Ever. Not at all. Nothing. And it's hard to be in this LDR without any plan of physically being in the same location again or even knowing that thats something we both want. When we were with each other all the time the future didn't seem to matter as much. But now that he's gone and we're trying to stay together I feel like I need some reassurance as to WHY we're engaging in a LDR with no foreseeable end. Some reason that it's worth doing it.\n\nI have tried talking to him about it. He mentioned that he didn't want to be one of those people who start taking the next step in their relationship because they reach a certain age. He also said he can't tell me he knows he wants to be with me because he doesn't know, and that he doesn't know what will happen in the future. \n\nI just don't know if this is a waste of my time and energy. I know that if it was one of my friends asking me for advice I would tell them to let him go and move on if he can't make up his mind about you. But for some reason it's harder to see when it's your own life. I know he loves me and I know he's indecisive about almost everything else. Maybe he's taking me sticking by him for granted? I just don't know.\n\nSo should I stay or should I go? Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Long term, newly long distance boyfriend won't make any plans for the future. I think I might be wasting time and energy."}
{"id": "t3_17upp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband is suddenly way more into my dirty asshole than I am anywhere near comfortable with and I don't know what to do. (M24, F31)", "post": "We've been married for four years, together for five. Suddenly all he wants to do is sniff my asshole and armpits regardless of when I last showered. I love him a lot of want to make him happy but it makes me feel so fucking gross. I've tried to be GGG about it and just let him but it really turns me off and the last thing I want is to have sex with him afterward. I just find myself getting angry and feeling used.\n\nThese days it's like he hugs me and cuddles me and them gets on his knees and shoves his face into my ass crack, or he hugs me and tries to shove his hand in my ass crack. I asked him if he could maybe build up to that instead of going for it right out of the gate but he doesn't seem amenable to it. I've started to turn him down every time he reaches for me because I don't want to be sniffed like a dog. I don't even want him to touch me anymore.\n\nHe confessed that he really wanted this when we were drunk one night and I said I would try it but I just can't get into it. He wants to stick his tongue into my asshole then kiss me and it makes me want to fucking vomit. He's hinted at wanting to try piss play too. I have absolutely no interest in that.\n\nI don't know what to do. I love him and I feel like I've tried to be as GGG about this as I can but fuck. There is SO MUCH kinky shit I'd be happy to try but why does it have to be this? Bodily wastes and armpit stank just have no appeal for me. I mean if he wanted to do all this shit fresh after a shower, sure, but he doesn't. He seems upset when I shower before bed now.\n\nSeriously, at a total loss here. When the fuck did I marry Napoleon?", "summary": "Husband suddenly only wants dirty asshole play and armpit sniffing, it grosses me out; what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ym8hr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with girl [22F] - What to do?", "post": "I've met a girl 3 weeks ago on a ski-trip. We had mutual friends, started talking. Went to ski together, then I started seeing her whilst partying (on the trip), and eventually I kissed her. \n\nWe're attending the same school (different majors) so we agreed to meet again at home. Last week I went to a party of which I knew she'd be there. I said hi, stook around for a while and eventually we kissed again. Everything felt great right up untill the point she said: \"I just got out of a 6 year relationship\". She's not looking for anything serious because she enjoys to be carefree for a while (appearantly she had to text her ex-boyfriend everything she was doing e.g. going out, with whom, etc...).\n\nLast monday we went to dinner and drinks afterwards. We got to talk and we had a very pleasant evening, I didn't try and make avances 'cause of what she said that last day.\n\nBut currently I have no idea how to handle this situation. I'd be perfectly happy if we could just hang around and do stuff together...for now... . But I have the feeling she's trying to push me away. I'm a 25 year old 'boy' who has been single for quite a while... So I think I might have reacted enthousiastic on this new fling. \n\nBut I've figured that out and I'm doing my best to give her some 'room to breathe'. Haven't heard her since last Tuesday. I've got very few classes this semester so it's hard to put my mind on different things. I'm kind of scared this 'thing' between us will eventually die out... \n\nI mainly typed this 'cause I needed to vent, and maybe some of you Redditors have been in similar situations? I'd love to read your opinions.\n\nOh, for the record: I only know her 3 weeks, I don't want a 'relationship'... But I'd like an opportunity to build something. I have a good feeling about her.", "summary": "Met a girl, 6 months out of 6 year relationship, wants to be carefree."}
{"id": "t3_4qj5ij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need insight... Is my(21F) boyfriends(24m) view on marriage normal?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend nearly 3 years, lived together for two.\n\nI've pretty much been ready to get engaged for the last few months, he is not,  which is ok because we are still young, don't really wanna rush into things and I'm ok with waiting. In pretty sure he's my soulmate.  \n\nLiving together has been smooth sailing, we just signed a lease for another year. We're both tidy enough, split chores evenly, finances in order. Normal stuff. We don't really fight. \n\nAnyways, we were talking about marriage and the future and he thinks that being married will be hard. I asked why he thought that and he said living with another person is hard. I asked him if living with me currently was hard, he said no. This didn't make sense to me obviously. So he goes on to say that after about 4 yrs of being together then \"biologically\" staying together in a marriage is just about having \"sheer willpower\", as if it's a struggle staying together longer than that. \n\nOk I know marriage can be hard, I watched my parents stay in a shitty marriage for years with constant fighting. I know things change after the honeymoon phase (pretty sure we are past that by now). But I don't think people only stay together because of \"willpower\". It kinda makes me feel sad that he has that expectation of me in the future. \n\nIs there any truth to this point of view? Is he mistaken? I just don't understand where he got that idea, his parents have been together for 27 years and are very happy it seems. \n\nAm I just naive to think marriage won't be that bad? I mean we already live together, how much more will things change?", "summary": "my boyfriend thinks being married to me will be so hard it will take sheer willpower to stay with me. Anyone have an opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_2ol54n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 1 month. I think it might be me, but she's acting differently. What gives?", "post": "I'll keep this brief, but when I had met my girlfriend we would hang out non stop, text often, etc.. Sadly her grandfather had passed, so we put things on hold for a couple weeks.\nNow she's been a pain to text, and to try to hang out with. However there are a few days where she'll text me and ask to hang out. I understand that she doesn't like to text much, but say last night; she invited me out to an even with her family, we had a great time and I had texted her that I did last night, and to thank her family for inviting me. I got nothing back, which means she probably was asleep, so I figured I text her and ask her to hang out today since I know we both didn't have work. Yet, 8 hours later still nothing.\n\nWhat gives? Sometimes she'll text me a lot, so I'm a bit confused. Should I try not to message her until she messages me?", "summary": "New girlfriend sometimes goes days without texting me more than a couple of things, which is a complete change from weeks prior. Haven't hung out as much either.(an hour or two a week)"}
{"id": "t3_23dpox", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Any advice for which college program? Information technology. I need someone with experience in the field.", "post": "Hello my name is Daniel. I am 24 years old and i am going to be going to college for the first time! I am finally able to go as independent so now is the time to get help with tuition. I start in the fall!\n\nI would like a little guidance from the community here. I decided to go to a community college first, as to not load myself up with debt. I am looking to go into the tech sector. \n\nThese are what i'm looking at:\n\nSoftware Development A.A.S. Degree\nI am looking at computer programming #1. I am not the most creative person, but i can definitely create something with the correct inspiration. And.... i love computers and solving problems.\n\nWith an Associates in Applied Science, i should be able to get work pretty quickly if i do well if what I've researched is correct.\nBut if i we're to attain this degree, what can i do to advance my education and achieve a bachelor's degree or get a better job? Is a bachelor's even needed to move up in the industry?\n\nComputer Support and Network Administration A.A.S.\nI'm also good with people and would love working in a field that is actively working with people to solve problems.\n\nIs there way to advance my education past the AAS in this field? What can i do to advance my education and achieve a bachelor's degree or get a better job in networking? Is a bachelor's even needed to move up in the industry?", "summary": "Based on your knowledge, experience, and expertise, what would be your opinion to assist me in my ignorance on what i should do in my college plans to set myself up for work now and advancement later?"}
{"id": "t3_jofgd", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My 8 year old twin boys constantly cheat and makeup rules as they go. They can't even play tag without issues. Is this normal?????", "post": "Okay, I have 8 year old twin boys who have 2 girls they play with often (who are 6 &7). Whenever they are outside playing, at least once per hour one comes storming in the house because things aren't going their way. Usually it's because the girls don't want to play their game, which can be anything from light sabers to restaurant. Just now, I went outside for a smoke and one of my boys went to the side of the house crying. The short of the long of it was because while playing tag, one of the girls was using a ribbon to tag the other kids and they said she was cheating. My kids, on the other hand, have been known to all of a sudden claim things such as the porch and the car as \"safe-zones\", but only when it benefits them. Also, they can't get through a board game without at least trying to cheat, and they have a hard time following rules of any game (that isn't a video game). I'm just at a loss of what to do and wondering if this is, in anyway normal behavior. For the most part they are pretty honest kids and when they do lie, it's usually to blame the other for something, or to save the other from trouble. \n\nIt drives me nuts that I have to explain the simple rules of tag and that unless certain rules are agreed upon BEFORE the start, then they don't count.", "summary": "My 8 year old twins *try* and cheat at every game they play. Is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_4ah847", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19 F) am scared of smothering and loving my bf (19 M) too much. ((End of honeymoon stage?))", "post": "My problem is extremely simple, and has been on my mind a little bit. \n\nThey say that after a while of dating and being together you start to ween out of the honeymoon stage and start to have a simple relationship with one another. But we have been dating for almost a year now, next month, and I feel like that stage hasn't ended for me yet, though it does seem to have with him.\n\nI go to school about 2 hours away from him, so we only see eachother now and again on weekends. But when we are together, I tend to love on him all day. I watch him play games, cuddle, watch movies/shows with him. Even when we hang out with his friends or are in public, I tend to want to hold his hand and give him kisses.\n\nHe on the other hand is of course past this. He has said that he both likes and dislike my lovey-doveiness. Sometimes he loves it because he feels important/special/wanted. Othertimes it is kind of annoying or clingy.\n\nBut I'm just not sure what to do about it. I always want to show him how much I love him and how happy he makes me, but I also don't want to be a smothering gf.", "summary": "I love on/smother my boyfriend a lot and want to know how to ease back on the love, but not completely stop."}
{"id": "t3_1cavu4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do I help someone who has already given up?", "post": "Let me give a short summary of my boyfriend (we're in a long distance relationship by the way) that I used in a chatroom when I asked other people for help.\n\n>He has Asian parents who pressure him to do well at school and he did a load of extracurricular shit at HS. He never really had people to talk to about his stuff other than his old forum which is dead now, and me. Everybody always goes to him for their problems and he always goes to me for his (for 4 years though). He feels like he has no special talent and cannot be proud of anything he does, except playing the piano but he quit that a long time ago. He uses video games as an escape to hide that he hates himself and everything about himself. When he went to College, he did fine the first quarter but screwed up not getting classes in the next two ones. now he's back at school with a new major but only tolerates school because he has to go for his future. Right now, he's stressing on his life now because of school and how he isn't doing well and how he hates himself and always suggests wanting to die.", "summary": "He can never bring himself to try hard enough, and when he can it's because he has something to cope with. I can't physically be there to help him, and I can't always talk to him over the phone. He always talks about not wanting to be born and killing himself because he hates how he is."}
{"id": "t3_2vz2lx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering my phone", "post": "Actually happened yesterday. So theres this girl I've met on the internet and we were already chatting for a couple of months. She was the kinda girl that *really* liked talking on the phone. I told her many times that I usually don't like talking on my phone that much but she kept calling me two to three times a day. So one day she couldn't hear me, no idea why. I tried sending voicemails and other stuff but it seemed like my microphone was broken and i told her that. Later that day I just tried restarting my phone and everything worked again, thing is, I never told her that. I lied to her and said something about a repair that would cost 60\u20ac and I didn't want to spend my money for that. Fast forward a few weeks, She asked me out on a date. I've never seen her as a potential girlfriend but decided to meet her anyways just so see how it goes. So the date was going meh, and when she went to see the toilet I wrote my friend a message that he should call me about an importent appointment I forgot to get myself out of this date a quickly as possible. She came back and two minutes later I recieved the call from my friend. Afte I exchanged some words with my friend, I realized what I just did. The girl looked at me as if I just killed somebody. At this point, I knew there was no going back. I lied to her because I didn't want to spend time talking to her and she knew that now too. She looked pretty angry, ran out of the restaurant and I haven't heard anything from her since. Needlesly to say, I'm not going to see her again.", "summary": "Told a girl my phone doesn't work anymore, just so I don't have to talk to her again. Answered a phonecall at my first date with her."}
{"id": "t3_3oq6ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] think I'm a freaking dumbass", "post": "I started dating this girl [F 23] a few months ago. First it was quite fun, since I thought it wasn't going to last for long and I had no intentions of being in a serious relationship with her. \n\nAnd then everything changed. I started to REALLY like her (I'm afraid of L word). We started dating, she cheated two times in first month only. Yet she tried to convince me that first time it was \"just to be sure if I still had feelings for my ex\" (I saw them kissing by the way, two fucking meters away from where I was standing all the time), second time it was because of \"I started to like you and these feelings scared me\". \n\nSo, later on, things started to get better. Yet she's was and still is cold as fuck. She almost never kisses me or hugs me or does any shit that most girls do. We went on a trip last week, it felt like she didn't even notice me. The only thing that still gives me hope for this relationship is that we have quite a lot of sex.\n\nFor you who wonder if I understand that this relationship isn't healthy - yes, I do understand. But there's that feeling in me where my brain says \"what the fuck are you doing with her\" and my heart says \"dam, you really really like her so hold on and hope for the best\".\n\nMoreover, she called few hours ago and said that we needed to talk. It might be \"the talk\". I'm feeling quite strange right now, since half of my body wishes that today she will leave me, another half wishes that this shit will carry on since I really like her.", "summary": "Met a girl > fell in L > she cheated on me on the first motnth, two times > she doesn't show any signs of attraction/feelings except sex > today she wants to have the talk > I feel I'm a dumbest man ever for wishing she will stay with me"}
{"id": "t3_2hq4lo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) feel like my boyfriend (25M) is neglecting me and i'm not sure what to do, am I in the wrong here?", "post": "First let me give some background information, I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year, we have been live together for about four months. I finished my degree last year but have been unable to find a job in my feild. I make $8.25 An hour at a grocery store, forty hours a week, scrubbing toilets, mopping the floor, and stocking shelves.\n     My boyfriend has his own business that he started when he was 20, last year his businees made a 450k profit, he is the sole owner. He really does no work besides talk on the phone with clients and such. And maybe go to the accasional meeting (once a week at most). \n     He pays someone to clean the house a mow the lawn. I come home from working all day and he is just sitting on the patio drinking beer with his golfing buddies. I have discussed quitting my job but he says we need two incomes. \n    My 15k a year is nothing compared to what he makes, I drive an eighteen year old civic and he drives a brand new corvette. Go ahead and call me a gold digging whore all you want, I just feel it isn't fair, I have invested so much in him emotionally and yet he won't support me financially by allowing me to stay home and take care of things. I feel like leaving him sometimes because of it, am I in the wrong here? Anyone else been in a situation like this?", "summary": "I feel neglected by my boyfriend and i'm not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_rmvdh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Can loseit help me lose 15 pounds?", "post": "I just bought my prom dress online, and to my horror I found that it didn't fit properly. Sadly, the dress went through 3 countries before I got it and so the deadline for sending the dress back is long past. Therefore I'm hell-bent on making the dress fit. I want to lose about 15 pounds before prom in June, and wondered if loseit could help me!\n\nI'm 17, F, 5 7\" and about 185 pounds. In other words overweight. I've always been of the muscular type with a somewhat bulky (\u0ca0_\u0ca0) upper body, and I want to lose fat, and not so much muscle. I got access to a modest gym with the most basic equipment, and now that it's getting warmer I'm also open to doing stuff outside. What I *don't* have access to, however, is proper food as I live in a host family as a poor student. I therefore can't afford to buy a lot of fancy food.\n\nDoes loseit have some healthy tips as to what what options I got with food, healthy snacks and stuff, and what do do in the gym to reach my goals? :)", "summary": "F, 17 years old, 5 7\", 185 lbs, with access to gym, needs help to lose 15 lbs in 2 1/2 months"}
{"id": "t3_4lxdax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(15m) want to talk to girl(15f) I have a crush or interest in..but..", "post": "Sorry for horrible writing. Not my best work, but I'm tired and I'm about to go to sleep.\n\nI go to a small highschool only for freshman (Also known as a ninth grade center) and There's this girl that caught my eye. I don't know her name because I don't have her for any classes, but we see each other every morning and make eye contact, but never talk. In fact, I don't think I've seen her talk with anybody before. She's bilingual so I'm starting to wonder if bad English is the reason why or if she has no interest in meeting anyone or if she's mute or other reasons. I'm over thinking this, but to explain why I'm over thinking this I should talk about myself a little and continue.\n\nI'm a shy guy.. Like a really shy guy with anxiety and shit i don't want to get into, but I've never really had a lot of friends hardly any my entire life, and always was insecure about myself and didn't want to bother anybody with my presence so yeah I basically am a mess with few friends and I'd like to meet this cute girl and Maybe ask her out if she seems interested.. Though there is a bit of a problem. School is about to end and I can only see her in the mornings for a couple minutes and I feel like I wouldn't have time to introduce myself enough to make her feel comfortable enough to exchange social media to talk outside of school so I don't know what to do or what to say or how to even get the courage to walk up to her, introduce myself and Strike up a conversation without messing up or worse.\n\nAny ideas or tips or like suggestions on what I should say or how to uh basically not fuck up.\n\nP.S highly unlikely but paranoid she's reading this.\nP.S.S. throwaway because I'm ashamed that I'm making this because of a simple situation when most things on this thread are serious..", "summary": "See cute girl, Want to meet her, Asking reddit for help on what to say or how to have courage because I'm a pathetic loser."}
{"id": "t3_rjg7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (19) never comes in to the liquor store of a guy we know to buy alcohol. Is this legit? (I'm 19) Note: We live in Michigan, drinking age 21 here.", "post": "My gf and I go to the liquor store of a guy we know about once a week, and I usually go in to buy beer or whatever we're drinking. It never really bothered me until recently that she always sits in the car. The guy we know is a mutual friend's friend. I asked her about it a couple of months ago, and she said she just didn't want to get in any trouble. \n\nAt the time, this was somewhat legitimate because she was here on an H-4 visa (her dad is here on an H-1 visa and her status is dependent on him). However, about a month ago, she received her green card. I asked her why she couldn't come in with me to pick out our drinks now and she still says the same thing. \n\nNaturally, I point out that we would be in the same amount of trouble if we got caught, which we wouldn't anyways since we've been buying consistently for well over a year from this guy. I know there's no sense of both of us risking our necks to get alcohol, but it annoys the shit out of me that she seems to think that I should have to go inside to buy our drinks because she doesn't want to get in trouble. \n\nI don't mind paying for the drinks since I get paid a lot more than her, but I can't help but feel like she thinks she's more important than me or something because she doesn't mind if I risk my neck to go get alcohol, but she absolutely refuses to even come inside with me.\n\nInput? Advice? What should I say or do? Or just suck it up?", "summary": "I have a problem with the fact that my girlfriend wants me to take the risk of buying alcohol that she would not take herself."}
{"id": "t3_42vl6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [19 F] of 6 months, is it bad of me to reconsider the relationship due to her low sex drive?", "post": "Me and my gf met on tinder and have been dating for ~6 months now. The start of the relationship was fun, and best of all was the sex. We both loved it. She was a lot more experienced than I am, she has slept with 8 people where I have only slept with 2 (current gf included) but that was never an issue.\n\nAbout 2 months into the relationship we both moved cities for university, coincidentally we had both been accepted by the same one and now live just minutes away from eachother, as opposed to the 45 minute drive before hand. But then the relationship changed - she started getting more jealous, we argued a lot and it seemed like we were going to lose eachother but we both stuck through it. \n\nWe had to start searching for a house in the private sector rather than in University accommodation for second and third year study, and I felt like it would be sensible to get separate houses with friends just to be safe, as we are in a new relationship and this was my first 'real' relationship, but when I told her she took it as an offence, like I was trying to get away from her. It took me a while to reason with her, and though she still doesn't agree with me, she is accepting of my decision.\n\nWe've been going steady for a month or two now without arguing but the relationship is different, there's no spark. We seem to just sit and watch tv, and the sex is down to about once or twice a fortnight. I know that can be classed as the honeymoon stage passing but the sex just feels forced. Like we only do it because we haven't in a while. I have tried a few times to mention that I would like to have more sex but she doesn't seem as enthusiastic. Am I a bad person for saying this? We are happy together but this has been bugging me for a while.", "summary": "gf's sex drive has dropped dramatically after moving to the same university, is it bad of me to reconsider the relationship over this??"}
{"id": "t3_3hwspf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do about SO's terrible family?", "post": "SO (21M) and I (20F) have been together 5 years and talk about marriage somewhat often. We love each other very much and are always happy thinking of our futures together. However, every time I think about our future especially the idea of a wedding, I get worried due to his family. They are emotionally (and on occasion physically) abusive people who take their hatred of each other out on their \"unwanted\" son. They have caused horrible psychological scarring in my SO and I hate being around them. They've never been very kind/receptive to me and I get terrible anxiety whenever I have to be around them. They are your purest form of white trash. SO knows how awful they are and has frankly said that maybe we should just never tell them if/when we get married. Just wondering if anyone out there has had to deal with a similar situation and how to handle the possibility of a wedding without one of the families involved?", "summary": "SO has problematic trashy family that we don't want to be involved with. Advice on future wedding planning/living without them?"}
{"id": "t3_i3u3p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit. What is your scariest vacation story?", "post": "Personally, I recently visited the Bahamas. We did an all-day scooter rental and covered the whole Nassau island...that is until my scooter broke down. I was at one of the private beaches, and asked a bus driver if I could use his phone to call the rental place. He looked me dead in the eye and said \"No, but let me tell you something. If you know what's good for you, you'll leave this beach immediately.\" everyone in the beach was looking at me with wide eyes. Needless to say I rigged a towing system from my buddy's scooter and got the hell out of there.", "summary": "Rental scooter broke down on a private beach in the bahams, was told to get the hell out ASAP."}
{"id": "t3_1uy6yk", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice from an Orthopedic Surgeon, please.", "post": "So my right wrist on my pinky side, where the wrist connects to the hand is really painful to touch. When I move my wrist I feel a popping/snapping sensation and my pinky and ring finger feel \"heavy\". I never fell on it or hurt it or anything and I am pretty sure it is soft tissue.\n\nThere is some swelling on the outside of my forearm and I can feel either a tendon, nerve or vein or something that runs down my whole arm. It is swollen and definitely bigger than my left side. I can't even feel this on my left arm. I guess I'm worried that it's like a blood clot in my vein or something. Any thoughts would be very appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Wrist pops/snaps, swollen vein/tendon running down arm, pain"}
{"id": "t3_1cazlb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one of the most amazing things you have ever seen/heard/experienced in your life?", "post": "Personally back in around 1997, I was going back home with my family after shopping. When we were in the garden of our house this big smoldering object was flying across the sky at medium speed.  At first we thought it was an UFO or something but it looks more like a black piece of rock with smoldering flames.  This object looked much bigger than those Russian meteors, so it was either really massive or really close to the Earth, but then shouldn't there be some massive impact?  There was a plane with a radar or something on it flying in the same direction behind it a few moments later.  There was nothing in the news about it.  I was not tripping either because my family saw it too.", "summary": "Big smoldering flying object in the sky."}
{"id": "t3_152pru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(24) really appreciate my gf(22), but I don't know if I'm wasting her time.", "post": "We've been (me M/24, her F/22) together for almost a year now and I've been very happy and excited in the beginning. I appreciate her, because she likes the whole me with every flaw I have. It's worth to note that I'm her first boyfriend.\n\nThe problem is that I really don't think that I love her as much as I did before and she certainly loves me way more as I far as I can see it.\n\nI think I might be wasting her time, because I'm constantly thinking of being with other women, but I would never act on it, these are just thought, but they're there nonetheless. I really think this is unfair to her on my part. \n\nI had only 2 relationships in my life counting this one too, so I'm not experienced one bit. A few people with whom I discussed my problems said that these are not good signs. **What's your opinion?** Would you break up so you don't waste her time or try to work it out somehow?\n\n*Thank you for reading!", "summary": "Been together with girlfriend for almost a year, I'm her first. I'm constantly thinking of being with other women, but would never act on it. I think this is unfair to her."}
{"id": "t3_1te4hb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mum found Porn on my dads phone, could have been little brother (12) unsure how to go about it.", "post": "So my mum found porn on my dads phone and it's causing a rift in their relationship (both parents are traditional Muslims) and my dad has highly denied it and is very believable but me (16) and my older brother (17) believe its our younger brother (let's call Him M). We've found his searching porn on our laptop before (brought it up with him but he was overtly defensive so we let it go), we've also taken our dads phone of him a couple of times and it was there in the history, My brother also asked him whether it was him and said he flipped out and said it wasn't and was gonna cry, he's also 12 and going through puberty so all signs point to him. \n\nThis is where the problem lies, I don't know how to bring it up to mum without her \"sweet little boy\" imagine of M getting ruined and I don't want to get him in trouble either, plus it'll be incredibly awkward but if it isn't him then we've also ratted him out plus, the only evidence we have is his reactions, our word and the human anatomy, which probably won't be enough for mum anyways :/\n\nAfter this finishes I'm going to tell him about incognito mode (me and my brother have positive outlooks on porn, it's natural for kids going through puberty to be interested in females).", "summary": "Mum found porn on dads phone, most likely little brother, unsure how to tell parents and go about it."}
{"id": "t3_1c2ssu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need Help Understanding Relationship M[21] with F[21]", "post": "Relationship time: 5 months\n\nHey /relationships,\n\nSo I met this girl at OSU earlier this year, and we both fell deeply in love.  This was my first real relationship, and I was smitten completely - I fell hard for her, and she did the same for me.  Now, at around 7 days, she said I love you, and I returned it, for I really thought that I felt that way.  Around 2 months in, we were talking about marriage and getting engaged, and formulating plans together for the future.  \n\nNow here is the issue.  I no longer am sure about getting engaged or married.  I definitely still want to be with her, but I am finally coming to my senses and realizing that 6 months is way, way, Way too soon to get engaged, and that I want to know her for a few years before I am comfortable with being married.  We're just beginning to get to know each other and commit to each other for life right now would just be laying the grounds for a potentially unhappy and unsuccessful marriage.\n\nWith all of that being said, I know the general consensus will just be to talk about it, and keep both parties on the same page regarding the relationship, and this is what I would do, if I knew that she wouldn't freak out completely.  She has deep abandonment issues and trust issues which we have been working through together, and I know she would view this as a violation of her trust and love.  I've always assumed honesty is the best policy, but I'm just not sure about what to do in this circumstance.", "summary": "5 months relationship between 21 year olds - moved way too fast at the beginning - want to slow things down massively but not sure about girlfriends mental state regarding the change.  "}
{"id": "t3_3588ba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18f] need help suppressing my feelings regarding my bf [18m].", "post": "My bf and I have been going out for about a year now. Even though we are still young, we both plan to be together long term. We are extremely happy together and are thankful that we live close by so we can see each other whenever we want. We are both pretty insecure. There have been times we both have asked the other to stop talking to certain people and each time we both are happy to oblige. My problem is, I know I would do more for him than he would for me. \n  I know I'm not suppose to expect to be treated the same way I treat him, but sometimes I just feel really alone. I've expressed my concern to him regarding this one girl he talks to. I know they have nothing going on but the fact he still talks to her sometimes really annoys me. I've asked him to stop talking to her but he tells me that he's not that kind of person to just stop talking to someone. My argument toward that is that it seriously bothers me and I would stop talking to anyone for him in a heartbeat, which I have proven. I know my thinking is irrational, so I'm not asking for any type of justification that what I am asking for is right. I'm asking for help on how to stop letting small things like that bother me. I'm currently on my bed crying my eyes out just because I feel like I show him all the time how much I love him even if it makes me appear mean to other people. I even made my screen saver: don't let him know how you feel, to remind myself that I can't bring it up with my bf anymore because he will just get upset. I really want to change my way of thinking and I know a lot of it has to do with my own jealousy and insecurities. But I feel it is unfair because I do literally everything to make sure he is happy. Advice is really needed.", "summary": "Need help getting over insecurity issues and feeling I would do more for my bf than he would do for me."}
{"id": "t3_s82ym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mum got told she couldn't buy a new phone because 'the computer didn't like her'. What's the strangest reason that someone's had for being refused service?", "post": "So basically my mum has been trying to buy a phone for the last 3 weeks from 3 in the UK (I've left out how long each step took to save space). First she used the website as she gets cash back. The website went funny and wouldn't process the original transaction so she tried twice more before ringing up. The operator said that there had been a problem with her credit card because she had tried to order 3 phones according to them. She rang up her card provider and had the card unblock the order. She then tried to order again and was rejected. She rang up and was told that there was a problem with her credit rating. My mum has never had trouble getting credit in her life but still she rang up experian who told her she had a very good rating and she shouldn't have a problem getting credit. So she rang up again and was told to use a different computer. No luck rang again and told to use a different web browser (yeah I know). No luck finally asked to speak to someone who knew what they were doing. She was finally told not to use website as it just didn't like her and should go into store. So today after all of this she went into the shop and tried to buy it and was told that the computer did not like her despite having a perfect credit report from Experian and her bank having cleared the transaction. She was told to try back in 90 days when the system MAY have cleared. There is no legitimate reason to refuse her the phone other than the computer doesn't like her.", "summary": "Phoneshop won't take my mums money because the computer didn't like her."}
{"id": "t3_31pehd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Going on a date in an hour.. Super nervous need help", "post": "I got out of a bad relationship two months ago that lasted almost a year. I haven't been on a first date for over a year.. I met this girl on Tinder and made it clear I wasn't looking to just hook up. We've been talking and share a lot in common, down to the fact we both smoke pot and love cartoons from the 90's. I've been pretty smooth on the phone but in real life I'm very shy. I think I've gotten a little less shy since I got out of my last relationship, but I really wanna wow this girl. We're going to see the new Fast and Furious movie.  We're both passive people, as I'm very shy and nice and she seems to be just like me in that she doesn't like to be the one making decisions. I don't like making decisions either, but I made the decision of when and what movie to see. What should I do?", "summary": "going on a date, haven't been on one in a year. What should I do? I'm super nervous for reference I'm 22 and she's 23."}
{"id": "t3_1j3bai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28/f) girlfriend opened up to me about her past and now I (31/m) feel like I've lost respect for her. I want to let it go and stop judging her. Any advice is appreciated.", "post": "An amazing woman entered my life a few months ago. We hit it off right away and have been discovering new facets to our chemistry ever since. It's been mind-blowingly great in just about every way. She is absolutely crazy about me, and I felt the same about her until she recently opened up to me about her past. She told me that she's been with tons of guys, saying that it was often an 'obligation' for having been taken out on a couple dates, that she could easily separate the emotional and physical aspects of sex.\n\nI really feel that I've lost a great deal of respect for her, and I don't fully understand why. I've always associated such feelings with jealousy, insecurity, or mistrust, but this doesn't feel like that to me. It just feels like I think less of her. I want so badly to let it go. She's absolutely incredible in so many ways that are important to me. \n\nMy brain tells me that feeling this way is immature, stupid, and extremely unfair to her. I have a past too. I have no right to expect anything of her before we met. But her past is of the type that I have specifically avoided in my own life, generally feeling that it was a matter of self-respect. I've always thought it was important to reserve sex for meaningful relationships. \n\nAm I being overly judgmental? Is any part of what I'm feeling rational?\n\nHow do I forgive her past? Maybe forgive isn't the right word, because I don't necessarily think she's done anything wrong. But how do I let it go?", "summary": "The best relationship of my life fell into my lap and my inability to get over her past is threatening to ruin it."}
{"id": "t3_q3288", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Referring to a significant other as 'fiance' for the purpose of validity. Guys-is this weird.", "post": "BF 48 and I F 26 are buying a house.  We've been dating on and off for 4 years, more off than on.  We do want to be together, and love each other, and will most likely get married in a couple years, but aren't really there now.  \n\nSo our finance person wrote an explanation as to why our checks were coming through an account in his name (he set it up while I was overseas) and she lists him as my fiance.\n\nSo, he's got the printer at work, and is printing this out.  Guys, would this freak you out?", "summary": "would you be freaked out if you saw your GF address you as her fianc\u00e9 when you're not engaged?"}
{"id": "t3_49wvak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25] with my \"exclusive\" FWB/GF [27 F] three months... ignoring me while she's out of town for spring break.", "post": "Everything was fantastic before she left, like I literally had one of the best times of my life with her early this week. \n\nThe night before she left I asked her if were exclusive, and she asked if I was worried she was going to cheat on the trip. I played it as calm as possible \"a girl is going to do what she's going to do,  I can't stop you either way... but I like you and.. blah blah blah...\" Although it wasn't fully aired out, the cuddling/kissing combined with \"just trust me baby I'm not gonna hurt you...\" talk made me feel like we were. \n\nIDK, I thought we were cool We had sex since I asked her that...  then she went out of town and I haven't heard from her since day one. \n\nLike she sent me a trivial  text, I responded 5 minutes later, then didn't get anything else for over 24 hours, when I texted her again... a \"what'sup, having fun\".\n\nNo response, going on three days now since I last heard from her Tuesday morning.\n\nI don't text her again right? It would be too clingy? Is it time to start assuming the worse?  \n\nWould a \"are you okay...?\" kind of text leaning on I'm worried for her safety be a good thing to try?", "summary": "G/F on spring break (visiting family), ghosting me for about 72 hours now. Should I text/call her and just say I'm concerned about her safety? Or stay quite? I like her a lot..."}
{"id": "t3_4ixaxz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27F] dealing with visa limbo. Any tips, advice to get through the wait?", "post": "Currently passportless in the country I've been living abroad in, waiting for the decision on my visa appeal (the visa app was rejected the first time; so it's starting to feel hopeless). It's hard to keep living here as if nothing's wrong, building my career, etc., not knowing if I'll be here in even two months' time.\n\nI'm also finding it more and more difficult to not resent my partner [28M] (for not offering to marry -- even though I know it's unfair) and the country itself (for making it so hard to live here to begin with). So, my emotions are getting the best of me.\n\nI don't like to imagine what I will do if I do have to leave, although I know vaguely I would find another country to live in (not settle home again). Torn about if it's a good or bad idea to figure out what my escape plan would be.", "summary": "Has anyone else been in visa limbo? How did you handle it? Did you make 'just-in-case' plans or try to take it day-by-day? How did you deal with your relationships? Any advice would be very much appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_3uar1d", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Am I being copyright trolled?", "post": "A week ago my business was sent an email by a company called Tunesat.com claiming we were using songs in youtube videos that their clients held copyright for.  It was a lengthy email filled with plenty of legal jargon but essentially stated that, unless we could prove we owned the license to use these specific songs, they would offer a generous settlement of $3000 per violation.  They sent links to 13 videos!!!\nThese videos were all shot, edited and posted by a third party and were all posted in 2010, hidden way back in our youtube channel and were immediately removed.  \nMy two questions are: \nDoes anyone know anything about tunesat.com and whether it's a scam or something to be legitimately concerned about?\nIs my business completely liable even though the videos in question were made by a third party?", "summary": "I'm being threatened with copyright infringement by tunesat.com and don't know if it's legit or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2b0rpg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[PA] Serving an \"underager\" as a Bartender", "post": "I'm a bartender at a restaurant/bar which can get pretty busy on friday night.  So, we have a bouncer who cards everyone at the door.  As he is the one in charge of this process, I'm assuming, probably incorrectly, that he assumes liability for anyone allowed in underage. This carding includes looking at the IDs as well as swiping.  PA IDs, or so I'm told, are generally difficult to fake so if he gives them the okay, I don't usually double check.  \n\nApparently, two girls came in one Friday night and the one was underage.  We only discovered this because the girl's father came in and was complaining that she got served because she's only 20.  Assuming he reports this, what kind of legal trouble could I be looking at?", "summary": "Bouncer let in and stamped an underage girl, I didn't know and served her.  What could I be looking at?"}
{"id": "t3_uqdt0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today a random old women was pestering me with suspicious questions about Darknet while I was eating my lunch. What's been your strangest interaction with the elderly?", "post": "So while I was taking my lunch break at the local co-op, some 20-year-old kid behind me started talking obnoxiously loud to his friend about Silkroad and how he's going to buy a lot of bitcoins and that he's an anarchist. The 60-70 year old woman sitting at the table next to me (the dining section of this place is very small) overheard and politely started to ask them about it. The kid didn't really respond and seeing as I knew enough about Darknet to give her a brief explanation, I stepped in to quench this woman's thirst for knowledge. I told her the basics: what it is, how to get there, and words of caution regarding the content of a lot of the sites. The entire time I was talking she was scooting closer in her chair and her eyes were slowly widening as if I'd told her that she'd just won the lottery. She then bombarded me with questions and told me about how she had been trying in vain to make her IP invisible and how interested she was in Silkroad and the rest of the Black Market. When I noted how excited she was getting, I again warned her of the dangers and horrors that are to be found in that deep and dark area of the internet. She paid no attention. She didn't blink an eye when I hesitantly mentioned cp. The worst part was that the conversation had this awkward tension that was very unsettling. And she didn't look like anyone to be worried about, no Simpsons-crazy-cat-lady qualities about her at all. But anyway, that was my strange interaction with an elderly person for the day, (although the day is not yet through and there are old folks everywhere here, two of which are homeless Elvis impersonators), what's yours?", "summary": "There's now an old woman on the Darknet because of me."}
{"id": "t3_2c0ju1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Single again and lonely :/", "post": "I realized today that I (21 f) seriously have an issue with dependency. My ex bf (26 m) broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. It was a LDR and kind of feels like we broke up for no reason. I went to visit regularly but I suppose it wasn't enough for him. It hurts even more because we haven't kept in contact even though we're \"Friends.\" We were only together for about 9 months if you count the period of time we started talking. Right before getting into that relationship, I was with another guy (22 m) for about 3 years. We also don't keep in contact.  And before that, I was kind of with a guy (23 m) that was in jail for about a year. Basically, I haven't been completely single in 4+ years. How do I get my mind off my exs and guys in general? I don't really want a relationship anytime soon. Was considering a fwb but I feel like I deserve more than just being someone's fuckbuddy. I don't really have friends so I feel stuck. What should I do?", "summary": "haven't been single in more than 4 years. I don't want really want another relationship but I don't wanna be so alone."}
{"id": "t3_3khqhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my (friends with benefits?) [18 F] confused.", "post": "So let me start off by saying I've been \"seeing\" this girl for about two weeks. She's sweet, a total tomboy, and she's real cool. Now normally I fall head over heels for girls, but after our first date she made it clear she wasn't necessarily looking to date. Fine by me, I'm in a phase of my life where I'm fine without a girlfriend, but the problem is I'm a virgin and plan to stay so (until I find someone I love enough to give it away). That makes hookups difficult. This girl has slept over on weekends, and I've gone out drinking with her friends, it's a good time, but I'm realizing now that I kind of want a relationship. It doesn't have to be with her, but I care about her, and she had one of those drunk spill all moments the other night. She basically said that she cares about me way too much and wants a relationship but is scared and so she'll never date me. She said however she would date me if we eventually had sex. This scared the crap out of me. If you like me, date me because you like me, not because you want my sex. It's so confusing.\n\nOn top of this, there are two girls who I know for a fact would love for me to ask them out. I could do this as I don't have any immediate attachments to the girl I'm fwb'ing with (if you can call it that), and they're both definitely looking for a relationship. It's strange because I usually fall head over heels for the girls I'm seeing very quickly, but this time it's been different. I'm just really confused. I think I'm going through a phase or something. Thanks guys. Appreciate help in advance.\n\n-Kirby1056", "summary": "Am friends with benefits (for lack of a better word because we just fool around) with a girl who doesn't want to date me. I want a relationship. Other girls want said relationship with me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_38mlon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20) get jealous because my boyfriend (20) clicks on the NSFW links on Reddit.", "post": "It's gotten to the point where I'll go on Reddit and specifically look for all the NSFW links, see how many there are, and see what they are. I want to know what he's looking at, what I feel like I'm competing against and being compared to.\n\nHe doesn't really hide the fact that he clicks on them. Earlier today I commented \"There's a bunch of porn on Reddit's 'All' page, isn't there?\" and he agreed. I think he could tell I was uncomfortable with it. He knows I'm insecure and that get jealous pretty easily (bad, I know. I really can't help it, though). He asked what I've seen, and I replied that it's mainly just girls posting pictures of themselves. He said, \"oh, yeah\", confirming that he sees it. \n\nI wanted him to know I was uncomfortable with it, so I said, \"So you click on those links?\" He said he clicks on them because he's curious. He wants to see what could be so special enough that it's gotten so many points. And then he changed the subject by saying he doesn't understand why girls would post pictures like that. I agreed. The topic changed.\n\nHe's not the jealous type, so I guess he doesn't really understand my feelings about it. And it'd be completely dumb to ask him not to do it. First, that's controlling and makes me look way too insecure and jealous. (He says my getting jealous doesn't bother him, but I'm sure that'd change if it continues.) Second, there wouldn't be anything stopping him from doing it anyways.\n\nWhat are your thoughts. Deep down I know I shouldn't worry about it, but I can't help it. Is it reasonable for me to feel so jealous and annoyed that he clicks on the nsfw links? Should I try talking to him about it again?", "summary": "Boyfriends clicks on NSFW links that pop up on Reddit. I get jealous."}
{"id": "t3_2ip0wi", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Interested in my ex's good friend", "post": "I dated a girl who we'll call Jane for 8 months and was very in love with her. To make a long story short, over the summer we broke up and I was devastated but, as is part of life, I had to move on. So I started talking to other people and the one person in specific I started talking to was her friend - let's call her Nicole. So Nicole and I got to talking a lot and rather quickly I became really interested in her. So one day, I invited her over to my house thinking that we would just hang out as friends because that's all I really thought of it but things started getting pretty flirty. I brought attention to a vodka bottle I had in the cabinet twice not for the purpose of convincing her to drink some with me but just pointing it out. The second time she suggest we have some so we did. We both got a bit tipsy and nearly kissed but instead both decided that on account of Jane that would not be a good idea for either of us because I admittedly still had feelings for Jane. Despite this decision, I continued flirting with Nicole and she continued flirting with me. We started hanging out a lot and cuddling and doing essentially anything but actually kissing. Again, to make a long story short, over the past few months we've hung out a lot and flirted a lot and cuddled but we keep getting stopped by something. Despite knowing that this thing is Jane I decided to ask Nicole today. So we went for a walk and talked and she said that if it were not for Jane she would definitely be interested in me but that she can't do that to Jane. I want to have something more than a friendship with Nicole but because of my relationship with Jane which, to restate, she ended Nicole doesn't see that happening. I basically want to know if there is anything I could do to convince Nicole otherwise.", "summary": "I am interested in my ex-girlfriends good friend and she has said she would be interested in me were it not for my ex. Looking for advice on how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_30gnq7", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Did we make a mistake?", "post": "My gf recently adopted a baby german shepherd that was 6 weeks old as a gift to me for my birthday. I didn't know she was going to do this and from reading this forum, taking a puppy away from its mother before 8-12 weeks is bad to do.\n\nAfter a week (7 weeks old now) she eats regularly without a problem, is completely house broken, sleeps in her crate without crying, and even walks on a leash. She has no issues interacting with other people and in fact loves playing with other people. From my experience, I haven't seen anything unusual from her. \n\nDid we still make a huge mistake adopting her at such a young age?", "summary": "Adopted puppy at 6 weeks, puppy is doing fantastic and has great manners. Did we make a mistake?"}
{"id": "t3_30ywys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 5 years, his anxiety disorder and unplanned pregnancy", "post": "A year ago my boyfriend and I went through a termination of an unplanned pregnancy. The reasons were my high-demanding university studies and his anxiety/panic disorder. The whole experience was traumatic for both of us since we've always wanted children... but not yet.\n\nWe were surprised to find out a few days ago that my copper IUD had failed and I'm pregnant again. This happened almost exactly one year later than the previous conception. I've been seeing a therapist for about nine months because of the abortion a year ago. He has been working on his mental problems, but these are not resolved yet.\n\nAfter the abortion he swore we'd never have to go through with it again and I swore I would keep the pregnancy if it happened again. The thing is... I do want to keep it, but he is having serious doubts. He says if he doesn't deal with his anxiety by the time the baby would be born he would not be a good father. He tries to (more or less) subtly convince me to have another abortion, saying it would be better for my beginning career, etc. He says it's ultimately my decision, and he'll support me. I just feel that, as I'm still coping with pregnancy-related feelings of sadness and guilt, I need his support 100%.\n\nI've prepared my mind and body since the last pregnancy happened for carrying a baby. I feel I would be ready when it's time. I just don't want to force him into something he doesn't want or isn't ready for. All challenges we'd face, in my mind, can be resolved and we'd have support from our families. I just can't feel happy for the healthy pregnancy because he has major cold feet.", "summary": "How can I support my boyfriend with anxiety disorder to hopefully cope with an unplanned pregnancy?"}
{"id": "t3_1efrae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hit and Run, Surfers Paradise, QLD Australia ~10:30pm Tuesday May 14 Near Bistro Lamp Restaurant", "post": "Hi all. My Japanese friend was riding his white bicycle the other night near Bistro Lamp Japanese Restaurant in Surfers and was struck by a silver car going about 60km/h. I think he was hit from behind, and witnesses say he was thrown about 3 meters into the air.\n\nHe had temporary amnesia, but is recovering relatively quickly. Some things remain fuzzy in his memory- especially the 24 hours prior to the accident.\n\nHe is a man of modest belongings, and has very little money. He's pretty concerned about the cost of the hospital stay. We need to bring the responsible driver to justice. Police have the case open, but if anyone has any information, it would certainly help.\n\nIf you know anything about this, or have any advice, please comment or send me a message.\n\nThanks all.", "summary": "Insurance-less bicycle-riding friend friend was in a hit and run, we need to find the driver."}
{"id": "t3_zyblb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my SO [f/21] was talking to another guy and lied to me. what is a fair response/continued actions?", "post": "My SO and I live together. together for about a year. SO has had a friend who she claimed to be nothing more than a friend. I have meet him and he seemed like a nice enough guy. For a time she talked to him all the time to the point of neglecting me. I confronted her about how I feel and the problem seemed to be done. but i never fully trusted their interactions. A few days ago he sent her a text and I read it. Leading me to read the rest only to find that they have been sexting back and forth with a lot of detail. I don't know how long this has been going on. The only redeeming fact was that they never talked about cheating. My SO and I had just had a great week where we had found a whole new level of trust(Opening up about our sexuality etc.) So naturally I feel hurt and betrayed etc. In trying to show that I could still trust her I told her that they could still talk as friend. We are working on it and I forgave her. She is doing a much better job than I expected trying to show me how much she loves me and that it was just stupid text that went to far. But i can't stop wondering what they are talking about? Am I in the wrong to ask to see their text's back and forth? I don't know if i'm Overeating to this whole thing and obsessing or I'm right to be so paranoid about them. thanks reddit.", "summary": "SO was talking dirty in great detail via text to guy she insisted was just friend. Lied about it etc. Am I wrong to want ask to see current conversations and be so paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_4y3w9l", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I [21M] create desire or passion for my gf[21F]?", "post": "I've been seeing my gf for a few months now and things are going great. However I realized she's only ever in the mood for the sex very rarely and dependent on her cycle. What I'm saying is just my drive is much higher than hers.\n\nTake for an example I was away last night and she texted me she really wanted sexually so we sexted for the night while making plans to meet asap. I got back this morning went straight over but she said she wasn't in the mood anymore and just ended up having lovely breakfast(hormones she says). Now I love spending time with her but it is pretty frustrating sexually for me. I know that she's not shy about sex, we talk about it all the time and when we have done it its always really great for the both of us.\n\nI don't know if I'm grossly simplifying it but I do feel maybe its a lack of effort from my end to try to create the desire within her. I'm not talking I throw a big romantic dinner so she feels obliged to sex me, I want her to want it you know. We both do take effort to look good, we go to the gym, dress and groom well etc. But I do realize I'm pretty awkward at flirting and initiating physical touch. Don't know if I'm  being selfish but yeah I'm hoping I could get some help with this.", "summary": "GF is only in the mood rarely due to hormones and it sucks for me if I miss it."}
{"id": "t3_41aull", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26m) and my Girlfriend (25f) are having our laundry detergent stolen from us. Advice?", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I live in a large house that is sectioned off into separate suites. We have our own closet in the basement with our stuff in it(including our laundry detergent). Anyway, someone in our house is stealing our detergent. We just bought one and did two loads of laundry and it's basically gone. It's of course very annoying and we decided to spike the detergent with bleach. Right now it is a ticking bomb of revenge.\nReddit, am I being a shitty person or should I let this play out?", "summary": "Somebody is stealing our detergent so we put bleach in it. Good way to deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_168qm0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I break it off? I need your help.", "post": "I [18/m] have been with my girlfriend [18/f] for about two years total. With one break up due to complications with work/school and another because she \"didn't have time to devote to me\". The first break up was kind of 'whatever' for both of us because it was only about 2 months in. But the second one was devastating. It was about a year after our first break up. About a month later, we swallowed our pride and admitted we still wanted each other. Then it was all well.\n\n But it slowly got worse. We were very into each other. Always. But she slooowly seemed less into it. But sometimes she was perfectly fine. I started to bring up things that bothered me. We had passed the \"mushy gushy\" stage and now I've started to see some of her flaws. But it's usually simple things. Like poor focus during conversations.\n\n But overtime, these things all build up and become increasingly agitating. I confront her with these issues and she says she will try to fix them, but never does. Which leads to me bringing up these issues over and over again. I have no idea what to do. I'll give more details if you need. But this sums it up.", "summary": "Girlfriend does things that bother me immensely, says she will fix them, never does."}
{"id": "t3_1p7xbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 3.5 years has been supporting me financially and emotionally since losing my job a few months ago. How can I show her how much I appreciate her?", "post": "Today was a tough day in particular, after waiting three months on what I thought was a very positive interview, I realized I did not get an offer to my top choice of jobs. I have been applying to many jobs, as many as I can, with a few bites but nothing especially promising. We didn't know me being unemployed would last this long, which has been taxing on both of us.\n\nMy girlfriend has been here for me: financially, emotionally, and everything in between. I know it must get frustrating for her, especially after so many negatives on my job front. I clean around the apartment, go grocery shopping, do laundry, and do my best to make sure she comes home after work and is able to relax. \n\nHow can I show her how much I care about her, and how much I appreciate everything that she's done and is doing for me? I want her to know, especially after being dealt this particularly huge blow. Lord knows she deserves to feel special.", "summary": "Didn't get my top choice of job, girlfriend has been supporting me along the way, and want to show her I care."}
{"id": "t3_3jp98l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/F] getting married, bridesmaid [25/F] won't get back to me!", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo I [25/F] am getting married in about 2 months. I had planned to have 3 bridesmaids and a maid of honor. However, one of my bridesmaids [25/F] has been really out of the loop (not answering calls/texts/emails/fb messages). This was also the case when I was trying to ask her to be a bridesmaid (a process which took months to get in touch with her!). My fianc\u00e9 and I recently moved to another state, so most of our people from our wedding party are from out of town (which I understand limits what they can do to help); however, all my bridal party have gotten matching dresses (of different shades of blue) and she still hasn't even responded to any of their messages either. She always comes up with lame excuses (her phone broke/ she got a new computer- which SHE WOULD STILL BE ABLE TO CHECK FB MESSAGES AND EMAILS!). \n\nShe has been a very close friend since we were young (since 11 years old!). I love her to death and we have always had the kind of relationship were we don't need to talk or hang out every weekend to be able to maintain our friendship (we have always been there for any crisis and told each other everything even after months of not talking). I feel like she is really dropping the ball on this tough\u2026 It's not like I'm asking her to help with ANY PREPARATIONS for the wedding, just get ANY dress that is blue... I would even help financially but she doesn't respond to ANYTHING.\n\nI have thought about asking her to step down because I find it really rude of her BUT HOW if I can't even get in touch with her?! I am also scared about messing up the friendship\u2026 but\u2026 I think she already has.", "summary": "Bridesmaid [25/F] won't get back to me for weeks and has lame excuses. Known her since we were 11 years old\u2026 Should I ask her to step down as bridesmaid?"}
{"id": "t3_3guzht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend is turning 21 and wants me (21M) to throw her a party. How do I break the news that no one will show up?", "post": "Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend.  She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends.\n\nHere at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends.  She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities.\n\nWe've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation.  I don't have friends but I'm happy that way.  I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her.  Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people.  \n\nShe's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc.  everyone said no.  I gave the invites well in advance too.  I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited.  She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends.  But people don't want to come for even that.  What can I do?", "summary": "My friendly but friendless girlfriend wanted me to throw a 21st birthday party for her, but no one accepted.  How do I still make this a special day?  How do I tell her without crushing her?"}
{"id": "t3_4r447m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] \"girlfriend\" is acting pretty weird with me [18M] lately", "post": "Hey Reddit! Over the past week or so my SO of 6 months has been acting pretty out of the norm with me... We normally always say goodnight before bed and say we love each other but this past week it just hasn't really happened, I've said it but it's not been reciprocated at all. On top of this there's been this guy she's been talking to [26M] who she says used to be nice but then got weird and sends her nudes all the time but she has never told him to leave her alone. As well as that, she doesn't like being known as my girlfriend or that I'm her boyfriend even though we do all the stuff, spend time together, go on dates etc. But she changes so much around our friends, and this has not just been recently this has been since we started speaking to each other. This comes then today, she was at my house and she tried to initiate sex, after messaging the guy, I said no because I thought something had happened in the messages but she insists all the time that he's the only one being weird. Shortly after I apologised because I didn't want it to seem like I didn't want her and then she broke down crying saying that it was because she was gonna miss me a lot when she went to uni, but the thing is that she's never done anything like it before, whenever I've been upset she's always been comforting and said that we'd still see each other, so that prompted me to think further that something had been said in the messages and she'd acknowledged that I realised. She's now at home and flaming me for apologising and wanting a reason to initiate it, when before she did, nothing was going on, I'd went to get us a drink and we'd actually had sex about 2 hours before and both gotten off. I'm really confused about what's going on, please help.", "summary": "My SO has been messaging a guy and telling me not to worry, tried to initiate sex after talking to him and then got really upset when I said no and is now ignoring me"}
{"id": "t3_2bydmm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21 F] extremely jealous, to the point where I can't have female friends, and I'm afraid it will destroy my otherwise amazing relationship [25 M]", "post": "My best friend growing up was my twin brother, so I always play it off like, \"yeah, I just get along with guys better because of my twin\", but I think the real reason is my insecurity/jealously issues. I grew up as an ugly duckling with a beautiful older sister and my best girl friend growing up was also beautiful. They both kind of bossed me around and always got a lot of attention so I think it stems from this. When I hit puberty I blossomed out of my ugly duckling phase and got a lot of attention because of my looks, and developed an obsession with male attention.\n\nI prefer to be the only girl hanging out in a group and I automatically get uncomfortable if other girls are invited along. Conversations with girls feel forced and awkward because I automatically think they don't like me and see me as competition, probably because that's how I feel about them. If my boyfriend and I are at a party and a girl he's hooked up with in the past is there, I have to pull myself away from the group and go home.\n\nMy boyfriend has never cheated on me (or anyone If we're at a party together in the past), spends all of his free time with me, and has never given me a reason to be jealous. I still have extreme jealousy issues and I'm aware that they have nothing to do with him. \n\nHow can I control this and realize my self worth shouldn't be tied to my looks? We have an otherwise amazing relationship and I don't want to ruin it over jealousy.", "summary": "jealousy issues controlling my life and relationships, how can I control it?"}
{"id": "t3_4d76c8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my \"bff\" [37F] She moved away and she always flakes on me when she's in town visiting other people.", "post": "She and I have been friends since we were 8 or 9 years old. We went through a lot together and were even roommates for a few years and then she moved away.\n\nSince she moved away, she has been consistently flaking out on me after saying she wants to see me, with all sorts of random reasons for doing so. When I had addressed this in the past, I was accused of being selfish and living in a bubble, whatever that's supposed to mean.\n\nWe reconciled a few months ago after she had taken my abusive mom's side during an argument we had, and she later apologized after someone else did the same to her. I really thought that things would get better, but in the past few months, she's been in town twice, left me for last in her planning and then - you guessed it - flaked on me. AGAIN.\n\nMy question is: should I just give up on this friendship? I'm so tired and hurt by this behaviour, and don't even know if she actually gives a shit about me, or what? Tired of getting my hopes up just to have them dashed an umpteenth time.", "summary": "Longtime friend moved away and can NEVER seem to keep any plans with me when in my town. Should I just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_36k2aj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He says he's happy, but he knows I'm not what he wants", "post": "Hey guys, \n\nI'm in a tricky situation.\n\nI'm with a guy right now and we have a lot of fun together and we never fight and we have a great time together usually. \n\nHe told me that he's happy with me right now and he's not sure how long it will last but he knows I'm not the kind of person he wants to marry one day... it really hurts. I feel like I'm not good enough. \n\nOne day he asked me if I loved him, and I told him I do and when I asked if he loved me he said No. \n\nIt was devastating. Am I self inflicting myself with this relationship? I love spending time with him. We laugh a lot... I'm hoping that if I can just show him the person I am that his feelings will change maybe and one day he'll realize I'm the one? \n\nI'm not saying I want to marry him, either. We havn't been together for very long but I do enjoy the time I have with him right now a lot. Am I just overthinking about the future? I go into relationships not wanting to waste my time - I'm looking for someone to love for the rest of my life... I hate jumping around. Soooo... am I just overreacting the future or should I step back from this thinking of \"am I/will I ever be good enough?\".. We're both very honest with eachother a lot and he shows symptoms of aspergers syndrome (I think he has it?) so I'm usually very blunt/honest with him as well as he is to me.", "summary": "In a relationship with a guy who doesn't love me, thinks he doesn't want to marry me and says one day we'll eventually \"separate\" because he knows he's not the one he wants to marry."}
{"id": "t3_197znl", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "You shall not pass!", "post": "I was driving home from work in San Antonio when I noticed this jerk in a sports car tailgating, honking, flashing lights, and in general being a major pest. We pulled up to a red light and he gunned it right through the intersection, somehow managing to not cause a major accident. I fumed for a bit but figured that was the end of it.\n\nTen minutes later I pulled into my apartment complex gate (it had one of those bars that raises and lowers after you put in a code) and there he was, idling next to it. I don't know if he was just visiting so didn't have the right entry numbers or what, but he was just waiting for someone to come in so he could slip by on their pass.\n\nI pulled up to the gate, put my code in, and saw him inches from my bumper waiting to race in behind me. The gate raised up, I went forward, he followed intently, and I stopped with my rear bumper just barely in front of where the gate would fall.\n\nHe fumed in his front seat while I waved, the gate lowered blocking him out, and I pulled away happy.", "summary": "Ass-hole drove like an ass-hole, got stopped at my apartment gate, tried to slip through just after me, but I blocked him."}
{"id": "t3_10e5ri", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey, r/loseit, what are our thoughts on supplementary pills like Slimquick or other \"diet enhancers\"?", "post": "I know, I know. Eat healthy, exercise, and you'll be fine. Your weight will plateau sometimes but you'll just have to get over it (literally). Do your best, cut carbs, make life changes.\n\nI've done those. I'm still working on them. But I was wondering if any of you have tried any supplementary diet pills (like Slimquick) and what you guys think of them. Do you think they would help? I'm particularly interested in them giving me some extra motivation - a reason to look back on the day and be like, \"Well, you don't need to eat any more today - and that pill will help you even more!\" sort of motivation.\n\nWhat do you think? Any of you have experience with Slimquick or others? Please let me know, I've been debating this for a few weeks and I think I could use the pills as motivators. Or I'll just be out 20 - 30 bucks.", "summary": "considering using SlimQuick on top of my diet and exercise - any experience on your guys' front? Stories? Words of caution? Let me know what you think, thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_3gvbc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [18F] recently found out her last boyfriend was cheating on her the entire time. I feel like a consolation suddenly.", "post": "So my better half recently found her last boyfriend was cheating on her. This guy broke up with her by text and flaked on her constantly for 75% of the relationship (from what she told me) and she was suspicious of cheating the whole time. \n\nSince they broke up (January or so) he completely ignores her unless he asks for nudes/tries to hook up. \n\nBut even so while they were dating she was desperate for his attention and validation. She recognized what she was doing sticking around was not healthy but she did it anyway. Really liked the guy. That's important information.\n\nAnyway, so when she found out the other day that for the entire time he was seeing other people she got really down. Think it's entirely her fault. I'm trying to be supportive; being cheated on sucks. I've been telling her she's not to blame at all, etc etc. \n\nI've wondered why she picks up his calls when he tries to \"apologize\" (from what she told me he says it wasn't that big of a deal and she should give him a second chance) and I've asked her why she doesn't just delete him. She says she does but hours later she unblocks him or whatever. \n\nBut what really *really* gets me is that he said he wants to redo last year and treat her right. She allegedly shoots him down and says she moved on to better things but it is driving me up the got-damn wall knowing he's trying to get her back under his thumb again.\n\nAm I going bananas or is this something I should genuinely be concerned about?", "summary": "my girl's less than stellar ex is trying to halfheartedly apologize for not being an ideal partner and am irrationally worried about it"}
{"id": "t3_yim0v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When i was little my dog saved me from getting kidnapped. When has your pet saved you?", "post": "I grew up with a Kelpie cross who was really friendly to everyone, and also very protective of me. The cross made her a little bigger than a true Kelpie and she was a dark blue colour. \n\nI used to take her to the park across the road from my home a lot. One day when i was on my way home, alone, only a few meters from the front gate, when a man cuts me off. \n\nI remember him calling me pretty and leaning closer to me, Sissy(my dog) was between us and she snapped at his hand as he reached for me and growled loudly at him. \n\nHe seemed to notice her for the first time and ran off. In 6 years of life, that was only the second time she ever snapped/growled at someone.", "summary": "My childhood dog scared off a potential kidnapper. "}
{"id": "t3_1aij5r", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21m) just got out of a relationship, and am looking to hit the dating scene again- but no where to look", "post": "So i recently was broken up with out of an 18 month relationship, and i'm looking to start dating again- my problem is i don't know of many activities that are likely to help me meet women. I go part time to my local community college (i'm in NJ if anyone is interested), but don't spend any time on campus to meet people (truth be told- the women there are really hit/miss anyway) my only real hobby is airsoft (which is an extremely heavily male dominated sport) and aside from occasional sit downs in the Barnes & Noble cafe- not a lot of 'social' scenes. \n\nI'm not much of a drinker or 'dancer' so bars/clubs aren't something i'm looking for, i have an online profile but i'm not exactly relying on it to be my mainstay.", "summary": "Looking to re-join the dating scene, but don't know where to look. any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3cgij4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I cut deeply into my savings and pay off my student loan or keep paying in increments?", "post": "I have ~11K in savings and a remaining balance of ~3K in student loans with a seemingly steep interest rate.  Even though I am 'paid ahead' until July of 2016, I am still incurring interest hits with each payment (generally pay $100/month towards the loan and about 87 goes towards principal and the remaining is interest).  Should I go ahead and pay off my remaining balance of 3K now, leaving me with 8K in savings?\n\nThings to consider: I just moved across the country for grad school.  I am currently unemployed and seeking work.  I can (and probably will have to) take another loan out for grad school in the next two months.  So I wouldn't be flat broke if any major expenses came up.   The only main concerns I have to worry about (aside from standard bills and insurance) are rent of ~625/mo, a dog who is now 7, and a 1999 car which seems to be surviving ok right now, but who knows.", "summary": "would it be better for me to completely pay off this one loan before taking out another, even though paying off this one will cut into my savings a good bit?"}
{"id": "t3_3bwd28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother (M30) wants me (F25) to write a check from my recently deceased Grandmother", "post": "update from this:\n\nMy grandma passed away today.   My brother says he needs about $15,000 to finish paying for this semester (? how that works I have no idea since it is July) and is really laying the guilt on thick -- he can't come to the funeral because he needs to stay and look for a job, he is so worried he won't be able to get a loan by the time this payment is due, etc.\n\nThis is much larger than any previous check I'd made at my grandmother's request.  I'm feeling very uncomfortable but don't know how or what to say to tell him no, I'm not going to to write a check she never told me to write.   Or how to deal with the fall out from my mom and dad, because I feel like they will be upset and not understand why I'm not OK with this.", "summary": "My brother was going to school on my grandmother's dime; now that she has passed away, he wants me to continue to pay out of her account."}
{"id": "t3_3vjiaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23f] need to have a serious conversation with my bf [23m] of two years about marriage and our future. What topics/comments/things to avoid at all costs?", "post": "Hello, I do know I am on the young side of the spectrum to be considering marriage, but my boyfriend and I have been in an LDR (different countries, four hour flight away) for the past half year, and will continue to be for at least two more years, minimum. I feel that a serious conversation about marriage and our future is necessary soon. \n\nNow, for context, we started this relationship knowing that we would be an eventual LDR and with the assumption that we would probably get married in our mid-late twenties. However, we're about to hit a point in our lives where there might be a big change, depending on whether I get the job I applied for or not. i want to talk to him and figure out our options together. \n\nSo this was how I thought I'd proceed. \n\n1. Tell him that I want to have a serious conversation about our future in general, and marriage (children, our own families), our values (religion, abortion, homosexuality), our finances (current and potential future), and our future(what happens if only one of us gets the job, what happens if neither of us get the job, can we survive the two year separation that's left, etc). \n\n2. Give him a few days warning so he has time to think about it. \n\n3. Sit down and have the conversation at home, cuddled on the couch, and with a beer each (only one each so we don't get drunk) and quiet music. \n\nHowever, are there any topics, questions, comments, or attitude to avoid (that is not blatantly obvious)? Or, are there any additional topics,questions we must go over?", "summary": "LDR boyfriend and I need to have a serious conversation about marriage. What are the things I must avoid/ask?"}
{"id": "t3_rbg5s", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "ex took me for granted, is now 'changing', and wants me back. Help?!", "post": "My boyfriend (22) and I (22) had been dating for almost 4 years. There was a short breakup in there about 11 months ago in the Spring because I was unhappy/didn't feel appreciated/could no longer put up with his lengthy list of bad habits and his attitude. After that breakup he 'changed'. He did everything the way I pictured a relationship should be. So we got back together a few weeks later.\n\nFast forward to the Fall: He is back to his old habits but worse. But there are still good times so I ignore them. And our relationship continues. But come Winter, we just are not happy. So we break up about a week ago.\n\nAnd then it all happens again. He 'changes'. He say's most of the change is because his doctor told him he needs to shape up, and he blamed most of our problem on the fact that he'd gotten fat and self conscious about that. Now he's running, and working out, and eating well, and stopping smoking, and is being more exciting and seems happier, and listening to me, and we have actual communication, and he shows affection, and sex (yes, we're broken up, I know it's bad and confusing), and he deleted his video games, and stopped sitting on reddit for endless hours(no offense, reddit). All the things that weren't there before.\n\nHe's doing what he did last time that worked to get me back last time again, but with much greater effort and what I think is more sincerity. \n\nI don't want to be a fool. It is nice spending time with him, now that everything is what I wanted in a relationship. But with us, it seems like we're better a bf/gf when we are broken up. I am really at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to not spend time with him. But I don't want to jump right back into it and repeat the cycle. Did he change, and is that change enough to make us work, or is this a failing relationship which is bound to be prolonged? Please, may I have some advice? I don't know what I want.", "summary": "Boy was a bad boyfriend, we broke up, Boy is now a good boyfriend, this happened once before, I don't know what to do!!eeek."}
{"id": "t3_1u8fie", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21f)Accidentally spilled out a drunken 'I think I love you' to my new boyfriend (21m). He handled it better than I did.", "post": "My boyfriend and I just started dating a few days ago. He asked me out nye (super romantically, it was pretty adorable tbh)\nWe only recently met (2 months ago) but have ended up very close. I'm a very emotional person and he's very reserved and I'm cool with that. While super drunk last night in a total lapse of judgement I blurted out 'I think I love you' in kind of a half joking way (because obviously we still aren't THAT close being we've really just met) but it definitely caught him off guard and made him feel super uncomfortable. Being drunk I immediately went into 'holy shit I'm sorry wow that was stupid I'm an idiot' mode and got pretty upset, it's the first time I've gotten that way around him and It kind of spiraled into me feeling even more shitty about making him uncomfortable which in turn made him feel worse. He's an absolute sweetheart and was very honest with me, telling me he was uncomfortable with it but he's not thoroughly turned off from the fact I said it, just that he can't say it back. He hasn't had much relationship experience and I do know he does like me, but I also know that now I've compromised my calm and collected attitude and made myself look vulnerable, which leaves me with a lingering anxiety about how he's feeling and what he may not be saying. \n\nEverything is fine this morning, he kissed me goodbye and I went off to work and I'm going back to see him tonight, but I feel that I've thoroughly fucked everything up and can't really go back from this. Is this feeling in the pit of my stomach valid or am I just overreacting?", "summary": "blurt out the L word drunk to brand new boyfriend who obviously doesn't reciprocate. I freak out for making him feel bad, everything seems fine, but I feel like I dun goofed.  "}
{"id": "t3_1n5jds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my dating person [24 M] of ~5 months, wondering how to / if I can even ask him to delete nude vid I sent him", "post": "Started dating one of my closest guy friends (known him since I was 5 years old) on in May this year. We hit it off great and generally we are happy together. He asked me for exclusivity, and I gave it. He hasn't directly asked me to be his girlfriend though, so I assume that we're just dating, exclusively.\n\nI'm not the type to post a lot of pics of myself anywhere. It's a personal thing that I dislike doing. But he often asks for them. I usually just decline and tell him that if he wants to see me, I'll hang out with him in person/online (Skype and stuff). \n\nThen one day I got curious and made a < 30 second vid of me naked (just me showing off my body and playing with my tits/ass). I sent it to him and he really liked it. Mind you, I hesitated for several hours before sending that video. After a few days though, I began to realize why I never did those things in the past. I regret sending him it and ***I just want to have him delete the video for good, right away!***\n\nI don't know how to do this. I don't even know if it's fair for me to. I just regret it so much (and needless to say, I will never do anything like this ever again).", "summary": "I want him to erase all existence of a nude vid I sent him. How can I do this without causing any friction between us? CAN I even do this?"}
{"id": "t3_1yysqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34M] am going to visit my friend [32F] in another state in a few weeks. There could be relationship potential, but when should I say something?", "post": "So I'm going to visit a friend of mine in another state in a little over a month. We've been friends for over ten years and we've always gotten along really well. She's smart and she's attractive, we know how to make each other laugh and we have a lot in common. I think that there could be more than just a friendship here, there could be relationship potential.\n\nA little background: This girl and I have known each other since college. She used to date one of my best friends, but we've known each other since before that relationship and have kept in touch since then. We drifted apart for a couple of years after they broke up but have gotten back in touch and have grown closer as friends over the last couple of years. I would have said something to her sooner, but I was in another relationship anyway until about two years ago and until know I've been reluctant to pursue someone my friend had dated.\n\nThe question is, when is the best time to bring this up? The tickets are purchased and I'll make the trip regardless. I have no doubt that it will be a fun visit either way. Should I say something before I get on the plane to go visit? Should I wait until I get there and can ask her in person? (Should I make a drunken pass and see how she reacts? :-P ) Help me figure out what to do!", "summary": "Going to visit a long time friend out of state. How and when do I tell her I'm interested in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3us5mf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] recently found out my semi-LDR girlfriend [19F] of a year has depression. She has started acting cold and uncaring when we are apart.", "post": "Not really sure what advice im looking for.... am I overreacting? should i be worried she is fed up?  \n\nGirlfriend is in college during the week and we only see each other on weekends when she is back home. About 3/4 weeks ago she was not answering my texts or just being very aloof with me. When we met up at the weekend she eventually admitted that she has had depression before and is going through it again so she wanted to break up because in the past she has treated her boyfriends like shit during these periods and didn't want to do that to me. I said no, thanked her for telling me what was happening and then said we would get through this rough patch.  \n\nSo since then she has gone from texting me and talking throughout the day to maybe getting a text or two in reply to something I sent during the day. I know this sounds stupid but we have ended almost all of our texts for the past year with an \"x\" but she is even rarely doing that now. She is even purposefully ignoring texts as I get the read notification and if i get a reply it can be hours later.  \n\nOne part I can't understand is, when we are together at weekends things seem almost normal as she seems happy to see me, we hang out, sleep together etc.  \nWe even talk about possibly moving out together in the summer.  \n\nI know she told me she would be rough to deal with during this time but whenever I have asked whats up she says everything is fine. But I know during the times she is ignoring me she is actively talking to people on facebook/text etc.  \n\nApologies about the wall of text but this whole new behavior is driving me insane! And I don't know if Im worrying over nothing", "summary": "Girfriend seems to care about me less (even seems annoyed by me) when we are apart since depression diagnoses but acts almost her usual self when we are together. How do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_gjasu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Forrest needs your help identifying a genetic disease.  Calling those with superb internet skills and a passion for cute things. Pics inside.", "post": "Four weeks ago, a mouse I adopted had six babies.  All the babies looked like [wrinkly pink jelly beans]  Nothing was amiss.  \n\nDay 6 or so, we thought it was safe to [begin handling the babies]  All babies looked fit and healthy and [were all the same size]  It appeared as though they were having trouble moving their hind legs, but I chocked that up to them just learning to walk.  I noticed it especially in the dark grey-brown ones, but in hindsight, maybe I had been handling the same mouse every time thinking that they were different.  The only female was the white one, the rest were males, which made it even harder to differentiate between the three ones of the same color.\n\nOnce they really started growing hair and we handled them for hours at a time, we noticed [this guy]  Do you see anything odd about him?  How about if we [compare him to his brother]  At first we thought he was paralyzed, but it soon became clear that was not the case.  He could move his tail and his hind legs freely, but he didn't do it often.  When he did decide to move his legs, the movements were stiff.  He could curl his toes.  He used his whole leg like a flipper to push himself along the table.  We named him Forrest, after Forrest Gump, because he is a determined bugger who can't walk or do any mouse things as well as his brothers.  \n\nNow, he is one third the size of his family.  He developed slower than the others after day 12; his eyes opened about 4 days later, he took the longest to wean, and he is the least adventurous (understandably). \n\nAs with most random mouse pregnancies, there is a chance of the litter being a result of inbreeding.  His body size makes me think it's not an environmental or physical cause, which leads me to genetic disease.  Do his symptoms sound like anything you know about?  My google-fu has failed me, but I am only a trainee.  Thus, Forrest and I turn to you for help.", "summary": "Baby mouse is crippled with an atrophied hind end, is 1/3rd the size of his brothers, developed slowly.  What disease could this be?"}
{"id": "t3_4e471z", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I feel like I'm going to be trapped in retail. Am I a failure?", "post": "I graduated in 2013 with a BA in Political Science. When I started college I thought I wanted to go to law school, but I realized that I only wanted to attend law school for my parents. Then I thought I'd want to pursue a career in international relations or something like that, but I just didn't want to go into more debt with more school. About a year after I graduated, I started to work as a substitute teacher, so I figured I'd pursue teaching. While getting into an alt cert program, I started working at Ross (the store) in October of 2014. While at Ross, I had so much pressure on me to find a teaching job with health insurance. Fast-forward to August 2015, I finally got a teaching job! But that job was hell on earth. I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks, so after two months, I had to quit. I went to a therapist (which I'm still seeing) and I'm doing much better, so now I have a job at Sears.\n\nI'm thankful for my job, but I'm 25 going to be 26 in May and I'm still living with my parents. I've been trying to save money, but I have a $450 monthly bill that I have to pay for that alt cert program. Luckily, May will be the last month I have to pay on that. I've been trying to apply to teach English abroad, but I just got rejected by EPIK, so I don't think that's going to work out.\n\nI just don't want to work in retail anymore. I'm not saying that retail is all bad, but I just want something a little more. But now I feel like this is all I can do right now. I'm starting to feel like I'm only qualified for retail. No other area will hire me. I've been looking for jobs out of state (I live in Louisiana), but I can't afford to move out yet (despite me desperately wanting to). I just feel like a failure who doesn't know what to do.", "summary": "25 year old woman still living with parents with a BA in Poly Sci. I work at Sears and I have no direction in life (and I desperately need direction)."}
{"id": "t3_4njg0t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [22/M] from high school just texted me [21/F], and I don't know if I should reply since I am in a relationship with the most wonderful guy in the world [21/M].", "post": "A little history:   \n\nI dated this guy for a few months in high school. It was really dumb and complicated and we stayed friends for a few years until I started dating my current SO about four years ago. Once we started dating, my SO expressed that he was uncomfortable with me taking to my ex, so I cut off contact with him immediately. When I cut off contact with my ex he was going through a rough time and he did not take it well, he was really sad but I did what I had to do because I love my boyfriend. We haven't spoken in years but I do wonder how he's doing now and again.   \n\nAnyways. My ex just texted me and asked how I'm doing. I kind of want to text him back just to say hello, but at the same time I know that even if it's small talk, my SO would be furious if he found out. I know I shouldn't reply, and I'm probably just looking for some reassurance here. I just want to be honest with my SO above all, and I don't want to screw anything up...   \n\nThis probably seems really silly, please give me advice.", "summary": "Is it wrong to text him back?   "}
{"id": "t3_2vy1jt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting im in the friendzone", "post": "Okay guys so like most tifu stories this did not happen today it actually happened yesterday. For you to understand I must first go into the back story. I have known this girl for 5 years, since the 8th grade and ever since then ive had girlfriends, one night stands and all the rest of it. However I have never cared about any other individual like this girl, well call her X. However this girl made it evidently clear that we would never be more then friends. Halfway through this year i realised that seeing her only made me sad about it and i was just being a little bitch so i told her that nothing would ever change and it was best if we went our seperate ways. I cut all contact, removed her from facebook, snapchat and all the rest of those useless social media shit & deleted her number. Keep in mind today is sunday in my timezone so valentines day was yesterday not today. On the thursday before valentines day i get a text, 'i miss you'. I later realize its her, ask her if she has any special plans for valentines day, she says no. Ask her if she wants to go out to a nice resturaunt she says she would love to we go there spend about 3 hrs there in total and walk aroound having a smoke for a bit. All the inclination here is in a romantic way. Today im speaking to her and ask her whether she had any inclination as more then friends, she says not particularly she just really misses me out of her life, i say i thought it would be obvious by the fact it was valentines day that this was a romantic thing etc she says sorry and asks if i still have feelings i obviously reply yes. Now im torn wondering if i continue the friendship could it lead to something or am i just setting up for failiure again.", "summary": "fucked up by forgetting this girl didnt have feelings and being stupid enough to get lead on, leaving me miserable."}
{"id": "t3_2w1bt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am having trouble dealing with my girlfriends [19F] helicopter parents and could really use some advice.", "post": "So we are both college freshman and have a fantastic relationship (almost half a year in). But the only problem I have found in our relationship is her parents. College to me seems like when we become more independent and on our own. For me that is for sure the case and I love it. But **her parents are literally in everything she does**. She calls them and tells them about every class and assignment and then they usually and way to mean and tell her to study harder and do better. She sends them assignments to look over before submission. They shove religion down her throat when she doesn't want to be part of it. For Valentines day they send a few candies and the job listings section from a paper...\n\n**They treat her like a child and make me feel like I am dating a child.**\n\n^ That is pretty much the main problem. I feel like I am becoming an adult and moving to the next stage and then there is her parents pretty much babying her through everything. **I know for a fact if we want to move into together in a couple years it will be a matter of asking for their permission rather than \"We decided to move in\" which is insane to me.** An important factor I think is that they are rather well off and pay for all her things, including all college expenses. She has never had a job. I am from a poor family and worked my way here which makes me feel like we are different somehow. Any advice could help me so much, thank you.", "summary": "Her rich parents baby her; me coming from poor background feel like she is being treated like a child and am finding it difficult to handle. We have to ask permission to do things together which drives me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_r7t7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit. My best friend of 12 years proposed to His gf 3 weeks ago. The only reason I know if because of his Now Fiances FB status. WHAT DO!?", "post": "So here it is, My Best friend Ive know since 6th grade going on 13 years of friendship now proposed to his girlfriend. The only reason I know it happened is because his gf posted a FB status saying \"OMGZZ IM ENGAGED\". He and I have grown apart and just to go back to being usual best friends a few times. This past year and a Half I got a full time job m-f 6:30-3:00 and going to school twice a week and since its alot of physical work I'm usually pooped and haven't made much time for friends so we've slightly grown apart. And when we do hang out his gf likes to invite herself to EVERYTHING.. Idk I'm a little hurt he hasn't taken the time to call me or shoot me a text saying \"hey I proposed to '' I don't wanna call him him and say \"hey I heard you're engaged because I saw hoe #1's FB status. I really don't know what to do or say about this situation. Should I just keep waiting till he calls me to tell me? I really thought if he did put a ring on it I'd be his best man.", "summary": "Best friend proposes to gf, doesn;t give a shit to tell me... butthertz"}
{"id": "t3_1yqzk6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (23/F) have been dating an inexperienced dater (23/M) and I have no idea what's going on.", "post": "So, we met on the ever popular OKCupid about a month ago, and have been on around 8 dates since. On our second date we ended up going home together, and having sex, but there was no awkwardness afterwards and arranged another date over coffee in the morning. \n\nOn Thursday last week, we had a bit of a \"where is this going?\" conversation, in which he confessed he's never really had a relationship or dated extensively. I have dated and had relationships in the past, so understand that it's a bit of an awkward new world for some people. I'm really into him, but he doesn't seem available outside of face to face dating. When we're together we have a great time, lots of fun and good conversations, but when we're apart he ignores my texts, doesn't speak to me often and seems bored when I attempt to strike up a conversation. It's leaving me a little confused and frustrated.", "summary": "I really like this guy, but I don't know if he's not interested or if he's just socially inept when it comes to dating."}
{"id": "t3_2uyk9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] can't get over the fact that my SO [28 M] of three years had a pet name for his ex but not for me", "post": "I know this is probably an irrational worry/concern because aside from this \"little\" thing, we have a great relationship. \n\nSomewhat early on in the relationship I found out from old facebook posts/albums that my SO had a pet name for his ex with whom he had an LDR for about half of the time they spent as a couple (about two years). He used to call her his \"kitty\". I love nicknames and terms of endearment like this. It makes me feel special and close to another person when they call me something other than my given name. My SO and I have been together for three years but he's never even tried calling me anything other than my name. I've already told him how I feel about pet names but still, nothing. I've even tried calling him silly or cute names but nothing has ever really stuck. I'm at the point where I don't really want to force it because I feel like stuff like that should come naturally. Which makes the whole ex-pet-name thing something that's bothered me for the longest time. He doesn't know that I know (because at this point I feel like it would be creepy to bring it up). Also, the name \"kitty\" really gets me because he loves cats. (not surprising, I know) So much so that every time that he sees one he'll say \"kitty\" in almost a baby-talk cutesy voice. \n\nSo I guess I'm feeling like I'm not as special/close/precious to him as his ex was just because he doesn't have a pet name for me. I don't know if it's even worth talking about with him because as I said, everything else is great and it's not that I don't feel loved... my scumbag brain just won't leave me alone about it :(", "summary": "my SO's pet name for his ex is the cutest thing ever and I'm jealous because he doesn't have one for me"}
{"id": "t3_mu1sj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question about work. I may be in trouble.", "post": "Here is what happened . . . \n\nI have been working at a company for 3 weeks. I was assigned a project by my boss's boss's boss who never gave me a due date. While I was working on the project, my boss's boss told me that I should have someone look it over before turning it in.\n\nThe next week I sent an email to my boss's boss's boss (the big man) giving him a short answer in case he needed it right away. Later that day I had finished editing my project. At the end of the day, the big man told me \"I look forward to reading your project,\" while he was walking out the door. I panicked and sent him my project. \n\nThe next day my boss asked me if I had sent the big man my project and I said yes. She told me that her boss (my boss's boss) told her that all my work had to go through her. \n\nI want to ask reddit\n\nA. Does anyone think I will get fired for this?\nB. What would you have done differently to avoid this situation?", "summary": "Big boss asked for my project. I gave it to him before I had my boss read it like I was supposed to. Am I in trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_1x8pg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I keep my parents' cigarette smoke off of me on my way to a college scholarship day, where I will be interviewed?", "post": "This Saturday (Feb. 8) my parents and I will be driving to the college that I will be attending this fall, which is about an hour and a half drive from home, give or take. My parents have been smokers for my whole life, so I am pretty desensitized to the smell, but many instructors and just random bystanders have commented about the scent on my person. This will not make a good impression on the committee (at least I think it is a committee. either way, it will be noticeable). I tried to ask very nicely if at least my mom would consider not smoking, but she kind of laughed at me and made a bunch of rude, sarcastic comments about how it's not really that noticeable, and my character should be enough to win over the interviewers. 1. My personality is not the best, and I'm not too great at interviews and 2. If the competition is tough, I am pretty sure that it WILL go down to the first impression that is given, and the smell of cigarettes is NOT going to give a good impression, even if I apologized and that my parents were smokers.\n\nSome suggestions that I have been given by instructors/counselors include: chewing cinnamon gum, packing my clothes and covering my hair until I get there (which I'm not too keen on, because I don't know where I would really change or anything like that), and putting cooking vanilla in the car? I'm not too sure about that one. Will any of these work? Other suggestions are very welcome.", "summary": "My parents won't NOT smoke in the car on the way there, how can I keep the smell off of me so that I won't make a bad impression in my interviews?"}
{"id": "t3_4kszrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I tell if She [22/F] is uninterested or just shy after first date with Me [22/M].", "post": "I've just come out of a 4 year relationships a month later set up a date with a girl I've had previous dates with. Our previous dates were always a bit awkward because we were both nervous and I've always found it hard to talk to the opposite sex (so lots of silence).\n\nSo I began talking to her again last week and I decided not to beat around the bush and asked if she wanted to catch up for coffee to which she agreed. So the beginning of the date kind of started awkward i found her eyes kept moving around the room and wouldn't keep eye contact for long, there were moments of short awkward pauses like before, she asked me questions about my family and about other things but I felt I was asking her more questions. The second half i felt we became more comfortable she kept moving her hair behind her ear, would smile more and kept eye contact more and we ended up talking straight for just over an hour. But after the date was over I feel disconnected or not reaching the level of intimacy that I feel i should've.\n\nI'm not sure if because of my low self esteem/ confidence of a bad breakup I'm overthinking or over expecting things or seeing shyness as being bored or uninterested, Or if shes sending me hints she wants to just be friends.\n\nAlso is it appropriate to send the night of the date a \"I had a great time, we should catch up again soon\" message?", "summary": "Went on date. How do i tell if She is interested but shy or uninterested? Also appropriate time to send a \"i had a great time should catch up again\" message?"}
{"id": "t3_18gj4u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] My girlfriend [16/f] is currently away in another state for a program, we occasionally get hot and bothered during the times we communicate and are unsure what to do.", "post": "My girlfriend is currently away for a program in another state which is far too away to drive to. We have made plans for when she gets back in April, but on an occasion while we communicate, usually through texting, we become hot and bothered. We tend not to be too affected by this, but like 2 nights ago, she couldn't take it anymore and began to masturbate while we were texting and I soon did the same. For times where we do become quite hot and bothered what should we do because it won't be until April for two weeks where will be in physical contact with each other until she has to leave again until where she'll be fully back in June.", "summary": "Looking for solutions for when me and my girlfriend become quite hot and bothered while communicating while she is away."}
{"id": "t3_2f871v", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Misuse of plates/unregistered vehicle in Massachusetts.", "post": "Recently I was pulled over while driving an unregistered vehicle with another vehicle's plates on it in MA while driving from NY to CT.  \n\nMy mom had bought the car a couple days prior and was having issues getting temporary registration so the plates from another one of our cars was put on it temporarily so it could be driven to CT and gotten registered.  I went so that both the car driven up there and the \"new\" (used) car could be driven back.\n\nWhen I was pulled over I was issued a written warning for passing at an unsafe speed (definitely my fault as I made the large mistake of slowing down while passing another car because I saw a police officer) and for \"unregistered MV\".  The officer took the plates and the car had to get towed.\n\nI have the number of the tow company so I/my mom can return and get the car after paying for the tow (I don't believe the car was impounded but if it was then I suppose we have to take care of that too) and getting temporary plates in CT.\n\nWhat I haven't been able to figure out by asking Google is how to get our old plates back and what repercussions we'll be facing.  We've been trying to get through via phone to the police station in the town I was pulled over in but we've had no luck so far.  If anyone has any suggestions/answers on how to get the old plates back/get us able to drive our old car again and what we'll have to do (what fees or other legal problems can we expect) I'd be way appreciative.", "summary": "Got pulled over with another car's plates.  What do I do to get the plates back?  What other issues do I face now?"}
{"id": "t3_3arm1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with the girl I've been dating[20 F] for 5 months... Just realized she looks alot like my mom", "post": "Title pretty much explains it, I've been dating a girl for the last four months and have really enjoyed spending time with her.  We have alot of common interests, the sex is great and I'm happy around her.\n\nBut the other day I came to the realization that she looks ALOT like my mom.  They both have short curly hair and similar figures.  My moms skin is alot lighter, and she is a bit shorter...  Buuuut, I can't get it out of my head now.\n\nMy family wants to meet her and I'm afraid to introduce her to them...  Could really use some insight or advice.", "summary": "Girl that I really like looks like my mom.  Now my family wants to meet her and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1tvpl6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF (23) keeps breaking plans on me (25/M) and Im not convinced she is telling me the whole story.", "post": "Need help here. GF told me she was coming over last night, we made plans on thrusday for this to happen. She flaked out on me, and Im very upset about it. This is not the first time this has happened, its been more frequent after she got back from a small vacation.\nShe has told me she has not cheated in a relationship, however I cant trust her word. She has also told me she feels compeled to lie about things.\nWe made plans thursday night, she asked to see me, so I made my self avaliable. Friday, we text very little (unusual) and I ask about 7pm if she was still going to come over to my place that night. She confirmed.\nShe stated she was working on helping a friend with an electrical problem, and at 10pm she sent me a text saying she would call when she was heading over to my place. The call never came, her FB status was dark for 10 hours, and now Im at work at 730, and her FB status poped up as active. Should I be worried?", "summary": "Is she cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_16lx83", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23M] I fucked up hard", "post": "Met up with 22F I've known for 8 years and liked for most of that duration (feeling has been mutual in the past, not sure about now). Noticed a bodily feature that is not normal (I brought it up because I thought it was fucking cool, I think she is the most beautiful girl in the world FFS) and mentioned it. She is super shy and stuff but even then she reacted really coldly to my remark, but I changed the subject. That was on Friday, and now I get up at 3AM to find a facebook msg from her older sister (like 26 or 27) where she is literally fucking yelling at me for hurting her lil sister by pointing that out and how she deserves better than this. I know for a fact that if this is what is coming from her older sister (who doesn't show much emotion either), the girl I like is REALLY upset.\n\nThis is coming to me after I've spent last few days thinking about this girl and being lovesick to the point where I couldn't properly do anything besides lie in my bed punching pillows and reading love novels and shit. I don't know what to do at this point. I know I should apologize but, how far should I take this? Do I just apologize? Do I tell her she is pretty? Do I tell her how much my heart hurts every night thinking about her? Do I tell her she does deserve better than me? I'm clueless. Help me out.", "summary": "Like a shy girl, pointed out there is something weird with how she looks, I'm the biggest asshole ever. How do I properly apologize to her?"}
{"id": "t3_1480j2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when a neighbor burns your fence down?", "post": "As my question stated my neighbor just burned down half of my backyard fence.\n\n[Pics or it didn't happen](\n\nSo, for the long story. I was on the phone at work when my wife came into my office with a worried look on her face. She whispered that one of our other neighbors had called saying the fire department was at our house. Although it sounds clich\u00e9, I completely blanked out while that sank in. She asked if she should get home to see what was going on and all I could do was nod.\n\nMy biggest worry at this point is that I hadn't cleaned up the leaves in the side and back of our yard recently so if the fire was bad enough it could easily spread to our house or burn through the 20 feet or so of forest to the school behind us. That coupled with the fact that it is incredibly dry here now just compounded the anxiety.\n\nWhen she pulled up our neighbor yelled out that he owed us a fence. The fire department was just finishing up spraying down the back yard and forest behind our house. We were told that he was burning but didn't clear enough of the leaves from the fire when it spread to our fence, yard, and the forest behind our houses. There were two fire trucks in the front of our house and another on the school's side spraying everything down.\n\nShe took pictures, talked to the fire fighter, **(I asked if they were hot, and she said they were very fit, but not tall enough for her - I think she's lying)**, got the case information, and left before the neighbor could corner her to talk.\n\nOther than being a little dumbfounded I guess I'm just wondering if anyone who has been through a similar situation could offer some guidance. We've taken pictures and will probably end up calling our home owners insurance in the morning. But from what people in the office have told me it will most likely be all on us to fix if he isn't forthcoming, or get the courts involved. To compound the problem he is only renting the house.\n\nAll in all it could have been much worse, and I'm going to talk to him when I get home, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Neighbor forgot leaves are flammable and my wife got to ogle some sexy firefighters."}
{"id": "t3_3syi5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] moved to London back in May, and facing a terrible situation", "post": "I moved over here for work, into a house with 4 people already living there - The ad for the room said: Professionals only.\n\nAnother guy [36m] from Romania lives in the house, and wanted his wife and 3 kids to get into the house.\n\nOur landlord [50m] Egyptian, accepted it as a way of 'helping his family over here', which we all said was OK.\n\nNow it turns out, they plan on staying in the house until ATLEAST next summer - and we all pay the same rent and share bills (approx 1300$ a month)\n\nTo make it even worse, his 3 kids [1/3/4] are ALWAYS awake until midnight, sometimes later, and they are so noisy it wakes me up all the time throughout my sleep, and causes too big of an exhaustion to go to work.\n\nOur landlord put the father on the council papers and contract, and since we're too many living in the house, I'm not able to get on the contract.\n\nWhat would the best solution be to actually get his kids to shut it this late?\n\nSo far I've recorded the last 3 nights - 10 minutes in the hallway, 15 minutes in my room, with constant noise from the kid - Is there anything else I can do to make our Landlord realise that it's just not okay.\n\nI don't have the money for the deposit to get another room somewhere elsez", "summary": "I got a house full of kids, noisy until midnight and past, got recordings, I'm not on the Council papers, room was advertised 'Professionals only' the rent is high, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qsr28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im a [21 F] at my wit's end and in desperate need of advice for my relationship with [21 M] boyfriend of almost 4 years; is it time to move on and how the ef do I even begin to do so?", "post": "How do you break up with someone if they are the only person you've been close to in the past 4 years, if they have a shit family or no place to really call home? I am afraid I will ruin him. I can't think of life without him yet I feel we are toxic to each other.\n\nMy parents do not approve of him, say he brings nothing to the table for me and that I am not responsible for his life. It has put so much strain on our relationship throughout the years and I have found myself exhausted. Their strict rules have also been extremely troublesome/stressful for us and I am often pushed to my limits in order to maintain a balanced relationship between family and bf but more often than not one of them suffers.\n\nI do not know if I'm trying to make things work between us because I feel guilty and responsible for him, or if I'm just afraid of what will happen if I let him go, or if we are actually meant to stay together and work through these hard times. Things have escalated in the past few weeks and this fate has become more imminent than ever. His unstable living situation is putting so much stress on the both of us. We have dealt with distance for the past 3 years horribly. I play a division 1 sport in college and have a ridiculous schedule while he has not been able to hold down a job for more than two months because of unfortunate variables relating to his shitty living situation. It will be a huge pivoting point in both of our lives if things end but I feel as if we are stuck in some awful loop of shitty circumstance and I do not know how to get out of it.\n\nI'm sorry if this sounds pathetic this is the first time I've tried writing this. I really have no one to talk to and am in desperate need of advice. \n\nI am at my wits end. He is so important to me and I just want to do what will be best for both of us in the end.", "summary": "Am I staying with him because I love him or because I am guilty and scared/I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_ffdp3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most legally/morally wrong action you have ever seen an educator perform?", "post": "For me it was my middle school gym teacher.\n\nA bit of background: This guy was a dropout from the local community college and the son of one of the ex-teachers. This was also at a private school, so the fact he was a college dropout didn't hold any water in terms of his dismissal from teaching. He would tell us to \"entertain ourselves\" some days while he would leave to flirt with the female coaches and other days he would make us do push-ups until he managed to throw a football through the basketball goal on the other side (which seems reasonable unless you take into account he never made it and we ended up doing them for an hour or so). He also had a tendency to hang out by the showers in the guys' locker room but that might have just been a coincidence.\n\nOne day, a rodent somehow managed to get loose in the girls' locker room. One girl calmly walked outside to tell her [female] coach about the problem. This guy overheard and SPRINTED into a locker room that he very well knew was full of middle school girls. Multiple screams later some people (not me, i was still in the guys' locker room changing) see him walk out with a shit-eating grin on his face. When questioned about the screams, he said that the screams were from the girls who saw the rodent running around on the floor. When asked why he didn't catch it, he said it was too fast.\n\nIt turns out the rodent in question was an almost-dead mouse that was barely moving. The next school day, he did not show up for class and we just had a study hall. The day after we had a new gym teacher who let us play dodgeball everyday. Good times then :).", "summary": "Male Coach intentionally ran into a locker room of middle school girls"}
{"id": "t3_hdmo8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I hope this is appropriate for AskReddit, but I'm looking for last-minute summer research/work. Anyone have any ideas on what I could do?", "post": "I'm living at home with my parents in Houston, Texas. I'm a post-bacc student at UH, taking classes to get into a CS master's program, and I've already graduated from a top school with a BS in geophysics. I've also worked for years doing web dev and have a broad range of experience, and I can program decently well also have extensive web development experience.\n\nThere's lots of internships I probably *could* have gotten if I hadn't waited so long, but since this is the last minute I don't know what to do. I can't work from home, really. Any ideas? Pay isn't important, if I can get good working/research experience. Although pay would be nice. :)", "summary": "sorry if this is a lame question for AskReddit, but I need something to work on this summer, pay or no pay. Hopefully something CS-y. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_1k456b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I tell her husband?", "post": "So I met this woman (26) about a month ago at a bar. We hit it off really well, ended up staying the night together. We talked for about 3 weeks, everything was great, spent a lot of time together. She told me she was going through a divorce, and that her husband (ex?) didn't come around or anything like that.\n\nSo eventually we get to being friends on Facebook and I'm checking out her page. All I see are posts by her husband and pictures of them with their kids and it all seemed like a happy marriage.\n\nI broke it off as soon as I found it, because I don't want to be \"the other man\" or anything like that. I haven't talked to her in about a week, although she keeps texting me but saying \"Whoops, wrong person\" I thought about telling him immediately but I wanted to think about it so it wasn't just about revenge on my part. I feel really guilty about everything.", "summary": "Met a girl, turns out she was married with 2 kids the whole time, do I tell her husband?"}
{"id": "t3_50xc7z", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[22] and pregnant, what would you do?", "post": "I'm a moderately high achieving community college student and president of a club.\n\nI'm currently eligible for three AA degrees, my plan is to get my Bachelor's in zoology, then go to vet school.\n\n/endbrag\n\nAll signs point to not having this baby right?\n\nMy boyfriend of four years is super supportive and really wants to have this baby. He said he would do everything he can so I don't have to stop going to school. However he said he would support me with whatever decision I make.\n\nCurrently I live with my parents, I expect to get kicked out which wouldn't be terrible I guess because my boyfriend and his family are moving up north closer to the school I want to transfer to.", "summary": "I'm doing really good in school and I have a bright future, I don't want to give up on my lifelong dreams but I would also feel selfish having an abortion."}
{"id": "t3_3i95k0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By almost getting a DWI", "post": "By far worst fuck up of my life, so time to share.\nSo I went to a concert last night with 2 friends. It was a Pop concert so we drank before and during(snuck in a water bottle of vodka). I was the driver but figured I could just drive later once I sobered up. I'd made this mistake before but never this drunk. At some point in the concert I black out. Next thing I remember is having the cop walk up to my window. I was a block away from my house and had somehow already dropped off my friends. When the cop asked me where I'd been I could barely form sentences. The officer was clearly pissed but somehow by the grace of god my night didnt end with me being thrown in jail. The cop said he was in a rush to help his partner or he would have arrested me. Instead he made me call my mom, took my keys, and made me walk home. He threw the keys back in the car at some point. The shame/concern from my family is nothing compared to what I wouldve had to have faced with a dwi. Obviously never touching alcohol while I have my car again.", "summary": "Drank too much at a concert, drove blacked out, got pulled over, cop let me walk home."}
{"id": "t3_2fyinf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I could be the other guy [26M]. She [25 F] wants me, but has a boyfriend (now long distance) of almost 3 years. I need opinions on what I should do", "post": "I will try to be brief.\nWe met, we went out 2-3 times, great chemistry but at time I could feel she would give me mixed signals. I held back, eventually (after 4 dates) asked her to dinner to my place while I made it obvious what my intentions were... she told me about BF... I could see it coming but didnt blame her for it, since our first few dates could have been interpreted as friendly ones (.. as if she didnt know what was going on)... I told her I respect that and backed off. She said shes struggling with it so naturally I have kept myself around, but have not been looking for her, yet we text a couple times a week, and have hung out a few times after that...\n\nCurrent situation is\n\n- she knows i like her\n- I know she likes me\n- last time we hung out and i dropped her off she sent a message asking if shes a bad person for wanting to kiss me (i just avoided answering that and said something else related to the night, even though i wanted to say more)\n- I am still assuming shes still with the guy. Havent texted or seen her since...\n\nat what point would it be reasonable for me to put pressure on her again? do I just let it run its course and fucking suck it up as long as I can, do I wait for another situation where she clearly wants to be with me, and act on it?\n\nI like this chick, and I feel that if she cheats on her bf with me, I will always have that in the back of my mind if I got in a relationship with her.... but at the same time, I dont wanna wait around indefinitely", "summary": "Im being respectful, and letting her figure it out on her own, but shes starting to put me in a situation where I dont know how long I can hold back. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_xfiay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22(F) and 29(M) Casually seeing each other, but he keeps asking me to go on romantic dates?", "post": "Hi Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. Throwaway account. I am a 22 year-old female and he is a 29 year-old male. We have been casually seeing each other for about six weeks now.\n\nWe initially met through a friend at a bar, and things were awkward at first, but we ended up going for a late meal and hitting it off. After we met we began texting quite frequently (maybe once a day) and went on a few dates. We first slept with each other on the third date and it was great. Since then, we have gone on a few dates, that almost always end with us sleeping together. I consider all of this to be casual and we have never discussed a relationship or anything more. \nBut here is my issue: he keeps asking me to go on all of these really nice, fancy dinner dates. I do enjoy his company but I do not want to pursue anything more than what we currently have going. He is attractive, generous, and sweet; but we do not seem to have an engaging connection and I got out of a very long and intense relationship at the beginning of the year (so I want some time to be single), among other reasons.\nMy question is: when would it be an appropriate time for me to bring up my concerns? He invited me to go on a date this week. Should I go and tell him there? Or should I decline and tell him right away that I think these dates are a bit much for our given situation? My personal philosophy has always been don't discuss being serious unless the other person brings it up. He has not brought it up. I guess my biggest concern is that he pays for our dates (I try to pay for my half or my drinks and he never lets me) and it seems unfair if I don't want to be official in the end. He is a great guy and I would like to continue seeing him without any strings attached.", "summary": "Casually seeing someone, we have never discussed a relationship, I don't want one. He keeps inviting me out on fancy dates. Should I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship and want to keep things unofficial?"}
{"id": "t3_1srjsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] and my love interest of 1 month [24M] Looking for some insight", "post": "I met a guy at the start of November and it's been awhile since I've had a relationship so I feel like I'm a bit rusty on things. He says it's been two years for him, so he is probably rusty too. We flirted for a week and then met up for a date. He lives an hour away, if this is important.\n\nThings went well and we hung out for the next three weekends in a row. This past weekend we each wanted to spend some time with our family, and I was hoping to see him this coming weekend. Unfortunately he's heading to a nearby big city to see the Hobbit at an iMax.\n\nThe last time we were together, I fear I may have fucked up. I asked him if he would be my boyfriend and he said something to the effect of \"Let's hold off on that, I don't like labels. Things change when you start labeling things.\" I didn't think too much of it, it's been awhile for him and I probably moved too fast.\n\nI did notice we don't text as often as before now, though he does call me randomly at night to just chat while we play games. That made me feel more secure.\n\nI know him going to see the Hobbit at the iMax with his buddies is a normal thing, but I miss him and... honestly I don't get many people attracted to me who I find attractive, and I'm frequently in a state thinking \"Wow, I can't believe this guy likes me!\" But I'm just.. I guess looking for insight, maybe reassurance if you think I'm being stupid and there's nothing to be worried about.", "summary": "Doubting myself, looking for insight/reassurance."}
{"id": "t3_13hkiz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For any Girls out there... Will you help me in my quest for knowledge?", "post": "I'm a Soon To Be 18 Year Old male and I have always have had a urge to know \"everything\"... well, recently I've been wondering what it'd be like to live as a/be a girl. Now, I'm not homosexual in anyway, but my brain just hasn't let up on this simple fact of my urge to learn the \"mysteries\" of a man. Now, onto my question, Do any one of yall reading know if/how a man can grow breasts (I'm not looking for anything too big, just something to give me an idea). I don't want to do anything costly, I.E Implants, and I don't want to do anything to noticeable/permanent.", "summary": "I'm a guy, and I want to know how to grow breasts to know what it's like to have them."}
{"id": "t3_4ebgzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Things have been getting boring with my [21F] LDR boyfriend [23M] - is it fixable?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for around 8 months now. He is kind, caring, patient, and very cerebral. I think we both complement each other in many ways: he grounds me when I am having mood swings, and I help him stay in touch with his emotions when life obligations stress him out. There is much more to why we care about each other, but I am paraphrasing for the sake of this entry.\n\nWe never talk on the phone daily - maybe at most a few nights a week. But each time we do, we talk about things of substance. Religion. Politics. Relationships. Science. Whatever it may be, just not superficial things like the weather or what happened in a TV show. \n\nHowever, lately, things have been getting a little lackluster in our conversations. We don't talk about things with real depth anymore. And there have been a lot of awkward pauses. I don't know how much of this is attributed to his social awkwardness (I'm usually the one to carry out a conversation, and it brings him out of his shell) or how much of it is attributed to us just losing some sort of spark. I should also mention that this is not just an over-the-phone phenomenon. I recently visited him, and though we had an amazing time together sight-seeing and trying out different restaurants, our conversations had no real profundity. \n\nOne of the reasons we both became interested in each other was our ability to have a challenging discourse. Our talks were stimulating. Now they seem strained and uninspiring. We spoke about the issue last night but didn't really get anywhere in terms of a solution. We both still want to continue this relationship. But he seems to have a lot on his plate with work, and I tend to feel a little tired carrying on the conversation topics. It takes energy on my part.\n\nI'm sorry if this seems like I am whining - I myself think I am. I'm sure there are many other worse things that can go wrong in a relationship besides a boring dialogue, but this is something that is really bothering us. \n\nAny and all advice is appreciated, but please no mean comments.", "summary": "Conversations with boyfriend getting boring. What can I do to change this? Any tips or is it already done?"}
{"id": "t3_wsjwz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Trying to keep my brother out of jail", "post": "His ex-probation officer called him today to tell him he failed an etg (tests for alcohol consumed in past 72  hours) in April. It is now two months after he was supposed to have been off probation and he now finds out he has a warrant and is looking at a maximum of thirty days. \n\nSo long story short I am trying to raise money for him so that maybe, with a slight bit of luck, I can cut down how many days he has to spend in jail after he is sentenced. Maybe pull the cool scene like in the movies where someone posts bond but he doesn't know who.\n\nMy goal is to buy wristbands and sell them for donations. We have A LOT of hoodlum friends in our city and I know I could at least make a couple hundred.\n\nI guy what I am asking of you guys is what should I write? First instinct for me was \"fuck cops-free (my bro)\". But do you think people will hesitate to buy something like that or jump on it?\n\nAlso, any recommendations for who to go through or what type of wristband? I'm thinking the engraved ones like the livestrong ones so they last but they get pricey fast. I looked on Google but I kept feeling the first couple sites were trying real\n hard to fuck me", "summary": "court system is dicking my bro around and want to sell wristbands to get him out of jail sooner. Looking for advice"}
{"id": "t3_41tloi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25/M] am worried about my boyfriend's[27/M] alcohol abuse.", "post": "I met Ethan three years ago, and we have lived together for almost two years now. Both of us like to go to the bars every now and then, but 9 months ago Ethan got a job at a steakhouse/bar. He gets off work at 11, and spends the next few hours binge drinking. He does this 3-4 nights a week now.\n\nHe spends every morning after sick and hungover, and I am very glad we live within walking distance, as I fear he would drive. I have told him that I think he is drinking too much and I am worried, and he has told me that I am being too worrisome and he doesn't have \n\nI am worried he will get hurt or robbed one night coming home, and I don't know what I can do outside of telling him that I am worried.\n\nDo you all have any ideas or what I can do?", "summary": "Boyfriend binge drinks most nights of a week and I am worried about his health."}
{"id": "t3_2sbxmm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by riding a broken door down some stairs", "post": "I recently joined a fraternity (if you hate fraternities I get it, they're not for everyone, and there's no reason for me to try and make you understand or for you to try and troll me).\n\nLast night I was invited to the house to have a few beers before we went to a concert and things got out of hand.\n\nMy friends door was broken so he decided to remove it. It was a cheap closet door and he broke a large part off. Me, being the dumbass I am, decided it would be a good idea to surf on the door down the staircas of our house.\n\nAll was well the rest of the night, or so I thought.\n\nI wake up the next morning with an email from our standards board and now I am facing possible suspension of resignation for my actions.\n\nI was an inexcusable idiot, and now I must face the consequences.\nMill update YALL to let you know how it goes.", "summary": "I rode a broken door down some stairs and now I'm under a standards investigation."}
{"id": "t3_2snkqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] coworker [19F] \"isn't ready\" for a relationship", "post": "To make a long story short, both my coworker and I found each other pretty attractive when we started working together ~7 months ago. She was in a relationship back then and I didn't pursue anything with her. Towards the end of december we started working together more and started getting to know each other. Eventually I found out from a friend of hers that she was single and interested in me romantically. We were both a little shy and awkward about it, but then we exchanged numbers and started texting a ton. We didn't think we were both interested in each other. \n\nEarlier this month she started spending some time at my house. She did NOT want to go on dates or go out anywhere, nor did she want me to go over to her house. All these things either made her uncomfortable or nervous. All she wants to do is come over my house. When she does, we often kiss and cuddle, but nothing more. Eventually she talked to me about her prior relationship. It lasted 4 years and she was cheated on multiple times. She felt it was too soon to bring a new guy over to her house because her ex was really close to her family. She did not tell me how long ago she dumped him, only that she did. As for the dates/going out part...she just says she's nervous about it. She did explicitly tell me that she wasn't ready for a relationship right now, but she likes me a lot. I know she still has contact with her ex. I feel like I might just be a rebound or something. Maybe she just wants to take it slow? I'm not sure what to do here. I could just do a slow fade/tell her we are looking for different things. I can either stick it out or I can just give up. She IS my coworker, so I'd prefer things not to go sour. I actually do like her a lot, but I don't want to be in a position where I'd be \"used\" if that makes sense.", "summary": "somewhat romantically involved with a coworker. She doesn't want a relationship atm, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1pc3ea", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(21M) I always unintentionally lead people on. And lose friends. This sucks.", "post": "I'm single. And therefore, I flirt freely with anyone, and I don't think this makes me a douchebag, I just think it shows my lack of commitment, which I would admit to if anyone asked. I want to finish school and get a good job before I start thinking seriously about a relationship. I'm not a disrespectful guy at all, and anyone who knows me would tell you that.\n\nThere's this one girl I've been interested in for over a year, and I think she might be interested in me as well, but we've talked about it before and both decided it wouldn't be a smart idea at the moment.\n\nAnyways, I've made a few friends my age recently, all single women, who claim to not be looking for anything other than a friend. And obviously I flirt with them, because they flirt with me and they haven't been leading me on because I guess I know I don't want anything, but apparently I've been leading them on. So now I'm the royal douchebag who looks like a player, when in all honesty, that wasn't my intention at all. I haven't done anything except flirt with these women either, no sex, no kissing, no holding hands, etc... to make them think I'm interested in them. \n\nWhat to do?", "summary": "I unintentionally lead women on and they get pissed and stop talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_3mwnhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [32 M] with a great [30 F] girl and I want to settle down but never stay satisfied with relationships more than a year or two", "post": "My past three relationships have all been about 2 years, and I've ended all of them because of a combination of problems and me losing interest. \n\nThe current girl I'm with has mostly everything I would want in a relationship - but I'm feeling myself starting to lose interest anyway. She does have a fairly bad jealousy problem, but some of it is warranted and I feel that everyone has to have some personal defects which should be forgiven.\n\nOne factor which I think contributes to feeling unsatisfied is that I tend to get what my friend calls a \"wandering eye.\" Even though I'm happy with my gf I can't help noticing other girls around and being drawn to them, even catching myself flirting at times. A lot of it is sexual attraction and desire - it seems horrible but after being with my gf almost a year I'm less interested in sex and occasionally get a rush of excitement when I notice another girl showing interest in me. \n\nI could just date indefinitely but I do want to settle down and have kids. I just always get the feeling that I can't stay satisfied with my relationships, and if I'm getting this restlessness after only a year or two I can't imagine how it would be over the rest of my lifetime. \n\nAn obvious answer would be to decide which is more important, dating different people or settling down, and then have the self control to stick to the decision. It's just that long term I *want* to settle down, but I can never escape the feeling of wanting to pursue other girls. A few years back I told someone older this and they said \"you must not be ready,\" but I can't help feeling like this isn't going away, and I really would like to start a family.", "summary": "Want to settle and start a family but start losing interest in relationships after a year - any advice or experience with this would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_y8el7", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Thought I had an offer: Did my other recruiter screw me over?", "post": "I've been working with a recruiter. I lost contact with him 1 month ago.\nI applied to another job through recruiter #2. Had an interview last week, went very well. Expected an offer on Friday (that's when they said they would contact me)\n\nToday I get a call from recruiter #1, asking me my situation. I tell him I might have an offer and may not need his services. He asks \"mind if i ask which position and company?\" I tell him (I don't know why I did).\n\nA couple hours later, I get a call from recruiter #2 saying I didn't get the job. WTF. He says he has no idea why, since I had such a great interview.", "summary": "GREAT INTERVIEW,  99% sure I would get offer FRIDAY -> old recruiter finds information about this, I suddenly get a rejection call today out of the blue."}
{"id": "t3_2n93j2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] see/ remember only the good parts of our 3 year relationship while she [18F] sees and remembers only the bad parts", "post": "My gf and I dated happily throughout high school and we're now doing long distance in college. We've been having some issues because she feels like I haven't done her much good.\n\nWhile I look back on our years together and see love, happiness, hand holding, kissing, and everything nice she sees lies, fights, separation, and everything bad.\n\nHow can I help her see my point of view? Bringing up good memories and feelings can only make her happy for a night. Most of the bad things about our relationship is stemmed from her not being able to let anything bad that's ever happened with us go. She just feels sad with me.", "summary": "My girlfriend remembers old bad memories (fights etc) which makes her sad about us and I don't know how to help her see the good like I do (nostalgia doesn't help)"}
{"id": "t3_35p77y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21F] having a lot of issues with crippling jealousy regarding potential romantic partners?", "post": "For the record, I have OCD and PTSD, as well as depression.  I'm on medication (have been for half a year now) and I go to therapy once a week.\n\nI've always had this weird issue with jealousy surrounding my potential partner's past sex life.  It's like if they ever tell me something that they did, I can't stop picturing it and getting really upset.  And then I feel guilty; so guilty that I kind of induce anxiety attacks and it's kind of a really terrible cycle.\n\nI don't want to be abusive or controlling, to the point where I obsess over it, constantly trying to evaluate my actions to determine whether or not they're abusive.  The other night, the girl I have a crush on ended up telling me she used to be a little into BDSM and I couldn't handle it for some reason.  She's 25; I don't expect her to be a virgin or anything.  I think it may have to do with the idea that she enjoys pain and I would never be able to hurt her even if she asked for it.  But even considering that, we aren't together?  I'm 90% sure she doesn't even like me back.  It's really obstructive in this way because it's letting my crush get in the way of our friendship, which is really great and awesome.\n\nI'm currently going to therapy once a week, and I've been talking about it, but I just want to gauge if anyone else has felt this before or overcame it somehow.  I feel really alone and disgusting and abusive.  I feel like there's something horrifically wrong with me and that I shouldn't even try getting into relationships because I'm holding people to standards.  I really want to be happy with someone but I don't know how to make this go away.", "summary": "I get jealous way too easily about my partners' past sex lives and I don't know how to overcome it."}
{"id": "t3_2hc4bl", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "(26/f/5'7\") SW140 GW130 Down 7 with the help of caffeine", "post": "First of all, I know my total weight loss goal doesn't touch most people in this sub, but I suspect there are people out there struggling with that last 10lb. I had put it on over the course of 2 years, and when I couldn't fit into most of my clothes anymore, I decided to try to turn it around. \n\nAbout the caffeine: prior to a few weeks ago, I pretty much consumed 0 caffeine. No coffee, no soda (just never liked them and coffee gave me a stomachache), tea occasionally but not as a tool to wake up. Just because I like tea. Well, I was getting really exhausted at work, so I had the idea to try caffeine tablets instead. Each Monday/Wed/Fri morning, when my alarm goes off, I roll over to by bedside table, pop half a tablet (about 1 cup coffee worth of caffeine), and hit snooze. In about 10 minutes I am up and totally awake. This was kind of miraculous to me. I am doing it every other day to try to minimize any addiction I might be starting to develop.\n\nThen! The weight started coming off. I know this was due to my decreased appetite. I was no longer hungry for breakfast, and only could manage a small lunch.\n\n[Have a look at this chart.](\n\nI think this has helped to reset my appetite, because even on the days I don't take the tablet, I have an easier time managing my portions. On the weekend I eat a bit more, which is why you see the weight pop up and down each week. But I am still trending downward!", "summary": "keep caffeine tablets next to your bed if you can't get up, & lose a few lb as a bonus"}
{"id": "t3_1tkaal", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help with talking to wife about fairness between work and home responsibilities. I'm 25[M] shes 26[F].", "post": "So I will try to be quick with this, while being as detailed as I can. Ill be able to respond to the post when I get off work tonight.\n\nMy wife and I have been married for about 2 years now, and have been together for nearly 10. One of the big issues growing up was that I had issues with responsibility. I could not get myself a solid job, or get myself off of a computer to get life going. Early on when we dated I didn't have this issue so much. Fast forward a few years and I start taking advantage of the fact that I feel comfortable in the relationship, and she ends up splitting with me because I let everything go. In a month I dedicated myself to adjusting this behavior, and ended up landing some solid jobs, spending more time focusing on important portions of my life. Luck has it that she took me back, and I am a changed person from that point. Now I take life seriously, and I work full time to make bills paid. We married, and honestly our marriage is doing quite well!\n\nOne of our problems that we run into though, is that now I feel like the tables have taken a turn. Now while married, I find that she lacks a lot of motivation to get things done. We financially struggle, but get by. It would be great if she could find a job. I am NOT forcing this though, because I don't feel it is a necessity, but more rather a nice luxury to speed up our savings. She says she would try, but after a long time of this, she seems to show little results. I see applications online, but never any followups. Regardless, this isn't my main problem, but a portion of it.\n\nMy main issue (maybe the", "summary": ") is that the house starts falling apart when I am off at work. Food builds up mold in the kitchen, clothes never get washed in time... Often I am wearing dirty clothes to work. The way I feel is that if I am working, and she is at home, is that if I am working full shifts taking care of the financials, then she could take care of the household maintenance."}
{"id": "t3_3onk9m", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Feeling pressured by things that are supposed to make me feel accomplished.", "post": "I'm only in my third semester of college, and I'm not sure how to deal with this stress yet. \nLast november I moved in with my grandparents, got my GED, my drivers  license and enrolled in college all in about 3 months. My first semester of college I overloaded myself, too many courses and my GPA was about 2.3, in the second semester I got it up to a 2.6, and now in my third semester I have a GPA of 3.5. I'm on the Dean's List, I've been invited to join Phi Theta Kappa, and I feel so grateful, so glad that I am doing well. The thing is, I feel like this is a fluke. I'm not sure how I achieved this. A few months ago I got engaged, moved to Florida and my fiance and I are living by ourselves, which is stressful in itself. I'm doing school full time and working part time at a funeral home. I really am so happy with where I am right now but I feel like it's only going to last a short while.\nSo, I was wondering if anyone had any tips on studying and REALLY retaining information. I've never really studied before, I was always a B-C student without trying and it was good enough for me. Now I need to keep up AT LEAST a 3.5 GPA to stay in Phi Theta Kappa and that's scaring me a lot. I'm turning 20 in a few days and it just seems like the perfect time to stop floating through life doing average work when I know I can do more. \nMy major is Biomedical Sciences and I'm also working on my EMT certification. My trouble classes right now are microbiology (I truly, insanely, hugely LOVE this class and am so interested but my memory retention seems to be horrible. It's bothering me when I can't recall the tiny specifics of things), anything math related (I feel hopeless here. Never been a math person and it's the only class I've ever failed), and Medical Terminology (This one is very easy in its content but it moves EXTREMELY quickly through the assignments). \nThank you for any insight. This might be incomprehensible gibberish, but it at least was a good outlet!", "summary": "College, wtf, so hard. Things move too fast and I need a time turner."}
{"id": "t3_48h6vz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Oklahoma] Contract Dispute", "post": "I'll try to keep it short for you all. This is in Oklahoma.\n\nBefore we started building we agreed upon the terms and signed two contracts. We signed a Construction Agreement and Specification Agreement. The first one lines out the overall terms of the contract, the second one lines out the specifications that the home is to be built to (construction materials, quality, etc). Both of these documents have a total sales price listed on them, however the price is different on each one. The Construction Agreement has the price listed at $200K, which is $6K higher than the price that is listed on the Spec Agreement.\n\nThe main dispute we are having is over a septic system. When we entered into the agreement we agreed that I was going to install the septic myself and save us $6K. However after construction started we had a hiccup with our guy and we ended up letting the builder install it for us.\n\nOn the Spec Agreement (the one with the lower price) he actually has in there that one of the things he agrees to is to install a septic tank, even though when the contract was signed he wasn't going to do that. This Spec Agreement says the sales price of the home with him installing septic is $194K.\n\nWhen I saw the discrepancy in prices I thought he'd just forgotten to take the $6K off of one contract, but not the other. When I talked to him about it he said it was a typo and the price on the Master Agreement (the higher price) is the correct price and the price on the Spec Agreement is a typo, plain and simple.\nWhat he is trying to do now is to charge us the higher price ($200K) plus an extra $6K for installing the septic. I'm not trying to get anything for free here, I'm just wanting to be fair.", "summary": "The Master Agreement has the price as $200K without a septic tank. The Spec Agreement has the price at $194K and says he is to install a septic tank included in that price."}
{"id": "t3_28ho80", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Restructuring 4 Years of Credit Card Debt", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI graduated from college this year with ~$8000 of credit card debt. Despite having a credit score of >700, I'm dealing with really high APR's (~20%). \n\nI'm starting a stable job in NYC in August. I'll be making $65,000 with a $5000 signing bonus, and living at home for the first 5 months. I had an internship with this company last summer, and I know that with Federal, social security, medicare, state, and local, I'll only be bringing home about 65% of that $65,000, which leaves me with roughly $3500/mo. \n\nMy current plan is to pay off most of the debt, maybe ~$7000 by the time I move out. I anticipate on spending about $1000/mo on personal. This means that I'll be paying ~$1500/mo on debt, leaving me with only $1000/mo in savings. I would really like to have ~$10,000 saved up by the time I move out so that I can better negotiate with landlords in NYC (with no guarantor, I'll have to put up a few months rent at lease signing). \n\nHere's my question, is there any easy way of restructuring this debt to more favorable terms with a bank? Paying it off in the long run is really the most attractive option for me, as this job has huge, and guaranteed, income potential. This is also why I'm insisting on spending so much on personal.", "summary": "$1250/mo in expenses"}
{"id": "t3_4mma9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] broke up with my girlfriend [17 F] of 3 years, not sure how to get back out", "post": "To start off this post, I started a relationship as a freshman and it went pretty well for the first year. Then she got emotionally abusive and always reminded me that she would kill herself if I left, but for whatever reason I stayed because I was still ok with it. Even after that it got worse, she used sex to make me do whatever she wanted and would always check through my phone and just in general be paranoid about me(I only talked to other girls she already knew). Recently I grew a pair and stopped being so passive and tried to verbally fight back but then she started fights in public and cried to make me look bad. Just this past Monday, I decided I had enough of being pushed around and broke up with her over text and cut all connections(blocked on social media, phone number, etc).\n\nNow I have missed out on being social through my Freshman-Junior years of High School, and I don't know how to actually move on and be independent.", "summary": "Out of the loop, need advice to find a healthy relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1njcd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help with my [26M] proposal to my girlfriend [22F] together 2.5 years", "post": "I am planning on proposing to my girlfriend...hopefully this weekend, but I need a little help with the planning.\n\nI know she wants to get married, and I know her answer will be the same regardless of how it goes down, but I want to to memorable!\n\nWe moved to a new town about a year ago so she could attend school.  The closest thing we have to a \"special place\" in this town, is a path near the river close to our house, so I am thinking this is where I should do it.\n\nAll I can think of right now is having a friend kind of set up ahead of time and have some flowers set up for her.  As we walk by, make sure she notices them and lead her over to them to see what it is, then when she turns around be down on one knee.\n\nI am just wondering what you guys think of this, and what else I can add to it to make it even more special!", "summary": "Going to propose to girlfriend, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_y3jpf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help finding list handmade Christmas stockings.", "post": "My mother recently passed away and my friends helped me clean out her apartment. In the rush to clean it out the wrong box of Christmas stuff was donated.  And in that box was mine and my mother's handmade and personalized stockings. They were made by my grandmother who passed away 16 years ago. I went to the GoodWill they were donated to, plus two others, and ended up at a Goodwill outlet. After speaking to the supervisor of the outlet, he showed me boxes of Christmas stuff and one had a few of my mother's things. Then he told me he remembered that there was a large box of Christmas stuff that someone bought in bulk. Once he described it I knew it was my mother's and I fear the stockings were in there. These stockings are priceless to me and I want nothing more than to have them back. I live in south Florida, the original donation was in Oakland park, and the outlet is near the Fort Lauderdale executive airport. Please if anyone can help, please do. Both stockings were handmade. One was green with a snowman on it and my mother's name, it is 60 years old; and the other was all red with my name on it, its 30 years old.", "summary": "handmade personal stockings accidentally donated in south Florida, need help finding them."}
{"id": "t3_3knyfo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 /F] with my ex [19 M] one year 6 months, how to get over the break up", "post": "I recently broke up with my ex of one and a half years. I never wanted to break up. I loved him. I guess I still do. I just keep telling myself I don't though. He started considering the religious aspects of our relationship, and realized that we're wrong to continue this relationship according to our religion.\nI keep wanting to move on, but don't know how to. I had planned to marry him some day. He did too. I want to move on so badly, but I don't know what to. I had in some way become very dependent on him. I want to move on, but I also feel the need to know that he didn't want to break up with me and still loves me and wants to be with me, but it's just the circumstances. \nPlease give me tips on how to move on and also maybe on how to ensure that he knows that I was right for him.", "summary": "How to move on from my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2h4wkk", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need help to get away from bully bosses", "post": "Im in my early 20s and I make loudspeakers and amplifiers for a living. I have worked here for around a year, learning how to do the job from scratch with no experience. My two bosses are awful people who shout, swear and pretty much make my life hell. It is a very skilled job but I am paid minimum wage, less than people who work in supermarkets etc! I was told after 6 months I would be given a pay rise but this did not happen. I decided not to bring it up and just try and get a new job. I have been trying for months now but to no avail.\n\nOn the 4th of august I broke my ankle, meaning i literally cannot work as I am required to stand for 9 hours a day. My boss has rang me numerous times basically bribing me into coming into work, telling me how I am not playing ball and basically not committed to the company. This spurred me on to apply for jobs, and I have an interview for an admin job tomorrow. Can anyone give me some advice? \n\nSorry about the wall of text....", "summary": "Bosses are abusive liars. I break ankle and all of a sudden I am bad guy as I cannot work and now I have an interview for an admin/office job."}
{"id": "t3_1i7agg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19F) hung up on (20M)...still", "post": "I'll try to keep this short and sweet. In the last few weeks of term at college I met this guy. We were basically unstoppable together. Spent every waking hour together, went on adventures, were a big bundle of energy, so alike in every way, amazing amazing sex. \n\nProblem was, he's a pro skier and is gone for 3/4s of the year training nonstop. We didn't talk about things before we left, but kept talking on the phone, texting for a while. \n\nThen we decided that we had to break things off. It would be almost a year before we would be in the same place again. Skiing is incredibly emotionally consuming. It was fine. I understood, it was for the best.\n\nBut it has been a month since we decided to break it off. It doesn't feel like I'm getting over him. Sure, I have a few moments here or there that are temporarily alright, but they are just tiny distractions from the fact that I miss him. We've barely talked in the past weeks. I'm so afraid that I will never find anyone that gives me such energy, that fits with me so wonderfully. I don't even know if I want to get over him. I don't know if he wants to get over me.", "summary": "Standard whirlwind romance cut off prematurely, is ending up to be more than a brief infatuation and I have no idea what to do with myself. "}
{"id": "t3_2iljgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance best friend [M19] told me [20F] he loves me. No idea where to go from here.", "post": "So I have a best friend I've known for a few years who now lives a few states away. I have plans to go visit him in a couple months. \n\nWe talk all the time, Skype, texting,  Facebook chat, etc. It's always been platonic except him jokingly refering to me as \"bae\" when commenting on my photos. \n\nYesterday I was really upset about a lot of stuff and he was consoling me. During this conversation he told me that he loves me but the distance makes him nervous and why he hadn't said anything. My response was just \"oh\". We talked a little bit today but I feel weird. \n\nI like him a lot. I really do. But he got out of a relationship a few months ago and I he's still a little hung up on her. I have been casually seeing someone who I dated a long time ago and I'm not committed to him or anything. I'm supposed to go out and visit in the next few months.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "long distance bff told me he loves me. I reacted poorly. Confused. Help."}
{"id": "t3_fxqgp", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Moving From One Coast To Another - fml :(", "post": "Wasn't really sure where to ask, but r/travel made the most sense from what I could find.. anyways..\n\nI'm moving from NYC to either Seattle or San Francisco in June, and am scratching my head as how the hell to actually do it. Right now I'm planning on road-tripping it with a couple friends (one who's flying over for the trip, another moving from ATL who may be using a U-Haul). I don't have a lot of things to move- mostly boxes of things I plan on shipping, and then a bit more (valuables, etc.) that I'd just take along for the ride. Basically, I want to travel light, but will take the things more fragile and whatnot.\n\nI guess I'm looking for insight on the following:\n\n-Rental companies (for cars)\n\n-Does it make sense to even rent a car for that distance (buy used??)\n\n-Ways to save a buck in lodging (I love camping!)\n\n-Shipping companies; items (clothes- ship most of them, or take?)\n\nI don't know. This is such a new thing for me. I guess if any one has attempted and completed this crazy thing that is moving across the country, any insight would be of help.", "summary": "Moving from NYC->SEA/SFO/FML need info on things a newb wouldn't think of first time around.*"}
{"id": "t3_2vpo98", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Two questions: one issue we're having now(carpet anger), and one I see coming down the line (poor advice/instincts early on).", "post": "I'll start with the present problem. We have a 7 mo old humane society adopted dog, Gizmo. Our best guess is Chow/cattle dog mix. He's a handful at the worst of times, and a wonderful eager learner at the best of times. About a week or two ago he began tearing up a particular spot of carpet in our apartment and when prevented from doing that he barks at it. It is not perpetual, and when he's distracted he can be playing near the area, or even right on top of it without focusing on it. When he's focused on it though, no toy or treat will distract him for more than a moment. That spot on the carpet is ruined, but we need to end the behavior as soon as possible, not only to prevent the damage spreading, but to protect our carpets moving forward.\n\nMy second question is one I'm almost scared to ask. Around the time we got him (which was when he was 2 months), we received some poor advice, and our instincts left a lot to be desired as well. Take a look at the side bar, where it talks about all the advice you're not to give in this sub. Nose/butt swatting, bark collar (never shocked him, it has a vibrate function that we used instead, and we stopped short of a choke/prong collar), dominance actions, etc. We did much of it for the first couple months after bringing him home. There was also positive training and treating and praising and many good techniques used, all as a part of our overall \"training plan\". We've since changed tactics, we're about to finish \"Puppy II\" at our local Petco, and will be enrolled in \"Dog II\" shortly thereafter. We treat/praise exclusively for desired behavior and ignore undesired actions/behavior. We have come around and have fully bought into the correct methods for positive training. We are however concerned that our earlier actions will have done their damage already. None of our punishments were done out of anger, and we merely thought we were training him as completely as we could. What can we do to avoid/correct any negative impact our poor decisions may have caused?", "summary": "Our dog's recently discovered mortal enemy lives under a spot of our carpet and he won't rest until he's either destroyed it, or at least alerted everyone in the city to its presence. Also, we used ill-advised training techniques in the beginning of our relationship with him, and we're worried about long term consequences. "}
{"id": "t3_1kes9m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "19 [F], I really need advice about a friend/hook-up.", "post": "So there is this guy that I have been friends with for 6 years now. A couple of years ago, me and him hooked up but it didn't escalate to anything else. However, last night at a party we were alone and we just started making out and all of a sudden he says, \"I can't do this because I don't want you to cheat on me.\" Of course I was really confused and so I asked him if he had feelings for me, and he said, \"Of course I do.\" \n\nAfter the party him and I returned to his house and we stayed up talking for hours about how we had feelings for each other and how there was always some sort of connection between us. He was really sweet and sincere. However I found out that that entire night he had been telling his friends the complete opposite of what he had been telling me. \n\nAnyway, now he is avoiding me and he hasn't mentioned anything to me or his friends about what happened. I just want to know your guys take on the situation. Do you think he was lying to me or his friends? And should I be the first one to break the ice between us or should I wait for it all just to blow over? Please help me!", "summary": "I was hooking up with my friend when he told me that he had feelings for me, even though at the same time he was telling his friends that he wanted nothing to do with me. And now he is completely ignoring me and the situation. Should I break the ice between us?"}
{"id": "t3_49u8y7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Question about combining MFP with another \"diet\" plan. [self x-post /r/fitbit]", "post": "My Fitbit Alta just arrived, and I wanted to at least ask this before I started tracking.\n \nI've used My Fitness Pal before, in the past, with some success. Two years later, I'm back on track with a typical week being 4/5 days at the gym, sometimes 2x day.\n\nMy boss, a health/fitness lady, has been on the 21-day Fix and I've started it too. I like it more than mfp from what I can remember of it; no calorie counting but emphasis on portion control. I'd like to keep up with it if I can, but since I have my fitbit(!!!) now....", "summary": "Has anyone had success combining the 21-day Fix with MFP?"}
{"id": "t3_4ohwxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ended things but we are still friends - Me [21M] with my GF [19F] of 6 months - Help! Advice?", "post": "We are both in college & both work. She broke up with me for the reasoning of: Did not want to settle down till late 20's, has things to do before settling, and wants a bigger social life. She says she still loves me and that in the future we could be together. Also she thanked me for helping her overcome certain insecurities. I am very emotionally supportive but sometimes it feels like I am just a platform.\n\nWe agreed to still be friends and even have plans to go do some stuff, but is this really the best way to go about this? We are both very close and continue to talk even now like before, but without most of the affection and endearments. I really do love her and I want her back, and I would do anything to make that happen.\n\nStill confused to as why she broke up with me? (I noticed for the past few days she has been acting less affectionate and she admitted it).\nStay friends or NC?", "summary": "GF positively broke up and we are still friends, I want her back."}
{"id": "t3_1fv9qi", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Accidental non-petty revenge.", "post": "This is the story of how my plan for a petty revenge accidentally got my victim arrested.\n\nSo I met an old bully at a night club a year or two ago, and he came up to me and tried to be all pally, despite the fact that he made a few years of my life hell. I told him to fuck off, and went on with my partying, but his mere presence ruined my night, so I planned some petty revenge.\n\nI knew the owner of the club, and some of the guards, so I told a guard that I thought he might be dealing drugs in the bathrooms to get him thrown out. Little did I know that he was selling drugs in the bathrooms, and things get a bit out of hand.\n\nThe guards check it out, and realize that he is selling drugs, so they try to stop him. He punches one guard and locks himself in one of the stalls (and even though he is in the bathroom he does not think of flushing the drugs).\n\nThe police comes and while arresting him, he breaks one of their noses. He was charged and convicted of aggravated assault, assaulting a public official, resisting arrest, selling cocaine, ecstasy, amphetamines and weed.", "summary": "I try to get a guy thrown out of a club by saying he is selling drugs. Turns out he is selling drugs, he assaults a guard and a police officer and gets arrested."}
{"id": "t3_2ma7ml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my ex girlfriend [23F] 2 years, broke up after her infidelity. Stills says she loves me.", "post": "So me and my ex girlfriend broke up about two weeks ago. I found our she had been cheating on me (and not go the first time) I finnaly had the balls to tell her it was over. We still talked everyday and she still told me she loved me and was confused because her family doesnt like me and she was trying to see if that was the way she wanted to go. Anyways she is now dating the guy she cheated on me with and im really struggling with it. Its just so quick. She is still telling me she loves me and hopes we get back together and to be honest I love her too. But im having a really hard time keeping my head up and saying no its time I moved on. I dont have a lot of friends so I dont really have many people to vent to so I thought id ask you guys for sone stories and maybe some emotional support.", "summary": "ex cheated dating that guy still says she loves me having a hard "}
{"id": "t3_3aw4dt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having to go when my car broke down", "post": "So today at work I constantly needed to use the bathroom because I kept getting strong urges to go.  I'm not sure where it came from, but every so often I had to rush across the office into the men's room to wait it out or risk the chance of soiling my pants. Eventually into the afternoon I start to feel better and it's time to leave and I get in my car for the ride home.\nAnyways, as I drive I get to the highway and on the merging ramp I accelerate and hear a pop. My car starts to slow down, everyone behind me is honking, and I slowly pull up to the top of the ramp and stop the car. I can't get it to start up again or move, and me being clueless with cars, call a tow truck to get me to an auto mechanic. The guy on the phone says it will take a maximum of an hour for him to get there. Great.\nAn hour passes by and the guy still isn't there and I get an urge to go to the bathroom just like earlier at work. It hits me really hard, and being stuck on the top of the ramp with no options, everything came out at once.\nThinking it couldn't get more awful, I remember that I have to get in the tow truck with the guy, and to make matters worse I am pretty far away from my house and he's taking me to the auto dealer all the way back 45 minutes away. I'll just say it was a fun ride back.", "summary": "Car breaks down and tow truck guy paid the shitty consequence"}
{"id": "t3_1r9gnw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (20/f) coworker (24/m) won't stop hitting on me and we work with his girlfriend", "post": "We've all been working together now for about a year. They started dating about four months ago. I've been with the same guy for about two years, we're engaged. What I'm getting at is that I'm not interested in this guy at all.\n\nHe says sexual things to me right in front of his girlfriend sometimes. It's so embarrassing for both of us. I've asked him to stop but I'm pretty shy so maybe I just wasn't as firm about it as I should've been. I never egg him on, he just comes on to me.\n\nI think she hates me and I understand, but I want him to stop and I want to be able to go to work without feeling uncomfortable.", "summary": "dude at work hits on me even though I'm engaged, his girlfriend is getting pissed, help"}
{"id": "t3_ixho9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I suck at mental math.  Can you help?", "post": "I've never been good at it.  I can do math just fine with a calculator, but once it is taken away I have a hard time with it.  I mean I can do it with simple addition, subtraction, division and what not, but everything over 100 my mind just locks up.  I go full derp when I have to do math that other people seem to ramble off easily.  Math in school was never a problem, and I have no learning disabilities.  My mind just shuts off when I have to calculate equations with my brain.  So I'm asking you fine people if you have any suggestions/resources that I could look into, or exercises that could help so I don't feel stupid anymore.", "summary": "I can't do mental math as easily as others. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1hrcr7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I Thought I Was Going to Develop Schizophrenia, But I Realize Now I Was Just Worrying Too Much. - I typed this up not too long ago and it made me feel nice. Just sharing.", "post": "When I was about 19-20 (somewhere in that age range), I thought I was developing Schizophrenia. Mainly because one of my Aunts AND one of my Uncles - both blood related - have it. But there were other reasons that I didn't fully realize until time had passed. For one, I was failing a semester in college, after failing two classes in semesters prior, and didn't know what I wanted to do with my life or what direction it was even going.\n\nActually a lot of the fear and anxiety about developing Schizophrenia developed from drugs. After a bad LSD trip actually. It was my first time trying it and boy, it was a shitty night. Not to go into too much detail but, I thought a guy who was with us was trying to make me have a bad trip. My fears and thoughts on the matter were completely irrational and had no basis whatsoever, but once that seed was planted, I had about 9 hours of pure terror, frustration, and confusion.\n\nBut it didn't stop after that night. Marijuana brought back that feeling as well. Every time I smoked after that, I would revert to that mental prison. Even when I wasn't on drugs, I would occasionally wonder if a word or thought I had was Schizophrenia slowly seeping its way out of me. It was actually kind of scary\n\nSo I made a change.\n\nI quit the drug use and reverted my focus on schoolwork and figuring out my life, essentially distracting myself from the thoughts. I did so by trying new things, meeting new people, making new friends, and \"getting out there\" as they say. I found some new hobbies along the way too! Like cooking and playing piano. The thoughts would occasionally come back, but less and less as time went on. Now things are cool in my life. I'm not unhappy with my life, nor am I completely satisfied, but I managed to make it through a tough time and gain some insight. Thanks *in part* to this experience, I realize that everyone has these slumps in life. We've all just gotta make it through them.", "summary": "YOU FUCKING ROCK!"}
{"id": "t3_3qsxil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18f] boyfriend [19m] is mad and ignoring me because I got him a card for our 6 month \"anniversary\"", "post": "A couple of weeks ago my boyfriend and I got to talking about our upcoming 6 month milestone. We both agreed that it isn't that big of a deal so we wouldn't make a huge production out of it, but as also agreed that half a year is pretty cool and we should definitely acknowledge it and do something. This is his first ever relationship, and it's my first one to make it this far, so we were both a little excited.\n\nYesterday was our 6 months. Boyfriend came to pick me up and presented me with a single rose, then drove us to a nice restaurant where he had made reservations. Perfect so far! Once we got to the restaurant I presented him with a card. It was a $3 card from the dollar store, and inside I had written \"[My nickname for him], I can't believe it's been 6 months already! I love you and can't wait to share the next half of this year with you.\" As soon as he read it he became visibly upset. We ended up having an argument in the restaurant because he just \"didn't understand why I would do something like this\". I asked if he had a problem with what I had written (i.e the assumption that we would spend the rest of the year together) but no, he was just appalled that I thought it was appropriate to get him a card. I tried and failed for the rest of the dinner to get to the bottom what he thought was so wrong.\n\nSo now it's today and I'm hurt and confused. We've been texting and he's acting like nothing happened. I'm baffled by his response and sad that he had such a bad reaction to what I thought was a cute gesture. What should I do?", "summary": "I got my bf a card for our 6 month and he for upset for no apparent reason"}
{"id": "t3_37wqpk", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just had the most amazing day in a long time.", "post": "Today has been so absolutely incredible, but unfortunately none of my friends really seem to relate. I've mentioned it to a couple and sort of just got this vague 'cool' response, and I don't want their lack of excitement to bring me down, so I decided to post here instead!\n\nEver since I was little, I knew I wanted to work with animals. I'm a cat person above all, and I eventually decided a couple of years ago that my calling was as an animal behaviorist. In the past couple of years, I went through bouts of depression and then my grandma passed away, so I'd sort of just been doing nothing since finishing high school because every time I'd start to feel better, something else would come along and knock me down.\n\nAnyway, I started volunteering with an amazing animal rescue this week; They're one of the ones that rents out space in Petsmart. I'd only done the one day of training, and then I was asked to come to the adoption event today, and I was SO NERVOUS. I'm the go-to person when friends have cat problems, but I'd never been in charge of such a large number of cats at once.\n\nI got there today, and instantly just felt so... comfortable. I have terrible social anxiety, and it all just melted away. I was talking to other volunteers, Petsmart employees, and potential adopters and it was fucking awesome. People were impressed with my cat knowledge, I got compliments on my forearm tattoo of my cat, and I even helped a 7 month old kitten get adopted! \n\nI've had this stupid smile on my face all day. I know I'm just a brand new volunteer right now, but I just felt so important and appreciated. Every time I interacted with a cat that someone else had trouble with, it just made me feel so awesome and reassured me that this is exactly what I want to be doing with my life. \n\nThe adoption event was 4 hours long and I still didn't want it to end! They're every other Saturday and I seriously can't wait until the next one.", "summary": "[I'm in my element!]"}
{"id": "t3_4lq1s6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] been on a path of self-improvement but struggling with the opposite sex", "post": "I've never been a big time ladies man or anything but I've generally had a decent love life, my fair share of relationships, girls having crushes on me, etc. A year and a half ago I had a bad breakup and realized I didn't like who I had become. I was out of shape, emotionally unstable and generally unhappy.\n\nSo with this introspection I set on a path of self improvement. I work out daily now, did some therapy, graduated uni and got a great new job and even improved my wardrobe. I've made new friends and reconnected with old ones (male and female), and I've been on more fun adventures in the past year than I probably had been my whole life.\n\nYet somehow with all that, I feel like I'm become less attractive to women. I haven't done anything sexual with a woman since my breakup a year and half ago (hooked up with my ex a couple times post breakup but that's it). For a long time I didn't let it bother me as I was focusing on myself and making myself a whole happy person, but now that I'm finally 100% where I want to be, it's starting to erode my confidence and almost hurt my progress. I'm the type of guy who's been to bothered by my lack of height (5'7) but now I'm suddenly really self conscious about it since it's the only thing I CANT change about myself. Is it just that in this tinder-age sex revolution some of us are just bound to left behind? Am I self-sabotaging myself somehow? Is there some part of my self-improvement that I'm missing?", "summary": "Been trying to improve myself since my breakup but while my personal lifestyle has improved my love life has taken a nosedive. What am I missing?"}
{"id": "t3_jpbqa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Work advice", "post": "Me 26 F, My 2 co-workers 45 F.  I've been at my job for 3 months and management is very impressed with my work.  So impressed, that they've put me in charge of one woman and they want me to learn another woman's job.  These two women have been at the company for 3 years and it's quite obvious that they hate me.  They've yelled at me, told co-workers that I don't know what I'm doing and are insulting me in Armenian.  I'm trying to be as nice as possible about the whole situation.  It's understandable why they are upset, but I'm having a hard time not taking it personally.  Advice, please?", "summary": "New girl at work is put in charge of 2 veteran employees.  They are upset and taking their frustration out on me.  How do I not take it personally?"}
{"id": "t3_2xcfj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] kissed my girlfriend's [17F] close friend while we were on a break. I confessed this to her and she doesn't trust me anymore.", "post": "I was on a break with my girlfriend after some difficulties and I kissed one of her close friends. Although I thought I would not be getting back with my girlfriend, I regretted it immediately. Sometime afterwards I got back together with my girlfriend and I told her last night what had happened as I couldn't deal with the guilt. She started crying and said she has lost all trust in me. I feel sick. Just to be clear, she was seeing other people on the break too. I guess since it's one of her close friends I crossed a boundary. What is my next move? I hope you can help!", "summary": "I [18M] kissed my girlfriend's [17F] close friend while we were on a break. I confessed this to her and she doesn't trust me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1f9gqs", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You go and flirt with me and then... don't love me? [Advice wanted, people.]", "post": "Hey. Again. \n\nI'm sitting here being unstable after telling my crush I liked him. Second rejection in 5 years from him. \n\nSo after him flirting with me for the past 2 and a half months, he asks \"hey u/NB, do you love me?\" sarcastically. I say \"of course not you dolt.\" \n\nToday, I go and tell him via a letter how I've fallen for him. Immediate \n\n\"hey. erm... \n\nerm...\n\n...\n\nI do not like you in this way. I like someone else. Soz.\" \n\n(I replied \"thank god I'm more mature, I would not have been able to do this.\") \n\n\"so friends? Still?\"\n\nWhich resulted in me moping around for most of the day until I finally snapped (when he threw food at me, which resulted in me swearing and hiding from the weird kids who don't like me.)\n\nSo we discuss that we're kind of brothers and sisters, and that even though I have feelings for him, nothing is changing. \n\nNo hugs were given even though I was/am pretty shook up.\n\nSo why did I give away a piece of heart to this kid? Because he was incredibly flirty with me but now I see that his heart belongs to our friend who's leaving.\n\nI'm just rattled. He was being obnoxiously flirty for the past 1/2 month (*AND* telling me he loved me) with me, but it was all a game, a fraud, a prank marked for failure and for \"lawls\" (oh my god wouldn't it be funny if we pranked u/nb and made her fall in love with me and then make fun of her when she's licking her wounds....)\n\nAnd then I'm expected to walk around smiling like nothing has happened.\n\nHowever, I have a massive support crew (minus my best friend, who was off at the psych office suffering burn out and exam stress) including some nice guys who lift.", "summary": "Emotional wreck is pissed off after her crush friendzoned her after flirting with her for <2 months and then says \"hey i like someone else\" after being told she likes him back.  I'd like some advice on how to deal with this jerk who I'd love to remain friends with."}
{"id": "t3_gqxsl", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Why isn't there a \"next\" and \"prev\" link at the top of a reddit page?", "post": "Once I've read all the links on a page, I sometimes go back to the top, maybe to double-check if I missed anything or whatnot.  Then I have to go all the way back down to get to \"next\".  Or if I clicked next on a page too quickly and caught a link that I want to visit just before the page turns, I have to scroll down to the bottom of the new page to get the \"prev\" link - and usually, I'll see another link I want to see on that page and then I get all confused and angry.", "summary": "My world has become very small.  Thanks, Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2261xs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with a [18 M] friend that I have a major crush on. How do I ask him out? Does he even like me? [Dating]", "post": "There's this guy in my history class who I've harbored a crush for for a little while now. We've recently become closer, but I'm still not sure where I stand for him. On one hand, it's almost always me who initiates conversations online with him, but on the other hand, he actively seeks me out and sits near in the library when we have our frees together. I mean, he also teases me and tries to cheer me up and stuff, but that isn't necessarily an indicator of anything. I'm just frustrated because I really thought he was going to ask me to prom, and a few of my friends did too, but then he ended up going with a good friend. \n\nThere are two problems that I'm encountering. For starters, he'll be gone soon, and if I were to make a move I'd have to do so in the next month. I'm not so much worried about becoming too attached and having him leaving as I am regretting *not* saying anything and always wondering \"what if\". \n\nMoreover, this crush has also been really distracting. I spend so much time thinking of him my schoolwork has taken a toll, and while that sounds pretty silly in the grand scheme of things, it definitely has a negative impact on my junior year of high school-arguably the most important year. \n\nI'm obviously scared of rejection, but I'm so tired of waiting and wondering. Sometimes I wonder whether it wouldn't be less painful to just tell him I like him and then be rejected. At least then I could finally stop thinking about him. \n\nProm's coming up and I was really hoping to get a slow dance in with him. Would it be weird to make a flirty suggestions or something next time we speak?", "summary": "high school girl utterly baffled by guy. schoolwork is suffering because her head's in the clouds."}
{"id": "t3_kihvu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The worst person is in my math class. What do I do?!", "post": "This semester, I'm in a higher level math class, which is a pretty OK course. It's a class of maybe 30 students. I (and quite a few of the other folks in my class) have found it increasingly difficult to concentrate, however, due to one individual. This guy is a non-traditional student. He sits in the front of the room every day, but there's always a small ring of empty seats around him because he has serious personal hygiene issues. B.O. combined with the smell of a pack's worth of cigarette smoke emanates from his body.\n\nTo make matters worse, it seems that he has some sort of autism. He'll rock back and forth in his seat during class which is both visually (he sits in the front) and audibly distracting (the seats creak).\n\nThe cherry on the cake, however, is that for long stretches of class he will breathe exclusively through his mouth. I have no idea whether this is a health-related issue or a psychological thing, but his breathing is loud enough to make it hard to hear the (albeit soft-spoken) professor.\n\nWhat do I do, Reddit? These seem like issues that shouldn't really exist, but can anything be done?", "summary": "Loud-breathing, chair squeaking, smelly man in my math class is going to make us all fail with his shenanigans. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_29v1et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (22F) fell out of love with me (23M) and I'm struggling to shake feelings of betrayal", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nJust over two months ago my ex-girlfriend (22F) broke up with me (23M) after 3 \u00bd years together. It felt like it was going to happen as we had had a rocky period around New Years (about 5 months prior to break-up). \n\nShe initiated the break-up because she wasn't \"in-love\" with me anymore, but did claim to still love me (which confuses me!). She also told me that there may have been little things that I had done that made her feel like breaking-up was the right thing to do, but she didn't tell me these things as it would be unfair (which I agreed), but she also spoke the \"it's not you it's me\" line too.\n\nI was reasonably OK with the break-up at first, telling myself that maybe it was for the best as we were about to become victims of circumstance (she's about the leave Uni and move a few hours away), whilst we only live an hour apart at the moment.\n\nBut here's my main issue - I'm becoming increasingly frustrated with thoughts of her. We aren't in contact at all really (I'm following Reddit's advice here) but I can't help but think she's all happy and content now, and that she's ditched me off now that she doesn't want me anymore after all the help we'd given each other in the past. It feels like a real stab in the back.\n\nReddit, am I being juvenile here? Are these feelings normal and justified? Having her fall out of love with me feels like a huge judgement upon myself and I'm having trouble coping with this, despite taking all the advice I can about 'self-bettering' activities (I started running, push-ups, new job in a career and learning french).\n\nAny advice you guys can give would be a great help to me. Thanks in advance everyone!", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after she fell out of love with me. I feel betrayed."}
{"id": "t3_429l9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it insensitive for me (17f) to break up with my boyfriend (20m) because he's moving away to help his mother?", "post": "I'm copying this from /r/relationship_advice\n\nMy boyfriends home state is Michigan and he recently (in October) moved here, to NC. We met soon after he moved and we started dating on Thanksgiving night. Last week his mom got into a car accident (minor injuries to her) and is getting sick (I don't know what with). She has to either fix her car or buy a new one, and she's already late on rent. So my bf is moving back home to help her out.\n\nHe told me he wants to get her in a better financial situation, and get himself into a better one too. I understand it fully, and I don't blame him one bit. I just don't want to be in another (I've been in two!) long distance relationship. I can't handle them well. And I know we won't be able to see each other much, and I just feel like its a bad idea. But at the same time I feel a bit selfish and insensitive. Am i?", "summary": "bfs mom is broke so he's moving back home (another state) to help, I don't want a ldr so I'm breaking up with him but feel insensitive"}
{"id": "t3_34favk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (22 F) moving out of state with my boyfriend (20 M) and I'm very excited, but also very sad to be leaving my family. How can I make this easier?", "post": "Hi, everyone. So I'm not sure if this is the place to post this, but I thought I'd give it a shot. \n\nSo I'm moving about 10 hours away from home because my boyfriend got a new job. We're very excited for the move and we look forward to starting this adventure. \n\nThis issue I'm having is that I'm very close to my family and I'm sad to be leaving them. My parents are hugely supportive of this decision and have said they're very proud of us. I know they're not huge fans of me leaving, but they've still been great. I talked to my dad today and thanked him for everything and the support even though he doesn't particularly like the decision. He started crying (I've only seen him cry like three times total in my life) and told me he wasnt a big fan of the decision because he doesn't want to lose me, but life happens and he'll just have to look up flights to our new state often.\n\nI feel kind of stuck because I'm very excited for this opportunity and I'm looking forward to it, but the actual leaving is going to be really rough and I'm not sure how to handle it best. \n\nDo you guys have any advice for me on this? Thanks for reading.", "summary": "I'm moving and it's gonna be really rough to leave home."}
{"id": "t3_2k48fd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend[21 F] of 1 1/2 months. She already thinks she loves me but I think it's too soon", "post": "I am currently a college student and met this girl a couple of months ago. She was very beautiful and interesting, and we hit it off well at the start. We had already slept together after a week within knowing one another. \n\nShe recently had broken up with her boyfriend of two years, so I was weary of asking her to be my girlfriend so soon. But after a couple weeks of knowing her, she said that she wanted a relationship. I was excited to hear that, as I hadn't had any sort of \"real\" relationship in over two years.\n\nSo we started dating officially. Shortly after this (probably about 2 weeks later), she drunkenly told me that she was falling in love with me. While I like her a lot, I did not feel like I could reciprocate these feelings so soon. This upset her, and the next couple weeks were spent trying to pretend it didn't happen.\n\nShe eventually started to question the relationship, and felt that since I don't currently feel the sort of love she feels that maybe we aren't compatible. I was frustrated since it was so soon, and I had been feeling stronger feelings beginning to develop on my end since then. She then told me that she felt like she was being immature and was willing to wait for me.\n\nSince this happened, she keeps bringing up how she wishes I could love her like she does. I feel like it's just infatuation, but I'm not sure. \n\nIt sucks because she's a really attractive, interesting person, and I like her more than any girl I've seen in the last couple years, but I feel like it will be a while before I can feel the same thing she is currently feeling. What is something I can say to her to help ease her feelings?", "summary": "Gf already claims she loves me. I think it's too soon"}
{"id": "t3_2gzn3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(26f) went on first date, I think it was, with (29m)guy friend, now what?", "post": "I went out last night for the first time with my guy friend that I'm interested in. I think he's interested in me as well. We are both super shy, so it's hard. We went to dinner and a movie, neither of us calling it a \"date\", but possibly both Thinking it? We went to a couple stores where he tries to break the touch barrier by playfully nudging or guiding me out of the store with his hand on my back. At the movies, we didn't watch a horror movie, but there was a horror trailer and he took that opportunity to grab my leg and tell me it will be ok. We've gone out to dinner and shopping before a few times, he always pays. This time, he paid for the movie and I took he check for dinner. I told him it was fine because I owed him dinner from a previous time and he's like, cuz I paid for this movies? And I'm like,yes. He's like, well that's not how it's supposed to work. I didn't know what he meant by that, was he trying acknowledge it was a date? We have an incredible friendship, we click so well and it was a blast, both of us constantly laughing & smiling. We ended the night with a hug like we've done the fast few times we've went out. This time it was different because before we were on a mission looking for a book or something, this time it was just dinner and a movie. This time, the hug was the best hug. A long, lingering hug. I'm hoping this is what I think it could be. There was no hand holding or him putting his arm around my shoulder like you see in the movies. Are we on the same page? Is he interested? Was this our first date? What should I do next? Help!", "summary": "first date? With guy friend  is he interested, was it a date, now what?"}
{"id": "t3_1lrh4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Drunk (31 M) in love with a bi-polar (23 F) woman", "post": "Help me reddit, I'm in love with a bi-polar woman and can't deal with the pain it has caused me... I have tried for 3 years now to find a way to get over the times she has cheated on me and the way she can change emotions on a dime. She doesn't only have bi-polar but is also diagnosed with ADD and Chrones disease and thyroid problems. I trust that she will always tell me the truth but I don't trust that she won't do something irrational again. I talked to her about the fact that even though she can't control her actions it doesn't hurt any less but all that accomplished was that I got a pamphlet that talked about \"you're not breaking up with the person, you're breaking up with the disease\"... it's a silly pamphlet that is only useful to people who are shallow and judge a person by their diagnoses and not by their actions.\n\nI'm at the end of my patience with her and she can tell, we argue constantly and although we love eachother without question we both know our relationship has a shelf-life.\n\nIs there anyone out there who is in a similar situation and can provide a little insight into how they cope with the symptoms and how they deal with the inevitable trust issues?", "summary": "ups/downs/trust issues driving me crazy... how can I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_xloav", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today, I realized why I am so calm and collected during times of chaos and disagreement. My body turns anger into sadness, reducing me into a sobing mess every time I get angry. What horrible decisions does your mind make for you that you can't control?", "post": "From what I can remember, my childhood environment was filled with distrust, yelling, judging, anger, confrontation and control, \n\nany attempt at voicing my opinions or becoming angry was useless and ended up worse then it needed to.\n\nSince then any sign of anger was channeled away and eventually filled with sadness and severe depression. I'm not an angry person, nor do i concern myself with things that stress me out, my life is vary vary stress free.\n\nRecently after I looked back on what brought me here and why my body reacts the way I do its pretty clear. Any immediate bout of anger instantly turns to sadness and tears involuntarily.", "summary": "I can be as serious as I want and tears will start flowing and my chest will start convulsing from sniffing while I'm talking because my anger involuntarily turns to sadness."}
{"id": "t3_2aj9mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23M- girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me. Thinking of getting an escort- good/bad idea?", "post": "For the first couple weeks I was so depressed I could only sleep 1-4 hrs a day and couldn't stop overthinking things. Now for the past couple days I've been sleeping okay and have started thinking forwards. I still miss her, am a bit sad, and have dreams of her almost every day. Though the majority of the day now I'm fine.\n\nI've also been really horny lately as I haven't done it for a month now. Am thinking of getting an escort. I was looking to get into a one nighter or hookup for the past week but have had no luck. No matches on Tinder really brought down my self-esteem too though I think I'm above average looking. Feeling stressed out, should I get an escort for a night or will it be a huge mistake?", "summary": "Broken up, miss girlfriend and sex, really horny, no luck with a hookup, am lonely, should I get an escort?"}
{"id": "t3_45imu0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "11 years since my heart transplant, and i'm tired of medication's side effects", "post": "When I had my heart transplant i was 12. I remember I was always tired and i can't breath properly so my mother took me to the ospital. We found out that my heart was larger than normal, they put me on transplant list and 3 weeks later there was an heart available for me.\nNow I'm 23 and I almost spent the majority of my life with a new heart. I'm grateful for that, but sometimes i feel like it's an heavy bag on my shoulders. Sometimes I feel guilty, because when i was sick i prayed for a new heart (and it means that i prayed that a child would die to take me alive).\nSometimes I just feel \"normal\" and then reality comes back and hit me in my face with a new complication (my medication take me alive but they have a lot of side effects)\nI don't plan my life, I just live it day by day, knowing that one of this days my doctors can tell me some bad news.\nIf i must describe what i feel, it will be a mix of angriness, resignation and a little bit of fear, knowing that life took my innocence away when i was a kid.\nSorry for my bad english but I'm italian", "summary": "Since my heart transplant i feel angry and depressed at the same time, knowing that medications save me and kill me at the same moment"}
{"id": "t3_10alvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23 F] not too sure what to think of my boyfriend [25] anymore.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for around ten months or so, and everything was going great up until maybe a month and a half ago. \nMy boyfriend is a highly opinionated guy who is very self-assured and considers himself to be elitist. He's very direct and blunt when it comes to basically everything, which I do actually appreciate 90% of the time. \nHere's my problem; there are times that his blunt attitude goes from just being open and direct to simply being an asshole (like saying flat out \"I see you've gained weight in the past few months, I'm just saying I prefer girls that are smaller than me\"). \nIn my past, I went through a lot of family drama that he is well aware of, and it left me with some issues that I've been dealing with and slowly moving past. He knows that I have these issues and normally he's very attentive and assuring, helping me through certain situations.  However, he can't grasp the fact that sometimes the things that he says- like saying that I have no social grace and that my best friend is a better person than I am essentially, really hurt my feelings. If I tell him that what he says offended me, it's somehow turned around and it's just that I'm being childish and that he could say he's sorry, but he wouldn't truly mean it (actual line used on me). \nAnother thing is that he is still really close friends with his ex-girlfriend, I was curious as to what was being said between them so I looked at their conversations on his phone and every now and then he would say something like that he was \"loosely tied down\" and very obviously flirt with her.\nThat being said, he isn't always acting like that, nine times out of ten he is a very caring and sweet guy, just whenever I disagree with him things get messy.", "summary": "blunt boyfriend  justified in his actions when we argue, or is he just being an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_53s5nr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] My EX [23 F] We were together for 2 years and she got married before 8 months", "post": "Hello,\n\nI just came here to get things out of my chest and to listen to what you guys have to say :(.\n\nI was into the best relationship in my life with that girl, I really  loved her, and she also loved me to much because I was the first love in her life. She did everything for me and she was always there for me no matter what. Our relationship was really great and we were 24/7 with each other we did everything together in the first 1.5 years. She was so obsessed with me much more than I was with her, for example, she couldn't sleep or do any thing unless I was there.\n\nLong story short, at the end of our relationship we went through some problems and we were fighting a lot [that what happens in relationships right?].. Well, at that time I was sick of it and I thought of pulling myself from that relationship for 2 months because I was in my last semester [engineering] and I didn't want anything to pressure me until I graduate [I graduated with 4/4 GPA]\n\nSo, I went away from 10/2015 till my graduation 12/2015 and then I came back 1/2016 . When I came back she came to see me and told me that she is going to get engaged and that shattered me into pieces I couldn't collect till now. So many conversations happened between us at that time, where she was crying and blaming me, and I felt that she was confused at that time, I tried to tell her that i'm coming for her and I want to marry her, she used so many excuses and I was turned down.\n\nSo, she got married on 2/8/2016, after that I saw that guy's profile by coincidence and it bugged me a lot, because he wasn't really her type, un employed and he was divorced before.", "summary": "Now it's been almost 8 months since she got married, and it wasn't like any past relationship, I didn't get over it easily and I always overthink stuff like.. why did she do that, will she contact me one day.. and stuff .. I REALLY MISS HER!"}
{"id": "t3_l4vru", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a 30 year old bartender who is  engaged with a child.    How do i get a real job to support my family?  Advice needed badly.", "post": "I was going to make a throw away, but who the hell cares, nothing to hide, i'm trusting you on this one Reddit. \n\nI'll be 31 years old, engaged and have a 2 year old daughter.  I'm a home owner in the Metro Detroit area, and it's way to small of a house for our family.  I'm currently a bartender, and have been most of my adult life.  I make decent money doing it, enough to pay the bills, but never enough to get ahead.   I've never really had a \"real job\" as a lot of people call them.  I'm a dedicated, hard worker, and have never had a job less then 2 years. \n\nWhat i want to know is, how do i go about getting out of this rut?   I don't even know where to start, how does someone my age get into a real job that pays well, health benefits would be nice and much needed with the family.  I feel like my career is the only thing holding me back from being who i want to be, i'm sick of struggling and just settling for mediocrity.  It's time to grow up and be more of a provider for my family, i don't ever want my daughter to go without anything that she may need, and in my current field, there are no promises of anything.  I don't want to be just a bartender my whole life. \n\nI'm just looking for advice from others that have been in my situation and how they got out of it.  From the hiring side of it too, what are you looking for?", "summary": "I hate my job, help me with the process of finding a new one."}
{"id": "t3_273kpy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/f] How do I become relationship-type and more feminine?", "post": "I don't think I'm relationship-type.  I'm also insecure about my level of femininity.  \nMen that I meet (work/socially) are hardly ever single.  The ones who are and that I get to know, I almost always develop a crush, but try so hard to hide it that they just end up becoming a good friend of mine.  They usually make it clear that they are attracted to me, but I disregard it.  I make it so easy to be comfortable with, the start sharing secrets and life stories and I do the same.  And that's where I know I screw up.  I also think I am headstrong, brazen and outspoken.  I'm very opinionated.  Also, I'm not as feminine (clothing) as other women.  I wear makeup, do cute hairstyles, wear lipstick, do my nails, wear jewelry, I have a perfume collection, etc.  But I do not wear skirts, dresses, or heels and open-toed shoes.  I think it is all beautiful, but I feel so alien like with it on.   I'm not a tomboy, I just don't like super girly attire.  I've had a male friend tell me that he and a lot of other men would date me if I was more feminine and submissive.  \nAlso, I've dated a couple of guys in the past who refuse to get serious with me.  They don't take me seriously romantically.  It seems like they'll try to hook up (9/10 times I'm not putting out) but not make anything exclusive.  I'm starting to feel real insecure.  Am I crazy and just don't know it?  Do men really only date super feminine women?  Am I too friendly?  How can I become more comfortable?  What do men like?  I'm at a age where I want to be in a relationship and fall in love, but I'm not sure if someone will ever accept me for me.  Sorry for the pity party.  I've been single for so long, I have to accept it is my fault.", "summary": "I can't get a date, not feminine enough, too outspoken, will someone ever like me for me or should I change?"}
{"id": "t3_3h2ikv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by staying up late", "post": "This just happened a couple of minutes ago and I am typing this up while laying in bed. I am a 15 year old boy and so of course I stay up late. I was on my computer in my living room playing some games and talking to my friends on skype. Everyone ended up dwindling off and so I finally decided to get off too. So I shut down my computer and get ready to go upstairs. I am at the bottom of the stairs about to turn on the light for upstairs when I hear one of the doors upstairs about to open. I just think ok I guess someone is going to the bathroom I won't turn on the light so I don't blind them. The door to my sisters room opens up and she comes out naked. I turn my away my eyes in disgusted and shout REALLY?!?!?!. She then proceeds to shout AHHHHH and hurries into the bathroom. I slowly walk up the stairs with that horrible image in my mind, go in my room and close my door waiting for my sister to get out of the bathroom so I can go. I hear the door open and her go into her room I sit there for a couple of seconds for good measure. Before I can get up my sister texts me \"Go ahead. Sorry I flashed you\". I just want the image out of my mind. I'm going to cry myself to sleep now.", "summary": "Have to bleach eyes all because I am nocturnal"}
{"id": "t3_43hgmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my FWB [20 M] 1 month. Fell in love with him.", "post": "Here's the situation. I have a friend I met 2 years ago. I started liking him and I let him know it, but we kept being friends. He didn't feel the same about me and I understood, so it was easy to keep things like they were before, as time went by I erased my feelings for him. Besides, he lives a thousand miles away from me (he lived in my city for a time while he was studying and then left).\n\nA month ago, he came back for vacations and we started dating, and were involved in a FWB situation, I lost my virginity to him. I decided to do that because we are good friends and everything was chill. Now he has a girlfriend in his city and I'm devastated. He doesn't know it and I don't wanna tell him, he thinks everything is fine (and it should be). He told me that he wants to be my friend forever and I don't wanna lose him as a friend, but I can't, since I'm in love with him. We love each other as friends.\n\nAnything you could advice or say (personal experience, eye-opening truth...) will be helpful, thanks! Sorry for my English, it's not my first language.", "summary": "My ex FWB has a girlfriend and I'm devastated. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_39g6vo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my GF [21 F] of 1 year having problem with introducing with friends", "post": "Hi, I will be short, and I need advice. So I have girlfriend that have few groups of friends. Most of them are single (90%) but I am interested in one group. There are one other girl (23) and 2 dudes (28 and 30), they are all single. And in more that 1 year of hanging out with her she didn't really introduced  me to them. We were together for about 1 month when I met them at her birthday and she introduced me as (Name), not boyfriend.\n\nI didn't have problems with that we were together just 1 month then but what pisses me off is that sometimes we have plans like going to specific place and she is like \"Ok, we will go there tomorow\" and then that group of friends ask her same question and she is ready to go today. Without me, I am not invited, nothing. And that didn't happened one time. I have few friends and everybody knows her and if I am going somewhere I always ask friends or her to come with me. But this is not case with her. They usually go to cinema, bowling, museums, parks etc. and even after 1 year she didn't invited me or introduced. \n\nWe almost live together and she met my friends, family and i met her family etc but this bothers me.", "summary": "My girlfriend have group of friends that she hangout but after 1 year I didnt introduced to them."}
{"id": "t3_2vxzqo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for confronting my friend for throwing me under the bus", "post": "All in all, I truly don't know if it was my fuck-up or my buds. Either way, its not fun.\n\nThis terrible tale of woe begins in with two friends and a shared passion for some possibly illegal substances. Now, my friend and I (I will call him G) have had a good long and fun shared history of  using this substance and having a hell of a time. G and I had been discussing these events pretty regularly via text messaging, and all was fine and dandy. However, G has recently started dating someone who in my opinion is a terrible person(but that wasn't any real business of mine). Now, what had not been part of my knowledge was that this girl(call her A) regularly enjoys reading through the texts of G, however none of this had been through G and my conversations about our glorious escapades. \nNow the fun begins- G had previously told me about some of the kinky shit that G and A had done, which was a bit upsetting because I truly despise the woman. But as of this afternoon, because G told me things that A wouldn't approve of, G took this as reason to let A read through G and my possibly incriminating adventures. This is where he fucked me over, as I do not trust A at all with any of this info. Rather than get my O.K. for it, he lets her read the Chronic-les of Narnia of drugs. To shorten this up, I got mad and confronted him about it; he blames me for ruining his day by being upset and is not responding to anything i send. Now I don't know whether or not to forgive him, or if he will still be my friend after all this is over. Sorry for less than perfect writing, Im upset.", "summary": "my friend finds a girl who ain't pretty;"}
{"id": "t3_2cne01", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by visiting an ex", "post": "This is a throwaway.\n\nI dated a girl from January to August of last year.  We were pretty intimate, and had sex regularly that often ended with me finishing inside her. (It was mutually enjoyed, as she was on contraceptives.)  We had a pretty nasty breakup, and we didn't talk for awhile. \n\nIn May of this year, she sent me a random text apologizing for things she said.  Feeling pretty frisky (and I suppose somewhat lonely), I offered to meet up and catch up with her.  I had no intention of rekindling our relationship, but hey, possible sex.  So we met at a bar, and I ended up going to her house.  We had sex in our normal fashion and proceeded to stay over for the night.  The next morning, we discussed our situation, and I confessed I didn't want to advance our relationship.  She somewhat reluctantly agreed.\n\nI've been seeing a new girl for about a month now, and things are amazing!  We click on every level, she's gorgeous, and I find myself thinking about her constantly.  I don't think I've ever been so intrigued by somebody after such a short amount of time. I think I've found the perfect girl.  Except...\n\nToday my ex called me.  She's pregnant.  She had secretly been off birth control for awhile, and she admitted that she thought a kid would be a way to \"keep us from fighting\" and to \"make us close again.\"\n\nYep.  I think I fucked up.  I don't know what to do, or how this girl I'm seeing will take it.", "summary": "Had a one night stand with exgirlfriend. She was crazy enough to stop taking contraceptives to purposefully have a kid with me without telling me."}
{"id": "t3_1z815m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [25 F] She broke up with me, I found out she was cheating. Should I confront her?", "post": "OK so first the background details. We've been together 4 years and live together. I truly love her and had planned on proposing to her later this year. 2 weeks ago she broke up with me over a silly fight. Said she need time to herself blah blah blah. I was devastated as I didn't see it coming. The weird part is she currently has been living with me after the breakup and will be here until next week which is when she will move out.\n\nNow for the juicy part. Today i opened her laptop and she was signed into her email. I found numerous chat logs of her and a male co worker talking sexually and she even had sent him a nude photo. These texts go back to November. Normally i don't like to snoop around so I feel super guilty, but I had been having suspicions all along. I remember about 3 months back her entire attitude had changed and she became more distant which is around the time she had also mentioned that there was a guy in her office who liked her. This is the guys shes been chatting with.\n\nNow, even though we are broken up I don't know what to do. Should I tell her I know? Even though it means exposing myself as having gone through her email? Should I just let it go? I feel like shit because this coworker of hers is married and basically I think instigated this whole ordeal for her to break up with me? Either way I'm at a loss.", "summary": "GF broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Still living together and now found out she had been cheating. Should I confront her or let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_22emae", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Bad cough just in my room?", "post": "Recently I developed a very annoying cough where I basically need to cough every 10 seconds or so due to a tickling in my throat. I've come to realize that this really only occurs when I'm in my room though and now I'm trying to figure out why. Well about a week ago I had an ant problem in my room and I didn't have any actual ant killing chemicals to get rid of them. So what I ended up doing was spraying them with Windex to kill them. However, I also have an area rug in my room that had ants all over it as well. So this carpet got kind of soaked with Windex which I did not soak up. What I'm wondering is if maybe the Windex or the ammonia in it has been irritating my throat and that's why I'm having this cough. I'm also worried if there are any serious health risks this could have. What do you guys think? Thanks.", "summary": "Bad cough only in my room; caused by Windex in carpet?"}
{"id": "t3_4fqaqs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21/F] is having a mental breakdown, how can I [21/M] help her?", "post": "My girlfriend is going through a rough patch in her life right now. She is a university student doing an extremely hard subject. She has a lot of pressure on herself right now due to fear of letting her parents down.\n\nTwo weeks ago she started having obsessional thoughts about death and not existing. This prospect scared her to the point of having several panic attacks every day. She isn't religious and does not believe in an afterlife. Going to church seemed to help at first, but she is simply too inquisitive and scientific-minded to genuinely believe in an afterlife.\n\nNow the panic attacks seem to have subsided but she is still having these thoughts. It usually manifests itself as an hour long period of not being able to function and then suddenly gathering up the energy to study for hours. She doesn't feel comfortable talking to her parents about this anymore because they tell her she is crazy. She has told me herself that the feeling is so unbearable she wishes that she just didn't exist sometimes.\n\nI am encouraging her to get as much physical activity as possible and showing my support, but I feel clueless what else I can do to make her feel better? I try to avoid the subject of death now because nothing I say makes her feel any better; she counters anything I say with \"so what's the point, we are all going to disappear in the end.\" When she isn't having these thoughts, she is fairly normal, but they happen often enough to affect her day-to-day functioning.\n\nGoing to the doctor isn't a realistic option right now for various reasons.", "summary": "Girlfriend recently developed a fear of not existing after death, this is on top of exam stress and some other problems, how can I be a supportive boyfriend for her?"}
{"id": "t3_17loda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] feel like I lose connection with my girlfriend [17f] during the week, but it flares up on the weekends. Lack of PDA problem?", "post": "My girlfriend and I were friends for a very long time and in the last two months have become a thing. I really really like her and as far as I can tell, she is really into me, but we have a problem. \n\nShe haaaaates PDA which is kind of a problem because we spend a lot of time together during the week in classes and other activities. To be fair, I don't really like PDA either but she hates it with a passion and refuses to let it happen. Consequently, I feel like we drift apart during the week. But wait there's more! On the weekends we will get together 2 or 3 times at either her place or mine and good god do we get together. There's so much passion when we're together on the weekends (alone) but then come Monday morning (in public), everything shuts down. Do you have any advice on what I can do to remain intimate during the week without PDA?", "summary": "A lack of PDA during the week and totally insane weekends have me feeling all over the place about this relationship. How can I keep things interesting during the week?"}
{"id": "t3_30m3ye", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Going from Temp to Perm... but pay is the same and no benefits (need advice)", "post": "So I was hired right after college to work for a global company. I've been here 6 months as a temp and was promoted to a permanent position as of last week. When going over my new roles (I work in HR) they basically laid out that I will have more responsibilities but my pay will be the same at $12/hr with less hours at 25 instead of the 30 I had as a temp. And that I will have no benefits. \nI've talked to my supervisor about this and the company has some sort of policy that they can't give raises until after an employee has been there 1 year (I'm going on 6 months).", "summary": "Is it worth the wait for another 6 months for a pay increase/possible benefits? Or should I start looking elsewhere? Also this is my first job at a major corporate company and have been gaining great experience in the HR / IT field."}
{"id": "t3_35j19m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my coworker [29 F] working together for 3 years, How do I get back to being just friendly coworkers?", "post": "edit typo: Me [24 M]\n\nWe've been working together for about 3 years and I just started to feel really attached to her in the last 4 months. I never told her and I did the best I could not to hint at anything because she is already in a relationship. I accepted that we will never be together and I'm starting to feel less shitty when I'm not around her. \n\nThe problem is. We still go to lunch together and see each other about once or twice a week. \n\nAny tips on how to forget about romantic feelings for her?", "summary": "I [24M/single] need tips for burying my romantic feelings for female coworker [29F/in relationship]"}
{"id": "t3_iby2f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New grad, regretting missed opportunities, what should I do now?", "post": "Long story short, I'm a new grad and didn't do a good job of really using my college time to explore interests and do extracurricular stuff.  I had no life and was overloaded with too many courses every semester, and it seemed like I just hadn't gained the maturity I needed to understand this until it was too late.\n\nEven though I'm working full time now there are still many things I'm regretting- didn't study abroad, didn't do clubs, didn't try courses in other areas, etc.  I realize that the adult world is about squeezing in those things when you get the chance...I'm not sure how to put it.  Even though I'm still 21 I feel like I'm already past a prime...pun not intended :P  \n\nI've been doing a lot of reading in topics of interest but what I should be focusing on now that I've graduated?  Should I just start teaching myself? Is it a good idea to spend money on misc community college courses?  Grad school? Do I sit and save money (which I am currently doing)?  \n\nThe amount of different directions available is overwhelming. I'm sure this is commonly heard, but I'd completely change everything about my college experience if I do it over again.", "summary": "Just graduated and have a good job but looking for advice on continuing to maximize potential and pursue other interests beyond school."}
{"id": "t3_1844si", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is there a statute of limitations for being upset on finding out your wife cheated?", "post": "My wife and I are both in our mid-20s and we have been married for almost two years. Tonight we were driving home in our new car and she wanted to show me how the bluetooth for the car stereo was able to sync up with the music on her cell phone. She attempted to change the song and instead a homemade recording came on. It was her 'sexy' voice saying, \"My darling sweet...\" \n\nAs soon as she heard it she tried to skip past it and then paused it. She said it was her practicing singing for me and she didn't want to be embarrassed by me hearing it. I honestly believed that was the truth when she said that so I'm trying to unpause it to hear it. She refuses again and even slaps my hands away. \n\nShe has never been embarrassed about singing before so this sits weird with me and I just silently creep out in my seat for a few minutes before I demand to hear it. She agrees, but then tries to stop and pause it again. Finally we are parked outside our apartment and I'm in a full spiral-shaking from the inside out-into a panic attack and she finally plays it. There are two audio recordings of her that she has made for some guy, who she refers to in the recordings only as 'master'. They are of a severe sexual nature. She is telling him that isn't wearing any panties, etc. Whats irks me even more is that the other message is somewhat of a romantic gesture and she is calling to tell him good morning. Needless to say Im freaking the fuck out at this point. We argue and she claims that this was a 1 1/2 week long online affair with some guy she never met in real life. \n\nShe claims the recordings were from 10 months ago, made about a month after her Mom died. She claims that this was a one time act of desperation, and she's never done anything like this before... but that always seems to be what a cheater would say, right? I did NOT see this coming at all. Any advice or common experience?", "summary": "Found out my wife was having a short online affair 10 months ago, but I just found out tonight."}
{"id": "t3_l4cki", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I need hope.", "post": "So I've been job hunting since recovering from spine surgery back in March. The biggest problem I'm facing is that after $200k worth of education I still have literally no idea what to do. On top of that, I'm living at home with my parents now at 23 (graduated last year) and want nothing more than to move out. But without an actual good paying job, I can't move out and pay off $10k for the surgery (surprise surprise, I got fucked by my insurance company). I'll be going to see a psychiatrist next week, but I feel like I'm now at a constant breaking point. Almost anything can make me snap right now, causing my anxiety to peak and I my thought process to stop (I basically sit there quietly hyperventilating in order to not lash out against friends and family... which I have started doing). On top of that, the only job I've found that is even worth it has 3 months of unpaid training... and even then it's not really certain it will be the right job for me (as I said, I have literally no idea what I want to do for a living... I have goals and dreams, but no confidence or esteem of myself). I need some help, hope, or outside thought. I'm desperate. Please.", "summary": "Short of wanting to actually kill myself, I don't really enjoy being alive. I know this is pathetic and ridiculous, but Reddit has been the only thing that has made me really smile since joining, so I hoped you guys would be able to offer any advice or help. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_4lzofc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] am very in love with my bf/ex who I am still hanging out with and talking to but he is taking a long time to get on his feet. I met a new guy recently [21 M] who is more put together than my ex. I still love my ex but should I talk to the new guy?", "post": "My ex/bf who I am still trying to work things out with right now is taking a really long time to get on his feet.  I've invested a lot in this relationship, but I feel like it's going nowhere.  I've tried to date another person when my ex and I weren't talking but I still wasn't over my ex and we ended up trying to work things out again.\n\nI keep telling my ex to get a job because it's not going to work if he's unemployed and neither of us have cars and if he wants to get a place with me, that's not going to happen with him being unemployed.\n\nRecently I met a new guy who has a job, has a car, is clean cut, cute everything a person could ask for in someone...but the problem is I'm still in love with my ex/bf very much but I'm done waiting for him to get on his feet.\n\nShould I talk to this new guy even though I think I might be in love with my ex for a very long time?  I  have passed up other good people because I was still in love with my ex and I thought I couldn't date anyone else...but now I found a really good guy and I keep trying to tell myself I can't wait for my ex/bf anymore.  My ex/bf is financially draining me and I'm tired of supporting him when I'm trying to save up so we can get an apartment.", "summary": "I love my ex/bf very much.  We're still talking but he's taking a really long, long time to get on his feet.  I met a new guy who is put together who at least has a car, is employed and can take me places, cute, nice, everything. My ex and I don't have cars or our own place and it's been very difficult for some private time.  Among other things, I just feel like it won't work out with my ex/bf...should I wait for my ex to get on his feet or forget it and talk to the new guy (but I'm also still in love with my ex that I'm still kind of talking to)?"}
{"id": "t3_2s3q5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] Am Worried My Boyfriend [18] Doesnt Love Me Anymore", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for almost three years, since sophomore year of high school. We were crazy about each other, literally. We called each other each night before bed, had lots of dates, texted all the time and hung out every second of every day. I loved it, and he seemed to have loved it as well. We were so happy together, everyone was totally jealous of how he treated me. \n\nBut ever since August of 2014, I feel as if he is distancing himself from me, and I don't know why. I have been trying so hard to be the best girlfriend I can possibly be, but everything I do seems to distance him more. We hardly text anymore, we barely get to see each other because he sleeps most of the day and I work nights (not to mention he leaves for basic training in a few days and I won't have any communication for about three months). He hasn't called me \"beautiful\" or told me how much I mean to him in so long, I don't know how he really feels about me anymore. (Maybe I'm just being needy there, but what girl doesn't want her boyfriend to tell her how he feels every so often?) He has told me so many times that he is over the \"lovey dovey\" phase, and isn't a kid anymore. I try not to argue with that, but with constant need for validation it's hard not to want to hear it. Maybe he just doesn't feel that way anymore?\n\n I don't want to be with anyone else because I have literally gave him every bit of my being.  I'm worried I love him more than he loves me. Any advice?", "summary": "Afraid boyfriend doesn't love me anymore, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_4rcpyt", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Overly frustrated with soon to be in-laws, wedding planning in general", "post": "Hi everyone,\nI proposed to my girlfriend this past March and we have done zero planning for it so far. I always wanted a big wedding until I came out and then the reason people get married completely changed for me. Now I just see it as I want to spend the rest of my life with her, not go into a lot of debt (neither of our parents are helping pay for it) and be stressed out, just so we can wait for the day to be over to move on with our lives. We're also saving for a down payment for a house. We were thinking of going to the courthouse and then throwing a party for everyone but that's  not good enough for her parents. because then aunts and uncles may feel excluded because we can't bring a million people to the courthouse and she's the only daughter so her dad wants to walk her down the aisle. I have three sisters, so my dad has been there done that. We were then thinking of a destination wedding but it would be really expensive for her parents to pay for her brothers to come (three younger brothers, still in college/hs) and her parents tried guilting her about her brothers not being there. Really, if we could go and get married today and move on from it and do nothing for it we would. But it seems unless we do wedding/reception everyone's going to be mad. \n\nSorry for the long rant, but does anyone have advise on what to do? Has anyone done/seen the \"screw you we got married at the courthouse now moving on from this\" move? How has it worked out?", "summary": "we both just want to go to a courthouse, her family wants this to be a huge deal. How to compromise when it's you paying and planning for it."}
{"id": "t3_536y2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Afraid of my (29f) husband (27m) leaving me at his cousins wedding.", "post": "Okay well, not *leaving* leaving. I'm not very good with crowds- they make me incredibly anxious to the point where I'll have a panic attack. Knowing my husband will, at least, be there with me usually helps me feel more comfortable around crowds. I'll know a fair bit of people there, so it's not like I won't have anyone to talk to. It's just the sheer amount of people that makes me freak out. \n\nMy husband, however, doesn't understand this. He enjoys going from one set of people he likes to another, and usually in ways that would a) be impossible for me to follow him or b) make it very creepy if I were to try. He always tells me I should just try opening up and talking to people without him, but with the amount (even over 20 people) will start to make me nervous. \n\nI don't want to hinder him in any way, and I don't want to be a \"ball and chain\" to him. But I also feel like he's a little bit obligated to me as his wife to reassure me if I'm scared or anxious. What should I do? Is there a way of explaining this rationally, or am I just being unreasonable.", "summary": "Husband and I are going to a wedding with lots of people. He likes moving around and talking to people, and I hate being in crowds. Is there a way we can reconcile these, or am I being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_1cbuw2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21/f) Husband (23/m) is honest and attracted to a coworker", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my husband for 3 years now (married 1year) and we have a child. We fell in love in college but our relationship started with him choosing between me and another woman (we started as FWB) and after a bit of drama (nothing to dramatic really) he chose to be with me in a commited relationship. Fast foward to last year around october, we are enjoying sime alcoholic beverages and he lets it slip that in the very early days of our relationship he cheated on me...3 times. Of course I was shocked, hurt, angry, ect but we were married at this point and he was very ashamed so we talked about it and I decided to just try and handle it. I let him know that his trust card had been revoked and it would take a lot of work and time to get it back. well here we are now, he has been working at this place for 2 years and recently told me of a woman that works in the pffice upstairs for weeks her name kept coming up and I even gave him a book to give to her on a subject we are both interested in. Yesterday he confessed they were attracted to one another and that he felt bad because she flirted with him and he let her and he flirted back. He told he had been working up the courage to tell me for a couple weeks now and he tells me he will tell her today he can no longer be aroumd her or talk to her because of their attraction. Problem solved? \n\nI told him I was happy he told me and did not freak out on him because I want him to tell me these things in the future but my self esteem has always suffered and now it is even more crushed. I do not know what to think or feel or how to get over his past cheating and become a confident person. I feel lost.. Help?", "summary": "my husband with a history of cheating is attracted to another coworker and my self esteem is nonexisisent at this point"}
{"id": "t3_2x4re2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] I'm not sure whether engaging in a friends with benefits with [17F] is a good idea as my friends dislike her.", "post": "There's a girl at college who's liked me ever since I came there and she's been very clear in her attraction to me.  I'd be totally comfortable with reciprocating but unfortunately she isn't well liked by anyone really, especially my friends. \n\nHowever, we were talking recently about her attraction to me and the idea came up that we could engage in a semi-sexual, friends with benefits relationship with her, as we're both willing to engage sexually but I don't want to lose my virginity to someone I'm not in a long-term relationship with. \n\nAnother thing I'm afraid of is anyone finding out about this 'affair', because I doubt people would respect me that much if we'd just used each other for sexual gratification, regardless of whether or not we both wanted it. She could tell her friends or I could become overwhelmed with guilt about the whole thing and tell my friends, but I doubt they'd be too sympathetic.\n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "Becoming secret friends with benefits with someone whom most of my friends hate, what are your thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2wfs8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] can't seem to get attached anymore", "post": "So my last relationship, which ended ten months ago, seems to be affecting me more than I originally thought. I have troubles getting attached to anyone I've dated since then. And yes, it ended because of insecurities and trust issues. I've never had any sort of issue with commitment in my adult life. It's actually one thing I want, to find someone, get married, have kids, you know the whole \"American Dream\". \n\nSo in those ten months, I've dated about a dozen or so women from all different walks of life. Rich and poor, educated not so educated, conservative liberal, prudes and nymphos, skinny Minnie's and bbws, hipsters to hill billies. And here I am, empty handed still. The problem lies with me, I'm aware of this, I just can't figure how to get past my mental/emotional block. I'm open with my emotions and thoughts, I'm naturally a very trusting person, and I've been ready to see other women for about five or six months now (first few months were spent trying to rekindle with other women from my past but all resulted in just a fwb scenario). \n\nSo my question to all you redditors out there is A: wtf is wrong with me? and B: if I'm walking in your shoes, what did you do to get out of your funk?", "summary": "Can't get attached anymore, and can't figure whats wrong with me"}
{"id": "t3_27lpd0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Reddit, am I in trouble with the law?", "post": "Hi ! I was just DD'ing for my friends on a saturday night. I have expired plates as of may 30th and my insurance proof was at home.  A cop pulled me over to tell me that my plates were expired. I understand I should not have been driving but I have been late on getting them renewed (this is in canada by the way).\n\nThe officer took my license and asked me for my proof of insurance, I did not have it so I told him so. He gave me back my license and did not ticket me or anything, he merely told me to meet him at the station before his shift tomorrow and bring the insurance proof. Currently am I in trouble? \n\nThe problem is the station is way across the city and I don't want to drive without my plates renewed. If I did not make the trip to show him my insurance proof tomorrow as he requested will he be able to ticket me or arrest me, he does have my name and license number and all the information on the license but the address on my license is not mine.. what I really want to know is that as of right now if I do not drive my car until I have my tags and insurance up to date and do not provide the documents the police officer asked me to provide will I be in trouble", "summary": "Police pulled me over, technically I committed an offence, did not receive a ticket or a citation. Is there anyway I can be charged for the misdemeanor after the fact ?"}
{"id": "t3_4n1bgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] and gf [36F] of 3yrs, she is pushing me away and I don't know what to do", "post": "My gfs sister became mentally ill a few years ago. Every year it gets worse, we'v tried everything we can think of to get her sister help. At this point I'v lost all hope for her sister, all I see is how it breaks her family apart. \n\nThroughout the process I'v begged my gf to find time to take care of herself, she wont. When it got worse I'd ask her repetedly to see a therapist, we could do it as a couple if she wanted. She refuses. \n\nMy gf is burning out emotionally and she doesn't see it herself. Shes becoming depressed and is developing anxiety for just about everything in everyday life. \n\nWhen I come home I usually take a cigarette before going in, mustering every bit of positivity I can find, hoping it will rub off on my gf. It usually takes hours, but I get her to smile before we go to bed. It exhausts me. \n\nOur relationship is dissapearing. I don't know what to do. Whatever I say makes her instigate a fight. Somehow it's always my fault. \n\nWe haven't had sex for months. Any small thing I forget leads to a huge fight. She shows zero interest in my life. Im graduating this week with a degree in engineering, she doesnt know what date I graduate.\n\nI dont know how to make her see what is what and that this is a depression. And that none should try to handle a depression by themselves. I dont know where I can the strenght to power through.\n\nI just don't know anymore, we are loosing a piece of us everyday. At this point Im just venting. \n\nAny thoughts would be greatly appriciated", "summary": "gf is becoming depressed and I am helplessly watching our relationship fade"}
{"id": "t3_39uvju", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [22M] cut contact from a girl [23F], she ended up texting me today.. need advice", "post": "Cut contact with this girl because she still had a boyfriend.  I let her know that I saw us as more then friends and that when she becomes single for her to contact me and if not best of luck with everything.\n\nthree days later I get a text (legit 10 minutes ago).  \nShe said, \"Just so you know we broke up.\"  (meaning her and her boyfriend.)  Now, I do not know how to respond, do I ask why, ask her how come, ask her when... \n\nThing is we have been friends for a few months and I just could not do the friends thing anymore, so I decided cutting contact would be in MY best interests.  I can not ask her on any dates though because she is in Florida till october, and I just need advice on how to approach this situation.  Such as how to handle, stay in contact, be there for her, all the while keeping attraction up to what it was beforehand so that when she comes home our lives can intertwine again.\n\nThanks Reddit,", "summary": "cut contact with a girl because she had a bf, told her text me when single if she ever is going to be, texted me today, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_441fsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (32F) am afraid I am programmed to be a cheater", "post": "I know people freak out about infidelity here, but please try to be constructive. \n\nA bit of background, I married my highschool sweetheart. The marriage became extremely abusive, he broke my arm, my ribs, knocked some of my teeth out and raped me more times than I can count. Towards the end of that relationship I got tangled up in an emotional affair with a coworker. I think, and my therapist agreed, that this was born from needing an escape from what my life was like. The other guy was a total pillar of strength, and helped me leave my ex. When the marriage was over I made the choice that I needed to be alone, the other guy and I parted ways. \n\nI've been with my now husband (35M) for about 5 years now. He is sweet and kind and gentle. I adore him. \n\nThe problem is lately I catch my self flirting or fixating a lot on other men. I hit it off with a guy at a party and we sent a few flirty texts. I felt like garbage and deleted his number a few days after. \n\n I always thought that the emotional affair was purely a symptom of a horrible situation, but maybe I'm just a cheater? The idea upsets me a lot. Can cheating be purely situational or is a cheater just always a cheater?", "summary": "had an emotional affair to escape an abusive relationship, starting to think I would be a cheater no matter what."}
{"id": "t3_25690n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] dated one of my best friends [16F] but she suddenly became hateful towards me.", "post": "I got to know this girl about 7 months ago. It began her talking to me anonymously. Eventually she told me who she was and we started talking and such, you know.\n\nAs we talked, I found out we had a lot of similarities. For awhile I thought she was lying to me to get close to me but she wasn't. So as time passed we grew closer and did a sport together.\n\nIt was starting to be clear that she liked me so i decided why not and started to like her a little bit too. So when I asked her out I got a yes so life was good.\n\nNow to the problem, so I was with her a bit more than she wanted, so she wanted space and I gave it to her, no problem there. It did annoy her though and I felt bad. When I started giving her space the separation did not help. She became negative and barely talked to me, when we did it was one worded answers. She would almost be pushing me away to leave her alone or just walk away before I had the chance to start a conversation.\n\nSkipping forward in time the separation grew to the point where we would barely make eye contact and when we did it was a glare. Then the mind games started. She had a guy friend that she knew longer than me that she started talking to more and more and I'm not 100% sure that she likes him or not. She bites at the bit to piss me off, down to the smallest detail. Cutting me out of social media and (attempting to) turn friends against me. My friends do not agree with what she is doing and they want to help but they don't know how without getting her mad.\n\nWill time fix this problem which has persisted for around a month and a half? Is she just an asshole? My problem why i haven't just gotten over her by now was that we were so happy about two months ago. And around some friends she is the same happy, smiling girl that I saw. Is she trying to tell me something? Or is it time to move on?", "summary": "I was really close with a girl but then she slowly became hateful and I'm confused why she is like this."}
{"id": "t3_1h1xfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am in love with my co-worker [18M] for almost 3 years now...", "post": "Me and my co-worker are working together for almost 3 years. He doesn't know that I like him, but we are flirting. \n\nLast november I was joking around and asked him to go to the movies with me. He agreed, so I thought he liked it. He reminded me every time we worked together of our date (he didn't called it a date...) and we were talking about it on FB. \n\nAfter a few weeks, he suddenly told me it was a joke. But he told some of our other co-workers that we were going. I was dissapointed, so I ignored him for several weeks. But now, he is flirting with me again and I don't know what to do. Does he like me or not?", "summary": "I'm in love with my co-worker, but I'm not sure about what he feels for me."}
{"id": "t3_13czob", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When have you made a mistake and not told the person it affected so they wouldn't freak out?  I'll start.", "post": "So I'm in the Asian Club at my high school and we were selling Asian food at a fair today.  People were bringing in Indian food, Chinese food, Korean food, etc.  One kid brought in egg rolls.  I started selling the food, and a girl comes over to buy some.  She says she's a vegetarian and asks what food doesn't have meat in it.  I show her the egg rolls and she ends up buying them.  Five minutes later, someone tells me they had pork in them.  I run to go find the girl and tell her, but just as I am about to warn her, I see she's already finished.  I figure I can either not tell her, or tell her and have her freak out.  I chose not to tell her, but I still feel guilty about selling her the egg rolls.", "summary": "I let a vegetarian eat meat and didn't tell her"}
{"id": "t3_40xjc1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need advice on how to get in touch with a female.", "post": "So there's this girl (a friend of a friend), and I'm quite interested in her. The first time we talked was at a friend thing with me and her, my friend and her boyfriend; but that was a year ago. The second was at a 'game-night' on Friday (where I talked a lot more).\n\nAnyway, I'm at a loss on where to go from here. I want to get in touch with her again, but don't really know how to go about it, especially without sounding weird. I'm incredibly shy and never have anything to really say, so I wouldn't talk much anyway but I'd really like to talk to her more and see if it might go anywhere.", "summary": "Friend of Friend (girl) I don't know how to talk to with; also terrible with conversation."}
{"id": "t3_1s57bs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice please, jealousy issues...", "post": "Is it jealousy or am I paranoid? My boyfriend (21) and I (F20) have been together almost 5 months, he has two phones, one he uses for talk and text, then one that isn't activated which he uses for internet on my wifi. He doesn't have a password on his talk/text phone but there is one on the one used for internet. We met online, after we got together, I deactivated all the accounts I had for sites used to meet people. He is still using the one we met on, to \"meet friends\" he says, which could be true, MeetMe isn't technically a dating site. He also has two Facebook accounts, I got snoopy and the one I'm on is pretty normal, the other one I'm not friends with, he is friends with only girls, all excessively slutty looking I might add. Any time he gets a text from a girl, even if I know her, on the inside the green monster wants to go berzerk. We live together, he is currently unemployed and we only have one car, so part of me is arguing that he couldn't be doing anything sketchy since he has no chance, but I work a lot. I don't want to second guess him, I love him like crazy, but I just can't make myself not paranoid. I'm beyond afraid of getting hurt...anyone have any advice? I know I should probably just talk to him, but I don't want him to freak and say I don't trust him, it isn't him I don't trust...I know how some women can be, \"lead me not into temptation\" \n\nalso, I know we probably moved in together too quickly, but here's some background on that: we live in the same apartment complex, he was staying the night all the time and was here all the time, so it kinda just happened, he still has his other apartment, so if things get rough he can go home for a while until things cool down, its not like most \"we live together situations\" its anytime reversible.", "summary": "My boyfriend put a password on his phone, kinda out of the blue...I'm bugging."}
{"id": "t3_4jx5gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [31 M] and my wife [31 F] are excited to be pregnant but nervous to tell my brother [30 M] and his wife [33 F] since they recently had a miscarriage.", "post": "Thanks for all the suggestions on my post yesterday.  There were a lot of good suggestions and I appreciate the support.  My wife and I told my parents last night at dinner and they were thrilled for us.  We discussed how to tell my brother and SIL and decided it would be best if I called him personally and ask him the best way to let my SIL know.  I called and told my brother I had a question to ask him and said \"how do you feel about being an uncle?\".  His reaction was very positive and he seemed quite excited.  I tried to begin to ask how I should tell his wife but before I could he shouted over to her \"hey [OP's SIL] they're having a baby!\".  I could hear her shout excitedly in the background and wish us congratulations.  We chatted for a couple minutes and he joked \"so I guess you won't be coming to visit us for Christmas this year?\" (baby is due 12/30) and all was good.\n\nOP link: \n\nThanks for the advice.  Seems like I was more concerned than I needed to be but I'm glad we took a careful approach.  Thanks reddit!", "summary": "Told my brother over the phone and went well, everyone is excited!"}
{"id": "t3_ddoay", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a name for this phenomenon?", "post": "I went to the bar last night for a friend's 21st. When I returned home, I went to sleep.\n\nDuring my sleep I had a very intense dream about myself and several friends being held hostage in my own house by 14 armed men (probably because my thoughts were still on the fact that my house was burglarized yesterday morning). In this dream, I kept trying to escape the hostage-takers, but consistently failed. Then, when the dream got to the part where I was supposed to be shot, I jolted awake and realized I hadn't set my alarm before going to sleep.\n\nThinking I was very late for work, I panicked, jumped out of bed, and looked over at my alarm clock to see the time was 8:25am - 5 minutes before the time my alarm clock would have gone off had I remembered to set it.", "summary": "Is there a name for the phenomenon where a person wakes up right when they were supposed to without using an alarm clock? Is it different if you fall asleep drunk? "}
{"id": "t3_113ik9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Second-guessing my AWESOME relationship and I need help reddit!", "post": "I'm a 24/m in a great relationship with a 19/f. We've been together for almost 10 months and things are good. She's WONDERFUL and I couldn't ask for anything more. She's cute, smart, funny, independent and so supportive it's almost scary. However, I find myself second-guessing our relationship. Thoughts almost constantly plague me about whether or not she's \"who I'm supposed to be with.\" To be honest redditors, I'm scared. To make things more complicated she just moved in(after having BIG problems with her previous roommate and not having anywhere else to really go). I want her around, I want her in my life but I just don't know what to do(or not do). I find myself with \"grass is greener\" syndrome and every other mildly cute girl I see I wonder if it'd be better with them. I have no idea what better would be though. I love her and my family loves her yet I find myself doubting this good thing we have. I want to get out of my own way and be happy. Any suggestions? I REALLY want this to work.. it's the best relationship I've ever had!\n\nThanks guys", "summary": "I'm in a great relationship but scared that it's not \"right.\" We just moved in together and I find myself full of doubt even though it's a good thing."}
{"id": "t3_2l7ewt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] want to get the balance absolutely perfect for my boyfriend's [25M] birthday... what's too much and what's too little?!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and everything is about as perfect as it can be. He's the most thoughtful, sweet, loving guy in my life and I really want to do something special!\n\nMy problem is finding that line between lazy and overkill - this is the first birthday in our relationship so I'm going to be the one setting the bar... tricky business. Plus my ideas are usually terrible, so any help you guys can give from experience would be so appreciated! My plan so far is based off the idea that he appreciates outings and activities more than 'stuff'. My idea is to start off doing something fun by going bowling (we're both fiercely competitive) then heading out for a nice dinner. After that head for drinks and the big surprise will be that I've booked us a hotel room and there will be fancy lingerie involved.\n\nSo here's the question: ...too much? Not enough? Is it weird not to give a gift? Should I just ditch the whole evening plan and buy him some cologne and a sweater? \n\nI've googled ideas and all I get are suggestions to make it 'personal' but honestly I have no idea how to do that.", "summary": "my gift ideas are terrible. Please help me!"}
{"id": "t3_1a4k2o", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Why I love and hate Nike+", "post": "Was feeling not so motivated to run my 6 miles tonight. I'm a morning runner and by the end of the day I'm wiped. But I overslept today due to the time change. Well I was getting my ass in gear to run at least *some* of my 6 miles when I checked the Nike+ site. One of my friends was ahead of me by 10.5 miles. Son of a B*tch! (in a nice way). \n\nThat's it. Strapped on the the shoes, got my iPod synched. Put on Raiders of the Lost Ark and jumped on the treadmill. 1 hour 24 minutes and 10.7 miles later I stepped off feeling great. Ended my workout. I had to calibrate because I had to restore my iTouch earlier today. and that's where things went wrong. Not horribly, but it wouldn't calibrate and only recorded 9 miles. UGHH! Back onto the treadmill for another 1.9 miles! I did a little extra just to be sure.\n\nTo add salt to the wound, the Nike site did not record my 6 mile run from Friday. Oh well. The \"downside\" is that I ran extra miles and that's a great downside.", "summary": "Love the friendly competitive motivation Nike+ provides. Technology can be twitchy."}
{"id": "t3_s2bt1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It's my Dad's Birthday, and I'm out of ideas!", "post": "So going through my head trying to think of the things I have already bought him and what he needs, but now I'm stumped! He's a guitar teacher, so obviously he's very musical, he likes old movies and red wine. I have managed to be super creative in these categories for the past 15 of his birthdays but seeing as he has seen nearly every good pre 70s movie under the sun and he's bound to get really nice wines as gifts from his students, I just wanted to be a bit more creative this year. So, any ideas? :S\n\nCheers! :)", "summary": "It's my Dad's birthday, he likes music, old movies and wine, I need creative suggestions for a present as I am out of them."}
{"id": "t3_ciqdi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am a narcoleptic who has lost hope", "post": "So, I never thought it might come to this.\n\nI have narcolepsy. For the longest time, I felt that I had it under control. In school, my condition was misunderstood and I was ridiculed by my peers as well as my teachers. I overcame and found a nice job. I was laid off because of the recession and took up a job with a certain job with a certain game-related company. I tried my best to excel at my job, to the point where I became the Go-To-Guy for information on technical resolutions and policy matters. \n\nToday, I was demoted because my narcolepsy sometimes gets the better of me and I miss work. I cannot afford medical insurance nor the medicine to make it less of an issue ($500 for a month's supply). I was told that the ADA did not apply because attendance was a hard requirement for being a higher level agent. Our HR person told me that any job I get will have a requirement about attendance and that the ADA will never side with me. I am forced to assume an entry level position in a job I used to love. I feel as though my hard work will never pay off now, because my narcolepsy will also stop me from advancing and that ADA does not apply to me. \n\nI still feel like I'm being discriminated against but if what HR told me is true then I do believe that any career I take will be hampered by this condition, which cannot be cured. \n\nPlease, tell me there are options. I feel as though I'm about to slip into a state of depression that I had left behind me so long ago. I don't want to be there. Please, tell me that there is hope.\n\nThrowaway account for obvious reasons..", "summary": "Demoted to entry-level position at work because of narcolepsy. Losing hope in my ability to hold a career because my condition will hamper me eventually and I will become unreliable in the eyes of my employer."}
{"id": "t3_3x4uq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [20M] is failing out of college and I'm not. I have absolutely no idea what to do.", "post": "Hi guys. I'm gonna keep this short for privacy reasons. Also throwaway. \n\nMy boyfriend is a wonderful, sweet, caring person, but no matter how hard he works, he is just not good at school. We go to a competitive college (his dream school) and he's currently stuggling. If he has one more bad semester, he'll have to transfer to a smaller school and live at home for financial reasons. \n\nOn the other hand, my grades are pretty good. I'm no scholar, but I do well. \n\nI have no idea how to be there for him through this without sounding like a jackass. I can't really empathize with him because I've never been through that. I can tell he's frustrated and disappointed, but he also doesn't want to talk about it. \n\nI love him so much and it kills me to see him like this. Anyone have any ideas about how to make him feel better? Should I let him work through it on his own? I'd really rather talk to him about it to show that I care about him and that I'll be there for him. \n\nHow do I bring it up? How can I help him to not feel so bad about this? How can I let him know that if he has to transfer it'll be okay? I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I think he's definitely going to fail out?", "summary": "Boyfriend is failing out of the college we met at. It's his dream school. I'm doing fine. I have no idea how to be there for him."}
{"id": "t3_24p1uo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21/f) broke up with my bf (23/m) a week ago. Was it the right thing to do?", "post": "note: throwaway because he's a reddit lurker.\n\nme and my boyfriend would have been together for a year at the end of the month. We broke up after a conversation a week ago about our happiness came up (I asked if he was happy and what was happening to us after a weird patch). We mutually decided to end it and stay friends but I'm starting to regret it.\n\nI'm worried that our unhappiness was merely due to my health problems and school stress getting me down and his sister is dying making him unhappy. I have felt worse than ever since and I just want to be with him. I told him I missed him last night and he told me he misses me too.\n\nAlso, a big part of me not thinking it was exactly the best idea to work it out was that next year i'm leaving for a month or two to travel then in 2.5 years when I finish studying I plan on leaving to find a new home somewhere in this big world. He says travelling doesn't interest him when it's my whole life plan to travel. Yet since meeting him my life plan wants to include him, what if he doesn't change his mind?\n\nDo you guys think it's a good idea to talk to him about this all? I'm worried that if I do and he doesn't want to work this out the friendship we have will go to shit and I will be left COMPLETELY alone - note: i have very little friends as it is, none of which I can talk to about my health problems, he's my guy. I don't want to lose my friend.", "summary": "broke up with my bf, want to tell him how i feel but don't want to lose my best friend."}
{"id": "t3_2kipo8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20f] think I might have fucked up a friendship and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So me and my best friend, \"Jane\" [21f] have been best friends for about a year, prior to us knowing each other she dated \"Paul\" [23m]. They broke up, but they're still friends. The three of us took a summer class together and we were pretty much inseparable. Get back to main campus and \"Paul\" dates this other girl and \"Jane\" is upset and doesn't talk to him for a month. Flash forward a year to present, the three of us are still very close, hangout most weekends. Now I kinda like Paul now, but I've been ignoring that because he dated Jane, so I know I shouldn't and I casually date a few other guys. Well this past weekend Jane goes home (we're college students). So friday night I'm texting Paul and we discover we're both about to watch the same movie. He asks if I wanna watch it with him, and I know I should have said no, but I didn't. So we watch the movie at his place and then go to a friend's and everythings fine. He drives me home and then tells me he's had a crush on me since my freshman year, when he was dating Jane. I told him I liked him too, but we couldn't do anything because of Jane and we had a good thing going and we should keep that way. He agrees and apologizes several times that night and even the next day.  What I'm wondering is do I tell Jane, I tell her everything, but I think telling her may hurt more than help, since I kind of suspect she has some residual feelings. Also I think I hurt him because I feel like hanging out with him on a Friday night lead him to do this. Right now we're still texting and I think we're just ignoring it, but he left early for his class today instead of hanging out with us. I feel so guilty and selfish and I dont know how to make this better.", "summary": "My friend and I recently discovered we have feelings for each other, but our mutual friend (my best friend) dated him and now it's awkward and Idk if I should tell my best friend or not. Any advice is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_45u0wo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my [24F]gf, My best friend who I live with is a total womanizer. Anxious about introducing my new girl to him.", "post": "My best friend is a womanizer/jigalo, he's slept with at least 80 woman. I'm anxious about bringing my new lady near him so early on in our relationship. He can't not flirt with every girl he comes into contact with. So far he doesn't have a friend who is also a girl that he hasn't slept with at some point. \n\nAm I being paranoid? I would say i'm an extrovert, but my friend brings it to a whole other level. I am leaning towards just going headstrong into it and and just ignoring my friends antics and hope my girl doesn't find him too exciting.  \n\nWhat are your thoughts? :)", "summary": "How to introduce my new lady to my womanizing best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2h92de", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [24M] facebook Drama?", "post": "Back Story My Boyfriend told Me before we got together that He had  a crush on this one girl before. After that we still weren't together but already pretty exclusive.  He lied to me about meeting said girl saying he's meeting up with a friend.( he ended up not going because he decided to meet up with me instead ) but in my eyes He still did lie.  I only found out about the lie 2 months into our actual relationship.  We got into a discussion and I clearly told him that I don't want any lies. He then told me that he made a mistake and won't do it again and that he never wants any contact with this girl again. I grew really suspicious and such to be honest I didn't even know this girl but I resented her.  ( insecurities ) so I looked at his profile  often  ( he gave me his password)  he didn't delete her on facebook but I decided to let it pass. Because I really don't wanna be a psycho bitch.   but now 8 months into our relationship, thanks to the facebook feature I saw that in the last 10 days he looked her up three times?  Last time before that he looked her up in May. And it just bothers me. \n honestly I don't know how to feel about this I definitely want to bring it up somehow but I just don't know how?   Or just any advice on how to deal with this situation better?  I'm feeling like an insecure bitch but I can't help it", "summary": "boyfriend looks girl up on facebook alot?  Advice on how to deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_4h7a71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Concerned about the well being of my best friend(20M)", "post": "We've been friends since the start of high school, and we both got into the courses we wanted, so we're good in that sense. \n\nHowever, as friends, we're two very different people. I am much more extroverted and social, I was school captain and I am part of the society, student wellbeing and politics council. He is much more introverted, being very bookish and quiet. A lot of the friends we have are through me, who I introduced to him. \n\nNow, recently I've introduced him to the new crowd on campus, and he's been doing well. However,  recently this new girl and him slept together, and honestly, I can see right through her. She manipulates him emotionally to skip his classes and spend time and exuberant amounts of money on her. She uses the idea of sex to bully and torment him. She abuses him and tells him that he's awful in bed and that all her previous partners were so much better. \n\nMy friend is in decline. He's a brother to me, and I need help. I know if I try to forcefully butt in, she'll manipulate the situation to demonize me. He's so blinded by his love for her that he won't accept any criticism on her. \n\nWe live together, and now he avoids me, and when he does talk to me he's angry and resentful of me. Telling me that this girl has opened his eyes to love and that I just want to sabotage his happiness. How should I proceed?", "summary": "best mate is getting messed around by crazy chick"}
{"id": "t3_3jpfzn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wanting to be rude to a hairdresser", "post": "This happened about an hour ago. I went to get a haircut as my hair was getting too long, I usually have it cut by the same girl but today I got booked in last minute and had someone new. She sat me down and asked what I wanted and since I've only really had one hairdresser for the past two years I've gotten used to not saying what I want. So I say \"I don't know\", but she still fires questions at me and I reply as best I can saying \"Not to short\" and \"Yes she does use clippers\" (referring to the other hair dresser). Eventually she gets started, and this is where I fuck up. She takes number 4 clippers and takes a chunk of hair out of left side of my head, I only expected her to trim around the edges but she went all in, I should have stopped her but I just don't have it in me to be rude. So I try to stay calm and let her finnish, after all, she is a professional. She completes the final touches... And it looks terrible. I have a long face, if that makes sense, and the way she cut it makes it look even longer. Now I'm sitting inside not wanting to venture outside for at least 3 weeks, but I have school in 2 days. Do you think I'm overreaching a bit?", "summary": "I got a bad hair cut and I should have been a bit rude to the hairdresser to save it."}
{"id": "t3_tsd3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend is on the verge of breaking up with me and she is going to decide this weekend.  Need Help NOW!", "post": "Me: Male, age 19\n\nSO: Female, age 17\n\nLength of Relationship so far: 8 1/2 Months\n\nOne bad thing: We live just far enough away that we can only see eachother on the weekends\n\nThis is the longest and most promising relationship I have ever been in. My girlfriend and I recently have been going through some bad times. I fell into a mild depression, became some what distant, and got very upset with everything in my life.  Needless to say that caused strain on our relationship, but I didn't think to the extent that it is.  \n\nWe both claim to love each other deeply, and I know I love her with all my heart.  I just recently got out of the depression that was causing some strain, and things have just now started to get better.  \n\nThing is, she said she doesn't know how much more she can take if the depression returns. Honestly she was dragging me along in the relationship, and I know that it was my fault for not trying harder, but I am now. \n\nI am willing to try anything to save our relationship. Anything at all.  She matches me perfectly on every single level, and I can't let her slip through my hands. Any advice is welcome, I just really don't know what to do. \n\nAdditional info: She is coming over this weekend to \"test the waters\" of our relationship.", "summary": "I need any advice on how to keep my current gf because I messed up and became depressed and distant."}
{"id": "t3_1kdyi7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl (21) goes cold after I (M/23) ask her out.", "post": "I've been chatting this girl up for a while now, and things seemed to be moving in the right direction.  She almost always texts me back immediately after I message her, and is really responsive to my flirting.  So I sent her a text a few nights ago and suggested we meet up before school starts, to which she instantly agreed.  \n\nWell today I called her up and asked her to dinner later this week.  She kind of deflected, and said she had already made plans.  I suggested a different night, and she said she would get back to me on whether or not she could do it.  \n\nIt just seems odd, considering the past few weeks she's been warming up to me more and more based on our conversations.  Though it's important to note that this is the first time I've actually picked up the phone and called her, so maybe I just caught her off guard a bit.  But hey, I've always gotten better responses to phone calls than texts when asking girls out.", "summary": "Girl seems interested, but then casually rejected my offer to take her out.  If she's interested, will she actually get back to me?  Or should I wait it out a little while before I try and make a move again?"}
{"id": "t3_3i75pt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] think I want to end my relationship with my Father [46 M]", "post": "So growing up I have always had a good relationship with both my parents. They were great parents and there's nothing I can honestly complain about with how they raised me. I was also really close to my Dad when growing up. Please believe me when I say he wasn't always a jerk. He was a good Dad and husband. He taught me a lot and helped me to become the independent person I am today. \n\nUnfortunately, he is not that person anymore. Over the last two years he has just kind of been gone. He would not come home. for days. If he did come home he was always really drunk. Later I found out he was also under the influence of some drugs. He also cheated on my mom with a girl around my age. \n\nSo I watched my Dad go from a happy-go-lucky guy to a sad, pathetic drunk. In May this all came to a head. It was a really tough time for my family. My Dad eventually told my Mom and I he was going to stop and he was going to get help. So, we tried to rebuild the family. \n\nI actually got to see my Dad happy again. He stopped drinking and doing drugs. He seemed to be making progress and I was getting ready to forgive him\n\nWell, long story short, he was caught cheating again and doing the previously mentioned things. I just can't handle it. Why did he not just leave back in May? It could of been done with months ago. I just feel even more hurt now. \n\nI know he does not want me to cut him out of my life, but I don't know what else to do. I guess I am just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation? Also, would it be better to just cut him out of my life completely? \n\nSorry for the rambling. This is all pretty fresh still.", "summary": "Over the last two years, my Dad has turned into different person and for the worst. He has been cheating, drinking and doing drugs. Is it time to just cut him out?"}
{"id": "t3_2ae9lv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Met someone who I was chatting with for a few hours.\n\nOne of his friends had asked for my number and for a date earlier in the evening but I said that I wasn't interested but thank you for the offer. He kept trying to talk to me. He asked for it a second and then third time but his other friend told him to lay off.\n\nI was really surprised when the guy who told his friend to lay off asked me out at the end of the night. (Not the original guy I was talking to). I left pretty quickly because he was very kind and polite but not what I am looking for.\n\nThe original guy I was talking to I will probably see next week. We talked for a long time and hit it off great but his friends either kept interrupting (he told them to go away a few times but they didn't) and I left because of his friend being a bit too persistent before I said I would. He was also getting really touchy and saying some stuff I wasn't okay with. The original guy I was talking to who I liked told him to stop it but I just said alright enough and left.\n\nI will probably see the guy I was talking to and would like to go out with next week. Do you think his friends asking me out and me saying no would make things weird?\nI was really polite when I said no thank you.", "summary": "Guy I would like to go out with friends (two of them) asked me out and I said no. I will probably see him again next week and was going to ask if he wanted to grab coffee sometime. Does the two friends of his make this too weird?"}
{"id": "t3_1xkxji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend's [27M] girlfriend has a serious issue with me [27F] for no reason. He won't address it.", "post": "I've been very good friends with my friend, Chris, for 4 years. We met through my ex and we've always had a completely platonic friendship (I was also good friends with his ex-wife at the time). He's been in a relationship with his current girlfriend (Angela) for about a year and a half. For numerous reasons, I've only met her once about a year ago and she was very sweet and friendly. Since then we haven't seen each other because she travels for work and that's when Chris and I catch up; additionally, she has her own social life and on days when she wants to be alone with her friends, he and I will grab dinner. She never has a problem with that as far as I know.\n\nAnyway, I went out with Chris, Angela, and another couple on Saturday and when we were exchanging hello's she just glared at me. No response. I was shocked, but I thought she was in a bad mood and let it go. Throughout the night, however, she ignored me and didn't even look in my direction once. She was bubbly and friendly to the other couple but excluded me. When I did address her at one point (trying to be civil) she merely glared again and didn't respond. \n\nThe next day, I asked Chris what happened. He acknowledged that even the other couple noticed what was going on and texted him about it at the table. I assumed that he and Angela must have discussed it, but apparently he didn't raise the issue at all. I was shocked and hurt, and he defended his decision not to ask because he has bigger priorities now (they're having problems-- no wonder). This is out of character for him.\n\nI've never done anything to warrant this type of treatment and I'm concerned because we'll be at the same event in a couple of weeks hosted by his brother. I feel like I deserve an explanation, or at the very least, someone should raise the issue with her.\n\nHow do I discuss this again with Chris? :(", "summary": "My (f) friend's (m) girlfriend ignored me at dinner and I have no idea why-- he won't ask."}
{"id": "t3_m7gww", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it fair for someone to call you a name simply because you politely ask them to stop making fun of you?", "post": "Related to [this] The same people I talked to once more, and when I told them that I no longer wished to remain within their company because I feel like I am nothing more than a verbal punching bag for them, they proceeded as usual. And one of them got defensive and his words are \"I'm just fucking with you bro, but for real, you're the biggest pussy bitch I've ever talked to.\" And I replied \"I'm just trying to tell you, not offended or upset, but the way in which you all belittle me for amusement gets annoying after awhile, and there is no reason for it.\" In addition to this he decide to call my girlfriend fat, but only because it's the truth. \"Hey, and your girlfriend's fat.\" \"Are you trying to offend me?\" I ask. \"Nope, just saying how it is she is fat, right?\"", "summary": "These guys are real jerks."}
{"id": "t3_4gn9vk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] started seeing someone [24 M] for the past couple months, should I be concerned by the age gap?", "post": "What do you make of this age difference?  In the beginning I wasn't bothered by it, but I'm starting to wonder if maybe there is something wrong with this relationship. \n\nWe get along great and share a lot of the same interests.  He has a full time job and I just started uni.  I'm conflicted because I like him and feel that we have great chemistry, but we are in two very different places in our lives and I don't want to be taken advantage of.  He's never made me feel like the lesser individual in the relationship but I'd appreciate any input on the situation so that I can proceed in a way that is healthy for us both.", "summary": "I am dating someone 6 years my senior, I am a freshman in college.  Do you think this is weird, or a cause for concern?"}
{"id": "t3_44blw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] There's this girl [19F] I like. Does she likes me back?", "post": "We go to german lessons together, I met her a week ago. Our 'german group' is really small (only 6 people) and we're actually the only people talking to each other. \n\nShe is very kind and friendly towards me and tries to initiate chat. She laughs hysterically(!) at some of my jokes (she doesn't laugh at ALL of them). She says \"hello\" in a very seductive way, yeah I know that's a stupid thing to say but I've never been greeted by a girl this way.\n\nNote that this girl is BEAUTIFUL. And I mean perfect 10/10 and probably gets any guy she wants. I gotta say I'm an average looking guy, slightly above average in best case. I'm really not that funny guy, I don't lack social skills but I'm a bit weird, in a positive way. \n\nIn normal circumstances, I'd say she's into me. But I really have nothing to show her what other guys don't already have! \n\nIs she maybe pranking me?\n\nOr does she genuinely likes me?", "summary": "I don't know if this girl likes me or not. She's very hot and I'm average by all means."}
{"id": "t3_o8q81", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do I get better work done when I'm tired?", "post": "So I have a report I've been struggling with for a week. Obviously this site has been a bit of a distraction during that time but it's more than that. I get terrible writer's block when I set down to write stuff like this and find myself staring at the screen for minutes at a time wondering what I can write with nothing coming to me.\n\nBut last night at 2am I say goodnight to my girlfriend over IM and am doing a bit of internet reading, thinking I'm getting pretty tired and I should go to bed when I alt-tab to my report that's been minimized for hours and I just realise I can concentrate now. I spend the next hour doing more work on the report than I had in the past week.\n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened and right now it's half past two again and other than Reddit I'm listening to calm2.ogg and making some notes for myself in my report and doing some cleaning up.", "summary": "Why the hell can I concentrate better when really tired?"}
{"id": "t3_1fqek6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girl (F20) doesn't show me (M20) any respect, or affection anymore.", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 11 months and we've had our ups and downs but recently she left for a job opportunity and even before that she was acting very differently.\nI love my girlfriend more than anything else, but I'm at my wits end on what to do.. Since before I moved in with her I tried to help her with everything I possibly could, even going so far as doing several odd jobs for her family, and spending my entire paychecks to help her / them. I'd come home and tell her I miss her or that I love her and she doesn't appreciate it whatsoever. \nShe says I don't seem to care about her anymore but I think that's completely ridiculous considering everything I've sacrificed for her...\nOver the holidays and her birthday I brought her out and got her gifts + sweets but she never gave me anything for mine which I'm fine just spending the time with her but she didn't seem to want to be with me either... \nBefore she left for her work trip she didn't seem like she would miss me at all and even asked me to bring her to her parents when she hadn't spent time with me before the previous 3 days... I was left in tears all the way leading up to her departure because I just couldn't believe any of it..\nplease reddit, help me figure out what I should say or do? \nI've talked to her about her not showing emotions for me and she has said she's sorry before but also has said some pretty hurtful things..", "summary": "love of my life doesn't reciprocate feelings like she used to,"}
{"id": "t3_3jr4dx", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Anxiety ridden Redditors, how did you over come your anxiety?", "post": "I'm a 20 y/o F who is transferring into college tomorrow. I have already finished my two year degree at a community college which I commuted, living on campus is stressing me out. I have had anxiety and depression for roughly 10 years and it has held me back from many things and I'm afraid this huge hurdle will be one of them. I'm introverted and am not a partier, I would be happy just sitting in my dorm watching TV and studying but I know that campus life is very different than commuting life. I will only be living 30 minutes from home and my parents are okay with me coming home once in awhile but Orientation and just the whole move is stressing me out. I do see a counselor and we are working on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but I am still very early in the process. Please someone else tell me I'm not alone! Any tips and ideas?", "summary": "I have anxiety and am going through a big hurdle, ideas and tips would be awesome"}
{"id": "t3_32yrcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Given this awkward situation... How can I (M17) make an approach? (She - F18)", "post": "Well, first of all, I'll give you a short description of what defines \"awkward\" in this case: \n\nAt the beginning of this year, I took an interest for a girl in college. I didn't know how to approach her, so I left her a little letter with a poem I wrote her; very romantic and not at all creepy, I know. But then, about a week later, I decided to talk to her on facebook. I did, we chatted a bit, but then I found out she has a boyfriend. So, that died out right away. I stopped talking to her, and she to me. Fine. \n\nBut then I discovered yet another girl, this one a French student who started attending classes about two weeks later than everyone. I hesitated a bit, but now I decided to try and talk to her. After watching her carefully for a while, I discovered two rather unpleasant aspects: One, she is an absolute bunker, the only thing one can do to talk or otherwise to her is to be an extremely outgoing type of guy, which I am not. I tried chatting a bit, but she isn't very receptive at all (it isn't because of language too, because she's fluent in German, English and Spanish other than French). So I guess the only way I could try to make this work is to go directly into the point. \n\nThe second thing is, alas, the only friend she has so far is that first girl I tried to talk to before. And as I've observed, they talk a lot to each other, so they may as well be intimate already for all I know. Now, I thought about talking to her and asking what my mademoiselle likes and how I could talk to her, but as I said, that would be a bit awkward. But well, the awkwardness isn't really my problem. The problem here is, should I? Should I talk to her friend first, or try my luck with the lady herself?", "summary": "I've tried approaching a girl before but it didn't work at all, since she's already seeing someone. Now I plan on trying to talk to her friend, but I have a bit of a dilemma: Should I try asking that first girl for \"directions\" about how to talk to her friend, who is shy as hell, or go for the lady herself?"}
{"id": "t3_v0yy8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I need a gift idea for my daughter's first day of kindergarten. Help me, Reddit.", "post": "My little girl was born 7 1/2 weeks early (which was also six weeks past the age cutoff for our school district).\n\nAfter two weeks in the nicu and a month on heart/lung monitors at home, she completely caught up and surpassed pretty much every growth metric for actual age (forget about adjusted!).\nNow, at 4 1/2 she's reading books designed for late first-grade and doing late-kindergarten math, mostly just on her own volition.\n\nWe've been terrified for a while of her having to wait an entire year for her to start kindergarten because she'd probably end up a huge discipline problem and start-off her entire school experience on a terrible foot.\n\nAfter months of looking, we finally found a private school willing to bend the rules for her and that we can afford.  Once she's through kindergarten, she'll be set for public school and we're off from there.\n\nSo, aside from my huge sigh of relief, I desperately want to give her something on her first day of kindergarten to show her how proud and hopelessly attached to her I am.\n\nBut, I'm drawing a blank.  I've thought about jewelry, but what can I find that would withstand a kid that young and be something she'd want to keep as she gets older?\n\nHelp me, reddit!  You're my only hope.", "summary": "Daughter was born pretty premature but has thrived. Now, despite being slightly too young, going to kindergarten in August.  I need a gift as special as she is."}
{"id": "t3_q41lk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, i need your help with a girl.... its complicated.", "post": "alright so some background info - im 19 and just finished school, i live in australia and am going to college in a couple months in Canberra (australias capital). About 4 weeks back i went to Europe with my family - we went all over Europe on holiday (zermatt, then chamonee, then paris then...\n\nthen we got to saint brieuc. My sister went on French exchange there and had a lovely family with three sisters, (one 19 one 21 and one 24) my sister is now 23. Our plan was to stay there for 1 week (in their house because they insisted) and then it happened.I met the 19 year old and... i fell for her. the second i saw her i knew... Reddit, ive had girlfriends before but ive never met a girl who made me stutter like this, or a girl who made me so happy like she does and did..\nThe cutest thing about it was that we both had done 3 yrs of french and 3 yrs of english each, so our talking was very funny ^.^ and there was often a dictionary close by... for the longer sentences we used translators on iphone.\n\nnow to the question : \ni have dreamt of her every day since i got back from france, and every time i do i find myself smiling.\n\nReddit... what do i do?\nim not happy here, i cant find purpose in my life without her and even if she doesnt feel the same way just to be near her would be enough for me.. just to be her friend and see her smile...\nbut i dont have the money and my parents refuse to send me on any elaborate holidays... i also wouldnt be able to get along in france without knowing the language..\n\nim lost reddit... and ive come to you.", "summary": "i fell in love with a french girl who lives thousands of kilometrees away from me and who doesnt speak my language."}
{"id": "t3_544sl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Break Up] I [21M] do not see my partner [23F] as an attractive person. 2+ years relationship. Might break up tonight!", "post": "[Break Up] I [21M] am with this girl [23F] for 2+ years. The relationship is great. We almost never fight. But since start, I never thought of her as a beautyfull woman. Sure, when I look at her with \"boyfriend eyes\" I see how amazing she is. But when I look at her with \"regular eyes\" I do not think of her as a pretty woman. During this 2 years, I cant remember a moment when I looked at her and thought \" woa, my girlfriend is as beautyfull as a godness\".\n\nOne thing that I always used to think, is that I started to cherish for some situation to happen that would end the relationship for me. Like if she slept with other guy or I got a job in another country. This is a toxic thought to have right?\n\nFor the first year and a half, I tossed this thoughts away and just lived with it. But about four months ago, I started to loose desire for sex with her as well. So I ended up saying to her last monday that I am not attracted to her. She cried a lot, and we are going to talk about it tonight And I do not know whats gonna happen.", "summary": "I do not think my girlfriend is pretty and want to breakup with her."}
{"id": "t3_4irz99", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on building my credit, whether or not to get another credit card", "post": "I am young so I do not have much credit established, I have a $300 security credit card. My credit has only been established for about 6 months. \n\nI am considering applying for another card with a low limit to help me build up my score faster. The security card I have is working out well. I use about half of my credit line per month and always pay it off about a week before it is due. Current credit score is about 660. Should I apply for another card to help build this? Any other advice on building credit is welcome.", "summary": "Looking for ways to improve my credit score"}
{"id": "t3_4c0a3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance girlfriend [24 F] of six months is moving again but not back where I [30 M] am.", "post": "I got into a long-distance relationship about six months ago, right before my girlfriend made a temporary move. We were just getting to know each other at first, but things kept snowballing as we got to know each other and we got more emotionally involved. She has been back once since then and things kept building to the point that we were talking about life plans when she returned.\n\nThe problem is that she's now not going to return for several years.\n\nThe plan was that she would be back here for graduate school, but it turns out that she got an offer she can't turn down somewhere else. It's going to be a multi-year commitment of lots of work, and there's no guarantee she will ever be back here, even though it's currently part of her long-term plan.\n\nSo the options now are to give up or go with her. Neither really feels like the right choice. I encouraged her to go to the school because the offer was too good to pass up, and I'm not about to ask her to take out substantially larger amounts of debt so we can be together. But with her going to school, she will be locked in for several years and maybe longer once she starts her career. I can travel to see her more often than we have so far, but ultimately, I would have to move at some point. \n\nAs for me, I'm further in my career, and it's unfortunately not one where good opportunities come up very often. I also have friends, connections and a current job where I am and wouldn't have chosen the city she's moving to for myself if I were to move. I worry that if I go, she will be all I have in this new place.\n\nWe both want to be with each other and have said that we thought this could be a lifelong relationship. We are both heartbroken at the thought of giving up, but staying together doesn't seem to be an option either.\n\nAny words of wisdom from someone who has made long-distance work? Or from someone who has moved solely for another person? I'm heartbroken and distraught all at the same time.", "summary": "Long-distance girlfriend is moving to a new city, and I'm not in a mobile situation to join her. It's either give up or go with."}
{"id": "t3_2f557w", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Should I adjust my training?", "post": "I posted a thread a couple days ago about my training runs (for a marathon in October) feeling worse and worse. I got some good advice and am seeing my GP on Friday to get my iron checked.\n\nAfter running 17 miles on my long runs 2 weekends in a row, I went out on Saturday for an \"easy\" 13 mile taper before ramping up to 19 next weekend. It was awful. I was struggling pretty much the whole time, and made it 7 miles of slow running with many walking breaks before giving up on the run and calling my husband to pick me up. This has never happened to me and I'm do discouraged! I did go out this morning and do 13, but had to take a pretty long break about halfway through, and walked about a mile of the second half.\n\nMy dilemma: do I try to stick to the training plan this week? Take some days off? Cut back the mileage? Running slower doesn't seem to help. I am fully exhausted, so I'm kinda hoping my iron is way low, but in the meantime what should I do? I've experienced ruts before and pushed through, but this is going on 3 weeks.", "summary": "feeling exhausted, should I take a break from training 7 weeks out from a marathon?"}
{"id": "t3_1ee9db", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Can you help me?", "post": "Dear Loseit,\n\nSome months ago, I very optimistically decided I wanted to lose weight once and for all, and finally be healthy. I haven't made any progress yet, because of the simple reason I don't seem to be capable of not eating a lot of bad stuff. It's really bothering me, because the solution is so simple: don't eat so much bad stuff. But I just keep doing it. It's very disheartening, because it seems to me that if I just had a little bit of restraint, I would be losing the weight in no time. \nHave any of you had this problem? Can you give me any tips on how to conquer this?", "summary": "I can't stop eating bad stuff. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4iyond", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Infidelity] Does this subreddit do legal stuff too?", "post": "[M]e (24) and my wife (23) have been married coming on four years. When we just got married I deployed to Japan for six months and in that time she cheated on me twice and got pregnant (miscarried) Not only that but she also spent most of her time cuddling with other guys in front of her pissed off parents. She mentioned the reason she did this is because she was scared and lonely after just getting married. Now I know when she told me this I should have divorced her then but I was too scared everyone would see me as a loser. \n\nBut that cheating caused me to show less affection for her, so she would cuddle with other guys around me and eventually cheated again. So me being scared with my pride everyone would see me as a loser for not holding a marriage, so I stayed with her still, but I no longer had affection for her, she was just sex and an annoyance for me at that point.\n\nFast forward 2 and some years I am fed up and want to start over with someone new. She knows I want to divorce but I know she is trying to change, she said someone was hitting on her and she turned him down but obviously I don't believe her. I want to wait 3 more months for her to fully get used to the fact I am going to divorce her before I hand her the paperwork. I don't want to be a dick after all. \n\nMy question is I've been missing love/sex in my life for two years and want a girlfriend or at least a date and banging right now but would the court look unfavorably on me for getting a girlfriend while we are still technically married? I have no kids, no property and no other proof but her word and family members they know she was cheating on me. I have never cheated on her before and I'm nervous about it but I need affection, someone I can enjoy spending time with (of course I will let them know I'm still married but planning on divorce). Sorry for the long post but I just have to ask it. Serious answers please, this isn't a joke to me.", "summary": "I'm married with a cheating wife and want to get a Gf while I wait for her to come to terms I want to divorce her. Will the court look down on me for not waiting till after marriage and make it harder on me?"}
{"id": "t3_1rd0c9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] - Not sure what to do with my relationship anymore [19/F].", "post": "I'm [20/M] and shes [19/F]. We've been in a relationship for a little over a year. I recently moved two states away for a job and shes came to visit once. Things were kind of rocky before I moved but for some reason we both convinced ourselves that we could make it work, and Im beginning to feel like thats just not possible, especially with the rockiness. When in Missouri we skyped a few times and we would text occasionally, but our conversations died out very quickly.\n\nIt always feels like after a few texts I would receive one saying something like \"god my week has been so horrible and I cant stand this\" or \"My week has been miserable and I can't stand to be around [her best friend] anymore\" (I've received that same text about 4 times, only paraphrased a bit each time).\n\nI'm back in my hometown now (where we met and she still lives here) and she got pissed off that she wasn't invited to go to dinner with my highschool/college friends. Its not that she doesn't fit the friend group, its just that when I hang out with my friends, I feel relaxed and I have a good time. When I hang out with her, she needs special attention and to be smothered in affection. \n\nShe ended up coming to eat with us and to a friends house afterwards and when she left she texted me and told me how mad she was that I didn't kiss her or have her sit on my lap and a few other things of that nature. She then followed up with __\"I just havent had a good week and I was thinking you'd make it better.\"__\n\nI don't feel like thats my job. Shes an unhappy person that always seems to have something going wrong. Is it my responsibility to make her happy? I'm happy with or without her and shes just not in that same state of mind so what do you think I should do?", "summary": "GF is unhappy, expects me to make her happy. I live two states away."}
{"id": "t3_305qqa", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dogs: Nature's antidepressant!", "post": "Hello! I post here semi-often, but lemme introduce myself. I've been working my dream job at my vet's office, running the doggie daycare since August. It's a pretty small operation compared to some daycares I've seen. I'm the only one who does it, and I've usually got between 6-15 dogs in a day. \n\nAnyway! The last month and a half or so, I've had a HUGE rise in the number of puppies in daycare. It's AWESOME.  Quite a few of them have been puppies adopted from HSP, the rescue that works with our vet. Lab mixes, great danes, pits, boxers, English bulldogs, rottweilers, ridgebacks, hounds, and some straight mutts. They just have such a happy energy to them all the time. In a room full of dogs, puppies will almost always find each other and play together most of the day. It's like they become instant best friends just based off of the fact that they're babies. It's been a rough weekend for me, and today I've had 5 puppies in daycare and my mood is so much brighter than the past few days. It's so hard to be upset when you've got furry, bouncy, uncoordinated balls of happiness just galloping and squeaking around. Just my thoughts, thanks for reading if you did!", "summary": "puppies rock"}
{"id": "t3_13unij", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "20/f trying to break off an online relationship with 22/m", "post": "We met 5 months ago on a game. It doesn't seem like a long time but he seemed to have pretty intense emotions and I went along with things. Now he's very committed to the relationship and I'm trying to end it before he gets more attached. \n\nI've tried breaking it off once and he was very persistent that we stayed together.  I don't want to hurt him, but it's better sooner than later. He stopped coming online altogether (work related) so there's no worries about it being awkward with gaming friends. He just won't accept \"I just don't feel the same about you anymore.\" I'm a decently nice person and I don't know how to haggle my way out of this.", "summary": "Internet boyfriend won't let me break-up with him."}
{"id": "t3_1sfkno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22/F) and my boyfriend (31/m) of 2 years. Feeling rejected.", "post": "Hey r/relationships, I need your advice. I'm posting this on mobile so I'm sorry in advance for any formatting errors! \n\nI met my boyfriend, L, 2 years ago. We hit it off instantly and the chemistry between us was insane. I know the age difference seems a little strange, but we've made it work with very little struggle until now.\n\nWe moved in together in August after dating for about 1.5 years. When we first started dating, we were having sex every time we saw each other. That was 5-7 times a week. Naturally as our relationship matured, the sex slowed down a little bit. For the past year and a half, we have sex maybe twice a month, and I have to initiate it every time. Since we've lived together (4 months) he has initiated once. Now I'm not naive, and I know he watches porn and masturbates daily. I've come across the porn on his phone. I've been trying to tell myself that I'm perfectly ok with this and that it doesn't hurt me at all. But I can't lie to myself anymore. I am hurt. He chooses porn over me daily. I've tried to talk to him before about how the fact that he never initiates sex with me hurts my feelings and makes me feel unwanted, and those conversations lead to him giving me a thousand excuses and initiating once the next day and everything goes back to the way it was for a few months. I've never brought up the porn because I'm really scared he will choose it over me... He really is the love of my life and other than this, our relationship is nearly perfect. He is a very caring man and I know he is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. R/relationships, how do I fix our sex life? I want to have sex more often, and I want him to initiate it more. I know I need to have a conversation with him, but I don't know where to begin.", "summary": "My boyfriend's porn habit is really hurting our relationship. How do I talk to him about it in a way that doesn't make me seem crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_47srf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [20 F] of 3 years, asks me [20 M] to drive 500kms and get them.", "post": "My ex and I have been ex's for about 5 months. She broke the relationship off, she said her feelings for me had faded. I was truly heartbroken and I am still progressing this, but feel less for her every day now days. Within this time we've talked a little, mostly basic questions like how eachother is doing.\n\nI figured out a couple of days ago that I still have a couple of things at her place, a grillpan, and a couple of other things. Now we live about 500 kms apart, so get it is really not that easy. So I messaged her about it. It goes a day or two, she messages back that she can't find a box that big for the pan to fit in. I replyed that she can buy a large box, she claims she does not know where to buy one big enough.\n\nIn the next message she askes \"Stupid question, but you wouldn't be able to come here and pick them up? :)\".\n\nAs much as I still have still feelings for her, but certainly not as much as before. I wonder what she really wants. I don't want to be rude either, we handled this breakup like two adults. I don't know if I want to see her, as she was my first love of course she will be special to me. What can I reply to this?\n\nIf a longer version is needed, I think I can provide one.", "summary": "I still have stuff at my ex's place since the breakup, she asks me to drive 500kms and get it."}
{"id": "t3_foasu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Teachers vs. Unions - What do you think?", "post": "Here are some thoughts, and feel free to chime in - this is a discussion not a debate.  I believe teachers should be well paid, based on merit.  They should have to take examinations and re-up their credentials on a regular basis.  They are, after all, the most important people in the world.\n\nHere's the dilemma.  Teacher Unions are the scummiest, worst organizations in the world.  Yes, they protect teachers (some of the time) but put most of their effort in making money from (underpaid) teachers in order to perpetuate the myth teachers will die without a union to back them.\n\nSadly, in the US, teachers would likely get ass-raped by the powers that be if they didn't have a union at all.  So it's kind of a catch-22.\n\nWhat do you folks think?", "summary": "Teachers should be paid well based on merit and examinations for re-certification : Unions should die in a fire."}
{"id": "t3_28it56", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Ex [22 F] 2 years, am I just lonely or did I make the right choice?", "post": "Dated this girl for the past two years and it was by far the best relationship I have ever been in. I've never even thought of the idea of marriage until she came along. Now we've been broken up for a couple months. \n\nAt the end of our relationship we hit a slump when we realized our long term goals differed a little. She want's to leave the city we live in as soon as she can, but with her current education and work experience it will most likely take a couple years. I work full time and about to go back to finish school. It's going to take me at least 4+ years until I can get into a situation to were I can leave. \n\nWe came to the conclusion we'll most likely not end up together so we should cut the cord in order to try to preserve some kind of friendship. I feel now that we made a mistake and called it quits too early out of fear of what the future hold even though its years away.\n\nI've brought the idea of getting back together with her but she said it wasn't a good idea. She believes she was too comfortable with our relationship which made it easy for her to be content with her life situation and slack on her life goals. I told her I wanted to help her achieve those goals but she says she doesn't want to depend on me. \n\nWe've hung a couple time since we broke up, we had a couple weddings planned. The hang outs tend to end with us either hooking up or emotionally holding on to each other. I don't know what to do. She really is/was my best friend, but I know I have to respect her decision to find her own way.", "summary": "We made a mutual decision to break up and now I think I made a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_3pkq2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [35 M] ask out a [late 20's F] medical professional?", "post": "I have a close relative who's undergoing a serious health issue and I attend the appointments to help him manage his healthcare.  Recently we had an appointment with a surgeon, and I'm interested in asking out the surgeon's assistant.\n\nBased on the consultation, it doesn't look like the surgery will take place, which means I may not ever see her again.  I don't have contact information for her, other than contacting the hospital, which feels to me like I'd be crossing a line, but it's all I have!\n\nSo what's the best, professional, non-creepy/stalkerish way for me to get in touch with her?  I'm smitten and will kick myself if I don't try!", "summary": "what's the best way to ask out a medical assistant for whom I don't have contact info?"}
{"id": "t3_2uwnne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my crush [23 F] 1 month, I like my big sister of the fraternity I'm in?", "post": "I am in a co-ed fraternity and I got paired up with this girl I didn't know was going to be so amazing. I could talk to her and carry a conversation without having any trouble at all. I feel like she is so easy to talk to about things that I have trouble telling my best girlfriend. She makes me smile, laugh, and just makes me happy when I'm around her. However, she's my fraternity big sister so that could potentially be weird. I know she doesn't like dating within the fraternity but will do it if the right guy comes along. Any advice would be helpful. How can I approach this situation?", "summary": "I like my big sister in fraternity. How do I tell her I like her without things being awkward because after all she is my big sister?"}
{"id": "t3_4qz4ea", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Donating land out of Revenge. How will this help my tax returns?", "post": "This is my first post ever on Reddit so please bear with me. \n\nA little backstory to begin, when I was a child my father bought 2.3 acres of property in a school district that he wanted us to attend in South Carolina. The hope was one day to build a house, however, as time passed that never materialized. We've owned the property for 20 years and over that time we've paid property taxes, sometimes late in the face of financial instability. Currently, we're doing better but still its an unnecessary financial burden and we'd like to capitalize on the property value having doubled since when we purchased, valued at $30,000 currently. We hired a realtor to sell the property a couple months ago but it has sat without much interest.  \n\nWe discovered our neighbors have been removing the for sale signs because they don't want someone to build on the wooded lot. We have left letters in the community's mailboxes detailing the problem. Without knowing which neighbor is doing it, we can't report them. Though the property is listed online, I'm pretty upset that there's not a on-site advertisement. In my frustration I was trying to think of alternatives while possibly irking the neighbors. I came up with an idea that actually was feasible and not too dramatic. We could either donate or sale the land for a reduced price and use it as a tax deduction; we considered Habitat for Humanity or Helping Hands. The problem, I know very little about about the tax deductions allowed/ how it would be applied. I read the full market value of the land is deductible but what does that mean in terms of tax refunds come next year? \n\nI want to do some good for the community; I have a BA in architecture and during college I was involved in community building and designed low income housing for those in need. My father has a similar sentiment but is business oriented and wants to reclaim his investment. I feel like this solution scratches both itches. Also, I would be lying if I didn't get some enjoyment at the prospect of inconveniencing the neighbors. Any ideas or information is welcome even if they aren't directly related to this idea. I just need advice on how to move the property with the maximum benefit for all (except those dick neighbors.)", "summary": "If I donate a piece of land to charity out of spite, can I deduct it from my taxes and if so, how much of the value would be retuned as a refund (all, none, some?)"}
{"id": "t3_30epa5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need help dealing with my boss and my fellow coworker", "post": "So I got the internship of my dreams a few months ago and it's been a lot of fun until now. I work for a local film festival and from the beginning we were just screening films and making sure that everything film wise was taken care of. Recently, we were sorted in departments and I was put into sponsor outreach. A different kind of job for an introvert like myself but I figured it would be good for me.\n\nHowever, it's been hell ever since. The boss is impossible to communicate with. I send her emails all the time asking for any assignments that need to be done but she never responds and I'm getting work to do through another intern who is in constant contact with her.\n\nThen yesterday, I emailed my boss with this great project idea and with a lot of great sponsors that I could reach out to. She actually emailed me back  saying it was a great idea but then gave it to the other intern to do! I was so frustrated to the point of tears that I just left to the day. I talked to my dad about it and all he could say was that was what the real world is like and I gotta learn how to brown nose. But it's even hard to do that when all the boss does is look at the other intern during meetings like I don't exist.\n\nAny advice on this situation?", "summary": "Boss doesn't give me any assignments. Took my project idea and gave it to the other intern"}
{"id": "t3_3e7t2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] chose to date my boyfriend [21 M] over dating my best friend [19 M] and now I'm afraid I made a mistake.", "post": "I've had my best friend [19 M] friendzoned for 4 years. We met when I was dating my ex, so I never really saw him as anything more than a friend. He's been there for me for everything. He's basically been in love with me since the moment we met. He would do anything for me if it meant that I would be happy. I never thought that I would have feelings for him like he has for me. That is until a couple months ago.\n\n I developed feelings for him, while also developing feelings for my current boyfriend, [21 M]. Everyone told me to give my best friend a chance, but I was afraid of losing our friendship in the process, and I had stronger feelings towards my boyfriend. So I told my boyfriend that I would date him, and now my best friend will barely talk to me and wants to kick my boyfriends ass. Also all my friends are mad at me for the decision I made. I regret not giving him a chance, but I feel like if we were to have dated, I should have feelings for only him, and not anyone else. My boyfriend said he would fight my best friend if that's what he really wants, but I don't want them fighting over me. I'm afraid I lost my best friend and made a mistake in not choosing him, now I don't know what to do. Any advice Reddit?", "summary": "Chose boyfriend over best friend. Now best friend wants to kick boyfriends ass. I'm afraid I made a mistake not choosing my best friend."}
{"id": "t3_4db6f2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming a tutorial online is correct", "post": "So this actually became a fuck up today. So I'm in physics II and we had to work in groups to create a project that demonstrated magnetism and electricity. My group is really effective and we manage to work very well together to decide on things. So we decide on making a hand-crank generator. We found a tutorial online and figured it shouldn't be too hard. \n\nWe get to getting materials together and start looking at our magnets and other equipment. We get our copper wire and our diodes but then we get to the battery. We look at our lovely tutorial which we were basing it off of and it says we only need a magnet with 9 lbs of pull. This seemed more than strong enough for us.\n\nJump to the past weekend, we divide up the tasks and I am given the task of making slides for the presentation. I get a text while running errands saying that the generator doesn't work. \n\nToday was the day of the presentation. We all meet and are consoling each other because realistically there wasn't much to do because we had to special order most of our materials. Our professor is a bit of a dick about this class because it's college and he expects us to be able to handle ourselves and a project. So the judges are walking around and we end up being the last group. \n\nThe judge walks up to us and looks at our generator as if he knew it didn't work. He asks us to start with what we intended to accomplish. We explain that the generator is supposed to crank and light up the bulb like magic...only it doesn't work. \n\nThe class period ends and our professor walks up to our table and asks how we did. The judge in an uncertain voice says we did well then they walk off to talk about something. I watched them to see if I could figure something out based on body language and I could see them looking at our poor non-functional generator.\n\nI'm not overly confident about this grade right now. Oh well, guess we'll see!", "summary": "Found project online, project lies about magnet, made a paperweight."}
{"id": "t3_3a6mwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] girlfriend told me she [24 F] is moving away permanently", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nMy girlfriend of three years and I currently live together in Brooklyn. We met at school. She recently told me she's homesick and is going to move back to Florida permanently. She wants to do long distance but I don't see that being compatible with my personality/needs.\n\nShe says it has nothing to do with me and she misses her family but I have a hard time believing I'm not part of the equation. I tried not to pressure her about it because I want her to be happy wherever she lives and I love her but if I can't do long distance then I wonder if it even makes sense for us to stay together until she moves?\n\nIt might be 6months or a year before she leaves she says but she is definitely leaving. Should I invest more time in this relationship? If long distance doesn't have a set time it's going to end I don't see the point? \n\nI have a good job here I can't leave. \n\nAny advice is appreciated. I love this girl and don't know what to do. Do you think this could just be a way for her to breakup with me? Am I missing something? Should I just break things off now if it's not going to work out?", "summary": "my live in girlfriend of three years is moving away."}
{"id": "t3_g6dno", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the male equivalent of flowers?", "post": "Basically, I want to do something sweet and romantic for my boyfriend. Here's the long version: \n\nAccording to the weather forecasts, it's going to be a beautiful day today. My boyfriend and I decided to go to a local park we've been meaning to visit for months - the weather just hasn't been nice enough until today. The park's right near a relatively swanky area, and since today's payday and we haven't had a \"date night\" in a while, we decided to get a pseudofancy dinner afterwards. I'm really looking forward to it. Things haven't always been easy or simple in our relationship, but I think we have a really good foundation and we're really making sure we put time in with each other to maintain it.   \n\nWith that in mind, I'd really like to do something special and sweet for him. He's more of a romantic type than I am, so I think he would appreciate it. However, I'm not sure what to do - if the situation were reversed, and I was a boy wanting to surprise a girl, I'd definitely get flowers. But I don't think that'll have the same effect...call me crazy if I'm wrong :) So I was wondering if Reddit could do me a favor and weigh in on what they think the equivalent of flowers are, for a guy. Suggetions are welcome! It's not a special event like an anniversary or anything, just a night out. I'd really love to hear what you have to say on this: I want to surprise him AND get him something (do something for him) he'll really appreciate.   \n\nI know some people are going to respond to this with \"sex\" or \"bj,\" but if you can help it, please refrain. He's already going to get laid tonight, and probably getting blown for foreplay. I want to do something _besides_ that. (Or on top of that, heh.) Besides, I don't think sex should be a special-occasion-I-love-you surprise. That implies some shitty things about your love life, imo.    \n\nThanks for reading...please help me out!", "summary": "going out for a date with the bf. want to do something special for him. please don't say \"sex,\" etc...that's already on the menu. let's go above and beyond here!"}
{"id": "t3_j5pf5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the single funniest moment you've ever experienced?", "post": "I have one that stands out from all of the rest.\nI was 13; Me and 2 friends were at a minor league baseball game in the mediocre city of Columbia, SC. It was a diabetes benefit game that had rides and games set up out in an open area by left field, which included a bouncey-house thing and an enormous inflatable water slide contraption. At around half time, me and my dickhead friends decided it would be hilarious if we unplugged the bouncey-house while nobody was looking.  Nobody was remotely near it so we figured it would just a quick laugh and nothing dangerous.  My friend J pulled the plug out from a power strip on the ground, and we waited for about 5 minutes for something to happen, but nothing did.  We were just turning to get back to our seats when literally hundreds of parents started screaming and running to the giant waterslide behind us.  It had tipped over on its side and about 30 small children were clinging to the side as it deflated on top of them.  Terrified, we fled the stadium and sat outside.  A firetruck and 2 police cars showed up, so we ran and hid in the woods behind the parking lot.  An hour later, we returned to the stadium and learned that everyone was okay.  I laughed for so long and so hard that I was sore for days after.", "summary": "Me and some friends collapsed a giant water slide at a baseball game.  Somehow nobody got hurt...Funniest shit ever"}
{"id": "t3_3htlhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex husband [29M] advice for [27F]", "post": "So my ex husband is in yet another relationship. Since our divorce it has been a constant revolving door of women. Like 10 all of whom have met our child. Our son is only 5 years old but has had so many different women in his life. It infuriates me. Just the other day he was talking about how he missed so and so. It kills me to see my sun hurt and feeling abandoned by all the people when it is his dads fault. \n\nMy ex husband is kind of a pig. He constantly hits on me while he has a girlfriend. Stares at my chest, tries to touch my boobs, etc. It is annoying and I call him out on it. I will admit he has been better with this girlfriend. However, I am not sure I like her. He dated this girl about a year ago and they broke up because \"she is crazy\" per my ex. Now they are back together and it has only been a month or so and she is already around my son. \n\nI have tried talking to the ex about not having girls around my son until they've been together for a few months but he doesn't listen. \n\nHow do I help my son when he is hurt? How to I convince my ex husband that he needs to wait? Knowing him this relationship will last 3-6 months and then he'll find someone else with in a month.", "summary": "ex husband is a sleeze with women and has them around my son. "}
{"id": "t3_18vd4u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something that you have seen other people let their children get away with that still amazes you?", "post": "This question was inspired by events earlier today:\n\nI was walking back to my car when I noticed there was a little kid at the back of my vehicle. Normally my tiny Toyota doesn't attract much attention from kids so I investigated. The kid was a boy, probably in the 7-10 age range, and he was running his hand back and forth along my bumper and scooping his hand in to the slush embankment I parked next to from time to time. \n\nIt was at this point I noticed he wasn't going after the slush but rather the de-icing crystals and was methodically rubbing them on my bumper to scrape the paint off. My car isn't in the most pristine condition, especially the bumper area, but I wasn't exactly enthused. So I beeped the car's horn with my key fob and scared him off. \n\nHis mother ran over at this point and got indignant with me for beeping my horn at this kid and scaring him saying, \"I shouldn't do that to a small child just because they are expressing their *creativity*.\" She promptly hurried off with her kid at this point leaving me quite confused and with a shitty(er) bumper.", "summary": "Somebody's unsupervised fuck trophy damaged my vehicle and apparently its my fault."}
{"id": "t3_120lyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [F29] having a crush on a guy from work, and I don't want to mess up my marriage to my husband [M33] whom I love.", "post": "I'm a 29-year-old woman, married for 7 years to a man who is 4 years older.\n\nA few nights ago I had a dream about having an affair with a man from work. I've always thought the guy is cute (he's older, a lawyer, somewhere around 37/38 I believe) but thought nothing more about it.\n\nSince the dream, I can think of nothing else.\n\nNow I don't talk to him much (we say hello when we pass each other and talk about work related issues sometimes) and I don't really know him that well.  But now when I run into him I get incredibly tongue-tied. When I go and grab coffee I'm terrified of running into him - and yet I always hope that I would.\n\nNow this isn't anything new; I had a similar crush on a different co-worker two years ago, and that resolved itself with time. I never said or did anything to reveal this crush to him, nor do I intend to reveal my crush to the lawyer guy. But the crush-y feeling is still there and it's awful and exciting at the same time. (I suppose most everyone knows what it feels like.) I haven't cheated and don't intend to cheat.\n\nMy question is: **how do I turn this into a positive thing for my marriage?** We've been together for almost ten years and the sex isn't as wild as it used to be. We're both pretty introverted and like to spend time at home; I suppose neither of us are very 'exciting'. We do love each other and I wouldn't hurt him for the world. I hate the fact that I can't seem to stop thinking about another man. **How do I make sure that me having a crush won't hurt my marriage?", "summary": "I'm having a crush on a man from work. I'm afraid it's going to hurt my husband and my marriage if I don't get my shit together. What can I do to make sure that this won't hurt him and us?"}
{"id": "t3_ghcem", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can you do if your company you paid for your domain name let it lapse just one month after you paid for it?", "post": "A bit of back story.  I have been using this company to register my domain and host my site for years.  Its a little site, nothing special, just my home business.  I am really attached to my domain name, so when I returned to school I kept up payments but didn't keep much of a website (just the basic info on some pages, more brags than business)\n\nThe company billed me for the hosting automatically.  That reminded me I should update a couple of pages.  It was gone, and it was parked!  I did a whois and found they bought it less than a month after I paid last year for two years.  I did update a couple of pages after I paid last year so it was working for a bit.  \n\nI contacted the company and they were snarky.  They said that the CC payment hadn't gone through on the 24th of may.. which was true, for some reason the CC company thought using the CC online was suspicious, due to the fact it had never been used for that before.  It was cleared up and worked the next day.  I pointed out to them that the second payment had gone through.  Got a snarky reply that I had no idea what I was talking about and I must not have got the \"it didn't work email\"\n\nSo the CC was contacted and provided a statement for that month, which clearly shows the payment went through and was charged to the account.  Armed with this knowledge I emailed them back saying I had the statement, and would a scan do or did they need it mailed to them.\n\nThat was 2 weeks ago.  What should I (can I) do?  I am just so bummed I really liked that domain name.", "summary": "I paid for two years hosting, they took my money didn't renew my domain name.  What, if anything can I do.  Bummed my name is now parked."}
{"id": "t3_4kimto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27/F) fooled around with a boy(25) that I like, but just met two weeks ago - do we talk about it?", "post": "My roommate introduced me to his newest coworker about two weeks ago, and he's become a regular visitor and occasional overnight guest at the house ever since. We get along pretty well, and I think he's really cute. Definitely someone I would love to have in my life in some manner or another. I feel as though he's everything I've been wanting in a guy, but it's also a little early to make that call. Perhaps it's just the loneliness talking. We haven't spent much time with just the two of us.\n\nAnyway, we're all kind of transient in our living situation at the moment - he's camping and I'm sharing an RV with my two roommates (a couple). It was snowy a few nights ago, so he crashed with us. I offered to share the couch bed so he didn't have to sleep on the floor (really just a ploy to cuddle). \n\nWell, I was just planning on cuddling, but the next thing I know he's slyly moving his arm around my waist, and hinted for me to make a move. I didn't object. One thing leads to another and we end up fooling around. \n\nIt was great, and I'd totally do it again. I want to have this kid in some way, be it FWB, casual dating, or a long term relationship. Thing is, neither of us have mentioned it yet, and I'm not sure if I should? We've just been carrying on like nothing ever went down, but I'm afraid if it doesn't get brought up, I'll miss my opportunity. I also can't really read how he's feeling about it. \n\nWhat the hell do I say to him? Anything? Suggest we do it again? Send him a sexy text message? Keep quiet and wait for him? I'm bad at boys.", "summary": "I messed around with a guy, and I'd like to either do it again or date him, but I don't know if/how to address the elephant in the room."}
{"id": "t3_99p0e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My 10 year wedding anniversary is coming up and, unfortunately, we'll be totally unable to have any sort of real celebration. What can I do?", "post": "So, long story short, we've been together more than 15 years, married for 10, no kids yet, and we love to travel. We've always traveled kind of thriftily, but I was planning a 10 Year Balls-to-the-Wall something or other until we got a little bad news: she needs back surgery, and she needs it fairly quickly. I started working to move my plans up on the calendar, no matter what the changes cost me, but then I found out that she's on strict orders not to travel while awaiting surgery. FML.\n\nHer recovery time will be a small number of months, but in the mean time I'd like to commemorate the date with something a little more special than a really nice dinner, etc. To make matters more complicated, the surgery is only a few days after our anniversary date and it's happening in another city (Houston), so we'll be several hundred miles from most of our friends and all of our family except for her parents.\n\nAnd I have absolutely no idea what to do. I've looked into getting some of our friends to come down and have some sort of a party, but I couldn't get anywhere with that for a variety of reasons (not least of which was the aforementioned hundreds of miles of travel). I've rescheduled our whirlwind trip for as soon as she can reasonably be expected to be capable of travel, but that won't be for several months.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "She's having surgery on our 10th anniversary and we'll be in a largely unfamiliar city (Houston). I have a very expensive trip planned, but it'll have to wait several months. What to do to celebrate RFN?"}
{"id": "t3_2oqccj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] boyfriend and I [20 F] have been dealing with alcohol/cheating related issues...", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months now....it's pretty serious and we're really in love. I can't imagine being with anyone besides him. We get along beautifully and he always knows how to make me feel better. \n\nHowever, the first two weeks of school, one when I was here and one when I wasn't, my boyfriend got so incredibly black out drunk and cheated on me twice.\nHe has a history of alcoholism in his family and he has always been a heavy drinker, so his blacking out is not uncommon.\nIn the first instance he was at school a week before it started so he was just partying. He got so drunk that a girl who raped him last year (before we were together) I guess found him again and the same situation played out. They had sex but he really didn't remember until this past week. \nThe other situation was him being blackout when I stayed in and his phone died so he couldn't answer my messages or calls and he called me at 4 AM from the floor of his apartment looking for me asking me where he had been all night and I, of course, couldn't answer. Turns out he had seen his ex girlfriend and she gave him a blowjob.\nIt honestly disgusts me so much that that happened but I have always chalked it up to his drinking. He's getting better with it, but now it just causes all of our fights because he is so ridiculous when he drinks.\n\nI am not sure what to do....", "summary": "my boyfriend has history of alcoholism in his family and drinks heavily, we have great relationship except when he drinks and has cheated on me twice while under the influence; what the fuck do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_mu564", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with bringing a pseudo-outdoor cat indoors?", "post": "This cat currently lives on our front porch as our outdoor cat, we acquired him pretty recently. He was abandoned by a neighbor's brother, and has more than likely only been an outdoor cat for a few months. He wants to come inside desperately, and we want to let him inside. He's fully clawed, so we're worried he might tear the place up, and also wondering if he'd take to a litterbox. We could always get him declawed, but the housetraining thing is my real concern. He's extremely friendly and obviously very accustomed to people, and has always been very well-behaved when we let him indoors to warm up (winter is approaching in my neck of the woods). Any thoughts or tips?", "summary": "Want to bring outdoor cat (that was previously an indoor cat) inside, worried it will scratch everything up and piss everywhere."}
{"id": "t3_3bpog9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Irresponsible or Justified?", "post": "So, basically I have 3 sources of passive income and I am currently looking for a part time job while I go back to school. But I have some pre planned events coming up (festivals or raves whatever you want to call it) and I got offered a job but they will not let me attend these events since this job is retail and these events conflict with the store's needs.\n\nWill it be irresponsible to reject the job offer because of these pre planned events? With these sources of income alone I have enough to support myself and pay the bills. Having a job will just mean more money in savings. \n\nMy justification for rejecting the offer is that I never really went through those \"party\" years as I am 26 and I have just worked part time since High School and never really got into anything until I discovered these festivals about a year ago. Even though it sounds super clich\u00e9 my philosophy on stuff like this is as long as I am not starving and can make the rent I should go because in the end life is short and you only get one crack at it.  Also, I would see how it would be terrible for me to reject a job for a \"stupid\" reason like this if I had a family and others depending on me but since I am single and trying to live life to its fullest in my eyes I don't see the problem. I have 5 years' experience in this field and there will be other job offers that would not mind me going to these events/ I will get one later when I do not have so many things planned.\n\nI have also been told that this is a stupid reason to reject a job offer since I do live in California and it is hard to get a job currently in this state.\n\nSure I am an adult and can make my own decisions but I would also like some input from my fellow interwebs people.", "summary": "I want to go to festivals even though it might mean rejecting a job offer."}
{"id": "t3_2wvuhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] am afraid that my fianc\u00e9 [21 F] of 10 months may be cheating emotially and sexually.", "post": "For a while now my fianc\u00e9 has been in a friendly relationship with a man she works with. They grab lunch together, go shopping together, and do many things that are date like. I have caught them drunkenly flirting over text, often times being very sexual, she claims she believed she was texting me. She always talks about him as if he's her \"BFF\", as she says. He has expressed strong feelings for her in the past.\n\nI'm wondering if I'm overreacting. It's possible for a female to have a male friend. I don't want anything to do with the guy, yet she seems to want to do double dates. She pays no mind to how awkward or uncomfortable their actions have made me feel, even though I expressed me feelings. She even calls him pet names (babe, Hun, love, etc.). I really feel justified in believing she's cheating on me. Am I being completely moronic? I'm sorry if this is a silly question.", "summary": "Does it seem like my Fianc\u00e9 is cheating on me?"}
{"id": "t3_4lsll4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] am still thinking about my ex-boyfriend [23 M] of 5 years almost everyday. How can I move on?", "post": "My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me in early April. It came out of left field for me but apparently he hadn't been feeling the same about me for a while. There were no signs as far as I could tell, everything seemed normal. We had even hung out the previous weekend and everything was fine. Maybe I was missing the signs.\n\nAnyway, since then I have not been able to stop thinking about him almost every single day. I'm not depressed or unable to enjoy life (surprisingly since i've battled depression and anxiety in the past) and am even having some really awesome things happen in my life. But he's always in the back of my head. I think the way he broke up with me really messed with me. I'm mostly confused and disappointed as to why and how he ended things.  \n\nHis explanation was all over the place and although we met a week after he broke up with me to clear things up, I still have a ton of questions that I feel deserve answers. \n\nMy question is, is it best to just continue what I'm doing which is focusing on other things like work, family, friends, myself, etc.? Or should I try to contact him to get a better explanation of what went wrong?\n\nWe had said we would try to remain friends but we both needed time and agreed that when we were ready we would contact the other person.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me very suddenly. Left me feeling confused. It's been almost 2 months. Should I just focus on myself or try to reconnect to clear things up? "}
{"id": "t3_4tuoll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [16F] told me [19M] that she doesn't know if she loves me.", "post": "I've been with this girl for a couple of months, and we expressed our love for each other roughly a month ago. For a bit of context, she's been in and out of the hospital recently, and has had a ton of stress put on her. She's been acting weird since then, and last night I uncovered why. She told me that she's felt really stressed recently, and she doesn't want to put it on me. I told her that I could handle it, and I wanted her to do specifically that so i could help her. We got on the topic of love, and she said \"I hate that word.\". I asked her if she loved me and her answer was \"fuck if I know\". I told her that I was with her because I want a future with her, and when I asked her how she felt about that she said it made her happy but she couldn't promise me a forever. I told her to think about everything and get back to me. This morning I was very upset and figured things weren't going to work out, so i went to break up with her. She told me she doesn't want that, and she wants to stay with me, and that when we get through this rough patch things will be okay. She said that she's been thinking a lot, and I wanted to give her time away from me so she could think better, but she didn't want me to leave her alone. She wants me to continue to talk to her. I've been told that it's a possibility that because of her current situation and the stress piled on her, and also the fact that it is her time of the month, she might be confused, but that isn't something I know. She's been acting fine all day, like nothing ever happened. We still joke around and have a good time. Could someone please help me better understand my situation? I'm very lost and I don't want to lose her, but I know that isn't my decision. Thank you for reading.", "summary": "I'm not sure what my girlfriend wants."}
{"id": "t3_4bz1a0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32 M] love my wife [37 F] but I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever and I can't bring myself to leave her.", "post": "I love spending time with my wife, we make great money together and live a comfortable life but there's zero chemistry and I think about other women every time we have sex. I want her as a best friend but not a partner for the rest of my life. I can't bring myself to leave because we own a house together and have two amazing dogs. I know she would be devastated if she found this out and I can't bring myself to tell her. I've spent 27 months of my life in combat and have trained MMA since I was 15 but I still feel like too much of a coward to leave her. Whenever I build up the courage to tell her I immediately find 50 excuses to keep silent, I can't live like this anymore. Has anyone been here before?", "summary": "Not attracted to my wife, want to leave but I'm too weak to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_2w5djb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] recent ex [23M] of 3 year relationship suddenly has an attitude about moving out. I am so uncomfortable. What should I do?", "post": "My boyfriend of 3 years was blatantly ignoring me and apathetic and I decided to break up with him because I was the only one putting effort into keeping the relationship together. He hurt me (flirting with exes, lying, trying to berate me) way too often and enough was enough. We live together, but he said he would be the one to move out since I'm recovering from an injury and I have fish that would be a pain to move. I told him I want to cut ties and I do not want to talk to him anymore. I do not want to be his friend.\n\nI have heard him sobbing in the other room almost every night since the breakup. We have exchanged some letters but his letters don't make sense. He keeps saying he loves me and he doesn't know what he wants... That his emotions say he's \"making a continuous mistake\" but he is trying to be rational and needs space. He doesn't seem to accept the reality that I am DONE. It's over. I'm ready to move on. I feel like I don't love him anymore. \n\nTonight I confronted him because my alternative plan fell through. He said that moving out was not a priority for him. He was very cold about it and seemed to be putting on an act. Is he trying to get in a last ounce of control? \n\nWhat are my options? I live in a city where it is hard to find decent rent prices. My cousin agreed to move in with me here, but my ex doesn't seem to want to leave. I need to give my landlord 30 days notice before leaving. I feel like I should just give her the notice tonight and abandon the apartment and just settle wherever I end up. I could squeeze into a studio but I'm a student and would be paying way more than I am now. I might reach out to my family to help fund an apartment by myself.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and we agreed he would be the one to move out. Now he's changed his mind and it feels like having an unstable stranger in my apartment."}
{"id": "t3_1debqs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20f) am having a hard time coping with my baggage", "post": "I have the greatest boyfriend (19m) in the world right now. He is thoughtful, kind, he does everything in the world to make me feel important and special and I try to do the same for him. We have been together for about eight months now.\n\nHowever right around the time we met I was exiting a really bad relationship that ended in me terminating a pregnancy. My current SO knows that that happened, and accepts me for who I am now, which given my past might be more then I deserve. On top of that from about feb-mid april my hormones were really nuts causing me to just be what felt like a shadow of who I was, but after some recent medication I feel a million times better.\n\nI suppose my problem is that a part of me wants to run away from this relationship because I think I might have jumped into it too soon. But I know I truly love my SO and I'm afraid if I tell him what I'm feeling he will take it the wrong way and it will hurt him. I know that communicating what I'm feeling would be the best thing for us, but I just don't know how to have that conversation.", "summary": "I goofed up in the past, my SO accepts me. I may have rushed into things and I want to talk about it with him, but I don't know how without hurting feelings."}
{"id": "t3_39dclr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a leak in the wrong place", "post": "Well this did not happen today but a month ago.\n\nAfter finishing late shift my colleagues and I met on the parking loft for 2 \"Feierabendsbiere\" (beer to celebrate work is over) before driving home. \nHalf way home i realized that that I would have to relive myself before getting home so i stopped at a parking site near a forrest.\nOddly enough a caravan was already parking there and completly illuminated.\nWalking by it i caught a glimpse of a great pair of tits through the window. Minding my own business i preceeded to relieve myself on the  edge of the forrest.\nWell on the way back to my car i noticed the cameraman in the caravan zooming in on me.", "summary": "urinated on a porno set"}
{"id": "t3_4y19uk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My uncle [38 M] is trying to steal my dad's inheritance [41 M] by exploiting their father's drinking problem.", "post": "A little backstory.\nMy father has always been a kind man, whilst my uncle pretty selfish. Even when younger my uncle would pressure his grandma(she passed away) into giving all the inheritance to him. My father's side of the family aren't exatcly well educated or rational people - they mostly care about themselves. Well years passed and my grandparents decided to split the inheritance ( one house and some land). My father would receive the house when my grandfather passes away and my uncle the rest. More years passed my uncle starting constructing some buildings on the land he would receive in future. \nRecently my uncle and his wife started chaging stuff and renewing my fathers future house. So, my grandpa is quite weak and helpless and at this point(and an alcoholic) and he seems to not care at all. My uncle is already stealing his pension every month and will probably force him to write the house on his name too. I mean, they have started investing money into the house, so this seems like the next logical step, right? \nMy mother doesn't want to get involved in my father's family feud at all while I am currently sitting here conspiring how to destroy my dad's family. \nMy father is feeling hurt and betrayed(probably for the 100th time) by his family, and is going to cut them all out of his life without a fight for what is promised to be his.\nAny requests on what to do?", "summary": "My family is breaking apart because of my uncle's greed and his exploitation of my grandfather's problems."}
{"id": "t3_39djhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(18F) I really need help with handling my feelings for my boyfriend (18)", "post": "I have been with my bf for 2 years. I really like being around him and our relationship used to be picture perfect.\nRecently, I'm really not sure what I'm feeling, but I just don't want to be dating him anymore. I REALLY don't want to lose his friendship but he seems to still be head over heels for me and I don't know if that can happen. I want to end things but he is a little emotionally unstable and he has told me that I'm the only person he can love and the only person he can seem to get any affection from. I love his family also and don't want to cut the relationship off for them either. I don't know who else to ask. I don't want to tell my friends because they might gossip and whatever.\n\nI'm starting college this year and he is also my very first boyfriend. This might sound shallow, but I don't want him to be the only person I've ever dated. I have no Idea if he is even right for me. \n\nHe is really overbearing also. He is texting me 24/7. I've even just stopped replying, I am so sick of texting! I just want him to leave me alone!! I don't want to talk about what I had for lunch! If you don't have anything meaningful to say, you do not have to text me anyway! And if I don't respond for a while he'll say something like \"I'm worried about you\". I'm just sick of it.", "summary": "Losing feelings for my emotionally unstable, overbearing boyfriend. Break up? Break?"}
{"id": "t3_2aajb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF[20F] When would you stay with crazy?", "post": "I'll try to keep it somewhat brief. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Once we were dating for awhile I realized she wasn't the most stable person... at all. She had very bad depression, anxiety, and migraines. She also gets jealous easily, has trust issues, and is slightly overweight. It took me a long time and a lot of effort to get her to go to her doctor to start taking meds. I tried to get her to see a therapist as well, but she only ended up going a few times and then gave up. When we were in college together still, her depression/anxiety was so bad that she gave up on going to classes and flunked out. She doesn't have her license, she currently works a minimum wage job and it's been 1-2 years since she's been in college. She was supposed to go last spring but that didn't work out, and she's supposed to go an upcoming semester but I'm not sure if she'll follow through. Her family is also pretty crazy which doesn't help the whole situation.\n\n---\n\nI see many people give the advice of leaving someone who seems depressed or has anxiety because \"they're crazy.\" I don't really see these people as crazy unless it's a serious case and they're doing extremely immature, insane things. To me, it seems a little rude to just assume they're crazy and tell people to run away. For whatever reason I decided to stay and help her instead of running away. She's definitely improved a lot, but still has some issues. I guess I cared about her enough to spend a lot of my time and energy to stay and help. My question to you is: When would you stay with \"crazy\"? What would make you stay, what would make you leave?", "summary": "Everyone seems to say \"seems crazy leave\" in a lot of the posts I read. When would you stay?"}
{"id": "t3_4u2knc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) brother (25M) keeps using up all the data on our cell phone plan.", "post": "My brother (25) and I (21) share a cell phone plan. We each pay for about half of the plan (I pay two dollars more because my phone is newer) and get 6GB of data to share over our two phones. My usage is generally around 1-2GB. My brother has been repeatedly using up all of the data on the phone. This month, he used up about 3.8GB and I used 1.6, leaving only .6 GB left for both of us. There are 18 days left before our data is renewed.\n\nI like to use the data on my phone for the GPS, to listen to music, to browse the Internet, and to play games. I spoke to him about this yesterday. I am very frustrated because this has happened several times. I never used up more than half of the data and he uses up 2/3 or \u00be of it and there's none left for me to do anything. He said, \"It's okay, we can just turn off the data on our phones when it runs out.\"\n\nI mentioned that he should pay for another GB for me to use, since I paid for half and I should get half of what I paid for, and his girlfriend said to me in a very irritated tone, \"We're trying to save money and we can't spend it on frivolous stuff.\"\n\t\nI signed a contract and I need to be on the phone plan for another year. I just want to be able to use my data on my phone and I don't want to pay the money for the extra GB because I wasn't the one who used it up in the first place.", "summary": "Brother uses up all the data, we both pay half for the plan. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_uigv8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some birthday gift ideas for the man I am dating. (Nerd-ish)", "post": "I've recently started dating a man who I adore very much. I have a week to come up with something for his birthday. He is very hard to buy for because he has money to get whatever he wants, but he lives very modestly and uses most of his money and time to help others.\n\nSo far, I've gathered this much about his interests-\nHe loves: FPS games, MMO games, Strategy and other Role playing games. The color green. Movies (especially fantasy, scifi, and action).\n\nHe doesn't need any games, he has over 9000. He won't tell me what he wants because he doesn't want me to spend money on him (everyone says that). \n\nHe will be 28 in 10 days. He is a doctor. He is the best person I've ever met- he only cares about other people and hardly ever worries about himself. He means so much to me already, and I want to show him the same compassion he shows to everyone around him.\n\nSo, I'd really appreciate some ideas- if anyone has the time to offer them. \nThanks!", "summary": "Need gift ideas for a kind-hearted, nerdy, and professional 28 year old man."}
{"id": "t3_4cfqow", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "**A personal finance tax, income, and asset brain teaser**", "post": "Surveying /r/personalfinance for possible creative solutions or interesting perspectives on a unique situation. \n\nThe subject is a 62 year old widow. Here are the measurables:\n*Assets*: $800,000 in real estate. A primary and secondary residence of approximately equal value. Approx $1,200,000 in relatively liquid assets, roughly $700,000 of which are in tax-deferred accounts. \n\n*Income*\n*~85,000 (before taxes)\n\n*Expenses*\nSubject makes an approximately $1,200 contribution to a tax deferred account each month, but otherwise spends almost all or most of her income to maintain the lifestyle to which she is accustomed. This includes upkeep of both properties, travel, and general enjoyment.  It is unlikely that a change in lifestyle is possible. The vacation property is rented on occasion. \n\nHere is where it gets interesting: Subject has approximately **$400,000** in a tax loss carry forward.  Subject's investments have not been performing terribly well as of late and subject does not have much in the way of capital gains to offset the tax-loss carry forward. Additionally, Most of subjects liquid assets are in tax deferred accounts.  Subject has about $570,000 in a taxable account. \n\nSubject would need to realize an approximately 80% gain in the taxable account to use up all of the tax loss (in addition, $3,000 each year of the tax loss can be applied to ordinary income). \n\n**Questions**\n1) How can subject position herself to make the best use of her tax loss?\n2) How should subject be allocating her assets to maintain her lifestyle and prepare for retirement? She plans to work 8-10 more years.", "summary": "A 62 year old widow has a lot of assets, a decent income which she spends almost all of, and $400,000 in tax losses that currently can't be used, what does she do? "}
{"id": "t3_1zu808", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Officially the worst day of my life! Wanna come with me?", "post": "First off, yes.\n\nI am the biggest idiot to walk this earth.\n\nI stayed home from school today, for God knows why.  Bored all day.  Decided to take a shower.  Nice and relaxing, then suddenly, the wild idea popped into my head, 'Hey! Why don't I stick something in my asshole?  It'll be fun, right?'.  Sure, why not?  I'm not gay, it was just a new experience.  Got done, saw a rubber ducky sitting on the ledge.  And then I thought 'It seems like it would be a good idea to put that thing up my asshole.'  Biggest mistake of my life.  Sure enough, that thing got sucked in there like a vacuum. \n\nNow at this point, I'm panicking, I grab tweezers and try in pathetic vain attempts to get it out.  No dice, I only made it worse.  So I tried to push like I was taking a dump until i saw stars.  Still nothing.  \n\nYep.  Its gone.\n\nNow I really panic.  I search high and low on the internet, only coming to the same advice that I should go to the ER.  I want that to be a last resort.  My parents aren't home (yes, I am that young that I can't drive anywhere to buy laxatives myself, or to drive myself to the ER.  \n\nAbout an hour later, my mother comes home, and I have the painful task of explaining everything to her.  She is very nice and understanding about it, ^^Love ^^you ^^Mom ^^<3 and she went out and bought some milk of magnesia to try and help with this situation.  Now she has to call my dad, and explain why we can't go to this concert that we have been planning to go to for weeks now, because his son got a rubber duck stuck in his asshole and he needs to go to the ER.", "summary": "Rubber ducky stuck in asshole.  I want to die."}
{"id": "t3_ysa6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/18]Should he really be mad about what I[F/18] just asked about?", "post": "My bf and I have been together 2 years. We are currently in a LDR and he is in Hawaii but possibly moving back soon. Haven't seen him in 3 months. \n\nThis isn't even a big deal. Of course I get jealous of him talking to other pretty girls...but really, who doesn't? \n\nSo, I was on Facebook and it constantly pops up on my newsfeed that he is liking all these other pictures of these girls he is friends with. (Note: most of his friends are girls. He has always been that way AND he has had huge crushes on all of them at one point in time before we started dating.) And I was a little jealous because I want more attention from him. So, out of curiosity, I asked about it. At first he said he didn't like any pictures. But then he said his brother does it most of the time.(His brother goes on his account often) Then he got really pissed at me over it. I didn't even sound mad about it. I kinda made a joke out of it when I asked. It's just frustrating because now he won't talk to me.", "summary": "I asked my bf why he seemed to be obsessively liking other girls pictures and he got mad. Did I go too far? or did he?"}
{"id": "t3_3sky5n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Job change question", "post": "Hello everyone, I hope that you guys can give me some guidance on an important decision I have to make. I have been working for 11 months at a big accounting firm. My background is in IT and wanted to do something more closely related to technology. I started interviewing and I received an offer for $7K more than what I am currently making. This came as great news, except I just learned that HR is going to get me an opportunity within my current firm to do something a lot cooler but I'd keep the same salary. The problem with the new offer is the distance to my current place and where my SO lives. I live currently close to Downtown and she lives 30 minutes south, the new job would be 40 minutes north west of where I currently live. Just before I got the offer I was looking to move closer to her, but that would mean about 1.5 hrs of driving every day. I have made numbers and the raise covers the price of gas. Is there anything I should do in addition to that to be able to make a better decision? I feel like if I stay at my current firm I'll be able to get an even bigger raise if I move out in the next few years, but not sure that this is the case. I'm confident since unemployment numbers are steadily going down every day. What would you do?", "summary": "Got an offer 1.5 hrs away from where I want to move to that is $7K higher than what I currently make. Not sure if I should make the move because of all the driving."}
{"id": "t3_2ne0g2", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I've only ever liked 1 girl, and i can't get over her?", "post": "Hi. I'm 23, male.\n\nI knew her since i was like 14, she was a year younger than me. We used to hang out almost daily for years - she lived just down the road from me. We were really good friends, and our friendship lasted until i was about 19. I was a really naive teen, and never realized she had feelings for me, even though she gave some massive signals. \n\nI had strong emotional feelings for her too, but i didn't really understand them at the time. I was a late bloomer. I went through a lot of hardships  and i slipped into a bit of a destructive state. I ended up pushing her away, i did it to protect her, but it ruined our friendship. I imagine she hates me now. \n\nI've only seen her once since (been 5 years), and we both completely blanked each other. I haven't attempted to contact her or anything, i could quite easily, but i don't want to talk to her and find out she hates me now. I still think about her a fair bit, and even have dreams about her. (non sexual). I know it's weird, but i'm not stalking her or involving her in any way so it's not hurting, right? \n\nWell, that's the past. The present is the problem. I don't feel attracted to anybody, sexually or emotionally. I have options, i'm not bad looking and i get interest on nights out, and a couple of friends who like me. But none of them interest me. \n\nI know this is really pathetic, but i don't know what to do. I want to get over her, but i still have the problem of not finding anyone else attractive. I've only slept with one girl ever, and weirdly, she looked a lot like the girl i liked. Still the sex was no more enjoyable than masturbating, and was all very average.", "summary": "Used to have a big crush, pushed her away, regret it horribly - haven't spoke to her for 5 years and still obsessed with her. Don't find anyone else attractive."}
{"id": "t3_2exuyv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sharing my friend's personal information.", "post": "Today I fucked up. Big time. Main account because throwaways are for pussies. \n\nSo, I'm 16. Let's get that out of the way. I'm in high school, so pretty dumb. Last year, I had this thing with a girl. We both \"loved\" each other, but she stopped us from dating because she didn't was a long-term relationship. She was leaving the country as soon as she graduated, and didn't want to have any regrets. At least, that's what she told me. \n\nWe've essentially moved on, and I've been doing pretty good. Had a summer girlfriend, and was flirting with a girl when this school year started. Someone, however, thought it would be hilarious if they texted her, from my phone, \"I love you.\" She responded with, \"Thank you Calaethan, but don't push this.\" The person with my phone thought this was pretty funny, so they kept on texting her. Eventually she revealed a lot of personal things and basically said she needed a friend, not a boyfriend. She had a lot of problems, and the person with my phone told her to \"get over it.\" She gets pissed, and cusses me out(over text). I find out, and make the person say, \"jk, this is so-and-so.\" She gets angrier, and assumes I'm lying. \n\nNow this was just so surreal for me. I decided the best course of action was to ignore her texts of \"I'm sorry for cussing\" and \"We need to talk\" because I just didn't know what to say. Fuck up number one. So I decided to show my friends, and tell them how much the situation sucked, and such. Fuck up number two. \n\nThe next day, I decide to man-up and talk to her. First thing she says:\"So I heard you were showing everyone our conversation.\" FUCK. I all of sudden remembered all of the personal shit she had told me. She told me she was going to counseling every week. And I showed just about everyone I know. So I walked away, and am now typing this on a park bench because I couldn't stay at school. \n\nSo yeah. Fuck.", "summary": "Read the damn thing."}
{"id": "t3_22e1xh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I an asshole or wrong to stay friend with my straight best friend of 4 years (22M) if I'm (21M) gay?", "post": "I'm gay. Just came out. I'm 22. My best friend for years has been a straight guy.\n\nI don't let my orientation define me. I hate saying I'm gay. But I always think about this. \n\nI've crushed on him since the day I've met him. I've just dealt with it since he means a lot as a friend. Usually I don't associate with crushes for the heartache. But this time I am. \n\nI feel bad because no matter how much I try not to its just biology that my feelings for him will change how I act as a friend. I'm naturally just gonna feel a bit different around him because of the attraction. \n\nWe tell each other everything. Our relationship is reciprocal. We hang out. Text every day. Make sure we see each other when we both busy. We share feelings. He talks about his girlfriends with me, etc. I try to protect him and be a friend and he protects me too, but I can't help but feel like I wish I could have him. I don't let those feelings change how I act though. \n\nHe knows I'm gay and doesn't care. He knew a year ago before I told anyone. \n\nI just feel like an asshole if I'm going to try to find a boyfriend but in my head I love another guy I still see and talk to all the time. \n\nI always make male friends. I like them more. But I always crush on them eventually. I have a lot of love. I feel like this is wrong too.\n\nI get told its weird, cheating, wrong, etc. And I get told to find new friends and a real boyfriend. \n\nI feel like I'm doing something really wrong and that our relationship is extremely weird compared to most other peoples friends.", "summary": "I'm gay and trying to figure out if keeping my straight best friend I crush on is healthy or makes me an asshole or would be cheating if I'm going to get a boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1fotfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20f) have to break up with my \"manfriend\" (22m) of 3 months because I'm leaving for 9 months for an internship opportunity across the country. We're both interested in picking things up again when I come back. Should I do No Contact while I'm away?", "post": "I (20f) am currently a university student on the east coast and in two weeks I'm going to be moving to the west coast for a 9 month internship opportunity in my field. I'm hugely excited and I wouldn't give this opportunity up for the world. However, almost three months ago I met a guy and we started casually dating. I told him right away that I was leaving soon and that it probably wasn't a good idea to get involved. He convinced me that it would just be something light and fun and that we would just have a good time up until I left. In hindsight, agreeing to that probably wasn't the best idea.\n\nWe've gotten pretty attached to each other, but the fact that I'm leaving soon has put a strain on our relationship. He's being distant and not putting a lot of effort into seeing me or talking to me too much anymore. I went from seeing him almost everyday to, at most, once a week. This has caused a few different fights/spats to take place. However, when we do actually spend time together we're affectionate and it's as if nothing is wrong. All the problems just disappear and that's what makes me think that the issue is my leaving as apposed to just general incompatibility. \n\nAnywho, awhile ago we talked about how once I come back we'd both be interested in picking things up where we left off-- in no way is he going to \"wait\" for me, but if we're both single, we'd like to give things a try again.\n\nMy question is, while I'm away for 9 months, should I not talk to him? Do the whole NC thing and wait till I get back? Or should I still text him sometimes and maybe write emails back and forth so that we stay in contact?", "summary": "I'm leaving for 9 months for an internship opportunity and I have to break up with my manfriend of 3 months. We're both interested in picking things up again when I come back. While I'm away, should I do NC? Or keep in touch through email and the occasional text?"}
{"id": "t3_3kyf26", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[PSA] DIY RSVP Postcards", "post": "We're about a week and half from our RSVP deadline and I'm so excited that we've received so many RSVPs so far -- but a word of warning for other brides who are making their own rsvp postcards.\n\nToday we received an rsvp IN an envelope. At first I thought \"how silly, uncle so and so must not have noticed the stamp on the postcard\" -- then I noticed the Return to Sender sticker on the postcard.\n\nDespite the postcard being a good strong paper and the perfect size, the machine at the post office chewed up the card a little and damaged the address enough that it was considered 'insufficient'. Which is annoying in this particular case because everything but the zipcode was intact. Come to think of it, all of our postcards have come in a little chewed up.\n\nMaybe part of the problem is that we went with a matte, recycled paper versus something fancy and glossy? Who knows. I had the same issue with a purchased postcard earlier this year.", "summary": "The sorting machines at USPS are hungry and will eat your rsvps if given the chance."}
{"id": "t3_3v0eob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] have anger issues. My friend [19F] and I had a thing that ended badly", "post": "A friend of mine just broke up with her boyfriend but had been flirting with me for months. Last night she finally gave the OK to Knock Em'. \n\nI've had anger issues since I was younger, and tend to completely black out and fight anyone in my area. I'm also 6'5\", 260lb and swinging around a small dorm room is no bueno. Her ex also has anger issues, and tends to do the same thing. \n\nThe deed is done and we're cleaning up when we hear a very innocent knock on the door. Thinking it's a friend of mine, I open the door and was greeted with her ex. He saw what happened and pushed me.\n\nWe both blacked out, beat the shit out of each other, and our neighbor who tried to break it up (college dorms)\n\nWe all had a meeting with the RD and she said she wouldn't report it because I've helped with breaking up fights on campus in the past, but her ex is on disciplinary probation and another fuck-up gets him expelled.\n\nShe didn't like that I apparently got him in trouble and hasn't returned my calls, texts etc. I actually really liked this girl and have thought about dating her many times (and I'm terrified of relationships after a really bad one)\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Did stuff, got angry, broke shit and lost my dream girl."}
{"id": "t3_1wjtpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "30f dating a 23m-am I kidding myself?", "post": "I just recently turned 30 and I know I would like a serious relationship. I've been dating for about 5 months this guy who is obviously considerably younger. He is very mature for his age and handles himself well. We both have talked extensively about what we want in each other and we communicate well when there's an issue. He says he wants this budding LTR as much as I do and both of us could see it going possibly further. But I'm still worried that the age could be an issue. \n\nI've always dated younger guys with the exception of two guys-but I've never actively looked for anyone much younger. I do look young for my age so I acknowledge I tend to appeal to younger guys who think I am the same age (but I openly and freely admit to how old I am to friends or just if someone asks).", "summary": "Am I kidding myself this could be the real deal considering our large gap in age?"}
{"id": "t3_d3y40", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend wants to hang out with someone he used to have a crush on.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost six years, and we're in college now. When he was a junior in high school (we had been together for 3 years around this time), he developed a crush on a girl in his class. He liked her for a while, and didn't tell me until 6 months later, when he was \"kind of getting over it.\" It's been years, and he hasn't really spoken to her, but today she IMs him out of nowhere and asks him to go with her to get her tattoo. He accepted and then told me about it. Although she is not into men, this has caused me some distress. Am I being paranoid?", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to hang out with a girl he had a crush on in high school, but has since gotten over, should i be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_132pk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend(26) is a huge flirt and called me(24f) possessive when I said something about it.", "post": "We've been together three months and are exclusive. Before I get accused of being insecure, etc...I've seen some of the text messages co-workers and other random girls send him. Some of them even post flirtatious comments about how good he is looking in shirtless photos on facebook. \n\nI try not to let it get to me, but it does. He says he doesn't see it as a problem and that it doesn't mean that he's sleeping around. He also got mad and said I was being clingy about it. \n\nSometimes he even does it in front of my face. We'll go out for a couple of drinks and he'll ask some random girl to stand next to me so that he can compare our heights to see who the smallest, etc is. \n\nI can understand a little flirting, but a recent situation led to a huge fight. A female co-worker started sending very very inappropriate messages about what a huge crush she had on him, etc. He didn't tell me about it until I kept asking. \n\nAm I being unreasonable for asking him to slow down on some of this or does anyone else have this problem with their s.o?", "summary": "Boyfriend is a huge flirt and called me jealous/possessive when I said something about it."}
{"id": "t3_37dw6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [25 F], duration 9 months, girlfriend is hanging out with a guy who likes her and it's making me really jealous", "post": "My girlfriend (25) and I (28) started going out about 9 months ago. We moved in together after about a month or so and it didn't work out. We broke up after about 6 months because neither of us were happy. About a month after we broke up we started hanging out again and found that we both still really cared for each other and became FwB. After a couple of those sessions we had a talk about what we were doing and how we were feeling. Long story short we decided that we wanted to make the relationship work and to take it slow. We also told each other the people that we had hooked up with while we were on break so to be completely honest with each other. \n\nOne guy she hooked up with really liked her and asked her out. They knew each other through work and initially she thought he was gay (this was when we were dating the first time). \n\nFast forward to last night she told me that he'd called around 8.30 and they'd spoken on the phone for about 90 minutes, mostly about work, some about me and some about other stuff. I have been really unsettled by this since she told me. She called and we talked about it on the phone but I still can't shake this feeling of jealousy. Thoughts?", "summary": "Girlfriend hanging out with guy and I'm getting jealous because I know he likes her and they've hooked up in the past"}
{"id": "t3_2xdoiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50 M] with my girlfriend [50 F] of 3 years, I revisit things I said before, she feels jerked around", "post": "After a medium-distance relationship (it was a two hour flight, so we could visit every other week) my girlfriend moved up to be with me.  We live in separate houses, but we're starting to plan our retirement future together.  This is a huge step for me.  I've never lived with someone I was in a relationship with, so I have a justified, I think, fear of the unknown.  \n\nWhen we talk, I have a tendency to be too agreeable with her ideas, not to be manipulative, but because I don't like conflict, and I'm trying to convince myself it's a good idea.  But later I will come back in good faith and say, \"Sorry I shouldn't have said that, I really meant..\", and she feels totally jerked around, and then afterwards can't trust anything I say.\n\nI can see her point, but our styles are different -- to her, things are either resolved or not resolved, and I tend to want ongoing conversations.  Is there a way I can not be so agreeable in the first place? How can I regain her trust while filling my need to fine tune what I want to say?", "summary": "I say things to be agreeable, then go back and correct myself, she can't trust what I say anymore."}
{"id": "t3_48wwb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Find a relationship with odds stacked against me?", "post": "I'm 18 in Auckland, and I have never had a proper relationship before. The only things I have had were short-lived and lasted like 3 weeks, so I don't exactly count it as a real relationship.\n\nI'm studying at uni, and the course i'm doing has quite literally no girls in it. I'm at a loss as to how to meet a girl and get a relationship started when the only people I can possibly meet are guys. Tried all the apps like Tinder...etc and they didn't exactly work out for me. Hardly any matches and the ones I did get were.....kinda creepy. I'm also incredibly socially awkward and embarrassed to approach people cold so this probably doesn't help me at all aha.\n\nHas anyone got any suggestions? I'm so over seeing happy couples and wishing that I could have something like them.", "summary": "How do I find a girlfriend when there are no girls in my life?"}
{"id": "t3_3c0rrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my SO [21F] are having issues because of her sister [23F].", "post": "Basically my GF and I are fighting because her sister does not want her to move to the city that I live in. My GF wants to pursue school and her sister is trying to make her stay at their hometown.\n\nShe insists that her sister is limiting her opportunities, which for her is becoming a celebrity in anyway possible, and that going to school will end it. Of course this makes me rage because I and my GF believe that school would be a better option.\n\nI am not sure what to do because I am trying to respect her sister. But I am on the verge of raging and telling her what I really think. She tries to pursue unrealistic dreams by basically selling herself to 60 year old millionaires.", "summary": "my GF [21F] and I [23M] are having relationship problems because of her controlling sister [23F] who despises me"}
{"id": "t3_2p5ukh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by 'farting' before work", "post": "Woke up in the morning, took dump, was unusually more watery than normal. Continue morning as normal, shower and all. 10 minutes to work, about to walk out door, oop I need to fart, so I 'fart'. The mushiness reminded me of when I was 3 and pooped myself so I instantly knew what I had done. Ran to the shower, washed underwear, had 1 minute shower, got dressed AGAIN and proceeded to work with 7 minutes until start. One win was that I got to work bang on time but fared for my life every time I farted at work.", "summary": "Leaving for work, take a deserving 'fart', sloshy mess in my underwear."}
{"id": "t3_4etjlm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(FL) Cashier won't do her job properly. I want to fire her but HR says no because of religious reasons.", "post": "Hi, legaladvice. I can't believe I'm in this situation.\n\nI was recently promoted to Store Manager of a grocery store after the original manager quit (I was assisstant manager before for about 6 months).\n\nWe hired a woman, let's call her Sally, a couple of weeks ago. She's not terrible at her job (just basic cashier stuff) but she refuses to process payments that equal $6.66. I know, it sounds crazy.\n\nOur store prices everything ending in 28 cents as a ploy (kinda like Brandsmart). So anything priced at $6.28 will ring up to $6.66 after tax, and it happens quite often that people will buy just that one item (which I've learned after Sally started working here).\n\nEvery time this happens, one of the managers or supervisors has to take over because she refuses and sometimes it throws a spanner in the works. I brought it up with HR and they said I can't do anything about it because it's her religious freedom (since 666 is the number of the beast in Christianity).\n\nThe thing is, we have the same religion; we even go to the same church! But I don't think she should be able to use that excuse to not ring those transactions. I've offered to move her to another part of the store but she doesn't want to stock or do anything else.\n\nHR warned me not to decrease her hours or I'd get in trouble, but I just don't see how I can do my job properly if I have to take care of petty stuff like this.\n\nIs there a law or something that says I'm right? I don't want to go back to HR without knowing I'm 100% right that she shouldn't have the job if she can't perform all aspects of it.\n\nAnd if I'm wrong, I suppose I can bear it even if I do think it's ridiculous.", "summary": "Employee does not process payments of $6.66 due to her religion, HR says I cannot fire her even though it's a major inconvenience and we have to get someone else to do it each time (multiple times a day)."}
{"id": "t3_3ki6ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents are looking for help concerning what to do with my Sister [17 F] for the next 4 months.", "post": "My sister is a troubled youth who has a long list of mental health problems, which have escalated over the past couple years to the point where she has harassed every member of the family (even extended) to tears. \n\nShe has:\n\n* Attacked grandma with a pair of scissors\n* Abused several pets, killing one of them\n\n* Destroyed thousands of dollars in people's personal belongings\n\n* Physically attacked other children she has gone to school with\n\n* Escaped multiple times from therapeutic boarding school\n\n* Costed my parents well over 170,000 USD in treatment over the past decade\n\n* Urinated on other people's beds as well as her own\n\n* Thrown on average 4 tantrums per week while I was in her company exceeding well over 2,500 (she would scream at the top of her lungs and bang around sounding like she was being murdered)\n\n* Refuses to take medication\n\n* Played mind games with my younger sister and abused her for years\n\nI won't pretend to like her. I will quell any inquiry of her being abused, she wasn't. In fact, my father still makes every effort to treat her well. This includes taking time off work to fly across the country to find her when she ran away this past week.\n\nIf no solution can be reached, she will be rejoining my parents and younger sister in California where she will terrorize them and make their lives miserable for the next 4 months until she turns 18. If they live that long. Please realize she's violent, it isn't a joke, but a real possibility. These words come from someone who has had over 3 years without her to cool down. My youngest sister is just a teenager starting high school and she's had a hell of a rough life living with someone as unfathomably toxic as the middle child. \n\nFor now, I request that only people who have had in depth experience or are a professional in a relevant field provide an answer to this.", "summary": "What do you do with a child who is a danger to the safety of everyone she's around? Does anyone have any recommended therapeutic schools? She's currently in North Carolina, so somewhere near there would be preferred. Google search really tries hard to bury a lot of results and there aren't that many schools she hasn't been expelled from for being violent or refusing to obey rules."}
{"id": "t3_1ioqv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [23M] become a better person for her [23F] 4 years together", "post": "So me and my fiance met at work 4 years ago and moved in with my mother after a month of dating. It was a one of those \"I love you sooo much,, lets go on an adventure\" type things. We have had very rough patches and very smooth patches. I am the type of person that will tune out someone yelling at me and just give them a blank stare turn around and walk away, she likes to handle the problem right then and there.\n\nWe both have had rough lifes, her's was rougher than mine which she likes to remind of constantly. \n\nRecently her grandfather died and he basically become a second father after her mother died and they were very close but he lived overseas and she didn't get to say goodbye nor will she be able to go to the funeral. I've been the only one with a job for about 3 months now and have been working my ass off to pay bills which aren't getting paid. She says she understands my stress but I don't think she really does.\n\nWe do love each other but idk what to do anymore. I wanna stay but i just want less drama and less fighting between us.\n\nP.S. I know this may be weird, but I kinda need a one on one conversation with somebody, so if anybody is willing please PM me", "summary": "How can I show my fiance that everything is okay without us fighting."}
{"id": "t3_456xec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (23/f) leave the man I love (27/m) to take my dream job halfway around the world?", "post": "So I have just under 48 hours to make a decision that could forever alter the course of my life.\n\nI've been offered a financially lucrative position in a beautiful country that I believe I could enjoy living in. Personally, things aren't so great at home, so were it not for my boyfriend, I would be jumping at the offer.\n\nI've been in an on-again/off-again relationship for four years. He was my first kiss, first everything. I fell hard and never really got back up. We recently decided to try dating again after about a year of pretty much dating without the label.... however, I don't think a relationship (not just with me, with anyone) is what he wants. I think I pressured him into it.\n\nSo I have this offer. This dream job. But on the other hand, I have a chance at stability and finally being with the man I love more than my own life. I've never lived in a foreign country and honestly the thought terrifies me. But... what if I stay here? What if the relationship doesn't work out and I'm left here wondering.... what if? for the rest of my life? What if I move and, again, I'm wondering what if? but this time about the relationship?\n\nI really just don't know what to do. I'm so torn. I can't eat or sleep, it's almost some sort of cosmic joke. Why would this offer come right when I have a chance with the person I've dreamed of for years? I just... I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Trying to decide whether to leave the man I love and everything familiar to me to take a job in another country (a year-long contract; I don't see him waiting for me)."}
{"id": "t3_330j8i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M-17] feel like no people in my school/ town even want to know me", "post": "I have had a rough few weeks with girls teasing me and playing me a lot. I feel like all they do is make fun of me and don't even try to get to know me. I was seeing this girl I was chatting to for a bit but now she says she never had any feelings for me. I have a history of being bullied and being picked on. I have had a few girlfriends but none have lasted over 6 weeks. I don't know if I am trying too hard to talk to girls but I always get friend-zoned.", "summary": "Is there something I'm doing wrong or is it the girls?"}
{"id": "t3_4ubdpp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 3 years, my girlfriend is making me choose between her and my salsa teacher (27 F).", "post": "Yes, she knows i have a girlfriend because i have mentioned her several times.\n\ni have been taking salsa classes for a few months and really enjoy since i don't have many hobbies. my girlfriend is jealous of my instructor (Valeria) because she is very beautiful (my girlfriend is the most beautiful to me).\n\nValeria has texted me on a few occasions and we have talked but i usually delete the conversations (i don't want my girlfriend to feel jealous). Valeria is extremely nice to me and we get along just great outside of dancing.\n\nwe had a get together recently and Valeria was there (she is my friends cousin) and we talked some more. my friend asked if everyone wanted to see us dance. \n\ni didn't want to but did so anyways, she stared into my eyes the entire time. after my girlfriend was ignoring me and when we got home she asked \"what the hell was that!?\" i said what.\n\nshe said she is sick of my friendship with Valeria and told me we are way to intimate. she said it makes her uncomfortable and that she wants me to stop seeing her.\n\nshe said if i can't do that then she doesn't know if she can be in a relationship with me.\n\nI'm stuck because me and Valeria are friends and she hasn't done anything wrong. but i don't want to lose my girlfriend.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants me to choose between her and my salsa teacher."}
{"id": "t3_2hgad5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with the guy I've been seeing [22 M], unsure because of mixed signals", "post": "This guy and I have been hanging out for 3 months now. We work together and have known each other for a few years before that. \n\nIt started off as a once or twice a week hang out where we would also have sex. He eventually asked me out on a date, we went to the movies and dinner, for which he paid, even though I tried to offer. From there it escalated to texting, even briefly, everyday and for the past few weeks we have been hanging out three or four times a week. He is super affectionate and is always doing things to help me, whether it be at work, or smaller things when we have been hanging out. \n\nI'm currently confused though because we hung out Monday night at his house and we were both super tired, so we did not really get into any deep conversations. We just kinda hung around, watched tv, and eventually fell asleep. Usually we will hang out every other day or so or at least there will have been an effort to do so. I texted him last night to see what he was doing, and he responded that he was in a weird mood and feeling under the weather. I responded saying that I hope he felt better thinking that was the end of the conversation. He asked if I was doing anything yet for the night, and I said I didn't have any plans, but that I just thought of hanging out with him. He responded \"I was planning on that too earlier, sorry :(\".\n\nI am just at a loss of what to think. Am I overthinking this and he just is having a bad week? Or could this be the beginning of a fade? I guess I'm just also disappointed because his dad is gone for the week and he has the house to himself, so I wrongly assumed I guess that we would be hanging out more than once, which I am also worried is clouding my judgment of the situation.\n\nShould I even bother trying to text him again to hang out? Or just give him space and wait to see if he contacts me?", "summary": "Guy I'm seeing is sending me mixed signals, is it just me overthinking things or is he possibly not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_1h0uop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [23M] of 2 yrs, grabbed me. How should I feel?", "post": "So my boyfriend and I came home tonight from a friend's, and I was a little tipsy. We started dancing around, and I accidentally punched his face. Not very hard; my hand on his face with my knuckle.\n\n He looked at me and I apologized quickly, realizing I messed up. He grabbed my chin and the back of my neck and told me, \"You'd better not ever do that again,\" and that he was \"not kidding.\" He's generally sweet and light-hearted, but this legitimately scared me. \n\nIt was like he became someone else for a split second. I sobered immediately and backed away.\n He stormed off and I sat down. I was roughed up as a kid, and it's something I'm over. But it brought back a memory I don't want to remember. \n\nMy boyfriend legitimately scared me. He came back to me after a minute or two and said he was sorry and that he would never hurt me. He seems remorseful, but. \n\nI feel really shaken.\nIs this a normal relationship occurrence? This is my first serious relationship. I'm not sure how to react.", "summary": "bf grabbed me. How should I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_2onahv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long-distance GF[17F] wouldn't tell a guy(who apparently has a huge crush on her) that she's in a relationship with me[19M] so he could buy her gifts, and wouldn't tell me of this. Was I crazy to be upset?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 6 months now and everything always goes fine between us. We made it a point to always be honest with each other no matter what, and I have always been faithful to that.\n\nI found out from a mutual friend of ours that a guy she knows has a very big thing for her and has been into her for a while now. I was unaware. This mutual friend also told me that this guy bought my girlfriend gifts, and she told me her mother bought them for her. The reason he buys her gifts is because she's not telling him that she's in a relationship with me, so he's been trying to woo her over. Quite frankly, I was hurt she was keeping our relationship a secret, especially to guys who like her.\n\nShe lied to me about the gifts and refused to tell me about all this because she wanted to avoid a conversation about it. Was I right or wrong to be upset about this whole ordeal?", "summary": "GF won't tell a guy who likes her that she's with me so he could buy her gifts, and wouldn't tell anything."}
{"id": "t3_3b0oa1", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Two aggression issues with an otherwise amazing dog", "post": "I recently adopted a 4 year old German Shepherd Dog named Diesel.  He's amazing.  Loyal, loving, protective of me, gentle, obedient, and unbelievably smart.  I love this dog.  \n\nTwo problems. \n\nThe first, and less scary problem is that he charges the cats.  They try to sneak past him, and will suddenly dart away, and he charges.  So far he hasn't hurt either of them, but while I understand he probably just wants to herd them, sometimes he accidentally steps on them or worse, snaps at the air near them.  The cats are understandably spending a lot of time at high altitudes, and he gives them a constant hairy eyeball.  \n\nSecond, and much more worrying, is that he tries to defend the house.  He barks and runs to the door when someone arrives, which is fine, but the other day a friend came over and got home just before me.  He had a key, so he let himself in.  Diesel bit his hand.  Not much damage (1 tear about 1 1/2 inches, and two or three small marks), and my friend was really understanding about it, but yikes.  I'm now really worried Diesel is going to try to protect me or the house in a way that really really hurts someone.  \n\nSide note: apparently the moment my friend closed the screen door, Diesel chilled out and was fine.  His wife came up to the door, and Diesel wagged his tail and licked at her through the door, but as soon as the guy came back up, Diesel barked again.  He seems to regard women as less threatening than men? And he is much more protective of me than of my husband.\n\nAny advice?  I love this dog and want to help him learn.", "summary": "Oh noes bites"}
{"id": "t3_4ek607", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Family using painful nickname and i want them to stop. [25F] [24F] [28F]", "post": "My Uncle passed away last week. I loved him like a father and he helped pay for my college. He called me 'Ladybug' as a nickname and always has. Since he has passed, I just don't want to be known by that. My sister [28F]  [24F]and cousin have been calling me this because it reminds them of him. \n\nWe got into an argument over it. I told them I don't want to be called Ladybug, it's something special I shared with my Uncle. I want to be known as Ellie, like they have called me for [25 years]. \n\nI am not really willing to compromise on this. At this point I kind of want to take a break from them. I am mourning and they keep reminding me of him in painful ways. \n\nAny idea how to handle this?", "summary": "My uncle called me a special nickname, now my sister and cousin are using it. It bothers me and I want them to stop."}
{"id": "t3_39u6s7", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "I'm house sitting, and the cats have fleas. Please help!", "post": "Hey r/pets, I'm house sitting for family for a couple months, with their two outdoor cats. I've been keeping them indoors as much as I can, as I'm usually out during the day and only sleeping here at night. \n\nSince I've been staying here, I've had over a dozen small itchy bites on me (mostly on my ankles) that I know are not mosquito bites. I also noticed one of the cats frequently rubs his neck against my ankles, which I thought was just affection, but I checked him today and he has fleas.\n\nLong story short, I don't have a car and I really only have the rest of the day today to do anything about it. This week is just going to be crazy for work, and I know I won't have time. I've tried giving him a bath with dish soap but I can hardly get him into the tub. What else can I do? I have so much work to get done and won't even have time this coming week to do much besides vacuum at night.\n\nI've messaged family members for help, but they're halfway across the world and haven't answered. \n\nWhat measures should I take? How much is this all going to cost?", "summary": "cats I'm watching for the summer have fleas, no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3jvn3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F] 9 months, we want different times for our first times", "post": "So I've been in a relationship with another girl for 9 months, says title, and we've done mostly foreplay (mouth, hands, the usual) and have been trying to plan out our first time.  We're in college, 1-2 hrs away, and have no other option than to get a place off-campus for just a night (which we are totally fine with).\n\nProblem is, she really wants our first times during an October weekend, while I want it 1 month later during the week of Thanksgiving. Her reason for October is the earlier the better, and she'd rather just go straight home during Thanksgiving break because her break is shorter than mine (by about 2 days).\n\nI want Thanksgiving because I don't know my full class schedule yet (haven't started school / finalized classes), so I could have a lot of midterms / classes / homework. I also think giving our first times shouldn't be in the middle of the semester/quarter, when there's stress as opposed to during Thanksgiving recess. I am wholly uncomfortable with October, that's what my brain/body/heart is telling me, but she doesn't want Thanksgiving.\n\nWe've talked about this for a couple of weeks and it's getting nowhere.\n\nAny help is appreciated!!!", "summary": "We want different times for when to lose our virginities. GF wants one month before when I want to. GF wants earlier the better and wants to have her full Thanksgiving break at home, I want Thanksgiving when there's absolutely no school stress and b/c her time makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_4iv5od", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] GF [25 F] of 3 years just told me she has problems with sex because of past relationships", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been sleeping together since the beginning of our relationship, and recently I've started trying to gently introduce more in the bedroom. she's always had a toy, but i've been trying to introduce more positions and experiences to make things a little more fun.\n\nthe other day we started fooling around and she abdruptly stopped me saying she didn't like anything I was doing (same thing I always do), she doesn't like making out, and she doesn't want anything new. She completely shut down and wouldn't say another word to me after this.\n\nthe next day she text me saying that she's had \"really terrible relationships, including really scary sex\" and that \"she has a problems with sex because of past relationships\"\n\nI'm not sure where to go from here, she won't talk about it, I also now have no idea what she wants in bed (she says normal sex is all she wants). Ideally I'd like for her to heal in some way and open up with me. Should we stop having sex all together for a while? I could suggest her see a therapist but I imagine that not going well.", "summary": "Girlfriend told me she's had relationships involving \"really scary sex\" which is keeping her from opening up and trying new things with me. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1xtykn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my ExGF [21 F] were together 5 Months, Dez. last year we broke up, now she texts me one day before Valentines Day", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nFirst of all, i want to excuse myself for any grammatical mistakes iam \n\ngoin to do here, english is not my motherlanguage :D.\n\nSince my ex gf and I broke up in Dezember (She tought we dont fit \n\ntogether... i thought the opposite thing... but okay..)\n\nwe had no contact, no calls, no messages,..\n\nAnd today out of nothing my ex gf send me a picture she took, with a\n\ncat who has a mustache. \"Like a sir^^, i had to think of you when i saw\n\nthis \", she wrote.\n\nAfter that we had a little smalltalk, until she wrote she is out right now \n\nand wishes me a good night.\n\nDo you think she send me the picture on purpose? Does she want that \n\ni make a move? I mean today is one day before valentines day.. I dont \n\nunderstand very much of women,but i think when a women does \n\nsomething like that, she would do this on purpose and not just out of the blue? \n\nAm i right on this?\n\nPLZ HELP ME :/", "summary": "ex gf send me a pic of a cat one day before valentines day,   should i make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_2k3398", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Wife [22 F] of 5 years, I am always walking on egg shells with her.", "post": "Hi all first time posting here, \n\nSo this all started about 3 months ago, it seemed like whatever i did, it was wrong or upset her. \n\nTo clarify i am a typical male, i am a bit dirty with leaving clothes around and sometimes forget to take dishes to the sink etc.\n\nWe finally had a talk about five days ago now, she said she though we where no longer compatable. \n\nI didn't know what to say, i spend any free time i have doing what she wants to do. I randomly buy gifts, usually sometime i know she wants.\n\nI just want her to be happy and to be with her. Anyways we finished the talk and decided to stay together but in the back of my mind i am scared and feel more alone then ever.\n\nPlease Help", "summary": "I need help and think wife will leave me still over small issues."}
{"id": "t3_3uao62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] could use advice on how to start something with [22f] from temporary long distance", "post": "So, let's begin by explaining the title I suppose. There's this girl I fancy, and I know she likes me as well (she's said so). We know each other for a longer time already, but we never really dated. A year and a half ago I moved away to a different country and we didn't really keep in touch, until about two months ago. We've been chatting, Skyping from time to time, and as I'll be around for Christmas I'll go visit her then as well. We're both quite interested to see what it'll be like, to see if we want that to go anywhere. \n\nHowever, until July we'll be two countries apart (about an hour and a half flight time), and this is giving her some big doubts. In principle she's open to something more serious, but the thought of getting into a relationship with someone you can reasonably only see about once a month is a bit tricky for her. Moreover, we are not even at that point of taking it to something serious. We've talked, we know each other, and we can go on a few dates a few weeks from now, but then what? \n\nThat's kind of what my question is about. I'm trying to find a way for us to get to know each other better, and to figure out if we more than just like each other, while being apart for the first part. The main problem I see is that if we don't try now, and wait until I'm back, the window might have closed for either of us. A lot happens in six months, even when you keep in touch. So yeah, I'm really trying to think of a way to sort of date her long distance. I'd be able to visit now and then, and we can Skype in between, but do you think that would be enough for two people to go from thinking they like each other, to getting real feelings? Does anyone have any experiences with this? Of course I can do little things, like send flowers, post cards and such, but I'm not sure that'll be enough.", "summary": "I like a girl and she likes me, but going from liking to having feelings generally takes seeing each other in person, more and more often, and this won't be possible for another six months due to temporary long distance. How can I bridge the gap, and get us closer, while being apart?"}
{"id": "t3_rf8be", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Most embarrassing college freshmen stories? I'll start.", "post": "First day back from Winter Break. Have the worst flu/stomach virus ever. Changing in late afternoon when suddenly. Explosive diarrhea. Everywhere. Running down my leg and pants. I grab a towel and start to wipe it off dry because the college I was attending had community showers and there was no way in hell I was going there. I wash off leg best I can and throw towel on bathroom floor. Cut to a few days later and I started gather my clothes to take to the laundromat. I throw in shit covered towel without thinking. I do wash and the clothes come out drenched in shitty water because I suck at laundry. I put the wet, feces coated clothes in the dryer thinking that might help. Whole laundromat smells like shit. People look in disgust as I pull out my shit rags. Never go there again.", "summary": "I had a case of explosive diarrhea that  somehow ended up in the local laundromat."}
{"id": "t3_3n887k", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Budgeting advice for couple with quasi-separate finances and one shared credit card?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI love this sub, and am grateful for everything I've learned here thus far (including the importance of an emergency fund, which saved my ass last month when my car needed a new transmission.)\n\nMy boyfriend of 9 years and I are trying to get a better handle on our financial situation, and are looking at using Mint.com to help manage our money. The issue is that our finances are a little complicated - we both have separate checking and savings accounts, some bills that we share, and some that we take care of separately (I pay my own student loans, for instance.) We have one shared credit card which we both use for daily expenses (fuel, groceries, etc.) and we both make payments to. I also use this card for work expenses to earn extra points, and re-pay it when I get reimbursed - this often includes airfare, restaurant tabs, and hotels. The card is a travel points card, which we will probably use to afford a honeymoon someday, so using it for work travel (which earns double points) is a no-brainer. Complicating this is how we split items - I pay the majority of the credit card bill each month, and he pays rent and bills (which are not especially high, as we live in a rural area.) Gas is a major expense, as we both commute, that is charged to the card.\n\nWe aren't big spenders, but we want to know more exactly who is paying for what, where we can collectively trim the fat, and how we can achieve our financial goals. \n\nWe'd like to use Mint.com, but are struggling to understand how to break all of this up, since our finances are separate in some areas, and shared in others. I'm hoping you guys can help me wrap my head around this! Thank you so much in advance for your help.", "summary": "I want to use Mint to track my boyfriend's and my expenses, but am not sure how to proceed since some things we pay for are joint expenses, some things we absorb individually, and some expenses on our joint credit card are work expenses that I charge to earn more points."}
{"id": "t3_3cx7qz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fallen out of teenage love [17m and 16f]", "post": "I [17 M] have been with my girlfriend [16 F] for just over a year and a half now, and although for about the last 95% i've been confident that I love this girl i'm starting to get thoughts that I may not love this girl anymore. \n\nI persuade myself of this due to things like how I constantly feel like she doesn't get my humour anymore and always takes joking things I say way out of proportion which makes me feel even more uncomfortable in the relationship. What i'm trying to ask is if this is normal? Will these things pass? \n\nI'm extremely confident that I can continue to love this person as much as I have in the past, I know I can, but being my age with a whole life ahead of me, hopefully, the factor of feeling/being tied down plays a role too. When it comes to the actual ideal of \"being tied down\", she doesn't see the way that I see it. What advice can you give me?", "summary": "Feeling like I dont love my girlfriend anymore, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3f1gf1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by formatting the wrong drive", "post": "Obligatory: I'm on mobile, so sorry for formatting/spelling errors. But at least this happened today.\n\nI have 2 solid state hard drives (SSDs). Both are fairly small at 120 GB each. One had my OS on it, while the other had nothing on it. So I did a FULL image backup of the drive and put it one my 1TB internal that I have. Then I proceed to make my 2 SSDs into one logical one through the magic of RAID 0. This formats the drive, but gives me a new hard drive with a 240GB storage limit.\n\nWell this removed my OS, so I used a Windows 8 disk to 'repair' my computer to restore my OS but to the larger drive. Well I decided why not format the new 240 GB hard drive just to make sure... Well this is where I f***ed up. I formatted the drive I had my backup on. Now I'm waiting for testdisk to do its thing and recover my files. The file names and structures are all messed up now, and I have 1000s of files to look for. On a side note, does anyone know what the file extension is for a Windows 8.1 recovery?", "summary": "Formatted the wrong drive, now I get to look through 1000s of files to find the one I need."}
{"id": "t3_1yot9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am finding that when I meet a girl, I get turned off if I find out that they are in a sorority", "post": "So I'm in college and trying to meet as many people as possible.  For some reason, I tend to immediately get turned off if I find out that a girl is in a sorority.  I am personally not the most social person and don't really like going out to many parties, but that is exactly what a lot of these girls love to do.  \n\nSpecifically, there is this girl in one of my classes that I like and we get along really well, but she's in a sorority.  Let's say, for example, we started to date. I don't know how comfortable I would be knowing that she would be at these party's, while she, and many other guys, would be drunk. \n\nIs it in my best interest to not pursue girls who are in a sorority? Or do I have a false sense of what some of these frat and sorority parties are like and give it a shot?", "summary": "Tend to get turned off when I find out a girl is in a sorority, mainly because I dont necessarily enjoy parties very much and that's what a lot of sorority girls love to do."}
{"id": "t3_14zllz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] have been the lover of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder [26F]. Recently recognized all her symptoms of BPD so I need advice, possibly from those who have been in a similar situations.", "post": "For the last year, I have been in a very sexual relationship with this girl in whom I now see the symptoms of BPD. She's got a boyfriend and while I'm relatively open with my relationships, she gets extremely jealous. There were a couple of times where she tried to blame me for some problem that I really couldn't see myself at fault for. And then possibly as a revenge measure for me not giving a crap, she goes rebounding with some other guy (not even her bf). However after that in her calm episode, she regretted doing that on an impulse and even accepted that she might have BPD after we had a talk.\n\nSo now here's my problem. I'm a student of human behavior and after observing her behavioral patterns, researched a lot on BPD and Histrionic Personality Disorder. There were a few AMAs on Reddit as well and majority say to get out of there and cut all contact. Most of the guys there seemed to have been in serious relationships with the women in those instances. I'm in it for the amazing sex but people say that the manipulation will start setting in. I've already noticed that I've been investing more time with her over the last few months. \n\nShe's agreed to treatment so should I bother being a support figure for her since she's got a bf anyway? Or continue with the sexytimes til things get crazier?", "summary": "Fucking a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder (recognized this only 2 weeks back) for a year. Continue til things get crazy or leave immediately?"}
{"id": "t3_29h3o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my SO [27 F] Need Help! Says she doesn't find me attractive anymore, but still loves me.", "post": "My long term fiance of 3 years told me this morning that she no longer finds me attractive.  We have been living together for about 2 years, and I thought we had been happy together.  \n\nI have 2 children from a previous relationship that are 12 and 13 years old.  She has one child that is 3, and I have been raising her as my own.  She calls me \"daddy\" and we spend time together every morning and night.\n\nI had noticed that she was becoming more distant and had no libido but was not too alarmed until recently.  She is frequently going out drinking with her friends, and just got back at 11pm from a 3 day camping trip with her female friend, in which I was not invited (although she did bring her 3 year old).\n\nShe broke the news to me this morning when I woke up at 4am to make her coffee before we both went off for work.  She says she loves me and all that I do to provide for her, but she just doesn't find me romantically attractive anymore.  She says she wants to \"work on it\" but I honestly have no idea what that means.  She says she wishes she didn't feel this way.  I feel like the only thing she wants to \"work on\" is setting herself up financially to leave, but she did seem sincere in a way too.\n\nShe is going out this weekend again and won't be coming back until the following day for a drinking party with her friends.  She wants me to watch her 3 year old for her, but I feel like this will be enabling her behavior.\n\nI still love her so much, and this is breaking my heart.  It crushes me to the marrow to think of losing her, the 3 year old we have raised, and the impact it will have on my two other girls.\n\nPlease offer some constructive advise.  I am so confused.", "summary": "My fiance doesn't find me attractive anymore, but still \"loves me\".  How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_4tgc69", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cannonballing in a pool", "post": "First post here :) don't judge.\n\nSo this happened today. Still shook. \n\nI was at a resort earlier today in Jordan near the dead Sea. It was extremely hot so I decided to go swimming with my Cousins. All goes well... Until I get the idea to perform a cannonball. (Keep in mind I was wearing a loose pair of swimming shorts) I climb out if the pool and walk far away from the pool. I aim for my target and immediately begin to run. As I'm accelerating towards my target in the pool I realize that the shorts I'm wearing are pretty loose and baggy. \n\nAs I finally reach the edge of the pool, I jump. I move my knees towards my chest and wrap them with my arms. It was at this moment that I knew I have fucked up. As I was soaring through the sky, my balls were dangling below me..Dancing in the wind. I begin falling towards my target. My scrotum  lands first. Smacking the water at such an incredible speed. My pupils dilate. My heart rate increases. My teeth are clenched. \n\nI begin to scream at the top of my lungs and my testicles begin to throb. It was the most painful moment I have ever been through. So yeah that's what happened.\n\nI'm currently still holding an ice pack on my balls from that Incident. Thanks for reading:)", "summary": "I cannonballed and landed on my ballsack"}
{"id": "t3_2qrlfc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost paralyzing my little sister.", "post": "So, i am 17 and i live on a pretty big plantation with lots of open space. We have a couple tractors, some huge-ass lawnmowers, and an ATV which plays the main part in this tale. Snow had just started fallen a couple days ago, which obviously meant sledding. But since we don't have any big hills nearby, me and my sister usually just tow the sleds after the ATV, which is also great fun. I have driven the ATV since i was 9 in rain, on grass, on gravel, on ice, on snow, you name it, so i am quite adept at handling it (it also helps that it is the easiest vehicle to drive in the world...). \n\nMy sister sits down in the sled and off we go. Now, normally i'm pretty careful when doing this, but it had been a while since i last drove it in snow, and had completely forgotten how awesome it is to slide it around the corners and stuff. This also made me forget that i had my sister on the leash behind me, and that the sled swings out quite a bit when turning... The path we were driving on has a lot of nice corners for drifting, and, unfortunately, the best one of them has a wall made of solid stone beside it. 'Great' i think, 'best corner for drifting', and so i yank it around with about 25mph and i just hear a loud thump as my sisters sled hits the wall, and her back smacks against the stone. Fuck.\n\n I stopped immediately, and she's just laying there, crying, screaming that she can't feel her legs. I got crazy anxious, told her to try and wriggle her feet, and for what seemed like hours she didn't move. It was probably only some ten seconds, but she started moving her legs after a while, and she could walk just fine after half an hour. Turns out she just got shocked. No more sledding that day... She didn't even wear a helmet, and i've just spend the rest of the day beating myself up from being so fucking stupid. I cringe when i think of what could have happened...", "summary": "launched little sister into a stone wall by playing Gran Turismo in my head..."}
{"id": "t3_efrkk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, I have only 20quid to get my wife and daughter gifts for christmas. Any idea's or suggestions on how to stretch it?", "post": "I was laid off last year and have only been able to find part time work as a bookseller. Love the job but I only make peanuts. My wife's work messed up her pay and won't fix it until after the new year which has killed my christmas and new camera savings. \n\nAfter bills, food, etc... I have only 20 quid in my pocket and 4.30 in my bank account. \n\nWe aren't suffering or starving and have the bills paid up through the holiday's. I just don't have a clue as to what to get them with what little I have left over. \n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "I have only 20 pounds to get my wife and 2 year old daughter christmas gifts. Need ideas."}
{"id": "t3_3cegxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] long distance gf [24 F] is hanging with her ex [23 M]", "post": "We have known each other for a year, dating for 6 months.\n\nMy girlfriend moved back to her hometown 4 months ago, where her ex, who she dated for 5 years, also lives. We have been doing the long distance thing as best we can and I have even scheduled a trip out there.\n\nI recently found out she is getting texts from her ex all day long and even goes and hangs out with him. She and I talked about it and she assured me she doesn't like him anymore, but considers him a dear friend. She says that she is not interested in him, but she doesn't want to rock the boat and tell him to stop.\n\nI do not like this one bit. I of course do not want to giver an ultimatum, but I have tried saying I do not like it and she does not seem to get it only to tell me I have nothing to worry about. At this point I want to cancel the trip and say goodbye.\n\nMy question: Am I overreacting and need to grow up and get over it or should I just put an end to all of this drama and end it?", "summary": "my girlfriend is hanging with her ex and she doesn't seem to want to stop and I don't know if I am over reacting"}
{"id": "t3_2td0vj", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Jumping on people at the dog park.", "post": "I went to the dog park the other day and had an incident with another dog, 1 year old, who jumped a lot.  At the park I'm very forgiving with other dogs' behaviors.  If a dog jobs up on me, I don't get worked up about it.  I just turn my back, ignore it, and the pup gives up after a minute: no harm no foul.      \n  \nWell, the other day was cold, so I brought my gloves to the park. I didn't wear them, I kept them fully in my pocket, with my hand in the pocket.  From the moment I walk into the park this dog is jumping all over me, like up to my face jumping.  I ignore, turn my back a few times, SOP.  Then he jumps sticks his mouth in my pocket, where my hand is, bites down and grabs my glove.  He runs off with it.  His owner sees everything, I ask him politely to get the glove.  At this point, I'm still chalking it all up to collateral damage at the dog park.  The owner CANNOT get the dog's attention, at all....  zero control.  I ignore the dog until he comes close, grab him and get my gnarled glove back.  I'm a little pissed, but I hold it back, after all i brought the gloves to the dog park.  \n  \nThen a woman comes in, it's cold, so she's wearing a scarf....Well you can guess what happened next. The dog goes screaming over to her starts jumping all over her, and grabs the woman's scarf.  The scarf is wrapped around her neck and the dog starts playing tug o war:  Very scarey.  The woman wrangles it out of the dog's mouth and tucks it away in her jacket.  This whole time the owner in totally impotent.  \n  \nWhile I was pissed about my experience, I wrote it off as poor judgement on my part.  However seeing the other woman's experience illustrated the danger of this behavior.", "summary": "My question is where does the line between a dog's freedom at the dog park and rude behavior become bad etiquette?"}
{"id": "t3_3sztx1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am not stressed about anything in life - except my girlfriend [19F]", "post": "In general, I'm very laid back, care-free person. I've always been of sound mind and have never had any issues with anxiety, depression or the likes.\n\nI recently started dating my best friend of 3 years. We've been dating for nearly 2 months. She my 4th (and hopefully last) relationship so I'm not new to having a girlfriend or being in a relationship.\n\nOur relationship is amazing. We talk like lovers and always have an incredible time whenever we do something. We're both aspirational and keen on having a successful future and often talk about that future in the context of us being together. We get along exceedingly well, we are best friends after all. We haven't had a single argument in the entire time I've known her.\n\nHowever, over the past 2 months I have never experienced so much anxiety in my life, all over this woman. I constantly fear I'm being \"too much, too soon\" with her, I psycho-analyse every damn bit of punctuation in messages between us and I constantly fear being cheated on (completely irrationally as she has never given me a reason to warrant cheating and being her best friend of over 3 years she hasn't exhibited any characteristics of being someone who would). But I just can't get these thoughts out of my head! I will often get this ball of anxiety that builds up in my chest until she messages me.\n\nTwice, over two separate occasions, at work recently I had to just go in the bathroom and take a breather because my anxiety was freaking me out and I felt like I couldn't breath. \n\nI'm beginning to freak out because I cannot understand why I am getting anxiety completely out of nowhere and for no rational reason.", "summary": "Irrationally getting anxious over my girlfriend and need advice"}
{"id": "t3_19ngwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] gf [24F] is not that physically attractive...", "post": "This might sound like a weird question but here it goes.\n\nI've been in a relationship with my current GF for about half a year. We have a lot of fun together and our personalities compliment each other. She is very smart (PhD student at one of the top schools in the country), which I find very sexy and attractive. She is perfect in almost every way. The only problem is she is not very attractive. If I had to rate her on a scale of 1-10, I would give her a 5.5 (average) on a good day. \n\nI find myself looking at other women when I'm out in public by myself. When I'm with my GF, I try to be sneaky about it. Whenever I see someone attractive, I think to myself \"man, I wish my GF looked like that.\" I don't flirt with anyone though. I feel guilty thinking this and was wondering if what I'm feeling is normal. I feel like this isn't a healthy behavior and will only lead to problems in the future. Anyone have advice on how I can deal with this or is this normal?", "summary": "my GF is not physically attractive so I stare at hot women."}
{"id": "t3_2dvg2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my Husband [38 M] 12 years/4 Married, Talking about divorce. Outside of infidelity, why did you get divorce?", "post": "My husband and I have been lightly talking about divorce for a while now but it looks like I may be going through with it soon. \n**Details:**\nMet in college. He worked the same job until we moved out of the country for 2 years after I got laid off. I've always earned more money, paid more for things, until we lived out of the country- he earned more money. I stayed at home, had baby. We're back in the states- hes getting degree and we're planning on going back overseas with his new degree so he can earn more money. He's now studying and I'm the only one working. I came back 5 months before him to try and get settled first. So we spent that time apart. He came back in Jan. 14.\n\nWe have a 19 month old and are currently under a lot of financial stress (I'm filing chapter 7 soon, 1 income), he is trying to start a new career (teacher) and we are living with my parents and teenage brother. We have little privacy and very little time to ourselves, with or without the baby. We sleep in separate beds often because of the baby and we barely have sex (maybe once every 3 months), we're both faithful however.\n\n So all these are all factors...but this weekend after letting him go out to meet with a lady that he met at a teachers thing and hang out with her at an art museum all day he came home with a migraine so I let him rest. This morning we go out for brunch and he's a complete asshole to me because I don't want him to rush our brunch/mess up my semi-planned day so he can go meet up with one of his students (male) and he mentions divorce again while in the car. This triggers me to get pissed and actually go online and look into filing. \nIt's hard to actually pull the trigger. I'm trying to figure out if it's the circumstancel that we're in (which is temporary but taking longer then planned) or if it's really just over. \n\nI'd just like to know what to do- How to figure out if this marriage is over or not.", "summary": "Couple in tough a financial/living situation, but after husband is rude all weekend I'm considering filing for a divorce /What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_3q78l7", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Really like a great guy with herpes. What should I do?", "post": "Hi girls. Need some advice and never been in this position that I know of before. We've hung out for almost a month now. Never been sexual besides some kissing and light touching and he just recently told me he has had herpes for a while and for him it is very manageable. I could tell it was very hard for him to tell me. He is a big strong guy and had tears in his eyes telling me. He said he isn't on meds but he'd b willing to for sure. \n\nHe seems like such a great guy, he has a good job, is very attractive and we click so well. We are both in our late 20s. What should I do? I know the worst part of this disease appears to be the stigma and like one in five people\n\nOr so have it. I am scared to let him walk but obviously I don't want herpes myself. I just know if he didn't have this condition we could really be something. We have a ton of common interests and he seems to have a lot going for him. But I don't know what to do.  Any advice???", "summary": "Guy I really like has herpes. I don't as far as I know but I really like him. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_40vy2q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hitting my brothers butt.", "post": "So this didn't happen today but yesterday night, but almost midnight. \n\nMy brother and I went out for late night Taco Bell run. We were waiting in the drive through after I had gotten my credit card back and my brother put his feet up over the glove compartment and I smacked him on the butt. My brother looked at me with his eyes wide open and didn't even react, I thought he was trying to make me feel weird so I hit him again. I then realized he wasn't looking at me he was looking at the worker standing at the window behind me. I realized she saw everything so I grabbed the food and I was about to start explaining what she just witnessed but before I could she just said something along the lines of \"you guys make a cute couple\" and she wished her and her boyfriend were as cute as we were. So to avoid any more awkwardness I told her \"yea I love him\" and just left, after asking for the fire sauce of course.", "summary": "I smacked my brothers butt and a woman thought we were lovers, and I left her thinking we were."}
{"id": "t3_16wwkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17m) don't know what to do about a pretty good friend (16f), of about 2 years, who's drifting away. Nothing romantic.", "post": "So I have a group of friends from a couple of schools who have formed around a few peoples friendships, basically hipsters and nerds, who just kind of ended up hanging around each other a bit, sharing a lot of interests , etc.\n\nAnyway my friend came into the group kind of latish and is always saying that she feels separate, coming from a completely different school from everyone else and says she recently got very socially awkward.\n\nShe had drifted away for almost a year and I hadn't seen her for months and months so I decided to message her a few times and just see how she was doing, if she wanted to keep talking or what.\n\nI helped her through some stuff as well as I could and she seemed to appreciate it. We kept talking and she annoyed me a few times, a combination of me having a couple of bad days and her being a bit stand offish. One of these times I unloaded a tonne of my issues onto her, basically telling her to fuck off and get off my back in a polite way. She messaged back very contritely and said she was always there for me.\n\nYet it doesn't seem like she is, she rarely starts conversations with me, about twice in the last 3 months and I just don't think she actually cares for me despite everything she says. Actions are worth more than words right? So currently, I've decided to stop talking to her. If she wants to talk to me, great. Otherwise as I'm the only one from the group she was talking to recently, after my 18th birthday party which I will invite her to because I've already said so, that'll be it for our friendship. Am I doi.g the right thing? I haven't really talked to her about this because I dont wanna be really needy and should I have to talk to her about it when she's ignored my problems other times?", "summary": "my friends drifting away. As much as I don't want to lose her I don't want to be needy or the only one in the friendship who cares. I'm going to start ignoring her unless someone has a better idea. "}
{"id": "t3_449vig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] with my fiance [25 M], tells me he's not sure if we should get married-wedding in less than 4 months.", "post": "We met in college and have been together for 6 years. Last summer we got engaged and we're planning a wedding for this coming summer. There have been a few ups and downs in our relationship- mainly I have an issue with him drinking and cheating on me in the past (it happened twice). He had a rough life growing up and not the greatest role models or guidance, so his coping skills occasionally include drinking, which really bugs me. I encouraged him to seek counseling instead of drinking and he did for a while, but then stopped. Also the cheating was very early on in the relationship and then once last year. He was extremely tearful and apologetic, so I (maybe naively?) forgave him.\n\nSo, fast forward to now. Things have been really great or so I've thought. He hasn't drank in at least 8 months and has been really taking care of his health. Until tonight I thought we were really happy. I was woken up to him being loud on the phone and I got up to ask him to be quiet. When I saw him I knew instantly he was drunk. We got in an argument and I shut down and left the room crying. He followed me and by this time he was also crying and saying he just \"didn't think he could do it anymore.\" And that he's not sure if it's the right thing to do. I asked why  and basically he said because he's never seen a successful marriage (true) and that \"someone better might come along.\" \n\nI am so heart broken. Obviously I know this conversation shouldn't have happened like that and in his state, but it did and now I don't know what to do. Is there any hope in this at all?", "summary": "fiance got drunk and said he wasn't sure he wanted to get married. Our wedding is four months away. Should we call it off?"}
{"id": "t3_14hijw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Today, I told a story about something that happened a long time ago, then talked to my brother about it and found out I wasn't actually there. Now I feel crazy guilty and may have overreacted.", "post": "I remember an event from my childhood with immense clarity. I saw an AskReddit about something similar today, and I told the whole story. What happened, how I was involved, how it felt, and how it ended up. I told them a fantastic story, one I'd never really gotten to tell before.\n\nI talked to my brother about it later. He got confused and informed me that I wasn't even there. I'd apparently overheard my parents talking about what had happened and dreamed about it. Then I assumed that dream was what really happened.\n\nI freaked out and logged back onto Reddit, only to find someone had figured out where it had happened. In a panic, I deleted my story of it altogether, and then deleted my account for good measure. I didn't want to get karma for it, and I didn't want that information out there.", "summary": "Misremembered an event from childhood, told Reddit, found out I wasn't even there, panicked, and deleted my account so as to not get undeserved karma. I'm an asshat."}
{"id": "t3_145i9v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] I love a girl (19/f), but I'm in an atypical friendzone. Go for it or don't risk ruining the friendship?", "post": "She's amazing. Funny, super cute. She likes me, a lot, and we have a lot of physical contact. The problem is her family is super-Christian, and she, while not a fanatic, is very religious. I'm an atheist. It doesn't really bother her, and her religion doesn't really bother me. But it has restricted the bounds of our relationship.\n\nWe talked about the possibility of dating, and the way she sees it is that the relationship will never go very far, i.e. marriage. Not that she wants to go into a relationship only if she thinks she'll marry, but that she thinks that we can never break that barrier. She agrees that we'd be great together, and that we might date for years, but that eventually she KNOWS we would never go further than that.\n\nMy opinion is that we should take the happiness while we can get it. She doesn't want to go into a relationship knowing it will end, which seems pessimistic and a little illogical to me. Love is about risk, and in my opinion you go for it and if it hurts in the end, the happiness was worth it.\n\nI think that she thinks we're done talking about it, but I'm thinking about bringing it up again. Should I risk losing her friendship, which I don't really think would happen, but would be awful, in order to state my argument better?\n\nAdditionally, I'm totally not good enough for her.", "summary": "She doesn't want to go into a relationship knowing it will never go to marriage. I think we should take the happiness while we can get it. Risk the friendship to state my case better?"}
{"id": "t3_4zatih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "after a year my [19/F] druze boyfriend [21/M] won't/can't tell his parents about me, and tells me we can't have a future, what should i do?", "post": "already posted but im looking for more advice.\n\nI am a non druze female who was in a relationship with a druze male, we dated for a year and for both of us it was our first love. Even though we're still young it truly feels like he's it for me and vice versa. However, recently we hit a crossroad and he decided to end things. Since in Druze culture you are unable to marry out of the culture and if you do you are no longer considered a druze, and then you and your family are looked down on and shunned in the community. However, some people i talk to say in druze culture it's different for guys and it may be acceptable for them to marry someone outside the culture. He doesn't really follow his religon/culture, he's just scared of how it'll affect his parents, he says he can't loose them or let them down. He doesn't want them to die unhappy, feeling like they failed. I really dont think they'd completely disown him, and i think he knows that, he just wants them to die content and they apparently can't if hes with someone outside the culture. But then if he chooses to abide his parents wishes he says he'll just be alone and not marry, meaning he isnt going to be happy... so confusing. But by being appart its destroying the both of us, im unable to move on and let go of him, i just can't give up hope. And he is regretting his choice everyday, but he's so torn. He tells me \"maybe one day we can be together but i can't bank on that\" which makes me feel like him and i can be, i can't let go.. I feel like hes just scared and he always stresses about the future, so maybe he's just having a quater life crisis? Any help of what we should do ? id really appriciate it, i dont think ill ever be able to get over him.", "summary": "druze and non druze relationship, don't know if we can have a future but we want one. if anyone is in the same situation or have any advice i'd truly appriciate it."}
{"id": "t3_1ocxvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24M] my girlfriend [25F] of 1 year, doesnt trust me anymore", "post": "I've screwed up. \n\nI've been going out with her about a year and we have lived together about 6 months.\n\nI've told my girlfriend a few times that I would be home by a certain time on nights out by myself and for various reasons ended up being home much later.\n\nIt's happened a few times now and each time she gets more and more angry. \n\nThe first time I just stayed out because I was really drunk and I forgot what I'd told her. When I came home she was really upset and after a few days we made up and I promised to not let it happen again.\n\nThen a few nights ago I went out on my own, told her I'd be home by 1am.\n\nShe was skeptical but I was adamant that she could trust me and I wouldn't do what I did last time.\n\nBut I ended up getting lost, couldn't find the right bus (we're very low on money), then had to wait over an hour for a cab, and ended up getting home at 4am.\n\nNow she says she'll never believe a promise I make etc and she thinks I just went out to a club and didn't give a shit about her etc.\n\nI can't prove that I couldn't get home and I can see why it looks like what she thinks (that I just said fuck it and went out till 4am and took a cab home), even though I know it's not true.\n\nShe's now not talking to me, and last time she was this upset we almost broke up.\n\nHow can I fix this?", "summary": "went out solo, promised gf home by 1am, got lost, ended up home at 4am. She thinks I just got super drunk like last time and isn't talking to me and says she will never trust me"}
{"id": "t3_16180i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do to help my boyfriend's family though a though time?", "post": "As soon as my boyfriend picked up the phone this evening I knew something was wrong. His sisters dog had just been killed in a car accident. Those of you that have had pets will understand how integral they are to the family, and how when they are lost so suddenly we are thrust into a state of shock. \n\nMy biggest concern is the impact this is going to have on his mother. She is in her 50's, and was diagnosed with Early Onset Parkinsons around 5 years ago. She has struggled immensely with depression and coming to terms with such a shitty illness at such a young age. The dog really helped her to feel at ease, feel relaxed, and brought a bit of happiness to their lives. I'm so scared that the losing the dog in such a traumatic manner will send her into a downward spiral\n\nI want to help them, and want to be there for them, but can't be so physically as I live over 200 miles away. What can I do to help them now, and in the long term?", "summary": "My boyfriends dog was killed in a car accident, the dog helped his mother, emotionally, deal with Early Onset Parkinsons, and brought some happiness to a shitty time in their life. I'm worried it's going to have a negative impact on his mothers illness. How can I help them, when I live over 200 miles away?"}
{"id": "t3_16tcu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26/f) am having an emotional affair and I want to stop.", "post": "I love my boyfriend (28/m) -- he is incredibly kind and supportive and the relationship is fulfilling in a way that none of my other relationships have ever been. We have been together for about a year and a half.\n\nA while ago I started talking to someone online. We have long conversations about anything and everything. It's never crossed a romantic line but it still feels wrong because I hide it from my boyfriend. I want to stop because I know it's dishonest, but at the same time, it's something I look forward every day.\n\nI'm confused and I could really use some advice.", "summary": "Conversations with a stranger online are dishonest and feel like cheating."}
{"id": "t3_4hf0fb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by manscaping for the first time", "post": "So I'm using a throwaway account because my friends know my main. this is also my first ever post AND i'm on mobile so don't hate.\n\nSo recently in the last few weeks, I came across a YouTuber called \"alpha.m\". If you don't know who he is, he basically gives tips to guys on how to dress better, act more confident and most importantly to this story, how to groom. \nI was watching a few of his videos when I saw a video of his on \"manscaping\". important note: I had never ever shaved down there before and I didn't actually watch the video.. \n\nA week passes by, which comes to today and I was in the shower, when I randomly start thinking about whether girls like pubic hair or not, I come to the conclusion they don't and I decided I wanted to try tame the jungle. \n\nI'm not completely dumb so I trim it with scissors first. I've shaved my face countless times before so I had an idea of the force of strokes I should use, or so I thought..\nI start going hard, shaving upwards to get the cleanest shave possible, I bang the hair out into the water in the sink and then look down to keep going and very quickly realised I went too hard and am now bleeding from my crotch. I instantly regret starting this shit but I can't stop with a partially shaved crotch.. \nI then spent the next hour sitting naked on the cold ass bathroom floor cutting up more of my crotch and my gooch.\n\nI now have a incredibly stinging and bleeding crotch and gooch but hey, on the bright side, atleast my nutsack is as smooth as a babie's bum.", "summary": "tried manscaping for the first time, cut my crotch and gooch countless times. fun times."}
{"id": "t3_27jigp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Need advice] Me [20 M] with my girl [20 F]. I am unable to break the silence war.", "post": "I need some advice..It had been over 3 months that my girl not talking to me after proposing her. When I proposed her she said I don't like all those things and said never gona talk to me again.I tried many times to talk to her alone in college (the only place i can meet her) but could not as she is always srounded by her friends. The every time I try to talk her she notices me and act if she did not notice. But when i try to move away from her She suddenly comes to me and go silently and tempt me to talk with her. After a long time yesterday she replied me on facebook. saying that she could not chat as her mother was beside her. After seeing this replay I tried to talk with her today, But could not because my mind went blank in exitation. Missed the chance. ..", "summary": "Please help me out how to break this silence war..What should I do if she friendzones me.!"}
{"id": "t3_31g6t1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by leaving a shit storm", "post": "So I have been working at a restaurant known as Jimmy John's for the past 3 years. 2.5 of them being a manager.  For those who don't work at jj we get a visit from corporate once about every 4 to 6 weeks. The guys was a little late in coming but we had been preparing for him for the past week. Last night I had the luxury of closing with a new guy and a worker we hired about a month ago. I can usually close the store and get out around 945 with it looking good. Well last night having a new guy and having to do double the work we didn't get out till nearly 1030. I thought it looked good but I would come to find out the next morning that wasn't the case. I go in to pick up my phone charger and the look in the assistant managers eye could kill.  I thought he was going to break down and cry.  I then find out we got a low 80. Now I don't know what to do. I could have very well just cost everyone a 750$ bonus.", "summary": "I closed the store and thought it looked good but to find out it was bad and now I may have every manager upset about losing money."}
{"id": "t3_2cjxgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(23)-Feeling hopeless.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for close to 4 years now, we have lived together for close to 2, and I feel like I have let myself go. When we first met, I was 20 pounds lighter and nearly never left the house without making sure I looked good. I took pride in the way I looked, now I hardly even wear makeup and even though my boyfriend loves me and constantly tells me how beautiful I am, I feel like I've let myself go and have no idea how to find the motivation to get back to finding myself again. I need help...I'm scared one day he will wake up and realize I'm not the fit, pretty girl he fell in love with.", "summary": "feel like I have let myself go since being in a long term relationship, I've lost the sense of worth and independence I had before. Suggestions? Feeling hopeless..."}
{"id": "t3_4ticn3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Not sure if I should move with friends or choose career", "post": "Hey all. So a little bit of back story. Me (24m) and my gf (22f) (now ex) moved to Texas together about 3 years ago from a small town in the Midwest . I moved down here for a good job in my career field. I had never finished college and had lost my retail job so we kind of moved down here on a whim. I was lucky and had one family member down here so I got luckily with a fall back.\nNow skip forward, I'm still at the job I moved down here for and actually got promoted earlier this year. (BTW my career is in IT systems administration). And me and my ex split up about a month ago.\n\nI still have a lot of stress going on since the breakup but overall I've been pretty unhappy for a while. When I moved down here I left all my friends behind except my gf. I was able to confide in her for years and feel okay. But I never could seem to click with people down here like I did back home. In the 3 years I honestly don't feel as half as close to anyone down here as I did back home.\n\nA group of friends have been trying to get me to move with them for several months now and I regularly keep in contact with them so it sounds very appealing. It's not the same state I came from but closer to family than I'm with now and I GE my best friends back.\n\nThe trouble is I've finally gotten a good job and the town they live in, while it is a college town, it doesn't hold the same opportunities for me. Even if I went chances are it wouldn't be permanent.\n\nI just don't know if I should keep on the path of my good job or start making my happiness more important. Without having the girlfriend I feel that I have no purpose down here. Maybe I need time to heal but the fact I don't have super close friends down here makes me feel like I'm getting swallowed alive by anxiety and depression.", "summary": "Idk what's more important career or happiness and is that happiness what I really want."}
{"id": "t3_3yixlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28f) boyfriend (28m) watched porn excessively and was caught. Now I keep looking at his phone and invading his privacy out of insecurity. What do I do? Help! NSFW", "post": "Back story: we have been dating for 2 years. About a year and a half into our relationship I was checking his internet history just to find an old website with a recipe I made for dinner before. I usually don't mind my boyfriend watching porn. It's completely unrealistic to think guys don't fap. But I found out he had been messaging the girls on the subreddit complimenting them. I flipped out naturally because that was crossing the line. He said he was addicted to porn. He went to talk to a therapist who said he didn't need to be treated. I felt betrayed but still forgave him. \n\nFast forward 6 months: I find myself constantly needing to check his phone and computer to see if he watches it still or messages girls. I feel more insecure than ever. He caught me looking on his phone history. I was honest and told him that I was looking to see if he still is watching porn in random moments like he used to. What do I do? I don't like being like this. I want to trust him. I'm scared he is going to keep on doing it behind my back. \n\nAm I overreacting?", "summary": "my boyfriend messaged girls on sexy subreddits and I caught him. Now I'm wanting to check his phone and I hate myself for being like this. How do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3uqti1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl in friendship group [18/F] has randomly switched and friendzoned me[18/M] please help?", "post": "I've recently started uni, had eyes on this girl from the start, we got talking, flirting, (to be fair she said right from the start she didn't want a relationship, I wasn't phased by that though I did want something exclusive) but then we began to meet up a couple times, we kissed, texted everyday flirting, etc. but all of a sudden she's now decided she wants to call things off, we're in the same friendship group but this didn't affect us at the start and I think were both mature enough to not let that affect anything. She wont deny liking me but says since she doesn't want a relationship she doesn't want to carry on with what were doing.\nI had some bad news in the family recently and since I live away from them now I feel I sort of clung to her due to the affection she gave the past few days, I fear this has put her off.\n\n-----Most people you ask will say I'm attractive, confident and funny - I do not mean to come across arrogant it's just to give you an insight to what I'm like! She is a nice girl, a virgin, by the way, not a player-----\n\nThe question is, I really like her and I don't want things to go that easily, how can I sway her views, and look to atleast get a date and maybe more from her? I really don't feel up for the friendzone... Do I need to make her jealous, if so how? Or at least, how do I recover?", "summary": "We've been texting, flirting a lot recently and have also kissed, she's your traditional nice girl but has decided she'd rather be friends, I think I've been a bit needy recently, any way to recover?"}
{"id": "t3_1j7vk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F20 M25 sketchy fb messages", "post": "Alright reddit, my boyfriend of 1+ year used my phone to log into Facebook. I'm really good at getting passwords right after watching the person type it once. I don't mean to, I just notice. So after he logs out and goes to sleep, I log him back in. I was going to do the usual \"leave a sweet 'I love you babe' message on status\" thing. I opened his messages because my curiosity got the better of me. I see a message from a girl I do not know, opening it I see lewd messages from the winter time. She asked for his skype name and there was a time gap where they had obviously been on Skype. She said something like thanks for the show and he said you owe me one and she sent him a naughty picture with her lady bits showing. On his Facebook. So I got see all of this. \n\nI confronted him last night about it and he said she was a catfish and not even real \"probably a big black dude\" I told him she looked pretty real and he pretended to know nothing about the picture and told me I shouldn't have been going through his stuff. HE'S DONE THE SAME NUMEROUS TIMES TO ME. Its only fair. \n\nMy question to you, how the heck do I handle this now? As dumb as it sounds I want to try to make it work but no idea how.", "summary": "sketchy Facebook messages to a random girl, from times we were together"}
{"id": "t3_r33r9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Verizon is Killing my Pirate buzz.", "post": "So [1channel.ch] was working great and I had a window open with MI:4 buffering when all of the sudden a chrome crash. So I restart and restore my tabs only to find that perhaps the cause of the crash was the take down of the file from the putlocker as I was buffering. So fine thats disappointing and all but Ill just head on back to 1channel and find another link. But no. Seems like I broke my interconnected tubing. So I start a ping running and for the first 2 minutes it times out, then out of the blue the packets came back, only a few in the beginning but by minute 3 100% return with good time. Okay so I am thinking great should be back up now. Wrong. I cave and do the standerd fix all and restart 3 times and arrange desktop icons. Still nothing. So I try out the neighbors wifi and still no go (same isp, verizon). I dont know why but at this point I decided to proxy it and lo and behold she works. Well this is odd I have sort of forgotten about dealing with these types of blockages since my highschool days of blocked facebook.\n\nQuestions:\n\n* Is this just me or do other verizon users have the same issue?\n* How frequently do major isp's block sites?\n* Alternatives to 1channel.ch for streaming?\n* Whats your favorite hat to wear while pirating? [Mine]  I feel it gives me a sense of legitimacy.\n* Also is there a list of these sites? If some of the sites I use go on this list I am thinking this list seems more like a recommended reading list for me.", "summary": "To any Verizon user does the following site work for you? [1channel.ch]("}
{"id": "t3_w60yx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats your worst/best prank that back fired on you?", "post": "I was in high school and went all year without getting in trouble. (First year since 2nd grade...suspended, detention, write up...). Well, on april fools, my first class i convenced my teacher to write me up for punching my sisters best friend in the face. My mother would have believed this since we did not get along at all. I had the teacher sign it, the principle and the school officer. I then received premission from the principle to go home early as if i was suspended. I called my mother 20 minutes after school started at told her i was suspended for fighting. Assuming my mother would pick me up and ground me for the day until i told her the truth after school was out (so i could sleep all day)....I was wrong. My mother called the police on me to arrest me for assult. I had to explain to the officers and my mother it was a joke. I was grounded for 3 weeks becuase of this.", "summary": "I told my mother i was suspended for fighting on April fools day thinking i could go home and sleep the rest of the day, instead she called the police to arrest me for assult."}
{"id": "t3_17vzzz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a bad joke about an old teacher of mine", "post": "I just found this sub today and the actual event happened a few months ago. My cousin sent me a link to a police website where there was a report about an ex-teacher at my high school who was being accused of rape. The teacher was super nice and no one expected it to be him his wife was super nice and she still worked at the school, every one was heart broken about it. My old math teacher was a total creep and would help girls with the lowest cut shirts and one time completely stopped helping me with a problem to check out this girl as she left the class room. In my infinite wisdom I replace the name and pic of nice ex-teacher with pic and name of creep teacher, and send this to my buddy. Me and my friend have a chuckle and I think that is all that will happen. Nope. He sent to his friends still in high school and they show it to every one and then a super awesome teacher calls up my buddy and says hey police might get involved because girls threw you under the bus. Buddy calls me tells me the police will get involved, I get scared, I cry, I send every one apologies and nothings happened since.", "summary": "Made a bad joke about an old teacher, almost got in tons of trouble, cried about it"}
{"id": "t3_3e00c9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] girlfriend wants to do shrooms and I [24 M] don't feel okay with it. Am I overreacting? Is it wrong to not be happy about it? Different perspectives and insights are welcome!", "post": "*", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to do shrooms, not okay with it. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2mf3nb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [30 M] be friends with my long distance ex [23 F] whom I'm madly in love with?", "post": "Basic stats: we were friends for a year, dated for about 3 years, went long distance (300 miles) last January, she \"loves me but isn't in love with me\" since August, she still wants to be friends, even referred to us as \"taking a break\".\n\nI would really love to hear stories from anyone with experience. Mostly along the lines of being \"friends\" with someone you're in love with & have been with previously. Did you ever get back together?\n\nI want to say the distance is maintainable. We were together with distance for about 8 months. We have an \"online date\" (her words) next Sunday then we're meeting up for a few days in December. Tentatively. We planned things several times but they ended up being canceled.\n\nI'm in so much pain over all of this. I miss her so much & she doesn't really seem to care if we maintain contact. I've done about 80% of the initiation, & I'm not exaggerating (I actually counted up the times I initiated versus the times she has). She told me she was afraid I would shut her out & that we'd never see each other again, but she hasn't done anything to maintain *any* sort of relationship. A lot of my texts go ignored.\n\nI don't know how to be her friend. I love her more than anything. But I also don't know if I should just let her go. I don't want to. I'm so in love but in so much pain.", "summary": "How do I be friends with my long distance ex whom I'm madly in love with?"}
{"id": "t3_35fr9y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by droping the soap", "post": "This just happened, my hair is still wet.\n\nSo average me decided to take a shower. Now, I ussualy use shower gel for both hair and body, but for some reason I decided to use the old fashioned hard soap that was left on the edge of the bathtub for ages. It smells really nice so I grabbed it, covered myself with smelly foam, aaaand *fuck up warning* dropped it. Because the bathtub is really small (I think it's called a shower cabin), while trying to turn myself so I can grab it, I somehow stepped on it, I fell down and, while falling, my arm hit the tap and changed the water from hot-ish to boiling. Because it takes a few seconds to change, I didn't notice, so I took my time and tried to chase the soap through the water. Then a waterfall of fuckin boiling water splashes all over my back and neck. I managed to jump away and stop the water but boy, did it burn.\n\nLuckily it was too quick to get serious burns but my skin is really red and tender.\n\nMoral: Don't drop the soap.", "summary": "Dropped the soap, got boiled alive, lived to tell the story."}
{"id": "t3_hqocm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have an opportunity to visit NYC for six days but have little cash to spend... Worth it yes or no?", "post": "On Wednesday my girlfriend found out she will be travelling to New York in ten days time to attend a conference. Her ticket and hotel are paid for... double room in Manhattan, 6th Avenue. We have some frequent flyer miles saved and my mum said she is willing to help on the ticket. Thing is I don't have a job at the moment as I am trying to complete my dissertation and have very little cash. I've never been to the States (am from the Netherlands) but this seems like an opportunity we should not let pass. The madam will be busy most days but we'll have the evenings together and I'll have the days. Should I go, despite the lack of cash to spend? Is it worth it, and if so, what should I do once there?", "summary": "Can spend six days in NYC but have no cash, go or not and if yes, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4chqca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [19F] is mad at me [19M] because I posted a picture of a different girl to my Snapchat.", "post": "All right. So this has a little backstory. The \"friend\" is someone I have been trying to date for the past month and a 1/2. She said yes to go out with me, but when I invite her out on a date, she says she wants to get to know me better before we jump in to anything.\n\nOk. I get that. We just start hanging out here and there. Get to know each other. I learn that she's had issues with her weight. It's a big problem for her. Not a problem for me. Fast forward to last Saturday (3/26), and she tells me that she's failing school and wants to focus on herself right now and isn't looking for a relationship. I was pretty broken up because it came out of nowhere and I thought things were going great.\n\nI've still talked to her these past few days like nothing happened. Nothing relationship related, though. Just talking. Then, yesterday (3/28) I posted a picture of a coworker of mine, whom she also knows, and my friend captioned it, \"Bae\" and it had a heart eyes emoji. Everyone knows that her and I always mess around and say things like that. She has a boyfriend and is not my type anyways.\n\nLast night, she sent me a snap that just said, \"Wow.\" Then she texted me that she deleted me off of all social media because I'm going to be posting things like that. I came back and I tried to explain that it was a joke and that we weren't in a relationship anyways and asked why it mattered.\n\nI asked a few of my friends about their opinion on the situation and they said she's just trying to control me. I just have no idea what I should do. Hell, I'm still confused and not sure how I really think about it.", "summary": "Girl I've been trying to date, but doesn't want a relationship right now, got mad when I posted a picture of another girl. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2d3v90", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[Serious] What value are men to women?", "post": "This is a serious question, not a troll.  I've completed a stage of therapy, and my lesbian therapist has informed me I am not really lesbian or even that strongly bisexual, but instead I am emotionally unavailable.  She says I kept attracting gay and bisexual men because it was a way of telling and proving to myself I was open to dating men while also remaining safe.  She also said I tend to see relationships and men in very dire, pessimistic terms (she's correct), and am not yet open to seeing them positively.\n\nTherapist wants to begin the next stage with me and calls it healing my emotional unavailability.  \n\nI'm pretty scared and feel like it's worthless to even try.  Yep, I was completely over attracting gay guy after gay guy after mind game player after misogynist over psycho after headcase, but I feel \"healing\" this unavailability will just make me open to even worse exploitation.  So far I've experienced heterosexual men as brute, primitive, stupid, sex-obsessed oafs who prefer throwing a sports ball to interacting with women and see us only as dolls and toys -- or obsessive stalky maniacs who want to suffocate, smother and use women.  I know this is not healthy and not true.\n\nIf it's in you, Reddit, please in a serious, hopefully somewhat compassionate way list some ways heterosexual men are of value to heterosexual women.  I'll use these lists to work on my intellectual resistance to healing.  Right now I don't see any connection between women and men at all, I see no value whatsoever to men except as business partners and buddies, and I see marriage and other types of heterosexual relationships as women-exploitative.\n\n(And yeah, I know you'll see the opposite as just as horrible, but please skip those kinds of answers right now.  I'll just use those as fuel to further hate men.)\n\nInstead I want to see true ways men can be of value to women, so that when my resistance comes up in therapy over the next months I have a ready list I can confront my misandrist inner voice with.  For all compassionate, serious responses, REAL GRATITUDE.", "summary": "In therapy.  About to do emotional unavailability healing.  Scared.  Need a genuine list of ways men can be good for women so I can use them to re-open and heal.  Thank you <3"}
{"id": "t3_urxsh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[22m] had sex with a person almost a year ago and got hpv. cant get over that fact and my dating life has been non-existent. need insight/advice", "post": "hello all. like the title says, i got hpv from a girl that i had been in love with for a long time. she didnt know about it till she went to her doctor and found abnormal cells in her uterus (yes, this is the strain that causes cancer :(\n\nlong story short, her and i went our seperate ways i have vowed to be a good person and not pass this on to anyone else. my dating and sex life has been non-existent and i just tried to focus on school/work to keep my mind off. now, im feeling very very depressed and lonely and i dont know how to deal with this situation.\n\ni have a prospect i really like. i just cant seem to get over this hurdle and let my feelings show in fear that i will hurt her. has anyone else dealt with this before? i could really use some advice.", "summary": "got the cancerous strain of hpv a year ago. no sex life. interested in this girl. dont want to hurt her. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2pxf29", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by asking my employee if they wanted my cheese", "post": "So I work at a fast food place and we borrow food between different stores whenever we are short.  A person emailed me asking if I had cheese.  I decided to text him back on my phone since we joke around a lot so I said \"do you want my cheese? because I want to go on an adventure.\" Totally makes sense if you know what's going on, unfortunately I sent it to one of my employees with the same name instead and he had NO idea what was going on.  Once we had a good laugh about that I fucked up again. I went to email someone about my mistake, and accidentally sent it to someone at corporate! He never said anything back but I'm totally expecting to have this come back to haunt me in the future", "summary": "accidentally asked my employee if they wanted to go on an adventure with my cheese"}
{"id": "t3_k74f4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "book about a cat that eats typewriter keys, shoelaces?", "post": "I had a book when I was a kid in the early or mid 80s ... about a cat that has a bad habit of eating shoelaces.  It tells a moral story about gluttony/overindulgence and the cat gets bigger and bigger.  I think it also ate typewriters, or maybe just the keys.  The cat's parents are involved at some point.  The cat is reproved -- maybe by a doctor? -- who convinces the cat to eat such treats in moderation.  There might have also been turnips?? but I might be confusing the turnip part with a different book.  The book ends with the cat losing weight, and he only *occasionally* indulges in a typewriter key.   I remember the drawings -- a cat with shoelaces hanging all out of its mouth, and I think there were a variety of typewriters and different-looking keys.  To my recollection the drawings were black and white, pen-style.  Obviously this book left an impression on me.  I was hoping to give it to my nephew as a present, but I can't find it anywhere.  You would think the terms \"cat\", \"typewriter\", \"shoelaces\" aren't usually combined and would easily point to something.  I can't believe this book isn't a hit that immediately pops up on Amazon or google.  I loved it enough to still be talking about it almost 30 years later.  My family thinks I'm crazy, but I don't think I'm even creative enough to make this up... \n\nReddit, can you please help me find this book?", "summary": "cat, typewriter, shoelaces, turnips?, gluttony-themed children's book.  Did I just dream it?"}
{"id": "t3_270x2m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating Taco Bell and feeling the aftereffects", "post": "Back when I was about 13, I was absolutely insane for Taco Bell. We decided to eat there after a long day of soccer and I ordered my grand 3 hard tacos combo and ate up.\nLater that night, the tacos thought it would be a fine-ass idea to retaliate and make me feel worse than Billy Ray Cyrus felt about the progression of his shit daughter Miley. Trying to ignore the wrenching stomach pains, I went to bed and expected to wake up fine in the morning. \nI woke up at about 3AM, stomach pains pounding in my interior.\nWell, knowing things couldn't be good, I expected to puke. Being the lazy-ass thirteen year old I was, I thought \"fuck-it, Ill hold it in and go back to bed.\". Well, what a great idea that I pulled out of my ass.\nMinutes later, puke gushed out of my mouth like Niagara Falls, hitting the left side of my bed and forming a nice pile.\nStill being the lazy-ass thirteen year old I was, I dismissed the idea of cleaning it up right now and thought \"Hell, I need some sleep, I'll just do it in the morning.\"\nSo I went back to a peaceful slumber.\n\nThe next morning, I awoke with a disgusting stench and finally comprehended what had gone on the night before. I looked to where the puke should have been, but there was only an orange stain and a bit of chunky leftovers there. Fuck you, Taco Bell.\nI immediately look down and see puke all over my blankets, clothing, and even bare skin. Being the movement-filled sleeper I am, I must have rolled around in the pile of puke during my sleep and successfully got it all over my bed sheets and body.\nFeeling defeated, I shamefully took a long ass shower that morning and washed my bed sheets.", "summary": "Ate Taco Bell, puked at 3AM in my bed, was too lazy to clean it up and woke up covered in puke from rolling around in it."}
{"id": "t3_3yff6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my SO [23 M] of a year in a long distance relationship, can't seem to agree with where to spend New Years", "post": "Hi guys, this may seem as a silly non-serious question on reddit relationships, but I'm not sure where else to post it.\n\nMe and my boyfriend have been dating for a year, and are in a long distance relationship. We used to see eachother 24/7 the first 6 months, but he's finishing up school across the country now and will be done in a years time. We are 8 hours flight a part, so we only see eachother on Holidays. \n\nThat being said, NYE is coming up... I want to spend it with him, and he wants to spend it with me.... and his family. \nHis family is throwing a huge New Years Party, and some of my friends are going to a party downtown. I don't want to go to his family's party because they're usually not inclusive of me and don't really seem to care for me all that much. I've gone to all of their holiday parties thus far and I'm really not keen for them since I have to go out of my way to talk to them, whereas they barely talk to me. \n\nWe're both young and have only been dating for a year, so I don't deem it necessary for me to go to their party, especially since I've been to multiple before, and I would much rather celebrate it with my friends, or with just him. My boyfriend however, says he wants me to go to his familys party. I brought up the fact that I'm uncomfortable with it and asked if he wanted to celebrate it with just us two doing something special, and he declined saying he wants to celebrate it with his family as well.\n\nReddit, what should I do?", "summary": "where to celebrate NYE?"}
{"id": "t3_1tsevz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21F] overreacting that I'm not the best my SO [23M] has had?", "post": "We've been dating for a little more than a year, sleeping together for a year and a half. The other night we got onto the topic of sexual histories and he mentioned that he compares me to people he's been with in the past. I questioned a bit more (mostly because I'm insecure about these things) and he told me that if I were to ask him what the best sex he's ever had is, he would have to think about it for a while before coming up with an answer. \n\nNow, I've mentioned before (unprovoked) in our relationship that sex with him is the best I've ever experienced. He says that this doesn't matter to him and he doesn't understand why it matters to me. I guess I'm a little hurt that he doesn't feel the same, and that sex with another woman was at least as good as or possibly better than sex with me, even after a year of a loving relationship. I'm not sure if I'm being irrational about this--am I wrong to want to be the best?", "summary": "I'm not the best sex my SO has had, am I wrong in being upset about this?"}
{"id": "t3_20jhcs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/f] need to tell my overly-sensitive roommate (23/m) he needs to be moved out by Fall.", "post": "Currently, I share a house with my sister, my roommate (who I'll call C), and my SO. My sister, SO, and I are all in college, while my roommate has already graduated, but is working for the university. \n\nMy sister and I are the only ones on the lease; everyone else is subleasing. \n\nI have been friends with C for two years and he's been living here since May of 2013. We were really close before he moved in, but as I've gotten to know him better, I've realized that he's not a great person (showing our friends nudes of girls he's texting, constantly lying about anything and everything, etc.) and that he's not a good roommate (plays guitar at 6am, expects everyone else to do all the cleaning, not contributing to shared supplies, etc.). Whenever any of this is brought up he gets very huffy and upset that someone would blame him for the dishes in the sink or whatever.\n\nI had never handled subleasing before, so when C initially moved in I never thought about move out dates, or having anything in writing about how long he would be here. We simply had a verbal agreement on monthly rent. I realize now that was a big mistake. Honestly, I don't even know how much longer he plans on living here.\n\nFurthermore, C constantly talks about going to grad school/working in different parts of the country and abroad, which makes me nervous since we don't have anything in writing. Theoretically, he he could leave at any time, and I'd be out of rent until I could find someone else, which would be unlikely until August.\n\nHe is a very sensitive person, gets defensive easily, and can be pretty passive-aggressive. It doesn't help that neither one of us is very confrontational. Although I don't want him living here, I still would like to remain friends with him, and not cause drama with mutual friends. I also want the next few months to be as amicable as possible.\n\nHow do I go about doing this?", "summary": "How do I amicably kick out a sensitive roommate?"}
{"id": "t3_rvjq2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help me lose those last few pounds!", "post": "Obviously swim suit season is fast approaching, and I'd like to be in my best shape this summer. Here are the facts:\n*I'm 21, female, and pretty much any extra weight I carry in my stomach.\n\n*I'm not overweight by any means. I'm about 5'5\" and fluctuate between 120 and 125 pounds.\n\n*My body is...disproportionate, which will tie in with the first two bullets. I have very long legs, and a pretty short torso, which means pretty much ANY extra weight is visible in my stomach (since, as mentioned, I carry weight in my stomach).\n\nHere's where r/loseit comes in. What do I do to lose those stubborn pounds in my stomach? I'm very active, I play soccer and ultimate frisbee all the time, so it's not a big deal to exercise, and I eat fairly well, though I will splurge here and there. Are there specific stomach-targeting exercises or diets that have worked for other people? I feel like I've been carrying around these same 5 pounds for half a decade now.", "summary": "I carry weight in my stomach, and only need to lose about 5 pounds. What exercises/regimens have people used that have worked to get those last few pounds off, specifically from the stomach region?"}
{"id": "t3_18ln9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My dad (48) is in a horrible abusive relationship with my step mom (42). He tells me his daughter (20) he wants to walk away but doesn't!", "post": "My dad has been with my step mom for about 12 years. They have a child who is 7 together. This woman is definition evil. Abused me emotionally and mentally as a child as well as my dad. \n\nIn the past few years things have gotten significantly worse where she has been out till all hours or the night with other men, drinking beer. There is no proof of cheating but her behaviour is unacceptable. \n\nRecently my dad got a pocket call on his phone which left a message which he believes to be his wife having sex with another man. He has become obsessed with this recording and plays it all the time but it is so muffled. I could possibly be what he thinks it is but it is far from proof. \n\nBasically I could go on all day about all the horrible things she has done to my dad. He tells me he wants to leave her but has so many excuses. They have a child, he can't afford to leave because they have so much dept and little assets, he doesn't want to live alone forever etc.\n\nHow can I help my dad finally walk away and start a new better life!! Any books or inspirations? He has recently started seeing a therapist and taking anti depressants and anti anxiety medication because of stress.", "summary": "my dad has a wife who abused me as a child. They have a seven year old together. She acts inappropriately with other men and my dad believes she is cheating and has become obsessed with proving it. How can I get him to forget about the cheating and just finally leave her. "}
{"id": "t3_2u7mf0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How to deal with VERY noisy upstair neighbors (Kids...)? I've talked to the parents many times, but still no change", "post": "So I just moved into this apartment 2 months ago and found out that my upstairs neighbor has 2 young kids. I understand that kids are kids, they will run around, but these 2 kids are devils. They will run around all day almost constantly when they are home, not to mention they throw stuffs on the floor. I went up to talk to the parents, and ask them to be considerate and at least tell the kids not to run too much. They were polite about it, but the frequency of running is not reduced, in fact, I feel like the kids run around even more often now. It's driving me nuts, esp. when I'm home at 7pm trying to enjoy some quietness after a day of work. I complained to the parents multiple times, the parents told me that they are following the rules, they have a rug, and they put the kids to sleep at around 9pm. But the noise they make from 7-9pm (and at 8am when they wake up the kids for school) is intolerable. I'm at the point that I want to go up and punch the kids and parents in the face...is there nothing I can do? Is there anything I can do to punish them?", "summary": "2 kids upstairs run around all day and throw toys on the floor, very noisy and disturbing. Spoke to their parents multiple times but the parents told me kids sleeps at 9pm and has rug in apartment. Want to punch kids and their parents, looking to do something, or just punish them."}
{"id": "t3_13erm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend all but purposely makes me aware that he watches porn. I don't know how to broach this without sounding cray. (22f/23m)", "post": "Let me first say, as a female, I very much enjoy porn. I watch it often. I do not expect my boyfriend not to watch porn when I am not around. It's normal. I am 22 and he is 23. We have lived together for 2 years.\n\nHOW FUCKING EVER,\n\nEvery time I open my god damn laptop, there's porn.  I unflip the iPad, there's porn. I feel like every time I use a piece of technology for the day, he has already used it, beat off on it, and left the porn open for me to see.  I have come home to my laptop covered in astroglide. I open to pages of forums where he has sorted through 8 pages just to find titties when he is \"using the iPad for homework\" and can't be bothered to converse with me.\n\nI don't know why I am hurt, but I am. I am a very reasonable girl and I have expressed my concern; I don't want to see the girls you beat off to. However, every chance he is presented with to make it subtley known, he takes it. Most delete their history, this son of a bitch rubs it in my face time and time again.\n\nIs this passive aggressive? I don't see how he could be so forgetful when I have expressed my discomfort.  Wat do? How could I confront him? Do I try to shrug it off? I don't like to make a big deal out of something so stupid, but gah.", "summary": "my boyfriend leaves the porn he watches open and I have expressed the fact that I don't want to see the hussies he faps to, but it never seems to stick."}
{"id": "t3_1t3nh2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Want to start retirement fund, boss at work towing the line for Primerica. sales pitch is decent, but it seems like an Amway scam...", "post": "I need to start an IRA of some sort, 27 years old and finally in a position to start this. As stated my boss at work is hooked up with this company called primerica investing. he first tried to rope me into becoming an insurance agent or a minion for him rather, promised \"unlimited ability for money\" and \"financial independence\" . \n\nIt smells like a scam to me, and I don't like risk at all. I am a fleet mechanic for a refuse company, I make about 40-45k and I've only been here for two years so that number is going to top out at like 60k after a few years after I get certs and all that. my toolbox is paid for (interest free mind you, 6 month payoff) I only have about 1k in debt on the tooltruck (no interest, paying 75 a wk on that) and I save 125 a week to an account I can only access by going inside the bank. and I rent a modest house with a roommate and live very modestly.\n\n I told him pass on the minion position, but I would like to know more about getting an IRA. \n\nHere comes the sales pitch with they Will take care of everything , all I have to do is feed them money.\n\nI have a family friend that used to run his own insurance office and is now on the board of trustees at a local bank (or something like that). I would feel infinitely more comfortable going to him for advice rather than my boss who has only had his license for about two years.", "summary": "confused as HELL and actually quite scared of investing."}
{"id": "t3_1h117g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25M seeking advice", "post": "ok so heres my story. i started talking to this girl about 3 months ago on a dating site and talked for about two weeks till we decided to meet up just to cuddle. while we were cuddling we talked and felt some kind of connection and ended up staying for two extra days. Before i left she said she didn't feel like she was ready for a relationship just yet so i was ok with it...you cant miss what you didnt have in the first place. \n\nAbout two weeks later she starts talking to another guy and moves in with her and just recently started having problems...now we recently started talking again and it seems like what she did was a trial and error type of thing and im like the back up plan...i really like her but im not sure if i should just tell her to get rid of him and get with a real guy that will treat you properly or if i should just ignore it and not be the \"rebound guy\". opinions and suggestions are welcome", "summary": "should i swallow my pride and be the rebound guy since i really like the girl"}
{"id": "t3_194pl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16m) want to write an amazing letter to my girlfriend (15f) who I'm spending the next 3 months on the other side of the world from. More info within.", "post": "Alright so.\n\nBackstory is that I'm on an exchange to Switzerland for the next 3 months or so. I'm from Canada. My girlfriend and I just began dating about 3 weeks before I left, but something's really clicked.\n\nI met her at a show my band was headlining as she was friends with my drummer. Somehow I didn't humiliate myself and we just hit it off.\n\nI think the reason I've fallen for her so quickly is that while we were starting to date etc I was going through some serious medical stuff, being tested endlessly for cancer, Crohn's disease, heavy shit. She really helped me through it, and luckily I'm okay!\n\nThen of course, the day after valentines day no less, I left for Switzerland. We talk every day, and I know it can work, but I wanna make her feel really special while I'm away. So I'm sending her chocolate, but I wanna add a sappy letter.\n\nI've never written one to a girl, and this something that's definitely new for me, so /r/relationships, I need your help! \n\nWhat the hell do I put in it?\n\nAny and all advice, male or female is accepted. Cheers!", "summary": "spending the next 3 months away from awesome girlfriend, want to write her a letter. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_35g6xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] Boyfriend [20M] Said He Doesn't Love Me", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 month and 1 week, on a date this Friday we were going for a walk and I told him that I love him. He seemed caught off guard by it and he didn't say he loves me back, which was upsetting but I didn't want to make him feel bad for not loving me back so I tried to just change the topic and continue on with our day. Now today we've been texting about it and I asked if he feels like he loves me, and he said he doesn't know yet and that he's confused, we haven't been dating very long and stuff. I felt offended by that since he was basically saying that our relationship isn't special to him in a way, and that he doesn't feel like it's serious or anything. Do you think I said it too early in our relationship? Or am I right about him not being committed by not saying it back? Keep in mind we were sort of \"dating\" for a couple weeks before the 1 month and 1 week even, that's just when we became official.", "summary": "My boyfriend said he doesn't love me back after I told him I love him, now I worry he's not serious about our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2q4cgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19 M] revive a spoiled relationship with a girl [19 F]?", "post": "I went out with this girl and we loved each other. We had to end things after I moved and didn't see each other for like 3 years, although we still chatted online. Eventually (after 2 years of waiting for me), she moved on and started seeing this other guy. \n\nSo now, I've moved back. She recently broke up with the other guy and I want to get back with her. I texted her the other day and she seemed excited at first, but I killed the conversation by bringing up a sad news story (we started debating on a moral issue). It was an epic fail. We both got bored and she didn't respond to my last message. Honestly, looking back, it's kind of hilarious how out of all topics, I chose that. I was nervous.\n\nAll I'm trying to do is meet up with her. I felt that I should try to build rapport and LEAD UP to asking her, but that failed. \n\nShould I just cut the fluff and ask her? I didn't want to creep her out by randomly asking her. I mean, it's been a while so it's coming out of nowhere, kinda.\n\nAny tips will be appreciated. Be brutally honest. Thanks!", "summary": "Haven't seen her in 3 years. How do I get her to hang out again?"}
{"id": "t3_4lg48k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26M with my girlfriend 25F of 4 months, wants me to go to her grandmother's funeral but i haven't met her family", "post": "So my girlfriend has anxiety and is very emotional. I tend to solve problems more logically etc. Anyways, she asked if I'd go to her grandmother's funeral depending on when it was. Her grandma is currently in hospice so the time is coming soon. I've never been to a funeral before and I've never met my girlfriend's family.\n\nThe twist is that she doesn't have a good relationship with her dad and refuses to talk to him. This creates tension with her mom and her sister who live with her dad. I don't really think it's appropriate to be meeting her family at a funeral and I don't know her grandma at all. I told my girlfriend I'd take off work or whatever possible to be there for her after she gets home from the funeral (we don't live together). However, she started crying saying she really needs me there and needs someone to hold her hand. \n\nWhile I understand the logic behind this, it's also a big deal for me because 1. Her dad and her are in a feud and I really don't want to be a part of any sort of family drama at a funeral. 2. Meeting her mom and her sister or any family at her mom's funeral is going to be weird to me. Everyone's going to be crying and I don't know any of them yet, so the first time I meet them all it's going to be really sad. 3. I've never been to a funeral before and the closest thing is being in the room while putting my favorite childhood dog down with my family.\n\nGirlfriend got really upset when I told her these reasons and said she expects to have a boyfriend who is there to support her. I understand her perspective which is why I offered to be there for her after she gets back. But she really wants to hold hands during the funeral itself.\n\nDon't know what to do! I told her I'd think about it more, but she is still upset that she might have to 'ask someone else to go with her'.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to go with her to her grandmother's funeral but I havent met any of her family. She says she *needs* someone there with her even after I offered to give her support when she gets home."}
{"id": "t3_2j8jfq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by graping a guy in the head", "post": "So I live in Chicago, and I fucking hate taxis. Like a lot. I swear to god those little yellow bastards are the source of all evil. The Holocaust? Taxis. Ebola? It was the taxis. My fourth grade teacher who told me my nose was big? Fucking taxis. \n\nI live in a 24th floor condo in Lincoln Park, and on one fine summer afternoon, I had a bowl of grapes, a balcony, and an opportunity. My burgers on the grill, I reclined in a lounge chair on the balcony and began my assault. I tossed my first grape at the first taxi, and missed. Of course, but hey, it's the thought that counts. \n\nA couple of grapes later, I tossed a juicy purple ball of death down, aiming for the sickening yellow roof of my sworn enemy, when along came a convertible. Nice car, I thought as the grape soared down to its target. Then the wind gusted. I lost sight of my weapon as it traveled to its final destination. I finally found it just before I saw the driver of the lovely white convertible swerve, clutching his bald head. I'm now holed up in my office after I heard sirens and saw a cop car pull over next to my accidental victim.", "summary": "Threw a grape off a 24th floor balcony and hit a dude right in the head, and got the cops called on me."}
{"id": "t3_pt5j5", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "How should I go about getting a dog?", "post": "Some background here:\n\nI'm 28 years old and live with my girlfriend of 3 years.  Our work schedules are almost opposites: I work mornings to early afternoons, she works early afternoons to evenings.  My house has a decent sized back yard (25ft x 25ft), a block from a park with a 0.7 mile track.  I'm in the Army National Guard, and I want a running buddy (read: want a dog) so that I can stay fit enough to pass the PT tests.  I think we have what it takes to own a dog.  That being said, I have been away from home since the beginning of November for Army training.  I'll be done with it in about a month, and it is a 27 hour drive home.  I haven't seen my girlfriend since Christmas, and I want to surprise her by bringing home a dog (she REALLY wants one).\n\nMy girlfriend has expressed her love (on many occasions) for Siberian Huskies, and I'm willing to do all the hard work that goes along with owning one.  When it comes to buying a dog, I'm kinda \"lost in the sauce,\" so to speak.  I've read up on Siberian Huskies, and I know that they shed a bunch, they are escape artists, they are smart and energetic, etc, etc.  What I'm confused about is how should I go about purchasing the dog.", "summary": "I want to surprise my girlfriend with a Husky."}
{"id": "t3_1r7xvi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My friend's sister [WI] is being scammed by an Internet lady claiming to live in Oregon. Is there anything we can do?", "post": "It's a long story and it doesn't really matter but essentially my friend's sister (lives in WI) met someone on Match.com and has sent somewhere in the neighborhood of $30k to this Internet woman who claims to live in Oregon.\n\nBased on [this Travel.state.gov report] (not to mention *common sense*) it is beyond a doubt that this person is a scammer.\n\nFor anyone who finds this thread in the future, a [quick search] of Reddit turned up the following similar old threads: [1] [2] [3] [4](\n\nThe scammer *IS* a real person, a white female with a foreign accent who claims to be Italian-American, has talked to my friend's sister on Skype, and based on some basic sleuthing has a phone number that seems to be a land line in Oregon. She claims to run an antique business that does appear to have a website, but there is zero actual information on it so it pretty clearly looks like a shell.\n\nSo far here are the best tips I've seen:\n\n* Reverse image search this lady's Match.com photos\n* Investigate the land line and antique business (not sure how)\n\nI would *happily* post this scammer's personal information on 4chan or wherever if I really knew how that worked but I understand the \"not your personal army\" business.\n\nIt has gotten so bad that my friend and other members of the family are saying that this sister needs to give them financial power of attorney so that she doesn't keep sending all her SSI checks to this sketchy woman. It's a good step but if the sister doesn't go along with it it'll never happen.\n\nI've seen advice on here before that ultimately going after the scammer isn't going to lead anywhere, and the problem needs to be fixed at home. I'm just asking to make sure.", "summary": "My friend's sister is obviously being scammed. What do we do? Is there any precedent for bringing legal proceedings (or anything else) against someone like this?"}
{"id": "t3_32w5so", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing Lorde on the toilet.", "post": "I went out to lunch with an old friend and sat talking for a few hours. We love to yarn about music and can spend hours talking about it. We were talking about a lot of Australian and NZ Music. After talking about Pond and Tame Impala we started talking about Flume and his Tennis Courts remix which led us to talk about Lorde. \n\nHe was explaining how someone in his Class really hates Lorde and can't really understand why. I agreed, i hadn't really listened to Lorde since her album launched but remember enjoying it quite a lot and seeing her live at a Festival and she was very good on stage. We said our goodbyes and I went to the trainstation.\n\nOur Train station in Perth Australia is going through heaps of construction so the toilets were shifted to a different area. At this point I also put on some Lorde through my headphones since i had her on my mind. I was sitting on the Toilet an my Favorite track \"Bravado\" came on. \n\nI couldn't help myself I started singing that catchy as hell Chorus. Being a male I sang it down an octave but i have a pretty good singing voice so i don't think anyone would really mind. \n\nI stepped out of the Toilet to see an Old Asian Lady staring daggers at me. I came to the realization I was in the Ladies Toilet.", "summary": "Ended up pulling a Randy Marsh and Singing Lorde in the female Toilet."}
{"id": "t3_3z42i4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NY] Am I required by state Labor Law to take a meal break after 6 hrs of work?", "post": "Or can I elect to work through my so-called \"legally mandated\" 30 minute unpaid meal break without penal rescourse againt my employer?\n\nI write full-time for a New York newspaper owned by an out-of-state conglomerate. I am paid hourly. My workplace is not unionized (except, for some reason, the mail room).\n \nThe explanation I have been given, which seems similar to one given to r/BrainStewYumYum in a [post] from Pennsylvania, is that a previous audit exposed the company to fines and repayment for not properly allowing meal breaks.\n\nI rarely have time for an uninterrupted meal break, given the unpredictability of calls and schedule limitations of officials and often informal, chaotic schedule. I eat of course, but frequently in small poritons on the fly over even an eight hour period, often nothing more than a midday snack after breakfast at home on a sixer.\n\nEssentially I clock 3 hrs weekly of untaken break. At a paltry $13.50/hr, that's a significant yearly loss of roughly $2,000. I have been threatened with three verbal warnings for the violation, a fourth will elevate discipline to a written warning.\n\nAm I at the mercy of the company's self-proclaimed workplace statutes on this one, or am I permited under Labor Law to be paid for the time worked?", "summary": "I don't have time for uninterrupted meal breaks due to my occupational requirements, am I legally obligated to take them, or would doing so expose my employer to penalty?"}
{"id": "t3_fc70g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The dreaded semester abroad", "post": "So I've known this girl since middle school, and I've been hopelessly in love with her ever since. I mean I don't know if it's love, because what is love, blah blah blah and so forth. But anyways, we were off and on in high school, we went to different colleges and we've both been with a bunch of other people, but we always come back to each other. She's told me a bunch of times that she loves me too, and that she doesn't want anybody else, but at the same time it's never really been exclusive and I don't think it would last too long if we tried to make it exclusive. Neither of us has ever lasted long in a committed relationship.\n\nShe's going to Australia next week for a semester, I'm not gonna talk to her much for a few months and she's probably gonna meet a bunch of guys who surf and play guitar on the beach and wrestle crocodiles for fun. I'm a little bit beside myself, but at the same time I want her to go and have fun and get the most out of it.\n\nI wonder if anyone's ever had a similar situation? I'd like to give her something she could take with her that would make her think of me once in a while, whenever she takes it out and looks at it. Something really sweet that'll make her go \"aaawwww!\"  I know it's kind of an obscure request seeing as how nobody knows either of us, but it doesn't have to be something personal. And any ideas might help me think of something. I know this is something I should come up with on my own, but romance was never my thing and I don't have much time left. \n\nAnd honestly it doesn't have to be a gift, it could just be something we do before she leaves, but the gift idea seemed good to me. Like I said I'm really bad at this. Please help me!!!", "summary": "Girl who means everything to me is going away for a really long time, what's one last way I can show her I care?"}
{"id": "t3_2atqqp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying I bombed it", "post": "My friend and I were having a conversation about my lack of organization and bad study habits. I told her I had a math test today...\n\nHer: Did you study?\n\nMe: Pssh... Study...whats study?\n\nHer: Omg... You're such an idiot?\n\nMe: ehhh... Even If I study Im going to bomb it anyway.\n\nHer: Whatever, your loss\n\n* I went off to math, and took the test i knew that would result in failure*\n\nThe following day we got our scores back....\n\nI saw my friend in the court yard that was filled with 300 or so students.\n\nMe: HEY, YO!!! I BOMBED IT!!!\n\n....I forgot to mention I *was* Muslim and wore a scarf\n\nEvery motherfucker turned around and gaped at me. I started walking and they all parted like I was Moses and the Red Sea.\n\nMy friend pretended she didn't hear a lick of what I said.", "summary": "I was a terrorist for a sec."}
{"id": "t3_3uzpad", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shooting a friend 2 Times in the head by accident", "post": "So, this happend not today, but on the weekend. We went out to play football (if you're American, you'll call it soccer) on a field nearby. The game was quite even, noone scored. So we decided to take penalty shots to determine the winner. I went for the shot, kicked it hard and hit my friend straight in the face. His nose startet bleeding and he went deep into rage, while I was feeling sorry and the rest laughed thier ass of. Anyways, later that day, we played counterstrike together. He went out mid, I was playing awp, he walked into my shot, boom teamkill headshot. His rage in Teamspeak went over 9000 while our team (same guys from the football game) died laughing. My friend however got so pissed he ragequitted the game and we lost. This way I lost a good friend and my CSGO rank.", "summary": "Played soccer, delivered the ball with highspeed to his face, played CS afterwards, shot him in the head with an awp. Lost CSGO match, rank and good friend."}
{"id": "t3_p4hni", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, tell me about your douchebag friend stories. I'll start", "post": "So I just kind of need to vent, and I can't imagine that I'm the only one with douchebag friends.\n\nSo heres my story about... Let's call him R.\n\nR. is a constant show-off. He's had sex with 3 girls. 1 borderline chick who faked pregnancy every month, 1 ugly chick, who was another friends ex he kept bragging about, and his (now) ex-girlfriend.\n\nSo his girlfriend recently broke up with him, because generally, he's a douchebag, smokes weed all day, and lies alot. I can't believe they've been together for over a year, because she's actually a really nice girl.\n\nThe week after they broke up, he tells me he got a girls phone number. 'Lookie me, I'm hot stuff, I got a girls phone number! She was totally into me!'. I tell him grats, good for you, and carry on. 2 days later, he tells me he got 4 other phone numbers from extroardinally hot girls.\n\nHe tells me the story of how he got the number for each girl individually. By the third girl it's getting old, but eh, I'm his friend, so I'll sit and listen. He then proceeds to tell this same story to ALL our other friends, making everybody hear the story like 3 times.\n\nR. is not a very good looking guy. He dresses poor, he IS poor, actually, and doesn't pay attention to hygiene a whole lot. Yet he constantly keeps bragging about getting girls phone numbers, and then asks me what the last time was I had sex. (I came out of a long relationship,", "summary": "Don't stick your dick in crazy. And I just don't want to be with a girl at this point in my life)."}
{"id": "t3_36msjm", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] Short (4 ft) leashes on busy city sidewalks", "post": "The other night I left the dog park with a friend of mine, also with her dog. She crossed the street to go back to her place. \n\nMy pup's leash manners have been fantastic lately, especially when he's tired, so as we're walking away from the park I took a second to zone out/check my phone/whatever. \n\nSuddenly, I feel the leash go totally taut and I stop and turn around.\n\nIn the moment I'd let my guard down, my brilliant animal had been watching his buddy cross the street, and decided to step off the curb with the intent of following her. Luckily there happened to be a bike lane there so he was out of harms way, but a car whizzed by right then *inches* from his nose. The leash was totally taut. If that leash had been a foot or two longer, and my doofus had taken another step forward, it could have been real bad news.\n\n99% of the time my pup is great. Stays on the sidewalk, walks calmly behind me, next to me or in front of me. We walk this same stretch of sidewalk twice a day every day. He's never done this. With all the training we've been doing I just started putting a little too much trust in him and got a little too comfortable.\n\nAs my trainer puts it, very few dogs have the manners or impulse control to warrant a six foot leash (let alone a flexi leash!). That always stuck with me, and so when we started really hammering down our loose-leash walking I exclusively used a four foot leash.\n\nThis was a rather startling (although clearly needed) reminder for me to stay seriously focused on my pup when there's traffic nearby. Doesn't matter if he's good 99% of the time, it only takes one accident. :c \n\nJust thought I'd share for any urban r/doggers.", "summary": "Vigilance! Constant vigilance!!"}
{"id": "t3_26yrpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M 20] ex [21 F] is a close part of my friend group. Makes no contact near impossible and moving on more difficult.", "post": "So I recently went through a somewhat messy breakup with my girlfriend of 6 months where she kinda cheated on me or at least I felt cheated on. Before being my girlfriend, she was my best friend for a year and close friend for many years before that. \n\nNow my high school friend group is a really close group of friends that she is a part of that has stayed close even throughout college. We all still see each other and hangout often. \n\nSo after the breakup I prescribed to the No contact thing. We both agreed to cut off all texting and social media contact which has been really helping me for the past three weeks. The only problem is that if I still want to see my friends as often as i'd like, I do have to see her in group settings and the last two times it happened it has sent me into an anxious wreck because I see her texting or snapchatting the guy that she cheated on me with. I get that she's free to do what she wants but I just feel so betrayed and horrible everytime I see it. \n\nI don't know what t do reddit. I can't just never see my friends and become a shut in. These people are my closest friends in the world for a long time but I need help dealing with the minimal contact very week or every other week I need to have with her for a night of hanging out.\n\n Also I should point that the group is usually more than 5 or 6 people and I'm not trying to be friendly with her. I'm civil with her for the sake of it not being awkward but I don't by any means want to be close friends with her. I like the idea of no contact.", "summary": "Exgirlfriend of 6 months cheated on me. Went no contact completely except we have same group of friends so I have to see her sometimes or pretty much lose my friend group."}
{"id": "t3_2aq871", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting at the wrong time", "post": "This actualy happened yesterday night but anywho. Me and my SO had a friend coming over but we decided to have a quickie before our friend arrive. So etc things happen and then my SO gets a call from our friend saying that he was close to me and my SO's apartment. The thing is that right before the call happened I was at my climax and so when my SO answered the phone i was left there for barely 30secs but felt like hours. After the phone call is done we finish what we started but as I came to release a squeaky long fart follows. \n\nI couldn't believe that this happened to me, I have read stories about this happening on alot of sites like 9gag and here on Reddit. I was dying of embarassement.\n\nWe just laughed it off and now here I am laughing by myself writing this for you Redditors to enjoy!", "summary": "Friend was coming over, me and SO went for a quickie, close to climaxing, got a call, continued our quickie and let a squeaky fart while releasing."}
{"id": "t3_2yiaun", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with any girl [F]. How do I get over the fact that they've had previous partners?", "post": "Hey guys, this is a problem I have with myself and I'm wondering how to get rid of it. It doesn't necessarily involve any particular girl, but just girls in general.\n\nI understand that as I get older, the women I see will have higher partner counts. Personally, I don't have anything against women who have high partner counts. I think it's great that they're comfortable with themselves and can get laid. However when it comes to someone that I get close to, I start to feel funny about it.\n\nThe idea of her having been intimate with someone else elicits feelings in myself that are sometimes tantamount to feelings that would be present if she were sleeping with someone else. I feel very jealous, especially if I knew one of the people she had been with, and feel defensive and angry. I know it's irrational to expect to be with someone who has had no previous partners (not to mention other problems that would arise from that situation) and it has nothing to do with my confidence of my performance in bed (which is probably a bit too high). It simply evokes unpleasant feelings in me. The specific number doesn't matter, it could be two or ten and I'd get similar feelings of jealousy.\n\nHow do I get rid of these unpleasant feelings? I don't want someone who's had no previous partners, I want to feel fine with the idea that she has had previous partners.", "summary": "How to get over partner count"}
{"id": "t3_3dxygm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [17 F] likes me romantically but I [17 M] am just not attracted to her at all. How can I let her down but stay friends?", "post": "I've had a suspicion for a while that she liked me and it was confirmed a few days ago when her friends told me that she did. She has a bit of a history of mental problems like anxiety and depression, and I don't want her to fall back into that because of me (It happened before with another guy.)\n\nI'm just not attracted to her so I'm not going to start a relationship with her but I want to let her down easy and in a way that we can still be friends. I'm pretty inexperienced with this so I have no idea how to go about that.", "summary": "Female friend likes me, I'm not attracted to her. Don't want to start anything, want to let her down easy and remain friends."}
{"id": "t3_27i8j0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my ex gf [26 F] together 14 months. She left me for another man, and I need advice.", "post": "So this happened in March.  She had been acting funny for a couple days and then stopped by my house to tell me she had fallen out of love with me.  I tried to be supportive and let her know that I wanted to try to stay together but through the tears she told me that she had made up her mind.  I accepted and told her I would be friendly and try to stay close with her.  \n\nWe live in a very small town so news travels quickly.  I found out that she had gone on a date with a \"buddy\" of mine three days after she had broke it off with me.  This is where I things started to get weird.  Because I tried to ask her about it, (I had heard through the rumor mill) and she confirmed.  It was like my mind broke.  She had worked with this \"buddy\" a few months before she broke it off with me, so my mind instantly started thinking that she cheated on me.  It was also about this time that she decided she wouldn't talk to me any more.\n\nEven though she claimed she wanted to be friends she quit talking to me, ignoring the txts I seldom sent, just completely abandoning me to my misery.  It got to the point where I couldn't take the \"I don't think we're ready to talk\" line three months after she broke my heart.  So I took out my frustrations telling her everything that she put me through.  I thought this would help me, by venting my frustrations I thought that I could let out that anger that had been building up inside.  But it seems that all it did was confuse me more.\n\nI could use advice on how to deal with this.  How do I process the betrayal I have felt and how do I forget about my best friend?  \n\nAppreciated,\n\nFormer \"Greatest Boyfriend In The World\"", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2njv0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A new girl [16 F] just started at my work. I [17 M] tried messaging her but she won't answer", "post": "This girl started at my work last week, she is a pretty girl and we seemed to hit it off. I added her on Facebook and sent her a message. It's been a couple of days now and she's been online a few times but I haven't gotten a reply. She might have seen the message but forgot to reply but it says she hasn't opened it yet. I don't work the same shifts as her and we don't go to school together otherwise I'd ask her number and I don't know how else to get a hold of her. Should I send her another message?  What should I say? Or does it seem like I should just forget about it? Thanks for your help", "summary": "I've got a crush on this girl that started working with me but she won't answer me on Facebook and I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_iltbq", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Help!  Do I need to take my dog to the ER clinic?", "post": "We took her down to the harbor for some training and I think she picked something up there.  \n\nShe's been coughing up white foam for about a day.  Coughing happens roughly every 30 min or so, doesn't always yield foam.  Normal vet isn't open today or I would've gone already.  \n\nGoogle gave me two options: bloat (serious) or a fungal infection.  I'm assuming its not bloat because she doesn't have pain in her stomach (as far as I can tell) and the other symptoms don't seem to be present.\n\nAny advice would be helpful.  I'll be going tomorrow morning to the vets regardless, just wondering if I need to go sooner?", "summary": "dog noticed tiny kitten in cage next door, kitten swiped at dog but hit cage door.  "}
{"id": "t3_vkje3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone live with a medical problem because they cant afford for it to be fixed?", "post": "I do. I have tonsillitis. It effects me about two to three times a year. Usually my right tonsil just swells up for about two days and then pops like a pimple in my mouth and spews puss and infection out. Thats a good 'flare up'. When its bad, like today and yesterday, it swells up so bad that i can't swallow anything but small gulps of liquid and eating is definitely out of the question. Then when its time to be sleeping my nasal cavities are so swollen from my tonsil that i cant breathe when i lay down so i either have to sleep standing up or sitting down, which doesn't work very good for me. The surgery costs around $10k and the docs want a down payment of $2500, neither of which i can afford. I don't have health insurance since being a felon seriously hinders my ability to find a job. So therefor i am stuck with this until i can pay cash for the sugery.", "summary": "my tonsil swells up and it costs alot to fix..im broke"}
{"id": "t3_3ezbff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) told the girl (19f) i like that we should stop talking because she only wants to be friends whereas i want more. Did i do the right thing?", "post": "So basically i sent the girl i like this message after she said she only wanted to be friends.\n\n\"\nI thought i'd be all right with being friends and i know you made it clear that was your intention when we first started talking so i apologise for trying to get around that or thinking it didn't count for me. That being said and it pains me to say this but i think it would be best if we stopped talking. Im sorry if i made you uncomfortable when you stayed at my house and I'm sorry if i misread what happened on Saturday/Sunday night. I took that as a sign that you wanted to be more then friends but that appears to not be the case which is fine but its not what i want. You are amazing and beautiful and you deserve a friend, a real friend and i just cant be that if i want more from you. I'd just begin to resent you become jealous of any guys you saw or anything like that and thats just not healthy or fair for either of us and i don't want to try and force something that you don't want. So I'm sorry for misleading you this whole time and sorry for the way I'm ending this i feel like a coward for doing this through text but if it was through phone or face to face i wouldn't go through with it. If you feel we need to talk about it feel free to call or text me anytime. And again I'm sorry i really really am sorry. \" the saturday night/sunday morning incident i speak of was she stayed at my house for the night where a bit of dry humping, fingering, boob groping and neck kissing happened. \n\nSo Reddit did i do the right thing or did i fuck up?", "summary": "basically the title"}
{"id": "t3_pygj2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the strangest thing you've ever seen on the side of the road?", "post": "I live in Orlando, Florida, and I was driving along merrily to work one day, when I passed by what I thought at first was a black bear, dead along the side of the road. As my curiosity for such large roadkill was overwhelming, I kept going and decided to have a good look on my commute the next day. The next day, I drove slowly by the place and there it was...not a black bear, but a black boar. A big ass pig. It was as large as a medium-sized bear. Huge and dead. I wonder now if it was some kind of record size. The next day it was gone, so I guess I'll never know.", "summary": "I'm a dead pig pacifist who will never amount to anything."}
{"id": "t3_2wivr3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I( f/25) hooked up with my boss (m/53). Now how do I act?", "post": "I hooked up with my boss. He is the CEO of the company I work for. I knew he was married but didn't find out until later he had like 8 kids. Ack!\n\nI have no intentions to be a home wrecker, so that's done with. However, he was the one who invited me to his hotel room and since we were both attracted to each other, we pretty much hooked up then and there. \n\nNow that we hooked up, he calls me every so randomly to meet up with me some more. Professionally he is hard to me in front of everyone. Then he would take me aside and ask me out for drinks. \n\nAnyway we haven't hooked up since that night because I never gave him the chance. How should I put it to him lightly that I don't want to hook up anymore? Deep down I'm still sexually attracted to him, but I don't want him to know because he will keep pushing it.", "summary": "hooked up with boss, only to find out later he has 8 kids. Now I want to quit but he keeps calling me and I want to go back to a professional relationship without jeopardizing my job."}
{"id": "t3_29za1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] pursuing an old crush [30 F] who is currently in a long term relationship, she is unsure whether to continue her current relationship.", "post": "Totally into this girl.  I have never felt a connection with anybody quite like her.  And she's really hot.\n\nI first met her when we were in school together but she would not go out with me as she was already dating the person she is with now.  We were still able to get to know each other, however.\n\nThree years later, when they were on a break, I was yet again unable to take advantage of the opportunity to ask her out due to my already dating someone else at the time.\n\nNow, another three years later, we are back in touch (past month) and I am single.  She is currently still with the guy but has revealed that she is unsure whether to continue things with him due to compatibility issues.  The guy is aware of this and of the fact that we are in touch (he is aware of my intentions).  He has not broken up with her.", "summary": "I'm going after a long time crush who I've always felt a genuine connection with but who is in a long term relationship.  She is unsure whether she wants to continue her present relationship due to compatibility issues.  I really want to make her my girlfriend.  What approach should I take?"}
{"id": "t3_u2meq", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I've fallen back in love...", "post": "This is just a personal achievement for me, but I have just read my first book in months.\n\nEver since my uncle passed away (he was like a father to me) I haven't been able to pick up a book and read. This is an issue as I had what my family rightfully explained as \"book cravings\".\n\nI would actually get antsy if I hadn't read for a day or so, which meant that being employed full-time I found myself reading smaller novels, mostly aimed at teens (yes this includes all those vampire fictions, it was interesting to see whether the storylines differed. I'm female which made it seem less weird I guess!), just to satisfy my mind. \n\nThe week after my uncle's funeral I engrossed myself in as many books as I could, as the previous week was spent helping my mum, grandma and sisters plan his funeral\n\nThe last novel I read was about a week after he passed away, was \"Cleo\" by Helen Brown. I am a great cat lover but it was more than a story about a cat and the antics it gets up to. It's about healing. And it was also the first book that almost brought me to tears. But since then I just couldn't read.\n\nI still borrowed books but they stayed in my bag until they were due back.\n\nAnyway, today I walked into a bookstore on a whim, and picked up \"After Cleo: Came Jonah\" as I loved \"Cleo\", and hadn't realised she had released a second book.\n\nIt was beautiful. It didn't make me want to cry, and the feel of the novel was different, but it worked so well. I actually now physically feel lighter after reading it (I started it about 5:30pm, it's now 9:50pm! Not a bad time!) and it's funny how I didn't realise I had this dark weight above me.\n\nJust feels good to get back in touch with the book-craving me again :)", "summary": "I read my first novel in months after not going for much more than a day of reading for as long as I can remember. Feels good, and a weight has been lifted off my shoulders."}
{"id": "t3_34vove", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by getting suspended", "post": "Obligatort \"Didn't happen today\", but last friday.\n\nNow every day before band, we have 5~10 minutes before Mr. S (It's what we call him, plus privacy) comes to the bandroom. This kid kicks me. It hurt quite a bit. Then he kicked me again and i punched him once and walked away. Someone told the princapal and i got suspended for three days. \n\nMy mom is super pissed, and says i have tk clean out my entire area under my house. Sounds like a meh punishment, except i have extreme arachnaphobia (I flip the fuck out when i see a spider) and all under my house are the thin legged spiders about the size of your hand (plus brown recluses can be found here, but i've never seen any). I'm scared to do anything regarding the the area under my house.", "summary": "Knocked a kid out, gonna be knocked out by spiders"}
{"id": "t3_1vd7jg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] of a year and a half broke up and I'm having second doubts.", "post": "I was with my girlfriend for a year and a half and we are both at the same university. At first it started out great, we have a lot of the same interests and I felt comfortable to be me and say what I wanted. A few weeks ago though I started doubting the relationship, I think I was feeling trapped (not that she was overbearing) and wanted out. Every time I thought of our future \n\nI didn't see us married or anything so I decided I needed out now. I broke up with her 5 days ago and now I'm seriously missing her and doubting my decision. It's on my mind just about all day. Should I get back with her and try again and try not to worry about the future, or am I just panicking because I'm suddenly", "summary": "broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half five days ago and I'm seriously doubting my decision."}
{"id": "t3_2t3d38", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a VPN in school", "post": "So a few weeks back I went skiing and ended up breaking my thumb. Since I cannot currently write I've been typing all my work/notes at school on my laptop. My school has terrible wifi and almost everything is blocked including Google docs/gmail so I downloaded some VPN app onto my laptop so I could access my docs. I have been using a VPN on my phone prior to this and everything was fine until they introduced this new Barracuda security system last week. The IT department caught my VPN pretty quickly and traced it back to my school account. This morning I asked IT what was wrong with my account and they told me they had banned it for using a proxy. I asked them if they would unban it and I was told I need to talk to a bunch of administrators and MAYBE they would give me my account back. Now this wouldn't have been such a big deal to me if tomorrow wasn't my last day before midterms and I could access/write my notes in Google docs.", "summary": "Used VPN to take notes at school, fucked myself for midterms."}
{"id": "t3_381l5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [F24] went silent. I [M27] have no explanation why.", "post": "1. Tinder meetup. \n1. A couple of casual dates. Enjoy each other's company + conversation. Interest is still there in both directions.\n1. Nice restaurant dinner date. Perfect evening + flowing conversation. Interest increasing in both directions.\n1. Home cooked dinner date (at mine) + movie + sex. Having a very nice time with this woman.\n1. Friday evening restaurant dinner date. More easy + deep conversation. Go to a bar for a few wines. Walk her home, hang out for 15 minutes, listen to some music etc. She was visibly tired from a long dayshift so we end the evening. Kiss on the lips good night.\n1. That was over the course of 3 or 4 weeks. I've had complete silence ever since (10 days). She has not blocked me anywhere, just complete lack of response. I kept contact to a minimum once I realised something was not right (we went from daily SMS in the week preceding to nothing). Two days ago I tried calling, no answer so I left a final SMS and plan on leaving the ball in her court.  \n\nWhat reasons could she have for going completely silent?    \n\nPossibly relevant points: Came out of a 5 year relationship approx 1 year ago. Is very intelligent. I did not detect any signals that her interest was waning.", "summary": "Tinder hookup. Great dates over the course of a month. Final date: wined + dined + happy days, kissed goodnight. Stone cold silence ever since. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3wsdk3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting aroused on the train in front of a mother and child.", "post": "This was back in high school when boners were as random as life was easy. \n\nI was sitting on on the train going home from practice. Feeling pretty tired when I see this woman with a baby strapped to her front. I was trying to get irl karma so I offered her my seat and she thanked me. \n\nA couple stops later I start thinking about this cute girl I had been talking to. 5 years later I realize she's a FUCKING WHORE but that's a story for another day. ANYWAY. She's hot. Like she was petite and curvy and seemingly sweet. So I started to think about said curves and I was flacid no more. Pretty common occurrence. \n\nProblem was, I was wearing sweatpants and the baby noticed the rise and looked right into the eye. Of the hurricane. My biggest fear of the baby reaching over to touch it luckily was not realized.  I think the mother realized. And if you know about the MTA during rush hour, you know that it's almost impossible to move. So I stood there thinking about dead puppies and two girls one cup hoping that I wouldn't bonk into the baby at one of the turns. \nGood times", "summary": "I had a rocket in my pocket and a baby saw it. Was fearing that I'd bonk into the baby"}
{"id": "t3_3qj8lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I believe Me [21 F] and my Boyfriend [23 M] of almost two years are about to breakup.", "post": "Everything is perfect between us, me and Paul. But I am realizing that our personality differences are creating a gap that I cannot see myself able to get over for the rest of my life. All it really comes down to(in EXTREMELY simplified terms) is that I am passionate and sociable, and he is quiet and secluded. I consistently feel that I have to tame myself in order to keep him happy, and I know that in the long run, this is only going to damage both of us. We've had many conversations about how we shouldn't try to change the other person, but I am worried that if I don't leave, I /will/ change and I am not okay with the person I would need to become. \n\nSo  I think it's time to end things, soon....the issue is we live together. Our lease isn't up until February. How am I supposed to do this? How am I supposed to explain that, yes, even though everything is perfect, I can't do it anymore?", "summary": "We live together, everything is perfect, but  I feel like I need to sacrifice my core to make it work. How do I end things or SHOULD I even end things?"}
{"id": "t3_297o5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am starting to have problems with my boyfriend's [25M], of 10 months, out of town job", "post": "My [23F] boyfriend [25M] and I have been dating since September 2013 (almost 10 months) and he currently works shift work out of town. When we first started dating, he was always around and we saw each other a lot. However, back in March he received a job offer he couldn't refuse and took it. \n\nUnfortunately, his job requires him to be out of town for 2 weeks at a time. His schedule is that he is away at work for 2 weeks and then home for 2 weeks. When he first took the job, it was obviously hard, however as time went on, it got easier. I'm starting to notice now that it is getting hard once again and I am constantly missing him.\n\nThis time around, he did his 2 weeks and only was able to come home for 4 days before having to attend a training course out of the city. After this training program, I will only have a day with him before he once again has to leave for 2 weeks. While he is away, he is with his co-workers and they're obviously busy with their training but also being social with one another, so his somewhat spotty texting is even spottier.\n\nI love my boyfriend a lot, but this constant distance is starting to wear on me emotionally. My boyfriend is not comfortable talking about his feelings, and although he will tell me he loves me and misses me, I'm getting to this point where I'm not sure if I believe it because he will never do more than tell me that he does. I don't expect gifts and grandeur, I just want a little reassurance. As I mentioned before, his texting skills aren't the greatest, but I accepted that until now because of how I'm starting to feel.\n\nPart of me wants to ask for more out of our relationship and I want to know I have worth to him, but I'm very scared of it leading to a fight or disagreement. How do I go about telling him that I want something more out of this relationship?", "summary": "My [23F] boyfriend [25M] of 10 months works away for 2 weeks at a time. The constant distance is becoming very hard for me and the fact that he isn't emotionally open to me is starting to wear on me. I want more out of him, how do I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_3frxj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20F] going to a funeral for the first time, for my [69F] grandmother's [75F] best friend. I don't quite know what to do.", "post": "Hi all. Sorry in advance for formatting, I'm on mobile right now. \n\nVery recently my grandmother's best friend died. She was like a sister to her, and I was also very close with her since I was young. The way she died was absolutely horrific, and my grandmother held her in her arms as she passed.\n\nThis Friday an open casket funeral is being held, and my grandma asked me if I would like to go. I told her I would. I have been asked to be at funerals twice before in my life, though I've refused, for (very) distant family.\n\nMy problem is that I don't deal with death/the dead well. I am not religious but spiritual. Seeing any type of dead body makes me extremely anxious and uncomfortable. I don't believe that any part of a person or 'soul'  stays in a body after they die, only that the body is a remaining vessel, not really the person themselves... If that makes sense. My grandma and most of my family understand and respect my beliefs but at the same time, it has always been custom for them to at least view, if not touch/kiss the forehead of their loved ones one last time. I don't think I can touch her body, let alone see it. I can't really describe what it's like, but I just get such a bad feeling from bodies, and I have never seen someone I've loved in a casket before.\n\nBasically, I'd just like some help on how to act appropriately at the funeral, while also avoiding (as much as I can) making myself uncomfortable. In addition, it would also be cool if I could get some tips on etiquette in general, what is appropriate to wear, things like that.", "summary": "very close family friend died, I have never been to a funeral and have a difficult time dealing with death in any form. What can I do to support family while also not making myself uncomfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_54iqt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [29m] with my downstairs neighbour [30sf] and her pot smoking habit", "post": "I purchased a condo about a year and a half ago and have been having an ongoing problem with the lady who lives downstairs. She smokes pot A LOT. She has told me she has a prescription for it; though we do live in an area where smoking pot is illegal. Her living room is immediately below my bathroom/bedroom. The building is old and has poor insulation which therefore means every time she smokes it fills my bathroom (and bedroom) with the smell of pot. When I first moved in I enquires with all the owners at a meeting (very small building and it's not professional managed) and each one claimed they don't smoke pot. I knew someone was lying as it cannot be smelled while outside, only inside my unit. One day I approached my neighbours door for something unrelated and was hit with the smell of pot as soon as I approached. She's since confirmed that she smokes pot but refuses to stop or smoke it outside. \n\nBeside the fact that I've never done pot and find the smell disgusting, I'm intending to apply for my city's police department. They have a very strict policy regarding drugs (for example, cutting out family members who do drugs, asking someone who rents to move, etc). I am very concerned that by ignoring this problem and smelling pot all the time I will be affecting my chances of being hired. \n\nI do not want to involve police if possible. It's a small building and this would cause a lot of animosity. \n\nI am looking for advice on how to escalate this and hopefully come to a resolution. I have already brought it up but she will claim she's not smoking and has no idea why I'm smelling pot. I'm not sure what my next steps should be (formal complaint, written complaint, etc)\n\nAny advice in how to approach this and (hopefully) maintain an amicable relationship would be appreciated!", "summary": "pot smoking neighbour smells up my condo - she will deny she's smoking currently and refuses to stop. Claims she has a prescription. I want to be a cop and want to deal with this peacefully if possible"}
{"id": "t3_3yxvmh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking my phone", "post": "It's the last day of the year. My family is quite big and most people live apart from each other. So for this year they decided to meet up at my grandmother's house: it's 21 people in a not so big house. I should mention most of them are also extremely right-wing, which made it hard for me to tell them I'm gay, so I kept postponing it.\n\nI should mention that my phone keeps dimming the lights when I read, so I put the screen to dim at 10 minutes but to lock at 15. It's usually not a problem since I always lock it manually when I put it down.\n\nWell, today I was sexting with my boyfriend on the bathroom. After a while I was super horny, so I threw my phone on the sink and went to take a quick shower. Once I finished it, I went to the room I was sharing with my cousin to put on some clothes.\n\nWell, as you may have guessed, my phone was untouched long enough to dim the lights, but not enough to lock itself. My cousin took my phone and saw a bunch of dirty texts between me and my boyfriend.\n\nAnd he told on me. He told on me hard.\n\nThey didn't say much to me, just a bunch of judgemental looks. I'm spending the night alone since it's too expensive to transfer my flight.", "summary": "Was gonna spend new year's with my entire conservative family, they found out I'm gay, gonna spend the night by myself"}
{"id": "t3_4dutnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [22] of two months told me he's falling in love with me [M 23]", "post": "So this is my first ever gay relationship (I'm 23 and he's 22) and It is going great so far. But my boyfriend the other night told me that he is starting to fall in love with me. And that seriously took me by surprise. I told him that I felt bad and that I wish he didn't have these strong feeling for me because I am going to end up hurting him. I told him that I am new to dating and stuff and that what if i end up meeting another guy down the line, and that what if i want to see other guys. And he was very understanding, he said he was waiting for me to bring this up because he knows how it is to start dating. He's already had the chance to date around and has had 3 other boyfriends, and he is my first.\n\nI guess my question is, should I ask him if we can be friends with benefits, and then just let me talk to other guys and date other guys just to see what its like? I really just want to get this dating stuff out of my system while this relationship is still new, so i don't end up risk the chance of cheating on him later down the line or hating myself for not experimenting and dating and always asking myself \"what if\"", "summary": "He's falling in love, and i basically want to meet other people"}
{"id": "t3_3hdugw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to let go of a feeling that is just starting?", "post": "Me (23 woman) dated a guy (29) a month ago. We didn't like each other at first sight, and I really can't remember the reason why we went out to the movies on the first place, but what I know is that after that day everything changed. \n\nI am really sceptic when it comes to love, cause I promised myself I would never feel again the unbearable pain of love rejection. He tried to hold my hand that day, I didn't let him (didn't feel right), the second time I saw him he tried to kiss me (didn't let him again).. that day wasn't even a date, we just saw each other casually on the street. So after that he stopped texting me.. I'm guessing he didn't like that conservative part about me... but come one.. it was only two times.. when a guy really likes you he makes an effort to see you again and earn your trust, your kisses.. \n\nSo I realized the thing women never want to : \" he just wasn't that into me\".. and it was okay I was really good when it came to protect my heart.. but what I didn't know was this time I wouldn't be able to do so. I kept seeing him randomly and occasionally (cause I forgot to mention an important fact of the story: WE WORK TOGETHER). \n\nWhen we see each other at work it gets random at first, but at the end he keeps flirting with me.. it is so CONFUSING! Never been in this situation before, don't know how to react... And you guys don't need to tell me what I already now.. **HE DOES NOT WANT ANYTHING SERIOUS AND HE IS NOT THAT INTO ME**... so... why does he keep doing that? why does he keep trying to kiss me when none is looking? why does he touches my hands on purpose just to hold them for a short amount of time?", "summary": "what can I do? I don't want to ask him cause since there's NOTHING going on with us, I will look like a crazy person. Is it possible that he likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_1f40q7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18m] Wondering about that time of the month..", "post": "Me [18m] and my gf [18f], have been going out for 3 months now and have had sex several times. This is all good our relationship is great, all things going great. But my question is, what do most couples do that time of month? (referring to her period of course) Like do most couples take the few days off from sex, still have sex, just be touchy... etc. This isnt something i have brought up with her yet but i wanted to know your opinions first, as to what is \"normal\" or what most people do during these days.", "summary": "What do most couples do when the lady is on her period?"}
{"id": "t3_jsd29", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Honest question - would you prefer it if advertising didn't exist?", "post": "Here's my take on it. \n\nTV, Radio, Newspapers, Magazines, movies and websites are money making ventures. People make them, to make money. It really is as simple as that. Now I am sure many of you will now wax lyrical about the fringe exceptions who do it for the love. But for the mass population, this is what it's all about. \n\nSo where do they get the money? A) Advertising B) Subscriptions\n\nIn terms of TV, Radio and film - if you bypass either of these two options (via torrenting/pirating whatever) you are basically lowering their revenue stream, and hence they focus their efforts producing programs designed for those people who continues two use option A and B. Namely the very young and the very old. \n\nIn terms of magazines and newspapers, there is an undeniable global trend for printed media outlets to close down. Is it because more people are reading online? Yes. But that means that both less people are paying for the actual printed material, and more importantly, more and more brands are moving their advertising to 100% digital. \n\nAre ads annoying? Yes. But without them, your life would be a lot more expensive.", "summary": "Advertising makes the things you love (TV, Radio, Magazines, Websites) available to you for free"}
{"id": "t3_1uufkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) need help. I acted extremely selfish and I hurt my girlfriend(20f) with my insecurity about our relationship.", "post": "We have been long distance after almost a year of being together. Once we began long distance the relationship became ten times harder and I began to question myself if I could do this. \n\nThis led to many many fights and every single one hurt my girlfriend more and more until last night when I poured my heart and realized so many things about myself, I realized how selfish I was to her. But it was too late, she said that she was just too hurt and couldn't be with me anymore. \n\nThis broke my heart because the only person to blame is myself. I told her I'd wait and I'd have to prove to her that I am going to do this. I don't want to go out on weekends, I don't want to and meet women all I want to do is get on Skype lay in bed and read to her until she falls asleep. Why the fuck couldn't I have just done that before without pushing her away so far away. I was just so insecure about our relationship while she was just so sure about her feelings and about herself. I felt like she was falling from a cliff and I couldn't grab and pull her back.\n\nI want to make her feel loved, every single day and every single second I'm not around. I'm not here to ask how to get her back. I'm here to ask how can I better myself and finally become a man. I want to become a man to make her feel safe at all times, to never be afraid of me and she always has someone to go to. She said I was supposed to be her person and as much as it breaks both our hearts, I wasn't. I want to be her person and her man. Not her boyfriend anymore.\n\nHow can I better myself for the good of our relationship?", "summary": "I pushed my girlfriend so far away and now I need to man up to get her back. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1eryuy", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat getting hot spots.", "post": "Hey all. I'm calling all cat nutrition experts. \n\nMy 7 year old orange shorthair developed a hot spot on her neck. Before I knew what a hot spot even was there was a running joke about how she would not know when to stop rubbing her head on stuff because she'd sometimes rub herself into a little scab. \n\nAs far as I can remember she always would over do rubbing her head like that. It wasn't until recently she started rubbing that spot on her neck like that. \n\nWe went to the vet to get her checked out. When I saw what she had done to herself I freaked the hell out. they sent us home with an ointment.\n\nI didn't know that certain foods could cause a cat to start getting really itchy spots on them like that.\n\nWe have two cats. The 7 year old and a 13 year old. The 13 year old had never had any problems like this. I suspect that it has something to do with the 7 year old being a little undersized, maybe a runt. (she was also pretty undernourished when I found her 6 or so years ago trying to cross a busy street. Perhaps not the brightest.)\n\nWe feed both of our girls friskies prime fillets. mostly turkey or beef. They don't like fish too much. We used to feed them fancy feast but seemingly out of no where both of them decided they didn't want to eat it any more. We have meow mix hairball control dry food out for them. I feel like we've always fed them meow mix. \n\nOh! Another thing. The two girls fight a bunch. It's never anything too out of control. They just both seem to love the same square of living room. When it gets too rough they usually cut it out or i'll intervene with a spray bottle of water. The older cat doesn't have her front claws but the younger one does. As a result the older one will nuzzle the younger cat to get her to cut it out. Could that be the reason? If so why the spots on the her ears. I've never seen the older cat go after those spots when they are playing. Again, the older cat hasn't had any issues like this. \n\nAnyway,", "summary": "does any one have any information on either of these foods causing a reaction like this? Could it be the two cats playing too rough?"}
{"id": "t3_2rh6rn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19m) little sister(14f) gets bullied at school and I want to help but am not sure what to do.", "post": "My sister constantly gets made fun of and commented on by all the \"popular\" girls at school. Shes in an out of the Principals office due to problems with these girls. I am constantly getting screenshots from people of twitter conversations between girls saying shitty things about her. \n          My sister is not ugly by any means but she has dreads, piercings, and likes to dye her hair crazy colors. I have no problem with that but obviously its not the norm so it makes her an easy target.\n           I don't understand what makes young kids so cruel. I got bullied a bit myself and I know how it feels but it didn't go away until I graduated and stopped seeing the same kids everyday. \n          I don't want her to have to wait till graduation to be able to just go about her day without some preppy skank making her feel like shit. I could talk to her but that won't make these girls leave her alone. The Principals have intervened and these girls still run their mouths on twitter and stuff. What can I do? \n\nIf there's a better subreddit for this let me know.", "summary": "My sister gets bullied at school and I dont know how to help her."}
{"id": "t3_1wnbqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27M] How to handle running into ex [25/F]? READ", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. We had some fights towards the end and she decided she couldnt do it anymore, \"her heart was tired\". I was really disappointed and made some attempts to get her back which failed. I may have come across badly, perhaps a little clingy. That wasnt my intention, I was just hoping to reconcile slowly.\n\nI understand its over and I am moving on. I am worried how awkward it may be if I ran into her somewhere down the line. I really dont want it to be but I expect it to be. Any tips on how to handle this, or avoid a confrontation of sorts? I know just be mature but she's quite emotional and very judgemental. For some reason I hate the idea that she thinks negatively of me. And I made some mistakes so she has every right to. It got pretty messy and what's worst is that she is Muslim and her family got involved.", "summary": "broke up with gf. Repercussions of running into her as we live in same city."}
{"id": "t3_32o3ac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/M] dealing with a group of friends ranging 19-24", "post": "Hello there, r/Relationships,\n\nI've got kind of a serious question that has been more or less wrecking my life in the last few weeks. I guess I'll start out with a quick back story. Started a study abroad program in January in Tokyo and have met some of the most wonderful people during the first 3 months of the program. We got along just fine and became fast friends. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, half the group has left while the remaining half is still here.\n\nHere's the problem. While I had an interest in one or two girls in the group [ages 23-24] that had remained, it seems that their interests are on the other guys. Now, I never really voiced my interests for the sake of maintaining the status quo of the group, but I knew things were going on. I wanted to give them their space, but because of it, I've grown resentful.\n\nAs a result, I feel that they've become more exclusive to themselves and as such, I've told one of the people that I felt really close to my troubles. He says that no, it's not that they're trying to exclude me and that it's all in my head. There shouldn't be any problems between me and the group, but yet I still have that weird feeling that I shouldn't be treading in this territory. They do things on their own and yet, I feel that I'm more or less put on the wayside.", "summary": "Frustrated that I couldn't get my feelings out and now feel weird trying to get back into the group. How would I go about mending these bonds?"}
{"id": "t3_2g2i0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with a girl I've been dating [20 F] a 3 weeks, is telling me she has broken up with her old BF. But it appears she is lying.", "post": "I am currently in college and I met this wonderful girl. We have gone on a few dates and everything appeared to be going great. She wanted to taking things quite slow because she was getting over a recent ex boyfriend.\n\nHowever when I met her roommate she brought up that this girl has a boyfriend who has been acting rather shady towards her. He goes to another college and he has been spending the night \"on the couch\" at this other girls place frequently. He also has recently been posting on her wall and now I'm rather confused.\n\nI know something is up but I really don't know how to handle this. I would really like to be straight forward with her but she seems dodgy whenever I do. I really am beginning to over think things and I almost feel like I was just there to shove in his face.\n\nI really hate this situation because I feel like I could have a legitimate relationship with this girl.", "summary": "I'm dating someone who says she's getting over a break up now it appears she is still with her said to be exbf. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_1izaid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25m] took my gf [24f]'s virginity. She just tested positive for HPV.", "post": "Hi everyone.  This is kind of a weird topic.\n\nMy girlfriend [24f] and I had been dating for a year.  She was a virgin, which I was fine with.  We talked about having sex (mostly from her part), and we finally did, 8 months into the relationship.  It was awesome, and we've had a great relationship through it.\n\nShe just had her first pap, and it came back as \"abnormal.\"  She spoke to the nurse and the nurse said that she was positive for HPV.  \n\nI then did a ton of research, and found that a pap smear doesn't test for HPV, but it tests for abnormal tissue.  I also found that it's not all that sensitive, thus, she has to go in for further testing.  Also, my gf actually had her Gardasil shots a year before we had any contact.  \n\nRegardless, she has another appointment coming up in a month.  Until then, however, she's feeling...a bit guilty...angry...worried...anxious.  She blames me a little and is angry with me, understandably so.  \n\nI'm trying to educate her on the topic, as much as I can, but I was hoping if someone can help allay her fears?  It seems her doctor and nurses aren't doing a very good job, because all they're saying is, \"You had sex, now you have hpv.\"", "summary": "virgin gf.  had gardasil. we had sex. abnormal pap."}
{"id": "t3_11967u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend waits too long in between our sexual encounters. (both 30)", "post": "Together 2 years. \n\nWe have sex like, once every 2 weeks. Tops. We used to do it more often. I try to initiate and it goes nowhere so I drop the subject. When he initiates though, he gets super butt hurt when I am not interested.\n\nIt's been 3 weeks at this point. For the past two weeks I've been trying to seduce him. It wasn't working, so I stopped all sexual things and just gave him non-sexual physical attention and taking care of my orgasms on my own. \n\nYesterday he wants to get busy. At that point, I'm not even interested. After being turned down for weeks I become indifferent. Then, we have sex and it starts all over again. I get excited, try to initiate, get turned down, and as soon as I'm \"over it\" he wants to go again. I've tried just NOT initiating at all (maybe the chase turns him on) and that doesn't work either. \n\nWhat the fuck can I do here? Yes I have talked to him about it only to hear \"I'm sorry, I'll work on it\"", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to have sex once every 2-3 weeks. I stop wanting it after a couple weeks of trying. When we do have sex it reignites my passion, but the cycle of getting turned down starts all over."}
{"id": "t3_3825ln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] with my long-distance girlfriend [17 F] of 4 months, need some advice on whether or not I should end things for good.", "post": "I met this girl on Hot or Not back in February and we hit it off great, quickly becoming attached to one another. After a couple of months, she became very busy so our conversations hit a lull for a month in which I thought she grew uninterested in me.\n\nThis week we reconnected and she was hurt that I was \"ignoring\" her--which I didn't intend to do as I thought she was ignoring me. After solving that misunderstanding and making her feel better about us, I brought up the discussion about an end game or plan to be together. This is where things went sour.\n\nQuick backstory: We both planned to move to San Diego for school within the next couple of years. Unfortunately, I was denied admission so I recalculated and will be going to another university far away for at least two years. She's still going to San Diego because of family.\n\nBasically, there's no end game. As a substitute for this, she immediately offered to visit me because she has some free time this summer. She lives in Texas and I live in northern California, so it's an expensive trip. I declined the offer because I can't ever afford to visit her, so it felt unfair. After pressing her more about how we could be with each other, we didn't reach any conclusions until after we were done with school in 2-4 years. This is too long for both of us to wait, in my opinion.\n\nI really, really like her though and I want to help her and be with her. I told her that we should go our separate ways, but I'm having second thoughts because I do like her still. Should I cut my losses and leave her for good, or should I try to engage in a long-distance relationship that may end in more suffering months down the road?\n\nHave any of you been in a long-distance, long-term relationship? Was it worth it, or is unbearable to love someone who you can't be with? Is there any advice you can offer me in this situation?", "summary": "I met a girl online, our plans to meet up and be together fell through, I like her but I'm hesitant to wait 2-4 years to finish school and start our lives together. Advice on whether or not it's worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_3h5ugt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She's [18 F] confusing the hell out of me [20 M].", "post": "Moved into student housing a few days ago, met this girl the first day and we hit it off. She spends the entire day with me and we're smoking, drinking, cuddling all day. Around 2am she decides to leave where I offer her to stay the night (should have just made a move I know, my fault) to which she describes me \"I could...maybe later\". She hits me up yesterday a few times to hang out only to leave quite abruptly after 20 minutes each time. Later last night I see her cozying up to some other guy and I just decide to not waste anymore time on this. We run into each other this afternoon and make some awkward conversation, and she hits me up a few hours later and I cave in and we start texting a bit again. I (probably mistakenly) ask her to come spend time with me tonight to which she hasn't replied.", "summary": "She keeps hitting me up but keeps flaking at the same time, What does this women want?"}
{"id": "t3_43ufaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [19F] of three years had to remove herself from the room to stop herself kissing her friend", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for three years and this is the first time we've not been with each other daily/weekly as we both now go to university. She recently told me that two months ago when she was \"feeling drunk and lonely and missing me\" she went into the room of her best (male) friend and they talked until she said she had to leave the room or she would kiss him.\n\nI'm not sure where to go from here after she said she was sorry, came clean and said she still did love me. Is it wrong to think if she can't handle 10 weeks of university she has no chance of lasting 3/4 years or am I being harsh on a girl who knows and told me she broke my trust.", "summary": "not sure whether to stay with a girlfriend who wanted to kiss another guy."}
{"id": "t3_2n1d5o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking the wrong exit in a cinema", "post": "So unlike most TIFUs this actually happened less than an hour ago. So I've just got back from watching The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1 (just the title makes me yarl). The movie was 'ehh' but what happened next was class.\n    The cinema is like a plaza and all the screens are above each other connected by two stairways. One goes to the reception via the entrance lady's bathroom and the other one via the men's, or so I thought.\n    I mentioned to my family that I was going to the men's room as we left the screen. I nonchalantly walked down the stairs and I did my business, once finished I carried on walking downstairs to what I thought was the reception. I was acting too 'cool' to realise that I just walked through a double door labeled 'Fire Exit'.\n    I was taken aback when I realised that this was not the reception and instead a small room with a big window door thing, with a label across it saying 'This Door Is Alarmed At All Times Even When The Cinema Is Open' \n    I then realised I fucked up and tried to turn back and leave to find that the door could only be opened from the inside. SHIT. I was locked in a room where one wall was just a window. To add insult to injury, everyone from the cinema could see me and my embarrassment. I quickly phoned my dad and pleaded him to save me.\n    After 5 minutes of laughing at me through the window he finally agreed and made his way towards the mens room. (I later on found out he got lost and walked right through a screen showing 'My Old Lady')\n    My guilt and sadness turned to excitement when the door next to me opened up and he stepped inside laughing at me. He was so preoccupied with laughing at me that he forgot to hold the door open and it closed on him too like a horrible, horrible trap. I will never forget his face when he realised that he too was locked in.\n\n    After a good two minutes of knocking the door was finally opened and we rushed out to find a confused teenager holding it open.", "summary": "Took wrong exit and trapped myself in a box of embarrassment."}
{"id": "t3_3ekt2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Fiancee [24 F] of 7 years, 3 weeks ago just cancelled our wedding and now she seems trying to avoid me", "post": "about 3 weeks ago we had a fight. the fight was because i am too impatience and angry all the time. i was being an asshole for a month. then we had a fight. i started it. i said something i shouldnt say. so she then told me that she cant continue our wedding. i felt terrible and felt lost. i didnt knew i truly love her until then. we still in relationship and try our best to make things up. but somehow, these past 2 weeks she seems got a distant from me. she said she doesnt wanna think anything besides her job. she doesnt wanna think about love besides her job. i know she still love me. but, she act like she doesnt want me. is it in my mind only? or i should give her time? how to convince her that i am truly sorry for what was happened. how to make our relationship like it was before?", "summary": "i was a fool! how to get back my relationship!?"}
{"id": "t3_3hakm2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my dog into the front yard", "post": "Happened 2 hours ago. Moving out tomorrow morning so I emptied my water bed water of 10 years into the back yard. Didn't want the dogs messing with that nasty water so I let them out front. Baily, the adventurous one, decided to chase a skunk. Now I'm moving to a new place tomorrow and new people are moving into my place tomorrow and I'm trying to make my house and dog not smell like skunk. Best part is I had already moved most of my stuff out so I had to run to wall greens and buy soap baking soda and hydrogen peroxide because I guess its the magic concoction.", "summary": "15 years in my house with dogs and the night before I move out and new people move in my dog gets skunked."}
{"id": "t3_1e8ujr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16M) don't know what to do about my friend (16F) who seems to be in a really dark place", "post": "I met this girl back in year 9 and we started talking we got really close despite only talking on fb, eventually I asked her out but she didn't really respond, i pushed the subject but she tried to avoid it. Me being a complete asshole at the time decided to just stop trying and completely stopped talking to her \n\n2 years later, I realised what a fucking dickhead I was and apologised and asked if we can still be friends, she accepted. That was about 2 weeks ago, today on one of our usual talks it went more deeper as she told me how she felt inadequete compared to her high acheiving brother and that she feels like she doesn't belong and has even started inflicting self harm (rubbing a key in her arm to write words, not sleeping for a while) she also told me that she would shut herself up and cry. \n\nShe felt like she had just dumped alot on me and since I still liked her i just said don't mention it, id rather have you let it all out instead of penting it all up, she told me that even with someone who unconditionally loves her who always helps her out (idk maybe me maybe somene else i dont know) she can't get rid of this negative metality. \n\nI tried to tell her to think positive but she said she tried that but when something really bad happened she fell into another pit of despair, now she admits that she kind of just goes wit the motions and acts eccentric and wild at times to get away from this feeling \n\ni told her \"fuck it, come to the movies with me or something, anything that will help distract you from these negative feelings and help you look forward to something\" but she's busy trying to live up to her high acheiving brother of whom she thinks she is inadquete \n\nI don't know what to do, I still like her and i don't want to see her sad like this.", "summary": "My friend whom i like is feeling depressed and i don't know how i can help"}
{"id": "t3_3i490r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my husband [26M] 6 years, found out he had been sexting with an old co-worker of his before we got engaged, need advice", "post": "Hi, I've never done anything like this before...like at all. So I'm not even sure if I'm doing this right, didn't realize there would be a list of rules to read!But I've heard from friends that these things can be helpful, so I'm giving it a try.\n\nLong story short, my husband of 1 month now, have been together 6 years. We have been through many ups and downs, and have been very open with each other and have really grown in our relationship. Which is a big reason why we got married.\n\nA few days ago I found naked pictures of a girl he used to work with on his phone. They were from 2 years ago, and the date suggested about 3 months before he proposed to me.\n\nFirst I know it was stupid of me to even be looking on his phone, though I wasn't looking for him cheating. Just something that is irrelevant to this problem now. But feel free to speak openly about this to me as well.\n\nSecond, I have confronted him and he has told me in phases about what happened. Though my concern is that he's not being fully honest with me or him self, because he's answered a lot of my questions with something like \"I'm not sure, it was a long time ago\" or \"To the best of my knowledge, this is what happened.\" He said it was a time in our relationship when he wasn't sure where we were going, and we weren't really having a lot sex. But honestly, he never clued me in on that time in our relationship much, especially since he proposed only months later. He said he knew it was wrong immediately and feels so guilty. But he kept those pictures, and I know he never stopped his friendship with her. \n\nNow we're only a month into our marriage, and I'm worried about how we're going to deal with this...how I'm going to deal with this!", "summary": "I just need help deciding if working through this is the right thing, and if so, need good advice on how. If not, need advice on how to end it."}
{"id": "t3_4dtd96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20s F] is a mean drunk, and I'm [20s M] having a hard time getting over it.", "post": "We've been dating for a couple years. We're both adults with full-time jobs.\n\nSimply put, when she drinks, she is mean, confrontational, and dramatic. She's been kicked out of clubs and concerts, lost personal belongings more times than I can count, and shoved and hit me on a couple occasions. We had to leave a wedding early because she could barely walk and was bouncing between yelling at me and hysterically sobbing. After-work drinks regularly turn into her staying out until 11 or midnight, coming home slurring and stumbling and either trying to immediately initiate sex or getting mad at me if I say or do something she doesn't like.\n\nShe's told me before that she feels like once she starts drinking, she doesn't want to stop. We have some success when she chooses to be DD, or if I ask her to be cautious about her drinking when we have get-togethers, but even just one drink brings out this angry side of her. I feel like I'm always bracing for a fight when we have drinks or go out with friends. Even if she keeps it together at the event, once we get home, at best we have sloppy drunk sex (which I don't particularly enjoy; she doesn't even remember it the next day), and at worst we have a fight that usually ends with her crying until 2am because I've given up and just want to go to sleep instead of arguing with an incoherent person.\n\nI guess I'm posting this because its been a few months since our last real blowup, but I find myself still constantly thinking about past incidents. Everything outside of this problem is great, and we'll have a great couple of days together where everything seems perfect, but then I'll remember and get very anxious and have a hard time connecting emotionally because I'm reminded of all of this. These things only happen every few months, but its becoming harder to see a future with her mainly because of this, and I don't know what to do. I wouldn't even know how to end the relationship or what to do if I did.", "summary": "gf is angry and mean when drinking and it's making me question if the relationship is worth continuing."}
{"id": "t3_2rjk7q", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[REQUEST] My boyfriend and I can't compromise on what kind of dog to get! Help :)", "post": "I love labs! They're cuddly, sweet, smart, and loyal! He loves pitbulls because they're short haired, energetic, and he wants to show that, if raised right, they're kind and good with kids! I agree with him, but pitbulls are too hyper for me and require a lot of attention! I'm in school to become a middle school teacher, and he's studying to be a professor one day. With that kind of schedule I don't want to be forced to leave an energetic pupdog at home all day. It's not good for them, and with all that energy I'm not sure they would want to be a cuddlebuddy. However, labs have longer hair and can tend to shed..a lot lol he also wants a more unique type of dog. I agree that labs can have that \"classic dog look\" haha! My dream dog is a mastiff or husky (with beautiful blue eyes), but I'm only looking to adopt a dog. They're are too many out there that already deserve our love!", "summary": "I like labs, SO likes pitbulls, requesting a compromise choice, adoption-type dogs only please :)"}
{"id": "t3_zfkkr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married 5 years, can't get previous ex off my mind. Wife and I (and ex gf) in early 30's", "post": "Early 30's husband and early 30's wife. I've been with my wife for about 10 years (dated about 5 years before getting married). When we started dating I was still sleeping with someone else (girl 1), but this was before anything ever got serious with my future wife (girl 2). I made the decision to start dating girl 2 and called it quits with girl 1. Girl 1 was a friend, very attractive, and really good in bed. Girl 2, attractive, good friend, great wife material but not much of a natural when it comes go sex. Girl 2 lives a couple of hours away and I'm certain that I could \"drop by\" if I wanted to and I'm really conflicted over this because I'm considering it. I know I have a good thing going but this nagging inside of me wants to step out. This will probably make me seem like a piece of shit, but I'm just being honest. I'm pretty sure I could get away with it. Should I try having something on the side? It wouldn't be a regular thing due to the distance and would be pretty easy to cover.", "summary": "married dude considering cheating on wife for better sex with an ex."}
{"id": "t3_r77re", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the weirdest thing you have seen on the subway?", "post": "I got the idea from another thread in here where someone claimed that the NYC subway wasn't that bad. One day, I was headed into the city to go see one of my favorite punk bands at the time. In order to get to the venue, we had to take a train downtown. While some of my friends and I were sitting on a train, I hear a woman scream and a group of people immediately walk towards the other side of the train with looks of disgust. Now, I focus my head to see what could be so bad, and it's a homeless guy. Someone else on the train is helping him on and yelling \"this is a human being, i was like this man once, etc.\" I couldn't figure out why these people would react this way towards a homeless person. Out of nowhere my friend yells \"fuck this\" and runs off the train. That is when the smell of puss and infection hits me like a cockslap from Zeus. The man's foot was swollen to the size of a basketball and discolored if not rotting. Now, besides the smell and the sight, what really does it is the fact that something in his foot has popped and he is leaving a heavy trail of some brownish blood all over the train.", "summary": "Went to the city. Got on train. Man had one foot the size of a basketball that stunk of infection and bled on everything."}
{"id": "t3_2spcom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] have no idea how to read the situation with guys I like, or even ones I want to be friends with", "post": "I just became a university student a couple months ago, and due to distance, my long term boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up. I'm pretty introverted, so he was my only friend, and he held a grudge. So here I am, introverted and alone in a STEM school which is guy-dominant, and I don't know how to interact with them. I really think it would be good for me to get out there again, but I've never been good at making friends, let alone the whole dating scene.\n\nI joined a few clubs at the beginning of last semester, and met a group of three guy friends[all 20/M] who live together, and do everything together. I feel comfortable enough around them now, but still get nervous even asking them to hang out, because I get paranoid that I'm a nuisance. I want to become closer friends with all of them, but don't know how to go about doing that.\n\nIn particular, one of them I can't help being drawn to. He's extremely passionate, and talented, and just amazing to talk to, and he and I are a lot alike. He's not the kind of guy I usually go for, and I'm not sure what it is about him that makes him stick in my mind so much, but I can't help thinking about him. \n\nMy problem is that he also got out of a long term relationship recently, I don't know how to get him alone without scaring him off, and I'm pretty sure he just sees me as one of the guys. One minute he'll be really honest, and be having a pretty deep conversation with me, and the next, he's laughing it up about some joke he made at my expense. \n\nAny advice at all would make me very happy.", "summary": "I'm completely stupid and shy when it comes to getting closer to people both romantically and non-romantically and need help, please"}
{"id": "t3_17zij4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-girlfriend [21] broke up with me a few weeks ago, yet still wants to hangout with me [22] every day.", "post": "Hey all, I just recently was on the receiving end of my first breakup. After about five months I was told the reasoning was chemistry and her not being over her old boyfriend. The breakup wasn't dramatic, and she moved out shortly thereafter; however, she still keeps in contact with me via text in the mornings / nights, and I see her at least once or twice a day. She knows full well how I feel about her, and how I am still in love with her, but I can't tell if she's flipped the switch and \"friendzoned\" me that quickly or not.\n\nI'm all for giving her space to do her own thing, and figure out her own issues... however, I can't help but feel a sting whenever we part without so much as a hug. Being the schlep that I am, I would still do anything for her and keep her as company for as long as possible (unless she started to date somebody else).\n\nI guess I would just like to know if it's possible to rekindle the romance, or if she is just looking for the chase again.", "summary": "Girlfriend breaks up with me, then keeps in contact every day. She knows I am in love with her, and its beginning to tear me apart that we aren't labeled as a couple. Should I be worried about the label?"}
{"id": "t3_1zxq1h", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My brother thinks entitled to a car", "post": "He's been asking for a car from my parents, punching and making holes on the walls for years. Problem is, we can't afford one right now. We're struggling to pay bills. If he wanted a car, he should work for it. In the past month, my mom took a house keeping job just to keep up with day-to-day living. Instead, she poured all that money to get a car. The car was a non-op, used car (it ran, it just didn't have smog clearance yet, so we can't get it registered and insured yet). It's been a week sitting in our garage. Today, he just raised voice on mom telling her to shut her mouth because she's not letting him use the used car. My mom's reasoning was it's uninsured and failed smog test but he kept arguing that he won't get caught or get in trouble. Again, my mom can't afford to fix it yet. She just bought the car a week ago! He said he's been walking for miles and riding the bus just to get to school but not really. He gets dropped to school M-F everyday, and picked up from his friends house after school (3-4 of the 5 days). He doesn't realize my mom looking up for him and all he does is raise his voice and argue his false points. He thinks he's entitled to a car because he's 17.\n\nHe thinks it's bad. I'm 21, have a job, and still does not own a car. I go to a community college and wake up at 4AM, ride 2-3 buses just to get to school. Going back home is another 2-3 buses. All the money that I earn, I pay the house bills.", "summary": "Brother wants car because he's tired of taking a bus twice a week and because he's almost 18. A spoiled kid."}
{"id": "t3_2bwsfm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with guy [24M] went on date, can't read him very well", "post": "I met a guy this weekend when I was out with friends and we drunkenly kissed and exchanged numbers. We met up today and hung out at a museum and had lunch. The date lasted about 3 hours. We made out twice and he kissed me goodbye. This sounds great, but I wouldn't say that sparks were flying. Conversation had some dull moments and I'm not sure how much we really have in common. However, I would give it a second date to see if there's really something there. I can be pretty shy and maybe he is too so I want to see if we open up more on the next date. I decided to wait it out to see if he would contact me because I wasn't sure if he would want a second date. He texted me this evening and said: \n\nHim: Had a really good time today! I hope we can get together again soon. \n\nMe: Yeah, I had a good time as well! We could grab drinks later this week/weekend? \n\nHim: Sure! That would be great. I do have a tournament this weekend so I can't do too much Friday/Saturday. But a few drinks would be great!\n\nMe: Ok, I'm pretty open this weekend, thurs night could work too. Let me know what time is good! \n\nShould I have suggested a specific time? If he's really interested would he suggest a time or is he just being polite? \n\nDoes he sound interested or could he just be checking to see if I'm interested?", "summary": "went on a date, not sure if he really wants a second date despite making out with him."}
{"id": "t3_nljuw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: What Queued Your Worst \"Late to the Party\" Feeling?", "post": "I'm a twenty-four year old white male and this past Summer met my father for the first time as an adult; from him, I learned my father was addicted to methamphetamines during the period he impregnated my mother, probably until he left our lives. She herself was addicted to crack during the whole 9month period and evidently was until I was around seventeen. We've oft been isolated by people who got to know my mother; family members, people who she gets to be friends with, neighbors, and were shunned due to this and I never really understood why.\nShe's never had close friends, relationships, rarely had let me out of the house, would get mad if I tried speaking with her, barely ate and thus had barely food in the house. I was made to follow this path.\nShe is such a sweet person, I never knew anything was off with all of this and even though I have been out of the house since nineteen, it took two years to start seeing how exactly all of that was bad and the adverse effects it had on my person. \nI recall a time making fun of crack babies in high school; looks like the jokes on me, hurr hurr.\nAlso, since this revelation I have been much more tolerant of people who have been intentionally indoctrinated considering my unintentional indoctrination. It's hard to know more than what you know sometimes.", "summary": "Learned I'm a crack/meth baby with crazy mother, didn't realise anything was wrong with her/the raising."}
{"id": "t3_139gqi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men and Women of the military (past and present), what are some of the most ridiculous methods used, that you have seen or heard, to get out of the military?", "post": "In recruit training, SanDiego, 2 males in my platoon were found giving/receiving oral to each other intentionally during our shower time.  Whether the two were legitimately homosexual or not is out of the question because there was no discreetness about the act whatsoever.  We had 3 shower rooms and they had left a couple minutes before everyone else to take their shower.  Fastforward a couple of minutes and there out in the open are the two guys giving each other fellatio for everyone to see.  Here is the best part about it all...instead of kicking the 2 out of the Marine Corps like they wanted...The drill instructor told them that they were both getting a 1 way ticket into the navy where they could perform these kind of acts where it is deemed normal.....(this is what was said, not in any way a hit to the navy).\n\nSo Reddit, do you have any similar stories that you have heard of or personally saw?", "summary": "2 recruits in recruit training purposely get caught blowing each other in hopes to leave the Marine Corps and get sent to the Navy instead."}
{"id": "t3_2k211w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating spicy chips", "post": "This happened about twenty minutes ago. Let me start off by saying that I am a male in high school and enjoy self pleasure. So I am watching Doctor Who and the urge comes to me. I was eating takis at the time. For those of you who don't know, takis are a really delicious tortilla chip with a LOT of chile and lime seasoning. So I go at it not realizing what was on my hand for about 30 seconds. Pain kicked in and I had no idea what to do so I took my water bottle (luckily right next to me) and apply water onto my boys. Pain gradually subsided however still stings a bit.", "summary": "Ate spicy chips. Got horny. Got burned bad down south. Watered down the situation. Today I fucked up."}
{"id": "t3_2gqtoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] and boyfriend [24M] are having problems with our sex life.", "post": "Our sexlife has been normal for the first 5-6 months. We had sex like every day and it was good. \nBut since I got that birth control shot I don't feel like having sex that often. And I felt really bad and tired the last few weeks.\nSo I understand it seems like I'm making excuses but that's not what happens. \nSo anyways. The last time we had sex is 4 days ago. And he says we only had \"good sex\" twice since 2 weeks.\nI really am sorry for it but there's just no feeling of having sex sometimes. He keeps asking me why I couldn't just let him try to make me horny but it's not about the being horny part it's about that I don't even want to be horny.\nWe had two fights about it since yesterday cause he thinks I'm controlling our sex life which is kind of true but what's so bad about doing what I feel like and telling him if I don't want something. \nHe was yelling at me and I kept saying that I'm sorry but apparently he didn't hear it.\nHe said he wouldn't even want it anymore and just left the house.\nI was planning on having sex with him, just like yesterday, but not like this, it just makes me want to leave.\nHelp.", "summary": "I don't want sex as often as I used to two weeks ago and my boyfriend gets really angry about it. We keep fighting. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3ltarn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24M needs advice with 24F gf and her criminal record", "post": "Throwaway account here: So I've been dating this girl for about a month now, and she mentioned that she had previously been on probation, but had it all taken care of, and she had moved 2 hours to get away from the old crowd. Being the cool (and stupid) bf I told her that we can let the past be the past and move on. \n\nFast forward to last Friday morning. I'm bored at my security job texting her and all of a sudden she stops replying. After a couple hours I begin to get worried and call her roommate who doesn't answer either. After no one had heard from her by Saturday morning we checked her apartment and both her and her roommates keys, ids, wallets, phone etc is just sitting in the apartment. I file a missing persons report to find out that she got arrested, but gave the police a different name. \n\nSince I work in security and manage several large, secure properties my contract states that if I, or anyone with ties to me brings damages to the company or brings it under scrutiny I could be fired. \n\nNow that she is having legal trouble again, what advice would you have to go about having a serious, non-combatant conversation with her about her criminal past, and would it be fucked up to pay to have a private background check done?", "summary": "gf got arrested and gave police a false name. How do I address the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_28c4jc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving the bathroom door open", "post": "To be fair, the fuck-up wasn't entirely mine, but, as they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Also, this happened 20 minutes ago.\n\nI'm downstairs with my family, watching TV, when the urge to urinate slowly creeps in. I go upstairs to our only bathroom and, thinking the family was preoccupied, decided there was no need to close the door. This would have been fine, if I hadn't forgotten about my four-legged family members. They regularly follow me into the bathroom without incident (they like to drink from the sink), so I thought nothing of it.\n\nBut just a couple seconds after I had my stream flowing, the 8-month old adolescent cat decided he was too lazy to jump up to the sink like he normally does. Instead, he thought he would be clever and take two smaller jumps; first, onto the toilet, and then up to the sink. The whole thing happened in under a second, so I didn't have time to react. He had jumped up onto the lip of the toilet and ran across the front of it, interrupting my stream of urine. A stripe of it now ran from the back of his head, down his back, and ended near the base of his tail. He didn't flinch, and proceeded to perch himself on the counter and stare into the empty sink, waiting for me to turn on the water for him; I'm not even sure he realized what had happened. He got a bit more water than he bargained for; I immediately gave him a quick bath. Fortunately, he doesn't seem to hold any hard feelings about it.", "summary": "Cat forces me to give him a golden shower, I give him a bath."}
{"id": "t3_fpg1w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have a totally irrational fear... How do I pull myself out?", "post": "I have this fear of being murdered, in my own home, but it goes well beyond that. It all started when my car was broken into, in my own drive way. My laptop, radar detector, GPS, system, amp & sub were all taken from my car in the middle of the night. I really felt stupid for leaving my things in my car, in plain view. Following the incident, I would go outside on the back porch to smoke and almost immediately have a panic attack. I'm usually up until 4 - 5AM, so it was quite dark when I'd go out. One of my dogs would usually go out with me and she would bark at shadows. That's what triggered it. Even with every landscape light & the lights from my porch on, I'd panic at the thought of what I couldn't see beyond the lit areas. I'd race inside, usually throwing my cigarette to the ground while flailing my arms about & slam the door. From that point on, I'd have to constantly make sure the doors were locked. Every light in my house had to be on. I'd make sure my dogs are awake & alert. I'd usually wake the next morning in the recliner in my bedroom, sometimes with a knife (which I now sleep with close by). \n\n*NOW*, I have quit smoking. I thought that would help and it did for a few days. Unfortunately, I still freak out, every single night. I cannot be home at night without every light in my house on, in a complete panic. It's even gotten to the point that I grab all four of my dogs & stay at a friends house quite frequently. Should I seek therapy for something like this? Any home remedies for curing this kind of fear?", "summary": "I have a fear of being murdered in my own home, at night. It's gotten to the point that I avoid my home quite often. What can I do to get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_4rcskw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "From a 678 to a 615 in six weeks?", "post": "I recently shopped around and went to a dealership to see what kind of financing I could get for a vehicle on their lot that I really liked and thought I could get a good deal out of. I requested a $10,000 loan.\n\nThe way my credit was at the time, I had 100% on time payments with a 12 month credit history of payments, I also had a new line from Best Buy credit that has been going two months now. Prior to this loan request, I had a 678 score. \n\nShortly after talking with the dealer and running my credit, I decide that I'm not financially set enough to be buying a car. To add insult to injury, I find out over the next couple weeks that they contacted 18 various banks and credit unions for financing...all denying my loan. I would read each letter stating the reasons for denial and seeing my score drop... 658...647...630...625...and now finally 615 where I'm at the end of the inquiries. During this time, I managed to miss ONE payment from Best Buy which resulted in a single interest charge and double payment that I caught up on the next month. I am current on the payment of that now. \n\nI also applied for a credit card and I believe I was approved (since it was through my current bank) and I should be receiving one next week.", "summary": "I have 18 hard inquiries from a car loan and one late payment. Is this normal to drop a credit score over 60 points?"}
{"id": "t3_35arz4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting gas all over myself", "post": "This actually happened two days ago. I went to fill up my car at a gas station close to my house. I've been really into podcasts lately, so when I got out of the car I wasn't listening to the podcast but I was thinking about it intensely. In my occupied state of mind I relied on muscle memory to get gas. I swiped my credit card, grabbed the pump, and pushed the button for unleaded. As soon as I pushed the button, gas started spraying out the pump all over the ground and on my car. I have never actually seen a gas pump spray gas because it's always hidden in the car, so it was quite a shock to see this green liquid shooting everywhere. I let go of the trigger, but it was locked in place and would not stop spraying. Out of options, I turned the pump towards the car to put it in the gas tank. The gas ricocheted off of the car and doused me from the neck down. At this point I was really wondering if this was a dream. After a struggle, I successfully managed to put the pump in the car and fill my tank. A guy who was painting nearby ran over and asked if I smoked, to which I responded no. He offered to lend me a jumpsuit so I could cleanly get into my car, but then he realized he didn't have it, so I had to drive home in my gasoline-soaked clothes. Then I showered for an hour. It was nuts.", "summary": "Filled up gas tank with gas but also filled up clothes with gas."}
{"id": "t3_m1m0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys of Reddit! When is the right time to ask a guy if we are dating or just friends with Benefits?", "post": "I met a guy on okcupid 3 months ago. He is 27 and I am 28. We met in person 2 months ago and see each other 1-2 times a week(when our work schedules allow). After the 2nd meet up I made it clear that I was no just looking for a hook up but something more(a boyfriend) when I asked him what he was looking for he said \" someone to spend time with and hang out with but not a wife\". To me that sounds like a girlfriend but what do I know. \n\nHe always calls our dates \"hang outs\". But when we \"hang out\" he always insists on paying and he always come ups with the ideas on things we should do.. once again sounds like a date to me. We have been having sex since our 5th date (hang out) and I feel like we have become more than just hang out friends. \n\nWe always have fun and I enjoy being with him. We both live at home and we always have sex in his car. I am starting to feel used but the truth is we have no other place to do it. I can't bring him home with me and I can't go home with him and we are not that well off to get a hotel. \n\nI really like him and I would like to call him my boyfriend. I want to meet his friends and I want him to meet mine. But I don't know how he feels and by asking him upfront \"Are we dating?\" makes me think I might scare him away. What we have now is ok, but I am female and I do want more! Guys of Reddit should I ask him now or should I just go with the flow and see where it ends up?", "summary": "Would it scare a guy off if I ask him what we are? Dating/ Friends with benefits?"}
{"id": "t3_187c2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/18) developed a crush on my friend (M/19). Typical problem, need some advises.", "post": "Throwaway account, just in case.\n\nI don't know how to act anymore. We know each other for a year, but gotten really close after he moved to my city half a year ago. He was the most help after my ex cheated on me and left afterwards. While I was feeling insecure he would give me compliments and go for a beer with me. I've built a crush on him, but I don't know how to approach him and whether I should.\n\nHe doesn't seem to be attracted to me, he doesn't approach me with any intentions, but responds positively over my actions. Last night we went for a beer, then bought some alcohol and went to his place, got drunk. Started watching a movie, he sat really close next to me (which was unexpected, the last time we watched a movie at his place I was sitting on a chair and he was on the bed). I leaned to his shoulder and he instantly responded positively. He held and stroked my hands.\nBut that was it, I, at least, expected a kiss! I'm pretty shy myself, I wouldn't make the move first! Leaning to his shoulder was already a success for me. I don't understand whether he's shy or doesn't like me.\n\nFurthermore, there is my good friend (f/19). She claims to like him, although she might know about my sympathy for him, but doesn't take it seriously. I felt really bad about her trying to make out with him on the new years eve. Trying. He didn't made out. He was complimenting me the whole night, but I knew she wanted to hook up with him badly, so I turned on the green light for her and stayed calm. If I told her what happened last night or overall, how much I start to like him and I don't want her to make moves on him anymore, it might create tensions in our friendship.", "summary": "there's a guy who responds to my approaches, but doesn't approach himself. And I'm flirty, but pretty shy. After a night spent cuddling got confused about his feeling and my further actions, because my good female friend likes him as well."}
{"id": "t3_3bcpb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my... idk[26F]! , LDR after only meeting a couple times?", "post": "So I met a girl using a location based dating app while on business travel very far away from home.  We actually didn't even meet up then, but just got each other's numbers through the app.  This was several months ago and since then we have visited each other for long weekends (once each) and had a great time!  When we are apart, we spend a lot of time just talking on the phone and using facetime.  \n\nWe both really like each other, but neither of us are going to be able to move or anything to be closer for another year.  We are contemplating trying to sort of date from long distance for that time.  I am totally bought in, and would hate not giving it a shot, but she is worried about investing so much time into someone she isn't even physically with. \n\nNeither of us want to waste our time, but is this being stupid?  We aren't even positive that in a year we would actually permanently move to the same place.  Just wanted an outsiders opinion.  I would love to hear any opinions on how to move forward, I don't get in romantic situations much (by choice) so it is a big deal to me that I even want to do this, and I definitely do.", "summary": "LDR worth investing in or no!?"}
{"id": "t3_24tor8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/f] deciding whether to stay at home unhappily or risk living with boyfriend (19/m) which might not be the best financially/might cause parents emotional pain", "post": "Me and boyfriend (Lets call him R) have been together almost 2 years and I am seriously planning on moving in with him when I turn 18. \nBUT, I was raised in a Christian home and dont want my Christian mom to feel like a failure with me moving in (and of course breaking the marital sex rule) being not very Christian-like. It hurt my mom when both my older sisters moved out at 18, but they were different situations. They both disliked my mom because of spoiled and entitled personalities even though my mom did everything they could to give them a good life. So my mom feels like a failure with both kids hating them when they moved out and one of them heavily getting into drugs right before she moved out. I have a theory that she views me and my younger brother by two years as the good, successful kids, since we were from her current husband and not her asshole ex-husband. And we didn't get pregnant at 18 or get into drugs.\nI have no hard feelings towards both of my parents, I just want to become independent and live with R. Thats where I'd feel happiest and if this didn't go through then I'd feel resent towards my parents for holding me back. \nFor backstory, R wants to be a psychologist and is getting his Associates degree in accounting so while going to school for psychology will earn good money as an accountant. He's mature, logical and understandable. I don't think there's any risk in that area. He's a freshman in community college now, hes not a bum.\nHis mom I've talked to this about and she made a goo point saying \"If you keep trying to make them happy instead of *myself* happy then I'll never be truly happy.\n*I also haven't told my parents about my plans and they think I'm staying at home through college.\nBut this is a huge decision and I want as many opinions as possible. I've asked teachers, my two cleaned up older siblings and R's mom. But you can never have too many second opinions on a serious and life changing decision.", "summary": "Choosing between moving out with responsible boyfriend but risk mother feeling like a failure with teaching me morals *or* staying at home, financially safe, but unhappy and resentful towards parents."}
{"id": "t3_3inoh8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The only time I was really happy in life was when I was taking methamphetamine (been clean for 2 years)", "post": "I'm in my thirties, been in therapy for some 8 years (paranoid schizophrenia). Went through various prescriptions during the time, with faint success at best. \n\nOne of my past girlfriends 3 years ago introduced me to methamphetamine. I refused at first, it even made me physically sick first few times (I still wonder how persistent she was about it). \n\nYes, I know what you're thinking, meth and schizophrenia sounds like a terrible combination. It turned out that at small doses it just gave me that feeling like when you wake up after a good night's sleep. The downs were actually not as bad as my \"normal\" paranoid episodes. \n\nIt got me motivated - know that feeling when you're procrastinating and need that nudge to get started? This was it. I got shitload of work done. I got praise at my job (I'm programmer btw). I got bonuses. My confidence got a boost. I could talk to people better. I could finally sleep well which hasn't happened my whole life. I remember one exact point where I was thinking \"this can't last, this is too good to be true\".\n\nI was using for about a year, once-twice per week, having pauses of a week up to two months at time. Why I stopped? GF has broken up with me, I had been followed by police because that GF had had contacts with notorious dealers (she was what you'd call a \"stabilized addict\" for years - you wouldn't know unless you knew what to look for). The police gladly shared their questions with neighbors. Shit hit the fan. People knew, gossip made paranoia real.\n\nWhy I am sharing this? I'm stuck. My prestige in said job dropped considerably, the job is getting worse. My hobbies don't entertain me anymore. Due to the gossip the anxiety and paranoia is worse than before. I've tried the classic routes - hitting the gym for a few months, dating again, keeping up with old friends. But I'm sinking deeper.", "summary": "used methamphetamine for a year with some pauses. Got great work and personal results. Heaven couldn't last. Got backlash from neighborly gossip. Accomplishments faded away. I get urges to try meth again, but I guess it'd end badly."}
{"id": "t3_hris5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my mother stole money from me to ruin my family. What do I do?", "post": "Repost because the last one got caught in the spam filter.\n\nSo, in February of 2010 when I was 16-17, I was the victim of a screwup at the pharmacy, which landed me in the hospital for about 4 days. I received a decent amount of money for a settlement for the screwup, and it was placed in a bank account with my mom's name on it, to be transfered to me when I turned 18. Starting in January, before my 18th birthday in March, my mother started behaving very nastily towards my father, and eventually filed a restraining order, saying he had become \"violent,\" and \"kicked in her door.\" I never saw any of this. He never raised a hand towards her, even though they argued frequently. He had been sleeping in the garage in the winter to avoid upsetting her, and was asking to sleep in the house. Turns out, she withdrew almost $5000 from my settlement money, to be used for college, to put a down payment on a divorce lawyer the next Monday. Now she's saying to the court that it was a \"loan,\" even though I wasn't even aware of it until months later. I think I'm going to press charges, but I figured I'd ask what everyone else thinks. Theres a lot more to the story I'm probably missing, so if you have any questions, feel free to ask.", "summary": "My mother was entrusted with my settlement money, and used it to hire a lawyer to start an unnecessarily harsh divorce against my dad."}
{"id": "t3_1y7ce7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] just gave my girlfriend [18F] genital herpes, but may be due to my cold sores. If I am clean of any STD, can the relationship continue?", "post": "My [20/M] girlfriend [18/F] of 5 months just found out she has genital herpes today. She's only ever had unprotected sex with me so it's likely I am the cause. I've never experienced any symptoms of genital herpes myself, but do get cold sores around my lips which I know is related to the herpes virus and can cause genital herpes on others through contact. \n\nNot sure if this is the right subreddit but is it likely I would have contracted genital herpes myself if we had unprotected sex straight after I went down on her with a cold sore?\n\nI am going to get checked by the doctor shortly to find out whether I have any STD but assuming I'm clean and her herpes was due to contact with my cold sore, should I tell her and is this relationship doomed?\n\nI feel really guilty and not sure where to go from here. I would appreciate any experiences other redditors have had.", "summary": "Girlfriend just contracted genital herpes but I may still be clean, is there any hope for this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_zzrg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] was rejected for saying \"I love you\" and am feeling a little low. How can I look at my situation in a more positive light?", "post": "I [20f] have been with my boyfriend [21m] for six months. He's incredible, it's the best relationship I've ever had, and I love him. But, he doesn't feel the same way, and admits to being afraid to think that way because he's graduating at the end of the year and most likely will be leaving me.\n\nI've had guys say they love me and then take it back, so I appreciate his honesty. Unfortunately, the logical part of my head doesn't control my tear ducts.\n\nAdmittedly, I really had my hopes up that he'd be saying \"I love you\" soon. I was looking for something to differentiate me from the other girls he knows. My boyfriend has a lot of female friends, and he's extremely affectionate with all of them. He practically dates them all  - takes them on one-on-one outings and stays up all night with them when  they're going through a rough time. He's a good friend, and I love that about him.\n\nBut on the other hand, I feel like the only thing that sets me apart from his friends is that he fucks me. And that doesn't feel so great.\n\nSo how can I look at this differently?", "summary": "I told my boyfriend I love him and he rejected me. Now I don't feel like I'm special to him."}
{"id": "t3_4ne9lx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure if new relationship will work out, need advice", "post": "(I'm 15M she's 14F) So I started dating this girl 3 weeks ago, and I'm unsure if we are compatible. She doesn't seem to trust me by what she says, and we're really different from each other I feel. She's said things like \"I see us lasting a long time\" and stuff like that but yeah. We don't really fight but I feel she's just kind of all over the place as a person. We had an off and on \"thing\" 2 months before we got together. \n\nShe seems pretty happy with us but I'm unsure if I am. She keeps saying things like how she really loves me, and how she think I'm \"the one\" and stuff like that. She's also a little clingy, texts me a little too much. Sometimes her actions and what she says are little too much,(talks too much) gives me this \"woah calm down\" feeling inside. We had sex. (Yes I know I'm too young don't have to tell me) But this is only because she really really wanted to. I've done it with someone else already but she was a virgin. I'm a little worried that this will complicate things, even though we talked about it and how it wouldn't stop us from breaking up if something went wrong.\n\nNow the other part...I realized I still have feelings for another girl that I liked before I dated this girl, and she likes me as well but she's also in a relationship, her relationship is going to end soon though. I think I like her more than my girlfriend...idk how bad that is but yeah. I just really don't know what to do and would love some advice.\n\nAidan", "summary": "started dating girl, dont think we work well together, she seems to be getting attached, i like another girl more, help plz <3"}
{"id": "t3_2ngbsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [28 F] 2 years, she says I'm too paranoid, but I don't think it's totally fair.", "post": "My GF flew off at me the other week.\n\nI asked her if she was texting another guy and me asking this question almost made her breakup with me.\n\nThe reason I thought she might be is that she has suspicious phone activity. She uses it a lot when I'm not in the same room and quickly stops what she's doing when I come in, she recently started putting it on total silent when she comes home and she leaves her phone screen side down. This has only been happening past couple of months. Put this with the fact she has never acknowledged my existence in a public sense in anyway in 2 years and I felt a bit sus.\n\nWhen I asked her if something fishy is going on she exploded and said I don't trust her etc etc went to stay at a friends house, and pretty much implied we were breaking up.\n\nNow I feel if I have a problem with something or if I am a bit suspicious I cannot ask about it or she will instantly dump me.\n\nIs it fair? I feel like I should be able to talk about what's bothering me. Am I too insecure with asking about her phone habits?", "summary": "I questioned GFs phone habits... She went apeshit... now I feel I can't talk to her about stuff like that."}
{"id": "t3_3up9tx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M24) keeps calling me (F19) his life partner. 2 year relationship, I don't feel the same way.", "post": "So basically my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and he keeps calling me his life partner. He believes we will be married someday and would totally be okay with being engaged and living together right now. \n\nI, on the other hand, don't really plan on him being my \"forever\" due to multiple reasons (money, he's very critical, insecure) so it makes me very uncomfortable when he says this. However, it would start a huge endless argument if I ever brought this up to him so it's better to leave it alone. \n\nMy problem though is that I don't want to waste his time when I don't plan on this lasting forever, but I also don't want to break up right now because we have a great relationship and it's a nice thing for the time being. \n\nAnother wrench to throw in is that he has absolutely no friends besides me. This puts a lot of pressure on me to constantly be there for him and be his only source of happiness, entertainment, and companionship. This sometimes makes me feel trapped in our relationship which is a feeling I really don't like. I don't like that feeling since I'm only 19 and have been in this relationship and one before this meaning I have always been in a relationship ever since I was 16. Sometimes I get curious about being single but I feel like I can't even consider leaving him when I'm his only source of friendship. \n\nI'm not suggesting I want to end our relationship. But I don't like the feeling that I basically couldn't if I wanted to. Anyone else had a similar situation or general advice for how to continue in a relationship where each partner has different expectations or if it should continue at all? \n__________________________________________", "summary": "Boyfriend plans on marrying me, I don't feel the same. Been in relationships since I was 16. Current boyfriend has no friends besides me, I feel trapped like I couldn't leave if I wanted to."}
{"id": "t3_1ljjex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/28) am considering ending a 7 year relationship with my girlfriend (F/28) - Need Advice!", "post": "Hi All,\n\nThis is my first post here, although I've prowled this for a bit. I'll try to keep it as short as humanly possible. I've been in a relationship since college with my current live-in girlfriend. It's totally fine, never cheated, she wants to get married, we are both stable and have jobs etc.. But I just can't get rid of a feeling that I shouldn't continue.  I've had it to various degrees for a looong time but always chalked it up to general restlessness that applies to most aspects of my life. This is probably the biggest decision I've ever made, and it is subconsciously really grinding at me. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any words of advice? I guess what haunts me is that I don't know if I can really go back to a \"normal\" state of the relationship, like I'm too far down the path of being uncertain and wanting something different, even if that something means just being on my own for awhile. Would be happy to provide more details.", "summary": "Late 20s, thinking about breaking off a generally healthy but somehow lacking relationship. Mistake? Good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_35msz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [21 F] that I [23 M] have been casually seeing for a while slept with another guy, and I have no clue what my next move should be", "post": "A bit of backstory: I've been with this girl for around 5 months. It started out as a purely physical thing where we'd just hook up on a regular basis then go our separate ways, but both of us wanted to keep it exclusive. Lately we've been spending more time together and it's been getting a bit more serious, but nothing drastic. I do enjoy spending time with her though if we're being totally honest.\n\nJump forward to last night, we're at the bar with all our friends, and this guy she used to have a bit of a fling with is there. She's drunk, giving him a little too much attention, and I can see that he's trying to get laid. So, being the aggressively jealous person that I am, I freak out & yell, we get into a big argument, I say something hateful to the guy, and I storm out in a jealous rage.\n\nThis morning, she tells me that she ended up getting blackout drunk and they hooked up. Something about how she practically had to be carried home, and she woke up naked with the guy. She seems remorseful though, and judging from the story she gave me, it sounds like he really took advantage of her drunkenness. But I don't know what actually happened, and I probably never will. Which really makes me think I should've knocked that son of a bitch out when I had a chance, but that's life I guess.\n\nIt still makes my blood boil when I think of it though, and due to the fact that our relationship isn't all that serious, I don't know if I should cut ties, or try to put it behind us, because to be honest, the sex is amazing, and I don't think this is going to happen again. But on the other hand, our one rule was that we keep it exclusive, and she broke it. I kind of have a tendency to torture myself with this type of thing as well, so my willingness to \"work it out\" might just be my inner masochist talking. Feedback would be great because I'm feeling pretty torn.", "summary": "Girl I've been casually seeing for a while got way too drunk and hooked up with an old flame, but seems remorseful about it. Don't know if I should break it off or try to put it behind us."}
{"id": "t3_3lykoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20 F] says she doesn't love me [20 M] sometimes", "post": "Girlfriend [20] of 3 years says she doesn't love me [20] sometimes. She hardly talks to me over text which I don't mind but never calls me. But in person she's loved up and fine! \n\nShe hates the fact that I get angry quickly but over the past few months, I've learnt how to be more in control and I feel better on the whole anger problem now. \n\nOver the past few months, we put our relationship on hold to figure out feelings and whether we can move on and she says she can't imagine me not being in her life and she wants to be romantically involved yet doesn't ever try for us? I'm tired of carrying us both in this relationship. \n\nI've asked her to either be normal or lets fully break up as in no contact ever but she hasn't made up her mind for the past month. What shall I do and how do I move on? I'm finding it pretty hard especially since we have the same group of friends now due to university. Any advice will be appreciated! :)", "summary": "Girlfriend [20] can't make up her mind whether to cut contact or be with me properly."}
{"id": "t3_kmuun", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Superhot neighbor baked me brownies for my bday..am i getting mixed signals?", "post": "OK, so the other day was my birthday. I live in duplex house that had 2 apartments. I live on the bottom floor. My smoking hot neighbor and her bf live right above me. We are friendly, we write on each other Facebook walls (cheesy, i know). She's made comments about my guitar playing, how my dinners I cooked \"smelled amazing\", and how during a big storm, she wanted to run to my basement for cover.  I hardly ever talk to her bf. The day after my bday, she left me a fbook note and said she left a treat for me at my door. To my surprise, she left a huge plate of damn delicious brownies. I knocked on the door and said thank you, etc because I felt that a facebook \"thanks\" would be thoughtless. She was genuinely interested in what I did on my birthday, and seemed happy that I personally thanked her. Anyways, my question is: is this just purely a kind gesture from her and nothing else? Or is it some sort of sign of affection that perhaps she wants something more from me? Maybe just mixed signals on my part.. I welcome anyone's input, but I think the ladies might be able to give me a more accurate answer!", "summary": "Hot neighbor made me eat her brownie."}
{"id": "t3_1hidyx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This is my (21f) first real relationship, how do I break it off?", "post": "I don't want to give too much info because he is also a redditor, and I'd hate for him to stumble upon this and figure out its about him before we talk. \nThere's no big problems between us,we've been together a little over a year, I'm just realising that we aren't as compatible as I thought we would be and I don't want to be with him for the rest of my life. \n\nThe problem for me is that this is my first real relationship and I don't know how to do the whole breaking up thing, we live together, but everything is under my name. I wouldn't mind him still staying with me until he can get a place of his own, I just don't want to drag our relationship on any further knowing that we aren't compatible and it's not going anywhere.", "summary": "I need advice on how to break up with my first real boyfriend. I no longer feel compatible."}
{"id": "t3_3ksswu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My friend (20M) have a problem with a girl (20F)", "post": "I'm currently trying to help him move on from her.\n\nLong story short, my friend met a girl in uni. They talked a bit before but only on FB (talked a bit in class also but that's about it). They went on to being in different classes due to one of them failing a year. She told him on FB that she'll hang out with him. After a while she met her current BF. Now my friend says that it's not fair that she gave her BF a chance before him even though she hasn't met either one of them. They argued about it a bit. She blocked him and unblock him after a while to help him move on.\n\nNow it has been more than a year, and he still tries to message her in whatever way possible, to the point of harassment. She would open up accounts under her name, open up other accounts, post pictures of himself and tag her in it, etc. She has contacted the police twice, and the police has talked to him twice, warning him but he doesn't care. He has specifically said he doesn't care about going to jail, as long as she will explain why she didn't give him a chance. The police also warned that he'll be kicked out of school, but he doesn't care.\n\nI've been trying to talk to him but his mind is locked onto this, and he said it'll basically continue until she gives him a reply to why, which she has multiple times, but he thinks she's not being truthful. I'm not sure how to help him move on, as he clearly cant and I don't want him to get kicked out of school/going to jail because of a girl..", "summary": "Friend met a girl, can't get over her not wanting to hang out with him. Harasses her for more than a year, police threatening doesn't scare him. How would I help him move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1on9t6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25 F] have been dating a guy [30 M] for several weeks now and he refuses to let me over to his place. Is this a red flag?", "post": "Okay, so I started seeing this guy. Everything is going great. He's super charismatic. We have tons of fun together he generally seems like a great guy. I feel lucky to spend time with him. But, there's one small issue... he REFUSES to let me come over to his place. He's over at my place about 2-3 times a week but I've never once seen his place. He claims it's because he doesn't like the house he's renting, his rooms dirty, and he isn't too found of his roommates. But, he's so adamant about it that it's starting to make me suspicious. Like, there's been a few nights where going to my place just wasn't an option, and we were both drunk and super horny, and he still opted out of going to his place. It's gotten to the point where not only is it kind of insulting but it's also making me really wonder what's going on. I confronted him yesterday and asked him what the deal was. I asked him if he was a hoarder or if the house was just horrendously dirty and he said it was neither and that it was just clothes all over the floor. But, I just find that hard to believe because it makes me wonder \"Well, why don't you just throw them in a hamper or something?\" Anyways, he was very upset that I was upset and said he'd clean his room and invited me to spend the night over there tonight. But, he's offered before and then backed out last minute so I'm not getting my hopes up. But, if he backs out again tonight it might be a deal breaker because this situation is really starting to raise red flags for me. Is this irrational? Am I making a big deal out of something insignificant?", "summary": "I've been seeing a new guy for several weeks now. He spends 2-3 nights a week at my place but refuses to let me see his place. He claims it's because it's dirty but he's adamant about me not coming over and the longer it goes on the more suspicious I become. Is this a red flag or is it trivial?"}
{"id": "t3_3adyne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [30s M] giving up on my relationship with [20 F] too soon?", "post": "I tried breaking up with my gf because she wasn't doing her part around the house and I felt she was taking advantage of me. We started living together 1 month into the relationship and she argues that because it was such short notice moving in that we didn't have time to properly set expectations. I told her to move out because I feel that if she cared she would have taken initiative to pay bills/rent and clean a little more on her own. Once I told her to leave she started trying really hard to show me that she did care but a part of me felt like it was too late and I slept with another girl. She's already getting her own place and she found out that I slept with the other girl today and I had to fess up to her that the reason I did it is because I wanted to break up with her in the first place because of the issues I mentioned above. The crazy thing is I still love her and she even told me that she doesn't care if I ever spend a single penny on her again but that she's with me because she really loves me and that she'll give me one month to \"ditch the bitch\" and make things right with her. Like I said, I love her but I feel that she didn't appreciate me while I did all that for her. She says I'm giving up on her too easy but I feel like she gave up by just not doing anything.", "summary": "Wanted to break up with gf because I felt she wasn't reciprocating, told her to move out, all of a sudden she wants to reciprocate and she's willing to take me back after cheating and prove to me that she's not using me."}
{"id": "t3_e661l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what should our senior prank be?", "post": "We want something GOOD. Hopefully something John-Green-good (If you don't get the reference, watch [this] it's entertaining as hell).\n\nHere is some vital information:\n\n* We go to a magnet technology high school with a lot of ... unusual people. The prank should be pretty bizarre to weird out these weirdos.\n* Our school mascot is a dragon (no joke) and our colors are red and grey, but we have no sports teams.\n* The school doesn't have cameras except for two in the parking lot, but we still don't want to do anything illegal if possible.\n* The senior pranks at our school in the past have been **lame**. Our school has only been around for 10 years, so there haven't been too many. A few were: hanging our own mascot (we don't understand why either), putting a tarp on a cement walkway in the middle of the school and making a brick box on it filled with water and fish, except the water drained out and the fish died, and putting alarm clocks above the classrooms.\n* We've thought about using thousands of live crickets and the \"FOR RECTAL USE ONLY\" stickers for something, but we have no idea what.\n\nWe want our senior prank to be amazing and unforgettable, and we're leaving it up to you reddit. Any ideas?", "summary": "Our school pranks in the past have sucked, help us think of a good one."}
{"id": "t3_1pnh0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my gf [17 F] of eight months broke up the other day because of her dad found out we had sex", "post": "Alright, well this Sunday, the 27, I picked my girlfriend up to take to my house. Halfway there she receives and call from her mom and I have tot take her home. I didn't know what it was about, so I drop her off and take her home. I get back to my house and her father texted me that based on some information he had received, he didn't want me to see his daughter anymore. I'm here think, \"Well f***.\" \n\nI call my gf later to see what happened. It turns out that her parents snooped around her room and read the messages off of her iPod (which receive her texts as well as her phone). We were talking about how we had sex and yada-yada. So her parents yelled at her and then her dad texted me that. \n\nYesterday we officially broke-up because I argued with her father about the whole scenario (I know, stupid me) because I couldn't handle how he didn't see me right for his daughter just because we had sex. So she ended it because it was between me or her father. \n\nSince then we've still been talking and there's a lot of feelings going around - neither of us want our relationship to be over. How do I convince her parents that we should continue dating? I know I could get over her but I really don't want that to happen. A lot of stuff happens in eight months.. I honestly think I love her, but maybe I'm just young. \n\nSeriously though, can anyone help me with how I should handle this situation? I really want to stay with her.", "summary": "Parents found out we had sex and they made us break up. How do I stay with her or get back on their good side?"}
{"id": "t3_14bwi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my boyfriend [M23] cheating on me [F20]?", "post": "Hi, this is my first time posting on Reddit.... I'm a 20 year old female, dating a 23 year old male. We've been together for just over a year. Recently, I decided to go into the webcamming business, thanks to some advice from my boyfriend. However, he mentioned to me that he \"frequents\" the site. He had insisted that \"frequent\"ing means he visited it every so often, not in fact \"frequently\". I looked up the definition of \"frequent\" for him though, and he admitted he was wrong in that sense. When I asked him again exactly how often he visits the site, he told me he spends around 20$ a month there. Now all bias aside, I'd like to mention that he always sarcastically apologizes to me for being too poor to buy me anything. I think he pays for my *fast food* meal maybe once every two months. Other than that, everything is split half half between us, even gas. Money aside, do you think this is considered unfaithfulness?", "summary": "My boyfriend spends at least 20$ a month on a webcam site and doesn't tell me until I pry a year later. He defends himself and doesn't apologize until I blog about it. And by apologize, I mean he said \"Sorry\". Nothing more, nothing less."}
{"id": "t3_1p2ejr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is my companies ESPP a worthwile investment?", "post": "My company allows payroll deductions up to 10% of salary that it holds for 6 months and then purchases.  The purchase price is equal to \"95% the FMV of [compay] Shares on the Purchase Date.\"  Once shares are purchased I can sell immediately with a $10 transaction fee.  So far I have been contributing 3% for the last 2 years but havent sold any stock.  \n\nShould I keep contributing to the program?  Should i contribute more?  Should I be selling my stock immediately and not holding?  Thanks!\n\nBackground info:\n401K (at company match + 1%), \nROTH fully funded, \nEmrgency Fund with 8-10mos expenses", "summary": "is a 5% ESPP a worthwhile investment?"}
{"id": "t3_1gww3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there anything I (F24) can to do make up with the guy (M24) I led on?", "post": "I'd been friends with this guy for about 3 years and always sort of resented that he wasn't interested in me and that he got plenty of female attention.\n\nI wanted to prove that I could attract him, so I hooked up with him a few months ago. I spent some time being really nice to him and taking care of him, but I also played a lot of games. I would deny him sexually, ignore him for days on end, and mess with his head. This included making him beg me not to dump him and having him constantly apologize to me. \n\nNow I feel horrible about this. I recently told him that I just want to be friends. He's pretty broken up about it. Is there anything I can do to make this up to him?", "summary": "messed with my male friend and want to make it up to him"}
{"id": "t3_4ta1dy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I Want to Move Out of State?", "post": "Hello everyone. So I am looking to move out of Pennsylvania. I've lived here my whole life. I'm 24 now. Have a job I don't like much. There's not many good jobs around here. I don't have many friends, and lack family (I have one best friend) , so nothing is keeping me here anymore. I want to get a fresh start in a new area, where the people are friendly, plenty of job opportunities, and the weather is warm. I was going to go to school for health information management. The program is going to take probably a year to finish and I don't know if I can stay at my current job for that long. However, I don't think it's wise moving out of state with only having data entry and warehouse experience. The states that I was recommended were Texas, North Carolina, and Arizona.\n\nShould I stick it out with my job until I finish school? Have you ever moved out of state because you were unhappy? Was the grass greener on the other side? Please share your experiences =)", "summary": "Have you ever moved out of state because you were unhappy? If you did, how did you go about doing it? Did it work out in your favor?"}
{"id": "t3_375npf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] have become too dependent on my partner [19M] for my own happiness. How can I become more independent?", "post": "So the title pretty much explains it all. I [18F] am currently in an amazing, loving relationship with my boyfriend [19M] of nearly two years. The only problem, however, is that I think I have become too dependent/clingy/needy. I'm looking for experience from others and advice on how I can become a happier, more independent person.\n\nSome background information if you are interested. This is my first relationship. My partner has only been in one other relationship that lasted just shy of three months. Thus, neither of us has that much experience with relationships. \n\nWe started dating during the beginning of our senior year of high school. During this time, everything was great and I was happy being my own independent person. In fact, my boyfriend used to complain that I was too independent during this time period. According to him, I was emotionally-distant and difficult to get a hold of to spend time with during this period. We talked about these issues, and over time I became more invested in our relationship. \n\nHowever, things began to change for me around the time we left for university in August. We were going to different universities (about 2 hours away by public bus), but we were determined to make our relationship work. We resolved to see each other on the weekends as often as possible and call each other every night. Over time, I noticed many things began to change. My boyfriend texted me less, became too busy to call me nightly, wanted to spend more weekends apart, and became less romantic. Although we still loved each other very much during this period, I felt as if we just weren't putting in the same amount of effort to stay as close as we used to be.\n\nUltimately, I think these changes have produced a lasting effect within me. I now find it very difficult to spend time alone. I feel hurt when he chooses to spend time with his friends instead of me. I get nervous when he doesn't respond to my texts within a few hours. If I used to be the \"independent\" one in our relationship before, he quickly became the independent one and still is now.", "summary": "After being in a relationship during first year of university, I feel like I've become too dependent on my partner to make myself feel secure and happy. Can anyone share their similar experiences and/or provide me with advice on how to become a happier, more independent person?"}
{"id": "t3_137i77", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) have nagging doubts about girlfriend (21f)", "post": "so i've been with my girlfriend for more than two years, and she is only my first long-term girlfriend. I love her very much and plan to marry her and have kids, but it seems like lately there have been some nagging issues on my mind. Mainly, I feel like she is keeping some things from me. I tell her everything, but I get the feeling there is a lot about her I don't know about.\n\nAlso, a few months ago over the summer we had some serious issues where we almost broke up. She, in my opinion, emotionally cheated on me with one guy, and almost physically cheated with me on another. She has apologized and has said she loves me and would never cheat on me, but those occurrences still bother me.\nWhen things are good, they are completely amazing. But it just seems like once a month or so there is some sort of drama that puts the relationship into question for one or both of us. I think we're both somewhat insecure, which doesn't help.\n\nReddit, I want to spend my life with this girl, really I do. It just seems like there's some issues and I don't know how to proceed. I want to trust my girl, but there's always that little bit of doubt in my mind, that feeling that I don't know everything going on. The possibility exists that i'm just being paranoid, but i don't know.", "summary": "dating for two years, continue to have nagging doubts in my mind"}
{"id": "t3_40dd48", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I have social anxiety and am doing terribly in interviews. What can i do to improve this?", "post": "This has been happening to me a lot lately. I'll get an interview, and the person who has seen my resume tells me right off it looks like my experience is a great match for the position, before we even start. \n\n(I'm just applying for customer service jobs for the most part, and my resume includes a lot of that, plus some lower management in a customer service job)\n\nAnyway, I do just fine with actual customer service, for some odd reason. \n\nOutside of work, i don't really have a social life. I'm perfectly comfortable interacting with friends through text, but i rarely see any in person. When i do, i get a bit weird, but that's around people i'm friends with. \n\nJob interviews though... My mind goes blank. I try to mitigate this problem by researching what the particular company i'm working with uses for interview questions, and preparing and practicing my answers ahead of time. This doesn't work. My mind goes entirely blank, i stumble over words, it's pathetic, and every single time someone has indicated that they definitely want me to work for them based on my resume, by the end of the interview they've changed their mind. \n\nWhat can i do about this? I don't have the luxury to just keep practicing and get better, since interviews don't come around that often and i need to actually get a job fairly soon because i'm currently without an income (due to moving to a new area and taking a seasonal job which ended)", "summary": "I'm a great employee and have references to back that up, but interview so badly no one will hire me. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_3csm7l", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[F/22/5'7\"/SW 183/CW 142/GW 120] Took some measurements last night [NSV]", "post": "I was cleaning out a suitcase to use for a trip this weekend when I found my tape measure and body fat calipers!\n\nI last used the calipers a couple of months ago (so I was well on my way as far as weight loss at that point - wish I'd had them and used them at the start!), but it told me 19% body fat at the time. Last night I measured a few times and it told me 17-17.5ish %. I'm honestly not sure how accurate the actual % is since it seems difficult to be exact with the calipers, but I can still compare measurements with one another - so as long as the number goes down over time, I'm happy with it. If the numbers are accurate, that bf% puts me in the category of \"athletes\"! So that's pretty cool.\n\nAs for chest/waist measurements, I know I started in the ballpark of 37\" chest (bust) and 30\" waist. Yesterday night I was at 33\" and 26.5\" respectively. Ahhhh!!\n\nI also finally broke through a plateau last weekend - I'd been sitting at 145 for what felt like months, and I've managed to maintain 141-142ish for the last 4-5 days. Going forward, I'm running the NYC Marathon in November, so I'm hoping to be pretty close to goal weight by then - maybe 125ish by the time the marathon rolls around? Final goal is to reach 120 by end of 2015 - so if I lose 4 pounds a month or so, I should be on track.", "summary": "took measurements, got excited about smaller measurements and lower bf%, broke through plateau. THANKS for all of the good vibes, y'all - every time I want to snack these days, I grab water or a Diet Coke and read this subreddit instead."}
{"id": "t3_1ejc63", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My roommate splashes water EVERYWHERE.", "post": "This guy moved in the beginning of this month, subletting for someone else in the house. He, apparently, does not fucking know how to use a towel. Everytime he is in or around water, there are puddles all over the goddamn place.\n\nLast night, I went into the washroom after he showered, and I'm pretty certain he just shook off like a dog and walked out. The rug was soaking wet and there were puddles on the ground and water all over the sink and mirror. Wtf. And today I came home from work and there was water all over the stove and the counter. I know it's him because it started happening after he moved in and only happens after he leaves an area. And sometimes there will just be random spots of water on the ground for me to step in. FANTASTIC.\n\nGaaaaah I just needed to rant a bit. I asked him to be more aware of wiping up spilt water but there hasn't really been a difference. I mostly came to rant but if anyone has advice I wouldn't mind it because if I have to do four months of this shit I will have to start leaving passive aggressive puddles in front of his bedroom door so HE can step in them first thing in the morning and get his socks all wet!", "summary": "My roommate may be a duck."}
{"id": "t3_2tevay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [29/M] is acting inappropriate with every new female friend", "post": "I hope this is detailed enough, but if it isn't, please let me know and I'll edit my post.\n\nI've been with my SO for about 9 months now and I've noticed he has pretty severe self-esteem issues. He's the kind of person that wants to make everyone happy and accommodate them in any way possible, which often lands him in a difficult position. He doesn't know how to say no or how to voice his concerns because he fears it will upset people. Because of this, and his generally friendly nature, he's been raped and/or assaulted many times in his past. \n\nAs a result, he's very afraid of women, thinking they'll hurt him, with me being the exception, as I'm the first person he felt safe with. Strangely enough, because of his self-esteem issues, he wants everyone's approval and interest, especially women. There doesn't seem to be any middle ground for him and I've had to let him know multiple times when he was flirting and/or being otherwise inappropriate.\n\nHe seems to be oblivious to this until I mention it to him.  He usually apologizes afterwards, but continues with this behaviour anyways. I've let him know that I find his behaviour inconsiderate and humiliating and while he seems to understand my point of view, he's told me he doesn't know how to stop this kind of behaviour. Normally I could deal with it before, but now he's escalated by sending a mutual friend of ours sexually explicit pictures which is pretty much the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak.\n\nNow, my question is: has anyone dealt with a similar problem and if so, how did you fix it? We are both students in a foreign country, so therapy is expensive and difficult to come by, I was hoping for tips on how to stabilize the situation until we both come home again later this year, when he can hopefully start proper therapy.", "summary": "Boyfriend is inappropriate with other women due to past trauma, how can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_54lof0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [20 F] had an amazing date (and sex) with guy [20 M] but now things are awkward?", "post": "We met on tinder about two weeks ago. We hit it off and had some great conversations. It got to the point where we would stay up late into the night talking, and then we would spend all day snapchatting each other. \n\nI told him I wanted something casual, and he initially said he wanted something serious. He told me he was completely fine with being casual though and decided to set up a date. \n\nHe drove an hour to see me and pulled out all the stops. He was a really nice, sweet guy and we got along super well. When he took me out to dinner we barely touched our food because we were so busy talking. \n\nNot to mention we were both incredibly attracted to each other. One thing led to another and we had sex multiple times. We were completely comfortable with each other and it was a really great date for both of us. We literally stared into each others eyes while he told me how perfect and beautiful I was.\n\nAnd now it is really awkward and I don't really know why. Our conversations have kinda come to a lull and I don't know what to talk to him about. He initiates conversations, like he wants to talk to me, it just doesn't go anywhere. And then I get awkward and say something stupid, which then makes things more awkward. \n\nI don't really understand why it's so weird when things went so well. I also don't know what to do about it to fix it. Personally, I am more straight forward and would like to just call him and ask if we are good and probably make jokes about the awkwardness to relieve the tension. But I also don't want to make things worse. \n\nI like this guy, and would like to try to work this out but I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "I had a great date with a guy who was just as into me as I was into him. Things are different after we had sex and this date. Why are things awkward when we talk now and what can I do to fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ll4u7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26) think I'm my girlfriend (25) is cheating on me but I might just be paranoid. (Five Years)", "post": "English is not my native language so please excuse the grammar.\n\nThrowaway for obvious reasons. Ok first of I was\u2026 (am if I'm just going insane) to spend the rest of my life with her. I feel sick to my stomach just suspecting this but I don't know I just feel as if something is wrong\u2026\n\nLet me explain: Ok so these last year she has been staying with me (I pay rent/food every thing) and I have been putting in extra hours to fast track my career. The only problem with this is she is demanding, I have to speak to her every half a hour on skype and always let her know where I am am/going (not complaining I love it) and when I am not working I have to spend it with her.\n\nThe last few months she has been complaining that I don't give her all the attentions that she needs and I have sat her down and said that when I am not with her I am building a life for us. Here is where the problem comes in\u2026\n\nThe last few weeks she hasn't been asking for any attention I mean none, when I come home she is happy and talks to me but in the day dead silence. I know this girl better that her parents talking is like breathing. But if she isn't communicating with me then with who\u2026 \n\nCant be her friends cause not one of them can talk with her for so much\u2026 and I don't think she is giving me room cause SHE TELL ME EVERY THING SHE DOES .  I asked her why so quiet and she said I was just rely busy\u2026 how can being unemployed be busy\u2026\n\nI know this must sound crazy from an outside perspective but I can't shake the feeling that she is getting her emotional outlet from some else. I can feel it in my bones some thing is off and its killing me.\n\nOw She or me has never cheated to my knowledge and I have never ever suspected or though she was capable till now.", "summary": "Girl friend is not craving attention from me now I think she is cheating."}
{"id": "t3_3mfpt9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU- By having my (ex) boyfriends dad walk in on us while I was licking BBQ sauce off him", "post": "Obligatory- this didn't happen today but about a year and a half ago.\n\nMy boyfriend at the time introduced me to this BBQ sauce at this international grocery store that I became obsessed with. I ate it with everything. Chipotle, vegetables, fries, etc. Everything. It was so good. \n\nAnyways, we went out to a bar and got home pretty late. Around 3 am. We had quite a few drinks and knew we had to eat something before going to bed or else...we'd probably feel even worse later on. At this time I was staying in the guest room at his parents house while I was visiting ( we were long distance). The kitchen had a sliding pocket door which we closed while my ex made some chicken which I was going to eat with the BBQ sauce- SCORE!\n\nWhile the leftover chicken was being heated up, things between us heated up as well and we ended up fooling around a little bit. I was sitting on the floor leaning against the fridge, which is also one of the first things you see when you open the pocket door and enter the kitchen. He had the genius idea of pulling out his junk and putting some BBQ sauce on it and having me *seductively* lick it off. (Yeah, I know it sounds ridiculous). While he was standing in front of me and I was enjoying my little snack, the pocket door opens up and I make eye contact with..his dad. My ex instantly backed away and zipped up his pants while I stayed where I was and just shrugged while I held eye contact. (I was drunk and thought it was hilarious!). \n\nNeedless to say, I did not get any action for the remainder of the night, I did however, laugh until I almost threw up.", "summary": "Licked BBQ sauce off boyfriends penis after a night of drinking, his dad walks in, make eye contact, don't get laid. Never laughed harder in my life."}
{"id": "t3_ihasx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, am I being unreasonable about situation with friends staying in my house?", "post": "So here's the background.  My parents moved out of the country for business (temporary) and left me to live in the house to take care of it.  It's a big house and lonely alone, so I asked if my friends could move in with me.  My parents agreed to friends A and B, but were hesitant about also allowing friends C and D because they did not want that many people living there.  All those friends lived together before, so A and B did not want to ditch C and D.  I managed to convince my parents, and they said fine, but that they would charge everyone $300/mo as rent (which basically just covers utilities).\n\nAbout 2 months ago, friend A's brother comes over without A telling anyone.  I assumed it was just for a few days, but a few weeks later he was still there sleeping on the couch the whole time.  I asked A and he said he was only staying for the hockey games.  At this point my parents figured out he was here (my brother told them) and were upset that no one asked them if someone else could live there.  I told them the situation and they said fine.  \n\nIt is now 3 weeks after the Stanley Cup finals, and he is still here.  My parents are pissed that he is still here and with no definite plans on when he is moving out.  I talked to my friend about it, and he thinks my parents are being unreasonable.  Meanwhile, I'm placed in the middle of it all and am stressing out over the fact that I'm taking shit for this from both sides.  So reddit, am I being unreasonable about this?  Is there a better way I can explain this to him so he gets it?", "summary": "Friend's brother has been living with us (with no advanced notice) in my parent's house for 2 months with no definite date to move out.  Friend thinks my parents are unreasonable for not wanting extra people living here."}
{"id": "t3_3kzu8y", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I need advice on negotiating in the biotech field", "post": "so I've been in the biotech industry for 5 years now and have extensive experience in QC/QA chemistry/validation and bio chemistry work. During this time i've worked entirely off of contracts. \n\nNow at my new position (which relocated me to southern California)the company would like to hire me for full time work, the issue I'm having is that according to sites like glassdoor the median salary for someone in my position is 75k but HR gave me a ballpark figure of 65k. \n\nDo I have room to negotiate up to the media salary? I want to say I do a significant amount for them which I do and that I'm needed but don't want to shoot myself in the foot. They are a giant multinational corporation I just don't want to come off as greedy.", "summary": "getting hired full time but don't want to seem like I'm begging for salary"}
{"id": "t3_4afzwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] Not feeling much for my girlfriend, but living with my her [22F] girlfriend and not sure what I can do at this point.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI'm a 22 M and have been dating my 22 F girlfriend for about 11 months now. What started off smoldering has really faded out the past few months. She was originally going to go to California for Grad School and decided to stay where we live to be with me essentially. I didn't ask her to do this, I advocated for her to leave. Ultimately I supported her decision because that's what you're supposed to do. Fast forward a couple of months later we are living together and everything is great, but we've only been together a few months. Over the course of the past few months I've become increasingly annoyed by her for no apparent reason. She's extremely needy and clingy and wants words of affirmation/kisses/cuddles constantly, but I don't feel the want to kiss her very often. I have begun to see her as more of a great friend whom I love, but I'm  not sure if I am in love with her. Are there any tips for becoming less annoyed from anyone in a similar situation? She honestly does nothing wrong and I'm extremely appreciative of everything that she does for me. I'm just not entirely happy. Any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend of a couple months stayed in my state instead of moving to california for school and I live with her now and not sure what to do as I don't feel much for her anymore."}
{"id": "t3_304zz3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by confirming a girls contact info", "post": "So, this happened yesterday, long day, couldn't post, still cringing. \n\nLast year, I worked in retail with this girl. She's cute. Anyways, as coworkers do, we had exchanged phone numbers to cover shifts and shit. In my infinite wisdom, I sourced a bikini pic as her contact photo from her instagram. Because, pervert.\n\nYesterday. I run into her at school. We're both seniors in college. She's in her early-mid twenties, I'm 31. We walk around campus for about 20 minutes together when I realize that we're really going nowhere at all. I ask her \"Do you have anywhere to be?\" She responds, \"Yea. At 3. I like talking to you.\" Me, \"Aw.\" Anyways, the conversation continues and we both happen to mention that we've just endured a break-up. No way. I mention that I'm in the market for a roommate. She mentions that she's in the market for a new place. No way. Anyways, we both manage to eventually walk her to class and she says, \"Well hey, do you still have my number?\" To which I respond, \"Um, I *shooooould.*\" Now, there are two types of people in this world, phone lookers and non-lookers. Turns out, she's a phone looker. I tap \"contacts\" and begin to browse for her archived information as she peers at my phone screen. BOOM. There she is...at the beach...in her bikini. My blood runs ice cold. \"Hmmmph. That's my contact photo, huh?\" Me after seeing her holding an iphone, \"Ha, y-y--yeah. Androids are weird. Probably pulled it from your facebook.\" Her, \"I don't have a facebook. That's from my instagram.\" Me, \"Oh. Yeah, see Androids are so weird. It just sourced any photo.\" Obviously, this is all complete bullshit. Her, \"Yup. Certainly weird.\" An awkward hug and \"see ya later\" followed.\n\nFuck.", "summary": "Showed a girl her own bikini photo."}
{"id": "t3_151xdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [22] ended it before it started. I [20F] want to show him it could work.", "post": "Hi guys. Need help here. I am an exchange student, and teaching my native tongue to a guy who was considering going for a year abroad in my uni. We...started dating. (This was not even two months ago.) We have wonderful chemistry, he makes me laugh and really started opening up to me. \n\nTwo weeks ago, he started considering other options for his year abroad. Not leaving, for instance. Or another place. And he told me-a few days ago- that he doesn't want to feel pressured to go to my uni because of me. That he had a girlfriend last year who was also an exchange student and that he had made serious plans to follow her, but they ended it and he changed everything at the last minute. He told me \"better now than later, trust me\"; \"the less I see you, the better\". \n\nSo, basically, I'm sorry he was hurt. But I really think this could work, and that we could be happy even if only for a while -and I'm trying to work up the courage to tell him, but I need advice : is this even a good idea? Any chance this could work? How can I word it?", "summary": "scared shitless at fighting for a guy I barely know who is trying to not get hurt by avoiding a relationship with a necessary expiry date."}
{"id": "t3_2j0o2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M,20] need advice relating to close friends", "post": "Well, I have been having some issues lately and it's really getting to my head. \n\nI am the kind of guy who doesn't change his opinion about anyone because for any reason other than they intentionally want me to. \n\nSo recently, I have a few of my friends going behind my back at saying shit about me. \nAlmost all of them kind of get a pleasure out of saying bad things about me. And when I point their flaws out they feel that I have been rude. \nMy question is why would most people think happiness is something which you get when you belittle others?\n\nAnd how to deal with it?\n\nI think I would be better off ignoring it but I feel like I might lose a lot of friends. \n\nHelp.", "summary": "how do you deal with close friends trying to put you down because of jealousy etc?"}
{"id": "t3_4pxxza", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying off $24k of debt", "post": "Starting a new job on wednesday paying AUD $24.11 p/h + 9.5% super, 8 hrs a day with 30 minute lunch break 5 days a week. Its a call centre job, not cold calling.  We answer queries from customers about their utility bills etc. The contract for this job is for 6 months (probationary). I have been told that i will be offered an extension on the contract after the 6 months as long as i do my job well and not slack off. I also have family friends in company so lets just say that i will have my contract extended for the purpose of my query. Im also looking to do a networking/system administration certification in the upcoming months (which will cost around $2k, give or take). \nI have roughly $21k owing on personal loan with a 7 year repayment period and $3k owing on a credit card. I want to pay these off as quickly as i possibly can. Currently im paying rent on a place i no longer live at until August 23rd at $193 per week, roughly $85 per month for phone bill and $55 per month for something else (up until the 16th of oct). Currently only paying around $58 per month for the credit card (has been stable around this figure for quite sometime so im thinking this is just the card fee as i dont actually purchase anything with the credit card anymore) and $217 for the loan (i think this is monthly). So presuming the credit card fee stays the same, what would be better to pay off first?\nAny help with this i am really grateful for.", "summary": "Owing $21K on personal loan and $3k on credit card, what is the best way to pay these off with my upcoming salary? "}
{"id": "t3_nr4cb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which group of people would you choose to save from an apocalypse?", "post": "**Scenario 1:**\n \nIt has been determined that volcanic activity will enormously rise in approximately 10 years. The massive volcanic eruptions will cause carbon dioxide (CO2) levels in the atmosphere to significantly rise, which among other things will make it impossible for us to breath.\n\nA way to save part of the human race has been found: build underground havens, where people will wait in (the conveniently developed) suspended animation pods until the Earth is habitable again.\nIt is up to you to decide the fate of the the people of the world. You can choose to save any group of people or set of people (or a group/set of people to leave behind) but you can't save everyone. Who would you choose?\n\n**Scenario 2:**\n\nApocalypse type scenario as described above, except high seismic activity will result in 97% of people in in the pods in the underground dying. The only option is to also build a base on the moon, for people to wait in suspended animation pods. However there is a *1 in 2 chance* that the radiation shielding of the base will fail and everyone on the moon will die before they leave suspended animation. \n\nThe moon base cannot be made to take as nearly as many people as you choose in Scenario 1.\nOnce again it is up to you to decide, the people you don't choose will go to the underground 'havens'.", "summary": "Scenario 1 - Apocalypse! You decide which group of people to save."}
{"id": "t3_1k4hjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] want to send an apology 'letter' to my friend [20F] without coming across as needy/sappy.", "post": "Using a throwaway since I don't want this tied to my main account. Anyways, I have a friend whom I haven't talked to in a year. I recently made a new facebook, added her (which she accepted), and sent her a message. We've known each other since high school, so about 5 years now.\n\nI asked her if she would like to meet up to catch up on things, she said she might be free this week (that was last friday). I told her just message me with a convenient time and she said sure. Now, I'm close to positive she won't respond again, which is fine, but I've been trying to mend a lot of friendships. I've 'restored' 3 or 4 now.\n\nI'm trying to change my lifestyle, and 'old me' would have sent a couple messages on monday/tuesday, but I don't want to sound creepy or needy. I genuinely want to send a thought out apology.\n\nI just need some help on getting it across in a decent way. Even if she just says she doesn't want to be my friend, I just want to send it as a peace of mind. I've restored 3 good friendships so far by 'speaking from the heart' but it was a fairly short thing since I had just fallen out of contact with them.", "summary": "want to send apology to a friend without coming across as needy/sappy."}
{"id": "t3_2yetym", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to smell lube out of curiosity", "post": "It began when my uncle asked me to help redecorate the house with the new furniture he got from his friend. Being the good nephew I am, I happily obliged.\n\nNow here's where trouble begins. The furniture my uncle's friends gave to us, still had a lot of stuff in them (mostly clothes). So we had to take out the clothes and put them in garbage bags in order for us to use and carry them. Out of sheer luck, I found a bottle of lube.\n\nThe labelling on the lube said \"**strawberry flavor**\". I don't have much experience with sexual things and so I got really curious. I wanted to smell the lube. Yes you read that right. **I WANTED ITS FRUITY SMELL IN MY NOSTRILS**.\n\nLittle did I know that water-based lube actually has a very watery-like viscosity. Despite it clearly saying that, I still thought it had a lotion-like viscosity. So opened the cap and tried to squirt a bit into my hand.\n\nInstead, a grand deluge of lube came down all over my body and the furniture--the fruity smell pervasive throughout the vicinity. As this was happening, my entire family stood and watched with mixed expressions of horror and confusion. I told them to relax as it was only water-based lube but my clarification only added to their horror.\n\nThey then asked, \"Why did you open it?\" to which I replied nonchalantly, \"I just wanted to smell it.\"", "summary": "Found lube while cleaning out new furniture. Got curious and tried to smell it. Instead spilled it all over myself in front of my family."}
{"id": "t3_1bxtam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (22F) worked hard to lose weight and get the body she wanted, but now I (23M) get jealous of her wearing clothes that show it off.", "post": "Together 2 years, no issues with cheating and so forth, and things are all together great. But this has been really bothering me. She has a great body now, and worked hard for it (tons of gym time, lifestyle change to a very healthy diet). Tall, long legs, and a fit body. However, she now likes to dress like her pinterest inspirational pics she insists upon keeping in huge albums. I can understand using them as motivation to lose weight, but it honestly really bothers me to see her in those short shorts, or see through layered whatever. EVERYONE checks her out, and I feel like she's doing it for attention that's not just mine. She has to know everyone looks at her, and I already know she has a great body so its not to impress me. How do I tell her to tone it down? I don't like seeing everyone check her out. She just brushes it off when I ask and says these clothes \"make her feel more confident\". How to I get her to wear outfits that attract less attention? Nothing is like cheap or out and out slutty- it just draws more attention than I'd like.", "summary": "GF looks hot/dresses too sexy, attracts too much attention. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_20ulv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21 M] is always complaining about me [21 F] to his friends", "post": "I have been seeing a guy for a few months and found out that he has been complaining about me to his friends at every chance he gets. There's one of his female friends in particular that he will always vent to, and she encourages him to break up with me even though she doesn't know me personally. I know that she doesn't hear positive things about me because he always ends up venting to her when he's upset. \n\nHe'll also tell his friends that he's frustrated because I haven't had sex yet and tells them personal things about me such as my sexual history. I'm simply not ready to have sex with him yet and am getting frustrated that he keeps trying to push it. I think that this information is none of their business and don't understand why he feels the need to tell them.\n\nIs there any way to confront or talk to him about this? Should I even confront him about it?", "summary": "Boyfriend has been complaining about me to his friends and telling them personal things about me"}
{"id": "t3_3jv87u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22 M] girlfriend [21 F] of 3-years broke up with me because her friends are single.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 years and we were each each others first everything(SO,kiss,sex). She is shy and has suffered from some bullying in high school, she didn't have very many friends. But, about 6 months ago she met a group of girls that were really nice to her and were good friends. She was so excited to have real friends who weren't treating her like shit, and I was really happy for her. \n\nThen, about 1 week ago, she tells me that she doesn't want to only date one person, and she wants to try dating other people for a while, she says that she still loves me and that I am amazing and she doesn't think she'll find anyone better and that she may want to date me in the future. Then she brings up that all her friends are single and that she is having a hard time going out with them because shes was in a committed relationship and they wanted to talk about guys and she didn't feel comfortable talking about guys while she was in a serious relationship. Ans her friends are pressuring her to date around.\n\nShe said she wants to stay friends with me but I know she has a date planned with another guy already. I still love her and can't really imagine dating someone else, what do you think I should do?", "summary": "Long term girlfriend's new friends pressured her to break up with me and date other guys and she listened to them."}
{"id": "t3_24iacz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A good friend [17 M] became very religious, I [18 M] don't know how to handle it", "post": "Hello /r/relationships,\nI had a few conversations over the last week with a very good friend of mine that I know for 8 years now. He's an Arab, I'm a Turk.\n\nHe always was a chill guy. We would do everything together that was funny, like literally everything. We would go out to smoke waterpipe with another friend. We would talk about anything, we would talk about girls, make fun of things that we would all find funny.\n\nHe has changed now, though. No more smoking waterpipe, no more trying to have sex before marriage, no more dating girls as it seems. He talks about why all women should wear scarfs and why they should be capped everywhere on the body. He tells me to stop consuming alcohol. He tells me to stop running after that one girl and rather go learn. He tells me to stop smoking.\n\nHe's still kind of chill and responds quiete normally when I ask him about that girl I want to date and get closer to but he also said that if he was me, he'd stop having contact.\n\nHe even sent me a video about the Islam and what you should do. I friendly said 'No' and also told him that I respect him for the way he thinks if he thinks that it's the right way but I know for a fact that I won't change and that I'll also go out to smoke with another friend later today.\n\nIt's still very strange how he has changed so quick. We would have smoked together like 1-2 months ago and now he just became like that. I don't know how to handle his behaviour. I mean, I don't really think he's going to become an extremist but he seems to be very bullheaded when it comes to religion.\n\nLike I said, I'm a Turk but I take it all easy and also consider continuing to smoke, consume alcohol and having sex before marriage because it's and would all be just part of my life.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Friend became very religious recently. He has changed, will never go out to smoke with me again. He tells me to do things that are right in his opinion. He sent me a video of what direction to live is the best."}
{"id": "t3_308bna", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [34/f] BF [34/M] of 2 yrs has been sending fantasies to another girl he used to date", "post": "He had a number of 3somes with her and another friend of his/theirs in the past which i knew about and was fine with. After Ll, we all have history and that shouldnt matter as long as you both commit to each other Now. \n\nHe told me that recently he has been sending her erotic stories/fantasies about her and said 3rd at her request. \n\nI asked him to read me one and they are explicit and clearly he is still interested.\n\nAm unsure how to take it. I am NOT interested in women and have been and had opportunity to explore it in the past. He knows this too.\n\nWe are committed, and monogamous. I feel betrayed but dont want to scare him from telling me things in the future. I told him i wasnt comfortable with him sending said stories but he insisted that it was \"just a story\" and that i cant get upset about thoughts. But i feel like it may be something more.\n\nPretty upset about it. Talked twice but he thinks i am over reacting. \n\nAm i making too big a deal?", "summary": "bf has been writing sexy fantasies to other girls about other girls. Told me. Unsure how to react"}
{"id": "t3_38fzn6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating an entire raw king-sized breaded pork chop", "post": "So today I decided to have a nap after I got home. Slept for about 4 hours, woke up and was starving. My family I am staying with made porkchops and said that they would leave me a plate since they knew I wanted some. So after I woke up a went to the fridge to find a plate covered in tinfoil. I took it, got some red peppers and microwaved it for 2 min. Then proceeded it eat the whole entire thing. Since it was breaded and microwaves usually kinda make things taste saugy I just kept going. Plus it actually tasted very good lol\n\nThen they run down stairs and asked if I ate the porkchop.\n\nI say yes, they say it was raw.\n\nSo if I stop using reddit in a couple days it's cause I died.\n\nLOL", "summary": "ate raw porkchop, would recommend was actually good."}
{"id": "t3_2a60rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] girlfriend is starting college and I [19M] over think everything about her safety when I deploy at the end of the year.", "post": "So I'm in the Army National Guard and was gone fall semester of my freshman year for training. \nI took classes in spring and now in the summer. I haven't really done the whole college experience and I'm not into that stuff. \nMy girlfriend (of 3 years) recently started drinking and partying a lot with just her friends. \nI really despise alcohol due to a long history of alcohol abuse in my family. But If she wants to have a drink with her friends I don't really mind. \n\nShe just had her orientation for college and is telling me know she is planning to attend a lot of frat parties and house parties.\nI wouldn't be apposed to going with her to a party because she will do it regardless and I'd feel safer being able to be there. \nThe catch is my unit deploys at the end of the year for 10 months. \nMy greatest concern with her starting college is that she will drink and something will happen to her or she will do something she'll regret. \nAm I just extremely paranoid. Or am I alright in my concerns. Again I don't know how the college life is I just hear stories from frat guys I work with about the number of drunk girls they have slept with at these parties. \nI love this girl to death and trust her. But she is very inexperienced with alcohol and I fear the worst. Please advise.", "summary": "my girlfriend starts college and plans to drink and party. I'll be gone for 10 months in December. I worry for her and our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3a7bcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] female friend [24F] is going to be spending a lot of time with myself and a large group of friends. How do I suppress the jealousy?", "post": "I've been very close friends with a girl for about 8 months. For about 6 of those we've been almost \"more than friends\" but nothing serious I guess. We have feelings for each other, at least. \n\nI've invited her to join a group/club at the gym with me and my friends. There's about 20 of us and we're all male. To join you need to fill out an application, and the members of the group get a chance to take a look at your application before you're in. \n\nMy problem is that none of these friends know I have history with her, and that quite a few of them have already been making jokes/sleezy comments because they've found her Facebook profile and she's incredibly attractive.\n\nI'm sure that these comments/jokes will die down when she actually joins and is present (hopefully they won't happen at all) but I won't be able to get it out of my mind that almost all of these guys are interested in her. \n\nIs there anything I can do to push back the jealousy? I know she can stand up for herself, but I feel massively protective already.", "summary": "Close female friend is joining a group of me and 20ish male friends. They don't know that her and I have history and they've already started making sleezy comments about her before they've even met her. How do I get rid of this protectiveness?"}
{"id": "t3_1obvpo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are these potential deal breakers? I'm (21F) with my bf (21M)?", "post": "1.) He hates dogs. I have two dogs and love them to death. \n\n2.) He's a picky eater. The only meat he likes is chicken and fish. I love steak and pot roast. I am also recently recovered from anorexia so I would prefer a guy who eats anything and everything and can model normal eating habits. \n\n3.) He's Jewish. I'm an atheist. \n\n4.) He is potentially moving across the country for grad school next year. \n\nI should mention we've been dating a month. We get along really great, attend the same uni, the same age, and have similar values.", "summary": "Are these deal breakers?"}
{"id": "t3_zap55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I feel like that crazy girlfriend and know something needs to change.", "post": "I am 21F and my boyfriend is 22M. We've been dating for about 9 months now but have been friends for 4+ years. I'm his first girlfriend. \n\nIn my eyes, our relationship is like a wonderful dream. I've been in a long term relationship before (2 years) and it ended fairly amicable, but I know how shitty dating can be. We have so much in common, share wonderful memories and crack up together. We are in love. I'm cynical when it comes to relationships because I've experienced failure after failure, not to mention my parents are divorced. \n\nWe argue, a lot. Over almost anything. Usually, its my fault, but he's admitted we both can be childish at points. Our fights are passionate, usually quick, and we move on within the day. This taints the better part of our relationship, but not enough for either of us to want to end it. Although, we did break up about 5 months ago for maybe a week. (It was a drunken break up)\n\nIf I were to describe our relationship from his point of view, you all would probably think I was a psycho. I'm clingy and have a temper. I can be too sensitive and crave attention. Honestly, I hate it, and he knows I hate it. Change isn't easy to come by, and there are some emotional/depression/self esteem issues I should work out on my own.\n\nI guess my question is, how can I change my attitude to be a better girlfriend? Or should we break up for a while so I don't feel so attached to him? I see so much potential in our future together and love him dearly. I just want to make the right choices.", "summary": "I feel like that crazy girlfriend and want to be better so I can have a healthier relationship. Should we break up to save our potentially awesome relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4ypi4j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [23/M] girlfriend [24/F] drastically changed how she acts with me and I'm not sure what to do", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months and she's always been head over heels for me.  She's crazy about me, and I about her, and she had talked to me many times about moving in together and even moving out of state with each other.  Serious plans too, not just wistful thinking.  She is very attached to me, almost to the point of clingy, and in the past had been hurt when I was less than very communicative with her.  I spent most nights at her apartment and things were great.  Then she left for 5 weeks and things changed.\nEverything was normal until about a week before she came back.  Suddenly, in this week period, she stopped texting me frequently, like hours between texts.  Which is super weird since she had previously gotten upset that i take too long to respond (like ~20+ min to text back).  Also she doesn't call me much and doesn't really seem interested in making an effort to see me. She had to move back in with her parents (and I live at my parents for now too because I just had surgery) and so it's harder for us to see each other, but she has completely flipped from this almost overly attached girlfriend to someone who barely cares about me.  I've talked to her about it but that went no where, with her basically telling me that this is how things are now, and she doesn't feel she has to spend every second with me anymore.  This feels beyond that though, not seeing each other as much is okay, but very rarely with little communication is a drastic change.  Not sure what to do, I love her but this barely feels like a relationship the way it is.", "summary": "Girlfriend went from overly-attached to barely interacting with me out of nowhere"}
{"id": "t3_4in5ps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] can't get over my ex [29M], and it's making me physically sick", "post": "I feel silly even writing this - I dated my ex nearly two years ago for a while before I moved away. We kept in contact, sexted and met up again last year. It didn't turn into anything more as we were both living in different places, and I was dealing with taking care of my sick mother. He entered into a relationship with someone else following that, which ended in January. Since then, he has again has been in contact with me, texting often, asking if I had moved back in town, and wanting to meet up again when I'm coming to town in a few weeks. We've been really friendly with each other. The thing is, I know he is hooking up with other girls right now, and it makes me really sad. \n\nI don't want to meet up with him and get hurt, but the thought of never seeing him again is really hard. I can't seem to shake him and I don't know why. I guess we never really fell out of contact so its been hard for me to get over it. I don't why I keep hanging on. He seems able to enjoy time with other girls obviously, but I can't date - just the thought of being with someone else makes me really sad. I try to move on but my heart isn't in it. When I find out through mutual friends of him hooking up with someone, I go to a really low place. I beat myself up, I tell myself I'm not good enough/pretty enough/whatever enough to him, I really hurt myself. \n\nSince last year, I've lost about 10 lbs just from going through depression and anxiety. I've gotten a really great new job, and things start to look up for me, then I focus back on him and I'm really sad again. I don't want to obsess over him, but I do. I feel I've come off so pathetic still talking to him and carrying this on - I've thought of meeting up with him again but just really don't want to get hurt. Feel like I come off so foolish. Why can't I shake these feelings? How can I stop feeling so unreasonabl hurt over him?", "summary": "I dated a guy two years ago that I'm still hung up on; I can't move on and I make myself sad and sick over it - I want to let this go. How can I?"}
{"id": "t3_paexl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some relationship advice :(", "post": "i am having a confusing relationship with my ex-boyfriend. We had a neutral break-up, and agreed to stay as friends. The cause of the break-up was that, he felt that he was tied-down, and wanted more freedom as we are both just in our teens. I've tried to change his mind, but he was persistent. So right now, we are just suppose to be friends, and I'm okay with that. But now that we are not in a relationship, he treats me really well, and sometimes when we are alone, he will kiss me and hug me. He still shows that he really cares for me and likes me a lot still, but in front of his friends, he is a bit cold to me. I'm really confused, what should I do? Does he still like me more than a friend?", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend treats me like I'm still his girlfriend but doesn't want to stay in a relationship with me or any other girl for that matter."}
{"id": "t3_27agax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it worth starting a relationship with a good friend [22, M] if I [22, F] know ahead of time our end goals are different?", "post": "I met my friend in college a little over a year ago. The first night we hung out, we stayed up talking almost all night. We started hanging out more regularly (never anything sexual though), and then we graduated. I haven't seen him in person since then because we live far away. \n\nHowever, we text and Skype frequently. Skype conversations are never shorter than 2 hours and often last up to 4. Basically, we really understand each other and like each other's company. Seeing each other in the future is not completely out of the question... currently we live very far away but he wants to move closer to where I live for a number of reasons. And we'll be going on vacation together in a couple months. \n\nBoth of us are recently single and craving both physical and emotional connection. But here's the thing: he is very, very opposed to having children in the future. I, on the other hand, want kids. It's completely irrelevant right now, but I'm wondering if it's even worth pursuing if I know our end goals are so different. I don't want to have to persuade him to change his mind about such a serious life decision.", "summary": "The guy I'm into doesn't want kids in the future and I do. Should I pursue a relationship or not?"}
{"id": "t3_44vheb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My asics training plan or Hal Higdon for my personal goal?", "post": "Weight: 85kg (187.3 pounds)\nHeight: 176cm (5.77 feet)\n30 years old (Male)\n\nRunning : I used to run up to 5K, but around 3-4 weeks ago i ran 10K in 1h05 (My best was around 58 minutes for 10K). \nI kept the 10k distance every 3-4 days and i kind of over did it last week (minor injuries hopefully) and that is when i decided i should check some training programmes like asics plan and Hal higdon. I would like to increase to 15K or get better at 10K. \n\nMany of you recommend Hal Higdon but it seemed a bit too much with what i would like to achieve and combine, but more logical (in terms of mileage per week). \nMy asics seemed more specific with pace and more details but would it be better to use this if i want to increase from 10K to 15k and combine crosstraining as well? \n\nMy personal goal is to increase overall health & fitness. I want to combine cross-training (swimming as well from next month, 3-4 per week resistance training) lose some weight and start gaining muscle (already have a personalized nutrition plan which will be updated next month as well).", "summary": "My asics plan or Hal higdon for improving running and combining more cross-training in my routine? When& what is the recommended combination of cross-training (science-based maybe)? Better to increase from 10K to 15K or safer and less injuries to improve my 10K pace and time ?"}
{"id": "t3_gp25s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Student who needs help in letting down a summer employer as nicely as possible", "post": "To explain, I am currently a second year biology undergrad who has the very unusual, yet good, fortune of having two options for work experience over summer. One is working at a food microbiology laboratory, which I did last summer, and the other is entering a competition called iGEM through my university. I have already decided that I want to do the iGEM competition however I have yet to tell the lab that I have accepted it. The lab also initially hired me on the pretence that I would work there each summer period until I finished and decided I needed a full time job. The problem therefore is this, I want to keep the lab happy as I need to work there over Christmas, Easter and the following summer, so how should I go about telling them.", "summary": "Ate a mushroom, developed an Italian accent and became a plumber."}
{"id": "t3_2raaoi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 2 years. We live together and he has made a huge decision he just expects me to be OK with.", "post": "SO my boyfriend and I have been living together, for 6 months now. We both work in the food industry and hes planning on going back to school in 2 weeks. \n\nA little background on our jobs, its important to our disagreement. I am a salary manager in a very popular corporation and he is an hourly manager in another popular franchise. We both make enough money to make ends meet. With my salary I can pay for m half of the bills. He is an hourly manger but is working overtime, so he can make his ends meet as well. \n\nWell, he just put in his 2 weeks notice at his job today because his boss accused him of stealing from him and threaten him of \"breaking his fucking hand\" if he ever stole from him again. My boyfriend on the spot told him he is leaving in 2 weeks. \n\nNow I wouldnt mind so much if we were in a better economic state. I have about 2500 in debt right now and I am now worried about whats going to happen to our apartment. If we cant pay for it, its really going to affect us on our future like our credit score. Also our electricity bills and internet is under our names so that will affect us too. \n\nNow we just got over a heated discussion because he said I wasn't supporting him on his decision. He said, right away I told him he was wrong for leaving the job. That I didnt believe in him cause he kept saying \"things are going to be ok.  I can find another job, its not a big deal\".  \nWe also got in an argument about him thinking his team is going to follow him into whatever new job he has. I told him, in a restaurant youre by yourself, theres no such thing as a team. \n\nMy question is, am I making a mistake by freaking out about whats going to happen? Did I react too harshly to the news?", "summary": "boyfriend quit his job without another job lined up. We can make ends meet with his job right now but Im still freaking out about the future. Am I wrong for freaking out?"}
{"id": "t3_399f74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Girlfriend [24F] 1.5 years, how do I tell her Im just not a jealous person?", "post": "Really not much here.  Im not a jealous person.  This bothers my girlfriend.  She goes out with her friends and I dont question her on it.  She goes on trips and I tell her have fun .  Shes the same with me and doesnt get jealous when I go out, but I can tell it bothers her when I dont question or check in.  Sometimes she does little things to try to make me jealous.  Sometimes I pretend im jealous and I can see it makes her happy.  i really hate this.  How do I speak about this rationally with her and stop this nonsense.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to be jealous.  I dont want me to be jealous."}
{"id": "t3_h6ppd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "24, underemployed: What can I do to \"hit face, lawyer up,\" and grow up?", "post": "It is embarrassing for a reasonably qualified college graduate to be working part time...two years out of school. \n\nI did well in school, joined organizations and thought I made decent use of my liberal arts degree while close to uni. But, now, everyone was right. \n\nI didn't *really* invest myself by going liberal arts, and employers can smell the menstruation. \n\n\"What do you want me to say, bro? You fucked.\" you say. I don't know, it just nags so much, I just seek feedback of all kinds. \n\nFew pieces of information: I volunteer with an at-risk population, *do* work part-time, I have fruitful hobbies and I am still considering dropping the weights and sprinting into graduate school (which I haven't made concrete decisions regarding location or program).", "summary": "Tell me the stories of your twenties. Anyone go from zero to successful?"}
{"id": "t3_3af93w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (f35) stay interested in my partner (m42) while he's away for extended periods of time?", "post": "My partner and I have been together for over a year, living together for 2 months. He is a professor so he gets summers off to go work on his service and research. I love him dearly, and I am very much into him when we are together.\n\nHowever, when he is gone longer than a week (and this summer he's been gone 3 weeks so far), I just kind of lose interest. Not in a way that I want to see other people, I just lose any kind of bond we have. This may be in part because we are terrible at keeping up with each other when we are apart.\n\nI visited him for a few days about 1.5 weeks ago, and it was perfect. It takes a day or two to reestablish our connection, but it was wonderful. He's going to be gone a month longer with no visit. I don't know how to keep it up without being totally estranged when he returns. \n\nI'm not angry with him, I don't want to break up. I just feel... apathetic? Like he's just a distant person who resides in my home. I don't know how to explain it other than apathy. I don't want to feel this way about him.", "summary": "When my partner and I apart, we are terrible at keeping up with each other, so I end up feeling apathetic toward him and I would like to know how to maintain the love I feel for him when he is away."}
{"id": "t3_tax1c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most badass thing your mother or father has ever done?", "post": "My father used to live in Chicago. He owned a furniture store. There was a large business across the street, and the business didn't have very good parking. So, this one employee would always park in my father's parking lot.\n\nMy father asked him everyday for a week to please stop parking there, because it took parking spots away from his customers.\n\nOn the first 4 days the guy says \"yah, sure. I won't park here.\"\n\nOn the 5th day, the guy says, \"Fuck off! This is a free country!\"\n\nSo, my dad waits for the guy to park in his lot again the following Monday.\n\nThe guy parks in my father's parking lot, flips him off, and then storms to the business across the street.\n\nSo, my father being the natural badass he was, sprays water all over the car. Keep in mind this is in CHICAGO. In the FUCKING WINTER.\n\nWhen the guy comes out from work a few hours later, he finds my dad standing there with a hose, smoking a cigarette, with the douchebag's car almost completely frozen.\n\nThe guy flips his shit and tells my dad he's calling the cops, and my father just says nonchalantly \"It's a free country, isn't it?\".\n\nThe douchebag's car was frozen in my father's parking lot for the rest of the winter. It was actually in the news, but I can't seem to find it on the internet, considering it happened in like the 60's.\n\nNeedless to say, the following spring, the guy didn't park his car in my father's parking lot.", "summary": "Guy parks his car in my father's parking lot and refuses to stop doing it, so my father turns the car into an icecube."}
{"id": "t3_3wkjlz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] dont know how to convey to a girl that I like her and want more than a friendship.", "post": "Basically my issue is that I'm terrible at telling someone I'm interested in them in ways more than a friend. I'm not sure what it is or why it happens per say, but I just cannot break that barrier. I'm great at forming long lasting friendships but they form due to my interest in the girl as more than friends. \n\nAs stupid as it sounds, I quite literally get \"stuck\" in the \"friendzone\" as a result of my own inability to act on my feelings and tell the other party I am interested in more ways than just friendship. \n\nLately I've been wondering if this is just something I personally deal with or if its common. Any help/advice/tips/changes I can make to myself/my perception would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "suck at telling someone I love them, probably cause too afraid/dont want to ruin the friendship. need help fixing this."}
{"id": "t3_2umq33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my SO [23M], How do i stop him from buying himself a birthday present i've already baught him?", "post": "Hi there r/relationships, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this but it's the only place I could think of. Sorry in advance for any cock-ups I make on this post. \n\nThe question says it all really, my SO's birthday is coming up very soon and I've bought him a games console he said he wanted a few months ago but never got around to purchasing as he has an older version of said console. So for his birthday I've bought him a new one. Wonderfull, everything is going swimmingly.\n\nQue today when he starts talking about an even newer version of said console, and buying one for himself, VERY ENTHUSIASTICALLY! I'm now shitting bricks that he'll go out and get one for himself before i have a chance to give him the one I bought for him O_O.\n\nSo please r/relationships, how do i persuade him to not buy himself the console (in a nice way) without giving up the ghost? I'm so worried!\n\nAgain, sorry for the grammar errors, and thank you for reading.", "summary": "SO might buy himself the present I got him, HELP!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_4eh2a1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "High school graduate needs a car.", "post": "So I'm 17 year old senior and I graduate on the 20th of May. My family doesnt have the most financial luck in life considering my mom is a single mom and supports 4 kids all above the age of 11 with little help from the government of Illinois. I will be a first person in my family to become a college student (woohoo)and I don't plan on being the last. My brothers are all as intelligent as me so they too will be attending college. \n\nSo because of this situation, i have decided to attend a 2 year school and not proceed with the University I was accepted into in order to save thousands of dollars (~15k a year). I made this choice junior year of high school and then decided to find a job to begin saving up for it. I'm currently employed at $9 an hour and after a year of work, i have only saved roughly $1500 and that's pretty much it. I followed a plan of saving 20% of every check I made. The rest of the money was spent on clothes, food, bills, and other large purchases me and my family needed. (Furniture, new boiler, school supplies). \n\nBut now I need to make a very large purchase which is for a car. Do I need it now? No because my job is fairly close. But I would like to find a higher paying job with better hours and In order for that, I need a car. I also need it before the end of July which is when I will be entering college and I won't be able to rely on my working mother for transportation. \n\nNow pretty much I have absolutely zero ideas on how to go about this problem and need some guidance for it. I'd like to buy a decent car roughly above 4k that will last me beyond college and I need to start now. I don't want to spend the 1.5 k I already have saved because i want to keep it as emergency money.", "summary": "teen in need of a car but doesnt know how to save up for it when in a difficult financial situation"}
{"id": "t3_3abfko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my fwb [30M], he has a girlfriend and keeps trying to get me to meet her", "post": "After being not long out of a very intense long-term relationship, I started spending a lot more time with a male friend, let's call him Tim, who had always been interested in me (I met him after I was in the long-term relationship, so nothing ever happened). I feel very ambivalent about him; there are definitely things I don't like about him, but he can also be very appealing, warm and humorous.\n\nSo, since we were hanging out so much, one evening it was just the two of us and we had too much to drink; we slept together. After that, over the next few months, we slept together again two more times, both times after drinking too much.\n\nNo harm there. This was my first fwb situation ever, and we really were friends. We would exchange just friendly emails or he would call me up on the phone (how old school!) just to shoot the breeze. We even did things (including going out and drinking too much) where there was no hookup at the end.\n\nThen a couple of months ago, we were at dinner with another friend, and Tim mentioned that he was dating someone.\n\nI initially felt happy for him, but ever since I keep ruminating. Am I happy for him? Or do I feel \"jealous\" or let down? It's like I keep trying to take my own pulse on the situation.\n\nAnd apparently things are moving forward for Tim and this woman, and the last three times we have made plans with friends, he has said he was going to bring her. But each time, something has changed the plans. One time she got sick and didn't come. One time I had a scheduling conflict. Etc.\n\nFrom his desire to include her, it seems like he wants me (and others) to meet her. But I really don't know how I feel about it. I know I don't want \"a real relationship\" with Tim. So why am I being so ambivalent about facing the reality that he is getting steadily more involved with someone else?", "summary": "My fwb has a new, getting serious girlfriend. I feel ambivalent about meeting her."}
{"id": "t3_47rodo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my GF [27 F] 2-3 Years, I dont think I can take her depression anymore", "post": "At the beginning it was great, but isnt that always the case? We moved in together fairly soon as far as my standards go, which was about 9 months after we started dating.\n\nAbout the same amount of time after that she started to change. She was constantly moody, negative, she outwardly acts mean to my friends, but denys it when confronted. \"Dont tell me how I feel\" is the standard, and any negative facial expressions or tone is blamed on an injury(knee or back usually) which makes no sense as those tones and scowls etc. are only when my friends are around, when they leave shes seems to make a miraculous recovery.\n\nWhen I do anything with said friends without her, she acts passive aggressive and negatively towards me for hours to sometimes days. She has no friends of her own nearby, and mine no longer want to be around her due to her negativity. I know shes very depressed and having no friends is one of the main culprits. I believe she resents my social life and I feel resentment building at an alarming rate as I feel emotionally blackmailed into not going out without her.\n\nYes I have communicated all this to her, but nothing has changed.\n\nIm not even 100% sure what advice Im asking for. Maybe I'm just seeking validation for my feelings and that I should break up with her. But a part of me is hoping that someone will have the golden BB idea that will bring back the woman I fell in love with.", "summary": "Should I break up? Does dumping a depressed person because of their depression make me a monster?"}
{"id": "t3_3azvpj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't feel like my wife [32/f] can be emotionally intimate with me [32/m]. Can we get there? If so, how?", "post": "I'm [32/m] a pretty intimate person with my friends, strangers, and family. I tend to overshare easily, introspect often, and have no problem connecting with other people who are like me very quickly and on a deep level. \n\nUnfortunately, that doesn't include my wife [32/f]. She comes from a closed family and doesn't easily open up. This manifests itself in all aspects of her life. She's wary of sharing details with strangers, tends to talk about basic things with me, and is quite bored/ uninterested in sex. But most of all, I have been nagged for years by the feeling that we don't have a \"spark\" - an emotional connection that makes me want to do everything for her. \n\nI have got to the point where what we have feels increasingly like a friendship rather than a deep emotional relationship. I have suggested that I'm not willing to be in a relationship that's not fulfilling emotionally and have told her that I have considered a separation. \n\nOur therapist thinks that my wife needs to get better in touch with her sexuality in order to open up more, but I'm not sure. That feels like treating the symptoms rather than the root cause. I think the problem is deeper than just sex. I think she's not able to be intimate emotionally with me. \n\nI know that stereotypically, it's the guy who can't be emotionally intimate and the girl who seeks it. But I just wonder, is emotional intimacy something that one can \"learn to do\"? Or is she just likely to always have a hard time opening up? And finally, is lack of emotional intimacy grounds to divorce someone?", "summary": "Emotionally capable guy [32/m] has closed wife and relationship that lacks intimacy. Wants to know how/ if wife can open up more and if she can't, whether he's crazy for wanting a divorce."}
{"id": "t3_xg3kp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend wishes she was a guy?? WTF?", "post": "Me (20, M), Her (F, 18).\n\nWe've been together for a year and although I find her annoying at times, I still like her a lot at the end of the day. She calls herself a tomboy but honestly I do not see it, although she does enjoy lifting weights, boxing and wearing guy clothes, there is no resemblance of male behaviour in what she does.\n\nShe regularly complains about her period and how I \"don't understand what she's going through\". There are also times where she would say how guys have it easy and that they don't have to go through what girls go through  in life (child bearing, period, etc). \"Guys have it so easy, they can do anything they want. ETC, ETC.\" I thought nothing of it.\n\nJust a week ago, she told me that she wished she wasn't born a girl and was born a guy instead. This naturally shocked me and I asked her if she was serious for clarification. She thought about it for a minute and said yes. Then she added that the only thing good about being a girl was that she got to be with me. Next thing she tells me is that she only keeps her fingernail long, do her hair and wear a dress just because she knows I like it.\n\nIs this just a phase? Is there something wrong with her? Should I be worried?", "summary": "me (M, 20)"}
{"id": "t3_3pfwei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The new guy I'm seeing [24/m] likes to sit on the same side of the table as me [20/f]. Weird or cute?", "post": "I've been seeing this guy now for about a month or so (note: we're both in our 20s), and when we go out to eat he likes to sit on the same side of the table. Personally, I think it's cute; most of the other guys that I've dated have never done this. When I asked him why he likes to sit on the same side of the table he said he feels its more romantic. However, my friends think it's weird. They say it's normal for being out in a group to sit next to your SO, but not while out to eat alone together. I don't want to be judged at restaurants, but at the same time I don't see what the big deal is. Since this has become somewhat of a debate, I thought I'd ask Reddit! What do you all think? And if you all think it is  weird, how should I explain this to my new man?", "summary": "dating someone new and not sure if this is a weird thing that they do until my friends made fun of him for it."}
{"id": "t3_dkpgj", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "In my life, I have taught two cats to behave properly through physical disclipline.", "post": "I believe in the notion that cats are pack animals, and are ruled by the alpha male. I am by no means cruel to animals, ever. But it has been my experience that when an animal misbehaves (biting, fighting etc.) it has two choices: Hear the command \"no\" three times and stop whatever it is doing, or suffer a knuckle knock on the forehead between the eyes.  For both of these pets, the response has been positive and the misbehaviour has stopped (now stops) with a verbal \"no.\"  Before the downvotes I would like to say that the first of these cats travelled the world with me (Japan, the far north) and was received by the locals as one the best cats they have ever met.  In fact, the first one was forever the center of attention in whatever scenario he was involved in.  I left him with a neighbor for three weeks in Japan while I went on vacation, and upon my return to fetch hiim, the neighbour was in tears that he had to go.  The second has been a little tougher, since he was raised in  a household with a couple of toddlers. You know how kids can be.  But still, he is a sweetheart, loving, and very responsive to my commands (up, down, out, ect.).  Do any other redditors believe in the power of the \"pack\" to control their animals?", "summary": "My animals behave to please me because I am the alpha male, and I back it up with force."}
{"id": "t3_1foqwk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't try to tell me what I can't do.", "post": "Earlier this year, I applied for a summer job at my university. It paid decently but allowed me to take classes offline, which I preferred to do, so I went for it. At the same time, a friend of mine (we'll call him Jack) was applying for the job.\n\nJack became a dick about the job really quickly. Told me I wasn't really qualified (even though I'd been working for the department this job came through for a year) and that my customer service skills were lacking (even though he's seen my boss praise them). Needless to say, I was unhappy and pride mode went into overdrive.\n\nOriginally, my plan was to go in and just talk about what I knew and how I could be of service. But his lack of faith made me step it up a notch. I talked to people who had the job in the past. I did research on the people hiring me. I even went to one of the old hirers to get some tips. I was running at 110%.\n\nInterviews end and we find out the results. I got the job. Jack didn't. I went to go talk to him about it but was pulled aside by my friend first, who showed me tweets Jack made saying I was cocky and didn't deserve the job. His reasoning was that I said I wish I knew if I got the job sooner than the date we were expected to, because I just wanted to know so I could get on with my life and stop stressing. He took it as me thinking I got the job.\n\nKnowing about the tweets (I don't use Twitter), I decided to be the lesser man in the situation. At this time, Jack and I were roommates. I walked it and he was quiet. Obviously pissed at me. So I go next door to our friend's room and just shouted \"[FRIEND] I GOT THE JOB! I'M SO EXCITED!\" The walls of our dorm were small. I know he heard me. Walked back in and he just glared at me, but I didn't care. He was a dick.", "summary": "Friend\" tells me I can't get a certain job that he's applying for. Becomes colossal dick. I get the job. He doesn't. I yell about my success to people."}
{"id": "t3_1r3eei", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First Date Went Pretty Well... Now Confused.", "post": "Whats up everyone,\n\nSo I (M25) went out to meet a girl (F27) I met through Tinder on a \"date,\" if you want to call it that. Anyway, we had a few drinks each, talked for a solid 2 hours, and the conversation flowed really smooth. Never a lull, interesting conversation all around...etc.\n\nAnyway, as we were heading to our cars, I went for the kiss, and got the whole \"I don't want to go too fast\" BS that I knew just meant she wasn't into me (and I thought she was). But then we kept walking to the car, and I was just saying I was surprised about the outcome. Anyway, I figured that would be it, but then when we got to our cars (interestingly enough right next to each other) she said \"Well, maybe just a peck.\" So then we kissed... and it was nice. I told her it was odd we didn't exchange #s and that she should just tinder me it so we aren't messaging through there.\n\nAnyway, it's been a few days (2) and I messaged her saying it was a good time and sent her my # yesterday, and got a winky face back... but nothing else has happened.\n\nI know I played a few things wrong:\n-Went for kiss without her being attracted enough.\n-She was going to just give me her # at the cars and I said to just tinder me it.\n-Messaging her mine when she was suppose to tinder me hers anyway.\n\nAnyway, should I just not message anything further, and assume there won't be a second date? Or, should I give one last message (on tinder since she hasn't texted me or tindered me hers) to set up a second date? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Date went well, but I was denied kiss at the end initially, then she said a kiss would be fine so we did. She was suppose to tinder her # and, though she messaged me back after a tinder message yesterday, I still have no # and am unsure whether to ask for a second date or what to do."}
{"id": "t3_13plx3", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Broke up over a month ago. Still bummed out sometimes. Advice?", "post": "Hey guys,\n My SO broke up with me over a month ago. The first week has been hard but I got over it. Problem is that from time to time I still think about it and it really bums me out.\n\nTonight, I randomly started thinking about the offer of having sex that she gave me 5 days ago to which I declined. I think it was a good decision for the both of us but I might have been a little harsh by saying \"it would be weird to hook up again\". In some twisted way, I might have said that to convince myself I'm over her.\n\nI don't want to get back together because of the long distance, her inability to express emotions, her controlling and her manipulation of the insatisfaction of her own truth but I still have the remainder of some feelings.", "summary": "Being horny leads to reconsider the offer she gave for sex which leads to missing her which leads to insomnia and feeling like crap."}
{"id": "t3_2q4er4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking my own piss", "post": "Hi i'm Bear Grylls\n\nJk though, it all started some time ago with me emerged deeply in a gaming/smoking sesh and well, i was on a roll and didn't have time to go take a piss. I got high as fuck and my roommate who works night shifts decides to shower for 20 minutes as my bladder reaches the breaking point. So i grab a 1.5 liter Fanta-bottle with about 1/7th still in it and conclude that it is my best option. I whip out the beast and let it rip for about 3-4 seconds when i hear the sound of my roommate turning off the shower. I quickly cut the stream and wait for him to finish up in the bathroom before i go do my business. \n\nA couple of days later i return from a night out with friends, rip my bong before i lie down to watch some netflix before i go to sleep. My body decides it wants sugar and oh jolly what do i find, about a quarter bottle of Fanta. Me being thristy as fuck takes 2 huge drinks before i realize something is off and put the bottle down and fall asleep. \n\nI woke up the next morning and realize what a huge mistake i made.\n\nNot sure if NSFW?", "summary": "Thought piss and Fanta was just Fanta and drank it"}
{"id": "t3_4zvchc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] BF [28M] of three months only wants to hang out 1-2x a week, which means we only have sex once a week. I need more. What do I do?", "post": "BF and I have been dating for a few months. at first we hung out all the time and had sex every day, sometimes twice a day.\nFor the past two months we've been hanging Out less and less. Probably 1-2x a week max now. Usually if we hang out a second time it's with other people so we don't have sex, meaning that we've been having sex literally once a week.\n\nI can't really handle it. I need it 3-4 days a week ideally. I've told him before that he can hit me up for sex whenever but he has never done that. We also used to have sexy convos by text all the time but now we basically never do. I finally told him some time back that I want to start doing that again and he agreed but we haven't. A few times I've tried to start something naughty over text and he didn't really go for it.\n\nI think the big problem is just not hanging out enough, but I don't think he wants a relationship where we're seeing each other every other day.", "summary": "BF and i don't have enough sex because we don't see each other all that often and don't have sexy convos via text in between. I need more sex but don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4m99xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my FWB [26M] of like 2 months, feeling pressured by other people to date.", "post": "This is a weird thing. I feel like the general consensus is going to be people going: LIVE YOUR LIFE! But, regardless. The main details.\n\nI got out of a 3 year relationship in December. Haven't spoken to my ex in over a month/it was my first relationship ever. My friend, got out of a 1 year (with some breaks in between) relationship in January. Not sure if he still talks to his ex. \n\nWe started talking sometime in March, probably. We started seeing each other, on a physical level, in April. We both were of the mind of, \"Hey, I don't want to date anyone right now, so we can keep this casual.\" \n\nI wish I could say that it's just sex, but it's not. Because when we hang out, it doesn't always happen, nor do we just hit each other up for sex. We have a pretty sweet friendship and get along really well.\n\nEnter the problem: I really don't want to catch feelings for this guy, because I'm not ready for a serious relationship atm. We've never had a conversation about being exclusive. Personally, I'm happy with how things are. I like him (of course), but my friends are pressuring me to talk about my feelings/start dating him/see if he wants to date me.\n\nMy friend's argument is that it's not fair to him, because what if his feelings about me have changed? And another argument is that, well, shouldn't I want to know where I stand?\n\nBut I don't want to date him. I'd consider it, in the future maybe, because I do have a romantic attraction. But I don't want to right now - so why should I feel like I'm being dishonest with myself/with my partner? Now, I'm agonizing over this, wondering if I SHOULD bring it up, just to make sure everything is out in the open.", "summary": "Started seeing a guy, casually, in April. When I go to my friends just for advice or just to talk - they immediately start pressuring me to talk about my feelings to the FWB/see if he wants to date. Even though I don't want to date anyone right now/am not in an emotional place after getting out of a bad relationship in December to do that."}
{"id": "t3_4xc55a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my boyfriend [37M] 2yrs, he's offering to support me financially during a tough time - how to NOT let this wreck the relationship?", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nI don't want to delve into too many details - but I'm facing possible unemployment. I'll do everything in my power to find a new job ASAP. But when I expressed my (natural) anxiety that I won't find something right away to my boyfriend (2 yrs - living together 1), his response was, \"I can support us at our current standard of living indefinitely. I want you to have a job that you love.\"\n\nReddit - I want to put a ring on this. So bad. BUT. I am no gold digger. I was raised by a family that taught me to always pull my weight. I do NOT like being without a job (been through under-employment before at a 4-month stint). And I'm too proud to rely on someone else when I'm not mortally ill. \n\nMy question is: Should the worst come to pass and I'm unable to find a full time job... what can I do to keep the relationship feeling like a partnership between equals if he's paying for everything? How can I maintain our trust, love, respect, and avoid resentment building up?\n\nWhat do I do to keep this gem of a man in my life and not lose my self esteem to the reality of \"having a man take care of me\"...?", "summary": "How do you maintain a power balance in a relationship when one person is down a job?"}
{"id": "t3_1b2pn4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20]m basically have to choose between [18]f and [18]f, and it's giving me a headache.", "post": "So for starters, I'm sorry if this is long. I'm just really stressed out. To begin, a little less than a year ago this girl[18] and I started dating when I was back home for the summer.(We'll call her \"A\", since the other girl is the same age).\n School came and I went back, (about 2 hours from home) and things were okay with us then. Up until the end of the 1st semester this year things became extremely rocky and we broke up. Ever since then we have kind of been off and on, but to no avail. Well, spring break came a few weeks ago and I went home and things between us were going pretty well. I started getting a lot feelings for her again, but like always, there was a fight over something.\n Once I came back to school after break, her and I didn't really talk too much and at the same time I had met another girl from our town.[18] (We'll call her \"B\") See, the difference with this girl is that she is actually attending my university next year. I had always thought she was super cute and nice. She came to visit last weekend and also again today to finalize payments for next year. Her and I are really hitting it off.\n I'll wrap this up and bit and basically say, I know I'd have to choose. My ex(A) wants something with me and if I exclude the other girl (B) from the equation things may run smoother between us, but on the other hand, I have to burn a bridge that literally was JUST built with B.  I fucking hate hurting people and I just don't know what I should do.\nIf there are any questions, I'll try to stay up to date on answering anything. I just really want some advice. Thank you.", "summary": "I have to choose between my ex and another girl. I like them both, but I don't know which choice is going to be best. My ex and I fight (what seems like a lot) and the new girl and I get a long pretty well. HELP."}
{"id": "t3_jr8q7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Female co-worker keeps looking at my butt", "post": "A young (~20) girl started working for this company a few weeks ago. I'm 23 but I look younger. Every day before I go home I come see her because she has work-related questions for me to answer. She is attractive, we're both usually smiling at eachother, I always make sure to tell her good night, I'll see you tomorrow (That sort of thing) and we both make eye contact and I go home. About a week ago as I turned to walk away I was saying goodnight and she was looking at my butt. I feel like I caught her looking, and she looked back up, and I acted like nothing really happened although she did know that I saw her eyes down there. The next day it was almost like she was being obvious, I wasn't even walking away yet, and her eyes went from my face, to my butt, and back to my face. Every single day since then she has looked at my butt, from different places, different angles, and different sides. It is now at the point where I feel I have to say something, because I feel like she's trying to be obvious.\n\nThis is my job, I don't want to cross the line. I have to say something that will make her giggle or get the ball rolling, if she is indeed looking at my butt because she likes looking at it.\n\nSo now the question is what do I say / do?\n\nCurrent winner: Lift up shirt and say \"They're Levi's in case you were wondering\"\n\nI need more ideas, HELP!", "summary": "Girl looks at my butt everyday, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1o65ck", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help: What are your best practices for maintaining very long term weight loss?", "post": "I have lost weight many times over the years, 30lbs, 50 lbs etc. Most recently, from 2011 to 2012, I lost \"all\" the weight (about 100 lbs in under a year, mostly thanks to this sub) by counting calories, eating low carbs, and engaging in tons of fun exercise. There was no fad dieting involved and I don't think I was too extreme aside from dramatically cutting refined carbs. \n\nI felt great about myself and was adamant on never gaining it back...\n\nUnfortunately, from 2012 till now, I gained it all back and maybe then some, too scared to step on the scale. I won't go into what changed in my life in this time as I think life changes all the time and dealing with these changes is one of the keys to the maintenance of life changes.\n\nNow, I actually love exercise, the outdoors, various sports, even running on a treadmill but I get stuck in some mental vortex that stops me from having self control. \nMaybe there is something extra wrong with my mind and who knows what psychologically to cause this extreme (and medication may have something to do with it) but regardless, some advice from those who can relate to this issue would be great.", "summary": "Expert loser can't maintain."}
{"id": "t3_2di73u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by peeing", "post": "Happened just now. I happily skip up the stairs, getting ready to head to bed. I brush my teeth and then feel the sudden urge to pee. I drop trou and let it go, spraying my urine all in the toilet.\n\nMidway through, as I was about to go no hands, I see a spider crawling up the toilet roll. I panic, and jolt backwards, making my urine go all over the place. Then, with my baby maker out, stir dripping my urine, I grab the nearest deadly thing to banish this monstrosity. Air freshner. \n\nI spray it as it crawls away. Then I lost it. So I pulled my trousers back up and ran. I'll clean the floor when that bastard is dead.", "summary": "peed, got attacked by spider, splashed my urine like a fat kid jumping in a paddling pool, ran."}
{"id": "t3_taswv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "2 yr relstionship with a virgin, my bff is a guy i used to sleep with, my bf has been really controlling, ugh, please read the long story and help me out!", "post": "I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years now. He is amazing, my family loves him and so do I. He was a virgin when i met him although i didn't know for about 4 months. My best friend is also someone i have slept with, alot. We would party and whatnot even when i was dating this guy. My friend eventually told my boyfriend everything and the boy agreed to keep dating as long as i came clean'; which i did. But sence then my bf has been overly controlling, to the point where if i go out i have to txt him when i leave, when im out, and when i get home.\n\nThe other night, before he was going away to pick his bro up from collage, we went to see a movie. His co-worker invited herself, which was fine, i've never met anyone he know the whole time. But then he just drops me off with barely a goodnight kiss. At 11pm. So i call my bff and we go out and have a few beers. \n\nI get a call around 11am the next morning, (he stalks me on google latitude) like where the fuck were you last night. I said i went out with my friend because I was pissy and awake. He came by briefy the next morning, yelled at me, threated to break up with me, and i haven't really talked to him all weekend. \n\nMore details when asked, I'd be here all night if I put it all in this post. But the only friend I have is the one I've slept with so i would really appreciate some advice/help.", "summary": "I dont know what to do about my bf and my best friend is in love with me."}
{"id": "t3_4c7i4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First relationship [19M] with my GF [19F], been going out for 3 months - what do we do now?", "post": "Ok, so first off let me just say that things are going great. We've been on dates, we hang out loads and we genuinely really really like each other (maybe even love?).\n\nUp till now, everything sorta felt like we've been climbing up this relationship ladder, but right now it seems like, short of marriage and children, we're as high up as we can be. I guess what I'm trying to ask is - what do we do now?\n\nDo we just keep on going as things are (it's definitely not stale yet btw) or what? I guess maybe I also don't know how much time I should try to spend with her coz I don't wanna come across as too needy (sounds stupid I know). Basically I'm just a bit confused about what to do with our relationship at this point. Any tips/suggestions would be greatly appreciated! :)", "summary": "Gone out with a girl for 3 months, confused about where/what/how to progress the relationship. Feel free to ask more questions about the relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_3j9r4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] girlfriend [18 F] of a year and I decided to break up for college about 5 days ago. I think I want to try long distance.", "post": "We had been dating for a year, things we're going well but she was always a very flirty person. I developed trust issues because of her being so flirty so when we went to different colleges I pushed for a breakup.\n\nShe had been 100% willing to try and make long distance work, but I just couldn't get over my doubts. After a week apart, I realized I would always regret not at least trying to make things work, so I decided I'd try to get her back. I looked up a train route to her university, found a fancy pizza place(it's her favorite), and an ice skating rink in her area.\n\nI called her up that night, spilled my heart out and asked if she'd take me back. I explained that if she said yes, I'd take her on the best date of her life, and if she said no that she should know I'd still feel way better than I had been.\n\nShe told me that first I needed to know that the previous Friday she had a drunken one night stand attempting to get over me. She said she regretted it and that it meant nothing, but it crushed me. I thought the worst she could say was no, but this was far worse.\n\nIt had literally been days after our breakup, we had been talking the entire time, we had even said that we loved each other the night before. I still love her, but I don't know if I could ever forgive her. I know it wasn't really cheating because we didn't have a title, but it was like the first opportunity she had, she left me behind.\n\nI'm extremely emotional and distraught right now and I don't know what to tell her. Any advice/comments would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend due to moving away for college, decided I wanted to try long distance, she told me she's already hooked up with some random guy."}
{"id": "t3_3alvgv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating shapes", "post": "This didnt happen today but around 3 years ago.\n\nYou should probably know that I am a vegetarian. Ok, on to the story now.\nSo I was at a competition for chemistry with my classmates in high school. We went to a different school for this and were on the 5th floor. Our chem teacher had brought juice and a box of shapes. So naturally, I helped myself to a glass of juice while everyone was passing around the box of shapes. Now, we all are standing near the railing, talking and drinking juice. My mates pass the box to me. Without thinking I took two pieces and started chewing. Then one of my friends ask me if I know what flavour these are. Suddenly, I realise the shapes were bacon flavored and after the initial realisation and shock, I vomit some shapes into my glass of juice and some went straight down where a few students were eating lunch. Needless to say it was disgusting and my glass of juice was ruined. Oh and to this day friends remind me of that incident whenever they eat bacon.", "summary": "Ate bacon flavored shapes,  vomited onto students and ruined my glass of juice."}
{"id": "t3_1cg1as", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A serious communication problem between me[M21] and my girlfriend[F19]. Am I being an asshole to her?Or something else?", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for more than 1.5 year and were friends for more than 3 years. I know a lot about her and she does the same about me. She's a really great person. I could spend the whole day describing how much I like her and how much I am lucky to be with her. But there's an issue in our relationship that I can't get over or keep up with. The issue is her crying during the majority of serious/heated conversations. When we strongly disagree on something and struggle to reach an agreement, I try to calm down, explain my opinion more precisely and ask more questions about the parts that I don't understand about her opinion, but instead of doing the same as I do, she starts getting frustrated, and cries. Reasonably it's the end of the talking, but for her it's not. She asks me to stay and listen to her expressing her frustration about the situation and me not agreeing with her (while she continues crying) instead of calmly discussing the actual problem.  \n\nYesterday I tried to talk her about her crying problem and how her actions are unproductive in solving anything without hurting her feelings, but I apparently couldn't. She shifted the blame on me and accused me of not caring about her and not want to spend time with her. She stormed out of the house. Now it has been 24 hours since our fight. I called her at least three times but she didn't answer my calls. She probably staying at her parents' house.", "summary": "When we are having an argument or heated disagreement, girlfriend cries a lot instead of trying to solve the actual problem. Am I unintentionally being an asshole to her? Or Is she being manipulative? Is it possible to solve this issue?"}
{"id": "t3_zzfk6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help with a Love Square? What do I do?", "post": "Long story short, but I have a very large friend group that's constantly growing with a mix of guys and girls. Needless to say some get romantically interested in each other. My friend we'll call Morgan is interested in me and has been for 5 years and told me about it the other month, to which I declined and stated we'd be better off as friends. So then she brings a friend in the group who I start to like and the friend likes me (we'll call her Nicole) and we make out at a party then start to go on dates without anyone else knowing. Then one of my best guy friends (chris) comes along and proclaims that he is interested in the Morgan whom has stated that she isn't interested in him that way, but never told chris that. So he's going all out to get to be her boyfriend. Meanwhile Morgan is freaking out because she's jealous as hell about Nicole and I. What do I do?", "summary": "Female friend of 5 years is interested in me, I tell her I'm not interested in her. She introduces me to her new female friend, friend and I hookup, original female friend gets jealous and mad. Then comes along a male friend of mine who wants to date the female friend of 5 years... and she doesn't want him (he doesnt know) and constantly asks me if she's interested in him.  WTF do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4crh7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to know when he's into you (first homo relationship)", "post": "Me (27 male) and this guy (31 male) I were in the annoying \"talking stage\" for a few months and just trying to figure everything between us, this past Summer (so almost a year ago now). We both confessed our feelings and decided to take things slowly and see where they go. Well, one day he ended it (this past September) and I was crushed. It was his first same-sex relationship too and it scared him. We eventually reconnected around December and things have been basically going back to how they were before we ended it. He tells me that he's not into me anymore but everything else screams the opposite. \n\nThe way he looks at me, jokes with me, how he speaks to his family about me, and we joke around about having sex all the time (but never cross that line). Recently at the movies it was just him and I (no big deal, we do this a lot) but this time was different.\n\nHe was very much more flirty....when he whispered to me, during the movie, he was lean real close to my ear and he would always rest his arm next to mine making sure to touch. I mean don't get me wrong, I loved it, but I'm confused. Two straight guys don't communicate this way during a movie correct? We were giggling like to little school girls haha", "summary": "First same-sex relationship, confused on the signals hes sending me due to our history."}
{"id": "t3_1xf8y1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [46F] and i [19F] both smoke, however there's one small problem..", "post": "I get paid fortnightly, so when i get paid, i'll buy enough cigarettes to last me 2 weeks, with a bit of money left over in case i need more.\n\nI smoke the already rolled ones, she rolls her smokes herself.\n\nThis has been going on for a couple of months now, but i'll give you an example.\n\nSo i was paid thursday. I bought myself a packet of smokes, then friday i bought a 40 pack, and 2 25 packs.\n\nI had at least 30ish in the 40 pack when i went to bed friday night.\n\nI wake up and i only have 5. I finish those, go looking for the 2 25 packs, and found that she's taken one of them.\n\nI opened my last pack of 25, keep in mind this should have lasted me 2 weeks, and they've pretty much lasted me 2 days.\n\nGo to bed last night with around 15 in the pack, wake up, and that packet is gone.\n\nSo i now have 0 cigarettes, i ask her about it, she passes me a packet that has 7ish in it (It wasn't even my pack.) Later on i ask her where my last pack went, she says she doesn't know, then later on she confesses that she took it.\n\nI ask her if she could roll me a cigarette considering she had taken all of mine, and she agrees then gives me a \"Oh this pouch of tobacco has to last me until next thursday.\"\n\nThis keeps on happening, then i get a lecture about how \"If i can't afford to smoke, i should quit.\"\n\nI CAN AFFORD IT, BUT SHE KEEPS TAKING THEM.\n\nWhat the hell do i do?", "summary": "Mother keeps taking my smokes, then lectures me that if i can't afford it, i should quit."}
{"id": "t3_3ycohl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/F] husband [23/M] is always on his phone, getting me super irritated. Advice?", "post": "(Sorry if this is rambly, I'm just super annoyed!)!My husband (24) and I [21/F] have been together 5 years. Lately, he has been really irritating me lately with his excessive phone use, and it's starting to get under my skin! He is constantly on his phone, either playing his stupid game or on Facebook or God knows what else. \n\nWe have a 1 year old son, and it's gotten to the point where he'll sit on the couch and play on his goddamn phone while my son tries to play with him. And it's ALL night. I am mainly the one playing and taking care of our son. He wasn't this bad before, he would put his phone down while our son was awake, but lately it doesn't matter.. I rarely have my phone. My son is usually throwing it around or it's on the floor. I only really use it when my son is napping or at night when my son is in bed. I DONT want to be one of those parents who's always on their phone, that's why I rarely have it on me when my son is awake. Plus, he's a handful enough already lol. Anyway, my husband is really irritating me with his phone use. And sometimes he can get a little weird with me touching it too. it always has to be in his reach. It's starting to make me wonder if maybe he's doing more than being on FB :-/ \n\nIve tried talking to him so many times about it. I've tried to talk to him about it nicely, and not so nicely. I bring up my concerns, but he usually stops for a couple hours or maybe one day, than goes right back. Tonight, I told him to please get off his phone and help with J (our son, he has a really bad cold) and he got mad, tossed his phone and just sat there and was all mad. It's getting ridiculous and I don't know what else to do.", "summary": "Husband always on phone, will barely help me with our son, wont let me touch it, unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_443xcb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a tinder girl she didn't have to shave", "post": "Been on tinder lately. Well i matched with a girl that looked decent and had potential. We talked for awhile over the app and then she decided to come over. She had asked me if it was ok that she hadnt shaved, now i am a mature adult so a little bit of hair is no big deal. She shows up, not quite as good as her pictures which is typical, and sounds pretty manly. We hang for a bit and then start getting into it. I reached in and felt bush but that doesnt bother me anyway so everything is good. Eventually her pants come off and now i see why she said she didnt shave. Her pubes ended around her knees and i could smell her. I tried to muster through, trying to avoid hurting her self-esteem by asking her to leave or stopping. I eventually got it up by thinking happy thoughts and covered my jimmie, went for a few minutes and then she wanted to get on top. When she did so i was forced to view the garden and went limp. I said that i had to pee before and thats maybe my problem, it wasn't, so i went into the bathroom and started getting myself hard again, fake flushed the toilet and rushed out to get back in there. Again within a few minutes i was soft again. At this point i decided to tell her that i have this problem if i have jacked off recently and told her i did an hour before to last longer, not an actual problem for me i promise, and told her that i probably wont be able to finish and eventually sent her on her way. Hopped in the shower and cleaned the smell off of me.", "summary": "Tinder chick had been rubbing Rogain on her legs since birth and bathed in fish juice. Told her i have a 'problem' with getting it up and sent her away."}
{"id": "t3_1cq11l", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "18 month old daughter consistently screams for 1-4 hours every night at bedtime. HELP!", "post": "My daughter has been screaming for 2 hours so please bare with me as I try to articulate how I feel and what is going on. \n\nI am 30 weeks pregnant and essentially a single mom ( husband is in the oil field). I really need to be able to sleep!\n\nMy daughter has always been a handful at bedtime to say the least. I have tried later bedtimes, comforting every 15, 20,  45, 60 minutes and it only fuels her tantrums more. I  currently doing the 'cry it out' method but haven't been able to stick with it for more than a few days on the past. \n\nI feel awful just leaving her cry herself to sleep ( when it works). I don't want her to have lasting issues because she thinks no one loves her. \n\nShe has always had a very consistent bedtime routine. I have always prided myself on that. Her actual sleeping habits are straight from hell, since the day she was born. \n\nHer routine:\nSupper: 530-6\nBath: 630-7\nQuiet time: books, a tv show \nTeeth, new diaper\nBed: 8-830\nScream: 8-12\n\nThe only part in her routine that has ever changed is the hour we put her to bed and it has only changed once from 730, that was 8 months ago. \n\nShe has never consistently slept through the night, she doesn't sleep past 6 ever...even if she doesn't fall asleep until midnight.", "summary": "My (18m) daughter screams for 1-4 hours every night. She has always been a nightmare at bedtime but I am 30 weeks pregnant and need my toddler to sleep more than a newborn! HELP"}
{"id": "t3_1hmn8w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wanting to be late for work.", "post": "I work midnights at a gas station so I'm the only one there on most nights. Meaning I cannot afford to be late or the person I'm replacing not only gets pissed off but can risk going over on hours (god forbidden the damn place pays them an extra dollar for not clocking out on time). While getting ready with about 10mins until I had to leave I had the need to shit. And I of course made the mistake of deciding to hold it until after work (hence why I'm posting here). \nLuckily this is not a \"I shit my pants\" story, I was able to make it to work and a few hours in my shift with mild discomfort but no huge problems. It was around 3am and very slow (we stop selling beer at 1am so after that its dead). I decided now was the prefect time to take my shit. About 5mins into it I heard the door ring... FUCK...\nIt was the point of no return though, they could wait a few minutes. Then I heard the dreaded \"HELLO IS ANYONE HERE?!\" I quickly finished up and came out. It was my bosses 20yr old spoiled bitchy brat. Fuck everything. She makes a hugeass deal out of it saying she was waiting for 10 minutes (which is bullshit) and that \"My mother will hear about this\". She's the kind of person that overreacts to everything and hopefully my manager will understand that... Hopefully", "summary": "Didn't take a shit before work and manager's daughter came into store while I was shitting. Made hugeass deal over waiting 5 minutes."}
{"id": "t3_1qlsyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] feel disconnected from my three-year-long relationship with my [25F] gf.", "post": "I apologise in advance but this will be a long one.\n\nOver the last few months, I feel as though I'm just a passenger in my relationship with my 25 y/o gf.\n\nWe have been together for three years, but aren't living together yet - because our job situations don't lend themselves to moving in. We have discussed it and we would like to when the time is right. (I'm in an entry-level position with opportunities to move in six to twelve months time and she has just secured a management job in a retail store.)\n\nI feel disconnected from her because of how she has been when we communicate.\n\nWe came back from a two-week vacation a month ago - the holiday was great. But since we have come back it's as if she's not making much of an effort for our relationship.\n\nBeforehand we used to text each other romantic/lovey things all the time. Now if I ask her to send me a 'nice' text she puts something generic or says she doesn't know what to put because she doesn't want to repeat herself - repeating herself would be hard to do because she doesn't say things in the first place.\n\nOne example - last night I told her I really wanted to have sex with her and her reply was along the lines of lol really?\n\nOur sex life isn't great. The last time we did was on holiday - so just over a month ago. I saw her at the weekend and we had planned to do stuff but she wanted to watch films instead and then before we realised it I had to take her home.\n\nShould I be worried about this lack of intimacy, or is it a common occurrence in relationships which have been this long?", "summary": "GF isn't saying lovey/romantic things as often as she did. Sex life isn't great. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2k060a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by screaming at a random lady on the phone at work", "post": "So, this happened yesterday and I didn't have time to write out until now. A little background \u2013 I work for a call center that reviews car insurance policies, mostly for the renewals; we do both inbound and outbound calling. I also have the wonderful privilege of working from home. I have 2 cats and a 10-month old German Shepherd/Lab mix puppy, the latter I usually keep with me in my home office to separate her from terrorizing the cats while I'm trying to work.\n\nThere I am, working like normal. Pup decides it's a good time to be real annoying and jump everywhere, making dumb puppy noises. Now, all of our calls are recorded and we are \"coached\" on 5 calls per week. These are just weekly reviews of 5 supposedly random calls that we are graded on by our managers. I must do well in order to keep my status of no pants, lay in bed all day work flow, or just keep my job in general (cuss words would get me fired.)\n\nAnyway, here she is going nuts and then an outbound call pops up. I introduce myself and begin explaining the reason for my call, whilst fighting off this 80lb demon dog child, and right as I'm done with my introductory spiel, I press the mute button on my headset and yell, in my angriest dad voice, \"GO LAYYYYYYY DOOOOOOWWWWWWWNNNNNN!!!!!\" She saunters off and I direct my attention back to the call, looking down to press the mute back off and noticing that in fact, the mute button had not been pressed and I just told this random lady to go lay down after asking about her car insurance. I heard an \"Uhhhhh\u2026.\" on the line and promptly hung up in my embarrassed and anxious panic after the damage was done.\n\nIf this call gets \"randomly\" selected to be reviewed this week, I could be in some deep shit.", "summary": "muted myself on call for work to yell at pup, didn't actually mute myself and yelled at innocent stranger on phone, might get in trouble for it."}
{"id": "t3_29wxkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19/F] find self-worth in the dull relationship I have with my partner? [25/M]", "post": "We've been together for over 2 years, but just lately things haven't been great. As soon as we get home, the TV's on, laptop's are on and we barely speak a word to each other. Without sounding harsh, I feel that I genuinely make all the effort, but he's not so interested.\n\nFor example, I'll start up a conversation, and he quite literally stares at the TV and won't respond. When I tell him I would like a response and I'm wondering if he heard me, he says he \"has nothing to say\". I don't interrogate him, I just talk about different topics I have in mind!\n\nAnd then he says we'll go out for a walk together, go to the beach etc and when the day comes to do these things, he ends up telling me he doesn't want to. \n\nI have depression, panic attacks and my dad passed away end of last year so I'm not in a position where I feel overly confident about myself. If he looks at the TV whilst I'm talking to him, I take it to heart. When he spends more time making plans with his friends than he does with me, it really hurts me. \n\nHe knows all of this, and that I've put him on a pedestal because he's all I have right now. I've put college, Uni and my passion for travelling on permanent hold because those things weren't going in the same direction as he was, and he knows this.\n\nIs he taking advantage of the fact he knows he can get away with an easy life because I'll never leave? To me, he's a genuinely sensitive and loving person, but I think he favours doing things the easy way and making life as comfortable for himself as possible. How do I resolve all of this?", "summary": "My boyfriend shows no interest towards me and is enjoying the way things are, and I'm just happy that he's happy, despite the fact I'm doing nothing with my life."}
{"id": "t3_wp1gg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit can pull some great advice out of almost anything, what can you say about my life?", "post": "I'm a seventeen year old going into grade twelve, and I don't know anything about my future... I really don't know where I'm going career-wise. That's one thing; I also have a girlfriend of 2+ years and we have yet to kiss, I haven't gotten even my learner's license yet, and throughout my life I have refused to use any drugs/alcohol to this point.\n\nNow, I've been really satisfied with all this untill today, when an old friend and I got together and met up with our third friend (who turns out to now smoke weed/is now on a two month light-every-day streak). This lead to a messed up day of following them to dealers and near fights, small town gangs and free kijiji kittens, all leading to getting some friends together to light up.\n\nI did nothing but follow and listen to them today, and what an average day for any one of them amazed me. I left and thought about my current life, and now I'm here on askreddit while laying in bed.\n\nBasically, I want to know how normal I am.", "summary": "I don't do anything in my life, and I spent a day following friends function through their weed related day to day activities. This 'normal' teenager life contradicts mine a lot. Am I still a normal person?"}
{"id": "t3_1lkwex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) think I want to break up with live in boyfriend (20M) of two years.. not sure how to do it", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, and living together since we were together around 6 months. \nEverything was awesome, we rarely fought and there has rarely been any huge issues aside from a few times I've come across him text messaging other women inappropriate things, which he apologized for and I forgave him, etc. (I'm surprised i did, i have serious trust issues)\n\nNow, lately, I've been feeling very upset and frustrated, and generally unhappy.\n\nI feel as though I need to be on my own, I want to travel and explore and do all kinds of things that he's not interested in. I find myself thinking things like \"if I was single I'd go do this\" or \"if I became single again I'd go here or try this\" & I'm realising that if I ever want to do those things, it likely won't be while I'm with him.\n\nBut, here's the hard part - I have no idea if he feels the same way - he knows something is wrong because I've completely shut down over the weekend, my mind is so jumbled and I'm so confused that I didn't eat anything yesterday so I'm obviously not feeling well. Hes been too sweet to me, massaging my back before I fell asleep last night, etc, so I feel like this might completely blindside him.\n\nDon't get me wrong, there's lots about him I love, he's kind (most of the time), he can always make me laugh or smile with his goofy sense of humor, but I really don't know if I csn do this anymore. I feel held back, trapped! I know I could go do all those things with other people while still with him but I fear the rarely seeing eachother due to our schedules would just end in a breakup anyways..\n\nSo what I need is advice - How do I do it? We live together so this will be incredibly hard... I'm so scared to break his heart, I'm scared he'll get angry. I'm terrible at confrontation, so i'll likely break down and be bawling before I even get any words out...\n\nPlease help :(", "summary": "want to break up with live in boyfriend of over two years.. no idea how to do it or how the conversation should go.."}
{"id": "t3_4dke9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21F] has been incredibly controlling lately, what should I [19F] do?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year and a half, and I love her dearly. I truly believe she is my soulmate and that I will spend the rest of my life with her. However, she has been incredibly controlling lately and I don't know what to do about it. \n\nShe goes to college about 2- 2 1/2 hours away from where I go to college, so I see her when she comes home on weekends. When she's up at school, she has to know where I am, and if I'm not in my room doing homework, she's mad that I'm not talking to her. If I'm with my friends at all she gets very angry because I could instead be talking to her. And by talking to her, she means like Skype. I text and snapchat her pretty regularly when with friends. She will claim I am making her depressed and anxious, and will be very distant toward me if I don't talk to her the night prior. The most ridiculous thing she's done in regards to control is telling me she drank and drove the night before because I wasn't talking to her so she wanted to spite me. \n\nI told her if she doesn't stop I will break up with her. She told me she couldn't and within 5 minutes she called me and begged for me to come back to her house because she would do everything in her power to fix it. \n\nAccording to her, this controlling thing is because she has severe anxiety. She is so insecure and anxious, so craves my attention to reassure her. Though this may sound like bullshit, she legitimately does have really bad anxiety and gets panic attacks very frequently.  She claims once she comes home from school (she graduates in a month) that she won't feel this way anymore because then we will be in the same city. \n\nI love her to death and don't want to break up, but this situation is stressing me quite a lot. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girlfriend is controlling me through manipulation, I don't like it but don't want to lose her. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1w8qch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Good or bad sign?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nAGES AND GENDER: 1 boy, 16, 1 girl 16. \n\n Well theres this girl I like in my english class and I was lucky enough to sit next to her for a period of time(5-8 minutes) last week and I noticed that she constantly flipped her hair and moved her textbook on her desk around a lot and moved her entire desk in a circular motion.\n \nAs soon as I left to another desk, this behavior stopped.\n\n I do not know if this is a good or bad sign, please help me Reddit, \n\nP.S she is half japanese and half chinese if that even matters, Both of us are juniors in high school, I am male and she does not have adhd", "summary": "GOOD OR BAD SIGN?WHAT TO DO"}
{"id": "t3_2l3bv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my boyfriend [18 M] of 9 months, He loves me, I said I do too, now I don't know if I still do?", "post": "Wanna keep details brief: Both guys, been together for around 9 months now. Somewhere around 4 months in we start saying \"I love you\", and at the time I assumed I really did because I've never been in love before.\n\nThings have developed and he often says how madly in love with me he is, but I don't feel I can say the same back, heck I don't think I really do love him.\n\nDon't get me wrong, he is AMAZING and I really think he's the nicest guy around, and this relationship is awesome. I want us to still be in a relationship but I can't honestly say I love him, and he's started noticing I don't reply \"I love you too\".\n\nHow can I go back on what I said in the past AND STILL keep this relationship?", "summary": "Told my BF I loved him, now I realize I don't. I want to stay in a relationship with this amazing guy, but I can't lie by continuing saying \"I love you\" back to him. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3xns07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my Wife [34 F] 10 years, We don't get along, need advice on how to inform friends/family.", "post": "Been together for 10 years, married for 6. We have no children but one pet.\n\nWe settled for each other, and for the last 5/6 years lived as roommates instead of husband and wife.\n\nWe differ in our hobbies, movies, television, politics, and just about ever other interest.\n\nDiscussion about divorce comes up and she instantly gets angry and starts crying.  We are not mean to each other, we just do not have a relationship.\n\nHow do you prepare family and friends for the upcoming divorce?  I am willing to have her keep everything except for a few personal items and the pet.  \n\nWhat is the etiquette when it comes to friends?  Most of our mutual friends were her friends to begin with.", "summary": "It is time for a divorce how do I go about informing friends/family?  Best approach to take?"}
{"id": "t3_jh5k4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what the hell just happened?", "post": "A little background. I'm female, 14, and my dad is 51 or so. Our laptops are both in the dining room, with my back facing his side.\n\nI'm just fucking around on Reddit when I hear my dad's voice. \"Derpette,\" he says, \"Can you tell the age of a person by looking at a photo?\"\n\nWeird question. \"Yeah, sometimes, I guess. Why?\"\n\n\"Well, there's this picture I have up, and it says she's 41. But to me, she looks like she's 17 or something.\"\n\nPause.\n\n\"Have you seen weird pictures before?\"\n\n\"Yeah?\"\n\n\"Look at this, then.\"\n\nHe proceeds to turn his laptop towards me. On the screen is a picture of a girl giving a guy a blowjob. I give him my best pokerface and say, \"Well, she looks to be about.. in her 20s, maybe.\"\n\n\"20s?\"\n\n\"Yes.\"\n\n\"Okay, thanks.\"\n\nI turn back to my computer at the speed of lightning and proceed to watch the fourth Harry Potter movie at 6x speed.\n\nPause.\n\n\"Have you seen stuff like this before?\"\n\n\"No.\"\n\n\"Good, don't, these websites have viruses most of the time.\"\n\nAnd now my movie is going at 14x speed.\n\nWhat the fuck just happened?", "summary": "No goddamnit it's not even that long"}
{"id": "t3_ezbew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So unfortunately I turned in 3 huge assignments on friday RIGHT after the teacher left...", "post": "So last week, I had 3 huge assignments due for one of my teachers. These assignments have made the past week pretty much one of the most stressful weeks of my life, and I didn't even finish until Friday just about when school ended. When I went to go to her to turn it in, it turns out she had health problems and checked out 30 minutes before class ended, leaving me in what I would call an FML state of mind. I rushed to the library and emailed my teacher as soon as possible explaining the situation... but so far she hasn't responded. And it's Sunday. I'm worried sick, Reddit, and I have no idea what I should do. Surely she must understand and not flunk me just because I barely missed her leaving her class... but I'm in doubt. What should I do?", "summary": "My teacher left before school ended so I couldn't turn in  gigantic assignments that my grade depended on. I emailed her but she still hasn't responded. I'm at a loss."}
{"id": "t3_394woa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] have unexplainable moments with my friend [17M] and i'm starting to have feelings for him", "post": "okay so we met in marching band and now we are both co-section leaders. We had so many magical moments last season. We came to agreement on things without actually talking about it. For example, as a team we have to move together and we always establish eye contact on the first try while we are playing and it just becomes a habit. On the other hand, he needs to tell other people to watch him at a specific point.\n\nWe had so many silent agreements and they were effortless, like they came naturally. There's a part of him that could calm me down in situations, like the fact that he is there makes me comfortable. Also he is a very considerate person and cute looking (but this is not the main reason why im into him)\n\nIf someone can help me out if this is some sort of chemistry and if this is a good sign it will be great!", "summary": "im falling for a friend who i have many magical moments with, is this chemistry?"}
{"id": "t3_23os12", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can my husband give me 100K? Community property state, home purchase, and gift rules", "post": "My husband has stock options but terrible credit. I have steady income, great credit, but much less savings. We want to buy a house in about a year and I'm trying to figure out if there are issues with using his stock options if I finance the house myself. We're in a community property state (which is why we shouldn't finance the house together). It also means I might own half of those stock options as is. I don't really know. \n\nI know there are rules about giving gifts but I'm not sure if your spouse is an exemption. \n\nAlso, if we use a joint checking account will that complicate financing myself? Do we need to split out our income into different accounts a few months before we try to buy?", "summary": "Can my husband give me ~100K so I can finance a house on my own?"}
{"id": "t3_20k9s4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f20) think I'm in an emotional relationship with my friend (m20). I don't know how I should handle this.", "post": "I have a really close friend who is a guy. We've been friends for 2 years and we're neighbors who spend most of our weeknights together. He is honestly one of the greatest people I know-- I trust him with my life. We're moving in together (platonic) in a few weeks in a new city and we're both extremely excited, but I'm nervous about our relationship.\n\nPeople tease us already that we're dating and his mom is convinced that we're together. We usually just deny it and laugh it off, but I feel like there's some subtext that we're not addressing. We'll playfully tease each other or he'll tickle me randomly when we're hanging out; we're pretty touchy/cuddly with each other but nothing over the top or scandalous. We talk about everything and I feel it's safe to say we're best friends. \n\nThere have been moments where I've wanted to kiss him and be relationship cuddly, but there's always been something holding me back. Like, I can't picture having sex with him at all (not that he's unattractive, I just literally can't see it). I want/can picture kissing him, but the second I try and imagine something more sexual, I can't.  \n\nFuthermore, I can't say I'm too thrilled about him getting a girlfriend either. It's not like I'd ever sabotage anything for him, but I'm not too keen on the idea of sharing him or spending less time with him. I know that mindset is unhealthy, so I'm trying my best to keep it under wraps. \n\nI'm afraid I'm in an emotional relationship with him and I'm concerned about what might happen when we move in together. Any advice or opinion would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm afraid I'm in an emotional relationship with my soon-to-be-roommate. Not sure what I should do or how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_ocar7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was just put on academic suspension for a full year due to stress and student loan issues. Help me out here, Reddit.", "post": "I was always a good student in high school. I was punctual, attentive, got things done on time, the whole she-bang. \n\nI'm currently in 3rd year University, and  my GPA is a wreck, my outstanding tuition fees are way too high to make them zero by April. It was an amalgamation of problems from the student loans department losing files, and myself not being able to get textbooks on time that led up to this.  \n\nI just want to have a gameplan for the next 12 months. Should I take multiple part time jobs? Lawyer up? Take the much needed break and stick to getting YouTube revenue? (Which is like five bucks a month) \n\nI've never been more confused, scared, and upset at myself in my entire life. I just had to get this off my chest, and hopefully someone on here could provide some practical solutions.", "summary": "I flunked out of university and money is tighter than my ex girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_26ujoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (27f) and I (27m) mutually broke up about a week ago and she is already trying to find a new relationship", "post": "My ex and I were in a relationship for one year. We now discovered many differences between us and decided to stop our relationship (in a rather negative way, i.e. big fight). She said that she got nothing from this relationship and wondered why she got involved with me in the first place.\n\nOne week later, she posted on fb that she is looking for a new relationship. And I feel very sad about that. Although our relationship was troublesome toward the end, it has its moments that I still cherish. I did care about her and wanted to be with her while I was in a relationship with her. But it seemed like she did not feel the same way. Her wanting a new relationship so quickly hurts my feelings because our relationship appeared not to be that meaningful to her.\n\n* Was what she has done right? or was she being inconsiderate/insensitive?\n* Am I supposed to be feeling like this? Am I too needy/clingy?\n* How should I cope with this?\n* I'm still \"friends\" with her on fb, should I just remove her? I little part in me still wants to go back to her so I don't really want to cut all connections to her.\n\nIf you could be the judge and analyze my situation and provide some feedback, I would greatly appreciate it. I can give more information in the comment if needed.", "summary": "My ex (of 1 yr) and I recently broke up, and my ex is already looking for a new relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1s6z6l", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Tried to teach my dog to play dead. Instead gave him a complex.", "post": "A few months back, I was reading up on how to teach your dog to play dead.  The whole guiding him onto his back with a treat, then reinforcing with praise and reward.  I figured I'd give it a shot.\n\nSo I get home from work and get down to business.  Ozzy's catching on pretty quickly.  Within 10 minutes, I have him rolling onto his back on command.  I was pointing my finger at him and saying, \"BANG!\" as a cue.  Suddenly though, as he's lying on his back, he pees a little.  (In my excitement to teach him a new trick, I forgot to let him out to pee!)  He's obviously ashamed of himself, even though I didn't get mad at him as it was my fault.\n\nAfter we've cleaned up and gone out for a pee break, I attempt the trick again.  Point my finger at him and say \"BANG\".  Ozzy tucks his ears back and slinks underneath my computer desk.  No amount of calling, bribing, or coaxing gets him out until I leave the room.  Since then, he gets stressed when you make a finger gun at him, or if you say the word bang.  He will often try to slink under the computer desk or go into his kennel.\n\nSo my theories on what might be going on:\n\n* He somehow associated the memory of wetting himself to the cues I gave him\n* He's afraid of fireworks and thunderstorms and the loud \"BANG\" is too harsh of a cue word\n* The word \"BANG\" sounds too close to the word \"Bad\" and he thinks that when I point at him and say it, that he's being punished for something.\n\nIn any case, it's been months and I can't even bait him to lie on his back anymore.  Get him to lie down and try to move a treat across his shoulder?  He just goes \"NOPE\" and gets up and looks for his safety desk.", "summary": "Tried to teach my dog to play dead, he wets himself and is now terrified of gun fingers and the word \"bang\"."}
{"id": "t3_mqrzh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Turning a Fling into a relationship? (M) (URGENT)", "post": "Hi, I'm a 19 year old male, in quite a predicament. This is also my first post.\n\nHad a one night stand with an 18 YO female co-worker. Bad idea, I know, but the job isn't serious and we are young and stupid.\n\nI feel like I took things a little too far, or maybe even pressed the issue, and now I regret it. It turns out, after talking to her more, I might really like this girl. She also seemed very interested in me.\n\nHow do I repair the damage I feel I've done by moving too fast with this girl and letting her know or find out how she feels?", "summary": "Read it, dammit, its the shortest I could make it."}
{"id": "t3_4jfsc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] feel betrayed by my (ex) girlfriend [21/F] and don't know how to feel about it at all.", "post": "So I met this girl at the start of this year of uni back in September '15. We got along great, she's the nicest, sweetest and kindest girl I've ever met and I cared about her an awful lot.\n\nShe is the year above me in university, she's in her final year. A month ago she tells me we're breaking up because she's graduating and in her words she was only 'prolonging the inevitable' and 'things were never realistically going to last'. Not only this but she said feelings she had towards me had faded.\n\nI feel absolutely betrayed to find this out. She got into this relationship with me knowing from the very beginning that we had an expiration date, her graduating uni.\n\nI've honestly never met a girl as kind and caring as her before, but now she's a stranger. She wants nothing to do with me. Deleted me off all social media, untagged all photo's and I feel like I've been left behind while she tells me 'I've moved past this so it's not something that bothers me'.\n\nShe did in one of the texts tell me that I was the person she was closest to at uni, but I just don't understand her behavior at all.\n\nI know she's a great person, but I can't help but feel betrayed by her. I put all of myself into this relationship and didn't hold any feelings back and was always 100% honest with my feelings and I don't know if she can say the same.\n\nThis is messing with me quite a lot and just left me feeling very confused. She was my first girlfriend and I don't think I loved her, but I'm more upset at how she can be absolutely fine with losing her best friend from uni and I'm absolutely devastated.", "summary": "girlfriend knew our relationship had an expiration date from the very beginning"}
{"id": "t3_36o2xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(F28) Boss (F60s) Smells", "post": "I work for a small company, it's just me(28f), my boss (F60s) and a part timer (M21.) I've been here now 3 years and have a very warm relationship with my boss. \n\nOver the last 2 years, I have noticed she has a unique smell that her husband (he comes by to do odd jobs every now and then) also has. Like.. dank old house with too many cats smell (biased description based on my knowledge of her hoarder-tendency husband and ownership of 4 cats.) I have never mentioned this smell despite my increasing aversion to it (because - politeness/not being a baby,) though someone who freelances with us regularly (M28) recently mentioned it to me and described it as the smell of death approaching (horrible!) because it reminds him of how his grandparents used to smell. \n\nThose descriptions are harsh but pushing them aside, do I say anything? I think I'll probably change jobs within the year, and can certainly survive as I have over the last few years. On the other hand, I really hate that smell, which reminds me at times of curdled-lemon-milk, and don't think it should exist. My tolerance for it has whittled over time and sometimes I feel like it makes me dislike her just because of the smell. Which is silly...right?", "summary": "My boss smells. I have developed a strong aversion to it. How to deal? "}
{"id": "t3_1etqsw", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My knee...", "post": "I'm new to running and after a week of 5Ks to see how my fitness was I started upping my distance, however as I was dropping my pace from 7:30 to 8:30 I thought I could be flexible with the 10% rule.\n\nToday about half way through what was going to be a 5 mile run I noticed a pain on the inside (on the left leg, the right side and vice versa) of my knees, it felt different to normal aches so I ran home.\n\nAbout 5 minutes away the pain in my left knee started getting sharp, I could still run but I stopped as I thought I'd injured my body enough. Has anyone else had a similar pains / have advice as to what I should do?", "summary": "Sharp pain on inside of left knee. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_30qsts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] ex best friend [26 F] just asked me to be her bridesmaid for a shotgun wedding I don't approve of. What should I do?", "post": "We were best friends for many years, but once she started dating this guy, we have grown apart.  I started to realize that she was never a good friend to me (she was often jealous of me, put down my accomplishments, slept with my brother, used me to lie to her parents etc).  She doesn't seem interested in hanging out anymore so I was trying to learn to let it go and move on.  \n\nBut then I learned over facebook that she got engaged after 8 months, I found it rather insulting that she didn't at least tell me but I tried to be polite and say congrats. Then we saw each other at work for 5 minutes and she told me she is pregnant and the wedding will happen within a few months. Now she suddenly asks me \"do you want to be my bridesmaid\" over facebook chat without even asking if I am in town or available.  \n\nI feel very uncomfortable, I do not know the guy and what I do know suggests to me that this is a very bad match. Also, I do not agree with getting married just because you are pregnant. I am not sure if she even genuinely wants me to be involved or if she is asking out of some sense of duty.  By the way she talks, it almost seems like she doesn't realize anything has changed, like we are still best friends even though we have barely seen each other and she doesn't know anything about my life lately.  We had always planned to be each others' maid of honour when we got married, but she didn't have to courtesy to tell me about the engagement or to ask me to be her bridesmaid nicely (or even say why not maid of honour). It seems really out of character as well as she has always been really concerned with etiquette and \"doing things right\", I would have expected this situation to go very differently a year ago.  \n\nWhat should I do, can I decline? If so, how? Or should I tell her about how I feel and see if it can be resolved?", "summary": "Ex friend is having shotgun wedding and now wants me to be her bridesmaid and I don't want to."}
{"id": "t3_4sdsov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] contacting biological family for the first time", "post": "Hey all, \n\nI wanted to get some advice on how to reach out to biological family members that I've never met. Basically, my mom got pregnant with me with her boyfriend of three years and he told her he doesn't like kids and didn't want to be involved with raising me, which I don't have any hard feelings about. My mom remarried and my step dad adopted me, so I had a father figure who treated me like his own. \n\nI've always been curious about my biological side of the family though and found them on Facebook. I have never reached out because I didn't think I was ready but recently have been thinking about contacting them. I know about a half sister I have from my bio dad's first marriage and she's in her thirties and lives really close by. My bio dad lives across the country. Would it be weird reaching out to her over Facebook? Or should I contact my biological dad first? I don't know if she knows about me so I don't want to shock her with the info or create a riff in the family. I'm really just a stranger to them.", "summary": "Never met biological father or his side of the family. Is it weird to reach out to half sister before making contact with biological father?"}
{"id": "t3_4gjv38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f/25) fianc\u00e9's (m/24) parents (f/40s & m/50s) keep bugging him about how we are too young to get married.", "post": "Fiance and I have been together 3 years before getting engaged and we are really happy. We plan on getting married in summer 2017 and are very excited about it. The only issue is my fianc\u00e9's parents. He has informed me that try keep telling him how we are too young to get married and how we should wait another 3-4 years. Thing is neither I nor he want to date 6-8 years without getting married.my fianc\u00e9 also believes that his parents are quite hypocritical as they got married after 2 years of dating when his mother was 20 and his father was 25. They are not openly opposing our wedding planning, but he and I can both feel a lot of disapproval coming from them and it makes us uncomfortable. I wanted to breach the topic with his mother but she shrugged me off.\n\nShould we continue trying to talk to them or should we just stop caring and do what we were planning? We don't want to ruin relationship with them but also do not want to concede this.", "summary": "parents think we are getting married to early worth talking with them or no?"}
{"id": "t3_2uws3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] am having mixed feelings about my gf [23/F]", "post": "Me and my gf have been dating for a year or so and for the past 2-3 months ive been having some mixed feelings about it all. We had our issues in the beginning and we had our arguments but we got past them and have had a very good relationship since.\n\nWhich brings me to now. My gf has always had a lot of guy friends, most of which she no longer speaks to. She lives with me but doesnt clean much, she does cook and she does my laundry but ive tried to get her to start contributing to the bills and she says she will but never does and I dont think shes trying that hard to do so. \n\nFor the past 2-3 months I just havent had the desire to be around her, to talk to her, or even acknowledge her in some cases. Sometimes I come home and I dread seeing her or being around her and I picture myself with someone else on various occasions. Ive just been playing the part now and its starting to slowly get to me, I know it makes me a scumbag im just confused and not sure what happened to make me think like this.", "summary": "Am I just a scumbag? Or is there something else amiss?"}
{"id": "t3_16w61w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/f] am going to college soon and my boyfriend [18, m] of a year doesn't seem to mind.", "post": "So, my boyfriend [18/m] and I [19/f] have been together for over a year. We are very in love...but things are going to be changing soon. I am a senior in high school and he is a junior (we both started school late). I am applying for college and will more likely than not be out of state. He has said that he is ok with that and wants to stay together no matter what. We seem to talk more about him going to college than me...when I am the one leaving in 6 months. He seems less upset than me about my leaving. Sometimes I just think, what's the point of staying together? Another reason I am upset is that last week we went out with some friends and he told everyone that he was leaving in the summer for a month to do an internship across the country. I had to leave and started crying when I got home. I was upset because he didn't even think about telling me this privately first and also because he's leaving before me and doesn't seem to mind. He is still adamant that he will love me no matter how far apart we are... but I'm not quite as secure. Of course, I want to be supportive, but I think it will take time. I sometimes get into phases where I get really insecure, especially in our relationship. This may be one of those phases...but it feels different. I need advice. Am I blowing all this way out of proportion?", "summary": "boyfriend and I will grow distant when I go to college and he goes to an internship. Is it worth staying together?"}
{"id": "t3_11c8kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend didn't stand up for verbal attacks on me, then added some more himself.", "post": "Me [22f] and my boyfriend [23m] have been together a year and half. It's a pretty easy going and fun relationship, we joke around a lot. We currently live together in a house with a couple of his friends. I recently decided to move out and my boyfriend said he'd like to live with me, just us two. Initially I started looking for a new place to live when our landlord refused to do anything about a mouse infestation, which had been 5 months and counting. I gave my roommates a month notice and they flipped shit. Instantly I had both of them ignoring me, making crude, ignorant comments and literally directed every once of hate towards me. <br>\nI could care less of what either of them thought or said about me, but it's just I feel my boyfriend barely stood up for me. He told our roommate to not talk about me like that and that he was full of shit, ONCE. He would then constantly get home from work and start to play video games with them, be super nice to and shares his beers, far before he'd consider watching a movie with me I asked to watch earlier in the week, etc. <br> <br>\nI brought up how I feel like he barely gave a shit about what they were saying to him about me and that he could have stood up for me more. He completely disagreed, started SCREAMING \"fuck you, no fuck you cunt\" which made me break out into tears because I felt pretty powerless (because I don't let anybody talk to me like that....) He was pretending to cry like a baby to mock me, when all I wanted was for him to understand I felt he could have laid the law down firmer with his \"friends\" who every second day send paragraphs of texts talking about the bad, shitty, ugly person I am(which none of those are true). Either way he left and I'm here. <br> <br>Should I feel he did an adequate job at standing up for me? Because I don't feel he did.\n\n<br> <br>\n<br><b>", "summary": "</b> Ex-Roommates have shit talked and personally insulted me more then 5 times directly to my boyfriends face and he's said once, \"Don't talk about my girlfriend like that\". Am I overreacting when I think he's not done a good job at standing up for me?"}
{"id": "t3_2mj0u4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/f] Misunderstood Ex [27/m]", "post": "For those of you in a difficult situation or in need of help, I would like to share my experience with you. I used to be prescribed Xanax and while I was having side effects I sought help from my ex. I recently stopped taking it. Essentially, I told my ex I was confused and he said he wanted to help. He told me to text him and say I was doing f****d up things. Although I was confused, he assured me it was normal. I told my ex when my doctor appointments were and what we discussed. I told him what I was saying to my family. He said a lot of things to confuse me. He also told me he wanted to be with me and how it would be, and he spent a lot of his time doing this...don't end up with someone like my ex...make sure you seek out someone trustworthy.", "summary": "[26/f] what I learned from my [27/m] ex's destructive behavior"}
{"id": "t3_4iqygu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my boyfriend [17 M] He is being mean to me and it's my fault", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together little over a year. I love him very much and I think he's a wonderful person. Lately he's been very mean to me and it hurts but I do deserve it. Early in the relationship I sexted an old friend. My boyfriend agreed to stay with me and move past it. \n\nSince then I have cut off my relationship with that friend and he has access to all my social media. I have not messaged anyone like that at all or done anything suspicious. I feel very guilty over what I did and take 100% of the blame. \n\nThese past few weeks he has been threatening to leave me, making me beg him to stay, calling me stupid, weak, a whore and ugly. I know I did a bad things so I am putting up with it because I know he gets angry about it. He does this when we fight, but otherwise he is the sweetest person I know. I really mean it, this is the only bad side to him. \n\nRecently I've been feeling really depressed and bad about myself. I'm scared to open up anymore because I don't want to be yelled at or lose him.", "summary": "My boyfriend has been mean to me months after I cheated. I realize I deserve it but what should I do or say, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_3k8d2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] love my boyfriend [24 M] of one year, but i have doubts and parental pressure.", "post": "I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend. Unfortunately, we have been long distance for about 4 months. Yesterday, I told my mom, since I live with my parents, that I would be going to make the 5 hour trip to go see him this weekend. To make a long story short, she said that she doesn't think he's the right guy for me, and told me all of the doubts she had. To my surprise, they all mirrored my doubts, and she had other doubts that I wasn't particularly worried about.\n\nThese doubts are: \n1) Doesn't follow through with what he says.\n2) Doesn't like to go to church and wasn't raised in a church-going family (he will go for me, but I want him to go for himself)\n3) Doesn't have a degree (he wants to move up the ladder in the field he's in; it's just risky in my opinion. Meanwhile, I'm working on my master's)\n4) I feel like I'm more of a moral person than he is\n5) Has a very short temper (feels like I have to walk on eggshells)\n6) Is somewhat selfish\n\nI love him with all of my heart. I can't ever imagine breaking up. I'm scared when I go see him this weekend, I won't be myself because of my brain in conflict.", "summary": "Do I continue with the relationship despite my parents' disapproval and my doubts, or do I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_3ipc55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] friend [20M] poured his heart out to me but I rejected him. He hasn't spoken to me in a few days. Please help.", "post": "First time posting here. I really don't know what to do and its been bothering me. I'm just going to keep it short and simple though. \n\nMy friend poured his heart out to me, telling me how much he liked me. I told him I just wanted to be friends. He thinks I hate him because I won't take a leap of faith and date him. I've explained several times why I just want to be friends right now, reasons I thought he would understand. Now he hasn't spoken to me in a few days. Should I talk to him? Give him some time? Is he being immature? He is a new friend. What should I say? I just wish I knew what was going on with him. Our last conversation seemed like a fight though so I'm not sure if I should say something first. Part of me feels like that might of been the last time we will ever talk. I'm afraid he won't ever speak to me again. I'm sorry it's so vague. I did not want to give too much personal information. I understand how silly and small this problem may be compared to other posts in this subreddit, but any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "friend zoned my friend. He seems upset. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_20tqos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really need some words of wisdom.", "post": "Me 18 her 20. We were so happy together relationship ended and just a couple weeks ago we started talking again back to the way it was it was great. She randomly tells me today that we we stopped talking her ex was talking to her about getting engaged. I live this girl so much I tell her do what you will make you happiest. She tells me that I treat her better than he does and she told him that. \n\nDo I let her try and be happy with another man or do I fight to try and have her back. This woman is the first girl I feel on love with and first I made love with. She has told me for weeks she wants to be back with me. But the other guy wants to marry her.\n\nI just want her to be Happy no matter what she does but I don't want to let her go.", "summary": "woman I first loved if faced with a choice to be with her ex asking her to marry her. Or start dating me again"}
{"id": "t3_4eapka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] feel's really uncomfortable around my BF [16M] friends and I am having trouble telling them this", "post": "Hi Reddit, So let me say first off thanks for all and any advice. \n\nMy name is Emily and I Moved from jersey to California with my parents and I started going to school here. I met my boyfriend and he himself is a super nice person, he has helped me alot with the transition. \n\nHis friends on the other hand make me feel really uncomfortable, we are going back to school today and I don't want them to be anywhere near me. \n\nThey always pick on me or hit on me when my boyfriend goes to the drink fountain or to the place where you buy food basically when he is not around. They will call me things like (Hot Legs, Big tits, hot etc) one of them said I looked like a young porn star. \n\nI will hold his hand sometimes when we walk home ( we live 15 minutes away from each other) and one of his female friends made the comment \" Oh that's so cute you guy's still hold hands, when are you going to start doing grown up things\" to me\n\nJust the thought of them being near me makes me feel sick, I don't like them \n\nI just feel really uncomfortable around them and the reason I have not told him is I feel I just moved here,  and to cause a rift between his friends and himself makes me look like a bitch \n\nSo what can I do, Should I tell him what is going on and let him handle it or what can I do, I am so confused", "summary": "I feel really uncomfortable around my BF friends and I am having trouble telling him this. How do I tell him"}
{"id": "t3_te6ap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I just found out my FWB is NOT pregnant.  What are some of your (near or actual) life-altering events?", "post": "We had been fooling around for a few months and she informed me last week that she was a couple months late.  She came back from the doc today and the test was negative (HALLELUJAH!).  But the whole time I couldn't but help feeling stuck, like my future was ruined; especially because I did NOT want to be raising a child with *her*.  It made me change the way I look at things, life can change so suddenly.  I feel like that time has allowed me to look past the present and set some real goals for myself.  \n\nHow about you?", "summary": "Thought I knocked a girl up, made me a better man."}
{"id": "t3_2mnssk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Today is my birthday and I feel like shit. please read.", "post": "I have been in a relationship with her for one year and a half physically and in the distance for about 3 months.\nHey guys, well today is my 24th(m) birthday. I woke up to a message from my SO (22f) who lives in France, she sent me this birthday text; however every time its someones birthday she posts something on their wall. After reading the text all I felt was anger and sadness. I think she sent it via inbox so that no one can read it but me. \n\nThe content of the message is nothing personal or private, so I don't see that being the reason. As we are currently in a LDR, my insecurities kick in and I start thnking it's because she doesn't want people there to know about me? I am by no means asking a post everyday with corny stuff, we don't do that; but today I expected something else. I'm all alone in a different country too, and I guess I needed some love and support?\n\nMy other theory is that she doesn't want our mutual friends from back home  know that we are still together.. Something just feels off. I'm probably mistaken or not; but am I wrong, am I asking for too much?\nThis made me want to stay in bed, I feel depressed. \n\nAlso guys if I'm wrong why do I feel so sad? It doesn't help to be all alone in a different country; but I guess this has a lot to do with it.\nThanks.", "summary": "Not sure where SO stands."}
{"id": "t3_33hjzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [24 M] have been together for almost one year, arguing over future kids, breakup seems imminent. Help?", "post": "I've been together with my Girlfriend for almost a year now, but in the past few months we've\nbeen arguing a lot. \n\nShe wants to have kids sometime in the future while I've never wanted kids and don't think I'll ever change my mind. This is causing a lot of arguing and has created a divide between us. \n\nWe're currently living together and go to the same school. She has also told me that she won't break up with me, so if this relationship is going to end, I'll have to be the one doing it. \n\nI really don't know what do to and I was hoping someone could share some tips or experiences with me :)", "summary": "Relationship sinking because of not wanting kids. Looking for advice or just someone to talk to."}
{"id": "t3_2ujj0x", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice with alcoholic brother.", "post": "So my brother I think is an alcoholic. I don't know what level but he's really dependent on alcohol. He drinks before he sleeps and when drunk he can't control his anger(easily gets angry). Any problem/s he has he turns to drinking.\n\nAt first I really didn't care of his well-being. But having a family of my own now I think is dangerous for my family & I don't want my kid to see his uncle like that(we can't move out yet). We're still staying at my folks. And I really can't leave with my brother he might give them a heart attack.\n\nAnd this happened.\n\nWakes the wife in the middle of the night asking to wake me up to talk to me. To ask me to be his bestman cause he wants to get married(he's drunk btw). So I told him if its a good idea making life decisions while he's drunk. And jobless. And a couple of days before he got home fighting with his girl on the phone and facetiming her that he's home(he probably snuck out to drink & gf is suspicious of him). He always do this to her & I asked him if that will continue if they are married. And he snaps, he said he just wanted to talk & I don't want to talk to a drunk who won't even absorb what I'm talking about. And he just woke me up for this BS not thinking about his nephew who is sleeping. And he made me choose between him or my son. Wtf?! I would never choose him over my son! And here comes all the curse words you can think of in my face. I never wanted to punch someone in the face that morning.\n\nWe're not talking for 2 weeks now. And my parents & I don't know what to do with him anymore. I suggested to get him into like a rehab or whatever but we can't force him to because after the rehab he might just get back into drinking. We don't want him to die because of drinking(drives drunk also) or kill someone coz of this. And I don't want to see my parents suffer for all his BS.", "summary": "has alcoholic brother who doesn't care for anyone but himself. I still want to help him stop drinking. "}
{"id": "t3_4iv2sr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Got my (almost) dream job. More money, interesting work, but lots of travel. My wife is not happy about the coming change. What creative things can I do to show her I appreciate her / ease her mind?", "post": "I start a new position Monday at my company doing a job that I'm good at and enjoy, but unfortunately requires a lot of travel. The circumstances made it very unlikely for a non-travel job like this to ever appear for the next couple of years, so I jumped on the opportunity. I had talked to my wife about it, and even though she was nervous in the beginning, when I explained the pros/cons she seemed to agree it was a good opportunity that I should take. That was 3 weeks ago, and after some interviews, counter-offering, and other drama, I got the call last night with the offer I was happy with.\n\nNow, during that time, there were some doubts as to whether this would actually happen (too much corporate/business drama to explain here), but I think that my wife, although supportive, was thinking that it would fall through, and that I would not end up getting the position. Now that I have, I think she was a little surprised, and was upset when I finally told her I got it.\n\nI was a little hurt that of all the people in my life who congratulated me, and were happy for me, my wife of all people was not. I do understand that this is a difficult change, but I truly believe it's best for our family and our future. Also, in just terms of sanity, this job will be much better than my current (2nd shift management position). Yes there will be a lot of travel, but as it stands now, my 2nd shift position is in some ways worse (never home at dinnertime, work late Fridays, etc).\n\nEssentially, I was looking for any advice or creative ways to show her I care and that I appreciate her. I was hurt that she didn't share my excitement and happiness, but I understand that she's worried about the travel. Any creative suggestions, ways to show her this isn't about choosing my career over her (I truly believe it's best for our family), and that I'm confident this will be a positive change for everyone.", "summary": "I got offered (and accepted) a new position that is exactly what I want to do with my career (and I'm good at it). Only problem is that there is a lot of travel required, and my wife is unhappy about that. I want to know how I can show her some appreciation, and maybe ease her mind a bit?"}
{"id": "t3_221ovc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21m) dated a 19f for a month, i ruined things and pushed her out of my life, no i want to be friends again what should i do?", "post": "Hey, 21 m here, dated a 19f for a month,\n\nSo a few months ago I met an amazing person, she was everything i could have asked for, we started dating, and i really rushed things ( sexually and labeling whatever we had). After around month she ended things with me. And 5 months later i'm justt starting to get over her. I want to apologize to her for so many things but i feel its wayy too late that i could be giving out the image that i want her back, i don't.\n\nI want her in my life again as she's an amazing person and a great friend\nBut i feel its wayyy too late to apologize to her after 5 months of barely speaking to her.\n\nShould i try to make amends?\nOr should i accept the fact thats its over and just get her completely out of my life even though its all my fault?", "summary": "dated a girl messed things up for rushing it. Pushed her out of my life because i'm emotionally vulnerable, now i want to apologize and ask for her FRIENDSHIP back."}
{"id": "t3_xpbzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship of conflicting faiths.", "post": "So I've been in a relationship with this girl (Me m/18 her f/17) for about 2 months. Prior to that we dated for a little over 3 months nearly exactly a year ago. The first relationship ended abruptly when her father banned us from seeing each other because I'm an atheist and her father is a pastor and her faith mean an awful lot to her. \n\nThis time her father has been a whole lot less protective of her by allowing us to be together. Unfortunately he still doesn't trust me at all. We aren't allowed to be together alone. My mother or some member of her family have to be with us at almost all times. If we go out in public her twin sister comes with us almost always. He has told me before that this has everything to do with my faith. In the beginning I totally understood his distrust but I thought it would get better over time. Prior to the relation ship we were friends for about 2 years and I had many conversations with her father on various topics.\n\nThis alone would be fine but she also pushes me very hard to change various mannerisms that I have. When she's around I can't really be myself at all. I find myself censoring myself very very often because she would get mad at me. Whenever I listen to my music around her she starts to get uncomfortable whenever the music has profanities or any themes really more than \"G rated\"(I listen to lots of punk rock if that gives you a better image).\n\nI really like this girl but I find myself not being able to be myself around her at all. Anything that I would usually do/say around my friends is everything that she disapproves of. So what do I do? I honestly can't figure out what to do. Any help would be awesome! If you need any clarifications just ask.", "summary": "Dating the daughter of a pastor as an atheist. Dealing with trust issues and her trying to change me as a person. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_v2cjr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being clingy by expecting faster replies to texts?", "post": "17 y.o. male in a long distance relationship with an 18 y.o. female, for about 6 months now.  We keep in touch by FB/AIM/Skype when we can't see each other, and we also text.  My girlfriend isn't the fastest replier, and I respect that, because I know she doesn't need to dedicate every moment of the day to me.  However, I was talking to a mutual friend and she says that she always gets fast replies from my girlfriend.  At this point, I got a bit jealous because it seemed as if a regular friend was getting more attention than I was, but then I recall times where my girlfriend said she doesn't like to text me back so quickly because she doesn't want to come off as clingy herself.  \n\nThis isn't an issue I feel need to bring up with her, but I'm just thinking to myself.", "summary": "Am I wrong to get a bit jealous over my s/o replying to texts faster to a regular friend?"}
{"id": "t3_49vhdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [20M] and I [22M] got in a fight and now he wants to talk it over. But I kind of want to stop being friends but don't want to hurt his feelings.", "post": "So a little over two weeks ago, my friend got upset with me because I preordered movie tickets, you can [Read more about that here] but basically, my step dad wanted me to preorder our tickets and then tell him where they are so him and his uncle can preorder the seats beside us, he ended up telling me I was rude and such and I got pretty upset about it as well. We have been having really stupid arguments for the last few months and I'm kind of sick of it, so I figure that even though he is my only friend (he doesn't know this, but he says I'm his only friend he can really hang out with), it's best to just end things.\n\nNow yesterday he texted me saying \"Hey shelcod\" and I stupidly replied back with \"Hey\" because I was curious as to what he would say. He ended up asking to get together to talk face to face and I told him I am unavailable until next week.\n\nNow the thing is I have thought about it more and realize that no matter how I tell it to him, it will end up hurting his feelings and I don't want to make anyone sad. So I've come up with 3 ideas. Would it be better if I just disappeared and said nothing more to him, should I tell it to his face, or should I go and make up with him and then just casually blow off all communication?", "summary": "I got in a fight with a friend. He wants to discuss what happened and I just want to end this friendship."}
{"id": "t3_3yrneq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] deal with my Dad [55M] constantly shooting down/finding flaws with every post uni graduation plan I have?", "post": "I (24 F) graduate next semester and have been having a mini life crisis trying to figure out where to live, what the fuck to do with a business degree, which seems to have prepared me to be able to vaguely do many jobs, but not really have any skill in anything.\n\nBut whenever I bring something up, the FIRST THING MY DAD (55M) ALWAYS DOES is shoot it down. For example I mentioned one city because it has a lower cost of living especially for rent. First thing he says 'traffic is terrible' and then shows me a list this guy wrote about how terrible that city is.\n\nI come up with a potential business idea, he just shoots holes in it, or will say I should do a totally unrelated thing instead, despite the fact I have told him REPEATEDLY I have no interest in pursuing that career/industry.\n\nI live with my parents so they are pretty hard to avoid, and most of the time it is okay, it's just, I respect my parents, and I want to be able to tell them about my plans, but i am finding it really hard to even listen to my dad right now,because his attitude just makes me so angry and frustrated. I don't know how to express this to him, and I think because it bothers me so much I won't be able to do it calmly.\n\nHow can I make him understand that I don't need him to tell me about all the barriers to entry in this career, or the shitty traffic in a city? I'm not an idiot, I'd figure it out, I just need him to support me instead of shitting all over the seed of an idea that I have before it has a chance to grow, of that makes sense.", "summary": "How can I not let my dads pessimistic attitude/doom and gloom kill any business/life plans I have?"}
{"id": "t3_3l1sy6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) want have sex (again) with my married boss (38M).", "post": "During summer he lives in my hometown and has office here and in his hometown, 100km away where he lives rest of the year. But comes in my hometown regularly.\n\nI approached him. We were fuck buddies during summer before I went to college. No feelings. Usually sex is always better in my head, but this was different, it was damn good. He wasn't married then.\n\nI went to college. He got married. He said that we can continue our 'relationship' but during summer I travelled and worked abroad. Repeated that for 4 years. Minding my own business. We lost touch.\n\nIn June we met in our neighbourhood and he offered me a job. I was planning to go abroad again and he said that I can start when I want. This is my last year at uni, classes are easy and aren't mandatory. So I thought great, it is good job, good money and, most important, it will help me gain experience.\n\nI work there 6 weeks. I want him to fuck me. Now I sit in office, with two other co-workers, he is in his office few meters away and I imagining how he fucks me. No comment.\n\nHe flirts a little when we are alone, nothing inappropriate, we have lunch sometimes... He said that if I want, I just have to send him text and that was it. Didn't mention it again.\n\nI planned to work here until I finish uni and then I will move abroad for good. I have some dates, 'good' old Tinder, but nothing interesting.\n\nShould I quit? Or just shut up and stay strong? \nWorst thing is that I can't trust myself. I am all good for 5 days, don't even thing about him and then in one second everything changes and I am sooo close to click 'send'.", "summary": "my ex fuck buddy gave me a job and now we work together. He is married. I want to have sex again, but that will be just a mistake. How to resist?"}
{"id": "t3_29zprx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] don't know how to proceed with my [16 F] crush.", "post": "So I've known this girl (let's call her Kate) for about 4 years but I've only been close to her the last 2, but I have now realized that I really like this girl.\n\nI spend quite a lot of time with her since we are in quite a few of the same classes in Highschool, and during this time we have become really close friends.\n\nRecently i have realized that I really like her and would like to make a move but I'm afraid that she will reject me or that I will ruin \nour friendship. \n\nI feel that she has sent me mixed signals, since for example the other day she changed clothes in front of me, so I said: ''Guess I'm in the friendzon huh?'' to which she replied laughing : ''Yes''. But at the end of last year we got to 3rd base together, so I'm quite confused because I really like this girl.", "summary": "I Like a Girl, mixed signals, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2r37qu", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to transition to kissing/making out from sitting on the couch/grass/bed/at the movies etc for the first time? 18, Male. What way would you like most?", "post": "This is something I've always wanted to know. To clarify, I've been in a situation a few times, and probably will be in the future, where there's an obvious chemistry between us. For example, we were sitting on a couch/sofa quite close, thigh to thigh, alone, watching TV and chatting, under a blanket. We were close friends, and talked about a lot. If I shuffled to get comfortable/got up to get something, she'd always move closer again. (in hindsight, it seems that she liked me in that way, but I wasn't aware at the time).\n\nSo with all this in mind, and assuming that the signals are there in future situations,what would be the best way to transition to kissing/making out? \n\nAs a woman, what way would you want most/feel the most comfortable with?\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated, and if you have a story of how you did it with a bloke, that'd still be really helpful\n\nMany thanks!", "summary": "What's the best method to start kissing someone when sitting together"}
{"id": "t3_eb5ss", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Changing careers from desktop admin/network admin to computer forensics", "post": "Ever since I worked for a company that contracted computer forensic investigators I have been obsessed with changing my career path. The only downside I have no idea where to start. Any redditors out there in the computer forensic/ediscovery field have any helpful tips on getting started or getting my foot in the door.\n\nI've accepted I will have to go back to school, but I'm not sure if a tech school that offers computer forensic classes would work. This is kind of a pre-req to my New Years resolution I'm setting this year to further my education and change my career to something more challenging. In case it matters I live in Chicago so if anyone knows of companies that are hiring and training that would be helpful as well.", "summary": "looking to change careers to computer forensics but have no clue where to start."}
{"id": "t3_349973", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stealing a basketball from a handicapped kid", "post": "So some years back, I was in a basketball camp. Sort of camp that pairs kids up, drills them for a couple days, and then sets up a tournament. \n\nOn the tournament day, we start playing a team. I notice that one of their players is physically handicapped, and can't walk very well, nor can dribble. Their winning strategy, however, is the kid could lay up pretty well. They would feed him the ball, and everyone would let him walk up to the hoop and get a free basket! Well, this is all great and sweet, but 11 year old me was having none of that shit.\n\nCompetitive mode activate. Soon after they feed Handi-captain the ball, I steal it to drive to the basket as a kid close to me yells \"You can't do that, he's handicapped!\" I promptly mumble \"oh, uhhh, I didn't know....\" as I give the boy back the ball.\n\nWe lost that game thanks to the free baskets. FU pretty badly by handi-boy", "summary": "11 yr old me was a dick to a handicapped boy"}
{"id": "t3_11yvml", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] My girlfriend [19/F] is a abstinent, I am not.  This is causing some problems in our relationship, and I need some advice.", "post": "We've been dating a little over 2 months, and she is the sweetest, \nmost perfect girl I know.  The only way I can describe her is that she is the kind of person everyone wanted to grow up to be.  She's never had sex, she's never even tasted alcohol or touched a single drug.  \n\nThis has caused a problem with our relationship, because she wont have sex with me.  At the beginning of our relationship she told me to give it six months and it will happen, however she recently told me that she wants to remain a virgin until she is married.  I don't know what to do.  I really like her but this is a problem for me. I go from not being in a relationship and having sex fairly regularly, to doing without while im in one.", "summary": "Girlfriend won't have sex with me.  I really like her but it's a hard thing for me to do without."}
{"id": "t3_4hb7mq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [27/f] in a relationship with a partner [31/M] who hates himself because of a disability.", "post": "I am a 27/f grad student who works part time. My boyfriend, who I am technically broken up with now, is 31 and is currently unemployed but taking classes part-time. He wants to have a full time job by the end of this year. \n\nWe both have our issues and that is putting extra stress on the relationship, but my boyfriend's constant negativity and lack of motivation has become a massive problem. My boyfriend was born with greater than 50% hearing loss in both ears and cannot hear many things without the assistance of hearing aids. He wasn't able to hear well at all until his teenage years and he received better hearing aids that helped him hear many things he could not hear before. While he has graduated from college and held jobs, he still views himself as a victim, even though he can hear well at this point in his life.\n\nHe is seriously the most self loathing person I've ever met. I have tried to encourage him but I'm losing patience. In the beginning I didn't care that my boyfriend was hearing impaired since there wasn't a communication problem at all, he can hear well with hearing aids, and he seemed to be a pretty confident and social person despite his hearing impairment. Now, I am starting to think that he was faking it for the first few months, and he's really just content to be an angry and negative human being. He gets mad every time he thinks someone is looking at his hearing aids, or asks well-meaning questions about his hearing loss. We both know it's going to happen once in a while, but every time it does he just gets mad and shuts down. \n\nHe can be a wonderful boyfriend when he wants to be, and I still believe he is a good person with a big heart. We've decided to just be friends for the immediate future, and try again when we're both ready, but I don't know if I should just forget him completely, or support him from a distance. He has a lot of positive qualities, he is very intelligent, and he is compassionate and thoughtful. I still believe he can turn his life around, but I don't know if I'm getting my hopes up too much.", "summary": "My boyfriend is hearing impaired and is angry at himself and the world because of it. I care about him and think he's a great person,  but I don't know if I should just give up."}
{"id": "t3_v31z4", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I want to cut things off because they will end by the end of the summer, but I have no one else in town.", "post": "My guy (20) and myself (20) are incompatible. We argue over small stupid things, have different personalities (introverted vs. extroverted), and I think are on two different planes of maturity.\n\nWe have been together for about 1.5 years. Met in college, he ended up dropping out by the end of the semester due to grades and family issues. We stayed together LD until the end of the spring semester. I \nended things between us by the middle of June; I couldn't handle it.\n\nWe ended up together again this past December, still a LD situation. We made some great progress in communication and thinking of the other person in our choices and stuff. It was a very different relationship this time around, much better.\n\nThen he told me in late March he would be not be attending the university I am currently enrolled in (like I was anxiously anticipating), but another in our hometown because it was a better situation for him. \n\nFast forward to now. He was officially accepted two days ago. He says he doesn't know how to act or what to say around me anymore because things have just begun to crumble. \n\nWhy would I want to stay with someone I know I won't be with in the fall? Why not let us both be free from the frustration?\nWe love each other still. I'm glad he's going to this other university; it will be a more successful environment for him. But it hurts. I have no friends where I live. My good friends all live a couple hours away, and I don't have the time or money to devote to going out to see them, as much as I'd like to.\n\nWould it be worth it to try to stay with him? Or cut things off now?", "summary": "Socially incompatible relationship ending in August due to unforeseen-ish circumstances. SO is only pleasant friend figure in town. Should I stay or should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_39phcf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting which CD I was listening to when my head unit died", "post": "This wasn't today, this was in the summer of '95.\n\nI was making decent money living at home and lifeguarding during the summer.  Had a car that I had saved up to install a sound system.  I got Infinity speakers, Alpine V12 amp, and a [Sony CDX-C910] head unit.  This head unit was the most expensive, therefore best (teenager, remember) thing I could buy.  It had to be professionally installed by an authorized Sony installer to not void the warranty (or some such bs).\n\nAnyway, it is an amazing CD player, hooked up to a nice amp, powering decent speakers in a bad environment for music; I loved every bit of it.\n\nNow for those who can't imagine it now, we used to have to go to the store to buy CDs.  I lived in a smaller town, but we had a store within about ~10 miles that i bought some of my rarer imports from.  Stuff you wouldn't find in the mall.\n\nOne day my head unit died, no display, no power.  I didn't think to try and manually remove whatever CD was in there.  I scheduled an appointment with the installer of the head unit and a few days later, took it in.  I didn't have a ride, but it was my day off, so I grabbed some CDs out of the car and went into their sound room and chilled out for a few hours reading magazines.  Yes, I said hours(!).  About 3 hours later the installer comes out and finds me.  He explained that they thought it was something simple like a blown fuse.  They found a blown fuse and replaced it, but the sound was horrible.  They troubleshot the whole unit before replacing it.  Twice.  They couldn't figure out what was going on until they swapped out the CD.  That's when he held up the CD I was listening to at the time it died, [Nine Inch Nails - Closer to God (halo nine UK import)] disc 2, and I it all hit me.\n\nFor those that have never heard it - here's the first song on that CD ([Nine Inch Nails - Closer to God](", "summary": "They could have saved themselves some times by using a reference CD of their own, but if only I had remembered what CD I was listening to, I might have saved 3 hours of my life getting a blown fuse swapped out."}
{"id": "t3_1leysd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV][PIC] Frustration, determination and the perfect pair of pants.", "post": "So, I started running.  \n\nMore specifically, I started the C25k program in hopes of becoming a *runner*.  Sometimes, it still feels like I might not make it through those last intervals of week 3.   However, after week 1, I learned how tolerable running could be if I just never looked at the timer.   *(\"I still have THAT much time left?  Fff.\")*  Instead, I would zone out, not look at the clock and think about awesome, motivating things.\n\nSince starting on this road, every Monday I would muster up the courage to step up to the scale and be faced with my destiny, my frustration, watching the numbers move in tiny increments or sometimes, not at all.  The numbers shouldn't have mattered so much to me, but they did.  I would get discouraged and lose focus on the fitness goals I was truly trying to achieve.   \n\nI stopped looking at the scale, too. \n\nIf I'd had to guess at what the scale would've said then, it wouldn't have been much different from 2 months ago...  and then my capris humbled me.  \n\nSo, I bought these awesome capris a while ago that had sadly been stretching out in the wash over time.  I loved these capris.  (When you find bottoms you like, you never let them go.)   Hoping to find another pair, I go back to the store and there they are...  one last pair tucked away in a sale rack, but the tag reads 2 sizes too small.   Perfect for \"goal\" clothing! \n\nIn the modesty of my bedroom, I try on these capris to see how far I have to go to get into these babies.  I don't know which emotion was stronger, dismay or delight, when they fit slightly loosely around my giddy little self.    My happy dance quickly turned into: *\"Ergh... now I have to find something else that fits me this well...\"*  Which subsequently turned back into a happy dance after I realized how much easier it's going to be to find clothes that FIT now...", "summary": "Stopped relying on the scale to determine my feeling of progress, kept up with my regimen, and now the perfect pants are too big.  Sometimes, ignorance really is bliss. "}
{"id": "t3_xoswn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have severe depression and anxiety, no money, and limited health insurance. I need help and have no idea what to do. Can you help me, Reddit?", "post": "I've had to live and try to learn to deal with my own depression and anxiety for years. I'm twenty years old, going through college, and its interfering with my work and school. I cannot preform like I want to, and it is really starting to scare me. Sometimes it gets so bad that I'm afraid to even leave my apartment at all. It has been this way as far as I can remember, and after trying and thinking that changing certain things in my life would make it stop, nothing has worked. I think that I really need professional help.\n\nBut, I have no money. I'm still under my mothers health insurance, but as far as I'm aware it does not cover any mental health issues unless I go absolutely insane and have to be admitted to a hospital. I could go to my doctor's office and ask for medication and probably get it, but I want to do this the *right* way. I don't want a \"magic fix\" to make this disappear. Of course that would be nice, but I know its too good to be true. I want to be able to sustain myself. I know it wont be easy, or immediate, and if it is determined from someone who is trained in the matter that I need medication, then so be it. But I need that exists in my life only for my mental health.\n\nI'm scared, Reddit. I wouldn't say I want to kill myself, but I certainly do not want to live if this is what it has to be like. I have little, to absolutely no familial support. I'm not close to my parents, and I've tried involving my mother and asking her for help but the only thing she's ever said to me about it was \"Dear, don't be sad\" six months ago.  There has to be *something* I can do about this before I actually do snap. I just don't know what it is. I have posted to r/depression, but I just don't think enough people go through there or will see what I post. If I should stick to there, then I will, but I thought I'd try here.", "summary": "I'm depressive, have no money, and tired of this shit. What the hell can I do about it."}
{"id": "t3_55asbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have had a crush on [21F] for 2 months without having met or seen her at all. Can it count?", "post": "As title says, I've only been in contact through text (I don't know how she looks). I've known her for around 2 years, but a lot of time has passed within those 2 years without us talking. We recently began communicating more often, and related to that, I fell in love. I've been in love before, but only with girls who I've seen and talked to the \"normal way\". I mean love as in \"I'm prepared to spend my meager student savings to fly across half of the world just to meet her for a day and hold her hand for a second\" love.\n\nIf you asked me what I love/dislike about her, I would be able to list things that I don't love, but they seem irrelevant to me at this moment, and most importantly I dont want to turn this into a study of her, since I would unavoidably skew it to get the answer I want.\n\nShe knows how I feel but highly doubts that I love the \"real\" her in any relevant way. I have my reasons to believe that personal reasons she previously revealed to me before I confessed shapes her opinion in the matter (which is why I'm here for a second opinion). Reasons that are private and really not relevant as long as you accept the premise. Her feelings are ultimately equally irrelevant for this specific question.\n\nMy question is: Am I LIKELY loving someone that only exists in my head? In a way I guess we all love/hate people based on personal perceptions, but you get what I mean. I know she isn't a reflection of me, it's her differences that excite me the most (I think). \n\nI know 2 months is a drop in the ocean, and I could just wait and see if my feelings disappear as quickly as they came (previous experiences hint towards years of feeling like this before it fades).", "summary": "Fell in love with someone I've only communicated with through text. Should I listen to my feelings or should I get over someone who doesn't exist?"}
{"id": "t3_41faao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] trying to choose between two girls, and I need advice. [16F and 18F]", "post": "I'm a senior in high school, so I'm going to preface this post by saying I'm not looking for something long-term, but I want to have a fun relationship to end the year. \n\nGirl 1 is 16, so she's a little young, but she's very attractive, and we share lots of interests/ have similar hobbies. I've had a bit of a crush on her for a while, but never really did anything. (dating an 8th grader as a sophomore seemed a bit weird)The thing is ,though, I am friends with her older sister, so I don't know if this will end up being a problem.\n\nGirl 2 is 18, and I was told from her best friend that she wants to hook-up with me. She's a very funny girl and also very cute but I've heard from multiple people that she's still not over her ex. She's also much more experienced sexually, which is a positive.", "summary": "Need help choosing between two girls. Girl 2would be a definite hook up, but possibly nothing more, and Girl 1 would be a relationship, but not a long one."}
{"id": "t3_2hhacf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can I dispute derogatory information in my credit score if I settle it? And is it worth it?", "post": "I lived in a house for about 10 months and I paid the electric bill. I was deploying so I made my last payment on 6 Aug 13 and then transferred the account to my roommate a few days later. Fast forward a year, I apply for a credit card and get rejected because of an unpaid electric bill.\n\nI call the electric company and they said that there was still a balance from July that I hadn't paid and that did not transfer to my roommate. As far as I can tell, they made zero effort to contact him or me and my online account shows zero balance.\n\nI am going to talk to them tomorrow and I might just pay them to settle the balance. Can I settle my claim and then dispute it? It seems pretty shady what they did but at the same time, I'm not sure if I'm in the right. It's possible that I never read the fine print and there was some outstanding balance I missed paying. I also want to settle my claim as soon as possible so I don't have a delinquent payment on there for a long time. \n\nI'm 26 with no plans to settle down soon but I could also see myself going to grad school in a few years and I don't want this to impact my interest rates. What should I do?", "summary": "Possibly got screwed/screwed myself. How can I get out of this mess?"}
{"id": "t3_2dw7su", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] have no idea how to flirt in a feminine way", "post": "I'm a girl and all but I don't really have interests like a girl. Guys call me 'bro' and whenever I talk with them (even if I find them mad attractive) we end up on topics like star wars or marvel comics. I'm starting to think I stand a better chance of romance happening before they get to know me since (not to brag) but I'm actually fairly hot. I just ruin any chance of flirting by going right to the 'duuudee let's talk about bro things' zone. \n\nAm I wrong? \n\n(I dated only once and it turned out horribly, he didn't treat me like a girl, never took me out on dates, he just wanted to sit around the house and be boring)\n\nSorry but, help?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_14o6aw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Guitar stolen by family member any advice for this situation?", "post": "Hey, so my family has been having issues lately. Straight to the point my sister stole a guitar she gave me last christmas, it's a great guitar that she got when she was twelve and never played. I ended up playing with it a lot then she finally gave it to me for keeps. I've put over $300 worth of materials into this guitar not included miscellaneous like strings. Aside from that I've purchased $1,017 (not including tax) of equipment like pedals and amps. So we happen to live in the same house and being the gentleman that I try to be, I'm not simply gonna go steal it back from her. Plus she put it in her car and I think she dropped it off at a friends house for the sole sake of me not getting to it. Obviously I need to start with moving out.\nWhat advice can you give me? Should I call the police and file a report? Take her to court? So I even have a case? Technically I don't have proof of ownership except for mine and my parents word (which they don't give a shit about me getting it back since they bought it for her initially.), but I do have records of materials and equipment I bought for it dating back to February of this year. So Reddit, what should/can I do?", "summary": "Sister who lives in my house stole my guitar and I don't know how to approach this situation."}
{"id": "t3_3hbivb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my group of best friends since childhood [26 M]. Our interactions have grown boring, stagnant, and apathetic. I want change, but I don't want to leave them behind.", "post": "Recently, I was taking stock of what I did this summer, and the answer was...not a whole lot.\n\nI have a group of about eight guys I grew up with and consider lifelong friends. People that have met us have said what we have is really rare, some Stand By Me shit. I love them. I was the best man in one of their weddings.\n\nSome have moved and got married, and one in particular is going through some difficult financial times. In those cases, I can understand why I don't see and do things with them as much. It's a natural part of getting older.\n\nStill, though, there's a group of 4-5 guys I see every single weekend. But the problem is we can never decide on doing anything. One person doesn't like clubs. Another doesn't want to spend cash in a bar. Another hates beaches. There's always fighting about what to do. There's always dissent. And it always ends in the lowest common denominator---sitting in one of our apartments drinking and watching TV.\n\nAnd I've reached a breaking point. I'm single, and I really don't have any social circle outside of them. I went to college on the other side of the country, and while I have friends there that I keep in touch with, I see them once a year.\n\nI honestly don't know what to do? I don't even know how to make friends at this point. And I don't want to abandon my friends that I love. Up until a few years ago, things were fun! But for a 26 year-old, single guy living in the city, my life has become so boring and routine that I want to scream.\n\nHelp!", "summary": "My best friends growing up are boring and would rather sit and drink all day then do anything new or exciting. And I'm at my breaking point."}
{"id": "t3_147ejb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] I think I have a problem with intimacy with girls. Some help, please?", "post": "Hi there.\n\nI'm an average-looking guy, I guess. Over the course of the last two weeks, I've been having a couple of \"one-night stands\" with a girl that I think is really nice. She's very sweet, funny, intelligent (as far as I know her), and I like being around her. I've not been in a relationship since I was about 19, I think. We haven't really talked about having any kind of relationship at this point, but I mean, I sort of feel like I could use the experience.\n\nThe thing is, though, that in the back of my mind I don't think she's that good looking. I mean, she is definitily cute, but at the same time there's something in my head that makes me stop developing feelings for her. And it's probably something in her apperance. Before I followed her home and slept with her, I couldn't stop thinking about her. Now after the fact, I find myself worrying more if she has feelings for me, instead of thinking that I should try and develope this into something more. I've done this with atleast 4 girls throughout my life: Get somewhat involved with them over a short period of time, then feel in the back of my mind that they are not pretty enough, and break up with them. I don't really want to be that shallow, and I wish there was some way I could change this. I guess her looks are sort of average. Her body is middle of the road, too, and that somehow irks me, too.\n\nIs this normal? I'm not a fantastic looking guy, but I'm not ugly, either. Any input from anyone who's been in the same place would be fantastic! Thanks alot to anyone for replying.", "summary": "[25/m] have been on good terms with a nice, but maybe not too pretty girl, sleeps with her twice, feels like I'm losing interest because of her apperance. I feel very shallow for feeling like this, but not sure how I can change this?"}
{"id": "t3_20r858", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [23 M/F] of 3 years doing long distance - i'm loosing faith and getting suspicions.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half years and recently, I've had to move away because of my job. Its only a 2 hour distance but from going from seeing each other everyday to once in a week or in this case, one in 3 weeks ... its hard. He has many more girl friends than boy friends and i am completely ok with that. but recently he's been seeing more of this one friend. today he says that its a good thing because her best friend has got a bf now and therefore, she feels alone and he feels alone too so it work out for both of them to spend time together. \n\nI completely trust my boyfriend and he's never given me any reason to doubt him but i still can't help but feel uncomfortable. I don't know how to address this because I feel its totally unfair of me to say that he cant see her that often or that I am uncomfortable with it coz she is a good friend of his. On top of that, our communication sucks. his phone is crap so he doesnt recieve my texts half the time and he's shit at calling anyone. I don't know how to deal with this and would really appreciate some advice.", "summary": "Long distance relationship. boyfriend spending time with another close girl who's a friend of his since they're both feeling lonely. I'm, very uncomfortable by this and don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2mkb26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] needs advice on where to meet enlisted guys.", "post": "Repost from /r/military\n\nI've always been very intrigued by men who are in the military. I think it's honorable and attractive that someone would put so much on the line for our country. I also find that most of the values and morals I have align with those who choose to join the forces. My question is how does a young girl go about meeting good guys in uniform?\n\nMy friends and I joke that I'm perfect military dating material because I'm a teacher (who's certified to teach abroad), I love to travel, I'm independent and secure in my relationships as well as caring and great with meeting new people.\n\nAfter numerous failed attempts at relationships with other civilian men I thought I might try my hand at a man in uniform.", "summary": "Where should a girl go to meeting single guys in the military?"}
{"id": "t3_4p3n8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Many of my [25M] friends [~25Fs] want to cheat with me. What is going on?", "post": "First, a little background information about me:\n\nI was never that popular in primary and high school, not a loser mind you, but never super popular.\n\nMy parents are pretty religious (I'm not at all) and strict, and I went to all-boys schools. Because of this, the friends that I had were mostly guy friends, and most girls I knew I thought of as acquaintances.\n\nAfter moving to the big city to attend university I made a decision to not be the weird loner in class, and began the 'fake it til you make it' thing - and I really did make it. I got myself a bunch of really nice close friends and we do lots of stuff together all the time. First time really having female friends.\n\nNow here comes my problem:\n\nMost of my girl friends are in, what I would call, pretty serious comitted relationships, and weirdly enough they want to cheat on their boyfriends with me!\n\nAnd I'm not misunderstanding any weird signals, they are very direct:\n\n* \"My boyfriend isn't home for the weekend, do you want to come home with me tonight and have some dirty fun?\"\n* \"I only asked you to come outside with me to make out with you, if you'd like.\"\n* Etc.\n\nI always turn them down - I never liked the idea of cheating and they know this. One of them even told me the next day that she respected me more now.\n\nI find it really weird that it isn't just one fluke, but many of my friends that try this. And mind you, not the female friends that are single, only the ones in relationships.\n\nWhat I'm wondering is, why do they do this? Is it some kind of weird test of my ethics?\n\nThis isn't normal is it? Am I sending some 'cheaty'-vibes?\nDo I just treat it as a compliment?", "summary": "Many of my girl friends (whom are in relationships) want to cheat with me (single). Why? I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_1us3o9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [18F] and I [17M] plan on breaking up before college. Don't know what to feel anymore.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a year and will soon be starting our last semester of school together. Sometime earlier this year, we agreed the best plan of action going into college would be for us to break up, not because we were unsatisfied with the relationship but because we both accepted we needed to develop individually, we could end up geographically really far apart and other things like that. Odds tend to stack against relationships from high school going into college. \n\nI don't know how I feel about this anymore. It doesn't feel good though. \n\nI love her. I fall in love with her again and again every day and the closer we get to this agreement, the more I love her. It seems stupid to love her with the expiration date attached to the relationship, but it feels real and I can't stop. \n\nWe've tried to talk about this quite a few times but the conversation doesn't tend to go much of anywhere because I don't know how I feel anymore. It hurts to talk about it, too. I know what its like to have to leave people close to me and it hurts knowing that know they're just images on my computer or words on my phone or photos on my desk. I don't know if I'm ready to make her a memory.\n\nWhen we first talked about this we were both so certain that, despite the fact we loved each other, a breakup before college would be best. But now I'm wondering if want I really want is to try to make it work past graduation. I need help sorting out my own feelings about the relationship and thoughts about the reality of the situation.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I plan on breaking it off before college despite being in love and all that good stuff, I'm really confused about my feelings and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2vpyvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [23 F] am uncomfortable with my boyfriend [26 M] (of four months)'s contact with his ex-fianc\u00e9e", "post": "[previous post](\n\nYeah, you all were right. We've had several fights over the last two weeks, and Sunday I finally broke down and snooped on his phone while he was taking our dog for a walk. The week before, I told him that he must be honest with his ex and tell her about our relationship and that he is not getting back with her. I witnessed their phone conversation and was pleased. However, I felt like something was still off... hence my snooping. \n\nHe was telling her how sorry he was, that we were only really technically in a relationship and that he kind of felt stuck in our relationship because \"she legitimately thinks Whiskey [our dog] is her dog\". He said a lot more but I can't really remember it all and honestly it's so embarrassing and hurtful I can't really bare to try to remember.\n\nHe apologized, told me he was depressed and unhappy, and told me he feels that he deserves to be miserable because he's a bad person. Says I'm entirely too good for him but that he loves me and wants to be better for me. All this beautiful bullshit. I just can't believe him. I can't get over it. He lives with me, he doesn't have any other friends or family where we live (he's from a city that is 500+ miles away), and has nowhere to go. He is also set on proving his love to me, says he will let me check his phone whenever I want and that he will stop talking to her if that's what I want. He is severely depressed and needs therapy, but is the type of person who believes it's all in his head - he says he's fine, just needs to get over some things. I want him to get help and I want him to be okay, I just don't know how to help him and protect myself.", "summary": "bf was emotionally cheating, now almost suicidal. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4362qv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking like an asshole at the GreatClips", "post": "Today I got a haircut. \n\nI was going to give the Asian lady who cut my hair a tip so I asked her to charge $4 extra on my card like I normally do at this place. Little did I know, they had changed their system to what most consider a normal tipping method where you write your tip on the receipt. \n\nAfter filling out the receipt and handing it back to her, I asked (referring to the new style of tipping), \"How is that for you?\" At first she didn't seem to understand so I repeated it louder, \"How is that for you?\" She looked at the receipt, quickly nodded and said equally loud that the tip was much \"good, good!\"\n\nI was given weird stares on the way out by the other eight or so people there. I didn't realize my mistake until I closed the door. The worst part is that she gave a really good haircut and probably deserved more of a tip but I am poor.", "summary": "While trying to make small talk, I inadvertently asked a foreign hairstylist if my tip was good enough for her while others listened."}
{"id": "t3_4g36af", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my bf [34M] 6 months, I can't begin to fathom his behaviour and what it means", "post": "Firstly, I know there's a fair age gap but it doesn't really affect anything.\n\nWhere to start! We've been treading water the whole time dating, it hasn't really moved anywhere as we're both a bit closed off but working on it. There are just so many things I do not understand.\n\nHe's still on dating sites. The profile has a time stamp and it's constant. Every day. Lots of days he won't message or call me until afternoon but has already been online.\n\nHe hasn't let me meet his family. (He can't 'be bothered with that stuff'). Nor has he wanted to meet mine, and has turned down their invitations with no real excuse.\n\nHe hates me staying over and won't stay at mine. Apparently it's because he needs his own space, yet he's talked about how he and one of his numerous exes lived together.\n\nWhen talking to a female friend of his that he knows likes him, he calls her babe. (Just from a text I saw). He calls me that. It just seems a bit dodgy.\n\nHe claims he wants to get to know me better, but he never ever asks. Even days when I've been open about having a rough time and feeling a bit down he doesn't bother to ever ask about my past, or anything.\n\nHe talks about wanting to settle down and have a family etc but I just don't see it. He likes living his wild bachelor lifestyle. Also he's been so promiscuous all his life. Like he met a random friend of mine some time ago and it turns out even they had a 2 night stand. He's been with in the hundreds. He says it's just because he likes sex and could still settle down. A leopard doesn't change its spots.\n\nI know I'll just be told to break up with him. It's so hard though. He can sound so believable in the nice things he says about a future together, and I don't fall for that stuff easily. There's no chance of it working out is there? How do I get over him?", "summary": "is there any chance of it working out despite odd behaviour?"}
{"id": "t3_2atyhn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Man on Man Domestic Violence", "post": "I was in a relationship with another man for four years up until about two months ago.  During a political discussion, I was backed into a corner by my SO at which point he loomed over me shouting in my face.  He's about a foot taller than I am.  The short of it is that I ended up with a busted coccyx, and I was strangled.\n\nI cannot begin to explain how difficult and awkward it is to seek help as a male domestic violence victim.  That being said, Refuge House was a major help -- they helped me file motions and the initial paperwork for a restraining order.\n\nAfter a few weeks of moving from couch to couch with almost no possessions, I settled down at a place in town.  I was practically homeless in the interim, and the stress of the situation almost cost me my job.\n\nWithin an hour of my SO being served with the restraining order, he contacted me repeatedly which violates a court order of no contact.  I had his ass put in jail, and he will have a first degree misdemeanor on his record related to domestic violence.\n\nMy SO is well known in the community, and a couple of friends of mine anonymously notified the local news agencies of his arrest, so I'm waiting for the local news story shoe to drop.", "summary": "don't abuse your lover.  If you're lucky, you lose your best friend.  If you're not lucky, you lose your reputation, your freedom, and your best friend.  If you have been a victim of domestic violence, seek help because it's available for men and women alike."}
{"id": "t3_344lvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18 f) broke up with me because she was listening to her friends gossip about me (18 m)", "post": "Ok so today I got dumped by my girlfriend of 7 months. She said she didn't want to be with me. \n\nI asked her why and she said that she didn't like the person I have become I asked her what she meant and she said that her friends didn't like me and thought I was a dick.\n\n I asked her was she really going to listen to her friends over me and she said yes I don't trust you and I said but do you trust your friends (she has friendship issues) and she said no.\n\n I'm pretty confused about the whole situation and I'm pretty hurt. My girlfriend has depression and takes out her moods and anger on me a lot so i feel like this is contributing to her reason. \n\nI asked her did she really want to end it and she said yes and i asked her how long she had thought about it and she said today (so realistically 6 hours) i dont want her back but im more hurt that she didnt tell me her friends were saying bad things about me.\n\nAlso in this argument she admitted she is never excited to see me, realizes that she treats me badly but blames her depression, says im a bad person and im always negative. the negative thing got to me because i truly think she was the one who brought out the worst in me as i was thrusted into the role as her carer and protector in terms of her depression.\n\n i dont know what to do and i really just needed to tell some one so this is why i posted so i could see it from a third person perspective. i love this girl but shes hurt me and doest really care. what do i do?", "summary": "girlfriend listened to her friends gossip and broke up with me"}
{"id": "t3_gnz6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "x-post from AskReddit: Girlfriend of three years made out with two people over the weekend. . . What to do?", "post": "I was told to post this here for more advice. \n\n[Original thread](\n\nThe title says most of it. . . We were partying with some friends, and about halfway through the night, one of my buddies asked me if she and I were still together. We'd been having some rough times over the last few months, so I figured they were just asking how that had turned out. I said yes, and so did she. Over the course of the evening, a few more people came and asked me the same thing.\n\nAt the end of the night, one of my good friends came to me a little sheepishly, and told me my girlfriend had gone up to him and just made out with him with no warning. A couple others told me she was \"all over them,\" and I walked in on her making out with another kid that I didn't know so well.\n\nWhen I confronted her the next day, I asked what was going on. She said she \"didn't know what came over her\" and that she was sorry. But I don't buy it. You don't just do that stuff if there isn't something under the surface, right?\n\nI could really use some advice on what to do, how to deal with what's gone on, and where to go from here. She always told me that she'd dump me on the spot if she found out I was fooling around with other people, and that she thought it was completely unacceptable and there was no excuse; so I never thought I'd be dealing with this with her. I'm pretty pissed off, and a little hurt; hypocrisy has always driven me up the wall, so I'm really not sure what to do.\n\nThanks in advance, Reddit!", "summary": "My girlfriend made out with a good friend and another kid at a party and was \"all over\" a few other friends. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hegsb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. What's is your worst \"I let her/him walk away\" moment?", "post": "Mine happened just this week. I'm typically an indoors guy. I play xbox, n64, SNES, and I'm constantly playing Legue of Legends and just recently World of Tanks. I don't get out much. But this week I went to a place in Southeast Missouri for a family reunion. It was this nice lodge on a lake with all kinds of outdoorsy activities and such. The place was basically run byt people from out of the country. There were people from New Zealand, Australia, Netherlands, England, Columbia, etc. So 9 a.m. I'm signed up for an archery activity. I've never held a bow, let alone shot one. So I'm expecting to be complete shit at it. I get there and my instructor is this beautiful girl from New Zealand. She teaches me how to use the bow and we talk a bit. I didn't get her name but her \"camp name\" was Boston because she has family in Boston and the Red Socks are her favorite team. I freak out about this because the Red Socks are my favorite team as well. I mention the fact that I have tickets to see the Red Socks when they come to see the Royals in KC in August. I told her I have an extra ticket because my brother can't go, and that she's welcome to have it. So for the rest of the day I see her off and on and make comments about how she should come to the game with me. But I never gave her my number and never asked for hers. I don't know why I didn't. I guess it was just me being nervous, not being confident enough to try. But I really let her get away.", "summary": "I fucked up."}
{"id": "t3_ly4vn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "21 year old female, job interview at GameStop, any other workers who could answer questions?", "post": "I have a job interview at GameStop, I was just wondering if anyone could tell me how much I should dress up for this interview? I don't want to under/over-dress. Also, is this something that I should bring a resume to? I have turned in my application and have gotten the interview, but I also want to get the job. I have previous experience including 3 years as an assistant manager at another retail store. I have since moved out of state for school and left on good terms. I would REALLY like to have this job. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "Job interview at GameStop, looking for advice on how to dress and what to bring. (i.e. resume, any other paperwork)"}
{"id": "t3_ueqq5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys buying my girlfriend drinks at the bar", "post": "My girlfriend likes to go out quite a bit, mostly going to bars to hang out with friends or meet people there. Many of the times, I am not with her but she always comes home to me and is faithful. She told me today that she was invited out for some drinks with a guy friend of hers, but she didn't have any money to buy drinks. He said that he would buy her a few to help her out.\n\nHere is where I chimed in. I asked, \"Don't you think its a bit weird for guys to buy you drinks when you have a boyfriend.?\" She doesn't seem to think so and lets guys buy her drinks at the bar all the time. She doesn't mind if strangers buy her drinks at the bar either.\n\nI just think its a bit weird that she lets other guys buy her drinks at the bar when she clearly has a boyfriend. Is it weird for me to think this way?", "summary": "random guys and guy friends buy my girl drinks at the bar when I am not there, is it wierd?"}
{"id": "t3_1buxdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (M17) constantly talks about how attractive other girls are, and really messes up my (F17) self esteem.", "post": "We've been dating for fourteen months. My boyfriend has always been very honest with me about everything, which is one of the things I first loved about him. If I asked him a question, he'd give an honest answer, no matter what. My problem with this started about six months ago, when he told me that he liked another girl for the first month of our relationship, and the only reason they aren't dating is because she turned him down twice. It broke my heart. But he's started being honest about things that I really don't want to know the answer to, or question I haven't asked, such as telling me how hot another girl is, or how she has an awesome chest or ass, or along the same lines. Like, I get it. They're all very attractive. He'll always send me links from porn that he finds really attractive.\n\nBut the problem lies in the fact that I have absolutely terrible self image, and with good reason. I have little to no curves, and a bit of extra chub on my stomach. I'm not fat by any means, but definitely not skinny. And every single girl he likes, or thinks is attractive, has a massive chest with a huge butt and is perfectly skinny. Think Victoria Secret model. And if they aren't curvy, they're short and cute and skinny and blonde, which is the exact opposite from me.\n\nThe real kicker came yesterday, when he decided it would be a good idea to tell me he's in love with a fictional character. I freaked out, probably a bit more than I should, but I'm just so tired of it. Once we started fighting over this, he started trying to eat his words, saying that he just meant that she's \"fun to play with\". He had been talking about how she's so cute and perfect and attractive with awesome cleavage for ten minutes before, which is just suppose to traslate into \"fun to play with\". I don't know what to do. I love him so much, and I'm tired of feeling like I'm a second choice behind all these other girls. What can I do? I'm can't feel so worthless for much longer.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very clearly attracted to girls who look nothing like me, and is now in love with a girl from a video game."}
{"id": "t3_38zxdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f/23) ex-boyfriend (m/22) of 3.5 years is depressed, but I don't know if I should be there for him.", "post": "Let's call my ex- boyfriend James. OK first off, I don't really know if he's really my ex, since we are pretty much in contact and he keeps saying he will come back to me when he's done growing up. \n\nSo recently, James's father has not been well, and needed to get surgery. Living in Canada, health care is pretty much free, so hospital bills are not the problem. However, because of this illness, he will be unable to continue working for the next 3 years. James has just finished his bachelor in electrical engineering, but has no internships or related working experience. His mother who is also working, says she can't afford working alone to support their family of 5 and is pressuring him to find a job. I don't know what she exactly said to him because I wasn't there, but James last week, cried to me over the phone, saying he needs to find a job and grow up, and to do that, he wanted a break.\n\nJames, for the years I have been with him, has sort of slacked off, and would sort of treat me like shit occasionally, for which I would reprimand him. But I've always felt the need to help him however I can. It's partially my fault, that he has become the way he is, because I was the one pushing him to apply to jobs (I would make his resume and cover letters as well as apply for the jobs for him). He would get interviews, but unfortunately would not pass them. Because of my success with finding jobs and his failure, he sometimes tells me \"you're only getting hired because you're a girl\". \n\nAnyway, he's been feeling really low on himself, but he doesn't really have anyone to support him except me, but he just wanted to be friends until he can figure things out. \n\nI wanted to distance myself from him so he could get the peace he wanted, but he calls me and wants my company, so I don't understand... Why he wanted a beak.\n\nShould I keep supporting him, or do I leave him be?", "summary": "ex just broke up with me because he needed time to grow, but now he's showing signs of depression and wants and needs my support. What should I do? Leave or stay."}
{"id": "t3_2jfmx9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost getting run over by an ambulance", "post": "So like many other TIFUs this happened awhile ago. I beleive it was my freshman year of high school when it happened.\n\nI live near my high school so I always walk to and from my house to school. It's about a 10-15 minute walk, and there happens to be a small old persons and adult only hospital on my street. \n\nOne day after school, I was walking home as usual. I had my earphones on and was blasting my music full volume cause I like listening to music as I walk home.\n\nI was just crossing the street on green when I finally noticed that I was the only one crossing and even the cars had stopped. Okay? I though.\n\nSuddenly I look to my right just in time to see the ambulance coming from my street break just before it hit me. It was literally a few inches away from me. I froze for a second, but then broke out of my daze and hurried by.\n\nI still feel so incredibly bad for that, and since then I've never had my music as loud. And I've never walked with both earphones is either..", "summary": "Blasted music with both earphones in while walking home, didn't hear ambulance siren and was almost ran over by said ambulance."}
{"id": "t3_4b4nfi", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I end things without destroying his confidence? Morbidly obese with bad breath.", "post": "I'm female, in my early 20s. I met this guy from a dating website. We've gone out twice now. I think he's sweet but he has terrible breath. Terrible. I didn't notice until the end of the second date, because we didn't kiss until then. He says he has no sense of smell so I don't know how to bring it up in a way that's not offensive. His bedroom also smelled really bad, like he maybe hadn't washed his sheets in a long time. This makes me really hesitant about being physically intimate with him. After we kissed all I could think about was getting home so I could rinse my mouth out.\n\nI think I need to end things but I don't want to destroy his feelings. He's obese, probably morbidly obese or if not then close to it. I knew that when we met and I don't mind his weight. It's definitely not a turn on but it's not a deal breaker for me. The bad breath is though. \n\nI feel terrible about this because I feel like he is already super into me. I'm thin (5'4\", 116 lbs) and he kept talking about how hot I am. He asked me to hang out again this weekend and I'm going to have to give a no. What's the most respectful way I can end things? Or should I give him a chance but let him know his breath and room smell bad and he needs to fix it if he wants to kiss me again?", "summary": "dude has horrible breath, is also very obese. The breath is the issue, not the obesity. He has no sense of smell. I don't want to make him feel like I'm dumping him because of his obesity and I also don't want to make him feel self conscious about his bad breath. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ix1nv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "After nearly a year of countless applications...", "post": "I finally got a job! I've never been so happy to piss in a cup before in my life. I am convinced that even though online job sites have openings in seemingly entry level jobs, that they really aren't hiring. After checking sites like craigslist (only restaurants, everything else  on there is pretty much a scam) and Indeed.com and applying to every position that I qualified for the only place that ever called me in for an interview was McDonald's... and they didn't even hire me! I even tried through a temp agency for a while to no avail. What really pissed me off about the temp service is that the only job they ever wanted to offer me was an over-night housekeeping position at a hospital. I have experience as a housekeeper but I was being upfront and honest when I said that housekeeping isn't something I was interested in doing anymore. I suppose beggars can not be choosy though. Just as I was seriously considering this job, I saw in the newspaper (hey, I was looking in every resource I could get my hands on for a job!) that they had not only one but two ads for jobs that I would much rather do than house keep! One was an administrative job and the other was a production job. When I had called to question why they never offered those positions to me (I was very poignant and called the temp service twice a week to see what was available); they said that was just so that they could get people in to put in applications! I said, why do they need more applications when they can not even find jobs for the people that have already signed up!\n\nAnd I really want to say thanks to reddit because I did take a lot of advice here to heart. I wish I could link to the posts and give due credit. One post was something along the lines of: (Dealing with confidence issues) \"Just fake it until you make it.\" Another post was a very informative post on askreddit about tips for when you actually do get interviews that said that s/he added at the end of the interview, when asked if s/he had any questions said: \"What can I do or say today that will give me this job tomorrow?\" (I totally said this!)", "summary": "I am seriously loving life right now because I found a decent job after 11 months of disappointing searching. Don't give up! Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_t8klr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have your parents ever told you a story about your grandparents/other family that just made you go 'WTF?' Let's share.", "post": "So,  I was spending the day with my parents the other night,  and my dad started sharing some pretty crazy stories of my grandparents (his parents).   I'm 22 and that side of the family has been past dysfunctional,  though my dad seemed to make it out alive.   Here is my tale. \n\nI'm not exactly sure when this took place,  but it was 25-30 years ago.   My grandma and grandpa were going through a rough stretch and my grandpa was spending a lot of time at the bar.   Over the course of his nightly bar visits,  he met this black lady that he befriended and became close with.   It continued for a few weeks until my grandma (who is pretty racially ignorant)  caught hold of it.   So,  one night,  my grandpa goes out to the bar like normal and meets his friend (if they were more than friends,  I don't know)  about 30 minutes into their night,  my grandma walks into the bar covered in black shoe polish.   Everwhere.  Face, arms,  legs,  everything,  she completely black bodies herself.   She walks up to my grandpa ,  stands on the bar and screams \"SO YOU LIKE FUCKING THEM NEGROS JACK?   WELL HERE YOU GO,  COME FUCK ME.\"", "summary": "Grandma though Grandpa was fucking black lady,  completely black bodied herself with shoe polish. "}
{"id": "t3_2isoo6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my SO [28 M] of 2 years, don't know if this is all in my head or not.", "post": "Basically my SO and I have been together for roughly 2 years. Our relationship is fantastic, very open and honest. But, around a week ago we were sat talking on the sofa and he took his phone out to show me a photo of his cat. While he was scrolling i noticed a photo of a scantily dressed unidentified female in his camera roll. He clicked on it and was like \"wtf?\" and I was just speechless. Couldn't say anything, didn't know what to say or do. \n\nInstantly he said that he didn't know how that got there and was really confused. He genuinely looked really upset and confused by the situation. I said maybe he accidentally saved it from some website or w/e. He said that he didn't know and couldn't remember watching or looking at porn of said image. I pretty much shut down and just couldn't say anything else for a while. Eventually he tried to talk to me and apologised for me feeling so shitty and said that it was understandable I was upset. I was very upset, but managed to hold my shit together. We had a talk about it and I pretty much said that I knew he wouldn't do anything like that to me etc.. \n\nAnd to be honest I really can't see him cheating on me and having a picture of her on his phone or anything like that. And it wouldn't bother me if it was just an image from porn. But I can't help but feel upset and uneasy about it. I have a lot of doubt in my head, and I don't know if it's unfounded. He's never given me a reason to doubt him before. And I know I probably shouldn't now. \n\nAm I crazy to feel hurt?", "summary": "SO and I stumbled across a risque picture of another female on his phone. He says he doesn't know how it got there but I'm just not sure."}
{"id": "t3_r8sxk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I noticed I have sexual urges towards an ex while currently dating somebody new. Help?", "post": "Me and this said ex happen to have a child together. We've been broken up for a year. Although she's moved on, she has also cheated on her current bf with me a few times. I recently just started dating somebody and am pretty happy with it so far. However, I noticed lately I seem to get turned on at the memories of me and my ex's sexcapades. I'm definitely a boob man and the ex had the best boobs ever. I'm wondering if these urges have anything to do with hidden feelings towards the ex, or if it's just the simple fact that I miss her boobs. She's my son's mother so there will always be a little something there, but I don't really know how to rid these thoughts because I don't want it to ruin my new relationship.", "summary": "I fantasize about sexcapades with ex. Currently have new gf. Help."}
{"id": "t3_4n20ne", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I have to take an online class (no other options). The professor wants to do an online meeting. I'm a commuter student, and my internet speed is worse than most of the US.", "post": "I failed a math last semester, but just found out- today- that I have to take it immediately again. Summer classes start tomorrow.\n\nI already have summer classes to take, and am going to be doing the online math class before/after those. \n\nThe problem is an email I got:\n\n> I would like to have an on-line meeting on Tuesday, June 14 at 8:30 p.m. using my virtual office\n\nMy other summer classes don't last that long. I'd rather not spend another 9 hours on campus after that... I live off-campus, 30min commute on a good day. \n\nThe biggest thing is that my internet speeds are ass. Just, pure ass. It takes an hour to load a 20min youtube vid at 144p. [Speedtest.net says my internet is worse than 98% of the US.] It's a data softcap. I get 10G of the regular speeds (1mbps) a month. Once that 10 gigs of data is used, it's back to ass speeds.\n\nHowever, I do get unlimited internet from 12am-5am (which sometimes starts at 10:30? or 11? sometimes 3am???).\n\nThe local library closes at 8pm.\n\nI don't know what to do, or what to tell the professor.", "summary": "prof wants to have an online meeting but my internet is so slow i could cry, i live off campus, and the local library closes at 8pm; how do i tell the prof"}
{"id": "t3_2tnwur", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a safety razor.", "post": "I'm the type of man that uses an electric shaver to shave and never have used a safety razor, but yesterday I saw Pawn Star Rick Harrison's single bladed safety razor at the checkout station in Walmart. It looked like a man's man razor and being the alpha male I am I bought it. I brought the safety razor to my jaw and swiped to the right it was the closest shave I've ever had in my life.\n\n After that I started shaving other parts of my sexy body and eventually it got the point where I shaved my beard,chest, arms,legs,ass,pubes, and yes even my balls after feeling like a new man I then hopped into the shower and admired my self in my mirror for ten minutes and then crashed.\n\n I woke up this morning and immediately I realized I fucked up it feels like I have sunburn and tiny paper cuts all over my skin and it fucking burns! My only guess as to what caused this complete fuckup was I didn't apply shaving cream when I was shaving or after shave is this what razor burn feels like?!", "summary": "I bought Rick Harrison's Safety Razor and shaved every inch of my body with it, but forgot shaving cream, and aftershave..."}
{"id": "t3_4icsla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] want my aunt [60s F] to not give me money", "post": "Okay, I know this sounds stupid, but I want advice on how not to get free money.\n\nBasically, my bro and I are the only children on that side of our family. Our dad passed away very soon after I was born.\n\nOur father's sister, my aunt, is a genius. Literally, the best person at what she does in our country. Neither me nor my brother work in that field, partly because we share a unique surname that would easily be linked back to our aunt and make professional life weird.\n\nNow, I love my aunt. She's been unbelievably generous to me over the years. She's also the smartest person I've ever met. Not by some small margin, neither. She's smart, perceptive, and hardworking to a degree that I can only hope to emulate. I've spent my adult life studying and working in a completely different field from where she made her name, but she easily follows everything I do. She might even know more than me, but is too kind to say. Friends who work in that field confirm that she's the best there is.\n\nEvery time I meet with my aunt, she'll hand me check for about a thousand dollars. We only meet a few times a year, and I always arrange the meetings. I don't need the money she gives me. She's been giving me and my brother this money our whole lives, and our mom has done a good job in making us think of it as savings.\n\nBut, my issue is that I don't want my aunt to think that I only see her in order to get money. I would like to see her more often, but I don't want every meeting to seem like a financial exchange. Anyone would be lucky to spend time with her, and being paid to do so feels wrong and weird.\n\nOur mom raised us right, so we greet these gifts with a litany of \"Oh no, you shouldn't\", \"Please, I can't accept this\", but... Well I've never not accepted the gift. Now I don't know how to go from polite pretend-refusal, to actual refusal.", "summary": "My aunt is very successful, and gives me money every time we meet; I'd like to meet without the money"}
{"id": "t3_aspa1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: I want to lose weight....but am lacking the motivation to just do it...any suggestions?", "post": "I've always had a slight issue with my weight. My lowest weight was when I was 16 at 109lbs and more recently when I was 24 I weighed about 122lbs, now Im closer to 180 (and I'm 27 now). I blame this on my sheer laziness and grad school life as well as my inability to say no to candy and yummy tasting food. This **needs** to stop though because I *feel* unhealthy. \n\nI used to be a gymnast when I was younger, and was super flexible...with this in mind, I decided to go to a yoga class 2 weeks ago and was absolutely wrecked after it to the point where I couldnt do anything physical for a week. I have lost all my flexibility and I'm totally out of shape :( \n\nI want to try a weight loss/exercise program that will work and keep me motivated. I was thinking about combining Weight Watchers with P90X...but honestly I don't even think I could do half the moves in the work out video. Other than that...I am a pretty attractive girl, have a bf who loves me no matter what, and I'm in my last year of my Ph.D....I just want to be healthy and less fat.", "summary": "I'm a lazy chunky grad student female that wants to get in shape and needs redditor energy to get me motivated."}
{"id": "t3_jd0hz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with a dying friend?", "post": "I made a friend back in the forth grade with duchenne muscular dystrophy more than a decade ago. Since then we have been best friends. I knew early on that he was not long for this world but there was never a given time line. I've watched him from being able to lift his hands above his head to not being able to move them at all. He's always been a good conversationalist as his mouth hasn't weakened due to his condition. Now 25 years old he struggles to sit up for more than an hour at a time. I just spoke with his mother and its beginning to sound like my friend won't make it to the end of the year.\n\nI always pictured him dying of a quick complication or something sudden. I pains me to see him reach this state of being, not being able to do anything he loves but mentally all there to feel the pain and frustration. He has lived a pretty good life given the hand he was dealt, it just doesn't seem right for it to end in frustration.\n\nMy friend is a trooper though. He will sit through his pain in a room of his friends than to lie alone in his room sleeping it off. He had me set up his computer in his room so that his other friends would still have something to hang around on even though his confined to his bed for most of the day.\n\nMy friend and I are really close but his death has never been a subject we've discussed and I never hope to. I think we both enjoy discussing video games and televisions show more than wasting time talking about unchangeable facts. \n\nHow have you dealt with the on coming inevitable end of a close friend?", "summary": "my friend has had a terminal illness and is on his last leg and after having the 'its about time' talk with his mother, I needed to get it off my chest."}
{"id": "t3_4c1ae7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bathing in my cats' feces.", "post": "Actually happened today!\n\nSo I had surgery last week to repair a torn labrum in my shoulder. I've been mostly lounging around and was starting to feel anxious, so I decided to start cleaning up a bit.\n\nEventually I come up with the brilliant idea to clean my basement, where my demon feline children house their litterbox. I decided that, because I was futilely attempting to clean in the first place, I may as well wash out the litterbox beforehand.\n\nEnter fuck up.\n\nNow an intelligent person would have seen the limits of their powers after barely half dragging the litter box to the dumpster \n\nand asking a small old lady to help me dump it.\n\nNot me though. I got this shit.\n\nAfter bringing casa de feces back to the basement I realize it's still caked in its fair share if shit, piss, and other goodies. I realize that the only way to remedy this problem is by filling it to the absolute fucking top with water and scrubbing the sides with an old rag.\nKeep in mind that this is in and old sink probably about chest level.\n\nAfter I had scoured the box clean and was satisfied with my concentration of piss/shit water, I then realized I only had one arm to dump every thing down the drain. No problem of course, \nshouldn't be any hassle whatsoever.\n\nI was wrong.\n\nAfter carefully starting to tip Shitanic to the side I immediately lost all semblance of control or a plan. As the entire container went over in one fell swoop I quickly realized the the shallow sink was not going to hold this cascading waterfall of terror.\nBefore I could even think about moving, but coincidentally just slowly enough I could open my mouth, I'm hit full on in the face with an Old Faithful of my cats' Seafood sensations lunch of yore.\nEver inch of me from head to tow covered in nasty ass piss and shit water. I even got the opportunity to taste some Friskies after extended marination.\n\nI can feel poop in my eye", "summary": "I dump the water I used to clean my cats litterbox in a sink, ended trying out a new bodywash."}
{"id": "t3_1quz66", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] My girlfriend (21/f) asked for us to be good friends, with the possibility of getting back together.", "post": "My girlfriend (or ex now) asked for us to take some time apart. But by time apart, she means time out of relationship. \n\nWe met about 2 months ago and dated for around a month. This was the first relationship for both of us in several years and we were both very excited to start. However, she began feeling too much pressure. She needed time to think if she truly likes/loves me or not and she wasn't able to have that time. \n\nThe strange thing is she wants us to be close friends. She believes that a relationship can only be strongest if two people are very good friends already before establishing the relationship. So she wants to become good friends with me first. We moved along very quickly but she still barely knows who I am and vice versa. Two months isn't exactly enough to get to know someone so deeply. She still wants to spend a lot of time with me. But she doesn't want the burden of a relationship just yet. She said that she doesn't want to be forced to like me just because we're in a relationship. She wants her boyfriend to be her best friend as well.\n\nBut the thing is, she said she wants us to be good friends before we get together again. I also made sure to point out that I'm trying to get back together with her, and she accepted that as well. We only met each other recently but we've grown extremely fond of each other. Just too much stress I guess. \n\nI want to know what to do. I want to know how long I wait before I try again. She didn't give me a time. These things can't be measured in a specific time frame. I really like this girl and she's one of the most amazing people I've ever met. How do I know if we can still work out?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to become friends, wants boyfriend to be best friend, wants me to grow as a best friend before entering the relationship again, says there is still a chance we'll get back together. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1o3ziw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to deal with a couple of good friends getting divorced when you are there couple friends?", "post": "My wife and I have been very good friends with another couple for a very long time. Now they're getting divorced. This is a couple that has always been kind of dysfunctional but survived with each other. The kind of couple that you never think will actually break up even though they aren't always good for each other. We're both close to both of them. So, it's not like I'm friends with the husband and my wife is friends with the wife. Both are texting us and we're just staying out of everything. How do we stay friends with both but at separate times?", "summary": "our weekends just became boring and awkward"}
{"id": "t3_4ifozq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents constantly check in on me (21F) when I'm on a date with my boyfriend (20M)", "post": "I'm an only child with very over protective parents. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I recently started going to his house to hang out.\n\nThe first time I went there, I had a lot of fun watching movies until late with him and his parents. Late as in 2am. I forgot to check my phone till on the way back at 2:30 with 6 missed calls, 4 voicemails, and multiple texts if I was ok. I find that quite excessive. He's not my first boyfriend, nor my first serious boyfriend. I told them where I was going, so it wasn't like they should he surprised as he stays at my house till 1-2am. \n\nYesterday, I went deep sea fishing with my boyfriend and family. I told my parents where and what boat I was going on to try and help out, plus the times we'd be out to sea. I texted them after I got off of the boat and posted pictures on facebook. After that, my phone dies and it was roughly 7pm on the way back to his parents house. I shower, watch a movie, and it roughly 11pm and I remember my phone had died. I plug it in and receive multiple texts if I'm OK, where I'm at, and a phone call. Then the texts start to get rude from my dad saying \"Your mother told me you were shopping for her mother's day present, you better pull it together for her tomorrow whatever the hell you have been doing!\". Obviously he knew what I was doing and I have already bought her something. It was just rude and was sent after I told him I was OK and at my boyfriends parents house. \n\nIs all of this excessive or is it just me? How do I handle this? I don't have to check in when I'm with friends...and I didn't have to with my prior boyfriend.", "summary": "Parents getting my to check in where I'm at with my boyfriend constantly. How do I handle this? Is this excessive or is it just me?"}
{"id": "t3_1gw41o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does a guy fix the distance growing between him and a female friend?[M26]-[F22]", "post": "I work with her, and she is a good friend. And I actually did grow feelings for her but won't say anything until I leave the job. The thing is, maybe I've been giving too much attention, because she doesn't go look for me anymore, or text me as much. She use to initialize the texts as much as I did. Maybe she already has a hint on how I feels? Overall how do you bring back that closeness you had with a female friend? She's fun to talk to and the thing I don't want is to become distant.Maybe it's the me withdrawing because of my feelings and I'm over analyzing.", "summary": "IDK if it's just me over-analyzing it. We just don't seem as close as we use to."}
{"id": "t3_z70f5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm that other dude, too.", "post": "Hey there Reddit.  \n\nSo about a week and a half ago I met this super awesome girl.  We didn't really hit it off right away.  Guys were swarming all over her.  She asked for my number and we've been seeing eachother and talking on a regular basis ever since.\n\nA few nights ago she met me at a concert and we hit it off right away.  Dancing, kissing, grinding, the works.  For the rest of that night we were holding hands, acting like we were together and it really felt \"right.\" \nShe ended up staying the night at my place.  We stared romantically into each other's eyes, kissed quite a bit, and fell asleep in each other's arms\n\nThis situation seems too good to be true, right? That's because it is.  \nShe went back to her hometown yesterday to apparently see her boyfriend, says her roommate.  She told me she was going to see and spend time with her family.  \n\nI don't want to be wasting my time on a girl who could do the same thing to me, but at the same time I am really falling for her.  \nHow do I confront her about this (or should I even confront her about this)??\nAny other advice?", "summary": "Falling for girl with boyfriend.  Need help evaluating if it's worth it. If it is, how do I confront her about said boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_4qj9mp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] need help with dating and finding a good LTR. Tell me what to do.", "post": "I've spent my life focusing on more serious endeavors and the last 4 years have been used to study for a degree, volunteer to boost my resume and so on. So most of my choices and actions were to set myself up for the future.\n\nNow I have never had a serious relationship and don't know where to start! I've no regular hobbies to meet men, my friends are also having trouble with dating and my closest friends have also been perpetually single so they can't introduce me to anyone. \n\nI have very little planned for the next 3 weeks and now I'm going to let you all tell me what to do. I mean within reason. What actions should I take to meet some nice eligible men? Throw your suggestions at me!", "summary": "No clue how to date or meet men. Allowing redditers to treat my love life like an interactive story or create your own adventure game. Tell me what to do."}
{"id": "t3_241ntc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need help. [Quite long, even the summary is long.]", "post": "I need help, advise, anything.\nTo preface this, I am being as truthful as possible\nwith every word I write, not only with you, but also\nwith myself. I would appreciate constructive posts only\nbut I understand its too much to ask.\n\nIf you're a troll, please troll lightly. \n\nI generally have a calm demeanor, and have been said to be intelligent and well spoken. That is, for the first 5-6 times someone meets me. \n\nI'm usually the epitome of making first impressions. Everyone likes me the first time they meet me, and it stay that way for awhile. But whenever I get comfortable with people, I become something I dislike and revile, I become that one weird person who occasionally shouts things, or is too over-enthusiastic.\n\nI carry very few long term friends and anyone who's known me for a long time doesn't hate me, but tends to stay away from me as much as possible, often making excuses.\n\nFurther problems develop as I usually exude confidence and leadership skills beyond what I expect, but at the first sign of problems, it goes down the drain faster than I can handle, leading me to be depressed.\n\nWhile i'm in that state, I usually act in a childish fashion, and I greatly resent myself for that. I assumed it was overconfidence, but when everything works out it goes perfectly.\n\nI need to know whats wrong with me. Why I am not who I want to be, or who I am. Why can't I keep up my act in long term, and what can I do to keep future relations. (The current ones I think are a lost cause.)\n\nAdvice i've had thats failed me:\n\nBe natural.\nAct normal.\nTake pills. (Personally will never do that.)\nDon't interact with people.\n\n**If you find this", "summary": "already, skip to summary."}
{"id": "t3_cqrly", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I bumped into a homeless guy and he spilled his drink... am I an asshole?", "post": "I'm walking down the street in New York, and there's a steady stream of foot traffic going in either direction. Out of the corner of my eye, I'm watching people coming at me when I bump shoulders with a guy and hear a splat of what sounded like some kind of drink behind me. Recalling what I had previously seen, it looked to be an emaciated man carrying an old black plastic shopping bag that I had bumped shoulders with. Thinking nothing of it, I keep walking. Then I hear someone say \"excuse me\" from behind, and realize that I may have knocked the plastic bag out of the homeless-looking man's hand by mistake. Two thoughts pop into my head about what might have happened: 1) this guy is trying to scam me, and probably \"accidentally\" bumps into people and drops things all the time, hoping that they'll overcompensate him for what they've \"damaged\" 2) I genuinely knocked something out of this guy's hand. In the case of the latter scenario, my response is still going to be something like \"well, you should really carry your things away from oncoming traffic if they're that important to you,\" but I figure this homeless guy isn't the type who's going to listen to that kind of reasoning. So I ignore him. I pick up my pace to walk quickly like someone who's in a hurry, but not quickly enough that he could accuse me of trying to evade him. Then I hear \"excuse me\" again. At this point I'm thinking \"fuck, this guy is persistent, and he's definitely not the kind of person I want to get into an argument with on the street.\" I also note that I'm only one block away from the subway station, so I decide to keep my pace up and continue to ignore him. I duck into the underground pathway leading to the turnstile and I hear it again, with heightened urgency: \"excuse me.\" So I make a dash for the turnstile, swipe my card, and jump on the first train out of there.", "summary": "I knocked a homeless guy's stuff out of his hand by accident, and I essentially ran away from him when he wanted to make a big deal out of it."}
{"id": "t3_ewr16", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think social networks like Reddit and the internet in general signal a worldwide shift into a new era of civilization?  A more empathetic one?", "post": "When I saw this [post] by *FedUPFemale* a couple days back and the kinds of responses that were being generated it got me thinking more than ever about our development as a species.  Because of social networks like Reddit and the myriad of other communities on the internet I've learned more than I ever could have before about the world outside my neighbourhood in Toronto, Ontario.  I don't live in a small city by any means, a proudly multicultural one, but there are people who are more isolated who can get into contact.  I hear of atheists who have no one else to speak to or stretch minds brimming with questions they couldn't hope to do around their immediate physical communities so they go to /r/atheism or /r/philosophy.  I find people doing a great many wonderful things for other people, regardless of any personal gain (redditors giving away money, buying people meals, huge donations, etc.).  How many times have you, if you count yourself as intellectually sincere (open to listening to and attempting to understand other ideas), found yourself being wrong about sometimes trivial things, sometimes foundational things in your life because of our increased interactivity?  I for sure have.  I've learned more about the history of religion, the abuses that science itself has aided in the past (which has really rounded out my views as an atheist), and so on.  \n\nFor what reason are these things happening exactly?  I don't mean that charity and open mindedness are new things but I feel like this is still different.  How we are identifying ourselves is changing.  Going back to the discussion generated by FedUPFemale, I see qualities that are more humanist, that transcend borders, religions, classes, etc.  These impulses have been expressed in the past yes, but now more and more people are taking these values on for themselves.  This phenomenon doesn't appear to be just for the secular of course.  I see people off all kinds of religions and backgrounds engaging in discussion, coming out with their previous world views challenged and they themselves having challenged those of others \u2013 enlightening experiences.  Seeing [this video] last week has gotten me even more fired up about it.", "summary": "We are in an historical period with an unprecedented level of contact between people on every part of the planet and this is only beginning to accelerate.  Is our information revolution ushering in a new age of civilization?  A more emphathetic one?  This is what I ask of you Reddit :)"}
{"id": "t3_3yh4dv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking my junk email", "post": "This happened today. If you didn't know, you need a letter of approval/visa to travel to Vietnam. This can be done easily by any one of the search results from Google. I knew that and paid for my visa well in advance. Got my confirmation email and didn't think twice about it until a couple days before my trip. \n\nI went back to my inbox to print out the letter, but it wasn't there. Searched. Nothing. Went through all my email accounts. Nothing. Curses. I emailed the company and tried to Skype them two days before. No replies. Panic mode. \n\nI went to another website that offers expedited visas and paid. My letter should've arrived with enough time for me to board. \n\nNope. I emailed the company and they at least got back to me in a timely matter with bad news. Immigration had a meeting so I would get it later. Double curses. \nI did eventually get my visa and booked the next flight (on standby).", "summary": "Check your junk mail when expecting important emails. Junk mail will typically delete itself after 30 days. Set a reminder and follow up immediately. Don't let it happen to you."}
{"id": "t3_2n91xk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] just found out my girlfriend [19 F] cheated on me briefly after we started dating. Please help me.", "post": "The guy she cheated on me with just messaged me about all the things they did. Apparently they recently had a falling out and he no longer feels like he needs to keep the secret. She told him not to tell me. I just confronted her on it and she told me that it was a huge mistake and how sorry she is etc im sure you know how it goes. I've never felt this crushed. I'll never be able to look at her the same. I'l only be able to think about the guy she cheated on me with. I love her more than anything. More than I've ever felt for anything. Please help me. I can't stop crying.", "summary": "Found out my girlfriend cheated on me a few months after we met."}
{"id": "t3_3ejr3k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by jacking it while not alone in the house.", "post": "I was practising some self-abuse (read: fapfapfapfap) alone in my room. After finishing and cleaning up, I heard someone approach my room. I knew they would be able to see me in a few seconds. I decided to clothe myself such that I hadn't been in such a comprising position. I grabbed the nearest shirt and put it over my head (already had put \non trousers after the fact). Something snagged. Ping!\n\"What was that,\" wondered my mind, now attending to other matters than whoever the pornstar of the moment was, getting nailed by whatever dead-eyed balding human-horse hybrid was lucky/jaded enough to be doing the thrusting.\nNo longer soothed and occupied by hormones and whore moans, my nervous system realised my ear hurt like a proverbial bitch. It soon became apparent that I'd ripped out my recent ear piercing while pulling my shirt over my head.\nThe person on the stairs was my my mother, and luckily when she saw me after approaching, I was not compromised in any way.\n\"Mum, can you help me find my earring?\" I had to get the piercings jimmied open by the piercer after a couple of days when I next could see her. I got the ear redone. No one has ever known this story. I'm not going to become a monk though.", "summary": "Self abuse: you only hurt the ones you love. "}
{"id": "t3_35iotw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting gas all over myself", "post": "This actually happened a few days ago. I went to fill up my car at a gas station close to my house. I've been really into podcasts lately, so when I got out of the car I wasn't listening to the podcast but I was thinking about it intensely. In my occupied state of mind I relied on muscle memory to get gas. I swiped my credit card, grabbed the pump, and pushed the button for unleaded. As soon as I pushed the button, gas started spraying out the pump all over the ground and on my car. I have never actually seen a gas pump spray gas because it's always hidden in the car, so it was quite a shock to see this green liquid shooting everywhere. I let go of the trigger, but it was locked in place and would not stop spraying. Out of options, I turned the pump towards the car to put it in the gas tank. The gas ricocheted off of the car and doused me from the neck down. At this point I was really wondering if this was a dream. After a struggle, I successfully managed to put the pump in the car and fill my tank. A guy who was painting nearby ran over and asked if I smoked, to which I responded no. He offered to lend me a jumpsuit so I could cleanly get into my car, but then he realized he didn't have it, so I had to drive home in my gasoline-soaked clothes. Then I showered for an hour. It was nuts.", "summary": "Filled up gas tank with gas but also filled up clothes with gas."}
{"id": "t3_lxmwf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure what to do..", "post": "*I apologize for the shitty, nondescript title*\n\nGirlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now, both early 20s.  \n\nShe was in a LDR with a guy for 2 years, and cheated on him a few times with these two different guys.  She dated both of them separately for a bit, broke up, but still hung out with them afterwards.  \n\nShe maintains an awkward relationship with them, and they clearly want to hang out with her still (and are most definitely still into her).  She wants to hang out with them too.  I do not get along with these two guys, they are shady as all hell.\n\nWe have a good relationship now, but lately these guys have been popping up a lot more often and it has been causing me problems big time.  \n\nIs this normal?  Am I being overly jealous, or is hanging out with guys you've cheated on your ex boyfriend with okay?  I also will be away from her for a few months pretty soon, and I'm worried something might happen while I'm gone.  \n\nI'm at a loss, I don't want to lose her but I really can't handle the stress this is bringing me.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriends that she has shady past with.  Don't want to limit who she hangs out with, but it's driving me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_3vwz1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend[18F] who is angry on me", "post": "Everething started last friday, we were on the party and I drunk to much, she was angry for me for that, but I apologized her and she said that she forgives me. \n\nAnd last week I said I take her on the concert, but I need to get tickets first. And I got the tickets. My mistake was I tell her about it day before the concert and she said she can't go. In day of concert She was angry about it and she said that I prefer go without her but with friends and I lie to her. I said that is not true and from the begining I wanted to go with her. I feelt bad for that she even could has thoughts like that. She was angry but later she said that ok. I said that I don't know now if I want to go to this concert by myself, and she said that I should. \n\nThis morning I said her that I was on this concert but I couldn't enjoy it. She said that I want to arouse pity in her and she doesn't want to talk. What should I do now?", "summary": "My gf said that I want to arouse pity in her and she doesn't want to talk. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1qejki", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by misspeaking and suggesting a high school girl was well-endowed", "post": "I [21M] work at a media corporation, and I was working on a high school sports story about a notable team of cross country girls. Sorry to be vague, but I'm trying to leave out identifying details.\n\nAnyway, I was talking to the coach, and he was speaking about one of the girls in particular who is a star athlete, the second fastest in our state. Not only that, but she is an honors student, and consistently gets good grades.\n\nHearing this, I commented that she sounds like an incredibly well-developed girl. \n\nThe conversation halted, and he went silent. I explained that I meant well-rounded, but it didn't ease the awkwardness.\n\nIt's a good thing this interview was over the phone. My face was *reeeed.", "summary": "\u2013 TIFU by misspeaking and suggesting a high school girl was well-endowed."}
{"id": "t3_3b3i0y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by moving my paraplegic wife", "post": "This happened 4 days ago actually but I was so scared in the past days that i didn't have the hand stability to write on a keyboard\n\nMy wife and i had an accident and she's on a wheelchair (she started moving her legs again but still a long way to go) so it was nighttime and she asked me if i can turn her upside down, when i am moving her suddenly the weight of her leg shifts her lower body and i hear a crack... (like when you crack your back) the first thing she says is... I can't feel my legs.. I almost fainted right there, I try to calm her but I know what that means (I am en EMT) so i do the sensible thing... its 1 am and i have to call an ambulance.\n\nOnce we arrive at the clinic she's crying because she knows what this means, i speak to the doctor and tell her the situation, the doctor says \"uff\" confirming my deepest fears, she has X-rays done and an MRI, we had to wait almost 2 days for the specialist to arrive but i had already seen the X-rays and saw no changes on them, after the specialist saw the MRI said there were no changes, and we could breathe.\n\nThey sent us home with anti-inflammatory medicine and our regular exercise schedule, a day later (yesterday night) she said \"Baby i can feel my legs again... i was happy and today she said, I can move my legs as i used to... I could finally breathe.\n\n(Sorry if english no good, english me not first language)", "summary": "Tried to move paraplegic wife, cracker her back, sensation in legs gone. Exams show no lesions, 2 days later she is moving her legs again."}
{"id": "t3_1c8xob", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this fling fizzling?", "post": "Both in our mid 20s. I have been sleeping with a girl for over a year now. We work together and when it started when she still had a boyfriend. It happened under circumstances I am not proud of.  She came to me when her relationship was fizzling out, and I think she needed me to see if there was any hope of re-igniting a flame of passion that she has not had in a while.  I was the other man for almost 6 months.  Then we decided that had to stop.  \nWe took a pause for a few months, but since we work together, we still constantly saw each other.  So when I find out she moved out of her shared apartment and broke up with her boyfriend, we start it up again. \n\nThings are great for a month, but then something happened.  I can't pinpoint it, but the passion is gone.  We both used to stare at each other with passion, and we used to make love with passion.  Over the past month, she has stopped doing anything romantic, surprising or spontaneous.  \n\nI think I have a high sex drive, and I like to have sex everyday. For the first few months we had sex 3 times a day, but now, after about 4 months of this, we only have sex maybe 1-2 times a week.\n\nI care about her a lot, and I was kind of hoping that it could be something more. She says she still isn't ready to get into a relationship, which I understand.  We had agreed at the start of this that we were just going to keep it to casual sex, but we both understood that we had feelings for each other. \n\nNot sure if I should just let her be for a while, move on or keep with it for a while longer.  Again, I felt like I was falling for this girl a few months ago, but I feel like now she is fighting it.", "summary": "Relationship that started under shady circumstances actually has a chance now, but doesn't seem to be sustainable/realistic...should I give it time or just drop it. Thought I was falling in love."}
{"id": "t3_16h9mo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the fallout after a person you were dating dropped \"I love you,\" and you lied when responding \"I love you too.\"?", "post": "This happened last week, after dinner and drinks, and during sex. She said it, and I fucked up and responded in kind. Told her the truth tonight, and she stormed out. It's over. \n\nI feel horrible, but she did drop that on me right in the middle of a drunken melee. I should feel honored and lucky that someone feels that way about me.\n \nWe dated a couple of months last year and had only recently started dating again, and this happens. Tonight I acted like she didn't say it, and when pressed, I told her the truth. \n\nI only hope I haven't fucked her up too bad. She doesn't deserve it. \n\nI'll start another thread about why I'm so wishy-washy, but here's this: Has anyone else experienced this? How'd it work out?", "summary": "Girl says \"I love you\" during sex last week. I lied and said I loved her too. Told her the truth tonight and she bolted."}
{"id": "t3_3v1oe1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an Insensitive Jerk", "post": "So like many others, this happened last year but I am still mortified as our office just recently had a congratulatory card recently that reminded me of the tragedy. \n\nI work in a corporate office building, and many times theres a designated person that walks around getting all the employees to sign a happy birthday, get well, congratulations card. \nOne day I was extremely busy with audits, reports, reviews, and the girl designated for this card signing approaches me. As I am multi-tasking, she in her ninja ways sneaked up and whispered, \"hey sign this\". without any saying anything else. I didnt take a very good look at the card, and opened it up, and didnt really read or even glance what other peoples comments are and what they wrote, the girl asking me to sign the card didnt say what its for. \nI signed Happy Birthday! Enjoy - My name, gave it back and went about my work.\n\n15 minutes pass by and I get a minute to breathe, I overheard one of my staff members talk to another, saying, its so sad.. I hope they are doing ok... it was then that I noticed I fucked up. I immediately got up and asked them what they are talking about.. and they told me so and so's mother passed away. \n\nIt hit me... I just wrote happy birthday on a condolences card... \n\nI told a few specific people in the office hoping they would relay my apologies to the person I decimated with my insensitivity, but I never worked up the courage to apologize to that person face to face. No one has said anything since, but I am sure they hate me deep down.", "summary": "I was multi-tasking and not paying attention and wrote happy birthday into a condolences card for a co-worker."}
{"id": "t3_2b5h8x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "A bill paying trick that helps me track and lower monthly expenses.", "post": "This may be obvious to some, but it has helped me get a much better picture of my finances. For years I struggled with paying bills, sometimes because of low income but just as often because I was disorganized. After making simple changes to my bank account structures I don't miss bills, have lowered my spending and can understand my expenses better.\n\nThe trick is pretty simple. Open a checking account for all your reoccurring expenses. Then go about setting them all on auto-pay. Most of the time you can connect the bank numbers or use a debit card to automate payment. If you need to pay an individual or have to pay by check most banks have a bill pay feature that will send scheduled payments by check.\n\nAt first you'll need to overpay into this account because your expenses estimate might be off and you need a buffered balance. After a couple of months you'll be able to pay in almost exactly what you need. Then you can setup automatic deposit to cover all your expenses.\n\nCongratulations, your financial life is now completely automated. Did you remember to pay such and such bill? Yeah totally. Analyzing your accounts it looks like you're paying for a lot of online storage. Google sells space cheap. Consolidate accounts and save. Get hit with an unexpected bill? There's plenty of buffer in the account, just pay a bit more in to make up and move on.\n\nIt can take a while to move all your accounts over, but once you do the benefits of organization are massive. Also, once you make that one or two payments into the account per month (pay into it right when you get income) whatever remains is your spending / saving money.", "summary": "Get an account for reoccurring expenses. Set the account to auto-pay all your bills, rent, car payments, etc. It's much easier to see how much you spend and much harder to forget to pay a bill."}
{"id": "t3_3w2jvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] am confused about my feelings towards my best-friend of almost a year [24 F]", "post": "I met my current best friend online almost a year ago and we just got along instantly. We shared personal thoughts and feelings and got to the point where we talk every day, usually multiple times. We'll watch TV shows together on Netflix, play video games together or just talk when we're bored. We live a couple hours away (by car) but have spent two weekends together in person and both had a great time. When I met her, she was in a long term relationship and I was totally happy with just being her friend. She's recently single and I have been struggling with trying to figure out if I just love her like a best friend or if I'm in love with her. \n\nI've dated a couple girls in the past but have never connected with one like I have her. I'm just afraid of regretting losing this opportunity to see if we want to be more than just friends. At the same time, I'm afraid of \"What if things didn't work out?\". I wouldn't want a failed relationship to ruin our friendship. While her last relationship of many years was a very long distance relationship (different country), I don't think she'd want to jump into another one even if I only live a couple hours away. When she was going through her break-up, which she is still slightly struggling with, I remained completely neutral and was very supportive of her to choose whatever option that makes her happy. I love her and all I want is for her to be happy. But now, I find myself being sad at random times over the confusion about my feelings. \n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do so I don't regret my choice in the future? I could tell her how I feel, I'm not really afraid of whether or not she feels the same but more afraid of how her not feeling the same way would affect our friendship. I know she uses Reddit just about as much as me, and she would totally know this is about her if she read it, so I'm going to just hope that doesn't happen. I didn't really know where else to go to ask for help.", "summary": "I'm not sure if I just love my best-friend like I should a good friend or if I'm in love with her."}
{"id": "t3_s0s8x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found postage, who wants mail?", "post": "So yesterday I went to the post office to mail out some packages. I used the APC (Automated Postal Center) like I always do [saves time dealing with the lines]. I purchased some shipping labels and went to grab them below. At first I thought the machine had printed the first label wrong, but then realized it was an extra. Someone had mistakenly left it - I guess they didn't understand how the machine worked. So now I have an extra label/stamp for the city of Syosset, NY (11773). I'd be happy to send a random letter/postcard to anyone in this area. I hate seeing things go to waste. Feel free to P.M. if you'd like. Thanks.", "summary": "Have $0.65 postage to Syosset, NY (11773). Need to use it. P.M. me if you live there."}
{"id": "t3_3axy3r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by writing a fake TIFU", "post": "So, I thought I'd see how easy it could be to write a fake and yet relatively believable TIFU.\n\nAbout an hour and a half ago I had finished my masterpiece, ready to deceive all of you. This fake story involved me having sexual intercourse with two of my cousins a couple of years ago and some supposed pictures I'd taken on a disposable camera which i'd kept. The fake story went on, detailing how while I was away my mother decided to develop the pictures on said fake camera, as in this made up world we'd recently lost some family photos and she had hoped there would be some on there. In this fake story of course she went mad once eyed been developed and she's seen the non existent photos. \n\nSo now you know about the fake story, I can go back to when I'd just finished writing it - happy with my work, I went downstairs and decided to take the dog for a walk, i was about 35 minutes. I get back, my computer was off - all cords unplugged, everyone out of the house, phone off the hook. Clearly, one, or all of my parents have read this and phoned someone or something. Sorry this is terribly written I'm writing this from my phone and not in the most coherent state right now. How the fuck do I explain this one..", "summary": "I made a fake TIFU detailing false incest threesome, my family have seen it while I was out, now I'm fucked."}
{"id": "t3_cduzh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is stashing a bag of dirt in my sister's luggage a bad idea?", "post": "My sister and I have a game that's been going on for the last decade or so where we hide a bag of dirt among each others possessions.  She's going travelling in the fall and I wanted to hide it in her luggage so she'd have to cart it around for the two and a half months she's planning on going for.  I was wondering about possible implications with customs, other than a few odd looks.  She's going to Australia and the Philippines for sure as well as a couple other countries in southeast asia and I assume she'll pass through the US.  Would she get any grief about bringing in foreign contaminants or whatever?  I realize she could just throw the bag out if need be, but I don't really want that to happen.  It's a small ziplock bag of very dry soil with a bit of mulch in it, probably less than 25 grams total (<1 ounce).", "summary": "I want to put a small bag of dirt in my sister's luggage but don't know if that will get her in trouble with customs."}
{"id": "t3_1mhje2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (24M) thinks I (18F) should be 'better' than him? What..?", "post": "A little about both of us:\n\nTogether for 6 months. Its been a great learning experience for both of us and we come from similar backgrounds with a lot in common, however\n\nI tend to push him in areas where he lacks like school and work. He appreciates it and says he wouldn't be where he was without me, however, he nags me CONSTANTLY about going to the gym (I go twice a day), my eating habits(vegan), sleeping habits, and grades. His are admittedly much worse than mine.\n\nWhen I tell him \"I like you the way you are and I want you to want to improve yourself first. I don't feel like I have the authority to tell you those things\"' he tells me he holds me to a higher standard than himself.\n\nI've encouraged him to come on runs with me (he's lucky enough to be in great shape, but who doesn't want to look and feel better) buy him protein drinks to bulk up ( he says he wants to) , left him alone to study, make goals for the future to work harder, encouraged him to hang out with friends, etc, and he sits in the house all day and brushes it off.\n\nWhat do I do if I finish college before him (which is likely) or bypass him in any areas of life later down the road? How do I make him want to be better before I think I'm too good for him and leave? Is this even normal?", "summary": "boyfriend thinks I should be 'better' than him, says I'm better than him and asks why I even like him."}
{"id": "t3_2zxt2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] new girlfriend's [16 F] parents won't let us see each other", "post": "So me and this girl began seeing each other about a month ago, and have gotten quite serious quite fast and we are completely head over heels for each other.\n\nThe problem here is that we never get to see each other due to how overprotective of her parents are, she is literally never allowed outside the house . At first this wasn't too much of an issue, we'd skype everyday, she'd see me for 10/15 minutes after school at my bus stop (even this was limited as my friends would be there). Recently though, her parents have found out about me, and deemed that I am too much of a distraction from her studies, and that she is no longer allowed to see me or even Skype me.\n\nWe're now questioning where this relationship is going, and if there is anything we can do, because we're both so desperate at this moment in time. Unfortunately at this point she doesn't seem to be willing to lie to her parents so that's out of the question at the moment.", "summary": "New gf's parents are overprotective, won't let us see each other, how do we make this work"}
{"id": "t3_2h4de7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M/18] am fed up with one of my friends'[M/19] behaviour. Am I thinking to much about this ?", "post": "So, I have been friends with this guy since 6th grade. Because he lives 14km away and went to a different school than I we only talk online in voice chat room and meet IRL sometimes at a party or go for a movie night with some othe guys. But since we both finished school this year and there is a 3-4 month period of nothing to do between end of school and university starting, we have been hanging out online every day. He is rather slow and relaxed, but gets pissed really quick if something is not to his liking, which, while playing online games, happens quite often.\n\n Now most of the time I am not the target of this, but when he sees me as the cause of his anger and lashes out towards me, I react and it ends with us shouting and one of us leaving. This happend about 4 times in 7years but when it does, he goes into his sulking phase where he activly avoids me and then after a week or so, when I want to talk to him, tells me that he needed \"time away from me\". And when he goes into his sulking phase I just know that this is the phrase I am going to hear sooner or later. The cause of our anger are seldom big matters, for example I joined a rival clan of his because they asked me to be a member while his clan rejected me although I know their leader IRL. Trivial, right ? Or I denied knowing two close friends of his in front of a group of new people I met, because they made neo-nazi statements.\nThe current event was about him thinking of me as urging him to hurry up after he made some friends and myself needlessly wait on him and me calling him out on that.\n\nSo, r/relationship_advice. Are these just normal clashes among friends ? Am I thinking to much into it ? Should I change my behaviour ? As someone who doesnt become friends with someone easily and values his friendships above all, this is an important matter to me.", "summary": "Long time gaming/IRL friend actively avoids me for a week after small fights, returns saying that he needed time away from me. I am pissed about his behaviour and want to know if its justified."}
{"id": "t3_2szb56", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "17/m I'm the other guy, need help.", "post": "Hi, I am a 17 year old guy in junior year of highschool, and the other day I might have done something not all that great. I have this friend named (lets call her Patrice) who has this really shitty boyfriend(lets call him Doug) who has forced her to do some really terrible things, for instance he forced her to suck his dick, and when she asked to stop, he told her to shut up and consistently sends dick pics to other girls. To further add details on this, she's extremely dependant on him and fears to be alone which is why she hasn't ended up breaking up with her. So, anyways, my friends have been trying to hook me up with her because they want her to stop dating him, I didn't really know much about her except for that she is really fucking hot, so of course I agreed. I invited a bunch of friends over to my house to have a party. Most of them didn't end up coming, but Patrice did. We were chatting it up, until I made the grave mistake of asking her to make out (don't judge me i'm an idiot).  She was hesitant, but looked at her friend for confirmation. She, the friend, said its fine, which then led up to Patrice saying don't tell Doug (I don't really know the name suits him), so we made out. Afterwards, she felt really guilty because she still thought that she still loved him even with all the things he has done. My friends still want me to go out with her, but I don't really know how to approach it. Any advice would be great.", "summary": "made out with a girl whose boyfriend is a cunt and in a way abuses her, and I'm really questioning my ethics\u2026 Am I in the wrong?  Did I mess up?"}
{"id": "t3_m6pmm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Go out with a bang?", "post": "Not going for the Karma whoring bit but I curious to know. I'm a Healthy 26 year old dude who may or may not die on the 11th. (I'll explain just keep reading). For some reason I always pick up on the number 1111. Now I'm not one for conspiracy but every day for 21 years it has appeared in some shape or form. I use to think it was lucky for me but after time passed it seems to be the sign of bad luck. I've never been big in religion though I have pondered the relevance of its occurrence. After having tarot readings, Church guidance, random bar chat, I've come to the conclusion that the number 1111 for me is a sign of death. I know this all sounds silly but the notion has finally gotten to me. I could list prime examples as to why the number is a curse to me but I'll save that for an AMA. (like that's ever going to be a request) So with all said I feel that Friday is my last day. I thought of visiting some Veterans to give thanks (just out of respect) but that in it's self wont be a full day I'm sure.", "summary": "My last day on earth, How should I spend it?"}
{"id": "t3_fkzvs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recently broke up. My social life is in decay. How do I make the most of my last months in college?", "post": "Freshly out of a 3 year LDR. The unfortunate side effect of LDRs is the lapse in your social life. Weekdays are for school/work and the weekend is for the girlfriend. This has meant that I haven't met any new people since the dorms in Freshman year. Now, I have a good group of friends, but it's small and we're all busy with our own lives. We'll maybe hang out once or twice a month.\n\nAs I find myself freshly single, I've realized just how badly I've let my social life decay. I'll go to the occasional party here and there, but life is pretty damn boring. How in the world do I make new friends? Often advice is given to join clubs or whatever (and it works!) but the ones I'm in are socially dead and it's mid-semester so it's too late to join.\n\nSince the break up I've been to a handful of parties. I had a good time, enjoyed flirting with girls without trying too hard. But those were due to a rare set of circumstances and I don't imagine I'll be to many parties in the near future.\n\nI'm not one to despair, but with graduation so close I'm starting to think it's too little too late. Am I doomed to spend these last few months in solitude? How do you rebuild your social life after a long LDR? I'm not even 21 yet (though I will be next month) :/", "summary": "How to rebuild social life after 3 year LDR and with graduation looming."}
{"id": "t3_1b247r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (19f) selfish for being worried about my boyfriend's (18m) sudden lack of concern about school?", "post": "We've been dating for a little over a year, and recently he started to smoke weed again (he stopped at the beginning of our relationship because I had a problem with it, but now I don't mind, it's up to him, ya know?), and since then he's started to really care less about school. He hasn't gone to a single class in over a month, he sits around smoking and playing video games. I'm afraid for him, he had kind of a rough fall semester, and if he doesn't maintain a certain GPA he gets kicked out completely of the college. I really don't want to see him mess up like this, but the few times I've tried to bring it up, he tells me not to worry, he can make his own decisions, he'll be fine, etc. Of course I'm genuinely worried for *him*, and what his life will be like if he does flunk out but I'm also worried for personal reasons. Whenever he gets stressed, he tends to be kind of a jerk to me for a while. I get ignored, lashed out at, he doesn't want to be around me, and things like that which is one of the reasons I'm worried - no one likes being a target. I'm also worried because if he flunks out, he'll have to return home and that would effect our relationship. We've had disagreements about other things and he's told me that I tend to be really selfish in our relationship (even when I don't think I am), but am I selfish for being concerned about his school because of how it would affect us? Is there anything I can try to do to make him get his stuff together?", "summary": "My boyfriend has stopped caring about school completely, I'm worried about him for genuine reasons, but I'm afraid they're coming off as selfish."}
{"id": "t3_3daw7b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a car", "post": "It was about time I bought my first car and the bank was selling their \nrepos so my dad said \"Archdukeofcats, why don't you put a bid in on the\n jeep? It has 4 wheel drive for the winter and it will be relatively inexpensive!\"\n So I bid $2300 on a 2003 jeep liberty. \n     After paying for the car and sales tax and licensing and whatnot I finally \ndrove my car home. I live 30 miles away from where I bought the car so by\n the time I rolled into town I was feeling better and better about my new purchase. \n     As soon as I rolled into town I heard a warning chime. Sure enough, the red\n oil light was on. Since I was only a few blocks from home I stopped at a gas station\n and checked the dipstick which said the oil level was fine so I  bought a couple of \nquarts of oil and went home. \n     The next morning (today) I went out to take a look at the car. I agreed to take\n my friend to work so I could see if anything was still wrong with it. \n     As soon as I left I knew something much worse was up. The car shook like crazy \nwhile idling and it barely accelerated in first gear, halted and started in second, and \nonce I convinced it to shift to third, slowed until it shifted back into second or first. I \nbarely made it home.", "summary": "I bought a $2500 box with wheels. "}
{"id": "t3_z11sp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Past issues I thought I had come to terms with came back to the surface and I wasn't prepared.  27M 20F", "post": "About 10 months ago my GF(20F) of 1 year told me(27M) about her past as an escort.  It was completely against her will and started as just rapes organized by her at the time BF.   I thought I had dealt with this.  Literally didn't think about it for months now.  \n\nThen we were watching Drive and she started acting funny when the shoot out started and as he's holding the girl down on the motel bed.  She was reacting to the gun violence, but it triggered my mind.  And it all came flooding back.  To be clear I'm not upset with her.  Never blamed her, still don't.  Her life was hell and when you have no support bad stuff happens easily.\n\nHowever I can't stop thinking about wanting to bring harm to her ex.  I've caught myself looking for him as I drive to work (he works down the street) again.  Literally feeling sick today that this guy is out there walking around enjoying life like nothing happened.  Also upset with myself that I am this obsessed with wanting to crush someone's world when I've never even met him.\n\nI love this girl to death, she means everything to me.  She's off her meds now and dealing with it herself so she's not as willing to talk about it at the moment.  So I feel completely stuck.  I've dealt with it before but I had her help.\n\nAnyone have any advice?  We move 1.5 hours from home into an apartment together in 4 days so at least driving by the motels she used to be taken to is not going to be an issue anymore.  But that guy is still just down the street.  I know the obvious \"talk to her\" and will be, but right now I'm so stressed with Moving, work, getting my car fixed, etc to really have a proper conversation.", "summary": "Thought I was over GFs troubled past.  Came flooding back a few days ago and I've worked myself sick thinking about it.  Looking for advice on how to get over this again."}
{"id": "t3_1iubc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] and one of my friends [20F] of 4 years, am I just a rebound?", "post": "I've known this girl for almost 4 years. When we first met, I was with someone else so we just stayed friends. That relationship I was in doesn't work out and we end it shortly after. So 1 year later, she gets a boyfriend. I would lie if i said I didn't find her attractive, but she was with someone so I made up my mind that she would just remain a good friend, nothing more. But still I would talk to her on the phone every now and then just to catch up.\n\nFast forward to about 3 months ago, she calls me and we talk like always, and she confides in me that her boyfriend will be leaving the country for a year for a mission trip. She even says, \"You're the only one I've told.\" I knew at that point they were going to break up. 2 months later, a month ago, I receive a text, \"Are you busy?\" So we talk again, and she lets me know that they broke up, etc. I'm the first person she called right after it happened. I outright asked her why didn't she call one of her girl friends, why me? She said that was out her top 5 friends, I was the only guy and that we're pretty close. That's fine, we're good friends I can be there to listen and talk you through the breakup. I only initiated conversation twice during the first week just to make sure everything was okay. \n\nThis past Friday, she just calls out of the blue and just starts talking like normal. She didn't have an agenda or a reason to call, it was just talking for the sake of talking? At the end, the usual good-bye and good night, and then she says \"love you\" before hanging up.\n\nWas that just a slip up? Since then she's texted me Saturday and Sunday, again with no agenda. Just talking about random things. Does she have feelings for me now? So now I'm almost positive I'm just the rebound? If I am, is this something I should persue?", "summary": "Long time friend goes through breakup, I help her through it. Now she's friendlier with me"}
{"id": "t3_3snsmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my husband[40M] and parents [60sF/M], married 10 years, Thanksgiving plans crisis", "post": "My husband and I have been married 10 years and have two kids under 6. We live about 90 minutes from my parents. I'm not super-close with them but generally have a good relationship. \n\nFor the last few years, we've hosted my parents and sister for Thanksgiving. We enjoy cooking and hosting, and honestly it's easier and more comfortable for the kids. We were going to do the same this year. \n\nBut this year, plans are suddenly up in the air because:\n\n* My mom just got out of  the hospital for something fairly serious, and is a little iffy on making the drive.\n\n* My sister moved out-of-state over the summer and is driving back on Thanksgiving, but won't make it to their place until around 5 in the evening. My house is even further.\n\nSo my parents would like to host this year, both to save them the drive and so Sis can be at the dinner more easily. My husband says dinner can be at their house but he wants to make the turkey. I told my parents this and they basically think it's a lot of trouble. I also think it's a lot of trouble and borderline rude to insist on bringing the main dish. My husband was pissy when I told him this. My suggestion he talk to them and work it out did not go over well. (Possibly because I was pissy about him being pissy by that point.)\n\nSo, what should I tell my parents to avoid this turning into a huge fight where everybody feels insulted? I honestly don't care who makes the stupid turkey as long as I get to eat some.", "summary": "Husband wants to make T'giving turkey. Parents also want to host meal. How do I keep everybody happy?"}
{"id": "t3_3w99ug", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Somehow managed to get a date for tonight. Help.", "post": "I exited a long term relationship in the beginning of the summer a little broken up (not too bad, but I knew I wasn't in a spot to begin dating right away.) Needless to say, I haven't been on a date  in a while, but I reconnected with a high school crush in the middle of the summer (still a babe imo, btw) and we went out a few times and had some fun (nothing physical.) It fizzled out, we lost contact for a month, no big deal.... We crossed paths again yesterday, and in an almost knee-jerk reaction I decided to just let her know how I feel to at least get it off my chest. Much to my surprise, I was met with a similar reaction to mine and we instantly decided to make a date for tonight.\nHere's where I need the help... So far the date is Game Cube and chill. We've admitted attraction to each other. I don't want to eff this up.", "summary": "What are first dates supposed to be like again?"}
{"id": "t3_4eyqpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] have made mistakes making my intentions clear to [18/F] and I may have made it unnecessarily complicated", "post": "I have known this girl for about a year, and I am certain I like her and I am almost certain she likes me. She has done all kinds of things convince me she likes me. \n\nWe had food together (just the two of us) a few weeks ago, she got tinder the moment I mentioned it in a conversation, and she kissed me on the neck and cheek at a party the other week. There seems to have been some attempts to make me jealous. My friends mentioned her and another friend was about to go into a relationship when that clearly wasn't the case, they were both clearly not really into it. When I was mentioned in a similar context she almost died of embarrassment (she hid under her arms for a few minutes and went bright pink). We have also told each other very deep and painful parts of our lives, and she has been very good with me about it and said she would always be there for me.\n\nHowever, I think I have not been responding in the right way. When she kissed me I was tipsy and quite shocked so I didn't kiss her back like I really wanted to. I also told her I didn't want a GF a few months ago, when I did but thought that she was too high up socially, and later on she said she didn't want a BF for very similar reasons to me. I also got interrupted today so I didn't get a chance to ask her out like I wanted to. She seems to have been quite down in the dumps this week, and I have only talked to her twice. She told me some sad things about her and I wanted to hug her so badly, but If I had I think I would have been laughed at by others.\n\nI really haven't got any idea of what to do, and I don't see her again until Monday at least. I don't want to ask her out by text since that is really impersonal. Ideas?", "summary": "She likes me, I like her. I have made a ton of mistakes and made my intentions unclear. Unsure how to solve."}
{"id": "t3_2xkzs2", "subreddit": "self", "title": "It's been almost 3 years since graduating high school, and I still don't know what I want to study for in college. I don't know a better place to post this.", "post": "Hello, and thank you for reading.\n\nI am 21 years old, and I graduated in 2012 from high school. I tried going to community college, and I didn't like the atmosphere at all. All of the students and even the teachers didn't want to be there, and felt like it was a joke. All the teachers did was give us busy work (except for one good teacher in psychology) and every day there was a bore. I like to learn, but this was just recital of information that isn't relevant or pragmatic.\n\nThere are so many subjects I am interested in. I am terrible at mathematics, but I love science, especially natural science. All I hear is that \"there are no jobs for enviro sci majors!\" ad nauseam.\n\n**Subjects I am passionate about**:\nClimate change,\nAstronomy/biology (astrobiology),\nAlternative energy,\nPaleontology,\nWeather/Atmospheric science,\nGIS,\nAlternative farming/agriculture,\nMany others that I can't think of at the moment.\n\nI am being pressured by my family to go to college while we can afford it, as every year it goes up and our pay stays the same. I can't decide if it's better to save that money instead of spending it on a college degree that may be useless. I want to do something that uses my intelligence while being paid well for it, but who doesn't?\n\nI apologize if this is the wrong subreddit, and I can always delete this post and crosspost it to another if this upsets anyone.", "summary": "I want to go to college. I can't decide what major, between balancing what I am passionate about and what is realistically going to allow me to live a steady life. I don't want to keep putting college off even more than I already have, and at the same time I am afraid that maybe I'm making the best decision by *not* going to college, and potentially wasting the very little money I have and putting myself in debt."}
{"id": "t3_1l4i4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [18F] overreacting about my boyfriend's [20M] relationship with his past fling?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while, but had a breakup in January after he started his first semester at a new school. During the time we were broken up, he had a fling with a girl over a period of close to two months. He would spend the night at her apartment frequently but as far as I know, it didn't progress past making out and some groping. She admitted she had feelings for him, and he ended the physical part of their relationship because he didn't feel the same way. We got back together in late June.\n\nMy issue here is that they are still best friends, and he hangs out with her, or her and her roommates (who are also his friends), nearly every day. I'm not a jealous person when it comes to his other female friends, but because of him being back in the place where our relationship ended and his physical involvement with this other girl began, I can't stop feeling horrible. I trust him, and I love him, but I don't know her well enough to trust her. His opinion is that I need to just \"get over it,\" but that's been really difficult. I asked him if he could potentially cut down on the time he spends with her to two to five days a week instead of every day, which he felt was an \"unreasonable request.\"\n\nI know I'm being jealous, but the amount of time he spends with this girl is really bothering me, and the way it's causing me to feel is putting our relationship in danger. Help?", "summary": "Boyfriend wont cut down on hanging out with a previous fling he had during a break, and it's bothering me quite a lot recently."}
{"id": "t3_4p7zy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my cougar co-worker flirting with me? Serious advice please.", "post": "I'm a 21 year old male. I work with a woman who Is a lot older than me who I think might be flirting with me. Anyways I'm going to give examples on what she does and I just want to know if she is really flirting, or maybe is very nice.\n\n1. She jokes around with me a lot. I noticed she played with her hair one time we talked. She also excessively blinks but Ive yet to see her do that with any other co-worker.\n\n2. I was sitting with her one day talking about the uniforms we have to wear. I noticed her eyes were a certain color and I told her about it. I said green eyes are very rare. She said \"I should wear this shirt color more often then\" (To bring out the color of her eyes)\n\n3. When we joke around she sometimes hits my arm.\n\n4. At some point I hadn't talked to her for a while cause work kept us in different areas of the building. She came up to me and said she hasn't seen me in a while.\n\n5. She complimented my hair saying it looks good. I complimented her sometime later that day she doesn't look to bad herself. Didn't get an amazing reaction though.\n\nAnyways last week on Friday when we left work I saw her leaving and I stopped to tell her we should hang out sometime. She said \"Sounds good\" and walked away. I was on the phone. I didn't say anything to her after that. I don't know if I'm reading this right but is that a bad sign? Not sure if she wants me to pursue her or back off.", "summary": "Is this older woman flirting with me?"}
{"id": "t3_iytz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dropping everything and leaving my life behind tonight, any suggestions?", "post": "I'm packing up my shit and leaving tonight. I'm a 20 year old male who's been dicked around by just about everyone in his life (\"omg 20 years old get over it\"), and is sick of it. I'm not stupid, I realize this is a bad idea, but I really have nothing left. My parents have been promising to sign school loans for three years and have yet to fulfill that promise (which is fine, I don't care anymore). I have been living with my grandparents house and sharing a car with them for about a year now, which is making me feel worse, because who wants to share a car with their grandparents? I was going to move in with my girlfriend in a week and start a new job in the city, but she changed her mind and said she \"wasn't ready for us to move in together\" after knowing each other for 10+ years, so I decided breaking it off with her would be for the best. I'm not doing this as some pretentious, angst-driven statement against my parents or anyone else, I just want some different for myself, and this isn't cutting it for me. Anyway, my question is, any tips for someone who's about to take off with $200 in their pocket and a duffel bag full of clothes? Have any redditors ever done something like this before?", "summary": "$200 to my name, bag full of everything I own, making my own way with no one else. Tell me what to do."}
{"id": "t3_18os18", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do i (26m) go after a shy girl (25f) i know likes me?", "post": "There's this girl who i know likes me. We've met on a few nights out with mutual friends and even kissed on our first night out. Alcohol played a part. But it didn't make us like each other. I saw a great connection that first night.\n\nSo we've had a coffee date last week and it was good. She dressed nice for it. But no flirting or touching. And friday night we were at another friends party and i just wanted to have some fun and see how we both felt. I saw lots of signs that she doesn't like me less because she often looked over to my eyes and she sometimes came over to talk. But she didn't pick up on my flirting touching, nudging and shoulder/arm touches. So i pulled back on the touching and just remained confused. She likes me. My mates thinks there's good potential there. No bad signs. Except this shyness. Can girls really not know how to flirt? It's mad because this girl is great at playing and teasing me right back. But the sexual stuff isn't there. I thought by this stage we'd be back to where we were on the first night but alas no.\n\nI'm going to ask her out for a drink next weekend. I hope we can get away from that darn coffee table date and have some fun together.\n\nI find it hard to believe that GIRLS don't know how to flirt. But funny enough last night some girls were asking me if guys are shy. Haha, god yeah. Not me, but yes. So i guess i should accept that girls equally fail on a skill that we take for granted each sex should have in the pocket.\n\nHow do i embark on pursing a girl who doesn't know how to flirt? It's so confusing but mostly it's difficult to get closer to her. I'm not great at flirting but all i need is that little encouragement to get closer that i'm not getting. Shy girls, what is going through your mind?", "summary": "Girl is shy and doesn't flirt with me. How is it possible to get closer to someone so shy?"}
{"id": "t3_1zyfd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (18/M) write to this girl (18/F) i met at the club the other night?", "post": "Hey guys\nI'm not sure if this is the right subreddit, but here it goes.\n\nSo this past week I was in a foreign country with some friends. We went to a club one night and met a group of girls and shared a table with them. \n\nThis one girl and I started dancing and in no time we were making out. I don't know for how long, could have been 5 minutes, could have been 30 (too drunk to remember). I don't remember how we were separated either. \nWe were supposed to meet them again the day after, but for some reason we were late and many of them just went home. She didn't though. \n\nThey were three girls who had waited for us. We went to a bar that night and I sat down next to her. We talked, but the conversation didn't go to any personal level. \n\nWe ended that night with a quick hug. The day after I (and my group of friends) went back home. I added her on facebook.\n\nIt has now been 4 days since the night we were making out and I just feel so empty. Now I'm always tired and quiet and just can't stop thinking about her. I want to write to her, but I don't even know if she feels the same way. \n\nSo my questions are\nDo I write to her or not?\nIf yes, what do I write?", "summary": "Met a girl at a club in a foreign country. Now I'm home and don't know if and what I should write to her."}
{"id": "t3_hgarw", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Reddit, how can I deal with my bitchy roommate?", "post": "I live in a two bedroom apartment with two girls in each room bedroom. Recently, one of the girls from the other room decided that the best way to tell us things was through passive-aggressive notes put in certain places as seen here:  (those are not the only ones). \n\nOn top of that, she now decides that she hates my boyfriend because he comes over too often (in MY room, where she doesn't even have to see him), and because he doesn't lock the door when he leaves. She has called him a \"douchebag\", \"faggot\", \"dick\", etc. straight to my face, and told me to tell him to go home. She has no reason to even think that because all he's ever been is respectful to her and has even done favors for him.\n\nThe thing is, if she had been nice about it and told me directly that she had problems with something, I would be much more susceptible to change. But when she simply leaves notes all over the place and then blows up and bitches people out when things don't change, I have no respect for her.\n\nWhat should I do? :/", "summary": "Roommate is a passive-aggressive bitch who lacks communication skills and brain cells. Apparently hates my boyfriend and doesn't want me to have him over. How do I deal?"}
{"id": "t3_4nzkkh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend[19F] 4 months, long distance ideas?", "post": "Me and my gf met each other online and still have not seen each other in person. That has not stopped us and we video chat often, and even fall asleep to each others faces on Skype. \n\nI will be leaving for the military and am putting together an \"Open When\" letter box for her and stuff to hold her over while I a away. Yes, I know it usually works the other way but I wanted to surprise her.\n   \nAnyway, I will be putting things like photos and gifts. She is worried because she has gotten used to falling asleep with me like over the phone. I want some ideas on how to like... be there when i'm not there. I don't know about a video or voicemail that she will play on a loop because I feel like she will over play it and it will lose it's meaning. What are some ideas for a long distance couple that wants to feel like the other is there when we can't be?", "summary": "video chat a lot and sleep together over phone. How can I simulate this \"being there\" when she cant call me?"}
{"id": "t3_283x75", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by comparing one of the most famous and loved Canadian Prime Ministers to Hitler in front of my whole class.", "post": "Today I had to do a short presentation on Pierre Trudeau. For those of you who don't know, Trudeau is one of Canada's most well loved and respected Prime Ministers. He was extremely charming, a great public speaker and was the person that made Canada officially bilingual. He's a pretty big deal up here.\n\nSo during my presentation that I was not prepared for I tried to get people to understand how charming he really was. I was not prepared at all and had hoped that I would just people to put something together while I was up there since we had been studying him for the last week. I planned on just showing a video of a speech of his but I couldn't find one in the moment.\n\nSo when I decided to make a comparison. Where does my mind go? Hitler. Hitler was a very inspiring leader, he managed to get an entire country of people to rely on his every word. I thought the way Trudeau charmed the Canadian people could be compared to the way Hitler inspired the German people. The comparison made perfect sense in my head\n\nI tried to choose my words carefully when making the comparison. Unfortunately I wasn't careful enough. Then I said it.\n\n\"Trudeau was as charming as Hitler was inspiring.\"\n\nMy teacher immediately gasped. I quickly realized that not only did I just compare one of the most loved Canadian leaders to Hitler but I also made it sound like Hitler inspired me. I sounded like a fucking Neo-Nazi. I quickly corrected myself and explained what I meant but it was too late. You can't compare someone to Hitler and make a full recovery. It was a complete train wreck from that point on", "summary": "Tried to make a comparison, now I'm a Neo-Nazi."}
{"id": "t3_xauqd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is there a chance that I [19/m] am screwing this up with my (19/f) girlfriend?", "post": "We've developed an extremely strong semi-long distance relationship. She only drinks on very few occasions and only smokes hookah every once in a while. I smoke weed/tobacco, drink, and do other drugs almost daily. She says she doesn't care, but I still refuse to smoke a tobacco product in front of her. We both fully plan on staying together throughout college and eventually ending up together. She seems to truly not care and we both believe that I will calm down as I develop more of a routine and grow up, and I believe that at this age if we are to stay together this age is the last chance I have to do these 'wild' things.", "summary": "Do you believe that I should give up this habits right now, just in case she is bottling up feelings and actually DOES care about those things, or should I just allow myself to naturally quit?"}
{"id": "t3_3y7km4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU making my boyfriend cry", "post": "Obligatory: was roughly three weeks ago, am on mobile, etc. \nI'm a vicious girlfriend. So I like to think. I figured what's better than pranking my boyfriend two days before his birthday? I pick up him for school every morning and we tend to say sweet good mornings then do our thing until I pick him up. But today was different. I didn't text him first (which is odd, considering I get up half an hour before him). He texted me \"good morning baby\". Here is my vicious prank. \nI replied \"we need to talk, I don't want to do it over text. We'll talk when I pick you up.\" Cue twenty minute lapse in which I finished getting ready and drove to his house. \nI had nothing to talk about, was just putting the fear of God into him. He got in my car, looking upset as all hell. I begin to laugh as he states he was listening to a depressing song and briefly cried. I tell him I'm fucking with him, we brush it off and kiss. It's how our relationship goes, we do vicious pranks like that. \nLater that day, we go to dinner. His family, his brothers girlfriend and I. Here's the real FU. He decided he wanted revenge, so he began being an asshole. Wouldn't talk to me, look at me and being a dick. Cue emotional girlfriend going to the bathroom and crying (I was on my cycle and holy hormones, batman). Spent like 10 minutes, entire family knew what was up. I didn't brush it off as well as he had earlier, but damn, our relationship is something strong.", "summary": "made boyfriend cry, kissed and all was better until he made me cry that night"}
{"id": "t3_npb4z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you say/do if life were like Reddit, and you had the freedom to edit or even change your identity/username?", "post": "I experience minor anxiety where I constantly worry that my words and actions will be misinterpreted or called out. I think this had led to my drifting away from friends and family. Now that the holidays are here I wish that I could stop feeling this way. I even find myself editing my responses here to be as PC as possible.\n\nNevertheless I realize that I can say more in Reddit than I can in real life. I would stand up to my future mother in law if I knew that I could delete the memory of it later. Maybe this will give me inspiration to do so. Thanks!", "summary": "Tell me what you would do if you seized the day!"}
{"id": "t3_1y4vg8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my GF [26 F] 11 months, Long distance", "post": "I am an Indian. I was working in Mexico last year. I met a really smart, Independent girl. We went on few dates and she proposed to me. I was shocked at first. Because, this is the first time somebody has told those wonderful words to me. I am usually rejected in India as I'm dark skinned than other people (Yes, Racism exists big time in India). Everything was fine. I was very happy for the first time in my life. I never knew relationships can be so good. But, then came a day where I'd to leave to my home country as my Job assignment in Mexico was over. We decided to stay in touch and maintain a long distance relationship.\n\nBut, today she said lets just be friends because she feels lonely as I'm very far. She says, it's difficult for her. I literally cried over phone. She tried to console me. I was trying to stop crying and listened to her. Even after \"the\" breakup call i cried for more than 2 hours. I'd never cried so much in life. May be it's because this is the first \"real\" relationship I've been in. Or, May be I'm not sure whether i can find such a girl who'll love me so much.\n\nThere's a very bad tradition of \"arranged marriage\" in India which i don't want to do. I'm so much confused right now. I'm starting my masters degree in 2 months and all she said was to concentrate on studies and give us more time. I dunno if i can really concentrate on anything right now.\n\nI feel it's all my fault. I should've tried to travel at least once. But, One time travel from India to Mexico is equivalent to my 3 months salary.\n\nPlease help me. I am really depressed and confused right now. I am a loner and i don't have any really good friends to share my feeling with. I cannot talk to my parents as they'll advice on \"arranged marriage\". I know it's a long post. But, I'm clueless.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2j6fj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [25/M] is on the verge of breaking up with me, and it's all my fault. Please help, Reddit.", "post": "Just for some background: my boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half.  I love him immensely. \n\nI have bipolar disorder, coupled with a whole host of other issues (mainly the fact that I was sexually abused as a child).  I take medication and have weekly therapy sessions.  I've recently decided to try group therapy/outpatient treatment.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately.  I try to stop the fighting, but I feel like it's impossible.  Every time we talk, I seem to end up starting a fight.  He says I need to take responsiblity for my problems and stop treating him like shit. He says that he resents me because I take all my anger/pain/etc. out on him.  I feel like there are problems in the way he treats me (namely, his anger towards me), but I also do feel that I'm treating him poorly.  \n\nI know I have a lot of problems.  My life is so lonely; the only people I really see are him, my coworkers, sometimes my parents, and occasionally a college friend that I don't actually like.  I spend most of my time alone.  I have a lot of anger towards the person who sexually abused me--anger that I haven't dealt with.   I don't know why I keep driving him away like this.  I just can't seem to stop fucking things up; it's like I totally black out and autopilot takes over.  \n\nSometimes I feel like I want to hurt myself, because I'm just so frustrated with myself.  I can't seem to stop treating him badly.\n\nSo how do I stop this?  I'm already seeing professionals; I just wanted to see if I could get some outside perspective.  I apologize if this is incoherent; I'm really really freaking out right now.", "summary": "I'm bipolar and angry and can't stop emotionally abusing my boyfriend.  Any help would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_41fz0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 7 years have vastly different sexual pleasures. Is this something that will become a constant sore point for the rest of our lives?", "post": "Me and my long term girlfriend have been together for a little over 7 years now. We have been in a long distance relationship for the past 3 years due to our studies. We long our virginities to each other and from there we began to explore a bit.\n\nI have been watching porn for 10 years and have built up various fetishes and sexual desires. My girlfriend on the other hand had barely begun to touch herself when we met and had little to no idea about what she liked or what she wanted to try. So we used my 'knowlegde' to try several things and see what we liked.\n\nDuring this time we tried several things ranging from your normal passionate sex to public sex and from mild bdsm to anal. What became clear after several years of exploring is that we both have quite different tastes. She prefers passionate normal sex and occasionally being restrained. I'm into things such as anal play and exhibitionism. She is very specific about what she likes now and I'm still very open and willing to do pretty much anything. This is starting to bring a bit of conflict as I become bored with all of these restrictions she has now put in place so that she stays in her comfort zone.\n\nIt's difficult for us both to enjoy sex to its fullest extent at the same time as I want to do certain things that she won't do and she wants to do things that we've done a thousand times and don't really excite me anymore.\n\nI'm not going to pack in the relationship over this as I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I want to know if this is going to be a source of conflict for the rest of our relationship, and if anyone has any advice or ideas regarding this?", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are into different things in a sexual sense. How do we reduce or deal with conflict regarding this?"}
{"id": "t3_2x1yfv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking my dog and ruining a childhood", "post": "I own a moderately sized beagle (16kg) and I go on regular walks after school. Whilst walking down the street i spot a little girl with her mum who looked about 5 years old get excited by my dog's pressence. Not thinking i drop the leach and my dog goes barrowing towards, midway i realise my stupidity as my dog jumps ontop of her scratching her face and arms. Immediately I go and try to get my dog off her, in the struggle i accidently shoved the girl over and onto the gravel road. The mum rushed to her aid as I watched, the girl was covered in scratches and crying. I apologised profusly as the mum gave me a piercing stare. Needless to say I ran away with my tail between my legs.", "summary": "Walked my dog and probably gave a girl a phobia of dogs."}
{"id": "t3_yjhce", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing how to change a tire", "post": "Not today, but yesterday.\n\nI was picking my gf from the airport. She was flying from Alaska, so she had quite a long day of travel- about 23 hours worth of flying/layover. We were on the interstate coming back home when my right-front tire blows out. I pull over to the shoulder, and start to panic. She asks me \"aren't you going to put the spare on?\" I explain that coming from a place where driving wasn't really necessary, I never actually learned how to change a tire. Now I *really* start to panic and call my dad. He comes 45 minutes later. We then discover that neither of us has a tire iron, so he essentially came for nothing. Finally, I call a roadside service and they come to change the tire themselves. The attendant warns us not to stay to close to the road when I say \"well, you be careful too! I don't want you to get hit!\" He replies with \"wouldn't be the first time.\" Now the spare is on, and we arrive home 4 hours later than we should have.", "summary": "Blew tire, manhood questioned, crazy guy puts on spare"}
{"id": "t3_1mzj1j", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I finally took Tank to an animal behaviorist. I can't believe I waited so long.", "post": "I [posted a few months back] about behavioral issues with my dog, Tank, when visiting new places. Sadly, the girl I was seeing and I have been on the outs the last few weeks so he hasn't been exposed to that environment again. Alas, I moved forward and scheduled an appointment with a certified dog behaviorist. \n\nTank also doesn't like being in the car so the hour and a half ride was, to say the least, trying. He was having a bad day from the start. We arrived at the behaviorist's facility and went into her office. Within two minutes of being in there he started his routine. Screaming, whining, panic, breathing hard, etc. We had to remove him from the office to calm down so we could train. The behaviorist said that his level of fear and anxiety was the worst she had ever seen. \n\nShe fitted Tank for a head collar, which he hated from the start just as predicted. We walked a good bit with the head collar on Tank until he began to grow accustomed to it being on. He met some horses, I did some positive reinforcement, and he calmed down and began to act normally. We did a exercise that involved walking Tank in and out of her office a few times without stopping and then starting to pause inside for increasing amounts of time before leaving. \n\nBy the end of our visit he was exploring her office, eating cheese, being friendly, and had virtually ceased whining. He was still displaying anxiety in the form of breathing fast and body language but not anywhere near what he was doing. The difference was night and day.\n\nThe behaviorist ended up suggesting an anxiety medication for three to six months to take some of the edge off in addition to a daily training regimen. I won't go into the details here but it is easy and it makes sense. Tank and I have a long road ahead of us but I look forward to working with Tank and getting him to a point where he can be just as happy outside of my home as he is inside of it.", "summary": "My dog has serious fear/anxiety issues when visiting places other than home. I took him to a certified animal behaviorist and it has been, so far, extremely helpful. I highly recommend it to anyone who has a dog with severe behavioral issues."}
{"id": "t3_1eez79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Former roommates took my returned security deposit. What do I do?", "post": "Hello Reddit. The problem in the title has been presented to me recently and I don't know how to approach it. Last August I was desperately looking for an apartment before college started and settled on moving in with two friends, who were a couple. Here's a breakdown I'll try to keep as unbiased as possible.\n\n* We each paid $367.\n* The girl in the couple was preggers at the time.\n* I did not physically sign the lease because I had no means of transportation at the time. I sent them the money and they signed it. \n* The lease was for August through the end of April.\n* I stayed until January. An individual apartment that I had originally wanted and applied for way before I took the apartment with my friends opened and I took they opportunity because 1) They said they were fine with it and 2) They needed room for the baby\n* During my stay, the girl had a job some of the time, I had a job the entire time, and the guy didn't have a job because he played baseball at the university.\n*Also during my stay I paid for cable/internet to be installed and paid all of the cable/internet bills. They were ~$100/month. They paid for utilities (~$50 or less/month) and did give me some food from time to time. (They had food stamps). \n* I told them when I moved out if they need help, to ask me.\n* Found out today when checking about the deposit, they claim they had to pay $400 to clean the apartment (which was already pretty spiffy, just a few carpet stains), $100 for cleaning supplies, and the guy had to sell his car to make ends meet. \n\nWhat do I do in this situation? I'm in a bind where I need my money back. I also don't want to be a dick and make them pay me back. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Former roommates took my security deposit without telling me. I need the money, but don't want to be a dick. Some expensive claims were made."}
{"id": "t3_3ejha1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by becoming the classic \"douchebag boss\".", "post": "I will preface this fuck up by saying that this did in fact happen today and I feel pretty bad about it still. \n\nIt began just like every other day, the sun was shining gloriously and there was still a slight hint of summer dew in the air... Oh man wouldn't that be annoying, no worries I'll make it short and sweet. \n\nI work in a coffee shop and I had just arrived to see that the shift team before me had done absolutely nothing they were required to do, swell. As I began to run around frantically like a decapitated chicken a horde of baby faced tourists walks into my shop, basically any customer service worker's worst nightmare in a nutshell. To express my frustration  I turn to my coworker whom I had been talking to as she was leaving and stupidly said \"Welp we're about to get raped\". Insert silence here. Turns out she is a rape victim and I brilliantly forgot about the emotional confessional she had shared with me not even a week before. She didn't respond, walked out the door, and never looked back. Luckily I get to work with her for 4 hours tomorrow so that should be pleasantly awkward.", "summary": "Offhandedly joked about rape with a rape victim."}
{"id": "t3_2khfvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 1 month, Pregnency Scare and How To Handle the Situation", "post": "First and foremost I've been dating this girl for about a month. No complaints in that regard. A great girl and a very healthy relationship.\n\nToday marked the day where we got over our first pregnancy scare. We have been using condoms and noticed one time after sex that the condom had broke towards the end of sex and were not sure how to handle the situation. We bought a Plan-B pill and luckily she just got her period so all is well.\n\nThe problem I am having is I REALLY want her to go on the pill to prevent these future scenarios, but her parents are the conservative religious type who think she is not having sex, therefore there is no need for birth control. I explained to her that it would give both me and the family peace of mind knowing we are being safe, and things like this wouldn't happen from here on out. \n\nShe then said her parents are pretty closed minded in this regard, and that I should try and explain to them the situation. I have a hard time envisioning myself talking to her parents about this and being the one to break it to her that she is not a virgin and that it is MY request she goes on the pill. If that is what it takes I will, but it just doesn't make sense to me that I am responsible for all of this.\n\nMy question is what do I do from here? It is just not in my interest to be a father at this age, and I have a hard time accepting her parents being so ignorant to the decision of making this choice for her. I don't want to go through the turmoil of what I just went through, and this would make me feel A LOT better from her on out having sex with her.\n\nWould it be resonable for me to bring her to a doctor on our own and do it against her parents discretion?", "summary": "Pregnency scare with girlfriend, ended up fine, found out her parents do not believe she has sex, doesn't want her on birth control, now girlfriend wants me to talk to parents about birth control. How do you handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_47qbx9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally overdosing on dextroamphetamine (ADD medication) on the day of my endwork presentation. [NSFW]", "post": "So yesterday was a rough day. I still had a LOT of work to do, things like making the actual scale model of the home design I presented today and the powerpoint presentation.\n\nI was able to make a presentable presentation, but only got 4 hours of sleep because of it. I think the lack of sleep is what caused my body to be incapable of processing my normally prescribed dosage this morning.\n\nSo today as I arrived at school I already knew I was sweating a hell of a lot more than I was supposed to. Feeling cold and sweaty is a miserable feeling. Though I assumed it was just a common cold or something. That all changed when I checked my armpits. Seriously I regret wearing a gray shirt today.\n\nMy armpits were just *drained* with sweat.\n\nI could feel the sweat drip down my arm pits drop by drop every minute, what just made more nervous. After an hour my sweater was no longer able to contain the sweat, and it was so visible I didn't even need to lift my arms for people to notice. It didn't make me feel awkward towards my friends, I just laugh it off with them.\n\nBut then it was time for me to present my design to the external jury. 7 well respected teachers and architects gave me 30 min of their time for me to defend my work.\n\nI just know that they noticed it and it distracted them and it distracted me. Too awkward for them to mention it. Too awkward for me to not ignore it. Yet I accepted the awkwardness and was able to give a somewhat terrible presentation because I got verbal ticks along with the overdose. But they loved the design at least after I explained everything twice.\n\nAfter school was done I took a piss before I went home, which was also a bad idea. It felt like passing a kidney stone and gave me a throbbing painful erection for a good 30 minutes.\n\nNow here I am, sitting at home because I can't stop sweating, feeling exhausted, heartbeat still around 100.\nI'm just having a bad day.", "summary": "Overdose, Cold and sweaty, Verbal ticks, during and after my cringe-worthy presentation. Having a bad day."}
{"id": "t3_3lvndu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have slept with my roommate [29 F] multiple times. When I start dating another woman, how should I bring it up?", "post": "I met her about 7 months ago and we had sex on and off the first 5 months or so.  We haven't done it in about 2.  I don't have any romantic feelings for her.  I'm worried that if I start dating someone and she finds out I've slept with my roommate, who's fairly attractive, she'll get jealous/mad/weird/etc.  She might break up with me for it, I don't know.  I know if I dated a woman who has slept with her roommate I'd be pretty paranoid.  I'm just wondering if and how to bring this up should the problem arise.", "summary": "Slept with roommate.  Don't know how to tell potential future partners."}
{"id": "t3_4ndoc4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "four months down and I've never felt better!", "post": "Ok honestly I'm not sure how long it has been since starting this healthy living lifestyle. But I'd like to take a few to tell about my awesome progress. So at starting I weight 160lbs, I wore 1x shirts, and size 13 pants. Standing at 5'11 I reAlize that is a healthy weight for someone my height but I never felt good. I was always tired and in constant pain (still not sure why but sure it had something to do with wheat). After starting goin to the gym two times a week I started to feel good. I started having more energy. I tracked my calories and cut bread and sugary drinks out of my diet. Then I started becoming addicted to the gym and started going seven days a week mainly cardio. Which I no isn't good but you'll be happy to hear I cut it down to 4-5 days. when I first began at the gym I could barely lift 120lbs with the leg press now I'm doing 170lbs 70 times. I'm toning my \"thick\" thighs and its noticeably! Yay. And when I went shopping today I notice I'm now down to a size 8 in jeans!!!!!!! Like what and to make things better a size m/l in shirts!!!! And to think I did this to be \"skinny\" now I'm doing this to be fit! So anyone who's feeling like giving it up, don't just keep going you'll notice progress soon! And I guess I should mentioned I weighed my self last night as I'm down to 144lbs!!!!! Believe me people my fitness pal is your friend!!! Best of luck to everyone who reads this. Keep on living a happy healthy life! Thanks for listening to my brag.", "summary": "four months down of counting calories, and hard work at the gym lost 16lbs gained some good leg strength."}
{"id": "t3_3ut6m9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M], am turned on by the fact that my girlfriend [25 F], has had a lot of sexual partners and one night stands.", "post": "As per the title.\n\nI have been with my partner for over 2 years, and the thought that she has has a lot of sexual partners is quite arousing to me, and i'm not really sure why that is.\n\nPrior to being with her, I had been with my previous partner for almost 4 years, and she had only had sex with one person. I couldn't stand the thought that she had been with someone before me. \n\nIm just wondering if anyone else has found this, and if its a normal? I don't really know why my thoughts on the matter have changed so much from one partner to the next.", "summary": "Current patner has had lots of sexual patners. Ex had only 1. Couldnt stand the fact that ex had slept with someone else, aroused by the fact that current partner has been with lots of other people. Wondering if its normal to think this, and if anyone else finds themselves in a similar situation."}
{"id": "t3_pohjx", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Lots of overseas experience and grad degree, but no job offers--any advice, Reddit?", "post": "Hi, r/jobs. I'm just looking for a little advice regarding my frustrating situation.  \n\nI spent 15 years in Korea teaching English in a couple of different universities. After getting burned out on teaching, I returned to the States and got an MS in Communication. For the last 6 months or so,  I've been applying for all sorts of jobs and gotten a handful of interviews, but no offers. \n\nIt's getting extremely frustrating and depressing.  Every time that I've been given a reason for being turned down it's been either because I'm \"overqualified\" or the job has gone to someone with \"more direct experience\".  It feels like I'm in that rut where you don't have enough experience to get experience.\n\nThe thing is, I have tons of experience and skills, just maybe not the sort that fit neatly onto an interviewer's checklist.  Besides just teaching, I chaired departmental committees and wrote and edited for textbooks and multimedia exams, all sorts of stuff.  I guess I just don't fit into any prescribed job title, like somebody with a degree in accounting can become an accountant or somebody with a degree in engineering can become an engineer.  And I suspect that nobody wants to put a 40-year-old man into an entry-level position, but I don't know how else to get a foot in the door. Pretty much any door at this point, but frankly I just don't know what to do. I apply for jobs that I think I could do; I don't have any problems learning new things. I'm smart; I learn things fast--I just need a chance. \n\nSo in part I'm just writing this to vent, but I'd really like to hear any suggestions or bits of advice that anybody might have.", "summary": "long time overseas, can't get a job now that I'm back, this sucks"}
{"id": "t3_lubnw", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "What do you do when you just feel like SHIT...about life, work, relationships, etc?", "post": "Like waking up early in the morning to go to work, or when you say to yourself (as I do) *\"Holy shit, I'm a 23 year old virgin who's never even kissed a girl, and all that time I wasted in my room has led me to having a grand total of 0 friends\"*, and then this shitty feeling is compounded by seeing all these people around me having accomplished things I want to. I mean there are people who are better looking than me, in better shape, and realizing I'm 23 and don't even have the experience of your average 15 year old just pisses me off, I feel like I've wasted so much time...and didn't make the effort to make friends.\n  \nAlso, I always have a shitty feeling when having to \"do\" things, like go to work or go to school...which really sucks considering some times I feel like I can take on the world, but those moments are short and overshadowed by my shitty and depressed moods...I just wish I could just do something (like study for a test) without feeling like I had to and go to sleep knowing I'm moving in the right direction.", "summary": "How do I stop feeling like shit throughout the day? And how do I stop COMPARING myself to others and thinking about how much time I've wasted being this loser who's never even kissed a girl in my 23 year existence? How can I \"motivate\" myself when there's nothing in the tank, and I feel like doing nothing whatsoever...so I can do PROACTIVE things like go out to make friends without feeling totally anxious and horrible?"}
{"id": "t3_2d2nf3", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Got into a car accident 2 years back, constant neck pain. Swollen lymph node on back of neck @ base of skull causes severe pain*?", "post": "Age: 17 currently\n\nSex: Male\n\nLocation: [Base of skull/top of neck](\n\nCurrent Medications: Regular Ibuprofen\n\nAbout 2 years ago I got into a car accident and the side of my head was smashed into the side of the passenger side window (I was the passenger) It was a few weeks before school and my school system threw me into school and said if I were to take any sick days they'd have me suspended (I had a shotty attendance the previous year) so I was unable to go to physical therapy with my schedule. \n\nA year passed and my neck hurt like someone was jabbing a knife into my muscles. Also my neck would get so stiff to the point I couldn't turn my head from side to side. I went to physical therapy about 2 months ago and did about 10 sessions (an hour and a half each) during this summer and it barely helped. \n\nFast forward to a week ago, I had a warm compress on my neck and I was doing one of the exercises I could do at home that I learned at physical therapy (Put my right ear to my right shoulder etc) when I felt a lump at the top of my neck/at the base of my skull. A week later the pain switched from my right to my left and I checked the same area where I felt the bump on my right and found it on my left as well. I've taken ibuprofen (both my doctors suggested it) to Vicodin that I had laying around from when I got into the car accident. And it seems the only thing that worked was the vicodin, prior to taking the vicodin I was unable to move my neck more than 90 degrees from side to side and after I had full functionality of my neck. But I had no more pain killers for about 2 months now.\n\nI've tried researching into it and I cannot find an exact explanation of  it.", "summary": "Lymph node swollen at the base skull/top of neck cause extreme stiffness, pain and discomfort."}
{"id": "t3_3shjpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "An important keepsake of my wife's (30 F) went missing, and I've (35 M) been told it's in a neighbour's (55 F) house and I don't know how to get it back.", "post": "My wife has been making keepsakes of our family vacations, and this summer she spent a few hours collecting tiny shells from the beach and put them in a tiny corked bottle. It was quite important to her. \n\nWell, one of my daughter's friends, Sarah, had been constantly picking it up and running around with it. We told her to leave it alone many times. Well, the jar went missing. We turned the house upside down, but it isn't here. I asked Sarah's grandmother (her legal guardian) if she'd seen it, and she blew up at me. So we just figured even though we were certain what happened, we had no way to get it back.\n\nWell, now two of my daughter's other friends have said that they saw the jar in Sarah's grandmother's bedroom. Now my daughter hasn't been invited into their house in a while, so she can't get it back. I can't ask these other girls to get it. I'm sure that if I confronted the grandma, she would deny it and then dispose of the evidence. And I don't know if the word of two 11 year olds is good enough evidence to call the cops... I mean, they may be mistaken or exaggerating, or even lying, who knows.\n\nActually, I almost forgot to mention - my daugter recently discovered one of her dolls in Sarah's room. They had a big fight over it, and Sarah's admitted to being jealous of us as the reason for taking it.\n\nSo what can I do? My wife has been quite sad about this, and I hate the feeling that they stole something of mine and I know it. How in the world could I get it back?", "summary": "Neighbours stole something from my house and are denying it. How do I get it back."}
{"id": "t3_2uqkni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Arguments - Rinse & Repeat", "post": "My boyfriend (34M) and I (31F) have been dating for six years. Over the past year we have starting arguing like crazy. We fight daily and both of us are at our wits end. The fight always goes about the same:\n\nHe says something I find mean. (\"Move!\" When I'm accidentally in his way...) Little shit like that, that adds up.\n\nI tell him I feel hurt.\n\nHe gets defensive instead of saying sorry that I feel bad.\n\nCurrently we aren't sleeping I the same bed at night but that's because he snores really bad. He acts like he is ok with  sleeping arrangement but I can't really tell. He had a habit of not telling me if he's mad and just bottle it up. I don't know what to do about us.", "summary": "Is it over?"}
{"id": "t3_3g95ja", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Urgent: How to best take a beating in a fist fight?", "post": "I only need/ can use advice about defending myself.  \n  \nBack story:  \nI serve in the military (not US) right now, and have lately been threatened by someone, after an unfortunate exchange of insults.  \nI am noticeably bigger than him, and none of us have practiced martial arts, other than basic melee training in the military itself.  \n  \nI tried to defuse the situation more than once.  \nI can't \"snitch\" about it, because that would create hostility between me and his friends.  \nI am near this guy 24 hours a day for the next 6 weeks.  \nI cannot go on the offense in any shape or form, otherwise I will be sent into military prison and loose a bunch of hard earned privileges.  \nMy only hope to come out clean is to take a beating and wait until a superior comes to defuse the situation, with the other guy being sent to military prison and such.", "summary": "I'm between a rock and a hard place, need to make sure I don't break anything, any advice is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_16qt7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do.", "post": "My fiance (28M) and I (19F) have been together for four months and living together for 3. We found out I was pregnant today, and I just don't know what to do.\n\nWe both want kids. I was just hoping to wait until I was done school to have them. One the other hand, I think there are a few benefits to being a young mother. For example, the child will be grown up before I hit my forties. On the one had, I want a baby. On the other hand, I feel like I'm too young. My fiance will support whichever decision I make, although he has said that he ready for kids right now. It is also very important to me that my children are homeschooled.\n\nIf we keep the baby, things will be hard for a little while. He makes enough money that we won't have any trouble paying the bills. I can always do school through correspondence and I have a great support system. My parents would be quite disappointed. We have just finished moving in, and it will be a little hard to readjust the house. It is also not very baby friendly (steep stairs, low counters, concrete floors in the basement, sharp edges everywhere). I know he will make a good father. I am also afraid that I will resent him and the child for taking away my 20's.\n\nOn the other hand, I don't think I could abort. I'm pro-choice, but I don't think that I would be willing to give up a baby that is wanted. i don't want to adopt either. I have had an abortion before and I don't know if I could go through that again.\n\nI have health issues as well. An autoimmune disorder, asthma, lung problems, back pain, etc. We have a doctors appointment on monday. I don't know if I can even carry a baby to term. A tiny part of me hopes I cant.\n\nBefore anyone asks, we were using protection and birth control.", "summary": "Pregnant and unsure of which choice to make."}
{"id": "t3_4ey30q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my long distance girlfriend [15F] of six months, I'm leaving for two months and I want to make it easier on her", "post": "In three months I'll be leaving for Navy boot camp; in boot camp you can write letters daily, but that's effectively it for communication on the outside. Now, I'm sure we'll make it on fine through it, seeing as we're a very strong couple and the letters will make it much much more doable, but I was wondering if there's anything I could do or could send before (or after) those two weeks come, because I know it's going to be stressful on her part.\n\nWe Skype and sleep on Skype every night, always send big good morning texts to each other, and are simply very involved in each other's lives, and this is going to be a big change for her and I would really love to hear anything and everything people have to say.\n\nThank you for all the help that I may get, friends!", "summary": "I'm leaving for boot camp for two months and I want to do all that's possible to give my girlfriend an easier time while I'm away."}
{"id": "t3_3552lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] and him[25] the argument that keeps happening", "post": "We met 7 months ago thanks to Match.com. After dating for a few weeks we started dating exclusively and a month after that became an official couple. \n\nLike clockwork he shows up at more door everyday to spend time with me. Well... about 2 months ago we had huge fight that he wanted alone time. Due to some miscommunication he almost dumped me. We settled with when you need time take it and that he did not need to show up at my door everyday. \n\nAfter the argument and spending one full day away from me everything went back to normal. \n\nMiddle of last week he started usually cold, distant and grumpy. I asked if anything was wrong? He told me was just tired and would leave to go home. I bought that excuse for the rest of last week because he had been on a trip that put him 12 hours ahead of us. \n\nThis week rolls around and no improvement and mentions he's behind on his personal projects. So today I ask if he wanted to skip coming over today. He said yes and that he had been meaning to say something. I respond with okay, you do realize I've been trying to get this out of you for a week. He replies with I know I wanted to think about by myself. \n\nI'm sitting thinking why are we back on this? I left it up to decided and no one forces him to do anything. \n\nAm I missing something? I keep thinking that I did something to freak him out while he was gone. I took of care of his cat while he was gone and when he got back I had his favorite meal, cookies, muffins, jello shots waiting for him. All of this was star wars themed. Even picked a new Lego kit so he would have extra things to do while getting back on a normal sleep schedule.", "summary": "am I missing the bigger picture with an argument about alone time when nothing is forced or required?"}
{"id": "t3_53hcub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] hardly have any friends and it's embarrassing. Please help!", "post": "**Background:** I grew up severely depressed and extremely quiet (not sure which came first), with a crazy mother who was erratic. I had very low self esteem. I've always had like 1-2 friends, but these friends always had a ton of issues. Sometimes I would have a genuine friend and things would be great, but none of my other peers seemed even remotely interested in talking to me, let alone being friends and hanging out. \n\nToday: I'm in a better place - I've gotten help with my depression and am reasonably successful in my life. I feel good about myself and my family. However, I still have a gap in my social life. I have like 1-2 friends at any given point, and the rest of the people who I consider friends, distance themselves from me.\n\n Since I am a self-starting person, I've read books like *How to Win Friends* and countless articles like *succeed socially* etc. I've joined hobbies and taken classes for my interests. Some people seem interested in hearing about my life but after that point we're hardly able to form a friendship. There are people I know who are MUCH weirder/less attractive/have no sense of humor, who have a bucket of friends. \n\nAfter much self-reflection and feedback from others, my issues come down to two things. I am told I am either really nice, but when I toughen up and am confident, I am told I'm mean and defensive. I'm not sure how to balance this. The other thing is, I am just not fun to be around or something. Other people always display bored body language or never ask me to hang out. It's like I have some neon sign flashing saying I'm not interested. Yet when I do show interest it's taken as desperate.\n\nObviously, I've never had a boyfriend or even guys that message me on Tinder either. Never had guys interested in me other than total creeps.", "summary": "I've read every book/article out there about makign friends, joined hobbies, etc but still cant seem to inspire others to want to be around me. I'm embarrassed by how few friends I have. Given my circumstances, how can I change this? Is there something I am missing?"}
{"id": "t3_4g2sto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20'sM) think my cousin is going to tell me she (30'sF) is having a kid, I'm worried that my true feeling will show.", "post": "My cousin is very close, like a sister, we were raised together.\n\nShe announced a few months ago that she and her long-time BF (30s) wanted to have a kid despite the fact that she has for her entire life said that she never wanted kids (we both had rough childhoods).\n\nShe has invited me and my Dad over to her and her BF's place for dinner next week, despite the fact that she almost never initiates those kinds of things, and that their money is pretty tight at the moment.\n\nOther things (including the weird dinner invitation) have led me to believe that she is going to announce something big, and one of the few things I can think of are that she is pregnant.\n\nI, for various reasons, don't think her (or her BF) would make good parents. I'm not going to argue with them about it, or make a big scene, or even make mention of my feelings. It's their decision, and nothing I say or do is going to change their decision.\n\nWhat I'm worried about is hurting their feelings by not being immediately happy for them. She is kind of emotionally fragile, and uh... Histrionic?\n\nI'm not good at hiding or faking emotions like this... It really has me worried. What can I do?", "summary": "My cousin might be having a baby, I'm worried I will hurt her by not being excited when (if) she announces it."}
{"id": "t3_43d41d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] new girlfriend [21F] lied to me about using protection with other guys", "post": "I'll keep this short:\n\nI've been hooking up with this girl for half a year now, and we've only been official last month. When we were just fooling around, I told her that if she ever hooked up with other guys, I just wanted to know that she used protection.\n\nThere's this one guy in question that she said she blacked out and can't be completely sure, but she thinks she did. I trusted her and we ended up dating.\n\nNow I find out from her friend (who screenshot their text conversation) that she did NOT use protection during that night in question. She clearly wrote it to her friend.\n\nI feel like my trust was betrayed. I'm a little disgusted with this. She probably didn't want to tell me because she wanted to keep seeing me (and now we're dating), but she knows I'm serious about these things and I can't believe this happened.\n\nBeyond that, we've been pretty solid. \n\nHow should I deal with this?", "summary": "fuckbuddy turned gf had unprotected sex while we were fuckbuddies. Did not tell me this even though this was important to me. Found out through her friend."}
{"id": "t3_1gabyz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex-cheaters of reddit, is it honestly possible to ever rebuild trust with your SO? If so, how?", "post": "A little bit of back story.\n\n So I've been with an amazing girl for over 3 years now but back when we met I was a stupid 16 year old boy who had just started getting attention from girls. So like an idiot i fooled around behind her back with a few girls and she later found out, and by later I mean 2 years later when I finally confessed. She always had suspicions but I was never man enough to admit to it. Now the problem is that even though its been a year since she found out there is no trust in the relationship. She doesn't trust me to do literally anything. If there are any other redditors who have ever been in a similar situation, is it even possible to get past this? I'm older now and I realized that she means the world to me and I just want to move forward in our relationship but it feels pretty hopeless right now..", "summary": "16 year old dumbass me cheated on my SO,  several years later there are still trust issues, is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_evgov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you ignore someone you are forced to see almost every day?", "post": "Im 17 and she is 17, still both in highschool. We were going out ever since high school started and things were great. We broke up a month and a half back. Turns out she was cheating on me and had been for 6 months. I'm heart broken to say the least, but on top of that I have realized that I didn't have much else other then her in school. I see her every day and act as if nothing has changed. She will treat me as a friend and act cute and playful and every time she does my heart breaks a little more inside. All I want to do is ignore her but I am in a small school and we will be forced to see each other at some point in the day, and when I do just walk by as if she doesn't exist it hurts even more. She wants to be friends but I cant take it anymore, shes consistently texting her new \"love\" who luckly doesn't go to this school but non the less is this driving me crazy, I feel light headed and fluttery and cant focus on anything. How do I deal deal with this as less painful as possible? I don't have any experience of dealing with break ups like this. Please help reddit?", "summary": "Had a bad break up with a gf who i have been with for a couple of years, she was cheating on me for a good amount of time. I now have to see her every day and its driving me crazy. How do I make this as easy as possible to deal with?"}
{"id": "t3_2yl3sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do when your (m24)partner needs space and you(f20) need cuddles?", "post": "Last night was a bad night with my SO. It was not a fight or anything, just a generally tense night because both me and my boyfriend have been under so much separate stress recently. He ended up kind of lashing out at me after a few hours of subtle remarks and I began to cry which just started a flood I couldn't stop for very long. I would calm myself down and then something would happen and it would start over.\n\nMany times when I'm like this, I just need to be alone to figure things out but this was not one of those times, I needed to be held and kissed and just told that everything is alright. My boyfriend, on the other hand, needed space. He wanted to sleep and take a shower and that's it. He asked me to go home because we were at his place and I perfectly understand why he did so, I tried to stand up and pull on my coat and I tried to be okay with leaving and driving home but I just started bawling. He instantly felt more anxious for making me cry and I felt horrible that I was making him anxious. I knew that for him to feel better, which I wanted, I needed to leave, but I know that that would've really, really hurt me at the same time.\n\nI read on here just a few days ago about someone saying that the first time you don't give your bf space when he asks for it, he'll feel smothered and I don't want that at all. It may be good to know that we don't spend a ton of time together, being busy people. We see each other two days a week.\n\nIf this comes up again in the future, how would you, people of /r/relationships, want this dealt with, because I don't feel I dealt with it well.", "summary": "Where is the balance of giving your partner the space they need and not neglecting your own needs?"}
{"id": "t3_v16kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Personal hygiene ?", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. I'm 34 she's 30.\nShe has a serious aversion to shaving anything. Legs, arm pit, etc.\n\nWe were eating lunch today and she raised her arms over her head. I actually got embarrassed when the waitress kinda of gave her a weird look.\nI've sorta mentioned it before but it doesn't seem like taking care of herself like that is a priority.\n\nShe's not exactly the most organized or clean person, so I'm wondering if it is all part of the same 'laziness' issue.\n\nHow can I gently broach the subject more than just trying to subtly hint around the issue?", "summary": "How do I get my girlfriend to shave anything?"}
{"id": "t3_z687v", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Refund for B&B in Washington?", "post": "Hi r/legaladvice, \n\nI recently booked a stay with my girlfriend at a Bed & Breakfast in White Salmon Washington. The boiler was not working properly and we did not have hot water. After the first night, I told the owner we would be checking-out early and finding somewhere else to stay or just driving back to Portland, Oregon that night. \n\nI requested a refund for the night. He became visibly upset and said they don't give refunds. I eventually left without a refund for the second night. \n\nI called them back the second day and left a message and have not heard back. It's been over a week. \n\nI filed a card dispute with my bank, ING Direct. They said that since it was regarding \"quality of service\", they wouldn't do anything. \n\nIs there anything else I can do? \n\nThanks r/legal advice!\n\nOther problems with the Bed and Breakfast:\n\n1) No working wifi as advertised on website\n2) They ran my card without me present (my gf checked in for us while I was at a wedding rehearsal and she presented my card as proof of the reservation) The owner charged my card for the full amount as soon as she walked into the door. \n3) My card was overcharged. My room was 155/night. Which comes to $310. Plus a 7.5 percent lodging sales tax, the total should be 333.25. My card was charged for $354. (I called a neighboring hotel to confirm lodging taxes and charges)", "summary": "No hot water at Bed & Breakfast; want refund"}
{"id": "t3_2dvtgb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Always worried my girlfriend (30/f), is getting tired of me (26/m)", "post": "So ever since day one or so of this great relationship, i've been worrying my girlfriend is getting ready to leave me, or is losing interest.  I just want to know what you guys think.  We've been dating about 8 months now, and things have never been better.  I just met her mom and had a great time (we went on vacation together to meet her mom).  But there are little things I notice.  Sometimes she seems a bit colder, we have sex a lot less often then we used to.  On the other hand she still likes almost everything I post on facebook, and says she loves me via text and in person.  She's also almost always willing to do foreplay.  But my problem is everytime I see her, I ask vague questions to try and relief my anxiety.  I'll ask stuff like \"soo, maybe in [date in the future] we should do this!\" or something along those lines, just to see if she agrees, because to me if she does, that means she plans on staying with me.  I asked her last week what did she think of our relationship and her exact words were \"Honestly, I've never been happier\".  We also still text an average of 60 times a day.  I usually have to be the one to start it (good morning or something), but she'll text me randomly throughout the day as well.  What do you guys think? Am I being insecure, or is there reason to worry?", "summary": "I worry the gf is losing interest, but you should read the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_lftsn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to join the police, specifically AFP, would joining a branch of the Australian Military help me?", "post": "As said in the title, I'm an Australian, I'm 19 almost 20, haven't got my license yet and I'm working a dead end office job. I have always wanted to join the police though they said they prefer people 21 and older with life experience, so I am sitting in this shitty job with my shitty life, and hating it, so I decided maybe joining a branch of the Australian Military would help me, would that be something they would love to see on a resume?\nIf so, where in the military should I join? Typical Army? Become a sniper? Or maybe Navy, I want something active and never boring.\nI know this isn't the most typical question, but I'm desperate, I need something new and have always considered joining the military for a back up plan but this would be something good for my resume when I go to join the police, yes?\n\nAny information would be greatly appreciated, tips, inputs and just your opinion on the matter would help.", "summary": "I want to join the police, get out of my dead end life, thinking of joining a branch of the military for something good on my resume that shows I have had a lot of experience."}
{"id": "t3_16f4bu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "ive got a complicated one. im 28(M) and she is a 26(F)", "post": "i became friends at first, out of necessity with this girl. im a single father and she watched my child. her husband works here with me. i have begun to fall for her, but having recently come out of a soon-to-be divorce, i just dont know what the fuck to think. i spend almost every minute of every day that i can with her. i CRAVE her. we have been drunk and fooled around before, which has been already brought up to her husband. that whole situation really sucked, but, everything has been worked out years later. i remained in constant contact with them and while on a night shift work block (6 months) my son and i lived with them. \n\nfast forward, and sorta", "summary": "she craves my touch but i know my place. i cherish her as a best friend but obvioulsy i WANT/need (lowercase cuz its not THAT important) to have sex with her. she fears thats all i want, i fear she doesnt believe me when i say it isnt. "}
{"id": "t3_2tn9y8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF[24 M/F] of 2 1/2 years, broke up and I do not know how to analyze my emotions.", "post": "We were college sweethearts and we always had a solid relationship. She is the shy nervous type, but I loved that about her. After 1 year and 7 months I had to move for school, which led into a long distance relationship.\n\nThe distance really was difficult for both of us. She worked a night schedule and I worked a day schedule but we still managed to call every night. After a while, I tried to convince her to move to my side of the state. She did not really like her job that much (under payed) and I had a hard time finding a job on her side of the state (2 hours away). \n\nShe expressed a feeling of not knowing what she wanted to do with her career, leading her to not be able to commit looking for work near me. She was always really nervous with decisions and really feared drastic change. So I didn't push her, even though the distance was getting too both of us. She has to do whats best for her.\n\nSuddenly, that excuse ended up ending the relationship. She acted distant randomly as I visited her for the week (this was later in the week) and I called her out on it. She told me she doesn't know what she wants for her life and wants to be alone at this point in her life. She told me she loved me and as I left her house, I told her I hope shes finds what makes her happy and that I loved her. We were both in tears as I walked down her porch.\n\nIt has been a week since then and I am up-and-down each day. Happy,Sad,Confident, Self-loathing, miserable, ecstatic and most of all confused. I do still love her and I really don't know how to analyze what I am feeling. The breakup was out of nowhere. I just want to know that this type of things happens..because I personally don't understand it completely.", "summary": "Me and GF Broke up after two years for a reason that is hard to swallow. Why are my emotions so all over the place and does anyone have a similar story I can relate to?"}
{"id": "t3_12qtm4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I feel it used to be somewhat taboo to ask who you voted for during presidential elections. Do you blatantly answer when asked?", "post": "When asked about your income, you don't just say it when asked, or do you?\n\nI had a good friend ask me via text who I voted for and I didn't really answer back. She then called me out (via text) asking if I purposely dodged her question. All I could think about was how my parents never discussed politics around me or any of their friends growing up. And I too see myself not discussing politics around friends/family as it seems to never be the right time or place to discuss, even if I wanted to. \n\nSocial media (and the 1st Amendment) has played a huge role these past few elections allowing most people to be \"proud of who they voted for\".", "summary": "Do you dodge this question around your friends/family?"}
{"id": "t3_3sc8ix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] cannot be myself around my family, because everything I do is \"strange\".", "post": "I am a senior biochemistry major, enjoy old music - huge deadhead- and really love writing. However, my family is nothing like me. They are narrow-minded straight ticket Republican voters, none of them have ever gone to college, and they all love modern pop country music; not that I mind, I just think that says a lot about a person.\n\nNow, I could deal with those differences if they stopped there. The deeper issues are grounded in their ignorance of my intrinsic personality and their obstinacy towards simply trying to understand. I was diagnosed with Major Depression Disorder with psychotic features in high school and then Bipolar 1 later on. On many days, all I can do is lie in the dark and list reasons to continue living.\n\nThis frequent inability to do anything is viewed as lazy by my family, and the way they berate me makes it so much worse. However, I have a 3.8 GPA and have been accepted into a few PhD programs for neurobiology. I have had steady jobs with good pay, but they refuse to believe that I can make it on my own.\n\nI have stayed with friends on multiple occasions, and the depression seems to subside, or at least lessen immensely, almost the instant I am out of the disapproving gaze of my parents. During these times, I feel like a completely different person, like being drunk without drinking, thought patterns change and even the air is lighter. Yet, when I come back home still stimulated with the residual joy of temporary freedom, there must be something wrong with me, and they interrogate the individuality out of me.\n\nI really just want to leave and try to live a happy life, but I feel like a human whom Pavlov experimented on. How do I get out of this mindset and become the person I want to be?", "summary": "Parents treat me like a child and refuse to let me fulfill the potential that I think I have. How do I approach the issue in a way that won't incite an argument?"}
{"id": "t3_516n6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my bf [27M] duration, I am fed up with my parents racism that they think is \"hilarious\"", "post": "hi relationships, using a throwaway because I don't want to ruin my family's business.\nSorry if this isn't right, English isn't my first language \nI met the most amazing guy on tinder, I swiped right by accident (he didn't have any photos) and we clicked right away, we fell completely in love at first sight and have been in an LDR ever since. I currently study in a country in Europe and he works in the U.K. I told my parents and they met him, they were very nice to his face but after kept saying extremely racist things about him, (he is East Asian and I am white) my mother is fine about it on her own and happy but when she is with my father she joins in with the racism, I would post the horrible things they say on here but they make me feel absolutely sick, one example was when I forgot to close the bathroom window and my dad said that I was \"too busy choking on chink cock\". Apart from the racist stuff he says my dad is truly w nice guy, I've told them to stop this kind of thing to in front of me because my bf is important to me and they just laugh it off? What do I do?", "summary": "my father is really racist towards my Asian boyfriend and he won't listen to anything I say"}
{"id": "t3_20tfl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 f] confused about [21 m]", "post": "Typing this from my phone. So ignore the errors.\nReally confused about my best friend. We've known each other for about 10 years & have been BEST friends for about 2 years now.\n\n We do everything constantly with each other. Go to movies, out to dinner (not fastfood, nice restaurants) & hang out with each other all the time. We spent a ridiculous amount of money on each other for Christmas (200+) & the same for birthdays. Everyone and their mom is asking me if we are together & thinks I'm crazy when I say no... just really good friends. \n\nSide note: I was trying to plan his 21st birthday party and asked him who he was friends with other than me or justin (other guy friend who he hangs out with once or twice a month) & he said \"idk... I really don't have time for anyone else\" \n\nFriendship took a strange turn when he asked to see a picture of my boobs last week because he was \"curious\" as to what they looked like. I sent them. He said they looked good. Friendship continues and we go out to dinner the next night. He doesn't talk about other girls in front of me and doesn't like it when I talk about other guys.  \n\nI'm too shy to say anything - I just am at the point now where he is probably mentally handicapped if he doesn't think I like him. Which leads me to the point of believing that he probably doesn't like me.\n\nOur friendship is basically to the point that if either of us got a SO then all things would have to stop. \n\n(Backstory: got my nipples pierced about a year ago and never showed anyone because I'm just not that type of girl to go around showing everyone. It was a dare, but I kept them in cause I liked them) \n\nSo what do you think reddit? I need the harsh truth.", "summary": "Confused if guy friend likes me or just wants to stay really close friends. Mixed signals from every direction."}
{"id": "t3_2cacps", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having too much caffeine", "post": "This happened to me this morning. \n\nYesterday I had to get up extremely early for work so instead of having a coffee I popped a caffeine pill as it was already so difficult to make a coffee. I must have fallen asleep again and was in REM by the time it had kicked in. It had awoken my mind but not my body and triggered an amazing lucid dream where I was able to fly high into space and walk on the moon. It was truly amazing and was one of my most vivid dreams I have ever had. It opened many doors for my wild imagination to take me, having full control and was able to successfully stay in the dream state. \n\nI was hoping that maybe I could try to replicate the scenario and bring forth another lucid dream this morning since I had more time to sleep in. So I took one pill,  went to the toilet and accidentally took another as I wasn't completely sure I had already taken it first of all. Before I could fall asleep both pills have kicked in, and can't sleep at all. Right now I am wide awake about 3 hours before I needed to be up.\n\nMaybe I should just make use of the time and go to the gym and catch up on uni assignments.\n\nI'm considering perhaps to give it a go later next week as I don't like taking too many of those nasty pills. But I'll have to wait till then.", "summary": "Too much caffeine and now I can't sleep. Let's now gym and study."}
{"id": "t3_1iiebc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think I have some form of PTSD?", "post": "I'm not sure if that's what it is. Sorry if that's offensive to call it that when it's probably something else. \n\nJuly of last year, my friend was texting me constantly on her roadtrip. Her friend rolled their car and my friend was rushed to the hospital and went into a coma for a few weeks. She ended up being ok but I originally thought she was ignoring me or lost service. In September, I was texting a friend of mine when she fell asleep and died in a house fire. I didn't know about the fire until a few days later, I kept texting her thinking she was ignoring me. Two months ago, I had text my friend in the morning and he agreed to meet me at my house later that afternoon to hang out. When he didn't show up, I kept texting him and calling him. I thought he was ignoring me, turns out he had killed himself a few hours before. \n\nNow whenever I'm texting someone and they don't reply within a few hours I freak out. I panic, start crying, call them, call someone who might know if they are still alive/ok. Basically full blow panic attacks. It's really embarrassing when they tell me to stop freaking out they just fell asleep/lost their phone/were riding unicorns. Should I talk to someone about this? Just get over myself?", "summary": "People have stopped texting me in the past because they are dead or in comas. Now if someone doesn't reply quickly I have panic attacks. What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_2hdos6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [28 M] 2 years;Will he propose on vacation?/Why won't people stop asking me that?", "post": "BF and I are headed on a two week vacation to Europe, leaving Friday. We have lived together for six months, been together two years, and many of our friends are now married or engaged. \n\nGetting engaged on vacation seems to be en vogue these days. So now, I've had multiple friends, and most recently my father(!) as me if we're getting engaged on this trip. \n\nThis is terrible for a number of reasons. \n\n1) Thanks friends for putting that thought in my mind!! \n2) How do I know? \n\nAnyway, I am ready to be engaged. He is my one. We've discussed everything from parenting styles to wedding seating (if you have aunts Sandy, Irene, Rita and Katrina, you HAVE to have a hurricane table, right??). \n\nHe is financially comfortable, we are both at stable places in our lives, and we are very happy. So is he going to do it? \n\nBut I also don't know if he is ready, and that is fine with me! I would very enthusiastically say yes if he asked, but I wouldn't want to actually tie the knot until at least 2016. \n\nThe problem:...these people have put the thought in my head! Now I'm afraid I'll ruin my vacation by expecting something at every romantic moment. How do I deal with this? How do I brush it off and just enjoy my vacation?", "summary": "I wasn't thinking about getting engaged on vacation until everyone started asking me about it. How do I not let that planted seed ruin my enjoyment of vacation?"}
{"id": "t3_yourg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When did you loose your immortality?", "post": "When did you finally realize you weren't \"immortal\"? That what you did in your life actually had repercussions.\n\nFor me, It happened with a phone call my freshman year at a new high school. My new school wasn't far from my old one so i still heard stories and such from it, and so did my mom.\n\nIt was about a month in to the school year and i was finally getting a grasp in the new environment. I get home from a good day at school and i get a phone call almost immediately when i get home. It's my mom and she tells me she has something to tell me before i hear any crazy rumors.\n\nAll i could hear is \"blah blah died\", I could not for the life of me make out the name until the 4th or 5th time she said it. My heart stopped, i hung up the phone, threw it across the room, and just sat. People had died in my life before, old relatives that i was supposed to know, but never a friend, never someone my own age.\n\nThat is when i lost it, I could die, people around me can die. The worst part about losing my best friend is that the next day i had to go to school and everyone around me was happy, nobody knew, and nobody asked why my eyes were black so there obviously wasn't an easy way to put that into everyday conversation with people you met just one month ago.", "summary": "I realized that i could die when my best friend did, just one month after moving away from my childhood town."}
{"id": "t3_uf2tu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: I am bartending a wedding Saturday night. Help me come up with two unoffensive tip jar signs!", "post": "Subject pretty much says it all. There will be nearly 300 guests at this wedding and I wouldn't mind making some cash. If I can get people to laugh while giving me money, I figure it'll make it a lot better. One I thought of (that I saw on Reddit) was: \"Justin Bieber assassination fund,\" but my wife shot that down as too offensive. We'll have two jars for tips. The theme of the wedding is country-chic and the reception is taking place in a barn on a farm. I'll consider using the most upvoted comments, so use your powers!", "summary": "I need two witty, unoffensive signs for tip jars at a wedding I am bartending."}
{"id": "t3_3fo1dd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex is being very confusing. Why is he being such a jerk?", "post": "My boyfriend (18) and I (female, 19) had been going out for about four months when he broke up with me randomly over the phone a week ago. He knew I was on vacation with my family and friends but he did it anyway. He said he's felt trapped the past couple weeks, but all he's been telling me is how much he's in love with me and how he doesn't know what he'd do without me. \n\nWe're both going to college in the fall, but he'd told me multiple times that he wanted to stay together through college and live together afterwards. He'd even asked his roommates if it was okay if I stayed over and we figured out which trains we'd take to see each other. We were also at the point where I was meeting all of his extended family because he told me he wanted them to get to know me. As soon as we were apart, he would ask me when we were hanging out next and how he \"missed me so much\". He would put plans aside with his friends to hang out with me and told me that I was his main priority. \n\nThe day that we split, we were perfectly fine, until we started roughhousing. He became aggravated with me and hit my leg pretty hard, hard enough to leave a mark. He's never hit me like this before. Is he a jerk for slapping me like this? He said he didn't do it out of anger, but it was pretty clear he was agitated. I guess I am just confused as to why he cut it off so fast and so harshly. Does he even care? He was also the guy that I gave my virginity to. I am moving on, but I need this question answered.", "summary": "Comments are greatly appreciated. This is a serious topic to me."}
{"id": "t3_ox91z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As a guy, how am I supposed to start a conversation with a girl?", "post": "Throwaway account because this shit is personal.\n\nAnyway, there's a girl at school. She's very shy. I'm pretty much the same. \n\nI like her, of course.\n\nI've been getting some hints that she's interested in me and *wants* to talk to me, but I think that she can't. It's as if she knows me, but just doesn't talk to me. I want to start a conversation but I'm no good at small talk or starting conversations.\n\nI'm lucky because her last name is always right next to mine on rolecall lists. She's in two of my classes, but I get a better chance of talking to her in my PE class. For about the first ten minutes the teacher/coach takes rolecall. I'm right in front of her in the rolecall line. I have the perfect opportunity to talk to her, but I just can't. I mean, what is there to talk about? The weather? I don't want a casual conversation that two men would have in an elevator.\n\nI'm most likely making this harder on myself. Actually, I know I am. I just don't know how to deal with this. Talking with other girls I was interested in was *much* easier. I can't figure out why it's so much harder with this girl. She's really smart and loves reading, so maybe I'm just afraid of being judged.", "summary": "Cute shy girl that I can't talk to. I suggest you read everything, though."}
{"id": "t3_221lv7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not disposing of my rubbish", "post": "So I recently took delivery of several items which one would deem NSFW; think along the lines of the leading brand in male masturbators (you get the idea). So anyways, they were delivered in discreet packaging. Fantastic. Great. I take the packaging and recycle all relevant materials, cardboard and paper in the recycling and plastics in with the normal rubbish. No big deal. Or so I thought. \n\nMy older sister (who has moved out) sends me a whatsapp letting me know that my mum had told her she found the receipt for said items in the recycling. \n\nMeaning that not only does my mum know about what I bought, but my sister also and most likely my dad too. I know it sounds like I'm some sort of child, but my folks are relatively conservative Irish parents so this is far too liberal for their liking. I still have yet to face them.", "summary": "My family are gonna think I'm some sort of degenerate. Fuck"}
{"id": "t3_22yuqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] stop being friends with my roommate [20M]?", "post": "This is a tough one. My roommate \"Harry\" and I have known each other since we were both freshmen in college. We've been friends (closer at some times more than others) pretty much since we met. Right now we live with three other roommates (21M, 20M, and 20F). Harry moved in in December.\n\nHere's the thing, though: for the past ~2 years, I have started to hate Harry. I was very against him moving in, but I felt bad because he had nowhere else to go and my other roommates had no problem living with him. I'm at my wit's end. I absolutely **loathe** even being around him. He is the most annoying, loud, gross person I have ever met.\n\nAnd I kind of hate myself, because I have never given him any sign that I dislike him; I've kept being his friend and having conversations with him and joking around. I think I just could never stand to hurt him or have him hate me, even though I hate him. Does that make sense? I have no idea what to do. I **do not** want to be friends with him anymore, but I will be living with him for the next two months so I can't just not see him. I can't have a conversation with him about anything. I can't avoid him.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for advice on how to deal with someone you hate when you can't avoid them and you can't let them know you hate them. This is making me sound like a crazy person.", "summary": "How do I deal with living with a guy I can't stand without letting him know I can't stand him?"}
{"id": "t3_3wdu29", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Hearing Issues...", "post": "Hello!\n\nI am a 28 year old male that has had ongoing issues hearing people talking, on tv and directly to me.  I hear other noises, but talking is somewhat difficult, especially if there is any other noise going on at the same time.\n\ni.e., I'm listening to music on my computer, next to a window that is very minimally open.  I'm about 50 or more feet away from the cars driving past, but when they do, my music goes into a muffled sound and I can't make out the words being sung.\n\nAdditionally, talking to people, I'm constantly being asked to repeat myself.  I'm also been told to turn the TV down pretty often.\n\nI'm not on any medication that would be causing these issues.", "summary": "I have a hard time hearing people talking to me in person or on the TV.  I hear other types of noises mostly uninhibited. When there is noise and someone talking, I hear the noise and the talking goes muffled."}
{"id": "t3_3k1u1t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F19] am extremely uncomfortable with my bf's [M20] relationship with his mom", "post": "So my bf and I have been dating for almost three years and his relationship with his mom has always been a bit above average on the affection meter. They tell each other more than three times a day that they love each other and are always hugging/touching/lifting each other up (kind of like grabbing each other below the waist and lifting.) \n\nI have gotten used to it and it doesn't bother me like it used to. But now his grandparents are staying over his house and they're using his room. But instead of sleeping on the couch, he's sleeping in her bed. (Father recently got kicked out of the house.) Now normally, this wouldn't be a big deal, except knowing how they usually are with each other, I have this weird feeling that they cuddle together, and he even mentioned that he hugged her in bed and stuff. \n\nHe just told me about sleeping in her room ten minutes ago, and I instantly felt uncomfortable and just really really icky. \n\nI want to know other opinions. I'm pretty sure I'm just being paranoid, but it's really making me feel uneasy. I can't get that image of them cuddling together out of my head and it freaks me out. Do I even tell him that I feel this or would it be better to ignore and get over it?", "summary": "boyfriend is sleeping with his mom in her bed and it makes me really uncomfortable. Need advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ijgcn", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Wedding Dress Blues", "post": "Hello~\n\nI'm over a year out from my date, but I've been perusing wedding dresses online for fun. When we first got engaged a few months ago, I found [this dress] and fell in love--which is rare for me, since I usually hate dresses. Hate, hate, hate dresses 100%. I can count on one hand the number of dresses that I both own and wear on a regular basis (2). \n\nSo there's only one of these dresses left, and it's even on sale...except I'd have to loose a lot of weight to fit into it. And while I am very pro weight loss and have already lost weight, I want to do it in a healthy way. And if I were to buy this dress with the thought that I'd just loose the weight to make it fit, I'd stress myself out for the next 13 months and probably do some pretty unhealthy things. I don't want to do that.\n\nI contacted ModCloth to see if they'd be getting more dresses, but unfortunately they are not. But the woman was kind enough to tell me the name of the company that designed and made the dress. Unfortunately, their only listing for the dress is through ModCloth and I believe this is one of their last chance items.\n\nNo dress for me, I guess. Oh well. I was wondering if anyone could make any suggestions for similar designs. The thing I really love about this dress is the light blue lace accents, the fit and flare style, and those gorgeous straps. Any suggestions for other places I could look for similar dresses? \n\nI already checked ebay. I couldn't find anyone selling this particular dress.", "summary": "Found the perfect dress and it's 60% off the very last one. But it is too small for me."}
{"id": "t3_2hmujq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F22] just started dating my friend [M23] and I'm uncomfortable by his attitude towards his female friends/other women.", "post": "So my friend and I recently decided to start dating. We had a casual, non-exclusive relationship for a few weeks, and last night I told him I wanted to be exclusive.\n\nThe thing is, he talks a lot about how attracted he is to other women. He told me pretty much any time a woman is wearing X or Y, regardless of who she is, he'll be horny. He keeps a lot of female friends on Facebook simply so he can look at their pictures (and I guess masturbate to them, I dunno, based on what he's told me before). He still talks to his ex's. \n\nAnd last night, after I had said I wanted to be exclusive and we were talking about something else, he said something along the lines of, \"The physical half of my would fuck anyone who would fuck me. I'd fuck a pile of dirt if it felt good.\"\n\nAm I weird for being upset by this? I understand being attracted to other people is part of life, and that doesn't bother me. I don't mind him watching porn or anything like that. It's the attitude of being willing to fuck pretty much anything that moves, having sexual feelings towards his female friends\u2026 I guess it's more personal than I'm comfortable with.\n\nIt just made me feel really shitty. Is this normal? Am I supposed to be okay with this stuff? I don't think he'd cheat on me, but I guess it makes me feel like sex with him is nothing special, and I don't like that feeling in a relationship. All of this just came to light last night after I told him I wanted to be exclusive. If I had known this stuff beforehand, I'm not sure I would've jumped into it.", "summary": "Recently started seeing a guy and I'm uncomfortable with the way he feels towards his female friends/other women. Not sure if I'm being dramatic or if I have a legitimate reason to be upset."}
{"id": "t3_3abtay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Non-romantic) how do I(30m) handle a close friend's(37m) death when it was a murder suicide?", "post": "A friend of mine recently did something horrible...\n\nBackground:\n\nI've known him 6 years. He is also very close to my closest friend. My wife and I let him live with us recently till he could move down south with his family and start over. He had a bad job here. His mental condition was definitely questionable. I know he suffered from depression and slightly dilutional paranoia. He has caused a few issues with my wife and I. We have since fixed those problems and it was a good thing for my wife and I.\n\nBasically he pointed out how much I work and how we were drifting apart and I was losing touch a bit.\n\nTo the recent event:\n\nHe moved down south and was reconnected with a friend. She flew to visit him. Then for some reason unknown to anyone he killed her. The next day killed himself. I'm at a loss and shocked.  I don't know how to handle it. My friend is dead.... But he killed someone. I'm going to the memorial tomorrow... I've only met one of his sisters once and about to meet the whole family. \n\nI don't know how to handle this, I haven't even cried. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel. I miss him, greatly... But what he did I can't get past.", "summary": "close friend killed someone and killed himself. How should I respond at the funeral."}
{"id": "t3_1qxz7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my ___ [20 M] 1 year 8 months, broke up three months ago, I can't get over it.", "post": "I asked my now ex-boyfriend for a break while he was backpacking for a month after having been abroad for two months. I felt neglected and powerless. The relationship seemed entirely one-sided. I needed time to think if he was what I really wanted. We didn't talk for six weeks. When we finally talked, he was not interested in addressing the core issue. He implied that he didn't love me as much as I loved him. I can't seem to get over how much that hurt. \n\nI keep waking up, three months later, forgetting that we've broken up. Then I realize and get emotional. I know that he is what I want. I've known it for a while, I told him and he wanted nothing to do with me. I just feel like a terrible person for everything that happened. I hate myself. I just want him to be happy but I can't seem to move on. I really need help. I have a previous issue with self-mutilation (but I haven't cut in four years).\nAny advice for moving on with my life?", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend because I felt neglected, now I regret it and he doesn't love me. I can't get over it. I need help."}
{"id": "t3_d8g4q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Choosing a university degree; conflicting interests: engineering or music? Also: any pit musicians out there?", "post": "I'm entering my last year of high school and need to decide what I'm going to do in university. Problem is, I have no idea right now. I excel in most areas of school, especially math and science; I \"get\" numbers. My passion, though, is music. I've played piano my whole life and my dream job would be a pit musician in musical theatre. \n\nI've looked into engineering, and it's a definite possibility at the moment; I'm just not sure exactly what an engineer does after leaving school (FYI, I have no programming experience). \n\nI've also looked into music, but I'm scared I won't be able to support myself if I follow that path. Every time I'm in the pit for a musical or see one on stage, though, I get convinced that it's what I should be doing.\n\nSo, Reddit, I have a few questions for you:\n\n1) What **exactly** does an engineer do after school? (I know every job is different, but I've just heard \"designing things\", and that's a bit too vague)\n\n2) For any (pit) musicians: how do you support yourself? From playing music alone? Do you regret pursuing music?\n\n3) For pit musicians: How exactly do you get jobs as a pit musician?\n\nThere are a lot of unknowns for me right now, and I need to learn some more before sending off my university applications, so any and all answers/advice/help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "what exactly does an engineer do?; how do you become a pit musician?"}
{"id": "t3_26fftx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my _husband__ [29 M] married few years, Wants friend, not wife, how to be friend?", "post": "My hubby feels we are not friends, he wants to leave me and be single, but we haven't been married long and I don't think he has given it a fair shot. His main complaint is that we aren't friends. He is holding onto a lot of pain from his past relationships, I am giving it everything I've got , I married him because I love him and I know he is the one. So, what are ways I can gain a friendship with him that he feels is lacking? Now, on my part, he has given up on me and wants to solely focus on himself, but he has not left and I actually want to work at this even if he doesnt (on his end) and its all one sided for a while, I wont give up on him despite how much it hurts and it hurts a lot. No negative comments. Just answer: What are ways to become friends with your spouse?", "summary": "What are ways to become \"friends\" with your spouse?"}
{"id": "t3_53c8qp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my GF [21F] 10 months distance relationship, need your point of view of this breakup", "post": "Hey. I and my GF have been together for around 1 months. The probem is the distance between us, and we will have the distance between us for another 10-15 months(minimum) so it is really hard and annoying. The problems I am facing is, she is so deep in love with me, it hurts to see her in pain because of the distance, I have a lot of problems at home right now so can't really visit her or vice versa, but we tak around once a week now. We used to talk around 5-10 times a week before, but it is not possible due to my problems at home. She has asked for a pause before because she was have been in pain for so long, I said that we will fix it. Time has passed since then, and I have realised that my problems at might be for another 3 months at least. My thought was to break u, so she can be free from the pain I have caused, but when I talked with her about it I realised that she will be in more pain if I break up. But somewhere deep inside me I know it will be better to let her go, she might be in deeper pain for a month or so, but it will slowly get better. Instead of being with me in pain everyday, until we can move in together. \nI would really like to have your advice and point of view, am I thinking like an idiot? Am I thinking right? Do you have tips to solve this problem even better than a break up?", "summary": "Long distance relationship - Should I break up with her? Can't see each other often due to problems at home, trying my best to solve this in the best way possible. I want peoples thoughts on this problem!"}
{"id": "t3_3ji3zr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Utility Payments that aren't really mine", "post": "Good Morning/Afternoon r/advice, \n\nNever posted on Reddit before at all, but I figured (based on the overall reliability of you nice individuals) that now would be a good time to start. \n\nAbout a year ago I moved away from my Midwest town to the west coast for work, and have just recently moved back. I was calling the Utility providers in my area to set up the gas/water/elec for my new place, but I was informed that gas could not be set up due to owing a past amount. \n\nI am generally good about keeping up on those things, but am only human so I assumed I would have a small sum to pay. Maybe one months worth that I missed at the end of a lease or something like that. I was alarmed however when  I was told that the value was around $500.00 from a home that I shared with friends in college. They stated that this amount was accrued in 2013.\n\nI have spent the last 3 days trying to find the exact time when we moved from that specific house ( it was college, so we had a new place basically every year) and just now found out that the lease was over on 05/31/2012. Basically, whoever took over residency didn't change the service into their name and I did not request cancellation (first house, never had to pay utilities in the previously \"managed\" apartments as they were included in rent, other excuses). \n\nMy question is, am I really on the hook for these fees and what recourse could I possibly have? I cannot afford to pay it, but I also don't think that it should be on me TO pay it. Any advice is truly appreciated as I have not had any experience with this type of thing before.", "summary": "Didn't cancel gas from a house in college. People lived there afterwards using gas in my name. I \"owe\"$500.00 but can validate that I did not live there at that time."}
{"id": "t3_17x2sr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Any hope for the elusive lesbian man? (20 M/MtF)", "post": "For most of my life I was pretty hopeless about dating, mostly because I could not be myself when with women; I put on a man act because I was afraid of losing their interest.\n\nI thought I was gay, but the only thing I'm missing is an enjoyment for sex with men.  I've tried it many times and couldn't stay hard.  I was resigned to being a foreveralone with no hope and I was pretty hopeless about life.\n\nI used to joke to myself about being a lesbian in a man's body, but it turns out that's not far from the truth.  I'm going to be transitioning and living as a female in the next 6-12 months with the help of hormones and a lot of work, but I feel like I am unable to form meaningful relationships with women in the mean time.\n\nI don't find straight women that appealing because they prefer, and expect, masculinity from me and assume the submissive role that I would normally take in a relationship.  But while dating a lesbian girl who assumes the dominant role would be perfect, they don't find me attractive now and may lesbians seem to have a militant aversion to trans women.\n\nIt seems that either I somehow must act masculine and have women attracted to me (hasn't worked, would rather play in traffic) or I be myself and no one will want me for at least another 1-2 years when I presumably pass as a woman at some level.  How can I make female friends and possibly more than friends in the mean time?", "summary": "I am the woman in the relationship but I am presenting as a male.  Will any straight women find my personality attractive?  Is my only hope lesbian-leaning bisexual girls?  Any advice for making it work?"}
{"id": "t3_2pqbw4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally stapleing my thumb.", "post": "I was sitting infront of my computer, watching some random YouTube video and I was playing around with a stapler. I was opening it up, snapping it shut repeatedly until I heard the sound of the stapler shoot out a staple, shortly after I felt a sharp pain in my thumb.\n\nOne half of the staple had folded and was under my skin touching the bone. I tried to pull it out but it was painful and I couldn't find the angle. Luckly my mom's boyfriend who fishes as a hobby  was home and knew how to remove metal hook like objects from hands and pulled it out with no pain. I cleaned the wound with vodka just in case and let it heal.", "summary": "don't play with staplers."}
{"id": "t3_25leki", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bully steals my key, has to spend 12 hours with a greasy foot.", "post": "Background. Douchecanoe, dc for short is a bully. Picks on colleagues, yells at people to do everything as he is bone idle. Doesn't do anything anyway. Basically a complete dick. And a complete slob. I was on his shift for 2+ years but got moved thankfully.\n\nAnyway I had to cover on his shift as someone was off one day, and part of the job is filling stock up. We use a big forktruck called a combilift. Only people who are qualified to drive one have a key for insurance reasons. He lost his presumably at some point. I took mine off my keyring so he could use it whilst I was on my break, and upon return its missing. We look high and low and give up. I think nothing of it. \nAs we're clocking off, I see on his keyring an extremely familiar looking key, it's definitely it, no mistaking it.\n\nSo I think of plan as payback, I got another key as I could be bothered to ask for one so wasn't bothered about getting it back. Dc doesn't lock his locker which got me thinking. When he was off one day I grabbed a tube of grease, went into the locker room when no one was about, and I put enough in his safety boots to fill a couple of inches up. It felt glorious.\n\nThe next day when he returns he hadn't noticed and slipped it straight on, he screamed he yelled it was awesome. The manager came in to find out what was going on, and he told him. Manager asked who it was, obviously no one confessed. The best bit is, the store man was off that day, so dc couldn't get a new pair. And the manager said he has to wear them,company policy. So he cleaned up what he could but still spent 12 hours with them on.\n\nWhen he eventually took them off his foot was completely black and gross, I guess the lint from his sock turned to a paste after so many hours and completely covered it.  And he Moaned the next day it took an goodnight solid scrubbing to clean.", "summary": "slob steals my key ,spends 12 hours in a boot filled with grease."}
{"id": "t3_24g6ka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] am concerned about my [21 M] boyfriends sex drive.", "post": "Hello all. I have been in a relationship for just over two years with my boyfriend who I love dearly. We are very compatible, except when it comes to our sex drives. He has always been a \"sex once every week or so\" kind of guy, but I prefer it much more often than that. Our sex is great, he's not cheating or seeing anyone else, and I know he's attracted to me. \n\nMy concern is not only the fact that I become frustrated every few months regarding this, but that in the long term this will cause a falling out. Yes, I have discussed this with him on multiple occasions, yet his classic argument is that he just doesn't have a high sex drive. \n\nI'm confused and often feel sexually undesired. \n\nDoes anyone have any experience with this? How did things turn out? And is there anything I can do to fix this?", "summary": "Been with boyfriend for two years. I always want sex. He never does. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2rttwu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Counting calories help", "post": "A year and a half ago I was 35 pounds overweight and never worked out. Now I still have a little to lose but workout regularly and have even built up muscle! Right now I workout 5-6 days a week, 3 times circuits with weights and 2-3 times 40 min cardio. Initially I was counting calories but stopped for a while and Monday decided to start again to lose the tummy and get my body how I want it. \nMFP tells me to eat 1200 calories a day and it's feeling like it's just not enough. I feel legitimately hungry and like I can't eat an apple or won't be able to have a post workout snack without going overboard. Should I up my calories or just stick it out? I want to finish losing the weight but don't know if I should continue like this. \n\nExample of my eating: \nbreakfast: oatmeal with organic PB and jam (300 cal) \nlunch: two egg wrap (low cal mayo) with a veggies (305 sandwich and 100 veggies) \npre workout snack: fibre 1 bar (90 cal) \ndinner: homemade fish taco (350) salad (40) \nlater: popcorn (40 cal) \n\ntotal of 1225 for the day and I can't stop thinking about eating, not even junk food just anything.", "summary": "feeling hungry after hitting my MFP calorie goals, should I up my intact or stick it out?"}
{"id": "t3_mvico", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Possibly getting screwed on car repairs - advice?", "post": "Bit of a long story, so hang with me. \n\nI think I'm getting screwed by this guy whose car (a 2005 Nissan Altima) I scraped in a parking lot. Now, mind, when I say \"I scraped it\" I'm kind of going benefit of the doubt here - I don't remember scraping this guy's car when I pulled into the spot (I drive a massive minivan, so it's possible that I did so without noticing). I didn't leave a note (because I didn't notice), but got a call from university police later that afternoon saying that this guy claims I scraped his car, there was no damage/dents to the car, but that I did take some paint off and I need to call him and settle it. Ok, fine. Not wanting to be that asshole, I give the guy a call. Ask him to get an estimate first to see if I can settle it without raising my insurance. He says sure. \n\nA month passes. I don't hear from the guy. I give him a call and leave a message - no response. I assume he's dropped the issue. \n\nToday (about a month and a half later), I come back to my car to find an estimate tucked under my windshield wiper for $1,175.70. No note. I looked up the body shop listed on the paper and they seem legit. I have no pictures of HIS car, only know that the police told me \"no damage, just a small paint scrape.\" \n\nReddit, would a paint scrape really cost this much? Am I just ignorant? I've never been involved in a collision before, so it's all new to me. I feel like I'm getting played. Any advice appreciated.", "summary": "A guy claims I scraped his car in the parking lot, which is totally possible. I didn't notice at the time, so I have no pics of his car (a 2005 Nissan Altima). Police told me no damage, save one small paint scrape. No contact from the guy for a month. Today I find an estimate of $1,175.70 tucked under my windshield wiper? Is this legit?"}
{"id": "t3_24tr8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26m], gf [22f] of 4.5 yrs keeps losing/misplacing things", "post": "Sorry If this is a bad sub to post this but I'm kinda new.\n\nSo basically I've been with her for a good while now and we are both in it for the long haul. I love her more than anyone on earth. She does have her faults though and one of those is her always losing stuff.\n\nLast week she lost her debit card. Luckily somebody turned it into the police and it was returned to us just fine. This week she lost her entire wallet on a quick road trip. That was Friday,  she still hasnt found it. To make matters worse she is leaving for a month this Thursday. \n\nShe has always been like this and it never bothered me much. She has always been disorganized.  We are starting to really plan our lives together though and that starts with sharing a bank account, etc. THIS IS WHERE IM GETTING SCARED. \n\nI never lose important stuff like that. I make a mental note every so often to make sure I have my wallett/keys/ whatever on me, or make sure I know where they are. \n\nIm getting cold feet about sharing our financials with each other. All I can think about is one day losing all of our money b/c she lost the card or something.\n\nWhat should I do/say/think to get her more organized, or lose my fear of having our account cleaned out.", "summary": "Gf loses loses stuff like debit cards alot. Nervous about opening bank account with her."}
{"id": "t3_1afyv0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I don't feel...much?", "post": "Hey everybody (or whoever reads that post!)      \n\nAn (as much as possible) short summary of my situation first.   \nI'm a 20 years old guy whose first relationship ended about a week ago when my gf of 5 months broke up with me.       \n\nI apologize for the lack of details but I don't think they are important in this case. The breakup was quite \"civilized\", with her explaining me the reason and since we always communicated quite well during these 5 months, I knew and understood the reason. Unfortunately, fixing this issue was quite difficult (Still, I was trying but didn't help much) which is why the breakup wasn't completely unexpected to me.    \n \n  \nDespite that issue, most of our relationship was pretty good and I really enjoyed it. She really is an amazing girl and I do not regret anything.    \n\n  \nThe reason I'm making this post is the following: When she told me she wants to break up, I was very sad that night. Then the day after, I was still not feeling very well but really nothing excessive and the day passed fine. The following days up to today were also pretty normal apart from the fact that I had some unusual, for me, need for the presence of other people (I live with my parents so it wasn't really a problem).    \n\nMy \"issue\" I guess is that I don't really feel bad and I don't exactly know the reason. I'm not expecting myself to cry all day long but one would assume that I would feel worse than that after breaking up with such a great girl.", "summary": "Amazing girl broke up with me, I was expecting to feel worse than I currently am.  "}
{"id": "t3_3xsben", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by checking my paper for plagiarism...", "post": "So TIFU by using a website called Turnitin, which is now mandatory is to use to hand in any papers for a class. I like to check my spelling and grammer mistakes by using turnitin but the only way to do that is make a teacher's account. Knowing the ways of google, I made a teachers account and handed in my paper from my student account. All went good, not much mistakes, no plagiarism, feeling good. \n\nHere's where I fucked up. After checking all my mistakes, I handed my paper to my actual teacher's account. Little did I know, turnitin checks all their own databases for plagiarism, so when I handed my paper in, I got a 100% similarity to the paper that I sent in to my fake teacher's account. To dumb it down, the system basically thinks I copied work from another student, but in reality that student is me. \n\nI will probably get a 0 now on a 200 point essay, r.i.p. my GPA. If you guys actually have any advice, that'd be cool because I am fucked.", "summary": "Used a plagiarism checker site, system think's I plagiarized my own paper"}
{"id": "t3_3mgwmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26M I haven't met anyone else after my live-in ex two years ago", "post": "She was my first serious long term partner and eventually cheated on me.  Our breakup was shitty, and we didn't really remain friends.\n\nIt took a while to \"get over it\" but since then I knew I was ready and open to date someone new.  I really wanted to be in love again and find someone I could share my life with. But in the two years I've been single: I just haven't. \n\nIt sucks, because I see tons of attractive women, I meet lots of interesting people, and I know rationally there are a lot of people out there that would make good matches.  So it doesn't make any sense to me why I haven't been able to meet anyone that I've felt romantic about in longer than I can remember.\n\nAt this point I feel like I've kind of resigned myself against the possibility of meeting anyone anytime soon.  I've had FWB's, dated a few people for a while, but just haven't dated anyone that I've felt a romantic connection with.\n\nFor the past year, I tried to just not put any pressure on it and just let it happen.  But at the same time, it seems like it's starting to feel like it's been a long time, and at this point I'd really like to love someone.\n\nAnyway, at my current trajectory, I could easily see myself going down this path for the next five or ten years.  I'm not really sure what to do.  I lift weights and am in pretty good shape, but I don't really seem to attract the kind of people I'm attracted to (so basically, attractive women, making me like every other dude).\n\nAnyway, I thought about this because recently my ex friended me on facebook and, while it wasn't a serious thing (she's had a new bf for a while now), I wrote her last week just to catch up and she immediately unfriended me and never replied.  I kind of sat there thinking like \"man.  My love life is such shit.  All I have after the last two years is the hope of friendship with a woman who wants nothing to do with me, and I still can't find anyone I'm attracted to to date.\"", "summary": "Feeling down because I just haven't met anyone I've been romantically interested in since my ex girlfriend. Not hung up on her, just feeling down that it's been (what feels like) a very long time."}
{"id": "t3_2dfcxt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on a walk", "post": "Yesterday. I was arguing with my parents for some time today, as any other teenager would. My mom got pissed off and told me to just leave the house. Absolutely zero fucks given. Grabbed my phone and like 20 bucks. I'm 18. I don't have a car. Walked a few miles and went to get a bite to eat. About an hour and a half went by, no calls or text. Walked a couple more miles, nowhere in particular. Just wanted to get away. Got late, tired, phone battery low. It was like 12 am, so I turned off my phone while I slept. Wake up, turn on phone. 7 am, ton of messages and missed calls from family. Family thinks I died or went missing. Call them right away. They called cops thinking I ran away or something. Walked home.", "summary": "Parents told me to leave, went on a walk, parents call cops thinking I died or something."}
{"id": "t3_51hphl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by renting my apartment to the weedman", "post": "Last week I rented 1 out of 2 rooms to my weedman and his girlfriend. It was only supposed to be till the end of September. \n\nSunday noon this guys calls me and tells me \n\"Hey man, my girlfriend left me. I'm not going to stay at apartment anymore, I want my money back!\"\n\nI don't really have backup funds for emergency situations like this due to the fact that I just started working as an apprentice one year ago. My mother pays for the apartment.\n\nNow here is where the fuck up happened. He payed me around 500\u20ac for one month. The rent was already payed and I decided to spent the money on clothes, electronics, booze and of course some herbs. And I also didn't tell my mother about. \n\nThis dude has the key for the main lock to the apartment. Unfortunately this is a universal key. He can open the door to the building, to my mail and the door. Fortunately I didn't give the key for the second lock. \n\nAfter trying to tell him that I don't have his money, he went berserk. He threatened me via text and phone calls. \n\nI panicked. Closed both locks. Went to my parents house, because I didn't really felt safe there anymore. My parents are out of town till the end of September and I beg to God that I can sort this situation out. \n\nMy mother will probably kill me if she finds out, the dealer most likely too. Drugs are bad mkay kids?", "summary": "rent a room to a dealer, he wanted the money back. Got threats via text and phone calls.  Dealer still has one out of two keys to the apartment. "}
{"id": "t3_29kgjd", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Calf sleeves, a crutch or a good investment to deal with chronic shin splints?", "post": "I have had problems with shin splints for years even outside of running. In the past few months, I have had on an off problems with my shins that ended me up with a stress fracture that is thankfully almost healed. I am looking to get started again, and I was wondering what people thought about calf sleeves. I know that using braces for physical activity can be frowned upon, so I was wondering if calf sleeves fall into the same category. Are they something I could use to build up strength while I build distance and then transition to no longer needing them? I have tried the stretching and strengthening for my calves/shins, but it doesn't seem to take the problem away. I have also tried a couple different styles of shoes to no avail. If calf sleeves are a good investment, what brands have you found effective/durable?", "summary": "Looking into the benefits/drawbacks of using calf sleeves to prevent shin splints and good brands to buy."}
{"id": "t3_16uvjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [24] is addicted to eating pickles. Am I [27M] in the wrong to leave the room when she eats them?", "post": "My wife and I have been married for about 7 months. We've been together for nearly 3 years.\n\nLately, she has begun to buy [pickles in jars] from the supermarket. I don't mind this because I like pickles myself. But the problem is the noise she makes while eating. I understand  that pickles are crunchy, and wet and therefore sound loud when eaten...\n\nBut I suppose the problem is how I react, and how she reacts in response.\n\nWhen she begins to eat them I like to leave the room. The sound really irks me; I have a problem with the sounds of eating. I do it politely, I don't say anything or do anything aggressive; I just quietly leave the room to wait until she's finished. \n\nBut she will always yell out: \"Is my pickle-eating annoying you?\"\n\nIn the past when I've said \"yes\" and explained how I will be in the other room for a few minutes, she has become angry, saying that I am rude for leaving the room.\n\nSo now I just say \"no\", because I really don't mind that she eats them (in fact I think it is kind of cute, like Snooki from Jersey Shore), it's just the sound that bothers me - I have always disliked the sounds of eating since I was a child... so saying \"no\" avoids an argument. \n\nWe have talked about my 'sound of eating' problem. I've tried to get rid of this; but I can't. It is just that sometimes I can't stand it and I just need to leave the room. Am I being rude? Is this normal? And how can I fix this?", "summary": "Wife loves to eat pickles like Snooki from the Jersey shore. I leave the room (quietly) when she does because I can't stand the sound. She thinks this is rude; am I in the wrong? And how can I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_2dgg1s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by standing up to the school jerk.", "post": "I am a college student in a very small Institute. (Graduation class of less than 50) Well there is this particular guy who is the biggest jerk of the school. He has to \"one up\" everybody and is constantly demeaning and disrespectful. \n\nWell, this particular discussion began over the recent tragedy involving Robin Williams death.\n\nHe had mentioned the incident and said that those who take their own lives are \"Shameless Cowards\" and those people shouldn't waste time on Earth if they can't handle life. Also the families and loved ones of those individuals should be ashamed and embarrassed.\n\nI then was very upset and told him that I have had people very close to me take their own lives, and You can imagine what that person must have been dealing with. He proceeded to say they were simply weak. At this point I went off and can't remember everything that was said. Well a nosey student went and told a director that I was Verbally assaulting an innocent student. (of course) this student was an underclassmen who did not know the situation nor the history of this person. They also lied and exaggerated the story.\n\nI was called into a meeting where I was suspended for the next 3 days. Upon my return on Monday I have a meeting with the program Director to discuss further repercussions, aka Expulsion from a College I have paid to go to. \n\nThis college is a joke. The teachers act like high school students and gossip like no teenage I've ever met. the favoritism and exaggeration is outrageous. I am being threatened with expulsion on the false grounds of bulling with no proof of the entire incident and the guy that was involved didn't even come forward to complain about it because it was simply a heated discussion in which were both involved.\n\nI guess the lesson here is, You can't stand up to Bullies because you look like a bully and then are kicked from a bullshit college that you have paid $30,000 to attend.", "summary": "I stood up to a bully, now I'm being falsely accused of being a Bully and I am facing Expulsion from college. (because this is high school, right?)"}
{"id": "t3_2ytn3v", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "HELP! I took off work today for an interview, my coworker texted me my manager rummaged through my desk and took some projects", "post": "Exactly as title says. For more context, I work at a law firm and was hired on as the receptionist. I actually do a lot of paralegal work when not answering phones/directing clients around the office. My coworker let me know that our manager apparently took some paperwork from my desk and said something to the effect of:\ntoyaqueen has too much work for a receptionist.\n\nI don't know if I'm overreacting so I need some perspective as how to handle this tomorrow when I get back in the office. \n\nI do get swamped down but my work involves a lot of follow-up. There are no real deadlines to what I do, but i'm paranoid that she may have found the one project holdover from late January (I have not bee able to get the client to submit what I need, and I do routinely followup).", "summary": "How should I handle what looks like my manager clamping down on what I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1msaqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19M] with my Girlfriend [19F] of 3 years, She is unsure if our relationship is worth saving - Help", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nme and my girlfriend had been together for about 1 year when i started to ignore her problems and be a bit selfish, denying that we had problems and letting my own insecurities out on our relationship.\nThis carried on for another year and she put up with it.\n\nat the moment we currently aren't together and she kind of likes another guy, goes out with him and hang around together, she says that she still loves me and wants me to show her that we're worth saving but i really don't know what to do.\n(I'm quite emotionally naive with these kind of things)\n\nAt the moment i really don't know what i should do, if i should fight for our relationship and show her that we're worth saving, or just move on with my life without her.\nI'm pretty much at rock bottom at the moment\n\nShe is literally my whole world and has been for the past 3 years\n\nPlease help Reddit", "summary": "girlfriend is having doubts over relationship because i was a massive cunt to her for too long and she found someone else to fill the gap i made"}
{"id": "t3_2vjzph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] want to be more supportive of my exceedingly stressed out girlfriend [21F] of 1 month.", "post": "As background, we've been dating for a month, but we were friends and met a year ago.\n\nShe works two demanding jobs and goes to school on top of that. I honestly don't know how she does it. She keeps telling me these stories about people being rude or uncooperative with her and essentially screwing up things that she can't fix. She also has a medical problem that isn't life threatening, but causes her a lot of physical pain and gets worse when she has that anxiety. When she talks to me about everything, I feel like all I'm doing is sitting there and coming up with nothing helpful or supportive to say.\n\nI can't come up with the right words. I don't want to bullshit her and tell her that everything will be okay when we both know perfectly well that every day is going to be as awful for her as the last one. I don't want to uselessly be pestering her and asking how everything is every five seconds, either. But I also can't really do anything within my own power to fix the things she has to deal with.\n\nOne thing I will say is that I'm genuinely amazed by how much she does, and I've tried to let her know that. As for my own problems, I was only just recently properly treated for Bipolar II that was affecting me for years, and I got put behind because it was hard for me to accomplish anything in that period of time. Being with her and knowing that she does all these things so well has inspired me to try and get my shit together and be more realistic about my goals.\n\nAside from that, I just really like her and want to be happ[y/ier], but can't exactly change much. I really appreciate anything anyone could suggest.", "summary": "Girlfriend is overworked and stressed, I don't know what the right things to say are."}
{"id": "t3_4cff5a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Does debit card insufficient funds fee affect my credit in any way?", "post": "First time posting on Reddit and on mobile, formatting might be a problem.\nYesterday, I checked my bank account online after my card was not accepted for a payment. Turns out I have a balance of -$60 on my debit card because of a purchase done on a subscription I didn't even know I had subscribed to. I only had 0.23\u00a2 (irresponsible, I know) on my bank account, and the subscription costed $12. So apart from the $12 fee, I got an overdraft fee of -$34, and another more for -$15 after not paying the first fee a week after I got it. So now I have a $60 fee, and I have no idea if it will affect my credit or my debit in any way. I do not have a credit card, I have never had any, and I plan to pay the debt today. Will this fee affect me and my credit in any way?", "summary": "$60 overdraft fee, no idea how it will affect my debit, bank account, and credit, even though I have never owned a credit card."}
{"id": "t3_3k25g9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] mother [50F] recently got fired. I started a company with my long term relationship (4 years) girlfriend [22F] about 2 months ago but I keep getting pressure from my mother to generate money to help her pay the mortgage.", "post": "I was gifted a small house as my life heritage, my mother took a mortgage for a bigger house for her. Just after signing the mortgage she got fired. A month before I started a company with my girlfriend. I have sold my house to reduce the monthly payments on her mortgage, moved to the bigger house and now I will move to a small apartment with a low rent so we can rent the bigger house. The problem is I keep receiving pressure from my mother to generate money to pay for my own life and help her with the mortgage even though I have not finish University (just one subject and my thesis remaining). I feel I have lost everything I had for her and she just wants to keep digging my pockets, I will lose my company, my relationship and my dreams. What should I do? Find a company to work in and forget my own company and help my mother pay her mortgage or keep fighting for my dream. Finally, my girlfriend would not support with open arms the idea of me entering a company just to please my mother.\n\nShe lives in another city but bought these house live near me, now she wants me to return to my hometown and live with them, but I have a pretty messy relationship with my father and can't return until I finish University. My mom and dad live in a house there and my dad keeps working, but he does not earn as much as we needed and were used to.\n\nAm I being selfish her? What should I do? Please help!", "summary": "My mom got fired after signing a mortgage. I was gifted a house as my heritage. I started a company recently with my girlfriend. Sold my house to pay a big chunks of my mothers mortgage, rented the big house and went living in a smaller one. She wants me to enter a job to help her more and leave my dreamed company."}
{"id": "t3_3kgktc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] met a nice girl [21 F], but don't want to pursue anything, how do I let her know?", "post": "About a month ago I decided that I would make an online dating account just for the hell of it.  My intentions were to maybe just find someone to talk to or text to pass the time.  I don't have any friends at the moment outside of my family which seems to surprise people because I seem to get along so well with people.  I guess this sparked my desire to possibly enter the dating world.  \n\nAfter some time I ended up meeting a very sweet girl.  We talked for a while over the site I used, then we exchanged phone numbers and have constantly been talking to each other ever since.  The problem is, is that she has gotten fairly attached.  I truthfully have no intentions to date at the moment or even meet her in person.  When I expressed these feelings to her she exclaimed that she was hurt but understood.  I don't see how she could feel this way being that she hasn't even met me in person yet.  \n\nWhat I would like advice for is how to let her off easy.  I have no intention of meeting her, and don't want to lead her on since she has expressed how much she feels she needs to meet me in person and pursue dating each other.", "summary": "Met a girl online who's gotten attached, I don't want to meet her."}
{"id": "t3_4h857r", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I legally shut down someone's social media accounts if it is giving me a bad rep?", "post": "My first and last name is pretty unique. I only get about ~500 page results when I Google my name. Recently, some idiot who apparently has the same full name as me (i have no idea who he is) opened up twitter and facebook accounts under his name so that when I search for my name on Google, the first page contains links to all of his accounts, which have the same name as me. Now, I usually would have no problem with this. The problem that I have is that (1) all of his posts talk about him doing drugs, smoking weed, drinking, partying (2) he has pornography all over his social media accounts (3) several pornographic websites of his account appear. (4) he says a lot of racist stuff that I don't agree with (5) and every other word is a curse word. I'm completely the opposite of this, and this obviously does not give me a good name considering that I'm in my second year of university and am starting to look for jobs soon. I'm worried employers would see it and automatically reject me.  Can I sue him for defamation? I've tried reporting the accounts, but I failed because twitter and facebook say that  I do not have rights to take down his account. Is there anything that I can do?", "summary": "Guy posts stupid stuff on social media accounts, which pop up in my name's search results and give me a bad rep. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_29ller", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) was a horrible person in a relationship because of my past", "post": "My boyfriend (19M)  broke up with me (20F), after an 8 month relationship, a little over a month ago. The break up was bad. I was hysterical and acted like a child. At first I did not know why he had broken up with me (his answers to my questions were not very clear). \n\nAfter a while, and a little soul searching, I realized that out relationship fell apart because of my need to be in control. I was constantly nagging him to do things and I constantly micro-managed not only my life, but also his. \n\nI have been going to counseling ever since the break up. It has made me realize that my behavior comes from a controlling parent. I do not want to be controlling and am working on living life without worry about something not going right. So far, I am actually enjoying my life more than I have in a very long time.\n\nI had not thought about my ex for quite a while. About a week after the break up I decided that it was time for me to pull my life back together. Now that I am feeling much better, I have started thinking about him again. I would like to try again in a relationship with him. I am sure he is angry and hurt by the way I treated him. I do not want to have the same relationship we had because if it did not work once, it is not going to work again. I could go give him  the whole \"I've changed\" speech, but I feel like I need to say something different than that. I do not know what to do to try and win him back, and let him know I actually want to have a good, healthy relationship.", "summary": "I was controlling because of my parent to one of the best people I've ever met. After some therapy and working on changing, I think I want to try again with him, but I don't know how to approach it."}
{"id": "t3_3gibcj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] am losing patience with my SO [23 M] over property hunting. Feel like I am going to snap.", "post": "We're an LDR. I fly out to be with him/live with him for a year on a visa at the end of this month. I'm going for a year of university through my home countries abroad program.\n\nIt was understood and agreed upon that we would live together well in advance. I'm starting to lose my patience with my SO because his sole responsibility in this move is to look at apartments and put in an application.\n\nI've had to move from my university town, move out of my apartment, move back in with my parents,which is a 16hr drive from my university town and a very toxic environment. Plus go through the visa process and getting that approved, plus the financial costs/stress. Oh and getting our cat prepared to fly/go through customs. \n\nIts past the point of me being able to live in residence. I am, at this moment, flying over to his country to live in his parents camping trailer because I am not allowed to live in the house (as they have never met me). This whole thing is extremely stressful, on both of us. \n\nI empathize with him, I really do. I know how hard it can be to do new things and to move out but I just feel like........... He shouldn't be this upset over it. This past month he has been incredibly stressed out and is finding it difficult to look at apartments. I've done everything I can from my position; I've arranged viewings, I've researched properties. I've done everything but physically go and see them. \n\nThis sounds terrible but honestly I am losing my patience because I feel like this isn't an issue that should cause him so much distress. I feel like I am doing everything and the one thing that I have no control over, that is completely in his hands, he can't power through it for my sake. I don't even enjoy talking to him anymore because I constantly feel like I am going to snap and just lose my patience. I am grateful to him and I love him but this whole thing is ridiculous. It can't be this hard to go look at a property and fill out a piece of paper and hand it in.", "summary": "LDR. SO is stressing out over looking and applying for properties. I'm losing my patience, feeling like I might snap because I have to 100% rely on him for this one thing and he just can't seem to get it together."}
{"id": "t3_222fr0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Invited to go out, but I have major anxiety...", "post": "My friends finally decided to invite me out for a night out, I usually hang out with this group but the only thing is that they're all planning to sleep over at someones house who I'm not to familiar with. They're all close to these people living in the house, but I would feel extremely uncomfortable staying there. I'm not even sure if he's okay with it, my friends just told me that they were going too.\nI don't have anywhere else to stay because we're going to a different city (college campus), I want to go out with them, but I'm not sure. I'm hyperventilating just thinking about it...", "summary": "Just wondering if it's weird for me to sleepover at someones house whom I barely know, not sure if I even want to go now..."}
{"id": "t3_3xud63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my the girl I was seeing.....did I blow this by taking it too slow?", "post": "So basically, I think I took it too slow with this girl and blew it......would love an opinion. I asked this girl on a date about 2 and a half months ago (she was a stranger working at a bar and I took a chance lol)....and things started happening quickly from there. We were having sex about two weeks in, continuously dating and texting all the time (in between get togethors) for 2 months, sleepovers,etc.....and at the end of the 2 months I even took her for a weekend away with all of my close friends. However after that weekend, she started to pull away and become more distant to the point where I didn't see her for 2 weeks ( I tried, but she kept bailing....had never happened before) and the texting got VERY dry. I could tell she was pulling away. Finally, I asked her where her head was at with us, and I told her I really liked her and didn't want to see this fade ( i couldn't take the uncertainty) . She said she \"really really liked me, but couldn't keep doing this\". A week later I find out she's been back talking to her ex. I confronted her about it and she said, she \"had no idea where my head was at\", and that it wasn't \"all her fault\" because we were never exclusive or official. \n\nDo you think I took this too slow by not asking to be exclusive / official within those 2 months? By not telling her about my feelings / talking about feelings earlier? Because it certainly feels that way , we went from 100-0 in basically no time. Just FYI, I initiated 90% of our dates / hangouts, I met her sister, she met my friends, etc. She never brought up any of her feelings or being exclusive either so....", "summary": "Need some help on my situation above! Opinions, advice, etc."}
{"id": "t3_54bjtz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I've lost weight, but I want to tone up and start eating healthy. Before after pics included.", "post": "I went from 195 to around 150. \n\nBACKGROUND: I very recently started working out, but dieting is where I fail. I eat real bad, yesterday for example I had 2 bags of chips, 15ish Hershey kisses, an ice cream sandwich, pizza, and fried chicken. That was a pretty average day,  I've done 2 pints of ice cream no problem, but now I'm trying to slow down on my sugar intake. I don't calorie count. \n\nEating right seems to focus on creating healthy yet delicious meals. But that's not me, the tastiness doesn't outweigh the time spent making. I just want to get what I need. Hence why I eat so much fast food and junk. Need x amount of carbs? Drink this it takes no time prepping. Need x amount of protein? Take this pill and you're good for the day. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to take shortcuts, I just don't care for food and the more time needed to make a meal the less likely I'll do it.", "summary": "Daily vitamins, minerals, nutrients without meals? I mean dam if anything I'll even blend a chicken into a shitty shake if that only takes 1 min."}
{"id": "t3_2g2lwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] think I should start seeing older women. Could use some guidance.", "post": "If you ask anyone who knows me well to describe me, \"old soul\" is one of the first things to come up every time. I've just always been that way. \n\nI haven't really dated at all since high school, but even in school, I hated my relationships and broke them off early because there was always a huge disconnect in our interests, values, responsibilities, etc. \n\nTwo months ago, I met a girl [20 F], and things were going great for about a week. She was an old soul too, but I think we were looking for different things. She was happy with me being around occasionally. I really wanted a partner though. Call me clingy, but I would love to be able to come home every day to someone who cares about me.\n\nTalking to a bunch of my similarly aged female friends, it sounds like I'm going to have a really hard time finding anyone my age who is both mature, AND interested in sharing each other's company that much.\n\nI have a hard time connecting with people my age, and it seems most women my age aren't looking for a full time partner... I'm drawing what seems to me like an obvious conclusion, date older women. (a recent askreddit thread was pretty compelling, too)\n\nI don't know the first thing about this, though, and don't know any men my age dating older women. Just a few of things I'm lost with... Where do I meet women in their late 20's and early 30's? Why would they be interested in me/what strengths do I play on? Are there big questions I need to ask myself before diving head first into a relationship where I'm the young one?", "summary": "I think I like older women, but have no idea what I'm doing. Would anyone talk me through this?"}
{"id": "t3_42ufpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f16) friend (f15) isn't taking pregnancy serious", "post": "Reddit, I'm so fucked off. \nMy 15 year old friend got an pregnancy test it came out as positive she's pregnant. She doesn't give a shit she didn't tell her mum (who is irresponsible and like 30 with like 6kids)\nShe thinks party's come first last night she got drunk and had unprotected sex again with 1 guy maybe more. She's has no morals. I'm pretty much her only responsible friend. I've had enough, I don't even know if she's lying or not. But why the fuck would she lie about it. I feel horrible for whatever growing inside her body. I care more then her. \n\nCan she not be descent enough to figure out what to do with her baby first?\n\nI have no idea what to do.\nI also don't want to lose her as a friend because I have 2 friends including her that I can hang with at school. \n\nI told my mum just to tell someone but i made her do nothing about it.\n\nOur family has been involved in her family before it didn't end well. \n\nShe's had to stay at our house for a few days before because her mum kicked her onto the street for a few days.\n\nI know she has a hard life but she's not making it any easier on herself she knows my family and I'll always be there for her too btw I remind her.", "summary": "friend is pregnant and doesn't care "}
{"id": "t3_2uppii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] just got dumped [26 M] - 8 months - what to do with some things I have of his?", "post": "Hi there,\n\nI was dumped last night by my (ex)boyfriend of 8 months.\nHe just wanted to focus on himself and school. There was no animosity, but I was emotional. \n\nI still have one of his shirts and I was borrowing his little sister's book. I mentioned his shirt last night, he said I can just do whatever I want with it. I don't know if he felt too awkward about taking it back or something, but it's not by any means an old or worn shirt. He wore it regularly, so I'm sure he likes it.\n\nShould I possibly mail him his shirt and his sister's book? Is that weird or too much? I don't have any motives, I just figure it's the polite thing to do. Meeting up with him isn't an option. \nIf I should mail it, do I just do it without saying anything? Or send an informative text? \n\nSorry for the barrage of questions on such an inane issue. This is my first break up so I don't know what to do.  \n\nI appreciate your guys' advice.", "summary": "Broke up, still have some of his things, mail or no?"}
{"id": "t3_w4zi7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Friend put me down as a personal reference for a car loan. What should I do?", "post": "Someone I hang out with but that I don't know very well put me down as a personal reference for a car loan, and the dealership (a national chain known for financing people with bad credit) called and left me a voicemail to call them back. I have never had to put down a personal reference for a car loan, and I don't know why they are calling me. What type of information are they looking for? (I am definitely NOT cosigning or anything like that; this was out of the blue.)\n\nFor the record, I don't know this friend very well. He tells a lot of tall tales about his family and claims to own a luxury car and a house \"back home\" in another city but seems to be just barely scraping by here. He also recently started his own business, but I have no idea how well it may or may not be doing financially.\n\nSo I guess if I called the car dealership back, I wouldn't have anything good to say about his financial situation. To me, it seems like he has no money, but I don't want to tank his chance at getting a car. Should I call back and lie, call back and tell the truth, or just not call back at all?", "summary": "What info is involved in personal references for car loans? Should I give a reference for someone I don't know very well?"}
{"id": "t3_z2l2d", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "He doesn't trust me because he's cheating on me. Duh.", "post": "Seriously, I'm an idiot for getting myself into this.\n\nWhen I fall in love I just automatically give the person the benefit of the doubt, and my trust. Y'know, I thought if you love someone then that automatically means you should be able to trust them. If he tells me he doesn't trust me because he's scared, I'd just believe that shit without a second thought.\u00a0\n\nAm I really that much of an idiot to just believe that? This guy is totally fucking around, I can't believe I'd be stupid enough to believe otherwise just because of love and just because *I'm* faithful. Stupid, stupid, stupid.\n\nBut now, I'm just going to numb myself out. I'm really good at that. I'm going to constantly assume the worst. I'm going to allow myself to keep falling in love with him (because honestly I couldn't stop myself if I tried) and I'm going to stay just as faithful as I've been this entire time, *but I'm not trusting him for shit*. Fuck that.\n\nI already know what's coming. I've probably been getting played since the beginning, and I'm definitely being played now. I'd be a fucking idiot to think this guy actually loves me.\u00a0\n\nI mean really, why did I think I was special? What made me think I was so special that he would want to be with me exclusively? I only believed it because that's what I wanted, but what the fuck? Could I be a bigger fucking idiot? Damn.\n\nI'm just going to enjoy it while it lasts. Sooner or later it'll get more obvious that I'm being used and I'll be discarded, or the betraying will become apparent. Whatever comes first. So at least for now I can love him without being fully aware of how I'm being fucked.\n\nIt'll actually be cool to get my heart broken because then I can really numb out. Any faith I have in people would be sucked out and replaced with cold detachment. I'll shut people out of my heart in the name of defense. If I don't trust anyone to begin with, then they would have no chance to fuck me over. Awesome.", "summary": "Just because I'm \u00a0in love and faithful doesn't mean I'm getting the same respect in return. Fuck trust and fuck being gullible. I'm being betrayed."}
{"id": "t3_r4i3n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How have you guys lost a lot of hard earned money?", "post": "I'll start. I bought my first car at the end of this past summer. It was a 1999 silver Honda Civic, It was nothing special but I paid for it myself with the money I had been saving up over the summer (you know, something always feels more \"special\" when you pay for it). Since it was a manual I taught myself how to drive it and fell in love with it immediately. It got me to school and work everyday and I felt like I had invested $2500 wisely. \n      It all started around December when I began noticing oil on the driveway as I would roll out, so naturally I took it to the shop. The mechanic told me it had two internal oil leaks but was fine to drive as long as I checked the oil weekly. Two weeks ago I was driving to work and white smoke began streaming out of the back. I'm talking about enough smoke I began to worry about the visibility of the cars behind me. I pulled over as soon as I could and as I parked the entire cabin was filled with the same white smoke. I walked the rest of the way to work (I was only two miles away so It was fine)\n     Turns out the entire car is now worthless and my $2500 investment has disappeared. As an 18 year old Redditer (Redditor?) that's a lot of money. \n     How have you guys lost a lot of hard earned money?", "summary": "Saved up for car, bought it, broke"}
{"id": "t3_23beyv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How can I, a 17 year old high school senior, earn money?", "post": "Hello /r/personalfinance! My name is Joshua. I'm coming to you for help. I want to earn money so I can buy my first car. I could easily ask my parents to buy me one but I hold strong values in working for what you have.\n\nHere's my current state. I work part time at a Baskin Robbins and manage roughly 130 per paycheck. After paying my $80 for car insurance (my sister was nice enough to lend me her extra car and I use it as my own), that leaves me about $50. After filling up my car I have about $20 left. \n\nNow, I recently decided I want to buy my own car. Why? Because it will be my first major investment as an adult and I want to experience working to buy something like that. It might not be fun but it will give me a lot of 'my first car' memories. \n\nBetween school and work, I have a fair amount of free time. With summer approaching I'm going to start mowing lawns around my neighborhood for extra cash. \n\nThis leads me to my question. What can I, a 17 year old high school senior, do to earn more money?", "summary": "I want more money"}
{"id": "t3_s8521", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "At what age do you think people have to be personally responsible for how they act?", "post": "Hey Reddit\n\nIn my group of friends there is a guy who must have had an awkward childhood.  He grew up in a backwater town in a bad family situation, and turned out kind of socially awkward.  He always ends up saying incredibly rude things to everyone, and is kind of homophobic/racist.  But the biggest issue is that he never realizes that he has said anything wrong.\n\nPersonally I call him out when he says something rude to anyone, and I am not particularly nice to him (because why would I try to be nice to a douche?).\n\nThe only issue is that some of my other friends get mad when I am rude back to him.  They say it isn't his fault, he was raised that way, he doesn't know better etc.  But we are all in our second year of university, and I think there comes a point when a person has to become personally responsible for how they act, and I think that they will never change if people keep protecting them like that.", "summary": "Guy is unknowingly, but extremely rude, relates to how he was raised, people protect him because they feel bad"}
{"id": "t3_hlguh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Damn you, loseit!", "post": "You led me astray!\n\nI was happily dieting along, minding my own very low calorie business, losing weight fast and feeling pretty pleased with myself.\n\nThen I was told that I was going to lose too much muscle mass and should instead eat a little bit more (especially protein) and do some serious weight-bearing exercise. So I thought, \"Yeah, loseit knows best - that's what I'll do!\"\n\nAnd that's what I did. BUT I am now in a situation where I am building muscle faster than I am losing fat. My weight is staying constant, but my body fat percentage is going down. Doesn't sound like this is necessarily a bad thing, right? Wrong. Because there is absolutely NO VISIBLE DIFFERENCE. This muscle building must be happening secretly and hidden below the fat because you sure as hell can not see any difference whatsoever. I am still eating pretty damn few calories (don't ask, I know it's unhealthy) but nothing is happening at all. This is understandably demoralising.\n\nShould I leave the weights and just drop back to previous calorie levels? Should I just keep going like this in the hopes that one day, magically, all in one go, something will show? Has this ever happened to any of you?\n\n(F/24/138 - goal 120)", "summary": "Building muscle, so not losing weight - but no visible change. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3du1qg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] my long term boyfriend [30 M) of 2 years lied about using dating sites.", "post": "I recently discovered my boyfriend of over 2 years has been logging onto a dating site daily. We had spoken before about this account a few months into our relationship and agreed that as long as it wasnt being used there was no reason to deactivate it. \n\nA year later i logged into mine to  look at a friends potential date, and saw he was online. I went back the next day and there he was again. Over the next few weeks i checked in daily and he was online up to 3 times a day. I mentioned I saw him on there and he lied to me, saying it was once off answering a friend. He got angry that I brought it up and accused me of being paranoid and untrusting, and that he would have to shut it down because of my issues and i securities.\n I havent told him yet that I know he lied, Im trying to come to terms with his response and not blow up. I genuinly dont believe he is cheating on me, but the fact he is browsing other women, and choosing to lie to me and put me down instead of admit it is a huge red flag, and not in line with the love he claims to have for me. I feel disrespected and upset that my relationship is not based on honesty like I thought. I have just left a job to move across the country to be with him, and now Im unsure about my decision. He knows honesty is non negotiable with me, this has seriously damaged my idea of our relationship.\nAny advise or insights?\n*Ive never been insecure or untrusting in relationships. Wondering If Im picking up on something this time round?", "summary": "long term boyfriend on dating site daily and lying about it. Dont think hes cheating but world rocked by his lying, now questioning our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_nzl1g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people pay attention to the Westboro Baptist Church?", "post": "Today me and a friend had a discussion about this topic and im interested in reddits opinion, here' mines. What is the point in paying attention to groups like this? It always seems a little funny to me that when these guys roll into town people feel accomplished when they perform a counter protest. Isn't showing up to their protest all they really want? It's obvious that their ideas are hateful, disgusting, and not at all achievable so why even show up to protest them? Its not like the WBC will ever convert a significant number of people as they're not convincing the masses of anything. Do people think it really makes a difference by showing up and yelling insults back at them or would it not just be better to completely ignore the group? Would a type", "summary": "If we ignore them will we go away?"}
{"id": "t3_50exk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M24] have been dating F[20] over summer and don't want to continue seeing her romantically. She is very attached to me. How can I let her down easy?", "post": "I've been seeing a girl over the summer. Shes really sweet but has been giving hints she wants to make our relationship official.  I've given it some thought and I decided I don't want to take it to that level with her.  Like I said, she is really nice, but we're in different places in life and I just have a gut feeling that I don't want to take it any further.  She has gotten really attached to me though and I know this is going to crush her.  She also lost one of her parents recently which makes the whole situation worse.  I've been in a shitty place too so we've been really helping each other emotionally.  So some part of me really doesn't want to do this since I'll be more emotionally isolated, as well as her.  I would love to keep things casual, but I don't think that would be healthy for her since I'm afraid she would say yes with the hope I would change my mind.\n\nHow can I let her down easy, or as much as possible given the situation?  Is it possible for us to still be there for each other after the dust settles?", "summary": "How can I gently tell a girl I've been dating, that is very attached to me, that I don't want to be her boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_t0s7b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, need help against my Catholic ex-roommate", "post": "Reddit,\nI moved in with a good friend of mine in November of last year. Before moving in with me he knew I was gay. However in February he told me that he became very religious (joined Knights of Columbus) and could no longer live with me. He asked me to 'control myself' until November at lease end or he would have to move out. \n\nI never had anyone over while he was at the residence and you would never know I was gay unless I told you. This all started because I had a straight friend over and the entire time he 'freaked out' thinking of what I might be doing with him. I was so furious at the time I told him to just move out.\n\nHe moved out, I could not find another roommate so we were forced to give notice to the leasing office we would be leaving. He continued to pay bills, rent, etc. \n\nHere is my problem, there is a $1000 dollar cancellation fee, he is to pay half and I have to pay half. I think it's ridiculous though because he is the one that broke the lease contract on his own accord based on his views, I did not want too. My attorney says the same and says the state will agree with me in small claims court. He sent my roommate a letter stating that he must pay or we will pursue civil law suit action. However no results. \n\nMy attorney is suggesting I send him a letter basically saying 'If you are a true Catholic as you say then you will pay him the money because it's the right thing to do. He suggested I quote some excerpts from the bible. I'm not religious so I'm not too versed on what excerpts I could pull out. \n\nI would appreciated any help you guys could give me!", "summary": "good friend who was my roommate and knew I was gay moved out because I'm gay, need help with leasing contract."}
{"id": "t3_nlbrb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please explain to me why SOPA is so bad.", "post": "Having done some reading about the intent and language in this bill, it sounds like a justifiable, albeit ham-handed (it is Congress, after all), attempt to reign in internet piracy and counterfeiting. The reddit response - **IT'S THE END OF THE INTERNET OH NOOOOOOES** - just sounds like more of the same alarmist, overwrought nonsense by a bunch of 19 year olds that gets peddled daily over in /r/politics, and I don't really take it very seriously.\n\nMany of the major tech companies in the U.S. have come out against the bill, which I find meaningful. But it's not like whatever is good for Google, AOL or Reddit is good for the gander, and I'm not totally ready to just take their word that this is a bad thing. (Despite what Hueypriest said, I also don't really believe that SOPA would mean the end of reddit.) If the passage of SOPA would really be as cataclysmic to the internet as folks here seems to believe, I don't think this would ever come close to passing. Congress, and the business lobby, is really not that stupid. Internet piracy and counterfeit goods, on the other hand *are* a problem, and this sounds like it would give the USG means to fight it.", "summary": "So could someone *calmly and rationally* explain why SOPA is a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_syb3v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been asked to take part in a TV show about drugs, on drugs, would you do it?", "post": "A well known TV channel has approached me and asked me to be on a special debate show about drugs. They say that it's looking into the therapeutic value of a certain drugs and there will be lots of experts on the show who support legalisation of said drug. \n\nThe producers claim to want to get the opinions from \"The Street\" and say that we'll be given enough time (in an interview with a news-man) to put our own views on the subject across. Everyone in my country takes or has taken this drug and the fact it's illegal when the real social damager alcohol is still available seems pig headed by our government. \n\nI currently run my own business, so answer to no boss. However, although I initially agreed to be in the show I'm now starting to think that I might be misrepresented or that I might regret the whole thing in later life.\n\nOn the plus side, I'd like to be the person who says \"The Emperor's wearing no clothes!\" and stand up and make a statement for the people of my society, who I know think pretty much the same as I do. \n\nSo would you do it?", "summary": "asked to be on TV show about drugs, on drugs - can't work out if to do it or not, so asking if you would and your opinons..."}
{"id": "t3_2f8ez5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] BF [32M] wondering about couple/relationship counseling. Any luck with it?", "post": "Just wondering if anybody has had luck going to couples counseling. I've been with my man for 6 years and thing have really REALLY fallen apart. We were always very short fused with each other. He cheated because I wasn't giving him what he needed. I want to get over it and learn to trust him again. I have depression and anxiety and he's not sure how to deal with that. Mostly he wanted to end it because he was sick of our abusive cycle to each other, and me not getting any help for my disease.\n\nThough now he has (surprisingly, and very reluctantly) agreed to try counseling as a last ditch effort. \n\nAny luck? What's it like? Did it really help? I know it's not an easy, simple, magical fix, but I like to know what I'm getting into before I do it.", "summary": "wondering if anyone has had couple counseling and if it worked for you or not, and wondering what to expect."}
{"id": "t3_i3tuc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "my sex life sucks", "post": "i've always had issues cuming with boyfriends/girlfriends.  I'm fine on my own but i just can't let go, with someone.  well i managed to let go with my current SO a few times, then we moved in together,  he seems to not be that interested anymore.  in fact the last time i came with him i was sucking his cock while he was fingering me.  When i came, he just said \" can we have sex now?\" like he was bored out of his mind.  This was also the last time he went anywhere near my cunt with anything other than his cock and was sometime last calendar year.  now the best i get is him rubbing my nipples a bit and running his hand over my bum, while i suck his cock and sometimes i sit on him.  I feel like a prostitute.  I've even taken to occasionally faking it just to get it over with.  \ni start out horny and then just get more and more depressed and body conscious.  \n\nwe've watched porn together in the past, but it just makes me feel embaressed.\nand he's more into cuddling than i am - i am so confused.", "summary": "my boyfriend isn't interested in me sexually, i think he thinks of me as a prostitute."}
{"id": "t3_1tteww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of about 2 months, I can't accept that he genuinely cares about/wants me.", "post": "Throughout my life thus far, I've had some less than ideal history with males (abandonment, abuse, etc.). This has led to really unstable relationships when I try and get with a guy, as I have and will push them away as soon as they start showing interest. Initially, everything goes fine, but the moment I realize it's getting serious I kind of freak out and shut down, trying to drive them away at the first signs of true commitment.\n\nDue to some very deep seeded insecurities, I'll often have trouble really seeing why I'm a worthwhile/desirable individual. This does not translate well when having a partner, as I'm pretty sure my current one is kind of upset that I think he doesn't care. Hell, not responding to a text in a timely fashion ups my insecurity, not wanting to talk ups my insecurity, not really being affectionate ups my insecurity. Essentially, I've convinced myself that he doesn't really care; how could he? I'm just another person in this dull progression of time, what is actually an awesome trait about me, I'm not special. I don't know, he probably does truly care, I guess I just need help seeing it.", "summary": "I don't love myself enough to accept that others love me."}
{"id": "t3_2qxya9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] worry my BF of 2 years [22 M] isn't serious anymore", "post": "first off, I'd like to preface this by saying I have anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder. About a month ago, my boyfriend broke up with me, essentially for being too needy and clingy and depending on him with my anxiety problems. The next day we talked and got back together deciding to take it easy on seeing each other during the week so we could sort out or problems, he told me after he broke up with me he couldn't imagine his life without me in it. We made up and things felt a lot better. I started seeing a therapist that week to help with my anxiety and started meditating daily (both of which have been very helpful).\n\nThe following weeks however I'd occasionally get very anxious about when we'd text or talk on the phone and I'd over analyze our communication, nervous he was going to break up with me again. When we're in person together things feel good and fairly normal. We both went back home (families are different parts of the US) for Christmas and during Christmas I felt great (20-26th), I wasn't anxious about us and whatnot. Then on the 27th I realized we hadn't talked on the phone at all during this break (we're not back to school until the 6th) and had felt like I've been waiting for him to want to talk because I didn't want to come off as needy or clingy. Finally on the 28th I asked him if we could talk cuz I missed him and we did talk for a while.\n\n For some reason since then I've just been feeling like he's not into me or our relationship anymore. Idk if it's all in my head or not, but for example I'll say \"I miss you\" and he'll say he misses me back but it's almost like I don't believe him, it's almost like I'm waiting for him to say it to me. Idk it really might all be in my head but I can't continue feeling this way in our relationship. Sorry if I'm coming off as whiny, I just feel like our relationship has changed.", "summary": "worried my boyfriend just isn't into me anymore or I'm not important anymore"}
{"id": "t3_2henzl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an utter klutz", "post": "So for starters, as you can note by the title, I am a klutz. For example, I recently broke my pinky toe by merely tripping over a shoe that was in my path. It happens all the time. However, I just transferred to a university and the new people are unaware of this.\n\nOn Monday (I know, not today, but I only just realized I could tell my story here), I managed to convince my super cute neighbor that we should go to dinner together at the cafeteria since none of our roommates collectively have the meal plan that allows us to eat there any time we please. I'm a little too excited since I haven't crushed on anyone in a long time, so as we are walking towards the cafeteria, I'm looking up onto his face to maintain conversation. This is where I screw up since I should ALWAYS keep my eyes on my feet and the ground. Obviously, the tiny crack in the pavement grabs ahold of my shoe and tosses me towards the ground like a professional wrestler that I am NO match for. Since I am used to this, I immediately laugh and roll over to face my companion. His face is in utter horror of having seen me completely fall over for what seemed to be no reason. I had to explain the common occurrence of my clumsiness and the many broken bones I've sustained because of it. For the rest of the dinner, he kept asking me if I was okay, since I now have four large scrapes on one of my hands, my elbow, my knee and on my foot/ankle area.", "summary": "I fell flat on my face in front of a prospective crush and now have four large scrapes."}
{"id": "t3_43yiyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [19 F] 1 year, still talks to me, sleeps with me, says she loves me but can never be with me again", "post": "My gf, now ex, ended our year long relationship over snapchat. She saw that I was following a modeling channel and called me a  cheater and ended the relationship.\n\nIts been about 1 month now and she is still talking with me, sleeping with me, telling me she loves me, but that she can never be with me again.\n\nShe is positive in her mind that I cheated on her by looking at a modeling channel on snapchat. Previously in our relationship she broke up with me and immediately slept with her ex, the next day she was willing to see me ( I did not yet know what she had done) and she tried to sleep with me. Before sliding into her I asked if she had done anything with anyone and she broke down and confessed. I asked her to compare the situations and she says that what I had done with snapchat is much worse than what she had done with her ex. (yes i took her back, it was foolish but i love her and I still do.)\n\nEven after everything, she wants to move to hawaii with me for the summer. She is currently making plans for this now... I don't understand anything thats going on anymore. I dont want to go anywhere with her if she is being like this. I think i am insane for putting up with this but I love her too much.\n\nI don't know what to do anymore. Can you give me your perspective? I will answer any questions you have.\n\nLast thing, she is a model herself and has taken VERY promiscuous pictures in her shoots. I told her that her pictures are similar to what i see on snapchat and she gets extremely mad and denies it but it is 100% true. I don't see any of her logic but I just read this thread  and I see its a popular opinion that guys like me are sleezebags.", "summary": "Got dumped and labeled as a cheater for looking at pictures of other girls. Still seeing and sleeping with her, wants to travel with me this summer. Don't know what to do, but I still want to be with her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_yol2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25f gets super emotional over very caring bf 25m", "post": "My bf and I have been dating about 8 months. This is my first REAL adult relationship. My bf is very clear about how he feels about me \"I love you\" \"I'm so glad I met you\" etc... I trust him very much, and I love him as well. \n\nThe problem is that I get very emotional when I think about us breaking up, him getting mad at me, etc... Basically when I imagine us as anything but \"perfect, forever love\" I start to cry and get upset. Now, we rarely fight (Had one semi fight over me not hanging out with him about 4 months in - it was a big miscommunication issue and we have since cleared it up) and this issue doesn't really affect him, except when I feel he is upset with me I start to cry, and he doesn't like this. He says he loves me, and doesn't want to see me upset (only happened 3 times).\n\nWTF? Why is this happening? I told him at the beginning of our relationship that I had not really cried in over a year and I was telling the truth. Why am I freaking out? What is happening? Is this at all normal?", "summary": "I get emotional about nonexistent bf problems and this is not normal for me."}
{"id": "t3_1t9jil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] and my [17F] girlfriend need serious help with abusing each other.", "post": "We are both high schoolers. We've had our ups and Downs but can Never seem to work things thoroughly out. I cheated on her and have been forgiven ever since. I cheated more then once and I really screwed us up. I saw her texting a guy telling her She wished She lost her virginity to him instead of me, I tried to react by getting away but when I came out of the bathroom She was there. I grabbed her arm very hard (I'm a strong guy) and I wrapped my arm around her neck and grabbed her throat by my fingernails. Afterwards I bawled and bawled and bawled and I have no idea what came over me. Now it's a common occurrence of me grabbing her. It stopped for awhile but has started again with today. I grabbed her hard.. I don't realize I'm doing it and I cry a lot when i do.. It's like things Come over me. She has only grabbed me once and slapped me once, but it wasn't that hard or anything. But when She did it I immediately grabbed her and locked her arm as if to break it. I don't know what comes over me.. She is very emotionally abusive to me, and I am to her. Most phone conversations turn into fights, but some dont and they're lovely and sweet. We need to learn how to stay lovely and sweet. We weren't always like this at all, it just sort of happened everything all the shit I've done, we know we can fix it but we need help.. Please someone help us be okay, we don't know what to do and we're scared..", "summary": "Abusive boyfriend and emotionally abusive girlfriend need help."}
{"id": "t3_3et7xg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] just got dumped by my [25 F] girlfriend of 2.5 years.", "post": "So, here's the deal. We had a lot of trouble. We're both really strong-minded, difficult people. We had both said a lot of really not great things to each other over the course, but we'd always find a way to make each other smile, even in the worst of fights.\n\nLast Monday, we got in a terrible, miserable fight. She didn't talk to me all week. Thursday night, I messaged her, told her I wanted to talk. I did a lot of thinking, about our interactions, about why we do some of the things we wanted to do. I was thinking about getting counselling and changing. Wednesday night, I had dug up some of my parents old wedding paperwork, and I realized that this was the girl with whom I wanted to spend my life.\n\nFriday, I texted her, and found out she moved on. She told me she couldn't handle it anymore. She had been talking to another guy all week, a guy who gave her all the romance she said she never got from me. We talked all night Friday. I spent the night, and we talked all morning. I told her that I was ready for us to be happy, and even wrote a little contract. I think she thought I was only saying that in response to her new guy.\n\nAnyway, I've been fretting all weekend. She told me she's happy with him, and that she doesn't believe I can ever change. I'm a bit of a loner, and she was my only friend, the only person I can talk to. I don't open up very much.\n\n I want her back, but I feel the adult thing is to let her enjoy her life and be happy. She agreed to talk to me in person sometime this week. I've never been more terrified of anything in my life. I don't know how to act or react. I've just felt so empty, and I'm afraid that when the time comes, I won't be able to swallow everything and tell her that I want her to be happy, even if it means being with someone else.", "summary": "Typical break-up. Got dumped. Going to talk to her. Terrified of what to say."}
{"id": "t3_12hmcm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] Girlfriend [19/f] turns into a self-pity mess when I raise trivial issues.", "post": "If I mention something like, I didn't think the way she choose to talk to me was really necessary, she turns into a self-pity mess. She says things like \"I don't know how you could ever even love me\", or \"I always screw up everything\". I hate seeing her like this, & instead of dealing with the issue (which sometimes might not be trivial), I'm trying to convince her that things aren't always her fault or validate why I love her (to her).\n\nI want to raise this with her, but I don't think now is the best time as she's at work, and upset from the other night. I tried to help her and cheer her up last night, & it didn't really go well.\n\nHow do I confront her about this?", "summary": "title, how do i deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_16fbgm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend (19/f) and I [21/m] are going on a break", "post": "For background, we have been together just over 3 years and are both attending college in the same area. As a part of my education I have to complete Co-op terms where I move ~4 or 5 hours away for four months at a time. As you can imagine this has put some stress on our relationship. It doesn't help that my girlfriend has extreme anxiety, depression and one of her friends just died in a car accident. To make it even worse, she doesn't like to take her anxiety medication because she hates feeling dependent on it (I can understand this, but I can't help but to feel it's the cause of everything). Every time I bring up the topic of her medication or talking to a professional it causes a fight.\n\nNeedless to say, everything seems to boil down to the fact that she is not happy with herself - resulting in her not being happy with anything. She had some really bad experiences in the first year of college which cheated her out of the \"growing\" phase that happens when you are on your own for the first time. I suggested that we take a break a couple weeks ago so that she would have time to herself and not have to worry about me. Tonight she told me that it's what she wants to do. I will be leaving next week and will be gone for a few months so that is how long the break is planned to be.\n\nHave I handled this right? Has anybody else dealt with a similar situation? What is the best way to help her with her anxiety/depression? I feel helpless.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 3 years wants to take a break, any advice appreciated"}
{"id": "t3_2h82md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my bf [30 M] been together almost a year, he's a recovering sex and love addict, i'm having trouble feeling in the mood to have sex.", "post": "i should start off by saying i love my boyfriend very much and i care deeply about him and our relationship. he was very open with me about his addiction early on in our relationship, which i really appreciated.\n\na few months into our relationship, due to stress with family and his job, he relapsed into his addiction, mostly with excessive masturbation. this put a strain on our sex life because he was always on the edge of climax every time, and i pretty much had to play dead fish. sex was not enjoyable and i didnt feel connected. \n\nhe's since been been better with recovery, going to many SLAA meetings and talking with his sponsor, but my desire has yet to come back. every time i think about how longs its been, i feel guilty, and then sad. i worry that if we do have sex, he'll still be on edge and disconnected, and i won't be able to get into it as much as i want to.\n\nhow do i snap back? has anyone else been in a relationship with someone like this?", "summary": "dating a sex and love addict, i can't get in the mood sexually due to his relapse."}
{"id": "t3_2t1ftr", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Live Band at a Small Wedding? Help!", "post": "Hello fellow wedditors! I am at a crossroads in my planning. \n\nWe are having an old New Orleans themed wedding in our home state of South Carolina. So the plan is to have a horn line lead our guests in a parade (second line) from the ceremony to the reception. Well as we got into planning more, I thought it would be fun to have the band for the whole reception too. Turns out it would be about 3k minimum to have a live band play. And I am willing to fork out this money my big day, but I am starting to get worried that at a live band at a wedding of only 75 people is kind of ridiculous when I could get a DJ for about $500. Are live bands only appropriate at larger weddings? I just want to make sure everyone has a good time, and I have these horrible visions of paying all this money for a big band and then no one on the dance floor and a totally awkward wedding! Have any of you been to weddings this size with a live band?? Any thoughts appreciated!", "summary": "Is a wedding of 75 people too small for a live band??"}
{"id": "t3_1imp4n", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Ugh... Need to vent about ungrateful other mother and moldy stroller.", "post": "I heard my best friend's little sister was expecting baby 2 before 1 will be 18 months. I have a Phil & Ted double stroller in storage in good working order, no perfect, some stained from little fingers, but clean and we'll loved. I offered it to her instead of listing it on Craigslist for $200. She said she wanted to take a look at it. Being nice I dropped it off. A couple days later I called to follow up, then texted a few days later. 2 weeks pass and no word. I go to see her after asking her sister, my friend if she knew she was interested or not. She was not, so I collected it late last night and could see it was outside the whole time and is now MOLDY! I just spent nearly an hour dismantling it and cleaning it. If the sun and vinegar don't bleach the stains it will be unsellable. I am so mad and needed to vent.", "summary": "don't loan/offer to sell things to flaky people. They will ruin it. Le sigh."}
{"id": "t3_2d3enn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M], looking for tips to improve dating life.", "post": "I'm a 25 M TOTAL virgin.  Basically the only thing I've done is talked to the fairer sex.  I've been introverted my entire life and only recently have I started trying to do something about it.  I started going to the gym and lost about 80 lbs which helped with my self esteem but not enough to break years worth of hating myself.  \n\n\tI've also started going out to bars more recently but find that the crowds aren't really that young and most of the younger girls get swarmed by packs of brochachos.  The town I live in is fairly small but is about a 1 hr drive away from two different major cities.\n\n\tI've tried Chemistry and Match in the past but they just didn't produce any results.  I've thought about using Tinder or OKCupid but I don't know if those will be any better considering where I'm located.  I've also tried Meetup for finding people with similar interests but most of those groups are located in the major cities and I currently can't afford to drive back and forth that much.  So yeah I think that covers most of the basics.  Any tips or suggestions for improving my social life?", "summary": "Introverted virgin in small town; how do I meet more women?"}
{"id": "t3_1pz6ob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (31f) am married with one kid and one of my best friends (32 m) disclosed he wants to have an affair with me", "post": "I have been married for 4 years and have a young child.  A few months ago, someone I have considered a best friend (he is also married) since I was 18 and felt I could trust with my life, could share anything and everything with.  Well he started sending me emails from an anonymous account.  At first I didn't know who they were from by but by the address and the content, I suspected it was someone I knew and curiosity got the better of me thus I asked who it was.  After a few more emails, one of which was very provocative and me saying I don't break friendships easy so just tell me who you are(maybe being too optimistic and too curious) he disclosed to me his identity and I was not shocked in the slightest.  I ended up sending him a long email saying that when things were bad with my husband I wondered what dating him would be like but this is not right and affairs are against everything I believe in.  Please note, the emails started very shortly after my husband went away for work for 3 months and I had recently disclosed I had just had a miscarriage. We had dinner and I said this can't continue to which his response was...no worries, I am not hurt in the slightest.  After that I told me husband everything and he too was not surprised.  When the guy texted me to see what was up, I let him know I couldn't do this, how wrong it was what he did and how I felt completely taken advantage of.  His response, how is me wanting to have a sexual affair with you any different from you saying you wandered what dating would be like.  In my eyes there is a huge difference but let me know if I am wrong. Needless to say he told me I had thrown away a friendship and have a good life.  I stand by my decision but always like to hear what others think.", "summary": "married and best friend who is also married wants to have an affair."}
{"id": "t3_2p63xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M 15] GF [F 15] My girlfriend of three weeks doesn't know what she wants", "post": "She tried to break up with me yesterday. She said it was because we act too much like friends and that it looks like I don't care about our relationship because it looks like I don't like her. I called her and told her I really liked her and didn't want to lose her and promised we'll start being a couple. She said she believed me and that she wanted to hang out with me. When we hung out I asked her if she still liked me and she said yes but when I asked her about why she tried to break up with me, she said she didn't know. I asked her if she really wanted to act like a couple, she said that she didn't care (wtf). I asked her straight up what she wanted and she said that she didn't know what either. What do? Nonetheless we had a great time hanging out.", "summary": "Almost broke up with my GF for reasons. Says now she doesn't care about those reasons and she doesn't know what she wants."}
{"id": "t3_pq6r6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had a guy run up to me shirtless with a baseball bat in the street...whats your craziest \"WTF is going on \" story?", "post": "I was walking home from my buddies house, who lived about a block away from where I was staying while i was in college. Im about 50ft from my front door when this guy, whom i have seen around the neighborhood before, runs off his porch with a bat yelling \"Hey man fucking stop man\"\n\nI freak out inside and come to a dead stop as the guy runs up to me. This guy isnt the biggest dude ever, but he is about 6ft, pretty muscular i guess, with his shirt off and a few tattoos.\n\n\"hey man, you stole my roommates laptop\" he yells, bat in hand. I had been carrying my laptop as i was doing a project with my buddy at his place not 30 minutes before. I put my one hand up and say something to the tune of \" woah bro calm down, this is mine and i can prove it\".\n\nI open it up, show him my proof, and he apologizes. good thing i didnt shit my pants", "summary": "bro runs up on me with bat, says i stole his friends laptop. almost bashes my head in"}
{"id": "t3_2hgwhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] had to move apart from my SO [24 F], and I now feel unhappy most of the time.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for eight years. We've lived together for six. Recently she got an amazing job in a different city three hours away and we had to move apart. I could not come with her since I still have a job here (even though I am searching for a new one in her region). I still live in the old apartment, while she got a new one in the new city. We decided to still be a couple, and not end our amazing relationship due to some distance. I love her deeply, and she loves me.\n\nIt's been about two months since she left, and I have been having a difficult time coping with my feelings towards living alone. She is my rock in the day to day life, and I miss her so much all the time. To the point of I'm having trouble to feel happy unless I know I'm about to see her. We skype and text pretty much every day. Often for hours, and I appreciate that a lot. But they can not really replace having someone you love around you.\n\nI do understand that I need to become more independent. However, I have no idea how to. I try to keep my mind occupied, but the feelings always come crawling back and I feel alone and unhappy again.\n\nShe seems to be handling it a lot better than I and we recently had a talk about my feelings. She suggested I talked to someone, and I thought maybe some of you could offer some insight.\n\nWant to add that a break up is out of the question for me. She means the world to me and I really want to make this work. I want to better myself, and at the same time I don't want to be too clingy and drag her down with my unhappiness about our situation. I really am happy for her that she got a new amazing job.\n\nI am writing this just as I am going to bed. Might be a while until I can answer.", "summary": "Having trouble accepting living alone. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_21pbpf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] get distracted when my [23F] partner of two years talks because of her upwards inflection", "post": "I'm in love with a wonderful girl, we enjoy each other greatly and get along very well.  There's a little snag - I get distracted by her habit of making statements into questions.  There is an upwards inflection at the end of most of her phrases, like she's asking for confirmation of what she's just said.  It's very pronounced, other people have noticed and mentioned it to her before, and it's possibly worsened because she works with kids and speaks in a particular way to hold their attention.\n\nObviously this isn't a major issue and isn't going to affect the relationship in a huge way, but it does tend to frustrate me.  I'm interested in hearing some outside opinions on how to handle this.  I sometimes find myself listening more to the way she's speaking than what she says, and that's not something I'm happy with.  My go-to solution is to take a giant zen moment and do my best to ignore it.\n\nI've found ways of bringing it up with her, mostly with light-hearted comments and the occasional more earnest message about how distracted I become.  Unfortunately it doesn't seem to make much difference, she will resume her normal way of speaking, often within a single sentence.  I'd like to avoid bringing it up often because I can imagine how annoying it would be to have somebody correcting or commenting on the way you speak.\n\nWhat do I do?  My thoughts are that this is generally seen as a bad habit and I actually believe it may cause her trouble in her professional life, but obviously it's not for me to \"cure\" her of this affliction.  My hope is that she'll decide to work on this on her own, but is there any way I could convince or inspire her to do this without being a preachy jerk?", "summary": "My girlfriend talks to me like I'm a preschooler?  And it's driving me crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_2rskmg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Loan payoff formula", "post": "Being a middle-aged professional on sabbatical and married has left me in an interesting position to pay off my student loans. I'm graduating this term so I want to be sure I have a good understanding as to the factors involved. \n\nI have about 43k in debt, and I also have the money to pay it off now (with money for emergencies and investments left alone).\n\nHere is the question I have - What is the calculus to determine what I should do, considering as many factors as I can. \n\nI could pay it off now, or select from several payment plans how do I add factors like the time value of money, inflation rates, and my current rate of return on investments.\n\ni'm no financial expert but i have experience with R and python for the calculations", "summary": "what formula should i used to determine a loan payoff strategy considering as many factors as you can think of?"}
{"id": "t3_vim6o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Online-dating messages. WTF", "post": "OK, first of all I admit, I'm fascinated by on-line dating, specifically the dynamics of the thing. I have used it in the past but I'm now happily in a relationship but I still find myself intrigued by the social mechanics.\n\nI'v spent some considerable time reading through the endless stream of hopeful but often simply moronic messages on  and I keep coming back to the same questions.\n\nWhat happens to the people sending these messages? is there some kind of iterative trial and error improvement going on? Are they in the process of learning what gets a reply and what doesn't? Perhaps it's a simple matter of volume; Send enough and eventually you'll get a reply, irrespective of content.\n\nLets take for example the guy (let's call him Bob) sending the lovely girls this message:\n> r u lukin fr wat? \u2026 im wait fr dat.\"\n\nIs Bob sending that single message to a carefully selected lady (lets call her Alice) and hoping for a reply. Is he so rejected by the lack of a response from Alice that he simply leaves the arena of online-dating never to return? \n\nAfter a few failed attempts, does Bob rethink his strategy and try crafting a new message, this time expending the extra effort for include vowels and achieve more success?\n\nMaybe Bob is simply blasting his message to absolutely anyone he stumbles across that fits his selection criteria in the hope that it will initiate a response. If so, WHO is replying?\n\nSurly there must be some level of fulfilment going on here, online-dating must work or it wouldn't endure?\n\nReddit, your pop-social-science theorising welcomed. Are you an online-dating users and redditor willing to share your strategy of crafting those all important opening messages, or your selection criteria for what you reply to.\n\nAnd Alice, if you're out there, would you ever reply to Bob?", "summary": "Post the stupid online-dating messages you received."}
{"id": "t3_556048", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25M] want to break up with my gf[25F]. Feel bad about it.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. \n\nMy gf and I started dating 3 years ago. When she met me, I was fat, depressed, a drug addict, lazy, and overall just kind of a loser. \n\nThroughout our relationship she would constantly tell me to go to the gym, eat better, tell me that I should be more motivated. She was never super mean about it or anything, but to be honest, it kind of hurt and always made me feel bad. I never mentioned this to her. \n\n After a lot of soul-searching and hard work, I picked up a bunch of good habits, got in shape, improved my fashion, started a new career, a side business, and a side project, dramatically cut down on drug use, etc..\n\nOverall I'm a much better person now than I was then. I barely recognize the person I used to be to be honest. \n\nWith that being said, I've started feeling like I don't really have enough time for a girlfriend anymore. With all these changes in my life, and between my job, all these side projects, and my new social life I just don't think I can be in a relationship with someone and would prefer to be alone now. \n\nObviously, I need to end it. The problem is, this is my first relationship and I have no idea how to break up. On top of that, I feel bad for breaking up for this reason and am worried how she's gonna take it and how its gonna look to her. \n\nReddit how do I approach this with her and put it in a way that will cause the least pain?", "summary": "became a much better person, dont want to be with gf anymore"}
{"id": "t3_uqvym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most awkward/shitty experience you've ever had with a group of friends?", "post": "One time I called my friend to see if he wanted to grab some lunch and we talked on the phone a bit and he said sure so he told me to meet him at subway, but wait because he was going to take a shower. So I waited and waited and eventually an hour went by and I never heard from my friend. I called my friend numerous times to see if he was out, but he never picked up so I decided to go to subway alone to pick something up. As I get to subway, I walk in and see my group of friends sitting there (Including the one I called) and he just says \"Oh mannnn\" he stands up gives me a hug and says \"Sorry\". I ordered my food and left being that it was really awkward.", "summary": "I was supposed to go to lunch with my friend who ignored me and saw him there with my other friends as I was uninvited"}
{"id": "t3_4f68zb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Mom was hurt at work, I think it's something that is a little past worker's comp. Any advice?", "post": "My mom works at an old navy for something upwards of almost ten years. Over the span of her working their they have been lingering in and out of being abusive employers. Not that this isn't something I wouldn't expect out of a big corporation, something happened recently that I'm close to positive should be lawsuit worthy or something in my mom's favor. \n\nThe other day on the clock my mom was cleaning one of the bathrooms and while taking the garbage out there was a faced up syringe under some paper towels! She found out after jabbing her hand with the syringe and noticed that there was preexisting blood on this syringe!!! She was then brought to the hospital (obviously) to be screened for all sorts of diseases and had the option of starting intense medications to prevent the microscopic chance of that needle being contaminated with HIV though the medications would make her very ill. All old navy did about the situation was lock the bathrooms so the public can't use them.\n\nIs there anything about this situation that my mom can use in her favor? She didn't turn the syringe over to Old Navy because they were being very nonchalant and dismissive about the situation.", "summary": "mom was cleaning a bathroom at work and got jabbed by a hidden bloody syringe in the garbage. Is there anything we can do? Also location is in NY"}
{"id": "t3_1hkqhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just went through breakup, now new guy wants to date me. Confused.", "post": "Let's start out with the boyfriend from two or so years ago who took photos of me and posted them on an adult website without my knowledge or consent. I discovered them a year ago today to the date. So that was major turning point in my trusting of men. \n\nFlash forward to Feb. I moved back to the city I used to live in to finish out my Masters (I graduate in December) and run into my friend that I have been friends with for 8 years (we have hung out on and off throughout those years while I lived in another state). He and I start dating that month. Then right before Memorial Day he disconnects, I don't hear from him pretty much since right before the holiday saying he needs a \"break\" makes me think of this [text message breakup] so you can say I am just a little jaded. \n\nSo start my month long writing class this June, new guy from class starts to really get into me. We hung out on Sunday to help him work on his paper, then he starts hitting on me, telling me he loves me, wants to date me. I have told him that I am really messed up from the past two relationships and explained I have black and white thinking. I really think he wants a booty call, though I am kind of down for it. I just think my emotions are a little screwed up right now. The weekend before we hung out I was a crying ball of hysteria. \n\nPart of me wants fun, but, I also don't want to fall into a 'rebound' and I am pretty much jaded with the last two relationships, the last boyfriend put the nail in the coffin for me. New guy it feels like there is some red flags. Our mutual friend tells me that he is one of the nicest guys he knows, only one mutual friend we had on Facebook. I have known this friend for 13 or so years, so I do trust his opinion. Just very confused and don't really want to rush it.", "summary": "Just got through a breakup, new guy, confused."}
{"id": "t3_2nt0rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] girlfriend wants to move in with me [39 M] after a falling out with her parents over me.", "post": "Posted [Background] ( to /r/confession/\n\nI'm 39 M and in a nearly 1 year relationship with my 19 F neighbor.  We just notified her parents about our relationship and it appeared to go well, as well as can be expected.  I spent Thanksgiving with her family with no real issues other than definite tension.  My girlfriend has stayed at my house the last two nights, I did warn her this could create additional tension between her parts and us.  It did upset them and, her mother really hit her with it yesterday and she wants to move in with me.\n\nI offered before we disclosed our relationship to let her move in if things went really bad during the disclosure.  However, I think the current rift between her and her mother was caused by her pushing our relationship on them too quickly.  While I have no issue with the relationship progressing but I am trying to preserve as much of my friendship with her parents as possible.\n\n**Short Points**\n\n* I love her.\n\n* I'm not her sugar daddy.\n\n* I'm not breaking up with her don't recommend it.", "summary": "Told my GF's parents about our relationship, they were upset but coping.  My GF got in a fight with her mom and wants to move in.  I'm okay with her moving in but I'm afraid it will upset her parents more and I want to repair my relationship with her parents."}
{"id": "t3_11pv6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21[f] Is it normal NOT to have a best friend? I don't have one..but it seems every other person I know does.", "post": "I mean I've had about 4 life changing 'best friends'.. but something happened and they always left me for someone else (lol!! I'm sorry how stupid that sounds but it's the best way to describe it). So I haven't had a best friend since grade 11...\n\nAnd I still talk to them all-they're all in my group of friends..one I've actually known since kindergarten.. but none are of a 'best friend' stature anymore. \n\nMy bf [27] has been a great listener.. but at the same time I think there are some things that are just meant for best friends to talk about.\n\n I find I've been best friend 'dumped' so many times I just simply do not get close to people anymore. Like I'm even awkward to hug anyone except for my own boyfriend...and I used to be a hug whore! Jesus!", "summary": "Does any body else just NOT have a best friend?... Or am I an odd case?"}
{"id": "t3_3u3q47", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU at work by criticising a colleague.", "post": "I have two jobs, one of them is in a store where we hire a load of seasonal staff in order to help out with the xmas rush.\n\nSo this year I am stuck working with one particular young female, whose real name I will omit but for the purposes of typing I'll call her Anna.\n\nAnna drives me completely up the wall with the way she works.  She rushes ahead without thinking, she never gets anything right but bulldozes on anyway. She messes with the computer system for no apparent reason, which often results in store wide mistakes which the rest of us have to then rectify. \n\nIn accompaniment to this, she is overbearingly familiar in the way in which she talks to me, like she's known me all of her life and we're great friends etc. It's hard to explain just how much I particularly dislike this as I'm quiet a private person in work and I only share stuff with my closest colleagues. Anna is also very loud and shouts when she talks. She generally gets on everyone's nerves and I am lucky that I have only had 2-3 shifts with her.\n\nSo this morning, I am waling past a group of my colleagues who were deep in conversation in the corridor and my mate Dave says to me \" You're on with Anna today\".\n\nI sighed \" Oh fucking hell\" to which one of the cleaners said \" Why? what's wrong with her?\" \n\n\" I just hate people like her\", I replied. I suddenly noticed a shocked look on a lot of the other peoples faces. I look puzzlingly and say \" What?\"\n\nTo which Dave says \"She has Downs Syndrome, that's what we were just talking about\".\n\nI had no idea, then it clicked.. when I'd said \" I hate people like her\" , it had appeared as if I meant people with Downs Syndrome.", "summary": "I told accidentally made everyone at my work think that I hate people with Downs Syndrome."}
{"id": "t3_28f18e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me (f27) understand bf (m25) and this other girl.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short.\n\nMy bf and I got back from a vacation not long ago. We went to visit some friends and on this trip, we learned about this one particular girl who joined their social group. We never met or knew of this girl prior, but in short... We've been told that she's an emotionally manipulative/crazy friend. She is supposedly normal when you first meet her. She also doesn't appear to have any friends prior to joining this group.\n\nSome of my friends tolerate her, but some also can't wait for the day where she is no longer in their lives. They can't really cut her off because she attached herself to a certain few so that she can always find a way into the group.\n\nAnyways... My bf seems to find this girl interesting from the stories he's heard. We met her once on this trip and since then he friended her on Facebook, followed her on Instagram, and even have her on Linked In. She started a conversation with him and its been going on for a week now. I have no idea what they talk about, but I know they've been bonding over the fact that they both used to be overweight. She does have a bf herself.\n\nI asked him why he bothers making this girl a part of his life when our friends seem to want her out of theirs. His response was that he likes the drama since he lacks drama in his life. Help me understand? \n\nMy bf is an introvert if that matters at all. It's not that I don't trust him, but I just don't understand why anyone would befriend someone who is known to be crazy.", "summary": "BF befriended a crazy girl. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_4z4hao", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Lost favorite doll", "post": "My two year old has (had?) this toy baby she calls \"Owl.\" Owl is the rattiest looking baby doll I've ever seen- stains that refuse to come out in the wash, marker on her head, faded, and with a single lock of matted hair that stands straight up on its head. I have absolutely no clue how Owl came to be in her possession, either, it just sort of appeared one day- I think it was a find from grandma's toy box. I'm sure people who see my daughter carrying it think \"ick\" to themselves, but she absolutely loves that thing. I haven't been able to find it today. My husband and I both worked over the weekend, so neither of us can quite pinpoint where we last saw it. Was it the park on Thursday? Did she have it in the stroller when we walked big sister to school on Friday? Did she bring it to grandma's on Saturday? We have exhaustively searched the house and park with no sign of it, so tonight when she said \"Want my baby?\" I gave her another one, similar in structure (soft body, plastic head and limbs) aaaaaand she pitched it across the room and sobbed. I feel just as upset as she is, and I feel like a terrible parent for losing track of something which brings her so much happiness. \ud83d\ude1e", "summary": "we lost my kid's favorite toy."}
{"id": "t3_jtdtm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit: Have you ever HAD to be an asshole for a moral/ good cause?", "post": "I'll start, but I'm sure there are better stories out there.\n\nI recently dated a girl, who I had high hopes for; she was quite interesting, sensual and fun. Unfortunately, she had a past/baggage that really affected her on a daily basis. In terms of social behaviour, she just wouldn't have fit in with my family or friends... In addition our long term goals were not the same. Problem was, I liked her a bunch and it was hard to come to grips and tell her how I really felt. In the end, I told her everything and was probably too straight forward, and really hurt her feelings... But I knew it had to be that way or it wouldn't be \"final\"... Anyways it worked, was called a real asshole. I don't regret it, thinking it was better off this way, but still made me feel like crap.\n\nAnyways probably more amusing stories out there than this sappy one. Let's hear it!", "summary": "liked a girl but recognized it wouldn't work out in the long run. Turned her down for moral reasons and was branded an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_54caux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] 7mo, finding more details after the affair; do I confront or let stand?", "post": "Found out about emotional affair with ex.  Details in previous question.  He cut her off, we moved forward together.  Two months in, I found out he wasn't completely honest about how deeply this thing ran.  It's a lot of the same issues, but upon rereading what I found, I found that he was way more involved than he let on, and was leading her to believe that I was the one being unreasonable and jealous, while telling me negative things about her.   It escalated during a rough patch between us.\n\nWe talked about all those things already though.  I confronted him about that, and about everything else.  We moved forward, but this still opens an old wound and makes me question everything.  Had I known, I might have left.  I'm wondering if I should leave now.", "summary": "After working through the aftermath of an emotional affair with the ex, I found more details about what went on.  Should I address it or leave it alone and keep moving forward?"}
{"id": "t3_yy58r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We're being harassed by someone and we can't do anything about it.", "post": "During most of our relationship ( 1 year and almost a half, I'm 19 and she's 18 ) we've been harassed by someone we can't find anything about. Someone that keeps sending emails to each one of us, usually containing lies about how we cheat, we lie, we actually hate each other, and I'm sick and tired of this. I never actually thought of these things really happening, but I think my girlfriend sometimes does believe them.\n\nDuring the last month I've been really busy, my full-time job and some other projects I'm working on are getting really exhausting, but I'm doing fine. Last night, I got home and immediately fell asleep somewhere around 21:00, meanwhile, she got one of those emails. Then she proceeded to text me messages like \"Are you upset?\", \"Why aren't you talking with me?\" \"Fine...\", \"I've got an email\", \"Do you love me? You're not in love with me anymore? This is it?\".\n\n I didn't answer those texts because I was sleeping, I read them in the morning.\n\nSomehow, these messages showed me that she really likes me, but, on the other hand, it showed me that her trust isn't so stable. Anyways, that's not as relevant now as the person that is harassing us. I would really need some advice on how to proceed and what we should do to prevent this from happening.\n\nAs a side-note I would also like to mention that our Facebook profiles are also bombed by that person, not only our email accounts.", "summary": "Somebody really doesn't like the two of us being together."}
{"id": "t3_3d8pjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't stop comparing partners with my first love.", "post": "When i was 18, i started a relationship with a very close friend, she was very beautiful and i'd always get people telling me she's very attractive and that i'm lucky.\n\n3 years later we ended the relationship mutually as we both wanted new relationships, meet new people and have fun while we're young (The typical first love story)\n\nIt's been around 2 years since the break up, and everytime i meet a new potential love match, im always comparing them to her, she's always in my head and it's really quite unfair and immature to base my life around 1 female. \n\nShe's not in my life anymore, when we split i made a decision to go non contact, delete her from all social medias and try to erase her, but she's always there sub consciously.\n\nAnyone else going/been through this? Advice? tips?", "summary": "Break up from first love (who was very attractive), 2-3 years later im always thinking about her, basing my love life decisions around the idea of her, shes always in my subconscious, and it's making things hard, any adivice from people who've been in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3dqzmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (29F) of three years and I (28M) broke up recently. I'm a weird guy in a weird situation now.", "post": "She really, really loved me. At 28, I've never had anything close to \"love\" or even infatuation for anyone, really.\n\nI'd tried to break up with her a couple times in the past for her own good, but could never really get it to stick. It's hard to choose to hurt someone AND render yourself bored/alone and I wasn't strong enough. She finally realized recently that I really DIDN'T want to live with her or get married and all that, and we decided to split fairly amicably.\n\nI'm really, really unbelievably bored now but I'm pretty sure I'd just put any future person in the same shitty position. Even now, there's a girl who seems interested in me and I have exactly the same lukewarm feeling about the whole thing as I did last time (or any other time in the past).  I'm tired of feeling like I'm screwing up the lives of the people who care the most about me.\n\nI find it doubtful that some magical \"right person\" is going to come along and change all this and really have no idea what to do at this point.", "summary": "Am I doomed to a life of forever-alone boredom because I feel so little in a romantic sense? I'm really confused."}
{"id": "t3_2ck30k", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Alternative Books to \"The Millionaire Next Door\"?", "post": "Hello. I would like to read a personal finance book that emphasizes long term planning, cost saving, and the idea of financial security over showing off status symbols. I want to read through this with my wife (of four years). I'm hoping that through the course of reading this we can have plenty of discussions about personal financial strategies. I have always been very financially aware and frugal, but my wife hasn't. She comes from a family that never budgeted or planned anything (and has been through bankruptcy). I feel that reading through a book and having discussions is likely much better than me just trying to lecture. Plus, I want her to see the merits of frugality on her own instead of feeling that it's just me imposing my scroogery. \n\nHere's the problem. She's an ahtropologist, currently in her PhD program (free tuition plus stipend!). I've read MND twice, but not for a few years. I'm afraid that she will get caught up on the portrayals of millionaires rather than focusing on the financial principles. From what I recall, the standard millionaire in the book is old, white, and male with a frugal, jill-of-all-trades stay-at-home wife. I don't want my wife to get indignant (or think that I'm hinting she be a stay-at-home mom) and refuse to accept anything the book has to offer. I know the financial principles are sound, but I'm afraid she won't be able to see them through the portrayl of the millionaires themselves. Any recommendations are appreciated.", "summary": "I want to read a personal finance book with my wife so we can discuss the basics of financial planning. She's an anthropologist and gets indignant at traditional power structures (rich, old, white, male with stay-at-home wife). I'm looking for a good financial principles book that doesn't include this demographic bias."}
{"id": "t3_x6hmi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my family is at our wits end over an issue with my apartment complex. What can I do to make everything right?", "post": "We found out a couple weeks ago that our home has bed bugs, living in the master bedroom. We have had no issues before living here, and we have been here a while. After looking up some information, we saw other residents are experiencing this pest problem as well. \n\nWe reported the problem to the complex very early on. They had a guy come out and spray for 15 minutes, when they told us he would be there for 2 hours. To prepare, they essentially made us back up our entire home and flip all the furniture,  which took a full day of our schedule. A couple days later we had no follow up from them, so I called and explained again. They said another spray has to be done, and then professional carpet cleaners will come. I'm thinking, awesome it should be fixed! \n\nSkip to today. The cleaners came, and now the problem is worse than ever. Their solution is to keep coming in and spraying for less than 15 minutes. \n\nOur bed is ruined. Our couches are ruined. We have a 5 month old child who cannot be around when they spray for a full day. And we do not have the money to buy all new furniture at this point. \n\nWhat can I do to get my life back to normal and pest free?", "summary": "Apartments are huge slackers and their pest problems have ruined my personal property, how can I get them to make this right?"}
{"id": "t3_1aee2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I resolve this recurring argument?", "post": "My girlfriend and I (both 17) that have been dating for 6 months keep coming into this same argument recently. My mom indirectly called her a whore, and she keeps getting worked up about it. For about two weeks now my girlfriend repeatedly goes off on a rant about how much she hates my mother. I confronted my mom and she won't accept that she was being rude. And me, being her son, it becomes unbearable to hear my GF get so angry. I listened for a while and tried to support her, but each time it gets harder and harder to sympathize with her. I try voicing my opinion but my girlfriend just dismisses me as being insensitive and not caring.\n\nAm I being a complete asshole? Or is she just being narrow-minded. \n\nI really need a third party perspective.", "summary": "I might be a insensitive asshole."}
{"id": "t3_ycp9e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M] Confirm my stupidity?", "post": "I met a girl. I really like(d) her. I made it known early on that I was attracted to her, and that I thought we should like go out and date or something. She said that she had stuff going on and I shouldn't get involved with a girl like her because she's crazy. And she might be.\n\nSo I figured whatever, that road is over. But we get along well and we can hang out, and so we did. I was trying to transition away from a fairly negative group of friends (which I have since done) and she started becoming like my best friend. We hang out all the time, we go out to bars, all of that. Life was cool.\n\nWhile out of town we kept in contact, we'd text once every week, week and a half just to see whats up. Eventually she tells me that she's cut off contact with the dude she was involved with.\n\nI get back, (after some bar hopping) we got on the topic of how I have lingering feelings, but I'm moving on. If anything was going to happen, it would've already. After that things were cool.\n\nBut lately, especially in the past week or two, things have gotten weird. I guess from our interactions and the amount of time we hang out, people think we're dating. It's been awkward telling strangers and friends that's not the case, and somewhat humiliating having to explain it to family members.\n\nAnd then we kind of fucked. I say kind of because we started fooling around, a little penetration, and then a cruel combo of whiskey dick and awkward position (Not a big fan of laying on your side mixed with sexytimes) kind of brought things to a halt. Feelsbadman.\n\nI guess the long story comes down to this: I feel a bit like a sexless boyfriend. I'm in a transition and don't have many other friends to hang out with yet...but should I start limiting how much I see this girl? Or am I just being a little bitch?", "summary": "I don't know wtf I'm doing?"}
{"id": "t3_482h5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] am having crushing anxiety and guilt about if I should break up with boyfriend", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. Last week, it hit me almost overnight that I had to end things. I don't want to, but I feel like I have to. All day last Sunday my boyfriend was annoying me. He wasn't doing anything wrong, just everything he did annoyed me. When I got home it hit me that I didn't feel the same way and I literally had a panic attack. All week I have had awful anxiety about it. I can't shake this feeling that I've falle out of love with him. I don't think it is his fault, he has been fine. He doesn't abuse me or disrespect me. I think I've just come to realize that I can't make myself feel the same way about him as I used to. \n\nLast night when we had sex, I felt like I was having sex with a stranger. I just wanted it to be over. I feel crazy because three weeks ago I was so happy with him and was so in love, and now I have these thoughts and I don't know if it is a lapse in judgment, or if love can change and fade so quickly. The thought of ending it makes me cry and cry, leaves my heart feeling like it is on fire. Like I'm a failure for being with someone three years with nothing to show for it. I can't stop thinking about the thought of him with someone else, or the thought of him no longer in my life and it is so incredibly upsetting. I feel like I am in this limbo. Like I love him, but not enough to marry him or spend my life with him. \n\nOn Valentine's Day we went to a hockey game and all day he was so nice, so loving. But I just kept thinking to myself that this wasn't right. Like yes he loves me, but I don't feel as in love with him as he does with me. \n\nHas anybody else felt like this? Did I fall out of love, or am I just out of the honeymoon stage? After my panic attack last week I went to the doctor and got on lexapro, and I just keep trying to tell myself that I'm depressed and that it isn't my boyfriend but I don't know.", "summary": "don't know if I should end things. Terrible anxiety and sadness maybe meaning I shouldn't or that I should???"}
{"id": "t3_ru892", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Senior in High School wanting to travel before the final summer is over...Can I have some tips on planning?", "post": "I recently decided that I want to travel out of country before I continue on with college and such. I'm not sure where I would want to travel, however, France has always been a place I've dreamed of going.\n\nI'm not quite sure where to begin, I have some money saved up; not much. How much money would I need to save up / take with me to afford housing of some sort and food for a relatively small amount of time?\n\nAs for company; would it be easier or harder with friends coming along as I'm sure I could coerce one or two into joining.\n\nI unfortunately don't know any second languages, however, am totally willing to learn over the new few months if advised so.", "summary": "Want tips / Answers on how to get a trip to another country planned."}
{"id": "t3_mnhe7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "lawyers of reddit, I need your help!! my friend was arrested and he might be in deep shit!!!", "post": "so my unemployed friend was looking for jobs in the paper and he found a job where he gets pay to be a driver.\nhe had done this in the past and nothing bad has ever happened, the last driving job he had was helping people transport stuff to flea markets to sell and etc.\n\nthis one he found a job which will pay him $100 per day, so he drove them from supermarket to supermarket which seems normal. BUT when he got to the third supermarket the store owner called the cops and him and the people that hired him were all arrested. when the cops searched the car supposedly they found a STACK of credit cards so im guessing the guys who hired him were doing something illegal. \n\nthe thing is my friend is a moron who cant hold a job so he does these little odd jobs to make whatever money he can, he is innocent and he had no clue what was happening, all he did was drive them around, when those guys were doing their illegal stuff he was sitting inside the car waiting.\n\nim worry that he do jail time for this bs, is there anything i/he can do to get himself out of this bs of a situation?", "summary": "dumbass friend got a job in the paper to be a driver ends up arrested and cause employers were criminals..."}
{"id": "t3_cpjq2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it offensive, when given signs, to not make a move or show interest?", "post": "There was this babe who apparently is into *BATTLESTAR GALACTICA* and *FIREFLY* in my lab class this past semester who kept giving me the looks and body language that she was probably interested. We never actually spoke, because in that class I actually enjoyed the material, and was working with all the dudes on the opposite side of the room; my persona was pretty alpha because all the guys liked me and sort of looked up to me (this isn't normal), they listened when I spoke, I helped them with their work since the subject is kind of my thing, laughed at my jokes, etc.   \n  \n  \nThe class only met a total of 7-8 times, some of them she didn't show up so even fewer opportunities, but between the work, exams, scheduling, and most of all me bitching out, we never spoke to each other. It took a couple of weeks but eventually I started to forcefully forget about her.   \n  \nI'm taking a summer course now, and a couple of weeks ago I saw her in the hallway, we made brief eye contact, I ignored it because I was in an important meeting/conversation with faculty and stuff, but mostly again because I bitched out. She passed by a few more times and I still didn't step out.  \nI tried to man up and sent her a facebook friend request, but she ignored it. Is this because she's offended or otherwise not interested in me? I'm pretty sure she's single.", "summary": "Ignored a chick giving me signs, sent a facebook request *way* later, she ignored it. Is she upset with me or something?"}
{"id": "t3_2xjfie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25 F] deal with feelings of guilt about not wanting to get married/have kids?", "post": "I had a pretty rough childhood but am now doing fairly well for myself, and I especially feel that I've been able to heal old wounds and grow as a person. \n\nI've had a chance to have some amazing experiences (traveling the world by myself, achieving a lot of life goals). \n\nI'm sexually attracted to guys (for those who will undoubtedly mention asexuality) and have had some non-serious boyfriends, but my god, I love my freedom and don't really want to be tied down. And I don't really foresee myself ever being interested in getting married and having kids.\n\nBut despite having found happiness in freedom, I feel guilty. I come from a very conservative Christian community, and we were raised to understand that it's \"God's will\" for us to be married and popping out kids by age 20. And most devastating is when people feel the need to tell me that it's \"abnormal\" to not be interested in settling down. With my past, I have worked so hard on getting back to normal; it hurts to be told this and to have my life choices be invalidated.\n\nSo how do I deal with these feelings of guilt? How do I grow a thicker skin to reduce the sting of everyone's criticisms?", "summary": "Trying to deal with others' attempts to invalidate my life choices."}
{"id": "t3_3jeg63", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my coworkers how to use Google Earth.", "post": "I work at a small local company that is made up of 9 employees; 7 of them being older women. Today, the Google car drove past our building and the ladies were in awe. They had never seen such a thing before. I explained to them that this car was taking pictures for Google Earth, a program they had heard of but had never used. I thought to myself, well... lets show them how to use it! So we all gathered around my desk as I pulled up the program. I typed in my address and here popped up my house. I drug the little man down to street view and all the ladies were shocked at what they saw. There, sitting on the curb of my sidewalk was myself, in short shorts, a grey tank top (no bra), smoking a cigarette and drinking a beer. Needless to say I was completely embarrassed. It appears this picture was taken the day after my best friends bachelorette party. My lawn is covered in popped balloons and streamers, empty beer bottles, and I think my roommate is laying in the bushes but I couldn't zoom in close enough to see. So here I sit, bright red and completely embarrassed.", "summary": "showed old ladies how to use google earth, was pictured in front of my house very hungover."}
{"id": "t3_1b03vu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend's (19/f) parents are control freaks and won't let me(18/m) hang out with her alone.. Together for 11 months.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 11 months and going on a year in 2 weeks. In the beginning of our relationship, she was allowed to come over to my house, hang out, play with my siblings, and talk with my parents whenever she wanted to. However, as the relationship progressed, her parents cut her off from going to my house AT ALL without a valid reason. It's been 4 months since she has stepped foot in my house and it is really starting it irritate me. Her parents are nasty control freaks and make her text them every minute she is out of their house, even at school. I can no longer hang out with her alone and can only if she has a friend accompanying her. These new \"rules\" came out of the blue and her parents didn't even give me a reason and my girlfriend doesn't know why they did it either. She has a 4.5gpa, is the valedictorian of our school, and does many things for our community so it's not like she is this bad person. We will be going to college in less then 4 months and I want to spend as much time together as we can, but they are preventing this from happening. We already decided that we will be doing a LDR, but I don't see how it can work with how much her parents control her life.\n\nIs there anything I can do to change this? I would go and talk to her parents but I'm afraid that they will never allow me to see her again.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 11 months suddenly isn't allowed to hang out with me alone or allowed to come over to my house because of her strict controlling parents, but I'm allowed to go over there."}
{"id": "t3_jbxuz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Two HUGE NSVs", "post": "Hey /r/loseit.  I'm just checking in.  I haven't posted anything major here in about a month.  My last check in was a [100lb milestone.](\n\nSince then, I've lost another 10 lbs.  \n\nLast week I was featured in an ad campaign for my gym.  Full page advertisement, all week in the area (4 parish area) newspaper.\n\nThis week, my wife and I went to the mall for a haircut.  My stylist was busy, so we went and looked at jeans.\n\nI've been wearing 36x30 Levi 501s.  The waist is quite loose now, but the legs keep getting progressively tighter (dang squats).\n\nIn order to find jeans that would accommodate my newly skinny waist, I had to find larger leg jeans.  That kinda made me sad, because I used to have to wear Levi 569, and both the legs and waist were tight.\n\nI pulled some 34x30s off the rack and slid them on with ease.  I had quite a bit of room in them too.  I decided to try on the 32x30s, just for kicks and grins.  **They FIT!**  I had plenty of room in the waist (pulled up to my belly button), but the legs were a touch snug in both the calf and thigh (DANG SQUATS!).\n\nAs a reference.  One year ago, I got my current job.  My previous job required that I wear slacks and a tie every day.  My new job was polos and jeans.  I had 7-8 pairs of slacks, but no jeans.  A year ago this week, I went and purchased a pair of Levi 569s.  They were 46x30.", "summary": "I was featured in an ad campaign for my gym and found out that I've lost 14\" off my waist in about 1 year."}
{"id": "t3_4xzwuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] of 6 months, we hardly ever have sex and it's killing my self-esteem. Need some perspective.", "post": "I'm in a fairly new relationship with a great man. He's not perfect but neither am I and for the most part I think that things are going very well. We laugh a lot together and I definitely miss him when we're apart. In a short time he's become an important part of my life that I don't want to lose. \n\nAll that being said... the last 2 months or so we have only had sex probably 4 or 5 times. I know that for a lot of people who have been together a long time that wouldn't be unusual but for a relatively young couple who have only been together 6 months I feel like we should be doing it much more often. I am always the one who initiates and he often will huff and act like it's a chore but give in to make me happy. Last night it had been 2 weeks and we were finally about to be intimate again but he wasn't able to stay aroused. I was mortified but tried not to make a big deal about it because I didn't want him to be embarrassed either. At this point I'm really starting to think that he's just not sexually attracted to me. He's a British expat (I live in Texas) and doesn't know many people here so I'm thinking more and more that he's with me just so that he's not alone on the weekend and that he may not have sexual or romantic feelings about me at all. I can feel myself becoming more self conscious and withdrawing from him but I don't know how to stop it. If I try to speak to him about it he just rolls his eyes and tells me that I'm over analyzing everything. \n\nI know enough about men to logically understand that this may not be about me at all but might be about stress or something else that he's dealing with on his own but I can't help that every time he rejects me it feels like a slap in the face. A sexless relationship isn't something that I'm willing to consider long term so I want to nip this in the bud before that's what we're left with. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend rarely wants to have sex and I take it personally every time he rejects me. Now I'm wondering if he's attracted to me at all."}
{"id": "t3_1m4ebj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Rel] (26f)When does his(30m) porn use become excessive? (x-post r/sex)", "post": "Disclaimer: Original post can be found [here](\n\nMy husband and I have been together for 4 and a half years. First off I'd like to mention I'm fine with porn. I watch it myself. I either need to masturbate/have sex every 3 days or for an entire day once a week. So my libido is probably decently high.\n\nI'm a house wife right now so I'm always here. If he's masturbating then I know he's doing it. He usually brings his phone in the bathroom with him, watches porn then jerks it in the shower. I'm fine with him doing this.\n\nWhat I'm not fine with is when he's too tired to have sex with me or isn't in the mood but can still masturbate in the shower close to every other morning before work. If I had it my way, I'd prefer him over porn everytime.\n\nTo give you more background he works hard long hours at a nuclear plant in the heat, so it's very taxing. I understand that.\n\nWhat I'd like to know is if I'm being unfair by getting mad at him for jerking it in the shower but us going a week without sex is wrong. I would never ban him from porn because then I'd be a hypocrite. But is he abusing his porn privilege and neglecting me or am I acting foolish? Sometimes I can't tell.\n\nHe says that he'd like to go get his libido checked at the doctor but I don't understand why... he thinks testosterone medication should help him...? I told him he should ask himself deep down why he thinks he needs to do this. Any thoughts on this?\n\nIf his libido has slowed down and he's not taking care of me but he's still taking care of himself, what does that mean?\n\nSide note: I'm very attractive and have not let myself go in any way. He on the other hand has gained about 20 lbs.\n\nThank you thank you in advance for your insight!!!!", "summary": "My man is working long hours and uses porn more often than we make love to get off."}
{"id": "t3_3jbgqu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] girlfriend [26F] of two years has strange sexual behaviours I don't know how to deal with.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I are both women, which means we don't necessarily experience 'sex' at the same time - we take it in turns. When we first started dating, we would have sex very often. As we grew comfortable with each other & eventually moved into an apartment together it slowed down a lot, which we are both comfortable with. So it went from maybe once every two or three days to once a fortnight. \n\nFor the past eight months since we moved, she's been harder to please. She is almost NEVER aroused, and always ends up just laughing and tickling me if I try to get intimate. If she is ticklish, I ask her if she is interested and her answer is always no. We used to have shower sex, even we only had a tiny shower, but never any more. I think I've had sex with her once a month on average in the past six months. \n\nAs for me, every time I am interested she finishes me, but refuses 'her turn'. I feel like I am taking advantage of her because I'm the only one getting off but she insists that's how she likes it. I am worried because she isn't even aroused after she's finished me.\n\nAlso, she has the habit of watching TV all the time in the bedroom, so I can't get her attention. But when I glance at the TV during, at ANY POINT, she laughs at me for it - I hate the TV but she insists that she needs it on to sleep. \n\nSo there's my story. I don't really have anyone else to turn to, so any advice will definitely help!", "summary": "girlfriend is seemingly not interested in sex any more."}
{"id": "t3_m001r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! Chronic weight loss!", "post": "Hey. I'm an American Male, 22 and until a month ago I ran 8 miles a day, off-road (trail-running) and did upper-body workouts every other day. I am vegetarian, although I only eat goat cheese and honey every few weeks, so I suppose I am almost Vegan. I had a super healthy diet with a few gallons of water daily, no processed food and I followed the O-Type diet religiously. I was 153 lbs steady and 5' 10\" (177.5 cm for my lovely friends ~~across the pond~~ everywhere else.)\n\nA month ago the love of my life and I ended our relationship with joint cooperation, although I was still devastated. I lost my appetite and stopped exercising. For almost a month (Read: 24 days) my daily diet was been liquid, with 400 calories of pure fruit juice and maybe 300 calories of soy milk a day. I lost weight and I may have hit close to 120 lbs. During the last five days I started eating solid food such as fruit, rice and quinoa, and no matter what I have diarrhea or throw up. I'm not hungry at all, but I don't wanna die you guys. Medicine comes up as well. Daily, every morning, once at lunch and two times at dinner. I am a poor student with no living family or healthcare. Is this the end you guys?", "summary": "Solid food and medicine won't stay down. I am losing weight and I have no healthcare (or access to healthcare.) What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_158bsp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "He has a girlfriend but his Facebook status says single?!", "post": "There's this guy that I have major feelings for.  We talk and have a casual, friendly relationship.  It has come up in conversation that he has a girlfriend and they've been together for at least a year.  Many of his pictures online are of the two of them together...yet his status says single.  They are definitely an item- they call each other pet names, go on vacations together, go out together, etc.\n\nGuys out there, help me out.  What does this mean?  It's not like he's never on Facebook because he is constantly updating his profile.  I know he knows how to do it, yet it still says single.", "summary": "What does it mean when a guy is in a relationship but his Facebook status says single?"}
{"id": "t3_38tvar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to ask her [30F] to stay friends with me [31M] ?", "post": "We've been great friends, shared many good moments with one another... since meeting her a year ago. I knew there was something really different and special about this one girl... but it wasn't anything I got concerned about. Until recently I started having serious feelings for her, not sexual, just wanting to spend more time with her and missing her often and wanting to look after her.\n\nI told her about my feelings for her, but I think I did it at a bad time and also said it in a way that wasn't really me, she might have taken it the wrong way. So she said it wasn't mutual.\n\nI can live with my feelings and handle it appropriately. I want to still be her friend, and continue the good friendship we had before I admitted this. How should I ask her this? And how soon? How can I make her understand that I'm perfectly ok with staying only friends if she will allow that, and I don't want anything to change between us? Granted in the immediate short term it will be a little awkward, but I'm in this for the long run. She's an amazing friend to me and I do not want to lose that. I refuse to run and leave and avoid any complication. I believe in being mature and setting boundaries if it comes to that.", "summary": "How would you ask her to stay friends and keep the same friendship we had before I admitted having feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_bsgvv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I need what you got (money).", "post": "Can I get some? Im not going to beat around the bush like other people.  I've got bills. You've got money.  If you don't have money, then this post isn't for you. Make sure to downvote me on your way out. \n\n**Here's what you came here for**:\n\nMy primary mode of transportation (a 2000 Ford Mustang with 170k miles) has a blown head gasket and needs to be fixed. I havent had the money to tow it to a shop to get an estimate, but Im guessing its somewhere around $500 to have it fixed. My wife and I are expecting a baby soon, and it turns out my deductible is about $2,000 more than I planned for. We live in Texas (where its about to start getting very hot) and our A/C stopped working.  I'm told I need a new unit, and that it's probably going to cost $4,000. Lastly, it appears that we have a leak in our water heater, and it may need to be replaced.  I spent all day today trying to fix the leak, but apparently wrapping it in electrical tape wont work.\n\nJust to be clear, I already have a job, and it pays well.  Unfortunately we're still young and havent had a chance to build up an emergency fund, so all of this hitting us at once is hard.\n\n**Here's what I have to offer:**\n\nWe've already become too attached to our first born child, so she's out of the question.  I hear the market for second born is kind of weak, so we'll hang on to him as well.  Pretty much all I have to offer is karma, a nod of approval toward a good deed, and maybe some drawings of the reddit alien from my children once they're old enough to draw.\nPlease paypal your money to **redditbeggar@gmail.com**. *Act now while supplies last!*\n\nBTW, I truly dont expect to get any money, and I'm sure we'll be fine without it. The paypal email is, however, valid and ready to accept your generous donations.", "summary": "Now would be a good time to downvote me."}
{"id": "t3_1z8jvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (29M) a fool for her (28F)?", "post": "Here's the Story:\nI(29M) meet girl (27F) online, we enjoy chatting with each other.  She tells me she is in the process of getting a divorce with an alcoholic, to whom she's been married a little more than a year.  \nI say \"whatever, I'm cool with that.\"\n\nWe go out on a date.  We hit it off amazingly.  We can't stop talking to each other on the phone.  The \"relationship\" develops, (\"relationship\" because she's still too fresh off the marriage) We became amazingly close. Honestly, there is a lot of future talk going on. We both know there is something wonderful here.  \n\n(More information:.... She's a RN)\nJanuary 2014: Her ex-husband gets into a BAD accident. She instantly rushes to his side.... Brings him to her home and takes care of him.  All the while I'm left to myself, only receiving calls when she is completely out of earshot of him.\n\nFebruary 5, 2014: She tells me \"I need to figure out who I am\"\nFebruary 12, 2014: Calls and says \"I miss you too much\"\n\nFebruary 28 2014: We've been taking for two weeks.  Seems to me like we're more friends now than anything. (and we are complete opposites on paper)\n\nTo be truthful: I'm a SAP who hasn't had many meaningful relationships, and want to know what to think of this one.", "summary": "Girl I'm dating went to aid her ex husband, Need to know if I'm really that big of a SAP."}
{"id": "t3_35zmkq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a homeless lady an apple pie.", "post": "This fuck up actually happened a few weeks ago when the McDonalds monopoly was going on but I only just thought to post.\n\nAnyway, I was walking through town and happened to walk past a homeless lady, I like to be generous where I can, but being a student I can't afford much and I give what I can so food/water etc.. if i have crisps in my bag i'll give them away, I rarely have change on me as I pay for everything on card so its usually items such as food or saniatry products. As I saw her I remembered that I had a voucher in my purse for a free apple pie and decided that she needed it more than myself. I presented the lady with the voucher only to be called a 'fucking tight bastard' and have her burst into tears on me. At this point people walking past are staring at me and shaking their heads at me as though I had just gone and kicked the woman. I was only trying to be kind, I now wish that I had just kept it.", "summary": "Gave a homeless lady an apple pie and she burst into tears and swore at me."}
{"id": "t3_2k4jyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] girlfriend [25F] might be cheating with her ex", "post": "We have been together for over a year now. When I am with her I feel happy, I truly love her, and she says that she feels the same way. Everything was fine until about a month ago. I felt that something was not right, but I couldn't put my finger on it (or maybe just didn't want to). Like accidentally seeing some guy's message on her Skype saying \"what are you plans this weekend\". She said that it was just someone from her college classes back when, and that I shouldn't worry. But there were more things like that, which didn't prove anything but gave me this feeling, you know? Eventually I did talk to her about it (last week), and she assured me that everything was fine and that the only people she spent time with was me and her sister. I trusted her. Maybe I was just seeing things which wasn't there, and as I said, I did love her.\n\nA year before we met, she got out of a relationship with her ex. We also have a mutual friend (let's call her Anna). My gf went to college with her, and Anna is also one of my good friend's sister so I knew her from way back when we were 7 or something. Well, about half an hour ago Anna told me that my gf mentioned to her that she was planning going on a date with her ex on the weekend. Yesterday when I asked my gf if she is busy and wants to do something on the weekend she told me that she might have to work.\n\nSo, I don't even know what to do right now. My head is filled with all kinds of emotions. I don't know what to think, what to do or how to feel. It's like a haze in my head right now. How should I approach this? If I should confront her, any way to do so without involving my friend? Any advises you have would be welcome right now. I love her and don't want to loose her but the thought that she is/is planning to cheat and lies about all of this just hurts so much. How should I proceed?", "summary": "My gf told our mutual friend that she was planning going on a date with her ex this weekend"}
{"id": "t3_394dau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married guy with kids develops crush on female friend. Should I tell her?", "post": "Here's the short version: Out of seemingly nowhere, I (32 M) developed a major crush on a friend (35 F). (It's not someone I see that often). \n\nIt was pretty strong for a while, but then faded, but came roaring back after a drunken party that we both attended. Nothing happened, but now I can't get her out of my head again. \n\nMy question is this: Should I tell her? In some ways I think telling her would help kill the crush. If it's out in the open then maybe we can just acknowledge it and leave it at that. \n\nThere could be some awkwardness and we sort of do some work together too, so I don't want that to be impacted. But I think she may just laugh it off. \n\nI also think she probably knows by now, especially after that party. I didn't say anything, but I didn't hide it as well as I usually do either. \n\nSo, what should I do?", "summary": "Married and crushing on friend. Will telling her end the crush?"}
{"id": "t3_2x09jc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 19 months are attending her brothers wedding. They hate eachother", "post": "Hey /relationships. My first time posting here since I really couldn't find a better place to ask a question like this. I apologize if there was a better place to post this but it seemed most appropriate in here.\n\nAnyways, my girlfriend and I have been dating for 19 months and just moved in together last November. We are really close and have both met each other's families etc. Except for one thing, I haven't met her brother yet. From what she's told me, the two of them get into verbal and physical confrontations basically everytime they're in the same room as each other. For example, last time she was home and he was there, she was in the kitchen and her brother asked their mom \"When is that retard (my gf) getting out of the kitchen?\" He never speaks to her directly. Always makes insults indirectly at her. \n\nA little background about me, I am the oldest of three kids in a very tight knit family. I treat my younger brother and sister with the utmost respect. I love them so much and would never do anything intentionally to harm them or their feelings. So this behavior/relationship my gf has with her brother is completely out of the ordinary for me.\n\nNext weekend we are going to his wedding which is taking place at their parents house. This will be my first time meeting him. I come to you to ask what is the appropriate way to handle her brother? My plan is to just treat him with respect as if I know nothing about her relationship with him. But then what if he starts making remarks about her? What do I do? It's his wedding weekend at the house he grew up in so me making a scene would be a really bad idea, right?", "summary": "My girlfriends brother's wedding is next weekend. They hate each other. How do I handle their verbal/physical altercations?"}
{"id": "t3_3wx05o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 1 yr 6 months, my girlfriend expects us to get married but I'm not sure at all.", "post": "The other day I overheard my girlfriend talking with one of her friends about how if a college couple has been dating for two years that they are bound to get married and that if they had dated that long and not gotten married it would have been a waste of time.\n\nI am not at all sure that my girlfriend is the person I want to marry and I don't want her to feel like I wasted her time to meet someone else in college. \n\nI am content with our relationship. It is not amazing but not bad enough to break up for any reason. I'm very busy with school so we don't have the time to have an amazing relationship. \n\nI need advice about where to go from here in our relationship. She is definitely vulnerable in our relationship and is way more committed to me than I am to her. I hate that she is in that position and I would much rather have it be the other way.\n\nI really don't want to hurt her but I really don't know what to do. I haven't had that many serious relationships so I really don't have that much to compare our relationship to. This is also a problem in determining whether or not I would eventually want to get married. \n\nPlease comment with suggestions or comments.", "summary": "My girlfriend is much more committed to me than I am to her. She is vulnerable and wants to be together and get married but I am unsure. I don't want to hurt her but I don't know what to do. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3evmi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] can't calm my [20 F] girlfriend down. She is in the Army, I'm in a city known for nightlife.", "post": "My girlfriend here in Israel is 20, and I'm 25 (American). She is on her base all week, and I see her on weekends usually, which has worked out well so far. We talk often. I'm very much in love with her and she is with me.\n\nI just moved from a boring place to the absolute center of Tel Aviv, and it's become clear to me that the change in my circumstance has her nervous... because that's exactly what she said to me.\n\nThe first night I was in my new place I was invited out by a roommate, and so I went obviously because I'm new in a foreign city and desperately need friends. She called while I was out and so I found a quiet spot and talked to her for a bit, and since then she has been distant.\n\nWhen I talked to her this morning I tried to explain that no matter where I am or who I'm with, she's completely #1 for me, but it doesn't help. She says just talking about it makes her nervous.\n\nShe has said many times that \"All the women will look at you and try to steal you\" etc., so maybe it's the sudden proximity to a lot of single girls, but really it doesn't matter if Bar Rafaeli herself approached me... I'm a man of my word and I literally only care about this one girl. I could see myself marrying her.\n\nI just can't seem to get past these weird fears she has that somehow I will find someone else, and now it's making me nervous also, because I don't want her to see our situation as hopeless either!", "summary": "Younger girlfriend who I am 100% in love with thinks my new living situation puts the relationship at risk, and I can't convince her that's completely false."}
{"id": "t3_3aegv4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [34/F] got frustrated with my boyfriend [34/M] last night. He rebuffed my advances.", "post": "We've been dating for 4 months, but we knew each other for several years prior to dating. Before my boyfriend went to work in the morning we had a quickie, but that left me wanting more. All day yesterday I had been telling him he left my craving more and that I wanted him when he got home at night.\n\nSo the night came, we were cudding on the couch and I made my advance. It should not have come as a surprise because I had been telling him I wanted him all day. I started kissing him and rubbing on him, but I could tell he sort of wasn't into it. I don't know why but I got really frustrated, I stood up and told him \"Fine, I see you don't want to play, so I am just going to leave you alone.\"  I walked away for a few minutes and then I came to sit back down with him. At his point he had his head down and started crying. I felt really bad!\n\nI apologized and we talked. He has told me he is trying to take it slow because in his past relationships he always had a lot of sex and they ended up breaking his heart. He is somehow associating that if he has a lot of sex then the relationship will go sour. He has assured me he wants things to work out for the long haul and is serious about our relationship, I'm just trying to figure out this part.\n\nAnytime he approaches me when he is horny I am glad to satisfy him, but when I approached him last night I felt rebuffed.\n\nDid I overract? Should I try not approching him for a little while, like giving sex a break for a few days? \n\nHe is a very sensitive guy, and I know that already. I want to be considerate of his feelings. Yet at the same time I want him to understand my needs as well.", "summary": "Got frustrated when bf rebuffed my advances, I walked away from him, he felt hurt and so did I. Did I overract? Should I try not approching him for a little while?"}
{"id": "t3_ycu4u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need some advice, don't know what to think.", "post": "So, a little back story. Recently, I started seeing this gorgeous woman. The other night, we had the talk, the one where she asks where we're going and what we are. We agreed that we're just dating but we both stated a desire to head somewhere long term and serious, this comes a few days after we had sex for the first time, and we were out to dinner before a movie a couple days after this.\n\nSo I'm over at her place last night, and we lay on the couch together and we talk, but after a while I start making the moves. She doesn't respond with getting into it so I back off and don't show any signs of frustration with being rejected, it was no big deal. Some time later, she says it's time for her to go to bed as she has work and so do I. So she walks me to the door, we hug and kiss a few times and say good night, all is well.\n\nToday, we're texting, she isn't saying much, we're both at work, no big, but I do want her to actually talk to me. Sometime in the middle of the day, she stops responding and I haven't heard from her since, this was around 1:30. I sent her a text about 7:00 tonight, asking what was up, and no answer to that either. By this point, she must be home in bed.\n\nShould I be worried? Because I am. Almost ten hours after I sent her a text with a direct question (asked her how work was going) and I have no response. What should I do? Should I even try to talk to her tomorrow? She says she wants us to happen, but everybody lies, and she stopped talking to me today. I'm so confused, and unsure. Please help.", "summary": "Dating new girl, had sex, couple days later had the talk (where is this going), hung out last night with no sex and minimal kissing, talked today but she stopped around 1 and haven't heard from her since, so confused and scared."}
{"id": "t3_2hyzn2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Might have just ruined it because of stage fright getting it up.", "post": "As title says. Blowjobs, no problem I can keep it up. But I had one bad experience with not being able to get it up and that experience haunts me. Fast forward to yesterday. Sexy time was nearing its peak and I kept stalling with literally a fully nude girl on my bed.  Got it up but after a few minutes it went back down. \n\nI'm a 20  yo and she's 19.I consume a modest amount of caffeine. Usually two cups in the morning. Does this have an effect?\n\nHow do I best go about fixing this?\n\nDuring my personal sexy time I can get it up no problem", "summary": "sexy time cut short because I a young male can't keep it up"}
{"id": "t3_51ju8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] think that my bf [20m] is too close to his mother.", "post": "My bf and I have been dating for almost 4 months, we get along amazingly and everything is perfect. Except for one thing. He told me he and his mom are close and I didn't think much into it. He takes her words to heart and talks to her about his and my relationship, and she is basically telling him to get me to do this and that for the sake of my future (which isn't really bad). I finally met his mom (she avoided meeting me due to an understandable issue) and he and his mom interact... weirdly... He and his mom is really touchy feely, as in, they cuddle, hug and kiss (cheek, forehead) often, which I did not expect from an exfuckboy/army guy. He also talks highly of her.\n\nAnother thing is he likes being called \"daddy\" in bed... but also slipped in a few \"mommy\"s towards me.. out of nowhere (in bed) Now this may be just a case of mama's boy but it is really odd how close they are and how he called me mommy on several occasions. Any advice/insight? Everything is perfect besides the interaction between them, which makes me mildly uncomfortable when I am in the same room..", "summary": "bf is mama's boy.. at least I hope it's just that.."}
{"id": "t3_1cy8yl", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Am I too late in the game to make a switch?", "post": "So, let me just start off with i'm currently a second semester sophomore at Emerson College in Boston and i'm majoring in Communication Sciences & disorders. \n\nNow to throw it back a few years...\n\nAll throughout High School I was an average student, and I never really took much interest in school. Basically, I got by. I had always thought about my future being somewhere in the Criminal Justice field, but that idea faded away during the rush of senior year. Senior year, I was totally overwhelmed by the college process and being the oldest of three children, my parents were too. I decided to take a year and go to a community college.\n\nWhile at the CC i majored in communications. At the time I was working for a public access station as a freelancer, and it was something I could see a career in. I didn't like the CC environment, and I seemed to like the idea of majoring in something in the visual arts field... so I applied to Emerson. In the midst of applying to Emerson, going through my second semester at CC, and working almost full-time, I got the Gastric Bypass. It is only relevant because it helped me become more confident in myself and I feel as if I learned a lot about myself during this time. Anyway, I was accepted to Emerson, and that's what leads me into my dilemma. \n\nI'm now finishing up my second semester here, and I think that I want to transfer again. I came here as a Studio-Television Production major, hated it. Transfered in the Comm. Disorders major, and while I like it a lot...I just don't see this becoming an enjoyable career for me. \n\nSo, i'm looking for advice on what to do? If i were to transfer to another school as a CJ major, I would have all of my general educations requirements fulfilled as a Junior and therefore would probably only be set back a semester from graduating. My goal if I were to get a CJ degree, would be to get into the Boston Police. Dept. as I am currently a life-long resident of Boston.\n\nAny feedback is appreciated (:", "summary": "As a sophomore who has already transfered once, is it too late for me to transfer again as a Junior."}
{"id": "t3_2i73gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] still let my ex-girlfriend [17 F] get me down, even though it's been 8 months since we broke up", "post": "We were together for just over a year, and she ended it 8 months ago. I went through the normal break up 'depression' etc, but for the last 4 months or so I've been mostly okay. But I still think about her a lot more that I would like to, and still care too much about it all.\n\nThis reached its worst point yesterday: she came into my college for a while just to return some books as she has now left, and although we didn't speak, just seeing her for the first time in about 3 months made it all come back. It was the same feelings as immediately after the breakup, albeit less intense: overthinking stuff, wishing I was still with her, regretting things I did etc.\n\nI'm pretty sure the break-up had far less of an effect on her, since: \n1) She'd had 2 boyfriends before me (although not as serious, eg we lost our virginity to each other)\n2) She was the one who ended it.\n\nShe was my first girlfriend, and since it ended I've done almost nothing romantically with another girl. \nIt's gotten to the stage where I feel like I will never get over her until I meet someone else, which doesn't seem like happening any time soon since I'm pretty shy and met my ex almost by accident.\n\nI just feel pathetic for it still bothering me so much after this long, and don't know how to get over it once and for all.\n\nThank you", "summary": "I was with my ex for a year, until 8 months ago. "}
{"id": "t3_2rd40i", "subreddit": "self", "title": "[Serious]Is it possible to accept that success/happiness isn't meant for you?", "post": "So I went home for the winter holidays and just got back to resume 2nd year university. I always have a tough time going home because of dad and childhood memories. I had a super abusive father that never allowed me to do anything and was not someone I felt comfortable around. All he ever did was hit me and him parenting was like Kessel trying to play defense. However he has been an orphan since he was 8 so in his defense he's had it pretty rough and knows he didn't raise me properly. he admits it (to mom) and feels bad and has learned from his mistakes and is not such a douche to my younger brothers.\n\nI never had a father as a friend or was allowed to socialize much and was locked at home and developed a submissive approach with people and struggle making friends for those reasons. I have no skills in life because I was never allowed to do much as a kid. I am basically a useless pylon that sits alone on my laptop all day. I'm tired of trying to fix my life and failing multiple multiple times that I've come to the point where I've given up. The only positive I look forward to is having children of my own one day and raising them properly as if it's retribution against my own childhood.", "summary": "I have had a real rough childhood and have pretty much given up on my own life and come to the conclusion that it's going to suck and I can't do anything about it. I still want to lift, eat well, do good in school and find happiness in the fact that hopefully one day I am going to have a family and raise good kids. Is this possible or is it not because it's too depressing that you've given up on your own life and your happiness forever??"}
{"id": "t3_1n2xrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/f] Grandad [85/m] recently went into hospital following a health scare. I'm having trouble with the thought of his death.", "post": "A little bit of background. I've always been very close to my grandparents on my dad's side and have always lived within 10 minutes walking distance until I went to university two years ago. I now attend a university 200 miles away from home.\n\nRecently, my 85 year old grandfather went into hospital because of a fall but more tests are being done due to his memory and his confusion which he's been dealing with for years but it has gotten worse.\n\nI'm not at home at the moment so have been getting updates from my mum about how he is and apparently he is going to be getting home soon which is fantastic news but, it's hit me that sooner or later, I'm going to have to deal with the death of my grandparents and I'm terrified and haven't been able to stop crying for the last few days.\n\nMy granddad on my mum's side died when I was only 10 so I don't think I was really emotionally mature enough to really understand it - obviously I was incredibly upset but I don't remember much from that age. My nan on my mum's side is also fit and well so I've never really worried about her before.\n\nI'm going home in a couple of weeks so will be making sure that I see my grandparents whilst I'm back but right now I just feel incredibly scared and I'm not sure how I'm going to deal with death when it happens.\n\nI'm sorry if this doesn't make much sense but I've been quite upset about the whole thing.", "summary": "Grandfather in hospital, will be coming home soon but it's made me realise that one day I will have to deal with his death and I'm scared and upset."}
{"id": "t3_sw88a", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Need advice: our cat has left us for the neighbor!", "post": "I know this is a long one, ~~and there are no cute pics~~, but we need advice pretty badly on this one. \n\nWe have two cats (brown tabbies, Boomerang and Yo-yo).  My wife has had them for six years since they were six months old. They come and go from the flat as they please.\n\nBoomerang is super-affectionate and loves attention.  After our son was born (5 months ago), she started getting less attention and gradually spent longer periods out of the apartment. One day, she was gone and didn't come home.\n\nShe was gone two weeks and we feared the worst - we'd called the vets/clinics, microchip company, waste disposal... then she was taken to an animal hospital in our area.  A neighbor had been keeping her, because he felt she was thin and lonely.  She reminded him of his previous cat and he was clearly attached.\n\nWe brought her home after stopping by to thank him (he was quite nice and we swapped contact info). We asked him to stop feeding her or letting her in so that she could get used to being home again. But, alas, it is late night, and she's not home... again. I'm guessing she went to his door and cried - I don't know if he would have it in him to shun her.\n\nWhat should we do here?  I don't want to be too rude to the guy, but she is our cat.  That said, I guess she's not too happy here anymore... I'm all mixed up about it.", "summary": "our cat left us for the neighbor, and now I don't know what to do. Please advise!"}
{"id": "t3_4ff6o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19M] end things before they get out of hand without hurting her [18F] feelings?", "post": "Just some background: I'm a sophomore at university. I haven't had a girlfriend before but I've had a few girls interested in me. I'm very shy, have a bit of social anxiety, and have often have trouble turning people down.\n\n  So yesterday I was just sitting at a table at university on my phone when a girl approached me and sat down at the table. We talked for about 15 minutes and she said that she was looking for friends and gave me her number. \n\n  I've been looking for more people to talk to so I was happy, but after she left she texted me if I wanted to hang out the very next day. I thought it was a bit forward but went along with it, we were supposed to meet up today at 6pm. I was a bit nervous since I have some chem work due tonight and so I was relieved when she texted me if we could hang out at 4pm instead. Little did I know that meant that we would just talk for an extra two hours. So three and a half hours later, I made it as obvious as possible that I needed to go and she reluctantly parted ways.\n\n   Before leaving, she asked me what other times I would be free this week. I told her that I'm busy on Tuesdays and Thursdays and free after 3pm MonWedFri. She said that she'd like to meet up on Wednesday and unfortunately I kind of just went along with it and left. About 15 minutes after we parted she started texting me, which has gotten a bit troublesome. \n\n   Now I'm pretty inexperienced when It comes to girls but I know for a fact that she was flirting with me quite a bit. She's a very nice girl but I am 100% not interested in a relationship (with her or anyone) at the moment. \n\nI don't want to wait for the situation to get out of hand, so how I can end things quickly without hurting her feelings?", "summary": "Random girl approached me yesterday and I think she wants to be more than friends. She's a very nice girl, but I really don't want to be in a relationship right now, so I'd like to stop this before things get out of hand without hurting her feelings."}
{"id": "t3_x92mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO hates the city I want to live in for the rest of my life. What do I do?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nMy SO and I are in our 20s. We've been happily dating for about four years now, and have talked quite seriously about marriage and kids. I  love him, and definitely want to spend the rest of my life with him. He's just finishing a PhD in a liberal arts field and I work at a media firm in New York City. I've lived here for about seven years and absolutely adore the place. I love the people, the things to do, the food, the arts, everything. I want to have kids here and stay in my job (and industry, since I'm finally making professional progress as a woman in a male-dominated field) for the foreseeable future. But he's been at school a few hours outside the city, and hates the five boroughs. He doesn't want to live here or even in a suburb, and wants to move back West (where we are both originally from). While I like the West Coast, even the major cities there don't feel like home as much as NYC. But in the past few days, he's made it clear that this is a dealbreaker for him. I love him so much, but I don't think I can stand to leave NYC. What should I do?", "summary": "Marriage-material SO hates NYC and I don't want to leave. "}
{"id": "t3_1to7lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 20 year old girl and I have PTSD and it's interfering with my partner [21 M]", "post": "I have severe depression, Post traumatic stress disorder and severe anxiety due to being physically abused by my sisters for so many years and in high school I was forced into a sexual relationship with a boy for 6 years. I was also locked in my room on many occasions by my mum until i screamed and passed out.\n\n***\nMy relationship with my partner (whom I've been with for over 5 years now) was very rough at first but all is good, I've become more patient and so has he. We understand each other and we love each other but I have one problem, I have no sex drive and I'm finding it hard to accept his touch even if it just a small pat. \n\nI want to with my heart and soul but my body reacts differently. I've seen my doctor and its a side effect of my medication (anti-depressants and anti-anxiety) but there must be a way around it.\n\n \nI'm all open to suggestions and questions.", "summary": "[20 F] Girl with emotional problems and traumatic past can't be touched and can't have sex even though I want to with my [21 M] Partner of 5 years"}
{"id": "t3_1ceb1g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Dealing with a frenemy who just. won't. go. away.", "post": "I'm in graduate school, and over the past several years, I've had what I would call a 'frenemy'. This girl has been hot and cold with me for as long as we've had classes together - sometimes she would invite me to spend time with her and her friends, and then completely stop talking to me, claiming that she's busy (which, as I've come to learn, 'busy' is 99% of the time a cover). She says a lot of nasty things about people, and then turns around and spends time with them. \n\nThis past year was really hard for me due to personal issues, and while she and I were never that close, we became closer. She became supportive and would listen to me. I thought maybe she had grown, and I started to trust her.\n\nThat all changed when one of her male friends (that she has a thing for) told her he was interested in me - and he and I never met. She completely stopped talking to me, and the only reason I know this is because of a mutual friend.\n\nI asked her in general if things were ok and how she was doing, and she said everything was good - so she wouldn't address this with me directly. I didn't want to directly say that I knew what her problem was, because I figured at this point, she should just be able to tell me what was up. \n\nMonths later, out of the blue, she texts me and says that she's been really busy and not to take it personally that she hasn't been around. I said that I do take it personally, and then she responded back with how she doesn't have the energy to deal with me because she's so 'busy'. \n\nI'm SO done with her, and I've totally disconnected from her, as I find this response to be seriously rude and dishonest.\n\nThe issue is, we have a lot of mutual friends. How can I handle my disdain for her gracefully?", "summary": "Grad school frenemy is mentally a middle school bitch, but we travel in the same social circles. How to deal with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1c78e9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20F] Need advice on a [20M] who indirectly called me cute...", "post": "Hey everyone!\n\nSo my school has a dance coming up, and my friend tried to set me up with a really nice guy, and he agreed to be my date. I really don't know him that well, but I find him extremely attractive, and so I was told that he texted my friend who set us up that he thinks I am cute. I really have no dating experience and I'm flattered by this, but I don't know what to do or how to act around him because of this. Should I try to get to know him better, and would he actually tell me that he thinks I am cute? I'm also wondering if he didn't actually mean it and just told my friend this since he's a really nice and friendly guy, and wanted to be nice about it since it would have been awkward for him to refuse to be my date. Thoughts? I really don't know what I am doing, and I always screw good things up.", "summary": "Guy I barely know indirectly says I'm cute by telling my friend, who then told me, now what?"}
{"id": "t3_3bs11p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/23] have had only 1 relationship and don't know what to do relationship and sex wise with date [M/25]", "post": "I'll try to make this short(ish).\nSo I have had only one committed relationship in my life; my high school AND college sweetheart. We were together for eight years. He is the guy I lost my virginity to and the only boyfriend I have ever had. However, we broke up this January. I am completely over it now. Haven't really dated since, just some coffees and lunch dates. Decided to get off the pill because it was terrible for my mood, libido and was causing some physical complaints. Haven't had sex since January, fine with me.\n\nBut now I started dating this guy and I really like him. It's actually scary to admit because I have only experienced this beginning phase of love ONCE: almost nine freaking years ago. We have been on three dates, kissed and I hope to call him my boyfriend in the future.\n\nHowever this shit is frightening me. I thought I was super experienced due to my eight year relationship but turns out I know nothing. It's been three dates and we haven't had sex. My girlfriends are telling me I am weird en prude for not having sex yet and that he'll probably won't want a fourth or fifth date. It's not even the sex itself that I am concerned about, it's the damn pill. I don't want to rely on solely a condom, but I only got off the pill three months ago and my period still isn't perfectly regular. I just don't want to fuck up my body again but maybe I should to keep him happy?\n\nAlso, when do you start thinking about being boyfriend-girlfriend? It's only been three dates over a course of 1,5 month, is that extremely short? Long? Normal?\n\nBasically I am a giant noob and need advice.", "summary": "had only one long relationship, don't know what to do with sex and being exclusive after 3 dates. Don't really want to get back on the pill but think maybe I should."}
{"id": "t3_2fow1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (31/M) and my girlfriend (30) have a long distance relationship that's largely one-sided.", "post": "I've known my girlfriend for nearly fifteen years, through a \n\ndifficult and unusual courtship and learning process, and even \n\nafter asking her to marry me (she did say yes), she's withdrawn \n\nfrom me, and distant. As far as I know her family doesn't know \n\nabout that, though I told my family as soon as I could, and I tell \n\njust about anybody else, because I'm that proud of it. However, \n\nI feel like I'm an after-thought, or something who to her means \n\neven less than that. I'm only truly involved in her life when she \n\nneeds something I can provide, usually money for one thing or \n\nanother. This is wrong, and unhealthy, and it hurts me deeply, \n\nyet when I tell her I'm hurt she calls it complaining and \n\nthreatens to cut me from her life. \n\n     For almost fifteen years I've loved her, and supported her as \n\nbest I can when she needed me, yet I get the meanest, smallest \n\naffections in return. I feel like a genderbent Cinderella story, and \n\nmy girlfriend is, at the same time, the ugly stepsisters and my \n\nPrincess Charming. I know I need to remove her from my life, \n\nbut I'm too used to the pain of loving her, and the pain of losing \n\nher scares me even more, because I sincerely believe she \n\ncouldn't care less if I'm in her life or not. I don't know what to \n\ndo, and that scares me most of all. There's so much more to \n\nthis, but I don't know how much more to add before whoever \n\nreads this zones out. Thank you in advance, and let me know if \n\nyou want to know more.", "summary": "Guy in Philly, girl in Baltimore. Guy needs more "}
{"id": "t3_z5sab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I just asked my girlfriend [21] to tie up loose ends with her ex. I [24] need opinions if I did the right thing.", "post": "Hear me out here.\n\nA few days ago my girlfriend and I were having a heart-to-heart talk and we suddenly got to the topic of relationships.  I got uneasy when she started talking about her past relationships, but she was fine with talking about it so casually so I was like, why not.\n\nThere is this one guy she keeps mentioning though. It was her ex before me. Her longest relationship too, albeit being an on-and-off thing for 2 years. She told me a LOT about this guy, how they were doing, why they broke up, how they went back again, broke up and went out again..the usual on-off jazz. And then it ended for good because it just didn't work for her, and that was that.\n\nHere's the thing though: she told me they talk occasionally online. Usual chit-chat I guess? She told me she treats him as a friend, that it's not every day or week they talk. About a month or two before he resurfaces and talks again.\n\nThen it bit me: what if the guy wasn't over her yet? I talked to her about it and she told me she doesn't like talking to the guy except she feels obligated to do so because, you know, friends right?\n\nI felt horrible though. Why would he? I mean, I know people check how their exes are doing every now and then, stalking I guess but never talking, but when they want to talk..should I be worried? So I asked her to tell the guy off. Like, close it completely and move on and not talk to her any more.\n\nI was just wondering: I've never asked her anything that..important, I guess..to not talk to another person. It eats me away inside, but was it right for me to ask her to do that?", "summary": "I asked my girlfriend to tell her ex to move on since she's got me now and to stop talking to her. But I feel horrible. Was it right for me to ask her that? WHAT I DO."}
{"id": "t3_1jq7je", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] has lost interest in sex with me [22M] completly", "post": "We've been dating for 4.5 years. For the first 3 years things were great, we'd see each other during the week or on the weekends and we never had any issues, maybe had 1 or 2 fights the whole time. \n\nLast year we moved in together and since then sex has dwindled down to nothing... Over christmas we moved back to our folks place until we found another place to live, and have been living together since April. \n\nSlowly sex has started to die off. Since about 2 years ago she's had on and off problems with UTIs/thrush and now we haven't had sex (or anything) in over a month. She now feels that she can't be bothered with sex as it sometimes leads to her in pain and hurting. We recently had a talk and she's said that she just isn't a very sexual person (not the impression I had from the first 3 years together). I know she owns 2 vibrators (one she keeps hidden in a drawer in a different room) and I know they get use.\n\nI can't help but feel depressed about this. She says she's not sexual but it just seems to me that she is, but just not involving me. Sex, or any physical affection, is fairly important in a relationship to me, but neither seem to be to her. What do I do...? What can be done...?", "summary": "Sex has died off after 4.5 years. I know she still masturbates, just no physical affection towards me. I'm not feeling like part of this relationship anymore..."}
{"id": "t3_24hbd7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "To all of you Social Justice Warriors", "post": "Increasingly I've begun to notice this phenomena among those that speak up for causes they believe in. \n[Example](\n\nThis video is clearly taking a stance that men should not standby while anyone is sexually assaulted. This is a stance I wholeheartedly agree with. I spent several years learning and teaching self defense to many women who had been victimized. I think that any man worth his weight in salt would be willing to stand up when an injustice is being done. \n\nThe responses to this video are all about how male victims were left out. Yes, this is true, men can also be raped/sexually assaulted. Men can be victimized. Absolutely. This does happen and no one should be ashamed if it's happened to them. They should be able to handle it as they see fit without society's judgment. I agree. \n\nThe Problem: \n\nThis video has chosen one topic to address. This is an effective thing for a 60 second video to do. Imagine a 60 second video that tried to address several topics. None of them would be addressed adequately. Why are people getting caught up in all of the topics that *aren't* being addressed instead of supporting the topics that *are* being addressed?\n\nDoing good doesn't require you to address every problem all at once. That's nonsense, yet some people expect this. \n\nI have seen this same thing when non-issues are addressed. For example, I saw a thread where a male author wanted tips on writing female characters because he isn't a female. He was flamed because he wasn't *allowing* tips for writing male characters to be shared. They were calling him sexist for this. What the actual fuck?! How is this sexism? He acknowledged a lack of information and asked for help. He didn't lack information when it came to male characters because he is a male person......", "summary": "People get caught up in what isn't being helped instead of supporting the message, which is still a good one."}
{"id": "t3_1ve46j", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "$5000 and 6 months", "post": "I'll have from the beginning of February to the beginning of August to travel with the 5 grand that I have. I'm an 18 year old male from Canada and I've never traveled alone before, but I want to go somewhere soon and and open to ideas!! I'm looking to escape the cold so that narrows down the locations a bit. \nAlso, I don't need to be gone for the entire time, just looking for a good trip.\n\nI'm thinking of South America, with the Carnival coming up and the world cup later on as well! But I'm not sure how safe South America is. South America seems like it would go well with the amount of money I have. \n\nI would love to go Australia and New Zealand, but I don't think 5 grand is enough to last long in either, so I might have to save that for another trip.\n\nSoutheast Asia also seems like a great option, financially as well. \nEurope would be great although I'm not sure about backpacking in February and March, and more money.  \nThis list could obviously go on and on.\n\nI'm big on adventures, outdoors and learning new things. Learning to surf, climbing a mountain, visiting a historical place, and great scenery are example of what I'm interested in :)\nThis is going to be my first trip so I'm pretty excited!!", "summary": "18 Year old male Canadian with 5 grand wondering where is safe, fun and exciting from February to August."}
{"id": "t3_1yuzn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 25, she's 23; just need female perspective. Ladies, I had an amazing first date with this girl (it appeared that way to me) is it possible that her not responding to a text for 24 hours isn't a bad sign?", "post": "Just to be clear, I'm not clingy, I don't care if I don't text someone for days, I'm just trying to figure if we are on the same page or not. I like her, a lot. It's been 7 years for me since my last real relationship and this is the first time in that 7 years that I've felt this way about a girl. \n\nIf it isn't clear by now, I over-analyze *everything*. If you want the honest truth, going 7 years without feeling this way for a girl will make you do some crazy things, hence this post. Even if it's bad news, I just need to ease my mind because not knowing is stressing me the fuck out. \n\nI realize I probably sound crazy and too emotionally invested, but like I said, this doesn't happen often, and I just wish I could know if the feelings are mutual, because at this point I'm kind of assuming the worst (bad habit).\n\nI cannot stress enough that I don't care that she hasn't texted me back, people have lives, etc etc, I get it. but it just kinda worries me that it's a bad sign and I'm curious if the females reading this think not responding to a text for over 24 hours now is probably nothing, probably means something not-so-good, etc. \n\nIf I'm being fucking retarded and you think 24 hours is no big deal and you think she could still be really into me then just say so, you aren't gonna hurt my feelings.\n\nBasically need some kind of reassurance either way, because 7 years without this is a long time and this is stressing me the fuck out, lol.\n\nThank you for tolerating my shenanigans.", "summary": "I'm being ridiculous, I know, but I'm trying to figure out if this girl is on the same page as I am and a lack of response to a text is discomforting."}
{"id": "t3_eu0kw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, help me change my ways for new years :/", "post": "I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend is 21 years old. We've been going out for over a year and I love her more than words can explain. My problem is that I have a hard time letting things ago/I over analyze everything down to the bone/and I have a hard time feeling stress free and relaxed. A lot of the feelings tend to come up more often when I'm in a serious relationship and when I'm feeling more comfortable with my significant other.\n\nWhenever these feelings do come about I tell my girlfriend about them and tend to have a small emotional breakdown. My girlfriend always tries to help, but as time goes on she just gets frustrated because I'm just the same broken record over and over again. I tell her that I feel like I can't let things go, over analyze, etc. etc.. \n\nOur most recent fight just mad her feel like crap as usual and got us into a fight. She told me she's confused and scared because she feels I won't be able to handle real situations that actually matter later down the road in our relationship.\n\nI just want to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I also want to learn how to let things go and not dwell on stupid things. I want to act like a man and be stronger than I am. I don't want to feel guilty about insignificant things. I want to feel all this weight and stress go away.", "summary": "I dwell on the insignificant and want to be more emotionally fit."}
{"id": "t3_2t6xmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my new roommate's gf [24F], can't tell if she's flirty...don't know how to respond.", "post": "While searching for an apartment, I came across a girl looking for a roommate. She said she was looking for a female, however, her guy \"friend\" was also moving and in need of a male roommate. She was very nice about the whole thing and I later met her \"friend\" who was awesome. We signed a lease together and he's a really cool dude. \n\nSo last night his girlfriend comes over...I learn his girlfriend is the girl who introduced us. Her \"friend\"/my roommate is actually her \"boyfriend\" and they've been dating for 2 years. When my roommate went downstairs to bring some things up from his car, his gf started talking to me...and I can't tell if she was flirting or not. She moved really close to me, and started playing with her hair and seemed really into me, started asking me about my dating life, etc. I told her I had a gf, she changed the subject and kept moving closer and closer. I moved away. \n\nWhen my roommate comes back, she seemed disinterested in anything he said, and started praising my accomplishments to him. He started playing a movie and she badmouthed it the entire time and berated him for his taste in film. At the same time, she complimented me about everything I said. \n\nReddit, the whole situation feels awkward and I don't know what to think.", "summary": "Roommate's gf may be hitting on me. Idk what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3oowqj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "College Freshman [M 18] Seeking Advice with College Sophomore [F 19]", "post": "I met a girl while cooking in the kitchen, and we started talking about cooking and stuff. Things went really well, and she seemed really engaged in the conversation. Later, when she was leaving the kitchen area, I asked if she wanted to join me at Late Night, the meal after dinner at the dining hall. She said yes pretty enthusiastically, and we met up and went there an hour later.\n\nThe meal went pretty well, we talked a lot, and had a very natural conversation that lasted for a while. We then went and played Ping Pong with my roommate, but when it was getting to be time for sleep, I asked her for her phone number and she gave it to me.\n\nA few days later on Monday, I sent her a text to see if she wanted to go on a walk on some of the trails behind the University. She said yes in what I interpreted as a good way over text. (She uses quite a few !'s when texting me.) We met up and did that before dinner today, then I asked if she wanted to go to Late Night again. So we did that, though quite a few friends showed up of mine, and she did not seem all that engaged at moments, but other moments she seemed like she talked to them maybe in the same way she talks with me. I don't know what to make of that.\n\nAfter Late Night, I walked her back to the elevator where we talked but I said good night when my floor came up before hers. Nothing else happened.\n\nWhat should I do from now on? Part of me wants to do something maybe on Thursday so as not to be too much by doing something just the day after, but I also don't know if I should make some sort of move. I am new to relationships like this, so I don't have any clue what to do.", "summary": "I met a Sophomore, we seemed to hit it off and we talked then and after dinner, and we went walking today and went to the dining hall after dinner where a bunch of my friends showed up. I don't know what to do now. She seems to have positive responses to me when I talk to her alone/over text and in groups."}
{"id": "t3_50s5vr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by paying my rent", "post": "I am currently living with my father due to a series of unfortunate life occurrences, but I pay for my room and the utilities I use etc. Anyways, I went to pay the month's rent and normally I put this on the table, but his girlfriend that lives with him has some older children that are a little sketchy sometimes, so I put the money in his motorcycle vest thinking that they won't mess with it if it's in there. It's a black vest and the pockets are shallow, the bills stick out quite a bit and it's all twenties since I went to an atm. The vest is on the back of a chair and it's almost impossible to miss the fat stack of cash sitting there. Almost. While I was at work he put on the vest without noticing and took off on the motorcycle with the money sticking out. And so it blew all over the road at some point. I'm in a situation where I can afford to (and have) just pay it again but still a giant bummer since I could have used it to move out this month. I wish I could have at least seen it though, must have looked awesome all those twenties flying out behind this guy riding down the road....", "summary": "put rent in a dumbass spot and it ended up a cool but unfortunate trail of bills in the wind"}
{"id": "t3_4lt1fi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband 42M with his daughter 18F, conflict over attending high school graduation", "post": "My husband and his ex had a very contentious divorce and it took them 10 years after the divorce to get to the point where they were being polite and reasonable with each other. \n\nMy stepdaughter lives with her Mom in a different state and visits us multiple times a year, per the visitation agreement. My husband and his daughter don't have the best relationship but they do love each other and get along well, or so I thought. \n\nWe were planning on driving down to stepdaughter's city and attending her graduation, so she'd have her father, step mom and half siblings cheering her on in addition to her Mom and stepdad. DH has been asking her about graduation details many times so we could plan our trip, but she kept avoiding him. Though she didn't say anything, eventually he got the message that she didn't want him there. I have been encouraging DH that we should still go and attend since the ceremony doesn't require tickets. \n\nThe graduation is in 4 days and DH got invited by his ex to attend. I think that's a big gesture from her part because she is usually pretty rude to DH. While it was nice of her to invite him, she made it clear that I or our kids (stepdaughter's half siblings) are not welcome. DH tried reaching out to his daughter to ask what she wanted and she's simply avoiding him. \n\nDH has decided he's not going to go to the graduation. I worry that he's going to regret this. I am pushing him to go by himself, attend the event, take pictures and fly back. While I am pretty upset that I am not wanted there, I think it's more important that DH not miss this milestone. \n\nAm I wrong in trying to convince him to do this? How big a loss will it be if he skips this graduation?", "summary": "Stepdaughter didn't invite father and family to graduation. I think he should still go and attend, he's choosing not to."}
{"id": "t3_3yetv0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting my cat in a time out", "post": "So my cat was truly being an asshole this morning, the way only cats can be. It was 5 am, and my girlfriend and I were trying to sleep. First, he bashes down our bedroom door, then he proceeds to wail all over our faces. With his tongue and incessant meowing and purring. I mean he's terrible, but in a cute cuddly kind of way.\n\nAnyway I keep kicking him out to no avail, as our bedroom door doesn't quite latch all the way closed, so with crazed kitty perseverance he can always bash it open. \n\nEventually I realize that if I want to spend any of that sweet sweet time cuddling with the sandman, I'm gonna have to put him in time out. When he's being a real jerk, I'll put him in the bathroom for a little bit, as it's the only door in our one bedroom apartment that he can't open up with his wily kitty paws. \n\nAt least that's what I thought.\n\nI lay my head back on the pillow and cuddled up with my girlfriend, and fall back to sleep. Fast forward about two hours later, and my girlfriend is waking me up, asking for help with something.\n\nConfused, I rub my eyes and follow her into the hallway, finally stopping at the bathroom door. I turn the knob and try and to open it. Nope. It's locked. We both look at each other and kind of laugh. \n\nMy cat has locked himself in my bathroom. \n\nI start looking for a way to unlock the door from the outside. But we live in an old vintage style apartment, and all the door knobs are super old school... So they apparently weren't built with any modern safeguards. \n\nNow we are sitting in bed and waiting for the apartment management office to open up, crossing our fingers that we won't need to pay a locksmith.", "summary": "Cat was being a dick, stuck him in the bathroom, he got pissed and locked himself in."}
{"id": "t3_s54rp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I go for it even though my time is running out?", "post": "So basically there's this girl in my class whom I'm attracted to and I think that there is a chance that we could end up being a couple, but there seems to be a few things that can prevent that from happening. \n\n1. I've heard rumors that she is in an arranged marriage (Her family is Middle Eastern; Haven't confirmed this from her, as she is private and most likely wouldn't want to say anything on the matter)\n\n2. We have a few months left before she goes back home for a couple months and then will be going off to college (I'm only a Junior), and I most likely won't see her ever again unless we end up going to the same college 2 years from now, which does seem likely as we plan on going to the same school. \n\n3. It seems that she's been hurt by a previous guy from what she has told me, and she's told me she hates most guys at our school. \nMy question is: Should I try to start a relationship with her? A lot of people might say hell yeah live life to the fullest and all, which I totally want to do. I just don't know if she feels the same and I'm also looking for a serious relationship, and a few months isn't enough time to do as such. Thanks for reading! :)", "summary": "people: I like a girl who might be in an arranged marriage and I only have a couple months left with her. Should I go for it? Also, I'm 16 and she's 17."}
{"id": "t3_e28wr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Waiting is the hardest part.", "post": "Dear Reddit,I am kinda confused on what to do here so I am seeking your advice. (this is a long one by the way)\n\nThere is a girl who I like very much and still have deep feelings for. We had been dating for a year and four days when we broke up/went on a break as I needed to figure somethings out with myself and needed to take a breather from the relationship. \n\nWe remained close friends (Still are to best of my knowledge)and on three seperate occasions had sex while not technically being together. Fast forward to the current time, I have recently (A week ago) told this girl that I am ready to be in a relationship with her again and still care very deeply for her. \n\nHer reply was that \"I am currently in a relationship\"and then soon added but he leaves for Hong Kong in two weeks for 9 months. I then enquired if it was possible that we could be together at somepoint in the future.She replied that\"Anything is possible and you never know what the future holds\" \n\nNow that being said I still love her very much and am currently waiting for the guy she is seeing to leave the country.I feel that after this happens I will be in a better situation as her friend to win her back.\n\nNow a little about this girl,she can't really deal with seperation and as Hong Kong has a 12 hour time difference and her re-bound is going to be busy with work and developing a social network out there and well won't have that much time for her as a whole. \n\nI am hoping that due to this she won't be  able to handle being in a relationship with this guy and perhaps comes back to me. I know it is a lot to hope for but at the moment I am biding my time awaiting for this guy to leave. \n\nWell Reddit I ask you what would you do in my situation,would you wait as you said you would and waitfor the re-bound guy to leave, before talking to her again and take it as friends (Like I am currently doing) or would you do something else. \n\nThanks.", "summary": "broke up , still like girl , re-bound guy leaving for Hong Kong (for over 9 months) still friends with the girl hoping to get her back...what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1814yr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is he [27M] trying to play me [25F]?", "post": "I went on a date with this guy I met online this past Saturday. We clicked instantly. We shared the same sense of humor, so there was lots of banter, flirting, and joking around. The date ended with a little make-out session, but nothing more. \n\nHe called me this morning and asked for my availability this week. I told him that I was free Sunday night. He then suggested two activities that boil down to me coming over to his house. I told him that I'd rather go out and suggested a few activities of my own. He shot them all down. He then said he's going to have to see about Sunday and will get back to me the day of. In my head, I was like, \"WTF? I thought we already agreed we were going to hang out on Sunday.\" Instead, I told him ok and hung up.\n\nI think he flipped a switch on me. After he realized that I wasn't going to entertain him at his house, he suddenly became noncommittal. This isn't the first time that he tried to get me to come over to his house. At the end of the first date, he asked me what I was doing later that night (we had an afternoon date). He said he wanted to cook dinner for me. I declined. He then texted me on Monday and essentially offered the same thing. \n\nMy instinct tells me to get out now because it seems like he's just looking for some sex, but the last time I trusted my instinct, I ended up overreacting and turning down a good guy away. Any advice or input?", "summary": "Guy I went on a date with is unusually persistent about getting me to come over to his house. After I told him that I didn't feel comfortable quite yet, he changed tune and left me hanging about our Sunday plans. Should I cut the cord and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_47axts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) am not sure how to help my girlfriend (18F) through her emotional slump.", "post": "I know that you can't always help your SO when they're going through a hard time, but I'm just so incredibly troubled about this. This has been going on for the last week, where she seems so emotionally drained. She becomes emotionally unreceptive as well, which kinda hinders the affection we have (which I totally understand).\n\nShe's also in her senior year of high school and that could be what's getting to her (even though I can't quite pinpoint the cause). She assures me that everything between us is okay. This last week has has had my anxiety on the tipping point and has had me sort of overly affectionate, which I've apologized for up and down. She lets me know every time that I have nothing to be sorry for as well, reassuring me that it couldn't be anything with us.\n\nI've talked to her about this quite a few times this last week, and she isn't quite sure what it is. At first, it was the major stress of her school's musical casting (which she ended up sinking the lead for). She also has told me that she doesn't need any bit of space either when I suggested that. She says she's never gone through anything like this before. I guess I'm just at a loss for what I should do (if I even should do anything).", "summary": "Girlfriend is in an emotional slump that we both can't figure out what is the cause."}
{"id": "t3_2ujy8r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being lazy and gettin my 290x urinated on", "post": "So this story started a week ago and concluded today. I live in a house, and my neighbours are 1 abbandoned house(some lady emigrated to Canada) and the other one is still a construction site, and its being like this for atleast 2 years since i moved in. That means there are lot of mice  nesting in those 2  buildings. Being winter those little buggers always try to get in my house via the open door. Usually they are murdered by my trustworthy cocker spaniel but somehow this one kept escaping her  for about a week. My wife started nagging me to get some traps and get the motherfucker, but i always said that i have faith in the dog. \n\n  Today after i came from work, while my wife was cooking dinner i was browsing the inernets, suddenly  my monitors black out, and the fan from my video card goes full throttle. I have a 290x reference so  the fan goes real loud like 2 vacuum cleaners and 2 hair dryers all on max speed kinda like this  . I power down the pc remove the panel and check the video card. I switch the bios from UBER mode to normal and power the pc again trying to determine if it was a bios issue. The fan goes again 100% and a mouse jumps from unused hdd bays. I power the pc down, remove the video card and see some mouse piss on it. \n\n  The little fucker literally pissed on my card. I took the isopropyl alcohol and  washed the back of the card real good the used a hair dryer on it for about 3 mins. Plugged in and it freaking worked!! Meanwhile the little fucker was laying dead in the middle of my living room with my dog wagging her tail proudly.When he jumped from my pc case he jumped right in front of my dog and got what it deserved by pissing on my precious. Also found out that he got inside the case by entering in the slot where i had a tv-tuner which i removed and forgot to put the back plate.", "summary": "mouse got inside the house, was lazy catching him, he pissed on my 290x  and made it go full fan speed. Mouse crushed to death by my cocker spaniel."}
{"id": "t3_1vbguq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why am I [23 M] still in love with my ex-girlfriend[20 F] who I've been broken up with for three years and what do I do?", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend for 3 years now and in that time, I've done everything I could do to get over her.  I blocked her on facebook, deleted/threw out all pictures, stopped talking to her, and even fooled around with other girls (and even developed real feelings for another girl), but despite all this, I still have very strong feelings for her.  After three years.  I still feel such a strong desire to be with her and talk to her and I have thought about her every single day for the past three years.\n\nI hope this doesn't come off as creepy or weird or anything because I really have put a lot of effort into trying to move on but it's at the point now that I don't even remember what it's like to not feel this way.  \n\nI'm sure there isn't anything you can say to definitely fix this and the answer is probably just to keep doing what I'm doing but I just needed to get this out somewhere because I can't talk to anyone in my life about this (after three years, people lose sympathy).", "summary": "Despite my best efforts, I'm still in love with my ex-girlfriend from years ago"}
{"id": "t3_327y4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How likely is it that my (32F) husband (38M) of 6 years is unknowingly passive aggressive?", "post": "He's always been.. distant. But in the last 18 months/2 years it's become painful. He shows no emotion or affection towards me, can't deal with confrontation (leaves the house if necessary) or just walks round with a face on him. \n\nOutright blanks or ignores me if I try to talk about anything and insists that all the problems I have brought up are mine, he is perfectly happy so sees no need to change. That and the making me think I'm losing my marbles! Telling me things last minute then insisting he's told me previously. \n\nOr just making things up. Tried to tell me he'd taken his anti d's for 5 months. I know that's crap because I have half used boxes and it was a source of constant friction that he would only take them sporadically. I'm ready to divorce him but I want to know if he could be oblivious and genuinely think there's no issue.", "summary": "husband is passive aggressive but could it be unintentional?"}
{"id": "t3_1gi920", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "2 year anniversary and no idea what to do!", "post": "I know it's not the usual post for this subreddit, so if there's a better place, please let me know.\n\nMy (20 F) two year anniversary is coming up with my boyfriend (20 M). It's a Tuesday in the middle of an insanely hectic week for me. I'm moving, starting summer classes, working, and traveling, but I want to take time to make the date special. Our relationship is pretty great, but we're looking at our second bout of long distance at the end of the summer when he transfers to a university an hour away. Nothing we can't handle, but all the more reason to try to make this special. \n\nI've been going over ideas in my head for the last week and nothing seems right. Are there any quirky traditions I don't know about? We both love music and adventures, but there's no interesting concerts playing that night nearby, and we're both pretty low on funds.", "summary": "What was your favorite anniversary date? Or date in general? I'm out of ideas!"}
{"id": "t3_3sxv4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I'm [26/M] and this morning my [21/F] GF of a year decided she missed living at home. She's packing her things now and I feel like dying. I'm so blindsided", "post": "What do I do? She's so cold and unresponsive and just keeps saying she misses home (which is 10 minutes away?!)\nShe has been homesick for the \"country\" down a dirt road with her mother for a while. \n\nI'm completely blind sided by this. This was a girl I literally went to sleep last night holding while playing Fallout. I'm pretty sure she's just homesick and the early 20s is a scary time. She won't even really talk. I don't think there's another guy because she's just not like that. She's not secretive at all. She asks me to read her texts when she gets them. I'm 100% certain there is no infidelity. \n\nI guess I need to start accepting the breakup but I don't even know where to begin. This is the only breakup I've ever been hit with out of nowhere. \n\nSo far I've taken 2 mg of my (prescribed) xanax and I'm playing music with no lyrics to numb things. I don't even know how to begin accepting this. The bedroom is terrifying. Her side is going to smell like her hair. She left all the pictures of us up. Help =[", "summary": "How do I begin to cope with a breakup out of nowhere that just happened?"}
{"id": "t3_hzfwr", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Using ATM's in Europe: A guide to Chip & Pin cards", "post": "Hi guys.  I am using this post for personal reference but I also want to open it up to everyone as it is a current theme for Americans travelling in Europe and is great information for the people who need it.  I suspect this information will only come from insiders who know and have experienced the true problem of chip & pin requirements that Europe is converting their ATMs to.\n\nWith that said, please post a reply in the following manner:\nCountries:  Still Works [atm names] / Requires Chip & Pin [atm names]\n\nI will be travelling to London, Paris, Brussels, Amsterdam, Berlin and Munich so if anyone has input on those cities please respond as I'm leaving in two weeks :)", "summary": "Many European ATMs are requiring a chip in addition to the PIN to authorize a transaction.  Which ATMs do and don't require the chip?"}
{"id": "t3_1bupxn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (23F) moved to a new city with my boyfriend(28M). Was I wrong for doing this?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We met online and had instant chemistry. We had a rocky start because he is very progressive and I am extremely old fashioned. The first time he told me he loved me was, I think, more of a cover up for the fact that he also revealed he'd gotten a girl pregnant just before dating me. He told her he didn't want anything to do with it and that I was his priority. Probably my first indication to run. \n\nLater I found he had been talking to ex's back in his hometown(very far away from where we are) and I wanted to call it quits at that point. I decided not to because I had already fallen in love with him and trusted him when he said he's change. \n\nDon't get me wrong, he makes me ecstatically happy, otherwise I wouldn't have stayed. We talk about marriage and children a lot. Now we have picked up our lives and moved together to an entirely new city so that we both could have better jobs, but I think I need a fresh start and probably a break from men who do not know what it means to be exclusive. Also I find he texts women from work more often than he should. He has a lot of female interaction on his job and I don't trust him with it. This is what sparked my post.", "summary": "My boyfriend of two years has betrayed my trust on several occasions. How do I begin a new life after moving away from everything?"}
{"id": "t3_3erfke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] recently discovered a work consultant [40/M] is faking his whole Instagram and using it to work his way up the business. What should I do?", "post": "Here's a bit of background. I work for a small startup who hired a marketing consultant who I always felt was a bit full of shit. He always references these brands he works for but has no website and  no history of his work via a business website or history online, for example on LinkedIn.\n\nI recently was on his Instagram and noticed it seemed off. After a bit of research I can conclude that 95% of his followers are fake and he buys his likes. On top of that I have I proof he has stolen photos of private jets, fashion shows around the world etc.\n\nAt work he brags about how great he is at social media. Here is the kicker, I was recently let go because I think he wants his company to do my work and he used his \"credentials\" to make an impression that they are great at what they do. I don't want to look like an asshole for pointing his fake profile but how could I do this in a reasonable way to my employers? On top of that he is friends with the boss.", "summary": "I found out a company consultant  is faking his Instagram to grow in the company. I was recently let go most likely because of him and because he wants to bring the work I did to his company. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3tdxgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19F]: How long should we stay together?", "post": "Basically I would just like to get the general opinion of everyone here on the forum.\n\nI met my girlfriend around 2 years ago our first year in college. Within a year after that, we really hit it off and we've been dating ever since. We celebrated our one-year anniversary last month.\n\nWe haven't explicitly talked about this because she's been abroad this semester, and I haven't felt the need to bring it up amidst all the stress she's going through. But I wanted to ask everyone here what my best course of action would be.\n\nBasically I think my girlfriend and I know that we're going to break up at some point - probably after graduation. We make each other really happy, we get along well, and we have a great time together. The sex is great too, and we've been in love a long time.\n\nWe basically started dating for the fun of it: we liked each other, and we've only grown to love each other more and more. The problem is, our long-term goals don't mesh. \n\nShe doesn't want to pursue academics immediately after graduation. I do. That will inevitably create some distance. Also, she's told me many times that she doesn't want to have kids. I do want to have kids. Finally, our religious and philosophical views don't exactly line up.\n\nSo what do you guys think I should do? Right now, I think we're both assuming we'll be together until graduation. We can't really see ourselves with anyone else at the moment. And to be honest I don't think I'm going to find my life partner at my school if it isn't her.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have incompatible long-term goals and religious/philosophical views. Should I stay in the relationship until graduation for sure, or end it early to look for \"the one\"?"}
{"id": "t3_2y87kp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [28 M] being cold-hearted and harsh with husband [30 M] of one year?", "post": "I'm fully aware we rushed into this marriage, but it was done with pure intention. Basically, my partner and I wanted to do this because we wanted to move from Dubai (he was not happy there, I was ok with it) to the US. I figured applying to the K-1 Fiance visa could solve that issue...except he lost his job (he hated his work and was not sticking to their hours) and I ended up supporting him for well over a year now...\n\nWe moved to Los Angeles and his work authorization is still pending but I am getting increasingly frustrated in other avenues with him (trust, communication, outlook on life when it comes to being responsible vs. partying - he is far more laid back than I am really). \n\nMy solution was to create A LOT of structure in our relationship. I made a budget for us, a list of the issues bothering us and established rules and routines (we never developed these because I've been so busy working my ass off and this is the first time I have some time to think more clearly) to put some order into our lives. My ultimate goal is to make him more responsible and have a more structured life.\n\nFinally, I created a schedule for him to pay me back for all the loans he took out before we even met (and I paid), all expenses I've covered for him (rent, groceries, travel tickets to see his family, visa costs, etc.). The amount is actually $30,000 (note that I managed to save $60,000 up until we moved to the US over a period of 8 years of work).\n\nI feel this is the only way that it might work for me. I am just too picky, structured and responsible (even if that means I'm not as fun). I feel really guilty but I also feel better (let's see if we actually stick to this).", "summary": "My partner is two years older than me, but has managed to stay out of work for over a year, has raked $30,000 in debts that I've paid off and now I am creating a schedule for him to pay me back and to become more responsible. Not sure whether or not I am being too harsh."}
{"id": "t3_168hvk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/m) Thinking about asking out an good friend's ex (22/f) who is also a good friend. Need advise!", "post": "So here goes. I have had an ongoing crush on one of my good friends for months. I was very close to asking Sue out over the summer, until one day I realized she and one of my best friends, Jake, had feelings for eachother. I did what a friend would do and said to myself \"well good for them, I hope they are happy\" and moved on. Sue had feelings for Jake much longer and approached him. They were very close before that, however fast forward 2 months and things were over. Sue was heartbroken over the loss of her first love and our friend group kind of moved apart. Jake recently told me there was a serious miscommunication, whatever that means, and thats why he ended things. That ended nearly 4 months ago. Since then Jake started dating someone else and is incredibly happy with her. Now, Sue and Jake's relationship seemed like more of a fling than anything. Sue told me afterwards that she had still never been on a date. That was the key to me thinking it was a fling. \n\nNow, Sue and I have been playing a lot of eye tag lately and I am seriously considering asking her out on a date. She definitely has feelings for me, and I her. Jake has obviously moved on, however I am still concerned it will affect our relationship. I will definitely speak with him before I ask Sue out. Reddit, I tried to give you guys a good overview. What is your take on the situation?", "summary": "Two good friends, Sue and Jake, started what I believe was a fling just before I was about to ask her out. Things ended after two months and Jake already has another girlfriend. After 4 months, my feelings are returning and now they are mutual with Sue. I want to ask her out and I need an outside perspective."}
{"id": "t3_4sj7u8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-friend [30 M] is sabotaging my [28 M] professional and romantic relationships. What should I do?", "post": "Hi, /r/relationships.\n\nI had a falling out with a friend and business partner, call him John, who I've known for almost a decade. He was controlling, condescending, manipulative, and unfair. When I told him that I didn't appreciate the fact that he naturally assumed a position of power and belittled me, he didn't respond saying that he didn't do those things. Instead, he threw a temper tantrum and asked me why things ought to be fair. I disappeared shortly after. I did nothing wrong to him, I just didn't care to play his games any longer and decided to finally stick up for myself and part ways. I have nothing but contempt for this sorry excuse of a human being.\n\nWe have a lot of the same friends. On one occasion, I asked a friend if I could play a gig. He contacted John behind my back, he told him \"I wouldn't work with Red Cloak,\" and I never heard from that friend again. I know this because John told me. He has also spoken to managers about me which has affected my employment and cost me money.\n\nJust recently, I was talking to a girl [27 F]. We were communicating for a couple of weeks (she lives out of town). She's good friends with John but didn't know we had a falling out. One day, everything about her changed. She brought texting to a halt, stopped returning my calls, and acted very detached. I asked her why and she gave me the whole \"I've just been busy\" routine. I have good reason to believe that she asked John about me, because they still talk/hang out, and he told her to stay away from me. \n\nI don't know what to do about him. I'm not going to apologize for ditching someone who was doing me a great deal of psychological damage. I thought it would be over but I guess he's still looking for blood. What can I do? My anger is tearing me apart.", "summary": "Parted ways with \"friend\" for my psychological well-being and he's preventing me from establishing professional and romantic relationships and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_zoojo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What concert completely changed your opinion of an artist/band?", "post": "For me, it would definitely be Devo in 2011 at Yonge-Dundas Square in Toronto as part of NXNE. It was a free concert that had [these guys] opening. My friend's parents got him into Devo so he told me to come. I'm pretty open minded so I just tagged along. I gotta say, probably the best concert of my life. The energy coming from these astonishingly old dudes was insane. The bass was pounding, we were close to the stage- a total party. They also place a huge emphasis on the a/v experience which was super cool. I went through a small Devo phase after, but it kinda died out, mainly cause it just wasn't comparable to the concert.", "summary": "Expected Devo to be weird old dudes, turned out to be weird old dudes who know how to party"}
{"id": "t3_nuvk0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "eBay small ads scammed me (didn't get my 560ti)", "post": "Pretty bad christmas this year..\nI have to say I love the love and all the stuff around christmas and I had a great christmas with my family, but I ordered a MSI NVIDIA GeForce 560ti for me as a christmas gift (I payed 140\u20ac for a used one off ebay small ads, which is a LOT of money for me).\nI payed the Monday before Chirstmas and today I still don't have it.\n\nThis makes me pretty sad since I had to sell my Nintendo DS and some old LEGO to afford it and I now don't even have money to buy any games off the steam sale...\n\nAt least I payed with PayPal and might get my money back, but this will take about a month and then the sale is over...", "summary": "don't buy from eBay small ads and save some money for the steam sales instead."}
{"id": "t3_3370bp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20m] thinking about breaking up with my first love. Should I tell her [20f] why?", "post": "So I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a quarter and it is the first relationship for both of us. I told her I loved her at about the six month mark and she still tells me every once and a while, but I think I've lost that feeling.\n\nIt started at about our year anniversary. We haven't had sex yet and that's when I realized we've been together for a whole year and the most she is willing to do is handjobs. This being my first relatioship, I didn't mind for a while, but once we made it to a year I started to lose some sort of connection to her. I told her about this when I could first feel it because I was scared of losing her. She didn't talk to me for a day and later said that I was pressuring her. Which was definitely not my intent. \n\nSince then, this first love has been fading and now I am growing tired of her. Whenever we try to have a meaningful conversation about anything that we have conflicting views on, she gets frustrated and stops talking to me or gets really angry. Or when we are hanging out with my roommate just watching a movie she is constantly bringing up why this movie is sexist/not politically correct. \n\nThings that she does are annoying me, and it sucks. Especially when remembering all of the good times we had over the past year. I guess my question is: if I do end up breaking up with her, do I tell her why I'm ending it? I saw a post on /r/bestof a while back saying to not give a reason, but in that situation, he had only been dating for 6 months and this wasn't his first relationship.", "summary": "do I tell my first love why I am dumping her?"}
{"id": "t3_1e9ald", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR [F18] Goesn on date date prom problems [M21]", "post": "First time posting here so sorry if I mess up.\n\nI've been a relationship with my girlfriend for just over 10 months, Im from England [m21], and shes from america, we met up at a summer camp and hit it off well. All was fine we visited each other often when we could,\n\nShe tells me she's going to prom and going with her girlfriends which I was fine with since the rest of her friends are single and have no-one to go with, this was the plan until the day before prom when her male friend decided he wanted to go and would be going with them. (They've been friends for a few years in school Im sure he did have a crush on her at one point)\n\nThe message said \"I might be going to prom with matt now\" which to me says I'm going with this one person as a date. I told her I didn't like it but she said that it was more of he's just joining her and her group of friends for the night and he would only come if he got to say he was going with her.\n\nProm night comes and goes all is ok , until the next day when I start seeing pictures, first its of them stood near each other which hurt but I passed it off as ok. \n\nI started talking to her about the photo's and how there were non of them together in a couple like shot and she said \"yeah no way i wouldn't do that\" ... well she did and now I'm really mad and not sure how to confront her.\nShe did offer to not go with him but since she stated it wasn't a date or she was even going with and it was simply him joining her friend circle I told her no as I didn't want to come off as controlling.", "summary": "Gf went to prom with a group of friends and a guy who wasnt a date but they were going and took all couple photo's even though she said she wouldn't do that, how to confront her?"}
{"id": "t3_41bvj1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking for errors in my PowerPoint.", "post": "Like almost all TIFUs, it didn't happen today, but yesterday. \nNow on with the story, which need some backstory.\nMy last class of the day is \"Film Studies\", a class where we watch movies and see if the science in them adds up. A.K.A. a movie watching class with science analysis after each movie. Our first major assignment was to do a presentation on which movie was more accurate, Armageddon or Deep Impact. Our presentation was on the asteroid's angle of hitting, its material its made of, and its size. We had around three days to do our research and create a Power Point to present to the class. We did this in groups, so I was working with my friends on this. On Thursday, we had the entire class period to work on it, where I did a lot of the work and only one of my friends really helped. This really pissed me off, so to vent out some steam, I wrote on one of the slides, \"The asteroid would have been seen WAY earlier that eighteen **fucking** days prior.\"(the slide was about errors in Armageddon. One of them was that they saw the asteroid eighteen days before impact. It would of been seen earlier.) My error is in bold. I knew that I would remove it later when I go over the PowerPoint after I finish working on it, except that I never went back over it and completely forgot about it. On Friday we presented. When the dreaded error came up on the white board, I was confused when people started to giggle in the crowd. I looked at my group members and they were looking at me like I was insane. I then asked the crowd, \"What's funny? I don't remember writing anything funny on here.\" Then the teacher hovered the mouse cursor over the word \"fucking.\" My face went red hot as the entire class erupted in laughter. I put my hand on my forehead and looked in shock at what I forgot to remove. I then quickly ran through the slide and finished up the presentation. All of my partners called me stupid afterwards. Luckily the teacher thought it was funny and didn't care.", "summary": "I put the word fucking on my PowerPoint and forgot to remove it before presenting to my class."}
{"id": "t3_2o7y4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my Wife [30 F] 8 yr relationship 2 years married. Was I cheated on and how do I go forward?", "post": "Marriage has gotten a bit rockier in the last year or so and during this harder time (financially, emotionally and sexually) wife got bored and found an online boyfriend she would chat with. This included sending naked pictures, chatting and telling her friends she was so in love with this guy. I found out through her just acting strange one day and just kinda unraveled the whole puzzle. \n\nWe have always had 100% trust and honesty as our #1 mission statement so obviously this has hurt quite a bit, although I can still rationalize it as just something to just fill the emotional void I wasn't able to or didn't fill.\n\nWe have discussed the situation and are trying to work on our marriage but I still feel like I'm being an idiot. I would for us to work out more than anything but I'd hate to just set myself up for a future disappointment.", "summary": "Wife found an online boyfriend, I'm not as hurt as I maybe should be because nothing physical really ever happened but that trust is hard to work with right now."}
{"id": "t3_3b97ba", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Auto dealership may have screwed my transmission and is assuming I will pay for the repairs. (All $4900.00 worth.) Not sure how to proceed.", "post": "So a couple of weeks ago I received a notice in the mail from GM stating that my 2006 Pontiac G6 needed to be taken to a dealership for services pertaining to recalls. Nothing was seemingly wrong with my vehicle, but obviously I took it to my closest GM dealership to get the appropriate services taken care of. One of the recalls dictated that the transmission cable required replacement. Within the next week of getting my car serviced, my transmission stopped working. (The vehicle worked perfectly fine in reverse, but not in drive.) So I have it towed to the same dealership to have it looked at. Im not saying I am absolutely positive this dealership screwed up their work on my transmission, but it would be a huge coincidence if they didn't, right? They take a day and a half to get back in contact with my wife after diagnosing the problem. What is the diagnosis you ask? \"Your transmission isn't working.\" Then they tell my wife that it takes 14 hours to take apart a transmission and figure out exactly what the problem is at $100.00 an hour for labor. Plus $3500.00 for a new transmission. But my wife doesn't think to bring up that it was very likely their fault during this conversation. (She was at work and told them to contact me once they were finished with the diagnosis anyway.) And the dealership sure as shit didn't acknowledge that it may be their fault. So, my question is, how do I proceed when I show up at the dealership at 8 A.M. tomorrow?", "summary": "Dealership may have fucked up a recall service and seems to be expecting me to pay for the labor and parts. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_r68cr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So reddit, how do you deal with being surrounded by people who are clearly wilfully ignorant, yet are still getting degrees and working in a profession they are totally unprepared for, voting, raising the next generation and are the majority?", "post": "Since I have been back in school I have been having daily rage breakdowns at what I consider to be the low expectations of my professors, passing people who clearly don't get the material and the fact that I am a minority in my *masters program*.  I swear some of the people in my class are functionally illiterate, they make the most absurd comments that demonstrate they have no idea what the prof is talking about, the standards are so low that the marking rubrics are set up so as long as you complete the technical requirements you get the credit.  I go to a fairly prestigious school too, placed as one of the top universities in the world.\n\nI don't know if it is because of this that I have been noticing elsewhere as well but it's now apparent to me everywhere.\n\nI have been lucky enough that I work with a small group that I selected to be on my team but now that we are done our research and getting ready to implement our program (I work in Program design and development for Social Services), we have been working with other agencies and although many of these people are high paid and have at least a bachelors, and many work at the local college, they're fucking morons.  I fear that I will snap one of these days and end up having a breakdown. \n\nSo guys, what are your tips or tricks with accepting this reality or just containing your anger and disgust and moving on without letting it effect you?", "summary": "Stupid people are stupid."}
{"id": "t3_x704s", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Broken up for over six weeks, will inevitably run into her in the coming week... What to do?", "post": "It's been well over six weeks since she (f 19) dumped me (m 19) and flew to another country to study over the break. But the new university semester is starting next week and I just know that we will eventually cross paths.\n\nWe dated for about a year and she was my best friend ever since we were first years. We had some trust issues and other trivial fights about her friends and her constant need to go partying and clubbing. I prefer quiet nights at home rather dark night clubs with crap music and drunks. I loved her very much but I was pushing her away with my distrust and paranoia... She couldn't handle it so she left me. She broke my heart.\n\nI study Engineering and Physics and she studies Law and Arts, so we'll unlikely bump into each other around campus. However the problem is that we are both apart of many common clubs and societies at uni. We are also executives for 2 certain societies, so I will inevitably see her board meeting and events... I don't know what to do... I don't think I will be able to face her... \n\nShould I skip out on these events and meetings? Should I attend? What do I do?!", "summary": "Girl dumped me 6 weeks ago and went overseas. She is back in the country and I will eventually cross paths with her at university for social clubs and societies executive duties. Should I avoid these meetings?"}
{"id": "t3_2vdl26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24/F) I hate losing arguments to my bf (27/m)", "post": "I just got into another heated petty argument with my bf of 3 years! He started telling our roommate a story about someone, I was sure he was thinking of something else, he stops dead in his tracks and tells me that that's not what happened. I said more details of what I remembered, he told me again that I was wrong and I should believe him because it's a story that happened to him. He said what he always does, \"why is it that when we disagree you assume I must be wrong? Why don't you ever consider that you could be wrong?\" \n\nBy that point I had realized it was possible I was wrong, but I absolutely did not want to concede that to him or offer him any slack. I don't get like this with everybody, but my bf and I both have this stupid trait of never backing down! And I hate admitting I'm wrong to him because I feel like he acts super smug and condescending, when I make a mistake he laughs at me in an \"oh, you\" sort of way that INFURIATES me. I know I overreact to this sort of thing but I don't know how to improve!", "summary": "I hate losing even tiny arguments to my BF because I feel like he thinks he's superior to me and it drives me crazy!"}
{"id": "t3_11a2l0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "20[M]. Cute girl in class. Not sure how to approach.", "post": "There is a really cute girl in one of my classes that I'd really like to ask out. There are a few problems though. I have a really good female friend in the class and we talk a lot and I always walk with her to her next class or whatever and she's completely unchill so if I tell her what's up (don't wait up I'm about to ask this girl out) she'll totally blow it. Also the one day I struck up the nerve to talk to her I discovered that every lecture when it's over she makes a beeline for the exit and disappears like a god damn ninja. All of the above are also, while true, excuses for the fact that I've never asked someone out cold before. I don't know how people can just walk up to someone they know nothing about except their name (or sometimes not even their name) and be like \"hey, let's go get lunch?\" The only way I've ever done this before is to just make small talk with them about something interesting in the class or something on their person and then at the end of the conversation see if they want to do something. I'd say that I should just take something from class that was interesting and say \"what do you think about X\" but it's like the most boring god damn class ever (professional writing).", "summary": "I'm having trouble asking a girl out for a bunch of reasons both practical and nerves related. How do I overcome these problems in 10 minutes because I have a class right after?"}
{"id": "t3_1cd83o", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Building a Base for Beginner Runner", "post": "I started getting into running about 3 and a half months ago and I have successfully completed the Couch to 5k plan (Mind you I'm still pretty slow, 30 min/5k).  I'm wondering where to go from here, I want to build up a decent running base so I can eventually get up to 10K or maybe even a half.  I liked the structure of C25K but now I feel kind of lost.  Some background: I just finished my college football career so I'm used to strength training but not so much running. I'm 6'6\", 292lbs (Down from an all-time high of 328lbs in September). My farthest run so far is 6.1km and my fastest 5k is 29:46.", "summary": "Big man wants advice on how to keep improving his running"}
{"id": "t3_nsjq0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can we stop with the wedding showers and start with the life showers?", "post": "So the whole point in wedding shower is to come together as a community and help a couple start their lives together. My question is why do we have to wait until we are getting married? My best guess is people (especially women) didn't start their own lives before marriage. But the world has changed! I've graduated college, am living on my own, and working. Life has already started for me. It would be really nice to have my friends and family help me to establish a nice place for myself. I am doing it on my own, and there is a lot of satisfaction in the independence of it. Still, it seems kind of unfair to have to wait until engagement for community support. Reddit parents who have a son or daughter who is becoming or recently financially independent, tell your friends and family to skip the wedding shower and throw them a life shower.", "summary": "Life starts before you get married. Lets come together and help people, rather than couples, start a nice life for themselves."}
{"id": "t3_38qfwi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making fun of a disabled person.", "post": "So this all transpired last night. I work at one of those \"paintertainment\" places. These are places where people go and take a class on how to do a specific painting, all while drinking alcoholic beverages. Now, most of the people who come to these things are around 50-65 years old. I like to mess around with the customers by saying things like \"young'n\" and stuff like that, it usually gets a laugh or two. Well, in this particular class, there was a group of middle-aged women painting; and in that group of women, there was a lady in a wheelchair. From the looks of it, she had been in said wheelchair for quite some time. The class goes really smoothly, and I have my charm factor turned all the way up. I'm cracking jokes towards people and they are absolutely loving it, I can almost taste the tip I'm about to receive. At the end of the night, we always take a group picture of the class and their paintings. Well thus class was pretty big so we were going to have to have a couple of rows to fit everyone in the frame. So eventually, after everyone makes their way outside, I just spew the biggest piece of word vomit of my life.. I say \"Alright, so we'll have to have a couple of rows, so let's have all of the able-bodied folks kneel down!\" The entire class went silent and I had realized what I had just said. I began hearing whispers coming from the group of middle-aged ladies and someone blurts out \"Is that supposed to be funny?\" I started proclaiming my innocence and apologizing, saying that's not how I meant it. Needless to say, there was no tip.. After everyone was about to start leaving I approached the lady in the wheelchair and apologized like there was no tomorrow. She was totally cool and we laughed about it. However, this will remain one of the most embarrassing and awkward moments of my entire life.", "summary": "told a lady in a wheelchair to kneel down for a group photo"}
{"id": "t3_2trspq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sexless marriage (28/F) and incredibly horny (36/M). Advice please.", "post": "I (36/M) have the sex drive of a rabbit.  I'm horny all the time.  For the last 2 years, my wife (28/F) has developed anxiety issues and also perceives our marriage as more of a friendship than lovers.  We have sex maybe once every 2 months, and even then, its not a good time.  Its like she feels like she's having to do it to make me happy and I just want her to want to have sex with me.  We get along in every day life and we hang out and whatnot, but intimacy has dwindled to almost zero.  She has pretty much checked out, sexually and has no desire to make things better in the bedroom.  I do not want to cheat on my wife, but I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.  Im incredibly horny every day, I dont want masturbate every day so I can function, and I really yearn to be intimate with a woman.  Like even kissing and making out and making love would be awesome.  What else is difficult is that I'm a fairly good-looking guy so getting women is not a problem.  I really just want to have sex with my wife, even 3 times a week would be great.  But she wants nothing to do with me and I've resorted to just watching porn and jerking off every day so I'm not an angry bear.  I really hate the state of our marriage and intimacy and want no one else other than my wife, but she literally has no sex drive and I dont want to feel like I'm making her do anything she doesn't want to do.  I kind of feel like she's not really contributing to this marriage, but I'd be an asshole if I went out and sought intimacy from another woman.  Any advice would be appreciated.  Thanks", "summary": "She's never horny, has no sex drive.  I'm always horny.  Dont wanna cheat, but its becoming more difficult not seek intimacy elsewhere."}
{"id": "t3_3apxgn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing for information", "post": "So this actually happened yesterday. I've been trying to figure out what to do. Still not sure but I figured it's worth a share.\n\nBackground:\nMe (25F) dating older male accountant (38M). Been dating for almost 2years. He's awesome. He has an 8yo daughter I haven't met and an ex wife. He's been through some troubles in the past so he lives w/ friends ATM while he fixes his finances. I'm the only one w/ a car so I drive us around but otherwise finances in the relationship are mostly split even between us as far as dates, etc. unless I want to do something I know he can't afford. He has his daughter 2 days a week and every other weekend so those nights we don't see each other. I still haven't met her.\n\n2wk ago I tried to surprise him by picking him up after work but I was running late and he'd already left for the day. Not a problem. Offered to pick him up a different day instead. He agreed but when the day came he said he took a half day and so he was already home again. I started getting uncomfortable and suspicious of things and started to press him by explaining that it seemed like something was off.\n\nPast 2 days kept pressing harder each time. Finally broke through.\n\nTurns out he hasn't had a permanent job since before he even met me. He does random day jobs and temp placements which is why he has money inconsistently. He also is 2 years behind on child support and hasn't seen his daughter in over a year. \n\nHis explanation is that when we first started dating he thought I wouldn't give him the time of day if he was unemployed and he also wasn't sure if we'd last any real length of time. Then he started liking me more and was hoping he'd find a good job so he could get back on his feet without me noticing. Then too much time had passed to tell me and he was afraid of ruining everything.", "summary": "I don't know what's real anymore"}
{"id": "t3_4dob51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [51F] with my daughter [19F] - daughter accused of plagiarism at university", "post": "My daughter has always been a good kid and a good student.   She's in first year university, and like many of us (myself included), she found it overwhelming.    She's been keeping up with the work and getting decent grades, but for a recent English essay, she googled other people's ideas and pulled a few sentences from their work.   Her prof found out, and now she's facing a disciplinary hearing.    She may \"just\" get an F on the essay, or she might fail the entire course.   She won't know until the hearing, which won't be for a couple of weeks.\n\nShe's freaking out, of course.   She's never faced anything like this before.  She's ashamed and frantic with worry.\n\nI guess I'd like to ask - has anyone here gone through something like this?   How can I help her?", "summary": "daughter plagiarized small part of university essay, will get a disciplinary hearing, and I'm wondering what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4g8wkd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my SO [25 M] of 3 years, quitting smoking", "post": "I have known my boyfriend for about 8 years, we have been together for 3. He has been smoking from about age 15.\n\nEven before we were together he has said that he want's to quit smoking. He has been doing this thing where he says he will quit tomorrow, or that he he has to finish the pack and then he will quit or similar. He says that at least once a week. Then he won't really try. He will get new cigarettes that same evening.\n\nI hate that he smokes, but I don't think I can really help with that. That is something he needs to do on his own.\n\nProblem is that I really dislike being in this limbo. I am the kind of person who likes everything to be clear. So this constant 'I'm quitting smoking, but not really' can get on my nerves. Most of the time I let it fly over my head, but sometimes it really annoys me. \n\nHow do I deal with this? Is there any way I can help him?", "summary": "BF want's to quit smoking and is not really trying, but constantly talks about it. It annoys me and I don't know how to deal with situation."}
{"id": "t3_20840i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] am so madly in love with my girlfriend [20 F] but I've just recently found that she doesn't feel as strong anymore.", "post": "Bit of a long read so get ready for this.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been dating for six months and even though it's had it's problems like every other relationship she makes me feel like the happiest man alive.\n\nBut she doesn't like me as much. She used to be crazy about me. And there are times where i'll still think she is only to get suddenly reminded that I put all of my time and effort only to get a half ass amount back.\n\nex: we went out to a play tonight and the whole time she was telling me about what we could do after the play and how we were going to hang out, but when we got back to the apartment she suddenly just wanted to go home instead. She NEVER used to do this. She'd be dying to spend the night all the time.\n\nI don't like her any less though. I really can't. When that shit happens I don't even get mad or upset with her. I just get mad at myself for feeling inadequate or that I can't keep her attention or affection. \n\nIt's both physically and mentally wearing to be madly in love with someone who used to be crazy about you but has suddenly shown loss of interest.\n\nI'm in a weird position because she KNOWS IT. She KNOWS that she doesn't like me as much because she tells, expecting it to not affect me. How would you feel if your girlfriend who you're so madly in love with told you that she didn't feel as strong about you anymore. You'd think she'd break up with you right? Well no, she says she's trying.\n\nI can't break up with her because I need her. No matter what she does to irritate me I could never leave her, and she says she could never leave me. She could cheat on me, I could find out, and I'd be too much of a pussy to leave her. That's how much I care about this woman. I need help. \n\nI just want my baby's full love and affection back", "summary": "I'm madly in love with my girlfriend who recently admitted to not feeling as strong about me anymore, but she won't leave me and there's no way in hell that I could ever leave her. No matter what she does to me. Help."}
{"id": "t3_ert84", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had to defend a friend from being called a negative nancy tonight when he was in a downswing in life. What is with people?", "post": "This irks me quite a bit regarding the nature of people. I understand that \"negativity\" can be inferred as a trait amongst certain types of people, however, how does it help the situation when the same person receives a barrage of name calling such as \"negative nancy\"? Shit, is it even a \"trait\" at all? Perhaps nobody has actually helped this person see the positive light of things since the beginning of the downswing in their life? Is it hard for people to be uplifting to others when they clearly know that this person is having a difficult time in their lives? Actually, you don't even need to know whether someone is having a downswing in their life. It's just downright rude to call someone \"negative\" straight to their face when you aren't even aware of what may actually be going on behind the scenes.", "summary": "Don't call someone, especially someone you don't even know, negative to their face. Things might really be in the gutter for them."}
{"id": "t3_3rdhd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My unconfrontational self [22 F] confronting my noisy upstairs neighbor [20ish M/F] who plays the drums.", "post": "This is not the traditional relationship, if there's a better place to post this, educate me.\n\nFirst, let me describe my relevant living situation. I live in student-style housing in the Netherlands. My room is located in a corridor that is locked by key on either side, which is relevant.\n\nSo, the issue:\n\nThe past couple of weeks, my upstairs neighbor has taken up drumming. Whether it is drumming on actual drums, tapping his desk, or an equivalent, I have no idea. I can, however, hear it. Is it in my right to do anything about this? They're in their own space, it is not an ungodly hour, but I don't want to be subjected to this! I am not a confrontational person, calm or otherwise. Things I have tried to send a message to my upstairs neighbor that their drumming is undesired:\n\n* Hitting my ceiling with a broom \n* Hitting my ceiling with my palm\n* Hitting my ceiling with a water bottle\n* Hitting my ceiling with a can of sausages\n\nUnfortunately, my revolutionary tactics have failed. This could be due a lack of fucks given, they're dumb shits who can't take a hint, or they can't hear my attempts to save my sanity. It has crossed my mind to go knock on their door, which scares the living shit out of me anyways. However, I can not. The only way I could go knock on their door is to get through their locked corridor door or ring their door bell. BUT, I don't know their room number. It a terribly designed building, so the numbers are not consistent from corridor to corridor.\n\nSo, c'mon reddit! Let's hear those creative ideas. How do I get my neighbor to shut the fuck up?", "summary": "My upstairs neighbor drums. I can hear it. I don't want to hear it. I am not confrontational. Canned sausages are not working. How do I get them to stop drumming?"}
{"id": "t3_2ov0pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to join a social group without getting hated [21 M]", "post": "So this has happened to me 4 times now and its starting to get frustrating. I am extremely passionate about learning mandarin and so I love talking to chinese people at my university. 4 times now I have meet a chinese girl or guy and they have invited me to join their social group however there always seems to be that 1 white british guy in the group who straight away seems to feel threated by me. All I want to do is speak chinese and make some friends. Being totally honest I can understand how they may feel threated because I speak pretty much fluent mandarin and all of them so far can say a few words and I'm not to bad looking. So far when I've joined these social groups the 1 guy has made a comment how I just want to sleep with the girls and that I'm a bad person and that they don't like me. All I've done at this point is said hello and talked to everyone.\nI have another social meeting tonight where I've been invitied by this girl I met. The only reason I'm going is to speak chinese. Nothing else. There will be a british white guy there again and I have a feeling the same thing is going to happen again. Is there anything I can do to make the guy feel less threated? My personality is very extrovert so maybe they don't like that.", "summary": "Join chinese social groups with 1 white guy init and they always feel threated by me and hate me straight away"}
{"id": "t3_3xcx24", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when my crush said \"first date this girl, then I'll date you\"", "post": "November 2006- High School Sophomore\n\nI was in love with a cute, chubby-cheeked Filipino girl named Katie. But her drama friend Jenna, a freshman in high school and \"promising\" high school actress, had apparently decided I was the love of her life in the way only high school freshman girls who have never had their heart broken can. I asked Katie out in an indirect way and she told me, to my understanding \"First date Jenna, then you can date me\".\n\nIt takes a really stupid kid not to see that disaster coming. \n\nI asked Jenna out the next day during the movie ice age, using a perfect setup from the weasely dude. I got her first kiss and would sing her that Gnarles song \"crazy about You\" or something. I brought her a single tulip every day of the week leading up to her birthday, then on her birthday an entire bouquet. She was a really sweet girl but after 3 weeks I broke up with her for as many good reasons as I started dating her. Jenna ran away from home, I apparently traumatized her little 5yr old sister who had started saying she wanted to marry me too, and Katie wanted nothing to do with me.\n\nI always wonder if I heard Katie correctly when she said first her, then me.", "summary": "My highschool crush told me to date her hopelessly dramatic friend first if I wanted to date her. "}
{"id": "t3_34crov", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a rebel on the subway", "post": "Well let's start out with the obligatory, this didn't happen today... (It actually did happen today) \n\nSo today started out like any other day, I wake up get ready for class and get on the subway. As the door began to close, I leaned back on the door even though the sign clearly says not to. (But I'm such a bad ass so I lean anyways) I can go my entire train ride leaning on that door because none of the coming stops open use that side of the train. \n\nWhen my stop comes, I go to take that first step forward and quickly get yanked back. I turn around thinking someone was holding on to me. Nope. The strap on my book bag was caught between the door. \n\nI had to miss my stop. Got to school late only to find out that my professor had given the one \npop quiz he had warned us about since the start of the semester. :/", "summary": "didn't listen to the sign and missed a quiz at school"}
{"id": "t3_31kk36", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing in a bottle", "post": "TIFU \n\nSo last night I got in late from a night of hanging out with the buddies and seeing Furious 7 and drinking. So by time I get home I'm totally wasted and all I want to do is sleep. Problem is, I can't really sleep without pissing and I didn't feel like getting up and walking up the stairs to the bathroom. Luckily for me there's an empty brisk bottle on my nightstand so a grab it, whip the willy out and let it rip. For some dumb reason I roll it under my bed as I didn't feel like getting up to throw it away either. \n\nFast forward to this morning I wake up having to piss again, so I let it rip in there again, this time stashing the now half full bottle in my closet on top of a shelf behind some old clothes. \n\nNow here's where the fu begins, most of my siblings and family friends are in my room smoking weed and playing the xbox with me, my sister then enters (something she usually doesn't do unless someone's smoking) and sits on my bed by the closet door. Now I guess curiosity takes over and she decides to take a peek in my closet. My eyes immediately dart over into that direction and my heart starts racing. I get up and asks if she's looking for something. She's says no and goes rummaging around where the bottle is. I didn't want to look like i was hiding something so I just nervously looked on until she got done. Well, luck wasn't on my  side because she finds it and freaks out in front of everyone. I pull a quick lie out of my ass to save my self and said that i was using it just in case someone needed it. (My siblings that smoke weed usually come to me for my urine.) I truly don't think anyone bought it and probably think I'm a weirdo now.", "summary": "Laziness caused me to piss in 1 liter bottle, sister finds it after I fail to dispose of it"}
{"id": "t3_36oxxj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (16/f) really scared for my current girlfriend (16/f) who likes older guys", "post": "first time using reddit guys; wish me luck. anyways, i'm terrified, and i'd like your help. my current (and first) girlfriend who is bisexual   says that she'd be fine with dating guys that 20-27. She's dated this drug dealer in the past when she was younger, and it didn't go well. she says she can handle it, and sometimes she said after we break up she won't date guys that old, but for some reason i don't believe her. She's also depressed and has been clean from smoking and other drugs since we dated, but I'm pretty sure she'd go back into that if she dated guys older than her. To be honest, I'm terrified. I really just want her to be happy and safe, but I feel like she wouldn't be. She always points out 20 year old guys that are hot to me. It's kind of worrying. Is there any way I can convince her not to be with older guys who I know would treat her like shit?", "summary": "my girlfriend likes older guys and i know they'd treat her terribly. any way i can convince her to date people her own age?"}
{"id": "t3_3d4ozh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ___ [18 F] almost 10 months, went from the best to the worst.", "post": "Hello, I need some advice. My (ex)girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months today. Recently I thought I was going to have to move, a far distance, so that popped the question \"What happens with US?\" so we had a long talk about and we both agreed to an open relationship. About a week ago we were talking about it again (over skype) and she said she wanted to be in a title-less relationship. Last night I was talking to my cousin about life and she had asked if me and E were still dating, so I asked E if we were, her response was \"No?\" implying I should have known that we were over, even thought was never told. I still love her and she loves me (supposedly) but not \"sexually\" as she put it. She often reinforced the idea of being to together for a long time, she also mentioned we may get together again.\nWhat should I do? How can I try to get back with her? She ***was*** the most supportive and loving person in my life. \n\nContext:\nWe're both in high school, we have nearly identical interests and dislikes, and we never had any rough spots.", "summary": "Got lead on for 10 months then dumped, because she wanted to be \"free\""}
{"id": "t3_cu72q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Small Business Dreamer Needs Advice", "post": "After years of growing tired of and having my soul crushed by office busy-work, I'm realizing it's time to become serious about opening my own small business. I've always enjoyed retail, and having a small store that's my very own would certainly be a dream come true. Specifically, I'm aiming to open a comic/gaming store within 5 years from now, less if possible.\n\nI imagine some Redditors have experience opening small businesses from scratch, perhaps even a store similar to what I have in mind. I've already got two partners committed to investing and helping to open and run the store, and together we've about 8k saved up, each of us with decent credit ratings. I'd love some advice on what steps need to be taken so that this can become a reality. I've scoured the internet for solid advice, but I know Reddit can beat the internet out every time. \n\nAlso, in the meantime, would it be worthwhile to quit my current office job and get a job working at an existing comic/gaming store to learn how that world works? I'd probably be cutting my salary in half, at least, which would severely hinder what savings I could be building up, but I imagine that experience might be invaluable. Thanks, Reddit!", "summary": "TITLE + it's a comic shop"}
{"id": "t3_556m6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] have literally no idea how to date.", "post": "So, I've only ever \"dated\" once, and I use that term very loosely. When I was 17 I asked a girl I liked on a few dates and wound up taking her to prom, but she broke up with me because things were too awkward (neither of us had dated before), but I feel like it was my fault because I had no idea how to flirt or initiate anything. Now I'm in my second year at college and I really want a relationship, but I don't even know how to find a girl to date (the one girl I have a crush on has a boyfriend, and even if she didn't I wouldn't want to make things awkward between us like I did with the girl in high school). I've considered dating apps, but I feel like my utter lack of experience dating would just make everything turn out poorly. I'm also not really the party type, so I'm not always meeting new people. I still don't know how to flirt, I've never kissed a girl, and sometimes I just wish that girls were the ones that are \"supposed\" to ask out guys and initiate everything...", "summary": "Want a girlfriend, no idea how to find one, ask anyone out, or actually date. Help please."}
{"id": "t3_4s0r8r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I could outsmart a spider", "post": "So this morning I headed into the bathroom for my shower. But a while after showering once I noticed a largish spider- one of the really hairy ones- on the ceiling of my shower. \nThought one: I should get that muthafucka\nThought two: how?\nSo my inner Buddhist didn't appear today: I decided to catch it and squish it. So I placed a stool in the shower, closed the glass shower doors, got my cup ready, I got my paper ready...\nThree, two one...\nI caught that spider with the cup and jammed the toilet paper over it, still standing on the stool and peered at my hard work. Idiot me hadn't covered the cup fully so I was just about to shut it with the toilet paper when it creeped out onto the wad of paper in my hand. So I shrieked as if the four horsemen of apocalypse had arrived, throwing the paper with the spider to the floor of the shower. In doing so I also leant backwards, and fell of the stool into the wall back first. RIGHT NEXT TO THE DAMN SPIDER. I screamed again, rushing out of the bathroom like hell before tripping over a pile of laundry in my bedroom (I have an ensuite bathroom). The next time I went near the shower I downed the bastard with cold water into the drain, ending the whole ordeal.", "summary": "tried to catch spider in the shower, it crawled onto me and I fell backwards, getting mild concussion."}
{"id": "t3_3jkrii", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [26F] bf's [27M] best friend [27M] is selfish and takes advantage of him and doesn't appreciate anything we do.", "post": "My boyfriend's best friend of over 10 years is a selfish, center of attention type person. He always needs to be in the spotlight and leeches off of my boyfriend and I. My bf doesn't have a job while he does. He asks for rides to the gym, when we're going for lunch, dinner, rock climbing, etc, uses my bf's netflix account (and asks us to get off when netflix doesn't let him on so he can watch a show with a girl he is currently dating at the time). My bf would lend his bed to him for a night and his friend would have sex in it with his gf (at the time). He complains about how expensive rent/gas is for him yet goes to bars, takes girls out on dinner dates, etc. and it comes across as it justifies him to leech from us.\n\nIt was his birthday a couple of months ago and we were moving out the next day. We still weren't fully packed for the next morning, but all he wanted to do is hang out with my bf. He came over for dinner (which we made), talked about the girls he was dating and didn't care for things I had to say. He rushed my boyfriend to pack a couple of things then they left to go back to his place while I stayed behind to pack up the rest of the night. We still weren't ready for the next morning. He really should've just come by and helped us pack since my bf helped him unpack when he moved.\n\nOf all the things that I have done for him, he has never tried to return the favour or done anything to show how appreciative he is. He's that guy who comes by, steals your wifi, your food, your netflix, and peaces out once he gets what he has because he doesn't want to spend a dime himself.\n\nI really don't know how to express this to my bf, especially since he says he doesn't mind his friend's behavior. I don't need my bf to stop seeing his best friend, but maybe try to influence him to treat people better.", "summary": "Bf's friend is a leech and doesn't care about anyone else but himself. It's causing a dilemma for me because it's his best friend."}
{"id": "t3_1xfoex", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying off credit cards - please critique (UK)", "post": "Going to try keep this short. I am in the UK and have \u00a35000 outstanding on 5 credit cards from \u00a3500 to \u00a31500 with interest ranging from 15% to 34%.\n\nI am paying minimums on each card (total payments \u00a3146 a month) which sees the overall outstanding each month come down \u00a345 after my interest of \u00a3101.\n\nMy current plan is to focus on paying these off starting with the highest interest card and working down. I will be making payments of every spare penny I have, but I'm also trying to figure out if there's a smarter way to utilise the credit I have (that \u00a345) while paying down each card.\n\nMy question is after each statement, should I spend the outstanding credit in each card on my grocery or fuel budget and put that money towards the highest interest card, or just leave them slowly coming down until it's their turn to get attacked?\n\nFor example (rough numbers), on my \u00a31500 card, I pay \u00a337 a month, and the interest is \u00a323, leaving \u00a314 credit remaining after my statement. Should I make a purchase against this card each month and pay that \u00a314 towards the highest interest card since \u00a314 at 15% will cost half what it will at 33% and every penny saved is a penny earned?\n\nLast time I asked a question on here all I got was a number of lectures telling me how dumb I've been to get myself in this situation etc etc without answering my question - please just respond to the specific question and assume I know how dumb I am and how much trouble I am in with debt.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "when I pay off my credit cards each month, should I put all remaining credit towards my highest interest card?"}
{"id": "t3_uqmpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband is disabled and we can't have a normal husband-wife relationship.  Would it be acceptable for me to find someone on the side?", "post": "Basically I'm lonely and missing affection and sex.  \n\nBecause of his condition and the meds he's on, he sleeps a lot of the time and also has a lowered sex drive and difficulty staying hard.  He also isn't that touchy-feely and only gives me hugs or kisses if I ask.  \n\nI love my him and I'm committed to taking care of him like I know he'd take care of me if our situations were reversed, but it's wearing not getting my needs met.  I miss having a man pay attention to me as a woman.  I don't feel comfortable asking him if it'd be ok with him, because he'd be devastated, and I don't want to hurt him or having him visualizing it.  \n\nAm I a piece of shit for considering this?", "summary": "husband disabled, I'm lonely and want to have a male friend-with-benefits."}
{"id": "t3_3h9931", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Race Report: First Marathon!", "post": "Hey /R/unnit,\n\nJust wanted to follow up and post a race report for the Yellowknife Overlander Marathon (which was my first ever marathon) that I finished today!\n\nAfter running my first half 6 weeks ago and getting 3 weeks of training before my taper I was woefully underprepared but I set out only to finish. My final time was 4 hours and 20 something minutes, I sadly was so caught up in the moment that I didn't take a look at the clock but I will get my results in the next week.\n\nI woke up at 5 AM today and had my usual long run breakfast of a bagel + energy drink. The weather was between 10-20 celsius, gradually warming up as the time ticked on, but very bearable with the overcast and wind. \n\nMiles 1-13: Fairly uneventful and basically was just warming up at a 10 minute pace or slower, minor irritants like my foot getting a pinch on every step (nothing painful I could just feel it) and my stomach being grumbly.\n\nMIles 13-20: At this point I was starting to feel a bit of fatigue as the miles started to pile on. Around mile 13.5 I got a major cramp in my foot and I had to retie my shoe way tighter which alleviated the issue for the most part. At mile 16 I had to use the washroom really bad and was lucky to snag a toilet out on the route (these were spread out very few and far between) which saved my ass when I felt I was going to burst.\n\n20-24: At this point I felt I had good energy but the wear and tear on my muscles was reaching new levels. Hips, my left knee, my feet, my nips, hamstring were all seizing up and it was some of the most mentally challenging parts of the race.  \n\n24-26: Flat ground and smooth sailing, I was sort of hobbling to make it back but I never walked once! \n\npost 26: I am in bed and everything hurts, theres nothing that isn't aching and I want ice cream...", "summary": "Woefully underprepared for a race, worked my ass off and finished in a better time than I had expected, feel great (except my entire body is aching) and I am totally doing a second."}
{"id": "t3_1h4s51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fiance [30/M] freaks out a month before wedding, I [23/f] called it off, & Now he wants to start planning again.", "post": "We have been together 5 years, engaged for 1 1/2.  We were suppose to be married in April. I was so excited planning everything and finally set the date and booked the place. The night before I was suppose to get my dress, my fiance was out of town on business. \n\nHe called frazzled, and said he was really unsure of us getting married and if it'd work out or not. He knew he loved me, but there was so much other stuff to think about. He wasn't sure if we were compatible and was scared. He just kept saying he wanted me to know everything he was feeling and to be completely honest with me. \n\nHe was gone for 4 days, and I was with my mom out of town. I decided not to buy a dress because I was just too distraught about it. I got back home and so did he and we talked and he apologized and said he just freaked out and it had to just be cold feet. \n\nThen two days later. same thing. Hes back to feeling unsure and said he was just so happy to see me after being away that he wasn't thinking clearly. We had a long conversation in person and he just kept over analyzing every little detail about our life and focusing on all these negative things. I told him to stop focusing on bad and look at the good too. We have an amazing relationship. We don't always agree on everything or have the same hobbies but we enjoy each others company, have similar life goals, etc. We have never had any real problems.\n\nI called off the wedding, stopped planning, and we have been working on our relationship for about 4 months.  But now, he keeps asking me when we are gonna start planning again and I am so not ready to even think about it.  I was so confident in our relationship and ready to get married, and now I just am so unsure of it. He planted all these doubts in my head, and I don't know what to do or how to feel.\nHelp!", "summary": "Boyfriend of 3 1/2 yrs, fiance of 1 1/2, freaks out/feels unsure 1 month before wedding, and I called it off. Now 4 months later, hes ready to start planning again, and I am not."}
{"id": "t3_ehstm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just broke up with ANOTHER girl... Am I a sociopath or something???", "post": "Hi Reddit, I feel like a jerk.  I'm 23 and just broke up with another girlfriend.  We were going out for ~ 6 months.  Basically she had 80-90% of what i look for but a big issue was that she wasn't opening up and made it hard to build a deep emotional connection with her.  I had brought it up to her before, and given her time, but it just isn't something that i can do without in a relationship, so i ended it (even though i have feelings for her still) ... She said i blindsided her, and was basically devestated.\n\nThis seems to be the same story with every girl i date.  I break up with them because i no longer see a future with the relationship.  They're always crushed.  I always feel bad for hurting their feelings, but not about ending the relationship.\n\nI've never been dumped, and am beginning to think that maybe somethings wrong with me for leaving this wake of emotional destruction with any long term relationship i have :(", "summary": "Im always the one who breaks off the realtionship.  And am beginning to think that somethings wrong with me for never really falling for girls the way they seem to be falling for me."}
{"id": "t3_4ya3xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I (25f) if my roommate (23f) does not pay me the money she owes me tomorrow?", "post": "Forgive the formatting; I'm on mobile \n\nI wrote a detailed story but pressed the back button before I could submit (sob). Essentially I lent my roommate money to help her after she had some money stolen and then sold her a Lollapalooza ticket at a discounted price which we agreed upon installments. Since then, shes been dragging her feet, avoiding me, paying in smaller increments than agreed on. \n\nCurrently I'm laying in bed listening to her tell my other roommate about all the stuff she bought today and what else she's planning on buying. I'm worried that tomorrow she will tell me that she doesn't have the money. This has been stressful and reminds me why I never lend anyone money and never will in the future.  She is still talking about what she was going to buy today and is planning on buying with the paycheck she got today. I did come out earlier to remind her of the money tomorrow. I should have just asked for it today.\n\nI'm not sure if I'll be able to keep my cool tomorrow if she stiffs me again. What should I do if she doesn't have the money for me tomorrow?", "summary": "What course of action should I take if my roommate stiffs me again?"}
{"id": "t3_1rv1wy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I tell my girlfriend that she shouldn't expect her grandma to last much longer? Without sounding like an asshole", "post": "So her grandmother's been admitted to the hospital a few months ago, and recently she's been getting worse. In the past month she got two heart attacks, three seizures and apparently even was brain dead for 5 minutes.  \nIn all of this I try, to console my girlfriend as much as I can and be there for her, but she keeps saying stuff like \"I really hope she'll get better soon\" and whatnot. She makes it sound like she just caught the common cold and has a weak immune system, while in reality it's a 80-something year old lady barely getting two words out living her last days.  \nAny advice on how I should go about this?", "summary": "girlfriend's grandma is dying and girlfriend just doesn't wanna get it, how to break it to her?"}
{"id": "t3_e6e2g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "MySpace won't let me leave.", "post": "MySpace won't let me delete my account!\nI can't delete it because I can't log in.\nI can't log in because I don't remember the password.\nI can't reset the password because their password reset system results in an error page every single time.\n\nI haven't used the site in about 3 years. I don't want my information on it anymore because of that fact. I've contacted customer service twice and all I've gotten in response is two surveys asking me why I'm leaving (the page still exists) and how my customer service experience was (terrible).\n\nOh yeah, the email address it's linked to is my university email, which is being deleted in 2 days because I graduated. After that I will have a myspace with no login OR password. What can I do?", "summary": "MySpace knows it's going down and is taking me with it."}
{"id": "t3_4tg8rm", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "24M I Want to Move to A Mountain for a Season and Work a Job that Will Not Contribute to My Career at All. Is this Stupid?", "post": "I Graduated from school in 2014 and have been working an IT consulting job since then. Recently, I've gotten out of a very serious relationship and have a lot more freedom. \n\nWith that in mind, the idea has come across to finally move to a mountain town for a season and work a job that wouldn't be brought home with me. I'd be doing this move not only to travel to a mountain town/snowboard for a season like I've always wanted to, but I would also be using it to overcome my social anxiety. \n\nI'm Currently working in IT, I only interact with 4 or 5 individuals daily and most of the time it is via messenger. This leads to basic social interaction borderline becoming an ordeal. One piece of advice I've read is to work a job where you're in constant interaction with new individuals and I figured working a ticket agent/Hotel front desk role would be perfect for this. That, and I would try to join as many snowboard groups as possible.", "summary": "I want to move to a mountain town for a season to snowboard and overcome Social Anxiety. Is this career suicide?"}
{"id": "t3_44peap", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] need help understanding what to say to GF[16F] or what to do to make things better after depression.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 7 months now and things have been great but in the past month now things have gotten sour. She has said that I'm manipulating her when I don't think I am. Mr and her talked that through and said that we want our relationship to work. But she has said that she wants space because she says she has lost herself completely. I have very bad depression and at times I would get upset with her for no reason and I've been trying to fix that about myself. She keeps saying that the only way things will work is if I get better and not to worry about our relationship.\n\n But it hurts me evreyday now because I'll see her at school and I can't talk to her because she thinks we should only text until she is ready but it's making me worse because I feel like I've lost her and I don't know what is gonna happen. I just wanna know what to do or say. I've tried and it keeps going back to me getting better but I can't with her being on my mind a ton and not being able to do anything about it.", "summary": "Girlfriend says thst the only way that we will be okay is if I get over my depression and get better but I can't because she says she wants space and we can only text and our relationship is getting bad. Need help"}
{"id": "t3_33tj4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23f) boyfriend (26m) doesn't seem to see my point of view when I am upset about something.", "post": "I'm starting to feel like he'd just rather me shut up and be happy and horny all the time, because every time I say anything negative (which is completely natural), he says stuff like \"Just don't think about that\", or if I am frustrated about work he'll say \"Are you there now?\" and he claims he's trying to help but lately I feel like he just doesn't want to listen.\n\nYesterday I was telling him a funny story from work and he got up and started doing something. I told him I would finish the story later and he said he was still listening but I wanted to say it later. When he sat back down he didn't seem to remember I had anything to say so I just didn't finish the story. Later I told him I was upset he had walked away while I was talking but he said that it was my fault because he was listening and I was the one who stopped telling the story. But I don't have much reason to think he would have been interested because he zones out a lot when I talk or says I just shouldn't be thinking about what is concerning me. Meanwhile I listen to him talk all the time about his work and his friends and what's going on in his life. But when I have something to talk about I just go to my other friends because he doesn't seem interested in what I have to say.", "summary": "boyfriend don't listen to me"}
{"id": "t3_khcrm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Calories burnt from weightlifting?", "post": "Hey loseit!\n\nI'm starting Stronglifts tomorrow which is the 5x5 weight lifting program that a lot of people seem to do around here. I use calorie counting on myfitnesspal and usually eat back some of my exercise calories. The only entry they have for any sort of weightlifting is \"strength training\" which burns around 283 calories/hour for my height/weight. Do you guys think this is a good estimate to go off of? I've looked it up on some other sites and it's all over the place. I don't want to overestimate, but I also do want to eat back some of my calories, so I don't get too tired and my muscles have enough fuel to rebuild and repair.", "summary": "For the calories counters out there, how do you guys calculate calories burned from weight lifting?"}
{"id": "t3_4omszz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F], question about wedding expenses after death of mom[64/F]. Sister [30/f] is getting married soon and we don't know what is asking too much of my Dad", "post": "Hey everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. First time posting on reddit at all actually. I'm posting on my sister's behalf really because she doesn't really get this site. \n\nLong story short, my sister and I have a wonderful relationship with our parents. Very healthy, very loving. Unfortunately, my mom passed away very suddenly a couple of months ago which has hit my family really hard. Not to get into it, it was very unexpected and completely devastating.  My parents were married for 43 years, and were such a role model for my sister and I. My dad is struggling, we all are, but we try and support each other. \n\nMy sister has recently become engaged...she and her fiance are both employed. He is making pretty good money and my sister is doing okay. Not terrible. \n\nAnyway, my parents had retired and were living pretty well off of their pensions. I know they have investments, but I don't know the extent. I obviously didn't really inquire too much about their business.  With the death of my mom, my sister and I worry about my Dad's finances. My mom's retirement and pension was a lot more than my dad's, so we know he took a hit financially. My Dad is a wonderful man, and would pay for the whole thing if he could, but my sister is anxious about asking too much of him. She's stuck because she knows if she doesn't let him pay for anything it'll hurt his feelings but she also doesn't want him paying for too much. \n\nI guess we're just not sure how to approach this. What is normal for parents of the bride to pay for? I was thinking he could help with the venue and her dress but I have no idea. And how do we let him help but not let him give too much?? I'm the maid of honor for my sister, and I'm trying to plan with her, but I'm completely at a loss and any input would be greatly appreciated. I don't know if I gave enough info, I'm pretty scattered. If you have questions I'll be happy to answer.", "summary": "My mom passed away suddenly, dad took a financial hit. Don't know what is expected at this point in regards to wedding planning."}
{"id": "t3_2a0toy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with a girl I met [16 F]. Need some advice.", "post": "So, Im a lifeguard at my local swim club, and as I was at the diving boards, a very pretty girl approached me and we began talking about how she wanted to become a lifeguard. Well, after we hit it off for a little while, I had to move onto the next station. I thought nothing of it at the time, but about an hour later, I realized that she was probablyflirting with me.\n\nSo, through the rest of the day, she would be constantly looking up at me, and her friends and her would occationally whisper to eachother, look at me, and giggle (she was hanging around with a younger group).\n\nMy problem is, I only know a shortened version of her first name, and im pretty sure that she was only a guest at the swim club. Im not positive, but im relatively sure. I know that her friend, however, goes there frequently, though she only sems to be about 14, and it would be kinda weird to ask her for her friend's number.\n\nSo my question is, how exactly should i approach this? I really want to talk with her again, but im not exactly sure about how to do so. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "met a girl, hit it off, most likely wont see her again."}
{"id": "t3_13bx9k", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "So my last day of internships came to a close...", "post": "I had just been on my last rotation of pharmacy internships where I go to various places to basically work for free. Usually everyone that I've ever worked with is very understanding of the position the student interns are in and gives us a bit of a break but still has us work to gain some experience. They also usually don't make us work the entire 8 hour day and let us out early. \n\nOn my very last rotation which ended today, my preceptor was just a stuck up B. She made me stay the whole 8 hours to the point that I had to have a sign out sheet that a different pharmacist had to sign when I went to go home because, you guessed it, she goes home earlier than I do, about 3 hours. Beyond that, she basically had me do repetitive tech work where I basically replaced a paid worker. She would actually intentionally understaff because she knew I would be there to pick up the slack. That is never supposed to happen and we were always told that we are there to help out the pharmacy, not act as a replacement.\n\nI was late ONCE because of a traffic accident on the highway and she gave me a whole spiel about how I needed to be professional and leave early to make time. It usually takes me 35-40 minutes to get there and that day it took me about an hour and a half and I was only 15 minutes late.\n\nSo today I exacted my petty revenge. I went in her office where I kept my jacket and paperwork and jammed up her stapler and taking out the rest of her staples out of it. I also took her pens and placed them in her coworker's desk.", "summary": "My preceptor exploited my free labor so I jammed up her stapler and hid her pens."}
{"id": "t3_12e6jv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Would like some advice...", "post": "So I have been dating this girl for 4 years and I proposed to her this past winter. We set our wedding off a couple years for sake of money and the such. I really do love her and I know she loves me too. We only see each other a couple times a week due to school and work. I can't text when I am at work and I mainly sleep during the day. I am pursuing a career that I love and she is going to school for something she seems to love. Her work schedule will be completely opposite mine once she gets a job. I am being told I should leave my job to accomadate hers or leave my job and move to where ever she finds a job. I love my job and everyone I work with and leaving them at this time (was just promoted to a full manager) would be a very bad move on my career, i would have to start at the bottom tier again. Also I feel there should be more sex in the relationship, happens maybe once every couple weeks if that and I masturbate usually twice a day. I've been having a lot of full sex dreams too. And there's now recently a fight usually once a week, mainly about how little we see eachother or talk. The last one was last night and she text me while I was at work telling me, \"It would be nice to talk to you today but I guess other things are more important. I'm going to bed\" It pissed me off so much! She knows I'm at work! I just don't know what to do, Taking the ring back has crossed my mind multiple times. I'm at a breaking point and needed to ask someone, so I came to you Reddit. Help me. please.", "summary": "Having troubles with fiance and don't know what to do with our relationship, should I leave her?"}
{"id": "t3_3k0ggp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] like 2 guys (34/M) and (27/M). Who should I pick?", "post": "I like both of these guys but I know I'm going to have to commit to one. \n\nGUY A\n\n34 years old, has a child from a previous marriage who stays with him twice a week.\nVery handsome with an average body.\nNot very sexual, sometimes doesn't get an erection when we are fooling around.\nWould stay friends with me if i pick guy B.\nPuts me first and makes me a priority, willing to spend most of his time with me.\nGood job, nice house and looks after me and buys me things.\nGets moody sometimes and is passive aggressive\nVery secure, never gets jealous.\nMy sister doesn't like him.\nSometimes he calls me immature and gets annoyed if i do certain things.\n\nGUY B\n\n27 years old, been single for 3 years and has no kids.\nAverage face with hot body.\nVery attracted to me, very affectionate.\nWould probably stop talking to me if i pick guy A.\nSpends lots of time with friends, doing hobbies, says he would never revolve his life around a girl.\nHas a retail job, a small apartment and rarely buys me things.\nGets mad if i flirt with other people.\nI can be myself 100% around him. \n\nWho would you pick if you had to choose one? Please don't say stay single as I really want to be in a relationship and both guys would make a good boyfriend.", "summary": "I like 2 guys but am struggling to decide who to choose, please help!"}
{"id": "t3_178dz9", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Asshat treats me like dirt? Hope he enjoys his face being frozen.", "post": "For context, there is a guy (who shall henceforth be known as Asshat) who treats me like dirt, as the title mentions. We're both in high school in the same music department, and many of the same ensembles. This guy loathes me because I outperform him and more people enjoy me than him, so he tries to make up for it. The most recent events are at a state festival, which is really hard to get into. He decides to badmouth me regularly (which isn't a big deal in itself, but it is high school). I don't particularly care until he decides to badmouth my friends. Now, being a student musician, my friends are a bit different (not very cool, yet very awesome after you get to know them). Being some of the only people from our school, we kinda have to be around each other. He began by simply insulting everything about them until I leave. This doesn't bother me as much as he'd like because people have picked on my friends and I for years and years. On the last day of the festival, during the dress rehearsal of another group, Asshat starts throwing things at me. I'm sitting alone a few rows in front of his group of friends and he just starts throwing random things at me. I'm about to make a scene so I leave. I then waited three weeks to get my revenge. On this particular day, Asshat forgot his trumpet at school before an orchestra rehearsal and needed me to get it. There were witnesses so I couldn't leave it and say that I didn't know. I got his trumpet and put it in my car. Now his part of the rehearsal didn't start for another three hours, and I wasn't about to deliver it to him. I left his instrument in the trunk of my car during that time, and this was on a day when the highest temperature was 10 degrees Fahrenheit. By  the time he got his trumpet right before rehearsal, the metal was the same temperature as the outside and the valves has temporarily frozen stiff (this would require about ten minutes of breathing on them heavily to thaw). He was terribly out of tune and had to place a freezing mouthpiece on his face. That day was a day of victory.", "summary": "Guy was a complete asshat at a jazz festival, so I froze his trumpet for him."}
{"id": "t3_2lvve4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am invited to Thanksgiving dinner after my parents disowned me over a year ago.", "post": "This is a terribly long story, so I'll try to shorten it and will add follow-up information if needed.\n\nTo start, my parents disowned me at 18 due to religious reasons and the fact that they didn't like my boyfriend (this is the part of the story I'm shortening). They told me to go pack my things, neither me or my boyfriend were ever allowed there, and that I wouldn't be able to talk to my younger siblings until they were 18. At the time my sister was 16 and little brother was 13. \n\nI have since seen my younger siblings a few times, but only while my older sister and/or mother was there. I've emailed my mother a few times and though things aren't peachy, they are certainly better than they once were. If it weren't for my siblings though, I wouldn't speak to her at all. \n\nHer and (more so) my father have been emotionally and verbally abuse to me and the rest of my siblings for as long as I can remember. I no longer have a desire to fix the relationship I have with them, because I have tried many times and it's at the point where I have to stop subjecting myself to the hurt they spread. \n\nI got an email from my mother yesterday asking if I wanted to come to Thanksgiving dinner and I have no idea if I should go. I want to go for my younger siblings, because I love them and love when I do get to see them. However, I don't want my parents to think they are allowed to pretend like nothing has happened and that they've been good parents (they still refuse that they've ever been anything but good parents or see how they've done anything wrong). I also don't want to give them the wrong idea that there's a salvageable relationship between us. \n\nShould I go? Any and all advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "My parents who disowned me want me to come to Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure if I should go or not. "}
{"id": "t3_wx3g6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, is finance a pseudoscience?", "post": "Through my studies (bachelors), I have become more and more disturbed about the \"scientific\" nature of finance. \n\nQuick, what percentage of mutual funds \"beat the market\", i.e. perform better than the index? Studies generally find the number to be between 20 to 30 percent, but in 2011 the number went down to 14%. If these people are so armed with expertise and knowledge, why do people who don't understand anything about financial theory get more just by passively investing in an index fund? If anything, financial \"knowledge\" seems to do more harm than good.\n\nWhen looking at the stuff they teach in universities, you have to wonder how they keep on believing these theories despite the mountain of counterevidence. Stocks are assumed to generate returns relative to risk, quantified as beta in CAPM. Yet, beta has had almost zero correlation with stock returns starting in 1982. If you look at the studies that confirm beta's predictive power, they all used data from the 1970s. But people still use beta to create portfolios.\n\nHow about efficient market theory? Under the theory, stock bubbles should not exist since everythingn is properly priced. But they do exist. Instagram valued at 1 billion despite having no revenue? Definitely properly priced.\n\nEven option pricing models are ridiculous. One model assumes that you can borrow money at the risk-free rate and stocks only generate risk-free rate returns. The black-scholes model also assumes that risk is normally distributed, without looking at historical data, leading to black and scholes' own bankruptcy. \n\nWanna know how we price stocks? We pull magic numbers out of our asses and make it interact with other equally bullshit number to come up with an arbitrary value. Then we try to convince other people that our bullshit is, in fact, legit. The only way stock valuation models are accurate is if stock analysts are clairvoyant and can see 10 years into the future. But even then the analyst won't have to calculate anything and just tell us the stock price.", "summary": "Financial theories need supernatural clairvoyance and are based on arbitrary assumptions that ignore real world and data. Monkeys throwing darts at random perform better than financial experts when it comes to stocks."}
{"id": "t3_2ark6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my BF [40 M] of 2 months, his ex is still living with him - should I be concerned?", "post": "We have known each other for a year and have 'officially' been in a relationship for 2 months. He has been very kind to me and I respect him a great deal, we do love one another despite the large age disparity.\n\nHis circumstances are far from ideal though, from what I have gathered - he and his ex partner were together for close to a decade and they have lived together in his house for some time. \n\nThey are separated but she is still yet to move out, my BF has told me that the ex is looking to purchase a house to move into and so it is taking some time. I can understand this as the market to buy here is difficult on a single income.\n\nSo far we have been spending time together at his other properties and while I trust him, I can't help but feel uncomfortable with the idea that other nights of the week he is staying in the same house as her (he says separate rooms), as it is closest to work for him. \n\nI am getting mixed opinions from my friends-\nSome say that this is something I should be concerned about as it is disrespectful towards me and the ex should really move out to rent / stay at parents in the mean time instead.\n\nI initially figured that one of the attributes I love about my BF is his goodwill and it would be unlike him to demand for her to move out ASAP. --- is it silly for me to think this way?...\n\nHas anyone been in this situation before?", "summary": "BF's ex still lives in the house he owns, should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_1c3dcm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help with adopted cat.", "post": "Hey everyone, I recently adopted a cat (about two weeks ago now) She's a 4 year old and is TINY. We set her up in the bathroom because we thought the small space would make it easier for her to transition. So now the problems, she only sits by the toilet when my Fiancee and I are around; She eats in front of me but only if I place the food in front of her and only stands up after extensive petting. She will immediately sit after I'm done petting as well. She's extremely jump and the tiniest noise causes her to curl into a ball and hide her head behind the toilet. She doesn't play, at least not with me, and a laser pointer causes her to go stroke mode and again, hide her head behind the toilet. She doesn't hiss at anything that I've found out yet.. So my question is, does my cat just need more time to get used to her space, and what can I do to get her to come out of her shell? Her history at the shelter says they found her as a new appearance in a Feral colony, so they thought she was a stray. I don't think she's feral because she lets you touch her (not pick her up; and bring your face even close to her is a nono...) She also hasn't tried to escape the house...or leave the bathroom at all (except one night when she tugged my electric shaver down and it caused her to run laps around the house.", "summary": "Adopted a shy cat who is the biggest wuss I've ever met, I don't think she's feral, need HALP."}
{"id": "t3_2d7lup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my Boyfriend [23 M] of 1 year , how do I correct this huge lie that's tearing us apart?", "post": "We have been exclusively together for a year but a month or so before when we first spoke about starting something but agreed to see other people for the mean time, providing we stuck to some ground rules ( no sleeping with close friends, being open about what we have done ) I had sex with a then \" close \" friend ( I say it that way as we no longer speak and he was pretty insignificant to my life anyway! ) \nI know it doesn't excuse it's but was in a horrific place ( drinking a lot, abusing prescription drugs, going through a massive adjustment period ) I really felt I was at a crossroads and my boyfriend ( although he wasn't then, as if it makes it better as we did make an agreement with each other ) and I were doing the whole long distance thing and I made an awful mistake well twice partially lonely, partially wasted and partially because I've spent my whole life scared to say no.. He made the first move, I initially said no but I was wasted he tried again and I went along with it both times.\n The thing is my boyfriend knows it happened as was/is very unhappy about it and very angry ( understandably ) however he things it only happened once! The guilt is awful and I should of told him straight away but time keeps passing and making it harder to do so. I know he will consider this a massive violation of trust ( which it is, but not out of malice ) and I just couldn't bare to lose him.. I had no idea where this was going to go but I'm so in love with him it just hurts thinking about what I've done.\n I understand that it needs to be told and I have to take responsibility for my actions, it's not fair if he is only with me because he doesn't know. \nHow do I do this? \nI'm absolutely broken about this whole situation, I've made the biggest mistake of my life and I don't think there is anyway anything will ever be ok and I'm not sure what to do with that information.", "summary": "how do I tell OH about breech of massive trust at beginning of relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_sdsez", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Guy advice requested: Dealing with an ex?", "post": "So this may seem redundant of other posts, but here goes:\nI dated a guy for almost 2 years in college and it was a big relationship for both of us. First serious relationship, his first girlfriend, travels with the family, tight group of friends and so on. \n\nWe dated from freshman year to Junior year, when he pretty much out of the blue broke up with me. He was afraid he would never date anyone but me. I was really shocked and hurt and I didn't know what to say. I had suspicions that his parents, who were college sweethearts, were getting a divorce and this was wigging him out. He later  admitted it.After the breakup I couldn't talk to him initially and I cut him out. We met twice to chat over coffee, but that was it for a year. Spring of my senior year, we get in touch again, try to spend time together before I graduate. But it felt hollow and confusing. When we hung out, I felt immediately like we did when we were together, like I could feel that nothing had changed between us when I rationalized so much did. And I didn't know how a reconnection was supposed to work. \n\nNo contact until the present. He sends me some IMs and we chat. Then he sends some texts, which surprises me because I deleted his number to prevent the temptation. Now we have had on and off again text chats, can't tell if full friend or what?\n\nI guess what I want to know is this:\nDo I say \"To hell with it!\" and challenge him to a drinking competition and ask each other 21 questions to just get things over with? (ie relationship, friends, nothing?)\nor do I\nKeep texting with him? Offer to hang out? Erase him from my life again?", "summary": "2 years since an ex, do I act like I have one life to live or do I play it cool?"}
{"id": "t3_3sn28t", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Got an associate's in psychology. Transferring to 4 year. Want to go into school psychology. Worried about choosing a college and finances.", "post": "Ok, so I currently have a 3.5 and a recent grad from CC and I'm not sure if it matters which 4 year school I get a bachelor's from or if I go to the school from which I will get a bachelor's, if that will make it easier to get into the masters or Ph.D. / Ed.S. or what have you at that same school. (Probably, I assumed.) My CC and the local 4 year are pretty buddy-buddy and have credit transfer deals and generally help its local students out. But while they have a general psychology bachelor's program, they only have master's and PhDs in counseling. Also, I hear that you can go directly from a bachelor's into a doctorate program, if you have the GPA, undergrad research or enough experience, and good GRE scores. (I like this idea because I'm a relatively poor student and rely heavily on financial aid and small loans.) I'm also wondering about internships and the stipends that come with some of them? Is that just for doctorate programs? I would prefer to baby step it from a masters to a doctorate, I don't want to do anything I'm not 100% ready for. (Sorry if I sound ignorant, I'm the first in my family to get this far.) A friend of mine in agriculture biotechnology is currently attending grad school for her masters mostly because of her internship / job at the school so she can live cheaply off campus.", "summary": "Basically I just need advice on how to make sure my academic costs will be covered at least enough to get a masters. (I hear nightmares about ending up with just a bachelor's in psychology.)"}
{"id": "t3_30wu5u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my GF [29F] 10 months, grumpy during her period but only to me", "post": "We moved in together less than a month ago.\n\nShe has not talked to me at all in a day.  Her period started 2 days ago.  I cannot remember doing (or not doing anything) to upset her.  Nothing related to monthsaries, chores, forgotten promises, finance, nothing on either side.  She told me back then that she normally gets migraine during her period.  I would understand her untalkativeness, but not when she's fine with *other* people.  She says hi and engages in small chat with roommates.  If I ever talk to her, all I get is a blank stare, and MAYBE a word or two.  We were sweet and cuddling just yesterday.\n\nI cooked her breakfast but she didn't eat it.  I thought it's just because she slept in really late (woke up 1pm), but then she ate lunch.  She slept again in the afternoon, and was really busy hunting for work online starting around 5pm.  It was already past 8pm and she hasn't had dinner, so I try to make her hot choco at least.  I put it beside her and she didn't drink it.  After an hour she makes her own dinner then puts the mug on my table.\n\nThis is really stretching it but the only thing I could of was that I woke her up the previous night.  It was past 1am and she was sleeping on the sofa.  I made bed since the sheets were fresh (laundry day).  I woke her up and got her to move to the bed.  Last time she fell asleep on the couch, she said it was really cold when she woke up around 4am and immediately tucked underneath the blanket with me and asked me to hug her tight.", "summary": "Move in together, GF on period, unfriendly only to me, no idea why"}
{"id": "t3_23nggv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33 M] hate dumping people more than anything.", "post": "Whenever I have to break up with someone for reasons other than cheating, I feel *incredibly* bad about it.  I'd rather be dumped 100% of the time than ruin some unassuming woman's day, even if she gets over it in 5 minutes.  I used to be in EMS, I've had to fire people from jobs, and I can handle any difficult situation thrown at me.  But nothing stresses me out more than knowing someone is out there thinking about me and I'm about to make them sad.  Things don't work out a lot of times.  That's life.   I feel I'm completely justified for doing it but nevertheless I'm up with my stomach in knots over what I have to do.   Am I alone in this?", "summary": "Overwhelmed with stress and guilt when I break up with someone."}
{"id": "t3_1gsqpk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I want to help you!", "post": "Hello people of /r/advice.\n\nI recently decided that one day I want to be a genetic counsellor. Basically what they do is talk with people concerned about genetic diseases (ex. chance of passing it on to their baby) who have been referred by their doctors and explain to them their options of genetic testing, etc.\n\nAnyway, to even be considered for acceptance into a program, you need some counseling experience. Now there's not much available in my area for face-to-face opportunities, so that's where you come in!\n\nI want to talk to people about their problems, and help in anyway I can, even if it is to only listen. I'm willing to do something long-term and keep in contact with someone, or even helping someone with a small problem. I'm game for anything :)\n\nSo either leave a comment here or PM me, and we can talk!", "summary": "I want to become a genetic counselor and need some experience. Let me help you."}
{"id": "t3_17knoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "how do I go through with this? (23F) x-post r/sex", "post": "I am in a LTR of 7 years (23F/& 24/M). I have recently thought about sleeping with another man. I am very happy in my relationship, and my boyfriend is aware of it and is okay with it. I really want to do it but I can't bring myself to do it as I feel to self-conscious or shy. I should mention that I am already talking to a person who is willing to \"f*cuk\". He has seen pictures of me and wants to sleep with me but I can't shake the feeling of me being self-conscious. \n\nI need help reddit!", "summary": "I want to have sex with other men but I can bring myself to do it."}
{"id": "t3_2n0y1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21M] am not sure if I'm dating this girl[20F].", "post": "I had a horrible break up nearly 2 years ago and I'm totally out of this dating for a longer period thing. After my ex broke up I became the guy that went only for the short adventures but this time it is different but I forgot how to do this the right way. I need your honest advice how to act to not destroy this. Here are some more details.\n\nFew weeks ago I met this girl at a party and we talked a lot and I had a great time with her, so I asked for her number and got it. After that we started to text each other a lot and I asked her out to the movies and it was basically great but nothing serious happened.\n\nNo Kiss - just a hug.\n\ntbh I haven't done a right approach since I kinda got shy somehow. It's weird because normally I'm the complete opposite.\n\nThe next time we met she invited me to her place and we watched a movie together. Things got more \"touchy\" - we cuddled and were more playful but her family (including younger siblings that disturbed us) was at home so a kiss on her cheek was the limit.\n\nNow here comes the part where I need your help. I know I like her very much and haven't felt this way for a long time but I don't know if she feels the same for me.\n\nI will meet her this Sunday at a quit romantic Christmas market. What is your advice to get this flirt-thingy to the real dating and how can I really ask her how she feels for me?", "summary": "Please give me advice how to get this flirt-thing to real dating with the girl I've been seeing for a while."}
{"id": "t3_2djilp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU in the disco", "post": "So after a long night of drinking i ended up going to a very known disco in the place i live, but it was the first time i went there, so i didn't know  what it looked like in the inside. so we are in the 2nd floor, the calmest area (but still with a large dance floor) and we are having a laugh, drinking, dancing and all that when i felt like having (yet another) drink, but since the bar in that floor was full i had to go the first floor where there were more people working and the counter was bigger.\n5 minutes later i have the drink in my hand and i'm ready to go upstairs again... when i was about to make the corner to the stairs a guy with a black shirt and with a drink in his hands almost bumps into me. so he basicly start side stepping and doing a \"little dance\" so we could let each other pass. but everytime i would step to the right he would step as well. step to the left, same thing. so i stopped and said \"nah man you go first\". and he does the same..... well fuck me... it was a mirror, and that guy in the black shirt with a drink in his hand, was me... as soon as i realize this i look behind me and 50% of the people on the dance floor are looking at me and laughing their ass off.\ni go back up, silent and waited until most of the people left so i could leave too.\nin my own defense, it was dark as shit.", "summary": "i was making myself like an idiot while talking to a mirror."}
{"id": "t3_36d875", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 20M with my 20 F long term girlfriend\u2014I don't know if i'm in love or what I should do.", "post": "(I'm going to avoid giving too too much detail for obvious reasons btw!)\n\nRight so, i've been dating this girl for about a year and a half (both at Uni), and about 5 months ago she became depressed, is on anti-depressants and sees a psych about once a week.\n\nThe reasons why she's depressed are complicated, but closely linked to her being insecure about her past (She's slept with 10-15 guys), and she's got a few issues regarding trust and things (incidentally, i've had issues with her past but that's another story). \n\nSo, issue one is that, in part due to her depression, and in part due to stress from work and things, we've been having a pretty rough time of it recently, a lot of fighting, and we're both not super happy. \n\nIssue two is that i'm not sure if i'm in love with her anymore\u2014she's my first like real serious relationship, and to be honest I don't have a clue what love is. No one ever spelt it out to me. Presumably if i'm not in love with her I should tell her? But what if I am and i'm just needlessly hurting her?\n\nIssue three is that she's much more into talking about the future etc than I am (see's me as 'the one') and i'm wary of hurting her feelings on the front. This is mostly relevant in that I would hate to break her heart and make her miserable, which I know ending it would.\n\nFinally, if I do do anything (break-up, say I don't love her etc), there's an issue of timing\u2014we have exams over the next two weeks and her birthday is in that period. So presumably I shouldn't do anything over that period?\n\nI really care about her and making her unhappy would crush me, but I really don't know what to do at this point\u2014stick it out and hope it gets better?", "summary": "Potentially not in love with depressed girlfriend anymore, no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3pteln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19/M] convince my girlfriend [18/F] that it's over, because she refuses to accept it.", "post": "My longdistance relationship of 1 year ended today. We live 2 hours away from each other and we dont talk on the phone, so I texted her and explained why I couldn't take it any longer and that it was over. We're two different persons with different interests and views, so naturally it just doesn't work out, and I want out. So I plain out told her, and now she refuses to accept it. She says that she is willing to work it out and that we can get together, and to which I respond that it really isn't her decision and if I don't want to be together we're not together. You cant have a relationship where only 1 person really wants it. As simple as that. So what do I do? What do I tell her?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 1 year refuses to accept that it's over. What do I tell her? What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1rce3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29m] with my fiancee [24f] of 3 years, should I tell her I've slept with a lot more people than she thinks I have?", "post": "I have not explicitly told her how many people I've slept with, but she obviously has a number in mind. She's off. By a lot. I was really into the whole sex tourism thing for a few years, and, I won't lie. It was awesome and I loved Thailand. I loved Latvia. Germany wasn't as good. But anyway, I've had sex with over 1000 people at least. Should I tell her?\n\nOne one hand, I don't have any stds, so it really isn't any of her business. on the other hand, I bet a lot of women would consider this female violence.", "summary": "should I tell her I've slept with a lot more people than she thinks I have?"}
{"id": "t3_1rxhco", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Help! Photography dilemma!", "post": "Sorry for the wall of text......\n\nMy fiance and I are on a budget.  The most we can spend on photography is $1,500, but our main concern is just to get good ceremony shots and a few good shots to hang on our wall.\n\nI found one photographer in our area that is pretty new to the biz.  He and his assistant will do an engagement shoot and an entire wedding day of photos for $1,200 (getting ready - cake cutting). We like his photographs, they would be good and acceptable. I have been talking to him, and think we would get along pretty well.\n\nMy sister recommended a different photographer, a woman she had previously worked with.  Her photos are AMAZING, and have recently been featured in style me pretty and other such blogs.  Her normal package is $2,900 for an engagement shoot, herself & an assistant, all day photos, and 200 4x6 prints.  I've been talking to her today (she's doing a $500 off cyber Monday deal), and she could get it down to $1,500 - this would cut out the second shooter and the prints. \n\nI'd jump on the second photographer immediately, but my fiance seems to be excited at the thought of having getting ready photos (he originally didn't care, but after thinking he COULD have it, he started to like it).  I'm also not sure if not having a second photographer would be a big mistake!", "summary": "Is it worth it for the guys to have their own getting ready shots, and is having a second photographer a really good thing?"}
{"id": "t3_4ozvws", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is my friend [20/f] a cleptomaniac?", "post": "I [23/f] have known here for quite a while and this is something particularly that I dislike about her. She is really dear to me but knowing these parts makes me feel unpleasant in her surroundings. Whenever she travells, she comes back with bunch of stuff such as shirts, earrings, bracelets, shorts and all the stuff you could put in your bag. The other day she asked me if I wanted to go with her in chinese shopping mall and steal stuff for summer, I said yes just to avoid further asking because I needed to think about it. I never really stole anything and that is not what my parents taught me. I just dont support it at all, especially if its material stuff that im stealing. If I have to steal one necklace, I don't even need it at all, it would always remind me of the bad ''small krime'' i did. However, today she came back from short trip with her friends in nearby village, with a really nice necklace and I asked her where did she find it since it really looks appealing to me and also, my style. She said, with such a nonchalance, that she stole it in an open-air store. That was the moment where I thought ''Why do you keep doing it''.\n\nShe comes from pretty nice and harmonic family, she is a student and we all live in a students dorm. Her parents send her enough money for food and I guess she could always ask them for more money.\n\nDo you, dear redditors, consider her a cleptomaniac? What are the causes?", "summary": "My really good friend is often stealing stuff and I am worried if she was cleptomaniac and also, i feel like i might can't trust her anymore as I used to."}
{"id": "t3_17buud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m19) can't stop comparing my new SO (18) with my ex (22).", "post": "The title says it all, my ex was the only girl I ever loved. we were together on and off for 8 months. She loved me , I loved her, we broke up for good about 2 months ago, I started seeing a new girl and have had sex with her, she is pretty, but opposite of my ex, where as my ex is Asian, my new SO is strong italian blooded.\n\nEverything I do with my SO I mentally compare to my ex, the hugs, the kisses, the hand holding, and the sex, both girls are vastly diffrent down there, my ex having larger lips, where as my new SO is much tighter.\n\nIt is just killing me, because I shouldnt be mentally comparing anyone to my ex. And I just dont know how to stop it? Even when I think I got over it, it still lies dormant in my mind and sometimes I cant enjoy time with my SO (whether it be sex or just chilling and cuddeling) because I just compare it to my ex.... Yes I belive my new SO could be just a rebound but at the same time I really do like her. Any ideas on how to resolve this? Me and my ex are currently not even speaking anymore as of last week.", "summary": "Broken up with my ex of on again off again 8 months, dating a new girl and cant stop mentally comparing everything with her to my ex. Any tips with how to deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_zbgqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How Do You Tell a Guest that He Has Outstayed His Welcome?", "post": "Whenever I go out to other friend's places, I make an effort to not outstay my welcome. After finishing some predetermined activity (like playing Monopoly or Puerto Rico) and after the conversations start to lull, I make my graceful exit on a high note.\n\nUnfortunately, one of my friends does not extend the same courtesy towards me. Every time he comes over, he overstays his welcome by a good three to four hours. He is my friend, and I do like to spend time with him. But I'm also an introvert that needs time to myself. \n\nHow do I tell him that he should leave without being a totally douchebag about it?", "summary": "How do I tell a friend that he has outstayed his welcome without being a douchebag?"}
{"id": "t3_3ob9uj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Doing a Triple Poop", "post": "So this happened many years ago when I was in year 4.\n\nI'm was happily sitting in class doing work when I felt a fart coming on, so I held it in. This made my belly make a growling sound that sounded like a fart but nothing came outta my butt. This happened repeatedly over the course of the day.. Until I felt something wet in my pants. I had to run around all day and sit in my chair with a soggy sag in my pants. As I got up to leave class to go home I noticed that my chair was wet.. So I got picked up from school and while in the car Ma belly growled some more.. I'd made the car seat wet too. I went straight to the toilet when I got home and found out I had a squashed poo in my pants.. Yuck. Then my mum announced that I had to go to my friends house ( she did not no about my situation ). I put the underpants in the washing bin and changed into another pair.. Well as soon as I arrived at my friends house the growls were back aaand so was the wetness. So I played on his computer and sat on his bed with soiled pants. I then left and changed my pants again and put the others in the washing bin. While I was watching Tv with my parents it happened once a friggin gain. So did the same thing.\n\nThe next day my mum asked why there was poop all over the washing bin and my underpants.. Oops.\n\nTIFU..", "summary": "Had a crappy day ;)"}
{"id": "t3_2g92d2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [18m] and my girlfriend [17f] are looking at the same college, could we stay together?", "post": "I know lots of people will the title and think I'm considering continuing our relationship after high school, into college. This isn't entirely true however. Here are the details. \n\nOne of the colleges on my list is a fairly close but competitive state school. I have already applied and expect to be accepted under automatic acceptance rules. She went on a day visit recently with a close friend, and stated she likes the campus a lot. However, she is paying for her college herself, so her plan is to attend community college for a year as a cheaper way to complete some prerequisites.\n\nWhile I absolutely love being with her, and couldn't be happier with our relationship, as seniors I expect the worse come graduation, when we go our separate ways. I have heard that it is a drag socially to freshman who try to hang on to their significant others at different schools. But suppose the two in the relationship both end up choosing the same school, for reasons outside of the relationship, would it be feasible to try to stay together? I know this is far down the road, a lot could happen in between now and then, and like I said she would be at community college for a year and I wouldn't see her for that time. But I'm curious to know if anybody has succeeded in this.", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend have a slim possibility of ending up at the same college. Could we keep dating, or is it a bad idea socially?"}
{"id": "t3_3m0axw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] having a hard time maintaining friendships. I think I forgot how to have friends?", "post": "Hi r/relationships! \n\nI am a 21 year old female and ever since leaving high school, I feel like it has become impossible for me to keep friendships. Up until age 16/17 I was generally liked in school and had a few extremely close friends. I was loud, childish and loving life. Unfortunately I developed mental issues (I'm bipolar) and scared/pushed most of them away for many different reasons. After getting treatment and leaving for university (age 19) I decided to have a fresh start. New city, new friends right? But since then, I struggle.\n\nI do have acquaintances at uni, even some girls that you could call friends. But I am missing these intense friendships from school, people I could completely trust, where I could just let myself go and have fun.. basically some best friends.\n\nI am generally liked on my course but I do think most people see me as very serious, too mature, too stiff... People I hang out with often say how \"middle aged\" I am. Which is fine because I guess it is true and it has its reasons. I would love to be less serious and enjoy life more spontaneously but it scares me and reminds me of some horrible manic things I did. \n\nIt is hard to sum this up to some precise questions but basically I'd like to know what I can change in order to find true friendship again? How can I let go of my fears and find a middle ground between crazy outgoing and lonely hermit? And this last one just came to me in the process of writing: I've dropped many things that were \"classic me\" and all that's left is this weird middle aged career-driven me. Do I need to find myself/my passions first before I can go and find people that could be my good friends?", "summary": "I was a loud obnoxious kid in school, got treated for bipolar and moved away. I've become a quiet old lady and have no close friends. How do I change that?"}
{"id": "t3_3nehst", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting my mom porn", "post": "So this just happened about 10 minutes ago. But first some backstory; \nI am a college student, I had recently broken my foot by falling off a ladder at work. This meant going to a couple different doctors and getting x rays and what have you. My mom has been in constant contact with me through out this ordeal since I live in another state because of college. Also she has been talking to my grandpa who is a podiatrist (foot doctor) to get advice. I also sent them copies of my x rays to look at. \nNow, I am scheduled to have a cast put on my foot on Wednesday, but my mom wanted to have the place take x rays of my non hurt foot (per request of my grandpa) to compare the two and make sure it is actually broken. So she called me and asked me to send her the information for the place I was going. And me being the genius I am screenshot the name of the place, the address and the phone number off google and proceed to go to the text conversation between my mom and I and double tap the text bar and paste what ever I had copied earlier thinking it would send the screenshot and hit send immediately out of habit. (Side note: I dont know why I thought thats what would happen I just brain farted I guess.) \nBefore my brain processed what had happened, it was already too late. I sent a link to a pornhub video. I tried to frantically delete it but it was no use. So naturally I did what anyone would do and just went with it.\nLuckily my mom and I have a very cool relationship and I was only slightly embarrassing. Im slightly concerned that when I go home for Thanksgiving that this story will definitely come when we have family over, my mom is a bit of a big mouth.", "summary": "Broke foot. Was supposed to send my mom the place I went to get it looked at, accidentally sent her porn. Probably going to get ridiculed by cousins aunt and uncles."}
{"id": "t3_2b9p2k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [20/m] Girlfriend [22/f] might not get into the grad school she wants to.", "post": "Basically, my girlfriend might not be able to get into her desired grad school due to certain academic and financial complications. She has one or two courses with an undesirable grade, and wants to retake those courses. But with college tuition costing as much as it does today, it's putting her in a difficult position because she can't retake the courses for an improved grade. I honestly wish that I could help her out and pay for everything, but I have my own increasing tuition fees to cover plus housing.\n\nI'm trying to support her and help her through this the best I can, but it just seems like there isn't much I can do... Or at least, none comes to my mind. This is pretty major source of stress and unhappiness right now, for the both of us. She's been crying about it almost every night, she's also become irritable and somewhat cold and detached. I've been giving her more space, and just being there when she needs me. But I can't help feeling extremely useless and helpless right now, and it's probably one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced. Is there anything I can do to make things a little easier, ease the stress a bit. I just want to see her smile again...", "summary": "Girlfriend is worried she won't get into grad school, extremely stressed out. I want to help in all ways possible, but it seems like there just isn't a lot that I can do for her."}
{"id": "t3_21vydv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] screwing up my friendship with a girl [23F] because i like her", "post": "I've been friends with this girl for many years, however only recently did we get to know each other better and started to hang out more often. Things were going great as friends but somewhere along the line I developed feelings for her. I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same. \n\nBecause of my feelings i have become more sensitive and i get easily frustrated with her (due to my unrealistic expectations). This led to a few arguments and me doing some stupid stuff to hurt her. She has forgiven me already but i feel that we are drifting apart. A few days ago when texting her we had a small argument again which ended in her saying i'm narrow minded.\n\nInitially i thought of getting even closer to my friend and eventually i would just tell her that i like her, But now, because of my emotions we are not even that close anymore. It really sucks and my feelings wont go away... I can't seem to focus on anything else in my life. What should i do?", "summary": "Can i remain (good) friends with someone i like"}
{"id": "t3_2y2463", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and my wife [30 M,F] with my parents [60's M,F] are spoiling our baby (8 months) and won't listen to our parenting plan/rules", "post": "We are all from a different country living in the USA. So when my dad actually found a job here my parent's moved with us (it was less demanding, only 3 days a week). They thought it would be good as my wife was pregnant and they could help out. They would've come here for a few months to help out anyway but this seemed to work out very well. \nNow they have been here 2 years and while everything else seems to go smoothly we seem to clash a lot on parenting methods and rules. They always carry the baby around the house don't let him play on the floor, pick him up when he cries, do not let us try things out such as baby led weaning etc. We are having a lot of arguments in the last few months because of that. I am not sure how to handle this.\n\nI don't really want to ask them to move out as it it considered disrespectful in our culture. We moved into a big house after they came and it would also put a small financial stress on both parties. My wife would also have to quit her job that she just started (it's non-paid and she is just doing it for work experience) if my parents left so she can train him for a couple months before leaving him in daycare. I wish there was a better solution but it seems to be the only thing I can think of now.", "summary": "My parents who are living with my wife and I, do not listen to our rules and ideas of how to raise our baby."}
{"id": "t3_2t4tln", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Slapping the Bag", "post": "Let me start this by saying that the Bag Slaps back!!\nFor those who don't know what I am referring to allow me to enlighten you. \"Slapping the Bag\" is a popular game among American college students. It involves chugging wine from a wine cooler for a few moments and then winding up to give the bag a slap, just to show it who is boss. \nI had slapped the bag plenty of times before to know how dangerous it is. I vowed to never again slap it after one rather gruesome hangover. But a few years later, a friend put a fresh Franzia wine cooler in my face and I sucked that thing down for like a minute. Upon pulling up for air I gave it my slap. But no, it wasn't good enough and I was quickly prompted to slap it again. \nI wound up with all my drunken might and gave this thing a real pounding. I hit the bag so hard I dislocated my shoulder. This chick must have had some Chuck Norris kung-fu grip because my intention was to blast that fucker out of her hand and shoot it at the sofa behind her. But it didn't give at all so my shoulder (already dislocated previously) came out, again. NOW, I vow to never slap the bag again. Lesson learned.", "summary": "Slapped the bag so hard I dislocated my shoulder."}
{"id": "t3_12r26o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [34] and I [24] have been dating for almost a year, and we haven't said I love you yet.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together since last Christmas. We have never had such a happy, effortless relationship. The age difference is never even a thought until others bring it up. I have been staying at his house since about august. I'm extremely adamant that it's okay if he doesn't want me here for a night, he should just tell me, which he hasn't yet. We have never fought or argued. He seems extremely happy. All of his friends and family say to keep up whatever I'm doing; they've never seen him so happy or heard such little complaining. I know we are in love, however it weighs heavy on my heart and mind not saying it out loud. We have never said I love you to each other's faces. I have said it in my head probably every day since mid may. I told him I loved him back in august in an online message. In a text a few months ago he said \"I'm so ridiculously in love with you\". That's all so far, and it really bothers me. Every time I try, I get nervous he won't say it back and chicken out.", "summary": "BF and I have been together for ~10 months, we love each other, but never say it. "}
{"id": "t3_1p3glp", "subreddit": "self", "title": "A chance to work across the planet but life is getting in the way!", "post": "So I have a chance to work as a teacher at an international school in Myanmar. It seems like the job could be mine easily because they need to fill the position quickly. I really want this experience to learn more about the world, myself and anything else along the way! I have heard many stories of people dropping everything and going across the world but I have no idea how they did that!\n\nWithin the last week my car stopped working correctly and I have to get that fixed. \n\nI'm stuck in a lease for a year with three housemates and have no idea what to do with my room without wasting money on it being empty. This doesn't even begin to go over what to do with my stuff in this house.\n\nI just started a part-time job at Starbucks that I would have to quit. I don't know if there would be time for a two week notice!\n\nI have student loans to start paying off and I wouldn't know where to begin with traveling and paying them off. It is a job so I'd have some income to pay them while I'm abroad.\n\nI have no idea what to do. I want to do this quite badly but I see so much getting in the way! \n\nI hope someone with great advice comes along...", "summary": "I want to teach in Myanmar but there are many \"reasons\" preventing me. I've heard many stories and a lot of advice saying: Do what you want to do, all those \"reasons\" are just excuses to stop you."}
{"id": "t3_1y2t1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] miss my ex [22m] we were together 3 years and broke up 3 months ago, still feeling sad after 2 months :(", "post": "I know its been 3 months, everyone around me says I should be over it and I am really trying to. I've been going on dates and trying to go out with friends and meet new people and all doing everything that people say to do. But I just feel empty still like something is missing. I dont think I have woken up once since the last 3 months without feeling numb, sad, and lonely. Like I have no one in the world to talk with who actually cares about me. I go on these dates with these guys and it just feels pointless like none of them care about me they just want to sleep with me. I miss having someone that actually genuinely cares about me. Someone who wants to spend time with me and talk with me about really stuff. \n\nMy heart feels like a million pieces and it just wont fix itself. I want to move on and be happy again but it just hurts and i feel so sad. It hurts even more that he found someone new just a few weeks after. Like after 3 years together I meant so little to him that it only took him a few weeks to get over everything we had done and shared together. He was my best friend in the world my confidant and now he's just gone. I miss him so much that it hurts more then anything. \n\nWill the pain ever stop, will I ever wake up and not feel sad?", "summary": "still miss ex after 3 months, starting to feel like the pain will never end."}
{"id": "t3_h4130", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit you're my only hope.  How does one remove  years-old cum stains from painted drywall?", "post": "So backstory...\n\nWhen I was a teenager and masturbation was just becoming a regular thing for me (about 8 years ago), I used to do so in bed all the time.  My comforter made this nice ridge along the outside of my mattress so I could come on the other side of it and let it dry there without having to worry about rolling over in it or anything.  Our family's maid washed the sheets once a week, and since I wasn't doing this every night, I figured I was leaving no trace.\n\nTurns out I was wrong.\n\nI should mention here that I slept in a bunk bed, on the top bunk.  There was no one sleeping on bottom, I just liked sleeping up there.  In any case, when I was in high school, long after I'd moved on from masturbating in bed, I noticed some stains on the wall when I was in the bottom bunk reading.  It looked like someone had dribbled coke or something on the wall and the syrup had dried into these little browning streaks.  I couldn't see their origins, but it was clear they'd come from above.  I investigated and found several impact sites, unmistakably wrought by my pubescent self-exploration.\n\nI freaked out a little and tried scrubbing them off, but when that didn't work I realized that it probably wouldn't ever matter; no one ever had any reason to get close enough to this wall in my room to notice and I doubted my family would ever have a need to move the bed, thereby discovering my embarrassing secret.  I turned out to be wrong about that too.\n\nI'm at college now, and my mom recently informed me they're redoing the carpet in my old room this summer.  That means they're definitely going to find it.  I'm going back to house-sit next weekend though;  my family will be gone.  It's just gonna be me and whatever cleaning methods you guys can come up with.", "summary": "Blew my load (a lot) on the wall as a kid (inadvertently), now my parents are going to find it if I don't clean it*"}
{"id": "t3_206t79", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How soon after a break up did you start dating again? (Situation inside)", "post": "22/f..My abusive 3 year relationship ended very badly last month and left me quite traumatized. Obviously I have a lot of issues to work on before entering a serious relationship again. The main one being still having feelings for my ex and why I felt the need to stay in a bad relationship.\n\nHowever, I recently met a man (24/m) who asked me out. We texted non stop for a full week, we seem to have a lot in common, we talk really easily, ,lovely personality and he's really good looking and then he tells me he's a doctor which just made me go weak at the knees.\n\nProblem is while we were in contact I started to feel really overwhelmed and felt like it was moving very fast. I apologized and explained to him that I'm just out of a bad relationship and still have some issues to deal with and feel like it wouldn't be fair to get involved with someone else at this moment in time, and obviously apologized if I lead him on.\n\nThe very fact he was so understanding and polite about it made me attracted to him even more, he told me was disappointed as he thought we would get along but he understands as he's not long out of a long term relationship also, but that if I'm still interested down the line to contact him and told me he won't be going anywhere.\n\nIt was left like that, and we didn't have any contact for about two weeks now. But tonight, I changed my profile photo on facebook and he liked it. Then he sent me a message saying this:\n'Just a message to say that new picture of yours is making me so disappointed at your circumstances..wee bit gorgeous there Miss (name) anyway, that's all I have to say, hope everything is going ok'.\n\nI'm not going to lie I got butterflies when I seen it. But I still don't feel ready to get involved. He seems like a really nice genuine person so I don't want to use him as a rebound. I'd rather wait until the time is right to get to know him better. But I'm worried if I leave it too long he might lose interest and move on.\nHow soon did you start dating again after a bad break up?", "summary": "recently went through bad break up, have been asked out but don't feel ready quite yet"}
{"id": "t3_120z8u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "When is the best time to talk about sex with a virgin girlfriend?", "post": "What would be the best way for me [m18] to talk to my girlfriend[f18] of 4 months about having sex with her. She is a virgin, and the only time I see her nowadays due to clubs and all is in our lunch period. Our table gets crowded quickly, so I have a limited timeframe to talk to her about this.\n\nWhat would be the best time/medium to talk to her about this (ie phone/text/irl) and how could I confront her casually about this instead of saying \"How would you feel about sex in our relationship\" upfront?\n\nI spend a lot of time with her on the weekends, after-school and whenever we both have freetime and no plans. I've made out with her, kissed, hugged and we both feel comfortable around each other. This is not a relationship where it's \"hi and bye\" or one like a naive one. I'm also not a virgin.", "summary": "How do I talk to virgin girlfriend about sex."}
{"id": "t3_266cqw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/20]y girl[F/22] cheated on me. How can I get over it?", "post": "Hey friends!\n\nMy girlfriend has manic depression which as far as I know, is the same as being bipolar, that she takes pills for, but that's neither here nor there.\n\nThe night before Mother's Day, my girlfriend stayed out too late and she became manic. She made it back to her apartment, where she proceeded to invite a guy over. Apparently, the guy had more than just seeing her new apartment on his mind. And pardon my language here, but he ended up fucking her that night. \n\nI stayed with her and understand her situation with the depression/bipolar, but I can't seem to trust her since. Like, I start to stress out about the time the sun starts to set, because I'm afraid she will become manic and cheat on me again.\n\nI'm looking for a way that I can get past it and forget that it ever happened. I'm also looking for advice to curb the anger I have towards the guy. (I want to beat his ass)\n\nAnything will be very helpful, friends.\n \nThanks!", "summary": "My (sometimes) manic girlfriend cheated on me and I would like advice on how to move past it."}
{"id": "t3_2sx1v6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do I (21F) draw the line between forgiving my ex (23M) and getting back together, versus demeaning myself?", "post": "Long story short he dumped me 4 months ago in a *really* harsh and callous way. To be fair he thought I cheated. I didn't and would never, but one night I drunkenly (and stupidly) got myself into a somewhat compromising looking situation. I tried to explain myself and apologize. He overreacted and shut me out entirely without even talking about it or letting me get a word in. I mean I've never felt more pathetic and unwanted and worthless in my life. \n\nWe have several mutual friends and from what I've heard he's been pretty torn-up about the breakup. He's been slowly reaching out to me lately. I guess he realized his mistake? I want to be with him, but not at the expense of my dignity. I mean, when he dumped me I cried on his couch practically begging him to take me back, while he rolled his eyes at me like I was just some minor annoyance. Like I meant nothing to him. On the flip side, I made my share of mistakes, and before the breakup I honestly thought he was the one and had never felt such a strong connection to anybody.", "summary": "Ex thought I cheated, dumped me *really* harshly, and wouldn't listen to reason. This was 4 months ago. Now he's reaching out to me again and I really want to work through our problems and go back to how things were... but I'm worried I might just be demeaning myself in the process. Where do you draw the line?"}
{"id": "t3_1csvn9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Recently I[19/m] was just ultimatumed by my girlfriend(19/f) of 1.5 months, Help?", "post": "So recently my girlfriend (of a one and a half months) freaked out on me saying we don't communicate properly at all. She says her last boyfriend didn't communicate with her and that left her crying for attention and she doesnt want to repeat that. She then says that maybe we aren't ready to be together yet(the first threat of breaking up). But the thing is i tell her stuff i havent told anybody and i only text her a once a day but that is because we use snapchat all the time.(snapchat is an app that lets use send a picture pretty much. It is a text plus a picture pretty much) Then she says that using snapchat doesnt count as a real conversation, but apparently texting does? She then says that is this something we can fix or will this never change? She pretty much says either text me more or I am dumping you. This has really upset me and i dont feel the same way for this girl that i used to anymore. I just need someone else's perspective on the situation. I am not sure whether I really am in the wrong or She still has past boyfriend issues and relationship anxiety?", "summary": "My girlfriend gave me the ultimatum of text me more or i am dumping you"}
{"id": "t3_42e0if", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "10+ yrs of relationship, 2 kids. Trust?", "post": "First time on here. I (m28) with my girlfriend (f28) for 10yrs+. We broke up for about a year a couple of years back (1 kid at this stage) obviously both went off on the single scene.\n\nWe got back together and had another kid together. Recently I found out she was with a guy that she worked with years ago. They had been \"friends\" and texting each other on and off over the years. But when  we weren't together she ended up sleeping with this guy. He had a girlfriend at the time, think he still does.\n\nI recently confronted my partner about this and she told me that she didn't see any harm in texting him when we were together originally because \"nothing happened\". I'm finding it hard to believe that a guy would keep interest after 8 yrs (when they originally met) if he wasn't getting anywhere (unless they were just friends)\n\nUsually if this was one of my friends in this situation, I'd say fuck her. But the problem is we have 2 children and I can't bear the thought of not seeing them everyday. Or them growing up in a broken home.\n\nI don't know whether to believe what she is telling me or what to do. I can't think properly about the whole situation, I'm lost! \n\nTo make it worse, I found out where the guy lives and the temptention to fuck him up is going through my head. Have thought about finding his girlfriend and telling her. (They have been in a longterm relationship aswell as far as I know)\n\nSorry if this read seems a bit all over the place but I've never had to do anything like this before. Any advice would be great", "summary": "Don't know if I can trust longterm girlfriend, worried about leaving my 2 kids. my head is in a bad place, need advice plz"}
{"id": "t3_1y7xbx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "how can I [21F] stop being used for emotional support?", "post": "I've been noticing a pattern: people use me for emotional support. These are some examples:\n\n1. (friend): texts he sends me are basically verbal diarrhea, mostly complaining about little things throughout his day. We don't hang out (he says he's too busy when I suggest it) but text all day long. I'm his go to person for life advice but beyond him venting to me and asking for advice we don't interact much. If I were to try to vent to him he wouldn't pick up his phone.\n\n2. (sex partner): got dumped by girlfriend of three years a few months back and was VERY upset. I suspect he only has me around so he has someone to cuddle on lonely nights, as he still talks about her constantly and refuses to be in a relationship with me even though we do everything together. Also calls me when he drinks too much and needs someone to take care of him, but I'd never ask the same of him.\n\n3. (friend 2): tells me about all of her boy drama and expects me to tell her she always looks pretty. Again, when I need something or she isn't having boy problems to vent aboout, she disappears.\n\n4. (sex partner 2- this relationship is no longer): got cheated on by all of his previous girlfriends and refused to date me because he was scared of getting hurt. I could tell he just wanted anyone to cuddle and I was the one who happened to put up with it.\n\nI don't mind doing any of these things but when it's the extent of the relationship it gets kind of old. I genuinely care about and like all of these people, but they seem to be the only type of friends I can keep, and it's pretty draining! Sometimes I want to be taken care of too. What gives?", "summary": "I'm the one who people go to for emotional support but I never get it back."}
{"id": "t3_4eefd1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help deciding between two friends on massive school project", "post": "There's a MASSIVE school project coming up( debates) and we're supposed to work in teams of two. I have a friend in my class (let's call him Joey). Joey and I are good friends, but our attitude towards school isn't exactly the same. He's more of a procrastinator, I'm a perfectionist. He's really smart, but I'm not sure if he cares about winning our debate, he only cares about getting at least a B. I want to win and I want an A.\n\nI have another friend (let's call her Anna). Anna and I are also good friends. We both have the same mentality: We're in it to win it. I know that if I team up with Anna in the debates, we'll crush and get 100%. \n\nI want to team up with Anna. The problem is that I'm Joey's only friend in my class. If I duo with Anna, Joey will likely have to work on the school project with someone he doesn't know that we'll. In addition, I'll definitely hurt his feelings in the process. Anna can easily find another partner other than me.\n\nSo I'm not sure what to do here. If I work with Joey, we can at least get a B (an A is possible too), but our working personalities clash. Anna and I work so well together and we both want to win badly. I love debates (Anna and I are both on the debate team for our school) and I've been highly anticipating these debates in my English class. What should I do?", "summary": "need help choosing between Joey and Anna for school project"}
{"id": "t3_1gpdml", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I feel so great. I just got over a past relationship in the least likely possible way.", "post": "So I broke up with my SO about 4 months ago - it was the cleanest possible breakup, due entirely to conflicting schedules and lack of time, so there was really no impetus for me to move on. We tried to be friends afterward and did our best, but communication quickly tapered off. I assumed from the lack of emotions I was feeling toward her and the lack of communication that I was getting over her.\n\nThen this week she visited my city.\n\nShe invited a bunch of our old friends (and myself) out for dinner, so I figured, sure, why not, let's cement her status as a friend. This will be casual enough.\n\nAnd it was. We had a great time, laughed like crazy, and found ourselves finishing each other's sentences like we did when we first fell for each other. It was a really fun night, closed with a loving goodbye hug.\n\nI say loving because the second I go, reality smacked me in the face. I was still in love with her, just as much as when I broke up with her. I spent the night brooding over it, and decided that the best course of action was to be blunt about it. I texted her the next day telling her in fairly simple terms what the night had done for me - it made me realize I was still head over heels for her.\n\nAnd she never responded.\n\nI'm entirely okay with that. Hell, I'm happy about that. It put things into perspective. Four months of acting like I was okay with being friends with a girl I never even had the chance to see that way wore on me. I realized how much self-respect I was abandoning just by keeping up this charade and allowing her to be how I validated myself.\n\nAnd, honestly? Fuck that. I'm awesome, and I don't need her to tell me that to know it. I feel like I've lifted a weight from my shoulders, and for the first time in four months I'm genuinely happy to be single. For the first time in four months I feel like a man instead of a teenager. I'm free from love because I told her I loved her.", "summary": "Got over my ex because I told her I still loved her months later, realized how much of an idiot I was being, and am breathing the free air once more."}
{"id": "t3_1wsx0h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm(f/17) crazy in love, but how to explain this to my family?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I need your help!\n\nJust a few weeks ago I met this guy(m/23) and we had this 'click' right from the start. I was at a small party and I met him there. I was the youngest, I knew, everyone called me a 'jailbait' so I knew everyone was at least 1 or 2 years older than me.\n\nI had come there because a good girl friend of mine(f/20) asked me to come, and said it would be fun. I didn't want to go at first, but she begged me to, so I thought I'd just go to make her happy.\n\nThe guy I met and I talked for hours straight. When the party was over and I was back home again, we continued whatsapping, facebooking and skyping for hours nonstop. We have so much in common - we say the same things at the same time, we feel the same way about basically everything!\n\nNow, I have two problems here. First one is, that the girl that wanted me to come to the party, is a lesbian, I never thought anything of it - but apparently she's fallen in love with me. She is one of my closest friends. How do I politely tell her that I'm not going to date her? She's pushing me into it, I've been with a girl once for 4 months or so, but she knows that I'm not into girls anymore, but I guess she thinks she can force me into becoming a lesbian. At least, that's what it feels like.\n\nSecond, I really like the guy. I found out he was 23 later because he was ashamed of his age at first. We didn't really mention it at first because we just didn't think about it - we all knew I'm a 'jailbait' and I knew he had to be at least 18 or older, apparently our age difference is 6 years. I'm stressing over it. \n\nFor Valentines day he's going to take me out. I'm really excited for it and if we have the same click again, I think we will become a couple. Just... How do I tell my mom?", "summary": "Raging pushy lesbian tries to turn me into one, I've fallen in love with a dude 6 years older than me, who's basically my soulmate. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_kya9v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to learn Illustrator, from the top, before applying to University. Any advice?", "post": "I already have decent knowledge of Photoshop and other Adobe programs, but I never got started on Illustrator. One of my Graphic Design teachers in college tried to encourage me, but I didn't really have much time to put into it.\n\nSo, my question is; If I want to get to grips with Illustrator (I know basically nothing at the moment, and my attempts have been pretty fruitless, it seems to have a lot more intricacies than Photoshop), how should I go about it? There doesn't seem to be many tutorials on the internet which start assuming you know nothing about the program, which makes it difficult. Could you recommend a site, or even a book (though preferably something free if possible), that I could look into?\n\nThanks in advance, guys.", "summary": "I want to make pretty things in Illustrator but I don't know how. wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_3vdldv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Applauding during a \"bad\" presentation by a medallion student.", "post": "Last year I ****** up, \nSo about 1 year ago, I met a girl in my grade 11 class we took together, her name will be Sam. \n\nShe usually only talked to me about subjects, and school related themes. I'f you have not figured it out, Sam is one of those medallion, outstanding students. Who only accepted 3 digit percentage scores. Needless to say we were mutual friends until a casual presentation happened.\n\nThis presentation was an informal lab testing communication. After presenting mine, I left the room to go to the rest room, and in the hall I see Sam stressing out and memorizing what I assumed to be her script for the presentation.\n\nPassing by I wished her luck and she thanked me. Who knew such a relation could be broken in a matter of seconds.\n\nA few minutes later I enter the class room, mid way through Sam's presentation. Something was wrong.\n\nShe was absolutely broken, face red, stuttering. A few seconds of observation and I came to the conclusion that she forgot the script she was memorizing in the hall.\n\nShe stood there, eyes all over begging for help. Or at least I thought, So I started clapping and yelled, \" Woo! you're doing goo-\", \"SHUT UP!\" fiercely interrupted by one of her best friends, that I could have sworn to be one of the kindest girls in the school.\n\nThe presentation was stopped shortly after she started to full on cry, and keep in mind this was a highly academic girl who probably never \"messed\" up like this before. From what I can assume was caused by me. Later on that day everyone in the class looked disappointed in me, the same looks you get from making the whole class run another lap in p.e.\n\nThe Kind girl that told me to shut up, mentioned how rude I was to her, and Sam pretty much avoided me for the next 4 months. \n\nEnd (Don't worry about judging if I was right or wrong).", "summary": "Came back mid presentation to a \"sickening\" "}
{"id": "t3_3j8vi0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my sort of girlfriend/FWB[19F], living together in second year of university, need advice.", "post": "Me and this girl, lived together in halls in first year, she was in a relationship with her boyfriend from her home town, I was single.\n\nWe got on very well from the start, but never in a way that was flirty, fast forward 5 months. Her boyfriend has cheated on her, and in a drunken night, I told her about depression I  have been dealing with for about 5 years.\n\nWe ended up helping each other through this hard time, and ended up sleeping together regularly. Although we have never said we are mutually exclusive, I don't get with other girls out of respect and because I'm not that bothered, she occasionally kisses boys on nights out, but nothing more, and it doesn't really bother me. I should point out as well, this girl is gorgeous, and in my opinion wayyyy out of my league.\n\nWe are now living together again in second year, and us sleeping together has been going on for about 6 months, although we are not official, to me it feels like we are heading towards a relationship. I'm not sure if I want this or not, however, every time I have tried to bring this up in conversation with her to see where we both are at, she has been very dismissal, and the conversation has never come about.\n\nAs this has been going on for a while, I am worried it may have affected my friendships with others in the house, and I can completely understand why, as it must be difficult for them, if anything were to go wrong. As well as this, our situation happened in the wake of her split with her ex, which I'm not sure if she is over yet, she still talks about him quite often and sometimes gets upset when she is drunk due to him cheating, and just today was texting me upset because she lost her favourite pair of earings, which he happened to buy her.\n\nI'm worried I may invest too much into this relationship/situation, only for it to blow up in my face, and was hoping anyone who has been in a similar situation to shed some light or give me some advice, and advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Living with girl in university for 2nd year. We have been sleeping together for 6 months, although not official, unsure where we are at with each other, and don't know if she is over her ex. Any advice is appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_2wz2wb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and my two roommates [all 24M] don't see eye to eye on party rules.", "post": "I moved in with my two roommates over half a year ago. We have all been friends since middle school, with about the same maturity level, the same interests, and two of us (me included) had lived with our parents our entire lives. Since then, I've made plans to go back to secondary school and further my education. I've also entered a serious relationship and made other positive lifestyle changes. I feel like I've started to grown up, but they haven't yet.\n\nNeither of them have girlfriends. One is a capable bachelor, the other is a bit more hopeless with women, but they both like having parties at our house (with copious amounts of young girls). I'm not into having parties but I don't feel like I can deny them if they want to. However, after a party they had a couple months ago, I had to lay down some ground rules. They threw a party when they knew I had to work early the next morning, they let people invite friends of friends so a ton of shady people showed up that none of us even knew, they invited mostly under aged people, and they let people go upstairs, where all our bedrooms are which we agreed upon not doing. On three separate occasions drunk people came into my room while I was in bed. A lot of other fucked up shit happened but long story short, it was out of hand, and I talked to them about it. We agreed on no more friends of friends, no more under aged people, and no more parties when someone has to work the next morning.\n\nThat brings me to this weekend's party. It's the first party since our rules were established and it's one of my roommate's birthdays. I don't wanna be a downer because it's his birthday, and for the most part they've followed the rules so far (we'll see if a lot of friends of friends show up). However, when I looked at the facebook invite list, it's all under aged girls that accepted. The party is in a few days. What should I do about this? I don't like having under aged people, especially girls in our house. It could cause unnecessary legal troubles for ourselves and damage my future career path. Thank you.", "summary": "how do I stop my roommates and longtime friends from invited under aged people to house parties?"}
{"id": "t3_118h2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] Falling out of love with my GF 25[F], we have lived together for six months, how do I break up with someone I live with?(2yrs)", "post": "Alright,  me and my gf have been living with each other for about six months and been dating for 2 years roughly. My name is the only one on the lease and I am the bread winner at the moment. My gf moved about 30 miles away from home to live where I am.\n\nNow to get to the nitty gritty.\nRecently I have been becoming less and less attracted to my gf. She put on a good amount of weight in a short amount if time, now usually this wouldn't bother me all too much. However, when coupled with her lack of \"drive\" in life the unattractiveness doubles. She doesn't seem too interested in advancing into some type of job with benefits and is comfortable with working her low wage-10 to15 hour workweek. \n\nSecondly there are huge issues with my family and her, now unfortunately I'm on my phone so I'll make it short, she is not interested in mending problems with my family members that have occurred in the past year or so. These unmended problems cause a bit of stress for me and have actually strained relationships with family members of my own.  \n\nHow can I break up with gf of two years? When she lives in my apartment, the majority of the possessions in the apartment are mine. She owns the decorations,  the bed, and various knickknacks. I own the electronics , couches, bureaus, etc.,", "summary": "unattracted with gf, wish to break up, my name is on lease most possessions are mine, she has no car, how do I break up!?"}
{"id": "t3_2e4wpz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [32/f] need help understanding the lack of affection from my significant other [39/m]", "post": "Hi everyone. I am involved in a serious long-term relationship with a man that I live with and share my life with that I love very much. By nature, I am a very loving and affectionate person and I really enjoy being intimate with my partner and showing him how much I care through words and romantic gestures. My dude, on the other hand, doesn't seem to feel comfortable with showing affection, either in public or when we're alone. For instance, when I try to hug him he often starts playing around, making suggestive movements (don't want to be too crude, I'm sure you can picture this). Also, when I go to kiss him he will often lower his head and let me kiss him on top of it, which has kind of become our thing. When I try to hold hands he does not reciprocate, often letting his hand go limp. I know that I should talk to him about this, but I don't know how to broach the subject. Or is this something I can work on from my end? I have mentioned to him in the past how it makes me feel unloved because of his lack of affection. He has said that he shows his love in other ways, such as making me dinner every night, helping with our dog, running errands for us, etc. My relationships in the past have usually been very affectionate so I'm not sure how to deal with this type of personality. Any advice anyone has would be very much appreciated!", "summary": "boyfriend has trouble showing affection, not sure how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_3amiah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my ex [19 M] 2 years and a half, what to do?", "post": "We broke up in january because he couldn't see me in his future. He thought he needed to focus on his goals and ambitions. We still saw each other in class so we were friends for awhile. School ended on June 5th and we haven't talked since until he contacted me recently because he was doing badly. He said he kept thinking about me and that he was sad because he felt lost. He got expelled from school and he didn't know who to talk to. \n\nI went to his house and we talked it out and he said he still loved me and cared for me. He told me he wants to make a lot of money on the stock market to travel around the world and he wants me there with him. I plan on going to university in the fall and it doesn't seem like our paths are heading in the same direction.\n\nI feel stupid because I just backslided and now it'll take more time to get over and I'm all sad again because he said he loved me and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_n5jnr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College students who take adderall  to study even though they are not prescribed it...", "post": "I go to the only school in the country with a CVS on the actual campus (Its one of the top 5 grossing CVS's in the world). It was just announced there that they can no longer fill adderall prescriptions because the government shut it down their prescription rights for it. Apparently, they have prescribed unbelievably high amounts of adderall at that store in the last few years, far more than ever before. I know a lot of people here who take it, but I've never tried it and I don't want to. I'm not sure if its like this everywhere.", "summary": "Do a lot of people at your college take adderall to study?"}
{"id": "t3_2j9w3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] just kissed my Ex GF [20F] after we'd been broken up for a month.", "post": "We had been dating for almost 3 years. She broke up with me about a month ago because she wasn't sure what she wanted and We'd been together since high school.\n\nWe met up after a month so we could exchange some stuff we had left at each other's place. Long story short we ended up talking and kissing and it was just like old times.\n\nShe ended up saying some things that sort of suggested she might be interested in getting back together.\n\nWe had both rebounded to some extent.\n\nI have no idea what to do, I'm still in love with her but I don't want to go through another breakup if she changes her mind again", "summary": "Met up to exchange belongings, kissed, now pondering getting back together"}
{"id": "t3_1pe330", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you were starting a local non-profit which would provide middle-school-aged kids a place to learn basic programming after school(HTML, CSS, Javascript, etc.), what would you name it? (a.k.a - we're starting one and need a name!)", "post": "As you have more than likely deduced from the title(for the love of God I hope you did at least), we are starting a new non-profit in South FL. Our goal is to provide middle-school-aged kids from our area a place they can come after school a few days a week(we will have schedules for ages/classes) and learn the basics of web/mobile design and programming(and intermediate classes as well).\n\nOur number one goal is to provide this for free to kids in low-income households, heck even families making 60k a year in South FL still cannot afford more than a small 2 bedroom apartment with the cost of living down here, forget about the cost of sending your kid to get programming lessons. We will have a small fee for kids whose families can afford it (our initial thought is around $100 a month).\n\nWe already have a location central to the schools in our area, and easy to get to from anywhere. We are working on getting the necessary licenses and completing the needed paperwork... and here is where we need our name.\n\nThe foreseeable future will be digital and children who can get a head start in learning the basics of programming and web/mobile design will have a distinct advantage as they continue to grow into productive members of our society. We want to provide an avenue that would not be available to these kids otherwise--many of which do not even have a computer or the internet at home. If they can get a head start, they can improve their situation in life, and maybe they will have an idea they bring to fruition that improves the lives of people everywhere... that's our dream at least.", "summary": "Reddit, our new non-profit needs a name--please help us, or live the rest of your life in a miserable guilt ridden existence."}
{"id": "t3_19nrro", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Some advice for an inexperienced 17 year old male needed.", "post": "Ok so here's the situation.I went to this fancy dress party last friday with a friend and some girlfriends(platonic) and met the girl[also 17] in question , shes friends with my buddy.So we talked a bit there , she payed quite a bit of attention to me throughout the event and asked me for my facebook username which i gave her.So she added me on facebook , needless to say i accepted , we talked quite a lot firstly just about general stuff but i had a hunch she liked me.So yesterday night she asks me if i have anything going on relationship wise and i said that i'm not in a relationship but have someone on my mind and she actually asked who she knew her and offered to talk to her(i'm pretty sure that's weird or is that just me) i kindly declined.And today(monday) while chatting(light flirting) she asks me maybe i'm actually into her and not the other girl, i was kinda surprised and replied by saying we should go out some time and see.\n\n * So now to the actual questions: Did i handle it well in general? Should i go out with her?(I guess i have nothing to lose right?) keep in mind she is generally attractive physically but i don't feel like i know enough about her. What is your general opinion on how she behaved after her knowing i was into someone else.\n \n* Note i have little to no experience with relationships so anything is helpful! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Met a girl a few days ago she hit me up on facebook seems interested should i follow up?But please read above for a better perspective."}
{"id": "t3_3cgzog", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you talk to someone who's angry?", "post": "In my family, there's a lot of yelling and fighting, which annoys me because I only want to get what I want to say out. If someone else is trying to 'talk' the other person gets louder because that seems to cancel them out. I want to know how to talk to someone who's angry so that they'll calm the hell down and see things rationally, without getting defensive, sad, mad, or anything in between. I literally just want to be able to converse about something people have differing opinions about, without it turning into a huge fight.\n\nSorry for the wall of text,", "summary": "How do you converse with someone about differing opinions without it turning into an argument?"}
{"id": "t3_11xk1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [22m] and I [22f] are from different worlds--will it last?", "post": "I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for six months, and as things are starting to get serious, I'm starting to question whether or not we might last in the long-run or not... In the first few months we were dating, I thought about not seeing him anymore because I felt like we were from two totally different worlds. I was very interested in everything he talked about but a lot of the stuff was very foreign to me. We have different tastes in food, music, and culture (I'm Asian and grew up in a very traditional Asian household, he's white-ish/European)...\n\nDespite this, we continued seeing each other and things are going well, although, at times, I feel a little wary because I feel like we don't totally click. I can imagine him with a girl who shares his culture and can be more comfortable with and who not only laughs at his jokes but can play along as well (if that makes sense... I'm terrible with English).\n\nWe get along, we don't have major issues nor do we have any conflicting beliefs, and I know he cares about me a lot and he does a lot of things to show it and he even said during a recent argument (it was about me and some issues... typical gf whining...) that he's \"ready to settle\" (not sure if he means SETTLE settle or settle as in be more serious... hope he means the latter for now), but I can't help but wonder if we would last because of this culture-clash. Also, I'm his first girlfriend and although he says he knows what he wants (me), I'm afraid that he hasn't experienced enough to REALLY know... I love him a lot as a person and if it works out, I would be very happy, but I'm afraid that I might bore him eventually...  Will this bring up issues in the future if we stay together?", "summary": "I [22F] always hear stuff about how people and their SO's are like puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly, so I'm wondering if my bf [22m] and I are a good match considering we're from two different worlds..."}
{"id": "t3_3gd2me", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] and my ex [21M] are going travelling together in three weeks...am I overthinking things?", "post": "For some backstory, I lived on campus for uni. My ex ended up moving in next door to me and we quickly became really close. He was on exchange for a year from a university in England, and we hit it off FAST.\n\nBecause of the fact that our units were next to each other, we ended up living together. We cooked together, stayed together every night, studied together etc. But we knew that he would be have to go back to England to complete his Masters. We discussed this early into the relationship, and decided on a mutual breakup for when he leaves. At the time I thought, \"yeah, I can handle this. I have a lot of time to prepare, we'll just enjoy this while it lasts.\"\nI was very wrong. We fell so in love with one another, and he became my best friend. He's been back in England for almost two months now, but we still talk like we are a couple, and we ended up planning a trip together. In about three weeks, I am going to England for two weeks to travel with him (his suggestion, but we had both talked about it before)\n\nI'm not really sure how to approach the time in between, before I go to England. We act like a couple, skyping/messaging (he recently sent me a letter telling me he loved me and a handmade bookmark from a tree in his garden) but we haven't explicitly talked about what this is. \n\nI mean, I don't know if we are casually seeing other people? Just the other night he said he was meeting a female friend to catch up, but he messaged me when he got home and that was almost 5 am his time and kind of left a bad taste in my mouth, because I automatically assumed things, despite how every other day he tells me he misses me and talks about all the things he is planning for when I am there.  \n\nDo I wait until I'm there to have that conversation about what this is? I know communication is absolutely key, but I don't want to risk awkwardness/disappointment before going there, and sometimes things are miss-communicated when not talking face to face.\nAdvice?", "summary": "met english guy, fell in love, broke up because he moved back, now we are going to travel together and I don't know what to do about the time in between."}
{"id": "t3_1wrc83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] got left behind by my [24F] SO for no reason.", "post": "First time ever submitting, I just need some extra advice on this!\n\nI dated this girl, let's call her C, for about a year. We never made things official but we were loyal to each other (as far as I know...). Things were amazing, we went out a lot, never fought, and had great chemistry. Then it all ended.\n\nShe was having family and work issues so things weren't too great at her home. She was being distant and I knew something wasn't right. I get a text from her saying how she thinks it's best for us to be friends \"for now\" because too much was going on and she couldn't handle dating. I completely understood and figured I should support her. But things just got really messy afterwards. \n\nI would find out she'd be talking to other girls, flirting and even opened up her dating profile again. I felt like she was trying to move on and meet new people. She kept insisting that she wasn't looking for anything but her actions showed otherwise. I even found out that she ended up hooking up with a friend she visited on the East coast, this was while we were still sort of hooking up too.\n\nI asked her what exactly happened between us, if I did anything wrong because it was just so sudden. She kept insisting that I did nothing wrong. I was amazing to her, treated her amazingly and it was nothing against me. I can't wrap my head around that. She's told me I'm everything she looks for in a SO but yet it was so easy for her to just leave. \n\nWe had stopped talking because she ended up getting back together with her ex (before me). None of her actions make sense to me. She keeps insisting I did nothing wrong but I can't help but feel like something must've happened. I think me not knowing makes it harder to let her go. We are talking again, sort of, but I just don't know what to do, or think.", "summary": "SO left me after a year, didn't give me a real reason why, says I'm everything she wants in a girlfriend but only sees me as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_2nse40", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be smooth and getting caught", "post": "Well this happened last night actually. Im 19 and in college at my local University and my ex girlfriend came into town for the holiday weekend. Great I can easily get some ex sex if I just go out to dinner with her or something. However lately I have been seeing this other girl and really been putting effort into it but we have been busy so its been going slowly which means it makes even more sense for me to get ex sex. \n\nHeres the fuck up: my ex decides on a restaurant in-between both of our houses. We meet up and have dinner (a super casual restaurant) we both pay separately. Things are going well and she seems like she is interested so I think finally going to end my dry spell. Well I look behind me and see my friend who is also good friends with this girl I have been seeing. He is in a group of people. Right as my ex ask me about my love life lately they all pick a table still not noticing me but picked a table right in front of me. Then the first one looks up and then they all do. Long story short I freaked out got caught with my pants down didn't end up with ex sex and now I probably lost the girl I have been talking to.", "summary": "Got caught with my pants down"}
{"id": "t3_nhwng", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lawyers or anyone that has dealt with the court system.", "post": "I recently took a plea bargain and part of it was to do 18 of community service and pay a fine, I have done both of those within a 2 month period, but one part of the deal was that I have to wait 6 months for my next court date (which I can't do because I only have a seasonal job and can't get hired anywhere else because the charges show up on my record) I made sure that when I did my community services I did the best job I could and they loved me so much they gave me a thank you card and a recommendation card for the judge. My question is what advice can you give me to try to get the judge to dismiss my case earlier?", "summary": "I am trying to dismiss my case earlier then my next court date, I already completed all the community service hours."}
{"id": "t3_2r37yb", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Are scholarships and grants awarded per semester or year?", "post": "I am starting my third semester of college soon and do not quite understand how grants/scholarships work.\n\nMy first was in the previous academic school year over the summer and I just completed my second at the start of the current academic year.\n\nFrom what I've read online it sounds like scholarships and grants are awarded one time a year, but are split up into two parts and refunded to you in those parts at the start of each semester.\n\nSo I got ~$2,500 from just the Pell Grant last semester(which went straight into my bank because scholarships pay for it all), does that mean ill get another check of ~$2,500 at the start of this upcoming semester or was that first check all i get for the year? The wording on the sites for these grants is a little strange.", "summary": "Are grants split into 2 parts and given to me at separate times throughout the academic year or is all of it given at the start?"}
{"id": "t3_13rpku", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How many of you search for jobs and opportunities daily until you feel sick?", "post": "I have been doing tons of job searching lately with the rest of my graduating peers and I am noticing we all have the same issue. We research job sites until we are just strung out on stress. Some sites are truly better than others are, but for the most part, they lack the one thing we are all looking for a direct connection to hope.\n\nI want to start a website just for people to post their background education/training/other, their current job, their job search process sites/interviews/etc, how they feel they got their job, and etc. Distill down the actual details of what a candidate similar to the one who posted their experience can expect to fair. There is just too much voodoo job-hunting out there. People can post if the entry-level position they applied to really wanted 5 years of experience or if they walked in fresh faced and were told not to worry. I want a site for average people seeking employment to come and find out the truth. My wife even says that further down the road we could integrate connections where you can offer to mentor a certain number of similarly people to yourself and help them enter into jobs at your company or others that may be of the same industry.\n\nThere is just too much BS out there and people are getting sick of it. I want to make a job site by the people and for the people.\n\nIs there a site like this? In addition, if I just small budget it and build it in wordpress or phpbb will people come? How should I lay it out?\n\nI really want to help people because I do not like the suffering going on right now.", "summary": "People are suffering and breaking down in the current rotten job search machine. I want to help them. Will my help be accepted and utilized?"}
{"id": "t3_51icvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22M), just got out of a 2 year relationship where I lived with her (20f) for pretty much the entire time, went on a few dates, don't know how to feel anymore?", "post": "She left about a month and a half ago then I went away on orders with the army. Ever since I've gotten home to the empty house though everything feels completely empty. I got used to living with her, then the boys when I was with the army, and now it's like nothing. I only got one local friend left cause the rest moved away and so it kinda just piled up on me. So anyway, I went on a date today, and I've gone on a few others but I feel nothing towards these girls, almost like I'm numb. I'm not sure if I'm just emotionally overwhelmed or if this is normal? I feel completely lost lol and I'm not too sure where to turn or if this is normal and I just need to power through it?", "summary": "got out of a 2 yr live in relationship and I feel completely lost. Gone on a few dates but felt absolutely nothing. Is this feeling normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3z1wtc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25m] approach my sister [23f] about dating her friend [24f]?", "post": "I am looking for advice on how I should approach my sister about dating one of her good friends. I am not looking for an opinion on whether or not it's a good idea. \n\nMyself and said female spent some time together recently (innocently) and have seemed to have hit it off. We are both obviously attracted to one another and interested in seeing where things go. She is one of my sister's very good friends and I don't want to move forward without her blessing. Does anyone have any advice on how I can approach my sister about moving forward with hanging out with this girl on a more personal level?", "summary": "Hit it off with my sister's good friend. Interested in pursuing. Need advice on asking my sister for her blessing."}
{"id": "t3_4lty4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] moving away to college leaving girlfriend [17F] of 2 years at home. Long distance advice?", "post": "I will start off by saying my girlfriend and I live 40 minutes away from each other, and we see each other once a week (twice if we're lucky). But that is not the long distance part. I am going away to college next year and my girlfriend is staying home to play hockey. The college I am attending is 8 hours away from home. Safe to say we will rarely see each other during the school/hockey season. I really see a future with my girlfriend and I want things to work. What advice can you give me/us? How can things be easier and how can we maintain our healthy relationship?", "summary": "Moving 8 hours away from girlfriend, wanting advice on how to keep the relationship from going under."}
{"id": "t3_h5cad", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question about Fair Use related to using copyrighted music. Can I use this music in a video that I make for the purposes of reviewing/ commenting on said music? (Re-post from self.AskAcademia)", "post": "I am just starting a website for a project I am doing where I am listening to music albums that I normally wouldn't listen to and trying to appreciate them, and basically doing a review of what I thought of them, if I liked them, etc. Doing this to expand my music library, practice writing reviews, learn about different types of music, and just to have fun. Since I'm not really that familiar with Fair Use Laws in the USA, my question is this: Can I use portions of the music from the albums I listen to in a \"video review,\" type thing? What is or is not Fair Use in this type of situation? Any knowledge on Fair Use is appreciated. I'm finding limited information out there, but I know there are people in the Reddit community who know this stuff so I'm putting it out there. Come on Reddit! Will you help me out?", "summary": "See title -OR- Looking for any information on Fair Use related to using Copyrighted Music in a \"Video Review,\" type video."}
{"id": "t3_3r40xj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my girlfriend [29 F] 15 months, is it right to breakup because I still am not over my ex and I know it hurts her?", "post": "I've been with her a little over a year. She's gorgeous, she's amazingly supportive. I love her. I'm 1000% sure of that. The problem is, I'm not sure I'm IN love with her. I love her SO much that I want to make sure I do what's best for her. I've hurt her a lot during our relationship without ever meaning to, simply because when we met, I was not with my ex anymore but still in love with my ex ( pronouns are hard with a lot of \"hers\", so I'll try to stick to \"her\" for my current girlfriend and use \"my ex\" otherwise). But I was very into her and tried to move on with her. But it's been, as I mentioned, a year and a half and I still am not entirely over my ex, to a degree I can't even hide. I just am sad a lot. Or I bring my ex up in conversation despite trying to remember not to (we were together for a long time, 7 years). And I know it hurts her. But the only alternative is to hide it, which feels extremely insincere. I can't even tell if it will ever get better or go away. How can I stop hurting her? I want to, but I don't feel like I can even trust my own healing process here. Is the only right thing to do to leave her and be alone and... just wait until I get back to neutral?\nI hate that my last relationship feels like it's poisoning my current one.", "summary": "How do I get over my ex enough to be with this new person? Does the fact that I struggle with this, on its own, mean I should leave her?"}
{"id": "t3_134una", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Route suggestion TX to MN", "post": "I've always harbored an unexplicable fascination with the united states. However while my peers might be inclined to visit NYC or LA, I find the parts in between simply incredible.\n\nI want to see every state, but my student-economy doesnt allow an all to extravagant holiday. I want to visit Texas and Minnesota, those are my only two \"demands\" but they're not set in stone, I want a route which would take 3-4 weeks to complete using amtrak and greyhound. \n\nSuggestions for activities along the way would be awesome, I love the outdoors and epic landscapes. I dont want to party in Chicago, I want to experince the real USA! so please Reddit help me.", "summary": "Route suggestion through the US, 3-4 weeks using Amtrak and Greyhound"}
{"id": "t3_3gl6ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] am not into physical fitness how do I politely reject the \"fitness date\" (hiking, biking, rock climbing) and still get a date with the guy?", "post": "I'm 26, attractive (very pretty eyes is what I've been told), educated, good job (I'm a paralegal between jobs right now) and am a very fashionable and cognizant of my style. I'm also fat. I don't mind using this word because it is what I am.\n\nMy problem is that at least in this town every time a girl like me gets asked out, the proposed date ALWAYS involves something physical fitness oriented. Hiking in the mountains, the rock climbing gym and riding bikes along the river path are all things I've heard dozens of times. I do not enjoy working out at all, and will never be into it, but I almost feel like as a fat girl these date proposals are some sort of test of like \"oh she agreed , the pretty fat girl might lose weight!\" or \"she said no, she's committed to being unhealthy.\" (I am perfectly healthy, all of my blood pressure cholesterol measurements are perfect). \n\nI am looking for a way to reject these dates while not rejecting the guy. I'm a lot of fun, I love the rave/EDM scene and love nice dinners, love the movies and cuddling while watching TV is my favorite thing in the world.", "summary": "how do I reject the proposed date while not rejecting the guy?"}
{"id": "t3_53dpvb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F39) mum (F67) is very mean to me and my husband (M37) about our career choices.", "post": "My mother has always been a mixed bag. She's borderline mean a lot but I don't want to cut her out... When i was 18 I decided instead of going to law school like my mum wanted me to I went to study to become a teacher. ( I now am a teacher) ever since then she constantly berates me that I \"can do better\" and that I'm going to be poor (even though I have a masters degree-meaning I get paid more then most teachers) she also says \"I'm wasting my life\" and that she \"raised me to be successful, not babysit kids\" she also is mean to my husband who is a teacher-librarian at a elementary school ( I teach high school) she says \" I could have married a more successful man if I wanted to\" it makes me so so fucking sad. I've considered cutting off contact with her but my son loves her ( and she's very good and nice and awesome) with my son. Just not me and my husband.. I don't know what to do...", "summary": "my mum is mean to me and my husband but super nice to my son. I have no clue what to do."}
{"id": "t3_10vz6s", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "What is wrong with me?", "post": "Reddit, I'm probably going to get a lot of ridicule for this, but so be it.\n\nMy ex(19F) broke up with me(19m) early July of 2012, and I'm still hurting bad from the breakup.\n\nA few things, firstly, we both go to the same college and I occasionally see her on campus with her new bf.\n\nsecond, she broke up with me, the breakup was not mutual, and after finding out that she started dating a guy two days after our breakup that she met online while we were dating threw me for a loop and I didn't want to be friends with her and we both exchanged harsh words.\n\nThirdly, she was my first(yes virginity but also first longest and most serious relationship I have ever had)\n\nFourth, we had plans on moving in together over the summer and even talked of engagement (yes we were both mutually get much in love and she seemed to talk about our future more than I did)\n\nFith, she is now engaged to her new bf of a few weeks.\n\nSixth, the relationship lasted more than a year and a half, I knew her for two years.\n\nShe has moved on 100% and I feel like I need a doctor and a bottle to hurry myself in. I'm not at all my usual self and my friends have noticed but just tell me to move on. I wish I could move on, but it's so hard, I can't just flip a switch. I loved her with everything and she just walked away... But I was still happier with her than I am without her, and that's what it boils down to.\n\nI don't know what I'm expecting, certainly not any magic words that will fix everything, but we will see.", "summary": "Having the worst time trying to get over a bad breakup with my ex(the most serious relationship I've had)"}
{"id": "t3_22n0qc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [26/m] am worried I don't love her [26/f] enough", "post": "The other night, my gf (26) told me (26m) she doesn't feel like we spend enough time together, and that she doesn't feel that she's very high on my list of priorities.\n\nThe trouble is, I'm somewhere in the middle. I'm not head-over-heels in love with her; she's not dwelling in my every thought. But I do love her; I think she is a wonderful person. I enjoy spending time around her. I want to make her happy and make her feel as special as she makes me feel. But I'm also incredibly busy. I also deeply cherish my alone time. I pretty much constantly feel like I'm running around. \n\nStill, I've made sure to have some manner of dedicated date night each week, as well as a night or two where we stay together or tag along to one another's functions/events/shows/gatherings. On average, I'd say we see one another three times a week.\n\nEven more frustrating is that she often outright rejects some of the nice things I try to say. She'll cringe or roll her eyes when I compliment her, and even the other night said she didn't believe me when I said I'd been looking forward to seeing her all day. At first, it was kind of sweetly self-effacing, but I'm starting to feel undercut, like I'm just fighting this uphill battle to let her know she's special to me. \n\nWriting this out, it sounds like she's in the wrong, but I truly feel guilty about how disproportionate our relationship is. I think I am making an effort, and I do nice things and try to show that I'm thinking of her, but I'm still constantly aware of how much more she likes me and how much more invested she seems in the relationship than I am.\n\nI know this is kinda a lot of stuff with no concrete issue and a lot going on at once; any insight would be appreciated.", "summary": "I love her, but she, like *loves* me, and now I'm worried I'm hurting her."}
{"id": "t3_u9uzs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors that have received an OWI, what's your story?", "post": "First off, I'm not bragging about anything, and I'm very disappointed in myself and learned my lesson. I was 18 years old in high school, and we had a snow day from school. My buddies called me and said \"let's drink, my parents are at work and I want to have beer cracked by noon\", so I said let's do it. It was a Wednesday. I had to work at 4:00, but figured I'd have a couple. I was young and dumb, and ended up getting completely hammered playing minefield all afternoon (a game consisting of a lot of drinking). I don't know why I did it but I kept drinking, and left my friends house at 3:30. On my way to work, I dropped my ipod on the floor while changing the song and began deviating into the lane next to me, thank god nobody was around, except for the police officer behind me who immediately pulled me over. He came up to the car and could smell the alcohol immediately, and the entire process for the DUI began there (sobriety test, cuffed up and put in the back of the cop car and brought to the hospital for a blood test). My father picked me up with a cigar in his mouth, a month after he had quit smoking. When I asked why he was smoking, he responded \"You made me\", the utmost disappointment I've ever experienced in my life. I learned my lesson and it'll never happen again. Everybody in school heard about it, and I had to call my boss to tell him I wasn't making it to work, and for some reason or another he didn't fire me, and I can't imagine what would have happened if he had since I had this hefty fine, alcohol assessment and class, ridiculously high car insurance and towing fees to pay. I'm extremely thankful I didn't hurt anybody and I learned my lesson when I was young.", "summary": "I got a DUI at the age of 18 on the way to work at 4 in the afternoon on a Wednesday, lesson learned."}
{"id": "t3_wpou4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently stumbled upon hard times after my wife left me. I have a complicated financial question...", "post": "So about six years ago I met this girl in Paris. She was a banker back in the U.S., and (due to the city we were in, I imagine!) we fell quickly in love. Six months later we were married (I know, bad idea) and we actually stayed that way for 4 and a half years. Pretty decent, but about a year ago she decided she liked one of her coworkers more and filed for divorce. Chances are she was cheating on my the whole time and I was too smitten to realize it I guess.\n\nEverything was finalized about three months ago and I signed off on it. She moved out two months after that (around a month ago) and took with her our main source of income, our car, and most of our assets. I got to keep the house at least.\n\nSo, she brought in most of the house's income and now I'm stuck financially. I have a big bill coming up that I'm tied to due to an annuity, and I NEED to get it paid so I don't go into foreclosure. What can I do?", "summary": "[I have an annuity and I need cash now.]("}
{"id": "t3_3gixkg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[13M] My grandmother [56F] recently started smoking after already having quit years ago, trying to make her stop.", "post": "My grandmother (whom I live with, if that's important at all), a very interesting lady, has recently started smoking again. For about a year or two she didn't smoke, which ironically enough she decided to do herself, and as far as I know, she quit cold turkey.\n\nRecently, however, she's taken it up as a habit again, and I'm really worried for her health. I've learned many of times about all of the harmful effects that cigarettes have on your body, and my grandmother has already beat cancer once (when I was too young to remember) and I really don't want to have to endure that again.\n\nShe always smokes out on our front porch, so it's relatively easy to catch her smoking when I'm around the house, but I start school in a few days and I know she'll use that time to smoke when I'm not home. Even when I am around, she gets really mad whenever I catch her. Apparently, me forcing her to put out the cigarette and lecturing her about how she can die is not enough to make her quit like she did before.\n\nIs there anything I can do to make her stop? I'm really worried that she could get ill, and I'm not really at a position where I'm ready to lose another parent. (referring to my biological parents, my grandfather is still around but only on the weekends and is seemingly okay with the smoking)", "summary": "My grandmother recently started smoking again after a few years of being clean. Trying to convince her to stop, but she's too stubborn to listen to anything I say."}
{"id": "t3_3cfm9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend(27M) of just over a year joined a social/dating website a month ago. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Ok, so I know my boyfriend has a fetish for thicker, curvy women and with round stomachs (pregnant included). At first I wasn't too worried about it because everyone has things they're into but I'm a slender girl and always have been. \n\nJust this morning, I saw an email pop up on his screen for a social/dating site called Feabie and the email was for account activation... and he did activate it last month according to the welcome invite. \n\nI automatically feel betrayed and angry, why would he need to join a social/dating site of any nature? I'm not comfortable with the fact that he's most likely on there to get off or make new 'friends'. \n\nI don't want to appear like I was snooping, because I wasn't, it just popped up on the screen. But I also feel I need to address this because it's already starting to brew negative feelings towards him. He makes comments way too often about how much he dislikes fat, and how he wouldn't date a fat girl but here he is on a new \"feeding\" social/dating site... wtf?", "summary": "BF has fetish for round stomachs/curvy/thick women. He recently joined a social/ dating website for this. Should I be angry or concerned? How do I talk to him about this?"}
{"id": "t3_23m9va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] still cannot get over my ex from a year ago and am in a relationship with someone else", "post": "So i'll try and keep this short.  Last year I met the girl of my dreams, she was the only girl in my entire life I legitimately enjoyed talking to, and would use any excuse I could to do so.  We went out for a bit and it was amazing at first but I was so head over heels I said and did some really embaressing things, got clingy and made an idiot of myself like I had no idea I was capable of.  Looking back I would have broke up with me too I looked like a nutcase.  Fast forward a year later, I've been seeing this girl for a little over 3 months and I can tell things are getting serious from her end.  And while I really liked her at first and enjoy being with her, along with everything that comes with it, I still can't get past my ex.  Everything she does I just remember how my ex did it and how much more in tune I was with it.  Everything she did just made so much sense to me, and this one (even though she is great and I am happy with the time I've spent with her) just doesn't make me feel that way.  \n\nHow can I get some closure on this? I'm not sure if I'm not interested in her or if it is just a barrier I'm putting up due to not getting over my ex.", "summary": "can't get over my ex, in a happy, healthy relationship but don't ever feel the way about her that I did for my ex"}
{"id": "t3_3jfbkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] have disturbing sexual fantasies", "post": "I have been dating my bf [22 M] for a little over a year. Everything is going great, and we just moved in together. We haven't had an big setbacks or fights. I am worried about myself though. (NSFW) \n\nI have been having very disturbing sexual fantasies lately. I have been thinking of pleasuring a high school aged boy. I have thought of cheating. I have thought of flashing strangers. And much more. They aren't urges. I WILL NOT EVER ACT OUT ON THEM. I am still worried though.\n\nIs this something my bf should be aware of? I dont wanna lose him, but I want to be honest too. Again, I will never do any of these things, is this even worth talking to a professional over? Thanks for the help guys", "summary": "Sex fantasies are disturbing me"}
{"id": "t3_nwpuy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats your worst pick-pocketing experience?", "post": "Last night I was at a club in NYC. I was moderately tipsy but not enough that I was sloppy. I was talking to a girl and I went to grab my phone to get her number and it was gone. When I got home I logged into find my iphone and it was located on 27th and Broadway. Unfortunately the phone was turned off shortly after. I took a cab to get over there and there was a wireless shop right where it was pinpointed. The manger said there was a man trying to sell an iphone but he doesnt buy iphones due to the fact that most chances are they are stolen. Thats where the trail ends. Im now using a shitty go phone that cant even text.", "summary": "went to a club, phone stolen. No trail left behind."}
{"id": "t3_2ltzfc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dating a crazy.", "post": "As usual, this did not happen today, or even this year. Probably was about 4 years ago, making me around 15.\nI'd been dating this girl (let's call her Emma) on and off for about a year, and by nature of being a stupid 15 year old male, didn't decide to bail permanently during any of the previous breakups.\n\nSo about a month after we get back together once more, I'm at her house, hanging with her and a pair of mutual friends.\nOne of these friends decides to make what he decided was a hilarious comment comparing the nearby beach to the wet spot that had developed on her whilst sitting on my lap.\n\nI laughed.\n\nShe promptly decided to hop up, and walk into the kitchen. Nothing unusual yet, so I'm sitting talking about stupid teenage stuff with my friend, whilst her friend has gone to check on her in the kitchen. They've been in there for a while when my friend decided he's gonna leave, and so I'm left alone, which suits me fine because my teenage brain is hoping I'll get time alone with Emma.\n\nAbout a minute later, Emma emerges with a butchers knife and a smile. It was not a great combination. Her friend is in the hallway behind her, she's watching in a bit of shocked horror. Sensing that my welcome had run out, I stood up, at which point Emma announced she was going to castrate me as a punishment for being a horny teenager.\n\nThe following few moments of my comprehension of the statement and my rapid running the fuck away from her passed very quickly, and in my rush I took a wrong turn and ended up in a linen closet. Fuck.\n\nTurns out that as she was chasing me, her friend tried to grab her arm, got nicked by the knife, and went into shock.\nEmma breaks out of crazy mode and calls out for help. Apparently her protective instincts only extend to her female friends.\n\nAnyway, I end up consoling her friend whilst we wait for her mum to arrive and drive her to the hospital on the pretext of a cooking accident with knives.\n\nNow heres where it gets really bad. I still dated her for another year or so.", "summary": "dated a crazy, MY friend unintentionally set her against me, she chases me with knife, cuts HER friend, I have to act as councilor because she's in shock. Still didn't break up with crazy."}
{"id": "t3_25l9o9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19F] 4 years, Help me look ahead", "post": "I have been in love with this girl for a number of years, we have a really strong history together. We've been friends since the 8th grade, dating since early highschool. But we've grown together, she was there through my moms alcoholism, I was there for her emotionally abusive mother. She dealt with my religious turmoil, I dealt with her trust issues. We've even broken up, dated other people, and concluded that we simply prefer each other over the rest of the population. It's so corny and cliche that we were each others first kiss, first love, first lovers. I'd gag if I wasn't so in love with her. Anyway, I feel a little in over my head. \n\nI'm worried i'm not equipped to handle a relationship of this caliber. I have no doubts regarding my commitment to her or whether we are right for each other, I'm just worried that I'll be young and dumb and muck it up. Am I worrying for nothing? Are there common mistakes that people make in the transition to long term relationships?", "summary": "We've drug each other through some shit, still love each other, how will I fuck it up if I fuck it up?"}
{"id": "t3_4hc0xw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [16M] try to get back together with my ex [16F]?", "post": "First time posting here, sorry if I screwed something up.\n\nAbout a year ago my girlfriend of roughly 6 months broke up with me. It wasn't the perfect relationship. We both made mistakes, but I really loved her.\n\nA few weeks before the breakup she started being very distant and quiet. I tried talking to her, but she just never wanted to say anything to me. She just shut down whenever I tried to talk to her.\n\nThe breakup was nothing noteworthy. She just walked up to me one day, said she was done with it, and left. It really broke me down and I spent a very long time moping.\n\nThe following months were summer vacation, so we didn't have much contact and I just went around being sad. \n\nThe first few months of school were really tough for me because we have many mutual friends and classes so we saw each other a lot. The only contact we had were occasional glances and uncomfortable conversations between classes.\n\nThen she started dating one of my close friends. Seeing her move on really hurt, but I knew I couldn't get mad about it. I tried to find love in someone else, but there was nobody that made me feel like she did. Their relationship ended after about two months.\n\nIn recent months, we've been having longer conversations and I'm much more comfortable with her now. One thing I have noticed is that she talks to me more if we're alone, not really if there are many people around. I'm getting mixed signals from her.\n\nMy friends have encouraged me to ask her out again, one of which is the guy she dated after breaking up with me. We are both different people and I've learned a lot, so I know I can be better to her than before. I still care about her, and I feel like a part of her still cares about me.\n\nOne of my worries if I do this is that she'll just shut down again one day. Once that happens it's like she puts up a wall that is impossible to break down. \n\nI am overly analytical and I've been running through this in my mind for months with no results. I need help making a decision.", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me a year ago. I still care about her, but I don't know if she does. Should I ask her out again?"}
{"id": "t3_4hly6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] my [22 M] friend is being a total wad, but he's so passive aggressive about it that I don't know what to do about it?", "post": "So I have this friend, we've known each other for about 3 years now, and at this point I don't even know if we're friends anymore.\nWe have a lot of mutual friends, I mean A LOT we always end up hanging out in bigger groups of people and we're not that close that we've ever hung out on our own, but I still consider him a friend.\n\nOver the past year or so I've noticed this pattern with him where I'll say something and he'll subtlely put it down, either just by ignoring it, saying something vaguely offensive or changing the subject. The recent incident I am thinking of, we have a group chat on facebook with a lot of our mutual friends and after I sent a couple messages he LEFT the chat. The things he's doing are the sort of thing where, if it were an isolated incident I would think I was misunderstanding something, but it's happened so often I can't ignore it anymore.\n\nNormally, if someone is being passive-aggressive towards me I would confront them straight-up, but he's not being so direct that I can point out exactly what he says that makes me upset. I also feel like, I don't even know if he considers ME to be his friend. I feel we definitely were friends in the past but have grown apart partly because of this?\n\nI feel like my other option is to just cut him out entirely. Stop inviting him to group friends and ask mutual friends to warn me when he's invited to their stuff, but I don't want to do that without saying something directly to him, otherwise I'M being the one who's passive aggressive.", "summary": "Friend is being passive aggressive, not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_53l0i0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "People are giving me [25F] a hard time about my boyfriend [26M] and I not wanting to move in together.", "post": "My boyfriend Robert and I have been together for two years this coming October. Last November, he moved to another city 3 hours away for a better paying job, but he totally regrets the decision and now is actively looking for jobs in the city that I live and we met in.\n\nI just graduated from college in August and I'm currently renting out a room in a couple's townhouse, but have already started making arrangements to move in with a girl friend after she graduates from college in January. Naturally, since I'm in a LDR and just graduated, people ask me questions about how Robert and I are doing and what I'm doing next. After I tell them that my boyfriend is moving back, they ask if we're moving in together. I say no, and most people are pretty shocked, asking me why wouldn't I want to move in together since we must miss each other so much? People will actively engage in a conversation with me about how weird we are and it really annoys me. I never thought people would be so shocked at mine and Robert's decision.\n\nRobert and I have talked about the possibility of moving in together and we both agree that neither of us are ready. We're both trying to build our careers and think that going from LDR to living together is way too drastic of a change. Also, Robert broke up with me last year around my birthday; we got back together six weeks after. Although I've forgiven him, I still have suppressed feelings about it and deep down it still hurts a bit. I'd be lying if I said that doesn't factor into my decision not to move in together just now.\n \nMy question is, what's the typical timetable for a couple to live together? I know every couple is different, but what is the general consensus? Also, we're not the type of couple that needs to be married before we move in together, that much we know for sure.", "summary": "People feel some type of way about my boyfriend and I not moving in together. What's the general timeframe for couples to cohabitate?"}
{"id": "t3_zkuyt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[m20] I have mingling problems", "post": "As title states, I simply have mingling issues. Friends are easy for me to make. However, if a group of my friends and I go to a party where most of the people there I don't know I usually end up hovering around the party. Mostly I just stand and try to talk to my friends that I do know. I meet people sure, but conversations usually don't go past introductions. I wouldn't normally care about it, but I think maybe that this is putting a damper on my relationship parade. I find a lot of girls glance my way, but I don't know how to approach them and start or keep a conversation. I let myself wait for people to approach me first, which doesn't happen the way I would like.", "summary": "I'm shitty at small talk."}
{"id": "t3_1ohrfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] wanting to have dialogue with exGF [19F] of 8 months after 8 months of no talking.", "post": "I separated with my girlfriend back in the beginning of February, and during all of that time I've still been in love with her, but successfully didn't contact her at all.  We were each others' first love, whatever that means, and I know what I did really hurt her.  Since September I've been backpacking throughout Europe by myself, and have had this strong desire to contact her.  We were friends on fb during all this time, but she recently deleted me, which to me just shows that reminders of me hurt, also why I blocked her and chose to not see into her life.\n\nIs it out of line to write her, just to communicate, see what's going on in her head/life?  I'm not trying to force her to be with me or anything, but I miss her and it pulls at me, affecting my life in hindering ways.  I just want to know the person I used to be so close with, if that's possible.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend, messy, heartbroken on both sides, now I want to talk to her again after almost 9 months.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_41q8z7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First date: The girl dominated the conversation. Thoughts?", "post": "So my work is ride across the street from a university.  I met this girl at my work, talked with her here and there.  My co-workers always teased me about her being into me.  Anyway long story short I stopped seeing her come in then ended up running into her, we had a brief conversation before I had to catch my bus, I got her facebook so we could continue.  She admitted she's terrible at responding to texts so I didn't take her slow responses as a red flag.  Since I got her facebook she came in about 2 - 3 times that month and we talked each time.  We went out for coffee yesterday, I enjoyed myself but she completely dominated the conversation, I'm talking like 75% of the talking was done by her.  In general is this usually viewed as a good thing or a bad thing on a first date?", "summary": "My first date with this girl and she did about 75% of the talking.  Good thing or bad thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3d0ubt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my close friends [23-26 M/F] who are lazy and never want to put effort into anything.", "post": "Sometimes I get the feeling that hanging out with this close group of friends is allowing me to miss so many opportunities in life. My friends who I hang out with on a regular basis, and who I've known throughout college, are all pretty large in body size. Some of them are tipping on the edge of being overweight and some are obese. I'm the thinnest and most fit one in the group. I'm constantly out doing stuff, whether it be running and being active or making plans to go do active stuff, i.e. being outside. They never seem excited to do these sorts of things and would rather spend their nights inside, watching Netflix, drinking liquor/beer, or playing video games. It's really frustrating sometimes. They're a great group of people that I genuinely enjoy spending time with because they're good natured, funny, and we all support eachother when someone is going through a rough time. I just hate that they never want to be active and go to events/places like I do. It's always a fight for \"time\" and \"money\" and \"getting off work\", etc, etc - the list goes on. But I know that's it mostly bullshit because they are happy to plan an event where we get together at someone's house just to drink and have fun.\n\nI don't know what to do. I understand that I can meet more people who are into a similar lifestyle as mine (thank god my girlfriend is an active person), but I've known these guys for so long, I just wish I could motivate them into losing weight and being active - they have no idea what kind of life they're missing.", "summary": "My friends are all lazy and don't want to be active - I feel like it's making me miss out on opportunities."}
{"id": "t3_3j6jje", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by loving my SO", "post": "Hello TIFU, please let me point out I'm bad at formatting, in a rush, and tired so please be kind. Now let's get started\n\nToday I was waiting with my gf after school at her bus stop so we started to play (not in a sexual way you pervs). Here's the scene, I'm a reasonably well built guy and my SO is very short and very skinny. I'm holding her with my arm and I poke her nose, then she pokes my noise, then I poke her nose, then I we start saying random phrases like \"meep\" or \"boop\" or \"oy\". Suddenly our principal comes up and says:\n\n\"Keep that up and you'll come to my office for a nice loooong chat\".\n\nNow he's known as being quite a jokester so I just laugh a bit. After about 15 seconds he hasn't broken his cold unforgiving stare with a smile that's becoming creepy. I get a slightly confused look on my face and look to my gf for backup and of course she's looking elsewhere. I ask him:\n\n\"Wait, sir I'm confused, what's happening exactly?\"\n\nHe get's very close and says:\n\n\"You better let her go or else you're coming with me.\" No smile, murder in his voice.\nAt this point I imagine a mass effect choice menu with these options: point out we're dating, let my go of my gf and nod my head and say okay, pretend I only speak Russian, become a ninja and spin kick him in the throat. I froze up and just muttered 'okay' and let my go of my gf. Then he says 'better' and just walks away. After he left we just sort awkwardly laughed it off and we're joking about it right now.", "summary": "holding your SO and playing a game of boop = assault/sexual harrasment but it all ended well."}
{"id": "t3_4lqy0e", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "3 car accident and I was put at fault. What do I do?", "post": "No point in explaining how the accident went down. I was in a 3 car accident and the insurance companies put me at fault for the accident. I tried fighting this but I could tell it wasn't going anywhere..\n\nI live in California, and the accident took place in a fairly wealthy neighborhood. My car got t-boned and the first two other cars I hit were essentially totaled (mine included). The last car drove away with a dent. I only had partial insurance so my side of the insurance only covered a small portion of the damages. \n\nYesterday I received a letter from a law firm explaining that I need to pay the rest of the damages (something in the $11,000 range). I'm a poor college student and have never even seen half of that amount in my bank account. I'm too scared to even respond to that letter, I can't afford that much money and I know that there is probably going to be a second letter on the way..\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "got in an accident with only partial insurance. Im expected to cover the rest of the  damages and I can't afford that insane amount."}
{"id": "t3_r3h31", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23/m] Advice to avoid the friend zone with the girl of my dreams.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I could really use some advice. I'm recently out of a long term relationship (broke up this last Thursday) and I've been doing great. During this time I've gotten back in touch with a female friend that I haven't been able to spend much time with for the past year due to obligations to the gf and work, not to mention she lives an hour away.\n\nNow, even before I started dating my ex, I had a huge crush on this girl, but I never even made my interests known. I was trying to be a good friend, because my best bro was just as hung up on her as I was, but he's known her longer so I stood back and let him have his shot. It was hard to do, but she's such an awesome person that if I don't really mind as long as I can hang out with her. Well, some time passed and I was able to set my bro up with a new girl that he's really having a great time with, and now the door is open.\n\nShe and I have actually been spending a lot of time together over the past few days too. The night of the breakup she came over my house with my bro and his new gf and had a great time watching tv, eating snacks, and just relaxing. She even fell asleep in bed next to me. Then we spent St. Paddy's night at her house. In the morning I offered to help her family clean up around the house and then the whole family played an epic game of DnD, which her family invited me in on and loved what I added to the campaign. I have a standing invite to all family DnD games now.\n\nI don't get any signals from her about whether she thinks of me that way or not though. Little things like blushing and playing with her hair still happen from time to time, but she does that a lot as is, so I can't go on any of that. I just don't know how to proceed in this delicate situation, since I know women are sometimes wary of guys that are just out of relationships. Any Advice?", "summary": "I'm crushing hard on a friend and don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2dmjeu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What should my next move be?", "post": "Sorry for the wall of text, it's hard to summarize.. \n\nI (21F) met this guy (21 or 22M) back in March visiting my friends at their college. We spent the night together. We didn't have sex, but we did fool around a bit. He seemed genuinely interested in me and sweet and even walked me back to my friend's apartment in the morning. While talking we figured out that he's moving to the same city I currently attend college in for a really good job. \n\nFast forward to now, he's here and texted me. I live in a suburb not too far away and am going back to school for the semester on Wednesday. I texted him a couple times since March, but he only reached out once in July to tell me he was here. I asked him out, I thought it went well, but he insisted he was too busy to see me before I went on a 2 week vacation abroad. I just got back yesterday. So.. do I text him? Or wait for him to come to me? I don't want to scare him off, but I am interested in pursuing this further. He seems really great despite us only having met once. It's rare I crush on someone that would actually probably be good for me. Please help.", "summary": "Met a guy back in March, he moved to the city I go to school in and live near by, we've texted, but haven't hung out yet.. now what? "}
{"id": "t3_2cfr5x", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Realized today that faster isn't always better", "post": "Hi /r/running!,\n\nSorry in advance for the long post; I'm super excited about my run today and wanted to share.\n\nFor the past few weeks I've been dealing with a pretty bad case of shin splints and post-tib tendonitis in my ankles, so I wasn't looking forward to my long run today. In order to try to keep from hurting, I decided that instead of trying to keep up with the faster people in my group like I usually do, I would shorten my stride, take it slow, and focus on good form. Usually when I run, I go at about a 7:45/mile pace, but today I averaged about 9:30/mile. Normally I wouldn't be super happy with a run at that pace, but I ended up running 16 miles with almost no pain in my shins or ankles, and without feeling like I was about to die when I finished!\n\nI feel like it's taken me 2\u00bd year of running to figure out that maybe it's not always best to try to run fast. I always assumed that if I had an injury I'd either have to take time off or do enough PT/stretching/ice/witchcraft between runs to fix it. Now I know that if I just slow down a bit (which I probably should have been doing on my long runs anyways), I can go farther with less pain that I previously thought possible.", "summary": "Sometimes I've gotta slow down."}
{"id": "t3_3qtbmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [18 M], acts like we don't have sex enough", "post": "Hi reddit, first time posting. I have been lurking for a while.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend Alex for 12 months. We live together, and have a good relationship apart from little arguments about chores and stuff.\n\nLately he has been acting like we're not having sex enough. He will drop things in the conversation about how he doesn't feel attractive, and if his weight is a problem (it isn't, he's pretty ripped) and asks why I don't touch him more. Just general things like that. When I try to tell him I don't think we have sex too little, he agrees with me and acts like nothing is wrong, but in a way that tells me he just doesn't want to upset me.\n\nI do reject him 50% of the times he tries to start something. I have a weak immune system, and I get sick alot and don't really feel like sleeping with him. Another thing is I recently went through losing a 5 week old puppy I rescued and bottlefed to parvovirus. I don't want to bring this up to him because it will sound like an excuse, but I nursed that little guy and syringe fed him for 2 weeks and losing him really messed me up.\n\nI'm rambling a bit, so my main problem with him acting like this is I think we have sex more than enough. On an average day, we have sex 4-5 times in a long session, rather than multiple single times a day. I'm wondering if maybe he doesn't see it as much because it's all in one big chunk. I make sure we do it so much because I want to keep him satisfied, even if I'm not feeling 100%. I can't help but feel a bit unappreciated. \n\nMainly asking this so I can read your responses and see high libido perspectives, and so we can see what people think after we have a talk about it.", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't act like we have sex enough, we do it 3-4 times a day on average. Want to show him redditor views"}
{"id": "t3_shv8w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I can't stop binging lately and I am starting to feel worthless...", "post": "Some background: I started my weight loss back in September (starting at 164lbs) and have lost about 35 pounds now. I did this by calorie counting, portion control, C25K and weight lifting. Currently 5'5'/f/130ish lbs, running 20-30 miles a week, lifting about 1-2 times a week and added in cycling 1-2 times a week. I'm also training for my first half marathon that's in June.\n\nSo, the actual story: For the past few weeks I have had some major issues with binging. I will just open up the pantry and just start eating handfuls of everything in sight. I'll munch on chips, cereal, crackers, peanut butter... Last week I just sat with the peanut butter and a spoon and just ate straight out of the jar, probably around 5-6 servings. Two nights ago I sat on the couch with a box of cereal and ended up eating half of the box. \n\nLast night was awful and my worst binge yet. I thought it would be nice to make those [individual bacon egg bake] that I can eat for breakfast. I ended up eating one, which is fine. It barely put me over my calorie limit for the day. Then I decided I was going to make that cookie mix I had sitting in the pantry. I ended up eating about 1/4 of the cookie dough and had 3 cookies after they were done baking. After eating all of this I felt horrible and actually made myself throw it all back up. \n\nI feel like this is my lowest point I have ever been in my life. I'm just not sure where to go from here. I'm not actively trying to lose like I was in the beginning but this is not healthy, especially after what I did last night. I tell myself I need to stop eating but its like my hand cannot stop shoving food into my mouth. I never had any issues like this in the beginning and actually had no issues stopping after having 1 serving of chips or 1 cookie. \n\nI really just need some advice, encouragement, motivation or how you got over something similar. I need to stop this madness and get back on track!! :(", "summary": "Lost 35lbs since September. I have been binging a lot lately and last night even made myself throw up after my binge. I feel like I am starting to become depressed and need to know how to get back on track!"}
{"id": "t3_1qeq2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [26M] of 2 and 1/2 years dropped the bomb that he wants to break up", "post": "My boyfriend of two and a half years dropped the bomb on me that he wants to break up.\n\nI've supported him through everything.  From losing his license, to getting laid off at work, to finding out his brother is an addict, to dealing with a crazy ex, and more.\n\nHis reasons are he is frustrated by my poor stress management and also he has just decided that he doesn't want a long term relationship anymore. \n\nI have anxiety, it's something I've had my whole life.  I went to therapy for it years ago and also last year again and I admitted that lately I have dropped the ball with it.  I have been talking to my doctor recently about exploring some new options, maybe considering medication.  His situations don't help with my anxiety or overall stress but other than that the relationship has been awesome. We have a lot of fun together and we share a lot of the same views about life and where we want to go in the future.  We have so much in common and our personalities go together great.  He has been a great boyfriend up until the last couple of months.  When I brought it up to him that things are getting a little one sided that's when he told me he wants out.\n\nLast week he did have a pretty big falling out with his best friend over some stressful stuff (friendship ending type stuff) and on top of that he said he has been under a lot of stress at work.  I'm wondering if this sudden decision is just him poorly handling stress and trying to shut down and not deal with our situation instead of resolve it.\n\nI managed to get him to think about reconsidering this week and we would talk again on Friday.  Obviously I am hoping he chooses to try to work things out but honestly I think I am going to get broken up with a second time.  \n\nAlmost everyone I talked to about it thinks there's another girl he's not telling me about.  I want to break the silence we are supposed to be keeping and ask but I don't want to drive him away even more. I also don't think I can hang in there until Friday.\n\nhelp.", "summary": "boyfriend breaks up with me out of the blue because he claims I have poor stress management and doesn't want a long term relationship anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3d8735", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My \"friends\" [17 M, 18 F, 17 M] played an incredibly cruel prank on me [17M] and my boyfriend [18 M]", "post": "The entire group is currently staying at 17M's house for a week long vacation. There are two couples- me and my boyfriend, and the host with his girlfriend. There is one fifth wheel.\n\nLast night at around 1 AM, my boyfriend and I were fooling around in our room. Suddenly the fifth wheel barges in, totally unexpectedly, yelling an inside joke and throwing a condom at us, and running away. We were fully clothed, but PISSED. It was incredibly fucked up and we were both shocked. It was obviously the idea of all three of the remaining group.\n\nMy boyfriend and I confronted them, after we both calmed down. We cant understand how they thought this would be funny, as it is so fucked up on so many different levels. We could have been doing anything from sleeping to being naked. What did they expect to see? Did they expect us to just laugh it off? \n\nWhat bothers me most is that the host doesnt seem to be remorseful at all, even though he clearly agreed to this and suggested the idea. He blamed the fifth wheel for everything and said that he doesnt owe us an apology. This shocks me because its completely out of character for him, hes usually very politically correct and gentlemanly. He was a perfect host up till now and we were incredibly grateful for everything hes done for us during the vacation.\n\nAnyways there are 2 days left in the vacation and I dont know what to do right now. Its the morning after so we need to see them soon. Obviously we need to talk as a group, but I really dont know what to do if the host continues his attitude.", "summary": "Group thought it would be funny to barge in on me and my boyfriend at 1AM during vacation, as a joke. We are pissed. Dont know what our next course of action should be."}
{"id": "t3_izgpc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how do I get this girl's number", "post": "So last friday, when i got off work, a girl stopped her car near me and offered me a ride.\nIt turned out that she lived near my place and often saw me waiting for buses.\nI was kinda surprised and didnt get a chance to ask for her number on the way home (the ride was about 15mins), but we did have an enjoyable conversation.\nWhen she was dropping me off, she told me that she's moving to somewhere else and this was prbly the last time she d give me a ride(also the first time :S).\nAfter that I rlly regret not getting her number...I spent 2 hours on facebook trying to search her profile (I at least got to know her name obviously...), but it doesnt seem like she has one.\n\nBUT this morning, I saw her getting off the car near my workplace, it turned out that she just works across the street!\nWhat a coincidence! But as I was already 20mins late for work, I was in such a hurry, didnt get a chacne to ask her num.\n\nNow, at work, I ve been thinking for whole day what I should do to approach her.\n\nShould I wait for her after work and start a convo? Or should I leave a message that has my number on it and have \"text me :)\" written on it?\n\nThis could be big for me. She is a white girl and I'm azn, and u guys can prbly already tell english isnt even my first language.", "summary": "A girl gave me a ride home last friday. Did not get a chance to get her number. Saw her this morning again. Turned out she works across the street. WHAT SHOULD I DO?"}
{"id": "t3_1bsh7f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (27F) have a bit of a dilemma with my roommate (30M)...", "post": "Throwaway cuz' I have friends on here.\n\nI've lived with my roommate for a month and known him for as long. Long story, but I was in a bad situation and desperate to get out, he was also, so when someone recommended we be roommates, we jumped at the opportunity. Despite not knowing each other before moving in, we've realized we're a lot alike and we've actually become pretty great friends. He's a cool person and I enjoy his company.\n\nHere's where it gets a little complicated. I've slept with him. Three times. And most nights when he gets off work, we snuggle together on the futon and watch a movie and end up falling asleep spooning. I figured we just had FWB type thing going on while we're both between GFs/BFs, so I've tried to not be weird about it and just act normally. Tonight though, while we were snuggled on the futon watching a movie, he laid his head on my lap, kissed my stomach and my thigh, then told me he loves me. I kinda tried to chuckle it off, because I figured he was high/supertired/half asleep (although I don't honestly think that he was) and didn't know what he was saying, but he asked me if I heard him then he repeated it. I just stroked his hair and told him to get some rest and he went to sleep. What do I do now? Do I pretend like he didn't say it or I didn't hear it and wait to see if he brings it up? Should ***I*** bring it up? And what do I say if he does? I seriously don't want to compromise or complicate my living situation, since I have nowhere else to go.", "summary": "Roommate I've only known a month and slept with a few times said he loves me, I don't now how to react."}
{"id": "t3_gpht4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddits, how do I talk to people?", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nI can't hold a conversation for any extended amount of time because I always respond with one word answers, even if I'm trying not to. It sucks watching a potentially awesome conversation with a person die before my eyes just because I keep responding with closed ended sentences. I basically just want to be able to sit down and have a random conversation with a person that lasts longer than a minute. I'm not socially awkward or anything like that(I have more \"friends\" than I need), I just can't converse well. \n\nAre there any tricks are helpful starter conversations?\n\nThanks Reddits", "summary": "How can I not be a boring person to talk to?"}
{"id": "t3_2v8z31", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stabbing my crush with a pencil", "post": "Obligatory this wasn't today, it was actually years ago in third grade.\n\nMy crush (let us call him Gary) offered to let me borrow a pencil when I didn't have one, and of course, I was excited as hell. Later that day in class, I wanted to tell him something (I sat next to him) so I tapped his shoulder with what I thought was the eraser end of the pencil. Well, it apparently was more like a stab than a tap and it was with the freshly sharpened end of the pencil.\n\nIIRC, Gary yelped and the whole class looked at me, including the teacher.\n\nFortunately, my teacher didn't make me flip my card, and I don't think any blood was drawn from Gary.", "summary": "in third grade, crush gave me pencil. Tried to get his attention by tapping his shoulder with the eraser later, accidentally stabbed him with pointy end."}
{"id": "t3_1qr1xx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[NSFW] Help me out here Reddit. What is cheating to you?", "post": "Here's my story that prompted the question:\n\nI have been with my girlfriend for just over a year now. I have been nothing but faithful, and I do believe that I truly love her. However, sometimes I do have my doubts on if we will make it another year or more. \n\nAnyway, tonight during some normal conversation, she accidentally admitted to getting intimate with a female friend of hers. This encounter included some alcohol, oral sex, and what I will describe as \"heavy petting.\" Lets get this out of the way now, I absolutely have no issues against homosexuality. However, she was in a committed relationship with me, and she intentionally kept this from me.\n\nShe followed up with, \"I told you about this when it happened. I just left out the details.\" \n\nI was baffled. She had never done anything like this before. I didn't know what to say. She took my silence in and then said, \"Are you mad?\"\n\n\"No.\" Was all I could say. I'm feeling hurt, sad, and a little betrayed, but not mad. \n\n\"That isn't cheating.. Right?\" she says. And emotional battle quelled up inside of me, I didn't know.\n\n\"Uhhmmm.. I guess... not..\" My indecision obvious. It was all I could say though. Where are the lines? Is this a situation where the double standard works? Or is this cheating, point, line, and simple?", "summary": "Girlfriend hid one time homosexual experience from me while in one year relationship. Is that cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_42q7l4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [16F] of 10 Months, To Argue or Not to Argue", "post": "Disclaimer: I am new to this subreddit. Help would be appreciated :)\n\nThis is my first relationship, and I do not want to break up with my girlfriend. I know this is a very simple thing to say as a high schooler, but my question is whether I get mad at her about is justifiable. \n\nRecently, she has been more distant with me and has not been replying to me as fast or with the same upbeat attitude she's had in the past. As a result, I do not feel the love in the relationship as much as I once did. It seems like her attitude is affecting me to not be as talkative which has led me to call her out on this. I've asked her multiple times to tell me why she seems more distant and if it's a problem with me, but she keeps saying, \"idk, sorry\". At this point, I got tired of it and told her that I won't talk to her until she wants to start a conversation for once and not seem like I'm boring her.", "summary": "My girlfriend seems distant, so I called her out on it; thus, I told her not to talk to me until she could start a convo with me and not sound like she's bored."}
{"id": "t3_1vhl0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to have difficult conversations? (m27, f28)", "post": "Long story short - a few rumours went around about my boyfriend cheating on me. Soon after a guy who I know wants to destroy our relationship and keeps putting my hand down his pants told me that it wasn't cheating, that it was such a full blown affair that I was in fact the other woman.\n\nAll I want to do is get to the bottom of the situation so we/I can move on with our lives in the fashion most appealing to us (which for me would be to work on our relationship and move forward with that). However, I need the honesty of the situation to do that. But this is difficult. I don't want to go in guns blazing, but I want to protect myself. I'm trying to impress upon him the fact that honesty is the beginning of the healing process, whatever that process looks like. And I don't want my own insecurity to sabotage a good thing.", "summary": "How do I impress upon my boyfriend the importance for honesty, while stopping myself from getting pre-emptively defensive when he's trying to give it?"}
{"id": "t3_31n6ht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last night my dad [45M] called me [18M] to his room and started crying. Help", "post": "My dad is Indian and has a fairly stoic personality. He rarely shows excessive emotion unless he's angry or yelling at us. Anyway he called me over to his bedroom last night and started crying. It was because I'm leaving for college and he felt like he hadn't done enough for me as a parent.\n\nThe backstory to this is my Dad is the typical Indian/Asian dad with high expectations for me. I've been a less then ideal son through high school who didn't care as much I should of for grades/respecting my parents. The thing is that I feel pretty guilty about my lack of academic accomplishments but I still haven't figured out how to do well academically. My dad blaming himself on my failures makes me feel more guilty. It makes me more frustrated on not doing well academically. He also said he regrets being so ill-tempered towards me which me feel even shittier. This morning there was a different atmosphere in our house with my Dad seemingly nicer, which feels awkward to me. The other thing is that despite all my setbacks there have been some positives such as being accepted to a decent \"B-level\" university. Although it's out-of-state so my parents will pay a lot more for it.\n \nThe last thing is, I know what I have to do, I have to do well at college. However I've never done well in high school so I feel uncertain that I'll be able to.", "summary": "Feeling guilty about the way I've been a son to my parents."}
{"id": "t3_2hctms", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Friends of single people: please don't try to set said friends up with other friends who are \"uh...not conventionally appealing\" or \"Well, I'm not into her/him...but I think you'll like them\"", "post": "This happened to me today and it was immediately upsetting. I even cried about it when I got home. It was upsetting every other time someone has said something like this to me, too. \n\nI feel like there is an inherent judgment of MY worth when you do this kinda thing to me. \n\nWhy don't I deserve to be with someone who's \"AWESOME!\" or \"Wow, I totally love this guy/girl. I would be with them if I was single!\". \n\nI work on myself. I take pride in developing as a person and bettering myself. \n\nYou don't have to set me up with a supermodel but...but...God Damnit at least try to set me up with someone you don't think is the human equivalent of leftovers. Set me up with someone who's working on themselves and trying to develop as a human being. I'm not even really into being set up anyways. Maybe don't set me up with anyone at all.", "summary": "When you try to set me up with people who you describe as \"ok\" it makes me feel kinda inferior. Why don't I deserve someone who's \"awesome\" to you?"}
{"id": "t3_349kog", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a pyjama shirt", "post": "Obligatory this wasn't today, probably 5 years ago when I was 12.\n\nSo a bit of backstory: It was not long after Christmas, where I got a few new clothes, including pyjamas.\n\nTo the story: We had gone out to our local shopping centre to go and get lunch and get games and whatnot. So here I am, walking around inside with my family, feeling pretty good about my shirt, when my mum says \"Wait. Isn't that a pyjama shirt?\" I feel my face go red as I look down and realise my mistake, how did I confuse it with a normal shirt? They're flannel for gods sake. So I'm wearing this super Mario pyjama shirt that is just gotten for Christmas, around the shops and suddenly wish I could just vanish. So I beg and plead with my parents to go to a clothes shop, to get a new shirt to change into. Once the shirt is bought, the exchange is made and I feel a lot better, but still pretty awkward.\n\nThis story comes up every so often, and my family are always giving me shit for it.", "summary": "Wore a pyjama shirt out by accident, much embarrassment was had."}
{"id": "t3_41xz0h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] am insecure in my relationship with my girlfriend [F18] for no obvious reason", "post": "So the title basically says it all -- I pretty much always have these insecurities that my girlfriend is interested in other guys/flirting with other guys. I really have no reason to believe it, she really loves me and is always affectionate towards me, but I just can't shake these worries that she is/wants to cheat on me. The thing is there's literally no reason for me to think she is; she has a few guy friends that I know very well, who she talks to on like a biweekly basis at most. It's not like I'm overprotective either; I don't ever tell her who to talk to or who not to talk to, but every time I think about her talking to other guys I feel really insecure and unsure about whether she still loves me or not. I'm not looking for advice to help me deal with her, more like advice to deal with myself and my own insecurities. Any help would be great, thanks", "summary": "Always am afraid that my girlfriend has intentions with other guys even though she shows no signs of doing that"}
{"id": "t3_4hsa6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 F] with my ex-BF [16 M] of 1.5yrs. I cheated on him and hid it. He found out and broke up but now wants to get back together.", "post": "My boyfriend asked me to homecoming sophomore year. I said no but I texted him later that I couldn't go but I'd date him. We dated for 1.5 years and I love him. I met another guy at a state event and started texting him because he was nice and was a new friend. He kept calling me hot and attractive and I texted him to quit being horny with a ;) face. My boyfriend saw the texts and broke up with me. I told him that I still love him and that I still care. He now wants to get back together but I don't think I can emotionally handle it knowing that I hurt him. I need advice on what to do.", "summary": "I cheated on my boyfriend. He broke up when he found out and now wants to get back together. I still love him but want to be friends because I can't emotionally handle a relationship with him. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fkjje", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What is the best thing to do in this conflict between two babysitting clients?", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI have recently started babysitting for two families (let's call them Family 1 and Family 2) and so far everything has gone well. I tend to babysit for them both on certain days like Tuesdays (Family 1 at 3 and Family 2 usually later at 8). \n\nWell, as I mentioned before, this is recent and has only been going on for about three weeks. Family 2 asked if  I could babysit this Tuesday at 5:45 and I accepted. I had completely forgotten that on Tuesdays I typically sit for Fam 1 until about 6. Typically my commute over to Fam 2 is about 30 minutes. \n\nI'm at a loss of what to do here. Fam 2 is typically very understanding, despite how I basically showed them up about a week ago (was stuck out of town) and was late when I sat for them today. I really don't want to give them yet another bad impression. I have a really good relationship going with Fam 1 and I don't want to disappoint them either, though. Also, the mom is kind of a stickler and I don't think she would be receptive to me leaving early, thus leaving a child unattended. What should I do?", "summary": "Accidentally accepted two conflicting time slots for babysitting with two different families."}
{"id": "t3_190f86", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[25M] So I'm stuck in new territory, definitely could use some advice talking to a [22F].", "post": "This will be long and reddit ate my other post. SO\n\n**Backstory:**  I haven't dated at all. Like ever. I'm overweight and a racial minority in the Southern US; so it's been hard for me to connect to ladies where I live. Been on the road to better myself and I'm getting there; including the self confidence and whatnot.\n\n**Curren Situation:** So a friend of mine borrowed my phone to text some girl (A) that I don't know. She texts me back wondering who it was so I explain the situation. Here's where it gets interesting. My friend and this girl have some crazy history stretching back more than a year. I'm wingman-ing hard for him; trying to help him smooth things out with her as best as a total stranger can. \n\nIt actually works! I help facilitate communication and they're starting to work things out! (yay) So I jokingly tell \"A\" (that I've only known for a couple days) that she can pay me back by setting me up with any one of her hot, single friends. She thinks another girl (B) might be a good match and I ask her to set me up. She agrees and tells me she'll do what she can.\n\nSo I keep joking back and forth and yesterday (about week after the initial text) I finally go up to meet \"A\". Some beers, some friends and a good time was had by all. I remind her to bring that hot lady friend \"B\" next time.\n\n**SHE COMES THROUGH!**\n\nSo. I know little about \"B\". Me, A, B, and another person are all going to a hockey game this Saturday. I've asked \"A\" about \"B\", and whether or not she thinks \"B\" and myself will click. \"A\" thinks we will.\n\nMy plan is to just have fun at the game; get \"B\"s number and set up something more 1 on 1 if we survive the initial encounter; but is there something else I could be doing to increase my chances?", "summary": "Girl sets me up with her hot model girlfriend; I never did this before. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xmet6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Former male coworker (34~m) confessed he wanted to kiss me (29f) Wtf? How to handle?", "post": "Became friends with a male coworker, we like similar games and things had some stuff in common. Text, talk, but never hang out 1:1 even during work OR outside of work. He never tried to flirt with me, ask me out, or even ask about my situation. I honestly thought he really isn't into me and I was happy with that because its hard to have male friends. I made mention several times \"My boyfriend and I...\" or \"yeah I went with my boyfriend\" just to make that known. I've told my boyfriend about the guy and our conversations many times and he's been cool with everything.\n\nSo my now-former coworker left the company and we had a little one on one chat on his last day. At the end I gave him a quick hug and said take care! See you around! etc. etc. That was 2 days ago. He texted me saying he wanted to kiss me during that chat but there was too many people around. What in the fuck? Obviously his mind went somewhere else and mine wasn't following. And that's the first time he's ever said anything taking it beyond friends. Thank the gods he left the company so I don't have to see him anymore.\n\nDo I reply? What do I say? Should I tell my boyfriend? I feel so embarrassed to tell him that the guy took it too far because I don't have many friends and he knew I enjoyed having this coworker as a friend. It sucks because I thought I'd made a friend.\n\n(", "summary": ") Coworker showed he wanted more than friendship, weirded out, not sure how to handle."}
{"id": "t3_2gh5dd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trying to be nice", "post": "So theres this girl I went out with for a short period of time she dumped me and then friendzoned me. I was crazy about her and desperately tried to get her to reciprocate the feeling, but she was having none of it. I kept it to myself mostly for the first year or so, but then one night I got fed up with it and called her up, and asked her to go on a date with me. When she said no after a year of being strung along I just fucking exploded. I was a real asshole ill admit it . I was in the wrong I was a dick. I didn't talk to her for months. We keep bumping into each other at school, because we have lots of classes together, and mutual friends. One day I finally said fuck it im gonna do the right thing. I asked if I could talk to her and she just looked at me with a face of disgust, and said \"I guess\". I apologized told her I was sorry told her I was an asshole, and that it would be nice if we could be friends again and just friends. I talked to her for a solid 10 minutes just apologizing. She eventually got up and walked off. \n\nThe next day I bumped into her and said \"Have you given any thought to what I said?\" She said \"Yeah. I don't care.\" \"I don't want to be friends with somebody who has absolutely no future and will end up being a fucking bum.\"\n\nShe proceeded to chew me out and tell me I would end up addicted to crystal and living under a bridge. I know im a bit of a hypocrite for exploding at her, and then getting mad when she does it to me, but she had strung me along for almost 2 years, and on top of that she told my mom that I was growing weed, and then I FEEL BAD. I go and apologize. And she meant what she said. When I exploded at her I was either drunk, or filled with rage. She was cool and calm and meant every damn word of what she said.\n\nSo I fucked up today by trying to right a wrong.", "summary": "Went out with a girl for a while. She friendzoned me/strung me along ratted me out to my mom for smoking weed. I got mad at her and cursed her out didnt speak to her for months then after bumping into her several times I spoke to her and apologized and she spat all over me."}
{"id": "t3_3yvxa2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 F] boyfriend may or may not have lied to me [18 F] about losing virginity?", "post": "This is my first post, and on a throwaway account because boyfriend and I are both redditors. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We met online and talked for a few months before meeting up, and it was amazing. I didn't agree to be his girlfriend until a few months after we became an official 'thing' due to trust issues I have from being in a prior relationship where I was cheated on. My boyfriend understands these problems as he was cheated on as well, and swore to never lie to me or cheat on me (in writing, lol). \n\nWe had sex 8 days ago on my birthday, and he was my first. He says I was his first as well. \n\nHowever, upon my random stalking of old reddit posts of his (I do this when I'm missing him), I found that he posted on a subreddit asking for advice on how to get custom condoms sent to his house because 'blah blah brands give me the red ring of death'. I can't understand any other reason as to why he would have done this other than the fact that he had sex with the girl he was with before and lied to me. This also confuses me because he said they never even kissed or held hands but were a 'thing' for nearly a year. The post was a year ago. \n\nHe's sleeping right now and I've texted and called him (he's a heavy sleeper). It's 1:00 a.m. my time and I can't even focus on anything other than being miserable right now. How do I proceed? Should I even entertain his possible explanation?", "summary": "My boyfriend claims he lost his virginity to me but posted on reddit about needing custom condoms sent to him over a year ago."}
{"id": "t3_3fl1jl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing an Eggsplosion", "post": "This happened 15 minutes ago. I got up early to enjoy a nice long breakfast on a day off. I was reading the newspaper, munching along on my toast when I thought, 'Why no egg? I got the time for that.' And the gadget, too. Microwave egg cookers. Up until this day it always worked fine, I got over my mistrust fairly quickly and I enjoyed hard boiled eggs for quite a while. So I put the egg in one of those [bad boys] set the timer to the usual time and continued reading. Shortly before the time was over, the bad boy showed me what they gonna do. With a loud bang the damn thing exploded, coating the microwave and everything in front of it in egg. Everything was cleaned up rather quickly, but the microwave might be a goner. Egg went through the ventilation(?) slits and some of it coats the grill heater lamps, too.\n\nBefore anybody calls me an idiot for not reading the instructions; I do, every time, because some deep rooted skepticism always remained... and I can't remember the times \u00af\\(\u30c4)/\u00af", "summary": "Fucked up my microwave by blowing up an egg in it."}
{"id": "t3_4g3bog", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [20/F] 6 months, she's falling in love with me. I am not in love, will I ever be?", "post": "she broke down crying because she's afraid to fall in love with me and that she doesn't think I will ever. Idk if I'll develop deep feelings for her. I do know that the thought of losing her makes me so sad. I care about her. Everytime I get to see her after 3 days of being away, I get so happy and my eyes light up. I am always happy being around her and she comforts me when I'm down. I feel like there are some flaws in her that keep me from loving her and I'm trying to help her grow as a person.  What should I do?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2h104l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my Bf [21 M] 2.5 years, rude to me when drunk or with his friends.", "post": "First time on here. So I'm sorry if I did this wrong. Anyways, my Bf and I have been together 2.5 years. We've been long distance on and off for about a year of it. He is an alcoholic (binge drinker), cigarette smoker (started at 13), and curious to test out illicit drugs. I am a daughter of an alcoholic, smoker and hated those activities. Somehow, we meshed. We were opposites but we attracted one another.\n\nHe has problems with coping with sadness, stress, anger etc. As a result, he takes his anger out on me by saying rude, inappropriate things to me and binge drinking. Think of it as a punching bag but not literally, just with his words. The past two weekends he called me inconsiderate, unhelpful, and not a very good girlfriend. Because we are currently long distance, I don't know what is going on unless he tells me to...So I didn't know he was stressed and sad until he starts binge drinking (something I dislike, and we've talked about). The binge drinking is what scares me, when he drinks he lies, he gets rude and becomes a completely different person. He hasn't done this in a really long time (since we first started dating) and he stated he has no plans to change how he copes with stress.\n\nUsually, one or two drinks is fine, but he has a new roommate/friend that moved into his apartment with him and his roommate is a drinker, and abuser of illicit drugs.. \n\nI feel hurt, and upset and that he's treated me poorly. But idk how to fix this, or how to cope with this. Idk if i want to be with someone who treats me like this when hes around his friends or when he's drunk. I wish I could get him to see things differently. I'm the type of person that is really sensitive to everything, so i can't tell if im overreacting or if how i'm feeling is normal/okay.", "summary": "Am I overreacting to his drinking habits and how he treats me or is this acceptable? Do you think he's going to change? How should I talk to him about his drinking habits and when do I know to quit our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2skjpw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] sister [12F] slapped me, ouch!", "post": "I'm the oldest child and I have three sisters.\n\nSo whenever I come home from work in the evenings, my hands are really cold. I would use this to my advantage by touching my sisters. They would try to run away from me and stuff knowing their older brother's hands were cold. It's all fun and games with me chasing my sisters around our small home.\n\nApparently, my 12 year old sister is really serious. Just now, after I came home from work, I chased my sisters around the living room attempting to annoy them again. I'm usually a really strict and serious person but I like this cold Canadian weather and want to have fun with my siblings from time to time. Well, My 12 year old sister just sat on the couch and was texting on her phone. She knew I was there but just sat there thinking I wouldn't freeze her. I touched her left arm with the back of my hands. She took her right hand and slapped me on my left cheek really hard. She then said, \"Don't fucking touch me again.\"\n\nNow my left cheek is all red and it hurts a lot. The worst part is that my other sisters saw me get slapped. It's so embarrassing. \n\nIs there something wrong with my 12 year old sister?", "summary": "Note to self: Don't touch my sister."}
{"id": "t3_i6omx", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Staying friends after a break-up", "post": "So my girlfriend of just over a year broke up with me today because she just doesn't love me in the same way anymore. I'm 19 and she's 18 and we managed a semi LDR quite successfully for nearly 10 of those months.\n\nThe qualm is that we are both best friends and dont want to lose that. She still wants to talk just as much as we have and snuggle up on the sofa and watch movies and stuff.\nThings seemed to be going downhill for a while I guess (can barely remember the last time we had sex) but she had exams and was stressed so I was just hoping for her to snap out of it but apparently she isnt going to.\n\nWhat Im asking is what is the best way we can remain friends without me getting my heart broken. I'm suprisingly ok with the breakup so far perhaps because things have been getting more and more platonic anyway so we are just friends even if I want to be more than that.\nIm just rambling now though so any and all advice welcome.", "summary": "Girlfriend of one year who is also my best friend broke up with me but we still want to be friends - how can it be done?"}
{"id": "t3_2p419w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my husband [25M]. He never stands up for himself.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for two wonderful years. He's gentle, has a great respect for life, smart, funny, handsome. He's in general just an amazing man.\n\nBut he has one trait that drives me crazy: He has no backbone. He let's people pressure him into things all the time. He never stands up for himself. \n\nExamples: \n\n* When family friends pressure him into buying things we don't want/need, He gives in. He'll try to say no at first, but if they insist: He'll get really nervous and agree to buy at least 1 of whatever they are selling. He says he feels rude and awkward refusing to buy their crap. \n\n* When annoying Jehovah's witnesses try to come talk to us about their church or whatever, he'll stand outside and awkwardly stand there wishing for escape until I save him. He won't say he isn't interested or make an excuse to leave. He'll just let them talk on and on and on. \n\n* He accepts flyers from people on the street instead of just saying \"No thank you\" and keeps on walking.\n\n* He has one friend who is a high functioning autistic male. The friend can drive, work, goes to college, etc. The so called friend will say racists things about my husbands nationality and call him a maid or gardener and imply really rude things. My husband puts up with it and says he doesn't want to be rude because they've know each other all their lives and his friend is autistic. \n\nHe's so afraid of being seen as unsociable and rude that we end up with crap we don't need and people we don't like. I can't bring up any issues with him, because he just agrees with everything I say. He won't tell me his counter view or have a discussion. Just whatever I say, goes. \n\nI want him to feel confident enough about speaking out. I want him to know it's okay to use the word \"No.\". How can I get him help? Did anyone else have this problem and overcome it?", "summary": "Husband doesn't know how to stand of for himself or use the word \"no\"."}
{"id": "t3_2k6dwh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a long shirt", "post": "We all have that one really loud friend right? That is really hyper about everything and gets excited.\nWell today my friend broke me. \nWhy? \nLet me tell you...\n\nThis happened in 2011 when I was 15 years old in year 9. We had this thing at my school called the city program where we use public transport and tour around the city. Being a private sheltered religious school, the teachers thought it was a great idea. But us students used public transport 24/7 and knew the city (Melbourne Aus) like the back off our hands. \nThis one day we were going to the Melbourne Cricket Ground sports museum and they had stuff like short documentaries about famous sport figures. Anyway, my friend wanted me to sit next to her to watch this one about some runner. \nShe thought it would be a good idea to grab my shirt to make me sit next to her, nope. In my severe short sightedness I had worn a particularly long shirt that hung lower than my crotch. \nIn her excitedness to get me to sit next to her, her hand grabbed a handful of my delightfully thick pubic hair through the shirt and pants. She of course didn't know this, thinking she had grabbed somewhere above my waist. \nSo she pulled downwards to get me to sit down. Now I tell you, having your pubic hair ripped from your supple teenage skin, is a pain like no other. It was like a hot flame burning with the heat of a thousand suns. It was like the sound of polystyrene being scratched x1000 \nI cried. \nI have a high pain tolerance, but this was my maximum. I started bleeding profusely (got my period woo(Jks I'm male)) and as I had a quick peek to assess the damage a blood covered clump of hair and skin fell from my pants into the rim of my shoe. As you can imagined I screamed, the teacher came quickly to determine why I was screaming and wouldn't understand why I was swearing so Damn much and crying so I got in trouble on top of that. \nSo yea, Ow.", "summary": "My best friend gave me a Brazilian wax without the wax."}
{"id": "t3_3cdl6j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking Apple would know that I'm dumb.", "post": "I recently restored my iPhone 4, and since I was originally given the phone by my dad... I naturally went to him when the Activation message came up, as Apple's theft protection. The screen prompted the original Apple account that the phone was activated with and gave the first letter of the account, and put 5 asterisks afterwards to censor; proceeded by \"@gmail.com.\" He could not think of any accounts that only contained 6 letters and tried all of them, after 2 hours of googling how to bypass with no success, and trying all the accounts ever... We bought a new 200 dollar android phone. Today I decided try an old account of mine and it worked, even though it was way beyond 6 letters. After some quick google image searches, i figured out that Apple only gives the first letter and 5 asterisks no matter account character length... I still haven't told my dad, afraid that he's going to accuse me of purposely doing this so I could get a new phone(I didn't)\nImage:", "summary": "Apple was dumb by thinking I wasn't, and I ended up spending 200 dollars on a new Android phone."}
{"id": "t3_29iqqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/21) am not allowed to go to my SO's (M/23) grandfather's funeral.", "post": "I'm sorry if this is too long or too short, but I am so pissed right now.\n\nWell, we found out papi (My so's grandfather) passed away last friday. His mother told us to hold on to making any plans until we know for sure when the funeral actually was. Today, he got a call from his mom saying that the funeral will be this friday. We live in NC and the funeral will be in his hometown in FL. The kicker is, he's leaving tomorrow morning (his birthday) and won't be back until sunday afternoon; and I'm not allowed to go, period. My SO and I have been together well over 3 years and we have a 9 month old baby together. So it's not just like he's leaving ad coming right back, he's going for a whole week...leaving me stuck at home (with no car and no phone) until his family is coming back. I have no idea how to take this. \n\nIt also makes me mad because his sister got married last october, and he just ditched me at my mom's even though I spent lots of money finding a nice dress and shoes that fit me right (I was a week away from my due date) only for him to leave me with no contact until the next day.", "summary": "SO is leaving me home alone with my 9 month old and no ride or contact to a fuberal in a different state for a week"}
{"id": "t3_1cu402", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[m18] have been dating this girl [f18] for just over a month and today she can me an ultimatum, really confused and sad. What should and could I do.", "post": "BACKGROUND info on her. She has daddy issues and has a case of depression. Doesn't seem like she is able to open up, afraid of being settled. Tells me she feels claustrophobic.\n\nI've been dating her for just over a month and today we were about to have sex and went through foreplay and I couldn't get a hard on because I just wanted feeling it. She took this as it was her fault I couldn't get it and lost all mood and blamed it on herself and I told her it wasn't but because I was nervous a bit because I liked her. She then tells me she hasn't gone down this road in a relationship before, she is afraid because she might ruin it and what not. She tells me either we can just be friends and have no more kissing/sex or we can just have sex and no emotion with it. She tells me if I pick the sex one then I have to be okay with her getting with other guys and I'm not okay with that because I like her and truly would be jealous. It's just a part of me. We then laid in bed for a solid 20 minutes silent and then I broke the silence and I could tell my her body position she was closing herself off. By the end the mood became more cheerful, we went through some old photos of us. BUT at the end of the night when I left, there was no goodbye kiss, just a solid goodbye. I feel sad because I really really like this girl and she is my prom date too which is in a month and if things go south I just feel like I can't emotional be around her because it will hurt me too much.", "summary": "Girl I'm with is very conflicted on where she stands with me and gave me the choice of either being friends or open relationship fuck buddies. What can I do!"}
{"id": "t3_3f196b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) cant seem to get over my ex-girlfriend (21f). And its taking a toll on my life.", "post": "Hi guys, ive been lurking here for a while but i didnt really think id need any relationship advice because i considered myself strong enough to handle these problems. It seems im wrong about that.\n\nBackground: I met my ex (well call her Jocelyn) when we were both in grade 9. We fell for eachother very quickly and were inseperable throughout highschool up until our last year when she told me had feelings for someone else and we ended it.\n\nWe reconciled in the middle of first year university and were together for about 3 more years until she finally broke up with me again, stating that she just couldnt see herself marrying me (which was what we both discussed would happen eventually). I took this very hard and ended up isolating myself from friends and family and fell into a small \"hole\" as i like to call it. A lot of drinking and marijuana was involved, which only made my situation worse.\n\nI started to gain back my confidence about 5 months after the break up when she contacted me again and asked to speak about our situation. Being the spineless person i am i agreed, and we only got together twice before she said it was a mistake and we should remain friends.\n\nI was fine with this (although quite annoyed) and we continued to speak regularly, which i admit was a horrible idea. She told me about 3 weeks ago that shes seeing someone and we shouldnt speak anymore, ive agreed with this as it would be innapropriate to continue speaking. However, ive found myself in that \"hole\" once again. \n\nI continually think about her during every aspect of my day, even though i know the pain ive been through when ive been with her. I know i shouldnt and cant rely on someone else to give me happiness, but im not sure really what to do at this point. \n\nSo after my huge ramblings (i havent really talked to anyone about all this recently), does anyone have advice on how i can get her out of my head? Its gotten to the point of obsession and it needs to stop for my own mental well being.", "summary": "I cant get over my ex girlfriend of 5 years and its causing many problems in my life. Any advice would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1nwbm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Girlfriend[18F] 13 months, I think I'm being lied to.", "post": "So, just to give a little background here. First, when we had been together for around 4 months, my girlfriend was frequenting the hospital due to some problems with her knee, and was being taken by her friend, whom i have never met, or seen a picture of, which i thought was a bit weird. Then later on, she kept going due to several other problems, which i also didn't believe existed, so i always assumed she was one of those people who thought they always had something wrong with them. The thing that got me the most is that some random family, other than hers, has been paying for all of these medical bills, and I'm left with no explanation for it. I've never seen one of these people, never spoken to them, the only communication I've had with them is via text messaging, and not on an actual cell phone, they were using a texting app. So a few months back, she apparently had something go wrong and woke up without memory of anything at all, I didn't really believe her, but I went with it and helped her. Today, same thing happened. However, she gave me her facebook info, and I realize that this is a violation of her trust, but I went on to her messages, and I saw that she was sending messages for about 30 minutes, while she was \"passed out\" up until the point when she asked me \"wait, who am I?\" So now that I have actual evidence that she's been lying to me, how do I go about this?", "summary": "Felt lied to for a while, was lied to for a while. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1r4qdp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21M] been hooking up with this girl [20F] for 7 months.", "post": "I like that we can talk about anything ranging from her feminism interests (she's a feminist) and my econ interests (i'm an econ & accounting major). We spend some time together every week and just bullshit: hook up, go eat, watch a movie, and just chill. I'm wanting to develop something more than that but I'm kinda of afraid to do anything about it. She's a very nice girl and I'm stuck on whether or not actually making it a thing. I'm just scared of fucking up again due to a past relationship, and still kind of want to experiment since i'm in college.", "summary": "College guy wondering or not to make girl, that I share a lot with, my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4g9imo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] in a sticky situation with her [17/f], my Asian parents, and the school administration", "post": "Over two years ago my girlfriend and I started dating in secret. We were in secret because my parents are (racist?) in the way that they only want me to date people from an Asian background like me, and she is white. Eventually, because our school is super small and rumors spread like crazy, the staff found out maybe about a year ago. We went and made sure they knew not to go to our parents, and they all agreed. Fast forward to now and the principal and guidance counselor have called my parents and spilled the entire story to them. They apparently even had to use generic words like \"girlfriend and her mom\" instead of saying names to get around privacy rules. After talking it over with some of our close friends, no one has any insight or heard of anything that could cause them to do this, and it's very uncharacteristic of them. My parents have told me that the school administration has said things such as, \"She's in a lower social class, he can do better,\" \"She's bringing his grades down\" (I have a 4.0 GPA), etc. While my parents have also said things such as \"She's white trash,\" and \"She's a gold digger,\" I know for sure that those are both incorrect. Heck, my parents haven't even spoken to her for more than 3 minutes. Now that the jig is up, I'm not sure what to do. Do I secretly talk to her and risk losing everything except food and school supplies for the next year if I get caught? Do I  make arrangements to get back together in a year? Or Do I just give up and accept it as over? All of this stress is really getting to me, and I  have no idea what the best choice is. Thanks for reading all of that, and giving me any feedback!", "summary": "My \"racist\" parents hate my 2 year white gf. The school principal called them and ratted us out for no reason. not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1bl5mn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are bullies frowned upon?", "post": "Edit: Wow, butthurt out in full force. I am not asking why are there bullies, rapists, murderers, nor am I suggesting that it should be encouraged. \n\n I'm asking why do we think we are so above that when it seems to be a part of nature, that the strong will use any physical means to take control and dominate?\n\n----------------------------------------------\n**Disclaimer: Bullies are, of course, scum and I have no intention of truly justifying them. This is a hypothetical question and I'm intending to play devils advocate here. Hear me out.**\n\nAll across the animal kingdom it has been seen that the the biggest/strongest/most aggressive example of the animal usually becomes the leader of the pack, gets the mating rights etc. \n\nIt is not the kindest or wisest lion that leads, it's the one shows displays of his dominance and scares off competition. The big bully.\n\nYet, when a human tries to be the alpha by showing displays of dominance or strength by intimidating others or having the bigger physical presence, we condemn it. Surely that is just natural selection, the strong taking power over the weak?\n\nWe are animals and I don't want to hear anything about civilised society *\"being above this\"*, or that intelligence is the greater requirement. The only intelligence required by other animals (and therefore us) would be enough intellgience to outsmart our opponents, but the fact is the biggest strongest one won't give the smallest smartest opponent the CHANCE to outsmart him, he will rule by power or fear.", "summary": "Animals nearly always defer to the ones that intimidate or show their strength, we are animals, so why do we shun and cheapen examples of this rather than accept it? Who's to say this child dominating over the other ones in the park, isn't actually a natural leader?"}
{"id": "t3_1evn7k", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "She probably thinks she is grtting Alzheimer's now..", "post": "So due to financial issues I have had to move in with my mom. I have a small plastic dresser I keep my clothes in, the two top drawers are the same size and the bottom one is bigger. I like to be organized so I keep my chonis (underwear) and bras in the top, socks and tank tops in the middle and pj pants and shirts in the bottom drawer. \nMy 64 year old aunt moved in with us in December, didn't warn anyone that she was coming into the county, and she moved in without asking. She is helpful and does the cleaning and laundry since both my mom and I work. I appreciate her doing it and always say thank you, now the problem comes she puts clothes away. She always puts the stuff in the wrong drawers, and I am pretty sure she can see how they are organized. She has her own plastic dresser but all her drawers are the same size and she seems to have the same OCD-ish tendencies when it comes to putting her clothes away. So since she can't seem to grasp how to put my stuff away I decided I am gonna mess with her a bit. \nI get up before she does, to get ready for work, and while she is still asleep I will switch the drawers on her dresser around. I pull the whole thing out and shuffle them around a bit. Then when she notices she will precede to take everything out and put it in the correct drawers (I guess she doesn't know she can pull the whole thing out). I chuckle a bit when I catch her removing the contexts I her drawer because she thinks she is forgetting things.", "summary": "Old aunt can't put my clothes away right, I make her think she is losing her mind."}
{"id": "t3_34zpqp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [16 M] change the perception that girls already have of me?", "post": "Basically I've always been seen as a small, 'puppy cute' guy. I'm also pretty witty and am not completely socially inept, and probably more sensitive than other guys. While this means that girls don't outright ignore me and a lot of them are open to being friends with me, very little will consider me romantically. In fact, I don't think any girl I know has to be honest. My guy friends have in the past made jokes to girls I know about the prospect, but they just laugh it off. Hell, my inability to enter a relationship is basically a running joke with most people. It's as if I'm some kind of 5 year old boy who isn't even an option whereas everyone else is viable. Is there a way I can change this perception of myself, or am I just kind of going to be stuck with it?", "summary": "Girls see me as puppy cute and don't think of me romantically. How do I change their minds?"}
{"id": "t3_4n3jnz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] squeeze my girlfriend [19 F] of 4 months', legs just because she likes how it feels, but she won't return the favor", "post": "My girlfriend and I have our own small physical contacts that we both enjoy. I like it when she lays on my chest, she likes it when I squeeze her legs, things like that. I also like it when my hair is squeezed with a tight fist (put not pulled after the grab). I had told her I liked the feeling of that before, but never asked her to do it directly. One day when I was laying in her lap I asked if she would squeeze my hair, and she said no. When I asked her why not, she did not respond.\n\nI was a little hurt by her denial of my simple request, not because she didn't squeeze my hair, but because she wasn't willing to do something I though it felt good, with out a justification as to why. I don't actually like to squeeze her legs, I find it painful after an extended period (she knows it hurts, I've told her), but I do it because she likes it.\n\nUntil now, I had never specifically asked for any of this kind of physical contact, but once I told her directly about my desires, she actively avoids it now.\n\nWas I wrong to ask that of her?\n\nWas my request unreasonable?\n\nShould I feel hurt by her denial?\n\nWas I expecting something I shouldn't?", "summary": "I squeeze my girlfriends legs, but she won't squeeze my hair. Is it wrong that I expected her to rerun the favor?"}
{"id": "t3_v8mrw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "21/M: Just met this girl, got friendly real fast (?) but I'm leaving on vacation", "post": "21 Male here with no dating experience. I was running errands around town today when I met this girl when I stopped by at university. I was paying fees when I lined up behind this girl who was already waiting in line at the admin office. She kinda glanced behind her as any normal person would and we made eye contact (not sure if it was deliberate on her part or pure timing coincidence) so I said hi.\n\nWe had a fairly typical 'introduction and school stuff' talk, since I noticed and asked about the orientation day shirt she was wearing (she's an incoming freshman) but I thought the conversation went fairly smoothly, definitely more friendly than my average conversation with most girls. I asked her where she was from and turns out she's a friend of my friend from the same town, which I think helps my case a little versus just getting to know a complete stranger in a school she's about to attend.\n\nThings got a little awkward when her mother came by to see how she was doing (it is afterall, orientation day for freshmen) and I didn't manage to get (neither did I have the guts to ask for it in the presence of her mother who was less friendly than her) this girl's phone number, but I did say 'maybe I'll look you up on facebook' (via my friend who's her friend) and she seemed quite approving of that before having to leave.\n\nI'm uncertain now because I will be traveling out of the country for almost 2 months before school starts. Then again she's not from here either, so it wouldn't make a difference if I stayed either. I'd say August will be the earliest I could ask her out for coffee or to go out. Next Facebook will be the only place I will be able to contact her since I didn't get her number (See above) and it'll be useless anyway when I go out of the country. What should I say and what should I even do - add her as a friend? Send her a message? Both?", "summary": "Met a girl at school, she seemed friendlier than most girls who just got to know me, I know a friend in common with her, her mom was present so I didn't manage to get her number, won't be around till August and the only place of contact is Facebook. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2z85fh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the wrong toothbrush", "post": "So I have 2 toothbrushes. One for brushing my teeth and one for cleaning the toilet.\n\nSo lets set the scene:\nIts dark, and its around 3:00am on a monday morning and I just got home from a night of drinking and such.\n \nWhen I got home I decided it would be a good idea to get some shut eye considering I got home late as fuck. So I have a quick walk-through in the shower and a quick shit and since I was super wasted I went to brush my teeth...and I used the toothbrush I use for cleaning the bloody toilet....\n\nTo my despair, when I woke up I realised where the smell of shit was coming from...it was my breath... So I go and use mouthwash to drown out the gritty taste and the really, really bad smell. When I got to work the next morning my work mates complained the the cleaning lady what the rancid smell was and all traces led to me. I got super embarrassed and stormed off into the bathroom to wash my mouth out with soap as the smell was repugnant.", "summary": "I used a shit filled toothbrush to brush my teeth instead of a normal one."}
{"id": "t3_1bal64", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I would like to know Reddit's opinion on using Federal money to put a police officer in every primary and secondary school in the United States.", "post": "Hey Reddit! Thanks for reading my post.\n\nI personal view police officers an important resource in society and that having an officer in every school would be great. I have two reasons for this, one is that they can provide protection and the second is that they can be role models for kids that might not have one. So the protection part is pretty obvious, the officers have guns and bad guys avoid guns, but what people don't think about is that an officer can identify and take action against domestic violence. Another thing that gets overlooked is how much of a need there is for police outreach to kids in America and a police officer can do just that. By placing officers in schools you give the kids a chance to see that they are just normal people that want to help you, especially if you teach the cops how to tutor and put them in a basic Algebra class every now and then, that would turn so many lives around.", "summary": "Officers can provide protection from criminals and domestic violence while doing public outreach by being role models and tutoring lower level math classes. "}
{"id": "t3_225ixx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [28F] steals my [28F] underwear.", "post": "This is rather odd for me to write but yeah, it's exactly like the title.\n\nBeen like sisters with this girl since early high school. We've been rooming together for 2 years. We get along great, she's always been there for me, does a lot for me. Let me live with her when my alcoholic parents kicked me out when I was younger. Great gal all around.\n\nMy issue is that I've been noticing my underwear go missing lately. Like clean underwear from my dresser drawer, I can't recall any dirty underwear going missing but then again I haven't been keeping track. She's never been known to steal before or do anything dishonest or untrustworthy so this is taking me for surprise.\n\nI asked her if she knows where my underwear have gone, she says no. She is built similar to me so I do think she would fit in my underwear. We've borrowed clothes from each other in the past so nothing like that has been a problem. Of course underwear is off limits.\n\nThis is rather odd for me and I don't really want to end a 14 year friendship over something like this. But I've brought it up many times and she's not budging. Should I just hide my underwear from now on?", "summary": "My roomie/best friend of 14 years steals my underwear. She's never been dishonest in the past so it's weird. I have tried multiple occasions to get her to admit this but she won't budge. How should I solve this situation so I don't have to lose her or my underwear?"}
{"id": "t3_1npg3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [30F] and I [28M] 5 years, almost got into a car accident.", "post": "While driving to the store a women in a sedan from oncoming traffic cuts us off by making a U turn and straight into the lane right next to us. She then immediately turns into the lane where we are. My GF realizes she is about to hit us and reacts by swerving almost into oncoming traffic.\n\nOnce the accident has been avoided, my GF slams the breaks as the woman in the sedan is behind us. She then unbuckles her seat belt and unlocks her door. I grab her hand realizing what she's going to do and I tell her to stop, let it go and don't go out. Enraged, she jumps out the car and starts screaming at the woman, \"What's wrong with you?! Are you trying to kill us or kill yourself?!\" (I could have sworn she said a few expletives along with what she said, but my GF denies swearing.)\n\nAs soon as she went back into the car, I grabbed her hand and tried to calm her down. I said, \"Look at me, calm down. I know you're pissed off but you need to relax.\"\n\nWe later ended up fighting because I was upset that she stepped out of the car. I told her she had every right to be royally pissed but once she stopped the car and stepped out she immediately compromised her safety and by acting like that she proved nothing. Who knows what could have happened from the woman could have panicked and drove into her or she could have gotten hit by oncoming traffic. She lost her cool and let her emotions get the best of her.  \n\nWhat made it worse was she said, \"I enjoyed it because I was upset.\" I'm afraid something like this will happen in the future and do something stupid like that again. \n\nAm I wrong for being upset about this?\n\n________________________________________________________", "summary": "Got into fight after GF stepped out the car after near accident to confront driver compromising her safety and acting childish."}
{"id": "t3_44e99i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] girlfriend of 5 months just gave me [29 M] a deadline for our relationship.", "post": "I've been dating this girl for 5 months now but I've known her for 3 years. It has been going really great and both of us have said that we are in love. We don't meet that often, maybe twice a week with a sleepover about every other week. I feel really good about the relationship and have been trying to increase the time we spend together to know her better and trying to introduce her to more of my friends.\n\nHowever, the last time we met, she told me that she wants to settle down and needs to know where our relationship is going. She's under some pressure from her family to get married and said that I have 2 months to either propose to her or break up. I said that's not nearly enough time for me and there's no way I can make that promise. We almost broke up there but then she said that I can have 4 months and I said I need a few days to think about it. She said that she doesn't want to move in with me before marriage but will live with me for a few weeks if I want that.\n\nThis is crazy right? I feel like I was in a car accident. I don't know where this came from and why she doesn't want to give our relationship some time instead of having this deadline. I really do like her and don't want to end it but I'm really confused. Saying yes to the 4 months thing will probably put me under a lot of pressure for that time and I think it would just be bad for our relationship.\n\nI'm not opposed to working towards marriage but I can't do that with these artificial deadlines. I'm meeting her this weekend to talk about this more, but I'm really not sure of what to say.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 months has given me 4 months to propose or break up. I don't want to end it but I think the pressure of a deadline would be really bad for our relationship. Please advise."}
{"id": "t3_yali8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and shat all over the back of my shorts", "post": "Well, I've always hoped I'd never have to post here, but it seems my time has finally come. This happened in the last hour or so and I'm still pretty steeped in shame. So here's what happened:\n\n My stomach has been a bit dodgy recently and admittedly I didn't help this situation *at all* by eating a load of greasy food with my friend. Shortly after he left, my girlfriend rang for a goodnight chat, during which I could feel trouble brewing...    \nI tried to wind up the conversation as I paced my room, a cold sweat creeping over me. There were a couple of worrying moments when I thought it might be go time, but I managed to reign in the beast and regain control of the situation. Or so I thought. I eventually said my goodnights and threw my phone onto the bed as I hastily shuffled to the bathroom, clenching my arse-cheeks with all the strength I could muster. I managed to get in and lock the door as a wave of relief came over me, knowing I'd made it to sanctuary. I whipped down my shorts and was spinning round to the toilet, when ***BOOM***... a great glob of foul-smelling, sticky shite fires off from between my taut cheeks before I can even sit down. My arse hits the seat and releases the kraken as I'm left staring at my own feculence, perched mockingly on the back of my shorts. The worst thing was that I was so clenched when it erupted, it smeared *everywhere*. Worst post-dump clean up of my life. It's a low, low feeling when you're wiping shit off the back of your balls.\n\nI'm just so glad it happened in my own home and not while out fucking shopping or something. That grotesque tableau of heaps of shitty bog roll, soiled boxers lain behind the toilet, and puddles of shit on the seat and floor I witnessed in a public toilet once? I now know that this could have been me. Rather than the gut-wrenching disgust I previously held, the victim of this travesty now has my fullest sympathies.", "summary": "Dodgy stomach + greasy food + chatty girlfriend = I have to do some laundry."}
{"id": "t3_s1cym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I dump my gf of a year and a half?", "post": "Background:\nI moved to a new city and started a new job. Major professional setback early on that really got my down. In the midst of this I start seeing this incredibly supportive girl. As I am down and in need of a friend I go with it.\n\nShe becomes my best friend. We see each other every weekend. She starts saying she loves me and is thinking about marriage I'm 27 she is 26).  In weaker moments I go along with it, say similar things. I don't want to hurt my best friend.\n\nBut I don't feel that way toward her. I love her and think she is great but I can't see myself with her. And im especially embarrassed to say it has a lot to do with sexual attraction. I don't want to have sex with her. Ever. If we could hang out without sex it would be great. But not having sex with her hurts her too. I know this will only get worse.\n\nHow do I go about breaking my best friend's heart", "summary": "my girlfriend is my best friend but there is no sexual spark"}
{"id": "t3_4spdvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friends [24 M, 27 M] are autistic, have no romantic experience and are frustrated about this.", "post": "So I'm on the autism spectrum, and as a result a few of my friends are on there as well. Now I've had two relationships in the past, but I more or less rolled into them without really knowing how. Two of my friends are also on the spectrum, and probably a little more severe than I am. They both have friends, but don't really know how to meet women and do the whole dating, relationship thing. I see how it frustrates them, I'm not sure if it's loneliness or curiosity, but it does. Partly due to me being on the spectrum as well, I don't really have answers for them. But I'd like to help. Only a standard answers like \"go to a bar\" doesn't really work in their position, and I feel like being that age and inexperienced might hinder them in online dating. Seeing as the disorder has been more wildly diagnosed in the past decade or so, I wouldn't be surprised if people here have suggestions.", "summary": "So what are your suggestions for guys in their mid to late twenties with no romantic and/or intimate experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_2c022d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and my girlfriend [20F] have been dating for about a year how do I tell my strict parents", "post": "I moved out of my parents house when I was 18 to go to university which is about 700km away from home. During my freshmen year I met my girlfriend and we started dating ever since then, I have had to keep my relationships with ANY girls a complete secret from my extremely religious Muslim parents. The real problem is that we want to move in together but I'm sure if I tell my parents they will not let me go back to school away from home in September. The main reasons I don't just tell them to F--- off is because they pay for my tuition and the fact that I really care what my parents think. \n\nI don't know how to tell my parents I have an Asian girlfriend that I've been dating for over a year and we want to move in together. I'm pretty sure they think that I will end up getting hitched with some girl my mom picks for me, like my sisters did (and we all know how great their marriage's are).", "summary": "have an asian GF that wants to move in and my strict racist Muslim parents don't know about and need advice on how to tell them. FML"}
{"id": "t3_37wfyw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by opening my water bottle.", "post": "Some preliminary notes \u2014 this happened yesterday at school, and it was actually my friend who caused this whole ordeal (his bottle, his attempt to clean it). Regardless, I'll share my bland point of view since I was in attendance the entire time.\n\nIn the morning announcements, we were all instructed to empty out our lockers by the end of the day or risk losing whatever we failed to reclaim. Two friends and I \u2014 one friend, Zed (not his real name), being the character of importance \u2014 shared a locker, and the only remaining articles were our history textbooks and Zed's running shoes and opaque water bottle. Zed had told me throughout the year not to touch his bottle because it's \"a bomb\", and I never thought much of it until that day.\n\nDuring our break between second and third period, the three of us returned our textbooks and went with Zed to the bathroom, who intended to wash his bottle. He unscrewed the top and dumped the contents into one of the toilets \u2014 some pale orange liquid that, to me, faintly resembled vomit. He then proceeded to the nearest sink and left the now-empty bottle under some running water. At this point in time, there was nothing in the bathroom that smelled particularly bad.\n\nAlmost instantaneously, the air was pervaded by the most putrid stench conceivable, and, by split-second deduction, we pinpoint the cause to be whatever he poured out into the toilet. Half the people in the bathroom start coughing and grunting after mere seconds, many already trying to push past me and run out. I grabbed my friends and stumbled backwards with them out into the hallway, which was already completely obstructed by people who had retreated or were reluctant to enter (the odor had already seeped well out the doorway).\n\nSoon enough, you had a whole nauseated crowd lingering outside the bathroom, with no one besides us really knowing what was discharging that terrible redolence. I stood on the side laughing for a good ten minutes while the crowd (but not the stink) gradually thinned out, while Zed tried to save any familiar-looking soul that intended to enter the abyss.", "summary": "friend plans to wash his old water bottle, ends up saturating the building with the aroma of year-old Thai tea and unleashing olfactory Armageddon."}
{"id": "t3_qzj7a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need to convince a coworker that I watched \"Mamma Mia\", and I have no intention of watching it myself. HELP. (Likely Spoilers)", "post": "A sweet sweet secretary at my work knows I'm gay so she always tries to go out of her way to make me feel welcomed. As a result, she convinced herself that I REALLY wanted to watch the movie \"Mamma Mia\" because I'd love it SO MUCH (...because I'm gay).\n\nNow, I don't normally watch movies, let alone movies without explosions or decapitations. The back of the movie made it sound even more boring (Random chick getting married goes on a zany adventure to find her real father - with madcap muscial results!) I have no intention of sitting 90+ minutes through a fucking musical, so I am appealing to the good folks at reddit to help me to trick her into thinking I watched it. \n\nWhat are some scenes I can reference to make it seem like I watched it, or things I can say (thinking along the lines of \"Wow...Meryl Streep really had a tour de force performance!\" or \"Collin Firth is such a cad...and such a dreamboat!\") to make it seem like I gave two shits about it. I know I can read reviews online, but I need specific scenes or themes that will work in a small talk like conversation.", "summary": "I am too guilty to admit I don't want to watch Mamma Mia, but too lazy to actually watch it."}
{"id": "t3_2rls9c", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Loose skin (discussion)", "post": "Every progress pic I see is incredible. And I'm really motivated by seeing the results of others. Its truly inspiring to see people making healthy choices and achieving their goals. Its also great to read about obstacles overcome by sheer willpower. However, when I scroll the comments I notice that there is an overwhelming concern from everyone about loose skin after weight loss. I'm assuming that it has much to do with a fear of appearing unattractive to potential partners. I could be wrong.\n\nThis post is meant to lead to  a healthy discussion to help calm the nerves of those that might be scared of losing weight because of loose skin. \n\nPersonally I have been there. In the past I have been afraid to start getting serious with losing weight because of the idea of loose skin.  \n\nI have decided recently that I will cross that bridge when I get there, and that the lesser of two evils would be to have a healthier body. I'm trying desperately hard to change my life. Every day is a battle, and I'm actively choosing to disregard those negative voices that whisper to me \"but all that work will be for nothing\".  \" Why try, its too late for you to look that good.\" And \"Nobody will ever be attracted to you, you're a piece of garbage.\" As you can imagine, I've dealt with a lot of self image issues because of my weight. I've been picked on, and I know that I'm not the only one to have had such terrible experiences whilst being overweight. That's why I open this discussion up.\n\nPlease upvote for visability. This discussion could reach someone that would otherwise give up on their goals and aspirations. \n\nI hope that comments from the community might help support and motivate others to lose weight, regardless of what may happen with skin. \n\nI'm looking forward to gaining support from this community, and a greater feeling of togetherness. This may be the only supportive resource for some of us, and this discussion could help people tremendously.", "summary": "The idea of having loose skin after losing weight is scary. Let's talk about it, and support each other in this process."}
{"id": "t3_t75dw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you handle people who continuously lie?", "post": "Do you call them out on it or let them have their \"fun\"?\n\nThere's this girl who is part of my group of friends.  I'm not super fond of her, but there's always someone in a group who rubs you the wrong way.  My biggest issue with her is that she lies constantly.  Sometimes about the most inane shit.  \n\nMostly I just keep quiet while she exaggerates or just flat out makes shit up, but this morning she really pissed me off.  We went to the same tech school culinary class in HS.  There was a guy in our class that ended up dying.   This was years ago.  Now one of our friends is dealing with a death in their family and I don't know if liar is jealous of the support and attention our other friend is getting, but she bold faced called this guy who died in HS her boyfriend.  Not only that, but made it out as if it was some epic love that they had.  She goes on about putting on a brave face and all this other shit.  Basically pulling from her imaginary experience to offer up advice.  \n\nI remember her back then.  They never dated.  If I'm remembering correctly she was kind of a bitch to him actually.  I can usually tolerate her blatant bullshit, but using this guy for attention or wtfever she gets out of it is really bugging me.  I thought if I took some time to cool off I'd stop being so pissed about it, but it's over 3 hours later and I still thinks its really fucked up.\n\nHow do handle people like this?  Do you call them out?  I don't know exactly what it'd accomplish besides a huge fight, but I might feel better....or is it better to keep the peace and just let it go?", "summary": "Someone I know is lying about having a relationship with someone who's died.  Call her out or get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_38qivb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can i force my Mind to let my Body sleep ?", "post": "I finally get home. Im kind of tired, but know I have to shower and generally get\nready for bed first (~20 mins.) I heat up some food (from past experience i Absolutely cannot sleep on an empty stomach,) turn the heated blanket on, hop out of the shower, brush my teeth, pour a glass of ice water, and think about how great it will be to drift off to sleep at a reasonable hour, and then wake up refreshed tomorrow, with a gungho attitude, like all you 'normal' people. Laying down, I consciously try to slow my breathing (forgot to mention I make a point to meditate and do <5 mins. of yoga per day) and consciously force myself to think about nothing and/or how comfy I am surrounded by preheated blankets and the bed im lucky to have. About 14 tosses and turns later, 'maybe sitting up and getting a sip of water will help.' Aaaaaaand its past 2 am, im somehow not tired at all anymore, and know in about 3 hours as the sun comes up ill feel the urge to take a short nap...only to wake up groggy and not focused at around 130pm, definitely not 'well' rested and generally wondering what I missed by wasting (sleeping through) all those morning/afternoon hours every successful person I know is so productive in. I have tried close to every 'solution' save for xanax/sleeping pills.", "summary": "I would much prefer to not be a night owl but unless I am ~1hr past unreasonably drunk, no amount of ...anything... can force my body to Go The Fuck To Sleep. I am truly at my wits end. I just want to be able to pass out Normally and wake up at a Normal time."}
{"id": "t3_3szg1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] slept with my crush [18 F] now she wont reply?", "post": "Ok so I met this girl through a mutual friend, knew her for about a month before a night out where she asked to stay at mine, I expected just to spoon as friends. \n\nWhat i wasnt expecting was for her to instigate sex, I was pretty drunk so not much happened, in the morning I was less drunk so we continued things. She seemed to be really into me, like snuggling and stroking my arm and shit. Anyway I saw her at another party a couple of days later and we had a flirty joking conversation about it, we continued to text each other, mostly about mundane things like work, but her responses got shorter and shorter. \n\nIts now been about 2 weeks since we slept together, and she stopped replying about 3 days ago. \n\nNot really sure what to do because I really like her, any advice?", "summary": "Slept with a friend of a friend, she stopped talking to me a couple of weeks later."}
{"id": "t3_qhfbk", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Roommate relapsed", "post": "I moved in with this guy (I'll call him Stan) about 6 months ago.  \nHe said he was a recovering alcoholic at first and he had been sober for a year or two.  \nI learned later on that he was also a heavy narcotic user in the past, but he's put all that behind him years ago.  \nHe and his partner (I'll call him Pete) went on vacation a ways away for eight days and are returning tomorrow (3/5/12).  \nLate last night, I got a call from Pete who said that Stan had relapsed and was drunk and/or using drugs.  \n  \nWhat I'm looking for right now is how to approach this situation when they return.  \nApparently, Stan feels really bad for what he did, but Pete doesn't want me to admit to Stan that I knew anything about what had happened.  \nAnyone know what I should do?", "summary": "My new roommate relapsed on drugs and alcohol after being clean and sober for a few years.  How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_2xlb1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my first girlfriend [18 F] of 18 months, broke up with me 2 days ago. How do i cope with this?", "post": "Okay so as the title says i'm 17 and my (ex) girlfriend is 18 and we were together for just under 18 months. We were in a long distance relationship and saw each other at least once a month. She was my first girlfriend but i was like her 14th boyfriend or something like that but after a month or so it didn't bother me.\n\nSo we texted each other fairly often every day. Of course we had times when things were crappy and we argued but alot of the time we were happy together. Whenever we saw each other it wasn't awkward or anything, we got along perfectly.\n\nRecently about two weeks ago we had a massive argument and she nearly broke up with me but she stayed and eventually we both said sorry and moved on from it. But on Friday i felt bad because i felt like i wasn't good enough for her and when i said that we didn't really talk to each other for the whole day but later in the day she just said she couldn't cope with her life, college and us two arguing and she said that's her reason for breaking up with me.\n\nI feel like everything is my fault. I got really jealous seeing her with other guys, at one point i became obsessive, we did start arguing alot recently, we never really knew what to say to each other and i never really did anything in my spare time so i became a boring person.\n\nI just don't know what to do with myself now shes gone. We went from talking non stop everyday to not talking at all and i don't know how to cope. This is so painful for me and alot worse than what i thought it could ever be. Whenever i try to talk to her she just seems to hate me and it hurts so badly. She means the world to me and i still love her and i don't want to lose her.\n\nSo i have multiple questions.\n\n1. How do i cope with this pain and what can i do to stop it?\n\n2. Should i move on or try to get back with her?\n\n3. If i should get back with her should i keep trying to talk to her or leave her alone for a few weeks or what?", "summary": "My first girlfriend of 18 months broke up with me and i don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2na3v6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my crush [18 F], is she just too playful or I should stop trying?", "post": "My crush and I are good friends.\nShe's a very shy, nerdy girl on the outside, however when we talk online she likes to go al random, happy and crazy.\n\nShe tries to be sociable with everyone and is usually very playful and sarcastic, and is usually trying to catch everyone with her charming happy-go-lucky spirits.\n\nShe started being way, way too nice with me, with tacky, sweet stuff such as \"If you love me I love you millions!\". As we knew each other, she started being more rough and sarcastic with me because she finally felt \"we were friends\". \n\nShe is a very perfectionist and workaholic girl, and even tho her sarcasm can go a little over the border, every time we meet she just looks so happy. \n\nShe has problems opening up with guys and every time some dude compliments her, she tries to ignore the compliment and turn it into something sacrastic.\n\nLast night we were talking, and she told me she thought I am attractive. When I thanked her she immediately started \"disconnecting\" by trying to be sarcastic, and when I complimented her back, even tho she tanked me, she immediately started joking about it cuz I misspelled a word... And she kept on joking about how I ruined the moment with my \"ghetto\" talk.\n\nEven as she left she still made fun of it, like if trying to hide the fact I complimented her.", "summary": "Really like this girl, but I don't know if she's being rude or somehtign else!"}
{"id": "t3_fw7y5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I show support?", "post": "My friend is running in this year's Boston Marathon and like many others unable to qualify is running for a cause that means a lot to her.  She has an aunt that beat cancer two years ago and is running for a charity in her name.  To help raise money she is holding an event this weekend that until recently I thought I'd be able to attend.  I intend to donate to support her monetary goal but I was hoping to do something creative, because quite frankly I'm very interested in her.  I'm not looking for some grandiose gesture, just something to make her smile.  I know that asking for such without knowing her personality may be a shot in the dark, but this is reddit and you guys are a super creative bunch.", "summary": "Guy likes girl, wants to show his admiration through support during her training for a marathon."}
{"id": "t3_46pkxk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] make friends when I hate everyone?", "post": "I should probably seek mental help for this one instead of asking reddit, but I have no insurance or money for a medical professional, so here it goes:\n\nI am ready to admit this is my fault.\n\nI have been hiding behind excuses for a long time: too shy, too introverted, too anti-social, traumatic personal relationships. So many reasons of why it's not my fault that I can't make friends. So much that I decided I can't make friends because I don't want to. But when people say things like \"I hate people\" or \"I don't want to live on this planet anymore,\" I realized that it's not really a hyperbole to me. I really don't like the general populace. Individuals can sometimes be really great, but it is hard to find them.\n\nThis I imagine is caused by some misplaced sense of narcissism. I don't like saying \"I think I'm better than everyone else.\" It's not an easy thing to admit because I know it's not right, but I suppose it's true. I think stupidity is an epidemic and it worries me about what the future of mankind might be.\n\nBut all of this hate has made me very tired, and very lonely. So I'm ready to get over myself, but I don't know where to start. How do I stop hating mankind? How do I stop being a self-centered brat?\n\nI moved to a new state about a year and a half ago. So reconnecting with old friends is not an option, I left them behind.\n\nAnd to make things more complicated... I don't have any hobbies or interests. That may seem impossible but I assure you it is not. I don't play video games, I don't follow sports, I don't do random sports on the weekends.  Unless you count knowing lots of Internet memes as a hobby, I seriously have none.\n\nSo, any ideas? Thank you for reading my pity-fest, but I assure you all of this is 100% serious. I have no idea what I'm doing or how to move forward.", "summary": "I hate everyone and everything, how do I stop that and make friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3np6nv", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "We haven't been happy with our photographer, and we're thinking of editing them ourselves. Think he will be offended?", "post": "This has been a roller coaster up and down with this photographer. He was the only one in town that was available on our wedding day, so we didn't have a choice. From the beginning we could see that he takes a lot of his photos and makes them extra sharp and saturated. It really seems like amateur editing in my opinion. But to each their own. (of course, we're paying, so we should have a say in the matter). \n\nDuring the shooting process, we didn't like his attitude. My wife had her flower arrangement with dangling ivy, and it looked really nice. As he was taking pictures with the flowers, he was complaining about the way they looked, because it was hard to take a picture of it.... hello, we are the ones who picked out these flowers. And if we asked him to do a \"classic\" pose, he just said it was \"old\" and that we come up with ideas that ruin his. \n\nWe got our photos just a few days after the wedding, which was honestly a shock. They were all slightly edited with extra sharpness and color. No zits or blemishes were removed, so we were shocked. They were edited, but not completely. It turns out they weren't the final edits really, just ones for us to look at and pick out for prints and a custom album. I think it would be better to just not do any editing (especially edits that increase sharpness and saturation). \n\nWhen asking about the edits, he was saying he would only do the editing for our prints that came with the package, and the photo album, no digital copies. That also seems odd to us. So we are thinking of just editing them ourselves, we're both amateur photographers with lightroom/photoshop, so we can do what we want. But I'm thinking it might be awkward saying that to him. \"Hey, your edits suck, so I want to do it myself.\"", "summary": "Our wedding photographer sucks at editing, and we want to do it ourself. How should we tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_16aw85", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [22F] is showing signs of an eating disorder, and I'm [22M] not sure what to do.", "post": "I [22M] have been dating my girlfriend for approximately a year, she is [22F].  We're currently apart because I am about 6 hours away from her, finishing my last semester of school, while she graduated last year and is working.  New Year's Eve she drank too much and revealed to me that sometimes she throws up after eating.  She said maybe once a week.  She says that she gets extremely anxious sometimes if she eats something \"bad\" and the anxiety causes her to throw up, not sticking her finger down her throat.  I urged her to go speak to someone, and she was vehemently against it.  I was supportive, told her she's beautiful and to call me if she ever felt that way.  She texted me last week because she needed me to tell her that eating a single Hershey's kiss was alright.  I believe this is deeply rooted from her dancing ballet for 12 years.  She was never the tall and skinny girl.  She was never fat, she just had large breasts and a teacher from France that shamed her.  I'm not sure what to do about this.", "summary": "Gf may have eating disorder, I'm not sure and I want advice on how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_wrouf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fiance not a fan of my best friend and her fiance...need advice!", "post": "Me-(27 Female), Fiance-(26 Male)...I introduced my fiance to my best friend Marie (26) and her fiance Mark (32) about a year ago.  One of the first times we hung out as couples Marie was kind of whiny about some things and put a damper on the day for everyone.  Since then my fiance has had a bad taste in his mouth about her.\n\nAfter that point he expressed to me that he was disinterested in spending time with them in the future (even though he finds Mark to be a perfectly nice guy).  I understood his point of view, but since she's my best friend I encouraged him to give her another chance.  From that point on we've enjoyed several dinners, BBQ's, etc. with them and she's never done anything to be rude or annoying to him.\n\nHowever, he recently confessed to me that for the past year every time we have had these \"couple dates\" he has solely done it to \"keep me quiet\" and that he really does not want anything to do with them.  In the same convo he told me he thinks they are both very nice people and he does NOT dislike them, but that he feels he has nothing in common with them.  He says he likes spending time with all of my other friends but said he no longer wishes to spend time with Marie and Mark.\n\nI do not want to try to tell him who to be friends with, but I guess I just don't see why if he likes them, he has to withdraw from any future time spent with them.  It would be more understandable to me if he had a strong dislike for either of them.\n\nMy question in all of this is how do I handle things now with my friends Marie and Mark when suddenly all of our time spent as couples is now reduced to the three of us?  It makes me sad because they really like my fiance and truly consider him a friend.  They have no clue that he wants nothing to do with them and has felt this way all along.  \n\nHas anyone else experienced this?  How can I avoid hurting my friends' feelings and this being awkward for me? \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Fiance wants to be excluded from any/all time spent with my best friend & her fiance, but has kept quiet about it for a year now how do I explain the awkwardness of him being mysteriously absent to my friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2h2rdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[EX] Me [23 M] with my Ex[22 F] 3.5 years, i want her back.", "post": "Ok fellow redditors, here we go;\n\n6 months ago my ex broke up with me because \"she didn't feel the way she was supposed to feel anymore\"\n\nbut..  \n\nAs stated in the title, i want my ex back, probably sounds pretty generic but i cant help it.\nWe broke up 6 months ago, i was fucking pissed and got into a new relationship, thought it was a good idea at first i had great sex and great talk with my new girlfriend but something was missing all the time. \nFound out my \"new\" girlfriend was a just a rebound to my ex so i decided i should end the relationship between us.. Also as a matter of fact i thought about my ex every single day during our relationship, about how it would be if she didn't break up with me and hearing all the voices of friends and relatives inside my head at the breakup; \"its a shame, thought you would get married soon and get children and such\" and all that crap.\n\nAfter all, i miss her every day so god damn bad i'm thinking of asking her out just to check out her interest in me, maybe its something and we could start over again? right? \nAfter all its the only person ever in my life i felt comfortable with in a relationship, in my eyes she was perfect.\n\nSo yeah, maybe its my head messing with me or maybe she is the one.. i don't really know anymore i feel that this post doesn't even make sense to you guys.\n\nI still have about weekly (friendly) contact with her at the moment\n\nWhat do you think? I'm just so fucking confused..", "summary": "Broke up, got new GF, broke up again because cant stop thinking of the love of my life; my ex."}
{"id": "t3_1axus1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17F] girlfriend, despite an otherwise perfect 4 month relationship, seems completely uninterested in anything beyond making out despite explicitly telling me otherwise. [17M]", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for a little more than 4 months. Everything has been great, we get along fantastically, share similar interests, and love doing things together. When making out things are great, it's just fun, never awkward, and we really have a good time. However, whenever I attempt to instigate anything beyond making out she subtly pushes me away (shifts positions, pulls shirt down etc.). I've talked to her about it and she says that she's totally fine and comfortable with doing things beyond making out (although I know she never has), but in the moment she never seems to want to. How would you recommend I bring this up again and talk to her about?", "summary": "Dating for four months, says she is okay with \"doing stuff\" but never acts like it. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2fbhnm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by participating in the \"Fappening\"", "post": "Labor Day weekend; a time of praising America's hard-working laborers. But this year was different, very different. This Labor Day time, a period on the internet where celebrity nudes were leaked all over, came upon us. As any sensible horny young-adult who spends all of his time inside, I of course joined in on the action. I mean, fucking Kate Upton! Who doesn't get off to that smokin' bitch! Anyways, it was decently late around midnight. My parents (yes I still live with them) were awake. I knew they would be going to bed anytime soon, so I rushed for my time. I had planned it out; conserve only one tissue, don't use lotion but instead use saliva, and go speedy gonzolaz on that shit. It worked for the most part, going through all the pictures, fapping around at the speed of sound. Then it happens... No, my parents didn't walk in or hear me, but right before I was about to hit climax, I burnt my dick out of what I first believed to be too much friction. I wanted to scream, but if my parents heard me, how was I gonna explain a burning dick? I had to throw out the unused tissues so there was no suspicion of why they were on my desk. I also had to exit it out at an Arianna Grande  picture. I stopped to examine the head, the part where it hurt most. It was red and throbbing and I was about to flip shit. I apparently had popped the blood vessels in the head of my dick, fuck, and I was internally bleeding. I went straight to bed without even finishing. That was it for me during the \"Fappening\".", "summary": "Participated in the \"Fappening\", and ended up severely burning my dick."}
{"id": "t3_46otid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (31 M) Concerned for an elderly neighbor (70s? F), not sure how or even if to bring it up with them/their family?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nOne of my neighbors is an elderly widow that I've known since I moved here albeit not very well. Lately I've noticed her forgetting things, often within the same conversation.\n\nExample: She'll forget really obvious things like someone in the building had a baby despite seeing and holding the baby and seeing the mother is no longer pregnant. She'll ask things like \"Oh when is so-and-so due?\". When I remind her that the baby is a month old she'll respond like \"oh that's right\" then kind of trail off. This can and has happened multiple times in the same conversation.\n\nI'm not really sure if this is something I should mention to her or her family. I don't see her often (maybe a few times per month) and I very rarely see anyone else in her family.\n\nShe's nice and hasn't done anything hurtful to herself or anyone else but I'm worried something might happen if she forgets something.\n\nAnyone else been in this situation before? Not really sure if this is /r/relationships worthy, but thought I'd post here first. If there's a better sub please suggest.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "neighbor forgets stuff a lot, should I tell her/her family?"}
{"id": "t3_2765b0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Texas- car towed, took it back without asking.", "post": "A few weeks ago, my friends and I went to go see a DJ. We parked in a lot with a gas station, on a side parking spot facing the street. There were no posted signs about towing, and there was clearly space for it.  We went to the show and came back to find our cars towed. Apparently this took place within minutes of us walking away. \n\nBeing 4 kids in our early 20s on the wrong side of town at night, no money, and no transportation, we found some local police to help us out. They understand our predicament and took us 10 miles away to the tow yard. \n\nWe arrived and got in line with around 20 others there to pick up their cars.\nMy friend stays to pay for his car, but in the moment I saw the tow company as essentially a group of thugs who just stole my car and were trying to extort money from me. \n\nThe gate was open next to me where people were walking in. I saw my chance and followed them. Found my car and drove off the lot.\n\nMinutes later I get a call from my friend, still on the lot, saying they, the tow company, had called the police and had a squad of cops and tow trucks looking for me. Luckily, I arrived home and nothing happened.\n\nI was a little frightened, but everything seemed to work.out fine.\n\nToday I received a letter from the tow company saying they had filed a report with the police that the car was stolen from their lot. \n\nIn the letter they requested the $270 for the tow and said that if I didnt pay up in the next 10 days then they would \"take further action\" against me. \n\nAlso, the tow company cc'd the letter to my cars finance agency.", "summary": "tow company stole my car and asked for a lot of money. Just walked in the open gate and took it back."}
{"id": "t3_j9xvk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, maybe you can help me get these for my classroom?", "post": "I teach theatre design at a performing arts magnet school in Tampa, FL. I took over the program last year after it had been on a downward spiral for several years and I'm rapidly turning it around. \n\nThe problem is that we, of course, get little to no funding for the basic things that we need for our program/classroom. I have a Donor's Choose account, and currently have two open projects that need funding for the upcoming school year:\n\nThis one is for new drafting mats for the drafting desks in my room. Since the program hadn't been maintained in years, all of the old mats were drawn all over and cut to shreds. I want to teach drafting as a part of my advanced class this year, but without these it's impossible.\n\nThis project isn't *as vital* but it's still important. It's model building supplies so that my students can learn how to build scale models of the theatre and their scenic designs.\n\nThe other thing that I really need help with is computers - I really want to get 12-15 computers (ideally iMacs, but high end PCs would work too) but I am having a nearly impossible time getting them from the school. Does anyone have any leads on some kind of grants or any ideas as to how I can get new or used machines for my students to learn CAD on?", "summary": "Theatre design teacher looking for some funding help to get his new classroom functional after years of non-use and no support. "}
{"id": "t3_4y2dh5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25M) having trouble dating when I'm the last bachelor of my friend group.", "post": "Hey guys, I'll keep it brief. Ironic, I love giving advice in the relationship section, but have trouble in my own personal life. I've had trouble getting over my last girlfriend; super lovely girl who moved across the country to pursue her career. I've gone on multiple dates, but have had trouble finding a real connection. The majority of these these dates have come to fruition through various means of online dating (imo, not the way to go.) From what I've concluded from my interactions is that that the majority of people in my vicinity are women I know, have dated previously, or have a LOT of emotional baggage that I'm not ready to take on. The last guy in my close friend group has just gotten engaged.\nI understand that they're moving on in their lives, but I live in a small suburb where there is not much going on in the bar scene and with no one to go out to town with (let alone the city), I feel like I have no options. I'm a decently outgoing guy, but am reluctant to do the club/bar scene solo. Any advice on how I'll be able to find more dating options when all of my friends are in married mode now? Thanks so much. Peace and love.\n\n**bold", "summary": "Only bachelor left in friend group, having trouble meeting new people for dating."}
{"id": "t3_31vtd0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have an auto loan with an atrocious APR. Navy Federal Credit Union won't refinance. Are there reasonable options to avoid all that interest?", "post": "Ok, first, I am near middle age, but I am very new to grown-up finances and not at all knowledgable about loans. \n\nI got an auto loan at 17.19% APR from Navy Federal in July 2011. 6 years was the only way the payments seemed affordable, so it is a 6 year loan. I knew at the time it was a crazy interest rate, but I was desperate, and with poor credit, it was the best I could find. I don't know what my credit score was at that time, but I was just then paying off the delinquent accounts on my credit report, so it had to be bad.\n\nAt this point, I owe about $4400.\n\nAnyway, now my FICO score is 757, so I thought I would be able to refinance my loan for a better APR. But Navy Federal says they won't do it unless there has been some sort of hardship. \n\nAm I stuck with a stupid interest rate? I know I signed up for it, but I did (however ignorantly) assume I would be able to refinance once my credit improved.\n\nI recently created an account at CreditKarma.com, but when I entered the variables of my NFCU loan, APR, how long was left on it, etc., it said there were no options to fit my needs.\n\nDoes anyone have any helpful input, please? I can increase my payments, but not more than double.\n\nI forgot to ask Navy Federal, so I will ask here - is it typical for there to be penalties for paying off an auto loan early?\n\nI do want to say: I am so inexperienced at this, I don't know if it is just a simple matter of applying to other banks for a loan, and then using that to pay off my NFCU loan. Is that a thing?\n\nThanks for any help!", "summary": "Navy Federal Credit Union won't refinance my 17% APR auto loan. what are my options?"}
{"id": "t3_4ccu2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [23 F] with her bf [23 M] of 6 months, are starting a business together.", "post": "A good friend of mine is starting a business with her bf of 6 months. They've been planning to this since 3 months into their relationship. I think it's a ridiculous and terrible idea, however I wouldn't dare say that to her as I know it would result in a fight. She is still in school and graduates this summer with a large amount of student loans, as well as the business loan her bf and her are taking out together. Am I crazy to think this is all a terrible idea? I really would just hate to see her dig herself into a hole for this. Or even rush this with her bf and let it result in fights or even a breakup.", "summary": "Friend starting business with bf of 6 months, am I crazy to think it's a terrible idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2gjg8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M]e 27 with LDR SO [23F] that I just reconciled with after breaking up with her for 3 weeks moving in next month.", "post": "I have posted before. My SO has visited me a few times and stayed lengthy times each visit. We had an argument over a non romantic female friend a while back and I broke up with her over it.\n\n During the break I hooked up multiple times with a FWB and told my SO about it. She said it hurt her but she can be over it and she wants to move in with me. \n\nMy question is now that I have sacrificed for her but also hurt her by having sex with another women during the break up how should I handle it? Should this just be a fresh start for us or should we sit down and talk about it in person once she gets here?\n\nI do feel guilty but at the time I didn't think a reconcile would happen. After  talking to her again I realized how much I love her.", "summary": "girlfriend is moving in with me next month. I had sex with another woman during a 3 week break up I had with her and told her. She forgave me."}
{"id": "t3_1gjiae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] with my 9 month [30F], asked me *why* I love her", "post": "My girlfriend of 9 months asked me why I love her. She wants to know what I like about her that any other girlfriend doesn't have. She wants to know if I like her for her or if it's just because she is a girl who is spending time doing couples things with me.\n\nWe've discussed it before, and I gave her 3 reasons. I don't think those satisfied her and so I've come here looking for any input. I searched around a bit and didn't see this discussed, so please feel free to post a link if it has been.\n\nWhat I said before:\n\n1. She treats me very nicely with little things like always making sure I have a pillow behind my head. She's very thoughtful.\n\n2. She's very resilient - we had an evening where everything that could go wrong, did go wrong. She had bruises from falling a lot ice skating, a waiter spilled a drink on her, then she slipped on the way to the bathroom. And we still had a great evening and she refused to go home because it would have killed our plans.\n\n3. She's very free spirited because of some of her past life events. (Don't want to go into detail here)\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "she asked why I loved her. She wants to know if I like *her* or just that I have a girlfriend. I gave her 3 detailed reasons however she is asking again and so I come here to ask how I can improve my response. Maybe I need to be simpler than detailed?"}
{"id": "t3_1ajq9s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need help keeping the type of girls i like.", "post": "I'm a genuinely nice, considerate, and polite guy. I'm not a pushover by any means, but i find that being this way is what i'm most comfortable with. I'm kind of proud with the level of awareness i have when it comes to other peoples feelings. That said, i'm into girls that are kind of the opposite. Like bad girls, who might dress kind of gothy, have raunchy humor, and are assertive. \n\nThe problem is that when i go for these types their personality \"adapts\" to mine. They maybe try to seem nicer or polite than they really are, even though that's not their true personality. I think they see how i am and they fear i might judge them for not being like that. That's not true, and i know any kind of relationship won't really work if everybody's trying to be something they're not.", "summary": "How do i go about making them feel more comfortable being tmeselves, without them turning overly self-conscious of how they act around me?"}
{"id": "t3_4cy55g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [24M] tell the whole truth, half truth, or dodge this question in an interview?", "post": "This isn't for a specific upcoming interview, I'm just wondering how to handle it in the future. The whole truth is that I dropped out of school in my last semester due to my life long depression coming to its lowest point where I could no longer fathom leaving the basement. School seemed so useless and pointless and stressful that it didn't seem worth going. I did end up getting a job with a friend in the field and working that job all of last year. That job would have normally required a degree, and now I'm working in a job that requires no real skills at all and I feel like I need to get out of the monotony. I was in CS before, and now I'm working at DHL and I feel like my job and probably the job of everyone in that office could be automated in a year if DHL was smart enough to hire the right people with the right plan. It feels like a trap and I want a job where I feel like I contribute again.\n\nThe half truth is that school simply no longer felt like a good fit for me and I wanted to start working right away. I got a good job working from home and learned a lot about web development, and I believe it's more practical knowledge than another semester could have given me. I could leave out anything about the depression since I feel like that would be really off putting for the interviewer. \n\nOr I could just try to give the shortest answer possible and try to move past that line on my resume and try to draw more focus to job experience or whatever.\n\nAlso before it comes up, I'm not willing to finish the degree. I hate that program with a passion and it would take 2 semesters to complete due to Senior Design or whatever taking 2 semesters. All the professors are incompetent assholes who don't give a fuck about the students, and the program was actually almost cut when I was a sophomore. One professor even told my friend his calling might be burger flipping rather than CS. Fuck that expensive piece of paper that is supposed to get me jobs.", "summary": "dropped out of CS degree due to depression. How do I handle it in an interview?"}
{"id": "t3_c0f03", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today a Jehovah's witness came to my door and I agreed meet him on Friday to discuss some literature he left with me.  What should I ask him?", "post": "Background about me (skip if you don't care): I'm somewhere between an agnostic and an atheist.  I'd like to believe there's a god that cares about us and that had a plan for our existence but I acknowledge that there's basically no evidence whatsoever to support that.  I am not a member of any specific religion but I was raised as an Orthodox Presbyterian which is a fairly conservative protestant tradition so I'm familiar with the Bible.\n\nI have a lot of respect for anyone that has the nerve to go to a stranger's door and talk with them about uncomfortable stuff knowing that 99% of people will laugh at them.  I live on the south side of Chicago, so it's not even like they're going door to door in the safest of places.\n\nAnyway, I think the least I can do is to give him the best objections I can come up with and allow him to answer them to the best of his ability.   I warned him he probably wasn't going to like what I had to say and that I wasn't going to just tell him what he wants to hear.  \n\nThis is where I need your help.  If anyone has ever wanted to sit down and ask a Jehova's witness something but hasn't wanted to take the time to actually deal with one leave your question here and if it is good I will ask it and post his replies.\n\nThe literature he left me was a small booklet called \"What does the Bible really teach\" and a \"Awake!\" magazine June 2010 issue with the title \"Relief from Stress How?\" if anyone is interested in reading them and commenting directly.", "summary": "Ask something you want me to ask a Jehova's witness and I will tell you what he says."}
{"id": "t3_1z9dx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[not romantic] I (19M) feel I'm not attractive enough for a relationship? [vicious cycle]", "post": "I'm a nineteen year old male who's always had a huge confidence problem. I'm overweight and I have acne that won't leave my face, so if chose on my eyes, I don't see how anyone could be attracted to me.\n\nI've had relationships in the past, but they ended quickly. Most of them lied to me about why they broke up with me, so I feel it's my looks.\n\nNow, I'm suck in this loop that consists of me feeling lonely, wanting to change myself, but then not doing so. Which pots me back in the loop. The vicious cycle.\n\nTo be honest, I don't know if I posting here to all for advice or if I'm doing it to rant a bit. But with way I don't know what to do.\n\nAnd I feel like I can't to anyone I know about this, so I resorted to the internet. \n\nAll I really want is someone in my life who cares, but I don't think that'll happen until I work on me. Which I don't do.", "summary": "I think I'm unattractive enough not to find someone, hut do nothing to change myself"}
{"id": "t3_nk7z0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you sabotage your workplace?  I'll start.", "post": "I work as a cook in a restaurant and ever since my old boss got fired, the new guy has been a real prick.  Even so, he's been pretty lenient about making food for yourself on the job, but has been increasingly stingy about making food for servers, runners, etc.  Not to mention he tried to short me on a paycheck.  Anyway I was never shy about taking food from work, but now I do it more than I ever did or would need to.\n\nTaking a meal home is frowned upon--and I do it anyway--but I also find myself taking home food that isn't perishable (jars of nutella) or that I don't even want and won't use (coconut milk?!?).  Also I took a shit-ton of saran wrap for my windows when it got cold.", "summary": "On top of stealing shit I need and use, I steal shit I don't even want because my boss is a dick."}
{"id": "t3_10f42n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M17] and [F17], emotional problems on my end", "post": "So she and I have been together since we were 13, and she moved away a while ago. We have been in a long distance relationship for a while but it has began to fade. She already broke up with me a few months ago, but I managed to win her back. She visits only every few months.\n\nShe will be coming back soon, but I find myself attracted to another girl who I have never even spoken to before. My current girlfriend is great but we barely see each other and she says that her love fades everytime she goes back.\n\nWe talk every day and she likes all the things I do. I do not know if I am looking for some excuse to end the relationship before her just so I can pursue this other girl (who I have not even talked to yet). So the attraction is superficial to say the least, but I have a deep feeling that if it was not for my morals and conscience, I would have already tried to contact and talk with her. \n\nI am stuck. I cannot make an objective decision because if I try to justify our fading relationship it feels like an excuse to try and go pursue this other girl. It might be just a passing thing, and I do not know what to do.", "summary": "In a long distance relationship, feels like its fading, been broken up already once, but girlfriend seems to be okay right now"}
{"id": "t3_28naic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my BF [20M] of a year, and he keeps Facebook creeping other girls", "post": "So a few days ago I stumbled upon his Facebook search history. I scrolled down to see the list, and there are about 3 girls (friends) that keeps coming up. Every month there'd be a few times where it says \"___ searched for CuteGirlA \" . but one girl got more searches than the other ones... \n\nI then confronted him. He lied about it at first until i showed him the proof.  and he said that he has a \"creeping addiction\"? and that he feels bad every time he does it but can't stop himself.. But he said its merely for entertainment and not lust..is there such thing?  \n\nHe apologized many times, and said he really does love me.  and he would do anything to earn back my trust, and he even deleted Facebook for me. but I feel very betrayed and I don't know what to do that'll make me feel better.. can i trust him again?", "summary": "he has a \"creeping addiction\" on Facebook for a few particular girls (one more than the other). he apologized and deleted his Facebook. but I still feel betrayed, can i trust him?"}
{"id": "t3_2cgtoz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[California] Received flawed item while online shopping, no refunds even if it was not my fault.", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the best subreddit to post this in, but this has been a pain for me for the past week.\n\nI recently ordered clothing online from a small Storenvy store. Their policy is that all items are final sale because: \"All items are carefully inspected prior to their shipping and we are therefore not responsible for any rips or breaks done on the customer's part.\"\nOne of the knit tops was sent to me with a pretty noticeable flaw in it, bad enough to where I wouldn't be able to wear it or resell it at all. I sent them multiple emails about it and they would not give a refund or an exchange, even though it was shipped to me as is. They clearly did not carefully inspect their merchandise. Is there anything I can do about this to get my money back? They are based in California, but get their clothing from elsewhere.", "summary": "Small clothing store online refuses refund/exchange even though the item they sent me was faulty."}
{"id": "t3_36ss4f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (m17) Girlfriend's (f18) of 4 months family is poor... What do I do?", "post": "Should I even get involved? My girlfriend comes from a family of two little sisters, mother and father. Her parents are separated, (her father seems fine) but her mother is really poor off... We went to her mother's house today and there was a notice from the water company, saying they owe hundreds and their water will be shut off soon. They have a hard time putting food on the table, but her mother just bought a new car. \n\nWhat I'm confused about is whether or not this is an issue of her mother not being able to budget/prioritize properly, or if she just doesnt make enough money...She's a high school teacher and also picks up hours at Home Depot when she can. My girlfriend has a job, and her mother takes nearly all of the money she makes from her bank account without asking. Her mother also seems to be housing a \"boyfriend\", I use that term lightly, because I don't think he adds any income to the house and is mooching; he sleeps there, and when he is not in the house, he has their car. My girlfriend has found marijuana in their car after he's been smoking in it (something no one in that house does). Her mom hasn't commented on this guy's situation yet.\n\nI really worry about the safety of the girls in their house, because their front door doesn't lock and the \"boyfriend\" refuses to talk to the girls or me, which only leads me to believe he's shady. \n\nGot any ideas as to what I should do? I want to make sure the girls are safe, and I don't want their water shut off. I'm in no position to give them money, and that's not what I want to do, but this situation really is putting stress on our relationship. I'm very ok with her venting about the situation, but I would like some answers or advice to give her. I'm really trying to be a man here, but I don't want to get too involved and take on responsibilities that I can't handle.", "summary": "My girlfriend's mom is poor, can't pay the water bill, and is letting a \"boyfriend\" who smokes pot to live there without paying rent or helping with the bills. What do I do, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_448nrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend's [22 M] roommate/brother [19 M] has been stealing from him for weeks, and he doesn't feel safe in his own home.", "post": "I'm mainly asking for my friend because a) the parties involved don't use reddit, and b) none of his close friends really know what to do.\n\n**Some background:** A couple months ago, my friend and former roommate (from here on referred to as B) had a call from his mom (who lives several states away) that his younger sister (we'll call her C) had been violent and abusive towards her. She had a history with drugs (meth and heroin) and theft, but her parents were unwilling to just put her out on the street. \n\nB agreed to take her in for a couple months to get her away from bad influences back home, and things were looking up. C started at a public uni with a clean slate, and B began a new job working long hours to support rent for two. C also began to identify as a male around this time (not sure if that's too relevant). Our friend group was supportive of both of them, and they would come hang out together from time to time.\n\nSeveral weeks later, B told me privately of C stealing marijuana and prescription painkillers from his (locked) room. I was shocked, because I had thought things were on the upswing judging from the few times I had seen them, but apparently C had failed every single one of his freshman classes. \n\nC began verbally abusing B and disrespecting (and stealing) his belongings in their apartment and leaving it a mess. B has replaced his locks, but confided in me that he has begun to hate living with C. His lease does not end until the 4th quarter of this year, and I hurts me to know that he works so hard for his sibling and gets treated like this in return.\n\nI've offered to keep some of his valuables at my place away from C, and couch space if he just needs to get away. I just wish that I could do more. How can I help him, reddit?", "summary": "Friend's brother moved in with him several months ago to get away from drugs and toxic relationships back home. Started well, but is spiraling back down into drugs and theft."}
{"id": "t3_1j9yds", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Re/Action, a new gaming publication, needs your help to stay afloat", "post": "Re/Action is a video game publication that seeks to be a safe place for minority writers and people who just want to create something different. You can go to the website **[here] to check out some of the content that's already up there. There's some great stuff\u2014from video game critiques to autobiographical essays. I have written for them in the past and I think they do a great job of not only editing the pieces, but choosing the right ones to go up. It's a great selection. You never see the same thing twice.\n\nIt also seeks to actually pay its contributors (unlike most gaming websites that don't pay) and it can't without your help. It started an indiegogo campaign a few weeks ago that hasn't been going so well. I personally think it's unfair that a publication with so much potential to do something great in an industry that is under contention is not getting funded, but other projects not seeking to do good are. It needs $30K by Thursday. I'm reaching out to Reddit to find some help. \n\nEvery little bit counts. Here's the link:\n\n[", "summary": "A great gaming publication needs 30K to get funded and it needs your help. Link is above."}
{"id": "t3_3v92g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] whose is needy around women, and seems very co dependent. **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "Dear r/Relationships,\nHey people it seems like whenever i meet a girl or pays attention to me i end up becoming really needy of their attention and in a sense co dependent. I help them with everything no matter. I also never say no and hope that things i give will make people like me. For example, at my job i get a lot of food, which i then usually give away, for 3 reasons. 1. I dont really want it, 2. i want to be nice, and 3. is because i really want people to like me and i think i can get them to do that by giving them food. \n\nIt feels like whenever i make a new friend guy or girl i keep inviting them to places or to come over for dinner, yet they also keep saying no. In my mind i think i am the stereotypical nice guy, and i realize that i just have no idea how to get out of the place and into just the guy.\n\nThanks", "summary": "19year old whose needy whenever a women is nice to him, and a sterotypical nice guy, doesnt want to be these things anymore, please help"}
{"id": "t3_1vjhe0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When my girlfriend [F19] was 9, she was sexually abused by a family friend's son. Today, I [M20] am going to his sister's wedding and he will be present.", "post": "My girlfriend's family were friends with his family and spent time together fairly often. When my girlfriend was 9, he tried to rape her in the basement while the two families had dinner upstairs. It happened more than once. She was embarrassed and blamed herself and never told anyone about it.\n\nYears later, the two families drifted apart for other reasons, but in the last year or so, they rekindled their friendship. Her family, including myself as her date, are invited to his sister's wedding. Her brother will obviously be there.\n\nMy girlfriend continues to blame herself for everything and told me she doesn't know how she would tell her mom about what happened. He likes to pretend things never happened and continues to try and have small talk with my girlfriend at dinners when the two families get together. I have never met him before. I don't know how to handle myself at the wedding if he comes in close proximity to me or my girlfriend.\n\nI need advice because I am clearly not thinking straight at the moment and can't discuss this with anyone.", "summary": "A man that tried to rape my girlfriend when she was 9 will be at the wedding that I am going to."}
{"id": "t3_3w16k9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] just realized I may be scared of relationships. What do I do?", "post": "I apologize for the poorly written and articulated description. Please feel free to ask questions.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI just realized I may be afraid of relationships with men. I don't know what to do. Should I see a therapist? Honestly, this issue seems too trivial to see a therapist. Also, I can only afford the one at my school, and they only see short-term patients. The last few attempts at therapy (for other problems) weren't very successful so I am hesitant to go back.\n\n\u00a0\n\n**Dating Background**\n\nI've had suitors in high school. Though not in college as I've had a hard time making friends and getting to know people in college. However, I've never dated or have gotten intimate with, let alone kissed, anyone my whole life.\n\nI enjoy my friendships/acquaintance relationships with guys, but when I feel that a guy is about to ask me out, I end up avoiding him and try to distance myself from him. When a guy does end up asking me out, and I say no, we slowly grow apart. This scenario has happened several times with friends. At this point, I feel that I am a bit too sensitive with my relationships with my male friends.\n\nAdditionally, when I like someone, and he likes me back I slowly stop liking him. I'm not sure if it's because I get bored or am afraid of being committed. Also, I have difficulty really liking someone. I have had many \"little crushes\" and infatuations but maybe like three serious crushes at most.\n\nI really do want to be in a relationship, but I don't know...I think I may be scared of relationships and am kind of lost on how to get rid of this fear? I have an inkling that two men I am talking to have an interest in me, and I am getting worried and anxious just thinking of them asking me out.", "summary": "Potential dating relationship-phobia and am unsure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1ny30e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my ?? [25 F] weeks, - she's moving faster than the Starship Enterprise.", "post": "Ok so after breaking up with my partner of 4 years last month, my friends/family encouraged me to get out there, meet folk, be merry. \n\nI did this, at the suggestion of one of my friends I joined a dating site. I met someone who despite living far away said she often visited my area for work. We had a good time chatting but honestly I just got this real strong friend vibe from it. \n\nWe casually flirted, she was really graphic on what she wanted to do, and like an awkward idiot I just kind of nodded and said \"wow great.\" \n\nWe talk everyday and she'd been hinting towards the idea that we were dating (we've never met in person). I don't know why but I was like ok and I went with it. I didn't see a harm in it. Unknown to me, she meant that we were an item, a couple if you will. I thought it meant we were two people seeing if we wanted more. I could handle that. \n\nNow she's telling me about how her sister has seen me on Facebook, her family and friends know about me, and like I haven't told anyone bar one guy about her and even that was \"Well she's nice but there's no spark.\" \n\nThe problem is, and I'm not proud of admitting this, I worry that if I say I just want to be friends I will actually lose the friendship. She is great to talk to, and we have a lot of good conversations but there's just not that spark on my end, she just feels like one of the guys to me. If I'm brutally honest, she's really helping me forget about my ex and while there's nothing romantic there I really could see us being great friends. \n\nWhat on earth do I do?", "summary": "Idiotic man failed to spot warning signs and fell into relationship he did not wish to be in, now trying to careful exit the bear trap lined ditch he has fallen into."}
{"id": "t3_41dxec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with a guy I like [30 M] three weeks, first date after meeting online - am I being unfair and sending him mixed signals?", "post": "Met up with a guy I met online and we spent pretty much the whole day together.  At one point we went to a bar and were close to each other and he started holding my knees, I enjoyed it and was surprised by how nice it felt (I haven't dated in three years). He then leaned over to kiss me and I turned my head to the side and looked down as I felt shy. He then said \"I want to kiss you\" and I kind of shook my head. Later in the night we went to another bar and he tried to kiss me again and I moved my head to the side and he kissed my cheek. Then again as he was leaving he tried to kiss me again and I said \"I'm just shy.... and it's been 3 years\" and he said \"all the more reason to let me kiss you\". We gave each other with a hug and a promise to meet again soon. I let him know when I got home and thanked him for having a lovely time and he replied he should be thanking me and he wants to meet up soon. I wonder if to some I am considered some kind of a tease or something? A friend has said I am giving mixed signals and need to make up my mind what I want.", "summary": "Me [30 F] with a guy I like [30 M] three weeks, first date after meeting online - didn't allow him to kiss me on a first date. Am I being unfair and sending him mixed signals?"}
{"id": "t3_3xrn1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23f] My [24m] boyfriend of 5 years refuses to help with house work.", "post": "Been together more than 5 years. Lived together 4 years. We met online and I moved 9 hours away from home to be with him.\n\nWe are currently on the market for a house. I am freaking out. There's so many things wrong with our relationship. And buying a home is such a large commitment. We are doing this because we are sick of renting an apartment that will cost us the same as a house. \n\nProblems with our relationship: He does zero chores around the house. He can't even feed our dog, or take out the trash. I constantly ask for help, in the nicest way possible, with still no help. It wouldn't be such a problem if I could handle being in a messy home, but I can't. It stresses me out to no end. I can't even sleep well knowing our apartment is dirty.\n\nIn his defense he does work A LOT. And his job isn't easy. \n\nHe is a single child and was spoiled his whole life. I am terrified it will never change. Any time I bring up my worries he makes me feel guilty. Explains how he makes \"SO much more money\" than me. That all this house work should be on me. Puts me down for not working more (I already work almost 40 hours a week). I cook dinner for him every day, meals I can't even eat (Pescetarian), keep his home spotless, and I still never receive a \"thank you\".\n\nWhen my concerns are brought up, and he knows I am close to just giving up and leaving, he will fix his problems. For a week, tops. He will clean up after himself, take out the trash, thank me for dinner. But 7 days pass and he's back to the same old shit. \n\nFive years may not seem like a lot to some, but it was a lot for me. I sacrificed my family and friends to be here with him. And I would hate to see it all go down the drain. Is there a way to fix this?", "summary": "In the process of finding a home. Afraid of the commitment with someone who won't help me with house work."}
{"id": "t3_241pwf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [32F] nicely tell my finance [35m] that he always plays the victim", "post": "My fiance and I have been dating for 3.5 years and are getting married in June. He has had a very hard life and struggles with depression. I noticed about a year ago that a lot of times when we fight or when he gets in fights with others he'll victimize himself. Sometimes he'll apologize, but really what it does is take a lot of the blame away from him. I noticed through the years that his whole family does this too. \n\nHe has been a victim all his life with terrible things happening to him so I don't want to undermine that but how do I tell him that he viticimizes himself on a regular basis during fights? I just can't think of a nice way to bring this up.", "summary": "My finance victimizes himself during fights and I don't know how to tell him nicely that he does this"}
{"id": "t3_2c3zda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of a few months, how do I ask my friends if she can come without being \"that guy\"", "post": "My question is rather small. How do you ask your friends/coworkers/peers if your SO can tag along to events that he/she was not explicitly invited to without putting pressure on the holders or organizers of said events? I don't want to get a reputation for being \"the guy who always asks to bring along his SO\" but I also think she would be a great addition to the event. She likes everybody, everybody likes her--they told me so--but I don't want to ask the organizer and make them feel compelled to allow her to join. How do you handle asking if they can join without coming off as annoying or ungracious?", "summary": "basically the title"}
{"id": "t3_3tginb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my best friend's grandmother a nazi", "post": "This FU happened in December of last year, so forgive me, and is possibly one of my worst.\n\nSo my very closest friend in the world (let's call him AssHat) loves to troll me. I, in turn, enjoy trolling him back. Recently, he received a dare to post something serious to his facebook as part of a prank. The way the prank works is that if somebody messages you about the serious thing you posted, you are given something by them to post on your wall. The joke spreads around like that, and is sort of stupid in my opinion. A few days later, I see he has posted to his wall \"My Grandmother went to heaven today.\" With the odd wording, and me hearing nothing of his grandma's ill health, I assumed it was another one of his prank posts to lure more people in to his silly joke. I thought it would be rather funny to mess with some of the believers in the comments of the post.\n\nI type \"Good riddance\" into the comments and, within seconds, I receive a reply from one of his friends I did not know saying \"That's horrible. Why would you say something like that?\" With a lack of better judgement, I decide not to hold back. I go on a rant spreading lies about his grandmother: \"She was a horrible person and a menace to society\", \"She even ran over my cat and never apologized\", \"I went to AssHat's house and saw alot of German WWII related items.\", \"That monster was literally a nazi!\", \"She's scum of the earth and we're better off without her.\"\n\nI felt pretty accomplished with my trolling, not even considering the possibilty his grandmother could have actually died. Later that night, I returned to facebook only to see my comments had been deleted, and AssHat's comment about the awful things I had said. Turns out his Grandmother had actually died that day, and I was the worst best friend in the world. I of course apologized profusely, and attempted to explain myself, but he was still ticked at me for a couple of days.", "summary": "I called my friend's dead grandma a nazi only hours after her death thinking it was all an elaborate joke. Yes, reddit, I am the worst friend ever."}
{"id": "t3_m0sc9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't like eating anymore. Is that normal?", "post": "For the past few months I've been losing my appetite. Is there something wrong with me?\n\nI've always been a skinny guy. 5'8 138 pounds. But recently I've dropped down to 130. That's a big jump for someone my size. A cole of people have asked me if I'm ok because of it.  \n\nI've never really been a huge eater, and now my appetite is getting smaller. I rarely go a day without skipping a meal. It's not because I'm afraid I look fat or anything (can guys have anorexia anyway? ) I just don't have an appetite. A lot of times I'll eat a meal just because I know it's lunch or dinner time and I know I need to eat something. Sometimes when I'm eating a meal I'll feel hungry in the beginning, but halfway through I lose the desire to eat. It's particuly frustrating when I've just paid for food and then I can't eat it.", "summary": "I'm never hungry"}
{"id": "t3_4v3n3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my [29 M] freeloader. Heres a update!", "post": "**Original Post**\n\nWow, was this four months ago? crazy!\n\nAnyway, I took the advice in the comments and stopped replying to Mr. Freeloader. In short I started seeing someone else (that didn't work out but oh well! another liar for another time!) and starting ignoring Freeloaders messages. He became more desperate and would ask to see me. I suffered with a heavy blow of Glandular Fever so used that as an excuse as to why I couldn't come and see him. He made no effort to come and see me.\n\nHe launched into a massive rant about how his sheltered housing was now \"dangerous for him to live at\" because someone involved with drugs/witnessed a murder was in there for safety. He whined \"that its not exactly good for me is it? I need to know whats going on! I need to get out of here and have a safe place to stay in don't I?. He knew that my house was free as my parents were away, a massive hint drop if ever I saw one. So I brushed it off and said \"I hope you find somewhere\" as sad as I was for him, I certainly did not want him at mine outstaying his welcome and going through my things, helping himself to food and toiletries. He kept on for a few days and then obviously realised his efforts to see me and his hints were futile. \n\nSo now I haven't heard off him for the past 2 months. No calls, no texts, no Facebook messages. He's very absent on Facebook and last I saw he was moaning about not being able to play Pokemon Go on his \"POS phone\" \n\nThank you for the comments guys, I certainly do not associate with him anymore. When I tell people about him I often get back \"yea he's like that. Now you won't help him with money or lodgings he's not interested\"", "summary": "Dropped the freeloader. Now seeing a wonderful guy who has his own job, place and much more going for him. Happier and better for it."}
{"id": "t3_2twhki", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [24M] gf [24F] of two months got a job offer far out of town and says she doesn't want to go because of me. What should I do?", "post": "This is pretty fucked. She just found out and told me about it, and they want her to start on Feb 2nd. We are going out to dinner later tonight to discuss it. In the case that this is a career making job (I will find out tonight), I almost feel like it is my responsibility to break up with her and let her go pursue her career. After all, its only been two months. The fucked thing is that I've really started falling hard for her and she told me that she loves me last time I saw her (pretty early in the relationship I know, but she definitely has extremely strong feeling for me). Is it appropriate for me to make the decision for her, as I know we are both still young, and potential career opportunities are important at this stage of life? Or should I let her make it on her own (probably stay)? Thanks in advance. I'm already starting to tear up for the first time in years.", "summary": "girlfriend got job offer far away, but doesn't want to go because of me. Should I break it off so that she can pursue her career?"}
{"id": "t3_1ytonz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I find a financially successful partner without looking like a gold-digger?", "post": "I made a throwaway for this because I feel a little embarassed and like I might get attacked for my question. I want to start out by saying that I am not a gold-digger, at least I don't think I am, but I am concerned that this post will come across that way. I truly am looking for a loving relationship with someone who wants the same things as me.\n\nI'm 25f and work full-time. I recently broke up with a long term boyfriend, my first ever relationship. I'd like to start dating again with the intention of settling down with someone, getting married, having children, etc. I'd like to start a family before I'm 30, and I want to date and be with someone for several years before having children, so that's why I'm looking now. \n\nOne of the things I'm looking for is to find someone with a good income, who can support a family without me having to work. I'd like to stay home while I have young children, and just run a household. It's always been a dream of mine to do that. I love to volunteer, and I am a caretaker by nature. So for me to raise a family, take care of a husband, and have free time to volunteer when the children get older would be so wonderful.\n\nI don't know how to go about this without coming off like a gold-digger. To be clear, I would not date someone just because they had a lot of money. I want to have a loving relationship with someone who I connect with and am compatible with. I want to provide companionship to my spouse and take care of them, and be someone they love being with. And when our children are grown, I want to still feel like he is my best friend and look forward to growing old together. \n\nBut before I look for any of that, I want to make sure this person will be able, and equally as important, will WANT to support a family with a stay at home mom. I know that there are men out there who want this, but I'm having a hard time figuring out the right words, or the right way to approach this, without sounding selfish or greedy.", "summary": "I want a loving relationship with a man who is financially stable and who wants to support a family with me being a stay at home mom, but I don't know how to narrow down the dating pool without coming off as a gold-digger."}
{"id": "t3_24xeln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 m] and my girlfriend [16 f] have been having issues.. Then she does this.. I need help.", "post": "First of all, I'm fairly new to this subreddit so I apologize if this post doesn't look like a normal one. Also, I know some might think say that I shouldn't be in a serious relationship at 16, but hear me out.\n\nSo me and my girlfriend have been dating for 10 months, and completely love eachother. But, lately we have been fighting ALOT. I think jealousy is a major cause in our problems. We fight over stupid little things, and way too often. Last week, we discussed our issues and both came to the conclusion that we weren't happy, and should possibly take a break. Ok, thats fine. \n\nNext, is where I need help. \n\nBefore we dated, she had been dating a guy for awhile and she claims that she had in fact been in love with him. Fast forward back to now, he just became single again, and they (my SO and him) have began talking again. They had never really talked while he had a girlfriend (No, I know she was not secretly talking to him). \n\nShe tells me that she (very recently) had talked to him about our relationship problems, and basically getting comfort from him, but she still claims that she has no feelings for him, past being a friend. \n\nHe knows that I absolutely hate him, yet he told my gf \"I dont want to interfere with your relationship with OP\". She even told him that I need to get over the fact that they (Ex and my girlfriend) are friends. \n\nI really dont know what to do. I love this girl like no other, but I really dont think I could handle the jealousy of them being friends.\n\nSorry for this being so long.", "summary": "OP goes on a \"break\" with SO. SO begins talking to an ex of hers. OP can't handle SO being friends with said ex."}
{"id": "t3_2hg0kk", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Quick question about websites like Kayak, Travelocity and the like.", "post": "Hi all. I'm doing a brief project for a class in which we plan a weeklong vacation within a certain region (traveling from NYC to Tunis, Tunisia and then to Fez, Morocco and then to Marrakech and then back to NYC again, but it's not really relevant to the question).\n\nThe thing is, like in real travel, she's given us a budget and my hypothetical expenses are adding up. I only need a one-way flight to my initial city - in this case, Tunis - and I need to include pricing for accommodations. I'm setting the dates for sometime in June, if it's relevant.\nI'm under the impression that you'd save some significant money doing a flight + hotel package, but everything I see offered on the websites includes round trips only, as far I can see. It wouldn't make sense for me to backtrack to Tunisia once I travel to Morocco. The budget is $4,000 USD for everything not including meals.", "summary": "Do any websites offer one way flights and hotel packages? Would it make a big difference in the expenses anyway? Also interested in adding a car to the package."}
{"id": "t3_2rdbyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18[F] wants someone \"real\"", "post": "Super nervous to post but here goes:\n\nBackground: She is away at college now and I've been talking to her for about 7 months. I'm a senior in high school still. We were acquainted last year because she went to a nearby high school. She's been away at college just about the whole time and we didn't start talking until it was too late. Recently we've had a bunch of missed opportunities to see each other and we've been very busy. She goes to school about 7 hours away so it's been essentially long distance the entire time. \n\nProblem: I've had other girlfriends before but she seems absolutely perfect and she says that she loves me and that I'm the best guy she's ever met but that she needs someone who she can physically be around who isn't so far away. I understand that she needs to be happy but it's really hard to let go. She says she doesn't have anyone else and that she would never cheat on me and it makes it so much worse. It feels like nothing was wrong and now I'm losing the most amazing girl I've ever met. Please help me become okay with this or fix this or something. I've had some issues with depression before and I don't want to fall into a negative spiral like I have before.", "summary": "I don't want to lose her because of distance now when it's always been there and I might be able to visit when I'm in college or not as busy. Please help me find a way to deal with this by accepting it or fixing the problem. I don't want to feel like shit anymore"}
{"id": "t3_37zpy4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Props to my real friends.", "post": "I'm always venting about some douche bag fake friend, but I have to give credit where it is due.\n\nOn Facebook I either post a lot, or a little bit, or none at all, there's no in between.  Whenever I get in my excessive posting mood, sometimes people will delete me just because I post a lot, or they might not agree with my thoughts.  When it was the political months I've had a couple of people delete me.  I'm like wow!  It's not that serious.  Plus, I have valid reasons to think the way I think so I really can't stand my dumb \"friends\" who defriended me as if I didn't have any reason to think the way I do and it was \"stupid\" to them.\n\nLast time I checked it was my page and I can do what I want...if you're annoyed by whatever and however I post you can always delete me which you have done.  I've always had a thing for one of my guy friends we could never do anything about it until now.\n\nHe's always kept me on Facebook no matter how ratchet I get on there and he says, \"You go girl.  You think and say what you want.  Who gives a shit if people don't agree with you to the point where they will delete you? They aren't your real friends.\"", "summary": "I love this guy for that.  Sometimes I'll get in my moods and post whatever ratchet status and he doesn't judge me for it.  He's a true friend for sure.  He's my friend through thick and thin.  That's a real BFF."}
{"id": "t3_yea42", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Redditors: Special Offer on our Handmade Bentwood Rings", "post": "We make wooden rings in the bentwood method. This means that rather than cutting a ring out of the wood we take thin strips, steam them, and bend them creating a ring that is very strong and durable. Bentwood is a technique usually seen in furniture making. Each ring takes us between four and six hours to make.\n\nWe are offering any of our rings up to a $220 value to the first 50 redditors to take us up on this offer for $57 including shipping to the US or Canada. We also have a gift certificate option available for $75 for a ring valued up to $240 excluding gemstones.\n\nWhy are we doing this? We have been given the opportunity to move from Southern Ontario to Northern Ontario (a difference of 830 miles or 17 hour drive!) but we have to move within 10 days to get the living space and we need to put together fast funds to help us afford the move.\nYour ring will be delivered in 6-8 weeks from purchase. [See more Details](", "summary": "sale on rings, need sales to move, limited quantity, first 50"}
{"id": "t3_4wx3bv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding to go to sleep in my car and almost dying", "post": "The other TIFU reminded me of this experience, but I wasn't as young so my stupidity was less excusable. This was not today, it was when I was in my late 20's. I had been living in Kansas City for a couple years and decided to move back to Oregon as I missed having access to the mountains, desert, forest and ocean all a relatively short drive away. My wife had totaled our nice car, and I had to get a cheap tide-me-over car to get around until I could get the finances settled, so I chose a $700 1985 Crown Vic from the KC police fleet. The move to Oregon came shortly after this. She flew to OR, and I drove with our few possessions in the back seat. I thought I could make most of the 1800 mi trip in a couple of days, but by the end of the second day I was extremely sleep deprived and the coffee wasn't helping. I also didn't want to spend money on a hotel, because remember, finances. So I pulled over to a truck stop and laid down in the front seat. However, it was like 35 deg F out, and I didn't last long before I realized I needed some extra warmth, and the blankets weren't doing the job. So I started the car and went back to sleep. Of course, I had no idea that the exhaust pipe had a hole in it right where there was also a hole in the floor panel.  I woke up a couple hours later nauseous and gasping for air.", "summary": "Went to sleep with the car running and almost died from carbon monoxide poisoning."}
{"id": "t3_3zalc9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tricking my friend into thinking he won $500", "post": "A couple of days ago, a group of friends and I entered a sweepstakes to win $500 from Taco Bell. We discussed what we would do with the money all day, even though we knew we wouldn't win. However, my friend (let's call him Steve) was positive that we would win, and had the funniest plans of what to do when we did.\n\nThe next day, I went to Steve's New Years Eve party and thought it would be funny if I pranked him into thinking he won the $500. I texted my other friend (let's call her Grace) and told her all about it, and what to say to him. \n\nGrace texted Steve:\n\"Congratulations! You have won $500 cash from the Taco Bell\u00ae Sweepstakes! We will text more information to this number as it becomes available. Text [YES] to confirm that you are [Steve] or text [NO] to opt out.\"\n\nAnd then:\n\"To redeem, please go to nearest Taco Bell chain restaurant any time before closing and text [YES] when you have arrived. Wait for confirmation reply and show to a representative of Taco Bell. You will receive your prize in [CASH] [CHECK] [CREDIT] Thank you for your participation! (This offer expires [12/31/15] Please redeem before expiration date listed.)\"\n\nI couldn't believe that Steve actually fell for it, and he was so excited that I was scared to tell him that it was all a hoax. It got to the point where we actually stopped the party to drive to Taco Bell and get the prize. Finally when we were in the middle of talking to the manager, Grace texted that it was all a prank by me. You can imagine how angry my friend was.\n\nThe whole car was silent on the drive back, and when we arrived I was scared to fall asleep because he would probably kill me in my sleep.", "summary": "I pranked my friend into thinking he won $500, now he hates me."}
{"id": "t3_4wz0eo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27 M] treated me [27 F] overall poorly, and I believe it's because he could never fully love me because of my looks. How do I deal with being ugly?", "post": "How do I deal with being ugly when I'm in a relationship?\n\nI know that physical appearance is very important to most people. Is there a chance at a good relationship for those that aren't blessed with good looks?\n\nMy last relationship was underwhelming. I always see so many women getting treated nicely by their boyfriends, and those women always seem to be good-looking.\n\nMy boyfriend on the other hand treated me more shitty than I would have hoped for. Nothing horrible, but he lied, did things behind my back, never communicated, and overall didn't act like a boyfriend and more like a friend. He never told me he loved me in the beginning of our relationship. He was never affectionate and didn't seem to want to have sex with me, which he blames on his ED. We did get along and he seemed to care, but there was always something missing.\n\nEven though he hurt me, I gave him multiple chances to fix things, and he always promised me that he would, but never delivered. **He claimed that he loved me and didn't want to lose me, but deep down I know that I was never good enough for him because I'm not good-looking.**\n\nAs I'm writing this, it seems obvious that he just wasn't into me. And from an outside perspective, it might seem like there's a million possibilities as to why he didn't like me. Maybe my personality is shit and I'm blaming it on my looks because it's easier.\n\nThat's not it though, and I'm basing this conclusion on both facts (me being ugly, him never complimenting me) and my gut instinct based on the way he acted and things he said.\n\nI'm genuinely ugly, and it's my biggest issue in day-to-day life. I believe that he stayed with me because he did like everything else, but because of my ugly exterior, he just couldn't fully commit.", "summary": "How do I deal with being ugly and being treated poorly in relationships because of it?"}
{"id": "t3_dwfyj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have some concerns about my curriculum's relevancy", "post": "I'm a senior in Industrial Engineering and am starting to become irritated with how the curriculum has been organized. I'm taking Lean Manufacturing, an *elective*, and one of the first things we were taught is that you should avoid using job shops. Well, in my Manufacturing Systems class, a *required* class, we are now learning how to design a job shop. I feel as though some of what I'm being taught is out of date, especially since the methods we use are always under development and one of my teachers hasn't taught the class since 2000 and another teacher is in his 70's. Real world application is changing and what they're teaching isn't. I feel as though I should go to the head of the department about it, but I'm not sure what it would do.", "summary": "Real world application of major has changed but what they are teaching us hasn't. "}
{"id": "t3_3l47r1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my best friend [19 M] don't have anything to do together", "post": "Me and my best friend of about 7 years are struggling to find anything to do with each other. We're both 19 and about to start college, but I'm worried that when we leave and see each other less often, we'll have no reason to hang out as we can just talk on the phone. As good as that is, I still like physically spending time with him\n\nI like spending time with just to talk and hang out with him - I'm happy to just sit and talk wherever. But he always wants a reason to hang out. We've done the usual stuff, shopping, going out for food, playing video games together, but all of it seems really underwhelming and dull after doing it for so many years. Also, even though we're both 19, we don't enjoy drinking or parties, so parties pubs and clubs aren't really an option\n\nWe're both in touch with our feminine side, so I've suggested things like going to a spa, going for a haircut, but I think that would be a bit weird for him\n\nLooking for any suggestions of things we can do to hang out, or address this problem :) Thanks :)", "summary": "Me and my best friend don't have any way to hang out, any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_35l8js", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/m] do I have a chance of reconciliation with [19/f]?", "post": "Me and my ex broke up 2.5 months ago, due to her feeling very stressed out due to having so much going on, which made her decide she wasn't ready for a relationship. We had slight contact after that, but 4 weeks ago I went strict no contact to move on. She messaged me 2 weeks into it, cause she was pissed off that I deleted her from social media, but then decided that that's my decision so she'd respect it.\n\nI went straight back to nc until a week later, she messaged me, apologising for being so horrible since the breakup to me, and told me how much she missed me and how upset she was, she said about how showing feelings has never been a strong point for her, so she found it too hard to show them. She told me how sorry she was, and how she wished it worked out differently, and was really hoping that we'd be friends. After this, I told her that maybe things will be different again soon, to which she agreed. She then made the conversation for the rest of the night, which is good, we hadn't had any proper conversation in a long time and it felt good to speak, in fact, we discussed things that got between us towards the end, and it's clear that won't be a problem anymore! we've spoken every day since.\n\nMy problem is, I don't know if she's interested still, it seems it, but like I said, she isn't good at expressing feelings, and she's always been quite a blunt texter. I want to arrange dinner somewhere, just a small catch up, and hopefully it'd lead to try working on slowly becoming more than friends again, maybe not however, but as I have no clue on what she feels, I don't know if asking would be a good idea or not! I don't want to ask and make things awkward if she doesn't want to, I'd only be asking for an innocent catch up, so surely I don't know why she'd say no if it were to just be friends, but I'm still very nervous about it.", "summary": "me and ex speaking every day as friends, want to ask to meet up over lunch, but she's bad at showing feelings so I'm unsure whether she's interested or not."}
{"id": "t3_31ws3a", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: Did not overeat!", "post": "So last night I had major cravings and bought some caramel candy that come in individual wrappers. I ate only four pieces even though I really wanted to eat them all. It would have put over my calorie count so I told myself I could have more after midnight. But instead I just went to sleep. Seriously, you know you have cravings when you start dreaming about eating candy. Regardless, when I woke up in the morning I felt really good! I lost a little bit of weight and still got to eat three pieces of candy! And I ate some asparagus. I think my body was just craving nutrients.", "summary": "didn't overeat, felt great the next day"}
{"id": "t3_3s0irs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scaring an entire family by accident", "post": "Begins with the obligatory TIFU 'this actually happened three years ago'\n\nI was off to my friend's house for the first time, and I didn't quite know where he lived. I didn't have my phone/any internet on me, so I was just relying on remembering the name of his flat/block thing. I was searching for his house for a while, so I ended up being fairly late, but I eventually found it, and it also turned out my mates went out the house searching for me since I was so late (keep in mind, no phone). So I walk up to the buzzers, really happy I found the house, and I begin mashing his door buzzer, but no one answers. I continue mashing, but I must have pressed the wrong button, and out of frustration for waiting outside for so long, after the person in the little speaker answered, I shouted 'OPEN THE FRICKIN DOOR', only to find a frustrated father come to the front of the flat, open the door, only to find me apologising for pressing the wrong button and telling him it was an accident. He lets me in, and the first sight I was greeted with was the ENTIRE family peeking out of their front door with concerned faces watch me go by and up the stairs.\n\nFinal kick in the face, I knocked on my friends door, only to find out he isn't home, because he was out looking for me, so I end up awkwardly leaving the flat, only to see my friends shouting at me from across the road as I walk home", "summary": "Pressed the wrong buzzer, made a threatening sounding call, made an entire family give me dirty looks"}
{"id": "t3_29p3ow", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by forgetting my ticket", "post": "Well this is happening right now, so I would say it's pretty fresh.  \n   \nThis morning I woke up, checked that I had remembered to pack everything I needed for a week of beer and loathing at Denmark's biggest festival, Roskilde, and headed for the airport.  \nWell I just found out that amongst my belongings there was no ticket...  \nAfter pleading my case to the guy in the ticket-booth to no avail, I'm now making myself comfortable in a secluded spot in the parking-lot (all the hotels are full..).   \nSo now I'm laying here under that stars hoping it won't rain tonight. \nHopefully I'll get someone to send me a picture of the ticket tomorrow, so I can get this sorted out. Fuck", "summary": "Indiana Jones threw me out because I didn't have a ticket."}
{"id": "t3_3gx6dg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping a powerade cap", "post": "So this story happened roughly twenty minutes ago. I am driving back home down the highway when I encounter what appears to be a fairly fresh accident. I am like the second car stopped in front of the firetruck blocking the two lanes. Looked like I would be there for awhile, so I threw it in park and pulled up reddit. Unfortunately, I aldo had to pee rather badly. 15 minutes in and I decide to find a bottle. I find a powerade bottle, perfect size to pee in. Well, I unscrew the cap and immediately drop it. I look for it to no evail. Well that sucks, can't drive around with an open powerade bottle full of piss, it would be gross and inevitability get everywhere. So I go rooting around for another bottle (yeah I need to clean my car). I pull out a coke bottle with a cap intact. While certainly less that ideal, as long as I am careful there should be no issues. Well I unscrew the cap, lineup my boober (making sure it has full contact to avoid spills), and start peeing. Making sure it has full contact was my big mistake. I manage to pee a little vefore the flow seemed to stop. I readjust causing the head of my dick, which had veen the equivalent of a cork to this now pressurized bottle, to shift. All that pressure I had not given thought to gave birth to an old faithfulesque gyser of urine which proceeded to thoroughly mist my window, windsheild, steering wheel, and self. I had to mop my shame with the remaining paper towels in my glove box.", "summary": "Driving interruptions really piss on my parade"}
{"id": "t3_43r2ea", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it wrong of me (f/25) to send someone I liked a card for their birthday even though we don't talk anymore?", "post": "I (F/25) had been texting this guy (M/27) non stop until about 2 weeks ago where we both got involved in a sticky situation. Long story short we were at a friends party, drunk, and we made out, before that it wasn't anything romantic, at least i think so. \n\nAfter the incident I tried to explain to him that I was developing feelings for him but that I couldn't get over the fact that he's still hung up on a past ex (even though he's dated other girls since then). He told me that she was always going to hold a special place in his heart which was basically a stab in MY heart. \n\nAnyways we don't text anymore and his b-day happens to be the day before valentines day and I was wondering if I should send him a card (I just relocated to another state for my job). For my b-day he took me out to dinner and a movie and I feel like just ignoring his b-day completely would make me seem like an ass. Should I follow through?", "summary": "Made out with this guy I had been texting at a party, told him I was developing feelings for him, \"feeling was not mutual\". Took me out for my birthday way before this incident, his birthday is coming up, since then I've relocated should I send him a card?"}
{"id": "t3_1rxfr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Angry people of Reddit, have you ever destroyed, mysteriously disappeared or given away for free some of your SO favorite stuff out of anger?", "post": "Last night i went to Walmart to buy my niece a present, on the way out, as I'm walking to my truck i see a giant imperial AT-AT toy (Star Wars fans will know what I'm talking about) along with various other toys, all from Star Wars, disassembled in a shopping cart. As soon as i saw them i walked directly towards the cart, when the parking lot attendant asked me if i wanted to take them, that Some lady took them out of her car, said her husband doesn't need them anymore, all you need to do is put them together. The loot is well worth over 400$ US of Hasbro toys.", "summary": "last night i found in a parking lot over 400$ US worth of Star Wars toys a lady wanted to get rid of because her husband didn't need them anymore."}
{"id": "t3_gy87w", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "1 bowl of captain crunch...", "post": "I am a 19 year old female 5'4 135 pounds. I gained 15 pounds this winter and i'm used to being around 121-125. I have been following a good diet of lots of veggies and lean meats, tons of water, vitamins, a little low fat dairy, and fruit. I bought a box of captain crunch last week as a feel good snack and ate 3 bowls of it because i'd not eaten much and was stuck in my dorm. Looking at the ingredients I figure 12 grams of sugar is a lot-but I haven't had any sugar today. The rest of the ingredients aren't super bad, empty calories perhaps but they might be my only choice tonight-better than not eating? I've had roughly 800 calories today, and a lot of protein, natural vitamins, and fiber.", "summary": "To crunch or not to crunch?"}
{"id": "t3_386f1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [19 F] is starting to not hang out with me [19 M] because the thinks it's wrong...?", "post": "So I met her about a year and a half ago at college. She had a boyfriend, but we were always platonic. We still are. So up until this summer, we would eat every day multiple times a day, and hang out constantly since she was away from home and her boyfriend. Now she's back home, and I happened to be going near her so I asked if she wants to get lunch. She told me she thinks it's wrong for me and her to eat lunch together alone since she has a boyfriend. I really don't get it. We ate together literally every day for like 9 months, mostly just her and I since we didn't have many friends. We've also talked at least once a day since summer started. So it's not like we're just not friends anymore.. And I can't just ask her why she thinks that, because she's always been super sensitive about her relationship. She said she would eat with me and her boyfriend, but I'm not her boyfriends friend, I hardly know him. I'm her friend... So does anyone have any clue what's going on?", "summary": "Friend doesn't want to get lunch with me because she thinks it would be \"wrong\" since she has a boyfriend. Super confused."}
{"id": "t3_hujru", "subreddit": "books", "title": "A request from a floundering publishing intern.", "post": "Dear r/books,\n\nI'm interning at a small publishing company in London at the moment and have been tasked with devising a plan to promote a book in the UK, that was originally published over here in April. The company wants to experiment with social media, specifically the 'blogosphere' (ugh, that word makes me cringe) as opposed to the more traditional channels of promotion (i.e. newspapers and bestseller lists).\n\nI have a few ideas, but was wondering who your most trusted arts & culture blogs are, that might mention the book if we sent them a copy, to spur up word of mouth. It's called [The Evolution of Bruno Littlemore] by Benjamin Hale. It's the memoirs of a talking chimp. Yeah. I'm only about a third of the way through, but the most memorable scene is one in which Bruno's father, \\*ahem\\*, *makes love* to a frog. It's pretty crude, but beautifully written, which I think is the pitch of the book, and has already done pretty well in the US, with some good reviews.\n\nI'd be so grateful for some advice from Reddit, as I feel a bit like I've been shoved in at the deep end, and really interested if anyone wants to discuss publishing and social media.", "summary": "Which culture blogs do you think produce valuable discussion and reviewing of books?"}
{"id": "t3_2oucva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My date [M/28] tried to kick me [21/F] off the bed?", "post": "I write this one mainly to chanel my frustration, but also because I'm confused as hell whether this is so inappropriate I should treat it like a major red flag.\n\nI've been on some dates with this guy, and the last couple of times I stayed over at his place. He doesn't have a double-sized bed, only two person-sized beds, so after doing the deed, and falling asleep right next to each other I usually just move over to the other bed (mainly because he starts spazzing and snoring).\n\nThis last time we were out drinking, so we came back to his place drunk (me more than him), undressed and got into bed fast. As I said I usually can't stay the night next to him, but thanks to the booze this wasn't a problem now, I slept like a baby. I still woke up once or twice when I felt I was almost falling down the bed, and once when he climbed over me to get to the other bed.\n\nWhen I wake up in the morning, I look at him on the other bed, and he's there playing with his phone with a really stern look on his face, and giving me the stink eye. I understood I probably did something in my sleep, like snoring or kicking, so I said \"Sorry, did I chase you away? I've been sleeping so deep I wasn't feeling anything if you were poking me or something\", and he answers \"Yeah, I didn't have enough space so I tried kicking you off, but didn't succeed, so I had to move from my *own* bed.\" I would think he was kidding, but his tone was really serious, and he was still giving me this cold look. I tried to talk about it, but then he just brushed it off, and sat down to work, ignoring me for maybe another hour (while I was still lying in his bed, I'm horrible!). \n\nNow everything's alright and peaceful, but what the actual fuck was that? Who does that?", "summary": "Guy tries to kick me to the wooden floor for taking up much place in my sleep, and then keeps sulking the following day"}
{"id": "t3_gq3r7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how accurate can you tell the date of conception / age of pre-born baby etc.", "post": "so, how accurate can a sonographer tell how far along you are during a pregnancy? \n\nme and the lady split, get back together, she gets pregnant. The date of conception is _incredibly_ tight, had to have been the first night back. I've purchased everything, done what I need to do and blabla but things have done a 180 again and she's went dark and I can't get in touch. So my biggest worry is it not being mine and this is her way of dealing with it.\n\nnot interested in your \"omg contraception!11\", we did it didn't work, she didn't and fucked me over or something else, whatever -- That's life, got to get the fuck on with it. what's done is done.", "summary": "how accurate can you tell the age of a pre-born?"}
{"id": "t3_1t9r7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend said he was going to \"wingman\" his friend?", "post": "We're both 20, I'm a female, he's a male, we've been dating for a little over a year.\n\nMy boyfriend was talking with a couple guys about what he was going to do for his buddy's birthday.  The guys asked if he was going to wingman his buddy, and my boyfriend said \"No, he has a girlfriend!\" and then he smiled and said, \"Well, we'll wingman him anyway!\"\n\nI asked him what he meant by that later, and if he just flirts with girls when I'm not around, and he said that it was just guy talk and that his buddy doesn't love his girlfriend like he loves me.  I know that my boyfriend rarely even talks to other girls and I trust him, but that comment rubbed me the wrong way... Should I be worried?", "summary": "Boyfriend said he wanted to wingman his buddy even though his buddy has a gf...is this just guy talk or should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_1nxq6f", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Passport and citizenship questions. Born in Canada to American parents.", "post": "I'll attempt to be concise. Born in BC Canada to American parents in early 70's. They lived a couple miles from the border in the US, birth in Canada was cheaper, and they were also worried about the draft (Viet Nam was still scary). Raised and lived in the US ever since. I've never had a passport. I now live in Hawaii but still only have a valid WA state DL. I need a passport (or proof of legal status) to get a Hawaii license, and for a possible job requiring travel. The sea of gov't forms and such has me dizzy. \nCan anyone explain my options? Dual citizenship (if it's worth it)? Which forms? Cert. of citizenship ($600 to apply? Are you fucking kidding me?), consular report of birth abroad (parents didn't do that one), etc. Some of these look like they cost a lot just to apply for. My birth certificate has been lost, and I don't want to spend the $ for a new one if I don't have to, plus it's from Canada so....\nAlso, getting to certain gov't offices where I am is not super convenient, so I want to know what I'm doing before/if I have to spring for airfare to Honolulu or something.\nApologies if this is in the wrong place, but I figured there would be some people here with knowledge of such things. I sincerely appreciate any help.", "summary": "American born in Canada, need passport, WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_46ar0w", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Update] Indiana Oral Lease?", "post": "Here is the OP: \n\nI spoke with an attorney. His legal advice was that we did not have a lease but it would be best to keep this out of court.\n\nI agreed completely. I wanted legal advice before the meeting in case things went pear shaped.\n\nI came to an agreement with the landlord. We are going to pay Jan/Feb and call it a day. \n\nI always set personal feelings aside when it comes to making decisions for the business I own. My feelings don't matter, I have to do what is best for the business. What was best was settling this matter to ensure that my manufacturing space was not put into jeopardy.", "summary": "Retained an attorney, followed his advice. Business is safe but had to pay a bit for it. Lesson learned, my landlord is shady."}
{"id": "t3_3s39yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] - LDR for 3.5 years, we've never fought before", "post": "Hello /r/relationships! I'm afraid I don't have anything dramatic to entertain you with, just some minor nagging questions I'm looking for some advice on.\n\nSome background: I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3.5 years. We started dating right before we both left for university about 7 hours apart. Although long distance hasn't been much fun, we do our best to see each other as much as we can during the summer and winter breaks. The relationship is great, minus the distance -- I feel like I love her more and more every day, I've never felt so connected to someone else in my life. Someday down the road, I think I'd like to ask her to marry me.\n\nHere's the thing: it almost seems *too* perfect sometimes, you know? We have never had a fight, not even a small one, and I can't help but worry about it sometimes. It's probably silly, but I don't know if we're just really good at preempting conflict or if we just naturally always get along or if it's a \"calm before the storm\" situation or what. Hopefully, we'll be able to move in together in about a year, and I just wonder if suddenly everything will be different. I mean, it will be, obviously, but what if we're not as good at living together as we are at living apart?\n\nSo basically, I'd just like to hear from others who've been in peaceful relationships and/or long-term LDRs and how those turned out when the distance dropped to zero.", "summary": "Never had a fight with long distance girlfriend, wondering if that means anything worrisome or if I should just be grateful. Also wondering about the transition from being long distance to finally moving in together and how that could potentially change the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_51abc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] in a tough spot with my coworker [21F]", "post": "I posted here a couple weeks ago about how I thought my coworker might be interested in me. Turns out that I was right. Just two days ago she went ahead and kissed me. I went along with it because I didn't know what else I could do.\n\n She told me she doesn't care that I'm younger than her. But I do slightly feel bothered that she's much older. I'm supposed to be meeting her for lunch in a few hours but I also feel hesitant about going. I don't want to hurt her or use her for anything. I don't feel comfortable about starting a relationship with her either since I'm still recovering from a break up that happened a few months back. She's a really good person and there's nothing wrong about her. But I'm not over my ex completely yet. I feel like a horrible person for kissing her back, but I really didn't want to hurt her feelings in any way.\n\nI can't end everything with her either, or else it'll be too awkward at work. I just don't know what to do or what to say. What would you guys do in a situation like this?", "summary": "My coworker is interested in me but i dont know how to tell her that I dont want a relationship without hurting her feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1jot1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (platonic) friend [32M] asked me [30F] to marry him. Help me think this out.", "post": "We're friends. Not best friends--we don't spend time together outside work--but friends regardless. He is a perpetual bachelor type, always talking about the beautiful women he meets (I am not particularly beautiful, he is quite out of my league) and tries to take out. He asks me for advice about them, he tells me about how none of them work out and there are no good women around. He has never made an advance toward me and keeps using the \"f word\" (friend), so I feel certain he doesn't really feel anything for me (but I have not brought it up--I know I should).\n\nOur interests and opinions about life and relationships align well. We flirt a little, and I'm even interested in pursuing him romantically, but I'm in the process of divorce (so not technically single yet). I wonder if he's kept it platonic because of the in-process divorce or the fact that we work together. But again, that's something I need to discuss with him. (Please ignore the divorce for the purpose of advice--it is not something that has a possibility of changing, consider me \"definitely single in a few months\")\n\nHe wants to be married because reasons. He brought it up with me. Like a business transaction almost. He said he was going to marry *someone*, but he would like it to be me, after all we're already good friends. It would at least be for a couple years, after which if we wanted to split we could do so amicably. I didn't really ask any questions (shared living space? separate living spaces? any shared financial responsibilities? sex? open marriage?), just said it was sudden and I'd think about it.\n\nI can't quite wrap my head around the whole situation. I know I need to just talk to him about it, but I wanted to explore all the angles here first. I am a pretty open person about things like open relationships and [relationships that thrive when the couple doesn't fully share a living space] so those possibilities don't bother me. I don't want kids, so age and childbearing years don't matter to me.", "summary": "Friend wants to get married to someone for his own reasons. Thought I'd be a good choice, brought it up with me. We're not romantic (though I'm not opposed to the idea). Help me figure out all the potential problems or benefits with the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1r5yt3", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Overwhelmed; Ready to Elope. Maybe?!", "post": "I'm getting so overwhelmed by the cost of a wedding! We want to get married soon - by early Spring. We haven't even set our exact date because we can't wrap our heads around all this. I'm older than him, and of course, I've been dreaming of a wedding, and being a bride for a LONG time. We already have some other financial needs waiting on us as we begin our marriage, and when I think about dropping $10K on something even somewhat simple (I have tried to think \"less\" as much as I can, but apart from finding someone's yard to get married in (which I really don't want to do for several reasons), I feel so guilty for wanting a wedding. Who here has eloped? We wouldn't want it to be a complete secret.. immediate family, a handful of the closest of friends. I still want a dress. But, how did the rest of the people in your life react? Other friends, extended family, etc.? I'm not trying to be a people-pleaser, but I do feel badly when I think of excluding other people that do mean a lot to me. Ugh.. HELP!", "summary": "Finances of having a traditional wedding are weighing on me; Tell me how your elopement went!"}
{"id": "t3_43yz6n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu By not reading the time", "post": "This isnt a bad fuck up since i had time to stop off at McDonalds for breakfast. But still a good fu.  Last night I stayed up later than normal. 3 hours later than normal. Skip 6 hours my alarm went off, I hit dismiss. 45 minutes later my 2nd and final alarm went off, I do my usual routine of got to the bathroom, take a whizz, do my teeth. Now I go back to my room and pick out some clean underwear and a towel. I lay on my bed, switch on the morning news and drift back to sleep..  Now where the fuck up begins. The usual time i have to set off to work is 8:15 am and the latest time I can set off without being late for work is 8:25. I wake up and check the time. See the time is half past the hour. I didn't check which hour. But it was half past. I panic, call the taxi company and ask for an urgent taxi. Usually when I'm late there is a 15 minute delay. Today is not the case. The taxi is waiting outside my house in 5 minutes. I think this is a little odd given the morning rush but just forget about it in the panic of wanting to get to work on time. Whilst in the taxi I check my phone. Then it hit me. I'm an hour early. The time was 7:30. That's when it hit me. I'd fucked up. I was at work a whole hour early.", "summary": "Let myself watch tv whilst tired. Fell asleep. Thought I was late for work. Called a taxi urgently. Ended up at work a whole hour early."}
{"id": "t3_pgiu4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "On the subject of the circlejerk/elitist dichotomy.", "post": "In the past day or so I've come across some rather troubling sights. One of which I saw in r/vinyl, the only sub I tend to visit with due regularity. There, a redditor made a thread to discuss the mastering of an album compared to it's digital counterpart. He was met with a response that it sounded 'funny' because the band sucked. The antagonist to the OP then went on a thorough, but juvenile, nit picking of his distaste for said band. It lead OP to call r/vinyl 'r/elitistmusiccirclejerk'. While the sub can be helpful in discussion of vinyl and listening tips, it's also a place where people share their collections, to the jargon of a good few.\n\nLast night in r/music I was reading comments in a thread wherein OP had up to enough with people posting popular music. Others suggested that he check out various, more specified subs. This was met with people saying that sharing links to other subs leads those of 'inferior' tastes to their smaller subs, ruining them.\n\nThe same can be said of just about any sub that deals in pictures. Particularly r/WTF, which 'goes back to it's roots' about once a month instead of people just going to something more suitable. Any sub that hits more than a few thousand subscribers seems doomed to turn in such a way.\n\nI find it disheartening that people feel this way. That some will complain about the content of a sub and others well be upset when alternatives are proposed. Seeing as Reddit is a community based in connection and sharing, with many options available to provide with an acceptable feed, I find the battle between those that circlejerk (post what they like, and know others will) is met with such fierce elitism (a hatred/dislike of those who appreciate similarities, even on a base level).\n\nHow do you feel about this? Discuss!", "summary": "I often see a tug of war between people that are perceived 'base' tastes (circlejerkers) and those who see themselves as superior (elitists). How do you feel seeing this happen in your favorite subs?"}
{"id": "t3_2fiyzj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to express that I want to be more than friends (19M)?", "post": "I'm a 19 year-old guy who's never been in a relationship. Throughout all of middle school and most of high school I was dealing with a lot of life shit so getting a girlfriend was the least of my worries. As a result, I'm pretty oblivious about relationship stuff.\n\nMost of my close friends have been female. I'm usually not interested in them romantically and am perfectly happy being friends with them. It's happened a couple times, however, where I've found myself interested in being more than friends with them. On one occasion I was interested in a girl who I was spending a ton of time with and who seemed like she might be interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. Through a combination of nervousness about ruining our friendship and not really knowing what to do, I never told her how I felt and she started dating another guy. We're still friends which is nice because part of why I didn't tell her how I felt was that I wanted to keep hanging out with her even just as friends.\n\nRecently, I started hanging out with a girl I met in high school. We get along really well and text each other a lot in what seems like a flirtatious manner. I think I have a pretty good chance with her. I'm interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her but don't really know what to do. I guess the easy solution would be to \"make a move\" but going in for a kiss without consent like always seemed aggressive and creepy to me. \n\nI don't know what to do to let her know that I'm interested in being more than friends. Any advice?", "summary": "Want to date a friend of mine but don't know how to express interest."}
{"id": "t3_1ps4yg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I thought I was recognized on Gone Wild...", "post": "I posted pictures (for the first time) in Gone Wild about six months ago. After a few days of posting, I felt a bit bolder and showed my mouth in one shot. Soon after, someone PMed me and told me that they knew who I was. They then posted my Facebook URL. I panicked and deleted everything. I felt so scared and guilty that I immediately came clean (as I should have) to my boyfriend of one month. We had a huge fight about it, deservedly, and it left a crater-sized impact in our relationship. \n\nI analyzed the person's username, their posts, and figured out that the only person who it could be (and would have been able to recognize me from so little), was a guy who used to be a close friend. I slowly pushed him from my life, afraid of who he might send the pictures to. I stopped using Reddit. I NEVER took anymore pictures. I threw away some decorations in my room that would match me to the photos online. \n\nSix. Fucking. Months. Later. I realized something I should have figured out then. It wasn't MY facebook profile. It was that fucking universal link, that sends the clicker to whatever profile is currently logged in. In my panic, I lost all logic. Fortunately it suddenly occurred to me (God knows why now), and I was able to look back through some screenshots I took of the messages to solidify the theory.\n\nI am just so dumb. So dumb and so relieved.\n\nDon't post in Gone Wild, kids, unless you have at least two functioning neurons.", "summary": "I am not a smart man... but I can take my clothes off."}
{"id": "t3_3rj21g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17f] keep catching my brother [19m] coming out of my room. I think he might be looking through my underwear", "post": "For the last couple of months, I have sometimes seen my brother walk out of my room around the time I come home from school. Like, as I walk up the stairs to my bedroom, he'll be walking out. I always ask him about it because, why was he in my room? and he always says \"I left something in there.\" Whatever, no big deal.\n\nBut when I got home from school yesterday, it happened again. He once again said \"Oh I left my things in there\" and I thought whatever, but when I got in the room I saw the top drawer of my dresser open. That's where I keep my panties, bras, and socks. They didn't look out of place, and maybe I left it open in the morning when I was getting ready, but sometimes you get the feeling that something isn't right and I had it then\n\nOther than that, I have a good relationship with my brother. We live with our dad (parents divorced, mom not in picture). I'm not sure what to do. I obviously don't want him looking through my stuff, but I'm not sure how to bring it up with him or my dad. Also, I'm at school right now, but I don't want to talk to my friends about it because I don't want to weird them out.", "summary": "I think my brother might be looking through my underwear. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_15o00t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help with not letting my (31M) past relationship experience ruin this awesome one w (25F)", "post": "So I am a 31 y/o M and have been dating a 25 y/o F for 5 months now.  We have a fantastic relationship, and she really is everything I could ever want from a woman.  She's smart, funny, caring, and most importantly accepts me for who I am, and loves me for who I am.  I am 2 years removed from an 11 year relationship with a woman who was the basically her opposite..  she was overbearing, funny but at my expense, selfish, and tried to make me who she thought I should be..  In the end, she cheated on me with a friend of mine for several months before we split up and I was left not even knowing who i was anymore and seriously depressed.  Fast forward to now and I am truly happy.  I love spending time with my current gf, and honestly can see myself spending my life with her.  She feels the same for me.  Everything is for lack of a better word perfect. My issue is that I have this underlying trust issue now due to my experience with my ex.  I have explained the situation to my current, and she is VERY understanding.  She does everything she can to make sure I am comfortable and at ease with situations.  I seriously have no reason to not trust her, and I DO trust her to be honest.  It's more of a self-worth issue I think, this little voice in my head telling me that this amazing woman is too good for me and will realize it one day and dump me.  So how do I get over this annoying nagging voice?  I don't want my own internal issues to cause problems down the road.", "summary": "Was in a shitty 11 year relationship that ended with her cheating on me for months.  Now in a fantastic relationship with an amazing woman, but I have internal trust issues due to my ex. "}
{"id": "t3_mjyg4", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "What do you use for flea control?", "post": "My family has tried literally EVERYTHING to control the fleas in our neighborhood (Frontline, Advantage, Diatomaceous Earth, Dawn Dishsoap, etc!) and nothing has worked. I have spoken to lots of pet owners in my area (I work as a vet assistant) and many are reporting similar results, where fleas are becoming resistant to the usually recommended treatments. The only thing that has worked so far is Comfortis, but I've read of several dogs having reactions to it that can be pretty severe. My dogs are fine, we've used it for about a year now, but I don't like the idea of harming them or putting them at risk. \n\nGiving them baths with blue Dawn dish soap does kill all the fleas, but it does nothing to prevent more from coming back, obviously. It only kills on contact, and we are NOT going to over bath them because that isn't healthy either. We're looking for something that lasts.\n\nDoes anyone else have experience with this, or any detailed information on Comfortis and if it does serious damage to your pet's system? Yes, I know I am a vet assistant. My boss strictly recommends Frontline and literally will not listen to me when I tell him it doesn't work and my dogs are still covered in fleas and we have to use Comfortis because it is the only thing that gives them relief. He is not a resource in this case. \n\nJust wanted to see what other pet owners (specifically ones in San Diego) do for fleas...the ones we have here are mutants or something, because almost nothing works on them!", "summary": "the fleas in our town are becoming resistant to generic flea treatments like frontline; comfortis is the only thing that works but can have serious side effects. Just looking for more info on Comfortis or possible alternatives."}
{"id": "t3_224o0t", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Swimming pool club insisting my late father has a membership and must pay", "post": "Got a quick question with a long story behind it.  This is in Maryland if it makes a difference.  My late father had a \"family membership\" to a local swimming pool club.  The way this was set up was apparently as a part ownership thing - there were a certain number of memberships, you bought one, paid dues annually, etc (this is what I am now finding out).  He also paid for the membership of my friend, after her husband passed away, so that we could all enjoy it. \n\nNow, my father passed away over 3 years ago.  His estate spent about 10 minutes in probate because everything he owned was jointly owned with my mother.  When I got the next bills, I informed the club that my father had passed away and that we had no interest in it anymore.  So far, so good. \n\nWe didn't hear from them for 3 years.  Suddenly, apparently due to a change in how they govern their memberships, we got bills.  I told them \"um, he's dead.\"  And now I'm being told that because of the way the board changed the rules, we had been on the \"inactive and membership for sale list\" and are now responsible for the fees and selling the membership ourselves.  My response so far has been - he's dead so he's not responsible for anything, and neither are we.  As far as I know, I don't have a copy of the original contract, so I'm not even sure what the heck it says.", "summary": "my late father paid for 2 memberships to a local swimming club, do we really have to pay for it?"}
{"id": "t3_42dwva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] getting flirty/talking a lot with [~20 F] roommate of high school friend (different schools)", "post": "So, to get right to the point, a friend of mine goes to a school about 2 hours away from mine, so I visit around once a quarter, sometimes more. The past two times (around November and 1 week ago) I've stayed at her house and gotten pretty friendly with one of her roommates. Nothing physical but just getting to know each other and a bit of flirting. Now in the last week we've been snapchatting quite a bit, again nothing too risque but definitely some flirting. \n\nI guess my basic question is, what would be the best way to \"escalate\" the relationship? Of course I would be down for a casual hook-up, but I think even better would be to start an actual relationship, which I don't have much experience with.\n   \nTangential question: what are some good ways to flirt via text/snapchat that doesn't come across as weird or over-eager?\n\nOr should I just play it cool and not try any escalation until I visit again?\n\nLet me know if more information is necessary, I'll do my best to provide anything.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "How do I escalate a semi-long distance relationship that is nothing more than talking and snapchatting at the moment?"}
{"id": "t3_2kkqbg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I get out of this situation?", "post": "Just started my first university year. It's been around 5-6 weeks and would enjoy it a lot more if not for this issue.\n\nBasically this girl likes me on my course and I don't like her back in the same way. I see her as just a friend - nothing more. She asks me to wait for her before lessons and I do, being her mate and everything. \n\nHowever, a lot of people on the course seem to think we're going out and I want to dispel this rumour as soon as possible. \n\nAny sort of help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "girl on course likes me. I don't. Everybody else thinks we're going out. How do I make them think otherwise?"}
{"id": "t3_3comol", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Fined $1,000 for first offense of dog poop in backyard. NYC. It says we can appeal, need advice on how to do this/lower the fine.", "post": "So the fine is not technically charged to my SO and I, because his mother owns the house. However, since we live there we are responsible. The houses are connected so you can see everyone's backyard. Our whole yard is a deck, so no grass. Basically we have two dogs and they will make in the backyard. We both help with cleaning and our one dog poops a lottttt (the bigger one). We received a summons to go to court due to dog poop in the yard. This is our first offense. We never got a warning. Prior to court we bought a power washer and have been keeping up with it every morning. (During the day we can't because we both work). So my SO and his mom went to court today and they slapped his mother with a $1,000 fine. Which seems high for a first offense. It says we can appeal. I need advice on if we appeal will it hurt us (increase the fine). And how to make the case better.", "summary": "first offense of dog poo in backyard, got 1,000$ fine. Says we can appeal and we would like to, but want to make sure it doesn't hurt us/ increase the fine and need advice how to best appeal this to a lower fine. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_1ys0kq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23 with Fs same age] Why some breakups are OK and sometimes I wish never to see her ever and hate her?", "post": "Why some breakups are OK and I can stay friends close friends with a girl and her new boyfriends afterwards and sometimes I just hate my ex and wish never to see her again ever?\n\nI had a bad breakup with a girl [F23, 6 month ] at the end of January. Last time we met, everything was fine, we had dinner, watched movies, cuddled and had some sexy time. When i got home that night, she texted that she had not loved me for a long time already and did not think she wanted to make it work any more. She did not accept some of my invitations to go out in January. Also she had a generally lower interest in sex from the start. Had some suspicions of her starting an affair but she rejected it.\n\nWas very mad and told her to do whatever she wanted. First time I ever wanted to punch someone so hard(\n\nNow cannot stop being mad at her and myself. Cannot force myself to let it go(. Blocked her on social networks, deleted all photos and threw away all reminders of out time together, started my running training again, even though it is still winter outside and i do it after march usually, spend more time working on my motorcycle now. \n\nWhat should I do?\n\nI do not understand why does it feel different from previous ones, so much worse. I've been dumped several times, told by girls they did not love me when I was trying to make it work, or just rejected. Ususally could handle it just fine and recover.", "summary": "Why being dumped or unreciprocated can feel some times much more bitter than others?"}
{"id": "t3_2nz024", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m]: My friend [18/f] wants to become \"friends with benefits\". Should I go for it?", "post": "Hi! I am 18 y.o male attending my final year of high school(I am not from the US or UK). I have a close friend who I have shared many secrets with and trust completely, and not long ago she suggested that she and I should become \"friends with benefits\". I told her I needed some time to think about it and that's when I thought I would turn to reddit for help.\n\nIt seems like one of those opportunities that all guys want. However I am having second thoughts. I am still a virgin and have always thought that I would lose my virginity in a \"real\" relationship. On the other hand I haven't been in a relationship in a really long time and I think I'm getting a bit desperate. This would be a good opportunity to learn about sex and have fun. However, she is not the type of girl that I would date, and I am also concerned that our friendship will be affected if things don't go well, even though she assures me that we could stop at any time. Should I go for it or should I decline and return to just being friends?", "summary": "Friend wants to become \"friends with benefits\", I am having doubts about it."}
{"id": "t3_21r4io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] don't feel like having sex anymore with my girlfriend [17 F] since I'm totally new at it.", "post": "Let's put this into context, we met because of a mutual friend, we started to like each other pretty fast (We are both introvert persons, so that was really cool) and a week after our first \"date\" we had sex.\nIt was my first time, and I thought she was on the same situation, but no, she had sex before with an abusive guy he had been dating for a year (He insulted her, and left pretty down ie she started to cut his arms.). She didn't want to have sex with him, but she loved him and he took advantage of it.\nWell, that first time was quite ok i think, and a few days after we did it again, and that one was totally awful. She said it was ok but i know it wasn't [I may be obviating something, feel free to ask anything]. She says that i'm not that bad at sex, but I know that she says that because i treat her very differently from the douche of her ex.\n\nMore info: This is my first relationship, and I don't have a very high self-steem. We started dating 2 weeks ago. English is not my mother tongue, so yeah, I guess you will see some mistakes.", "summary": "I'M NOT comfortable having sex with my girlfriend even though the relationship is going very well in every other aspect."}
{"id": "t3_4roqly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] want to know how to better comfort and support the people I love.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships,\n\nRecently a close friend of mine has been going through a tough time and I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing to offer support. Most of my friends or family I contact through text or messenger so touching or bringing food or anything of actually being there is out of the picture. Sometimes they are also many miles away. \n\nI know the classic \"Do you want to talk about it?\" Or \"Just know I'm here for you\" lines but what the heck does that even mean? What usually happens is I say those things, they say something, I say sorry you are feeling that way, then they say something else and I'm stuck for words. I can't just keep saying sorry over and over. There's just so many times I can say \"Oh no.. :(\" or \"That's not good.. :/\" I know being supportive and comforting means to listen and be there, but I just find it really difficult when it's all in text and I'm not able to just hold them or just nod and give them my full attention. \n\nCan you guys please tell me how I can be the best support I can be?? The do's and don'ts.", "summary": "I'd like to know how to provide support and comfort to the ones I love when texting or messaging is the only option."}
{"id": "t3_3cbjjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) get jealous of my SO (21M) of 3 years because I can't find others attractive", "post": "I think something is wrong with me. I've never been able to find people physically attractive. With all of the boyfriends or flings I've ever had, I've always been attracted to personality--physical appearance only comes into play after I've been with a person for a while. Is that weird?\n\nI've always been like this. I'll be talking to some guy and my friends will later tease me, because he was a male model or something. I'll force myself to play along and talk about how cute he was, but I never feel anything. I've never stared at celebrities or athletes. I just don't get it. \n\nIt's relevant because I've realized I've become really jealous of my SO. He and his friends send each other pictures of cute girls, or they'll talk about how much they love Halloween because of the slutty costumes. Whatever. It's hurtful to hear about that stuff, but mostly because of the response I get when I tell him it hurts my feelings. He says that everyone finds other people attractive and that it's normal. The consensus on /r/relationships seems to be the same. \n\nI feel pathetic. Like there's some huge part of life I'm missing out on. Plus, I'd like to find other people attractive so at least the playing field feels a little more even. Sometimes I send my friends pictures of guy celebrities just so I can feel normal, but I literally feel nothing", "summary": "I have never found anyone explicitly physically attractive.  Is something wrong with me? How can I get over the jealousy that I feel about missing out? How do people get over their SO's talking about hot girls with their friends? I don't want to be jealous anymore and I want to understand myself better."}
{"id": "t3_ykunn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy who lives with his parents", "post": "[22M] \n\nI'm in last year of university. My parents fucked up financially and now I live with my mom in an apartment, 25min commute from university (we have a car but I don't get to drive it). Mom doesn't really clean the house a lot of she hates guests so I don't/can't even bring invite old friends inside, even if they're visiting from out of town. If I stay outside for few hours she will start calling me and shit. \n\nNow I've been seeing people on and off despite my shortcomings... and I can really tell that this is hindering my romantic progress. But I'm sure someone else on this subreddit was in my situation but had no problem dating. Any tips?", "summary": "I live with my mom so dating is hardmode"}
{"id": "t3_xvlju", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Can someone find my mojo?", "post": "I'm admitting I've been very lazy the past 2.5 months.  I haven't done any runs.  I haven't been to the gym. \n\nI'm most upset about the no running.  That was my \"me time\".  I recently had a major change in my daily routine. I went from not working or doing anything during the day for the past two years... to being a nanny for 7 weeks from 6am-5pm and then working at a local retail store.... to then finding a full time job that is PERFECT for me.  \n\nI'm having a really hard time adjusting to the schedule and simply put... I just don't want to do anything when I get home from work. \n\nIts also summer on Long Island and its like a sauna 90% of the days.  The air is thick and humid. \n\nI don't know if part of my issue is also that I'm not eating correctly and taking my supplements lately.  I'm a gastric bypass patient.  Almost 15 months post op.  Down 188lbs.  I feel like my body is done losing and I think that is also part of my problem. \n\nI feel like I need an ass kicking or a reboot.  \n\nI need my mojo back.  I need to get back on the pavement.  I miss it.  My body misses it.  My back has been killing me and I know its because I'm not releasing the tension.  \n\nI'm just having a hard time getting back into it.", "summary": "Major change to my daily routine.  Need to run but too lazy/tired.  Making excuses.  Someone kick my ass please."}
{"id": "t3_5339ry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] want to confront my gf [18f] of over a year about our sex life", "post": "Early on in our relationship me and my girlfriend had an extremely active sex life, she was my first but I was her third. We often would have sex up to 4 times a day and it was never forced we were always all over each-other. \n\nas time has gone on we have gotten less and less active and thats fine we both have school and work, im not only worried about the sex and I still love her but now not only is there pretty big gaps in-between our sessions but the quality of the sex has diminished by allot. \n\nShe only wants to have quickies, and the rare occasions that she does want a longer session I am not able to because all the self control I built up over the months is essentially gone from forcing myself to finish early as of lately. I feel like she is never in the mood anymore and its taking a hit on my self esteem. we are almost down to less than once a week.\n\nEvery time I try to bring up how I feel she tries to guilt me and tell me all I care about is sex and that its just because she isn't in the mood. I don't know what else I can do or say because its like im stuck at a dead end where my only options are looking like a selfish asshole who only wants sex or sucking it up and being unhappy\n\nI always put 100% effort into making her happy during sex and I love giving oral and foreplay so its not like im not trying to make sex enjoyable for her, but she seems to put zero effort in for me. Most work is done by me latley and even suggesting she gets on top or asking for oral results in a groan or a sudden halt. It was never like this before we used to be so adventurous but now its like we are a married couple in our 40s", "summary": "having boring sex less than once a week with gf and need advice on how to talk to her"}
{"id": "t3_18jkpu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "With all the fishing posts...have you ever had a strange injury as part of a fishing trip", "post": "I was only 8 or 9 when this happened:\n\nMy stepdad would take me to a local pond. I knew the owner well, and tried to help him keep the place tidy by cleaning up other peoples litter. That particular trip the owner was trying to catch a snapping turtle by using an empty 2 liter bottle with fishing line tied around the neck and a hook on the other end.\n\nI swiped up the bottle and the hook flew through the air...it punctured the inside of my forearm and embedded itself a few millimeters away from the tendons. I had to go to the hospital to remove it because it was so deep and so close to the tendons. I ended up getting 4 stitches (I think). I still have a very visible scar at age 29.", "summary": "Snapping turtle booby trap embedded in forearm, nearly hit the tendons."}
{"id": "t3_24kv8o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update 3] My[23/f] SO[30/m] might be unintentionally gaslighting me.", "post": "Hello.\n\nI'm bored at work so here is an update.\n\nI am moving into my new place today! Well, moving is an overstatement. I am getting my keys and buying things for my apartment today. My boyfriend and other roommate are helping me shop/build furniture tomorrow.\n\nI don't have much to update on. Everyone was adamant that he was acting from a place of guilt when I said he changed. After my last post [here]  I talked to him. Some of what you guys said was right. But, he wasn't acting out of a place of guilt, he just wanted to be a better partner.\n\nThings haven't been bad since, but we both need some space and time to ourselves.\n\nAnyway, he was laid off of work yesterday. Has plans to do some solo travelling, I've challenged him to be a street guitarist while he does it. \n\nWe had our ups and downs, but we're happy. I don't really know what else to say. I'm excited to live alone, and to have space and to explore myself. I am happy that I will be able to give him some space to do the same. I have no reason to believe we will break up.\n\nOn a side note... Still have resolved everything for my accident. I did get a lawyer for the hospital shit. 20k in hospital bills is no joke. Still waiting for the government to not give me insurance so that the hospital will work with me to lower. Other guy's insurance has already agreed to settle for the guys limits. I was 0% at fault so I guess this worked out? Lawyer is convinced I'll make a pretty penny off of this so... Yay.", "summary": "Moving out this weekend, yay. Don't know why I did this... @___@"}
{"id": "t3_s1qza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Needing help with an absent father", "post": "I have never had a solid relationship with my father. The relationship I have had is also pretty depressing. I have seen him in person four times and not once in the last 10 years (I'm 19). When I was younger, he would send birthday presents and Christmas gifts, but throughout the years, the letters and gifts stopped coming. Then, the phone calls stopped too. From fourth to ninth grade I was so confused that I did nothing. I was too young to even comprehend what was happening and that it wasn't my fault. In 9th grade, I decided I would give him a call. When I did, we talked for a little while and of course he promised to call more often. However, he never called again. Four years later (my first year in college) I decided to call him. \n\nI had found out he attended the same school I do now, only to flunk out after 6 weeks. When I called him, we talked for hours and kept in contact over the next couple months. One day he called me crying and saying he was so sorry for everything and he wants so badly to be in my life now. However, that seemed to change when I flew up to Washington to visit him and he stopped answering my calls and never returned any of the calls after I left to go back to school. To be the adult, I sent him a letter explaining I would have a relationship at whatever rate he felt comfortable with and today, I received a response.\n\nHe rambled on for SIX pages of writing about absolutely nothing. He even had the nerve to say that the only person who has loved him these last two decades has been his new wife. I want so badly to have a relationship with my father but at the same time I am so incredibly angry at him for everything he's put me through. I've been to therapy for this all but I still have no idea what to do or say to him.", "summary": "Should I tell my dad how I really feel or just proceed to cover up my anger so I can have a relationship with him? Help."}
{"id": "t3_omsay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long Distance, Married, Spending too much time together?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nRequired Information:\nI am 23\nMy wife is 29\nWe have been dating for 3 years\nMarried for 2 months\n\nI am in a bit of a pickle here. I am married and currently due to immigration was forced to leave the country, (was in the US under a work visa).  So I am forced to be in a long distance relationship with my wife for a little bit longer(around 4-5 months). Before I can move there for good.\n\nMe and my wife when we first started the long distance aspect of the relationship, use to spend anywhere between 4-12 hours online together or texting non-stop. We both work but practically went right home and online.  We did this for a few months. We would play video games, talk about things going on in the world, what we want to do for the rest of our lives, ect. Only spending time together with no one else ever around. Just the 2 of us.\n\nSince my wife went off the pill around a month ago (we are going to be trying for children every time i can visit) she has changed a bit. There are times where she would post pictures showing that she loves me and misses me on facebook, then there are times where she has said she doesnt feel anything for me. Today she has said that she loves me multiple times, and just a half hour ago she has said that she doesnt want to spend all day every day with me and that it is getting on her nerves (we were playing games together online for around 4-5 hours today)\n\nIm feeling a bit insecure about myself right now because this is not what ive become used to. I know I should just let it go but when you know shes gaming with friends (all of which are males) and you hear her phone vibrating on her desk all the time, i feel a bit crappy that she is spending some time with others and not me (only feel crappy because its not what we've ever done, even before marriage we spent all day every day together).", "summary": "Long distance marriage, used to spending lots of time with wife (4-12 hours a day), now shes off the pill (think this could be why)and trying to get some distance from me, not liking her gaming with other guys."}
{"id": "t3_pdhov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She wants a tattoo, i dont want to be controlling", "post": "My gf just told me she wants to get a tattoo. She's never had one before  and it would be a small one but it makes me uneasy. \n\nits her body and all that but i LOVE her skin all untouched and clear. I guess im worried she'd catch the tattoo bug and it will be one of many. \n\nmost people i know have multiple if they do. \n\ni like her just the way she is but i dont want to say that to her cos im worried she'll think im trying to control her. i just think she is beautiful and perfect the way she is. \n\ndo i have a say in her body? obviously not the be all and end all but is it entirely her call? we've been together for  a year. looking like we are going to get married.", "summary": "Gf wants a tattoo, worried it will mean more, like her without"}
{"id": "t3_39dt1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Meeting someone online that lives long distance SAFELY? [me: 22, him 19]", "post": "So I met this guy semi-recently. On Tinder. We only matched because he's been down south for his monthly army-whatever, which is only a few miles from my house. We've been talking and snapping constantly for a bit now and he would like to meet up and go out on a date. The thing isss that he actually lives in an apartment a good few hours away. It seems silly to drive so far for a dinner [even a dinner and a movie] and then drive all the way home.  \n\nSoo what do you do in this situation? I would love to stay up there for a night on the couch or whatever and then hang out again the next day. But the possibility of unsafe people is so ingrained that I'm kind of terrified to. Probably for good reason.  \n\nBut I get pretty good vibes off this guy. The way he talks, the things he says. I know his full name and address and he doesn't know either of mine. I know he isn't lying about name cause I've seen probably a hundred snaps by now with his name on his uniform. We aren't fb friends but I did stalk him and I liked the things I saw and the things he has on there. I would also like to clarify that I'm not worried about what to do if I just don't end up being interested. I can handle that fine but I am worried about safety.   \n\nI genuinely **feel** safe. But I also know how unpredictable and potentially harmful this shit can be. I have a badass cutthroat knife I carry, as well as mace. And have three friends [i could find even more if I wanted] that are down to be my safe call. Soo what do I do? What are my options? Is it **so** naive of me to think this is potentially an okay idea or what? Is there anything I can do to be **more** safe? Or can you guys offer up other options for me? I do nottt have the funds to pay for a hotel right now and probably won't till fall time. So what do I do?", "summary": "Guy lives hours away. Seems silly to drive so far for a dinner and then drive all the way home. Is staying the night an option at all or am I basically retarded for thinking that's okay?"}
{"id": "t3_3zb3yx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "sublease scammer (central pa)", "post": "Hi everyone at /r/legaladvice[1] I hope you are having a good new years.\nI am currently under going a sublease scammer, that coincides with the information here.\n\nBasically how the scam works is that they don't ever contact you over phone, but by email. When sent an email they ask for your information. Name, phone number, address. After providing this info to them, they then send a bank certified check.\nThey overpay you and eventually ask you to send the remainder of the money.\nThe check eventually clears out to be fake. And the money that you sent to them is now is in their hands while you won't be paid by the fake check.\nI want to scam the scammers. I will be leaving the country to not return. Maybe return to the US in about 5 years.... Do you think I can scam the scammers without recourse?\n\nI've been exchanging texts with this person and they are still committing to the ruse.", "summary": "Certified check was sent to me, 100% scam. I want to scam the scammers. Will I get in trouble for scamming the scammers?"}
{"id": "t3_140gj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I get jealous when my BF watches porn (23M/23F)", "post": "We have been together for 2 years. When we first got together he had never had a proper gf before and mostly slept around. I knew he was a huge fan of porn and in the first few months of the relationship I was fine with it. Once we got to know each other more I was able to express my feelings about his porn watching and he told me I was being insecure and that the girls didn't compare to me. However, I offer him sex or blowjobs every day.\n\nHe knows how upset I get and burst into tears when I found out he had searched porn. He told me he doesn't deserve me because I'm \"such a good person\" but to be honest, I don't feel I am because I made him feel this way. I don't ever want to see him like that again and it took me by total surprise. The only reason I get so upset about it is because he knows the names of porn actressess and searches them. This makes it more personal to me. I noticed he has liked the actressess on facebook which really annoys me. I get jealous of him jerking off to Divas in WWE.\n\nI wish I didn't feel this way and I don't want him to feel this way either. If it's what he wants to do then I have no right to stop him. I can't help how I feel about it and it will never go. Sometimes I think I need to find someone who doesn't watch it at all. I love this boy more than anything and he has stopped watching it because he loves me too but I don't feel right about it.\n\nI understand it's common for people of our day and age to jerk off to porn. It upsets me him looking at them. Maybe if it was more random I wouldn't mind so much but he searches for women with massive asses and huge tits. This makes me feel more insecure because I don't have either.\n\nPlease provide some advice to help me stop being so jealous.", "summary": "I'm upset about my bf watching porn but understand he should be able to do what he wants with his own body. Please help me so I'm not so jealous."}
{"id": "t3_4aqm6r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking bleach as well", "post": "I was reminded of this TIFU by the post of /u/leezel, so I thought I'd share my own bleach story. This didn't happen years ago, it was only a few monthb ack I apologize in advance for any english mistakes, I'm not totally fluent in written english yet. FYI, I'm 21 years old. \n\nBack in september 2015, some friends & I helped my best friend move in Marseille, in the south of France, and we stayed a week at their place so that we can have holidays in this city. The day we arrived, after unpacking all the furnitures in the apartment, me and a friend decided to get hammered while my best friend and her roommate cleaned up the apartment. We get to the local bar and have a wild night, and end up getting home at 3.00 in the morning.\n\nThe first thing my best friend said when we got back was not to drink the water in the brandname water bottle, as it was filled with bleach, and used to clean the fridge. Drunk me said yes and understood. I stayed with them and helped them clean a few more hours and went to sleep shitfaced.\n\nI woke up as shitfaced as I went to sleep, only I was thirsty. Very thirsty. So thirsty, hangover me decided to wake up, go to the kitchen, and drink in the first bottle of water I encountered. Only, it was the brandname water bottle, and I ended up drinking three big sips of bleached water before realizing something was wrong. \n\nThat's when I realized what I was holding, and I started to freak out and puke all over the cleaned kitchen. I then sat in shock and disbelief of what I had done, and my best friend's sister arrived at this moment. She called the anti venom center (who stayed silent when he learned my age), which told her to make me drink water and take a smecta. \nThankfully, the bleach was enough diluted in the water, so I had no \"post traumatic\" sequels.\n\nTo this day, I don't trust brandname water bottle.", "summary": "got drunk, woke up thirsty, got bleached"}
{"id": "t3_mt2gy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Doing that of which some may view as unspeakable to your girlfriend... [NSFW]", "post": "I'm a decently attractive 20 year old (working out and training parkour in your free time happens to sculpt your body pretty nicely), dating a 19 year old girl, both in college.  I'm a virgin, kinda because for the longest time I was socially awkward penguin that a lot of people wanted to get with, but I was too shy to pursue anything for a while.  She's a virgin, too, both secular.\n\nWe fool around, but nothing oral.  I fingered her while she was on her period, and although I don't necessarily know why I did it (I guess pretty much a huge case of me manning up, plus I figured I would get something in return if I did). I didn't get blood or anything on me.  At any rate, I didn't even get a HandJ out of it.  I didn't ask like I normally do (read; have to?  Should I HAVE TO DO this?  since when was I asexual?) for any \"reciprocation\", I guess you could say.  Partially because I felt like I didn't need to/shouldn't have to.  Partially because I'm seeing how she acts independent of explicit cues (read; telling her I want a handjob or something).\n\nSo yea, i don't know, I guess I'm just kinda floored that it doesn't even seem to cross her mind to return the favor.  Is this just me?  Do I have to be explicit about these things if I've gotten them in the past, but only when I ask?  Why do I have to ask?  What am I doing wrong?  What do you think I should do?", "summary": "=  **20 yr old guy virgin** asking and dating **19 yr old female virgin**, gf doesn't really reciprocate or return sexual favors without being asked, I fingered her while she was on her period and didn't even get a handjob afterwards, because I didn't ask, I don't feel like I should have to ask for these kinds of things when being intimate with someone.  Am I doing something weird/wrong, or being too demanding?  Yes, she has given me HJs before.  Both of us are secular."}
{"id": "t3_3nzca1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24 F) SO of 3 years (23 M) cheated on me for two weeks, I took him back but I cant seem to get over it.", "post": "A couple of weeks ago I caught my boyfriend cheating on me with someone else, I swore i wouldn't take him back but here I am now. He's apologized countless times and has really been trying to make it up to me and show that he has changed but I cant stop thinking about all the lies he's told and what he did with her. I'm trying to be happy and make this work out because I really want it to but I think its driving me crazy. \n\nEvery little thing that reminds me of what I found out about them two and it makes me want to just go hide in a hole and forget this 3 year relationship ever happened. I know the rational thing would be to break up with him but I am not being rational right now. Any advice on how to recover from this or should I just move on?", "summary": "cant get over a 3 year relationship even after he cheated..help?"}
{"id": "t3_20rtpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My depressed divorced mother [55 F] can't let it go - what can I [27 F] do?", "post": "She and my father divorced 3 years ago under (relatively) amicable terms.  He was married again within 1-2 years.  They speak very rarely.\n\nThe issue is this: she is very depressed and can't move on with her life.  She's relatively functional in her professional life, but she's made it clear she misses having someone to talk to the way that she talked to my dad (both are very smart people, and she has a hard time getting that with her friendships and colleagues).  She has a tendency to drink too much and I catch her with 'bummed' cigarettes.  She's made a few attempts at online dating, but has always found her dates to be dull or socially inept or uninteresting.  Personally, I think the problem stems from the fact that she has been with my father since she was 19 and therefore never had to develop dating skills...she's probably shy and would rather avoid it.  Not to mention that exuding unhappiness makes you a pretty dull date!\n\nI'm worried because I'm moving to a different state soon and I want her to be on an upswing before I leave.  She's halfheartedly tried therapy and stays on antidepressants for a while but it never seems to go anywhere.  I think the bottom line is that she's unhappy, has low self worth, and is exceedingly picky about men.  What can I do to move her in the right direction?  I know that this has to come from within, but it's driving me insane watching her wallow in sadness.  I want to be sensitive but it seems so obvious she just needs to toughen up, put herself out there, and realize that she deserves happiness!", "summary": "Sad mother divorced 3 yrs ago.  Lonely and misses company but won't date.  How can I push her in the right direction?"}
{"id": "t3_4f27k7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] cheated on my SO [25/M] of 3.5 years last night. Can't live with the guilt and I need some advice on how to tell him.", "post": "I'm going to preface this by saying that I am not passing the blame onto anyone else and I am a shitty shitty person. \n\nThings with my SO for the last few months have been different than they have been in our entire relationships. His replies became briefer and he would often just ignore a text for hours or a day and for the last 3-4 months, I've felt like we're coming to an end.\n\nI love this person with all of my heart but that's not enough, a year ago I would have envisioned us spending our lives together but I don't think that's the case anymore and after last night, I don't think it can be the case.\n\nLast night I went to a club with some friends - one had won a VIP package and invited myself, some mutual friends and a few people I'd never met before. \n\nThere was someone who I got on with really well, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex back at his house. \n\nI'm an absolute scumbag for this, I know. I could have stopped it at any point and I chose not to. \n\nNow I need to work out a way of telling my SO but without blaming him... Because it isn't his fault. Regardless of how I felt, I wasn't mature enough to discuss our issues rationally and now this has happened.\n\nI also don't want him to think that I only did it so that we would break up.\n\nI'm really torn about the best way to tell him... And if you've ever cheated before, how long did it take for you to stop hating yourself to your very core?", "summary": "I cheated on my SO and now I don't know how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_4kpime", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F]have a [24 F] roommate with anxiety, what have I gotten into? How do I fix it?", "post": "Backstory, I am moving out for the first time, spent some time home saving up money and all that good stuff. I've never had a roommate. I have no idea what this all entails, but I assume(d) that the general rules of relationships would apply. My Roommate is a friend(yes, I know...\"she won't be your friend after living together\") However, her anxiety and personal issues have resulted in some issues....\n\n    Having my boyfriend over, for example. We are private people and generally stay in my room reading books together. However, my roommate screamed that he is not allowed over at all, because it would make her uncomfortable. Now, I am paying my fair share of rent, we've split it evenly, even though she gets the bigger room. I feel that I should be allowed to have him sleep over on occasion so long as he isn't disruptive, noisy, peeing on the toilet seat, or putting the TP under instead of over. We have currently negotiated 4 days a month. She also does not want my friends over, ever.\n\n    I originally had plans to move in on Thursday/Friday, however due to last minute plans, I had to switch to Friday/Sunday. This resulted in us being there together Sunday. I was met with stomping everywhere she went and silence to any questions I asked....She is now saying that there will never, ever, be plan changes ever again. The first plan is the only plan. I have tried reasoning with her, telling her that she could have told me no to moving in Sunday, instead of throwing a temper tantrum, but she is set. When I tried reasoning with her, she told me that clearly I cannot think like an adult, therefore she is taking away my privileges to change plans. Lunch plans, dinner plans, general hanging out plans....etc. Meanwhile, she has bailed on me nearly every single time we make plans together, often only an hour or two before.\n\n    What have I gotten myself in to??? How can I navigate this to come to a compromise with someone so unwilling? I'm already stuck with this, since the lease is signed. I just need a way to make the best of it.", "summary": "My  roommate suffers from anxiety and as a result has become unreasonable, and taken away my \"plan changing privileges,\" since I allegedly cannot think like an adult. She is also denying my ability to have the boyfriend or friends over."}
{"id": "t3_11qzjz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have road rage, tell me your stories and pet peeves about the time you spend in your vehicle.", "post": "Ok so I probably put down around 60-80 miles a day commuting to work then school and back home. Most of the time I am on the highway in which I drive slightly faster then necessary, around 15-25 miles over the speed limit on a given day, what can I say I have places to be. I have noticed as of the past month or so as my driving has increased so has my rage towards other drivers, obviously I feel everyone's biggest peeve is people switching with no blinkers as it is not only dangerous but stupid. But what has taken the cake for me, that I have noticed the most, is that if you are speeding up to pass someone and it looks like it will be close on the space needed to get by around about 85% of the time, a stat I consider at a modest number, the person in the other lane speeds up so you can't pass them only to slow down when I get behind them. Reddit, what makes you want to go on a baby punching rampage behind the wheel?", "summary": "Op has road rage get out of his way when driving."}
{"id": "t3_3u04zk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23F] stop feeling nostalgic and sad whenever I see reminders of my ex [24M], who was my first?", "post": "We dated for 4 years and were FWB for about a year and a half afterwards. We were each other's firsts for almost everything. I've recently started seeing a new guy [20M] and I really think it has potential to go somewhere. Unfortunately, my ex also recently told me that he has started to have feelings for me again (after I essentially \"waited\" for him for a long time). I didn't have the same feelings back so I went no-contact with him yesterday. \n\nToday, I saw that he had blocked me on FB and probably everywhere else. It instantly solidified what was happening and I felt a pang of nostalgia. When will this go away, if ever? He has been in almost half my life and a quarter of them essentially with him. Realistically, I know it's going to be hard to get over your first love and that I will occasionally have these nostalgic and sad thoughts ... but what things can I do to show my new man that he is the one for me?", "summary": "went no-contact with ex after 4 years dating and 1.5 years fwb - feeling nostalgic about reminders of the \"us\" but really want to show new bf that he is the one for me :)"}
{"id": "t3_1g5gz3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need a tactful way to tell my (23F) BF (38M) he doesn't please me sexually", "post": "My (23F) boyfriend (38M) is mad at me because we haven't had sex in over a week. He is saying he expects better of me because of my age. Really, I love sex, but his premature ejaculation makes it no fun. Last time we had sex he came after 20 seconds or so. Just a few thrusts. He \"makes it up to me\" by fingering me a lot, which he's not super great at but be uses a vibrator too. It's not bad but it's really not \"sex,\" especially the kind of sex I want. What is a tactful way to tell him this? He is always making excuses, he's on the NoFap challenge and he says that's what's wrong with him. I need a tactful way to approach the situation because in his frustration he is making it all my fault and getting pissy. Tonight I didn't want to go over to his house to have 30 seconds of sex and so he told me he has \"other plans\" tonight which is his way of saying he is seeing someone else tonight (open relationship).", "summary": "how do you tell a minuteman that he doesn't please you sexually?"}
{"id": "t3_24bx79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Extreme anxiety when I [F20] don't hear from my boyfriend [M20]", "post": "I'm a worrier with an overactive imagination, so whenever I go several hours or even (though it's very rare) a full day without hearing from my boyfriend, I get extremely anxious. We are in a long distance relationship so I go weeks at a time without seeing him, so texting/calling is an integral part of our relationship. Today none of my texts even delivered to his phone, so after about six hours, my anxiety has reached an all time high. Tell me that I have nothing to worry about? Or at least, reassure me that I'm not the only one who gets like this?", "summary": "Haven't heard from my boyfriend all day, becoming extremely anxious."}
{"id": "t3_jq2xw", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear Reddit, superglued my wedding ring to my foot. Need help.", "post": "If you're married, you'll understand.\n\nI was attempting to fix part of the bathroom mirror.  My wife, whom I love very much, heckled me a bit and joked about how I'd glue my hands together.  I don't want to give her the satisfaction of being right (as she always is).  Esp. when it comes to my abilities as a handyman.\n\nLong story short, while opening the superglue bottle, I poked the front and squeezed and it shot out and nailed my hand, ankle and foot. I was trying to reduce the damage and took off my ring and proceeded to try to wipe away the mess. Next thing I know, the ring is glued to my foot pretty darn good.  I tried to pull it off but it broke skin and caused a bit of bleeding. I just want to get this off before she comes back.  Need a way to dissolve the glue safely ASAP.", "summary": "Superglued wedding ring to food, dog ate it and I need to figure out how to stitch up the dog before police arrive."}
{"id": "t3_51tnyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] having existential stress regarding my girlfriend of 8 months [20f].", "post": "So my gf and I have, for the most part, been doing great. We've said the \"i love you\"s and have awesome times together.\n\nMy main problem is that she is very independent and it leaves me feeling uncared for. For example, today we had lunch plans. I texted her a reminder and she said she already ate because she was hungry but that i could meet her at the library to hang out a bit. I feel fed up because many times she has set up a date only to cancel it or change it without seeming to think of me. \n\nI believe she isnt doing it purposefully and is just self focused. Still, i feel like im constantly stressed about our relationship and cant get a good read on what she is feeling. I want to get through to her but when i try to talk about our relarionship i just feel like im spoiling the mood. My question is: should i just accept this as part of her? Or is it worth fighting about? I consistently feel neglected but i know she loves me. Maybe im just too emotionally dependent.", "summary": "Gf is very independent, doesn't seem to realize my needs aren't being met. Not sure if im just too needy."}
{"id": "t3_2cl8t9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You say it's second nature, it makes me shake with fear", "post": "I'm 19, and don't have my drivers license. I was late to get started with the process of driving, and the day after my 19th birthday I was driving (supervised by my boyfriend who is able to be my supervisor) and crashed into the guardrails on a rural road going about 100kmph. I'm not really sure what happened - I was tired, or distracted, and drifted to the side of the road. The crash seemed to last for ever, and at the same time felt so fast. I remember screaming 'what is happening?'. I managed to brake after what seemed like a minute, but must've only been a few seconds. The moment the car stopped spinning I got out of the drivers' seat and collapsed. \nNeither of us were hurt, but it was by far the worst I have ever felt. Knowing that my actions could have killed either or both of us, or someone else, scares me to the point of shaking. I've had some flashbacks since the crash, and am generally anxious about the subject of learning to drive. I tried a few months ago in an abandoned parking lot and the moment the car lurched forward (learning manual) I broke down. \n\nI'm aware this might not be the right place for this post, but even typing it out has given me a bit of clarity. Basically I wish it could be easier for me, but every time someone tells me I need to 'get back on the horse' I feel like scratching them. I know that people have far worse crashes and are able to get back into cards and drive with no problems, but I don't know if I can do that. I am graduating from my course soon and will need to have my license in order to get a job, and this scares the hell out of me.", "summary": "I crashed my car while I was learning and I don't ever want to drive."}
{"id": "t3_1elxfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister [19f] is back with her abusive ex[23m]. Is there anything I can do?", "post": "I am trying to keep this short and to the point so if you need more details let me know. My sister started dating this guy when she was 16 and he was 20. I didn't know how old he was back then, but things were normal. When she turned 18 she started getting random bruises and when I would ask about it she would give excuses about how she fell or hit her arm.\n\nI kept an eye on her, but soon she started getting black eyes and things that clearly could not have been an accident. She got really nervous around him and I finally got her to admit that he hit her. I talked her into breaking up with him. She moved in with me and I took care of her. My job had me move out of the state for a few months so she got her own apartment. I came back into town yesterday and she confessed that they were back together. \n\nI have always been close to my sister and she is way smarter than this, she says he has changed, but I know it isn't true. I need help reddit. Is there anyone who has had a similar issue and knows how I can get through to her?\n\nI should clear this up now, they weren't together from when she was 16. They broke up a lot, but I assumed it was because she was a teenager and things don't really work that well at that age.", "summary": "My sister has had an abusive on again, off again boyfriend for 3 years and the violence is escalating. She broke up with him for a few months, but I went out of town and came back now they are together and she says he has changed. She won't tell me where he lives so I can't talk to him about it either."}
{"id": "t3_3hntcg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "How concerned should I be about making sure a new business name is available?", "post": "About 2 years ago I took up homebrewing as a hobby and recently I've been thinking about giving my operation a name and investigate possibly going pro a few years down the road if everything goes well. \n\nI recently thought of a name I love, but a short Google search shows that some homebrewer has already used the brewery name on untappd.com and brewshuttle.com. It appears that the only person interacting with him/her are friends and family. Neither account has been used in at least 12 months. I've already checked the surrounding states for similar businesses or trademarks and came up with no results. Should the few uses on the websites be enough to make me rethink the name? Or is this worth pursuing?", "summary": "If someone used a business name on some online websites a year ago but hasn't registered it with a state authority, is it worth investigating using that name for a new business?"}
{"id": "t3_3w23d1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M23] told my gf [F22] of nine months that I love her. She laughed and said \"idk\"", "post": "So I was definitely kinda drunk when I said it, I guess bottomless mimosas are a thing. We were outside on the street, her friends had just gone into a shop and I felt it in my heart at the moment. I'd thought about it before but wondered whether or not I \"truly\" meant it. Anyway she laughed and said \"I don't know.\" Maybe because I was a bit sauced? I've never said that, not even to this one girl I was super \"into.\" My thing with her started off fwb, was ultimately unrequited and we're still good friends. I felt like I grew a lot after processing the emotions I felt for that one girl, so I took my time  developing and expressing any serious feels. So yea, we haven't really talked about it since then...we parted ways that day (still dating). I was kinda bummed about it, wondering if it was the timing or w/e. Thing that I can't shake is the idea that we're wasting our time with each other if certain feelings haven't developed.", "summary": "said ilu, she said idk, should I gtfo?"}
{"id": "t3_j7abv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Moms divorced a while ago and one is using me to blackmail the other. Your advice please...", "post": "So my moms divorced some time ago, and part of the divorce settlement was that Mom A pay Mom B $4,500 after 3 years.\n\nMom A just kicked me out of the house to spite Mom B (seriously...) and now I'm living with B while I stabilize.\n\nI was able to get university tuition waivers because Mom A worked for the university. Heres the blackmail part. Mom A told me that unless Mom B stops asking for the $4,500 she won't sign the paperwork that gives me free tuition.\n\nAlthough it really sucks to have to pay tuition when I could get it for free, what really boils my blood is that I'm being used as a weapon against the other. I'm being played like a pawn. This is ridiculous. I'm furious. Reddit please give me some rage-filtered advice. I just want to get back at Mom A and it's probably the wrong thing to do.", "summary": "My mom is blackmailing my other Mom by using me, and i'm fucking pissed"}
{"id": "t3_3e4rqw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an awkward weirdo and missing my chance", "post": "So today after class this guy and I both got on the same bus and were the only ones on there. We kept making eye contact and smiling at each other for a good 4 or 5 minutes. Then, he reached out his hand and introduced himself. We began talking and he seemed to be real into me. (Surprising because this doesn't usually happen and I was having a crazy hair day) I ended up telling him I was studying music and that I played guitar and sang. He said \"I don't play an instrument, but maybe you can show me some time.\" Then the bus stopped at my spot. I didn't even give him my number or anything. I feel so dumb! He just kept looking into my eyes and smiling. He was so cute. I probably won't see him again because it's a big campus and he's not even a student -.", "summary": "super cute guy into me and I didn't make a move."}
{"id": "t3_2rwyz6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/F] am in a very weird relationship with my friend [18/M] right now...", "post": "Me and him started out as friends, then it became a little bit more.\n\nA bit of background information about myself. I do not want to enter into romantic relationships, ever. I want to remain friends with him, and that is my final resolve. However, at my age, of course, I want to have sex.\n\nLast night was the first time we \"slept\" together. No, we did not have sex; we simply slept in the same bed while hugging each other I suppose. Yes, why indeed did I allow this to happen if I want to remain friends with him... Well to be truthful, the whole time, my mind was on sex. I wanted him to touch me. The problem is, I feel like he wants more than a casual \"friends with benefit\" relationship. He was extremely careful not to touch me unless I implied that it was ok. I don't believe I have actual romantic feelings for him because my genitalia seems to be the only thing dictating my actions.\n\nBaseline is, I want to remain friends with my male friend but my hormones are leading him on. I want to have sex, but he thinks otherwise.\n\nWhat the fuck do I do.", "summary": "I want to be friends with a guy, but my sexual urges are leading him into thinking I want something more--what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4v9odb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (F22) an asshole for dating my ex's (24m) kind of best friend (22m)?", "post": "So I broke up with my ex a month ago, relationship was 10 months. Was absolutely amazing, we were so compatible and my silly fantasies actually made me really believe he was the one (still feel that way). But there was a pretty major dealbreaker that I couldn't overlook (not relevant) and we split up. Tried to be friends but currently not talking (my idea) because I thought we needed space from each other to get over the break up. With the expectation that we'd try to be friends again in the future. \n\nEnter mutual friend who has been there for both of us throughout this whole break up. My ex and I both tell him everything, both vent to him, etc. He's our go to when we need to talk to someone. I met him before I met my ex but this friend, John, was friends with my ex longer than with me (we all worked together). So two completely independent friendships. Anyway on to the issue....\n\nJohn has really been making some moves lately and one day while we were smoking he just kissed me. John told me there was no way he was telling my ex and assured me that this would only be strictly casual (which I'm okay with).\n\nI guess my question here is am I a terrible person for not telling my ex? Or for even considering this with John? I just can't help but think that I don't want to hurt my ex at all and I know he would be if he finds out that the guy he confides in about us and his loneliness is hooking up with his ex. I still love him more than anything so I guess I already know the answer but I could still use the input.", "summary": "Mutual friend with ex wants to date casually without ex knowing. Should I tell him? Or tell John to tell him? Or should I not even consider this?  "}
{"id": "t3_4s48xo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (25f) Dad (48m) is having a baby with a girl two years younger than me (23f obviously) and I am just broken hearted over if. I can't lose him but I can't forgive him either.", "post": "So as short as I can make it, I've always been super close with my Dad. My mom was clinically crazy and we were both the victims of her abuse until she finally took off and left us when I was 13. I've always felt that it's been he and I against the world. \n\nWhen I got home for 4th of July I knew he was nervous and avoiding something important. And then bam out of the blue a young girl shows up at the house and she's his girlfriend. Yay!! Oh and not only that they've been dating since January and the cherry of everything...she's due in October. \n\nOnce my dad relaxed and I caught my breath and the week settled in (my dad was very respectful of my opinion and pre-arranged for her to stay with her family---who apparently approve of this situation) I could tell he was very happy and excited, in fact more so than I'd seen him in years. When I discussed the details he said that she worked as an intern at one of his suppliers and thier age difference actually gave them something to talk about as opposed to it being an obstacle. She's in college, she comes from a good family and she's made it clear that prior to them getting marrried, we all meet with a lawyer so my dad's estate is fair to all of us. So at least by her word she's a decent person who is not after my Dads money.\n\nAll of this would be awesome if she were 45, 40 or even 35...but she's 23. And it just seems weird. And it makes me sad and it makes me feel like I'm losing him. I'm having a hard time forgiving him for taking \"him\" away from me. \n\nI would LOVE any help.", "summary": "My Dad is dating a girl younger than me and she's pregnant. He seems happy and she seems like a good person but it just seems do wrong and I'm so hurt by it."}
{"id": "t3_4cglhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] and my gf [19f] have been together for 3 years now. She comes from an extremely sheltered back ground, which is causing problems with intimacy.", "post": "So we've already agreed early on that we would wait for sex. So a little bit of back story. I'm pretty much here first bf in almost every aspect, which did cause a few problems early on but we worked through it.\n\nSo fast forwarding to the problem, she decided she wants me to give her an orgasm. I'm completely cool with this idea, however, she isn't comfortable with anything vaginal. She wanted to go the route of belly button. (Sounds extremely weird I know) I decided to give it a try but, it just isn't working.\n\nWe've already decided that we want to get married, once we are older. She's now upset with the fact that she can't have an orgasm through unconventional methods. Am I wrong for no longer wanting to try  unconventional methods?", "summary": "Sheltered gf wants an orgasm using unconventional methods that just aren't working for her."}
{"id": "t3_3kxcp1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spraying insect repellent on my hat.", "post": "This happened a couple of months ago, when it was still reasonably warm here in Alaska. Up here, the state bird is the mosquito, they are vicious and come in unrelenting waves. One can only protect themselves with copious amounts of bug-dope.\n\nSo we were out camping and I was fed up with all of the bugs still biting my face during the night, and I had a wonderful idea to drench my fleece cap in bug spray to hopefully stave them off. I proceeded to get into my sleeping bag and pull my fleece cap over my eyes to block the sun. \n\nFast forward to the morning. I wake up feeling wonderful, I just need to rub the sleep out of my eyes. So I give my sockets a good palm rub and stretch my back a little. Upon opening my eyes again, I still cannot see anything, it's like I'm looking through the plastic sheeting into one of Dexter's kill rooms. I start to panic and rub my eyes frantically, only to make it worse because now it hurts and I can't see. So I ran over to our water container and dosed my face with water for a while, it didn't help much, but I started regaining my vision slowly.  \n\nIt took about 3 hours butIt has returned to normal, needless to say, I have learned a valuable lesson.", "summary": "Sprayed insect repellent on my hat that I pulled over my eyes to sleep with, woke up in a blind mess of pain and confusion."}
{"id": "t3_knvqw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How polite are you?", "post": "This morning getting my drive through coffee, I noticed I said \"Thank you\" to the person at the speaker box and window at least 5 times. Also said please a couple of times. This is pretty much how it went:\n\n\"Good morning, welcome to Caribou Coffee! What can I get you\"\n\n\"A medium mocha with skim milk, please\"\n\n\"So that will be a medium mocha with skim milk? Do you want whip?\"\n\n\"Yes, please, thank you.\"\n\n\"OK, your total is $blah, see you at the window.\"\n\n\"Thank you.\"\n\nCredit card is swiped... I receive it back \"Thank you\"\n\nCoffee is handed to me, \"Thank you!\"\n\n\"Have a nice day!\"\n\n\"You too, thanks!\"\n\nSeriously!! Is this abnormal?", "summary": "Please share with me your personal etiquette and any amusing anecdotes of politeness."}
{"id": "t3_2sq2ge", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bargain hunting", "post": "This happened just this week gone. I subscribe to r/scifi and recently there has been a lot of chat about a novel called 'The Martian' by Andy Weir. It seems just the sort of book which I will really enjoy so on Thursday morning I go on Amazon, use my prime trial to purchase said book for next day delivery to get stuck into over the weekend. \nYesterday afternoon a parcel arrives to my office and I eagerly rip it open to discover my mistake... When on Amazon there were paperback copies for \u00a311 something but also paperback copies for \u00a34.95. Being the savvy shopper I am, I obviously went for the cheaper one. Turns out in my excitement at a bargain I ordered the review summary of said book. A chapter by chapter review of the novel...", "summary": "wanted book, being cheap and hasty on Amazon bought review of book"}
{"id": "t3_4ei3vt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends think it's weird that I (26/f) haven't met my BFs (27/M) family yet, and he hasn't met mine. Am I weird?", "post": "Throwaway because some know my regular user. Long story short I have been dating BF for only 5 months, known him 6, and we both had a discussion on how it's a big deal to meet each other's family, so it wasn't anything we both did right away. We wanted to focus on getting to know each other first. \n\nI'm not a very needy gf, he lives maybe like 12 miles away but has a wonky work schedule so I really only get to see him 1-2 a week, and I'm okay with that because hey...that's life and I really like him. My friends know this and think it's weird that he hasn't introduced me yet to his family, considering he uses the 'L' word and has talked about his future with me in a pretty serious manner. I know that his parent's get attached to his gfs so that's part of the reason he wanted to wait. I think or thought this was all reasonable but now my friends have me second guessing that it's fishy. Should I just tell them to mind their own business or do they have a point?", "summary": "Friends have me overthinking the fact that I haven't met his parents yet, need to know if this is as absurd as I think it is or if they have a point."}
{"id": "t3_4wpkcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] need help catching out my flirtatious personality because it's destroying my relationship. Help!", "post": "My partner [27 M] and I [23F] have been together for a year and half. We began as an open relationship, never really laying down any firm limits. We've realised that was a huge mistake, and since have agreed to become monogamous to build on being a pair. I have a very flirtatious nature, and struggle to catch myself out. \n\nI am deeply in love with my partner, and want to make things right with him. We're currently going through a discussion phase where we go over limits, and things we'd like the other person to do more of. One large issue is my lack of awareness. Has anyone experienced or had a similar issue and can give me some advice on what to do?", "summary": "Going from open relationship with no real terms to monogamy. I have a big flirtatious personality, and my partner has asked me to put some real thought into how I can communicate and keep myself in check. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1gqenb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my gf [20F] 4 months - I'm ending things with her today because she gets way too jealous of other females and is overly attached for a 4 month relationship. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "Basically, we've been dating for 4 months and she says things like \"I don't know how I'd function if you ever left me\" and gets jealous and freaks out when other females even acknowlege me. She got mad last night because some girls liked a professional-looking profile picture on FB. Am I being unreasonable?\n\nIt's to the point where I'm almost scared that my female friends will talk to me because I know she's going to make a huge deal out of it. \n\nIn her defence, I used to talk to a lot of those girls, but now they all are friends and are all in long/committed relationships.", "summary": "How much jealousy/clinginess should I put up with?"}
{"id": "t3_175p66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (30) tell my husband (29) that I'm no longer attracted to him and I'm not satisfied sexually?", "post": "He's always been a big guy, and when we first started dating it wasn't really an issue. I was so in love and blind to all of his physical characteristics that his size didn't bother me. We've been married now for 6 years and the blinders have come off a bit. I still love him a great deal but I'm just not attracted to him anymore. He doesn't take care of himself. He doesn't shower enough, dresses like a hobo and eats like crap. I get kind of disgusted by him and I feel awful about it because I really do love the person he is on the inside. \n\nWhat's bothering me most is our sex life. I'm horny all the time, just not for him, and I'm starting to notice other men and that scares me. I want to be attracted to him and do all the kinky stuff I have in my head but I look at him and am so turned off. That, and his size makes sex very difficult so we've resorted to just using our hands and oral. It is so unsatisfying. \n\nHe is a *very* sensitive guy and I'm understanding of it and I don't want to hurt him but something has to change. He's noticed a difference in me and my lack of affection/desire but when he asks me about it I just blame it on something else. I have talked with him before about how sexy it'd be if he got in shape a little. I told him we could start eating right/working out together. I try to be as compassionate as possible but he either gets horribly offended and withdrawals from me or exercises for a day and then goes back to his old ways. \n\nWhat can I do? It's getting serious and I don't know how much longer I can be with a person that I find so repulsive. I know everyone will tell me to just be blunt and tell him how I feel, but it's not that easy. He's had a rough life that I won't get into (unless someone is interested of course) and i can't hurt his feelings like that. I just can't.", "summary": "my husband's weight/appearance/hygiene is turning me off and I'm finding myself looking at other men and i don't know how to talk to him about it effectively without hurting him."}
{"id": "t3_24bhrg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(15/f) my boyfriend (m/15 )commented on my best friends butt and I'm concerned", "post": "I know we are young but we have dated for a solid 6 months. We like to play the question game where you take turns asking questions that must be answered honestly. A few nights ago he asked me if I could have sex with anyone in the school (not including him) who would I do it with. I couldn't think of anyone. He responded with (I'm going to call her Julie) Julie (my bestfriend who's more like a little sister) because she had a nice butt. He had mentioned earlier about how he caught her\nButt in his eye and \"thought DANG that's a nice butt, wtf brain haven't you seen your girlfriends butt lately?\" At least that's what he told me. Today Julie was going through some issues and he got defensive over her and asked how another girl could do that to her. This antagonist lets say Kelly, also did stuff to me and he never got worked up about it. However my problem with Kelly wasn't as bad as the problem between Julie and Kelly. Am I overreacting or do I have a case.", "summary": "boyfriend checks out sister friend person and then comments on her but. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4u9ot1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "37 lb lost, 8 to go, and it's one of the best things i've done in life", "post": "A couple of days ago i (m,30) made a list in my head of my biggest successes and failures in life o_O and i realised that getting my *** together and getting in shape makes the top 3. So for what it's worth here are some random observations, if they help motivate somebody that be great.\n\n1) it's worth it. it really, really is. I know everybody keeps saying inner values and sure everybody should do what he/she wants for him/herself but I feel incredibly much better in thin. I have more energy. My back pain is pretty much gone. I can wear anything. Look good in a simple tshirt. Look awesome in a good fitting suit. It's great. i care what other people say, but much much more i like to be the best version of myself and i feel i can be that only in a good body.\n\n2) girls like it. even when i was a bit \"bigger\" i never had a problem  asking girls out or going home alone. i guess it's because i can be quite funny and talkative so by the time clothes came off nobody cared. same thing now but instead i am getting compliments. to somebody that felt self-conscious naked before this shit is killer.\n\n3) for me mfp did it. i set it to 1500 calories per day and simply stopped eating when those were hit. quickly found out that salads, tomatoes and such have almost no calories but make you feel full whereas unhealthy food has tons of calories while not making you full at all. in addition i went to the gym 3 morning per week for weight training. and i started running every day. doing this i quite constantly lost 2 lb per week.\n\n4) fun fact: weight loss is random: so while i did lose about 2 lb per week on an average basis there were weeks where i lost 3, and other weeks were i even gained. i think the they key is consistency. as long as you are at a caloric deficit you WILL lose. just keep at it, and it will come.", "summary": "weight loss = good."}
{"id": "t3_xz34h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, What's your best \"Look what I accidentally snuck through airport security!\" story? I'll start, naturally!", "post": "Long time lurker here, my story isn't so good but I'm expecting awesome stories from you guys! (so hopefully I have something to read at work tomorrow...)\n\nThis evening I was going through airport security. Pockets empty, shoes off, etc. I step into the body scanner and as a raise my hands I remember that I have 3 dollars worth of quarters in my pocket. I step out of the machine, but before I can brace my testes for a pat down the guy says I'm good to go (that was the warm up). \n\nPretty shocked, I step over to the belt and the TSA guy wants to search my bag. I carry a lot of electronics, so I figured the cables got them confused (like always). He checks the front pocket and doesn't see anything. Opens up the second pocket what pops up to meet him? A book I've been planning to read: \"HOW TO BUILD A NUCLEAR BOMB AND OTHER WEAPONS OF MASS DESTRUCTION.\" I face palm and prepare a series of excuses to fire off, but the guy doesn't even look at it twice. He zips it up, skips the the third pocket and I'm off!", "summary": "I showed a TSA agent a book about making terrorist weaponry and he didn't so much as raise his eyebrows."}
{"id": "t3_3zr5pe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by soldering the wrong thing.", "post": "Today I came in to work after getting about 45 minutes of sleep and discovered that our industrial inkjet printer was malfunctioning, again. Opening the head to clean it (which fixes it 99% of the time) I found that the sensor wire had broken off, again.\n\nThis has happened before, no big deal, just have to solder it back on. Its just one wire so it usually only takes a couple minutes to fix. I dug out the soldering iron and went to work fixing it.\n\nToday, for whatever reason, this wire just would not cooperate. I'd put plenty of flux and solder on, melt it, let it cool, and none of the solder would stick to the damn wire. Several times it seemed to stick, but it was actually just sticking to the plastic coating, and the wire itself had actually moved out of the way. It was as if this wire just ran away whenever solder got near.\n\nEventually I finally got the bugger soldered on tight... and it still didn't work. No signal. I tested continuity and sure enough, nothing.\n\nIt was at this point that I leaned in for a closer look and realized the problem. I'd spent the past hour soldering to a piece of the wire's plastic coating. The actual wire had broken off, and what I thought was the wire was just some plastic.\n\nBONUS: after all this, I finally soldered it correctly... and it *still* doesn't work. Apparently the broken wire wasn't even the actual problem.", "summary": "soldering to plastic is hard."}
{"id": "t3_41sh08", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "\"Mother-in-law\" wants to file for my child as her dependant", "post": "My background: 23, M, Employed.\n\nI recently had my first child, and this was a bit unexpected to say the least, so my finances weren't in the best order. However, i did provide all that my needed as a baby and my child. My kid and her mom both live with the grandmother (on her mom's side) for half of each week due to my retail hours, but I am the sole provider for my kid as her mom is a student. Her grandmother has bought a few items here and there, but as far as her main support, that comes solely from my income (formula, clothes, diapers, etc.). I make around 45k a year. My issue is, her grandmother wants to claim my kid, even though she doesn't actually provide anywhere close to half the support. My kid and her mom both spend half of each week with me at my own apartment, I also provide financial support to my kid's mom, but I won't try to claim her since I understand her mom (granny) needs the money from the tax credit.", "summary": "My kid's granny wants to claim him/her. I don't think that's fair since I provide all her support. My kid's mom doesn't work, and only stays with the grandma for half of each week due to long work hours. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_khrlw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Redditors with electrical know how?", "post": "I know this isn't the best subreddit for this, so if someone can direct me to a more appropriate one that would be helpful.\n\nBut for the question. At my University, we have [these] auto lights in the study rooms. There is no way visible to adjust the time on it, but does anyone know how to manually change it to stay on longer? Currently they are set to stay on for 5 minutes, but there isn't much work that gets done in 5 minutes. So if anyone knows a way to change it, or keep them on I would love suggestions. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "[these] motion sensor lights turn off after 5 minutes. I want them on longer"}
{"id": "t3_o9hdv", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Super Bowl Party Ideas", "post": "So this year will be my 11th annual Super Bowl party, which I started back in college to feed my need to cook for large groups of people (and I'm not crazy enough to open a restaurant).\n\nStarting two years ago we developed the theme of cooking food based on the cuisine of the game's participants - red beans and rice and shrimp and grits for New Orleans in 2009, traditional fish fry for the Packers in 2010.  So now I basically only watch the playoffs cheering for teams based on how good their food is. \n\nI was wondering if anyone has any suggestions for the remaining teams: Green Bay, New York, San Francisco, New Orleans, New England, Denver, Baltimore, Houston.\n\nSome of these are easier than others (I'm in WI, so Green Bay is easy, so is New Orleans or Houston).  Others less so - Denver because I'm not sure they have a distinct culinary \"thing\" (I'm not sure \"Western\" is a distinct style of cuisine).  Some others because of cost (Crab cakes for Baltimore, Lobster rolls or something for the Patriots, seafood for SF - we're in Wisconsin, these things are pricey for 15 or so people).\n\nAnyway, this could be dumb, but I thought it might make for interesting conversation and I could get fresh ideas other than what my wife and I have hammered out.", "summary": "food ideas for the remaining Super Bowl teams based on their cities?"}
{"id": "t3_3ar6iz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Traditional financial analyst role or a MEAN stack (web app) developer at a startup?", "post": "Hi. I just got a job offer from a place that I actually wanted to work at. It is an investment firm, and I'll be working as a junior analyst, where I'll just be an Excel monkey. However, I've talked to the two senior associates who had started in my position, and they say that the job does get better as I gain more experience and earn my CFA certification, which is expected of me as a junior analyst.\n\nHowever, the problem is that I've taken a job at a start up doing some Excel work and hopefully being a MEAN stack developer for the same company in the future. I've been at this position for two weeks, and the start up culture is not bad. It's very flexible and laid back, but I'm not sure if I'll be up to scratch. I have zero experience programming. I've done R and MATLAB as a math major, but nothing like web development and database architecture, which is what my position will be in this start-up. As a young 22 year old, there is no better time for me to learn all these programming skills, but at the same time so much of my undergraduate career has been towards a financial career.\n\nTo be honest, I don't have a burning desire to work in the financial industry. I'm just a guy who liked math, and now that it's time for me to start looking for a job it didn't hurt me to take a few classes in investing and apply to those positions. I've never had an internship in the area nor do I know many people in this industry. The only thing that is more attractive for me for the analyst position is that it's the devil that I know. This whole programming position I have now presents a lot of opportunities for growth in the future, but I am starting from square zero.", "summary": "here are the main questions"}
{"id": "t3_yogtm", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Anyone else either engaged for under a year or getting married young?", "post": "Hey guys! I'm 21 (as is my fiance),and we've been together for about two years. In total, our engagement will span about nine months, and we've got three months left (November 2012). We are choosing to do this because we love each other, we work well together, and we plan to be traveling a lot in the next few years (which you have more rights to each other as spouses than not, so we feel more comfortable). We are not particularly religious, it's not a shot gun wedding, and neither one of us is terminal. I rarely meet others who are either engaged for such a short time or who are young. Anyone else out there who's kind of like us? (Realistically, I appreciate all sharing!) Thanks guys! :)", "summary": "I'm getting married at 21 and am not super religious, pregnant, or dying. We seem to be unique in this. Anyone else out there?"}
{"id": "t3_10q52q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most unbelievable thing you have seen with your own eyes?", "post": "Last Friday my college had a dodge ball tournament.  My friends team came up against the team they lost to in the finals last year.  My friend has a pretty good arm.  He beamed this one kid in the head and knocked him out.  Cold.  He got back up after a few seconds and went down again.  When he finally got to the sidelines and started throwing up.  He was rushed to the hospital where he was treated for a concussion, scratched cornea and a dislocated jaw.  He also sent a second kid to the hospital with a dislocated thumb from trying to catch him out.", "summary": "My friend sent 2 men to the hospital in the same dodge ball tournament, one of which had a concussion."}
{"id": "t3_27u4uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/m] just got dumped by my recent girlfriend [23/f] of two months after she found out a own a legal firearm", "post": "I'm not sure where to begin here, but I'll just keep it short. I met a girl a couple months ago and we really hit it off. I wouldn't say I loved her or anything, but it's been a long time since I've had a steady girlfriend and I've been really enjoying myself with this chick. Then I went back to my hometown out of state by myself last weekend, and I sent her a snapchat of me and my boys shooting handguns on his land. We all own plenty of firearms and enjoy shooting targets in our spare time.\n\nShe immediately stopped texting me (we usually text off and on throughout the day) and when I asked what was wrong, she said she is scared of guns. I asked if this has permanently damaged 'us,' and she said yes. And so I told her that if she is going to let that get between us, then there's no point trying to change her mind. And I'm sure as hell not going to explain myself when I've done nothing wrong.\n\nLook, I understand people freak out around guns. But I can't imagine why she would just call it off after that. I thought she at least knew me well enough to know that I'm not the type of person that would use weapons violently. I mean, millions of people own firearms legally. And I can't even carry my weapon over state lines to wear I currently live now anyway. \n\nI'm definitely sad. I wouldn't say heartbroken, though. I mean, we didn't get too deep, so it's not too horrible. I'm just kind of bummed out.\n\nReddit, did I do the right thing by not fighting for her and simply letting it end right there? And I hope this doesn't turn into a gun debate thing, because I personally don't think it's about that. What I'm worried about is, well, what does it say about her that she would walk away in a split second simply because I own a gun? Legally, I might add! Some advice would really help right now.", "summary": "I went on vacation with some buddies and sent a snapchat to my girl doing target shooting on my friend's property. She doesn't like guns, so she said she couldn't look at me the same way again. I understood and walked away without putting up much of a fight. Did I do this right?"}
{"id": "t3_18un99", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I stop myself from being a snob ?", "post": "I hope I don't get too many down votes for this, because I do need some opinions on this.\n\nI have been blessed with a lot of opportunities in my life. I am currently a 19 year old who is working in insurance. I make a decent living for myself. I am not poor, but I am also not rich. All I want right now is financial stability for myself.\n\nRight now, I feel like I am the dream child of any parent. I got myself a high income job at 19. I also do not need to waste money on a college degree. I drive a nice car and own a nice apartment.\n\nBut here is where I start to act like a douche. I have accomplished so much in my life already, why can't most people do the same ? Isn't life about living happily? Then I start to wonder about the \"failures\".\n\n* Why did you develop a drug addiction ?\n* Why did you decide to get a kid at 16 ?\n* How did you end up working at Walmart for 20 years?\nWhy are you still living with your mother?\netc.\n\nIn my head, I know I am better then these people. I feel like these people threw away a wonderful opportunity in life. They could of been anything, but they ended up becoming \"failures\" in life.", "summary": "Why am I such a douche for thinking your life is a total failure."}
{"id": "t3_1aa23k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Damnit, I am falling in love with my best friend. He is out of my league. What to do?", "post": "He and I have been coworkers now for about 7 months. We both work 2 jobs at the same places..Mcdonalds in the morning and then Pizzahut at night, so we are literally around each other for like 15 hours every day. He is one of the greatest guys I have ever met-funny, smart, etc. Thing is, he could probably do way better than me, and I don't say this in a negative, boohoo me way, it is just a fact. I'm older than him with a lot of skeletons in my closet, not to mention I need to lose about 40 lbs. and he is in great shape. We hang out after work sometimes. The other night I went over to his house and he drank and we talked until 4am. He talks about his nonexistent love life and such. I guess I am wondering if he could ever possibly be interested in me. Or else I need to know if anyone has tips on how to control/make my romantic feelings towards him go away. Thanks.", "summary": "Could my best friend like me back, and if not how the fuck do I make myself stop liking him?"}
{"id": "t3_11fv49", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "New (Strange) Behavior Question", "post": "I'm literally brand new to this subreddit, so if I'm in the wrong place, just let me know. \n\nWe've got two mix-breed dogs. They are almost eight and seven years old. The question involves the younger, a boy that we've had for going on six and a half years.\n\nIn the past month to a month and a half his behavior has changed. Granted we added a baby to the house back in February and then moved back in May, but this change only came about in August or so. \n\nOut of the blue he's become randomly skittish. Example: This morning I'm standing in the kitchen and I went to take my wallet out of my back pocket. He arched his back (almost curling into a standing ball), backed up quickly, and yelped like I was beating him. I was a good six feet from him.\n\nSame thing happened sitting on the deck last week. He's a solid five feet from me, and I lifted my foot to cross my legs seated at a table.\n\nSame thing when letting them out when my foot scuffed the door jam.  \n\nIt's not always movement triggered (I don't think), but can be set off by sound. \n\nHe's been what I would consider a quite normal dog for absolute years, but now he's got these ticks (for lack of a better term). Very skittish, and for no apparent reason.\n\nThere's zero history of abuse regarding him (or our other dog) with my wife and I and he's been a part of our house for over six years. Any idea?  I hate to see him suffer; especially when I have no idea why.", "summary": "Dog we adopted from a shelter six/six and a half years ago suddenly has (last eight or nine weeks) become skittish, backing away and yelping as though he's avoiding being stuck. No history of abuse while he's been with us, but we've added a new baby and a new house into the mix in the past eight months."}
{"id": "t3_clyv4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which current MacBook is best for school?", "post": "So to preface, I am going back to school this fall to finish this whole \"higher education\" thing and am planning on using a chunk of my student loan to purchase a new laptop. I am a long time PC user and have enjoyed Apple products from the sidelines. I've had a recent introduction to the Apple world via an iPhone and am slowly being absorbed by the collective of Apple fans and can now say I am a believer in OSX after playing with my buddies MacBook Pro a few weeks back. \n\nMy confusion now is whether the MacBook 13\", MacBook Pro 13\" or MacBook Pro 15\" are the best options for me. Not that I am computer illiterate, I am aware of the technical spec differences between the three, which has all but disqualified the MacBook 13\" but the real puzzle is the MacBook Pro 13\" vs the 15\".\n\nIs the price gap between the two really worth it for a newer generation processor and dedicated graphics processing? This is a huge purchase for me so I want it to be worth the money I spend and not be out dated in six months. I am only planning on casual gaming such as occasional Team Fortress 2 binges but that's about it. In addition, I've never had to lug a laptop around a campus especially to class after class and wonder if the size difference will really affect portability. \n\nI am a Mac newbie, any input on real world experience would be appreciated.", "summary": "Buying my first laptop for school and not sure which MacBook Pro option is best."}
{"id": "t3_2dlukz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/ with my Ex [18 F] 2 years, Nothing eases the pain of missing her.", "post": "We've had a very rocky past 4 or 5 months, and have been very off and on. But about 3 weeks ago she flipped her car, and walked away. But it really made me reconsider everything about her. And now I understand how devastated I would be if I lost her. She broke up with me on the 5th and since then I have gone to the mall 3 times, seen 2 movies, gone out to do something everyday, worked about 40 hours, and hung out with friends. But nothing eases the pain. I feel depressed everywhere I go. Sometimes I have to go in the bathroom at work and regain control of myself. I can hardly fall asleep, and when I do I dream about her and it wakes me up.\n\nIn the past week i've been averaging about 6 hours of sleep a night, lost 8 or 9 pounds, and have had multiple breakdowns a day. \n\nIt doesn't seem like she's going to come back to me this time. Last night was the first time she had talked to me since she broke up with me, I told her how I felt and how I wanted to change and what I knew I needed to change and why it was actually going to change. I told her I loved her and she hesitated to say it back to me. She told me to call her if i needed her. But today she said she didn't care, and that she wants me to leave her alone.", "summary": "GF of 2 years dumped me, we've broken up like 6 times in the past 4 or 5 months. But this time it's really affecting me. I can't keep her off of my mind no matter what I do."}
{"id": "t3_1o08sq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your, \"I am way too messed up for this...\" Story?", "post": "Freshman year in college, my roommate and I are entertaining some young ladies, we each decide which one we like and we make our moves. My roommate decides in the middle of his conversation, that he didn't like his girl, he wanted my girl. By this time our bottle of svedka was just about through, he drunkenly blurts out, \"I think I love your friend...\" to which his girl responds by bringing the group together so that my roommate can confess his love for the other girl. My roommate bails on his brave confession and says, \"She is crazy, I don't know what she is talking about\" his girl breaks down in tears and runs out of the dorm, down the stairs and out of the front door. We went to a school in the city, she was walking in the WRONG direction, when I finally caught up to her, she hears me coming before she sees me and screams, \"I JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE\" she then takes off full sprint towards the more \"urban\" parts of this city, I eventually catch up to her, calm her down, and walk her home safely.", "summary": "Roommate calls a girl crazy she runs down the street and ends up in the wrong neighborhood."}
{"id": "t3_3khvi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] not sure if I can trust [20M] guy who has previously cheated.", "post": "About 6 months ago I got out of a super bad relationship where I was cheated on and felt like shit all the time......I had to end up getting a restraining order against this guy. Even though I went through a lot, I've learned from it and feel like I'm ready for another relationship and to have fun again.\n\nI've been talking to this awesome guy (M) for about 2 months now and he's a really sweet, fun and caring person. I met him through mutual friends and he mentioned he got out of a 4 year relationship a couple months ago. Him and I both get along really well, we go on dates and have fun together. He does make me really happy and seems to have my best interests at heart. We are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but I can tell we are moving in that direction. \n\nI recently was informed by one of my friends (S) that (M) cheated on his ex(girlfriend at the time) multiple times with her--back in May. S mentioned that he was an awesome guy and although he always seemed to regret cheating on his long-term gf, he did it multiple times. She said to do what I feel is best, but hear him out about the situation. (Maybe his gf was cheating on him??) \n\nI made sure to get as much info from her as possible....but I'm not sure how to go about the situation. I do really like this guy and it's so hard to believe he would cheat, but I obviously don't want to go through the same thing that happened in my previous relationship. M knows all about the relationship and seems to be supportive and caring about it. I want to talk M about it to gt his side, but I don't know if I'd be able to trust him if we continued our relationship.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking if you guys believe once a cheater always a cheater? I want to give him a chance because I believe every guy is different and he may have learned his lesson and it's in his past...but I also don't wanna get hurt. Does anyone have any experience with a situation like this? Thanks!!", "summary": "Guy I've been seeing cheated on his ex gif multiple times, should I forgive?"}
{"id": "t3_4a4de2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26F) best friend (25F) told her fianc\u00e9 (26M) personal and secretive stuff about me. I'm hurt and embarrassed.", "post": "My best friend, Sally, is engaged to Brian (names changed). Sally is a wonderful friend, and I'm friends with Brian, as well. The three of us hang out together a lot. \n\nI'll make this part short and to the point. I was recently told by my psychiatrist that I have PTSD. I am having flashbacks of childhood trauma and abuse- I'm not sure if it occurred, and it's very traumatic. Sally has been fantastic throughout all of this. She's listened to me, told me I'm not crazy, etc. \n\nLast night I found out that Sally has told Brian about what I've told her. I'm... Really hurt. This is very private and sensitive, and I didn't expect her to go and tell Brian. At the same time, I get telling your fianc\u00e9 everything, not keeping secrets, etc. But. This was my secret. My story. Even beyond my hurt, I'm embarrassed that she told him. This is very hard for me to process, and I've gone through many moments of feeling like \"am I crazy?\" \n\nDo I have a right to be upset? Should I confront Sally?", "summary": "I'm going through some traumatic stuff right now. My best friend told her fianc\u00e9. I found out last night. I'm really upset and don't know if I should confront her."}
{"id": "t3_2rxsoh", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Potty training help!", "post": "So I have 3 dogs (technically 2 but my sister has 1 and we live together) and they are having trouble potty training. They are all old enough so idk why all of a sudden they have started going inside. They're all chihuahuas ages 1,2 and 6. They're crate trained and they never go in their crates and as soon as they get let out they are let outside or walked and so on. But as soon as they come inside they just go on the floor. We tried pee pads in the beginning but decided they were a bad idea and stopped. We have always been consistent with letting them out every hour or two but its like they hold it just so they can go inside. Any advice?", "summary": "dogs are crate trained but still go inside. Don't know how to make them stop."}
{"id": "t3_3l42fh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] Thinks Everyone Looks Better than me, and is better than me.", "post": "So...Where do I begin? \n\nI am 15 years old, 5'11, 160 pounds, and I really like a girl...(less relevant) but, I am too nervous to ask anything because I feel like every guy is better for her than I am and that compared to them, I'm nothing. I'm funny, and I know I look good (on many occasions called gorgeous) but...I just cant see it myself, It may be true..but I cant see it.\n\nI dont play a sport for my city, I dont play high in sport leauges, I dont do anything really phenomenal (other than..Caring and..I am an expert in Java) So, to me I can't see why she should take me over, a great sports player...And I am deathly afraid that if I do ask her out, she would much rather prefer another guy over me...I constantly think \"Oh, this guy looks way better than me..\" Even though people tell me that it is simply not true...I dont know why im like this and I need help with that...\n\nThanks Guys", "summary": "Think every guy is more skilled/looks better than me (even though thats not true) and that I will be no good vs another guy for a girl I like"}
{"id": "t3_iiptm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of you done a leadership course? If so, do you feel like it benefited you at all?", "post": "I graduated from uni in 2009 with a communcation design degree. Since then, I've been working at a building company doing admin work trying to find a graphic design job so I can quit. I'm still at my current job because a) I'm a slack bitch and haven't really applied for enough jobs/worked on my portfolio, etc and b) there's not many jobs for junior designers in my town.\n\nMy friend gave me a call a few nights ago telling me about how he went to a leadership course and it 'changed his life'. He said that he was more proactive after the course and said I should go along to the information session at his place. He also told me that the 3 day course costs about $600 which I technically have but don't really want to spend that much money. I'm still debating whether to even go to the information session.", "summary": "Graduated uni and still don't have a design job cause I'm slack/not many jobs. Friend is telling me to come to an info session for a leadership course and I'm hesitant about it."}
{"id": "t3_4r0mmy", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Odd thoughts I have with relationships", "post": "I'm a darkish Hispanic guy and I have a preference for White girls. I've never gotten any kind of racist treatment from them, or any kind of upfront racism for that matter that I can think of, but I have these thoughts that I shouldn't be trying to date them. Only real racism I've heard was through tv, internet, movies, etc. And I dont live in a racist area at all as far as I know.\n\nBut for some reason I sometimes have these thoughts that maybe they find me offputting because of it. I've never really had much luck with girls with getting into relationships or sex, but when I think about myself with a white girl it kinda feels like I don't belong. I also feel like it could be a class thing since most girls I've talked to come from a better off middle class at the least. I somehow have lived my life on the east coast in middle-upper class areas and go to school with a majority white population so the feeling of not belonging there or around them is there. We've somehow been able to scrape by a living here and I definitely have unique living and financial problems compared to my friends. Plus my family's culture and background is very different from theirs. \n\nAlso, seeing movies and shows where its usually a white guy with a white girl, or a Hispanic guy thats the perfect level of exotic-ness(?), accent having, suave guy, definitely doesnt help me see that I could have a chance. I've seen interracial couples all the time so I know its not impossible. My friend is white and she prefers darker skinned guys, I have friends in interracial relationships so that also shows me it can work.\n\nAgain I haven't been discriminated against directly by them that I know of, I honestly have only gotten that kind of treatment from Hispanics if anything, but it still lingers in my mind from time to time for some reason. Just curious, is that a normal to think of? I know not every girl is into the same thing, there are girls who wouldn't date outside their race, etc. Thats all fine, not everyone's going to like me I'm well aware of that, but should I put any kind of thought into that?", "summary": "I feel like my darker, Hispanic skin color, lower middle class upbringing, different family backgrounds are not right for trying to make a relationship with a white girl. I'm not sure why I think that way but is that normal to think about? Could I get someone from that end to give me their perspective on this?"}
{"id": "t3_38e26r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying I wanted to move in with my boyfriend", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and it has been the greatest relationship of my life. We laugh constantly, we love being silly together, and I love him more than anything else in this world. Two months ago, he left for an internship across the country. The past two months have been extremely hard, dealing with school that I hate, work that's soul crushing, and graduation coming up. Most of all him being away. But we would talk on the phone and have sexy Skype time so I thought I could make it through.\n\nHe is going to law school after summer and we had talked about really thinking hard about whether or not we should move in together. He said we should decide by the time he gets back, which is in about a week or two. Well, seeing as he is the best thing that's ever happened to me, I call him yesterday with it all thought out. I take my time in explaining to him that I think our relationship is worth the try, because the last year and a half have been so wonderful and because we love each other so much. Then he tells me he's been cheating on me since he got to his internship. And my whole world crumbled down around me in an instant.", "summary": "Me: \"I want to move in with you\" Him: \"I've been fuckng other women\""}
{"id": "t3_4shx9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 7 years have a good relationship, but I feel like I want to meet other people", "post": "So as I'm nearing my second quarter of a century, I'm starting to have a little \"quarter-life crisis\". \n\nI love my gf of 7 years (maybe not as passionate as in the beginning) and we mostly get together pretty good. Some minor stuff here and there, but nothing we can't get over. We were each other's first, lost our virginities to each other. But I can't shake the feeling that I'd like to know other girls, that I don't want her to be the only girl I've been with for the rest of my life, or maybe try being independent for a while.\n\nAt the same time, I don't want to lose her and I feel like I'd make a big mistake if I decide to leave her just for this (I know she won't accept me going solo for a year to try things out and then come back to her). And I also don't want to have the same question in another 7 years.\n\nHave you ever been in my situation? What did you do? How do you decide what to choose?", "summary": "want to meet other people, but relationship is not that bad as to leave it without remorse. can't decide what to do and the ambiguity is making me unhappy"}
{"id": "t3_1zw07e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my girlfriend [16F] lies about where she is and gives more attention to other guys", "post": "We have been going out for 6 months. I'm one year older than her [17]. Whenever we are out in public places (specifically a strip of shops that all the local school kids go after school) whenever she sees one of her \"guy friends\" she just completely ignores me and goes up to them and hugs them and talks to them.\n\nOne example of this is we were with a group of friends crossing the street at the lights and while we are crossing she runs back and hugs and chats to one of her \"friends.\" The group that I was with ended up having to wait for her.\n\nWhenever I confront her about it she says that I am not her property and she can see who she likes. She also hangs out with guys she knows has feelings for her.\nAm I being \"over protective\"?? What should I do?\n\nP.S Just yesterday she lied to me saying that she was at one of her friends house for a sleepover. She stayed the night at a guys house and when I asked why she said because she was stressed and had anxiety and needed to get away from things.\n\nThis girl means the world to me, but I'm only 17 I don't need to be dealing with these types of problems.", "summary": "My girlfriend give more attention to other guys and completely ignores me. Lies to me about things as well."}
{"id": "t3_dtege", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, fuck it, I need your advice.", "post": "I'm gonna drop the pretentious stuff and just get to the point.\n\nI realize that it is incredibly important to finish college. Here's the problem. I'm one of those guys who since he was young people have fawned over me being so smart. I never studied in school. I was lazy. I've had a lot of crappy stuff happen growing up too. My dad died when I was 9, I've moved across the country, my mother is completely insane (serious) so I've always kinda raised myself.\n\nI suck as a parent (at least to myself.)\n\nI don't know why I am the way I am. But I want to fucking change.\nI've been in community college since '07 I took a year off, and have been doing a few classes at a time. At this rate, I'll get out of college by the time I'm 35. I want to be able to just bow up and become this homework/school master and freaking be able to study and all that crap everyone else does.\n\nMy apologies, but I'm fairly emotionally right now. Many of the \"stupid jocks\" I graduated with are about to graduate college. Some of these guys did things like.. Oh yeah, let's see who can stay drunk the longest! 1 month in one guy's kidney's and liver started acting up so they stopped.. BUT MOTHER FUCKER HOW THE HELL ARE THEY ABOUT TO GRADUATE IN A FEW MONTHS?", "summary": "I've had a hard time growing up, was lavished as being smart and great for taking care of myself... Some how I fucked up my studying habits along the way and now I don't know if I can finish college. What the fuck should I do? How do I save my life?"}
{"id": "t3_32qrhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] is scared meeting with online guy [23 M]", "post": "Hi everyone, I have two issues I need advice for: Thanks!\n\nFirst:\nI am a college student and I go to school in New York so there are TONS of high quality guys around. I've used Tinder and other social apps to meet guys online. The only thing I am worried about is that I don't know if a guy is truly single or not! I like dating guys older than me and I am afraid they will have a gf, or even married! I always tried to look them up on FB before talking to them, but most of them does not put their relationship. I will never be the third wheel in a relationship (it's who I am and I cannot forgive myself if I become one) and I hate dramas with other girls but I've encountered guys who have girlfriends who are chatting girls up online! If you have experience with dating online, can you give me some advice on how to avoid this?\n\nSecond:\nI've met this awesome guy and we have chatted nicely and everything for a couple of days. The chemistry is definitely quite strong with this one, except he is incredibly good looking and seems to be out of my standards (I found his FB). He haven't seen my picture yet, but I am really not the attractive type. He have all the qualities girls are looking for: good looks, good education and steady job out of college. I have a feeling he's been talking to other girls too, and I know for sure those girls are better looking than I am. I am really insecure about meeting up and have been avoiding it. I know all guys weight attractiveness very importantly...and I know I don't meet up to those standards. Our chemistry is awesome, but I don't think that is enough if he's not attracted to me....what should I do? Will the chemistry weight out the other factors...maybe?", "summary": "Need tips on how to avoid taken guys online; I am not attractive enough for the guy I am talking to online. Should I meet him?"}
{"id": "t3_22qvjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Time For Me !", "post": "For the past 5 years I've fallen into long term \"serious\" relationships, the last 2 being the more serious ones where we've made future plans together, even lived with one for over a year. The last two have both bailed when it's time to take a step forward in our relationship and have asked for me back after. Both same shit different pile. \n\nMy most frequent ex was older then me and recently took a week to ignore me later informing me he needed it to \"figure out\" where his life was going and while he was doing that and I realized what life was telling me. STOP TRYING TO SKIP THIS CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE!!!\n\nWhat chapter?\n\nThe Chapter where you go off on your own, do what you want to do for longer then a month or two between another relationship, stop relying on another human to be there at the end of the day, you don't need a man to hold you and tell you every things going to be okay, because guess what - it's always going to be. \n\nNow I don't plan on giving up on relationships forever, I'm moving away for school in September, that's 5 months away and I won't be dating anyone right away then either. I don't need to start anything right now I'm 19 turning 20 this year. I worry that this is going to just stick with me and I'll get turned off guys or the idea of sex and romance, but I don't think I will be.\n\nI'm taking an outdoors adventure school course so I'm going to be doing plenty of crazy awesome activities and getting certified in many outdoors areas. I'll be stepping out of my shelf and finding more of myself. I'm so excited for this path that I'm on right now and I'm trying so hard not to look back.", "summary": "It's time to conquer this chapter of life, stop getting myself into relationships with guys and giving up myself and relying on him. Time to build up more of me, have some experiences on my own and learn. I'm scared but I'm SO excited. Any encouragement or thoughts would be great or some relate-able stories to help me see this path clearer or just to share :)"}
{"id": "t3_1n52h4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help me. I still have no received my last pay check from my previous job. What do I do?", "post": "So last Monday (9/16) my boss and I decided that I wasn't really a good fit for the company. In a nutshell, he's kind of a douche and I can't really deal with douchey people on a daily basis. But the break was really clean and everything was fine. So, I then email him my hours and he starts freaking out. It is a very small company, maybe 10 employees, with no HR or Accounting department; just him and his construction workers. He says he isn't going to pay me for the full 40 hours I worked that last week because I have not worked 40 hours in any week previously. I then emailed him back explaining that that was the first full week I worked (my first week I started on a Tuesday, the next week I took Friday off, the week after was labor day, etc.). This was on Monday night.\n\nI heard nothing at all the rest of the week. So I assumed he still wanted me to come pick up my check that Friday at the office. I then get an email 30 minutes before he wanted me to show up saying that he is still not going to pay me for 40 hours and that he is only going to pay me for 30 hours and that I can pick up my check on Monday (9/23). I, once again, respond with ***why*** my last week had more hours than my previous weeks (I only worked there for 5 weeks and we were paid every Friday). He still does not respond.\n\nSo Monday, I text him and say that I'm starting a new job and would really like to know when I can pick up my check. He then says he mailed it on Saturday. Yes, mailed it. To me. In the same city.\n\nWell now it's Wednesday night and I have not received it. What the fuck do I do? There is no HR to go complain to. There is no accounting department to bitch at. He is the General Manager and that is it.", "summary": "Was at a job for 5 weeks and decided to leave because my boss was a dick. He then told me he was not going to pay me for the full amount I worked because I hadn't worked that many hours before. Constantly put off when I was supposed to get my check, and claimed he mailed it to me last Saturday."}
{"id": "t3_2i49df", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking around barefoot", "post": "I was getting out of bed today after a restless, fitful sleep. I sleep barefoot because socks are too warm for me when I sleep. As I got out out bed, I was walking towards the door to get to the bathroom. Much to my dismay, I forgot to put my chair back in under my desk and it was too dark for me to see it. My pinky toe hit the chair. \"Oh no,\" I thought. \"Please no.\" Unfortunately, it was too late. My had already awakened my nerves. The excruciating pain that followed would be akin to a hermaphrodite giving birth and then getting kicked in the balls, followed by a shotgun blast to the stomach. I was in agonizing pain for what felt like hours, crying on the floor, cursing every god that would let me feel a pain like this. After about 20 minutes, I got ready for my day, and went to school. Luckily I survived this ordeal but I know not everyone does.", "summary": "I stubbed my toe and cried like a bitch for 20 minutes"}
{"id": "t3_3ojk3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[20F] buy a guy[25M] Ive been on and off with the past 3 months a expensive bday gift?", "post": "Me and this guy have been \"talking\" for a couple months. The last time we broke things off was because I felt like he was putting too much pressure on me.We did no contact for a lil over a month and just started seeing each other again last Thursday. \n\nFor his bday(It was Saturday) he wanted a pair of Jordans nikes.I agree to get them not knowing they cost $180. Sooo we get to the mall,I have about 50 bucks on me(broke college student) and then he shows me the shoes. I refuse to pay cause they dint seem worthy of that much money and I dint have that much money. I give him 40 and he pays the rest(he pulled out 1000's). He called me a liar and cheap and blah,blah,blah.I even put my ego aside and told him I just could not afford them and now he wont speak to me.\n\nIm not this mans gf and this happened 2 days after the no-contact ended. am I wrong for lying or is he for asking for something that expensive.", "summary": "guy I kinda like is mad i cant afford to buy him expensive shoes. am i wrong for saying i would buy them before i knew the price?"}
{"id": "t3_32zcye", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Does anyone have any knowledge of equine(horse)-law [CT]? My SO's name is on her horse's \"registration papers\", however, her mother is trying to take the horse away, else she'll stop paying for her tuition.", "post": "For full background, I made a post in r/relationships about my SO's physically and emotionally abusive mother: \n\nShort story: Her mother beat the ever living shit out of her when they got into an argument about the mother \"taking her horse back\" - the mother was sent to jail, and my SO testified in court saying that it was all a misunderstanding to get her out of it, so the mother would pay for her tuition. \n\nFast forward to now, the mother is trying to take the horse away again. Calling my SO and berating her, treating her like shit, threatening to drive 1000 miles with a horse trailer and take away the horse if the daughter won't do certain things... etc... \n\nNow- for the legaladvice part of this - how valid is her mother's claim to the horse? According to my SO, the horse is \"registered\" under her own name, and that her mother only has the paperwork. Her mother claims that \"she can get the name on the paperwork changed at any time\" and that essentially she could get ownership of the horse back from her - however, this sounds like she is lying and manipulating my SO. My parents are both lawyers, and they say that the mother's story doesn't make sense, because if a car registration is put under the name \"John Smith\", but \"Steven Smith\" paid for it, it would still be \"John Smith's\", and be considered a \"gift\". \n\nNow, I have no idea what horse registration even is, or how that works, but from what it appears: the mother bought the horse, put it under my SO's name(as a gift), and now she is threatening to change the name on the registration and retake ownership because \"she paid for it\".\n\nThe registration and everything was in Connecticut, if that changes anything. I would really appreciate any help, I really care about her and want to help her as best as she can keep her horse, as that is her real passion in life.\n\nThank you to everyone who can help.", "summary": "daughter has name on horse ownership/registration papers, pays its board and everything, mother is threatening to cut tuition payments and to take away the horse and change the registration papers and I would like to know if either of those things are legal for her to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ijznc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asking a barista out", "post": "I met this barista at a coffee shop I used to work at and she was just covering a shift (its not her location). We spoke for a bit on her breaks and I think we really hit it off. She asked to trade phones and creep each others pics. I also noticed she kept playing with her necklace while we talked. We talked about what we do with our free time, and our career goals and other misc topics. I foolishly didn't ask for her number. I went to her main store once but it was crazy busy, in fact its always really busy there is never any downtime (down-town mall location). Does anyone have any ideas how to get in and out asking her for a date/number? I don't want to put her on the spot in front of a large crowd of customers.", "summary": "Op thinks he hit if off with a barista, doesn't ask for number. Now wants to go to her store, but its really busy and doesn't know how to get it in a fast paced environment."}
{"id": "t3_1qji24", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Repost: 32/f wants 2nd marriage after saying for a while I didn't but I don't think 34/m does. 2 year relationship ... Should I bring it up?", "post": "Repost. I really could use some advice. \n\nMy bf n I are both divorced. In the start of our relationship I was against marriage. (Really it was post divorce bitterness.) He echoed my thoughts. But now I'm not so angry or bitter about marriage. I think that being in a happy marriage is possible and think that I'd really like to get remarried some day. I think my bf is still against a 2nd marriage. In the rare moments that getting remarried did come up he said he didn't think it was something he'd want to do.  A friend suggested that I talk to him about it but I don't know if it's worth it. \n\nIt's not a make it or break it conversation right now but I'm scared that it may be eventually. Part of me thinks that if we don't have the same long term goals then jump ship. The other part of me loves him so much and realizes he's the best bf I've ever had and doesn't want to lose him. Should I just forget about getting remarried or talk to him about it?", "summary": "I (divorced/32/f) was against 2nd marriage when I started 2 year relationship w/my bf (divorced/34/m). Now it's something I want to do in the future but I'm not sure if he does. Talk to him about it or not?"}
{"id": "t3_173uge", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Anything I can do to improve?", "post": "So the title says it all. I am not new to running by any means. I want to get better at running and I know the general answer \"Run more\". I have ran a couple of 100 mile weeks but I'm down to about 50-60 mile week due to injury. I hope to be running ultra marathons in the next few years.\n\n I know this seems like a silly post but I've never really had anyone coaching me or anything so if there are any little things I can do to improve just a little I'd be happy to know about them!\n\nSome general information....\n\n**I am an 18 year old male** \n\n**I am a vegetarian** (I don't really think that matters but it'll cut out or add some dietary advice)\n\n**Injury I had: Hip pain** (Never really looked into it too much but the pain is gone now)", "summary": "I am not new to running and have had experience doing high mileage. What can I do (Besides run more) to improve? Any little thing helps!"}
{"id": "t3_1h309d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M32] invite my Ex [F27] to a wedding?", "post": "I broke up with my gf of 9 months 5 days ago when I found her active dating profile christianmingle. She claims her friends made it for her when we were off for a couple weeks and she forgot about it because she never once checked  it (despite daily emails from them - that's how I learned  it, sitting next to her when she pulled up her email). Her \"last check in\" date confirms this. I confronted her on this and she told me it I  nothing and don't worry about.\n\n In the ensuing conversation I learned she also lied to me when we first met as to why wouldn't add me on Facebook, a lie she maintained for the 9 months we together until she realized I was breaking up with her over the dating profile. The fb lie hurt the most as it was something I told her frequently didn't make sense to me.  \n\nThese 2 breaches in trust led me to finally end it 5 days ago. Welp, we've been talking the last 48 hours and she's sobbing and begging me to forgive her and work it out,that she made a mistake regarding lying to me about fb early on and she was a coward and should have been honest with me.  \n\nWe were supposed to go to a wedding together this weekend.  I genuinely love her and thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with her.  I don't know whether to take her or not. She is hurt because I wasn't planning on it and she stated I was looking for a hallpass.  I'm not.  I loved her, was  heartbroken over her lying to my face for the entirety of our relationship and was shocked by the dating profile and wanted some space and time to wade through my feelings.", "summary": "gf lied to me for 9 months about why she wouldn't add me to fb, found a still active dating profile from a break we took, still love her but I'm hurt - not sure if I should bring her to a wedding this weekend."}
{"id": "t3_3vex4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New bf [27M] not helpful with my [27F] family", "post": "We were out on a date which had to be cut short because my dad was not feeling  well. My mom asked that I come back home and send him to the hospital. We're barely two months in this relationship but my mom roughly knows that I have a bf. I asked if he could help... Help to support dad walking to the car and sending us to hospital. Kinda shocked when he said no. It seems more like nervous over meeting the family more than anything :( and maybe because we're still relatively new. He said he would meet my family soon but in better circumstances. However, if you could help, shouldn't you help? \nThere's also a few other instances where I felt he could help, but he doesn't seem to want to. Im not sure whether this is just cause we're new or should I be worried? He's perfect in every other way though.", "summary": "New bf. Family had an emergency. Expected him to help, but he did not want to because he was nervous. "}
{"id": "t3_2m77a9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/M] haven't had many relationships need advice on how to make and progress a healthy one", "post": "Ok so to start here's a brief synopsis of my past relationships: \n\nmy first official one was about a year ago she [20/F] (I was 21 at the time) was shy and lived in the next state over, and didn't have a car but worked with me to find good times to meet and I made an effort to visit her regularly. It was both our first real relationship so things didn't go very far in the physical department. when the fall semester started we were able to meet more frequently and I though things had been going well but suddenly it ended with her saying that she doesn't have romantic feelings for me after some introspection on her part. I reacted badly and too emotionally (crying and asking why, similar bs) mostly due that being my first real breakup. \n\nMy second relationship went better [21/f], we hung out a bit during summer (we lived closer and met more often and played some online games frequently) and got comfortable being close to one another but when college started back up I barely saw her. I tried every other week to set aside time for us but she consistently replied that she was too busy with work and school, I told her we could meet any time I wasn't in class but she rarely (once in 2 months) worked with me to find a good time. At this point I became rather dejected but kept it to myself and felt like she either didn't really like me and just wasn't telling me or I had done something wrong, but she said I hadn't done anything. So after a few weeks and only texting, with her changing the subject every time I tried to tell her how I was feeling and going out of my way to make time for us even if it was minimal and non romantic I broke up with her by basically saying that if she couldn't put any more effort into the relationship than she already was that we should just be friends. I was mad at her but I kept it to myself.\n\nI feel I should also say that I'm a high functioning autistic (NLD/NVLD) who has adapted well but still has a lot of trouble interpreting body language and nonverbal cues.", "summary": "I want a healthy relationship but am unsure how to best progress to that point, my previous relationships did not get to the point where we were emotionally or physically comfortable with one another."}
{"id": "t3_p219u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Biggest \"Silly tourist\" or \"Clearly a foreigner\" moments you eccountered/been in?", "post": "A while back, a few mate and I went to Vietnam for a holiday trip.\n\nOn one of last days, we all bought some traditional [Vietnamese hat] as souvenir and decided to wear it for the rest of the day.\n\nWe were walking around a park and walked around for a bit to kill time.\n\nWe soon noticed everyone we walked by were looking at us and smiling and laughing. Some even took photos of us. At first, we chalked it up to them just finding foreigner wearing Vietnamese stuff amusing.\n\nAfter a while pretty much everybody we walked by doing this (including a few soldiers and cops trying their hardest not to) and old people giving digusted looks, we thought there was more to it and just took it. \n\nEventually, we deduced we were wearing a women hat the whole freaking time and walked in the middle Hanoi at it's busiest time and busiest place. We got your confirmation after we ask one of the servers at a restaurant.", "summary": "Imagine 5 tourist wearing [this] and walking around Central Park and completely oblivious to it but in a Vietnamese context."}
{"id": "t3_1puclm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28F just found out 28M that I've been seeing for a few months has never dated before. Tips?", "post": "So I met a boy a couple of months ago and we started going out on a lot of dates. He is unlike any boy that I've dated in a long time, super respectful of me and doesn't pressure me sexually after dates. It's been so wonderful getting to know him and I think about him constantly. \n\nWe kissed for the first time last night and it led into a little makeout session. When I playfully teased him about his kissing technique, he told me he didn't really know what he is doing. Turns out, this great, handsome, confident guy has never been in a relationship, or even kissed a girl! I was floored. He told me it was because he didn't have a lot of confidence growing up so he never tried to date when he was younger. \n\nI'm perfectly fine with this revelation, but now I feel this immense pressure to do right by him. You see...when I was younger, I was a bit of a wild child. I've been with...an embarrassingly large amount of men in my life. To top that off, most of the men I've been with have been well versed in dating (both sexually and romantically). So it's quite different to me to be the way more experienced one. \n\nI guess what I'm looking for with this post is this: are there any older virgins who haven't really dated before that can give me advice on how to move forward with this guy? Are there things I should or shouldn't do? I've kind of decided that anything sexual between us has to be on his terms and his comfort level (I would never want to pressure him into anything or make him do something he wasn't ready to do), but I didn't know what else I should do. I like him very much and would like to keep seeing him. He's a total catch and we are super compatible, so I just want to know what I can do to make his first \"relationship\" as good as possible.", "summary": "boy I am dating is virgin with no dating experience. Tips to make dating go smoothly?"}
{"id": "t3_1nn4k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my Boyfriend [20 M] of 1y, needs advice", "post": "We've been together for a year now and things have turned to shit. It's like he's not interested in me anymore. He used to hug me, or tell me he missed me. None of that now. We don't talk. We just sit there sometimes.\n\n---\n\nBut I don't want it to end and I've bought this to his attention by talking with him. He says that his mind is already made up but wants to try and fix things anyhow. We've had talk after talk, yet nothing changes, and all I want for him is a little more effort.\n\n---\n\nWhat I want to know is what can I do to make him interested again? Is there anything I could say that may help? I really don't want this to go down the drain, but if it does, how can I deal with this break-up?", "summary": "Boyfriend knowingly ignores me and wants to fix things but doesn't put effort in. Need to do/say something to fix things."}
{"id": "t3_1tj2lp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) am having trouble deciding if i want to do about a girl (22F) i have been having relations with.", "post": "I (22M) have a crush on this girl (22F) in my University. I have asked her and she is interested in me also. We have had sex and things have been going on for 3 months.\n\nBut here is the twist, she is bipolar. She basically have these periods where she changes personality and won't talk to me and totally ignore me. These periods can come whenever and it's driving me crazy.\n\nThing is, I really like her. I can't get her out of my head and when she is \"normal\" we have a great time together and the sex i great. But I don't know if I can handle those \"periods\" anymore. They really hurt me emotionally. \n\nAny suggestions on what to do? Should i dump her or should I stick with it and \"ride the storms\"?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I like a girl, she likes me. We have been having sex but she ignore me sometimes and it hurt my feelings. Should i dump her?"}
{"id": "t3_gp7ut", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help. Priceline and Crowne Plaza are stealing my money.", "post": "I booked with Priceline using their name your own price feature. I ended up with the Crowne Plaza in Minneapolis, MN.\n\nLast night was check-in. They asked for my ID, and credit card to verify everything. My card was declined for incidental charges ($30 preauth -- I'm now dirt poor). I was like okay, we'll just use my girlfriends card. We handed them my girlfriends card, her ID, her military ID, and they said because it was not my card, they could not check us in. I wasn't afraid to quarrel, but I didn't get feisty or anything rude. At the same time, my girlfriend was in tears because the person behind the desk was so belligerent.\n\nI called Priceline this morning and was escalated to the customer relations outsourcee. I told them my problem, they contacted the hotel. The hotel said they were unable to refund Priceline because it is their policy. I checked with Crowne and there is no fine print or terms saying this.\n\nWhat can I do to get my money back? I have already emailed (with hopes it'll reach executive offices, which according to Consumerist, happens regularly). Please help a broke college student, Reddit.", "summary": "Booked with Priceline. Presented the card I used to book with Priceline to Regan behind the desk, with my ID. They verified it, but said it declined for incidental charges ($30 - I'm a broke college student). Was told to GTFO after my GF offered to put her card down for incidental charges, she also presented her DL and military ID."}
{"id": "t3_53drje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [19M] gets really upset over homework and I want to know how to handle it.", "post": "Carl and I have been dating for four months now. I love him a lot and he loves me a lot. I think he wants me to he around for a long time and I feel the same way. \n\nThe only issue with our relationship is school. He's taking a really tough class that just doesn't click with him. Normally you'd think this wouldn't be an issue, but it is. \n\nWhenever he's doing homework for this class, he gets really depressed and angry that he can't figure out the problems. Starts saying things like \"I hate myself\" and \"You should just kill me\". \n\nAs someone who has gone through depression, I see some symptoms in him and really wish he would see a counselor. I suggested it to him, but he said he could handle it himself and I'm not going to give him an ultimatum because I know that those aren't healthy. This is the only time he acts that way. He's almost always happier in person.\n\nI feel like he's upset because he feels inadequate because he can't do this class. He's not happy with his major. He's looking into other lines of work, but for now he's stuck in this class. \n\nI have no idea what to say to him when he gets like this. Humor doesn't work. Telling him that's it's going to be okay doesn't work. Telling him that everyone still loves him regardless doesn't work. He's tried tutoring, talking to the professor, anything. None of it has worked. I get sad whenever he talks this way, and being cheerful and upbeat about it takes energy. I've tried asking him what I should do in these situations, but he doesn't know. I'm a psych major and I don't know the first thing about the topic he's studying.\n\nI want to be as supportive as I can, but I'm at a loss here. \n\nAnybody know what I should say to him?", "summary": "Boyfriend gets really dark and upset because he can't do well in a class, I don't know how to support him."}
{"id": "t3_2qquhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [25F] 1yr, fucked up by talking to someone I shouldn't have. Need to rebuild trust", "post": "I've been dating my gf for a year. we've lived together since September.\n\nFrom mid-October to end of November, we were in a really rough patch where we were both working our asses off. She had family things happening at the same time, and it all came together in a perfect storm that took itself out on our relationship.\n\nUnfortunately, her stress was often vented onto me so I felt pretty inadequate. Our sex life suffered, I felt like I was turning into a really horrible boyfriend when I wasn't really, and I was feeling pushed away. Angry and in need of some kind of positive attention, I turned to a friend living overseas who I had had an on/off casual relationship with for 2 years, which ended 1 yr before I started my current relationship. I initiated and we sent messages back and forth here and there for approximately 3 weeks. They were long messages, sometimes lightly flirtatious, which is what I was looking for. After a week or so I knew I was wrong to have started it but I was enjoying catching up with a friend--which is what it had become.\n\nThe friend was home for Christmas and we both suggested meeting. I downgraded from a drink because i thought it would be inappropriate, and if we had actually decided to have lunch I would have asked my girlfriend's permission and finally spilled the beans on what I had done, kiboshing the entire thing if she said I should. \n\nInstead, she caught me red handed. We talked things through after i had a sleepless night on the couch and we are staying together, despite what she feels is emotional cheating. I love my girlfriend to the moon and back and this was a major mistake. Obviously rebuilding trust is a long process, but any advice on small acts or suggestions for things I need to keep in mind would be welcome.", "summary": "rekindled conversation with an ex out of anger and resentment; was caught in the lie and need to save my relationship. Advice needed but please hold the vitriol, I feel worse enough as it is. "}
{"id": "t3_2aicwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I move on? Advice please!", "post": "Alright so I've (F19) been with my boyfriend (M20) for about 2 years. Well he's talked to a couple girls during our relationship and said things he shouldn't have said like calling the other girls babe and saying how they should be together. Well somehow we stayed together even though I still don't completely trust him. He's never physically cheated, only talked to other girls. \nLooking back at it now, I think about how stupid I was for staying with because he's starting to talk to other girls again. He always tells me how I'm such a catch, yet he never acts/treats me like I am. \n\nAlso, about four months ago, my house burnt down and my family and I lost everything. My bf decided that a month after the fire was the ideal time to break up with me, a kick me when I'm down type of situation. We still aren't officially together yet we act like a couple. He wants to get back together but now I don't because I don't want to get hurt again. \nWe have been through so much together and he is a good guy deep down and we have so much fun but I'm second guessing getting back together with him because I don't want him to hurt me again. \n\nSo I'm just looking for advice...am I crazy for still \"dating\" him? Is it time for me to move on?", "summary": "my boyfriend of 2 years has hurt me many times. Do I need to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2xs1jt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] Can't commit to anything serious.", "post": "I had a relationship when i was around 17 yr old. She was my first real love and i was so in love. When we just decided to get serious and be an official couple, it took her two weeks to dump me. \n\nIt made me extremely sad and i had problem sleeping and just functioning overall. This is probably kinda common for people after breakups, but i took it really hard. Worst part was i had to spend last year in high school together because we went to same class.  \n\nThis was three years ago and since then i have been dating girls. \nIt got serious with two of the girls. They were both perfect and everything was working fine between us. But with both girls it just changed overnight, without any reason, and i just felt i needed to end it before it went any longer. I couldn't commit, and i think it's partly because i'm terrified to get heartbroken again.\n\nHave anybody else been in this situation or have any good advice?\nJust ended it today with girl number two and i feel like shit.", "summary": "Got dumped by my first love three years ago and since then I cant commit to any relationships because i'm afraid to get heartbroken again."}
{"id": "t3_33fl24", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Does she [f20] like me [m20] or not?", "post": "I've recently starting hanging around this friend of mine who I've know a little bit through high school. We're in the same college course now and just recently we've become flirty with each other. We went on a field trip out of town last week with the class, and we went shopping together one night and held hands the entire night with no awkwardness. We've seen a movie together too (although not really any physical touch) and she will even sit on my lap sometimes, kiss me on the cheek and stuff like that. I feel like she likes me at least somewhat more than a friend, and she's even coming to my house next weekend to watch a movie so I was planning on doing the arm over the shoulder move and we could cuddle. Now my other friend who is a girl comes up to me today and she said she asked the girl other girl what the deal was between us. She said she only likes me as a friend but she knows I like her. I kinda found this hard to believe because what person holds hands, kisses you on the cheek, and sits on your lap and wants to be just friends? My other friend a while ago tried to talk me out of going for this girl a while ago so I don't know if i 100% trust her, but if I were to make a move on the girl when she comes to my house to watch the movie, what do you think the chances of her freaking out or whatever are? I really thought she liked me but now I'm second guessing because of what my friend told me.", "summary": "girl and I (especially her) flirt a ton so I think she likes me more than friends but now my other friend said she talked to her and said she likes me only as a friend. Who do I trust? Do I still go for the move when she comes to my house to see a movie next weekend?"}
{"id": "t3_369obw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My dad told me I NEED to break up with my long-term boyfriend.", "post": "I'm new to Reddit so I don't know if I'm doing this right.\n\nCouple in our 20's.... I'm dating a guy from a different ethnicity and race. My dad is strict and has told me I MUST break it off with the guy. Me and the guy want to get married. My dad said just thinking about me making this mistake is making him ill (he's actually looked ill since I told him about the guy :/ ). He said he's worried sick. Said I have to leave the guy no matter what. I feel guilty because he's getting ill. But I love my boyfriend beyond words can describe.\n\nHow do I get my dad to understand? He has refused to meet him. He said if I was to ever force or trick them into meeting he will tell my boyfriend exactly where to go. I don't want this happening.\nI feel awful because he said it's making him ill. I can't stop crying.\n\nHelp me.", "summary": "! - How to convince my dad not to make me leave my boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_500g0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28/M] Being single is starting to drive me crazy. Looking for advice?", "post": "This whole not being in a relationship thing isn't really working out for me too well, especially with my mix of social anxiety. I have been single for over a year and a half now. I just really miss the day to day part of being in a relationship. Just like random trips to the grocery store or the mall together. Or waking up next to someone every morning. There are things I want to go out and do, but I avoid some of them because I just know they would be more fun if I had someone to do them with. So I just end up staying at home by myself a lot of the time instead of going out. Unfortunately for me, the prospects of me finding a girl to date and hopefully turn into a relationship are not very good right now and I don't really see them improving in the near future. Just looking for some suggestions or advice to help me get out of this downward spiral.", "summary": "I've been single for a year and a half, starting to isolate myself more and more. Don't see any dating prospects in the near future. Not sure what to do. Suggestions? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2ah9wc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my SO [15 F] of about 1 year just broke up, should I fight for her again?", "post": "Well, here goes.\n\nMy girlfriend just broke up with me with a line that feels better and better the more I think it. She used the \"I just don't love you anymore\" method, fun.\n\nThis isn't the first time we broke up, about 4 months ago I went on a cruise and on that cruise I was kissing on this girl and long story short I felt bad and told her. She broke up with me on the spot. I spent the next month and a half fighting for her back and eventually, it worked! But not for long I guess.\n\nNow I'm just struggling to decide if she is worth fighting for again, or will she just waste my time and effort and hurt me again If I succeed?\n\nNeed your help. please try to keep any age-based bias out of this.\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Shes done, should I be?"}
{"id": "t3_3afb8c", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Creative Writing or English Lit?", "post": "Hello, thought I'd ask for some advice :)  \n  \nI have just received marks back from my second year of a Creative Writing and English Literature BA. I originally took the course as I wanted to get away from home and am interested in writing. I spoke to my course leader at the end of the year and questioned whether I could change to a full Eng Lit degree (Creative Writing has been a bit of a let-down), and he said this may be possible.  \n  \nI know that in the grand scheme of things, degrees don't hold that much sway over job/career opportunities, and in all honesty, the content of the course itself is not that great, nothing you couldn't learn yourself. However, granted that I am going to complete uni (may as well, should be able to get a 2:1 without too much trouble), does anybody have any opinion on whether a degree in English Literature would be regarded as better than a degree in Creative Writing and English Literature?  \n  \nI know it may seem a petty and specific thing to ask for advice on the internet for, but it'd be great to get any opinions :) My parents never went to university and don't have much context to go on.", "summary": "Which is better, a degree in Creative Writing and English Literature, or just English Literature?"}
{"id": "t3_33jg2j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally laughing at a girl who was trying to ask me out and then rejecting her anyways.", "post": "A little background: I'm a guy, I'm 14 years old, and I'm a freshman in highschool.  This happened yesterday, but I couldn't post it because I had too much work.\n\nSo I was sitting at my desk in my room, looking at some texts I had just received from my friend.  He had sent me a funny video of a couple of my other friends, but that's irrelevant to the story.  \n\nAnyways, just as I finish up the video, I get a text from a girl who I occasionally talk to in my English and History classes.  She asks me if I want to go get some frozen yogurt with her at a frozen yogurt shop near my house.  \n\nNow, I meant to say \"Sorry, I have a lot of work, I don't really have time today\" to her, and text \"hahaha\" to my friend in reaction to the video, but I accidentally swap people and send \"hahaha\" to the girl and vice versa.\n\nAfter about a minute I realize my mistake and start apologizing to the girl, and she eventually responds and asks, once again, if I want to go, to which I have to reply No after laughing at her because I really don't have an interest in going out with her.", "summary": "Accidentally laughed at a girl trying to ask me out, and then promptly rejected her after apologizing for the mistake."}
{"id": "t3_l8xye", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I in the wrong here?", "post": "Alright, so I've been dating this girl for a couple weeks and she comes to me with a problem. Her ex somehow got her number (which he probably already had seeing as they dated for 3 years) and started texting her and calling her a bitch because he heard she was talking about him behind his back to his friends. \n\nSo I ask if she did and she replies \"Lol yeah. I called him a fatty with chink eyes because I know it pisses him off.\" And now because I told her it wasn't cool just to randomly go off and say something like that, she's mad at me. Am I in the wrong or what?", "summary": "Girlfriend talked shit about ex behind his back, ex found out and got mad, girlfriend mad at me for telling her to stop talking shit about ex for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_2ygpy4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Kind of screwed my credit with Hard Inquiries from Kohls. Is there anything I can do to repair it, other than waiting?", "post": "Being novice to the world of credit, I was unaware that even had credit. I had never done anything *to my knowledge* that could damage, build, or even relate to my credit. But something got me wondering the other day, maybe it was the lifetime of creditkarma commercials I've seen. I got on there, and to my surprise my credit was in pretty bad shape from Hard Inquiries from Kohls. They have a system when you go to make a purchase, they ask if you'll be using your Kohls charge card. Me not having one, I always answer 'no.' That's when they mention that if I sign up for one today, I will receive 15% off of my purchase, and that sounded pretty sweet in the moment. I figured I had nothing to lose. I was wrong. So here I am, 6 or 7 Hard Inquiries later with my head buried in my hands. I was advised, via creditkarma, that in 2 years the Hard Inquires will expunge themselves, but is there anything I can do now to combat these issues? Can I fight the matter with Kohls? I was approved and in the process of receiving a card in the mail, I'm going to use it the build some credit by buying, and making the payments. However, I'm curious that sense I'm now approved and all the other time were not approved, if I can get them expunged or something. Am I stuck with poor credit for the next two years?", "summary": "I screwed my credit with Kohls' \"Save 15% on your purchase if you sign up for a charge card.\" Multiple times, has taken a toll on my credit. Is it repairable without waiting two years for my Hard Inquiries to expunge themselves?"}
{"id": "t3_2nwma9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (18f) hooked up with my long distance ex bf (18m), and i'm not sure where to go from here...", "post": "Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. \nWe hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. \nWe talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward.\nHe's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at.\nor should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids \"feelings\" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane.", "summary": "ex bf and i hooked up and he's long distance. not sure how to bring it up again with him, but i want to continue things."}
{"id": "t3_2xvqei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [27 F] of 8 years, won't kiss me?", "post": "I'll try and be brief and any input appreciated! I am at a loss right now and frustrated.\n\n3 kids one on the way, sex life could be more but meh I'm happy and its hard to with the young kids etc. Well tonight before I got home from work she texted me one thing to another we are agreeing to sexy times tonight, great! Now I get home she's just getting out the shower I hop and and go to our bedroom, she's laying down naked I'm naked, perfect! I get on top and straddle her and start kidding her lips. They stayed pursed tight, I thought she was just messing with me or something. I try again to kiss her passionately and get not a parted lip nothing....OK weird.... So I say something like kiss me ....pursed lips again... Why won't you kiss me? Nothing. At this point I am like OK its something, ask if my breaths bad, no that's not it. Her answer \"I am too lazy to kiss right now\" now this makes zero sense to me...sex is pretty active and how is kissing hard when she's even on bottom laying down... ? I mean kissing really warms things up you know? So at this point I'm actually a little frustrated and buzz killed about no kissing. So I said just that, how I feel. She doesn't respond at all and is just staring at me...it got to the point where she did short one word answers to questions like why don't you suddenly want to kiss? Just staring at me. This makes me very upset because I feel like I'm talking to a wall while I am being very outward and open about my feelings for her sudden disinterest in not kissing. I tell her OK whatever come here and we can get started another way. Refuses doesn't move or say a word period. \n\nIt ends up me saying \" I love you always will and that won't change but you are completely shut off to me and I don't know why, when you are ready to talk about it I am open to listen and communicate. I am very upset at how you are\nacting and I'm going to leave you alone now, talk to me when you are ready. \"", "summary": "wife refused to kiss me then refused to talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_2gp0hz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30sF) husband (30sM)'s co-worker (30s?F) is claiming they had an affair. I don't think they did.", "post": "So I got a weird email today from \"Amy\" my husband's co-worker.  In this email, she's claiming that she's been having an affair for over a year with my husband.  She even kindly provided the dates that they were supposedly together - here's the catch, on several of these dates we were out of town.  And not just out of town but a few hundred miles away visiting his family.  Also, I just don't think my husband is the kind to cheat - we have a pretty decent marriage.  It's not perfect but I think I'd know if something was going on for a year.\n\nHe's mentioned Amy a few times before but nothing beyond normal chit chat.  I never met her and I don't even know how she got my email.  I'm debating whether or not to show him the email when he comes home or if I should just contact the company's HR department or their boss.  Or tell him and then contact them.  There was some pretty explicit stuff in the email and I'm uncomfortable just getting it from her, even if I think it's probably a bunch of lies.\n\nAny advice on how to deal with this?", "summary": "Husband's co-worker emailed me a dirty account of an affair she says she had with him the past year, but the dates don't match up.  Trying to decide how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_cg4yb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your worst/best breakup stories?", "post": "Story time for Reddit! Give me your worst (or best) break-up stories!\n\nWorst: One girl and I had been together for a while and had a rocky relationship with ups and downs. I wanted to marry her, but she thought she might still be in love with an old flame that was leaving for the Navy in a few months for a six year leave. She had a hard time choosing, but I figured I'd make the choice easy for her. Told her \"we need to talk when you get home,\" so she decided to get totally hammered. When she got home, she was slamming doors and yelling at her roommate. When I finally said the words, she spent the next 20 minutes chewing me out in her drunken, slurred speech and slammed the door in my face.\n\nThe next day she called me saying she couldn't remember what happened the previous night, so I had to do it all over again.\n\nBest: Wasn't working out. Got break-up sex, which turned into friends with benefits. Woot", "summary": "WORST: She was drunk, cussed me out, and had to do it again the next day. BEST: Break-up sex to friends w/ benefits"}
{"id": "t3_2vjls7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Struggling in my last year of HS", "post": "I've always been a good student, never missed school, never received a zero. However, that all changed beginning my senior year. Note that I'm an early graduate so this is actually only my third year of HS. \n\nI've been accepted into the college of my choice but I still continue to struggle in HS. I'm truant in my state (too many unexcused absences) and I'm also failing two-three classes. I don't know where everything went wrong. \n\nAt times I really do feel motivated to change my habits but then when I actually sit down and begin whatever I'm supposed to do, I just give up and put it aside for later.", "summary": "Procrastination and missing school is killing me, any advice would help!"}
{"id": "t3_madbe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, whats something that has sounded okay in your brain but has sounded completely wrong the moment you've said it out loud?", "post": "I was out to dinner last night with a few, and I was talking to some people across the table about something (I don't even remember). Now I'm hell tired because I've had a nonstop few days, but for whatever reason I said to the guy across the table \"Now would be an appropriate time to remove your pants.\".  He looked at me funny so I said \"Nah, just joking, you better keep them on\" and then to add to the lulz (and heres where I kinda screwed it) I said to the girl next to him \"That goes for you too!\".  He looked at me like \"what the actual crap are you saying\"\n\nI don't think he heard me saying I was joking.", "summary": "man thinks I told him and the girl next to him to take their pants off. lulz ensue."}
{"id": "t3_gn7q6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rant Space", "post": "I don't expect anyone to read this, but in case they do, I present the latest in idiotic reddit trends. I was reading a thread, saw a comment I disagreed with, and posted my thoughts in what I considered a reasonable manner. Needless to say, it was met with anger, illogical caps lock fueled replies and a storm of downvotes. Further down the thread, someone argued a point similar to mine, so I commented again, with my reasoning and support. This time, upvotes galore! The lesson here? People read and upvote things they agree with, and don't read but downvote things they don't.", "summary": "Then you probably just saved yourself minutes of your time."}
{"id": "t3_42ukv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] confused by [28M] For almost 3 years now. Can someone help me?", "post": "I've been * friends * with this guy for going on 3 years now. Only, i DONT UNDERSTAND what's going on. We sext CONSTANTLY since day 1. By constantly I mean 2-3 times a week for years now. \n\nWhen I ask him why he won't act on his sexual attraction he gets super defensive. Either that or he'll answer with \"someday\" or hell ignore the topic entirely. We're both single and in our late 20s... To me, it feels like torture. \n\nOn top of this, he tells me I'm such a good friend and he cares about me, but he NEVER wants to hang out...like EVER. I want to believe he isn't using me, because he's been a good friend too. He's let me borrow money, helped me find a job and he's always been a good ear when I'm upset or when I need a friend. \n\nA part of me thinks he's afraid to get close to people. He says he only has two friends, and he prefers keeping to himself and keeping busy. The one time I got him to actually respond to me regarding hooking up he said \"sex with friends is never good because of feelings and emotions.\" Wait what?\n\nBasically I'm confused and I feel like he's contradicting. I always suspected he was kinda narcissistic too (npd). Why would you sext someone but not want to act on it? Why would you claim I'm such a good friend and you care if you don't want to see me?\n\nOh and when I say we never hang out we have seen each other maybe 5 times in almost 3 years. We've never had sex or hooked up, But we have made out.", "summary": "he wants to sext me, but scared of the idea of hooking up. I don't understand why."}
{"id": "t3_49f2tt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Choosing between ~120 dollars from \"student aid\" or a profitable job (swe)", "post": "So the situation is as follows:\n\nI am an 18 year old living in Sweden. I am in my last year of high school level studies and I am graduating in June. I work as a private tutor 2 times a week, making me about 150% more after taxes than the government aid given to students here. Due to a change of teachers, my school schedule now overlaps with my most profitable client, with one lesson. \n\nThe lesson is a one hour session in Religious studies, with one of the worst teachers I have ever had. Basically, all the information we get is from the book and is nothing more than what I was taught in elementary school. So I could easily \"catch up\" from that lesson myself at home. \n\nIf I would choose to skip the lesson for work, I would loose my students aid. Here, I can get ~120 dollars every month, if my attendance is high enough and I have legitimate reasons for being absent. Illness is approved absence, working is not. \n\nMy client has already a really tight schedule themselves and cannot move their weekly session with me. Most likely, my school will not allow me to skip one lesson a week, no matter what. I will most likely have to choose between my student aid or my client.\n\nMy parents are strongly against the idea of me intentionally missing out on my student aid. They think that it will encourage me to skip even more classes and that it is extremely immoral to not prioritize school when \"high school is my full time job\". I do not have their support if I choose to work. I still live at home and will probably do so for another 4-5 years because of university studies. My relationship with my parents is already frosty and I got the job from the beginning in an attempt to be a little more independent. The money in question is purely my own pocket money so nobody is relying on it to put food on the table.\n\nI really do not know what to do at this point. Any proper adult who can talk me in to what the right decision is?", "summary": "I have to choose between ~120 dollars in government supported \"student aid\" or roughly the same amount, after taxes, at an extra job as a private tutor. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ubhxn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your worst flying experience?  I'll start.", "post": "Almost one year ago my family decided to take a vacation to Myrtle Beach.  We decided to fly with Spirit Airlines because they were the only airline that flew directly to our destination.  The day of our first flight out was off to a great start, we breezed through security and our flight was even 5 minutes early (something I've never experienced before).  So as usual, we boarded and right as the plane departed the gate I had just begun to drift off into a nice sleep.  I was about half-awake when the plane began to take off and just as it was about to lift off the ground I was jolted awake to panicked shouts of \"SMOKE, SMOKE IN THE CABIN.\"  What ensued was absolute pandemonium, thick smoke was pouring into the plane and every passenger was screaming for the flight to come to a stop.  Finally, the pilots got the message and the plane came to a screeching halt just before the end of the runway.  Emergency vehicles escorted us to the nearest possible gate where everyone was quickly evacuated before the smoke got out of hand.\n\nAs everyone was waiting in the airport to be updated about how big of a delay this would create, things got even more absurd.  A voice came on the loudspeaker and informed us that the smoke was caused by an AC unit that had completely failed.  As a result, the crew was working to fix the problem and within 2 hours the SAME plane would be taking us to our destination.  Upon hearing this about half of the passengers simply walked out of the terminal.  My family ended up waiting though and sure enough, the crew fixed the problem and with everyone holding their breaths, the same plane took off again without any problems and delivered us to our destination safely.  Rightfully so, Spirit Airlines ended up comping everyone their tickets for that flight.  This was honestly the scariest flying experience that I've ever had and at that moment during takeoff I honestly thought that my life might be in danger.", "summary": "Boarded a flight and halfway through takeoff smoke poured in the cabin creating mass chaos.  After an emergency stop, the crew fixed  the problem within 3 hours and the same plane that had the original problem took us to our destination safely."}
{"id": "t3_bpvcz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I being too picky? Internet dating question...", "post": "I (25/f) recently joined an internet dating site, because the college town I live in is very cliquey and it's pretty hard to meet new people outside of my social circle. I'll come right out and say that I'm attractive and in good shape, so I got quite a few responses within the first few days of being on the site. I briefly chatted/emailed with a few guys with the intention to meet up soon, as I didn't join to become someone's online pen pal. In their photos, all of the guys seemed relatively attractive, but when I met up with them in person, not so much. Out of the 3 I've met up with so far, maybe one of them I could see myself being physically attracted to if I get to know him better. The other 2 were so nice, but there's no physical attraction on my end. There's nothing wrong with them, per se, they just look different (and not as good) in real life than they did in their pictures. A little softer and rounder, too. They're all definitely attracted to me. I've always thought of physical attraction as a main motivator for a romantic relationship, but these experiences have left me feeling very superficial and weird.\n\nI had been in a long term relationship for 3 years until last fall, and I never really \"dated\" before that, so I don't know how to tell these guys I'm not interested in a nice way. I don't really even want to be friends with them. They're calling and texting and I'm trying to be non-chalant about it but I don't want to string them along. Am I being way too superficial? Should I give these guys a chance even though I'm really not attracted to them? I don't want to lead them on if they're destined to the friend-zone. Give up on internet dating already?", "summary": "Trying online dating but the guys I meet are way more attracted to me than I am to them. Advice on how to let them down easy? Or, how to be less superficial?"}
{"id": "t3_ec920", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone out there ever had a boxer's fracture?", "post": "Long story short, on Halloween I got too drunk and ended up punching a wall over who-knows-what. I broke 4th and 5th metacarpal (distal), did not need surgery, but to wear a cast for a little over three weeks. I just got the thing off a few days ago.\n\nMy orthopedic gave me a script for physical therapy, but my insurance doesn't cover it. Currently, I am unable to extend both fingers, but I *am* able to manipulate them into a extended position using my other hand, with very little discomfort. I just want to see if this is normal, and if I could possible be doing the physical therapy at home.", "summary": "Broke my hand pretty bad, no money for physical therapy. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bxbit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [23 F] recent breakup after 7 years....", "post": "I posted an update earlier but it was ugly on my part so here goes a redo of this all.  Very long story-short (for those who don't care to read link) gf of 7 years, met as hs sweet hearts, made it through college etc, just left me about 8 weeks ago, and I finally found out that she left me for another guy. A guy who happens to be older than we are 31, doesn't really have his life completely together (but I am not here to bash on him) can provide more than I can at this time (the ability to travel & has his own house).  I completely see it as a \"grass was greener\" midlife crises type on her part, but i'm not here to speculate on that eitehr. I want to know how come it is that after 7 years she is the one that did me dirty like that but I have to be the one that has all the pain and rough nights while she gets to be happy and already be with a new guy? Why can't my mind/heart/emotions allow me to move on so I can be happy as well?! I'm trying so hard to be and telling myself to be, it just won't happen.\n\nLove just doesn't seem fair...", "summary": "Why do I have to have all the pain and hard times? Why Can't I be happy?"}
{"id": "t3_3rzbu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21 M] wrong to feel upset with my girlfriend [21 F] of 7 months when she has lunch with a friend during the time I really needed to see her?", "post": "Today I had a really shitty day. Not devastating, just run of the mill awful day. My girlfriend and I had planned lunch during the 1.5 hour break I had between 6 hour shifts at work. I walked 30 minutes in the rain to the restaurant, and find out she brought along one of her friends she knows I don't get along with. The wait at the restaurant is 30 minutes, and I tell her I don't have time to wait that long, but she decides to stay with her friend and eat there. I walk home to eat.\n\nI was really looking forward to that lunch to help me through a really stressful day, and she knew I was stressed and frustrated with work. I feel like she shouldn't have asked her friend to come to lunch. On the other hand, I feel selfish for wanting to keep her from seeing her friend today, because they don't hang out all that often.Am I being selfish and needy, or do I have a decent reason for being kind of upset with her?", "summary": "Girlfriend wanted to spend time with a friend she doesn't see often during the time I really wanted to spend time with her and offload from work."}
{"id": "t3_255v0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My husband (M24) sent his mother (F45) a Mother's Day care package but me (F23) nothing for Mother's Day or our 5 year anniversary.", "post": "Original: \n\nSo later that day I got a phone call from my husband. I told him that it was very nice to send his mom that package. He started saying yeah then the phone cut out a bunch and I couldn't understand him. He had to go so he couldn't repeat it. I decided to just let it go and see what happens. \n\nToday, I was looking at our bank account paying some bills and I see an $80 charge to proflowers.  So unless he got his mom flowers I'm going to assume they're for me. I'm happy I listened to the people who said to wait to bring it up. I'm usually quit to anger but just letting it go and seeing what happened totally paid off. Thank you all for your advice!", "summary": "Saw $80 charge to proflowers in our bank account assuming they're for me and not his mom."}
{"id": "t3_hj4ax", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Refinancing possible?", "post": "I have pretty bad credit that I have slowly been repairing.\n\nA year and a half ago my old car died and I need to get a new car... like an idiot I decided to see if I can buy new instead of used.\n\nBecause of my bad credit I got a terrible APR on the thing and made the deal anyway... because I had it in my head that I wanted a new car. So for 60 months I'm paying $574 per month on this car - I can afford it, but it's at the point where with everything I make enough to pay my bills and not really a lot of room to put much money at all away in savings.\n\nAs of right now I have 42 payments left on the car. I added everything up and it basically means so far I have been paying for the interest on this car loan and still owe more than what the car was even worth new. The car is a 2009 Kia Sportage that I bought for around $22,000 with an APR that was around 20%.\n\nI'd like to get to the point where I can easily pay $250-300 per month if possible.\n\nWhat should I do? Can I refinance it successfully? Should I look into trading off the car and trying to get a used one? If I refinance is there any recommendations on how to do that process?", "summary": "bought a car that cost me 22k, after a year and a half I still owe over 24k if I make the normal monthly payments - is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_1opii2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend trouble (20F) (24M)", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. He has suffered from depression for a few years now and when I first met him he was suffering from a (one-off according to doctors) psychotic break that consisted of grandiose delusions. He went to a hospital and stayed til he was better (2 weeks). We have a quiet, boring relationship, hardly any sex due to his low sex drive, but thats okay. I still adore him.\n\nI give alot more than he gives in the relationship but I consider it worth it because I love him alot. He was also horrible at communication during our relationships. Not many calls or texts but we never went over a week without speaking.\n\n2 weeks ago, during (and what still is) a very stressful time for me (end of uni, court cases, birthday, moving out of home) he stopped talking to me. After a week I called his parents whom I was in contact with due to his mental illnesses, and was told he flew to Sydney with his father. He sent me 1 text joking he might get me a present. According to his parents, he got back 2 days later. I didnt hear from him again for another week. I figured this was his cowardly way of breaking up with me. \n\nI admit I may have gone a little text crazy but after deciding he has dumped me, I sent one last \"I'm sorry, I wont text or call again\" text. 2 days later he messaged me saying \":'( I'm so sorry. I know I'm horrible, I can't stop crying\", I left it a few hours, and texted back that it didnt really clarify anything for me as to whether we are still together.\n\nHe still hasnt messaged me yet and I'm unsure what to do or what he is meaning. Is he crying and feeling bad because he loves me or because hes dumping me? Regardless, I just would like to know.\nI'm looking for some perspective on his actions or what actions I should take.", "summary": "my boyfriend hasnt spoken to me in 2 weeks other than \":'( i'm so sorry, i know i'm horrible, i cant stop crying\". is he dumping me or?"}
{"id": "t3_3ttfkp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Person who defaulted on loan threatening to declare bankruptcy but gets trust find money annually. Can he hide that money if he declares bankruptcy?", "post": "Asking this for a non-Redditor friend.  This person loaned about $15k to a friend of her son.  He signed a promissory note\nand the total was due in two years.  It's been about three years and she has not seen a dollar.  She filed suit for the money\nin New Jersey, where the borrower lives.  She lives in another state.  The borrower responded via email stating that he still\nplanned to pay the debt back and would do so in 2019, but if she couldn't wait until then he would have to declare bankruptcy.\nShe is planning to retire in a year or two and does not want to wait that long, plus she can't trust him to follow through as\nhe already missed one deadline.  Here is the question, we are aware that this person receives about the same amount of money\nannually from a trust fund.  We think he isn't mentioning this because he has a wedding coming up this summer.  My friend wants to know if he really could declare bankruptcy when he gets this money from the trust fund every year?  She thinks he making \na empty threat to scare her into accepting the 2019 date on his terms.  Would the courts know about his trust fund if he actually\ntried to claim bankrputcy?", "summary": "If a person receives money from a trust fund annually, could they hide that information while trying to declare bankruptcy?"}
{"id": "t3_2x7lgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (17m) girlfriend (16f) has an account on tinder", "post": "sorry for poor format and any spelling or grammer issues\n\nhey, reddit i need some reasurrance. as stated in the title my girlfriend started tinder about 5 days ago or something like that. i know she is too young for it, but who really cares, right?\n\nwell anyways she has matched up with over 20 guys so far and i trying not to be over protective just let her do her own thing. i think i should mention that we have been dating for three years. she says she just needs new guy friends because she goes to an all girl school. so ok, im fine with tinder. \n\nthen comes this guy named matthew. she just started talking to him two days ago and they are skyping and calling for hours. she ignores my texts and makes an excuse saying that i always respond late aswell. i admit, i do respond late at times but i dont get angry over it. she does. \n\nso because we havent talked much for the passed two days, i tried calling her about a few min ago wanting to catch up on things. when i call her, i usually ask if she is busy so i dont bother her, she usually says no, even if she is with family. but this time she said yes, so i asked what she was doing, and she is on the phone with matthew. so she said she would call me back later.\n\nshould i be worried at all? am i over reacting? any advice will do thanks.", "summary": "my gf met a guy and i think he has priority over her."}
{"id": "t3_12ct4d", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Told girl [18/F] how I [19/M] felt about her, and got rejected. Should I continue to talk to her?", "post": "For a while now I had talking to a girl from high school I was familiar with, and last night I decided to be straightforward with her and tell her how I feel about her. Unfortunately she said the feeling wasn't mutual. When I asked her why, she said it was because she was talking to another person and thought nothing of us as more than just friends. I thanked her for her honesty and said I would just end up talking to other people.\n\nI'm not upset about this at all, because frankly I learned to put my eggs in more than one basket. All I can do is move on and talk to someone else that I have in mind. But my question is, should I continue to talk to her? Its really hard for me to just be friends with someone that I like a lot.", "summary": "Got rejected, moved on."}
{"id": "t3_2u8zao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] just received news that my girlfriend's [26 F] dad has cancer with limited time left, any advice so I can be the best support for her?", "post": "I [27 M] just received news that my girlfriend's [26 F] dad has cancer with limited time left, any advice so I can be the best support for her?\n\nI recently found out my Girlfriend's dad was diagnosed with lung cancer and due to his current medical state, treatment is not possible. He has been on and off sick for the last few months, but the final biopsy and news was received recently. I have been with my girlfriend for close to two years and have always gotten along great with her parents.\n\nThe news of the cancer was expected for the past few weeks as they did a preliminary CT Scan. I have been making myself extra available, physically and emotionally, to help her through these times. I have tried not to initiate any conversations related to the issue and I've let her have total control when she wants to share or talk about anything related. I've tried my best to make it clear that I'm here for anything she needs.\n\nWe do not live together, but see each other several times a week and text/talk everyday. She actually moved back in with her parents to help out.\n\nI'm looking for any advice or experiences anyone may have. I just want to be the best support for her and her family during this time. Thank you.", "summary": "Seeking advice for GF's dad's recent cancer diagnosis."}
{"id": "t3_4heegv", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What could explain my difficulties with women??", "post": "23 m\n\nI'm not socially awkward, but I am fairly introverted. It's not that I don't like to talk, I just don't usually talk unless I have something to say. That aside, women never talk to me first nor can they keep a conversation going. Even in group discussions in class, usually only the guys will discuss the topic with me. \n\nHere's the bizarre thing, I have a TON of gay friends that hit on me all the time. Why are the men so forward and confident, but women are all shy or uncomfortable / anxious around me? Tbh, I have the same amount of close gay friends as I have close straight guy friends. And obviously that ratio is pretty lopsided. And literally only women that I'm not very attracted to will try to be friends with me and they're always way cooler than most above average looking women(from my perspective). It's like there's some kind of tension there when I'm around attractive women. I don't know if it's what I say, or if I put off bad vibes, but it's usually only around attractive women. It's like even if I'm actually trying to hold a conversation, they don't contribute.\n\nMy luck has been bad enough to where I had sexual relations one time with my only best female friend and she has avoided hanging out with me ever since. I'm not sure what the problem was because we were pretty close. She didn't even give anything a chance, but I suspect this had to do with her relatively recent breakup.\n\nEvery women I've been with or been \"talking\" has said I'm too attractive for them. Idk if that's even related, but it's like they think they aren't good enough for me when I try to become more than friends. Sometimes I think how much easier it'd be if I was gay lol. Gay guys always find me one way or another, it happens all the time ha.\n\nAlso, my field of study has an inherent lack of women. That probably has a lot to do with the lack of women in my life in general. \n\nSo, what could the problem be??", "summary": "I have a lot better luck with gay guys befriending me and talking to me than the same with women. Why??"}
{"id": "t3_35589r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M/F] with my husband [26 M/F] 2 years, height difference effecting the bedroom", "post": "Our sex life is fun and active but our height difference of a foot makes things less fun than they can be, sometimes. His legs in particular are incredibly long(while mine aren't) which makes lots of angles uncomfortable. Ex: doubling over pillows during missionary doesn't even lessen the harshness of the angle much.\n\nI don't want to tell him that sometimes it hurts a tad bit, I try to keep everything in there very easygoing and good-moody and I don't want him feeling as if there's anything wrong with him, per se. I would just like to enjoy our sex life even more(The comfortable positions we can manage have a rotation I'm 100% sure he'd be happy to see more variety in) without needing to tell him hold on, let me go grab the sex stool, babe.\n\nAnybody out there with some advice? I have no close female friends to ask. Are there things other than sex swings that can help?", "summary": "Our bedroom is a breeding facility that needs help mating clydesdales with shetland ponies"}
{"id": "t3_2jr4cs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/22] did something I shouldn't have and my SO [F/22] doesn't know about it. Feeling like Crap..help?", "post": "Hey Reddit, so I have a problem. A few nights ago I went out with three friends, one guy and two girls. One of the girls is his girlfriend, the other just a friend. I have a girlfriend who I've been with for 8 months, but known +1 year, who I'm completely in love with, but she couldn't come due to her parents being extremely strict. This happens every time I go out with friends and it's a super turn off but I put up with it because I love her. \n\nAnyways, onto the story, after we all had something to eat and a good amount of drinks, we went back to one of the girls place where we played Cards Against Humanity and just other games. We all end up falling asleep in the same bed, I fall asleep between both girls, and the guy on the side of his girlfriend. I end up falling asleep no problems. \n\nHowever, in the morning when I wake up, I find myself feeling really groggy from the lack of sleep since we slept so late and I had work. I was really mad at my gf for skipping out again on a hangout, mostly frustrations of her just not being out with me, and I turned to the girl next to me and put one arm around her and my head on her back for like a few minutes...she knew I had a girlfriend and didn't say anything, I think just because we were both so damn sleepy..\n\nI didn't kiss her or anything more, just that. It was mostly because in my mind I was so freaking frustrated that I'm 22 with another 22 year old who can't go out with friends for a night. I guess I let my frustrations and emotions get the best of me. \n\nThis has me feeling guilty as fuck, even if I didn't commit the \"ultimate crime\". I don't want to tell her, because I am her first serious boyfriend and know her, she'll probably get extremely pissed and I don't think we need that, but the guilt is kinda hard to get rid off. Help :/", "summary": "Went out with a few friends. Ended up sleeping in my friends bed with three other friends (one guy, two girls). Fell asleep, woke up and put my arm around one of the girls sleeping next to me out of frustration of not having my 22 y/o gf with me bc of her always staying in due to parents. Feeling guilty over what I did (even if I didn't \"cheat\"), but admitting will bring problems :/"}
{"id": "t3_2hwotc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because of a phone feature", "post": "My phone has a very useful feature. If you draw a \"V\" on the screen while it's locked your flashlight turns on. \n\nNow on this beautiful morning I got on the train as usual, plugged in the headphones, and loaded up my news app to read. After a couple articles my eyes grew tired and I simply wanted to mindlessly gaze out the window. Here is where I wish I was still using a flip phone... As I lock my phone I'm still clutching on to it but I notice something. There is a light shining directly on to some guys crotch in front of me. For reference the seats on the train face each other with very little leg room. To my horror I realize that this light is indeed coming from my phone. I kind of fumbled around and drew a V as quick as I could to turn off the flashlight... but the damage was already done. It was the worst ride of my life. I could feel myself getting all red and sweaty from embarrassment and I didn't dare look up to meet his face. I just sat there waiting for my stop to come hoping nothing would come of this. I must have drawn a V in some way to turn on the flashlight... Sigh.\n\nSo thanks to this wonderful feature I now look like a massive creeper who just took a picture of this guys package.", "summary": "flashlight turned on pointed at some guys crotch and it looked like I snapped a picture of it."}
{"id": "t3_363r9e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling off the toilet", "post": "This just happened earlier today. \n\nMy bathroom is laid out with the toilet is in one corner, and the sink directly in front of it, a few feet away. I have a small bin between the toilet and the sink, so the whole thing is quite cramped (despite the fact that I have a ridiculously huge bathroom)\n\nI was just having an average poo on the toilet when I noticed that the bottom of my jeans were hooked on an empty toilet paper tube. I lazily flicked my foot around whilst leaning forward until it came off and rolled back to the bin and readjusted my position on the toilet seat to finish my bowel movement in comfort. Unfortunately, I may have leaned a little to far forward when removing the toilet paper tube, and when I went to position myself, I just slipped right off the seat onto my knees. Before I really worked out what had happened, The rest of me was falling forward and I caught my head on the edge of the sink. It hurt, but the real damage in this TIFU is to my ego and from the fact that in the panic, I had forgotten that I was currently defecating. Some had managed its way out and joined me on the floor to add insult to injury. It wasn't too hard to clean up, but it was gross and shameful.", "summary": "Tried to get comfortable. Ended up pooing the floor"}
{"id": "t3_2g2z8u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unknowingly asking an American if he was having a party for 9/11.", "post": "So I guess this is more of a Today We Fucked Up Story. I work on a military base in Australia as a groundskeeper. So yesterday, me and this old guy get sent down to one of the camps where the USAF is stationed to blow out all the leaves and dust and shit from the walkways, shaded areas etc. He's a typical old school Aussie. Every second word is cunt, or fuck or something of that nature. So anyway, the boss rings me up and says \"go down to the USAF camp and blow it all out, there's a memorial on tomorrow.\" So I grab the old bloke and we head down there, I'm wondering to myself why they're having a memorial and literally nothing crosses my mind. So we rock up to the camp and we get all our gear ready, the Americans are really friendly. Everyone saying hello and just generally being polite. At this point in time I'm still oblivious to the fact that tomorrow is September the 11th. So I'm just about to start work when this one guy comes up and starts talking to us, and then the old boy turns to him and says with no malice whatsoever. \"So what, are you cunts having a party or something tomorrow?\" At that moment it hits me why we are there and my stomach drops. I look at the USAF dude and his face is blank. A couple other guys standing around him just stared at me and this old bloke with faces that can only be described as being in complete awe of our ignorance. He politely said it was a memorial for the 9/11 attacks and then left. And I dont know if I should be ashamed at myself for not realizing and telling the old dude, or embarassed at him for just being the way he's been for 60 years.", "summary": "I went down with to blow the leaves out of a camp full of USAF personnel without realising it was for a 9/11 memorial and the old bloke that came with me called one poor guy a cunt and asked him if he was having a party all in the one sentence."}
{"id": "t3_339vci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) can't break up with girlfriend (21F) because she has severe panic attacks", "post": "Hello looking to see if anyone has had experience or can offer advice breaking up with someone who has in the past had panic attacks and the mere conversation of a week long break. If I full on broke up with her she would once again start hyperventilating and have to go to the emergency room. \n\nI'm in a really tricky situation because this is her first serious relationship and our lives are pretty intertwined( live together, known her most my life).  \n\nSome background on why I want to break up is I just don't have feelings for her like I once did. I jumped into the relationship too fast and never got to deal with my issues personally. She has been great and I hate that I have run out of options but if i'm not happy with myself I just can't be happy with her.  \n\nAny advice appreciated", "summary": "Can't break up with girlfriend or she will have a serious panic attack..."}
{"id": "t3_3e7bph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [31 F] dating [35 M] been together 2 months and worried about telling him that I have an STD", "post": "My post got deleted, fixed it. \n\nA few years ago, I made the mistake of having sex with someone I didn't know very well and contracted genital herpes. I never have any breakouts and the doctor has never been able to do a culture, the only reason I know is because the blood test came back positive, twice. The only indication I've ever had was some sort of a painful pimple right after I got intimate with that person. I also have HPV and that manifests itself sometimes with abnormal pap smears. My doctor doesn't believe that the Herpes blood test is very accurate, but I'm not sure what to think.\n\nI am now dating a new guy (long distance) that I like a lot. We haven't had sex yet, but I want to and I'm just terrified of bringing this up. I also know that there's no way around it. I dated 3 people since I first contracted the STD, 2 of them were accepting, the last person wasn't.\n\nI would appreciate any help/advice around how and when I should bring this up. We talk a lot over Skype and I'm going to visit him soon. I'm wondering if I should mention it before I get there.\n\nThank you in advance", "summary": "When should I tell my long distance prospective boyfriend that I have an STD?"}
{"id": "t3_2xds5z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by browsing reddit while laying in bed with my girlfriend", "post": "So this literally just happened. My girlfriend had a long day yesterday and has been catching up on sleep. I'm up, but didn't want to get out of bed and wake her up. She's cuddling on my chest and sleeping away while I'm just silently mourning the loss of Leonard Nimoy.\n\nAnyways, I've got one arm under her head while the other is holding my phone. So my phone is right next to her ear.\n\nI'm scrolling through and I see something that says \"Japanese Cooking in 3 seconds.\" Seems interesting enough! I open it up expecting a gif. Did I mention that my phone, although on silent, had the media volume turned ALL THE WAY UP?\n\nSo this video starts playing, and right when I realize it's a video, this fucking weird ass music starts blasting out of my phone and into my girlfriend's ear.\n\nFUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK. No matter how much I tapped the screen the volume button wouldn't come up. So my girlfriend wakes up to this weird, loud Japanese music fucking pissed. \n\nNo amount of sorries could stop the glare she gave me.\n\nAnd now I'm sitting here typing this for you with no snuggles to be had.", "summary": "Tried to snuggle and browse reddit while girlfriend was sleeping, freaky Japanese music, no more snuggling for me this morning."}
{"id": "t3_1y77nu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How many dates exactly before you need to call someone to tell them you're not interested in seeing them anymore?", "post": "That's it really. Went on 3 dates with a girl. Was really 2 too many but she was very eager to see me again, came to my part of town from across the city for the 2nd and 3rd dates, all happened over the course of a month. \n\nShe was persistently texting me (many many texts per day), and she wanted to see me for another date. I finally texted her that I didn't think we should see each other romantically anymore. \n\nShe lost it. Probably 20 - 25 very angry texts, said I should have called her. Said I wasn't \"man enough\" to do it. Meanwhile I was at work and busy, not that I thought this warranted a call anyway. I've dated girls for 2/3 months who \"ended it\" over text, and never thought it was a big deal.", "summary": "Went on 3 dates with girl. Told her over text I didn't want to see her romantically anymore. Girl loses it."}
{"id": "t3_wnobc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He (24/M) paid for me (22/F) to fly across the country to visit him, but now he's very emotionally distant.", "post": "Background: We've been in an on/off relationship since he first broke up with me early this year. He suggested that we try a LDR the day before he moved across the country. Now it's a month later, and I flew to this town to visit him (he paid for the tickets 2 weeks ago).\n\nProblem: I'm leaving tomorrow afternoon, but he's still preoccupied with work. He's also emotionally distant (no physical contact at all, not even sitting closely together) and we hardly talk to each other. The only time I feel close to him is when we have sex, because he'll initiate by being more romantic. He also introduced me as his \"friend\".\n\nI need to maintain a friendly relationship with him for other reasons, but I feel so lonely right now. I know we're not going to last. What should I do for the rest of the trip to maintain my sanity?", "summary": "I visited the guy I'm seeing for the weekend, but a break up is imminent. What should I do while I'm still in town?"}
{"id": "t3_2kinc7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving the door open.", "post": "Ok so this was about 7 years ago.\n\nI live in the UK and in the summer kids are allowed out later and one of my closest friends lives dead opposite my grandparents house, at which I was staying. I decided to go over to my friends at about 8pm to chill for a bit, I phoned my grandmother and asked if I could stay over there for the night and she said yeah so I quickly ran back over to get some clothes and stuff for the night and here comes the fuck up.\n\nI left the door open. Not just unlocked, but wide open. My grandparents were sat in another room away from the front door so they had no idea that the door was open. At some point, someone walking past the house saw the door open and came to the door and took the car keys and stole my grandmothers car. \n\nThe next morning I went home and thought one of my grandparents had gone out in the car but no, it was stolen and it was all my fault. The police came over and took statements and shit but not from me, how could the 12 year old know anything? But I did, I knew that it was my fault and I decided to keep quiet like the idiot I was. The car was found about 100 miles away burnt out a couple of days later. \n\nThat day, I fucked up.", "summary": "Stayed at friends house, left the front door to my grandparents house wide open and their car was stolen."}
{"id": "t3_he0d0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have no idea what to do with my life", "post": "Okay, I haven't used Reddit for some time and didn't really feel like figuring out my old account name and password, but anyways, I'm going to be a sophomore in college this fall and I was wondering if you guys could help give some advice about my future? \n1) I do have pretty good grades (I'm currently on the Dean's List) and I'm looking to transfer but I don't know if it would be impossible for me to get into a decently ranked university during the spring semester (I'm looking a lot of schools in Boston: BU, BC, Tufts)? I feel if i wait until my Junior year that it will be even worse though...\n2) I would prefer not to work at a Chinese buffet after graduating (I have yet to declare my major), but the only thing that I can do that sets me apart from others is that I can speak Chinese at a conversational level and translate semi-difficult pieces. For a while I was considering majoring in English and just doing translations / teaching English but I could probably get paid more working at McDonald's. I'm also interested in Anthropology, namely Biological Anthropology, but I don't exactly see this as being something I would really enjoy doing as a career as the pay is so low, it's more of a hobby. I know it seems like I'm basing my career choice off of the salary of the job and this is certainly a large factor as bad as that may seem, but being as mathematically inept as I am I don't see myself ever getting a good paying job (with a career that I could use Chinese [business])...", "summary": "Good college student, want to transfer in the spring to a decently ranked college #15-30ish on US News ranking and wondering if it is at all possible as from what I have heard it is harder during the spring but I don't want to wait until junior year, can speak and sort of translate complex Chinese, terrible at maths, want to make more than a McDonald's manager, don't know what to do with life"}
{"id": "t3_2duhxh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving a conference call on while I went to pick up my wife. (NSFW)", "post": "Around 4 months ago I put in for PTO time so I could take my wife and son on vacation. After making all my arrangements my boss came up and asked if I could reschedule my vacation because there was a very important meeting the week I scheduled my vacation. I told him I couldn't really reschedule anything and finally we settled with me being on a webcam/conference call type deal for the meeting. \n\nI agreed and went on vacation, well come time for the meeting I set up my laptop in the hotel room. The meeting was fairly early in the morning so I woke up and I dropped my wife off at some tourist trap she wanted to see. The place she was going wasn't for kids so my son stayed and slept. I came back to the hotel and the meeting started. The meeting went well for the most part.\n\n1 hour into the meeting my wife called and needed picked up. I told my boss I had to go get my wife id be back in 20 minutes. So I left to go get my wife, I left my son in the hotel and told him id be back in 20 minutes. I screen locked the laptop, I didn't know they could still see and hear everything with the laptop locked but they could. Long story short after I left my 13 year old son decided it would be a good time to jerk off, so he did. In front of my boss and about 20+ other employees on the conference call. They seemed to be OK about the whole situation and I wasn't fired. Still however the most embarrassing thing ever.", "summary": "My kid masturbated in front of my bosses and some other employees.                 "}
{"id": "t3_2pxodh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling something I shouldn't have", "post": "So as /r/TIFU tradition dictates, this event happened a few months ago. I'm on my school's cross country team and we're at this meet which generally has a pretty large turnout (it's a yearly event). One of the other teams has a uniform which is characterized with a ton of K's covering a black and white checkerboard pattern (the team name begins with a K). So, with my friends and I being the high schoolers we are, we decide to nickname this team the KKK. The meet has gone on for a couple hours now and we're still waiting for our race to start. So to pass the time we're cheering our teammates on. In the very final 100m of the race, one of our team members (who is black) is about to be passed by none other than a member of \"team K.\" In a moment of excitement I yelled \"Come on [X], don't let the KKK beat you!\" I immediately realized what I had said and my coach gave me a stern talking to and said if anything else happened there would be an open spot on the team.", "summary": "tried to cheer on a teammate about to get passed at the end of a cross country race, ended up being accidentally racist"}
{"id": "t3_41scqe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22f] need help moving on from ex[26m]. Still see him a lot which makes things hard.", "post": "So a little back story. I came out of a relationship previously that had no trust at all and then jumped into the next one within a few months. I was talking to a few guys going into this relationship, because I didn't no where it was headed since he was a fwb before we developed feelings for each other. My boyfriend found out I was talking to these guys going into the relationship(approximately a month in) but decided to forgive me. Ten months later, he realizes that he can't forgive me because of this and I do not keep our struggles between us (I get advice from a friend, and give her details.) Anywho there are other reasons but these two are the crucial ones, but he has decided to end things because of our \"constant fighting\". It was a shock to me but he stopped expecting anything a long time ago. He deserves to move on, I know I was a shitty girlfriend. Just need help moving on because I still see him a lot.", "summary": "Need help moving on from great guy. Feeling pathetic."}
{"id": "t3_2pucn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [28/f] wants to be alone for the holidays from me [28/f]. We've been dating 4 months.", "post": "The past few weeks have been hell for her.  She's a contract worker and has been making less money lately.  Her car broke down twice, cell phone was stolen, and she's having some emotional issues as well.  \n\nThe relationship between us has been going very well outside of her issues.  We often talk about our future together and are very much in love.  \n\nThree days ago she called me in tears saying she's having alot of issues and she wants to spend the holidays alone.  To not see me for a few weeks while she sorts out her issues.  In her previous relationship she was helping her ex raise a 3 year old child.  They were together since he was an infant.  It's her first Christmas without the child in her life and she misses him terribly.  They have had no contact since the relationship ended badly.  On top of that she is having major financial issues and wants to focus on her work to try and get back on track.  I want to help her out financially but she wants to do this on her own.  She refuses to take money from me.\n\nIt's obvious I need to give her some space and let her sort out her issues.  But she's been texting me since our conversation.  Just about little things like how is your day going etc.   I specifically asked her if this was a breakup.  She said it was a break.  That she wanted to be a good gf to me if she was going to be my gf and she has nothing to offer me right now.  \n\nI'm confused and hurt.  Hurt that she would cut me off right before the holidays.  Confused because she doesn't want to spend time with me but still texts me.  I had a previous relationship where the girl I was with asked for \"breaks\" several times.  After a year and a half I ended it with her.  I'm scared of this relationship turning into that.  What should I do?  Should I ask her what this means for us or just continue to lie low until she's ready to see me again?", "summary": "GF needs time alone but continues to text me."}
{"id": "t3_2f64br", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking acid from a stranger on a second date.", "post": "Happened last week. So I've been online dating for a bit because of my work schedule and it requiring me to go out of town quite a bit. Anyways so ended up a second date at a bluegrass show just having a good Ole time and got a pretty good buzz going and started to be a social butterfly which is pretty typical for my drinking self. Told a dude I like acid and next thing you know I'm in the parking lot giving him $50 bucks for 5 doses, thinking about the time I purchased a rolled up wet paper towel in Vegas trying to buy pot. At which point the only think my drunk self could think to do to prevent being ripped off by a stranger was to try it (to those of you who haven't done acid it sometimes just white paper squares so it's not like you can tell by looking at it). The night didn't end well. We went to my dates house at which point the acid hits me and she realized I had taken some. I start tripping all the way into some visuals.  She sat there a took it upon herself to babysit for a while until I was able to manage the world again, at which point I go home realizing I probably blew it but was still happy for my 4 doses in my pocket. There has been no 3rd date or communication since. I know I disappointed her and that never feels good to do. Drugs from a stranger.", "summary": "2nd date + acid = no 3rd date."}
{"id": "t3_1mhlil", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible that my brain cannot learn grammar?", "post": "All my life I have struggled with grammar and was wondering whether it is possible to be gramar-disability or something similar.\n\nI speak four languages because we moved a lot when I was a kid. I picked all of them up by ear. However, it was very hard for me to pick up a language in a classroom setting (three years of French and I can barely string together a sentence without errors). I also bend and break grammatical rules in all the languages I speak, and don't have much of an ear for correct and proper sentence structure. I don't speak any of language perfectly.\n\nI ended up studying Indology, a subject that I love. Though the literature, philosophy etc is very easy for me, grammar is my huge stumbling block. I have a feeling that I have been learning the same basic grammar for years and still haven't got the hang of it. I keep on messing up even the very basics. (The language I study is a dead one, so I can't learn it by interacting with locals). Without the grammar I am unable to read texts independently, and this basically rules out any future job in the field.\n\nSo I was wondering whether it is possible that my brain is lacking something? Is it possible to be gramatically-challenged? (I am also mathematically challenged and even have problems with basic division). Anyone else have the same problem? Or am I just doing something wrong? Is there a better and more efficient way to learn grammar?", "summary": "I struggle with learning and understanding grammar, am I doing it wrong or should I just accept that this is something my brain is bad at?"}
{"id": "t3_4fqepo", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Roommate is not cooperating and is hiding my things behind locked doors", "post": "My roommate and I have been living together for 2 months, and every day has been a nightmare. Most things are minor; she won't do her dishes, she doesn't clean, etc. \n\nHowever, some things are creating a problem. She has begun to change locks on bedroom doors that she claims are hers, even though she has not asked our landlord for permission and she has no right to claim a room. \n\nShe has also taken some of my possessions and locked them away in the bedrooms that she has changed the locks on, without my knowledge or permission. \n\nIt has gotten to the point where I feel unsafe leaving the house without locking my bedroom as I know she has already attempted to get into my bedroom. \n\nFor more information, we live in a 4 bedroom townhouse in Virginia with just the two of us, and she has locked 3 of the doors, claiming they are her rooms. We are signed on a one year lease together. \n\nI want to file a police report saying she has taken my stuff without my permission and not giving me direct access to them without her permission, but I don't know if this will do anything. She has mostly furniture, but she also has my TV, my printer, and other random expensive furniture and electronics.  \n\nPlease Reddit, I'm desperate. What are my options here?", "summary": "roommate has begun changing locks on me without permission and storing my stuff in these locked rooms"}
{"id": "t3_1nhb1m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [F21] have a crush on my superior at work [M25]. Halp.", "post": "So I recently started interning at a new place and really hit it off with the guy who is one of my two direct supervisors. By \"hit it off\" I mean that when we're not busy, we're usually talking on gchat, he says things like \"You're the best intern ever\" and \"I don't know how I got so lucky to have you as my intern,\" we went out for drinks with a couple other coworkers today and he bought my beer, and he really seems to like my ideas and work. When I was walking into our office building today he ran up behind me and sort of poked me to scare me. That sort of thing. Nothing super flirtatious, but we're more like pals than super professional, stiff coworkers. And I know he's single, too, so there's that.\n\nThe thing is, this is a really small office and I want to parlay this internship potentially into a real job. Socializing after hours isn't frowned upon at all (my other supervisor and I just went to a concert a couple weeks ago, but we were friends before I got this job), but I have a feeling dating would be. I know for sure that a full-time employee dating an intern would be. Basically, I have no idea what to do. I click with this guy pretty well (and we're of a similar level of attractiveness, which is cool - I'm almost always crushed out on guys who are way out of my league), but I also *really* like this job. Should I just wait until December and see what happens? But what if the spark goes away before then? I have no idea what I'm even doing but I know all my options are going to be disappointing in one way or another.", "summary": "I like my coworker, but dating him openly would be bad and also I don't even know if he's interested in me WTF DO I DO. Question mark."}
{"id": "t3_3jazra", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Girl troubles.", "post": "So... I'm fourteen (and male, btw) and about a week ago, the best thing in my life broke up with me because of \"school.\" Well, today I was going to try to get her back, but I was too late. I just learned that she dumped me for some guy in her Latin class. I'm pissed that she dumped me (her boyfriend for four months, and if you say that's nothing, it's the longest I've had a relationship before) for someone else. Well, I texted one of my best friends (who is a girl) and told her about everything. I guess she was waiting for my ex broke up with me, because she confessed that she had feelings for me, and she proceeded to ask me out. I said no at first. I used to have feelings for her but lately, my love for her has been rather platonic. She was getting really sad and stressed and I said yes.", "summary": "Ex dumped me for someone else, now dating a girl I'm not that into."}
{"id": "t3_1vzigv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/f] am confused about mixed interactions with [24/m] coworker.", "post": "Long and short of it:\n\nI [24/f] started a job last November as a temp, got made permanent a few weeks later, and over the ensuing weeks became good friends with [24/m] coworker after discovering we had a lot in common. \n\nTo clarify: He is single, we are pretty good friends.. we don't really \"work together\" as such but we do sit pretty close together.\n\nAnyway, fast forward a few weeks: we talk a lot, he likes to make fun of me, lots of eye contact. All the normal stuff one might think meant there were reciprocated feelings. He comes along with me after work one night to see my flatmate's band play. I told him to bring friends, he comes alone. Ask him \"would it be weird if I said I liked you?\" his reply, \"Yes.\", awkward conversation ensues... he says something about not dating coworkers and the conversation ends abruptly and we have not discussed it since.  This was six weeks ago.\n\nIn the six weeks since, he has still been teasing me, grinning + staring, we have stupid in-jokes, etc. All the fluff that goes around awkward does-he-doesn't-he crap. That and he's finally started to open up a bit about things that he hasn't really talked to me about before, including admitting today that he \"hasn't been in a relationship with someone he's wanted to be with\" before.\n\nNot sure what to do. Relatively sure he likes me (????) but with any suggestion of us hanging out outside of work/having casual lunch together... he clams up again. \n\nGetting sick of it because one minute he'll be eyefucking me like crazy and the next he'll be ignoring my texts. \n\nWhat should I do? I'm reluctant to overtly bring it up with him because I'm worried I'll make it worse.", "summary": "mixed messages from coworker, no idea how to act around him, mindfucks all around."}
{"id": "t3_20lz2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39 M] with my friend/soon to be girlfriend [28 F] of 2 months told me she feels safe with me. What is the significance of this?", "post": "This is a cross post from r/askwomen.  But after posting there I thought this might be a better place for this thread.\n\nSo this girl I've been seeing on and off, soon to be on again told me she feels safe with me. I could have asked her what she meant by that exactly, but I decided to just take the compliment and not dig deeper. But now that we're done talking for the night that comment is just sticking out in my mind. I don't think this is something men generally seek out with women. So can you shed some light on this for me?\n\nI know it's a good sign but why is this important to women? And why wouldn't a woman feel safe around a guy excluding fear of physical harm? Does it have to do with vulnerability and her having less reason to worry about being hurt? Or is it a sign she could trust me? Or is it some combination of all of these things and some other stuff my man brain is not even considering?", "summary": "What's the significance of a woman telling a guy she feels safe with him?"}
{"id": "t3_33yynh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19f] made out with my best friend [20f] who has a boyfriend.", "post": "We were all drunk and he was sitting right there instigating it. She and I both consider ourselves straight. We live together and hosted a little kickback last night. Once everyone had gone home, it was just us and her boyfriend, who practically lives with us and is one of my best friends as well. I don't remember how, but the topic of us kissing came up and he made it clear that he wanted it to happen. She and I started playing some \"game\" where the object was to bite the other one; it was pretty much just us rolling around on the floor, straddling each other, and giving each other hickeys. She also definitely sucked on my fingers a couple of times. Once that got tiring, we were just kind of sitting on the floor and he was on the couch, still talking about us kissing. So I gave her a quick little peck and thought that would be it. Nope. She leaned back in and we started actually kissing (with tongue). We stopped after not that long because we were laughing. Then about 10 minutes later, I kissed her again (open mouth) and she kinda groped my boobs because of some comment from him.\n\nI saw her this morning and we were joking and laughing about the whole thing, so I know it's not going to be awkward between us. I'm still freaking out a little because I actually liked it and would be okay with it happening again. Before this, the closest I've ever got to questioning was having a sex dream about a female celebity. I consider myself pretty open minded but even when I thought of kissing a girl, the idea of doing anything further never interested me. Last night, that wasn't exactly the case. I also haven't seen him yet because he's been at work, but when he gets home I'm sure he'll bring it up and I don't know how to respond.", "summary": "I drunkenly made out/fooled around with my straight, taken best friend (with approval from her boyfriend). I consider myself straight but I liked everything that happened and would be willing to do it again. Now I'm freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_qqrv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Saying I love you.", "post": "I've been with this amazing guy for a bit over 8 months now. He's absolutely my best friend, and he makes me feel things I've never felt before. We haven't told each other yet, but it's gotten to the stage where I'm pretty much BURSTING to tell him, you know, \"I Love You\". So yes- I'm pretty clear on my feelings.\n\nHOWEVER.\n\nI'm scared that he won't say it back. Terrified actually. I'm his second girlfriend. He's not my first but I've never said it to anyone before, to their face, AND being the first. What do I do, Reddit? I really want to tell him, but I'm not sure how to handle it if he doesn't say it back. We lost our virginities to each other (and that was a pretty serious thing), and I think it'd hurt if he didn't say it back. \n\nI've got a whole thing planned out for after exams- we'll go for a walk on the beach, eat some chocolate and then I'll say it. It goes perfectly in my head but damn it, life isn't perfect so PLEASE REDDIT, for the love of God, help me! \n\nforgive the ramblings :) \n\nWe're both 21.", "summary": "Love him, want to say it, haven't said it for fear of it not being reciprocated."}
{"id": "t3_3dlsel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22m) asked my (21f) girlfriend to be home by 2am from a friends place because i have sleep issues she knows about. Was that wrong of me?", "post": "Please read this before you comment. \n\nWe moved to a new city to look for work and we did find jobs and we both started to make friends. Yesterday evening she said she wanted to go over to her new friends place for a couple of drinks. I thought it was a good idea since she needs a break away from me lol. I did ask her to be home for 2am since its a little hard for me to fall asleep in a place alone. I've been like that for ever and she knew about it. I agreed to pick her up and bring her home since I didn't want her walking home drunk in a new city. Around 1:30am I texted her letting her know I was about to leave. I didn't get a reply back from her 30 minutes after I sent the text. I was waiting in her friends parking lot. I gave her a call and she sounded really drunk, I said \"I'm here meet me downstairs\" she said \"she wasn't ready to leave\" I said \"well its 2am and I came all this way to pick you up\". Then when she finally came down at 2:30am she started to say that \"I didn't trust her\" and that \"she wanted to spend the night with her friend\". She agreed before hand that I would pick her up at 2am. She got all pissed up and started to tell me \"I was just like her last boyfriend and never let her do anything\". I told her that the next time she can spend the night if that's what she wanted to do. She basically made me feel like a controlling boyfriend just for asking her to come home at 2am. Was it bad for me to ask her todo that?", "summary": "asked girlfriend to be home at 2am because sleep issues. She ignores text and calls me a over protecting boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2rjaj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] new GF [19 F] is friends with a girl from my past that could comeback and bite me in the ass.", "post": "Backstory: Okay, so when I was around 20-21 years old I started talking to this girl online who was 15. We started talking regularly. We didn't know each others names ages just photos, (she looked 18 or so). We never talked about sex or anything inappropriate, just normal stuff but you could tell I was interested. I ended up finding out her age after a month or so through some googling and decided that I would just never escalate anything and just be friends. Hoping that one day when we're both older it would be an option to date her. We reached a point where we exchanged phone numbers (mistake i know) and that's when we told each other our names, and ages, in text messages. After that, I could tell she kind of got uncomfortable. So I apologized to her and told her I wasn't trying to hit on her, and that I felt bad. She told me it was okay and I stopped talking to her completely. I have never talked to her since.\n\nSo anyway, now I'm older and I've started talking to this other girl who's 19 that I met at college (I went back last year) in one of my classes. We've been on a couple of dates and have really hit it off. I recently added her on Facebook and noticed she's friends (not best friends or anything) with this other girl that I knew a long time ago. I really like this new girl and she likes me. I have a strange first name, and I'm afraid of this past coming back and biting me in the ass and I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?", "summary": "New girlfriend is friends with a girl from my past that could possibly comeback and bite me in the ass."}
{"id": "t3_3ut38h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving a go-kart into a pool.", "post": "Diagram: \n\nAbout five or six years ago during middle school my friend and I, Ricky, were driving go-karts in my yard. I was driving in my backyard toward the front yard, and Ricky was driving from the frontyard towards the backyard. The only way to go between the two was a strip of grass big enough for one go-kart to pass through. On one side there is a shed, on the other the pool and concrete.\n\nThere was an area where I could have turned out, but my parents had put an old gazebo there just because there was no where else to put it. Ricky and I were coming head on, being silly middle schoolers we were too dumb to both brake, I decided to try to dodge him, so I made a sharp turn right, hit the gazebo, and somehow the go-kart turned towards the pool after it hit one of the gazebo. I tried braking, but something was wrong with the brakes so I couldn't stop the go-kart. I jumped out, the back right wheel ran over my leg, and I watched helplessly as the go-kart plunged into the pool. Moments later, my dad came out of the house screaming my nickname: \"SPANKY, WHAT THE HELL DID YOU DO??\"", "summary": "I drove go-karts in my yard with my friend during middle school, we were driving head on, I tried to dodge, hit a gazebo, spun out, jumped onto the ground, got my leg ran over, and watched the go-kart I got for Christmas plunge into a 12 foot deep pool."}
{"id": "t3_1c071i", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "How can my boyfriend bond with my skittish dog?", "post": "I have 2 dogs. One loves everyone (after he growls and barks at you) and the other one trusts NO ONE but me. I got them both from the SPCA. The skittish dog is a Shiba Inu/Italian Greyhound mix and he's always been afraid of pretty much everything. \n        When I brought him home he immediately hid underneath my bed but I won his trust with some bread crusts and after that he's been my shadow. This dog follows me EVERYWHERE (besides the bathroom, he hates baths). If I go upstairs, he goes upstairs. If I sit on the couch, he sits on the couch. \n    Problem is, I've been dating my boyfriend for soon to be 3 years and have lived with him since November. My other dog loves him but my boy Haku doesn't really trust him or anyone. He won't sit in his lap or next to him and won't run or play with him. He only wants to be with me. I know it's gotta be frustrating for my boyfriend because he does try to bond with Haku but Haku doesn't really let him. Haku has become less afraid of him but still won't do much with him. I'm just wondering if there are any good ways for them to bond more. When we go for a walk, he walks Haku. He gives him treats and everything. But more than that, Haku won't have it. If he tries to run with Haku with him leashed, Haku will whine and look back and be miserable. \n    Is there any way to get my dog to want to be with my boyfriend more than he already does? Or is he just a one person dog and that won't ever change?", "summary": "My dog is like a shadow to me and wants to do everything with me. Doesn't trust or love anyone but me. Wondering ways my boyfriend can bond with my dog?"}
{"id": "t3_3w4w54", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think I'm developing DID??", "post": "I'm sorry this is long, but please read.  I'm really distressed and need insight/advice so badly.\n\nI think I'm showing early DID signs...  I'm scared.  I have a PTSD diagnosis, but this is new...  I'm 20, if that helps somehow.  \n\nOver the past few months, I've been realizing that when I'm triggered by trauma thoughts, I \"turn off\" and become really robotic.  Subconsciously I somehow started referring to the state as \"it\" or \"a robotic personality/self\" that takes over my body. Additionally, for a long time I've had a stark dissociation from what I've always called \"past Andrea\" as though the *me* that existed before the most recent few years is a completely different person or consciousness.\n\nI don't call these personality traits \"alters\" because I'm honestly not willing to accept that I have DID.  I can't.  A new psych problem is literally the last fucking thing I can handle right now.  I *need* to not have it.\n\nAccording to the DSM 5, I don't fit DID diagnostic criteria *only because* I do not \"have trouble functioning in one or more major life areas\" because of it.  It does, however make me SUPER fucking worried about my mental health.\n\nI'm scared that maybe if this keeps going on it will become a problem...  I've spent half my life in therapy.  I'm finally \"better.\"  I can't afford to go down a shitty path again.  I NEED to be okay.  I NEED to be able to stop this from happening.\n\nAm I overreacting?  If not, is there any way I can stop this from developing??  \n\nI can't afford to have my psyche turn to chaos again.  I was finally doing well--going to the 15th best university in the US for almost completely free, building an impressive resume, looking into grad school, writing novels, making something of myself.  \n\n*Literally* built myself up from poverty and abuse to get to this point, and I *can't* afford to have it all taken away.  I can't go back to that dark place.  I have to be okay.", "summary": "How can I stop my dissociative tendencies from becoming full blown DID???"}
{"id": "t3_3h8xe8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 M] Ex[25 F] and I have been broken up for 3.5 years with next to no contact, shes now coming to visit me - Advice/Help Please", "post": "Me and my ex have been broken up now for about 3.5 years. About 3 months ago she re-established contact and things were going great, but she started getting mad at me when I couldn't talk because I was at work or busy with other things, so I cut contact again.\n\nIn the last week she has left her fiance, and texts or calls me regularly; at present I am just ignoring them. But now she left me a message saying she is planning a trip to come visit me. We live across the country from each other.\n\nI know I still love her, and that I probably always will, but I just don't know what to do in this situation. I would love to see her, but I think that whatever happens it will end up hurting one or both of us. I can not see a future where we can be together, no matter how much I want that.\n\nDo I re-establish contact to tell her don't come? What if she still comes? Do I embrace what shes doing? I am at a complete loss.\n\nAny help or suggestions are appreciated", "summary": "That I love my Ex and dont know how to deal with her anymore. After extended non contact it seems that we are drawn together, but I dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4pdlhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [22F] sister [24F] is dating someone who makes me uncomfortable, and he [40somethingM] has essentially moved into our house.", "post": "My sister and I both live at home. I just graduated college and I move out again to a different city in August. Hopefully this move will be forever. \n\nMy sister's boyfriend is twenty years older than her. He does not have a home (he bounces around between his parents, his sister, and our house). He has been divorced twice, and has three children between the two marriages (whom he has very little custody of -- it's an every other weekend situation). He's a chain smoker. I find him very rude and abrasive and I find that he is disrespectful to his children. I just have a \"vibe\" about him that says \"creepy.\" If I was about to pass this guy on a sidewalk, I'd cross the street. \n\nI don't really care that my sister is dating someone creepy. We are not close, we are not friends. If she sees something in this guy, fine. Good for her. \n\nMy problem is that since he does not live anywhere, he essentially lives here. I come home from work wanting to relax and there he is, reeking of cigarettes and eating the food I bought for my dinner. He makes me feel uneasy. I try to leave the house when he is here, but recently that has started to be all the time. My sister has asked me if I care if he stays over -- I have said yes, that it makes me uncomfortable. In response she just gets accusatory and yells at me for not liking him. I just don't know how to survive these few months living with this guy.", "summary": "My sister's boyfriend is old, smelly, creepy, and technically homeless, and has recently moved into our house. How do I bare with my sister's deadbeat boyfriend until I move out?"}
{"id": "t3_e658o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Burned out - How can I keep myself motivated?", "post": "So, I started this semester with what I thought was just a normal class load, but it turned out to be several times worse than any of the previous semesters by far.  As a result, I've worked my tail off for the first 2/3 of the semester, staying up super late every night as a result (on the order of 3-4 am every morning).  There was exactly one day off this semester, during which I, you guessed it, worked some more.\n\nNow, with three weeks to go, I'm burned out to the point where it's all I can do to even focus in my classes and get my work done.  I know I need to get things done earlier/faster, but I am forced to use [Leechblock] to forcibly prevent myself from just wasting time online.  \n\nAnd yet, I still find ways to get around doing my work until it's very late at night.  How can I motivate myself to get out of these doldrums and finish these next three weeks strong?", "summary": "I worked my ass off for most of this semester, and now I don't feel like doing anything productive.  How can I motivate myself to do better?"}
{"id": "t3_131yin", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating in Germany as a foreigner", "post": "I am a 23 yo male foreign student in Germany (master program). Just broke up with my girlfriend and I have no idea how to start dating here. I am originally Russian and I only speak Russian, English (good level, I guess. Worked as a server in US) and Romanian (no German, I hope it's a \"yet\"). \n\nIt wasn't easy making aquaintances of both genders until now either (I've been here for a year). Now I have no idea where to start. I tried okcupid, but it seems there are plenty of women in Berlin and only a few from Dresden (where I live).\n\nI was thinking about the University, but I study Computer Science and it's also only a handful of girls in my course.\n\nThe main issues are: I don't know how to approach German girls, they are obviously different from the Eastern european ones. \nSecond, not a big percent of them speaks English freely, so it is hard to make a really rich conversation.\nThird, I guess not all of them are interested in dating a foreigner.", "summary": "Russian English-speaking student in Germany, Dresden having no idea whom to date."}
{"id": "t3_264t0r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [21/m] girlfriend[22/f]'s dad has a crucial operation next month. Doctors say it's risky. How can I approach her?", "post": "*My problem is not as dramatic as other redditors and I understand if you want to help and give advice to them first. However, I would be very thankful if you would take the time to realise my situation.\nSorry for my spelling and grammar errors, English is my third language*\n\n*Background info* :\nI'm in a long distance relationship with my SO for about 8 months now. I live in the Netherlands, she in Australia. Given the fact I am a typical student, I only have words in my arsenal. \n\nI've visited her and her parents in April and I must say that I've never met such a wonderful caring family as hers. I'm not 100% of the details, but I beleve the dad has a kidney transplant with the mother as donor, leaving my SO as a carer. \n\nProblem with this surgery is there could be several outcomes. They could open him up, say ,,no we can't do it'' and he can be on dialysis everyday for the rest of his life. They could do the transplant and the body could not accept the new kidney anyway, it could work or he could lose his legs or he could die. \n\n*Current situation:*\nWe spoke today and she refused to be positive. She said that she is trying to be positive but it's not as positive as it sounds. She is very scared and has trouble sleeping, and messages me at night because of that. She tries to find comfort through talking but I do know not what to say and I end up talking about paying back the money I owed her.. stupid >.< \n\nI've send her some photos i've found at /r/babyelephantgifs (bless this subreddit) to cheer her up, but that is all. \n\n*my question:*\n**How can I convince her that whatever happens, she has to stay positive?", "summary": "SO refuses to stay positive before the kidney transplant of her dad, it eats me up not being able to comfort her at night."}
{"id": "t3_2xysqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] Dating [21F] one month, she needed space too close and I pushed", "post": "I have been seeing this girl for a month now and from the start we agreed we didn't want anything serious we were just looking to enjoy each other's company essentially. \nAs we continued going out we took things slow and progressively hung out more and more. i honestly feel as time went by we were getting closer and closer than intended. \nI told her I cared for her and she all of a sudden was talking about five languages of love and how she wanted a \"devoted knight dedicated to his princess.\"\n\nBefore you know it she invites me to go meet her parents in 3 hours away...as soon as I request off to do so everything changes.\nShe pulled away and told me we needed to back off and she might not ever be able to guarantee anything committed and she needs to be free. I Apparently was giving her the impression I was expecting much more from her.\n\nI did state I wanted a relationship with her but that wasn't to be defined by open or committed. I want something to learn from and grow.\n\nI gave her space but I caved and pushed for us to hangout.\nShe let me know that it was making her uncomfortable and she disliked having to tell me we were fine over and over again to make me feel secure.\n\nI'm feeling I just went 20 steps backward and I'm looking for advice or encouragement", "summary": "Explained she didn't want anything serious, then convinced me she did. Needed space, I caved and pushed for hanging out, she didn't like it. I'm positive she still will see me but did I make things awkward? How do I go on without that awkwardness?"}
{"id": "t3_1reivt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22m] dating [19f] not sure if I should be feeling more than I am?", "post": "We're dating.. not calling it BF or GF.. although that's what it basically is after about two months now. Sometimes I'm really into her and other times I'm less. She is the first girl I've actually \"dated\" (in that we see/talk to each other almost daily / are exclusive) and she REALLY likes me. I just feel like I should be feeling more affection than I do? Is this something that will occur later on as we see each other more?\n\nI never expected this to be a super serious relationship with marriage potential or anything in the first place, but I feel like I should be feeling more affection towards her than I am.\n\nAnother issue is that this girl is a real sweetheart and is super nice happy person. Her family already knows about me and all of her friends etc. If I were to end this in the coming weeks or months I would feel like it would really hurt her -- which is not something I want. *IF* I decide it should end is there a way to break it off in a non depressing way and maintain her as a good friend?", "summary": "How affectionate should I feel two months into dating (with sex being involved for the last few weeks)? Is there an easy way to end the dating if need be while not hurting her and maintaining our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_2bi6aq", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Thoughts on my Mom being my Matron of Honor?", "post": "I stood next to my mom when I was little when she married my step-dad, my brother and I gave her away. I can't imagine anyone else standing next to me at my wedding. I want her to be my MOH, and my three sisters as my bridesmaids. I know the Mother of the Bride has duties, as well as the MOH, so I was thinking my mom can do all of her motherly duties, while my sisters help with what would be the MOH typical duties. Is this weird? I just starting browsing this sub and would love your opinion.", "summary": "i love my mama"}
{"id": "t3_2gjph2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pointing out a boy's deformity", "post": "So yesterday, I went with my friend to the local urgent care. She had some stuff going on and asked me to take her and wait with her. Sure, no problem! So as we're sitting there, this boy sitting across from us is probably 6 or 7 and just being a silly kid. I happened to notice, he only had one hand. I'm not sure if he lost the other hand or was born without it but definitely only one hand. \nSo, fast forward to we get called back, she does some test, they send us back to the waiting room. They then call the little boy back and when he comes back with his mom, he has these latex gloves that they gave him to play with. He's enjoying the gloves, he has them on and he's flapping them around. He turns to his mom and goes, \"LOOK MA!\" and without thinking I turn to my friend and say \"Look ma! No hands!\" You know, like that Waka Flocka song...\nI don't think I've ever turned so red in my entire life. I didn't say anything for the remainder of the time we were there. Thankfully, I don't think they heard me, but I know someone in that waiting room probably did.", "summary": "I quoted a song about \"no hands\" and it just so happened the boy had no hand."}
{"id": "t3_1ycqzh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my [22 F] short term relationship broke up and I'm having trouble.", "post": "So I began dating a girl right before Christmas. Things were absolutely perfect for about 6 weeks.  By far the best relationship I have ever been involved in in my life.  About two weeks ago I made some mistakes of overreacting to small things.  She started to pull away and I just kept making it worse.  A week ago we really talked things out and everything seemed to be better again.  Then Saturday night I overreacted over nothing again and Sunday morning she broke it off with me.  I sent her a really sincere and honest text Monday about how it was my fault and I was insecure.  \n\nI haven't spoke to her since but I realize what I lost and how it was my fault.  I was planning on texting her in two week just to see how she is and not make anything of it because I am actually leaving the country for a week.  \n\nShe said when we broke up she was upset that we lost what was so good at the beginning. I really want to show her I'm not that guy and I am really as laid back as she is. Is this a good idea or am I just grasping at straws?", "summary": "! Had a great girl.  Messed it up.  Want to give her space and see if we can try again.  Should I do this or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1zbov6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26 F] thinking about contacting an old friend [25 F] that moved overseas but am unsure if it's a good idea.", "post": "I [F25] recently have been thinking about getting in contact with an old friend [also F25] that moved overseas back in 2010. \n\nWe were really close throughout middle school, high school and afterward (been friends nearly 10 years) but had a bit of a falling out when she made plans to move countries to be with her BF at the time. \n\nWe basically had a fight about her going. I wanted to rent a place together, I told her about it plenty of times and even tried helping her find work to pay for her half. \n\nOne day she told me that she suddenly had plans to go be with some guy on the internet that lived overseas, she was leaving the following month. I told her it was a bad idea and she should just stay and get a place with me like we talked about before. She then told me I was a bad friend for trying to keep her from pursuing her BF. We stopped talking, she dropped all contact with me and that was it. \n\nTime went on; I went through my old high school things at my parent's place and got a bit emotional looking at old photos of the two of us with our other friends. \n\nOne thing led to another and I tracked her down on facebook. From the look of it she still lives overseas and is now married. \n\nI'm at a cross roads now about contacting her. I want to apologise and continue our friendship but I think it's a little too late now. I feel like an ass now for implying she was wasting her time going there in the first place.", "summary": "Friend moved overseas to be with bf, told her she was wrong to do so, dropped contact with me, time skip to now, look through old photos of us, find her facebook, not sure to contact or not?"}
{"id": "t3_4zjbg0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I[25F] invite my friend [24F] to a party without inviting her man friend [26M]", "post": "I genuinely enjoy being around my friend and I want to invite her to a party I will be having. However, I really hate her pseudo-boyfriend and do not want him there. The first time I met him she brought him to a previous party I had and he was completely awful - I mean he arrived intoxicated, was rude to my boyfriend, was rude to me, and I overheard him making comments about how lame we were. After we invited him into our home and have him free food and alcohol! He was so obnoxious that he literally broke up the party...everyone there expressed distaste with his demeanor and people were actually leaving because they didn't want to be around him.\n\nSome options:\n\nDon't invite her at all: difficult because she lives with another friend of ours who I do plan to invite and I won't be able to invite one without the other. I can not invite either but I am sure they will hear about it through the grapevine or someone will post something on social media, and I don't want to have to lie to them because I like them.\n\nTell her that this guy sucks: we are co workers and I don't want to make that awkward. Also, all of her other friends have already told him he sucks and she has been hard headed about it.\n\nI realize this sounds petty but I really don't want to spend any time around this Martin Shkreli wannabe if I don't have to.", "summary": "How do I invite someone to a party without inviting their significant other, and if there is no tactful way, how can I handle having an obnoxious jerk in my home, killing my party vibe"}
{"id": "t3_2d14cm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [21 F] of 1.5 years, pulled me aside and implied breakup over me and her busy schedule.", "post": "Okay this may be a bit complicated but here it goes.\n\nComing home from a date yesterday, my gf told me that \"this might not be the right time for us. I'm so busy and I feel like I can never please you. I feel like you always blame me for not spending a lot of time with you.\" When I asked her if she was breaking up with me she said \"I never said that. But we need to figure something out.\" \n\nShe is a very busy girl and I totally support her in all the great things she does. And I've told her this many times. I don't mind being put on a backburner sometimes because that gives me some freedom to chill out with my friends. But me saying that I haven't blamed her for anything would be biased, however I don't think I really have. I think she blames herself. On a side note I have noticed she has become increasingly distant but she says that she still loves me. I haven't contacted her since I dropped her off at her place. I really don't want to break up with this girl. Any help or advice on how I should continue would be great. Ugh.\n\nThank you", "summary": "Girlfriend is implying breakup over her schedule, and says we need to figure something out. How to continue? What to say? What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1npznq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently M25 broke up with me F21 after 1.75 years, so I ask: Married/life partners of Reddit who have been separated; what was it like going through the break in the relationship with your now life partner? (More details inside.) X-post from Ask Reddit", "post": "Currently got everything up in the air with the man I truly believe I love (but have been urged to put a finger why, I want to be with him, per his say,) and am trying to figure things out to see if we should move on, or fix somethings we brought to the table when we were in the relationship/after the relationship. Just like to hear people's stories. (Here is a link specific to that if you want more info on that:) \n\nAs for my current question....\nWhat made you decide to get back together? How did you feel? How did you know it was right to get back together? Was there ever a concern that you were in the relationship before the break because the relationship was comfortable and familiar?\nFor those happening to read this who were in a relationship, and broke up because it was determined you were in it for comfort not love, how/when did you know that was a problem?\nLastly, how do you for sure determine if you are with someone out of comfort as opposed to love; describe feelings one might feel in each case.", "summary": "I don't know if I will be back together with the man I love. Man I love is encouraging me to explore if I really love him; but I don't know how; I just feel like I love him like I always have since day 1. Help me determine feelings maybe? Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_3fm0v3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] BF [25M] of 4 years saw ex in his house without telling me, lied about it", "post": "Hi, everyone\n\nI love my boyfriend. We were young when we started dating, so over the course of four years we've taken a few breaks. But we've been dating consistently a little over a year now and things were going great. \n\nI was using his phone to navigate us while he was driving, and I saw a conversation he was having with one of his ex's from when we took a break. They were never official or officially dating, but I consider it an ex because there was a sexual element and they hung out a lot. \n\nI dislike her because I've heard from mutual friends she's very selfish, immature, and overall has boundary issues with relationships. So obviously I'm annoyed to see he still talks with her, and frequently.\n\nI take a peak, and she has asked to come to his house several times for seemingly innocuous reasons, and my mind is racing. I ask him about it earlier in the context that I didn't see their conversation, but just a snippet where she says \"no worries\" (a reply to his earlier message that he was busy and not home), and ask what she wanted. \n\nHe lies and doesn't tell me she was trying to come over, let alone that she's been over a few times before. \n\nI don't know how to get to the bottom of this. Four years is a long time to be with someone, and for them to lie about seeing such an insignificant part of their life seems... Odd. I know we have underlying issues we're working on, but this isn't helping! \n\nShould I ask him to cut contact, admit what I saw and that I know he's lying, or ask him to show me what they talk about so I can better understand this bond they share? I trust him enough not to sleep with her, but there's a sense of emotional infidelity here if he can't be honest with the extent of their relationship to me.", "summary": "boyfriend saw ex without telling me, lies when I ask about their conversations"}
{"id": "t3_2zm1b5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being observant on a friend's porch", "post": "So winter has seemingly been coming to an end where I live and yesterday was probably the nicest day of the year so far.  It was one of my friend's birthdays so we gathered at his house and cracked a few beers.  All was going well so we decided to move the small celebration to the front porch considering the refreshing warm weather.\n\nThe streets were fairly bustling in the college neighborhood and people in general just seemed grateful to be experiencing spring.  Cars were coming and going, women were rollerblading and men were long boarding.  What an enjoyable day so far!\n\nIt was beginning to get dark out but the temperature was still favorable.  Across the street and in between 2 cars was a curb sewer, kind of like [this] .  I had been looking in that direction for whatever reason when I witnessed the biggest raccoon I have ever seen crawl out of the sewer.  I initially thought it was an average-sized house dog.  It was HUGE compared to any other raccoon I had seen before.\n\n\"HOLY SHIT! LOOK AT THE SIZE OF THAT COON!\" I was so impressed by this thing's presence.  When my friends also spotted it, their reaction was nearly identical.  We were all standing at this point, laughing and pointing toward the sewer, screaming about the size of the damn raccoon.\n\nThe car that was parked right behind the sewer turned on.  It took us by surprise as I guess we weren't expecting anybody to be in it for whatever reason, probably because we were intoxicated and didn't notice it when it originally arrived.\n\nThe driver, who never saw the raccoon, rolled his window down as he passed the porch to reveal himself.  He was a large black man with his middle finger up, screaming \"FUCK YOU, YOU RACIST MOTHERFUCKERS!\".  From his perspective, a porch full of young white men suddenly noticed him and then stood up to shout absurd racial slurs at him.", "summary": "TIFU by excitedly acknowledging the size of a raccoon while there was a large black man in that direction (who did not see the raccoon)"}
{"id": "t3_1qk71b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How long can things on my debit history such as insufficient funds stay there and hurt my credit?", "post": "Okay Reddit, I'm trying to switch to a local credit union from the Devil (AKA Bank of America ) and in the online application process it told me I would be unable to open a checking account with them due to a recent history of insufficient funds.  I've had my BofA account since July 2011 and have only had one occasion where I was declined, this was September 30th of this year. I also applied and was denied a Target credit card earlier last month. My main question to you guys is this:  How long do things like this stay on my history and can affect me? Specifically the insufficient debit fund one.", "summary": "how long after I have a declined debit transaction do I need to wait before applying to open an account at another bank/credit union?"}
{"id": "t3_jfz20", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most ridiculous misunderstanding you caused?", "post": "More of a literal misunderstanding:\nMy dad needed me to borrow a drill from my neighbors. I was good friends with one of the kids, \"Herpsworth Derpsdriguez\", that lived there. His family was very Dominican and most of them hardly speak English. \n\nSo I rang the doorbell hoping Herpsworth would answer. Instead it was his mother. She looked at me and I said to her \"I'm from next door Ms. Derpsdriguez, I'm wondering if you had a drill I could borrow.\"\n\nShe looked at me flabbergasted with horror and I stood there confused. After about a minute of staring and attempting to hold my fake smile, she finally exclaimed \"... DRUGS?\" and shut the door in my face.", "summary": "Knocked on non-english speaking neighbor's door to borrow a drill, slammed door in my face thinking I wanted drugs"}
{"id": "t3_t7drn", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Those awful hamstrings (advice needed!)", "post": "I know there are some older posts on here about tight hamstrings and running but they didn't quite apply to my situation.\n\nBasically, the past week to two weeks i have significantly (basically, restarted for more than 15/20minutes) running and other various exercises (squats and abs almost exclusively), ans specifically, the past three days really been working at it.  Yesterday when I woke up bilaterally both hamstrings weretight, but i was able to just sit and stretch hands to toes for 5 minutes and they were fine.  sore but fine.  This morning i woke up and literally fell because my legs woulnd't support the weight.  they are still very tender now and it takes me around 5 minutes of straight walking to walk without limping.  i've been drinking plenty of water to increase my BMR but i am at a loss to really specifically what to do.", "summary": "EXTREMELY tight hamstrings bilaterally all the way from knee to ankle, having trouble extending completely and bearing weight/walking."}
{"id": "t3_36mfk0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] Ashamed to ask a curvier girl out due fear of backlash of friends and family.", "post": "Hello resdit. I'm a Chinese 23 year old guy and I haven't dated in a long time. Partially because of school but mainly because I'm just not interested in the kinds of girls my family and friends try to set me up with (other Asian girls). I'm just... Not that attracted to them but for my family it's really important I eventually settle down with a one. \nI've actually been harboring a heavy crush on this one girl in particular. We always have fun when we hang out in a group setting but whenever I hint to my family/friends that I might be interested in her (or other women of her type) they always will say something along the lines of \"you wouldn't want to be with a fat American cow now do you? You'll only regret it!\" \nIf I do ask her out I'm afraid we'd always have to hide it and I'd have to treat her like I'm embarrassed of her but it's only because I wouldn't want her to have any backlash from my relatives. Or just accept this is too hard and put off dating until I can perhaps move out of this area? \nWhat do reddit?", "summary": "afraid to ask girl out because of racist friends and family."}
{"id": "t3_49jxvn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23 M] like someone [22 F] who is in a relationship, what the heck should I do now?", "post": "Good afternoon, everyone. I have a question for you all and I was hoping that I could possibly get some closure and advice on the subject at hand. \n\nAs such, allow me to set the mood. I met \"Sabree\" during my psych class last semester and at that time, I was not looking to date anyone or get into that scene you know? However, once I found out that she works fairly close to my place of employment and naturally, I decided to speak with her just cause. \n\nNonetheless, after a period where I jumped back into the dating scene and failed, I saw her working at her job two Sundays ago and made a very difficult decision. And that was to ask her out for some coffee on Friday and get those digits. However, I had to catch myself because of how nervous I would be. \n\nAs such, after a brief period I finished the mission and boom, got the digits! Excellent, right? \n\nNevertheless, we started to speak and then on Wednesday the bombshell dropped! Originally, we going to reschedule the \"date\" for a later date and she told me the following word by word, \"Sorry! I would try to make it back from Eastern on Friday but I wanted to visit my boyfriend\" \n\nRats, not this again, you know? Nonetheless, she did in fact make it back just in time for us to chill at Starbucks which was her first time there allegedly so I felt pretty cool about that with me stealing a moment away from ole' boy plus giving her the prequel trilogy of Star Wars to watch over so perhaps down the line, I can watch the OT with her. \n\nNonetheless, the point of this question is what the heck should I do going forward? Move on which I plan to do as soon as I can lock in on a few potential women to date or should I continue on and plant the seeds with a slow burning method?", "summary": "got a girl's number, found out that she is taken but we went out last Friday, what's the plan of action from here?"}
{"id": "t3_n56ey", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my family is being stalked", "post": "I'll try to make this as short as possible. For the last few months about 330-4 in the morning my wife and I have heard a car drive by. It has an after market muffler so it's very loud and can be heard in our room (which is on the opposite side of the street.) In September she had our baby so that is when I would occasionally hear it while feeding the baby in the middle of the night. I had just assumed whoever this was, was going to work, but the other night my wife was feeding the baby and saw the guy stop at our driveway, pull in and then turn around and leave. Obviously it was the same car because of the muffler. So last night my wife wakes up at 3 and goes into the living room to see if she can see if they do it again. Just as she was about to say screw it and come back to bed she hears the the car, and sure as shit it pulls in our driveway, and leaves. At this point my wife wakes me up quite frantic. So I have her call public safety and see what we should do. They had a detective call her back and they said they would patrol the neighborhood tonight and see if it happens again. Now we do not know if this happens every night or what, but it's kinda creeping me out. We have an alarm and I sleep with a .9 mm under my bed, but we have two children and this is fucked up to say the least. So tonight we are going to wake up at 3 and go into the living room and see if they come back and if they police get his ass. We live in the back of a quiet subdivision, hell I leave my keys in my truck, and nothing has ever been stolen, so for this area where we live it's quite odd. I also cannot think of any good reason this person would be turning around in our driveway. So anyways that's my story. Figured Reddit would be the perfect place to share my story. I will post what happens tomorrow. My question is what in the fuck is this guy doing? Your thoughts are welcome and anticipated. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Some person keeps turning around in our driveway at 330-4 in the morning. Called the police and they are going to try and catch him tonight. Will post tomorrow if anything happens."}
{"id": "t3_3e2l6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/f] really want to kiss this guy [19/m] but I'm grossed out by his past, what should I do?", "post": "I really like this guy. I'm 18 and he's 19. he's so hot and really nice but he's bisexual that doesn't really bother me but he told me he has done sexual stuff with guys. He's never had sex with a guy but he's done sexual things like he's kissed guys and he has rimmed guys before but he never went all the way with a guy. He said he hasn't done anything in 3 months. Is there any traces of it in his mouth? I mean for all I know he could have rimmed 10 guys. \n\nI was really interested in dating him but now that he told me that it would be kind of gross to kiss him because his lips and tongue were on a guy's butt before. what should I do? I REALLY want to kiss him but idk :/ will it be gross if I kiss him?", "summary": "bisexual, boyfriend, rimming, past"}
{"id": "t3_4s3sk2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] have a crush on a guy [27?M]. Should I tell my boyfriend [29M] of 6 years?", "post": "Throwaway because they both reddit.\n\nSo I love my boyfriend and we plan on getting married at some point. I do not want to leave him, as I love him very much. But for the first time in my life I am having a crush on a guy who is not my boyfriend. The guy is a friend of a very good girlfriend of mine and I think I met him the first time when we were ~13.\n\nI have always found him an intriguing person, and while we sometimes flirted as teenagers, I have never had feelings for him. Yet here I am. I see the guy maybe 4 times a year? These feelings emerged maybe 6 months ago and while they are slowly diminishing, they are still present. I only see him ar parties that our common friend throws and I try my best not to be alone with him without being suspicuously weird about it. I have told our common friend and she helps out if he places himself next ro me or stuff like that.\n\nNow, I have a very sweet and understanding boyfriend and I don't think he would be angry with me or anything. But I don't know if I should tell him about this? The other guy is not close to us and I do not communicate with him privately, but my feelings have persisted longer than anticipated and I don't know what to do now. I don't want to cause my bf unnecessary pain if this is just a silly thing that needs time to disappear. But I don't particularly like the idea of keeping him in the dark.\n\n/r/relationships - how do I handle this situation?", "summary": "have a crush on a guy who is not my boyfriend. Should I disclose it?"}
{"id": "t3_4453jm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To go or not to go? Old friend (f, 23) getting married, I (f 23) don't want to because I have to go from here in the Netherlands to USA.", "post": "So, I have had this friend for a long time and we have always been there for each other. But about 6 months ago I moved here to the Netherlands to be with my partner (m23). This is our first place together here and we had to buy our own furniture. Needless to say we don't really have any money for trips. \n\nMy friend is getting married in March in the USA and I feel really guilty out of obligation but I really don't want to go. I don't have the money for it and I don't want to leave here and miss my partner. \n\nReasons for not wanting to go:\n\n1. Money\n2. Missing my partner. \n3. Being incredibly bored once I'm there! I won't have a car or a way to get around, so I'll just be sitting in my parents house all day. \n\nI know it's bad that I don't want to go, but I am just really dreading it. \n\nReddit, what do I do?", "summary": "! Friend is getting married in march in the USA, I would have to go there from here in the Netherlands. Don't want to go!"}
{"id": "t3_22dpbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The woman [21] that I [20] am seeing wants to know about my messy break up with an old friend [24] of hers.", "post": "I've been seeing her for about 2 1/2 months now, and we've really clicked and she brought up the talk about getting serious. Early on we happen to stumble on the fact that my ex used to be a really good friend of her's and they still keep in touch. Last week my ex and her friend (note that I haven't talked to her in around 3 1/2 months) spread some bullshit around campus about me. It got back to the woman I'm seeing now and I've noticed that she's immediately started treating me differetly. She wants to talk about exactly what happened betweenmy ex and myself. I would you proceed in this situation? Is this a lost cause? It's really worrying me.", "summary": "ex is old friend of woman I'm seeing, spread rumors about me that got back to current love interest, she wants to talk and it scares the hell out of me."}
{"id": "t3_3m96hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) have been keeping contact with my ex (21F) she just told me her (now ex) boyfriend abused her last month. Can I be there for her without leading her on?", "post": "So 4 years ago, me and my ex broke up after being together for 2 years. It just wasn't working out because we wanted different things, and we had been fighting a lot. \n\nHowever, 2 years ago, we started having contact again, altough it was quite casual (we meet up every couple weeks/months), but nothing has ever happened between us again.\n\nToday we met up again, and she had make-up covering her face, which tried to conceal bruises on her face. We started talking, and at some point she became quite emotional. I asked her what was wrong, and she told me about how her (now ex) boyfriend abused her a couple of weeks ago.\n\nI still feel a lot of love for her (though not romantically) and so naturally, I wanted to be there for her. However, I feel as though by doing so, she might interpret that as me having feelings for her. I don't want to lead her on in such a vulnerable stage in her life.\n\nCan I be there for her?", "summary": "Found out ex was abused, can I be there for her without leading her on?"}
{"id": "t3_2q0982", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being unreasonable about my [26F] boyfriend's[26M] behavior?", "post": "A few weeks ago our neighbor, who is also our friend, invited us over for her friend's going away party that she's hosting. Her friend is moving across the country. \n\nMy boyfriend knows our neighbor's friend because his ex girlfriend slept with her (cheated on him with her, sort of). He's seen her around town and he tried to sleep with her long before we got together. He's made a few comments on her looks in the last few days before the party -- big boobs, big butt, \"she's actually pretty attractive\". This doesn't bother me, but I know I'm not his go-to type. I'm petite, but I bust my ass at the gym doing squats to try and get the booty going for us.\n\nLast night was the party. He was out late working until 1:30 AM or so. I left the party around 11. When he came home I was already in my robe. He's not super social and prefers to stay home and relax with me, but for some reason he expressed the desire to stop by our neighbor's party. This was weird because he doesn't really care about the people at the party and in previous situations had passed on seeing them. He had been standing for four hours solid, hauling his heavy gear, and it was 2AM. He insisted on going anyway, which I was fine with.\n\nThis morning she added him on Facebook and he accepted. This made me uncomfortable when I looked at the culmination of things (previous flirting, the comments the week before, and that he went out of his way to talk to her at the party and tell me about it when he got home. He was only at the party for 15 minutes or so). I expressed my discomfort and he got defensive and angry.\n\nAm I being unreasonable?", "summary": "boyfriend has a history of flirting with a girl, she adds him on Facebook, I feel weird about it. Is that wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_38slck", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by writing a smartass final paper", "post": "So actually happened a few years ago...\n\nSALLLYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!\n\nwas my Freshman writing seminar instructor may her name be cursed for a thousand generations. The topic was \"great new books.\" Being an open-minded starry-eyed freshman, I thought this would mean \"fiction.\" Nope. Poetry. Shit. \n\nSo Sally always insisted that all of our analytical essays were full of cultural stereotypes. This was really difficult to avoid and got on everyone's nerves, particularly because all the poetry we were reading was really heavy stuff and had to do with race, inequality, poverty, etc. It felt like we couldn't even mention race without being \"insensitive.\" Fast forward to the final paper.\n\nSally has a friend who is an impoverished poet, and Sally assigns us her book (called \"a vertical interrogation of strangers\") to read. The book is basically a collection of poetry based on the author's interviews with anonymous Indian women regarding their (often abusive) relationships to men. I choose to write about this book for the final paper. I have had enough of Sally and her lectures on \"stereotypes\" at this point. In fact, I am so tired of her that I become convinced that her friend's book is a giant cultural stereotype. I think you can get where this is going...\n\nYup I decide to write my paper on how my professor's starving poet friend's super artsy feminist book is actually a cultural stereotype and unfair to Indian men. At the time I thought I made a pretty good argument and was looking forward to changing my professor's perspective on things...\n\n...C-\n\nfreshman mistake", "summary": "When I was a Freshman I decided to write my final paper on how my professor's friend's feminist artsy book was actually a giant cultural stereotype and unfair to men. Freshman mistake."}
{"id": "t3_468wrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] and my grandmother [70 F], we're not close and I just learnt that after being sick for 6 months she was diagnotised a lymph cancer. How do I show that I care?", "post": "My grandmother was never found of family stuff. She's happy to see us when we're there but we were never close. My father was raised more by my grand-grandmother than my grandmother, to give you an idea. \n\n10 years ago she moved in the south, 7-8 hours away from my family. The only time I see her is for christmas, she comes back to visit her sisters etc. Other than that I have news from my parents so I call her only once every 2 or 3 months just to show I'm alive and be polite.\n\nShe had a lot of health problem recently (last 3 years), not major but she was always in touch with an hospital. It went worse these 8 last months and she didn't feel the strength to come for christmas. \n\nMy calls were more frequent during this period but could be summed up by \"Don't lose hope, 2016 will be better, I know you're a strong person you'll get through this\" and then she would be too tired to hold a full conversation. I could not call her and my life would be the same though, the only reason I call is to make her happy.  I'm really not close to her so as long as my parents give me news I could skip them.\n\nShe was diagnotised a lymph cancer last week. I want to call her and show her I care/support her, but at the same time  I don't want to say the same banal stuff as usual. She knows nothing of my life and I know nothing of hers. I don't want to talk about medical stuff because she's probably hearing the same stuff all day.\n\nIt's been 4 days I have her hospital number but I'm paralysed when I take the phone because I don't know what to say. Help plz!", "summary": "My grandmother is very sick and it got even worse last week and even though I'm not close to her at all (I don't call her more than 5 times a year), I want to call her to show my support. What do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_2om1b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm extremely crazily jealous [20/F] with my bf [20] and there's no reason at all, I know he wouldn't cheat on me, but I can't help it. Long distance love btw.", "post": "Almost every day we discuss/fight about my fears, about being cheated or changed, or being left behind. Our clocks are 7 hours difference and that makes it even worse.\n\nI know he loves me, and he wouldn't never hurt me, I understand it, and I'm fine until I start to overthink and I get insanely crazy about it. I'm also pretty secure about myself, i have a good self esteem, but when I think about other girls they suddenly look like they have something that make them better for him than me. \n\nIt gets so but so so so hard to deal every night, I dream about him fucking random girls and \nI'm afraid of losing us every night.\n\nIf someone have read \"the unbearable lightness of being\", I'm exactly Theresa, but without the real cheat from her partner. \nDeep inside knowing that is all bullshit, not true and is just in my mind.\n\nHe's most of the time really patient and supportive with that, but I'm afraid he's getting sick of it, like it's obvious. \nI'm also getting so tired I have suggested several times to break up, not because I want to, but because it seems to be the only way to let it go and being relax again. But he's telling me we won't break up because of this. I'm really exhausted of this thoughts because they're there every second.\n\nI've spent weeks reading about jealousy, and it haven't help.\n\nI need to stop and I really don't know how.", "summary": "I know my bf would never do anything to hurt me but almost everyday i find myself crying imagining he will. I need an advice please."}
{"id": "t3_3do25z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and fiance [20's M/F] don't know what to do about our weed smoking neighbors [20's? M/F].", "post": "Not much background necessary. We live in an apartment complex in a state where marijuana is still illegal and definitely not de-criminalized. My fiance and I have no problem with people smoking weed, but we are not smokers ourselves. And we would not care less that our neighbors do, but our apartment REEKS. \n\nWe both work midday-evening jobs, so when we get home at night, it smells like weed. On the weekends, forget about it -- we wake up and go to sleep to the smell of potent hydro. We've tried spraying air freshener, turning on the scentsy, but nothing is doing the trick. I am not a confrontational person, and fiance will start a fight if they aren't understanding, so we decided to call the front office to ask them to stop. According to them, they can't do anything about it except give them a courtesy call. Management said the protocol is for us to file a police report.\n\nNow here comes the problem: this is extremely conflicting of our values. We don't believe anyone should go to jail over some pot. But we also don't want to face any backlash if we ask them to stop, they don't, and then we are forced to file the report. And we definitely don't want to be smelling it all the time.\n\nSo what do we do /r/relationships? Should we go over there and risk confrontation, file a police report, or should we suck it up and live with the weed smell until we can move into a new apartment? Any different suggestions or ideas?", "summary": "Neighbors' pot smoke is stinking up our home. Confront or file police report or other?"}
{"id": "t3_1wug7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22/F] friend[24/M] keeps looking at my chest, how to get him to stop?", "post": "So occasionally when I[22/F] hang out with a good friend[24/M] (No flirting he knows my boyfriend) I caught him staring on a few different occasions. We've been friends for a year. I don't wear low cut shirts, but when I bend over to pick something up and look up he's staring. If I put my knees up to my chest when we're watching a movie on the couch he looks over. It's not even a subtle look just a blank stare. I don't know how to act it makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. \nI called him out on it once and he said he wasn't staring.. So I'm not too sure how to bring this to his attention. Any ideas?", "summary": "Caught guy friend staring at my chest, called him out he denied it. Caught him recently, how can I bring this to his attention?"}
{"id": "t3_2e6vha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my SO [26 M] 1 Year, caught him messaging girls on r/gonewild. What should I do?", "post": "Yesterday I found out my boyfriend of a year was messaging several girls on r/gonewild. He made a throwaway account to \"tell them how beautiful they were.\" \nI love him so much but I don't know if I can stay with him. I really in my heart don't think he would ever cheat but why would he need to message other girls? Am I overthinking this? \nI must add that I have never been happier in any relationship in my entire life. He is so perfect for me, and we really do have something special. But what if this is a sign that maybe I'm wrong. \nHe made the account about a week ago and messaged 4 girls, none of whom responded. I don't know what I should do :(", "summary": "Caught my boyfriend messaging woman telling them they are sexy; Should I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_4npxid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M/18] go back [F/18] with my ex?", "post": "So we broke up due to I haven't showed her much affection. She brought it up, she lost hope. And then after, I talked to another girl, but we talked and she got all flirty, I stopped talking to her cause I know she'll get too attached. She's attractive yes. \n\nAfter that, I realized I still need to get over my ex. However, in some way we managed to talk, Reddit, do I love her? Yes I do, I still have some feelings for her. She's gorgeous and the personality is gold. But she broke up with me for some reason, I wasn't showing affection. I'm scared of that, I wont be able to give her that, I don't feel like I would go in full heartily. Because the last of couple of months, I've been stressed about school, work, what college to go to (it will be distance if we get back together) and most importantly, I am not myself for this past month. \n\nI feel like I've lost myself. And that I am tired of relationships, I feel like burned out, I don't know what to do. I love her yes, maybe not like before, and she's great yeah. Should I get try to get her back and build it slowly there or just break it off? I'll be meeting her later today.\n\nAnd I feel a little guilty of wanting to talk to the other girl, maybe cause I miss talking but I'll ignore that for now. \n\nI'm just trying to fill everything up right now so you guys understand, but any thoughts? Questions?", "summary": "We've talked back and forth, I know she loves me, I know that I love her, but I don't feel like the way it used to do. Butterflies and shit. What should I do."}
{"id": "t3_19c8sw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I stop being so insecure when it comes to me dating men? [23f]", "post": "I never used to be insecure, as the years went by I continuously got hurt by guys I dated. Now 23 years old when I start getting serious with someone [which is rare because I make it a point to avoid dating now] I suddenly freak out. For example, the last guy I dated everything was great and amazing. I loved him. He loved me. Then he became a little distant due to his pre-deployment. I freaked out. Was convinced he didn't feel the same even though he kept telling me he did in fact love me he was just busy. I coudn't believe him though and thus looked crazy, clingy and desperate I guess which drove him away. It is ironic because I freaked because I was so scared I would lose him and then I lost him. He ended up ending things before he deployed saying he still felt the same he just didn't think he could give me what I needed.\n\nNow I am devastated because due to my insecurities I lost the one I loved soo much. We don't even talk anymore. Idk if that is just because he is in Afghan or what. I am furious that I couldn't believe him when he kept telling me everything was okay. How could this have happened! We talked of a future together and now its all gone because I have issues. This hurts a lot. How do I get past this?\n\nI have begun to think that this happened so I would be able to work on myself and focus on what I need to do to make me happy and whole again. But if that is the case, I hope one day me and him will be okay.", "summary": "Have huge insecurities when I start getting too close to a guy most likely due to the fact that I have been hurt a lot. I ruined a great thing because of it and am devastated that my self doubt got me in this heart-breaking mess. I want to be confidant again when I date someone, and not become so terribly insecure. How do I achieve this goal?"}
{"id": "t3_50ke28", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [22/m] crazy for wanting to get back with my ex [22/f]?", "post": "So I met my ex in class and we dated for about a month.  Things were great until she started acting very wishy washy.  One day she was the nicest girl on the planet, the next, she's a raging bitch.  She was not there to support me emotionally, but I was always there for her.  We mutually decided to break up.  Keep in mind that she was the first gf I ever had and I never felt any of these emotions I'm now feeling before.\n\nShe left me for another guy and dated him for another month before breaking up with him.  She said he was very aggressive and threatening towards her and made her anxiety much worse.\n\nWe talked yesterday and she made it very clear that she wants me back.  She admitted that she still has feelings for me and missed me even when she was with this other guy.  Deep inside, I do still have feelings for her, but I feel like my brain is telling me to leave her for good and my heart is telling me to get back with her.  We have plans to chill tomorrow and I have mixed feelings about seeing her.  On one hand, I really miss having her in my life and want to spend time with her, but on the other hand, we broke up for a reason and I would be stupid to expect her to have changed.\n\nAm I crazy for wanting this girl back?", "summary": "met a girl, dated for one month, she didn't give as much of an effort and was wishy washy, we mutually broke up, she saw another guy for a month, broke up with him and wants me back.  Should I take her back?"}
{"id": "t3_1pdtr9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can I fix myself?", "post": "To put things short, I've had a pretty inadequate life so far. I'm ugly, short, underweight and not all that intelligent either.\n\n I have very few skills or interests, I have very few friendships (most of which are dwindling rapidly), I can't speak to women without either mumbling unintelligibly and apologizing in my head to them for daring to come into their presence, and I cannot for the life of me imagine a future where I don't end up killing myself. \n\nOver the years I've developed an almost crippling fear of people my age to the point where I can barely introduce myself to anyone who isn't at least forty years older than me.\nI am ruled by a subconscious council of people who mocked me in the past and I'm pretty much keeping my behaviour in regulation of how they would expect me to behave. I am living as the caricature they established of me, I am fulfilling the future they planned out for me.\nI have almost forgotten what it's like to be content with life, I am ruled by an enormous apathy for my own existence. I can't eat properly, I can't sleep properly, I've tried going to therapy but I always find myself switching off to whatever's said as I believe my perspective to be infallible. Am I really not meant for existence? Just some genetic mishap that wasn't meant to continue living? \nWhat can I do to? I'm pretty much coming to you guys because I have no other outlet to express my pathetic rambling, for almost half a year I've dedicated most of my life to mindlessly browsing Reddit, seeing the interesting lives of others and wishing I had the same. I guess it would be fitting that the life-changing advice that I've been sifting through countless platitudes for comes from the place I most frequent.\n\nI don't particularly want to end up as 'That guy who killed himself' but it's looking more and more likely. I don't want to end up living the life that's apparently been allotted to me. \n\nI'm sorry you read this far.", "summary": "Some random cunt rambles on about his pathetic existence, begs for compassion and/or an enlightening epiphany."}
{"id": "t3_27rmkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18M) sister (23F) is going through cancer for the 3rd time and I'm terrified.", "post": "I've been through the rounds so many times that everything just feels dull whenever cancer is brought up. My 23 year old sister is going through her 3rd kind of cancer in her life and I'm at the point where I don't know how to feel anymore.\n\nWe came to America from Syria when I was very young because both my sister and my twin brother had cancer at the same time (him, testicular, her, brain) for the better medical treatment options available in the states and we've been here ever since trying to deal with a new life and new surroundings. Sadly, my twin died when we were around seven,  but my sister survived both the brain cancer and the pancreatic cancer that sprang up on us about five years ago.\n\nSurprisingly still, she survived that as well, but as far as I can surmise, some of the tumor was not removed and it ended up growing around the stomach. Recently, she has barely been able to eat more than a bite for the entire day and if she tries, she ends up throwing everything up. She's nearing barely eighty pounds and is always in pain.\n\nI'm constantly surrounded by the emotional trauma and stress of a family in crisis and I don't know what to do anymore. My dad has worked himself dry trying to support a family and a sick child, and we've all come out of these struggles with more scars than we can count.\n\nI love her dearly and even though we don't talk and aren't the closest, simply imagining her not being a part of my life anymore makes me shut down. She's going for her first appointment to schedule chemo tomorrow and because of how I've dealt with all this I have a horrible aversion to hospitals.\n\nHow am I supposed to show her that I care? How am I supposed to be the strong one in this family? How am I supposed to keep on going? I can't do anything and I feel like everything is crumbling around me.", "summary": "my family has dealt with cancer for my entire life and I am at a breaking point. I just wish I could find meaning in all this."}
{"id": "t3_4lnlo6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22m] brother in law [30m]hit my sister", "post": "Hopefully I can depict this well enough.\n\nBackground, they've been married for 3 years, in laws dad lives with them because he got into an accident ..in law always seemed like a good guy. \n\nOkay, so 2 months back, my pregnant sister called our house the day before her birthday, telling us to come pick her up.\n\nWe went and first thing I see is everything is messed up...she's crying, he's laying on the bed. We ask him whats wrong, and he says he doesn't want to talk about it.\n\nWe leave with my sister and she tells us she was pissed off at taking care of his dad 24\\7, and an argument took off from that, nothing happened for a while but they were laying on the bed when my sister was looking at pics of our grandma that past away recently...she was crying and he thought she was crying because of the fight and hit her to prevent \"harm\" to the baby..and apparently this is the second time it's happened.\n\nWe came home noticed her nose was bleeding, she was so determined to get a divorce, but she changed her mind a couple of days after he sent a letter \"apologizing\". \n\nI feel guilty because maybe I shouldve hit him for touching my sister, but I have a habit of ruining relationships so I didn't do anything.\n\nNow my parents are back and idk how but they talked thru it and now want us siblings to forget about it and act as if everything is normal.", "summary": "my in law hit my pregnant sister the day before her birthday and now my parents want us to act as if everything is okay."}
{"id": "t3_2q5k3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 f] feeling more alone when I'm with my friends [both 23 F]. Advice?", "post": "Well, I sort of touched on this in another post I made, but basically I have these two friends that I've been friends with together for several years. I used to feel like we were all equally friends, as in, no one was more friends with anybody else, but lately I don't feel that way anymore. I feel like I've been left behind, and those two are just moving on ahead. \n\nI graduated university early, and started working right away, and they both got into the same program and are doing practicum at the same place. I get that they have more in common, and I don't even mind that they started hanging out without me and doing fun projects on their own without inviting me. But when we do hang out, they're talking about things that I don't know about, and showing each other texts or people-I-don't-know's fb posts. Even that wouldn't bother me, but they never even try filling me in unless I ask them (which gets pretty tiring) so they're basically just talking to each other even though they see me less. They even started calling each other new nicknames. On fb or text, they'll even speak for each other when talking to me, like: 'friend #1 thinks you look amazing today!'\n\nSo, I felt like I wanted to just distance myself from them because I feel more alone when I'm actually with them. To their credit, they do keep inviting me to hang out, but now I feel horrible that I don't want to hang out with them anymore. I made a bunch of excuses because if I bluntly said 'I don't want to go', I know it'll start a lot of drama that I really don't want to deal with. Anyway, I ran out of excuses, and now have made plans to hang out with them, but I'm already dreading that feeling of feeling left out. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "I get anxiety thinking about hanging out with my friends because I feel so left out when I'm with them."}
{"id": "t3_37y2f1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21F] just broke up with me [21M] after more than four years together. We are perfect together, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Her reason was basically because we were each others first everything and she wants to see what else is out there before settling down. \n\nThe problem is she said herself she knows she will never find anyone better than me, but if she's thinking it now it'll only get worse until we break up on bad terms. I am finding it impossible to let my best friend and love of my life walk away from me like that. \n\nOn top of this, how am I ever supposed to emotionally commit to someone as much as I have done in this relationship with someone else in the future, knowing that even if we are perfect together, she could just walk away four years later for no good reason. \n\nI don't see how I am ever supposed to get over this. It's not right that we have broken up when we both know what he had was amazing.", "summary": "girlfriend broke up after 4 years, even though she knows she won't find anyone better."}
{"id": "t3_xh4ni", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just saved a woman from getting beaten by her abusive boyfriend, whats the most heroic thing you've ever done reddit?", "post": "I was walking around the park with my girlfriend and dog in the park when I saw a guy in the parking lot across the street holding a woman by the hair in his fist and punching her on the ground. I squinted to see what was going on when bingo, I saw that this woman was actually my best friends sister, I gave my girlfriend the leash and started running. I yelled \"Stop!\" as loud as I could when he turned around, the look in his eyes told me that He wasn't planning on stopping, he turned around like I wasn't even there. I screamed \"Hey!\" this time he got up and looked at me. I wasn't taking any chances so With everything I had I took a swing. He was down and he wasn't a small man, so I stomped him a few times before calling 911.", "summary": "saved my bestfriends sister by hitting a dude and calling the cops."}
{"id": "t3_3e3vsv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) just started seeing a guy (31M) that considers himself polyamorous. I don't know what to do.", "post": "So I've been talking with this guy online for a few months, and things have been going really well.  I have some intimacy issues, but it's amazed me how able I was to be upfront about my issues with him (as he has been with me) before even having met him. I have definitely been developing feelings for him.\n\nI finally met him last night, and it was amazing.  We cuddled all night long, had amazing sex, and I just felt so safe and content.  I am developing feelings for this guy fast.  The problem is, he confessed that he's polyamorous, meaning that he doesn't feel fulfilled unless he is able to have several 'committed' relationships.  I don't have any problem with this idea in theory, but in practice, in my own life, I'm struggling with it.\n\nIt might help to know that I shut out dating due to trauma and those intimacy issues for a long time, and I've only recently started dating.  I've had nothing but horrible luck up to this point in the guys I've seen, and this guy feels like something different.  Like I could actually see something develop.  But due to my deep insecurities and intimacy issues, I don't know if/how I could do this.  I am already in therapy for these issues, by the way.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar boat?  Would you be able to do this in my shoes?  I want to hear whatever your input is, because I'm totally lost.", "summary": "Don't know if/how I can start a relationship with someone who is polyamarous.  Any input is greatly appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_3j2djl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not asking out a girl sooner.", "post": "DISCLAIMER: I am in highschool and this happened a week ago.\n\nThere was this girl who said she liked me and that she needed someone to talk to because \"everyone hates her\", so we started talking. After a while we got close, I would walk her to classes and she would give me a hug every time i walk her, but after a while she stopped talking to me because some guy made a move on her. So apparently she was in-between me and this other guy at the time. She picked him, over me even though i would walk her to classes, even ditch one to see her this one time, but in the end he won. She started to not reply to my messages even though i made it clear to her that I would want us to be just friends. A while later, i went to start another convo on facebook with her, and it had appeared that i couldn't reply to her anymore, nor could I view her profile. I had found out she had blocked me. I'm assuming her new bf told her to block me on all social medias because he probably saw our previous messages, why i assume this is because we had talked before and whenever I would bring up the girl he would make an angry facial expression and also because he had also blocked me. So after I found out I was complaining to a best friend about this and he messaged the girl about how she had me blocked and she said \"I didn't know\". So fast forward till this day and she still has me blocked even after my friend confronted her. Well I guess I'm not going to talk to her anytime soon.", "summary": "A girl told me she loved me, she ended up picking another guy over me, that guy badly influenced her, and now I'm here alone thinking what could've been."}
{"id": "t3_3tj6se", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my wife [22 F] , has problems recognizing when she treats me bad, and finds it difficult to apologize", "post": "My wife is mostly super nice and caring to me. However, she can have very bad mood swings over the most stupid stuff. Today she got mad at me and then we talked about it. However, 3 hours later from when we woke up from our nap, she asks me to check the weather and then yells \" Hurry up!!\". I immediately got annoyed and told her to check herself. She then left to work without saying bye. I didn't text her or talked to her not even when she was back. She tried to tickle me and be silly but I just wasn't having it. She never apologizes and I've talked about this with her. I've told her that I do not like being yelled at. She says she was stressed out and that I made her mad because I didn't want to go to the mall to change 3 shirts she bought.\n\nHow can I show her that I really am angry and will not tolerate shit like this? I am the type of person that speaks up whenevers theres a problem or I am upset. However, she tries to avoid it by saying whatever or just justifying her actions. I've tried talking to her but she just says \"ok\" and then forgets about it.", "summary": "My wife often yells at me and mistreats me over stupid stuff, I tried talking to her but point doesn't get across"}
{"id": "t3_2oz4a7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using your instead of you're", "post": "So I was casually texting with my friend Dakota earlier today about this and that, you know, normal dude friend stuff. We have a long history mostly at the uni. We had a few classes together and always discussed funny stuff, reddit-centered usually. I never have been that great at grammar, but today was a day I NEVER saw coming. I'm one of those guys who is pretty chill, and occasionally I text things like \"i c u r sad\", \"lol i m nterestd in c'ing fury, cuz shylabuff isinit\", etc etc.. \n\nAnyways **TODAY OF ALL DAYS**, (for those who havent seen my other upvoted-to-3000-post today, i had quite the run-in with a train that almost made me late to work, lol) I was telling Dakota to come to my christmas gala this weekend and try and bring his pops, (he calls him dad, but I prefer pops). \n\nHe was informing me on the fact that pops usually doesnt go out much except for family-related things (i'm guessing he means like circus-goings with the toodles aka fam). I was cracking up cuz its like my mom is just like that. I went to hit him with a REAL casual response, half-joking, half-who-cares-really response. \n\nI ended up saying \"Well. Gala is family friendly so. And your family so. So?\"\n\nI meant to say you're. Like \"you are\".  **Wow IGTHFT.", "summary": "Picture for reference.*"}
{"id": "t3_g2zxr", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Thank you Google", "post": "Just wanted to send a legit thank you to Google and the Gmail crew! I just logged into my email to see a notification that my email account was also being accessed in Argentina. I clicked on the details and it actually showed me a list of the locations my email had been accessed from recently, my phone, computer, and an IP in Argentina. There was a convenient button to \"log off all other connections to the account\" and I promptly was able to change my password. It seems so simple, yet I have never seen this on any other website and it is very helpful. Thank you Google and the Gmail crew!", "summary": "I just learned that gmail will notify you of irregular IP's accessing your email. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_3nxhny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] really like a girl [19 F] from my uni. Is she bad at texting or is she not interested?", "post": "So I've [21 M] recently begun falling for a girl [19 F] from my university and when we're in person we get along fantastically. I've known her for about a year now but only just recently started talking/hanging out more after we both showed up to a party where we knew literally nobody but the host and we just ended up talking a bunch (mind you aside from this one instance at the party we've only hung out in groups of mutual friends thusfar). But after I got her number it seems that she is pretty bad at the whole texting thing. What I mean by this is just basically if I text her she will either take quite a while to respond to my message or she just won't respond at all (even sometimes if the text has a question in it). And so far after probably a little more than a month being decent friends she has NEVER initiated the texts, it has always been me. Recently at a school bar night we were both drunk and she literally dragged me to the dance floor with her (which is extremely abnormal for me) so I'm thinking this was a sign of interest. But even after that the texting still continues to be the same.\n\nBasically I'm worried because most everyone I've talked to says \"no girl is bad at texting, if she actually likes you she would initiate/text you back/respond in a timely matter. Get over her she's not interested\". So I guess my question really is, is it possible for someone to be a bad texter like that but still be genuinely interested in me? Or should I just accept the fact that if she did like me she would put a little more effort into texting me?", "summary": "Get along well with girl in person, but she seems to be bad at texting. Is she really just bad at texting or is she not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_3avzn0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17F] and my [19M] friend. Shot him down - is it too late??", "post": "So last fall I reconnected with this dude who I'd gone to middle school with. We started talking, yadda yadda yadda. After talking pretty much all the time, he told me he had feelings for me and went pretty in depth about how he felt.\n\nThis scared me off a bit, and I told him I didn't like him for anything but a friend, and he was cool with that. He was one of my best friends at the time and that didn't change. Occasional flirting died down eventually and when we hung out there wasn't any awkwardness.\n\nLOL WHOOPS! I realized last week (after 4 months) what an amazing guy I shot down. He's attractive, smart, has his life together as much as a 19 year old guy could, super polite and respectful, etc. \n\nHe was driving me home last night, and I told him that I wished I had gotten to know what kind of person he was before I told him we should just be friends, and that I felt bad/regretted that. I hoped that he would tell me there's always another shot, or that \"we could start again,\" but he didn't give a very animated response - just said that I shouldn't feel bad. But there was a very pensive silence, I feel like he understood what I was trying to say??\n\nIs there any chance left? I feel like he's too polite to make a move or anything so I can't leave it up to hormones..\nWould having a couple beers together would ease the situation and make it easier to figure out?\nI'm fairly certain he caught my drift I'm just not sure if he still thinks I'm not interested.", "summary": "Friendzoned a guy and now I want a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3fx404", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Online dating..is this girl [19 F] into me [20 M] or not?", "post": "[20 year old male ] So it's been quite some time since I've dated. I've been trying online dating and am currently just talking to a few girls. The last time I was single..this stuff wasn't around or at least not as popular.\nSo here's the thing. This girl I've been talking to has been kind of..off and on and I just don't know how to interpret it. For example, she takes forever to reply, and rarely asks any questions. Right there your probably thinking what I was thinking..yeah shes not interested. But here's the thing. I kinda just gave up on her for a day and she messaged me and apologized (which I didn't expect at all). I told her it was okay and that I understood she probably just gets a bunch of messages (shes fkin gorgeous) and she replied by telling me that its all just 'creeps that she doesn't even respond to'. She then 'liked' me on the site and has also agreed to meet me.\n\nSo I was thinking..okay this is sounding a lot better. But despite this her responses haven't really changed. The weird thing is that I've noticed from her status that she really only seems to come online to answer my messages.\n\nHonestly I'm not planning on playing this game. There are other girls im talking to that are responsive and show interest and would rather date them. But I've just never been so confused. Like I said, she gorgeous. Ive seen my female friend's inbox's on these sites and they get like 50+ messages a day..this girl easily gets double that so I doubt shes just responding to me to be polite.\n\nIf she was uninterested..i would think she would just ignore me like she does the others. But if she was interested..I would think she would show more interest...", "summary": "is she interested or not, help a noobie out!?"}
{"id": "t3_443s0u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my keys in locker", "post": "This happened just a few hours ago. \n\nI went to my school's gym today like any other day, and today is leg day. Wonderful. I must also note that I was tired from staying up all night finishing an assignment, but I had a good 6 hour nap at school since I finished early today. Did my work out; leg press, leg curls, leg extensions, calf raises, etc. As I was walking back to the locker room, I saw a group of females coming through. Must be the girls' volleyball team. I went to grab my stuff to go shower; towel, body wash, and shampoo, and before I realized it, I locked my locker with my keys in them. It didn't process until I turned on the water. Now here I am, luckily with a towel, realizing I forgot my keys so I decided to go to the front desk. Luckily for me, our gym was small so the front wasn't too far. Unluckily, the girls' volleyball team was still waiting in the halls as the gymnasium was being set up. I went to ask if they would cut my lock for me, and thinking my towel was wrapped tightly enough, it broke loose...in front of probably 12 or 15 girls, and a few other pass byers...I booked it straight back into the change room, and just sat there and let everything process slowly. The guy at the front couldn't stop laughing, said he felt so bad for me and that all the girls are laughing as well...\n\nAll I can hope for is that no one else knew me, and everything will just disappear and nothing ever happened. I don't think I can show my face at school tomorrow...", "summary": "forgot keys in gym locker, had nothing but a towel, ask for lock cut, dropped towel instead by accident in front of girls volleyball team."}
{"id": "t3_29j54n", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Founder of my company has lost my trust...", "post": "I have been working as a developer for a company for about a year of less than 10 employees. During that time, someone got put into a managerial role (that I did not agree with) and got fired afterwards; another developer has left; my founder has talked behind the backs of two other employees; my founder has not shown any recognition for hard work that has been done by employees (including myself); has shown a lack therefore of general leadership qualities (acknowledgement, compassion, direction, motivation, or hardwork);  and most of all I haven't got paid for the last 6 months (2 of which I was on medical leave) -- with hopes to finally get paid this week *crosses-fingers*.\n\nThroughout this time, the founder has not acknowledged there is actually a money problem and commonly would issue checks that would end up bouncing at the end of the day just to make people quiet. Even to this day, how things are currently running is a mystery with the team being remotely scattered.\n\nThe founder is also an old friend of mine, but things have run pretty thin from this experience due to the lack of general respect.\n\nWould you quit and move on? or would you give another chance at trying to continue with this job? I feel like I have already chosen to leave but I am having second thoughts.", "summary": "Founder is a friend, has made some extremely poor leadership decisions and my trust has been hurt. Is there any hope to save this, or should I just find a new job?"}
{"id": "t3_yn9xw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not saying hi to a girl I met on vacation", "post": "It was a 4 day tour to Chicago, August 18-21, around the end of\n\n the first day, I saw this girl in the elevator. I'm not sure what it \n\nwas about her, but when I saw her, I instantly liked her. This \n\nnever happened before, sure I thought some girls were pretty, but \n\nthey never made me feel this way. Along the tour, we even made eye \n\ncontact here and there. With both of \n\nour families around, I thought it would have been a bad idea to \n\napproach her at all. At our last stop in Toronto, I was going to wait \n\nfor her to leave the bus, so I could say hi and introduce myself, but \n\nthen my family pulled me away to go home before I could do \n\nanything. After that, I felt really sad that I never got to talk to her. \n\nTourbus 71 of Taipan Tours.\nIf you're reading this, elevator girl, HELLO\n\nI have a picture of her that my family took of us when we were on a boat, and she was on the side.\nIf you think you know this girl, please tell me, and I'll send you the picture.", "summary": "TIFU by not saying hi to a girl on vacation, and now I'm really sad about it"}
{"id": "t3_lp7bn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Beta--->Alpha?", "post": "So, I already posted this, but I guess nobody noticed it, so here it is again:\n\nReddit, is it possible to become an alpha male? I've been a beta my entire life, no confidence when I'm talking to girls I like, I wait for someOne else to do something before I do it, those types of things. I want to become an alpha because I think it will help me in both social and relational aspects of my life. So, the question is: Can I become an alpha if I have been a beta my whole life, and will people see the change?", "summary": "Too bad."}
{"id": "t3_29edo4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [27/m] pursue a friendship with a girl [24] who didn't want a second a date?", "post": "About a month ago, I went on a first date with a girl I met online. I asked for a second date and was turned down. It was just one date, so I wasn't devastated, but I really did enjoy her company and she sent me a super thoughtful message acknowledging how much we had in common, etc., but that she just didn't feel the romantic connection.\n\nI feel like, because we met on a dating site, becoming friends is sort of stigmatized/strange, whereas if we'd simply met at a park or the gym, becoming friends would of course be a totally normal thing.\n\nI've gone on a number of first dates though the years and never pursued friendships afterward, but I was thinking I might give it a shot this time. How bad of an idea is this?", "summary": "Possible to become friends with girl who didn't want a second date?"}
{"id": "t3_11pb9k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what kinds of wacky cults have your loved ones joined, and how did you handle it?", "post": "One of my best friends has just spent her life savings towards becoming a \"Yoga master\" at a Dahn Yoga Center. The money will go towards various classes and \"Dahn certifications,\" and yet the classes haven't even been scheduled; they basically just took her money with a promise of eventually scheduling the classes. \n\nAt first I was really supportive of her goals, but when she started to talk about saving other people's souls and being superior to anyone who wasn't on a spiritual path, and when I learned about the various law suits surrounding the Center, I began to worry. Apparently there have been numerous law suits in the U.S. alone about psychological, physical, and financial abuses. ( \n\nI hope to be able to talk to my friend and let her know about my concerns, but I know that she will be extremely defensive, shoot me down, and potentially stop talking to me entirely since the yoga masters encourage getting rid of \"all negative influences\" in your life. What kinds of cults have you or your loved ones joined, and do you think it's necessarily dangerous or just a source of (expensive) community?", "summary": "my friend joined a crazy yoga cult and wants to save my soul."}
{"id": "t3_1zgl0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am too needy with my boyfriend [21M]. How can I stop?", "post": "**Background**: I have been dating my boyfriend for half a year - it's my first relationship.\n\nWe get along great when we're with each other (2-3 times a week), and text each other moderately when we're apart. Mostly jokes to make each other laugh. We communicate pretty openly and don't fight. But there's something I don't want to talk about with him.\n\n**Problem**: I'm incredibly needy when we're apart! I constantly wait for his texts and invitations to hang out, and am disappointed when he doesn't for a few or several hours (but he texts me at least a few times everyday). Not only am I disappointed, but I get scared he's losing interest in me! Sometimes I feel offended, like he doesn't put the effort in anymore to talk to me while we're apart. It makes me feel painful, alone, and sad (ugh). But then we meet in person, and everything - having fun, getting work done, the sexy times, talking - is great 90% of the time, with minor bumps here and there. So it's become obvious to me that, because this is my first relationship and I care about him quite a lot, I have become paranoid and overly needy (uggghhhh).\n\nHe's already assured me many times he likes me, and I know that neediness/clingy-ness in any relationship is annoying and tiresome to deal with. Also, breaking up is really sad, but not the end of the world. Still, I can't resolve my feelings. \n\n**Question**: I can't believe I ended up being this type of girlfriend! What can I do to get my bf off my mind all the time, and how can I not be bothered by his lack of texting when he's busy/tired/doesn't have much to say? Has anyone else had this problem?", "summary": "I'm needy and disappointed when my boyfriend doesn't contact me often enough when we're apart. But expecting him to do more to reassure me is just being unreasonable. How can I mentally slap myself to stop these clingy feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_dwzu2", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, I'm freaking out about (getting into) college.", "post": "Obviously not my normal account.\n\nHere's the deal: for various unimportant reasons, I more or less dropped out of high school around tenth grade. Two years of personal but not academic growth later I got my GED and took the SATs, on which I did middlingly (760/610/670 critical reading, math, and writing respectively). \n\nThen some more unimportant things took place, and now it's two years later, and I'm 20 and freaking out about getting into college without guidance counselors, a GPA, or extracurricular activities.\n\nCompounding this is the fact that there is only one college I really want to get into, for mostly financial reasons.\n\nMostly what I'm having trouble with is the admissions essay, in part because I'm really terrible at selling myself, but also because even after reading all sorts of things, I'm still not sure what the essay readers are really looking for. \n\nSo,", "summary": "Can I get into college, at 20, mostly on a good essay? And what constitutes a good essay?"}
{"id": "t3_3b9qmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30F) recently stared dating a very compatible guy(29m). But, he's a complete slob. Do I break it off or confront him?", "post": "He's funny, kind, good in bed, and really smart ( phd in my field of expertise). We can chat all night and to me engaging intellectual conversation with and partner is very important. There are 2 big issues that I'm having trouble with 1) He's fat. If he lost 40lbs, he would be super attractive. But, as it is I'm having trouble being very aroused. I'm in very good shape: I run, rock climb, and surf regularly. I also cook and eat in a very healthy way. Being healthy and taking care of my body is very important to me. Not only is attraction an issue, but he can't keep up with me doing activities that I enjoy. 2) His house is a disaster, there is stuff strewn everywhere and he sleeps on a mattress with ripped sheets on the floor. There are dirty dishes and pizza boxes in the kitchen. \nThe thing is I enjoy his company a lot and physical activity aside, we have tons in common. Is there any way I can tell him that if he wants to be with me he will have to learn how to take care of himself and his house? Or do I just accept that he's not what I'm looking for and move on?", "summary": "awesome guy is fat and messy. Is it a dealbreaker?"}
{"id": "t3_4dn15w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] girlfriend [19 F] of almost two years is constantly degrading herself.", "post": "I know it isn't exactly shocking to hear that a 19 year old girl has low self esteem, but it hasn't been showing any signs of getting better despite my best efforts (i.e. telling her she is beautiful, that I love her, ect. as well as telling her it makes me sad when she says self-degrading things). I am pretty sure she isn't just saying these things to fish for compliments, and she really does have these negative thoughts about herself. Honestly, I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do.\n\nA couple weeks ago, I managed to talk her into seeing a counselor, and she has had one session so far and her second is scheduled soon. (It's worth noting that she does not suffer from clinical depression.) It's still early, but she kind of blows off what the counselor says because she is only going because I asked her to.\n\nI really love this girl, and I want her to be happy, but it's starting to wear me down emotionally. It's really exhausting, and I fear it's beginning to show by me not being as attentive/eager to talk to her as I was in the beginning. Is there anything you guys can think of that I can do to help change her way of thinking?", "summary": "My girlfriend makes self-degrading comments often, what can I do to help her self esteem?"}
{"id": "t3_29o3eh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M/ with my Wife [26/F] 3years confirmation-update", "post": "Where to start? My wife moved out 5 days ago but about three days later called at midnight wanting to come home. I brought her home everything was going as good as can be expected. Then I caught her sexting the same guy I suspected of her texting before. I told her I want a divorce she's trying to blame me say she's been unhappy, sexting isn't cheating etc. I don't want any of it. To me its a deal breaker. Our lease is up in five months I gave her that time to find job/car and another place to live so we can get a divorce.\n\n[Original Post](", "summary": "She cheated. Again. Its over.)"}
{"id": "t3_4ky8b6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] with my girlfriend [25/F] have been together for sever years. Two days ago i broke up with her.", "post": "Two days ago i broke up with her. \n\nThe reasons several. \n\nFirst of all, i don't think i can provide her what she truly deserves. Not for now at least. My feelings have changed dramatically no matter my efforts to keep this relationship.\n\nSecond. I went on a trip about three months ago. I met a girl. We didn;t do anything but we still talk every single day. I know she likes me and she knows i like her. The problem is that there is no potential. The reason i'm saying this is that she leaves in another country about 3000 km away. So that's not the main reason of the break up.\n\nI just think that since this all started( i mean with the new girl) it's better to end the relationship and since my feellings have changed i guess it's the right thing. \n\nCan you provide me some solutions?", "summary": "I broke u with my GF after several years. I don;t know if it was the right thing to do but my feelings have changed. I want to stay alone maybe. Also i'm talking with another girl. Do you think it was the right choice?"}
{"id": "t3_471rxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I respond to family pestering me about finding a spouse? (24F)", "post": "I (24F) am receiving increasing pressure from extended family about why I haven't found a spouse. I have had two long-term boyfriends (each 1.5 - 2 year relationships) in the past 6 years. I've been single for a little over a year now, but dated two guys for a few months each. Nothing panned out.\n\nRight now, I want to focus less on relationships and more on a new job, buying my own house, and starting a part-time graduate program. But no matter how much I explain this, I continue receiving intense pressure from my family (mostly aunts) to find a spouse. I am the middle of 9 cousins - 5 are married, engaged, or in serious relationships, and I am \"next in line.\" \n\nHow do I ignore their opinions or politely tell them to mind their own business? How do I build my internal resiliency?", "summary": "How do you deal with or respond to family who pester you about not having a spouse/serious relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2y5sf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] GF [23F] of 5 months, just got a job a few hours away. Need help on making a LDR work", "post": "So my gf and I have been dating for 5 months and it has been incredible. She is honestly the sweetest, best person I have met, and we just click! I am currently in a crazy part of my schooling where I am constantly busy. She has been amazing with it, has never nagged me when all I could do was come over and study, and for that I am so grateful as school has cost me 2 relationships already.\n\nWell she has been wanting to move to a city 2 hours away from us since I met her, I just never thought it would happen this fast. I have been planning on moving to the same city for about 2 years now, just need to finish my schooling. Well she just got offered a job so will probably be moving in the next few weeks. I am beyond excited for her, but I am stuck here until August at the earliest. After this term my crazy schedule calms down ALOT, so that will let me go and see her.\n\nWe have both talked, and we both love where the relationship is, and want to do the long distance thing until I move to the same city. She has done the long distance thing before and said it was bad, it was a few states away, for a year and a half, and was hesitant to do it again, understandably. We talked and I said I am not 20 hours or more away, I am 2. This isn't for a year and a half with no end it sight, it's until August or september, I have planned to move there as well since before I met her so it wouldn't be me following her. She then sounded much more at ease about the situation. \n\nWhat I am wanting to know is how can I make a LDR work well? I plan on visiting her whenever I get a chance, which is sparingly, but what else can I do? This girl is seriously wonderful so I want to make this as easy for her as possible.", "summary": "Girlfriend is moving 2 hours away, I can't move until late august/early september, what's the best way to make a LDR work in the mean time?"}
{"id": "t3_2e1dno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'd [16 M] hate to have feelings for her [16 F].", "post": "I know, I know, it is generic. We have known each other for about 5 years now, and in that time we have become the best of friends. We've established that no matter what happens in our friendship, that we will never cuddle, kiss, or have feelings for each other. \n\nBut recently we have been communicating non-stop and sometimes I just feel like I may have feelings for this person. But I am afraid to say something about it or point it out in the event that she won't continue being my friend, which is what's more important to me than dating her. We were talking the other day about what we look for in a partner, and I listed some things, (I am [trait], enjoy [verb], and have [noun].) and her response to that was basically, \"But dude, I am [trait], enjoy [verb], and have [noun].\", with the EXACT same things I listed. It made me pause and think that maybe she said that in the hopes I would get a mother fucking hint. But I dunno. She told me she did some stuff with this guy, and for some reason it really set me off.\n\n And now I can't stop thinking about her, but at the same time, I know I shouldn't think about her in this way. I wish I could simply tell her how I feel. It's basic Middle school bullshit, but it's driving me nuts and starting to stress me out. It's like this little guy tugging at my shirt telling me to be sad about it and stuff, telling me to not be able to enjoy my life without her.", "summary": "I'm afraid I'm falling for my best friend, sometimes I feel like she feels the same way but if I told her how I feel, I may lose her as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_3sm16t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my [22 M] 2 month, roommate and I'm sick of him having friends over to smoke weed and use our stuff", "post": "Kind of an unconventional post here, but here it goes:\n\nMy roommate is a guy that smokes a ton of weed at just about any hour of the day. In fact, I heard him fill up his bong at 9 this morning in the sink near my room. I'm cool with him smoking weed, I mean you do you, bud. What I'm not cool with is his blasting music when I'm trying to do work (we share a wall), the awful smell that comes from his room seeping in to mine (again, right next to each other), and the sheer number of people that come over for an indefinite amount of time (the door is literally unlocked so his friends can walk in whenever). These guys use our water at a rate that I'm not okay to split with my roommie at our agreed 50-50 rate. These guys use our toilet paper at a rate that I can't afford and have been stuck in a situation where I've had to hobble out to the drug store to buy more twice so far. These guys order pizza every night and then my roommate makes a big deal when I ask him to buy dish soap or do a fucking chore. In fact, as I was writing this, another guy walked in and he cleared his bong. IM. FUCKING. DONE.", "summary": "Roommate smokes weed with his friends. Super disruptive. Won't pay for anything and makes a big stink about me asking him for help."}
{"id": "t3_1xf5yt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my GF [21] have separated, how do I fill the void?", "post": "Where to start, well she and I were in a long distance relationship for 3 years. She and I got along pretty well up until the last few months (around November of 2013); we constantly fought and couldn't go a day without something going wrong. We called it off mutually, but we decided that we would still have a Christmas visit like we planned. That was a mistake on my part.\n\nSince we had this visit, I felt like we were going to get back together at some point, obviously we didn't. We tried to be friends, but it was too hard on me, it seemed as if she wanted to have me as her boyfriend, with no obligations to each other what so ever. I expressed the need for space more angrily than I would have normally, but every time she would talk to me it was \"I miss you\" or \"I was thinking about you today\". She would say these things to me then remind me that we were never getting back together. Needless to say talking to her kept me feeling sad; having her as a constant reminder of the past of experience I will never have again.\n\nEver since she and I have broken up, I have always felt sad, can't stop thinking about the stuff we used to do together, and of course, how much time I really spent with her on Skype, League of Legends, in person etc. Because of that visit it's been a bit harder getting over her and to be honest, it's driving me wild since I don't have anyone to do anything with or really any hobbies to fill my time.\n\nSo I guess here is my question to you r/Relationships, how do I go about moving on and filling my time? How do I go about dating again? for three years I was used to one person, and now I don't even know how to flirt it feels like.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, need some advice on how to fill time and get back on the dating horse."}
{"id": "t3_25krj4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [19/f] ex-boyfriend [19/m] is a useless tool who is in the process of ruining his life right now and doesn't let anyone help him. I feel partly guilty for this. What do?", "post": "Hi guys! \n\nSo basically, my ex-boyfriend of ~1 year whom I broke up with last december has kind of lost control over his life, I think. \n\nHe started university in fall 2013 in an IT-subject and dropped out after one semester. He basically just stopped going and failed every single one of his exams. Then he basically slept one semester, and with extensive begging and pushing from me, he got back into college in a linguistics/historics major, because we thought it would be a better fit for him. And apparently, (I think around the time when our relationship went down the drain, too) he just stopped going there too, didn't even **attend** a single exam, and now (the semester has started one month ago) doesn't have a lesson plan and has not yet set foot on campus.\n\nNow, I kind of feel bad about this? I mean, I basically chose his major for him this time, and I feel in part responsible for this because I couldn't help him out better. Now, he doesn't speak a word to me, because he claimed I am a \"fat whore who ruined his life\" or something, and all of his friends are tools, too, who don't have the balls to tell him that he's on the best way to become a complete failure in life. \n\nWhat do I do guys? Can I even do anything? Partly, I want him to rot in front of his PC while playing battlefield and masturbating to furry-hentai, but partly, it makes me really sad how he basically wastes his life, and I feel that I should do at least something.", "summary": "Ex-Boyfriend refuses to attend college classes (or exams) for 2 years straight. I left him (partly because of this) and now I feel guilty/bad for him. He doesn't talk to me and I know for a fact that he hasn't set foot on campus for this whole semester. What do? "}
{"id": "t3_27d8fm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (27m) living with my ex-gf (21f) and it's sometimes awkward", "post": "We were together for nearly 5 years, semi long distance for the first four years (I lived about 3 hours away and visited her about twice a month) and lived together the past year.\n\nHer new boyfriend is a 35 year old guy from a different continent who AFAIK hasn't had any relationships before.\n\nShe's for some reason infatuated by him and rational thinking has never been her strong suit. I think she's throwing her life away by pursuing this but she's determined to do it.\n\nWe still sleep in the same bed (not together anymore) and I won't be able to afford moving out for the next couple of months at least.\n\nShe often wants to cuddle still and I'm not sure if this is a good idea. I care about her still but I don't think I'd get back together with her if the opportunity arose (not in the short term anyway, as I feel she has some maturing to do).\n\nI don't really know a lot of people here (moved to a different country to be with her originally) which makes it harder as I don't really have anyone else to hang out with right now.\n\nNot really sure what to do about my situation besides trying to improve my financial situation.", "summary": "living with ex, she still wants physical contact despite being with someone else, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_9d7qj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So Reddit. I'm completely shitfaced, and you're still hung up about that shole Sears thing. Grow a pair and stop being such self-righeousn pricks, and maybe we can change the worl.d. Maybe.", "post": "I've been out for like 6 hours drinking, and I come back, at 3am, to see that a Sears post is still on my front page. If I wanted self righteous shit like this, I'd visit 4chan. At least they do a protest right, all I got on reddit was 20 different puns on the word Sears. Shears, seers, pears, whatever. If you honestly want to make such bullshit posts on a website fueled by advertising by such companies, stop acting like dicks when the parents company behind the advertising doesn't like it when you act like discks, for the sake of beinf dicks, on a related post to the advertising. You want a reddit free of advertising, then start your own andsee how far you get without any monety income. Reddit used to be a fine community of people who understood such shit, but now? I should visit 4chan if I want'ed an intellectual conversation, or Digg if I wanted my point to get across.", "summary": "Get fucked you self righteous pricks who think Reddit owes yous omething."}
{"id": "t3_31jsu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] here. GF [19F] who I've been dating for 2 months is now acting strange. What to do?", "post": "Hello everyone. I've been dating this girl for about two months and I liked her very much (still do). From what I understood she liked me very much too (even maybe more). From the very beginning she was super friendly, almost always texted me first, and so on. She even initiated our first kiss herself. \n\nNow here's the problem. About a week and a half ago she started to act weirdly. When asked why, she said she's exhausted because of the things in her university and lessons at the choir she's singing in. And yeah, she's been really busy, a lot of concerts and blahblah. She also said, that she's sad or something, springtime sadness she called it.\n \n\n6 days ago I asked her (through text, because she has a free week and is at family's home in different city) to tell me if she still liked me or is she tired of me, because I'm not a fan of her being like that. She said, that she's confused, kind of isolated from people or from communication and doesn't know why is she like that.\n\nI was told by her to relax because she's thinking about things and doesn't want to do a mistake and that everything will be clear after that free week of hers. Then I told her \"I kind of sense where this is going. Tell me when you're finished thinking. See you don't know when\". She said \"OK, see you soon\". It's been about 6 days without any contact and that free week is ending tomorrow.\n\nSorry for the long text and for my bad english, but I'm feeling really sad and confused, trying hard not to text her. What should I do? Have anyone ever dealt with something similar? PLEASE HELP.", "summary": "Girl which I really clicked with became distant, strange and said she's confused and doesn't want to do a mistake. No contact for six days. Help please?"}
{"id": "t3_283vfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21m] dated this girl [21f] a while back. She suggested we go out to celebrate. Not sure what exactly this means", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI have just been driving myself crazy and need some advice on what to do. \n\nMe and this girl dated early in the year. Eventually with school and work, we didn't have much time for each other. We still kept in touch, texting here and there sometimes a couple times a week sometimes less. The thing is, I still very much like her. Thats why I kept in touch with her.\n\nShe gets back in town three weeks from tomorrow and said that we can go out and celebrate me graduating this past May. (She had already left for the first part of summer before I graduated.)\n\nI can't figure out if I am supposed to take this as she is being friendly and wanting to be a friend, or if since we never really broke things off that I am supposed to expect this to be more of a date. \n\nThe obvious answer would be to ask her, but that is kind of my last resort and I would ask her when and IF she even goes on with her word. But until then I am left wondering. \n\nI want to think that she knows I like her, so for her to suggest we 'hangout' would actually mean that maybe she wants to pick up where things left off. But woman are fucking more confusing than that.\n\nTD;DR: A girl I dated suggested we go out to celebrate when she gets back at the end of June. I dont know what its supposed to mean.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3ysjk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[M/30] SO[F/41] is having a hard time with her coworkers[F/M-30s,40s,50s] about our relationship.", "post": "I met Sandra at work 6 years ago when I started a new job. She was my manager, and honestly, was kind of bossy and pissy. Over several months of working with her, we got closer, and well it just kind of happened. Eventually FWBs turned into a serious relationship, as we both got closer. She eventually introduced me to her daughter, Haley, who is cool as hell. She is an avid archer, and a gamer. We get along great.\n\nFor four years we had a relationship that was hidden at work, for obvious reasons. I decided that I was going to leave for a different company, so there was no need to hide, and about a year ago I was able to jump to a different company. We have lived together since April.\n\nSince then, people at my former workplace found out about us and have been quite harsh in what they say about it. They chastise Sandra for dating someone a decade younger, they tell her that I am just using her as a toy, they tell her she is a horrible mother for dating someone younger, to be in her own group, call her promiscuous and so on,\n\nWhat hurts me is she has been working with this since June, and just told me over Christmas Holidays. She broke down crying saying she was miserable there and dreaded going back after New Year's Day.\n\nI told her that what they are saying is grossly unacceptable workplace behavior and to report it to HR. She said she doesn't want to rock the boat and is afraid they would fire her for causing trouble. I've told her if they did that then she would be rich from the lawsuit, but she won't do it. She said the only happiness she has is coming home to Haley and I.\n\nI hate seeing her miserable, and I hate that she has been miserable where she works. Is there anything more I can do to help her? Should I contact the company's HR myself, or is that inappropriate? I want to mention that these are coming from people on the same or higher position as her. If it was from people under her, she would certainly have reprimanded them.", "summary": "What can I do to help my SO with her unhappy situation with her coworkers."}
{"id": "t3_2vdth8", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I think I hit my low point....now what?", "post": "I'm am 31 yrs old. I am 5 foot 5 inches and I weigh 250 lbs. I have always  been fat, I have always tried to loose, I'd do 20 or 30 lbs, but then I would gain it back and them some. I am now at my heaviest. I stepped on the scale for the first time in two months today. That was bad enough to swallow. \n\nI am also married and have been for 7 yrs. During my marriage I have went from my lowest 200 lbs, to now my heaviest. My husband has never said anything about my weight. \n\nYou might have heard of the plus size model lately named Tess (Munster) Holiday. She is gorgeous to me. I asked my husband if he thought she was hot (we do this all the time with famous people) and he said she's pretty but too big for him.\n\nThat's when my heart sank. I am the same height as her, only ten lbs lighter, and have the almost the same measurements, the only difference is I am 4 inches smaller in the waist. I didn't say anything because I don't think I am ready for that conversation with him. \n\nI'm at my low point. I don't eat horrible, but I don't eat healthy either. I wish I could say I love vegetables but I don't, I've tried and tried every diet out there. I am not stupid, I know I need to exercise and work out, but I have no motivation. Every time I work out my body hurts, I have arthritist everywhere already and if I don't move it hurts and if I move it hurts more, I know it will get easier over time but its just pushing through it that I lack motivation.\n\nAnyone been here? What did you do? What do I do now? \n\nI am headed to bed, so I will check this in the morning and answer any questions at that time. Thank you in advance to everyone!", "summary": "I hit my low, now how do I get up?"}
{"id": "t3_vvfpk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it always best to save the confrontation/doubts? (4 months relationship)", "post": "Besides what I'm about to say, there is absolutely nothing wrong with our relationship (me 21/m and her, 21/f). I feel there is very strong love between us, and we've pretty much exposed every part of our lives to one another.    \n\nShe's a heavy user (not poster, but rather \"stalker\") of social networks. A lot of the time she quickly \"homescreens\" when I look at her using her phone, where I'd catch a glimpse of Facebook/Instagram. When using my PC/iPad, she'd sometimes clear the brower history after use.    \n\nIn a relationship where we've agreed to be open about everything, I just find this little thing biting away at me.    \n\nShould I just feign ignorance since nothing is wrong? Or should I confront her about it?", "summary": "GF likes to cover her tracks/generally secretive when using social networks. However, nothing wrong is with our very open-to-each-other relationship so far. Should I confront her?"}
{"id": "t3_1fai74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] don't know how to talk to my parents about my depression, how can I tell them I need help?", "post": "So yeah, like the title says, I'm a 17 year old girl who's been struggling with depression for somewhere around a year now. I like to think that it's mild, and that I really don't need help, but my boyfriend's been telling me since I told him about it that I need to go talk to a doctor or a therapist.\n\nMy wakeup call happened about a month ago, when my group of girlfriends cut me off for being distant. I deserved it, but I'd thought that it wasn't bad enough for them not to forgive me. I was wrong. I'm still not over that loss, really, but that's not what I'm here to talk about.\n\nI don't want to lose any of the other people I care about. At this point, the only people I'm that close with that I have left are my boyfriend and a few other people that were willing to give me a second chance at being a good friend. I told all of my remaining friends about how I feel, and many of them were surprised. I guess I put a better \"happy face\" on than I'd thought, which is going to be a problem when it comes to talking to my parents. But I have to; it's finally time for me to climb out of this hole. I want to get better, for all of the people who still think I'm worth something.\n\nHere's where I run into some issues. My parents, bless them, have believed that I'm a generally happy person who's unconcerned with how things affect me and is also pretty introverted. They have no idea that I've thought about killing myself, but they do know about the sudden loss of my best friends. How can I tell them that their happy, quiet daughter is actually depressed, and has been hiding it from them for a year?", "summary": "Been depressed for a year, lost a group of close friends because of my distance. Don't want to lose any more, but still a minor, so I need to tell my parents that I want to get on meds...problem is, I don't know what to say. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_32qqeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] wondering how to proceed with asking out a girl [16F]", "post": "Okay, so I'm not really the kind of guy who's too open about feelings and relationships and all that, but there is this girl who I see at school and sit next to in class that I really like.\n\nWe share one class together, sit next to each other and often have conversations. We don't really see each other outside of class, walking in the halls and all that, but when I walk into class and sit down, she will ask me how I am and I will return the question. She seems generally cheerful to see me, but I don't know if this is in a romantic way or if I'm just being hopeful. \n\nI really like her and would like to ask her on a date, but I'm not sure how to proceed. I know how to cook and was considering asking her to dinner (and then cooking said dinner). I also have had no previous relationships so I'm not sure if this is a good thing to do (dinner), and I'm not sure how to ask her. Help me please.", "summary": "Girl I share a class with and have a friendly relationship with. I want to ask her to dinner (my cooking), but I don't know if I should or how to ask. 1st potential girlfriend. Super nervous. Help."}
{"id": "t3_mbffe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help/advice - how do you cope with the sense of loss over the threat of 'breaking up' with your best friend? (xpost from /r/AskReddit)", "post": "Basically, over the course of the last 6 months or so, I've slowly started to come to the realization that we may just not really have much commonality between us anymore. It seems we pretty much subscribe to different philosophies for almost everything, and while in the past 15 years this has never been a problem, lately it has been escalating. Part of me wonders if I'm just being the asshole that can't just overlook the differences anymore, but she's become increasingly defensive of her viewpoints even when no argument is taking place (partly catalyzed by her boyfriend whose philosophies are exactly in line with hers, so even when it's just the two of us hanging out it feels like a two-on-one - and I know part of my feelings from this are jealousy). I am just deeply disturbed by the idea of losing her as a friend due to some what SHOULD BE insignificant differences and I'm feeling more depressed than ever since that last big argument. I could go on and on but seeing as this probably won't even be read by anyone, I'll keep the details for later if there is actual interest.", "summary": "I need help figuring out how to cope with sense of loss from the fact that my long time best friend and I are slowly \"breaking up\""}
{"id": "t3_1k6pt8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[15M] and best friend[15M] are trying to help my whipped brother[17M]", "post": "My brother (let's call him Robbie) has been dating this girl-\"Bri\"- for the last few months. He just came off a breakup with the girl he's liked since 5th grade, so I thought he was on a downstring.\n\nBut no. She's hot. Like, REAL hot. The problem is, we're starting to realize she's a manipulative bitch. My mom didn't like her from the start- her introduction to Bri were two hickeys on Robbie's neck, which he claimed he \"asked for\". He's  bought her brother and her concert tickets and shoes with his hard earned cash(He's probably spent $600 on this girl). The breaking point came last night, when she told him that the shoes he bought were \"fake\". She preceded to get her brother on the line and talk shit about the shoes he bought. They sent him pictures of the shoes compared to other shoes that were CLEARLY different shoes, but the damage was done. My brother, strong as he is, has had past brushes with insecurity in the past, and he nearly went back to the outlet where he bought the shoes to return them (the shoes were $300 and the outlet is 2 hours away).\n\nMy friend \"Brock\" and I deduced that they are the shoes are very much legit, and Robbie is pretty upset about the whole thing. Every comment she puts on his FB is an insult, and this has been the last straw.\n\nBrock and I think he should break with her (or at least firmly establish a relationship that is respectful and mutually generous), and ended up drafting a more confrontational text than the original that Robbie sent. This lead to a whole new dialog, where she insincerely apologized- though we can't be sure since it's a text- and is now pleading with him to just leave it alone. He's talking to her on the phone privately now. I don't think he'll go through with it, but either way, did Brock and I do the right thing?\n\nSorry for the spelling- this is my first post on reddit.", "summary": "Big bro is whipped by attractive bitch gf, best friend and I end   push for confrontation"}
{"id": "t3_2gsg1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] got a suspicious message from my girlfriend [22F].", "post": "Just 3 days ago I got a message from my girlfriend in the lines of \"come sleep over\" after I had gone home for the night. When I asked her about it, she acted surprised and said that she didn't send that message and that she sent me a completely other message. I checked and she has never sent a message like that to me before during the 8 months we've been together.\n\nI confronted her about it and she accused me of hurting her by insinuating that, but honestly I don't know what to do from here. Any advice?", "summary": "Girlfriend sent me a message and claims that she didn't send it, I'm hurt and suspicious."}
{"id": "t3_46dqef", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "I have a very...strange set of symptoms.", "post": "Hi everybody! First time on this sub, I hope you guys can help. \n\nOkay, this is really random.\n\nI'm a 24 year old Caucasian male living in New Zealand. Now, I have these random, very occasional bouts of tiredness. I could be at work, or at uni, or anywhere, and I will begin yawning and my eyes feel heavy. I also feel quite cold all over.\n\nThe weirdest bit though, is that every time I have one of these bouts of tiredness, I always get a full-on, rock-hard boner. However I am not aroused at all when this happens, so it is uncomfortable and slightly sore. These bouts often last for about ten minutes before they wear off and I return to normal and my flag lowers.\n\nI have no idea why the hell this happens, it is really weird and embarrassing. It is probably something pretty simple, but I would be interested if anyone here has any idea what it could be. I appreciate your time.", "summary": "Cold, bonerific bouts of sleepiness."}
{"id": "t3_egsam", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "R_A, please help me figure this out this guy's odd behavior!", "post": "Firstly, he's 30; I am 25 (girl).  Every time we DID hang out it was for hours and we had expressed explicitly to each other that we liked the other.  We kissed on our first date that lasted about 4 hours (!). ever since then it's been long dates and affection.  We live about an 1.5 hrs away from each other.  This all crumbled in September -- one night we hung out for an hour or so but he had to leave after we ate and the whole vibe of it was COMPLETELY different. I felt like I was hanging out with a friend not someone I was dating. I was too afraid to say anything because I guess I was afraid of what he was going to say. We ended up just hugging at the end--didn't say anything about it.  He called me the next day to apologize for behavior and said he was stressed out with work, etc.  Well, ever since then I have not seen him. at all. In fact, we used to text a few times a week (just here and there - telling something funny or updating) and now it is only ME texting a question and him just with one or two word responses. I feel like I am dealing with a completely different person! What happened? I already confronted him about it saying something along the lines if you are not interested just tell me - and he said \"oh no no, just a lot on my place with work, etc - meant to write you\" -- but he never followed up? I don't want to appear like I am desperate and I have been waiting weeeeeks to hear from him. nothing.\nFYI the furthest we did was kiss - no sex; we never officiated anything but did both recognize that we were dating; he's met my friends; talked about how we'd visit each other. seemed really genuine about it. \nSO - my question is: what kind of person does this? I guess he just strung me along and something happened (met someone else?) and decided to just stop talking instead of just being an adult about it and telling me? He is fucking 30 years old! I am very very surprised by this behavior!! Has anyone else experienced this before?", "summary": "dated 30 y/o guy for a few months then went completely silent. denies not being interested. but has been silent. lazy way of getting out of it? anyone else experienced this? seeems very immature for 30 year old. "}
{"id": "t3_20tscv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my now exboyfriend_ [25 M] of a year and a half, my anxiety drove us 3,000 miles apart", "post": "I met Q, my wonderful but unfortunately now ex boyfriend while living in London during my MA degree.  We had half our relationship long distance, then the other in extremely close quarters without jobs or a real support system while living in London and Canada.  Things were amazing but I always had an intense fear I was going to lose it all. \n\n I have had trouble becoming too dependent on relationships in the past and I think it has to do with my father.  He is an alcoholic to the point where he was hospitalized after nearly dying from alcohol poisoning last year.  We lost my mom to a seven year battle with brain cancer when I was 15, and he never got over it.  He blames himself for her disease even.  I moved to London to get away from all of this, and went running into the arms of Q.  When we were on our own for months, we could only turn to each other for support and the pressure of not being able to find jobs weighed over us like a black cloud.  I cried nearly every day for the fear I would have to go back home.\n\nIn the end, thats what I have done.  My father is even worse than before, with memory loss and irrational anger towards me. He wants to die.   I'm not safe here and will be moving in with a friend soon.  But leaving Q was literally the hardest thing I have ever done in my whole life.  I am in such excruciating pain from our breakup and so is he.  He and I both cried for days before I left. \n\nAm I doomed to have failed relationships because of my dependency and anxiety?  I want to reconcile with my father but his brain is so deteriorated that he's gone already.  I just am on my third day of taking prozac so I hope that tamps down my irrational anxiety.  I'm afraid that I am so used to bad things happening, I become overwhelmed with fear during the good times, that it will all come crashing down.  I just want to be happy, and I want to be back with Q.  He and I are two different nationalities and are now living 3,000 miles apart.  My heart is broken.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2mipxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] and my new girl I'm dating [26F] (3 months): she won't stop talking about her past sex life", "post": "Sorry about the throwaway, I'm a regular.\n\nI'm recently out of a long relationship, and as a result, I'm not exactly a player. I'm friendly and outgoing, though, so I've not had a problem meeting women. At the same time, I don't enjoy one-night stands (never have) so I don't really have a long list of notches on my bedstand.\n\nThat said, I met a girl in a completely random way a few months ago (sorry for the vagueness, but trust me, it was comically bizarre) and we both got drunk and went home to my place. We didn't have sex because I didn't want to, but we got along heroically and started dating like normal people. She's a really awesome woman.\n\nShe just can't stop talking about the other guys she's fucked. She got out of a bad relationship many years ago and ended up (her words) being a slut for a while. Which honestly isn't really a huge deal to me. I'm an adult, I know that anyone I date is going to have a \"sexual history\" that's not any of my business.\n\nI just don't want to hear about it. I really have no interest in hearing about the all dudes she got drunk and fucked. I've brought this up to her and she says she'll stop, but it's continued to happen, and it bothers me.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? Is this something I need to get over, or is it OK for me to ask her not to talk about this?", "summary": "new girl keeps talking about former partners, I don't like it. Is it OK for me to be bothered?"}
{"id": "t3_yq7bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being a bad girlfriend by not dishing out enough hubba hubba?", "post": "Hi all, Throwaway here, I'll try and cut the bulk out for you.\n\nMy boyfriend of a year (24) and I (25) have quite different libidos. \nWhen we first got together I do admit that I was all in sexy wise, pretty caught up in the flush of a new relationship, and he was loving it.\n\nNow, If I don't sex him at least 3-4 times per week he gets frustrated and angry at me, and a bit abusive during the day over txt. He txts me some pretty rough things, such as \"Just f*ck me already\" and \"Just put your c*nt out\". It's kind of disgusting and a turn off, which upsets me because I want him to be happy. I quite regularly get told I'm boring in bed and that we are a boring couple.\n\nHave I lost interest in him? no. But I do feel like my libido has waned since the first flush of us. \n\nWhenever we reconcile it's always along the lines of me saying \"sorry, I'll try harder\", and him saying \"I guess I just need to deal with you having a lower sex drive than me\".. but always tops it off with \"You're not the girl I fell in love with\".\n\nI do admit I can get busy some evenings, and I am tired quite a lot but I do try and make sure I put an effort in because I want him to be happy.\n\nOh by the way, he also never initiates, and never engages in foreplay. So basically, if I don't initiate it, I'll get in trouble for not having sex enough. \n\nMy question is, do you think I should just suck it up and come at him every day, even if I don't feel like it? I understand that it takes two to tango so I'm trying to get some perspective on what I should do.", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks we don't have enough sex and gets a bit angry about it."}
{"id": "t3_j7aim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend is trying to stick his dick in crazy. The crazy mentioned is myself. Please tell me how to stop him.", "post": "Throwaway, because my main account is known to people in RL who should probably remain ignorant of this. Large amount of text to follow:\n\nI am 19, female. He is 20. We have known each other since elementary school and were best friends starting in junior high. We have a great relationship and are mutually supportive. However, he has recently been expressing an interest in me that I do not reciprocate.  \n\nHe's constantly touching me, bringing up the topic of sex (porn he's watched, asking what I like, etc.), and joking that he can't wait to sleep with me. When I came out as lesbian, he thought I was lying to make him stop, which was completely untrue. This makes me uncomfortable, to put it lightly, and I've asked him to cease and desist numerous times, but he always sort of shrugs it off. \n\nHere's the summary of my brand of crazy: I am diagnosed with rapid-cycling bipolar I disorder, which is the mental equivalent of getting every STD at once. I've been dealing with it for most of my life now and the meds give me an ultra-low sex drive. I also have a massive aversion to being touched because of physical abuse in my youth. I do not come to my friend with my emotional problems; that's what my therapist is for, and I don't want to burden him. He knows the details, but he has never personally witnessed an episode because I am always doped up.\n\nHe kind of presses all my buttons in the wrong way. Last time I rejected him, he threatened to 'deprioritize' me on his list of friends, saying that if we weren't taking this relationship any further then he didn't want to invest so much time in it. He apologizes afterwards but I do feel scared and sort of lost. \n\nReddit, he is literally my only friend and I don't want to lose him. More importantly, I don't want to lead him on. I'm not ready for a relationship of any sort - I have uni and personal demons to face. How can I get him to back off and stop trying to stick his dick in crazy?", "summary": "I am a lesbian with low sex drive and personal space issues. My only friend is hitting on me and this makes me sad. Please tell me how to gently dissuade him without alienating him forever."}
{"id": "t3_emcvb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, if you were 20 and mostly on your own what would you do in my situation?", "post": "I've been going to community college with intentions of transferring to a 4 year as soon as I get a grip on what I want to study. Took Fall semester off to move out and get everything together and now Spring semester is about to start. I'd like to go back to school and get the transfer coursework over with considering I need 12 hours to be eligible. While trying to plan out how I'll pull this off, my parents have suggested to me that I move back to the town where my father lives and works (which is small and quite dead) and go to school there. He has offered to pay all my expenses but the catch is I'd have to study towards a technical career rather than transfer coursework. They've explained to me that they believe after a year and a half of technical career classes I'll be able to better support myself while studying what I want at a university. Part of my dilemma is that I don't have interest in spending a year and a half studying to be an x-ray tech. \nI have until Friday to either go ahead and register for the prereq course or plan out how I'll be able to make it on my own.\nI mentioned in the title how I'm most on my own and I mean mostly as in: I don't pay car insurance, I pay a third of the monthly car payment, and 100 of my rent is paid for by my parents, and tuition at least for Fall and Spring 09-10. Everything besides the aforementioned is paid by me which is:food, gas, utilities, rest of rent. Maybe I'm not being rational but I feel like I'll be making a mistake by moving to study something I don't have complete interest in just so I can keep the support of my parents. If I were to decline the offer I would be giving up a car I pay a third of and the 100 dolalrs for rent therefore I would have to find a room mate and move further into the city where I can easily reach public transportation or bike to work. \nSo what I'm mainly asking, what would you do in this situation?\n\nI would put a \"", "summary": "but I'm not even sure how to sum it up."}
{"id": "t3_2mqq6x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] she [16/f] likes me but the feeling isn't mutual", "post": "We met in freshman year of high school (I'm a junior now), but at the end of the year, she and her parents ended up moving to Italy (her dad is a contractor for the military or smth). We were really close when she lived in town, and were \"dating\", except for the fact that we never really acknowledged that were were a couple, because we were awkward high school freshman. \n\nFlash forward about 18 months, we've kind of drifted apart, and we only really talk occasionally (once or twice a month). She recently told me that she would be visiting our town over christmas break, and asked if I had wanted to go out on date with her while she's here. I kind of seized up and offered a noncommital \"Eh, not sure, I'm pretty busy\", because I'm scared to say no. Not because of the fact that I think she'll spiral into a cesspool of sadness and cutting and depression, but because I want to be friends, but no more. I don't know how to tell her no. I just want to be friends, nothing more.", "summary": "How to let someone down gently?"}
{"id": "t3_2bxkxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] broke up with my girlfriend [29 F] of 3.5 years. After living together for 6 months she's moving back to her hometown interstateand I'm worried I made the wrong decision.", "post": "After being together for about 4 years and 3 breakups duing the relatonship, this time I broke it off 'for good' over the same reasons as the others; I'm a uni student with an unpredictable academic career who doesn't know what he wants from life and work/really want to travel and she's a lot older than me and is changing the way she sees her future life because of me, eg being away from her family and living with me in a big city (Melbourne, AUS), and putting off wanting kids and marriage when I know she really wants it.\n\nSo I broke up with her in the jerkiest way - breaking the lease on our house and pretty much forcing her to pay a lot of money to move and basically I abandoned her in this city where she only has friends and work colleagues to rely on, where I have my whole life and family here. So after a period of maybe 6-8 weeks we have only been talking through txt about house related issues and sometimes breakup stuff. \n\nI started seeing a girl for random sex and I felt that I had become cold to my broken relationship and that I had everything under control and was able to let her go easily.\n\nThen last night we had goodbye sex in a hotel room and spent the night together and she just got on a plane home and I'm breaking down, I miss her so much and she's so low on her life she thinks she'l never meet anyone in her home town. Now all the progress I made in the last few weeks is gone and I have no idea what to do. The move interstate is such a final thing, It would be so hard for her to come back.\n\nIs this one of those love conquers all moments?", "summary": "Broke up with my long-term girlfriend after ongoing problems, successfully distanced myself from the breakup, then we had goodbye sex and she just moved interstate and now I don't know if I've made a stupid decision and want to contact her so badly. What the hell do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dr4zn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Being pushed to quit my job", "post": "I have a job that was just supposed to be for the summer, they knew from when I started a few months ago but I wasn't getting the hours I needed from there so I applied somewhere else too so I would have around 20 hours a week. My manager seemed fine with it but just needed the person that does scheduling to know that I'll only stay there on weekends. I was told later that day they that I don't have tomorrow off or a week off to go on vacation with my family. They knew I needed these days off at least a month ago and they said it was fine that I can't come in. They also wanted to transfer me closer to where I'm going to school which would be fine but they want to do it now and I can't drive 45 minutes a day to work a 4 hour shift at most. The other place I applied to knew that I would be working two jobs and I think they called in to the store as a reference to see what kind of worker I was because they also knew where I applied to without me telling them the name of the other place. I feel like they gave me a bad reference because I haven't heard back from the second place yet. Should I quit before they transfer me too far away and won't be able to show up and get fired?", "summary": "Feel like I'm being pushed to quit my job because I was looking for a second job to get more hours before school starts"}
{"id": "t3_2m2pcb", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for other work after only being in the job less than two months!", "post": "(18M) Started working in a cinema recently. I like my coworkers and get along well enough with management. My only issue is that my hours conflict heavily with college and my social life, where I could be in work until 1AM when I have to get up at 7:30AM that morning, leading to me being tired and unfocused in college. Management are utterly inflexible on this, you must be available to close on any given day to keep your job.\n\nI'm also working hours that conflict with my social life, working in other people's free time, meaning I haven't been out with my friends anywhere near as much as I'd like to. I'm always working Friday and Saturday nights, and it's starting to grate on me.\n\nFor this reason, I've started looking for other work, in retail preferably. I'd love to be able to guarantee that I'll be home at 10 or 11 each night, and I'd happily sacrifice my weekend days if my nights were free.\n\nMy main concern is how this would look on my CV. Working in this cinema is my first proper job I earned without connections. On my CV I have years of experience in our families' business, but the businesses' name is my surname, so I don't believe potential employers will trust it. Aside from this, my work experience on my CV is all very short-term(< 3 months).\n\nAm I being immature/too quick to look at changing jobs? Will this look bad on my CV?", "summary": "Want to change jobs because undesirable hours, will this colour my CV?"}
{"id": "t3_3ya4an", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] is mad at my girlfriend [31 F] for egoism. Do I overreact?", "post": "We spent Christmas time at our own families and agreed that I would drive 3 hours to her after I did the same route on 23rd from her to my place. \n\nShe went out with friends to party last night and I asked her to not go completely crazy so when I drive another 3 hours on 2nd day of Christmas, we can spend some time. Turns out she came home completely drunk at 6:30 am. I just feel really mad and I can't help it. \n\nI find this to be very egoistic as I sacrifice time with my family and friends just to be with her while she stayed full time with her family and on top got super drunk at the school reunion.\n\nI am planning not to drive there today and spent at least one more day with my family but I would want to do this mostly because I want to show her I am mad.\n\nShould I not got today and wait another day as some sort of punishment or go anyways?\n\nThis is not how I imagined Christians to be :/ \n\nThank you and merry Christmas.", "summary": "GF reacted egoistically and went out party like crazy while I make sacrifices and try to drive to her on christmas. Should I not go see her today but only go tommorow?"}
{"id": "t3_2oc23s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My favorite NSV thus far...", "post": "So, 32/f 5'11 SW:488 CW: 380, long time lurker, first time poster. I'm excited to report I have just re entered the realm of plus size clothes, versus \"extended plus size\" and it is magical.  I feel like I can finally dress like a human female born in the current century again, and am able to select things based on my actual likes and taste instead of what is the least amount of wrong and sad.  It is amazing how  just thinking you look good can be a giant boost to mood and attitude. \n\nSince the end of July, when I finally felt like I was ready to get my shit together and change the way I was living, I've had a lot of victories, both scale and non-scale and a lot of change as well. I honestly can say for the first time in my adult life, I'm living my life and making forward progress instead of being mired in a lot of ugliness from the past, emotional baggage, denial, self hatred and excuses.... And it feels pretty fucking great. \n\nSo:", "summary": "lost 108 pounds since summer, found new happier pants."}
{"id": "t3_atcjf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are people apathetic towards the things that directly affect them (politics), while being obsessed with totally pointless things (television, Twilight, etc.)", "post": "None of my friends want to register to vote, because they \"just don't see the point\" (?? what the fuck, I see EVERY point in becoming a voter). One of my coworkers brags that she has never opened a single letter from our union or that she doesn't know any of the terms of our contract.\n\nIn the interest of full disclosure, I'm a senior in high school, so you could just attribute it to youthful naivete, but come on, these kids are the people who will be running the country in 30 years! Trying to start a discussion on health care with them is equally infuriating. I can only get responses of \"hurr i dont see why i should give a shit about it\". How about, because it will directly affect you in 5 years time??", "summary": "people are morons."}
{"id": "t3_3xvx9g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/m] am confused about where my relationship with her [18/f] is headed.", "post": "We met through a friend about 2 months ago, and immediately hit it off. We texted non-stop and would meet up when classes got out to hang out until midnight. Things between us were pretty light, mostly jokes and videogames. Occasionally we would go on dates, and often she would sleep over. We kiss regularly, and have had sex a few times.\nHowever, she has some pretty serious depression issues, and when these hit she grows very distant and quiet (not wanting to make plans, not responding to text). This i can understand and I try to be as supportive as possible when she is going through them. After a few days she normally returns to her cheerful self and then we get right back into things.\nBut for over a week now she's been very short with me, and she canceled the things we had planned for this month. The kicker here is that she has been socially active, even talking to my friends. As far as I can tell, she's just ignoring me at this point. I know she still values my opinion to some point, because a few nights ago she told me something she felt guilty about, and it was something she hadn't told anyone else (it wasn't related to me), but then it immediately went back to silence.\nI'm just confused as to if I should keep going after her if she seems to be wanting to get a way. For extra info, her last relationship was a disaster (he cheated on her multiple times), and I'm not sure if she ever got over it.", "summary": "Girl i was causally dating started distancing herself as I tried to advance the relationship. I backed off a bit, but I think the damage has been done. Lately she's been ignoring me completely, except i do know that she still has some feelings for me, but is probably too scared to enter another relationship. Currently it's been 3-4 days since i've sent her anything."}
{"id": "t3_30ap0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my bf [28M] 8months, he wants to take it slow, and I do too, but I feel my clock ticking", "post": "We met 7 years ago, had a short sweet fling. Met again last year, and its been amazing since day one. I wanted to get serious the first time around, but distance made it hard. Now we're best friends in love. But he still has some commitment issues. We talk about the future, having kids and how it will be, but I feel like that for him, its far far in the future, but for me its in a few years. I work at sea, and I really wish I could keep doing it forever, but Im afraid that I will regret not having kids sooner if I wait too long. I dont want to be 85 when I get grandkids. I also want to build a strong relationship before that time, so its not going to happen anytime soon. So my problem is, I want to keep this happy fun relationship for years before having kids, but Im starting to feel like Im running out of time. Im afraid Ill end up like a cliche - 30 year old woman scaring off a man for wanting too much too soon. And Im afraid that if we actually get too serious too soon, we will miss out on lots of fun stuff that childfree couples do together. I cant help but think how much easier it would be if things had worked out better the first time, we wouldnt have this pressure. And Im jealous of my friends that have been with their SO since their early twenties. I feel like we have missed out on years of fun. Having small children seems like a lot of work for any couple, and I feel like we're far from ready for it. But I also feel a little bit pathetic, because I should by now be ready to give up my freedom. Am I immature? Does anybody have any advice?", "summary": "Not ready for kids, but feel like I should be"}
{"id": "t3_37c8yd", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "IUD Experience?", "post": "Hello everyone. I am a 22 year old male and my 21 year old girlfriend of ~9 months has decided to begin IUD birth control. We have done research on it and along with her Gynecologist she has decided that this is the direction she wants to go. \n\nShe is getting the procedure done today and I'd like to do something nice for her when shes all finished. Does anyone have any experience with IUD's and the procedure associated? I want to know what to expect after the procedure. I know she will be sore and can expect some cramping, but are there any pieces of advice you may have for me as her boyfriend? Any snacks you desperately wanted, over-the-counter things that you HAD to have, etc? I appreciate any feedback about possible gifts/goodies for her or the procedure itself.", "summary": "My girlfriend is getting an IUD today. What can I expect as a boyfriend and what could I do for her to make today better?"}
{"id": "t3_m39x5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Serious question time: should I keep my current job or get something else?", "post": "I'm a truck driver, and usually make a pretty good living. But I just moved to a new town and had a hard time getting work because as a driver, most companies prefer to hire someone who \"knows\" the area.\n\nI got a job with this person who owns one truck and has a single contract for that truck. When he hired me he told me I would have work coming out my ears, but it's been over three months and work has actually slowed down. And it doesn't look like he's trying very hard to drum up more work.\n\nMoneywise, He pays me enough to cover my bills, but that's it. BUT keep in mind some days I don't work at all and I usually average about 3 hours worth of actual work per day when I do work so in fairness I'm getting the better part of the deal.\n\nBut here's the thing. I believe he's starting to have money troubles as all I can get from him for gas is 100 dollars at a time. And this time he didn't put the money into my bank account until I pestered him for it today.\n\nAnd it was from a different family members account too.\n\nSo should I confront him about it, or just give him two weeks notice right now and look for something better. Keep in mind I actually like the guy for a boss and have had no problems at all with him work wise. And he has paid me promptly and on time so far. I just found the use of someone else's bank account a red flag to me", "summary": "my current boss may be having money troubles. should I talk to him about it or abandon ship even though I have no problems with him."}
{"id": "t3_1jhtr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25F] want to break up with my SO [23M] of 2 years but I'm broke and don't have many options.", "post": "So we dated long distance for a year, then I moved, and now we have lived together for a year. I think it's a pretty standard case of me finding out that we're actually not compatible. There are no glaring problems, I'm just increasingly not happy in the relationship as a whole and I know I would be much happier single.\n\nThe problem is that I don't have any money. When I first moved, I couldn't find a job for 6 months. The city I moved to has one of the highest unemployment rates in the country and despite a university degree and literally hundreds of applications, it took me a long time to finally find a part-time job in retail. During those 6 months, I used up all my savings even though my SO paid for the majority of the expenses. He can afford it since he has a very high paying job.\n\nNow I've reached the point where I've paid off my debt but just don't have the savings to live on my own. My city just happens to also be one of the most expensive places to live and I'm starting school again in the fall. I just can't figure out what my options are. My family doesn't live in the same place and I have commitments where I am so I can't just move back home.\n\nI've been keeping up appearances in my relationship for a couple months now but it's not fair to my SO and it's draining for me. What on earth should I do?", "summary": "I want to end my relationship with my live-in SO but I don't have the money to live on my own."}
{"id": "t3_3due2f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while going for a movie", "post": "This is my first post in /r/TIFU, so please bear with me.\n\nLike your regular FU, this takes place few hours back. The scene is i'm waiting for my parents to get out the house and i'm running a bit late for a movie. So in my anxious wait. i decide to speed up things a little by taking the car (rented one) out of the porch and outside the gate to minimize anymore delay (Mistake 1). So while reversing, i noticed one corner was a bit too close to the gate so i asked my watchman to stand there and see if its all good. I see him through the mirror and he signals me saying it's all good, so i happily continue reversing (Mistake 2). After a few seconds, i hear a breaking sound, immediately stopped the car and got out to see one half of the bumper guard (an additional bumper infront of the main car bumper) broke off as it got caught in the gate while reversing which i couldn't see. Hearing the breaking sound, my dad comes out and sees the bumper, and hasn't said a word about it yet. I googled the replacement bumper and it costs around $140. My dad and I are not exactly on good terms so i don't know how or when he is going to react and i'm still in college, so I can't exactly pay for the damages.", "summary": "Running late for a movie, ended up breaking a $140 rented car bumper, dad hasn't said a word, Mindfuck"}
{"id": "t3_u9pcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend and I are away from each other for the summer. Even though I trust her fully, I still get these feelings of angst and fear that the relationship will not last. Help?", "post": "My girlfriend (19) and I (19/m) have been dating for 5 months now. I was given this awesome opportunity to work as an intern halfway across the country for the whole summer, from May 18 - August 25. I took the offer. My girlfriend and I have a very stable and happy relationship but we have never been away from each other for more than a week. Now we are away from each other for 3 months. We either text, call, or skype on a daily basis.\n\nMy girlfriend is incredibly beautiful and there are obviously guys who take interest in her. Sometimes these guys still pursue her even though they know that shes dating me. I don't believe my girlfriend is much of a flirt and she draws the line where it needs to be drawn. I have FULL trust in her. Bottom line: I have NO apparent reason to doubt her or have any fear of losing her because we constantly communicate and are honest with each other.\n\nLadies and gentlemen, I love this woman. I could potentially see myself spending the rest of my life with her. I don't understand why I still have these feelings and fears that I will lose her even though i put my FULL trust in her. I have talked to her about this and she has told me that she sometimes has the same exact feelings of insecurity about me being with other women even though she puts her full trust in me. Have any of you experienced this? What can I/we do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are halfway across the country from each other for 3 months. I still have fears that the relationship wont last even though I have no reason to feel that way and put my FULL trust in her."}
{"id": "t3_3063hx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (19 m) being too controlling of my gf (18 f)", "post": "Hey reddit friends. I need some help. \nSo there my (now ex) girlfriend moved into New highschool. She didn't move houses just schools. There was this boy that ended up befriending her on every social media. FB, Instagram, Twitter.  He began liking a lot of her pictures and she liked a few of his. I asked about him, and she said she didn't know him but was just returning the favor to be nice. I didn't think much of it. \n\nFast forward until about 2 days ago. I saw a text pop up on her phone, and it was the same guy. They weren't talking about cheating or anything, just hey what's up and stuff. So I talked to her about it and she ended up telling me that she actually did know him and and talked to him a few times. She told me she thought he was cute, and that he told her friend he liked my girlfriend. so I asked her to unfriend him on everything and she agreed. She did. \n\nToday I saw she again friended him again. I asked her ABout why she did that and she got extremely mad. I told her I was not okay with this given what she has told me and She said to me that \"I don't get to fucking decide what she does\". And then she called me an inconsiderate controlling asshole. I told her we wanted different things in a relationship. \n\nWas it wrong of me? Or was she just not caring about my feelings. Was communicating with this one guy so important that out whole relationship is over? Reddit help me. Was I in the wrong for being controlling? We were dating for 9 months. Was I right for calling off the relationship?", "summary": "idk if I am being too controlling of my gf, or is she is not caring about how I feel after lieing to me."}
{"id": "t3_2a6n3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 2 months, her mother is not acting like a mother should.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now since the 4th, and the relationship between her and I is wonderful. We get along extremely well, and love each other very much. \n\n-\n\nShe has had a hard past, and even present. Her father left the family when she was young, and she hates every thought of him. Her mother had to support her two daughters for many years working many jobs, which led to not much one-on-one with her loved ones. All of my girlfriends life she has been scarred by past events and it has left her a very sensitive person which I completely respect.\n\n-\n\nHer mom remarried to a different man and they had 3 more children, so the total is 5 living in one household. Financially they are stable, but sometimes not everyone gets along and the love often feels distant for her (my girlfriend). \n\n-\n\nHer moms attitude towards her is usually very negative, and they even physically take it out on each other - her mother starting most of the trouble. She takes most of her anger out on my girlfriend which I am less than okay with. She shames her, hits her, and is the main cause of her mild depression. \n\n-\n\nOverall, the relationship between my girlfriend and her mother is growing distant and she is actually scared of her. Her mom puts her down on almost every occasion, and makes her feel like everything bad and terrible that has happened to her is her fault. I love my girlfriend to death and only want to see things get better for her.", "summary": "girlfriend is in hateful relationship with her mother, and can't even see her; only want to improve their relationship so we can move on and make my girl happier"}
{"id": "t3_egkbs", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, I need your help... I almost walked in on my live-in GF cheating...", "post": "Throw away account here. Im going to make as short as I can because I am too broken up to even sit at my computer right now, Its been a real rough night. So last night me and and my gf of 3 years who I live with decided to do our own thing. I was supposed to crash at a close friend of mines place for the night but decided against it last minute. I had tried texting and calling my gf during the course of the night to no avail. I wasn't very happy about this but just figured she was drunk with her girlfriends and that I would just catch her at the house. Well when I got home I walked up to my front door to see my girlfriend walking in the house with some dude I have never seen before. He splits when he sees me and me and my girlfriend fight all night over it. She can barely stand up or talk because she is so wasted and eventually passes out. So, I don't know what to do. Should I take her back? How do I handle this? We have been living together for 2 years and together for 3. Most of my life revolves around the relationship and Ive honestly always thought that I couldn't find a girl who would do as much as she does for me. She makes more money and pays most of the bills and yet doesn't look down on me for it. She has always been extremely supportive of me though everything and I feel like she loves me for me. I have severe anxiety and she has been there to hold my hand in the hospital through many panic attacks. Im closer to her than any person on the planet. This morning she woke up and is destroyed by what happened and is begging me to take her back. She says she was getting a ride home and was going to pass out but who knows. I don't know what to do but the trust is broken. So guys, if there is anyone I can rely on for advice it is you... Please help.", "summary": "caught my gf of 3 years who i live with bringing a guy home to our place when i was supposed to stay out. help."}
{"id": "t3_1815sz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [21M] and I [22F] keep having little fights over nothing, but there's nothing actually wrong in our relationship.", "post": "21M/22F So a little background. We've been dating for 8 months, but we've been friends for several years and we've never had problems. We still don't really. We get along super well, have lots in common, see our futures going the same way, and are overall madly in love. Lately though we've been having these weird little arguments over the dumbest things. They're not even really arguments because we don't get angry or yell or anything. We just bicker. I know everyone does this sometimes, but we've been doing it a lot lately and we're not sure why or how to stop it. Does anyone have advice for figuring out how to stop bickering in an otherwise loving, stable, and healthy relationship?", "summary": "Been dating for 8 months. We don't have problems or arguments, but we bicker a lot lately for seemingly no reason. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_2u16wy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19 F] ask out a friend [20 M] on a date without seeming desperate or awkward?", "post": "So about a month ago I recently started to get closer with an acquaintance of mine I know through school. We had worked on a group project together last semester; when we had a bunch of classes together this semester we really hit it off. Long sorry short, I'm really into him. But I don't know if he likes me that way. \n\nHe seems to be petty flirty. He invited me skiing this weekend with some friends. He messaged me this afternoon saying his friends had to bail but the two of can still go if we want. When I said sure he replied with \"I've never been on a skiing date before\". Which seems like flirting to me. But I don't know. I don't even know 100% that he's single. I just assumed because I haven't heard him mention a girlfriend or anything. \n\nHow do I ask him out without totally putting myself out there? The last thing I want is to seem desperate or like I'm assuming anything about how he feels. I've never asked a guy out before and I'm scared to mess up our friendship.", "summary": "How do I ask a guy out without making an idiot of myself?"}
{"id": "t3_rqe70", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should one bother being honest with one's boss?", "post": "I just filled out an evaluation form a month ago- but they already have a new \"and improved\" evaluation form (regarding the performance of  management) for employees to fill out.  I just received it an hour ago and am to have it in by tomorrow morning.  It is neither optional nor anonymous.  Despite my misgivings about the lack of anonymity, I was honest on the first form.  This resulted in me being pulled into a different manager's office and having my concerns completely disregarded.  I realize that this is a rather common occurrence in the \"professional\" world, but my managers have absolutely no sense of accountability.  People have quit with absolutely no notice before, and management is completely blind to the reasons that this occurs- \"Why would they do that?!\"... they think, if anything, it has to do with their inability to find people properly suited to the job.", "summary": "I see little to no point in being honest on an evaluation the second time around due to my points being ignored.  However, saying everything is perfect when it really... /really/ is not just does not sit well with me.  What would you do/ what have you done in a similar situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4xta7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] BF [28M] of a year lies about things", "post": "A lot of the time he is honest, but sometimes he just lies about things that in my mind he doesn't need to lie about. It worries me because the third big lie happened last week and its making me doubt how much I trust him. The 3 lies I know for sure are:\n\nMy BF was sleeping with someone before we got together, now that's none of my business because we were not together and I am 100% OK with that happening, but when I asked him about it he told me he had not slept with her. I later found out he had.\n\nWe got into an argument one time and I caught wind that he told one of his friends something that is quite personal to me. I asked him if he had done this and he said he hadn't. I later found out he had.\n\nHe's learning to play Tennis and goes to an indoor court with a female friend that he has known for a long time once a week. He went twice last week and said one time he went with one of his friends from work rather than that female friend. I later found out he had gone with her both times.\n\nWhy is he doing this? These are pointless lies that he doesn't realize I know he is lying about. It is really making me not trust him and I now wonder what other lies he has told or will carry on telling...", "summary": "Boyfriend lies about pointless things, after the third big lie I am now wondering why he is doing it and how I am ever going to trust him."}
{"id": "t3_4w9i88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25 F] learn to just let go?", "post": "So, last xmas an old woman knocked on my door saying she'd found some keys and didn't know what to do with them. I said I'd keep hold of them in case anyone claimed them. 6 months went by no one collected the keys so I threw them away.\n\nLast night my next door neighbour confronted me screaming that the keys were hers why didn't I give them back. She was absolutely vile. I was so stunned that I just apologised. She threw her hand up at me and turned her back. I walked into my house, shut the door, made dinner, carried on with my night.\n\nProblem is I'm bloody fuming. I'm so angry that I'm struggling to just let it go. I'm mad that I apologised, I didn't know they were her keys, I didn't do anything intentionally wrong or bad. \n\nI know I can't change her attitude I can only change mine. Having a go at her won't help, I need to ignore her and get on with my life.\n\nHow do I just drop it now and stop obsessing about \"should have\" and \"why didn't I\"? I've had barely any sleep and can't focus on getting on with my day. How do you calm down and move on?", "summary": "I'm still angry about a minor fall out with my neighbour. I don't know how to just let go and stop being so angry."}
{"id": "t3_17zrvi", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Mmmm, infusions...", "post": "When I was at school, there were two friends of mine called Will and Jamie.\n\nWill always used to bring in bottles of water and would get pissed off because Jamie kept drinking from it.\n\nOne day, we're sat in class waiting for our teacher. Jamie hasn't arrived yet and Will says \"I guarantee he's going to take some of my water when he gets here.\" He immediately thinks of a solution. He quickly whips down his trousers under the table, positions the bottle thusly and farts into it. \n\nHe quickly replaces the lid and shakes the water up, to ensure a good brew.\n\nJamie arrives soon after, sits down and almost immediately takes the water bottle. I'm sat there trying really hard not to laugh, but at the same time I don't think it would have actually have affected the water.\n\nAfter the smallest of sips, Jamie screws up his face and shouts 'Ugh, that's fucking rank' while everyone around us loses their shit.", "summary": "Water thief drinks fart"}
{"id": "t3_1rcg1r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19M] don't know what I can do to help my [18F] GF", "post": "Backstory: I \"met\" her 4 years ago when I was skyping with a friend, and he put her in the call. We instantly hit it off, and got along really nicely. However, she lives about 2hours away from me, and we were both kids, so nothing happened. we both move on with our lives, but keep contact. Flash forward to march this year. We start talking a lot more, remebering old times, etc. In april, she brokes up with her bf at that time, and starts feeling a bit down. We keep talking and things start getting more serious, to the point where if we were together we would be in a relationship. It is basically a  ldr at this point. we talk everyday, do a lot of skype calls, etc. I am now in my 2nd year in college. She missed senior year maths, and stayed this year behind to do it.\n\nWell, lately she seemed a bit distant. I try talking to her, to no avail. A few weeks ago we \"fight\" and didn't talk for a while, but sorted things out, and last weekend we were together for the first time.\nI live near the country's capital, she lives about 2 hours away. She was coming with friends to a concert, and i went to meet her. We had a bit of alone time, but nothing spectacular. This week she proceeds to be even more distant. I am going crazy at this point, thinking what could have happened. I talked to her, and made a sort of ultimatum. Turns out her parents are splitting up, her mom is starting to get in a depression beacause of it and she basicaly has to toughen up and keep shit together. \n\nShe told me she doesn't talk much now because she doesn't want to bother anyone with her problems, and i made it very clear that I wanted to help her get through this, but she almost doesn't talk.\nI am feeling so useless, what can I do?", "summary": "LDR gf's parents are splitting, shit is crumbling. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3m34yn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it extreme for a married man [45M] with 3 kids [11-16] to take off work and travel with sister [48F] to spend the day with parents?", "post": "I live a few hours away from my parents, but near my sister.  I mainly see my parents at holidays and kids' birthdays. We don't Facebook or enjoy extended talks on the phone, so my connection with them gets pretty weak at times.  When my grandmother who had lived with my parents since 1978 was dying, my sister would frequently travel on her day off (Friday) to visit, and I would sometimes go with her. These all-day trips were excellent opportunities to reconnect with them during a challenging part of their lives.\n\nEach visit resulted in a lot of tension with my wife of 20 years.  She believes I have a very immature relationship with my family and can't say no to them. She says I am blind to this problem.\n\nLast Thursday my sister asked if I wanted to join her Friday on a visit. I last saw them a couple months ago, and work was slow, so I said yes.  After I returned my wife and I had another long discussion about her not \"getting\" why I took the trip.  In previous situations I spent a lot of time defending my actions, but this time I focused on it being my responsibility, not hers, to define my relationship with my family, similar to the way I defer to her on her very dependent relationship with her nearby family. \n\nShe responded that she doesn't know any MAN who would just take a day off work to visit his parents and be gone for 12+ hours, and this is \"extreme\" behavior. Traditional male vs female differences don't mean much to me, but I am curious if she has a point. Is this weird or extreme? Am I blind to a bigger issue?", "summary": "Is it extreme for a man to take a day off to visit his parents without wife and kids?"}
{"id": "t3_4t5rb5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My Credit Was Obliterated By ~$2,000?", "post": "My credit score went from 690 to 532\nPosted earlier about getting an apartment. I thought I had $30,000 in medical debt, and had forgotten to pay my Amex, but apparently not. My payments for Amex, and my college loan of $15,000 are still being withdrawn from my account (didn't know the Amex could, I forgot).\nI checked my credit report to send it to my new landlord, and it had been ~obliterated~ to 532, and AMEX and closed my account when switching to Chase. Rather than sending me a new card, they didn't even contact me. According to them, they'll open a new account when I get my card.\nWhat do I do? The land lord said we could work around the credit score before I found out it was ~532~ I have enough cash on hand to pay this debt off at least 10 times over, this month.\nThis is brutal.", "summary": "Go to rent place"}
{"id": "t3_3cxe0z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL,USA] I signed a lease than 24 hours ago, how if at all can I break the lease?", "post": "Hello r/legaladvice, I'm moving to a new town for college in Florida and signed a lease yesterday for a room within a 4/4 Apartment in a larger apartment complex for students, through a private company/corporation.\n\nI was given the last available room within that floorplan but was refused disclosure of who my room mates are until after signing (dumb idea, I know). I was assured they were \"random people\" which is in fact not the case, it's a group of 3 people who know each other and come from a different culture, I already contacted them and it was made clear to me that they'd rather not have me there.  There are several other problems with the apartment/room that are now starting to show also, such as a lack of power outlets in the walk in closet (I was told I could put a fridge in there) and a few other things.\n\nI haven't taken possession of any keys yet and my lease doesn't officially start until August, all I really did was sign off on the lease, a few addenda and a guarantor form. What's my legal standing in this instance and is there a way I can break my lease? If need be I can pay some fines but there's no way I could pay off the whole lease or something to that extent. \n\nAny help appreciated!", "summary": "Just signed a lease 24 hours ago for an apartment, several verbal agreements have already been violated, I haven't taken possession of keys or anything else yet. What are my options in the state of Florida?"}
{"id": "t3_1kvlxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [25f] mad at me [25m] because I question her being overly protective to her child.", "post": "Been together 2 years, she has a 8 year old from a past relationship. I wouldnt say I'm very active in this childs life, and only see him about 2-3 times a month. He spends every weekend with his dad (and every Wednesday with this grandparents), so I only time I see him is when mine and my GF schedule aligns and we see each other during the week other than Wednesdays. While the child isn't actively in my life, he has a major affect on my GF's life obviously. I do not try to act like a parent to the child, but I do mention a few things to my GF about him. I think she is very very overprotective, so much so its hurting him. I know hes only 8, but she doesnt let him ride his bike outside of the yard, play in the church field directly behind her house (which kids play baseball, basketball and soccer in all the time) hes not even allowed in the fenced in yard unless she is out there with him. He really doesnt have any friends outside of school so he spends all his time with her. When I told her she's overprotective and its hurting him because he cant come out of his shell, she agreed. The latest issue is this tho: He developed a skin condition which caused about 50% of his hair to fall out, and she told me she is going to talk to the principal today about it (before school starts on Monday). I asked her why and she got very defensive saying \"I wouldn't understand\". She thinks she can protect him from the kids at school or something by talking to the principal now. As a victim of a very overly protective mother which caused me to be socially awkward and left out, I and tying to steer her away from that. How can I do this without being a dick and sound like Im trying to over-ride what she thinks is best as a parent? Or am I just way off base and should stay out of everything?", "summary": "GF is single mother, very overprotective, mad at me when I bring it up / make suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_1o8fww", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, broke my friends mac, what do I do? More info inside ...", "post": "Ok I'm shitting a huge one. \n\nTwo days ago I took my pal a cup of tea, as he was working on our kitchen table.\n\nThe mug was wet, slipped from my hand, hit the table and splashed tea on his MacBook. \n\nImmediately I grabbed the laptop, turned the thing upside down (moisture away from electronics) and did a force power off. \n\nThen we cleaned up, he wiped off the mac, and said it would probably be fine - not to worry. He then powers the mac back on. Mac works.\n\nA few hours later he goes to plug in to the charger, and realises the battery won't charge. The power lead keeps the mac on and powered but won't charge the battery.\n\nSo now I'm really bricking it. He books into the 'genius' bar to get the thing looked at. Repair estimate - \u00a3570 (GBP.) Can't get it fixed elsewhere as this will void warranty.\n\nI am a student and have less than that in the bank to pay for rent etc, have a part time job which pays the bills. \n\nDo I lump up all the money? Does he have to take some responsibility ? He has no insurance. Any advice would be great, cause I'm not going to sleep until I have this sorted.", "summary": "got tea on mates MacBook, do I have to pay the whole repair (he has no insurance) and I feel really bad. Please help. :("}
{"id": "t3_3fvqxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex-girlfriend [18 F] who have been broken up for about 6 months, started talking again and I want her back.", "post": "I dated this girl about half a year ago in the beginning of my senior year of high school. We had a fairly brief relationship, but it ended prematurely because she had feelings for another guy at the same time and ended up breaking it off because she did not want to hurt me in the long run. A few months later, she started dating that guy, and we didn't talk as much in class or otherwise for a while. I was over her, and we were on good terms and friendly with each other. \n\nHowever, we recently hung out with a few mutual friends and we started to talk to each other like old times. She started talking to me every day, always sending me a message right when I would have sent her one. I found out from one of my mutual friends that her and her boyfriend had ended their relationship recently. \n\nAs we were talking, she would sometimes send me messages or pictures while she was out with her family of places we went on dates to asking if I remembered that place. I don't know what she meant by sending me these pictures or messages, but I thought it meant she might have wanted me back.\n\nWe decided to hang out together 3 days ago and we went to a park similar to where we went on our first date, lied down while staring at the stars, and started talking all about our lives, our futures, and college. (She's going away for college, about 3-4 hours away.) We laughed a bit about what we did while dating and I realized how alike we really were. After saying goodbye to her and dropping her off at 11 PM, I realized that I really want her back - our relationship was great while it lasted, and I feel like, had we not ended early, we would have still been together now, almost a year later. \n\nI don't know what to do next, because she's going away for college in about 3 weeks and I really want to try something with her at least for that.", "summary": "Ex and I broke up a while back, she recently became single again, and we started talking again coincidentally around the same time, and we hung out and had a heart to heart conversation under the stars a few days ago. I realized i missed her and I want her back."}
{"id": "t3_40ux6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Two sisters [19F/19F] are interested in me [21M] sexually. Not sure how to go about this.", "post": "I recently got out of a long term / long distance relationship and found these two girls have had a thing for me for quite some time. I am attracted to them and they both are attracted to me sexually. I've asked each individually and they want sex more than a relationship right now which works great for me, however I have no idea how to proceed. We're all in college as well. I've gotten to third base with both of them and nothing is awkward between us when we all hang out. I don't think they've told each other either.", "summary": "Two girls who are sisters are interested in me sexually (and vice versa) and I don't want to ruin the friendships between us. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_xf63d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this kind of bug sucking the blood out of my wife at night?", "post": "So, my wife has been getting many bug bites over the last few weeks.  Mostly smallish bites, all over her body.  We live in South Korea, and we've put up mosquito netting to keep those particular pests away, but something is still getting her, either during the day or at night.  I don't seem to get any bites.\n\nAnyway, we've put up all kinds of bug traps and such, and caught nothing.  Last night, we put down duct tape around the perimeter of the bed to see if we could just catch something with a new technique.  We got one bug that we could see.  I was hoping reddit could help me identify it.", "summary": "What is this thing we found in our bedroom?"}
{"id": "t3_1pm1in", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is my renewal letter a valid lease?", "post": "Pennsylvania tenant here. I have been living in the same unit for four years now and have a good relationship with the building's owner. A little more than two years ago, when he asked if I wished to renew my lease, I asked if it could be a month-to-month lease, since I was recently promoted and wanted to move closer to work. He agreed on the condition that I pay more each month.\n\nThe terms of the lease are as follows: A one month lease that renews on the first of each month, unless the \"tenant gives landlord\" or \"landlord gives tenant at least 30 days written notice before end date or before the end of any renewal term.\" \n\nAbout two months after signing the one month lease, my landlord hired a management company to oversee the property, though he still handled some responsibilities (he collected the water bill and called occasionally to check up on us). Within the past six months, I started looking to buy a house in my area. I am scheduled to close next month and sent a letter to the property owner and the management company telling them we were terminating the lease. \n\nI called the property owner prior to sending the letter, and he congratulated us on our purchase and wishes us well. A couple days later, I get a letter from the management company saying that the terms of our lease do not allow us to opt out. \n\nA few months ago, they sent me a renewal letter for a one-year lease. The letter had my last name spelled incorrectly. At the bottom of the letter was a clause that if I did not return the letter, the management company would take that as me accepting the renewal contract. \n\nI did not respond to the letter because my understanding of the month-to-month lease was that I needed written notice from the landlord, whom I believe to be the property owner. \n\nIs the new lease valid? I am hoping, either way, to work out something with the property owner, since we have a good relationship and he seemed fine with us leaving.", "summary": "\u2013 Signed month-to-month lease with landlord a couple years ago. He since hired a management company that recently sent renewal letter with my name misspelled. I didn't sign, but they claim lease is valid anyway. Trying to move."}
{"id": "t3_n34tf", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How to ReStart a Relationship", "post": "not sure if reddit will be particularly interested in my story here... \nI'm a 19yr old [M] and just broke it off with my girlfriend after 13 months. I, a few weeks later, want to try and restart said relationship.\n\nThe reason I decided to break it off was that she was unhappy despite the fact that our relationship was great in and of itself. She felt neglected and lonely when I would hang out with my friends (male and female) or seem to enjoy myself without even when she couldn't be there. She has friends, but not to the same capacity that I do and didn't always feel like hanging out with me and my friends. \n\nEssentially, I broke it off because I couldn't resolve this dynamic in our relationship that seemed to be getting more and more unhealthy. The thing is, I would very much like to get back together with her and I think she feels the same way despite it not ending on very good terms.", "summary": "I ended my relationship because my GF felt neglected when i was with my friends despite us having a very good relationship otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_1fof54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "37F/ 38M/ 3 years- Has anyone dated someone they later realized was probably a sociopath?", "post": "I was in a relationship which just finally ended, with a guy who matches up to the [checklist] ( almost 100%. I found out that almost everything he told me was a lie and he was living a completely double life, in which he was telling me he was at work, when he was taking my money to fund his secret coke addiction, and picking up girls on Craigslist (including hookers) and girls in my neighborhood to sleep with behind my back the entire time we were together. He would come home to me and cuddle every night, and tell me how much he loved me, and made plans with me, etc. but he would never acknowledge that he was with me to anyone else, or change his Facebook status from single...  \n\nWhen I found out what he was really doing and confronted him, he turned nasty and abusive- I couldn't get him to talk about anything at all, he ran off and texted me horrible messages about how bad a person I was to go through his phone (that's how I found out, when I had a feeling something was up).  It was really hard for me to reconcile his charming, affectionate side with this other side of him- seriously like Jekyll and Hyde. Our breakup was horrific, and I tried to warn mutual friends that this was who he really was, but not only is he a well known and adored public figure where I live (so they wouldn't believe me), but he got to people first with all kinds of lies about how psycho I was and how I was stalking him, and how he had to get a restraining order on me (all false). I lost a lot of friends in the process.  He then dumped me unceremoniously while I was still trying to pick up the pieces of myself.  \n\nLooking back I should have seen red flags so many times along the way, but I loved him, and he was so charming and convincing in person. I feel stupid and angry and used. I feel like he stole 3 years of my life.... Just wondering if anyone out there has had a similar experience with a partner, and if they have any advice on how to get over the humiliation and anger.  I am in therapy but it is slow going.", "summary": "Blindsided by a probable sociopath, any tips on getting over it?"}
{"id": "t3_143g0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(26) head over heels for F(26), but she is blowing hot and cold. Advice on What to do", "post": "So it goes like this. I'm in love with this girl. We work at the same Office. We share an amazing chemistry. I've told her about my feelings. But she is indecisive about it. She just got out of a relationship before 6 months. \n\nWhen I'm with her, she seems like she doesn't value my company. I'm there for her because she definitely needs someone to hold her together. I know this because i have seen the difference in handling of her problems with and without my presence. \n\nWhen i'm not with her, she would be like calling, texting and telling me she is thinking about me. And when we meet later, She is like too much close to me. \n \nI feel like she is using me(Unintentionally) to get her Ego Boost. I know this because I make her feel like a Queen, say the most amazing things about her. \n\nI want to continue being friends with her and whenever i start to move away slowly from her, she comes that much closer to me. I have other awesome women in my life whom i've been ignoring lately because of this woman, with the intention of a good friend, but \"scumbag heart\" doesn't let me be and I go back to my **\"Feelings\"** for her again. \n\nDon't really know what i'm doing. Would really appreciate if some one would provide a perspective on this. Ladies, I would like your perspective as well.", "summary": "M(26) had feelings for F(26). She is indecisive. So continuing as friends as she needs me. But if i go too far, she wants to"}
{"id": "t3_36sdr6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with 4th date [34 F], she doesn't want to kiss... but hand jobs and biting are good!", "post": "I've been with a lot of girls from all over, and this one has me stumped. She invited me over to her place for drinks, and we started to get close on the couch. Mutual touching ensues, and she wants me to take my shirt off for a massage. So I pull her towards me and lay with her facing each other, hugging. I go for the kiss, and she pulls away and winces... I'm surprised because a) I know she's into me, and b) her hand SHOOTS DOWN MY PANTS AND SHE GRABS MY DICK...\n\nWTF?\n\nSo the rest of the night were all over each other, but when I go for a kiss, she freezes up, and is totally not into it. She can't get her hands off of me though grabbing my chest, and never letting go of my cock. She even gives me a hand job, bites my pecks, and let's me grab her breasts.\n\nI inquired as to why she has this aversion to kissing, and she just coyly states she \"doesn't like it\" and that was that. I've been with dozens of girls, but never one that has this absolute aversion to kissing.\n\nAnyone else have experience with this?", "summary": "Kisses are a NOGO, but hand jobs and biting are good."}
{"id": "t3_1u4vm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/f] boyfriend [24/m] is a magician. He did the \"kiss trick\" on another girl.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for almost a full year now. We are so incredibly close and have spent nearly every single day together. I have never been so close with someone, even past people I was in love with. \n\nAnyway, he has a pretty cool job - he is self employed, and does magic for weddings and restaurants and corporate events - classy, adult close up magic. None of that bunny in the hat stuff. He is young and very very cute, tall, and gets a lot of girls giggling and winking at him, which I understood when entering the relationship was part of the deal.\n\nHe used to do this trick, which he once did on me when we first met, called the kiss trick. Where he pretty much puts a card in his mouth and another card in a girls mouth, they kiss, and then the cards are switched. He's asked, and I've told him, this is not okay with me. He can flirt for tips all he wants but kissing crosses the line. He has plenty of other tricks. Hundred of them. He agreed. However, a week ago he was doing a wedding and ended up going a kiss trick on a bridesmaid who asked him to, who had seen the trick done by another magician before. He told me and was honest but I can't help feel betrayed and upset. We agreed on this from the start :/ I love him and have no desire to leave him but want to handle this in a way that shows how serious I am. Please help.", "summary": "magician boyfriend kissed another girl as part of his act when we both agreed he would not do this. Unsure of how to act. "}
{"id": "t3_1ce7da", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Even though our relationship is doomed, I don't want to break up with my boyfriend [m/21] because of how happy he makes me when we're together. Is this crazy? [f/21]", "post": "Is it crazy that I'm thinking of staying with my boyfriend, simply because of how much fun we have together. I have no problem being single, and I have tones of other friends, but nothing compares to the stupid/crazy/weird sense of humor we share, and the things we do. \n\nHe lied to me a couple times, and I can no longer trust him. I still love him completely, but I think we have to break up. But I dont want to lose him as a friend. although if we remain friends, I know we're going to fall back into the same relationship, just by being together. So is it completely insane to think I can keep this relationship going, just because we have so much fun together, even though we both know its going to end eventually?  \n\n(I know he'd be okay with it. he claims to be completely in love with me, and even though I've told him we're breaking up in 3 weeks, he is still sticking around because 'he wants to spend as much time with me as he can before its over')", "summary": "has anyone ever stayed in a relationship you knew was doomed, for the sole purpose of just enjoying your SO's company so much?"}
{"id": "t3_fkqf1", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Just Bought A Garmin Forerunner 305 For What I Think Is A Decent Deal. Thought I'd Share.", "post": "So I did some looking around at different models of wrist mount GPS units. Cost and functionality were the biggest concern. I finally decided on the Forerunner 305 since it would do everything I wanted and was a good price (even though it's huge).\n\nBest price I found online was through Amazon for around $130, with free shipping if I wanted to wait 1-2 weeks. It was available at the local Best Buy for $150. Did a quick search and found a printable coupon good for the month of February at Best Buy for 20% off all \"Health & Fitness\" products.\n\nWent in to Best Buy and the price was $160 on the shelf. I found an employee (just happened to be a cute girl) nearby and told her I wanted to get the 305. She said she had that model and loved it...even more than some of the more expensive ones she tried (even though it's huge). She said she has run some marathons and we chatted a little bit about how I was just starting to run. She told me about some of the runs in the area, how the best ones tend to end with beer, and overall was very pleasant and informative while waiting in line at the cashier. I definitely hope to meet more cool people like her while pursuing this sport.\n\nSo I got to the cashier and the 305 rang up at $160 as expected. I mentioned the web site price was $150 and he price matched it. Then I gave him the 20% off coupon and it wouldn't scan. He tried typing in the number and it wouldn't take it. So he tried again and it accepted the coupon, but didn't apply the discount to the 305. He read the coupon, looked at the GPS, manually entered the 20% off and had a supervisor approve it. Super easy, out the door for $120.\n\nThe coupon should work on any \"Garmin Fitness GPS\" (that's an actual category on the Best Buy website), as well as any heart rate monitor or other brand of fitness GPS.\n\nHere's a link to the coupon. Hopefully it will be useful for someone out there within the next couple weeks. It expires on 2/28/2011.", "summary": "20% off Best Buy coupon got me a Garmin Forerunner 305 for $120. Coupon should work for anything \"Health & Fitness.\""}
{"id": "t3_q9di0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How long did it take you to get over your first long-term relationship that ended?", "post": "I started dating a girl when we were both freshmen in college (I was 18, she was 19), and we mutually broke up this last summer. When we first broke up, I was perfectly fine with it, almost happy about it for the first few months. Fast forward to now, almost eight months later, and most of my nights are spent sobbing myself to sleep because of it.\n\nWhen the semester started after we had broken up, we were still willing and able to talk to each other just as friends. However, now I can't even communicate with her at all because I feel like I have to resist the urge to murder. She still wants to be friends, and I'm not letting it happen because I have a such strong feelings of anger/hostility towards her now, and I don't know why.\n\nI have been drinking and doing drugs more recently, which I think stems from this (I know, I know - bad way to cope with your feelings).\n\nWhat really bothers me about it is that she came back to school seemingly a completely different person. When we dated, it wasn't her first long-term relationship, but it was mine. She started dating some other guy that she met at work only about a month after we broke up, and she seems to act as if I was just some sort of road bump. She says that's not true, but I can't help but feel like she's lying to me. She's suddenly much more charismatic and outgoing than when we were dating.", "summary": "I was happy to break up with a girl and now I'm a complete mess because of it."}
{"id": "t3_3ahmre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "MIL (52f) wants me (27f) to open store credit cards so she can save percentages off big purchases", "post": "She always pays for it pretty much right away, then I close the account. I trust her to pay and she always has.\n\nOne time was for a couch a few years ago. A couple months ago was for a fridge at a certain store. Then a month ago it was for a bed.\n\nNow she wants my help so she can get a discount for a lawnmower and grill, but it would be at the same store that we got the fridge at, and I already closed that account. So I'd have to get a new card for that store.\n\nAfter just now learning in /r/personalfinance that opening and closing credit cards can hurt your credit, I'm not sure that I want to help her this time. \n\nMy MIL has a language barrier and is widowed. I had already told her I'd help her with this, maybe even tomorrow :( But that was before I knew! Should I just suck it up and do what I said I would, or tell her no? And if I tell her no, **how can I do it tactfully without her thinking it's because I don't trust her to pay?** Explaining average age of accounts and hard inquiries will be extremely difficult given her language barrier and personality.", "summary": "MIL wants to save money but I'm worried about my credit score."}
{"id": "t3_259rfh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[20M/24F] Kind of a pathetic question, but calling/texting after getting a girl's number", "post": "So, I've had girlfriends before, but never met a girl that I didn't already know from school or work. I'm kinda lost.\n\nAnyway; I got a cute girl's number last Wednesday. She seemed either a little shy or a little pressured (even though I just asked \"would you like to meet up sometime?\"), said she worked often and very late, I said I do the same, which is true. I actually work later nights and also very often, so I kind of need to be up on scheduling stuff with people ahead of time. Anyway, she said yes and I got her number.\n\nThat said, girls don't really seem to like scheduling too far ahead - I'm guessing it kills any feelings of spontaneity (sp?)... So I texted her Friday, asking if she wanted to meet up Sunday (today) because people never pick up when you call them these days. No response. It's not like a lot of time has passed, but still, 2 days is plenty of time to type out a text.\n\nI'm kinda thinking I could call her (can get a straighter response, and I prefer it to texting anyway) this afternoon. But I don't want to ruin anything by calling, either. I'm not afraid of rejection, but I hate not knowing.\n\nWhere I live, it's also common to not have a plan for your phone, so instead you'd fill it with a bit of money and use that up. She might not have any money on her phone, and thus can't reply. Probably wishful thinking...\n\nIs she just not interested? Think I might as well give her a call? My gut feeling is saying that if she's interested it doesn't actually matter that much what I do, but I don't want to make a big faux pas already. Unless I already have.\n\nI'm probably overthinking this. I know getting a number isn't a huge accomplishment, perhaps this girl never even wanted to see me at all, so it feels kinda off asking this question in \"dating advice\". But some general ground rules, if nothing else, would be really helpful.", "summary": "got number Wednesday, texted Friday about meeting up Sunday, no response as of yet, could I just as well try and give her a call or should I just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_21y3r9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] want to go on a trip with my girlfriend [F19] for 3-5 days once we get out of school. I have 250-300 dollars to spend, and I want it to be perfect. Tips?", "post": "Hey guys! So I've been dating this wonderful girl for a while now; we both go to college together. The semester ends on May 16th. However, she is transferring in the fall and we both start summer courses on the 21st at different schools, so I want to treat her to something really special before we start that business.\n\nWe currently go to school in Ulster County, NY.\n\nShe's really into the outdoors and music. I wanted to take her to a music festival, but thats just a bit too rich for my blood. It would be cool to take her hiking/camping somewhere, or do something similar, and maybe a show somewhere in there. But I'm just testing the waters to see exactly what $250-$300 can get me, because I'm sure travel expenses/camping won't cost that much, especially if I'm going somewhere in the tri-state area.\n\nI know that this is incredibly generic, but if there any other suggestions of what to do with the remaining money, that would be much appreciated!", "summary": "Have $250-$300, want to spend it on a mini-vacation for my Girlfriend. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_3a7ein", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my foot so far into my mouth I could have pooped a toe.", "post": "So I was in a meeting (I sit as a volunteer on referral order panels), and whilst chatting to a young person with mental health issues, about said issues, I said \"don't worry, I'm just writing this down because my brain doesn't work properly.\" \n\nEverybody in the room looked at me, I was practically being bombarded by tumbleweeds, and as I realised what I'd said I tried to make it it better, but instead saying \"I just mean, my brain is a bit broken\". A\u00e0aargh!  I couldn't just say, \"my memory sucks, and instead looked like the most insensitive person going.\n\nTo make matters worse, the kids dad was there, also with mental health issues, and I just looked like the biggest prick on the planet.", "summary": "Insensitive choice of words, looked like a dick."}
{"id": "t3_h1x1x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thoughts on Celebrations of Osama's Death", "post": "I just had an interesting situation, and I thought Reddit might be an interesting place to pursue this difference of opinion, and I'm sure both sides can argue either point much better than I.\n\nMy friend came over, and was going to study with us. We had the TV on the Osama death announcement, and the ensuing news reports. She then said that she wouldn't be able to study because it was too upsetting. She was bothered that there are people all over the country celebrating the death of a man. She is a big proponent of peace and non violence, and feels there is an easy correlation to be drawn between the actions of Osama Bin Laden, and that of many leaders of large countries.\n\nI, on the other hand, do not see it this way. I understand the celebrations, and I believe it's an understandable and acceptable reaction. This man was essentially the leader of a cult, and as the general public is lead to believe, was one of the masterminds behind the 9/11 attacks. He was a mass murderer and a menace to people everywhere. He helped to murder thousands of civilians.", "summary": "Ethics of Osama bin Laden's death and the United States celebration of said death. "}
{"id": "t3_ul2zb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gifts from your SO...good/bad? How do I let him know what I want?", "post": "23f here (soon 24) and my boyfriend is 22 (soon 23).  Almost 2 year relationship...like I stated below but I guess I have to say it up here too??  To put it short my boyfriend is an awful gift giver.  And I know it is the thought that counts when it comes to gifts. For example, I just wanted a nice blanket for Christmas and he got me Crocs.  He knows I despise Crocs, in fact him and I routinely make fun of them on other people...kind of mean but I am just not a fan.  To this day I still don't really know why he got them for me.  I put so much effort into the gifts he wants and he absolutely loves them.  How can I be a little more obvious in letting him know what I want?  \n\nI feel so grubby even posting this but I would honestly much rather get nothing from him if I am not going to use it.  I don't want him to spend unnecessary money.  Or I would much rather we spend money on a date or occasion that we can both enjoy.  I would love jewelry but I would never ask for that and I know some guys just do NOT get girls jewelry and that is reserved for marriage.  I'm not talking about an engagement ring at all, but a necklace or a different non engagement ring would be lovely.  He spends large amounts of money on gifts, for example our 2 year anniversary is coming up and he said he spent $200.00 which to me is a ton.  But I fear it is going to be something strange that I can't/don't want to use.", "summary": "Boyfriend is an awful gift giver.  I would rather get nothing or spend $$ on an experience than get his gifts.  How do I be more obvious?  He doesn't really listen to me.  And I feel bad when I don't use what he gets me."}
{"id": "t3_19s7rv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[F22] My boyfriend [M22] has lost his friends and says its all my fault.", "post": "We've been together 7 months now, and are currently in a long distance relationship for 2 of those months (another 2 left to go) and we were great friends for about 1 year and a half before we started dating.\n\nThe problem now, is that I had slept with 2 of his acquaintances back when I was 16 years old, so a long time ago. But pretty much all of his best friends are good friends with these acquaintances, and he doesn't want his best friends saying anything to him about me and these other 2 guys, which is kind of understandable. He said he doesn't want to be known as 'that guy' and have people talking behind his back, or saying bad things about me to him. So he's stopped talking to ALL of them and detached himself from his groups of friends. (This has happened since I've been out of the country, not when I was still there with him)\n\nBut for him to cut all contact with his best friends over something that happened years ago is a little bit silly in my opinion. And he's been bringing it up quite a bit recently, saying its my fault he has no friends and is alone. He also says how its made him depressed. Which of course, makes me feel incredibly bad.\n\nHe'll then say things like, if I were there with him and not in another country, then he'd be fine because he would happily just spend time with me and only me, because he loves me. But I'm afraid when I move back home, that he'll become dependent on me for all of his social interaction, which then might lead him to resent me over the relationships he has/had with his friends. And by us not keeping our own friends and doing things separate every so often so we aren't on top of each other 24/7, will cause problems down the line.\n\nI really don't know what I should do or say about this situation, especially when he brings it up again. Please help me Reddit?", "summary": "I had sex with boyfriend's acquaintances, those acquaintances are good friends with his bests friends, so he cut ALL contact with best friends because of it and not wanting them to talk about me behind his back. He says he's lonely and depressed because of it, and says its all my fault."}
{"id": "t3_p5rk0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your relationship regret stories?", "post": "You know, the things you look back on and wonder why you ever did them? Here's mine...\nIt started about two years ago. We both were, and still are, in college. I was standing outside the library waiting for a friend when the most beautiful girl I ever saw walked over and complimented the charizard keychain on my backpack. She had a squirtle. I'm usually pretty beta, but I built up some insane courage and got her number. That weekend started the long tradition of playing Pokemon Stadium and other N-64 games every Saturday.\nIt wasn't long before we were dating. And it was amazing. We played video games together, watched old cartoons like Invader Zim and Pokemon, and she's even a redditor. I'm sure she'll see this. We were in love, and it was amazing.\nOne day I made a terrible mistake though. I was engrossed with school works, and I was stressed to the point that I just snapped one day, and ended it. I have no idea why I did that, but I was so stressed. Probably the worst thing I've ever done in my life... She's moved on now, so it's over, but man was I stupid.", "summary": "I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_2frqgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] slept with my boss [46 M] on a company trip and now he wants me to move in", "post": "Background: I'm a college grad who lives with my parents. I recently went across the country with one of my bosses to an event he had to attend. We slept together the last night and he was very sweet to me after. Over the week after we got back he invited me to his place and told me he plans on leaving the company at the end of the year to start his own. He invited me to live with him when this is finalized. I'm stunned but unsure. It is a very nice condo in a great part of the city that would allow me to walk to work. I would love to live there. I think part of this is because he has the same heritage as my mother (they've met) and in that culture the woman takes care of the man domestically which I think he assumes I would do. I'm ok with that by the way. I'm just not sure if this is too much too fast. I think my parents would approve though", "summary": "Boss told me he is leaving our work, wants me to live with him after he does"}
{"id": "t3_y3h95", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Girlfriend broke up with me so I rebounded...now the rebound girl won't leave me alone.", "post": "Here's the deal, I slept with this girl and we ended up hanging out a lot afterwards. The entire time I made it very clear that I was not looking for a relationship (and by that I mean I said those words to her multiple times.). Anyway, I started to lose interest so we weren't talking as much as we were before. One week later after no communication she calls me up crying/bitching about why I don't like her. So naturally I'm all like dafuq bitch?, but here is where it gets even crazier. She starts randomly texting me about how she thinks I'm angry and abusive towards her. I have never done a mean or abusive thing to a woman period. Also I feel like since I was honest with our relationship she has pretty much no right to be so angry with me...also she has been telling her friends I'm her boyfriend...WTF! Any tips on how to get rid of this person?", "summary": "Rebounded with a girl she made false accusations about how I treated her and now tells her friends that we are a couple help me get rid of this shitty shitty person."}
{"id": "t3_2tk4a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my very new boyfriend [24M] I am feeling inadequate compared to his past relationships. How do I get over it?", "post": "Some background info!\n\nMet this guy about 7 months ago but only started dating close to a month ago. He has been my first everything (relationship, lover, all that). Before we went anywhere with this we had a very mature discussion about it and were on the same page as far as where this relationship is going. \nHowever he has a history and a pretty intense one at that. He has been married, divorced, has a son, and I just found out his last relationship ended only 3 months ago. \nI realize its so silly of my to compare myself to anyone else but it sort of makes me feel not \"up to par\" when I've never experienced a serious relationship and he's moved on pretty quickly. Not saying he's a player either though. \nSome other things, I do have a history of abuse and it has affected me and my ability to fully open up and trust people. He has been so great and understanding throughout this whole endeavor but I can't help but feel he's just waiting until something better comes along? Typing this out helps me to realize this is a me issue and it's still a huge learning process. \nAny advice on how I can allow myself to open up to him and show him I care deeply about his efforts to teach me along the way? \nThanks in advance!", "summary": "feeling inadequate with my first ever serious boyfriend. How to move on with personal issues?"}
{"id": "t3_18tffu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [25M] is married, but can't get over feelings for me [22F].", "post": "I  (22f) was briefly enrolled in a graduate program this fall, and am still in close contact with a lot of friends I made while I was there.  One of these friends is a 25 year old guy from China.  \n\nBecause English was not his first language and I could tell he was a little isolated, I was careful to be nice and invite him to events.  We started hanging out some on our own, but mostly just to discuss school/world politics; nothing too personal.  He asked me out a few times this fall, and even though I assumed he was single, I turned him down nicely-- just wasn't interested.\n\nAfter the final time I turned him down he got a little clingy and weird, so I tried to create some space between us; I didn't really speak to him over Christmas break.\n\nImagine my surprise when my presumably single friend comes home from China married after Christmas!  Turns out he'd had a girlfriend all along and they tied the knot while he was there.  I assumed that settled things, and went back to occasionally spending time with him.\n\nLast night, he admitted to me that he's jealous of the guy I've been dating and has feelings for me.  I sort of just apologized and ignored it, but now I'm frustrated and not sure what to do.  Normally, I would just cut things off with him since he doesn't seem to be able to have \"just friends\" feelings toward me.  In this case, though, I feel guilty, since he really doesn't have many friends and seems to put a lot of energy into maintaining contact with me.   So what should I do?  Just end things?  Pretend it never happened?  All I know is that I certainly wouldn't want MY husband spending time alone with a woman he had feelings for.  I don't want to cross any lines.", "summary": "Married friend isn't over me.  Do I cut off all contact, or keep hanging out with him since I don't think he has many friends?"}
{"id": "t3_suse6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rational Men of Reddit Back Me Up Here", "post": "An acquaintance of mine once inquired as to why men of reddit do occasionally give women a hard time. I had to give a preliminary response. \n\nFirst of all, the worst of women complain of so-called \"patriarchy\" that is continually holding them back. I've seen their /r/Feminism posts, and please hold the crap. There is nothing holding them back. Nothing. They're not even a proper minority, like many racial subsets. Women are 50% of the population, and have been since the dawn of civilization. What, exactly, have they voluntarily chosen to do in all that time? \n\nNot advancing in many of the most promising realms, clearly. Women's underrepresentation in the mathematics and sciences is one of the hottest topics of today, not least because there is no obvious reason for it. I, personally, wouldn't be surprised if the same hormones that monthly caused 90% of the world's arguments had much to do with a lack of ability and focus on what society actually needs. Consider how many women live in houses versus how many actually pay for them; now consider who it is who is taking\u2014and who is giving\u2014to society. \n\nEven reddit agrees with me on this. Do you even notice the sheer volume of posts expressing the ubiquitous frustration of guys being \"friend zoned\" by women? *Read between the lines, woman*. The reason these men dislike associating with you (for anything other than sex, of course) is because you are simply not *valuable* as a friend. I'm sorry. There is simply no other reason to interact with you, other than for what you truly do best, if you get my drift. Just take a look around the web. Now compare the number of voluptuous breasts you see with the number of innovating women scientists. It soon becomes clear wherein your value lies. \n\nI'm sorry if I seem harsh in for today's absurdly P.C. sensibilities. But at least I have the cordiality of saying what is on every man's mind. Please back me up, men of reddit.", "summary": "woman friend asked me why reddit can be harsh to the ladies, I answered"}
{"id": "t3_13w5xv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a point when we can stop empathizing with a victim?", "post": "While laughing over the most recent Twitter tirade of one Chris Brown, a person in my office brought up an interesting point, and that is, \"If Rihanna continues to associate with the man who caused such physical harm towards her, at what point do we stop feeling bad for her getting beaten up in the first place?\"\n\nAt first, I was a little upset over such a question.  I quickly snapped at him and explained that you don't.  At no point should we stop empathizing with the victim.  However, the more I sit and think about it, the more I question if he had a point.  I mean, we seem happy to tout the phrase \"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me\" but that doesn't apply when it comes to domestic violence?\n\nI have never been in an abusive relationship, so it's hard for me to get into the mentality of a battered person.  Further, I am male, so I will never understand the societal view of a battered woman from that perspective.  \n\nLets move this away from the specific example of Chris Brown and Rihanna.\n\nA person with whom I am friends lost her sister to a drug overdose approximately two years ago.  She is still noticeably depressed about it, and is not willing to talk to someone about her feelings.  It is beginning to reach a point where I find it hard to feel bad about her deceased sister.  My friend is doing nothing for herself in regards to moving forward.  I'm not advocating she forget about her sister in any capacity, but I question if I'm a bad person for starting to lose my ability to empathize with this loss.  \n\nSo, I put to you, AskReddit: Is there a point where I can stop empathizing without being uncaring?  I still care deeply for my friend whose sister passed, but the more she brings up the dead sister, the less \"pity\" (I don't know if pity is the right word to use, but I'm having trouble coming up with a better word at the moment,) I feel regarding it.", "summary": "Cow and chicken were best friends, then the duck came."}
{"id": "t3_2l0nqp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Every time the scale goes up...", "post": "It is so disheartening to be trying to lose weight and see the scale go up. Sometimes it goes up several days in a row and there you are, first thing in the morning, sleepy and naked and standing on the scale thinking, \"What the actual fuck?\"\n\nThen you try to shake it off and you start the water running for a shower and you tell yourself, 'It's okay, it's just a temporary rise, I will keep trying.' And then you go on about your day, LIKE THE GODDAMN WEIGHT LOSS HERO THAT YOU ARE. \n\nTo track my weight loss over the last 4 months I made a graph in a spreadsheet program. It's not a straight line down, it's actually peaks and valleys. The *general* trend is down (28lbs today - holla!) but what I've noticed is that every time the \"whoosh fairy\" visits me and gives me a nice chunk of weight loss, she takes back some of it over the next week. Then she gives me just a *bit* more - enough to keep the graph going down. Thank you, Whoosh Fairy. I love you.\n\nI've noticed this time and time again so I keep trying, even when the scale goes up despite my best efforts (and even when it goes up after my *worst* efforts).", "summary": "keep trying. It's not a sprint, it's a lifetime marathon. Keep chugging along all you heroes out there."}
{"id": "t3_24z15x", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Ramon?", "post": "I changed my cell phone number at the beginning of this year because of personal reasons. Unfortunately, the new number came with some baggage.\n\nEvery few days, the same person would call and ask for a Ramon in Spanglish. Having taken 7 years of Spanish, I've patiently explained to him numerous times in both English and Spanish that this is no longer Ramon's number and that I'd like time to stop calling. \n\nAfter the 11th time of 'ello? Donde es Ramon?' I promptly hangup and wait for the next call. Sure enough, a few minutes later, I get another call from the same person and I answer in Korean. \n\nIt's important to note that I have absolutely no how to speak Korean except for what my friends have taught me.\n\n'Annyeonghaseyo?'\n'Donde esta Ramon? Ramon?'\n'Kimchee saranhaeyo. Oppa Oppa na!'\n'I want to uh speak with uh Ramon. I know he is there.'\n\nAt this point, I've exhausted my Korean knowledge, so I turn to my extensive anime background.\n\n'Dattebayo! Konbanwa minnasan! Suzuki Honda kage bunshin no justsu!'\n\nI begin spewing out the lyrics to Just be Friends until I hear a muddled apology and the phone clicks.\n\nI haven't received a phonecall looking for Ramon ever since.", "summary": "Changed my number and someone keeps calling for Ramon. I get sick of it and answer in Korean and Weeaboo until they give up."}
{"id": "t3_49ruz9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by restarting my laptop...", "post": "So i have a hp stream 11, its what you call a \"cloud book\", its basically a chromebook but with windows. It only has a 32gb ssd so when i got it it immediately set the internet connection to metered. Ive been using it for months without much problems. Recently my family downgraded from a really good internet to a slow one. I thought nothing of it and connected to it. I noticed that i suddenly had less space than normal but i didnt look further. so a few minutes ago (30 min max) i restarted my laptop, little that i know it would install all updates i had avoided in the last few months. i realized that the moment i connected to this new wifi, windows had started downloading all the updates. Also i had uninstalled office to get more space but was thinking of installing it again. Now i have less than a gig free of space and no Microsoft office. And this is after me meticulously controlling my hardrive space because i had so little. Now i cant install programs or do much from basic web browsing. i also want to point out a metered connection is i think when your using a pay as you go internet so it never installs updates unless you let it. \n\nso basically now i have for all intents and purposes a chromebook i was originally was gonna buy...", "summary": "i restarted my computer without knowing it would install updates and now i dont have any space. "}
{"id": "t3_44e7xd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By tickling", "post": "So the fuckup was yesterday, had my friend over lying around watching movies and YouTube. Being playful I tickle her and try to make her laugh and giggle. She wriggles and moves her knees up to her chest, in a sort of fetal position on her back. While she does this out of no where a silver metallic object falls down and hits her  square in the face. The silver object was a Mac book Air delicately balancing  she sticks her finger in her mouth. I ask if she is alright, with a slight smirk on my face and ask her to open her mouth and show me but she won't. Eventually after a long while standing by her side at a mirror in the bathroom she shows me a tiny little chip at the bottom of her front right tooth. She is tearing up abit but handles it well and asks if I can take her home because it hurts.", "summary": "Chipped the tooth of my friend using a Macbook Air while trying to make her happy and realized how much of a bad I am a for smirking."}
{"id": "t3_1xkw4q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving a needle at my friends house.", "post": "I am a Type 1 diabetic, and I use an insulin pump.  My pump requires that you feel a 200 mg vile full of insulin then inject it into this little on the device itself.\n\nI was chilling with a friend about two weeks ago, and I needed  to do a site change, the changing of the placement and sterile parts of the pump, and without thinking I left the needle there by accident (I'm usually more careful of my supplies, rarely do i actually leave any of my equipment anywhere).\n\nA couple days ago my friend texts me frantically asking If i left a needle at his place, and with a picture, I confirmed it was mine.  He told me he thought that one of his roommates was into heroin, so He flipped the fuck out on his roommate, and ended up kicking his roommate out just before he texted me. whoops.", "summary": "Left a needle at a friends, almost ended up with someone kick out of their own home."}
{"id": "t3_179cxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Been dating him [25m] for 7 months. Now he cut off all communication with me [20f]. What do I do?", "post": "I'll make this short. He and I have been dating for 7 months, and I am absolutely in love with him. He moved 5 hours away about a month into our relationship, but I had been driving to see him every few weeks. We had been discussing moving in together next year (2014, because I like to plan ahead). We've had some problems, but nothing that would indicate that this was going to happen.\n\nOn Monday, he texted me asking if I knew how wonderful I was, how much he loved me, etc. On Tuesday he and I were talking and texting before I went into work. When I got off work, I was blocked on facebook, skype, and he wasn't answering my calls.\n\nI finally texted him saying that he has my pets (which he does, because he volunteered to watch them for me) and he said that he needed time and that he would watch them until someone came to get them. \n\nSo, am I dumped? It feels like it, but I really don't know if it's just time apart or not. I also don't know if I want him back if he's going to pull this kind of act, but I love him and it hurts. I kept asking him if he was breaking up with me, and received no response.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I live apart. Were texting one morning and it was fine, that afternoon he blocked me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1m92i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[27F] with [24M] not sure where it's going or if it's going at all....", "post": "I meet someone at work (let's call him Chris) and we flirted a bit, he pursued me even after I told him I was married (unhappily). We were meeting up on breaks and holding hands/kissing, and it got pretty heated over about 2 weeks. \n-----\n\nWhile this was happening things at home got worse and I left my Husband, while these things happened at the same time I was going to leave my husband before anyways. The only bearing one had on the other was that the new relationship helped me see that I could be happy again. \n----\nThings at work seem to have cooled down a lot, after things got to heavy petting. A few days later I left my husband and told Chris. I made sure to explain that I was leaving him anyways and Chris didn't cause it. \n---\nA little more background Chris has a 3 year old from a former relationship that is his world. I have a two year old and a five year old who I adore. My Husband moved far away. Chris has expressed worry over our jobs, he can't afford to lose it and doesn't want to jeopardize his employment or the shift he works. I am trying to switch shifts due to childcare issues.\n----\nAnyways I am at a lost over were we are going. I don't know if he just wanted a fling and now it's over or if he is just holding back now due to his job. Dating coworkers is fine as long as one is not is a higher place then the other, and we are on the same level but work the same shift so one of us could be moved to a different shift. I wrote him a note asking for clarification but I not sure if I am reading to much in to everything and if it will make we sound crazy....\n---\nWow this it a bit rambly and long.... I have not \"dated\" is a long while. I was with my husband for almost ten years and I just don't know what to do now.", "summary": "Co-worker possible fling or it could be more I'm lost."}
{"id": "t3_jtxy3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My best friend, and beer may have saved my family's lifes last night.", "post": "Yeah, so I missed a call from him earlier. When I called back he said he'd call me back in a bit. So I'm farting around, looking for something to do. Watched TV in the basement for a short time and went back upstairs. I was chilling in my bed, messing with my phone when he called. He asked if he could run something by me and I asked if it was beer because I was out of beer. We decided that I'd just go over to his house so I could drink his beer and he could run something by me. When I went outside, I smelled something burning. Not just *something* burning, but it smelled like cigarette butts burning. I had recently smoked a cigarette on the back porch and outside the basement door, so I went to check. Nothing happening on the back porch, but there was a softball size glowing red wad of cigarette butts where I put my cigarette out about 10-15 minutes earlier. I realize now how unsafe our \"ash tray\" is now because it is just a flimsy plastic thing that a plant would come in, it was over stuffed with cigarette butts AND it was sitting in a bed of pine straw! So I grab the hose and easily extinguish this glowing butt fireball of death and breathe a sigh of relief.\n\nSo who knows what would have happened if I hadn't decided to go to my friends house at about that time. I would've come outside within the next half hour or so to smoke, an hour at the most and would have smelled it then if it was still smoldering. But like I said, it was a glowing ball of death in a bed of pine straw, so it could have easily ignited and then who knows what would have happened.\n\nOh, and my wife is out of town. Imagine making that call. Honey, umm, I uh, I burned the house down. *shiver* Can't even think about the fact that all 4 of my kids were home at this time.\n\nI will absolutely get a can of some sorts to put our butts in to reduce the risk. Should just fucking quit smoking.\n\nThanks dude. Oh, he was contemplating refininancing his house and wanted to discuss it with me.", "summary": "Out of beer, friend calls at just the right time, I smell smoke outside, house was about to catch fire."}
{"id": "t3_2vl3dt", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "My United Airlines Survey (just submitted)", "post": "This is the text I just submitted to United in the flight survey:\n\nOn an overnight flight in 1st class from Honolulu to Denver one of the flight attendants made the trip particularly miserable.  Let's call her Miss Bitchyface.  Miss Bitchyface began by executing the most grudgingly-performed safety briefing I had ever witnessed.  I thought that perhaps she had eaten something particularly sour.  Or that maybe an unfortunate stroke had paralyzed her face in a grimace I could only describe as \"tiki-like\" (having just left Hawaii).   Later to my surprise I learned that her visage was not actually stuck this way due to her animated and very loud joke-telling sessions at 3 am.  Miss Bitchyface seemed to have an obsession with the coat closet.  I think she opened it about 40 times on the flight.  Each time she allowed the door to swing open and hit my footrest startling me awake.  I suspect that her obsession began after being berated for failing to properly close the closet door and allowing it to swing wildly during taxi despite her being seated two feet from said door and my repeated attempts to alert her of it.  Luckily a conscientious attendant noticed it before take-off and averted disaster.   Unfortunately Miss Bitchy face was not assigned to serve us.  But I could hear her syrupy sweet insincerity and her jingling bracelet from a couple rows away.  In fact, she allowed us to enjoy her tinkling jewelry throughout the entire flight.  Usually accompanied by the staccato of her marching heels.   Having the forethought to wear earplugs made me the lucky one.  On the six-and-a-half-hour flight I was allowed as much as 20 minute intervals of sleep between interruptions. My wife got even less sleep.  Next time I think we'll take the train.", "summary": "Comically terrible first class flight attendant makes overnight flight miserable."}
{"id": "t3_34rm0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] Met Someone Who's Really Unlike Anyone Else I've Ever Met, Not Sure How To Approach Her Or If I Should.", "post": "I met a girl in a class we both had in college about a month ago. I have always seen her in class (I'm pretty sure I've had multiple with her) but I only spoke to her recently. \n\nWe both had to work on a project together along with one other member. One day we were all to meet up to work on the project, but the third person came late so it was just me and her for a while. At first we just talked about the project and how sucky it was that the third guy was so late, but then we began to talk about ourselves.\n\nI have never had a conversation like the one we had. Generally when I talk to people I have to reserve my interest in science or my goals, but in that conversation I didn't feel like I had to. Everything she said felt like she was just reading my mind and saying exactly what I wanted to hear or what I was going to say. She seems so passionate about science and I think that has to be the best quality I've ever seen in a person. Also, of course, I do as well find her attractive. \n\nI mean there was something that did put me off... She smokes cigarettes. But I think I can look past that lol. I honestly felt a connection with her that I've never felt before.\n\nI don't mean to sound full of myself, but it's so hard to find someone my age, in my city, to have an intellectual conversation with. It was refreshing. \n\nBut now I want to keep talking to her and I don't know how to make an excuse to. The semester is over and the project is done. I have her number but I don't know what I should do with it. I thought of texting her, we have before, but about what? \n\nOn top of all that, I have always told myself I shouldn't date in college. It might present distractions that could be take me away from my already overly ambitious goals.", "summary": "I met someone I find amazing but I am not sure what to do next.  Ive never really felt like I've wanted to date a girl since I left high school. Some times I've felt that I shouldn't. Im not sure if I should pursue this or not and I'm not sure if I want a relationship, but I'm sure that I don't want this to be the last time I talk to her which is something that is so easy to happen in college. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i4po1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need advice on how to advance this...", "post": "So, a little back story for all of you. \n\nI met this girl [16] (I'm 17 Male) about 3 1/2 or 4 weeks ago and it was a really casual thing to start out with. She was only a friend of a friend to me at first so I was like, \"Oh okay, she's just gonna chill with me and my other 2 friends.\" so I thought nothing of it but she was pretty chill so we talked a good while while just skating around town, getting coffee, and then going back to my place to just relax and listen to music.\n\nI started to like her more and more as the day went on because she's a very talented musician, very laidback, skates, and ADORES animals. She's perfect.\n\nWell, fast forward to now, we've hung out alot since then, gone to a concert, the mall, and hung out almost all week in a couple cases, and we're still just pretty close friends. \n\nI'm not too worried at the moment because we talk alot and always skate together and such but I'm just wondering, how do I advance this without overstepping my boundaries? She's had bad experiences with relationships in the past so I've been very careful to not do anything that'd upset her. \n\nAnd no friends, I'm not stuck in the friendzone, I've been made aware from her friend that she's interested in me as well, she's just shy and careful around people she likes.\n\nI would have totally taken her out for dinner already, but the only thing is that I'm currently unemployed...\n\nSO, my question to all of you lads and lasses out there is: How do I advance our relationship without making her feel uncomfortable? \n\nThank you in advance all of you. <3", "summary": "I met this girl a few weeks back, she's the fucking bees knees, she's had bad experiences with previous relationships, how do I advance our relationship without making her feel uncomfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_54hx4r", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Don't even know where to start -- very overwhelmed.", "post": "Making a one-off account, for some \"privacy\". \n\nSo I've been lurking on this sub for a while, and there has been a lot of great advice, including on the sidebar. My problem basically is -- I don't even know where to start. I know that we (my wife and I) aren't doing a good job managing money, and we've been \"trying\" to fix it for a while, but both aren't very good at this. With a little one on the way, it's really time for us to get on track.\n\nSo I've tried Mint, YNAB (can never get it working right so that I can actually use it successfully), and spreadsheets. I'm most comfortable with the spreadsheet, at least for now. It'll really be on me to manage, as my wife isn't very tech or financially savvy, but ultimately would love a way for her to access & manage. That's later...\n\nSo -- I know my income and the fixed expenses (rent, insurance, etc.). What I struggle with when creating a budget is the variable costs such as my wife's income (she's full-time, but paid hourly and paychecks vary depending on holidays, sick time, etc.), gas/electric (which changes pretty dramatically month-to-month), etc.\n\nWhat about factoring in things like doctors (co-pays, etc.), prescriptions, etc. that also happen every month. I also have some ESPP, 401K, credit card debt (for the first time ever, due to multiple unexpected things happening at once... long story, doesn't matter),  Student loans, etc. One problem is that I think the money is too \"spread out\" over multiple accounts.\n\nI'm thinking that one of the incomes could cover most of the expenses, and the other can cover leftover debt & savings, but would like to account for every dollar to make sure that is happening/can happen.\n\nI'll need to make another post once I get all this sorted out, but where is the best place to start? If I can at least get some of the basics down that would be great.", "summary": "My wife and I are overwhelmed with budgeting, especially with a baby on the way. Need help getting started sorting things out."}
{"id": "t3_1b1nk9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Dreaming (f22) of the ex(M22)", "post": "So we broke up after dating for almost 2 years, and while it's been extremely hard and sucks, He and I weren't in the same points of our lives, him just figuring out what to do with his life and me already having a career, the distance, lots of fighting about trust issues, granted I took him for granted and was selfish, to say the least we had our issues. I love him and I will always love him and I honestly thought we would get married, guess life didn't work out that way.\n\nI'm at the point where I'm getting on with my life and starting to move on, moving to a different state, great new job, getting used to being alone.. BUT I keep having these awfully vivid dreams about him and about us. It seems like almost every single night it's another dream and it's killing me. I wake up in the mornings feeling like complete shit. Is this normal? Does anyone else dream about there ex?", "summary": "Dreaming about my ex boyfriend and making me feel shitty. Is this normal? Does it ever stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1ut0n0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [24 M] has an old friend that I [23 F] am not comfortable with. Need advice.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short and sweet. My SO was \"best friends\" with this girl in college, but he was also in love with her at the time. The reason why they didn't work out is because \"she didn't want it.\" She came to visit him a few years ago when we were dating for about 6 months at the time and things went down that made us go through a really rough time for our relationship (he didn't cheat, he just treated me like crap and she was kind of a bitch to me). It's been 2 years since then and things have been better than ever, yet when I hear her name, I become filled with anger. I thought they stopped speaking because I haven't heard about her in a while and I hear about all of his other friends but I found out last night that they have. I asked to see a couple of messages, and all of them were along the lines of, \"you are so amazing!\" and \"omg I love you!\" I can't tell him to stop talking to her because she was his best friend, but how can I help myself not be so angry and be okay with this? If you need more information let me know, I didn't want to write too much BS.", "summary": "Bf is talking to his old girl best friend again which I am not comfortable with due to a sticky past situation."}
{"id": "t3_4v9h2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27f] want my boyfriend [26m] of almost 2 years to say \"I love you\" first.", "post": "My boyfriend was very shy when we met but slowly has bloomed into someone even more social than me. Watching him find his confidence has been an incredible turn on for me. \n\nLately I've felt like he's wanted to tell me he loves me. He initiates long conversations that end with awkward pauses while he looks into my eyes etc. So far he hasn't really worked up the nerve but he's been saying things like \"I love... about you\". I've been finding opportunities to reciprocate those sentiments by saying things like \"I love when you...\" and such. He made me a playlist where the majority of songs very heavily talk of loving someone.", "summary": "Should I let him off the hook and say it first? Is it ok to hold out because I really relish the thought of him having the confidence to say it to me first? Is there something I can do to encourage him?"}
{"id": "t3_10je9y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone have tips to help with extreme anxiety when teacher calls out your name to answer a question?", "post": "I never realized how bad it was until this year, i never really participated much in class ever... even in highschool cause im pretty quiet. And today in my third year university class i raised my hand for once because i thought i'd be able to handle it and i wasn't being picked on , and it was like my chest was closing up at the thought of speaking one word in front of other students. \nShe didnt even end up picking me, but it felt like i had the biggest adrenaline rush to say one answer...\n\nanyone can relate? \nIm not that quiet with my friends or anything either, just in class?", "summary": "fucking hate participating"}
{"id": "t3_4c1alr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my SO [28 M] five years, he shared a bed with another girl every weekend for around 6 months, with me in the next room.;text=. **tl;dr**: After he spent six months sharing a bed with someone else, but having sex with me, should I move to Canada with him?", "post": "My SO [M 29] shared a bed with another girl every weekend for around 6 months, with me in the next room.\n\nIt started about December. One day he went on a night out and didn't come back. I found out later he had been playing video games with a girl all night. She was bi and had had a long term girlfriend so I didn't think too much of it. \n\nThen I went home for Christmas and when I came back she was there, in the flat we had bought together, and it was obvious she had stayed over. I felt bad for leaving him over Christmas so just left it. But the seal was broken. \n\nNot long after that she started coming over every Friday and Saturday night with her", "summary": "After he spent six months sharing a bed with someone else, sometimes referring to me as his flatmate, but having sex with me, should I move to Canada with him?"}
{"id": "t3_283vmj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [18F] always suddenly lose interest in the guys that I date and break it off after a date or two?", "post": "This always happens, and I don't know why. But it's a big problem.\nWhen I'm attracted to a guy, I get interested in him and start to like him. If it happens to be that he likes me too, we go on (a) date(s). But all of a sudden, usually on the first date (yes, that early!), I suddenly lose all of my interest in him, I don't want to be with him, and -- as horrible as it sounds -- feel disgusted by the guy. Anyone heard of the \"instant eww\"? Well, that's how I'd feel towards him. But it's not like I want to feel disgusted! I really don't... it just happens, I can't control it... Then I'd go home and feel like crap for the rest of the week, thinking about how much of a terrible person I am for doing this to him; on top of that, thinking of how to break it off because it's definitely not going to work in my state.\n\nThis has happened for the past 3 guys, and I'm sure that this pattern of being interested in a guy, to dating him once or twice, suddenly dislike him for some unknown reason, and break it off is going to persist. I feel like a terrible person for doing this; something's telling me that maybe I'm just not ready for a relationship, or that there has to be some kind of psychological reasons or subconscious reason. I've decided to stop dating for a long time until I figure out why I'm being like this. I don't want to break anymore hearts, it's just really not fair for them and I feel really bad. I'm trying to figure out why I'm behaving a certain way when it comes to guys and dating. Does this happen to anyone else? Could anyone explain to me why this might happen?\n\nWhy is it that I only like the chase, but when he likes me, I lose interest?", "summary": "See title."}
{"id": "t3_1mdt5t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I left my sister in South Korea with no one", "post": "I was in South Korea for two months this summer, studying abroad. I chose to go there partly because my older sister happens to live in South Korea as an elementary school English teacher and I wanted to visit her. Saved up for a year to scrape up enough money to pay for half of it (scholarships covered the other half).\n\nI stayed with my sister for about one month of it. I understood that we'd both changed during the long time we didn't see each other so I shrugged off various things that would have bothered me otherwise, and we had a great time hanging out together and catching up and having fun. Anyway fast-forward to today when I've been back in the states for a month and she just messaged me saying that she got into a toxic relationship a few days after I left, cropped up with a host of health problems, and just found out that she has a stress-induced hernia (whatever that may be), and part of the reason is that she couldn't handle me leaving. \n\nAs soon as she told me all this, she tried to blow it off and make light of it, especially about the relationship she's in (what details she did tell made me really uneasy). On top of that she decided to re-sign her teaching contract and stay for at least another year. I know I'm responsible for part of this situation (especially since I gave her the idea to teach in South Korea in the first place) and I could have done more to help her out but at the time I had no idea that she had counted so much on my being around. She's four years older than me and we didn't even become friends until recently. I always looked up to her because she was always taller/more beautiful/more mature than me and I was so busy being excited that she was treating me like an equal to see that she was having a lot of other problems.\n\nI keep catching myself planning to go back to Korea as soon as I can just to try to help her out. But I can't go, because I'm in the thick of my senior year in university, I have no money anymore for travel, and I can hardly think straight myself because of school expectations.", "summary": "I'm worried out of my mind about my older sister because she's self-destructing and she's alone in Korea with no family and few friends, and I feel responsible."}
{"id": "t3_11wlmg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This might sound horribly ignorant or stupid, but I was wondering about normal interaction with Muslim women.", "post": "I am a pretty friendly and outgoing guy, but I am confused about something. I usually smile at people and say hi cordially (even strangers), but when I see Muslim women in headscarves, I am worried that they will take offense to me smiling and looking them in the eye. So in the end, if I accidentally make eye contact, I quickly look away so I don't feel like I am offending them, but that seems even more rude.\n\nI am in the US, and my heritage is East Indian (Hindu). I live in AZ and women with headscarves probably already have such a hard time with discrimination in this state. I just want to do what is right. With my Indian background, I look similar to Muslims, and I am worried that that may create even more offense, as if I am leering or something when I am really just a nice guy.\n\nMy fiancee and I were at the mall yesterday, and it came up. I smiled and said hi to the women behind us in line, and they looked a little taken aback. Did I fuck up?", "summary": "Is it rude or offensive for a male to smile and say hi to a woman in a headscarf, or is it okay to act cordially like I would with any stranger?"}
{"id": "t3_va9x8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone have experience with cell phone repair companies?", "post": "Yesterday, I accidentally dropped my Motorola Atrix 2 and the screen cracked really badly. My phone is still fully functional, but it's a bit difficult to see what I'm doing when I'm texting or web browsing, etc. \n\nAnyway, I stupidly didn't buy insurance for my phone and I'm not eligible for an upgrade until next May! AT&T offers some options as far as getting a no-commitment phone at a slight discount, but spending $300-$600 for a new phone isn't really in the budget right now. I know when you start a new contract, AT&T offers their phones at a fraction of the price (i.e., $100 for a $500 phone) so would I be able to take advantage of that? It seems like I wouldn't, but I'm a little confused with how their policy works that way! I was thinking of visiting my local store.\n\nSo I was looking at [Motorola's repair center] and they said they won't repair phones that have been physically abused - so that means dropped, submerged in water, ran over, exposed to heat, etc. \n\nI found a couple websites that will repair your phone if you send it in. [Doctor Quick Fix] will do it for $110 and I'm still waiting on a quote from [CPR](\n\nSo my question is, have any of you used this company, or know anyone who has used it? Should I trust these companies? Do you have any recommendations? What should I do to get my phone fixed?", "summary": "I dropped my phone, cracking the screen. I can't afford to buy a full price phone, so should I try the above repair companies? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kj3cp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with irrational possessive feelings?", "post": "This isn't about one specific relationship of mine, but comes up in some of them. \n\nIn high school, I felt like my (25F) friends were \"mine,\" and didn't like that my sister (26F, and we were teenagers at the time) was friends with them too. I knew back then that this was stupid, but I still felt possessive of the friends, like they would leave me and just be friends with her. I now know that this was cruel to her since people can be friends with a pair of siblings, and I was stupid and silly to think that. \n\nThis even comes up with objects. There's a tool at work that I use, and for the three years I've been there, I've been the only person using the tool. I know it's company property, but since I'm the only one using it, it feels like it is mine. A few months ago, someone else took on a task and needs to use it too, so there are some times when I go look for this tool and it's not there I feel like they stole something from me. \n\nI know that these feelings are irrational, and I never get upset with the other person using the tool (they are literally doing nothing wrong), but I still feel the possessive feelings and I want to take my things back.", "summary": "How do you deal with feeling possessive about things that you don't have the right to feel possessive over?"}
{"id": "t3_2d7q17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [23M] feel so bad hearing about how well and happy my ex [23F] is, when she was the one who cheated?", "post": "Hey guys, so I've posted on here a few times about my ex so I'm sure you can easily find it in the post history if you really want to know the context of it all and how we broke up.\n\nLong story short, she's still with the 18 year old that she cheated on me with and I regularly hear from mutual friends about how happy she is and how she says that he is the \"true one for her\" and that shes never been happier in her life. I feel absolutely awful hearing how great she is doing and progressing because I guess there is a selfish part of me that wants her to be in a much worse situation than I am in for what she did. We were together for 3 years and speaking of marriage, which was entirely her idea to begin with.\n\nShe and I have been officially broken up for about 7 months. I understand that everybody wants to be the one who does well after a harsh break-up but I feel like my life, despite going to the gym and trying to get out more and be social after all this time, is seemingly going nowhere with no love aspects on the horizon. While she, the cheater, is out living life to the fullest with her new boyfriend.\n\nI feel the majority of me is over her. I no longer have longings and wishes of being back together or reminisce the happier days with her. There are no romantic feelings towards her anymore which in itself has been a huge step forward for me. However, I just don't like that the person who did all this and ruined everything and crushed me so horribly with a terrible act seems to be so much happier than I am. In truth, despite getting over her romantically, I still don't think I'm anywhere near happy like I used to be.\n\nIt's late and I suppose I just needed to get this off of my chest as it has been bothering me for awhile. Maybe some other people who have been in the same or a similar situation can tell me what they did to overcome these feelings", "summary": "Having terrible feelings knowing that my ex, who cheated and ruined the relationship, is much happier now and seems to be living a much more positive life than I am."}
{"id": "t3_1jd9du", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M] SO [18F] of 1 year and 3 months has cheated on me. I need help.", "post": "So, my Girlfriend cheated on me. I really don't know what to do. I love her more than anything. She has profusely apologized to me. Saying, \"It was the biggest mistake of my life\".  \n\nNow let me start of by saying this girl has been amazing to me our entire relationship. Never have I thought she would do something like this. It seems totally out of character.  \n\n Like all relationships we've had our share of issues but nothing on the caliber of cheating. Mostly I'm just confused and hurt, I barely can find myself wanting to do anything remotely sexual right now, which is bizarre because my libido is extremely high. I feel unattractive, unneeded, unwanted, etc. Basically like I mean nothing to her sexual interest. Which she says ins't the case. To her, this was just a huge mistake and she still has all the love for me she has previously. I don't know if I should just try to forget about it and forward the relationship, or not. She even went as far to say she barely enjoyed it. Saying I was much better, should I believe what she says? It's not like she has ever lied to me. She just straight out said it day of. She has no intention of hiding anything from me. I do feel like she has extreme regret. I just still don't know if I should trust her anymore, or in general even continue the relationship. Is it too damaged? Can we recover? Do I trust her again? What do I do..?\n\n(Side note: We have already talked about most these things. I just want more input so saying \"talk to her\" will be of no benefit.)", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated, I don't know if I should continue trying in the relationship, trusting her, is it able to be recovered from, is the relationship too damaged, generally, what do I do, how do I respond to the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1qg4u9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/F] have developed feelings for my FWB [30/M]: not sure what to do.. Help please!", "post": "I have been sleeping with my FWB for 8 months now, on and off (mostly on). However he moved about 4 hours away from me shortly after it started, so mostly we have only been seeing each other for a few days every 1-2 months. \n\nWe were flatmates for several months before we became FWB, and were having sex during his last 2 weeks in the flat. During that time I came to have feelings for him, which I let him know about before he left. At that time told me he didn't want a relationship with anyone. I was sad for a while after he left, but eventually accepted that he didn't want more and stopped thinking about it a whole lot.\n\nNow it seems to have become a bit of a cycle for me. When we do see each other, I am reminded of how much I like him and how much fun I have around him. In bed we have a lot of chemistry, and we often talk for a while afterwards and generally fool around having fun. But outside the bedroom I am not sure how to act around him - I don't want to act too couple-ey and smother him, so I end up going to the other extreme and acting like just a friend who is semi-awkward at times. Sometimes I think my actions probably confuse him and don't really encourage the chances of him developing feelings for me, but I don't know what else to do after he says he can't seem to develop strong feelings for anyone anymore (he has been cheated on by 2 previous gfs). \n\nI dont want to make myself more emotionally invested (and then potentially embarrass myself and get hurt) by actively pursuing him, but I don't really want to end it either.   \n\nI truly don't know what to think anymore. Sometimes he acts as though he cares for me, other times he doesn't, and he never really talks about his feelings. But 8 months seems to be a long time to keep having sex with someone you feel nothing for?", "summary": "I have feelings for my FWB who has said that he can't seem to develop strong feelings for girls anymore after being betrayed in past relationships. I'm overthinking, finding it hard to interpret his actions and not sure what to do. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_23zeh0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my GF [26 F]: how does self-control play a part in respect towards one another?", "post": "Mostly I'm frustrated with her alcohol problem (loses her mind, goes crazy, embarrasses herself and me,  always apologizes yet always repeats). I express my frustration with this issue to her and recommend that she does NOT drink anymore and she will agree yet a week later begs me/whines to take her out for a drink and I'm a big enough pussy to let by-gones be and take her out, but the end results are ALWAYS THE SAME. \nOlease help because I want to leave her because of her lack of self control in (not only in this aspect mind you) this regard and it causes me to have less respect for ER as an adult.\n\n I honestly see her as a child that I constantly have to say no to with anything that her id conjures up. \n\nUgh. Please advise.", "summary": "GF has no self control and I judge her because of it. I don't want to deal with it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_1vo69v", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "22m. Commuter at an engineering school. Need some ideas and help.", "post": "Hi. Basically I'm a 22 year old dude living with my parents and commuting every day to my an engineering school. It is very very hard for me to have an active social life and meet women. Online dating isn't really a thing where I'm from (at least not for people my age).\n\nMy main hobbies are playing guitar and building guitar effects. I'm also an alpinist and rock climber. So I've got that going for me which is nice. I don't think I'm boring.\n\nProblem is everywhere I go I meet guys. I haven't spoken to a 'new' girl in 2 years and I have never even kissed a girl. I want to change this but I don't know how and it's fucking with my confidence (which has never been high to begin with).\n\nMaybe I should also note that I've had a pretty horrible depression over the last few years that I've been trying to beat and it's getting a bit better lately. I'm a rather anxious, nervous and shy person although none of this is really crippling. I can hold a conversation well and people in general seem to appreciate me.\n\nAny tips from people who went through similar stuff ? Any tips in general are welcome... I really want to get this dating thing started but I'm ... let's call it 'scared'.", "summary": "Meeting women and socializing are a logistical and psychological nightmare for me. HALP !"}
{"id": "t3_tz6xo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When is it okay to attack your significant other?", "post": "Hi Reddit, this is my first post on AskReddit. Recently, my brother's girlfriend and I was listening and eventually talking about the Rihanna song featuring Chris Brown on the radio (I think it was called birthday cake). Anyways, I was still shocked about Rihanna getting back together with CB after what happened. I said that Rihanna should have never gotten back with CB after what he's done. My brother's girlfriend said otherwise and stated that \"it was love.\" I have never been in a relationship so I'm not in a favourable position to argue. So Reddit, under what circumstances (other than the circumstance of self defence) are you deemed socially just when you physically attack your significant other?", "summary": "Me and bro's girlfriend argued about Chris Brown and Rihanna getting back together. Bro's girlfriend said it was okay due to being love. When do you think it is okay to attack your significant other?"}
{"id": "t3_1b15gq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to make my [F,20] relationship with my boyfriend [M, 20] more exciting again.", "post": "I [f,20]  have been with my boyfriend [m,20] for over 2 years now, and at the beginning of this year, I moved hours away for college. The distance has been a struggle. Communication is the hardest thing. Our work/study times cross over so if we do have time to talk in the day, its very brief. \nWe are very comfortable with each other, so with that we are used to what we have in this relationship. There doesnt seem to be the excitement anymore, and it is very hard to maintain that while in a LDR. \nLately, we have been getting really short with each other and end up arguing over the stupidest, most minimal things. \nThere may be a chance for me to transfer my course somewhere that isnt so far from his town, and we may be able to see each other more often. \nI am seeing him for a week from tomorrow, and I really want to do my part in making the relationship more fun, flirty and exciting but dont really know where to start or how to do that? \nI dont want to give up just saying the relationship is 'boring' if I/we havent done anything to try fix that.. \n\n**bold", "summary": "relationship not exciting anymore. Wanting to bring fun and flirtiness back into the relationship, rather than just giving up."}
{"id": "t3_vveyf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] separated with my ex (21/F) two months ago, how do I let her go?", "post": "What I mean is, how do I let the fact that she is living her own life right now and can do whatever she wants settle in my mind, we were together for six months I am not being selfish right now, as she can do whatever the fuck she wants right now, I have no authority stopping her. But my mind keeps telling me that she is still my girlfriend and whatever she is doing with a guy/girl right now is her cheating on me. I hate this fucking feeling, I want this gone as it is ruining me trying to move forward and start being in new relationships. So friends, how were you able to forget about this, without the use of alcohol/drugs since they are currently making me worse.", "summary": "How did you get your ex off your mind?"}
{"id": "t3_9yh2m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I am making a game and need some creativity.", "post": "I am in college and am doing research on the different learning style of the millennial generation. I am a junior CS student and am beginning to create a MMO that incorporates the fundamental principles of CS (recursion, loops, etc.) in a fun and easy to digest manner. This is also supposed to help other people become more interested in majoring in CS. \n\nThe basic premise that my professor has come up with is that you are an AI of some sort and become more powerful as you progress by being able to use various parts of your system that get upgraded. (CPU cycles, RAM, etc.) I am not entirely devoted to this character at all. We have not really discussed storyline or the world that this is set in. I am asking for help because I have very little creativity when it comes to this type of thing.\n\nSo Reddit what I ask of you is for some ideas that could be used for \n\n* the overall story of the game\n* the visual style of the game\n* the characters\n* the world\n* any other features you can think of\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Making MMO using CS topics. Need creative ideas for parts of it. "}
{"id": "t3_ncg60", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cheating ex-BF... we're no longer dating but still having sex.", "post": "Throwaway account...\n\nBF and I dated 3.5 years with several brief breakups. Broke up for 2 months during which we still hung out/had sex. Stopped seeing each other for last 2 weeks, then he begged me to come back to him/couldn't live without me, etc. I confirmed he hadn't slept with anyone else and resumed a relationship with him.\n\nHe broke up with me 6 months later, citing all the same problems. I was scheduled to have a hysterectomy the following week (he was supposed to help out with hospital/post-surgery stuff), so the timing was horrible. I made other arrangements and got through surgery, only to find that he'd been cheating on me the last 6 months of our relationship with the wife of his business partner! It started BEFORE he begged me to come back and continued (going from using condoms to condomless sex when she got on the pill for him) the entire 6 months and for a couple of weeks after we broke up.\n\nI went through the obvious range of emotions (anger/hatred/depression). In the end, I still have feelings for him. Additionally, after the hysterectomy, I'm TERRIFIED to have sex with someone new. I don't know what to expect physically and really don't want to try out the new configuration with a new partner.\n\nEnter the no-strings sex with the cheating ex. He feels terrible about the affair (he's lost a lot as a result) and still cares about me. I still care about him. Obviously we can never date again (we broke up for good reasons even without the affair).  Is it a horrible idea to have post-surgical \"let's try this out\" sex with him? I can lie and say it's only to test it all out before starting a relationship with a new partner, but that's only part of it. I want my confidence back! The affair was crushing to my self-esteem, and on top of it, I have no idea what to expect sexually after surgery.  He's a known variable, but I also still have deep feelings for him.", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend cheated and we broke up. I/we still want to have sex (testing out post-surgical sex, but also, I miss him). The plan is to move on after I get my post-affair/post-surgery sexual confidence back. But am I stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_3gelmv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to kill a fly with a hand towel.", "post": "So there has been a fly in my apartment for the past few days. I have tried to kill him many times, but to no avail. Today I was about to take a shower, because of this I had disrobed when I noticed the fly buzzing blithely about the bathroom. I decided to kill the fly with a hand towel as I have often done, by catching it while it was perched on a surface and popping it with the towel like a whip. \n\nMy first attempt failed and he buzzed around for a few short moments before coming to rest on the wall about two feet off the ground. I grasp the opportunity before me to settle this once and for all! However, I jerked the towel back from attempting to hit the fly with more zest than normal, popping myself in the groin with the towel on it's return from seeking the fly's life. Alas, I also failed to kill the fly, which meant I stood there with a mild ache seeping up into my stomach while that little bastard buzzed around me as if he knew and was taunting me.", "summary": "Tried popping a fly with a towel to kill it, ended up popping myself in the balls."}
{"id": "t3_352brp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21F] make my coworker [22M] feel comfortable talking to me again?", "post": "Last night I went out bar crawling with several of my coworkers. One of them, Harry, got heavily drunk so I offered him my couch to pass out on because it was just a short walk away. He happily accepted, but I told him that first I need to just double check that it was okay with my roommates and my significant other. He immediately said, \"oh you have a boyfriend?\" and stormed away.\n\nAn hour later I got this text:\n\n\" It would be for the best if we didn't speak again. I'm sorry for being the asshole that I am. I did a lot of stupid things tonight, and I'm still in the process of doing something stupid. I'm so sorry for putting you in any kind of awkward position, you don't deserve that. I figure I should say all this before I get too sober and clam up.\"\n\nNow I understand that he probably had a crush on me and was upset to find out that I have a boyfriend, but I did not lead him on in anyway before this. I also realize that this was blown out of proportion for him because of how much alcohol he had. \n\nHow do I respond to his text in a way that let's him know that it was okay to have a bad drunk night and that I don't think any less of him for it? I'm at a loss how to do this since I know about his crush. I have to continue working with him so it would be awkward if I can't resolve this.", "summary": "my coworker got drunk and freaked out when he found out I have a SO. I want to let him know he doesn't need to be embarrassed."}
{"id": "t3_wqf14", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How do you race hills?", "post": "I've had some coaches tell me to charge up hills, pump my arms and take long strides up to the top. Then before one race we were tempoing, my coach said \"don't put yourself into oxygen debt on that first hill\". This changed my whole mentality on hills. Now I relax on hills, slow down and keep my heart rate the same as it was on the flat. When I get to the top I find I feel much better than I would have if I charged up the hill, and I quickly catch anyone that passed me on the hill that is now gasping for air.", "summary": "I run easy up the hills and make up ground on the downhill."}
{"id": "t3_yc690", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My recruiter annoys the hell out of me. What are your \"careful what you wish for\" moments?", "post": "I'll go first...\n\n29/M: I applied for about 20 jobs in the past month and had a recruiter contact me about a position. She calls me the following week to meet up at Starbucks, fine. All is well, she seems like a nice lady, and knows what she's going. \n\nAnyway, I have received 10 calls within the past 12 days from this girl. Only one interview. That's almost 1 call per day. I love that she's trying to get me a job, but at the same time, I feel like I get a status about a status.\n\nWhat do you want me to say? Just get me the damn interviews and push for a better salary.", "summary": "My recruiter calls me every day. And it's becoming slightly annoying."}
{"id": "t3_1jk80x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "It may seem trivial, but he (24/m) is causing me to lose sleep (24/f)?", "post": "Alright this is going to sound pretty dumb but it's causing some tension between my boyfriend and I. \n\nMy boyfriend moves around a bit when he sleeps. Before we moved in together his bed was up against a wall and I slept on the inside. Occasionally I was annoyed when he would end up basically rolling me up against the wall to the point I had maybe an inch of space on either side of me -- but this happened only once or twice a month and I could sleep through it usually. \n\nNow our bed is in the middle of our bedroom. It's the same bed. He ends up pushing me again toward the edge of the bed -- sleeping in the middle with about a foot or two of space on his side. I try to move him but having to wake up and do this makes me exhausted. He's 6'2'' and I'm 5'7''. I understand the need for space but still. \n\nAnyone have any solutions besides separate beds? We already tried moving it against the wall again. I've told him he does this and he always apologizes so I don't believe it's intentional, but it has gotten progressively worse.", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks entire bed is his when we are asleep. Any solutions besides separate beds?"}
{"id": "t3_2uosl1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] fwb [21M] seems to want to be something more. Don't know how to proceed.", "post": "If this isn't the right place to post,  feel free to redirect me. Anyway,  me and a guy friend became FWB (we've been hooking up for only about a month) with him being the one expressing how he only wants a NSA. I was fine with that, I'm not very good with relationships or feelings in general. But last time we hooked up, he told me he'd like to take me on a traditional date (movie and dinner type thing) for once, and that he wants to take me out for Valentine's Day. Don't really know how to proceed with it, because I do like him and the sex is great, but I don't want to seem like I'm leading him on/hurt his feelings. Or am I looking way too far into his actions?", "summary": "FWB who agreed on nothing but NSA fun now wants to go out on dates, am confused, help."}
{"id": "t3_2cwntk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [21 M] met a girl [18 F] online and have been talking for two weeks straight and were supposed to meet, but now she won't talk to me.", "post": "We matched on tinder and she messaged me first, the only girl out of almost 100 matches to do so. She wasn't looking for a hookup and I wasn't looking to date, but we had a lot in common and spent the first week talking all day everyday, she initiated adding me on Facebook and snap chat. When I asked her about meeting up, she was hesitant because I'm a stranger, but willing. We scheduled to meet on Tuesday and she seemed completely into it and we kept chatting. Then the day before she cancels, siting family issues. She's willing to small talk, but won't respond to rescheduling and doesn't want to talk about her personal life. The only thing I know of is that she was supposed to move out the day before she canceled. I don't know if she isn't interested anymore or what, but I feel like I should just drop her because she barely responds anymore. I really just want to meet her in person, I don't care where it goes from there, but it feels like a lost cause. Would it be worth it to just ask her what's up?", "summary": "Girl cancels meeting and won't talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_49mtji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to have a serious talk with an SO?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMy SO [25F] and I [30M] are great about 95% of the time. Sometimes she does little things that bug me and I'll let her know that they bug me on the spot and she'll recognize what she did, apologize, and correct her actions. She's just as communicative with me when I annoy her with my stupid antics and I'll apologize and correct whatever it is that needed correcting.\n\nHowever, the bigger issues like money, marriage, sex and overall feelings tend to be \"sit down\" conversations. When she brings up an important issue, I listen intently, take a moment to process and build a proper response then tell her how I feel and together we come up with a course of action. \n\nOn the opposite side of the table, if I bring up an issue with her she completely shuts down. She doesn't speak, doesn't look at me, nothing. I think she's doing everything she can to hold tears back. I've told myself that I'd write a letter in the future expressing everything I felt but the conversations aren't exactly planned. I've even tried to wait it out and we both sat there for *10 minutes* in silence. Not joking. Literally 10 minutes because I told myself after 10 minutes I'd say something.\n\nWe've never yelled at each other and I love her dearly. I'm hoping there's a method or some kind of way that she'd be much more reciprocating during an important conversation. I certainly don't want to have an important conversation about how she's non-responsive during important conversations.", "summary": "My SO shuts down when I bring up an important issue. Need help coaxing a response or a technique that will allow her to speak more comfortably."}
{"id": "t3_1ivtxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Women of Reddit: If a complete stranger knew your significant other is a snake, would you want to know?", "post": "I am a man (33) who is in a yearlong relationship with a 26 year old woman. I found out that a friend of hers who she had a business relationship has been sending her sexually explicit private messages on Facebook. They were actually quite frightening. My Girlfriend and I are working on that.\n\nWhat I want to know is, I know who the guy's girlfriend is thanks to Facebook. If you were her, would you want a complete stranger to warn her that he's trouble?", "summary": "A guy with a girlfriend was sexting my girlfriend. Should I tell his girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1aj58k", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Help me pick books for my mom.", "post": "I apologize for the wall of text, but I want to be thorough with this.\n\nMy mom is 56, retired last summer, and kind of lapsing in the intellectual department. She's got nothing to do that occupies her time aside from watching TV. She's been doing more reading lately, even had me pick her up a booklight so should could read while my dad is asleep, but she's reading stuff that's clearly not intellectually challenging. She bought ~10 Debbie Macomber books at a garage sale and has been consuming then nonstop. She expressed some interest to me in reading something that's less fluffy, but I'm kind of at a loss on what to get her. \n\nI work in a bookstore, so you'd think that I'd be good at making these kinds of suggestions, and I've been trying with her. I tend to pick standard book club fodder, *The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society* was a book that she claimed to like, but there are other things I've picked up for her that she hasn't seemed interested in. \n\nShe also doesn't want anything \"dark.\" She's constantly complaining about the media that my father and I consume being too dark, too creepy, too violent, too sad, so on and so on. She doesn't seem to want anything that is too deep on the emotional scale, so I don't know what to do. I tend to feel like a book is really great when it rips my heart into a million pieces and puts it back together again in a different shape. I don't think my mom wants that. \n\nI'd like to get her a series, I've been thinking about *The No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency* by Alexander McCall Smith, but I'm not sure. I haven't read them, so what with them being mysteries rather than romance, I'm afraid she'll think they're \"too dark\" all over again. She's voiced interest in some \"good nonfiction\" but I'm not sure where to go with that either, since reality is often darker than fiction.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Reading material for my middle-aged, retired mom. Preferably a series. \"Not dark\" but still intellectually stimulating. She's been reading fluffy romance, but I'd like to help her branch out."}
{"id": "t3_2hqk4b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "'no life' what to do?", "post": "hi /r/advice,\n\ni really need help!\nfor about 5 years i have been playing computer games. not 1 - 2h a day, more like 12 - 16. i am crazy addicted, the first thing i do in the morning is start up my pc (literally roll out of bed, push the button) and second is checking youtube and my e-mails. i cancelled a schooling (or further education? not sure what its called) because i skipped class so much and sat at home browsing/gaming. now im literally sitting all day with nothing else to do and i get frustrated very quickly when i just try to find a job or do anything productive. im getting more frustrated and depressed with my life every day. since selling the computer in this day and age is not really an option (and also because it cost me a ton of money) i need to find some way to limit my pc time and actually live, but i have no ideas on how i would be able to do that. \ni would very much appreciate any help and suggestions", "summary": "pc addict, wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_47b02l", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I cheated on a school assignment (an AP CompSci Lab) for the first time and feel awful. I'm worried about my future.", "post": "I'm a junior in high school, and just cheated on a school assignment for the first time. I had an AP CompSci lab due at midnight, procrastinated too much over the last few days, and had to look up the code on github, slightly modify it, and submit it. I don't think I'll be caught for it but I feel completely awful and inadequate. I procrastinated, I don't think I could have come up with any of these solutions on my own, and I'm worried this is going to develop into a habit that will result in me falling behind. I really love programming as an intellectual task, I've always fancied myself somewhat ok at it, and I want to pursue it as a career - but how can I do that if I can't even throw a lab like this together at the last minute. I'm already coming up with side-projects and excuses to myself to 'make up' for this, but nothing will really make up for the fact I submitted somebody else's work because I was too lazy to do my own until the last minute where I no longer had time to do it. I admire brilliant programmers like John Carmack, Dennis Ritchie, etc, and see that kind of ingenuity as something to strive for. It's really what I want to reach in life but here I am unable to even complete a basic fucking AP lab. Not to mention that the AP CompSci exam is coming up fairly soon and I'm terrified if I can't get my act together and lock down my skills before it I'm going to bomb.", "summary": "I cheated, I feel gross and insecure about my skills now. "}
{"id": "t3_1zb5fo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Boyfriend [21 M] broke up with Me [24 M] after deciding our long distance relationship wasn't working.", "post": "Back in August I messaged a guy on Facebook. After kind of browsing his pictures, I figured he was gay, finally I got the courage to ask him if he was and sure enough he was! The reason why this was so crazy is that we're both in the Army. He was in Afghanistan at the time but was coming back in September. He post is 4 hours from where I was at. \n\nWe texted all the time while he was in Afghanistan (on facebook, you can use it over there). Finally he decided he wanted to meet me, so about 3 days after he got back to the states he came up and long story short, we started dating. We're only able to see each other a few weekends a month, but we texted and called everyday.\n\nThis week, while I was down at his post doing training (not staying with him) he decided that it just couldn't work out (which is understandable). He said that on Valentines day, after I couldn't make it down to spend the weekend with him due to work, that he just didn't want to do it anymore.\n\nMy question: How do I do this? I'm lost right now. Should I try to give him a few days before talking to him? We said our goodbyes last night, and decided we could maybe be friends but neither of us have texted each other for days (other then to see him to say good bye).", "summary": "Two soldiers stationed at different bases, 4 hours apart, boyfriend decided it just can't work out."}
{"id": "t3_1g1knv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about Wells Fargo Private Loans", "post": "Hey everyone, I recently graduated with my Bachelor's degree in Nursing from a private, 4 year college. I had to take out the Government loans as well as private loans. I have a question about my private loans. As you can see here,  this shows my principal balances, interest rates, and current interest accumulated. \n\n The 13.250% loan has a fixed interest rate, the others are variable. I would really like to pay off both my private and government loans as soon as possible, and I am trying to figure out the best way to do it.\n\n I am a little confused over the wording of the paperwork I have on them. For the loan I took out in 2009, the wording about prepayment is \"Prepayment will not result in a penalty. If you choose to pre-pay, you will not be entitled to a refund of any loan origination fees or any finance charges accrued through the date of repayment\" Does this mean, if I were to pay it off, I would only need to pay the current interest and the principal balance? The paperwork says that I would end up paying around $19,344 if I pay it over the 15 years, but if I pay it off sooner, I would pay less?\n\nThe other 3 loans have different wording. \"If you pay off your loan early, you will not have to pay a penalty. You will not be entitled to a refund of part of the finance charge\". To me, that seems like, even if you pay it off earlier, you would still need to pay all of the interest that would have accumulated over 15 years. Are my thoughts correct? \n\nAlso, considering all this information, how should I go about paying back my loans? I have $27,000 in government loans, + interest, plus these private loans.", "summary": "confused about the wording of my private loans, and want some help figuring out how to pay back my government and private loans."}
{"id": "t3_1qerzg", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "What can you tell me about my cat?", "post": "We adopted a stray kitten that my sister found in the local Taco Bell parking lot. After watching for missing signs and seeing nothing, we decided to keep him. Great, cat, whatever. But things have been happening that, taken together, are intriguing.\n\n1) He looks like no cat we've ever had. Slightly different gait, facial structure, and is very large. He's only about 4 months and is already probably north of 10 lbs by a bit.\n\n2) He can't genuinely meow. He can purr, but when he tries meowing it's almost like a series of small chirps.\n\n3) He is EXTREMELY people driven. He loves attention at all times, will go limp as a rag doll if you pick him up, plays fetch, and compulsively gnaws on your hands as you pet him, like a puppy might--no broken skin.\n\n4) He is apparently hypoallergenic. My fiancee is intensely allergic to cat dander and doesn't do well with long furred dog dander, even. Yet she seems able to play with him with impunity.\n\n5) The final, most bizarre thing, isn't even something he did. My aunt took him to the vet and the vet asked \"How much did [blindfire40's mom] pay for this cat?\" As we got him for free from under our tires, it's certainly odd that the vet would ask that.\n\nTo assist in identification, I've attached a [few pictures] of him. It may be that he's simply a bizarre tabby, and that's fine too, because we certainly love him. But Mom's got this idea that he's one of the intergrades between domestic and a wild cat, for the reasons listed above.", "summary": "My cat is weird. Lookit the pictures and please tell me if you think he's anything but a normal housecat."}
{"id": "t3_1r80tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [28M] motivate my GF [26F] of one year to take care of herself?", "post": "Some background:\n\nAlthough she is making large strides toward taking the world head on, she has extreme issues with self-image, self-worth, and an overall complete lack of confidence. She could be absolutely gorgeous if she wanted to and leave me in the dust for a much better looking guy, but she does absolutely nothing to take care of herself. She rarely wakes up before 9am, brushes her teeth about every other day, she might shave her legs once every few months. She maintains absolutely no upkeep on her body. \n\nShe has beautiful long red hair, yet I have never once seen it in any form other than parted directly down the middle (think Millie from Freaks and Geeks). She owns absolutely no type of hair holding mechanism, any kind of makeup, and virtually no clothes. Unless she is working, she seldom wears anything other than pajamas. She seems to spend most of her days lost in the dream world of the future, making lots of grand plans, but doing nothing to follow through on them.\n\nLet me be well understood that none of these things are required by me, but it was my understanding these things generally help women feel better about themselves.\n\nI spend a lot of time trying to motivate her by telling her she's beautiful, smart, capable, and how much I love her. I sometimes buy things and put them in the bathroom/shower that I think she may like or may be interested in using (facial cleansers, luffas, etc.) but nothing seems to work. I am a very motivating and positive person, but most of the time I feel as if she is just ignoring my attempts to help her take life head-on.\n\nWhat more can I do to help her gain confidence?", "summary": "gf won't take care of herself. rarely shaves/cleans/leaves pajamas. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_zyl9s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How far would you go to avoid confrontation?", "post": "At the bar with a freind of mine who is kinda weird. We ordered a plate of cheese fries to share. While we were waiting he starts to pick his nose right in front of me. Right in the middle of me talking. Flicks a couple of buggers like its nothing. I couldn't believe it. Wanted so badly to demand he go wash his hands before he touched any food, instead I said nothing and only ate fries I was sure he hadn't touched. So I ask, how would you react? Would you have said something? Keep in mind I sometimes think this guy is mildly autistic.\n\nFeel free to post any relevant stories.", "summary": "bar with friend, picks nose right in front of me while we share food. I say and do nothing."}
{"id": "t3_1f2f8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/16] am in a sexless relationship of nearly a year and a half with a young woman [F/17], for over a month it's been...different.", "post": "I am in a relationship with this young woman, She chooses not to have sex with me because she fears pregnancy and she doesn't believe we are ready yet, which is understandable. I have told her that I was ready and sure to lose my virginity to her, the feeling is not mutual.\n\n**Here is the fork in the road:** If we do not have sex, that is fine by me. But I have a large sexual appetite: I'm very horny. Alongside that, I am quite emotional when it comes to things pertaining to an emotional reconnection, through intimacy. I am constantly frustrated that me and her never get any alone time, if we do it's once in a blue moon. For the past month i have not gotten any action with her, I have left her home frustrated and angered that we do not spend any time alone together to reconnect emotionally. I have done my research, I know I am not just a horny bastard but it's also something on an emotional level. It has come to the point where I was literally saddened that I have been in a year with this girl and I have never heard what her moan sounds like, it crushed my heart. Like I said, for the past month we have not had any intimacy, or alone time. And when we do, it has to be very quiet and secretive, we are usually never comfortable, it's quite discontinuous. She is not allowed at my home, I choose not to speak to her about it because if I were to tell her, it would be a chore, and it would make me feel like shit because that means it's not coming out of her will, but out of obligation. \n\nAt this point I do not know what to do, or what to say.", "summary": "I am a horny teen [M/16] in a sexless relationship of a year and a half[F/17], and we haven't done anything dirty in over a month, I am frustrated and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3gfil2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Starting a relationship with a minor depressive disorder.", "post": "I was assessed with minor depressive disorder a few months back. I work out, do yoga, sleep well ect. I'm perfectly OK right now, but if any of you guys are familiar or have experienced depression how long/diffulcat it can be to feel like \"you\" again.\n\n Anyways I'm absolutely terrified of starting a relationship because if things even go remotely bad I fall apart. I'm really sensitive to the idea no longer being \"liked\" by the person I care about. \n\n I have repetitive cycle I always slip into; It basically goes like this. \n\nHappy, Healthy & Confident (me right now)> find a girl I really like > date girl for 2- 4 weeks > things go bad > 7month - 2 year(max) long depressive episode > Happy Again > repeat.\n\nI've honestly experienced this cycle for the last  10 years of my life, I've **dated** about 5 girls. Then I'm a bit of wreck afterwards. It's something that I think about a lot, whether or not I will ever be able to have any sort of lasting relationship.", "summary": "scared to start dating again because theres a very good chance I will end up with me being depressed. I enjoy not being depressed."}
{"id": "t3_40xe9u", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can my Financial Planner potentially screw me over?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI really hope this is considered the right subreddit for this type of question.\n\nLong story short, my current Financial Planner is an old friend of mine. We recently had a fairly serious falling out and now I'm worried that my funds could potentially be jeopardized because emotion is involved.\n\nThe guy is more or less acting like everything between us is fine, however he's incredibly young (21) and in some ways childish. I can't help but worry that there may be some resentment there which ultimately leads to poor decision making or even malicious intent towards me.\n\nObviously the only real solution here is to disconnect entirely, which I will. What I'm really wanting to know is if there's anything I should be worried about in doing so, or if there's anything he may be able to do as I really don't know how much control a Financial Planner has over funds or how protected we are as clients.\n\nFor the record I live in Australia, if this changes anything.", "summary": "My Financial Planner used to be a very close friend. We had a falling out and now I'm worried my funds are in jeopardy."}
{"id": "t3_4z2988", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a Coldplay concert.", "post": "As some of you may know, Coldplay played at the Rose Bowl yesterday on their tour. I got tickets months in advance and I guess you can say I was pumped for this event.\n\nI woke up a tad bit late so I just ate cereal and left for the concert. Upon arrival, we walked around a bit to check out the stands and it was moderately hot outside. When I got in line with my friends and parents the line wasn't moving much because the gates haven't opened yet, so I was just standing in the beating sun. I was thinking about buying a bottle of water, but it was $6 for that and $8 for lemonade!!! \n\nAll of a sudden, I felt my body slip and my vision start to get foggy and I blacked out and faceplanted straight into the ground. I woke up about 15-20 seconds later with ambulance people around me. Long story short I ended up taking the ambulance to the ER, I got stitches for my chin, a minor concussion, a loose front tooth, and chipped tooth all because I was dehydrated. So the lesson here is to keep yourself hydrated out there and sit yourself down if you don't feel right.", "summary": "Went to Coldplay concert, water prices hella expensive, blacked out, went to ER, crappy day and missed the concert"}
{"id": "t3_1dko5u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20F) get my boyfriend (23M) to stop smoking?", "post": "Ok, so my boyfriend has been hooked to smoking for about 2 years now (we have been dating for a year). I don't see his smoking as a deal breaker right now, but I know that I ideally would not want to ultimately end up with someone who smokes. My father smokes, and my mother is a doctor and knows exactly what smoking does to you, and I know that she goes through a lot of hurt everyday that dad doesn't quit despite her repeated requests. I mean, he doesn't even try. My boyfriend tells me he's going to quit like every other day, and sometimes puts in a serious effort, but other times I feel like he's just saying that to get brownie points from me.\n\nSo what is the most effective way to persuade him to stop smoking? I don't want to nag him. And I know how difficult it is for someone addicting to smoking to actually stop. So I'm wondering if there is some way I can be there for him and help him without being overbearing/annoying.", "summary": "How do I get my boyfriend to stop smoking, without nagging him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ec1x7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost passing out in front of the most beautiful girl in school.", "post": "So I'm a sophomore and I'm talking to the finest piece of high school ass ever when she decides to ask me if I want to smoke some ganja. I gladly agree, seeing as I'm a stoner as well and I love hanging out with her, whythefucknot.jpg. We pack a bowl with some Purple AK and right after we finish sparking, she comes onto me and starts kissing me. I start feeling faint, I shoved her off and started stumbling. Almost landed on my face, but regained balance. Needless to say I was still a high ass and was basically in need of babysitting. I fucked up. (PS, she's a junior, a year and some older than me)", "summary": "almost ruined my chances with the finest piece of ass in my school by nearly passing out."}
{"id": "t3_3qxfit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girl I use to fool around with [23 F] is she interested or just playing?", "post": "I worked with this \"Jaime\" last year and we would mess around in my car occasionally after work. We never dated. We sent dirty snaps to one another and use to talk every day. \n\nFast Forward I left that job April 2015. We started talking less and less and stopped sending dirty snaps in July.  We now just talk occasionally. She has a boyfriend now who I don't think she's into that much.\n\nSo more recently she texts me and says one of her male co-workers who is married with 2 kids, walked her out to her car and \"asked to get in\". She said she didn't let him. But he \"did grab her ass and he is hot.\" (She's always seemed like a girl that has commitment issues and would cheat with no problem on her boyfriend).  \n\nI was like why are you telling me this? She said she didn't know why.\n\nWas it to try and make me jealous?? IDK.\n\nFastforward to this week. She sends me a picture of her ass in underwear, because she got a shot in her butt or something. (there was a bandaid on it)\n\nWe texted and off and on yesterday. And I asked what ever happened with the guy that grabbed her ass? to which she replied. \"He's actually working today\". I've asked her straight forward questions before like this and she either never answers it or says something random.  + I don't know or want to know if she hooked up with the married guy +\n\nI really like her. She has a bf. I don't know what to do? Is she just bad news and need to avoid her? Help.", "summary": "Me (M) really like an old co-worker (F), we use to hook up, now she has a bf, and may or may not have fooled around with a married man. Do I cut my loss. Do I pursue?"}
{"id": "t3_3y55tg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20 F) boyfriend (21 M) of a year and a half just said I gave him my ex's jacket", "post": "Throwaway because duh.\n\nTonight my boyfriend and I were just hanging out about to head to the store. He grabs a jacket that I gave him a little after we started dating. I got it a week before we started at Zumiez and it was on sale. It was to big and didn't shrink in the wash like I thought. So I gave it to my current boyfriend. It is exactly like the jacket I gave my ex. Today he puts it on and says \n\n\"Thanks for giving me the jacket you were going to give your ex\"\n\nImmediately I'm floored and kept to myself. I said that it wasn't the jacket I was going to give my ex and that I got it for myself. He notices something is wrong on our way to the store and I told him that what he said wasn't appropriate and he said it was a joke. I explained to him how it made me feel and that some of his jokes he sometimes means. We go to the store and it is really bad. I walk in front of him carrying the basket. Him on his phone the whole time. We get in the car and he asks if I am going to be upset the rest of the night. I told him that he didn't apologize and that it didn't seem like he cared about how it made me feel. He apologized for how the joke came off. Then continues to say I'm not having an appropriate reaction. I am crying at this point and we arrive home. I lay down and he asks why I am crying and I re explain to him. Then he says sorry again and that he doesn't need to say or do anything else. Then continues to watch a video on his phone.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? Is what he said appropriate? How do I handle it?", "summary": "Gave my boyfriend a year ago a jacket that looks close to a jacket I got my ex. Today he says thanks for giving him a present that was originally meant for my ex. I started crying and he said I'm being unreasonable."}
{"id": "t3_47esgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20 M] 3 years, Sex life is not what I would want it to be.", "post": "So me and my SO have been together since high school, the relationship as it currently stands is perfect. We are starting to seriously plan our future together, have amazing communication, and just about everything else is perfect just so perfect. \n\nExcept for our sex life.... This is going to sound like I'm just bagging on him, but not only do I not get off almost 99% of the time, but he can't even go for a round 2 after we've finished the first time. He doesn't last very long, and most of the time I am left feeling completely unsatisfied. I've tried bringing it up with him before, but it just makes me feel like I'm emasculating him. I've also tried to do things to help him get it back up after with no avail! I've tried lingerie, and not much of anything else because he doesn't want our sex life to be 'weird' so it's really plain and vanilla-y. So currently I have this build up of just unsatisfied sexual tension, and I want more.\n\nWell recently he had to move out of town for work, and I haven't seen him in a couple of months, but I'm planning to visit him towards the end of next month. I'm excited because I miss him, but at the same time I'm not really looking forward to it because I know the sex I want isn't going to happen. \n\nSo honestly I'm looking for advice for what I can do because this unsatisfactory is driving me nuts when I'm around him. I love him with all my heart and would want to stay with him but the tension in my loins is making me upset and frustrated at him. I don't want bad sex to be the reason we fall apart. Help me please!", "summary": "Bad sex life, need advice on how to help my SO help me reach where I want it to be."}
{"id": "t3_3zkt9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18M] am worried that my [17F] girlfriend is being dishonest with me, and going behind my back.", "post": "Hey r/relationships, throwaway for the usual reasons. I've been with my girlfriend for close to a year now (10th months) and things have been good. We are both seniors in high school, (i know, high school problems) and plan on staying together after high school ends. \n\nIn the summer she started a new job in the local mall, where she became friends with a co-worker there. Before he knew how old she was He constantly flirted with her. He was 22 at the time. Whenever we were together he would be constantly texting her and she would often talk about him, and stories he told her. Not long after he met he told her about how much sex he has and things like that, and he was very open about it. \n\nNow, this made me very uncomfortable as he was both over the age of majority, and flirting with my girlfriend. I told her this, and she told me she would stop but she would still bring him up while we were together, even after she started a new job (previous employer didn't treat her very well.)\n\nThat brings us to last month. While I was using her phone to call mine (lost it) he texted her. Curious, I opened it (I know I probably shouldn't have, but what's done is done) and they had been talking about as much as we usually do. The worst of it being that she flirted back from what I saw. \n\nWhen I confronted her about it again she said it wouldn't happen again, but today her phone lit up while we were having lunch and it was from him. I didn't open it, but I now feel pretty hurt that she lied to me about not talking to him. \n\nWhere do I go from here?", "summary": "Guy from my girlfriends work hit on her, he's a lot older, it makes me uncomfortable. Told my girlfriend, she assured it wouldn't happen and it still does."}
{"id": "t3_g4n7z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best way to sneak in tons of pages to cheat from on a midterm?", "post": "The teacher doesn't watch over us and instead tells us to give her our stuff and bring only what we'll need to take the test (paper, pencil, pen, eraser, etc.) I have an insanely hard midterm to do where the teacher chooses around 20 words out of almost 100 and tells you to appropriately define 10 thus I was supposed to memorize nearly 100. Then comes two essay questions based on the books/lecture and you choose one.The papers I have for the definitions and whatnot come out to be around around 10-25. Anyone know the best way to sneak them in?", "summary": "How can I sneak in 10-25 pages of notes into a room without backpack (so basically inside my clothes or wallet/pocket if it will fold I would assume)."}
{"id": "t3_16hwfj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people hate poor tippers??? (mostly applies to the U.S.)", "post": "I'll just start off by saying I was a waiter and a part time bartender (who isn't lol) And I have no problem with people not giving tips BECAUSE I'M PAID TO GIVE SERVICE ALREADY. (no matter what you think about human dignity and etc, being a waiter at a low/medium end restaurant is a low skilled low pay job. it's not worth shit. Now if you want to earn some real money, go to waiter school and etc and get into a high end restaurant. those people make 25-35k+ a year not including tips. which can push it to over 50k a year easily.)\n\nWhen people go into service jobs, they get paid to give great service to the customers. (or shitty service if they're feeling self entitled) It's part of their job. Why do people feel that unless they get a great tip in return, they'll ignore their basic job description and responsibilities and give shitty service to the customer?\n\nI know that this is way more valid in the states that forces businesses that employs people that receive tips to pay minimum wage (yes... there are states where you're allowed to pay less than minimum wage if the job has tip earning potential)\n\nAlmost every country I've been to, tipping has always been optional and in some countries it's not even an option (japan, china, etc to list some countries). Hell. When my friend tried to leave a tip in Japan, the waitress ran out with the money thinking he forgot it there... and waiters still doesn't get paid shit there either. (In China, they would just keep it but not as tip or anything. more like they found money on the streets)\n\nWhen I don't give that large of a tip, people always think i'm a penny pinching asshole. (I do in bars for the bartenders since they deal with so god damn much... way worse than restaurants...) I just simply don't see a reason to give great tip when the service mostly is mediocre.", "summary": "I see no reason to tip great when their job is to give good/great service for their hourly wage. (a thought shared by many other countries)"}
{"id": "t3_p4h2f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever sold off an entire collection of collectibles? How did it make you feel?", "post": "For the past year and a half I've collected limited edition movie posters from Mondo, Tommy Good, and Spoke Art. (If you're unfamiliar here's Mondo's [archive page] to get a feel.) Last night through a stupid accident I got a little water damage on a print and although it's relatively minor it kind of bummed me out. Then I asked myself, \"Why do I even have all these anyway?\" I have way more prints than I can hang. I keep buying more. Am I buying for some imagined future when I have a huge house to hang all of them? Am I going to take the full plunge into crazytown and buy filing cabinets to store them and archival level frames to display them? I'll buy a print for a movie I haven't even seen yet in case I see it in the future and enjoy it. So I've been thinking of selling them all off to extricate myself. Have you ever sold of an entire collection of something? Did you regret it?", "summary": "Considering selling off all my limited edition movie posters. Should I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1rgj6j", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Want School to Write for Online Grad Degree, How to Write Proposal", "post": "Hey all.  I have been working at my current employer for almost three years.  My employer is very generous, and they send us IT technicians (I am a help desk guy, but we are a small IT group and get involved in many projects doing a lot more than that) to training yearly.  This is a job abroad and this means most of the tech training must be done in region in another country or far off in the United States.  Others with a higher pay grade get tuition benefits, I do not.  I am not complaining, my first job out of school would not even pay for training down the street ...\n\nSo I want to write a proposal that I can plan out an online MS in Computer Science, that every year would be cheaper than flying me out, putting me in a hotel, and paying for an expensive training course.  Does anyone have experience with this?  What format should I use?  Anyone know where to even find samples?  Not sure what to call this.", "summary": "Want to write to my employer saying I can do grad school cheaper than yearly training sessions.  How would I write a report/proposal to ask?"}
{"id": "t3_4fv4vf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My computer is fucked but I don't know what to do.", "post": "Hello reddit. I have an old Acer laptop I use daily and recently it stopped working. I followed the instructions to refresh it but that didn't fix anything. I don't really want to take it to shop because I was really into 4chan a while ago and downloaded a lot of porn and Nazi imagery. (Not an actual Nazi in fact I'm half black) I dont want the repair guys to see that stuff as hate speech is illegal where I live and all the tech guys are Indian. I'm also only 17 so my dad might find out too. I want my files and computer back, but I'm not sure that's going to be possible.", "summary": "computer is broken and it has a bunch of porn and Nazi stuff that I really want back but I also don't want the repairman or my dad to see it."}
{"id": "t3_34vfjm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21m) gf (21f) of 1 year woke up to a dream where she got raped because of me", "post": "My girlfriend woke up this morning having dreamt that I abandoned her in a foreign city at night to do cool stuff with my friends, while she had to walk down a dark alley alone. She ended up getting raped and molested by many people in that alley and woke up without having reached the end of it. She then woke up and slapped me and started crying. She also refused to talk to me and treated me as if I truly abandoned her. How should I comfort her to make her realize that it was just a dream? She seems unable to distinguish between dreams and reality. Is this normal??", "summary": "girlfriend got raped in dream, feels like it happened in real life, how to comfort her?"}
{"id": "t3_4xx7mn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 F] realized after a breakup that I rely on other people's love and attention to feel good and don't know what to do to change this", "post": "Reddit, I really need your help. After breaking up with my bf for treating me really badly, it's a month later and I still feel alone. i realized that I relied on his attention and love to validate me and I'm not sure what to do now. I have been talking to strangers online or writing on subreddits like \"askreddit\" for the past month to try to feel less alone but I know that's a bad solution. I have to teach myself that I can be happy without other people's validation but I have no idea how. Any ideas other than therapist because that's out of the question. Any good resources? Thanks & sorry for the shitty post- I'm a mess.", "summary": "how do I teach myself that I don't need other people to be happy with myself?"}
{"id": "t3_37tyfh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m] just broke up with my girlfriend [23/f] because I caught her sending nudes. Am I in the right and what next.", "post": "Been dating this girl for 6 years. We both agreed it would be best if we both had stable jobs and completed our education before thinking about marriage.  \n  \n\n2 months ago I caught my girlfriend sending text messages to a 'friend' from church. It wasn't the fact that she was texting a man it was what they were talking about. One message from the other read something like 'i hope we can be in a relationship in the future'. Even after this she still continued to talk to him. Once I saw the message I confronted her about it and she acted naive and said she would end it.  \n  \nFast forward to last night. After a date at a concert and a couple beers she receded to the bedroom. As I was not ready for bed I walked into the bedroom to grab my charger and a night shirt. I found her shirt up and pants down. I asked her what was going on and she replied that she was just taking a picture. I brushed it off and went back to what I was doing.  \n2 hours later I climbed in bed and noticed her phone was still playing music. I reached over to turn it off and noticed that her indicator light was flashing yellow and she had a snapchat. By this point I was concerned that the picture taking was related so I opened snapchat to a single message 'wow I was not expecting that'.  \nCurious as to who this guy was, and I admit at this point I am in the wrong, I searched her messages for the user name. It came back from a Facebook message from a guy who is friends with my sister and they had met at my sister's wedding 9 months ago.  \nI woke her up asking who was so and so and why he would send her that message. Her reply was '... I didn't send naked pictures to him tonight'  \nTo make a long story short I broke up with her.", "summary": "girlfriend texting guy with more then friends details. Gets caught. Acts naive. Does it again with a different guy and naked pictures.  "}
{"id": "t3_24ofqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(update)Me [16F] with my brother [14M] both my little sister and I are scared of him, but parents won't help", "post": "www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/24ly7u/me_16f_with_my_brother_14m_both_my_little_sister/\n\nI know my question got removed but I had a lot of inboxes and replies so I thought I'd just say thank you.\n\nYesterday was pretty bad.\n\nI waited till my parents were both home and told them we needed to speak.\n\nI showed them the post and told them the other things he'd done, they both just told me to stop overreacting all boys are rough but they agreed the rape stuff was pretty creepy and that they'd speak to him.\n\nAnyway they went and spoke to him and he lost his temper big time and was screaming for like 3 hours, dad had to physically hold him down at one point, it was really late at night but my sister was scared so we went into the shed with a camp light and tolds storys she was happy.\n\nOnce we woke up my parents said he was calm now and that he'd be nice now and that he was going to be good because I'd threatened to call the police (this was at like 4 am), but once they left the house he gave my sister a massive chinese burn for eating a cheese-string, he wouldn't let go of her so I ended up having to punch him, he let go but told me to watch my back.\n\nI'm going to speak to my teacher on wednesday and hopefully he will help me report it to the police or just get my brother removed It's 7.30 am now and he's finally in bed after a night of screaming.\n\nWe went into our room before and he's peed on the carpet and pulled my sister princess pictures down.\n\nWe're not going to stay at home today", "summary": "Brother acts like dog and pees in my room, going to see a teacher on wednesday"}
{"id": "t3_2vm6xk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] desire a pleasant relationship with my older co-workers", "post": "I am a bank teller and work with 6 other women all older than me (from 30 to 60 years old). I am fairly new to this job and want to have a good relationship with them. I have a good understanding of my job and have experience in the field despite my youth. They spend a lot of time talking and sharing stories and thoughts and when I chime in I feel like I'm being intrusive. \n\nWhat can I do to show I'm a pretty nice person who desires a good working relationship? I don't want to force what isn't there, but I genuinely want to befriend these people. Thanks!", "summary": "I want to get along with my older coworkers but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3edolt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to shut my bathroom door overnight.", "post": "I moved into this house about a month ago, renting a room and a bathroom. Landlord is my age, didn't know him before I moved in. His dog. 8 month old lab. Pain in the ass. Tears apart everything, I've lost five pairs of flip flops already since I moved in thanks to this shoe shredding dick head.\n\nI forgot to shut my bathroom door last night. I'm an extremely clean person but for the past two days I have forgotten to empty the trash in my bathroom because we've been out doing shit and not home.\n\nMother nature is here for this girl. I woke up at 4am this morning to the little idiot barking at his dog house outside, for whatever reason he's deathly afraid of it but it's too hilarious to burn the damn thing. So I got up to let him out, and what do ya know. Every piece of trash that was in my midget garbage in my bathroom was shredded all over the floor. Everywhere.\n\nRemember how I said mother nature had arrived with her monthly? Yup. Garbage all over my bathroom and the SHARED living room. That includes a few stupid plastic tampon insert things. THAT HE CHEWED UP. NO USED TAMPONS.. just the plastic inserts.\n\nGood news: I clean them before I throw them in the garbage because ew if not. But still.. Bad news: I had to search every inch of that house before roommate landlord bro woke up for work. Prayed to the Heavens above that the little prick didn't bring any into his room. Or his bed.", "summary": "Didn't shut my bathroom door overnight. Landlord's dog chewed up my trash. Including a few tampon insert things."}
{"id": "t3_qtzgv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My debit card got declined because a law firm has placed a hold on my funds. What do?", "post": "I'll summarize the situation as short as I can, the best I can.\nOne of my credit cards went in to collections a few months back. I was paying when I could. Eventually, a law firm sent a letter to state they had control of the future of the credit card debt. They wanted to settle and asked for checking information so I provided it to them over the phone. I, again, paid when I could everything seemed to be fine. I went to pay for some food tonight, then BAM!, DECLINED. I called my bank because I knew I had money in both checking and savings. I explained to them what happened and they said the law firm I have been dealing with placed a hold on the funds. It's 10PM (CST) so I'll have to wait until morning to speak to the law firm. Is there anything I should know or tell them when I speak to them? I don't make much so I can't pay much if ever.", "summary": "Law firm placed hold on funds and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1xnqtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my FWB [22 F] 8 months....she just hit me with that \"I love you\"", "post": "Background: been seeing this girl since last summer. Thought about ending it with her in early Dec. Then in mid Jan, I thought she had ended it with me. \n\nBut yesterday after we have sex and we are laying naked in her bed, I make a joke and she looks she straight into my eyes and says \"I love you\". I freeze, unsure of what to do, then she just starts kissing me and we never speak about it the rest of the day.\n\nTo make it even more complicated, I'm in a LTR for the past 6 years with a  [28, F].\n\nLTR: awesome to hang out with, friendly, great cook, good career, attractive and OK sex. I tried to ask her about marriage 2 years ago but she wanted to wait. Now she wants to get engaged by the end of the year but I'm not so sure.\n\nfwb: great body, pretty face, great sex, ok to hang out with by after a few hours I get bored because she always defers to me about what we eat, what we do, etc. I like her but don't know if I want to be with her for the long term.", "summary": "i have no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2b1zi0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of 5 years are on a break I initiated but now I can't cope", "post": "I suggested a break after not receiving the attention I wanted in a relationship. I constantly felt lonely when with him because he'd be too busy doing things that seemed more important. \n\nHe never wanted to cuddle or talk about anything other than work. It got to the point where I had to ask him to kiss me and he'd sigh. I was hurting for a long time before asking for a break. He cried and told me he loved me (something i hadn't heard before) and it hurt that I had to break it off to finally hear him say it.\n\nIt's been a week and I'm mad at myself because I've made contact and at first I was in control but now it seems like I'm trying to keep in touch and he's barely responding. \n\nI know the right thing to do is pull back but I feel lonelier than ever and after 5 years, it's become a way of life to have him there. He's taking this time to work on himself but he doesn't know when he'll be ready. \n\nHow long do I wait for? How should I act towards him in the meantime? I'm afraid that he'll forget me.", "summary": "On a break from the bf so he can work on himself but I can't deal without hearing from him even though it was my idea"}
{"id": "t3_2qzp5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My longterm boyfriend [25m] broke up with me[25f] and we live together.", "post": "Using a throwaway. \nMy boyfriend of six years ended our relationship a couple weeks ago out of nowhere. I thought things were good, we had discussed getting married and beginning a life together. Next thing I know, he tells me he doesn't love me anymore.  I can't understand how you suddenly stop loving or caring about someone who you've shared so much of your life with. \n\nWe live in an apartment together. Neither of us can afford to move out and there are simply no other options than to suck it up until the lease runs out this summer. \n\nI get severe anxiety coming home now, and end up in tears almost daily because I still love him. He has moved into our guest bedroom but we still share common living space. How do I/we turn this terrible situation into something manageable? I already spend much of my time out of the house, but now have no comfortable place to come home to.", "summary": "stuck living with my ex, what do I do??"}
{"id": "t3_266lwv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Why do i hate my friends, roommates, and generally keep a lot of personal details to myself?", "post": "Hi, I'm a 20 year old black college student. I have been struggling all my life with friendships. Somehow I completely lose the friends around me, or they fade away because of changing environments. Thinking back on many of my friendships now, I realize how much of a pussy I was, for not standing up for myself. \n\nWith friends I have now, I always seem to find a reason to hate them and not want to be friends with them anymore. For instance I know that a few of my roommates talk shit about me, with the subtle hint that I shouldn't look at what they text. Before college I had a really good friend since we were kids, and once I moved we haven't talked for a good year and a half. I feel like its my fault for being stupid, socially retarted, or just a boring insecure person. I feel like people hate me because I am not what they expect. I feel like my roommates think I am a dumbass, oblivious and don't belong in school. \n\nI am a really closed off person because of this. I only talk about a few things in conversation, that I am comfortable talking about. But when it comes to more personal things, I shut up completly. I just don't trust people enough to expose myself enough. If they already talk shit about me, I don't want to add fuel to the fire. \n\nCould anyone advise me on why I seem to find a reason to hate any friend I make. I have friends that I like a lot, but whenever I really get to know someone, I feel like they just talk shit about me and think I'm stupid, selfish, insecure, pussy, not cool, lame. \n\nI want to have more meaningful relationships, but feel so inferior atm that I don't feel like that's an option. Sorry about the length this was a bit of a rant.", "summary": "hate friends because they talk shit and i feel too inferior to trust anyone anymore"}
{"id": "t3_2ja21h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (23F) of a month said she'd suck someone off for $500 and I (22M) can't get it off my mind.", "post": "Couple weeks ago I was talking to her roommate about OKCupid and she mentioned how some men had offered her $500 for sex. \n\nMy gf said \"I'd probably suck someone off for $500 but not sex\"\n\nI can't get that out of my head and it makes me think about her character. Obviously she hasn't done anything like that, but the fact that she said that really bothered me. I don't want to bring it up because i don't see how I could.. Would you be bothered by this if you were in my position? How would you feel about this?", "summary": "gf said she'd give oral for $500, and I'm not sure how I feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_1lcgp6", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm sure every woman goes through this....", "post": "Although I am extremely happy and excited for everyone's engagement, wedding, pregnancy, 2nd child, etc...it definitely puts some perspective on what I want to do with my own life. I can't even begin to describe how scary the thought of \"growing up\" is. Yes, I have more adult responsibilities, and I have to commit to a schedule to make money, however, I still see myself as a kid. At 25, I definitely take life seriously, but...committing to something/somebody for the rest of your life? I suppose I'm not mature enough to make that kind of decision.  I feel as though it confirms our mortality. You graduate, get a job, get married, knock out some kids, then you're done. I just want so desperately to hold on to my youth. Is this a bad thing?\n\nTo those who have already taken that step, do you just KNOW that you're ready? And please understand I am not trying to steal your thunder or rain on your parade, I just kind of want some sort of understanding as to HOW you reach that certainty.", "summary": "All my peers are getting engaged, married, pregnant and it's reaffirming my own mortality, which in turn, is freaking me out."}
{"id": "t3_1epvni", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [M21] don't know how to act around her [F20]", "post": "I met her about 2 months ago and we really hit it off. We found out we had a lot in common with each other and I just had fun talking to her. Within the first week things got really flirty between us and I was welcoming it with open arms seeing as how I haven't felt this way about someone since high school especially so soon after meeting her. I ask her out on a date and she excitedly accepted . The same day once we were done with classes she texted me saying she couldn't go, so I optimistically tried to plan for a different day. That's when she laid it on me, and told me she \"had a boyfriend but she really like talking to me and is young and wanted to keep her options open\". (Which I wasn't to keen on). So I toned it down the next few weeks and decided to just be her friend, I texted her regularly but not as flirty. Then things started to change a bit . She doesn't respond to my text messages and when she does the conversation doesn't last long and I barely get to see her in person anymore ( the handful of times I do see her she seems genuinely happy to see me though). I'm not too sure what to make of it. Maybe there's nothing wrong and the fact that I have feelings for her is clouding my judgement. I kind of want to text her but if I don't get a response I don't want to bother with it.", "summary": "Hit it off with a girl who has a boyfriend. We both seemed genuinely interested in each other until she decided to stop talking to me. I don't want to lose her as a friend but I think my feelings are clouding my judgement what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2zshm4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to forgive myself for cheating [20 M]", "post": "2 year ago. I am young, i like to have a good time. I ended up cheating on my girlfriend of 2 years. It was just a lot of alcohol and hookah that night, and I had sex with this neighbor girl. Obviously, girlfriend broke up with me for cheating on her, which i don't blame her.. The biggest issue i have is forgiving myself. It was two years ago and I still haven't forgiven myself. She was the best thing that has happened to me in a while.. \n\nHow do I date a girl without feeling the love I felt before and without making them feel that I will cheat on them...\n   \nI still miss her...", "summary": "L cheated on ex, can't forgive myself"}
{"id": "t3_2cc1uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my Husband [31 M] went through a very rough time for several months and are trying to reconcile. How do we work on trust?", "post": "My husband and I went through about three months worth of a rough patch and came very close to divorce before we decided to try to work things out. Seems we both started leaning on other people very hard for emotional support though as far as i know it never got physical. \n\n   About two and a half - three weeks ago we decided things could maybe be worked out. We laid down some rules and dropping the other people no contact was a big one. Well, then a few days ago my husband says that he doesn't think things are changing and we probably cant work it out, I find out the same day he didn't stop talking to her like we had agreed. We sat down for one last talk night before last and we both felt like we really connected again and are giving it one last try I guess. \n\n Before all this i had always trusted my husband no questions asked. No snooping, no questioning, nothing. Now i'm having a really hard time with the feeling of wanting to nose through his everything. I'm feeling very insecure and not trusting. I hate feeling like this.  How do we work past this and learn to trust each other again?", "summary": "My husband and i gave up on each other for a while, started talking to other people. Decided to work things out but he wasn't as committed to the idea. We're giving it one last shot and i need to know how  to trust again before i drive my self crazy."}
{"id": "t3_tk8e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriends sex drive tanked the moment we became official. What could have happened, and how do I deal?", "post": "I and my girlfriend are both 20 years old. I am a male and she is female. We've been together for about 3 months now and both of us go to the same college. We started off as a friends and would constantly flirt, talk about sex, wrestle, and cuddle; pretty much every indicator that we both wanted sex to happen. And eventually it did; we became friends with benefits.  The sex was amazing, and daily. We even decided to try for having sex 100 times in 100 days. At day 20 we'd had sex 27 times, and this included being apart for a week. She was insatiable, I could barely keep up with her.\n\nEven before we started having sex I'd always had a thing for her, and as time went on we started spending more and more time together. Finally I asked her if she was willing to make what was already a relationship in all but word, official. To my joy she said yes. \n\nAnd almost immediately after we actually became a couple, her libido bombed. Circumstances beyond control forced us to cancel our attempt at 100 times in 100 days, and in the three short months since we've become official we've gone from sex one or two times a day to having sex maybe once or twice a week. More than that, she's no longer as receptive or interested in flirting the way we used to before we became a 'we'.\n\nI'm a very, very sexual person, I feel that a healthy, frequent sex life is essential to a strong relationship. I also feel that communication is important, so I've approached her and discussed whats happened with her. Neither of us have any idea what's going on, and neither of us like it. But I'm so tired of having my sexual advances being rejected by my girlfriend that its getting to the point that I don't even want to try to initiate sexual contact anymore.\n\nSo my question is, what could have happened, and how do I fix it? And if I can't fix it, what are some tips for dealing with the physical rejection?", "summary": "A great new relationship is being ruined by a boyfriend's super sex drive and a girlfriend's sudden lack of one. How can I either bring the first down or the second up."}
{"id": "t3_2rm2ku", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "car accident: can city be liable because poorly maintained road?", "post": "I was driving through a winding road in a dark part of the city, anticipating the freeway onramp. As the road was winding right, the right turn for the onramp came out of nowhere with no lights around it and only a single, small sign (that was not protruding from the road, but can only be seen after you've already started turning). As I braked to slow down coming around the corner, my brakes locked and my car slid straight into the curb, damaging my axle and steering assembly. No other cars were involved.\n\nThe tow truck driver told me the same accident happens there often and suggested I attempt to sue the city for the lack of satisfactory freeway indication. Do you guys think this is realistic, or would it not be worth the trouble?", "summary": "accident on poorly maintained road, can city be held responsible"}
{"id": "t3_2z6k09", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm a 17 yo and need help with what to do.", "post": "Hi all, \nFirst time poster long time lurker, I am a 17 year old guy living in the UK and have got offers to go and study at university next academic year (starting September). My parents over the years have saved me around \u00a33500 for when I start to make my way in the world. I currently don't even have any form of current account or savings account in my name. My main goal is to put away maybe \u00a32500 of this into a savings account and try and earn some decent interest. I also hold around \u00a3700 in premium bonds and wonder if it is better to pool all my assets into one savings account whilst having around \u00a31000 in a current account. Essentially what I am asking is what is the best course of action for someone in my position from the perspective of someone with a lot more financial knowhow than myself? My studies will primarily be funded by the government tuition fee and maintaince loans.", "summary": "I have savings and bonds but don't know what to do to get the most out of them, suggestions on account types ect. would be great"}
{"id": "t3_2pxj3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my former teacher [50ish?/M] who touches me during conversation in a way that is making me uncomfortable.", "post": "I'm a classical musician and I began studying with this teacher when I was 12. So I mean, I understand if he has a sort of fatherly view towards me. However, recently we started doing a gig together and I noticed that he is now touching me sometimes during conversation in ways that makes me quite uncomfortable.\n\nDuring performances for example, it is common for musicians to congratulate the person sitting next to them on a well-played solo by patting their own leg in a sort of light-clapping motion. After one of my solos, in the middle of the piece, he reached over and touched MY leg. No one does that. And he didn't really pat my leg, he sort of wiggled his fingers on my leg in this sort of \"tickle\" motion which was kind of weird. \n\nI had a very large solo in this piece we played, and later after the piece ended, he then put his hand rather intimately on my back, leaned over until his face was literally an INCH away from my face and whispered, \"Beautiful.\" That definitely made me feel quite uncomfortable.\n\nThis in addition to other such gestures has started to really grate on my nerves. However, he was my teacher and mentor for six years, has still been helping me with musical things by hooking me up with gigs and a great many other things that I'm truly grateful for. I don't think he means these physical gestures in a sexual way (OMG I hope not...), but how do I broach the subject without totally offending him or making things beyond awkward? At the same time, I don't think it's right for him to be doing that. I highly doubt he touches his male students in such a fashion.", "summary": "Former private teacher/mentor physically touches me or gets way too close for me to feel comfortable. Don't know how to tell him to stop without offending him or making our relationship super awkward."}
{"id": "t3_2u4hbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Dad [45 M] with my Mom [42 F] 19 years,", "post": "Hey long time lurker first time poster... Ok so here's the story, it started yesterday morning when we received a call from TotalAttorneys talking about us hiring a bankruptcy lawyer which none of us have any knowledge about, Since then my dad has been acting depressed (PTSD) and thinks it's my mom who called them and is plotting something. This makes my mom extremely distraught and I am feeling very helpless as they have just recovered from a bump in their marriage (Dad got drunk, mom drove him to hospital, hospital sent him to mental hospital, dad felt betrayed, etc.)\n\nSo all help would be appreciated! Also if anyone has any info on this TotalAttorneys thing calling people about this sort of thing when no one has requested such, that would be helpful so I can show my dad that it wasn't my mom who is responsible!", "summary": "Lawyer company called about bankruptcy and dad blames mom on calling them and plotting against him."}
{"id": "t3_1rp8pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] have a huge crush on my counselor.", "post": "I understand the whole transference thing and having a crush on your counselor is fairly common.  \n\nBut I swear to god that the feeling is mutual.  I've had counselor in the past and none have been like this.  I've dated many girls and I know the queues.  Yea I could be way off but this isn't the main reason for my post.\n\nSO because I have it in my head that it is mutual, I keep having these fantasies of firing her as my counselor and asking her out.  She is only a registered clinical counselor so there is no law that she has to wait before going on a date.  I totally understand that this sounds completely outlandish and it most likely is soooo... \n\nMaybe this should be part of my counseling.  I have read all over the internet that if you start developing feelings for your counselor that you should tell them.  I feel extremely shy to do it.  I literally honestly do want to date her, if we met under any other circumstances we probably would.  \n\nSo what do I do?  Just tell her?  Fire her and ask her on a date?  Just ignore these feelings entirely (don't like this one because it's hindering).\n\nMainly it would be nice to hear from someone who went through something similar?", "summary": "I want to date my counselor.  I have a crush on her and I swweeaar the feeling is mutual. Should I tell her in session about my feelings, or should I just ignore them?"}
{"id": "t3_4c1d7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35F] and my daughter [11F] are having a problem with her teacher [50??F]", "post": "I've lurked on reddit a lot, but this is my first post!\n\nI'm having an annoying problem with my daughter's teacher, Mrs. Jones. Mrs. Jones told the students to write a report and do a presentation on their family ancestry and culture. Our family is from various Eastern European countries. However, we are Ashkenazi Jews, so we aren't the same as other people from Eastern Europe. Our ancestors spoke Yiddish first, and Polish/Russian/etc second, and had different customs. My daughter knows this, so she decided to write about Ashkenazi culture. For her poster, instead of drawing pictures of the countries we came from, she drew Eastern Europe with a Jewish star over it.\n\nAfter she turned it in, I got a message from her teacher that she would have to redo it! Apparently, the assignment was done incorrectly since it didn't focus on the particular countries in general. The assignment didn't say they needed to pick a country, it said they needed to write about their family's culture. I tried to explain to the teacher that doing a report on Poland or Russia didn't make sense since we weren't really Polish or Russian and didn't follow any customs, but she kept insisting that the report had to focus on the countries. She said that my daughter could do her report on Israel instead, if she wanted to focus on her Jewish heritage. That doesn't make sense either, since we can't trace our ancestry to Israel and don't follow any Israeli customs.\n\nI know this sounds like it's not that big of a deal, but I'm really annoyed at this teacher for being so stubborn. Sure, she could absolutely insist that my daughter write about Russia, Poland, and Romania in general, but the assignment was supposed to be about your own culture, not someone else's, so the assignment would be pointless.\n\nI'm trying to write a message to the teacher to explain clearly why my daughter's presentation fulfilled the assignment and should be accepted and graded fairly. I don't want to come off too strong, but I need her to understand why insisting on writing about these countries so generally isn't necessarily appropriate for ethnic minorities.", "summary": "My daughter's teacher insists that her project on our family culture was done incorrectly."}
{"id": "t3_4qjsny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] can't stop thinking about my ex even though I'm in a new relationship...", "post": "My ex broke up with me about five months ago due to there being a few problems with our relationship. We dated for nearly 2 years and were best friends but he lost feelings for me and ended it because of this. We still slept together for about six weeks after the break up and in this time we were ignoring each other and then randomly messaging each other because we missed each others company. I knew this was unhealthy and would not help me with moving on so I ended it eventually. We said some hurtful things to each other and haven't really spoken besides rude comments to each other and then we eventually blocked each other on everything. I started dating other people and finally met someone who I thought was perfect for me. Me and my new boyfriend have been dating officially for a month now and in that time I haven't really thought about my ex at all.  Until today. I can't get him off my mind. I had sex with my new boyfriend last night and suddenly I can't stop comparing the sex I had with my ex to him. The sex isn't as good and the sexual attraction to him is not as strong. I hate that all I can do is compare it because I know I shouldn't be thinking about my ex at all. All I want to do right now is contact my ex and see him but that would just be stupid and I know that. I promised myself that I would not talk to him now that I am in a relationship because its unfair on my new relationship. Can someone please tell me how to stop thinking about exes? It is killing me because all I can think is whether I am actually happy at the moment in this new relationship. If I was would I still be thinking about my ex? Please give me some advice I am so confused!!!!", "summary": "in a new relationship but really missing my ex and not sure why?"}
{"id": "t3_1xzylj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother [26m] doesn't want to be around me [24f] anymore.", "post": "My brother and I have always been very close. My brother has always been my best friend we come to each other for advice and support. \n\nJust recently he's told me that he doesn't want me around his family anymore. He told me to basically fuck off and cut all contact from him, his wife of 3 years. They have no children.\n\nI'm at a loss of words I don't know where all this is coming from. We've always had a special relationship. Just two days ago i spent the night over and everything was fine. I slept on the couch. I did hear his wife mention something about what I was wearing but I want really concerned because nobody said anything to me directly. \n\nI always there for him! I call every morning to make sure they are up for work. I let his wife come with me to the gym so she could get some motivation. When his wife was sick in the hospital last month I made sure to keep my brother happy with home cooked meals. \n\nI don't understand why he would cut me off out of no where. I've tried calling him several times this morning, a couple of times during his lunch break, but he's not answering. Something must be wrong. Any advice?", "summary": "my brother told me to cut all contact for no reason. What do I do.?"}
{"id": "t3_1rtg6s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] How do I shift my girlfriend's (18/f) views that we can both be financially responsible for ourselves?", "post": "I don't really know to format that title but I'm in college and she's in high school and she has no clue why I'm poor all the time and why I complain about money. I paid for her homecoming celebration (200-300 at least) and that pretty much emptied my bank account for the semester...in late October.\n\nWe went on a date last night and I asked her if we could split checks and this made her *livid*. \"I guess this isn't a date\" she said. I asked her why it's so hard for her, a girl with TWO jobs and a dad with an endless bank account, to just provide for herself when I'm struggling with money *every fucking day* and will be for 4 more years at least. She was annoyed and fiddled with her phone while I made attempts at conversation again until she said she can \"get used to my money situation\" because *her dad* explained that I was going to be a poor college student for a while.\n\nAnd that brings me here. This girl sits on her iPhone at school and picks and chooses Nordstrom boots to buy with her dad's credit card (not even her own) and has the audacity to get ticked off when I can't afford a dinner date because it all goes towards helping me survive to the next day at college. What can I say to help her understand how ridiculous this is?", "summary": "High school girlfriend has endless money while college kid me has no money from shit I've spent to either see her or provide for her already and is annoyed at me for not having money. How do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3g28eu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by screaming at Jim Belushi", "post": "This happened a few years ago when I was a bartender and it still makes me cringe...\n\nI was bartending at a brew pub and it was right before my shift.  I was sitting at a table with one of my friends and he turns to me and says, \"Hey, I think that is Jim Belushi sitting over there.\" I turn to see who he is gesturing at and it is definitely *not* Jim Belushi. It *is* a man of a similar build though so I could see why my friend might make the mistake.\n\nThe next few minutes are spent arguing about if it *is* him or if it *isn't* him. I can tell you with complete confidence that it was not Jim Belushi. Anyway, I am starting to get tired of arguing about it so I tell my friend that I can settle this right now and I start to say, \"Jim Belushi\" out loud in the direction of the man that is definitely *not* Jim Belushi. I am getting louder and louder, \"Jim Belushi... JIM BELUSHI... **JIM BELUSHI!!!**\". \n\nAs I am doing this, yelling \"Jim Belushi\" in a crowded pub, a figure suddenly blocks my vision, standing between myself and the man that I am screaming at. I look up and... of course... it's the *real* Jim Belushi. He looks down at me and in a sarcastic voice says, \"*You rang?*\". I'm pretty sure my face just went completely white and I started apologizing profusely as my friend sat next to me and laughed his ass off. Obviously what had happened was my friend had been pointing at the real Jim Belushi and I was looking at someone else. \n\nJim Belushi ended up being super nice. He bought my friends some beers and proceeded to give me shit for the rest of the night...", "summary": "Jim Belushi is pretty cool and I am an idiot"}
{"id": "t3_169n8l", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How do you pay for college if you have no/little savings? Are you just supposed to take out an enormous loan and hope everything will work out in the end?", "post": "Hi! I'm 21 and I live in Canada. I've been working full-time since I graduated high school and I've finally found a college course that I want to take. \n\nThe things is, I have very little savings and I support myself financially 100% (I live on my own, pay all my own bills and unfortunately have no financial assistance from my family). The course I want to take costs around $10,000. I am just wondering how the heck anyone pays for college if they have no savings. \n\nI know that I could take out a loan, but am I just supposed to take out a $10,000 loan with the *hope* that I'll be able to find a decent job in a timely manner once I'm done my course, so that I can pay it back? This just seems like a terrifying idea to me, especially since I really have nobody to help me financially if I get caught in a tough spot. I just picture myself finishing the course, not being able to find a job, bills and debt piling up, not being able to pay off the loan and ending up homeless... I know that tons of people in the world go to college, but is this seriously just a risk that everyone has to take? Do I just need to ovary up and do it?", "summary": "I want to go to college but have to pay for it all myself, while still working just to live day-to-day. What would be the best way to do this? The idea of \"taking out a loan now, worrying about it later\" terrifies me, but is that what everyone does? Do I just have to suck it up and do it?"}
{"id": "t3_efrgc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the best way to find a great deal on flights only?", "post": "So, I'm flying with my boyfriend from PHX AZ to San Jose CA right after Christmas so he can meet my family for the first time.\n\nWe're avoiding travelocity/expedia/whatever other 'discount' websites because 1. Southwest always has better deals straight through them, and 2. I've heard horror stories and don't want our vacation to tank.\n\nI was wondering if anyone had any tricks for finding great deals?  So far I'm finding $78-$117 per ticket (one way) as the cheapest, which isn't so bad.  But I'm curious to see if anyone has any tips or tricks I'm not aware of?  Or possibly a promo code that could help me out?\n\nI've been searching and going nuts trying to find a good deal, so now I'm turning to reddit to see if someone can help me out!", "summary": "I need tips on how to find a cheap flight without going with one of those shitty discount sites (i.e. travelocity)"}
{"id": "t3_4yb8ku", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "M[20] confused by F[20] sending mixed messages regarding meeting up", "post": "So a couple weeks ago I got with a girl I knew from high school at a club. In the morning she gave me her number and we've been texting a fair amount since then. \n\nLast week I asked her out for drinks and she said she may be busy but might be able to do Friday. She bailed on going out on the Friday as she'd been out the night before but said she'd definitely see me this week.\n\nSo I asked her tuesday if she wanted to do something Wednesday and she again said maybe as she thought she already had plans with her friend. She then text me late yesterday afternoon to say she's busy.\n\nSo I went out with my best friend who works with her and he got the impression that she doesn't want to go out with me. She said she's going away to study abroad for a year in a few weeks and thinks I've forgotten and doesn't really want to get into a relationship. She had mentioned both of these things the night I got with her but she'd also said she didn't like one night stands so I have no idea what I was.\n\nHonestly I just can't quite understand why you'd say your up for going out with someone then do everything you can to avoid it. I'd begun to think she didn't want to as she wouldn't give me an idea when she could go out when I tried to ask her.\n\nJust looking for some advice on what to do next. I feel like she is attracted to me but doesn't want to get to deep into things. Should I just ask her if she doesn't actually want to see me or just stop trying to set stuff up with her and move on?", "summary": "Asked a girl out I've been texting for a while. Says she up for seeing me but her actions imply she doesn't actually want to."}
{"id": "t3_3oiaun", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing off a room full of autistic children.", "post": "I have a little brother with autism, and every year at his care center (we take him home once a week, he lives and learns there pretty much) they have a big fall festival with tons of fun and games.\n\nI won tons of fun prizes for him, made art, danced around, tons of stuff. Around 12:30, it was time for us to go in to the cafeteria and have lunch. \n\nMe, my brother, my stepdad and my mom walked in. We got our food and sat down, and I tried to entertain my brother with the balloon dog I had.\n\nThis is where the FU happens.\n\nMy mom said he should eat, so I put the balloon dog on the floor and watched my brother eat. I moved my feet around a bit and before I knew it, BLAM. I stepped on the balloon dog.\n\nThe second that pop sounded, you'd think a banchee was in there. Tons of kids were hollering, scared as hell by the explosion that had just erupted.\n\nEverybody now hates me.", "summary": "Accidently popped a balloon, got honey mustard sauce snuck in to my soda."}
{"id": "t3_2oubz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my roommate [19 F] of less than a year. She is being dishonest about a grade in a class and I'm pissed.", "post": "We are both freshman at a university, and we've become great friends after living together for a few months. She has not done a lot of school work this year and is generally a bit of a below average student, but only because she does not try very hard.\n\nIn one of her classes, Penelope (roommate's fake name) is supposed to receive a low C or D. She has a lot of zeroes in the grade book from missing assignments that she has not finished. Well, today, her professor accidentally entered an 800/100 onto the online grade book instead of an 80/100, like she was actually supposed to have.  \n\nBecause she has so many zeroes, this didn't raise her grade to an unrealistically high number, but instead landed her an A. An A that, frankly, she doesn't deserve. Although she keeps talking about how this mistake is \"God's way of saying sorry for such a shitty semester\" and that \"she deserves it.\" \n\nBecause there are so many students in the class, and because the grade isn't unrealistically high, the professor probably won't notice. So she'll walk away with an A. And honestly, this pisses me off. There are many people who work incredibly hard for their grades and will still walk away with only a B or C.  I feel that if I was in her position, I honestly would tell the professor because it would just feel wrong to me, but she sees no problem with it.\n\nNow I'm holding this little grudge in my head against her because I feel like she should be honest, even if it doesn't work out in her favor. And also because she keeps waving it around like she deserved the grade. Am I justified to say something to her? Can I? Should I try to persuade her to tell the professor? Or am I just being immature about the situation?", "summary": "My roommate will receive an A in a class, although she really deserves a D, because of a professor's mistake. She's acting like she deserves the grade and keeps talking about it. I think she should come clean and I can't take it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2dp4jt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've[M/17] Been Considering a Friends With Benefits Thing With a Friend of Mine [F/17].", "post": "So I haven't had a girlfriend yet (though painfully close) and recently began considering this path. There aren't many girls id be willing to commit to, but there are quite a lot i'd be willing to....well you know. \nI Feel Like this would be a great way to explore and gain experience in sexual interactions. Also it'd be nice to release some sexual tension that's built up.\nI know this is a shoot and miss kinda thing so there are a couple girls I have in mind, but she's the most likely in this case.\nIf you Guys have any advice on this Subject i'd greatly appreciate it whether it be negative or positive, Please Just be Informative.\nThanks!!", "summary": "Teenager needs Advice in FWB relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2duki1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23m] Classic girl from work story with a twist", "post": "This girl at work is very sweet and we seem to get along, at least on a you're-a-human-I'm-a-human-so-let's-treat-eachother-with-the-respect-that-demands, which basically means we're professional and I get a boner when I see her and I get excited when we talk about nonwork things occasionally and it's difficult to end the conversation and get back to work.\n\nI have a crush on a girl at work.\n\nShe's married.\n\nBut that's about to change. No, seriously, a guy at work said she's getting divorced. He's a super duper reliable source of information, so my boner won't go away (it's been more than four hours).\n\nUh...he's not the one giving me a boner, it's that 2% chance that she's available because I'm not thinking of her as a married woman anymore that allows her to give me a boner (the nerve some women have).\n\nI know that divorce is super stressful (second only to moving?), but I don't know if she's thinking, \"GTFO, fucker,\" or if she's thinking, \"Every guy... God dammit.\" She's not drowning in a bucket of ice cream at least (she looks gooood).\n\nAnyway, I'm treating this as though she is getting, but has not gotten divorced and probably still doesn't live alone.\n\nShe hasn't told me she's married and she doesn't wear a ring, so I could just act as if I don't know anything and whip it out (metaphorically) for her. But 1) it's just a crush. I really don't know her. I just like the way she is. She could click a mouse or take a sip of water and it would turn me on, but I really don't know her. 2) The whole divorce thing basically guarantees a no for a while. I mean, I haven't really asked her out or anything.\n\nI'd like to spend time doing nothing in particular with this girl, which may or may not involve watching her hair dance in the wind (don't judge me), but you know...the whole divorce thing.", "summary": "I have a crush on this girl and she's either getting or recently gotten divorced."}
{"id": "t3_27tosh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not opening my snapchats", "post": "I have been avoiding a friend due to a recent romantic progression that happened with our relationship. We were drunk, he took it very seriously. I know he had a massive crush on me even before the incident, so I did try to to clarify by telling him that we were still only good friends. He could not grasp this and has been excitedly messaging me on all forms of social media asking when we will be hanging out again. <3.\n\nI decided to just give it time to blow over and not open said messages. Snapchat gave me away when I was opening all of my stories and oops, opened his. At this point, over the course of today, he's messaged me 6 times that I haven't opened. Immediately after he sees that I open his story but not his PMs, this boy flips shit. Fuck.", "summary": "avoiding gone awry."}
{"id": "t3_1f2x3w", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Male, 22. How do I avoid getting attached to a woman too early?", "post": "Background: Came off a very intense relationship, though it was just about a year. It took about 10 months to recover from the breakup. I gained a lot of confidence and I was really happy afterwards. \n\nEarlier this year I went out with a girl multiple times, we laughed, kissed, had very personal conversations. The other day she told me she has no feelings for me. It hit me pretty hard, I was really sad and sometimes still am. I don't love her, but I really had some feelings for her. She was really pretty, but I'm not that superficial, I like things apart from her looks. I think this went way too fast and I can't figure out why. Maybe I trust women too early?\n\nThe next time, how can I date/get to know a woman without starting to develop feelings for her too early?", "summary": "Developing feelings for women too fast. How can I date/get to know a woman without attaching too early?"}
{"id": "t3_2d563h", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Cheat meals (need advice!)", "post": "So my basic diet (which I started about 3 weeks ago) is mostly just calorie counting.  According to everything Ive seen online, my BMR (or TDEE...I'm actually not sure what the difference of them are) is somewhere around 2500/day.  On Sunday-Friday I shoot for 1400-1700 cal/day.  On Saturdays I'll have a light breakfast and light lunch, and then a cheat meal for dinner.  My overall goal is to keep Saturday under 2700 cal.  \n  \nSo, yesterday was cheat meal.  I planned the whole day out to be 2400 cal.  For dinner we went to chili's and I got a bacon cheeseburger and swapped the fried for corn on the cob.  I also had 3 diet cokes.  I wake up this morning, and I'm nearly 3 pounds heavier than when I weighed myself yesterday.  \n  \nDoes this represent an actual 3 pound gain, or is it probably just food and drink sitting in my stomach.  Should I be doing something different in cheat meals? It was a really good meal, but if its going to undo an entire week its not worth it.  Its kinda frustrating because everyone who is successful seems to really repeat the calories in, calories out thing, but that equation doesn't explain a huge overnight weight gain.", "summary": "Went way above normal cal/day (but still very close to BMR) for cheat meal.  Three pounds heavier the next morning.  Problem with meal? Problem with scale? Normal reaction?"}
{"id": "t3_2zj77k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27, f) think I was just tricked by my ex (23, m) to cheat under the context that we were getting back together.", "post": "My ex of 3 years and I broke up about 5 months ago. This last Tuesday morning I get a text that reads: I will love you until the day I die. \n\nI have been maintaining no contact- I knew he was fooling around with a girl, but I didn't know if they were dating.  I have been missing him and depressed since the break up so I made the foolish decision to ask him to come over.\n\nHe obliged. When he got there I told him I still loved him. He told me he loved me. We talked for a bit, I showed him my new apartment, and then I asked if it was alright if I kissed him. He said yes. We discuss that we missed one another- that we were sorry and that when he told me he loved me, he meant it. We proceed to have sex and spend the rest of the night cuddling.\n\nIn the morning, he says he loves me and leaves for work. Later I send him a text that I really appreciate what happened that night and that I loved him.\n\nHe sent me a smiley face. He then proceeded to send one to two word responses for the last two days. \n\nI think he was dating this girl- and I think I helped him cheat on her. I'm not sure how else to proceed. I don't know if I should confront him about it, or just give him space and wait to see what happens, or if I should just move on and tell his girlfriend what happened.", "summary": "Ex bf tells me he still loves me and misses me. I invite him over and we tell one another we want to be together. We have sex, but now I haven't really heard from him for 2 days- I think he is dating someone. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1h9eue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends With Benefits issues", "post": "So this girl and I (both 21) met on one of our sports teams (about 4 months ago). I thought she was a cool person so I asked her to a school dance which she said yes to. We also had a class together and started hanging out more frequently. That was when I started to like her and eventually I asked her to dinner. I was going to ask her to be my gf that night but literally seconds before I was going to ask, she told me she wasn't looking for a relationship at the moment (she's going abroad next semester).\n\nSo I was kind of heart broken at that point but then we ended up hooking up that night. We still continued to hang out and see each other at practice and nothing ever got weird between us. One night we went downtown together and I took her back to my place when she drunkely tells me she likes me but still kept up the attitude that she didn't want a relationship between us. We hung out more by the end of the year and there was a night where we were kissing but neither of our intentions was sex and she admitted she didn't want me to leave that night (was traveling to see friends in another state). Over the summer it started out great with us hanging out a lot but the last time we did we were both drunk at a bar and we held hands and kissed each other goodbye at the end of the night. \n\nShe's been kind of distant ever since and she's leaving next weekend but I really want to tell her how I feel about her. She's the only girl that I would be willing to wait 6 months for.", "summary": "Fell for my fwb and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4dejha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my Girlfriend [33F] 8 months. Not sure.", "post": "So I meet this girl at work at first I didn't like her but she slowly grew on me, we started talking one day I hugged her and that led to her coming over to my house to talk and we ended up kissing.\nFast forward we have been together for 8 months. But there are a few issues that I'm not sure about. \n\n1: She is a Jehovah witness and they are really strict. I am not religious so idk how it is works I think she isn't as strict as the rest. The problem is she lives with her aunt who would kick her out if she found out. So I am unable to be seen with her if we are close to her house area. I can't post on fb about her and recently I created a photo for her (I do graphic design) tagged her and she removed the tag and it wasn't even anything romantic. its starting to feel like I'm unwanted even though I know that might not be the reason.\n\n2: She is technically married her husband cheated on her moved to Colombia and had a child with another girl. which was about 2-3 years ago but for some reason she never got a divorce. i feel like she might have been still holding hope for him.\n\n3: She recently got rheumatoid arthritis (started about 2 months we started dating) and she is unable to do a lot now. I feel like I'll be missing out on a lot as I'm still young.\n\nI'm mostly worried about the religion as we are working on getting a divorce.", "summary": "Religion is getting of the way of the relationship any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_v5pwx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit? I have seen you people do amazing things in the past. I need something simple in comparison to a hundred grand for a Web comic.", "post": "I am without a home for the time being, but have been offered an opportunity to live with a redditor in San Diego. I can stop hanging out in from of subway and starbucks to use Internet and charge my phone, I can sleep in a room instead of a park and I can get a job and get my life back in order. I need a way there. The amazing redditor that offered me a room tried everything she could do to find a way to get me there. I'm about done as far as what I can think of to make the streets better, but it is still the streets. If anyone knows anyone that is going through central Illinois and can get me west, that is a start. Maybe we can find a way to get me a chain of rides it can work.", "summary": "I am homeless and need to get to California to start a new better life, and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_374fap", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "First kitten... my brother and I disagree on something.", "post": "My brother and I adopted a kitten from a friend who's roommate next year is allergic to cats. Everything's fine so far, since we grew up with cats (We know what we need to take care of them), but we disagree on what I think is a fairly major issue.\n\nMy parents, when raising cats back home, would leave out a bowl of dry cat food and a bowl of water in the kitchen. That's how I wanted to feed our kitten, by just supplying a little in a bowl and keeping it at a near constant level as we notice it going down. My brother, deciding that the way our parents fed our cats contributed to our oldest cat's weight gain (He's been with us almost 16 years now, and has been fat since he was 2 or 3, and my brother has seemingly forgotten how often my mom treated the old cat with turkey and other cat treats), is trying to tell me that we need to only feed the kitten at certain times, and in certain portions.\n\nThat just feels wrong to me, since it's obviously going to still be growing, and I don't think he should be worried about weight gain in a kitten. And I'm not trying to tell him to leave a full bowl out all the time, but to just leave some in there for when the kitten gets hungry at a non-brother approved time.", "summary": "Bro wants to put kitten on a scheduled/controlled diet, I think we need to just let it eat when it's hungry."}
{"id": "t3_1cwvy0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Haven't talked to girl in 6 years. She liked me back then. How do I start again?", "post": "So back in Middle school there was this girl and we both liked each other. We ended up \"dating\" in Middle school. It obviously didn't last long and I ended up changing schools that year anyways. I haven't talked to her since I said bye to her before the summer of that year. The only way I can actually contact her is through Facebook and we've never really contacted each other on there anyways. Do you guys think that would be a smart way to do it? If so, how should I open the conversation? If not, what else do you think I could try?", "summary": "Haven't talked to girl for 6 years, how do I start up a relationship with her again?"}
{"id": "t3_2i822y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke about Ebola as a HS teacher...", "post": "I am currently a student teacher at a local high school, teaching a social studies class. For the most part, my students (sophomores) are pretty good. They never really act up. They are almost always behaved, but there is always that one which you must keep your eye on. (Let's call him Jim)\n\nIt is getting near the end of the period, and I'm letting the kids talk a bit just to vent. Some are moving around, but for the most part, they are sitting at their seats. I am at my lectern, but remember I need to throw a form up on the projector for the students. As I'm walking to my desk, I feel a slight breeze go by my head and I immediately turn around and see a small ball of paper (a quiz I had returned just a few moments prior) bounce off the trashcan near my desk. I turn around and see Jim standing there in a basketball shooting stance. There is an immediate silence in the classroom, other than a little bit of snickering. Jim has sort of this deer-in-the-headlights look in his face.\n\n\"Whoa, sorry about that.\"\n\n\"Jim, if that had hit me, you'd be going down to the office quicker than Ebola spreads in Africa.\" \n\nThe whole class goes, \"whooaaaa. Too soon, Mr. X, too soon!\"\n\nAfter I said it, I knew it was inappropriate. It was absolutely horrible, but I said it, I learned from it, and now I'd move on and be more aware of what I say in situations like that. The bell rang and the students left for their next period.\n\nBut, that's not the end of the story.\n\nIt just so happened that the assistant principal was walking by my door, just as I said it. (He likes to make his way around the school, making sure kids are in class, keep an eye on the teachers, etc.) \n\nI got an e-mail from him, CC'ing my co-op (not in the room) saying that we need to have a meeting on Monday about me continuing to student teach. So, I may be done by 3:00pm Monday.", "summary": "TIFU by saying I'd send a student to the office faster than Ebola spreads in Africa. "}
{"id": "t3_3hzltt", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Move my stuff for your own? what?", "post": "okay so yesterday I was at a local baseball game and I was sitting with a friend of mine. Since no one was sitting on the bench next to me, I put my purse and water bottle next to me. About 2 innings in, a woman comes up to me and asks me to move my stuff. \nMe, being a kind person and assuming that she was going to use that seat for sitting, I put my bag and water bottle on my lap. \nThen the woman PUTS HER OWN PURSE on the bench where my stuff used to be and sits down next to it (mind there is plenty of space further down the bench). \nI'm socially anxious so I was not about to confront the whale but she can enjoy my overly obnoxious gum chewing and foot tapping for the next 7 innings!", "summary": "self entitled woman asks me to move my stuff only to replace it with hers, has my gum snapping in her ear for the rest of the game"}
{"id": "t3_mg5d4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I found an iPod in the street miles from my home. It ended up containing a video with one of my roommates in it. Small. World.", "post": "I was riding my bike one night to my grandmothers house which was a few towns over. Near her house, and miles from mine, I discovered a still functioning but badly beat up iPod. As soon as I got home I charged it, and began snooping through it. The first video I watch involves a girl inhaling helium out of a balloon. The second video involves a guy getting his lip pierced. The person doing the lip piercing is my roommate. I freak out. I scream. I laugh. I call her up and tell her she's in a random iPod I found in the street. Turns out she remembers the owner. We've yet to hear from him, but I'm very curious how his iPod ended up in the street. \n\nJust thought Reddit might like coincidences like this one.", "summary": "Found iPod in the street which had a video with my current roommate in it."}
{"id": "t3_153mos", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What could she have meant by saying this (20f, 20m)?", "post": "Hi all, I had a sloppy make out with a good friend and developed feelings for her over the next day or so while hanging out.  Time went by, I tried to let those feelings go by dating two other women, but I could only go back to thinking about that one night with my friend.\n\nI ended up actually talking to her best friend about it while drunk and like most normal humans - her friend mentioned that I said something to her - she replied **\"I don't want to talk about it because we are like best friends\"**\n\nYet we still tease the hell out of each other and get really touchy/flirty when we are near another in group outings.  Is it time to tell her how I feel? Or try to get her to go out on an actual date before I say something?", "summary": "She's confusing the hell out of me and I don't know whether or not to tell her how I feel over the phone or skype, or if I should ask her out and talk then.*"}
{"id": "t3_zgnp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24F: 26M boyfriend wants to reconnect with the girl he was seeing when we started dating?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. When we started dating he was seeing multiple people. He ended it with them about a month and a half into our relationship. I never knew he had been seeing other girls until months later. It has been a source of pain for me in the relationship (our first kiss or date don't feel special knowing he was sleeping with someone else the night before)\n\nOne in particular, he has built a bit more with. They dated about a month. When he ended it with her she was very hurt, which suggests that there are unresolved feelings on her side. They did not know each other prior to dating, and have not spoken since.\n\nWe are moving overseas in a month. My boyfriend has decided to go for drinks with this girl to say goodbye. He has expressed a desire to tell her what he is up to because she would feel proud. He also said that although he has no romantic or sexual feelings, he still feels emotions for her.\n\nI am very uncomfortable with this. I dont understand why it is important to say goodbye to a closed chapter that he hasn't spoken to in over a year. I am uncomfortable with the fact that his train of thought was how proud she would be of him.\n\nI suggested either emailing/phoning her, or me being introduced to her before they go out, but he turned down both of this options, saying he wouldn't want to put her in the awkward position of meeting the girl he left her for (even though she never knew he left for another girl). Shouldn't my own uncomfortable position be taken into account?\n\nAny input would be greatly appreciated. The fact that we are moving makes any red flags even more important so that I don't make a mistake.", "summary": "my boyfriend wants to have an intimate dinner or drinks with the girl he was dating when we met, and I am not allowed to meet her."}
{"id": "t3_35eusg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First date ever, going to the beach. Would like some tips", "post": "Hey Reddit! I (20M) would like some tips, because I have my first ever date tomorrow (although I've had a gf for 3 years, but no actual dating happened), and we're going to the beach.\n\nI met this girl, we have mutual friends, at a festival a few days ago. We didn't kiss, but we talked, held hands, danced a bit. I asked her to go on a date with me, which was super hard as it is the first time I've asked this to anybody. What I mean to say is, it's not like a standard *first* date because we already spent some time together.\n\nI'm really nervous and excited. I'm going to pick her up tomorrow, we're cycling to the beach which will take 30 minutes, and then what? I'm a bit scared. Should I bring something (the weather, although no rain and sunny, is not super so no swimming), should we do something. I'd like all the tips I can get. Thanks!", "summary": "First date after 3 years in a relationship, going to the beach, terrified. What to bring with me, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2h3lmw", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Two kids in college, physically disabled mother, hardworking father who can't hold a job. Please help. (x-post /r/advice)", "post": "I'm in college currently and live with my parents because of money. My brother started this year and luckily we both got enough in scholarships to pay for tuition and food for the semester. We don't currently work because the scholarships require you to have less income than what they consider sufficient, and we are only under that line by about $1,500, so having more than about 38,000 will make us lose our 10k combined in scholarships for about 2k in actual income.\n\nMy mother is physically disabled from a hernia caused by old age and her third pregnancy preventing her from doing any kind of physical labor for longer than about an hour. She can file, organize, and do clerical work quite well and has looked for jobs doing so but those would ultimately put us over the line.\n\nMy father has busted his ass working managerial positions in restaurants where he has most of his experience and some in retail. He was a photographer for 20+ years but ultimately quit to be closer to his family and the business failed due to smartphones and such being the norm. He has a lifetime of experience working with people and at least 10+ years in management. He hasn't been able to hold a job due to all of his bosses treating him like shit and constantly giving him impossible tasks. He had an awful boss before who was replaced by one that is even worse and has given him so much work to complete in so little time that he has clocked over 180 hours in the past 2 weeks.\n\nI need to find somewhere my father can work that he won't feel all this stress from employers who have no idea what they're doing and employees under him who refuse to do their jobs and constantly give attitude. Sadly we also live in a state where it is ok to fire someone with absolutely no reason, so they can get rid of him just because they don't like him, and that's what they're doing. He's probably going to quit soon if he hasn't already because he can't take 48 hour shifts anymore.", "summary": "My hardworking, people-person, managerial father really needs a challenging but not overly stressful job soon."}
{"id": "t3_19a8zk", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Motivation for the last few pounds?", "post": "Hi /r/loseit,\n\nI'll keep this fairly short. I used MyFitnessPal and running and lost 45 pounds in 90 days, and then 15 more, for a total of 60 pounds in six months. I've now maintained (within a fluctuating pound or two) my current weight of 180lbs for around one month.\n\nHere's my issue: I'm maintaining my exercise (running 15-20 miles/week and/or two 90 minute classes of bikram yoga) but I'm also cheating more on my eating. When I was in loss mode I cut out all soda, all sweets, most carbs, etc. Now that I've passed my goal weight and I'm in maintenance mode, I've started snacking again...a lot. I'm not really gaining weight, but I'm also not losing weight. (After passing my first goal I've decided I have about 5-10 left to go).\n\nIs this normal? Have others gone through the same experience and, if so, what did you do to refocus and to help get you to your ultimate goal? \n\nAny help is appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Lost 60 pounds, started bad habits back up, need help staying focused."}
{"id": "t3_3key8a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I got 1/2 of the credit cards I wanted. Should I get rid of the secured card with a monthly fee?", "post": "I had this $500 secured credit card with PNC for almost two years. I also rode along my mother's car loan.  Earlier this year I applied for PNC cash builder and was denied, but was approved for target credit card (5% at target), sallie mae (5% at Amazon), and Amazon credit card (I did this one before learning about sallie). I was initially given 300 limit for target but they upped it to 800 after five months. Amazon and sallie both gave me 3100 limit.\n\nI recently applied for pnc cash builder again and got denied again. They really don't like the loan amount vs my income. Anyway, now that I have some real credit rolling, can I go ahead and terminate the secured credit card? It charges $3 monthly and I don't see a reason to use it now that I have cards that give me rewards. I would like pnc cash builder because that's the checking account branch I use, but I don't see the car loan going away in less than two years. I suppose there's citi double cash card but I doubt I'll qualify now that I had so many hard checks this year. The secured card is the oldest credit line I have so my credit score will probably take a hit when I get rid of it. Sallie/target won't take the cards back though right?", "summary": "About to cancel my secured card with monthly fees, now that I got big boy credit cards. Is there anything I'm forgetting?"}
{"id": "t3_10d1eb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what are the silliest things you've gotten into an argument about?", "post": "My Boss just sent me home because I was trying to clarify exactly what he wanted me to wipe down the tables with. Of course it didn't start out as an argument, but when I was attempting to double check what spray cleaner to use (so that I didn't ruin the finish or anything like that) he decided instead of flat out telling me to just continue to yell at me for the amount of times he had to ask me to wipe them down. I am a sensitive person (okay fine I'm totally a cry baby) and my eyes started to well up as I was attempting to defend myself/just figure out what solution to use so I could start wiping them down! No tears fell, and I've explained to him before that I'm an emotional person, that just because my eyes start to well up does not mean I don't have a hold on myself, my tear ducts routinely betray me! This made him even angrier and so now I have the afternoon off I guess.\n\nI don't normally wipe the tables down, thats not in my job description, and I usually arrive after the morning shift completes the task, so I've never seen it done before. I'm assuming he was just stressed about something, but whoooo boy did he get mad at me!! I guess clarification questions are more inflammatory than I thought.\n\n###", "summary": "Clarification of Cleaning Solution escalates to Boss in a tizzy. (It was the Windex the whole time!!!)"}
{"id": "t3_2uo7q0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing my coat", "post": "So a little bit of context here, I'm in my senior year of highschool and I have a class to get to. Everything is going fine in the morning, but because of the snow traffic is pretty slow. So by the time I get to school, I'm running a few minutes late, but thankfully the school bus arrives just then so I can use \"the busses were late, not my fault\" as an excuse, even though I don't take the school bus. I rush inside and try to get to class as fast as possible, but then I remember: the teacher goes ballistic when people bring their coats to class. Now, my locker is at the complete opposite end of the school, and it would take me around 10 minutes to go there and back. But then I have this genius idea as I pass by the lost and found bin: I'll just drop my coat off here and pick it up after class, right? Fast forward to after class as I go to pick it up, the bin is completely empty. Turns out that, once every few months, someone comes by to collect the unclaimed belongings and donates them to a shelter. Now, although it was a nice coat, this wouldn't be such a big deal if it wasn't -10\u00b0C and snowing heavily. Long story short, I missed my bus home and had to wait for over an hour outside in the cold for the next bus that was supposed to be there 40 minutes ago.", "summary": "plan failed, lost coat, had to wait outside."}
{"id": "t3_2ci2y4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F]--after experiencing traumatic events in life a few years ago, I became very soft and emotional and don't feel like I'm as resilient. Why do some people become soft and others cold and bitter? How can I become more resilient?", "post": "A couple of years ago, I had to work with a well known trauma specialist and a psychiatric nurse along with a psychologist before and after.  I'm in a really good place now, don't require any help from a mental health professional and haven't for a few years now.  \n\nI lead a very 'normal' life in terms of working full time, going out with friends, volunteering, etc.. but when I think about myself and where I'm at, I feel like I'm softer with the world rather than cold and bitter.  I'm glad that I'm soft, but I wish I could harden up a bit so that if something difficult happens again then I can handle it by myself.  \n\nSo I guess my two questions are: how does one become 'tougher' (but not bitter or cold, just more resilient) and why do some people become softer and others end up the opposite after difficult life experiences?", "summary": "Me [24F]--after experiencing traumatic events in life a few years ago, I became very soft and emotional and don't feel like I'm as resilient.  Why do some people become soft and others cold and bitter?  How can I become more resilient?"}
{"id": "t3_3233yl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship seems to have hit a speed bump between me (19M) and (19F)", "post": "All right, here's the deal. When the semester started, I met this girl in my Chem lab and we started talking. Infrequently for a while, but around a month ago started to pick up to the point that it was every day for the past few weeks. Anyway, I was very much into this girl. She's very pretty, and shares so many interests with me, it was a little surreal. \n\nTwo weeks ago we went on a date, which went really well, we ended up kissing at the end and I was a happy man. Ideally we would have had a second date this weekend or last, but it was easter and she went home, and this weekend is out for other reasons. So here's the problem. Starting earlier this week, our contact started to taper off, effectively not talking whatsoever this week. Obviously I was a little concerned, given how much we'd been talking before, so I said I'd like to talk to her, and she said she wanted to talk to me as well. \n\nSo we talk on the phone a bit, and here's the issue. She tells me that she wasn't sure if we were a couple or not (something we hadn't discussed, and I wasn't clear on either), and that she didn't feel ready to be in a couple. She said that she was still emotional over her last breakup, and she didn't feel emotionally ready to be in a relationship with me yet. This is followed by saying that she does really like me and wants to keep hanging out and talking and all that jazz. I of course understand that you can't control feeling not ready, and told her that, and saying that while disappointed, I wouldn't guilt trip her or pressure her into anything. \n\nAnyway, the vibe that I got was that a relationship wasn't off the table, just not right now. I feel that any relationship we would have would be a healthy, lengthy, and fulfilling one. So I suppose my wondering here is what I should do to make it clear that I am open to a relationship and fostering that relationship potential, while maintaining the friendship and giving her the time she needs.", "summary": "Girl doesn't feel ready for a relationship yet, I don't want to just give up on the idea. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_wcye9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend is grossed out by sex and other intimate encounters, please help.", "post": "Like I said, my girlfriend is grossed out by the idea of sex as well as oral and fingering/handjobs. We have been together for 3 and half years and have done everything except have sex. However these intimate encounters usually only happen once every couple months when she is so horny that she doesn't get grossed out. She is terrified of me leaving her even though I'm convinced that I am going to marry this girl. We are 20 years old and have known each other since elementary school and now go to college together. Is there anything we can do for her to get over this feeling? Please help us out.", "summary": "Girlfriend is grossed out by sex. any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_18mh9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (19f) tell my dad (57) who is married to my mom (47) that I know that he gave an ex co-worker (f22) of mine a very flirtatious Valentine card and gifts?", "post": "Today I went into the family-owned convenient store where I used to work and one of my ex co-workers called me over to look at something. I wasn't really sure what it could be and he pointed down to a Valentine's Day card and told me to read it. I was a bit confused at first, but I immediately noticed it was my dad's handwriting. As I kept reading I became more and more disturbed and confused. It was an overly flirtatious advance to a woman (22) who also works at the convenient store. It came with a bunch of smaller gifts and a lot of expensive chocolates. He didn't even do this much for my mom.\n\nI really have no idea what to do or how to bring it up. My parents have been married for 23 years and I know they have issues, but the fact that my dad would write such an explicit message to a young girl is just beyond me. I have always had so much respect for my dad and he has been the only person I could count on. I've never really been close to my mom and she is not always the most caring person, but that doesn't at all excuse his actions. \n\nI don't know if I should bring it up to him or my mom or both and I don't want to be blamed by my siblings for destroying their marriage. It is killing me inside to know that my dad did such a thing.", "summary": "My dad (57), who has been to my mom (47) for 23 years, sent an overly flirtatious Valentine's Day card with gifts and chocolate to an ex co-worker (f22) of mine. I'm not sure if I should bring it up and if so, how?"}
{"id": "t3_4hsltd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to be single but I'm dating someone", "post": "I  (18F) was in an off again on again relationship for roughly 2 years. It was abusive and horrible for both of us and I recently ended it a few months ago. I wanted to be single badly. I'm mildly attractive, I get the occasional compliment. Im still in my first year of uni and I've been dead set on having my \"hoe phase\" that my girlfriends have been encouraging me to take but I haven't done anything for four months. I could have but I just haven't. I really like being single, I had forgotten this type of freedom! Recently I met Dan. He's shy, sweet, and fun to hang out with. Initially I told him straight off the bat I wasn't looking for anything serious and just wanted a casual fling. He said he was okay with that. We've been dating and hanging out a lot more recently and I think there might be feelings involved. I am the first girl he's ever been with and he's still on the awkward side when it comes down to physical things. I like him but I still have the itch to flirt and be single. Not sure how to proceed", "summary": "I want to be single but am kinda dating this guy. Not sure what to do, is it worth it to get into a relationship again?"}
{"id": "t3_n1f39", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get a new classroom set of World Religions books for my class? I'm a broke, high school student.", "post": "I'm currently in a world religions class at my high school. I learn more in this class than any other class I've taken. The only problem is is that the books are terribly beaten up. They are torn to shreds, and you can tell that the school isn't going to replace them any time soon. The class is taught by a great teacher, and a lot of people want to take this class. I just wish that we had new(er) books to learn from. They are seriously beaten up so bad. It kills me to see those books every time I walk out of the room. Is there a way I can apply for a scholarship or a way to talk to my school?", "summary": "how do I get a new classroom set of books without money?"}
{"id": "t3_326emz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [30 F] word going NO CONTACT with my ex [35 M], broke up two weeks ago, he still contacts me from time to time. I need to heal.", "post": "I broke up with him because he treated me like crap and would've never broken up with me because he benefited a lot from me being there for him. I was very unhappy and was truly the worst version of myself. Hated it. So i finally broke it off. \n\nNow, it's an emotional roller coaster. I feel a lot better at times. But I miss him constantly. I love him. But I *know* that I don't want him back because I don't want to be that unhappy again. I've paid my dues and gave him way too many chances. \n\nIt's been two weeks since we broke up and i saw on his FB page that he's been making \"special\" friends. He's moving on and it really pains my heart to see it. I stopped following his feed but what's to say i don't slip and look at his page again and fall into this depressive cycle again. I want to eliminate him from my life for the time being. \n\nHere's my dilemma. I deleted his number and I do no initiate contact. But he texts from time to time and tells me he misses me. I don't see the point of us communicating and it honestly just makes the love-drug impossible to leave my body. I need time and space to heal. \n\nPlease help. I have a fear that I might sound rude and this is preventing me from affirming myself and standing up for myself. I want to tell my ex in a message that although we've agreed on staying friends, can that happen later and can I have time to heal?", "summary": "How can I word a polite and stern message to tell my ex that we can't be FB friends anymore and I prefer a NO CONTACT period so I can heal."}
{"id": "t3_3k8ho5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have have a massive crush on a girl [17 F], is she too young for me?", "post": "For the last 2 years I have been working with this girl. In that time we have had a lot of time to chat to one another and for the past year I have really wanted to ask her out on a date. The trouble is that she is 17 years old  (18 shortly after new year) and I'm concerned that the age gap is too large considering how young she is. A 23 year old dating a 17 year old seems a bit predatory to me.\n\nWhen it comes to dating, I have almost no experience and she could be the first person that I ask out. I am very introverted and find it hard talking to anyone let alone someone that I am attracted to. However I find this girl much easier to talk to than anyone and I really feel that she is perfect for me. We independently have discovered and watch the same television programs and even programs on the radio! (How many young people do you know that listen to the radio?). She is even about to start studying for the same degree as me.\n\nDo you think that she is too young for me? Would it be weird if I asked her out?\nI think about her all the time and really want to ask her out but I'm not sure what other people (my parents, her parents and our friends) would think about it. And I'm not sure how she would react.", "summary": "I want to ask a girl I've known for a long time out on a date but I'm worried that she is too young for me."}
{"id": "t3_t3hm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I hate myself.", "post": "I have been dating my amazing boyfriend for 9 months. We are in our early 20's and have just recently started using the big \"L\" word. \n\nSo this past weekend I went out with some friends and ended up getting blackout drunk. I literally do not remember the night except for a few bits and pieces. My one friend, for some reason, kept trying to hook me up with one of her boyfriend's friends, even though she knows I have a boyfriend and that I was not at all interested. Anyways, as it turns out, later in the night when I am past gone, the guy decides to take me home with him. One of the things I do remember is him asking me to \"get out of here\" and saying no. But my next memory is of standing outside of a cab in an area I didn't recognize. The following memory I have is him unwrapping a condom and then after that the memory of getting dressed. That's all I know.\n\nI am beyond distraught and have been a crying mess for the past few days. The first thing I did though, was head to the clinic to get an STI test. The nurse told me it was too early to test but because I came so quickly they could give me pills to cure Gonorrhea and Chlamydia \"just in case\". The guy has also emailed me over facebook and I have confirmed that we did have sex and that a condom was used. \n\nMy question for you, Reddit, is how/should I tell my boyfriend about this? I love him so much and I feel so used and dirty about this. People keep telling me it's sexual assault but I can't help feeling responsible for it. I should know my limits when I drink. Please help!", "summary": "Got blackout drunk with some friends and had unwanted sex. Not sure if it counts as sexual assault. Need help explaining to boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_54s627", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Things are moving with this girl (18F) for me (20M)", "post": "A week ago I hadn't kissed a girl yet. \n\nSince then I've gone on 4 dates, made out numerous times with this girl I met and even had her over and took off her bra and had some fun. \n\nBut for some reason my attraction is waning. Shes incredibly nice. Showed more interest in me than any other girl. But she already wants me to meet her family. And she messages me every hour. \n\nShould I trust my instincts or am I being self destructive?\n\nWhen she snaps me I no longer get that bubbly feeling. I just think: Oh I should probably respond to this. \n\nI was rock hard during my first kiss with her? How is that I was soft with her nipple in my mouth?", "summary": "Having all of my first experiences with this girl but she seems way more invested in me than I am in her. Do I say something?"}
{"id": "t3_leav2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is it taboo to question capitalism?", "post": "Among all the people supporting OWS I noticed a trend. The \"I think this and this is wrong, but wait, I'm not criticizing capitalism!\".\n\nWhy not?\n\nDon't get me wrong, I understand the American system isn't pure capitalism and that it just occupies a point among the wide variety of mixed economic systems.\n\nBut I think we could all agree that the US is one of more capitalist industrialized countries in the western world and is pretty proud of that generally speaking.\n\nI'm also not necessarily saying that capitalism is the source of all evil. It's just that hating on capitalism could be a pretty easy thing to turn to for many people. A kind of ultimate scapegoat to blame everything on. Yet people just don't seem to even consider this train of thought.", "summary": "I'm just wondering what the causes are of this lack of questioning capitalism."}
{"id": "t3_4fl5fr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Interest on CC question.", "post": "Simple question, as we are new to using credit cards for everything as opposed to debit cards, for the purposes of racking up rewards points. We've made several payments over the course of the month to make sure we stayed on top of our spending, but today the statement came in and the amount outstanding on the statement was $405. To avoid paying any interest, does this mean we need to let all transactions post, and then make a payment in full to bring the total balance down to zero, or does this mean we need to make $405 in payments by the due date? Can it be more than one payment? Like a 200 payment and a 205 payment? I'm asking because we have a $185 payment pending.", "summary": "bill closed 4/19, is due 5/15. New balance line in statement say $405 due. Do I just need to make payments totaling $405 by 5/15 to avoid interest, or does the actual credit usage ever have to actually equal 0 to avoid interest?"}
{"id": "t3_eydq5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Recurring thoughts. Confused. Please help?", "post": "My girlfriend(16) and I(m/only17) have been getting along amazingly. We've been together about 2 and 1/2 years and about two months ago, I began to really cringe at the thought of being with her forever. We've talked about it before and I never minded it. She is the only girl I have ever dated. I told her about how I feel. I feel like I need to have a look around the world and meet new people and maybe find out if there is anything out there that I am in fact missing. I felt like I couldn't talk to her about it again after that though. She couldn't handle it.\n\nKeep in mind there are not too many things wrong with our relationship. I do find her to be a bit controlling at times, but I find ways to get over it.\n\nGetting back to what I was saying though. I talked to her tonight in depth since I've finally decided what college I want to go to. It's out of town and away from her and she's very upset about that since she'll still be in highschool. She asks questions in ways that feel like they're more like accusations, rather than questions. She doesn't understand that when I say I don't know, I really dont know. I feel like I need to branch out and enjoy my last year in highschool and life and I can't do that without knowing what else is out there.\n\nWhat should I do? I feel almost as though I should break things off now. Should I? :(", "summary": "I feel a strong case of confusion and am wondering if the grass is ever really greener?"}
{"id": "t3_4h8b3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend[23 M] of 1 year, having a hard time getting over things he's said in anger", "post": "A few months ago, my boyfriend, Jason, and I got in a fight. We had both been feeling dissatisfied in the relationship, me because I felt uncared for and unappreciated, and him because I didn't open up to him. So one day I was hanging out with a friend and forgot to check my phone for about 30 minutes, so I didn't realize that Jason had already arrived to pick me up. He got really mad at me, said he was breaking up with me, and proceeded to send me a barrage of text messages the whole day about how I was a horrible person and that he had never loved me. \n\nJason said that my dreams were boring and that he had been lying to me about talking to his ex-girlfriend for the past two months all the time instead of talking to me. And to top it off, he said that he still loves her. Eventually he apologized and said that he didn't mean it but I still can't get over all of the things that he said. I can't believe him when he says that he cares for me because all I can think is that he's lying again. He has a bad track record of saying horrible things that hurt me when he's angry and then immediately regretting it, but the damage is already done. It seems like he's trying to be caring most of the time, but then things like this happen and I feel really sad. Am I overreacting for not being able to forgive him for these things?", "summary": "boyfriend keeps saying hurtful things when he's angry that I can't get over"}
{"id": "t3_1xlp3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First real break-up; regardless of how clean it was.", "post": "So, this is what it feels like to be broken up with. God it sucks. I (20/F) had gotten dumped this weekend by my ex-bf (21/M) of about 4 months. He told me that it was the right thing to do and that because we weren't compatible, it wouldn't have worked out anyways. In short, that is basically what happened. We talked, we cried, he tried to make me feel better, and he gave me some shaky reasons why we needed too. \n\nWhat bothers me the most, is that this conversation came out of left field. I was not prepared for this and I was thrown for a loop. I thought things were going okay, but I never saw a problem with it. We had said before that it wasn't going to last and I knew that going in, but this was a complete surprise. \n\nHe had time to think about it where I didn't so here I am. Single, right before Valentine's Day. I don't think it could get anymore depressing than that. But how do get over someone who lives in the same dorm as you? And especially if we are trying the whole friend thing out?", "summary": "Break up after 4 months, very emotionally attached, lives in the same dorm, and trying the friend thing. How do I get over him when I live down the hall from him?"}
{"id": "t3_20qlwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] of 6 months, wants a open relationship.", "post": "First time posting sorry if wrong.\n\nMy girlfriend who I call my best friend and who she calls me  her best friend and is away in college, told me she wants an open relationship.\n\nShe kinda of broke up with me but said I want to put our relationship on hold since I don't support open relationships. But we still are talking everyday since we are so close of friends this happened monday and she told me she is in love with me Romanticaly and not sexually she also told me she wanted to lose her virginity to me since I am such a great guy we both waited 5 months to have sex. Our relationship we had / still have is she could treat me like shit and at the end of what she just said we would laugh and I could do the same to her. I can and still plan to tell her anything. When I was still dating her she told me everything about her so did I. But the other thing that was said numerous times is that the person who takes her virginity she will probably come back to if she isn't dating them in the future and wind up marrying them. She told me this and I truly belive her. She told me even before we were dating she wants to lose it to someone she thinks deserves it. And she and I waited 5 months to have it and now she is putting our relationship on hold since I won't support her having one but I am trying to have an open mind and want to have one with her. I truly feel their is no other girl for me.", "summary": "Girlfriend / best friend of 6 months being gf and 8 months of best friends wants an open relationship originally I did not want one but I feel I want to try it to support her and show her I am faithful to her, I feel there is no ther girl for me."}
{"id": "t3_10t118", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20m] I have no idea what I'm doing", "post": "So I've only been in one relationship before and it was both our first relationship so we sort of stumbled around it and fucked up often. I've never been the relationship type having mostly had hookups or fwb. At the start of this school year however, I was semi depressed, I had a lot of issues going around and my friends sort of abandoned me. Just when I was getting really bad, I meet this girl and we hang out. She's the opposite of me: quirky, peachy, optimistic, while I'm more realistic/sarcastic. We don't really have a lot in common, but we've been seeing each other a lot over the past few weeks. The thing Is, I don't think I really like her, just her company. I mean she's nice, but there's not a lot of common points. I've decided I enjoy being with her because she's always happy which cheers me up, and because she's always there. However, I don't know if this is fucked up? Am I using her? I dont want to be an asshole.", "summary": "been seeing a girl just to have someone happy around, is this wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_4lczbe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - As a waiter a year back. Twice.", "post": "Soooo these happened a while back, but if they can make someone smile today, it's worth sharing right?\n\nFirst fuckup. I was scheduled to serve an evening shift, so I hit the gym beforehand. I realized too late, I forgot an extra pair of underwear. So I had to go commando, but that's no big deal. I've had to do it on multiple occassions. The problem is that I gained weight since I started that job. Aka, I had gained weight since buying the pants. In the middle of speaking with a nice elderly lady, my button popped. And my zipper slowly crawled it's way down. This lady had an entire conversation with me, not knowing that my peen was hanging out right next her face under my apron. I had awakened to my exhibitionism.\n\nFuckup 2: I've always hated the taste of coffee. The drink, in candy, ice cream, didn't matter. Then my ex introduced me to starbucks. Oh my sweet jeezus, I was drinking that extra large, off-menu size every day. The problem is, she didn't tell lactose intolerant me that it had milk. And I never thought to inquire. After a week of that, it's mothers day. I'm super busy, can't catch my breath, and all of a sudden, I feel a great big fart. Go to the back to release the kraken, and I knew it was weird how it tore it's way out if my ass. But I was busy so I went straight back to work. End of my shift, I go to the bathroom to scratch an itchy butt, and it's mushy. I had continued working without realizing I had diarrhead in my briefs.", "summary": "Dangled my teeny weeny peeny in an elderly customers face, and served a ton of loving mothers with diarrhea in my briefs."}
{"id": "t3_2olrac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) wanted to ask out friend of couple months (20M) only to find out his ex (20M) is moving in", "post": "I'm a student at college and I was going to confess all my sappy gooey feelings to a guy (Let's call him Mike) and ask him out. We hang out as much as we can on weekends. I've known Mike for a few months now and like I said, gooey feely blah - I was going to ask him out. \n\nSo as we were driving to a restaurant for dinner, he tells me about his new roommate(let's say Joey). Joey and Mike go back to elementary school. Turns out, they dated in high school and when Joey's parents found out about his homosexuality, they took all of his communication (phone, facebook, email everything). Mike tells me that nobody's seen or heard from Joey in years and messaged him through a fake Facebook account and Joey is moving across the country to get away from parents, but in doing this he is moving in with Mike. \n\nSo I'm shocked at dinner and the rest of the drive as Mike also talks about the huge probability of them being together. I couldn't say anything about me so I left earlier than we planned. My fear is that they are getting together and I'll be left in the dust. (Prob'ly happening anyway) and I still have all these feels for Mike but I don't want to ruin our friendship or get in the way of this soap opera story. I feel like it's my last chance to tell him. Should I? Is it a good idea?", "summary": "I got feels for guy. His ex appears from out of the blue to move in with him. I still want to tell him about all my feels."}
{"id": "t3_3o513z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update)Me [27M] with my Wife [28F] together for eight years, cheats and wants me back.", "post": "First post: \n\nHey reddit, didn't want to be a lame op and not give an update of how I used all the advice I received.\n\nI chose to sign the papers and move on from that life. I still have that wonderful girl that supports me and appreciates me. She has been a wonderful find in one of my worst times and has made them become the best times. Although some days are harder than others, I still wake up depressed about all that has happened I try to remind myself that I am on the right road. I know that in all the eyes of her family, friends, I am the bad guy who didn't do the right thing by not working through this. And how they will always think I was the one who made the mistake; getting used to someone so close to you drag your name around in mud is hard for me to get used to I suppose. \n\nI'm taking it one day at a time and I know this is just a fart in the wind, I found out who is there and who isn't and I have good people around me. This experience has been really good for me. I know who I am and I learned nothing will last forever. I learned the true meaning of the phrase \"Appreciate the person you love to the fullest extent, and then beyond, Cause you never really know what you got, until it's gone\".  I end on a positive and say life is going great with my new girl and especially that I have full ownership of my two dogs life is good to me and I will do my best to enjoy the ride and be glad for what I have.", "summary": "signed the papers moving on, thanks for everything<3"}
{"id": "t3_2fsct8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming it was just my hair.", "post": "I work on a dairy farm in Australia and I have long hair.  I always put my hair up into a hat so it doesn't get in my way when I am milking.  Running hands all over my hair when I have poo hands is not something I want to do.\n\nBetween milkings I keep all my poo clothes in the office, which is just the end of an open barn.  It is my usual practice to shake my clothes out before I put them on but today I was running a little bit late so I rushed to get dressed.\n\nSetting up was going great until I felt a tickle on my forehead.  I assumed I had missed some hair so I reached up to shove it back under the hat.  I was poking it back when my brain registered that it felt different from my usual curls. I pulled the object down to have a good look at it.\n\nIt was a huge black spider I was trying to shove into my hat.  I dropped it on the ground with a very girlish shriek and yanked my hat off, shaking it frantically in case any other spiders were in there.  There wasn't but I know never to make the same mistake again.", "summary": "Rushed into work clothes and never checked for spiders."}
{"id": "t3_1qgzkv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too soon [3 mos] for me (24/f) to tell my bf (26/m) that I love him? Should the woman even say it first?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I am using a throw away because my SO is a redditor. \n\nSo, I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 3 months. We are both very busy and career-driven people, but we eat dinner together every night and spend every night together. (We have not slept separately in over 2 months). He makes me insanely happy; he is my best friend in a lot of ways, and I already cannot imagine my life without him. \n\nFor the last couple of weeks I have wanted to tell my SO that I love him, but I am afraid for several reasons. \n1) It may be \"too soon.\"\n2) I feel vulnerable. \n3) I actually haven't told someone I love them since my last LTR (which was two years ago). \n4) I have never said it first, and part of me thinks that it might be because I was brought up to believe that men should say it first. \n\nAlso, in his last relationship, he told his gf that he loved her, and she decided shortly thereafter that she did not want to be with him anymore because she did not feel the same way.  I think he's hesitant to have the same thing happen with me. \n\nNow, I really feel that he loves me too. The way he looks at me, how thoughtful he is, the little things he does for me, all leads me to believe that he loves me too. I've met all of his significant family members, I've met all of his friends, we dressed up in a couples costume for Halloween, etc. But on some level I do not really know because he has not said it.  \n\nI guess I just want to know if it's strange that I am so scared, and if you all felt that it was too soon to tell him how I feel. How do you feel about women saying it first?", "summary": "When is the right time to say you love someone? Should I (a female) be afraid to say it first?"}
{"id": "t3_1jd73j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26M] Dating a woman [24F] for 3 months. Just found out she used to be a stripper and worked at a swingers club. Trying to be open minded but I'm bothered by it.", "post": "We haven't been dating for very long, but she told me she used to strip and she also bartended at a swingers club. She no longer does either, and she told me that she did not participate in the swingers scene while she worked there, it was just a job. However she's said almost nothing about the stripping job she had.\n\n---\n\nNow, I'm totally not into either strip clubs or swinging. It's actually bothering me, no matter howuch I try to tell myself they're just jobs. The fact is she got naked and gave lap dances for money, and that is making me respect her less. In addition to that, while I want to believe her when she says she didn't get into the swinging scene, if she had it would be a personal turn off. I want to believe her, but it's not been that long and she used to strip, so I wonder if she's just saying it because she's afraid of my reaction.\n\n---\n\nMy question is, am I being too close minded? Is it unreasonable to dislike her past choices in jobs? She stripped only while in colkege but the fact she had no problem getting naked in front of strangers for money bothers me. I have no problem with swingers, no problem that she used to bartend there, but the scene is just not my thing. She says it's not hers either, but she worked there for a long time and I worry she's holding back the whole story because she's afraid of my reaction.", "summary": "Girl I'm dating used to strip and bartend at a swingers club. It bothers me, am I being closed minded? I'd never want my friends or family know that, and it seems unfair to her if she's alright with it."}
{"id": "t3_2cziwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (18F) feel guilty if he (16M) is cheating on his girlfriend with me?", "post": "I am 18 and the guy is 16, which i know sounds really weird because usually I have had relationships with older guys but he is pretty mature for his age. He has a girlfriend of 5 months (16 yrs. old I don't know her). \n\nWe have a mutual friend (18F) who he had casual sex with once but they stayed just friends after that. We sometimes hang out with the three of us and i got the feeling he was interested in me. I slept over at his place one time cause it was late and i was drunk and we made out, I gave him a blowjob and we dry humped a little. (I'm a virgin, he doesn't know. he isn't) since then we have hung out a lot and i sleep over a lot, gave him 2 more blowjobs and did other stuff but no sex. \n\nHe texts me pretty frequently even when he's with his GF and he behaves like I'm his GF when we're together. I like him but would never want to be in a relationship with him. I really don't know what to make of this.", "summary": "should I feel guilty ?? Should I put an end to this because I'm the more mature one?"}
{"id": "t3_1iwfla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[16M] and my gf[16] have been dating for over a year and haven't done much, but we both want to.", "post": "Me[16M] and my girlfriend[16] have been dating for a year and 6 months, with having known each other since we were 12. We've been on plenty of dates, mostly to the movies or mall, but we haven't been able to do anything outside of making out in the theater or sexting.\n\nWe both REALLY want to have some physical sexual activity (not PIV) in our relationship, but so far there hasn't been a chance. Whenever I go to her house, her younger brother and sister are there.  I don't mind them, but they're inevitably preventing us from doing anything. Also, she's too nervous to ask her parents if she can come over to my house alone. Her parents are strict so I understand, but her whole family adores me so I don't see why it's so difficult.  Then again that's coming from me, whose parents are the exact opposite.\n\n Has anyone had similar experiences? I don't think I'm being impatient or selfish, because I really just want to pleasure my girlfriend (and she has told me that she'd like to do the same for me). Any input would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "horny 16y/o couple want some sexy times but can't find the right place or time. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ffuoy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "am i too nice for women?", "post": "i treated every girlfriend in my life with respect and all i got was disrespect, cheating and pain. \ni'm 29 and starting to get the feeling that women just friendzone every good guy and date the asshole where they know they'll be treated like shit.  \ni'm not frustrated because of a recent event...i'm just frustrated in general. My last ex cheated on me several months and left me last august to move into another guys house.   \n  \nIs it wrong to treat the girl you love like a princess? Do i respect them too much? At least 12girls in my life left me for an asshole that treated them like shit.  \nI'm just a man that can't see into the heart of a woman so i have to ask the world for an answer. Is it true that woman always choose the bad guy?   \ni made a small test myself and acted like i give a shit and didn't care about their feelings and stuff...and they were even more attracted as if i did some witchcraft on them.  \nPlease tell me that not every woman is like that...   \n...or is it really that the women WANTS to be treated like shit?   \ni see it all the time and can't get it in my head.  \nshould i stop to respect them as a person and stop showing that i love her?   \n  \ndon't get me wrong.. i'm not an overly-attached guy that stalks his gf.\ni would say i'm a pretty normal guy. I'm just not an asshole. Is that my problem?", "summary": "Want woman to be treated like shit? Or am i the last nice guy?  "}
{"id": "t3_2ue9qh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17 M) close friend (16 F) who I previously had a relationship with has become hostile to me for dating another girl who happens to be a close friend of hers", "post": "I know people in this sub tend to look down on teenage drama but this has been bugging me recently.\n\nMy old SO, we can call her Jane, were in a relationship for a significant length of time during middle school. Post relationship, I maintained a sort of \"gay best friend\" friendship with her; a very very close platonic partnership. Jane was supportive me of in my quest for love through high school, and I tried to help her out as well, but she has yet to have any luck whatsoever.\n\nRecently I started dating a third girl, who we will call Jill. Jill is in the same small friend group as Jane is, and I gained interest in Jill at the beginning of this year of high school. Jane was supportive of me, but she had big doubts about my chances will Jill, until it slipped out that Jill knew I fancied her and wouldn't mind a date. Even though I have seen images of these conversations, Jane has been telling me that Jill doesn't want to date, which I know is false because we began chatting up and are prepared to do an official first date soon.\n\nAs soon as news of this broke, Jane began to be more hostile to me that usual. We went from chatting every day for a few hours to twice in the last 2 weeks. She also insults me more (this is significant because although we maintained a very sarcastic attitude with each other, she has begun to cross a line and be mean). Jane is stonewalling my efforts here; it is unfair of her to intrude on this new relationship of mine. However, I don't know how to deal with this, because Jane is possibly my best friend but still is being a big nuisance.\n\nI don't know what to do here; I don't think I have to pick between Jane and Jill but it seems that I have to make that choice. Can someone explain what is happening? I have been out of the dating game for some time so I don't really get what issues are happening.", "summary": "I am split between Jane and Jill, and need help understanding Jane's issues so that I can properly deal with her and her very apparent jealousy"}
{"id": "t3_4ymepv", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(VA) We are breaking our lease and discovered water damage after moving furniture out. Next steps?", "post": "I apologize for any typos and formatting issues, writing this on mobile.\n\nWe signed the lease for our townhouse in January. Our landlord is the owner of the property, there is no middle management company. We are breaking our lease to move back to NC due to financial reasons and have had a great line of communication with our landlord since day 1. She has been working with us to find new tenants to take over the lease and understands that we are taking steps to adjust to our budget issues without missing any payments. She is empathetic to our budget issues, but not very lenient or forgiving of the rent payments.\n\nWe are taking off in the truck tomorrow, and after removing the furniture from the (fully finished) basement, we noticed warping from water damage on the wall panels. The two walls affected are exterior walls, and the damage is just below ground level, indicating foundation troubles. It's not so bad that our furniture was damaged, and the carpets are not wet, but there is definitely moisture in the walls.\n\nWe do not have new tenants signed for a lease yet, though we have shown the place to a few. We are responsible for paying rent until the either new tenants sign a lease, or our current lease ends in January. We cannot afford another month of rent here so it is very important we find new tenants soon.\n\nMy question is do we tell the landlord that we noticed it tomorrow, before they do the walkthrough Monday? We will not be here after Sunday. What we are worried about is 1) will we still be on the hook for rent if it becomes un-rentable while the repairs are being made, and 2) are we responsible for any damages if we don't notify the landlord, despite it being a structural/building problem?", "summary": "We are breaking our lease because we can't afford to live here anymore, discovered moisture in exterior facing walls, leaving the state for good tomorrow and don't know if (or how) to tell the landlord."}
{"id": "t3_oaxuc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay I need some help Reddit. Help me out?", "post": "Well I can't seem to get over this girl. I'm in 12th grade, and she's in 11th. We dated for about sixth months and had the best time ever. Seriously the best girl I ever dated. And then almost a year ago, she broke up with me, but got back together the next day. Then in like april,she broke up with me for good. Well I started dating this other girl, but still had feelings for this girl. I broke it off with the girl I dated over the summer. I got together with the girl I still have feelings for and we talked it over, but she told me was over me. I still think about her all the time. Everything reminds me of her. Those six months were the best of my life. Help?", "summary": "Can't get over this girl.."}
{"id": "t3_4mkhg8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I am Planning to Cut a Squared-hole on the Display Window of an University Vending Machine. Could Anyone Point out the Legal Consequences?", "post": "Location : California\n\nMy school employs a 3rd party contractor for all vending machine related operations. Today I was charged for an item that I didn't receive. I am graduating soon and I refuse to take \"leave a note at the front desk and they will give your money back\" as an answer. My plan is to cut a hole on the window and take out that one drink which was rightfully mine. Without a law background, I have difficulties finding accurate information regarding the exactly legal consequences that I would be facing. \n\nMy other motivation is that I suspect companies who owns vending machines categorizes these income as their standard stream of revenue, hence their motivation of fix the machine or give back refund on time is disincentivized due to this additional revenue.\n\nI will be studying for my cryptography final while reading to your advices. By 8:30pm", "summary": "School vending machine took my money for nothing, should I break it open to get the item back?"}
{"id": "t3_1uf46j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 26] have been out of the loop for three years now. I now have a girlfriend, but I still have slight jealousy issues. I want to overcome them.", "post": "I'm not sure if it's jealousy, but I get this feeling in my chest whenever she tells me that she's with a guy friend or something. I haven't told her that I feel this, since I want to overcome it. It's a mixture of slight anger (I think) with some jealousy and anticipation to know what they're doing. I really can't quite tell, but I want it to go away since I know that I can trust her. \n\nI think it's just something I acquired from my previous relationship that ended three years ago, due to her inability to trust me. So I reflected it back on her during the course of the relationship.\n\nAnyone out there ever have issues like this? Any kind of meditative tricks to overcome this kind of thing? I know it will take time, but for now I will just remain quiet. I just don't want it to get out of hand.\n\nJust writing this out kind of made me feel better actually.", "summary": "I'm suffering from jealousy issues. I want them to go away. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2sgta8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] got dumped hard by [22F] friends for eight years, together for one or two, Long Distance", "post": "Basically, I met her on this dive of a chat site, initially for roleplaying and we both kind of stuck around,became good friends. About two or three years ago she mentioned that I was \"boyfriend\" material, so we decided to give it a try. She was a big Otaku, nd for a while,it was nice. Had fun,traded pictures. Dreamed of meeting one day. (She has...anti-social issues.That's all I will say)\n\nWe had rough patches like all relationships do,and I tried my best to keep us together. But last week it just got worse,and after having enough of being called an idiot, I pushed back,metaphorically, a night or two ago. I spoke some harsh words to her..and I guess fate was sealed. \n\nWe ended it just last night, and she emailed a mutual friend(also female)Who got pissed at me as well, and joined her in cutting off all contact with me", "summary": "I fell for a British Otaku(I'm Canadian), we started to fight alot last week. She's cut off all contact,and I feel like a sack of shit. "}
{"id": "t3_4rjpxj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying my pregnant wife cleaning products for her birthday", "post": "At 7:30am today, I got a call from the delivery company.  \"Damnit, this is super early,\" I thought to myself.  My very pregnant wife rolled over and asked who I was talking to on the phone.  I informed her there was a delivery truck on the way.  \"Happy Birthday!\" I exclaimed with a shit-eating grin.  \n  \n*sigh*  \n  \nI had spent the last few months tirelessly researching my purchase.  Our household had been plagued by constant beeping sounds coming from the laundry room at all hours of the day and night.  So much so that we had been unplugging the decade-old washer and dryer when not using them.  It had been going on for years.  I resolved myself to fix this problem.  I'm a problem solver.  It's what I do.  There are 4th of July appliance sales.  My wife's birthday is around the 4th of July.  She would *love* it if I got one of those fancy-schmancy laundry sets with the steam and pedastals, right?  Great gift, right?  Come on, guys, at least humor me and pretend I'm not an idiot for a second.  \n    \nSo I splurged and bought the bestest set I could find and had it delivered as a present.  On my pregnant wife's birthday.  At 7:30am.  Waking her up.  \n  \nShe groggily comes downstairs so see my present...  \n  \nHer:  \"You bought me CLEANING SUPPLIES?? ....  FOR MY BIRTHDAY???\"   \n  \nMe: \"...\"    \n  \nHer: *disappointed look*  \n  \nMe: \"Happy Birthday...?\"  \n  \nHer: \"This is insulting\"  \n  \nMe: \"I'm sorry\"      \n\nYeah...  I am not a smart man.  We haven't spoken since the the delivery occurred.  I don't know if dinner plans are still on...", "summary": "Had a new washer/dryer delivered at 7:30am as my pregnant wife's birthday present.  Hilarity did not ensue."}
{"id": "t3_4ryq2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26M) fiancee (31F) is snooping on Facebook on guys she has had one night stands with. Im supposed to be \"cool\" with it.", "post": "We've been engaged for going on a year now, been together for 5 years. Im at work while she asked me to look up something on facebook. I forgot that she was using my phone earlier to log into Facebook because she couldn't find hers.\n\n So I go to the search bar and click on it to type in the friends name for the status she wanted me to read. Low and behold it shows that she looked up two guys yesterday that she had past one night stands with (well more or less booty calls ). I know this because we've both been very open about our past to each other.\n\n So I let my anger get the best of me and I confront her immediately through text. I ask her what she is doing on facebook and what's the reason that she is looking up these two guys. After much texting back and forth I get the bullshit answer that she was just nosey. I told her we'll talk about it when we get home. \n\nI get home and the conversation practically boils down to as previously that she was just \"nosey\" about what they're up to. I was told that it shouldn't really bother me and that I should be \"cool\" about the whole thing. \n\nWell im not fucking \"cool\" about it. I feel hurt and angry and jealous and confused all at the same time. I want to know why and nosey is an answer that just doesn't cut it for me. And on top of that, she claims that she looks at the one guys profile all the time because she grew up with the family during her childhood and she's seeing if any pictures were posted of them.\n\n Im not okay with this at all, I feel that there is something more. Maybe im looking into this too much but id like any insight that you guys can have for me.\n\n Thanks! \nOh and by the way if the formatting sucks im sorry, on mobile. Also knocking back a few beers now too, so spelling might suffer too..", "summary": "Fiancee searching past flings on facebook. Says she's just nosey. I'm supposed to be cool with it. I got angry and now im sleeping on the couch. Am I being too jealous?"}
{"id": "t3_4avjj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24 M] have been with my gf [24F] for 2 months, recently found out she is seeing her ex. Seemingly dates.", "post": "This girl ive been seeing has been awesome and ive never had a reason to not trust her. Her ex has been in the picture since I began dating her. Now we are exclusive and she agreed to be my gf. I have been noticing she still gets the odd text/snap from her ex. If were watching tv and shes next to me when she checks her phone i can see his name come up. Im not snooping. She hasnt brought anything up about how he still talks to her. \n\nFast forward to this week, i found out through one of her friends that she was at his house last wednseday getting high and watching some tv. Last Saturday he took her on what seems like a date. Feeding birds and then to a restaurant for supper..", "summary": "gf of 2 months still talking to her ex and going on what seems like dates. Is this a sign to drop her and move on or is there still hope for our relationship. What are others experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_ypo47", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best way too stop smoking?", "post": "First off, this isn't for me. I had tried smoking for a week then got sick and permanently turned off from smoking. This is for my mother who is struggling too stop smoking. She has tried smoking alternatives and actually quit for a full year but sadly got back into the habit. She tried just about everything, even the smokers assist called Champax but is still addicted.\n\nWhat can she do too stop smoking for good?\nAnd also, how can you end addictions for good(has a progressing gambling habit and gets Iced Caps from Tim Hortans two times a day everyday.)?", "summary": "How to stop smoking and end addictions?"}
{"id": "t3_3nsia0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My F(22) family didn't tell me my cousin M(30) was having a baby.", "post": "I come from a small, dysfunctional family. I know every family is dysfunctional in their own ways, but perhaps a little more than most. Anyway, I really only have about 5 relatives. My parents (divorced), and my aunt and uncle and their 2 kids. And my grandpa. \n\nWe're all pretty close and I spend my holidays with them. I live a state away at this point but try and keep in contact. My younger cousin and I are the same age and I consider her like a sister (I'm an only child). We grew up together, spent countless summers together, and even had similar friend groups as we grew older. I try to text her and call her but she rarely responds. Last time I saw her was in December 2014 and it was really fun. We always have a good time together and have good talks but when we're not together she disappears.\n\nI called my aunt last week because there were some pretty big family problems I wanted to talk with her about but no one answered. She called me back tonight and we talked. She dropped the news on speakerphone that my guy cousin was having a baby. In January. It's October, so they've known for quite some time and chose to not tell me. \n\nI acted excited for him and asked a lot of questions, but part of me was so hurt and faking my excitement. I don't understand why they didn't tell me months ago. This is a huge thing to happen in my family (first grandkid) and I just feel left out. I'm pretty removed from my immediate family (have a bad relationship with my mom), so it sucks feeling like the only family I have doesn't care.\n\nI obviously didn't want to make this announcement about me, so I didn't say anything but I'm having a hard time processing it. I've felt distant from them for some time, but I don't understand why the change and how I should proceed moving forward. I don't want to be bitter about it, but I don't want to put in effort if they don't seem to care.\n\nJust mainly venting because I'm sad.", "summary": "My cousin is having a baby in January. No one in my family told me until today. Upset and don't know what their reasoning could be."}
{"id": "t3_v2ata", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is anything worh it at the expense of losing the love of your life?", "post": "I'm 22. My girlfriend is 21. We've been in a relationship for a year.\nI love her more than I have loved anything in my life and vice versa. I just know she 'the one' for me.\nI got into medical science in a very good school in Holland which has always been my dream. Meanwhile she didn't and she will probably be going to school in our home town. She wants to come with me but I can't drag her with me to another country with her nothing to do there just to follow me, but I can't skip the oppritinity. We don't want a long distance relationship.", "summary": "I'm going away to school, SO is not. I dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3wd3ms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am experiencing something confusing towards my roommate [20F]. I've gone from being completely impartial towards her to something I can't explain.", "post": "Hello /r/relationships, I'll try to keep this as short as I can.\n\nThree months ago, I moved into a house in England with three other people from my country, 2 girls and 2 guys (including me). I had little to no attraction to either of the girls, one was too dull to talk to properly, and the other I had little attraction to. For the sake of this story, I'll call her Liz.\n\nAll four of us are on good terms, haven't had many problems or serious rows, so we get along well. Recently (a week or two ago), however, I started to become more and more attracted to Liz - we talked a lot, discussed quite a few things, and I understood why she was the way she was (which is to say a bit unusual, she's a bit strange at times with how she behaves). With that insight into her personality, I realised that although she's not stunningly attractive, I really, really like her. I haven't felt anything like this for a while, and I genuinely don't know what to do, or whether the feeling is mutual. Yesterday we were sat in the kitchen for hours discussing love, relationships, sex, all that, and I wanted to do something right then and there.\n\nI will definitely talk to her about this, but it's a question of timing. She's leaving tomorrow morning - heading back home -, and will be back in just under a month. I don't think that now is the best time to bring this up, seeing as she's getting ready to leave, but I honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "Moved in with roommate, thought little of her, then recently realised that I have become really attracted to her, but don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_28qt7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F/21][M/22] I emailed a guy asking to hang out. I think he responded well. No contact after that.", "post": "Yeah. I'm basically a social retard. I have no idea what's going on!!! \nI posted a week ago about emailing him in the first place. After much advice and encouragement, I did. I said that he seemed cool and I wanted to hang out some time. \n\n**He said this exactly:**\n\n\"Cool man! id like that. Do you live in *city* by any chance?\"\n\n**I said:** \"Sweet! I live in *nearby city*\"\n\n**Now I'm kinda lost**\n\nNo response. I mean, I understand being busy and all (and it really is a hard class), but emails don't take that long to write. \n\nI have a couple scenarios in my head: \n\n1. He was just being nice and doesn't actually want to hang out. \n\n2. He thinks I'm a loser because I dropped the course and doesn't want to associate with me as such. \n\n3. He actually is busy or is \"playing it cool\" and waiting a few days. \n\n**Then, the worst thing ever:** I just saw that I accidentally sent him ANOTHER blank email yesterday. :( Omg so lame.... Now he'll think I'm trying to get his attention or something. \n\nOpinions?", "summary": "I'm a social retard. Assuming the worst after not getting a response from a guy."}
{"id": "t3_vff9k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some things that annoy most other people but don't seem to bother you very much at all?", "post": "For me, it's finding a hair in my food. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not super excited to find a little wiry surprise in my dinner, but I just don't see the big deal in it. Sometimes, things inadvertently fall off your body and unless you're specifically looking for them, they tend to slip by unnoticed. It's extremely unlikely for me to experience any sort of actually unpleasant consequence from ingesting or touching someone else's hair. My girlfriend will freak out if she ever sees a hair touch her meal, but I don't think I've ever complained about finding one anywhere. I just calmly remove it and continue eating.", "summary": "Hair happens."}
{"id": "t3_3fontt", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How do I go about getting a job out of state (far)?", "post": "Currently living in the East, 23 years old, want to move and get a job in the Pacific Northwest area. However I have no friends or family out there to move out and search for jobs so it has to be a full-time job I can make a living off of and I need a job lined up before I move out there. (I will trip out there for an interview though if need be)\n\n (Mainly looking for Outdoor Jobs such as City Worker, Municipal, Landscaping & Snow removal, Forestry ect...) as I got a few years experience in the above.\n\nI've been applying like a mad man using government sites, usa jobs, indeed jobs. I even applied for 10+ warehouse positions. I've only received one email / recognition of my application from a company saying \"they've forwarded my resume to a manager\".\n\nStill nothing after a month.", "summary": "Are there any tips / tricks to use when applying out of state?"}
{"id": "t3_1priij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] with my boyfriend [16] - Problems with Arguing", "post": "Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 months before we broke up because we argued too much. It had been 1.5 months since we broke up and I decided to contact him again seeing as I was still madly in love with him and missed him so much. It took a while to 'convince' him that we wouldn't argue any more but eventually we got back together. A few weeks have passed now and we were literally so happy being back together; I thought he'd changed because now we talk more and see each other more and generally have fun. However, sometimes he doesn't speak to me for days on end because he feels I'm 'moody' and doesn't want to 'start an argument' which is fair enough, however he doesn't understand that not speaking to me is one of the reasons I get annoyed and feel unwanted.\n\nAnyway, we started arguing on Halloween and because I was playing hard to get I decided to text saying 'we both need to change otherwise it's not going to work' and he agreed and unfortunately we broke up yet again. I don't want this at all and I have messaged him a lot of times trying to talk to him and sort the argument out- however he doesn't understand and sometimes will not reply. I know he loves me and we both want to be with each other, however sometimes he can be a little too stubborn and will ignore me and not speak to me for long lengths of time. I want to be with him and 'moving on' is not an option. At this moment in time he is still ignoring my methods to talk to him and will not see sense. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Boyfriend and me broke up for a while because we argue and now we got back together and are arguing again, need help!"}
{"id": "t3_1aa7nr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Too different to make it, or does \"opposites attract\" actually work?", "post": "I'm 21, he's 21. We've been dating 2 and a half years. After this long together you realize different things about each other. I save money, he blows through it like it's the end of the world. I have a hard work ethic, he is extremely lazy. I am very clean (clean kitchen, bathroom, etc.) and he is your stereotypical \"gross\" boy. We are two very different people and yet I love the shit out of him. He makes me laugh and I can spend all day with just him. We're both about to leave college so the obvious question comes to mind: What happens after? He (eventually) wants to get engaged, married, etc, but it's becoming difficult to look past his lack of hygiene/money handling/etc. \n\nI love him very much and I know he loves me very much. I've tried to talk to him about it but he just says it'll all work out. He has no concerns about our future. But I do. If we love each other, is it true that it will work out? Or will our differences make it increasingly difficult to make this work?\n\nThanks for your help.", "summary": "Me and boyfriend are opposites on tons of things. Will it work out?"}
{"id": "t3_1bmqrg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to talk sense into someone. (Adjustable rate mortgages)", "post": "R/personalfinance, I need some help with ways to talk sense into my brother-in-law.  Him and his girlfriend have found a 10 year old foreclosed double wide and have placed an offer on it for ~60k. The worst part of the deal is that the house will be put in his gf's name with her father as the cosigner, it has an adjustable interest rate starting at 9% and payments are scheduled to increase from 500 to 1100 a month after 24 months. \n\nAre there any good websites or articles about Adjustable rate mortgages that I can point them to or should I just sit back and watch him make horrible financial decisions?", "summary": "Brother-in-law is a financial moron, I need help advising him."}
{"id": "t3_1m7eqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/F] together with fianc\u00e9e [26/M] for 3 years, getting married on Saturday. He isn't excited, and I'm worried.", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e [26/M] and I are getting married on Saturday after dating for over 3 years and being engaged for one. He used to be so affectionate and demonstrative (random love notes, saying how \"lucky\" he is to be with me, hugs for no reason) and as the wedding gets closer, he seems to shut down more and more. He's taking a very active role in the wedding planning, but he doesn't seem to be excited at all about actually getting married. \n\nWe are fairly young, and I want him to be excited about this new and significant step (marriage). What if he's like this when we have our first child? I don't want to be with someone who can't express their joy at life experiences/milestones. I'm just feeling depressed. Is this what I have to look forward to?", "summary": "my fianc\u00e9e is blas\u00e9 about getting married in 4 days, I'm questioning if I can handle that attitude forever."}
{"id": "t3_29i4q5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Work- Supervisor (33m) is in constant competition with me (31m)", "post": "Like the title suggests, my supervisor has been in constant competition with me.  It feels like a game that I didn't know I was playing.  It started roughly around the time we hired a new employee (25ish F) and gets worse when she's around.  There's definitely some heavy narcissism going on too.\n\nFirst off, he always has to be the one with the answer, like he's proving that he knows more on the subject than I do.  I've started to not answer questions now since that at least doesn't get me angry.\n\nSecond:  He's constantly micromanaging when there's an audience.  For example, we were at a job site last week, and he lays into me about not taking a parking space 5 spots closer than the one I chose.  I have him a WTF look and parked anyway.\n\nThird: When he's right and you're wrong, look out.  He'll go on about it for an hour.\n\nFourth:  When you're right and he's wrong, he'll make it out like he was right all along and you're both saying the same thing.\n\nI'm insightful enough to look into my own actions and see if it's me that's creating the situation.  I honestly do not think I am since I am usually just trying to be helpful by answering somebody else's question.\n\nWe actually get along great when he doesn't have an audience and have a decent working relationship.  I know part of it is showing off for the young new employee, but come on...\n\nDo I approach him and remind him that I'm only here to help, and that I'm not in competition with him?  It's getting to the point where I can't take it anymore... I don't like the game.", "summary": "Boss/Coworker is constantly is trying to one up me.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_436vm5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Starting to question moving my money to a Wells Fargo IRA.", "post": "I have some money from a former employer that was put into a 401k through Fidelity.  Long story short (partly because I'm not sure what the complete story is) the money in the 401k got moved to a cash account and was doing nothing but sitting there, and I want it doing something.\n\nBoth my father and grandfather have accounts with Wells Fargo, plus Wells Fargo has a location in my town with advisers.  So I figured this would be the way to go, I have family that seems to like them, and I can actually go in and talk to someone in person.\n\nAfter a hassle of them seemingly not knowing how to transfer the money from Fidelity, I get to talk to the adviser, and he basically just suggests a mutual fund through American Funds, and seeing that I'm 31 years old recommended an aggressive plan (which is at least one thing that makes sense).  He gives me some pamphlets about American Funds, mentions that payment is a rate of 5.75%, and basically sends me on my way.\n\nIn trying to understand all of this, I came here and started reading through the info provided.  I'm seeing that apparently Vanguard has much better expense ratios and potentially no loads, so I'm starting to think I should get out of Wells Fargo asap.  It's frustrating not entirely knowing what I'm looking at, or where to find information.  Like trying to look on Vanguard's website briefly, and I'm not seeing all fund options, or what ratios or loads they may have.  Same with looking at these American Fund pamphlets.  I just feel like I'm still in the dark.  Then I read on here that investments depend on what your goals are.  My goals?  I don't even know what kind of goals I should be making.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for some advise and more information.  It seems like there's just so much to learn and I can't seem to make any connections yet.", "summary": "Transferred money to a Wells Fargo account, started reading here, now questioning the WF decision.  Still confused and could use advise and more info."}
{"id": "t3_3xegf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl[16/F] is sending me[16/M] mixed signals", "post": "Notes: Currently I'm a boy in high school.\n\nSo, this semester I had a class with this one girl. She and I talked a lot and now we became friends. About everyday we talked and now we text/snapchat pretty often and sometimes we would hang out. She would also talk to me about her life a lot and the drama in it. She wouldn't tell this stuff to a lot of other people.\n\nWith this i also noticed a trend. Any guy she likes she takes selfies with to put on her story. I also asked other people about her exes and that trend was there for them too. I was on her story a lot a few weeks back and I am pretty confident she had a slight crush on me. During this time I also remember her pestering me about my past crushes.\n\nThen, she met this really smart college kid, through other people, who was on her story. She also personally talked to me about her having a crush on him. Of course that kid has went back to college and idk if they will ever meet again.\n\nWith that she still is my good friend despite knowing each other only this semester. We still talk, text, and snapchat. I do have a crush on her, but idk if its mutual since I haven't been on her story   in a while. Idk what to do. Should I take it slow, make a move quickly, or just give up and be her friend? \n\nBTW, next semester we have no classes together, but we have promised each other to still hang out and talk.", "summary": "A girl had a crush on me for a while, and idk if she till does."}
{"id": "t3_2r84qj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22f] am clueless how to casually date! Tips and advice would be greatly appreciated.", "post": "Like the title says I am a 22f and newly into the dating scene! I am a serial monogamist and I really don't want to be. My last relationship lasted a year and we broke up in November. I feel like I am in a place in my life were I am super busy and not looking to work too hard on a relationship. Don't get me wrong I love to nurture my relationships with my friends but I don't have the energy to deal with romantic relationship problems and heart break. I had a really rough year last year, didn't get into any specialty programs, parents divorced, my dog passed away and my dad got a new girlfriend. Oh and at the end of the year a very painful breakup (loved him dearly, just not compatible in very important was) so basically I'm just looking to be happy and working on being happy.\n\nRight now I am loving my hobby (pole dancing!), working full time and finishing my degree part time. This doesn't really open me up to many opportunities to meet guys. I've been going to meetups every once and awhile but for the event not really for meeting people. \n\nSo reddit, how in the hell do I meet guys without online dating (freaks me out) and without getting into a LTR? I guess also how do I flirt? I'm not super awkward, I am actually pretty outgoing. I am just not really forward or flirty unless the guy is being ultra flirty then I can catch on.", "summary": "girl wants to date around without it turning into a LTR, what the frigging frick do I do? How do I meet guys and flirt?"}
{"id": "t3_2jar7a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a prank call", "post": "This wasn't today but it was this week\n\nSo my name is Jamie, i'm a kid in 7th grade, i wouldn't call myself a stereotypical 'twelvie', i don't go around cussing taking selfies, and i am by no means stupid (or i was told/felt before this incident), i usually get good grades and good test results, but i am very mischievous, i pull pranks all the time and (most) my friends condone it.\n\nSo one day, i felt very mischievous and so did my friends, one of them had his phone out, and my other friend thought of the idea of prank calling people, and so we did.\n\nFirst we called people in our school, then places like McDonalds, and then all of a sudden, Another school...\n\nIt all happened so fast.\n\nThey nominated me to do the call, needless to say, i did take the call.\n\nI called them up, they answer \"Hello (so and so) High school, this is Jim (fake name) speaking\" I say \"Did you get the package?\", they say \"What one?\" Then all of a sudden, i don't know what to say, i try to think of something funny,  then it slips out of my mouth  \"The one with the bo...\"\n\nI then hang up and hang up, all my friends were in silence, shocked, as was i...\nI had just made a bomb threat...\n\nThen one of my 'friends' (i broke his nose and we have never really liked each other since) goes around saying stuff like \"JAMIE JUST MADE A BOMB THREAT!!1!1!!!!\"\nOf course he tells the people most likely to tell the teachers.\n\nThen the bell rings and i am feeling really sick, i go to the sick bay and then i get picked up by my mum.\n\nI didn't go to school today, i was vomiting really hard.", "summary": "Felt naughty, prank called places, bomb threat... "}
{"id": "t3_1ef579", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting banned from local CVS for life", "post": "So after school I tend to go to the local CVS down the street to pick up some snacks and drinks. I was with my friend today and put a red bull in my pocket and went to wait in line to pay. I got frustrated with the length of the line, and decided to walk out of the store, completely forgetting it was in my pocket. Next thing I know this guy is in my face telling me he is some detective for CVS and this is a felony and I need to come to the back of the store. Next thing I know there is a cop, a local detective, and this CVS guy yelling at me in the back of the store about everything. No court date or fine, but I am no longer to return to that CVS ever again, or I will be arrested.", "summary": "I can no longer go to a local CVS due to shoplifting"}
{"id": "t3_52uchc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [21M] of just over a year, recently started constantly fighting, how can we make it work>", "post": "Boyfriend and I started dating in first year of university. We really had a lot of fun together, everything was great until recently.  \n  \nIt just seems like every time we're together now, we'll pick fights with each other. It'll always be about the stupidest things, and afterwards we'll always resolve it, but it's really taken it's toll on our relationship.  \n  \nI know it sounds like we should just break up, but I really want it to work out. Actually he's a really good guy, and we have the same sense of humour, values, and sex is great. I just don't know why recently we can't seem to stand to be with each other.  \n  \nWe both recognize the problem, and have discussed it. Neither of us want to break up or are interested in anyone else, and we really want to fix the issue.  \n  \nI think it's a problem of ego since our arguments are usually I'm right, you're wrong which then goes on to why did you say this, what did you mean when you said that. It's really about the most trivial things, but we don't seem to realize it until after we've fought and hurt each others feelings.  \n    \nHas anyone else experienced the same thing? What did they do to move past it?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have been getting into arguments about silly things. How can we stop and just enjoy our time with each other?"}
{"id": "t3_lyll7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Friend is Slowly Being Killed By His Roommate, What Do?", "post": "My friend needs your advice.\n\nFirst off, We are college students at a Tech School in the Pacific Northwest. Our school does not provide dorms so we all have to get our own apartments while we attend.\n\nAt first his roommate, let's call him Bill, was a decent guy, kind of socially awkward, but he did his part and they all got along well. Over the last two years Bill slowly started letting the place go. He stopped washing clothes, he stopped cleaning dishes, he stopped doing nearly everything. He puts food in the fridge and forgets about it, hiding it in the back or in the shelves.\n\nBill has piles of filthy laundry pushed against the wall. Stacks of molding plates, glasses with spoiled milk, bags of month old snacks,   half eaten take out surround his bed. Their apartment smells like a landfill, their windows and door have to stay open to ward off the smell.\n\nAbout three months ago, when semester started again I noticed that my friend, Bob, developed a cough. I figured it was back to school sickness and would go away; it didn't. About three weeks later I took Bob to the urgent care center. They said his cough was caused by some sort of contaminant, that he must have been breathing it for quite some time. And that because of it he had developed a mild Asthma.\n\nFast forward two months, Bob is still coughing, Bill is still living in his filth. Bob wants to kick him out but is afraid that Bill will not be able to find somewhere to go. He wants to torment Bill, to make his life as 'uncomfortable' as possible. Bob's end goal is to make it so Bill decides to move out and saves him the hassle of forcing him out.\n\nHow have you dealt with filthy roommates?\n\nHow do we make his life hell?", "summary": "My friend's roommate is a filthy person, who gave my friend health problems. We need to force him to move out. How have you dealt with people like this?"}
{"id": "t3_2ul3nd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make a joke.", "post": "This wasn't today, but when I was in elementary school. This thought just came across my mind, so I'd figure I'd post it. \n\nIt was Halloween that day, and all of the kids dressed up except me cause I lacked spirit and the preparation. Anyways, the day goes on and I eventually went to music class. The teacher is wearing all black/dark grey. I said to her, \"What did you dress up as today? (Being Halloween) Evil music teacher?\" (cause the all black)\n\nThat's where I went wrong. \n\n\"..You think I'm evil?\" She said, and proceeded to get very upset, paced or did something anxiously around the room and she seemed teary-ish. \n\nI brush it off, cause young me was still proud of my clever sense of humor.\n\nWrong again. Later the teacher then tells my homeroom teacher that one of us called her \"evil.\" and classmates quickly hear, spreads like wildfire among dry brush. It then comes down to me, and everyone knows *that I did it*, but I still didn't worry too much not thinking of the implications of what I said, cause I was still proud of my joke.\n\nI get home and explain what happened to my mom. She then gets shocked and also upset at what she hears. I couldn't stand getting yelled at, so I started crying. In the midst of me doing so, she then drives me up to the school so I can apologize to said teacher. \n\nWe get up there and the faculty is still present because school only ended about 20 minutes ago. I walk in with tears in my eyes and sniffling asking to see \"Mrs _____\" and the lady at desk asks what's wrong and I told her it was allergies, of course it wasn't. I eventually knock to her door and apologize, but my eyes were still red and teary from earlier. It was really embarrassing.", "summary": "Tried to use my wit to compose humor, composed spaghetti instead."}
{"id": "t3_1t2plh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [29 M] with my now ex-gf [30 F] of 8months, we broke up and I can't stop thinking, I let the best thing to happen to me, slip away.", "post": "Me and my now ex had both been very stressed in lite the past few months. I had just gotten laid off and her workload was crazy high.\nShe needs personal space when she is streesed and I need companionship. \nWe couldn't give the other what they needed to help cope.\n\nWe fought a lot. We both wanted to give the other what they needed, but struggled too. This caused even more stress. \nWhen time were good they were amazing though.\n\nThen I screwed up. Booked a flight 3 days before her 30th birthday. Simple missreading of my calander. When I tried to correct the mistake she wouldn't let me. Saying the damage was done. and it wouldnt mean the same even if i did re book it.\nThen we decided to end it. Nether wanted to but we both thought we should.\n\nSince, I can't stop thinking about her. Today was her birthday and all I wanted was to be with her. i miss her smile and laugh and company so much.\n\nAm i deluding myself? Can something work when our needs are so different?\nI feel like we gave up. Didn't try enough... But I also don't want to hurt her any more and cause her stress with my actions and needs. We are working on still being friends. If I ask to give it another try am I being selfish?", "summary": "we broke up because we had different needs but I think it was a mistake. Can you make different needs during times of stress work?"}
{"id": "t3_3ek6zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [25/F] has fallen out of love with me [24/M]", "post": "We've known each other since we were about five years old, her mother babysat me and my brother. We went to the same schools and grew up together. We weren't the closest growing up, but we were still friends. \n\nWe have been dating for 7 months and maybe a month ago, I could just tell something was off. And I confronted her about it and we had a long emotional conversation about it. Ended with her and me both crying profusely. \n\nShe wanted to end things, and I didn't want to stop her (although I do love her) because I want her to be happy even if I'm not. She ended up messaging me, telling me she made a mistake and that she wanted to work on it and try harder.\n\nI can tell she's trying to fall in love with me again, but something is just off and I'm giving her my best. \n\nWe got into the same discussion last night and she had a panic attack.\n\nI'm just not sure how to move foward. Like I love her, a lot and I can't bring myself to leave.", "summary": "Girlfriend no longer seems to be in love, but still cares about me and loves me in that sense."}
{"id": "t3_203ykh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] cheating on my [20 M] 3 year relationship, he cheated first, is it okay?", "post": "I have been on and off with my boyfriend for 3 years. he was my first. He has sort of the bad boy personality because he grew up with a pretty rough life. Last year we went through some really rough patches (fighting/jealousy) and he had sex with 3 girls while we were on and off. \n\nSince then, he went to rehab for 3 months and has really cleaned up his life for me. I think being with those other girls made him appreciate me. \n\nHowever, I used his cheating as an excuse for myself to cheat. I had never been with anyone besides him, but now I have been with 3 other people besides him. I never told him about my indiscretions. I know that if I tell him, he will likely cut me out of his life forever and never trust me again. He is not emotionally mature enough to handle the truth. Even though he cheated on me first, I have an insane amount of guilt on my shoulders. I don't know if I should tell him and lose him forever, or keep this my little secret. Either way, I know the truth always comes out eventually... Should I tell him?", "summary": "My boyfriend cheated on me first, I cheated back but didn't tell him. The guilt is driving me crazy, but if I tell him I might lose him forever. "}
{"id": "t3_p0ipp", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Hello, r/travel - Planning a trip to Germany; need some advice.", "post": "I am doing a study abroad program through my University this summer.  The flights I've found so far come to about $1,000-$1,200 with taxes.\n\n* Flying from Dayton or Indy to Germany.  So far it's been cheaper to fly into London or Dublin and then take a regional airline.\n\n* Leaving 24 May and coming back 27 July (give or take a few days).\n\n* My program is in Munich (staying with a host family) and lasts from 11 June to 19 July, so I have time before and after it starts to travel around a bit.  I should also mention I have friends in/near Munich, Hamburg, Bonn, Berlin, and Copenhagen.\n\n* I have loans to cover my program and will have probably around $3-4,000 to spend - want to be as frugal as possible.\n\nSo what I was wondering is if you guys have any tips on looking for cheaper flights like when to look and when to book, what airports and airlines are cheapest.  I am also thinking of hanging around in London the last couple of days and need to find a reasonably-priced place to stay and some things to do.  Finally, if there are some other useful bits of information or places I should definitely see whilst in Europe, I'd love to hear them!", "summary": "Going to Germany for summer, looking for the cheap thrills."}
{"id": "t3_1ko95h", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Integrating a New Dog", "post": "I have a 2 year old Shiba Inu male. We recently offered to foster a 2 year old pit female. They are around the same size, although she outweighs him (even though shes a tad underweight). After a rough start (he snapped and growled at her when meeting) they seem to be playing.\n\nHowever there are some behaviors she exhibits that have me concerned. When playing he likes to be chased and she will chase. Usually she will stop when he turns on her and stand there staring. Sometimes however she will start jumping on him, trying to roll him and then force him down and when he starts snapping she will growl. At this point I will break it up.\n\nShe will also follow him everywhere and sometimes try to put her head on his back. He will snap at her when she does this.\n\nIs there something I can do to help them play better together?", "summary": "Foster pit is alpha rolling my dog and it starts to escalate. What can I do to make them play better together?"}
{"id": "t3_2lqx5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 2 \u00bd years, not sure if I should be worried about weird FB post...", "post": "Okay, so my boyfriend tells me he is ping away for a week with his family to a remote location where there is no cell service or wifi so he won't be able to talk to me until he gets back. This is totally fine with me because we only see each other every couple days as it is and we aren't constantly talking to each other anyway. However, I was  on Facebook after he had left on his trip and a friend of his who lives near me posted a picture of him at a party with her. Considering he's supposed to be in the middle of nowhere, I'm a little confused? Our relationship is pretty solid and I like to think if he just wanted to go party or something without me or if he needed space that he'd just say so but now I'm not so sure? Should I ask him about this Facebook post? Thanks for any advice in advance :)", "summary": "boyfriend says he's going to be out of town but strange FB post says otherwise. Should I ask my boyfriend about it?"}
{"id": "t3_44gcw6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by riding a bike with a broken seat that almost cut my balls off", "post": "I was 9 years old and during a time my brother used to take me with him to spend the afternoon at his friend's house. There was this guy who had a house with a big ramp that goes to the garage (which was also the main floor of the house).We would ride a bike as fast as we could all the way down the ramp until the front tire hits a wall (not very clever I know, it was hell fun tho).  \nIt turns that we only had this old bike with a broken seat - it didn't have anything covering it up, so the three tiny irons that work as the structure were exposed.\nAfter riding the ramp a couple times I noticed that something went wrong. At that moment, I only noticed a small cut on my thigh. But I started to feeling that there was *something else* . I was afraid of finding out what actually happened and I was feeling really embarrassed to ask for help (I thought my brother's friends would make fun of me or something). So I stayed behind a small wall near the gate while they were playing on the street (I didn't have a plan, I don't know what I was doing lol). Then a neighbor sees me there, hiding and crying. She immediately tells my brother about it, I don't say what is going on so he takes me home. Once mom gets home I have to tell her. When she looks at it she got desperate and 30 min later I am at the emergency room getting 9 stitches on my scrotum. \nI got a Y-shape scar.", "summary": "I was riding a bike with a broken seat all the way down a big ramp. I hit the wall and the seat cuts my sac. I got 9 stitches on it."}
{"id": "t3_1z1a47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M} had sex with my friend, [24 F], who is in a LTR with my friend.", "post": "Not too long ago I went to bed with my friend.  That would be swell but shes been in a relationship for about 7 years.  I am also friends with her bf who I consider a friend, and also I work with him.  He's a pretty good guy I must say.\n\nI know it was wrong, I know it was a bad idea.  It happened and I feel remorse...I never did anything like this and I feel like I'm a better person than that.  Ugh.  I'd hate if someone did this to me.\n\nI've known her for a couple years now, she stared working with me at my old job after she moved here.  She didn't know people here, so she started going out on the town with me and some other friends.  We would sometimes make out...I knew she was taken but didn't care much because I didn't know the guy.  \n\nI started to become friends with her bf too, and started working at his company.  I stopped messing around with her...all was well.\n\nWe all got drunk recently, bf went home because he was tired.  She wanted to stay out, so we went to another bar.  She started telling me she had been curious about what it would be like to be with me.  i told her I was too.  She kissed me and some other things.  We went back to my place.\n\nAm I a horrible person?  Just a human?  I feel I could only have fended her off for so long and this would have happened eventually.", "summary": "I had sex with a girl in a relationship with my friend....do i suck?"}
{"id": "t3_3194od", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21m) ex-obese, finding hard to get in a relationship with another guy (25m)", "post": "I (21M) was obese for the most part of my life. People never considered me good looking because they just looked at my size, and because of that I never really cared about my appearance. I decided to lose weight and after losing 130lbs and gaining some muscles I realized that people started looking at me in a different way and I turn out being a very attractive person. Last year I moved from my city to go to college and here where I am now no one knows that I once were obese. They just tell me how beautiful I am and how many girls/boys I could be with if I wanted to. I made a new group of friends and started doing some modeling jobs. My body is in shape, but I have many stretch marks and scars all over my belly and back. I met a guy (24M) 3 months ago that I am very interested and for the first time in my life I want to build a relationship with someone. We almost had sex a few times, but I could not get totally undressed in front of him.  He has no idea about what is going on in my mind and that I was obese and have body issues. He seems very happy with my appearance and likes what people say about me and my good looking. Should I talk to him about my past or should I just let things flow naturally and see how he reacts/handle my body problems? I don't know if I am emotionally ready for the negative consequences. I think I prefer to end things than be rejected.", "summary": "Lost 130lbs and finding really hard to talk about it with the guy I am seeing."}
{"id": "t3_2j6lyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am angry at my [20 F] GF, so I made a list explaining why I was angry.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months now, but as the title suggests, I made a list as to why I was angry. I'm just wondering if that is even a reasonable thing to do?\n\nIt's been sort of a rough time for us, nothing too serious, but it's not exactly smooth sailing.\n\nI try not to hang onto old arguments, because there is nothing to be gained from that. Yesterday however, I became rather angry at her.\n\nShe had told me to give her a list of what guys would hate to watch for a long time, because her friend is forced to watch Star Wars with a guy. That isn't bad, but she worded the sentence HORRIBLY. When I tried to get her to explain it, she just told me to answer her. \n\nSo I come up with suggestions left and right. Every. Single. Suggestion I come up with is met with, but she likes that, she doesn't want it to be ruined by watching it with that guy. That was infuriating. \n\nI'm not sure what else to write, but was I wrong for making a list? Because all I was met by was: Fine, I have to go.\n\nPlease ask me any questions if you need to know more, and I will answer them to the best of my abilities.", "summary": "Made my GF a list as to why I was mad at her. Didn't go too well with her."}
{"id": "t3_1r0e05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do when I [23, F] feel insecure about my bf [28, M] still keeping contact with his ex/first love?", "post": "For me, he is my first relationship and we have dated for about 2 years. For him, I'm his 3rd serious relationship (besides 2 serious and 7 other unserious ones).\n\nI have dated him for about 1 year when I found out (by asking) that he was still in touch with his exes, especially the first love. I was very shocked and wanted to know the rest of the story. Then he reluctantly told me that it was over 10 years ago and they're just friends now.\n\nBut I still feel very insecure about the first ex, because she was his first love, but she cheated him and they broke up. But he still had feeling for her so they got back for a few months. It didn't really work, he moved on to other girls, but still kept in touch frequently with her like emailing, texting, calling, crashing at her couch, dining together at his house (just 2 of them), hanging out with her and her boyfriend, etc. One thing to notice is that he barely does all of the above things to the rest of the exes, but just the first one. And it was still like that when he started dating me. \n\nI don't know if I'm overly insecure over the first relationship or something. But I feel very uneasy with this. We talked about it a few times (always with me as the one starting). Mostly it ended up with me crying and he looking in silent. His reason is that the first love is his friend and he can't get rid of a friend just because it makes me feel insecure. He also said that most of the time the first love initiates the contact, not him, and he responds since she is undeserved to be ignored. \n\nI have the feeling that he still likes the first love a lot, but can't be with her because she already chose somebody else. It makes me feel like I'm a reasonable substitute at this moment, and I certainly don't want this, although we get along pretty well. I feel very confused now and really appreciate outsiders' perspectives.", "summary": "I'm insecure that my bf keeps special contact with his first ex/love. He refuses to give up on her because she doesn't deserve that and she's his friend. While I see her as the ex my bf wants to keep/get back if possible."}
{"id": "t3_2yqvbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [17 F] asked me [18 M] to her prom, what?", "post": "I dated this girl a few months back and, shortly before I graduated from HS, she broke up with me. \n\nA little more context: I'm current taking a year between HS and college, and am currently interning in DC (well away from my hometown). \n\nSo, I was really surprised when, out of nowhere, I get a text from her asking if I might be able to come back to my hometown to be her date to prom.\n\nI said yes, because, well, it'll be a lot more fun than just hanging out in DC for the weekend. And she's pretty cute.\n\nI haven't posed a question directly to her, and I'm not close enough with her friends to go through them.\n\nAt present, I just plan to go with the flow, but I'm very confused as to 1) why she would ask me and 2) what does this mean for my relationship with her?", "summary": "Ex asked me to her prom, and I have no idea what this means. Halp."}
{"id": "t3_14t80l", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[17M] Apprentice at small company, not a lot of social leads", "post": "Hello!\n\nI am a 17 y/o who lives in the UK and work as a web designer for a small company (10-15 people). Naturally there's not really anything going for me at the office and I would really like to meet some girls my own age.\n\nI had two relationships at school, the first lasting about 18 months each and I got dumped the first time (I still think about her a lot) and the second about 2 months, however I broke it off due to me missing my ex a lot.\n\nI find it extremely hard to talk to people my own age, but find it easy to talk to adults that I've never met before, I don't really want to date an immature girl and would love to meet a geeky girl as I'm a geeky guy. \n\nI want to know how I can create a means to meet people my age, but hopefully more intelligent and mature girls, not the chavvy girls who seem to live near me.", "summary": "Geeky 17 y/o wants to know how to meet mature, intelligent girls his age, don't go to school so that avenue is non existant."}
{"id": "t3_mt7d7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a good thing to bring to a friend in the Intensive Care Unit?", "post": "Heya, about 2 weeks ago a good friend of mine was involved in a motorcycle accident that left him in critical condition with many broken bones and brain damage.  His condition has improved enough that his family has OKed (and encouraged) other visitors.  We aren't sure which part(s) of his brain have been affected (if there is any long-term damage), but here's what I do know:\n\n* He is able to breath without a ventilator, and is using a mask.\n* He is not paralyzed, but at the moment is still experiencing limited movement to his left side.\n* He is able to squeeze your hand.\n* He is able to make eye contact, although his eyes generally aren't open for more than a few hours a day.\n* He has laughed at some conversations the family has had around him, and tries to speak but is not speaking coherently... it does seem that he understands what people are saying, though.\n* He is able to sit upright.\n\nHe is moving from the ICU to the neuro department within the week, but it looks like he will be staying in the hospital for at least the next several weeks.\n\nHave any of you been in the ICU yourself, or have had a family or friend in the ICU?  How did you help them pass the time, or feel cared for, or missed?  I want to be careful not to bring anything he can't interact with at this time.", "summary": "My friend is in the ICU and I want him to feel loved - any ideas for a little something to bring to him to help pass the time? "}
{"id": "t3_12lqma", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Serious question to Obama supporters. Are you actually voting for Obama's platform, or are you voting for him because you think it's what you're supposed to do?", "post": "I will start by saying I am absolutely going to vote for Romney. Not because I like Romney, but because I've had a sample of Obama's presidential skills, and he has been measured, and found wanting. \n\nI honestly feel like my fellow redditors who are supporting Obama are far more uneducated about this election than they say Romney supporters are. \n\nIf you sit down, and look at the things that either candidate will do for you, and measure the actual way it will impact your life whether it be immediately, or in the near future, you will see that anyone could do a better job than the man who has failed at it for the last 4 years.", "summary": "Answer my question, and I'm voting for Romney because he is the much lesser of two evils."}
{"id": "t3_2zmpuw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing GTA V.", "post": "I got home today early, due to getting an MRI.  Was Kinda dopey from the medicine they gave me, but decided to smoke a bowl and play some GTA V.\n\nThe day was going pretty great.. I got hungry, ordered a pizza and left the game idle in Freemode while I went to smoke another bowl...\n\nThat's when I hear this kid making all kinds of moaning noises over chat... He then started to fully sound out a person having sex.... Very strange.  That's when the doorbell rang.  I ran downstairs, fumbled for the remote and muted it right as the kid was yelling, \"I'M COMING, I'M COMING!!!\"\n\nI opened the door to a very scared looking little old pizza delivery man... It wasn't until an hour or so later I realized that the front window was wide open.", "summary": "The Pizza Delivery guy thinks I'm a pervert."}
{"id": "t3_4tgx0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should i date a girl whose parents are against it?", "post": "So I've known this girl for 3 years now. she's the most shy/inexperienced person relationship-wise I've met. i mean, her first kiss was with me and she's 19 years old now (i'm 22 by the way). the thing is, she's Georgian and her family are those religious people who still think that nationality plays a great part in choosing your partner, so the only option for her is to meet a Georgian guy. i'm Jewish / Russian, im not even sure and to be honest i couldn't care less, but for her family nationality is a very important thing. our relationship is very weird, we met for the first time only after 8 months of chatting and kissed after 2 years(!!!). didn't have sex and for better or worse, I've never cheated and not going to - so yes, 3 years without sex. and yet, this girl doesn't leave my mind for a minute. we've broken up for like a dozen times because I've got mad that she keeps hiding me from her parents but we are always ending up together. she is the first girl to meet my parents and although i'm not a romantic/emotional guy (more likely i'm dead inside), with her i'm glowing with happiness. 2-3 months ago, i called her mother and told her that we were dating, asking her permission to look after her daughter - she told her to choose between me and her mother... so we've broken up AGAIN, and yet today I've met her and we were acting like we didn't even break up. i'm literally going crazy, every time i'm trying to forget that person and focus on studying/sports she returns to my life. i don't want to stop seeing her, but there is no point. she'll never go against her parents - which is understandable - and i'm in a position where i can't do anything, no matter how good of a person i'll become, i can't be reborn as a Georgian. dating another girl is not an option, i don't like dating other people while still being emotionally connected to previous girls. any advice will be appreciated, thanks", "summary": "Should i keep this girl in my life which wants to be together but her parents won't let her?"}
{"id": "t3_1az3yt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20/m ends friendship with 19/f", "post": "Me and my closest girl friend, maybe my closest friend have been complicated for the past few months. We had one night of drunken sex on Halloween and that was the last time we had hooked up. Over winter break we decided to just be friends, but that was really her preference. Mine was to be more than friends. So 8 weeks have passed since that resolution and the conversation came up again. I put everything out on the table for her, that I had strong feelings for her, and by getting angry at her it had just made me resent her more. Having all that love and hate for one person isn't healthy. I said I couldn't just be friends with her and our relationship was too fucked up to be just friends. She said she could only offer friendship right now so I cut ties with her. Said I needed space. Now that leaves me friendless, and just as depressed as before. Do I wait for her to try and contact me? If its too soon do I ignore it? I need to get over her, but I don't want to. I still picture us being together. Please tell me what my next few months should look like from now until the end of summer.", "summary": "cut ties with crush/best friend. dont know what to do now"}
{"id": "t3_3as1xe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by arguing with the wrong person", "post": "So this has been going on for awhile, but I fucked up badly today.\n\nMy ex and I have been separated for 3 months, and we still try to be friends. We've been arguing a lot, because I've been really unhappy, and he hasn't really been civil. But when we're friends and hanging out, it's worth it, because we're so similar and like the same things. \n\nAnyway, last night I had a panic attack, and during it I said some things to him I didn't mean. Today when I tried to apologize, it turned into an even bigger fight and he got vicious. He's fed up because this is after a couple of months of me getting upset with him, but I always try to work it out. \n\nI happen to be one of those people who always says the wrong thing, and he's someone who never admits that they're wrong, because he truly doesn't think he is. As I was trying to fix my fuck-up, he blurts out that he doesn't think we can be friends anymore. Which was something I really wasn't expecting. So not only is the love gone, I've lost one of my best friends as well. I didn't think this was how my day was going to end, and now he won't talk to me.", "summary": "Said the wrong things, pissed off my ex, he says he's done."}
{"id": "t3_2g9m5p", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Researching breeds and settled upon three, what should I go with, based on trainability/temperament?", "post": "My SO and I have been talking dogs for a while now, and want to get one together at some point. \nI wanted to be extremely well-informed before settling upon one specific breed, however. \n\nAnyone with experience with any of these three breeds, your input would be super appreciated. \n\nWe were thinking between a Scottish Deerhound, a Portuguese Podengo, and a Border Terrier. \n\nThe size difference was all he could see, but I know there has to be more to the breed differences than just that. \n\nThe idea was to get a dog that physically embodies a dirty old man, with the temperament of a greyhound and the trainability of a German Shepherd. Is this even possible? \nPlease discuss.", "summary": "Scottish Deerhound, Portuguese Podengo, or Border Terrier? Discuss."}
{"id": "t3_15tmw9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [23] threatened to leave me [21] a few months ago. After 3 years of marriage and a daughter.", "post": "She said \"I can't take this bickering anymore\" and told me to find somewhere to be. \n\nWe talked and she said I'm too clingy and jealous of our roommate [22] who is lesbian and only wants my wife and doesnt hide that fact. She spends all her free time with said roommate ( or so I feel) and screams at me at the smallest thing. The roommate is her best (and ONLY) friend she has who lives in our area code and they do nothing but air at the house and RP(roleplay) characters they created on IM \n\n She said she wants to try again with us and apparently didn't think breaking it off meant divorce or that I would want nothing to do with her besides our daughter. \n\nShe doesn't work and and my paranoia has me thinking the only reason she took it all back is because of the fact I am the primary income, our roommate refuses to pay more the 150 which isn't even 1/4 of our bills\n\nThe sex is gone, we rarely do anything together. It all started going down hill after the birth of our daughter, I don't blame her for the sex issue because I honestly beleive it is the birth control \"implanon\"\n\nI am a good father\n and only wants what's best for my daughter...I fear the best would be our divorce.\n\n..as we speak she is in another state for the week with roommate visiting roommates family...any advice?", "summary": "I feel my wife doesn't want to be with me and is only with me for the support I provide and can't face the pain of divorce"}
{"id": "t3_2phesd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my fiance [27/M] of 5 years, how do I start over?", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for 5 years, engaged for 2, and living together for 2.5 years. We've had a lot of problems and are currently trying to work things out. We're both in individual therapy and couples therapy. \n\nWe've talked about giving ourselves one more year to figure things out (this was over this past summer). In the last 6 months I've come to realize that we aren't really compatible as partners and are looking for different things in life. We've talked about this and what it would mean to go our separate ways. \n\nWhat I'm wondering is how do you even start over after 5 years? This is my first serious relationship and the first time I've lived with someone other than my parents. I guess I'm just looking for similar stories and advice on restarting. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Fiance and I are trying to fix our relationship but it's becoming more evident that we're not compatible, have already talked about an amicable breakup if things don't get better, and wondering how to start over."}
{"id": "t3_50t6pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22) just realized my mother (51) and sister (20) are emotionally abusive people.", "post": "I always knew my mother and sister were not the nicest people but it just clicked to me that they are emotionally abusive people. I started doing research online and they've checked a lot of boxes of  emotional abusive behaviour. They also like to gang up on me when I disagree with them. My mother always judges my weight and puts me down for it. It took me a long time to love my body and now that she sees I'm starting to really appreciate my body, she's making more judgements on how I shouldn't. Both my sister and mother yesterday via group text started attacking me about my eating ways and how I need to watch what I eat. My sister said, \"You know like I respect that you appreciate your body but you need to fucking stop eating so much.\" And then my mom comes in and is like, \"You sister is justified. You need to watch what you're eating.\" And like my sis is full on swearing at me via text. She then plays the \"I'm not gunna talk to you anymore\" card because she's pissed that I don't agree with her. I was just looking through the entire message like, \"who are these people?\" Like they've known that I've struggled with insecurities about my body and they're STILL attacking me and judging me for what I eat and how I look. It just hit me yesterday how insecure and mean they both are.", "summary": "Mom and sis gang up on me about how I need to look and eat"}
{"id": "t3_wud43", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing on myself at work.", "post": "So I had a pretty hard day at work.  I babysit insane old folk, and the one today was a nightmare.  I had been holding in my pee for several hours before having an opportunity to use the restroom.  At this point, I'm tired and have a headache and just want to go eat something, so I'm running my piss break on autopilot.  My stomach is cramping from holding it in so long.  After pissing a minute, I think I'm finished, so I stand up to wipe, and then a surprise extra squirt of pee comes out.  It catches on my thigh and dribbles down my leg, soaking the upper part of my pants.\n\nI had no spare pants, and had to walk around for four more hours after that, smelling like piss.  I wiped some liquid soap on it, hoping to mask the scent, and pulled my shirt down as far as possible.  Luckily, if anyone smelled anything, they'd just think it was the lady I was sitting and not me.", "summary": "was too hasty taking a piss, and got it all over my pants.  Had to walk around in piss pants for hours."}
{"id": "t3_2be5c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] broke up with my girlfriend [18 M] and I feel extremely guilty because she can't let go", "post": "This is my first relationship, so all the things about breakups that I know of are entirely from asking around or reading up on it. I have no first hand experience.\n\nI broke up with my girlfriend stating very plainly that although I still loved her very much, I couldn't see a future for us and I didn't want to prolong our relationship because every passing day will only make the inevitable separation that much worse.\n\nShe's a romantic, and told me during the breakup that while she wasn't going to stop me, she believed that there is only one special person for every person out there, and I was that for her. I know this is probably her youth talking, but knowing her, she takes the stuff she says way more seriously than the average girl. \n\nI'm afraid she'll take it very hard and her process of recovery will be much longer than it should be. Hell, I'm afraid she might never actually let this go. I don't know.\n\nI feel extremely guilty because she's begged me to come back since, and I told her a straight out no, because I didn't think the relationship would last long after this. It's only been a few days, and I'd say I've made significant progress recovering (it's been very tough though), but she hasn't turned up to school or spoken to many people. She only confided in a couple of friends and bawled her eyes out at them.\n\nMy friends told me that most breakups are one-sided anyway and it was inevitable that I'd be the asshole in the situation. But that's not really what I care about. How do I handle this? She still very much expects that somehow sometime I'll be running back to her. I've made my decision and I'm adamant that I won't, so how do I help her find \"closure\" without destroying her completely?", "summary": "My ex-girlfriend won't let go of me even though I explicitly stated my intention was to move on, and I feel responsible for everything."}
{"id": "t3_2v8btw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I (17/f) date a college guy (18/m)?", "post": "So a couple of weeks ago, I was with a couple of my friends and we met up with this guy, I'll call him Jake. Jake and I went to the same high school, but we never talked then. I currently am a junior in high school and he's a freshman in college. (but right now he's in community college) When we met with Jake, he began to like me, and I was considering him. We began texting and have a lot in common. He confessed to my friend that he liked me and wanted us to all hangout. \nThen last night, we hung out with my friend, me, Jake, and his college friend in a dorm. Of course there was awkward pauses, as well as my friend making it weird by pushing us together and such. But after hanging out with him, I know I like him too. The only problem is that I'm not sure how the relationship would go. Jake is in college, and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. I am open to it, but I am definitely not ready for sex or anything like that. He seems harmless, but it's still a concern. Is it a bad idea?", "summary": "We like each other, and have a lot it common... but is it a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_437w3w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my Girlfriend [28 F] being distant. I am using no contact..how long to wait?", "post": "Recently the good morning and good night texts started to disappear but when she does its \"Goodnight babe (kiss face)\". Girlfriend being distant and not texting back on a couple occasions. \n\nNot sure what's going on, maybe I'm coming off to needy lately. \n\nLast time I texted she told me she was super busy with work. I told her to text me when she is free and wants to hang out. \n\nHavent heard from her all week. Nothing at all. \n\nLast we texted, she was still using the word \"Babe\" in texts. \n\nIts Friday tomorrow, should I keep the no contact rule, if so how long, or should I text her and say something like:\n\n\"What happened to my beautiful amazing girlfriend who use to texted me all the time? Everything alright over there baby?\" \n\nOr \n\n\"Hey your week get better?\"\n\nIf she wants to break up, well fine, whatever, I like her but I don't like being in limbo, but how should I approach this?", "summary": "Girlfriend being distant, how long with no contact, when should I contact if she doesn't contact back and how should I approach it."}
{"id": "t3_3xs4sb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] asked my [21F]crush to take it to the next level.", "post": "Today has been one hell of a roller coaster for me. I just graduated college a week ago and was interviewed 4 times for my dream job, and got the job. I was feeling on top of the world. For the past two years, me and this girl have been talking constantly- late nights, sometimes all night, and throughout the day. We're both into the same stuff, have the same ideas of what we're looking for in the future, and so on. \nSo, now that I have my job and a set salary, I didn't want to play any games and told her that I really liked her and wanted to make it official.\nAfter letting the message sit for 5 hours (waiting for a reply sucks), she finally responds saying i always have been a bold guy but she just wants to stay friends if thats okay.\nOne side of me agrees that at 20 I should stay single and just focus on my work\nThe other side feels like it just took a bullet. I wasn't really expecting that answer at all", "summary": "Got friendzoned by someone I was sure couldnt wait to marry me."}
{"id": "t3_2zzn76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Without my [20M] knowledge, my girlfriend [20F] opened up to my sister [32F] that she had an abortion, knowing that my sister has miscarried.", "post": "My girlfriend of one year (who has only met my sister once) had recently started messaging her about some personal topics. She eventually told her that she had an abortion. \nMy sister had a miscarriage late into one of her pregnancies that hit our family hard. I was only young at the time and I know I've never been able to recover from it. However my sister has understandably always had a problem with abortion since.\n\nIt's hard to talk about so I haven't told my girlfriend directly about it, but she did know that I lost my nephew.\n\nYet of all of the things to say to my sister. I only learnt from my mother today after she managed to find out why my sister wasn't fond of my girlfriend anymore. \nApparently after that message my sister told her to no longer talk to her.\n\nI'm conflicted between my girlfriend who I do love, and my sister who I've always been close with.", "summary": "My gf told my sis that she had an abortion knowing that my sis had a miscarriage and is very anti abortion."}
{"id": "t3_2q69hg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23f] am thinking about my relationship with my boyfriend [26m] after he said some hurtful words. What should I do?", "post": "I'm on my mobile, It's hard to write a lot without having to autocorrect everything. So long story short. My boyfriend and I had an argument and we takes briefly in between. However, I asked him why did just called me and did not meet me in person to talk. I went beck home to moms house and I expected him to show up to moms house, flowers or not, to apologize. He said he has too much work to do and his.job needs him more and that I should have come to him! Even though we are both working. I then asked if I went missing for a week, would he come after me or call me? He said no because it was my choice? Even after a month, he said he would not come after me!! This is what broke me down. Basically, if I just up and left, he would do nothing!! This sounds so wrong and I'm hurt. Does this make sense?", "summary": "Boyfriend, 26m,  said hurtful words to me, 24f, and now I'm not sure what to do? We have been dating for 2 years and living together for a year"}
{"id": "t3_531h6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20] have never dated or kissed someone and feel like an outcast", "post": "I don't know if this is normal. It doesn't seem normal. I have never dated or kissed someone and I feel like an outcast. Most my girl friends have done a lot of things and here I am, done absolutely nothing.\n\nI should probably approach guys much more, but I'm scared and insecure. I know that I'm plain average or ugly, so not many guys are interested. I never get approached by guys while many of my friends are approached whenever we are out. I remember being younger and out with my friends they all got to talk with guys while I was sitting there for myself and no guy would ever talk to me.\n\nI know that I have to suck up and realize the genetics didn't work in my favor. I'm an average looking girl. It's so hard to accept though.", "summary": "I have never dated or kissed someone and feel like an outcast. Never approached by anyone, doesn't approach anyone because I'm average in appearance."}
{"id": "t3_2es5j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2 months, and parents are disapproving due to religion and distance and asked to end it.", "post": "So I recently broke up with my girlfriend of two months. We are currently in a semi-long distance relationship (1 hour away) because she goes to school in LA (her hometown is 6 hours away from me). I drive to visit once a week and my mom was starting to get a little angry because she says it's a waste of gas and I should only visit her once every 2 weeks.\n\nIn addition, my parents had two conditions for me to stay with her (1. She converts to Catholicism and 2. She agrees to move to southern California if we get married). Now my mother told me that I had to ask this right away before things get hard on me later. \n\nI personally don't care if she converts or not because I respect her own beliefs and I know that she respects mine. However, I really love my family and it made my mom sad at the thought of me possibly moving far away from her in the future and that she is of a different religion. I know that she is scared that I will get hurt because a long distance relationship is pretty risky but I really love this girl. My gf is really easy to talk to and really makes me happy. I have never met someone that clicks with me like her and I know that she feels the same way. The thought of us ending without closure makes me sad and I do not want to give up. \n\nMy gf said that she does not want to convert and that she does not want to be tied down on where to live in the future. She believes in just seeing where life takes her. \n\nI know my mom will get over the religion thing but I do not know how she will handle me possibly leaving my hometown in the future. I really do not want to end this relationship but at the same time I am scared because my parents will be disappointed in me if it messes up and I get hurt. \n\nI guess I am asking for some advice... Should I keep trying this relationship out and see what happens? Or should I just give up and move on.", "summary": "Parents made me break up with girlfriend due to long distance and having a different religion from me. Want advice on whether I should just try it out anyways."}
{"id": "t3_4uqn9s", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My friend has recently started frequently sending me pictures of herself", "post": "Edit: I forgot to add ages and genders, sorry. I'm 19 (M) and my friend is 18 (F).  \n\nI've known this girl (let's call her Lauren) for about four years and we've always been cool with each other, but we've become really close within the past year or so. Our relationship is strictly platonic, and we talk almost everyday, for multiple hours. Something to note about Lauren is that while she posts pictures of herself on Instagram or Facebook ocassionally, they are far from frequent. She's very similar to me in that, while she isn't exactly unconfident, she's not the kind of person to boast about herself or her looks. Within the past week or two, she has started to send me pictures of herself through messenger, one or two a day (totally clean, fully clothed). Some are her out in public, wearing something she just bought, or just chilling at home. None of these pictures are on her social media accounts, and as far as I know, they're being taken and sent solely for and to me. She's also been saying things like \"I feel really pretty today\" or \"just chillin in my sweatshirt\" as captions after sending the pictures.\nI'm just wondering if other girls send pictures to their guy friends this frequently, as I haven't experienced it to this amount before. Is this just a way for her to show me that She's comfortable around me or is it a sign of wanting something more than a friendship?", "summary": "Close friend of mine has recently just started sending me pictures of herself (clean, fully clothed) very frquently with captions like \"I feel really pretty today\" and I'm wondering the reason as to why she's started doing this, and if it is normal."}
{"id": "t3_30p96u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting about my gf", "post": "This did not happen today but this week. \n\nA little bit of my background as this is related, I just quit my job 2 weeks ago and I'm planning to join a bigger company. So now I am kinda in a holiday mood, waiting for my interview and next employment.\n\nSo most of my current time, I am staying at home doing nothing other than eat, surf web, sleep. I have lost the concept of time as Monday or Thursday or Friday is irrelevant to me now. I use the computer until late night and wake up very late everyday.\n\nNow this is where the FU happens, my gf texted me last Thurday morning, I woke up slightly dizzy and confuse, read her text and went back to sleep until noon. When I wake up I forgot about her text and went on my daily routine of eating and internet. I remember I was watching Top Gear because the news Jeremy Clarkson sacked was just revealed. So I watched Top Gear the entire day until midnight and went to bed.\n\nWhen I wake up the next day(Friday) afternoon, I check my Wechat, it's automatically logged out and I did not receive any notification, and there are tons of messages from my gf including the one I saw when I dizzy, some are like 'Are you okay?' 'Can you reply me to make sure that you are safe?' etc etc", "summary": "I forgot about my gf because I lost count of the time."}
{"id": "t3_3jy57r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Making a Girl Trip as She Tried To Return a Bag of Chips", "post": "This story took place two years ago, a couple of months after the bike incident I had with another girl. This girl was just a friend. Being the immature teenage boy I was, I teased this girl. I remember meeting her and talking to her for a little while at an Interact service (A community service club in my high school). After a week or two with us going about our lives, I was walking down the hallway and she just saw me holding my bag of chips and was like \"You owe me chips,\" as a friendly gesture.\n\nAgain, me being the immature guy I was, I played along with it. Whenever I saw her in the hallway, I would be like \"You owe me chips!\" and she would say \"No, you owe me chips wtf.\" One day after school, I started doing this in front of her friends and embarrassed her. She thought I was just being funny and enjoyed it. One day, I bought myself a couple bags of chips and I tried giving one to her, but she rejected. Although I was pretty persistant about giving it to her, she still said no. Now that I think about it, even though she said no playfully, I now know that she was getting pretty damn annoyed.\n\nThe next day during lunch time, I walked by her table and threw the bag onto her lap. I kid you not, this girl got up and started booking it to me with the intention of trying to give it back to me, so I went along with it and started a chase. After maybe like 50 feet, I hear a slam on the ground. I look back and I saw that she ate shit, in front of 70+ other people. Her three-week old phone cracked, elbow scrapped, knee bleeding. Yeah, it was a pretty bad fall.\n\nI walked her to the nurse's office, embarrassed as hell and expecting her to yell the shit out of me, but she didn't, thankfully. I helped her clean up her wounds, bandaged them, and apologized. Since then, she hasn't said a word to me and just ignored me when she saw me. I had no game in high school as you can tell by my previous posts.", "summary": "Girl tripped and ate shit as I tried running away from her as she tried to return me a bag of chips. High school was a time of immaturity and innocence."}
{"id": "t3_1oq02b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What kind of business could a buddy of mine and myself start with our experiences?", "post": "I know you guys don't know our full capabilities, but with our degrees, what kind of business would you guys think would be a \"duh\"?\n\nHis degree is in Graphic Design, mine is in Construction Management.  My degree had a large chunk of small business management developed into the degree.  We both have worked our fields for a good year and a half, and are pondering if there is anything that we could start that we just are not thinking of.  We have contemplated starting some sort restaurant/bar.  Both of our wives like to cook/bake so it would almost be a family type system.  We have thought I would be in charge of maintenance/construction of the place, and he would be in charge of advertising/design elements.\n\nThis has all been discussed over beers (so we haven't discussed to much in sincerity).\n\nMainly a perfect scenario type of question, but it will help our brainstorming.", "summary": "Want to start a business with Construction Management & Graphic Design degrees."}
{"id": "t3_37vec9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Playing Scrabble with My Mom", "post": "I should preface this by explaining that my mom is a genuinely sweet and na\u00efve woman. We play Scrabble a lot, so something like this was bound to happen sooner or later.\n\nA few years ago, during one of our regular Scrabble games, I realized I could use all of my letters, which gives you an additional 50 points, but it spelled out something crude. I honestly didn't even think it was a legitimate word, but I asked for the dictionary anyway. When I saw that it was, I started giggling. In between laughing, I warned them that I was about to use a naughty word, but that it was in the dictionary, so it counts. I laid out the letters: F-I-S-T-I-N-G\n\nMy mom peers over the board and sounds it out. By this point, I am laughing so hard that I can barely breathe. Then she asked what that was. In between laughing and gasping, I explained (in as few words as possible). Her response? \"WHY WOULD ANYBODY WANT TO DO THAT???\" I literally fell off my chair and squirted a little pee.", "summary": "Traumatized mom by explaining that some people like to hug fists with their assholes/vaginas."}
{"id": "t3_2qc74r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) just found out my fiance (24m) hates our child's name.... but he wasn't around when I chose it. Blames me.", "post": "Okay.... so my fiance and I met in july of 2013. We dated for about eight months, then I became pregnant with our child. \n\nA few months later, we went through a breakup. He says I broke up with him, and I say he broke up with me. He didn't attempt to contact me at all during those five months. But the end result was neither of us really wanted to break up... and we got back together a couple weeks before I gave birth.\n\nDuring those five months as a single pregnant lady however I mulled over many names for the child I was expecting, and settled on one that just seemed to click for me.\n\nMy fiance has never went out of his way to tell me he hates the name I chose, but once when I was asking about names for future children, it came out he hates both her first and middle name. He joked with me, saying he should be allowed to choose a name I hate because I chose a name he hates.\n\nHer middle name is the name of a family member who passed away, while the first name is just a name of one of my favorite actresses.\n\nI've considered changing her first name in light of this.... but it would be so weird at this point... everyone knows my child by this name and it would be difficult to call her anything else. But I feel like he resents me for it. \n\nDoes anyone have any experience with this sort of thing?", "summary": "fiance and I went through a breakup when I was four months pregnant. He hates the name I chose."}
{"id": "t3_t60nv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend says it's a red flag if I have any friends who I *might have dated had I never met her*", "post": "M27, F25. The title basically sums it up. We've been dating 5 months. I care about my girlfriend (\"Jane\") a lot, but I'm exhausted by how jealous she can be sometimes. \n\nI would say that 70% of my friends are girls, but my two closest friends are guys. The other day, Jane and I were together and a friend of mine walked by. I said hi to her like I do with all my friends, but later Jane said that my face \"lit up\" when I saw her and that I was obviously attracted to her. I denied being attracted to the friend (I am not) and tried to change the subject because this conversation has never ended well. \n\nShe started a line of questioning.\n\nJane: In a hypothetical universe where you had never met me, would you have dated \"friend?\"\n\nMe: No.\n\nJane: But you obviously think she's pretty.\n\nMe: Why does this matter? There are lots of pretty people in the world.\n\nJane: So you do think she's pretty.\n\nMe: Do you think she's pretty?\n\nJane: Yes.\n\nMe: Fine, she's pretty.\n\nJane: So you're attracted to her.\n\nMe: No, please don't put words in my mouth.\n\nJane: Obviously you'd date her, and that's not okay with me.\n\netc...\n\nI've never cheated on her nor would I. At the moment I don't see how these hypothetical scenarios could ever be good for a relationship. At the same time, I want to be sensitive to Jane's feelings. \n\nI have told her how I feel about this.", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't comfortable with me being friends with attractive people. I am friendly but trustworthy and the questioning and suspicion is wearing on my patience."}
{"id": "t3_3h69n1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By wiping my ass clean (NSFW)", "post": "Like other posts, this happened a few weeks ago.\n\nI was in the restroom, doing my business like any other human being not named Kim Jung Un. I was just about ready to get off my throne but I couldn't pinch this one off and figured I can just wipe it away. This turned out to be harder than it should be. I got up, wiped myself but I didn't feel \"clean\". Did it again, sure enough, I wasn't and did it two more times, but like a jealous ex It just wouldn't go away. So I decided to use a wet wipe to make damn sure I wasn't sitting on my own shit.\n\nI looked around and saw a box of wet wipes, opened it up and it was nothing but a brick of dried we wipes sticking together, but god damn it, I was determined to have a clean ass.\n\nSo I looked around to see what I could use. I thought about water but I figured that might let bacteria grow between my butt cheeks. As if poop wasn't enough, the last thing I need is a civilization growing out my rectum.\n\nI had two more choices, store brand window cleaner or rubbing alcohol. Of course I'm not going to use window cleaner, that has ammonia in it, so I grabbed the rubbing alcohol and poured it on the stack of wet wipes.\n\nAnd that, ladies and gentlemen, is where I fucked up.\n\nTop layer was pretty soaked so I tried to get one of the less soaked wipes. Strategically placed it in my hand and wiped my self clean. I felt clean for one whole second....because after 1 second, my ass was burning like it got angry at me. My ass was burning so much, taco bell would be ashamed of themselves. I quickly grabbed some toilet paper and tried to dry myself off while thinking, \"why in the fuck would I do this to myself?\".\n\nIt kept burning for a few seconds longer but I was clean as a whistle.", "summary": "cleaned my butt with a wet wipe with rubbing alcohol."}
{"id": "t3_u30wt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HEY REDDIT! Now that I have your attention, what is your biggest \"slacker win\"?", "post": "I was a trainer for a large satellite tv provider for 4 years. During training I was to give my trainees 2 ten minute breaks and a 30 minute lunch. There were very rigid policies about making sure to stay on topic and what constitutes a \"work safe\" conversation...\n\nThat being said, through out the day I would give my classes an average if 6 ten to twenty minute breaks, and a 1 hour lunch. I would also carry on off topic philosophical like conversations as it pertained to current events. Despite all this slacking I was the top performing trainer with the highest ranked trainees.", "summary": "despite slacking, the people I trained performed the best in their jobs"}
{"id": "t3_ms2mf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! Should I buy this house with this problem?", "post": "So I'm considering buying this house that has a coal/wood fireplace as seen in the picture here: \n \nFrom what I can tell, the stove that is located on the first floor has begun to sink into the floor at some point.    As you can tell in the included image; the back of the brick has cracked.  I have seen pictures as recent as 2005 that did not have the crack, but I can not tell if it was sinking then or not.  \n\nSome other factors that play in.  There is a basement however it is not directly below the issue.  There is a craw space that I can not currently open because of a radon detector that has been winterized.  I believe that it is possible that the craw space could be directly below the problem.\n\nDoes anyone have any experience with this?  As a first time home buyer I do not want to get into a money pit!", "summary": "Want to buy new home, part of floor under stove is caving in."}
{"id": "t3_1f1hoa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] 4 year relationship with poor physical attraction to partner (21/f). Attracted to others.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are both 22 and have been together 4 years. We go to different colleges and it has taken its toll on our relationship. We're in the process of applying to medical school and the idea that we might be very far apart come summer 2014 is scary. There is still love in our relationship and we deeply enjoy each other's company, but the sexual aspect/physical attraction is much weaker than in the past. The lack of sexual attraction (for me) is due to significant weight gain on her part. Long story short: We were both VERY fit. She gained weight (from birth control and less exercise) and I have stayed relatively fit. Despite gently discussing the lack of attraction, she has kept the weight. At this point, the relationship feels very much like a friendship with mostly unsatisfying sexual encounters (for ~3 years). We care for each other, but the passion seems absent and we are worried about the future.\n \n*Enter attractive friend*. Since the sexual aspect has been poor for awhile, I have become increasingly drawn to other women. I have never and will never cheat, but the physical attraction to my friend has become much greater than with my girlfriend. I can resist her (she is also attracted to me), but I just feel physically unsatisfied. \n\nI feel like a douchebag for being interested in another girl, but I have also been clear with my friend that I will never cheat. That is understood and she has not tried to make any further moves on me. We are considering \"taking a break\" for a month to see how unbearable it would be to be apart. I feel confused about my attraction to my friend and lack thereof (but love) for partner.\n\n**Another detail:** I basically had a girlfriend for 3 years, was single for two months, and went into this relationship (again, 4 years).", "summary": "4 year rela with poor physical attraction and future problems. Attracted to other girl. What might help? Month apart? See other people? What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3x39k2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Time Warner Cable issue.", "post": "Morning everyone! So I've had so many issues with TWC in the past and even currently, but because of my location there isn't really an alternative and if me and my fiancee want internet connection we have to go through them. That being said, we've put up with their bulls*** long enough. Here is the background info to the situation.\n\nA couple days ago I went to pay the bill online. I tried logging in and it told me my account was no longer active, so I contacted them via web based instant messaging. The representative I spoke to was very helpful, or so I thought. The issue was \"resolved\" with the reasoning that because we moved apartments my online account was deactivated because I started a new account when I moved. (Please explain this logic to me)\n\nAfter 10 minutes of chat with the rep I had my answer and was happy. He had told me that due to being unable to log in and not being told about the account status that I would not be charged a late fee or risk disconnection, but I would have to wait 12 hours for my account to update before I could log on to make a payment. \n\nFast forward 72 hours. Its now 3 days later, my account was still inactive. Not a single email or call from TWC. I start chat up again. Taken through the ropes, finally connect to a representative by the name of Samual. He is more than helpful to  get my account activated. Literally takes 3 minutes to do everything to get access back. He tells me that all the conversations are recorded and kept under account history. \n\nApparently, they previous guy did nothing and just left me hanging. So now my bill that was supposed to be $55.64 is now 147.68. The logic behind this is that I had missed my last payment (even though its on record my account was locked out and has been for weeks prior to trying to log in); and apparently because the account was set to inactive, auto pay was disabled without my knowledge hence the bill from last month not coming through as well.\n\nHeres the link talking to Samual. [Conversation](", "summary": "Time Warner Cable screwed me over (Intentionally or not) by disabling my account, thus disabling auto pay. Being unable to access said account to pay/check bill. Was told it would be fixed, yet spent days trying to get access. Find out all this information, being charged double what I am supposed to because of an error on their part. And now I am forced to wait another 48 hours before I can pay this late bill because the changes wont show up until then."}
{"id": "t3_4gzw65", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Closed accounts still \"Adverse\" on my credit report, were never paid late and have been \"paid as agreed.\"", "post": "I pulled my TransUnion credit report today and was shocked to see that there were so many accounts listed as \"Adverse.\" In October of 2012, I hit financial hardship and elected to enroll in a debt payment plan with Money Management International in which they negotiated decreased interest rates with my creditors. I sent a monthly payment to MMI and they distributed payments (on time) to all of my creditors. I kept this up, on time, no late payments, no problems until I finally paid the last accounts off in May of 2015. As part of the agreement, accounts were closed and my credit took a big hit (originally, when the debt plan was set up not when the accounts were paid in full).\n\nWhen all accounts had been paid, I requested \"zero balance\" letters from Money Management to confirm that all debts had been paid in full. I think I was supposed to use these somehow to get the accounts' status changed from \"Adverse.\" I don't think I sent these, but I do remember calling the different companies and some of them assured me that the status would change after the next cycle.\n\nHowever, here I am now in April of 2016 and all of these accounts are still listed as \"Adverse\" despite having been \"Current; Paid or Paying as Agreed.\" There were never any late payments in the history of the accounts and they are all revolving credit lines. Is there something I'm supposed to have done in order to have the \"Adverse\" account status changed? I have other revolving accounts which have been closed as part of this debt management agreement but are NOT listed as Adverse (a Chase credit card account, for example). Is there something I can do to change the others so I don't have so many Adverse accounts listed?", "summary": "Accounts \"Adverse\" on credit, paid in full and closed. How can I get their status changed?"}
{"id": "t3_24uj32", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I paid for a holiday and it clashes with my exams", "post": "Hi friends,\n\nI'm a 25 year old student in Melbourne, Australia studying computer science. I've not had the opportunity to do much travel in my life so far but I decided to book a holiday with some friends to America for EDC in Las Vegas and then continue travelling around the US for until mid July. \n\nGoing off the previous years examination schedule I thought I'd be pretty safe with the date that I chose to book my departing flights. I was wrong. 3 of my 4 exams are after the depart date. My flights and accommodation are all paid for (about $7000 so far). \n\nMy school has some conditions for allowing examination re-sits such as unexpected circumstances outside your control, and which you know well in advance, such as unavoidable family, work, cultural, religious or elite sporting commitments. If I wish to apply to resit my exams when I get back then I need to provide formal documentation to evidence why you are applying for special consideration, for example a reason for your trip (with supporting documentation) and a complete travel itinerary. \n\nI don't think my application will be approved if I tell them I'm flying to the US to party. What kind of excuse could I use that wouldn't be able to be backtracked?\n\n<3", "summary": "I booked & paid for flights and accom for a holiday"}
{"id": "t3_2y97pe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I(28F) get over my husband's(39M) lack of ambition (for lack of a better word)?", "post": "First off let me just get it out of the way, I know it's a large age difference but it has never been an issue. \n\n We've been together for 7 years, married for 5 but have known each other for about 10. We both work and I am going back to school. \n\nWhen we first met/got together he was a manager at a movie theatre and going back to school. Since then he's graduated and is no longer at the theatre. The problem is, he isn't doing anything with his diploma, and is now working at a pizza place. He previously attempted to re-enlist in the military and join the police force but was unable to do either due to medical issues he sustained during his first enlistment. \n\nThis has never bothered me until recently, he was working so I didn't really care. But I've realized it annoys me that he seems to have zero ambition (I don't know if that's the right word), or drive to do more. \n\nThis is truly the only issue in our relationship and I have no idea how to bring this up without it coming off like I'm calling him a bum. I've brought it up once before and he seemed embarrassed and said he's looking for something better, I think the fact that his medical issues are holding him back bothers him more than he will admit. We have talked to his doctor about possible depression but we're told he was fine and doesn't have it, then again it's the VA, so who knows.", "summary": "husband's lack of ambition is really bumming me out. Need advice on coping."}
{"id": "t3_2omk4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22F here. Boyfriend 36M is the sweetest most caring guy ever but is somewhat insecure. Is this normal?", "post": "The problem is: \n\nHe has trust issues. He says he trusts me, but that he doesn't trust the guys around me. And although he trusts I won't cheat on him, his qualm is that I like any type of attention I can get from guys. I'm around more people more than he is because I'm still in college and yes, I do get attention from college aged guys at work, school, social media etc. \n\nHe's particularly jealous of a co worker in his 20s who happens to be really fit and my math buddy whom I study with sometimes. Last week, when I studied with my math buddy he kept asking me several questions about our hang out and I became annoyed to the point at which I told him that if he didn't trust me he was going to ruin the relationship. \n\nI also told him I had looked up articles and was starting to wonder if this was a red flag trait of a toxic relationship. He then told me he wanted to trust me and he wanted to work on his trust issues and to be supportive of him. I did reassure him and say I wouldn't trade him for any of these guys because he is special to me. He does however, admit he has these trust issues and is willing to work on it.", "summary": "Boyfriend has trust issues. At what point do trust issues cease to become normal and is a RED FLAG sign of a controlling relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2sr1nq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving an orgasm to my gf", "post": "This FU didn't happen today but it's not like the title says otherwise. Anyway it was last summer.\nMy girlfriend had recently moved in with me, like, a month before this story happened. It was a nice Sunday, so no work. Plus, it was my birthday. If you do the math, (sunday+birthday+just-moved-in girlfriend) you can see why I was expecting some sex.\nSo when I heard \"Happy Birthday\" and I saw my girlfriend with a really naughty lingerie, I was pretty happy. Anyway, we get going. It was the best sex we had ever had. I saw she was about to have an orgasm, so I started going faster. When she reached the climax, one of her leg started shaking. I'm not gonna lie, it was really hot and I felt like the god of sex. I was basking in my abilities, when all of a sudden \n\n**\"MEEEEEOOOOOOOW\"**\n\nIt was incredibly loud and it scared the crap out of us. Apparently my gf had kicked over a lamp with her leg, and that cockblocker of our cat decided *that* was the perfect time to crawl out the bedstand he was hiding under. The falling lamp knocked him out. He wasn't moving at all, so we got up and started dressing. While my gf called the vet (who thankfully is a close friend and lives quite near), I checked the cat: i could feel his pulse, so I put him in his transport cage and then we rushed to the car.\nHalfway there, and, thank God, the little bastard woke up with the cutest meow.\nWe arrived at our friend who checked him and reassured us everything was okay. My girlfriend spent the rest of the day hugging the cat and crying. Since then, before having sex I have to search for the cat and lock him out of the room, which can kinda kill the mood", "summary": "gave orgasm to gf, almost killed a cat, got blueballed on my birthday, now I have to find a pussy if I want to have sex"}
{"id": "t3_2mqlnd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In a long distance relationship [Both 17] and recently my parents took away my phone and things are getting hard.", "post": "So a little background, we have been dating for 2 years but she moved about an 2 hours away and I'm able to go see her every two weeks or so, but recently I've had my phone taken away because of my grades and I'm not able to talk to her all day. I'm worried that this is causing distance between us and am not sure what to do. Anyone out there with a similar experience, even if you were a bit older that dosent matter because we treat our relationship as if we were more like 19 or 20.", "summary": "cant talk to my gf and am worried that its a detriment to our long distance relationship."}
{"id": "t3_d2zb8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit:  How many of you know a completely illiterate person who functions in society?", "post": "A little background:\n\nI work at a cast-iron foundry in N.E. Ohio, and for those of you who don't know, foundry work is some of the dirtiest, nastiest, toughest work around.  10 hour days are the minimum around here, and guys routinely log 60+hours a week like it's no big deal.  We've got one crew who averages 13.5, 6 days a week.  If it's 90 degrees outside, it's 140 next to the metal.\n\nAnyway, it recently came to my attention that one of the guys around here is illiterate.  Straight up, can't read or write.  He rides his bicycle about 18 miles (one-way) to get to work if he can't find a ride.  He's in his early 50's, prepares molds for finishing, and drinks a case of PBR every single night.  That's ALL I know about this dude.\n\nSo I got to thinking:  How the hell does he survive?  So much of society today depends on basic reading and writing skills.  I don't want to ask him because I think it'd be a phenomenally rude thing to do, and in my experience people that can't read or write get pretty defensive about it.\n\nI'm over the fact that he never picked up these skills earlier in life.  Whether he's stupid/lazy, has a learning disability, or just had a set of circumstances that prevented him from getting this basic education.  I've put that from my mind and am now just trying to wrap my head around how he operates in the world.\n\nHow do people like this sign a lease?  Buy things in stores?  Manage money? Navigate to a new place? \n\nNow, immigrants who don't speak English and mentally challenged people are a different case. Usually they've got a support network to fall back on, or someone to watch over them.  As far as I know, this dude is on his own.\n\nSo Reddit, any insight, or anecdotes about people you know in the same situation?", "summary": "I know a dude at work who can't fucking read or write.  How does he survive in the real world on his own?"}
{"id": "t3_2ireqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some relationship advice, constant arguing with girlfriend of two years.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. Im 17 and she's 19.\n\nEvery week is something different. I always manage to do something wrong in her eyes. We can't go a straight week without arguing.  \n\nIts always something little. I honestly can't even remember 95% of the shit we argue over. All the arguments are brought on by her, because of something I have done. \n\nMy friends think she's crazy because of the things she gets mad at me for. The other week it was because I flirted with some girl a few weeks before we started dating on Twitter. I didn't invite her to my cousins wedding, the cousin shes met twice and never had a conversation with. \n\nWhen im on the way to school in the mornings, if I say id rather listen to music than talk to her on the phone on the way to school she gets upset. If I don't \"fall asleep on the phone\" with her every night she gets upset. Ive told her I need more space, but these things still happen.\n\nShes off work on Tuesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. If I don't hang out with her until the last possible minute on those days she gets upset. \n\nTo avoid arguments I don't do those things often. But the little arguments, I honestly can't think of to give examples. Every week though, its one to three things a week. She says im not being thoughtful enough, and that's why she gets irritated with me so much. But that's crap. I jump through hoops trying to keep her happy. But even then, theres always something I do wrong. \n\nIs there anything I can do to stop the arguing? Or are we passed the point of no return?", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend argue too much over stuff she considers serious and I consider stupid and nothing to argue over."}
{"id": "t3_gnoxt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What in your boyfriend's or girlfriend's sexual history makes you uncomfortable?", "post": "So I recently started dating a girl that I like a lot, and for the most part everything's going great.  The other night we had the 'dating history' talk that seems to pop up when relationships start getting serious.  After I briefed her on my (admittedly meager) tally of sexual partners, I expected to hear something close to my own experience (she's 21).  Instead she dropped a number that I didn't expect, given what I know about her.  Not quite double-digits but on the margins.  I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since, and it's driving me crazy.  It's not an extremely high number and I like to think I'm open-minded about sex, but the fact that this has been consuming me makes me realize how many hang-ups I still have.\n\nSo, Reddit, what in your partner's sexual/dating history makes you uncomfortable or upset?  How did you manage to get past it?  And has anyone been in a relationship where you've lived in blissful ignorance of your partner's past?", "summary": "Girlfriend has been with more guys than I anticipated, and it has mind-fucked me.  What in your SO's sexual past makes you uncomfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_1gdlw8", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I have read the FAQ, but I still have no idea what I am doing. Sorry for the stupid questions!", "post": "Just wanted to say sorry again for wasting your time helping me out! I know I'm probably blind or something. >.<\n\nI read the FAQ, and I was able to do some of the things to get started but many of the things I am still confused on. I was able to calculate my BMR (By the way is there one calculator that is better than the others? I got a few different numbers.) However, when I went to the link on the FAQ to calculate my BF%, the page was gone. Is this necessary? However, I know even without my BF% that I would be classified as \"skinny fat\" at 5'9 and 156 pounds with a decent layer of fat.\n\nThe next part I am confused on is diet. Most of the provided resources provide diets to try don't seem like they would lend themselves well to everyday/lifetime eating. I don't know how to eat healthy. The last time I tried to truly get in good shape I did it all wrong. I'm talking eating only 800-900 calories a day, counting obsessively, cutting out all my favorite foods, and interspersed with bouts of binging on aforementioned foods. Today, counting calories freaks me out because I fear that I will go back to that. \n\nI am trying to get into real fitness, like going to a gym or bodyweight fitness, but I cannot afford a gym membership and I can't seem to find something study enough to use as a pullup bar for bodyweight. What are my other options because I do want to build muscle.\n\nMy final question is that I have no idea what I am truly aiming for. I want to lose my layer of fat and build muscle, but I am not sure if there's a goal weight involved or what sort of time table I am looking at or how many calories I would need to eat. This brings us full circle as I restate that I have no idea what I am doing.", "summary": "Not sure how to even sort of begin other than showing up here. Need loads of questions answered that I couldn't seem to find. Sorry for the inconvenience!"}
{"id": "t3_49mdkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [31 F] 7 years, can't find happiness in our relationship", "post": "To start, I love my wife and want her to be happy, but I am not.  We have a son, who is honestly the reason we got married, that we both love dearly.  We were living together for two years before we married, but at the time I was dealing with real self confidence issues.\n\nWhen we got together I was barely making 40k a year, which is pretty respectable in hindsight for a mid-20's single Midwesterner.  However I poured myself into my studies and work and now have a master's and make over three times that.\n\nThe issue I have with our relationship is while I am driven and always looking for something new to learn, she is the opposite of that.  I've attempted several times over the years to get her back to school (she dropped out before she met me) or to get a job (hasn't had once since being with me), or to get involved in the community, she refuses.  She says she has no interest in those things.  She is constantly asking and dreaming of travel, new places to eat, and constantly fills our families weekends with so many activities I don't have time to do the chores she hasn't done.\n\nTo make matters worse, she really has no interest in sex since our son was born.  She's so afraid of another child that it's destroyed her libido.  I've tried to talk to her, ask her what she wants, what would make her comfortable, but all I ever get is \"I'm just not interested anymore\".\n\nI'm not perfect, I try to be patient with all of this, but I do end up angry because I feel resentful of how relatively easy she has life compared to the hours and sacrifice I put in to provide everything.\n\nSo the question is this: Am I really a horrible person for wanting to get a divorce?", "summary": "Two people whom probably don't belong together had a kid and got married.  One became successful and wants to leave the complacent one despite still loving them.  Wants to try to resolve the heaping guilt."}
{"id": "t3_34vs0e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Pretending to like a girl I didn't have a crush on", "post": "Throwaway account for reasons Im about to explain..\nLike other TIFU posts, This happened to me about a month ago now.\n\nI'm a pretty quiet guy, usually sits with some classmates from the same program in the resource center and always have a friend who tries to talk me into contributing to the conversational talks. Now here's where the TIFU comes in, the people at the table were talking about who they liked, had a recent crush on etc. For some reason I got it in my head to tell them I had a crush on someone (I didn't actually, I just wanted to contribute to the talks ._.) I tell them I liked, let's call her 'Amy' in the other stream of our program, who I think is actually a really cool,sweet girl,sociable,friendly and she even sits with us most of the time for lunch, except today. Everyone at the table is shocked that I liked someone, even more surprising that it was a girl (They were under the impression I was..like 'THAT' I'm not.) I end up having to ask Amy out for a coffee. (Here's where the SECOND FU comes in) I asked THROUGH FACEBOOK CHAT with everyone looking over my shoulder to make sure I HAD asked her, It becomes marked as 'READ' as they're eagerly awaiting a reply..Minutes pass and my friend 'Lisa's\" phone immediately goes off a few minutes later, it's 'Amy' texting her that I had just asked her to go for coffee. Amy immediately tells Lisa she only thinks of me as a friend, to which Lisa read the text out-loud at our table and everyone sat down from the awkward quietness after which I'm sitting in my seat in embarrassment as everyone tries to feel sorry me for about the outright rejection.\n\nThe next day, Im walking to a morning class and bumped into her in the hallway and failed to realize ahead of time how awkward I made things since we sit at the same table because we were like deer caught in the headlights. I went through the last two weeks of the semester avoiding her after this. (we used to just wave or say hi).", "summary": "Tried to contribute to a conversation with classmates, Told them I liked a girl I didn't actually like and got rejected by said girl all at the same time, made things awkward with said girl."}
{"id": "t3_3lvdg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [37 M] with my ex [41 M/F] violence and insults", "post": "Hi,\n\nI am very disappointed with women because I have suffered physical and verbal with my last 2 girlfriends. In one girlfriend I have got just verbal violence and she was alcoholic. On the other girlfriend I suffered both verbal and physical violence because she is crazy.\n I didn't hit back on both cases, because I am a man and I didn't want more problems.\n\nBecause of these disapointments, I find it more difficult to approach more girls and I prefer to be alone. But honestly, I don't like to be alone.\n\nIs this just a sheer bad luck, or girls do hit men?", "summary": "girls do hit men?"}
{"id": "t3_22yzuj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] On the first date of my life [24/F.] What's a realistic goal for me on the first date?", "post": "Obviously, I will be learning more about her. I work with her, so I've learned a few things about her already. Anything worth discussing with her?\n\nWe are going to eat at pretty decent restaurant, I am expected to pay for our meals correct? How about picking her up from her house? How should I present myself, dress casual?\n\nWhere do I go from there, after the first date? At what point should a woman meet my friends? My friends go to movies, restaurants, and bars pretty often. We like to get together and socialize as much as we can.", "summary": "Going on the first date of my life, not really sure about how to go about dating women. Of course I've had women as friends, but none that I've dated."}
{"id": "t3_3twewx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28M] girlfriend [28F] of 2 years has started to blow up the instant I'm not 100% nice.", "post": "I haven't changed. But it seems like lately, when I am even a tiny bit grumpy, my girlfriend blows up, calls me a mean person, yells at me, and sleeps in another room. I can't be nice 100% of the time, and her calling me out on my little moods doesn't make me want to be nicer, it just makes me want to dig in because I perceive hypocrisy on her part. She is moody too but I don't call her out on it. I feel like in the past, she would just dismiss it, but now, it starts these frequent big fights.\n\nShe has started to use strong language that makes me think she is souring on me as a person, which is scary because I thought she was my soulmate. \"You are always so mean.\" \"You always have to be right.\" \"Here we go again, I can't take this anymore.\" Yes, she has even threatened to break up with me, but as soon as we make up, she wants to get married again. What is going on?\n\nProbably relevant: I think it started when we moved in together 6 months ago. My big fear here is that maybe she just didn't know me well enough, and can't deal with me fulltime. Is this just the sad way we find out that we aren't compatible after all?", "summary": "I thought we were perfectly compatible soulmates, but has moving in together made her realize I'm not nice enough?"}
{"id": "t3_3xya4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [32]F sister is upset with me [26]M over comments I made regarding a break up.", "post": "My sister was in her first serious relationship which lasted three months. Prior to that she would go on a few dates with men but it wouldn't progress past a third date.\n\nWhen the relationship first started she would mention to me that she believes this man would be her husband. Naturally I became concerned with how quickly she was all in but just expressed my happiness for her (her lack of marriage as been a source of depression).\n\nThe man she was with ended the relationship just expressing it didn't feel right. My sister was devastated. For two months I've just listened to her and provided support. She kept expressing to me though \"I want him back\", \"I want to talk to him\", \"I believe he will come to his senses and come back to me\". \n\nI became worried and began being a bit honest with her, I expressed she needs to move on. That she can't will him into being in love with her. She is better finding someone that feels the same way as she does. That there is nothing wrong with her just sometimes people are not compatible.\n \nShe got extremely upset when I said this. I made her feel like a piece of shit. Made him out to be a terrible person when he wasn't and completely dismissed the three months they spent together. I then expressed that I don't know him or experienced the relationship and maybe she should talk to a professional....advice she also didn't like.\n\nIs what I said wrong? What can I do to prevent my sister from crying every night?", "summary": "Sister got broken up with, upset with advice I gave her."}
{"id": "t3_1havvp", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Casually dating..I guess? Should I [21F] text him [22M]?", "post": "So I have been casually seeing this guy [22m] for about a month now. It's really casual like we don't even text all the time, but we do see each other often just by coincidence since we have the same friends or I'll ask him if he wants to hang out. He asked me out the first time though. Most of the time we pay for each other when we go out, we recently went to the movies and he paid for me and we shared popcorn, and recently we went to Vegas together with our group of friends where even though we didn't hook up, he was constantly close by my side and took care of me and even pulled me away from another guy and held me the rest of the night. \n\nBut everything just feels so up in the air and I'm really trying to \"go with the flow\". If I want to hang out with him, can I text him even though he hasn't been texting me or does that make me look too available? Why doesn't he text me?", "summary": "When we're together, it's like we're definitely something, when we're not, I don't really hear from him. Is this how casual dating is supposed to be like? And would I look too available if I asked him to hang out?"}
{"id": "t3_2ubzkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] feel uncomfortable knowing that the girls I talk to already had sex with other people.", "post": "So, I have to admit that my social life is a total shame. I never go out at night (I don't have means, living out of town with no bus available at night) and recently I've been at home 24/7 because of study. This has mostly been my daily life for the last 19 years. By this, you can figure out how many relationships I had with other girls: absolute zero. I never kissed one, never hang out with one etc.\n\nThis was the main issue, I know I have to step up by myself, I'm working on it.\n\nHowever, being the shy guy I am, I recently found out I'm good at talking with girls thanks to the internet and its chats. I met a tons of girls (obviously living miles and miles away..) that were really interested in me and as stupid as I am I kinda fell for a couple of them.\n\nThe problem is that when it comes to dirty talking and sexting I get really upset as soon as they talk about their sexual life. I simply hate the fact that people had sex before me! Like, I really get jealous and cut the chat short and later I can't sleep because I keep thinking and thinking about their stories and their ex-bfs and how much fun they had etc. etc.\n\nIt sounds totally stupid and bigot even to me, but I don't know what can I do about it and it gets worse everyday.", "summary": "Girls drives me mad as soon as they start talking about their sex life with ex-bfs."}
{"id": "t3_3czw8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [24/F] miss an opportunity [24/M]?", "post": "So I met a guy in this city that I moved to for college, I find him EXTREMELY attractive physically, and VERY attractive personality wise, though his political views are opposite mine and he's a little less mature than I usually go for. When he first gave me his number we texted A LOT, mostly because I kind of thought we were flirting, but later he said he was like that with all his friends. I said it was fine because he ships out for USMC boot camp in January and I've been there done that with marines. We've spent some time together since then and I've decided I like him, but it seems like he's just not really interested in anyone at the moment (except for MAYBE his ex). So now I'm moving back to my hometown and I'm just wondering if I missed an opportunity, if there ever was an opportunity, or if I haven't passed the point of \"fuck it, ask him out, see what happens.\"", "summary": "Should I just ask out this guy I like who seems kind of uninterested or just leave it since we're both leaving town soon anyways?"}
{"id": "t3_4gh1y7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] and my bf [23M], I have been having dreams, thoughts about my abusive ex [24M]", "post": "So [Alex] and I broke up for good in January of last year. He emotionally abused me for three years and guilt tripped me into sex and I took it. I ended up cheating on him with a guy that said all of the right things and made me feel better about myself. I told Alex and we broke up, we didn't talk and then we started talking again in December and he sent my flowers for my birthday in January. A few days after my birthday he disappeared texting wise, so I gave up. He tried again a couple months later, but couldn't do it. \n\nAnyway I got with my current bf in August and things were great. He treats me really well and is better than the abusive ex was. However, every so often I'll notice similarities and it'll throw me off.\n\nFor example the ex used to always tell me to work out to get a better but and it basically made me hate myself. And then every so often the current boyfriend will say something to the like as well. \n\nI've told him he makes me uncomfortable, but he still references it and it bothers me. Like he'll say how great my butt is and I just won't believe him. \n\nAnyway, my ex has a new girlfriend (saw posts because I stupidly looked at his fb) \n\nAnd they look so happy. She got basically everything I ever strived for for three years and didn't get. And it just makes me so angry. \n\nCurrent boyfriend and I get in arguments about political views and him drinking. And I don't sometimes I just miss not having that. \n\nAnyways, I guess my question is how do I work on this? Do I talk to my current bf about it and if so, how?", "summary": "I've been really angry that my ex boyfriends current girlfriend basically got the man that I tried for three years to get. And my current boyfriend and I have differing opinions on things, but treats me well overall. But seeing the ex on facebook has just add me angry and questioning and regretful."}
{"id": "t3_2ftwd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(20f) boyfriend (20m) of four years is great when we're together, but we are long distance now and it doesn't feel worth it. Help!", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for four years and when we're together I'm very happy. We've gone through a lot together and he's really great.\n\nWe are now doing long distance, he moved to Virginia, I'm currently studying abroad, but go back to our home state Oregon in a few months. He is incredibly busy, can barely make time for a phone call let alone Skype. He keeps piling on more activities, so it'll only get worse. He doesn't show affection whatsoever unless we're together and he can do so physically. \n\nI feel as though I don't have a boyfriend at all, really, and we'll be in this type of situation for at least 2 more years, but I love him so much. What do I do?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend, he's great when we're in the same city/state, but we are now really long distance and he's very absent/busy."}
{"id": "t3_2fw0e7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by exercising.", "post": "I train a lot, like everyday, for at least two hours, I've done this for half a year. Only recently did it start to catch up though. I went to get out of bed this morning when I noticed I could barely lift my leg. All of the muscles around my groin region were really sore. It was so sudden it really threw me for a loop, but I **had** to go to work today, or I'd risk losing my job since they've got me walking a tight rope at the moment. (whole other story, don't worry about it) So having to work, and being in pretty intense pain, I do the only logical thing. I used topical pain relief cream, i.e. Icy Hot, around the afflicted region. As anyone who's used Icy Hot could tell you, you don't want to get that on your genitals, or anywhere near it, or you're gonna have a bad time. I did, and I did have a bad time. The bike ride to work sucked more than you can imagine, and the first few hours of work were more uncomfortable than that. After the hot portion was done stabbing my balls with little pin cushions, the cool portion just felt like a wetness that you can't wipe off, and not a good kind.", "summary": "To deal with some groin pain I pretty much dipped my balls in Icy Hot."}
{"id": "t3_4n83y4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23/M] estranged grandmother [70s/F] wants to reconnect", "post": "I am the legal guardian of my cousin [10/M]. We were both abused by my uncle/his father, who is currently in prison far away from us, and his mother signed over her rights to me. I've been Cousin's guardian for two years now, and we're doing well.\n\nRecently, our grandmother (uncle's mother) has tried to get into contact with us again. I cut off a huge swathe of my family during the trial \u2013 essentially everyone who was not explicitly on our side \u2013 and my grandmother was part of that. Grandmother wants to make amends for her \"ambivalence,\" and that she is not talking to my uncle.\n\nCousin loves Grandmother and was upset when I cut contact with her, even when I explained the situation, and I want to do right by him. But I do not trust her at all. If my uncle even finds out a smidge of information about Cousin, I will not be responsible for my actions. We do not live in a state with grandparent visitation rights, so I am not worried about legal repercussions, but I don't know how to approach anyone on that side of the family.", "summary": "Gained legal guardianship of my cousin because my uncle was abusive. My grandmother, who cousin loves, wants to reconnect but I do not trust her."}
{"id": "t3_395v70", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've [24F] ruined my friendship with [23M]. I don't know what to do", "post": "**Background**: we were friends for a long time and talked a ton, every day. Things started to get romantic between us, he was very enthusiastic but often got sad about us being in different cities. Then certain circumstances come up, making it so our long distance situation is extending -- so he put our relationship \"on hold\" until we're near each other again. \n\nI asked if we could just have fun this summer instead of being so serious about everything; he said he doesn't want just fun and wants something more long term with me, but knows him and long distance are a recipe for disaster. Okay, fine! I ask if our friendship will be okay. He's all \"I'M fine with continuing to be friends... do YOU think you'll be okay with being friends? *I* still want you in my life but if you can't do it that's okay.\" Reddit, I'm really good about moving on from romantic situations and I assured him that I just wanted our friendship to be back to normal. But...\n\n**Current issue**: After we decided to put the romantic part on hold he said that our friendship would be just fine, but it's been the opposite. I tried to act as if the whole situation never happened but would get either one word or no responses to our usual platonic texts -- even if he was the one initiating the conversation. I gave in and asked twice if everything was okay, but he snapped both times saying he doesn't want to talk about it even if I do, and that he's fine. But things don't seem fine at all! Am I nuts?", "summary": "Is it possible to salvage a friendship after it has crossed romantic boundaries? Should I just drop contact with him for awhile?"}
{"id": "t3_2v7n2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of three years, we don't have sex", "post": "I am in a relationship with a fantastic guy and, for the most part, everything is great. We hangout several days a week, enjoy the same things, rarely fight, and get along with each other's family and friends. Overall, I'd say we're a great match. Unfortunately, we never have sex. Sex has never been a huge part of our relationship. I was a virgin when we met, and he took it after about a year of us dating. We both come from Christian backgrounds, but neither of us are active in the church. Still, we hold sex as sort of something special to not take lightly, just for some context. Anyway, after losing my virginity, I enjoyed being with him. I liked making him happy. However, after about a year, the sex basically ended completely. He won't let me perform oral on him, will not have sex with me, and even hesitates to kiss me beyond sweet pecks. I ask him about this and he says he's unsure if we should have had sex. He feels guilty and like he's dishonored God. He also gave up pornography, which he used to watch frequently. This should be fine. He should be given the chance to explore his religion, and I've offered to return to church with him, which he has declined. The problem is that I still would love to have sex and I feel as if he treats me like a friend rather than a partner. I guess my question is this: what do I do if we completely stop having sex forever? Marriage isn't on the table right now, and I feel that would be the only way he would be alright with this. What ways can I feel satisfied without sex?", "summary": "No sex for a year because of changing morals."}
{"id": "t3_2xr5rq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Taking Drugs at Work", "post": "So, I pulled a total bonehead maneuver today. Background: I take pills daily for blood pressure, cholesterol, acid reflux and Parkinson's. Most of them I take around 5, after I'm home from work. Two of the Parkinson's I have to also take when I wake up at 5, then at 9 and 1. Usually, I fill up the Pill daily box on Sunday night. But I was feeling lazy and I had missed the evening of Saturday and the afternoon of Sunday, so I had two doses ready to go. I figured I'd take the morning dose from one of those and refill for today, then do the whole week tonight. So, I'm up at 5 but not awake. I take the morning dose fine, but when I went to fill up for the missing daily does for today, I find a bottle of carbo/levo in the Target bottle.\nSo wait, there's more setup. Target fills the prescription with non-generic but I have switched to the mail pharmacy my health plan likes cause I get three months for the price of one. The Target bottle pill is smaller and a white table so I think, that's what the real thing should look like. What the heck, I have to use up those, so I put in it. And that's the one I take at 9 a.m.\nThe problem, Target does sell me my Ambien prescription and it puts it in the \"You're Never Going to Open This Sucker\" bottle. I had gotten tired of opening that bottle, so I put it in a all-used up carbo/levo bottle. I don't take my sleeping pills daily, just when I need them, so I know they're kept beside the t.v. Well, I know when I'm awake.\nI took the pill while I was on a email call, which aren't too hard, but I find myself losing focus. I get off the call and I get my review with my lead who has since moved on to another position so it's been a while. I'm feeling sick and falling asleep. I leave work wondering what the heck is wrong with me now and don't remember the bottle switch till I'm on the bus.", "summary": "Ambien makes you sleepy, is not a proper replacement for carbo/levo and phones can be heavy machinery under the right conditions"}
{"id": "t3_350q3r", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I feel like I'm at a major crossroads in my life and would love some input and to hear your story", "post": "Let me clarify my use of the word major.. it might not seem that way to others but I guess it's a significant time in life to be making calls for the longer-term plans. I am 25 years old, I left school at 17, have travelled a lot and completed the first two years (a diploma) in a fine arts/photography degree. I had a huge bout of anxiety and depression so had to wrap it up at that point and take a break from life. I have worked part time and full time in hospitality for 12 years now, and it has become an easy but unsatisfying fall back. I love to write. I write a lot of poetry, short stories, and if given a brief I do well at essays/articles. I have a passion for food, photography, painting and sculpting and travel/travel writing. My hobbies are what keeps me going. \n\nI'm considering studying next year, but am in two minds about whether this is the right path for me. I have thought about studying writing or completing my BFA followed by a year of teaching studies. The other idea would be to try to find work in fields that I love and work my way up within that keeping on doing what I love in my spare time and/or carrying on with hospitality until I make it on my own creatively.\n\nThe ultimate dream would be to get to a point where I am financially comfortable enough (hence contemplating not studying to avoid the debt that a creative would take a long time to pay back) to spend half of the week in my own studio working on creative projects and my writing.\n\nI would love to hear similar stories (or un-similar), how you decided to take the path that you are on and whether you think you made the right call for you.", "summary": "I'm wondering whether to study to work towards a career in something outside of my passions to earn a living and do what I love (creative hobbies; writing and making art) in my spare time OR whether to keep working misc jobs doing what I love in my spare time (not building up the debt of a degree) and hopefully eventually being able to earn some revenue from these artistic pursuits."}
{"id": "t3_frbm0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To Italian Redditors: Wondering about Striscia la Notizia/Berlusconi", "post": "I was wondering what the perception of Striscia la Notizia is among the Italian intelligentsia. I realize they must look down upon it, but how many channels out there are not in support of Berlusconi? It seems the liberal voices must be all but completely silenced. \n\nAlso, this is just out of curiosity :D. I am a fan of Giorgia Palmas for obvious reasons...and yet, I wonder what the media perception of her is (or at least among the intellectuals of Italy). Is she seen as a \"bimbo\" or just another attractive woman? She did win Miss Italy, so I do wonder if her image is tamer than that of the other showgirls/veline. \n\nThanks.", "summary": "How much non-Berlusconi media is there?/What is the perception of Giorgia Palmas?"}
{"id": "t3_1sz22x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19F] been talking to a guy [21M] for a few days, and now I'm confused. Help?", "post": "I have been talking to a guy for about a week now, and we got along really well throughout the week last week. Sending texts/snapchatting... etc.\n\nThroughout the week he was sending me messages saying how beautiful/cute/funny I am, and that he liked me.\n\nHe came over to my dorm (College dorm) on Friday night and we watched a movie and cuddled while talking about random things. Towards the end of the night, we kissed a few times while saying cute things to each other.\n\nHe asked me on Friday night if we could hang out Saturday, and I said yes. Then I knew he was going to be busy for part of Saturday, but he said he might be free that night. He ended up being where he was almost all night, so we didn't hang out.\n\nHe called me Saturday night saying he really wanted to see me today (Sunday) before I go home (2 hours away) for a couple weeks tomorrow.\n\nAll day today he has been playing League of Legends with his brother in his apartment, saying that he wants to hang out with me, but that they are on a winning streak so he doesn't want to leave.\n\nPlease help me understand what is going on. I really like this guy, and I felt like we had a fantastic time Friday night, but now I feel like he is just blowing me off.\n\nI usually over think things a lot, so I'm thinking I may just be reading too much into this. At least I hope that's what's going on. I'm not sure.", "summary": "I (19F) have been talking to a guy (21M) for a week, he said he liked me a lot, now all of a sudden is blowing me off all weekend. What's the deal?"}
{"id": "t3_4r9jgv", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Toddler deliberately peeing on floor", "post": "2.5 year old (at the time-- she turns 3 in September) was nearly potty trained, but fully regressed to diapers when her baby brother was born. We let it rest for a couple months, but have begun working on potty training again. She starts preschool in 5 weeks and must be \"potty trained or nearly potty trained,\" otherwise she will be forced to leave. We got an amazing deal due to a need based scholarship, and so being kicked out would be very problematic, as we can't really afford preschool anywhere else (and I work part time so we need childcare regardless).\n\nShe has been doing well with potty training again-- poops and pees on the potty if we remind her, but she also will pee in her pull ups all day long and not even notice. So today we switched to full time undies so she'll notice when she's wet. We were expecting accidents, but we weren't expecting her to *enjoy* them. She has had 3 accidents today, and each time says something like \"Uh oh, something's on the floor... It's... PEE PEE!!\" Very excitedly and with a big smile on her face.\n\nWe have been making her clean the mess up as a \"natural consequence,\" but she thinks that's fun so I don't know how much of a \"consequence\" it is to her. The third time, my husband sent her to her room, essentially punishing the accident... I've heard that you shouldn't punish a child for accidents, but he thinks she's doing it on purpose. I don't necessarily think she is-- I mean, maybe she is, but maybe she really is having an actual accident and just thinks it's funny. I don't know. \n\nShe's very verbal and definitely understands that you *should* pee on the potty. She does notice when she has to go sometimes and successfully makes it to the potty. Other times we will remind her and take her to the potty, and she can pee \"on command\" upon sitting down. So I'm confident she is physically developed enough to potty train as far as communication and bladder control.\n\nThis is day one of undies, so I figured I'd get some advice here before we screw this up too badly.", "summary": "Almost 3 yo thinks it's funny to pee on the floor and enjoys the \"consequence\" of cleaning it up."}
{"id": "t3_3npmit", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] am given a week by my girlfriend of 7 years [26 f]", "post": "Last night my girlfriend told me that she can no longer see herself marrying me. \nI didn't want to belive it, but her mind seemed pretty clear. \nA little back story. \nThis year was rough for us, she left in the end of April because I had given her the option and I wasn't being the best I could.  She found someone and started seeing him. Up until about three weeks ago actually. \nWhen we Remet, about, 7 weeks into their relationship we knew we were supposed to be together. She's not a cheater but she did cheat on him with me. \nI saw someone very briefly. But when I realized my shot with her wasn't done, I dropped that girl. She could never get rid of the guy she saw and still wanted to retain their friendship. \nIt hurt, and I thought I'd be okay with it. Last week, she hung out with him alone and I didn't take it well. The jealous side of me came out and she had to remind me, technically her and I aren't together. Even if she's living with me and doing boyfriend girlfriend activities. \nShe said, through tears last night that we are prolonging the inevitable. I don't believe it. She is the girl of my dreams. And I just want to know if I should accept that in a week, she'll be gone for good. Or do I fight it? And potentially make it worse.", "summary": "my girlfriend of 7 years has said she's had enough and will be gone in one week."}
{"id": "t3_3clxfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] am the one who asks to hang out and plans the date with [20/F]. Does this make me needy? More of just a self reassurance post than anything else.", "post": "I met her at school earlier in the year and we have been dating for 3 months now and have been exclusive for 1 month.  Things seem to be going great and there is no rush to take things to the next level.  I recently realized, however, that I am always the one who sets up a day to hang out or to go on a date.  I think only once she kind of mentioned the fact.  Usually any day I pick she agrees to and when she is unable to show we always meet up the day after.  Another thing is that I moved to her town 10 months ago and she grew up there so while I am working and travelling a bit, I don't have many friends here so I have more flexibility with my weeks, where as she has her whole life here and is always busy.  I guess I just needed to write this out to come to a conclusion that I am not being needy and that things are just going pretty slow because we are both busy, but anyways, some advice could be of use.", "summary": "I make the plans always but she always says yes and if she says no I don't make a big deal out of it.  Wondering if this is still a needy quality?"}
{"id": "t3_4pe5l2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [35/m] may have fallen out of love with my wife [34/f] if I was ever in it. What do I do?", "post": "Looking for advise or experiences....\n\nAs the title says. When I married my spouse it was under some extenuating circumstances. I stressed about it a lot from the time leading up to the marriage until around 3-4 years in.\n\nThen I settled in, 12 years in now. It has been pleasant although very dull. They are a very good person, and a great friend.\n\nBut I don't know if I love them. I am not sure I ever really did as the marriage was never an exciting thing for me, more of had to happen situation.\n\nNow this far into it and with two children I find myself feeling extremely selfish for being bored and unsatisfied.\n\nWe have talked about this several times, but they do not feel the same and get defensive. They are unwilling to try to meet me in the middle and understand where I am coming from. And I neither want to nor can change them.\n\nWhat do I do? Mid 30's, is this just an early mid life thing that I need to wait out? I don't want to hurt them, but I don't want to settle for someone I don't love.", "summary": "in my 30's married not by choice, comfortable but not in love."}
{"id": "t3_34farg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23/M] been wanting to tell this girl [19/F] I love her.", "post": "Problem is, we never really had a decent relationship. I won't go into too much detail but we were off an on for a few months, and argued a shitton. But I care so much for her. She's beautiful in my eyes no one is better. We haven't spoken for three months, but yesterday I broke down and sent her a message and asked how she was doing.\n\nThe conversation went okay, it was kind of like how we used to be....but I never told her how I really feel. No, I'm not convincing myself I love her or have rose-colored glasses. I've dated lots of girls but this feeling I have for her so different. \n\nI'm moving to Japan in August and won't see her for a year but for the past three months of no-contact, I've thought about her every day and still can't get her out of my mind. I want to meet up with her and tell her I love her...that I still do. I know this probably isn't the best idea but what the hell, we all die sometime and in the end does it really matter?", "summary": "dated a girl off and on through a rocky relationship but she's the only woman I've ever loved. I have my whole life ahead of me but for the last 3 months of no contact, I haven't been able to stop thinking about her. I miss her so much..I want to tell her I love her."}
{"id": "t3_gwdkn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "WTF is up with these birds?", "post": "So, outside my window there is a cornucopia of bird. Seriously. I have 2 Blue Jays, 2 Cardinals, 3 Doves, a shit ton of Sparrows and a Robin. It's like the 12 days of Christmas in my little inner-city pine tree. \n\nEverything is hunky-dory during the day. Peaceful, quiet. The occasional dove song (which is just lovely) at most.\n\nHowever, when I head to bed between 1-4am the birds go fucking nuts! It's like they're having a party every night of the week and I'm not invited. \n\nIt's really affecting my sleep. So what the fuck is up with these mother fucking birds. Why they no sleep at night?! I didn't think these types of birds were nocturnal.", "summary": "Birds make too much noise outside my window at night and I'm going crazy. Why is this? What do I do to shut them up?"}
{"id": "t3_2jj9u8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with a new girl I've been seeing [23F], not sure if I should reveal that I'm a virgin or lie about my experience.", "post": "So I've recently started seeing a new girl and we are getting along quite well. I'm quite comfortable around her, she's easygoing and we have a lot of similar interests and humor so it's been fun. \n\nShe's very sexual, but she said that she's wanted to take sex slowly since she normally rushes into things and she'd like to take more time to build up a relationship rather than just rushing in. This is perfectly fine with me. \n\nShe has previously mentioned that she went through a wild phase after a breakup and managed to amass quite a bit of sexual experience. We were making out the other night and she told me that she felt like I was the first guy that she's been with who really knew what he was doing, which is flattering but somewhat humorous considering I'm a virgin. \n\nNow I'm really not sure how to approach this. I understand that my age is a bit of an outlier and I've had some embarrassment about it in the past, so I've actually lied about it before. Being 25 and still a virgin, I've actually met some people who have thought that I must be really weird or wrong in some way to have come this far without doing the deed. \n\nMy dilemma is that she is quite experienced so I'm not sure how she might take the news that I'm a virgin, and I'm afraid that she might be weirded out that I'm still a virgin at 25.", "summary": "Not sure if I should admit to a new girl I'm seeing that I'm a virgin. I don't want to scare her off since I really like her, but I'm afraid that my age and her being much more experienced might make me appear unattractive."}
{"id": "t3_1kejsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my girlfriend[18F] of 8-months breaking up before I move away", "post": "My girlfriend and I started dating in the middle of our last year of high school. We're both going to school on opposite sides of the country and we're going into different fields.\nWe talked about going long distance and I enjoyed the idea of going further with her.\nI broke up with her because at the end of college there was no guarantee we could be together. I told her that I wanted her to do everything she could possibly imagine with her degree and her life and that I did not want to get in the way of that. \nShe said she'd follow me and I told her I couldn't let her throw away her dreams to come with me on my adventure. I couldn't ask that of her--especially at this age.\nI did it because I care about her and want her to do everything she can with her life, and I just need to hear some other opinions. \nDid I do the right thing?", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend because I didn't want to get in the way of her dreams. Did I do the right thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3aq28l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30f] FWB [30m] all of a sudden wants a relationship now once I wanted to pull the plug", "post": "We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should \"try dating\" because he doesn't \"want to lose me.\"\n\nMy thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else).\n\nI know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing.", "summary": "FWB wants a to try dating only after I said we couldn't sleep together anymore."}
{"id": "t3_4f5w25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of a year, she wants to include others in the bedroom and I'm a little concerned.", "post": "So a bit of background; I am currently away at college, and my girlfriend, \"Elise,\" back home is going to a different school. She and I have had discussions about the limitations on our sexual relationship and have agreed that we can push them, but now I'm confused.\n\nI woke up this morning to a text message telling me that a few of her close friends from her school, \"Dina\" and \"Jim,\" who are currently engaged, have invited the two of us to have four-way sex with them.\n\nNow, I've always been interested in something like this, the idea of sex with a group has always turned me on. But, I'm not okay with other men being involved with Elise--in fact, the idea kind of makes me upset. So we preliminarily agreed to make it a kind of sex at the same time and place deal, where there will be no touching between the couples, but there is watching and talking between them.\n\nNormally, I'd be very okay with this idea, but we've never done anything like this before and I don't really know Jim or Dina very well at all. I'm also scared that involving others in the bedroom is a bad idea regarding the health of my relationship with Elise, or the relationship of Jim and Dina.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to watch another couple have sex and maybe take it further from there. What limitations should I set down and/or should we even do this at all?"}
{"id": "t3_2k6m8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] girlfriend says I [21 M] am smothering her.", "post": "First things first: This is a **long distance relationship**.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now, 2 of which have been long distance only seeing each other during school breaks.\n\nRecently she has been getting mad at me for smothering her, or being too intrusive in her life.  The extent to my intrusiveness as I see it are as follows:\n\n* I will casually ask her what she is up to\n\n* If she says she is talking to someone in a response to me asking her what's up I will ask what they are talking about (this is to whoever she is talking to, not just other guys)\n\n* When she goes out to party I will ask where she is going\n\nAm I being too abrasive? Is something else going on? Only recently has this become a problem to her.", "summary": "Short, sweet, read it."}
{"id": "t3_3b5cuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m25) don't know how to let my friend (f46) down and it's killing me.", "post": "I met an older woman and we decided to hang out at the bars and be friends. One thing led to another and we had sex. After the sex she said \"how much she wished she could always wake up to my face \" but that she is a logical person and gets that can't be a thing. I just got out of a long painful relationship and it took this to make me realize I don't know what I am looking for.\n\nThing is she is Facebooking me and commenting on my pictures and now I feel like a jerk because I just want to go back to being friends but I think she has much stronger feelings. I can't avoid her, nor do I want to, but I feel like an asshole and I don't know what to do or say. I hate myself and it is killing me. Help?", "summary": "met someone older and they like me way more. Now I want to back peddle and I hateyself."}
{"id": "t3_26kki0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] feeling self conscious after my SO [18M] made a comment about my stretch marks.", "post": "My boyfriend and I were spending time together today before I leave for a cruise tomorrow. It went perfectly until the very end. I was dropping him off, we were having one last conversation and then saying goodbye.\n\n \nSomehow we began discussing my sister's pregnancy (she just had a baby) when I mentioned that since both my sisters and my mom didn't have any stretch marks after having children, I was hoping that I wouldn't either. He said, \"Oh yeah, then what's that?\" then pointed towards my butt. Apparently, I have some marks that I wasn't aware of. He then started to feel them and call them odd looking since they were near my butt. I told him he was making me feel self conscious about my stretch marks and he could see that I was embarrassed as well as upset. He then apologized and said he just wouldn't ask me things like that anymore. \n\nOur issue should be resolved, but I can't help but feel that although he won't verbally tell me these things, he'll notice other imperfections on my body. As of right now, I can't imagine being intimate with him again without the lights being completely off! I don't know what to do to gain my confidence back after this one comment.", "summary": "I feel shy about showing my body off to my boyfriend again after he called my stretch marks \"odd looking\"."}
{"id": "t3_25ignm", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Feline acne and Cat food.", "post": "Several months ago we switched our little guy to Purina Cat Chow. He loved it, he would gobble it up in seconds. \n\nA few weeks or a month after we switched him (I assumed, at the time it was unrelated) I noticed a bit of dirt on his face. My boyfriend and I thought it was oil from him rubbing his face in the bottom of the box spring. I cleaned it off and locked him out of the bedroom but the dirt came back.\n\nEventually we looked at it closer and figured out it was Feline Acne and just chalked it up to him being in his teenage years and sticking his nose where it didn't belong.\n\nEventually we switched his bowls to ceramic instead of plastic but to no avail, last week I went to clean his chin and found blood dried to his chin. So I went in search of other causes. Tonight I found a bloody, pusy (poor spelling sorry), hole on his chin and I am getting scared that it may be incurable.  \n\nI am wondering what you guys might suggest and if it could be his food?", "summary": "(don't blame you lol)"}
{"id": "t3_42jksh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M25] am getting pressure to marry my girlfriend [F34] from my girlfriend", "post": "I'm going to preface this by saying I'm not accepting \"just break up\" style replies. I love this girl and I'm determined to make it work and figure it out. I'm not just throwing her out or quitting just because it's a little hard. \n\nMy girlfriend is Korean and we currently live in Korea. We have been together 18 months. We are planning to move to New Zealand (my home) at the end of this year. \n\nA very close friend to her in a similar situation (I.e has a foreign boyfriend) just got engaged yesterday and I think this had been the catalyst to her wanting to get married or at least engaged ASAP. The friends have been together 9 or 10 months. It's been discussed before and now it's back on the table again. She can be very jealous too which doesn't help the situation. \n\nI want it all to be special. I'm kind of an old school romantic. I imagined beach holiday. Just us. Nice dinner. Then we watch the stars, see a shooting star then BAM a proposal. \nShe however is (her own words) a realist and doesn't need a diamond ring or even a vacation.\nBut we are stuck in winter working for a little while so a holiday would be later in the year. \n\nMy compromise would be later in the year when we are on a nice holiday and the setting is right. I'll propose. But not right now just because she is jealous. \n\nI don't like the pressure. It makes it feel more like an obligation/chore than a testament to our love. The added pressure of doing it before immigrating for visa reasons adds to the pressure. \n\nDon't get me wrong I want to marry her and we are happy together - apart from this. \n\nBut how can I communicate this to her?\n\nI have told her all this Verbatim and I have shown here this exact post before posting so she knows all this. \n\nAny advice would be appreciated. \n\nThanks in advanced.", "summary": "Girlfriend is putting pressure on me to marry because of jealousy."}
{"id": "t3_3c6j8z", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[Can] University student, need advice about loans", "post": "I'm a Canadian currently attending school in the U.S. I have already completed one year of studies. The problem is that I have run out of cash. I already took one year off after high school to save up, but was unable to find better than part-time work. I'm still working part-time this summer, still looking for job with better hours or better pay.\nI was mostly able to pay for the whole year through the savings of that year combined with [OSAP] but I came up ~US$3,000 short because the exchange rate dropped to and has stayed around $0.80 just after last summer. My tuition will be about US$9,000 per semester (after scholarships and grants), and the OSAP for this coming year is estimated to be around CAD$7,000. \nI haven't grown up rich at all, and I'm 99% certain my parents won't be able to cosign, seeing as they already can't help me out financially. They're pretty much living paycheque to paycheque, not much wiggle room at all.\nIs there any kind of student line of credit or loan that would be best recommended? Or are my hopes aimed too far out of my current financial conditions?", "summary": "I'm flat broke and need a lot of money for school."}
{"id": "t3_sg5mv", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I'll likely be spending a lot of time alone this summer. How can I use it to better myself?", "post": "All my roommates are going home or to other cities so I'm left with a 4 person apartment (incl. 2 bathrooms and 2 kitchens) to myself. Outside of that, I only really have 1 close friend staying in the area, and she's hardly reliable. I have an internship and will likely be taking a class (Calc 2) so I'll be busy during the day, but I'm worried about the down time in the evenings and weekends. \n\nHaving always lived with at least 3 other people I'm used to always having someone a room away if I need to talk or want to go somewhere. So I want to fill up these times as well, hopefully so I don't even notice I'm alone. \n\nBesides homework, gym, reading (which I'll probably do anyway) do you have any suggestions for having time on my own? I've never stuck with any hobbies for long, but I'm open to suggestions, within a college budget.", "summary": "Wimpy college girl scared of living on her own. Needs motivating distractions."}
{"id": "t3_49fnwo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18M] wanting to ask [18F] out, but how?", "post": "Helo all, \n\nI'm a 18M guy who is in 1st year University and I'm interested ina 18F girl who is also in first year university in my program. We have very similar ideals and we hang out a lot. I like her and I think she likes me. She said things via text such as: \"Thank you [My name]. Ps, for my birthday I want a professional toe-holder, Or my [Our friends name]'s definition, a boyfriend. Either will work\" Now I read this as a great positive and that she probably like me back. However, whenever I plan to ask her out, I was already planning to that day, but for some reason that deterred me. Am I just not ready or should I just do it? The problem for me is that I don't want to lose our friendship if it doesn't work out or she just says no. I think she's mature enough to move past that, as am I,  but it's just the risk and just today I planned to at the end of us hanging out together, but the bus came, and I didn't get to ask. \n  \nAlso, when I do ask, is this appropriate?  \nMe: Hey, over the last few months I really felt a connection and I was wondering if you'd like to go out on a date with me?  \nOption 1:  \nHer: No...\nMe: Okay, no worries, this doesn't change anything between us, I just figured I'd ask, have a great one!  \nOption 2:  \nHer: Yes!\nMe: Cool, well let me know when you're free and we'll plan something out, have a great one!", "summary": "Girl has been giving me obvious signs she like me, but I still don't ask her out for an unknown reason, probably nerves of posibly losing a good friend, even though I feel we're both mature enough to get over it, even if it goes south. What should I do, should I just go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_2pb91n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My guy friend (22M) hit me (22F).... Not sure how I should take this.", "post": "I'm still in a bit of shock. We were drinking at a party. He was playing with a house, and I accidentally made him smack himself in the head. I went to hug him as I was saying sorry, and he smacked me in the face. Right behind the ear by my jaw.\n\nI went upstairs and when I saw him I told him that my head still hurts. I dont remember exactly what he said, but it was something along the lines of \"good. You hurt me first\". I told him I hurt him on accident.\n\nAll my friends didn't think it was a big deal. I've been in abusive relationships, which he knows. I don't even know if I want to talk to him about it, because I feel like he might not see his behavior was wrong.", "summary": "Accidentally hurt my guy friend. He smacks me in the face."}
{"id": "t3_1bk841", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (22m) want to ask a girl (20f) if she wants to go out sometime, but I'm not sure how long to wait after her break up with complete arsehole before asking", "post": "I met this girl a few weeks ago through a friend and we've been getting along brilliantly since. We've spent the last week or so together at a friends house with his girlfriend (as bad as it sounds I was recruited to keep her company whilst they were being all lovey dovey and stop her from feeling like a third wheel when they went out) and pretty much all we've done in that week is have an amazing time together, laughing, joking, playing games, listening to music etc and I've decided that I want to ask her out.\n\nThe only problem is, her now-ex (they were together when I met her) was a complete arsehole to her and didn't treat her right. He pretty much emotionally abused her by not taking her out anywhere or showing her much affection at all from what I can tell from the bits and pieces of information I have received about the subject and she finally dumped him 2 weeks ago after 2/3 years of being together. I respect her way too much to ask her out right away, and I really don't want to be seen as a rebound either. \n\nHow long is an acceptable and respectable amount of time after her long term break up to ask her out, or even talk about the subject with her at all? I'm completely and utterly useless when it comes to this sort of stuff and I could really use some advice.", "summary": "what is a respectable amount of time after a 3 year relationship breakup to ask someone out?"}
{"id": "t3_j8w7m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "International Relations, Economics, or Computer Science (or combinations) and why?", "post": "Well respected Redditors, your advice would be most appreciated. \n\nAfter my HS graduation, I went immediately to a Military Academy hoping to become a pilot.  I completed two years before having to leave last summer due to complications with an injury (can no longer serve/fly, but I am fully active, no real disabilities outside military life, etc).  I am now completing my degree at a well-respected liberal arts college.\n \nAt the moment, I am determining where to place my major and minor concentrations.  Due to the restrictions at my institution, I can either have 1. A major and a minor, 2. A major and two minors, or 3. A double major.\n  \nBetween International Relations, Economics, and Computer Science (I am at the point in my college career that I can make any of these 3 fit into one of the above listed configurations without delaying my graduation. They are all of interest to me.), which should I place where and why? (for example: International Relations major, minors in the other two\u2026. Economics and Computer Science double majors, dropping the IR\u2026 Computer Science major with IR and CS minors\u2026 etc.)\n\nFor the record, I am planning on going to grad school for a Ph.D. if I can (in any of the above subjects), or at the very least for a Master's (if possible right after college).\n\nI have completed research on my own, but I would like to hear \"real world\" advice from intelligent people in today's workforce who won't give me any BS.", "summary": "International Relations, Economics, Computer Science, which should I major/minor in (or just drop) and why??"}
{"id": "t3_40tnpo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking about the NFL with my family", "post": "So, I'm in a group text with my dads family. My grandma (granna) has lung cancer for the fourth time (has never smoked to my knowledge), texts us and says she's about to enter Chemo and everyone starts saying, \"I love you\" and \"good luck\" and at the same time I text, \"Y'all hear Austin may get the Raiders as an NFL team\" which was meant for a different group of people and I sent, \"Good Luck, I love you! You can do it!\" To the group that the NFL one was supposed to be sent to. Then I fell asleep for a couple hours to no responses to my message and now I feel terrible.", "summary": "Check yourself before you wreck yourself"}
{"id": "t3_mnbrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Caught wife dirty-texting with co-worker.  How do I get past this?", "post": "41M, married 2 years to 35F.  She's pregnant and had started a new job when we found out a few months ago.  \n\nAbout 6-7 weeks ago we were sitting on our couch talking and she gets a text asking if she's the type of girl that likes to \"make love\" from a number I didn't recognize.  I busted her then, she peddled bullshit for a bit but eventually admitted the whole thing and said she would stop.  I wanted to believe her so I did, but my trust was shaken.\n\nAbout a week later I noticed she wasn't messaging me during the day as often as she had been and wasn't responding in her normal, flirty way.  I popped into her IM account (we each have each other's passwords) and saw a slew of messages between the two of them.  I let this go on for a few weeks, for a few reasons: while she was definitely flirting with him, she constantly reminded him she was married and would never do anything.  I believed she would be faithful even if she was playing out of bounds.  He kept pressing, flattering her and teasing, and they started having lunch together a couple of times a week.\n\nThen last Friday she crossed the line.  They went out to lunch and she got tipsy on a glass of wine, and when they continued their IM conversation later in the day she finally relented to his teasing and told him she had fantasized about sucking his cock or being taken from behind by him.  When I picked her up that night, I immediately confronted her about it and we talked it out.  She agreed not to continue and I really, really want to believe her, but it's driving me nuts.  She cried, she apologized, but I don't trust her anymore and I'm not sure I'll be able to continue in our marriage.  Help me fix this, Reddit.", "summary": "wife has been IM'ing with a co-worker after she said she'd stop, then she crossed the line between friendly flirting and pursuit."}
{"id": "t3_3ju0vh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Went out with my coworker (33m) and his girlfriend (38f) showed up and went crazy on me (21f).", "post": "So I just started working at this new restaurant about 6 weeks ago, and there aren't a lot of cool people that work there. But there is this one guy, and we've gone out for drinks a couple of times. It's been completely platonic; I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. Well tonight he told me that him and his girlfriend had broken up, so after work we went to this bar to get a beer. My boyfriend gets off 2 hours later than I do, and he never minds if I go out with friends (male or female). Anyway, his girlfriend (ex) shows up (I think she followed us there) and starts to cause a scene. She starts hitting and cursing at him, throws his beer in his face, then looks at me and throws a pepper shaker at my head, leaving a pretty big bump. The manager throws her out of the bar. They get me ice and asked if I'm ok, but I'm pretty shocked at this point. Apparently she thinks that me and her boyfriend are having sex, which is NOT true. He gets a ride home, and i call a friend to come pick me up because I don't feel like driving. What should I do now? My boyfriend and roommate want me to press charges. I don't know if I feel comfortable working with him for a few weeks, but it's such a small restaurant I don't know how that would work out. I need advice, I mean this woman is 17 years older than I am and acting like a child. What's the best way to approach this situation?", "summary": "coworkers ex thinks we're screwing and followed us to a bar and threw a pepper shaker at my head."}
{"id": "t3_ngwo0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best \"NOPE\" story? I'll go first...", "post": "Okay, I waas sitting in my basement on my beanbag playing xbox, when I saw a huge fucking wolf spider, not exaggerating it was 2.5-3 inches across. So I figure I'll let it be since I live in the middle of the woods, it would eat a lot of bugs that would go into my house. However, it makes a beeline for my leg, so i quickly squish it with my TV remote, that's it right? wrong. Literally *HUNDREDS* of little baby spiders come crawling out of the bigger spider, I fucking booked it out of there, grabbed paper towels and got up as many as i could. Needless to say I had trouble sleeping that night.", "summary": "Killed a giant wolf spider, hundreds of babies came out of it"}
{"id": "t3_14h5a7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I(21M) am meeting up with a pretty lady (21) tomorrow, looking for some advice to help things go my way", "post": "Alrighty, so a little background info. I met her last week at the end of term party for the muay thai club on campus of which we are both members. She seemed in to me then, granted she was kind of drunk (I was sober, DDing for a friend). I made sure to find out which sessions she goes to and made sure to go class that day. \n\nOn tuesday, when we had muay thai together, we talked some more while wrapping our hands and such, and her body language still gave off the vibe that she is into me.\n\nI added her on facebook, and she invited to her friend's album release party, which is tomorrow.\n\nPersonally, I am not actively looking for someone to date, more looking for a FWB type relationship (although I don't really know her well enough to tell if she is relationship material yet).\n\nHow do I ensure things go the way I want them to go (i.e. the bedroom).", "summary": "Meeting up with a woman tomorrow, want to get laid :p"}
{"id": "t3_38f5pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am in a relationship with [24M] that we know is ending, what do you even do?", "post": "I have been with my SO for five years. It's been an amazing relationship in parts but unfortunately our long-term goals do not align (they haven't for years and we just pushed it under the carpet and said love can overcome everything) and neither of us are willing to compromise. That, and we just argue over insignificant things which just highlights our incompatibility.\n\nAnyway, we graduate this year and after the summer it will be over. It's been half a decade of our lives that we're just going to throw away. My gut instinct tells me that it is the right thing to do and that we'll be happier with other people. So I want to go ahead with this. But how do I push past all the doubt and the guilt and move forward without looking back?", "summary": "I know my relationship is ending but I don't even know how to come to terms with it or how to begin to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_uwbfm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do if an ex SO lied to you from the begining of the relationship and knowingly gave you AIDS?", "post": "Throw away because this is relevent to me.  I found out my ex lied to me about several things from the begining of our relationship.  So this morning I went and got tested for all STDs the results don't get back until NLT Monday.  All I do right now is think the worst, and waiting until Monday is stressing me out.  All I can think about it is this crazy story I've made up in my head.  Now a little background, I'm 22 I have some rather big plans for my future and someday having a family is a high priority amoung those plans.  I would never dream of hurting anyone, I work with young kids at a taekwondo school in my town on a regular basis in addition to my big boy job.  But for whatever reason, I keep picturing getting the results back and them being positive for something uncureable and killing all of my future plans, effectively ruining my life.  I then go to confront the ex about it and find out they knew the entire time and knowingly gave me an uncureable terminal disease (I know AIDS isn't technically terminal itself and you can live a long time with it if you stay healthy, but what the hell is the point if you can't achieve your goals with it?).  As you might be able to imagine, my blood goes to instant boil at the thought of losing my future because this insolent fuck took it upon themselves to lie and cut my own life short.  I don't know if I would actually be able to do it, but the scene that continues plagueing my mind is, after hearing that my ex knowingly gave me this, I brutally kill them with a knife and accept whatever consequences ensue.  But after my blood cools off, I feel like shit for even thinking about doing it.  I'm stressing out like a mother fucker. >: /", "summary": "Stressing out over the possibility of losing everything.  It's most likely nothing but something to think about.  Thank you for your time and consideration on this matter.  Happy fucking Monday."}
{"id": "t3_525tgs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a stable (26m) for 3 years but severely lacking passion!!! Help! (28f)", "post": "Found an incredible guy. Been dating for 3 years. Never felt crazy romantical Sparks with him, but he is my bestest best friend, understands me like no one else, and is always there for me. But I can't help but feel like I want more. More passion, more romantic chemistry, more energy...from someone else? But he's so stable, honest, and genuine. There are so many shitty, dishonest people out there and I know I'm so lucky to be with someone who's as morally upstanding and truthful as he. But why do I feel like I'm settling? I feel like no matter how bad I want this to work, I'm not being truthful to him or myself. I just don't know what to do anymore.\n\nI recently met a guy who reminded me what organic, raw chemistry felt like. I can't get my mind off of it. Even though it never amounted to anything, it was a reminder of what romance is all about to me. The raw passion, the fire. My boyfriend and I don't have that and honestly I don't know if we ever did.", "summary": "being with someone who's stable vs going into the unknown and finding passion"}
{"id": "t3_1hibtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25/F] go about this when he [29/M] has his heart set on somewhere else?", "post": "He is from the Northeast and I am from the South. We started dating December 2012. He is here in the South for medical residency. We got along so well. Had so much in common, laughed at everything, and always wanted to be with each other as much as we could. We just clicked right off the bat. Then we had a misunderstanding in February 2013 and we parted ways.\n\n2 months go by and I contact him again because I still had feelings for him and wanted to know how he was doing. I didn't expect him to agree to hang out with me again but he did. We hung out and picked up right where we left off, laughing, joking, teasing and flirting with each other. Later that night he makes the first move and kisses me and then asks to see me again.\n\nHe hangs out with me all day the second time. We are now holding hands and freely showing affection. During this time I find out he has his heart set on living in the West Coast and that he will be in Europe for a month. He then asks me to hang out for the third time.\n\nWe hang out the third time and I'm trying to figure out how I was going to tell him I had feelings for him still since he was leaving for Europe the next day. I also saw certification paperwork in his luggage for the West Coast, which I probably wasn't suppose to see. So later that night I tell him how I feel and I'm crying because I'm upset. He feels the same way about me and is tearing up too. Tells me \"I don't know what is going to happen between us, we should keep in touch and you can visit me wherever I am.\" He leaves the next day and says \"I miss you and I'll be thinking of you.\"\n\nI know we didn't date for long but I wouldn't depreciate it because it was short. When you know, you just know. I feel like he'll be the one that got away. I just feel like a month away from someone is enough to make him forget about me.", "summary": "Got in touch again with a guy I had been dating earlier this year because I still had feelings for him. He makes the first move and kisses me and initiates hanging out with me 2 more times."}
{"id": "t3_4uuc2q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Response to selling a car on Craigslist - where's the scam/risk?", "post": "I am selling a vehicle on craigslist, and got a call yesterday from a young man.  He asked a few questions about the vehicle, then tried to haggle on price ...  then once we agreed on a price he asked if I would bring him the car today, take 1/3 of the money in cash, then he would \"work overtime next week to get the rest of it to me.\"  He asked, then pleaded and begged.  He said I could take a copy of his drivers license, meet his family, keep the title until he paid, etc etc.. but that he really wanted the car.\n\nI am not going to do it because it sounds insane and ridiculous.  The fact that he can't afford my car is not my problem.  But I'm wondering what the scam is.  Or the risk.  \n\nSo in this situation - where's the risk?", "summary": "Guy made me stupid offer on craigslist auto sale.  I KNOW ITS STUPID and **I will not do it**.  I just want to know ALL the risks associated.  Again, I'm not asking what should I do (I already know what to do) I'm asking **why not**."}
{"id": "t3_513cr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) am still temporarily living with my ex (22F), could this be a problem?", "post": "My ex and I started dating four years ago, moved in together two years ago and broke up about three months ago. It was the best break-up you could imagine, we had both had some time to think beforehand and basically came back to each other with the same thought, that it was better to not keep the relationship going. So we broke up - and so far, there haven't been any issues. Personally, I'm happier than I was in a very long time, because that relationship, even though she isn't a bad person, made me absolutely miserable. And I'm relatively sure that she's feeling the same way. \n\nThe thing is that we still live together. Technically it's my apartment (even though we pay the same share of the rent), so if I wanted her to leave, I could make it happen. But I haven't done it, because we still get along and because it would be really bad for her. She's about to leave for another city in three months anyway and finding a temporary apartment is a nightmare where we live, so I didn't make a fuzz about her still being around for half a year. \n\nAs I already said, we get along well, but as roommates. We have seperate rooms, we're not best friends, we don't flirt, we don't stay up late and watch movies, but we talk to each other about mundane stuff or ask the other person to proof-read something for university (she's studying my ex-subject). \n\nI would've been fine with keeping this arrangement until she's leaving in January, because I didn't think I would start dating again so soon anyway. But a couple of days ago, I met a really nice girl and we're having a \"proper\" date in two days. Now I'm nervous that this whole thing is going to affect this possible new relationship negatively, and I'm not sure what to do. My plan was to be relatively upfront about it once we start talking about where we live and then stress that if necessary, I could still make my ex leave, (even though it would be kind of a dick move towards her). Does this sound like a good idea?", "summary": "My ex and I broke up mutually and happily three months ago, we're still living together because she's due to move to another city in January anyway and finding another apartment where we live is a nightmare. We've also gotten along well so far, mostly keeping our distance from each other. I'm about to have a date, could my living situation ruin a possible new relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_vwo7f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have no guy friends! How can I make guy friends?", "post": "**Backstory** I'm 22, I used to run my own business for about four years. Running my business caused me to move away from my hometown of Big Rapids for two years. Leaving my girlfriend of four years at the time, we dated on and off during this period. I decided to shut down my business because I felt working 60-80 hours a week wasn't allowing me to enjoy my life. I closed up shop and moved back home inorder to go back to college. My on and off girlfriend and I broke up again. The story is far too long to explain. She just cant seem to be honest. (no didn't cheat) So here I am, battling depression again, with noone around. \n\n**Issue** I have no friends here. I don't have a job right now. I am looking for one right now. I still have plenty of cash to live on from my business so that isn't a hurry but it makes it hard to meet new friends. I honestly just want some guy friends to be able to go out and party and have fun this summer. Anyone else ever been in this situation? How did you meet new people? I'm kind of nervous going to a bar alone, not knowing anyone there. Just hard with noone to talk to.", "summary": "I don't know anyone in town. Not sure how to meet people. Depressed about being alone with no guy/girl friends. I'm a normal guy, not a crazy neck-beard SAP (though if you are, its ok)"}
{"id": "t3_37rtr9", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Bridal Shower Cringe", "post": "Ever since my FH and I got engaged back in September his Aunt has said she wanted to throw us a shower. We said it was yay, sure! On the inside I wondered how that would go since she's known for being the \"flakey\" Aunt. Now don't get me wrong, I'm flattered. \nSo we discussed dates for it a few months ago and we told her there was only one date we could make work because of all the other wedding related things and holidays. She's known this date for months... days and weeks went by and she wouldn't talk details to anyone, not even the other Aunt whose house it is supposed to be at. \nWe got to a month out from the date and I had my FMIL ask her how the invites were going and she swore they'd be out the following week. I thought, okay sure three weeks notice will be alright. \nNow this whole wedding planning time I've tried my damnedest to be organized and make sure all of our info (save the dates, invites) went out right when they were supposed to. \nSo another week goes by and my Mother mentioned she still hasn't gotten hers. The Aunt insists she's about to send them and here we are a week later and no one has received them. We are now two weeks away from the shower date and she hasn't mailed them, who knows if she even has any yet. \nI'm not sure what to do. My Mom and MOH insist it doesn't reflect badly on me, but I just can't help but cringe because that's the first time I'm meeting a few of FH family members. I'm trying to go with the flow, but it's so hard when I'm used to making sure everything else is done and organized! And no, I know there is no surprise type thing going on.. she really is just that unorganized. \nWeddit, what do I do if she still hasn't mailed them by early next week? Just ignore it and see how it goes? Say something? I don't want to sound like a bridezilla for a party that's being thrown in our honor! Ugh!", "summary": "Aunt hasn't sent out shower invites for a shower that is in two weeks."}
{"id": "t3_tz7pg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Askreddit, what are your grossout stories? I'll start", "post": "About a year ago, my friend had been suffering from what he thought was a sinus infection. Tons of mucus flowing from one nostril and the other was completely clogged. Finally, after a couple of weeks he decided to make a doctors appointment.\n\nAs he sat upon the examaning table, the doctor rolled over and did his normal \"breath in\" and \"breathe out\" routines. Finally, he asked him to lean his head back and with the tool usually used to look into the ear, he peered into his nasal passage. \n\nImmediately, the doctor backed away, leaned over the trash can and vomited. Needless to say my friend was shocked. The doctor eventually collected himself, and regained his professionalism. He came back to my friend with a pair of tweezers and reached deep into his noze. What happened next will haunt me forever.\n\nHe described it as it feeling like the doctor was pulling out his brains. What he was actually doing was pulling out 4 1/2 inch \"grub\" worm. Apparently and unexplicably the worm had crawled into his nose and had nested in his nasal cavaity. Trying to flush it out, his sinuses had produced tons of muscus which the grub had become engorged on.  Moral of the story, get sinus infections checked out immediately.", "summary": "Friend thought he had a sinus infection but actually had a huge worm living in his sinus cavity."}
{"id": "t3_3bhep4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27F) love my SO (27M) but the long distance is killing me", "post": "Together 1.5 years, long distance 1 year, we have a two body problem so currently unsure when LD will be over. He lives 5 hours away. We try to alternate weekend visits.\n\nI just got back from seeing him. I am so exhausted I just want to cry, I feel like I'm jet lagged. There's two problems. Firstly the long distance. I'm so knackered from the driving. I work long hours the weekend that I go to see him so I can drive up Thursday (i.e. compress 5 days into 4). Then the drive up wears me out.\n\nThe second problem is that the weekend wears me out further. I work hard during the week since I work for myself (free-lance), and like to relax at weekends, because that's when I see him. But no, that isn't a possibility. He always wants to be on the go. This weekend, we didn't go out Thursday evening because he was tired but usually we do. We went out Friday as soon as he got in from work (I'd been working all day). Then we went out on Saturday from midday to 10pm. Then on Sunday I just wanted to sleep but he got so pissy about that he went out by himself for three hours, then got home and dragged me out for an early dinner. Then I drove home. I can barely see. Everything is spinning.\n\nThis happens when he visits me too. It's like he's a kid with ADHD. Can't be sitting still for more than a minute. Often at mine he will go out for a several hour long walk and leave me at home. I just want to chill in front of a movie. I've never met anyone who gets bored so easily. My work is suffering because I'm so tired.\n\nI'm too tired to think of a question. Help :(", "summary": "LDR + boyfriend who can't sit still = exhaustion."}
{"id": "t3_2yk9rt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] met a great girl [16 F] online who lives in the same city. Problems are: she's moving away, I want to meet her, and the obvious age gap.", "post": "I don't want to go into too much detail, but enough that you guys can make out what my dilemma is.\n\nI met her online (certain app). We live in the same city, we talked for a while, found out we have a lot in common, and she's extremely nice. We only text chat, we almost know nothing about how the other looks, and at this point we don't really care. Here are some of the problems I'm facing now:  \n**1.** She's 16. I'm 20. There's an obvious age gap, and I don't know if it's completely ethical to continue trying to get with her.  \n**2.** She's moving to her home country in less than a month. I only just got to know her and she's already moving away. It seems like she's completely fine with continuing to talk to me while she's there, and I don't mind that. But...   \n**3.** She told me we can't meet face to face. I really want to meet her before she leaves. She said it's hard to do so here + her parents might not like that. I didn't want to insist, even though I had ideas on how to meet up in secret. I still really want to see her.\n\nSorry if there isn't enough info, I kinda rushed through this. I'm looking for advice on what to do. Is the age difference a problem? If not, what's my best course of action right now?", "summary": "Met girl online, she's significantly younger than me, I want to meet her before she leaves the country but she said it's not possible."}
{"id": "t3_2xpp8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/f] Don't Like How my Friends Talk about my Boyfriend [19/m]", "post": "I've been with him for 7 months and when we first started dating my friends would make comments about how hot he is (not to him, but to me and to eachother) and I was okay with it then but I expected thrm to stop once things got serious, and they didn't. They still make comments about him all the time and it makes me uncomfortable, one of them even tries flirting with him sometimes. She also comments like little emoji things on his pictures on instagram. He doesn't flirt back or anything but it still pisses me off, a lot. How can I tell them I'm not okay with this without seeming like a bitch? I'm a passive person in general so I've never even mentioned that it bothers me, but it really like eats away at me and I want them to stop.", "summary": "My friends talk about my boyfriends looks and even try flirting with him, I don't like it, I want them to stop but I don't want to seem like a bitch"}
{"id": "t3_2br32y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my Fiancee [32F] of 3 months but together 2 years, occasionally have what I'd call rage issues.", "post": "So we have a cat that has litter box issues, we have to keep doors shut to make sure she doesn't go in certain rooms. Our Carpet is fucked because of her, we can't figure out why shes doing it so we are trying to work around it. Last night the cat went on the toilet rug in our bathroom, which apparently flipped a switch, a bad switch. My fiancee stormed out of the bathroom, said something to effect of \"You need to keep the bathroom doors shut or she goes on the rugs in there!!!\" threw the toilet rug off the patio of our condo (on the second floor) then proceeded to slam about every door in the house, the one in our bath room ended up putting a hole in the wall which I had actually fixed months ago. She later apologized and blamed it on her switching Birth Control, then this morning she texted me at work to apologize again, and that she feels like an asshole and needs to be better to me. But she does this somewhat often, she'll go off her rocker and blow her top over something yes stressful but not world ending. Usually it'll happen then nothing will be said about it later. Thoughts?", "summary": "Fiancee over reacts to small things, mention little about it later, then forget about it."}
{"id": "t3_4zgt7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ___ [22 F] of 9 months, caught her lying about a guy.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I go to the same college. Now she tutors Chinese (shes a foreign exchange student) and this one guy she tutors keeps hitting on her (hes like mid 30's old looking and fat) and she has told me about it before. They became friends and she hangs out with him in a group setting usually. Whenever he would hit on her she would text me about it, tell me in person, send screenshots, whatever and been up front and honest. She stopped a little bita go because she knows how mad it gets me that she still talks to this guy but I trust her. Recently theyve been hanging alone, I told her I'm against but she has told me he got a girlfriend and I should just be ok with her since I know her and know she wont do anything. Which I still believe, shes not near him on the ratings scale to even put the guy in her league. Still I get jealous so I checked her phone while she was in the shower and I found basically saying \"Oh man if I did [ACTIVITY] with you we wouldve had a better time. I should be your boyfriend.\" I semi confronted her about it with questions like is this guy really not trying anything with you? He hasnt hit on you? Talked shit about me? Told her she should date him recently? And she said no he has a girlfriend why would he hit on me.\n\nIts at this point I ask you guys do I confront her and tell her I snooped her phone and caught her lying to me repeatedly, or just trust her not to do anything with him.", "summary": "Girlfriend caught lying about creep she hangs with (with information I got by going through her messages) do I trust her or do I confront her"}
{"id": "t3_139n4z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are the most confusing/ambiguous dreams you've had that stuck with you?", "post": "I'll start. One year, shortly before I was supposed to start school, I had a dream that I refer to as \"Are you ready?\" I call it that because there was so little to it, but the one thing that was repeated the whole dream was a female voice saying \"Are you ready?\" and \"It's almost time\". The whole dream reminded me of the Cloning Facility in Star Wars Ep. 2 and the voice of the female that tours the place with Obi Wan. \n\nThe images were basically like an out of focus moving black thing on a plain white backdrop. I felt like I was looking at a really zoomed in thing that I do often. I thought maybe it was a pencil touching paper or maybe a fishing line threading the hook but alas, it escapes me. I have never been able to draw anything like it or figure out what it was but I still remember years later. I wonder what my subconscious thought it was almost time for.", "summary": "Kamino"}
{"id": "t3_2iwl2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if I [28M] should break up with my girlfriend [21F] of over one year because she never does anything for me.", "post": "Hello all. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now. I feel like I've done a lot of things for her. We traveled a lot, I take her different places all the time for instance restaurants, museums, show her new things, etc. 95% of the time I pay for everything and everything we do is my idea which I have no problem with. I buy her little presents here and there, when she is sick I bring her medicine/food/soup to her work without her asking. I do small things for her all the time.\n\nHowever about 4 months ago, I thought about our relationship and I could not really think of a single thing she has ever done for me. I had a talk about it with her and her response was basically \"I'm a girl, I don't know what I should be doing.\" So I told her, \"do little things for me from time to time, you don't need to buy me anything. Bring me lunch to work one day and surprise me, that will make me happy, it doesn't need to be anything major.\" I may be a bit overreacting, but I feel that when you're in a relationship with somebody you should be doing things for them from time to time. 4 months have passed and nothing has happened.\n\nWe had another talk, and her response was basically similar to what she told me 4 months ago. I told her that I need to think about things and I haven't talked to her in 3 days. \n\nI'm not sure if I'm overreacting, but I feel like my efforts are not be reciprocated in any way and I feel like this is a one sided relationship. She tells me that she loves me, which I believe, but at the same time I need for that love to be shown in some way. Not sure where to go from here, I was hoping she would change a little bit as the relationship progressed. I understand there's an age difference and that could be part of it, but I think she's old enough to know how relationships work.", "summary": "Girlfriend never does anything for me, while I take her to all kind of places and do small things for her. I feel like this is a one sided relationship."}
{"id": "t3_piw1m", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "China Tourist Visa Issue for US Citizen...", "post": "On the application for the Visa (*I'm applying for an L tourist Visa, single entrance*) there is a question to indicate Yes/No if you have a criminal record, and then if so to explain further down.  Back in 2005 I had a first offense DUI.  I plead no contest, and wasn't \"convicted\" so to speak as the official record states.  I had simple court supervision/classes/fines to pay and it was done and over with in 2006.  No legal issues since.\n\nI wanted to be honest on the application and put \"Yes\", briefly explaining the situation on the same application.  At the window however, they simply wouldn't take it to be further reviewed or submitted (so I didn't really get an official 'rejection' I believe?)  The folks were very difficult to understand behind the glass windows, and said roughly I 'needed more paperwork' I guess to prove I wasn't on probation or maybe a fugitive?  The website and contact information is atrocious.  When asking other available consulate staff around they simply were no help.\n\nI'm hoping someone has advice on my next step.  Do I go to the courthouse where the incident occurred, get a copy, and re-apply with the same application?  Or, do I simply select \"No\" to a prior criminal record as there isn't a Felony or even a conviction dealing with the event on my record...", "summary": "Need help on exactly what constitutes a \"criminal record\" on the Chinese Tourist Visa application..."}
{"id": "t3_2p5cvs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU typing my \"video\" searches as my facebook status", "post": "ok... this might be the worst possible TIFU of all time.  Please for the love of all things good in this world... DO NOT HAVE YOUR SOCIAL NETWORKS OPEN WHILE WATCHING \"VIDEOS\"!!!\n\nlast night guess my mac was bugging out so all the terms that i typed in were typed into my other tabs that i had open... i just recently got done posting my facebook status about a concert i was recently at, and i forgot to log off and close the tab. So every term... and i mean every SINGLE term that i searched was posted on my wall.....", "summary": "Accidentally posted my \"video\" searches to my facebook wall. Life sucks..."}
{"id": "t3_eo75e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Meta-wet dream, a wet dream within a dream?", "post": "So last night i was having a dream that i was having sex with this girl on the dance floor of my fraternity (I am in college now), and I came in the dream...sounds like your normal dream right? wrong, i then woke up to find myself inside of the anime series neon genesis evangelion, and it was not until later in the dream in which I woke up to RL only to find that I had in fact came in my underwear while sleeping. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I am still really intruiged by this, thought i'd tell reddit...", "summary": "had a wet dream inside of another dream, and came in real life in my sleep"}
{"id": "t3_35msae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me: 19[M] Her: [19F]. It's still over, right?", "post": "All right, so there's lonely little me who manages to somehow arouse the interest of a pretty girl for awhile. She even kissed me a few times one night. Of course, over the weeks I managed to screw it up by being too afraid to be assertive and she started losing interest in me. She stopped being the first to text and would hardly respond when I texted her. And yes, after the night we kissed all we did was text each other for a week or two because we were probably both waiting for each other to be the one to take things further.\n\nThe people here told me I dropped the ball and it's over. They said she was being too immature to come out and say it's over, probably because she felt she was in too deep because she offered to take my virginity. But then I worked with that girl last night, seeing her for the first time since things went sour. As we left for the night, she gave me a hug, said I can come over with her and a coworker if I changed my mind (even though she never asked to give me a chance to say no in the first place which makes me suspicious), and told me to text her. \n\nHalf an hour later I texted her saying I changed my mind and wanted to come over. She said the coworker (some weird guy 30 years older than us) was mad so she was leaving. Although she still could've been sitting on his couch chatting with him for all I know.\n\nI need you guys to slap some sense into me. Because she hugged me and told me to text her, I have this little misguided sliver of hope. It's still over right, and she's still just too afraid to reject me? What do I do now? Do I text her now? What do I text her? She said she wanted me to text her, but I bet if I text her now I'll be getting one word and effortless responses like before.", "summary": "Girl who turned unresponsive hugged me and told me to text her after I was convinced it was over. Still over and she's too afraid to say so yet? Slap some sense into me."}
{"id": "t3_51gewj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19M How do I tell a girl I'm not interested in her?18F", "post": "I've been talking to this girl for about a year. I kept talking to her to be friendly and nice. I could tell she liked me and I started to tell her I was talking to someone else so she would know I'm not interested. However, this didn't work and she still talked to me which was fine maybe we could still be friends. I also never went out of my way to bring up hanging out with her because she's the one that approached me and after all I wasn't that interested. But if she did ask I would. And just for your information I NEVER start the conversation she texts me everyday. Anyway we hung out a few times a while back and she is really shy. It was hard to keep a conversation. Anyway lately I decided I should give her a chance and asked her out but still, it was the same story she just struggles to keep a conversation I'm not sure if it's that we talk everyday and have nothing to talk about, or if she really is that shy. Anyway I've been trying to sound more lame when we text to let her get the clue or at least confront me if I'm interested or not. Nothing has happened and I want to know how I should tell that I need space.", "summary": "I've talked to this girl for about a year, tried giving her a chance but she's not my type and she is well aware of that. I would consider myself out of her league. How do I tell her I'm not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_1ystvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of one year, complains frequently that I'm not cuddly enough. Is this a communication issue or is it me?", "post": "So, I've been with my current girlfriend for the past year and I've found myself in a bit of a conundrum. First off, we live together and see each other everyday, so when I get home from work we just hang out, watch television, make dinner, or go to the gym.\n\nOn that note, I'd describe -and she self describes- my girlfriend as the type that likes to be actively cuddled and I consider myself more of a passive cuddler if that makes sense.\n\nWhen I say this, I mean that she prefers general rubs, shoulder massages, and constant attention when we're laying in bed together. While I prefer to just be close and doing my own thing. When I say close I mean either in the same room on my laptop or in the same bed but not actively giving her physical 'attention'.\n\nThe way I feel about it is that the type of attention she wants is tiring after an extended period of time and requires a lot of energy when at the end of the day I'm just trying to decompress. I do try to actively give her attention, but her complaints and chiding over the issue are starting to make it feel forced and frankly a bit smothering. \n\nThe fact that there is this divide in terms of her and my needs is what she considers a big problem, whilst I'm content with just being close to her and don't need the type of physical stimulation she needs. \n\nOtherwise, I like to think I'm a good boyfriend. We go on dates pretty frequently, I do things for her like her taxes, and surprise her with coffee at work etc. She in turn is a good girlfriend, plans dates, and treats me well.", "summary": "Girlfriend of one year complains that I don't pay her enough 'attention' in terms of physical affection while laying together. I'm content with being close to her and feel the behavior is a bit smothering because the amount of attention she needs seems like a lot. She thinks its a big problem and I'm trying to figure out a solution that doesn't turn spending time with her into a second job."}
{"id": "t3_1785j1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] Not sure what to do", "post": "Right now, I like one girl in particular at my school, we will call her X. We have been very good friends for almost a year now and we have a lot of fun together. However, before I knew her well, I told her I liked someone else, let's say Y. X gave me a bunch of advice for asking Y out, but I couldn't follow through. Over the months I found that I liked X much better than Y, so I told X that I gave up on Y. Also, X was in a relationship for most of our friendship and just broke up with the guy (who I don't really like) about a month ago. I asked X about it and she mentioned the possibility of dating someone else before we graduate. I really want to ask X out, but I'm not sure if it would be a good idea considering the circumstances. Help me out?", "summary": "I like a girl, not sure if now is the right time to tell her due to my previous like of someone else and her fairly recent break-up."}
{"id": "t3_2s2b91", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By peeing in an airplane toilet", "post": "So before I start this was 3 years ago coming back from Barcelona on a school trip.\n\nHere goes,  The flight was boring an i'd had enough of playing angry birds on my iPad, and I needed a piss, so i leave my friends and get to the toilet, this toilet is like as wide as a bedroom window and about 1 meter an a half long. It was very small. Anyway i begin pissing and all of a sudden i can feel the plane banking towards me, like i felt like i was being pushed back of-course you know how hard it is to stop mid piss so I do my best to reduce the piss flow. This is where I fuck up, I thought fuck it and carried on pissing normally, however halfway through the turn we hit turbulence and yes, you guessed it, my piss comes flying up and I piss all up my shirt, my trousers and everywhere else on me except my face. \n\nThe rest of the flight I stunk of piss and kept blaming it on everyone but me", "summary": "Needed a piss mid flight, plane banks, I piss on myself"}
{"id": "t3_tpa4g", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First date advice needed, how to stay confident, conversation ideas and general tips", "post": "A girl I liked accepted my invitation to a Baskin Robins. So tomorrow afternoon, we're headed there together. We've been friends for a few months, not close but in school, and we're both Juniors in Highschool.\n\nIt's not normally like me to be shy, I've done a lot of nerve wracking public events, and everyone knows me as that guy that isn't afraid to do anything as well as acted in the school play.\n\nThe problem is recently around the girl it's been getting really akward, for both of us, I just choke up and can't think of anything to say, I can still add in a few witty comments here and there to make her laugh, but I'm really worried! It seems like all we can really say now is \"hey\" and \"how are you?\" and nothing really passed that. Any tips are appreciated! Maybe some conversation ideas for a ice cream shop setting.", "summary": "First date with girl I like at ice cream shop, loosing confidence and I'm at a loss of words when we speak, I really want this date to go well, all advice appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_4amrtd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me early[30's M] with my SO early[30's F] 5 years, Feel like I have lost interest in her and our relationship. Feeling conflicted and anxious about ending it.", "post": "Long time lurker here, I love this sub. I have been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for about 5 years. A little over a year ago we moved across the country away from family and friends to stay together when she decided to go back to school. For a long time I thought we would get married because we got along so well and she is a wonderful and loving woman.\n\nFor the last couple of months, I have had less confidence that we will be together for the rest of our lives. I have had a waning interest in our relationship for some time now, and that has recently turned to anxiety. That anxiety is due to my uncertainty about the relationship, the fear of hurting her, of losing our dog in the break up, and the general disentanglement of our lives together. \n\nI think our issues stem from me not being attentive enough(when I get home from work I can be extremely detached and unavailable) and not picking up slack around the house(generally I do less of the housework than she does), which leads to her being disappointed and angry at me that I am not more present in our day to day lives. She is in an extremely rigorous program for school, and I can become consumed with my work and hobbies. This has led me to feel like I no longer need her, but I am conflicted because I also feel like I am taking our relationship, and the validation I get from it, for granted.\n\nWhile my uncertainty about our future together has grown, her frustration with my lack of enthusiasm has also grown. At this point I feel a rift between us, and I think she does too. We have started therapy to work out our issues, but I feel like I can't be truly honest there and voice my concerns about the level of uncertainty I actually feel. I am terrified of breaking her heart because I love her so much.\n\nI guess what I am looking for is for someone who has been in a similar situation. When did you know it was time to end it? Or how did you reignite your interest in the relationship?", "summary": "I am having doubts in my long term relationship! Need some guidance about what to do next!"}
{"id": "t3_2i7s7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having some relationship problems with my(19F) SO(19F) of over a year. Need help.", "post": "My girlfriend of almost a year and a half, and I, are having some serious relationship issues. I've tried to go on a break but she wouldn't have it. We are about to sign our second apartment lease together and I'm afraid of how things will be once we move into the new apartment. I want to try things with other people but she doesn't want that while we're together. She also doesn't want to break up. I feel like I'm starting to hate her and it feels like I'm suffocating anytime she's around or anytime she asks me to do something. I love her but I don't know if I'm still IN love with her. What do I do? Please help.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are having issues. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ddo2n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Young with terrible credit", "post": "Hey PF\n\nI'm 22 years old, and have managed to drop my credit score to below 600. This started with a Best Buy Credit card that my 19 year old self \"knew\" I would be ok obtaining. I ended up unable to keep up with payments, defaulted, it went to collections, and I was eventually able to pay it off after a generous tax return, but not after taking damage from it.\n\nAlso, I am currently in a position where I am unable to make payments on my student loans, and I think this is what has wrecked me so hard. I pay my car, phone, rent, and credit card payments on time (my card is constantly maxed out as well) but my score stays low due to my student loans, which are about $7000 all together.\n\nMy reason for posting is this; What are some suggestions to getting back on track? I'm currently trying to save up to get my real estate license to bring in more money (I was offered a partnership with one of the top realtors in my area) But I'm really struggling to even put that much extra money together, which amounts to around $1400. \n\nWhat info can I give to you guys that would give enough information to get a little advice on how I can better my score and start saving better?\n\nThanks in advance, and I'm sorry for the length of the post.", "summary": "Credit card and a small amount of student loan debt drowning my score, can't afford to keep up. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_u22l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Losing feeling and becoming emotionless. Trying to save my relationship.", "post": "My gender: Female\nAge: 14 almost 15\n\nSO's gender: Male\nAge: 16\n\nSo, my exboyfriend wants me back and I don't know if I can take him. We broke up and I guess it's just a break but I mean, I feel like I've tried and tried everything and I can't fix it.\n\n I really want to feel something a rush, anything. I don't want to hurt him because if I don't still love him (I don't know) I did once and that part of me's with him still. It's a long distance relationship anyways, and so that's hard but so is not feeling anything.\n\n I told him I wanted a rush and he immediately jumped to sexual I guess. He's sixteen and I'll be turning fifteen soon. We'd dated eight and a half months and then we broke up. I guess, my question is, how do I fix us or should I even?", "summary": "Becomeing emotionless, want a rush, willing to try anything to fix my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_451qh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I [21 M] do about my insecurities? I want to date this girl [21 F], but she likes to go drinking and clubbing. I like neither. I'm afraid to date her for something might happen and she might cheat on me.", "post": "I have never been in a relationship before. In essence, I have low self-esteem and am afraid. There is this girl who I have liked for years. Recently, we've been talking and I have a huge chance with her. Unfortunately, I found out she likes to go clubbing with her friends. She goes about once a month (or so I've noticed) and like to drink over there.\n\nI understand, from reading, that clubbing is \"fun.\" That girls go there to have a great time with their friends. There is nothing to be afraid of. Yet, I am. I am afraid of the guys who will be hitting on her. I am afraid that she may get too drunk and cheat on me. I know this is wrong, but I can't help it. If I can't get over this feeling, I won't be able to date her.", "summary": "I like a girl who likes to drink and go clubbing. I don't like either. I'm afraid to date her for she might cheat on me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ps4rg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfrind [22F] of two years, was kissed by another guy. What to do?", "post": "My girlfriend is in another country for a couple of weeks with her university. While she was there, another student told her that he liked her. She explained she had a boyfriend, me, and that she wasn't interested. \n\nA few days later a group of them went to the club and apparently he was getting quite close with touchy etc. Nothing happened that night but the next day she messaged him laying down the ground rules reminding him that she had a boyfriend and wasn't interested. \n\nFast forward to yesterday. The group went out for dinner and were drinking. They were all squished together at the table and she says she didn't notice the closeness because she was tipsy when he then leaned in a kissed her on the mouth. She then got up and said that that wasn't okay and left.\n\nMy girlfriend has been very straight and honest (From what she's told me) but we're fighting. It is a bit hard over messenger. I know she didn't do it on purpose but I'm still very hurt. I've been cheated on before, and while this isn't quite in the same category it's bringing back all those old emotions. \n\nMy question is am I over reacting or am I within my rights?\n\nI've tried to provide context and best I can. Please ask if you need any more clarification. Thank you in advance", "summary": "Girlfriend of two years was kissed by another guy while overseas. I'm confused with how I feel and what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_30gg6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I [22f] know about couples counselling with my bf [23] of two years? He is adamant about needing to live alone. We tried for a month and I just can't.", "post": "When we lived apart for that month I lived with my parents. I'm already not goo with change and it literally uprooted me from all I was comfortable with. I thought living alone was space enough for him but it was basically like we weren't even in a relationship. He thinks that if he wants to go a whole week with no contact whatsoever then I should allow that. It just wasn't a relationship in my eyes. I tried breaking up with him but he didn't want that. So we moved back in. It's been a month and everything seems fine. But he still says feels the same when we discuss it. It really hurts me and I'm scared to renew our lease together because I don't want things to end up fucked up.  \n\nSO we agreed on counselling. Basically we want an idea of whose feelings are more abnormal. He says that if the therapist agrees that his feelings are abnormal for a relationship then he will work on whatever problems he has. I'm not sure how to word that. Because obviously the therapist won't \"take sides\" at least as far as I know. I just wanna know what I should expect from our session[s]. I'm not really looking for advice from this sub in our issues. I don't need more thoughts floating around in my head. I would just like a professional opinion on our situation. Thanks guys!", "summary": "How do therapists give advice on relationship issues. What generally goes on in sessions? Do they offer insight or opinions on our feelings or just help us sort through our feelings on our own?"}
{"id": "t3_2vy4fl", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I am getting new shoes tomorrow. I would like confirmation that I have my stuff correct.", "post": "**Background:**\n\nI have gotten a lot of differing information from people. I would like to see if I am correct on my foot assessment. My Dad had flat feet, my mom overpronated, and my sister has high arches and no overpronation.\n\nI have been told that I have flat feet by a sketchy doctor for my ROTC physical, but the Dr Sholles machine (I know, not much to go off of) told me I have high arches. I also did the wet test multiple times with different footsteps that i take and walking onto it and just placing my feet on it and always got the same result: medium to high arches.\n\nI also might have very slight overpronation, but I am not sure.\n\n**Here are my findings:** \n\n- 178 lbs \n- A little over 6 foot tall\n- Shoe size 10.5-11.5 depending on shoe (due to very long second toe)\n- Run an average of 5-10 miles a week (much more in the spring and summer training for half-marathon)\n\n- [An album of my typical wet-foot test. The soles of my current running shoes, insoles and outer sole. And a past shoe (before I really started running a lot and running on the balls of my feet)](\n\nSo, according to my wet foot test (which I sketched around the wet parts because they started to dry to quickly in case you couldn't see it) I have medium-high arches and by my shoes, I seem to very very slightly overpronate and run on the balls of my feet.\n\n**Help?**\n\nWhat kind of shoe would you recommend for this?\n\nAdditionally, there were some shoes that I randomly found at REI that I liked the idea of. They were formed so when you would run, you would naturally run on the balls of your feet. It was almost difficult to run on your heels. Are those shoes any good? My sister (she runs and ran her first marathon this fall and is big into barefoot running) said that they were really good, but should I trust her?", "summary": "look at the album, what kind of shoes would be best for running training in."}
{"id": "t3_2dgzng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [20/M] and I [20/F] have been dating for 3 years, but fighting a lot recently. Should I end it?", "post": "Hi I'd like to thank you in advance for taking the time to read this and hopefully give me some guidance.\n\nMy bf and I met in highschool and are now in college together. We have an amazing bond - like we just get each other. I've never been in a relationship with anyone who I can be totally unfiltered with; it's great. \n\nSo anyway, I've been really struggling the past few weeks with whether this relationship is worth pursuing. It's getting pretty serious - granted we are just barely non teens - and I don't want to take this any further if I don't see this working out in the end.\n\nI feel like we have been fighting a lot lately. I'm not really sure what the problem is, and I can never remember what we fought about a week later. But whenever we fight, I really do feel like he can turn a switch and suddenly not care about me anymore. This hurts me deeply. To say you love someone everyday and then be so cold? I'm a big believer in working things out and never going to bed angry, so I always try to come up with some kind of resolution. He seems to disagree..\n\nNow, we have actually talked about breaking up. I suggested that it might be better for both of us. That maybe we need to work on ourselves individually before we can work as a team. I am so torn on what to do because I feel like he's that one great love that I get in this life. The one that is full of passion, void of inhibitions; the love so raw that it hurts. \n\nI'm sorry for rambling. My head is spinning right now and I have no clue what to do. Is it time to let go?", "summary": "How do you know when love just isn't enough anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_2alxyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] forgot what day her birthday was?", "post": "The other day I was talking to my girlfriend of almost a year, when we somehow got to the topic of birthdays. Out of the blue, she asked me if I knew what day hers was. All I could do was guess the month (December), but not the day. She got really mad and told me when my birthday was to show she actually knew it, but I didn't think she was serious and took it lightly for a while. Maybe it's because I don't take birthdays too seriously or I was thinking that it's not like it came and went and I forgot about it (I remembered to celebrate it last year). She would barely talk to me the rest of the night, even when I asked her if everything was ok and such.", "summary": "Is she being unreasonable or am I a bad boyfriend for forgetting what day her birthday is?"}
{"id": "t3_445tvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "does it get better...", "post": "I'm a normal 23/F who has had her heart broken, when I say broken, it feels like it has been broken into a million different pieces and I have no hope of mending it. My ex bf M/24 broke up with me after 11 months because he wasn't ready for commitment and he was too young etc. Meanwhile, after a string of boyfriends I could see a future. I've kept my distance since the break up 4 weeks ago but I can't let go of this glimmer of hope that we will get back together. When we first met it was 2-3 months of games till we got together so I know it's possible. I've tried going on dates, meeting guys at bars, when I look at them I just see his face. If my glimmer of hope is just me being silly can someone tell me when will I be ok, when will I be myself again..", "summary": "ways to mend a broken heart"}
{"id": "t3_ntwnj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've made a huge mistake...", "post": "My friend and I have been friends since elementary school. Without delving too far in we started hanging out less around college but still share interests. In college I lived in the dorms fine and a house with 5 guys fine as well. More recently I've graduated and moved into a 1 br apartment and furnished it completely. A few months back I had a slight concern I wouldn't be able to fund it myself and looked for a roommate, naturally I turned to my friend. Unfortunately at that time he couldn't so I lived on my own. Since then I've been able to position myself to not need his help.\n\nWell a few weeks ago I forgot that he said at this time he would be interested in moving in. As a good gesture I mentioned it to him and the idea took. Now we are sharing a room in my small apt. I don't hate him or anything but I have grown to enjoy my solitude and the fact that I could have people over if I wanted. \n\nThe first few nights were fine bc he was on the couch, but now we split a room together. We picked up forms to make it official however we haven't signed or done anything with them yet. It may be selfish of me but I have grown accustomed to living on my own and being independent. I would like to have my apt back but I feel like it would be a dick move and I don't want to ruin the friendship.  Please help me reddit, you're my only hope!", "summary": "I live in a one bedroom apt and added a roommate I didn't need. Now I miss my freedom but we haven't made it official yet."}
{"id": "t3_3qvkya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] broke up with my GF [16 F] of 4 months, Tumblr has other ideas.", "post": "Hey all, kinda new to this so I'm not sure exactly what I'm doing, but I was hoping for some help. Hopefully I've come to the right place.\n\nSo basically, I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 months a few weeks ago. She was always really clingy and attached to me, even after I dumped her.\n\nWhile I was dating her, I made a Tumblr account by her suggestion, which is where my problem lies. When I dumped her, I made it very clear that I didn't want hide nor hair of her in my life anymore. But, she never bothered to unfollow my Tumblr, and it makes me slightly uncomfortable for a couple of reasons. The first one is entirely my fault -since she's still following me, I can't help but to keep checking back on her blog. This makes it really hard for me to forget her, and let her go, because no matter how many times I tell myself to stop looking, \nI can't control myself. The other reason can't really be helped -even though I made sure she knew I don't want any part of her in my life anymore, she still goes through my blog and likes my posts.  \n\nAll of this makes me really uncomfortable, but I'm not sure how to go about dealing with it. Should I just block her? Confront her? Am I overreacting? Am I being the dick here? I really don't know, and some help would be nice.", "summary": "Broke up with ex, ex still follows me on Tumblr, which makes me really uncomfortable -Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4bu9gp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Fianc\u00e9 accidentally signed up for credit card..", "post": "So my fianc\u00e9 was grocery shopping at the commissary and cashier asked him if he wanted to get what he understood was a points card. He even asked to make sure it wasn't a credit card because we are about to close on a house in a couple of months and do not want anything to affect our credit. She said it wasn't and he signed up. \n\nHe didn't think much of putting his SSN in because in the military it's your identity number and his rank and all showed up when he put it in, and then he discovered it was a CREDIT CARD. Is there anything we can do to dispute this. It's already popped up on his credit report and he doesn't want another credit card..", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 thought he was signing up for a points card but in fact was a credit card and we are closing on a house in June and don't want anything to affect his credit score. What can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_279d17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] I am impotent, and my future wife [26 F] and I don't agree on how we'll have children", "post": "I intend to ask my absolutely wonderful, amazing girlfriend of a long time to marry me in the near future. In addition to being very much in love, we have similar long term goals for our relationship, including what we would like our eventual family life to be. We would like to have children at some point, most likely after we both finish graduate school. However, due to an unfortunate condition, though one that I am now completely comfortable with, I am impotent. We both accept this, but this means that to have children, we would need to either adopt or use a sperm donation service.\n\nWe have discussed both of these possibilities in a vague sense, and she definitely seems to have a preference for the adoption route. Reasons she gives include her low pain tolerance, a desire to keep her body the way it is, and the belief that adoption truly helps a child in need. These are all good reasons, but for some reason, it is important to me that our child be biologically hers, that it is a piece of her, though I don't care that it won't be biologically mine. I would prefer that we sought out a sperm donor service so that our children could be at least biologically hers. I want my child to look like my wife. I sometimes doubt that I could truly love a child who did not come from the woman I love (though I know that people who adopt often think this, and are by and large proven wrong). I want to watch my wife's body change throughout a pregnancy and I want to be with her through all of the stages. For whatever reason, taking part in these life events are important to me.\n\nIs this desire selfish? I am being ridiculous? Should I discuss this with her explicitly, or is it not my place?", "summary": "she wants to adopt, I want to have (half) biological children, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_uqsxm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So a company printed off 500,000 flyer bags and distributed them... with my number.", "post": "So this is a bit of a odd question, and a bit of a moral one as well.\n\nA local company named ARC is in the Nashville area. They are similar to goodwill in the respect that they will pick up your clothes for a tax break.\n\nThe branch of the group here prints off yellow bags with their number here on the bag to call and schedule pick ups of the bags. (They employ mentally handicap members of society to do most of the labor of the company.)\n\nThey have put instead of their number on the bags, my cellphone number. In a slight defense to them it is only one digit off. However I'm receiving over 30+ calls a day from angry individuals wondering when \"their shit is gonna be picked up.\" \n\nAfter speaking with the district manager who thought I was lying and making the entire thing up until she went and found the bag with the wrong number on it she offered to take my phone number and =>> HAVE ME PURCHASE A NEW ONE FROM MY PHONE COMPANY <<=\n\nThis did not set well with me.", "summary": "Is it possible to sue for harassment for a non profit organization that employs mentally handicap individuals since they've printed my number on 500,000 bags and distributed them?"}
{"id": "t3_24xnpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my ex [25 M] of 6 mos, this is letting go", "post": "Dated my ex for about a year, we went on a few trips together, met each other's family and friends, and essentially lived together for a short period. I was going through some big changes with graduating college and finding a job that was fulfilling for me- my hopes and dreams were a bit unrealistic, and I only worked on and off during college so it was a stressful transition. Anyway, I leaned too much on him for emotional support because we were always around one another and I didn't consider the amount of strain it would put on the relationship. We had other problems, namely expectations of his friends and family. I'm kind of a proponent of the idea that expectations skew reality, but whatever, people still see what they're primed to see.\n\nI think we both wanted to take the relationship to the next level but the reality is that we're not logistically at the same point in life and we might never be. Thiiiis noob was always on my case about how I needed to be more assertive and secure in our relationship, but he didn't have the gall to do the same. He's an extreme people pleaser, and he's becoming a total beefcake who's been swept by the upgrade mentality. Patronizing jerk.\n\nI used to swear that we were made at the same time (close bdays). And If I could go back, I would teach little me all that I needed to know in order to be ready for him to come along- after talking with some of my favorite revolutionaries, because this is all fantasy anyway. \n\nNow, I know it's not entirely my fault that I didn't wake up to some realities until it was too late to make a 180, but it still sucks knowing that I was left because of some bogus preconceived ideas. Change takes time. Breakthroughs don't happen over night, Einstein!", "summary": "Ex came back after 6 mos to fill my head with nonsense and disappear, this is my reaction. More details in comments. Please reply if you've experienced problems with love or friendship that were related to outside forces."}
{"id": "t3_3dqjh5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] fancy my colleague [20 F] who has a boyfriend. Help", "post": "I have a girlfriend, who is away for the summer in a remote part of Indonesia doing a gap-year style conservation/trekking project. She's away for 6 weeks, and I haven't heard from her for a week (I presume this is because there's no signal in the jungle). \n\nWe've been together for 2 years, but our relationship has been extremely rocky. I've tried to hold it together, and in May we took a break in an attempt to salvage the relationship. We got back from the break, and we were fine, but soon after she left for Indonesia. \n\nI began a new job at around the same time, and whilst I wasn't looking for anything, I've developed a crush on one of my colleagues. She has a boyfriend of 1 year, but is also in a rocky relationship.  We've declared our mutual liking for each other, and have said we'll see how it goes.\n\nI'm just looking for an outsider's perspective. Am I right to start something new with the intention of splitting with my girlfriend on her return? Is it cheating if I intend to leave, and if so, is that such a bad thing? I've known this girl for 3 weeks - is that too soon?\n\nAny thoughts, comments, or shared experiences are much welcomed.", "summary": "I've fallen for my colleague who has a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2perrd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Struggling with a strange relationship/non-relationship FWB thing [22/f]", "post": "My best friend's girlfriend introduced me to a friend of hers on a blind double date setup a couple of months ago. That night went fantastic, we hit it off immediately, got a kiss goodnight, everything was looking up. We go on a few dates, walk in the park, dinner and a movie, etc and things continue to look up. The one problem we continued to have was not really communicating, we would not talk/sparsely talk for a week or more between dates, it seemed like we just didn't have a lot to talk about. We had sex, the sex was great, we both left extremely satisfied. But despite that, and the fun we had on dates, we continued to not really talk. Both of us, realizing this was strange, apologized for the lack communication and promised to improve. Yet we still kind of drifted apart I guess, meanwhile we still meet to have sex. I'm not sure who's fault it was really that we didn't talk as much as we should, probably mine regardless. So I broke it off,  so to speak, because I felt like we were both putting on a facade as far as the relationship side of things goes and I offered to continue our friendship. She was relieved to hear all of this as she was feeling the same way but she requested that we still be available to one another sexually if either of us was getting horny or whatever. We had an awesome productive conversation about it and agreed to be FWB for the time being. Fast forward a month and we have continued having sex once a week or so. Sex continues to be good. I know very well that she is not interested in more than a FWB relationship, and I remember a time very clearly when I honestly felt nothing toward her romantically but despite the logical side of my thinking telling me to move on, I feel an aching love-sickness especially now as her Ex is in town. I know that I should not feel this way, but I honestly cannot help but get that dreadful tight feeling my chest thinking about her with someone else. What do I need to do reddit? Any advice would be more than amazing, Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Blind date leads to attempted relationship which fails due to lack of communication and turns into a happy FWB situation. Apparently still have feelings for girl. What do."}
{"id": "t3_3e0w1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong for me [32M] to skip my sister-in-law's wedding [26F] so I can go on a once-in-a-lifetime guy's trip with my friends? Wife [30F] not happy.", "post": "I'll be honest. This wedding has been in the making for the last year, and the trip I want to go on is sort of last minute. I've never formally agreed to go to the wedding, but realistically it's always just been accepted as a given that I would be at the wedding since it is my wife's sister. \n\nOne of my college buddies just recently told our group of friends that he's going to Australia in October for business but plans to spend an extra week there just kicking around and exploring. One thing lead to another and two friends from our group decided to join him. I've wanted to go to Australia ever since I was in college, but I never could get a group together. It looks like that's finally happening! The problem is that I'll have to miss my sister-in-law's wedding because it falls right in the middle of the week we're planning to go, and it wouldn't make sense to leave early or go late. It's an expensive trip, but I can make it work. I think it would be money well spent. \n\nOf course my wife is not happy about this, which I can understand. She's very close to her sister, so I can see why the wedding is a big deal to her, but I don't think she really understands my position. I like her sister, but we're not close. The same is true for her fiance. I have nothing against them, but the only reason I would be going is for my wife. Normally, I'd be okay accepting this, but I have a chance to go on an awesome trip with good friends that I don't get to hang out with that often. I think I'm justified in wanting to go and am being both reasonable and fair.", "summary": "I have a chance to go on an awesome trip with my friends to Australia. Wife doesn't want me to go because I'd miss her sister's wedding."}
{"id": "t3_478vzx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Ruining My Girlfriend's Birthday Surprise", "post": "This is one of the few cases where I officially hate technology.\nSo my girlfriend's birthday is coming up in March, and as I did last year I wanted to go all-out with another impressive gift (last year it was a New 3DS and Majoras Mask). Ive wanted to buy her a", "summary": "My girlfriend's mom played my text about her birthday surprise out loud in her car."}
{"id": "t3_j1v9x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Parents/College Students of Reddit: How did you deal with your/your parents' empty nest syndrome?", "post": "I am leaving for college in about three weeks, and my mom is already freaking out quite a bit. In fact, she has been getting progressively more upset ever since I graduated from high school in June. I feel awful because I know that she's upset, but it's really starting to drive me up a wall. Some background:\n\n* I am my mother's only child. After breaking up with my father, she eventually got married to my stepdad. They have decided not to have any more kids, though she does have two small dogs to nurture.\n* As my mom has pointed out, I have been in her life longer than she's been without me. (My mom got pregnant at 17, and I'm currently 18.)\n* My stepdad has a strange need to update me every time that my mom cries or gets upset about my leaving, and the guilt is really getting to me.\n* Both my mom and my stepdad seem to have some jealousy over the amount of time that I spend with my boyfriend, which I find to be unreasonable because I'm usually out with him when they are at work or in the evenings, when they are tired and reading or sleeping. The guilt over this is also starting to get to me.\n* I suspect that all of this is complicated by the fact that my college is about a 14-hour drive from my home.", "summary": "What are the best ways to deal with a parent who is experiencing empty nest anxiety? As a parent, what would make letting go easier on you?"}
{"id": "t3_2xzbj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my friend [16M] is breaking up with his girlfriend [16F] because he's actually gay and I want to give him some comforting advice. Any suggestions?", "post": "Basically the title but I'll elaborate. So my friend has believed he's bisexual for the past 3 years, but he didn't come out until about a month ago. For the past year, he's been in a relationship with his girlfriend and they were doing really well. The problem is that after coming out as bi, he ultimately realized that he's actually gay. He still loves her in a romantic way, just not in a sexual one and he knows it's unfair to continue to date her if it'd be unfulfilling for both of them. He's breaking up with her on Saturday, but he's hurting really badly. Anything I can do to help him?", "summary": "friend is gay and breaking up with girlfriend and I want to comfort him."}
{"id": "t3_1y9exz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boss (m/35) treats me (f/25) like crap -including calling me \"ugly\"- but talks wonders about me to others. Am I being oversensitive?", "post": "Please give me your opinion on the following: I have been working for my boss for over a year now. He makes it clear he does not like me on a personal level. Examples are:\n\n- he avoids talking to me as much as he can. I have tried initiating conversation with him but he always ends it by saying we should get to work and/or rolling his eyes at me. He has no problem talking about his personal life with other people. I want to make it clear that I am not a gossip, nor do I talk incessantly about personal problems. I mean general superficial chat such as a movie that I watched at the weekend.\n\n- he is \"aggressive\" towards me. He has insulted me in front of my colleagues such as calling me ugly as well as a number of other attacks. I want to make it clear than I have not provoked these attacks and that they seem to come out of nowhere. When he called me ugly somebody called him out on it and diffused the situation so I did not even have to react. The other times I have merely continued on with the conversation as if I had not heard anything. These attacks always happen with the same crowd of 4 people (who I am on good terms with as proven by the fact that they told him off when he called me ugly).\n\nHowever, apparently he speaks highly of me to other people in the company. I have been aproached by other managers because he has told them that I was \"incredibly good\" at my job. I am also \"incredibly confused\" by this. I would not expect my manager to be my best friend but I also do not expect to be insulted at work. Any idea as to why this is happening? Obviously no HR department where to take this.", "summary": "boss treats me like crap but talks wonders about me to others. I am generally confused."}
{"id": "t3_1tba2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "need advice! I [18 M] need help with this girl [16]", "post": "So I met this girl about a year ago and gotvthe balls the ask her out on a date and it was fantastic. And at the end of the night we kissed. And it was fantastic. But after that it was just down hill I mean we talked but that was just it.  \n     \n\nAt least once a month a buy her roses to let her know I care. I know I'm only 19 but she's defiantly someone I could spend my life with. I could get all sentimental on you but I don't think reddits the place for that. My be a nice coffee shop... but anyways it seems like shes into me but I don't if I should act on it. I was think trying something new years? Someone help?", "summary": "I really like this girl and I think she may like me but I'm not sure"}
{"id": "t3_3jilwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tomorrow is my birthday [30M], and I'd rather just pretend that it didn't exist instead of my wife [28F] and friends doing anything about it.", "post": "When you're a kid, you look forward to birthdays.  Your friends and family do something special for you, you get a few cool presents, and have something to eat.  \n\nBut now that I'm older, I'd rather pretend that my birthday doesn't exist.  I fear getting older and irrelevant, and hate knowing that my youth is behind me.  A few of my friends are around five years or so younger than me, and it's so cringe-inducing when I realize that they aren't familiar with the movies or music that I grew up with.  Turning 30 tomorrow is a milestone I'd rather not have to deal with.  I really am turning into a damn old man, at least mathematically, and I hate it.\n\nI've always gotten kind of depressed in recent years when my birthday is coming up.  It reminds me that I'm drifting further into irrelevance, that my best youthful days are behind me, and that another year has passed without me doing anything great with my life.  I'd rather just not acknowledge it.    In my head, I'd prefer to think that I'm still 19 years old without a care in the world.  Of course, a 40 hour a week office job and a mortgage makes that impossible, but at least I can dream.\n\nMy wife brought it up last week and asked what I wanted to do for my birthday.  I told her I'd just like to have a nice drink at home and watch a movie with her or just grill out some burgers with our friends or something like that.  But I know that they've probably got something crazy planned since I'm turning 30, and I honestly just dread it.  I don't know how to approach it, and I'm already kind of a nervous wreck over getting older anyways.  I feel guilty about it because I know they mean well, which is kind of hitting me and making me even more depressed about the whole deal.\n\nAnyone have any suggestions on how to approach this?  How did you deal with a big age milestone?  Did it make you depressed too?  How do you suggest I go about this?", "summary": "I'm turning 30 tomorrow, and getting older and irrelevant is making me depressed.  I suspect my wife and friends have something planned for me as a surprise, and I'd prefer to not acknowledge how old I'm getting."}
{"id": "t3_4vhdi9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M/] with my girlfriend [17 F] of 5 months, managed to tell each other we loved each other and then proceeded to get into a fight within minutes, help!!!", "post": "I had been thinking of telling her I loved her for a while now and finally gathered the courage to do so, and she said it back and genuinely believe we both meant it(as much as teenagers can mean it, I know I know). Then a minute or two later she gets a text from her camp friend(male) who last summer/fall she really liked and they made out drunkenly one night. She claims to have gotten over him in November-ish right around when we started talking more frequently. \n\nApparently he started ignoring her after being introduced to a few of her friends and we officially started dating right when their relationship exploded and they didn't speak at all for quite some time.\n\nEventually, the truth came out that he \"ignored her because he never liked her and didn't want to lead her on\" and that her best friend drove from Connecticut to NJ just to hook up with him behind my girlfriend's back.\n\nSkip to around June, and my girlfriend has confronted both this guy and her friend about the situation and is repairing both the relationships. She's basically acting as his therapist, offering him all this advice on him and this other girl, and he wrote her this massive paragraph telling her that she was amazing and to not ever change, which of course pissed me off.\n\nShe is constantly getting texts from him whenever we hangout and it honestly was just driving me to the point of insanity. Maybe that's a fault in me that I can't accept she truly no longer has feelings for him but when I saw that message from him it was the tipping point and she handed me the phone to read what he said I replied \"F*ck off\" which maybe wasn't the smartest decision ever but it's what I did.\n\nSo Reddit, is it unfair of me to ask her to cut off all communication? She said she's not willing to just stop talking to one of her best friends, but do I have to make this a \"me or him\" kind of moment? What's a fair compromise in this situation?\n\nThank you!!!", "summary": "I told my girlfriend I loved her, then moments later a past crush/hu/friend? texted her asking her to spend the entirety of next Summer hiking in Africa because there's no one else in the World he'd rather hike it with, which I reacted very poorly to."}
{"id": "t3_319byi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "San Francisco rent controlled apartment, replacing a current tenant (one will stay)", "post": "Hi all, kind of a specific question but I hope you can help me out.\n\nTwo of my friends are currently living in a cool apartment. One friend is moving to Chicago, and I'm planning to move in.\n\nWe obviously want to keep the rent controlled rent.\n\nIs there anything we need to look out for?\n\nThe leasing company has asked me to send my paystubs, ID, etc. and if they approve they will draw up documents for us to sign.\n\nThey have also said that they won't be getting involved with the monthly rent and security deposit.\n\nSO my question is - do I just submit this stuff? Do we need to clarify to them that I'm only going to be subleasing, and I shouldn't be on the lease agreement? Or is what they're doing standard procedure and they can't screw us over ... ?", "summary": "moving into friend's apartment in San Francisco that is rent controlled. Don't want to lose the rent controlled rent."}
{"id": "t3_2v9ubq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22f] just need to take a breath after a 'breakup' [24m]", "post": "This is so incredibly crazy, and it sounds worse when I type it out, but I think this might be cathartic. I met this guy on a dating app, and we chatted for a bit, and made plans to meet up yesterday. It was intense. Crazy intense. I'm not a fall in love at first sight type of woman, in fact I'm not even really a relationship person at all, and this whole thing has mindfucked me so hard. But this was something else, for both of us. It was just so quick and so powerful, I kinda don't believe it wasn't a dream. But the timing is so bad, we're both about to move in a couple of months, and so after a lot of talking today we decided to hold it off until we end up in the same state, if that happens. And then something I never expected happened, I started crying. Full on sobbing. And I couldn't control myself. It's literally been less than a week since I even knew he existed, and my heart is shattered. I have no fucking clue what is wrong with me or this situation, but I could seriously use someone to listen to my ridiculousness since I'm too embarrassed to even tell my friends, this whole thing was so short. Or just some kind words. I just don't know what to do and I'm sitting here crying and I need something to grasp onto.", "summary": "Crashing after falling hard for a guy basically at first sight."}
{"id": "t3_251n6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [27M] of 3 years, how do we improve our relationship?", "post": "We've been together for 3 years and living together most of that time. For the most part our relationship is pretty great. We get along really well and are pretty much best friends but we have differing opinions when it comes to affection, and sex. \n\nHe feels that I expect too much and I feel that I don't get enough affection. I admit that my expectations are pretty high when it comes to this, I'm a really needy person and I admit that and try my best to keep it in check but honestly I'm having a tough time with it. I keep blaming him and making snide little comments and I don't know how to stop.\n\nIt's a vicious circle, I keep pushing him away with my nagging and bitching so then he doesn't want to cuddle me or show me the affection I crave for. He's generally not a very affectionate or emotionally open guy. It takes a lot for him to open up and explain to me how he feels. \n\nI try to be as patient as I can but I am just not a patient person. I've improved so much over the past 3 years but this issue keeps coming up. How can I stop myself from making those snide comments (basically blaming him and saying he doesn't give me enough love)? What can I do to fix my issues so that I'm not pushing him away all the time? What can we do together so that I feel like I get enough love and affection and so that he doesn't have to hear my bitching and moaning?", "summary": "How can I be more aware of myself so that I stop pushing him away?"}
{"id": "t3_2bjxyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18, M] Girlfriend [16, F] confessed to kissing someone else, but my friend insists she had sex with him. Help?", "post": "So, I've been away from home for 7 weeks. I've been in rehab, and my girlfriend has been very supportive.\n\nAbout one month ago, she confessed that she kissed this guy, imagining it was me. She then went home and cut her arm really badly, which isn't really surprising as she has a history of self harm. She has been getting better but that fucked her up really badly. \n\nAnyways, she was completely honest with me and told me she did it. I was incredibly hurt, and cried, and was angry. I could never do anything to hurt her, she is literally the only girl I've ever loved. (I know at my age this isn't special but at this point its true.)\n\nToday, I got out of rehab and was talking to a friend and he said he knew more than I did and that my girlfriend had actually fucked this guy.\n\nI called my girlfriend and we talked and I asked her. She said she didn't have sex with him. She got really emotional, scared I was leaving her or angry. Everything has been really hard for her lately and has been struggling with depression more so than usual. \n\nWe decided to be completely honest with each other, always, so I believe her... but of course there is this nagging doubt. I realize guys brag about shit like having sex with girls, even if they didn't have sex with them. Hell, when I was younger I did that (for what reason besides ill-fated ego boosting, I don't know). \n\nI'm just really scared and I need advice. Thanks all.", "summary": "Gf kissed guy. Friend says they fucked. Gf denies. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2625ko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] unsure of what I want relationship wise.", "post": "I broke up with my first girlfriend 2 months ago after 3 years and was devastated. We both had mental health problems. She had anxiety towards school and relationships (I believe). I had motivation issues. The relationship stressed me too much and I felt like I couldn't focus on school. To make a long story short, I broke up with her after a long falling out. Shortly afterwards, she did some things that I didn't expect possible for her that shocked and hurt me. This was before I started no contact. \n\nI've been feeling better now, I don't think about her much if at all. I still feel a lot of pain if anyone brings her up in conversation though, especially in terms of the guys she talks to. I've been meeting a lot of new people including a few women that I've considered a romantic relationship with but I'm scared of pursuing and committing. I'm a serious person and I don't really understand the \"just getting to know each other casually\" type of dating. If I ask a girl to hang out, I'll only focus on her, and not see anyone else, I'll be committed before even getting to know her :/ \n\nI'm looking for advice to figure out what I want. How can I make dating less scary? How do I know that I'm ready to be in a relationship again? How can I give less fucks about my ex and stop feeling pain in the rare instances when she's brought up in convos.", "summary": "read last paragraph"}
{"id": "t3_1hdp62", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "What if I don't want to do this? (Possibly long)", "post": "My Groom and I are already legally married, and our marriage is great. We got engaged about 3 months before a courthouse wedding, and then the Marine Corps sent us back to California, away from our family and friends is Florida. We should be coming home for good in about 9 months, and we were planning a ceremony near our 2 year anniversary, close to a year and a half from now. However, I just feel disenchanted about it. I feel like no one will come, because we're already legally married. It's his family that's pushing it, and I understand why. I just feel like it's a lot of time and money for a couple that's transitioning out of the military. It's not that we don't have the funds, or expect his family or mine to pay for it, it's just that we feel like perhaps it would be better spent elsewhere. \n\nI see everyone else's post here and I think the dress/menu/invitations are perfect for the couple but I don't know if we'll ever find what's right for us. I used to be so excited for this, and then I made the mistake of frequenting the knot, and many of the other brides felt like we weren't entitled to a ceremony. Maybe we aren't. I'm not wedding worn down from looking at shoes/venues/ suits. I just feel overwhelmed.  Please explain to me that I'm not crazy. Do you think actual planning will help me become excited? What has helped you?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I'm not excited about my wedding, but I'd like to be."}
{"id": "t3_r9qzu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, share your best or most interesting story of electrocution (accidental or otherwise.)", "post": "I'll go first:  \n\nAs a young lad, while snooping around my fathers closet I came upon an old black light in a faux wooden housing.  Being a curious kid, I immediately grabbed this relic of the early 1970's and headed straight for the bathroom to you know, look at my teeth pretend like I was on CSI.  I snuck the black light out of the back of the closet and crept into the bathroom making sure to lock the door.  I plugged in the black light and turned off the bathroom light.  \n\nIt was amazing!  I looked in the mirror at the pair of floating teeth in front of me and decided the black light was a most excellent discovery.  I continued to investigate the bathroom and discovered toothpaste stains and other cool stuff.  I then decided to take another look at my teeth.  I leaned in towards the mirror and peered into my mouth when I felt this strange sensation on my.. manhood.  No, it wasn't orgasmic black light pleasure, it was an intense burning, convulsing, horrible pain.  I yelped and jumped back from the mirror in shock, quickly finding the light switch I investigated my junk and after insuring everything was as it should be I took a closer look at what had happened.\n\nIt turns out, the cord to the black light was insanely frayed and it had come to rest in a pool of water that was on the edge of the counter from someone washing their hands.  When I leaned against the counter, the water seeped through my jeans and fried my jimmy.\n\nI was too embarrassed to say anything to my folks so I hid my shame with the black light and put it back in my fathers closet never to be spoken of again.  Until now of course.\n\n**[", "summary": "I electrocuted my penis on while playing CSI/Dentist.]"}
{"id": "t3_1g5grc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My live-in partner of ~2 years [27M] and I [23F] have hit a rough patch. How do I know if it is time to talk about ending the relationship?", "post": "My relationship with my boyfriend (~2 years) has been great. We have had a lot of fun together and we have been respectful and honest throughout the relationship. For the past month or so there has been a change. We are shorter with each other, we aren't as physical, and we seem to be generally less excited to be around each other.\n\nI have been considering bringing up the end-of-relationship talk. However, I am incredibly unsure if that is even what I want or is best for us. This past month of lackluster relationship could conceivably be a rut that we need to wait out. I have been unemployed for three weeks and I know that I don't feel like the best version of myself. Maybe my own insecurity is being reflected in our relationship.\n\nHe gets home in a couple hours and we will have to talk about our unfinished disagreement from this morning. He didn't sleep well so I did the morning chores so that he could sleep in. When he did get up he was short with me because I didn't make the dog a raincoat and he swears he asked me to do it weeks ago but I had absolutely no memory of him asking. I was really surprised that we were disagreeing over a silly and easily rectified miscommunication and was hurt that he was blind to the ways in which I was actively trying to make his life easier. We didn't get to finish talking it out because he had to go to work. It just seems like there has been one silly disagreement after the other that we have to work out. We never let the little stuff bog us down before.\n\n**So my question is this, r/Relationships-** How do I know it is time to start talking about the end of an otherwise loving relationship? Furthermore, how do you end a relationship well?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend but we seem to be drifting apart. How do you know that a relationship has come to its most natural end? Is there a good way to end a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2fcny7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23/M, Feels alone and wants a relationship but just has friends with benefits instead and has sex to mask the feelings I want? What's up with me", "post": "I Feel deep down I know I want another relationship after going through a bad break up many months back, But instead I always talk to girls and sleep with them and never want to commit. Why? I feel they are missing that X factor, but I have no idea what it is so why do I have sex with them to mask the emotions I want to have. Why can I not wait until I find the right one. I am pretty attractive guy but can never find what I am looking for. I think I may be going crazy haha", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1qvkvc", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My 3 yo rescue started to pee in the house. Help?", "post": "I got him last February. He is a Pitbull mix and has a close to perfect behavior. Just not with cats and squirrels and recently.. well he pees in the house.\n\nWe moved 4 month ago and he didn't have any problems to get used to the new environment but when he is too excited he starts peeing, a lot. I take him out 3 times a day and he was fine with that in the past. I thought it could be cause he needs to go out more often but whenever I take him out additional times, he can barely be convinced to pee and only marks territory.\n\nOccasions he pees at:\n\n- being too excited (e.g. if we pet him within 10 min off coming home)\n\n- being unsure? (e.g. I tried to put him into an pullover)\n\n- being scared? (I yelled pretty loud cause I hurt my foot and about 1 min later he started to pee without other obvious reasons)\n\n- being overwhelmed (e.g. I ask him to get his ball, he runs to it but doesn't bring it, so I repeatedly asked him to bring it = peeing)\n\nWe are living on the 3rd floor so I can't just run out with him when he starts peeing and reward him for going outside (besides that, he knows he is supposed to pee outside, I don't think that's the problem).\nWhat I usually do is tell him to go in his crate and clean the floor/ignore him for a while.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "Dog is house broken but started to pee when he is too excited/nervous etc.."}
{"id": "t3_1eq6rg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Ex GF's meth addict mom moved in to our vacant apartment with her BF under my GF's name without permission.", "post": "So we broke up a month ago and she moved out and left me there, I decided to put in the 30 days notice and just move home. \n\nNote: the 30 days was put in 4/16 so we were to be out by 5/16, no problem. \n\nAbout 5/10 and I'm sleeping in the apartment alone, it's almost completely empty and ready when my ex GF's mom shows up with a sob story about how she's homeless just quit her job (making 2000+ a paycheck) and just needed a place for a few days. Well she had helped me in the past so I said yes. Over the next few days I finished my packing told my ex about her mom and told her to take care of it. \n\nNow here we are my ex said her mom would move in under her own name and that she would talk to the landlord and everything and my ex believed her, I told her no way is that true and asked her to please call the landlord, turns out her mom lied and it's still in my GF's name.\n\nI'm really at a loss of ideas here is this even legal? As a side note she hired someone to break into and rob her last place a few months back then coincidentally while my ex was out of town her place was broken in to... Her mom called right away to let her know she would never do something like that....\n\nI'm sorry if this is jumbled I'm writing on my phone and honestly just confused and worried right now. So, advice?", "summary": "My ex's mom is staying in our old apartment without permission and I want to know how to get her the hell out?"}
{"id": "t3_4zv3uv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] girlfriend of two years broke up with me [23M] 8 months ago. During this time we have had an on/off relationship. Its been a week since i heard from her and now she says she's interested in another guy. What do i do?", "post": "My ex and I have had a beautiful relationship but was always soured by my lack of trust, insecurities, and selfishness. We broke up 8 months ago but during this time we still had sex and maintained intimacy. I just recently understand what my problems are in the relationship but by then its too late and she says she is interested in another guy. She still wants a great relationship with me but shes unsure if itll work out after all the damage and hurt we've been through. I dont want to pressure her into being with me. Should i let her go and let her explore these feelings in hopes that maybe she realizes im the better option?", "summary": "Girlfriend jumps to another guy she is interested in because she is unsure if our relationship will work."}
{"id": "t3_ypnvb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of Reddit, the Q: Would you forgive a cheater?", "post": "I know this has been asked millions of times but I'm interested to hear new opinions (preferably not rage-filled).  Guys and girls, would you be able to forgive your SO if he or she cheated? Would you be able to stay with that person and feel comfortable over time or would it be something that weighed on you on the constant?  \n\nPlease feel free to sound off in the comments and if anyone would like to ask me anything (I know I'm just asking a general Q but I'd be happy to dig deeper into why if anyone is curious) please feel free.", "summary": "if your SO cheated on you, would you be able to forgive (and stay with them)?"}
{"id": "t3_gj2oe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "recursive (recursive dreams) dreams.. I'm sure you've had them, tell me.", "post": "This happens to me quite a lot, it gets tedious sometimes.\n\nLast night for example:\n\nWake up, dry mouth, can't speak, get up to get a drink, noticed someone stealing my bike, accost him, he pulls a knife & proceeds to start killing me.\nShock realisation, I don't actually own a bike & don't particularly like being murdered, must be a dream.\nWake up, dry mouth, can't speak, get up to get a drink, noticed someone trying to steal my car, similar outcome only this time wrong coloured car & with a tyre iron.\nWake up, dry mouth, can't speak, get up to get a drink. think \"I'm not falling for this again\" ignore everything, try to wake housemate, can't make a sound, fuck, still dreaming..\nWake up, dry mouth, can't speak, get up to get a drink. ignore everything, just get drink.\nWake up this morning, find bottle I drank out of on table.\nHmmm, wtf?", "summary": "Even my mind thinks I'm an idiot & trolls me when I'm asleep."}
{"id": "t3_45sb9q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/F] can't tell if my first date went well for him [21/M] or not.", "post": "We met on tinder and we've been talking on and off for about 2 months now. We made plans in advance for yesterday and we agreed that it would be a date/hangout mix. He let me know in advance that these sort of things made him a bit nervous and that he's a little shy in person. He drove about 30 minutes to get here. \n\nSo as soon as we met, we grabbed some dinner. With better lighting, I could see him more clearly and he was super attractive. It was about 8pm when we got in, and we literally stayed in the restaurant until it closed at 11 just talking. He paid for the meal while I was in the bathroom. After that, we decided to just drive around. I asked him if he had to be home at any time and he said it really didn't matter. \n\nThe whole date was just a lot of talking and getting to know each other. Near the end of it there was a lot of humor and teasing. He asked me if this was one of my better Tinder dates, and I said definitely. I asked him if he would wanna meet again sometime and he said for sure. However, when the end of the date came (12:30am, my curfew),  and when we were sitting in front of my house, I was super confused with the body language. I felt as if I was being really awkward because I unbuckled my seatbelt and looked at him and lingered for a while. He did look into my eyes and at my lips a couple of times, but then he'd turn away and look out the window. We both awkwardly/nervously laughed.  I'm used to guys kissing on the first date it if goes well so I felt bad at this point and so I went home. Wasn't sure if he wanted to kiss or not so I didn't go in for it.\n\nHe texted me when he got home \"You're probably asleep, but, OH MY GOD. IM FINALLY HOME. Let's just say I'm stupid and made a very wrong turn lol\"\n\nWould he have made an excuse to leave earlier if the date was going badly? Do you think he's still interested?", "summary": "Met up with a guy I've been talking to on and off for 2 months, hung out from 8 to 12:30, but there was no end of the date kiss. Was he not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_19gyid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF (23) never trusts me (22) to do anything without her.", "post": "She's a really good girl, but has some deep trust issues and low self-esteem after she got cheated on with her previous BF. We've been together for two years now. \n\nThe problem is, she will see threats in pretty much anything from the lady on TV (I don't even have to find her slightly attractive), to colleagues and friends of mine of another gender. She also don't have too many friends herself, so anywhere I go, she usually goes. I've never minded this, as I enjoy her company and she gets along great with my friends. \n\nThe problems arise if I should ever want to hang out with the guys, or meet with other girl friends. She'll usually ask to join, which I find awkward enough since I can definitely take a hint whenever she'll go for a girls' night, but shit hits the fan if I tell her \"no\". She will turn this into a \"I didn't really want to go anyway, but since you so desperately don't want me around, it's very suspicious\". I don't know what to respond, and either end up bringing her (which kind of ruin the guys' night-vibe), or just cancel cause I don't want to deal with the bickering/suspicion. \n\nI'm starting to fear that if she can't trust me now (I've never given her a reason not to), she never will. And if so, how much more longer do i have to lose friends to build up enough trust to ditch the leash? While I can't deal with this the rest of my life, I feel so sorry for her and empathize too much to just stand my ground and leave her crying at home while I'm having fun. How can I make her understand that just because I sometimes want to do stuff/hang out without her, doesn't mean I sleep around?\n\nPlease help me out, before I end up detaching myself and give up the entire relationship.", "summary": "Girlfriend was cheated on in the past, and her trust issues is severely killing my 'freedom' to the point where it's either make-or break. She doesn't understand that just because I want alone-time, it doesn't mean I'm up to no good."}
{"id": "t3_2bjodc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Every time you giggle, I want to rip your clothes off.", "post": "Look, here's the deal. You just started working here about a month ago. You're tall, you're skinny, you have long blonde hair and freckles. You're 18 years old. All of those things would attract any normal 20-something male, but my tastes have often fallen outside the realm of normalcy. I never would've even looked twice under normal circumstances. You're really not my type - throughout my life, I've always found myself attracted to older, shorter, thicker brunette women with lots of tattoos.\n\nSo you start working here, and within the first couple days our paths cross. We end up in the smoking section together. Being the friendly guy I am, I introduce myself, we make some small talk, and I throw out a quick joke like I'm known to do. And then you start giggling.\n\nHoly. Fucking. Tunnel Vision.\n\nIt's the kind of giggle that professional porn stars would give their left tit for - the kind of giggle that divides nations and reminds hardened criminals that there is still beauty somewhere in this god-forsaken world.\nAll of a sudden, there's nothing and no one else around me except you, and all I want to do is hear that giggle in my ear while I no-pants-dance you all the way to sexual nirvana.\n\nSince then, you've been to a couple parties I've thrown (where you did a whole lot of underage drinking, you naughty girl you...), we've made out a few times and every time I see you at work you give me the \"take me out back and bend me over the dumpster\" eyes. But every time I try to seal the deal, you're suddenly too tired and can't hang out tonight.\n\nLook babe, I know you're young, I know you're naive, I know you're innocent. I don't care. I don't wanna marry you, I don't wanna fall in love with you, I just wanna tickle all your perfect little spots and get off to that giggle.\n\nYou melt me, 18-year-old co-worker of mine, and I really think we need to bang this out. Quit teasing, start pleasing.", "summary": "18. Giggle. Sex. Please."}
{"id": "t3_3dxbbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] can't get over boyfriend's past [25 M] relationship with his gf a year after they broke up", "post": "I really love my BF, but he told me something about his past a while back and I can't get over it.\n\nHis previous girlfriend cheated on him right after they started to live together. It's been several years since then, but he at first told me that they never had sex in the year they kept living together. Then he came out and told me they had sex everyday and he was high most of the time living with her, trying \"everything but meth\".\n\nI have gotten over it in some way by saying \"it was the drugs, it's not entirely his fault\". I am addicted to smoking and trying to quit, so I started vaping. I told him I didn't want him to do it too because it bothered me because I was worried he would do it as an escapist thing and it made me think about that past situation. I caught him doing it by the sound via skype and got really upset with him. He tells me I need to get over it, but gets jealous when I vape because a male friend gave me a unit (when I use his I hear the sound and get upset because I remember it). I just didn't want him to do it because I thought \"what happens if it's not enough\"? It would just be a gateway for him to do other things, and since he was previously using a lot of drugs I get really worried.\n\nI don't know if I am being too unreasonable. I just don't know how to get over it and it's killing me. I know it has nothing to do with me, but the fact that he was able to do something like that just drives me crazy. I don't know how to cope with this, but I do want to be with him. We are trying to have a longterm relationship and I have met all his family. I don't know if I am the fucked up one.", "summary": "BF tells me he fucked his exgf everyday for a year after they broke up. How should I cope with this?"}
{"id": "t3_g6wfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I end things because of poor communication?", "post": "I (male, 21) met \"Jen\" (19) at a college party in late January. We immediately hit it off, I got her number and we've been on a few dates since then. I think she's pretty awesome. We have a ton in common and she seems genuinely nice and \"together,\" if that makes sense. If I were to judge her solely by the time we've spent together I'd say she's cooler than anyone else I've ever dated, and I would love for things to progress into a more serious relationship.\n\nThe problem is she is absolutely terrible with the whole communication thing. It takes hours to get responses to text messages, phone calls go straight to the answering machine, and she's been borderline inconsiderate when it comes to keeping plans. Twice in the last month I've found out hours before we were supposed to meet (after I contacted her, not the other way around) that she can no longer hang out. She was also completely out of contact for a week after she apparently lost her phone, and now \u2013 while we're both at home for spring break \u2013 it's been three days since I left her a message and I haven't heard back from her. \n\nI want to give her more of a chance but I don't know if I should bother. Despite her phone/communication issues I think she's a legitimately great person and I really enjoy being around her. I am also certain that she likes me too, and I very much doubt that she's leading me along or anything. It seems like kind of a dumb thing to become the \"deal breaker\" but it has been incredibly frustrating. I just don't know if it's worth ending things because of it.", "summary": "Awesome girl, sucks at general communication/using cell phones."}
{"id": "t3_1p0jqm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f/20] feel really awkward being left alone with my boyfriend's [m/21] family.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and don't get me wrong I love his family and everything but I always sense that they don't like me. They're nice to me but it's always awkward when my boyfriend leaves the room with me alone with them. I have a child from a previous relationship, and they've all accepted that and love him but when it comes to me things are iffy. There's always awkward silences, and me trying to make awkward small talk which is really really hard for me since I am so socially awkward it hurts, and introverted. Whenever I say anything their response is always \"Mhmm\" and I feel stupid for opening my mouth. I hate being this way and I try so hard not to be awkward and stupid infront of them but they usually avoid me. Is it me? How can I not be so awkward?", "summary": "I can't be left alone with my boyfriends family without wanting to shoot myself for being extreme awkward penguin."}
{"id": "t3_2pumiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know how to have friendships- or how to interact with people (F 19)", "post": "Alright guys, so here's the deal. I am nineteen years old, and I've learned a lot this past year about things I need to learn in order to become a healthy, happy adult.\n\nOne of these things is coming to terms with the fact that my relationship with my family, especially my mother, has been emotionally abusive.\n\nThis lifelong relationship has basically fucked me up, and I have an incredibly hard time putting my trust in people. Hard to be vulnerable to anyone when you've been hurt so many times by your primary caregiver, y'know?\n\nBut I want to change. I want to change so that I can be happy.\n\nI am INCREDIBLY lucky to have a boyfriend who is kind and loving and endlessly patient, and his unconditional love has made me try very hard to be the same kind of person to him. Seriously, I feel like I won the lotto. God is real, my boyfriend is proof.\n\nRight now we are in a long distance relationship while he is off at college. I still live at home. My plan is to get my associate's degree, get a job, and get the heck out of here. \n\nI dream about a life where I am surrounded by loving and accepting people who I can count on and cry to. I'm so tired of holding things inside. I want people to cuddle with.\n\nI WANT healthy friendships. But truthfully speaking, I am very, very scared. I don't know who to trust- I don't know how to gauge if a person is trustworthy or not. I don't want to get hurt anymore.", "summary": "Abusive parents make it really hard to connect with other people. I want to make IRL friends, but I'm scared. Words of support would be really great."}
{"id": "t3_27zorz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21/F] ask the guy [24/M] I'm seeing to take down his \"single\" status on Facebook?", "post": "I've been seeing a guy pretty consistently (about once a week) for around three months now. I'm pretty inexperienced in terms of relationships, and I brought up exclusivity way too early (at around the 4th date), because we started doing physical things, and I wasn't that comfortable doing them without exclusivity. When I asked then if he was looking for exclusive things, he sheepishly said, \"I don't know.\" But then he said he really respected that I didn't want to do physical things without exclusiveness--that it was rare for this time and place... (um, ok.)     \n\n     \n\nAnyway, it seems like he's been leaning more toward exclusiveness in the last two months. When I found his okc profile, which he hasn't signed on to since Jan, he said, \"maybe I should take that down.\" I think I shrugged in response, and said a half-hearted, \"yeah.\" He also said, \"I'm not seeing anyone else, if that's what your'e afraid of.\"      \n\nRecently, I texted him, \"do you want to see other people?\" and he said, \"not necessarily. I mean, I'm not approaching people in grocery stores anymore.\" (That was how we met...)      \n\nI was like, \"ok,\" or something like that. I honestly don't even know if I want to be exclusive with him, it's just that things have gone further physically than I'm comfortable with without exclusivity. (I lost my v-card to him...) It's not that it means that much to me or whatever, I just feel like because it's the first time I've done it, I'd like some exclusivity.      \n  \nSorry for the ramble! Anyway, I just wanted some opinions on whether it's reasonable to ask him to take down his \"single\" status on Facebook. Not to put \"in a relationship,\" but to just leave it blank.", "summary": "Girl who's relatively inexperienced with relationships wants to know if she should ask the guy she's been seeing to change his \"single\" status on Facebook to blank."}
{"id": "t3_2nztjj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my (28f) ex (32m) is having a kid, and now all I want is to sleep around and I'm very depressed.", "post": "I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity.\n\nNow though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this.", "summary": "I'm extremely jealous of an ex having a kid, and I pretty much don't know how to handle this and I'm afraid it'll sink me into a deep depression. advice?"}
{"id": "t3_48b03i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [24 F] and I [24 M] seem to have irreconcilable views about our futures and an expiration date appears to have suddenly surfaced. How to proceed?", "post": "**Background:**\n\nAlmost 3 years in the relationship with the last year currently being long distance. Our relationship will continue to be long distance for many years (4+) due to medical schooling. My girlfriend has many past issues involving feelings of abandonment. She is a very particular person who can overthink things at times, but understands herself very well. \n\n**Issue:**\n\nI recently learnt that she does not see marriage in her future and would firmly choose career over relationship if push comes to shove. I believe that I do see marriage in my future and we have discussed our differing views about this issue. Barring the difficulties of an extended long distance relationship, I feel like an expiration date has appeared on our relationship, whether it be in a few months or a few years. I feel very sad that a committed romantic relationship with her may not be possible.\n\n**Concerns:**\n\nI have been trying to wrap my head around this and have thought about having the relationship end earlier rather than later, but this has definitely been very difficult to follow through (especially since we have some future commitments in the summer). \n\nI believe that she is willing to continue this committed long distance relationship (but there's always the possibilities of feelings changing or meeting someone new in addition to the barriers of a LDR) and have also thought about continuing to give my all for the relationship (and hoping a solution will be found in the future).", "summary": "Girlfriend does not see marriage in our future. Continue with the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_oxgr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I haven't seen a lot of them on Reddit but they're my favorite kind of stories. Please tell me a poo story!", "post": "I only have one and it's alright... I guess.\n\nSo when I was younger (7-9ish) I had bowel problems and my shit constantly clogged up. We went to the doctor and he said we should get it x-rayed. So I get it x-rayed and it turns out I had shit clogged about halfway up my stomach region. The doctor said if it reaches my heart I would die. He also was so surprised that he holds up the x-ray and says 'He's full of shit!' I pissed myself laughing at this, I think the reason I laughed so hard was because of his accent. So anyway we kind of get this issue sorted by getting me some good old laxatives! Had to take 1 tablet 3 times a day and that unleashed chaos on our poor toilet bowl. Skipt to a few weeks later, a girl I had an eye for had a grandmother who was getting married. We got invited but for whatever reason I was embarrassed about taking my laxatives in front of my crush. So I saw no harm in taking 3 in the morning. Cut to about lunch time, her grandmother is now married and all the kids are in the pool having a blast. This being the appropriate time and age to wear speedos I jumped in the pool with them. Swam for a few minutes before I felt the need to do a minor fart, so I let it out but I feel something more. I jump out of the pool and ran into the house. The damage was nothing like I'd ever seen. It was sludgy and could probably been mistaken for chocolate if not for the smell. I just sat in there and cried till my mom came to the rescue!", "summary": "Had bowel problems. Shit was clogged to about the bottom of my ribcage. I took 3 prescriptive laxatives and shat my speedos in the girl I had a thing for's Grandmothers pool on her wedding day."}
{"id": "t3_4hcm4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A [29, F] girl I started dating (1 month) wants to be friends with benefits now that I told her that I [25, F] don't see myself in a relationship with her. Am I crazy to pursue it?", "post": "She's fairly attractive, I like hanging out with her, and the sex is awesome, but I felt myself shutting her out. I told her that I wanted to just be friends and she suggested FWB. \n\nI'm not really ready to be in a relationship with anyone.  I have loved being single for the first long duration of time in my gay life. I also will likely be moving in a year, so I don't want anything to hold me back (in a relationship, I consistently give up leaving my home state). I think a FWB might help me stay single while also letting me safely enjoy intimacy.\n\nI'm not super concerned about falling for her because she isn't truly my type. She's butch, and I like femmes. \n\nShe also seemed super cool with us not being a thing anymore. She's only been with two women, both as part of relationships, so I was surprised how chill she was with the news.", "summary": "Am I crazy to start a FWB relationship? I want to be friends with her, but what boundaries should I enforce?"}
{"id": "t3_rs1y4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Father's custody of an unborn child, without being married?", "post": "Looking for some advice on the topic, or specifically if someone knows a good lawyer in the Riverside, CA area for this, that would be awesome.\n\nMy step son is having a kid, and the mother-to-be is the victim of harassment by him.  He has a history of domestic violence when he lived with us (I had him arrested as a minor), and he has a history of domestic violence with her.  They are unmarried, and he is now threatening 'all out war' to get full sole legal custody of the child when she is born.  He is even pushing to break a restraining order, and get an early judgement on visitation and custody rules.  \n\nHe has threatened to retain a lawyer, which there is a 75% chance he can not afford to do and is using it as a stalling tactic.  A new restraining order hearing was postponed today when he said he was retaining counsel at the end of this week, and it has been pushed to mediation (for custody issues, not RO issues).\n\nHe's great at playing the system and the people that work inside of it.  I am all for getting her a lawyer to fight against this but I am wondering just what we're in for.\n\nHe will not be named on the birth certificate.  \nThere is no paternity test, just that they both agree it is his.\nHe has no stable support system or family to help him out.\nShe is surrounded by a supportive family, and his mother and myself.\n\nIs he facing an up hill battle here to get visitation and possible custody, or is she?", "summary": "= Boy meets girl.  Boy knocks up girl.  Boy beats up girl.  Boy threatens girl.  Boy wants to take girl's kid away.  Girl needs help keeping kid."}
{"id": "t3_2khkua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] light a fire under my new roommate [24F]?", "post": "Hi r/relationships!\n\nLooking for a little advice here. I just moved into a new apartment (in a new city) last month with someone who is also new to the city. I will call her Alex. Alex is the \"master tenant,\" so I pay her my portion of the rent, and then she pays the total sum to the landlord. I paid the security deposit when the previous tenant moved out, so Alex verbally agreed to give me my portion back when we move out (since I'm not technically on the lease).\n\nSince this was a verbal agreement, I decided to write up a form detailing out what we have each spent, and what will be owed to us by the time we move out. I have repeatedly (like, every night for the last two months), asked her to sign this form. Since we don't know each other well, I thought a binding agreement would make us both feel better about splitting the cost of the apartment, and when I brought it up she seemed to agree. Although Alex seems willing to sigh, though, she keeps saying she needs to \"look it over before signing,\" and then I never hear about it again. She has also mentioned wanting to \"add in some other points\" (which is fine), but, again, she hasn't actually signed it or come forward with her additional points.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on how I can get her to sign this form? Again, it only reiterates what we've previously agreed upon, and I've been trying for almost a month now to get it signed.\n\nAny help/advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "How do I (kindly) get my roommate to sign something we've already agreed to?"}
{"id": "t3_38nmvw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "New boyfriend - Can I trust this?", "post": "I've *very recently* been seeing this new guy. He's been wonderful, overall and we get along tremendously. We have the same sense of humor, we both have been on reddit and we're always laughing at each other. \n\nHowever, I do feel like I hold back a bit due to various horrible past relationships (having been cheated on multiple times has left me with somewhat of a trust issue). \n\nHe knows about the moderate issues I have trusting someone, especially in a knew relationship and he's continuously told me he'll be nothing like my exes. Anyway, here's the issue (or maybe not an issue, maybe because of my past, I'm over-reacting): \n\nThis morning, I was browsing reddit and I just decided to look at his account. I've found that looking at someone's posts and what they comment on when they're on here can give you a more in-depth understanding of the actual person. Anyway, I was just browsing his stuff when there were comments on multiple GW posts from him. \n\nHe was commenting on the posts of the fully nude girls and calling them gorgeous (this part doesn't bother me as much as the next things). He even asked one girl if she lived close to his city, another girl, when asked if he would sleep (not the word she used) with her, he said \"Yes. Very emphatically yes.\") \n\nI did ask him about it and what he says bothers me as well. When I confronted him, he said he only said it to brighten their day. He said, to him, it's just \"harmless playing.\" He also told me \"anything you want to do is up to you, I'm not going to push you\" which I have taken to mean if I want to end the relationship right now, he's perfectly fine with it. \n\nIs this something I'm over-reacting about because of my past history or is this something I should be concerned about? I know they are just girls on here but if he's saying that stuff openly on their posts, I can only imagine what his messages look like. These comments have been made in the past few days.", "summary": "New boyfriend has been on GW telling girls he would sleep with them, asking if they live near his city and various other things. When confronted, he says he's just trying to brighten their day and it's harmless fun. He also says anything I want to do with the relationship is completely up to me. Am I over-reacting or is this something I should be concerned about? I know they are just girls on here, but if he's openly admitting to those things on their post, I have no idea what his messages could be. These comments have been made in the past few days. "}
{"id": "t3_3flfhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting back with my ex", "post": "My girlfriend and I had a very strong loving relationship of 1.5 years, I am 18 and I am her first boyfriend whom she lost her virginity to. 3 months ago I went on my overseas experience and we agreed the before I left we would do long distance, unfortunately a week or so ago my girlfriend broke up with me saying she doesn't love me anymore (although I believe it's because we've had no physical contact, or that she's frustrated I'm on there) I followed the no contact rule and in just 2 days she messaged me saying she wants me back I accepted and then a few days she broke up with me again saying she doesn't love me (I believe it's because I allowed myself to look weak, she's not trying to screw me around she's just confused about her feelings) anyways I am in just in need of advice on how I should handle this second breakup she said she understands if I don't want to be friends with her and I said I do, however I have only let her contact me and have replied in a friendly and light manner. At this point I am wondering in order to make it more likely that I get her back as I am coming back from my travels in 1 and a half months and will be able to give her that physical contact whether I should continue being friends and have light chats or whether that we'll turn her off more and put me in the friend zone, or should I just drop contact with her for a month and then try talking to her after, I will see her again in 1 and half months anyways I just want to maximise me chances. Please help me out guys, thanks!", "summary": "long distance is putting a strain on the relationship I am returning to her soon and want to maximise my chances of getting her back"}
{"id": "t3_3j68bv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [17 M] and my Girlfriend [19 F] of 1.5 years are facing issues because of her parents.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for 1.5 years. Things have been going great until this past Saturday, when her parents and her got into an argument and her parents blamed me for her being \"negative\" (A common theme in their arguments, bringing my name up). \n\n(My girlfriend's parents and I have always had a rocky relationship. They don't like me because I do not like to party or drink like they do. They see this as a weird behavior I guess. )\n\nMy girlfriend and her parents got into a simple argument and my name was brought up as the cause for my girlfriend's \"negative\" attitude. My girlfriend later texted me saying she can't handle how her parents hate her because of their not liking me. She wants to break up with me because she can't pick me over her parents. I don't want to lose her, and she doesn't seem like she's fighting for us at all.", "summary": "Girlfriends parents don't like me and fight with her over it, she wants to break up so they won't hate her anymore. How do I mend the situation and make sure my girlfriend wants to stay with me?"}
{"id": "t3_kp712", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Computer software that monitors and block inappropriate material help?", "post": "So if you were to ask me last year I would be asking Reddit how to get around something like this, but since I have been deemed \"The New Computer Guy\" by my boss I've become in charge of setting up new computers for his small business. So I have no experience with this sort of stuff I am just the person who knows the most about computers at the company. What I need is a program That allows me to block time wasting, and inappropriate sites, and allows me to view what sites they are going to and how long they are there but still allows the user to download applications", "summary": "Looking for a program that That allows me to block time wasting, and inappropriate sites."}
{"id": "t3_1z65gc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [27 F] 3 months, I stopped talking to her and want to restart", "post": "We have been going out since about Thanksgiving and since around the new year I have been dealing with moderate to serious depression. So I wont want to talk to anyone, friends, family, anyone and I will be just a downer to be around. I told my gf and she was really supportive at first. Gave me my space and I told her what was going on. I had a little falling out with  her for a few days a couple months ago. Talked it over with her and we got over it.\n\n Fast forward to the beginning of this month and I started working construction again. So its early wake up and long, physically demanding days. So when I get home I just want to eat, shower, and nap because I'm beat and dirty. Well we don't see each other for two weeks due to conflicting schedules but were still texting and calling. Then comes another wave of depression...mainly due to Valentines Day and other personal reasons. So in my depressed state of mind, I don't talk to her, text her, and she doesnt say anything to me for about 12 days (2/13-2/25). I know shes pissed off at me at this point, as she should be. Well I texted her a few days ago and I said I wanted to to talk...she doesn't reply until today and has some short, pissed off wording. Well I let her know what was going on with me and it was my fault, I am sorry, I want to see you again, etc. All that good stuff. I'm being very real with what I'm saying. She sends back some half assed, non sincere text, \" Sorry youve been struggling. Wish you well.\" Thats all I got from her. Now I havent seen her face to face in about 4 weeks now.\n\nMy question is...Should I go about calling her this weekend about meeting up for a face to face conversation. Try to sort it out that way and not through texts/calls. Because I still have feelings toward her and want to see her, and I know she still has some toward me but obviously frustrated with me.", "summary": "I have been suffering through depression on/off the past couple months. Haven't seen gf in almost a month. Try to connect back with her and she isnt exactly pleased with me. But I want to see her and talk to her face to face about the matter."}
{"id": "t3_15u5gu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "M/28 dating 26/F. GF has trust issues with me. That Facebook stuff too...", "post": "Never thought I'd be posting something like this but I'm at my wits end. \n\nHave been seeing the woman of my dreams for about 5 months now. Just flew 15 hours to meet her parents in another country and we had the best time ever. Our holidays were nice nice and everything was great.\n\nYesterday morning, my GF woke up crying to me, telling me she is crazy. And that I was going to kill her. I thought she had cheated on me or something horrible but it wasn't as bad as I had imagined. But still a shocker of what she admitted to me. \n\nShe REACTIVATED my Facebook account. That means she had the password resent to my email address then logged into my Facebook after the new pswd was generated. So she could read my messages and whatnot. When she told me, I just stared at her and then kind of laughed it off, just because I didn't want to have a bad day before I had to go back to work the following. \n\nI was pissed inside. I knew she was insecure a bit but didn't think she'd do something like this. Just to clarify, I haven't given her any reasons to go snooping. I don't go out much. When I do it's once in a blue moon. I always answer my phone. I always text within a reasonable amount of time, and don't have randoms contacting me or anything sketchy to give her reason to be looking into me. \n\nI want to stick up for myself but don't want to ruin things by flying off the handle. In her defense she \"has to know everything and wants to know everything about me\".....which is fine, but I feel she is ruining something amazing between us. \n\nI don't want to distance us from each other but I feel betrayed and all that crap. I offered for us to see a counselor just to talk through things, but tha's pretty serious. But I am serious about her. \n\nWhat are your thoughts? I do love this woman and she loves me too, but I'm sad about this crap. Glad she admitted this to me prior to me finding out.", "summary": "GF reactivated my FB account. Admitted to me prior to me finding out. I feel betrayed. She's insecure. I want to work through this, but wow."}
{"id": "t3_18ha95", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "39/f, think IFU by having sex too quickly.", "post": "I'm a 39/f who went without sex for 5 years following a painful divorce. I did not have any clue about how to date, and my confidence was so low that I didn't even feel like a woman any more. Soooooo, I got sick of being overweight and eventually lost 35 pounds. \n\nMet a great guy when renting a U-Haul (he owns the rental place) and he flirted with me. I didn't think anything of it cause I didn't think he could possibly like ME. Then, he asked me over to watch a game one night...and we never made it to the end of the game. He apparently liked my body even if I didn't, and I was on cloud 9. Went out a couple more times, then he inexplicably dropped off the face of the earth for 4 weeks.\n\n  I was hurt, but took it philosophically and signed up for a dating site - I am very sexually oriented, so I found a few \"encounters\" and started to relax a bit and enjoy being single. \n\nThen, he called me up & we resumed a ?relationship? - and we truly like each other as people, but had sex every time we met (apparently strong attraction both sides)\n\nRecently texted me & said he wanted more than just sex, and wanted to get to know me more. I said I wanted that, too. He then said that it would not be in my best interests to spend more time with him. Huh? What? My brain hurts. I asked him point blank if he wanted to break things off, and he said \"by no means!\"\n\nI like him lots, he is a good person, he has brought himself out of a lot of dark places, and I didn't expect to like him so much. \n\nI think IFU by having sex with him too soon. Is it fixable?", "summary": "I had sex with a guy on the 1st date, thought it was casual at first, but feel more now. He says he does, too. Is it too late to back up & have a do-over?"}
{"id": "t3_4ds86w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my bestfriend[18 M] for life, is starting to date a girl that treated him bad in a past relationship.", "post": "My bestfriend, lets call him Carl is a womans man. He's never really had any issue getting girls. Carl isnt a big fan of partying either, sometimes he likes it, sometimes he doesnt. What im trying to say is, he always has a girlfriend and thats just the way its been. 1-2 years ago he broke up with his gf and then he was single up until Januari where he started flirting and, not dating but very close to dating a girl in his class.\n\nIve met the girl and shes pretty and nice and everything, but i think she treated him rather poorly. Not in a abusive kind of way, but more taking him for granted just because he liked her. \n\nShe got angry pretty quickly, and didnt like when Carl went out to party with us but she took every chance herself to go out and party. She never had any time for him but always had time for her friends and her partying.\n\nThis was about 2 months ago. She was at a party, me and carl was at a nightclub so it didnt really matter. Except she kissed a dude at the party. Not just a random dude either, but a guy that had been flirting with her for awhile. \n\nMorning after they had a fight and SHE \"broke\" up with him. He was ready to forgive her as long as it didnt happend again and everything. \n\nI told him to ignore her, just dont say a word to her, do absolutely nothing. He did, and now 2 months later she wants to get back together with him. \n\nMy problem here basically is that i dont like her, i dont think she deserves Carl but, Carl really likes this girl and i just want my main man to be happy.", "summary": "My bestfriend for life's \"ex\" wants to get back together, she treated him bad, but he wants her back."}
{"id": "t3_180pui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22f] am seriously confused about this relationship business...", "post": "Here's the background. I am from a pretty conservative family that doesn't believe in having more than one relationship and the one relationship that you're in better be the person you're going to get married to. Yes, it sounds extreme. It's how I was raised and I don't care much for it.\n\nPersonally, I have never been in a relationship or have been interested in being in one. I have liked people and have gone out but it never developed into anything more than just hanging out with them. \n\nThat being said, presently I have been hanging out/going out (whatever you guys would like to call it) with someone [23 M] since mid-January. We ended up going on the same trip with mutual friends. There, we started spending time with eachother. Both of us are attending the same school and majoring in the same field (I'm two years ahead and graduating.) We see each other everyday and are working on a large project together. \n\nI know that I have started to really like him. I am just confused about what his intentions are. He is really spontaneous and loves to decide to do things at a moments notice. He will randomly text me sometime during my classes saying that we're going to be going out to a lounge that evening. Or when I'm walking towards my class he will lock his arm into mine and say we're going to have dinner before the session begins. Every day either I ask him or he asks me what our lunch plans are. \n\nI love how things are going but I really do not want to friend zone him and vice-versa. Yesterday when both of us were working on our resumes, I noticed that a girl would repeatedly text him every few minutes. This has really annoyed me has completely thrown me off. Now I don't know if he's actually interested in her and I've been in the friend zone this whole time. I have no clue. His birthday is coming up in a few weeks so I am planning on taking him out to dinner. I'll see how it goes until then. \n\nRelationship experts of reddit, this can possibly be my first ever relationship/significant other. What can I do to find out (without obviously asking him) if he is interested or not.", "summary": "Never been a relationship ever, now that I actually like someone, dunno if its mutual."}
{"id": "t3_1d3h0c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think I'm falling for her, and I'm scared", "post": "I don't know if I'm falling for her, or I'm just confused. The topic of friendly sex has risen many times, but I don't want sex to change what we have now (friendship), even though I really want it. She doesn't want a relationship right now, but I don't want to live in regret. My shyness and anxiety tends to get in the way of everything. I think about her before I go to sleep, and when I wake up. The thing that's bothering me, is that I'm scared. I've never felt this way before. I just don't want to ruin a good thing, but at the same time I can't stop thinking about it.", "summary": "I'm falling for a friend, don't want to screw things up. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_44sfsv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] cousin [7 M] is an easy target for bullies but I don't know if I should do something.", "post": "First of all, I'm sorry if this isn't appropriate for this subreddit. I'll make sure to delete/repost if I get pointed  towards a better sub.\n\nSo my seven year old cousin is about to enter a new school. He's the kind of kid who bullies love to, well, bully. He likes things (shows and toys) that aren't exactly aimed for boys of his age.\n\nI personally couldn't care less if he likes Batman or Barbie. But even though I think that kids will always be mean little demons and that teasing/moking is part of growing up, I don't want him to get targeted too much. I'd obviously prefer sparing him that.\n\nOf course I don't want to tell him to just change how he is. Should I say something to him? Maybe tell his parents hoping they know what to do? (Which I highly doubt....)", "summary": "I don't want my little cousin being bullied at a new school for what he likes but don't want him to \"not be himself/loose confidence\""}
{"id": "t3_4xfm4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am feeling insecure because my boyfriend's [21M] ex is part of their tightly-knit friend group.", "post": "My boyfriend and his ex dated for about 2 years (from late high school to early college) and broke up a few years ago, but they've been part of the same tightly-knit friend group for years. They're all really close and see each other often, and they have a group chat constantly going. I'm not worried about either of them doing anything, and she's actually really nice to me. I'm mostly just insecure about the fact that they have more history together. She's really pretty and successful and just such a pivotal member of the friend group, and I feel out of place.\n\nI never had a high school relationship, and my only other relationship only lasted a few months and wasn't deep or emotional whatsoever. I've only ever had a deep connection with my boyfriend, so it just stings a bit knowing that they used to have something similar. To be honest, I'm mostly jealous of the idyllic high school romance that I never had... and I feel like I can't compare to that. How can I get over this?", "summary": "My boyfriend's ex is part of his tightly-knit friend group and it makes me really insecure. I'm jealous because he's the first person I've ever really been in love with, so it hurts thinking about how he had the idyllic high school relationship that I had always wanted with someone before me."}
{"id": "t3_2s4mtr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M25] A message to you [24F].", "post": "I am incessantly checking Whatsapp, to see when you were online last. In a way, it is my last dying connection to you. My hands hover over the keypad while the last shreds of dignity of self-respect peel my fingers back and a pleading voice in my head begs...no contact, no contact.\n\nMaybe to feel this way is validation and receipt for having experienced authentic and true love. But I do not want to wish this upon my worst enemy. \n\nThere is still a flicker of hope in the back of my mind that maybe you will change your mind and that maybe I will find you standing outside my apartment one morning, ready to start the next chapter of our life... ready to finally be 'us'.\n\n... Self-induced false hope. I have always considered myself a proud man, but the line between righteous and pathetic is increasingly blurred and for the first time in my life, I do not know which side I am standing on. I didn't know it was possible to hurt this bad.", "summary": "Take care L. I hope this is all worth it in the end."}
{"id": "t3_3nngqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Girlfriend (?) [17 F] for like a week, read comments (it's complicated).", "post": "So I'm 16. I never thought I'd realize what people meant about how it sucks, but it does. I'm trying to juggle crew rowing, 3 APs, and a social life. The stress is high. Recently, a lot of my friends have been talking about how they've started making out with girls, and I got a little jealous. I WAS 16 and I'd never kissed a girl before, and to be fair I'm a tad nerdy.\n\n   So yesterday I'm hanging out with my best friend, also 16 although he goes to a different school, and a good coxswain (someone who steers the boat) friend (girl), a senior at a different school than me. After I drop off my (guy) friend, I start driving her back home as well. Since we're actually good friends, we start talking candidly, and eventually the conversation moves to kissing and relationships (she broke up with her boyfriend.)\n\n \n   Before I know it, I'm asking her if she'd ever kiss me, and she said only if I don't tell anyone. So we start making out for the next 10 minutes. But today (the next day), I'm in a bind. I've texted and snapped her a few times but she's hardly replied, and her and I are meeting up again this saturday for her birthday. But I'm worried for many many reasons.\n\n1) I feel like we're taking things too fast and it'll just ruin what we have\n\n2) Although she does reply, I have to initiate the conversation first. \n\n3) I feel like she's using me as a fuck buddy (she literally said she'd bang me saturday) until she can get a permanent boyfriend.\n\n   Thoughts?", "summary": "One of my best friends, a senior girl (I'm a junior guy) made out with me.  I don't know where our relationship stands at all, and I don't know if she's using me."}
{"id": "t3_4tno8t", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] Moving out, roommates staying, I don't get my deposit back until everyone else moves out?", "post": "So I am relocating to a new apartment in a few weeks and I'm trying to get everything straightened out. The company that is renting out the house I'm currently at is saying that since I'm moving out 'early' there won't be a new lease, and instead I'll be dropping from the current lease and declared 'vacating'.\n\nThat would be fine, since it's all the same to me, but they are asking me to sign a waiver saying the following:\n\n> \"Vacating Tenant agrees to relinquish all rights to any sums which Landlord may be holding on behalf of Vacating Tenant including but not limited to a security deposit, advance rent, any prepaid\n> fees or charges and agrees that nothing is owed to Vacating Tenant by the Landlord or its agent(s).\"\n\nI e-mailed the company and they say that the deposit cannot be withdrawn until everyone moves out.\n\nMy roommates are only living there for 6 more months and they are close friends, so I'm okay with dealing with this when they move out since it's only a few hundred dollars. I'm just worried about potential issues with the state of the house come that time and how much my deposit will be included in damages they do in the coming months.\nGetting the new guy (that's replacing me) to just give me the share of the deposit also doesn't exactly work, since we do not know how much of the deposit would be used in the current state of the house. When I move out it will be 2 years at that house.\n\nWhat should I do in this case?", "summary": "After 2 years I'm moving out, but I'm being declared as 'vacating' since my roommates are staying for 6 more months. Agreement has me signing away my deposit."}
{"id": "t3_10erz1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats something a Store Clerk/Salesperson has done or said to you that just drove you inside on the inside? I'll start.", "post": "So I'm a reader. I went to Barnes and Noble a while back & picked up a Mark Twain book.\nAnyway the lady who helped me said to go to the front to pay (I never went to B&N before this event) Its also good to note I have a stutter, so shit like my name is a pain to say.\nAnyway the lady in front said \"Do you want to sign up for our email list?\" I said No but she persisted so I just said it.\nI had trouble telling her my email, so I asked if I could write it down and she told me to just say it.\nAs I'm trying to get the letters out of my mouth she grows this smile that made me mad. It wasn't like a \"take your time\" smile it seemed like she was forcing a smile which made me pretty angry a the time.", "summary": "I have a stutter, Cashier at B&N wouldn't stop asking about my email for the email list. Gave me a smile I knew she didn't mean at all. Haven't gone back since."}
{"id": "t3_43hdns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The new guy M(31) I'm F(23) seeing is pretty awful at texting and it confuses me.", "post": "We met online and have been going on dates for the past month. Some of the dates have last entire weekends, or whole days. He has a unique personality and I adore his sense of humor. When we're together we laugh for most of the day. He's probably the most positive and uplifting person I've ever met.\n\nBut when we're not together, it's like radio silence. He'll text me maybe once late at night with a picture or something random. He usually takes a while to respond if we text earlier in the day. Totally understandable because he has a high pressure job, and I'm not into the whole text-all-day ordeal.\n\nThis morning he flew across the country to visit family, and I figured I'd hear from him when he landed (maybe just a confirmation text that he got there safely?) but I haven't heard from him all day. I don't want to bother him if he's with his family. He has called me quite a few times, and I enjoy talking on the phone with him. \n\nLast week after one of our dates we were lying in bed and he asked me if I had missed him (somewhat as a joke, because we saw each other the day before). I told him I did miss him, and he said that he missed me and was thinking about me all throughout the day. So I asked why he didn't text me or talk at all, and he said he was also busy with work. I don't think it's that he's not serious about me. Although we haven't had the exclusive talk, I've met his parents and his friends, and it seems like it's heading in a great direction. I'm already developing strong feelings for him.\n\nI figured that would've prompted him to communicate a little bit more, but it hasn't. He's going to be away for 2 weeks, so I guess we'll see how the communication is, and if he doesn't make any effort, we'll talk when he returns. I'd like to be on the same page about it. What's the best way to approach this?", "summary": "New guy I'm seeing doesn't really talk to me when we're not physically around each other, and it's making me worried that he's not interested."}
{"id": "t3_2gw8zv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU at work", "post": "TIFU: In the kitchen of the restaurant where I work (today was my 7th day), the county mandates that we have to wear gloves when handling food, no exceptions. So, when trying to fill cups of tartar and sour cream, I have some issues flipping and separating the cups. I thought I had a great idea: since the cups, much less the outside of the cups, are not food, let's not wear a glove; thought that cutting the tips off would be more fun. I neglected to remove my hand from the glove, and snipped the tips off my left index and middle fingers before I transformed my left ring fingerprint forever. That knife, as with all of our knives, are PARTICULARLY dull, so I had breezed that one through the (shitty) carbide pull sharpener a few times when I got in.\n\nWhen going to get a napkin to staunch the flow and then ask for a bandage, I slipped on the freshly mopped area just outside the doors.\n\nNot 20 minutes later, when returning the bucket of sour cream to the walk-in cooler, I again biffed on the freshly mopped floor of the cooler.", "summary": "Attempted to make finger-less gloves with my hand in the glove, and fell twice on wet floors, which I had not done in the last 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_3dx12f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (20M) seeing her (21F) for the first time.", "post": "Ok so I have been talking to this girl since April 10th of this year and she is absolutely amazing. We are not together, but talking. Somehow I know we will end up together after I visit her in August and to start with that I wanted to do something for her when she picks me up from the airport. \n\nI have thought of taking roses, but I'm not sure what policies are on flights for them or how well they do on planes or how long they can go without water. Flight is 5 hours by the way\n\nWhat do you think would be the perfect romantic surprise for someone picking someone up from an airport?", "summary": "Seeing online friend for first time want to do something romantic when I get off plane."}
{"id": "t3_11wr74", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I meet someone I met on reddit?", "post": "So, I've played around on reddit for a while... love it. But, I started messaging this girl (I'm a guy). At first it was pretty bland. Then things went dirty, we both liked it. We eventually started sharing pictures. Everything was going really well. Dirty emails, dirty pictures. Along with that though, and even before things got dirty, we were talking and asked each other a TON of stuff. I feel like I actually know the girl. And then I was drunk, so was she (drunk emails are always fun) and the topic of meeting came up. Turns out we live pretty close to each other so we made plans, and we're supposed to meet next week. Only thing is (and this comes from all the creepy horror stories we've all heard about meetings gone wrong...or my imagination going crazy) I don't wanna go and get jumped by some nerdy f*ck who gets his rocks off by this stuff.\n\nI'm almost positive that it's not like that, because of some of the pictures/requests and what comes back. At a point, you can't fake that stuff anymore. \n\nDo I meet her or not?", "summary": "see title"}
{"id": "t3_10p3b8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cousin about to marry his first love and the whole family feels it's a huge mistake.", "post": "My cousin (21M) and his fiance (18F) are planning to get married in April, they have dated 10 months now. His fiance is from London and on her father's visa. I have tried to talk with them to help them get everything together for greencard application. They refuse any outside help and insist that she will be able to stay on her fathers visa once they are married.\nMy whole family feel as if they are both making an awful mistake. His fiance is very manipulative. An example from her facebook, \"Beautiful flowers my fianc\u00e9 bought me \u2665 He bought me flowers and donuts because I wouldn't talk to him :) I was playing with him and he thought he did something wrong. How cute! \u2665\" He had just borrowed money from our grandmother to put gas in his car and same day he went and bought her a gift because he thought she was mad. \nHe went from being very good with money to being in debt and begging family for money. He then turns around and spends it on her.\nNobody can approach him about it. If they try he cuts them out of his life. They have an us against the world mentality. \nI am at a loss for how to even approach them at this point. We all grew up as neighbors and very much like siblings. It is like watching my brother go down the rabbit hole. \nI know that this is kinda jumbled so I'll provide more info upon request. Thanks for any advice", "summary": "Cousin (M21) and his fiance (f18) are making a huge mistake and won't listen to anyone."}
{"id": "t3_331iuy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being clogged", "post": "All of Tuesday evening I had severe back pain which I put down to not lifting correctly. I stayed awake until early Wednesday morning, playing games with a friend. The pain was spreading and getting worse and there was intense heat radiating all of my lower back. It's about 6 a.m. when me and my friend venture to the supermarket for bacon and paracetamol. I'm walking through the aisles in such agony, with my hands on my lower back as if I'm in labour, I'm sweating, dizzy and nauseous. Get to the self-service checkout, everythings going around in circles and I pass out. Come to and my friend drives me to hospital. 6 hours of waiting, blood tests, urine samples and an X-ray later, a surgeon comes to speak with me. He pushes around my stomach and back and informs me I'm constipated. After asking me a series of q's I realise I haven't had a 'normal' passing/frequeny of in at least 4 months. Went home with anitbiotics for my kidneys, bought some laxatives and 3 days later I'm 4lbs lighter.\n\n(to add to the embarrasment of being told this, I was given a backless gown for the X-ray but I was wearing no underwear...fortunately I was able to wear my male friends boxers...)", "summary": "6 hours in hospital to be told I'm constipated"}
{"id": "t3_44k4oe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[32M] Worried my [27F] is cheating on me, her phone location history certainly points to it", "post": "So I had noticed some odd behavior from my wife and I started feeling paranoid. I don't know how I came across it but I learnt that google search history shows the exact location of your phone if you have location tracking on. I felt incredibly guilty even looking at it but I had to satisfy the horrible feeling I had.\n\nShe went on a girls trip interstate and went out partying one night. According to her she left the club at 3am, she msged me good night at 3:20am saying she was back at her hotel. The next message I got was from her at 8:30am saying she was awake in response to my where the fuck are you messages after seeing that she wasnt at her hotel. She said she was in the single bed in her hotel because her friend picked up and took her room.\n\nGoogle map history showed her leave the club, arrive outside her hotel then walk 20 mins to another hotel, she stayed for 3 hours, then walked 20 mins back to hers. She message me saying she was awake around this time. How accurate is this google map stuff?", "summary": "Wife might be cheating on holidays, phone location history backs it up."}
{"id": "t3_26t0cp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making bagel bites.", "post": "My internship is close to my house so I have the pleasure of going home to eat lunch every day. My SO and I are in an LDR and she has been asleep most of the morning so we haven't been talking. I get home and settled, and my phone starts ringing. It's my SO, and she wants to Facetime. We start talking and I set my phone on the counter because I need to pull the bagel bites out of the oven. She starts calling my name and asking me where I went. I tell her to hold on. She doesn't hear me, keeps calling my name. I say hold on again. She *still* doesn't hear me. I have a hot pan in one hand and I'm trying to clear the table with the other, while simultaneously trying to close the oven with my leg. I also have two cats pawing at my other foot thinking it's their time to eat. I promptly lose my shit. I lean over to the phone sitting on the counter and loudly yell I FUCKING SAID HOLD ON. \n\n\"Wow.\" She says. She hangs up.\n\nHeaded to the liquor store after the internship, it's gonna be a long day making up for that one.", "summary": "made bagel bites, screamed at my phone, SO is very mads"}
{"id": "t3_2tyjir", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being tired.", "post": "You know those days when you are so tired and you just wanna have a good wank and a good sleep afterwards? That's what happened today. \nAfter a long day at work, I reached home and decided to take a nap before dinner. Took off my shirt, jumped into the bed, and got visited by fucking Hypnos himself and I fell asleep before I even knew it, with my pants at my ankles. \n\nFast forward two hours, my mom came to call me down for dinner. Lo and behold, she witnessed me in my naked glory, with a raging erection. I was woken up by her shrieks and what happened afterwards, you can just imagine.\n\nFast forward, another two days and we still haven't talked about it. Awkward.", "summary": "tried to bust a nut before taking a nap, got busted by my mother instead."}
{"id": "t3_rxrsr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Moving things forward or: how to not get done for sexual harassment.", "post": "Two months ago we were hiring new people for work.\n\nWe hired this girl. I thought she was good at her job and interviewed well.\n\nI've gotten to know her over the last two months. Lets just say I think she is amazing. Beautiful, talented, I really enjoy spending time with her.\n\n*Background and Context*\n\n* We've gone out for lunches, drinks after work etc Mostly stuff after or around work, simply because it's easier, she sits right next to me so its easy to do ad hoc stuff. But we've been out on 'planned' stuff as well to bars, museums etc Remember this is all in a 2 month context. \n\n* On a professional level, whilst I am technically her superior, I try my level best not to be. My dream organisation is one which is as flat hierarchy wise, and I'm trying to create that. \n\n* It's safe to say that we get along pretty well.\n\n* We've not kissed or done anything too romantic. And I feel the boat is sailing. Either I'm going to get friend zoned or she'll find someone else. \n\n*The problem* I want to take it to the next level with her but I also don't want her to feel obliged or pressured [and I defo don't want a Sexual Harassment case against me]. \n\n**How do I do this?**\n\nWe have plans for dinner in the upcoming week. And I'm not convinced professing my affection for her is going to cut it.", "summary": "want to hit on a colleague without getting sued."}
{"id": "t3_1yt9av", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unlocking the front door", "post": "This past Saturday, my wife and I went out on a bike ride with two of my friends. She had just ordered some new clip in pedals and wanted to try them out. However she never practiced clipping in and out of the pedals and she ended up falling several times. Her last big fall, she ended up having a big scrape on her butt. She's been asking me to help her treat it since apparently my wife isn't that coordinated with cleaning a wound while looking at a full body mirror.\n\nFast forward to today. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law ask to come over to get some headache medicine. My s.i.l. wasn't feeling well, so I said sure. I wasn't aware that my wife was in the shower at the time. Out of habit, they both visit quite often and I usually unlock the door for them to come in. \n\nWife comes out the shower and asks for my help once again to clean her wound on her butt. I'm still very hesitant to do it for her, but I give in. She comes in to the living room and lays on her stomach with neosporin and peroxide, ready for me to clean it. PRESUME THE CLEANING! Peroxide goes on and my wife does that \"SSSSSSS\" sound when something hurts, but you don't want to let out that sound. Still, it's loud enough for others to hear since she doesn't have a high tolerance for pain. Then I proceed to put the neosporin on her butt wound. As soon as I start, front door opens and brother and sister in law are coming in. First words they hear are \"Now doesn't that feel better?\" as I rub the neosporin,a bunch of thick white pain relief cream, on the wound. My wife jumps up out of embarrassment, and runs in the bedroom to isolation. My b.i.l and s.i.l just stare at me in all sorts of what the hell did I walk in on. To save the embarrassment and awkwardness of the situation, I just gave them the headache medicine and apologized profusely.", "summary": "I unlocked the front door for my brother in law and sister in law and they end up walking in on me putting a thick white pain relief cream on my wife's ass to clean a wound."}
{"id": "t3_2by3dw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 2 years, My girlfriend has drastically changed styles in the past 2 months and its making me unattracted to her.", "post": "She's become vegan. She refuses to eat meat despite getting very little protein. Meals together are stressful. She has started buying jewelry because she vaguely believes in the healing powers of crystals. She signed up for yoga teacher training and has started shopping around for \"high vibration\" clothing. Her arms and legs are now covered in beads and rings. And spends her time googling intense hippy festivals. I find the whole thing really unattractive and I wouldn't have probably started dating her if she had started like this. She is also intensely defensive of this new hippy style, where if I ask her about it or challenge it at all it nearly always provokes a fight about controlling her. Any help?", "summary": "My girlfriend has become an intense hippy overnight and it's really turning me off."}
{"id": "t3_trasq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, can we get some stories of embarrassing/uncomfortable stories that, no matter how much time passes, still make your palms sweaty?", "post": "I realize embarrassing stories have been requested before but, theres enough people on reddit to keep new stories coming. Also, I realized that as an awkward individual, I have an abundance of embarrassing stories but, theres only a select few that take me so far back into the memory that i get hot with embarrassment. They also cause racing thoughts about what I could've done better. \n\nMy story is actually whats keeping me from sleep and why I'm posting this. On my junior year of highschool I was in the Ap Rhetoric class. Our final consisted of having teams of three to four debate against eachother. Our team was debating on the typical nature v. nurture topic. When it became my turn to speak I began strong until I made eye contact with the crowd which lead to the most awkward and painful pause of my life. I lost my train of thought and I forgot how to read so my typed out speech was useless. After about a minute. (Yes an entire minute) I cleared my throat and rushed through my conclusion. I think what gets me the most is letting my team down. We won but it sure as hell wasn't because of me. I know its not that big of a deal now and probably not as bad as some of your experiences but I can't seem to control my anxiety whenever I think of that day.", "summary": "I froze during a debate embarrassing myself and my teammates."}
{"id": "t3_2hxqwh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Deleted my facebook and why it will help me on the way with what I actually want to do with my life.", "post": "Probably not a big deal for a lot of you, but as someone who has been on facebook since 13 years old (19 now), it sort of is.\n\nNo more chatting with new people/girls and no more attempted self-esteem boosts in the currency of likes on my statuses. I've decided to isolate myself a lot more than normally and take on real life loneliness deliberately to test myself. \n\nWhy? Because I need to get my shit together if I want to have a meaningful life that makes sense to me. And for this plan including only myself, I've decided I don't need friends/random hook ups/social activity all the time. With this I might be embracing my slight depressed tendencies, but I'm hoping that in the end it will benefit me in my pursuit to feel useful in society.\n \nMy values (on the far left) have always been, that social relations and happiness shouldn't be prioritised over actual (rational) value like hard work and expertise in fields of work. I think I'm trying to prove that I stand by these values. That I'm not a lazy hypocrite, who has the urge to improve my social status, when it really isn't doing anything for me. Facebook shouldn't be there to compensate for my lacking skills elsewhere and therefore shouldn't distract me from trying to improve where I actually want to improve.", "summary": "the only thing I'm decent at in life has no value to me."}
{"id": "t3_446ppy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Him (M43), me (F40), crossdressing, fetish, no reciprocity. Duration 16 years.", "post": "Tonight I came home a bit early and found my husband in a tiny skirt. \n\nApparently he bought it just last weekend as a lark when I was traveling for work. But now he says it might be that he wants to wear women's clothing every day at home. This is all a bit sudden for me.\n\nHe has always had a pantyhose fetish. He wants to include pantyhose in sex; otherwise he has trouble staying focused. I'll wear them, but what he really likes is him wearing them. I'm okay with this but not EVERY time we have sex. Unfortunately, he mostly seems to be interested when we include the hose.\n\nHe insists on me accepting him as he is and his fetish. Which is as it should be, but for him accepting it means he doesn't have to try sex any other way. He does not go down on me because he doesn't like it. We have no spontaneous sex because for him it's a big production with the hose and the dressing up and the setup. For two years I've asked him to indulge my super vanilla fantasy of having sex in the shower, but no - he says sex and water don't go together and that he's just uncomfortable. Basically, we do it his way (in bed in the evening, lights on, curtains drawn, with the hose) or not at all.\n\nI've always been attracted to him though because he is a big masculine guy and that is my type. I like strong masculine men. But now he wants to be feminine. Every day. At home. I have no idea how I'm going to be sexually attracted to that version of him. And he says I am cruel and unaccepting if I can't.\n\nI also cannot help but think that this is something that has been going on for a long while and he's been hiding it from me. It's hard to believe he got his first item of clothing just a few days before I caught him wearing it. And now I wonder what else he's hiding. \n\nAm I a horrible wife for having trouble with all this?", "summary": "husband has a fetish, now also wants to crossdress, is not giving in bed and is calling me cruel and unaccepting when I say I might have trouble being turned on by the new him. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_4xaeqw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do you deal with someone who asks too many questions?", "post": "I'm going into my junior year of college, and I have a friend (let's call her Kate) who's going to be a freshman at my school. Anyway, in the beginning, I was happy to answer any questions Kate had about college life and what to expect, but now it's just getting to be too much. She'll literally text me question after question after question. I'll answer one question in detail, and then she'll send me another text full of other questions. For example, yesterday morning, I woke up to a text asking, \"What clubs do they have, and what days do they meet?\" How am I supposed to answer something like that? There are hundreds of clubs at my school, so I can't possibly know when each of them meet! I responded, \"They have all kinds of clubs, and the meeting days vary depending on the club.\" She then immediately asked, \"What kind of clubs do you think I'll like?\" Keep in mind, I don't know her THAT well, so I don't really know what she's into. I could only say, \"That depends on what you're into.\" She then sent me text after text, asking me if it's really hard to make friends, and if I think she'll be able to make friends. I told her that she'll definitely be able to make friends, as she's very sociable, even more so than I am. Other questions I get involve textbooks, supplies, and dating. Stuff that can easily be Googled.\n\nI get that she's excited/nervous about starting college, but I certainly wasn't like this, and neither was anyone else I knew. I just learned to go with the flow. Part of me wants to tell her to just chill, that college really isn't that bad and that she'll figure things out very quickly, but I don't want to be mean. There's no need to be so paranoid. What can I do about this? I know that she'll quickly get into the groove of things once classes actually start, but until then, how do I deal with being spammed with questions? I'm really tempted to just send her the link to our college's subreddit haha.", "summary": "Paranoid incoming freshman asking me way too many questions, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3pfnor", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Discussion] How to help my sister who I'm pretty sure is depressed and in a very unhealthy and repetitive lifestyle", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nNot sure if this is the right place for this, but I feel like posting here would bring a few helpful responses so here goes...\n\nMy sister is now 25 and has basically had the same routine since she started working full time 5 years ago. She works as a chef and because of that she gets odd days off which affect her very small and very limited social life. She mostly lounges around the house watching tv and not doing much of anything and she doesn't seem to want to change it.\n\nNow I have to mention that me and her both share a handful of learning disabilities with a couple of differences, but the major ones affecting our lives would be a difficulty to communicate our thoughts and feelings accurately and the fact that we're both pretty slow thinkers. Processing information and then figuring out the proper course of action takes a while and can be easily disrupted due to horrible attention spans which makes many ordinary tasks very difficult and intimidating. Currently, her way of life is really taking a toll on the whole family (Me, my mother and father) because we all want her to not just become a slave to this unhealthy routine.\n\nThere's a lot more to this, but this is already a fairly long post so I'll try and sum things up quickly.\n\nI'm pretty sure she's depressed, so I'm going to ask her if she wants to talk to a therapist or some sort of professional, but I don't want to intimidate her into becoming reclusive about the subject. So my question is, how can I bring this idea up to her and also what else can I do to try and help her out?\n\nIt really makes me sad to see her like this. So any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Also any other subreddits that you know of that may be of help would be good to know too.", "summary": "Pretty sure my sister is depressed... How can I talk to her about seeing a therapist in a easily digestible manner and what else can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_232dbu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] broke up with my [20F]. Trying to work things out then she drops this bomb on me.", "post": "Long story short me and my girlfriend of almost a year broke up for two months. In that two months I realized what I did wrong in the relationship and wanted to try and fix things. Fast forward 2 weeks after I tell her I want to try again and we are taking things slow. Then tonight she tells me she needs to be honest with me. She proceeds to show me texts from my best friend [20 M] (when we were broken up) to her about how he has always wanted to have sex with her and that he wants to come over right now and then details I'd rather not type out. This texting went back and forth for an hour or two with her feeding into everything he's saying and then the last message from my friend to my ex was \"this conversation never happened\". I had to remove myself from the whole situation after telling them both separately that they can fuck off. The thing is she claims to have been just \"playing along\" and seeing how far the conversation will go and both said they never had sex and he claims to not remember much of the convo because of drinking (which I think is bullshit). Honestly I don't even know what responses to expect, I don't want anything to do with either of them right now.", "summary": "Best friend tried to fuck my ex while we were broken up and now I find out about it after already telling her I want to work things out."}
{"id": "t3_4wc9nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [38F] teenage boys are constantly fighting and hurting each other, and my husband [42M] continues to allow it.", "post": "My husband and I have been getting into a lot of arguments about this lately. I work most of the day and come home a little later at night. He does at home work. \n\nWe have 3 teenaged boys ( 17, 16 and 14) who are very full of energy. They love to do anything that involves being physical (sports, and working out) and I would of thought that would of supressed some of their hormones, but they still have a horrible tendacy to fight. \n\nI am not talking about the typical playful \"boy fights\" that boys seem to do, but full on fist fights. Yesterday I got a call from my husband saying my two youngest were in the ER. Apparently older brother had broken their noses in a \"little fun fight\" they were having?? This has been going on for far too long honestly, and I know boys will be boys but I don't want my boys to keep hurting each other like this, even if they claim it isn't \"serious\". \n\nMy husband says he hears them doing this but that they should learn to work out their problems, so he doesn't stop them. I'm not sure If its just me being a mom and overreacting? I can't seem to get through to him that he needs to STOP them when he hears them playing too rough. So we don't have more incidents like yesterday.\n\nIm not even sure if this is normal behavior for teenage boys. They'll seriously be angry with one another and fighting one minute, then a few hours later will be back upstairs playing video games together. \n\nI have been considering maybe taking some time off work so I could be at home a little more.", "summary": "Our teenage boys are constantly fighting and hurting each other all the time. My husband hears and sees them doing these things but does nothing about it."}
{"id": "t3_3beupx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] posted on another website looking for a blow job and my gf [18 F] saw my post.", "post": "We have been dating for 7 months now and overall things have been ok between us. The other night I came across another sub reddit which is used to give blowjobs. Long story short I posted and my gf apparently knows my reddit account and saw.\n\n   I would never cheat on her and I love her, but for some reason when posting A thrill comings over me and I just get excited thinking about all the possible responses I will get. I'm not gay, but I've even posted on men seeking men Craigslist before, just because I was horny.\n\n   I would never cheat on her, but I just wanted to post because it's a personal fantasy of mine I guess? Maybe even a fetish? I'm not sure, but I think she is going to breakup with me and she still hasn't responded. What should I do?", "summary": "posted looking for a bj because of a personal fantasy and my girlfriend saw. She is now probably going to breakup with"}
{"id": "t3_40hp5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with friend [21 F] 2 weeks, I Find Everything Attractive Except Her Body", "post": "I just started seeing this girl and we click on so many levels...it's great! She's got a beautiful smile and were pretty much into exactly the same things but there is only one problem. Her ex was a fat guy so I guess she let herself go, I wouldn't even consider her fat...just really chunky. I workout and try to stay in shape because I'm attracted to other women who also do the same thing. I feel like I've fallen for her smile/personality and I feel almost repulsed by her body. \n\nI know this is terrible to say but sex is just not entertaining for me when I'm with her. I think if she was thinner, maybe even 10-15 lbs thinner it would be a completely different feeling. I'm not sure what I should do. I try to motivate her into working out which she seems into. I would like her to get a gym membership with me but I feel like it's a little early for her to make that kind of commitment. I've also been getting her to come ride bikes with me which she seems totally down for. \n\nLike I said though, the one thing holding me back and making me apprehensive to really take this seriously is her weight. I want to hang out with her but I really don't want to have sex with her because it just feels disappointing. I think our sex drives are around the same level, I love to have sex and it sounds like she does too...I just haven't really expanded on that because I don't want to.\n\nI'm looking for advice on how I can potentially talk her into getting a gym membership but really, am I wasting my time? I think she wants to be thinner. You can tell she is insecure when she isn't wearing a shirt, I know because I've been there and recognize the \"shame\" and that's why I am more active now and workout. I tried to elaborate on how I could tell and how I could relate from my past experiences. All the while trying my best to skirt the \"you're chubby and I'm not all that sexually attracted to you right now\" conversation.", "summary": "I'm into a chubby girl on every level, I just can't get aroused by her body."}
{"id": "t3_31wqqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speeding past a cop.", "post": "I don't know man, I was in the heat of the moment and had to choose between looking like a major pussy or being a man and owning up to my decision. What would you have done in this situation?\n\nI just got off work (12AM) and started heading home on my usual route. I enter the highway, blasting my tool CD. There was this asshole behind me who had been trying pretty damn hard to pass me even though I was already speeding and I wasn't going to let him pass (I like being alone on the road while I enjoy the music and night scenery).\n\nSo the bridge of the song comes on and usually it makes me drive faster so I'm thinking peace bitch as I press the pedal down in the Mustang GT (only an 06).\n\nSo now I'm going 140 - 160KM (I'm in Canada) and I see these two cars up ahead. I catch up to them very quickly and think I'll just slide right through these guys and be on my way. \n\nTo my horror.. \n\nI see the back of a cop car. I know I'm fucked now. It was so obvious I was speeding.\n\nNow I'm thinking, Jesus Christ, do I just slow down right beside the guy like the worlds biggest pussy and just start cruising with him? That's hella fucking embarrassing. I just said fuck it, I can't do that.\n\nSo I slow down a little and as I'm passing him I throw him a thumbs up (as if I might get lucky and get a cool cop lmao)\n\nI pass by at 110KM and instantly the lights come on.\n\nFucking unreal. I ended up getting a ticket for speeding. At least he was pretty cool about it.", "summary": "I was speeding on the highway at night and caught up to a cop and didn't know whether to slow down or man up and try to get lucky."}
{"id": "t3_1k1x6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my exgf [20F] - She said we couldn't talk or hangout anymore, but I am almost positive its someone else telling her this.", "post": "Me[21M] with my exgf [20F] - It was a clean breakup and we tried to be friends afterwards. We talked a lot and hung out occasionally. Recently just got a text from her saying that we should hold off on talking and hanging out for awhile. She has told me before that her current boyfriend (she started dating him less than a month after we broke up) is insecure and feels uneasy that we have been talking and stuff. I responded with something like \"If that's what you want\". Got another text later that night on the lines of \"It's not what I want\". I don't know what I should do. Should I just go with the flow and try to ride this out, or just forget about her and try to not be her friend (but she is cool and fun to hang around and really do consider her a friend).", "summary": "Think my Ex's BF doesn't want us to talk/hangout/be friends... not sure to just drop all contact or what?"}
{"id": "t3_4he5rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my girlfriend [21F] of 3 months, just found out she is an escort don't know what to do", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nSo I just found out that my girlfriend is an escort. Although we haven't been together for very long, things were moving fast. The past couple of days she has been rather distant, and vague about where she is. We are in a ldr but manage to see each other about once a week. \n\nThe time we spend together is very intimate and we have great chemistry. I've never met somebody that I can laugh with and be myself around. However, the past couple of weeks I feel like our relationship has become more distant- only replying every couple of hours instead of minutes.\n\nTonight my friend told me that they had found back page ads of her and some were recent, and the locations lined up with places she had told me she was at the time. However, I was told she was just visiting her friends- I didn't think anything of it.\n\nI'm sorry for this messy text post, my mind is kind of muddled right now and I'm unsure what to do. Do I tell her about the ads? I feel very hurt and confused about the whole situation because she truly did make me feel special and happy, but I don't think I can be with somebody who has hid something so (IMO) big from me. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated as I'm at a loss right now. I have very bad trust issues and I was starting to fall very fucking hard for this girl and now I don't even know what to say or feel about this situation.", "summary": "Friend found my girlfriends ads on a back page website and now I'm not sure what my next step is."}
{"id": "t3_4wjpq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17M] brother [24M] since he started med school. He keeps telling me he will achieve more in life than me and how my future career choice is useless", "post": "My brother is a med school student and I can't take his attitude anymore. He talks to you like you are inferior to him in every way imaginable. His girlfriend who is also a med student is exactly the same as him. \n\nWhen I see him he has this look on his face like he is too good to be around us. He pats me on my head and makes a rude comment directed towards me. He walks around like he is the king of the world and everyone else is his subjects. He claims he is going to achieve more in life than my sister and I. \n\nI want to be a Veterinarian and my sister wants to be a Teacher. He keeps telling us how useless those career choices are and not to come to him when we are in financial trouble. He even goes as far as to insult the car our father bought him and calls it an old people car. \n\nI am so sick of his attitude and I don't know what to do anymore. I hate the fact of him being around for Christmas, Thanks giving. What do I do about my brother", "summary": "Brother keeps calling mine and my sisters career choices useless ever since he got into med school."}
{"id": "t3_2pk36c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25F) coworker (44F) told my entire office about my health issues. How should I approach this situation?", "post": "Yesterday I went to an urgent care clinic because I was having an anxiety attack. My heart rate and blood pressure were extremely high, and luckily I work with a few In-house nurses.\n\nHowever, while I was out of the office, my (44F) coworker told pretty much everyone in our office that I was having blood pressure issues and I was at a clinic. I only found out because upon coming back to work, a lot of other coworkers were asking me \"how my blood pressure is\" and \"which hospital did I go to?\" ...amongst other things. \n\nI am completely mortified. My health is my business, and I am extremely angry about this. So how do I navigate through this? My 44F coworker sits next to my desk, so there was no way to hide what happened today from her. In fact, I'm pretty sure she contributes to my daily anxiety at the workplace. \n\nReddit, do you have any advice? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "My coworker is spreading my personal business, not sure where to go from here"}
{"id": "t3_1alt3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [22f] has lost all sex drive, but only after she started dating me [25m]", "post": "Title says a lot of it.\n\nShe was dating a guy when I met her. We became good friends and were able to talk pretty openly.\n\nShe would tell me she \"needed\" to have sex roughly once-a-day, good for her and for the guy.\n\nWinter break of last year comes around and she's unhappy in her relationship and cheats on the guy with me (I, to this day, feel terrible about this and have let the guy know how awful I feel about what I did). \n\nIt wasn't just a fling we were very attached to each other and I knew I loved her very quickly into our relationship. I know she loves me as well.\n\nWe never had a very good sex life (I bombed the first few times) and it has never recovered. I've tried talking about it, spicing things up, being spontaneous, etc. Nothing works. She says she wants to have sex and that we need to do it more often, but it really doesn't happen. I believe she has sex with me just enough to keep me around and keep me from having the conversation again. (roughly once a month)\n\nI want to fix this because I do love her, but she's already slowed down her sex drive. If we were to get married and have kids it would affect it that much more. \n\nAny advice?\n\nOH, i forgot to mention, her reasoning behind the lack of sex is: \"You will pay attention to me even if we don't have sex, he would just roll over and go to sleep if I didn't have sex with him\". I'm being punished for being a better bf I guess.", "summary": "GF was a once-a-day girl with her ex, sex is roughly once a month with me. She obviously enjoyed it better with him, and I can't figure out how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_2bx087", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [25M] of 3 years just lost 3k on a real stupid purchase, now he's mad with me [23F] because I'm not being understanding enough?", "post": "He went and bought a motorbike without getting a mechanic to check it out. A week after he loaned $3000 to pay for it, something fucked up and he had to take it in. Turns out the stupid thing has a cracked head in the engine block and is a complete write off. Worth nothing. My boyfriend said he knew that he should've had it looked at before he bought it but he was impatient and just wanted it. The guy he bought it from doesn't want a bar of it (the transaction is done). \n\nSo, I'm annoyed about the whole thing. I didn't go off at him whatsoever, but expressed that I felt disrespected, because he considered the risk he was putting both of us in (we share incomes), but went ahead with it anyway. Now he's pissed at me because I'm not being understanding and want him to find a way to fix the issue. He says that I'm getting angry. I thought I was just telling him how I felt.", "summary": "Boyfriend loaned $3000 for a motorbike without getting it checked out. It turned out to be a lemon, I got annoyed and now he's pissed off at me."}
{"id": "t3_swkig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Promblems. What do? Also, what are your crazy prom stories?", "post": "Taking a girl A as friends to prom (she has bf in college) and semi-dating other girl B at high school. Girl B and I aren't going because we agreed to go with our friends' groups. Girl A and I are really good friends, have been all year. Turns out she might have the hots for me, but she also seems to be pretty flirty with most people (but a little more physical with me). Girl B has been sort of busy lately/distant, but still seems interested. Girl A is hotter than Girl B. Who should i try to hook up with?", "summary": "taking girl with college bf to prom, have thing with other girl, who should i try to hook up with? Also crazy prom stories."}
{"id": "t3_431dtd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Broke my laptop and smartphone", "post": "This happened a week ago. It snowed and I had just finished school therefore I had my back bag and in it I had my laptop and smartphone along with some books.I decided that it is a good idea to  go ahead and grab some groceries before heading home. I usually fill the rest of the back bag with groceries and carry bags of whatever is left.\n\nThe back bag is full and im holding two bags one in each hand.I approach a lightly downward slope road and I slid on some ice and snow mix a good 6 feet while waving the bags trying to gain balance and groceries flying out (eggs shattering inside the bag).My back bag is heavy it swung away from my back as much as the harness allowed and slammed me knocking me off the little balance that I had and I ended up falling on my back. I Cussed then started laughing picked up my groceries and got home. Upon inspection my laptop screen is broken and so is my smartphone ,both screens completely useless. This happens on the first week of University in my senior year!Currently using my TV screen via HDMI until I can afford to fix them.", "summary": "Snow and ice and a downward slope.Fell on my backpack destroying my laptop and smartphone."}
{"id": "t3_154o3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why hasn't he made a move??", "post": "I'm 25/f and he's 34/m, both of us are single parents. We've been quite a few dates without the kids. We've also gotten together a few times with the kids. The most physical contact he and I have shared is a hug at the end of every date. Last week we went we out 4 different times and we text everyday. \n\nAnyhow, he invited me over to his house this weekend to watch some movies (without the kids!). He's the first guy I've gone on more than just a few dates with (I've been single for way too long)  and I think I've forgotten how this works, ha. Why hasn't he made a move to hold my hand or kiss me? I'm going with the assumption that he's into me on some level (considering how often we talk and go out) but what's going on? \n\nShould I make the first move this weekend? HOW do I make the first move?! What if he hasn't made a move because he isn't actually INTERESTED. Oh my word, I need some help! Am I overreacting? I probably am.. Any advice would be super.", "summary": "Single mom (25) and single dad (34) talk every day and see each other a few times a week. Not sure why he hasn't made a move yet."}
{"id": "t3_wulyy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got a telemarketing call today, which (1) started before I picked up the call, and (2) proceeded to put me on hold! Reddit, what other obviously dumb business practices have you experience?", "post": "So here's some background... I am shopping for a refinance on our mortgage, and I made the mistake of using LendingTree.com. Basically, I thought that I was going to get a quick generalized quote from lenders on the screen, but instead, after I filled out my estimated information, they said I would hear back from select partners in 24-48 hours.\n\nThe very next morning, I start waking up to LOTS of phone calls. \"Hi, this is Bill from Derp Mortgage Financing\" and \"Hi, this is Jennifer from Blah Financing Speacialists\" and such... I basically started telling them all to just put me on their Do Not Call Back list.\n\nI know, it wasn't their fault. It was mine. No problem there...\n\nBUT TODAY, the second morning, I got another call... from QUICKEN LOANS... and I went to answer it, hoping just to ask them to put me on their do not call back list and be done with it... but when I answer my cell phone, there's a message ALREADY playing... it was probably 15-20 seconds into the message already. So I figure, I'll just wait til the message is over and tell the live person. NOPE, it then proceeds to put me ON HOLD! \"Your call is very important to us, please wait while we connect you to a representative...\"\n\nI figure I'll wait a minute to talk to them... but the hold music plays, and the message repeats, for about 10 minutes. It then disconnects me from the line.\n\nI don't know what kind of rate QUICKEN LOANS has, but their lack of respect for the potential customer has completely turned me off from them.\n\n**1. They don't even have the courtesy to put a human on the line\n\n2. Their auto-dialer doesn't even wait for you to pick up the phone?\n\n3. Then they put YOU on hold when THEY CALLED?\n\nRidiculous.**\n\nREDDIT, what business practices have you encountered?", "summary": "Signed up for quotes from LendingTree.com. Stupid move, got lots of calls. Worst was QUICKEN LOANS. They called, didn't even time the message right, it puts ME on hold for 10 minutes, then disconnects! Lost my business forever."}
{"id": "t3_2hg5aw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of four months, she doesn't trust women around me.", "post": "My girlfriend and I met at work, but got together after I switched jobs so that there wouldn't be any workplace drama. We have been together for 4 months this last Sunday. I have another female friend who I've known for 2+ years who I hang out with fairly frequently. She is straight, but we have no romantic interest in each other whatsoever, and we are both cool with that.\n\nAbout a month and a half ago, my girlfriend approaches me very angry saying how she's upset that I sat next to my friend while watching a movie (even though I was actually sitting in the middle between the both of them). I try and find out why she's upset about this, and apparently she had been holding in her frustration for a while. Before she moved back into town for our college semester to begin, my female friend moved in a week early. Having not seen her for a large amount of the summer, we hung out a lot during the week before school. My girlfriend was not in town for this whole week, and when she arrived that weekend, I got a call that I needed to come home for family reasons. My girlfriend described her anger with this situation as \"You got to hang out with HER for a whole week, and when I got here, you leave me!\"\n\nAfter a while of fighting, I ask her why she's not upset when I spend time with my large amount of other friends (some of which are also female). She said that \"I don't hang around other girls. I don't trust them, all they do is make drama. Girls and guys can't be friends without any romantic interest. I'm tired of girls stealing my boyfriends from me, and I don't want to lose you.\" She now gets upset about me texting my female friend, sitting next to her in any situation, or even bringing her name up in conversation. She's been going through a lot of family problems lately as well, so I don't want to break up with her and shovel even more problems onto her shoulders. What do I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't trust women, especially around me. Gets angry whenever I mention my female friend around her. She currently has family issues and I don't want to add more problems by breaking up. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_osqmv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Care to share an event you experienced as a kid but never knew what really happened until recently?", "post": "Events which really needed some insight in order to figure out what really happened (nothing too traumatic).\nHere's mine:\n\n* I wasn't a really great student back in grade 2 and the teachers really were scared of me. One day we had a math test; and math was just *not* something that I grasped at the time. For some reason I understood what was to be tested that day, I didn't really buckle down and study, I *just understood* out of nowhere how to do the questions. The teacher marked our tests really quickly and handed them back so we could go over the answers. She comes to me to share what I did for a fairly \"complicated\" question and then asked me how I got it right. **I couldn't tell her why**. I wasn't a great learner at the time and couldn't give her a logical reason, but clearly, I had work written out for that question. I said I forgot how I did it, and the teacher eyed me and said \"Hmm, that's weird I guess that happens sometimes, when students just *forget* how to find the answer\" and she moves on. So I think about it today, and it's very obvious she thought that I cheated; and at such a young age too! Sort of explains why I wasn't a very favored student among the staff.", "summary": "Surprisingly does well on a math test, couldn't explain to the teacher how I found the answer --> Teacher thinks I cheated but never confronted me about it"}
{"id": "t3_1v9a4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19 M] found a Woman [26F] I like, but i think there might be a problem", "post": "So like It says, I found a woman that I like, and she likes me, but there might be a problem\n\nSo first some background:\n\nI met her a couple of days ago through a mutual friend. We'll call her M. Me and M got to talking and we both seemed to feel kind of an instant spark between us. Besides the age difference we both have a lot in common, we both like video games, animals, watching movies, you name it. \n\nSo the potential problem: \n\nWe were talking tonight and during our conversation she told me she had been diagnosed with BPD ( Borderline Personality Disorder) which is a real mental health issue. So my question is, even though we get along great, and really like her, should I cut loose? Or should i give it a chance?", "summary": "Met a great woman, but turns out she had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), should i stick around or bounce?"}
{"id": "t3_1ww67q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does 'psychic training' involve teaching the scam and how to perpetuate it for profit?", "post": "Just as we all know magic does not exist and magicians are merely performing clever illusions that fool your mind, I expect any reasonable person to understand that 'psychic abilities' are nothing more than party tricks that fool your mind in a similar manner. However, while I have never met anyone who believes in actual magic, I have met a surprising number of people who believe in psychics.\n\nThe other day at the office, I overheard two such believers discussing psychic readings. One of them mentioned something about Madam Dildoface (named changed to protect the guilty) who offers psychic training near her and she was going to look into it.  This got me thinking: Since psychics are nothing more than purveyors of party tricks, what exactly are these 'psychic trainers' training you to do?\n\nMy question is not about the validity of psychics, it's about the psychic schools, universities, and training programs that have been popping up these days. Do you think these 'psychic training centers' actually divulge that it's all fake, then proceed to teach you the art of cold reading and how to use it to perpetuate the scam for profit? It seems to me that just like any other skill, cold reading is something that must be learned and practiced in order to execute convincingly, but psychics cannot teach you how to cold read without admitting they have no special ability.  Is it possible that a lot of psychics are just deluded and cold reading without realizing it, confusing it for being psychic and convincing themselves that they actually do possess psychic abilities?  In turn, teaching others cold reading under the guise of being psychic?", "summary": "Since psychics are bullshit, what do they actually teach you at 'psychic training centers'?"}
{"id": "t3_1ngk2n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Sleepwalking", "post": "I started sleep walking this past summer and I'm not really sure why.  I have some pretty funny stories from roommates, however this incident takes the cake.  I woke up this morning without any blankets on and the sheet torn off my bed.  I thought that was odd, but I felt this crusty substance on my face.  I was confused and went to rub it off when I saw my hands and they were covered in dried blood.  Panicking, I went to hop off my bunk (I'm on the top).  I noticed my left, big toe was in a lot of pain and bruised, and I struggled walking.  Anyway, I get to the mirror in the bathroom and there is blood all over my face and a giant gash in between both of my eyebrows.  I start cleaning it up and it began to bleed again.  Luckily I was able to stop it, however, I did some investigating to see if I could piece together what exactly happened.  There was already a lot of dried blood in the sink, so I'm assuming I stumbled over to the mirror in my sleep walking state to try to clean it.  The weirdest part was the blood that was around the door frame leading outside of my apartment and a small pool of it on the ground.  But, there wasn't any blood on the doorknob.  There was also very little blood on my sheets and pillows.  I asked my roommates, but they did not see anything.  The worst part is now I'm walking around campus and literally everyone is asking me what happened.  Half the people I talk to think I'm possessed.  Anyway, that's what happened.  I have some other funny sleepwalking stories I can tell if y'all want to hear them, but they're not really TIFU stories.", "summary": "Was raped by a bear and can't remember it because I was sleepwalking."}
{"id": "t3_1mac5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[f/24] am introducing my son[3yo] to my BF[23] of 1 month next week... Would like some advice please!", "post": "Okay, a short back story for clarity:\nI have never introduced a significant other to my son since his father and I split up a couple years ago. I've tried to make it a point to not parade men in front of him, and to be honest, I haven't felt serious enough about any of the men I've dated to even consider bringing them around.\n\nSo I haven't really spent a lot of time considering the possibility of what could happen when someone finally does meet him. \n\nMy current boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a month. I had toyed with the idea of bringing up meeting my son to him, but decided it would be best to wait until he brought it up, because that would mean he's ready for it.\n\nHe did bring it up, and now we are planning an outing to the zoo together, just the three of us. \n\nHere's where I need some advice, or perhaps a similar situation that one of you may have gone through to comfort me a little. \n\nI'm definitely beginning to fall for this man. He is wonderful in every way so far. But what do I do if this ends up being too much for him to handle? I would like to be able to talk to him afterwards and ask him if he is still sure he's interested in pursuing this relationship after seeing a glimpse of what my child is like. Is this an appropriate thing to ask/talk about, and if so, how soon should I bring it up? \n\nI feel it's important to mention as a side note I bought him tickets to his favorite musical as a surprise (and they were not cheap!) and was planning on giving them to him as a \"Thank you\" after our date, but I am afraid that if he decides he isn't ready for something like this, he may feel obligated to stay with me after I had spent a small fortune on him... Should I still give them to him then, or wait?", "summary": "New boyfriend is meeting son, need to know when it's the right time to talk about things, and if its appropriate to give him a gift."}
{"id": "t3_3hslqt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Any way I could make a girl feel better by telling her she looks good?", "post": "This girl I know well has often said she looked bad. Be it clothing, weight,her dress choice,etc. I have said she looks great after telling me she improved on her weight, she still was kinda nervous like adjusting her clothes and hair and trying to make it seem like she never mentioned anything, she did smile a bit and said thanks. Her dress according to her was bad so she changed it for a different one and I said you looked great and she told me how she exchanged her dress for another and why, going on and on. I told her dont worry you looked nice and she seemed okay. \n\nI feel like I could say something to her so it just makes her feel good or boosts her self esteem.Its not exactly low, just an effort could help. Do I just tell her she is beautiful or gorgeous? Or should I do it some other way like compliment her clothes? I know body parts are a definite no. I have heard girls like compliments overall and it makes them feel pretty and good, not generalizing, but saying that being nice could not hurt\nAny ideas or advice would help me here", "summary": "Girl is very conscious about herself and how she looks. She naturally looks good, but how can I tell it to her so she feels good about herself?"}
{"id": "t3_22hsg5", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The rest of my family is pretty overweight...I'm not sure how to tell them I want to lose weight.", "post": "This has been a problem for me ever since I started wanting to lose weight - I started taking birth control and gained weight back to my highest, which really is only 30 pounds over my GW and technically not even overweight. \n\nMy mother, father, and sister are all overweight - my sister unfortunately did not get my genes, and has been this way all our lives despite eating basically exactly the same as I did. My mother has been overweight my entire life. My father as well, though even more-so now that he's getting well into his 50s. \n\nWhenever I want to tell my family that I want to lose weight, I feel guilty, almost ashamed. All I can think is that I'm insulting them. I'm 'the pretty one' according to my sister, my mother has tried to diet and has failed, and going to them, saying I want to lose 30 pounds when I'm technically not even overweight (I'm relatively close - 5 or 10 more pounds would do it) feels like a slap in the face. I love my family. I don't want them to feel like I'm judging them. My sister is gorgeous. My parents are wonderful, beautiful people. I would like to have their support, but I don't think I can ask for it. My father, especially, wouldn't give up junk food if I asked them to do it with me...and asking them to do it with me feels like an even bigger slap in the face. Like my own weight loss goals are just a ploy to get them to eat healthier. \n\nThe problem is when I'm home, which will be really often soon, there's all kinds of junk in the house, and my mother hates to cook so will often want to opt for take out or order in stuff that's really high calorie. I'm worried it'll only make my weight loss harder. \n\nMy mother is really sensitive, and so is my sister. I'm kind of lost here.", "summary": "My family is wonderful, but not necessarily fit. I want their support, but I don't want them to think that I think they're ugly and fat, because I don't."}
{"id": "t3_2ixf91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19 M] with my[23 F] friend who has a LDR, wants to keep hanging out.", "post": "I first met this girl through an mmo mobile game, called ingress, where you have to meet others in order to play the game, near March of this year.\n\nWhen I first saw her, I couldn't believe she was actually playing the game to begin with. In my mind I kept going, \"what are you doing here, you are defenitely out of place\".\n\nI just shrugged it off and didn't think much of it, because I never thought that I would ever really create a relationship with her to begin with. A few months pass and I decide to chat her up. \n\nSuprisingly, she responds and we end up messaging each other past till one o'clock some nights. Eventually we hang out and we head to an ingress related event in another major city close by. \n\nBut, before we leave she hits me with the boyfriend card. So the entire day of the event, I was devastated. \n\nAfter the event, I\u00b4m still talking to her and hang out with her a few more times. It was all fine until, one day her bf, when we were hanging out, flipped out on her and they had a huge arguement about him being jealous. \n\nAfter that I\u00b4ve tried my best to cut down on communicating with her, which is tough because she still plays ingress as much as I do, and avoid hanging out together so her bf won\u00b4t get jealous again. \n\nBut now, she wants to hang out again, and I\u00b4m starting to think that she only wants to hang out to fill that void, that her bf can\u00b4t fill since he is somwhere else or she is just trying to make him jealous again. \n\nSo I just wanted to ask if I should hang out with her again or bail on any plans that she wants to make.", "summary": "My attractive friend wants to keep hanging out even though she has a LDR and she knows that he get's jealous."}
{"id": "t3_4chanw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my SO [25 M] Six years I am confused about my feelings.", "post": "For the past few months, I have felt like I don't feel the same towards my SO as I used too. I feel guilty everytime he says he loves me. I feel like I'm a burden on his life. \n\nBefore all this, we've had a mostly  dead bedroom, with me  trying to initiate sex, but mostly being denied. We had sex mostly on  his terms. And even when I was able to initiate sex, I felt like it was out of pity, or some similar feeling. I would say, about 3 times a month.\n\nOn top of this, recently he's said he's less and less attracted to me physically each day. But he is attracted to my mind.  Am I crazy or unwarrented in wanting to feel physically attractive to my SO? \n\nI tried to talk to him about all this, and ask for a break, in order to figure out how I feel.  But he shut me out, he refuses to talk to me, except to insult me. How can any of this get better, if he doesn't talk to me?", "summary": "I have very confused feelings about my So, who  is less and less attracted to me each day."}
{"id": "t3_33g1qd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28m] My girlfriend of 1 year [25f] has been out of town all week and has barely contacted me. Should I be concerned?", "post": "She left for Boston last Thursday. We finally talked on the phone for about ten minutes 4 days later on Monday (after calling and texting Sunday night and never getting a response), and once before that for a couple of minutes when she was drunk and wanted to bitch about her friend. But other than that she's almost avoided contacting me entirely.\n\nI texted Friday night and she didn't respond at all. I saw she logged onto Facebook through her phone about 4 times after though, so she had to have seen it. She finally texted back the next morning saying she went bar hopping with friends and her phone died, which was a lie since she logged into facebook intermittently all night. I also saw through instagram that she was at a party, which she left out.\n\nWhen she HAS texted me, it's been short sentences, and it's only been in response to me. If I hadn't initiated contact the few times she's texted me, I'm not certain I would've talked to her at all.\n\nShould this be a concerned? Should I just stop contacting her and see what happens, or is that too passive aggressive?", "summary": "girlfriend out of town and doesn't seem to want to talk to me. Says her phone keeps dying but I can see that she's on Facebook mobile"}
{"id": "t3_21zo6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Finding girls at a small college? [19M]", "post": "I go to a small college and I haven't had the best luck, I feel like I keep getting used to fill voids. I'm kind of a shy guy too so I really only try if I feel I have a chance so 'cold calling' is tough.\n\nThe issue is that with my major I have had the same people in all my classes and the only way I know of to meet people is at the dance club and a lot of girls there aren't really looking for anything meaningful.\n\nWe also tend to party with the same people but were considering crashing some parties to meet more people. What are some other ways to meet people here?\n\nP.S. Is it even worth trying with so little time left? I do only live about 1:30 minutes at most from most people who go here.", "summary": "Know any good ways to meet women at a small college?"}
{"id": "t3_50n7ap", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you move on from an emotionally abusive relationship?", "post": "My BF (24) and I (F: 25) had been officially dating for about 2 years and been together almost 3. Since the beginning of this year he's been lovey dovey one minute and as soon as an issue comes up and I try to fix/discuss it with him (usually about him staying in contact with his crazy ex who tried to break us up and come between our relationship), or we have a fight, he threatens to leave me. I have been anxious and on edge for this entire year and I have been incredibly unwell both physically and mentally as a result. He officially left me just now (again) over an Instagram instant message after ignoring me for almost an entire week (ignoring is a method he likes to use sometimes - when I get \"too much\" or too \"annoying\" he threatens to ignore me or leave me and I have to be the one to apologise or come running back). I have been nothing but loyal and we have had some super amazing times together, we really were best friends but what I've been put through has really damaged me and convinced me I'm a horrible person and everything is my fault. All I've tried to do is resolve issues and fight for our relationship so we can be stronger, but he just wants the relationship when it's \"easy\" (his words). He has pretty much gone for good this time. How can I get over something that has caused me so much anxiety? We spent so much time together so there is a massive void in my life and I feel so lost. I do hang with friends, have hobbies and bury myself in work but I need some guidance - something to motivate me to keep going. My strength and fight within myself is just gone and I don't know who I am anymore. TYIA", "summary": "how do you get over an emotionally abusive relationship, where everything is always blamed on you? How do I get over that void, the pain, the fear and my anxiety and move on to happier things in life?"}
{"id": "t3_1fw1yz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Gf (21) and i (22) break up after 2 years. Best way to get closure?", "post": "Was 2 weeks away from 2 years. First year was best year of my life. Really thought she was the one. After the first year the spark started to die down.. We never fight but at same time we both had a hard time saying when something would bother us. Last October she says she needs a break to figure things out. A week later we're back together. I've thought about breaking up past few months but never had the heart in me to do it. Last week she comes over and says it needs to end, she's graduating and I'm gonna transfer soon. She needs time to grow up. Yada Yada Yada. During our breaking up I sensed it coming and was speechless and didn't know what to say. I was really upset about the whole thing but it had to happen eventually. Past week we've been avoiding each other as I'm sure it's hard on both of us. The other day I text to see how she is and I say I want to meet up since I've gathered my thoughts and feelings and want to get some closure and she wants that too. We have always said we want to be good friends forever. After she left from the breakup I wrote down everything I was feeling and little things that kinda bugged me during our relationship, one being I've always been a little concerned with her drinking. I plan on telling her everything I wrote down. Is that a good idea? We're in college so i get it, but I work late hours on weekend so maybe I was just jealous she would be having fun partying without me. tomorrow we are gonna meet up. \n\nWhat's the best way to gain closure? Are there specific things I should be saying or asking her? how should we handle this relationship as friends down the road?", "summary": "girlfriend breaks up with me after two years. Meeting tomorrow, what's best way to gain closure?"}
{"id": "t3_39unml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 9 months, should I confess to my infidelity?", "post": "I met my boyfriend at college this year. We started dating during our first semester and things have been going great ever since. However, there have been a few times this year where I have gotten intoxicated at parties and have made out with other boys. I have probably made out with 5 or 6 guys since I've started dating him. \n\nI feel absolutely terrible for cheating on him.  Even though it has not gone past making out, I still know that what I have done is terrible. I know many of you will say, \"If you really loved him, you wouldn't have cheated on him.\" Honestly, I do love him though and I am very ashamed for the mistakes that I have made. \n\nI know many of you will probably chastise me and say that I am too immature/selfish for a relationship.  I can honestly say that I am working on things though and have not kissed any other guys for 4 months now.\n\nI really want to be the kind of girlfriend my boyfriend deserves.  My only dilemma is this: On one hand, I could tell my boyfriend the truth about what has happened in the past (which would probably break his heart and potentially end our relationship), or on the other hand I could come clean and tell him the truth.", "summary": "Should I confess to my boyfriend about my past infidelity?"}
{"id": "t3_1dodvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(23F) Roomate(20f) is sabotaging relationships with mutual friends and I don't know what to do anymore.", "post": "Hi; first of all I live with my boyfriend in his mothers old house which we rent with 3 other roommates. This girl just so happens to be the girl that took his virginity 3 months before we started dating... so it's a little rough for me to be living with her in the first place.\n\nLately she's been really catty and treating me like shit. She gets really snippy, yells at my dog, and had a bitch fit because I was doing laundry yesterday??? Well, I overheard her talking shit about me to a friend, saying I'm annoying and all I do is eat the food in the house. Ok; first of all, I'm 10 weeks pregnant, yeah I'm going to fucking eat. Secondly, she doesn't buy fucking groceries anyways, I only eat what my boyfriend and I buy.\n\nAnyways; now all of our mutual friends are treating me weird whenever they come over, like they are afraid to talk to me. I pulled one of them aside and asked wtf was going on... and he said that she's having a cow over living with me and that she can't wait until I move out etc etc. Which whatever, I'm happy to get away from her too, but I don't give a shit about her.. I care that she's potentially trying to turn people against me that I care about.", "summary": "roomate is a catty bitch and I don't know what to do about her making our mutual friends not talk to me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2cbdx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] need tips on asking a coworker [24F] at another worksite", "post": "So basically I met this girl a few times in long (7 day, 3 day) training sessions before as we work for the same organization but different worksites. She actually works 20 min from my house and I work 1hr from my house ):\n\nAnyways we became friends in those training sessions just over a year ago. She was quite flirty and asked me to go out for lunch on one of the training days. I obliged as I love good food in different places, but had a girlfriend at the time. During our talks we mentioned this program that our organization uses that sucks, and she was good at it, so she said I should ask her for help when we get back to our worksites. I actually did as I had issues with it, and she gave me some good tips via email, but then added that I should call her as some things were hard to explain... with a smiley or winkey face I forget. But very flirty, and I was like dang... but no I have a girlfriend so I had to forget it.\n\nNote that I do find this girl quite attractive and smart, so if I hadn't had a girlfriend I would've gone for it 100%. \n\nAnyways, my ex now and I broke up over a month ago, and I'm starting to think of dating again, and thought of this girl I haven't talked to for over a year (since that email). I emailed her today to ask if she remembered me and if she's any good at (the upgraded version of this same program that's even more annoying now). She does remember, and seems to be willing to help. Not sure if she's still as interested though or maybe is seeing someone already, and I need tips on figuring out if she is interested, and how to go from work email to asking her out- while we're working at sites almost an hour apart. I am making some small chat via email and she seems friendly but not as flirty as before? Not sure, as I did kind of stop communicating with her after her email with the winkey face last year (didn't ignore her, just didn't reply to that email or call and we just never talked again).\n\nTips?", "summary": "Met girl 1 year ago from another worksite during a training session. She was interested but I had a girlfriend. Now I don't and would like to ask her out, but am just emailing casually and am wondering how to move forwards from that."}
{"id": "t3_1271aj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, did I act like a douchebag?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I were done with dinner and decided to go to this micro brewery bar. We walk in and this large bearded bartender yells at us \"We're closed!\" I think \"Uhh what? it is Saturday at 6:30.\" However, the bar was pretty empty and it looked like majority of the patrons were tabbing out. I, thinking this is probably a joke, continue to walk in with my girlfriend. The burly bartender again yells, \"We're closed!\" but a little louder this time. I think \"Eh, well that is weird\" and start to walk outside and say to my girlfriend \"Come on baby, they're closed.\" As I am just about to get to the door I hear someone, probably the other few bargoers, telling me that the bartender was just joking. I get outside and my girlfriend says \"Come on in he was just joking.\" I say \"Fuck that that was disrespectful. I can spend my money somewhere else.\" Later, she told me she wished I would have sucked it up and gone in and gotten a beer with her but wasn't overly upset with me for how I acted.\n\nA part of me feels like a douche, but another part feels like I was justified to be somewhat insulted and not wanting to spend my money there. I felt stupid for believing that they were closed and being able to be tricked and didn't want to go in and hang out with those people. What do you think?", "summary": "was tricked by a bartender into thinking a bar was closed, walk out, girlfriend tries to get me to go back in and I refuse."}
{"id": "t3_1y6oei", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just getting shit off my chest.", "post": "So, as i kindof didn't tell anyone about this, it is quite hard to write about. I just really need to get this off my chest to be able to breathe again.\n\nA few weeks ago i had a really bad mental breakdown. I don't know if the reason is that i suppressed my depression from being bullied pretty bad a few years ago, or that it has been a huge wave of stress the last half year. \n\nMy best friend now has several illnesses, which make her socially awkward and is the reason why she seldom is at school. Recently she also tried to kill herself, and she was in a relationship with some douchebag who left her laying around at parties when she got an attack while he made out with random boys. \n\nAfter my mental breakdown i had a hard time getting to meet people. I tried to avoid them as much as possible, skipped classes, and hid as much as possible. I was simply too scared to go through the normal school-day (going to sum it up: getting judged, dissappointing everyone, everyone has crazy hormones which maximizes the level of nervousness)... \n\nI've now been trying to get up from this downpoint, and been trying to only focus on school. My best support was my sister, but she lives so far away that we hardly get to talk. My mom noticed some of my depression and sent me off to a doctor, where i am now waiting for results from blood-tests. \n\nToday i visited my best friend again, and her best support (a hamster, if you ever had a pet when being down, you understand) just died. Her family is not really a great support for her at all, so now i had to be there for her. \n\nWhile at her place, my mom called me and told me that because i had been gone from school so much, i might not be allowed to travel to my hometown this year, which is a few countries away. I really looked forward to seeing my old friends and having a pause from the constant pressure from everyone around here. This really really sucks.", "summary": "Many smaller problems leading to a mental breakdown."}
{"id": "t3_2auwuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] messed up and want my ex [25/M] back. What do I do?", "post": "I was in a relationship with a guy who treated me great and I took it for granted. He liked me a lot and always made me feel special. I wasn't used to that and I became distant. He broke up with me because I was texting my ex and lying about it to him for a second time. I wasn't saying anything sexual or nostalgic, but I did lie about it.\n\nI realize now I took him for granted and I want to be with him again and I've told him, but he thinks I will hurt him again. How do I prove I won't?", "summary": "I fucked up, how do I prove I won't again?"}
{"id": "t3_kvbkq", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "[x-post from r/AskReddit] Every day I see a kid getting bullied, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I get the bus to work most days, and each time I'm on it, there's this group of rowdy schoolboys sitting in the back seats, shouting and swearing and generally being teenage boys.\n\nThey get off at the stop that this sweet little boy (let's call him Fred) gets on at, even though they all go to the same school. Fred is tiny, only about 4'6\", whereas these others boys are well over five feet tall. When they get off, they push him and shove him around, laugh at him and shout his name and cat-call and whistle at him. Every day, he gets on the bus close to, or in, tears.\n\nI realise this isn't the full extent of the bullying, it's only the tiny portion I see, and nothing makes me angrier than a group of bullies ganging up on some defenseless kid.\n\nI really, utterly detest the thought of just being another onlooker, watching the mob and doing fuck all to help the victim, but I have absolutely no idea what to do. I know Fred's first name and his and the bullys' school, so realistically I could call them up and do something about it, but I feel like that would be interfering and I'm worried it might make matters worse for Fred. I've considered talking to him on the bus, but again I don't want to interfere and I don't think Fred would appreciate knowing just how visible his pain is to people.\n\nShould I just let it slide and mind my own business, or should I try to take action?", "summary": "little kid is getting bullied by big kids, I'm a bystander and don't know if I should get involved."}
{"id": "t3_225fj5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[27 M] with my friend [24 F] of 2.5 years, can't tell if she wants to just be good friends or something else.", "post": "My friend has a cheerful and flirty personality, and lately we have been spending more time together. She is usually the one setting up these platonic hang-outs. I genuinely enjoy her company, and am satisfied with being just her platonic friend. However, I've always found her stunningly gorgeous, and have often day-dreamed about what it would be like to make out with her. But I've always held back, not wanting to ruin a meaningful friendship.\n\nToday she asked what my plans were for the evening, and after telling her my two options, she said, \"ok I may join you at either place\"  And recently, she's made it a point to tell me when she's made out with someone, which I suspect might be a move to make me jealous.\n\nAm I being oblivious? Does she want more, or does she just want to be good friends? Would I ruin a friendship by attempting to kiss her if the moment is right?", "summary": "Can't tell if my female friend wants to be more. I want to make out with her, but don't want to ruin the friendship. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4mtxtd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] want to ask my friend [16F] out.", "post": "Okay, I really need some advice here, I do not want comments about people complaining about the age so please don't unless you give advice as well because it really hurts to think about her being with someone else. She is legally an adult in my country.\n\nNow onto the question, I have been friends with her for years and now I want to ask her out on a date, how do I best do that? We have met and hung out as friends before but now I want to take our relationship further if possible, how is the best way to ask her out?\n\nAgain, please don't tell me not to just based off of the age, I have thought about it and made my mind up that I want to at least try because if she dates someone else and I didn't even try, I know i'll beat myself up over it. I don't even mind if she says no, I just feel like I need to at least try to have some closure on the matter you know?\n\nPlease help me reddit, I've seen the good you can do!\n\nThanks for any advice.", "summary": "How is the best way to ask out my friend who I have known for years?"}
{"id": "t3_4yvctc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is 4.8% APR high when the contract rate is 4% on the mortgage?", "post": "quick background:\n\nBuying a house, going conventional with 3% down to avoid lifetime PMI on an FHA loan. Pretty far into the process and the broker runs some numbers (he said they were on the high end) where the contract rate was 4%, the APR comes out to 4.8% and that seems like a pretty big jump from contract rate to APR, almost a whole percent.\n\nTalked to the broker on the phone and said it seemed like a pretty big jump and he thought i was looking for hidden fees or something, I really wasn't. Although he suggested that it may be higher because I was only putting 3% down.", "summary": "Is there a general rule of thumb of how much higher the APR should be over the contract rate? I feel like 4.8% on a 4% contract rate is high for 3% down on a conventional mortgage."}
{"id": "t3_xkzgz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why use the term \"gay marriage\" and not \"civil unions\" or something else?", "post": "I am neutral about this issue, I do not favor any sides. I also do not follow any religions.\n\nHowever, something bothers me about the term \"gay marriage\". It seems to me that by using this specific term they are greatly hurting how their cause is seen : marriage has a very strong religious connotation. The way they say it makes me think that they want to have a same-sex marriage under the christian tradition, or whatever religion they follow, which must be extremely offensive to the religious folks.\n\nI'm not implying their bigoted views are reasonable or acceptable, i'm saying it would be very wrong for gays to have religious marriages considering how obvious religion and homosexuality is a mismatch.\n\nSo the question is, Why call it gay marriage and not something else? And am i the only one to be bothered by the term? Why not just say you want to have unions that grants the same right to same-sex couples as hetero couples and not go out of your way to call it marriage? I foresee that people will mention that marriage is not necessarily a religious thing. To that i say, BS, not a valid argument : you can't pretend that the word marriage is not strongly related to the religious tradition, and i say that as someone who is rather anti-religious.", "summary": "I think using the term \"gay marriage\" is obviously counterproductive to their cause. Why not use another term?"}
{"id": "t3_zwu1s", "subreddit": "college", "title": "No social skills, is that a problem?", "post": "r/college, I'm a natural introvert.  I don't really have much in common with my generation.  I don't like rap, I can't dance for shit, and I don't really like the taste of alcohol.  Add some social anxiety to that and you've got my current situation.\n\nI'm a month into college, and for four Fridays and Saturdays, I've sat in my dorm room doing absolutely nothing.  Browsing Reddit, playing Xbox by myself, usually offline (the wifi is spotty on the 12th floor), things like that.  I look all around me and see people connecting.  I have made two or three friends while I've been here, but the awkwardness and hesitation plays into me not really actively trying to hang out with them.  I'm usually okay on my own, but lately I've been feeling kinda lonely.  I really don't know how to push myself to go do things or meet people I don't expect to have anything in common with.  \n\nIs there anything I can do?  I WANT to meet people.  I WANT to find someone who I really do connect with.  College is usually the place to do that, but it seems I'm not doing well with it.  Part of the reason I feel so isolated is because my major is Language Studies and I want to get into the JET program to teach English in Japan, which inevitably means I'd be leaving the States after college.  It feels like anything I would try to create now, relationship or friendship, would automatically have a time limit on it.  I'm not the partying kind of person.  I'm not a drinker.  I don't smoke cigarettes.  Haven't met anyone who smokes weed but I really don't want to get caught high/in possession, especially my freshman year.  I'm sorry for the wall of text but I needed some place to vent tonight.", "summary": "introvert me has made a grand total of 4 friends while in college, high school friend who came here included.  Don't connect with others on almost any level, feel like social pariah.  Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_1u746o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] broke up with my girlfriend [21 F] of 1 year. Her immediate rebound and history of depression is worrying me.", "post": "I broke up with my girlfriend a few weeks ago. It wasn't sudden, it was something that we had talked about over the last month. She was absolutely devastated though, and completely heart broken. As much as I still care about her and remember all the great times we had, it was something that I needed to do.\n\nWhen we broke up she said that she loved me more than anyone before, and wouldn't be able to easily get over it.\n\nKnowing that she has struggled with a lifelong battle of depression, I wanted to make sure that she was doing okay by checking in with her friends. To my surprise I find out that she has started dating a heavy drinking and druggy kid she knows and removed all of our pictures together on social media outlets just days after the breakup. I can say with confidence that there was no prior kindling of a relationship between them beforehand.\n\nI don't feel good about this. Especially with her history. I got to know her very well, and I loved her for a long time, but this, its not right. I am very worried about her.", "summary": "My ex-girlfriend with a lifelong history of depression seems to be rebounding in a very worrying way. What can/should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kjf52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [24 M] of 18 months, I think he has double standards regarding depression.", "post": "Long time lurker but this is my first time commenting! I've seen that this sub can give good advice.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months now, and when things are good we're an amazing couple. However, as I'm sure you can guess things are not always perfect.\n\nI have depression and anxiety, its something that is not completely under control but I'm working on it. I take daily medication and I have weekly therapy. Late last year I went off my medication and my boyfriend was furious for obvious reasons (I'm very unreasonabe and emotional when not on medication), I went back on it and I now see my mistake.\n\nCurrently my boyfriend suffers from depression, two years ago (before we were together) he was diagnosed and perscribed anti-depressants but he never took them. This week he has a doctor's appointment and I'm fairly certain he'll once again be given medication that he won't take.\n\nHe has a thing about not taking medication (I think it's a control thing), or, in my opinion, handling healthcare well (procrastinating over getting tests done etc).\n\nI think if given it he should take the medication, but he disagrees. Who is right? Should I try and persuade him or pick my battles and focus on encouraging him to really engage in therapy (another example of procrastination!)?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Should I encourage my boyfriend to take anti-depressants even though he won't want to?"}
{"id": "t3_3fewbi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23M] wants to hang out with the friend [23F] he cheated on his ex-girlfriend with. Am I [21F] being unreasonable?", "post": "Hey Reddit. I'm going to be brief about this. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. He's lied to me in the past and has betrayed my trust (some have been \"little things\"). I won't get into the details here but I decided to forgive him. Overtime this has worn out my trust.\nHe's going back home for a vacation in a few weeks. The last time he went, he began smoking again, came back home, and hid a vaporizer from me for 1 month (lots of bathroom breaks - I even suspected a medical condition!). Last night, I told him I was uncomfortable with him hanging out with a female friend back home - M. My boyfriend cheated with M on his ex-girlfriend years ago. He thinks I'm being unreasonable/controlling for asking because: 1) I don't trust him (uh, duh!), 2) This happened with M when he was 18 and it was a one time thing, 3) He knew her before me, 4) They're both in relationships.\n\nI get upset and tell him that if he won't respect my boundaries I won't respect his. A fight breaks out and I tell him that according to his logic, he shouldn't mind me contacting ex-FWB on the basis of establishing friendships. He interprets this as a threat, and the fight escalates. He tells me that he's not showing up to an outing we planned today (that I had purchased tickets for) because he doesn't feel like seeing me anymore. Mind you, I'm broke as is, and paid for my ticket, and we planned this thoroughly. I get upset as a result of this, and our fight escalates. He somehow ends up breaking up with me.\n\nWas I in the wrong for wanting him to not hang out with this friend? I'm very upset at the fact that he cancelled because he \"didn't feel like it anymore.", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me, was I being reasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_29m16w", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Ladies, should I confront him about his baby that's on the way?", "post": "I have a coworker [M, 25] that likes me [F, 25], and he's been trying to go out with me for months now, ever since he broke up with his ex GF. He first asked me out at the end of last year, but I told him I don't think it's a good idea to date coworkers (especially since we work in a very small office, and I didn't wanna be his rebound anyways). \n\nHe's still unrelenting - always complimenting me, flirting with me, suggesting date ideas, etc. Honestly, I like him too, and I was just about to finally give in when... \n\nAnother coworker in our office told me that this guy is expecting a baby with his ex-GF. She's about 6 months pregnant now, which means that he's probably known about it, and HID it from me, the entire time he's been coming after me. Everyone in the office seems to know except me, which is weird because he usually tells me all his secrets and doesn't tell anyone else. The other day, in front of a new coworker, he flat out DENIED ever getting a girl pregnant when the subject happened to come up, and I desperately wanted to call him out on his lie. \n\nDo you ladies think I should confront him about it? I feel used/deceived. Why would he know he's got a baby on the way, yet hide it from me and still try to ask me out? Even if I didn't like him like that, why would he keep it from me as his friend? It's hurtful that he would feel the need to exclude this life-changing event from me. \n\nAdvice? Thoughts?", "summary": "coworker who's been trying to go out with me for months has a baby on the way with his ex-GF and is actively trying to hide it from me. Should I confront him about it? "}
{"id": "t3_1rsn5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 3 years. Feeling financially insecure around the holiday season.", "post": "This one won't be too long. I am finishing up my bachelors on Dec 15th, but also working a [very] part time job at my local vet hospital. So basically, I have a very small income after I pay my bills (unfortunately, bills are still due in December!). My boyfriend G, has been helping me pay for some of my family's christmas presents and he knows that I am unable to reciprocate for his family. He has a pretty good teaching gig and makes a steady paycheck. He told me he doesn't want my money (in regards to paying him back for my family's presents). I still feel like this isn't right. After graduation, I will be working more hours. Should I let this go? He really is helping me out A LOT, but we're not married and I don't want him to feel like he has to give me money for things like this.", "summary": "Boyfriend has been helping me buy xmas presents for my family that I can't afford on my own. He is helping out a lot and I love him. I just feel really bad and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2yaikh", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Fights at the dog park, just ugh.", "post": "I sort of hate going to the dog park on weekends with nice weather because there's just so many dogs and irresponsible owners that aren't used to being there and probably shouldn't be around other dogs (or maybe even humans).\n\nThere was a dangerous situation today in which two dogs kept getting in a fight, and the owner of one dog completely ignored it, to the point where everyone was saying \"Who owns the black and white dog?\" The owner of the other dog (White Dog) was trying to get the leash on hers to get him out of there and leave, and B&W Dog provoked White Dog again, with the lady right in the middle of it. Very dangerous situation. Again, everyone's like WHOSE DOG IS THIS? And of course, everyone's scared to intervene for their own safety. White Dog ends up bleeding (I don't think it was too serious, they left immediately). Owner of B&W Dog finally walks up, and argues with the people telling him to remove his dog and go home. He stayed at the park with his dog for at least another hour, not watching him at all. They were still there when I left. Looking back I sort of wonder if someone should have called the cops or Animal Control or something. There were children around, and you know, more dogs.\n\nAnd, well, the dog in question and the dog that was provoked were bully breeds. Am I wrong for thinking you need to be aware of what you're dealing with when you own one? An aggressive dog with an owner in denial is seriously dangerous. It's how people get killed.", "summary": "Don't bring an aggressive dog to the dog park and then be an ass about it."}
{"id": "t3_q4g59", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need opinion on first date idea for College Student", "post": "I could speak for a long, long time about how there are many small details that make this situation a bit complicated, but I'll try to avoid that.\n\nBasically, I asked a good friend of mine out on a first date. Previous to this, we've watched a few movies and cuddled, but we haven't really done anything yet. We're taking it slow on purpose.\n\nSo here's my problem- Basically, I'm trying to figure out a good date idea that will encourage conversation and learning about each other that won't be awkward. My main problem is that if there isn't any sort of good bonding and movement towards intimacy within the first few dates, the question of \"So why the heck are we dating? This isn't much different from our friendship before?\"\n\nMy attempt at trying to counter said outcome would be through a sorta cheesy date idea. (she said she likes cheesy stuff). Anyways, Downtown from the city I live is a street with a bunch of iron cast mice hidden around mainstreet. I figure that if we have a date sort of centered around talking while we walked looking for the mice. If we found one, we'd either take some sort of corny, stupid, fun picture or ask some question that we've always wanted to ask to the other person. After that, it'd be dinner and then maybe a movie back at the dorm if she didn't want it to end then.\n\nBasically, I'm trying to figure out something to do that will stimulate conversation in a fun, learning about each other way. When there's no one else around, we flirt just fine. The problem is that we've never really been secluded for longer than an hour. Our talking conversations usually last 15 to 30 mins at most due to some sort of interruption.\n\nI'm pretty sure that even if this idea fails, we'll still have a great time. I just want it to be good since she's never really dated anyone and I've never been on a date before.\n\nEssentially, I need either a critique, another good date idea, or just any plain advice. Thanks!!!", "summary": "Give first date advice to a guy that needs a conversation based first date."}
{"id": "t3_2uk2pv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF[21F], seem to be getting more distant", "post": "I honestly just want a place to rant with everything that I've held in for about 3 years now.\n\nMy gf and I just recently reached the 5 year mark and it seems like we've been getting more distant lately. We don't talk as much as we used to and we're also not spending as much time together. I honestly don't know how I feel anymore, every time I try to bring something up to her we always just get into an argument. It seems like lately I'm the only one trying in the relationship, I planned and took care of our entire anniversary. She doesn't really bring anything to our relationship anymore, she'd use to surprise me whether it be with gifts or just unexpected visits to my place.\n\nI helped her family with some financial problems some time ago and every time I ask her when her family would pay me back she just gets mad. I just feel like a bank to her. I just wanted a place to rant like I said, I'm hopeful we can work something out she might just be busy with university (I already graduated and am working now) but it seems like whenever she really wants to have a talk it's about helping her out with money or what have you.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Ranting about the distance between my SO and I"}
{"id": "t3_1erxmm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Girlfriend [18F] is too attached for me to leave her. Please help.", "post": "So the other day my girlfriend for 6 months and I [18M] had a bit of an argument which lead to us talking about us breaking up. She told me that if I ever left her, she would still love me and wait for me to love her again even if I was dating someone else. She said she would never date anyone else again after me and even if she did, she would still have feelings for me and try to find some parts of me in that other guy.\n\nWhile this was an incredibly sweet thing to say, it comes at the wrong time for I feel myself losing feelings for her. I fear that we don't have enough in common (in fact we're opposites and in this case opposites don't attract). \n\nI don't want to treat her poorly and get her to leave me and stop loving me because I can't do that to her, but I feel like we should just be friends. How can I do this without treating her terribly while also getting her to lose feelings for me after time too? I don't want her to be the kind of obsessive ex. \n\nI've been trying to give her subtle hints that I'm not happy with her (no sexual contact, trying to keep the conversations short, spending less time with her).", "summary": "Girlfriend says she will always love me right when I'm losing feelings for her. How do I break up with someone who's so attached to me without treating her poorly?"}
{"id": "t3_3k9luz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Do College Owned Apartments and Dorms have the same tennant/landlord rights?", "post": "Edit: Just realized that I messed up the title, not sure if I can just easily change it... it should read as \"Do College Owned Apartments and Dorms have the same tennant/landlord rights as normal apartments?\"\n\nAbout a month ago I posted this question here regarding my college charging me rent that I did not think I owed:\n\nI was able to get some really nice responses that helped guide me to this point.\nSo my college finally got back to me after sending them multiple emails over the period of a month. Today I finally have a meeting scheduled where I'm going to be able to fight for my side. \n\nThere's only one question that I have left which I feel can strengthen my argument:\n\nDo college owned dorms have to follow the same rules and laws that normal apartments with the classical \"Landlord and Tennant\" situation?\n\nFor example, my college is located in New York. Rochester to be exact. are they bound by NY RPP law, located here:\n\nThanks so much for the help!", "summary": "Are college-owned dorms or apartments bound by NY RPP law?"}
{"id": "t3_1x89ee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl In My Psych Class Gave Me A Note", "post": "There's a girl (17F) in my Psych class that I (17M) kind of have a crush on. We cross gazes often and end up smiling at eachother briefly, then going back to what we were doing before.\n\nToday, we had an assignment in which we were supposed to not use any type of technology for fifteen minutes. Trivial assignment, but I digress.. During this time, I pulled out a book. Mankind: Have a Nice Day, to be exact. I began reading and after a while, I saw her pass by my desk and put a note on it as she went. I opened it up and it read: \n\n\"Hello. You seem like a very sweet man. Keep that smile on your face and say hi to more people. You never know what may happen. Keep your smile big and your mind wide open. :) I wish we could've talked in person.\nFrom: The girl you glare at every now and then\"\n\nI don't know what to make of this, really. I've not been in a relationship for so long that I am a bit rusty on reading signals. When I read the note, I couldn't stop smiling and it showed that it had an effect on me because she smiled back at me from across the room when I looked up. \n\nDoes anyone know what the note might mean? Is this an invite for friendship or an unofficial confession of her having a crush on me?", "summary": "Girl in my Psych class gave a note. Is she interested in me?"}
{"id": "t3_30vmdb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister has feelings for my other sisters ex boyfriend", "post": "To make this short and sweet, I am 25 and have 16 year old triplet sisters. We are all very close and they are good girls.\n\nMy sister, H, dated this boy Sam for about 8 months. They broke up on Thanksgiving. My other sister, K, is still friends with Sam after the breakup and they've become much closer. K told me tonight that she knows it is wrong to like him but she can't change her feelings. They've been holding hands and talking every day.\n\nH is understandably hurt. K did text Sam and tell him that they shouldn't date out of respect for H. I am trying to talk K through this and be there for her but I don't know what else to say. I basically told her that sisters are forever, you love your sister and out of respect for her, ex boyfriends are off limits. You can be friends with Sam but it can't go further.\n\nK is feeling alone and needs more friends. Her best friend basically abandoned her for another group of girls and K doesn't fit in. I know she is clinging to Sam because she needs someone but she can't do that because she is hurting her sister.\n\nWhat do I do/say? Any advice?", "summary": "My sister likes my other sisters ex, knows it's wrong and can't cope"}
{"id": "t3_2tga4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 /F] saw my ex [47 M/] last night. Told me he loved me.", "post": "My ex boyfriend broke up with me dec 4th, 2014. Was devastated and am still in love with him. Saw him last night at our local bar and he was pretty aneibriated. He told me he loved me and wanted to go home together. This is the first sign of any regret on his part or still showing interest. I obviously wanted to say \"I love you\" back, but instead, I said \"no you don't\". \n\nI walked out the door and went home. Haven't heard from him since. Not sure if I should contact him. Not sure if he meant it. Not sure of anything. \n\nI love him and think of him constantly, but self preservation tells me he was just drunk and to let it go. \n\nWhat should I do? Does he really still love me? Or was it just the booze talking?", "summary": "Drunk ex told me he loved me last night. Did he mean it?"}
{"id": "t3_2hgotv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my Girlfriend [21 F] of 2 months broke up with no indication of anything happening, I want answers though.", "post": "I've been contemplating many reasons why all of a sudden she would act weird around me and avoid me. We eventually talked and she told me that she was stressing out because of her parents health, school, her brothers relationship. We decided to take a break and it turned out it was a definite breakup. She now doesn't look or acknowledge me and I think there's an underlying reason why she thinks I'm the badguy.  Maybe she thought I was cheating but it was a misunderstanding of sorts.\n\nI want to sit down with her and ask her, and finally move on. Except the general consensus says that I should just move on.", "summary": "Want to ask my ex why we really broke up and find out what really happened. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_3c6t3q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (17) and my girlfriend(17) have been arguing lately - does she still love me???", "post": "Me(M17) and my girlfriend(F17) have been together about 5 years and I love her so much but I'm scared she doesn't love me anymore. For the first 4 years of our relationship we barely argued but this past year has been hell. We've began to argue more frequently and she cheated (just kissing) on me up town when she was drunk. She insisted it was nothing and told me she started crying after doing it but why would she do it in the first place. \n\nMy best friend also told me that at a party she got him to lay down with her to talk about some stuff then began kissing his kneck. When I was told about her cheating on me (from her friend) I confronted her about it and we just made up by having sex. Since then shes took every chance to tell me that she loves me and has stopped talking to my best friend that she kissed but I don't know if she is telling the truth or not. \n\nOur relationship isn't what it use to be as we don't really go out on dates anymore and when we fuck its more like a routine thing.", "summary": "my girlfriend and I are going a through a rough patch. Don't know if she still loves me."}
{"id": "t3_2vsc9u", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Backpacking USA for 5 months with 25k usd. I want to avoid the tourist trap as much as possible. i have a few things planned out over the duration the rest is a blamk canvas. Please give me some tips, ideas cultural events and locations, and anything you think is worth a visit.", "post": "hi all. im travelling to usa from Australia on the 6th of March the first month i will be folowing friends around very loosely sticking to their itinerary . the first week i land in LA and drive straight to san fran (the costal route) stay there one night then go to yosemite national park to the the upper yosemite falls trail. (yet to check if this is seasonal) after the hike we go straight to mammoth lakes for a week of snowboarding at mammoth mountain. (should we make a trip to near by mountains in Tahoe) on the 13th we drive back to LA and fly to cancun till the 23rd i was going to see the the mayan ruins and lack baclar nothing else is planned. from the 24th till aprox 31st i will be in miami nothing planned was just gonna wing it (any tips?) then from miami to nyc by plane for 2  week then to vegas for a week. that will bring me to about mid april the next thing i have planned after that is burning man in august which im hoping to meet someone over there to go with (shout out if your keen) . i would like to see everything in between these towns and states. back tracking is not an issue as i have cheap flights. majority of accom will be in backpackers with the ocassional splurge. i would much rather save my money for cultural things. also, if i get a 89 day visa and i leave the country to canada once its up can i get another visa and come back in for a further 89 days. any tips at all will be helpful, thank you so much for reading", "summary": "travelling america 5 months need tips!"}
{"id": "t3_4pcx0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] friend [18 M] told me he paid $900 to some random stranger online for advice on picking up girls", "post": "I know this isn't my business, but my friend isn't the brightest guy out there. His parents doesn't even know he did this. He told me he sent a guy named \"Brent Smith\" $400 via paypal on March 31st, for 3 hours of skype calls on advice on how to get girls. He showed me his paypal and it said $857.80... Yeah, I don't fucking know why he would do that. I know my friend so well. He's like my best friend. I've known him for 7 years and I know those skype calls never helped him. He never picks up girls and is too shy to do it. \n\nLook up brent smith on YouTube, he uploads videos on advice on picking up girls and other shit. I don't watch his videos because I don't need them. But I was telling my friend \"There are SO many fucking videos out there where you can get the shit for free\". My friend told me Brent Smith told him \"I normally charge 10,000, but for you I'll charge you $400\" which ended up being $857.80.\n\nI feel like my friend got scammed. But I don't know if it's the right thing for him to get his money back. He could still get it by filing a claim with his bank. He won't be able to get it back from paypal because it's been more than 45 days.", "summary": "friend made a dumb mistake and spent $857.80 on a 3 hour skype call for advice on picking up girls. He even realized he fucked up by spending that much money but he \"moved on\" and forgot about it. Not sure if him filing a claim for the money is the right thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_2f5nxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [22F] of 2 months, mild ex problems.", "post": "Last night my ex (who of which broke up with me a year ago and in somewhat neutral terms) has been texting me quite a bit more since my current relationship began. My ex invited me to a party but I declined. She then mentioned how she missed being able to call me at 5am to talk about any problems and such. Most of this she texted to me at 5am. \n\nI don't really know what to say to my ex. She mentioned that she doesn't want  to intrude, and I understand that. But I don't think it's necessary to cut ALL contact from her, it would hurt her if I refused to speak with her at all. \n\nI showed my girlfriend the text messages she sent. I was not going to hide this, she has every right to know. My GF was really hurt and pissed off at her, explaining how disrespectful it is because my ex was being very personal to me especially that she messaged me so late. \n\nSo now I'm in the kitchen alone 4 hours after I showed her the messages. I asked my GF if she was feeling better, she isn't. I'm giving her a little space at the moment while she sleeps so hopefully it helps. She's being very distant both physically and emotionally. It's hurting me too. Advice?", "summary": "My GF thinks I'm \"talking\" to my ex, even after I told her three times that I don't."}
{"id": "t3_1d51ys", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Any tips for beginner runner looking to run in a 5K race one day?", "post": "A few weeks ago, I started taking running seriously. I bought a pair of Vivobarefoot Ultras (minimalist running shoes) and started a weekly running schedule.\nAt the moment I run/walk at least two miles every time I put my running shoes on. I run around my university's main field which is almost a square field, but two laps around it equal a mile. Currently, I'm running three quarters of the field and walking the other quarter and I repeat it a few times. Anyway, I was wondering if this is an effective running schedule. I run every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday in the evening. I recently added \"Participate in a 5K running race\" and I was just wondering if I should continue this schedule or amp it up. Basically, any tips for a beginning runner would be of great help. Thanks", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_u1rjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a Sushi Rice recipe that incorporates mayonnaise in the rice itself.", "post": "I used to frequent a sushi place in Nashville, TN called Samurai on Elliston place.  The owner was Korean and his name was Mr. Kim (Yes, I know that's about like saying Mr. Smith).  The last time I went in, a number of years ago, I found that he'd sold the place.  I was told that he moved to Alabama.  If this rings a bell with anyone, I'd love to know where he ended up.  \n\nAt any rate, it was the best Sushi I've ever had and I know he put Mayonnaise in the rice.  So, does anyone have such a recipe?", "summary": "Would like a sushi rice recipe with mayonnaise like the one at my favorite sushi bar that was sold some years ago."}
{"id": "t3_2nzzmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, 17M feel distant from Gf 15F, when we don't see eachother", "post": "I can only see my girlfriend on the weekends, and when we see each other, we are the happiest couple. On weekdays, since we can't see eachother, we try to Skype and text. Lately, we haven't been skyping for various reasons, so its been all texting. \n\n She is insecure about herself, and is afraid to trust in me and get hurt later on because of a previous boyfriend, and as a result she commonly gets in moods where she only sends one word answers and it becomes hard to talk to her because she won't tell me what bothers her without hours and hours of trying to get her to talk about it. As a result, I feel extremely distant and like I can never tell her how I feel, and it just gets hard to talk to her. Come weekends, and all our problems disappear when we see each other, and we are the happiest couple again. I know she really loves me, and I feel love for her, and I don't want to break it off with her. What should I do in my situation?", "summary": "Can only see GF on weekends due to distance. When we text on weekdays, half the time it is one wordy and hard to keep a convo going due to her trust issues. I don't want to break up, but  I want to fix the problem because I feel so distant from her on weekdays."}
{"id": "t3_2yu4uk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by casting slurs at a hotel guest", "post": "Working overnight reception at a large hotel chain that rhymes with 'Harriet'. Guests arriving at that hour would usually rather just get the fuck to bed as quickly as possible rather than be informed of all our delightful services and amenities. Since I don't really like talking to people this arrangement works for me.\n\nOne thing I *do* take pride in is I usually get people's names correct on the first try\u2014 if you're a *Zhang* or *Paszkiewicz* or *Sangaranayanan* I can spell the fuck out of that. Mere seconds shaved off your check-in time but still, I have to entertain myself somehow in that dull job and I have a weird long surname too. I'll have your guest portfolio ready sooner than you can pull that passport out of your pocket.\n\nOne night, though. A gentleman comes in who doesn't seem to have a reservation. It's possible it was misspelled by someone at the call centre that books these things. I've seen them swop first & last names and even enter 'Mister' as a given name!  Plus, the gentleman is from Africa, I'm not familiar with the name so and I have to ask him to spell it; there are a lot of *m*s and *n*s and *o*s in there, like *M'Bongo* but twice as long as that.\n\nI'm panicking. The reservation isn't coming up in my searches, he probably thinks I'm an idiot. (In fact, it's probably been less than 30 seconds since he stepped up to the desk)  \"Em\" and \"en\" sound really similar, right? The misspelling is probably in the first letter so I ask him,\n\n\"Is that with an '*m*' as in 'monkey'?\"\n\n...\n\nPresently there's a face full of \"what the fucking fuck did you just say, cunt?\" looking at me. Somehow I got him checked in, I don't remember, because as soon as he's in the lift to go upstairs my usually mild-mannered colleague comes round the corner laughing with tears in his eyes. Much teasing ensues for the next year of my employment there.", "summary": "did not know that 'monkey' is a racial slur. In my defence, *c, d* & *e* are Cat, Dog, & Elephant. I also have a CD which assures me that *m* is, in fact, for monkey."}
{"id": "t3_2lpp83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21M] follow up with her [18F] about a date?", "post": "I met here on okcupid, we've been texting/talking for a little over a week, there is some. On Thursday I asked if she was doing anything this weekend she said that she was probably going out with friends but she'll get back with me on Friday to see if we could go out for coffee.\n\nFriday, I shoot her a text following up, she said she was busy so she couldn't. I just said you can't blame a guy for asking, she just said yea and laughed. I left it at that, now I don't know what my next move should be.\n\nI don't know if that was a straight rejection or if she's not interested. She seems cool and has no problem talking with me. I really do want to meet her in person. Should I cut my losses/fade or should I text her asking for another meet-up/date?", "summary": "Talking with girl  I \"met\" on okcupid, not sure if she's interested but I still want to meet."}
{"id": "t3_1kngwd", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "So I got a traffic ticket on a university campus, the laws changed between now and when i got the ticket, and now I'm going downtown to court tomorrow. any legal terms I should know?", "post": "My university traffic laws changed. from effective date August 1, 2012 to the new laws effective date August 1, 2013 \n\n[2012-2013 Laws](\n\n[2012-2013 Laws](\n^^ this one indicates moving violations in parking lots are covered through parking services since, well, it's in a parking lot.\n\n[2013-2014 Laws](\n\n^^ this one makes the moving violation more vague since it takes away the defining feature of the previous laws. \nI was cited for going the wrong way in a one way st/drive. however, the map indicates I was in the north parking zone near the library the entire time/ during the stop. \n[parking zone map]\n(\n\n It was the  first week of classes over the summer at night which meant there were very few people at the library. I was finishing up a thesis, and I got turned around in a parking lot during their repaving over the summer - they completely blocked the exit I normally take due to filling potholes/repaving, so I had to turn around in the dark.  I ended up going down the bottom side of the [North Parking Lot](\n\nNow I have the option to either pre-pay $169, but I think this should have been handled through the south alabama parking services since: \n1. the laws effective then stated this. \n2. it was in a parking lot, and technically not a one way street with through traffic. (see google maps) \n3. Construction on an exit normally taken was not considered. \n\nI also think that since the laws changed,this indicates there was a gray area in this matter, so I should not have to pay the fine.", "summary": "I've got a case, are there any legal terms I should know ?  "}
{"id": "t3_d0z82", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Stolen Laptop--Any Igoogle Gadgets to log IP so I can find who stole it?", "post": "My Laptop was stolen over the previous few days out of the back of my car and I am wondering if there is any way I can track this guy down.\n\nI have iGoogle set as my homepage and if he is stupid enough to get online and use any of my browsers he will arrive at iGoogle.  If there is a gadget that can be used to track IPs and times when they were accessed that would be exceptional.  \n\nI have already checked the link at the bottom of Gmail that lists the last activity on my account and it has turned up nothing unusual yet.  I'll continue to monitor that link for anything suspicious, however I am a bit scared here.\n\nI use xMarks to save my bookmarks and passwords and have already changed my pin and password for that, however I am just wondering if there is any way to track this guy down.  Only days ago I found out about logmein and installed it on my desktop and was putting off installing it on my laptop until the weekend--a little too late :-\\\n\nReddit, I need your help on this.  I'm a computer science major at MTU and would really like you guys to shine through.  The laptop has my only copy of an Android application that I have been working on for the past semester as I wasn't keeping it on our CVS server.  I need this laptop back and have filed a police report already.\n\nAs a reward I give you this video and will give upvote karma to those who deserve it.", "summary": "I am looking for a way to track this guy down and I feel that an iGoogle gadget is my best chance at this point as it is my homepage.  I need your help, Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2parxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am sort of freaking out about looking exactly like my BF's [23M] of three months mom [5?F]. Am I being ridiculous?", "post": "This past weekend I went to my BF's family home to do some holiday stuff with my boyfriend and his family. It't my first time meeting them and it's something I've really been looking forward to. \n\nExcept from the second I stood at the door I knew something was off. He dad answered and gave me a weird glare before putting on a smile. But I brushed it off and thought maybe he was just weirded out by meeting me. Then I met his sisters and they did something similar too. \n\nThen I met his mom.\n\nFrom the second we made eye contact I think we were both sort of shocked and uncomfortable. We look identical. Not just similar characteristics, but I could be her sister or daughter....\n\nWe are both biracial, with long black curly hair, same hazel eyes, same physique (tall/curvy,not fat), same large teeth, same chin, same big forehead, same nose. She looks more like me than my own mother...\n\nI try and pretend not to notice, but literally everywhere we went people were stopping us. In the restaurant the waiteress said to my BF's mom \"you two could be twins!\", some lady in the grocery store said \"Wow! You're daughter is the spitting image of you!\"\n\nWhen I met his extended family, his uncle (dad's brother) made some sick joke to his dad about me and the mom...\n\nI tried to laugh it off, but it was awkward for all of us and my boyfriend looked a little strange, I couldn't tell if he was embarrassed or if he knew or what. I mean he must have known, right? It makes me think more about having never seen photos or anything of her beforehand...\n\nHe never said anything to seem oddly close to his mom, but they did seem to have a good relationship.\n\nI feel sort of weirded out and a little uncomfortable. Am I making this into something it's not? Or does this mean something more.", "summary": "I'm his mother's twin and I don't know if that is a bad sign."}
{"id": "t3_2tmtsv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally being a Neo-Nazi", "post": "Reddit, last night I realised I fucked up big time. Bare with me it involves an impulsive tattoo, Neo-Nazi code and the TV show Stalker. \n\nTwo years ago I decided to get tattoo on my thigh dedicated to a childhood sweetheart, my first love. The tattoo is **88** which is morse code for hugs and kisses. She and I would sign our love notes with this simple code. Sweet, young and innocent, right? Well not as innocent as I thought. \n\nHowever, as I'm sitting down binge watching a new show, Stalker, I get quite a shock. A character on the show is an ex-skinhead and gets asked about the massive **88** tattooed on his forearm. Holy shit, I have that tattooed on me, I thought. So it turns out my not-so-innocent tattoo also represents Heil Hitler. Something to do with 8 being the position of the letter H in the Latin alphabet. Some kind of Neo-Nazi code. I Googled it, it's verified, I got Heil Hitler tattooed on my thigh.\n\nFuck. Needless to say I'm freaking the fuck out. I need to save and find a tattoo artist to cover up this mess.\n\nThis is all made infinitely worse by me being a white and gay.", "summary": "My thigh is a Nazi sympathiser."}
{"id": "t3_16twp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M/22] convince my GF [F/20] that we can manage long distance?", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for a little more than a year after meeting at university. About about halfway through, I graduated and left university. Since then, we've been doing long-distance, but it's only about a 2 hour drive (I understand this is not a vast distance). Since then, I've tried my best to visit, sometimes she does (once every 3 weeks at most, typically every two weeks with back-to-back weekends not uncommon). She can be a bit needy and clingy. I try to cater to those needs, within reason. I send care packages, talk to her often, and do my best to spoil her when we do see each other. I do my best to keep our romance.\n\nHowever, when we are apart she finds herself sad and second guessing the relationship. She's apprehensive about our future because it is highly likely that we won't ever be in the same city for the foreseeable future. In spite of this, I'm fully committed to her. She is a good person, the type of woman I want to be with and have a future with. Unfortunately, she's apprehensive because she sees sadness as a component of being long-distance. For me, I'd rather try my hardest and potentially fail doing long distance. For her, she'd rather get out now than to hurt more later. However, she says she sincerely wants to be with me, but is unsure and unconfident in my abilities to fulfill her needs in a relationship.\n\nWhat can I do? How can I show her that we can do long distance and still have a healthy relationship?\n\nOr do I have to accept that this just won't work out? That the best thing I can do for her and me is to just let things go? I just have a hard time accepting \"long-distance\" as a reason to break-up, when I know full well how happy we are when we are together.", "summary": "GF thinks being long-distance involves being sad for a majority of the time. How do I convince her that it's still worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_3dow9f", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I have a question about work related injuries...", "post": "The statue of limitations may be up, but I got injured on the job a year and some months ago. I slipped and fell at work and landed straight on my butt. I was okay after it happened, but later on the nerve pain hit. I finished my shift and went home. The next day it was awful and I went to talk to the manager about going to the hospital. She was totally rude and so was another manager. That's a whole different story. I was only able to go to one place (manager told me this), so I went. I got x-rays done, they thought I broke my spine. I didn't, just some serious nerve inflammation. It did show that I was starting to form DJD. Ever since that accident, I've had chronic back pain and chronic sciatica. I'm pretty sure this helped speed up my back issues. I am now disabled to the point I have to walk with a cane and at times a walker. I'm 23 years old with degrees in Healthcare and can't get a job in TN at all. (It's an at will state. I walk in with a cane and they'll say \"You don't have enough experience, sorry.\" My degree has some HR background, I know how it will go.) I'm just wondering if there is anything I could do. I went through hell with that company (big chain). I was discriminated against, talked down to by management  (GM for that matter) and I feel like this has ruined my life. Just because they didn't want to clean properly. Like I said though, statue of limitations might be up, but I'd like to see if I have anything before contacting an attorney. I kick myself in the butt I didn't back then. Any advice given would be nice. I appreciate everyone who read this wall of text! I can PM details if need be.", "summary": "Company didn't clean properly. Fell and busted my ass. My back permanently screwed at 23 and can't work anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2lq032", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/m] am in love with a girl[19/f] with a sex problem (commitment issues?)", "post": "Background on her and our relationship: she didn't have a glamorous childhood. parents were divorced early, went through multiple marriages and significant others each, abandonment from her father who recently has come back into her life, and worst of all she was sexually assulted/raped as a teen by a neighborhood friend which cost her her virginity. We have been together for about a year and a half now. I'm not her first long term boyfriend, but she often says that no one has ever shown her love like I have. \n\nWe have recently been through some turbulence, as we've recognized issues within our relationship we find unhealthy and are working to either correct them or move on. After weeks of feeling like we were finding our way on the right path, yesterday she broke down to me and admitted that she thinks she may have a sex problem after confessing to sleeping with another man (who she also slept with while we were dating) In her own words, \"I know I love you, I know you are the perfect person for me, and I know it's must be hard to understand, but when someone gives me their undivided attention and shows me that they love me, even if I know they don't, it's hard to say no when they come onto me sexually.\"\n\nRegardless if we date again or not, above everything else, she is my best friend, so when she came to me with this problem I wanted to do anything in my power to be there for her and support her through this. I know admitting that to me wasn't easy. so my questions for you, reddit, are:\n\n1) how should I approach the situation to most benefit her\n\n2) Has anyone been in my shoes before, and if so, do you have any advice?\n\n3) Has anyone been through what she is going through, problems with sex or commitment, and if so what got you through it? Is there something you wish you or someone such as a close friend would have done to help you?", "summary": "(ex)Girlfriend having problems with controlling sexual urges/ staying committed, and need advice on how to help her through it."}
{"id": "t3_2sny9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my ex [18F] of 3 years, says she still loves me but has a sort-of boyfriend, not sure what to do", "post": "sorry for the really bad title, it was pretty hard to try to explain this situation in a sentence.\n\nbasically been dating this girl for 3 years in high school, overall it was a good relationship; we had fights every now and then and ive had my doubts but overall it was good. then college came and she moved across the country. we tried long distance but decided to break up. \n\nfirst quarter of my college passed. Im a commuter to a small college while she dorms in a college in a large city. i basically made 0 friends while she found plenty of male attention. long story short, one night stands aside, she has a boyfriend of sorts (not official but basically) now.\n\nwhere I come in is that when we saw each other again during winter break, she told me about her life and it really hurt my heart (even though we were technically no longer together). week or two later were acting like were dating, she and i basically fell in love all over again. now she is going back to new york to her other boy, and saying since the relationship, even if we make it an open one, wouldnt work we should be just friends.\n\ni have no idea what to do, should I hold onto her as just a friend that I talk to on facebook or skype, should I hold on to the hope that she will just come back to me, should I just forget all about her and try to move on with my life? our connection is still very real and she said she would treat me the same way whether were friends or in an open relationship or not. im emotionally crazy right now, im on top of the world when shes around and lamenting the thought of her not being here with me and potentially never being so when im not with her. all of this stacks onto my anxiety, self-esteem issues, and my crippling fear that i will never find a girl as great as she was /is.", "summary": "still in love with my ex, she returns my feelings but still plans on going back across the country to her college and (basically) boyfriend, no idea what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2o4go2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF[19 M/F] I made 2 mistakes and i need to know if it's justified that I'm pretty much fucked.", "post": "Well thought i do something a bit more concise... \n\nJunior Year\nGot together with the gf\n\nBroke up over some dumb shit\n\nSenior year\n\nGot back together later on\n\nFine till Senior year ended\n\nWent to summer program and fucked a girl\n\nCame back, told her, she got pissed off, broke it off again\n\nFreshman year college\n\nTold me she slept with my best friend, didn't get back together yet\n\nGot back together again\n\nJoined the army\n\nLeft for training\n\nCame back\n\nSophomore year\n\nStarted drinking\n\nBroke up again over something silly i said\n\nGot back together\n\nPartied on my 20th bday and didn't make the plans i told her i was gonna make\n\nshe cut me off\n\nTells me before Junior year of college, I'm finished\n\nJunior Year\n\nBeen fucked ever since, trying to sort out the pieces but i think i just did too much damage honestly.\n\nFire away boys/girls. Show no mercy, i need to hear the cold truth.\nThanks\n-Q", "summary": "Long, drawn out, meaningful relationship interupted by one incident i owned up to and things haven't been nearly the same since she slept with my best friend while we were separated. I want it to work but she's completely cut me off since i screwed up big on the night before our anniversary when i said i was gonna be with her the next day and didn't because i was celebrating my bday partying with my best friend of 8 years i haven't seen in 2 years"}
{"id": "t3_j6c2i", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Finance advice for someone living in Mexico?", "post": "Been lurking for close to a year now, I recently found this subreddit and the advice I've found around here is simply fantastic. I think this is the subreddit for this, if not, sorry!\n\nI've devoured most top links and started reading \"I Will Teach You To Be Rich\" and I'm loving it so far (A Random Walk, Intelligent Investor, and Millionare Next Door are on the list). It comes at great time since I've been meaning to get my first credit card and savings account. \n\nNow, the thing is that while the advice is sound and I can follow the general outline of it, things in Mexico are different. For one, I can't seem to find anything similar to a Roth IRA in that it's tax free. Also, creditdit lines, APYs and pretty much everything is inferior.\n\nI guess what I'm asking is, can anyone recommend a book or point me in a direction where I can find good relevant info about funds/bonds/banks/good investing companies or even ways to invest in the same way as if I lived in the US without getting gang banged by fees would be truly appreciated.", "summary": "Always had in mind investing, a lot of advice doesn't really apply to Mexico. Sources or plain advice will earn you enchiladas."}
{"id": "t3_3l2u8p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What should I (32/m) do about my gf (31/f) getting flirty when she drinks", "post": "So this has been going on since way before we started talking (we've known each other for a while). She will be fine after a drink or two, but than loses control and does shots till she's black out drunk.  \n\nProblem is once she's drunk she gets really flirty and horny with any guy that is near her. She's ended up in others peoples houses not knowing how she got there or what she did. She's kissed a lot of guys and not remembered, and will sit in everyone's lap and dance. She's even texted ex's to sleep with her and not remembered till she read the messages.\n\nI've told her she does this and she feels guilty, but does the same thing after a weekend or two. I'm willing to over look the flirty part but I'm afraid of how far she will take it when she doesn't have friends around. \n\nWe've been friends for a long time previously and the relationship is not serious, but I would like it to be.  She is loyal and respectful any another time. I just don't know how to handle the thought of her being in those situations.", "summary": "girlfriend gets drunk then gets flirty and horny with anyone around with no recollection."}
{"id": "t3_3t6l01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] & my gf [28 F] of 4+ months, ignored me to talk to her ex-bf", "post": "We met on OKC and have been seeing each other for 5-6 months now.  Her and I take turns going to each other's place every weekend (we live an hour away from each other).  \n\nSo last week she told me she wanted to go to this movie on the lawn event near her house.  She had beer, I had camping chairs, and the entrance was free.  Sweet, since I hate spending money and she seems to think that since I earn more money that I should be paying for (almost) everything.  \n\nWe show up, setup our chairs, have some beers and hang out with her friends and their kids.\n\nMovie finishes, I walk back to get her car, pull up, pack up the car, and she says she wants to say bye to her friend.  Calls her repeatedly and they talk and finally she goes to say goodbye.  \n\n25-30 minutes later I call her and she shows up 5-10 minutes after that.\n\nOn the way home she asks me some silly girl question about something or other that led  me to ask \"Why are you asking that question?\"\n\nTurns out she was talking to her ex-bf and her friend (yeah, right) at the bonfire and wanted \"closure\".  Now, she told me this, but I still feel like either (a) her friend wasn't there or (b) her friend was setting it up and that the whole night was an effort to talk to him (think: mutual friend sees he is going to the event on FB).\n\nThis really rubs me the wrong way.  I have tried to be a good guy, I buy her flowers when she has a bad week, I pay for dinners out, I pay for entertainment.  I've watched her dogs when she has gone out with friends for the weekend.\n  \nAnd she leaves me in the car waiting for half an hour while she is with her ex.\n\nShe even said she thought I was going to leave once we got home.\n\nAm I being irrationally upset over this?  I felt like a bloody idiot once I found out (and I told her that).", "summary": "GF leaves me waiting in a car for half an hour so she can talk to her ex"}
{"id": "t3_14akrn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Just wondering what others would make of the situation... posted on r/ askwomen was redirected here", "post": "I got the number of this girl last week at the bar.  I had known her for awhile about two years ago but at the time she had a boyfriend.   I saw her at the bar with a couple of her friends and wasn't one hundred percent if it was her so I hang out with my friends for a bit and decide to go talk to her.  We end up talking and shooting pool and whatnot until closing time.   I get her number and say we should do something sometime.She goes to say her goodbyes to everyone.  Just before she leaves she comes back and tells me to be sure to text her later.  I do so and all is well but its late so no plans for really made but she tells me she is watching the game at a mutual friends house the next night.  I already made plans to watch the game elsewhere.   Towards the end of the game I  text her to see what she is doing after the game, and don't get a response.  Not a big deal I go about my night as planned.   Now though I'm not real sure if I should continue to text her or if that'd be creepy.  Maybe just wait and try to set up a date?  But I have a busy couple weeks ahead so I'm concerned that it'd make it weird if i just don't talk to her for a couple weeks and then just get a hold of her out of the blue.  Also she's 25 , I'm  22 not sure if that really matters.", "summary": "don't wanna creep this girl out just not real sure how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_2bh6ks", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Interview Question about online university", "post": "So I had to finish my last 2 years at university online because of affordability and illness. It was in a regionally accrediated state school out of state (so it was still 100% legit, and all my exams were proctored). I got better after the first year, but I had to finish online because many schools around me require the last 60 units to be done from them, so that would have required an extra year in school for no reason.\n\nAnyways, they always ask me \"How was it there? How was the weather?\" There was one interviewer that seemed turned off by the idea saying I was sick for a year and that's why I had to do that, I even mentioned I'm no longer sick. I couldn't tell if it was because I said online or because of my illness.\n\nSo is it smart to only bring up that I just couldn't afford the university I was going to before? Which is true. Do I not bring up the fact I was sick? Do I mention that all my courses were 100% the same as on campus students?", "summary": "Went to online school (regionally accredited) because I was sick/poor, how do I assure employer that it's the same thing?"}
{"id": "t3_12ob4q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (23/M) be more comfortable with my girlfriend (19/F) seeing other guys", "post": "I'm using a throwaway because my girl will go on reddit sometimes.  Title pretty much says it all.\n\nWe've been together for about a year and a half.  The first year was great, we lived close to each other and spent most of our time together.  Then she had to move with her parents ten hours away from everything she's ever known.  So we've spent the last six months long distance.  She started school and everything was going well for the most part.  We've had our issues here and there but we've mostly worked through them.  Things have still been pretty good despite our random arguments.  I would say we're both a little over protective of one another, probably even more so now that we're about 500 miles apart.  And here's where I need advice.  She recently started talking with one of the guys in her class and they want to get together and work on a take-home test with each other.  Because of my past, I've had some trust issues and this situation seems all too familiar with me.  Previous ex went and \"studied\" which really was just her studying the guys dick.  So because of this, I'm feeling uncomfortable with my girlfriend going and studying with this new guy she met.\n\nI understand deep down that my fears are irrational and its not fair to her to compare her to my ex.  I want to be okay and be care-free about who my girlfriend hangs out with and stuff but I'm just uncomfortable with it all.  It's really consumed my thoughts for the past few days since she told me about what she was going to do.  I feel that if she was going to study with a girl, I'd be perfectly fine with it, but since its a guy, I  feel uncomfortable.  I would never tell her to not go and study with him because I don't want to be that guy and that would probably only push her away.  So how do I overcome these thoughts about what could happen?  How do you be comfortable with this?  I feel that these are probably my insecurities talking, so what do you do to become more secure?", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend is going to study with another guy and I feel insecure/uncomfortable with it.  How do I become okay with this?  How do I become more 'secure'?"}
{"id": "t3_1v6cdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my [19F] girlfriend for 10 months, still having trust issues 6 months after having found her sexting a guy from facebook.", "post": "I am not perfect, nor is she, since the beginning I have had trust issues and my own jealousy problems when we would be around other guys. \n\nI would constantly ask her about texting other guys and just about her and other guys in general. In the beginning of the relationship she would text a few others guys that were her friends. She doesn't have many female friends, she says she gets along with guys better. \n\nAnyways, 3 or 4 months into the relationship I checked her phone for the first time and found out she was sexting a guy she new from high school. He had messaged her on facebook and they began to text and they later both traded naked pictures blah, blah, blah. I was broken, shaking, I didn't understand, though I forgave her.\n\nNow in 2 months we will have gone out for a year and I still have trust issues. I still always ask what she is doing on her phone or when she is on the computer. I haven't seen anything bad but I am not at peace.\n\nAm I the problem or what. Please anyone advice would be great, I want some piece of mind.", "summary": "Caught girlfriend sexting 6 months ago and I still can't fully trust her."}
{"id": "t3_1jj8t0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F21] Sharing some of the best breakup insight I received after ending it w/ on-again-off-again first love [M24] of 3 years", "post": "I'm absolutely devastated after finally ending things with my on-again-off-again, very dysfunctional relationship with my first love. We met 3 weeks into my freshman year of college, began as FWB and evolved from there. He was a senior who still has yet to graduate or know where he's going with his life; I'm now going into my senior year after securing an amazing summer internship with plans of going to grad school, etc.. Very different places in our lives, but that's not the point. We were just fire and ice, constantly at each other's throats, and it wasn't healthy, no matter how insane our chemistry was and how much passion we had for each other.\n\nI lost my virginity to this boy. He was my first love, first everything. I'm terrified I'll never meet someone who understands me the way he does. I've never had to deal with a breakup like this. Ever. I've cried for 3 solid days and just want the world to swallow me whole because I feel like I threw away something so rare and crazy and beautiful. But this is what my mom told me:\n\n\"Sometimes we grieve more for the loss of what the relationship could have been rather than what it actually was.\"\n\nAnd it really hit me that maybe that's what I was grieving for the most. I loved the fuck out of him but we just clashed so horribly all the time that I would have been miserable staying in the relationship as well. In my head, I saw what we could have been if one or two or three things had been different. But they weren't things I could change. So there's no point in me pining for this ideal of a relationship we never would have been able to achieve... although I guess I'll never know if we could have or not.\n\nJust a thought. Maybe some people will find this helpful.", "summary": "Sometimes we grieve more for the loss of what the relationship could have been rather than what it actually was.\""}
{"id": "t3_2701jy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Disqualified. Now what?", "post": "I got a letter in the mail saying I've been passed up for being hired for my dream job. I wanted this job for 10 damn years and now it's over. I've trained my body, mind, and soul for this job and just through a simple letter, I've been removed from that process. \n\nI was in good standing with getting hired. Passed everything with flying colors. Nailed the interview, scored good on the tests, passed my background investigation. All that stress and time I put in for this job was for nothing. \n\nWhat am I going to tell my co workers? My friends? My family? How am I going to deal with this? \n\nWhat am I going to do with my life? I've worked so hard since I was 14 to get this job so it's pretty much the only thing I'm good at. I've made so many sacrifices to get it and for nothing. \n\nI needed this job. I need to move out of my parents house. I need to pay off my debt. I can barely afford my car payment.  \n\nNow what? Am I to live with my parents the rest of my life? Am I to never get my dream car? Am I to just keep my job where I only get paid minimum wage while I make the company tens of thousands? \n\nI don't know what to do. I mean my second dream job would be to work with penguins, but I don't think that's possible for me. \n\nAnyone have any advice for me? What should I do?", "summary": "I followed the yellow brick road  for half my life and ended up at a complete dead end and I can't turn around to go back."}
{"id": "t3_zs3p8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best way to automate zooming in on a map during a powerpoint presentation?", "post": "I am a student teacher and I have a project where I have to give a presentation about Europe to a class of 8th graders. I want to have a powerpoint slide where the map of Europe is shown but then zooms into a specific country, such as France. Because I want the students to be able to see where on the map the zooming is taking place (so they can locate France if they were looking on the whole map of Europe), I can't just have one slide showing Europe and one showing only France. Also, I don't want to be constantly zooming in and out while I'm giving my presentation, so I want it to happen automatically when I click. I was thinking about making a .gif of the picture being slowly zoomed in on, but I've never done that before. I'm using a specific photo I have of Europe that is an .svg file if that makes any difference. Any tips/advice?", "summary": "How do you automate a zooming-in function on an .svg file for a powerpoint"}
{"id": "t3_2m6xo4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So last night I had a night terror that turned into a wet dream... (Maybe NSFW)", "post": "A little background: I've had only one, maybe two, wet dreams in my life (I'm 22 years old) but have frequent night terrors from sleeping on my back.  Due to the frequency of the night terrors I'm generally able to escape them rather easily.  This one, however, was much different.\n\nDream story time: As with most of my night terrors, they begin with a sense of complete body paralysis other than the movement of my eyes.  This is similar to many night terrors that other people have.  I tried my usual technique of closing my eyes and attempting to fall back asleep to get out of the night terror but this time it didn't work.  At this point, a terrifying figure appeared and muttered something that I couldn't quite understand but it still scared the crap out of me.  The figure was in complete control of me and at this point there was nothing I could do about it.  I couldn't escape it.\n\nFast forward a few minutes of frightening sleep paralysis to the feeling of an arm wrapping itself around my face.  The arm seemed to come from behind me and I couldn't see who or what the arm belonged to.  In my night terror reaction, I bit down on the arm because at this point I began to regain some movement in my dream.  After biting the arm and taking control, I was able to turn my body over.  It was at this point that I realized I was looking down at a very attractive female.  My immediate reaction was to say \"I'm going to fuck you right now.\" And that's exactly what I did.  It was a fairly short sexual encounter but it ended with me having an extremely pleasure filled finish.\n\nAfter I fired off my man juices in my dream I awoke to find that I had done the same thing in reality.  The confusion that came across me was unbelievable.  I still find it hard to believe that something so terrifying to begin with ended in such a wonderful explosion of sexual pleasure.\n\nI couldn't make this up if I tried.", "summary": "Had an absolutely terrifying night terror.  Ended up with me banging a hot chick and having a wet dream."}
{"id": "t3_dwzzz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hello Reddit, I have a serious question on the topic of introversion versus extroversion", "post": "Something I often see discussed on Reddit, especially in threads about relationships, is the idea of introversion vs extroversion.\n\nThe scenario typically involves the OP asking for some sort of dating advice because they have never been good at talking to girls, have never been in a relationship, or something along those lines (in other words, the \"nice guy\" problem).  In almost every such thread there will be someone who brings up the idea that OP and the vast legions of us who share his problem, are introverts.  An introvert being someone who is content being alone and pursuing solitary hobbies, as opposed to an extrovert who is most comfortable in the presence of other people.\n\nI was thinking about the idea of introversion and there's something I don't quite understand.  A lot of the self-proclaimed introverts seeking relationship advice are clearly unhappy with themselves, or at least, unhappy with their current situation, and see their \"introversion\" as a curse.  But by definition, wouldn't a true introvert be someone who is genuinely content with their relatively solitary lifestyle?\n\nIs it possible that a great number of struggling \"nice guys\" are not truly introverts, but rather, people who strongly desire the company of others, but merely lack the social skills to obtain it?  Does it make sense to describe someone as being a frustrated extrovert unable to satisfy their social desires?\n\nI don't know much about psychology, so it's entirely possible that I don't properly understand what it means to be introverted or extroverted.  I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on the subject.", "summary": "By definition, isn't an introvert someone who is CONTENT with a solitary lifestyle?  Can one truly be an introvert if they are unhappy with themselves for being so?"}
{"id": "t3_497xxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17m] and my girlfriend [17f] have a good relationship but I have some issues on my side", "post": "To start we have only been going out for 2 months so it's not that long of a relationship. Before we were going out I was smoking weed everyday and doing psychedelics fairly frequently. I have slowed down a lot on weed and stopped psychedelics since I started dating her, because she wasn't really ok with them and I sort of knew I needed to slow down. She was really innocent having only been fingered once and that was the farthest she had ever been so I went into the relationship expecting to wait awhile for sex. I have always not really enjoyed sex that much so this was ok with me. I was wrong about it and I feel bad because she wants to try stuff but I'm not really that interested in sex. I don't know how to tell her without her feeling bad, also I wasn't a virgin before we started going out. Also, because she doesn't have that much experience she doesn't know what she likes and I can tell it doesn't feel that good for her. This is a huge turnoff for me because if we are doing it I want it to feel good for her, I'm not sure what to do about this. Also I know that in 4 months we are going to college and I really like her, do you think I should try to hold on to it through college or let it go? Thanks", "summary": "pretty good relationship but I have some concerns with not enjoying sex and upcoming college"}
{"id": "t3_gqlmg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just made out with my best friends girl friend...", "post": "I was DD for my best friends GF tonight.  my best friend was working late and I told his gf that I would take her out to the bars.  Well she drinks a lot and then I take her home.  We are jamming out, then I park in front of her house and we are listening to more music and she leans in and we start making out.  We both stop after a minute or two and we get out of the car. I start walking her to her door step and we promise not to say anything. Then when we get to her door step she makes out with me more.  And then she doesnt have her keys so she goes to the garage, enters the code and makes out with me again, and then invites me to come inside.  I said no, and walked away, yelling at myself as I walked away.   \nMy question is what should I do next? Should I tell my best friend? Talk to his GF about it? Or leave it alone and wait for the next time I'm DD and go inside when she invites me in?", "summary": "made out with best friends gf... what should I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_52y26w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What do you think about bankruptcy?", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nI'll try to keep this super short and sweet. I have about 20k in debt due to everything from medical bills to a car (which is almost paid off) to me being an idiot. I have about 25k in student loans on top of this. \n\nI live on my own and have no family house or any kind of cheap fallback. I make a decent amount of money from working three jobs. (60k a year before taxes and insurance) but the cost of living in my state (TX) is high enough where I can only make minimum payments on my cards. I am a 27 year old guy.\n\nMy credit score is about 630 and I just got hit with another 7k debt because I co signed a lease for a friend (which I know was a very very dumb decision) and she can't be contacted by the debt collectors. I haven't missed payments yet but I barely scrape by and this 7k plus my deferred student loans are about to hit and I am about to have to either abandon ship or go down with it.\n\nWhat does this sub think about bankruptcy? I have a meeting with a lawyer to discuss my options on a couple days. I don't have that many personal possessions and due to my credit score already being steaming dog shit I like chapter 7 might be the way to go. What do you think?", "summary": "20k in debt. 25k deferred student loans I am about to start paying on, on top of an added 7k debt collection. (27M) Barely scraping by working three jobs as is. Is bankruptcy an option due to my already shit credit score of 630?"}
{"id": "t3_2v5tqs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) boyfriend's (23M) disability might be causing friction...", "post": "Hey /r/relationships,\n\nFor some background, my boyfriend has oculucutaneous albinism. Essentially he has pale and sometimes translucent skin, very light blonde hair, and his eyes move back and forth due to a related condition called nystagmus. \n\nMy boyfriend thinks that he has faced a good deal of discrimination due to his disability. He goes as far as to say that people don't want to really get to know him because of how he looks. He has very few friends, but the ones he does have are very close friends. I'm not sure if he's right or not, but I do know I enjoy spending time with him and really can't see why his personality would turn people off. \n\nNow for the friction. He and I have decided we are going to be entirely honest with each other. This means telling each other things that aren't always pleasant. \n\nThe fact of the matter is I have a good friend who has told me flat-out to dump my boyfriend because he looks weird. (She even pointed out the moving eyes and hair) I have a few others who have disapproved of me dating him because they don't find him attractive enough. Of the several friends who have met him or seen his picture, only one hasn't implied or outright told me that my boyfriend is unattractive because of his condition. \n\nI have told him about all of these interactions because we both promised total honesty. Also, I think I may have made a mistake recently. A guy in one of my classes was hitting on me (even though I told him I have a boyfriend).  My BF asked me who I found more attractive and I told him that I find him more emotionally attractive but I find the other guy more physically attractive. \n\nNow my boyfriend is acting very distant and I'm not really sure why or what to do. Please advise reddit.", "summary": "BF has albinism. My friends want me to dump him for it. I told him about it and now he's distant."}
{"id": "t3_45zq34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my ex teacher[37M] we kind of dated for 2 months, and now he wont leave me alone", "post": "So i made the mistake of having a small fling with my professor. I know this was extremely dumb of me and I regret it. I was insecure at the time, feeling lonely, it was exciting.. I made a mistake and gave in to what was wrong. Nontheless, as soon as I got my head on straight I ended it. It was never 'healthy' and I was just confused. He was in a bad place in his marriage and enjoyed talking to me and misinterpreted friendship for something more and went after it. I, being young and just not in a very good place, was curious and gave in. We hooked up for a few months and I really hated the person I was becoming. I ended it and he did not take it so well. Its been 5 months since I told him I was not interested in anything but a professional relationship with him. And he still has not accepted no for an answer. He emails me and begs me to reconsider and give him a real shot one day. That he will wait for me. I'm not sure how to make myself more clear. He says he needs to talk to me and get closure. That he has things he needs to say to me that he's kept bottled up for the last few months and needs to get off his chest. I told him that he wouldn't find the closure he needs by talking to me. That he really should talk to a therapist or a professional because I am not qualified to deal with this. He has this delusional idea that he's in love with me and claims we are soul mates. The last thing I want to do is add fuel to the fire.", "summary": "I was a dumbass and had an affair with my married professor and now he's not handling the fact that ive ended it."}
{"id": "t3_sgfa5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Middle school aged daughter stole something from another student - fitting punishment? How to prevent future indescrections?", "post": "Teacher collected a nice mp3 player from another student and said she'd give it back at the end of class. She put it on the corner of her desk. \n\nAt a moment when others were distracted, my daughter pocketed the mp3 player.\n\nShe was even so bold as to ask us how she could reset it, because a friend who was moving gave it to her, but had forgotten the password. \n\nAt school the next day, they announced that it had been stolen and there was a tracker on it. If whomever stole it confessed and gave it back, it'd go easier. \n\nSo then my daughter admits she has it, but claims that she found it on the school grounds on the afternoon of the day before and thought she'd just keep it. \n\nOf course, school called, mp3 player was returned to the girl it was strolen from. \n\nMy daughter admitted to us that she had just stolen it from the corner of the desk when no one was looking. \n\nApparently the device costs about $250. So I'm going to make her work off $250 at minimum wage (hard chores and house work, only being paid for time she's actually working). I'm hoping then she'll appreciate the value of $250. \n\nAlso she's getting ISS and has to apologize to her classmate. \n\nAnything I'm missing? Anything else Reddit can think of to deter this behavior? \n\nMy daughter is a privileged girl from a loving home that has all the clothes, toys, electronics and whatnot that she could want. She's not spoiled, but she has it easy compared to most. There was no reason for her to have done this. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Daughter stole something from a classmate. Want to make sure the punishment is fitting and memorable."}
{"id": "t3_2h5v7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"I didn't mean that.\" Are emotional outbursts deep truths or idle words?", "post": "So my SO [26F] and I [32M] (8 months), like so many others, get emotional about things from time to time.  Generally we end up saying something that we regret later or just wish we could take back.  We consider ourselves good communicators.  At the end of our discussions, fights, tears,  it ends up being, \"Well, I know I said that but I didn't mean it, this is what I meant.\"  \n\nI think there are a lot of things couples say that they regret later, but are there actually deep truths in those outbursts that we wouldn't normally say?  Or is it simply miscommunication and misunderstanding?\n\nI feel like I say things out of frustration more than out of how I truly feel.  It's hard to be calm in the heat of the moment or level headed enough to keep from having a loose tongue.", "summary": "Do you really mean what you say in an emotional outburst or is it just venting frustration?"}
{"id": "t3_vzp1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New girlfriend going out on a ladies night, is this normal?", "post": "The short story here is that I don't have a ton of dating experience. I was in a relationship out of high school where I ended up getting married, fast forward eight years (25 now) and I am dating someone new (same age as me). I guess it should be fair to mention that my ex did cheat on me (not physically but had an emotional affair) and I'm no longer with her.\n\nI've been dating this new girl for a few months, she's incredible, we spend a lot of time together, and I've got an amazing connection with her. Truthfully I know in my heart that she'd never cheat on me like the last, she's genuinely a great girl who's never given me any reason to not trust her, but I think I am now carrying forward this small bit of trust issues from my previous relationship. I never used to be a jealous person or have trust issues and I'm getting smalls bits of it with this new girl which I know isn't fair but the feelings are hard to fight. \n\nSo she's going out on a ladies night, and I find out that she's going to be drinking with her bud at this event and dancing. Am I crazy for not liking the fact that she's dancing with other men? She's made it clear that it's country dancing, line dancing, etc, nothing like how I'd normally dance (grinding and whatnot) and that it wouldn't be with just one guy and has said all the things I want to hear like she'd make it clear she has a bf if they bring it up etc, but I just personally feel like dancing is an intimate thing and am having a hard time coming to grips with being cool with her out dancing with other guys.", "summary": "Girlfriends going out on a ladies night, dancing with other guys and I'm not really cool with it.  I've approached her about this and she doesn't see it as a big deal, am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_f860n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Couple new to Lexington, KY looking for other friendly couples in the area.", "post": "Hello Reddit! The girlfriend and I are (sort of) new to Lexington Kentucky and we're looking for other couples to befriend. We're both in our mid 20's, professionals. I am finishing a Ph.D. at UKY in Chem Engineering, and my girlfriend works as in IT at Tempur-pedic. I've been here for over a year now, originally from Philadelphia, and she has been here for a few months, originally from NW Indiana. \nIt's been hard for her to find friends her age (that aren't your stereotypical creepers) working in IT,\n\nI'm wondering if there are any other couples in the lexington area who would like to go out, double date, etc etc, to make new friends!", "summary": "Any friendly mid-20's, early 30's couples looking to make friends in the Lexington KY area?"}
{"id": "t3_2s6e0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have been stressed about feeling like a \"sugar momma\" to my boyfriend [23 M] for months now", "post": "I know money shouldn't be a problem aspect in a relationship but it has been really bothering me. We have been together for almost 6 years.\n\nMy SO has been struggling to find a stable job and bought a car too soon and any money that he does make goes to the car. He bought the car 6 months ago thinking he'd get a job which he didn't. He's struggled with having a good job for the entirety of our relationship. I can understand when we were young, but he finished post-secondary before me and has had double the time to look for a job than I have. This makes me think he's lazy.\n\nHe doesn't mooch and he never asks for money unless he is desperate - he has never asked *me* for money. I've been paying for all of our meals out and even his fast food/snacks when we're together for a few months now. I would feel guilty if I didn't because I don't want him to go into debt or feel he can't enjoy himself with me and our friends.\n\nI know I shouldn't be that typical girl that thinks \"oh the guy is the one who should be the supporter\" - I'm all about equity in a relationship and splitting things financially. It's hard to not want my guy to take care of me though. I'm all about being a strong and independent woman but when I see or hear about other relationships where the girls are always being taken care of financially it's hard for me to not want some part of that. It really bothers me to think that I'm like his \"sugar momma\" right now. \n\nI want to move out of my parents house and buy my own but I can't and don't want to do it alone. Right now I feel like I am. This stresses the hell out of me. How can I deal with this? I personally gotten him two jobs (through my own connections), both which haven't turned out - what more can I do?? How can I not let money bother me in our relationship?", "summary": "Paying for myself and SO for meals, entertainment, etc. Saving for a house and feel like I'm alone. I feel like a \"sugar momma\" and I hate it."}
{"id": "t3_2b821s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/m] feel guilty about my feelings towards my recently single friend [17/f]", "post": "Crossposting from another sub because this seems more suitable.\n\n**Sorry in advanced for any typos or unclear sentences, I'm drunk and typing this on my phone.**\n\nOk so flashback to the day before yesterday. One of my close friends [17/f] broke up with her boyfriend (another friend of mine) because he treated her like shit etc. She called me [17/m] up before she did it because she wanted me to be at her house for emotional support. We hung out for a short while but I had to get home before it was too late because I had work really early in the morning. The next day (yesterday) I got off at 12 (short shift) and went over to her house because she wanted to hang out again. We started watching a bunch of movies (we have a giant list that we want to watch because one of us hasn't seen it), but halfway into the second movie we were a bit buzzed from wine (not enough to cloud judgement) and we started playing this weird game (or whatever the fuck it would be) where we try to not have the other person blow in your ear and the one who was trying to blow into the other's ear was \"losing\". Idk, shit was weird. Anyways, this led us to a lot of contact and getting very close to each other. There were points where I was so close I could feel our lips slightly touching and I wanted to kiss her so, so bad (and I think she might have wanted to as well) but I didn't. Once we both started to lose energy we just lied down on the couch and started kind of spooning while she was grasping my hand. This part was post buzz (about 4 hours after alcohol kicked in).\n\nI loved that day. We had so much fun. I want to start a relationship with her. I felt the same way about her 9 months ago but I thought I was over her. But I know it's wrong. It's wrong because she just got out of a relationship and it's wrong because her ex is one of my friends. What do I do?", "summary": "didn't realize I'm still hung up on my friend, who just got out of a relationship, and I think I may be getting some very strong mixed signals"}
{"id": "t3_3djmui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] am jealous, controlling, obsessive and manipulative towards my girlfriend [F20]. I need help.", "post": "I am jealous when she spends time with other people. I get anxious and have panic attacks when she goes out and has fun without me. I get mad at her even when she has done nothing wrong. I get anxious and jealous when she even talks to other men. I read her text messages behind her back. I constantly have visuals of her flirting with other guys if there are guys hanging out with her and her friends. I can't be separated from her for a long time. She is on vacation with her family and if after not talking all day she is happy with her day, I will be upset that she didn't miss me as much as I missed her. I am completely insecure. I need to always know what she's doing and if she's doing something that I don't like I can't handle those emotions. I feel this constant feeling of anxiety, jealousy and the need to control everything she does.\n\nI am sick of being this person. I can't handle my emotions. I am always in this panic like state checking text messages, her tweets, her Instagram if she's away from me. I don't want to feel this way anymore. I just want to be happy and easy going like everyone else appears to be. I don't want to get mad at her anymore. I just want to be loving and supportive, not this obsessive jealous person. I hide this side of me fairly well and she doesn't know I feel this way. We have been together for 3 years. Please, I need help and I don't know what to do. I just want to be able to let go of these emotions.", "summary": "I am jealous, controlling, obsessive and manipulative towards my girlfriend. I need help."}
{"id": "t3_28g146", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] cannot read Brazilian [22F] duration, don't know how to make move", "post": "So I just started a part time summer camp position at my university and I'm pretty interested in this Brazilian girl that works there.  We've talked a lot over the last week.  I asked her out to dinner and she said yes and we went to a sushi bar.  She came over and we watched netflix.  Same thing happened tonight, Applebees, then a movie.  So the problem is that neither of us had made a move yet.  She is moving back to Brazil in a couple of months so it's nothing serious but I kinda just wanted to have a little fling before she left.  Show her around more, have a friend in a far away place.  \n\nShould I go in for kiss, ask for kiss, hold hand?  I am really confused because of her accent and english, it is hard to tell if she is giving me signs (or I'm bad at reading them).  I'm not sure about their dating culture.\n\nGuess I just need somebody to back me up with the answer in my head.  Thanks!", "summary": "Brazilian girl is tough to read, ask or just do?"}
{"id": "t3_4w8aiw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 1 year, he is constantly on his phone and I've had it.", "post": "Hello reddit.\n\nSo I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now and hes been amazing except for this one pet peeve of mine. He's constantly on his phone!!!!! Whenever we go out to eat he's on his phone while we're eating and will barely talk unless I initiate conversation. When we're at family gatherings, I'm talking to my family members and there he is on his phone in a corner looking miserable and bored. I know it may not be a \"fun\" time but cmon at least pretend like youre enjoying it. Its gotten worse now that Pokemon GO is out because that seems to be all he cares about now wherever we are. Don't get me wrong, I'm an avid player with Pokemon GO as well but I believe there is a correct time and place for these things. I just cant stand it anymore, I've tried talking to him but he just doesn't get it. I can't help but feel jealous when I see couples at restaurants talking and laughing while my boyfriends head is down looking at his phone. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend is constantly on phone at inappropriate times."}
{"id": "t3_35o9sk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 23F doesn't know how to leave a toxic relationship with my boyfriend 29M", "post": "Weve been together for two years and I have a child from a previous relationship. \nWe moved in too fast. We lived together at 6 months in due to a living arrangement hiccup on his end.\n\nWe fight every day. We cant communicate. We dont have sex anymore because I am depressed. I'm going to therapy and on medication, but my sex drive is gone. He doesn't listen to what I say and has even told me that he doesn't find what I say interesting. I would tell him a story and right when I finish he would always change the subject. I've confronted him when I started to noticed and during one of the confrontations he told me he just was not interested. \n\nHe doesn't help around the house. We've talked about all of our problems and neither one of us changes. And since there is no change we fight and yell. He never listens to my side of the argument.", "summary": "(last two paragraphs) My issue is I want out. We have \"broken up\" twice now. The first time he threatened suicide. The second time he pretended he killed himself by slamming a door when we were on the phone and hanging up abruptly. He owns a lot of guns. One is kept in his truck and the rest are in his safe."}
{"id": "t3_1xdanm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting ignored [17M] by her [17F] out of the blue when things were going well", "post": "Basically, she has liked me for 2 years. But I didn't like her back, until 2 weeks ago. So I gave her a chance, and we had something going. She came to my room, and we had a nice time (just kissing and playing). That was Monday 2 weeks ago.\n\nAfterwards, she got mad at me as she thought I told my friend about what happened (which I didn't), but we worked that out and all became normal. Last week, on Monday, Friday and Saturday the same happened in my room, and so did Tuesday (this week). But, from Tuesday on, she just became weird. Completely ignoring me and becoming out of touch. She has told me many times that she likes me, and starting on Wednesday, which was when I told her I liked her back (and wrote some nice things to her when she asked how much I liked her), all things became even worse. She now barely strikes a conversation by text or Facebook, and she doesn't even smile when we greet at school.\n\nI have went ahead and spoke to her closest friend (which is also my closest friend) and she told me she felt pressured. Which kinda did puzzle me as I hopefully, did nothing to pressure her. And due to that, I'm trying to give her space by not talking to her until she talks to me..\n\nI haven't spoken to her since Thursday, and it kinda hurts me as I have been advised not to strike a conversation with her unless she does it with me. I'm quite confused on what I should do, as from one day to another she went odd with me...", "summary": "Things were going fine until (making out, kissing) she stopped talking to me how of the blue."}
{"id": "t3_1x33n1", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Feeling agitated about the lack of communication skills exhibited by the contact person at the service that provides our officiant (All Seasons Weddings). [my first Weddit rant]", "post": "Edit: what a convoluted title. \n\nI am so frustrated. We received an email from our wedding coordinator informing us that it was time to choose an officiant from the service (All Seasons) that is on contract with our venue. We went to their website and selected an officiant that really jumped out at both of us and submitted their web form, formally requesting him. A week later we received an email from them saying, \"[Venue] has contacted us to say you are getting married there. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, it's time to pick an officiant and confirm all of these details regarding the location, date, time, and overall vibe of your ceremony.\" I replied back saying I had already been in contact to request an officiant and I answered ALL of her questions, and said that we were still in the process of confirming our ceremony time and that I would let her know ASAP. The next day I emailed again to confirm ceremony time, and within ten minutes I received a reply from her saying, \"Thanks for confirming your ceremony time, can you answer everything else now?\" Uhm, I already did. So I replied back answering all of her questions again and reiterating our interest in this one specific officiant. Three days go by and I receive ANOTHER email from her saying, \"Great, now all that is left to do is confirm your ceremony time and we can check if the officiant you want is available.\" Arg! I just don't understand why they can't pay attention to the things that I've emailed them. Should I send back one email reconfirming all information start to finish? I think if I get another email asking me any of the same questions again I'm going to go nuclear. How hard is it? We are paying you $380 to officiate our wedding, I'd think the least you could do would be pay attention to us when we contact you.\n\n/rant.", "summary": "Officiant service keeps sending us emails asking the same questions over and over and I'm feeling pretty agitated about it all."}
{"id": "t3_4gjv7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M] having trouble forgetting my [19 F] ex of 2 years at same small college.", "post": "I've been dating this girl since my junior year of high school and we always had each other in mind when going off to college.\n\nNow we go to the same school and I broke things off with her after 2 years because I started to realize she didn't care about my personal interests and I did not get to enjoy a lot of things with her.\n\nHowever, she has been my best friend for 5 years now and I just can't forget about her. I went to a party at another school and met someone else but I had to stop talking to her because my ex is still on my mind. She has also been telling me about the great times she has been having since we broke up and she's \"living life.\" Maybe it's jealousy, but these thoughts never escaped my mind.\n\nI've been very frustrated with her trying to tell me how great her life is. I tried talking to her last week about this, but she saw a physical mark on my neck from said party and she refused to talk to me for a week until I begged her to let me explain.\n\nNow that she listened to me, I don't know what to do with myself. She sort of hates me but I'm still craving the relationship we used to have or even just to have her friendship back.\n\nI know most people on here and other people I've talked to say let her go, never speak to her again, but I see her everyday and my emotions get the best of me.\n\nSo my question here is what should I do about where I stand with her and what should I do to move on?", "summary": "Broke up with gf of 2 years, been best friends for 5 years, see her everyday and can't get her off my mind. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_1gyvsd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/M] always have a bit of trouble sealing the deal: transitioning from flirty talk and clear signals of interest to actually doing something about it", "post": "Let's limit my question to parties where there are a bunch of folks who at least all share the host(ess) in common (as opposed to bars). I have no problem connecting with strangers in this type of situation and love to engage people and talk.\n\nOccasionally, I'll click really well with someone. We'll have had a great conversation, a lot of flirting, and there's clearly some interest. But when it comes time to actually ask the person out/suggest they come home with me, I freeze up and end in a, \"Welp! Great talking to you!\"\n\nI find this applies both to potential casual hookups and potential dates. Though there is more pressure if it's a potential hookup.\n\nI feel like there is never a good time to ask either question. I feel like everyone around us is watching me and listening in, waiting to hear me ask this person this question and either ready to laugh or shake their heads in solemn shame.\n\nThis happened twice this weekend. Saturday party, met a fantastic woman, but could not bring myself to ask her out (though, she is the sister of a friend, so that added a bit of pressure to it). Then, Sunday BBQ at my own apartment, cute girl shows up, is clearly into the idea of maybe sticking around until morning (the hints were not very subtle, and I was totally into the idea), but I just can't make it happen because she's my roommate's girlfriend's friend, and I feel like they'll get all judgy. Even though they'd probably encourage it in the end.\n\nI met my last girlfriend at a party in this sort of situation, but could not bring myself to ask her out in front of people, and instead found her and messaged her on Facebook (which she was surprisingly ok with). I'd like to not have to do that again and just ask someone out like a normal person.\n\nAgain, I generally have no social anxieties and can hold myself in a crowd of strangers. But this triggers some sort of fear in me.", "summary": "How can I get over this perception that I'm being watched and judged every time I try to ask a girl out/over? This strikes more fear in me than actually being rejected by the person, honestly."}
{"id": "t3_4gussq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description Me (16 M) with my girlfriend (16)have an almost 1-month long relationship, and I've got quite a problem missing her...", "post": "Well, it's not like this is going to be a long story or anything, it's just that I'm having quite some problems missing my lovely girlfriend. Our relationship started in the beginning of this April, in that time we've both had a week of vacation where we didn't see each other (we did text though, so no worries there ;) ). And now she's going to England for another 8/9 days, and this really is very hard for me. Mostly because I just want to be able to physically be with her... \n\nIt's not as if I don't want her to have a good time in England or anything, it's just that I really don't want to not see her for more than a week. And I just don't really know how to deal with this emotion.\n\nAdditionally, I'm pretty concerned about the potential consequences not seeing each other enough in the first weeks could have for the rest of the relationship.\n\nAnd, just in case you were wondering, I really love her and I'm not planning on leaving her anytime soon :)", "summary": "How do I deal with missing my loved one? And can not being enough with each other at the start of a relationship become a problem in the future of the said relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_hq5ly", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Continuity Errors across movies and their sequels", "post": "I don't think it counts, but SPOILER just in case.\n\nSo I just watched The Hangover 2 last night, and saw that Bryan Callen appears in the second movie. For those of you who are wondering \"Who the fuck is Bryan Callen\", he played Eddie the wedding chapel owner in the first movie.\n\nIn the second, the guys walk into a go-go bar and there Bryan Callen is again! I'm thinking \"sweet! Eddie is going to tell them of some crazy story!\", but the character was named Samir. The reason I thought that it would be Eddie was because he used a VERY similar accent as in the first movie, and besides a little bit more hair, looked relatively the same.\n\nIt's not the first set of films to do this, I'm looking at you Forgetting Sarah Marshall/Get Him to the Greek with Jonah Hill, but really, why can't the spare the extra few minutes to write in a plausible reason why the character shows up in the sequel?", "summary": "I hate when an actor is in a movie and its sequel as different characters."}
{"id": "t3_1hrlnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] It's incredible difficult to have a real relationship with anyone.", "post": "Background: [21M] I've never had a true relationship or friendship or someone who would consider me their best friend. I'm not a complete social outcast, there's lots of people I talk to at school and stuff, but I've never done stuff like talk to my friends on the phone or hangout outside of school. \n\nI've had this problem for about as long as I can remember. So far nothing I've done has helped, I've read all the help book, the tough-love Internet posts, the 'just get out there and talk' advice and I'm still lost. I just feel like none of it really applies to my situation.\n\nComing into real college I feel like it's just getting worse. I don't have the environment I'm use to for making friends, and it seems like people my age are doing more social things like going to bars. I really want to make new friends and keep the few people I'm able to talk too, but it's just so easy to fall back and not talk to anyone.", "summary": "I crave real friendship, but can't handle making friends"}
{"id": "t3_ma4lq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Paranoid Schizophrenic/PS3 addict help please", "post": "My brother is 22 and in the last 8 months he's been admitted to the mental hospital twice. Both instances he used substances such as weed and alcohol and spent days on his", "summary": "My 22 year old brother has a serious addiction to his"}
{"id": "t3_3xsc2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [31M] getting set up on a double date with [28F] on XMas Eve", "post": "My bestfriend's girlfriend wants to set me up with one of her friends.  I'm very close with her and basically consider her a sister so this isn't out of the norm.  The thing is, this double date is taking place at their home on Christmas Eve.  I had been planning on bringing them their gifts (and a bottle of wine) but then I started thinking that it might be appropriate to bring a small gift for my 'date.'\n\nTrouble is, I don't know her at all (met her briefly years ago) and certainly don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.  Flowers are outdated and a little cheesey, frankly, but I can't really think of something appropriate or if I should just scrap the idea all together.  Any ideas?", "summary": "Meeting a girl for a double date on Christmas Eve - should I bring her a gift?"}
{"id": "t3_2uvvkj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking for clarification during a job interview", "post": "So I just remembered this one today.  Happened years ago.  \n\nI was at a job interview for a cook in an on campus bar at my university.  He was asking a bunch of the standard questions, cooking experience, what I'm taking in school, etc.\n\nHe then asks me \"What are three of your favourite beverages?\"\n\nSo I'm wondering at this point if he meant top three drinks of all time, or since this is at a bar, just my top three favourite alcoholic drinks.  So, wanting clarification on this I ask:\n\n\"Alcoholic?\"\n\nHe just stares at for a few seconds before he says \"That's one of your best qualities?\"\n\nIt takes me a moment or two before I realize he asked had asked me for my top three qualities.  Don't ask me how I confused qualities with beverages.  I'm not even sure he used that word, but this was definitely the jist of it.", "summary": "Went to job interview, told the Manager that I was rather proud of my drinking problem."}
{"id": "t3_3azsc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/M] am not relaxed with my girlfriend (25/F], but very relaxed with all other women", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for 2,5 months now and everything is pretty great. She is very relaxed, wants to have fun without worries and has never actually given me the reason for not being relaxed with her. Yet i am. \n\nWhen we started out, i didn't care much about it and where will it lead so i just went with the flow and been perfectly relaxed with her, teased her, joked with her...Now that i truly care for her and she is constantly on my mind, i have become unrelaxed in order not to say the wrong thing, not to fuck it up, not to give her any kind of wrong impression. \n\nI am very relaxed with all other women, even those who try to hit on me, because i don't give a damn about them, i simply do not care what they will think of me, so i come from a place of grounding where i can joke around, be playful, tease, laugh, smile a lot...\n\nReddit, how do i fix this? I have tried convincing myself \"not to give a damn\" about her as well, but when i try to adopt that mindset, i suddenly, well, start not to care anymore, stop being thoughtful, stop giving her attention etc...\n\ni have tried relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, but it seems to only work partially...", "summary": "i am unrelaxed with my girlfriend, but very relaxed with girls i don't care about - how do i fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_4lerye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my [19F] Date canceled is this a flake (Chat log included)", "post": "So the title is pretty much the whole story we set up a date and the day before I wake up to this:\n\nHer: Hey I'm so sorry but is it possible to postpone coffee tomorrow until another time. One of the girls last night cut her hand open and i have to cover her shifts.\u200b\n\nMe: Yeah sure no problem\n\nHer: I am super sorry\n\nMe: hahah all good some other time then :)\n\nHer: Definitely\n\nMe: Do you work full time?\n\nHer: Well i will be for the next few weeks. Not normally though\n\nIt sounds like a pretty legitimate excuse to me but the last comment has me thinking this is her way of pretending to be busy. I just wanted to see what you guys thought she seems like a nice girl but i'll be honest I can't be stuffed talking to her for the next few weeks trying to get a date in.", "summary": "We had a date set up and she canceled the day before seem's like a flake but not 100% sure."}
{"id": "t3_4i1ynk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] mother [50sF] uses the wrong name when she's upset with me", "post": "I realized tonight that I can't seem to figure out this situation.\n\nI'm transgender (female pronouns), and have been using a new first name since about October. She's very supportive and uses my new name all the time. Sometimes she slips up and uses my old name, but corrects herself right afterwards.\n\nThe problem is when she's upset with me. Every time, without fail, she uses my old name without correcting herself. It feels like shit and makes things worse because it doesn't exactly put me in a mindset to try to resolve things.\n\nI'm recovering from a long period of depression and inactivity and there is A LOT going on in my life right now. I'm trying to stay afloat at a new (wonderful) job, which is difficult after such a long time of inactivity. Coming home, I just want to hide in my room and shut down for a bit. Instead I'm expected to help with anything she wants me to do at a moments notice, and when I say no she gets upset and calls me by my old name. \n\nI told my boyfriend about it and he thinks she does it to hurt me. I found myself coming up with all sorts of excuses for her behavior. She only does it when she's stressed or unfocused. Then again, today she used it three times in a row. When I corrected her, she said \"Sorry.\" in what felt like a rather unapologetic tone. \n\nI need some outside perspective here. I'm looking for rooms to rent to live somewhere else, but I don't know when I'll be able to find anything. Am I being unreasonable when I need time alone, and refuse to drop everything whenever she needs something done? Does habit and stress excuse her from calling me something that's hurtful to me? I really don't know.", "summary": "My mother calls me by a name I had for 21 years that I severely dislike whenever she's upset with me. Is she trying to hurt me or does her stress excuse it?"}
{"id": "t3_4xyzod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife not interested in sex two years after her emotional affair", "post": "I [M40] have a very beautiful and sexy wife [33] and have been married 8 years. We have two young children of 1 and 5. About two years ago i found out that my wife was having an 'emotional affair' with someone who she worked with. This lasted about six months and he even left his wife, at least partially for her. She denies that anything physical happened, but they went on coffee dates etc.. and there were clearly inappropriate moments and probably text messages. She refuses to go into detail saying she doesnt want to hurt me. \n\nI cant change what happened and actually dont think I really want to know the extent. She said she is sorry for what happened but doesnt take full responsibility and partially blames what happened on my long work hours and work stress which she says affected our relationship. We had a very rough patch but she eventually ended contact and they no longer work together. We had our second child after that, but things have never been the same. \n\nWe hardly ever have sex (about once every 4 to 5 months) because she says that she doesnt have any libido and has also suffers with very bad dyspareunia. She is pretty affectionate but she resists any physical advances from my side and says that she needs more time. She has been seeing a gynecologict for over a year but things are not better. \n\nI am at my wits end. We used to have great sex, about twice a week at least. I cant help but think that there is more going on. We have tried therapy but things are not better. I have considered hiring a PI to follow her and find out if something else is up. I have directly asked her if there is somebody else or if she has contact with the 'other man' who is now divorced. She denies anything and this has led to huge fights. I am desperate to have my wife back!", "summary": "Wife had 'emotional affair' two years ago. Despite ending this we still have almost no sexual relationship. She blames this on libido and dyspareunia. Worried that she still has contact with 'him'"}
{"id": "t3_2max6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27F] tell a guy [30M] I haven't met yet I've lost interest?", "post": "This dude [30M] and I started talking on OKCupid back in August and it was fine, we chatted and decided to meet up sometime except he kept picking really inconvenient dates I couldn't make so we haven't actually gone out on any dates yet. But we kind of kept talking, and over the course of our conversations, I discovered out that, he texts a ridiculous amount and is persistent to the point where it's kind of annoying, and also at 7 am. I have my phone on don't disturb, so I don't really care, but seriously, who texts that stupid early? \n\nAll that (and the fact that when we text or call, the conversation is never really that interesting and I get kinda bored) has caused me to lose interest. For a while, I was actually super busy and wasn't able to really respond to his 'hi' texts for a solid monthish. Or his phone calls. I was secretly hoping that he would lose interest, but oh well, he didn't.\n\nI don't want to actually meet up with this guy. But I don't want to be a dick about it and string him along (I don't really think I have because we still haven't met up or anything, and haven't really talked that much). How do I tell him politely that I've lost interest and am no longer interested in meeting up and get him to stop texting me all the damn time? Is there a nice way to actually say these things? I feel kind of bad for not saying something sooner, but oh well. That's why I'm asking here. It's not like we're even breaking up or anything because there wasn't really anything there to begin with.", "summary": "Met a dude, talked for a little bit, never met up, lost interest in him and no longer want to meet up, how do I tell him to please stop contacting me?"}
{"id": "t3_1aam4z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf (24/f) won't give me (25/m) BJ's.", "post": "In honor of steak and BJ day, of course...\n\nWe've been dating for 6 months or so. Other than the occasional small argument we may have (nothing major), things have been good. She's probably one of the smartest girls I have ever dated. Our personalities are pretty similar and we get along well.\n\nI would say she is somewhat \"sheltered\" when it comes to sex, it seems. She isn't into wearing lingerie or anything, and when we first started dating she told me she had never seen porn. For Christmas I had playfully suggested my present should be her in sexy-times clothes. Yeah, don't think so.\n\nOn top of this, it became incredibly obvious after a few months of dating that a BJ was never going to happen. I mean, not only has she never made a move, but after bringing it up I was immediately told it made her feel \"uncomfortable\".\n\nSo, here I am, on steak and BJ day... and I really want a BJ. This is actually the first girl I've ever dated that has not gone down on me, and ironically, it's the one whos company I enjoy the most. I should also point out I have no problem with going down on a girl, and I have even done it to her once, but I obviously am not going to continue go down on a girl that doesn't return the favor.\n\nI guess I have 2 questions:\n\n1. Am I being ridiculous for ultimately thinking this isn't going to work in our current state;\n2. Has anyone ever even worked themselves out of a situation like this? I mean, even if she did give me a BJ, I can't imagine it is going to go well, or that it would happen often (at all?).", "summary": "Gf won't give head, never has, it will probably be terrible anyways. Other things good. Sex is important to me. Breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_s8ocw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I get my boyfriend to stop bringing up my past?", "post": "Over ten years ago when I was in college (I'm 32), I slept around a little (~10 guys). Ever since I left college, I've been in serious relationships with no cheating. My current bf (4 months together; he is 29) asked me how many men I had been with and I answered honestly. Ever since he has been pissed.  When I bring up wanting to have sex, he says why bother and it isn't special. He then tells me that I'll find someone other guy and he is just a pit stop. If I give him compliments, he'll say something like 'You would know wouldn't you?' Even in times when sex shouldn't be an issue it comes up. Yesterday I was helping him clean out his car and got bit by a mosquito on my upper thigh and he said that he was sure that wasn't the first time I got bit there. I don't know what to say when he gets like this. I think I ought to just cut my losses and cut him lose. Thoughts?", "summary": "Had lots of sex in college (10+ years ago). Current boyfriend is being a dick about it."}
{"id": "t3_1fp82k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F20) love my boyfriend (M21), but I feel guilty constantly thinking of an old friend (M22) I used to like", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, and we're so happy together. However, we met in college, so it's become long distance for the second summer. I graduated, so I'm not sure when I'll be able to see him in person again.\n\nI recently ran into an old friend who I met a few years back, before I met my boyfriend. When I first met him, I liked him a lot, but I thought it was just a high school crush. After a little less than a year or so, I tried (and was successful) to stop thinking about him. When I ran into him again though, all of those feelings came up again and now I can't stop thinking about him. We haven't done anything or been anything more than friends.\n\nI see my boyfriend almost everyday through Skype, and we text often throughout the day. I feel guilty that I still have these feelings for my other friend. Should I tell my boyfriend about this other guy or try to forget him again? (I may also see him again later this year, as I might travel to where he lives for vacation.)", "summary": "In a happy, loving relationship, but recently ran into a friend I used to really like a few years ago, and those feelings came back. I feel guilty for thinking about him all the time. Should I tell my boyfriend about this?"}
{"id": "t3_1o0jdc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some advice on my breakup...", "post": "So my gf[26/f] of a year went on a trip to Denver and cheated on me[30/m]. She then returned and lied incessantly about everything and gradually came clean after I pressed it. She is now FB official with the guy and I just found this out. I am absolutely crushed about everything. Before she went on this trip we were great and had a wonderful relationship so I am completely blown away. \n\nI need advice on how to stop myself from contacting her. I've defriended her, deleted her from my phone, and deleted every picture of us. However I still have this impulse to write her an email or message one of her friends and I know that that is in no way acceptable. Does anyone have some activities or impulse things I can do to curb that impulse every time it comes up?", "summary": "GF cheated...need advice on not contacting her."}
{"id": "t3_4gircn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23, M] wants to move to Korea for a year. Me [22, F] can't go with him. We've been together over a year and a half.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been in a committed relationship for over a year and a half now. We met in student accommodation at University. We live in the UK and for years now my boyfriend has had a passion for going to Korea to teach children English for a period of time. Unfortunately due to health issues I have no choice but to stay in the UK. \n\nI'm in two minds about it all. I don't want to stand in the way of his dreams however I know I will find it insanely hard. I don't want to break up with him and neither does he. \n\nAlthough we do not live together, we actually live about an hour and a half on the train apart, we see each other at least once a week for multiple days at a time. This has been the case since we first met so we haven't spent great periods of time apart. \n\nI just don't really know what to do. Whenever the topic is brought up in conversation I burst into tears. I'm absolutely terrified of losing him. I'm scared of being without him for such a lengthy period of time. He is my best friend too, the person I can talk to about absolutely anything so not having that in person will be really hard.\n\nI'm wondering does anyone have any similar experiences of their loved one going abroad for a period of time? Does anyone have any tips of how to make things easier?\n\nThanks in advance", "summary": "Does anyone have any advice about how to deal with my boyfriend going to Korea for a year without me?"}
{"id": "t3_pfymq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girls of Reddit, would you consider this creepy?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I would really appreciate your honest opinion about this:\n\nThe story goes like this: I made a friend on a popular blogging website. At first I simply loved what she posted, and soon it turned into a little crush. So over the course of 8 months we communicated several times, maybe 20 message back and forth, nothing much. One day I made her a playlist, and she loved it, so she asked me to be her friend on facebook... something she said she never does with other blogger. First time I even see what she looks like. \n\nNext week I decide to make her something else, seeing how much she appreciated my last gift. This time I used Flickr to make an interactive story. Basically I took photos of a toy turtle and little adventure he had one day (going to park, driving, hike, etc). I made it so she could click and decide what the turtle would do next. (FYI It was about her turtle which she had just gotten). \n\nI send her this, and the next day she unfriends me and never replies back. I apologize and say I didn't mean to step over the line and won't bother her anymore. She never responds again. The end.\n\nIt's been eating me up for a while now. I know what I did was over the top, especially since it was for someone I never met. But was it really that creepy? Would you unfriend a guy and ignore him after that? Would appreciate your honest answer Reddit. Thanks!\n\n_________________________", "summary": "Made an online friend. Exchanged short messages over course of 8 months. (maybe 20 messages total). Made her a music mix, she loved it. Became facebook friends. Next gift was  a short story told using pictures (about a turtle, which she just got). She unfriends me and never speaks again."}
{"id": "t3_11ibh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I had an incident last night and am looking for advice", "post": "Last night, myself (20[m]) and my girlfriend (20[f]) (long distance relationship) were at a party when she came to visit. We have been dating for 3 going on 4 months. She used to go to my school and i know her past with some guys who I am friends with. Nothing serious. So anyways, she was off with her friends and I was with mine. I walked into another room and noticed her talking to a friend of mine who shes admitted she is attracted to. This friend has no idea we are in a relationship. Then I see them kiss. It lasted for no longer than 1 second, but needless to say, I freaked out. I left the party in a rage and texted her telling her \"I hope he was worth it\". She started crying and after a while I let her tell me what her side was. She admitted to kissing him, but claimed she was trying to find me to tell me what happened right after, though I had left. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now. I want to believe it was a split second thing and it was unintentional, but I just don't know I can because I watched the whole thing happen. It also makes me nervous because we live 2 hours away from each other, we go to separate colleges and I just don't know if this kind of stuff is happening there. Any advice? I'm really hurt, but I want to believe her. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "She kissed another guy for a second then came running back to apologize. I dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_26adjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] don't know how to feel about this.", "post": "Not sure if this is the right place for this but here goes. \n\nOkay so I have been going out with a girl [F18] for over a couple years. I thought all was okay, we've had arguments here and there but nothing abnormal. This girl was in love with me as she stated and basically what happened hit me like a freight train. \n\nWe've been going through a rough patch lately and she's recently told me that she wants a break. Her reasoning being that she is too dependant on me and needs to learn independence for herself. That she has to learn how to be okay without me. This really baffled me since I thought the point of a relationship is being and going through things together. I thought the point WAS to be able to depend on your SO. \n\nShe says she's been thinking a lot about our relationship lately and listening to others about things (who knows what to possibly lead her to this) and she decided on a break. \n\nThis shocked me completely. I'd have never thought she would do this. She's told me I was the love of her life and we've been through so much together. And I honestly just can't understand where she is coming from. \n\nTo me this just feels like an excuse, but I don't know. I'm lost, torn, broken. I'm not sure how to feel about losing this girl. \n\nTo me, her asking for a break was as if Mr. Rogers had just flipped everyone on his show off and burned his sweaters: You'd think that would never happen.\n\nBut it did, and now I'm stuck in a state of confusion and sadness. It really sucks. I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. \n\nSomeone, please shed light on this situation for me. Is it over for good? Whats really going on here? What do?", "summary": "Things were seemingly going well when suddenly girlfriend of a few years wants a break from our relationship, and I just can't comprehend it."}
{"id": "t3_djry1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hello, my so dear fellow Redditors! I need help with advisement on soccer recruitment for universities.", "post": "I just turned 21 and even though I was more concentrated towards music in High School, soccer has got me in a whole other direction. I used to play everyday ever since I was 5. I stopped when I was 12 because that's when I moved to the U.S. I started playing again and it's been a couple of months and I feel like I haven't lost my abilities I just need to polish them, which to my surprise has been improving quite rapidly. I love the sport more than anything and I feel healthier and happier than ever. I play locally with older guys and some young players show up ever so often and I'm able to make a difference in the score sheets (not by always scoring, I rarely score but I'm able to effectively initialize offensive plays and encourage defending) . I would like to know if I still have a chance to be recruited, I am in college right now and my school does not offer the sport so I don't compete and I don't have an athletic Resume. What's the best way to go about it? I've been researching and asking all over the internet about the process and it seems as if I just need to call the coaches and play for them (I need a little more clarification on that as well)?", "summary": "I'm 21, my college does not offer the sport so I don't have an Athletic Resume. Would I still be able to be recruited to any division and what's the best way to go about it? Do I just call the coaches and expect them to be happy to see me and I just play in front of them and sign a contract?"}
{"id": "t3_2qxyi3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to stand up in a loft bed while a fan was on at full speed.", "post": "This actually happened on Saturday, but I'll get to the story. It's about 2 AM on Saturday and my SO and I are having a good time up in the loft bed. I'm on top and my SO asks me to spin around. Instead of spinning around as I usually do, I (like an idiot) decide it would be a better idea to stand up and get back on again obviously forgetting that the fan is on, at full speed naturally. \n\nAs I attempt to stand up, the fan clocks me right in the side of the head just above my temple. My head whips to the side from the force of the blow and I fall down clutching my head. As I'm laying there trying not to cry, I hear me SO ask if I'm okay. I try to compose myself before asking and my SO asks me to please say something or at least make a noise.\n\nMy SO is freaking out because I might be knocked out and it would be weird to try to explain to our parents why I had to go to the hospital. Through gritted teeth I manage to say \"I'm trying not to cry\" as I sniffle and the waterworks start. My SO holds me and tells me it's okay and I'll be fine. Then we both start laughing after my SO says that even though it hurt, this has to be the funniest sex injury. But boy did that kill the mood. \n\nThe next morning I wake up to a numb on my head about an inch or two long and about a half inch tall. Swallowing hurts, chewing hurts, yawning hurts, and basically anything that requires jaw muscles hurts. I think in a couple days my head wound will be completely gone, but I can manage a lot of things with a minor twinge of pain.", "summary": "four days ago I stood up in SO's loft bed during sex while fan was on, ended up with a large bump on the head that has not fully healed."}
{"id": "t3_3etuzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] with my gf [19 F] 3 years, I'm getting really mixed messages...", "post": "My girlfriend and I got into a bit of an argument about 2 weeks ago. It was something relatively minor, where you say something stupid you don't really mean. She said suddenly after that \"she has been unhappy for a long time\", that she didn't love me anymore, and left me. I pretty much begged her not to go, but she left anyway\n\nNot even 10 minutes later, she texted me and said she made a huge mistake. That when she came back to give me some stuff our \"final\" goodbye hug felt so completely different. We got back together.\n\n2 Days later, she says its just too different now. She's acting so different from normal. She feels distant from me, I say \"well yeah, we did just break off a 3 year relationship like 2 days ago. It'll take some time to heal back up\". She breaks it off.\n\nSame thing happens, and I'm really losing my patience at this point. I'm thinking \"jesus woman, shit or get off the pot\". We end up going on a date. I'm just as affectionate as I usually am, because I really love this girl, and I want it to work. We have sex, she doesn't seem very into it. She won't kiss me during. Later she texts me and says that she \"didn't feel anything during sex\", and that I'm too \"touchy now\" (maybe slightly more, but obviously at this point I'm feeling a little insecure), and that she feels like she's forcing this and it feels very fake.\n\nI'm at my wit's end here reddit. She's the one that keeps coming back, she texts me like nothing is wrong, like we never even broke up the first time. I don't know what to do here.", "summary": "Girlfriend is playing hot and cold with breakups and affection"}
{"id": "t3_1s9gw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) love my boyfriend (24) but I feel like I need to be single again and live young and wild", "post": "We have been together for 10 months and the last months have been a bit hard because I am out of the country for 5 months for an exchange program.\n\nI'm 20 years old and this is my first relationship. I have had sex with 2 other people before him (one night stands).\nThe sex with my boyfriend is good and he makes me happy. But I feel like, given my lack of experience, I can't yet decide for myself if he is the one. I'm not just talking about sex, I'm talking about compatibility in general. He loves me with all his heart, and I love him back, but some doubt slipped into my mind.\n\nI'm asking myself whether it wouldn't be better for me to be single for a while, to have fun, sleep around, don't worry about a relationship. And also: build a personality of my own and finding myself (this may sound cliche, but I feel like I need to find myself).\n\nIn short: I'm afraid that I'm giving up my good years, that I'm settling too soon, that I'm missing my chance on more experiences with sex and dating and that I don't fully know yet who I am and what I want in life.\n\nFor these reasons, it would be better to break up. But I'm not sure if that's the best thing to do because I do love him and I can see myself with him in 5 years. And I would feel bad to hurt him that much.\n\nSo, my questions: do you think living free for a while is worth losing a potential husband? Is it normal to have these doubts? What should I do?", "summary": "I love my BF but I also feel the need to be single and find myself and live free for a while "}
{"id": "t3_4m5ts8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19F) only spend half an hour a day on skype with my BF (19M) and I'm getting frustrated", "post": "My bf and I have been going out for a year and a half. We didn't start off long distance, but now our relationship is long distance. It's been long distance for a year. This is my first relationship and his first serious one.\n\nWhen it started out, it was perfect. He would initiate a good portion of the texting and the talking in general. I felt like I got the attention I always wanted. We struggled a little more with the communication as college started. I talked to him about it, and he said he would improve. At the time he did improve. He started initiating some more.\n\nNow it's summer. I'll only be seeing him once more in person until late August (long story). He has a summer job now and he spends the morning working. That's fine with me. If he has time, he texts in between working. Then he gets home and he spends some time with his family, then plays video games with his friends on skype. This is where the issue comes in. I don't mind the video games or his friends, but he ends up spending 2-3 hours with them, and only half an hour with me. \n\nI always feel clingy if I ask for more time than that because we do skype almost everyday. At the same time, half an hour a day isn't enough for me. That's 2% of the day. Is this even a reasonable amount of time for a relationship? It's not like he even meets up with his friends in person. He's in a \"long distance relationship\" with them too, so I don't understand why he can't pay more attention to me.", "summary": "bf spends 2-3 hours everyday playing video games with his friends on skype, while we only skype for half an hour. It doesn't feel like enough time to me, but I don't know if asking for more is clingy."}
{"id": "t3_2zaxfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22f) am feeling threatened by an old fling (28m) (NSFW)", "post": "Hey guys.  It's my first time posting here.  I hope this subreddit is appropriate for this topic.  I used to have this fling when I lived in the Midwest. There were no expressed emotions involved and was entirely sexual.  The nature of the sexual relationship was very much so sub/dom.  We did a lot of anal and \"my ass was his \".  Of course during sexy times,  this was fun and hot.  When I decided to move back west,  he insisted that my ass would be his no matter where I went.  I,  in the moments of just sexual thoughts,  agreed to this.  I think outside of the sexual context,  it was not realistic to think this would be true.  We all say shit we don't mean in moments like these. \n\n Anyway I moved and he started texting me shit like \"you ignorant slut\" and \"you better respond to me\".  Eventually I told him not to contact me again.  This was last summer and he's continued to text me .  I then proceeded to block him on Facebook because he messaged me when I wouldn't respond.  Then he made a snapchat and added me.  I blocked him.  He made three more new accounts to add me in which I kept blocking him.  I hadn't heard from him in a while and I got a text this weekend saying \"I'm moving to (my current city)\".  I played it off like I'd changed me number and said who is this,  and he sends me a picture of himself.\n\n  I then proceed to make every account private online and change my number.  I'm feeling really threatened by him, by the fact that although I haven't spoken a word to him for months he continues to text me and is now proclaiming to be moving to my city.  I keep looking over my shoulder in fear that he'll just show up.  Am I overreacting?his texts have never been threatening but I feel threatened, so I'm not sure how much the authorities can really get involved.  Thoughts?\n\n__", "summary": "my old fling is not letting go and it's starting to scare me__"}
{"id": "t3_jt8fh", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I feel like I was mocked by my college advisor.", "post": "I took a break from college. Got some work experience, and this year I decided to go back. I have difficulties. I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis when I was 17 and got it treated, but it's left me with severe stomach discomforts like IBS. I've found ways to manage my symptoms. Primarily each fresh foods, eat at certain times, and make sure I have a toilet ready at this particular time. If anyone else has dealt with this and can give me some advice on further treating or managing IBS those are definitely welcome.\n\nAnyway, as my title read. I was talking to my advisor in his office today and I told him about my situation and told him that I have extreme difficulties leaving my house to attend 8am classes. He told me that I would have to \"go cry and beg to\" <insert chairman's name>. I feel like he mocked me and after dealing with IBS for 9 years I don't appreciate it. It has actually upset me a bit. I feel like I should man up, confront him about it, and tell him that I don't appreciate what he said. My first day of classes are tomorrow and I have a giant gap I can use to talk to him.", "summary": "I feel like my college advisor made fun of my IBS, and I don't appreciate it. What would reddit do?"}
{"id": "t3_25lzpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/F] with my coworker [25 M] possibly obsessive crush. not sure what to do", "post": "Basically there is this younger guy at work and I can't stop thinking about him.  Mostly I just want him to be a friend but I had a dream about him stopping me in a stairwell and just kissing me.  After that dream I sometimes just stare at him  and think about that dream and once he totally noticed that I was staring at him.  I don't think he likes me like that at all, but we do talk sometimes and today he went to lunch with me because I asked him last week.  He totally forgot about it, too, but he was a good sport and went to lunch with me.  Nothing really happened.  We mostly talked about work and friends and games.  He has a lot of friends already and he's always busy hanging out with them.  I don't even think this is a real sexual attraction, but I want to be his friend and maybe play some boardgames with him. Also when he is just talking to me one on one I feel just really calm and happy.  This is really cliche but I feel like I could just be the real me around him.  I haven't really felt this way about a guy since I was sixteen.  It's basically a bunch of irrational and sort of obsessive thoughts about this younger guy who isn't really in the same stage of life as me.  What should I do about this?  I don't even know what he thought of me asking him to lunch.  Does it count as hitting on him?  I can be sort of socially retarded so I need some help.", "summary": "Can't stop thinking about younger coworker.  Need some insight from reddit. "}
{"id": "t3_13jm2g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most ungrateful thing you e ever see a Person Do?", "post": "I have this friend who lives in Europe. we were friends since around 9 and we still talk. so I get a call from him (note he is a ps3 gamer just like me) and he asks me to get him a game called ghost recon future solider. I knew that games in there cost double and I'm going to see him in the summer so I say why not and buy him the game. Fast forward to the summer I go and see him and I give him the game (along with a few other games that I don't play) He seems really happy so I go and watch him set it up. After he sets everything up he starts raging because the DLC passport for multiplayer is region locked meaning he couldn't play online. Being a gamer myself i seem sorry because I know that's why he plays games but he then try's to exchange it with a game store in another CITY! Since I was getting tired I ask if I can stay at his place and he says yes. Come morning I fix the problem by logging in my account and downloading it on his ps3 he thanks me and plays it like there wasn't 1 hour of rage last night.", "summary": "Op buys game for European friend DLC to play online is region locked, he rages and tries to exchange it i end up downloading it with my account"}
{"id": "t3_tiggy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Inexperienced man having trouble dating a rough woman", "post": "I submitted this before under another name but it was days late and I don't think many people saw it so I'[m posting again.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. I haven't had much experience with women and am seeing the first woman I've ever called a girlfriend. I'm 20(M) and she is 30(F). We've been dating for 18 months and she's other than kissing I she's the only woman I've been sexual with. I'm awkward around women and she's ok with that, may even think it's cute. I was kept very sheltered growing up so I never had a lot of contact with girls and she's made up for that.\nThe problem is she spanks me and not the light spankings you imagine for sex. She gives real burners that hurt and sometimes I need time alone after. She gets excited by it but I think it's more what it does to me than the act of spanking. I know she's into my butt, but I think she likes it that I feel embarrassed and has questioned me about it before, during and after.\nI grew up in a strict home and am used to spankings so it's ok and I can manage it. I'd gladly take that if it kept her happy, but my concern is how this will affect our relationship. Will she see me as someone just to spank? Is it just a temporary thing for her? We are serious but could spanking ruin what we have?", "summary": "Older girlfriend likes spanking me because it makes me nervous and shy but it really hurts."}
{"id": "t3_23d9yn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Am I doing it right?", "post": "So I've been dieting and going to the gym for 3 months, and today I hit the 3 stone lost mark. However, I've been wondering whether I'm eating the right things, and the right amount of things. I've been eating between 1500-2000 calories a day for 3 months, no cheat days (only 2 of what I consider cheat meals). \n[Here] is pretty much what I've been eating for 3 months, the breakfast is always the same, the lunch can differ (to a Healthy Choice sandwich from Tesco usually), and the dinner is what I've had the most. I do usually snack on Wholemeal pittas throughout the day, and it's very rare that I have a nutrigrain bar.\n\nAs part of the diet, I've cut out LOTS of foods that I really enjoy. I've not had pizza, or chips for 3 months. I haven't even had butter (so no more toast in the mornings) as I believe it's too much saturates. \n\nThe main thing I'm getting at is I want to start eating how I'm to eat for the rest of my life. Up until now I've always though as soon I've hit my target weight, I would then just start eating whatever I wanted. This has been like a ~~carrot~~ cake on a stick incentive to look forward too once this has finished.\n\nAlso I'm confused on the amount of \"meals\" I should be having. I have 3 *meals* a day (breakfast, lunch and dinner) as well as a protein shake post workout (not considered a meal to me). I've read about that in order to speed up the metabolism I should have 5-7 meals a day.", "summary": "I need some clarity on what I'm eating. Is 1500 calories to little? What should I realistically be eating?"}
{"id": "t3_2rad2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/m] with my [27/m] friend (2+ years). Did I mess up trust?", "post": "So I have a close friend of mine of a few years who was talking to me about his girlfriend, and told me a few things. Said not to repeat it to anyone. Fine, no problem.\n\nHowever, a random friend I have mentioned something about the girlfriend along the lines of \"hey shes cute! What do you think?\" (just random guy BS talk), I simply stated that \"you wouldn't really like her I think\".\n\nHe of course, asked why. I replied with \"just some things I was told in confidence, cant say\".\n\nI feel like I screwed up. My friend of course dropped it, and that was it. It's just I feel I should of said something silly, or stupid, to blow it off, not what I did. It was the first thing I could think of without saying anything I shouldn't. Am I just being stupid here? I just feel bad about it.", "summary": "Friend told me a secret. I feel like I indirectly mentioned I \"knew a secret\" but couldnt say it to another friend. Did I betray his trust?"}
{"id": "t3_1qzqn3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get rid of guilt?", "post": "Hello, seeing as I frequent this sub a lot I decided to give this question a try. (using a throwaway in no small part due to being ashamed)\n\nI've been having a lot of issues as of a year or so when it comes to being a decent human being. I don't like people, at times I even despise them. The only people I like are gone or unavailable to me. Before things got like this, however, I was also a part of the herd doing stupid things without thinking of consequences. I hurt someone's feelings many years ago for no reason and never apologised for it. The guilt's been haunting me over this in particular (next to a wall of other things) for so long it's almost always on my mind, which is why I tend to keep busy in any way possible (gotten to the point where I'd rather do anything than think about the past).\n\nHere's my issue - apologising would fix nothing in my opinion. She's better off without me and I'm not really a part of her life any more, only a past that's irrelevant. Opening up contact right now would do her no favours and I have no intention of causing her any more grief because she's a nice person, unlike me.", "summary": "Obvious solution to guilt is asking for forgiveness, not an option available. How do you - keyboard warriors, gentlemen, scholars and ladies - cope with your guilt, no matter what the cause behind it? I'm having a tough time being a human being and could use a lesson."}
{"id": "t3_2x5lcn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dividing by 2.", "post": "I took my first materials engineering midterm today. It was seriously just five problems, three of which were just asking us to regurgitate a few definitions and concepts from the textbook, and the last two (sciencey jargon ahead) asked us to show the atomic packing factor of an FCC unit cell and calculate the material density of copper. Seriously. That was it. Just two problems with any math whatsoever, and those were literally just basic algebra that anyone smarter than a 5th-grader can do.\n\nWell, as it turns out I'm not smarter than a 5th-grader. \n\nThe last problem was actually easier than the one before it, since we were given all the numbers and the density equation was only four variables, and it even gave us the answer we were supposed to get. Easy, right? You'd almost have to *try* to screw it up, right? Well in my case, no, I somehow found a way to fuck myself over on it completely. For no discernible reason, I apparently thought that the atomic radius needed to be divided by 2. Why? Because I can do advanced calculus and physics, but apparently I don't know what the fuck a radius is. My final answer was nearly 72,000 kg/m^3. The correct answer was actually 8890 kg/m^3. Meaning I was seriously off by a factor of 9 because I divided by 2. Because fuck all reason. The sad part is the was a test I could have easily gotten a 100% on (not that I need it because the prof is incompetent so the class is a total joke), but somehow I fucked up this problem and likely dropped myself a full letter grade.", "summary": "I forgot how to math and dropped myself a letter grade"}
{"id": "t3_522gfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my GF [21F] of about a month, worried that I'm the \"clingy one\"", "post": "Hi Reddit, I've been with this girl about a month and I'm a bit nervous about being that \"clingy boyfriend\". She's a great gal; works hard, has big life goals, independent, good with her finances, great family. I've met the family and we get along well which is great! I'm introducing her to my folks next week so fingers crossed that all goes smooth (my family are a handful at the best of times).\n\nI'm just a little worried that I'm being clingy. She has a good social life and friends network which I think is great, whereas I'm more a homebody with a few close buddies. I just get a little nervous about being a bit full on; I'm a pretty laid back guy but sometimes I stress about dumb stuff like reply times, posting photos on Facebook (the ruin of modern romance imo) and all that. \n\nJust looking for some tips on keeping a cool head and not trying to rush anything. \n\nAppreciate it buds.", "summary": "how do I keep it chill and not stress about \"relationship timelines\"?"}
{"id": "t3_4kn2is", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting too excited for GoT", "post": "This happened today, when I stepped into Reddit in the afternoon (in straya) I saw the front page post about GoT episode 5. I clicked and saw it was development on Hodor, everyone loves wyllis, am I right. So I was so excited for the nice lovely winter morning that isn't too cold, I went to get myself a nice glass of water it even tasted sweet to my tongue at the first sip. As I am getting ready to watch the latest episode, I fixed up my curtains, I like watching movies in the dark but other than that I keep my room pretty bright all the time. So I fumbled along to my desk. As you would know, the first thing in the morning is usually not anything done with extra care like using a razor sharp blade for shaving or to debug your codes you were stuck on last night. But here I am, launching up the video, getting ready to soak in my weekly Monday dose.\n\nRemember the glass of water? It was right beside my laptop as of my routine being carried out. And I forgot all about it when I jumped into my chair and slapped it so fast I hadn't had time to realise until a few seconds later I had already done the unthinkable. I panicked and shut it down and waited a while for it to close background apps that are still running. I know, I am pretty idiot for not realising that there are better ways of doing it. Afterwards I tried my best in saving it, unplugged immediately, and after I removed the battery I still heard crunching sound for a good couple of seconds. My heart sank as I wiped up the mess and get ready for classes, leaving my laptop air drying as I speak right now.\n\nI've never thought my five year old laptop is going to go down this way", "summary": "I fried my laptop after spilling water, my brain didn't work quick enough to figure out simple electronics"}
{"id": "t3_3xuk5o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] got dumped by my significant other [18 F] 3 months ago. She found someone in 2 months.", "post": "We are both in college, but we went to different colleges and agreed that we will work things out for the long run. However after a month into our semester she called me and broke up with me out of nowhere because she didn't see us lasting forever. The first month was surreal, I didn't know what to do so I just ignored it. The second month I started drinking a lot especially by myself and my grades suffered a lot. \n\nOur winter break started and we live in the same hometown. So I wanted to hang out with her to see if I can change her mind, but wanted to wait till she had time to hang out with her friends and family as she usually leaves for a week for Christmas. \n\nI then got a text saying that she met someone a month ago and that they're dating. I'm heartbroken when she said this, worst of all is that I asked her if she can say that she doesn't love me anymore so I can start moving on but she said she has feelings for me and that she doesn't love the new guy (only a month into the relationship so I guess that makes sense). \n\nI want her to still be with me, I want her to give me a chance, I don't know what I should do. If I should give up on her then how do I move on? I've had insomnia the past couple of days and lack of appetite since she has told me.", "summary": "Girlfriend of two years breaks up and finds someone new after two months. However she admits to still having feelings for me, and I want us to still be together."}
{"id": "t3_2hkmex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/] with my hook up [22 F] for the past month, now she wants to date.", "post": "Quick back story of myself, I havent had a gf since sophomore year of highschool, on and off with this girl freshman year of college but there was distance was my last big \"relationship\" but she's kinda scarred me on dating since I got hurt so bad. \n\nSo this girl I know, she and I have been hooking up on the weekends when we get drunk. Havent had sex, just making out and then she sleeps in my bed. Well she's had a boyfriend of a few years, but he's a dick and now theyre breaking up (this weekend). I dont want a relationship with her/ really anyone since I dont have time for one at all. So my fear is that she will break up with him, we'll get drunk have sex and then sooner or later she'll wanna date me. When I'm really just about hook up's or if that right girl comes along. But the fact that she's cheating on her boyfriend shows me that if we ever get in an argument she may cheat on me then, and i'm not about that. So do i just tell her I dont want a relationship, and leave it at that, cause she's told me she's liked me, when ive really only talked to her when i'm drunk.", "summary": "Drunk hook up may want to start dating me, I dont wanna girlfriend how do I deal with this."}
{"id": "t3_31tmsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm agnostic [23 M] dating a [21 F] muslim for 6 months; she has fears", "post": "I've been dating this lovely young muslim raised girl for 6 months (No she's not a muslim extremist, she doesnt wear the burqa/hijab (the mask/head scarf thing)\n\nShe's recently left her parents house in paris to come study in my country the netherlands, and seems to be a bit on a exploration of the \"forbidden\" things in life. (You know how we all do when our parents arent looking). but she does it all in moderation, She doesn't get shit face drunk, and smokes weed socially. Does naughty things with me sexually (no coitus, i respect her decision on that and religious views)\n\nRecently I asked her to be my Girlfriend, and she was overwhelmed and her reply was sort of *\"it will never work out\"* reason being because she's a muslim, and their community/society wouldn't accept that she's even:\n\n* 1) Dating\n* 2) Seeing a non-muslim man\n\nSince I've asked her to be my girlfriend, she seems to talk less to me via text but still makes time to see me every week. We've sort of been seeing in each other in secretive way since day one. I've never met her friends (small circle consists mostly of her classmates) and she's never meet mine (because I got shit shy friends and friends that would kinda give me a bad image)\n\nI need to get her to open up and tell me **why** it \"*will never work out\"* and share these fears with me. Its bit of a touchy subject, as I myself, in the past, have read about islam and understand how they operate, but I can clearly see she wants to be with me and enjoys my company, and I clearly respect her morals and values.. \n\nIm looking into the future, and I dont want a religion to be the obstacle between our happiness. And I dont want to force myself into Islam just to please others (her muslim parents/community) so they dont be disappointed in her.\n\n**Where do I go from here?", "summary": "How can I convince a young muslim raised girl who has recently left her parents house that being with me shouldnt be something she has to hide and keep in fear because others will disapprove of it. I need her to open up and explain in full details why she has these fears or what the outcomes will/can be. She might be seeing it differently then I am, and I dont want to force myself into a religion just to please others."}
{"id": "t3_28z3md", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by whistling at night", "post": "This happened a few years ago, but I was just reminded of it when I put in my contacts incorrectly and it burned like hell. \n\nBack in college I was a bit of a restless spirit. I would wander the streets at night, exploring places I probably shouldn't.  I was also big into wearing hip-hop style clothes (baggy jeans, hoodies, etc.) which, at night, might have been a littile intimidating. This had sometimes gotten me into a little trouble, but nothing major (security guards watching me closely, but not arresting me). \n\nThe thing is, when you're exploring like this, you have a lot of free time on your hands. It isn't always interesting walking from place to place, so you kind of have to kill time. Sometimes I would just think to myself, sometimes I'd sing, but one particular night I decided to whistle. \n\nProblem was, I didn't know many songs to whistle to. So as I wandered down another side street, I started to whistle a song from Looney Tunes, which turned out to be A Hunting we will go. There were a few streetlights showing a couple of people on the same sidewalk, but I didn't care.\n\nThat is, until I got close. As soon as I walked near one of them, the bastard suddenly turned around and pepper sprayed me. At this moment, I had been drawing in a breath to whistle, so I caught a full dose everywhere. Eyes, nose, mouth. I couldn't breathe, I couldn't see. All I heard were footsteps as the bastard who sprayed me ran away. \n\nIt took me days to figure out why the hell a random person had sprayed me. I was a skinny asian kid who, in all honesty, looked like a poser. It turns out that there was a TV show that was popular at the time: The Wire. I had never heard of or seen it before, but apparently they might have thought I was imitating Omar? Either that, or they were douches who liked pepper spraying random people.\n\n[Apparently who I was imitating] ( (NSFW)", "summary": "Not knowing pop culture is hazardous to your health."}
{"id": "t3_2yemke", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[14/m] Don't know how to go forward with (14/f)", "post": "A (guy) friend and I were at the mall last weekend and some cute girls saw us. One of them came up and asked for my number. She texted me later that evening just like \"hey whats up\" and we just asked each other how old we were and stuff like that, nothing too interesting. We have been texting and snapchatting for the past week quite a bit. I mentioned something about \"hanging out sometime\" to her on the second day we were texting but she fell asleep (or at least says so) and didn't respond. Looking back, I feel it was way early to ask. Anyways now that we're talking more and more I feel like we should maybe do something together. Not like a date but just hang out somewhere with friends. The problem is that I'm not sure how long to wait to ask. Is it still too early or should I give her the idea because she can always say no. Should I just text her that I want to \"hang out\" or is there a better way to ask. This is my first relationship out of school with someone ~~I don't see everyday~~ I've only seen once (in real life) and I'm so fucking lost here.", "summary": "Girl asked for my number. Been texting for a week. Don't know how to continue."}
{"id": "t3_2d0nrn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Losing a lot of weight has really made me understand why hot girls are so bitchy.", "post": "I have recently lost a good amount of weight [cw 138 lbs. sw 205lbs].  I was a sweet fat girl and I'm still nice.  I've been getting a lot more attention from guys lately.  Recently I went to my SO's 10 year high school reunion where upon my husband was openly congratulated by a drunk guy for 'scoring' me. I thought this was super flattering and would never imagine in my wildest dreams this would happen to me in real life. I was having a reasonably good time until my husband decided he needed to go to the bathroom. I was sitting alone at one of the party tables playing a game on my iPod touch when ol' drunky comes up from behind and places his hands squarely on my shoulders and says, \"Where's your husband.\" After telling him he's in the bathroom drunky says, \"Well that's too bad.\"  In a super fucking creepy voice. So I move to shrug his hands off of me and they don't budge.  So I get up and start walking and drunky starts following me!  He stopped following me when I walk up to a group of guys talking.  At first I thought this incident was funny.  *Haha some drunk guy being silly* but then it really scared me.  I was practically invisible before , just another fat girl. But now, people see me, men see me and most of them are nice but some of them are definitely not.  I've never had to really fear for my safety until recently and it's truly bizarre.  I really understand why hot girls are such assholes all the time now.", "summary": "Drunk guy aggressively hit on me and scared the crap out of me.  Scared for safety and now know why hot women are assholes. [More] on how I lost the weight."}
{"id": "t3_29ft86", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tanning my penis.", "post": "This did not actually take place today but this is one of my favorite sexcapades and this seems like the appropriate place to share.\n\nFor Christmas a couple of years ago, my roommates and our respective girlfriends decided to have a Secret Santa gift exchange. The gift given to my girlfriend was a variety of warming sex lotions/lube. \n\nFast forward to NYE a week later. My girlfriend and I are pretty intoxicated and begin to ring in the new year with some drunken sex. She tells me to grab one of the sex lotions from the top drawer of the nightstand and the rest is hazy.\n\nI awake the next morning with a mysterious brownish orange paint-like substance all over my hands. It's in between my fingers, underneath my fingernails, all over my palms and I have no idea what it is. I head to the bathroom to wash it off and take a piss. The \"paint\" is all over my manhood and on the inside of my thighs. WTF. I go back to the bedroom to show the girlfriend and she doesn't know what it is either. Her hands are clean but, upon further inspection, she notices the \"paint\" is on the inside of her legs also. About this time, I discover an opened bottle of Instant-Tan lotion on the nightstand. Inside the drawer, the sex lotions remain unopened.", "summary": "Used tanning lotion for lube."}
{"id": "t3_3x0syt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17/M] and have a confusing situation with [15/F] co-worker", "post": "So me and this girl I work with have been texting daily for a few months now. I'm 99% sure she likes me. I have asked her to hangout on multiple occasions but every time she says she is busy or already has plans. The most recent time I asked her to hangout, she said the usual, that she was busy so I said \"since you're so busy why do you just let me know when you free to hangout if you even want too\" she said she would and the conversation continued. a few minutes later she came back to it and said \"Wait, why would you think I wouldn't want to hangout with you\" This leads me to believe that she indeed wants to hangout but is actually just very busy. \n\nFast forward to yesterday and I went to a restaurant and one of her good friends was working there. We started talking and of course the girl was brought up. Her friend was telling me to date her already and I said that she is always to \"busy\" to hangout. Her friend said that she is not actually busy and that she is too nervous too hangout. \n\nWe do not go to the same school so I never see her outside of work nor do I have any contact with her friends, it just happened to be a fluke that I ran into her friend.\n\n I'm not quite sure what to do. I have not brought this conversation up with her yet. Should I? Any help is appreciated, Thanks in advance", "summary": "Girl Likes me but does not want to hangout"}
{"id": "t3_3pa5xl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [16 M] have developed a large crush on a girl (17 F) from school. Too inexperienced to know what to do.", "post": "Hi Reddit, desperation and anxiety has brought me here to /r/relationship_advice.\n\nSo, here's the deal. She caught my eye a while ago, but I never had the chance to speak to her until her, a mutual friend, and I were put into a group for a field trip. During that time, I found that her and I are both gamers and have very compatible senses of humor which only made the crush develop even further.\n\nNow here's the kicker. I'm what the fellows would call \"beta as fuck\" because I have little to no relationship experience and I have no clue what to do from here on out. It's difficult to start a conversation with her because we don't have any classes together and she's normally too busy to play online.\n\nI hope that's  enough info. I'll certainly keep an eye on the thread in case any clearing up is needed.", "summary": "Kid with no relationship experience seeks help from strangers on internet"}
{"id": "t3_3kqje4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 MF] wants to break up with me after about [29 F] 5 years of knowing each other and several months relationship, wants to break up if I don't become a feminist.", "post": "Last night I was talking with my girlfriend, things have been rough this month. Everything was going smoothly, nothing out of the ordinary and we began discussing about feminism. I don't actually remember how it came about that but it did. I asked her if she was a feminist and she responded with of course I am. We both live in separate countries (me USA) and my experience with feminism is extremely toxic, she lives in Sweden where its #1 country for feminism (I'm not surprised). She was saying things like how women get paid less, etc. Me trying to not argue with her, doing my best to be logical. She told me don't you want women to have equal rights? I'm like yes of course, but that doesn't make me a feminist. The word itself 'feminism'- isn't equality by itself, that is fighting for women's rights- I'm not going to go into that because that's just- another topic.\n\nSo after discussing about that she kept telling me, you're either a feminist or I'm breaking up with you. My brain 'blue-screening' figured she was just making up an excuse to break up with me but shes being dead serious I believe. Everything else makes sense, her attitude towards me at times or how I just want sex only, it really bothers me and I tell her that. I've been in a feminist relationship before and it was pretty toxic and feel like if I try to reason with her it's just going to end bad now, now that we know we aren't both feminists. \n\nI just don't know why I can't agree to certain aspects without calling myself a feminist cause I'm not, there are problems too with men's rights and not just women's.", "summary": "GF wants me to be a feminist like her but I don't completely agree with feminism, agree that genders should have equal rights, gf wants me to be feminist or we break up."}
{"id": "t3_3ba95g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and trashed my whole room instantly.", "post": "So it started about 3.5 days ago. It was late at night, I had been partying, and decided I could eat a massive bowl of frosted mini wheats. Now something about the huge bowl of whole milk, and the 'extra curriculars' in which I had partook, just didn't agree.  A while later, once I had undressed, and spent about ten minutes in bed, I realized I had to puke. I had a trash barrel/bag conveniently located in the room, so I puked all the milk and bile into it. Being too lazy to bring it downstairs(and not wanting my roommate to see) I brushed my teeth upstairs real quick. And kinda hung it out the second story window, with the strings being wedged into the screen.(I know what you're thinking... But you're wrong. It didn't fall to the ground/on anybody. \n\nInstead, I neglected it for 2-3 days, and once I could smell it fromy bedroom, decided to dispose of it. As I was pulling it in the window,( rather forcefully I now realize) the bag caught on something, tore part way, and don't really open until it was half way in the window. The forward momentum of the pull/rip sent cuddled milk vomit flying all over me. All over my bed. All over my laptop and camera. All over my bedside table, lamp, wallet, rug. Shoes, golf bag, clean laundry, pillow, and more.\n\nMy laptop was so fucking soaked that I could barely see it(it was  open and running). The whole house smells awfully foul 6 hours later.", "summary": "my bag of 3 day old, curdled milk puke ripped and covered most of my bedroom."}
{"id": "t3_25ugim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my ex [28 M] together for 2yrs, broke up when we were about to move in together.", "post": "We loved each other immensely. We both talked about getting married in future (after school etc. was done) and planned to move in together at specified date. \n\nI think I want kids. At first he entertained idea of having kids, even had _yr timeline in mind. As time went on and his life got more stressful, his feelings became more obscure, more vague, more of a maybe, until they became an \"I don't know.\" We tried to figure it out, even went to counseling.\n\nShortly before move in date, during discussion about what we each want, he broke up with me. \"I might be making the biggest mistake of my life, but for now I think we should break up.\"\n\nHe has a number of huge stressors in his life, huge school debt, and doesn't want to disappoint me. I think that I freaked him out with the marriage, kids, and moving in questions during an already stressful time.\n\nI've been in enough relationships to know that ours is rare and amazing, and I don't want to lose it. What the fuck do I do?", "summary": "Think I freaked him out about marriage, kids, and moving in; what now?"}
{"id": "t3_1j37aq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[34M] with my Girlfriend [37F] 4 years, grown apart, have 3yo daughter.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now. We live together and have a wonderful 3 year old daughter. \n\nThings have been progressively getting worse and worse for a while now, we've just seemed to drift apart. Finally last night I confronted her about it. \n\nShe said basically she was miserable, she looked for any excuse not to come home (work late, see friends etc). \n\nI still love her, but I don't think she loves me anymore. \n\nI don't know what to do... I don't want to be separated from her or my daughter. But at the same time I don't want to make her miserable. \n\nI've suggested that we try and spend some time together alone. Go for dinner or just even a walk. She is willing to do that. But she also told me she thinks it's too late for us.", "summary": "GF is fed up with me and I think she wants out."}
{"id": "t3_1yo3ge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Preparing case to get my [17/f] friend to break up with her [20/m] boyfriend.", "post": "I'm going to be really concise about this because I could rant about it for three hours. \n\nShe's her own problem, and i'm the one she tells everything to. \nHe's a manwhore and refuses to grow the fuck up. \n\nHe loves to make her cry. Usually for no reason. Always claiming that she's conspiring to break up with him. Which she wont: her self esteem is too low to break up with someone. He's a gossip queen and loves to talk shit to all his friends about her. Really personal stuff that no one should know about. Especially since she has problems opening up to people. That was pretty much the norm before he moved.\n\nNow he's moved 40 miles away. No large feat for someone with a car that's in love. But for a senior that's still mommy's little girl; it's not that simple. So they are \"taking a break\" in his words, due to the distance. He has a car, doesn't go to school, and has a part time job. She's starting to see what's going on, but refuses to believe it. I've hear the words \"he's losing interest\" come out of her mouth. \n\nI am, of course, biased towards her. Why else would I be making this post? I do have feelings for her, but that's not (entirely) why I want them to break up. Im worried about her and want whats best for her. \n\nSo, I have a friend doing leg work for me. He's good friends with her boyfriend and agrees with every word that comes out of my mouth. If he gets substantial evidence that her \"Bf\" is dating banging other women; should I present my case to her?", "summary": "Bestfriend is in a weird relationship that she refuses to give up on. Bf is a dirtbag that makes no attempt to spend time with her, and lies to her about why. Should I end this relationship if I can. This is not an attempt to date her."}
{"id": "t3_26hygq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M], want to break up with my girlfriend [29 F] of 2 1/2 years. Is it bad to wait it out until after her college grad?", "post": "Alright, so I've been dating my girlfriend for the past 2.5 years, but I've decided that it just isn't working out. We both want to go in different directions, with her settling down and having children, but me still wanting to visit the world that I have been saving up for the past few years.\n\nThe only thing is, I've been thinking about for months, but I can never see a proper time to do it. Important events to her keep popping up, like Valentine's, her birthday, or in this case, her graduation (coming up on June 6th). The thing I'm wondering is, would it be better to wait it out until a \"restful\" time comes, or should I break it up as soon as I can?", "summary": "Been thinking about breaking up for months, but can never seem to think of the right time to do it, and could use some advice."}
{"id": "t3_3nq645", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] just broke up with my GF [21 F] of 3+ years and I feel like ive made a huge mistake.", "post": "Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. \n\nIts been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. \n\nPart of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish.", "summary": "Me and my gf of 3 years split. She always had an attitude. Maybe I made a mistake. I dont know what to do ."}
{"id": "t3_1fsu40", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Stranger danger! Help!", "post": "So we were walking down the street and a guy on his stoop said hey and then what I thought he said was\"can I pet your dog\" but in retrospect I think he said \"can I give this to your dog\" and I said sure. He gave him what looked like a slim Jim Before I could stop him and say oh no wait don't. I can't figure out if I'm just being paranoid. The guy was like a sort of old war vet kinda guy - as I write this I realize I do sound paranoid but is it terrible to try to induce vomiting just in case? Or should I just keep an eye on him and make sure he doesn't seem sick? I mean I don't know why I feel like I should assume he's trying to poison my dog it just felt like a sort of weird situation. Even if I get down voted to oblivion for being paranoid that would actually be helpful! Thanks for reading all this! Or...", "summary": "sort of weird guy fed my dog something and I'm paranoid."}
{"id": "t3_1yt2c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend[19F] of almost two years, not sure about how I feel right now", "post": "I've been dating X for almost two years now, but I'm undecided as to whether I want to continue the relationship or not. \n\nShe's perfect on paper, intelligent, pretty, gets along with my family etc, but I'm not sure if my heart is in it any more.\n\nShe seems fairly intent on marrying me, but I don't think I'm ready to even fathom the idea, I think it's way too early and I don't even know if she's the one. I like her and I know she's quite the catch, but I'm not sure I'm ready to stay in a relationship until marriage. She brings it up quite often and seems to be really forcing the idea. Am I just feeling smothered? How do I remedy this?\n\nI'm at a point in my life where my decisions mean a lot to the outcome of how the rest follows through. I'm deciding where I want to go to school, what I'll take, etc. I'm afraid that I'm not making enough of my own decisions and deciding what I want to be happy. \n\nRecently I've been in a bit of a funk and haven't really been as happy as I'm used to. There's nothing really devastatingly wrong in my life so far as I can tell. But I feel like something in this relationship isn't right and it's contributing to my depressed feelings.\n\nWe get along well, it's never been awkward, never felt forced until now.  I'm not really sure what started it but I don't think I'm in this relationship as much as she is and I'm questioning continuing it at all.\n\nIs there any way for me to get back into a relationship I seem to have fallen out of? If not, how do I go about breaking up with her? I'm really just looking for insight into the situation and maybe another point of view. If you need more information just ask, I wasn't really sure what to put in here.", "summary": "I don't know whether or not I should stay in this relationship. At a point in my life where I'm making a lot of life long decisions. Looking for some insight or a second point of view."}
{"id": "t3_2wdcud", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to drive a car with a manual transmission...", "post": "Yeah.... I'm not good at that. \nSo today, my dad told me to go get in the car, turn it around using the nearby church parking lot, come back to our parking lot, and park. Sounds simple, right? It's not... I got in the car, started it up, and thought to myself, \"This isn't so bad.\" I put it in gear. I then attempted to move it. After killing it a couple times, I got it rolling. I missed the turn for the church parking lot, so I decided to turn around in the street real quick. There were no cars coming. So I went to turn around, had to back up, and went to go forward again, but killed it. Right now, EVERY SINGLE CAR IN THE CITY decided to drive down this little street... So there I am, trying to get the car rolling again, shaking, blocking traffic... I finally got it moving again, got into my parking lot, got in a parking space, turned it off, and went and hid in my room... I'm still shaking from that... Still don't know why.", "summary": "Couldn't get my car rolling in the middle of traffic..."}
{"id": "t3_2pnocc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Thinking I Could Jump Off A Playground", "post": "Ok like many other stories this was set a long time ago when I was a kid.\n\nIt was like any other day at school, at recess I decided I wanted to eat more now and have less at lunch so I put my lunchbox on the playground jungle gym sort of thing, at lunchtime I realised I never bought it back to class so I asked my teacher and left with another kid we'll call him Brian to go collect my lunchbox. The playground was surrounded by a row of hire huts that our school was using since the music area was being renovated. So I climb up the ladder to the top of the playground (It's really not that high) and collect my lunchbox, now I'm a badass so I decide Ive jumped off this thing before why not do it in front of Brian? So I go \"watch this\" and jump, I immediately feel pain I landed balls first into one of the ladder sticks, \"What the?\" I mumble I start to walk a few steps in front of a bunch of kids who watched this unfold they're asking if I'm ok. For some reason I can't here them I then just fell straight onto the floor, Brian just runs to go notify staff or something but I don't see him again. The crying begins I've realised what just happened and the pain is incredible, I get walked to the nurse and since she's a girl I have to self-examine myself it BLEEDING! WTF? I tell her and my Mum picks me up the shame is awful I get rushed to a emergency appointment at my local GP and that day of every 365 frickin' days a year they have a uni nurse, my GPs a man and the nurse is a woman, ugh... So my Mum says it's fine if they both examine my nuts really? They really couldn't do anything and they didn't want me on painkillers so I just had to wait... Later that year I had testicle torsion. I haven't reproduced and am not sure if I can anymore :(", "summary": "Decided to be a badass and fell balls first into a ladder, balls bled and later on I suffered from testicular torsion."}
{"id": "t3_qdpnj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Help Dealing with Sprint Overcharging Me", "post": "This is my first month using Sprint and they've been busy at trying to charge me hidden fees. Firstly, they tried to charge me for activation fees even though I was promised they'd be waived.\n\nNow, they're charging me $350 per month. This is about two times the agreed-upon monthly payment.\n\nI don't know how they justified this charge. I'm reading the bill and apparently, they're charging me multiple times for each lines. It shows the same number, being charged multiple times on the same family plan.\n\nI've contacted Sprint about ten times already in the past. NONE of the representatives would dare give me anything confirming what they said - nothing in writing, not an e-mail. None of their representatives are even accountable for they lies they tell me. And it's hard just to reach them. You have to go through their bullshit robot, first.\n\nWhat am I supposed to do to deal with this? Is it that every time they \"mess up\" and overcharge me, I'm the one responsible to fix it?", "summary": "Sprint charged me 2x more than they were supposed to; charges lines on my family plan multiple times."}
{"id": "t3_2di9bo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23F) really worried about my sister's (19F) relationship with her boyfriend (20M)", "post": "Posting this on mobile so sorry for any formatting or spelling errors.\n\nMy youngest sister and I have always been extremely close. However, it's very hard to talk to her about certain subjects because she is hard headed.\n \n\nOne of the harder things to talk to her about is her boyfriend of a few years. Their relationship has always seemed a bit bizarre to me, but I have learnt to not comment on anything as she will defend him until she's blue in the face.\n\nI'm becoming increasingly worried about her well being in this on-again off-again relationship. The relationship is what I consider to be mutually verbally abusive (yelling/screaming and swearing at each other, putting one another down etc.). I'm not sure if they have been physically violent towards one another but I wouldn't doubt it. Amongst other things is extreme jealousy on both parts, where having friends of the opposite sex is pretty much forbidden. However, he has cheated on her , yet he still freaks if she talks to any of her guy friends. He has pretty much isolated her and she does not spend any time with friends anymore.\n\nThey talk about their finances as 'our money' and my sister pays for almost everything even though they both have jobs. Recently they have been looking to move out together. I'm so worried that my sister is going to be paying for this place almost all on her own and that it will mess up her finances/credit. \n\nI've talked to my mom about everything, and she is well aware of how unhealthy their relationship is. She thinks that if we try to talk to her about it or hold an intervention of sorts that it will only make my sister dig in her heels.\n\nI'm just not sure what to do at this point, or if I should do anything at all. I'm very worried that she is setting herself up for being taken advantage of by a person who doesn't respect her. I care for her deeply and truly do want what's best for her and I don't want to ruin our relationship.", "summary": "My (23F) sister (19F) is in an unhealthy relationship with a guy (20M) . I'm worried as the relationship is verbally abusive and she's setting herself up for financial disaster by letting herself being taken advantage of."}
{"id": "t3_2ah56p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a little girl with no arms, \"Where are your arms\"?", "post": "So I work at a trampoline park and we had a kids summer camp come in to jump for a few hours so we knew it was going to be packed, little did I know the dipshit in me was going to come out that day. \n\nFast forward an hour and the crowd of kids are jumping and everything's going fine so I walk around getting to know a few of the kids and joke around with them, so while I do that I see this little girl just jumping with what I thought were her arms in her shirt because her sleeves were empty and just flopping around so I walked up to her and asked her where her arms were. She just looked at me and I thought she didn't he me\n so my dumb ass says it ev louder this time. ***WHERE ARE YOUR ARMS?*** At this point I realized she didn't have arms, she didn't have anything past her elbow. Two seconds later her friends were taking her away and went to go jump somewhere else giving me looks of disgust.\n\nFucking hell GG putting my two weeks in now.", "summary": "Unintentionally teased a little girl with no arms by asking her where her arms were."}
{"id": "t3_2nfc07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22] with my girlfriend[19 M/F] or 7 months, just got into a huge fight/ argument about Ferguson.", "post": "Around when this started she got really upset because her dad is a cop. Her dad had to go out and prevent/ deal with riots in a separate city and fears for his well being. She hates people who promote the violence and riots or give reasons for the riots happening. She doesn't believe that the people who start these upheavals discriminate against cops and target them the same way that cops are accused of targeting people of color.\n\nI on the other hand think that cops do discriminate, that people of color are in poverty and targeted for the crimes they do commit, sometimes because they are black and sometimes not. I think that there is a long history of police violence and racial unrest. That combined with no action to improve the situation resulted in rioting, which isn't good for anyone.\n\nNone the less we had a long debate about it and we both tried to stay calm for a little while but eventually she wouldn't have any of what I had to say. She started accusing me of wanting her dad to be hurt and that the people doing it would be justified. \n\nI asked her to leave because at that point we weren't debating, she was just yelling at me how wrong I was and getting really upset. I told her that we needed space to calm down and come back to any other debate with a clearer and less upset head.\n\nAt that point she left angrily. I am bad at relationships, as this has been my longest one, and I don't know what I should do next. Should I apologize? Should I just wait a few hours then try and call/ text her?", "summary": "Got into a huge fight about Ferguson. What should I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_f21z6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you give me your opinion on a situation that happened to a friend of mine due to something he wrote in school?", "post": "A dear friend of mine is in a senior level creative writing class in our high school in Texas. The teacher said they could write about whatever they wanted and it did not need to be shared. He decided to write something different and creative for once, hence the name of the class. He decided to write a story about a guy and a girl having sex in a bathroom stall and the girl ends up being a guy. And the guy ends up being a porn star and a strong advocate for safe sex. It was all written tastefully too. I read it myself but we no longer have the copy of it. The creative writing teacher happen to read it and turned it into the assistant principal. He called down my friend and drilled him on how it was inappropriate and unacceptable in **any** society and especially our town. He said that he should have never wrote about what he did. My friend told him that he knew that it was unacceptable to most of our society but it was not written for anyone to read except for the people he let read it. They almost decided to suspend him for a couple of days, but after a conversation with his parents they gave him two Saturday school days to complete instead which still is not much of a trade off. Looking back he knows he should have thought twice about what he did, but it just hurts that we cannot be ourselves even when we are harming no one.\n\n**What do you think Reddit about what happen? Was it the schools place to punish him? Is it this way at all schools across the country? Was his story even that inappropriate to our society? Give me your opinions.", "summary": "Friend wrote erotic literature when told he could write about anything and kept private, school punishes him"}
{"id": "t3_1z2tdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does one flirt? Asked by a [M/20].", "post": "So, I have a decent number of female friends who I am fairly close with. Girls just seem to trust me with their life secrets and issues. They all know me as a nice guy who can listen and offer some great advice. Many of these girls open up to me by the first couple times we have a conversation. Many of them come to me with their own relationship issues. But I have issues of my own.\n\nThey all say that I have a very confident vibe and know that I am a \"good\" guy. I have no issues with meeting strangers and striking up conversations. I can hold a conversation that lasts for hours without much effort. Many describe me as putting others before myself and very caring. I guess I have this crippling insecurity that I am not a boyfriend material. One close friend told me that my issue is not anything above, but the fact that I don't flirt. The thing is that I don't know how to flirt. What constitutes flirting?", "summary": "How does one flirt? What constitutes \"boyfriend material\"?"}
{"id": "t3_3gx4zz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being environmentally responsible and dumpster diving", "post": "So this literally just happened and I'm upset about it so I apologize if it sounds \"ranty\"\n\nI have been working at this company as a temp for six months. They love me and they would have hired me if I wasn't moving to a different city for grad school on Saturday. Now ot is common knowledge that I have been prepping to move and I have been taking boxes out of this back dumpster for months. Yesterday I found someone had thrown away this beat up plastic roller mat for an office. I took it, thinking it would be good padding for the uhaul truck. I even saw the guy throw it out. \n\nTomorrow was supposed to be my last day. I got a call from the temp agency at 8:30 tonight telling me that someone saw me putting boxes and the mat in my car last night and instead of asking me about it, went to the HR liason who vets temps. Now this woman is crazy and no one likes her and she as spacy as fuck. Instead of just coming to me and asking what I was doing she talked to my BOSS and then told the temp agency I wasn't needed back tomorrow. I had to explain to a very apologetic girl from the temp agency that i was dumpster diving, not stealing, and that I wanted my boss made very clear of that fact. \n\nIts total bullshit. There was stuff I was in the middle of organizing. Someone was planning on getting me a cake. I just got fucked out of the overtime I desperately needed to earn this week. I didn't get to say goodbye to my friends. Fuck everything. I need to sleep and I didn't need to have an awkward conversation before a concert im attending with my parents. I just want to sleep and cry.", "summary": "Got fired for dumpster diving, had to explain that to my temp agency"}
{"id": "t3_37llk7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hiding in a closet naked", "post": "This actually happened this past weekend at my 30th birthday party.\n\nA little context, I don't like to interact with people when I'm supremely fucked up. In college after drinking too much I'd go for a walk by myself or go to bed and lock the door. Sometimes I'd outright leave a party without telling anybody and it always ended in a what was essentially a massive drunken game of hide and go seek. One time I passed out in my car in the winter, etc, etc.\n\nI also have this belligerent friend who doesn't stop drinking 'til he's blackout and is terrible with the peer pressure. My group of friends kinda treat him like a natural disaster.\n\nThis friend was at my 30th and this is the first time I've really binge drank in awhile. We started early, with a BBQ, so midnight rolls around and I'm 3 sheets to the wind. I decided it was time for bed, so I slipped upstairs without telling anybody and laid down in my bed, trying to keep my world from spinning. About 15 minutes later I hear a commotion downstairs, my belligerent friend's voice being most prominent. \"Where did that pussy go? He better not be in bed.\" Commence manhunt. I hear my door open while I'm still in bed. It's not natural disaster guy. I hear my door shut, footsteps running down the stairs and another voice say \"He's in his bed!\" (It's also important to note I sleep naked.) Knowing my time is limited I scramble for the only hiding spot in my bedroom, the closet, and plop my naked ass down in my dirty laundry hamper. I hear a parade of footsteps coming up the stairs and what seemingly was the entire party barged into my room to discover that I was not in fact in my bed. I assumed people would see me not there and continue their hunt elsewhere, but they were too clever for me. Natural disaster friend goes hunting and busts the closet door open and the entire party sees me sitting there in my birthday suit.", "summary": "Tried to go to bed drunk, was found in my closet naked."}
{"id": "t3_hbi6e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How have you \"stuck it to the man\"?", "post": "Yesterday a locally-owned independent ISP came and installed their wireless internet service in my apartment (MonkeyBrains in SF, for whomever cares); afterward, I called Comcast to cancel my account. The guy on the phone was very nice, and kept asking me if there were any problems with the service or if there was anything he could do to keep me as a customer. He was almost confused that I was simply getting rid of the internet and TV, but I kindly explained to him that I wished to no longer receive internet and TV services from them and that was that.\n\nIt was a small act of defiance, but it felt *great*.", "summary": "cancelled Comcast service, \"fuck the police\""}
{"id": "t3_kgjoj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HDMI cable quality", "post": "Redditors, could you please explain to me all of the details about HDMI cable quality? My \"supervisor\" (IT department manager or whatever, who is two provinces over and isn't even on site) is trying to sell a $90 cable to my workplace, while I'm trying to tell my bosses how much they're being ripped off. I work for a fairly small company, and unfortunately before me, all they had was this guy who was constantly overpricing everything they sold to him. He's trying to make me look uneducated (I have 2 college diplomas in networking/comp sci, he has... nothing, he dropped out.)\n\nSo I suppose what I'm trying to ask, is all of the details - Does gold plating make a difference vs silver, is 1080p really a huge factor, is Monster the be all end all of cables, why is there a price gouge! In my opinion, there's hardly a difference, it's not noticeable to an untrained eye, and everyone should know that. I just want the opinions of others as well.", "summary": "Supervisor trying to push $90 cable, what's the difference between that and a regular cable for 20 bucks?"}
{"id": "t3_3vuz22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27f] with my boyfriend [32m] of 6 months. Third time addressing issue of sexting random women online/texting. Should I give him yet another chance or just move on?", "post": "Everything seems to be going really great with my boyfriend. We've met each other's families, we're spending a lot of time together, we have sex regularly and things seem fine. I'm worried because this is the third time I've caught him sexting other women. \n\nHe reactivates POF and OKC accounts, gets phone #s from ladies on there, deactivates the accounts and then sexts them. Each time he insists it's just to masturbate, that he has no real intention of emotionally investing in any of these women or meeting in person. I guess that's better than if he were actually meeting up with them, but i feel so betrayed and disgusted. He swears he will permanently delete his online accounts and contact info for these women and \"just watch porn like everybody else\" (his words). \n\nAm I being foolish to give him another chance? Does anyone have an experience like this where the person actually does change their behavior?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 6 months habitually sexts other women. From what I can tell, there is no other emotional connection other than sexual. I just addressed this issue for the third time. Can he actually change?"}
{"id": "t3_3rnggp", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Family member no longer speaks to me due to a short-lived viral wall post on Facebook.", "post": "I was sitting on Facebook doing standard 15 year old shit when I get a notification that one of my friends posted on my wall. I get excited because I hadn't heard from him in a while but when I click the notification it reads \"Kill yourself faggot\". I was upset for an instant but then I immediately deleted it from my wall and proceeded to begin typing a lengthy response to my friend in a message. Then I got another notification. \"[Redacted] replied to your post on her wall.\" I was immediately confused because I hadn't ever posted on this person's wall. Before I clicked it, another one came. And another one. And another one. I clicked one and my initial gut feeling was correct, it had posted \"Kill yourself, faggot.\" to every single one of my 500 or so Facebook friends. Within the next minute or so the post disappeared from all of my friend's walls, like it never happened. This normally wouldn't be a problem because in 2008 most people didn't have Facebook linked up to their mobile phones, so they wouldn't check Facebook until the next time they got on a computer and they would never see it. Except for one of my friends did. That friend was my homosexual uncle, and my uncle's significant other of 15 years had killed himself less than a month before this. My uncle and I used to be really close but after this he has not so much had a conversation with me when I am in town and blocked me on Facebook. This isn't one of those \"Why don't you just talk to him about it?!!?!?\" sitcom kind of drama things, he actually believes that angsty teenage me posted that on his wall and I think it must anger or hurt him that I would try to lie about it. To make things worse Facebook never even acknowledged that this happened so I legitimately am no longer close with a family member because of a viral wall post hack on Facebook.", "summary": "When I deleted \"Kill yourself Faggot\" that someone had posted on my wall it got sent to all of my friends, including my gay uncle who recently lost his partner due to suicide and our relationship has never recovered."}
{"id": "t3_4h3i7q", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Overweight Cat", "post": "Hello everyone! One of my cats is about 10 years old now, she is pretty much strictly indoors save for some time she spends on our screened in porch each day. (She likes to watch the birds in the yard while she suns herself by the pool, quite the princess). Anyway, when she was younger she was very active and quite small, however with age she has put on a pretty hefty amount of weight. I feed her indoor cat food for weight control, I've switched brands a few times trying to find something that works, I've cut back on feeding her by a lot (she gets very angry and demanding when she wants food but I don't give in) however, nothing really seems to work. I've tried cat toys, and bought a harness thinking I could try to walk her but she just lays down and looks at me like I'm stupid. Basically I just want to know if you all have any suggestions for exercise or food. I care about her and don't want this to get any worse. I also have another cat that eats the same amount and type of food as her and is a completely normal weight and only a year younger, however he is a male, not sure if that makes a difference in predisposition for weight gain. They are also both fixed.", "summary": "my indoor female cat has put on an unhealthy amount of weight with age and my attempts at diet change and exercise don't seem to have any impact. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_2jqw0q", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Sister Issues", "post": "So I've posted here before venting about my sister... as she hasn't been the nicest about my wedding planning/engagement. For example: having massive meltdowns about how everyone else's life is great except hers, constantly encouraging us to have a longer engagement for all sorts of reasons (including financial, saying we're too young, waiting until we have stable jobs... etc.)\n\nMy sister got engaged last weekend, and I'm super excited for her, but still honestly a bit annoyed, partially due to some of the ill feelings from events prior. Nonetheless, when she announced her engagement, nobody in our family was excited. Literally nobody. I think there are a lot of things feeding into this, including: she has been such a monster towards me, saying that this was going to be happening any time for the last 2 years, our family was literally the last people to know, her FH didn't ask my dad, and when they originally announced their engagement, they were planning on getting married in March (our wedding is in June).\n\nAfter talking her today, for the first time after the engagement (like I said, bad feelings over other wedding stuff), she told me that our whole family was really shitty about it. My dad called her selfish, my mom freaked out because she was one of the last people to know, one of my grandma's basically yelled at her for being inconsiderate about my wedding. I have very mixed feelings about everything - I'm so excited for her, so I feel bad, because her engagement should be an extremely exciting time in her life. However, I look at it and see that to some extent she got what she deserved, even though I would not wish that upon her. So basically I'm having a lot of emotion about this and am really confused about how to feel.\n\nAbove all else, part of me wants to do something to help make her feel better about this all. Because I am excited for her, and want her to be able to be excited with me too. However, I really don't know what to do to help make this all better for her.", "summary": "crazy sister got engaged and family reacted poorly, so I want to do something that will make her excited and feel like our family is excited for her despite all of the crap that she has done to me."}
{"id": "t3_33yn37", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Two teens liking each other, but still nothing happens", "post": "Boy this is one hell of a roller coaster of shit...\nOn a new year's camp 2014-2015 I met a girl, who liked me (a lot), but I didn't quite like her back, I tried to get to know her since it's quite uncommon for girls to like me, the camp went on, we didn't quite click and I just acted like it was nothing special... But we got in contact immediately after the camp via WhatsApp (she lives over +50 km away or a 2,5-hour-trip via Public transport), and found out she likes me way, WAAAY more than I had thought, after a month of chatting and stuff I fell for her too. I met her twice after that, but I just didn't know what to do since she didn't show almost any signs of interest and/or I was too much of a pussy to do anything. I quickly after the second meetup just simply confessed to her, she still liked me according to her, but once I met her again nothing had changed, no signs of interest, no nothing (though this time her friend was with us). After which I was sick and tired of messing around and wanted to get things established and I simply asked if she would like to even be in a relationship, she said yes, after this and today when I saw her, still nothing has changed which has become quite frustrating for me, I just couldn't find the confidence to initiate anything, which is why I feel huuuuge regret of not doing anything. Should I even bother? I have no idea what I'm doing or what I'm supposed to do. She shows only little signs of interest. I can only see her a very limited time for very specific dates. I still feel strongly for her and I'm sure that she does for me too, but with both of us being so awkward and inexperienced, who can't just get the gears working, should I still pursue her? I don't need immediate or exact answers, in fact, only reason why I'm posting this is to get some more POVs about the subject.", "summary": "I like a girl who lives far away, she likes me, we are both fully aware of eachothers' feelings, been like this for two months, some establishment, no real progress"}
{"id": "t3_33eso7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [m24] stop thinking about her [20f]? It's been a week and I can only think of how much we loved each other", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nSup Reddit?\n\nI just got out of a 1.5 year relationship that started out as the best year of my life, followed by maybe the worst six months.\n\nWe started out perfect, we could never wait to see each other, we laughed every day, sex was amazing, we were perfect. Slowly, over time, we argued more and more. We changed in to something we both hated. We never saw eye to eye anymore.\n\nOne way or another we found a way to fight about everything, and it tore us apart. She left me a week ago.\n\nMy question is, how do I stop thinking about her as my girlfriend, the girl I loved so deeply for the first year? I can never seem to remember the bad times, but the good times are so fresh in my mind they might as well have happened yesterday.\n\nI've never felt this way about anyone, and I'm scared I never will again.", "summary": "I can't stop thinking about the positives and how much I loved this girl/the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2xyqws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] being falsely accused of cheating on my [19 F] girlfriend of 3 months, she seems to believe it and I don't know how to convey the fact it's completely incorrect", "post": "Been with my girlfriend for 3 months now, and we're having some problems. To start off, I'm a guy who pretty much exclusively only has female friends, and my girlfriend knows this, and previously seemed okay with it. \n\nRecently one of her friends saw me on a night out with a group of girls, and told my girlfriend that I 'was all over' one of them. This wasn't true, the girl who told her already dislikes me and constantly gives me dirty looks etc. The girls I was out with were my 3 best friends, and I have absolutely no romantic attraction to any of them, plus they're all in relationships and I've been friends with them for most of my life so you can see why this irritated me.\n\nImmediately my girlfriends attitude towards me seemed to change, she is already quite an insecure person so I immediately tried to reassure her, I told her I only wanted to be with her and noone else and after a few weeks everything seemed okay between us, and I thought I'd sorted it out.\n\nA few nights ago, however, she told me there's been more rumours of my infidelity. We had a long phone call argument where I essentially told her (or tried to) that I never cheated, never will and I wanted to stay with her. She asked me whether I wanted to end it and I obviously said no. Some further background is that my last two girlfriends have cheated on me, so you can see how annoying it is to me to feel like I'm in the wrong without doing anything.\n\nI just don't know how to get through to her that she needs to trust me and believe that I'm not a cheat, never have been and never will be. Any advice would be great.", "summary": "girlfriend thinks I've cheated on her due to rumours, I haven't and it's caused friction in our relationship that I don't know how to get past because I don't know how to tell her that it never happened"}
{"id": "t3_1870dk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where can a 17y.o drop out go to find work online?", "post": "Hey everyone. I know you're probably rolling your eyes just reading the title but I have a serious question. I dropped out of school when I was 16 and tanked my grades the year before because I just didn't give a crap. I'm going for GED courses in a couple months but I really want to start working now, even if it's something absolutely awful, so I can contribute to my family for putting up with me.\n\nI don't have a car or a license and I live in an extremely small town with like... no where to work. The only options that I have are too far to walk to and I have no one to take me, so I'm basically looking for something online.\n\nI've tried to get into the Sykes home call center thing, but the screening questions ruled me out when it came to the age thing. Is there anything like this that allows minors or is that the extent?\n\nCoding and such isn't my cup of tea (because I suck at it) but I can draw a little and I'd like to think I'm good with colors. I've checked out /r/forhire for stuff like this but no one has contacted me back.", "summary": "I suck. I'm a minor and I need a job online/at home. Where can I look?"}
{"id": "t3_51ai12", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/F] need help crafting a message ending a friendship with [22/M] because my fianc\u00e9 [20/M] isn't comfortable with it.", "post": "I have a very co-dependent relationship by nature with an old friend from high school. We never dated, but he was generally always in my life for about four years (15-19 years old). I would classify him as a best friend at that time, but it was volatile, and we ended up both getting hurt and cutting ties. \n   Two years later, we reconnect on Facebook, and my fianc\u00e9 expresses that he isn't comfortable with me talking to him because I'm in a very unstable place of my life, and he (the friend) has a tendency to be cruel and manipulative. \n   I agree with my fianc\u00e9, but after having talked to my friend for a few weeks now, we already have a daily banter established- and he does seem to have changed his ways since being in college.\n   I'm struggling crafting a message, and feel guilt for simply \"not replying\" for about three days now. I just don't know what to say without seeming... Invalidating, or offensive, or dismissive.", "summary": "What should I say to a reconnected friend explaining why I'm terminating our seemingly meaningful friendship over my fianc\u00e9's concerns about past issues that don't appear to be issues anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_16msyl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit history is still in infancy - How can I make my situation better for myself and actually start beefing up my credit score?", "post": "I'm a 22 year old guy living in the upper midwest, US.\n\nI have a credit card, but it is a \"student\" card with a very VERY low limit of $300. Part of the agreement with my father for him to pay for my education was that I wouldn't have credit cards. This was wise on his part since I didn't understand money management at 18. However, I graduated without a credit history (a better problem to have than bad credit, mind you).\n\nI'm trying to build my credit history as fast and as best as I can, but I guess will power and determination doesn't give you good, fast credit scores.\n\nPer advice of the FAQ, I got a soft report from credit.com. I'm coming up on a year of credit history (finally) and my score is about 100 points below average. My poor grades are for my debt usage (because I can't really put any money on my credit card without nearly maxing it out, average at 78% debt to limit) and my credit age (kind of stuck with that one). So, naturally, 2 of the 3 biggest factors in my score are awful.\n\nI've applied for the Chase Freedom card (once in May and once in November) but was turned down because of my crappy risk assessment.\n\nWhat can I do to improve my credit score beyond waiting? What kinds of cards should I try to get? Is there anything that I might be doing wrong or anything that I should avoid?", "summary": "Graduated college in May without a credit history. Have car loan, no student loans, and a \"student\" credit card with a $300 limit (average debt to limit ratio: 78%). Current situation is making it difficult to amass credit history and therefore difficult to access better ways of building credit (credit cards with reasonable limits). Need help navigating building my credit, but not for reasons of irresponsibility."}
{"id": "t3_jvs4s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The local Dr. office is sending us bills for services not rendered and will not recant. Advice?", "post": "My wife and I are patients at a local family physician office with a number of doctors in practice. We had so far had a pretty unpleasant experience with the office staff, but since we liked our doctor we stuck with them. My wife went in for an appointment the other day and they said that we owed an erroneous cancellation fee that was totally false. Furthermore, they refused to see her until the fee was paid. After some discussion with the office manager, they refused to make any changes, stating that the bill could not be excused because a doctor approved it, and there was nothing we could do.\n\nAs we were unable to pay the fee and copay, my wife was not seen. Then today we received a bill with a new cancellation fee added for the day they refused to see her. When we called to discuss, they were very nasty to my wife and refused to budge, again stating that once it has been billed it cannot be changed. While they keep claiming that the doctor approves the bills, they will not allow us to speak with the doctor without an appointment, which we cannot get without paying the fees. Furthermore, my wife has been excused as a patient.\n\nSo, this is a matter of $50, but the practices behind it have me really pissed. As I understand it, I can refuse to pay, but they can report to credit bureaus and the like. What can I do about this? There has to be some way that we can fight it, but I just don't know how.", "summary": "Doctor office billing for false cancellations and being seriously douche-tastic to my wife."}
{"id": "t3_3nsfsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] Just started my first serious relationship with my new GF [25F]. What kind of feelings should I be having?", "post": "Just got into my first serious relationship with my new girlfriend (I'm kind of shy). Been seeing her about once a week for roughly 5-6 weeks now and we've been messaging each other multiple times everyday since the first date and only recently started being exclusive. We can be ourselves around each other and can talk about anything. However I don't think I'm experiencing that rush of love, that head over heels feeling that some people seem to have. Is this normal? Do some people just don't go through this phase? Is it because we only see each other about once a week (she lives almost an hour away)?  We've been very intimate but haven't had sex yet.\n  \nAlthough we can be ourselves with each other and talk about anything, we don't have that much shared hobbies (as far as I know at least). However that shouldn't be that weird since some people have good relationships this way (including some of my friends). Could this be why? If so what are some ways to get around this?  \n  \nFinally, how do I keep her interested and the relationship fresh? Spontaneous dates? Just be myself?", "summary": "First serious relationship, but not feeling head over heels about girl. Is this normal? Moving forward, how do I keep her interested and the relationship interesting? Do I just be myself?"}
{"id": "t3_4axz39", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My girlfriend has flashbacks to her abusive relationship. People still think highly of him.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for three months. She went to a concert with our college concert band and her ex was at the concert.\n\nTheir relationship was really bad. She was depressed and he emotionally and sexually abused her. Just seeing him triggers memories of their relationship and it really effects her. The problem is that people don't know what he did to her so many people still think pretty highly of him. In fact, he had told everyone who he is friendly with that she was the emotionally abusive one. She is so angry that people still associate with him, that she doesn't even want to be in the same room as these people.\n\nThe concert band is taking a trip to New York City and she is now considering not going. I'm going to be supportive of whatever she decides. I don't want to cause an issue with him, but she wants revenge. I know it's going to take time for her to heal, but should I reveal to everyone what he did to her? She's in so much pain from just seeing him.", "summary": "Should I tell everyone that my SO's ex is a piece of shit?"}
{"id": "t3_3c416v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not making sure my rats couldn't escape.", "post": "A little background, I have 4 rats; 2 albino, 2 black and white ones. In the last week or so, one of the albino ones (mind you, they are practically blind) has been learning to jump from her cage, which is three feet up, and then explore our room. We've tried a bunch of solutions that didn't work, but yesterday we switched out the table and thought now she wouldn't be able to jump down, and she didn't for about three hours.\n\nThis morning we wake up to find the glass of water on my desk (which is about 15 feet away from her cage, and about 3 feet off the ground) is tipped over and the water spilled onto my gaming pc. We found her under the bed and put her back.\n\nNow, I open my PC and dry off the parts with a q-tip, the wires, everything is dry it seems. I turn it on, motherboard, GPU, CPU,", "summary": "Didn't do a good job of not letting rat escape, she spilled my glass of water and fried my gaming pc hard drive."}
{"id": "t3_3tcm5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Well I did it guys -- I [15M] asked my friend and longtime crush [15F] out. She said no, things are awkward between us, how do we get back to where we were?", "post": "If you remember me from 2 weeks ago...Well, hi I'm back, but I'll try to keep it short.\n\nCrush: Caroline\nMutual Friend: Amanda\n\nAs title, implies, I asked one of my really good friends -- Caroline -- out on a date yesterday. She said no. I then freaked out about how awkward everything is going to be the next day and called one of our mutual friends (Amanda) who basically told me to calm down and act normal...which I dramatically failed at. Multiple times today I pulled aside Amanda and she had to calm me down in the hallway/outside, which was obviously really exciting.\n\nMe and Caroline in each other's classes for the whole day and in mostly the same groups/tables, but we both basically avoided each other and said as little as possible. Most of this is my fault -- she honestly explained why she said no to me and everything and I don't know -- it's just really difficult to interact around/with her right now.\n\nMy friends are telling me we need time and to just talk it all out, but honestly, what is there to talk out? We both know exactly what happened, we both want the same thing (to be really good close friends again) but we both have no idea how to get to that (me more than her). HOW do I recover our relationship? Is it even possible? I just got through what has to be one of the worst days of school ever, and I have to go in tomorrow and do it all again. What makes it worse is that we have a project due soon as well that we were partners for, and I have no idea how we're going to get that done.\n\nThanks for any help guys -- I'm honestly at a loss for what to do and this is the only other place I'm comfortable turning to for help", "summary": "Rejected and looking to recover relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3nt8ch", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by", "post": "In traditional TIFU style I point out that this did not happen today, but instead a year or two ago. This should be a really short and not-so-sweet one. \n\nI'm on the local high school swim team, and our locker rooms are really small and basic. The lockers are all out of order and such, and the bathroom has two urinals and one stall. \n\nOne day, during a meet, I have to urge to use the bathroom. I walk into the locker room and over to the stall. I try to open it and its apparently locked. \n\nHere's where the real fuck-up starts. Normally I would knock and ask if anyone is in there. Today however, I just decided to look under the door and check for feet. I didn't see any feet whatsoever, so I figured that some jerk locked the stall and crawled out from under it.\n\nIn order to get into the stall then, I must crawl under the door. I begin to do so, but as I poke my head under, I look up and see the slightly frightened and very confused look of a little kid. I didn't see his feet because he was so short. I awkwardly apologized (don't remember what I said) and then quickly made my exit. I spent the next 20 minutes waiting for the cops to come and arrest me for being a pedo.", "summary": "Accidental pedo moment."}
{"id": "t3_2rjqxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20, M] have a crush on a coworker [22, F]", "post": "I've been working with this girl for about a year and a half. We rarely hang out outside of work, with the exception of a few parties, a movie I casted her in, and a trip to Disneyland yesterday with some other coworkers.\n\nShe's beautiful, smart, and funny. She's also aloof, kind of judgmental, and way more into illicit substances than I am.\n\nAlong with the whole coworker thing, she's verbally expressed a disinterest in dating guys below 21.\n\nShe's definitely looking for a relationship, as I've seen profiles of hers on OkCupid, Plenty Of Fish, and Tinder.\n\nI think that we would have an awesome relationship, as we're both incredibly creative and have super sarcastic senses of humor. I'm scared to breach the subject of going on a date, mostly because of our work situation and also because of her reluctance to date people under 21.\n\nWhat does reddit recommend I do? Should I go for it, or just let it go? If you need more information, please let me know. :(", "summary": "Crush on older coworker, should I go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_1obiy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom has a serious Road Rage problem and it is becoming a problem in my relationship with her.", "post": "I love my mom (55) with all my heart, she's a loving person with a lot of wonderful attributes, but when she's behind the wheel she becomes an asshole, pure and simple. It has started affecting our relationship because she endangers herself and other people by the way she drives and reacts to other drivers, pedestrians and cyclists. \n\nLately it has gotten to a point when I can't get to a car if she's driving and yesterday she almost hit a pedestrian and lashed out at me for pointing it out. So I exploded and got out of the car, screamed at her and walked away. It was my breaking point, and I know I shouldn't have done that, but I recognize that the way she deals with the ways she drives brings out the most out of me. I may need help to deal with that issue and I'm willing to work on it, but I'm possitively sure that my mom will just become defensive and deny she has a problem. I'm not the only one who aknowledges the problem, my whole family does. \n\nHas anyone here been through a similar situation? How did you deal with it? Is there any kind of help specialized in Road Rage (she's a fairly normal woman when she's not driving, maybe a little bit \"hot-headed\", but not even close as how she is behind the wheel)? Should I seek help too (28 M)?", "summary": "How to deal with mom's serious road rage problem?"}
{"id": "t3_41adsr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Any strategies for dealing with roommates who don't do their dishes? I'm 26F, they're 27M, 29F, and 23M", "post": "I live in a house with three other people, we're not students, we all have jobs, and are seemingly normal, functioning adults in society. But the dishes *never* get done. I've written notes, I've sat down and talked to people, I've tried taking away my own dishes... it just is so discouraging. I love cooking, and I love how big and bright and beautiful my kitchen is, but it's always so gross, and the sink is always filled with dirty dishes for days on end, and there's food caked on the stove, and it's like the people I live with are completely incapable of cleaning up after themselves. It's to the point where some of my pots and pans are scratched and damaged for sitting with food caked in them for days, and my baking pans are damaged beyond repair because of my lazy roommates. I don't want to move - I really like the space I'm living in, I've moved a lot in the past three years and dishing out first and last month's rent takes a huge toll on my meager savings. I just want to know if anyone out there has lived with roommates who don't seem to know how to do their dishes, and how they handled that, and if there were any successful strategies. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope.", "summary": "Roommates don't do dishes. I'm looking for strategies because talking to them, leaving notes, and taking away my own dishes doesn't seem to be working."}
{"id": "t3_3j9k5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] have a crush on a girl [16 F] since a couple days, and I'll probably call her on a date. What are the dos and don'ts? Update", "post": "Original post: \n\nSince that post I've called her on a date, but she could not go because of her parents (I don't really know the details). \n\nBut since then school just started. So I thought why not meet with her? She gave me her phone number. After the first day of school I waited for her for an hour (I wasn't really happy because of that, but I really wanted to meet with her). \n\nThen finally I've met with her and had a good talk. There were a couple awkward moments, but nothing serious (I think so :D). \n\nHer school and my school is really close to each other so meeting with her almost everyday (if not everyday) is more than possible. But I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I've read on the internet that after a date I should wait, but in this case I really don't know what should I do. \n\nAlso since it's really easy for us to meet with each other, what would be the ideal place to go with her? I feel like if I will only walk with her then it's not enough effort from me. \n\n(sorry if my English is bad :))", "summary": "I've met with her, and it's not a problem to meet with her almost everyday, but I'm not sure if I should do so. Also I don't know where should I go with her, because walking with her everyday doesn't seem like enough effort on my side."}
{"id": "t3_1irw4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) am looking for advice on how to broadcast to the world that I'm ready for love! Also, kissing advice?", "post": "I was in a relationship that felt very intense and deeply-charged when I was 13, and after that I went to an all-girls' high school and from there, I don't know what happened but through high school and all through college I never dated, flirted, nothing. I gained a lot of weight between age 13 and now. I started high school at 140 pounds and ballooned to 235 pounds by the time I graduated from college. I'm on the path to weight loss - slow, but steady - and I've started going to Singles events like speed-dating nad have created a profile on some dating sites. \n\nI'm so insecure about myself that when I went on a date with a guy recently (from an online dating site) and I wasn't feeling attracted to him at all, but that wasn't the problem. When he tried to kiss me I felt so insecure about my kissing abilities that I was focused on how to do it. And I must have been doing it VERY wrong because it was horrible and gross. I was freaked out about it and it just felt gross and spit-y and disgusting. Just thinking about it now is making me cringe.\n\nI know this is all over the place and not necessarily a question appropriate for this thread but I don't know where to ask it. I suppose my question is: help! how do I get back in the game/find love? and serious tips about how to kiss would be very appreciated!", "summary": "after a relationship that felt very intense when I was 13, i went to an all-girls school and ballooned from 140 to 235 pounds and haven't been in a relationship in the ten years that have passed since that relationship. i feel like it would be impossible for me to be in a relationship, and i'm terrified about kissing (and very bad at it!) and just want advice. "}
{"id": "t3_1who52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] broke up with me [23M] 3 weeks ago and I'm still madly in love with her and want her back.", "post": "Ok, I may ramble so I apologize in advance. Ok, About a year ago I just got a new job and really kept to myself, that's just who I am. One day this beautiful woman comes up to me and asks me about myself, so I tell her and we clicked super quick. About a week or so later we hung out, we had a blast and talked for hours. During this outing I revealed I was Bi. I knew the first time I hung out with her, I wanted to be with her. \n\nAnyway fast forward a few months I finally kiss her because the moment was there and we starting dating and was happy. After a few months I asked her to move in with me and she said yes. We were the happiest people in the world, however, sometimes I would get down and beat myself up because I would start missing being with men, but absolutely never acted on anything to get that feeling back. This bothered her because I felt so bad that I didn't feel she deserved my time, because I had this less than monogamist thoughts. This was really hard on her and towards the end I always told her what was going on. \n\n3 weeks ago we wake up laying next to each other, I woke up first and I just laid there watching her sleep, she was so beautiful and I just wanted to kiss her and make love to her and tell her I love her. She then wakes up and wouldn't look at me, so I asked what was wrong and she told me she didn't think this relationship was fair. She feels she is keeping me from what I want, which she thinks is sleeping around with other men. I told her countless times I don't want that. I just want her. Then we kept talking and she brings up that I'm not exactly the most chivalrous man around. I know she had said something before, but didn't' tell me the how much it bothered her. I told her I can get better, but she doesn't believe me and says she doesn't want to change me, but if that is what she wants, I want to change. What can I do? I still want her, I really thought she was the one.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me because she thinks she is keeping me from a life I don't want and I'm not chivalrous enough for her and won't let me prove to her I can be that guy. What should I do? I want to be with her forever."}
{"id": "t3_1ymqcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17F] boyfriend [16M] and I are having trouble communicating", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for year and a month now, with 7 months of it being long distance because I moved to another country last year. I've known him for 3 years and we've been friends for as long as we know each other. The last time I've seen him was during Christmas for two weeks.\n\nLately it's been hard for us to talk outside of Skype, and when I try to keep the conversation going it's usually very hard to get him to respond with more than 1 sentence, so I end up not talking as much to him because I feel like he might be busy and I figure, if he has time he'll message me. \n\nBut then he doesn't. \n\nIt seems like I put in a lot of effort to talk to him but he only occasionally starts the conversation, and while I don't expect him to be able to chat 24/7, and I don't ask this from him, I would just really like it when he asks me how my day was, if I'm okay etc.\nI've tried talking to him about it, because it really bothered me, but his responses were that he either was too busy, or he said 'we're talking now right?'. We don't have heart to heart conversations anymore and when I try to talk about my feelings or what's going on with my life he doesn't seem interested or engaged in the conversation. I always feel like I'm bothering him or something, so I'm a bit reluctant to talk to him about it face to face, as he gets really defensive when I try to point out what's bothering me.\nI know communication is very important, especially in a LDR, but I don't really know how I should communicate this with him if he refuses to communicate about this certain issue in the first place.\n\nI just wondered how I should deal with this and how I should talk to him about it?", "summary": "Me and my boyfriend (LDR) don't talk much outside of Skype and when addressing this issue to him, he shows little interest, and responds by being defensive about it, while I just try to resolve the issue. I don't know how to communicate this to him without him getting very defensive"}
{"id": "t3_29v8hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my now Ex girlfriend [18F] left me for another guy again after 2 years. Need help with recovering.", "post": "On mobile and in a rush please forgive me\n\nI need help. After a relationship of 2 years with a girl who I thought was honestly the one for me I get dumped for another guy for a second time. I know that if I take her back again it'll be another mistakes, I don't plan to either.\n\nI feel worthless. Even after everything we did. All the time we spent together, she didn't find me good wnough. I tried so hard to make her happy. I did everything possible to make her feel like a queen. This is a fact, everyone I've talked to about this has said that I didn't do anything wrong and that it wasn't my fault. Even though I know that this is true My self esteem is destroyed. I'm usually a very chipper and funny person to be around according to my friends and right know I feel like they don't want me around because I can't be happy now. I want to know how to cheer myself up.\n\n I've tried distracting myself with almost everything I can but for some reasoning keep thinking about her and her new guy fucking. It's a guy wrenching feeling and for some reason my thoughts keep going back to that. He is more attractive.That he will make her happier. That he will please her better. That I am inferior in every way possible.  How can I stop thinking and picturing anything to do with her?\n\nAnother problem I'm having is that after being with her for so long and being in such a small town I feel like no one will take me. It is known that her and I we're together by everyone and I feel that I am now undesirable. That on top of the fact that I never really learned how to e single. Is there anywhere I can learn how to flirt. Learn how to at least not be completely inept with the opposite sex? Like an r4r but not physical. I know it's an odd question but it's something that I just thought", "summary": "Got dumped by someone I cared about for another guy and not I feel worthless and am worried about just being single in general. All help is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_rgcqp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the funniest, or worst, prejudgment you or someone you know has made?", "post": "My story isn't that spectacular which is why i look forward to Reddit's stories. \n\nAnyways, I was walking my dog once in the winter and I hadn't brought a bag to clean my dog's crap since he had just crapped recently on a prior walk. Sure enough my dog decides the most opportune place to take care of his business is on the lawn of a lady who was sitting in her car a solid 5 feet away from him. I panicked for a little trying to decide what to do. I walked up to my dog's special surprise and looked at her nervously. Apparently she hadn't seen my dog release his bowels so she said in an annoyed tone, \"Look i understand you walking your dog on the sidewalk but you have no reason to be on my lawn.\" I calmly said, \"Oh sorry, enjoy cleaning my dog's shit off your lawn.\" Then i just left, the look on her face was priceless.", "summary": "Was walking dog when he crapped on ladies' lawn, she got annoyed i was on her lawn because she didn't see him crap and told me to piss off. I told her to have fun cleaning my dog's shit off of her lawn."}
{"id": "t3_34s8a2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing my hands after hot wings.", "post": "TIFU because my mom thought it was a great idea to try the new Atomic Hot Wings from a pizza place around here. Apparently the Hot Wings are so hot that you are required to sign a waiver before purchasing them. Knowing me, the hot sauce fiend - no problem! \n\nWhen she got home I immediately scarfed 3. They were EXTREMELY HOT WITH LITTLE TO NO TASTE, TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT AT ALL. Either way, I felt manly as heck. I had hair on my chest and everything. \n\nLater, I lied down in my bed and I started feeling myself up for no reason (you know you do it!). All of a sudden I start feeling this wicked burning sensation which at first felt kind good...not so soon after. All of a sudden there is a massive burning which I can only explain to you as a volcano erupting from my urethra. I rush to the sink and I start pouring cold water on it to no avail, my lil guy was literally burning it down. \n\nAfter an hour or so it went away after much sitting in the shower and weeping for my sin - when I came out everyone knew what was going on. My sister thought it was a good idea to tell everybody in the house, and they're all calling me Volcano Dick now.", "summary": "Ate waiver-worthy hot wings and touched my dick after, erupting it into flames, got a new nick name from it."}
{"id": "t3_ns3e7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Help a girl out! I want a pink beach cruiser...", "post": "I hope this is the right place for this, if not please be so kind and direct me elsewhere. Thank you!  \n  \nI really would like to get a bike, I need the exercise and living in California without a bike is a shame. I've always wanted a beach cruiser, in *hot pink* of course. Not that pepto bismal pink, either. I don't want it in another color, I'm stubborn.   \nMy budget is limited, under 200$, preferably... Absolutely nothing over 300$. I'm a college student okay and buying this myself, okay?  I can't seem to find a pink bike that isn't for kids.   \nI also have a few questions:\nI'm 5'5''... 26'' wheel size is a good fit right?  \nAre there any brands of bike I should avoid at all costs?", "summary": "under 300$ [Bike like this]("}
{"id": "t3_17bs0y", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I want to take my parents on a trip as a \"thank you\" gift. Where should I take them?", "post": "A few years ago I quit my job to go back to graduate school. I knew going back to school would allow me to further my career but I also knew that during my time as a student I would have to live on a significantly lower income. There were some months where I just couldn't make rent, the car needed repairs, etc. My parents came to my rescue each time even though I knew they didn't have much money themselves (my mother is a nurse and my father is a civil servant). I am extremely thankful for them and I want to return the favor.\n\nNow that I have finished school and gotten a great job in my chosen career I want to take them on well deserved vacation. Here are the rules:\n\n1. They have never left the east coast United States so I would like to take them on a trip abroad. Domestic travel is ok too so I wouldn't mind hearing some suggestions.\n\n2. My parents are still young and in good health so suggestions on physical/adventurous activities are greatly appreciated. However, I don't think they would like camping trips or roughing it in the wilderness for an extended period of time.\n\n3. I want this to be a \"trip of a lifetime\" so I certainly don't mind spending money as long as they have a great time. We're not a very wealthy family though so let's keep the suggestions reasonable. \n\n4. Mostly I want a destination with a lot of culture, relaxation, interesting cuisine, and picture taking opportunities but I know that goes without saying.\n\nAnyway, I hope you guys can help!", "summary": "My parents have gotten me out of many financial jams in the past. Now, I want to return the favor by taking them on a kick ass vacation."}
{"id": "t3_2pp6em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] and my wife [28 F] of 7 years are dangerously close to calling it quits. What I really want to know is, how many of you have turned around relationships then went bad.", "post": "I wont go into much detail here except that my wife and I just dont have the spark anymore. I have changed a lot but she hasnt. What i really want to hear is positive stories and people making it work. I read too much about relationships fading or getting blown up in a blaze of adulterous glory. Can anyone here tell me that they reached a turning point in their serious relationship and made it better? I really need to hear that its possible and how its done.", "summary": "How many people here have reached serious relationship issues and actually worked it out together."}
{"id": "t3_3ahc54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [31M] 7 months together, been thinking I need to leave the relationship.", "post": "I want to start by saying my boyfriend is wonderful in most ways. I'm just starting to feel like I'm not a priority to him and at this point in our relationship, I think I should be.\n\nFor the first 3 months of our relationship we didn't go two days without seeing each other. Now we see each other about once a week. This isn't okay with me. I've made my concerns known for the past two months. His typical response is \"Really, lizabethbathory? This again?\" But nothing changes. I bring it up a lot because if I don't see resolution, it's still clearly a problem. I've explained to him that I feel like we should be spending more time together, and getting closer at this point in the relationship. His excuses are he works a lot (this is true), and he has sports, and also needs to see friends. I've met his friends, he's never met mine. We haven't met each others families. I've also expressed concern about this, as family is very important to me.\n\nI've definitely fallen in love with him but I don't want to continue in this relationship when he's not ready to commit his time to me. The thought of life without him is terrifying to me. When we are together, I feel amazing. My soul feels happy. But we're apart more often than not, and that hurts my feelings pretty badly. I'm having a hard time leaving because I'm scared of my future without him in it.", "summary": "Brought up two months ago that we need to see each other more, still only seeing each other once a week. Not making me and our relationship a priority."}
{"id": "t3_10bpqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [24f] has low self esteem/worth. What can I or we do to help improve this?", "post": "I [23m] has been with my gf [24f] for nearly 3 years. She's an amazing person in my eyes, she's smart, funny, geeky and beautiful and I pretty much fell for her in a matter of months. \n\nShe has had a horrible relationship with her family and there is zero support. She was emotionally abused, insulted and had more shit happen to her that would crush anyone's will (I've met them, they're toxic, cold, judgmental and distant people). \n\nThis has had a big affect on her self worth/esteem etc. She feels worthless someways and that her childhood and dreams were taken away from her. I try my best to be the supportive and loving bf that I can be, but there's only so much I can do. These episodes can last  a few days to a week.\n\nI'm feeling the strain on our relationship as I'm trying to be a positive role in her life when there's pretty much none. I want to give her the world when everyone else has ripped the rig from underneath her feet.\n\nSo aside from therapy, what other ways or means are there that can help us/her improve? Thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend has self esteem/emotional issues. Ideas to help cope/improve on this?"}
{"id": "t3_2h9nzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19 F] broke up with me [20 M] it's been a year and we've tried to be friends.", "post": "I dated my gf for a year and a half before we broke up due to my unconfirmed mental disorder. hell broke loose fights and tears were shed as we both realised it was the best/worse thing to do.\n \nGot diagnosed. I have MPD with high traits of narcissism. She believes the whole year and half was a lie and that I never loved her. que more fights and tears back and forth. \n\nOver the year we've been apart we've tried to be friends as we both have a lot of laughs and things in common, but for that year she wanted me back and I knew in my head that it's safer for her to find someone new, even though I did want her back.\n\nNow to today, she's found someone new but the connection we felt together has gone like the light has finally gone out. It's painful because she's now someone completely different and I don't know what to do or feel.\n\nDo I stay friends, break everything off or something else?", "summary": "GF broke up with me, been a year trying to be friends, she finally moved on, connection gone, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3l5qxx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not having any balls", "post": "This is the harrowing tale of me and how I proved to myself that I don't have any balls.\n\nSo earlier on today I was at university. In one of my classes is a girl I like, but unfortunately due to the class, there is very little chance to talk to her. \nSo the class in question is philosophy, which is very boring to sit through. At the end of the class the tutor says that he would like some of us to volunteer to present the next classes info to make it more interesting for us. \nI think to myself 'great this will be a good opportunity to show this girl how brave and confident I am' (ha). As I'm about to say that I'll do it, she jumps in and says she will do it!! \nNow, I know what you're thinking (because I was thinking it too) 'awesome, if I volunteer too then I will get the chance to work with her and get to know her a bit'. Well as the seconds tick by after her volunteering my brain shuts down. Literally I couldn't move or say anything. I tried, and failed, to volunteer myself up as tribute but didn't have the balls to say in front of everyone that I wanted to work with her. \n\nEnded up spending the rest of the day hiding in my car beating myself up for not having the balls to volunteer.", "summary": "had the opportunity to partner up with a girl I like in class but freaked the fuck out and sat there like an idiot. Cried myself to sleep in the car after class."}
{"id": "t3_2cu7o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my really good friend [19/F]", "post": "I've been really good friends with this girl for over 5 years, and we slept together about a year ago and left it as that since we're at different universities, I had a girlfriend when I slept with her and now I don't have a girlfriend but she has a boyfriend who it seems she is not that bothered about, but I do really want to go out with her, but the different universities is holding me back and I don't know what to do. I have a year at university left and she had two, what should I do?!", "summary": "I don't know what to do with my childhood sweetheart who I really like, please tell me what you think I should do!"}
{"id": "t3_3re0uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] am uncomfortable showing my boyfriend [22 M] any affection for some reason....", "post": "I recently got into a relationship with an old friend of mine. We have 95% of things in common and always seem to be on the same wavelength. He's awesome; the epitome of a perfect boyfriend. \n\nHowever, he and I differ on how affectionate we like to be. He loves to cuddle, hold hands, kiss, have sex... All the normal things a relationship should have. I do not... Like, at all. \n\nIn previous relationships I was very cuddly and loved to be close to my partners in every way. I used to have a lot of sex but could never orgasm... And i still never have. After a while of trying I guess I just got disappointed that I couldn't get off and stopped enjoying sex. \n\nI also just had a baby (current boyfriend is not the father - real father is not involved whatsoever). My boyfriend is really supportive and helps me take care of my son (without me asking). I show my newborn baby so much love and affection. I feel as though all of my love is going straight toward my son and that I have none left over for my boyfriend... It sounds silly but that's what it seems like.\n\nI can't really otherwise explain why I don't like to show my boyfriend any sort of affection.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice or have you gone through something similar? I feel like a terrible girlfriend...", "summary": "I don't show my boyfriend any affection, yet I do for my newborn baby."}
{"id": "t3_wevus", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any stories about people trying to one-up each other?", "post": "I'm sitting on the porch for a wealthy, aging, artist friend I'm helping out with stuff she can't do around the house because of some post-surgery pain and the woman that cleans the house comes over to do her job. Some how the old joke that my family throws around about them finding me up in the mountains on a rock comes up and the cleaning lady goes.\n\n\"Haha, this one time this foreign exchange student fell out of a tree on top of me, didn't speak a lick of english-\" \n\nArtist friend cuts her off before she finishes \"Yep, my uncle was adopted when they found him on the street, acutally, no joke!\" \n\n\"Well, my grandma, really olden times she was born, was found in the back of a barn by my great grandparents. Harder to forge documents like that now, hahah!\" \n\n\"Well one time I found a box of abandoned kittens behind my house.\" \u0ca0\\_\u0ca0", "summary": "someone brought a cat to a gun fight."}
{"id": "t3_3vid33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I too much of a pushover?", "post": "So, I've had a shitty week/month/year regarding women and I'm starting to think it's just me...\nso, I'm 25 year old male and I've had this ex who had strung me along for over a year. She dumped me because she didn't love me anymore then dated someone else and came back to me for a year before I put a stop to it. I didn't talk to her for over 8 months and during that time I went on several dates, all ended with the first date and no second one. Then, I meet this girl, she goes on several dates with me and just cuts off contact and never responded to my text (no, I didn't blow up her phone, I just stopped texting her after she never responded.)\nAfter not hearing from her for a month or so she text me out of the blue on wednesday, asking if I want to see a movie. I said yes and today, when we were going to see it, she told me \"I'm so bad, I saw it with my brother, I'm sorry\" I said no problem, we can do something else. Its turned into nothing but excuses so I just said fuck it, not going to push for it.\nNow, today, my ex hit me up to hang out and talk. I said ok, we talk, go out to lunch and she said \"you promise you won't get mad?\" I told her to just say it. She said \"I'm dating another guy, but if it doesn't work out do you want to get back together?\" I just walked out without saying a word.\nI have aspergers, but I'm very high functioning, just bad social skills. I feel like once the initial physical attraction wears off, I'm bland and boring. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or if it's not me. Are girls normally like this or have I just been unlucky?!?!\nI'm \"very good looking\" from what I'm told so I think that's what scores me the dates, but my personality is shit. and yes, they know I have aspergers before I go on dates with them.", "summary": "I don't understand if it's me or if I'm just unlucky with women. I'm constantly told I'm super awkward. "}
{"id": "t3_1gddgd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20f] with an ex [19m] issue...", "post": "So in high school I dated a guy for a year or so. We never did anything except for heavy petting and him going down on me. We eventually broke up because he wanted to move on and explore a bit with other girls. I didn't exactly take the break up very well and ended up totally ignoring him until now. \n\nI've been with a few guys after him and had a couple relationships as well. He has gone out and done his own thing and kind of become sort of a ladies man(as in sleeping around with a bunch of different girls). Now when I think of him, I kind of hate his personality, but I am still physically attracted to him. Lately I have been contemplating hooking up with him. I haven't yet because 1) I'm not sure if it's a good idea 2) I'm not sure if he even likes me and 3) I haven't talked to him in almost  4 years. I've always wondered if he is good in bed and wanted to be with him intimately (not to be brash). It would be just a physical relationship between us. Definitely nothing else. \n\nSo my question is should I hook up with him? And if so, how do I go about it if I haven't talked to him in so long? Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Wanna hook up with an old ex just out of curiosity."}
{"id": "t3_qjb8t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Next-door neighbor making unsubstantiated complaints against my wife and I. Need advice.", "post": "In January my wife and I moved into a town home so we could be closer to school/work.  Since we have moved in we have received three \"friendly\" reminders from the leasing office regarding: number of parking spaces used, our animal not being on a leash, and a noise complaint.  \n\nWe are alloted two spaces for our vehicles plus one for a guest.  Since we have moved in we have only had guests twice and both times they all came in the same vehicle. Add that to the fact that my wife and I work completely different shifts and the only time both our cars occupy our spots are from around 11pm-7am, otherwise one car is there at a time.  \n\nSecond, we received another reminder stating our dog was spotted off the leash and had defecated on another tenants patio.  This never happened.  Our dog uses training pads and the only time she is outside is on our closed in patio with us watching her.  \n\nThe noise complaint we got was on Super Bowl Sunday when we were out of town.  \n\nI have had one interaction with our next door neighbor since we moved in and it was just a hello and goodbye.  I have no idea why she would want to do this. When we see her we always wave.  I've talked to the leasing office twice about it but they don't seem to believe me.  I don't know what talking to her would accomplish or if it would just make things worse. What I do know about her is that she never leaves her home and never turns any lights on. She also makes a habit of looking out her front or patio door every time I enter or leave my home.", "summary": "My next door neighbor is filing complaints against my wife and I that have no truth to them and we do not know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3bu3aw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [36 M] want to know why it's worth it.", "post": "I am 36 years old. My longest relationship was in HS, lasted a little over a year. I have been through the death of both my parents and helped someone raise a child for a year before finding out it wasn't mine. I have done this with no one \"by my side.\" I've grown, I've improved my life, I've found happiness and joy, strength in adversity, hope, etc... I didn't need someone to \"never abandon me\" or \"to stick with me\" while I did this. For the past year I have actively avoided dating with nothing but good results. My life is bigger, I've accomplished the majority of my goals, I've become a better man. \n\nMy life seems to fall apart, however, when I try to date or romantically connect with someone.  Some people feel this makes me pathetically dysfunctional. Maybe they're right.\n\nLast week the internet exploded with \"LoveWins\" and all I can think is \"Wins what? Every married person I know is miserable.\" They've been cheated on, lied to, died on and disappointed. I hear constant complaints that they want out, they're only there for the kids, their SO has held them back, they wish they'd chosen differently. They can't agree on friends, activities, living arrangements, or sexual patterns. There is a constant stream of lamentation about how inconvenient and difficult relationships are.\n\nI never hear people talk about what makes relationships worthwhile.\n\nIf getting into and suriving a relationship is such a humiliating, terrifying, frustrating, and heartbreaking ordeal, what's the payoff?\n\nIf you are in a relationship, or know that you want one, could you share with me why? What appeals to you about them? What have you gained from them? What makes you stay/keep looking?", "summary": "I've given up on the idea that relationships are worthwhile. Help me see what I'm missing. What makes your relationship worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_2bkj1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20 M] have been dating for 2 months with a girl [22 F] and i think she wants to say that she loves me, how to make it easy for her?", "post": "I have been dating a girl for 2 months, and i am pretty sure she is in love with me, and that she wants to say it to me, but she hasn't yet, and i want to make her say it without saying it myself.\n\nWhy i think she wants to say it:\n\nShe calls me every day.\n\nOne day we were with our friends and she said that she wanted to talk to me (in private) so we walked away from them, i asked what she wanted to say and then she just stared and me for five seconds and said:\n\nNothing... I just like talking to you.... I like you.\n\nIn another occasion she called me saying that she wanted to say something to me, we talked a little bit and then she said:\n\n\"Now the cute part of the conversation\"\n\nWhen i said  \"What is it?\"\n\nShe just replied \"It was nothing\"\n\nOne more time when we were cuddling she asked why when she told me that she liked me i didn't say \"i like you too\" ( I did but she didn't hear) and then i said that i did.\n\nSo i want to show her that she can say it to me, because i am not sure she will say it if i don't do anything.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_49k885", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Passport \"undeliverable\"", "post": "Hello Reddit!  \nI need some advice/support/encouragement regarding my girlfriends passport situation. She submitted a renewal application a couple months ago leading up to our trip in April, she got her old passport back and the enclosed documentation said she should receive the new one shortly. We kind of forgot about it and just checked last Friday (3/4) on the status, and USPS has the package marked as \"**undeliverable as addressed**\" on 2/23. There was no further tracking after that, so the USPS has no idea where it is and assume it was sent back to sender.  \nWe called the passport office and have been told a few things:  \n  \n1) Report the passport lost/stolen and request a new one  \n2) Report the passport as undelivered and let the USPS and passport agency attempt to track it down.  \n  \nI have also heard of success in going to a local passport agency and getting an expedited one, but you cannot get an appointment until 2 weeks out of traveling abroad. We still have like 4 weeks until we travel, so i don't know if the agency will see us, and i don't want to wait until the last minute.  As of today (3/8) we have sent in a form to declare the passport undelivered, and they are supposed to be looking into it, but not sure what the outcome will be.", "summary": "Girlfriends passport wasn't delievered by USPS due to wrong address, traveling in 23 business days, how can we get her a passport in time?"}
{"id": "t3_m0g5a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Father has Stage 4 Lung Cancer and undergoing chemo -- what are some activities I can do with him that won't require a lot of movement or energy, considering he barely has either?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I (F/22) am fairly new to posting on here and I have noticed that a lot of people give really good advice, so I thought I would bring my own questions to you for some help.\n\nMy dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in August and has been doing chemotherapy for the past few months in hopes to buy some more time with his family. He is a trooper through and through, but this disease is really getting to him. He is in so much pain all of the time, and is either tired or weak or doesn't want to move, which is not like my Dad at all, and I can tell just the fact that he doesn't feel as autonomous as he used to is really affecting him emotionally/mentally. The doctors ask him to not go outside because the sun can damage his skin and also the chemo is destroying his immune system, so he's much more susceptible to getting sick, which is something we CANNOT afford.\nI have been trying to think of some activities to do with him, just so that he doesn't feel so alone in going through this and also for some entertainment. When he first started the therapy, my boyfriend and I picked up a game of UNO to play with him, but he got very tired easily, and he didn't seem to be too interested. Now he basically sits around the house and is completely bored, you can just tell he wants to be doing something but he can't really since he feels like utter shit.", "summary": "Basically, my dad feels bedridden and bored, I don't want to watch him suffer AND let him feel helpless or like he can't do anything on his own, and I want to give him something other to do than watch T.V or play with an iPad. Has anyone gone through this with a family member? Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do for him, activity wise? Puzzles, board games... anything else that won't require too much of his energy?"}
{"id": "t3_30u6x4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "If I move back in with my parents, my girlfriend will break up with me. Please Help!", "post": "I'm a 27 y/o male currently in a relationship (24 y/o female) that has existed the last two years, and before we started dating I had moved out of my parents house and into an apartment. Since then I've worked a lot of dead-end retail jobs for a couple of months at a time, and hadn't really enjoyed life so enrolled in preaching school (I know...). I had to move about 40 miles away to do so, and ended up dropping out but am still living inside of the school housing. I have to leave the housing by the end of May (coming up soon!).\n\nThis leads to my predicament and my two options: The first, is that I can find a place near a retail job I recently acquired (paying 10 bucks an hour part time) and work that as much as I can. I'll be able to be closer to girlfriend/work, but I won't really be saving any money because of the cost of living in the city I'm in.\n\nThe second option is that I could move back in with my parents, who are 60 miles north of where I'm at right now. I could live here for free, and only have to pay for the gas for me to go to work and I could go to school for free as well (I want to go into a one-year GIS certificate program at a local community college). The negative to this, is that my girlfriend has said she will break up with me because she thinks once I move in, I will never move out and I will almost never see her because she is 30 miles away (even though she is right now).\n\nI feel like if I move back in with my parents, it is a better long-term solution because I can go back to school with no frills for 9 months or whatever it takes to get the certificate, and then move out with a salaried job. The other isn't as good of a long-term solution, but I would be closer to my girlfriend and have the independence of living on my own and kinda doing more of what I want. Any help on this situation would be appreciated! Thanks!", "summary": "I have to move out in two months, and I can either move to the city and barely make enough to sustain myself, or I can move to my parents for a better long-term solution but my girlfriend of two years will break up with me."}
{"id": "t3_ky5cj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this malpractice?", "post": "I went to the dentist on Friday to get a root canal.  After the two-hour procedure, he told me that a drill bit was now a part of my root canal.  \n\nAfter questioning him on the issue, he told me that during the procedure, he broke a piece of the drill off into my root and simply filled it in and closed it up.  He said it was no big deal and not to worry about it, that it was common, but that I would be smart to take heavy doses of antibiotics over the next week as well as prescription lortabs.\n\nAfter doing some of my own research, I came to find out that this is not a completely rare occurrence, but the piece of drill bit does significantly increase my chances of infection or other serious future problems that may require that tooth getting pulled.\n\nIt is now a day and a half after the surgery and I am in a good bit of pain, but the lortabs help quite a bit.  My friends and family have told me thus far that it is malpractice and that I should be worried.\n\nI didn't know where else to go to get well rounded advice on this issue.  Please help, Reddit.", "summary": "The dentist broke a piece of drill bit off in my tooth."}
{"id": "t3_4wbe1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23M] trying to move out of my parents house. My Girlfriend's [22F] Mom [45F] is pushing her rental property on me hard.", "post": "A buddy of mine and I both just finished University and have full time jobs and feel that we want to live in Downtown. We've been on the lookout for about a month now. My girlfriend and her Mom have been pushing this condo on us the entire time. It's a pretty good deal but I just don't want to have my girlfriend's mom as my landlord. I don't want to have to explain to her if we break something. I definitely don't want her parents having keys to my house, they're kinda off-the-wall.It's a renters market in my city currently and despite the discount they're giving us it isn't thaat much cheaper.\n\nI've explained to them \"Oh I just don't want to personally know my landlord, too many issues could arise\" but all I get back is \"Oh my mom is a chill landlord it will be great!!\". They're also trying to get just me to sign the lease and not my buddy. \n\nLike, I'm 100% not going to do it but they just don't get it? Or they want it for other reasons? What if my girlfriend and I don't last a whole year. We've only been at it for 13 months.", "summary": "Gf's mom wants me to rent her place."}
{"id": "t3_11j7op", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you DO with the money you won if you hit the lottery?", "post": "I would begin by getting a proper wingsuit and parachute.  I would then drive a four wheeler to the highest peak I could find and drive straight off of the cliff (making sure it will not hit anything below beforehand), then spreading my arms and taking flight.   \n\nAfter my first flight I would then purchase a turbo charged Hayabusa street bike and take it to the desert and feel what it is like to drive 180 mph.  \n\nNext I would purchase a massive yacht and begin to tour the world, stopping at places along the way and going backpacking to meet new people and see places and cultures, staying in hostiles and visiting pubs along the way.\n\nOnce I have accomplished several of these goals I would finally have the funds to dedicate all of my time and energy to my music.  Music is a part of me, I sing and play many instruments.\n\nAfter making music and recording albums for several years I would likely become a humanitarian worker and spend the rest of my life teaching people how to build ovens and provide their children with proper food / how to get clean water / helping out the needy of the world.", "summary": "Get all of the fun stuff out of the way first through adrenaline, then travel and learn about people and cultures, then help the needy/hungry of the world for the rest of my days."}
{"id": "t3_3n4q35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] want to leave the country, my gf [23F] can't, due to school", "post": "For the past year, I've been teaching English in Beijing, China. I met a really amazing girl here, but she is in university and won't finish until next summer. \n\nWe've been together for 10 months, and although I love her deeply, I've found myself very homesick recently and feel a need to get back to the US, where I'm from. My work isn't stimulating me, and the only real reason I'm still here is because of her. \n\nShe's said she wants us to stay together, and she's willing to look for work in the US once she graduates, but she obviously can't leave school until she does. \n\nI'm worried that I'll become depressed at the situation before she finishes in school, and that that might end up damaging our relationship. I don't think long distance is an option, not for so long. I'd appreciate some advice. Thanks, Reddit.", "summary": "I want to leave the country but my girlfriend can't. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_qo2rt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Rejected by a girl because of her BFF's lying. Regardless, am I in the wrong?", "post": "To begin at the beginning:\n\nBoy meets girl at college social event. Boy likes girl. Boy is unaware of girl's response to boy's potential advances. Boy is especially reluctant because of Forever Alone issues. So boy texts mutual friend of boy and girl to check if she might be keen, so he can act on rock-solid information.\n\nResponse: 'Sorry, Derp, she's my best friend. I'm not passing on anything that we share. **It's none of my business.**'\n\nLater I get a text from potential soulmate: 'Herpess told me about how you felt. Yeah, look, not looking for a relationship right now. Goodbye, good luck, etc.'\n\n**'None of my business'**, my pointlessly shaven balls.\n\nSo, I was lied to. Did I deserve it by not being upfront from the get-go by trying to act through a surrogate?", "summary": "Looked for a go-between to not be forever alone, go-between lies to me about not sharing information, lots of bandwidth lost to Redtube."}
{"id": "t3_215qeh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling into a trap", "post": "So I live in Canada and that's kind of important. Anyway, I was at school today walking with my friends. We went down three hallways and two staircases on our way to class, then I had to go to the bathroom while everyone else went to class.\n\nI came down the flights of stairs and saw to my horror , the American kid was slapping around his girlfriend. I have nothing against Americans, but this guy is a total a hole!! He was just pinning her down and slapping her face with no mercy. She's crying. He's just laughing and making rude comments about \"dat ass.\" He was mad at her for making a fool of him in class. This guy is like a Slinky: Not good for much, but it would make you smile to push him down the stairs.\n\nI grabbed the back of his head and began to shake violently. \"You wanna fight me, you woman-beating animal?\" I growled. \"There's no room in society for maggots like you.\" He shrieked when he saw me. He knew he was fighting a man now, and it scared the little baby.\n\nI wrestled him to the ground. He ran up the stairs, but I chased him. We were fighting up the stairs. Little did I know, he was leading me into a trap. I chased him into another hallway, where me met with............... the principal. Douche guy led me right to his office. We both got suspended.", "summary": "Tried to fight a bully but he led me right into a trap. I regret nothing."}
{"id": "t3_vet0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's father will most likely (85% chance) die in the next 2 weeks. What do I do?", "post": "Me: 20, Female\n\nHim: 21, Male\n\nLength of relationship: ~3 years\n\nI don't even know if that's an adequate question. I barely know what I'm asking. I have never experienced a death of anyone close to me, besides my very old grandmother when I was young. How do I help him cope? He has already started lashing out at me (starting verbal fights, arguments) because of the stress, which I don't blame him for. I really just want to be as helpful to him as possible in whatever way I should.\n\nThe thing that really makes him break down into tears is thinking about his little brothers--he has two brothers, ages 8 and 10, who probably barely even understand that their father is dying.\n\nAny answers at all are appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend's father terminally ill; want advice on how to be a good girlfriend in the situation."}
{"id": "t3_2qlbz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) often feel the need to go up to people (often strangers) and give them specific life advice. They always know what I'm talking about. Am I going crazy?", "post": "So I guess this is a relationship between me and society. \n\nOften I'll be in a class, or on the street, and feel the need to speak to someone, to tell them something about themselves. Ill see somebody and just know I have to go up to them and say \"Hey, that person you've been fighting with? Tell them you are sorry.\" Or \"He loves you, dont be afraid to love him too.\" They know what I am talking about, and thank me. I'm afraid though. Is it just coincidental, and I'm going crazy? I often ignore these urges, because I don't want to seem crazy in front of my friends. I also don't want to become some spectacle that people come to, asking about all their petty issues. What should I do?", "summary": "I often feel the need to go up to people (often strangers) and give them specific life advice. They always know what I'm talking about. Am I going crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_i6vc3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please! I need legal advice quick.", "post": "Okay here goes: I was standing behind a concert area in Taos Nm, guarding the graveyard. A motorcycle cop came up to us because someone reported two people smoking pot there. The cop says somebody fess up or your getting arrested, if you confess I will cut you loose and send you home. There was no Miranda rights or anything. Well I said it was me and he searched me, found nothing but alligator clips, unless he found a dirty roach somewhere that could have come from anywhere. So he wrote me a local ordinance ticket for tomorrow. What should I do? Options?", "summary": "got a local ordinance in Taos NM for marijuana."}
{"id": "t3_1oryo1", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Recommendations On A More Out Of The Way Island/Beach In Thailand", "post": "(I originally posted this in /r/thailand but got no responses)\n\nYesterday I booked my ticket for my trip to Thailand! I will be there for most of December with a week side trip to Australia!\n\nI have been to Thailand multiple times so I've seen all the major sites. I keep going back because I've made friends there and absolutely love Thai food!\n\nOn this trip I want to relax on an island (or beach in general) that is a bit off the beaten path. I just want to decompress from a stressful year of work.\n\nI am not under some illusion that I will find some island with virgin beaches that no white man has ever walked on. I am just looking for something where things are more relaxed and don't have as much of the regular tourist traffic.\n\nFor recreation all I am looking for is a quiet beach to zit on and read, splash around in the ocean, eat some good Thai food and seafood, a pub to drink a Singha and shoot some pool in the evening (no loud discos). Where I sleep doesn't have to be fancy .. just clean and safe. Nothing too complicated.\n\nI am thinking of something perhaps like Koh Tao or maybe Koh Similan.", "summary": "Any recommendations on beaches/islands in Thailand that are quiet and aren't overcrowded by tourists?"}
{"id": "t3_1w0265", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] Got rejected, please help me throw away the after-rejection feelings", "post": "Hello redditors.\nIt's been 3 months. 3 crazy months of me asking that one girl out and getting rejected. Its been bad, really bad. My scumbag brain has pretty much been like:\nGoing to bed? How about 29.5 thoughts of that girl you got rejected by? Walking past that class you met her in? How about 45 new reminders of her? Oh, and walk past any couples within 2 minutes and I'll throw in 25 new thoughts for FREE!! Just pay emotional slaughter and depression!\nSo you get it, I was rejected. It was my first time ever as a 21 year old looking into getting a girlfriend. Am I attractive? I'd say 6/10. Am I intelligent? 8.5/10. Emotionally stable minus the girl factor? 10/10. I really can not get over the fact that I still love that girl, and it kills me that I have 2 freakin' classes with her! To top that off, she never told me WHY she said no, she just said \"CAPSMAKEYOUBETTER, Please don't expect anything that won't happen and I just want to be friends.\" Before I asked her out, all my friends told me she was more friendly when I was around(she usually is a very bossy person) and generally more happy. So it kind of became obvious she liked me(but in reality, she didn't). Also, my educational institution is literally all trashy people and she was 2 of the only good girls there that weren't slutty, was smart and gorgeous at the same time. The other girl is taken, so it's an obvious no go.\nPlease help me cope with this problem, I have tried over and over and over again to stop it from affecting me yet every time these thoughts come back. Thanks and you guys are awesome.", "summary": "Asked girl out for the first time in my life, got rejected and need some words to comfort me"}
{"id": "t3_35di45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] long-distance crush [22F] keeps telling me about the other guys who hit on her. How am I supposed to respond?", "post": "Okay so I know the usual answer is \"she's trying to make you jealous... make a move\" but there's some backstory that changes things.\n\nSo I've known her since October. We met online (gaming) and she had a boyfriend at the time. Her and I fell for each other and became really close.\n\nShe's single now, and \"isn't really ready to let another guy close\". So she's not ready for a relationship. I've asked her about \"us\" and she told me she wants to remain friends \"for now\" but definitely still has a thing for me.\n\nThat was a month ago. She told me last night that her ex finally stopped messaging her and pining after her and that she was happy. \n\nThe weird thing now is that she keeps telling me about other guys who hit on her. At first I thought she was trying to make me jealous, but I can't understand why she'd need to do that when she knows how much I like her + I try to _show_ her how much I like her quite often?\n\nI don't know if I'm friendzoned as _fuck_ and she's telling me about _other guys_ or if she's trying to hint that she wants me to compete (even though she's always kinda put me on a pedastal for being _better than anyone before_). She said that these guys, and one guy in particular have expressed their feelings for her but she's told them that she never ever wants anything more than friendship from them. She also said that these guys are \"persistent\". She seems to see persistence as a good thing (she's mentioned that she liked persistence in past boyfriends).\n\nAm I supposed to react in some way? All I said was \"I told you so\" because I often tease her about her online admirers. We were laughing about the whole thing at the time but now I can't help but feel like she was trying to _do_ something when she told me this stuff.", "summary": "Crush (who apparently likes me too) keeps telling me about guys who're crushing on her who she isn't interested in. Is she trying to manipulate some sort of reaction from me?"}
{"id": "t3_3to1w2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not having tea", "post": "Well, like most FU's, this did not happen today. This happened a year or so ago.\n\nI woke up in a state of ei viitsi. I dunno what really happened in that time period, as I was only half-awake. At some point, I decided to make myself a cup of tea. I walk to the kitchen and...shit. We were out of tea, and my cheque didn't come until the next Friday. Well, so much for that. I decided to mow the grass. I get out the mower and bring it over to the grass. In my half-asleep stupour, I turn the thing on and immediately, a pinecone shard flies out and hits me straight in the knee. As I pull me knee up, another object flies up and hits me in the arse. Later, I realize that the sack is not on right (the mower is the kind with the detachable sack). But I'm not thinking about that at the time. I sit down hard, my arse smacking the ground and yet another, very large pinecone, the tip of which hit my coccyx. By this point, I say fuck it, and push the mower from hell to the garage, giving it a good kick on my way inside. I go to the mirror and there's a massive bruise about the size of my palm directly in the center of my arse, and another little bruise on my knee. Next time, I'll ask my neighbors for some tea.", "summary": "A series of unfortunate events led to my collapse of productivity and a large bruise on my bum. "}
{"id": "t3_13vz5s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your most embarrassing moment?", "post": "It's my freshman year of college, and i'm about to crash early in my dorm so I can wake up for an early exam. Right before I go to bed, someone knocks on my door. It's my neighbor! I let him in and we chit chat for a bit, Then I ask him his reason for stopping by. \"Oh yeah dude, So I might be trippin, but i'm pretty sure i just saw a dead body.\" He said. There's a lot of crazy pills in my college town, so I wasn't really worried at first. If he can't remember wether or not he took drugs in the first place he's probably trippin. I wasn't going to take my chances on a body though, So i told him to take me where he saw it. We begin sprinting up a hill in a nearby neighborhood, when he pointed up ahead and said \"That house.\" I looked up and saw a small group of kids taking pictures of the window. We ran up toward the house and what I saw in the window, I cannot unsee. The silhouette of a person who appeared to have hung themselves. It freaks me out just thinking of that moment. I quickly called the police and they showed up so quickly I was still on the phone with the dispatcher when they arrived. They asked \"Where is it!\" Speechless, I just pointed at the window. They ran up the porch and knocked on the door in case there was someone else home. A lady answered about thirty seconds later laughing. It wasn't a lifeless corpse hanging from the ceiling, it was just pajamas hanging to dry. Needless to say i wasn't the most popular kid at school the next couple days. I still get laughed at over this.", "summary": "Thought I saw a dead body and it turned out to be pajamas. Shit. "}
{"id": "t3_27pea5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my (hopefully soon to be SO) [? F] less than a day, how do I ask her out?", "post": "Last night I was studying with my friend at one of the residence halls at my campus. 4:00 am rolls around and we start getting hungry and need a break so we decide its as good of a time as ever to go to the 24 hour corner store. On our way down we pass by a study room with a glass wall and I see a very cute girl studying and her friend laying on a couch.\n\nWe go to the store, buy our stuff, and on our way back we pass by the same room only this time we ended up making eye-contact. I decided, since I'm single, to write a note to her saying that I thought she was cute and good luck on her finals with my phone number at the bottom. I walked back to her study room, taped it to the glass wall, knocked on the glass twice to get her attention, and a few seconds after her seeing me, I walked off with my friend waiting around the corner. \n\nI ended up getting a text this morning around 8:30 from an unknown number saying \"Thanks. good luck on finals too\". I honestly didn't think it would work and I would never hear from her. I don't know her name, or anything about her but she is really pretty and I know I want to ask her out. \n\nMy question is how should I respond seeing as we don't know each others names or anything about each other, other than we probably go to the same school.", "summary": "Wrote a cute note to a girl I've never talked to and don't know her name, she texted me but I'm not sure how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_n7dyw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit Tell me all about medical school. How do you get in?", "post": "I know a lot of you are in med school or have graduated from med school, so here is the thing guys. I want to be a cardiothoracic surgeon, so bad it honestly hurts just thinking about it or thinking about doing anything else with my life.\n\nHere's the other thing, I am not the smartest person, the most motivated or focused and I deal with severe depression.\n\nSo my question is, honestly how difficult is it to get into medical school? Is it really that only the best of the best get it? With the best gpa's, the best mcat's, the most volunteer hours? Is there any chance for someone like me?\n\nI need the honest truth redditors, I am 20 and don't want to keep going on this dream if the chances of it happening are null.\n\nBe brutally honest.", "summary": "Want to go into medical school, but not the brightest. Do i have a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_2ru5iw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [25 F] deal with my romantic friend [24 M] when I need alone time?", "post": "I have been dating this guy for maybe a month. We aren't in a serious relationship, just dating here and there. I'm not in the mood to be in a serious relationship now.\n\nIn the last week he has been texting me a whole bunch, enough to make it somewhat annoying (10 texts every hour or something. I reply here and there). I just don't want to talk to him all the damn time. I want to hang out with my other friends and such.\n\nJust today, I was playing this online game with another friend. First time I got to play in a couple days, and when he sees me online, he watches me play the game itself (the game has a \"spectator\" mode, which means people can watch you play), and keeps asking me to play against him. About a couple hours later, he gives up and says \"fine, guess not\" which makes me feel bad. I really just want to play by myself right now (or with my other friend, whom I haven't talked to in a while). Honestly, him watching me play in spectator mode kind of felt like someone watching what you're doing over your shoulder. It felt kind of uncomfortable.\n\nHow can I deal with someone like this? I want to keep dating the romantic friend, but this is sort of starting to get annoying. I'm not sure how to explain without being rude.\n\nAnother thing to note: He was virgin when we met and we had sex a couple times. He was really nervous about it, so it wasn't good sex. Not a big deal to me at all. I want to make sure I can be as nice about the talkative issue as much as possible, and make sure he knows it isn't about the sex or whatever.", "summary": "Dating someone. He wants a lot of attention, it kind of bothers me. Not sure how to get him to stop."}
{"id": "t3_ywjup", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/M] girl in the group...awkward scenarios", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nSo earlier in the year an old school friend of ours came into the group with a long distance BF and nobody was really bothered but soon the \"hatin'\" came up. After a while she broke up with the guy and I watched as some in my circle tried for her. Initially I wasn't interested but she is genuinely good so I tried for it. Everything went well till she flaked on me so I moved on, found out later it happened to another who tried the kiss-ass method...\n\nFast forward and everyone still hangs out but theres a veil of passive aggressive and I see folks still going for her. To make things worse one friend keeps obsessing over her in my presence and it hits at my underlying loneliness since I never had a true relationship. I feel like I need another group of friends to chill with but I don't know how to go about dealing with the consequences of such a move.", "summary": "liked a kinda flakey girl, got over her. Feelings keep resurfacing due to obnoxious friends and don't know how to deal with them without being left with a \"slow, long term burn\"."}
{"id": "t3_445a5y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [24 M] take my relationship to the next level with this girl [19 F] I know?", "post": "I know this girl for a week now. First time we met I noticed we had an instant click. We had fun. We laughed. But I didn't know I liked her so much. I'm not a person to fall in love that easy but after couple of days I found out I really like her. I would like a longer relationship with her.\n\nBut there are problems. She is not from here. She is from Italy and in couple of weeks she is going back to Italy. By the way, yesterday I met her again. We had a great time. We talked a lot, we hugged, laughed, and we even had sex. I already sub communicated I like her more than a \"fling\" but I don't know if she wants long term relationship especially since she is moving back to Italy soon.\n\nIn couple of weeks she is going back to her own country. How can I tell her that I want to have a long term relationship without freaking her out and coming off needy/creepy? In the last couple of days I can only think about her although I don't even want to think about her.", "summary": "I like this new girl I met. How can I move the relationship to the next level without coming off as needy?"}
{"id": "t3_2w71oz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the wrong toaster", "post": "I had to go to the airport to pick up my girlfriend tonight, and my friend from out of town happened to be visiting for work.\n\nHe's got enough frequent flyer points that he has access to the airline lounge, so he drives me to the airport and we sit in the lounge while we wait for my girlfriend's flight to arrive.\n\nFeeling out of place, like I'm not business-y enough for the lounge, I'm very pensive about taking advantage of the free food and drinks.\n\nI see someone next to me eating a toasted sandwich, think hmm that looks ok might make one of those.\n\nGo up to the buffet feeling like I don't belong there and fairly quickly grab a couple of slices of bread and some filling (ham, tomato, carrot, cheese and some fancy tomato chutney stuff).\n\nNow to toast this bad boy. I see a fancy conveyor toaster, can't see anything else, figure this must be what the lady sitting beside me used to toast her sandwich.\n\nFeed sandwich through conveyor toaster. Doesn't fit but the machine is already starting to eat it. Panic. Remove top slice of bread + piece of cheese. Single piece of bread with some ham, tomato and carrot rolls through conveyor.\n\nSome carrot falls down and starts a small fire. Panic more.\n\nSingle slice of now toasted bread with remaining carrot and tomato falls down the back of the conveyor and out into the removal zone.\n\nTake single slice of bread with what carrot and tomato I can grab discreetly and place on top of the un-toasted piece of bread.\n\nWalk back to seat quickly with half toasted sandwich and hope that I haven't just burned down an entire airport.\n\nDid not start a fire, but the whole lounge had a burnt smell for about 15 minutes.\n\nWalked out eventually, trying to pretend that it wasn't me, and could see a sad piece of tomato and a smattering of charred carrot in the removal zone of the toaster just sitting there condemning me for all eternity for my stupidity. And about 2 feet further along the counter was the sandwich press.", "summary": "used the wrong toaster, nearly started a fire in an airport lounge of which I was not a member."}
{"id": "t3_32rlg2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [24M] keeps physically hurting me ... am I overreacting?", "post": "My boyfriend keeps getting physical with me when he's upset. The first time he really injured me was just a few days ago and it took me until tonight to talk to him about it.\n\nHe pinched and twisted my fingers until I started crying and asking him \"why would you do this to me?\". Yes, I was purposely annoying him while he was driving (touching his face) but I thought I was being playful and goofy. \n\nWhen I brought it up with him tonight he made it clear he meant to hurt me and offered justification rather than an apology. Finally after I explained \"You are my boyfriend. You should never want to hurt me. You should feel awful if you hurt me. You should be upset at the thought of me being hurt\" he apologized and I thought it had sunk in.\n\nJust a little while ago I was teasing him and he dug his fingers into the back of my head, pushing me down. He did this in front of a mutual friend which makes me think he doesn't realize the gravity of what he's doing.\n\nWe do horse around a lot but if someone expresses they are hurt it stops immediately. This feels different. This feels like he's purposely hurting me, even if it's not overly violent.\n\nAm I over reacting? I've never had a boyfriend behave like this with me before. I don't know how to approach this subject considering we **just** talked about it.\n\nWe've been together for 2 years and he's never behaved like this in the past but I have no intentions of putting up with this in the future/letting it evolve.", "summary": "Boyfriend is hurting me. I've talked to him. He's still hurting me. Am I over reacting? What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gxc8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my ex-boyfriend [25M], he is texting me to tell me about the people he is planning to sleep with this weekend", "post": "I just need to get this off my chest.\n\nI dated my ex for about 6 months before my kidneys failed and I had to start dialysis (11 months ago). I told him that my first priority was myself for the time being, and didn't think I could really commit to a serious relationship. We hooked up a few times after, but while I was on dialysis, I felt really self-conscious (I had a tube coming out of my stomach) and was generally pretty tired and not that interested in sex.\n\nWe stayed pretty close, and I had a kidney transplant 2 weeks ago so I should hopefully be returning to some form of normalcy soon. Before I had my transplant, he told me he didn't want to put any pressure on me, but he would like to continue the relationship when I was better if that's what I want to as well. In any event, he said he at least wanted to stay close friends. I still really love him and do want to pick things back up, and I told him that. \n\nBut tonight, he started texting me that he was going to sleep with another guy (including sending a picture of the guy), and then told me he is planning to have a threesome tomorrow night with two really attractive guys. \n\nAm I being too sensitive? I don't really care if he sleeps with other people right now, but I don't want to hear about it. I just don't understand why he would tell me this, or if he was just leading me on a few weeks ago when he said he would like to continue the relationship. I understand it's kind of a weird situation so I don't want to be too judgmental of him. Should I just tell him I don't want to hear about this? It just seems kind of insensitive.", "summary": "ex-boyfriend and I talked about picking up relationship when I recover from a kidney transplant, but tonight he started texting me about other guys he is going to sleep with this weekend. Am I justified being upset?"}
{"id": "t3_sz74s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am going to attend a Christian University and I need advice.", "post": "I was raised in a Christian household and was an atheist for most of my life until two years ago so compared to most people around me I'm a little ruff around the edges, but this isn't my concern. I'm concerned that attending a Christian school and achieving a B.A. in Sociology there might not be the best path. I feel that outside of the church or christian organizations that degree wouldn't be taken very seriously. I don't plan on working strictly with a church. Having been on the mission field for the past three years has given me a passion for community development. I might join the peace corps after earning a degree and after that I feel like learning Arabic and maybe going to Jordan. However, if I do wish to stay in the States and get a job outside of a christian environment, would a christian degree be taken seriously? Should I maybe transfer to a state university after a year or two?", "summary": "Would non christian employers take a B.A. from a private christian college seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_3bfyly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with bestfriends ex (of 1.5 years) [17 F] have feelings and sex", "post": "So at a party we had something together drunkenly, but i think im falling for her and so does she... (weve known each other since a year or so pretty well and have emotionally bonded before)\n\nThing is she used to be together with my best friend (whom i very very much value) for 1.5 years (!! with 17!!) and its only been like 2 months since he dumped her...\n\nTo make that shit **even more complicated** i previously had something with her best friend, and she now appearantly has feelings for me. Im not even making that shit up :/\n\nI dont know how to go on please help", "summary": "Best friends ex, yay or nay"}
{"id": "t3_1jblbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/m) just broke up with my girlfriend (24/f) and I feel like I could've made a terrible mistake.", "post": "Some background: I still love the girl to death. I was with her for almost 4 years. I spend every day thinking about her. There isn't a moment in my life right now that does not remind me of her. Spent most of my college life with her, graduated and then moved in with her shortly after.\n\nShe was my first girlfriend. She has taught me anything and everything there is about being in a relationship. I've learned invaluable knowledge from her, and I still think she's a catch. My problem basically was my curiosity: a series of \"what if\" questions.\n\nI sat her down and had a serious talk with her. I told her that if our relationship was going at the pace it was going, I'll eventually get married and have babies and start a family. I told her that if that happened at this point in my life right now, I'd have a sense of not being fulfilled because of my \"what ifs\". I don't know who what where why when how, any specifics, but I just had this gut feeling.\n\nI guess my question to you Reddit, do you guys think I made the right choice? I simply don't find it fair that she'd give me 100% of her commitment while I'm returning 80%. Not that I wasn't fully committed to her; I guess sort of an \"emotional cheating\", if you will. My thoughts wandered past her sometimes. Not to the degree of \"I really wish to be with someone else\", but again, as \"what if..\". I don't know if those feelings of regrets will eventually consume me down the road.", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend of ~4 years and I'm feeling regretful."}
{"id": "t3_24u2mg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex 30/m wants to be close friends & knows I'm in love with him 31/f", "post": "So my ex broke up with me a year ago. We didn't speak for about half that time. He then tried desperately to talk to me by contacting my sister then finally emailing me. He dropped a note off at my house in my mailbox in January.. \n\nI gave in & gave him my new #. We talked almost everyday & he said he wished things were different & that he missed me a ton. Basically told me how he's making his life better for us.. We met up a few times & kissed, nothing else.  I could have slept with him but I have not & he's tried on a few occasions.\nhe told me he never wanted to hurt me again but was very busy with school. \n\n-Then he sorta just stopped texting me all the time. I told him I loved him & could not be just friends with him. He responded with he's making too many moves forward & wants to be real close friends. & dosnt understand why we can't.  He also added That he would never string me along or put me on the back burner...\n\nHe still randomly texts me & said he got me a gift when he was in Spain. (The whole time he was in Spain he texted me.)\n\nWhen he got back I didn't  hear from him at all for a week.  Then all of a sudden he wanted to meet up.??\nI've completely blown him off because I love him & I'm so freakn confused.. \n\n I don't understand what is happening? He knows how I feel about him. Is he playing games with me? He knows I can't be friends. What should I do? We dated for 8 years.\n I've never felt such terrible pain in my life...", "summary": "Ex knows I love him but wants to be close friends"}
{"id": "t3_uscwr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night my best friends dad tried to commit suicide.. advice needed", "post": "I don't really know how to start this off.. so here goes.\nMy friends Dad has been going through A LOT of shit at the moment (middle of a court case, lives with / looks after two other guys (both 80+) (The guy himself is only 55). \nMy best friend, his sister, his girlfriend and I all live in the building next door to him. \nThe father has been rather ill recently (had his gall bladder removed a few weeks ago), so we thought him sleeping and vomiting was \"normal\", but today he admitted to his kids that he tried killing himself via ODing on various pills etc. The exact amount isn't clear, but we found at least 8 empty pill \"trays\" (the silver trays that pills come packaged in). \nHe's not TOLD us he won't do it again, but he said he couldn't promise his kids that he wouldn't. \nWe've waited 7 hours in hospital this evening, waiting for him to be seen since he's kinda tripping balls at the moment, he's got a bed for a few days, but no idea what's going to happen...\n\nBasically.. what do I do in this situation? I've obviously been comforting my friend / his sister etc.. but... I feel like I should be doing, but I don't know what...\n\nHelp?", "summary": "Best friends dad tried to OD, probably going to do it again.. what do I do?!"}
{"id": "t3_3tsyrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my SO [19F] 1 year, she wants to go to christmas market alone to not ruin her experience.", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nMe and my GF will be moving in together fairly shortly. She will be coming in from abroad and since its christmas season we wanted to go to a christmas market.\n\nI wanted to take her out for it since its her first time and all. I wanted to go with her show her around and just make it generally a beautiful experience we two could share together and create some good memories.\n\nNow she told me that she wants to go alone, because I already attended several of these before. And in her thinking that will ruin the experience for her since it wont be as magical because it wont be the first time for both of us.\n\nI told her that I really wanted to go with her because it will be special and magical for me, since it would something amazing to do and bond over together. But she persisted and said that she will just go when I am at work and I won't even notice. \n\nTbh overall what confuses me the most is her thinking. She literally said this that she would rather go with a close friend than me to keep it more special.\n\nMaybe someone else can explain this to me better but I really just don't get it. Should I just let her go for it to keep the peace? \n\nEdit1: She wants to keep the experiences equal. And it won't be fair if we do it together for the first time.", "summary": "GF wants to go to christmasmarket without me to keep it more special, because I already attended one."}
{"id": "t3_3byyq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) have no idea how to get along with my father (55M). Advice?", "post": "My father and I have always had kind of a rocky relationship. He was a good parent and loved me and my brothers for sure, but I think he has a difficult time relating to me. Unfortunately, due to financial circumstances, I moved in with him after graduating college.\n\nThe problem: I am not a mature person, and I'm the first to admit it. That's something I'm working on. However, my father has always treated me younger than my age. I'm 25 and he still starts to freak out/worry if I'm out past 9:30pm. No exaggeration- 9:30.\n\nHe feels that he \"can't get through to me\" unless he yells. We get into shouting matches at least once a day, usually more. Then he'll blame the fight on me because I'm not being mature. It's not always his fault, but even when it is, he refuses to take responsibility for overreacting or saying inflammatory things that were completely uncalled for. We are both stubborn, opinionated people who have trouble admitting when we're wrong.\n\nI work about 40 hours a week making $15/hour, but the real estate where I live is insanely expensive (think $900 for a room). Additionally, I am trying to save up to move overseas. I am trying to leave by July 30th, but I have no idea how to do that and how I can cope with my father for the next month. I am so tired of fighting. Do you have any suggestions for me?", "summary": "Constantly fighting with my dad, don't have enough to move out. Need advice on getting along with him."}
{"id": "t3_26ycmk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (m27) girlfriend (f26) of 5+ years just confessed to kissing a guy from her work. need advice", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over 5yrs, living together for 1. We're best friends and whilst we love each other, the relationship has become strained. We've had an incredibly tough couple of years, her Dad passed away this time last year and then 3months later my Mum passed (Both from cancer). \n\nLately she has been getting more and more distant from me, rarely kissing me and no real intimacy. Last night she went out and got really drunk and this morning confessed that 2 weeks ago she kissed a guy (m39) from work and that she has been emailing/texting him since then. He has asked her out on a date, even though he knows we're together. She says she likes him, but doesn't want to do anything or take anything further and is filled with regret. Another thing I find weird is that she has mentioned how he reminds her of her Dad. \n\nI feel crushed and really torn up inside. I know it was just a kiss, but I can't help but feel completely betrayed. Any advice would be great, as I can't think straight at the moment.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5yrs kissed a guy from work and admitted to liking him, advice would be much appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1krnth", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me(18M) and My girlfriend (18f) want to get back together after we broke up, but there is a problem.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago, but we haven't stopped talking since then. She told me she wanted to be a \"thing\" which wasn't too serious at all, but meant we would try and only want each other. She goes on vacation to the beach where many of our friends, including my best friend is there. I tell her I can't be just a thing with her because I want more. So the next day she gets drunk and tries to hookup with my bestfriend, he declines thankfully. She calls me about 45 minutes after it happens asking to get back together and then telling me what happened. I blew up on her, and was completely outraged. Then later in the night after a long fight of freaking out on her, I couldn't fight the feeling I still wanted her. Should I forgive her and try to work things out? Let me add she and all her friends said she missed me so much and wanted me back. My best friend was talking to her about our relationship for me, and that's when she asked him from being drunk and her excuse of \"missing me\" is why she did this. Should I tell her to fuck herself, or keep our love strong?", "summary": "Gf and I breakup, few weeks later drunkenly tries to hookup with my best friend then instantly calls me wanting me back after."}
{"id": "t3_1uvdd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] I drive myself crazy when in a relationship", "post": "I think I have unresolved issues, but I don't know what they are.\nThe problems I have, only surface when I'm in a relationship. At the beginning I'm sort of in love, but after a while I'll doubt.\nWhen I'm longer in a relationship I'll just doubt it the whole time, but when the relationship ends I'm really really hurt, like dying from emotional pain hurt. While when before I'm like: no, if he breaks up with me nothing would change much.\nI do not seem to realize how much I care for someone until that someone breaks things off. I'm confused by my emotions.\nOh, in the relationship I also tend to get very critical (like, nothing is good enough?I'll think he's is too clingy and then he changes that and I'll be like ' You ignores' me too much'. Or I just don't like how he looks, talks, laughs, I seem to search for things). \nI'm a person who constantly tells how she feels. So everything I doubt the relationship, I'll bring it up and the my SO just feels really shitty and doesn't know what to do, but I don't know what to do either. And I can be really bitchy (I'll lose my temper quickly). It also may come because I can't handle stress and pressure?  When I'm happy I'm less critical, but when I'm feeling depressed I'm doubting everything, especially my SO. I don't think anyone CAN help me, but I just wondered if there were more people feeling like this? And if there are more people, how do you deal with this?\nI also thought I might just be getting cold feet because 'I choose an SO' and will be 'stuck' with that person forever when there could be someone else for me who's better. Maybe I just watched too many Disney movies.", "summary": "I think I have unresolved issues, but I don't know what they are, relationships suffering because of it. Are there people with the same problem?"}
{"id": "t3_2buzj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24M] am a shallow piece of sh*t and need help with my girlfriend [26f]", "post": "Basically I'm a shallow piece of shit and need help. I don't really find my girlfriend attractive. All my life I've only gone for looks, which ended in breakups with my ex'es. \n\nWe've been together for 7 months. I thought I knew what love was before I knew her, but she has made me feel what REAL love is. \n\nI've actually never been happier. But... I don't really find her sexy. In the beginning when we started dating, (and you're gonna hate me for this), I actually covered her face with a pillow when we fucked or only wanted doggy. (This has changed ofcourse). \n\nShe isn't an ugly girl, she looks good, it's just I've been so stupid and shallow with girls my whole life. \n\nI'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar and overcame it? I want so badly to find her sexy, beucase she is so perfect in every other way. I want this to work!", "summary": "I've been shallow my whole life and don't find my girlfriend attractive. I NEED your help to overcome this stupid hangup of mine. I'm so ashamed of myself."}
{"id": "t3_1k3kl4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21f) SO(21m) doesn't try to make contact with me unless I make contact first", "post": "So me and my SO have been together for 4months now and everything seemed to be going great. But I started to notice that he doesn't text/call me anymore unless I text/call him first. We we started dating he would text me all the time or call me just to see how my day was. I thought it was sweet. I would of course take the initiative too and text or call him. \n\nNow it all seems very very one sided I'll text him and about four-five messages later he'll stop replying. Recently, I decided to wait and see if he'd text me. Its been three days and all I've gotten was a like on a facebook status. I know he's not busy because he's on summer break frm school, & only works like 2days a week. \n\nNow I'm not the kind of girl who constantly needs attention but a \"hey\" maybe every other day would be nice. I dont really want to make a big deal out of this because when we're together hes very attentive and sweet.\n\n Am I just being crazy, is this normal from guys?", "summary": "my bf doesn't really seem to make an effort to contact me. Am I acting crazy for wanting him to at least try to text me every other day?"}
{"id": "t3_17thiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20/M] don't know what to do with my possible feelings about other people", "post": "Hi Reddit, I have no idea what to do. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now with my girlfriend[20/F] and I'm beginning to get the feeling that I'm missing out on meeting other people. \n\nI have never been in the dating game. I met my girlfriend through a mutual friend and when we were 16 and it just went from there. A bit of a rough start but now almost 4 years consecutively. I love her with all my heart. Maybe at some times I think she could be a little bit more mature for her age when it comes to dealing with hard situations but I have no reason to leave her.\n\nAnd still that feeling is there: What if I'm missing out? We were our firsts so I have no experience otherwise. If I'm out with friends, which I have been doing more recently (My good friend is single again and I'm helping him \"hunt\" as he likes to call it) I do get hit on by women. I have never act on it but still afterwards there's this feeling of it is nice to be wanted? And am I missing something by staying in the relationship.\n\nI am afraid that I will resent my GF if I keep it to myself. Or that I will regret it if I do tell and act on it. Do you guys have any input? I don't want to hurt my GF, but I am afraid I might have to...", "summary": "Don't know what to do with my feelings about other people"}
{"id": "t3_rxm7p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your Socially Awkward Penguin moment?", "post": "As I was walking to work today, I see a seedy looking character holding a bag running towards me. Roughly 15 meters behind him there was a lady chasing him.\n\nI immediately assumed the bag he was holding was the woman's purse and he was robbing her. Thinking quickly, I attempted a Good Guy Greg and went to stop the guy as he ran past me. However, my best intentions were all for naught, as he completely knocked me over.\n\nInstead of him trying to keep on running, he started yelling at me and repeated that 'he should punch my face in'. Turns out, he was actually running to stop the bus and that the lady behind him was his wife.\n\nI apologized, (still lying on the ground) and got up and went to work. haven't told anyone in person because I'm too embarrassed because I was an idiot, and because I almost got beaten up.\n\nAnyone else have any Socially Awkward Penguin stories?", "summary": "Tried to stop a running man from stealing a lady's purse. He was running for the buss with his wife and I almost got into a fight."}
{"id": "t3_3niro6", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't piss off your younger brother...", "post": "I only recently found this subreddit and I am hooked so I'd thought i'd share my story..\n\nFirst off, this happened about 5-6 years ago so parts may be a little hazy.\nA bit of a background story to why I did this... My older brother would always annoy me by doing stupid little \"pranks\" and one day while I was eating dinner he thought it would be hilarious to pull my chair from underneath me (the oldest trick in the book). \n\nSo i decided that enough was enough and needed to plot my revenge. Given that I have more intelligence than he has and could only come up with old tricks, I wanted to put some thought into getting my revenge. One thing I noticed was that when he came back from work after a long day, he would always launch himself onto his bed to relax.\n\nOne day when he went to work, I spent about an hour or so turning everything (figuratively speaking) in his room upside down including all his pictures, alcohol bottles on his table, his TV (don't know how you can't notice this), posters and most importantly his bed.....yeah flipped it over so the base was on top and the mattress on the floor. I then remade his bed to make it look as normal as I possibly could so he wouldn't suspect a thing.\n\nThen I waited with much eagerness to fulfill my revenge and around 2 hours later he arrived home and surely enough went straight to his room. As my room was next to his, I was being as quiet as possible so he didn't know I was home and so I could hear my work coming to life.\n\nThat's when the inevitable happened......all I heard is a scream followed by a WTF!! Turns out the force of him landing and the hard impact onto the \"hardened mattress\", he also smashed his head. It wasn't until I came in laughing my ass off with a shit-eating grin from my proud work that he had also realised that everything else in his room was upside down. He then had to spend the next 1-2 hours putting everything back up the right way much to his annoyance.\n\nLets just say he stopped annoying me after that.", "summary": "Brother pulled chair underneath me, I flipped his bed over and he smashed his head on the base. Me 1, Bro 0"}
{"id": "t3_241byb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing a car accident", "post": "I'm only 19 and still not very experienced with driving. I was driving a vehicle different from mine (my mothers). I approached a right turn with yield. Behind me is 3 lanes of traffic going straight, and opposite of that, 2 lanes turning left, and ahead of that is where someone can make a uturn. So I had several things that can go wrong. I checked before I turned and saw no one approaching, and instead of taking it one lane at time, I took all 3 lanes. I ended up ramming in to someone on their side. Everyone is okay, no one was really hurt, and the Damage was basically the side of their car scraped and some scuffs on mine. It's my first accident and I feel like I'm an idiot. I didn't see them anywhere when I made the turn, and I had no idea where they came from. They were okay with It and weren't overly upset. We let insurance handle it. I got a 154 dollar ticket. In the end we all shook hands and no harm no foul. I wish I knew how to drive a lot better right now, I feel like those idiots on the street that don't use signals or anything. I hate driving in Florida.", "summary": "Shooken up and scared, first accident, only 19."}
{"id": "t3_25zxe5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my ex-boyfriend [21 M] 9 months, can't stop thinking about him", "post": "I am in love, and am going through a quasi-break up. I can't stop thinking about him, or our relationship. I wonder what he's doing at any given time in the day, if he's happy or sad, thinking about me. I did this while we we're dating too, and because we're long distance, the break hasn't changed anything really.\nHow to I take space for myself? I am constantly reminded of him, hoping to tell him about things in my day. I want someone to share everything with. Is that unhealthy? How do I refocus myself? I don't want to be so needy and emotional!", "summary": "How do I stop thinking about him"}
{"id": "t3_vtsmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friends think I'm using my BF for sex...but I think I found the \"one\", what do you think?", "post": "I met my boyfriend in Dec 2011 at our university.  We had sex shortly after we met (not my brightest idea) and I just felt like he was the only guy i've connected with ever (this includes all my previous boyfriends).\n\nHowever, previous to him, I had had sex once.  Now with him I have it every other day basically.  It took us a few months to get me to be able to orgasm (first ever!!) but since then sex has been overly satisfying!  My friends think I only love my boyfriend for the sex.  It is true we have sex a lot for college kids, but I really feel like I want to spend my life with him.\n\nWe understand eachother so well, I feel like I never have to say things with words around him because he usually knows how I am thinking.  I am not as well with reading him, but then again I just suck at being with men in general.  It has taken me a while to get around to some of his ways of life (his music, sports, style) but now I love him more than ever-I love him more everyday.  I have grown to love the music he likes (country in case you're wondering) and still working on the trapshooting and motorcycling.  \n\nI really do want to spend my life with him, I want to marry him even though I prefer my last name to his...but I'm sure in time I will like it ;)\n\nAnyways, from what I have said here, does it sound like I'm using him for sex? One more tidbit of info: we are currently an hour apart while on summer break, so we don't see eachother much but we talk hours a day and text 50 hours a day.  We see eachother every couple weeks and if we want to (which lets be honest we are like sooo horny for eachother) we have sex.\n\nAm I too young (19 he's 18, 19 in just 8 days!) to know who I want to marry already? We have been dating 6 months now.", "summary": "My friends think I'm using my boyfriend for sex-I think I love him, the only man I've ever really loved, and I want to be with him forever."}
{"id": "t3_4xx7qp", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[HELP] Is there a way to de-activate a microchip or change the ownership without the original owners consent? Abuse case.", "post": "A friend of mine has a neighbor who's dog is chained up outside for 10+ hours a day, in the 100 degree weather with no access food or water.  Often times the dog winds itself up so bad that it only has 2 or 3 feet of the line left and has been found almost strangled, hog-tied and has been injured by the local wildlife because of it.  They are very ignorant but very wealthy and charming people and my friend knows they can talk their way out of any accusations or charges made.  They have deflected the cops on several occasions for a number of reasons including other neighbors calling because of the dog. \n\nSo recently on a 100 degree day my friend found the dog strangling outside in the sun with no water, and decided to take it, the owner didn't come home until late that night and didn't even notice it was missing until the next day.  \n\nShe is keeping the dog out of town at someone's house and we are wondering what our options are.  The owners would never surrender the dog, and even better because this dog has gotten loose so many times and the pound has picked it up, they just had it chipped.  We don't know anyone who really wants to get involved with this or adopt the dog knowing this info.  But the dog will die a slow painful death if it goes back to the owners.  Are there any options of changing the info on the chip or deactivating or removing it?  We are desperate to save this dog's life, it's a really good dog and deserves a chance to have a good life.", "summary": "A friend saved a dog from an abusive/neglectful situation, but without the owners consent.  Need to re-home it, but the owner will not surrender the dog. Need advice or suggestions for how to go about changing the chip info to save the dog's life."}
{"id": "t3_3ocqvl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling the cops on a tree", "post": "This happened last night, but I'm able to see the humour in it now. \n\nI live in a basement suite in one of the scarier parts of town, I live with my fianc\u00e9 and right now the upstairs suite is vacant. It's great, we can party on weekends and not worry about bothering anyone. \nSo last night we're sitting around watching the hockey game and we hear this muffled crash sound. We look at each other, because it definitely came from in the house. I'm absolutely terrified that someone is squatting upstairs, maybe a serial killer. I'm convinced the noise came from the stairwell and we're now trapped. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 wanted to check it out, but I begged him not too. So we called the police and the landlord and explained the situation. They showed up, confirmed there was no signs of forced entry outside, no lights, no movement, everything looked normal. So my fianc\u00e9 opened our door into the stairwell, it's empty as well, open the external door and speak to the police, I'm still freaking out. The landlord shows up and opens the upstairs door, the police go in, confirm it's empty, kind of shrug, tell us not to over react again, and everyone leaves. \n\nI was still on edge, because nothing explained the crash sound, but there was no one here, so I was calming down. I opened the storage closet.... and my Christmas tree had fallen over. It's one of the fake ones you keep in boxes, and while things away earlier I'd jostled it just enough for it to come crashing down hours later.", "summary": "Christmas tree in storage fell over, thought noise was a serial killer and called police for nothing."}
{"id": "t3_4otouz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am [18M]. I will need to move countries within a month or two, probably for ever. Have been in a (romantic) relationship with a girl for 3 months now. How do I properly prepare for being forcefully broken up?", "post": "I can't get into details as to why I have to leave the country, but here are the facts:\n\nI am 18.\nThis is my first ever relationship. She is my age, and she CANNOT move countries (with me) no matter what (and I doubt she would, lets be realistic).\n\nAnyway, I have to leave the country soon, and I will obviously be forcefully split up from her because of this (I don't want a long distance relationship). \n\nI will be leaving to a country very far away\n\nI have very strong feelings for her, and she has strong feelings for me.", "summary": "Will be required to break up with SO due to moving,  don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_xy7bb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stayed at my girlfriends parents house, was feed and taken care of while we were visiting. Would like a Spanish speaker to help me day thank you.", "post": "I looked for a \"help me translate this\" subreddit but could not find one. Since this had to do with my relationship this was the best place I could think of for posing this question.  So my girlfriend is moving to cali next week(ldr) we came to say hello to her parents and introduce me to/saybye to her friends. Instead of staying at a hotel and her staying at home, they kindly offered to stay with them. They fed me, took us out etc. the works. They don't speak much  English, and I don't speak great Spanish (I'm a horrible Mexican). So I was hoping someone would give me a nice way to say thank you got letting me stay and being so hospitable.  Would really appreciate it. Thank you in advance", "summary": "Girlfriends parents gave me a place to stay and fed me when we went to visit them instead of me staying in a hotel. Want a nice way to say thank you in Spanish."}
{"id": "t3_2vxyh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16 F] best friend [18 M] got a college girlfriend and doesn't speak to me anymore.", "post": "Throwaway since he knows my username.\n\nSo my friend (let's call him Jake) left for college a few months ago. Jake has been my best friend for the last couple of years, and I took it pretty hard when he had to leave. He promised to visit every so often, and we still texted/ facebook messaged quite often. We cared a lot about each other; we helped each other with our problems and he was just a lot of fun to be around. \n\nHowever, maybe two or three months after he left, Jake got a girlfriend. \n\nShe seemed really awesome and since this was his first girlfriend, Jake was over the moon. He told me everything about her. And I honestly could not have been happier for him. \n\nIt started getting a little frustrating when Jake would visit, as he would be texting his girlfriend the **entire time.**\n\nNot even exaggerating. I would be talking to him, and he would just nod his head and stare at his phone. \n\nI didn't want to bug him about it; I knew that he was happy about having a girlfriend and they seemed really good together. But slowly, the facebook conversations stopped. He didn't visit anymore. And every single time I tried to talk to Jake, he was with his girlfriend. \n\nThe last conversation I had with him, I asked if he didn't like talking to me anymore, or if he was tired of me. He said no, but we haven't talked since. \n\nI did see him one more time after that over Christmas break at a game night a bunch of my friends were at, but he brought his girlfriend with him and he didn't even look at me. \n\nSince the majority of my friends have left for college, I've been incredibly lonely. Losing my best friend has just made everything worse, and I can't think about him without getting super upset. As far as I know, it wasn't anything I did that made him stop talking to me, but I can't help but feel that it's my fault. How do I get my best friend back?", "summary": "My best friend left for college, got a girlfriend, and doesn't talk to me anymore. I don't know why. How do I get my best friend back?"}
{"id": "t3_l3lqo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can you move a thread to another subreddit where users were actively discussing but a mod disagreed?", "post": "We had a thread going on in AskReddit. We were discussing the possibility and the ways of asking Apple for a limited edition iPod with Steve Job silhouette in the apple logo. Unfortunately I did not frame it to say \"Discuss\" as some other \"thought provoking discussions\" like \"flattered for someone jerking off to you\" or \"Go Ahead reddit say it.\"\n\nAs a result, it sounded like a yes/no question and it was disabled after 500+ upvotes (sum total around 300), some very useful comments, some diverse views and some real discussion. Now I cannot send follow ups, discuss further or get views from other parts of the world that was sleeping for the 4-5 hrs the thread was active. \n\nThe thread or whatever is left of it is at \n\nI have tried to explain in a couple of comments what it is about. \n\nMod said I could move it to another subreddit. How can I save the context? DISCUSS. How can \"getting flattered for getting jerking off to\" help save the context. DISCUSS. Go ahead. Say it. DISCUSS.\n\n[I can understand yes/no questions like \"Do you Chipotle better than Qdoba?\" but killing something that was actively being discussed kind of defeats the purpose of a discussion group. DISCUSS.]", "summary": "Mods killed a very active discussion as it was framed incorrectly. Want to save the context. DISCUSS."}
{"id": "t3_3hb0c0", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Being interviewed by the same person from last time.", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nI've accepted an interview for a sales role at a corporate company that I applied for over a year ago. \nThough, I've just found that I'm being interviewed by the same HR Exec as last time.\nThe last interview didn't go well. It was awkward, short and my worst experience to date. I was given poor answers when I asked questions. We just didn't click. \n\n*Example question: What does the company offer for progression?* \n\n*Answer: You're free to do what you like. We're not chaining you here. -silence-*\n\nMaybe it was a bad day or maybe she just didn't like me. It was strange. I've been interviewed many times (usually by managers or directors), I always do the homework and find common ground with my interviewers; I've rarely been given negative feedback. \n\nEither way, I won't be reporting to her if I got the job - which I'm confident in getting. But is there any advice I could get in overcoming the HR hurdle?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Being interviewed by same HR person a year on. We didn't get on last time. Need advice on handling her 'style' and avoiding potential awkwardness if she remembers me."}
{"id": "t3_14uioq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was a moment where were you really proud of yourself?", "post": "When I was 14 my grandfather died. One of my cousins was scheduled to make a speech at his funeral and all of us grandsons got up on stage with him to back him up. After my cousin finished the speech my other cousin walked up to the front of the stage and started talking. The rest of us freaked out... DO WE HAVE TO TALK? I DIDNT PREPARE FOR THIS. Luckily right before I went up my cousin said \"I'm not very good at speeches so I love you grandpa, we will miss you.\" This gave me some confidence.. I can do better than that, right?\n\nI went up and gave a GREAT speech. I had people laughing, made people cry, I nailed it. As a 14 year old kid it felt great to honor my grandpa like that as well as see my dads face when I was up there doing such a great job. I received compliments from all of my family after my speech was over. It was one of my proudest moments.", "summary": "I delivered a kick ass speech at my Grandfathers funeral on the spot with no preparation."}
{"id": "t3_2pj5hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (25M) wants to move out of our apartment but stay with me (24F)", "post": "So my BF (25M) and I (24F) have been together for three years and we have been living together for about two years. \n\nEverything has been great, the relationship is fine. It's been convenient that we've lived together because his car had broken down and we have been fortunate enough to get by using only my car. He's able to walk to school and use my car to get to/from work. \n\nNow the opportunity for him to get a car has presented itself and he is considering moving back into his parent house to save money. He wants to stay together, but doesn't want the financial responsibility f living in an apartment. \n\nI'm devastated for multiple reasons. One being that he'd move out and I love having him around to come home to. And two, because although he doesn't pay much rent/utilities he does help out and the money he gives me every month definitely helps me get by. \n\nIn my eyes it seems selfish to move out when I know he'll just be over all \nthe time anyway like he was before he moved in. Except now he won't be \"living\" with me so won't have the financial burden. He says he wants to live with me but has to look out for his best interest. But what about mine? The biggest reason I'm still in this damn state is because I love my bf and want to stay until he done school so we could start our lives elsewhere. \n\nI've sacrificed a lot for him, and now I feel like he's just looking out for what's convenient for him. \n\nBarring the financial stuff it really hurts my feelings he'd want to move out in the first place. I feel like him moving out is like backtracking in a relationship. And I wonder if it will suffer because of it. \n\nI need help reddit. I am in a world of confused emotions and I dot know what to feel", "summary": "my boyfriend wants to move out for financial reasons, but wants to stay together. I might suffer financially if he does."}
{"id": "t3_2xiqwa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to recover for an all nighter, and prepare for another one very soon?", "post": "I have a very busy schedule this semester, so I've had 4 tests this past week, and another two tests in 4 days. \n\nI understand time management would have prevented this, but I felt overwhelmed and had a breakdown which wasted even more time.\n\nBack to the point:  I got about 3 hours of sleep and about 2 hour naps everyday for 5 continuous days because of a very hectic schedule this week.\n\nShould I listen to my body and not set any alarms, and just sleep until I naturally wake up? Or should I get 8 hours of sleep and drink coffee if I find myself getting tired (in order to maintain a structured sleep schedule)? I slept for about 15 hours today, which I could have used to study but I could hardly keep my eyes open.\n\nAlso, are there any huge health risks from this one week (first time I've ever done this) that I should worry about?\n\nThanks reddit.", "summary": "got about 3 hours of sleep a night for 5 days, should I let my body recover and just sleep until I wake up, or should I try to get back on a normal sleep schedule?"}
{"id": "t3_12rb7t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"No, no, no, I have a present for you.. and it is wrapped in meat.\" What have you overheard someone say to their SO?", "post": "So here I am on Megabus (which I highly recommend) on my way to Orlando, FL for a mate of mine's wedding when the gentleman in the next aisle over asks to use my cell phone to call his wife. No problem I hand it over, turn to face him, and get back to my word search. Next thing I know I hear \"no no no I have a present for *you* and its wrapped in meat.\" I stifle my laughter and decide to give him the benefit of the doubt, I don't know their lives, maybe he isn't talking about sex and/or jizz. Back to my word search I go. Then I hear him say \"no the first thing we are going to do is about two days worth of love making.\" Confirming my suspicions. Awesome. \n\nSo Reddit what crazy/funny (or sexy for that matter) things have you overheard someone saying to their SO?", "summary": "A man used my phone to foreplay his wife, remotely."}
{"id": "t3_2k9apw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Pennsylvania. Arrest record, \"not guilty\", question about background check for employment", "post": "Hi everyone. Keeping this as short as possible so no one can identify me.\n\nI'm hoping to get a new job in retail soon; I have been at my current retail job since July 2012. I was among a questionable group of people and was arrested for retail theft in April 2012, BEFORE starting my current job, and was found \"not guilty\" shortly afterwards (September, I believe?). I'm assuming that the arrest record did not show on the background check for my current retail job, but maybe I'm wrong.\n\nI'm wondering if the arrest will show in my background check for the new job. I was found not guilty, regardless, so I would assume it shouldn't actually matter, but I'm not sure.  I found this website  which seems to say, to me, that an arrest that DIDN'T result in a guilty conviction cannot be used to deny employment... but I don't know if I'm even interpreting this document correctly. If my prospective future employer suddenly tried to deny me employment after seeing my background check, would that be illegal? But of course, I have no idea if it'll even show on my background check at all, so maybe I'm getting ahead of myself.\n\nSorry I'm a little jumbled, I'm just really anxious about this. Thanks in advance for your help.", "summary": "Arrest in April 2012. Got current retail job in July 2012, assuming arrest record did not show on background check for that job, but not sure why. Was found \"not guilty.\" Looking to start new job next week, but they haven't done a background check yet. Not sure if arrest will show on background check in spite of not guilty verdict."}
{"id": "t3_24ebr4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (F,30) don't know what to do about ex-friend (F, 29) with addiction problems contacting me", "post": "I posted this in /r/askwomenadvice, but I thought it couldn't hurt to get more opinions.\n\nI'm having a hard time dealing with a few things (hurt from a break-up, terrible job situation, parents health deteriorating, blahblahblah) but to sum it up, I (F, 30) had to say buh-bye to a really close and important friendship (to a F, 29) almost a year ago.\n\nLong story-short, she has addiction issues, stole from me twice and took advantage of my trying to help over and over and over and over (yes, I take responsibility for enabling to a degree). Amongst other things.\n\nAnyway, after not having her in my life for a good 10 months, she e-mails me with the following:\n\n\"I just need you to know that I love you. And I am sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers continually.\"\n\nSo my question is, what the hell am I supposed to do with that? She's never taken responsibility for the constant lying, manipulating and stealing from me. Ever. And she blamed me when I would call her out for lying and blahblahblah (things addicts do).\n\nI still love her very much and would love nothing more than to see her clean and sober and taking responsibility for herself. I'd just like some opinions. And feel free to hit me with whatever you got. I can take it.", "summary": "old friend w/ addictions issues recently contacted me. What should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3kp8en", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Got rejected by a friend and now I'm making it weird.", "post": "Keeping this short (you can look in my post history if you want more details) a friend lead me on and then rejected me. Rather than be angry about it, I tried to forgive her and remain friends even though I still have feelings for her. She has a boyfriend now and I can't handle it this time. She always brings him up, even after I ask her not too, and it hurts. She has told me she has no interest anymore, and I keep coming back to try and change her mind. \n\nWe are stuck in this cycle of her telling me about her boyfriend, me getting upset and attacking her (just telling her how it was awful how she lead me  on and how she keeps rubbing him in my face) then me apologizing and her apologizing. \n\ncutting contact is kinda hard for me, I just need some help, advice tips? We work together so I constantly see her and it brings up feelings. we also are in the same friend group, so she is around at parties and such.", "summary": "Im messing up a failed relationship with my best friend. where do i draw the line."}
{"id": "t3_13ox2q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21M] My girlfriend only wants vanilla.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for more than a year now and we've tried a couple of things together. We're in a long distance relationship right now so we've been making due with skype and talking dirty. But the other day when I was talking dirty to her she told me 'no' to what I was saying and said she didn't want to do that anymore because of a video she watched -- even though it is something she likes to do -- and asked if we could not talk about any of this stuff and just do vanilla when we meet again. I found out that the video was of [Gail Dines] through some snooping. I feel like she thinks I'm some kind of monster that can't control himself or something and I can't understand why she wouldn't want to \ndo things that she's told me she enjoys. But I also know that I could easily be biased so I could really use some advice here. What do I do?", "summary": "GF watched an anti-porn video and now only wants vanilla. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3w58ra", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[WI] Conflicting driving license restrictions", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nI recently moved to Wisconsin from a different country and according to [this] I am allowed to drive up to an year on my foreign driving license. I wanted to get a local driving license and gave the written test. I passed and gave the road test today. Unfortunately I failed. \n\nThey gave me an Instruction Permit and asked me to come back next week. According to the Instruction Permit, I need a person with a regular driving license and atleast two years of driving experience to accompany me while I am driving.\n\nI could not find anything anywhere that says failing a road test will remove my driving privileges with the foreign driver's license. Am I correct in interpreting that I can drive alone for one year while holding an Instruction permit and giving the road tests to get my local license? I have my own car and insurance if that matters and I am also above 21 years of age.", "summary": "Have valid foreign drivers license which lets me drive alone and Instructional permit which does not. Which one applies?"}
{"id": "t3_24caom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26F] with my Bf [26 M] of a year and half. I'm terrified our relationship will end because he's asked me to be 100% responsible for our sex life.", "post": "We fell in love years ago as kids and after a decade of friendship we decided to give it a real go. I learned fairly quickly that he was not nearly as sexual as I am. This was a huge shock to me. Through the years we would flirt with each, send sexy texts and sometimes photos. He seemed to love it. He offered so many compliments and truly made me feel sexy. Now that we're together he has instigated sex twice. Of course we've talked about it but the conversation always ends with him asking me to do a better job turning him on. I'm getting exhausted and feel it's completely unfair to ask for one person to hold the weight in the relationship. Are we not adults?", "summary": "Finally ended up with my soul mate. Turns out a relationship to him requires me to do all the sexy work. Need help!"}
{"id": "t3_3fxyav", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Schoolgirl Revenge in the Underground", "post": "Story takes place many years ago. I was in line to refill my metro/underground pass on the way to school, when a nice gentleman asks me politely to hold his spot in line while he runs to get something. No problem! I can hear this grumpy-ass old fogey (in his 50s probably) behind me muttering under his breath. I am about to get to the refill machine when guy returns, takes back his spot I saved for him, and crotchety scabby mcscabs blows up; cursing and hollering.\n\nTurd-Breath: \"You can't cut in line *%&$*% stupid kid!\"\nMe: \"Actually, sir, he had been in line the whole time, I was saving his spot while he went to get something.\"\nTurd-Breath: \"Fuck you, I'm waiting here in line, if he leaves he has to go to the end of the line!\"\n\nOld-man then stomps around us in line and cuts in front of me and guy. Now, the way the vending machines work is that you put your monthly pass into a little slot on the machine, then pay using your credit card or whatever. So after he puts it there and starts pressing buttons, I stealthily step up behind him, grab his card from the slot and toss it over to the other side of the turnstyles without anyone but him seeing me. Mc-Nasty totally loses it and starts screaming and cursing at me. At this point everyone has noticed his screaming at a tiny schoolgirl, and a larger man in line tells him to back off while I just stand there smug. He tries to go get his pass; but the metro attendant tells him he has to buy a ticket to cross the turnstyles. The best part is, the ticket line is another SEPARATE LINEUP, so crusty-pants has to wait in line all over again to go get his pass, to wait in line again to re-fill it.", "summary": "I saved a spot for someone who was standing in line and politely asked me while he gets cash, grumpy man curses and screams and throws a tantrum, cutting us of; I toss his subway pass so he has to stand in line all over again to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_13lbuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) want to say goodbye to her (19f) and don't know how.", "post": "I met a girl 10 months ago on r4r. Good times, bad times, and okay times, and everything in between have been had. I love her with everything that I am and our relationship is wonderful. However I am not a good boyfriend, a good worker, or a good anything for that matter. She is everything that any person could ever want and I want to say goodbye so she can survive without this burden that is me. \n\nShe reads these forums and since I am a slight coward when it comes to goodbyes the impersonal post may be the best. \n\nI love you Sarah. Please continue being awesome.", "summary": "There is a large container of bleach and ammonia next to me and i'm fixing to go to sleep. This is my goodbye."}
{"id": "t3_3f7zfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 8 months, I'm having a problem with her believing and i don't know why", "post": "Hello Reddit. Thanks in advance for reading my post and thank you so much for answers. I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months and we love each other so much and i can't imagine myself without her.\n\nI'm not beliving in god, and she is christian. Her religion is not causing any trouble actually. She don't talk about it with me and she accept i don't believe. I can't really explain my problem. I just feel a bit scared about religions in general after watching movies and documentaries about religions and how they can in some cases be very bad. I know these movies is taken to the extreme, and that most religions are nice, but still they scared me because i'm for some reason generelising all religions which is totally wrong.\n\nNot only movies changed my mind, but also other people telling bad stories. I'm not as open-minded as i used to be. And i just want to be, i really wish i could just not think about it.\n\nEverytime i think about her believing i get a bad feeling inside. I have tried to talk with her about it, but it makes her sad. I know that Christian people are good people, and i really don't know why i feel this way. I want to be more open-minded. I want, but don't know how. How can i stop this bad feeling inside me?", "summary": "Having a bad feeling inside that i can't fully explain, because of my girlfriends belief. I want to be more open-minded and get this feeling away."}
{"id": "t3_12fsu0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your reaction if someone tells you you've failed an AIDS/HIV test?", "post": "This has been an ongoing logical argument about semantics for a while with a friend. I want Reddit's help to shed some light. We are aware that \"AIDS test\" isn't a term anyone would use, but we're dealing in hypotheticals.\n\nA friend approaches you and says that they've failed an HIV test. Does this indicate to you that they are HIV positive or negative?\n\nHere are the two sides.\n\n- The person is HIV negative. An academic test tests for correct answers to the questions. A pregnancy test tests to see whether or not you're pregnant. An HIV test tests whether or not the person has HIV. To fail an academic test means that you have not given the correct answers. To fail a pregnancy or HIV test, means that there was a failure to detect a pregnancy or HIV. An academic test is looking for presence of the right answers. If it does not find it, you fail. An HIV test is looking for presence of HIV. If it does not find it, you also fail.\n\n- The person is HIV positive. Failing an academic test is a negative scenario, therefore failing has the connotation of negativity. In the case of testing one for HIV, the negative scenario is to be HIV positive so if someone has failed their HIV test, they're positive for HIV. Conversely, passing a test is something that is positive so to pass an HIV test must be to be found HIV negative.\n\nWhat do you think? We're especially interested in the opinions of linguists and semanticists.", "summary": "My friend and I argue about stupid shit."}
{"id": "t3_3qyj8r", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(NOR)/(POL) Student from outside of the US looking for advice on how to get into personal finance.", "post": "Hello reddit.\nLong time lurker, never posted.\nI'm currently a student of a Polish university. Thanks to good grades I was allowed to move to Norway for a year and study here for a year, while still having the progress counted at my home university.\nComing from such a poor country, this is obviously a HUGE opportunity for me. I am getting sponsored by my university, my parents and I also found a part time job. I am also spending money only on surviving here in Norway (which is not that cheap).\nThe funds coming from my university and my parents cover pretty much all the expenses, and anything I earn on my part time job I can save.\nWould you please recommend me some reading materials/resources that I could use to learn to budget?\nI want to save as much money as possible, because my parents currently have a good financial situation but it could change any time. I would also like to be able to afford some expensive post-graduate studies after I come back to Poland.\nI looked through the wiki, but I mostly found stuff that is usable by people from the US.", "summary": "reading recommendations for a person outside the US trying to get into presonalfinance"}
{"id": "t3_40cfd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [19F] of a year and a half have found out she has gotten pregnant from when I came home from leave from the military.", "post": "I am in the Navy and stationed domestically, but several states away from home. I came home for a couple of weeks, had a lot of sex, and now she's pregnant (according to a test she bought).\n\nMy dad, my stepmom, their son (my half brother), and everyone they interact with dislike her for stupid reasons. My mother loves her to death.\n\nI am scared to tell my family. I am scared that my family will disown me. My dad's family has disowned his sister, and I am afraid that they might do the same to me one day.\n\nI am scared that I'll be like my mom and either become an alcoholic or leave my child. And it wouldn't be hard being so far away from home.\n\nI am scared that my girlfriend and I will grow up and hate each other or be forced into a marriage we're not ready to be in yet.\n\nI am scared I'll be a failure. I just got into the Navy, got into my first command recently, and I'm afraid my performance and everything will go to shit.\n\nI'm afraid I won't ever go to college and get a good job. I'm afraid that I'm leaving my girlfriend with a kid at home and she'll resent me for still being able to pursue my career and ambitions, and she's at home taking care of a baby instead of following her own dreams.\n\nI'm scared people will make fun of her for getting pregnant so young.\n\nI'm scared I won't be able to provide adequately or be a shitty father.\n\nI'm scared that I didn't realize I was so stupid and not careful.", "summary": "Got my girlfriend pregnant. A lot of my family dislikes her. Oh, and I'm in the Navy, which means she gets to deal with the pregnancy and baby while I'm away working and getting an education."}
{"id": "t3_3xs5uv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/f] with my ex-bf [25/m] should i go see him?", "post": "we broke up about a month ago and went no contact for a few weeks, until he messaged me to say he wanted to let me know how much he missed me. he also told me he had sex with someone else and it made him realize how much he treasured our time spent together. understandably it made me upset but i thought him reaching out could be the first step towards reconciliation. we made plans for me to visit him (part of the reason we broke up is because we were in a LDR), but on the night before i was to go, i brought up the girl he hooked up with, and what he expected for our future. he was confused about what he wanted but by the end of the conversation decided in the absolute we weren't getting back together. \n\nhowever, he called me this morning and asked me to come visit him after all, and that he didn't care what happened after, as in the emotional after-effects of seeing each other again.\n\ni get the sense he's using me to abate his own loneliness, but so am i. should i go see him?", "summary": "ex-bf wants me to visit him, but it's almost 99% positive we're not getting back together. should i still go?"}
{"id": "t3_31adnd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] friendships [22-28 M] seem to be waning and there doesn't seem to be much I can do about it.", "post": "Okay I will try to be suffice yet thorough. I have never posted on here before so hopefully its all in line. \n\nI have a handful of friendships that have lasted for more than a decade, being in my early twenties that's a big deal to me, as they always were really excellent. \n\nNow they are not. I am one of the only people amongst our old group that has a car, and we all live spread out over a city. Understandable that its more difficult for them to travel, but I have been the initiator of any time that we get together or hang out for years now. I have a key to some of my friends places, but when I stop by to hang out they tend to just work on their laptops. \n\nI am also one of the youngest amongst us. They are getting very into their work and are generally always busy. It's cool cause I want to see them succeed, but I never see my best friends anymore. I don't know what to do and I don't know how to really communicate my frustration to them without sounding like I'm complaining.", "summary": "Best friends don't seem to care to put effort towards friendship anymore"}
{"id": "t3_104631", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of you bought cars from Police Auctions? If so how was it?", "post": "I remember seeing a post a while ago about a fellow redditor buying a car from a police auction and finding a stash of cash in the air filter. But that got me thinking... Surely there is a catch to buying cars from a police auction, I mean there can't possibly just be cheap cars for sale. I had a couple of questions for any of you who have experience with these sort of auctions. \n\n Are cars usually in very bad shape?\n\nIf i wanted a specific car model / year how difficult would it be to find it?\n\nPercentage wise, how much cheaper can I find them?\n\nWhat sort of conditions are they usually in?\n\nWould I need someone who is very good with cars to come with me?\n\nWhat is the other side to the argument? Why shouldn't I buy a car from one of these auctions?", "summary": "Police auctions why / why not? What should I expect."}
{"id": "t3_137uxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, how do I (22F) stop my boyfriend (22M) of two years from determining my mood?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now, and a few months ago went through a wee hiccough. We're back together now and enjoy each other's company more than ever.. \n\nBut I can find myself falling back into the old routine of things. I'm obsessing over him and want to see him every day. If he's unavailable, I find myself getting really upset, and if he doesn't text back I feel really down. I DON'T WANT TO BE A STAGE FIVE CLINGER!!! (I don't tell him he makes me feel this way 'cos I know how irrational I'm being). On the other hand, when we're together and he's showing affection I feel like the luckiest girl on the planet..\n\nI know this is unhealthy, and I *do not* want to depend on him in this way.\n\nI want to know how I can break this habit; Reddit, can you help?", "summary": "Feel my moods depend entirely on how my boyfriend treats me, how do I break out of this habit and regain my independent emotions?"}
{"id": "t3_3u37tg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 5 years, Living together for 7 months;Am I being an asshole? **tl;dr**: Girlfriend's dad's visit is over, she won't cook dinner but has energy to go christmas shopping", "post": "So my GF's dad was in-town(he lives 8 hours away and visits 3-4x a year) this weekened and he stayed with us for 3-4 days. And her brother stayed with us too. Her brother lives 20-30 minutes away from us.\nHer dad went back home today and she is very bummed out. She's very close to her family, on top of that it is extremely emotionally taxing on her to be around her dad and brother.\n\nSo I understand that she feels sad/drained.\nShe didn't feel like cooking dinner today. At first I was fine with it, but then she started talking bad about herself, calling herself a 'lazy housewife' and I started to comfort her, saying \"baby you cook for us every day\" and she said \"no I don't\" and turns out she was right, she cooks dinner 3x a week. The rest of the days we are at my family's or we are eating take out. The thing is we live together, no kids. I work, and she doesn't work and takes care of our apartment.\nShe's currently looking for a job. Until then house duties are hers and work duties are mine.\nThis morning she told me she's going to go christmas shopping for her family, and I said \"you have energy to go christmas shopping but not make dinner?\" rather in a bit of a sharp tone, inquisitive and judgmental. And she got upset. She said I was right. But she didn't apologize, she was just angry and sad.\nMy family lives 30 minutes from me, I'm lucky that way. So I don't understand what she's going through. Yet I still feel this resentment that she's not making dinner and I don't know what to make of it. Yet I can see how going christmas shopping(she enjoys getting gifts for her family) would make her feel better today and that's what's important, that she feels better today. Am I being too aggressive? What should I or she do in this situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend's dad was in town, stayed with us for 3-4 days. He visits 3-4x a year. He left today and girlfriend very sad. Doesn't want to cook dinner. But has energy to go christmas shopping. It bothers me she doesn't have energy for dinner, I feel like I'm not cared about."}
{"id": "t3_t0y9e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Zombie Apocalypse! Reddit what do you do?", "post": "Scenario:\nThe zombies are killing everyone! It is only you and one person of your choosing left! You are stuck in a fortress in the middle of a large city. You are safe for 3 days while the fortress holds, but eventually it will give way to waves of the zombie flood!\n\nRules: \n1) The person can be real or fiction\n\n2) You can only choose 1 person\n\n3) Only you and said person are left on Earth\n\n4) You and said person each have only 1 weapon (assume you somehow have unlimited ammo/energy for said weapon) \n\n5) Like the other person, the weapons can be real or fictional.  \n\n6) There is no cure for the zombies\n\nExample:\nI would choose my sidekick to be Supergirl (because I think she's hotter than Wonder Woman and hey, SOMEBODY'S gotta repopulate the earth)! My weapon would be a fully functioning Iron Man \"Bleeding Edge\" armor (unlimited energy) and Supergirl can have a lightsaber (because why not?) and I believe her skin would be impervious to a human bite so she would be safe from infection. \n\nReddit, your turn. What's your ideal zombie ass-kicking duo? What is your weapon of choice? I've heard it all from Thor to Dolan (my dorm has some creative individuals) so let's see what Reddit's got!", "summary": "pick one person to help you, pick one weapon each, kill teh zombehs!"}
{"id": "t3_13yowo", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "A great prank for the food stealer", "post": "In the college dorms I had someone that would come into my room and dig through my roommate's drawers to eat his snacks. My roommate was mad but didn't know what to do about it.\n\nSo a buddy and I went to the corner store and bought chocolate laxatives. We melted the chocolate and then poured it into ice trays and put them in the freezer. Later that day, when the two chocolates were solid again, but in cube shaped form, we put them on a paper plate on my roommate's desk. We even used the chocolate to press down around the plate, creating the illusion that other chocolates were once there.\n\nLike clockwork, the punk came in and ate both chocolates. He had \"the worst shit for days\".", "summary": "Melt down chocolate laxative and freeze it to create candy, then watch dipshit steal and eat it"}
{"id": "t3_4nqlxp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I desperately want to leave my job. Looking for advice", "post": "Thank you in advance for anyone taking the time to read/reply to this. Last August, I (29M) started working full time after a LONG period of unemployment. Before that I worked freelance as a graphic/web designer and photographer but it wasn't enough to make a decent living. I own professional equipment and have 5 weddings under my belt, but my biggest problem is self-promotion and advertising (I'm not the most confident person when it comes to selling myself). At this new job, I'm working 40+ hours a week making $15/hr. The job is related to my field (graphic design), but it's not a creative position. I'm basically pumping out orders for this company based off of templates. The first few months were okay since I was learning new techniques and a new program, but now I feel like a robot and this place is sucking the life/energy out of me. There is no sick time, no personal time, the building itself is not well-maintained, and there is nowhere to move up in the company. The only thing keeping me going is the idea that it's not permanent. My plan was to make it a year at this place, save some money, and figure out the rest when the time came. I live with my SO and am lucky to have very low expenses (<$500/mo) I've managed to save around 15k in the time I've been there. I miss the freedom that came with freelance work, but having a steady paycheck is certainly nice. It's very tough to find a job in my area, so on one hand I feel lucky to be in the situation I'm in, but on the other I feel like I can do much better.", "summary": "I feel like I'm losing my mind working full time, I have marketable skills but no marketing skill, I'm torn on whether or not I should leave and pursue freelance work or stick it out as long as I possibly can.."}
{"id": "t3_23p062", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Career Advice: Take the job or move to dream location?", "post": "Long story short, I left my job 6 months ago to go travelling. I've done it, and it was great. It's now about time for me to head home. Before I received an email, I had my heart set on Denver. I've lived in a beach town all my life, sunny 320 days out of the year, but I LOVE cold weather. Denver seemed like the perfect mix of cold but nice weather as well.\n\nI've done a lot of research on it, and that is where I was set on going. A new sort of adventure, so to speak. Then I received an email, from my old boss who went to a new company to head a new division. My old boss was the bees knees. Always pushed me to do my best but let me relax, do my own thing, and we would shoot the shit every morning. Great guy.\n\nThe job offer is:\n$85k salary/3 weeks pto/4.5% match 401k/1% commission on net revenue/100% paid medical/dental/vision for any plan chosen\n\nI put that not to brag in any way, but more to show about what I'd be turning down. Additionally I would be the first strategic person in that position in this new division, which meant that everyone that came in after I would be training/managing eventually. I only have 3 years of legitimate job experience, and realistically 2 if you don't count my internship. It's doubtful I'd be able to pull this kind of an offer anywhere else, but my old boss is set on bringing me in at all costs.\n\nThe downside? It's in Costa Mesa, which is another beach town. It's not an ideal area in my mind, and it's all too familiar. Close to home, same weather, same beach town vibe, etc. I feel like it would be settling and I'd get bored of the area. But the job is a tremendous opportunity, and it feels stupid to turn it down because I think Denver is this dream place of mine (and no it has nothing to do with marijuana legalization).  \n\nWhat should I do? I've got a couple weeks to decide.", "summary": "Really good job offer in not the place I had my mind set on going"}
{"id": "t3_11hwjk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm naturally lazy, how do I get motivated to work?", "post": "I'm a self taught programmer, never finished college because I'm lazy at school. I don't feel studying back then because I think it won't do me any good with my chosen career (I was taking up library science but really like programming anyway)\n\nNow I'm working as a web developer. And often time I just spend my time playing console games or play league of legends or browse reddit instead of working. I just don't feel working. It's not that I hate work, as a matter of fact I think I have the best boss in the world. The pay is good. All the good things actually. But I dont know why Im lazy.\n\nReddit, how do I get motivated at work?", "summary": "college d.o, self taught programmer, working now as a web dev, plays video games instead of work, please help me become motivated."}
{"id": "t3_15gyu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M19 unsure on whether to stay with GF18 or not", "post": "Ok so here it goes:\n\nIm currently in England visiting my family and i've been texting my girlfriend of 1 year. I just am not sure if i want to stay in this relationship or not. I thought I decided to break up with her yesterday, but now i am having second thoughts, and it really bugs me! When we have no problems, things are great and fun. But we havent really had any of this time in the last few months. She is sad often and we argue about random little things. Im going to fly back in a few hours and talk to her, and i think im going to break up with her. So I guess my question is, how have you decided that you will break up and where you always determined to do so? Was anyone in a situation similar to mine? Thank you for you time and help!", "summary": "unsure on breaking up with girlfriend or not, was sure to break up but now having second thoughts."}
{"id": "t3_snjnc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Im a chubby chaser, and i feel conflicted.", "post": "I am a 19 yr old skinny white male who has always been attracted to heavier women for as long as i can remember.  Im wouldn't describe myself as a shallow person, I don't care about sex and physical appearance plays a small role in intimacy for me, but I cannot deny my strong romantic biased towards BBWs. \n       About 75% of the time, I'm perfectly fine by this, sometimes, even proud, but it seems that every so often I find myself hung up over it. For one, it always puts substantial pressure on all of my relationships.  Its hard to date someone when you adore and love something about themselves that they don't like, or are uncomfortable with.  Now, I wouldn't want to pressure a girl into being a certain way just to suite my preferences, quite the opposite in fact, but whenever they tell me that they are trying to loose weight, I always feel that i have to isolate a particular part of myself, as if I have to deny part of who I am.  \n       Thats another thing, alot of the time I feel guilty about my desires.  When you think about it, Im attractive to something that is unhealthy and self destructive.  I can often ignore that by telling myself that its better to live a shorter life having fun and doing whatever you want than living a longer life but having to take time and energy trying to be healthy. However, that defense doesn't hold up too well when my girlfriend kindly reminds me that the longer she stays alive, the longer she gets to stay with me.  \n          It kills me inside every time I walk into a store and see magazine after magazine urging women that in order to look sexy, they have to loose body fat.  I hate how I can't watch TV without a commercial coming up that reminds me how wrong I am.  My friends are always supportive, but when it boils down to dating, it irritates me to no end pouring my heart and soul into a girl, trying to convince her that she is beautiful the way she is only to have her deny my endeavors.", "summary": "I guess that what I am trying to say is that I am uncomfortable with who I am, and Im not sure what to do with myself.  Any advice or input that anyone would like to give out?  Ill answer any questions if that would help."}
{"id": "t3_jzwi6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I tell her?", "post": "Hi Reddit.  Let me begin my question with a story.  I apologize that I am skimping on details, but I dont want anybody to find out who I am.  Anyway, I met this girl last summer in South America.  (We are both from the US).  From the second I met her, I immediately thought that I had never seen anyone as gorgeous as she was.  I'll spare you the gooey details, but just assume that I became immediately crazy about her.  We became really close while we were there, but our vacation ended with an abrupt halt after two and a half weeks.  I was madly distraught on the plane flight home, and was a wreck for weeks over how much I missed her, and how sad I was that I never really told her how I felt.  I told some of my friends, and they all said that I would get over her in due time.  Well, it has been over a year, I haven't seen her in person the whole time, and I'm still as, if not more, crazy about her.  The only times I really get to talk to her are our rare Skype \"dates,\" but other than that, nothing.  We were so close in South America, but I don't know if she still feels the same way that I do.  How do I tell someone I haven't seen in over a year that I am still crazy about them?", "summary": "Crazy in love with this girl, haven't seen her in a year, how do I tell her I still have feelings for her?"}
{"id": "t3_2r6p9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of two years is moving across the country for the summer.", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief. We live on the east coast and are both college students at schools 3 hours apart. We manage to see each other almost every weekend. Our parents' houses are coincidentally close, so we see each other just about every day over school breaks.\n\nMy boyfriend recently accepted a 3-month summer internship on the west coast. It's a great opportunity and I'm very proud of him, but I am deeply dreading the three months we'll be apart.\n\nMy boyfriend has suggested that I come with him. I'd be happy to do this if I had something to do. I've looked around for internships in my field (I'm pre-med) and my options are extremely limited.\n\nShould I go with the hopes that I could find a part time job? Or should I go and just entertain myself during the days? Or are these both terrible ideas? Any advice you have would be very appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend is moving for the summer. I'm not sure if I should go with him or not."}
{"id": "t3_11sfr0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just missed my first chance at a foursome by breaking up with my girlfriend. Reddit, what are your regrets?", "post": "A little background information.\n\nI had been dating my ex for about a month when I started getting bored with the relationship. I didn't necessarily hate her, I just found her personality to dull and predictable. I decided it was time to break things off and move on. It was at this time that I told my buddy, let's call him Mark, a little idea I had thought of. A foursome. I had fully expected him to freak out, but he instead agreed that it would be a good idea. You see, Mark's girlfriend and my ex are best friends. Mark and I are pretty close, too. Mark told me his girlfriend would have been down for it as well. The only person left was my ex, who i had just broken up with. Thus began my self hatred for being such an idiot and not asking them sooner. Now i regret not pushing the relationship a bit further for a bit longer.", "summary": "I could've had a foursome, couldn't because of my stupidity, and now i regret it."}
{"id": "t3_31jfz9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking moral high ground and cock-blocking myself.", "post": "Fuck up occurred last year. I was texting two girls I worked with. One (girl A): a high school crush, two (girl B): the spiciest of Mexican girl I have ever met. Girl B conversation went like this: \"hey wanna hang out? I'm not doing anything and my shit boyfriend is ignoring me again. Want me to come over\"? Of course I say the smoothest of smooth lines, \"are you sure? I don't want you to get in any trouble.\" Her response was something like, \"are you sure? I could use one of your famous back rubs I've heard so much about ;)\". Me being the best at making the best of good situations already I say \"I don't know. I guess you can.\" I get no response after this. Girl A actually comes over that night after some correspondence and gives me every hint towards fucking I have ever imagined and here's where I finally capitalize! I let the most silent and most deadly fart out ever. She left soon after the movie we were watching in my bed was over.", "summary": "I am a self-loathing cock-block apparently."}
{"id": "t3_5355nq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my partner [36 M] 5 yrs, kinda bored, are we settling?", "post": "So we've been together for a bit and we're solid house partners and friends. No drama, v. little fighting. We split housework and financial responsibilities. We're both gainfully employed, me teaching middle school, him teaching college. The small tussles we get into are pretty easily managed--usually just grumpy sniping at one another, pretty infrequent. \n\nSounds perfect, right? We've been talking about kids-- I'm at the age where I kinda need to fish or cut bait. I'm into it, but not, like, chomping at the bit. \n\nHere's the thing. We're not very, well, INTO each other. We had constant sex when we were first together and now it's infrequent-- though still good when it happens. We spend a lot of free time doing things separately, and sometimes it feels like we're just roommates-with-occasional-benefits. I grew up with parents who were relentlessly practical about relationships and I feel like I've kind of settled into their pattern.\n\nWhen we talk about kids, sometimes there's this little tiny voice that kind of goes, \"Um, do you really want to be in this relationship forever?\" I'm the sort that becomes more like the person I'm with than I think is good for me-- being with him is drama-free, but it's also pretty sedentary and not very spontaneous. I had two awesome, adventurous parents and I loved my childhood. I worry that we're sort of bad influences on each other. Also, the thought of co-parenting with an ex sounds awful (no offense to folks who are divorced or had divorced parents).\n\nAm I crazy to complain? At my age, shouldn't I be happy to be with a drama-free friend who's also a good partner? Or if I go into it bored, will it get worse?", "summary": "Partner and I have a \"slowing\" effect on each other, though we're solid partners otherwise. Thinking of kids and wondering if it's a good match for the future."}
{"id": "t3_24rlqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] just started talking to a girl [20 F] that I've known for awhile. We started chatting on FB and said we should be friends, but I'm attracted to her.", "post": "So I've \"known\" this girl since like middle school, but we never talked until I started messaging her on Facebook recently. I would just spark up short conversations here and there asking her questions about our common career path of nursing.\n\nHowever, last night I actually felt like our conversation was more than what it usually is. The feeling became more friendly and informal. We talked longer than usual too and even agreed literally at one point that we should \"be friends\" and \"hangout.\" I told her we should even get lunch at one point.\n\nHere's the thing, I've been single for 2 years now and I'm a bit attracted to her. I like the idea of being platonic friends at first but I have a feeling I will unconsciously do something that will give her signals of my attraction toward her. I've been contemplating whether or not I should pay for our first lunch as well. I don't want to creep her off, so I'm not sure what I should do? Should I strictly keep it platonic? Won't this automatically friend-zone me if I ever want to start something in the future with her?", "summary": "Want to be friends with recent girl I started talking to on Facebook, but I'm attracted to her. Keep it strictly platonic or make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_2n2vu5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my SO [24M] he's not ready to say I love you, how long should I wait?", "post": "My SO and I got together just over a year ago. We met at my friend Katie's party and instantly hit it off. We talked all night, played beer bong together and he walked me home at the end of the night where he kissed me and got my number. After about two months of dating we became an official couple. We have a lot in common, get on really well and our sex life is amazing. I thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. \n\nSince then we've had some amazing times and very few bad times. We don't argue all that often and when we do we resolve it quickly. I have been bursting for ages to tell him that I love him and last week I finally decided to bite the bullet and go for it. His response was not quite what I expected. He looked extremely taken aback and simply answered \"okay\". I asked him if he felt the same and he said he didn't. I reassured him that it was okay and we have been pretty good ever since. He apologised for not being able to say it and said he might be able to someday but he didn't know.\n\nSince then everything has been normal but I still haven't fully gotten over it. I don't think I showed him how upset I was. I can't quite understand how he can't love me after this length of time. In my mind we're moving past the brand-new head-over-heels stage into a more comfortable stage. So I don't understand how he could not have felt it by now. I'm starting to think that I should break up with him over this or at least set a time limit for myself that he should do it by then. That doesn't feel very romantic though. On the other hand I don't know if I'm overreacting and if it's normal to not be in love by now. \n\nReddit, please help. I don't want to lose this guy coz he's awesome but I feel like maybe we're not going anywhere if he doesn't feel like he loves me by now.", "summary": "boyfriend is not ready to say I love you. Not sure whether to stay or leave"}
{"id": "t3_w6zvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some help: GF is mad at me because I told her that something she did in bed didn't feel good. She's barely talking to me now, what do I do?", "post": "I'm 22, and so is she. We've been dating for about a month now. She was doing something with her hands while giving me head and I told her that it didn't feel good. She got really upset and left my house. \n\nLater that day, I was talking to a friend of my and vaguely described the situation. She said that it was understandable that my girlfriend got mad, and in retrospect I understand now too.\n\nLast night, I was talking over the situation with my girlfriend over the phone and told her that I was talking to a friend of mine about it. She is now madder than ever and doesn't want to talk to me.\n\nShe's upset that I'm not going out of my way to correct the situation, but I honestly haven't been doing much thinking about it.", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't good at giving head, got mad because I told her, now doesn't want to talk to me because I talked to a friend about it."}
{"id": "t3_1cyd80", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "So I accepted a position, knowing I might be changing my mind...", "post": "I'm soon to graduate, and have had a few interviews with companies all in rapid succession. All have gone well. I got an offer on one very quickly, and feel very confident about the other two. \nThe one I got an offer on is basically my backup plan. It'd be a fun position, but it's lower pay than what the other jobs would be, fairly significantly (10-15k, if not more). I delayed them as long as I could; I was told by one to expect an answer within 2 weeks, and 2 1/2 weeks later, I've heard nothing (contacting their HR recruiter after the 2 week mark just got me the answer that \"they're still deciding\"). \nI can't afford to be unemployed on graduation, so I went ahead and accepted the position on the last day I was given to make the decision; I stalled them as long as I could knowing it wasn't my first choice. I also know I can't count on the other two jobs coming through. That said, if either of the other two come through, I'll almost certainly tell the company I accepted an offer from that I changed my mind and take the other offer.\nHow badly would this be burning a bridge? Are there other potential negative repurcussions that I'm not considering? I really didn't want to do it, but, from my POV, I didn't have much of a choice if I was going to make sure I had a job lined up.", "summary": "I felt forced into accepting my backup plan position, knowing I'll be \"changing my mind\" if I get another offer I'm expecting. Am I shooting myself in the foot here?"}
{"id": "t3_2qvzkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] can't let go of my ex [24F] of 1.5 years and I need to", "post": "My ex left me in July of 2013 after a two year long relationship that was absolutely wonderful. The ending came out of nowhere and I never really got a satisfactory answer for why she ended it. Anyway, it was extremely painful and my family and friends were very supportive and eventually I thought I was getting over her. She was never really gone from my mind, but she had faded to the background. \n\nI pursued a couple other girls, went on a few dates, but none of them really worked out. That didn't really bother me, I was honestly having fun being single and saw myself becoming a better person in a lot of different aspects. She had helped me to break out of my shell but it took us breaking up for the changes to really take effect and I was loving it. \n\nWe have zero contact. I saw her once since the breakup at a mutual friends party. Yet, one day a few months ago for no reason at all, I woke up with the realization that I am still very much in love with her and want her back. I thought it would go away, but she's still in the front of my mind. The worst part is, there's no hope that I can see of us getting back together as she has enlisted in the Air Force and is leaving in late January. \n\nI really don't know what to do. This feeling is just eating away at me and I can't get it to stop. I've gone from being happy and getting used to being without her, to now being miserable again and wanting her back. I don't know what advice you can give me, but please help me. I don't want to feel like this anymore.", "summary": "I'm still in love with my ex and don't want to be anymore"}
{"id": "t3_10rjpb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What types of things can we do together?(20/m&f 3.5+ years)", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for almost four years now. We've been really really great since getting back together- we've actually been better than ever. But let's cut to the chase. We don't have a lot of hobbies we can partake in together. We usually smoke a little bit, watch some things on Netflix, browse reddit, go out to eat sometimes, we hike occasionally... He tends to feel very dragged down by excessive sitting around a lot- I'm very complacent, I could be fine doing almost anything really. Our problem, though, is that neither of us have a lot of money to spend seeing as we're both trying to save up and we're unsure of what things we can do together. \nI'm really terrible with hand eye coordination and thus tend to suck hard at video games or things like that. I'm also not terribly talented at athletics for similar reasons. Any sort of suggestions would be much appreciated.", "summary": "We're great we just need more things to do together. I suck with things requiring hand eye coordination and atheltics."}
{"id": "t3_2weufp", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "What could be causing this 'Phantom Smoke' smell?", "post": "Age: 18 Sex: Male\n\nDuration: Half a year more or less\n\nI've been smelling smoke that isn't there for a while now. I can never seem to pinpoint a cause or even a correlation. It just comes and goes randomly. They're very brief smells, but they can be very strong.\n\nI got it checked out by a GP in November last year, who then recommended I go see an ENT. ENT isn't free until January.\n\nFast forward to January, I see the ENT. He checks my ears, nose, and throat. He cleaned my ears, and stuck a thing (don't know what it's called) up my nostrils to check for tumors in the nasal passage. Everything was clear, and he figures it might be a damaged nerve. He said that it might fix itself in time. Which didn't make sense to me since the smells have gotten more frequent and stronger, yet still random.\n\nTells me to get a CT scan done just to be sure there are no tumors. Got the CT scan done, fast forward a week or so, got a call from the ENT and says that it's all clear. No tumors.\n\nNo tumors is great, but surely there's a definitive answer as to what is causing these phantom smells, right?\n\nI've read up about migraine auras and how they usually come before a migraine, but I ruled that out since I don't get migraines after the smell happens.", "summary": "I've been smelling phantom smoke (smells kind of like cigarettes), go to ENT and then get CT scan, no tumors. Can't figure out could be causing this."}
{"id": "t3_gaa2z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I convince my fiance that losing weight requires more than just cutting out Mountain Dew?", "post": "I love my fiance with all my heart, but I won't sugar coat it: She is visibly overweight.\n\nLately, she received a wakeup call of sorts in the form of her wedding dress. She was no longer able to fit into the dress that had previously fit like a glove. In addition to a few inches, she gained another D in bra size (that last part isn't really a problem in my opinion... but still).\n\nShe had been drinking, for quite a long time, 1 - 3 Mountain Dews a day. She decided to stop this to try and lose weight. I have been very proud of her control in the face of headaches and fatigue. \n\nTonight, while I was awake and reading, she came back from a nighttime bathroom trip... having finished a funsize chocolate bar, with another one open and being eaten. This angered me more than I could express as she threw the wrapper on me and passed out again.\n\nI was so livid with anger that I couldn't concentrate on Reddit. I was so mad that she would be so... so *fucking stupid and naive*. She *really thinks she doesn't have to do shit else??* She was asleep. In my anger, I stormed into the kitchen, threw away the remaining funsize candy and poured the remaining pop into some rum on ice, because DAMN did I need a stiff drink.\n\nI thought that her cutting soda would be a segue into a long-term commitment to her health. It dawned on me that was *fucking wrong*. She thinks cutting pop is all she needs to do. She hasn't changed her level of activity, nor has she made any effort to charge her diet or eating habits. We still eat like shit every night for dinner. \n\nShe's a very sensitive person. How can I make her realize that I want her, for her own health and confidence, to make a meaningful, long-term commitment to be healthier and genuinely make an effort to change her habits?", "summary": "My overweight fiance is trying to lose weight by cutting out pop, but she compulsively ate a chocolate bar when she got up for a midnight pee. I'm so fucking angry. How do I make her realize that actual effort is required?"}
{"id": "t3_140i9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 29 year old boyfriend lives at home", "post": "My boyfriend (29) and I (28F) have been together for about 7 months. We have a really great relationship and have many things in common except for one...I have my own place and he lives with his mother. \nBefore we made our relationship official, I did bring up his living situation and he told me he only moved back to her house a year ago after he and his long term ex broke up. He told me that he's saving money and plans on getting his own place soon. That was over 7 months ago. \nI've never seen him look for a place or a room mate or even mention it. I also have doubts that he's saving money because he waits tables and talks about being low on money. \n\nNOW, so you don't think I'm being a shallow, bitchy girlfriend, I do want to add some of his backstory...\nI know that he can get a better job than the serving position he has at a restaurant. He was in the Air Force for 4 years and decided not to reenlist. I don't blame him for that because he saw a lot of fucked up things while he was deployed. He now has the opportunity get paid to go to school (with the GI bill) or he could get a contracting job that pays well.  \nAm I in the wrong for wanting him to use his full potential? I feel like he is so unmotivated but I don't want to offend or nag him about it...he's pretty sensitive. I could easily see myself marrying this guy but this is definitely something to think about for our future.", "summary": "My 29 year old boyfriend lives with his mother, although he has opportunities to find a better job and get his own place. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1fy3yb", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog training from start to end", "post": "So next month probably i am going to get a puppy labrador, and i would need some help for you guys.\n\nBefore this, i had Cocker Spaniel and we did shitty job \"training\" him. We haven't taught him a single thing, he didn't had any behavior problems, the only thing is that he was the pack leader, and if we let him off the lead, he would \"run\" away,  so as leader he wanted to follow him. If we tried to call him back, he wouldn't listen since he was the pack leader. Other think is he didn't knew how to behave when he was on lead, so the was pulling, and if i tried to ride bicycle with him on chain, he would go in front of the wheel. \n\nSo with next pup i wouldn't like to teach basic things (sit, come,  fetch, lead behavior, when he is off lead to follow me). I have started fetching kikopup's videos, but to apply what she is teaching, i need first somewhere  to start and learn the basics and ways to teach the dogs what i want.", "summary": "I need some help starting the training, it would be better if they were videos that show some examples."}
{"id": "t3_3hmg2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] friend [24 M] has not responded to me in 2 weeks.", "post": "A little background information. Him and I went to high school together, he had and still has a huge crush on me but our relationship is non-romantic. We have been friends for 7 years. He is usuallyy the one to try and get into contact with me over long periods of time (longest was 2 years of no communicating) but we have remained friends. We have long conversations and I do my best to not lead him on or show him that our relationship is anything but friendship. He has said that regardless of that fact he still want to be friends with me. (I just wanted to throw that in so you don't think I'm purposely giving him false hope)\n\nI moved two provinces over (I live in Canada) and got married to my husband. We have been here for 3 years now, however my [24 M] friend has still kept in contact with me. We usually interact over Skype or through", "summary": "Should I just say something and how?"}
{"id": "t3_2pp03p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by knocking out a disabled kid.", "post": "So this was actually a while ago. On this fateful day it was a beautiful February morning and I was almost done with my year 9 rugby season. We had already won the championship but we decided to play a friendly match against our rivals. I went into the game as team captain full of happiness that I got to play rugby on that fine day. This team happened to have one player that looked a little off... He just looked like he had gotten a lot of concussions and I thought nothing of it. As the match progresses the game gets dirtier and dirtier. Their are fists flying and a lot of sneaky shit. The kid with a lot of concussions was booting me while I was on the ground so I get up and put all my weight behind a rocky balboa style punch and I knock the kid out. The whole pitch goes silent. There was no whistle buy everyone just stopped. I knew what I had was wrong but I was mad. I get carded and go off to the sidelines. By this time the kid had woken up and was crying on his way off, a very angry looking man is charging towards me at a beastly speed. I get the biggest chew out of my life and I find something out... He has cerebral palsy... I did end up going and apologizing were now friends but that damn silence still haunts me.", "summary": "Played in a rugby match, punched a kid with cerebral palsy and knocked him out"}
{"id": "t3_m9ogr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst stretch of time for you?", "post": "This is mine\n\nSo back on valentines day of this past year my grandfather passed away from multiple problems, the worst being some time of cancer. About a four days later I find out that my dad was is in the hospital, at the time I thought it was nothing seeing that my dad had anxiety problems because he always worried. But two days later I found out he that he actually had stage four lung cancer. At the the time I was devastated because this is my dad and stage four is pretty much the worst thing that could happen. My family still had faith and we thought he could make it with prayer. We tried to be positive so that summer we continued our plan to go to Yellowstone. But as time went on things got worst. I knew things were getting worst and the date was closing in on my twin brother and my birthday, and things just weren't feeling great. I had this weird feeling that something bad would happen on my twin brother and my birthday. On our birthday  my dad came up to the hospital at our college to see what he could to do to help himself survive, but things went from bad to worst. We sat on our birthday in a hospital room as our dad was dying. But the one thing he was abel to do was sing to us happy birthday and this was the best experience of my life (No matter how long I live it will be the greatest day of my life). Later that night our mom took him off of life support and let him die at 12:30am. So my dad was 30 mins away from dying on my birthday.\n\nI know alot of people have dealt with worst problems. I still feel like nothing is worst than losing your dad pretty, much on you're  21 birthday, it also felt like I barley knew him because I wasn't around with him enough to really know him. I know I love him but I feel like people should know this story . I just want 2011 to end now!", "summary": "my dad died 30 mins after my twin and my birthday."}
{"id": "t3_2pk785", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] want my fiancee [22F] of two years to get a job or at least look into studying, but when I bring it up she tells me I'm harassing her.", "post": "We are broke and living with my parents, not paying board or doing anything for them except odd jobs. I am almost finished a useless uni degree that mainly taught me not to trust universities to provide useful or relevant education, and I will have to go back to study to get a useful degree and job. \n\nShe has no motivation to study or seek work and whenever I get close to that topic she gets instantly stressed, acts defensive (I do way more than play video games all day! Sometimes I clean) and tells me I'm harrassing her. I'm always gentle and never accuse her of anything so I don't see why she reacts so badly, or how I can possibly help it. \n\nI don't know what to do. I don't want to change her but we have no money and we both need to work to pay off her loan. I do the cooking and the majority of the housework. \n\nWhen we first met she was working crazy hours and preparing to enter the police force, studying Criminology. She even took on a second job for a little extra cash. Before that, she worked to support herself out of school and lived out of home. Now that I'm looking after her, it's like she doesn't even have the motivation to leave the house. She never goes out with friends and needs constant entertainment (tv series or video games), even when she goes to bed for the night.\n\nIt's likely she's on the spectrum somewhere if that makes things clearer.", "summary": "My fiancee has no motivation in life and reacts badly when I bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_4cqljd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend texts women inapropriately. Need some advice", "post": "So I've been a long time reddit stalker, but I've never posted before. I need some advice about my relationship though, so I thought I'd try here. Im a 34 yo woman. My boyfriend also 34 and is constantly texting women, in my opinion, inapropriately.  \n\nThis includes old and new friends, coworkers, etc.  For instance, a girl he works with sent him a text with info, his reply? Thanks sexy. She asked if they could talk about something, he replied, \"sure, can't wait to hear your voice and your idea\". He texted an old friend the other day, \" just thinking about you, I used to be so into you back in the day.\" They had some benign banter back and forth, she texted later and asked what he was doing, he anwsered, \"missing you\". \n\nWhen I confront him about this he says I'm being ridiculous, this is just how he communicates, it's harmless, he does not want to cheat on me with these women, blah, blah, blah. Early in our relationship we had an issue with him sexting ex's and having an online dating account too.\n\n He says he loves me, yada, yada. Can I trust him? Is this harmless? I would love another man's insight, because he claims all guys do this and I'm being silly for caring and I need to be more confident and trust him. Any insight would be appreciated.", "summary": "boyfriend sends ambiguous texts to women, should I worry?"}
{"id": "t3_vtrk0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To those of you currently struggling with an /r/aww addiction, and those of you in recovery, is this how you got hooked?", "post": "Keep in mind, that i only found reddit about two weeks ago (the eternal war thing brought me, and i've been trapped here ever since). Up until two days ago i was raging to myself about having to sift through all these damn cats and \"karma machines\" on the front page, thinking to myself \"what's the deal with all the cats?  You gotta be some kinda nut to post a picture of a cat.\"\n\n...and now here i am with this post... \n\ni'm browsing the front page, see a post with a picture about a cat eating through the bag to get at the food,  and immediately my brain goes: \"Hey, we've got a picture of our wife's cat doing something like that, we should post it!\"\n\nBased on the sheer volume of /r/aww posts, i have rationalised that this kind of behaviour is more habit forming than smoking or crack or heroine.  i don't even like cats:  the little bastard my wife had, used to piss in my shoes.  Ever put your foot into cold cat piss first thing in the morning, half awake cause you slept in, and already late for work?  No sir, i don't like 'em.\n\n\"Best we don't play with fire, kid.\" i tells my brain, and i put the idea aside, and go about my business.\n\nThat was yesterday. \n\nToday i am apparently STILL thinking about this damn picture, and i gotta ask, is this how you got hooked? \n\nWhat kind of warning signs should i look for in myself and others, that they may be at risk of doing /r/aww, or may have already developed a problem with /r/aww?\n\nWhat kind of supports and treatments are available for those addicted to /r/aww? Is there a twelve step program?", "summary": "saw post from /r/aww about a cat doing something, reminded of wife's cat doing something similar, shares unrelated cat piss anecdote (f u cat!) ,  asks questions about addiction."}
{"id": "t3_3gwfjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my \"friend\" [21 M] of a few months, are in a confusing position, advice?", "post": "Your thoughts on this please, im super confused!!!! \n  \n  Female here.    \n  \nA guy asked for my number not too long ago, we got to talking, and got along amazingly. He told me upfront he'd like to get into a relationship, but I froze up and said no, and although I do have feelings for him, I told him I didn't.  \n  \nWe're very very different people. Im very goal/results oriented, have huge ambitions that i'm working towards, care about my health and fitness, etc. He on the other hand dosent do much besides hanging out with his friends and getting high. He did repeatedly mention that he plans to change. Also in terms of physical attraction, I literally feel differently about him every day. Some days I feel the attraction and other days Im like nooope. \n   \nProblem is after I told him no, i've been having huge doubts and im wondering if i should take back what i said. I do miss talking to him and that feeling, but I dont wanna be unfair. I dont know whether I miss that he made me feel special/wanted or that I actually miss HIM. Its been on my mind non-stop.  \n  \nSo.. what do you think I should do?", "summary": "idk if i actually like this guy or i like the attention he gives me"}
{"id": "t3_xjrg5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Conflicted.", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI am a 30/m and I've been in a relationship for 6 years with a girl younger than me, but not by much. I love her. She is the most pure, kind person I'll ever meet. She understands me, I understand her and we have always considered each other soul mates. I am very, very lucky.\n\nWhat brings me here, then?\n\nLast weekend, I went out for afternoon drinks with some friends. They all left quite early in the evening and I decided to stay out drinking on my own. Not usual for me at all but I've been feeling a bit jaded in general lately.\n\nI ended up meeting a girl at one bar I went to and I felt that same damn spark I haven't felt in a long time. She knew about my relationship from the start and nothing physical happened between us. We just spent hours talking and going from bar to bar with some of her friends. The subtext wasn't as innocent however.\n\nIn addition to a good dose of well-deserved guilt, I am now completely conflicted. Everything I thought I knew isn't. Or, I was in denial and the truth just hit me in the face. Or, nothing much happened but I was so drunk it seemed amazing. I'm not sure what to believe.\n\nThis girl gave me her number, \"if ever things should change\". I threw it out in a panic when I got home and the trash had gone when I went back to get it. Part of me is happy about that. Part of me really wants it back even though I'm not sure what I'd do with it.\n\nI don't necessarily want a relationship with this other girl. I *really* don't want to end my current relationship. All I know is I would like that feeling of excitement in my life more often.\n\nCan anyone offer some advice?", "summary": "I'm with someone I love but I met someone new and I had a lot of fun and want it to continue."}
{"id": "t3_2iby26", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Why doesn't he pay for anything?", "post": "I've been seeing this guy, it's been a little over a month. I really like his personality and being around him. And he likes me.The one issue I'm having is he never pays for the date or treats me. \n\nThe first date and meeting for the first time, we grabbed a few drinks. The bill was a little over $30. When the server placed the bill on the table I waited 10 seconds to see if I'd grab it but he didn't. So I asked \"so how are we doing this?\" And he said \" we're splitting it of course.\" Then said something about feminism and don't expect a women can't fend for herself\" and we went Dutch.\n\n2nd date was unplanned. He asked if I had any plans which I didn't have any plans. He said why don't you grab some groceries and I cook. I bought groceries, $20, and he made an amazing dinner. He's an amazing cook.  But again I paid for the bill. \n\n3rd date, it was a few days after my birthday. I really wanted to make sangria. We went out to get supplies I paid for all off it, about $30.\n\n4th date, we went to a random show afterwards we went to a bar with all his friend. I was getting myself a drink and he came up for and asked for a drink. There was a card minimum, so I didn't mind I encouraged it I could never drink that much. Then afterwards, I just wanted to catch a cab and he said \" that's on you but next time it's on me.\"", "summary": "So far I've paid for every date except the one time split the bill. I didn't mind paying those time, they weren't expensive and I had the money. It's just annoying, if you like me don't you wanna treat me to something? I'm not asking for something expensive but a little thought. He's older than me by 5 years and has a 'real' job. I don't know his financial situation though. While I'm in school and only work part time."}
{"id": "t3_32tmdf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU My English Presentation", "post": "Background: Over the past week in my Junior American Literature class my partner and I were supposed to give a presentation on the Green Berets. So I went to work on it and I wanted to make it funny so I googled some funny videos, to engage the class. Good Idea right, we though it was. We found these two videos\n\nThen we asked if we could play [this video] to our English teacher, who is usually lenient with this sort of stuff, but he said a very clear NO.\n\nOur English teacher is also having a baby, so he was on the phone with his wife in the beginning of class every day making sure that she was okay. He wasn't in a particularly good mood after we asked him about the rap battle video. He thought that was our only video, it wasn't...\n\n[We started our power point] as planned we then decided to play [the first video](\n\nWe almost finished it but then our teacher mede us stop and it messed up our whole presentation, he deducted points and didn't say a word for the rest of the class.", "summary": "We played [This Video] in American Lit as an opener for a presentation and it didn't end well."}
{"id": "t3_39jb7q", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(KS) Video without consent on youtube, reuploaded with a blurred face", "post": "Okay, so my younger brothers were out and about when they passed some teenagers who yelled obscenities at them. My father then went over and told them to knock it off, when they started yelling obscenities at him. My dad, with a small amount of temper, got angry and yelled at them. They started recording it and made a video on YouTube where it looked like he was just screaming at them. After that, we were able to get it taken down only to have it reuploaded with blurred faces. We have in no way given consent to be in this video. Is there any way we can get them to take it doen?", "summary": "My brothers were harassed by teenagers and then my father went to the teenagers and they uploaded a video of him making him look like a bad guy. Is there any way for it to be taken down, even it they blurred his face?"}
{"id": "t3_o91nf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Just starting, trying to stay positive..", "post": "Hello all!\n\nSo my weight as of late has gotten pretty high. Im 5'9\" and Im at 280 and its really driving me crazy. As of the past week I started doing the elliptical every day. Started at 15 minute sessions, then going to 30 pushups (3 sets of 10) and same for sit ups. Ive worked up to 30 min elliptical and 5 sets of 10 of pushups and situps. What else I can I do to burn some fat? Im tracking/logging meals throughout the day and not breaking 2,000 calories each day which feels right. I guess im getting a bit impatient but I guess i have to keep adding more time to my elliptical and do more and more on the ground with pushups and situps. Any thoughts on this? All are welcome!", "summary": "What else can I do besides elliptical (adding time day after day) and situps and pushups? I dont have free weights or elastic bands or anything."}
{"id": "t3_19d74p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 f] with extreme anxiety having difficulty with affection with boyfriend [26 m].", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and have a very strong relationship. He is very supportive and knows of my mental health issues, including a lot of issues with depression and anxiety. \n\nFor many reasons which I don't feel like getting into, my anxiety is out of control lately. Like, I can barely eat, butterflies in my stomach, miserable and feeling like I'm going to scream. I haven't been seeing my boyfriend much actually because I've been so busy with work (part of my reason for the anxiety.) Anyway. \n\nThe times that I do get to see him, he is very much excited to see me; we have always had a VERY affectionate/playful relationship where he will do stuff like say \"Give me a kiss!\" and then I do and then he's like \"nope I need another one!\" or will kiss my head ten times really fast. \n\nHowever, when I am anxious, this kind of physical affection makes my anxiety worse. I don't know why because you think it would be the opposite but it makes me feel suffocated and like I'm going to freak out at him, and I don't want to do that obviously. Does anyone have advice for how to explain this to him without offending him or ways to calm myself? \n\n[", "summary": "Bad anxiety worsened by affection from boyfriend.]"}
{"id": "t3_lq80i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Quick Reddit, I need your help for my wife's birthday tomorrow!", "post": "So my wife is 25 tomorrow (Oct 27), and her family used to make her birthday signs around the house when she was a kid so that when she awoke, there would be messages everywhere saying happy birthday and other really cheesy stuff.\n\nThis year I am going to do the same thing only have some of her favorite tv show characters on them and the messages would each be in that said character's persona.\n\nSo I'm asking for help writing these quick messages.\nFor example, I plan on putting Neil Patrick Harris' face on a paper on the fridge with the caption of something like, \"This birthday is going to be Legen...wait for it\"  Then on the milk in the fridge another page that says, \"...Dary!\" (or dairy, w/e).\n\nAnother character would be **Sheldon** from Big Bang Theory.\nI need help writing a birthday message in his persona.  Since those characters talk with such scientific verbiage, I thought there'd have to be someone out there on Reddit with a Chemisty or Physics degree or whatever that could come up with something like this.  Maybe the sign could be talking about the combustion of oxygen molecules to make the flame on candles or whatever.  \n\nHere are some other characters I need help writing messages with:\n\n**Phil/Luke** from *Modern Family* (both characters are pretty interchangeable really)\n\n**Charlie** from *It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia*\n\n**Buster** from *Arrested Development*\n\n**Chang** from *Community*\n\n**Taco or Ruxin** from *The League*\n\n**Some Housewife** from *Those stupid real housewives shows*\n\nAny help is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Basically writing birthday card messages in the style of tv show characters."}
{"id": "t3_4kc9t0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) with my GF (22F). I was a drunk dickhead and want to make it up to her.", "post": "So I went to work drinks last night and ended up getting blackout drunk then catching a taxi home. \n\nI came home to my wonderful gf in that state, (we just moved in together) and proceeded to vomit on our couch, one of her blankets and the carpet. She tells me I was acting like a real jerk to her too.\n\nSo this saint of a woman proceeds to clean up my mess and goes to stay with her friend for the night. She is staying at her mothers tonight too as she doesn't feel ready to come home.\n\nI want to know how best to make it up to her.\n\nQuitting drinking is a must, that's not even a question in my mind at this point. Not a single drop as I clearly can't handle it.\n\nI have replaced the blanket I ruined and apologised (albeit via text which doesn't really count).\n\nDoes anybody have ideas on how I can make it up to her? She deserves far better than that and I want to show her, not just tell her I'm sorry.\n\nThanks all.", "summary": "Was a drunken asshole to my wonderful GF and want to make it up to her."}
{"id": "t3_1wj6um", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[m/37] love girlfriends son, but not yet GF [f/34]", "post": "I've been dating this girl for the last year or so, and she is hot, funny, and very good to me. We always have fun when we hang out, and I know she loves me, but I still don't love her. However, I love her seven year old son Max. I probably spend more time with him when I go over to her place than I spend time with her. I always miss playing with him much more than I miss her. He's like my own son now.\n\nThe other day my GF told me she wants to move to the UK to start a PHD program in May. She hinted that if things were a bit more serious between us she would stay. I can't bare the thought of not seeing max again, so I thought about popping the question. However, I know I'm doing it mostly because I love Max, and not so much his mother. I love him so much, even his mother gets jealous sometimes. She even asked me who I love more, her or Max.\n\nIn my mind, She would be a great wife, and Max would become my son, so what else do I need, even if I don't love her yet? Maybe she'll grow on me.", "summary": "I love my GF's son and want to marry her because of him."}
{"id": "t3_qo830", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most awkward conversation/situation you've been in which suprisingly wasn't that awkward? I'll start.", "post": "I was visiting grandma in Florida with a friend for a few days. Grandma's BF/Companion is now in assisted living. She was telling us how he told her to get rid of a few things in her drawer as well as some stuff from his apt. What was it? Bags and bags of porn. She explains how he begged her to bring some videos and watch it with him in assisted living. She declined. She told us she wanted to throw it all away but was afraid of getting caught (she said there's too many to fit in the garbage). My friend and I told her we'd properly dispose of the x-rated content for her. She lead us in the direction of a couple of the bags (the rest were in storage). As she hands over the bag she starts taking out videos and reading the titles going \"I don't know what to do with all these there's so many\". Then she kept saying \"I think one of them is famous, Deepthroat something...something with Deepthroat, uhh Deepthroat something\" Alright Grandma stop saying that!\n\nI chucked the cassette tapes and looked through the DVDs. Interesting stuff for such an old man. For reference, I'm a twenty-something year old.", "summary": "Grandma gave me lots and lots of porn to dispose of...really not as awkward as you'd imagine"}
{"id": "t3_2pclv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] girlfriend [18 F] of 3 months was manipulated into breaking up with me. Advice needed.", "post": "Before my girlfriend and I started dating she (in her words, kinda) liked a guy named Bill. Her and Bill never worked out due to age differences of what I am understanding.  I start dating her shortly after and things seemed to be going smoothly.\n\nFast forward 3 months, she tells me that she wants to break up. She says that our relationship isn't as close as she would want and doesn't feel connected. She also tells me that she has been feeling this way for 2 weeks. I respond by telling her to think about it (since this type of situation can be worked out) and if she still feels the same way I'm not going to be angry or anything about her breaking up with me. I completely felt at fault and tried to think about when I was being distant with her.\n\nThe next day I talk to her the story COMPLETELY changes. This time she tells me that Bill told her that our relationship is flawed and we seem distant (we all work at the same place.) He apparently convinced her that I was not right for her.  She also tells me that he ended up kissing her about a week before this.  She also adds that she started to like him during this same time frame. She emphasizes that she fell for me though and truly does not want to break up. \n\nI was more upset that she wouldn't tell me that she had any issues with our relationship and instead bypassed communicating with me just to break up.\n\nShe tells me that she isn't talking to Bill anymore and, again, that she fell for me.  \n\nI'm a not very knowledgeable when it comes to relationships but I personally feel that if she can't voice her problems to me, there is probably a problem.  I also feel that if she can be this easily manipulated, there also might be a problem.\n\nOn one hand I want to give her the benefit of the doubt because I truly do enjoy spending time with her. But on the other hand this type of situation could've easily been avoided with some common sense to just talk to me.\n\nI would love to hear any thoughts because at this point I'm just trying my best to figure out the best solution.", "summary": "Girlfriend breaks up with me.  Turns out she was manipulated by her (slight) crush.  No idea were to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_2vxuq0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by finding out i was hooking up with a girl that has a boyfriend.", "post": "So I've been hookin up with this girl at work for a solid two months, it started out just like a random night of after work shenanigans and, at least for me it grew into some feelings which i never usually have.\n\nShe had mention once a \"boyfriend\" that never showed up in any of our subsequent conversations so i assumed it may have been an ex or a soon to be ex.\n\nSo while i was on vacation abroad for 3 weeks i had dreams about her, bought her a present and even thought about asking her to be my girlfriend,finally i come back and i feel she is acting a bit weird.\n\nI asked her out for this valentines weekend, which i don't really care for, but its my first weekend back, she says she is already committed for the both saturday and sunday... I'm like ok something is not right here and i start asking around some of our friends in common, it turns out she does still have a boyfriend that she never bothered to mention and here i am like a moron on valentines givin a shit about it.", "summary": "I'm a side hoe that just found out he is no the main hoe."}
{"id": "t3_1jv6un", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Gee, thanks for inviting me.", "post": "I invited this girl to a theme park with me. Things got a bit strange there, as we held hands together and she grabbed me and hugged me on a couple of rides. After the theme park she goes, \"omg thanks for the best theme park trip ever <3 :).\" The next day she asked me to go to some youth thing her church is having. I said sure and she went on and on about how \"this meant a whole lot to her\" and how \"we're gonna have a great time :).\" I thought it was gonna be fun too, but at the actual thing she left me alone to my own devices, with total strangers (I wasn't sure about going for THIS EXACT REASON.) The next day was worse... She brought another guy with her and not only did she ignore me and ditch me again, she started getting all touchy-feely with this guy. Gee, I can see how much my presence means to her... I know we aren't actually dating yet or anything but man, that sucked big time to see her like that. I am contemplating not going anymore (its a week-long event) but the discussions and \"sermons\" are actually enlightening and to not go would basically ignore the teachings of said sermons - but I don't know if I really would enjoy seeing her like this and what effect it will have on my feelings in the long run (so far I feel hurt and neglected...)", "summary": "girl invites me to something she ditches me at; forgets I'm a human being at one point or another."}
{"id": "t3_4pgzu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25 M] am completely infatuated with my Co-worker[48 F] who is married with children around my age. How do I deal?", "post": "I, a 25 year old male, and my 48 year old female co-worker have been working together for a little over a year and a half. During that time, we have gotten to known each other pretty well; so much so that we are pretty open about sharing personal information about our lives.\n\nAs a side note before I go on, this is the first real time that I've had this close of a relationship with someone who is old enough to be my mother (as I implied in the title), let alone being attracted to them sexually and emotionally. She has been married to her husband for nearly 30 happy years from what I gather. So, I know this is wrong but I cant help myself from thinking about her.\n\nShe literally consumes my thoughts to the point where I day dream about her; heck, I even get jealous when I see her talking to another guy; I know that this is irrational behavior and I catch myself doing it but I honestly cant help myself. All in all, I feel like I'm going mad\n\nAnyway, me and her get along great. She has a wonderful sense of humor and we share some of the same interests such as fitness and music. Also, she is a very kind person and is very genuine.  We have both admitted to each other that we both find each other attractive however that came out naturally during the flow of conversation so I don't think she suspects anything. Nor, do I think she reciprocates the feelings I have for her.\n\nFurthermore, She doesn't seem like the type that would ever be unfaithful to her husband nor would I want her to be but that doesn't really alleviate any of my attraction to her. I know that this is completely wrong and I'm not sure how to proceed.\n\nSo my question is how should proceed to deal with this? I don't think I can admit to her my feelings because that would obviously cause a number of problems in the work place. I honestly feel like a creep and a scoundrel. Advice people of reddit?", "summary": "I (25 M) have a massive crush on a co-worker (48 F) who is old enough to be my mother and has been happily married for nearly 30 years and I doubt she feels the same but I cant stop thinking about and I know that all my feelings are terribly wrong but nonetheless here I am. How do I go about this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4b6dzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20sm] ended things mutually with a [20sF] and am beginning to regret it.", "post": "I recently ended a relationship amicably with a girl who i was seeing for a few months. She had recently been needing more attention than i could give her due to work and i felt like i had no time for my friends. If i made plans with friends and didn't see her for a while but still went and saw my friends over her she would get upset. We both decided we should probably stop sleeping together and just remain friends. \n\nAn example of things i felt were too needy: she would text me throughout the day and say she misses me. I would say i miss her too. She'd be upset of i didn't qualify that with an amount like ' miss you tons'. I'm a firefighter so some messages I'd be sending between calls with little time. I explained this to her and she'd briefly relent but it would come back. \n\nAnother example: she wanted to see me on most of my days off. If i made other plans or didn't see her for 3 or 4 days she became extremely upset. Sometimes i wanted to use my days off with friends or family. I work 24 hours at a time so my days off come in clusters and i have to work around other peoples schedule. \n\nThis was my first attempt at a relationship. I instantly felt loss and longing to see her again even though i had just felt like she wasn't giving me enough space. Am i making a mistake or are these feelings normal?", "summary": "amicable breakup. Girl wanted more attention, guy wanted more space. Guy wondering if he made a mistake."}
{"id": "t3_415sv6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I could write well, fast.", "post": "Well, thought I'd end up here eventually, but I wish it was another way but this.  \n  \nI've been working all day on a scholarship for a school I'm applying to: I took a gap year last year, and I've been working all year in the hope that it'd make it easier to go to school, what with me being in the economic dumps. So I opened up the online page to apply to this scholarship, and got deep into working on it, at the beginning of this week. It had a whole lots of stuff I needed to fill out, and three essays. I got most of the other stuff done this week, but I set aside today, where I wasn't actually at work for once, to get these essays done. By just a few hours ago, I was nearly done, and I felt really good about the essays, just smashing them into the form on the website. I was really excited! I called my S.O. and told them we could do something tonight because I'd be done with my essays, grabbed a handful of goldfish, and set about to finish the essay. 45 minutes later, bam, I was done, and I smashed the submit button on the form, which... logged me out. Huh, that wasn't supposed to happen. Oh well, I'd just log back in again, because I'd hit the little save button on the site a thousand times over the course of the day. I'd be fine.  \n  \nTurns out that was a total lie. Every letter of those essays are gone, and it's due tonight. I called my S.O. to cancel, and tried to keep from crying on the phone. This scholarship was practically everything I could have wanted (it was practically full tuition, plus a stipend and everything), and now I don't know if I'll even be able to finish in time. I've also been having a nervous breakdown, so before you yell at me to get back to work, I'm venting here to keep myself from hurling myself bodily out a window. Then I'm going to work like a crazy person until 11:59:59 tonight. Wish me luck, Reddit.", "summary": "I forgot that technology is a bitch, didn't save my essays, now I'm paying for it.  "}
{"id": "t3_1sk28x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] loaned my sister [21/F] money, instead of paying me back she got me an expensive gift.", "post": "I loaned my sister $200 because her pay from the military was delayed when all that was happening a little while ago.   \n\nOn Black Friday she called me and let me know she just got me a really great gift. I told her I didn't know what I was getting her, but not to spend a lot, and she said \"Oh you don't have to get me anything else, you've already got me something. Don't worry, the gift is worth the money\" or something like that, saying she spent the same amount that I spent on her.\n\nIt's conflicted me ever since and I don't know what to do- $200 is a lot of money for one Christmas gift, as that is what I was planning to spend on my family altogether. But also, $200 is a lot to spend on ME. I never told her it was a gift, and we talked about when she would pay me back at the time I loaned her the money.\n\nShould I say something? Ask her to return it? Are Black Friday deals returnable?", "summary": "Instead of paying me back $200, my sister bought me a $200 Christmas gift and I don't what to say without hurting her."}
{"id": "t3_2pk5vy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So [18 M] has fallen for[20 F] ,however, while seemingly possible she is definitely too good for him.", "post": "I work with a girl who is 2 years my senior and she is perfect. I as a person do not look for hook-ups, I look for people I could possible spend my life with and this girl I know fits the bill wonderfully.We both like playing games, watch the same type of things on TV, and just in general have a large amount in common. I also believe she may like me, I mean, she smiles with me, talks with me often, and in some cases even makes an effort to be around me. Sounds all well and good ,but not really. \n \n\nThe downside to this whole situation is me. I mean this girl has almost been around the world, knows another language, has goals and solid interests that she works at, has friends she can be around, and even goes to school and does pretty fucking well...but me... While she is living I am just killing time.\n\nWhile she has all of this stuff going on. I have not desire to really go to school because I have not drive or ambition to go, All my dreams and goals are iffy and always end at a wall,  I haven't been very much anywhere aside from a bad trip to mexico, I haven't had a friend worth shit in years and so I spend most of my waking moments alone in a repetitive cycle, I only know English and what fragments of any other language I know won't get me anywhere. The way I see it...if anything were to even happen I would just be a weight, a burden.\n\n So this brings me here, what do you guys think? Should I just enjoy the friendship and drop the feelings? Is there a way I could maybe become someone more suitable for someone of her stature? Any nudge in the right direction is welcome. Even if you were to say just stop because this isn't a battle you can win.", "summary": "Guy meets girl, Guy likes girl, Good chance girl may like guy, Guy finds out girl is oh so much more than he could imagine, Guy learns he is not close to being able to compete, Guy believes girl is too good for him, Guy asks for help."}
{"id": "t3_4ksfm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] My [19M] friend [21F] has been in an abusive relationship for 3 years. She says she refuses to leave or support him.", "post": "Well, this is a two part question. One: I would like to ask people who have been in abusive relationships that defended their abusers, why? As well as specific advice.\n\nI'll make this as simple as possible. My friend told me that after 5 months of dating her boyfriend, he began being emotionally anusive, and first hit her about a year later.\n\nThey have been dating for three years and she just told me this a couple weeks ago. You'd think she was coming to ask for help, but she said she \"just wanted to tell someone\". She also told me in this same conversation that she not only wont leave him, but that she's began liking the abuse (mostly the controlling/emotional abuse, she says she feels like he cares more than other boyfriends), but that she also gets a sexual thrill from him hitting her.\n\nTo clarify, she does not want a BDSM relationship, she said that safe words and such would \"take the fun out of it\". She also said that if I told anyone, she would vehemently deny it and would call me a liar. \n\nI honestly don't know what to do here. She clearly doesn't want help and will 100% refuse it, but I feel like I can't just leave her like this.", "summary": "My friend has normalized, and now likes the abuse her boyfriend gives her."}
{"id": "t3_2ral00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my best friend [18F] she's wanting to get back with an ex, unsure how to react?", "post": "I'll start with the basics. Me and my best friend (Call her Rose from now on) have been really close friends since September now. Several people have even assumed us as being in a relationship before we are that close.\n\nShe started going out with a pretty good guy in October, it was long distance though and just didn't work out so she broke up with him before New Year. \n\nHardly a week later she gets a message from one of her ex's who she went out with before me and Rose met. From what she has told me she was really happy with him. He was great in many ways for her, they had good chemistry basically. But he dumped her after 9 months because they hadn't had sex yet. Rose told me that had he waited she feels like they would still be together even now. She clearly really likes this guy still and I want her to be happy.\n\nBut I can't shake off this feeling that he's a scumbag. I just think it's despicable to dump someone just because they want to wait a bit longer before they're comfortable to have sex. Surely if you really cared about them and not just about the sex you'd wait a bit?\n\nFor a bit of context this is the UK, so legal age is 16 and they were 16/17 at the time of their relationship.\n\nSo what should I do? I want her to be happy, but I think getting back together with this guy, even if she was in a very happy relationship with him previously, is the wrong thing for her to do.", "summary": "Best friend started talking with ex who dumped her for not having sex, she wants to get back with him. How to react?"}
{"id": "t3_4rk73g", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "People trespassed into yard and sprayed extremely potent pesticides", "post": "This morning I went outside with my dog into my backyard and quickly noticed numerous insects on their backs, half-alive, and writhing in pain. I was immediately taken aback and searched around my entire yard for more clues. What once was a bug-friendly ecosystem filled with a healthy and diverse population of insects was now a graveyard. From spiders, to beetles, to pill bugs, and more we're all strewn amongst the yard and dead or nearly there. I did not find a living thing left! Apart from shock, I felt terrible for the suffering insects -- just horrible. I don't know what potent poison indiscriminately kills every living thing, but I am livid that it's now in my yard.\n\nI come to find out from my brother that some people came in the middle of the day yesterday with gas masks and sprayed the whole yard! First, we never use any pesticides, insecticides, or even weed killer. Second, we have a dog that likes to spend time outside chewing on sticks. We've kept him inside, but he spent hours this morning playing with sticks and laying in the grass. Not to mention, he was outside just last night! There was no sign or notice of their activity, which is also extremely troublesome and unprofessional (if it's a case of a mistaken address, which is my best guess). \n\nAnyways, I was hoping for some advice on what I could do to hold whomever did this accountable. My brother didn't see the company that did this, but I will ask neighbors. Also, I've called the town and they stated they don't do such things and recommended I call the police. \n\nAlso, is there anyway to possible salvage any life left in the yard and protect my dog? I gave him a bath and will be fastidiously watching him, but can I possible spray the whole yard in water to protect him for the future? Would 24 hours after the event do anything to lessen the potency of this insecticide?", "summary": "People mistakenly sprayed pesticides in my yard and now everything is dead :("}
{"id": "t3_j4pcm", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Anyone have any advice on how to get my terrier to stop being a douche to other dogs?", "post": "I have a four year old Cairn Terrier, and for the first year and a half of his life, he was perfectly fine around other dogs. I would even have friends bring their dogs into my house, and he would be fine. I went back to school for my senior year of college, and when I came home for break, my mother explained that he just growls and snaps at other dogs whenever he sees them.\n\nHe seems to be fine with dogs his own breed and even terriers around the same size, but having him lunge at a random dog across the street when I walk him is something I can't deal with anymore. On top of that, I was hoping to be able to get another rescue, but obviously I can't do that until he calms the hell down. I've started being more forceful about establishing myself as Alpha and making sure he walks correctly on lead, and have even gotten him to stop barking on the few occasions we run into dogs on his walks by focusing his attention on me. I'm just looking for more advice on how to do this. He was completely fine before, and I'm hoping to help him get to that point again, but I have no idea how to start.", "summary": "My dog freaks the hell out whenever he sees another dog. How do I get him to not have the urge to growl and attack?"}
{"id": "t3_ftjz0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am leaving home to go to college soon and don't know how to deal with it.  Help?", "post": "I am going to attend the University of Texas next year, which is a good three hours from my hometown of Houston.  I've forgotten how to make friends, as I haven't had to do it since 6th grade.  I don't know how to do my own laundry, cook, or do anything involving living on my own.  Any helpful tips in these areas would be...helpful.  However, my primary concern lies in my relationship with my girlfriend.  Yeah, I know, HEY EVERYBODY THIS GUY HAS A GIRLFRIEND and all of that stuff.  But the main problem is, she's going to Texas State, not UT, which is a good 40 minutes to an hour away, and she is the only one with the car.  Now I love her to death, and she loves me too (otherwise we wouldn't have been dating the last two years and such), but I am worried about our relationship.  We go to different high schools now, but I still see her at least two or three times a week.  Going to different colleges, I am not sure that we will see each other nearly that much without her sacrificing her life at school to come to Austin to see me.  I feel that every time we bring up the topic, the outlook is bleaker and bleaker.  I just really don't know how to handle the whole situation.  I want to stay together more than anything in the world, but I really don't want her to sacrifice her social life or college experience either.  People of Reddit, what should I do?  As I said before, and help would be very....helpful.", "summary": "going to college, need tips.  More importantly, what to do about gf going to college an hour away."}
{"id": "t3_u7794", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ive messed up big time with my boyfriend.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. I'm 14, hes 13 (only 8 months apart). We've gotten into little arguments sometimes but I was always there to try to help straighten things out again. From December to February, he got really depressed. I'm not in the best mental condition myself, but I helped him and it seemed he got more stable. \nRecently, as in last night, I messed up big time. I had made a promise to him in October that I would never cut myself again. For those of you who think I'm stupid for this, let me explain. I am not in the best of mental health. We can all thank my ex boyfriend and parents for this. Whenever I go off in my mind, I need something to bring me back. \nOften my cat chooses this time to bother me, or I just dig my nails into my arm. But this time I went overboard. I broke a promise to him and now I'm afraid that hes going to leave me for someone who he can trust. I cant blame him really, but I'm so scared of losing him. Please help me. I don't know what to do. Hes so pissed at me and I have no idea what to do or say. Please help guys. Do you know how I can get him to not be so pissed at me? Every bit of advice helps.", "summary": "I broke a promise and my boyfriend is pissed off at me and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1e57sm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Crushing on friend's(who was a FWB) best friend.", "post": "So I met this girl about half a year ago. We got along great. On the third or fourth time hanging out we had sex, I lost my virginity to her. We dated for a little while 1-2 dates. But we established that we're just friends. We did have sex a few more times after that, but have stopped (been a month or 6 weeks or so) \n\nWell I've been crushing on her friend, like I just think about her all different hours of the day. I asked my friend about three months ago if she would be okay with me dating her best friend. She got upset, but she knew I wasn't hers, and did get over it. But she said she would be okay with it, so long as she didn't hear/know about it. Well last night me and her best friend hung out last night. Actually it was the three of us, and she left, leaving me and her friend at the hookah bar together. We just chilled and talked. It was really great, she seemed to have been enjoying herself quite a bit. I feel like its the wrong thing to do, to want her. But I know myself to an extent. And I don't crush like this over any girl. She is someone special, not like she means the world to me, but she did get me to feel about her like most girls don't do. Is dating her wrong? Should I talk to someone about this? Talk to one, or both friends about this? This girl has been on my mind for months, I don't think her place there is going anywhere. Should I suppress my feelings?", "summary": "Lost virginity to friend, had sex a few times, never had anything serious with her. Interested in dating her best friend. Asking for advice or just a voice that can relate."}
{"id": "t3_27lvw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BREAKUP - I[20] just broke up with my boyfriend[20] of 2 years who I live with.", "post": "Things have been rocky recently and it's gotten to the point we can't stand each other. I still love him but I can't love how is now. \n\nWhat do I do now? He will most likely keep living with me as he does not have any transportation to work and his work is a 5 minute walk from the house. He can not move back in with his parents because work. We share a room and bed and sleeping on the couch is not an option. \n\nHow do I cut him out of my life but still living with him? I'm torn on whether or not to take our prom pictures down and to delete him from fb, skype, etc. \n\nI do hope our relationship will change, but I do not expect that for months, if it ever happens. I do not want another relationship, I do not want to \"find other fish\", I just want to be independent for myself. If he changes that's great and if not I do not want to dwell on it. Do I keep our facebook relationship status? I know it's petty but it bothers me having it still on and it bothers me even more the thought of it off because I do have hopes for us to later down the road work it out. \n\nI want to be independent instead of trying to force this relationship and wasting so much emotion and energy on it.", "summary": "I need some guidance. Living with my ex and wanting to move on without completely burning our bridges?"}
{"id": "t3_yr5ub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I learned English because I had to go to the bathroom during class. What is the most random way your life changed?", "post": "In first grade, I had to go to the bathroom while the teacher was reading a story in English. Not wanting to interrupt her, I waited until she took a pause to ask. However, I raised my hand right when she asked for volunteers to read, and being a SAP I just went along with it. Since I never gave it an effort before, my teacher was excited that I had volunteered, since I had never read or spoken in English before. After that day, she gave me workbooks and extra assignments to help me learn quicker, and I haven't looked back since.", "summary": "Had to piss, new 1st language."}
{"id": "t3_2n9l6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [22m] should i tell my friend how i feel [22f] (shes in a relationship :( )", "post": "so yeah, im not great at writing about the feels, so sorry if this is a mess.\nbut my best and really my only friend is already in a relationship, and i have no intention of splitting them up, thats not what im here for, not asking for advice on how to get with her. \nthe situation is, her and her boyfriend have been going out for a while, but they are long distance, only seeing each other every 2-3 weeks for a night, me and her live together with 2 other people in student halls, and we spend a lot of time together. \n\nbut i have started to like her as a lot more than just a friend, she has no idea (really), she's very flirty with me and quite touchy feely, without really realising it. and its getting a bit much for me, i have not had a GF for a while and spending a lot of time with her and really liking her is really getting me down knowing nothing will ever happen between us. \nI've been thinking about telling her for a while, but im afraid of losing her as a friend if i do. \ni kn ow the easy answer sounds like i should just tell her and im seeing if theres any other option.", "summary": "girl i like already in a relationship, spends more time with me than her BF because of long distance, quite flirty with me, doesn't know i like her in that way, want to tell her, but don't want to lose my only real friend here. what to do."}
{"id": "t3_29tg3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend broke up with me recently after 14 months in a long distance relationship.", "post": "So I initially met her online and well.. she was my first girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend. She lives in Spain and im here in the UK.\n\n She would occasionally make me brilliant pieces of artworks for my birthday, the distance strained us but we would keep texting, and voice chatting like nothing would ever separate us two.\n\n For the last few months she has been saving up money to visit me and I have long been awaiting the moment to meet her but recently she told me she no longer loves me enough to carry this on, and yes, there is someone else out there that happens to be better than me. She has agreed to stay friends but I miss the attention and care she once showed me. \n\nThis is the end of my first relationship with someone who had the exact same interests as me. Im now lost and I just need some advice or help getting over this.\nP.S Thanks for reading to this point", "summary": "my first girlfriend broke up with me recently, and im need of advice"}
{"id": "t3_mxjah", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to look into some education options for system administrators.  Can someone elaborate on my options for me?", "post": "A little bit of background for you.  I graduated with a bachelor's in technical writing but did tech support for Dell for about a year before getting into my tech writing gig.  I've always been the guy that is never sure what his strengths are, or what he wants to do for the rest of his life.  I know I love computers and after transferring out of my tech writing position into a sales position, I know that I want out.\n\nI have the option of going back to my old job, but even then I don't really see myself there long-term.  I am looking at some AA degrees from my local community college.  \n\nIn case you are still with me, here is my dilemma.  I know I am a professional adult who is employable, but I don't know which field really interests me.  The available tracks are: cisco and telecommunications, Microsoft certified systems engineer, unix/linux system administration.  Unix/Linux admin & MCSE interests me more than Cisco.  I'm very interested working in a Windows environment (but that is probably just because what I am used to... I rarely use linux).\n\nThoughts? Advice? All is appreciated.", "summary": "i want the education to become a system admin, but I have no idea what I want to do.  Seeking advice to diagnose my strengths/interests in an effort to launch myself into a new career."}
{"id": "t3_44zgli", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(16M) wait till my procedure is over or ask the girl(16F) now?", "post": "So im a 16yr old sophomore in high school and I have this physical problem that I hide from people. I was born with it and couldn't do anything to change it.(my chest looks weird, it sticks out a little) But i am getting it fixed soon, its gonna take 2-3months from now to get it fixed. It caused me to have anxiety, other than that i would call myself fairly attractive. \n\nI take care of myself(white teeth, six pack, etc.) I have nice hair and had couple girlfriends before my chest stuck out. But recently i met this girl and I am thinking about asking her out, should I wait till my chest is fixed or ask her out now? Any advice would be great, thx for reading!", "summary": "I have a disorder, where my chest sticks out. It will be fixed in 2-3 months, I am also fairly attractive(aside from the chest.) There is this girl that I like, should I ask her after my chest gets fixed or ask her out now? Thanks for reading, Any advice would be awesome!"}
{"id": "t3_oxiwb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "A girl I like went away today, I couldn't say some things I intended. Am I a coward if I write to her?", "post": "So, long story, but this girl I like went back to where she is from today. \n\nI've been liking her for many months, I think she knows very well that I do like her, because half this time I made many attempts to be with her.  \nShe now is my friend (we share friends) and I know she cares for me. I don't want to be one of those persons that complains about the \"friendzone\", I like being her friend but it hurts sometimes.\n\nAt least I would like her to acknowledge that I have feelings for her, and that she treat them with respect.\n\nOf course, I think that deep inside me I would like her to acknowledge that she likes me, but the truth is that she doesn't...\n\nSo reddit, should I write her? even if it's something short? I don't know if I'll meet here again, it could be that she comes back in a month, or maybe I'll never see her again.\n\nI feel guilty for not having the courage of asking her for a time alone last night and said all these things. Also, I'm trying to be more confident, and I feel that taking the \"easy\" way of writing would be counterproductive.\n\nThanks everyone for some insight in this, I'm confused. Also, I'm not an English native.\n\n**She 23, me F 26 (sort of SAP)", "summary": "I didn't have the courage to explain myself before a girl I like went away and I'm trying to be more confident. Should I write to her or should I suck it up and try to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2u23d4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] having difficulty interpreting signals from a girl I'm interested in [18 F] who has limited English skills (Thai)", "post": "For the past few months, I've been intermittently attempting to court a classmate of mine. We see each other every once in a while and we have built up a pretty solid rapport. The issue is that she can be incredibly hard to read. It's difficult to tell if her over-friendliness is flirting or if she is compensating for her verbal impediment. Since her first language is Thai and she struggles with English (able to hold a conversation but often misses a lot of information), I've had to adjust my way of speaking and it's difficult to talk to her with the confidence I'd normally have. At one point, I tried to ask her our, but halfway through, it became clear that she didn't know I was asking her out so, out of embarrassment, I backed away from the subject.\n\nI'm usually not the sort of person to be bold and direct when it comes to these things, I'd only ask someone out if I were sure they were at least a little interested in me. If she were any other girl, I'd be certain she was interested. But the amount of factors that come into it are ridiculous. I don't know what to expect from her. I don't know what sort of guy a Thai girl would be interested in (if I could make such a sweeping generalization) or what the differences in dating customs are. And I can't tell if she has a genuine interest in me or if the \"signals\" I get are her using body language to compensate for her English skills.\n\nI'd appreciate any advice on approaching the situation (whether it's specific to ELL relationships, Thai culture, or just dating in general).", "summary": "I like a Thai girl but can't tell if she's really flirting with me or just accidentally flirting due to limited English skills."}
{"id": "t3_3zb4pw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by baking my snow boots", "post": "This happened last winter, teenage stupidity. \n\nI was at home getting ready to go snowmobiling and found my boots in the trunk of my car. Since I have a problem with keeping my feet warm, I was desperate to heat up my boots before I left the house. Although I have a pretty nice boot dryer, it would take a good 30 minutes to totally heat up my boots. Going off of a misguided epiphany, I preheated the oven to 100 degrees and popped my rubber boots inside and kept the door open. I figured that since the boots weren't touching the heating element and the oven was set to such a low setting, I'd be in good shape. I dashed upstairs to put on some long johns and grab my helmet and gloves. About a minute later, I smelled the most wretched smoldering stench and my heart began pounding. I dropped everything and half-sprinted, half-stumbled down the stairs knowing a disaster was likely unfolding. I get to the kitchen to see flames spewing out of the oven, licking the bottoms of our maple cabinets. The boots were completely engulfed in flames. As the flames leaped higher and higher, I propped the front door open and reached into the inferno and grabbed each boot and tossed them out onto the snowy driveway. I returned to the kitchen to see that the flames had luckily vanished along with the boots. The ceiling was covered in soot and the varnish on the cabinets was peeling a bit, but otherwise the house remained unscathed.", "summary": "heated up my boots in the oven, almost burnt the house down"}
{"id": "t3_18znv4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the USA's relation towards foreign 'summer workers'? (more questions inside, help pls)", "post": "Hi reddit!\n\nWell... I'm a 21-year-old foreign, european student who would love to visit the USA during the summer for a period of about 2months+ (from ~15th July) to use work&travel program which I've found.\n\nI just wanted to have interesting summer holidays this year, and to meet some nice people, and maybe travel for a while, and I hope I will succeed at this.\n\nThe biggest problem, is that I don't really know anyone in the US. And I need to find a [LEGAL] job + accommodation, and I don't really know how to go about it.\nWhat are the wages for some summer jobs, and if people are even likely to hire someone like me (a foreign, quick learning student with good english, responsibility & high motivation :)).\nAlso: what are costs of living in the US (i mean renting something, preferably cheap :P)\n\nI know that the work&travel company I want to use has to verify alot of things before I apply for J-1 visa (studen't exchange VISA or sth like that) so I guess I need to find some serious offers and I hope someone could at least give me some clues as to where to start.\nI'd apreciate some advice in comments or PM's and thanks in advance.", "summary": "European student wants to spend his holidays in the USA. Needs some help from someone who lives there ^^."}
{"id": "t3_2b8cg5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] I'm his boss, but was he trying to ask me out?", "post": "Bear with me here, there is a bit of a story. \n\nSo I am a part time manager at my movie theater job (one step above staff member), My general manager has a \"managers can't even be friends with staff\" rule which I frequently ignore. In my opinion he has no say over what I do when I'm not at work as long as it's not effecting my job performance. \n\nThe other day I was working as the only Manager on duty and I spent a lot of the day talking to this one guy, we'll call him Joe. Joe and I often talk a lot on shifts but never really about anything personal, more like latest movies, what we did on the weekend etc. \n\nAt the end of his shift I brought Joe into the office to balance his cash drawer and he waited until we were in there alone and said out of no where \"Do you want to see deliver us from evil\"\n\nI didn't think anything of it and responded by saying \"I do want to see it, I like scary movies but none of my friends will ever watch them with me.\"\n\nTo which he responded \"because I kind of want to see it...\" At that point someone else knocked on the door and we weren't alone in the office anymore so that was it. \n\nNow he's away on a family trip for the next 2 and a half weeks. \n\nWas he trying to ask me if I wanted to see that movie with him? or was he just making small talk?", "summary": "I'm his boss at the movie theatre, he asked me if I wanted to see a movie and I don't know if he meant see it with him, or just see it in general."}
{"id": "t3_11xx7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-girlfriend [22] wants me [38] to pay for her abortion -- and it's not even mine", "post": "Over the summer I started seeing a college girl from Oakland. It was a sugar baby kind of thing. Eventually I decided it wasn't working for me, and I told her I couldn't see her regularly any more. She was disappointed, but we agreed to keep in touch.\n\nA couple months go by, and she wants to know if we can go on another date. Says she needs money for her car. I say okay okay fine, and as we get down to our usual business, I notice her body had changed. She's a thin girl, but her breasts were now larger and sagging a bit. Her belly was bigger too. She was looking downright fat. I thought maybe she was bloated from PMS or something. Or maybe she had been hitting the Cheetos really hard lately. I tried not to think about it.\n\nYesterday it all came clear: She's expecting, and she's already 4 months in. No, it's not mine -- we always played safe. The father is an on-again-off-again boyfriend she'd been seeing the past 3 years. She says she doesn't know what to do, doesn't have anywhere to turn. Her dad is unemployed, and she isn't on speaking terms with her mom. Her \"boyfriend\" (the father) refuses to help with anything. She wants to get an abortion, but insurance doesn't cover the procedure. She's begging me to pay for it.\n\nI tell her I can't. I was okay with helping her with car repairs and textbooks, maybe some nice clothes. But an abortion? That's different. Plus I changed jobs recently and am pretty much drained of cash. I'd have to dip into my retirement savings for this.\n\nToday comes the bombshell. She says she has no other options and if she can't come up with the funds, she'll just have to \"do it myself\". WTF? I don't want to pay for an abortion but I sure as hell don't want her poking around with a coat hanger either.\n\nWhat do I do? What do I say?", "summary": "She's threatening to \"do it myself\" if I don't pay for her abortion"}
{"id": "t3_37qw8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] am worried that I should break up with my boyfriend [19 M] of 3 years because long distance is causing him to lose confidence and trust in me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years; we were high school sweethearts and just finished our first year of college long distance. This is my first serious relationship. Our first couple years were great and honeymoon-y. But lately we are constantly arguing primarily because he thinks that I am not as committed to the relationship as he is. \n\nHe tells me that I don't include him when we are together, I lack empathy, and I deliberately make jokes at his expense. He is also worried that I will leave him for a macho guy who is more reserved with his emotions like I am because he knows how much it bothers me when he brings up these flaws of mine. \n\nI should also mention that through this first year of college he has become depressed and insecure with himself. One night when he was drinking with friends he saw his buddy and buddy's girlfriend get into a fight because the girl said she knew a guy who was more attractive than her boyfriend. My boyfriend then asked me over text if I thought anyone was more attractive that him. I thought he would know I was lying if I said no one, so I told him I did and he demanded that I tell him who. I listed 2 people and he has not been able to trust me the same ever since. His confidence is now squashed beyond repair and he thinks more than ever that I'll leave him for someone better. \n\nI love him so much and just 2 months ago I could see us getting married and having a future, and that's a major part that makes the idea of ending it so difficult. But the more he accuses me of not being committed, the more I think he is right and feel like I should just end it. I don't want to prove him right that I didn't care about him enough, and I don't want to intensify his depression by bringing his fears to life. but I also don't want to stay in a relationship that is unhealthy and doomed to fail anyway. \n\nI'm not fishing for affirmations here, feel free to tell me that I'm being a dick. I just have no idea what the right thing to do is. Advice?", "summary": "Should I break up with my long term boyfriend who no longer trusts me? Or is there a way to calm him down while staying long distance?"}
{"id": "t3_1847ek", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I bring up the topic of sex & furthering the relationship? 28(M)", "post": "I've been dating this woman since December of last year we really vibe together, I make her laugh and she makes me laugh. Things physically between us are a little slow according to others, but I've shown many times that I'm physically attracted to her. We haven't had sex yet mainly due to my inexperience at initiating(i.e. I'm a virgin) and I'm wondering how to bring up the topic of sex? \n\nI've asked friends for advice and majority of them tell me that a sex conversation, where we talk about likes, dislikes and where I can share with her that I am a virgin, should have happened by now but they do not tell me how it should happen. \n\nAlso I'm really infatuated with this woman and would like to know where she thinks things are headed. Is it bad form to ask about being exclusive before having sex?", "summary": "How do I bring up the topic of sex and how do I go about asking if she wants to be exclusive?"}
{"id": "t3_3mkcsr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning the bench", "post": "So this actually happened today. I work at a large sporting stadium, normally as a bar tender and today I was working in a kiosk i hadn't worked at before. At the clean up point in the shift one of the satff asked me to wipe the '....' i did not hear what she said, It sounded like benches, but that didn't seem right so i asked \"did you say clean the benches?\", to which her response was yea the benches. I was looking outside the kiosk at some of the park benches around the stadium thinking ok, this is wierd but whatever. At some bars I had cleaned tables outside the bar, and i was just like whatever, if that's how it works over here. Turns out that's not how it worked over there. when she confirmed benches, she meant the kitchen benches. Hind sight is a bitch. at this point she just explained to the other staff that i was just outside the kiosk scrubbing at a random bench. They all had a good laugh and poked fun for the rest of the shift. The fact that some of the girls there were also quite pretty made the embarrassment even worse. Felt pretty retarded after that. Really hoping i don't get rostered there again any time soon.", "summary": "misheard a direction at work, clarification phrase did not clarify, ended up scrubbing at a random bench and looking like a tard for 1st impressions."}
{"id": "t3_jo9z5", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "3 months later, down 17lbs", "post": "Hey Loseit,\n\nI just want to say how much I really appreciate all the posts and stories and encouragements. The desire to lose weight really got a hold of me this spring when I saw some pictures that... weren't what I was used to seeing in the mirror. Memorial Day weekend I weighed 202lbs, that's the heaviest I've ever been and I felt like crap (not because of the number on the scale, but because of my diet/lifestyle) I started eating healthier and eating less, combined that with being more active and the weight started dropping off. I made this little before and after progress shot to send to my mom so I could show her, and it didn't really hit me until I saw the side by side what a difference 17lbs makes.", "summary": "I love loseit and I'm down 17lbs since I started lurking"}
{"id": "t3_yqkdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend is angry and confrontational. I'm a doormat", "post": "My boyfriend (26) is the kind of guy who doesn't put up with crap. He calls out people when they're wrong, yells at bad drivers, and uses the word \"dumbass\" very liberally. I should clarify that it's never excessive, violent, or directed at me. I kind of admire his assertiveness sometimes. A lot of people would probably see this as a reasonable level of emotion, but I have some problems dealing with it.\n\nAs I mentioned, I (24) am a doormat. I very, very rarely get angry at anything. My usual response to conflict is to curl up into a ball and cry. I was also physically abused by my father as a kid, because of his anger management issues. When other people are angry, I feel awkward and terrified. I'm working with a therapist to try to get over some of my emotional problems. So far I can successfully deal with anger from/get angry at my sister and my best friend without it being a big deal. With other people, any form of conflict just sits in my mind and scares me.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. He knows all about my issues, accepts them, and is always very kind and collected when we're working out minor problems together. But he still gets very angry at other people, and himself. We have similar interests, and I feel more comfortable talking to him than to anyone else. Our relative anger levels just seem incompatible.\n\n I've talked to him about how people getting angry scares me, and he's very understanding of that. I know it's not right to want someone in a relationship to change. I know that's part of who he is and I admire it a bit, but I don't really want to have to become agressive to accept it either. Most of all, I'm terrified of either one of us becoming angry with each other. I know it probably has to happen eventually, and I don't want to get scared and end the relationship.", "summary": "Agression scares me. Boyfriend is on the agressive side. How to productively deal with conflict without getting scared?"}
{"id": "t3_1ihhsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] with my girlfriend [23F] 7 years, girlfriend has put on a lot of weight", "post": "Over the past few months, my girlfriend has become quite overweight and it's affecting our relationship.\n\nI love her more than anything in the world, but it's affecting our sex life, our social life, and so on and so forth.\n\nShe's aware she's put on weight and has altered her diet, but I know that to see results she needs to exercise. When she's not working (she only works 3 days a week), she lives a sedentary lifestyle. She doesn't go out, she just sits on the sofa.\n\nI've tried to encourage her to run, cycle, and go for walks, but she won't do it.\n\nI used to be overweight, but lost all that weight by exercising daily and eating better, so I know it works...\n\nWhat can I say or do? We've been together seven years and this is the most stressed I've felt in the relationship.", "summary": "Girlfriend has become overweight, it's affecting our relationship. She's eating better, but how do I tell her she needs to exercise too?"}
{"id": "t3_4t9bsj", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "How To Move To New Home W/ Puppy?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nSo, I got a new puppy a bit over a month ago. She's a 13 week chihuahua She's got a great attitude, very friendly, and she's pretty smart. She already knows \"no\", sit, down, shake, \"drop it\", and how to let me know when she needs to go out.\n\nUnfortunately, I am working for the summer (at a pet supply!) and do not have a steady schedule, so I decided not to crate train her. She sleeps with me. She used to wake up a few times at night, but I guess her bladder is more developed and now she wakes up at 6:30 every morning. She knows how to wake me up to take her out. \n\nRight now, when I'm working, I put her into my bathroom. I keep the light and radio on, put in a puppy pad, water, and a frozen kong among 2 or 3 other regular treats to keep her company. I also keep her crate door open so she can get to everything and doesn't feel trapped.\n\nI'm a college student and will be living in an apartment with three other women, one being a friend. I just want to make this move as painless as possible for both of us. I want to know how to make sure she isn't whining while I'm in class (which will be a lot less time than when I was working), so that we don't get complaints and I have to get rid of her. I still would rather not crate train as she's pretty used to her routine sleep with me, but can anyone give advice on this??? I don't think she whines in the bathroom while I'm at work, but my only evidence is that when I come home, she's completely quiet and when I open the bathroom door, she comes running out her crate. \n\nAlso, I'm sharing a bathroom so I will probably not be able to do it in my bathroom, but start leaving her in a portion of my bedroom. She was accidentally left in my bedroom once while I was away and she didn't really destroy anything so that's hopeful.", "summary": "how do I make sure my dog's not whining while I'm away after we move to a new apartment without crate training??"}
{"id": "t3_3ht36n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] of one year, we broke up because I didn't see a future with her and it was a 'gut' decision, it's been a week, reconsidering?", "post": "Trying to keep this as short as possible. For anyone curious, I have previously mentioned my relationship in this thread: \n\nI was with my girlfriend for a little over a year. Things were pretty good, although in the last third of our relationship I felt restless and unfulfilled due to a lack of alone time and lack of energy to focus on myself/my own projects. I'm a musician and I wasn't getting enough time to myself for practice. I also was unsure of whether I had a future with her in general. I sort of had a 'gut' feeling even in the happiest moments that it wasn't meant to last. I didn't always feel like myself when I was with her.\n\nThese subjects came up a few weeks ago, causing us to break up on mutual terms: I needed time to myself to grow, and she didn't want to be with someone who didn't plan for her in their future. Totally fair concerns and the parting free of any acrimonious vibes.\n\nSince the breakup she's reached out to me a few times - telling me she loves me, and also apologizing for times she didn't devote as much time/attention to me as I devoted to her. She has said she's 'not trying to reconcile' multiple times, but it's clear from her approach that she could be trying to on some level.\n\nI'm reconsidering the breakup and thinking of giving it another shot. We've communicated a lot more openly since the breakup happened and I'm wondering if we could make it work if we continued open communication and boundary-setting, i.e., me making sure to take more time to take alone time and balancing it with time spent with her. \n\nI'm hesitant because I don't know if the gut feeling will go away if we try again. I don't want to make the same mistake twice. But I also don't want to totally give up on someone that brought me lots of joy and happiness for most of the time we were together.", "summary": "Dated girlfriend for a year, had a gut feeling about it not lasting, broke up on good terms, now reconsidering due to absence and wondering if things could work with a different approach. Advise from anyone who's been in a similar situation?"}
{"id": "t3_4luocy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singeing all the body hair off the right side of my body.", "post": "So this happened yesterday, on Memorial Day. We were having a cookout, and we decide to start a fire in the fire pit. Now, we have a very tall tree in our backyard and some of the lowest branches extend slightly over the fire pit but are about 9 feet from the ground. My fianc\u00e9 thought it'd be a good idea to take our whole dead Christmas tree (which I had put back behind our shed for fire wood after Christmas) on top of the fire. I said no fucking way, horrible idea, and started explaining why. But all our friends were like \"just do it, it's fine.\" Because I needed to pull burgers off the grill I said whatever and just let her and my friend lay it horizontally over the fire pit. Well immediately the tree exploded into a giant pillar of holly jolly fuck you that easily extended ten feet into the lowest branches of our big tree. I said \"fuck! The whole tree will go up!\" That's a fire that could easily have burned down the neighborhood. So I instantly reached for the trunk of the flaming Christmas tree and yanked it off the fire and chucked it safely into gravel behind me while my fianc\u00e9 got the hose. It's at this time that I realize that in doing so I burned my whole right leg/knee/arm, the back of my hand and part of the side of my face. My friends just laughed and I went inside in pain to tend to myself. The worst part is the burgers were burnt because I didn't ask anybody to take them off.", "summary": "I didn't start the fire, but my body's burnin' and the burns are hurtin'."}
{"id": "t3_1ovn3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my SO [18 F] of one year; broke up don't know what to do", "post": "Basically after one year me and my SO broke up (her being the one breaking things off), we had a break up 10 months in, because we both went to a social convention and she had a bad time because I was being too clingy and jealous and she couldn't take it however I was able to convince her to give me a chance to improve. By being clingy and jealous I mean that I'm glaring at her while shes talking to other guys (but I've been told this is how I look in my neutral face as well), I got mad when this one guy kept giving gifts like plushies to her (from the shop at the convention), and just feeling down because shes off talking to other people while I just want to hang out with her. (shes extroverted and im introverted if that means anything)\n\nFast forward 2 months (so in total one year), we both attend another convention and I'm trying to change my ways, of course its hard to change the jealousy issue over the course of a small time period so in the end she still has a bad time although I've tried to avoid it this time.\n\nSo here I am now, I still really believe I can change for her but it just requires more time, and she doesn't seem to want to wait out that time for me, to make matters worse at the second event she met a guy that shes infatuated in (but is clearly a player and is just playing on her feelings) and it makes it all the harder for me.\n\nI really still love her and theres a small part of me that believes that things may work out if I keep trying to convince her but day by day it just seems even harder and harder since she seems to be getting cold towards me. We've been fine all this time, I've been treating her out for dinner, taking her places, making her feel loved etc, its just at these events my jealousy is apparently really strong (even though I try to not show it anymore) because shes really extroverted while im introverted. I just don't know what to do if I should keep chasing or give up (which I really don't want to do)", "summary": "broke up with SO 10 months in due to jealousy at a social event, convinced for another chance, 2 months all okay til another big event shows up and apparently I still look jealous when I'm not that much anymore, should I keep chasing?"}
{"id": "t3_vgvhf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best way you have ever received good news?", "post": "My whole family was home one weekend and we were all playing croquet. I went away for a phone call then came back and continued to play. My sister and her husband had been trying to have a child for some time. When it was my turn, I walked up and notice some oddly arranged sticks. Upon closer inspection, I realize the sticks read, \"Baby H.\" Due to my stupidity/randomness, I think nothing of it and turn around. My sister was just standing there staring at me with that, \"Aaaand he's gonna get it in 5..4..3..2..\" and I finally got it. It was a really cool way to find out I was going to be an Uncle. What is the best way someone has delivered good news to you?", "summary": "My sister arranged sticks on the ground to inform me that my brother-in-law had implanted his seed in my sister and I was going to be an Uncle."}
{"id": "t3_wy46f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend flakes on me last minute and gives no reason. What gives?", "post": "Boyfriend (26m) and I (21f) Together about 2 years.\n\nWe hang out every other day or so. We rarely hang out two days in a row. On Thursday I make plans for him to stay on Saturday night. Then Friday comes and I ask if he'd like to come over and stay the night. He accepts. We hang out blah blah blah. Next morning he leaves and I assume he'll be back over that night as well. I text him to see if he has to go him from work first and he says yes (normal to pick up clothes and what not for the next day). I turn down a few options for hanging out with friends because I don't want to flake and about an hour before he is supposed to come over he texts me and says, \"I'm gonna stay home tonight actually.\"\n\nWhat is the reason for waiting for so long to tell me that you ruin my Saturday night and for wanting to stay home on a Saturday night instead of hanging out with your GIRLFRIEND?\n\nIs this something I should be concerned over?\nHe does it frequently enough to be more than just a miscommunication.\nWhat should I do", "summary": "Boyfriend flakes on me last minute and gives no reason."}
{"id": "t3_2btdu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [26F] be a good friend to her[25F] after she just gave birth and I had recent babyloss?", "post": "My friend and I have known each other for several years because of our husbands working together. Both our husbands moved a thousand miles away for work in January so since then we became close in the new state, and now living as close neighbors.\n\nWe were both pregnant due around the same time. I was expecting our first two boys, and she was expecting her second child, a boy.  March, I lost both suddenly.\n\nShe was an amazing friend throughout all of it. I know it had to have made her uncomfortable. My first reaction was to avoid her but she always made it a point to reach out to me even if I was withdrawn.\n\nNow that she just gave birth, the day after my original due date I'm wanting to be a good friend. I want to be clear, *I don't want to minimize her joy at all*. When she announced she was going into labor and posted pictures, etc I forced myself to like them to show some support. In reality though I was sobbing uncontrollably off and on for a couple of days.\n\nI feel like an asshole for not reaching out. Offering to visit, or gushing over how cute he is. It physically hurts me right now. I have such a deep pit in my stomach and stabbing of grief. But now that she's home I want to be a good friend. \n\nI grabbed a couple things to make up a gift basket for her. Some things for the baby, some things for her. But I have no idea how to approach the subject, or go over there without it being awkward.\n\nHer personality is just kind and helpful in general. I'm really hoping she understands my behavior but I want to be there for her. \n\nWill I just be a killjoy, who would just put a damper on their new joy, or would it be meaningful to show I care? Also how would be the best way to show I care without being neurotic and having my own meltdown from it?", "summary": "My friend and I became close after moving to a new area and being pregnant at the same time. Mine died, she just gave birth. I want to be a good friend but this is painful. How do I be there for her?"}
{"id": "t3_451pz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28F] best friend [24F] got a sexually transmitted disease from her ex [25M] and feels like damaged goods.", "post": "Basically as the title goes. My sweet friend, who we will call Karen dated a boy for a while, and after they broke up she was diagnosed with herpes. I know this isn't the end of the world, however, she has been heartbroken for the past 3 years since it happened. \n\nShe has had one boyfriend in the past 3 years (since the diagnosis), and truly feels no one will accept her for this flaw she has. She does not feel comfortable dating anyone without telling them, and because she is nervous about telling anyone, she doesn't date.\n\nShe is the sweetest girl I've ever met, whip smart and beautiful as wel. However, she truly feels she is damaged goods. How can I make her feel better about herself, and offer support in her life?", "summary": "My bestie feels like she doesn't deserve to have a relationship because she has herpes, how do I help?"}
{"id": "t3_1ac9ac", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just my drunken thoughts at this very moment.", "post": "Moving at the speed of life is fastest possible speed known to man.  Able to grasp, unpredictable, and gone in an instant.   It's not the \"God Particle\" or anything else of the sorts.  While I sit here wine drunk and unconnected to the world, I have to wonder if I am even really a part of this world.  My soul has no part in it, yet I still feel culpable for the actions of things I have no part in. I suppose this is not only the curse of reddit, but the realization that I am a part of this world that so easily throws life away.  I can't help but wonder where this is all headed, and what my part in it will be.  I know this is somewhat short for a \"self\" post, its all I have to say.  This is an intimidating world and I'm ~~excited~~ apprehensive of where it is leading me, since I did not agree to this contract\u2026", "summary": "you arn't missin much"}
{"id": "t3_2hw8x5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my future anatomy teacher mediocre", "post": "First of all, I'm not English native, so please excuse my errors.\n\nSecondly, I was invited yesterday at a party. It was the birthday of the boss of my girlfriend. She is working part time at the biggest private hospital around and, obviously, all the other guests were doctors, professors etc\n\nI was talking about my intentions to pursue a career in Medicine with one of the guests (who happened to be an anatomy teacher) when I started to sneeze real hard. After sneezing for several times, one of the doctors asked me if I had some sort of allergy. I wanted to impress him and told him while looking him straight in the eyes that I was allergic to mediocrity. \n\nObviously, I started to laugh real hard when I realisez what I had just said, but some of the other guests weren't exactly amused.", "summary": "started to sneeze, called everybody, including my future anatomy teacher, at the table <<mediocre>>."}
{"id": "t3_3sgsrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) desperately need help getting through a breakup", "post": "I don't know how to make myself feel better and I want to cry every few minutes. I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year for cheating and lying to me repeatedly about what exactly happened the incident. I finally just felt so defeated by the lie after lie being revealed that I gave up and said I was done. I am so alone now that a big part of me is wishing that I didn't, even though I know that is very unhealthy. I am in college. All my roommates have boyfriends. Many of my friends were my boyfriend's friends first so I have lost a lot with this. He keeps begging me to see if we can work this out because he is going to start therapy. I truly believe that this was a one-time drunken incident and he desperately wants to prove that he can be forgiven but I am so embarrassed and so heart broken. I don't know what to do. I know this might sound very immature but it hurts so much and I need help.", "summary": "Very lost in getting through a breakup"}
{"id": "t3_2t1luy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking about other girls in front of my crush", "post": "Well I really liked this girl and have been asking her out recently since we are on holiday. I even made plans to confess to her and shit but recently she seem to become more unresponsive to my messages sometimes even ignoring me for 1 whole day ( not being paranoid iMessage shows message is read ). So I asked her out today since I have things I wanted to pass to her and also check out if she is really mad at me. I kept reminding myself to not say the wrong things but while trying to find things of talk about I find myself constantly talking about other girls and how I'm like chatting with other girls making it feel like I am only treating her as a fling and I have many other dates at hand.", "summary": "I talked about other girls in front of my crush making her more angry and disappointed with me. :/"}
{"id": "t3_1amwdf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I(16f) be just friends with him(17m)?", "post": "We met a month ago and hung out the next weekend with a couple other people. I at the time was into his friend and that's why we hung out. It didn't, however, work out with the friend. \n\nI got over him and a week later I started talking to this guy. We began flirting and went on a date on the 8th. Things really didn't work out with us either. We both really like each other, but there are a lot of complications. He's a virgin and I'm very sexual. Also, I've slept with his friend so that makes things weird. \n\nAfter a bunch of fights and discussing we've decided we should just be friends. That's hard for me though because I'm not sure exactly what kinda friends he wants to be. How do I proceed here?", "summary": "we kinda started heading towards a relationship but it didn't work out for several reasons. Now we've decided to just be friends, but I'm not sure what kinda friendship he wants. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_n46aj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something I can do today that will give me a good story tomorrow?", "post": "So, my life is in a rut. I limit my sob story to this: I'm a recent college graduate, jobless, recently broken-up-with, with little to do. I've got plenty of hobbies and idle diversions, but my life sorely lacks *doing something interesting*. So, tomorrow I'm waking up and asking myself the above question. I put it to you, reddit! Hopefully others can benefit from the answers as well.\n\nI personally am looking for things that can be done in and around the suburbs/urbs of a mid-size midwestern city (St. Louis, specifically). In general, I want things that can be done with little advance preparation and won't cost me much/anything. But, honestly, don't let any of these requirements stop you from posting - I am looking for any way to squeeze that delicious nectar of *experience* out of life. If your idea is a good answer to the post title, throw it in!", "summary": "I seek self-contained things to do that will lead to interesting experiences and good stories."}
{"id": "t3_p4krv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling resentment because of the past.", "post": "I am 22F and he is 23M. I am starting to feel some resentment for my boyfriend who I have only been dating for a month. We are becoming really close - which I think is helped by the fact that we were friends before. We hang out almost everyday. He is always staying the night - coming over right after work and leaving in the morning. He only goes home to change his clothes and shower after work. \n\nI love spending all this time with him but I am starting to resent him. I am way more advanced in my career than him. I make more money, and I also live on my own. I do not have a roommate and therefore I pay for everything on my own. I am already stretched pretty thin each month and having him around is making me stress more about money. \n\nNow don't get me wrong. He isn't a pig, or blatanly eating all my food. But I find myself judging him everytime he goes to the fridge. He has offered to help out with food - but hasn't pitched in yet. I don't know how to deal with this or what to say. \n\nMy past relationships were all with users. I think I may be putting him in that catetgory already. I don't want to. I want to be able to diffuse this situation so that I can continue to enjoy the relationship we are having. \n\nI do really like him and I want to be able to get over my past and not let it effect us. \n\nSo my question is: Does anybody know of a similar situation? When is it appropriate to ask for someone to help out? How much should they be helping?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Boyfriend is always over, I feel like he should contribute. How do I ask/what do I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_u6b0n", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I get over an ex-girlfriend of 3 years. *Who hates me now*.", "post": "I dated this girl for three years and we had a good run. Well, she cheated on me three times that I know of, and she would make up these white lies every now and again, which is no problem. But at first she would throw these fits about lying whenever she'd find out I made up a little something (like quitting cigarette smoke). She would also talk to a lot of guys, and I mean a lot. And wouldn't let me have any girlfriends. I was no pushover though, I was just really lenient and didn't mind her going out partying much, and also never made a huge fuss when she would cheat. I would just talk us through it. Anyway, we broke up the last three months we lived together because of a number of problems and I may have told her to drop dead, I don't know. So after a couple months I tried to reconcile, if you will. Now, I try to keep in touch and she feels like I was the worst piece of shit to be spawned to this planet. She ignores my texts, didn't call or send her condolences when I was hospitalized and I still try to keep in touch. How the FUCK do I go about my life and forget this girl ever existed? Because she clearly doesn't care about me and I'm killing myself here.", "summary": "After everything, I did for this girl she ignores me and for some reason acts like I'm the spawn of Satan. How do I move on from this selfish, cheating, lying whore?"}
{"id": "t3_caeo1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you be willing to start an internet spawned social/political revolution?", "post": "When the internet began to pick up speed in the days of the 56k modem, I remember fearful talks about how this new technological tool would revolutionize the contemporary era. \n\nOutside of highly accessible porn, mass mp3 theft, and the rise of troll culture I don't really feel that the internet has lived up to its expectations. \n\nI look at the recent financial crisis, the BP oil spill, and the state of the US energy infrastructure at large and I can't help but wonder if the internet will one day provide us will an effective tool to apply collective social pressure to stop these travesties. It feels like a far off utopian ideal. \n\nYet I see places like reddit full of people that at least seem like they care. \n\nIn theory the internet is the ultimate tool for social connection and information exchange. This makes me believe that technological solutions are out there which we simply haven't bothered to enact. \n\nThis then leads me to the thought that maybe if we collectively put our heads together we could either 1) devise a way to apply political pressure from the web or 2) organize to effectively solve glaring social and political problems ourselves (particularly since it is clear that banking and oil interests have a death grip on the current political structure).\n\nThe ultimate obstacle is then motivation to act (hence the title question). \n\nHowever I recognize the possibility that people may not want to put in the effort to change the status quo. There is also a distinct possibility that people enjoy the status quo enough to discourage the risk of change. \n\nHence I ask, \"Would you be willing to start an internet spawned social/political revolution?\"\n\nWhen I ask this I do not want the opinion of \"people\" or \"society at large\". I am wondering how you personally feel about taking on such an endeavor.", "summary": "Would you be willing to put in effort to make the internet a stronger tool for social/political change? (No solutions offered here, just a poll of interest)"}
{"id": "t3_2u04j6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my new boryfriend [22 M] of a month, jealousy/ opposite sex friends", "post": "I met a guy a month ago, we were acquaintances for 8 months prior but barely started dating and become \"official\" a month ago. \n\nThis guy is super sweet and showed interest off the bat. Right away he said he wanted something serious and i had a good feeling about him plus all my friends love him so I agreed we could work towards that.\n\nHe isn't jealous at all and doesn't get mad and I dance with another guy or whatever, he won't care if I hang out with any guy friends. He doesn't ask too many questions and he doesn't seem insecure about it. \n\nThis is where it gets tricky, we are both super friendly (read: flirty), but I've started limiting the amount of time I spend with my guy friends. I'll still hang out with them but I would rather spend time with girl friends or with him since he'll be going on a work trip for two weeks. \n\nIs it fair to ask him to place those same kind of boundaries with his girl friends? Example, he lives in a dorm type of community and one of the girls that lives there asked him out for dinner this week. They are not necessarily close just acquaintances in passing. I don't see why he should be getting to know another girl on an intimate level especially when his time is short right now (he leaves Sunday morning).\n\nAt the same time, I want to allow him the freedom to make his own choices and I don't want to be controlling. He's done nothing to break my trust. My friend said I should just let him know it's uncomfortable for me for him to go out with girls he barely knows. \n\nAny thoughts? I really want a healthy relationship, but I've never had any good role models.", "summary": "New relationship, having a hard time separating legitimate issues, versus trust issues"}
{"id": "t3_32c2x8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [25M] gets upset when I [21F] don't spend enough time with him when I see him", "post": "Together for 6 months.  We both live with our parents.\n\nI come over to his place every weekend. My parents are conservative and wouldn't allow me to bring a guy over.  We usually spend the night grabbing or making dinner, watch Netflix, then have sex.\n\nSometimes, however, his sister will be around and I'll chat up with her for a bit.  Meanwhile, bf waits impatiently on his phone looking upset.\n\nOther times, I might get caught up talking with his family.  Or I'd have to do homework.\n\nI'd ask him about it, and he'll say he wanted to spend his weekend hanging out with me instead of waiting on me.  I'd tell him if he can make other plans, he should.  I don't want to get in the way with him spending time with his friends.\n\nStill, he'd say he'd rather spend time with me.\n\nI like him, but I feel like he's starting to get clingy.  We already see each other every day as we have classes together.  I'm thinking of spending less time with him and not coming over as often.", "summary": "Boyfriend gets upset whenever I come over and don't spend enough time with him.  We already see each other almost every day and I come over every weekend.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2dritb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to get over the fact I [m/22] think I'm going to lose my best friends [m/22] and [f/21]", "post": "So basically my two best friends are a couple. I however knew the guy a year before the girl. Eventually the girl found her way into our group of friends and became close with all of us for about a year before she started dating the guy. 2 years later they're still dating and the group fell apart for the most part except for us 3.\n\nThey really are great people and never make me feel like a third wheel (probably because I was friends with both prior to dating) and over the last 5 months we got real close I feel. They both helped with with a huge medical scare (I suffer from Crohns) with the female friend always being there to talk and even go with me to the hospital. I have also helped them both out and I know they have told me things that I doubt anyone else knows. We are all very open.\n\nThe problem is they will be moving back away for school 40 mins away. And this upsets me greatly. Since April we have all hung out probably 2-3 times a week every week and even went on vacation together with a few other friends. I feel like the shift now to seeing eachother maybe once a month is going to kill our relationship. I'm worried maybe I'll be replaced by their new roommates or something. That we will slowly drift apart.\n\nI've expressed this concern of wanting to stay in touch and how i'm worried it wont be like that. They have both said they will prove me wrong.\n\nAny ideas how I can get over this?", "summary": "Bestfriends are moving back to school 40 mins away. Going to go from seeing them 2-3 times a week to maybe 1 time per month. Worried I'll be replaced or forgotten about."}
{"id": "t3_4iwwht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my [25M] 1+yr duration, should my boyfriend have a filter when he's around his guy friends and me?", "post": "I understand that guys can be completely vulgar around each other, but when a girl is there, shouldn't they filter it out? I got into an argument last night with my boyfriend(\"Tim\") after I was out with him and my boyfriend's friend(\"Jon\") and they were talking about the new girl Jon is dating. Jon showed us a picture and I said she was very pretty(because she was, and I was just giving my opinion) Tim said \"eh, she's okay\"...... what he said afterwards really struck a nerve with me, he said to Jon \"well does she have big tits\" and immediately I got pretty angry that he would say that, I feel like it's inappropriate and maybe possibly I am a bit sensitive about my smaller bust (but is it my problem?) so it just sounded to me like, this girl is \"not impressive\" but if she has \"big tits\", she's date-able (Tim said I was reading too much into it....) \n\nI got really irritated and my boyfriend got mad at me for being mad in the first place, he said that's just how guys talk to each other and it has nothing to do with me, and he said \"it was a joke\" and \"big tits is just a neutral description\"...and that I have a \"high school mentality\" for thinking everything is about looks, and that I have a \"problem with jealousy\" \n\nSo I don't know what to think here. Maybe it's not a big deal and I should have let it go, or is it inappropriate/disrespectful for him to say that in front of me?", "summary": "Boyfriend speaks in a vulgar way around guy friends and it makes me uncomfortable"}
{"id": "t3_amfr1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need prank revenge.", "post": "Throw away account because her and her friends go on Reddit from time to time and I use my normal account name for everything. \n\nSo my girlfriend thinks pranks are hilarious. It's always something new, from stealing all the drumsticks in my house to covering my room in pink sticky notes. I think she personally might have gone too far with this particular prank, but because of it, I plan on going just as far, if not further. \n\nEssentially, she taped a pizza to my windshield. I really wish I thought of taking a picture of this. At the time, it was such a WTF moment combined with immediately knowing who did it that caused me forget about my phone to take a picture. I wish there was another way to verify the significance of this, but I can't. I can only ask you to trust me, Reddit, on the internet with this throw away account. Heh.\n\nAnyway, I need to prank her back. I'm particularly looking to do something to her car. I was thinking of saran wrapping the wheels but a.) shes already saran wrapped my car (horizontally around the center, aka removed in 10 seconds) and b.) she's sometimes so clueless I could see her trying to drive away without noticing and potentially hurting herself or something. I have no idea. So I turn to you, Reddit. I don't want to hurt her or break anything of hers.  Give me your best idea.", "summary": "girlfriend tapes pizza face-down to windshield. I seek revenge."}
{"id": "t3_gw2d1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My husband's nephew has aspergers, his parents won't get him diagnosed or get him help. What to do?", "post": "The kid is 18 years old, about to graduate high school and is going to a decent university in the fall. He's really smart but utterly socially inept. The boy has aspergers, everyone knows it, but he is not professionally diagnosed. The parents think if the son knows he's aspie, he'll feel stigmatized or it will ruin his college/goals if he knows. The kid has never had friends, has problems with girl obsessions & not taking cues that girls think he's odd/aren't interested and is starting to look like a stalker. I'm afraid he'll not understand his actions and do something not socially acceptable. \n\nI think knowing would help him tremendously. He could understand why everyone is repelled by him, learn some life skills and possibly have a shot at a more normal future. I'm afraid he'll get to college and get so wrapped up in social issues, figuring out how to dress/feed himself, etc. he'll end up depressed, overwhelmed and ultimately fail.\n\nThe parents don't want to hear suggestions at this point. Anything I can/should do?", "summary": "Nephew has undiagnosed asperger's & his parents won't get him a diagnosis or help. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1ovft9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] over 2 years, I'm thinking about taking a break", "post": "We've been together over two years, I am a 20M in my third year of college, she's a 19F in her first year. She has been saying that I am distancing myself because of my job (I am an RA at my college, and she goes to a different college). While that may be true, I have a job to do, and I can't spend my time worrying about myself and taking on her tribulations (she's having a hard time making friends at school and uses me as a \"safe harbor\" to avoid her school and potentially new friends, which is a problem considering if I cut her off, she will have nearly no social life). I think if we both take some time for ourselves (a year or two), then we can get rid of all of this stress, and if it's meant to be then we'll get back together.\n\nIs a split-up the best plan? I've been thinking about this a lot and that's the best option I've come up with, which is unfortunate.", "summary": "she and I are both stressed from school and work, I think we need some time off to worry about ourselves and not about each other."}
{"id": "t3_2prb6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex (42M) of 2.5 yrs broke \"no contact rule\" and made me (27F) a financial offer he knows I can't refuse", "post": "A bit over a week ago my ex and I broke up. He is very business savy and wealthy. \n\nWe had lived together for a full 3 weeks, but being with a traveling business man is not easy, and he felt pressured into commitment. He being 42 told me I was not right to be his future wife, so he kicked me out. I am in my late 20s and very much in love with him. \n\nHe is cold but showed his love in the form of helping my company get off the ground. He invested time and money getting things set up for me. Suddenly he wants me gone but still hopes to participate in my business ventures. I begin no contact and he is shocked. I admit I stalked his facebook, he was depressed up until yesterday. Today I launched my online store and made a Tinder account (I found him there a week ago). Today he emails me a very business-like email saying how it's stupid talking through assistants when he could just contact me about my business plan. He offers all the financial and business help he knows I need. \n\nA part of me knows it's because he wants in on my future business (it's fucking genius) a part of me hopes it's because he hates waking up alone and being completely alone. He was incredibly depressed the last few weeks we were together. I was worried and asked him to get psych help. Now he's throwing money at the situation, asking for nothing in return. He knew I needed a couple of thousand for a lawyer, a bit more for merchandise, etc. He writes a detailed pricing email explaining me my business model but says he wants nothing more than my success and maybe a bit of his initial investment. \n\nI'm lost without him both emotionally and business-wise but somehow could make it work without him(loan from family), although not as well as he ever could, not a marketer at all. He knows this. Right now there is nothing tying me to him, except my feelings and need for business help. What to do?", "summary": "my ex is smart, wealthy, and offers me something I can't refuse but is not offering a relationship, nor is he saying I'm sorry for kicking me out of his life :("}
{"id": "t3_1m0lpw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend[23/M] group-hanging out with party girl [23/F]... Reasonable to be bothered or not? [5 year relationship]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Everything is 90% good. \n\nHe hangs out with his 4 male friends on a regular basis to play a game that I don't like playing, so I never come. At times, those males bring their girlfriends or just female friends along, and it's always been fine with me.\n\nNow, however, a girl [23/f] \"Trisha\" is interested in becoming a regular part of their hangouts. The hangouts would be 4 guys (including my boyfriend) and now her. I barely know her, but from what I've seen of her on Facebook, she (based on the pictures):\n\n1. drinks a lot and flaunts it\n\n2. has stripped to her bra and underwear before with my boyfriend's friends\n\n3. grabs her boobs (through clothes) and holds them up for camera at a party environment \n\n4. stands on table while doing similar obnoxious behavior\n\nSoo... I don't think my boyfriend would cheat on me, but it makes me uncomfortable to imagine her becoming a regular part of their group. I also feel like it's almost disrespectful for him to be around someone like that on a regular basis. I've told him that it makes me uncomfortable, but he (he has had more social interaction with her than I have, but still pretty limited) says that those pictures are just pictures and don't represent who she really is. And that she is \"just one of the guys\" and not to worry about it.\n\nBut here I am, worrying and writing about it on Reddit. Is it unreasonable for me to be bothered by this girl becoming a regular part of their hangouts? And how wrong would it be for me to request that my boyfriend does not hang out with her, or significantly limits it, rather than having regular hangouts with her involved?", "summary": "Boyfriend[23/M] group-hanging out with party girl [23/F]. Not sure what is a reasonable reaction here.... Him and I have been in a relationship for 5 years."}
{"id": "t3_2a2j28", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] My girlfriend [20/f] has become very distant and weird", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little bit over 1 year. We recently had a breakup because I was distant and she thought I was cheating on her (which I wasn't). Before the breakup, she wanted to spend as much time with me as she could, but recently she has been very distant. We used to go to eachothers places overnight almost daily, but nowadays she does not want to come over to my place or want me to go over to hers (We both live on our own). She also used to talk to me all the time on facebook, but now she pretty much only replies to what I talk, and does not try to keep the conversation going. She has became pretty slow at replying, but when I'm with her, she replies instantly to her other friends who text her. \n\nI'm really lost at this situation, because I feel like she does not want to be with me anymore. I know that she's taking SSRI medications at the moment for anxiety. But she was taking them before we broke up for couple weeks. Her explanation for this situation is that she wants to spend some time alone, because she is working so much and never has time to be alone. This bothers me because she used to want to be with me all the time she could, and now she does not even try to schedule time for me.", "summary": "gf has became very distant after we got back together, even though before we  broke up she was really into me."}
{"id": "t3_uni3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He ignored a comment I made about claiming the boyfriend title.  Where do I go from here?", "post": "I'm a 25 female, dating a 23 male.  We live in the eastern United States, I'm attending grad school, he's attending law school.  We've been dating for 3 months now and have been exclusive for the past month and a half or so.  At this point we don't call each other boyfriend or girlfriend, but he does stay over every couple weeks and I've stayed over his place on multiple occasions.  He's very affectionate in person and in his text messages, he opens car doors for me, we hold hands in public, kiss etc.  I have only met one of his friends, but he's shown my picture to a couple of his gfs.\n\nAnyways to get to the question.  He was asking me what I was doing and I told him I was listening to my friend tell me how she was FB stalking our high school classmates who had hot boyfriends.  And he said \"so she's stalking you? haha jk\" I said \"to answer you, yes :)\" and then \"does that mean you're claiming the boyfriend title haha?\"\n\nHe completely ignored that boyfriend text and moved on with the conversation.  I haven't brought it up again, and don't plan to anytime soon.  I'm assuming this means he's not ready to claim the boyfriend title.  But how do I bring it up again without making him feel like I'm some pushy, clingy girl? By the six month mark I'd like to be considered his GF because otherwise I'd feel like the relationship isn't moving forward.  For me the boyfriend/girlfriend title wouldn't change our relationship, it would just reinforce my confidence in our relationship.  I'm not going to worry about it for now, but would just like some advice as to how to broach the subject again if necessary and/or why he's not ready to claim the boyfriend title (myriad of possibilities I know).", "summary": "Ignored a comment asking him if he was claiming the boyfriend title, how and when should I bring up the topic again if necessary?"}
{"id": "t3_2uideg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do or ask myself before deciding to divorce?", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. We (f30, m33) have been married five years. No kids. \n\nWe have times where we don't communicate well and have been in and out of marriage counselling to address this.\n\nI love this guy. But the more I think about it, the more I think we're not meant to grow old together. \n\nI am scared that I am just giving in to exhaustion and a recent bad run. \n\nTimes have been tough, we have both been isolated from our friends due to recent drama in our friendship groups and despite counselling and other efforts we have been drifting apart.\n\nWhat should I do, or ask myself, before making a decision on our relationship?\n\nI desperately want to be alone. I desperately don't want to be alone.\n\nI can't trust my own mind, Reddit.", "summary": "Seeking advice on how to assess relationship before making the decision to divorce or not."}
{"id": "t3_kkyww", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can my brass choir raise money to travel to Albania and help grow their music education?", "post": "As the title says, I need help coming up with ideas/resources on how to raise enough money for a twenty-student brass band to travel to Albania/Greece. The trip is going to cost about $3,000 a piece, and most of us poor students just don't have the cash for that. Any info on corporate donations or huge fundraising ideas would be great. \n\nBack Story: Last year, one of the trumpet teachers (who is a good friend of my trumpet professor) came to my school in order to study with professors in America and expand his knowledge. He teaches at the only conservatory in Albania, The Albanian University of Arts. Even though he is a great player, there are so many things that he just doesn't have access to. This includes all the different teaching methods and equipment. For instance, he was in an opera over there, but the trumpet he had when he came here would have been considered a \"beginner's\" model here in the states. He was fortunately able to purchase a new one with the grant he received. He is also now the first person in Albania to own a piccolo trumpet, which is a standard thing for performers here. I can't explain how cool this is!! \n\nNow that he is back in Albania, he is begging our brass choir to go over and visit. Doing this would propel their brass program forward, as they don't have access to the quality of players that we have. It would also give the students over there a chance to interact with American students, which would be very beneficial to them (as well as us).\n\nIn addition to working with the school, we plan on giving concerts at the embassies as well as around Albania/Greece.", "summary": "I need to know how I can raise money so our university Brass Choir can go to Albania in order help improve the education of their brass musicians."}
{"id": "t3_3per55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am having a dilemma about dating age ([18F])", "post": "I'm a 24 year old guy, soon to be 25.\n\nI'm very inexperienced when it comes to relationships, in fact until about a year ago I hadn't kissed a girl and I was a virgin. I still haven't had a girlfriend.\n\nAt that time a year ago, I started using Tinder. Since then I've been on dates with a number of girls and I feel pretty comfortable with doing that now. When I started I suffered so badly from social anxiety that going to the shops made me anxious but I forced myself to overcome it by going on Tinder dates. It was the ultimate in removing myself from my comfort zone and I no longer experience social anxiety.\n\nUp until now every girl I've dated has been in their 20's, but I have a date lined up with an 18 year old and it's making me question whether that's even OK now. It's a question I've never really had to deal with.\n\nShe likes all the same stuff as me, we really get on well in our discussions and she's attractive. I mentioned that I would be meeting her to my friends and I got some lighthearted jokes about cradle snatching, but it really did make me think about whether this is an OK thing to do. I mean I have all the right intentions and from a relationship perspective I am in exactly the same place as I was when I was 18.\n\nI don't know how things will work out with her - but the question stands with regards to general dating age. I've read the half your age +7 rule and it seems like bullshit to me. What do you think? Is it wrong? I'm leaning towards not giving a fuck and just going for it.\n\nI'm less concerned with myself getting hurt than it having a negative effect for the girl I'm dating.", "summary": "Is it wrong to date an 18 year old at 24 (soon to be 25...)?"}
{"id": "t3_vgpfy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship help, I'm not sure I'm giving her enough space and I'm worried I'm screwing up!", "post": "Hi, this is my first post on Reddit. Long time lurker and new member. Ok, let me start with I'm a 27m she is a 21f. We have been happily dating for a year and a half. Never arguing, never fighting, just really enjoying each other. Well 4 months into our relationship, her mother kicked her out of the house. She moved in with me at my parents place. Everything was really great up until 2 weeks ago. She expressed the need to move back home. Living here with me had begun to make her feel claustrophobic and confined. I can completely understand this. I just feel like there's more to this. After she moved out early this week, she begun drastically cutting communication. Not responding to texts and keeping conversations to a minimum. I just can't make sense of this. I suffer from depression and anxiety. When Something like this arises, I have a habit of making it go to shit. I over analyze every little detail and wonder what shes doing through the day. Causing me to become bothersome to her. She is aware of my worries and depression, and tells me to please calm down and that everything is fine. I'm driving my self crazy and I'm flooded with sadness and depression. I just don't want to push the girl I love, away from me with my problems. How can I give her space and what does it mean to do so?", "summary": "How can I effectively give my GF space and what does it mean to do so?"}
{"id": "t3_3seb4n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] met a girl [22 F] on Tinder and I was really high.", "post": "So let me start from the beginning.\n\nI made cannabis infused coconut oil at home and I decided to take a teaspoon to try it out.\n\nI matched with this girl on Tinder right after I had the oil and we instantly hit it off. \nWe are messaging each other and then she suddenly asks if I want to go out for dinner right at that moment and I was agree as I was feeling a bit hungry. However, I was a bit sceptical about the whole situation as we only have been talking for 30 minutes, but I got some photos to confirm that she was real through Whatsapp. At this point, I'm rushing to get ready and I totally forget that I had the cannabis oil.\n\nAnyway, on my way to the restaurant that's when the cannabis suddenly hits me and I'm high as a kite.\n\nWe meet up and we go to a restaurant. I don't really know what's going on as my mind is somewhere else and me being an honest person - I tell her that I'm high. She has never tried cannabis before so she doesn't know what's going on with me. Also she didn't like her food, which made the date more awkward...\n\nAfter we leave the restaurant she wants to go for drinks but I decline as I don't want to mix alcohol with cannabis. We part ways after this and I text her later apologising about it being awkward.\n\nI had a feeling that she wanted to hook-up which I'm totally down with but I blew it.\n\nShould I try again or leave it?", "summary": "got high on a date and awkwardness ensued. Should I ask for a second shot?"}
{"id": "t3_sng02", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me save a fellow redditor's life.", "post": "I prepared a throw-away, a dear friend of mine (who I know for a fact is a redditor, thought he won't tell me his username) is a closet addict. And if I don't do something soon, he'll die. \n\nHe binge drinks, takes pills (psuedophedrine, Vicoden, basically uppers then downers), and he otherwise leads a reclusive, unhealthy lifestyle (stays inside all day, online, watching TV, etc...) He's gained weight, and he's obviously not healthy. He forgets things, has mood swings, and acts like nothing is wrong with him. He makes excuses for his habits- stress, depression, etc... \n\nI offered him the number of a rehab clinic nearby, but he refused, and got pissed off because I was \"overreacting\" and \"meddling in his business\". \n\nReddit, how can I help someone who won't help themselves? What should I do? He's my best friend, and I refuse to let him end up in the streets, or worse.", "summary": "How do I save my best friend's life before he becomes a full-on junkie and kills himself?"}
{"id": "t3_27oh2a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to McDonald's.", "post": "Gross story on both ends, btw.\n\nI have apparently contracted some sort of stomach virus, and as such, am sick as a dog.\n\nWhen I'm sick, I don't really care what I eat, because it's going to come shooting out of one end or another.\n\nI get there at 12:00.\n\nIf it matters, I used to work there, but haven't for two years. (Thank the fucking lord because I swear to Christ if I would have had to spend one more day there I would have probably gone more insane than five and a half years of working there had already made me). I did not know the name of the employee who I interacted with. Another side note: when I worked there, if you didn't wear your nametag it was an insta-writeup).\n\nI got sidetracked, sorry. So I went into McD's and waited for six minutes. apparently they're short staffed. This part, I understand. but what I don't understand, and found quite disgusting, was displaying a bleeding arm, explaining that they were bleeding, and cleaning with the same type of rag used to clean the tables. What I don't understand, also, is trying to get me to come back when I've said \"never mind\" and am dashing out of the store on the verge of puking.", "summary": "Montezuma's revenge finally relented for a split second, long enough for me to get food.  Hurricane Nausea set in and I turned into Sonic the Hedgehog to get the hell out."}
{"id": "t3_2iob6z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering toys", "post": "So I just realized this happened and I may or may not be royally screwed.\n\nBit of backstory, I live on campus at a university near an hour away from home. Parents said they were leaving out of town this Thursday, and I, as the typical horny college guy, tell my SO to come over for the weekend and we can have a great time. I've been planning stuff I was going to do and running the gist of it by the SO and she was ecstatic. All I needed now was to buy the toys, lube, and more toys! \n\nOf course I go to trusty Amazon and order it all there, one problem though. I ordered it and thought all was good, order says delivered, check my post at the school, says no package. I thought that was weird, and I immediately got scared. I checked Amazon and I realized I ordered it all to my house, and not my dorm. Somehow my dumb ass put the dorm address on the billing address instead of shipping. My parents don't leave until Friday afternoon and I'm dreading seeing them now, because I know they always open all my packages and letters.", "summary": "Ordered super happy adult fun time stuff, shipped it all to parents house and they've probably already opened and seen it all."}
{"id": "t3_156nlh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one become a male stripper?", "post": "Hi reddit,\nI am a 19 year olds and I am looking for a part time job to help pay for college. I have always I had this idea that I could become a male stripper. I am currently single and I am confident enough in my looks.  I try to keep myself in great shape and I have(as my account name suggests) a huge libido. I would consider myself an exhibitionist; I have posted a couple times to ladybonersgw and had good results. I can't see any requirements of stripping that would putt me off. I have read that the vulgarity of the groups of women can be shocking/disturbing, but because I love being told what to do especially anything sexual I dont see that bothering me. My main question is what would be my first step be? I also am wondering if there is an alternative to stripping that a redditor can suggest(like camming or something idk)", "summary": "want to become a stripper, what would be a good first step? Is there an alternative to stripping?"}
{"id": "t3_m0ktf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Since Yahoo Questions is now a haven for sarcastic answers, I need some help, Reddit! What is wrong with my tummy?", "post": "Ok so lately I have been having some stomach issues. I get these really bad stomach cramps - no they are not menstrual cramps. It sort of feels like my insides are contracting, like a sharp pain. There is also a dull burning feeling going on in my stomach most of the time. I get this about 30 minutes after I wake up and then its on and off most of the day (ranging in severity). \nIt is really starting to effect my appetite as well.\nWhen I do manage to eat, food helps subdue the cramping for about an hour, and then it comes back. \nDrinking pepto-bismal or Malox helps a little, but not totally.\nIt may just be gas (also, I am not having any strange bowel movements, everything is normal in that department) but I am worried it might be something more severe... Any thoughts?", "summary": "sharp stomach cramps, burning sensation in stomach"}
{"id": "t3_2s69od", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] new girlfriend [24F] of two months is showing some signs of being 'clingy'. How to bring it up without hurting feelings?", "post": "To start off, she has a lot of amazing qualities and I deeply enjoy the time we spend together. I like her, but at this point, I am just trying to feel out the relationship and kind of see where it goes. On the other hand, she seems to really love me already. She wants to see me all the time, talks about how her parents will really like me, is planning vacations with me for the next summer, just got me an expensive holiday gift, etc. Apart from her many positive qualities, I find this very unattractive. I need to have a conversation with her about our expectations for the relationship and that I would really like to slow down and just take time to enjoy each other. I'm worried that my lack of such a fast commitment will leave her feeling led on. What's a way to approach that would allow me to express myself effectively, while also not making her feel like I don't care or that she is unwanted (because I do want her)", "summary": "My new lovely gf is moving too fast for me and I find it clingy. How to bring it up without ruining everything?"}
{"id": "t3_2jf0jh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/M] with my GF [22 F] of 4 months, how do I stop being so needy, jellous, suspicious?", "post": "So I've been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and despite being 27 she is the first person I have really been with. I feel like I'm being too overbearing.  \n\nWe see each other basically every day,  like she comes over to my house every night and we cuddle and watch moves or work on puzzles or anything. \n\nSometimes on the weekend we will go out to a club and dance. I'm not sure what is appropriate like she is good looking and so guys will try and dance with her while I'm there. She will push them away and grab onto me, even so I honestly want to fight these people.\n\nShe also still talks to a lot of guys, including exes, and even tho I don't really want to I glance over to try and see what she is typing. It's not nice conversation either with is weird to me, they are all assholes to eachother. \n\nMy biggest trust issue is that she cheated on me within the first few weeks of us 'dating'. I didn't even find out from her but from someone else. She said it was a stupid mistake she made when she was really drunk and that at the time she didn't love me yet. I'm working on getting over it and I don't think she would ever do it again but it still hurts every once in a while.\n\nThere is also some weird pressures in our relationship because she is not a citizen of the country we live in she is an aupair and her contact ends in 10 days, however she is getting a student visa and staying for another 2 years. I could honestly see myself being with her for the rest of my life and stupidly have told her this, tho she didn't react negatively. \n\nThis Saturday we are going to a more distant club that she went to a lot before we met and I'm terrified of guys being overly familiar.", "summary": "have a lot of personal issues with my girlfriend and need advice to make myself better"}
{"id": "t3_qcw9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend wants to see the world, I do not. Are we incompatible?", "post": "I'm 25, UK have done a lot of travelling in my younger years (i.e pre18). She's 22, we've dated 1yr and a half, lived together for 4 or 5 months before she finished her Uni/Work placement and decided she wanted to travel. She's gone to Oz for 6months or so and I didn't want to give up my well paid job to go with her, just to come back to unemployment\n\nThe problem is that she doesn't know if she ever wants to stop travelling. I always planned to move to wherever she was when her career finally kicked off (I can work anywhere) but she can't say when that will be. In a way she feels bad for making me wait. She knows I want to settle down and have kids, and shes getting the \"I'm young and only have one chance to see everything in the world\" out of her system\n\nI cant conceive of any situation where the two of us would break up, and we both love each other a substantial amount, so I guess my question is: do you think this is a situation that can work out? Will the strain and guilt pile on for her the longer she's away and I'm waiting at home? Will some sort of resentment grow for each other because neither of us have said no to our dreams (hers to travel, mine for family) to be with each other from now on?", "summary": "She wants to see the world, I want to get a house and family. Can we stay together while shes away travelling for an indeterminate time without resentment growing for each other?"}
{"id": "t3_1see1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with just a complete mess of a friend circle", "post": "So I am having trouble figuring out what I should do in this situation. My two female friends (we'll call them Sarah and Melanie) had been dating each other for awhile. \n\nSarah went abroad so they were having some issues with the distance and decided to end it for awhile. However, a few weeks after the alleged break-up, Sarah sent a SnapChat to Melanie with a revealing picture of Melanie's ex. \n\nSince the picture was only available on a social networking site and was three years old, it proved that Sarah had gotten Melanie's password and went through her messages.\n\nThis is where the problem comes in. I have known Sarah longer and she introduced me to Melanie, but I don't know if I should stop being friends with Sarah based on this. She did not do it directly to me, but I still feel that the invasion of privacy is a big deal and affects my relationship with her. What should I do?", "summary": "Female friend sends nude photo of another friend's ex to her. How do I react?"}
{"id": "t3_fz8kz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been wondering, who else feels the same way as I do about school and learning?", "post": "I dislike school itself, but greatly enjoy learning new things... I'm kind of like a sponge for knowledge. I love surfing the web, reading about new things and getting blown away by things I can only wish to understand in its entirety. I love reading. I love knowing stuff.\n\nPut me in a school environment with the concept of knowledge represented through a number...I'll appear to be an average or below average student. I've taken numerous IQ tests and have scored in the 125-140 range on all of them. So meh, I don't care about grades in all honesty. I don't enjoy waking up so fucking early to get to school. Who in their right mind wants to wake up at 7am so they can show up to an 8:15 class half-asleep...you either fall asleep on your desk or you don't process any of the things the teacher says. And then we are asked to regurgitate the things told to us in class...how on earth is that gaining knowledge...it's simply a sign that you can memorize content for a specific period of time which is conveniently told to you so you can prepare for that 1-4 hours of memorization skill testing. You know what, that's what we should call exams now...Memorization Skill Testing... not History Exam, English Exam, Biology Exam, etc. Nowadays they all simply test your ability at memorizing and regurgitating\n\nPut me infront of a computer and I'll stay up until late at night doing things I find interesting, reading about things I find interesting (while simultaneously Skyping :D) So much more productive than a day in school.", "summary": "essentially, I dislike the concept of formal education in a school building, yet I highly enjoy learning new things and expanding my brain! (sorry, I'm frustrated and currently in class...a lot of what I said up there may be sporadic. GNEH)"}
{"id": "t3_10lrst", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the saddest thing you have ever seen, but were hopeless to be helpful?", "post": "Me and my husband live in Japan, he is Airforce and we're stationed here. When we get off base it's a huge rule that we don't interfere with anything the locals do, considering we're in their country and don't need any problems. If I had any way of helping, I would have in a heartbeat reguardless of what we're allowed to do and not do.\n\nWe were walking down one of the main roads, a local was driving down the road holding a husky puppy out the window, probably around 2-3 months old. They held the puppy out the window and smashed it into anything possible. It's face was so bloody and gashed that you couldn't even tell what it was anymore. They repeativly smashed it against brick walls, mail boxes, etc. I tried to get a license number or SOMETHING but they were going so fast, I could simply see the dog and that was it. Nothing could be done.\n\nI can't get that image out of my head, and it's tearing me up!! Does anyone else have any stories where they felt hopeless?", "summary": "Japanese locals were hanging a puppy out the window and smashing it's face brutally into walls."}
{"id": "t3_1hoyov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help force me to leave her. Me[31M] with my wife [32F] of 13 years and a kid, she cheated again and I need to get divorced, but I just can't.", "post": "She says it'll never happen again. But she said that last time too.  This last year has been good. We've been relatively happy. Going to therapy and taking her meds. She's bi-polar.\n\nI went out of state to visit family. She was hanging out with friends, including the guy she cheated on me with a year and a half ago. He gave her his #. She called him, then went to his house, (just to hang out as friends), and they had sex. A few times during the week. \n\nWhen I got back I knew something was up. She was being extra nice and we actually had good sex, which was unusual. I attributed it to her missing me, but... I checked her phone and found that she had been calling someone. We made a therapy appointment the next day to clear the air. Her therapist and her weren't going to tell me what she did, but I figured it out and called her on it. She didn't deny it, so I threw my wedding ring and walk out saying it's over, that's after she begged me not to leave her. \"Please don't leave me. I love you. Please don't leave me.\" \n\n She said it happened because she's a messed up person. That she's an idiot. \n\nBut my willpower just left me and now I don't want to get divorced. We have a house together, a daughter, we're just started to get ahead on finances. The logical part of my brain knows I'll be happier with out her.  But the other part of brain knows it wants to stay with her. I feel like I have no pride, no self-respect. We grew up together, half our lives. I have no clue life will be like with out her. \n\nOn the other hand. I don't want my life to change. If she does do the right things in the future, can't we be happy again?", "summary": "She cheated on me again and I said we were done with, but I still can't leave her. I texted last night that I wanted to work things out."}
{"id": "t3_449rri", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm a 19(M) year old sophomore in college trying to convince myself I want a relationship forever with her F(19)", "post": "So I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over 2 years now. For the most part we are a happy couple. We handle our fights in a healthy way (for the most part), have a healthy sex life, and are generally happy when together. I love her, I just am scared, for lack of a better word, about the idea of being with HER for the rest of my life (which is how we've spoken in the past). We are at almost completely different points in our lives where she is ready to be the responsible adult and I still want to be the reckless college boy. I like staying out too late and spontaneously doing things and she would rather plan our entire lives and have it play out to her plan. This would be something I could deal with if she didn't over the years develop some things I'm finding intolerable. She has taken on this victim mentality where no matter what happens she feels like she's being victimized. When my feelings get hurt and I try to express it, I get told that I'm making her feel like a bad girlfriend, when I want to hang out with my friends on a Friday instead of her (I'd take her with but she's too shy to be around them) , She takes it as I like them more than her and proceeds to make me feel bad about it. For the past 6 months I have been feeling just inadequate and bad about my life and decisions not because I don't like them or agree but that no matter what I do I get some sort of negativity from her. When I try to bring it up it turns into her once again. I love her and I really wish it could work but I just don't see us as two people that are in different points in life making it. I really just want to know general opinions, if I am being irrational, if anything needs explained please ask. I'm basically pouring emotions over here and just wanted some outside input and advise, Thanks.", "summary": "My girlfriend has changed in ways that I think have to do with our different points in life and I seek advise"}
{"id": "t3_4zyy5u", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Shin splints or something else (Exercise-Induced Compartment Syndrome)?", "post": "Hiya,\n\nUsed to run a fair bit (~8-10k most weekends) until I started getting issues with my lower legs.\n\nBasically I would run and the tibialis / lower leg muscle just behind the shin (that lifts and lowers the foot) would start burning and I wouldn't be able to lift my feet properly.\n\nI let everything rest for months and tried again a few times with the same result. This is a few years ago now.\n\nI'd really like to start again but am not sure what I need to address. From reading similar posts here I figure it's either shin splints or Exercise-Induced Compartment Syndrome - does anyone have similar experience?\n\nJust wondering if some of the the exercise regiments posted here will make a difference or if I'm wrong about it being shin splints\u2026", "summary": "Pain is not in the bone, just in the tibialis"}
{"id": "t3_4ck7yt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "As a [M/26] who's relationship status is now 'separated', what would be an acceptable amount of time before trying to get into a new relationship?", "post": "My wife moved out 2 months ago after a 13 year relationship (married for 3).\n\nAs much as I miss her and want her back, I'm starting to accept that she's gone for good and that I need to move on.\n\nI'm finding myself craving affection, not necessarily anything sexual right now, just someone to cuddle up with on the sofa with and watch a crappy movie together.\n\nI'm guessing that there aren't many women out there who want to get into a relationship with an emotionally broken guy freshly out of a long term relationship, who wants a lot of comfort and support.\n\nI want a relationship, but I feel as though it would be unfair on the other person based on my current situation and how it's not been much time since my wife moved out.", "summary": "How long do I have to wait to get a hug?"}
{"id": "t3_3g9bci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23F] cheated on my ex boyfriend[23 M]of 1year and 4month with a girl. and i dont know how to tell him", "post": "I said ex boyfriend cause i broke up with him\n\n right after i cheated on him. \n\nBut i didnt tell him that I cheated on him\n\nI should've told him to break up after i decide what to say its my fault \n\ni was confused and shocked at what i have done, couldnt think properly.\n\nWe are in a long distance relationship \n\nhaven't seen each other for 5months, 9months left to see each other again. \n\nI was kinda preparing break up but not in this way.\n\nI was drunk when i had sex with that girl \n\nbut i knew what i was doing and now i hate myself so much. \n\nThat was my first sexual experience with a girl\n\n and he deosn't even know that i am bisexual (i never have been in homosexual relationship before thats why i didnt tell him)\n\nI know i should've been honest after doing such a horrible thing\n\nAnd i am regreting it \n\nBut im afraid i might hurt him more by telling it \n\nShould i tell him the whole truth? Or should i skip my bisexual part", "summary": "i broke up with my boyfriend without telling him that i cheated on him with a girl. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xf4md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] had sex with [20F] on our first date and now she doesnt want to talk to me?", "post": "So I met this girl from my college on Tinder who said she wasn't looking for a hookup (cool with me). We met up yesterday for lunch and eventually went back to her place. We end up sitting on her bed and I start kissing her and messing around, seeing what she would let me do. She's totally into it and we end up having sex. \n\nAfterwords, she says shes supposed to meet her friends, so I say cool and go home. Today I texted her and asked if she wanted to get together again, but she rudely said no and wouldnt elaborate. She seemed like she was waiting for me to make a move, so its not like I forced anything. Also, neither of us were drunk or anything, and she was just as into it as me, so I dont really understand why I'm getting the cold shoulder?", "summary": "Met up with Tinder girl for a date, ended up having sex anyway, now she won't talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_1wefdd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to put my 4 year old son to bed", "post": "An hour ago it was bed time for my 3 darling angels. However one of them has not been playing along for the fast few nights and tonight was no exception.  First he ran into the bathroom to hide, as I approached the door it flew open so he could make a run for it. Stubbing my toe in the process. He gets away to hide in his twin sister's room. I desperately reach to grab him, clipping his shoulder and sending  my outstretched fingers hurtling towards the door frame. I hit the door frame with two fingers, bending back one nail as a start to shout angry words that the kids will be told never to repeat. Seeing me in pain the little one makes hes last ditch attempt at hiding and dives under his bed. I get on my stomach and reach unnder to pull him out and pull him regrettably to close to my face. That is when he struck his final blow. A headbutt straight to the nose accompanied by a nice cracking sound an a trickle of blood. blooded and beaten I abandon all attempts and go down stairs for mommy to come and have a go.\nHe fell asleep within 10 minutes.", "summary": "Tried to put kid to bed. He beat me up. Wife shows me up."}
{"id": "t3_2vhk7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my Ex GF [24 F] 4 months, she had a very sudden attitude change and won't tell me anything.", "post": "It was a super amicable breakup. Just bad timing. Feelings, connections, chemistry... all there. Definitely the type of situation where we could be together again in the future once things calmed down for her. She was adamant that she wanted me in her life no matter what and that she wanted to keep talking. \n\nWe did that for a week, then one day it just stopped (the day I had surgery on my wisdom teeth no less). I left her alone and didn't bother her, but heard nothing from her for 4 days. When I caved and asked if she was ok, she said she was super busy and dealing with a big personal family issue (she had told me about this before), but thanked me for worrying about her so I figured no biggie.\n\nLong story short, in 2 weeks she hasn't initiated a single call or text. Only responded to ones that I sent (only sent 3) and kept those convos short. I said to her yesterday that it has been a long time and I was worried that I did something to cause her to change her mind. All she said back was \"you didn't do anything wrong\" and that's it. Nothing else. \n\nI don't want to keep pestering her because maybe she just realized she needed time apart to think and she is definitely a busy person. But wow, I cannot stop wondering what happened and why the sudden change of heart. I'm losing my mind. The breakup was hard enough cause neither of us wanted it, but this is killing me.  All I wanna do is talk to her and find out whats going on, but I know I need to wait a while. Her birthday is soon and I'm trying to wait until then to sent a casual happy birthday text.\n\nI'm also 100% sure that there isn't another guy or anything like that. She is a super honest person, if she didn't still have feelings for me or if she didn't want to keep talking, she would have said so.", "summary": "Amicable breakup and we keep talking, at her request, for a week and things are good. Abruptly ends and there is little to no contact for 2 weeks now with no explanation. Mind going crazy with reasons why this may have happened."}
{"id": "t3_1advni", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure what to do in this situation. Would love some help from Reddit.", "post": "Hi reddit. I'm a 20 years old male and I would love some advice, I'm sorry if this is the wrong subreddit to post this.\n\nI will start out with the background info.\nI recently got out of a long relationship and the reason it fell apart basiclly was that there was a rumor that said I hooked up with one of my closest friends which is a girl lets call her Emma. This never happend, both Emma and I  got a lot of shit because of it in both our reletionships. My relationship failed when my GF was deadset that this rumor was the truth and cheated on me because of it as a sort of payback. I can not deny that there is a attraction between Emma and me, but we have never acted on it. Emma just got out her relationship aswell because she got tired of her BF being a douche about this rumor. \n\nThe problem\nEmma and I always sort of hanged out with other friends when we both had a partner. But I got a text from Emma tonight asking if we should hang out just the two of us tomorrow night playing video games, watching movies and drink some. This will propbably lead to us hooking up and I would not be far out by saying it will probably lead to sex aswell. I would also not be far out by saying this will lead us to becoming fuck friends aswell. While I can honstley say that I have fantasized about having sex with her, now that the opportunity has presented itself I'm not sure what to do. \nOne part of me wants to have sex with her and see how it is since it ruined my relationship and I wouldn't mind having her as a fuck friend(she is smoking hot). But another part of me wonders if this will make it akward to stay friends, I really treasure her as one of my best friends and I really don't want to lose her as my friend because of this. \n\nAnd that is my problem Reddit, what do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "I'm afraid of losing a friend by becoming fuck friends with her, yet I want to have sex with her to see how it is to have it. What to do in this situation Reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_1gj6o8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pooping at work.", "post": "Read a lifehack on reddit before about pooping at work, and so once I started my shiny new office job I proceeded to try it out. It soon became a shameful habit that I'm trying hard to get rid of.\n\nFast forward to today, after doing the buttclench as I waited for my supervisor to finish talking to me, I dashed to the bathroom and brought my phone with me. I got a little carried away with the fruit ninja and I ended up being there for 10 minutes before wiping and standing up to flush.\n\nTo my horror, there was a palm-sized poop streak inside the bowl, near the part that sucks the water/poo in. Even the huge amounts of tp I used to wipe did not scrub it away as it flushed. I tried flushing again, but it stayed there, mocking me like the smug bastard it is. I just ran off, hoping no one saw me(although I'm p sure they heard me flush twice since it's a small office)\n\nI'm typing this from my cube, my head hung in shame. I feel bad for the nice custodian who has to scrub it off later.", "summary": "Mud streaks."}
{"id": "t3_5412r2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my ass massaged", "post": "So I had a midterm today and I thought it would be great last week to schedule a massage for my lower back/ass because I have a bad lower back which I've had surgery on and some nerve damage in my right leg. I thought my exam was at 2:00 pm but it was actually at 1:00 pm. My massage was at 12 and finished at like 1:06. Spent the next 40 min reviewing for the exam and walked into the class wondering why nobody was there. I saw my professor holding a stack of papers and I realized I fucked up. On the plus side my ass feels great now.", "summary": "Got an ass massage, accidentally missed my midterm, ass feels amazing"}
{"id": "t3_gpry8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Online digital collaboration software.", "post": "I have an interesting work situation and i'm wondering if there's any software solutions to help streamline everything.\n\nWe work projects in shifts, each project has several different documents that we'll print out. We keep each project in a folder and just hand off the folder to the next person so they can easily see what's been done so far and what's left to do. We often also have to revise previous things that we've printed, since we print everything out it's pretty easy just to staple the revised paperwork onto the old version.\n\nThe only digital solution I can see to this is printing everything to PDFs and storing all of the PDFs in a folder (i.e. have a folder for \"Project 1\" \"Project 2\" ...). If we have to do a revision of something we'd just have to make a new PDF (something like document 3 - revision 1) so we'd be able see both the current version, and research older versions.\n\nThis seems like an easy way to share digital documents to me, but some of our department is not very good at computers and organization. Is there any sort of program that'd help handling files like this?\n\nEach project takes us about 5 days from start to finish and uses about 300 pages of paper. We often have multiple projects at the same time (as a dept about 5-10 at any given time). I'm thinking that a digital solution would save us a lot of paper and storage space (we hold onto each projects paperwork for a couple years).", "summary": "is there a program that'll let us easily save multiple PDFS and keep track of revisions to them?"}
{"id": "t3_31qig4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] ex of ~5months [23F] sent me an email today about her new partner and I'm not sure how to respond", "post": "I'll spare details because no one wants an essay and I'm just after simple advice.\n\nWe broke up and now she's seeing a friend of hers. I'm really baffled as to why she likes him at all let alone chose him over me (I know how pathetic and juvenile I sound). I'm the kind of person that really obsesses over things I don't understand and this I really don't understand.\nI have to reply to her email, it would be sullen and sulky not to, but I'd like to know if I should just say thank you for letting me know, or go the pathetic route and in a round about way ask her to help me make sense of it a bit better.\nI've taken this break up very badly so I know the second option probably isn't good in the long run as I should learn to let go, but I wanted to ask advice before I reply today.\n\nThank you", "summary": "do I persue the question of 'why?' Albeit tactfully"}
{"id": "t3_ud8pr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How important do you feel an artist's intentions are? (question for artists and non-artists alike!)", "post": "So as a young independent filmmaker, I've spent a ton of time thinking about this topic.  Plenty of my friends have different views on this subject, but I feel very strongly that an artist's intention is incredibly important when assessing a piece of his or her work.\n\nRecently I read a post on Reddit that was a quote of Joss Whedon's.  I respect the hell out of the guy, and love most of his stuff, but I highly disagree with what he said.  The quote was something along the lines of an artist's work being out of his hands when it is released to the public.  Sure, I agree, you can't force anyone to feel a certain way about your work, and once you release it, of course anyone is free to add his or her own meaning and run with what makes them feel good.\n\nBut, for example, to say that Picasso's \"[Guernica] was a pro-war pro-Nazi propaganda piece is simply wrong.  You could make the claim, but you'd just be wrong.  And you'd lose the impact that piece has.  Picasso is dead, the art is out of his hands, but it's still not really open to interpretation.  Nothing frustrates me more than someone finding hidden meaning that probably (or in some cases, clearly) isn't there.  As an artist, I feel like misinterpreting a work harms what the work can mean to an audience, and the ultimate impact it can have.\n\nBut I'd like to know what other people think.  Do you feel that at the end of the day, when sitting down to watch a movie, listen to a song, or view a painting, photograph, or sculpture, that the intention is important?  I'd love to hear from artists and non-artists alike, and if you feel up to it, say which you are to see if the opinions differ.", "summary": "Do you care what an artist intended when you view his or her work?"}
{"id": "t3_1yaguo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] dating [20 F] Can I say I love you?", "post": "Hey so I have a question\u2026..\nI have dating this girl for about 2 months now and I have known her for about 4 and a half years. We started dating on new years and everything is going great. But I am having a problem. I feel like I am falling for her and I think I really do love her. I know many people would say that after only 2 months you shouldn't be saying it to their SO but I am not sure. \n\nI have known her for so long and we have so much in common. But I am afraid that my mind is rushing through things. I had just gotten out of a serious relationship near the end of last year and I don't know if I my mind is just wanting to have someone to love or if the feeling are actual. Anytime we are together, or talk, or even seeing her picture I get so happy and I am just really lost. Can anyone help?", "summary": "Is it to early to tell her that I love her?"}
{"id": "t3_13x2mr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have people said or done recently that make you feel as if civilization is backtracking?", "post": "I work for a rather large company in which I respond to emails. I received an email in which the customer is upset with a recent commercial that had a white person and a black person eating/spending time together. In this email, the customer is upset that for a holiday commercial we would have two people of different races together. She then was even more upset because she had to explain to her nephew that they were only actors and the commercial is not real life. They came to the agreement that the situation would never occur in real life because \"No decent man or woman would allow such.\" She then told us that we need to quit trying to be so political. \n\nSo Reddit, what have you experienced recently that makes you feel like our civilization is going backwards?", "summary": "Customer thinks commercials should not be racially integrated."}
{"id": "t3_2njo0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23f] am severely depressed and don't think my illness is fair to my boyfriend [25m].", "post": "My boyfriend doesn't have a perfect life but he is doing well. He has a great paying job to cover his own expenses, and has life ambitions. He has finished university.\n\nMe, I am in university. I am doing an internship right now that has been abysmal. My mental health has been a trainwreck. I am severely depressed. I have realized, working 9-5, that this is NOOOOOOOOOT for me. This lifestyle is not for me. These jobs are not for me. I am soooo soooo soooooo unhappy with how I am living. I have an office admin internship right now and I absolutely despise it. My degree (a business degree) is really not equipped for other types of work.\n\nMy boyfriend wants\n\na) kids\n\nb) to travel\n\nc) to buy our own home.\n\nI do not think I can provide him these things. In my future, I see under or un-employment. I think at best, I will work part time in a position. My depression probably isn't the only reason I am hating work. It's NOT for my personality. He wants us to have enough money to afford a home, kids, travel......\n\nAnd I can tell you that I probably will never earn enough money to have these things. His salary can't support both of us + kids, and I DO NOT expect him to pay my way thru life.\n\nI am very sad. I think he deserves better. someone he can have these things with.\n\nWe've been together 6 years. I love him to death. He loves me. But I am so depressed (and out of options; tried therapy...failed. Tried therapy AGAIN...failed. Tried meds. Not really helping. Do not have enough money for specialist psychologists or anything else). \n\nI think he is better off without me.\n\nWhat should I do? Set him free so he can pursue this life he wants?", "summary": "I am depressed. I am very unwell, and have been unwell for 10+ years. My partner wants a great life and i do not think I will EVER be in the financial shape to help him achieve this goal."}
{"id": "t3_4g8jv7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Self Justice: A little road trouble", "post": "I was on my way home from dinner at a friends house and I had decided to take a cruise through downtown.\n\nNow, I live in Orlando and the downtown here is pretty minute, so the night life is relatively central to a few strips of clubs, bars and lounges. I hadn't been through here in a while and figured it would be a quick run and I'd be on my way home. As I get to the end of a strip, I sit waiting for my opportunity to make a left turn. While waiting, this club car with a 20-something driver and two girls, slowly drives around my 98 corolla and attempts to wedge itself in front me. I look at the club car, and drive up blocking it from cutting off me and about 20 other cars that were waiting for a chance to turn. As I sat there and stared at the driver, This self-entitled divo, turns back at me and starts yelling the phrases:\n\n\"Wow, your life must really suck! Is this really that important to you? Wow, look at how much your life must suck!\"\n\nWhile I am staring back I just sort of nod sarcastically. I couldn't respond too much because my windows are manual and all the while this was happening, I was chatting on the phone with my friends little brother, of whom I did not want to curse in front of. But, since it looked like I just ignored him on purpose, he ended up shrinking back into his seat and shutting up. By the time I hung up, the brother had distracted me enough to hold off on being pissed off, that it was my turn to turn left. I made the left turn, and the rest of the traffic behind me followed, leaving the club car stuck on the side.", "summary": "Embarrassed a club car driver that tried to cut me off."}
{"id": "t3_sihvh", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I guess they've piled up", "post": "Venting time. \nI'm in my final year in uni. \nI have a fuckton to study. I started nofap in february after a binge. I gave up trees in the begining of 2012 after two wonderful years. I gave up kickboxing training 3 weeks ago after 2 and a half years because that time should be better used studying. My relationship of 4 and a half years is ending/has ended (no biggie here, it wasn't really working, both of us were unhappy).\nWhat I'm trying to say is that I feel my brain is in a dopamine-drought so to say. Nothing makes me happy.(except for small things: today was south park, brilliant episode). There's nothing I look forward too. I'm just bitter and cynical all day.\nSo I guess I'm asking for some advice. And a couple of jokes. I dont want to read them on some webpage. I'd like a human being to tell me a good joke.\nThank you!", "summary": "many changes in my life I suspect are responsible for low dopamine level and bad mood. And tell me ajoke"}
{"id": "t3_r3dzo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me Reddi-wan Kenobi, you're my only hope :(", "post": "Ok, so in the grand scheme of things this may seem like a rather insignificant little problem, but its the most troubling thing for me in my life at the moment apart from my studies. \nSo I'm in high school, 11th grade, a sophomore basically (not sure if sophomore or senior, Aussie here) and I have a girlfriend. Yeah, I know, how silly of me. The thing is, I really like this girl, but she seems to be way more into this relationship than I am. I am considering breaking up with her but then it would be so awkward for both of us as we are in the same class together for Biology and do our experiments and what-not together. She is also very emotionally unstable at this point, very conscious of her weight, has been known to cut herself and doesnt have a very good relationship with her parents. Anybody who is or has been in a similar situation please, you're my only hope.", "summary": "I have a sort of psycho girlfriend who I dont really fancy as a partner anymore. How do I go about breaking up in the least harmful way?"}
{"id": "t3_1iwhoy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] after breaking up with my girlfriend [25F] of half a year had realization, are relationships a mix of 'freedom vs security' or 'freedom vs responsibility'?", "post": "I've been having a relationship with a girl for nearly half a year and we recently decided to break it off. After not being in a relationship much since high school, and having many casual hookups, I rushed into a relationship after a life changing event. I was surprised and shocked as I discovered how similar we were, but didn't really know what I wanted in a relationship. I guess after being single for so long, you realize you have a great deal of freedom. Freedom to do whatever you want without any real repercussions other than your own guilt. But when you're in a relationship, you trade that freedom to do anything with the security of having another person to confide in, to hold against the darkness of the universe. I guess I felt like I was losing my identity as I precipitated from a 'me' mentality to a 'we' mentality. Perhaps the 'me' mentality is a symptom of being a young adult, and at some point you realize that security is more important as you age and experience the world, but you have to want to make the transition. I feel like I lost her because I wasn't able to meet my responsibilities for the 'we' part, and I wasn't always there when she needed me. \n\nI guess my question is two parts. How do you reconcile the loss of your self identity to meet it in the middle with your mutual other? \n\nThen also, is the 'freedom vs security' a valid way to look at modern day relationships? It's really 1 person vs 2 people, which is the stronger model? Also, is security interchangeable with responsibility because you have to be responsible in order to gain the benefits of security? This kind of matches the constant struggle in the political spectrum where we try to pick a perfect balance between freedom (doing whatever you want) vs security (being safer) or responsibility (standing up for what you think is right despite what may feel good).  I mean, are there any abstract examples or ideas out there that very closely match the balance of a good relationship?", "summary": "After a breakup, trying to see what I can learn from the experience as it relates to the classic political dilemma of 'freedom vs responsibility/security'"}
{"id": "t3_1ts53s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister (F29) cant get over her baby daddy ex-bf (M29). He's a cheater, liar, and a drunk. What advice can I give her?", "post": "They've been in an off and on relationship for about 6 years or so. He has brought girls home drunk (their home), she has found sex chats on his computer, and the latest is actually having a relationship with another woman from work while she was pregnant and they were technically together but having problems. She moved out after that. It's obvious that she needs to get over him, but she's a little obsessive with the relationship...  He hardly even sees the baby, but his side of the story is that she fights with him a lot (non-stop texts), has no trust (because of the things he's done), and drives him crazy. Basically, that he cant be with a person like her, she has to change. \n\nAt this point its \"finally\" getting to her and she feels pathetic, ugly and hopeless because despite it all she wants him to give her another chance (This morning he told her he doesn't want to be with her for the millionth time). \n\nWhen I ask her the reasons for wanting to still be with him, its basically because hes the father of her baby, she doesn't want him to go back to the other woman (because shes ugly, hates her, and doesn't want them to be happy together after what they did to her), and because him rejecting her makes her want to be with him even more. Through out their relationship he's always said mean things to her like \"You're not that pretty/skinny/intelligent\" supposedly to motivate her and shape her to be a stronger woman. \n\nThis is just some of all the shit they've been through that I can think of...", "summary": "My sister has been in a relationship with an emotionally abusive asshole for 6 years, who has cheated on her multiple times (even while she was pregnant with his child), and still cant get over him. He basically blames her for everything. No matter what advice I or others give her she doesn't listen. I really want her to move on already and be happy.."}
{"id": "t3_2lwyde", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my pregnant wife I wouldn't cheat on her.", "post": "This basically happened... oh... ten minutes ago or so.\n\nMy wife is 9 weeks pregnant and well into the morning sickness, sick headaches, hormonal/emotional mess that the first trimester brings. Her self-esteem has taken a hit and her nerves are pretty frayed because she basically feels like ass 24/7. Her nausea usually hits her the worst in the afternoons and evenings, so today after work, she decided to lay down in bed and read until I got home from work about an hour later. When I got home, I crawled into bed with her and we started cuddling and chatting about our days.\n\nNow, sexy time usually happens in the evenings or before we go to bed, but the last month or so, my wife has felt so crappy in the evenings that she usually just passes the fuck out as soon as she hits the pillow. Being the understanding husband I am, I of course let sleeping pregnant ladies lie and let her get her much needed rest. Growing a person is hard work apparently! She has expressed regret, though, that we haven't had sex in awhile and today was no different. As we were cuddling in bed, she apologized again that we haven't had sex in awhile and said she wished she was feeling better so she could, and she said this in a joking tone, \"attend to her wifely duties.\" \n\nI kissed her on the cheek and, in the same joking tone, said, \"Don't worry. I won't cheat on you.\"\n\nShe looked at me with complete horror and kind of choked out, \"Wh-why would you even say that? Are you? Omigod, are you cheating on me?\" Cue the crying and sobbing and blubbering. She kept repeating, \"I wouldn't blame you. I'm gross and fat and ugly. I haven't felt good enough for sex. I would understand. I wouldn't blame you.\"\n\nI of course started apologizing profusely. I have never apologized so much in my life. She finally just said, \"Okay. Okay,\" a few times and quit crying. But she asked to be alone for a while. \n\nReddit. I fucked up.", "summary": "Told my sick, emotionally strained, pregnant wife I wouldn't cheat on her after she apologized for lack of sexy time. Cuddling to crying in 0.5 secs."}
{"id": "t3_2fsd5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M][30] Would like to know how I can convince myself it's ok to have a one-night stand or a short lived fling.", "post": "I've never had sex with a girl that I was not in a relationship with.\n\nI'm starting to regret the what ifs and the Could've Been\n\nI had one of the hottest girls I've ever known ask me today if we could have sex. I didn't know what to say, I just kind of laughed it off. I've never hung out with her outside of work. So I don't really know her as much as I would like, before taking the next step. As I was brought up to think sex = relationship. \n\nBut I think most of it has to do with my own self image. I don't think of myself as desirable to women. Hence, me having to get to know someone before I feel comfortable going beyond a friendship.\n\nA girl asking me straight up if we could have sex and that still was not enough for me to just say \"yes please!\" \n\nWTF is wrong with me??", "summary": "How can I get over myself and just have fun?"}
{"id": "t3_3r5j1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [16/F] asked me [17/M] for sex, but best friend likes her.", "post": "Okay, to start this out, I have already said no to the offer. However I just want some advice on how to go about this situation? \n\nWe both met this girl at a party, however she invited him, and he brought me along, and he rides the bus with her. I go to a seperate school than both of them as well. My buddy hasn't had a legitimate relationship, and this girl was very touchy to us both at the party. He talked to me and said he got kinda jealous when she was huggin me and etc. So we have already talked about her and whatnot. I gave him some honest advice about how she doesn't seem to be his type, however I told him he should try and spend some time with her to either prove me wrong or have him see what I was saying. I want the best for my bro, cause he's a nice dude.\n\nAfter the party the chick was definitely into me, as she snapchatted me and texted me and whatnot. She got kinda flirty, and I didn't flirt back, but it escalated quickly and she asked me to take her virginity. I didn't play around with that, and said I couldn't because my friend is into her. \n\nNow onto specifying where I'd like advice. Do I tell my friend? Just be 100% with him? I know that this could really make him sad. I don't want to be the friend that he doesn't want to go out with to parties cause he thinks I'll take his girls. Do I let it slide, just keep conversations as casual as I can with the chick (I'd like to be friends with her). Or do you guys have any ideas, or maybe advice on what I can do next time??", "summary": "My bro and I went to a party and each got to know a girl and the next day she asks me to take her virginity, I said no cause that bro likes her. How do I go about this, and how can I maybe prevent this?"}
{"id": "t3_3vw3m6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-Romantic] My [19/m] mother [53/f] took in a stray cat that won't stop fighting with our family cat, but she won't give it away.", "post": "We've had this cat for two or three years. A couple weeks ago, my mother fed this random cat and it wouldn't go away. So, she decided to let it in. Now, this new cat fights with our old cat and our two small dogs (both chihuahuas) hate her. All our animals lived in harmony before this cat came along. \n\nI keep telling my mother we have to give her away. She's too mean to our cat and our dogs gang up on her because they don't like her. What can I do about this? I'm so sick and tired of hearing screeching all night long! All my mother does is chide them by saying, \"Hey, you guys play nice!\" \n\nTHEY'RE NOT PLAYING! THEY'RE TRYING TO MURDER EACH OTHER!", "summary": "Mom wants a stray cat to stay, but the cat is mean to our old cat. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35ltqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 14 months. I can't figure out a solid reason why I should stay in (or break up) this relationship!", "post": "My girlfriend is kind, loving, sweet, really hot etc and tells me she loves me all the time, but I can't shake the feeling that she's not the one. I know I'm young and so is she, and being my first girlfriend this is probably a pretty generic case. I don't know why I feel this way which is why the prospect of breaking up is so hard, I'd want to give her a reason other than \"I just don't feel the same\"!\n\nOne thing that does bug me is the fact that she says she loves me SO much, like, at least 2-3 times an hour when we're together. I feel like she doesn't trust that I'll say it back? I also feel sometimes that she wants to keep me for the company, as she doesn't have many friends (she wouldn't have any trouble getting any if she put herself out there a bit more) of her own and is often alone in her flat. I, on the other hand have no problems being by myself for a length of time. \n\nOh, and I'm moving to Sydney for 5 months in 8 weeks or so.\n\nI feel like I'm answering some of my own questions simply by typing my thoughts out here, but I'd much appreciate other people's opinions.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "I am much more independent than my S/O and feel as though she is fooling herself into loving me because she is scared of being on her own."}
{"id": "t3_35yyav", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm confused and I feel violated, help?", "post": "A bit of background: I (f) am in a long term relationship with some I love more than I ever thought I could. I've recently had to change up my friend groups as well for various reasons. Anyway, I went to the pub with a few new friends last night and we all got very drunk and had a good time. We went back to a friends house where I ended up falling asleep. The problem: I went to bed alone (he has a spare bedroom which he let me use because I lived half an hour away from him) but in the middle of the night I woke up being in between two of my male friends. We were fully clothed so I just assumed they would rather share a bed than just sleep on the floor, which didn't bother me, but the friend behind me was touching me in very private places (he didn't go under clothing though). I could hear him whispering things to himself and it was very obvious he was horny. I felt very uncomfortable about this and panicked so I pretended that I was still sleeping. This probably lasted for about an hour and even if I moved to try and get him off of me he would just pull me back.\nWhat I'm asking now is, what do I do? I didn't confront him about it this morning and I also haven't told my partner. I also feel like if i say anything i am going to cause a rift in the friend group which i really don't want to do. I'm confused and quite stressed by what's happened so any advice would be appreciated", "summary": "I was touched up whilst sleeping by a friend even though I'm in a serious relationship, what do I do now? Also, my friends all know that I am in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_mb2v5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help; My uncle has been missing abroad for 20 years. How could I look for him?", "post": "Hello, Reddit.\n\nHere goes\u2026 My dad's brother left Europe to work in Australia in 1978, long before I was born. During the time he was in his early 20's. My dad and the rest of the brothers escorted him to the airport, watched him take off and never heard from him again\u2026\n\nLater on my relatives have tried to search for him in different ways \u2013 through Australian authorities, other relatives living in Australia, Red Cross, etc. without success. We know he got to Australia. We know he had a job waiting there. Other than that, the authorities at least won't tell anything. All we're left are the immigration selection documents and a bunch of photos taken at the airport.\n\nI gather there are two possible scenarios; a) he somehow died and went missing or b) he went missing willingly and had kept under the radar. Nobody knows why he would've done such a thing, though. Others think the authorities would've told had he died. It's been a long time since and we understand there's good change he's passed away but many of us still stay positive. The 70's were a lot different time and you probably could've disappeared if you wanted to.\n\nNow, I know the internet is a powerful tool and at this point, I turn to you and your advice. How would one use the internet to look for him? I don't think creating a Facebook page would do squat but I don't really know where to look from\u2026 Please help.", "summary": "Uncle travelled to Australia for work in 1978, went missing. How could I look for him via internet, or otherwise?"}
{"id": "t3_33id6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23] [F23] I want to ask my girlfriend how many guys she slept with before me. Should I?", "post": "It is my first relationship and its the girl i lost my virginity to. She had boyfriends and what not previously, so it bothers me how many guys she's been with. I look at her seriously as a partner and there is nothing to be concerned about but out of plain curiousity and desire to know as much about her as possible i wonder about this private part of her life. My curiousity is sparked because she lived for 4 years on her own and told me it was crazy times. It bugs me out a little bit.\n\nBut it just don't feel right to ask her this, even though she is very open about herrself.  Should i ask her, or it will backfire somehow, any tips?", "summary": "i want to ask my gf about her previous sex life, should I?"}
{"id": "t3_p20r5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of reddit that experience severe menstrual pain every month.  What do you usually do to ease the horrible pain?", "post": "Currently 26.  Since I started my menstruation, I have always had severe belly pain(or is that what you call a cramp is?)  How bad is it?  I would basically spend the whole hour or two lying on a bathroom floor puking or if not just lying because it hurts so much I can't walk or even stand.  My face would turn pail and I'd feel cold and sweating at the same time.  I have gone to see a doctor and have asked and had my uterus and ovary checked several times in the past and thankfully, the results always came out good.  I have been advised not to hesitate to take a pain killer(over the counter drugs like Midol and Advil.  I have never taken a hard core Dr. prescribed drug) whenever my period starts(even before the pain starts) and that's what I have been doing.  I wonder if a lot of woman does this.  I for some reason always think that taking pills is not good for your body.  sometimes I would try to ease the pain and not take any pain reliever but most of the time I can't handle the pain.", "summary": "I have severe menstrual pain.  I fix it by taking a pain reliever(over the counter drugs like Midol and Advil.  I have never taken a hard core Dr. prescribed drug)but worried that taking pills is not good for my body.  I'm wondering how other women deal with theirs."}
{"id": "t3_z0aqt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help diagnosing a medical issue I've been having", "post": "Ok soooo... where to begin?  A little over a year ago I started experimenting with \"K2\", or synthetic marijuana basically, and started experiencing some very odd things.  A few months after basically daily use I started to have some issues with my stomach where I couldn't eat.  I would get hungry but have an overwhelming feeling of nausea at the same time to make me want to not eat.  It got to the point where I almost didn't eat for a month and a half straight.  I haven't used the substance for a year now but the problem has been persisting for about a year as well, having periods of ups and downs where I'll suddenly be able to eat and then the next meal get insanely sick again.  I've lost almost 50 lbs. now (172 pounds down to 127 at the moment) and I see no end in sight to what I'm going through and quite frankly I'm starting to worry.  I haven't gone to a doctor because I have no health insurance and I have a minor phobia of doctors to begin with, and I guess a part of me is a little scared I'll find out it's something really bad and really expensive.  So if there are any doctors, nurses, paramedics, anyone who can possibly help me narrow down what's going on with me and a way to fix it I'd be in your debt.  Any questions I'll try to answer.", "summary": "I started smoking K2 and started having constant nausea after eating that has been persisting over a year and have lost 50 lbs.  Asking anyone for help"}
{"id": "t3_15qks7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about Canada VS USA for low-income self employed and entrepreneurs regarding health care.", "post": "Hey, thanks in advance for your help!\n\nSo, I currently live in the northern US, about 4 hours drive away from the Canadian border. My SO and I have been getting more serious and talking about our future, and where we would like to live, and Canada came up.\n\nI'm a part time audio technician with a few decently paying gigs, and I also have a regular 40 hour night shift-job; I'm working my ass off. One of the hurdles that i've come across is that if I were to quit my 9-5, or even drop to a part time position, to pursue my passion, I'll lose my (kinda crappy) health insurance, but I can't really justify the risk of going completely uncovered.\n\nI understand that Canadians pay higher taxes, (I think?) but according to some projections that I've seen recently, my taxes @ about $25,000-$27,000 a year income could go up almost 5% as a result of the fiscal cliff in the U.S.\n\nIf I were to pursue freelance audio work full-time, at first, I could only expect to make about $16,000-$21,000 per year. While I don't mind living frugally to pursue my entrepreneurial path, I don't think that I'd be able to pay for independent health coverage and taxes, so as of now, I feel stuck working this dead-end night shift that allows me some free time to work on mixing and producing for clients.\n\nShould I go across the border and shoot for citizenship? If I stayed in the U.S., are there any good government resources that I could look into as far as help with healthcare, small business development, re-payment of student loans, or any others? My understanding of food stamps (which I do not currently qualify for) is that they favor the employed v.s. self-employed low-income worker. Are other programs like this?\n\nThanks again!", "summary": "American Job currently pays $20,000 per year + crappy health insurance. Freelance part-time dream currently pays about $5,500 per year. Would like to quit job and pursue dream full time at an almost certain initial income cut. Health insurance+upcoming tax hikes pose a problem. Move to Canada?"}
{"id": "t3_30vzuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18F] In college, having troubled thoughts about dating, advice would be lovely", "post": "So a little bit of background information, I'm in my first year of college. I never dated in high school, don't know why, I just never met anyone who I was interested in or anyone who was interested in me. And I'm not ugly so that's not really a factor.\n\nAnyways, so I'm in college and dating is just so confusing and frustrating. Particularly in the 21st century what with texting and social media and stuff. I'm just frustrated because I feel like I'm doing something wrong. What made me post this is a boy I met the other night won't respond to my text messages. I met him at a party, he's a foreign exchange student and I am learning his language and we walked around and talked (I can't remember about what, I was pretty drunk) and made out a little and I mean I feel like it was a good time and he texted me that night and said he'd see me the next day at another party but I didn't see him there and texted him and he never texted back. And today I said hello in his language and he didn't respond.\n\nIt would be kind of long to post all of my \"romantic\" experiences on here but I just feel like they've all ended the same. Nobody has any further interest. And it's not like I'm even interested in dating but like I'd be interested in like \"hanging out\". \n\nI don't know, I hope this makes sense. Like I don't want to be actively seeking a boyfriend because I feel like I'll just take whatever I can get which is not good but I'm tired of being patient and \"waiting for the right person to come along\". I feel like I won't know who the right person is. \n\nI am also bad at like if I find out a person \"likes\" me then I start second-guessing my feelings towards them and I also think well what if this other person I'm interested in would be better suited for me. \n\nBasically I am tired of being alone but I don't know how to do that I guess. \n\nIf this didn't make sense, I can probably clarify if you ask.", "summary": "In college, don't know how to date. Advice/words of wisdom would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_28sywu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting off the fire alarm at Friendly's.", "post": "Okay, so it wasn't today, I was probably about 10 years old. \n\nI was with my mother and older sister at a local Friendly's for lunch, and I had to relieve myself. So I visited the restroom, and entered the stall and locked the door. I had to poo, and the only stall in their smallish restroom was a size big enough to accommodate a handicapped person. So I drop my drawers, sit down, and do what any normal person does when preparing to dump-- I look for something, anything to read or just something mildly entertaining to look at for the duration of my defication.\n\nMy attention was seized by a small black switch on the wall, with a white cord attached to it. As any normal 10 year old boy, I started to begin to feel the urge to pull it. If I didn't pull that cord, I was going to spend the rest of my life wondering what would have happened if I had. You know where this is going. \n\nAfter I finished wiping, I caved. I yanked the cord. I knew immediately that I had chosen poorly. As soon as I heard the alarm I began the \"oh fuck what do I do routine.\" I decided to play, it cool. I was going to walk out of the restroom pretending to not know what had happened. It would have worked, except for the fact that I was a horrible actor. I stepped out 9 the restroom and literally every head in the restaurant knew it was me. Nobody had moved out of their seats, everyone just turned to stare at the boy with the look of shame on his face. I still remember a random elderly lady with her fork halfway to her mouth. It was suspended there indefinitely as I slowly shuffled back to my family's booth.\n\nMy mom paid the bill and we left, not saying a word. We didn't return for five years. TIFU.", "summary": "I flipped a switch in the handicapped restroom stall and set off the fire alarm."}
{"id": "t3_4nx0ei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30 M] thinking of leaving my wife [29 F] because I'm infertile.", "post": "I haven't made up my mind but I'm leaning towards leaving more.\n\nMe and my wife have been together for 4 years and it's been great except for one thing. I'm infertile.\n\nWe have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months now and just thought our timing was off. I knew it was something more so I went to the doctor without telling her.\n\nShe wants kids badly and doesn't seem like she'll compromise on adoption or anything. I'm thinking of just letting her go to find someone else so she can start a family and not be held back by me.\n\nI'm just wondering if this is the right move.", "summary": "I'm thinking of divorcing my wife because im infertile and she wants kids."}
{"id": "t3_3gnsg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26 F] seeing a guy [28M] who's treated me better than anyone I've ever dated, but he just wants something casual in spite of if feeling v serious. Do I let him go?", "post": "I met this lovely guy on tinder (I know, questionable origins) and he's treated me better than anyone I've ever been with. From our very first date he said he was only in the market for casual however, so I've been understandably weary. But regardless of our casual status, we see each other weekly, have Scrabble nights, pig out and watch Netflix... Plus he invited me to his brother's wedding and asked me to go away for the weekend with him, among other very coupley things. Plus he's just so nice to me, always telling me I'm pretty, plus he seems to find my daftness charming (I'm not used to this).\n\nAnyway, in spite of it all, he doesn't want to commit, and he's still on tinder. Apparently he used to be pretty overweight and has had really long dry spells, so he says he wants to make up for lost time. We've only been dating 2 months, but I can feel myself becoming attached. I don't want to let him go though, because he gives me everything I need (beside the title of girlfriend) and I'm scared I won't find another guy as nice as him. I've been with quite a few dudes, and at this point in the relationship they usually fade on me or start to treat me like shit. \n\nI'm just not sure if I should let him go because we want different things at the moment, or if I should stick it out for a little while longer and see if he changes his mind, since it genuinely feels as if he really likes me. Any advice/anecdotes would be greatly welcomed :)", "summary": "I'm seeing a guy who I really like and he treats me extremely well and it feels pretty serious, but he maintains he wants something casual. Should I end things or see where they go?"}
{"id": "t3_s2qud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the scariest interaction you've had with a stranger? I was chased through the desert..", "post": "In January 2007, my wife (then girlfriend), best friend and I drove 2,000 miles to attend a playoff game in San Diego. Along the California border, I had the bright idea to take a side road between Interstate 10 and Interstate 8 to save time. It was about 3 in the morning and there were no cars within miles on either side of me when all of a sudden I see a car come speeding up with its left turn light blinking. I slowed down to let it pass but instead the driver started creeping up to my bumper and refusing to pass. No big deal, waited for a passable zone and slowed down to allow him to pass. By now, I'm going about 25 in a 60 and he is still riding my bumper. Freaked out a little bit, I sped up to 85, he's still on my ass. We're hauling ass through the Imperial Sand Dunes Rec area when all of a sudden another car comes up with its emergency lights flashing. The car that had initially followed me now started trying to box me in on the left side and run me off the road. I kept swerving back and forth to make it really difficult.\nAs I neared the town of Brawley, I decided I had to make a move. I slammed the brakes with both cars right on me, they swerved and stopped about 50 feet in front of me, just sitting there. I sat in the middle of the road facing either direction while they watched us for about 10 minutes. Finally they started to pull off, unfortunately I still had to go in that direction so I floored it to about 100 to avoid an ambush. The adrenaline rush got us all the way to San Diego in the wee morning hours. I was scared shitless, there are other stories but this is the one that takes the cake. What's the scariest interaction you've had with a stranger?", "summary": "I was chased through the desert by cars trying to run me off the road with my pregnant girlfriend. It was scary."}
{"id": "t3_51l64i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ___ [18F] duration, short-description", "post": "last summer i fell in love for the first time with my girlfriend, i wanted to marry her, I still love her, shes the kindest person on earth, she cared so much for me like no other person, but there were ups and downs, i didnt like her dressing sense, she put up with me for a while, then suddenly she said i dont love you anymore, I said id do anything she asked me, even dresses which i had a concern for, but she doesnt want a relationship anymore, she said she lost love.\n\ni told her ill change all she wants, but she doesnt want me, the thing is we've cuddled and did things and i can't do that to anyone in my life than her, im so obsessed with her, i Love her so much more than anything in this world, All i want is a life with her, shes my life.\n\n Is it even possible to get someone back who doesn't love you anymore? I've vommited 6 times over this break up, i've cried, my education and life is getting affcted, when she talks i feel like im in heaven, My friend says once a girl hates a guy she'll never like him again... Is that true, i've tried suiciding 3 times but i still have faith in her, i just want her back, idc if she loves me or not, she moves my world night and day, I miss her :(", "summary": "How do i get back someone i've been with over a year who just broke up? what's the best way, do i give them space?"}
{"id": "t3_xd3td", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Housemate leaves used tampons in toilet and is a nasty b*tch - please help?", "post": "this is a throw away account because my house mate is pretty cray cray.  We are both 26/f\n\nA little while ago I found a used tampon in our toilet bowl and confronted my housemate about it [(see first post)]  \n\nAfter the wonderful words of redditors I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt - maybe it a was mistake - even though in my other confrontations with her she's been a total nasty b*tch - so I had a feeling this was done out of spite but I didnt say anything.\n\nToday I woke up to find yet another used, bloody, nasty tampon in our bowl.  Flipping gross.  I texted her \"I need you to flush your tampons if you are going to put them in the toilet bowl\" (we have been having drain issues because she is flushing her nasty tampons and she refuses to stop).  \n\nShe replied, \"Oh I must have not pushed the handle down hard enough\" - the lid was up when I walked into the bathroom so I'm not buying that bogus line.\n\nI wrote back, \"Thanks in advance for making sure that does not happen again.\"  to drive home the point that I'm serious.\n\nCame home today and she 1.  didn't apologize for subjecting me to her nastyness and 2. refuses to talk to me and is blasting her music (ie sending the non verbal message I'm pissed).  I dont really care about our friendship that much (anyone who doesnt own up to leaving their used sanitary napkins in the toilet of a shared bathroom isn't a person I need to have a long term friendship with) but I do care about my standard of living.\n\nheres my question:\n1 - Can I somehow make this gross behavior stop so I don't have to see her used tampons anymore?\n2 - if she retaliates (which I have a feeling she will...she's pretty passive aggressive) with something worse - how do I protect myself?  What if she starts leaving her poo in the bowl or leaving something else gross around the house?", "summary": "living with passive agressive gross housemate that leaves her used tampons in the bowl and when I confront her she gets pissed at me.  How do I protect myself from her bad behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_4us8k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my friend [30F] of about a year, her relationship is unhealthy and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "I [25F] met my friend [30F] last year, and quickly realized that her relationship that I assumed was healthy (we have mutual friends) is really codependent and toxic. She acknowledges that she's a shell of her former self, he verbally abuses her, manipulates her in weird/unhealhthy ways, and has isolated her from all of her friends. A few of our mutual friends think it is abusive.\n\nI was really happy to be friends with her, until her drunken boyfriend lashed out at me for no reason. He randomly started telling me I was a worthless person. I'm sure he was just jealous she had a friend. I managed to be patient with the scenario since I wanted her to have support, but eventually I was too blunt about my disapproval which upset her, and our relationship kind of faded out.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. I valued her as a friend, and at the least would like to be supportive. But I think her boyfriend is an abusive asshole. I don't want to hang out with someone who would personally insult me, and I don't really want to talk about him either. We haven't talked for a few months, I'm not sure how to start things again.", "summary": "Friend is in unhealthy relationship. Not sure how to be supportive but also avoid her abusive jerk of a boyfriend, so we haven't talked in months. How can I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_4mm8ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F 21] boyfriend [M 21] of three years is constantly spending money on clothes and then wearing them once and saying he no longer likes them, then goes out and buys new clothes, which shits me off. Am I being controlling?", "post": "As you could pretty much guess from the title my boyfriend and I are currently arguing a lot in regards to his spending habits. He will go out but expensive clothes or just a lot of clothes, wear them once or a couple of times then never touch them again because he says they don't fit him properly (they do imo). Then he will go back out again and repeat the whole process. \n\nFor example, he owns a nice denim wrangler jacket, fits him well, and now he wants to go out and buy a new Levi black denim jacket ($90) that fits him better when he's only worn the wrangler denim one a handful of times. This shits me to no end because I see it as a waste of money, I came from a home where we never really got to spend money like this and when we bought something we got our money's worth because well, we were poor. We are pretty comfortable with money I have to say, but am I being a controlling bitch? Should I just let him blow his money and waste clothes like that which he just ends up donating? Or should I really put my foot down?", "summary": "Boyfriend is continuously spending money on clothes he doesn't need and is donating most stuff after a couple of wears."}
{"id": "t3_261kvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19 F] deal with my boyfriend [20 M] watching porn?", "post": "Firstly, I know that reddit is very pro-porn. I know that it shouldn't be a problem to me. I WANT to be okay with it. But the thought of the guy I love getting off to other women upsets me.\n\nA few days ago, I walked in on my boyfriend watching porn (he thought I had gone out). I was hurt as it was literally minutes after I would have left. It made me thin that maybe he was just waiting for me to go so he could do that (he has said that was not the case, and I mostly believe him but still feel insecure).\n\nIn the past I have told him that I'm fine with him watching it. But I've also gotten upset when he's shown me what kind he likes etc. I think I basically need to stay out of it and pretend it doesn't happen? \n\nHe offered to stop doing it altogether when he saw how upset I was. But I don't want that. I don't want to stop him from doing something that many guys do and that he gets pleasure from. I understand that sometimes he just needs a quick release, and maybe needs visual stimulation.\n\nThis doesn't stop me from being insecure and jealous, though. I need help trying to figure out how to stop thinking about it and getting upset about it.", "summary": "Boyfriend watches porn. I hate it but want to be okay with it."}
{"id": "t3_2vxo94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] can't figure out if this girl [17F] likes me", "post": "There's this girl that I like a lot. We talk all the time and as well hang out quite frequently. We go to the movies, out to eat, and just hang out in general. She always brings her friend but I know that the friend isn't interested in me. What's weird is the girl I like throws a lot of mixed signals. I just can't wrap my head around all of them. Just this weekend one of my friends stupidly texted her and asked her if she liked me. She said that she wouldn't tell him either way. Then he told her that if she did like me then she should just come out with it. Since then she hasn't talked to me at all and has snap chatted me like three times in six days. Usually we talk and she invites me to things but now she just is not there. What do I do? I like her but I feel like maybe she doesn't like me. She's going to be all alone on Valentines Day and I feel really bad.", "summary": "Is she avoiding me because she doesn't like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3flg02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my boyfriends ex is pregnant", "post": "hello reddit, I'm 18 and so is my SO. We've been dating for 4 months and i come to the internet for advice. That's not the best idea but fuck it i'm desperate.\n\n So deal is my boyfriend has a pregnant ex and i knew about that since we started dating. At first i was okay with that because he said the ex wanted nothing to do with him, long story short she kept changing her mind about that multiple times and it ended in a yes (FML) and tomorrow they're gonna go shopping for baby clothes and i've been throwing up a lot from the anxiety.\n\nI really don't want to leave because i love him (love makes you be unreasonable most of the time i can see how far you guys must be rolling your eyes at me) i want to try to be supportive because it's really not the kid's fault it's parents fucked up, i just hope i have the strength to handle this.", "summary": "prego ex, i'm shitting and puking my insides out, love my boyfriend a lot."}
{"id": "t3_q66u9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can the cops throw me in jail without giving me medical attention after a car accident?", "post": "Last week I was in a car accident on a snowy evening.  It was dark and the road was horrible, and I managed to rear-end another driver.\nI don't really remember much of what happened after that since I smashed my head on my steering wheel and the air bags didn't deploy.\n\nSo the cops arrive on scene and decide I'm drunk, taking me straight to the station and then to jail.  I only blew a .06, which is under the legal limit.  My lawyer told me that they shouldn't have even put me in jail or set my bail at $5000 in this situation, but he also said that they were under no legal obligation to call me an ambulance or take me to a hospital despite the fact that I had sustained a head injury.\n\nI had to be bailed out and then taken to the ER, the cops were just going to leave me in jail.\n\nI wanted to get a second opinion since that seems just plain wrong to me.", "summary": "I got in a car accident, blew a .06, cops threw me in jail without medical attention despite the fact that I was injured."}
{"id": "t3_2dr66s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [29/f] and my girlfriend [29/f] and I can't tell anyone we're together", "post": "Okay, this may take some explaining but please bear with me, I could really use some solid advice.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together since we were in school. In fact we're celebrating our 14th anniversary this year, and we couldn't be happier with each other.  We're just as in love now as we were when we first got together.\n\nThe problem is that everything in those 14 years has been a complete secret from everyone we know.\nWhen we first got together I told me mother I was bisexual and she hit the roof.  In all other respects she's an amazing parent and I love her very much, but she absolutely forbid me to do this.  So, we kept our relationship a secret, neither of us really expecting it to last forever.\n\nWhen I left school I suffered a medical issue that has left me disabled and stranded at home with my mother (who has cared for me amazingly). I'm without the means to get a job or support myself properly.  Because my mum is a generally cool lady she allowed my girlfriend to move in with us a few years ago, but as a friend - nothing more.  Our relationship was, and is still a secret.\n\nMy girlfriend has a low income job that couldn't possibly support us if we moved out, and my mother is still as adamant as ever that homosexuality is wrong.  As we're soon to be entering our thirties together, my girlfriend and I would love to get married, and rent a place of our own, but if I just straight out tell my mother she'll blow her top and kick her out and we wouldn't get to be together at all, any more.\n\nNeither of us know anyone that would put us up, and we both rely on my mother a lot for anything from advice to health care, but at this rate it just feels like we're going in circles and getting nowhere.  Please, help, Reddit. Is there any way out of this mess that we're missing?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are in love and tired of keeping it a secret, but there are no other options that we can see."}
{"id": "t3_2bo5iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my boyfriend [21 M] of ~6 months and I [20 F] are too different but he insists we're meant to be?", "post": "A little background, we both deal with depression and we've both been in a few relationships before (1 serious one each). \n\nAbout two months ago a lot of differences started coming up. I.e. he likes to \"go with the flow\" whereas I insist on having things planned out, he thinks thoughts are suffice but I want action, he wants a religious family - I'm an atheist (yay), he's not big on friendships/socializing while it's key to me, hes insecure about me having male friends while I really don't care for his female ones, etc.\n\nWe were really strong but things just started going downhill. We skipped my birthday ~2 months ago because of a fight/break. We were completely fine a few days later though but we haven't done anything as of yet. Birthdays aren't a big deal to him (same with anniversaries) but they're important to me. \n\nI feel like these differences keep coming up. I discussed parting ways because we're failing to meet each others needs and his response was that \"we're meant to be.\" \n\nIs it possible to overcome this or will it keep coming up?", "summary": "Very different people and don't know if it's possible to overcome it or if it will keep coming up."}
{"id": "t3_1r5mdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23f] with [23m] 2.5 years LD. In what circumstances is it acceptable to go dark?", "post": "I've been dating my SO for 2.5 years, all long distance. I don't want to emphasis our issues as I've already made my decision. But I don't know how to execute.\n\nHe's been emotionally abusive and manipulative to me for the last 6 months. It's become unbearable. He plays mind games. He's emotionally and physically cheated on me. He would ignore me for days, weeks as punishment. He would break up with me and when I would plead, he'd take me back. Long story short, it's a very unhealthy relationship.\nI've been through some traumatic experiences with men, particularly him. I'm wondering if it's okay if I just disappear. I don't have the courage nor the strength to officially end things with him. I will get pulled back in. He doesn't love me. He doesn't care about me. He just likes the affection, my attention, and the feeling of control. He wants me to chase. I quit. Is it okay if I just block everything without saying a single word about it? He would never come to look for me. He really doesn't give a damn. He's never come to see me. I'm the one who did the traveling.\n\nLast night, I got my clarity. He broke up with me again and recanted it. I told him okay and went to sleep. He texted me this morning with a cute message. I really don't want to respond. I know a lot of people on Reddit believe that's unfair and will tell me to \"woman up\" but I don't trust myself. I need help and I need to get away from him. I love him but he's toxic. He's toxic to me and I need out.", "summary": "Is it ever okay to not officially end things? emotionally abusive LDR. When is it okay to just stop responding?"}
{"id": "t3_35unrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [28 M] lies to me [24 F] about everything", "post": "My boyfriend will not stop lying to me. He lies about really little things, like if he went to the gym or not, if he's been watching shows we usually watch together or not. He lies about bigger things, like what he's doing in school or if he's even in school. He lies about having a job to the point where I never know if he's actually employed or not. He lies about his family and their existence. \n\nThis probably sounds insane and like I should not even be in this relationship in the first place, but everything else is fine and I like being around him and doing things with him. We get along really well and live together well. We've been dating for a few years now, too. I saw some improvement about a year ago after we hit a breaking point and he moved home for awhile, thinking that would be the end of the relationship. He came back and was much better, though. I don't think he really lied for awhile, unless I was unaware of it, but things really did seem better. I don't know what changed again, but here we are, and I am just so tired of having to wonder about everything. We live together and our lease will be up in the summer, I'm starting to wonder if I should be planning the future for just me. He makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong that he feels like he has to lie to me. I'm just curious if others have been in this situation and have had any luck with getting through to their significant other that the lies are hurtful, regardless of how big.", "summary": "My boyfriend lies about literally everything and I am exhausted of dealing with it, curious if others have had similar experiences."}
{"id": "t3_4adv2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my ex [20 M] of 5.5 years. He left me for someone else, now wants to come back.", "post": "Hi there,\n4 months ago my partner of 5.5 years left me to pursue a relationship with a girl from work. As I know, he didn't *actually* cheat on me, however in my heart it feels the same--if not worse because he actually PURSUED a relationship, not just sex. He said he regretted it pretty early on but they continued to be together for two months, and not once did he try to contact me to work things out. \n\nIt was short lived, apparently, and he's back saying he fucked up and he realized his mistakes and \"realized\" that what we have is a once in a lifetime sort of thing. I'm hesitant. I feel so hurt and betrayed, and I feel very disillusioned about our relationship in general. I love him and I am still so very much in love with him, but I just don't really feel as though he won't ever experience grass is greener syndrome again. But then again, we are still young and immature with how we handle things so maybe he did really learn?\n\nSo what I'm really asking is to hear about others' experiences with a situation such as this. Is it worth giving him a second chance?", "summary": "my ex left me for \"greener pastures\" after a long term relationship and now wants to rebuild our relationship. I love him, but I'm torn."}
{"id": "t3_3bgtvu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F], in separate, steady relationships w/ [27 M], [26 M]. Open/poly. What to expect when dating two men who are apprehensive/uncomfortable meeting each other?", "post": "Presently I have two boyfriends, whom I spend time with separately. I live with E, and X lives 20 minutes away. \n\n**About X**: I've known X for roughly 9 years, we've had a brief monogamous relationship, which failed. Stopped talking for a while, and rekindled our friendship and then romantic relationship. Before re-involving myself with him romantically, I explained I wanted an open relationship; he was and continues to be ok with this. \n\n**About E**: E I've known for about a year. We live together with 3 other people, all friends, and no other couples. Met on Tinder, didn't meet up. Then met randomly IRL, and it flourished. Explained prior to any advancement/sexual contact, my relationship status and expectations. He agreed. We mesh wonderfully.\n\nX and E are my life -- I spend a great deal of time with both of them, generally equally, and unfortunately it has made my life feel split, separate. I'm completely honest with them both about where I am, what I'm up to, and who I'm with. They are both wonderful men, and we have plans for our lives together. Separately.\n\nHas anyone ever experienced this sort of challenge before? It of course has a lot to do with their personalities and expectations of the relationship. At this point, I have no idea how to begin to proceed. What would I talk about with them? What  questions, if any, should I ask? How do I begin to approach the subject of them getting to know one another? Is this something I should wait to consider until the relationship is a few years old? Or the sooner the better?\n\nWhat I want, my end vision, ideal-scenario -- would be for us t o (*years down the road*) live together in the same home. Possibly with another partner of theirs (*pending the situation, as we three are the only factors in this relationship at the moment*).", "summary": "How should I approach my boyfriends about them getting to know one another?"}
{"id": "t3_1reukx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (25m) strung me (25f) along for personal gain and to show off for one year. What do I do now?", "post": "About a year ago, 25m/f, tried pursuing a lldr. I lost one of my best friends because she tried to warn me of his motives and I didnt listen. I thought she just didnt understand our feelings.  We stopped communication. \n\nIn this relationship our plan was to be in a ldr for a year and close it after that by me moving. This was to happen in January. But lately he was ignoring me and indecisive so we were trying to work things out. Randomly last week I received a fbook message from her just saying how sorry she was. That she still loves me and still considers me her best friend. I call her to catch up and mend things. Its been a year now and our fight was immature. \n\nAs were talking I updated her on the situation.  She was shocked and didnt know I was still dating him. I found this odd as did she because she works with his best friend and he never told her nor mentions me. She texts him and ask. He had no idea. He texts the guy im seeing and I get the whole convo sent to me. Legitimately.  Proof.\n\nHe says that he uses ldr so he can put in minimal effort, sleep around, then when she moves hes with her a few weeks and then boredom hits so he dumps her. Sometimes the girl stays and he gets hookups or she leaves and she's off his hands. He thought I was the hottest and felt like he couldn't do better and maybe just maybe id stay and he wouldn't get bored.\n\nIm dumping him. Hard. But what do I do and say?? Please help.", "summary": "he played me and I don't know the best way."}
{"id": "t3_iy28r", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Divorced parents issues :(", "post": "Briefly, my parents split up about 6 years ago, and to say it was an unfriendly divorce is putting it extremely mildly. My dad remarried about three years ago. My mom has not and is quite happy being single. The only people IRL who know my SO and I are engaged are my mom and my sister (this is only until the ring is finished in the spring-ish).\n\nNow that my fiance and I are discussing more details of the wedding (like venue, kind of wedding, photography, etc), I've realized that this is probably going to be a big issue.\n\nIn the past my mom has said things like 'I don't want to go if your father is bringing her' (which I told her was unreasonable), 'I don't want her in any family pictures, she had nothing to do with raising you' (understandable but still perhaps irrational), etc. And it occurred to me that figuring out seating is going to be problematic.\n\nI'm not even sure how people are traditionally seated at weddings but I thought that the  in-laws sat at the same table? I don't think this will be able to happen, and I'd feel like a huge jerk seating my dad and his wife at another table while my mom and my fiance's family sat at the same table. And equally I can't cut my mom out and have my dad sit with my future in-laws, she would be really upset.\n\nWhat do, weddit?", "summary": "How do you handle having divorced parents at your wedding who have quite happily not acknowledged each other's existence (except through lawyers) for years? Any other potential pitfalls I should keep in mind? :/ Thanks for any tips."}
{"id": "t3_1fuprs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do about my BF [24] and the girl next door..", "post": "six months ago my boyfriend of 5 years [24] and i [f,21] moved to his hometown, pretty far from where I come from and from where we had been living before. He's got plenty of good friends here, and I, too, have been meeting people and making friends, but it takes time to really , especially since i have been real busy studying for an important upcoming exam for the past 3 months. I study up to 12 hours every day, which makes it hard to socialize and meet new people, and that has been real hard on me. I'm missing \"girl\"friends that i can just meet up with and talk shit over with.\n\nMy boyfriend has also been pretty caught up in assignments, but way less than me. He still finds heaps of time to play video games and meet up with friends. A few weeks ago, his best friend's ex-girlfriend (whom we both didnt know very well) moved right next door. I was excited about this, seeing a chance to maybe become friends with her once this exam was over.\n\nBut ever since she moved here,my bf has been going over there multiple times a week without me, to \"hang out and smoke\". Last night he went over there again \"just for half an hour\"id. I was clearly upset, so he asked me to come along, even though he knows exactly i didn't have time. He came back 4 hours later.\n\nI am so upset about this situation. While he's got plenty of friends here, and i rarely have any, why does he need to bond with this girl even though he knows it hurts me like hell? When I ask him to hang out, he's always busy with assignments, I do all the food shopping, cooking, but he's got four hours to spare for a girl he rarely knows? I tried to talk to him about it and we got into a huge fight. He thinks I am being unreasonable, selfish and making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nWhat do you think redditors? Am I seeing this all in the wrong light? Am I overreacting? Any advice?", "summary": "Moved to boyfriend's hometown, he has been hanging out with other girl."}
{"id": "t3_35jq8w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I don't even know what to do with myself", "post": "i dont even know how to start this but i havent felt so much instability in my life in a long time. i dated this girl for 6 months and shared EVERYTHING with her. like there wasnt any bit of my life that she didnt know about. we were like that couple you would never see fight, no one could see us breaking up any time soon. Too bad she did anyway. the reason she broke up with me didnt bother me it was just a distance problem, it was what she did immediately after that bothered me. she made it her mission to put me down, insult me, and treat me like utter dirt so i wouldnt continue to like her. she began to emotionally manipulate me and purposefully prove to me how better off she is without me. when i came clean to her and told her all the problems i had with her, she did everything she could to convince me that it was my fault i was feeling sad and saying it wasnt her problem how i felt. she did everything she could to get away without a guilty conscience. she stepped on me and beat me down until i was nothing left emotionally to get away feeling in the right. shes doing an amazing job at making me mad at myself for being so bothered by this. im so unsure with myself over whos in the right. eventually it got to the point where i had to block her completely and get rid of everything we shared. i think the part that bothers me the most is how we were completely tied to each other and shared everything and now i can honestly say she has singlehandedly fucked me up mentally. its all i can think about, theres never a point where im not thinking about what she says and which part is true or not. i probably left many parts out but this is whats coming to mind right now and this is what i need get off my chest", "summary": "fuck people"}
{"id": "t3_4bo1o9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Sorry, not sorry.", "post": "So I've just moved to a new area from Montana. While I've read tumblr/4chan dumps and whatnot, I really never thought this would happen to me.\n\nSo i go to a Wendy's after work for some fries and a frosty to have with me when I go Folfing right after. Long line through the drive through, so i go in. As I approach the door a younger woman is coming in behind me.\nNow, my reaction to ANYONE coming in a door behind me is to open/hold the door open for me. \n\nWell fuck you too FEMALE. Holy shit guys. I didnt know real people would get \"triggered\" by a common and nice gesture... i mean damn, i woulda held the door open for anyone, but i guess holding the door open for some \"dog kin pentasexual\" person is, \nA. A rape.(hily shit what?)\nB. Supporting a patriarchy  (wtf?)\nC. I said \"sorry maam\" which is a normal responce to doing something a woman (or something that portrays a female externally. ... i guess) doesnt like.", "summary": "its now a crime to open doors for people and I retract my apology nor will I be sorry for doing a kind act. Fuck that."}
{"id": "t3_4ddyxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] sister [17F] wants to move out with boyfriend [23M] of 10 months.", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nI [23F] had a talk with my sister, Anna [17F] a few nights ago. Anna still lives with my mother and stepdad, while I moved to go to university abroad after high school. She is starting her final year of school after the Summer.\n\nAnna told me that she wants to move in with her boyfriend this Autumn after she has turned 18. Her boyfriend, Mike, is 23 years old, and they have been together for about ten months. Mike is finishing school this year as he took a few years off before, and he is still living with his parents. He can't afford to move out by himself. I'm worried that he is pressuring my sister to move out with him at such an early stage. On the other hand, Anna does not get along very well with my stepfather (although they haven't had any major disagreements or anything else unusual). The biggest issue is that Mike is not allowed to stay overnight at the house during the week. My mum has always been fairly hands-off with parenting, more so since she married my stepfather four years ago, but again nothing unusual has happened to my knowledge.\n\nI tried to gently tell Anna that I don't think this is a good idea - it is too soon, and I'm worried that it'll affect her important last year of school. I'm also concerned about the age gap, but I didn't mention this because I didn't think she'd react well to it.\n\nIt is worth mentioning that Anna will get a student allowance from the government, but will definitely have to work part time as well if she moves out.\n\nIs it out of order for me to try and talk to her about it? I know it probably won't make a difference, but I feel like I should try. How should I approach the topic?", "summary": "Teenage sister planning on moving in with older boyfriend. How to effectively and realistically talk about this?"}
{"id": "t3_2us08a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19M) going to see my ex (19F) tomorrow at a meeting. She left me for good 2 weeks ago. How to confront her?", "post": "We dated and developed into a relationship total time of around 3 months. It's been 2 weeks since we talked and after asking her about it, she wanted me to suffocate my feelings towards her as it would be easier to be friends then. She told me that she had feelings towards no one. Her previous boyfriend of a year or so is still involved with her and currently I'm not sure what their situation is (The guy cheated on her, was an asshole and caused her a lot of stress. The guy seems to try being 'good' and that he changed now) I told her that I'm not sure whether I can maintain being friends with her or not after all the intimacy and amazing moments we had.\n\nYesterday she had posted the song \"Love Me Like You Do\" and honestly, listening to it I got the gutted feeling out of nowhere.\n\nI'm going to a meeting tomorrow and she's also in the same group, 90% sure that she'll be there. We haven't had any contact for 2 weeks and I'm afraid that I'll get the twisting feeling in my guts when I see her. I know that sooner or later I'm going to have to confront her to move on for good.\n\nBesides all this, I'm currently actively contacting 3 girls, which one of them is a new contact to me and I'm enjoying life, I'm occupied with stuff all the time and I have people who I can talk to. I'm 'on my game', so to speak, feeling confident and I feel good in general.", "summary": "Seeing my ex tomorrow at a meeting after 2 weeks of no contact. A song she posted yesterday gave my guts the empty feeling after coping with the breakup really well so far. I'm afraid of breaking down or not being the me-who's-enjoying-life-with-a-wide-smile-on-my-face."}
{"id": "t3_4xfqj9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CA] Can I have a car that is parked in the red towed?", "post": "I live in an apartment complex with a gated parking lot that has its only exit onto a very busy street. The drive way that lets out of the parking lot and onto the street is flanked on each side by a red no parking zone about 2-3 car lengths long so that cars pulling out can have a clear line of site of the oncoming traffic. A few of the apartments face onto the street and legal street parking can be hard to come by. Some of my neighbors consistently park in the redzone adjacent to the parking lot's only exit, which makes it hard to see oncoming traffic. More than a few times I have almost been t-boned by oncoming traffic since my view is obstructed and I either cannot see the cars with enough time, or I have to pull out farther to see around the illegally parked car. I can't imagine that I am the only person in our complex who has had this problem. I am currently writing a note to put on the cars that park there to ask them to please park elsewhere or a tow truck will be called.\n\nMy question is, am I allowed to call a private towing company to tow the car away or do I have to contact police? I would hate to waste police resources with something so trivial.", "summary": "What can I do to get rid of a car illegally parked in the red zone that is obstructing the view of people trying to leave a parking lot?"}
{"id": "t3_444uhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] of 4 years, scared to leave", "post": "All right, I'm sure by the title it sounds like I'm being physically abused. And while there is emotional abuse at play here, that's not what's up.\n\nWe've been together since our senior year in high school, four years now. The entirety of her college career. But I don't feel the same way about her that I used to. I love her still, I really do. But I don't see us together in my picture of the future. I want to go out and do things on my own for the first time. I've never lived by myself, and I need to do that.\n\nWe moved in last June. Things were okay for a while, but it's just gone downhill.\n\nI know it's not fair for me to keep this going when I clearly am no longer invested in the relationship, but it hurts to think about being without her in my life. It hurts to think about the pain it's going to cause her. And mostly, I'm fucking terrified of being on my own after breaking up.\n\nWe moved to a city where I don't have any friends, and all of my friends and family are two hours away. I don't have anyone I can go to in person.\n\nI'm scared I'll never find anyone else. I'm scared of being alone after four years, and not having that person I can go to with anything. I'm scared of waking up each day alone in bed. It just makes me so fucking sad to think about.\n\nSo I was wondering if there was anyone here I could talk to who's gone through something like this? I really need help. This is tearing me apart inside. I'm having anxiety attacks almost daily, and she doesn't know a thing.\n\nHelp. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I need to get out of my 4 year relationship with the person I love, but I'm scared of what the future holds."}
{"id": "t3_36wr04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [21 M] been having dreams of my ex [21 F] and other exes in my dreams. Might be a relapse of some sort. Need advice, please.", "post": "She and I have been broke up for a little over a year. To be precise, it's been a year and one month. Our relationship wasn't very good, and it's put me off of having another relationship. In a short summary, I was cheated on by her more than once, and I should have left but I didn't. I just made things worse by continuing to put myself through hell, and trying to make it work. Why? Because I loved her. Was it stupid? Of course.\n\nAfter breaking up, I fell into a deep depression. I went through five to six months of therapy, and eventually I was put on antidepressants. A little over three months ago, I left therapy and stopped taking the antidepressants because I felt ready.\n\nI'm not hurt by it anymore. Talking about it doesn't bother me at all, when it used to hurt like hell. But it's weird because I've been having dreams of her again. Not ordinary dreams either. They're hard to explain, but it's sometimes about her and i being lovey-dovey, and then by the time the dream ends, she's all like well I gotta go back to this other guy now. \n\nThe thing is that I'm having dreams like this about a lot of people that I've had problems with. She's not the only one I've ever been with. Been in love with, yes, but not been with sexually and as a boyfriend. I've had dreams, almost exactly like her, but starring my other ex-girlfriends, which have all cheated on me as well.\n\nI've been very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life, and I know stress can bring out the worst in people. Could this possibly be because of that, or am I having some sort of relapse into depression again? I've always been hard on myself, and I used to blame myself for them cheating on me, so maybe it could be my conscious trying to kick that out? I don't want to fall back into that. It was a really bad, scary time in my life, and I'm doing as much as I can to stay out of that hole.", "summary": "I've been having reoccurring dreams about my ex-girlfriends and I don't know why. I don't feel bad about any of the stuff anymore, but it bothers me. Is it possible that I'm just stressed out and because of that, it's leading me to think these negative things?"}
{"id": "t3_1994tw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Talking and being with my girlfriend [19F] feels completely vapid and almost like I'm [17M] interacting with a machine, however it gets a bit more complex. What do?", "post": "Right, so I've been with this girl for a bit over two months now; she's attractive, we share the same general interests and I should be loving her to pieces. The catch? I'm not, honestly this whole thing feels completely vapid, every time we kiss or even just talk I don't feel like I'm getting any satisfaction, and that I may as well be talking to an inanimate object. Her replies to things are rarely longer than a few words, and even sex felt rather dull when we got round to it.\n\nSo yeah, I took heed of this and decided to tell her that it wasn't working, she cried a bit, and we generally left on good terms, it all felt pretty decent. Then I did a really piss-poor thing and decided to get back with her. Why? Because I felt bad, and I won't deny that this whole thing is anybody else's fuck up than mine.\n\nNow to the actual question: What do? Going in and simply breaking up with her again would look ridiculous, and would most certainly put us on bad terms with each other for the foreseeable future, considering that we have a few close mutual friends, that would also cause complications. I need some advice here, if any can be given.", "summary": "In relationship, feels empty, broke up once then guilted into getting back with her, still feels empty. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2ztoc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my exbf [18M] and my mom [48F]. Ex and I still like each other and talk regularly, mom is against it.", "post": "So long long ago. The ex and I dated for a year. Mom was fine with it at first but as time went on continuously complained \"I need to date other people, and see if he's really what I like. Experience dating others. There's someone better out there. You can do better.\" Things like that.\n\nWell, it drove me insane and for that reason (and some others) I broke up with him. But not because I wanted to, I would've stayed with him forever if I could. Him and I went no contact for about 4 months and it was like torture for the both of us. As of 3 weeks ago we've gotten back in contact. We talk all the time and enjoy each other so much. We really love each other so much.\n\nBut NOW that we're back in contact my mom is very suspicious of what's going on. She doesn't want us dating again (and we're not going to because him and I have life business to take care of first, career and school things). However, we agreed to be friends and are happy enough with that because we're so much happier in each others lives.\n\nHowever, I've lied to my mom and said I don't like him. Because if she knew, she'd hound me over and over again about how I need to date other people, and how he's not good enough. So I told her I don't want to date him right now and we're friends. She knows he still loves me though.\n\nSo that's where it gets messy, because I still want to go to his house and hang out. But she tells me \"not to lead him on, and set boundaries so he doesn't get his hopes up\". Which is true of her but I'm not really leading him on because I do still like him which he knows.\n\nI just don't know how to make her understand that we can still hang out as friends and it's not a big deal. I just don't want to be judged. WOW I WROTE A LOT!", "summary": "Ex and I broke up after dating a year. We're back to talking again but not dating. Mom doesn't want us dating ever, and is against it. But I want her to understand we still want to hang out as friends without being judged by her."}
{"id": "t3_2g8t4z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting piss on my computer", "post": "Background:  My college semester started a couple of weeks ago.  I haven't been able to find an affordable place to live, so I've been living out of my car. \nI always park in unobtrusive places; I don't want to draw too much attention to myself.  So last night I parked in one of the campus' massive parking lots, away from foot traffic, with other vehicles parked overnight, and about a quarter of a mile away from the nearest building that stays unlocked all night and has facilities.\n\nHere comes the TIFU.\n\nIn the wee small hours of the morning, I woke up needing to pee.   I wasn't about to go traipsing a quarter mile through a deserted campus to find a bathroom.  I found an empty Starbucks cup.  Now I filled this thing pretty full \u2013 in coffee terms there wasn't any room.  I figured I'd pour it outside the car\u2026I was fumbling around over the stuff in my car, and failed to balance that brimming cup of piss.  Some of it spilled on my laptop.  It went right into the speaker.  I turned it on an edge to hopefully get the moisture out.  I turned it on in the morning, and the screen was nearly black.  \n\nI took it by a computer repair place (I told the guy it was water), and he told me it fried four pins on the motherboard, can't be repaired, and a new motherboard is stupid expensive (>$150), and I should just think about getting a new laptop.  (Not that I have money to do that.)", "summary": "\u2013 Got piss on my laptop and fried the motherboard."}
{"id": "t3_3hpgj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [20 F] of nearly 2 years, breaking up out of the blue.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for close to 2 years. We met in college but are from different places so we did long distance over the summers and visited each other. \n\nA week ago she was supposed to come visit me, but on the day she was supposed to come there was a storm forecasted and I texted her that morning and said I didn't want her driving in a storm so she didn't end up coming over. I called her that afternoon when I got out of work and she was unresponsive to everything I said. After every sentence I said it was just silence on her end. \n\nIn the days following this she stopped answering my texts and calls albeit except for a few here and there and she claimed her phone wasn't receiving them which I somewhat believe.\n\nYesterday I messaged her on facebook and asked what was up and she replied with this\n\n' I just don't know how I feel about us anymore so I'm in an awkward space and confused. ( I know you'll try calling me after you read that but please don't)'\n\nand signed off facebook. I messaged her again asking if she could explain how she felt and she sent this \n\n'I just feel like I'm not into this anymore because we're way too opposite. After the time you discussed lack of communication and effort I realized that we are too different. I've had so much traumatic shit happen to me before I was in high school and you can't connect to that. So when something you think \"big\" that happens in our relationship it's almost like the end of the world, for me it's a very minimal thing.' \n\nCollege is back in session on Monday and I don't know what to do or what to think or how to act here.\n\nWhat should my next moves be? I've never been in a serious relationship before.", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are probably breaking up and it's out of the blue. Idk how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_wuugq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'll be at a huge family reunion in eight days. Reddit, what are your best and worst family reunion stories?", "post": "This is a very large, extended-family reunion, consisting mostly of people I've either never met or haven't seen in between five to 24 years (and I'm only 25, so I won't remember a lot of them, even if they remember me). The crowd will be almost completely Catholic or Evangelical, while I'm an Atheist in grad school to study human evolution, so, THIS WILL BE, LIKE, SO MUCH FUN, YOU GUYS! I promise to post an update upon my return. \n\nI'd love to hear your horror stories or success stories from big family reunions. Any advice would be great, too.", "summary": "Family reunion stories! Go!"}
{"id": "t3_3yls8f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making spicy salsa", "post": "Little bit of background, I cook a lot and I often use a bunch of fresh ingredients and today was no exception. Today I wanted to pair my enchiladas with a homemade lime salsa so I went about preparing and making it as I always do.\n\nUsually i'd use green peppers for a mild salsa but I wanted to kick it up a notch, I wanted to make it with a full serrano pepper and chili powder. Everything comes together, I eat and when im finished I wash my hands as usual. Now fast foward to 30 minutes ago where the FU really came into play. I do what any bored man does during a snow storm and decide to wrestle with my pet trouser snake. After coming out on top I begin to feel a slight burning sensation, then it hits me. The fucking pepper. Apparently I didnt wash my hands well enough and now my dick is in full flame mode, im hoping to take a shower and play splatoon to take my mind off of the burning but god damn im an idiot.", "summary": "Add genitalia to the list of 'do not touch' after handling hot peppers"}
{"id": "t3_2vzv2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] girlfriend's [19 F] ex won't stop leaving her alone.", "post": "Hi first post here and english is not my native language so don't kill me if I have bad grammar.\n\nShe has been telling me that her ex keeps telling every one to that he regrets cheating on her which he did a lot and to take him back. \nHe does not only do this by talking to her, but also by talking to her family and friends and basically make her look bad for not accepting him back because he is a sweetheart in front of them.\nShe knows better and told me that he has always been manipulative like that. \n\nHe took it so far that he told his mom to arrange a meeting with her (basically them and their moms are going to meet and the moms are going to leave them alone). She already told him that she is seeing me.\n\nHonestly I have mixed feelings about this but I trust her and she told me that she is sick of seeing his face and wants him to stop bothering her. He is probably going to be sweet to her that day.\n\nAs I am far away from her right now, I don't know what to do. I can't be there to accompany her if anything happens and I'm honestly sick of him trying to manipulate people around her to make her forgive him for cheating and take him back. My gf and I agrees that he is a scumbag.", "summary": "Gf's ex is trying to get her back in a really manipulative way and I can't be there when they meet"}
{"id": "t3_rmj8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So, my new Girlfriend is 2 months pregnant. I'm lost and confused!", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nI'm really lost and confused here. Me (M) and She both early 20s. \n\nI've been dating this girl for about 4 weeks, 'speaking to' for about 8. Today she tells me that she is Pregnant, from a fling, considered an abortion, but decided that's not for her, and she will become a parent by the end of the year. (She discussed this with me shortly after she found out herself).\n\nI don't know how to handle it, or how I'm supposed to fit into this life of hers. Obviously it means massive massive life changes in a few months time, and a massive shift in priorities either which way. \n\nBut at the moment I'm so confused at to what this means for me too. Last we spoke, I needed time to think, but I need a bit of advice from others external to the situation who  can see things 'fresh'.\n\nMy thought process at the moment looks like this?\n\n* I'm not sure if I want kids\n\n* How do I date someone who is Pregnant / New Mother (especially when the child is someone elses)\n\n* How would I handle this if this was my own baby?\n\n* What does she need from me in terms of support?\n\n* Would it be unreasonable to 'break up' and 'cut my losses' as it were? \n\nEt Cetera, et cetera... \n\nSo, I'm struggling with the whole \"thinking\" part. I know at some point we need to sit down and talk together, that is a given. But as it stands now I don't know how to organise my thoughts in a sensible and coherent manner. Any advice?", "summary": "My new partner is pregnant, and has been for the duration of the time we have dated. I'm not sure what to think. Advice welcome!"}
{"id": "t3_4j7z99", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] was dumped by my boyfriend [16M] after a year of perfection and now I'm lost", "post": "When we met last year we knew of each other but we had never talked but because of a group project we were forced to talked and we instantly started flirting and we knew we had something special. After awhile we started sating and we were each other's first real relationship so we took everything slow. \n\nAs we dated we liked each other more and more but as teenagers we both agreed that we didn't understand real love and we knew we would not last through high school but we made each other happy so we were together. We got serious about 5 months in our relationship and truly knew that we loved each other. We thought that this was the ideal relationship and we even thought we could last. \n\nWe had our problems alone the way like jealously and being too clingy but we got over them. In December he started to change and became more like a teenage boy and stopped being romantic and emotional to the point where he got annoyed if I told him I loved him. He became mean and distant and I did everything I could to keep us together because I still loved him.\n\nHe only got worse from there and said he did not love me anymore but loved me for what we used to have. He broke up with me a month ago and ever since then I cry everyday because I miss him and us. He said he wanted to be friends but he's still really mean to me and today I told him off and now I feel empty and don't know what to do.", "summary": "In love with my ex who doesn't love me back and is very rude. He's in my friend group so I'm forced to see him but I'm still heartbroken and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_tzaiu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Our kitchen flooded and the insurance company is trying to screw us.. who is on our side?", "post": "Three weeks ago the wife and I discovered that our Dishwasher had been leaking. We found this out because there was puddle in the crawl space. Upon removing the dishwasher we found that one of the adjacent cabinets was swollen and damaged. \n\nWe called our insurance broker who told us it may not be advantageous to make a claim as our deductible for flood was $2000. \n\nI figured it would cost around $500 to replace the cabinet and have a new dishwasher installed (not including the price of the dishwasher itself).\n\nWe proceeded to call a contractor who came in with a moisture detector, he plunged it into the floor, the wall and said this is worse than you think. He said he'd need to replace most of the kitchen. Of course at this point we called the insurance broker and asked her to make the claim.\n\nThe insurance company send a restoration crew, they place dehumidifiers and fans everywhere. Two days later they come back and remove the cabinets and the flooring. Telling us that the insurance company had agreed to coverage.\n\nTwo weeks later, we're given some numbers. We're told that the company that does the work like to deal with Home Depot. We're told that our cabinets were higher end, with solid oak doors. We're given 3500 to choose new cabinets.\n\nWe met with the home depot people and had them create a quote with cabinets matching the ones we had. The quote came up to $7000. We're not sure what to do at this point. We're comparing apples to apples. There is no difference as far as quality and configuration.. \n\nWhat I'd like to know is, is this normal? Is it an offer? Because with the allowance they gave us we simply cannot get the same kitchen we had before...\n\nI am in Canada.. if that matters.", "summary": "Insurance company is offering to play us way less than they should... what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_uaief", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there anything that I can do to better improve myself?", "post": "Ok so I am a typical 24 male and single. Only had a semester of college, it seems like a scam to me but thats my opinion. I love learning things, but I don't feel the need to shell out that much money for a degree. I am stereotypical \"too nice\". Done with some background info.\n\nSo a few months ago had some heartbreaking happen, ex gf hooked up with a roommate. I said it was ok but that turned into regret quickly for his room is next to mine and she would moan so loudly the entire house could hear. To fight the sadness/anger I started working out. It was a two birds type of thing and went great. So I have decided that every time something just fails for me I am going to better myself. I come here to get some ideas on other things I could do.", "summary": "I need ideas for things I could do that would have a positive impact on my life."}
{"id": "t3_2ql9jp", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Does anybody else on this sub read books WITHOUT setting goals or worrying about how many you read/didn't read/want to read/meant to read but didn't/etc? =/", "post": "...because that's like *way* too much pressure for something that's supposed to be, you know. *Fun.* \n\nIf I pick up a 1000-page behemoth, I don't want to feel obligated to power through it in the same amount of time as I would *The Little Prince*. I just want to read it and *enjoy* it, and if I stop enjoying it I want to be able to fraking *quit* without feeling like I'm setting myself back or whatever. Just - agh! I loathe timed missions in video games, and setting up goals for books is like the same damned thing only in real life.\n\nI mean if that's your thing - fine, whatever, to each their own. But yeesh, how do you decide what to read, then? Do you start going after children's books (or novellas or something) toward the end of the year if you're coming up short? Would you even *consider* picking up something that may \"set you back\" a couple of weeks?", "summary": "I like big books and I cannot lie."}
{"id": "t3_petjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have a question about a really weird experience my friend had that makes no sense, maybe you guys can interpret it.", "post": "A friend of mine goes to to dance up in Nashville every now and then and recently met an older couple. She says this couple is very friendly and they really get along well. But last Saturday she said that the wife in the couple came up to her and looked terrified and demanded that she talk to my friend in private. The lady goes on to say that she believes in reincarnation and believes that my friends soul and her soul are connected and she goes on to tell my friend that she forgives her for anything she has ever done that might hurt her and then asks my friends forgiveness. She said that their souls being connected was not a bad thing but they had to stop some spirits of some kind. I am in a genuine state of WTF right now and am wondering if you guys have any clue as to what religion or belief system this lady follows.", "summary": "Crazy lady tells my friend that she believes in reincarnation and thinks that their souls are connected and that they have to stop some evil spirits so nothing bad will happen."}
{"id": "t3_4vn3f0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 f] cant handle this, I am completely alone in this, I thought I could, but I can't. I need advice.", "post": "Some clarification first; \n\nMy hobby is being a makeup artist and now I am doing a friend [26,m] (Lets call him Andy) a favour to help him with his new movie. \n\nMy health is ridiculous and it keeps me from doing daily activities. I have IBS, Stomach issues, Migraines, Stress and above all Borderline and no good stamina/condition like normal people. \n\nNow I am helping with my SO [24,M] and a large film group working on this movie. This is my first day and I already had to wake up at 7 and the director (Andy)  doesn't communicate at all with me about what I can expect to do. I had to sit on the train back and forth per half hour, from 8 am to 3 o clock. Now normally ofcourse I can handle sitting in a train, but I get motion sickness really fast, specially when not focussing on looking out the window. I had to change makeup after every take while sitting in the train. I fet so bad, nearly threw up. I just went and sat in a chair until the actrice came up to me and asked me if I was alright. My SO was not present, but Andy was. He didn't even ask me if I was alright, nothing. Only her and another crew member helped me by getting me water and an apple. Now I still feel sick, and tired. Since I also had to assist with the lightning. Honestly, I already feel exhausted. \n\nI am supposed to stay for 4 days. Today we aren't finished until 11. Tomorrow we start from 10 am til 4 in the night.\n\nI am on the verge of crying. I feel really dissapointed with my friend. And I don't want to stand in my SO his way, since he is incredibly busy and also happy with it. \n\nI am scared to say anything, I want to fight this and continue, but I am afraid that I overestimated myself and collapse in front of all these people. I already get comments like you look tired.", "summary": "Having major health issues. Doing a friend a favor (helping him and his crew making a movie for 4 days straight and also working in the night), and I can't handle it and too afraid to say or do something."}
{"id": "t3_w5udo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "service center/dealership broke my car...what can i do?", "post": "So i went to get a routine inspection and oil change for my subaru at the dealership today and when they flushed out the old oil, it turned out that a part had been damaged and now the oil cannot be replaced because it will leak out. The dealership told me that the last place i went to get my oil changed (Mavis Discount Tire) was to blame and i should take it up with them. I contacted Mavis and now both companies are refusing to take responsibility and my car is completely useless until i get it fixed, which will cost around $500. \n    I can't afford to pay this because I am a student and have countless other bills to pay. I was wondering if someone knew what would be the appropriate course of action. And \"lawyering up\" is not really an option because once again, i'm a student and just can't afford it. Please help me.", "summary": "service center or dealership broke my car, neither will take responsibility, i cant afford to pay to get it fixed"}
{"id": "t3_3weya3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by designing an educational brochure", "post": "Obligatory \"didn't happen today\"...\n\nAbout 2 years back or so I was in charge of a big portion of marketing at one of my previous companies and was the only graphic designer. We had just recently kickstarted a community outreach and educational program for parents and their children.\n\nWell, there were community/educational brochures I designed to mass-print in a quantity of 10,000 brochures. These would go out to churches, rec centers, elementary schools, libraries - you know, community orgs and entities. \n\nWhen designing the brochure I inserted a placeholder phone number that was just a random 800 number for proofing purposes (it wasn't meant to stay and was meant to be replaced by a real number to our location). The brochures were approved and sent to print. That placeholder number stayed.\n\nWhen they came in, my manager and I were REALLY excited to see how they turned out (I worked really hard on them). We opened up the FedEx box, pulled them out and my boss turns to the page with the number and says \"Oh! You purchased a new number for this brochure?\" - I acted dumb to play it off and I couldn't say much but \"oh noo....\" \n\nShe picks up the phone and dials it and the good news here is that it turns out it's not a fake number...the bad news was that it was a number to a phone-sex hotline.\n\nI didn't get fired and my boss kept her composure quite well and just said \"okay...let's see how we can fix this\" - so I ordered a bunch of tiny permanent stickers to put over the brochure phone number.", "summary": "Designed brochures, used a placeholder phone number temporarily to get approval, forgot number was there, printed 10,000 brochures with a sex hotline number on the back panel."}
{"id": "t3_20kz11", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am a hypochondriac/OCD sufferer who has a chance to have regular sex with a really hot guy, but it's DIFFICULT when all you think about is STDs...", "post": "**So, he's really, really hot.** And since I'm not the only one who thinks so, he has been with a lot of girls, and even a couple of guys. More than 100, he said. He doesn't quite know.\nBut! He gets tested (urine samples) regularly, the last time he checked out clean was three weeks ago. The bigger things, like HIV and Hep, he says he tests less frequently, but we live in one of the world's safest countries, there were only 122 new cases of HIV among sexually active men in 2012 (most recent statistics - gay or straight - yeah, I checked), and socialized medicine and strict rules makes it almost impossible not to be alerted within a relatively short timeframe after having had sex with someone who was positive.   \n \n**I know this.**  \nI also know how condoms work. However, I don't trust them. I think they'll break, or that something bad will happen somehow. I lube up, I (or he) puts them on the right way, we take every precaution - but I don't dare letting him finish. I have to tell him to quit, and then I finish him with a handjob or something. He says it's okay, but I hate being *that* girl, and I actually *want* him to fuck me long and hard, I just... I'm too scared. I even had him promise that if the condom broke, he'd go test himself for EVERYTHING just to be sure.   \n  \n**But here I am, freaking out.** Thinking the next time we have sex (if it's fair to even call ten or eleven thrusts sex), the condom will break and I will get AIDS.    \n  \n- - -   \n**... And this guy is literally the nicest guy I have ever met.** He is thoughtful, kind, patient and he knows what he's doing - and he's totally honest. I want him bad. I don't know how to deal with this.", "summary": "Hot man wants to bang, I want to bang, but I'm afraid of diseases and don't trust condoms, feels like shit, wish I could be normal."}
{"id": "t3_2orn9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my ex [33 M], he broke up b/c I have a mental illness and I want to get better and get him back.", "post": "My boyfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me recently because I have mental issues and other problems, and wasn't working on them. I also need to quit my job and have major surgery, but I cannot do either of those things for another couple months and have a plan for how that will go down. He's very ill himself, and he said my constant sadness was really wearing on him.\n\nI have an appointment to get my blood drawn to see what's wrong with me physically. I am always fatigued, never get enough sleep, rarely feel good and energetic, and always have headaches. I made another appointment to go to a psychiatrist because I think my issues with depression are not just physical. They tend to get worse in the winter, and a month ago I seriously talked about killing myself, so I think that's what set all of this off. I don't think the illness *itself* bothers him, just the fact that I'm not trying to get better.\n\nI want to maintain my dignity, but I also want to let him know that I'm working on things to the best of my ability. What's the best way to let him know I'm making progress, and to see if he wants to continue things?\n\nI'm thinking of just sending him a quick summary email in about a month to see what he thinks. I texted him this weekend (not the best idea but I'm OK with it) and he said there's a 2/3 chance he would take me back and that he still loves me.", "summary": "Ex left because I wasn't working on things, how do I let him know I'm getting better in a dignified manner?"}
{"id": "t3_32era1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] have no idea how to open up to my girlfriend [18 f] of 2.5 years", "post": "After countless relationships with girls emotionally and/or verbally abusing me, being treated like I'm not worth a girl's time, and that my voice isn't meant to be heard, my endearing girlfriend of two and a half years is a victim of my inability to express myself. \n\nNow, you may be wondering \"How is this a problem now?\" And my answer is that I don't know. I guess, in a way, I've opened up slightly in the course of our relationship, but I haven't opened up completely. \n\nMy girlfriend and I are now experiencing problems in our relationship because I can't open up. She sleeps in a separate room, sex is scarce, and romance is dwindling. \n\nYou could say \"She's cheating,\" but I can assure you she isn't. She, too, has her fair share of bad relationship history, and we both swore that such idiocy would be nonexistent in our relationship. \n\nI just can't open up. I don't know how anymore. I've repressed it. She is not like anyone else, but I just can't find the courage to open the floodgates. I try, but I get to scared that she will think I'm stupid or wasting her time.", "summary": "I can't open up to my girlfriend. We're having problems because of it."}
{"id": "t3_1o24k0", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Here Bag Lady. let me lighten your load", "post": "Ok. So one thing that seems to be reaching epidemic proportions in my town is the number of bags people (mostly women for some reason) seem to bring with them on their daily commute.\n\nEnter Bag Lady (BL) who had a gym bag, a purse, a bag full of what seemed to be numerous pairs of shoes, a plastic bag with newspapers and reading materials, a bag with what appeared to be her lunch. 5 bags, one professionally dressed woman. Seems excessive but whatever.\n\nBL decides to stand on the train in front of the doors. Now this bugs me when anyone does it, never mind this urban sherpa.  So as people are exiting her bags are getting bumped and she's getting a head of steam on. She starts telling people to watch out and gets pretty belligerent with a few passengers. Someone tells her to move out of the doorway and her response was \"I was here first.\"  WTF BL are you 12 or something?\n\nAnyway my turn to exit is coming up so I position myself so I'm last to get off. I time it so the doors are just starting to close as I exit and as I do I pinch the nearest plastic bag and drag it out the door with me. The doors close and I hit it perfect. The portion stuck in the door was thin enough that it didn't set off the auto-open and as I watched the train pull away all I saw was an undulating plastic bag slamming against the outside of the door slowly leaking papers everywhere.", "summary": "Woman with multiple bags wouldn't move I made her lose one of the bags."}
{"id": "t3_26ra36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my brother [42 M] for the past 3 years he's been in my life, he's caused nothing but trouble.", "post": "My older brother has been absent for most of my life, we only got back in touch with him a few years ago. And due to a realationship breakdown, he moved to our area so the council would house him for free.\n\nSince that date, he's done nothing but cause constant arguements. He tries so hard to come between me (I'm the baby of the family) and my mom, and my father (not his father).\n\nIt's very apparent that he hates us both.\n\nI have no idea how to deal with the things he says to me. The recent attack happened over the past 2 days. He told me I was a \"bitch\", to \"piss off\", \"fuck off\", that I was \"a complete joke\".\n\nAll of this was completely unprovoked. And isn't the first time.\n\nThis recent outburst came because he'd told me he was going to kill himself, and I told our Mom what he'd said. Because I was terrified. \n\nI can't go one living with him treating me like this. My nerves are shot, I shake every time I get a text. I have my own issues with anxiety and none of this is helping.\n\nHow can I go about resolving this?\n\nAny advice would help.\n\nHe's a very angry, bitter man and I'm scared of him.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3czoep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] has trouble with dating and starting relationships", "post": "I need advice on how to better handle my love life. \nbackstory, my high school sweetheart cheated on me over a year ago, I started dating a couple months after the break up, but nothing ever became serious because guys I would meet just wanted sex and one guy took it too far... So I decided to no longer date and just focus on myself. \n\nFast forward now, I moved to a new state and I meet a wonderful guy who seems sweet. We have been hanging out for about 4 months now. Yesterday I told him how I scared I felt about pursuing the relationship because of past experiences. He didn't seem too interested in what I had to say. And today, he kind of ignored me all day.", "summary": "Was I wrong to say how I felt? Did I push too hard too soon?"}
{"id": "t3_2kinrv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not sure what to do about my current situation.", "post": "I [25/m] have been dating my girlfriend [21/f] for nearly 10 months. This is my second longest, first being 4 plus years, and her longest currently. When we first got together I had been experiencing severe anxiety and panic attacks and they only got worse. She would always ask of I was ok or feeling alright. At first it was great, but soon turned into me feeling like there was something wrong with me when that's all we talked about. It's another story but the shortened version is I quit drinking, 1 month sober yesterday, and I'm in much better health. The issue is that for a few weeks now she's been really worried and concerned about our relationship and it's progressively getting worse. It's turning into an all the time thing. All I hear is \"are we ok?\" \"We're good right?\" \"You still love me?\" And so on. It's driving me up the wall and I keep telling her to just go with it. That I'm getting over anxiety and a 3 year drinking binge. I also have no clue where this came from. I asked her and she always says she was just checking or it was on her mind. Any tips or input? Male or female perspectives welcomed. I'm not looking to break up cause I love her. Maybe just know what she's going through and all that jazz.", "summary": "dating a girl for 10 months. Love her. She's driving me up the wall with her constant questioning on the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1ighnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21,F] wants to break up with [28,M] of 2.7 years", "post": "My boyfriend and I constantly fight. We have been fighting since we got together. He says it all my fault, my anger is the reason he gets angry at me. and I am at the end of my rope. I want to break up. I am going to break up with him no matter what. But I am completely crushed. I don't know how to differentiate my feelings because majority of the reason him and I are still together is finances. We aren't financially stable without each other and I am scared of being alone - I know these are the wrong reasons to stay together - But how do I push through it? I don't love him anymore but I still care about him.\n\nHelp me move on, please give me some helping pointers.", "summary": "Help me move on and receive pointers on how to take control of my emotions and move past this."}
{"id": "t3_3gvvzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my bf [25M] 10 months, is it wrong that I want to talk to his ex to find out why they broke up?", "post": "His ex lives in a different city, and I've never met her, but I found her on Facebook and have gotten into the bad habit of checking up on her every day to see what she's up to. \n\nShe seems perfect, and she and my bf dated for like 5 years and he really loved her. A part of me thinks he still does because the relationship ended abruptly after she was unfaithful to him. He doesn't talk about their relationship. \n\nI know he shouldn't, but I'm so curious to know what he was like with her, and what caused her to cheat on him. I'm insecure of their relationship because I've never dated before I met him, but he loved someone else.", "summary": "Boyfriend dated girl for 5 years. Is it wrong for me to contact her on facebook to see what bf was like in their relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_21pi8g", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Contesting a failure to yield to emergency vehicle worth it?", "post": "I got my first ticket for failure to yield to emergency vehicle. The violation code is 21806 (a) (1)  \n\nI was driving less than a mile away from my house in the slow lane of a 2 lane divided highway road, and I noticed two stationary cop cars with lights on in the slow lane more than halfway away from what seemed to be a blocked intersection. I change lanes to get out of the cops way into the fast lane attempting to follow another car assuming they were going to make a u-turn to avoid the traffic accident up ahead.\nAs myself and the other car had passed the two stationary cops one rushes in to get between me and the car in front of me and the other cop behind me. The car in front stops in the fast lane and I signal and pull over by the side of the curb turn off my car.\n\nA cop walks to my window and asks me whose car this is and where I was going. I reply and tell him where I was going, and he asks for my ID and insurance/registration and walks away for about 20 minutes. I notice during the wait that there are more cars making  u-turns before the intersection and told to stop  but they managed to continue making their turn and then to be told to turn the car around and one vehicle going straight through the intersection somehow without being pulled over.  I notice the car that had stopped in the middle of the road got a ticket and eventually the cop comes back hands me a ticket without explanation of what happened with a smile on his face and nicely asks me to sign it, and I do so out of fear so I can just go back home. :(\n\nWould it be worth it to fight the ticket in court or pay the 490 dollar fine + 57 dollars for traffic school. I'm on a fixed income and can't afford a traffic lawyer.", "summary": "Myself and another car get told to pull over, I signaled and pulled over and got a failure to yield to emergency vehicle."}
{"id": "t3_3coocr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my fiancee[32M] adopting his brother anxiety", "post": "So, i'll try to make this as short as possible. My fiancee and I are planning our wedding in a few months and hope to be trying for a baby soon (like within the year). We both have decent jobs and live together. \n\nHis 16 year old brother recently came to visit us because he lives with a relative (both parents passed away). Now he is saying they do not treat him fairly, he is uncomfortable there, etc. Naturally fiancee wants to help his brother and told me if anything he will take is brother and raise him.\n\nI know i sound self centered and i'm really trying not to be, because i know family comes first, but how can he make this decision that affects my life as well without consulting me? He never asked how I felt about it, or if i would even be willing to step in and help. I understand how he feels, and would do the same for a sibling in a heartbeat, but I would never just spring it on my partner like \"take it or leave it\". I think that is so effed up. Why should I have to put our plans on the backburner???\n\nHe is a great kid and it isn't anything personal, but we live in a cramped two bedroom one of which is currently being rented out, and the person is moving out soon, so we can prepare the room for future baby. Now it would essentially become his brothers room. I feel like what i want, and all of our plans are completely irrelevent and its his way or the high way. \n\nPlease try to help me not see this as badly as I do, i know i sound horrible and self centered and I feel horrible about that, but i feel steamrolled by all of this!", "summary": "My fiancee is planning on adopting his brother, i need ways to not think selfishly about how this will affect plans I had made for fiancee and I"}
{"id": "t3_23sjn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] want to build my social environment back up but I don't know how", "post": "Hello there people,\nToday a friend asked me if I got time to hang out with him. I said 'No I don't want to today' as a joke but I followed it up with 'Wait please, I'll take a shower quick' so I thought he sees that I was just joking. When I was done and ready, 1 hour later, he said that he doesn't want. So, I asked another friend but he was busy. My other friends are studying/learning for their last big tests.\n\nNow the thing is, I can remember when 2-3 years ago people here in my town liked me and would always talk or say 'Hello' to me on the streets. I got along very with other people here but mostly I just kept my best friends close to me although I don't hang out with them every day or many days a week, just sometimes right now.\n\nI was able to talk to girls without any problems or I could just laugh together with other guys in my age. In the last few years I just backed off completely. I gained weight. I was weighing 117kg last year in march. That was the point when I told myself that I have to change something. I'm weighing 96kg right now and I'm about to get my prefered weight but I just don't know how to get back to where I was when it comes to having more friends.\n\nI feel alone sometimes.", "summary": "I have a few best friends but I feel alone sometimes and I want to build up my social environment again. I just don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_48nhl6", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I [27M] cheated on my gf [25F] 3x during a weekend. It doesn't change that I love her", "post": "So we got into a fight on a Thursday. She threw a huge tantrum and was just out of control. Because I'm a lawyer I stay rather calm, even when there's a fight and hate when it gets too emotional and dramatic. After an hour everything that can be said, is said. It just makes me feel so weird, when she keeps going. I just hate it. I don't make her responsible for it as a person, because every girl I've been with long enough has her moments.\n\nAnyway. We got into the fight on a Thursday. On Friday she came around and she was being cute again. I didn't feel like it was over for me and I was annoyed that she thought it was okay just like that. Anyway, I left town the same day and stayed in San Diego over the weekend. The result was that I fucked 3 women until Sunday was over. To be honest, I didn't enjoy the sex that much. It's so much better with my girlfriend. Without emotions it doesn't mean much.\n\nThe last time I posted it, everyone told me to confess it, but I never planned to do that and I will not do it. There is no way to prove that it happened, not even I could prove it. She doesn't suspect a thing. I picked up the phone to talk to her even when someone else was there, so she thinks I was alone the whole time.\n\nSo I came back and now it's going better than ever. I realized that I want her and that as her boyfriend I am able to control her emotions a fair bit. Not in a mean way, but I want her to feel appretiated and happy, and not the need to start fights to get what she wants. Also I feel like that weekend gave me a chance to think about us and what I want. It's definitely her. She's beautiful, smart and 99% of the time super loving. I wouldn't want to miss her.", "summary": "Cheated on my gf 3 times during one weekend after a fight. But I feel a lot better about our relationship now and think it will work out well."}
{"id": "t3_4mgmf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] think my brother[10M] maybe being abused by my other sister [19F].", "post": "I don't live with my mom and dad anymore but I have a good relationship with my 10 yr old brother, but not my sister. However, the 19 yr old has a history of being abusive and manipulative towards everyone in the family. She even went to juvie when she was 15 for attacking a neighbor. \n\nI know the 19 year old has been verbally abusive and mean towards the 10 year old, but I have a gut feeling the child is being physically attacked. The 19 year old has always been the favorite because she was a cheerleader in high school and made straight A and my parents would turn a blind eye when my younger brother was being treated terribly by the older one. \n\nI'm really not sure what to do because my brother won't tell me anything, but I have a gut feelings something is", "summary": "I have a gut feeling my brother is being abused."}
{"id": "t3_428w5v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I was charged several hundred dollars by a public college because my mother got cancer", "post": "Some background: I'm a high school senior taking college courses because my school ran out. Most colleges I applied to require me to take four subject years and hopefully it lowers my college costs. I pay for these with my summer work money. It is currently the week before midterms in high school which is nonstop work, especially taking all max level classes. \n\nAbout two weeks ago, registration opened up for nonmatriculated students, so I signed up immediately. Last week, a fairly large operation was performed on my mother because of suspicious pains. \n\nThe college emailed me a bill Friday, which saw on Tuesday. I did not see a deadline, just had an enormous amount of homework to complete for that day and was under pressure because my mother was still recovering. That day, an appointment was yesterday. Several details implied bad news, which caused considerable stress. I was with my family for much of the time after the school day ended, after which I worked on my school work until I had to leave for it. \n\n The diagnosis came yesterday, with one of the deadliest forms, which basically consumed the rest of the day. \n\nThe college called me at the end of the school day today to say next Monday is the deadline to pay. I checked my email shortly after to see that they had added an additional multiple hundred dollar late fee, despite billing me last Friday. I tried to call them again, several times, but their lines were full. \n\nSeveral of my full work days just disappeared as a result of the college billing me within the week that the operation and diagnosis were performed. I'm really pissed off because now, considering the likely cost of treatment, is when they would have made the most difference. There is no way for me to contact them now or before the payment deadline, so I have no choice.", "summary": "Not knowing I had two days after seeing a bill to pay it, which were occupied by my mother's cancer diagnosis and nonstop schoolwork, I lost days worth of money as it became more important. I just needed to vent."}
{"id": "t3_3edzur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my bf [20M] of ten months never posts pictures of us, just of his car, etc.", "post": "This may seem silly, but it's something that is bothering me. \nWe have been happily dating for ten months, and I love him. I know he loves me. We have a healthy sex life, and we can talk about a lot of things.\nSomething as \"little\" as this shouldn't bother me, but it does.\nHe never posts about me or us on his social media. His last post of us or me was back on valentines day. And it wasn't even a romantic pic, just one of me helping him out with a chore of his.\nWhat is the one and only thing he is posting about?\nHis damn car. Every day, multiple times a day, there is a new car pic, new tire pic, new pic about something to do with his car. It hurts, makes me feel like I'll always be second to his car.\nAnother thing; he doesn't have me in any of his profile pictures.\nAnother?; he doesn't have me tagged in his bio, our anniversary date or anything.\nWhile all his friends do that, with profile pics and bios of their girlfriends on their pages, I get nothing. They post sweet things of themselves with their girlfriends, and I get nothing. I have mentioned this to him, and he just says \"its not who I am\". I asked him to try, to which he said he would. But I have seen nothing. I feel like he is hiding me, or doesn't want to show the world we are dating, which I am confused about, as when we first started dating, I was all over his social media. Now, nothing. I don't know if I am over reacting to this, but it hurts.\nAny advice would be great, but please no one telling me I'm crazy, because I already question that about this issue everyday lol.\nThanks", "summary": "Boyfriend of ten months never posts about me on his social media, tag or put me in his bio, or his profile pic, and I am hurt by it."}
{"id": "t3_3llgcu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a crazy friend (poop, piss, trash and fleas)", "post": "This happened a number of years ago. One of my old buddies kind of went crazy (too many hallucinogenic drugs) and he became super lazy. He stopped taking his dog outside to go to bathroom, so the guest room became the dog's poop and piss room. My friend also decided it was too much work to take the trash out to the dumpster so he started throwing the full trash bags into the poop and piss room too.\n\nEventually his power got shut off because he wasn't working or paying bills. This was in the middle of summer in Alabama. Needless to say the apartment became super hot and the fleas from his dog multiplied at an alarming rate. My friend eventually left, but didn't bring his dog with him.\n\nMy other friend and I had to go save the dog from the hell hole apartment. When we walked in, we were instantly covered in fleas up to our shins. It was terrifying! We grabbed the dog and ran. Not sure what ended up happening to the apartment, but I'm sure the people who cleaned it had to go in with haz-mat suits on haha.\n\nMy friend, whose jeep we used to rescue the dog, had to live with a new problem; his jeep got infested with fleas. He tried everything he could think of and eventually just had to set off bug bombs in his jeep. That jeep smelled like death for months after that.", "summary": "Friend let dog poop and pee in guest room. Friend threw bags full of trash into the poop and pee room. Power got shut off and the apartment turned into something from Fear Factor."}
{"id": "t3_1uik1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] keep thinking about my ex [23 M] and all the stupid what-if's.", "post": "Friends for 2 years, dated for about half a year. Chemistry was there. \n\nGo out-of-state for a summer internship, get dumped via text. He says something about an epiphany and how he knows who he actually wants to be with. \n\nHe is part of an organization that I am in and we see each other often. I pretend he doesn't exist and he does likewise. No contact, the routine after break-ups. \n\nSuddenly, half a year later, I'm hit with a torrent of what could have been and all that shit. I'm too prideful to ask him to take me back, especially since he desires someone else, but the thoughts won't stop. Everyday, I walk out of my house expecting him to be there like before. I want to call him\n\nI impulsively talk to him today when I see him (facepalm). I speak with him the way I did in the past, full of jokes and an overabundance of info/commentary. I also am overly straight-forward and ask him to verify the name of the girl I think he wants to pursue. I don't care that he's realized I have feelings for him. I just want these stupid thoughts to leave. I would also prefer not to have feelings for him at all, ideally. Remember, for me, it feels like everything just suddenly hit me out of nowhere. \n\nMy question would be what can I do to reach that state of \"moved on\"? Any creative ideas? I have many hobbies that I partake in and interact with friends regularly, so I would prefer not to get responses like \"find a hobby/friends\".", "summary": "I've become pathetic, pining after a guy. Would like to reach state of less pathetic. If more info is necessary, please let me know."}
{"id": "t3_ro20j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've had an hour of sleep because of my jackass, inconsiderate, horrible neighbors.  What are some of your terrible neighbor stories?", "post": "Reddit, what are some of your best asshole, inconsiderate, horrible neighbor stories?\n\nHere is mine from last night:\n\nI got home from a nine-hour shift serving at a busy restaurant last night at about one in the morning.  I live in a residential neighborhood, and usually there are about four cars parked on my block.  Last night a two block radius of my house was full.  The house two down from mine is split up into apartments, and one of them is rented by some younger kids (around 18-20ish) and every Saturday they have a party.  Each week it has gotten a little bigger, usually not a big deal it's loud, but not too loud. Yesterday was different.  Drunk kids all over the fucking place.  Still, whatever, I'm only 25, I remember being an inconsiderate jackass. \n\nFinally fell asleep despite the noise around 3.\n\nThen, at 4, the motorcycles happened.  Harleys.  Harleys being warmed up for half a fucking hour right outside my window.\n\nThen, the gunshots.  Drunk assholes on Harleys firing guns into the air.  This actually fucking happened.\n\nI have only had my one hour of sleep.\n\nThis morning when I walked my dog I had to carry him for a block because the sidewalk is carpeted with broken beer bottles.", "summary": "HUGE loud teenage party topped off by douchebags on Harleys shooting guns into the air at 4am."}
{"id": "t3_drr6y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do for this dog", "post": "My roommates have a 11 month old Boston Terrier/English Bulldog mix, and they treat the poor dog appallingly. He's thin, I can see all of his ribs, his hipbones stand out. They feed him about 1 cup of food a day (and by day, I mean once in a blue moon), he is constantly eating cat shit, and leads all around painful existence being screamed at and shoved around day in day out.\n\nI'd rather not see him in a shelter or rescue, if I could I'd like to just take him with me when I move out. I'm not sure if this is legally possible, but I'm open to ideas redditors.", "summary": "Roommates treat dog like shit and I want to save him, HELP?"}
{"id": "t3_2tkl7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my first date [23 F] today, did I blow it?!", "post": "So I have been a regular at this cafe for a while. Everytime I went I have been chatty with one girl there, and it seems 2-ways.\nLast week I got her number and we organised to hangout this weekend. \n\nCue us today, meeting for coffee. At first the energy is really good and we are both laughing and sharing stories. \n\n had the idea of walking 20m to a market place, I had checked it was on today online at least twice. \n\nHowever when we arrived, it was closed. So we walked back into the city (getting sunburnt in the process) and had lunch. \n\nAfter lunch I suggested we both go home. While conversation carried naturally, I felt nervous about really building intimacy.\n\nI generally date alot (normally at least 1 a week) and never feel any nerves and generally keep them short and sharp. \nHowever this time, I think I have a significant attraction that made me drag the date out too long, and actually prevented me from being myself properly. We agreed to catch up again but didn't get into logistics.\n\nSorry about the bad formatting", "summary": "Went on date, enjoyed her company dragged it on until she got sunburn."}
{"id": "t3_2lazl1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my SO[25M] 1 year, we were in a restaurant we saw his friend [20somethingF] and called her over to say hi. I left to grab something and when I came back I saw their hands touching.", "post": "Okay, I love my boyfriend a lot. I trust him. Which is why I am so confused by what I saw. \n\nI'm confident in our relationship. He gets me, I get him. \n\nWe were at a restaurant earlier and saw his friend [20somethingF] from class there. I had met her before, she seems really nice. \n\nShe came over and we started talking. My boyfriend got a call and took it while she was standing there. I was chatting with her when the loudspeaker told me my food was ready, so I got up to get it. \n\nI come back and my boyfriend is still on the phone, but with his hand in? or on? Her hand. I didn't say anything but thought it was strange. He pulled it away as I turned the corner to sit back down in the booth. She cracked her knuckles right after. \n\nI know what I saw, but I'm freaking out because if I bring it up and my mind was somehow playing tricks on me then it will only cause an issue. Would this be an issue for you?\n\nThe only thing I can think of is, my boyfriend and I have this thing we do (we both crack our knuckles) where I give him my hand and he cracks mine for me. We do this constantly. It's *our* thing.\n\nHelp? Lol. I feel like a crazy person. He is not a jealous person, neither am I really. I just don't know why they would have been doing that.", "summary": "Saw my boyfriend touching another girls hand as I walked back to them. Idk if this should be an issue, or what. I feel pretty crazy right now. He sees her maybe twice a week. She seems really nice, and u trust my SO so I don't know what to think. Would you bring it up? We are both huggy people, but not TOUCHY people with members of the opposite sex."}
{"id": "t3_sl26e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where should I acquire a tub like this?  (Or other household fixtures/info for new homeowners/a subreddit about this?)", "post": "(First note: This may be the wrong place to ask this.  If someone can point me towards a subreddit that is better suited for this question, I would gladly move my post there.)\n\nI think it would be neat to own [a large tube like this model,] instead of the common tub/shower single-piece-of-plastic type bathroom setup.  Those tubs don't really let you take a big, sink-down-deep bath in my experience.  I don't own a home yet, but have dreams of/ability to purchase one sometime soon, and I was thinking about what I might want to change once I do.  (I suppose there are many things to consider here, like if a bathroom already has one of those pre-made shower/tub units, there could be a lot of work involved in removing that and putting a tub like this in.)\n\nI have the feeling this is a situation where I could find a shiny new product that meets my needs, but that there may be much cheaper alternatives out there, so I figured I'd tap into the hivemind's collective knowledge and see what I could learn.\n\nAdditionally, who knows, I might end up wanting some different [wall lamps] or [sink faucets] so any information on the best way to remodel a house in general would probably be useful as well.  I feel like this is the kind of thing there is a subreddit devoted to, so if there's one out there (or some other source of information on this topic), please share anything you're found useful.\n\n(Finally, these pictures were the first things I could find and in no way reflect any planning on my part.  As I get closer to actually doing this, I may come back for advice on style, but for now I have no real plans in mind, beyond wanting a cool large tub.)", "summary": "Where can I buy a big tub or other house fixtures without paying way too much."}
{"id": "t3_4i5r20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF (30/M) made fun of me (27/F) during oral sex and now I feel ashamed", "post": "This will be a quick one (I hope) so bear with me.\n\nRecently, I discussed with my boyfriend that I felt we weren't having enough sex anymore. We have been together for 2.5 years and the past few times we have hung out, we have not had sex or he rebuffed my advances. He chalked it up to low energy and stress a few things which I understood, but it just felt very off. Not only could I not recall when we were having sex but when we did it wasn't good at all. At first he didn't agree with my sentiment about less sex, and in fact decided to point out my own shortcomings (regarding domestic tasks) but he took the initiative to initiate and it's been great. In fact, we've been having some  of the best sessions we've ever had, and I feel that he used techniques he's never used before (sorry if it's TMI). I thought we were happy.\n\nThe next morning, we were joking around and it came to the point where I jokingly mentioned that he was trying to turn me into a housewife and he mentioned I was trying to turn him into a sex slave. That threw me off, but I let it go because I assumed he was joking. However, the very next day we were recalling the previous night's session and how much he enjoyed it. I casually brought up the sex slave comment. He then goes on to show the apparently grotesque face I made multiple times and how I was basically forcing his head.\n\nIt seemed like it was in the vein of joking but I felt humiliated. I feel sex is such a vulnerable state and his comments made me feel that he wasn't really into it and having a laugh at my expense, perhaps even resentful that he had to.  When I brought up that what he said was rude, he noted that he was just kidding and didn't mean anything by it. But isn't there a truth in joking? It makes me feel like I can't voice my concerns and now I feel insecure about doing those acts. Am I just being over sensitive?", "summary": "let my BF know that I felt our sex life had fallen off a bit, tried to rectify this but then he made rude comments that made me feel insecure about bringing it up at all."}
{"id": "t3_242g9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] wants to wait for marriage now after a year and a half of being sexually active", "post": "My boyfriend of a year and a half and I went on a beach holiday a couple of days ago where he told me he would like to stop all sexual activity. We have a good relationship and a seemingly good sex life, he wasn't a virgin when we started dating and i'm finding all this hard to understand even though we've had a long conversation about it. He has a fairly high sex drive so i'm sure its not that he's disinterested. He claimed that it was because of a couple of things that he wanted to do this. Firstly because he was raised in a fairly religious household where they constantly preached marriage before sex and that he felt guilty for breaking that and was now trying to make up for it. He said mostly though it was because he felt like he needed to respect me and the relationship more by not being so focused on sex. \n\nI respect his decision in all of this and am willing to wait if thats what he really needs. I've also never seen him as happy as he was after he made this decision, he said he felt like a weight had been lifted off him and that he could finally love me properly. I don't want to take this away from him but i'm scared for what this means in our relationship. Its one thing for a relationship to progress knowing you both want to wait for marriage, but another thing to go backwards from that kind of physical relationship. I was happy in our relationship and how it was but i now feel restricted, like there are now boundaries that i can't cross and i now can't be fully relaxed and me. I don't want to have to repress my sexual desires and needs but it sounds selfish to say so. I'm really not sure how to go about this because i love him and i won't leave him over this.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to cut all sexual activity and wait for marriage, I feel uneasy about this decision, How will this impact our relationship? How should i handle this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_46jxr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] want a bio-child with my GF [28 F] when we're ready; she wants to adopt, how do I approach?", "post": "I love my girlfriend and the way we carry on, we're pretty much \"destined\" to be married and have a family. We're both quickly approaching merging our finances and settling down. Unfortunately...\n\n**Her**:\nShe doesn't want a family until we're financially stable AND then at least 10 years from now. She doesn't want to have kids, she'd rather adopt. She feels that there are too many children in the world and why should we add more when we can just adopt if we want a family.\n\n**Me:**\nI agree that we should be financially stable and have fun, but I'd prefer to start a family sooner rather than later (5 years at least). I actually want a family. 1-2 kids, dogs, the works. I'm open to adopting if I'm biologically unable to.\n\n**Tackling the Issue:**\nWe've talked about this before and she once said she was okay with having our kids, but her words today threw a wrench in my assumptions.\n\nHow can I make a case about wanting to have biological kids? I used to think that wanting children that looked like us, shared our genetic information, and were OURS was enough. Is there anything else? I mean, I just want *my* kids.\n\nI'm not saying adoption is bad, as I am okay with that too if we are unable to, biologically, but we don't have proof that we're not.\n\nThis is not something we need to decide today, but I feel that this is a deal-breaker, especially since we're going to be uprooting our entire lives soon to move in together and work towards settling down in one spot.", "summary": "She wants to adopt kids and wait at least 10 years; I want to have biological kids (if possible), not afraid to adopt, and I'd like to wait at least 5 years. How do I build my case if she'll let me convince her?"}
{"id": "t3_50ebs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [28M] is unaffectionate! Am I [27F] wasting my time trying to fix things? And did I totally ruin things by being so paranoid!?", "post": "My BF [28M] And I [27F] have been dating a little over a year and he is very emotionally detached and very unaffectionate.  I always feel like he's not really into me and his actions totally show it but then when I confront him about it we just fight and he says he wants to stay with me and just isn't an affectionate person?  \n\nI really like him because we do have fun together when we do hang out but I feel like lonely and unloved majority of the time and it's shitty!  And he can go days without talking to me or seeing me.  Wouldn't you want to spend time with your gf!?  I ask him that too and his response is he doesn't miss anyone it's not just me but in the beginning he used to tell me he missed me...\n\nShould I just end things or are there ways to maybe fix it? I mean he says he doesn't want to break up but like it's unfair to me how unavailable he always is! \n\nAnd it's not like he's doing something important he just would rather be with his friends over me.  Idk maybe it's me! Maybe I'm super lame or something!  I can't say he's keeping me around just to get laid bc we don't alway have sex when we do hang out? \n\nI guess he lost affection towards me bc I can be a little paranoid and I accuse him of cheating on me when he is away but only because he's unaffectionate so when you think someone's not into you your brain will take you places!", "summary": "I think my relationship is going nowhere but I want it to work, should I just let it go and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1o0wye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] Think I've fallen for her [19/F], but it's become complicated. Need some advice what to do.", "post": "Hi. I met a girl several months ago at College on an academic fieldtrip where we went abroad with our course for a week. We got on while we were there, but when we arrived back home neither of us spoke to each other for a while.\n\nA few days later she started speaking to me and we really began to hit it off. It got to the stage where we were speaking almost all the time, whether it was by text or by Facebook or face-to-face, and one day we got onto the topic of relationships with a mutual friend. I found out that she was not looking for anything, and neither was I, so I thought nothing of it. \n\nWe began to speak less and less over time, and more recently we've been speaking once every few days; a quick text here or there. Earlier on she text me and we got onto the conversation of our plans for the evening. This is when she told me she was going to a guy's house who she was romantically interested in. I was happy to hear this because I love her as a friend and I truly want the best for her, but I can't help but feel a sickening feeling in my stomach, and I can't put my finger on it. \n\nI think I've fallen for her, as hard as I tried not to, and I'm feeling pretty shitty at the moment. I don't take it personally that she likes this guy and I'm happy things are going well for her. My emotions were all over the place about this. I just wish I told her when I had the chance about my feelings for her. I don't know whether I should be cutting contact with her or being there as one of her best friends and supporting everything she does. I love her too much as a friend just to cut everything. I'm feeling so conflicted and need help with what to do. Thanks", "summary": "I fell for one of my best friends, and she's now on the verge of seeing someone. I feel sick inside and I don't know what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_36x5w9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My LDR boyfriend [33M] and I [33F] of 1.5 years broke up and I'm devastated. I don't think I'll ever find this once-in-a-lifetime love again.", "post": "We've had an on-off relationship from the start... mostly because of the 7000km/5000mile distance between us and his commitment-phobia. We had sustained our relationship by visiting each other and speaking almost everyday on skype.\n\nThe breakup is final this time... because he didn't want to try any more and wanted to have sex with other women. I was actually going to visit him but a few days before my flight he suddenly mentioned that he was curious about polyamory even though I'd been clear from the start that I wanted monogamy, and he said he wanted that too.\n\nHe later said that he was just trying to make sense of why he might not want to try to make our relationship work anymore and that he was also scared about getting closer and having a family. He has started to go out on dates with other women now.\n\nI'm devastated... we spoke about marriage, kids. We were both open to moving to the other's country. When things were good between us (when the push-pull dynamic wasn't playing out) I felt the most wonderful, deep love from him. We could feel each other in our thoughts/hearts. I felt like we had the same heart and soul. It was the same for him but he said that it would be possible to find that connection with someone else. That he would still love me but that our love didn't have to be connected to sex or being in a relationship together.\n\nI don't think it will be possible for me to find that connection again. A connection I wanted for a long time in my life and didn't even have with an ex-husband. I felt we touched each other on all levels - emotionally, intellectually, physically, spiritually, and even happened to have the same lifestyle (diets/interests/goals).\n\nI'm very choosy about men I date and feel that sex is really special - i don't want to jump into casual relationships. How can I move on from this? I feel like I can only focus my energies into other parts of my life now because I'll never have a relationship like this again.", "summary": "Soulmate ex and I broke up. How do I move on from a once-in-a-lifetime connection? How can I settle for something less than this now that I've experienced it? Has anyone else experienced a similar connection and, if so, how have you moved on from this?"}
{"id": "t3_1hud54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) am having a hard time understanding GF's (23F) \"connecting\" behavior", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for about a year. Things are good, and I think we get along very well. We have our tiffs but hey what couple doesnt.\n\nWhat bothers me though is that shes claims that she must meet as many people as possible; shes really obsessed with \"connecting\" with people. \n\nThe other day when we went out with a bunch of her friends to a bar, she got the number of numerous guys. From what I saw, it was rather innocent in context, but it just bothered me a bit that it seemed like she was actively coming up with \"list\" of people she can get with after we're done... I feel like if I did the same, shed be uncomfortable too.\n\nWhen I asked her about it, she said it was just for friendly encounters and that she just wanted to \"connect\" with people. Now mind you, she does do this a lot. Shell just go to some random store owned by a man clearly in his 50s/60s and will be very friendly with him because she wants to connect... I dont think this is sexual in nature.\n\nI just dont know if this is normal behavior but anyway.\n\nBefore me, shes dated plenty of guys which is fine. But one gets to me more than the others. Apparently on a trip to thailand, she wanted a lay and hooked up with a hostel bartender. Then after the vacation, she went back to further \"connect\" with him. But it seems now that she has no desire to connect with him, and Im starting to think her hyper \"connection\" behavior is some sort of odd... I dont know scapegoat for something. \n\nAm I being a bit too jealous? Should it bother me that shes still actively seeking male friends? (its really the motive that bothers me). It seems really strange to me that someone is so desperately in need to connect with people.", "summary": "gf is obsessed with \"connecting\" with people. Trying to figure out if its an excuse with sinister motives... or if she just is that friendly."}
{"id": "t3_20frbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] took the leap, went speed dating. Now wtf do I do? Fake it till I make it?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo, a 24M here who's never been in any relationship or anything. Went speed dating last weekend (just talked randomly), matches came out and I got a couple of matches? _ummm, scratches head_\n\nExcept, I have absolutely no clue what I am doing. I need your infinite wisdom and knowledge Reddit.\n\n* How do I start the online conversation?! Should I talk online with her first for a bit or propose that we meet up (considering we've already met at the speed dating is it okay to skip the online phase)?!\n\n* If you do skip the online talking part, where do you go? Coffee?!\n\n* Do I go out with multiple girls at the same time? If either one of them asks if I am going out with others, do I say yes straight up?\n\nThanks for reading everyone! <3", "summary": "Went speed dating, got a couple of matches, what do I do now? HALP"}
{"id": "t3_1japdq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking about animal house....", "post": "I was in class and we were studying for our final test in just a few days and the teacher shoved problems at us as if it was mcdonald's to the stereotypical american. After at least 52 questions and 5 worksheets plus 4 notes everyone was tired and i was talking to my best friend right beside me and i wasn't paying attention and then i thought of an inside edition segment on magazine covers and one talked about national lampoon and then my brain entered scumbag mode at the wrong time\n\nBRAIN: hey man, remember animal house? that movie about college? NL made that movie! and that theme song is a favorite...\n\nand then i thought about scenes from the movie and people like d-day and the part where bluto thought that the germans caused pearl harbor anyways after 10 minutes or so i'm STILL thinking about the movie and then at the same time i thought about the \"paddle\" scene and then the teacher asked \"who wants more?\" and then i said \"may i please have another?!\" 3....2...1.. INSTANTLY i saw mixed reactions from the teacher,classmates and my friend.My first thouht was \"holy crap what did i say?\" and the teacher asked me the same question and he asked me \"was that animal house?\" after at least 5 minutes of that my thoughts of the movie left and i was embarrassed to even sharpen a pencil.", "summary": "animal house quote was caught by teacher."}
{"id": "t3_36390n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretending not to know anything about weed at work.", "post": "Every Friday morning my office has breakfast tacos in the meeting room and everyone gathers to eat and chat. Today the topic veered into Marijuana, and being one of the youngest people I didn't want to appear too knowledgeable or interested. Someone asked where 4/20 came from and everyone started talking at once. I heard someone say they thought it was someone's birthday, and so thinking I could appear not suspicious at all and hopefully change the topic entirely, I loudly proclaimed that it was Adolf Hitler's birthday. While I did succeed in changing the topic, everyone gave me a pretty disgusted look and have avoided me since then.", "summary": "instead of being the office pot head I am now the office skin head."}
{"id": "t3_3nd0of", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if I want to stay in my LTR", "post": "Backstory: my boyfriend and I dated for 3 years in college, broke up because I (28F) cheated. Got back together 5 years later, now have been together 2 years and living together for 5 months. \n\nThe problem: I don't know if I want to stay in the relationship. \n\nHere's why: \nI recently came to terms with the fact that I'm an alcoholic (sober 4 months). I also have bipolar disorder (medication/therapy managed). My father died 6 months ago and that sent me into kind of a tailspin. I then moved across the state to be with boyfriend and closer to my mom, and started a new job (which I love). I've been away from therapy for a few months due to this transition. Adjusting to living with boyfriend has not been easy...I require more space/alone time than he does, and once you live with someone all the things that bugged you about them before become more pronounced. All this to say that I've been more moody/touchy/unstable than I was for the past year. Previously I had been ready to get married and spend my life with this guy, then about a month into living together it's like everything changed out of nowhere. And now I'm avoiding sex with him like the plague and sometimes the thought makes me physically ill. Confession: I started to develop feelings for someone else and I'm not quite sure if it's because he has been helping me in early sobriety or if it's more than that. Anyway, the point is that I now have some good days/weeks where I feel like my old self and am ready to marry this guy again, other weeks I can't stand him. I feel guilty because I'm the one who cheated years ago, then I'm the one who begged him to take me back, so how could I leave after that?? So there's a lot of shit going on and I don't know where I'm at or what I should do. I'd appreciate some advice.", "summary": "not sure if I wanna stay in my LTR and have a lot of personal turmoil in the past six months. Need advice please."}
{"id": "t3_1zy5p0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f23) and my boyfriend (m32) of roughly a year, work the same shift and same days off at a shift work job. He wants to switch shifts, it could be years before I can follow", "post": "Like I said we've been together just over a year, living together for 4-5 months. Since we began dating we've been both working afternoon shift with the same days off, which really works out to a lot of time together. \n\nNow he wants to go to midnight shift, because it's less stressful. Now I agree with that, but it could be years (probably 1-3) before I could switch. That would leave me coming home to an empty house, eating dinner alone, and going to bed alone every evening after work. \n\nWe've discussed in depth how much that upsets me, and how important it is to me that he not go through with this. However, he feels it's very important to his mental health that he not miss this opportunity. \n\nMy suggestion was that he just wait for a bit until we can both get midnight shift. But his is that he takes it as soon as it's available, and I just wait until it's available to me. \n\nNow, I've never asked him to do anything big for me. I called off a wedding, broke off an engagement, moved out on my own, and recently we moved in together... All because I wanted to be able to spend more time with him. This is the first important thing I've asked for, and I feel dismissed. \n\nHe says he will gladly give me whatever I ask for, at any time, but this is something he can't budge on. All I want is his time, so I don't see how he could make it up to me", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to switch shifts, I don't want him to. There has to be a winner and a loser here"}
{"id": "t3_43b9po", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What is the best way to ask your best friend out on a date?", "post": "I [29m] have a Very good friend let's call her Samus [24f]. We have been decently good friends for a while I have known her for almost 6 years now. Over the last year we have gotten closer just talking about stuff. By stuff I mean more or less everything. Her dating life, my dating life, old stories, the past, the future, emotion you name it we have talk about it. We make each other laugh she makes me very a happy person. Feelings change and grow and about three weeks ago we were in a bar just chatting alone. The subject of a mutual friend that she has a crush on came up. And I guess my face noticeably sank she asked why I was sad and that is when I realized I really wanted to be with her not as just a friend I said nothing. So fast-forward to today. I have decided that I have to ask her about us or rather if could there be an \"us\". **I don't know how to do it**. I want to be fair I don't want to surprise her or make her uncomfortable but I have to ask her out. I don't want to be that guy who resents someone they actually love because they never said anything I'd rather ask and be turned down than the alternative of silent suffering and resentment. I want her to be in my life and I think I can handle the rejection.", "summary": "!"}
{"id": "t3_4ghg8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (20m) foster my relationship with my close friend and crush (20f) who doesn't like me back? Tips from those who've been in a similar situation?", "post": "So my friend is a close friend of mine. We'd known each other for about roughly 8 months now. The thing is I like her, A LOT. \n\nHowever, my very trusted friend, who also happens to be a good friend of her's, told me that she doesn't like me back. But it's okay. Cuz my friend told me that it doesn't matter. Cuz she (my friend) sees that my crush and I are very close and sees us working out in the future. She advised me to just wait because as of now, it's not yet time for my crush as my crush is quite preoccupied with other things. \n\nShe also made a good point of saying that just cuz she doesn't like me doesn't mean she won't in the future. And it's true. She also mentioned that it's the guy's effort, attitude, how he treats her, etc etc etc that wins her over. She even made an example of how our other friend did that with the girl he's with now (guy like girl, girl didn't like guy, but they eventually became a couple). \n\nI don't wanna ask her out on a date yet because again, she is quite busy and preoccupied with some stuff, especially with school. \n\nSo anyways, having said that, what are ways or what can I do to foster our relationship so we can be closer to each other? \n\nI also don't mean/want to sound manipulative but are there perhaps any ways or things I can do where I can make her fall for me or at least see or get to know me better/know each other better? \n\nI just want to get even closer with her, and any suggestions or advice from people who have been in a similar situation would be much appreciated. \n\nMany thanks in advance.", "summary": "How can I be closer with my female friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3imp1z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [15/m] with my friends [15/f] [14/f] and something's very different.", "post": "Hi, I'd like to ask for some advice on a strange feeling I've been having. I met these two girls a few weeks ago and (they are sisters, btw) we hit it off great, we had an awesome conversation and everything. We're going to be vacationing with them and another *male* friend of mine next month. However, this Saturday, we're meeting to discuss plans for said vacation.\n\n     The thing is, something's different about the feel of these new friends. My parents went to a party for another friend where they were at (I couldn't go) and they got to know each other more, and said they're \"best friends\" with the whole family. I haven't seen the whole family since those few weeks ago. I'm starting to get strange feelings that there's something wrong....I don't know what. Maybe that they were faking liking me as a person, I dunno. It's super strange considering I've only been around them once and it went so great. But something just feels....off. \n\nI'd like to state that this is a friendship only and nothing more. Maybe this is teen angst. Any advice or answer given is very appreciated, Thanks.", "summary": "I met two nice girls a few weeks back and we hit it off great, but now things seem a bit off even though that's the only time I've talked to them."}
{"id": "t3_1vytct", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20m] girlfriend [21f] of 2 years revealed an absurd sexual fantasy. Not sure what to do. [NSFW]", "post": "A little about myself. I'm an open bisexual man, I enjoy bodybuilding, been in a relationship with whom I believe to be the love of my life. Although our relationship has had it's ups and downs, we've always managed to work things out. \n\nWe are both aware of each others sexual fantasies/fetishes- and we're both open minded to do whatever it'll take to please each other. Last night my girlfriend revealed to me that she wants to literally dress me up in drag and peg me. I was shocked. Although i'm open minded, I know that I would feel emasculated performing her fantasy. We immediately got into an argument. She argued that \"she's dresses up in lingerie and occasionally does anal for me.\" Although it's a selfish, I refuse to try it. The idea of it completely turns me off, and I feel that it would take too much from my manhood.\n\nAm I being too selfish? \n\nThanks", "summary": "gf revealed to me, last night, that she wants to dress me in girl clothes and peg me. I refuse because I would feel emasculated and don't like the idea of it. Got into an argument, and haven't talked since."}
{"id": "t3_2swycu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I M(18) cheated, seeking advice.", "post": "I'm a bit flustered at the moment for that I apologize for the bad grammar and very confusing details..\n\nI M(18) had been in a relationship with F(18) for 1.5 years\n\nI have a history of cheating on my significant other especially with my last girlfriend. I cheated on her countless times not because I was running away from fights or I had feelings of emptiness, loneliness, sadness or lack of attention. She made me felt happy and needed.\nin spite of that I still had the audacity to succumb to my previous bad habits or ways...\n\nRecently she found out and I tried to atone for my wrong deeds. She gave me a chance but within the course of the next few days she remained inconsistent with her decision. Doubting or not whether she should give me this chance again or not. \nUntil recently she came to her conclusion..\nTo cut off all connections from me.\n\nShe chose the best option in my opinion.. \nI am a very immature person lacking self control..\nFor me to be able to do something like this to someone wwho has sacrificed so much of herself for me and to tell her \"I love you\" just proves even more of my immaturity.\n\nI come to you reddit seeking advice on what steps I should take to better myself as a person.. I've already come to a realization and acceptance that I am not the person I thought I was nor am I the person worthy of someone like her.. I'm not happy of the person I've become. I regret the damage I have done to her. I left her a scar in her heart that would never heal.\nI don't want to be this kind of person no more.", "summary": "I've cheated countless times and want to change my ways"}
{"id": "t3_1gu3cd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Well That Was Unexpected [UPDATE]", "post": "[Previous Post] \n[Other Post] (\n\nSo we were talking about what we were gonna be doing this weekend, knowing her she would as me back and i was gonna say \"going to the zoo with this cute and cool girl\" however she answered with \"working tomorrow morning, then prob guna go see my man and drink for the rest of the day\" \n\nThis is the second time it has occurred to me in say the last 2 months, seeing as they have been together for 3 months I would have expected to see pictures maybe even cute little wall posts but none of that. Tell me why I have such bad luck and can't read women. Im honestly just going to become a bachelor and live with all my pets", "summary": "GIRL IS TAKEN THIS IS BULLSHIT"}
{"id": "t3_17ai44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21f] My little siblings [17M] and [14F] ganged up on me, I executed this brilliant idea that I wish I had thought of YEARS ago.", "post": "EDIT: Don't try to help people on [/r/relationships](/r/relationships) because they're so used to nitpicking people's flaws, most can't see and acknowledge when actual progress has been made and simply let a person attempt to help others going through a similar situation without being negative. The majority of you may be adults going through *more serious* or *less childish* problems, but I know there are teens out there facing problems with expressing themselves and being heard by their parents. This post was aimed at them, and the fact it's not relevant to you as an older audience, doesn't make the issue *childish* in the slightest.", "summary": "First time this sub has let me down in a long time. I won't bother trying to share my knowledge/experiences anymore in an attempt to give back all I've learnt from you guys in dealing with constant problems from my family. This will be deleted shortly."}
{"id": "t3_3fbea0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking an English exam", "post": "This happened yesterday, but pretty close right?\n\nAnyways, I'm in my final exam for English, which I am taking in summer school. Around halfway through the one and a half hour exam, I feel the sensation of a stomach ache and chills. It has happened to me before, and I usually am able to clear the pain by putting a sweater on. However, I had no sweater today. I can't go to the bathroom in the middle of an exam, and all I can do is sit there and desperately try to get over the pain. A little later, the cramping is still there and I feel the disgusting and terrifying urge to take a dump. I can't hold it in any longer, and I'm sitting there trying to get it together. At first, it was just a little bit of poop that came out. And I'm talking a SMALL amount, solid too. No big deal right?. However, 10 minutes later, the sensation comes back, and this time, there's no hope for me. I grab my chair and try my best, but a HUGE block of mostly-solid-but-kindof-liquid crap comes out. I am terrified. There is still 30 minutes left of my exam. I'm sitting in my desk, with a ball of festering poop hanging out in my pants, and I have nowhere to go. The next 30 minutes was the longest of my life. Once the exam ended, I dashed out of the classroom as quickly as I could to avoid the smell being tracked to me, and tried to clean up my mess in shame.", "summary": "took an English exam, pooped my pants, had to let it sit there for half an hour"}
{"id": "t3_2jxu48", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19F] thinkig about breaking up with boyfriend [21M] because my concience/gut feelig.", "post": "Ok so I have been friends with my current boyfriend for about 3 years. We have had subtle feelings for each other for a while, so we decide to start dating. We have been dating for about two months, and it has been great, but I have this gut feeling that this isn't how it is supposed to be. I feel like we aren't meant to be in a romantic relationship, but just really good friends. There's nothing wrong with him, he didn't wrong me or do anything bad at all. He's a great person. It just doesn't feel quite right. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he is one of the most important people in my life, and he's one if my best friends. I feel really bad because it seems like he is completely infatuated with me and I don't feel like we are on the same page of feelings. \n\nAnother reason I'm thinking about breaking up with him is because I might have started to like someone else. I have tried to stop myself and it hasn't worked, and I feel like I'm being unfair to him (the guy I'm dating) if I stay in the relationship. I feel like an awful person for doing this and I don't know what to do because I don't want my current boyfriend and our mutual friends to hate me. \n\nAm I a bad person? \n\nWhat should I do? \n\nHow would you handle this situation?", "summary": "can't decide what to do about a breakup with my boyfriend who is also one of my best friends."}
{"id": "t3_3ski6j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(19/m) Here, first relationship with (19/f), kind of confused & looking for advice.", "post": "First off, sorry about formatting, haven't used reddit in forever.  \n  \nQuick backstory, my girlfriend and I are both freshmen and have been dating for about two months now. I've never been in a relationship before and I think it's going alright. She's been in a few, one that ended in a restraining order (we've talked about it and she's seems definitely over it), and seems incredibly happy with what we have now.  There's nothing nervous between us, we talk about everything openly, but some things are just really confusing.  \n  \nSince we're so close we sleep in the same bed together every night, always cuddled up together but never done anything past that. We've kissed but never made out. Whenever we talk about anything sexual she says shes 'doesn't get horny', and 'doesn't understand other girls' for being so. The problem is I find her incredibly attractive, but have no idea if she sees me the same way? Its really hard to sleep in the same bed with this beautiful girl and not feel incredibly horny, but as soon as we cuddle up she's instantly asleep. Please don't misunderstand, i'm not asking for advice on how to get my girl to put out, but how do I know if she's actually into me and not just my affection? I know that sounds stupid but I feel like shes having a great time and i'm just kind of cheering from the sidelines. \n\n(", "summary": ")  Unsure if GF is dating me because i'm nice to her or if she actually likes me."}
{"id": "t3_rb5hu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Share your in-law stories", "post": "I'll start. This one just happened to me two hours ago. I'm at work, and my mother-in-law (let's call her Laura) visits my wife (Brett) at home. Immediately starts judging and berating Brett over how she's treating our 4-month old child. Our precious little girl wouldn't stop crying despite having just been fed and changed. She does this sometimes, so Brett set her down to let her cry a bit. \n\nIt gets to the point where Brett asks Laura to leave our house. Laura refuses - sound familiar, anyone? Brett decides that if Laura won't leave, she'll take the baby and go take a drive. Laura refuses to let go of the car seat, so she ends up coming along. \n\nBrett calls me and informs of the situation. Keep in mind, this is not the first time Laura has overstepped her boundaries and refused to respect us. So I am beyond angry. I call Laura from work, and when she kept trying to talk over me, I started screaming at her to shut up and listen. Especially after she implied that she would call DHS on us. I end up verbally ripping her a new one, demanding that she respect us in our home, as we do her in hers. \n\nI leave work with full approval from my supervisor, and come home to intercept her for when she and Brett get back. On the way, I realize that I'm about to burn some bridges that can never be rebuilt. I don't particularly care, but Brett might - it IS her mother. So I swallow my pride, apologize for screaming - but not for my words - and invite her to come inside to talk properly. She refuses and leaves.", "summary": "Mother-in-law disrespects wife in our own home and refuses to leave, I flip out and scream at her over the phone. Trying to be better man and not burn bridges, I apologize for screaming and invite her to talk. She refuses and leaves."}
{"id": "t3_1ua5oc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend[19/f] acting cold and distant to me [20/m]", "post": "Hey all, I have been dating this girl for a while now and the last few days I noticed her starting to get cold. A month ago she was all over me and everything was great, we kept a conversation going all day in texts and when we hung out it was perfect. \nI noticed one day a few weeks ago she started sending very short texts but really didnt think anything of it. \n\nI took her skating one night because I thought it would be romantic and she was unsure of it, I told her I would hold her hand the whole time to make sure she felt safe and she agreed to come. We were only there for a few minutes before she got mad and said we should leave so we did. That was the day everything started to go downhill.\n\nThe next day we hung out for a little but she seemed upset with me so I figured it was because of the skating thing. Her texts after that day were increasingly shorter with me from then on and I asked her if everything was okay and she said it was.\n\nA few days later we got into an argument over her talking about how attractive other guys were and it made me kind of uncomfortable. I asked her to stop and she basically showed me that she didnt care for my feelings. Since then she only replies to my texts every few hours with very few words and even pulled away from a kiss when I went to kiss her.\n\nI am kind of destroyed inside and want to fix this but she won't tell me anything thats bothering her. I have such intense feelings for this girl and want it to work but I am not even sure if she cares any more. I do not know what to do and need any advice to help me or if you have similar stories to help.\nAlso we havent had sex in a few weeks either but I am not sure if that has anything to do with it.", "summary": "girlfriend acting cold and distant and I need advice on how to fix it"}
{"id": "t3_2hpdgk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [21/f] ask my boyfriend [24/m] if he lied about something that happened in the past in our relationship?", "post": "We've been dating for 2.5 years and are getting pretty serious, but I believe that this thing happened in the beginning (four months in) of our relationship, and it just keeps bothering me. Basically my boyfriend told me he was going to be somewhere else, and I think he lied and went to go see this girl he used to have a lot of feelings for who just broke it off with her now ex. I asked him one night after we both drank a lot if he went to go see her and he said no. I'm pretty sure he lied about it, and I've been going back and forth for months about whether or not to ask him while we're both sober. I just can't get over the fact that he wasn't really committed at the beginning of our relationship, and if he really did lie, then this adds to the list of lies he's told me when Ive always been honest with him. \nI want to ask him because I'll finally be at peace with what really happened.\nI don't want to ask him because it is in the past, and I already brought it up once.", "summary": "Asked my bf once if he went to go meet a girl, but i think he lied. Should I ask if he lied?"}
{"id": "t3_g3z7y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm getting a promotion, how do I ask for more money, or am I expecting too much for a programmer?", "post": "I am a woman I have an associates and bachelors degree in computer science and I've been out of school and working as a web developer for the past year (not my favorite field of programming, but I haven't had any luck with software engineering).  Aside from professional experience with PHP and C#/ASP.NET MVC, I've been programming in C++ for seven years in my free time and programming is my primary passion in life.\n\nMy first job paid me a salary of $24k a year, and when I tried to ask for more money or less hours, they just completely wouldn't budge, so I left.\n\nI've been at my current place about six months as an intern, making $14 an hour.  I am getting a promotion (from Intern to Programmer I), and my boss said \"I can offer you $16 an hour\".  I don't know what the benefits are yet, though some guys in other positions have health insurance and paid time off.  This place is kind of small, about 70 employees, but we seem to be doing excessively well financially.\n\nI feel like this pay is really low.  Whenever I look at statistics websites or talk to people, it seems like $50k+ is the standard, even for entry-level people. When I talk to other programmers, locally and online, I always find my pay to be incredibly humiliating.\n\nI think around $40k, while still kind of low, I feel like I can be happy with for a while, so I'm thinking of debating my boss to get $19-$20 instead of the $16 he is offering.\n\nI'm compiling a list of the projects and responsibilities I've handled the past 6 months, as well as pay statistics I can find online, though I'm not particularly articulate and definitely not experienced in the professional world.\nWhat can anybody suggest?  Am I asking for too high of a pay raise 6 months in?  If I don't get the raise I want, how should I respond?\n\nThanks guys", "summary": "Woman with BS in CS, 1 year pro web dev exp (7 years hobbyist C++ exp), boss wants to give me $16/hr for Programmer I promotion, I want $19.  Unreasonable? How do I ask for a higher amount?"}
{"id": "t3_ypyuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf (20) Broke up w/ me (27) last night. Need advice, please.", "post": "We've only been dating for 5 months and I know that the age difference has caused her stress. I've never met her parents and she's convinced that they won't accept me and will potentially disown her. I've only met one of her friends, for only a few minutes and things were cordial but apparently that friend is also disapproving of our relationship. \n\nOver the past couple of weeks she's been extremely affectionate, constantly telling me she loves me when we're together and texting/calling to tell me how much she misses me when we aren't. This was a big deal because before she said it for the first time she was convinced that she'd never be in love with anyone. The first time she told me, she cried hysterically. \n\nSunday night we got into a small argument which turned into a breakup argument in which she told me that she's not positive she's in love with me and though she likes me \"more than a lot\", she isn't always happy in her life and thinks that she should be happier. According to her, it \"isn't enough.\" \n\nI should add that this is the 3rd time we've broken up under similar circumstances. In the past she's always regretted her decision and come back. I love her but I don't know how much more of this I can take. The way we left it, she told me she wasn't sure if she wanted to break up or not and just needed time to think, but she sure seems to be leaning in the direction of ending it.", "summary": "Big age diff w/ gf has caused stress. She says she loves me and then takes it back. We're probably breaking up. I'm lost. Thanks guys."}
{"id": "t3_2sp95a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How/should I [17m] tell my girlfriend [18 f] I was molested/raped?", "post": "I'm a guy, 17, and there's this girl I really like and have started dating. We've known each other for a while, and I really like her. Here are the problems, though. For one, she's had a lot more experience than me: she's been in a few serious relationships and basically knows what she's doing. I like that about her, but I'm worried my not knowing what I'm doing will look even worse because she's  been with guys that have experience.\n\nAnd then here's the main thing. I'm not a virgin, but I've never consented to having sex. I lost my virginity when I was 8 to a female babysitter and in addition was molested for a while by an older male. I have largely managed to ignore these two events, but the possibility of having sex soon has kinda re opened the floodgates and frankly I'm terrified. What if I have a flashback during sex? What if a million thing, all of which would kill the mood and make me look really weak. I'm already not very manly, I can't exactly survive having a breakdown in front of her. \n\nSo anyways I don't know if I should tell her or not, beforehand, and what I should tell her if it happens. I dated  a girl before but had an anxiety attack when she touched me and told her I was gay to avoid telling her my history. So, I'd like to handle this better than that. I really, *really* like this girl, and I don't want to mess things up.", "summary": "I was molested and I'm unsure what I should do about telling my gf."}
{"id": "t3_37c5yr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] found out my boyfriend [22 M] is still secretly using his dating app. Been together for almost 2 years.", "post": "Long story short: stumbled upon this reddit, read Infidelity posts, got paranoid, checked boyfriend's dating app again.\n\nLast month, I was going through his emails (I've always been a little paranoid) when I found out that he signed up for one of the more popular dating apps. I confronted him and he said his friends told him to download it. I asked him, \"So do you have to download it just because they told you to?\" He brushed it off.\n\nI then downloaded the app and logged in to it (he uses the same password for everything). There was nothing except one match and the girl telling him to add her on some other messaging app.\n\nTwo weeks ago, I tried to use his phone and he told me to back off. Asked him why and he said it's for privacy. Used vulgarities on me in the process too. But we were in the middle of a mini disagreement so I thought it might be because of that and I ignored it.\n\nToday, I downloaded the app again after reading stories here and to my horror, I found matches as recent as two days ago. But the chats are empty and I think he has cleared all of them because the previous message was gone too. Now I'm wondering if him not allowing me to use his phone is linked to this?\n\nShould I confront him about the usage of the app or wait till I get more substantial proof that he is actually cheating?", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is secretly still using a dating app. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3z3wft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Wife [22 F] 4 year relationship. looking for advice on divorce procedure", "post": "I am looking for advice on how to handle the process. I know I will get screwed over with child support and custody since she doesn't work and I am a male.\n\nMy wife and I have been together for 4 years and married for a year and a half.\nCurrently there is no paperwork filed and I have not been living at home for going on 2 months.\nWe have 2 children together. One is 4 months old and the other is over a year.\n\nI have been trying to kill her with kindness and the like but I am only met with hate.\n\nIt's not only her fault and it's not only my fault, but we just don't work. My wife and I have no savings and under 5k in debt. I work full time and go to school almost full time.\nI know there will be individuals who will say to just work on your marriage, but I respectively do not agree.\nI'm on mobile please be gentle.", "summary": "please spread some helpful wisdom on how to not get screwed over in the end and what is best for the children."}
{"id": "t3_4ci73q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my husband [31M] of 10 years, he is in rehab and obsessed with being diagnosed with a mental illness, I'm waiting at home with our newborn.", "post": "My husband has a history of mental health problems and alcoholism. He was 5 years sober until after the traumatic birth of our daughter, which drove him back to drinking. He decided to go stay at a rehabilitation/psychiatric centre (which got him sober the first time) for 2 weeks to get him back on track. He was binge drinking every two-three days before he went.\n\nHe has been there for three weeks and is sober again, but he has become obsessed with being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or bipolar. He told me that four days after he got there (while in the middle of detoxing) the psychiatrist who sees him 15 mins every two days diagnosed him with borderline personality disorder and put him on a medication. He didnt like that medication so is now on another one, in addition to his long term anti depressants. \n\nHe told me two days ago that he would come home Thursday (tomorrow) but now he's saying \"but what if they diagnose me with bipolar..?\"\n\nHe may very well have one of these disorders but i think its impossible to diagnose him in this state, and when he is trying to fit the diagnosis. He is filling out self diagnosis questionnaires and taking them to the doctors there trying to get them to diagnose him. \n\nI contacted his regular psychiatrist at home, who used to run this treatment centre, and he advised me that in order to diagnose him he would need to see him for several months of being sober in order to get a clear picture. \n\nMeanwhile, I'm at home with our newborn daughter, waiting and hoping for the best. I don't know what to do!", "summary": "My husband is in rehab and obsessed with trying to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder."}
{"id": "t3_31vmvs", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Just not into me?", "post": "Throwaway cause she reddits.... Basically I met her through work (different departments so rarely do we interact and we have different bosses) and we talked and had some things in common. Afterwards I emailed her to see if she would want to climb the next day, she texted me and we went twice over the course of a week and a half. Our third time hanging out we also got dinner and drinks and when I drove her home I kissed her goodnight. Thought things were going well. We texted a little the following days and then I asked about plans Sunday night (on Thursday or Friday) she said no plans so I texted that I'd love to get dinner. Didn't hear from her so Sunday afternoon I retexted and she basically said she couldn't make it, so I said that's fine how about getting together Monday or Tuesday. Haven't heard anything back. I have this weekend off so would love to hang out with her. Is it worth trying again? Do I wait to see if she gets back to me?  Like I said we did have some good texting after our last date so I am confused as to what happened. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "met a girl, had three good dates, kissed her goodnight after the third, we then texted the next couple of days but now nothing. What happened? What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4yrkrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] - enjoy being single too much, but is it time to settle down and start looking?", "post": "So I have been single for almost 5 or 6 years now, where I have really learned to love this life. I have gotten to travel wherever I want, do whatever I want, I have a stable career, spend my money wherever, etc. However I'm approaching the big 30, and parent's are starting to tell me to settle down - to the point now where they're looking around for me and setting me up on casual dates. I'm not sure if I'm in the right frame of mind, or if I should really change my mindset and start looking. I do want to settle down eventually, but wonder if I will ever get to the mindset of looking. I always feel like someone will kinda just naturally fall into my life, but if I'm not looking I wonder if this will ever happen.", "summary": "Getting old, parents want me to settle down, enjoy being single too much, do want to find someone eventually. Should I start looking?"}
{"id": "t3_1izm08", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Returning to College", "post": "I've always been socially isolated (usually a small group of close friends, made up of people who are themselves social outsiders.) In the past two years, I've been on one date; in the past four years, I've been in one relationship; my last sexual encounter was now over six years ago.\n\nI'm now 24, and am about to return to college following a three-year absence (I flunked out cause I wasn't doing any of the work.) I plan to be quite busy, as I'll be pursuing double majors in math and computer science, and would rather not delay my graduation any more than I already have. Still, I figure this is a good chance to get back into the world.\n\nI have a few rules/hangups that might interfere with the, er, sketchier advice people seem to give college guys; they basically boil down to \"I refuse to mischaracterize myself or my intentions,\" \"I refuse to have any romantic or sexual contact with anyone I don't genuinely respect.\"\n\nPast that... just looking for general advice on getting out there, meeting people, and moving things forward. I really have no idea how most of this stuff works; I've only been in two relationships, and both of them came about because me and the girl fell for each other so hard that the actual details of what I said/did didn't really matter. I'm woefully unimpressed by what I've seen of the way most people go about this, and am looking for more... open, mature and honest strategies. Theoretically I'm interested in either serious or casual stuff, but it feels like almost everything I have going for me applies more to serious relationships.\n\nMore info (my relationship history, my strengths and weaknesses, my looks) on request, but I don't want to make this any longer than necessary. Brutal honesty appreciated, especially if you see a weakness or shortcoming that it doesn't look like I'm aware of.", "summary": "Life-long loner going back to college, looking for advice on how to get into dating and stuff. Insists on playing nice."}
{"id": "t3_1gyf5t", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "How do I keep two corgis entertained when they don't seem that interested in each others' company?", "post": "The quick rundown is that I don't live with my two dogs anymore so I have to make the most of the time that I see them.  When I visit, they get really excited for a few hours while I run around and play with them.  After a bit, they seem to get really bored and become super depressed.  The following days they just mope around bored and depressed -- they already know I'm around, it's not exciting anymore, they're just bored.  They don't even play with each other.\n\nOccasionally I invent new games for them to play and it's pretty amazing.  I played the shell game with my older dog (his name is dante) and it was like he came alive for the first time.  After a few hours he was cheery straight through the next day, but after a few repeat games he got bored of that too.  I see them so rarely, I want to be able to keep them happy whenever I do show up.  Does anyone know of some unusual dog games?", "summary": "My dogs get bored of things very easily, so I need some clever games to confuse them and hold their interest.  Give me your best games for dogs"}
{"id": "t3_513d1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23f] bf [23m] is exploding over the smallest things - he goes from everything is perfect to full-on shouting and fighting within seconds. Is this normal?", "post": "Length of relationship: 1.5 years\n\nI am honestly not sure if the problem is him or me. English is not my first language, while it is his. Sometimes things come out \"in the wrong way\" and depending on his mood he will get super mad at me for saying something rude like that to him, and even more mad when I insist that it wasn't meant like that and I feel mistreated. It gets so bad that I usually end up crying like crazy in the bathroom and I don't know if I can continue a relationship like this because it just makes me feel worthless and like a pile of dirt once a week. Then again, if we don't fight it's the best relationship I could wish for...\n\nOver time I found out he is more likely to explode on me if we didn't have sex for 2 days - I guess he just gets really hormonal. If we are on day 3 without sex, I basically already know that he will jump on the smallest reason he can find and we will have a huge fight.\n\nI am really trying my best to not let this happen, but sometimes having sex is just not possible if I am super dead after a long work day or have headaches. Also, I feel like we are grown up people and not having sex for a few days is not really a solid reason for shouting at me and making me cry.\n\nI just don't know if this is normal or if this is not okay. It makes me feel so horrible but what if the problem is me and I am just a bitch sometimes and ending this relationship just makes it happen again in the next one?", "summary": "Is it normal to explode at small things and have huge fights every week?"}
{"id": "t3_410xs9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18,f] had my art stolen by [20,t]", "post": "what happened was this person I know came to me and asked if I could doodle up some designs for their solo project thing and I, wanting to support artists doin cool things, was like SURE OK!! :-) they said they'd pay me (which I honestly don't care abt I would've done it for free tbh) and I doodled up three lil designs.\n\nbut instead of paying me for them and using those ones, they took one I had posted on my insta and used it for their \"diy record label\" instead and had someone basically trace over it??? and then credited the other artist for making it look professional, while saying that they themselves drew the original design. they never paid me, which again isn't even a problem, just the fact that they said they would but didn't proves to me that they're not v professional and prooobably shouldn't be running a label. \n\nLike I can understand using my design and then having another artist trace over to make it look more professional but the least you could do is credit BOTH artists!! I also found out that they have been stealing lyrics from others and have notified those people.\nAnd now, my friends don't understand why I'm still upset about it?? And the person is playing the victim and saying \"they don't deserve\" my anger. I didn't say anything to them, I just blocked them on all social media, I didn't call them out for stealing my art/stealing lyrics from other people. I just have no idea what to do. :(", "summary": "someone stole my art and now everyone thinks i'm the bad guy for being upset"}
{"id": "t3_13p7e6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So, I [m14] like a girl [f15]", "post": "So, basically, we got to the same school, and have a couple of classes together, and we talk quite a bit, and I'm falling for her (yes, i am 14, but i do really like her).\n\nAbout 6 months ago, i started to self harm because of bullies and getting stressed out with school. She found out and we started talking a lot. She was also cutting at the time (she has since stopped, and I'm trying to). We helped each other out, talking on Facebook (it was school holidays) and being there for each other. \n\nShe had a boyfriend and they had been dating for about 6 months when he started to make fun of all the things he knew she was insecure about. eventually she broke up with him when she told him about her self harm and he laughed it off and called her an attention seeker.\n\ni now find myself falling for her, and i don't know what to do. we aren't as close as we were, and i feel like i annoy her. i really want to be with her, but don't want to ruin our friendship.", "summary": "falling for a friend, unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_502wh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my exGF [26 F] Unsent letter to my Ex.", "post": "I have no idea if this belongs here (I'm sure it will be downvoted to hell if not), but this is a letter I wrote to my ex shortly after breaking up. I never sent it; it was really just for me, but now it's for all of you, I guess.\n\nDear [Ex],\nI have a lot of things still to say, but first, let me just say that I will always love you.\n\nOur relationship was never easy. The outside world seemed to conspire against us. The truth, though, is that we never made it easy either. Or rather, I never made it easy. I am sorry for that. Truly and deeply. Somehow, we stuck through so much though. I like to think we did it because we knew it was worth the rough times. For me, it was anyway. Even now.\n\nI didn't expect us to happen, honestly. The first night we met, I was just visiting the city to get a look at my future home. The funny thing is, I expected to make [city] my home, but they say home is where the heart is, and my heart was with you. I wish I could say that I would have followed you anywhere, but we both know that's not true. I was scared, cautious, and just plain dumb. I would now, though; I would follow you to the moon and back.", "summary": "If you care about someone, don't let life get in the way."}
{"id": "t3_2wuwea", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Music suggestions for FreeRunning Video", "post": "Hi! My name is Chris, and I really like traveling and Martial Arts. I have tried to merge these two interest together by making videos and posting them online. I do everything on my own: Filming, stuntwork, editing, etc. However, finding good music I can use is always a challenge! \n\nA few years ago, I visited every state in the USA and filmed in front of the most iconic places in each state: \n\nI recently finished Hong Kong: \n\nCurrently, I am working on my biggest project yet: South America! \n\nI'm almost done, but I'm at a loss for a good song. For my USA video, I met the band on the road and used their music. For Hong Kong, I used \"Royalty Free\" music I found online. For South America, I wanted to reach out to the reddit community and see if they had any good suggestions. \n\nOf course the music would have to be legally free to use. I am hoping to find something energetic, fun, and inspiring. If possible with a South American vibe to it. I would give FULL credit to the artist and direct all my viewers to their webpage/social media outlets. Hopefully it will help give them more exposure as well : )\n\nIf you guys have any ideas, please let me know!! \n\nThank you!", "summary": "Need free music for a video I made in South America"}
{"id": "t3_325me2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 F] roommate's [22 M] girlfriend [22 f] is driving our friend group to our wit's end.", "post": "To put it briefly, my roommate's girlfriend is extremely rude and annoying. My roommate and I share a friend group that we've had for years. We all play board games a few times a week and generally hang out. Most of us are laid back and we've never had any issues before. Good times.\n\nHowever, for the last 8 months or so, my roommate has been dating this woman who has a habit of talking over people, putting down others, and generally making everything less fun. Every conversation ends up about her and her accomplishments. Last night she downed a bottle of wine when we sat down to play a board game (no one else was drinking), then drunkenly declared everyone was teaming up with her when we were not, and then she proceeded to check herself out of the game and went on forever about it until the game was over. And even some of this is generally tolerable, but she has been being mean to people. Any time anyone calls her out, she just starts yelling in her loud voice. No one can get a word in. It's pointless to argue with her. \n\nIt's just no fun to have her around, and my friends have been talking about not inviting my roommate places anymore because she will inevitably tag along. Since I live with him, there would be no getting around the fact that he is not invited places. How do we handle this situation? I want my roommate to be happy, and I'm glad he's found someone that apparently makes him happy, but I am really losing patience with his girlfriend. I just might snap on her.", "summary": "Roommate/ friend has a gf that is ruining our game nights. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2hoyj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister [15/f] is self-harming and I [19/f] don't know what to do...", "post": "I've recently noticed a few cuts on my sister's arm, almost days after she had a HUGE fight with our mom. I asked her what happened and she got really angry and told me it was nothing, then changed the subject. That was about 2 weeks ago. Yesterday I saw fresher cuts on her arms, and again I asked her what happened and she gave me the same response. \n\nI am really worried because there were a few occasions where she was frustrated with schoolwork and started talking about how useless she was and how she wanted to die. I also have had emotional issues for the past few years and have also talked down on myself, and at the time I didn't realize how I could have influenced her. I feel horribly guilty now at the thought I might have contributed to whatever is going on with my sister. I've since stopped saying these things out loud, but I don't know how else to help her. \n\nI don't know if our parents have noticed the cuts. Our parents aren't exactly knowledgeable about these sorts of things; when I was severely depressed they didn't seem to think anything was wrong. I don't know any of my sister's friends either. Who should I talk to? How can I help her?", "summary": "Little sister has been cutting herself. I feel useless and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_hmuw4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbors have really loud dogs, don't do anything about it. What should I do?", "post": "Alright, I'm back from college for the summer, and having to deal with the extremely loud dogs of the obnoxious neighbors. Again. These neighbors always let the dogs out early in the morning, which proceed to bark up a storm at anything that moves. Then for some unfathomable reason, they think it's a good idea to clap and repeatedly call the dog's name to get it to shut up, which, by the way, never works and is at least equally annoying.\n\nI'll also point out that both my parents and several neighbors have talked to these people about disciplining their dogs, but they never listen, so being reasonable isn't really an option. At the same time, I don't want to do anything that will actually harm the dogs, since it's not their fault that their owners are horribly irresponsible people. And for dog people out there, they are dalmatians, if it makes a difference.", "summary": "Neighbors have loud dogs which they don't discipline and won't listen when they're told to do so"}
{"id": "t3_2xe99h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Etiquette tips on my [20/M/US] first date with a girl I met online [20/F/CN]?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI have been on several first dates over my lifetime but, nothing of this sort. I met a girl from China using an chatting app last week and we decided to get coffee together to meet in person this Saturday. She seems quite open minded from our conversations but, I don't want to overstep any boundaries that would make her resent me. I guess my biggest question would be is a kiss after the first date acceptable in Chinese dating culture?\n\nBack story: \nLast Tuesday I received a message on WeChat from an international girl who found me through the app's people nearby function. We started talking and ended up really hitting it off on things like pets, movies, food, travel, pretty standard.  \n\nSince that day we have talked everyday and for hours each time. From those conversations I got a picture of how much of a caring and adventurous person she is, that made me fall a for her. I was getting the same vibe that she was interested in me so, while we were up talking until 2 am I asked her if she wanted get coffee with me this Saturday. She seemed exuberant and a few messages later told me she thinks it's weird when guys just ask a girl out without meeting in person first so I have a feeling she got the memo.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Anything to be sure to do or avoid doing on a first date with someone from China?"}
{"id": "t3_xj4ks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom asked me what Reddit was today. What have you told people when they've asked you?", "post": "I'll start. I am home for the summer, and as i was browsing on my phone, mom asks what I was looking at since I was smiling and laughing every so often. I told her I was just \"on Reddit\". She looks at me quizzically and asks \"Reddit? What's Reddit?\" \t\t\n\nFor the life of me, I couldn't come up with a suitable answer\n \"Is it like twitter?\" \"No, but sometimes people will screenshot tweets or Facebook posts and put them there. They can either be really witty or just dehumanisingly stupid......basically it's a community of smart-asses.\"\n\nAnd there you have it. That's my term to describe you beautiful bastards. What's yours?", "summary": "I told my mom Reddit was nothing but a bunch of butthurt nerds that lie in wait for grammar mistakes."}
{"id": "t3_1np6hm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] just asked out my best friend [20/F] of four years, last week. How long does it take to know a relationship would work?", "post": "We have been best friend for 4 years, both have had a serious relationship with other people during that time. During the last 2 years we have been single but have had flings with other people.\nI have secretly liked her for the last 2 years but decided to stay a friend because I didn't want to ruin things between us.\n\n---\n\nI finally confessed and told her I couldn't be her friend without having feelings for her. Initially asked her how she felt about me and she said she only saw me as a friend. I gave her an ultimatum, we try dating or I stop talking to her and move on.\n\n---\n\nIn the end we decide to give it a shot. She wants to take things slow. How long is reasonable time to give this? How many dates?\nI fear that because I have liked her for so long and feel like if I wait too long and end up being rejected that it will hurt me more.", "summary": "Asked out my best friend I have liked for 2 years. She wants to take it slow. How long does it usually take to see if a relationship would work ?"}
{"id": "t3_129g4e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21M) perfectly set the board, but continuously fail at execution. Talk some courage into me! How can I overcome my hesitations?", "post": "I am 100% certain this girl, let's call her Emily (19F), likes me.\n\nWe have been on a date, and had a couple of \"afternoon hang-outs,\" over the past three weeks. Hopefully, we are going on our second proper date this Friday evening. \n\nProblem is I suck at physical escalation. I never know when it's \"appropriate\" to take her hand, or put an arm around her shoulder. As a result, we still have not kissed (I tried at the end of date 1, but she turned her cheek as it was sort of out of left field), and I keep failing at getting physical. I did finally hold her on a walk home after a party last night, but chose not to kiss her goodnight because I felt I should properly earn it when we are both sober. \n\nPart of my problem stems from the fact that Emily is shy. I notice at practice she only talks a couple other girls for instance. I find it cute, and don't mind in the slightest, but it it also means I have a harder than normal time reading when is a good time to \"move in,\" as she tends to show less emotion. \n\nI am certain she still likes me, and have received enough positive signs to know I have not yet been placed in the dreaded \"friend zone.\" We text daily, she got me birthday chocolates, and she positively mentioned our first date a full week after we went out.\n\nNow, however, I know I need to make a move. I need to kiss her on Friday. I need to spark physical attraction to kiss her. I need to find courage to stop-doubting myself and just take her hand to spark physical attraction. I have analyzed and over-analyzed the situation, and am really confident we can soon be dating. I just need to find inner-strength and stop hesitating. So talk me up, and how can I overcome these lingering self-doubts?", "summary": "Second date with a girl I like coming up this Friday. I need help finding courage to get physical, so I can properly end our date with a kiss, and hopefully more."}
{"id": "t3_2duia6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For those of you who are doing your dream job, how did you get there?", "post": "Right now, I am doing a shitty 60 hour a week job, which pays decently, where everybody likes me (I was recently promoted), but seriously, every day I hate my life.  I come home and cry every night.  I hate going in, I am exhausted when I leave, but because of my paralyzing fear of not having a job, I have no idea how to get out.  I obsessively apply to jobs that I think may lead to my dream job, but it just seems hopeless, I never get calls for interviews, I never seem to be the right fit, and I just feel like I am in a tunnel with more tunnel and no light at the end.\n\nSo, I guess, for those of you who have come out on the other end, how did you do it?", "summary": "My job sucks.  How did you get to do the one you love?"}
{"id": "t3_2slyw0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I think im getting screwed at my delivery job...", "post": "I do deliveries at a local pharmacy. There are a lot of old people that cant pick up their medication themselves. Anyways, a lot of these people do not tip and i never really knew why. It is a really rich neighborhood with houses in the 10s of millions. Had a delivery today and the man of the house asked his wife why she wasnt leaving me a tip, she looked at me and replied \"i already payed the delivery charge and that goes to him so thats his tip\". There are always delivery charges for the drop offs, i guess its $2.50 but i wanted to tell the lady that no i do not get that delivery charge as part of my paycheck. I never really thought too much in to it because i figured they know how to run their business, but my friend was telling me how envious he was of the delivery guys at his work(chinese restaurant) becuase they make 2 grand every 2 weeks i guess. He says that they will do like 30 deliveries a night and get payed hourly +gas +tips +THE DELIVERY CHARGE FOR EACH ONE.. \n\nSoooooo", "summary": "I think im getting screwed at my delivery job because i am not getting payed the delivery fees, instead the pharmacy takes it. (i get payed wage +45 cents per mile i log) Is this normal? sry not imformed enough :/ Im in California BTW"}
{"id": "t3_1a3ghj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [f21] demands too much attention and I [f22] don\u00b4t know what to do.", "post": "Hello there.\nThis girl [f21] and I [f22] have been friends for almost 6 years. We share a lot of common interests and hobbies and we work together. Our relationship has had some ups and downs (My ex fell in love with her, she rejected him and I forgave him, just to dump him later) but lately, there is something that has been bothering me.\nI cannot speak with her the way I used to; I do not want to tell her about some things I do, about the guy I am dating, or about anything else that is not related directly to her. She got angry when I told her some things about my life, and she seems to need the assurance that I am going to be there for her all the time. Also, she knows how to manipulate me and make me feel like everything bad that happens is my fault. I know she has problems at home but I am simply not able to give her that much attention, specially since she is the type of girl who gets a lot of attention for being pretty and interesting and all that.\nSo, right now, I do not know what to do: I don\u00b4t want to \"save\" her from her problems, because I tried and it only went for the worse, I just want to stop feeling like I am walking among eggshells with her, and that anything I do in our relationship is wrong or it does not fit on what she wants.\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Best friend [f21] needs a lot of attention and I cannot give it to her, I don't want to hurt her but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2lside", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22M] buy hockey game tickets for a second date with a girl [20M]?", "post": "We had an great first date, she was really easy to talk to, and we briefly made out before she left.  She seems like like an awesome girl.  \n\nI learned she was a huge hockey fan, so I asked her a few days afterwards if she wanted to go to a game with me. Her response: *\"You are so sweet, but I feel really bad as I definitely wouldn't want you to buy my tickets! I would love to go see a game. I'm happy to do anything, it doesn't have to be as pricey!\"*\n\nI told her that of course I would pay for the tickets since I had invited her to the game and that I was happy to buy them.  But she responded saying she still wanted to go out but she couldn't accept my offer to buy the tickets. (We are talking about $50 tickets here, nothing too outrageous).\n\nWe agreed to watch the game on TV instead together.  **Should I surprise her and buy the tickets anyways?  Or do you think she actually doesn't want to go like she says?** \n\nAlso, she is going to study abroad in January (she is still in college, I graduated), is it even ok to be going out with her?\nThank you!", "summary": "Should I buy hockey tickets for a 2nd date with a girl even though she said she didn't want to go to the game because it was too expensive?"}
{"id": "t3_dxfg1", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need help picking out a new laptop for college.", "post": "For most of high school, I've been the go to \"computer kid.\" I'll be the first to admit that I know a lot about how computers work, and often fix things for teachers before the IT guys have a chance to get a whack at them. I worked at a computer repair shop for half a year as a technician. I've done the typical tech guy thing and drooled over new computers that come out (read: Wired/PopSci/2600 articles and centerfolds). \n\nThat said, I have NO IDEA what kind of computer to get for college. I've always wanted to buy a ton of parts and build my own \"super\" desktop, but I for sure need a laptop. If everything goes according to plan, I'm enrolling at Champlain College next Fall to double major in Computer Network Information Security and Digital Forensics. \n\nA lot of you probably already know this, but this major involves a lot of virtual desktops. Essentially I set up entire networks on my own rig and then go in and play around with them, all from one computer. It takes a lot of processing power and hard drive space.\n\nOver the years I've built up several stereotypes about different brands, operating systems, products... Recently, my mind has been opened back up and I'm willing to take a look at anything, even a Dell or an Asus.\n\nIt's recently been brought to my attention that Macs are actually pretty good. I've always been a notorious Windows-only-guy. I finally decided to bite my tongue and take a look under the hood, and my god are these things powerful... I guess it really does help making everything but the processor in-house.\n\nAnywho, what I really need is suggestions that might work well for my major, hopefully staying under a budget of $1600. Also, what are the big differences between a MacBook and  MacBook Pro?", "summary": "I'm double majoring in computer disciplines that involve a lot of virtual desktops. Any suggestions on a powerful, cheap, reliable laptop?"}
{"id": "t3_qkx92", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what futuristic technology/device would you like to get your hands on?", "post": "So I went to reply to a post where the redditor wanted a computer implant that would regulate his body temperature. It was deleted by the time I clicked respond. Personally I didn't exactly agree with it controlling body temperature. Someone could hack that shit and fever/hypothermia you to death. \n\nHowever, if it was like a legit, badass augmented-reality-Johnny-Mnemonic implant (Nearly 80 gigs of data in your brain, man!), there would be so much awesome shit you could do with it. \n\nMedicine? Doctors could access an application which has an interactive overlay with the patients medical history and information. Tumors or trouble areas in surgery could be highlighted and the patients vitals would be streamed live in the doctors field of vision. Also, for normal people, you'd have updates of your cholesterol, insulin levels, whether or not you have blood clot that's going to royaly fuck your life up. It could save millions.    \n\nFor gamers, this would be a world where instead of toggling a joystick and mashing buttons to reverse a hold on Kimbo Slice, you **ARE KIMBO SLICE**. In depth, 360 degree, HD... Multi-touch surface? How about fully tangible immersion in a level. A world where teabagging a newb in Modern Warfare, they would literally experience the sweaty, salty taste of defeat. \n\nOh and the internet? Full immersion with teh lulz. Also porn would be awesome. Asian singles/drug addled cam-whores pop ups cascading across your field of vision while you're in church, not so much, but shit, I'd install AVG and take my chances.\n\nObviously, I've though about this way too much, but boredom combined with working at a slow call center has inspired great things.", "summary": "Portable, implanted, holodeck-esque, augmented/virtual reality super computer. "}
{"id": "t3_43mlrd", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Handicapped Hell", "post": "First time poster, please be gentle!!\n\nSo a little backstory, I'm 17 and I have a handicapped placard because back in July I broke part of my spine in a weird, stair-related accident. I'm perfectly okay now, but walking long distances still hurts. I generally try to park without using the placard, but if there are no spaces or the only spaces available are really far away, I'll park in a handicapped spot. \n\nNow, I live in a town KNOWN for having almost nothing but old people and beaches- it's basically a retirement community. A lot of the old people have handicapped cards just for being old. I tend to get a lot of glares when I walk out of my car after parking with the placard up because I appear fine. \n\nToday, I went to the grocery store and was looking for a spot to park when I noticed someone had parked across two handicapped spots and a crosswalk. I was in more pain with my back than usual, and this really pissed me off. \nSo I did what any logical human would do. \nI parked a few spaces down, went to the cart return, and absolutely surrounded their car with at least 20 empty carts.", "summary": "I surrounded some asshole's car with empty carts bc he took two handicapped spots and a crosswalk with his stupid car."}
{"id": "t3_4xvtog", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I just got a great opportunity placed in front of me", "post": "...and I'm so excited and have to tell the interwebs,but first a little about my current job. I am a \"Customer Sales Representative\" at a Texas only grocery chain. The store I'm at right now is the 2nd most profitable in the company doing more than $2.2mil in sales every week and is currently undergoing a major remodel. Did I mention I live in a town with the largest retirement community in Texas 2 miles from the store? No? Well our average customer age is 65.(and we all know how kindhearted and lovely baby boomers are.) So I currently make $12 an hour at a company I've worked for for 3 years. (The for for sounds weird I know.) Anywho, I get bitched at about everything and hate my job and only get between 20-30 hours a week which is not enough. \n\nSo today I had my 2nd interview at a car dealership for new car sales. The first manager said he could see me on the team because of my good people skills and how easy I am to talk to. The second manager said something along the lines of \"You seem like you would be an excellent member of our team so it's a yes from me.\" So I have a 99.9% chance of getting a job that will undoubtedly become my new career and I'm only 19.", "summary": "got a job in new car sales after spending 3 years in a grocery store filled with old people. "}
{"id": "t3_538ft8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(MA)Can I be sued if my dog DIDN'T bite someone?", "post": "This morning I took my dog to a multi-use state park. People can walk, run, bike etc.  There's a dog run area where dogs can run around, and while technically, dogs have to be leashed in the rest of the park, it's generally understood that well controlled animals who don't bite are able to be off leash.\n\nWe were walking TO the off leash area and my dog ran toward two women who were walking on the trail. One of them shrieked, stepped backwards and tripped over a root or something, and hurt her ankle. I know she wasn't faking the injury- she took her sneaker off and her foot was already swelling. People came and got her help, but a... park ranger or something gave me a ticket and said that if my dog was caught off leash again, we'd BOTH be banned from the whole park.\n\nI probably have to pay the ticket, which is ridiculous because EVERYONE has off leash dogs, and my INTENTION was to go to the area where dogs are allowed off leash. \n\nThe park ranger guy (not sure exactly who he was) was super rude to me, because I didn't have a leash on me, because I'd left it in the car. in retrospect, I should have just left, but I was busy calming my dog down, because he's a rescue who hates people yelling, and this woman and her friend were shrieking at me. \n\nMy questions:\nAre they allowed to ban me, even though my dog is a good dog who has never bitten or been aggressive? \nCan the park give this lady my information?\nCan she sue me even though my dog didn't touch her? She and her friend were yelling at me, and I heard her say \"I fucking hate dogs\". She was walking in a trail with a DOG park, so isn't there a reasonable expectation of meeting dogs? Also, my dog is a 60lb lab mix, not some pit bull or doberman or something, so she clearly over reacted because of an unreasonable fear of dogs.", "summary": "My dog tried to make a friend, lady got upset and tripped. Am I liable?"}
{"id": "t3_4gfyyd", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Discouraged applying for jobs after being laid off. How do I get re-motivated to do anything?", "post": "In June of 2015 I was laid off from my job. I was lucky enough to be paid out through the end of August and collected unemployment thereafter. Unfortunately, prior to being laid off I had a lot of medical issues (2 endoscopies, an ambulance ride, and a colonoscopy) so needless to say the lay off was really bad timing. \n\nNow I'm totally drowning in debt, and feeling defeated. I've applied for so many jobs had a bunch that went to 3rd and 4th interviews, but nothing has amounted to anything. It's been almost a year since I've had a job and I have a hard time doing anything productive every day now. I just look at my computer and freeze up.\n\nI am lucky enough to have a very supportive girlfriend and parents who are helping me how they can. Even with amazing support, I feel depressed, defeated, and as low as I've every felt.\n\nHow do people find the motivation to keep at it after so much failure and financial stress? I'm really reach for any sort of guidance I can get now because I'm completely lost.", "summary": "Laid off almost a year ago, up to my ears in debt, and trying to figure out how to get motivated every day to do anything productive and find a job."}
{"id": "t3_393qg5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by defacing a 150 year old Victorian house.", "post": "So, this happened a couple months ago, and I've just got to grips with the damage.\nI used to live with a friend in a renovated attic of an old Victorian house. The neighborhood the house resides in is really nice, and we were only able to get in because the owner of the building took a liking to us, and we were able to get a good deal. Both of us being twenty something year old males, we tended to get rowdy. Beer pong parties, loud music, pot smoke constantly wafting from our door. Our spot became the \"hang out\" spot for our group of friends. Parties and shenanigans were a constant. So, I didn't think twice when I drunkenly tried to juggle eggs one night, only to have one crack. Instead of throwing the one away and saving the other two, I simply walk to the window and chuck them across the lawn, right at another old  Victorian. One hit the gutter, one went off into a tree, but the third one hit true. I saw the splatter in the morning, but as rain started to fall I assumed it would be washed off. \nFat forward six months later and I'm coming by to visit my buddy. We are shooting the shit when I looked out the window and saw that it had only gotten worse.", "summary": "I drunkenly egged my next door neighbors house and ruined the paint job"}
{"id": "t3_1j3t9z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would be the likely consequences of deserting from the US Army Rangers? What agency would be involved in tracking down an individual with sensitive/stolen information?", "post": "What would happen if they were caught? Is this a situation where bounty hunters might be called in? How is this normally treated in the army: not punishment-wise, but more severity of the dishonor - what would you think of someone who deserted in this fashion? Could they get conscientious objector status AFTER deserting? \n\nThis is partly Snowden inspired curiosity, but I am specifically wondering about a US Army Ranger situated in Iraq/Afghanistan who abandons his station, possibly with sensitive information. What would go down if this happened? If anyone knows of consequences from other branches of the military, or likely outcomes in similar scenarios in other countries, let me know. I mostly ask about the US Army Rangers because of family and friends who are interested in the Rangers, but aren't Redditors. Personal anecdotes are welcome.\n\nNote: I'm not American, and thus the curiosity.", "summary": "Abandon US Army Rangers, go into hiding, possible sensitive information, what goes down?"}
{"id": "t3_2eiz2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my father figure [53 M]. How do I apologize for ignoring him completely for eight months?", "post": "I haven't talked to my ex-step father since Christmas. He raised me, held me the day I was born, and is very supportive of me. I've been suffering from depression following a psychosis I had two years ago, which I guess is my excuse.\n\nHe has a history of dealing poorly with people with mental illnesses and I'm almost certain he doesn't believe in them. \n\nI tried calling him twice yesterday, but he didn't pick up so I left short messages. I told him I'd try calling again today. What can I say to let him know that I still love him and think about him daily? \n\nI can't visit him as I'm broke and live abroad, otherwise I would do that. He's completely alone in the large house he raised my sister and I in and she lives just as far away as I do. Plus his dog died (his one great love), he lost his best friend due to his friend's wife's controlling tendencies, and is taking care of an elderly parent who rejects his love and lives four hours away. He's basically all alone.\n\nHe was so proud of me until I got sick and then he just couldn't understand. He distanced himself from me because he didn't know what to say or how to help. \n\nThe last contact I had from him was telling me that he'd taken time off of work to come to my graduation this summer. I put off telling him that I wouldn't be graduating yet. I forced myself to email him on fathers day and his birthday, and got email responses to both, which I ignored (couldn't open even...)\n\nI want desperately to reconcile with him. What should I say/do to make up for this?", "summary": "Want to reconnect with my father figure, don't know what to say."}
{"id": "t3_2esfey", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20/F) Me and my SO [25/M] had an argument.", "post": "Two days ago me and my SO of 1.5 years had an argument. Nothing weird all couples have arguments, and we have had others. \n\n*For some back ground info: He is a full-time student who's mom pays for everything he wants, and I work 180 hours a month on the overnight shift, so I am not home a lot.* \n\nThis one was different though. We argued because he lied to one of his friends about me. I asked him about it and he explained he did not mean me, he meant his ex and forgot to put it. Later on I asked if he wanted to go with me to a family function, to which he replied \n\n* \"actually can you drop me off at my friend's (same friend he lied to) house on the way instead? \n\nI replied \"K\" because I was insulted and mad at the same time (He does this all the time.) to which he said never mind then. After that I told him that I did not like that he asked to go to the friends house that he lied to, especially since he never set it straight. \n\nThat resulted in him turning it around on me and making me feel like shit. He made comments about my weight, me not trusting him, the fact that he has paid more of the bills than me, that I'm not a house SO that stays home all day and cleans it. \n\nWe argued some more and then seemed to just talk it over, however I feel numb towards him now. I don't want to have sex, I do not want to kiss him I do not want to even speak with him. I don't know why I am feeling this way but I want it to stop and I have tried to get over it. Mind over matter right??\n\nHow do I get over this?? Has this happened to you? What did/would you do??", "summary": "Had an argument where he berated me, got over it, feeling emotionally numb towards him now. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3a4t6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M], wanting to know the rules of 'Internet dating '", "post": "Ive been online dating. .. getting closer with one girl but still texting and meeting others. \n\nThe girls ive been meeting are all nice in their own way,  but what should i do if i end up being exclusive with 'Mary'?    \nDo i drop all contact with the other girls because they may be attached emotionally?   Or do i keep talking to them ?    Im very undecided.  \n\n'mary' knows ive been on a few dates apart from her.. and it makes her second guess how i feel for her. \nHave not had sexual encounters with anyone.  Apart from Making out with 'Mary'", "summary": "seeing a girl.. not official yet..  while talking /meeting others.  What do i do about the 'others' if Mary and i become closer?"}
{"id": "t3_4b8txw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my wife [20 F] 5 years, why does she care at this point when I've been such an asshole.", "post": "We have been together since high school but unfortunately she ended up pregnant. Due to her parents being strict Christians she didn't want her to get an abortion and wanted wanted us to get married.\n\nWe got married at 18 and I can say we've both grown together and I've come to really love her. Things were good but our relationship was going long distance because I was going to college.\n\nMy first year was good but my this year is when I really fucked up. I partied I drank I made out with random girls I did things I should not have and would take them all back.\n\nI told her and she was devesated and stopped talking to me for a month. I got into an accident when some asshole was speeding and hit my car I ended up in the hospital.\n\nShe showed up and has been taking care of me and helping me but I don't deserve it. I don't deserve her help or kindness after all I've done she still tells me she loves me and wants to make it work.\n\nI feel horrible for what I did to her how can I make it right.", "summary": "I was an asshole and cheated on my wife but she still cares for me."}
{"id": "t3_33w3sg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am struggling with being in the awkward \"summer before college stage\" and I have some questions/ need advice.", "post": "So I am currently in the awkward part of life where I am about to leave for college. I say awkward because it pertains to the issue I have had with girls. Throughout high school I have had your typical life where I have stuck to studying and sports (all 3) and while I love everything about life, I feel like it could be more/ better. In all 18 years of life I have only kissed 3 girls and it was one night at a party. I have been on dates before but I have never made it past 2 weeks before chickening out and coming up with a lame excuse as to why \"were better as friends\". \n\nPart of my fear is that I am not good enough for someone. I don't mean to drag religion into this,but I am atheist and while I respect that others may not be, I am really scared they won't accept me for who I am.", "summary": "sorry if that was a really crappy post above this is my first time on this subredit... Anyway, my big concern is; if I can't even function within a relationship now, how do I get the confidence in college where I do not know anyone? I have 0 experience and I am super shy and timid, although I want something serious.c"}
{"id": "t3_2zzt1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of 4 months, is her in high school, me in uni weird? Is she taking her friends words too seriously?", "post": "Alright, so my girlfriend of 4 months, it's nothing super serious as of yet, but we're really close and she's perfect, laid-back, doesn't complain when I hang out with my friends and don't talk to her for a couple of hours but, last night she sent me a weird message and I wasn't sure how to take it.\n\nThe message read \"Do you feel like you dating someone in highschool whilst you're in uni is going to hold you back from anything?\" (I asked her what the anything was and she put emphasis on girls, and just things in general).\n\nI gave her a long response about how I really feel and in a nutshell she would never hold me back from doing something, and if I thought about being with other girls, I shouldn't be in a relationship.\n\nShe responded basically with just \"Glad I won't be keeping you from anything\" and she thought she was the reason my friends and I had a little argument last month, but she had nothing to do with it.\n\nI personally feel maybe it was an underlying attempt to get me to think about our relationship, a lot of people have mentioned our age difference which is about 1.5 years and to me that's nothing really, my Nanna and Grandad met when they were 18 and 15, but times do change. And I feel she maybe has taken what people have said about the small gap really hard, but she's never mentioned it until now.\n\nIt's only a small time of dating, I'm her first boyfriend and maybe she doesn't know what to expect, I've tried to like, be understanding if she's feeling awkward in certain situations to help. \n\nI'm unsure of what her message meant if anything, did she really just want me to think about that or did she want me to re-evaluate my choice of dating her rather than going for new girls at university, but I have no interest in them and I haven't even thought about leaving her to explore other options in my new environment.", "summary": "Girlfriend asked me if she was holding me back from meeting new girls, seemed odd to me, I wouldn't date her if I thought about it. Am I overthinking this being a way to break up?"}
{"id": "t3_33o66q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "NONROMANTIC Me (20s) having issue with friend (20s) being a SAHM", "post": "Greetings,\nFirst off I will point out I am not against stay at home moms, I want to make this very clear.\n\nMy friend who I have known since college got into a relationship, married and had a premie child in under a year, since then she has insisted that she cannot work, and that her husband work 60+ hours between 2-3 part time jobs to support them. \n\nSince the child was born she has become a helicopter parent, very rarely letting others watch her child, claiming the child has several disorders (some have been diagnosed, others haven't) No one is good enough to watch her child.\n\nIt's been over 2 years, and she is still insistent on being a stay at home mom even though her husband brings in under 30K to support them and is very rarely home. She is constantly complaining about communication and financial issues to me, I keep suggesting she looks to find work as currently neither her nor her husband have health insurance, the toddler is covered by government support. \n\nAny time I bring it up, she gets very defensive and claims that \"family is the most important thing\" and she \"doesn't want a stranger raising her child\"  She will make excuses that childcare is to expensive (which it is pricey) but many moms do go back to work.\n\nTo make matters worse, she knows I am fairly well off, and will often \"attack\" me for not understanding financial hardships, or not understanding being a mom. While I have been lucky, I have also been living off of about 900, to 1500 a month while I'm finishing school. So it's not like I haven't (or am) experienced budgeting, or being low income.\n\nI've been losing respect for her as I think she could help with the financial issues they are currently facing. She has a college degree, he doesn't.  On top of the low income, they have several loans to pay off. Am I horrible for wanting to cut ties? Has anyone else been able to keep a friendship in this situation? \nI feel very stressed by this friendship currently.", "summary": "SAHM friend doesn't want to work even though her husband brings home less than 30K, to support them. I am losing respect for the friendship. How do I solve this?"}
{"id": "t3_2xkco1", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Court House/Backyard Wedding advice needed!", "post": "Hello!  I apologize if this post is kind of all over the place, but trying to quick explain the situation. \n\nMy FH and I are both military (LDR for 4 years) and stationed at different bases.  We have been talking marriage for over a year, planning on doing a simple backyard ceremony within the next year or two.  Fast forward to recent times, and he has gotten overseas orders, leaving in fall of this year.  I am unable to go with him unless we are married.  \n\nTo top it all off, I was recently deployed for 6 months, and at the end of my deployment, my FH deployed to a different area.  By the time he gets back (late spring) it will have been a year since we've seen each other. \n\nAnyway, after discussion, we have decided to get married before he goes overseas.  Then, either I can try to apply to get orders with him, or I will be eligible to go be with him after my contract is up next year. \n\nHe is coming to visit me after he gets back from his deployment, and we have been discussing doing a court house marriage at that time.  The problem with this, is that both of our families would not be able to make it at that time (both his dad and my grandma are dealing with serious illnesses at this time).  We do not want to disappoint our families by getting married without them, but we absolutely cannot wait on the marriage due to the military. \n\nSo now for the advice....would we be terrible people for eloping/doing a court house wedding by ourselves....but only announcing engagement to everyone at that time?  We would plan to do a backyard wedding in fall before he leaves so that our families would have time to plan and be there.  Would 3-4 months be enough time to plan a simple backyard ceremony/reception?  Anybody have experience with either elopment or backyard weddings?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are both military, trying to plan a last minute wedding before he goes overseas.  Would we be terrible to elope soon, and do an actual wedding later this year so that our families can be there?"}
{"id": "t3_1n1et7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Friend [20 F] Don't know what to do need help.", "post": "So theres this girl i know that i really like. I think she likes me by the fact she comes to talk to me when I'm working at my school, gives me passionate hugs, We spend all our free time together, and we talk all night.\n\nI would ask her out soon, but she told me awhile back that she doesn't believe she is ready for a boyfriend (we have been very open with one another) she says that she is too immature but still continues to flirt and do all those things listed above,  She has even invited me to her home an hour away to a BBQ that her parents do every once in awhile.  We've also gone out for lunch just the two of us. \n\nI would like to ask her out soon, but I want to do it at the right time. But i also don't know how to ask her out, I'm new at this never had a girlfriend, wanted many but none of them ever worked out.  I just want some advice on what to do. BTW known her for a month.", "summary": "Like a girl think she likes me back, tells me she is immature even though she acts like were predating, don't know when would be a good time to ask her out, Known her for a month."}
{"id": "t3_1ageac", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I be happy, and have a meaningful life?", "post": "I know the internet isn't the best place to get real advice, but I don't really have any role models in my life that i can talk to about things. I have a dad and mom and they love me and have always provided for me, and even pay for most of my college tuition, but they are conservative Christians and their answer to everything is to trust in God.\n\nAnyway, I stopped going to church when I was about 16. I just never really liked it. I don't really consider myself an atheist becasue I'm afraid that God might be real, and spending ETERNITY burning in hell does not sound fun. Spending ETERNITY in heaven doesn't sound fun either, but more fun than hell.\n\nSo, i'm currently majoring in architecture at a university. But, I don't really like it anymore. I think about changing it, but what would I change it to? Nothing seems to interest me. I've had jobs before, but the idea of having a career is terrifying. I just want to sit on this couch and play video games all day. But I can't do that.\n\nSo, in conclusion I'm troubled religiously becasue I'm going to burn for eternity, and I have life trouble becasue I have no idea what I'm doing with my life.", "summary": "I remember when I was little, and I knew a few college kids. They seemed so smart and confident. They knew all the answers to life. Well, now I'm a college kid... why don't I have the answers to life?"}
{"id": "t3_dppyq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, did I violate the golden rule of the men's bathroom?", "post": "Ok, so this just happened, and I'm a bit confused about it all.\n\nI'm at school in the library when nature decided to make a collect call. I walk down to the bathroom. Now there's 4 urinals, all have decently sized dividers. Of course there's also a couple of stalls.\n\nTwo of the urinals are in use, urinal 1 and 3. Now, seeing that there are dividers I just go to urinal 4. Upon unzipping my pants the guy next to me says: \"homo\". (Dutch university btw).\n\nI turn towards him and tell him that the only reasons he thinks I'm homo is cause he himself is one and dislikes having other men urinating next to him because he can't resist the urge to stare.\n\nOk, so maybe that didn't happen. I just ignored him.\nBut was I wrong to use that urinal, or should I have gone for the stalls?\n\nExcuse the horrible grammar by the way :/", "summary": "Guy calls me homo because I decided to use the urinal next to him. There were dividers. "}
{"id": "t3_51atek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M22) broke up with my girlfriend (F21) because she told me she was not attracted to me. Did I make the right choice??", "post": "This is my first post on this subreddit, and I really need some insight on whether or not I'm in the right mindset here. \n\nWe've been together for a year. She was my first \"I love you\" relationship. Early on, I did have hunches that she didn't find me attractive very much but that insecurity always blew away somehow and I didn't think about it again. Recently though, I've noticed that we haven't had sex in a while; she's also been pushing me to work out recently, too. \n\nJust 10 minutes ago, I asked her if she's ever had sexual attraction to other men. She said yes. I asked her if she finds me sexually attractive right now, and she said no. Then she said she values personality over looks. She doesn't think physical attraction is a huge aspect in a relationship. \"People get tired of each other after 20 something years of marriage; attraction shouldn't matter much then,\" she said. \n\nI, on the other hand, value physical attraction a lot. I think it's a core facet of a relationship, and it wouldn't be a relationship if it weren't for that romantic/sexual factor. That's what separates things from a friendship. \n\nI feel like I'm young, and I shouldn't stay with someone who isn't making me happy. I also feel like she deserves someone who she finds attractive, and I deserve someone who finds me attractive. \n\nBut Im a little bit unsure about whether or not I made the right choice. \nAm I missing anything? \nDid I make the right choice?", "summary": "my girlfriend told me she's unattracted to me and I broke up with her. Did I make the right choice?"}
{"id": "t3_53ut1r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing after kneeing my girlfriend's child in the face", "post": "This was maybe 3 weeks ago. So we were at the park (my girlfriend, her child and I) and doing general park things with the little one. Swings, roundabout, climbing frame etc. She'd just come off the swings, and I'd found this rotating seat. It'd go kind've up and down, as well as spin around on an axis, and I was just entertaining myself trying to spin as fast as I could without falling off while my girlfriend and her daughter watched in amusement. Anyway, at some point the child must've broken free from my girlfriend's watch/grip and I just saw her toddler gleefully toddling the fuck towards me as I span at high velocity in her direction. Time slowed down as I watched the kid run straight into my knee, which is spinning, head-height  straight towards her face. The contact could not have been cleaner. It took the 2 year old straight off her feet and she landed on her back, looking stunned (and accusingly) at me, for a fraction of a second before immediately bursting into tears. Now, the park was pretty busy... and this did not go unnoticed. Everyone just seemed to stop what they were doing and look at our situation in horror... \n\nNext comes the \"fuck up\". I erupted into laughter, and literally could not stop myself. I don't know if it was like nervous laughter (I felt genuinely bad about what had just happened, and I was worried that I might've really hurt her) but I just couldn't stop. I was laughing so hard that tears were streaming down my face while my girlfriend tried to console her child, who also had tears streaming down her face. \n\nI eventually managed to calm down, and we left the park pretty promptly afterwards. My gf was understanding about it all, but I think I probably embarrassed her a bit on account of the entire park witnessing me hurt and then laugh at her child. The kid's fine though! She cried for a minute or two and then just got on with her day, no injuries (thank god). Though I'll never forget her accusing \"how could you\" look.", "summary": "Gf's child ran towards me in excitement while I was spinning round on a chair and I accidentally kneed her in the face, knocking her to the ground in front of many horrified onlookers . Then I laughed about it. Hysterically."}
{"id": "t3_2x18nr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] want to do something special for delightful man [30M] I'm seeing.", "post": "I've been seeing Ryan* for a couple months. It has truly been unlike anything I've experienced before. We are compatible like you wouldn't believe. I get butterflies thinking about him. This relatiomship is going somewhere and I'm excited. \n\nI also have this problem where I don't half ass things. Wonderful in some aspect, comes off as obsessive, I think, in other ways.\n\nAnywho, this Ryan, he just won a huge national competition. It's a big deal for him and the place we work for. I'm ridiculously proud and want to do something special to reward and honor his hard work.\n\nMy plan is: he walks into his wonderfully clean home after a long trip out of the country, sushi dinner and his favorite libations on the table, candles scattered about, his favorite music playing. Massages will be offered and dog will be calmed down from a long run and a thorough brushing. \n\nI'll make sure this will be cool with his roommate, whom is also a friend. Ryan asked me to watch and exercise his dog while he's away, so I have permission and access in his house.\n\nAny other good ideas or things you would enjoy coming home to? Is this too much? \n Thank you, you lovely redditors!", "summary": "like omg, we connect on, like, so many levels. How do I appreciate him without coming off as clingy/crazy/too much?"}
{"id": "t3_45uqej", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do you deal with feeling extremely sad on your period?", "post": "Hi Ladies, \n\nI feel very sad, like extremely sad like my life is going nowhere. I've been looking for a job for a while and even though I have some good leads now that I feel extremely terrible like nothing is going good in my life, and I'm on my period. \n\nBefore my period started, it was my birthday I was happy and excited. Now I feel so down. I've never experienced something like this before. I am 25 and I had the PMS thing before but I was never feeling this sad in my life. And I really want to crawl in my bed and cry, didn't even spend Valentine's day with my boyfriend because I just was in a terrible mood, nothing seemed to cheer me up.", "summary": "How do you really deal with this extreme sadness while you're on your period? It's driving me nuts."}
{"id": "t3_11uh34", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I tried helping my Girlfriend and she broke up with me", "post": "Hey reddit, this has been really getting me befuddled about this whole situation. To begin my gf works at a clothing store and 2 months ago they hired this old, stupid woman. She would be mean to customers her boss and of course my gf, for about 2 months after every shift my gf would come home and complain for a solid 3 hours about this one girl. Eventually my family and I got tired of hearing her bitch, so I tried something to get her fired. I went on their website and sent a complaint email trying to get her in trouble (I know very immature :P)\nThat being said I told my gf what I did, she seemed cool but the next morning at work she phoned me, crying her eyes out. \"YOU HURT HER FEELINGS!\" \"I KNOW IT WAS YOU I HAVE TO TELL HER, ITS ON MY CONSCIENCE\" She ends up fucking telling her. Her of all people, 2 months known and she hates her, I've known her for 2 years and we \"Love\" one another. After all that she acts higher than the fucking pope and says you need to think about what you've done, so we're breaking up for now. What do you think reddit? who's at fault? and what do you think I should do?", "summary": "I tried helping my girlfriend, she broke up with me and sided with an old leather handbag shes known for 2 months"}
{"id": "t3_rxdpj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit knows all.", "post": "So, I was with my hetero life-mate looking at some used cars from craigslist. We went to look at one that was in a slightly shady part of town and everything was going great. However, I guess he accidentally left the driver's side window of his car cracked open just far enough for someone to slip their arm in and unlock the door. When our meetup/test drive was finished he couldn't find his Nexus anywhere. We frantically searched all of his stuff and we asked the lady if she had seen his Droid but no such luck. She even let us check the car we came to see and we TORE IT APART looking for the damn thing. We immediately went to Verizon and did everything necessary to report it stolen. This was all just yesterday BTW. Today, he has a brand spankin' new Nexus (gotta hand it to Verizon for being johnny on the spot) and he's re-downloading his apps at counting his losses for his amazon purchases.\n\nCompletely out of left field, the lady showing us the car just called to tell me that she found it in the trunk... sigh... I told my buddy and he agreed that if I paid the balance for his new one I could just keep his old one. Problem is: I'm pretty smart phone illiterate and was planning to get a new one after I got a car and re-saved up the money for it (rockin' a pre-pay tank of a Nokia like a hipster). So is there any way I can set it up so I can have and use his old one? Keep in mind that we did report it stolen.", "summary": "Buddy lost his phone, reported it stolen. It was found but he already got a new one. He agreed that I can have it but how do I set it up since it was reported?"}
{"id": "t3_eeqnf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear professors/college graduates, I need your help", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm currently a 2nd year undergrad student majoring in bio. I thought I wanted to be a pharmacist back in high school, but I've found tht bio isn't exactly my thing. After fall quarter, I'll be on academic probation for the second time under the school of biology. A part of me is really hard-headed and doesn't want to admit that due to my past disregard for my academics, I can no longer achieve a competitive GPA unless I buckle down and shut out the world for the next 3 years. Realistically, I don't think that's going to happen. Though I have some interest in bio, I have no passion for it.\n\nMy parents keep on telling me it's do-able with hard work, and they've been such a big source of support and motivation, but other than them, I have no motivation for staying in bio. My parents always tell me that while I have the oppurtunity, I should aim for the highest possible accomplishments since I'm attending a good university, and I agree with them. But I don't know if I should aim for that under bio. They really want me to stay and become involved in the medical field since \"that's where the money is.\" I don't argue with them about that point since I know how important money is to support a family, but I know that I'm not fit for the medical field. \n\nWhat I've always really wanted, but locked away because I knew it is impractical, was to become a teacher. Becoming a high school teacher is fine with me, but I'm looking to be able to support myself with no ones help. I don't know if I can with their salary. Recently, I've come up with a solution to this problem that will make my parents happy, as well as myself. My idea is to become a professor in something I'm passionate about. So... what should I do? I'm contemplating switching into philosophy or something in humanities. I know that I'll definitely be happier if I do, and I see myself achieving more in that field versus science. Also, are there any professors out here that would like to share their story with me? Tips and advice from anyone else would be appreciated as well.", "summary": "I want to switch out of my bio major to become a professor in philosophy or something in humanities, against my parent's wishes. Tips, advice, and stories are really appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_4mcbeh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my fiancee [21 F] 2 months engaged - arranged (she lives abroad) marriage stuff - and I saw a hooker", "post": "Hi...(repost from /r/confessions)\n\nSo I have been setup for arranged marriage (I was initially enthusiastic) and have been engaged since end of March. We're muslims so obviously no sex before marriage, and as this is arranged we have not developed emotional closeness like a standard BF/GF couple in West has. We live in different countries, talk on whatsapp etc, but thats it, \n\nYesterday, I saw a prostitute. This was after 5 months (almost) of being clean, just sticking to standard porn etc. Before those 5 months i.e. prior to January, I regularly saw prostitutes, and I just was getting tired of it, of the emotional tiredness.\n\nTalking to a friend, one solid course of action to take, as it seems I have commitment issues and am unable to work on myself, is to cancel engagement now, despite wedding being in 2 months, deal with backlash which will be limited, and figure things out alone, rather than bring the poor girl on the end of it into things.\n\nOther option - shut up, put up, try and carry on strong as wedding comes up, and hope/pray/make best effort that I will not cheat or do this stuff again during remaining engagement period and ultimately never again in marriage....\n\nEasy decisions for a sleazeballlll\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Engaged in arranged marriage, messed up with prostitute, now what do I do? NB - have history with prostitutes prior to engagement"}
{"id": "t3_1zz9oj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] ex [18F] has just entered a new relationship, and it's tearing me apart.", "post": "So, my first ever real relationship started when I was about 14, and me and her were together for nearly four years. \n\nWe lost our virginities to each other, and we thought we'd be together for ever, etc. We split up about eight months ago due to our relationship falling apart quite a bit, and the fact that I was moving away to university acted as a catalyst as well. \n\nNow I've been at university for around six months, and I thought I'd moved on completely, until now, when she told me she is now in a new relationship. It feels horrible knowing that she's being intimate with someone other than me. I don't think I'm still in love with her, but I don't know why I'm feeling like this, I've been sitting in my room feeling sorry for myself all day, and I just can't shake it off.\n\nOur break up was by now means clean and simple, and it took a while after we broke up officially to actually stop seeing each other and having sex etc. \n\nAnother relevant detail could be that the guy she is currently seeing, she had a slight thing with at a festival when we were together, and there was always a bit of tension about him when we were together.\n\nCan anyone help me with trying to get over her? Or working out why I'm feeling like this? I know this isn't a huge issue, and it's probably really common, I just don't know where else to go for help. Thanks.", "summary": "My first (and only real) grlfriend is in a new relationship, and I don't know how to deal with it. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_wryjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Revenge ideas for a pompous boss.", "post": "Dear Reddit:\n\nHeres the sitch. So my co-worker and I made a friendly bet with one of our bosses. We work in a Physiotherapy Clinic and we have 3 members of the same family coming in to see him so I piped up and said ?I b et you can?t get the mom to make an appointment? and so it began. We drew up a contract that stated that the mom must make an appointment before 5pm on Thursday July 12, 2012. If she made the appointment my co-worker and I would have to call our boss ?Supreme Master of the Universe? for 2 straight days. If she did not make the appointment he had to sing every single request for us for 2 straight days. So she leaves and makes an appt for her and we all think the bet is over. He won. He cashes in on his bet for the next 2 days. It is now 3 days later and I find out she cancelled her appointment but he never told anyone. I need a seriously good retaliation for this. It will not go unnoticed. He can definatly take a joke and is extremely pompous. I need your ideas to exact revenge.", "summary": "Boss didn?t win a bet but cashed in on our punismnet anyways.  How to get him back?"}
{"id": "t3_1nrtmr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23 M] I was just dumped after a year and a half. My first serious relationship. She [24 F] said some awful things. I don't know what to do", "post": "Alright. So the abridged version is basically we got into it because I looked at a celebrity gossip website randomly and she thought that was weird. Told her I looked at it because I'm fascinated by celebs (who hasn't thought it be cool to b a celebrity?) and she said she can't be with someone who want to be a celebrity so bad (I don't). So she asked to look through my phone history to see and I mentioned I delete my history. (I do. No real reason just always have. Not hiding anything) she says I'm sketchy. I say I can't be with someone who doesn't trust me. She throws my phone and starts walking away. I get in front if her and lightly push her to stop her from walking. Some random guy outside screams \"hey don't touch a girl like that\" She then proceeds to squeez my arm with her until it bleeds. She then slapped my head several times. After this she said she wanted to go home and I offered to give her a ride.  On the way home she proceeded to call me the scum of the earth, said she can't believe the way that I treat her. And I'm abusive.  Told me I don't deserve anyone because I put my hands on her.  What should I do I've never been in love before and this is my first real relationship.  I feel like my whole world is falling apart.  Any advice will be helpful", "summary": "girlfriend of a year and a half dumped me. Said extremely hurtful things. I have no friends. I don't know what to do.  "}
{"id": "t3_3hbg9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] felt another girls breast while in a long term relationship with my [32 F] girlfriend.", "post": "We had been going out for a year at the time. I got very drunk one night and I was told by a female friend that I grabbed her breast. Now im not 100% sure that it happened or not, this girl is the type that could make up something like that and generally I have a good memory even when very drunk. This was 4 years ago but suddenly I've started to feel very guilty about it again. My gf does not know about it and im not sure whether to tell her or not. Should I tell her?", "summary": "feel guilty about being handsy"}
{"id": "t3_44fra6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [20F] was called fat by a personal trainer at the gym and I'm not happy about that...", "post": "My girlfriend was at the gym when a personal trainer approached her and he said she had a good shape and was working hard but that she was fat and offered to do something about that by giving her free training sessions.\n\nTo me this seems like an intentional put down to make her eventually want to pay for his sessions. She was happy about getting offered free ones, but with her history of bulimia I'm pretty angry that she's being called fat like that by someone who's trying to exploit her.\n\nI had started expressing my concerns but I could tell it was annoying her because she wanted this to be a good thing but I had to get this off my chest and so sent her a message saying the above and that I loved her and it bothered me someone's insulting her like that.\n\nShe hasn't replied to this yet. Am I in the right here or will she be thinking I'm the asshole now?", "summary": "Girlfriend called fat by a personal trainer offering free sessions, I think she should avoid this guy - am I being a bit too precious here? "}
{"id": "t3_1cflh0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Friends with benefits question", "post": "i broke up with my ex girlfriend of four years in february. quickly after that, i started texting a friend who was going through a similar situation with her boyfriend. we started texting all the time. i usually don't text all that much, but it was at work, after work, first thing in the morning. it's been like that about a month and a half.\n\nafter a lot of sexual tension building up, we ended up sleeping together. we still continued talking just as much with the only difference occasionally talking about sex with each other, instead of sex with other people. we both decided that we would continue having sex when we are able to see each other (we live in different cities) but it hasn't been the focus of our conversations; it does come up with the occasional sext session. we had a very strong connection to begin with after being there for each other during difficult times in both of our lives. there have been times where she's been hot/cold on the sexual stuff, but the amount of texting has remained fairly consistent.\n\nthis weekend things seemed a little off. the amount of texting, and the responses i was getting were different. a lot fewer, slower responses, and they were much shorter, as to not keep the conversation going. that continued through today, and she has nearly stopped talking to me altogether today. she said she's busy and has a lot going on, she does, but she's been busy since we started talking. between work, her ex situation, she had a death in her family, she's always texted, until now. even without the sex, i do miss having somebody to talk to so i stayed occupied after the break up, but i'm trying to give her space.\n\ni have a trip planned to see her this weekend, i have refundable tickets, so it wouldn't be an issue to cancel, but i would like to see her.\n\nafter all of the back story, here are my questions. should i brush off the lack of communication and go with it until it either picks back up again, or becomes the new normal? should i offer to cancel my trip since she is so busy?", "summary": "was constantly texting friend, started having sex, texting continued for a couple weeks, now suddenly stopped. should i cancel my trip to see her?"}
{"id": "t3_2a48rl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU 4th of July with shitty shorts", "post": "I was spending the night at my friend's house (Jon) with our other friend (Don). When everyone else was going to see fireworks our parties, we decided to go play basketball in a court near Jon's house. \n\nWe get there and Don goes to the 3 point line to take a shot while Jon and I take positions on either side of the hoop for the rebound. As Don takes his shot, I feel a fart coming on. He hits the rim and I attempt to push the fart out. As soon as I feel my bum open, I feel wetness. I think, \"Okay, it's just the rain.\" But at the same time I look to Jon, half joking and say, \"I think I just shit myself.\" My friends wonder how I only think so and tell me to go check. \n\nI found a nice dark corner and moved my left index finger slightly up my asscrack(bad fucking idea). I pull my finger away, covered in shit on 3 sides. I wiped it as best I could on a wall and just walk away to Jon's house. I laugh to myself realizing that I've actually shit myself and to the laughter of Jon as he realized the same. \n\nThe walk to Jon's house was wet and disgusting. I got there and immediately asked his mother to take a shower. I've never taken a more ass-centered shower in my life. It was also weird because I have a thing about showering at other people's houses and then was my first time at Jon's house.\nI got out of the shower just as they came home and was greeted with laughter. They agreed to not tell anyone else but will never fail to bring it up when we're alone.", "summary": "I shit myself while playing basketball at a friend's house."}
{"id": "t3_270b3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 3 years; We're in a long distance relationship and we've only just started getting stressed about our future.", "post": "She lives in New York and I live in Calgary (Canada). We met in an online game and have been Skyping ever since. We got to meet each other after our first year when I went to New York for 2 weeks. We've been visiting each other 2 weeks a year since then. We've also been always messaging each other on Skype and have been playing games together.\n\nThe problem that we only realized after 3 years was that we spent so much time with each other (Skyping, hanging out, gaming, etc.) that we somewhat neglected our education and ourselves. We still have around 3.0 to 3.5 GPA, but during our breaks, we would always just hang out in our dorms Skyping and gaming. We decided that it'd be best if we minimized our hang outs and stuff and do more stuff on our own.\n\nBoth of us are gonna have a really tough semester coming up this fall (September) and we're really scared that with school and clubs going on, we'd drift apart. I plan on travelling to New York on New Year's for 2 weeks.\n\nThe BIGGEST game changer (for any LDR relationships) is that our future physically together became really uncertain. The whole 3 years, we planned on me moving to NYC after I graduate and so we kept at it in the relationship, but we found that this will be very difficult to do.\n\nLately, she's just been growing more and more scared and stressed thinking that we will drift and we won't last. We've pretty much just started taking it day by day now. We've been spending more time apart since we started focusing on ourselves more. Our future is very shaky and uncertain so we try not to think about it just yet. There's also the impending stress from our fall semester. Everything is just pretty terrifying right now and we're both scared that even if we love each other, we'll have to break up soon.", "summary": "Future is uncertain so both of us are thinking that we should cut our losses and end things now."}
{"id": "t3_4sl2u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (20M) is coming down to visit in a few weeks. I want to do something special, but I'm terrible at planning and cooking. What do I do?", "post": "Title pretty much sums it up.\n\nMy boyfriend went to go live with family in another state after we got evicted for awhile and so we're doing LDR visit stuff I guess. For context, we started dating in March 2015, and I moved in with his best friend in June 2015. He moved in too, and we got evicted in May 2016 from our own place. \n\nI'm someone who loves to do special things like go out to eat, swim, spend time, ect during special moments. He is an introvert and we are both broke, so I want to avoid going out and spending money. Garb loves Italian food, and spending time inside playing video games. \n\nI'm a terrible, horrible cook. I can cook 3 things really well. Everything else is ungodly most of the time. It sucks, but it's not everyone's thing. I want to make a special meal for him, but I don't want to waste a bunch of money ruining stuff until I get it right. \n\nI also have no idea what to do. I don't want to spend all day inside playing games and not saying much to each other and whatnot, cuz that was what we normally did when he was here. Going over the top isn't what I'm looking for, I just want to do something out of the way and sweet, but I'm at a loss. We both play Pokemon Go, so that's definitely stuff we're gonna be doing,  but I want to put more effort into making this sweet.\n\nWe are both Nintendo nerds big time, and like a lot of youtubers that do stuff similar to our tastes.", "summary": "newly LDR boyfriend is coming for a visit. No idea what to do since we're both pretty broke and introverts. Help thy fellow nerds out! Please? Hahaha"}
{"id": "t3_20ahi9", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "BringFido.com is a Scam", "post": "Not entirely sure where else to post this, but I figured this subreddit would be appropriate. Anyways, here goes. My mom and I are traveling up through Oregon, and we brought our dog with us. I used BringFido.com to reserve a dog friendly hotel room in downtown Portland. Naturally, when their sales representative assured us three times that both of these conditions applied to the $140 room she booked us, I believed her. Turns out that was a stupid move. When we arrived tonight, the hotel was 20 miles outside of the city, and the concierge informed us that they would not accept pets. Luckily, they were nice enough to help us book a hotel that DID fulfill our requirements, but it could have ended up much worse, with either us or our dog spending the night in the car. What the fuck, BringFido.com? I'd strongly advise no other dog owners use this site, nor will I be using it again.", "summary": "Lady from BringFido told us our hotel was in Portland and was dog friendly, it wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_228lxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my ex-boyfriend [21 M] of almost a year, I cheated once with my ex & now we're in a no-contact phase.", "post": "I slept with my ex (let's call him Kurt) in June, 3 months into my relationship with my current ex-boyfriend (who we'll call Harry). I cheated because I thought the relationship was going nowhere & that I was going to end it. But then things changed.\n\nI did not sleep with Harry until that August (after the cheating episode with Kurt). Soon after I fell in love with him & sleeping with Harry was amazing.\n\nHarry dumped me in March for a trust issue, which turned into my confession about the cheating with Kurt.\nI no longer talk to Kurt in any way, shape, or form.\n\nHarry was extremely hurt, for good reason. We're now in no-contact this month and it's killing me. I have been unfollowed on Twitter and unfriended on Facebook. Is this due to the no-contact protocol, or do you think he's trying to move on?\n\nI want nothing more than to start over with Harry. I love him. It was a one-time offense and I am truly sorry & have changed. I'll do anything and everything to be the best I can be for him.\n\nSo, thoughts? Suggestions?", "summary": "I cheated on my boyfriend once with my ex and regret it immensely. He dumped me. I love him and I want to reconcile the situation and start over."}
{"id": "t3_1mm6mw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I think I'm experiencing dating fatigue...", "post": "For a bit of background information, I am a 23 year old female who is currently in graduate school at a small arts school. After about a year and a half of being single, I decided recently I should try to get myself back into the dating arena with the goal of finding a fulfilling long-term relationship. For some context, the last relationship I had was in a different state when I was at a different school and didn't end particularly well.\n\nI've been having a really hard time meeting people in my new state / city / school for various reasons, some of which I'm guessing at. In order to combat this, I decided to try online dating. I had been on OKC before (which is actually how I met my last boyfriend), but I hadn't had much success in my new area so I decided to shell out the money for Match.com. It's been going... alright. I live about an hour between two major cities so most of my matches are within one or the other. I have been talking to one guy quite a bit, but due to conflicting schedules and the distance, I haven't actually gotten the chance to *meet* him, and probably won't for another week or so. \n\nBasically, I'm posting this for several reasons: 1. I am burned out from the dating. I would love a relationship, but I hate the kind of work it takes to get to a person you want to be with. How do I have fun with dating? 2. I feel like I need to give more people a chance, especially this guy I've been chatting with, but at what point do I need to just say, \"we need to meet or I'm out\"? Or for that matter, how much of a chance should I give *anyone*? How do I know when I'm being too picky? 3. How do you meet people you might be interested in a small area with a busy schedule without much opportunity to branch out of your regular community?\n\nThis is sort of a rant as well, so I apologize if anything is unclear and feel free to ask me to clarify or go into more detail. I'm just pretty frustrated about the situation and would love some thoughts, or just to talk it out. And if nothing else, thanks for listening Reddit.", "summary": "I'm having a terrible time dating in my current life situation. How do I make it easier on myself, or even enjoyable?"}
{"id": "t3_12bpox", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit...Tips for reaching orgasm with my lady? (NSFW)", "post": "I am a healthy 18 year old male, who is in a relationship with a very special lady-friend. We are sexually active, and have pretty good sex. She comes around 4-5 times throughout our sessions, but most of the time, I can't come at all. \n\nI have ejaculated once, but it was from my own during after she was sore, and she wanted to see me masturbate, but when I did, I had a hard time getting off, as if I was shy or some similar effect. I find her so attractive and I like the sex we have, but I often find myself having sex for around an hour or more (until she gets sore), and can't fully enjoy a good sexual experience.", "summary": "I can't come when I have sex with my girlfriend. But I can when I masturbate, how can I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3jien8", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Why do hotel booking websites advertise one price, then suddenly hike the price of the room on every hotel I click on?", "post": "It's kind of self explanatory but it's really very frustrating. \nI am going to Bangkok on the 9th and I'm trying to book a hotel. Now I'm not a total dweeb, I have booked loads of flights, hostels, hotels, buses and trains on a very tight budget before this. I feel like I'm alright with dodging the usual scams and tricks, clearing my cache and history to try to avoid trackers, using incognito mode in Chrome, but this time it is just not working. \n\nAfter narrowing down the thousands of options to four hotels/hostels. I picked my favourite, then looked on the booking sites all at the same time (via Quidco to save a few bob), they were all a similar price so I decided to book. \n\nThe first one said this \"Due to a change in availability, this rate has increased since you made your selection\" so onto the next one, what a surprise, the same thing... or words to that effect, it has happened on each website I have been on. They all conveniently went up to the same price. \n\nI have tried it with eight different hotels on each booking website, and every one has done the same. How can they get away with doing this? As it's clearly not people booking in the time of me clicking on to the website and then onto book. \n\nMore importantly, is there anything I can do to get around it? Have you guys had similar experiences?", "summary": "booking websites advertise rooms at one price, then when I click to book they hike the price up on every single hotel I try."}
{"id": "t3_41abaw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Would I be abandoning my family?", "post": "My family history's always been a little complicated, but never more so than now. My stepdad abandoned my family (mom, brother, and little sister) and left my mom to take care of the house and their store. \n\nI graduated from college a year and a half ago, and am currently working full time, making a little more than minimum wage. My mom has been steadily become more and more unreasonable (blaming me for everything, saying that I am her sole disappointment in life because I didn't become someone big and I'm not helping her at all). But I do try - I pay some utilities and buy food and do chores at home while she's working. I help watch the store a few hours during the weekend when I don't work so that she can do other things. \n\nI don't exactly know how to run her store though, because her primary customers all speak another language (mandarin) that I'm not fluent in and I also don't know how she runs her business (sells all sorts of things, from phone cards to towels to DVDs). \n\nAs a result, sometimes I lose business because I don't know how to run the store. But we don't have the money to hire someone else when my mom needs to run errands and I am really struggling with this, with every time she blames me and yells at me. Not to mention, all the fights and things my mom does. Every time I mess up in some way, she just tells me that I have to do things that I don't like because she has to deal with my stuff too. And if I don't like it, then I should just get out. \n\nBecause it's happening so frequently (fight every other day), I've been wondering if I should just move out. I'm not making a whole lot, but I could probably afford rent and essentials if I shared with roommates. But is that the right thing to do? Would I be abandoning my family when they need me? But I've been progressively feeling emotionally destroyed through the course of time with my mom. I don't know how to convey how she makes me feel through this post, but I am honestly feeling distraught.", "summary": "my mom is making me want to leave my family, but would I be abandoning my family?"}
{"id": "t3_1o45in", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Myself (16/m) and my girlfriend(15/f) have hit a little problem, her mother, and we've run out of options.", "post": "Girlfriend's mother blocks all electronic communications between us (My number, email, youtube, even my imgur account has been put on some kind of watchlist, preventing me from talking to her without GF getting in trouble. Her mom refuses to be an adult and talk it out, rather she would be a brick wall. We live an hour apart from each other, none of us can drive yet, and even if I could, she's not about the #renegadelyfe and wouldn't sneak out, and she wouldn't be allowed out. Her mom doesn't let her go to 99% of school events, just because of the POSSIBILITY that I am there. Please note, I am not \"that kid\". I don't do drugs, I try to be respectable, I'm (to my knowledge and at my friend's opinions) not an asshole. What do, reddit? And yes, she is worth it.", "summary": "gf's mother is being a quite literal brick wall, gf and i cannot see, and barely able to talk to, each other for minuscule amounts."}
{"id": "t3_158n1k", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [18F] want to know what's next with [23M], dating for a month", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI've been seeing this wonderful man [23M] lately for about a month now, we've been on 3 dates. The dates are just coffee/lunch but we have a lot of fun. We both have busy schedules so we don't see each other much but we do text a lot. We are exclusive to each other as in we both agreed to not see anyone else. \n\nAnyways, I want to know where he thinks this is going, but I don't want to sound clingy. I know he definitely likes me, but I'm unsure as if he can see himself being in a relationship with me later on. I'm not expecting him to be ready for a relationship just yet, but even just a \"I want to keep seeing you\" works for me.  He's still hurt from a past relationship which is why I definitely don't want to rush things, but I also feel uncomfortable to keep dating if I'm not sure where we stand. Everything is going great so far from what I can tell. What I want to know is: What would be the right way to ask him about what he thinks about \"us\" without sounding desperate and/or clingy?", "summary": "seeing a guy for a month, want to know how to bring up the next step"}
{"id": "t3_2i06kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "11 yo boy Stealing Bathroom Supplies", "post": "I (19, F) am currently living semi-permanently with my girlfriend (18) and her parents, who have another child that we'll call Bo. Now, he has done this here and there before, but not on this large a scale and it's bathroom stuff so I didn't care much. I had also been warned by both my girlfriend and Bo's parents that he does this frequently and if I have anything expensive to hide it. As it is I keep over half my bathroom supplies under the sink where he seems not to bother with them, but there isn't enough room for more and the room I share with my girlfriend is small and cramped so I can't keep the remaining stuff in there (shampooo, conditioner, body wash, two bars of soap, shaving cream) because with two women in there quite frankly there isn't the space and hauling it all back and forth every time you need to shower is annoying and inconvenient anyway. \n\nI was told he's a preteen boy and sometimes experiments and uses stuff left unattended in the shower, which whatever, that's fine, boys can smell like kiwi if they want to, idgaf, but he managed to waste almost a full bottle of my shampoo in one day. I was furious, talked to gf, she asked parents to ground him, and I left it at that.. but he has apparently been grounded for this before and it didn't change hits behavior, so lo and behold I go to take a shower and my body wash (70% full)  is now seriously depleted. (20% full)\n\nI'm broke, jobless, and cannot afford to go out every three days to replace what he somehow burns through, and I'm not sure where to go from here. The mom works all day two hours away to support everyone and is barely home, and the father has serious back injuries and some other health issues that impair his p ability to be too active thanks to mini strokes and horrible chronic pain. \n\nAdvice please?", "summary": "little shit guzzles bathroom products, he must be stopped"}
{"id": "t3_11eeyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A close friend [M 20] started dating my ex [F 20] without telling me.", "post": "I [M 19] dated this girl for 6 months, but the relationship ended April of this year.  I just recently found out (from another friend) that one of my closest friends started dating her at the beginning of this month.  Right now I'm pissed because he didn't even bother to tell me.  To me, it's the obvious thing to do and by him not saying anything, I feel there's a sense of \"our friendship isn't that important\".  According to the other friend, he's \"going to tell me sometime soon\", but he's had many opportunities to do that so...\n\nDo I have a right to be pissed?  Also, how should I handle the situation?\n\nFYI, my friend, my ex and I are all in the same friend circle, but my ex and I don't really talk anymore.", "summary": "a close friend started dating one of my ex's without telling me, do I have a right to be pissed?"}
{"id": "t3_1a4ill", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20m] I think the girl I'm dating has schizophrenia [20f]", "post": "I've been talking to this girl for a few months; we hooked up a few times and generally enjoy each others company. I have not discussed anything about a relationship, we seem to just be friends, and then it leads to sex. The thing is, she told me she used to take nerocleptics, but stopped. Although I have never seen her act weird, I tread with caution. Has anyone had any experience with this? I really like her. we have a lot in common and we get along great. She has been hinting to go out on dates recently, but I wanted to get the opinion of others before I begin to even think of the future.", "summary": "Girl I like might have schizophrenia. She's really cool and have I not seen her act weird."}
{"id": "t3_11g1f0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [18m] and I [17f] have been dating for the last three years. This next semester will be our last semester in highschool. How do we handle college?", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for three years. He's my best friend and the one person that actually gets me.\n\nHe's been there for me through my parent's divorce, through my grandmother's episode with cancer, and through my stressful life at school. I started this relationship with no intentions or dreams of it ever lasting. I always thought we would break up senior year. Now that senior year is a reality, I honestly can't imagine being without him. He's a part of me and as cheesy as it sounds, I actually love the fuck out of him. (take that as you'd like). We've talked about college and he has this idea that he wants us to move on (if we go to different schools) and meet new people and try out new relationships so that we know that what we have is better than anything out there. \n\nI'm being realistic here--people can change a lot in four years. Is it wrong for me not to want to try and work this out and try a LDR? I am sure there are a million guys out there that I could be compatible with, but that's the thing. I don't want compatibility--I want him. He has this grand idea that we will come back together after college and everything will be perfect. I know he's scared--we've never dated before our relationship and we've never known anyone else the way we know each other. I just don't want to risk what we have on a unrealistic idea. I love him, like honest to everything in life, love him. We get in fights, things aren't always perfect, but we have the same set of principles and we believe in the same things. We are from two very different cultures and I think both of us have learned a shit ton from each other. I know that we're teenagers and we have our whole lives in front of us--but I'm tired of fighting the stereotype or the general consensus that teenagers don't know what the fuck love is. \n\nReddit, please tell me how to go about doing this because if it goes the way it's planned. Summer 2013 is going to suck ass.", "summary": "In highschool, about to finish senior year. Dated for the last three years. Scared about the future and college. We have two different ideas. He seems to live in an unrealistic world--what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1v37v2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I take my cat with me?", "post": "I have been away at college for two years and have been thinking about moving my 12 year old cat from my parents house to my place that is 350 miles away. \n\nMy parents feed her and let her inside if she wants, but they do not pet her or love her. Nobody except for me likes her (she is a bit of a bitch.) Since I've been home for break, she has been sleeping on my bed and we have bonded. I am the only person who likes her and the only person she likes. \n\nThe problem with moving her is that: 1) my apartment does not allow pets, but I am pretty sure the landlord will not find out 2) she has lived on my parents street her whole life and I fear she will not like living somewhere different.", "summary": "Do you think my cat would be happier in a place she has always lived and is used to or with someone who provides her with unconditional love?"}
{"id": "t3_1k4ezs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) am having trouble dealing with my GF(19F)'s mother (40F) because she keeps harassing our relationship", "post": "About 2 years ago, I started dating my current girlfriend.  She was amazing and I really like her, but I also hung out with other females alone as well. (never anything sexual and did not have feelings for them) She was not happy about this, and I didn't know it made her unhappy, so after she told me to stop doing that, I did.  That was my mistake in not asking her if it was okay for me to do that.  I apologized, and she forgave me.  Things were okay after that.\n\nHowever, she was confiding in her mom about this situation. She knew what happened for that and how I was supposedly cheating on her daughter with them two even though I wasn't, and now a year later, still brings it up, and it makes my GF really unhappy.  It has gotten to the point to where I don't know what to do anymore.  Her mom constantly doubts what I'm doing and where I am, even though there is proof of exactly what I am doing and that I have never cheated on her daughter.  What do I even do?", "summary": "Hung out with other girls (nothing sexual.)  GF's mom found out.  GF's mom is harassing her and me about it now"}
{"id": "t3_lbei9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm Emetophobic. I'm about to fly in a place for the first time. Any advice?", "post": "I've been emetophobic my whole life. I've never flown on a plane for fear that I will vomit, or others will and I'll witness it. I believe my fear of flying is linked to the emetophobia, and issues with control and general anxiety. I also don't go on fast rides like roller coasters because of the feeling you get in your stomach, it's like a pressure. The kind of pressure you feel when you drop on a ride. I know I'm kind of rambling here... What should I do? Will I feel that pressure feeling in my stomach on an airplane?", "summary": "I've never flown because of fear of lack of control and emetophobia. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_14q29s", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [25M] wonder what I need to change so I can be content with not dating anyone.", "post": "I'm perfectly capable of being single. I prefer being single over having an unfulfilling relationship and I have been capable of breaking up with girls in the past. What I'm not capable of is not dating at all. If I don't have something in the makings I feel bad. I want to at least have a girl to text to, so I have this impression that I'm moving towards something. I don't feel bad when I don't get a girl so I don't understand why I need this. \n\nFor  example now I have NOTHING going on, I broke it off with all the girls I had possibility to date, I deleted my online dating profile and now I just have nothing, and before I make some drastic personal changes, I have no way of getting a girl either (since I don't approach strangers). \n\nI want to be fine with this, you know. Because life isn't that much different now when I have nothing, compared to how life is when I have the impression that I have a relationship on the way, but apparently to my scumbag brain it's major difference and I feel uneasy about it. \n\nAnd that is why I wrote this post, how can I go about getting rid of all my desires to find a girl? I think that is something that I actually need to do before I should starting dating again because I'm not pleased with the quality of women I have been able to produce in the past and I want to change, become new and better and go on to newer and better things, and I can't do that if I let things stay the same.", "summary": "A recovering datoholic asks for help with how to stop dating and be fine with it."}
{"id": "t3_2s6tgp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Homeowners insurance policy cancelled with no notification to us. What to do next?", "post": "I apologize for this being a little long winded but it's a little complicated.\n\nBoyfriend and I own a 1 story-slab foundation home. Pipes run through an attic/crawlspace. Both hot and cold water pipes burst last Thursday and as a result part of the ceiling collapsed. Naturally I called our homeowners insurance company to file a claim. They said our policy was cancelled 3 months ago and they could not help us.\n\nWe got no notification that the policy was cancelled. Insurance company gave us dates of when they sent letters of cancellation. They were sent to my parents house (since we didn't have our own yet) and we've had it all forwarded and have collected any mail that would've gone to my parents house. No sign of the letter.\n\nI called our mortgage lender since we make the insurance payments through them. There has been an insurance payment made to escrow every month since we closed. On the day of the loss mortgage lender said they had effective dates for us that went til 8/2015. Obviously they were unaware of the cancellation too.\n\nI called the insurance company again to give it another shot. I thought maybe since the mortgage lender didn't have the cancellation either, that was a bigger deal than a human losing a piece of mail. Mortgage lender confirmed on a 3way call with me and insurance company that the last correspondence they have with the insurance company was a policy confirmation. No cancellation notice.\n\nInsurance company supervisor told me and our mortgage lender since the cancellation letters didn't bounce back, that was good enough. Now we're left with thousands in damage and a giant hole in the ceiling. \n\nI have filed a complaint with the department of financial services in my state (NY). What else, if anything, can I do?", "summary": "homeowners insurance policy cancelled with no notice delivered to us or the mortgage lender."}
{"id": "t3_1gbv00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] think my best friend [19m] takes texting too seriously.", "post": "My best friend for a year (since the beginning of college) and I seriously disagree about how texting should work, and its really starting to turn things sour. He believes that there is a certain amount of etiquette that should be followed when texting, while I really don't believe texting is a big deal. I'm not much of a texter. I'm a person who is more likely to text for basic information, while my friend likes to have full conversations over text.\n\nBecause of these different viewpoints on texting, I'm not up to his expectations on the way I text. I sometimes leave a message hanging, even mid conversation, for an hour or more at a time- I simply lose focus on my phone while doing other things.\n\nMy constant refrain is that texting is, by nature, a form of communication for people who aren't focused enough to talk in a more direct way. And that because of this, it is perfectly ordinary to have long gaps in conversation.\n\nI hate the \"always connected\" mentality that digital communication brings. I don't believe that just because I have a cell phone, I am obligated to respond to all the messages that I receive. As someone who enjoys having alone time, I find this expectation to respond to be extremely invasive. But my friend would prefer that, instead of just not answering my phone, I let him know that I don't want to talk at the moment.\n\nAm I being inconsiderate? Is there really an etiquette to texting? Or does he need to step back and not take texting as seriously? Either way, advice on how to proceed would be appreciated.", "summary": "My friends preferred mode of conversation is texting, and he finds it rude when I don't reply for long periods of time. I am not much of a texter, and consider the obligation to answer incoming text messages to be an invasion of privacy."}
{"id": "t3_4jx5as", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] of 18 months, is it possible to work through these problems, or is it a lost cause?", "post": "My girlfriend really likes going out, while I like staying home. I will (and have) admitted a video game addiction that I am trying to rid myself of. She says that I don't spend enough time with her, and I have been trying, and she admits to that.\n\nI feel the reason other than video games is because I have been turned off from the relationship because I don't feel appreciated. I do all of the housework, but we both have jobs. I work at home, she works at a restaurant. I have asked repeatedly for more help with the housework, but she doesn't really do anything. She says it is because I do it all before she has a chance to, but I only do it all because I know she won't do it.\n\nShe likes hanging out with male friends, and one of them she used to have a crush on. I have told her repeatedly how uncomfortable this makes me, to no effect. She seemingly has no remorse for anything. \n\nI do not believe she has cheated on me. She is very honest with me and I have always trusted her, unlike past relationships. She has been better to me than past relationships, and things used to be different.\n\nI do one other issue with this relationship, but I need to resolve how I feel about this one first.\n\nIs this something that I should try to work on with her, even though we have fought about this several times, or should I give up?", "summary": "She likes hanging out with guys and doesn't help around the house, and I don't know if I should continue the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2pjq6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] recently came across my friend's [27 F] \"dirty\" instagram and can't stop thinking about her", "post": "Megan and I have been friend's for over 6 years. We met back when we were both in community college. She's pretty awesome and even though we were romantically involved at some point, I never really fell for her and we decided we made better friends.\n\nLast week I was on instagram minding my own business and decided to search for people I may know that I'm not following yet, tapped on the \"people\" tab scrolled down and noticed her face popping which I found strange considering I'm already following her.\n\nTurns out this is a DIFFERENT instagram she has and I was mind-blown by the fact that this is a rather interesting revelation because it sort of exposes a side of her that I was totally unaware of and my god I could not help being turned on by it... I'm not sure how to describe it but let's say it exposes her to get a very wrong type of attention; however, I loved it and I can't stop thinking about her.\n\nIdk what to do, I want to tell her I know about it and that I'd like her to explain me what is this all about. To my eyes, she was always what you'd consider a good girl so this has come off as quite a surprise, a wrongly pleasant one. Should I tell her I know about it and that I now want her more than I ever have? I feel so weird creeping on her alternative profile and reading all the comments she gets but can't get enough of how freaking hot she looks. If I only knew about this side of her while we were dating...", "summary": "discovered my friend's (who I always considered a good girl) \"dirty\" instagram and I now I can't help but WANTING her. Should I tell her I know about it? Should I bring up the fact that discovering this side of her has triggered in me an overwhelming desire to be with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3s7xpi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25/F] found a pretty ring that I'd like for Xmas from my [26/M] boyfriend of 3.5 years but I don't want him to think I am trying to get him to propose", "post": "I am not good for figuring out presents for myself but I recently saw this ring online that caught my attention. It's not entirely expensive, about $120. When I saw it I thought it was cool. It's actually black and has these cool gothic looking flowers on the sides but technically it is an engagement ring, it says so on the website. \n\nI really don't want to seem like I am passively aggressively asking for my boyfriend to propose. Because I am totally fine with and would almost rather continuing to be a live-in couple. My boyfriend isn't interested in marriage. His ex was a big traditionalist and would always go on and on about her dream wedding with him. Showing him dresses, rings and venues that she wanted to get married at. This always upset him because he said he doesn't like traditional romance and she would berate him for it calling him a bad boyfriend and saying things like \"he must not really love her.\" Besides her, he also isn't religious and doesn't want us to mingle money because he feels it would cause more arguments partially due to us having very different spending styles. All of this is fine with me (I actually earn more than he does). But I am rambling a bit. Should I just show him the ring? Should I just say fuck it and buy it for myself and ask for something less \"controversial\" or should I ask him but preface it with \"I know it's says engagement but I am not suggesting you propose.\" \n\nSeems like a very small issue and it really isn't a big one. I just don't want to ask people I know IRL because I don't feel like getting the \"WELL MAYBE YOU SHOULD JUST GET MARRIED! Why SHOULDN'T he propose???\" etc.", "summary": "I saw a ring I want for Xmas that is an engagement ring but I want the ring just to have it and don't want him to think I am trying to get him to propose."}
{"id": "t3_3jlzdd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (21/f) angry at the double standards in my relationship with my boyfriend (21/m)", "post": "I'm kind of annoyed right now, my boyfriend told me he wants some space when I told him I feel ignored in our relationship and I'd like it if he could make a bit more effort, we're long distance right now so it makes communication a bit harder. The thing is about six months back he was feeling the same way but I listened to him and I made changes. I just feel like I have to be okay with everything he does but if I did the same thing then he's allowed to challenge the relationship. The last few arguments we've had he needed space to decide if we should still be together or not, it's like he focuses on the immediate issue and thinks it defines how our whole relationship is. How can I make him see that is what he's doing? He seems to forget about the whole relationship and just looks at how things have been during the last week or so.", "summary": "there seems to be a double standard in the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4jdv48", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning myself with soup.", "post": "This happened earlier in the week and figured I'd share.\n\nSo I was up at something like 4 in the morning playing the Overwatch beta, and felt like having some food. I went downstairs with my laptop while between games to the kitchen and in the fridge was a nice plastic cup of soup. Quickly made some toast and microwaved the soup. Put the toast on a plate and the soup in a bowl and started heading back upstairs. All fairly standard.\n\nThis is where the fuck up was. As I was walking upstairs, I had the laptop in my left hand, and the plate/bowl precariously balanced in my right hand. As I got to the top of the staircase I tripped. Not wanting to destroy my laptop, I forgot about the soup and prioritised getting my laptop in the air away from harm being crushed under me. In the process the soup spilled all over my wrist, causing me to scream out in pain, throw my laptop down as gently as I could, and rush back to the kitchen to throw my wrist under the cold tap.\n\nMy wrist was burned pretty badly and the carpet is a little bit ruined. My wrist is now a nice shade of dark red with one particularly bad blister just below the thumb.", "summary": "Made and spilled some late night soup. Burned my wrist, ruined my carpet and missed a game of Overwatch."}
{"id": "t3_1r0enc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/f] in a 5 year relationship with [22/m], don't know how to show I'm still trying without being clingy.", "post": "* I am horrible at explaining things, so I'm sorry if it doesn't make sense.\n\nI love him, first off.\nLet's get some backstory out of the way.\nWe met in high school, he's my first relationship, I'm not his first. We've been together for over 5 years now, we want to get married, blah blah blah.\n\nI think he feels that I'm not trying in the relationship anymore, because we've decided we want to be together forever.\nI don't know.. how to do that without being clingy.\n\nHe's had 2 friends-that-are-girls throughout our relationship that he's had crushes on. I think it's because I get jealous and I start pushing him away, so he latches onto them to fill the void. I know this is my fault. We talked about this last night. \n\nI'm overweight. I shower once or twice a week. Don't shave as much as I could. I'm honestly stressed out about some family/job issues happening, but I didn't realize how much I let myself go.\n\nHe told me all of this last night, and it makes sense. I made a mental decision that I was going to take care of myself. I'm going to shower regularily, shave often, dress nicely, and find time/motivation to work out.\n\nWhat's really bothering me is I don't know if that's enough. He told me he wants to be with me, for the rest of his life. And I want to be with him. How do I show him I'm trying without being clingy?\n\nI'm okay with him flirting, and hanging out with girls, but I don't want him to fall in love with someone else.\n\nI know I'm insecure. I just... wondered if anybody has some tips for what kind of things I could do, to show that I'm trying. Because I want to try, I just don't know what to do.\nI don't want to smother him, and I don't want him to think I don't care anymore.", "summary": "BF of 5 years doesn't think I'm trying because I'm comfortable with our relationship, how to I try without being clingy?"}
{"id": "t3_2lh99f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by turning on the light", "post": "This did not happen today, but back in my college days. I was out kind of late one night and when I got to my dorm room the light was already off. Since my roommate was asleep I did not want to bother him so I decided to get ready for bed without turning on the lights. I brush my teeth, pee, undress, and get in bed while I was in the dark. As I settle into bed I hear a strange noise. Some sort of crunching noise was going in the dark of the room. I decided that it was our crazy heating system and try to sleep. The noise continues. I think that it must be critters of some kind. Hey, we were colleges students. The noise continues. Finally, I couldn't stand it anymore. To hell with my roommate I have to turn on the light and see what happened. I flip on the light and see my roommate sitting upright in his bed completely naked eating an entire bucket of fried chicken. I cursed him out, turned out the light, and tried to erase the image from my mind. Obviously my attempt at forgetting did not work since I am here talking about it.", "summary": "Turned on the light to see my naked roommate eating fried chicken."}
{"id": "t3_3g3i1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I apologize to this girl for calling her ugly ~7 years ago?", "post": "This was back when we were both ~13/14\n\nWell, I'm 20 now and back in highschool I was a bit of a little shit. I mostly kept to myself and was seen as a 'swell guy' by a lot of people, but occasionally I would have a lapse in judgment and reflect my insecurities and pains on some of my friends. \n\nMy friend, who I'll call 'Ana', was a very tall unconventionally attractive girl and was probably teased about it. I actually don't think she was ugly at all. Anyways, I was playing some sort of game in the school's library and ended up having a conversation with her, and at some point I just blurted out 'you're ugly'. I really don't remember the context, but I do remember her getting super flustered and leaving the room quickly :( \n\nWeirdly enough, the incident was never mentioned between us afterwards and we were still 'friends', or at least it seemed a bit like it. She helped me pass an English class because I was always very disorganized and unable to do the work in class (I missed over a hundred days of highschool due to anxiety, depression, surgeries, and other baggage), so she helped me organize and get caught up in class on the days I was at school. \n\nDue to my extended absences, I ended up getting called to court for truancy. I got so far behind in school that I had to switch to an alternative school in order to get out of highschool on time (in fact, I finished highschool early due to this), so I never saw her again so I could apologize in person.\n\nI do have her on Facebook though, and that's really the only way I can contact her. Should I apologize, or would it just be a wasted gesture? She might have forgotten by now, so it might just be me being selfish and wanting to feel good about myself. \n\nThanks for reading", "summary": "Called a girl ugly, regret it, should I apologize via Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_1q0em2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i(M-age 21) tell her(F-age 21) i love her?", "post": "So this is my first time ever posting here in r/relationships, so here it is.\n\nI am a senior in college now, and the girl of my dreams i met freshmen year of college. We had basic gen. ed. classes together and completely get along and understand one another. Only problem is, whenever she has a bf, I don't have a gf. On other hand, whenever i have a gf, she doesn't have a boyfriend That situation went on for 3 years until now, we are both single! However another problem has arisen, i no longer go to the same college as her and if we did get into a relationship it would be a 9 hour long distance relationship.\n\nNow we both have feelings for one another, i know this for sure because we've expressed to the other when the other was in a relationship that we have feelings, but I don't know if her feelings for me are as strong as mine are for hers. Does that make sense? \n\nSo she just recently got out of a pretty lame relationship(dude was narcissistic asshole, who doesnt know how to treat a woman), and i know that moving too quickly to tell her could cause some tension since again she just got out of relationship, but heres my delema, were seniors and she wants to move pretty far away after we graduate and i still havent told her i love her. Up on till this point i have been what i can be to her, the best and most loyal friend that anyone could ask for.\n\nSo i guess what I'm trying to ask when/how to i tell her i love her?", "summary": "My dream girl, doesnt know i love her, how do i tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_24iadu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F]/SO [20 M](4years). He recently went out with 2 female friends and paid for the entire meal.", "post": "I'm not sure if this has been asked before, but my SO and I have been dating for 4 years. When it comes to our dates we fight each other on bill splitting and have recently come to an agreement where we would take turns paying for the bill.\n\nHe's gone out with friends before and they have offered to pay the entire bill and vice versa (though they are male and it's generally paying for drinks rather than a complete meal). He doesn't normally go out with just females (only in group situations but I'd be there most of the time).\n\nThe two females he went out with he meet on a university work trip where they had to work together on a project that went for 2 weeks in January. I have never met them.\n\nI feel like paying for a persons meal is generally reserved for relationships, family or very close friends.\n\nTherefore, should I be indifferent to this situation and treat the girls as 'one of the guys'. Though I think this isn't really my main issue. Should he have paid for their meal given that they were essentially 'work colleagues' of the female variety...", "summary": "SO footed the bill with 2 female 'work colleagues' whilst in our relationship we generally make a scene."}
{"id": "t3_2rmri8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a Thrift Store", "post": "TIFU by going to a thrift store but this is by no means something that happened today, it was actually about a year ago but i'm loving this subreddit so i thought i would share... anyway...\n\nNormal Saturday afternoon, brought the hubby some lunch at work... driving around town... I'm pretty new in town so im still learning my way around. I remembered passing a Thrift Store sign when i drive to and from hubbys work so i thought i would go check it out.\n\nNote: Many businesses in the area are repurposed homes. It's a bit odd to see so many businesses that look like houses, but i kinda live on the outskirts of town.\n\nI find the place and walk up to the front door and try the handle. Locked. I then notice a post it note taped to the door that says \"thrift shop around back\". Er.. okay. So i walk around the house and all i see is a clearly man made staircase leading to the second floor. Okay... makes sense i guess, they live below, the store is up top.\nI walk up the stairs and the door is wide open, just the screen door in place. It's unlocked. I walk in to what looks like a normal kitchen.\nMy dumbass thought they may have just laid their store out like a house.. I'm checking out the toaster for a good minute before deciding i dont really need a toaster and i walk into the next room.. to see an entire family.. mom, dad, sister, brother, grandma, grandpa.. eating dinner and watching TV. \nI was so shocked all i could muster was a meek \"Is this your house?\" then walked out terribly embarrassed. Almost fell down their man made staircase too...", "summary": "I accidentally walked into someones house thinking it was a business. So glad i didnt get shot.."}
{"id": "t3_s8ufz", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Just finished The Count of Monte Cristo and I'm dying to talk about it so I came to you Reddit", "post": "So I finished reading yesterday and I think it's taken me a day to reflect on everything I just read. I had been wanting to read it for a long time on someone's recommendation and I am so happy I took the plunge. I have to start off by saying that I really enjoyed the book. I was very hesitant at first because of the sheer size of the book but looking back on it I'm glad I got to read it for as long as I did. I screwed myself over a bit because I watched the movie about a week before starting and it wasn't until I put the movie out of my mind that I started to really enjoy it. \n\nI'll start by telling my two favorite parts of the book. First is his time in Ch\u00e2teau d'If where he meets the Mad Priest. I LOVED the priest and the influence he plays on Edmond. He's obviously an integral character and allows Edmond to really come to terms with his situation. My other favorite part is when Edmond secretly saves Morrel using the red silk purse. Not always into sappy stuff but it really hit me to see this scene play out. \n\nLast thing- Edmond Dantes is an absolute boss. The way he sets things into motion and just waits for them to play out is absolutely brilliant. He is really thinking 5 steps ahead of everyone else but he's the only one that knows it. I'm not religious but I love towards the end of the book when Edmond essentially refers to himself as divine providence and it just carrying out what needs to be done. For everyone that wronged Edmond, karma sure is a bitch. Hopefully this isn't coming off as me rambling, this book just has my mind racing a hundred miles an hour. I definitely have to read this again to soak up everything I missed.\n\nLet me know your thoughts on the book, whether or not you liked it, your favorite characters, favorite scenes, problems you had with the book, or just any thoughts on the book.", "summary": "Loved Count of Monte Cristo and want to know what you thought about it"}
{"id": "t3_ym9b3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I almost didn't make it into my family reunion picture because no one knew who I was. What're your most awkward \"how do they not remember me?\" moments?", "post": "My moms side has a family reunion every three years. Most of the distant relatives live out of state so the reunions are the only time I see them. Some, however, are only a couple hours away and I see at least once a year. At our last family reunion my brother brought his new girlfriend. When it came time for taking the family picture one of my distant relatives politely asked if I could step out I the picture considering I was just my brothers girlfriend and who knew if we were going to stay together. She then turned to his actual girlfriend and told her to \"come stand by your big brother.\" ..... Me and my berets girlfriend look nothing alike. \n\nWe played along until my mom noticed I wasn't in the picture and set things straight. Until then, though, the rest of the family hadn't even noticed. In fact, the night before one of my distant cousins attempted hitting on me.", "summary": "I don't need to worry about showing up for family reunions."}
{"id": "t3_29r553", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I[mid-30's/M] damaged goods?", "post": "So here's the story.  I am a mid-30's males that is currently going through a divorce.  We have been married for almost six years, together ten.  We have a young son together.  However, this will be my second divorce.  I married my high school/college girlfriend.  That marriage failed rather quickly(one year) because we were so young and didn't understand what marriage was going to be like.  \n\nI have  a great job, with stability that pays reasonably well.  I have a bachelors degree and a masters.  I own my own car and will be living in a condo.  \n\nAnyways, in the future, how hard will it be for me to start dating again?  I'm not ready right now, but I'm scared that two divorces at such an early age is going to scare off future women.  Is there hope for me?", "summary": "Two divorces, am I damaged goods?"}
{"id": "t3_2o0w5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am not sure if I should get my girlfriend [19 F] a nice Christmas present.", "post": "We have only been dating for a few weeks, but Christmas is around the corner. We spend a lot of time together and are very close. I have a gift in mind (~$40) that I think she will love, but I am worried that at this stage in our relationship this will seem a bit over-the-top and premature.\n\nWhile we haven't discussed the possibility of exchanging gifts, I'm pretty sure she is not planning on getting me anything. This is something I'd like to discuss with her (and we are generally very good at communicating with each other), but I don't want to ruin the spontaneity of a surprise gift or worse come off as materialistic for suggesting an exchange.\n\nAny ideas on how to handle this?", "summary": "Should I get my SO a nice gift for Christmas even though we haven't been dating for very long?"}
{"id": "t3_528mis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15M] am having trouble talking to my [15F] crush.", "post": "I am in my last year of school before sixth form and last year my crush and I were talking quite a lot in class. It was fun, however we only sat together in one class. Now this year I don't sit next to her in any of my classes.\n\nYou may just say why don't just talk to her outside of class, but that's why I'm having trouble. At break and lunch I only see her when she's with about 3-5 of her friends and no less, because I don't know them its hard for me to go and talk to just her when shes with them.\n\nI'd say i'm liked in school, but not popular. People think i'm a nice guy, but as I said not popular. However my crush is popular and she's always around people. They always talk to her and never really leave her alone (not in a bad way). Therefore I can't really talk to her unless she sits next to me in class or I see her on her own (which would only be a few minutes). I do go to a thing outside of school where there is a lot less people and not as many of them talk to her, but the ones that do talk constantly.\n\nI think she thinks I'm a nice guy, but doesn't know me well enough to want to talk to me outside of class. \n\nSo what should I do here? I don't want to let go just yet. Help is appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Crush is popular (I'm not that popular), can't talk to her outside of class, because of too many people talking to her and that she doesn't know me too well."}
{"id": "t3_2t8dl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my SO [16F] of 4 months, problem with parents, need advice", "post": "Okay i need advice for this particular situation. My and my SO have been going out for the past month, and it has been going well. Both of us are currently 16, this is sorta the problem. The problem that i am currently faced with is that i have been to her parents house on numerous occassions, i mean like NUMEROUS. However heres the catch, they did not know that i was her boyfriend during those visits. Recently, her father found out and was outraged. He read through her texts and found out it was ever since i began to visit them often. The text between us have always been PG and consist of us saying \"I love you\" and stuff along that line. Some back story on her father, he is military and is stationed in Georgia, we live in NC, so he is only here on the weekends. He has always said \"he is not your boyfriend.\" Her mother seems to be indifferent about the whole situation, she still allows me over. The father wants to \"talk\" to me. They do not know that i know that they know about our relationship. What can i say to minimize my chances of being even more hated and somewhat save the relationship? If it helps im at the top of my class(top 10), i have a 3.8 gpa unweighted, and very social. I plan on being honest and apologizing for not mentioning the relationship earlier. My mom is cool with everything, she doesn't know about the tension between her father and me atm. A", "summary": "Didn't tell parents of SO that we were dating, now having issues with that."}
{"id": "t3_2ec2wt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] lost my best friend [16 F] last month and it is finally hitting hard.", "post": "We met last year in september, when I was getting out of a bad relationship and needed somebody to talk to.\n\nShe was the best thing that happened to me. She saved me from what I almost became. I loved her, she loved me. But over time she became what I almost was. I lost her 1 month ago. And after hearing what she said about me to my best friend. Its really started to kick in. \n\nI hate who she has become and dont want anything to do with her anymore. Mainly because I saw myself heading in that direction but was smart enough to set things right. But still, I regret losing her, and miss who she used to be. I know there is nothing I could of done after I tried everything, it was her choice. But I just dont feel complete.\n\nHow do I handle this? I haven't directly spoken to her in a month, and I dont plan on it.", "summary": "lost my best friend to who she became, and I'm the one who is feeling regret."}
{"id": "t3_3uik3x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing contacts", "post": "This was yesterday morning when I was getting dressed for a ROTC event. I was in my bathroom and just got done putting my uniform on when I remembered I need to shave before I left or I would get my ass chewed out by drill instructors. So I went in my cabinet and grabbed my razor and my shaving cream. Then I thought to myself \"oh well let me put my contacts in so I can see what I'm doing. That fellow Redditors is when I fucked up. Now you have to realize it's about 5:30am at the time so I'm tired as hell. So I get my contact put it on my finger and go to grab the solution so I can put a drop or two in the contact before I put it in my eye. So put it in my eye and instantly feel the pain of 1000 needles and go blind in one eye. That's when I realize my tired ass self put shaving cream in my contact instead of solution...not fun.", "summary": "Put shaving cream in my contact instead of putting solution in. Then put it in my eye and felt so much pain."}
{"id": "t3_4r5rqp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] feel completely alone ever since the Winter began in my country.", "post": "Ever since the Winter began in my country, which is located in South America, I've been feeling kind of depressed and lonely. I don't feel by any means good, and the situation keeps getting worse and worse. My main problem is I can't seem to get rid of my past: tiny and non-important situations that I shouldn't be feeling bad about at all. Just please, help me. I feel like I'm a complete mess that only creates problems to other people and on top of that I'm useless. I've made people I do really care for worry about me, but it looks like they've been getting tired of it as well, and I can't really blame them. Every single Winter is the same thing, I always get nostalgic and solitude just seems to be always by my side.", "summary": "Feeling really bad. I believe I'm useless and just cause other people problems. People that care about me are getting tired of all this mess. Every Winter has been the same. Help."}
{"id": "t3_2rjg0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [24M] of 1.5 years can't tell me [22F] that he loves me.", "post": "We've been together for about a year and a half (with a short break of about 2 months this time last year) and have been seeing each other again for nearly a year now. About 6 months ago, I told him I loved him and he didn't reciprocate. We talked it through, and I was fine with how we came down on everything - I wouldn't want someone to tell me if it wasn't true!\n\nSince then we've talked about it, and he's told me that while at some points he's been getting there, but that he just needs something more from me.\n\nHe's been struggling a lot with work, changing jobs and trying to figure out what he wants to do, and I've been with him the whole way through this, cooking meals, doing laundry and just listening to him whenever he needs to talk about anything. He makes an effort not to bring this stuff up with his friends, but whenever we're together, this is all we talk about anymore. \n\nI've also been going through a bit of a tough one - my grandma passed away a few weeks ago, and I recently found out someone I'm very close to has just been diagnosed with cancer, but at the moment I don't feel like I can talk to him about any of this. When I got back to the funeral, he told me to come over and he'd cook me dinner, but there was no food in, so we ended up eating toast and talking about how hard he's found it going back to work after Christmas. \n\nAt this point, I'm getting really frustrated, mainly because I feel like I'm stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn't appreciate how hard I've been working to keep it together and to make him happy, while at the same time requiring something completely undefined for him to care about me. \n\nI'm just really not sure what to do here - he's probably the best person I've ever been with, and the thought of not being together is awful, but I feel like if I bring it up at this point, we'll end up splitting because with his still struggling with so much, us not being together would just take that problem away.", "summary": "Boyfriend 'needs more', I'm not sure what else I can give him at this point."}
{"id": "t3_47audz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] want to go to a dance with my girlfriend [16F] of three years. She doesn't want to go. Not sure what to do.", "post": "So we are both in high school and we have a dance coming up. My girlfriend isn't really into dances and stuff. I'm not too much of a social person but this dance only happens once every four years so I kinda want to go. It's not prom, it's another type of formal. The problem is my girlfriend really doesn't want to go to the dance. It's a girls ask guys dance and I had to try to convince her to go. She tentatively agreed to go, but told me she wouldn't be having fun. She just found out she has a five hour practice the day of the dance, which is on a Saturday. She could go, but would be super tired. On Sunday she will have an all day tournament, so really her schedule is not helping at all. I don't know what to do. I really really want to go, but not without her. And I would feel bad for \"forcing\" her to go, especially with all of her things.", "summary": "I want to go to a dance with my girlfriend, but she's busy and doesn't want to go. Any ideas for a compromise or alternative?"}
{"id": "t3_16uta6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Growing lust for room mate [21F] driving me [24M] crazy.", "post": "7 months have passed since she moved in. Right from the start, we'd joke about sex, but were very clear that room mates should not get together. Seeing as I am not really attractive, a virgin and she recently broke up with her long-distance relationship, I am 100% sure to be stuck in the friend-zone. \n\nAs our friendship grew, she talks more and more about her sexual frustration. While it would be great if we did have sex, I'd rather have some advice on how to reduce these cravings for her. \n\nThe last weeks have been hell. I have started craving her so badly that I am having perverted fantasies and dream about her regularly. I am even starting to have difficulties satisfying myself through my normal porn routine. This is the first time this has ever happened to me and I am getting really sexually frustrated. \n\nI badly need some help before I do something stupid or even creepy. \n\nTo put it into a nice question:", "summary": "My methods of satisfying myself are failing, leaving me sexually frustrated, because I have started lusting for my room mate. How can I reduce my lust for my room mate or satisfy myself better?"}
{"id": "t3_1wso4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19F with my ex 18M, I broke up with him and he's hijacked all my accounts.", "post": "We were together for about one year. I broke up with him for many reasons, a few being: he verbally and emotionally abused me at the beginning of the relationship, I have never dated anyone else before and am not sure what I want, he is sometimes controlling, manipulative and many more reasons. I have done many bad things on my part, as well. But I just do not want to be with him any longer. \n\nI have broken up with him multiple times, too many to count, and each time I refuse to talk to him/stick to my decision he says he's going to travel across the state to my college (we're LDR) to convince me to be together, and I didn't really want to deal with all that, as he would have no place to sleep/etc and I didn't want to make a scene. I would convince myself it could work. Yes, I know, I was incredibly dumb and cowardly. Finally I grew a spine and intend on sticking to my guns no matter what he says now. Except now he took my gmail and facebook acc, which I managed to get back. (he had my password from when I was an idiot and gave them to him because he said it was suspicious how I didn't want to and I should trust him, plus he said he wanted to read my accounts because he was suspicious I was cheating-- I have never given him any reason to think I was). But he looked on my amazon account and has my credit card number, as well as my mother's. I am not sure how to recover an amazon account. I tried talking to him when he threatened to delete everything, and even though he had promised in an email to let it go, he just kept asking \"why are you doing this? why are you doing this?\" \n\nI know where that will lead, as before it always led to me listing why, him saying that is fixable and then saying he is coming to my college. I doubt he will do anything bad with the credit card #s, but obviously I would not like to have them in his possession. I am also afraid he will threaten to come over here, and don't know how to deal with that if he really does.\nPlease, help.", "summary": "I'm dumb and gave my pws to my now ex bf, and now he has my and my mother's credit card numbers. He might also try to travel to my college and I don't know how to deal with that if he does, which is improbable, but i still want advice on that."}
{"id": "t3_3bpfxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have never had romantic feelings towards anyone, and am afraid I might be asexual", "post": "During high school, I didn't want to have a girlfriend because I didn't want it to interfere with my school work and my parents had always told me people who dated in their teens were dumb.  When I got to college I was more open to the idea but just didn't feel that way towards anyone.  Now that I'm heading into my last year, I feel like I've really missed out on a large part of being in highschool/college.  I'm afraid that since almost everyone has at least had some sort of crush by now, there's something wrong with me and it's never going to happen.  \n\nI am interested in having a girlfriend and feeling that close to someone, but there is nobody I've met that I've really wanted to have that with.  I've read from asexual people that that's a lot like how they feel, and everyone I've mentioned feeling like that to has been surprised and said they never heard of anyone else like that before.  I really don't want to miss out on the whole \"having a girlfriend, falling in love, getting married, and starting a family\" thing, but can't do that if I just don't like people in that way.", "summary": "never had anyone I wanted to be my girlfriend, afraid I'm ever going to."}
{"id": "t3_470rr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21/M) know I've met the one for me, but I just can't get a crush from high school out of my mind.", "post": "First post here. Seemed like the right place for this, so here it goes.\n\nMy girlfriend (24/F) and I (21/M) have been long distance for over 2 years now, and I know she's the one I want to spend my life with. I'm a student finishing college, she's graduated 2 years now with a steady job a few hours away. We have a stronger bond than I ever though I could have with another person, better than most couples I know seem to be. I know that I will marry her after college one day.\n\nBut, despite this, I still think about one girl (21/F) in particular from high school. I had a crush on her during a difficult time in my life, and I want to move on but I can not. I've seen her in my dreams, sometimes even cheating with her there. I have not seen or talked with this girl in years either, so why is she so strong in my brain? Why is this happening? I don't know what any of this means, but I need it to stop. Any help would be very welcome. Thank you.", "summary": "My relationship with my girlfriend is being inturupted by strong, baseless feelings for another, long forgotten crush and I need help forgetting her."}
{"id": "t3_4l7l4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21M] need some advice on how to talk to my gf [24f] about birth control.", "post": "I've been with her for almost a year and a half now. Things lately due to life made us feel a little distant (more her than me) but things seem to be picking up now. \n\nHere's the thing, we only use condoms as our form of birth control. I'm getting more and more paranoid now about her getting pregnant to the point that I ask her to take plan B once in a while when I'm unsure of something and it's so bad that between her periods and when we aren't having sex I'm suffering anxiety over the idea of getting her pregnant somehow and having mild panic attacks over it. Especially when her irregular period gets weird like this month.\n\nUnfortunately she's a little bit hesitant about getting on birth control. She feels like it will add more stress to her life with the symptoms, possible adverse effects and so on. I don't want to deny either of us sex but I don't think I can continue having sex with her comfortably unless she's on birth control. I don't know if I'm being all wrong about this or what. Any advice? I'm worried that by asking and not being comfortable otherwise I'll be the downfall of our relationship", "summary": "Gf isn't on birth control and hesitant about taking it. How do I ask her to take it without being an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_tujzr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm currently messaging a girl on facebook, and I need some advice", "post": "Hi reddit. I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this sort of question, but I would like some sort of advice on how to go about this situation.\n\nLong story short, I'm basically getting to know this girl that my co-worker was attempting to hook me up with. Unfortunately every time we tried to meet each other, she'd end up not going (she's incredibly shy). This was a problem since I'm now out of the country and in the middle east for vacation with my family. I wanted to meet this girl before I left, but that didn't happen. However, I knew that she was interested in meeting me, so I added her on facebook. \n\nThrough that, we've started messaging each other and getting to know each other. She's a pretty cool chick and seems like an incredible match for me. However, it takes a while for her to reply to my messages. \n\nI recently got in touch with my (now ex) co-worker and she's told me that this girl has been talking about me and says that I'm interesting. But she suggests that I hold out on asking her out due to the fact that she might not be over her previous relationship and is currently only looking for a friend. But she told me to keep talking to her and to ask her out just a little bit before I get back home, which makes sense.\n\nBut I'm a bit wary, I get friend zoned a lot when it comes to women. I just have that kind of...personality that only attracts friends and not lovers :P I'm just worried on how I'm gonna keep talking to this girl on facebook and sort of....keep away from the whole friendzone deal. I'm still out of the country for at least a month, so the messaging will go on for a while. \n\nSo reddit, what advice could you give me? How can I make myself stay away from the friendzone while chatting with this girl whom I've never actually met?\n\nI'm not sure if I worded this whole thing out well, but if there's any questions needed for clarification, please feel free to ask :)", "summary": "Messaging a really cool chick who may or may not be ready to go into a relationship yet, but is interested in me, as I am with her. How do I not fuck things up?"}
{"id": "t3_13sxjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21f] boyfriend [22m] says he's over sex. Help me understand.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating just over a month. We started having sex just before we started dating. We're in a (minor) long distance relationship at the present and while visiting him most recently, we had an argument about sex.\n\nPrior to dating him, I was a virgin while he'd had sex with multiple girls over the years. My sex drive is pretty high and considering we only see each other for weekends at a time, we generally have sex at least once a day. However, he said he's over that. \n\nHe got the \"sexxing\" out a couple years ago and that people in \"real relationships\" don't base their relationships on sex. What I don't understand is what this argument is trying to achieve exactly... because people in \"real relationships\" have sex too. It's making me feel like I'm not attractive enough for him to want to have sex with or that when we do have sex, it's not good enough to keep his interest. I don't think that's his intention though, so can someone please help me understand the thought process behind this is?", "summary": "My boyfriend said he already got his \"sexxing\" out a couple years ago and thinks I crave sex too much."}
{"id": "t3_4u2zhr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Texting/talking game is not good [16/m]", "post": "Hooray my second post here (I obviously have relationship problems)\n\nThis goes on with my [first post] right now we are the best of friends, nothing romantic between us and that's where I like to stand, although I will say I still have slight feeling for her.\n\nThursday (Australian time) she has started to text me asking me what she thinks of her selfies in honesty, I did saying they were pretty good and cute, we went on for a little then out of the blue she asked if wanted to see a movie with her and just hang out, of course I decided to go and we just talked about movies and other stuff from there.\n\nFriday comes along and we talked a bit about it at school, I'm pretty sure it's not a date and that we're just hanging out. Now I often come across this problem where I tend to small talk a lot and never advance the conversation leading to an awkward silence then more small talk, of course that did happen again at times but still thing went fine.\n\nNow I usually have an even bigger problem texting, Thursday was a fluke, and sure it happened again, it was 10 at night and I just got off work and she texted me so we started talking, I saw things were getting nowhere, I had a late assessment on my mind as well so I decided that instead on digging a deeper grave on my texting I drop the conversation saying that I needed to crack down on this assessment. 2 hours and a finished assessment later here I am needing texting advice and social skills.", "summary": "Problem sticking with small talk through talking and texting and need help to develop a proper conversation."}
{"id": "t3_lield", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Grass is Always Greener - Bi Boyfriend", "post": "I (18F) have a new-ish boyfriend (19M) who is bi. He has dated both girls and guys in the past.\n\nJust to clear up any question: I have no problem with him being bi. That is not the issue at all.\n\nWhat I'm worried about is that he says he always wants whatever he's not with. When dating guys, he slowly starts to become attracted to more and more girls. When dating girls, he starts to become attracted to more and more guys. It's something he's working on correcting, but he's warned me that it will probably happen while he's dating me too (even though he knows 100% that he wants to date me). He does not cheat or anything like that. His preference just begins to switch.\n\nI'm just wondering if there's anything I can do to help and prevent this from becoming a problem with our relationship.", "summary": "My bf's gender preference often changes when in relationships. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_4drmqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Her [21 F] Please help give me some advice on dating when neither of you can talk.", "post": "So I am currently teaching english in an asian country, I have made friends here with varied english speaking ability and found I can communicate supprisingly well with little english. All is going well and I'm having a good time.\n\nFriend of a friend contacts me and we talk online (written is often easier than speaking and there is always google translate) we connect and agree to meet.\n\nMeeting happens and it quickly becomes clear she can't speak any english, but the mutual friend is here to help. It goes well and we meet again. This time no friend, but we play silly drawing games and have a good time for serveral hours, it was sweet.\n\nWe want to keep meeting but I am worried the novelty will wear of and the obvious language problem will be insurmountable. I know this isn't the necessary foundation for a lasting relationship but I am enjoying it whilst it lasts and I want to prolonge it as long as I can.\n\nAnyway...any advice? Anyone been in this situation?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Travelling, meet girl, no shared language, have dates that go well, what can I/we do to not loose the excitement and be left awkardly unable to talk?"}
{"id": "t3_2r1n9e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to use an air horn", "post": "So last night, I was over at a friend's house to celebrate the New Year and had brought over an air horn that I would blast when it was midnight. I had already used the horn to scare some of my friends earlier, and was planning to use it again as a joke for when a couple of my friends finished their game of Smash Bros. Right as they finished the match, I raised it and pressed down on the button. Instead of being met with the screeching noise, however, a large PFFFFFT came out of the nozzle. A lot of the gas used in the can then came out of the sides in between the can and the actual horn, which sprayed right onto my hand. I yelled \"OH, SHIT!\" and ran to the bathroom to wash my now freezing hand and get rid of the chemicals.", "summary": "My last screw-up of 2014 involved the death of my air horn and it spraying bad stuff onto my right hand."}
{"id": "t3_4picnl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going out on the boat", "post": "Yesterday I went out for an afternoon on the water with my wife and two young boys. I pulled the boys on the tube all the way over to a swimming cove I scouted last time out (we didn't swim then because it was a cold day).\n\nI anchored and we swam for about 20 minutes before someone came down to the shore and started yelling that we weren't allowed to anchor/swim there. They were really upset so I tried to be courteous and we left promptly.\n\nI figured we'd get the boys back out on the tube and cruise around for a bit before heading home. However, the boat just wasn't working right... it wouldn't ever get up to speed. No matter what I tried I wouldn't go like it should.\n\nSo we abandoned the tubing and decided to head to the dock with visions of expensive repair bills dancing in my head. As we came in toward the dock I started prepping the boat (putting bumpers out, etc.). It was at this point that I realized my fuckup. Hanging from the bow cleat was my still-attached anchor rope! In my hurry to leave the swimming spot I totally forgot to pull up the anchor and been dragging the anchor all around the lake!\n\nI sheepishly pulled up the anchor and was so flustered by my abject failure, that I made several more critical mistakes in docking and recovering the boat:\n- I put the bumpers out, but then docked on the wrong side and got a few new dings in my gelcoat from the dock\n- I forgot to lift the prop up all the way so it drug on the pavement as I pulled the trailer out of the water\n- I parked on the edge of the parking lot while I surveyed the damage (since all the boat trailer parking spaces were full) and got an earful from the park ranger", "summary": "What started as a fun day on the water turned into a comedy of errors, with each fuckup causing a lack of concentration that lead to the next."}
{"id": "t3_3f4h00", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stalking a co-worker's Instagram", "post": "So I started this new job recently and found out through other co-workers that another co-worker has a crush on me(i'm a male btw). The girl and I know each other by name and make small talk pretty often, but we're not really friends on social media, nor do we have any mutual friends whatsoever. Nevertheless, I'm pretty flattered that this chick is digging me, so I decide I'm going to do some research on this girl(aka creep her social media). So I google her name and find her Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, etc. I go through it all. All of her Facebook posts, her likes, favorite movies, her Pinterest boards, her Instagram photos, you name it. Whatever, not a big deal, right? So today I'm at work and said girl runs up to me(quite joyfully might I add) and says, \"Hey! I'm totally following you on Instagram!\" and I'm like, \"Oh yeah?\" and she says, \"Yeah! I saw you liked one of my photos so I decided to follow you!\" and I'm like, \"that's awesome!\" all while cringing from the inside out realizing that I must have accidentally liked one of her Instagram photos while creeping her page. Oddly enough, the chick is crazy stoked that we're Instagram buddies now. Wtf?! Does she not realize that the only possible way I could've found her Instagram profile was to google her name? We barely know each other for christ's sake! Although the girl is really delighted by all of this, I can't help but feel like a super creeper right now. I decided to follow some people and pages that she follows just incase she realizes how creepy this really is and get's super weirded out. I can just say that we follow mutual people and I randomly came across her page while going through someone's followers.", "summary": "Found out a girl at work has a crush on me so I googled her name and creeped her Instagram. Accidentally liked one of her photos. She's excited that we're social media buddies now, but I feel like a total stalker."}
{"id": "t3_26i0cg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] not sure If I should ask her out [18 F]", "post": "So I just finished High-school, I graduate on wednesday and as part of one of my classes we have a lunchin before we graduate. Theres one girl in the class that I really like. I know she isint seeing anyone since we were talking about prom and she didnt have someone to go with (Wish I knew that a month ago).\n\nIve always been the quiet type, I'll participate in conversations I'll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly unless I know whoever I'm chatting with well. I've seen her at a couple parties outside of school and she is a ton more social than me. This lunchin will be the last time I'll ever see her since were going to different universities. I'm not sure if I want to ask her out because I have no clue if she likes me back, she will be friendly and we can chat but we never spend more than 5 minutes talking and over the course of the year ive never gotten her number.\n\nOur friend groups arnt really similar and I'm just kinda torn, I know I have nothing to lose seeing as I'll literally never see her again in my life but on the flip side that makes it seem kinda desperate because I put it off until the last possible second.\n\nOn a side note, I go up to work at a summer camp in canada (9 hours away) in 3 weeks for 3 months so I would only see her for 3 weeks even if she did agree to go out with me. \n\nThanks for letting me vent a bit and any advice you all can offer.", "summary": "Last time I'll see her, not sure if she likes me or if I should ask her out"}
{"id": "t3_1k3pr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "My SO and I are both 23 and we've been together for almost a year and a half now. He's rather introverted and private, and I try to respect this. We barely have any pictures together on Facebook, we're not listed as being in a relationship, and he's never made any sort of grand romantic gesture proclaiming his love for me. This is fine. I understand that different people express their emotions differently, and that the big shiny cheesy things belong more to romance movies than reality. \n\nThe problem is that my SO used to be different. He dated a girl from 17 to 19 and seemed to be effusively vocal about his love for her. There are pictures of them smilingly posing for the camera, pictures of them cuddling and kissing, pictures of him holding up signs on top of mountains and writing elaborate messages in the snow about how much he loves her. He talked about how much he wanted her, how much he needed her, how he would always love her... all in a public forum that I can still see. They're still friends too, so it's not really as if she's strictly a part of his past. \n\nI do trust him, and I believe him when he says he loves me. I understand that people change over time. I understand that, at the end of the day, what matters much more is how someone treats you on a daily basis. He's not completely unromantic either. We celebrate things like Valentine's Day and birthdays, he tells me that he loves me often, and he treats me kindly. But it seems that the passion and spontaneity he displayed in his relationship with her is completely gone now. I can't tell whether that's just a consequence of maturing, or if it simply means that he doesn't love me as much as he could love someone. I would appreciate your thoughts.", "summary": "Boyfriend is sweet but not super romantic. Wouldn't be a problem except that he used to be insanely romantic with an ex. Am I reading too much into it?"}
{"id": "t3_2iv52p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need honest opinions on basic rules of respect & boundaries inside a marriage.", "post": "OK Reddit, I need some serious advice in my marriage! My husband and I have been married for almost two years, together for three. I am 31 he is 28. The last few months we have started having some disagreements on boundaries & what is acceptable behavior. Going into our relationship I knew my husband had a lot of extracurricular activities he was involved with (pool league, a band & PC gaming)  they were never an issue when we were still spending and making time for each other as well. Over the last 6-8 months things have seemed to change. The husband is going out drinking more often and instead of coming home when he is finished with his obligations he is staying out until 3 or 4 in the morning sometimes later and is always hungover and grumpy when he is home. This all came to a head last night when he didn't come home at all....  I woke up at 5 am to realize he wasn't there and upon calling him found out he met a man in the bar who is also into computers and IT and went back to his place to check out his set up. They were just hanging out and drinking. I was furious that he didn't come home and had not called. He says he shouldn't have to and that there is nothing wrong with him staying out as late as he wants too. So here lies my question what are acceptable boundaries on going out with out your spouse. I understand everyone's relationships and situation are unique    , I was made to feel like I had no right to be upset over his actions & that I am a crazy person for wanting a husband that cares more about being home than he does going out and making new friends. I don't expect or want him to give up his activities just for him to be respectful enough of our marriage to come home when the bar closes and quit going to strangers homes to hang out till all hours of the night. Even though I know he is not cheating I feel as if he is creating trust issues. Thanks Reddit!", "summary": "Husband stayed out till 8:30 am after pool league because he met a new friend who was a fellow computer guy, I got upset for lack of communication and the fact that he didn't come home. Need advice on boundaries and respect with in a marriage."}
{"id": "t3_3d7bpl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Potential Employer asked for background check and credit report and notified me I had a Civil Claim Judgement filed against me last year and I had to resolve it within 30 days or get turned down or fired.", "post": "I have moved a lot recently, but back in 2009 or 2010 I was involved in a fender bender going approx 20mph in slow but heavy traffic area on my way to campus in Washington state, I was a starving college student and I did not have car insurance.    I was scared sh*tless and the lady I hit was some older woman in business attire with a really nice car. Of course a week later I get a call saying that her neck hurts, after that I never got a call again from her or her car insurance. I had all of her contact information and she had all of mine, we did not file a police report (at the time I was relieved because I thought I would lose my license or go to jail) I had taken pictures of the tiny scratch done on her back bumper on my cell phone, unfortunately, I moved to Tennessee in 2012 and I didn't have a job or money to keep my phone so I had to cancel it, eventually losing the phone in my move. Life went from bad to worse and I moved back to California into my parent's house in March of this year.   I had been actively(desperately) searching for work. Few weeks ago I interviewed and accepted a job for a local casino, they require me to get a gaming license, along with a background and credit check.  Today I learned that I had a Civil Claim judgment in February 2014 for $13,000 from State Farm, and now I have 30 days to provide proof of payment or an adjudication, or I may get fired over it (or not even hired).  I have no idea what to do or who to contact as I tried to look up the court case number on the Washington state court website and it's no longer there.", "summary": "I need legal advice on what to do for a Civil Case Judgement against me done in Feb 2014  from Washington state (without my knowing), if I am living in California state and I don't have any money to my name.  I am trying to get a job and the background investigator wants me to email an \"explanation\" or proof that I have resolved this matter. Need help. I am so stressed out.      (Please forgive any grammar or spelling errors)"}
{"id": "t3_1q8ar0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What crucial factors should I be considering when making my decision?", "post": "**ABOUT ME:** \n\nlate 20's, single, female, no kids, healthy, living by myself in studio, close to school, close to jobs, no debt, have retirement savings, have some savings. I'm going back to school to further my career. I am going for a Masters so that I could be a CPA. CPA is my goal but I have to get a masters first. I plan to work at a public accounting company after I graduate, and then go back to private. *My resume lacks:* work experience (although my last job of 5+ years was fantastic), my undergraduate GPA was horrendous, I don't have a CPA.\n\n**DECISIONS DECISIONS DECISIONS:** \n\nI am having a difficult time trying to decide on my future. I am planning on going back to school - so I have to decide on if I should live with parents, roommates, get a part time job, no job, go to school part time, go to school full time, keep my savings or take out loans... etc. etc. To help make this decision, I decided to list out important points and score them individually. The total amount will indicate a winning option. I have included these categories, but I feel like I'm missing a few. NOTE: items 2-5 are based on 1. \n\n1. Independence: living with parents, roommates, my own place\n\n2. CPA + education: amount of years it will take to complete\n\n3. Money: saving as much as possible, saving money from working in relevant field, taking loans out\n\n4. Work experience: not working at all or working part time\n\n5. Commute", "summary": "What crucial factors should I be considering when making my decision?"}
{"id": "t3_tzh4b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I can't tell if I'm supposed to step in or not when it comes to my roommate's love life. What do you think, Reddit?", "post": "Obviously, this is a throw away account.\n\nSo I have a roommate who is also an ex-fuck buddy. We are now simply friends. I am a 24 year old female and he is 20 years old. \n\nWe stopped our 'actions' because he decided to become more dedicated to his LDR girlfriend, who he's been off and on with since December of last year. He was confused (aka, young and doesn't know what he wants) while we were together, but I helped him understand that he really did want this girl. I had listened for DAYS about his absolute love and devotion and about how this girl saved him and how sweet she was and....blah blah blah.\n\nAnyhow, he was supposed to be staying celibate for this girl until November, which is when he is moving back to be with her. It took all of about a week for him to go to a party and sleep with someone else (last night). I'm friends with his girlfriend, she called the house four times last night and this morning, and I had no idea what to say. I'm an honest and very open person; I won't lie if it doesn't mean life or death, but I kept his partying on the down-low.\n\nI have no idea what to do. He does this constantly. It's a cycle, I guess. He controls what she does via telephone, but does his own thing anyway. I've talked to him, it lasts for a day or so, and he's back to treating this girl like dirt.\n\nI have no idea how to approach him now, or if I should let her know whats going on. People of Reddit, you all usually hit the nail on the head with these issues....help?", "summary": "Roommate (slash ex fuck buddy) is cheating on LDR girlfriend (my new friend) while controlling her actions over phone calls. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_35qpjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my friend [21 F] of 4 months, is very short when texting me but texts other friends like they're never going to see eachother again. What to do?", "post": "Hello Reddit. I have been seeing this girl unofficially for 4 months now. There has never been a label but we have both said that we are a 'thing' and are not seeing other people. There just isn't a label there. Anyways, to the issue.\n  \nNormally when she texts me its very short, almost dismissive texts. I'll try to start or hold some sort of conversation and she just doesn't seem eager to reply or eager to text at all.\n\nHowever, I noticed that with other friends even regular guy friends to show me a funny text from earlier that day she has scrolled through pages of texts between them and here I am with 6-10 messages from her. One time I tried to bring it up and she said she was busy with family but other people still had inboxes full of messages from her.\n  \nWhen we are in person the chemistry is amazing and she's affectionate and we have a great time. I just don't know how to bring up to her this issue of mine that I feel dismissed when we aren't together. I don't know if it's a jealousy thing and I understand she doesn't get to hang out often with these people she is texting but it makes me feel unwanted and I am not sure how to bring it up to her without seeming insecure.", "summary": "I feel dismissed when trying to text SO and don't know how to bring up the issue without seeming insecure."}
{"id": "t3_1pbt5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How would I[20/F] figure out if a guy[20] likes me?", "post": "There's a really sweet boy in my theatre class who has been talking/hanging out with me on and off in my dorm for the last month or so. He hunts me down when I'm studying in the lounge and we both initiate conversations an equal amount and banter back and forth a good deal.\n\n  However, I'm having a huge problem reading him. He's super confident and outgoing which is something I'm not used to. It's difficult to decipher whether he's just friendly in general, or actually into me. What are some ways I would be able to tell if he likes me (aside from jumping his bones, I'm pretty shy) or if he's just being friendly?", "summary": "How do I find out if this guy likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_28zyug", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Wake me up? Right back atcha", "post": "First, some background to my petty revenge.  I'm a light sleeper, and once I get up, it's hard to fall back asleep.   The walls of my apartment are usually pretty good with blocking sounds, but particularly loud and low frequency sounds do it make through.\n\nSo I was woken up last night after 2 am by loud rhythmic moaning from my next-door neighbor.  It was almost like he had set them to a metronome (or metro-moan haha), they were that regular.  Not even turning on my fan for some white noise was able to block the sexy time noise coming from the other side of the wall.\n\nSo after tossing and turning and falling asleep half an eternity later, I wake up a few minutes before the alarm goes off.  As I look at the clock, a petty revenge plan hatches.  I leave my alarm on to \"accidentally\" go off while I'm in the shower.  My alarm does a progressive beeping thing that I hope made the late-night horizontal mambo'ers equally as grumpy and sleep-deprived as I felt.", "summary": "moan moan, beep beep!"}
{"id": "t3_1fle9n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not closing the bathroom door.", "post": "Let me start off by saying I got my period this week, and usually I'm smart enough to know to close the door.\n\nI came home from class an hour ago and found my dog sleeping in the middle of the kitchen floor, which he never does unless he isn't feeling well. When I went to check on him the first thing I noticed was that he had dried blood smeared around his lips and he reeked of death, leading to me freaking out and running around the house looking for dead animals or burglars. I checked every corner of the house and came up empty, but when I reached the bathroom, a sudden feeling of dread came over me.\n\nIn my house there are two doors in the main bathroom: one that opens like a normal door and leads to the sink and mirror, and a second sliding door that leads to the toilet, shower, and wastebasket. Normally the sliding door is kept closed to keep my dog going through the trash, but today I was in a rush and forgot to close it.\n\nCue me walking in on what looks like a small murder scene.\n\nMy dog went through the garbage and tore up two of my used pads. There was blood and cotton EVERYWHERE. On the carpet, sink, cabinets, everything. \n\nFor future reference, scrubbing your own period blood off a dog's face and out of carpeting isn't fun.", "summary": "Ladies, if you have pets, keep your bathroom door closed."}
{"id": "t3_sz35t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are some Americans so ignorant?", "post": "I am an African who has lived in Ghana my entire life until last summer. I moved here for a better highschool/college education. A number of years prior to this my Dad had began payments on a house in Texas, which we would stay in sometimes over the summer. Over the years my Dad completed said payments and proceeded to purchase a bigger, even better house. Note that my Dad believes(and rightly so) that the best way to preserve money is in land. He owns no less than 10 properties and these are the ones I know about. This is not to show off but just to put what I say in perspective.\n\nSo ever since coming here I have noticed alot of things. Americans tease **alot**. And not just playful teasing, but just teasing to be an asshole. Shouting my name has become a school-wide activity and people do it so much it's banned during class and sports. Most people do it playfully, but some people are dicks about it. I also get teased because of my accent alot, despite it being my second language and speaking and writing better English than most Americans(If I can say so myself, you'll be the judge of that :] ) I get asked especially ignorant, if not stupid questions, like if we walk around naked, if I feel uncomfortable in clothes, and like having a bed. Most of this I know is due to how badly Africa is displayed by the American media. Nothing wrong with ignorance, but come on, asking me if I ride elephants to me is just plain stupidity.\n\nMy Dad, in foresight (and being more convenient decided to ask my school to mail all documents to my Texas house. My school then wrote in the spot which tells where you're from, that I'm Texan because of my Dad's choice. Students however refuse to believe that I'm actually African, and that I only moved to Texas for school. They then cut me off asking why I wouldn't want to be American, and calling me a racist asshole. I didn't mean to rant but I felt this needed to be said or you wouldn't get my context. So Reddit, why are so many Americans ignorant assholes towards other countries?", "summary": "Ghanaian, moved to Texas for school, people are dicks to me, why is that so?"}
{"id": "t3_3mz0i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] don't understand the importance of trust in my relationship with bf of one year[27 M]", "post": "this applies to my current 1 year relationship with my bf but is more of a general question. I always hear over and over how lack of trust is the #1 dealbreaker in so many relationships, but I honestly feel like being reserved or holding back is just a smart move for alot of reasons. If for example my bf is out for the night and not responding to texts that's ok and I'm not going to interrogate him or go through his texts when I see him, I just mean in a more general sense, as in I feel being reserved and protecting myself/not trusting him all the way is just the right thing to do generally. I have felt this way in all relationships I've ever had and I see no reason to change really. You never really know someone's true thoughts or feelings, and if you open up you are just going to get hurt, so why not enjoy your relationship while also protecting yourself on some level. He (or anybody else) will never have me completely but I don't think our relationship suffers for it.\n\nCan anyone explain why this is so important to many people? I am not a sociopath I swear, just cautious and I don't see why I should change, but it is a problem to other people I have dated. I feel you can enjoy relationships and love without a deep level of trust and it's not as important to me as it is to others.\n\nETA many are reacting negatively which is what I expected/is unsurprising, I already know people get upset about this. Can someone explain to me WHY this is important? I don't want to hurt anyone by being this way, it's just how I feel", "summary": "i always have trouble trusting people and so many say distrust is a dealbreaker but i just don't understand why you wouldn't want to protect yourself?"}
{"id": "t3_3lxaja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) have doubts about my 4yr relationship with my boyfriend (20M)", "post": "20F looking for some relationship advice.\u00a0 My boyfriend (20M) and I have been together for four years and deeply care about each other. Our relationship has been strong (we are primarily long-distance) but now we have some worries about it. We know that we have already been together for a long time for our age. People have now started to comment on this as we have gotten older (e.g. 'you are so going to get married') which has put more pressure on our relationship. Also the differences between us are becoming more apparent, especially on a recent holiday we went on together. These included little things like wanting to have a plan or not; as well as larger things like not being able to read when someone was in a fun mood or not etc. When we get along things are great, but when we disagree it is hard to stop it leading to a fight. \n\nBecause of these flaws in our relationship we have been talking about taking a break to learn more about ourselves as well as our relationship. However we are unsure of the terms this break would take. We know we would want to get back together at some point in the future, but we have no idea about timescale (weeks, months, or longer), or how much we would talk, or whether we would or should be exclusive in this break.", "summary": "still very young; differences more obvious; need advice about whether to take a break & what kind of break"}
{"id": "t3_2zjnip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] of 1 year, sex life is not what I want", "post": "The sex life between my partner and I is not what I want it to be. In the beginning, we had sex quite often - once a day at least. Then a month or so later, it was down to three times a week and then dwindled even lower to one or two by the sixth month.\n\nMy GF's outlook on sex is... well, she does not put it on the top of her list or even on her list. She has never had an orgasm and I have been trying everything to make her have one. Her orgasming is not really the problem - it's her not having sex on her list that is. I guess I mention her not orgasming because I feel as though if I could do that, things would be different. We talk about this every month or so, but I do not want to bring it up again. It (sex) seems more of a chore for her, and I need help in figuring out what to do.\n\nI guess in order, what to do would be:\n1. What can I do to make her 'want' sex? Make her excited and not have it be a chore and something fun for both of us.\n2. I really do like my GF, but I do not think I can be in this relationship if this continues. I hate bringing up the talk and basically always being the one to initiate sex.", "summary": "Read please. I can edit it if more information is needed."}
{"id": "t3_2u9zt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] how do I overcome my fear of dating/relationships? I don't want to get cheated on (again).", "post": "My first post here it goes *deep breath*\n\nFirst off I'm sorry if these posts are common.\n\nI am terrified of putting myself out there and setting myself up for constant let downs. I've been cheated a couple of time. Though, I'm not sure why. I think I'm attractive, I'm an educated woman, I'm a people pleaser, I'm fit, and all around very kind and warm hearted (and extremely kinky). Anyways, they hid it very well from me. All my relationships have ended horribly. I'm usually left with no closure or explanation. \n\nMen (that I've dated) are so nice at first, they manipulate me, tell me I'm the perfect, ask me how I'm single, all that bullshit. Next thing you know they're gone. It's starting to worry me of how comfortable I am just being single. I can't bring myself to even hook up with guys because I'm so turned off (mostly frightened). Why can't I find anyone who will always pick me? Who's excited to see me? That loves me? Is there something wrong with me? (maybe it's just Toronto men)", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2vf68k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] sometimes miss being single, but my gf [22F] doesn't miss it one bit.", "post": "Hey guys, I've never posted anything but this has weighed heavy on my mind for a while now and I really just need to let it out somewhere. My gf and I have been together for about 6 months now, but we have been extremely close since I was 17. \n\nI find myself ALWAYS checking out other girls. I miss being able to hang out with my friends whenever I want. Nowadays I'm with my gf almost all day every day, except when we're at work. I don't mind it one bit , don't get me wrong I love her to death. It's just I fear that I'm getting tied down too soon. \n\nWe plan on moving into an apartment within the next few weeks, and I'm extremely excited, but in the back of my mind I can't help but feel at least a little bit nervous. Idk Reddit, I am very confused right now. She also sometimes behaves like we're married already, she gets mad if I go hang out with friends for too long, she gets mad if I even mention other girls for whatever reason, I guess I just sometimes miss my freedom Reddit, what do you guys think?", "summary": "Gf sometimes acts like we're married already, I sometimes miss being single, idk if I'm just being selfish or not."}
{"id": "t3_22d9qz", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I [M19] and [F19] want to start date. I went out with one of her friends tho.", "post": "This girl and I have known each other for almost a year; we met right at the beginning of school. \n\nAnyways, I went out with one of her good friends for about 5 months (with one month off in there). It was a horrible relationship and my ex is now incredibly rude to me every time she sees me. We broke up around Feb. 10.\n\nWell, this girl and I have gotten very close over the past few months and have just realized that we both have been interested in each other off and on since we met. About a month ago, these feelings intensified to the point that I knew they wouldn't easily fade again. She feels the same (at least she says!).\n\nThe problem is, of course, her good friend and my ex-gf. She has come down on hard times since we broke up and I am fairly convinced that she is suffering from at least mild clinical depression. She has very low self-confidence and is not liked by just about anyone because she is always sabotaging herself by being rude to everyone. The other girl is basically one of her only friends up at college. She, also, basically hates me and has told the other girl that she would be hurt (she may have said \"very hurt\" I don't remember exactly how it was explained to me.)\n\nSo my question is: Do you believe there is anyway we can tell her without her being hurt? We have discussed waiting until after Summer break as well as other options. I made a promise to myself when everything started happening that I would do what is best for my (girlfriend?) no matter what.\n\n I really don't want to have to tell her that it just isn't going to work but I'm not gonna let her ruin her friendship with this girl and possibly get a reputation for being unloyal to her friends just for me. We are very interested in each other though, and I could see this relationship going a long ways. Please help!!", "summary": "Want to date a girl but I dated her ex."}
{"id": "t3_25bvl1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "First post- down 32 lbs since Jan 1st. Looking for help on new milestones.", "post": "Good day r/Loseit! First post, I had contemplated posting my journey prior to this but I got caught up with other things and didn't see at as entirely necessary but now that I made my previous milestone I am looking for advice/help/suggestions for the future.\n\nI started Jan 1st at a weight of 286 lbs and being in the Military I had to get my act together...or else! I shook my head at myself in the mirror and got to it. I started small and slow, running short distances at slow speed, rode the bike and eliptical for lower impact exercise. I'm now up to a consistent mid-8 mile split when I do my daily three mile and that feels good. Long story short, lost 32 lbs by the time I had my Physical Fitness weigh in and cut a considerable amount from the mid section. Wearing a belt I hadn't been able to fit since Senior yr in college, granted it's on the last hole... but the one I had been wearing is on the opposite end of the spectrum so I'll take a win where I can get one. 286 to 254 in roughly 3 1/2 months. Lost roughly 4- 4 1/2 on the waist.\n\nMy issue now. Since that milestone I've sort of lost my willpower. I haven't stopped running altogether but nowhere near what I was doing prior to the weigh in. Put on about 4-6 lbs but it's holding steady... which is great considering the amount of crap has made it's weight into my diet again. My next goal is to lose around another 25-30 prior to early August for my friends wedding and ultimately I'd like to finish the yr at around 225-230 and about 15%. I'm around 260 and about 21% right now and would like help getting motivated again as well as healthy ways to lean out and lose weight the correct way.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Lost 32 LBS since New Yrs. Previous goal met need healthy ways to motivate and lose to make the next set."}
{"id": "t3_2vdpft", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my 4 year old fart on my head", "post": "So I was sitting on my couch trying to find something for us to watch on the tube after dinner.    My son was in a derpy mood, hanging and climbing on the couch.  I usually call him out when he starts climbing on the furniture but didn't this time.  He decides to climb on the back of the couch and ends up on my shoulders, eventually sitting on top of my head.  Then he starts laughing.  Yes, I know it's hilarious you're on daddy's head giggle giggle.  But he had a plan in mind. He knew exactly what he was doing.  He thought it would be funny to literally fart on my head.  Not just a whiff of air.  A 3 second behemoth that reverberated off my head.  I couldn't believe it.  I laughed hysterically but was in total shock.  I picked him up and playfully tossed him on the other end of couch while he was still laughing as hard as ever.  I told him when he goes to sleep tonight I'm going to get him back.  I'm contemplating on how to get him back though.  Thoughts?  I kind of want to fart in his face while he's sleeping and record it.", "summary": "My 4 year old farted on my head"}
{"id": "t3_416xcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my best friend [22 M] of 14 years, I made a really rude and insensitive joke and unintentionally hurt his feelings", "post": "I knew my best friend (we'll call him Jack) since 14 years ago. He's like another brother to me. We'd always have each other's backs, and hopefully continue to have each other's backs. I'd take a bullet for him without a doubt.  \n  \nSo, yesterday, Jack came over to spend the weekend. We watched Star Wars: The Force Awakens for the bajillionth time, played video games, had a few beers. We were having a good time. We started to tell each other stupid jokes, like \"I was gonna tell you a joke about a broken pencil, but there's no point\", or \"Knock Knock.\" \"Who's there?\" \"Atch.\" \"Atch who?\" \"Bless You!\".  \n  \nEventually I told a joke, and he gave me an explanation on why my joke was invalid. I quickly responded, \"Your life is invalid\" as a joke. Suddenly Jack went silent and  started to tear up. I immediately knew something was wrong. Apparently he has been struggling with depression and never told anybody. I just made a stupid \"Joke\" about his life being invalid. He went to his room, and has locked the door. I'm currently sitting outside apologizing, telling him how sorry I am, but he won't respond. I feel like shit. How can I make this right?", "summary": "I told my best friend his life was invalid as a joke. I never knew he was depressed, and now he won't talk to me. I'm sitting outside his door trying to tell him how sorry I am. How can I make this right?"}
{"id": "t3_2clhcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] asked my SO [25M] of 6 months to lose weight, he agreed but is showing no signs of changing, what next?", "post": "Throwaway because he knows my username... \n\nOk, so we have been together for 6 months and his weight has been an issue from the very beginning. I'm 135lbs and 5'8, he's 280-290lbs and 6'3. Medically speaking, he is overweight. He's a big guy anyway and although aesthetically I find him attractive, I worry about his health and our future and the obvious implications. Plus, many family members, friends and friends of family have mentioned his weight and how I could do a lot better and that I'm punching below my weight (which wouldn't usually bother me before, but it's beginning to).\n\nSo, about three or four weeks ago I was straight up with him, told him I love him, how I am attracted to him regardless, but I'd like him to lose weight. He was very okay with it and he was glad I could be honest with him. With a sigh of relief, I thought the problem would be solved. I've lost a lot of weight myself (60lbs) and know how hard it is. But he never seems to stop eating, says he's always hungry and is snacking on all the wrong things: cocktail sausages, chips, chicken dippers, milkshake, sugary drinks, chocolate etc etc.\n\n It's now at a point where it's repulsing me and making me miserable. I notice how he gets so easily tired in and out of the bedroom and it's having a negative affect on how I view him. I want to be attracted to the person I love, the person I see a very bright future with, but with each food item he stuffs in his face, that attraction is being chipped away.\n\nI have no idea where to go from here or what to say to him next. I don't want to be a nagging girlfriend, because everything else is perfect. Any suggestions? I'm kind of at a loss here.", "summary": "SO says he is happy to lose weight for me, but isn't making any noticeable efforts to do so"}
{"id": "t3_14d0si", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Hey reddit, please help me get my dad self sufficient...", "post": "Ok, so here it goes, my dad (60 years old) has worked a great many years as a floor layer (his entire life basically). Hasn't worked much in the past 5, as his body has basically given out on him.\n\nRight now, he's living in Toronto on welfare basically, but he really *wants* to work. But no one will hire him. He has a lot going against him:\n\n* 60 years old\n* Criminal Record for Assault - hit a guys truck with a shovel while he was in it (in the process of pardoning, apparently it takes 3 years)\n* No drivers license\n* No decent job references (spent whole life contracting, and burnt way too many bridges)\n* Has family in Toronto, but he gets along with very few of them\n* He is quick to anger. He was a great dad, but he never got along well with others who piss him off, which leads us into...\n* Hung out with a lot of shitty people through his life, the type who screw you over when they get the chance. So very few friends :(\n\nBasically I don't know what to suggest for him. Where can he get work? He can't lay floors, too old to function. He can;t do anything customer facing, due to assault record. He doesn't have any office skills.\n\nPlease reddit, I'll take any suggestions anyone has.\n\nOne last point, he is needing to get both knees replaced this year at some point. So aside from being down for about 12 weeks, he probably can't do a job where he has to stand the entire day.", "summary": "Father is unemployed, but wants to work, badly. But he has a LOT going against him. What can I do? "}
{"id": "t3_1ob0m8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] went out with [29 F], but it seems like she's not as interested now", "post": "I'm a 30 year old guy that has been largely out of the dating scene for a while now. Was married, got divorced, had a long term long distance relationship that ended two times because she cheated on me with her ex. I recently moved, and have been using online dating to no avail since I got here until this last week. Met a girl on a dating site, we hit it off I thought, talked for about a week before going out to dinner the other night. I thought that things went really well, we talked for hours, kissed goodnight, and all that good stuff. She said she had a really good time and wanted to go out with me again\n\nThat was Wednesday night, since then she's seemed distant when we've texted, and we haven't talked very much at all. She's shown some interest in going out again, but isn't feeling well today so didn't want to go out later on tonight. Then she's busy all day tomorrow and on Monday as well. \n\nI really like her, but I'm not sure how to take all of this. It's certainly plausible that she's simply been busy with work and her life and hasn't had time to talk to me. But after having been burned previously, having girls show interest and then disappear, along with having been cheated on multiple times, I guess I'm wary at this point. I'm just trying to take things as they come and not read too much into anything, but I'm finding it hard not to freak out at least a little bit. \n\nI'm not even really sure what it is that I'm looking for in posting this, if anything at all. I definitely don't want to come across as clingy or desperate, so I'm just waiting for her to contact me at this point. Feel free to tell me that I'm insane and overthinking things, just be honest. Like I said, I've been out of this for so long that I don't really know how I should proceed.", "summary": "Went out with a girl the other night, thought it went well, but now it feels like she's sending some mixed signals."}
{"id": "t3_2r0jlr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] am on a vacation with two different groups of friends who aren't getting along.", "post": "I am on vacation at the beach with some friends. We are staying at a house who was rented by 9 of us, including me. All the people staying at this house - guys and girls - are from my hometown. \nAnd so in another house there are four guys I met at the university and two of them are my close friends. They will show up everyday at the house I am staying at and invite us to have meals and some beers together, but it seems to not be reciprocal. \nThe people at the house I am at clearly show no interest in relating to the guys, for no apparent reason, and so I don't know what to do because I want to hang out with all of them - and it makes me very sad to care about friends who seems just to \"not like some kind of people\" very much. \nWhat should I do, reddit?", "summary": "people don't like each other for no apparent reason. I am the only person both groups know and I am trapped in a beach house for a week."}
{"id": "t3_14lhh8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what strange things will your ex-boyfriends/girlfriends remember about you?", "post": "I'm pretty sure my ex got pink eye from a pair of my underwear. \n\nI had been rewearing a pair for a while because they were so dern-tootin' comfortable. They hadn't gotten smelly at all, but probably had a decent dose of all those horrible particles that accumulate in those areas. And so seeing how often we had sex of all shapes and sizes, it's very likely she had her face right in conjunctivitis's lair.\n\nA friend and I end up talking about wearing articles of clothing over and over, and casually, both agreed that we both wear underwear for a while but also try to keep that shit clean when we remember to. (Other than this, I'm a clean person. I swear.) She overhears this and as I look over to her, I remember she's had nasty conjunctivitis for about 2 days. Girlfriend gets pissed-off and I have a good laugh and joked about it for a while afterwards.", "summary": "ex got nasty pink eye from my old undies and will     remember that shit."}
{"id": "t3_cwqsh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE have some amazing/embarrassing fart stories? The moment that either made you the King of your Throne or completely horrified? Well redeem yourself here.", "post": "I have a couple but the best one to date wasn't from me.\nIt was the spring of 8th grade, gym class. They separated us girls and boys in different fitness rooms. It was the whole fitness challenge deal and we were helping each other with sit-ups. I so happen to be holding this girl's feet down and as a group we counted together one....two...three...and all of sudden this girl let's out a single toot. I looked away, trying to save her from embarrassment, pretending as if I didn't hear it. \n\nAlas, she couldn't even save herself. As we hit number 4.... *grunt*, *goes up* then *pbbbt* *pbbbt* she double-farts again. This time it was one of those womping ones against the blue mats (it was heard by all). By then all the girls were beginning to snicker. The teacher trying to be kind yelled \"5!\" and holy fuck, again she *grunts* *up* **WOMP**!!! It was like she was letting them only slip out bit by bit, trying, for all that is holy, to hold them in. \n\nAfter that everyone was laughing and between her laughter, cries (possibly her plea to God that it would all just end) caused her body to bounce on the mat, which didn't help because she kept letting them out like a machine gun PBBBBTTTT...puuuut...puuut...put...put\u2026.......pbt.  \nIf you could sound that out, that's how I recall it to this day.\n\nI don't recall much after that because I was in hysterics, crying from laughter, holding my side because it was hurting like hell.  Later I was the one teased for getting shot. \n\nI don't know whatever happened to Fart-girl, but surely no one to date has competed with that Anal-Mayhem.", "summary": "7th Grade this girl ripped a few while doing sit-ups and we all laughed."}
{"id": "t3_2y67la", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend didn't physically cheat but the situation is still so messed up i can't figure out what to do. Please help.", "post": "I (27) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (20) for over a year and a half now. We have been doing fantastic lately until last night when I found out that he had been texting another female (20) from January to middle to late feb. He never physically cheated but he would text her about sexual things and they would ask each other about fantasies and things. \n\nI also found out that in the beginning of our relationship He drunkenly made out with a girl he works with but doesn't remember it. Also, a year ago he went out of town and his friend took her sorry of in front of him but he says nothing happened. Them last summer a girl kissed him at a party as part of a game he wasn't playing. He never told me any of this until last night when i was made aware by mutual friends and the girl he had been texting.\n\nI have no idea what to do now because I do love him and, as bad as it might sound, I don't want to start over again. However on the other hand I don't know how I can ever trust him again.", "summary": "He didn't technically cheat but i don't know if I can forgive him :("}
{"id": "t3_25bmmx", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is this weird? Dating advice", "post": "Went out with this girl I met through a friend, met her twice before, had a great night with her. We talked and joked around a lot, were vibing really well the whole night. When dropped her off, told her I like and want to get to know her better and see what happens, she said she felt same but has a long distance boyfriend, they haven't been talking much though. Been texting off and on the past few days, trying to invite her to things, she's been kind of flakey. Basically, I think she is really cool and very pretty, and just want to get to know her better and mess around with each other. If it works out, awesome, maybe it can be more than a fling, if not, it was fun while it lasted.", "summary": "How do I show her that I think she is a really cool chick and I want to get to her better but also would like to mess around too? Without her thinking that I am obsessed with her, which I am not, or that she will hurt me?"}
{"id": "t3_2nbt20", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Parental rights removed but not in jail", "post": "I just wanted to ask reddit their opinion on this:\n\nShort story is my cousin was caught by my aunt beating and kicking her son (13) to near death in a drunken rage. Authorities showed up, got another call, and didn't come back until 3 days later. Her son (13) and daughter (12) have given MULTIPLE never-ending stories of very graphic child abuse, drug-use, and molestation while in the care of their mother.\nShe has been finally found (after 3 years since the incident of her being caught) to have her parental rights completely removed and the children are now under my aunt & uncle's care.\n\nNow that the judge has found her to be an unfit parent, why is she not in jail for all of the accounts of abuse, drug-use, and molestation by her roommates?", "summary": "my cousin's parental rights were removed for drug use, extreme abuse, and molestation of her two children, but she is not in jail."}
{"id": "t3_3zijv9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU- Pretty much ripped my toe nail off.", "post": "So here I am 11pm before school and I'm practically starving, haven't eaten anything all day and I need food *now*. I usually just go with making some grilled cheese but we had no cheese so I put an english muffin in the toaster and I decide I have enough time to go upstairs to the bathroom and take a leak before this thing pops out of the toaster.\n\nNow you might be wondering why I have to be there before it pops out of the toaster, and the reason is simple if it stays out of the toaster for too long it gets cold and the margarine won't melt anymore. You might say \"So what if the margarine is a little cold, that doesn't matter much right?\" But no it does matter.\n\nAnyways, I finish using the washroom and by the time I finish I guess that it's been about 3 minutes. Now a normal person doesn't run down stairs because their food might get cold because running down stairs might hurt end up having you getting hurt right? Well I completely forgot about the hazards of stair running so I ran down the stairs, quick as I could to make it there in time. Halfway down I feel I hit my big toe down on the floor as in I pushed down the toenail *very* hard by the time I get to the kitchen it starts to hurt quite a bit so I pull off the sock to check the damage and *bam* the base of my toenail is bleeding like *a lot*. I yell for my Mom to come downstairs and while I'm still telling her to come down I start buttering my english muffin that just popped because I didn't sacrifice my toenail for nothing right? My Mom is some sort of nurse so she bandages it up and when she's down she casually tells me my toenail is barely hanging on and it's going to fall off and a new one will grow back.  So I was like \"You're kidding, right?\" and she wasn't. \n\nSo now I'm sitting here typing this out while eating my english muffin. Worth it? Probably not.", "summary": "Fucked up my toe so my food wouldn't get cold."}
{"id": "t3_25f21v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of a year, will unfortunately break up within a year when she graduates. How to cope?", "post": "My girlfriend of a year will be graduating at the end of the next year of college. \n\nAlthough we have had some rough patches, we are now closer than ever. Truly we have the same personalities, and thinking about this impending break up is absolutely killing me. \n\nI know we will eventually have to go separate ways, but I really need some help in deciding what to do when next year rolls around, or how to cope with it, or even how to make the time left I have with her as enjoyable as possible.\n\nNeither of us want to leave, but it might be inevitable when she goes on to her career, and I stay for my last year of college. \n\nHelp", "summary": "Fantastic relationship with my girlfriend, who will be graduating next year. Help with coping with an eventual inevitable breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_2ntvb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] want to buy important jewelry (Greek Lavalier) for my girlfriend [22F]. We've been dating a year and I can't afford it because of her metal allergy.", "post": "Hi, this is my first post to /r/Relationships!\n\nI have been dating my current girlfriend, who I met in college, for just over a year now. We have fortunately had a very strong relationship with few fights. To add a little background, I am a member of a fraternity in college, and I am graduating this semester. I understand this is a controversial topic, but please see me through. A tradition of greek life is to buy a girl who means a lot to you a \"lavaliere\", a piece of jewelry containing the greek letters. However, I am unable to completely afford this before I graduate. I have elected to buy her the necklace chain that this charm will go on.\n\nHowever, she has a metal allergy, which I have not had completely explained by her. From what I know, she is able to tolerate gold jewelry, but not gold plated jewelry.  I don't want to ask her because I'd prefer to surprise her.\n\nWhat I am asking is, does anyone in this sub have any familiarity with this issue, and if so, what karat of gold is reasonable? Must I buy the most pure gold (24K, right)? Or can I skate by on lesser quality? I want to purchase this before I graduate in the next couple weeks.", "summary": "I have about a week to buy my girlfriend a piece of jewelry, but she has an allergy to metals and I don't know what kind of gold is pure enough to not cause irritation but impure enough to not destroy my finances."}
{"id": "t3_2bnfii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my husband [29 M] 5 years, how does a military divorce work?", "post": "My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have a 4 year old child together. He is active duty army and stationed in the US. I have asked him for a divorce but he has asked me to wait until he is out of the military before filing because it would be a lot easier. He said that there would be programs to go through and that it would be 10 times harder to do it while he was still in the army. I have a feeling that he is lying to me to try to stay married longer, but I don't know how divorce in the military works. We reside in Florida and I know that for a normal divorce all that is involved is a bunch of paperwork and settling during mediation. Can someone please summarize the military divorce process from start to finish? Thank you very much!", "summary": "I want to divorce my active duty husband. What are the things the military will make me do to get divorced?"}
{"id": "t3_1cvmy7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The love of my life, please give me advice", "post": "I dated a man starting three and a half years ago when we met at university. He's incredibly smart, handsome, funny, and we really get along swimmingly. However, it became increasingly clear that he was serious that he never wanted to get married and I hate long distance relationships (I have needs that can't be met, primarily intimacy and emotional connection) so we amicably broke it off when I graduated about two years ago. \n\nAfter about four months apart he came to me and said he loved me so much he wanted to make it work. I was extremely reticent but finally consented, because our relationship did show great promise except for the marriage issue and the long distance issue. He had one quarter left and I assumed he'd finish up and get a job near me. He finishes up and for two or three months searches non stop. Gets a few offers, and finally accepts one back in our university town. I consented but said you have six months to a year to search rigorously and find a job here with me or I'm leaving. Our relationship experienced a downward spiral of anger and sadness because he wasn't following through. Finally after a few attempts I just broke it off because the constant depression that his failure to follow through put me in was killing me.\n\nI never told him I still loved him at the end (I did indeed love him before but purposefully began distancing myself to try and protect myself from the seemingly eventual demise of our relationship) and just said he was wonderful and I wished he'd made the choices he said he would. I'm in denial almost about what has happened. I keep expecting him to do some grand gesture and try to win me back. \n\nIs this it you think? Should I tell him I love so he knows just in case? I'm at a loss because I honestly could see us being together forever and am so confused as to why he said he loved me so much but didn't make that commitment. Maybe he isn't ready or I'm not the right woman, but then why didn't he leave me alone a year and a half ago? Why put me through all this suffering?", "summary": "I was with the man I thought I could marry but I had to leave him because being in a long distance relationship with seemingly no end was killing me."}
{"id": "t3_1znozx", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Paper Revenge", "post": "I don't blame fast food workers for not being motivated to do a better job. I mean, they aren't being payed enough to care. I get that. When I see a line in front of me and only one cashier up front and another on the drive thru and not even a shift supervisor in sight, I don't blame them for goofing off. I blame management for deciding to violate the social compact of fast food joints. We don't expect the food to be good, or even necessarily food, but it must be fast. Management has decided that my time, and the time of the people in line in front of me, is worth less than the ten bucks they would have to pay to keep another worker up front to prevent the line from backing up. \n\nYou want to mess with the implicit deal? Fine. I will take your napkins! Sure you don't charge customers for them but they aren't free to you. I only need one or two napkins at the most but if you are imposing on me I will take as many as seven or eight. Take that!", "summary": "waste my time and get kidnapkined"}
{"id": "t3_4w7vci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] can't trust anyone after my ex lied and said I was physically abusive", "post": "After 6 year relationship that I left due to lies and her infidelity, my ex has taken up to telling people the reason we broke up was because I hit her\n\nThe reason I know is that my friends and co workers who know her and her friends have specifically heard that.\n\nIt makes me feel sick to my stomach knowing that people hear and believe this, even people I've never met. Knowing I could go out there and introduce myself to someone and have that be the first thing they think of me has caused me to recluse myself and now I don't even go out anymore. I don't think I can adequately describe the kind of damage this has done to me.\n\nShe was smart enough to know she couldn't prove it or press charges, but having people think it was all she would need. Reality is just not as important as perception.\n\nI don't even know what I am asking or looking for here. Just telling someone and having them recognize it's a lie would make me feel so much better. There's no excuse or explanation that i could ever offer that wouldn't sound just like someone who WAS abusive would say.", "summary": "ex lied to the world and said I was abusing her. I want to die."}
{"id": "t3_40xi3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (21m) of 3 years has no sexual fantasies and it's doing a number on me (21F)", "post": "I'm trying to plan a nice Valentine's Day, it's early, I know.  So far I have dinner and a stay at a hotel planned.  Due to our living arrangements we haven't been intimate since Christmas and the hotel will be our first opportunity since.  I've cleared this idea with my boyfriend and he's okay with it.  \n\nThe problem is, I wish he was more than okay.  I don't really know how to plan an evening like this, particularly when it comes to sex.  Like I've said, no fantasies whatsoever.  Do I sit on the bed and see if he makes a move?  A friend of mine suggested lingerie but I have a difficult size/shape, and I feel like that would just put pressure on him.\n\nI have talked to him about this.  The only thing I know about his sex preference is that he likes darkness and silence and romantic attitude.  It's not my ideal but okay.  How can I do this for him?  Should I consider lingerie or are sweats okay?  Should I let him make the moves?  When I bring this stuff up he says not to worry and that whatever happens happens.  But I want him to enjoy himself, not just put up with it.", "summary": "Trying to plan sexy evening for boyfriend without sexual fantasies"}
{"id": "t3_2ntz6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[29M] leaving the country and want to app approach [29F]", "post": "Dear All,\n\nI'm leaving the country for about three years due to a brand new job and I'm going in about two months.\n\nI very much want to ask a girl out who I'm very infatuated with and currently working with but I won't do it until I finish my contract (due to the whole: don't shit where you eat rule).\n\nI'm also leaving the country for Christmas and NY.\n\nThis leaves me (before I go) with literally about two opportunists max to take her out. Is it worth it, knowing that I won't see her again until I return in three years, to ask her out? Assuming she says yes, it seems kind of unfair on everyone as we'll all be left hanging. However, perhaps in three years time we could rekindle but three years is a long long time for the heart. Also, let's not forget I'll only have about two opportunities to take her out so that in itself is very very limited.\n\nWould love to hear your advice.\n\nCheers", "summary": "is it worth the time and effort for a date I may not see again for three years?"}
{"id": "t3_54mxut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24) invited to family's vacation, don't know what to say, it's complicated", "post": "To put this plainly, I've been seeing a counselor for a few months now. We have uncovered that my parents were abusive to me as a kid, and my counselor is considering a PTSD diagnosis. I am ok with the rest of my family, but am especially close with my sister (27) and my niece (3). \n\nBeing around my parents for too long gives me major anxiety. Even driving down to see them, I can feel my legs tighten and my lungs constrict. I used to think I was just a light sleeper, but it's only when I sleep at home (I live next to an active railroad with no problems). With all of this stuff coming to surface for me, I'm having a hard time figuring out what to do with my parents. They don't know what I'm going through, and probably have no idea they caused it. They thought I was a depressed 12 year old with no cause. The way they treat me now is way better, no trace of how they used to be, which doesn't help with my trying to figure out whether to drop them from my life or give them a chance.\n\nI was interested in joining the family vacation this year because I wanted to go at least once to be with my niece. But I found out it would be for 8 days instead of a weekend like how I thought. So now I'm conflicted. On one end, I'd have to be with my parents, whom I don't know how to feel around. Even spending a few hours with them makes me feel drained, and leaving always gives me a surge of relief. But on the other hand, I want to spend time with my niece and sister. \n\nAnother thing is I don't really have an excuse not to go. Besides two weekly D&D sessions and my counseling, I'm not working or going to school. Saying no to this would be a pretty obvious signal to my family that I don't want to be around them. Considering I only see them once every month or so, they may already have the hint, but this would be more definite. I'm terrified of confronting my parents. \n\nI don't know what advice I'm going for. Really anything is welcome. Thank you for your time.", "summary": "Parents (unknowingly?) caused my PTSD when I was little. I get anxiety around them. The family vacation is 8 days long, and I don't want to go because of them, but I do want to go to see my niece and sister. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3q7ro6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by riding my bike", "post": "I decided earlier today that I was going to ride my bike. I start to ride up and down my road, It has a decent sized hill that leads to my house at the bottom. About the sixth time down(I'm impulsive) the chain on my bike falls out. \n\nMy bike didn't have handle breaks and I had no way of stopping and I was going very fast. I decided that I will just ride into my lawn and let the grass slow me down, bad idea. A chunk of pavement is sitting right on the side of the road and my bike catches on this and I flip and land flat on my back. I got up and walked inside and took my shirt off to find the back covered in blood. It turns out that I landed on a few twigs and slid on them with some other objects like rocks. (sorry if this is really bad, first post on here and i'm typing late at night)", "summary": "I fell and really hurt myself."}
{"id": "t3_2kzh6c", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Will working for a \"faith-based\" company hurt me later?", "post": "I'm moving to the bible belt for the first time in my life in a few months due to my husband's job relocation (Nashville in fact), leaving my current full-time job to do so. \n\nI've been sending out applications for about a month to see if I can secure a job before moving. So far I have run across many positions and companies that call themselves \"faith-based\" or promote products such as Christian books or movies, probably 50% or the open positions I qualify for. I'm wondering if working for such a company would pigeon-hole me in the future. The rest of my background experience is quite varied at the moment, but it is mostly internships and one entry-level job since I graduated college recently. I likely won't be at this job for more than 3 years (my husband's job will move us once more) so I want to make sure I remain marketable. \n\nFor the record I'm an atheist and I work in the public relations/communications field.", "summary": "Will working are a \"faith-based\" company reflect badly on my resume when applying for other jobs in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_fal7w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "BF of almost a year is super indifferent about sex -- I'm not.  Help me, Reddit, you're my only hope.", "post": "We're both 18 and in college, and it's an LDR.  I think, in general, our relationship is going really well, especially considering the distance.  We started getting into the sexual stuff around the...3 or 4 month mark, when I went down on him. Every other time after that for a couple months, when I asked, he didn't seem to want to \"go there\" again, but after a talk, we straightened it out and started doing that stuff pretty regularly.\n\nSo before we left for college, I asked him if he wanted to have sex. Both of us were virgins. He seemed blas\u00e9 about it, but we ended up doing it once anyway.  Every other time after that, when I asked, he said he didn't really want to, which made me a little insecure and worried that something was wrong, so I asked him about it and he just said that he's never really cared all that much about having sex and that it's kind of a chore, etc etc. Eventually we ended up having sex one other time, but when I asked if he liked it any better, he said it was the same.\n\nI really don't understand how he can be so indifferent about it, but seem to enjoy our other sexual exploits.  I've talked to him about this a couple of times, but I don't really want to keep bothering him about it; I just really want to understand what he's thinking.  I enjoyed sex (though I didn't think it was the greatest thing in the world, it was still fun because it was with him) and I would potentially like to do it more often with him...I love him a lot, and I don't want this issue to screw up our relationship.  Help me understand what is going on inside his head!", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't show an interest in having sex, even after doing it twice before with me. I've talked to him about it, but still can't understand why he's so indifferent about it. Help meeee."}
{"id": "t3_1o696c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Teased her (21/f) for too long. Have I (22/m) blown it?", "post": "During summer I met this girl and our chemistry was instant. She would make obvious advances but I would pretend I wouldn't see them. So I was teasing her for like 2-3 months, I'm talking serious friend-zoning here. I don't know what I was thinking, the girl was gorgeous et al and we were having great time together. I guess I was drank with power by feeling attractive to her.\n\nSo one day I made the final mistake by sending to her a thinly veiled message (quite long too) full of sexual innuendo so the next day she challenged me (she basically told me \"wtf was that\") and I blew her off saying, \"it's nothing,  I really meant what it's written and there's no innuendo whatsoever\". So she got mad and left.\n\nSince then I'm trying to make amends but she denies everything. Even that she liked me, she only told me this \"to whom one is *truly* missed, he'd do everything to win her back\"\n\nBasically my only chance with her is to go after her. And I have never done this for any girl 'till now and I don't think I'll ever do. I mean I really want her, but she basically had enough of my shit.\n\nHave I completely blown it by f*cking with her for so long? \nOr is there a chance?", "summary": "Teased her for 3 months and had enough. Can I win her back?"}
{"id": "t3_49zuwo", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Someone has left their fianc\u00e9e for me but i am not physically attracted to her,what should i do?", "post": "All this just started a week ago!! I met her online and we spent the day chatting and didn't sleep all night. After the first day she already had feelings for me but she was engaged. \n\nFast forward to a few days later and her fianc\u00e9e has a dream that she's losing interest and the bam she tells him..\n\n2 days later (Today) we're still talking and she's madly in love. And i feel like i am too but i can't answer my own question. Do i love her for herself or i love her for the love and attention she has given me that i never got as a child..\n\nWe live in different country so i can't just \"try this out\" it's either all in or all out...and i'm trying to overlook her appareance and i know this makes me a bad person but i really can't get physically attracted to an obese person..", "summary": "met girl online,she left her husband for me but i'm not physically attrected to her."}
{"id": "t3_47gid5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Seller lied on condo allowing dogs, getting fined, need help", "post": "Need help badly, but I'll try to keep this brief. Bought a place in NJ back in August, with contract stating that I had dogs, and would only buy the place if dogs were allowed. Everything went great, closed on the condo, and lo and behold, a week later got a visit from the management company representative that dogs were not allowed, and if I did not get rid of them, they would charge me a hefty fee.\n\nUpset, as I had my closing attorney look over the bylaws and master deed, I looked over them as well, and had found no such regulation. I brought this to attention to the board, which they stated that the seller lied, and he had altered an email which he sent to the realtor, in which a current member had stated that dogs would be allowed. \n\nIn additon, they also stated that the management company gave me the wrong bylaws, after asking multiple times (I have emails to prove this), I still have yet to be provided with the correct bylaws stating that dogs are not allowed.\n\nI do not want to lose the place, as I made it my own and I love the building, but I also do not want to lose my dogs. Please help, I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Never received any document showing that dogs were not allowed, getting charged fees, seller lied about dogs being allowed."}
{"id": "t3_4khopr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24 M] am thinking up of breaking up with my girlfriend[23F] of close to 4 years, but I'm scared I will ruin her life.", "post": "So, I've been with her for close to 4 years now, but I have noticed our relationship losing steam. Recently I saw an ex-girlfriend of mine, and some past feelings came out. I have noticed that I honestly don't know if I love my girlfriend. My ex isn't in the picture, but i know now that I always felt our relationship was stronger, even though it was 10 times shorter than my current relationship. My relationship is missing something, and I think its just because she isn't the one for me.\n\nThe only thing that worries me is I give her lots of emotional support. She is going to be starting her last year of college in September; and is taking a huge amount of units, works 2 jobs and is very connected to my family.  I feel like a breakup could kill all her momentum and derail her while she is under so much stress. She can get very emotional about things, and usually calls to me to help her stay strong. It doesn't help that she is going to school out of state either. \n\nI don't hate her, but I just have grown out of love with her. I just don't want to hurt her.", "summary": "An ex flame instilled feelings that I have never had for my current girlfriend. I have realized that I don't really love her as much as I thought and should break up with her, but she is emotionally dependent on me. I don't want to ruin her life by leaving her, but I also can't stay. Please give me some advice."}
{"id": "t3_4sytr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [25/F] am not sure what to do about my ex[34 M/] who moved away", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI broke up with my ex bf 2 years ago. (we dated in total for 2 years). We broke up because he moved overseas. However since hes moved I have kept in constant contact with him. (bad I know). We would skype all the time. talk over fb all the time etc.\n\nWe would even do sexual things over skype.\n\nHe always suggests that I should visit him where he has moved to and he would show me around etc etc.\n\nHowever recently I feel like hes not being honest. He no longer wants to skype, doesn't talk much to me. I feel like i'm becoming more of a fall back. \n\nWhen I mention if he is seeing someone else. He always denies it. I just feel like hes not being honest with me.\n\nI don't know weather I just cut contact or what to do?\n\nIf I had genuinely found someone else I would of said for example \"Hey I've found someone else, just wanted to let u know etc\"\n\nI also worry about what if I don't find anyone else.\n\nI am kind of confused. any advice would be appreciated", "summary": "Not sure what to do about ex bf who has moved overseas"}
{"id": "t3_jpplv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Holy mother of God, how do I get rid of these warrior-class fruit flies?! They even live IN THE FRIDGE.", "post": "*", "summary": "super-flies infesting house in mass quantities even after all personally-known extermination tactics have been exhausted. Flies collecting at bottom of fridge daily. What the fuck."}
{"id": "t3_3flj37", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Should I confess to a guy who's already in a relationship?", "post": "I am a 17 year old female currently at an away summer camp that ends in two weeks.  There is a guy (idk age - 17/18?) at the summer camp who I have liked for a few weeks now.  \n\nAt first I thought it would go away (since that's what usually happens to me) but the feelings persisted and ended up growing stronger.  I was going to write a letter to him telling him that I liked him and give it to him on Tuesday, when we have activities together.\n\nHowever, he's started hanging out with one of my friends (female, 17) a lot and I've seen them cuddling a lot together.  The female friend previously cuddled a bunch with two other guys (both male, 17) but still saw them as 'just friends' the whole time.  \n\nUnfortunately, the two guys thought that they actually were in a relationship with the girl while doing the cuddling thing.  I don't know how this relates to the dynamic between this girl and the guy I like, but I'm assuming they're in a romantic relationship.", "summary": "My crush is now in a relationship and I am now part of a mass unrequited love group. "}
{"id": "t3_1r1ys2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (f26) and boyfriend (m23) have recently hit a road block. We've been together for nearly 2 years but it's suddenly gotten hard for us.", "post": "Things have always been good with us, the start of the relationship had it's up and downs with some health/money/family issues but it never really got us down and we kept going strong. Unfortunately these issues did result in us living together after about a week of us getting together so we never got that new relationship experience with each other. On top of that we also had his dad move in with us so we never got any real alone time. We moved to make the situation better on us and it helped but now it's started to get harder. We're not holding proper conversations anymore and we just don't know what to do when we are together so it gets boring quickly and it's starting to make us unhappy. We've tried thinking of things that can help but neither of us are good at this and it keeps resulting in us blaming the start we had and wondering how we could have that now to bring the spark back, but the only option we have come up with is moving apart and starting again which neither of us really want to do. We do love each other, and this is hurting both of us and we just want to make things better again.", "summary": "me and boyfriend been together for almost 2 years, have lived together for the whole time, spark has gone and we need help getting it back. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1ob5dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F 20] deal with my boyfriend [M 19] constantly playing computer games and nothing else, feeling second best", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend now for 6 years. We met in high school and are now living together in the flat we own while we're at university. \n\nEver since we moved in together 2 years ago all I've felt is second best to his beloved computer and computer games. He's studying computer games at uni so I completely understand how he feels about them and have absolutely no problem with that, I don't want to stop him doing what he loves and what he wants to make a career out of.\n\nHowever, it feels as if the only 'proper' time we spend together these days is at breakfast and dinner while we're eating. The usual daily routine is breakfast > uni > dinner > he'll sit on his computer all night! I'll be sat alone looking for something to do > bed.\n\nI've tried explaining how I feel to him, but he always sees it as me starting an argument. He says he understands and will stop being on his PC as much, but nothing changes each time I tell him how I feel.\n\nHow do I stop feeling second best and taken for granted? I don't want us to spend every waking minute together, but an hour a day eating with barely no conversation is not the relationship I want to be in. I've told him i want to take a break and leave which he takes as a joke, and anyway, I dont want to give up on the last 6 years so easily.\n\nSo yeah, any advice as to how I could possibly get him to listen more and maybe not take what I'm saying as a joke would be great.", "summary": "6 year relationship, boyfriend is now never off his computer games and won't listen to how I'm feeling as second best. How do I get him to understand?"}
{"id": "t3_2afrhl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Juvenile Pot Arrest", "post": "Well, first of all I never thought I'd have to make this post, yet here I am. Two days ago, in NJ, a buddy and I were smoking weed when we decided to go to the local park. We left his bowl in my car in open view on the passenger seat. Yes, I know that's stupid as fuck but it can't be changed now. We come back from the park later and it's dark. We head towards my car but there's a police SUV with its headlights pointed at my car. We walk around the block, sketched out as hell, when we decide it's better to just approach the cop. We talk to the cop, and she says that she's there because of the bowl in my car. She says I have two options at this point. I can consent to a search right there and then, or she can impound the car and get a search warrant. I don't want this to take long so I consent. She finds the bowl, a water bottle with vodka, and less than a gram of marijuana. At this point, we're sitting on the curb waiting for them to get on with it. (At this point, the sergeant showed up in his SUV, as did another police cruiser). The search is finished, and then we're both put in our handcuffs and taken to the police station. They get our information and our parents show up later to pick us up. My friend and I both have a family court date and I don't know what to expect. My question for you guys is what can I do to make this any better. Anyway to go about doing things in prepare for my defense? Also, I'm a juvenile. Thanks.", "summary": "cops found weed in my car, got arrested, going to family court, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bxehm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M24] broke up with [F25] months ago, and now hate seeing her happy. Is this a normal thing? And when does it end?", "post": "She was a student of mine in an activitiy that is taught almost entirely 1 on 1. \n\nWe weren't really even dating, per say. Mostly it was a FWB relationship. I told her on our second night together that this would be as far as it goes, and she said sure. Fast-foward a couple months, she wants to stop with the \"meaningless sex\" and take the relationship up a notch. I decline because I felt that entering into an actual relationship with a student would be crossing a line I had in my head. She did not take rejection well: within 48 hours she'd gone out with another guy, and within 2 weeks they were dating. Meanwhile, she contiued to flirt with me during instruction, and eventually admitted to \"tormenting\" me for rejecting her. I transferred her to a new instructor, which she lamented about for weeks.\n\nAnyway, it's been 3-ish months since that point. I don't see her anymore (she's done with instruction), and we're both in relationships. But I see pictures of her online and get angry at the fact she's so happy. She's getting free rides on so many activities that I've had to pay out the nose for, or work hard to earn. She has many issues, and people are showering her with gifts and praise which I think makes some of these problems worse.\n\nI hate that she's getting all these gifts, and seems so happy. Is hate a normal thing at this stage? I don't consider myself a hateful person at all, but this is making my blood boil. I want her to fail (which, as her former teacher/instructor, creates a huge internal conflict).", "summary": "Ex is happy, and is getting a free ride through the industry I've had to pay for and work my ass off to get to the point I'm at in. I really want her to fail and fall apart. Is this normal? Does it ever end?"}
{"id": "t3_m735l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "have you ever met a celebrity and found out they were not at all the awesome person you thought they were?", "post": "back in 2001, I got tickets to the NEC invitational in Ohio for the whole week, since i was a huge tiger woods fan at the time. I went for the entire week of play, hoping to get his autograph, or just say hi to the guy. The final day of play, Tiger wins (of course), and people, including a lot of little kids, are waiting to see him after. \n\nHe hadn't signed one autograph all week long, but this little 9 yr old boy gets his attention for one. Tiger grabs the pic or whatever it was while he's walking past, and without stopping signs it and throws it over his head. The pic or whatever lands like 9 rows behind the kid. He didn't even get the pic back. What a cold hearted bastard this guy was. I haven't liked him since.", "summary": "Tiger woods wouldn't even give a kid an autograph after winning a tournament."}
{"id": "t3_1uebnl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I spend 61% of my Income on a Car? I'm young and unsure, advice?", "post": "Sorry if this ends up being a wall of text. I'm still new about formatting on reddit...\n\nSo, I'm a 22 year old female that has never had a license or car. I'm one of 9 children and unfortunately my parents have absolutely zero money to lend me. I just graduated in December from college with a degree in English (In all honesty words are my forte, not science). In the meantime I have a job that pays 8.50 an hour when minimum wage here is 7.25.\n\nHere is the deal: With all that I've saved I could spend 3k on a used car (no monthly payments) and that would be 61% of my entire savings. I pay 330 a month in rent, I have a 38 a month phone bill, and I'm guessing since I'm a first time driver insurance payments will be at least 100-150 a month if not more.\n\nI want to move forward in life, get a job that pays 12 to 20 dollars an hour since I now have a Degree under my belt. The issue is, with no car I wouldn't know how to get to work even if I was hired.\n I get to my current job through the charity of my parents and relative but it's becoming harder and harder for me to get a lift. I'm worried one day I'm scheduled to work there will be no drivers available. On top of that, I have an apartment in another city. Since I work so often I rarely get to live in my own apartment that I pay monthly for.\n\nI'll admit I know next to nothing about cars. Should I buy a 3k used car? Should I make monthly payments on a more expensive car instead? I just really need my own transportation now! Hopefully I gave enough information to receive some solid advice.", "summary": "I want to buy a 3k used car which would be 61% of all I own to my name. I'm nervous about taking that risk, but I may not be able to get to places I need anymore like to my apartment or my current job."}
{"id": "t3_3no15t", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New beginnings from past failures", "post": "I started this health journey in April.  Then I stopped doing it and went back to some of my old habits.  I've stopped and started a lot on this journey and I've felt defeated every time.  I'm diabetic and have been having poor control of my diabetes due to not exercising and eating foods that are bad for me.  My wake up call happened when I stopped feeling sensation in the tip of a finger.\nI've started over for the final time.  I've had enough of my excuses and have started doing things to prolong my life.\n1) using MFP to track everything\n2) staying under my caloric intake as frequently as possible\n3) going to the gym 5 days a week 30 minutes of cardio and some lifting \n4) checking my blood sugar 4-6 times a day and adjusting insulin as needed.\n\nI started this journey just wanting to lose weight but i found it hard to stay motivated.  After that scare I'm no longer suffering from not being motivated to do better.  Now it's just a matter of discipline.  I'm channeling Batman everyday to not only prolong my life but feel better about myself.  I've been doing the gym thing continually for two weeks now.  Time flies.  But the", "summary": "from this post is that no matter how many times you start and stop the fact that your starting is reason enough to keep going.  Something inside you sees that you want to better yourself, sees that you are worth the effort, otherwise you wouldn't start in the first place.  Do yourself that favor and don't stop.  Keep going, stop making excuses, and just believe in yourself.  "}
{"id": "t3_2rbgwa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (M23) am dating a girl (F21) who has recently turned rude and immature, how do I respond?", "post": "So I (M23) have been dating a girl (F21) for two years. She has an immature side which I appreciate at times, but now it has overtaken her. It has gotten to the point where she has gone back to her old high school ways where she finds guy friends, gets them to like her and then strings them along by playing games with them by playing them hot and cold (making them ask her out on a date only for her to drop him). Also she's become very rude towards me, to the point that it feels like I am being taken for granted and being played along like the guys she befriends to do so. I think she is trying to be rude so that she can gain a sense of independence, as if she doesn't need me. Whenever she is rude to me, how should I reply? Being rude back or ignoring her? It's probably important to take into account that she is a spoilt girl who believes in taking and everything she does is right (due to how much her family have hurt her in the past), so every time I try and talk to her about how I feel about her ways, she makes me feel she deserves to treat me the way she does. For a year and a half, I have seen a side to her where she is very generous and giving towards me but this kind of behaviour has just started in the last month or so. No, I don't want to break up with her, this could be a phase and I'm hoping, with patience she'll go back to her old ways.", "summary": "Immature, spoilt, rude girlfriend act is getting old, so how do I respond?"}
{"id": "t3_340vgo", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Made a small mistake that turned into a huge one..should i resign?", "post": "Hello, i am a newly registered medical technologist and I recently graduated last year; and i am now currently training in a secondary laboratory in a small hospital which is convenient to the location of my house and also the salary is good. To start off, a medical technologist is the one who analyses blood samples, and other body fluids. \n\nAnyway, I am given a 2-week training with pay and after that, I am finally a regular employee. I am now almost 2 weeks in training so, I almost know most of the laboratory work...\n\nToday (Monday - the busiest day of the week), as I was busy reading fluids on the microscope, the owner of the hospital (who btw, is old, diabetic, a doctor and roams around his hospital on his own pleasure), out of the blue went inside the laboratory to find me, alone (my co-worker left to ward and extract blood; yes, there were only two of us) and asked me to measure his blood sugar (the test was HGT for fellow medical people here on the subreddit).\n\nI sort of inwardly panicked because I am not familiar with the glucometer.. I pricked his finger, manually, and he got angry because he said won't I use the automatic finger pricker. I fed the blood to the glucometer and it went ERROR. i tried again and it went another ERROR. Finally, I was saved by my co-worker; the doctor/owner was cursing and asked for my name *gulp*. We apologized, but I know he won't forget my face and my name after that incident..", "summary": "I made a bad impression to the owner of the hospital!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_xljys", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Too many \"bad neighbor\" posts lately.  What are your \"good neighbor\" stories Reddit?", "post": "Around 23, I shared a ranch style duplex, attached only by the garages with a 30-something couple. (small 2-bedrooms, but both had a separated LARGE yard.)  I step out for a cig and told my neighbor (who was just finishing mowing his yard) I wanted to see 'George Clinton & the P-Funk' in the mountains, but I only had enough money for gas up there, or the ticket in... I might as well mow my lawn too.  \n\nI thought nothing of it, but five minutes later, he knocks on my door and tells me... \"Here is twenty dollars, have a good time at the show.\"  I tried to tell him it was too much, but he talked me into it, mostly on my promise to pay him back the money when I got paid. Anyways, I got into the show and even snuck in a half-pint of cheap whiskey to mix with free waters. (Yes, people gave me weird looks, when I went into the port-a-potty with clean water and came out with a \"yellowish\" water cup.) I met some good people, got hit on by a variety of cougars, and made it home safely the next morning. When I got home, I noticed my neighbor also mowed my entire lawn while I was at the show. (At least an hour hard work.)", "summary": "Neighbor gave me the $20 I was short to see the P-funk. I had a great time. He even mowed my lawn while I was gone."}
{"id": "t3_4c4ecd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23 m) best friend (23 m) was being extremely creepy to my girlfriend (22 f) and I don't know what to do?", "post": "I've been best friends with this guy for 7 years. We've always been extremely close and I know he's a generally good guy. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and I love her so much too. They're the two most important people in my life. \n\nYesterday I had them both over at my house and we were just having a nice day relaxing, enjoying the weather and we went swimming in my pool. Everything was really awesome, but at one point I left to use the restroom. When I came back I felt an awkwardness to the situation but I wasn't sure why until later. \n\nAfter my friend left my girlfriend told me that while I was gone that he started asking about her nipple piercings, which she said wasn't weird itself but she thought it was odd that he brought it up while I wasn't there. Apparently he then proceeded to ask her to 'show them to him' and when she said that would be weird he said \"you can't just get nipple piercings and not show people, that's a waste.\"\n\nMy girlfriend said that it wasn't a big deal to her because she thinks he was joking, but I feel like the fact that she brought it up to me said a lot and she seemed upset by it. Even if she doesn't think it's a big deal, I do. I just don't really know what to do from here. \n\nShould I call him out? Am I overreacting or is that really creepy for a guy to do, especially to his best friend's girl? I don't really want to lose him over this but I feel like she won't be comfortable around him anymore and he's not worth that.", "summary": "my best friend tried to get my girlfriend to take her top off 'as a joke', but she's very uncomfortable now and so am I, just want opinions on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_12cfji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] Went on a date with a girl I knew for about a month [18F], asked for another date through text, she didn't respond. Not sure if she lost interest.", "post": "All right, I'll try making this short. \n\nI asked a girl who recently got out of a relationship on a date through text. I didn't say date specifically, she asked midway through if it was, after she gave me a few compliments on my looks. \n\nI said that it was indeed a date. She then went on about how she recently got out of a relationship, didn't know if she was taking a break or not, and told me to not expect anything and that she might break my heart. \n\nBut she did tell me that she will keep me updated. \n\nTwo days later I ask again through text on another date. More than 12 hours later, no response. Is this her way of saying that she's not interested anymore?", "summary": "I ask a girl on a date, she tells me not to expect anything, I don't receive a reply to me asking her on a second date."}
{"id": "t3_3e7ju7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having my unibrow turned into duobrow.", "post": "So I've had a faint unibrow, a few hair here and there, which, at the end, take a sharp turn upwards. They never looked bad, and I've had it for all my life until today.  \nSo my cousin's engagement is around the corner and I, being a solid 7/10 usually, 8-8.5/10 on best days thought about turning a 9/10 alpha by having my unibrow mended. I've always thought about mending my unibrow and looking better than I did with the uni. Alas, The grass is greener on the other side. So I had read some fuck-ups with self-mending of unibrows and decided to go forth with a professional, being my first time.. and possibly the last. Except the professional was a professional of the ladies. He started around with the piece of thread, grazing around my pal in the middle of my brows. Everything was fine. Except he started moving around my brows then, and me being the introverted beta I am, I just said \"My body is yours. Do whatever you want\" and the asshoe fucked it up, making my duobrow look like ladies'. Now, I had a fine thick set of brows that I loved, and which were an integral part of being socially look-able. I'm barely un-laughable now. I don't think my cousin is going to be the center of attraction in her engagement..", "summary": "TIFU by having my unibrow turned duobrow. Duh."}
{"id": "t3_2omehw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my bestfriend [18M] friends for 3 years, are we still platonic?", "post": "I've(18)F have been friends with my bestfriend (dan) for 3 years, at the time we met we were both happily in relationships. I left my boyfriend and moved into a house by myself.  (He's also single) \n\nAfter moving into my new apartment Dan started coming over a lot more, hanging out and eventually spending the night. He's made a lot of statements like \"we're basically in a relationship, but without the sex! haha\" and we sleep in my bed together. We cuddle every night, we cuddle on the couch we're almost always touching. \n\nHe's always respectful when we're sleeping together, he doesn't touch me anywhere but innocent places ie; rubbing my back or stomach. He's never tried to kiss me, and if he ever has a hard on its always angled away from me. \n\nSo here's my question... Are we just really close friends? Or is he waiting for me to make a move on him?", "summary": "is my best friend trying to get me to girlfriend status?"}
{"id": "t3_wae9n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: And fell practically naked into my back garden wherein my next door neighbors who were having a barbecue saw me spreadeagled naked.", "post": "So for some context, I hadn't been drinking at all. But I have some rabbits whom I keep in a pen outside in my back garden. As the night was drawing in I go out to shut them in the pen in my boxers and dressing gown.\n\n As I step over the little wire pen, which is just below crotch height, I don't lift my leg high enough and trip over. And by the beautiful way in which the world works, my boxers snag on the fence and I fall spread eagled into the grass butt ass naked with my neighbors and their friends looking on like I was a alcoholic stumbling around my property.", "summary": "Rabbits taste good in a stew. But they don't taste good when soaked with the tears of my shame and embarrassment."}
{"id": "t3_1af2tf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Need some help. I'm in love with my best friend. (Classic, I know)", "post": "I've been in love with my best friend since high school. I learned recently that she had had a crush on me early on, but I never acted on it. I was too nervous and in a really dark place at the time. She is currently in a relationship with a really great guy, whom she loves dearly. I guess, I need to learn how to stop loving her. I know that sounds like a cliche, but I really need help with this. Yesterday I told her my true feelings, and she said that it wouldn't change anything, but I still feel very anxious about it. I don't want to lose her as a best friend because, well, she is one of my only true friends and a great person. It hurts too much to think about her, but I still want her to be a friend. What the hell should I do? (Sorry if this is not the right subreddit.)", "summary": "How do I stop loving my best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2nedup", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travel suggestions for 1 week (~9 days) duration?", "post": "I live in Missouri, USA. For the past several months I have been saving up all the possible leave I can to put towards a hopefully month-long European excursion with my Best Friend who lives in Switzerland. Long story short, we met when she was a Foreign-exchange student in my high school and have been fantastic friends ever since. I visited her for a month after high school graduation and before starting college in 2010, and the following year she came back here to visit. Now that I have a full-time career while pursuing my Bachelors in an Evening Program (CompSci) and she herself is enrolled in University, we have potentially planned a month long European Adventure sometime in 2016 (we should both be either close or even finished with our respective degree programs at that time.)\n\nNow then, I found out today that it is my Employer's policy to each Fiscal Year require employees at some point to take 5-days of Consecutive Annual leave. My Girlfriend & I had just last week discussed the idea of taking a trip somewhere away, just the two of us, and today's news bodes excellent timing.\n\nSo then, what are my fellow traveler's suggestions for best places to visit in a ~9 day time frame?\n\nMy Girlfriend & I are pretty open-minded and love to travel, be it within the U.S. or outside especially. I myself have spent my entire life in Missouri (besides the month in Switzerland), and have had a few family/conference trips to New Mexico, Kentucky, and Texas.", "summary": "You are forced to leave your home and travel for one week. Where do you go?"}
{"id": "t3_2g8k8i", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can my wife take out a loan without my knowledge? (US)", "post": "Background:  Wife and I have been married for 4 years.  We keep our income separate and have separate bank accounts.  We make about equal money and try to split bills evenly.  I pay for the mortgage and car, she pays for daycare and phones, etc.  We only use debit cards, no credit cards.\n\nMy wife recently took out a \"reserve line of credit\" (her words) from her bank.  We typically only ever use debit cards but she was short one month due to a $600+ bill and I guess her checking account has an option to take out the money easily.  It wasn't a whole lot of money but since it's basically a credit card the interest is bad ($1,000 at 12% interest).\n\nI'm more mad that she didn't tell me than I am that she took out the money.  It isn't the first time that it's happened, but we've since paid off the credit from the previous time she did it.  It seems wrong to me that she could take out debt that I could potentially be liable for.  I don't like the idea of having debt that I am completely unaware of.\n\nSo is this legal?  Is there any way for me to protect myself from this?", "summary": "Wife takes out \"loan\" without my knowledge.  Is this legal?  What are my rights in this scenario?"}
{"id": "t3_16x4q6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [20,F] go after my gay best friend [19, M] ?", "post": "My gay best friend and I have mutual emotional attraction towards each other. He is sexually aroused by men, although he is repulsed by the idea of him being a participant in sexual activities with another male (he is unsure if this is socially constructed or if it is his true feelings towards it).  He finds both men and women attractive (he still loses his train of thought when he sees large jugs and he crushes on other males) and he is emotionally attracted to me. He said he's been wanting to kiss me for about a month now,  and I do too.  A big part of me is stubborn and still want to give \"us\" a shot, but I'm afraid that I'm only digging myself a hole. My best friend's lack of certainty with his sexuality is causing confusion for the both of us. Any word of advice or thoughts to clear my mind?", "summary": "My gay best friend and I have mutual feelings towards each other."}
{"id": "t3_1m7wt3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23M] don't know how to give a gift.", "post": "Plain and simple. I got my [22 F] girlfriend a nice picture of the two of us drawn with a pokemon(like a commissioned piece).  The artist sent it to me and it looked better than i thought and i told my girlfriend i had a surprise for her and she said \"okay lol\".\n\nI then for some reason started to doubt the gift.  I said \"this is stupid, \"im 24 and im giving my girlfriend a pokemone picture?\"  \"she didnt even ask for this, how dumb\".  I essentially shat on it before she even saw it.  I downplayed the shit out of the thing when explaining it to her. I said things like \"yeah if you want you can check your email, i sent you that dumb thing i was telling you about.  Also said things like, \"i know you didnt want this so ,sorry\"\n\nShe did get mad at me and said i need to stop being so self conscious and insecure but i cant help it.  i wasnt fishing for compliments at all.  It might be like some self fulfilling shit prophecy, like im never good enough and nothing i do is good enough so i shit on everything i do to the point that its ruined.  I dont know what to do or how to deal with this.  I dont mean to ruin things, i honestly and really dont.", "summary": "This was a nice gift i looked forward to giving and i ruined it before she even saw it"}
{"id": "t3_43h3pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25f] boyfriend [23m] never want's to do anything", "post": "3 months ago I moved across the country to live with my boyfriend of 2 years (we were in a LDR). I have no friends and family here.  everything is ok and all but we've been bumping heads a lot lately when it comes to going out and spending time together. My boyfriend works  a hard 50 hrs a week as a diesel mechanic. he wakes up at 5am and doesn't get home till about 6-7pm. he is also a Sergent for the army reserves so he has more responsibilities than just the diesel job. he has off (most) weekends. I have a boring job as a security officer. I work 12 hours shifts but I only do 3 days a week. I also do some extra work on the side to bump my hours up to 40+ a week. I usually leave work with a lot of energy to do stuff but I don't bother my boyfriend during the week because I know he is tired and just wants to relax. On weekdays I keep myself occupied.\n\nby Saturday, I am restless to spend time with my boyfriend but all he wants to do is stay at home and play video games. I ask him why he never wants to do anything and he says because he works hard all week and all he wants to do during the weekends is relax at home. ok but... when will there be time for us??? He says when he takes some vacation time off we can do things.\n\nDoes that sound normal to you? Not doing anything at all with your SOs unless on special snowflake occasions? I get that he works hard but I also think he should put some effort into the relationship too. are my feeling validated or an I just being a high maintenance girlfriend?", "summary": "boyfriend works long/hard hours and never wants to go out because of this. I'm dying to go out with him. what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21ongv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Long distance Girlfriend [16 F] 6 months, wanting to break up but im also supposed to go and see her this upcoming weekend..", "post": "Found someone online and we hit it off and we have been a \"thing\" since september 2013\n\nIm supposed to go and visit her, she lives about 6 hours away, for the first time. But i dont want to be with her anymore.. I dont like not being able to hold the person or kissing or any of that stuff..\n\nIve been with her through her mom dieing, her sister getting seizures and she always has people leaving her.\n\nI know it will hurt her either way but should i go and visit her or should i call it off before then, and how do leave things better than how i found them?", "summary": "I want to break up with my long distance girlfriend of over 6 months, and im not sure if i should break it off before or after the first visit"}
{"id": "t3_3qmxud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex wants to get back together. What do?", "post": "Story time. We had a long distance relationship after meeting through a mutual friend. Me: (M/18) Her: (F/18) It lasted roughly 5 months, but didn't work out. We did, however, leave on good terms. We still talk, still laugh and are still open enough to talk about any problems.\n\nThing is, she isn't great at being subtle. So when she mentions 'Wanting a boyfriend', I know exactly what she's doing. I'm not entirely opposed to the idea, but I'm in college and I don't want to seem like an asshole for almost wanting to say, 'Nah, something better might come up.'", "summary": "Ex wants to hook back up. Serious internal struggle. Halp."}
{"id": "t3_3duoq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is a relationship with my [F 17] best friend [M 17] worth risking multiple friendships?", "post": "(Names have been changed for secrecy purposes)\n\nAbout 3 years ago, I [F 17] met my best friend Paul [M 17]. We have stayed extremely close throughout high school, and we seem to hang out a lot.\n\nPaul and I are both part of a big friend group of about 15 people. Almost every week, the 15 of us go out to do something fun as a group.\n\nThe more Paul and I have been hanging out, it's gotten less and less like a friendship and more and more like a relationship. We turn on a movie and cuddle the entire time.\n\nI have heard from our other friends that Paul has liked me since freshman year when we met. At the time I had a boyfriend who I was with for about 2 years and broke up with recently, due to a very emotionally abusive relationship.\n\nI haven't really thought of Paul as anything more than my best friend until recently. But ever since the emotionally abusive relationship, I have a fear of relationships right now, and the last thing I want is to start a relationship with Paul and then lose him as my best friend later on.\n\nI also fear that, even though I am also friends with the group, I could lose them too if something happened between us.\n\n(this part of the story is kind of irrelevant, but if anyone has any advice on how to handle this let me know)\n\nI also have been talking to Jake [M 17], my old crush from freshman year, a lot lately. I think I like him again and I don't know if I should keep exploring what could be something special with Jake, or if I should cut that off and focus on Paul.\n\nThis situation makes me sounds like a dumb child, but it has been very hard for me. Especially because there is pressure from the group for us to date.\n\nAny advice would be great, thanks!", "summary": "I am scared to start a relationship and ruin a friendship"}
{"id": "t3_z6ms8", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just because you're old doesn't mean you don't need to grow up", "post": "The Starbucks crowd can act really entitled, but there's no one worse than this 60+ year old regular.  Let's call him Bill.\n\nBill and I like sitting in the same corner.  I don't know why he does, but I do because it has space for me to put my stuff where it's out of everyone's way and not taking up a chair - it allows me to be considerate.  When I get to Starbucks first, I sit there.  Bill was so openly aggressive about it that I finally just sat somewhere else until he left and switched seats.\n\nBut an asshole is still an asshole, and he'd be aggressive towards me no matter where I sat.  Not to mention, I come everyday and he doesn't, so there are days I'm trying to be considerate and ultimately end up losing out on the seat I like to a third party.  But whatever, it's a seat - I don't own seats in Starbucks and I'm not going to make a fuss about it because I'm a grown up.\n\nWell, after Bill didn't show up two days this week, I decided I'm not waiting for him to have his seat, and he can grow up about it.  He is about 40 years my senior, and there's no reason I should be more mature than him - girls don't mature *that* much faster than boys.  Today I was ordering a bagel - yes, I order as cheap as I can when I'm here - and he saw me and called me a bitch.  And he always throws comments my way, but that was unfairly harsh.  I have done nothing to him other than like the same damn seat and finally had enough of letting him dictate my sitting habits.\n\nI'm starting to bet Bill was raised as an only child and never had kids of his own, because he has 0 signs of maturity despite how old he is.  High road or low, he bitches at me for existing, and I'm not letting him drive me away.\n\nSorry for the rant, but seriously - how do people get to be that old and have the maturity of a two-year-old?", "summary": "Senior aged Starbucks customer acts like he's entitled to a seat to the point that he throws temper tantrums when he can't have it."}
{"id": "t3_3lowok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24m) and friend (21f) pretty much fucked up our friendship last night.", "post": "Original post here:\n\nSo last night we go to the bar and end up talking all night, eventually the conversation turns to where i thought it might, about how she doesn't want to marry the guy and how she wishes we got a shot. I thought she was just gonna go for it, and I would have to do all the resisting, but she started addressing all my red flags and telling me that's why she can't just break up with the current BF for me. Because she'd feel like a piece of shit for cheating on this guys after breaking up an engagement for him. She already feels shitty enough for cheating once, and she said its her own damn fault for rushing into the rebound relationship without being sure it was what she wanted. Plus she said she's happy with him, and has no way of knowing if she'd be happier with me so its best to just let things run their course naturally. The night ended with us looking at the skyline on the beach, and it was bad. Like we didn't do anything at all, but the tension was too thick so we left.  So now we're in this odd pseudo relationship where we're trying to be friends, and we both agree it would go well for nobody if anything ever happened, but it is a fucking pain in the ass. \n\nI know I'm under her thumb, but I told her we were \"breaking up\" last night at the beach and that we weren't gonna do this anymore. I know she doesn't mean to lean on me emotionally, its mostly my fault because I haven't had a relationship in about 10 years and I welcomed the company and I can honestly say at worst she's just ignorant of what she's doing. But hot damn, why did one of the hottest girls I've ever met have to do this.", "summary": "Discussed the emotional cheating nature of relationship and broke it off before it started. How do I stay friends, and feel better about this at the same time?"}
{"id": "t3_esqeb", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Help with blind kitty", "post": "I've posted about [Rudy] on here before, trying to find him a home. He is a gorgeous 2 year old boy who is blind. His owners dumped him and his sister off at the shelter I volunteer at. He is only two years old.  \n\nWe have had a pretty bad URI going around, and Rudy caught it. He became seriously ill, and another one of our volunteers took him to the ER on her own, since the shelter doesn't tend to spend that much on any of the animals. This woman's name is Ali, and she has taken in many of our cats with special needs, such as a kitty with thyroid problems recently, and another who almost died from the URI named Sunny. She has had to pay for these herself. \nI have become very attached to Rudy. He is a real sweetheart and loves attention. He gets around well in spite of being blind, and just needs a home, which I'm hoping might be mine. Anyway, the vet that Ali took Rudy to had to admit him. He was dehydrated and has something going on with his kidneys, and it seems he has something other than the URI he is fighting. He is being put into ICU and may have to have a feeding tube for a few days. \nThey did an ultrasound and his kidneys have improved some, and they are saying it is not genetic, but rather caused by whatever it is he's fighting. We are asking for donations towards his vet bills. It is likely to be several thousand by the time he's done, but it doesn't seem incurable at this point, so it's not wasted money. \n\nWe would very much appreciate any amount you would be able to donate. Ali's paypal address is addraper@sc.rr.com or if you'd prefer to send a check, her address is:\nAli Draper\n2302 Darden Drive\nFlorence, SC 29501\nIf you donate, please just put 'vet bills' down as the reason. Anything is appreciated! \n(I ok'd it with her before posting her info!) \n[Here] is Rudy's petfinder listing. He's currently in a hospital in Columbia, SC.", "summary": "Please help us save this gorgeous cat. "}
{"id": "t3_1jhvyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22] with my Friend [29M] - Asked me out and I said no but wondering if I made the right decision.", "post": "My friend and I have known each other for about a year and a half now and are very very close. We live far away from each other so have only seen each other in person a handfull of times, but talk every day etc. We get along ridiculously well and I'd say he's probably the closest person to me. \n\nHowever, I don't see him as any more than a friend and I thought he saw me the same way, until he asked me out last night. I told him that I didn't feel that way about him and he said that was ok and that he didn't really expect that I did, and we just have carried on with our lives doing what we normally do. But I'm having second thoughts. I'm not attracted to him physically (he's not unattractive - just not my type) but pretty much everything else about him is amazing. On paper, we'd be perfect together. I'm just very confused. I've never been asked out by a friend before, and half of me doesn't want to ruin the friendship we have because I don't know what I'd do without him but the other half wonders what could possibly happen if I said yes. He's pretty great. I probably couldn't do any better if I tried. Because it's not like I'm a massive catch, and my experience with relationships is pitiful. Part of me thinks if I don't take this opportunity, nothing will ever happen for me. But that's not the main reason for the confusion. I just don't know what I should say. So really, I'd just like to know if anyone else has been in this situation and what you did about it? Would it be worth ruining the friendship to pursue something that might be great?", "summary": "Best friend asked me out. Not attracted to him but he's perfect on paper. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3c5jio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do i [F18] leave him [M16] now or later? [6 months in]", "post": "I'm in a relationship with a guy I dont love anymore.  Our relationship is stale,  that's absolutely zero sexual anything, and I'm moving in a year anyway.  \n\nThe thing is,  I dont want to be stuck here where I am for the next year, alone.  He's always been there,  he's my rock, when everyone else leaves me, I still have  him.  And everyone else thinks we are the happiest couple ever,  we've been together 6 months (exiting the honeymoon phase)  and I'm starting to realize how boring he really is.  \n\nThen there's the fact that I cheated on him a couple weeks ago with an ex who I was totally in love with.  ( I was upset and lonely and he was there and it ended up happening) \n\nOn the other hand,  all of my friends will probably take his side,  and i know if we end I'll just be alone until I move.  \nI dont want to be alone for a year. \n\nAdvice? \n\n[", "summary": "I dont love him but I'm lonely]"}
{"id": "t3_34du6g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing along with a joke.", "post": "This morning I brought my dad's car to a mechanic for the mandatory vehicle inspection.\n\nAll goes well, I'm about to pay and leave when the cashier asks me for my e-mail address to get a reminder for the next one, to which I answer \"The car's not mine, so no thank you\".\n\nThe guy waiting behind me decides to be funny and ask if the car's stolen, the awkwardness in me comes out and I just smile and shrug.\n\n30 minutes later I'm at home and who's at the door? The cops! The funny guy really thought I stole the car and called them! Why would a car thief take the car for an inspection? I had to spend 10 minutes explaining the whole situation to the cops and show them the receipt from the mechanic to get them to leave.", "summary": "awkwardly played along with a joke, got a visit from the cops as a reward."}
{"id": "t3_2cnjf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [9+ months] is a bad gift giver. Help! [16f and 17m]", "post": "Throwaway because my boyfriend is an active redditor. \n\nI've been dating my boyfriend, 'Tyler', for around 9 months. For each holiday/anniversary that has come up, I have thought long and hard and gotten him many expensive, thought-consuming gifts.\n\nChristmas, Valentines Day, his birthday, and our 6 month anniversary are all things I have spent a lot of time and money making special. I do not have a job so personal income is hard to get, but I have spent $50-$75 each holiday, along with hours of careful planning and gift making. In response, I get a cheap, inpersonal gift, or worse..the promise of a gift. \n\nIt may seem petty or bratty, but I take gift-giving very seriously. I have several components for each gift, and each one takes a long time to do. It upsets me that he has gotten his parents to buy me gifts averaging at around $10 tops.\n\nHe has a job and a steady income, as well as a car. He tends to use those things as excuses. I do not have either of those things, but I still manage to get him something nice.\n\nI don't know how I should talk to him and get my point across without feeling bad.", "summary": "My boyfriend is very impersonal with his presents, and it upsets me because I try to do a lot for him during holidays."}
{"id": "t3_11csf7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have any of you recently been to Cozumel, Mexico or know the area well? I'm curious as to the \"safeness\" of the region.", "post": "This year in university I've enrolled in a Scuba Diving Class as a way to fill credit hours for my financial aid status. After completion of the course you are given the opportunity to obtain your certification, and I've enjoyed the activity and decided this is something I'd really like to do. The staff organized a trip to Cozumel, Mexico for us all to go to and get certified. They worked really hard to do this for those of us who were interested and ended up getting the deal ridiculously cheap! I've seen pictures of the amazing clear beautiful water down there and realize this may be an opportunity I may not get again. I've never traveled before outside of Texas and have always wanted too; funds always seem to be tied up. But I've finally saved enough money to make this happen and I really want to take advantage of it, and have a good time but I'm genuinely concerned. Now I have heard that it is more of a tourist kind of place but I'd like to hear more experiences. With all that has been going on in Mexico considering the barbaric killing and crime I'm just hoping to hear from a few redditors that have perhaps been to the area and what their experience was like? Or is there a reliable place online I could visit to maybe read up on the area?", "summary": "I've gotten the opportunity to go on a Scuba Diving Trip in Cozumel, Mexico. I've heard the area is beautiful but I'm fucking scared shitless because of all of the crime/killings happening there. Has anyone been there, what was your experience?"}
{"id": "t3_43sxg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [37F] fiance [44M] ignores my son [13M] but overall is decent to him. Should I say something?", "post": "My [37F] fiance [44M] ignores my son [13M] but overall is decent to him.  They do spend an evening a week together and get along OK - neither has complained about the other. Well my son wouldn't complain if it was bothering him because he is the type to keep everything bottled up inside.\n\n My fiance has no experience with kids so I have just been happy he has been going along with the flow and I do make sure he knows I appreciate that he makes an effort.  But we have been living together for a few months and it bothers me that my fiance hardly ever talks to my son or says hi or goodbye when he leaves. \n\nHe used to make more of an effort but it's gone by the wayside. My son isn't rude to him but he also doesn't intiate conversation with my fiance either. They both talk to me all the time and have said they feel ok about each other.\n\nI have kept my nose out of their business but I really feel torn. Both want my attention & I try to make sure neither feels left out. I just feel like like there are undercurrents going on here, and with them being guys, if I say something I am afraid it will just make the situation worse.\n\nMy fiance grew up without a good father figure and I know he cares about my son so he is trying to do his best. But I am not sure he even realizes that he is ignoring my son and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt.\n\nAm I being too overprotective and should just keep my mouth shut & let them work it out? Or should I say something to my fiance? I just really don't want to cause friction in their budding relationship but I am a momma bear & want my son to be treated well! Help me please?", "summary": "My [37F] fiance [44M] ignores my son [13M] but overall is decent to him. Should I say something?  He does spend some time with him by themselves, but most of the time they don't even aknowledge each other. Neither said it bothered them so is this a guy thing?  Am I being overprotective?"}
{"id": "t3_zdaqi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "First Time Post. I need help.", "post": "Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this.\n\nI am 22 (23 in 15 days), male, 5'9\" and obese. I currently weigh 320 pounds, down 70 since April of this year. The problem I am having, is, I am still not happy. I see small things every once in a while, like fitting into XXL shirts and being down 2 sizes in pants, but I don't feel like I look any different. Besides that, I am weak, out of shape, and just overall miserable. I work out maybe one time a week, feeling like I'm going to start a daily work out regimen, but then stop working out for another week. This cycle has been going on for 5 months now, and I'm fed up with it. I think the biggest problem I'm having is that I do not know where to start with working out. I run/walk for 20 minutes when I do work out, and then ride a bike for another 10 more minutes. I want to start lifting and replace fat with muscle, but don't know where to begin. Any help/advice/encouragement would be helpful.", "summary": "Fat, out of shape, lazy. Want to fix all 3."}
{"id": "t3_3ip19v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21 M] am concerned my GF [22/F] of nearly a year is using me for citizenship", "post": "We've been together for exactly 9 months today. I've been really happy with her and we've had some amazing experiences together, but everything has happened so fast. In our first month together we visited her home town in Spain, and I met her family. She goes to school here on a visa, and I thought she had a plan for staying in the country.\n\nShe calls me up a few weeks ago and says her parents are cutting her off and she only has a semester or so left and if she can't stay in school she will have to leave. She told me that marriage was her only way, and said that if it wasn't me she'd have to find someone but she hoped it would be me(This part is still really bothering me.) I told her nothing concrete but that I wanted to find a way to help her. \n\nOur relationship has felt real so far. And she says I don';t have to do anything, but she keeps alluding to marriage. I asked her to move in with me; I figured if we're together I can get a better picture of what a future for us together is like. But still, I don't feel like I'm ready for any of this and I don't even feel like she's that exicted to move in. And just today she tells me she wants to get a marriage licence, I told her not to get ahead of herself and to take it one step at a time but she said it was just something she needed to do just in case. \n\nHonestly everything's moving really fast and I don't want to lose her but if I don't marry her she's going to be really screwed and lose her future. I don't know what to do, and her saying she could find a friend to marry if I don't bothers me even more", "summary": "If I don't marry my GF our relationship is probably over"}
{"id": "t3_1c28xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20, M]y sister [17] is dating a friend of my father [26]", "post": "Last week my sister came home after going to her friends way too late. I asked about it, and she went to this guy who is a friend of my father. We also know him a little, and he is a good guy, not someone who would abuse her. She didn't tell my parents, though, but my father suspected something.\nBy the time I'm writing this the following has happened:\nShe went to him twice, lying to my parents where she went.\nI talked to her, and she says she is in love with him. And vice versa.\nShe also said they were going to tell my father some day.\nI told my sister I wasn't sure a relationship with him would be a good idea, because of the age difference.\n\nNow, are my concerns merely social stigma, or should I do something? Should I tell my father, should I tell my sister she should stop seeing him because it's not right?", "summary": "My sister is dating a friend of my father, who doesn't know, and I don't know what to tell my father or if my doubts about the relationship are rational."}
{"id": "t3_289cud", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm 16, cyber schooled, and becoming socially awkward. How can I fix it?", "post": "So as the title says I am 16 and I go to cyber school which is basically homeschooling but through a school district. It's only been 5 months in cyber school, and I'm out for the summer now. I've been realizing recently that I have a hard time finding friends, and then following through and talking to them. I really like having friends (as I'm sure most people do) but I find it hard to make new friends. The reason why I need new friends is because I moved pretty far away from my old place and know no one around here, and it would be great to get to know some people.", "summary": "I have trouble making friends after a recent move, help?"}
{"id": "t3_3d7tsv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not using my own clean glass.", "post": "This happened last year, but I feel as though I effed up so hard I should share it with fellow effer uppers. \n\nMy husband and I work opposite shifts during the week. He leaves for work at 4:30am and gets home around 2:30-3, and I leave for work at 10:30am and get home around 8:30. He usually is in bed before or shortly after I get home and has already eaten dinner/lounged around a bit. He'll get tired and sometimes leave his cup or plate from dinner out on the coffee table. \n\nWe don't have a dishwasher so sometimes I will just reuse his cup if we are drinking the same thing. This period of time we were on a cranberry-grape juice kick. I came home from work and made some food, and refilled the cup he had used as it had about an inch  of juice left in it. I finish eating and start chugging the juice and I have a teeny tiny amount left when I notice something floating around and flowing up toward my mouth as I drink. \n\nWhat the hell? What is that? Oh, just my husband's TRIMMED TOENAILS.\n\nI drank a whole cup of dark grape juice that camouflaged anything in it until the very end. There in the bottom of the damned cup were little off white crescents of clipped toenails. I usually ask him to please not throw them on the floor because stepping on them is sick, but what the shit. I'd rather step on them than have my drink flavored with sweaty warehouse worker toe clippings. GAGBARFVOMIT!! I seriously cried a little and then told my best friend who still likes to remind me of the incident.", "summary": "Always check cups before you fill them. Or just use a clean one because washing a cup is not that hard. Today you learned."}
{"id": "t3_2a4vpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/m] I annoyed my crush [21/f], to whom I have never confesed my feelings, with a ploy gone terribly wrong", "post": "I've a huge crush on this one girl who is way out of my league.\n\nWe've met maybe twice last year, talked on facebook quite a bit, but she had a boyfriend, so I kind of abandoned all hope. \n\nThis year, however, we went to a concert together in March, and she broke the news to me that they aren't together anymore. We've met once again a month ago, and spent almost the whole day together. Nothing intimate has come out of it. These were the only few successful attempts to meet with her-there were plenty invitations that she dismissed (although mostly for legitimate reasons.)\n\nSo, here's where I decided to try a little ploy: I purposefully put myself in a position where I needed her specific skills to get me out of it. And she did help me out a few times, at first. But then I got too needy, and she outright refused to help me. Now, I don't know what to do. I think of giving her a present, as a token of gratitude for the help, and finally make my intentions clear.", "summary": "never admitted my true intentions (although they should be more than obvious, given the persistence with which I invited her to random things,) tried to use Ben Franklin effect on her, it backfired."}
{"id": "t3_11r2hn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your hobby?", "post": "I'm a father to two sons, (2.5 and 8 months) and need some help branching out into a new hobby. I'm having a hard time finding ideas that work with my timeframe and availability, and thought Reddit would have some ideas. I currently spend my nights playing video games, watching TV with my wife, reading, or running on the treadmill/watching NFL. I want to start \"living a little\" and have been motivated by some of the ideas on Reddit, but I already play an instrument, speak another language, and am looking for some realistic and specific ideas.\nI would like this to be a post-8PM activity for the most part, but could also make a once a week during waking hours habit happen. I love board games, poker, music, etc. I live in MN so it is about to be COLD. Please just give me a few ideas of what you like to do in your free time, I am being picky on what I start because I am going to give it a lot of my energy! Thanks for your inputs.", "summary": "Dad who is sick of current late night activity. Need some help with specific hobbies."}
{"id": "t3_46qhir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18 M] Aunt[40 F] is labeling me a retard for not graduating high school on time,and blaming my mom[48 F] who in turn is shaming me into believing my aunts B.S", "post": "My mom's brother(uncle) and his wife(aunt) have always been condescending,badmouthing idiots.They not only hate other's success but also badmouth and talk nasty stuff behind people's backs.\n\nI had to skip graduating high school last year due to respiratory infections,spent a month in the hospital.Everyone in the family knows this,but my uncle and aunt refuse to believe it.\n\nThey have been blaming my mom for being lax which is the reason as per them caused my dyslexia and that was the reason i couldn't graduate high school.\n\nNow my aunt has told almost everyone including her extended family about how i failed high school and that i should stop my education and the fact that i am dumb and cant even do daily stuff etc. \n\nShe has also blamed my mom for letting me browse the internet freely without restrictions and stuff which as per her has caused me to be diagnosed with dyslexia.\n\nMy mom now is inturn blaming me for not getting good grades(B+ isn't a good grade as per asians] in the past which would have prevented all the shaming and name calling.\n\nConfronting the \"AUNT\" isn't worth the effort since she would get more stuff to badmouth about.\n\nAll this is affecting me a lot these days and causing sleepless nights,how am i supposed to deal with this. \n\nAlso i am due for more shaming from everyone if i dont get into engineering school like everyone else in the family.", "summary": "Asian-Indian Family is shaming and name calling me for not graduating high school on time,and blaming my choice in music,games,hobbies etc for me being a dyslexic.This is affecting me Internally and causing sleepless nights."}
{"id": "t3_4xbaa8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Housing question mess", "post": "I have a crazy situation here that has multiple levels and am not sure the best way to handle. This is in NY. My SIL lives in townhouses. She recently got new neighbors who are total scum. The house they purchased is unlivable no water or electric or anything. They got three dogs from the pound and have them chained up out front. Well multiple people have called animal services and the police so now instead of taking the dogs away she has hired a homeless man to live at the trailer to watch them. Can this stranger just live without utilities? How do we get all the animals dogs cats others out of this situation? I've tried looking at squatter info but this person isn't really a squatter if he is living there to \"watch the animals\". I cannot find the correct law to fight this. Thank you so much for any help you can give.", "summary": "Is he squatting? Is this legal?"}
{"id": "t3_41jnh5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/F] concerned that my boyfriend [21/M] is doubting our relationship", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I are best friends. He is my entire world and he is always telling, and showing me, that I am his. We live together, and co-habitat very well. I literally don't know what I would do without him. \n\nThe thing is, we got in a pretty bad argument the other day, regarding going out with some friends. Long story short, I ended up telling him to go away, he packed his stuff. He never left, and we talked it out, but I feel like since that's happened we both have been feeling weird. I feel nervous all the time, and I feel like he is questioning whether or not he even wants to be in this relationship. I have tried to talk to him about it, and he says he's not going to leave, but he's been super quiet, and just different around me lately. We don't joke as much, laugh, and he just looks miserable. \n\nI have no idea what to do or think. Should I just let it go and see what happens (while being scared to death and worried) or should I tell him all of this again? How would I even know if he's doubting us or not?", "summary": "had an argument with my bf that spiraled out of control, now I feel like he is questioning whether he wants to be with me or not."}
{"id": "t3_i6c6l", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "The truth about fried Kool-Aid...", "post": "Good morning, CookIt.\n\nI'd like to tell you all a little story about marketing.  Specifically, the marketing that started the latest ***FOOD CRAZE THAT'S SWEEPING THE NATION***, fried Kool-Aid.\n\nLet's look at the facts.\n\nPlain cake doughnut [[Source](\n\n    2 cups all-purpose flour\n    1/2 cup white sugar\n    1 teaspoon salt\n    1 tablespoon baking powder\n    2 tablespoons melted butter\n    1/2 cup milk\n    1 egg, beaten\n\nFried Kool-Aid [[Source](\n\n    3 eggs\n    1/4 cup to 1/2 cup Kool-Aid (We like grape)\n    1/4 of sugar (Want it sweeter? Add more)\n    1/2 tsp. of salt\n    2 tsp. baking powder\n    2 cups milk\n    3 2/3 cups of flour \n\nAny questions?", "summary": "Deep Fried Kool-Aid is a donut.  Get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1lr2lp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16m) haven't talked to a previously close friend of mine (16f) in almost a full year.", "post": "First of all, sorry if this isn't the best place for this post. Just redirect me and I'll thank you.\n____\n\nI can't figure out why she stopped talking to me. I made several attempts all throughout the fall semester last year to regain that friendship, one that I valued incredibly and regret losing immensely. Each time I tried to talk to her, I got the (very clear) message that she didn't want to speak. \n\nI considered the possibility that she thought I was romantically interested in her, and that scared her/ weirded her out, but I'm not, and have done my best to convey that  without straight up saying it. \n\nI thought I had gotten over it, but after seeing something we made for a teacher a while back together at school this morning, it sort of brought everything back, and really forced it back to the front of my mind. \n\nBefore this, we had been close friends for about 2.5 years.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice about what I can do to either a) rekindle this friendship (preferable), or b) get over it? \n\n___", "summary": "Friend (16f) stopped talking to me (16m) about a year ago, and was very obviously opposed to that changing, every time I tried last year. It's really been bothering me again the past few days, and I'm trying to find a solution, whatever that may be."}
{"id": "t3_1jw8gd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24M] girlfriend [20F] 2 years, Broke up with me but.....", "post": "About a week ago she broke up with me because she said she had a lot of problems she had to deal with and she could only do it alone. She also said that she felt drained trying to stay in the relationship and fix her problems at the same time. She says she loves me very much and that I am her best friend and it kills her to see me so broken but she just has to fix her issues before she can move on with us or alone. She admitted after breaking up that she missed me already and I tried to tell her that maybe we just need to work our things out and move on with each other. She said she is going to try her hardest to fix us so we can be together again. Well I found out she is talking to a guy friend of hers a lot and I mean a lot. I confronted her about it and she said that he is helping her sort out her problems in her head and that she is in no way interested in him. To me it seems that she is just replacing me as quickly as she can and not giving us any thought at all. We still talk daily and it usually goes decent but if I bring us up she wants to end the topic as quickly as possible or if she does want tot talk about it it isn't for long. But, if I bring up my suspensions with the other guy she continues to tell me nothing is and ever will happen she just sees him as a friend. She recently told me she want to be alone for awhile and that meant I would have to wait to get back together with her. I can wait but for only so long and the issue with the guy just makes me angry and is kinda making me move on and just say forget it her loss. I don't know if im just over analyzing this and making a big deal out of nothing or if I am just being stupid and refusing to see that she left me for him.", "summary": "She broke up with me because she says she has problems she needs to figure out alone and felt as if she was drained. Talking to a male friend a lot, says nothing is going on. Hints that she wants to get back together but not for awhile. Don't know if over reacting or just my heart playing dumb."}
{"id": "t3_g1dnd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Financial advice for a student who is about to take a year off of school to go to Europe? (Credit Card? Savings Account?)", "post": "I am a 20 year old economics student who has no real credit history (I pay my cable, electric, and water bills every month on time), and I have decided that I want to take a year away from my studies to go to Europe, hopefully to find odd jobs and travel. \n\nI know that I will need some decent financial backing to make this idea a reality, but I don't want to come back to the states in bad financial shape if I end up staying a bit longer than I currently intend to.\n\nI was thinking about getting a credit card to help build credit and cover emergency expenses that may arise while I'm abroad. Advice?\n\nAnother idea I've heard is to calculate my monthly expenses (rent, utilities, and food) and to open a savings account with enough money to cover three months of expenses. Any thoughts?\n\nI currently have a part time job, and my current student loans are not concerning at this point.", "summary": "I'm going to Europe, need financial planning advice."}
{"id": "t3_1qczi7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] need advice regarding making my relationship with my girlfriend [18F] sexual - have been together a little over 5 months.", "post": "As stated, we've been dating for a hair over 5-months and both love one another; however we are relatively inexperienced (actually, completely inexperienced) and consequently have yet to make any steps whatsoever toward a relationship of a sexual nature. \n\nWe have gone little further than making out, and understandably this has resulted in some tension and long discussions. She is reluctant to move forward due to being uncomfortable with the topic, and I respect this. While we have talked about it at length and agreed to \"try and break down barriers,\" I am afraid the process will simply stall, due largely to the fact that she is relatively indifferent to the matter. I also don't want to constantly be the one initiating things, or nagging her to be more open.\n\nWhat frustrates me is that she expresses quite positive attitudes toward sex, especially in her artwork and discussions with myself and friends. I don't judge her for this dissonance, but I'm terrified of pushing her and due to a complete lack of intimacy for the first few months of our relationship, I'm worried that this simply won't happen at all. I would potentially be okay with a sex-less relationship, but perhaps not happily.\n\nI lose some self respect every time I bring it up, so perhaps Reddit can help with my situation? I will provide any additional or needed information as requested. I'm sorry if this issue seems too vague or trivial for anyone to render assistance, but even general insight or vague advice would be highly appreciated. Thanks.\n\n(Does this belong in /r/sex instead of here? I'm really not sure.)", "summary": "Approaching the topic of sex with two inexperienced individuals is harder than I thought, halp?"}
{"id": "t3_16exyf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M21] talking to [F20] but not sure what to do.", "post": "So, I have been talking to this girl recently. She seemed somewhat into me, although she is very social so I could have possibly misread it. Anyway, I texted her asking for coffee about a month ago, before x-mas break and she said she was busy then but she would like to. I said maybe another time and she said definitely. I stepped back here and kind of assumed it was a polite no. She texted me over break a few times so I texted back and we talked for a bit. I figured that maybe she was into it so I said texted her again once we got back to school asking her to coffee again. She hasn't responded and it has been two days. She has never taken that long to respond so I am assuming that means no to the coffee. But I would like it to not be awkward between us so I am not sure what to do. Do I text her back? If so, what do I say to her to not make it weird or come off as mad?", "summary": "Asked a girl to coffee again, no response after 2 days. I am taking this as a very obvious \"no\" but do I text her back or do I just let it go? I don't want it to be awkward between us and it really surprised me that she didn't respond so I am kind of thrown here. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3bsb2r", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need advice regarding 2 vehicle accidents.", "post": "Hey reddit,\nIll get right to the point. 5 weeks ago i was involved in an accident where a state trooper rear ended me. It took a very long time to deal with their insurance but my vehicle was drivable (rear bumper and trunk pushed in) ive received a check from them and had an appointment to fix my vehicle this thursday 07/02/15. Fast forward to Monday 06/29/15.... I was rear ended again. This accident pushed my rear bumper and trunk in more, possibly sustained more damage. I just dropped it off at repair facilty. What happens next? Does the insurance from car accident #2 cover all of the damages? What do I do with the check received from car accident #1? Thanks again for all your help reddit!", "summary": "Got rear ended twice. Did not fix the first accident in time. Now have check for 1st accident and vehicle at repair facility for the 2nd accident. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3akmmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] got called into meeting with HR Manager for to address false allegations, I learned much more. Need Advise moving further.", "post": "So, I was called into a room with 3 managers, one of them being the HR manager. Basically, I was accused of some bullshit which I obviously didn't do and I am pretty sure they believed me. However, there was something much more disturbing that took place. It is important to keep in mind that I do not work in some small company, this is one of the top companies in the planet with over 80k+ employees.\n\n1. The HR manager said that as we are all adults in the room, it's ok to use the N word. She started to blare it out saying it would both the \"er\" and \"ah\" ending and laughing. \"It's ok to say niggah, we are all adults here, no need to say the \"n word\", HAHAHHA\"...basically I was sitting there like what the hell...is this some sort of trap to get me to say it? No, she really did believe there was nothing wrong with what she was saying and doing.\n\n2. The conversation shifted to professionalism and I told her it's not ok for coworkers to be sleeping together in the work place. I told her it's unprofessional. She says no, nothing is wrong with that. It's ok, two legal consenting adults. Again, I am sitting there, thinking WTF? The other managers in the room don't say anything.\n \n3. Basically it came to a convo about where someone else at work at told me that I \"need to get laid\". I told them I am not offended by this, I don't think this way and I just ignored them. She asks me why I didn't report them, it is against sexual harassment policy. I made it pretty clear to them that no one at the time found it offensive, I handled it like an adult by ignoring them and not blowing it up. I was actually more offended by this convo with the managers than I was actually with my coworkers. \n\nThis company is going downhill with people like this lady. How do I deal with this? I am thinking pushing this to the manager of HR manager.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1gm8gu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Wanting to tell my close-minded, conservative family I want to be a Sikh, but unsure how to do it. Any help?", "post": "I'm 24, but I still live in the family home, having moved back after graduating university with no money or job for my own place. I currently live with grandparents in a small town I hate. \n\n  Some relevant background to this: I was, until my final year, a committed and baptized Christian, a member of my university's Christian Union, church-going every Sunday. I decided to take adult baptism (I was Baptist) against the wishes of my family, who were split between hating all religion and my grandparents who thought that I was being silly to take baptism again when I'd already underwent infant baptism.  \n\n Long story short, I fell away from the Church and then eventually found Sikhism, having looked at a fair few religions. \n\n  Now my problem is quite difficult. Aside from the fact that this transition of mine happened quite quickly (within a year to be exact), which could potentially lead to accusations of religious flip-flopping, my grandparents are massively conservative and anything they don't agree with is ignored (at best) or actively despised, shouted at and mocked. \n\n  This leaves me with the massive problem of how I can tell them I wish to be a Sikh without causing a massive upset. It's not as though I can just come in one day and say 'oh guess what, I'm deciding to take amrit (Sikh baptism)'. Bear in mind it's not just a case of what I believe but also practices such as not cutting my hair, wearing the kirpan dagger or wearing the patka which WILL be noticable. \n\nThis problem is made worse by the fact that the nearest Sikh community is the next town over, which means that any support or help they may be able to give is going to be limited. It also limits any positive exposure my family have with Sikhs. \n\nSo, what do I do?", "summary": "I want to be a Sikh, got massively conservative grandparents living with me, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yiw8s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I handle my[19/m] anxiety and my girlfriend[18/f]?", "post": "As of late I've been in a downward spiral with respect to my schooling and general outlook on life. I worry about meaningless things and take a lot out on myself when I get nervous about my girlfriend. \nI'm very much on the clingy side if things, where as my girlfriend needs a bit more space than I do. I see somethings I want changed, like how much contact we have during the week, maybe 2-3 times where we actually get to have conversations or other things right now. \nWe've been together for 7 months, at the start she texted a lot and gave me attention I guess I kind if want a little more of that at this point... But I don't know how to ask for it. I don't want to outright say that we aren't seeing each other enough because we are lucky to have those 2 or 3 days.  But I also need to have that little bit of attention to distract from my academic things.", "summary": "How do I ask for more time without sounding more clingy than I already seem to be? Also, what do you think the middle ground is of seeing someone too little vs seeing someone too much, what do you think the \"right\" amount is?"}
{"id": "t3_2oesbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop caring so much about being single?", "post": "I'm a 23 year old, single virgin medical student. I'm trying to find someone to date but every girl is seemingly either taken here or not looking for anything. Also, I'm reluctant to even ask anyone out because I'm scared of my having my life change drastically by virtue of being in a relationship. Even so, I still get depressed when I meet a nice girl and find out she's in a relationship. I don't want to end up alone in my 30s while all my friends are living happily ever after. How do I stop caring about all this?", "summary": "23M single, virgin, can't find a girl to date, get depressed when I meet nice girls and find out they are in relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2lpz7u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being rude to a homeless man", "post": "I feel like a douchebag.\n\nI live near a major highway and I always see these people standing on the street with their signs. Today I decided to give one man in a wheelchair $5 at the first stoplight. At the next intersection, I saw a woman with her family waving at everyone with a sign that said they needed help. I had seen them before at the same intersection so I did not give them anything. Finally, at the last stoplight I see a homeless man smoking a cigarette and he heads towards my car and stars cleaning my windows.\n\nI immediately honk my horn twice and gesture him to leave. I did not realize how loud my horn was and how incredible rude and mean that was. He quickly finished cleaning and dried my window rapidly. As he left he said, \"Sorry about that.\" I have no idea what came over to me and I din't even apologize...I just drove off. I can't believe how irresponsibly I acted and I am sad to have done this to this poor man. He actually seemed like a nice fellow.\n\nPart of me thinks that I was just tired of seeing these homeless people every day. The fact that the man was doing something that I heavily dislike, smoking, did not help and I just reacted like a child. It' still no excuse and I still think of how badly I reacted.", "summary": "I lost my shit and took it out on a poor homeless man."}
{"id": "t3_38coez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F] with my fiance [M] 8 years together, online chatting with people on pornsites...please give me advice", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have been together sines we were 16 in high school. I love him and I did honestly trust him with anything. I was staying at his house and had to send an email with a picture to my mom. My computer wouldn't hook up to the Internet and so I then went to go use his laptop, which he never has a problem with. While I was on there I noticed a porn site. \nNow let me say I really have no problem with porn. I know he is on the sites and all I ask is that he is just discreet and uses it when I'm not around. \nThis was bad on my part but I had the best intentions I promise. I clicked on the site to see what kind of stuff he was into. I wanted to maybe spice things up in the bedroom and I figured i could maybe act out a favorite porn of try some new stuff and surprise him with it.\nI snooped through his profile and saw that for the past maybe 4 months he has been messaging random people in our area asking for things like blow jobs. Now none of these conversations have any numbers or personal information exchanged so I know he hasn't hooked up with anyone but they he says things like I'm willing to travel closer to you and it looks like we live in the same town want to hook up. \n\nNow I don't really look at porn or participate in stuff like that, is this more common then I think?\n\nI'm so upset how do I deal with this? \nHow do I bring this up with out telling him I went through his shit?\n I don't know what to do. How do I know this stuff won't happen when we're married? ( I want to work this out )\nHow do I even hangout with him after this I don't even think I can act normal.", "summary": "Just found out my fianc\u00e9 is asking to hook up with other porn site users in the area. No personal info was exchanged but there is more them one person he's done this with and he says things like I'm willing to meet you some place and has stated our home town. I snooped a little and now I don't no how to address it without saying I snooped. HELP PLEASE I'm so upset I can't stop crying."}
{"id": "t3_22ul3s", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bitchy McBitch Face", "post": "I work at a classier version of Hooters. Therefore, we have a lot of very pretty (but a lot of times catty) girls. Today, I had a closing shift. Since it was a busier night, I was one of the two closers we had. Another girl who just stayed late, let's call her Bitchy McBitch Face, told the manager how \"rude\" I was and how I was so \"rude\" to a new trainee. The other closer happened to overhear her shit talking and told me what was being said to the manager. BMBF did her check out after that, and I gave her a HUGE fake smile. \"Have a GREAT night, BMBF!\" \n\nShe didn't even looked at me and walked straight out, and sat down in the other closers section. The other closer was helping some other customers so I walked up and proceeded to take her drink order, her food order, with the biggest fucking smile on my face. BMBF ordered a burger, medium. I told the kitchen well done. \n\nEnjoy your crispy burger, bitch. Thanks for the tip.", "summary": "A girl I work with kicked a little puppy so I killed her parents."}
{"id": "t3_udt5p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I learned that 35 years ago, my parents mailed dozens of baloney sandwiches to various government officials and local celebrities. They called them the Baloney Sandwich Awards. What is something you found out later in life that made you realize your family is awesome?", "post": "I was having dinner with my folks last night, and we were talking about [the guy who mailed his victim's body parts to political offices] when my mom starts laughing inappropriately and mumbling about baloney sandwiches.\n\nSo then I get told this story: when my parents were first dating, they decided to have their own private awards ceremony called the Baloney Sandwich Awards. They decided on a bunch of random categories and then made a big stack of baloney sandwiches. They wore gloves in case of fingerprint identification (ha!) and mailed the finished sandwiches from various public mailboxes all over the city.\n\nThey spent the following week reading the paper, watching TV and listening to the radio, and cracking up anytime anyone mentioned receiving a mystery sandwich in the mail with an insulting or congratulatory message attached. \n\nApparently their pick for Worst Radio Talk Show Host was quite insulted, and mentioned tossing his sandwich into the garbage during his banter with one of the other DJs, at which point the other DJ said, \"Oh, I got one one of those, too... I ate mine. It was pretty good.\" He had won Favourite Morning Show Host.", "summary": "Parents are probably wanted for baloney terrorism."}
{"id": "t3_2cf1d5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking bathroom sink with my butt.", "post": "Ekhm, so yeah, I took a dump and wanted to sit on the sink and use it as a bidet to wash the fallout zone, just like I've done it many times in the past, successfully (hey don't judge me, I like that clean butt feeling). \n\nToday was different, however, different because as I'm turning around to reach for the soap, the unthinkable happens, the sink cracks and collapses under my weight, and so does the cabinet. Mind that I'm not exactly fat, yet the structure must have reached the critical mass and collapsed under my weight. As I'm trying to get up from that wood-porcelain pile of shame, the sink springs back up a little and pinches my butt so hard that it's bleeding now. What a disaster, how do I explain myself when I call out sick today? Thankful though that the incident spared my ballsack..", "summary": "used sink as a bidet, nearly broke my butt"}
{"id": "t3_21a0cp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] I did 30 minutes on the Elliptical without dying!", "post": "I know it doesn't seem like much but normally I'm not able to do the elliptical, it's almost been the most avoided piece of equipment in the gym for me. But today, I got back from vacation and said you know what, I'm finally done with \"starting tomorrow\" and I should do it RIGHT. NOW.\n\nSo I walked to the gym and tackled the beast. It wasn't ALL that bad, my legs burned but I kept telling myself I could do it and trying to remind myself that if I'm ever going to be healthy, I had to finish this workout!\n\nAfterwards I probably looked really stupid walking back because my legs feel like stone.", "summary": "If my lazy ass can do it, so can you!"}
{"id": "t3_4vchv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] got admitted to university in Denmark. My [18F] girlfriend of 1 year was supposed to study with me, but did not get accepted. I have to choose between relationship and education, and I have no idea what to do.", "post": "Today I received my admission letter, which was saying that I am offered a study place at university in Denmark. I have already payed a material fee of $250 a month ago. \n\nIt turned out that my girlfriend didn't get admitted, and she has no place to study at the moment. I really want to study abroad, but I don't want to leave her. What's worth noting is that I also got admitted to local university, so I can choose whether to go or stay.\n\nI'm young and bad at taking decisions, so I decided to ask you for an advice, perhaps from someone older than me. Thanks in advice.", "summary": "I got admitted to university abroad, my gf didn't. I have to choose between her and studies, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_js247", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you get over someone who was never yours in the first place?", "post": "Redditors,\n\n4 years ago I developed a crush on a friend of mine. We were in the same class, and hung out quite a lot, and the more I got to know him, the stronger my feelings became.\n\nNear the end of 2009 I bit the bullet and confessed how I felt for him. He was flattered, but flat out stated that I was just in the friend zone. I was hurt. Things got awkward between us. But gradually we patched things up between us and became good friends again. My feelings for him still didn't disappear.\n\nI made my move again summer of 2010. I went up to him after our graduation ceremony and kissed him. He freaked out. Again, things got awkward. And again, we patched things up. He went to the military and I took a year off to work. We lost contact.\n\nThen I got involved with another guy and thought I was def. over said friend. But then that relationship failed and lots of stuff happened (nutshell: issues, depression, etc) and I was too busy with other things to even give a thought about him.\n\nThis summer came, and I was also recovering from my depression. Things were good. Then the Oslo bombing + shooting happened, and when I saw soldiers in the street my immediate thought was \"oh my god, is he safe?!\" \n\nSo apparently, I'm still not over him.", "summary": "Fell in love with friend, got friend zoned, tried again, same result, need help getting over him."}
{"id": "t3_2hly9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] starting to date someone [33 F] Im worried about the age gap", "post": "Hi,\n\nIt's not really a problem, more of a \"how do I handle this\" situation and I was looking for different opinions. I have started to date a lovely women, she's gorgeous, funny and intelligent and I really like her but one thing holding me back is the age gap. I'm 26 and she is 33, we are into the same things and such but I have a nagging voice in my head saying \"she's too old for you\". \n\nI've only dated women my own age before so I am worried what other people might make of the relationship. Reddit, Am I being an idiot for worrying about ages with a wonderful woman and how can I get around this?", "summary": "I'm dating awesome older woman, want to take things further but worried about age gap, am I worrying for no reason and what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_27rr6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not even enough physical attraction to enjoy kissing my (m24) girlfriend (f23.)", "post": "We have been together for three years now, and I can not think of a time that I have ever been actually physically attracted to my girlfriend.  I love her to death, the thought of not being with her makes me feel ill to my stomach; yet I cannot even enjoy sex, kissing, or anything actually intimate with her.\n\nAside from the lack of physical attraction, we do enjoy each other's company. She takes great care of me, heeding to my needs and I heed to hers as well. Our personalities are quite different, I am an introvert and can go a long time without doing social events. She, however, is a strong extrovert and constantly needs to be doing something different. We've recently had arguments about me needing to be doing more activities with her, other than going to the movies, hanging out at the house, and going to the bars with our friends.\n\nTo give it a short summary. I am not physically attracted to her, our personalities differ completely, and I do not feel fully committed to our relationship like she is. I feel like I am doing her an injustice by keeping her from finding a guy that likes to do all the activities that she does. And more over, a guy that will put more of his own love into the relationship.", "summary": "I feel like I am holding her back from a truly happy relationship while I fake being physically and emotionally attracted to her because I am scared of losing her. (or being alone again?)"}
{"id": "t3_ioibq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: Do you / does a person need a partner to be \"complete?\"", "post": "I'm in my mid-20s, healthy, live in a major metropolitan city in the US, have a well-paying job I enjoy, great friends, etc etc (the works). For the most part I'm happy on both a day-to-day basis and with my life in general. There are girls that come into my life in a romantic context, but their presence is transient. It's not me, it's them: when I can't see a future, I cut things off. I've been single (not in a bf / gf relationship) for over a year now and I have to say that the thing I crave the most is the intimate connection that comes with a good relationship. I want to go from living for \"me\" to living for \"us.\" I want a partner at my side with whom I can grow both personally and as a couple. I could keep going on the \"wants,\" but essentially even though I have what I would consider a very self-sufficient and independent lifestyle and mentality, I do find myself feeling an emptiness that only a good girlfriend could fill.\n\nAnd... I think that as one ages, the void left by lack of a close partner becomes increasingly evident. So, no, I do not believe we can be complete on our own.", "summary": "My answer is yes."}
{"id": "t3_3rnh62", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Tip: When in doubt, just ask.", "post": "Short story time. \n\nI made a goof recently with paying my credit card bill. I always pay in full the week prior to it being due. I don't do auto pay for this card because often times I have things being refunded back to it or credited to it and would rather calculate how much I need to pay to hit $0 balance myself. Whereas with auto pay it would likely overpay and I would have account credits. Not a big deal, but something that bothers me.\n\nAnyways. I was going out for the weekend. So I quickly jumped on, figured out what I needed and hit pay, got up and ran out the door without even looking back. Didn't check my email for confirmation and overall just screwed up.\n\nToday I got an email from my creditor (Chase) saying that I was late in paying and was hit with a $25 Late fee. Obviously I was distraught. \n\nI immediately got in contact with them and asked if there was an off chance that since I have never been late before and use this card a lot if they could waive the late fee and interest charges I would likely incur. Without hesitation they said \"No Problem\". They credited me the late fee and are waiving interest for 2 months. \n\nNeedless to say, I was relieved. Even though it wasn't a lot of money, it was stressful. I haven't paid interest in nearly a year and dread the thought of ever doing so again.", "summary": "When in doubt. Give a call, or at least send a message. Even if its only over a few dollars. These places love your business and will lend a hand."}
{"id": "t3_oujbv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if we all don't pay income tax this April out of protest?", "post": "If the 1% rarely, if ever, pays their fair share of taxes, why should we? What if this year as a united group of fed up citizens, no one pays taxes. Would it have any effect, would the government take notice, would they punish us all, would Ron Paul be proud? Or would it empower the 1% and lobbyists even more?\n\nI feel like it would take something big and truly unified to really get the attention of the people in charge. The Occupies, while I support and admire them, don't really seem to have much effect, and I imagine simply are being laughed off by the 1% and a majority of the people in government.\n\nI would love to see, something short of violence, actually make an impact. Would this do it?\n\nThis is my first post, be gentle.", "summary": "Let's not pay taxes this year to stick it to the man."}
{"id": "t3_1y4ba5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "How did you improve your mile time?", "post": "Hi /r/running!  I'm still a pretty newb runner.  I started C25K back in late July 2013, and I am now up to a long distance of 5 miles and in training for a 10K.  My biggest \"obstacle\" right now is my pace.  I'm 5'4\", and I'm not sure if my short legs have anything to do with it, but I average around a 14-minute mile pace.  I know that for a lot of you, that hardly counts as running!  The best time I have done to date was a 12-minute mile during a 5K I ran last month.\n\nI have tried treadmill ladders and walk breaks and other techniques, but my mile time doesn't really seem to budge.  It's a problem for me, because I have trouble running with buddies since they have to either slow WAY down for me or leave me in their dust.  I also want to do a run at Disney World in October, and they have a minimum 16-minute pace to enter, which is a little too close to home for me.\n\nMy question is this:  what did you do when starting out (or what do you do now) to improve your mile time?", "summary": "Looking for suggestions from others on improving mile time."}
{"id": "t3_38uyke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m23] Me and the last girl I had really a connection to [f23] broke up nearly 2 years ago and I've been having the urge break a year and a half of silence after so long. How should I proceed?", "post": "First off, it'd be nice to mention that me and this girl dated for 5 years, from we were 16 to 21; through most of high school and college. Like any relationship, we had highs and lows brought on by both of us which always became passive aggressive.\n\nAfter one mistaken night, she felt I had taken advantage of her(however, I hadn't), broke up with me, and then proceeded to call me every name in the book to our social circle(abuser, manipulator, cheater, rapist, etc; all things which never happened). So we break up and neither of us take it well and we keep a thin line of communication which eventually breaks down. I start seeing somebody new and I presume she does too but I couldn't say for sure. \n\nAround this time, I find out she's been stalking me through a web service to monitor traffic for a personal blog that I host. It's obsessive, she checked it multiple times a day, even hundreds of times a month. At some point, she finally slows down on it months later, noticeably when she finds out me and a fling stopped seeing one another.\n\nThe kicker ends up being that I've still thought about this girl I dated for 5 years everyday since we've broken up. I want to reach out to her but we had such a toxic thing in the past but I know I've grown as person a long time since but I don't know what good it'd do breaking this near 2 years of silence. I don't have an endgame really; more than anything, I just want to hear from her and see how she's been particularly since she appears to be doing well, however I don't want to adversely affect her and cause more drama and emotional strife.", "summary": "Me and longtime girlfriend break up on bad grounds, we have time apart and silence for 2 years, I want to break it and reconnect."}
{"id": "t3_3tt09y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my (26/f) boyfriend's friend (24/m) has a crush on me, though he hasn't acted on it. Do I tastefully confront/reject him?", "post": "Lately I've been talking to one of my boyfriend's acquaintances. He is really smart, we have a lot in common, and I like him as a person, but sometimes I get the feeling he has a crush on me. He will text me a lot, tell me repeatedly that I am really cool or smart, tell me that I \"brighten up his whole day\", ask me a ton of questions about my likes and dislikes or stories from my childhood, and he just shows a really strong interest in me as a person in general. More than your average friend.\n\nThe thing is he never actually directly hits on me. The most he's ever done was ONCE point out a picture of me and tell me, \"Wow, you're really beautiful.\"  Then shortly after remark, \"you have great looks to match your great personality :) .\" He's also told me very randomly that I have \"cute hands and feet.\"\n\nAnyway, how do I reject him tastefully, do I confront him at all? He knows my boyfriend and we have a bunch of the same friends, so it absolutely has to be tasteful. Combined with the fact that I like him as a person. I am used to guys being very aggressive and straight forward with their interest in me, which is way easier for me to reject. I don't know how to handle someone indirectly showing interest in me like this.", "summary": "I think my bf's friend/acquaintance has a crush on me, even though he never directly hits on me. Do I reject/confront someone who is so ambiguous? We have many of the same friends so it has to be in good taste."}
{"id": "t3_hxblv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Thinking about getting out of here.", "post": "Hi, I'm a 25 year old guy from Puerto Rico with a BA in Computer Science who can't find a descent job here. I've already been interviewed from 9 different places for programming jobs, even been called twice from 3 of those and still nothing. I know it's hard to find a job ANYWHERE, but I'm feeling that I won't find anything worthwhile here.\n\nMost of my friends already found good jobs in the U.S. and they are doing pretty good over there so I was thinking that I should give it a try too. I have some family members over there (in NY) so maybe I would talk to them and see what's up.\n\nProblem is: I've never traveled before so I'm quite scared to try and do it...\n\nDoes anyone else have or had this problem too? I really can't seem to find a job here. As you know Puerto Rico is a tiny little island so there aren't as many job opportunities as other countries and 99% of those opportunities require at least 100 years of experience...\n\nAnyone care to give me some kind of counseling ? Any tip would be appreciated :)", "summary": "Want to find a job outside Puerto Rico (NY maybe). Too scared to travel. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_2iek9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my First Real Relationship[16F] Two Weeks in, Need advice", "post": "To start this off, I dont want you guys thinking Im just a really non-sociable guy, I actually have had kisses and make-outs, but it has all been with friends with benefits. All of it!\n\nMy problem is \n1.How fast to go.\nI dont want to end up making her mad, even though she told me she trusts me (Im a really nice person, always giving her compliments and I really do like her. A lot. Not just for her looks , but **her**\nBut...I digress.\n\n2.How to read signs?\nI have kissed her..on the second day of dating. I really read the signs wrong and thought she wanted me to kiss her, I did and it wasnt bad (Not as bad as my real first kiss, I landed lips right) but later she told me that no, she didnt want me to but didn't mind it.\n\n3. How to tell her I need space without hurting feelings\nI have tried telling her that I dont want to spend certain times together, as we spend nearly every other period together. \n\nI just want some general advice.\nAll my other relation ships have lasted 2 weeks or less because I just cant hold it together.", "summary": "I need relationship advice."}
{"id": "t3_qk9v0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your best 'phew, that was close' story?", "post": "I'll start: Last summer I used to go to the small pool at my apartment complex to study every day after work. It was really nice because the complex was almost empty and there were never more than 3-4 people there. This particular day it was insanely windy and at one point a HUGE gust blasted through. Being lazy, I didn't get up and try and grab my stuff like everyone else but just curled over my book while I heard things go crashing by me. When I looked up, there was a massive sharp wood stake sticking horizontally out of the back of the chair right next to me. One of the umbrella stands behind where I was sitting had cracked off and had somehow been propelled through the back of the beach chair, ripping through the fabric and everything. Definitely would have done some serious damage if I'd been sitting one seat over. Of course the people and staff at the pool freaked out while I calmly opened my book and resumed studying. Just kidding, I cried like a 5-year-old.", "summary": "I almost got staked once."}
{"id": "t3_4gxopb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making guacamole with a 'special' ingredient", "post": "This didn't happen today, but I was making nachos with guac earlier and it reminded me...   A couple years ago, I was at a friend's house helping to make food for a party. I was in charge of chopping the vegetables and making the guacamole. At the time, I had a large, almost dime-sized scab on the back of my hand (probably from tripping up the stairs or something stupid like that). When it got to the crushing/mixing stage of the guacamole, I asked my friend if he had a potato masher and he said it was fine to just use my hands... This is where I fucked up.       I mashed the avocados with my bare hands and really wasn't thinking at the time about that scab.   Fast forward to later in the night. One of the girls said that the guac was really good, but she could have sworn she found a raisin in it because that's what it felt like in her mouth. I looked down at my hand discreetly and found to my horror that the hideous flesh-jerky on my left knuckle had mysteriously disappeared. So, I did the most logical thing and assured her that there were no raisins in there and that maybe it was an accidental end piece of the avocado.   She bought it, but I knew what it really was...      Gross.", "summary": "My hand scab fell into the party guacamole and a girl ate it on accident."}
{"id": "t3_3lpp4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M16: help me trying to talk to this one girl?", "post": "Hi, now this is probably a weird post to most of you guys, but I could really use some advice. So my friend was telling me about this one girl and then he put me and her and himself in a group chat, so I texted her and we told each other our schools and instagrams and stuff.\n\n I am really bad at talking to girls, mainly because I go to an all boys school so I do not see girls often, and I get really nervous. So i feel like after like 8 or so texts, the conversation kind of died. She seems like a really nice girl and I would like to talk to her, but I feel it would be weird if I texted her again now, since its been like a day after we just stopped replying. \n\nIf anyone has advice about good ways to start a conversation (she was the last person to say something) and to keep one going, without it being weird for either of us, I would really appreciate it. Thanks in advance. Also, if you could help me out with a good time to ask her to meet and hang out (probs in a group) and how, that would be pretty cool too", "summary": "Need help trying to talk to a girl because I am really nervous and do not know where to go next."}
{"id": "t3_2x7do0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) boyfriend (23m) of 3 years seems to be losing interest???", "post": "My boyfriend just doesn't pay attention to me like he used to. I feel like I have to work to hold a conversation with him, as well as seduce him. I always have to engage him. He has no interest in making plans with me, whether it be going on a date or planning a trip.\n\nMeanwhile, he will soberly tell me that I'm best for him and he loves me and wants it to work. When he's been drinking, he tells me how we have nothing in common and he feels trapped. When I try talk about everything, he pretty much just shuts down. Our typical \"how was your day\" interaction feels forced.", "summary": "this is his (23m) first long term relationship, but not mine (24f). I had a 4  year relationship prior to this one. Pretty much looking for advice on what may be going through his mind. Just getting a lot of mixed signals here and wondering if I'm wasting my time."}
{"id": "t3_4owoxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 3 years. Worried I'm overreacting, a friend's snapchat contradicts what my gf is telling me.", "post": "update- She says things like this.\n\n[8:26:33 PM] GF: I truly hate Vegas with a passion lol always have and always will\n[8:29:44 PM] Me: then why go?\n[8:30:11 PM] Me: you know how heated I get about principles\n[8:30:17 PM] Me: if you hate something just be honest lol\n[8:30:24 PM] Me: and you liked it with your mom\n[8:30:34 PM] Gf: I wanted to go the first time with my friends that was fun, the second time it was with my mom, and this time was a trip I didn't plan at all\n[8:30:43 PM] Gf: Because with my mom we watched JLo!!\n\nWhile she is lying to me, she's not strong when it comes to peer pressure and I feel like she's honestly expressing how she feels bad but won't be truthful with me.\n\n-----\n\nO.g. Post\n\nMy girlfriend told me one of our (somewhat mutual) gay friends was taking her to Vegas this weekend to celebrate her graduation. She has not mentioned edc. She has, however, told me about all this stuff they've been doing (going to gay clubs, dinner, pool etc.) and that she \"ran into\" another (somewhat less mutual) friend we met at a conference a year ago. \n\nI have the first friend on snapchat and there's a few dozen videos of edc on his story. She has a history of using (mutual) friends that aren't crazy about me to hide her flirting etc. There was even some more in depth disrespectful b.s. for a 3 month period around last October.\n\nAm I jumping at shadows or is this lie significant enough to justify my anger and suspicion? Any suggestions?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 3 years is telling me a fictional story about going to casinos, the pool, gay clubs etc. in Vegas. Her friend who she went with's snapchat is filled with edc videos. Advice? Course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_aznpa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Weird situation here... I'm trying to help out my friend and just need Reddit's opinion", "post": "Hey Reddit, I was wondering if you could help me out with this one.  \nSo, here's the story so far: I'm friends with a girl (she is a good friend of my girlfriend) who, from my point of view, is a bit in a rough spot right now. She is 28, came out of a rather long, serious relationship (that lasted for about 8 years) a couple of years ago and hasn't had anything serious going for her ever since (apart from the occasional fuck).\n  \nSo, about three weeks ago, she met this guy, who seemed like a regular bloke at first. They are both in their late 20s. So as things go, they started seeing each other quite often. She would sleep over at his place and he, in turns, would sleep over at hers.  \nThere is just one problem though: no fucking.  \n\nYou might say that this is not a problem as such, but you see, things are a bit weird. My friend has tried her best to initiate any kind of affectionate interaction. The closest was her grabbing his dick. He just laughed in return, said that he is a little bit tired and then they proceeded to hug each other and fall asleep (oh yeah they did make out once but did not proceed to sexual intercourse, since this bloke used the same excuse to \"get out of it\")  \nSo, despite them seeing each other every day, despite clear initiatives coming from her side, nothing has happened yet. Weirder yet, my friend has totally fallen for this guy. The bloke doesn't seem to show clear signs of affection. But why would he then continue to see her every other day? Am I just over-analyzing stuff? Its weird, it seems to me that this guy is actually afraid of sex or something of that sort...", "summary": "Friend is seeing a guy who absolutely (nonverbally) refuses to fuck her, despite clear initiative coming from the girls side. They continue seeing each other and the seems to be really falling for this guy... Your thoughts?  "}
{"id": "t3_x9d3c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do men not back down after a girl states she is not interested?", "post": "Last night I was at the bar shooting pool, a Latin American man in his late-forties or early-fifties complimented me on a shot I had made by shaking my hand and giving me a kiss on the cheek. As a new pool player, and a few drinks deep, I deemed this to be a kind gesture, said thank you and continued on with my game.\n\nLater in the evening he approached me while I was waiting for the single bathroom to open up. He tried kissing me, I nicely told him I was not interested and in order to avoid what was turning into an awkward situation, held a conversation until the bathroom door opened up. After I left the bathroom, he was still in the hallway, called me beautiful, and I said something along the lines of \"That's sweet.  Have a good night\" and went back to meet up with my friends. \n\nOver the course of the night, there were 3 more interactions with this man similar to the one outside the bathroom. After the last time I decided to leave the bar since he was not getting the hint and was making me extremely uncomfortable. \n\nI can't explain how many times this happens to me. I'm a relatively attractive girl in my early 20s and am not a \"bitch.\" In other words, I don't like rudely telling a guy I'm not interested, nor do I feel like I should have to. I feel like it should be sufficient for me state that I'm not interested politely and that be it. \n\nso I'd really like to know why men tend to do this to women?? and is possible for me to turn down a guy nicely and not have the reoccurring, borderline harassing, attempts to be \"picked up\"?", "summary": "Politely declined a man hitting on me, he proceeded to creep me the fuck out for the rest of the night."}
{"id": "t3_1niol9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] want to break up with my girlfriend [F23]. I have met someone else, but am not sure if she feels the same way about me.", "post": "I have been with my current girlfriend for about a year and half. I honestly do love her and care about her.  However, we have done everything in this relationship wrong.  We start dating too early, had sex to early, moved in together WAY too early, etc. Everything has just been downhill after our initial \"honeymoon\" stage.\n\nI've been thinking about how to break up with her, since we live together. I honestly don't know how to do it.  She has nowhere to go.  She doesn't make enough money to live on her own, and we have recently moved to another city together (big mistake), so she doesnt have any friends that she could stay with, or even comfort her.\n\nOn the other hand, I am just transfered to a new school and immediately fell incredibly hard for this other girl. We spend lots of time together in and outside of class. To be honest, I have never met anyone like her, or felt this way about anyone (it sounds cliche, but its the honest truth). I want to try everything to get this girl.\n\nSo I guess my question to you guys is, how do I break up with my current girlfriend (whom I live with) and what to do about this new girl?", "summary": "How to break up with live-in girlfriend of a year and a half, and what to do about this girl I have met."}
{"id": "t3_4sxfzv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20F] of eight months equates porn to infidelity, catches me [M24] watching it.", "post": "Hello,\n\nWhen we first got together, my sweet and lovely girlfriend told me loud and clear that she equated watching porn to infidelity and that she would break up with me if she ever caught me doing it.\n\nI admit straight away that I outright dismissed her message and continued watching porn on occasion; never when she was around and never on the expense of our sex life but behind her back and I often felt a twinge of shame. Yet, I kept on doing it.\n\nIt had to happen eventually. She discovered it yesterday and she has been devastated since then, sobbing uncontrollably for long bouts of time. Yet, she has also been kind, telling me how much she loves me and asking me rather than others for consolation (which I must say I feel very awkward about).\n\nImmediately after the revelation, I owned up, offering her to break up with me because I realized what a let-down I had been. She turned it down, saying that she would stay with me, but it will be over if I ever watch pornography again. Nor can I break up with her, seeing that she has personal issues where my support is extremely precious to her. Walking away could destroy her.\n\nThere's not much more to say. She and I go along together extremely well and I have to count myself lucky that she still wants to stay with me and I will have to work hard to win back her trust. Although I do think her equation between porn and infidelity is forced, I absolutely disregarded her warning and now I am paying the price. Still, I feel wretched, branded an adulterer and I fear that our future relationship will be entirely on her mercy. \n\nThere has been an incredible amount of anger and loathing over these past few days, but I now see that it is my responsibility to set things right. Still, should I just be completely meek in doing so or should I assert that, although I betrayed her trust, I haven't exactly killed anyone? \n\nI just want to hear your take. Is there something I have overlooked?", "summary": "Girlfriend equated porn to infidelity; I watched it anyway. Now I am essentially an adulterer. How to get both myself and relationship back on track?"}
{"id": "t3_42vilo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] want to become better friends with a group of guys from my old high school [18 M]", "post": "Hello everyone\n\nThe title gives a fairly good preface, I want to become better friends with a group of guys from my high school.\n\nSo a bit of a back story, I went to high school with these guys (I'm no longer in high school anymore, in college now) and in hs we were never super close, if we bumped into each other in the halls we would say hello but I didn't hang out with them as a group very often. Towards the end of the year we started to chill a bit more and I had the chance to go to a concert with a small group from the larger group. A part of the issue is the fact that I don't live in the same neighborhood as them so its a bit of an inconvenience for me/them as I live 10-15 minutes away from them (and I don't have a car so I would have to take transit which takes even longer)\n\nWe hung out another time at a festival during the summer and a party but other than that the times we have hung out has been a one to two month basis \n\nI slowly got added into a couple of their group chats but they're mostly dead\n\nBut thankfully, I recently switched colleges and I now go to college with two of the guys from the group. \n\nSo since then Ive been talking to one of the dudes (lets call him Dan) and me and Dan have been talking more and more because we hang out a bit after class as we have the same schedule. I would say I'm probably closest to Dan even before we went to the same college. I've noticed that he's been inviting me to more stuff since we've been hanging more and since Dan's birthday is also coming up and he recently invited me to hang out with all of them. \n\nSo r/relationships should I just wait it out and kind of just go with the flow and hope I get invited to more gatherings and what not? or are there things I can do to speed it up so that I can become closer with them\n\n(also I know this is kind of odd but idk who else to ask)\n\nthanks everyone for your help and advice :)", "summary": "I would like to become closer with a group of friends who are already pretty tight knit"}
{"id": "t3_1krr9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Okay, the long and the short of it is that I fell in love with a girl that is awesome and professionally we still see each other from time to time (we are both in the military) and despite a breakup due to her accepting a posting a long way away she is back near me and dating an absolute jerk (condescending, thinks-he-knows-it-all-type and is universally despised among our colleagues), and try as I might I think I am still in love with her. \n\nHow do i stop it? \n\nIt is both a wonderful and painful feeling, and we have reconnected as friends over the past year. At this point after working with her again if it was a possibility (not at the moment as we are both still students and Army reservists and starting our careers, plus at different schools that distance is too much) I would consider marrying her.\n\nI have no fucking clue what to do. I know she is going be leaving the jackass (also a military type), but unless the universe throws me a bone I think I will go crazy. Advise please!", "summary": "Still in love with a girl I used to date and still interact with professionally and have reconnected, she is dating a jerk she is going to be leaving soon, and getting to the point that I could see myself asking her to marry me, though that is impossible ATM. Going nuts. Need advice because the crappy universe is taunting me."}
{"id": "t3_2rhaib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my Wife [30 F] of 15 years, are turning into a NSFW post.", "post": "I thought about doing this as a throw away but I never check those anyways. Back story I guess would be a good idea first. My wife and I met in high school and have been together ever since. We had our first child when I was 21. I've got an esteemed job finally two years ago. We're finally out of poverty and our three children. \n\nBetween the first and second child she admitted she was bi and we split for a while. She came back and we've fought the whole way. This year we had both felt beaten down and I found someone else. So I left. Granted I see and take care of my children every day. That is not the issue here, the issue is coming. \n\nSo things are hard. We're looking at one another and feeling the pain of the separation. We stick around one another to do family things and keep the kids happy. Then we start having sex again two months in but we still stay apart. \n\nOn the side she begins hitting up craigslist for men and women and gets hits. She'll go to work and on her lunch she'll fuck someone in the car and then never see them again. \n\nThis devastated me at first. I couldn't believe that she would beg me to come back, fuck me, and then have something on the side. But then I realized I had something on the side. So it go weird for a while and we didn't talk again. \n\nNow we're talking and having sex again, but now I make her tell me, as we are fucking what she did with those other men. And it is the best sex ever. Now we're thinking of letting her get fucked by other men and let me watch. \n\nThis is the kicker. It still hurts but I like it. \nWhat the fuck is wrong with me?\n\nAs a side note, the children are not aware that any of this goes on. I keep them happy safe. My children are first, I am second.", "summary": "Wife and I split. She sleeps around a lot. It hurt. Now it turns me on. I make her tell me what she did with those men. And I like it."}
{"id": "t3_4c2r8p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Didn't file taxes in 2015. Not sure how to go about it this year.", "post": "So last year I wasn't able to file taxes.  Like I usually do, I used Tax Act to set up my taxes and ended up having to owe both state and federal (which usually happens, but for some reason it was more this year).  Some unfortunate things happened and I was never able to file and pay what I owed.   I never asked for an extension or anything, I basically just fucked up is what it comes down to.  So now this year, Im not really sure what to do.  I have no kids, been renting the same apartment for a few years, have a car payment, work two jobs (one part time) make about 40,000-45,000 a year; so my taxes shouldnt be to difficult.  Im just not sure what to do since I didn't file them last year.  Money situation is kind of tight right now and like I said I owe money to federal and state for the 2015 year.  Not really sure if I will owe this year (I shouldn't because I now know longer have a 1099-G from unemployment to file). \n\n Is there a way I can see If I'm getting a refund for this year so I can pay off what I owe last year?  Can a site like turbo tax or tax act help me in this situation (would they allow me to file taxes for previous year) or am I better off going to a tax place like H&R block.  Like I said money is tight so whatever would make the most financial sense would be great.  I looked in the wiki and searched in the search bar under this sub but couldnt really find anything to help me. Any insight would be great I'm off to work now so ill see your comments later tonight, Thank You.", "summary": "didn't file taxes in 2015 (owe money to state and federal), now its time to file my taxes in 2016 and I'm not sure what to do\u2026and of course, money is tight right now"}
{"id": "t3_4p3efk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by charging my phone in my bed.", "post": "So for the past year or so, I've kept my iPhone in my bed when it's charging overnight (I sleep by myself on a Cal King) so I can have it handy for playing music to help me fall asleep. I **had** a first party Apple Lightning connector, and Apple has a thing for natural rubber insulation on all their cords instead of traditional plastic. Turns out the cord hasn't been treated with anything that would help make the cord last longer due to oil ingress. More often than not, I would roll over the cord in my sleep, and the oils from my skin would make its way into the rubber, and it slowly deteriorated over time, to where it would swell, discolor, and disintegrate into a gummy mess when you pinched it, or rubbed your fingers against it. Me being too stubborn to buy another cable before this became a problem, decided to stick it out for as long as possible. Now 4 months later, All but 6 inches from the base is nothing but bare wires with no rubber insulation, and the grounding sleeve around the internal wires is gone from the first 1 inch. Also one of the wires broke due to the fact that it was now a main structural component that it was not designed to do. So now I don't have a way to charge my phone, and I need to find a way to make my shitty old 5C battery that has lithium whiskers growing in it last the half charge it has left until I can get a replacement.", "summary": "Body oils disintegrated Lighting cable, broke cable. Can't charge phone."}
{"id": "t3_1joj8r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/M) feel like my relationship with my girlfriend (19/F) of 8 months is falling apart because of the LSAT", "post": "Basically, I just can't see my girlfriend as much because I have a full-time job and I'm currently studying for LSATs. It's gotten to the point where we had to talk about seeing each other more because she wants to see me more but with the LSATs coming up, I just can't go out as much and it's really hard for both of us. She understands what I'm going through, but at the same time, since she's still in college, she says that she can't understand from experience and I really feel like this is why my relationship feels extremely strained right now. I'm even considering going on a break for a month in September since I'm basically going to just study and just telling her she can do whatever she wants and just not tell me about any guys, but then I thought about how that would just be another thing for me to worry about.\n\nAnyone go through this and have some advice at what I can do to make her happy while I'm preoccupied with this test?", "summary": "My relationship feels like it's falling apart because of the LSAT since I can't see my girlfriend as often as I would like. How do I keep my relationship going strong while studying for this test?"}
{"id": "t3_1etqdd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] have been with a girl [17F] for a little over 4 or 5 months now. How do I deal with lack of affection?", "post": "I've been with this girl for a little over 6 months, and we text constantly. She's a very sweet and nice girl but there is absolutely zero physical affection, not even holding hands or hugging, and even any sort of affection in general. \n\nShe's a very quiet girl, but lately it seems like our conversations are forced because i always keep it going, or start it. I tried to give her some space and i cut down on the texting (i had to anyway) and she still never initiates conversation. I don't know if she wants to be with me or if she considers herself my girlfriend any more.", "summary": "girl i'm dating doesn't initiate conversation or even holds my hand, does she not want to be with me?"}
{"id": "t3_zsj9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [20] kills the mood when I [22] try to sweet talk her.", "post": "My gf of 1 year and I were in bed the other night and while cuddling I was whispering sweet nothings in her ear when I said, \"you are so beautiful!\" Almost immediately after I said it, she chimes in with, \"no, I'm pretty ugly\". Now this isn't the first time that this has happened but for some reason it really struck a nerve this time. I of course denied this and told her that I disagreed and she said, \"Well that is your opinion but the fact is that I am ugly, I have freckles, am short and have small boobs.\" \n\nIs there anyway to deal with this?", "summary": "GF thinks that she is ugly"}
{"id": "t3_25t3x6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 F] friend is dating a [46 M], help!", "post": "I think the title says it all, but I figure I should give some background all the same. I met this girl when I was 17 and she was 13, and we developed a sort of big sister/little sister relationship. She was badly abused as a child, absentee father, but also incredibly bright and precocious. We spent a lot of time talking activism, debate (we were both on the team in our high school) and her life in high school while I was a couple hours away at college. \n\nOver the last year or so we've drifted, but I've reconnected with her a bit as I'm back in my hometown for the summer. She mentioned that she'd been seeing someone new, but I didn't have a chance to ask her too much. We both follow each other on tumblr, and the other day she posted a very explicit paragraph about going to her 'boyfriend's' house, where they'd had sex for a long time and hung out. His age (46) is on there. Naturally my big sister instincts kicked in right away, but I have no idea how to approach the issue. The kicker is this: in our state, the age of consent _is_ 17. \n\nUltimately, I don't know if I'm going to be shut down for this. Can anything be done? Even if it's technically legal, it seems so predatory I'd feel complicit if I did nothing. Thanks everyone for your time!", "summary": "My old friend 17 F has announced publicly that she is dating a 46 y/o man. As creepy as it is, the age of consent is 17 in my state. Can anything be done?"}
{"id": "t3_48c5rh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my BF [22M] together 1.5y, I know the real reason why has was turned down for a job, should I tell him?", "post": "I got my BF a job where I work. He quit without notice a few days after. His reasoning was that they were demanding too much out of him (working in a busy kitchen isn't a walk in the park, he knows it's hard work). I told him he could have worked something out with the chef, that maybe he just needed to be built up to that particular station. He didn't go back.\n\nI had talked to my friend about this and how disappointed I was in how he handled the situation. I was also pissed an embarrassed by it. I got him a job and he shit all over it, he hurt my own reputation at work. \n\nWell this friend is a chef at a new restaurant. I'm going to be working there, so are other people my bf has worked with and are sort of buddies with. My chef said he wouldn't hire my bf basically because of how he handled the job I had gotten him. \n\nChef told me this when I was getting details about the new position, told me it wasn't anything against me, he just isn't comfortable hiring my bf and wants only his best people for the new restaurant.\n\nI told my bf that chef just didn't see him as being the right fit. I feel guilty that what I told chef (and I told him at the time as a friend, not as a way to say, \"Steer clear of him, he isn't a good employee,\" I was just trying to vent at the time). I feel like it's my fault my bf isn't going to be hired.\n\nBut I also feel like it isn't my fault. He chose to handle that job poorly, I tried to help him fix it but I can't baby him, he's an adult. \n\nSo idk if I should tell him the real reason or not. On one hand I'm kinda lying by omission, on the other hand I don't think it's going to fix anything by twisting the knife essentially.\n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Told new employer, who's my friend as well, about a shitty thing my bf did at a previous job, which cost him being employed at a new job. I feel guilty but not too much because I agree with my friend/boss about not hiring him. Not sure if I should tell bf real reason he isn't being hired at new place."}
{"id": "t3_2ds5u8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] after a long relationship with her [16 F](Friends), decided to go further and try something with her, fail...", "post": "So after a long relationship with my friend, she kinda \"Friendzoned\" me, but i really like her, i just tell her about it but she got mad and really sad, because that would mean the end of the nice relationship we have, she already said no, whats the move now? keep trying? or just go away from her?, i just feel shit when im with her, but she does not feel the same for me, and i just think the better choice here could be to go away from her a little bit\n*English not my native language, sorry if i made some mistakes.\nCome the downvotes!", "summary": "I talked with my friend about how much i love her, and that i would like to have a romantic relationship with her, she didn't take that  really good, shes mad and sad, so do i."}
{"id": "t3_2htbf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19 [M] talking to a female who was previously interested in me?", "post": "There was a girl who was interested in me at first, she found all of my jokes funny and we clicked in an almost brother/sister sense. She always texted me and seemed interested. I felt like she wanted me to ask her out on a date or something but I felt it was too early to go out of my comfort zone.\n\n Over the weekend she didn't reply to any of my texts unless it was absolutely necessary like homework, wtf? I see her she's in class that week and she's sitting with some other guy flirting it up! This didn't bother me all that much because I wouldn't mind being friends but she cut me off altogether, what gives?", "summary": "Girl showed interest in me as more than friends, completely cuts me off even when I still want to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_2flqjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my EX-gf [21 M/F] 2 years, I've screwed up getting her back and I still miss her. Any advice is extremely helpful", "post": "Hey Reddit!\nI broke up with my exgf about 2 years ago.  Throughout the relationship I was manipulative causing unnessary fights throughout (my parents were that way).  I broke up with her b/c her jealousy b/c I scored an internship my first year of college and some stupid insignificant fight.  After 1 year, I tried the most elaborate play in my playbook to win her back.... it didn't work and left me broken into pieces.  (6ft teddy bear + Neighborhood children + TV show references).  She still hasn't left my mind after dating a few girls.  I know she misses me but I feel like she is too proud to move backwards toward an ex.  I'm at the point where I can move on with another girl [F 19] or I can dewell on her.  I'm afraid to let go and wish with my might that we get back together even though I've moved on.   Thanks Reddit! you guys have helped me out with some rough times and I appreciate your responses.\n\n***I've had a few drinks and my wording might not be up to par.  A drunk mans words are a sober man's thoughts is what I always say.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_sqq01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "3 and a half year relationship on brink of disaster.", "post": "Hey everyone, first poster here, but coming to you as its the only place that I know that can help me really, so on with the show.\n\nI am male and in a 3 and a half year relationship with a female, we are both 19 seperated by a couple of moths,, and currently living in uni. We live in seperate flats at the moment, but beofr this we virtually lived in the same flat (1 room with a bathroom), I know this probably didnt help the situation.\n\nOur relationship has had some problems in the past with her being paranoid about other people, and that lasted about 6 months before finally everything was sorted out through the help of a counsiler and self help books. We were ok for a while, spendng a lot of time together and everything going fine, until recently things took a down turn.\n\nI have become the slightest bit paranoid with male friends, because it seems that suddendll her only outlook is towards friends, with her only ever talking about friends, and always seemingly to be on her phone. Our relationship is neglected, we barley spend \"quality\" time with each other (activities, films, ect.) and sex is completely out of the window, being 1-2 months bewteen it. I have moved back out into my own flat by a joint choice, as we feel the room apart will help us become us again. We do talk about it and she feels like she has done wrong in the relationship not being able to forgive her self with the paranoia at the start of our relations, or how she shouts and swears during conversations and discussions.\n\nAs well as this her familty has had a few problems, with only yesterday her dad having a heart attack, and her mum finding out he cheater on her a few months ago.\n\nSo here is the question /r/, how would i go about fixing this relationship and are we on the right lines to doing this?", "summary": "relationship has paranoia, gf not forgiving herself about small petty things in the relationship, we have spent to much time together and are arguing, how would we go about fixing it?"}
{"id": "t3_24t1v4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just venting...", "post": "I just want to put something in writing and hope to get a few comments of advice so I can feel better or know what to do better now or in the future. \n\nSo there is this girl, we will call her Jane, that I like. Her and I have been texting for a couple weeks back and forth and we hung out a couple of since we first started talking. I am currently 18 and about ready to go off to graduate high school. Due to the amount of snow this past winter, she will be going till June (she's 17). Prom was last Saturday and I asked a different girl to prom, just as friends and we both knew that it was just as friends. After prom, Jane and I went to a friend's house to party. We both had a great time hanging out and had a lot of fun. The next morning, I brought her back to her car and asked her if she would like to go on a  date with me. She said yes. We both went our separate ways then went home. \n\nHere's the part that is making me post this:\n\nI texted her this morning say hey what's up? And she never responded. Snapchatted her, she opened it, never responded. She tweeted something about asking her teacher on advice for how to friend zone a guy. All of this is making me scared and confused cause I like this girl, Jane. \n\nAm I just  a retarded guy over thinking this or is this something to be concerned about?\n\nDon't wanna", "summary": "this sorry guise :p"}
{"id": "t3_3cafty", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I'm considering switching my major from English Education to Music Industry", "post": "My University is small, so the Music Industry major is simply a combination of a Music Business and Music Technology. I'm a Sophomore (36 Credits) and I still have a little bit of time to change my schedule before the summer ends. I've been thinking about changing my major from English Education to Music Industry essentially since I discovered that that was a major. I've always had a passion for working with people younger than me and for reading and writing and general English things, and to be quite honest, I'm very good at it - to the point where those classes are too easy for me. However, my main reason for truly becoming a teacher is because I've never had a good English teacher, and I want to put more good English teachers into the world. But then I joined a Music Fraternity; and on my campus, my Fraternity is in charge of all things Sound related - at least Technology-wise. And we essentially \"run\" two out of three variety shows a year, and while I was working these I found myself absolutely mesmorized by working sound and running wires and equipment and everything else. I especially enjoyed the seemingly mind-numbing task of running XLRs along the stage, simply because I didn't really have the know-how to do anything else. But honestly I was so interested in learning more and I just had such a good time running these shows that I'm worried about how much I'd actually enjoy teaching.\n\nIf it helps, I worked out a three-year plan, and I'll graduate on time - assuming I take the Business courses (about four of them) and my Internship (Four Credits) over next Summer. \n\nSo essentially, what should I do? Should I change majors? Or should I stay in my English major?", "summary": "I wanna change majors from English Ed to Music Industry. I'm worried I won't like teaching, because Music was way more fun, but is that a good-enough reason?"}
{"id": "t3_47h5ix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling numb. Am I[25m] just an obligation to her[33f]?", "post": "I was a bad kitty. I seen a message on my girlfriends phone from one of the people she used to date. I know they still are friends but I was curious so I read their last interaction....and now I'm numb... Basically, my gf was telling her friend that she's sort of upset with herself for getting this involved with me because of my mental problems. She said she \"cared\" for me, but never said she loved me.. Called me the crazy train and that she'll never buy a ticket for that again.... I feel like she's only with me because she promised to see it through...and I'm not sure what I should feel. I really can't tell her I read the message, she'll be so disappointed in me, and it seems I don't need to be giving her another reason to be displeased with her decision with dating me.. we live together and have been dating almost a year now... -_- advice?", "summary": "I snooped and that I read made it seem like maybe she's only with me because she feels bad."}
{"id": "t3_1oym2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M21) girlfriend (F19) thinks that I'm talking to other girls even though I've never given her any reason to think this.", "post": "I'm 21 and in the Air Force. I'm currently stationed in Germany and I recently flew my girlfriend over to be with her for a couple if months. We both went to high school together and we've been dating for about 4 months now. Just recently though she's has been really weird and accusing me of texting other girls. I've never even done anything to make her think this way. She has some idea in her head that I'm a player? \n\nShe keeps saying she feels like in lying to her and hiding something even though I don't keep a password on my phone or my computer.  I've never been in a lot of relationships so I'm not sure if this behavior is usually normal. Can someone help me out with how to handle this?", "summary": "girlfriend thinks in talking to other girls, don't know how to convince her I'm not."}
{"id": "t3_2xoeb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] dont know if a friend [24 M] is worth the effort anymore?", "post": "I have a \"friend\" who has always mistreated me. He constantly pointed out my flaws, mocked me when others complimented me, and just generally has not provided a supportive friendship. I have always tolerated his actions, mostly because I feel as though this was his socially awkward way of developing some sort of friendship with me. He supposedly has been like this with many other people, but only to me in our current friends circle.\n\nI, on the hand, think I have put a lot of effort in being nice back to him despite everything. I have tolerated his unnecessarily mean comments (though I now and then mention that I think he is mean to me), hoping that our friendship would develop into a better one over time. There are some times now and then when he and I get along very well, but it returns to the usual in the couple days.\n\nI thought that our friendship was improving a lot, however recently he acted in a way that I found very insulting. I felt as though he had not respected me as a person and, to an extent, used me. To be honest, I am now unsure of whether he ever valued me as a friend like I thought of him. \n\nThis friendship has a taken a lot out of me over a long time, and now I am uncertain whether I should just give up and kick him out of my life or try to mend it and keep going. I am pretty sure he knows that I have been acting differently (trying to stay away from him), but I also know that he would never take action to see if I was ok. It would have to be me who goes and pours out my heart to him, and hope that he had actually cared for me as friend like I did. \n\nWhat should I do? Is a person like this worth it? I had always hoped that we would become good friends, but if it's a relationship like this, I just end up feeling pathetic. \n\nWould appreciate any advice.", "summary": "Asshole friend who's never treated me great was an even greater asshole recently. Should I keep trying to be his friend or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1h6jne", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Just starting out and already eat less than my calorie limit...?", "post": "Today I started to lose weight (or started to try to...) so I put into one of those calorie counting apps everything that I have eaten already today.  Even before you take off the calories burned today during exercise, and after I added in my projected eating for the rest of the day (dw, I'll update it if I'm wrong) I'm under the number of calories I need to eat to lose weight. My question is: Am I not inputting my data right or have I been eating okay already and just need to exercise more?  I would say I eat healthily but I think I eat largish portions and  will admit to a crisp (chips) problem that will be cut out/ limited from now on in.", "summary": "A calorie counter says Im eating less calories than I could eat to still lose weight- what am I doing wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2c25nf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17m) was molested by my brother (21m) when I was 10 and I think it is having an impact on my relationships.", "post": "I have never told anyone that this happened but when I was 10 my brother (who was 14/15 at the time) forced me to have sex with him.\n\n Yesterday I broke up with my (now ex) girlfriend of 2 months because she wanted sex and kept trying to initiate it, but I start to feel sick every time and have \"flashbacks\". Even when I am at parties girls will try to initiate and I will literally just run away feeling terrible.\n\nI feel like I won't ever want to have sex because being physically intimate with other people makes me feel terrible. I want to tell people it happened so that they understand, but I don't want anyone to know what my brother did because he is a completely different man to the boy that he was.\nI feel like I should just be able to get over this but I can't. What do I do?", "summary": "I was molested by my brother when I was 10 and it ruins my relationships."}
{"id": "t3_tu1aa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Engineering, auto mechanics, or military. Help me decide, Reddit.", "post": "I am 18 and I've graduated from high school. I have spent the last seven months doing almost nothing because I do not know if I should either join the military, attempt to transfer to a university and obtain a degree in mechanical engineering, or become a mechanic. Job searches have been futile. I'm afraid that my parents will think I just want to stay at home and be a moocher. I'm just undecided. I really like cars and have decided if I get some additional education I will definitely work with cars. I think of becoming an engineer and working for an auto manufacturer but I don't know if I have what it takes to conquer math. Then I think of auto mechanic training but I would also like to earn more money and I think of engineering again. My last option is the Air Force. I believe I can survive BMT and the jobs are interesting but I only consider this if I can't decide between the other two options. Also, I barely survived high school so I have this urge to redeem myself and the only way is to take on engineering and be the best I can. But I have my doubts.", "summary": "Can't decide between studying for mechanical engineering, auto mechanics/repair, or join Air Force."}
{"id": "t3_36nnti", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by zoning out over skype, now she wants a divorce.", "post": "Typing on my kindle so apologies for any spelling errors.\n\nSome back ground. I'm active duty army, met my wife in 2011 shortly before going to Afghanistan. Against all odds we stayed together. I got wounded and almost bought it a few times but she was always there for me. After returning to alaska (where I was stationed) in 2012, we moved in together and had a year of real happiness before I popped the question and we married Sept 2013.\n\nWe got a dog together and moved a few times before getting to colorado last March. As soon as we got to co, the army told me to pack my bags for a tour to Kuwait. So here I am in the 110 degree paradise.\n\nMy primary method of communication here is skype and email.\n\nThe FU: so she is talking to me on Skype at 6am my time. I normally get up at 4am to work out, go to bed around 10pm. After taking my post workout shower, I'm usually pretty tired. She's rambling on about her friend who buys and flips houses. I start to zone out when she screams \"are you listening?! Repeat what I said!\"\n\nI use Skype chat to write \"my roommate is here, don't be awkward lol\"\n\nApparently this light hearted teasing pushed her over the edge. She hung up and sent me a string of nasty emails about how I don't love her, how she will always love me, she doesn't want any money, she can't believe how blind she was these past 4 years.\n\nI'm in shock trying to digest all of this. My zoning out during conversations has been an issue before but it's something I can't help. And I'm working on it too. Just because I don't pay 100% attention to everything she says,doesn't mean I don't love her.\n\nShe told me she wants no money, she will take care of the dog, and she won't do anything drastic except for packing while I'm in Kuwait and that we will divorce when I get back. Moral of the story: if you are tired from work and thousands of miles from the one you love, better to not call. Or don't get married.", "summary": "I zoned out over skype, in 6 months I'll be single. Ladies?"}
{"id": "t3_4xbe5w", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is there anyway for me to graduate now without retaking courses?", "post": "Not sure where to post this but I go to a pretty well known college and am majoring in chemistry, I have completed all the courses for my major and was told I was set to graduate in May if I got certain grades in the courses I was taking. \n\nI got those grades and was then told shortly after I thought I graduated that I was actually .01 away from the GPA required in my jr/sr hours to graduate. My overall GPA was fine however my upper level courses GPA needed to be slightly higher. I thought I would try to argue my case but after talking to counselors they made me feel like I had no other option. I was forced to repeat a course that I had only gotten a C+ in, due to the limited courses available over the summer. However since I tried extremely hard both times I ultimately ended up in the same situation with the same grade. I feel absolutely defeated and let down.\n\n I really just want to be done with school but keep ending up feeling like a failure.\n\nPlease don't tell me to switch my major as I do not have the money for it. Also before you assume I am a terrible student you should know the reason my GPA is lower is because a C- at my college is a 1.7 and a b- is a 2.7. I go to class daily and take notes I am an attentive student and just want to graduate.", "summary": "My jr/sr gpa is .01 from being able to graduate even after I have completed all coursework I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation. Is there a way to get out of it without spending thousands more and hoping for the best?"}
{"id": "t3_2t44fk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [17 M] please get some motivation and a boost back to being myself again", "post": "I've been pretty depressed after being rejected by a girl who sort of led me on and realized I wasn't her type. I guess since she said she was \"busy\" with school and things were getting worse. But she was letting me down easy. Before you guys say \"Just let it go, man\", it's as easy as you think, but I'm not much of a social person. I can't just randomly approach someone and start asking them out and flirting with them. It takes me some time to get back on my feet. I've lost a lot of self esteem and just been really sad because I still like the girl a lot.", "summary": "I need some motivation and self-esteem boost to get back to my normal self again after facing an emotional rejection. It's been a month now."}
{"id": "t3_2bxz5f", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My Son has Medicaid from Washington but my Local Hospital Will Not Use It, What Do I Do?", "post": "I recently had my two sons over to visit this summer (I am divorced from their mother). While they were here, one of them had to have an emergency CT. It turned out to be nothing, and the ER trip was only about 90 minutes total, so I was relieved.\n\nAfter they left received 3 separate bills from 3 separate entities that allegedly provided service, totaling 3200 dollars. My son has Medicaid from his state of origin, Washington. I gave them his insurance when we walked in.\n\nI live in Idaho.  Every person I talk to regarding these bills says \"we have no contract with Washington and we aren't a contracted provider anyway, so it's not going to fly.\"  When I contacted Washington's DSHS, they told me they \"don't cover anything that happens outside of the state of Washington.\"  Like, if someone's traveling or with their Dad in another adjacent state, they're just out of luck.\n\nI don't have 3200 dollars. I can't even afford to make monthly payments on this, I am still making monthly payments on my own medical shit from years ago, and I save up all year to take my sons in the summer.\n\nIt makes no sense to me that someone could be poor enough to need Medicaid, but a hospital could feel like I could just pay 3000 dollars.", "summary": "son has medicaid, hospitals won't use this insurance, Washington state won't pay it. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1qgah0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my \"friend\" [18F] ( Duration 5 years on and off..and on ):have started talking a little again bit now, however not sure if I am overreacting? Need opinions", "post": "Keep in mind; when I say ' talk ' it usually means through the phone via messaging etc.\n\nA few years back - we dated for like 3 months and things didn't work out well between us ( well for her ). I was really hurt but I moved on trying to get over what had happened between us. However I don't know what my past self was thinking and we ended up becoming friends instead of strangers. This lasted for 3 years.\n\nJust last year - I lost my shit and we got into a huge fight which basically started from her not replying as fast as she used to, it was stupid and I regret it tremendously because since then we have not talked much, like none at all. Which leads us onto this week.\n\nIt just came as a shock when she called up through her phone crying because her pet had died ( like on a Thursday night last week )and as a good Samaritan, I comforted her. Then all of a sudden boom ; we're talking again - like \"friends\". Why did I put quotation marks? Basically \"something\" feels weird between us - I feel as though I'm only there because she needs comfort and someone to talk to after school, but at the same time I feel like she wants to repair the relationship that was broken. I would also like to mention the conversation we have is 'dry' - we don't have much to talk about really.\n\nDon't get me wrong, she's a lovely, modest person and all but sometimes you cannot really help to wonder if she's putting on a facades to get what she want. I'm saying this because earlier she asked me to mind her folder until we had the next class ( which was during lunch breaks ) as she did not bring her bag to school since she finishes early. Am I being paranoid? When the past few months I swear we have been avoiding each other like the plague!\n\nWhat do you guys think? Is she manipulating me or is she trying to fix our relationship?", "summary": "Friend stops talking after an argument. Decides to start talking again after a tragic event. I'm lost whether I'm a rebound for her or if she's trying to get close to me as a friend once again?"}
{"id": "t3_1iursq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M], Girlfriend [23F] of three years. She wants to go to a bar with another guy.", "post": "My girlfriend wants to go to a bar with a guy she met at work (who introduced himself by hitting on her). I am not comfortable with this, but any attempt for me to try and explain why fails. Simply, I don't like the idea of another guy doing date like things with my girlfriend, especially when it involves alcohol.\n\nNow, to put things in her perspective, she doesn't drink much, and she doesn't have many friends, so me trying to tell her she can't go out to a bar with another guy is like telling her she can't have a social life, which is not something I want to do. She recently moved in with me after a LDR (3 months ago), and ever since we've fallen into a kind of... routine. But I digress, and as I said, when she drinks, she doesn't drink much, so I don't think there's an issue with her getting drunk/slipping up, but I still am not at all comfortable with this, so I come to /r/relationships to ask:\n\nAm I being a dick by not being comfortable with this?\n\nAm I overstating my boundaries if I tell her I don't want her to go?\n\nHow do I make her understand why I don't feel comfortable with this (I can't even put it into words, so when I tried talking to her, I just came off as confusing).", "summary": "girlfriend wants to go to a bar with another guy. Not sure if I should be concerned."}
{"id": "t3_3o6njp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [21 F] month and half, getting used to being in a relationship", "post": "Hey /r/relationships,\n\nHere is my situation, I have recently entered a relationship for the first time since high school (some might say my first ever).  After being single for basically my entire life I am kind of having trouble getting out of the single mindset.\n\nI really like my girlfriend, she has similar interests, very attractive, good major in college, the sex is really good, and we laugh a lot.  Still with all of this I find myself taken aback when I realize I can't pursue other girls.\n\nI haven't had any slips so far, and I am trying really hard to not view other girls in a sexual way, but it can be quite hard when they start flirting with me.\n\nSo my question is, how can I work towards being comfortable being in a relationship?  I want to give this thing my best shot, since I think we are really good together.\n\nThanks!\nfiscal_tiger", "summary": "Recently starting dating for the first time, and I am having trouble adjusting to the new relationship lifestyle.  Any advice to ease the process is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2a7e3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 2 years, issues after moving in together.", "post": "So me and my boyfriend have been living together for about 4 months. We live with my daughter and we are both employed full time.\n \n\nHe is a good person and I love him, he gets along well with my 5 year old daughter. He is hard working, driven, and independent which are traits I value in a person. \n\nI'll get straight to the point and say we have had problems ever since moving in together. It started out as what I viewed as strange quirks and now his behavior has actually started offending me. \n\nI moved in to his home so naturally all of his things were here. I barely brought anything from my parents house. I brought one picture I wanted to hang and he was so weird about it. He said he didn't like the picture so it just sat on the floor for a couple months until I finally just hung it up. I just feel so uncomfortable/unwelcome in what is supposed to be my home. \n\nI cook, clean, and do all the grocery shopping/meal planning, most of the laundry and I pay half (I don't think he has cleaned the bathroom once since I've been here) on top of taking care of my daughter and working a full time job. If I don't do it the mess just stays there. I've told him about this, he says he will do it and help out but doesn't deliver.\n\nHe constantly wants to hang out with friends. We will go on a \"date\" and then almost immediately after he wants to make plans with friends. He invites me but sometimes it just gets old. I would like to hang out with him alone for a night for once but he always has to be drinking and getting rowdy. I've addressed this issue and he just says he doesn't want to do those things. I'm adventurous and like to explore and try new things sometimes that don't involve drinking and he is just so negative towards my ideas and doesn't help to make them happen.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very aloof about relationship. He's not great but he's not terrible either./ Is it worth it to stay? I have all the bad things that come along with living with a partner but none of the perks."}
{"id": "t3_21e7by", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Don't get an MIS major.", "post": "Is there anything I can do as a recent graduate in Management Information Systems? Literally every job in any related field requires 2-10 years experience. How do I get this experience? Do I need to go to experience land and ask the experience fairy? It's been frustrating, in a Catch-22 kind of way. You don't get experience because you can't get a job, you can't get a job because you don't have experience. I'm sure I'm not the only one that is frustrated by this. I got an ok job straight out of college, but it's not even remotely close to the field I wanna be in. It's basically debt collections, and it barely pays enough for me to pay my own bills.\n\nI've yet to find the answer to what job I can get if I want to eventually be a (blank) Analyst. (blank) meaning business, data, systems, business data systems. Whatever they want to call it. There's no path. There's no direction. You either have 2-10 years experience or you don't.\n\nAnd don't even get me started on the requirements. Might as well stop looking if you can't code 10 different languages from scratch on 6 different machines. One required that you know all that, and speak English, Spanish and Portuguese. Fuck me.", "summary": "how do I get experience in my  field? Or should I find a new field? I think I'm finally disillusioned. Sorry about the rant."}
{"id": "t3_419uhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[32 M] moves from Hawai'i to Boston and now seeking help to rekindle an old flame [32 F]. How to avoid friend zone?", "post": "bottom-line up front: [32 M] moved cross-country to be closer to [32 F] long-time best friend and ex-gf. We love each other very much, but there's little romance. Need advice.\n\nMy girlfriend and I (32 F and 32 M, respectively) have known each other for a little over 10 years. We dated for 4 years when I started grad school including 3 years of a long-distance relationship (Hawai'i to Boston; major distance and time zone difference). She broke things off with me citing long-distance as the main issue, but we continued to talk frequently. We'd continue to see each other in person 1-3x per year, sometimes romantically. It's always been very easy for us to get along, and we never had any real fights.\n\nYada yada 5 years go by, I finish my Ph.D. and move from Hawai'i to Boston hoping to rekindle things. She graciously let's me move into her small apartment while I hunt for jobs (and maybe my own place?) We're suddenly playing house like an old married couple, cuddling, holding hands, dinner dates, etc. just nothing hot-and-sweaty romantic. She isn't interested in my advances. She doesn't like to talk about the issue, but says she just doesn't feel attracted to me in that sense right now.\n\nShe tells me she loves me very much, and I definitely share the sentiment. We've gotten to know each other very well over many years. She's my best friend, and I'm fairly certain she could be my future wife. We've talked about long-term plans and raising kids together, but it seems like the old spark is gone. I feel like her husband but not her lover.\n\nI'm worried I'm headed down the road to platonic cuddle-buddy friend zone or old married couple /r/deadbeadrooms.\n\nHow do I save my relationship? How do I rekindle the old spark and fix the broken romantic or intimate issues?\n\nThanks all.", "summary": "Trying to restart romantic relationship with long-term best friend and ex-gf. We love each other, but lacking intimacy and romance. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1u6q14", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Having problems with school(college), I don't know what to do.", "post": "So,i'll start of with saying i am fortunate to have everything given to me. My parents have always taken care of everything i ever needed. The problems starting coming up when I was done with community college. Up until last year (fall 2013) everything was going amazingly. Then I applied to my local university and I ran into a problem. I was 3 units shy because one my courses was remedial. I did not know this when i initially applied. I was not informed of their decision until after summer 2013 was done.(this is important)\n\nI get rejected and I decided to apply to spring 2014 for the university while taking a course during fall 2013 at my community college. I pass the course with a B and i receive my units. Unfortunately the university tells me, they don't accept grades from fall 2013 for spring 2014. they only accept them from summer 2013. So here i am, rejected again, and I can't apply to fall 2014 because the school has closed registrations for it. So once again i have failed to get in, but now it will be postponed even more.\n\nI don't know what to do. I am being threatened to be kicked out if i don't attend that school, i am stressing out because where i live, (San Jose California, rent is extremely expensive and full time jobs are almost non existent.(without a degree). If i get kicked out I have never had a responsibility before in my life that involved money.(I.E RENT, bills) I currently have a part time job that i have asked for full time but will not give it to me.\nI really need help, i am stressing and I feel like I've ruined all my opportunities.", "summary": "I messed up all my chances, now i am about to get kicked out in a city that is pretty cutthroat."}
{"id": "t3_x4421", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I feel bad about this?", "post": "So I participated in Arbitrary day 2012 this year and the day I got my mach I was already picking things out. She was interested in a couple authors so I went on ebay and got got 5 books from one author. I threw in some candy and a Zimbabwe 100,000,000,000,000 dollar bill as a bookmark. I wanted something else though so I went back to ebay and got another book from one of the authors she listed and it was a signed copy. The thing is that the seller took forever to send it out. I believe the whole event ended on the 16th and the book was delivered on the 14th and I was on vacation so it all got sent out around the 18th. The box cost around $15 bring the cost of the entire gift to about $65. I waited and waited and nothing happened. No message from the giftee, no pictures of the books on redditgifts.com, nothing. I look at the tracking ID I posted and turns out it was missing a number, fixed that and got on USPS.com to see what's up. It says it was delivered but nobody was home so it was stuck at the post office. I sent a message and said sorry a few times then told her what she can do to get it. Nothing. No reply. I waited a few days and sent another message. No reply. In a couple days the post office is going to send it back to me. Should I feel bad for this as most of it was out of my hands?", "summary": "Sent a nice gift. Stuck at post office and no communication with giftee. The gift will be sent back if she does not pick it up."}
{"id": "t3_kywb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex turned down a job opportunity because of me...", "post": "My ex and I dated on and off for about a year and 8 months. We were 18F (me) and 20M (him) when we met. Anyway, we broke up once, ended up getting back together, and then broke up again. We tried the friends thing for a while and then things got to a point where it was going to be us \"being together\" while we were both on breaks from college and then \"being friends\" while we were at our respective schools. It got messy when he started dating this other girl and I could tell she was getting feelings for him and he didn't care about her, so I told him that it wasn't fair to other people and that he couldn't have both situations (me at home, her at school).\n\n I told him that we could not contact each other for a certain amount of time. It's only been half of that time, but apparently he is taking the timeframe very seriously. (I'm really close with his sister, who is my age. She and I talked about this one night when I asked if he was moving on, which is what I want him to do). He was looking at possible jobs after he graduated over the summer and refused to apply for certain jobs or accept offers because they were out of state and farther away from me and he didn't want to move anywhere where it would put a strain on us getting back together.\n\nI feel horrible knowing that he might turn down his potential dream job with some company just because he hopes we can get back together after that timeframe if up. How do I make sure he doesn't do something stupid like that without breaking the no contact rule I put in place? Is there anything else I can do to kind of help him?\n\nAt this point he's 23M and I'll be 21 soon. I might not stay in state for grad school (if I go) or if I get a job that requires me to move and I don't think he understands that idea.", "summary": "no contact rule for a certain amount of time with my ex, but he is possibly turning down jobs out of state in case we get back together after said timeframe is up."}
{"id": "t3_hsuwc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I 'wake up' my boyfriend? I love him so much, but I feel like I'm just not happy anymore.", "post": "me20f/him21m. Together a year and a half, live separately.\n\nThings were amazing at the start. He made all the effort to make me happy, initiated almost all contact, basically never made me forget I was loved.\n\nNow, he is too comfortable in this relationship. I honestly feel taken for granted. He hasn't got his licence, (is getting it in a month) so I'm always the one driving, I cook dinner for him occassionally, buy him little things, tell him how I feel about him. He doesn't do any little things for me anymore.\n\n(About the licence thing, I know it's stupid but I'm already getting upset about thinking about when he gets it... I'm absolutely convinced he will not do the amount of driving I have done for him. I get this sick feeling in my stomach knowing that I'd still be the one to go to him:( )\n\nI don't want gifts or shit like that, I just want to feel appreciated and loved =( I'm tearing up now as I'm writing this... I love this kid so much. I know that he loves me, but he doesn't SHOW it anymore.\n\nHe said he'd take me to a jazz club. Never did. Said he'd take me to watch my favourite comedian. Never did. Hardly attends any of my family functions anymore simple cause he can't be bothered (He knows family stuff is important to me). I just feel like he does not make an effort anymore.\n\nI don't want to break up with him, but I won't lie, I have considered it so much lately. Just because I feel so fucking unhappy over these little things. I feel miserable. And also stupid, because as soon as we are together we are amazing. Truly. And I think I'm overexaggerating. All these doubts and fights always arise when we're apart. I hate this feeling :(\n\nHow can I wake him up? Get him to appreciate me and show me he loves me like he used to? :( I'm sick of being the boyfriend in this relationship. I want to feel like the girl he'd do anything for again. =(", "summary": "Just want to know if you think I'm expecting too much out of this relationship? I want him to wake up and show me he loves me before it's too late. But how?"}
{"id": "t3_3f6lh9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21m] with girlfriend [19] of 5 and 1/2 years - Cheated on me after drinking too much and taking drugs. Already decided to try make things work.", "post": "Title explains the situation pretty well. I've already decided that I want to try make things work. For a variety of reasons that aren't important for the question I'm asking. I know I will see soon enough whether my decision was right/wrong. \n\nIs it possible for it to work? I feel like a lot of people would break up as soon as they found out. But I'm just looking for some examples or outside perspective. The popular opinion is that it can't, and I understand that. But is their examples of it working out for the better? Is it possible that it was a one time thing that was fueled by drugs and drink? (I guess I should say that she has said that she will never take drugs again and that she doesn't go out with those people anymore).\n\nTime will prove whether I was right/wrong but I guess I'm looking for a little hope.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated after drinking a lot and ending up taking drugs. I've decided to give her a second change. Is it possible I made the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_14bzat", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Questions about private bankers", "post": "Hi, r/personalfinance, I'm hoping that someone could explain private banking to me and compare/contrast these services with other financial services personnel like financial advisers.\n\n*A little background*: I am currently in my final year of graduate school and have secured a job after graduation. My spouse is currently working. Once we are both working, we expect to initially make around $160k/yr in an area of the United States with a relatively lower cost of living (at least when compared to NY, CA, and DC).\n\nWe recently met with a banker at our local branch regarding a separate financial issue and after discussing our impending increase in earnings next year the banker suggested that she put us in touch with a private banker when I start my job.\n\nI'm not very familiar with private bankers and my quick research on Google shows that they seem to have clients that are MUCH wealthier than we are or will be for many years.\n\nSo what's all this private banking business about? Is this something that is appropriate for my spouse and I at this point? Or is the bank just trying to keep us \"on the hook\" in hopes that our careers will continue to prosper and our incomes increase? How do private bankers compare with financial planners; what are the advantages and disadvantages of each?\n\nThanks for your wisdom!", "summary": "What's a private banker and how do they compare with financial advisers?"}
{"id": "t3_2bhvbi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18 f] My boyfriend[18m] is moving away for college", "post": "Hey everyone. So my boyfriend and I have been dating since junior year of high school (so abut two years now). We had some vague plans to go to the same college in our hometown but he didn't make it in, so he's going to a school 8 hours away and I will be staying here (but living in dorms). The point is, he's too far away and because we are both very jealous (and sexually active) people, it's not feasible for us to continue our relationship long-distance.\n\nSo now I just have to get over him, right? But it's been hard. On one hand, I want to be \"over\" him and feeling good by the time school comes around (October) so that I can make new friends and focus on academics.\n\nBut the problem is, I'm leaving to go to my home country for one month (all of August). I figured that would be the best time to get over him, but we still have almost all of September before school starts. He and I both want to try to enjoy all the time we have left together, but is it really smart of us to kind of \"hold on\" for the month I'll be gone and then churn out the rest of our temporary relationship? \n\nI've been with him so long, and even now it feels weird and totally sucks that it's ending forever soon. But I still really love hanging out with him and probably wouldn't hang out with many people before college starts, anyways. \n\nI guess my request for advice is: what should my next course of action be? Should we break up and distance ourselves now, or should be try to hold on until summer ends? I know that breaking up will hurt me for quite some time so maybe I could use a month or two as a time cushion.\n\nReally hope this stuff makes sense and I appreciate this community. thanks", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are splitting up for college, I don't know if we should split before school starts so we can get over it or wait until summer ends"}
{"id": "t3_18gbik", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [M21] want to be friends with ex [F23]", "post": "So we met beginning of summer and we just meshed. She trusted me, i trusted her, and it was official beginning of the school year.\nFor a multitude of reasons, things didn't work out. She had to go to school (med student), and wasn't able to come home often and when she did, she couldn't spend it all with me because i work all day on weekends, and just spending nights together really isn't that substantial, especially since it was the start of our relationship.\nTime passed and she didn't have the same feelings as I did for her. So we ended it and that was that. (Sept 27) Relationship essentially lasted from Mid June-Sept 27.\nHere we are now. I ended my friendship with my best friend who was being a constant issue in our relationship back then, and she agreed to speak to me again since he was no longer a part of my life. (He was bothering her as well and she was truly concerned for me because she saw what happened coming from a mile away)\nToday i discover she blocked her Facebook profile from me (I can only see her public posts)\nI don't know why she would do this, other than the reason of she either has photos, a new relationship, or she started talking to my best friend again behind my back.\n\nSo reddit, I ask you: should I be friends with her and should I ask her about the Facebook issue?", "summary": "is it bad to be friends with your ex-girlfriend in this case? Should i even bother? I'm not emotionally attached to her, but when the time comes to see her again, being so close and intimate with her in the past, i don't know how i'm going to react and how things are going to affect me."}
{"id": "t3_44o738", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [30 F] 11 years, I cheated and am trying to make it right.", "post": "My wife and I have been together for 11 years dated for 7.\n\nEverything was great and we were happy we would do everything and were just insperable eventually we settled down.\n\nWe have 2 kids and life got busy no time for sex I was fine with that but eventually I got frustrated and tried to talk to her about it it got okay for alittle bit but than stopped after a week.\n\nWe'd fight about it but would get nowhere and it was pointless so I just stopped altogether.\n\nThe aftermath of are fights left her cold and distant. often when I'd get home the kids would be in bed and she would be watching TV or using her laptop and eventually go to sleep.\n\nWe didn't talk for a few days only about the kids and would just carry on with our business it was very lonely.\n\nThere was a woman at work she was my assistant (Catherine) who was very beautiful was stunning actually and she was always kind to me. She would ask about my day brought me lunch and just cared about me.\n\nWe began texting and than talking than eventually we had sex. We continued to have our affair for 2 months than I ended it because it was not fair for my family.\n\nWell 8 momths after that my wife found out from looking through my phone and was devesated. She cried threatened divorce and was going to leave me but I wanted to make it right so I fought and eventually she agreed to give me a second chance.\n\nI have been doing everything trying to be the best husband but she still brings it up and asks questions very frequently.\n\nShe constantly brings it up in fights like \"well if you don't like it that much than maybe Catherine can do better\" and more stuff like that.\n\nI know what I did was wrong and everytime she brings it up it stings alittle but I really love her and want to make it up to her how can I do that?", "summary": "cheated on my wife but she keeps bringing it up in fights despite me trying to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_11sr9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO of two years (m, 32) has offered to give me (f, 26) and fairly large sum of money to help me pay off a debt.", "post": "It's a medical debt that is about to go into collections and he has offered to pay off the remaining balance of $1000 for me. I feel weird about accepting such an amount. He's great and he wouldn't hold it over me, but I still feel awkward about taking it and feel like I should pay him back, even though I don't know when I'd be able to pay him back the full amount. He really wants me to take the money but I don't know what to do. He doesn't make lots of money, so the $1000 is a lot of money for him to be giving me. Any advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to give me a rather large sum of money, I don't know if I can accept."}
{"id": "t3_43f1dc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a stranger a high 5", "post": "So the obligatory this didn't happen today this happened yesterday yadda yadda yadda.\n\nI'm a junior at my high school, I play volleyball. Before every volleyball season my school district of 5 school hosts volleyball open gyms, where anyone in the district can come and we'd just play for fun. So yesterday I went to one, and played with Varsity players of a couple of school, couple I recognize, couple I do not. \n\nIt was upon scoring a point that a bulky guy in my team offered to give me a high 5 (As a sign of sportsmanship, we give each other high 5s a lot, even if we don't know each other). The problem is, he offered it with his left hand, and I, being a retard, barely paying attention, slapped the back of his left hand with my right hand.\n\nMy whole team looked at me and started laughing hysterically.", "summary": "I slapped a ripped dude and will inevitably get cut from my volleyball team for my negative IQ."}
{"id": "t3_3vgwho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my wife [33 F] - Jealous or Unsympathetic?", "post": "I think my wife gets jealous all the time, but maybe I'm being unsympathetic. It's not about other women, but over everyday life situations.\n\nExample: My wife and I always go out on Friday night. Tonight, she's too sick to drink, but still wants to go out. If she goes out, she doesn't want me to drink, or she wants me to drink less than I normally would. Somehow this makes her feel better, of which I cannot understand.\n\nThis seems happens all the time. If I get too much of a good thing, or something bad happens to her, she wants me to be sick with her or feel her pain somehow.\n\nI'm the complete opposite. If something bad happens to me, I always encourage her or ask her not to change a thing.\n\nAm I being an unsympathetic jerk? Is she being too jealous?", "summary": "Wife jealous?  Me unsympathetic?  Me not know."}
{"id": "t3_105nd5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "NEED ADVICE: Have a friend who was supposed to graduate with associate's degree but our high school fucked her over.", "post": "I have a friend who is in all college-level classes and is supposed to graduate with an Associate's degree. However, the counselor who is supposed to deal only with students who are graduating with their A.D. somehow managed to give her college-level classes but claim she cannot get her A.D. and can only obtain a general degree. That means that the sixty-two college credits she has earned are pointless. \n\nShe is interested in knowing if she should drop the rest of her classes except for the two required senior classes. Or, should she keep them and graduate with a general degree and have sixty-two college credits to start college with. Dropping the classes will mean that her transcripts have 'withdrawn' on them and that might make her look bad to future .\n\nShe is simply interested in getting advice on the situation because it pretty much sucks that the last four years might end up being worthless.", "summary": "School dicked over a friend and waited until five weeks into the school year to tell her. What should she do?"}
{"id": "t3_vzhxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wrongfully punished?", "post": "Throwaway because I believe she's a redditor.  Anyways, I'll try to keep this concise.\n\nBackground: I've (20m) been dating a girl (21f) for 5 months, we've been \"in a relationship\" for about 2.5.  Before this relationship we both have only had 1 significant relationship (sex was involved in both relationships).  We both got cheated on.  My ex cheated on me, told me the next day, we broke up.  Her ex cheated, lied, was forgiven, cheated again, and lied again before they broke up.\n\nProblem: She says she doesn't want to have sex again until she's married because of how that relationship ended.  I feel like I'm being punished because of something that he did.  I'm not sure how to (if at all) approach her on this.\n\nSub-problems:\n-I've given too much in this relationship.  She considers me her rock whereas I don't see any such comfort from her. I'm, sadly, a \"nice guy\".\n-When we hook up, she tries to keep me out of \"down there\" as much as possible.  It goes from 60 to 0 in basically no time.  She just rolls over or gets off and doesn't have any interest in anything. Also, we never \"get each other off\".  These things make me think she has no interest in sexy time.\n-I've never been good at asking for what I want.", "summary": "no sexytime because of something her ex did"}
{"id": "t3_it87l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Weirdest/Crazy Roommate stories?", "post": "So my friend is going to college this fall, and the person she did intend on living with chose off-campus housing instead, so she is left with a random and is absolutely freaking out about the prospect of living with someone who she barely had a chance to talk to. I told her there's nothing to worry about, since everyone in college has been there. Anyone got some good stories to show that it could be worse??\n\nAnyway I'll share mine, not anything tooo crazy just odd. When I was a freshmen I was placed into a forced triple with 2 Chinese guys who were friends back in China and have been in the US for less than 2 years. I'm asian so all my friends thought I would fit right in ( good joke). But it turned out they would watch porn extensively. So much that it was just casual like they were watching sports center. I would literally come back from class every and porn would just be playin on the tv while they would do their hw or read. They would also download it at all hours of the day. They thought it was completely normal. One kid who never went to class would play AION on his computer and the next screen would just have porn playing. I would go to bed and wake up to see it still going.", "summary": "Chinese guys love porn"}
{"id": "t3_ev26g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Girlfriend was nearly Raped on NYE; REDDIT, What should I do??", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nMy girlfriend was out with her friends in a backyard at a houseparty on NYE. While she went around the house to go inside to the bathroom, a couple of guys there grabbed her and tried to take off her shirt while feeling her up. (genitals)\nThey only stopped when one of her (male) friends came around the corner and chased them off. (We assume he must have heard the commotion)\n\nThe problem is that I'm in Europe and she's still back home. She says that she's ok, but just feels angry. I'm FURIOUS, but apart from going home early I can't do anything physical to help her out or comfort her.\n\n(And No, she wasn't drunk)\n\nQuestion:\nWhat should I do?\nIs there anything that I can say to make her feel not so shaken up by it?\nOr any suggestions for myself, as I can't focus on anything else but what happened and am having to force myself from getting a flight home more than 2 months in advance.\n\nThanks in advance guys,", "summary": "My GF was groped and had her shirt pulled off before the assailant was chased away. "}
{"id": "t3_3u48zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] trying to wrap my head around dating and finding a lasting relationship. When everyone around me seems to be taken?", "post": "I'll be graduating university next year and moving out on my own within these next few months as well. \nEssentially my life is switching gear into becoming an adult and functional member of society. Which is great! Up until recently I've always focused on my school/career/friends and over all self. I've hired a personal trainer and dietitian, I've been learning to cook; Working on lining up a long term position at my co-op. Generally bringing my life together so that it is becoming something I can be proud of.  I've never been too concerned with relationships. I've had a few flings but only 1 serious relationship that didn't last too long due to school.\n\nWell I am now ready to share my life with someone else and it's incredibly overwhelming. As a logical thinker there doesn't seem to be much logic to dating at all.\n\nSo here are my questions. Hopefully some of you could answer or at least tell me I've got nothing to worry about. Lol.\n\n1)Most people my age seem to be in serious relationships already. Did I miss my chance?  I'll be done with school soon and won't be around people my own age much longer.\n\n2)Does online dating really work? My experience hasn't been very good using OKCupid & PoF\n\n3)Should I feel this powerless dating? It seems a lot of it is simply waiting for someone to say \"yes I think you're cool we should hang\"\n\n4) How do I know if I'm ugly? It's never bothered me in the past but after putting myself out there in my best clothes and after going to the gym for so long.. I could just be gross and no amount of exercise/hygiene could help me. \u00af\\_(\u30c4)_/\u00af", "summary": "I'm a 24M just getting established in my life, have a car, apartment and great career lined up. But I'm still new to dating and I'm starting to worry that if everyone around me is taken already that I've missed my shot."}
{"id": "t3_4onu8a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining my keyboard", "post": "So yesterday I went back from a party and I was mentally very tired. After going into my house I turned on my computer to chill a bit so things get quieter in my head.  \nAs I like to do a lot of stuff at the same time I was brushing my teeth in front of my computer when I saw a big dust on my keyboard. So I with my altered mental state I decided it was a good thing to blow air on it with my mouth to get it away.   What I forgot was I had still toothpaste in my mouth so it all spread in my keyboard...  \nAfter this the panic started, I shut down my computer, tried to wash the keyboard with some water to let the toothpaste away.  Then I realised water is not good so the panic increased and I wanted to dry it so it doesn't die. \n So I took the hair dryer and started to dry it. Unfortunately I put the temperature very high so it dries faster and as a result the keyboard touch started to melt and fall...  Now it's still working but I lost some plastic in the process.", "summary": "I split toothpaste on my keyboard, then washed it with water, then melted it trying to dry it"}
{"id": "t3_3hd7re", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking our my best friend of 10 years", "post": "So, the actual thing happened about 2 weeks ago on my birthday but I currently don't know what to do.\n\nI've had a small crush on her for about 3 years now, but never wanted to risk messing anything up between us.\n\nSo it was my birthday and she called me and asked if I wanted to spend the day out with her, having nothing better to do I say yes. It started out with us going to the park and walking around for about 2 hours, then we went and watched a movie, and afterward we were hungry. We decided to go get some food, after about 10 minutes of talking and laughing at the restaurant table... I don't know what clicked in my head, but I decided to ask her out on an actual date...\n\nThe words escape my mouth \"Hey, uh, do you want to go out with me?\" \n\nShe starts crying... She got up and ran out... And while doing so, she accidentally slammed the table and I got a crotch full of ice cold water...\n\nI haven't heard from her since... Won't respond to my calls or texts... And school started back today and she avoided me like the plague... I don't know how to face her...", "summary": "asked best friend out, she ran out, accidentally hitting the table and leaving me with a crotch full of ice water, she's now ignoring/avoiding me."}
{"id": "t3_2890aj", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Trouble opening fingers after making a fist.", "post": "Hey, /r/askdocs I've had this small problem for a while. I have trouble opening my fingers after making a fist.\n I'm a 20 year old female. \n\nI never paid much attention to it as it doesn't happen very often. I can't say whether it occurs in both hands as I never gave it much thought. \n\nI squeeze my hand, as of now my left, and when I try to open it, it slowly opens. I have no pain or tingling, but I have this week feeling though, and it mainly occurs in my middle finger. I looked up trigger finger already not sure it applies as I have no pain. \n\nJust wanted some thoughts on what it might be and whether I should bring it up to my doctor.", "summary": "My middle finger opens slower than the rest of my fingers when I make a fist and open it. No pain or tingling, just a weak feeling."}
{"id": "t3_2qhazg", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "homemade flonase", "post": "45\n\nF\n\n5'8\" \n\n 161 lbs\n\nrecurring, this time 3-4 days\n\nSevere nasal congestion\n\nMedical conditions and meds not relevant to this issue \n\nI am congested as heck, can't sleep, headache, draining coughing - otherwise known as a, \"bad cold.\"  I've been prescribed Flonase, but due to difficulty getting it renewed, for several reasons,  I'll not be able to get it until sometime  the first week on January.\n\nHere's my question - My Mom went to an ENT a while ago.  He didn't have Flonase samples, but he did give her little vials in foil of Budisonide for oral inhalation, and instructions to create a solution from these little vials to create a stop-gap nasal spray.  \n\nThe issue is she forgot exactly how and what to add.  I'm sterilizing an empty pump based  nasal spray bottle.  It the same type you get at any pharmacy.\nI'm pretty sure I need to add water, and maybe saline, but I'm not sure exactly how much.  I also have the little packets to make saline.\n\nI'm not a dummy.  I know this will be a rarely used method, I know I have to sterilize everything, I know that after a few days, I need to throw it out.  Just really miserable.  I have dry mouth anyway, and trying to sleep and breathe through my mouth.  I also have the little packets to make saline.", "summary": "I have a bad cold, the worst of it is nasal congestion.  I have little vials of Budesonide  Inhalation suspension, 0.5mg/2ml.  How much water/saline do I need to approximate flonase for a short time?  Percentages or numbers are fine."}
{"id": "t3_iep5a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone's lab attacked my westie today at the dog park.", "post": "I literally looked away for a second and next thing I know my poor dog is on the ground with a lab going at this neck. All I hear is my dog screeching, yelping and I see him struggling to get free. I dropped everything and ran to him screaming his name. I swept him up in my arms and held him to me. I have never been so scared and ready for attack. He was okay, just shaken up. Yet later when I was giving him a bath I discovered bleeding marks around his eye. It makes me so upset. My poor dog. \n\nI can't help but feel sorry for this lab that attacked my dog. I feel like he lives a life where he is cooped up all day, completely ignored and unloved by his neighbors. His owner looked like a housewife who dillydallied every day getting her nails done, going out for lunch etc. Just someone who wouldn't pay attention to their dog. \n\nI am just so upset. This dog could have snapped my westie's neck. I am so freaked out and disturbed.", "summary": "Description of the attack/wounds"}
{"id": "t3_1hp3di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help with constant fighting in the household.", "post": "I'm[19F] home from my first year of college, this is longest time I've spent with my family since I've left for college.\n\nMy family fights every week at least once. Whether it's me and my mom, my sister and my mom, my sister and my brother, or me and my sister. Or sometimes two/three against one. \n\nThis isn't a new issue for us, but it's very draining coming from a more relaxed atmosphere in college for months and now every week one of is blowing up. \n\nIt's pretty difficult cause we're all very strong-headed and outspoken people with bad tempers. \n\nIt's different at school somehow cause being with friends it's easy to ignore or not take what they said personally, meanwhile with family you can't just let it go. \n\nI know that's not an excuse. I'm the oldest child so I feel mostly responsible. But I really hate it, it makes me miserable to be here and of course everyone fights but I feel like this is excessive. \n\nI don't what to do about it, I'd really like it stop. All advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Family relationships suck cause of constant fighting. Really want to improve the relations but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3lu4x9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] need to get over a girl [24 F], need your help reddit", "post": "There's this girl I like and I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same way about me.\n\nWe used to work together and about a week ago she took a job in a city thats 300 miles away. We still talk/text everyday and she's says she misses me a lot, but this is more in \"friend\" way.\n\nNow here's the sad part. I can't stop thinking about her, I can't focus on anything. Its just her I think about all day. This has begun to affect my productivity and I'm sad most of the times.\n\nI know some of you'll are going to suggest to cut off all contact with her, but that's something I really can't do right now. At least for the next few weeks until she's gonna find new freinds cause she keeps calling/texting me every now and then.\n\nI need your help reddit, please.", "summary": "I like this girl and I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same way about me. Need to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_f65cp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just became a supervisor at my job and I haven't got the faintest idea what I'm doing. Can anyone relate?", "post": "For years on end I've been working 'low end' jobs. I was a mailman, I worked the forklift in various warehouses, I mopped the floor in hospitals and hotel lobbies. I wasn't particulary happy with those jobs, in fact I knew I could do a whole lot better. It's been that way since I finished college about twelve years ago: I never really pursued a career because I was afraid of failure or to scared to get rejected at job interviews.\n\nAbout a year ago I started off at a company, working tech support. Once again: low brow, at the bottom of the foodchain with no real responsibilities. For some reason, at this company I made it to a senior position within five months. I never really did anything different then I did all those years before working other jobs, I guess this company's different, and my supervisors recognised hard work and dedication. \nTo my utter surprise I soon found my boss hinting I would be suitable for the position of supervisor myself. Even more surprising: when the day came and I had my evaluation I heard myself say: \"I want that position\". My boss simply said: \"ok.\"\n\nAnd there you have it: I am supervisor. I am head of a team of twelve people. Even though I am proud of my accomplishments I feel kind of uneasy with this kind of responsibility. What's worse? Ninety percent of the time I haven't got a clue what I am doing all day. I fill in all the forms, I tell people to get off Facebook and keep working, I try (and succeed) to reach my targets, but really at the end of every day I am left with an empty feeling of 'not having done a single fuck all day long'.\n\nWho else has a supervising position and hates this feeling? And how does one battle it? I can't just leave all the tasks my boss gives me to rest and simply start doing the techsupport work again just to satisfy that urge.\n\nBlegh.", "summary": "became supervisor after years of 'dumb labour' and haven't got a clue how to be one."}
{"id": "t3_xhmv2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What do I do now?", "post": "I (F 19) have been friends with a guy (Guy 20) for a while. After my ex and I broke up a few months ago, Me and this guy started hanging out in groups a lot. The past 3 weeks we've hung out everyday, with other people and by ourselves. I've slept over his place (No sex, messing around, or anything) Just cuddling. The other day, we messed around and he fingered me. He told me that he had feelings for me, but i said i wasn't sure if i felt the same way, and i wanted to feel things out, (we're moving over an hour away from each other in a month). I've been on vacation for a week. I miss seeing him a lot, and I really think I have feelings for him. Earlier, he was saying how much he missed me and couldn't wait for me to be back.  Over a 2 hour skype date last night, I told him that I liked him. Since we ended our conversation, he's been really distant, and we usually text all day, but today we barely talked. He said he wanted a nap around 5, and I haven't heard from him since. What do I do now?", "summary": "I hung out with this guy a lot, he said he likes me, I go on vacation, realize i miss him & like him back, I tell him, now he doesn't want to talk."}
{"id": "t3_54p5gh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Read a text message from the guy I'm seeing saying. Causing doubts", "post": "Hi Reddit, so I've been dating this guy for about 6 weeks or so. We were best friends about 2 years before this so things moved pretty quickly in that we hang out a lot etc with it being very comfortable and normal. Long story short, I unintentionally read a text conversation between him and a friend of his, he had texted him saying he needed a chat because 'started seeing this great girl but can't help but want other ones'. I'm not sure what to think of this. Any advice fellow redditors?  \n\nHe's never had a girlfriend before (something he has told me several times before that worries him). I'm torn between feeling like he's just chatting to his friend about this to figure out if that's normal (is it?) or if he just doesn't think I'm good enough for him.", "summary": "guy I'm dating wants friends advice as he 'wants other girls'. Not sure where this leaves me"}
{"id": "t3_3hl9fx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How Do I Tell My Parents I Don't Believe in God", "post": "Hi.\n\nI was brought up heavily religious, and seldom thought twice about what I was hearing. \n\nUp until about a year ago I was having an internal battle with myself. Whenever my left brain would attempt to tell me things I was hearing were bullshit, my right brain would suppress the thoughts and get me back in line like the sheep I was being groomed to become.\n\nSo as of about a year ago, after watching one of Bill Burr's standups (don't remember which one; sorry bout it) in which he mentioned the moment when he realized, and I'm paraphrasing, \"Why do I believe religion A over religion B so adamantly when neither one is really any less far fetched than the other\", I realized about the same thing. That kind of sealed it for me, and I haven't thought the same way since.\n\nNor have I wanted to.\n\nSo today I was sitting in an Italian restaurant talking to my father and mother about a certain movie I saw over the weekend; we'll call it \"Smaight Smoutta Smompton\". I inform them that civil rights have been something which has been on the forefront of my mind for the past few months.\n\nBasically my dad says that all these problems would be fixed if everyone just found Jesus. My little brother said that my dad was wrong and that even Christians sin. This went on for a little while (a brief, scaled-down depiction of the Holy Wars), when my dad finally said, \"I've got the Bible to back me up. If you don't believe it you're wrong.\"\n\nNeedless to say I was a little heated at this point, as nobody should enforce religious views on anyone.\n\nIs there a good way to tell him without endangering my relationship with him? Should I just leave it, as it may cause more problems than it solves?\n\nThanks for any replies.", "summary": "title motherfuckers."}
{"id": "t3_iztva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How Bad Is It That My 30 Year-Old Boyfriend Still Lives at Home and Has Never Had a Job?", "post": "We've been together for close to 18 months (me: F43 him: M30) and were exclusive right away. He is the kindest, most communicative person I've ever met. We \"get\" each other, have tons in common, are super affectionate and the sex is still constant. We always have lots to talk about or share with each other as well. There's no shortage of love.\n\nHowever.... I found out several months after we met that he had NEVER held a job. NEVER. I won't go into his \"philosophy\" on it, because he does have one.. . He lives at home with his widowed mom and his 19 year-old brother. One year ago he started driving his cousin to work 5 days a week (the dude lost his license for drunk driving) for $50/week. To him, this counts as a job. It was only supposed to last for 6 months... it has dragged into an entire year. I have tried to be patient. I have tried not to nag. We have talked about spending our lives together, about moving in together... how is that supposed to happen when he cannot support himself? He does refuse to move in with me without having a job, so he's not a mooch. I suppose that's a good thing.\n\nMy question, Redditors, is not so much should I break up with him... but what does it mean that he has never worked? Is it really so bad? Are there others out there? Is he just eccentric? He's super hot and gets along with everyone he meets if that means anything. :/", "summary": "30 year old bf lives with his mom & has never worked. Does that make him a lost cause?"}
{"id": "t3_1mpxoa", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How am I going to do this?", "post": "I [19M]  just moved for College and everything is new to me, new people, new environment and new situation. I met a beautiful Korean girl [18~19 years old], beautiful and just perfect. \n\nI talked to her but I noticed that her English isn't that well and self-conscious (shyness maybe?), the conversation was kinda awkward because she would speak in a really quiet voice and not really understand much... \n\nI told her that I would like to have lunch with her someday but don't think she got that... Usually, I'll get flirty and give light touches but the conversation wasn't too well since she didn't get much on what I was saying so I ended it with \"Nice to meet you, I'm hungry so I'm going to get lunch\".\n\nAnyone would like to comment or help me a bit here? \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Met a girl who cannot understand English and maybe shy, would like to get to know her better (go on a date)."}
{"id": "t3_3sznk7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of one year are completely naive on how to deal with the stresses of a long distance relationship", "post": "We've been dating for about a year and a half now, having started in high school, and now we're in college. We ended up going to different colleges, and with that came the stress of a long distance relationship. She is and was my first and only girlfriend, and aside from a short middle school fling, I'm her only boyfriend. On to the problem-\n\nWe both feel that we're 'growing apart'. Over the time from when we started college we've been able to visit each other for a weekend here and there, but never long term. This wouldn't really be that bad, considering when we first started dating we only saw each other for a short time during the week; we mostly communicated through an instant messenger. However, I think that the distance and different circumstances have highlighted a glaring fact- we really don't have all that much in common. When we were in highschool, we could hide this by talking about classes and the like, but now that we don't have any classes, teachers, or experiences in common, our chatting has dried to just about nil.\n\nI am quite the extrovert and can't stand staying inside for a whole day, whereas she is quite introverted and wouldn't mind spending a day in bed doing nothing. I have an array of hobbies (not the least of which is dicking around on this website :P), whereas she tends to try something a bit on my suggestion, and quickly decide it's not for her, and go back to her pastime of rewatching TV shows she's already seen. \n\nI enjoy being around her, and going on dates is enjoyable. We don't have any 'dramatic' issues, and haven't had any fights in the time we've been together. But I think that deep down we are sort of seeing that that might just be a byproduct of the fact that we don't have much at all in common to have any sort of passionate argument about.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 1.5 years and I feel like we are growing apart- is it just a normal feeling caused by a long-distance relationship, or is it a sign that we aren't meant to be long-term?"}
{"id": "t3_2czya5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my [28 M] boyfriend of 6 months - I'm ashamed of my body-impedes sex life", "post": "Throwaway because this is embarrassing. I've always had bad skin, and although my body acne is significantly better than it was as a teen, I still have breakouts and scars from prior acne on my chest, arms, back, neck and butt. I am very careful with what I wear (never anything shorter than short sleeves or open back, and NEVER any kind of bathing suit). I have a regimen to improve my skin, but the scarring is actually worse than the zits themselves - it makes my whole body look spotty and gross!\n\nAnyways, because of this, I have always been EXTREMELY self-conscious of my body. Additionally, while I have lost weight, I am still somewhat flabby (skinny-fat, if you will), and I can only have sex with my BF in the dark when I am drunk (and when I'm sure he's had some alcohol as well... I guess so maybe he won't notice my body).\n\nWe are going on a beach vacation with his family this fall and I'm terrified. I wouldn't be caught DEAD in a bikini and I feel like a weirdo if I try to come up with an explanation as to why I won't wear one around anyone.\n\nLong story short, I don't know if he's noticed the severity of my body issues, but I never let him see me naked in the light of day or sober.\n\nAnyone else have similar experiences/suggestions?", "summary": "I have body issues (body acne/scarring and weight issues) that prevent me from having a normal life without shame and prevent me from having a better ex life with my BF."}
{"id": "t3_t1ybu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Boyfriend Called 911 on me and now I have a domestic violence charge.", "post": "I really need to talk about this. \n\nFirst, Saturday night my boyfriend took a massive amount of xanex (sp?) and drank a ton of hard liquor. He is Bipolar and Paranoid Schizophrenic. When he drinks heavily it is like a flip is switched and he is a completely different person, more so than the average drunk person. \nI was previously in a very abusive relationship, and also have PTSD, so when my boyfriend started coming at me aggressively I pushed him away, I then agreed to just take him home, and took a different way than he was used to that was my big mistake, he then thought I was kidnapping him and called 911. \nI took him back to my house instead of making the officers look all over for us, we then waited for them to show up. \nWe are both interviewed by the officers, and I admit to pushing him away from me. They arrest me, and also take him to the hospital for detox, along the way he apparently gave them some problems (as he is prone to do, he gets violent, never with me) and they arrested him as well. \n\nI feel absolutely sick to my stomach, and hurt, I hope this is the right place for this post. \nYes, this is a throwaway", "summary": "Boyfriend had a manic episode, I pushed him away, He called 911."}
{"id": "t3_2lznn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] girlfriend [22 F] of eleven months, has been depressed and stressed lately. Her ex also recently tried to break us up.", "post": "My girlfriend has been working really long retail shifts for the last two months and she's been getting extremely stressed out from it. She's been crying in my arms some nights because of it. Her ex also recently tried contacting her to get her to break up with me, but she told him to leave us alone and stayed with me.\n\nI feel like she's been disconnected lately.  Messages I send her usually get a one-word reply.  She doesn't have the same passion for food or games like she used to.  Whenever I spend time with her in-person, she acts like she used to, but I think that she's hurting from the weight of all of these things in her life.\n\nI've been depressed before in my life and I can see the same things going on with her that were going on with me.  I just wish I knew what to do other than be here for her. \nI really want her to be happy, and I've tried to help.  I've gotten her candy, flowers, all of the cliche stuff, listened to everything she has to say, spent time with her together going out on dates and dinners, lunches, etc.\n\nI always try and be there for her emotionally.  I let her know that I love her and that she can always talk to me about how she feels.  She says that I'm the best boyfriend she's ever had.\n\nShe knows that she wants to be a background artist for a video game company, but she can't get a good student loan to go back to school.  She's been really worried about not wanting to end up in a dead-end job forever.  \n\nI think she's really talented and she could go far, but I don't know how to help her with that.  I've showed her some indie projects she could submit ideas to get her started down that path, but so much of her time is taken up by work.", "summary": "I think that my girlfriend is going through depression.  What can I do to help her through it and break her out of the depression?"}
{"id": "t3_1p2pdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [27/F] has a lack of communication with me [28/M], it's been mentioned before.", "post": "So, today I tried to plan a night with my SO (of 1+ year), and she tells me she has all sorts of errands to run.  I usually go to the gym on Tuesday, but since I had to pick her up from the Greyhound station last night, she assumed I was going tonight.  She didn't tell me last night that she had made appointments for tonight, or else I would've grabbed my gym bag.  I did in fact tell her last night that I wasn't going to the gym.\n\nThis particular situation is not a big deal, I can just hang out at her place until she's done.  What IS a big deal, is that last week we had an argument about her total lack of communication.  I even said these exact words: \"for the love of everything that's good in this world, please, please, please try to communicated better!\"  I repeated that at different times until I was blue in the face.  Also, it's worth mentioning that I brought it up in a lighter sense a couple weeks before that.\n\nI love her to death, but sometimes I feel like I have to be a psychic and it's gnawing away at all the good stuff.  Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship, and, though she seems to know that, she doesn't quite know HOW to effectively communicate.  Any advice on how to talk to her constructively?", "summary": "SO has a hard time communicating effectively.  We've talked about it/argued about it before, and it hasn't improved."}
{"id": "t3_1o8nrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22M with my 22 F girlfriend, 6m, she has a friend who wants something serious, but she doesn't want to", "post": "We've been dating for a couple of months. I like her SO much and she tells me the same.\n\nFlashback - She has a friend, who doesn't live in my country, who wants something with her, but she doesn't want to. In fact, he already told her his feeling for her, but she only sees him as a friend (This happened when she was with her ex, last year)\n\nHe told her when she were single, they should hook up. She told him she wasn't interested. They kept talking, she met me, we start dating. Somehow he knows about it, he reclaims her that he asked her to hook up when she were single.\n\nFlashforward - He came to the country to try again with her, even when she told him she wasn't interested. Now, she just told me she was having \"mixed feelings about her situation and our situation, but not about her feelings for me, because she is sure she loves me so much\". And she needs to talk to me. I'm scared of losing her, and I like her SO much.", "summary": "Friend of GF wants something with her, she doesn't want to. Now she has mixed feelings for her situation but not for her feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_xzglp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(M/19) am trying to pick up this girl(F/18) that comes into the coffee shop that I work at it.", "post": "She's one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen, she comes in kind of frequently, sometimes with her friends, and sometimes by herself. A couple days ago I saw her by herself and I was working the espresso machine and made her a drink and put a heart in it with latte art. She thanked me, smiled, and when I went back to work I saw her take a picture of it and text text text, looking back at me quite frequently and smiling.\n\nNow, when she left I was off the clock and talking to one of my co-workers, but on her way out she kind of motioned towards me like she was going to come talk to me, but she kind of backed away and left, I told her to have a good day and we both smiled at each other.\n\nSo reddit, what was going through her mind when she backed away? Was she just nervous? Didn't know what to say? And what do I say next time I see her? I've never been the talkative type, I've always been really shy, until recently, I've opened up quite a bit. But I'm just trying to figure out how to talk to her, how to get her number, name, all that stuff. All the girls I've gone after, my friends introduced us, so I've never really gone after someone like this before. Thanks for your time in advance!", "summary": "beautiful girl comes into the coffee shop I work at quite frequently, I make her a drink and she loves it, but when she left we had a slightly awkward encounter."}
{"id": "t3_26xwhi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (29M) and my wife (25F) have been married for 3 years, and my wife STILL will not kiss me.", "post": "I (29M) have been married to my wife (25m) for 3 years, and have been together for a total of 5 years. we have two kids, one is 6(from my previous relationship), and 3. Through our relationship we have had a LOT of separation due to military, deployments, and living in different states. Now we are together and living together, and we have a fairly healthy sex life and love life. we truly LOVE each other, and have a wonderful relationship, but here's the catch. I love kissing. little smooches, making out, sensual kisses, all mouth to mouth contact. My wife, however will not kiss me. At All. we have talked about this for a long time, and it's not my breath, teeth, taste, or anything along those lines. her reasoning is \"it's not my thing, but I will work on it\". This has been an EXTREME strain on our marriage, and I don't know what to do. I wish she would be more into kissing, but I don't want to force her. However, this is something I am REALLY into.", "summary": "my wife wont kiss me, but I love kissing, and it's killing me."}
{"id": "t3_fuohu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I find out if a girl recently became single?", "post": "Quick history lesson:\n\nLast summer a girl started working at my company.  We work in different departments.  When she started working, I took notice and made an effort to get to know her.  After a couple months, I asked her out and found out she was involved with someone......which was verified when we became facebook friends later on.  I didn't take it personal and we simply stayed friends at work.\n\nWell recently, I'm getting a vibe that she's interested in hanging out together.  We never hangout outside of work, we just talk during work and we'll go out to lunch together.  We never talk about personal topics, just current events.  Oh, and I deleted facebook a few months ago.  the reason I don't just ask is because I don't want her to think I'm just staying friends to wait until she's single.....cause that's not the case.  And I'd like to avoid the \"I already told you I'm involved\" response.  Like I stated eariler, we never talk about relationships, so it would be weird for me to bring it up nonchalantly.\n\nAre there methods of finding this type of info out?", "summary": "I asked a girl out a few months ago....she was taken.  Now I think she's single, but I don't know for sure.  How do I find out without seeming pushy?"}
{"id": "t3_21id31", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Victims of IRL Scam Meetups and Conventions, what are your stories?", "post": "Recently, I became aware of the Minecraft Convention scam, \"Meeting of the Mines,\" through BebopVox's [video on the subject.](\n\n(TL;D-Watch: Rich guy by the name of Kevin Roman ran a Minecraft convention. Claimed it was sponsored by Nickelodeon, Red Bull, and Play N Trade. Promised to give away a bunch of stuff, such as 200 Lego Minecraft sets, and 10 Playstation 4's. Only one", "summary": "Kevin Roman screwed over a solid 1000 people, got $50,000 from it, and made a half-assed Minecraft convention that lasted two hours and gave out pens instead of the many prizes they promised.)"}
{"id": "t3_432ltf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and moving to the same city at my ex gf [22 F], not too sure how to handle it considering I'm still not over her", "post": "My ex and I had a brief relationship (around 2 months) a little over a year ago in college. We ended on relatively good terms. Despite being crazy for each other, we were both at tough points in our lives. Sometimes it felt like we didn't have time for each other. So she wanted to avoid either of us getting hurt and decided to end things. In my eyes it came from no where, since I was at least hoping to give things a shot. But I also didn't do much to try and win her back. I never fully got over her despite dating other girls and doing my best to move on. We had brief encounters in the pursuing months and it proved that she wasn't over me either. \n\nWe both graduated and after a couple months back in my home town, I decided to move to a new city. It just so happens that she lives in this same city. It's not the reason for me moving, I have many other friends that reside in that city, its in the same state as the school I graduated from, so most of my college friends live there too. But now that I've been in the process of securing a job and apartment, my ex has spontaneously started texting me again. She is now aware that I am moving up there and has been mentioning how much she would love to see me. \n\nI'm still not over this girl and I'm scared to get hurt again. I was in a really dark place for some time following our breakup and it wasn't too long ago that I finally felt like I was taking steps towards bouncing back. I'd be lying if I said the thought of us getting back together doesn't excite me, but I can't go down the same road as before.\n\nHow should I go about all this?\nIs the risk worth giving it another shot?", "summary": "Moving to the same city as my ex-gf she wants to see me, but I still have strong feelings for her and I'm scared of getting hurt"}
{"id": "t3_vjsuz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF is very depressed and going through a tough time right now. I don't know how to help, and I need guidance", "post": "Bare with me, its pretty long.\n\nAlright, so my gf has had a troubled past; she was raped when she was thirteen by a \"friend\" and as a result, her family completely fell apart. Her father actively despises her for this, her twin brother is an addict, and her parents are seeking a divorce. Her entire life since that incident has been a nightmare, and it shows in her relationships which have ended in her getting used and cheated on. Despite this she is very tough and resilient, but i think that stubbornness has run out.\n\nShe is very depressed and tells me how she has had enough and doesn't care anymore. her tumultuous relationship with her father is at the core of this. She dropped out of high school and just recently got her GED to show her dad she is willing to give schooling a second chance. The agreement was she would go to school and he would give her her car back. But he went back on his word and just yells at her and puts her down whenever she brings it up.\n\nSo now she's jobless without a car to take her to work and school and basically incapable of sustaining herself because of it. On top of that her dad kicked her out of the house for getting a tattoo, while her twin brother is an addict who comes home fucked up on god knows what. She's been living with my uncle since she is childhood friends with my cousin, but she has become completely depressed and demotivated. She feels like her situation is hopeless and has told me she doesnt care anymore. I don't know what to do or say to help, and its frustrating because i really care for her. \n\nI'm really scared guys.", "summary": "my girlfriend has a troubled past of rape and a broken family and is at a point where she wants to give up, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_o0n2o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you make you make an authoritarian dad  less strict?", "post": "I'm almost 23, graduated college with a degree and about to start a part time job. My dad only lets me out of the house once a week, if at all. I've developed a system of sneaking out during the daytime and rushing home before he comes back from work. I feel like I've lost some friends bc of this system. They can only hang out past 6 and well, I have to be home by then. One time, I came home at 10, and he almost kicked me out of the house. \n\nI don't have any income as of yet, so moving out, I'd be homeless or crashing at a friends house. And I'd hate to be someone's inconvenience. I don't want to have to move out to acquire my freedom bc of the financial issues. I don't want to lose friends either though. I feel like a lot of my college friends feel like I've forgotten about them bc I simply can't hang out when they want to. :(", "summary": "So, how do you make your parents less strict?"}
{"id": "t3_2s1cgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] Developed feelings for friend [25 F] but she's in a relationship", "post": "Ahh, the good old bro code violation; never thought it would happen to me. I'll spare excess details but we've known each other for a little under a year now. It has been great; she's basically the female version of me. We would chat and hang now and then out but in the recent months, we've been spending much more time together especially in 1 on 1 situations ehhhhhh movies and dinners, concerts, road trips. She traveled for the holidays and we chatted near daily and towards the end of her trip, we talked about how we missed our adventures and I realized how much I was looking forward to seeing her again. I've come to the conclusion she had basically became a surrogate girlfriend for me as I became recently single. \n\nSo yeah, I do think it would be best to limit contact with her, maybe even cut her out but even if the solo meets end, we both attend a gathering pretty regularly so I know I'll be seeing her again. I dunno, it's tough, anyone  been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Got the hots for a friend; something needs to give (and it's me)."}
{"id": "t3_27mxls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/M] and a friend [20/F] recently started dating. Her ex [21/M] is one of my friends and they occasionally cuddle.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been best friends for about a year and decided that we very much liked each other and wanted to start dating. \n\nHer and her ex bf have been broken up for about eight months. He is one of my good friends and the two of them are still very close as well. About a month ago they even considered getting back together and then quite soon after then me and this girl began to date. \n\nI have told her on numerous occasions that pda makes me uncomfortable and I feel very uncomfortable when she cuddles with her ex. I do understand she is a person who like to touch others, and she may not be doing it because she is romantically interested in him. \n\nI plan to make it clear that I feel uncomfortable with them cuddling. Is there anything else I should do? Do I have a right to be upset? How should I address her? First serious girlfriend and I don't want to fuck anything up. Thanks!", "summary": "Girlfriend cuddles with ex, I don't think she has bad intentions but what should I do."}
{"id": "t3_2lss3m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being embarrassed of my smelly feet.", "post": "So, this was actually many years ago. \n\nI was still a virgin and had it bad for my female flat mate. There were 4 of us sharing the flat and one of the guys was a real psycho.\n\nOne evening we (me and said girl) were out at one of her friends for the evening drinking and getting stoned after a night shift (we also worked together in a casino).\n\nWhen it got to time to leave she decided she would stay the night on her friends futon to avoid dealing with Mr psycho, I was invited to share it with her.\n\nThis was after a 10 hour shift in a hot casino wearing cheap imitation leather shoes. Now my feet don't smell like roses under the best of conditions so there was no way I was gonna climb into bed with this girl, who I was truly besotted with, with feet that smelled like ass. \n\nSo I made an excuse and went on my way, happy with knowledge that she was happy to share a bed with me.\n\nI stepped out of the apartment, slipped on the stairs and snapped the tendons in my right ankle.\n\nPainfully and sheepishly and climbed back up the steps and asked them to call an ambulance for me (the hospital was far away, no-one had a car of money for a taxi).\n\nAt the hospital I had a 4 hour wait and stern lecture from the staff about wasting an ambulance.\n\nThat girl ended up being the one that got away, a few months later she was pregnant by her now husband.\n\nI am now happily engaged to a wonderful woman, but we all think about the one that got away, don't we?", "summary": "Embarrassed by smelly feet virgin boy passes up sex opportunity with girl he's been wanting for months, ends up in hospital by slipping on way home and loses chance with girl forever."}
{"id": "t3_3xe7f0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Starting a Soylent and Juice diet and C25k", "post": "Soooooo, I tried to use my withings scale monday and it started going on the fritz.. last time it worked I was around 385 and have probably gained from there. My guess, I broke it. \n\nAnyways... I immediately ordered 48 Soylent 2.0 bottles and am going to really focus this next month on being super vigilant on dietary decisions. I chose the bottles because I travel for work and may need to throw a weeks worth in my checked luggage at a moment notice. I also chose the bottles because its easier, and a ready to go meal option. \n\nAs far as the juice. My wife got really into the \"fat sick and nearly dead\" guy's plan. She's always been kinda fit, but is a big time herbalist kinda gal. For our wedding we went on a strict juice diet and I got all the way down to 340ish. That was in april. A lot of factors rocketed me back up to this new high(low) in my life. chief among them, the work travel and ease of grubhub. \n\nThe juice she makes is part Kale, Beets, Pineapple, Apple, Ginger, Carrot, Papaya, celery, and lemon. All ran through the blender that guy did a documentary on. Its a big mess, but she is pretty committed to making sure there is always some available for me. \n\nI have received the Soylent and know that I can handle the bland taste. It's enjoyably bland. I plan to log everything the best I can over at Myfitnesspal, and then also making sure I get some sort of exercise in. I downloaded the C25k app, and have access to kinect fitness on my xbox. The big thing now is just getting it in everyday.\n\nAs you can see from my posting history, I got a new job Jan '15, Married in April, Stopped smoking in June, grandparents 60th in july and almost lost a friend in a freak Car vs Gaming Chair accident in December. All these things inspire me to get this next phase started. Get a jump start on my new years resolution.", "summary": "no time like the present"}
{"id": "t3_1ogcvj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Temporary Investment income for stay-at-home mom", "post": "30 years old.  Car paid off.  Student loans are paid off.  $45k in retirement.  Great credit.  3 years worth of emergency funding.  No debt other than my house, which holds a lot of value right now in this sellers market where I live.\n\nI don't particularly like my job.  I also HATE the city I live in.  And I'm expecting my first kid early next year. No one in my line of work gets pregnant because it's a male dominated field.  They get their wives pregnant and then continue working long hours.\n\nI'm considering quitting my job, selling the house, taking my emergency savings and moving close to my family where I could afford to pay cash for a new home similar to the one I'm in.  The problem is my job title is practically non-existent back home unless I start up my own gig, which would make this future motherhood thing much easier if I could work from home.\n\nIf I do this, I need to consider that my start-up might take a year or two to take off.  In which case, I'm looking for some reliable investment income that would just pay the bills and health insurance, let's say $2400 a month.  I'm planning on buying a couple properties to rent out, but I want to be sure to diversify with the additional funds I have.  Is it even realistic to think I can generate $1000+/ monthly from stocks/bonds/etc. if I were to invest only $50k?\n\nUp until now I've been playing around on etrade like it's vegas... investing a little here, getting back a little there.  So far my 5 month return has only been $4k, but that was with only an $8k starting investment, and since I didn't know much I kind of feel I just got lucky.\n\nAny help would be gladly appreciated!", "summary": "total life overhaul. Looking to generate $1000+/monthly to pay bills with $50k starting investment.  If that's not feasible, throw a more realistic number at me."}
{"id": "t3_4rucgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex girlfriend[17 F] 1 month, How to move on.", "post": "So my ex girlfriend and myself were close friends for an extremely long time and eventually we got into a relationship (30/12/15) and she broke up with me a few months back (2/02/16). \n\nI loved her a lot and I still do. She really screwed me over and I never got closure from the relationship. We ended on good terms but we now no longer speak because she dislikes me for some reason. I still see her around college talking and flirting with other lads and it really makes me angry.\n\nI get really protective and obsessive over her and I want to get over her before I do something crazy that I will regret. Any advice?", "summary": "I want to get over my ex before I do something crazy that could land me in trouble and I will regret. Any help (p.s, I have tried counselling and all of the generic stuff)"}
{"id": "t3_1qacj1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] have ALWAYS been in a relationship for about 5 years - how do I begin to have a positive relationship with myself?", "post": "So I'm not sure if this is the best subreddit for my question, but I figure it's worth a shot!\n\nI have been in relationships with multiple women since I was 16 pretty much constantly. The longest I've lasted without any sort of commitment has been literally a week before I've managed to rope myself into something new.\n\nI have just broken up with my most recent girlfriend [19/F] after recognising that I think what I need most in my life for myself at this point is to be 'okay' with being 'alone' for quite sometime.\nI don't think I'm a terribly dependant person (aside from emotionally) as I have certainly made a solid path for myself. More I feel this is a fear that I've avoided and simply never faced.\n\nI have never let myself fully 'get over' someone and let myself go through any sort of heartbreak. I literally dive into the next thing.\n\nI'm very scared at the moment of being alone - despite trying to be rational that I'm a young man with plenty of life to see. I guess it's more fear of the unfamiliar and unknown.\n\nSo reddit, how do I teach myself to be okay with 'being alone\"?", "summary": "Been in relationships all the time for all of adult life. Fear of being alone. How do I be okay with being alone?"}
{"id": "t3_w63mm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "birthday's are a meaningless excuse to have a party and feel more special than you are, and the term cake day is so painfully contrived it hurts.", "post": "(not meant as a serious dissertation; there is little weight or concern on the matter. i just have too much free time sometimes.)\n\nfor several months i was unsure whether it meant IRL, or the anniversary of becoming a redditor. \n\ni think an excuse to have a party and feel special is fine, especially for children, and to a lesser extent young adults. i feel that to use it to beg for meaningless scraps of attention is absurd and unattractive, but so many of them do it they reinforce each other. most times i find it mildly annoying and ignore it and the post, but i wanted to put my thoughts here one time. i realize it's a petty complaint, but i still wish people would behave more like adults. unless it's all teenagers doing it. if that's the case, my apologies. but for some reason i strongly suspect that it's not limited to that demographic. anyone else have a thought on the matter they'd like to share?", "summary": "birthdays are fine for children, but for god's sake grow up already. unless you're teenagers. in that case, carry on. but i still would like the term cake day to fall into disuse."}
{"id": "t3_2nl8xw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my [28F] girlfriend of one week, is it common to break off friendship with my ex?", "post": "So I officially started dating this girl after a couple months of being friends. During that time I was friendly with my ex, never meeting in person, just friendly conversation a few times a month. I took our break-up really hard and continued to be in love with her even though she had a new boyfriend. \n\nSo as I met this new girl, things with the ex were still an issue. So once I made it official with her, she asked that I no longer be friends with my ex because of my feelings for her in the past. Now my ex is all upset that we can't talk or be friends. It's hard on me as well. I enjoyed my ex's friendship. But I understand where my new GF is coming from. \n\nIs this normal? I feel like staying friends after a break-up is uncommon. I don't think I'm being unreasonable to my ex by saying we can't stay friends. I just feel like a jerk right now and would like some input.", "summary": "Is it common to stay friends with your ex that you had feelings for recently?"}
{"id": "t3_47mjv6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by starting a fire inside my friends car, because I was cold.", "post": "Alright, long story short. Friend using porta potty on side of road, he's taking a REALLY long time. It's fucking cold, and he took the keys with him so I can't turn the heat on.\n\nWell, I have a lighter, and there are handfuls of receipts and papers in his car. Fire = warm, so I bunched it all up on the top of his dashboard in this cute little arrangement, and I lit it. \n\nFor the first several seconds, it was a pretty good idea, unfreezing my dead hands, until it went completely out of control, the flames having burnt the ceiling and the dashboard's plaatic. In panic, I flung it all over to the driver's seat, where it caught the seat on fire, making matters worse. Had to eventually smother it with a blanket.\n\nFriend comes back to burnt seat, smoking plastic (Made a horrid looking singe mark in the center), and grey ash everywhere. Good this car already had 200k miles on it.", "summary": "Impulsively set interior of car on fire for the sake of my own insignificant comfort"}
{"id": "t3_2qvnzk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "2 voice recordings reviewed by insurance company.", "post": "Rant.  I'm going to use brevity.  Been on the phone for hours addressing this.  Wife with full maternity insurance; 30 days newborn covered; At day 27 I moved baby to my own policy being told all the maternity would be covered on wife policy.  They filed everything late and pretended it was my fault and charging me everything.  Spoke with supervisor who reviewed recorded phone call.  Assured everything good.  Rinse and repeat.  Still good?  Nope.  Called today, they pretend no record of any of it.\n\nI'm polite but firm but no luck fighting.  It's nuts.  At this point I'm going to fork over 2.5k on top of 8k already paid (And they told me 6k should be max) but they wont do shit.\n\nLesson is.... I dont know, record all your conversations?  Honestly I thought I was dealing with a square company.  They ignore their own conversations saying our shit was covered.  \n\n*sorry frustrated, but well... record your shit.\n\n/rant and", "summary": "I'm getting screwed by insurance because they can ignore their own recorded conversations.  Gr with a capital G."}
{"id": "t3_pnqbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feel like me and my GF are stuck in a \"loop\", could use some advice.", "post": "My GF (23) and I (21), have been dating for 2 years and we had been acquaintances for a year or so before hand. We see a lot of each other and spend the night together 80+% of the time, whether at my place or hers. \n\nWe have had a recurring argument for a long time that comes up every 2 months or so about her perceptions our relationship, where she feels that I take her for granted, that she does so much for me that I don't seem to appreciate and that I'm not always there for her. Often the argument comes up after one of us has been away from the other for a couple days. I try to be supportive and talk it out with her because its important to me that I understand her frustrations and make sure it doesn't happen again but when we start getting to the root of the problem (this can take a very long time, since she is reluctant to talk about it) she tends to get more upset saying that explaining herself just makes her sound like the \"bad guy\". When I tell her that its really upsetting to me that she does this (It gives me the feeling that I've done something horribly wrong but it never gets resolved and I never get any indication of how to be a better BF for her) she shrugs it off and we go on until the next time this happens. \n\nIn the mean time she has been busier and busier with school, spending little time with friends, since her free time is usually spent with me (her choice) and our sex life has been less and less active.\n\nI just feel like we're stuck in a loop and at the same time our relationship is faltering in other ways. I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have recurring fight about me not living up to her expectations that goes unresolved despite my interest in laying it to rest."}
{"id": "t3_1n5eda", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Definitely wanting to change my major but I would like some opinions", "post": "Apologies in advance for the length and I would like to note that I do have plans to talk to various people at my university but I would like to hear from fellow Redditors who have perhaps been in similar situations.\nAnyways, here's my situation:\n\nI am currently a sophomore graphic design major. When I graduated high school I thought for sure that graphic design was what I wanted to do but after getting a little farther into the program and looking ahead, I've decided that it's not something I want to continue with.\n\nFor those wondering why I don't want to continue, I'm honestly just not as passionate about graphic design and the time commitment is causing me a lot of stress. I hate to sound lazy, but I want a major/to take classes that will allow me to have a life. I've even found myself wishing I had papers to write.\n\nWith that being said, I am not 100% what I would want to switch majors to, but I do have some ideas. At the same time, I don't want to completely switch to another major only to find out that once again it's not what I like. I am definitely finishing out this semester in my graphics classes and I plan on putting forth effort, but I'm not as concerned about whether or not my projects are \"portfolio-material.\"\n\nHere is what I am thinking about doing for next semester:\nI have not taken a ton of general education courses so I am wanting to take a variety of classes that interest me and also fulfill general education requirements. Of the possible majors I am thinking of switching to, some of these general education classes do apply to them or fit in the same category. Is this a good idea? Like I mentioned before, I don't want to completely throw myself into a different major in the event that it's not what I'm interested in.", "summary": "wanting to switch majors but uncertain as to what I want to switch to; should I take a variety of general education classes that interest me next semester? "}
{"id": "t3_36i4mb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting into university.", "post": "After all my applications were sent off I was stuck waiting patiently for responses, expecting the earliest in about 6 weeks time.\n\nSo you can understand my shock when I read an E-mail from one of the better schools saying that I've been accepted unconditionally a few hours ago.\n\nFirst thing I do is call my dad, sheer excitement pouring out of my voice like an orgasmic Niagara Falls.\n\n(Introducing Senor FU) Riddled with happiness I jump up for joy, pull my knees in (I swear I got some hang time) and extend them outwards.\n\nMy left foot lands on the floor, entirely on the left pinky toe. And I collapse.\n\nPain shoots up my left leg like Satan himself had just decided to test it as a new location for hell. As if he were sexually assaulting my foot with a barbed fishhook.\n\nAfter an hour of laughing at myself I decided to go to the doctor, handed in my insurance information and they took an X-ray. Doctor says I might have broken my foot due to how I can't move my little toe, but it might be a fracture or, even better, just a severe sprain.", "summary": "Got into university, and in my excitement I jumped for joy, landed on my foot and severely damaged it. Won't know what's up for a day or two."}
{"id": "t3_2xf5fp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [21/f] talk to the cute delivery driver that comes to my workplace?", "post": "So I work in a bank and every afternoon we have a delivery person come and collect our paperwork and whatnot to be transported to head office. Well the new delivery guy is super cute and he looks to be around the same age as me. He seems interested but is the awkward/shy type. On his first day on the job he came to us way too early (before we were even closed) so I let him sit in the branch and I fed him some chocolate (haha). \n\nThe trouble is there is no time for me to actually talk to him as I literally have to press a button to open the doors, practically throw the bag of stuff at him and then the doors close (can't hang around with the doors open as we have money everywhere at this time of day) so all we can ever say so each other is \"Hey! Have a good afternoon! Seeya!\" \n\nI was thinking of just handing him a piece of paper with my number on it but I think that might be a bit too forward considering I don't even know his name. Also I'd like to find out if he has a girlfriend/gauge his interest a bit more before giving my number to someone I will have to see every day. \n\nI am off work this week and my colleagues know that i think he's cute so god knows what they might say to him while i am gone.\n\nAny ideas? I know I need to talk to him for more than 3 seconds, but how?", "summary": "cute delivery driver comes to my work but I have no time to actually talk to him. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_hfk18", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you watch a reality television show, about making reality television shows?", "post": "So I was thinking about how most reality television shows suck, and I thought to myself, \"How could I make one better?\"\n\nBasically, on my show, each contestant would be given a finite amount of money to build and create their own reality television show. They have total control over it. The first couple episodes of my show would be about the creation of their shows, then they start to recruit people to be on their shows.\n\nFor the rest of my shows season, the contestants would have their shows play out for an entire season. Eventually shows would be \"voted off\" because they dont get good ratings on the network. The winner would go on to create a second season of their show.\n\nThis would allow for multiple reality television show ideas out there that networks wouldn't usually fund, and the best show gets a network deal. Sounds like a pretty good deal to me, what do you think?", "summary": "R E A L I N C E P T I O N"}
{"id": "t3_4998p9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My partner (32/f) and I (32/m) just figured out that we both like to give sexual attention, but don't enjoy receiving it that much. How can we make this work?", "post": "My partner and I have been together for three years. Lately, things have been sorta slow sexually. We've attributed this to a couple things (busy/stressful schedules, we've both put on a bit of weight since we started dating, etc...) but we recently realized that we both like to give sexual attention more than we like to receive it. \n\nFor example, I get turned on by kissing and touching her body and seeing/hearing/feeling her respond, but am largely indifferent toward or feel awkward about her giving me the same type of attention.\n\nThis realization really explains a lot of the frustration we've both been feeling. One of us will try to initiate sex by touching/kissing the other, but the other doesn't respond as positively as desired because they're uncomfortable being the one getting touched/kissed.\n\nAny advice/solutions/suggestions to help with this? Is it possible for two \"givers\" to please each other when neither is that thrilled to receive?", "summary": "We'd both rather touch than be touched, but we still want to have sex with each other. How?"}
{"id": "t3_41erh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] been talking to a guy [28M] for months and all of sudden falls of the face of the earth. What should I do?", "post": "I've been talking to a guy I met online for about 3+ months and it is long distance. Both in our late twenties. We've talked & texted almost everyday and have Facetimed a few times as well. It is going really well and we both like each other and potentially see a real future.\n\nHe recently went to New York for an interview and after talking to him once when he was there, I have not been in contact or have heard from him since. I know the assumption is that he is probably no longer in to me, but it's the oddest thing - everytime I've called or texted, it goes straight to voicemail or the iPhone texts go out as green (he has an iPhone so blue is what I'd expect). Assuming his phone died, but I have no other way of contacting him (did not exchange emails). Our last conversation and texts were are positive. Most, if not all conversations were forward looking and talks of what we could eventually be.\n\nI'm just lost Reddit and I need to understand what possibly could have happened. I'm okay if he lost interest in me but my mind wanders to his actual safety and well-being. I'm so confused. Please help me Reddit, I want to know if he is okay. Thoughts?", "summary": "Talking to a guy for a few months, went to NY and haven't heard back since."}
{"id": "t3_3yfysn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jinxing a cop", "post": "So this was about a week ago.  I'm from near DC so I regularly drive on I-66.  Those of you familiar with the area know that there are certain lanes only to be used during rush hour.  I was going and jamming to some tunes, not really paying attention to where I was supposed to exit, I ended up moving into the exit lane one exit early.  There was a slow car in front of me so I figured, why not just pass this car and kill two birds with one stone.  So I did and slipped into the rush hour lane.  Only it wasn't rush hour.  Cue police lights.  I had no idea the cop was even there on the road, but whatever.  I pull over, cop did his thing writing down my license plate or whatever.  He comes to my car, asking for my information (name, date of birth, social, etc.)  Ha writing it all down when he suddenly drops his pen in my car.  At the same time we both say \"whoops, sorry about that\" and then out of pure habit I say \"Jinx!  Ha ha.\" while picking up his pen.  The cop stopped, looked at me for a good 5 seconds before muttering something that was probably \"What a dumbass\".  Well lads that's probably 5 points on my license.", "summary": "I jinxed a cop and got myself points on my license"}
{"id": "t3_3bf91h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to cross the street.", "post": "It wasn't actually today, much like most other posts here. But here's what happened: I was walking with my friend to his house, and we were going down the main road in our town to stop by this fancy tea place. Eventually we had to cross the street by this expensive private Catholic School, and it was a narrow street and we had 5 seconds left. Before we could run across, the crossing guard jumped in front of us and said \"I know you could cross, but i'm being watched\" and pointed to the sky above the church, creeping the fuck out of me and my friend as we just kept walking.", "summary": "[REDACTED]"}
{"id": "t3_pvkig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Facebook university meme page 'would you rather'", "post": "**Background:**\n\nMy class has a universal facebook page where people ask questions of their classmates mostly about textbooks, social events and which professors to take. Lately, a bunch of \"memes\" have been popping up on the page, giving tons of notifications to every member of the group. They have drawn complaints since my school is, shall we say, very technologically hip to be nice about it. (I can't claim to not be a nerd myself, it is an engineering school after all.) I enjoy having the page as a resource, but many people, including myself, are considering leaving the group.\n\n**Question:**\n\nSo my question is, is making a 'University meme page validated in this case?", "summary": "Class fbook group getting bombarded with 'meme' posts, OK to make meme page?"}
{"id": "t3_10imeb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Canada] Legality of gay webcam sex between an 18-year-old and a 15-year-old?", "post": "When I was 18, I met someone playing an online game. We had a ton of things in common, one of which is we were both gay. (We're also both Canadian.)\n\nWe started talking; one thing led to another and we ended up jerking off on a webcam together. We both willingly did this a few times.\n\nEventually it occurred to me that I was jerking off with a minor, and might be illegal. Not wanting to end up on a sex-offenders list or spend any time in jail, I quickly ceased all communication with my friend.\n\nFast forward five years, my now 20-year-old friend manages to e-mail me. He says that he's thought about me a lot and thought I hated him. \n\nSo two questions:\n\nWas the stuff I did on a webcam five years ago illegal?\n\nWould it be OK for me (now 23) to renew communications with my friend?", "summary": "Five years ago, 18M masturbated with a 15M male over a webcam. 18yo ceases communication in fear of legality. Five years later, now 20yo wants renew communications. Legal/Not Legal?"}
{"id": "t3_2r8jdd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Employer matching 401k and additional retirement plan", "post": "I'm about 1.5 years out of school and my mom mentioned over the holidays that my employer has relatively (in her opinion) poor benefits as far as retirement savings.\n\nThey have a traditional 401-k with 25% employer matching of the first 6% of my contributions from my income. They also have a \"Retirement saver\" that matches 100% of the first 3% of my *post* tax contributions. I have my contributions to my 401-k at 6% but have adjusted the retirement savings account to 0% at my moms advice. The match portion of these is subject to a vesting schedule of 5 years. Specifically:\n\n* 20% after two years\n* 40% after three years\n* 60% after four years\n* 100% vested after five years\n\nThere's about 8.8k in those accounts in total (5.7 in the 401k and 1.1 in the retirement saver) to date. I work in a high turnover industry where many people leave after 2-3 years. I know I will definitely make it to two years but after that is questionable. Should I bother with these plans, esp the \"retirement saver\" if I could be investing that money instead for grad school? This is why my mom suggested bringing that one down to 0% contributions, especially since it's post tax. I have a 529 account with about 50k in it, which I put 10 into within the past year. I know I will have to get an MBA at some point, but have debated not doing that to get out of business and into another field (still requiring further education). Other info: no other assets except my checking account of about 10k, no debt. Am also open to setting up my own IRA or investing a little in an index fund but thought school should come first, per the FAQ here.", "summary": "might leave employer soon, are savings plans worth if if they are subject to vesting?"}
{"id": "t3_2yrtlw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24F) know when it's right to move in with SO (25M) of 1.5yr?", "post": "This wouldn't be taking place for at least another year, and we're aware of the practical matters that need to be addressed. My problem is that I use to live with my ex of 3.5yrs, and when we broke up it was very hard on me, since I saw moving in together as a commitment/serious investment in our future. I rushed into it the first time, but this time I'm incredibly gun shy. What emotional / relationship oriented things should I be prepared for or already have established in my relationship prior to moving in? What should we discuss? How do you know if it's a good idea?", "summary": "use to live with ex, bad idea. Plan to move in with current SO, nervous. How can we ensure we're ready?"}
{"id": "t3_3muls2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When should I (M34) tell my soon to be ex wife (F33) that I'm in a new relationship?", "post": "Long story short, my soon to be ex-wife (married for 8 yrs) and I called it quits in the spring. She moved out of the house (for the second time) over a year ago. We've had issues for the past three years. We haven't been a couple for a long time now and rarely talked in the past year since she moved out. She hasn't been taking this as well as I have been. I was relieved when we decided to divorce as it was so much grief for so very long. I was also the one carrying the relationship. Needless to say, I've been living alone and with the encouragement of my friends and family I started dating at the beginning of the summer. As far as I know, my soon to be ex wife does not know. I do not know if she has been dating either. I have found a really amazing women and we have committed to each other and I can see this new relationship going somewhere. My problem is that I do not want my ex to find out I'm with someone else by seeing us out or by hearing second hand. I want to approach this as the adults we are. However, I am afraid that she'll get very upset and try to take it out on me financially throughout the divorce process. My gut says not to say anything unless it comes up but on the other hand, I want to get this off of my chest so I can be more public about this new relationship. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "Getting a divorce from my wife of 8 years and not sure when to tell my ex I'm in a new relationship."}
{"id": "t3_v5e4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's ex-GF wanted to visit him all the way from other end of country- I told him I was uncomfortable and he told his Ex not to come because of me!", "post": "Me 21f and Boyfriend 23m\nWe have been dating for 1.5 years. We are past the honeymoon phase but overall things have been great. He is extremely caring, makes me feel special and we are both in love. We've gotten through some rough patches in the past and I really want things to work out well... but I'm having a hard time getting past this:\n\nHe got in touch with his ex-GF from high school recently. I know he basically loved her and pined for her all through high school and didn't entirely get over her until he met me. They occasionally kept each other updated by hanging out when they were both in their hometown or fb messages. She often says \"I miss you\" etc. which makes me a little uncomfortable. To some extent she enjoyed getting the attention from him in high school and kept him hanging even though she didn't like him that way. I feel like she may treat him the same now when she says things like that. \n\nShe emailed him a while ago that she was coming to visit him. He told me of it immediately. She hadn't given any details but made it seem like her trip all the way was just to see him. I was uncomfortable and wasn't even in town at the time and expressed that to my boyfriend. He immediately told her not to come see him because I said so. It was only then that she revealed that she was visiting her family there along with her current boyfriend and it wasn't a trip just to see my boyfriend. \n\nI was a little embarrassed of this... but still feel like my boyfriend shouldn't have so bluntly told her it was my fault! It felt like he confided in her something that was between us and it just felt wrong! I trust my boyfriend completely but am so scared now that he confides in her things that are personal to us. He still wants to stay friends with her and I won't tell him not to do that... they have been in contact since then too and I try not to let it get to me but I'm having a hard time getting past it.\n\nWhat should I do, Reddit?", "summary": "Boyfriend's ex-GF wanted to visit him all the way from other end of country- I told him I was uncomfortable and he told his Ex not to come because of me! Am I wrong to feel hurt by his honesty?"}
{"id": "t3_sn1wv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex-wife has a new boyfriend and no car. I have to hang out with the both of them if my daughter is to see her mom often enough for me to not feel like a prick. How would you feel/react?", "post": "To add some context, my ex and I started up a new relationship with each other about a year and a half ago, and six months later she met this guy. It pretty much ended immediately and without warning between us the very week they met, and I pretended for six months that she wasn't lying to me when she said she wasn't seeing him. Everything's out in the open now, but I'm stuck between acting like I'm not still in love with my ex-wife (who left me) out of a sense of propriety, and pretending that I don't hate her and her boyfriend with every ounce of my being. I want to vomit every time I hear about her day, or what they did the night before, or why she needs me to watch our daughter on a night she has off of work. I can't think of much else all day if she casually tells me she loves my daughter and I, or if she gives me a friendly hug on the way out the door. I have to hang out with them for five or six hours on end depending on their combined work schedules, because it's a 40 mile round trip and I can't afford double that on gas. On top of that, they aren't the greatest \"parental figures\". Not necessarily a bad environment, and I know i'm far less than impartial, but I still feel like it's way less healthy and responsible than the one my ex-wife and I managed to provide even when we were split. And still, I want a healthy relationship between my ex-wife, my daughter, and myself, and also not to live one of my worst nightmares over and over again three or so times a week.", "summary": "Ex wife with no car and a night job left me to live with new boyfriend. How should I feel when I have to associate with them for 5-6 hours at a time just to know that my daughter can have a healthy relationship with her mom?"}
{"id": "t3_4k2kl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (26M) propose to long-distance GF (23F) if she doesn't get a visa to come to England?", "post": "We met at a summer camp in America in 2009 and have been in a long distance relationship since 2012.  We spent 6 months together in 2013 but other than that we been seeing each other 4/5 times a year in short stints whilst she has been doing her Masters in the States. \n\nShe's now graduated and applying to work as an OT over here. From what I can gather, there's a fairly big risk that she won't be able to get a visa. It's been so long and we're both desperate to be together and give this a real shot.\n\nBy the end of the summer, we should have a pretty good idea if she'll be able to get a job & a visa here. Its certainly possible & dream scenario is that she can. However, I know that we need to prepare for the worst. Which leaves me with the conundrum - do I propose just to be with her finally?\n\nMy gut instinct is that this would be the wrong thing to do. We have yet to live together, whilst I am so excited for this, common sense would say marriage before living together is a recipe for disaster. Also crucially, whilst she may be wholly committed and want to come to England to be with me, there are no guarentees she'll love it and be happy to spend her whole life here. \n\nOn the other side, we've come this far and I feel like we'd regret not giving this relationship a chance to be what I know it can be. We're both not ready for marriage now, but I am sure we will be in the future.  We''re both getting impatient and feel like we can't wait much longer...\n\nUltimately, at the moment, my head is reigning over my heart and I can't bring myself to put it all on the line and put a ring on it...\n\nAm I being non-committal? Would this be a risk worth taking!? Any advice you guys can offer to help me work through this will be massively appreciated!", "summary": "LDR for 5 years. Should I marry for visa despite gut instinct saying no?"}
{"id": "t3_29sy5o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My now ex girlfriend [18f] of a year cheated on me [18m] and she blames me for the relationship ending.", "post": "I am going to try and make this pretty short.\n\nSo about two month ago my girlfriend cheated on me. I found out when I was at her house. We were cuddling watching tv when she got a text asking when they were hooking up. When I confronted her about it she got angry and told me to leave her house.\n\nAfter two days I got a text from her at 3am. She basically admitted to cheating on me, told me we were over and that everything that happened was my fault. \n\nI didn't see this coming at all. We were always happy and had never had a real fight. Sure we argued some times but it was never anything serious.\n\nShe was the first girl I have truly loved and when it ended I just felt crushed. I just don't know what to do. I have had a hard time getting out off bed and I don't have any motivation to do anything. Everybody has told me Ill find another girl and that I should move on but I just can't.", "summary": "The girl I loved more then anything cheated on me and I have no idea how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_3djcld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [21F] eats too much and hates her family bringing it up", "post": "We've been dating for a few months and are currently long distance for the summer. Over the months I've noticed that she is very conscious of her weight. She exercises, runs, goes to boot camp and probably has way more muscle than my lazy ass ever would. I am not in the best shape either. On the other hand, she eats and drinks way too much. She hardly cooks and prefers eating huge meals in restaurants three times a day, which is expensive as well. She always has to eat after a night out drinking and then ends up so full and feels like throwing up. I have brought this up a few times because my body, or wallet, can't really handle this and it hasn't gone down too well. She is overweight but still athletic in my opinion.\n\nShe was very upset when I called her last night and she wouldn't tell me why. She was crying on the phone and I told her she could tell me what was bothering her to get it off her chest. She called me back an hour late and gave me the details.\n\nHer parents have always been concerned about her weight because of her eating habits since she was 8. She is forced to go to a special wight loss camps in the states every year and what not. Her two other siblings are very athletic, determined to succeed and not fat according to her and she believes she should be able to what ever she pleases in life, including how much and what she eats. Last night she was out for dinner with her dad when her dad asked her to get something smaller which upset her.\n\nI am confused how I should handle this since I very much agree with her parents point of view. Any ideas what I could say to support her without hurting her?", "summary": "= Girlfriend eats too much and it upsets her when anyone says something, not sure how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_3326ll", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by powdering my boobs.", "post": "Its so hot here that I powdered my boobs.\n\nI was at my parents' house for the weekend. We were chopping veggies for dinner - Dad and I. While chopping, I felt that my boobs were hanging lower, which made me uncomfortable. Not like this solves the problem, but I pulled one of the straps of my bra from over my Tshirt. The other was low. Pulled the other. After some more sneaky adjusting, I gave in, left the knife, pulled both at the same time. To my horror, the bra slips right OVER my boobs.                    \nDad realizes. Stares right in my eye (via subtle chest-glance). I run for my life.", "summary": "Innocent dad realizes adjustment of low-hanging fruits."}
{"id": "t3_2a02xt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19M] learn to not try to prove I can still get girls even though I have a girlfriend [20F]?", "post": "Okay I know the question is a bit strange, so let me elaborate. I've always had this back-of-my-mind need for people to like/want me. I'm in an amazing relationship with a girl I love more than anything or anyone in the world, but i can't shake this need. The problem is that it mainly manifests with other girls. I don't cheat, I don't even flirt very much, but I have this awful habbit of seemingly trying to prove I can still get some of these girls I'm around. It's almost like I miss the chase, but I don't because I love my girl and would never cheat. Is there a way for me to change this quality? I seriously hate being like this, but I don't know how to stop as I've had this problem pretty much my whole life. It's creating strain in my relationship, and my girlfriend and I have talked about it and I'm obviously going to do my best to get over it, but I'd really like to stop for good and not have to force/fake it forever. Has anybody had this problem before or have any tips for how to do this?", "summary": "I can't stop trying to prove that I can get girls even though I have a girlfriend, and I desperately want to stop"}
{"id": "t3_u1orp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Am I a horrible person?", "post": "So, up until recently i had been dating this guy. We'll call him Mike. Now Mike and i dated for about 8 months, but this weekend i ended it because i have feelings for another guy. Mike can be very controlling and jealous, moody and petty about little things, but he can also be very supportive and caring. He thinks that we'll get married, which is highly unlikely.\n\nWe'll call the other guy Eric. Eric and I have been really good friends for a long time and have a lot in common. Whenever i needed relationship advice, i went to him, and vice versa. Somewhere along the line, feelings grew between us and now they're really strong. Eric is hilarious and always gives great advice and makes me feel good. He is smart and very musically talented.\n\nI ended it with Mike because i was tired of being treated badly, and i was tired of the internal conflict of feelings. I didn't break up with him for Eric, even though he thinks so.", "summary": "The problem is: who do i choose? Mike, who i think i might love and can trust, and whom i know i'll be safe with? Or Eric, who i have more in common with and has always been there for me when i needed him?"}
{"id": "t3_24erd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It seems like my High School Friends [all 18M] and I [18M] are drifting apart. Is this normal?", "post": "So, there's five of us and we've all been great buddies for the longest time. Three out of the five of us have hung out regularly since 6th grade. It used to be we could all hop into a car and just drive around or play video games until 2 am no problem. \n\nNow, at the end of senior year, I feel like we are all different. One of us is always getting mad at the other one. I've noticed our personalities are fairly off too. \n\nSo is this normal? Is there anyway to fix it? I miss the old days where we would wax cars together or sit at McDonalds for hours and hours talking about random shit.", "summary": "I'm feeling disconnected from my High School friends. Is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2ft0tp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Germany] Multinational stole girlfriend's design", "post": "Hello hello,\n\nI'm UK based and so is the girlfriend. She sells some of her artwork online as many others do on websites such as spreadshirt or society6.\n\nThe most popular artists there have a facebook group where they discuss new websites and artwork theft.\n\nOne of her fellow artist from Germany contacted her telling her a retail clothing store (800+ locations in Germany) had an exact replica of her work on a tee-shirt (and a picture).\n\nShe usually just tries to forget about it when this happens with small companies but she feels a company this size shouldn't get away with this and she intends to contact them and possibly get in touch with lawyers there.\n\n**Are there any \"no win no fee\" lawyers in Germany? Is she wasting her time? Is there any chance they will compensate without getting sued?", "summary": "huge german company stole girlfriend's design and she wants to know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_kr0z5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible to burn a dvd in the same manner as burning an mp3 cd? I.E to make a 1,000 song disc?", "post": "Hello AskReddit, I did some preliminary searching and turned up nothing, so if this is a repost, I sincerely apologize.\n  To the point; in the past I have burned numerous mp3 cds for my listening enjoyment. However, a 60 song playlist only lasts for so long. Recently, in a moment of nerd audacity I made the claim that I could burn a dvd disc in the same manner for a total tracklist of ~1000 songs (given the avg size of an mp3, etc, etc.) Am I correct? Or should I notify them that I may have made an error and cannot make an \"infinite playlist\", as it were.", "summary": "Can I burn dvd discs in the same manner as a cd, in effect making a huge mp3 disc? "}
{"id": "t3_31707z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of two years. Says I have no passions - doesn't see me the way I see myself.", "post": "My boyfriend of two years said to me a few days ago that I don't have any passions or any drive to better myself. \n\nThis has been bothering me so much, because that is not the way I perceive myself at all. I've graduated college and landed a good job. I am an outdoors and fitness nut. I rock climb, mountain bike, ski, and hike. He also does all these things, but happens to be more naturally talented at them then I am. \n\nA few weeks ago, he also told me he wasn't 100% happy in our relationship, but that he loved me and wanted to work through it. \n\nI feel like being defensive about myself is not the right way to go about this situation. I also feel, however, that I am being under appreciated for the person that I am.", "summary": "feeling under appreciated for my best qualities."}
{"id": "t3_4gur95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my soon to be ex-wife[23 F] of ~3 years, Need help coping with the divorce", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI made a post a little while back asking advice about whether you guys thought my wife was cheating on me, which you guys all agreed she was. I confronted her about it, and she denied it, obviously. So I am still not 100% on whether she did or not, but we are going to end up getting a divorce either way. We have a baby girl, almost a year old,  and I am current active duty military, about to medically retire. \n\nSo I have anxiety, and minor depression? and I am having a hard to coping with all of this. I feel sick, I can't breathe, and all the other things that come along with divorce. We are sorting out who is getting what, and I am asking that she leaves as soon as possible, because it is making life really hard. We are both being civil about it, really really civil. But I can't stop thinking about her, even when I do things I used to love doing. I don't drink, like at all, but I have been really tempted to do it. Honestly, I am planning on getting wasted sometime after Friday. Probably to the point of black out, and there is nothing anyone can say that will make me not do that, but I would like to here what you guys think I should do to help me get through this. Thanks.", "summary": "Going through a divorce, need help coping. Nothing I do helps, even doing things I love."}
{"id": "t3_e7t13", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did I handle this properly? (She grinded with a friend)", "post": "Girlfriend and I have an excellent relationship - open communication, talk things out, etc. We went out with a few of our friends (some of mine, some of hers) to a bar last night. During the night we drank, talked with each other and friends, we kissed a lot while dancing - standard stuff. She rejected guys' approaches during the night.\n\nNear the end, she was dancing with her girls and some of her guy friends innocently. One of them, seemingly jokingly, got behind her and started to grind on her for five to ten seconds. She laughed, hugged, and then kept on dancing with the rest. This guy knows she and I are together. \n\nThe next morning I bring it up - how I don't find that cool at all. Dancing is fine, but grinding is sexual in my eyes. She said he was a friend, it was innocent, and her roommate agrees. I replied that if I was grinding with a girl, would she be okay with it? Of course she said no, and realized where I was coming from. She said while she doesn't necessarily agree, she never wants to hurt me and she loves me and respects how I feel. Told each other we loved each other, and I insisted to not do it again.", "summary": "Go out to bar in a group. She grinded with her guy friend, who knows we are together, for 5 seconds after denying other approaches by strangers and a ton of innocent dancing with our girl and guy friends. I told her I won't stand for it, she think it was innocent but respects how I feel and said doesn't want to hurt me. Said we loved each other."}
{"id": "t3_3tz6bz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] saw my [22 F ex] of 2 years this weekend, but I am currently seeing another girl [24f]", "post": "My ex and I broke up about a year ago and this weekend was the first time we had seen each other. Things went great we laughed talked had some drinks. She ended up coming back to my place and we talked about all the things we were feeling at the time of the break up(we didn't hook up though.) \n\nI am really confused now because I've been seeing this new girl for about 3 months now and she is great, defiantly girlfriend material.  She's sweet, caring, has a great job, is sexy all the things I think of when I imagine the perfect girl. \n\nHowever it just doesn't feel the same as it does with my ex. When I see my ex my heart races, I get giddy, I have intense feelings for her. Does that just come from the time we spent together? Or, is she really that special to me. With this new girl I just don't feel that way, she's said I love you and I can't say it back, will it come with time? Or should I end things now and pursue my ex. Even though I've been down that road and it ended in heart break (we were spending too much time together and both needed to work on our self's, but I feel like now we're in better places where the relationship could be healthy.) \n\nBasically I'm trying to deiced between what my head is telling me, which is to give this new girl a chance and see if things can't grow into something more. Or do what my heart is telling me and tell my ex I want a second chance.", "summary": "Seeing ex gf brought up old feelings, unsure about relationship with new girl now."}
{"id": "t3_3la1lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Updates] problems with abusive ex [23F] and I [20M]", "post": "One Original post\n\nSo I posted,  several times for advice about this relationship and I always forget to update.\n\nFinally, through talking with friends, family and this sub, I realized this relationship wasn't healthy. Even more so now that I'm not in it anymore \n\nA couple months ago, I broke up with her and moved out. We tried to work things out living apart. She promised to work on things. \n\nLong story short. It got better for a little. But the sex went away again, we fought over stupid shit and she kept hiding things. At one point I stopped visiting and decided it would be good to just end it. \n\nI made it clear we can't talk. This is when she got nasty. I ended up disconnecting her phone so I wasn't paying for it, and her website I still paid for. Unfortunately she still has a lot of the stuff I paid for, but I'm just happy to be gone for good.", "summary": "Crazy, psychotic abusive girlfriend left jobless and phoneless."}
{"id": "t3_13ihkj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why doesn't Easyjet and other airline companies offer student discounts or any type of reward scheme?", "post": "Eastjet should be doing student discounts or at-least alleviate the cost of changing a flight for them. I just had to pay \u00a3225 for a flight change so what's the point of booking early to save money if when i have to change the date it's going to cost me more than it would originally. I've flown with Easyjet for over 3 years exclusively but with no benefits, since their is no points card or system to reward loyalty whatsoever. Because of this huge hit to my bank account i can't even afford a proper food shop this month so god knows how i'm going to get my family presents for christmas. I know this is just one voice but they seriously need to sort out their priorities and start taking care of their customers. I've had flights cancelled last minute. Bags gone missing. But still kept on with them. Have i ever being thanked or compensated? No.", "summary": "Easyjet doesn't really give a shit about it's customers. Student eating noodles till christmas."}
{"id": "t3_47isba", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get a ball from a goal in PE", "post": "At last, a TIFU that actually happened today. Horray, huzzah, haroo...\n\nSo PE was a bit different today because of us having to have injections. Instead of us all doing a specific activity in our groups (we all do basketball or dodgeball or something) they instead decided to have us all do whatever we wanted out of a selection of things.\n\nI wanted to shoot some hoops. There was a basketball in the football goal (that's where we store them when we're lazy or something), and I went to get it from the goal.\n\nI think you all know what's about to happen.\n\nI kneel down, grab the ball and get back up, only to bang my head really hard against the crossbar. It hurt REALLY bad, and I was left crying for around 30 minutes. That's how bad it was. Especially when you just had a Meningitis C vaccination not even an hour earlier.", "summary": "I got blunt head trauma from trying to get a ball from a goal."}
{"id": "t3_tqt6n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I love about AskReddit but I am tired of the circlejerk comments. Is there a subreddit devoted to nothing but responses to these questions, like r/science? Or is there anyway we can convince the mods to turn r/AskReddit to r/science rules?", "post": "Meh, using a throwaway account to prevent the hate or if I broke any rules I did not know of.\n\nI was looking for a simple solution to get rid of all the responses that relate to some previous  meme or just dumb gifs/pictures that might get a laugh, but defeat the entire purpose of Ask Reddit anyways, but these people get KARMA! Seriously if you are going to comment, just add that shift to after your response to the question or don't comment at all!\n\nI have been with reddit for a while and like how it acts like a organized 4/chan, but i hate sifting though the garbage. Maybe I am just stepping over my boundaries due to what the reddit community is now, but it is worth a shot.", "summary": "Learn how to read and have patience or else everything loses context."}
{"id": "t3_4wotdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M 16 looking for advice: Overprotective parents stopped being overprotective, not good at things I'm not familiar with. How do I meet and talk to girls?", "post": "My parents have always been overprotective, the only time I really get to see my friends is school r during sporting games, literally no other time.\n\nWe live in a small town of about 3000 people.\n\nBut ever since I got my drivers license, I've been completely free to do anything for some reason.\n\nIn school I'm really not one of those kids who's quiet and doesn't talk to people, I'm actually surprisingly \"popular\" and outgoing, despite not seeing my friends very much at all. \n\nThat being said, I think the reason for this is because it's a really small town and school that I've become familiar with, seeing the same faces every single day.\n\nI really want to go out in the world and into some cities very close to where I live to meet some new people and possibly find a relationship (I'm too good of friends with everybody in my town for them to be relationship possibilities)\n\nThat being said, I need your help. First, where are cool places to meet girls my age to just befriend and possibly something more? The other thing I need help with is just preparing myself mentally for this change in not being overly protected and going out and doing all of this relationship type stuff that I have no experience in whatsoever. I feel as though it's just a more intimate version of friendship. But I can't be sure.", "summary": "overprotected. Got license. Not overprotected anymore. Going to big city to meet people. How2relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_393j1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] of 7 years, I cheated, confessed, asking for forgiveness", "post": "I was angry at my girlfriend, drunk, and I made a mistake. I met a random. We did not have sex but I went home with her and we fooled around. We were long distance at the time, but I returned a few weeks ago and had to confess the truth to her, so I told her everything.\n\nShe is obviously very hurt and I am asking for forgiveness from her, but not expecting it. We will be long distance again soon for another 8 months, and she will not be able to trust me. She is a lovely and beautiful person, compassionate and caring, and I don't want to lose her over this mistake, but fear I already have.... I am lost. Where do I go from here? Am I too far gone?", "summary": "I cheated, I confessed, I want to be forgived and keep trying. Is there anything I can do or do I not deserve her?"}
{"id": "t3_zjv2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF (19) and I (21) are loosing hope that this long distance relationship can work out. How can we restore this hope?", "post": "Dear redditors,\n\nI (m21) and my gf (f19) have been in a relationship for a bit over a year. We have been in a long distance relationship for all of the time, seeing each other only a couple of weeks or days every few months. I have known her for over 7 years now, and I really am in love with her. On paper we are perfect for each other. \n\nThe only issue is that we do not live in the same countries. I grew up in her/our hometown and left to go study in the states 4 years ago, and recently returned to europe a month ago for a phd program. she is right out of high school and wanted to start with college in her hometown. \n\nwe just had a lenghty skype conversation in which our future was a prominent part of the talk. Since she is starting with her bachelors right now, and I am in my first year of a phd program, it seems as if there is no end of this long distance relationship in sight. I really do not want this relationship to end, I know that I will regret it forever, since she has been my crush for ages and is also the perfect girl. I am pretty sure these feelings are mutual. \n\nHere is the question: How can we restore trust in this long distance relationship that seems to never come to an end? (at least 4 more years) I know that quitting my phd program will be a decision that I will forever regret, but I also know that I will forever regret destroying this relationship because I needed to do a phd. I am really at loss for ideas... What can we do? I really want this to work. Any advice?", "summary": "GF and I had the first real talk on the future of our LD relationship, and the meager prospects are destroying our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_34hoki", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Just a friendly disclaimer to those taller, larger people out there that are considering starting out at a low 1100-1400 cals a day.", "post": "I am currently a bit over 110 days in and have seen awesome results created entirely out of cutting calories. My daily goal is about 1350 calories. I am 29yo female who is 5'7 - my start weight was 260 and I am currently down to about 230. \nIt's surprisingly been a breeze restricting so low and I've felt great up until about 2 week ago. \nMy stomach started echoing insanely concerning pains on a daily basis and after about a week of it along with enough Prilosec to numb an elephant with an ulcer- I went to doctor and dropped about $500 on every test they could provide. I'm the kind of person who can't stand the doctor let alone allowing blood work. The pain was literally so awful- I didn't flinch one bit at the idea of immediately taking myself in and paying whatever was necessary to get to the bottom of it. \n Yesterday I finally got all of my results back and the only evidence of any foul play are bits and pieces of malnutrition. \nAs simple as that sounds- it's caused some of the most intense pain I've ever physically endured. The reality has been that my body has been eating itself. \nI'm going to have to eat at my TDEE for a few weeks and then find a healthy alternative to my 1350 a day. Probably something around 1700 give or take a few calories. I'm disappointed in myself and am a tad saddened I'll have to put my weight loss that I've desperately wanted for years on hold not out of defeat but out of the responsibility to keep myself from getting sicker. Never the less I do recognize how fortunate I am that this pain is so manageable. \nI just wanted to post this for those who want to start out the way I did. Insane binging isn't the only thing to watch out for when comes to eating so little. \nThis whole thing has been such a bummer and I wish I'd have been more reasonable with my intake.", "summary": "I ate a ridiculously low amount of calories for so long that my stomach began to eat itself. Everyday between meals my stomach feels like what I'd imagine eating 5 dollars worth of pennies and a pound of fish tank rocks feels like. Diet responsibly and don't be a dumbass like me."}
{"id": "t3_30ba25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [26/ m] I want to go on a girls only trip to PCB", "post": "We have been dating for eight months and live together\n\n and spend every day together.\n\nHe says I cannot go to the beach with my friend. \n\n Her family has invited us down to stay with them so it \nwould cost nothing.  \nThey live in a beach house. \nIt would be only us hanging out for  week. \n I have been once with her a few years back with her family.\n  I do not party.  I do not do drugs.  I have no desire for that. Yet he is extremely uncomfortable with me leaving for a week.  \n\nMy argument is that I am twenty and should be enjoying those kinds of things.  What do you guys think?", "summary": "boyfriend of eight months won't let me go on a trip with a girlfriend to Panama city Beach to stay with her parents at their beach home.  My argument is that I should be able to enjoy these kinds of things at this age."}
{"id": "t3_4cfypa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should my roommates [22M, 19M] and I [20M] gauge our third roommate [21M] who isn't on the lease about paying rent over the summer?", "post": "I'll keep this short and sweet. Names are kept random for privacy reasons\n\nI live in an apartment with my 3 college roommates. The house only allows 3 people to live in it, but the rent is still pretty expensive despite there being 4 rooms. I believe it is a town rule or something. Anyways, a lot of the college students get away with having 4 roommates no problem. We spoke with our landlord, and he was perfectly okay with us having a 4th roommate as long as we pay the rent in time. So me, M and B are on the lease and we found J later on who agreed to live with us. This has no been an issue and we have all become really good friends throughout the year. M and B are actually in my fraternity and throughout the semester, J actually joined our chapter. \n\nThe lease is for 12 months, so over the summer break, M, B and me are going to be staying at the house. J on the other hand has a job back home, so he will be going back. This is where the issue arises. We live in an area that isn't super convenient for college students, so it is very hard to find someone to sublease. Finding J was actually a stroke of luck through a mutual friend. M, B and I want J to keep paying over the summer so the rent would be cheap enough for us to pay. J originally agreed to stay when we asked for the full 12 months, but it seems like his mind has changed. I spoke with M and B, and they both agree that we would like J to continue to help pay for the room and rent; however, it seems like I am the only one vocal about the opinion because I am ultimately the one who handles the utilities and rent. How do I approach J about this? We realize he is not legally bound to pay, but I feel like we're good enough friends to approach him on this dilemma. I just feel like I am the only one who cares right now despite M and B obviously showing concern.", "summary": "My roommate who isn't on the lease is deciding to leave over the summer and has told me that he would prefer not to pay the rent because he is not living there. Other roommates and I are against this, but I am the only one vocal about it."}
{"id": "t3_2ldazc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Should I be stepping on the scale?", "post": "Hey just starting out, I'm on day 3 and in a good mindset.  I hadn't weighed myself for awhile and was surprised at how high my weight had gotten.  Not by a huge margin, I figured I'd be in the 165-170 range but was actually 175.  However this number really hit me because I'm a 5'5\" woman and I think of the \"classic\" male weight to be ~180lbs.  It just bothered me that I was approaching the weight of a moderate to large man.  Now I suspect given that because I weighed myself in the evening, after a large meal, drinking and with all my regular day clothes on that I actually am in the that 165-170 range.  Regardless I should probably get down to about 135, but I'm worried about messing with my mindset in the first month. Like somehow falling under that 170 line will allow for complacency, when I've finally made a decision to change.  However it would be nice to know what my actually progress is in a month or two.", "summary": "Drop the error or keep on keeping on?"}
{"id": "t3_1a4k5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (22F) spending 1on1 time with random guy i've (23M) never seen or heard of before while I'm out of town. Do I make anything of it?", "post": "I'm out of town for about 2 weeks. A few days ago my girlfriend posts pictures of her and some random guy that I've never heard her mention and that I've never met. No idea who he is. But they're out on a hike together, clearly just them two. We've been talking every day since I've been gone but she's neglected to mention any of this to me, but she is obviously comfortable enough to post pictures etc on facebook knowing I'd see them. Just wondering if you guys think if I should mention anything or if I'm being overbearing. We never really hang out 1on1 with anyone else of the opposite sex and I don't think I'd ever feel comfortable doing so without giving my SO a heads up... let alone while she's out of town for an extended period...", "summary": "girlfriend is spending 1on1 time with an unidentified male while i am out of town, neglected to tell me anything about it but posted pictures on facebook*"}
{"id": "t3_29ryme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does he {M,27} ignore me {F,21} in public until he is drunk or we are alone and then flirt to no end", "post": "I have known this dude for like 2 years, we have a history, we used to hang out all the time. We often find ourselves in bed together. He is bipolar, I know that, and we have never talked about dating or anything. When we see each other in social gatherings lately, he sees me and looks the other way as I am about to say hello. This pisses me off to no end. Treat me like a friend, dude! It's not until later, when he is drunk, that he finds the balls to acknowledge my presence and then flirts with me until we either go home together or I leave. I think he's cool, I like him, but why on earth is be so weird? We used to be really good friends, in fact, we are neighbors.", "summary": "He is weird, ignores me and then we go home together."}
{"id": "t3_30fb1k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trying to carry too much down the stairs", "post": "OK so this didn't happen today, it actually happened a few Christmases ago.\n\nSome background - I was wearing these really corny Christmas socks which were really slippery for some reason \n\nIt was about mid afternoon and we were getting ready to eat when my mum asked me to get some extra plates from upstairs in the loft. I go and up and they are all it a huge box. I didn't know how many she needed so decided to bring the whole box down. After I had got down from the loft, I picked up the box and proceeded down the stairs wearing my slippery christmas socks and instead carefully taking it step by step, I thought it would be clever to carry it in front of my face and walk straight down. I couldn't see anything because the box was so big and about half way down the stairs, I began slipping. I almost regained my balance but started running/slipping down the stairs until I got to the bottom, dropped the box(smashing the plates and smacked my face into the radiator, breaking my front tooth. Since it was Christmas, nothing was open so I couldn't get it fixed until a later date.", "summary": "I tries to carry a box down the stairs wearing slippery socks, slipped and fell and spent the rest of Christmas day miserable with a broken front tooth."}
{"id": "t3_46i38q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying a visitor to our office looked homeless.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo this happened about an hour ago. \n\nI work in a very small office. There's only 6 people in the entire company. Everyone can hear everything from each others desks.\n\nMy boss is away on a conference right now and the 5 of us are at our desks. So when there's a knock at the door that's very unusual.\n\nSo this man comes in, he's wearing this side opened singlet, I can see his ribs, he's got wild, messy hair and ripped jeans.\n\nMy first thought was \"Oh god. A homeless person has walked into the office and is going to ask for money\".\n\nBut then he says \"I'm here to see James\" (not real name).\n\nJames is the graphics designer and my boss' brother in law.\n\nJames is busy on the phone, so this guy starts chatting with me. Makes a comment about my star wars mug and we talk about the new movie. He seems like a nice guy.\n\nJames finishes with the call and says \"Ok, lets go outside and chat\".\n\n15 minutes later James comes back on his own and I say \"Hey James, no offence intended to your friend, he seemed like a nice guy, but when he first came in I thought he was homeless and was going to ask for money\".\n\nJames responds with \"That's my brother in law. Your boss' brother\".\n\nMy face goes red and the entire office has been quiet since the incident.", "summary": "Homeless looking person comes into a small office. I tell my coworker that I thought he was homeless, it turned out to be my boss' brother."}
{"id": "t3_fwj87", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you think about this?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating / living together for about 2 1/2 years and to put it straight out there, I have some trust issues.  You can tell me to man up, get over it, etc.  but it doesn't make it any less uncomfortable to deal with.  \n\nMy girl works for an event coordination company so she works around lots of gay guys.  Around Christmas this year she started hanging out with one of the guys.  Not a big deal but it was a little weird getting used to.  She'd say, \"we're going to grab some dinner\" and end up coming home trashed hours after she said she'd be back.  It happens, I was a bit uncomfortable with the fact that she's out getting wasted with other guys (gay or not) but I got over it. \n\nLast night she says that next weekend she wants to go with her gay friend and another guy who is also gay to a place we've both been  planning on doing a get away to (as we've never been).  It is kind of insulting that she'd plan a trip like this when we've been talking about it for ages and was really excited for.  \n\nA little back story: she used to be a huge make out whore.  kissing multiple guys a night at college parties etc.  She only gets this way when she's drunk and she pretty much stopped drinking when we moved in together.  Whenever she goes out with these guys she gets trashed.  I can hear her talking to them on the phone and she's admitted that they always ask her if we're going to do it or if she's going to suck my dick or whatever and I'm pretty uncomfortable with that. \n\nI told her how uncomfortable I am with the situation and she says that I'm just jealous because she has found some good friends to hang out with.   What do you guys think?", "summary": "> My girlfriend wants to go spend a weekend with two gay friends she recently met (who like to talk about my penis) in a place that we had planned a romantic get away."}
{"id": "t3_4bohel", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "It's called 2 weeks for a reason..", "post": "A little background, I worked at a gas station / carwash, I did a little bit of both but I prefer to work at the wash. The store manager didn't really like me and for some reason wouldn't pass me off to the car wash manager (side note: every single person in that store, including the wash people, hates our store manager.) So anyways I put in my 2 weeks on the 4th of this month, making the 18th of this month my last day. Well my sneaky store manager tried to schedule me a 15th day out of my 2 weeks notice. My response? I told every single person (except my store manager) that was capable of running the cash register that I wasn't going to show up the next day and then also told them to not pick up their phone if boss-man calls. Next day, 1 o'clock, my shift should be starting now. Another hour rolls by, store manager calls\n\nboss-man: \"hey byho did you know you had work today?\"\n\nme: \"yep\" *click*\n\nBest part? Boss-man usually works from 7am - 12:30pm ish everyday and lives about 45mins - 1 hour away from the gas station. So that means by the time he got home, he most likely got super comfortable for about 20-30 mins until he got a phone call about me not showing up. He called every single person, but of course no one picked up their phone, not my supervisor, not my assistant manager, none of my co-workers, no one. Because of that, he had to go in and cover \"my shift.\" Hope you had fun working till 10pm fatass.", "summary": "manager tried to be sneaky on my \"last day,\" made said manager cover my shift."}
{"id": "t3_405hj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M/] debating on asking out[22/F] former co-worker?", "post": "So I started a new job about 3 months ago, one of the girls I worked with caught my attention. I worked with her numerous times, can sense a connection, has a great personality etc... Here's the catch: I switched job locations, so I don't work with her anymore. I didn't directly receive any of her contact info, but I do have her phone number from the work schedule list. I don't want to seem creepy by randomly texting her, so I'm not sure how to go about it. Side note: I know for a fact she is single from lunch conversations. I have never texted her before and she doesn't have my number.", "summary": "Wanting to ask a girl out I use to work with, but don't know how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_2223m8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my SO [25 M] of 2 years - am I wrong to have thoughts about breaking up?", "post": "24F, SO 25M; duration 2 years. I still love him dearly but I'm unsure if we should continue being together. We are both on medication for depression. \n\nFor the past 7 months my boyfriend has been passive and unaffectionate. He ignored my birthday, never wants sex, doesn't want to go out, doesn't keep small promises, never contacted me during a month of long distance (I had to call/text him constantly to stay in communication). \n\nI've tried to be as understanding as I can, but... I don't think he values my presence anymore. For these past 7 months he wants to be alone 99% of the time and doesn't want to talk or even cuddle for more than half an hour or so. I don't ask him for anything and try to make him happy (give gifts, make dinner, listen and encourage him). \n\nHe says he still loves me and wants to stay together, and that this has been due to his depression. I helped him find a better doctor and a therapist. But our patterns haven't changed, he's still passive and unaffectionate. We've talked about it several times and he's promised that he will change, but he never does.  \n\nI know it's not his fault, it's the depression, but I still feel really lonely and neglected. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend depressed for 7 months; passive and unaffectionate; despite all my efforts and understanding I feel lonely and neglected, not sure if we should continue"}
{"id": "t3_37isfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20/M] stop my obsession with a girl [21/F] I like, but has no interest in me.", "post": "So, I know this girl from work, which already is a bad idea because as the saying goes \"Don't shit where you eat\" and she's probably been the only girl I've ever been interested in. She's smart and funny and good looking and has similar interests to me. I've never had a girlfriend before, never asked a girl out or even kissed one. She just got out of a long term relationship and is single again.\n\nHowever, in my heart I know it would never work out between us. I am in college and only back for the summer and she isn't. Also, we have a mutual friends who has known her since grade school and he really likes her, he had sex with her twice a few years ago and ever since then he's been really hung up about her and he mentioned the two might start saying again. \n\nI know it would never work out, like I said. Also, he would be very upset if I got with her and it would more then likely end our friendship. I just want to know how to stop my feelings towards her and move on with my life. I don't want to end with a case of oneitis and be all hung with her.", "summary": "I like this girl and I don't want to anymore"}
{"id": "t3_1lh44z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19F] with my boyfriend [19M] who uses facebook as porn. It doesn't affect the relationship, just me.", "post": "My boyfriend of 2 years uses facebook pictures almost daily to fap, but it has never directly affected our sex life or compromised our relationship (i.e cheating). He has a very high sex drive and he is very committed to me, which I completely trust. To him, it's just simply another form of porn and nothing else. \n\nI don't mind if he checks out other women or watches real porn, but since he's told me about using facebook, it's been bothering me for the past year. Some of these people are my friends, it makes me feel like I'm not pretty enough, and I keep comparing myself to these other girls. \n\nI've talked to him about it many times, and have even been to therapy, but now it's become a trust issue on top of my self-esteem issue. I don't believe that he'd ever cheat on me, but I can't trust him to stop going onto facebook like he says he is, although he deactivated (not deleted) his facebook account a week ago. I feel like I NEED to know whether or not he's been lying to me about stopping even though I know it's not healthy to basically interrogate him.\n\nIs it something that just I need to work out alone because it's only affecting me? How do I start to trust him again?\n\nWe're both willing to do anything to make this work out....but I can't figure out what to do next.", "summary": "My boyfriend uses facebook as porn and it doesn't affect he or the relationship negatively, just me. My self-esteem is the lowest it's ever been and it's also brought up some trust issues...and I have no idea where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_3k82vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) SO will ignore me (23M) for days if we have an argument.", "post": "Sometimes if we've had an argument she won't talk to me for a few days. I like to make up and solve the problem quickly so it frustrates me if she ignores me. Most recently I started a small argument and text her to apologise the next day and she didn't reply. 3 days later she still hasn't spoken to me. I don't want to be needy and pester her but it really bugs me when we can't just talk it out and go on as normal. Do I leave her be till she's ready to talk or try to initiate a normal conversation again?", "summary": "not sure how to approach girlfriend when she ignores me after an argument."}
{"id": "t3_1t7tay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of one year, being very odd about me wanting to move in with her when she turns 18", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year now and we've had this one problem that I can't seem to reason with her at all. She want to move out when she turns 18 and I figured that wouldn't be such a bad idea considering she hates her family and with good reason too. \n\nThe thing is. I wanted to move in with her but this seems to be a huge problem for her. I live in Albany and she lives in Oregon so her main concern and what she wanted was for me to finish college here and then move in with her which means that I'd have to be away from her for another 2 years on top of the time that I already am away from her. I couldn't figure out why she would want this so I asked her and she insisted on me wanting to finish college here but that doesn't make sense because there's colleges in Oregon that I can attend to and I am pretty sure I'd be able to get into any of them. \n\nWhat bothers me even more is that she wants to have a roommate. I can't figure out why she doesn't want to live with me and why this is such a problem. It's not as though I'm making an insane request or anything. I don't feel as though I am and then she made this even more complicated because I jokingly said that if I had to choose between not having the opportunity to marry/have kids with her to move in earlier with her I'd drop all of that and then she made that my only other choice. \n\nApparently I can only choose between moving in 2 years earlier with her and not marrying/have kids with her or waiting 2 years for no pointless reason? I am so confused and I can't understand why she's being like this. \n\nI feel as though she just wants to be in control of something and is using this for that but honestly, it's bugging me that she doesn't want to live with me and is making me stay here but she's getting a roommate as though I wasn't a candidate at all. I am so confused, please help?", "summary": "My girlfriend is moving out from her family when she turns 18, I want to move in with her but she doesn't want me to and insists I either wait 2 years till I finish college or I give up marrying/having kids with her, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3l0i6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] boyfriend [22 M] of six months is depressed and thinks everyone treats him terribly and I can't seem to help him", "post": "My boyfriend seems to be struggling mentally recently. He is unhappy and negative most of the time. He's told me a lot of worrying things for example that his existence is sad, that he might have mental illness, and that he's a bad person. Nothing I say comforts him. When he tells me stuff I tell him that his feelings aren't wrong or made up but it's likely that depression or some other mental issue is affecting his perception somewhat, and that I don't think he's a bad person or his existence is sad, etc. He literally will respond \"I don't feel comforted by your words\", and the one time I suggested seeing a professional he got angry and shut me down. So, my first question is whether anyone has advice on how to talk to someone struggling with depression, and how I might be able to suggest a therapist without upsetting him.\n\nThe second thing I want to address is that he feels like pretty much everyone treats him worse than he deserves to be treated. \nFrom my perspective people treat him pretty well. He has had a couple ex-girlfriends that seem to have treated him poorly. Today he texted me \"People definitely treat other people better. That's just a fact. It's something about me\". Just based off our own relationship I feel like he tends to sort of victimize himself. He definitely feels like he gives significantly more than he receives. I didn't realize until recently that this attitude might extend to his other relationships as well. So my second question is to people who have had experiences with people who feel this way. Is this attitude likely to change? I don't want to call him sensitive because that seems very dismissive but I also don't think on the whole people treat him badly and I have a difficult time agreeing with him when he says stuff like that which I think bothers him.", "summary": "My boyfriend seems to be very unhappy with his life and I don't feel able to help him. He also feels that most people treat him especially badly which I just don't agree with."}
{"id": "t3_3h62ym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 F] with my husband [40 M] . . . we have been married 17 years. He has absolutely no interest in going out on date nights, not even for our anniversary or for my birthday.", "post": "I'm just hurting inside. Number one, he doesn't want to spend time with me without the kids. Number two, it doesn't matter to him at all that I would like some time without the kids. You'd think that even if he didn't want to go out, he'd do it at least once a year for me, you know?\n\nWe moved here, 400 miles away from my family, so he could take his dream job. Between work and school he is often gone 80 hours a week. One of our children is special needs with sensory processing disorder and anxiety/depression. I do most of the parenting while trying to run a freelance business on the side. \n\nMy family would often help with the kids but without the family support and with him being gone it's so hard. And he won't compromise. He just doesn't ever want to go out on date nights. He'll happily go to a baseball game for work or go out golfing with his buddies, but he'll never do anything for me. And I get really sad that he doesn't seem to crave any alone time with me.  \n\nAm I being unreasonable to want to get out on a date night? What should I do?", "summary": "My husband doesn't want to go out on dates nights EVER and I am going crazy inside and feeling bad about myself."}
{"id": "t3_14oenl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I play this one right?! [23M&23F]", "post": "Brief back story.  7 years ago, met a girl in Punta Cana.  Oddly enough, she lives within an hour of me back on the east coast of the states.  We hit it off, it was fun for a week, we exchanged emails/numbers for shits and giggles, talked for a little while, then fell out of touch.  Typically what tends to happen, didn't sweat it.  Last week, she emails me.  Out of no where...just to say \"hi\".  7 years gone by.  She is still drop dead gorgeous, and clearly I left an impression.\n\nWhat do I do now? Girls, what's it mean if 7 years go by and you decide to contact someone you only knew for a week...I had to have left some sort of impression.  I'm waiting for some sort of rom-com to unfold here.  What should I do to get her interested in seeing me?", "summary": "Girl I met 7 years ago in the Dominican Republic, when we were teenagers, out of the blue decided to check up on me.  What's this mean? Girls, what's she thinking?  Clearly I left some sort of impression? What do I do now to make her want to see me? "}
{"id": "t3_1vjyf8", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "11 year old Golden Retriever starting to slow down- How do I tell if she's in pain?", "post": "My Golden, Caramel, has a bump (tumor?) on her back that has stayed the same size for years. The vet says it could be cancer but we'd have to remove it and biopsy it to see- they're concerned that putting her under for something so minor (it's about the size of a golf ball cut in half) won't be worth the risk. She's starting to slow down after being very hyper all her life, but I don't know how to tell if she starts to experience pain. Her eyesight is going, so she doesn't like going up the stairs to the deck, but she's fine with other stairs. Of course I don't want to put my best friend down, ever, but I want to make sure she never has to suffer.", "summary": "How do I tell when a dog is in pain?"}
{"id": "t3_2025iq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not closing the lid.", "post": "So this actually happened yesterday (YIFU). I came home from visiting my parents. Had to go and poop. sat my ass down on the toilet seat and dropped a deuce while browsing reddit on my phone. All finished? good! put my phone down on the back of the toilet seat and stood up to wipe myself. After dropping the TP into the bowl, I pressed down on the flush handle and when it rebounded, the handle flew off and did a perfect Greg Louganis and plopped itself right into the crap pool and decided to follow it away into oblivion. $50 bucks down the drain. FYI, the reason it costs so much is that it's an American Standard Cadet 4098 Pressure assisted fixture. It has a specially hooked and curved lever, so i have to use an original. That's also why it flew off, because the plunger on the air-tank has a quick rebound. I'd rather replace it with a push button if i could, but that means drilling through the lid. Also, it didn't clog, fortunately because i've dropped more cosby kids off at the pool since then, without issue.", "summary": "Toilet handle broke off and fell into the shitter"}
{"id": "t3_388pnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[18 M] is interested in a girl[17 F]. However, that girls best friend[18 F] is interested in me.", "post": "Let's call this girl that i'm interested in Sofia and her best friend Sara.\n\nI am very interested in Sofia. We go to the same class and I have known her for some months. We are really close, exercising together a lot, texting, skyping and talking. Now, I want to tell her my feelings for her and that I want to take it to the next step. \n\nHowever, Sara her best friend is very interested in me. Sara and Sofia are very good friends, they have known each other for years and Sofia would never do anything to hurt Sara. \n\nI'm afraid that Sofia will dismiss me completely and without hesitation for her best friend if I confess my feelings to her.\n\nWhat should I do??", "summary": "I'm interested in a girl, her best friend is interested in me. what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1twdqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] got engaged too young to my SO[21M] of 1 year My beliefs are changing and it is tearing us apart", "post": "I am torn up right now. I [19 F] am struggling to make amends with the fact that while I love my fiancee, I am not sure if being in a relationship LET ALONE being engaged is right for me.\n\nFirst, I am not seeking validation here-  but I am so confused I need some advise. \nI met my fiancee 14 months ago. yes, that escalated quickly.  since then I have changed.\n\nI am no longer a perfect \"good girl\" it's not what I do, but what I WANT to do. ;) and none of it could ever include him.  \n\nwe recently had a huge \"fight\" the bottom line is he told me if I don;t stop smoking pot, he WILL have to end it with me.And I'm not sure that bothers me too much.\n\nyou know what I HATE? that I have lived my whole life with someone shoving their convictions down my throat- I have never had a chance to experiment, find out what I stand for.\nI am an intelligent girl, I have no interest in getting shitfaced drunk,and safe sex is probably my #1 soapbox topic, but I like to smoke a little weed now and then, and chill with people.  I'd never be able to do that with him. :(\nI feel like I resent being with him because I feel like I cant find myself with him, which makes me sad. \n\nbut is throwing away love for such an arbitrary thing as \"finding yourself\" worth it?\n\nthanks, in advance, kind strangers", "summary": "too young to drink, too green to think. you say these things and it wears me out"}
{"id": "t3_30moqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationship] My sext friend of about a year [19f] confided in me [20m] a week after breaking things off, that she tried to kill herself. What the hell do I do?", "post": "I met this girl through one of friends and we hit it off. After a month or so of sexting and flirtation, she moved to Texas. I live in California btw. So we continued sexting and talking for about a year. One day she says \"Bye.\" And doesn't respond to anything I say. \n\nA week goes by before she texts me again. She says she doesn't like me anymore and wants to stop being friends. So she stops talking to me. \n\nNow a week after that (today) she tells me she's sorry and doesn't really want to end things and the reason she tried to leave is because she tried to kill herself. I haven't responded. I don't know what to do. She's two states over, and we can only talk. What..what the hell do I do?", "summary": "my sext friend a thousand miles away says she tried to kill herself and now I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4g88ey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my SO [17F] of 1.3 years wants to break up because of distance. Need advice on how to cope", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nSo this was my first serious relationship with this amazing girl and it was almost near perfect. Unfortunately life decisions are causing us to seperate in the upcoming months with atleast a 6 hour difference between us. This distance will not go away for atleast the next 6+ years and I totally realize sustaining a LDR with no end goal is very difficult.\n\nShe said said she would like to break up and become friends as we get closer to going our seperate ways. Initially, I wanted to atleast give it a shot and see what comes of it - and if we were both truly unhappy I would be fine with breaking it off. I understand now, that this will only delay the eventual breakup and I support her decision as well.\n\nI'm having difficulty with realizing what this means though. It bothers me when I realize I wont get to know the little things in her life or be a priority anymore. It bothers me that eventually she will get intimate with someone else thats not me. She was the first person I would tell when something happened to me, now I dont know who will listen to the little things with the genuine interest she had. Again, this is my first long term relationship so I'm wondering does it really get better. Will I wake up one morning and no longer wonder how she is doing? For now, some mornings I wake up feeling physically sick realizing that we will be near strangers in a matter of months.", "summary": "First Longterm relationship (mutual) breakup. Having difficulty dealing with the eventual aftermath. Pls tell me it gets better."}
{"id": "t3_1aau2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(22 M) not sure how to break up with (21 F)", "post": "So, I've been dating this girl for a little under a year now. This is my furst \"real\" relationship with someone, the first one with actual feelings driving it. \n  \n  \nI love her, but I can't take the dynamics of our relationship any longer. We've come close to breaking up a few times lately, and every time she ends up crying and we've made up. Not because she was crying, but because we talked it out and decided it's what we wanted. \n  \n  \nI want to do this without hurting her, but I'm not sure if I can! Our lives just run in separate directions: She hates my friends, we have a lot of common interests, but neither is comfortable doing what the other's really love to do. I drink (socially), she does not. I've given up a lot of my life for her, and it turns out that I don't want to lose all of my friends too (she's not forcing me to, and they are somewhat mean to her). \n  \n  \nI feel like a gradeschooler, not sure how to end it. She is a bit emotionally unstable, which is something I have a hard time dealing with in life. I tend to be a bit of an emotional pushover/non confrontational. I usually step up when I have to though. \n  \n  \nI could use some advice before I horribly mangle this, break her heart, and have her hate me forever. This isn't emotionally easy for me to do either, but I'm really good (nearly sociopathic) at getting over this sort of thing.", "summary": "I have no idea how to break up with someone nicely"}
{"id": "t3_2ihukz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19 M] used to distancing myself from friends after a while, obviously I just can't do this with my girlfriend[19 F]", "post": "**This is a repost from here:  because I felt like I needed further advice.**\n\nFirst relationship I am in, soon we've been together 6 months but I am beginning to feel like I need to cut my ties with her for no reason really. I just feel like it. \n\nI do this with most my friends, I don't have many friends, but when I usually just become friends with people one at a time and then after a while I decide to switch person or be alone. I don't like being alone either, but for some reason I feel like I must. \n\nThe only friend who has lasted longer than her is a guy who I rarely meet but when we meet we hang out every day for a week or two and then stop for a few months or a year.\n\nWhat the fuck, reddit? I don't really know what I'm asking of you, to help me cut off people I think I'm actually getting along with or to convince me of something. It both seems very plausible to me.", "summary": "I cut ties with people, I now feel like cutting ties with my gf, no real reason."}
{"id": "t3_4gqfts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this odd behavior of my (23f) friend (21f)?", "post": "Okay so I tried to post this in askwomen and got sent here. Basically me friend I found out has been lying about hanging out with guys who I either have said I was talking to. Chris and I dated, when alyssa my friend asked if I was talking to anyone I told her. She then claimed he's a douche she also used to date.... He said he only talked to her once. I brushed it off. Months later she asks me who I'm texting and I tell her Dylan, she then claims she's slept with this guy and he so sweet. Well I asked him and he hasn't even heard of her... Which he had no reason to lie because me and him just had a lot of common friends no romantic thing. She then saw a pic of me on Facebook with a high school buddy I reunited with over the weekend, I didn't tell her he was a buddy. Then when she saw the pic said she used to date him, he told me he's just seen her around the rec. She said she wants to introduce me to one guy, and I need to tell her if he flirts with me. Is this odd behavior? I don't know what to think or why she would lie", "summary": "friend lies about talking to every guy I have or am currently datingand I don't know why"}
{"id": "t3_1vi061", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my SO [23 F] of 3 months - seems unenthusiastic when asking me if I want to hang out", "post": "We hang out often, we thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and don't really have any issues in our relationship. Pretty vanilla. But a small thing that's been bothering me lately is how she goes about asking me if I want to hang out with her.\n\nIf she's going out to a party, or out with some of our mutual friends, she will typically ask me if I want to come along. But when she asks - and I think it's something she's unaware of - she doesn't seem like she really wants me to be there. For example, she never explicitly states that she wants me to be there, it's usually just \"Hey, there's a party\" or \"Hey, do you want to come hang out with x & y\". And if I say no, and I give some sort of reason, she never fights to get me to go. She never really shows any emotion when I say yes or no. She just says \"all right\" and moves on. I don't think she's ever explicitly stated that she wants me to go. How i've felt about it recently, is that she acts as if she's completely okay with me not going and that she's asking because she feels she's obligated to, because i'm her boyfriend.\n\nI love that she asks and lets me know almost every time she goes out, but it just doesn't make me feel very special when she words it in that sort of way. I'm going to bring it up soon and tell her it bothers me, but I wanted some input from unbiased people beforehand. I might be looking too much into it, not sure.", "summary": "gf often asks me if i want to hang out with her and her friends, but never expresses that she actually wants me to go."}
{"id": "t3_43ps7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29 F] with my boyfriend[30 M] 1 year, quit his job without telling me", "post": "My ex-boyfriend quit his job without letting me know first - the next two months of verbal abuse culminated with him hitting me and us breaking up. My father quit his job without letting my mom know - he sank into a deep depression that devastated our family for nearly a year.\n\nI swore to myself that I would never again date someone who'd quit their job without mentioning it first, and of course, that's what my current boyfriend did. He said, \"Well, I was GOING to tell you...\" but he didn't and that's that. I told him about my father and my ex, but he didn't register how horrible those experience were for me. In fact, he seemed to admire how my father quit his position without letting anybody know.\n\nI hope it's clear that it's not that he won't have a job - it's the fact that he didn't think to let me know about this big life decision first (or if he did, he still didn't do it). I don't know how to proceed. Should I wait and hope this pans out well, or is it just another pending disaster?", "summary": "BF quit job without telling me first; I consider this a huge breach of trust."}
{"id": "t3_38nh55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(f/17) have lots of anxiety about dating but still really like guy(m/18).", "post": "I(f/17) am about to go on a date with a \nboy(m/18) that I have liked for a really long time. \nHe asked me to hang out this weekend but we \ndid not plan anything to do yet. I really like him \nand I want to go but I have a lot of anxiety about \nit.\n\n      In general I know I have a significant amount \nof anxiety and stress, a lot more than the \naverage person. I worry about everything. So it is \na lot more intense for me then it should be and I \nam very nervous. I hate this feeling and It makes\n me not want to hang out with him but I still really\n like him and want to.\n\n       I'm also worried about what to do. He never \nreally gives any suggestions of stuff to do and I \nhave to come up with them myself. Which is ok \nto a certain extent because as of right now I \ndon't really feel comfortable having a one on one \nlunch session. I feel like that can get awkward if \nwe can't think of something to talk about. I like \nto do activities, in the past we have gone \nbowling and played mini golf. I just don't know \nwhat else we could do. \n\n       Any tips on how to deal with the nervous \nanxiety associated with this or good date ideas \nthat are low key and not stressful??", "summary": "I have a lot of anxiety but I really like this "}
{"id": "t3_32xzf2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by meeting the girlfriend's parents...", "post": "So, unlike most posts, this happened today. I figured it would make a good first post. \n\nA little background: I've been seeing my girlfriend, let's call her Sarah, so 4 months now, and we're both at uni. Sarah comes from a traditional 'no sex before marriage' family, but she doesn't seem to follow that rule. It was quite an important weekend as we're getting serious, and she wanted me to meet her parents.\n\nI took Sarah out for dinner yesterday, and we stumbled back to her uni flat (where I was staying that weekend) after a few drinks to well, you know ;)... First thing we did wrong: we forgot to lock the door... \n\nSo next morning, we woke up and when Sarah looks at her phone and starts to panic. It turns out she forgot to tell me her parents were due in half an hour. She jumps up and goes in the shower (her university has en-suites). A few minutes later I decide I should probably move, realising I didn't have much time, I got up, fully naked at this point, trying to find my bag to get some clothes on, when there's a knock at the door. I thought, stay quiet it'll be fine, & Sarah couldn't hear it over the shower. Next thing I know the door opens, time slows in my mind as I find her family (parents, and her 2 younger sisters aged 17 & 18) stood in the doorway staring at my semi-erect member... As awkward as this is it gets worse, Sarah then walks out the bathroom naked having forgotten her towel, to find me standing staring at the door in silence. She turned see what was there and well... I'm pretty sure she wanted to cry with embarrassment. \nHer family on the other hand, I'm sure her dad was ready to kill me, her mom and sisters were just staring at my body (what can I say? I'm quite well built ;) ).\nAfter an uncomfortable amount of silence, they said they'd be back later and closed the door... \n\nHow the hell do I get on with her family now!?", "summary": "due to meet the gf's parents, forgot to lock the door. Next morning her family walk in whilst I was naked..."}
{"id": "t3_3fbanv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "SINGING QUESTIONS: I sing in the shower and in the car. I can't tell if I'm any good, how can I find out? I wonder about this a lot, wouldn't be crushed if I was told I'm bad but at this point I'm dying to find out. Are there things like singing teachers out there?", "post": "I sing a LOT. I have zero training. Sometimes I write a lot of song lyrics. I have a pretty deep voice, I stick to pop music and soul music when I sing.\n\nI'm normally quite hard on myself, and if I suspected I was awful I wouldn't let myself dream of the possibility I was good, but I honestly feel like there might be a chance that my voice is pleasant when I sing. On a good day when my throat isn't sore and it's the right song, my voice is a huge source of confidence. The only two people that have heard me are people stuck next to me in traffic when both our windows are rolled down, and my younger sister. Both of those people are highly impartial and brutal critics, I'd imagine, but in both instances I've been given compliments. I respond by sheepishly getting quieter and either heading back into my room or rolling my windows up when I'm reminded I'm not alone.\n\nI'm dying to hone my voice and address a talent I might have that has gone untapped. Alternatively, I'd love to make my terrible voice better, if my voice is actually awful and only I like the sound of it.\n\nEither way, I'm seriously considering looking into getting a vocal coach or whatever that's called. Is such a thing... a thing? What can I expect in terms of what I'd be getting into? What about price-wise, what would that cost me? I'm a young guy that doesn't exactly have bottomless pockets, but I'm willing to invest in this singing hobby. I've googled things like singing tips but I feel I need an actual person to hear me sing so I can be told if I'm awful or not, and how to get better.", "summary": "I want to sing. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_3po7nu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Outside perspective with a friend.", "post": "I (30f) have a friend (25f) and we have been pretty close the last 3 years. She was my maid of honor in my wedding and we hit it off right away quickly becoming best friends. \nThe last few months I have been noticing how incredibly toxic she is. Constantly saying she will do something and then fall through. I catch her lying and she denies it. When her love life is going well, I fall to the sidelines. \nWhen I bring things up to her that upset me she always turns it against me. She does this so often that I start to question if I really am a horrible person for being hurt that she is late, doesn't let me know she won't be able to come while I've been waiting, or being thankful enough. \nI need to find a way to end this relationship, but I worry as she deals with depression/anxiety (as do I) and when another friend finally called it quits she told me how she contemplated sucide. \nI really just need an outside perspective on this as I've been struggling for awhile.", "summary": "My (30f) friend (25f) of three years is toxic and I need help figuring out a way to end things. She has a history of contemplating sucide."}
{"id": "t3_q8s7e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sex Issues in an Otherwise Great Relationship", "post": "My boyfriend and I (both 27) have been living together and dating for about two years (we started out as friends who lived together with another roommate.) I am a girl. Just need some advice, thanks. :)\n\nThe problem is that he has always had a much lower sex drive than I do. We have sex maybe 3 or 5 times a month, and when we do it is usually satisfying for both of us. But he usually just says he is too tired or that he wants to get up early so he has to sleep instead of sex, or some other barely-believable excuse. I basically just have to wait for him to initiate sex. He claims to be very attracted to me and I am extremely attracted to him. \n\nI still feel a lot of pressure to initiate sex and seduce him, even though when I do it rarely works which usually ends up with me being all excited for no reason. There is a constant conflict in my mind about whether or not to attempt any seduction and risk the rejection.\n\nThis whole situation is slowly eroding my self-esteem and I feel like I am acting like a different person more and more. I have talked to him about it but he takes it very personally (understandably) and I basically have to accept him how he is or break up.\n\nIs this a bad reason to break up? Could this be caused by his alcoholism? Has anyone found any effective ways to deal with such a situation? Masturbation is not nearly as satisfying, emotionally or physically, as sex with my SO.", "summary": "Boyfriend has a low sex-drive and I am considering ending our relationship even though that is the only problem in it."}
{"id": "t3_3azoym", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Class Action Lawsuit - General Questions and Claimant Rights and Responsiblities [VA, US]", "post": "Thanks in advance for reading this rather lengthy post...\n\nHere's a little background on my situation (WARNING: First World Problem Incoming):\n\nIn 2008, I purchased a Samsung LCD TV that stopped turning on about 3-4 weeks ago.  In researching how to fix it, I found out that this particular model was part of a class action lawsuit against Samsung due to the use of shoddy parts in the manufacturing process.\n\nThe lawsuit was settled; and, as part of that settlement, Samsung agreed to provide free repairs for all models affected up until sometime in 2013.  Thinking that they may still honor the settlement terms despite being past that deadline (after all, I can't help when those faulty parts fail), I gave them a call.  Of course, they wouldn't do anything for me.\n\nAll of that being said (again, sorry for the long post), I have a few questions that I thought you might be able to help with.\n\n1. Was Samsung required by Federal or State law to notify me of either the pending class action or any settlement that was reached (I registered under their warranty policy when I bought the TV, so they would have had a record that my TV was potentially affected)?\n\n2. Because I received no notification by any party involved in the class-action suit, I was not able to take the necessary steps to ensure that my TV was or was not affected (a free \"check-up\" was offered under the settlement agreement).  Is that a breach of due diligence on their part?\n\n3. Because this class action has been resolved, does that mean they are exempt from any and all future liability, or can another suit be brought forth by individuals in my predicament?\n\nThank you all again for taking the time to read and respond!", "summary": "Don't buy Samsung TVs."}
{"id": "t3_1a6ar8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it okay to talk to a dead friend's family members about him?", "post": "I had a friend who died in a plane crash a few years ago. He was a pretty young guy, though 8 years older than me. It was very tragic and unexpected. His family has been good friends with my family for many years, and since we met when I was around 10 I had considered him a mentor to me -- he taught me a lot of things related to programming (which I was interested in as a teenager), helped instill a love of learning in me, and gave me a ton of life lessons in general all while making me feel that it was coming from a friend. All in all, he was a great guy. \n\nHis parents still visit mine quite a bit. One time when his mom was at my parents' I brought him up, thinking I would tell her some of my memories of him and basically telling her how much I admired and respected him. She started bawling inconsolably. This was maybe a year ago. This weekend, they were at my parents' place again. Me, my girlfriend, my sister, and his sister were sitting and talking. My girlfriend's socially awkward, high-functioning autistic 15 year old brother has started very much getting into learning about computers, and I try and emulate my friend towards him. My girlfriend's brother somehow became the subject of conversation, and I brought up my friend. I'm not sure how his sister took it -- there was a fleeting instant of very strong emotions on her face, but she shrugged it off and kept the conversation going.\n\nMy questions is, is this a big faux-pas? Should I avoid bringing him up in the future? Reddit, what do you think?", "summary": "A friend of mine died in a plane crash. I brought him up to his mom once making her cry. The reaction from his sister was very brief, but also strong. Should I avoid him as a topic of conversation"}
{"id": "t3_21w0kl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 F] with my guy [26 M] Epiphany or Desperate?", "post": "I've been seeing this guy for a year & I like him a lot -Recently I discovered I may not be the only one he's dating - At first my pride was hurt, but then starting thinking -I'm not interested in marriage (again) or living together, so what do I expect of this relationship? I only want to spend time with him, go out to movies etc. & have sex -I want to continue seeing him -So now I'm thinking why not? I want to talk with him about an open relationship, but this would also mean I am free to date/have sex with other men - Not sure if he'd like that part of it -- I've also done a lot of self reflection lately, I'm also bi-curious & would like to have sex with a woman, but I'm not sure if I should do that separately or possibly have a threesome -Both are something I've always wanted to try, so why not try it with a guy I trust (body wise) & a woman that possibly he knows or a stranger", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3rrodz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [34 F] of 4 years, can never agree on guests at the home and wanted to know if anyone else's home is like this.", "post": "I'll ask my 2 questions upfront then go into detail:\n\n1.  Does any other marriage have a \"no family spends the night\" rule?\n2.  Is it usual to have to discuss \"who's coming over\" and being able to veto guests when you want to have friends over for, say, a football game?\n\nShort background - I am from North Carolina but moved to Connecticut by myself for work.  I come from a very small family and live 400 miles away.  Married a woman from CT who has a large family - all in CT.  She HATES having people over (both friends and family), justifies it by saying she \"values her privacy\", and so we really never have guests over.  Because of this, we've agreed to \"no sleepovers\" for either family but my suspicion is that this rule is mainly painted towards my family since they'd be the only ones from far enough away to not be able to go home at night.\n\nAlso, when it comes to friends, whenever I want to have folks over it takes a lot of conversation and planning because she wants to know who's coming over, when they're coming over, and what we're doing.  She says some of my friends make her uncomfortable but only give the reason that she's intimidated in social situations and hates having to make \"small talk\".\n\nI was never a really outgoing or social guy myself but I'm not as completely shut out from it as she is.  It comes to a head each time I want to have friends over (3-4x a year) and I'm to the point where I dont want to try anymore because it's not worth the hassle.\n\nI know this all sounds bad and after reading it it sounds even worse.  Just wanted more dialogue around anyone who's been in similar situations what they did.", "summary": "Wife hates people at the house, values her privacy - leads to too much arguing."}
{"id": "t3_35sg7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with him [27M] hooking up, I got pregnant and not sure if it's over, I feel rejected", "post": "My hook-up buddy got me pregnant. We're both on the same page about terminating it (just not in a good place in our lives to support a child), and although things were a little rocky for a while, he's been supportive at least emotionally. He's also moving away in a few weeks, so there isn't a lot of time left together. I'd like for us to enjoy that and continue what we had. However, he won't touch me anymore. I was lying in bed next to him naked, and he didn't even want to put his arm around me. I understand he's freaked out, but we're both on the same about terminating, why can't he go back to having sex with me? I'm back on birth control and he'd definitely be using a condom. I guess I'm just having trouble understanding what's going on in his mind. I know I shouldn't take this so personally since it's most likely the whole situation, but I feel like he must not be attracted to me anymore.", "summary": "I got pregnant, we're going to terminate it, but will he want to have sex with me again?"}
{"id": "t3_2tjf6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriends [22 M] gets really defensive whenever I tell him to tidy up his appearance.", "post": "We've been together for over 2 years. It's something that has been straining the relationship ever since we started dating. He's a slob. It's just minor changes that would make me more than happy with him, but he fights me every step of the way! He never cared about his appearance, nor does many of his friends and it really hurts me when he shows up to dates or to meet my friends for the first time looking like a complete bum. \n\nI've gotten him to shower and brush his teeth, to put bedsheets on his bed, to stop sleeping with crumbs (you think i'm exaggerating) on his bed, to clean his room, to eat less fast food (he developed a massive pot belly). \n\nRight now his hair and face is just scraggly. He keeps making excuses for things. Telling me relationships are all about compromise. I can't trim his hair for him or trim his beard. I'd even offer to pay for everything! Hell, I dress my best and show up on time when I meet HIS friends and family and am really resenting him for not holding the same consideration for me. Then he asks me why I don't bring him around them anymore.\n\nIdk. I guess I'm just posting this for venting purposes. Every time I touch the subject he immediately gets defensive. He promised to get a trim this weekend but idk... Has anyone been with someone like this? Is it something fixable? If so, how did you approach it?", "summary": "Boyfriend is sloppy and defensive. Is this relationship salvageable or should I just cut my losses and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3v5dlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] asked my gf [21f] of a year about her thoughts on an open relationship. Now she won't look at me", "post": "I've clearly misjudged her okay-ness on discussing open relationships or threesomes or the like. She took it very personal and is hurt about the fact that I would want to have sex with others. She thinks it's because I'm bored with her, or the sex, and maybe something else, she won't really talk to me. I've told her that's not true, that I'm ok with her not being ok with it, that I won't pursue it any further, and that it's a fetish I've had even before I met her so it's not anything to do with her; she's just the only person I trusted enough to ask. Still she's on the verge of crying still almost a day later, isn't talking to me so I can find out what's wrong, wants to be away from me and definitely won't look at me.  \nI can understand the emotional reasons she's upset, although I didn't expect the question to hit her so heavily. Did I really do something so wrong? What do I do now?", "summary": "asked about open relationship, she sad now, what do"}
{"id": "t3_q4b9y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! My store manager just abandoned his job while I'm on shift!", "post": "I work in a shoe store. Just thirty minutes ago my store manager came in, expressed discontentment toward the district store manager. He then slapped his keys into my hand and walked out and drove away.\n\nI am a \"keyholder\", meaning I can operate in the capacity to open and close my store and do all normal business routines, including count deposit and lock the store. \n\nI opened the store this morning. No other manager is available to close the store (I was just playing phone tag with all of them).\n\nI know how to properly respond to the incident. Simply email my district manager and let her deal with it. My only concern Is not doing a 13 hour shift, as I have lots of college homework to do this weekend, and if I am picking up my ex store managers slack I will have zero time available.\n\nReddit, please assist!", "summary": "fuck you, Leo"}
{"id": "t3_31byvu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Accidental NSV: 36/5'11 SW:220 CW:202 GW:185", "post": "I recently went through a bad breakup. I'm normally an emotional eater when I'm stressed. I would have sat with endless bags of fast food hangrily eating my feelings and having a pity party. But this time I stopped eating and I lost 18 lbs in a month. \n\nMy diet before was ..ok at best. I would have the occasional soda and fast food but was eating smaller portions and limiting snacks to veggie, nuts and hummus.\n\nNow that I'm finally getting over the breakup I'm slowly eating more. I still haven't had any soda (hooray!) and I'm choosing much healthier options when I actually feel like eating. I've been doing a lot of yoga (helps clear my head and strengthen my body)  and taking long walks with my dog if I start to feel anxious and stressed.\n\nI'm not trying to celebrate losing weight in an very unhealthy way, but I'm glad I'm getting back to my old self and making better decisions when it comes to food.", "summary": "Starved myself after bad breakup, starting to eat normal and making good choices."}
{"id": "t3_2dkpn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with [28 M] seeing for 2 months, started communicating less then gave the we need to talk", "post": "Hoping for the best here but want to see what others might glean from this. We have been dating for a little over 2 months, instant connection, spent a lot of time together the first month and a half. Then he got busy at work and side project and started being around less and responding intermittently to texts. \n\nI sensed something was up (assuming just stressed out) and started inviting him to more things and for him to stay over at my place more - with the intent of \"hey this will take your mind off stuff\" - \"not hey i am needy.\"\n\nAnyways, he was going to be out of town for the day and I sent him a text with a (tasteful and cute) photo of me and texted \"if you want to cuddle when you get back\" - no response. He had mentioned having issues with texts so I texted him a little later and was like \"did you get the photo?\" and he responded **\"yeah, sorry it did. it's not a great time but we should talk about this\"** and I responded that that would be good.\n\nThe next day I texted back that I wanted to talk and thanked him for bringing that up and said I sensed he was stressed which is why i was inviting him out and offering my company and he responded **\"yeah. sorry these projects just crept up on me\"**\n\nSo that is it, his responses were kind of vague so wondering what you all glean from it. I really like him and he has said the same about me, we haven't officially called whatever it is a relationship but i feel like it is, so this weirdness is really stressing me out.", "summary": "Things were great, guy started getting distant, wants to talk  - what does it all mean? is there hope??  "}
{"id": "t3_2rxh1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "This isn't going to be a really long question. Basically, do I tell her how I feel? \nWe met online over a year ago and we have literally been talking every day since that day. We are the same person just opposite genders. We would be perfect together. I have known for a long time how I felt about her but never been able to tell her. I THINK she feels the same way about me but I don't know whether I am picking up signs which aren't actually there and I just want them to be there. I would be able to travel to and from to see her but obviously, not as regularly as you would need to make a relationship work.\nIs there anyway that this relationship could actually happen and should I tell her how I feel or will it be a bad decision and could hurt the friendship that we have built. \nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Do I tell her how I feel?!"}
{"id": "t3_3ex5jp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my grandmother's boyfriend drunk", "post": "This happened this past Saturday. I was at my mom's wedding that was taking place at her house in the back yard. It was a small ceremony with mostly family.\n\nThere was a non-alcoholic punch in the kitchen that I decided would be a fun idea to spike. So while everyone was out taking pictures I snuck inside and poured three bottles of wine into the punch bowl. \n\nMeanwhile, my grandmother's boyfriend who is 78 and not in the best health was outside having a few beers. Turns out he had a few too many, so to sober up my grandmother gave him a glass of 'non-alcoholic' punch. After another three glasses of the punch, he started to have really bad heartburn. So bad he nearly choked and had to take a bunch of pills in order to keep breathing properly.\n\nFollowing this medical fiasco and panic by everyone there, things settled down and the family went back to talking and hanging out. Except my grandmother's boyfriend was still really drunk, and now that he was feeling better was getting chatty with my girlfriend. \n\nShe was wearing a summer dress, and I noticed he was putting his hand on her knee periodically (like old people do) while he was talking to her.\n\nNext thing I know I'm in the kitchen and I hear a commotion from the living room and my grandmother yelling. Her boyfriend had slipped his hand up a little bit too high on my girlfriend's thigh in front of the whole family (my grandmother included) which caused my grandmother to berate him in front of everyone.\n\nNow everyone was all riled up, while my girlfriend was blushing and embarrassed beyond belief. This was the first time she had met my grandmother and my grandmother had just watched her boyfriend feel her up.\n\nEventually it came out that I had spiked the punch and almost ruined my mom's wedding. Fortunately we all laughed about it afterwards.", "summary": "I spiked the punch at my mother's wedding, got my grandmother's boyfriend drunk after which he felt up my girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_105yq6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [17] am starting to fall for my best friend [17]", "post": "Lately I, 17 male, have gotten really close to one of my best female friends who is also 17. I have known her since freshman year of high school and we are both now seniors. I haven't ever had a romantic attraction toward her until within this week.\nI have started to become more attracted to her because we have been hanging out more frequently, other than just IMing or texting each other. A lot of people have also asked the both of us if we are interested in each other or dating, and that has made me reassess the whole situation.\nI don't want to like her because i'm afraid we will end up dating and then it will never be the same between us, if we break up\nShe asks advice from me about other boys that she has her eye on and thinks are attractive, so I'm pretty sure that she doesn't have any feelings toward me other than being her best friend.\nShe is also super indecisive about how she feels toward boys that she does like. At first she likes them a lot but then once their true colors start to show she loses interest.\nI don't want to distance myself but I feel as if I am doing that already.\nShould I tell her how I am feeling? And if so, how do I go about doing so?", "summary": "I'm starting to like my best friend and I would like to know if I should tell her, and if I should, how so?"}
{"id": "t3_1pr8ai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [25M] being paranoid with the communication gaps w/ my SO [28F]", "post": "My SO & I have been together since June in a LDR, with her studying a broad in Europe (met her online). She will be here for the holidays, so we will be together soon (which were are ecstatic & giddy for)\n\nWe text daily from sun up to sun down & Skype as often as possible. Our future is mostly already planned, but other things like kids will be discussed when she gets here. 1-2x a week there will be a 3-4hr gap minimum between her last text. During that time I still text saying how much I love her, how much she means to me, ask her how her day is going and such. Being that she is 5hrs ahead of me I always take that into account as for gaps.\n\nI'm always worried about her being that I can't physically be there to protect, so that is always on my mind daily. When the long gaps occur I become even more worried, so I text her from every hour to every 30min asking her a question. I don't want her to think I'm clingy, since I know most women hate it. She knows how much I worry about her being that we are so far apart.\n\nAfter 4+ hrs she replies saying \"I luv u\" \"miss u\" \"srry I wrried u\". I tell her it's alright & that I'm just glad to know she is safe...she tells me she loves me always right after.", "summary": "SO sometimes takes 4+ hrs to respond to texts & I'm worried already about her due to LDR (for now) so it makes it even worse. Am I paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_owg6g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something you have done as kid that you wish still have the guts to do now?", "post": "When I was in elementary school we used to climb up and jump down 2 meter walls just so we don't have to spend 15 minutes walking the long way around to get to school. Now days I have to think about how much of the force exerted on my feet by the ground from the impact of me jumping from for a 3 feet counter. Although I rationalize this by convincing myself it would hurt since I weight so much more now.\n\nDuring the summer time my dad would take me to capture cicada nymphs that just came out of the ground, bring them back and cook/fry them, supposed to have lots of protein. Now days whenever I think back to it I start imagining those things crawling around in my mouth, also whenever I see thing about the weird stuff they serve at the night markets in Guangzhou, China. Sometimes I would imagine crushed-to-death corpses of those thing is how it's gonna look when you bite down on it.", "summary": "jump down from 2 meter walls as a kid, now wuss out at 1 meter. Also imagine a cockroach, dead, crushed by the newspaper in you hand, with guts all splattered. Now imagine that thing, cooked/fried, and in your mouth."}
{"id": "t3_2m2qhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) have been recently sleeping with a friend (27M) who is behind my back now pursuing a relationship with a close mutual friend. (20F)", "post": "I don't know how I feel.\n\nI've recently gotten out of a five year relationship, of which the final 6 months he had a seriously full blown emotional and physical affair.\n\nComing out I felt great, I met a great bunch of new friends - a mix of guys and girls. About 5 months into the friendship, I started sleeping with one of the guys. We agreed it was casual, and neither of us would pursue it again. But he did last week, very much so. We slept together multiple times that night.\n\nSo I hear a conversation between him and one of the girls in our group about how he doesn't remember sleeping with me or not. I confront him, and he tells me he remembers 100% of the night, and never said that to her.\n\nHim and this girl, over the days following, are all over each other right in front of me. Tonight, I over hear a conversation between her and another one of the friends, that he asked he on a date. She said she sees things happening between them next month.\n\nI feel total used and in the dark. But don't know if I should feel that way. I've since heard he has no recollection what so ever about the conversation he had with her. \n\nI just feel like he's been selfish, liking this girl, sleeping multiple times with her friend, but still then asking her on a date... I'm so upset, and hurt. And I feel like this is a beyond weird situation. But do I have a right to be upset? I feel like he hasn't cared about her either. Whenever I hang with them if I were to walk in, I'll now always be the girl who slept with her bf.\n\nThey're all using the excuse that he was always the fat, unattractive guy who girls didn't like, and now he doesn't know how to handle his new found 'attractiveness'. I feel like we've all been through that though, and if I were in his situation, I'd make one of the two decisions and keep it that way.", "summary": "Friend slept with me despite liking, and pursuing a relationship with another mutual friend. Do I have a right to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_2xpp7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my [32M] 6 years, mutual end to a 6 year relationship, 3 months left on lease...awkward. how do I do this?", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We both came to the conclusion that it's over. We don't want to get married. I have no interest in having kids. He has career goals that have always come first and I want to do things in life that he doesn't. We were good together for the time we dated but now we just don't seem to fit into each other's lives.\n\nI've been spending my nights with a friend and my mother occasionally. When I think about the daunting task of separating six years of stuff, I get such a heavy feeling inside. Our lives are so ingrained and I still love him. It's just really hard to wrap my mind around not having him in my life. We've both expressed how painful it is. I don't expect this to be easy but I find myself so overwhelmed by the task I shut down. \n\nBeing single motivates me slightly. He was never really controlling but it will be nice to not have to answer to anyone but myself.\n\nI guess there really isn't a question. I am just needing some advice. We have never been the type to have screaming arguments. We always discuss things civilly. It's no surprise our break-up is happening the way it is. Sort of like slowly peeling the band-aid off instead of just ripping it off like normal people. It really is more painful.", "summary": "How do you slowly break up?"}
{"id": "t3_4kj1rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Something weird happened at a party last night - Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of 1.5 years", "post": "Last night my boyfriend and I were at my friend's house party. He was playing cards in the living room and I was hanging out in the kitchen but I could still see and hear what was going on. He was sitting next to this girl that we have met a couple of times before but don't regularly hang out with. At one point, she stood up, and apparently her legs were asleep and she fell back onto my boyfriends lap. He grabbed her hips and squeezed them and she sat there for like 3 or 4 seconds before finally getting up and he did nothign to get her off of him. I thought that was a little weird but was willing to let it go...\n\nProbably an hour or so later I went upstairs to go to the bathroom. The girl who was sitting on his lap walked out right as I was walking up to it but just walked right past me without saying anything. I shut the door and went to check behind the curtain to check for murderers (old habits die hard) and my boyfriend was just standing in the shower crouched down. We both screamed and I asked him wtf he was doing in there and he said he didn't know, he was just really drunk. He was supposed to be DD though so he was only going to have a couple of beers and thats really all I saw him drink anyways, he was coming to the kitchen each time he wanted another. It just seems really unlikely that he was somehow drunk enough to be standing in the shower and have no idea what he was doing there. The rest of the night he played up the \"Really drunk\" act and he continued to drink a lot, to the point where he probably actually was really drunk.\n\nIt just seems really suspicious to me but he swears up and down he is telling the truth. When I ask him if he can understand how it looks from my point of view he says he wouldn't be upset because both of those situations were innocent, but I'm not so sure.", "summary": "Girl at party sat on my boyfriends lap and then I went upstairs to find him hiding in the shower right after she came out."}
{"id": "t3_1i843x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it moving too fast for me [19m] to kiss this girl [19f] when I first see her on the second date?", "post": "Okay, like I said I am overthinking things. Normally I do not even think, I just act, but this is the first girl I ACTUALLY like. We had our first date, and I did not kiss her goodbye. I wanted it to be more of a surprise, and not expected. She has visited me every day at work since then, and I have kissed her goodnight.\n\nOur second date is today, and I want to be more prominent with my flirtiness. The first date was getting to know her, and ever since then she was at my work. I want to kiss her immediately when I see her, and since I have kissed her goodnight the past 5 days, I dont really see anything wrong with it.\n\nI just do not want to move this too fast, and I am worried that doing that will.", "summary": "Second date with this girl, and want to kiss her when I first see her. Is that going to be moving too fast?"}
{"id": "t3_32i88h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my BF [28 M] duration 1 year, living apart after living together a death sentence?", "post": "I moved in with my boyfriend just after six months of dating (we both wanted it). More specifically, I moved away from the city where I go to school and work in. Total commute every day for me? 2 hrs. Additionally, his place is extremely extremely small (tiny studio) and in a very bad area. \n\nNeedless to say, this took a toll on the relationship because I was so stressed from the daily commute and my living environment. He's also an introvert (he believes himself to be on the mild autism spectrum) and I believe he was getting stressed from being cramped in the apt. with me (no personal space). \n\nAfter four months of living together, I decided to move back out to live by my school and work. It's been a few weeks and has really improved our relationship. \n\nI keep reading about how it's a death sentence for couples to live apart after living together and it's got me kind of worried. We didn't have any fundamental differences that caused issues. Our issues stemmed from more logistical problems (apt. size, commute, etc). We agreed on this and discussed that we would look into living together again after I graduate and he takes a huge stressful test (after Summer). I also took this opportunity to improve myself by going to therapy (I tend to internalize problems to portray myself as the perfect invincible person) and it's improved the communication between my boyfriend and me. \n\nAny happy ending stories about couples who lived together, but moved out for a bit? I'd appreciate any advice or insight.", "summary": "living apart now after moving in together without much thought. Are we doomed? Am I too optimistic?"}
{"id": "t3_paqtx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Not sure what to do here.", "post": "My current gf and I have been living together for 4 years now, during which she has had a job a total of 10 or 11 months. She's had 3 jobs during these 4 years, 2 of which she quit, 1 she was fired (for not showing up when she was supposed to) and because of this we've had to have roommates to help pay the bills. We are currently discussing getting a place on our own when she finds a job, but I'm not sure I want to risk it given her record of just deciding she doesn't want to go to work. We've talked about this before and she assures me that it won't happen, but I can't shake the feeling. Am I right to be unsure about this or am I just overreacting?", "summary": "gf hasn't been able to hold a job more than 6 months, wants to get a place just the 2 of us when she finds a job, i don't want to be stuck paying all the bills again."}
{"id": "t3_4470s4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [015 M] with my twin [15 M],together for 15 years. he decides if i stay at boarding", "post": "so..\n\nmy twin brother recently had moved school from are boarding school, which you have to ware a tie ,to every day to a school that he only go to during the day and can grow face hair and dye his hair, he now has a beard and his hair blue.\n\nhe got to change school because he had bad depression to the point were he cut himself , in the end are parents gave him everything he wanted from a new school to new computer which cost 2000 dollars. \n\nhe is always calling me to rip into me and tell me how great his day was how he hangs out with girls and such (my school there is no girls). \n\ni want to go to his school now but i cant because he needs an \"identity\" so im not aloud go. \n\nwhat do i do to get into the other school?\n\n and how do i get my brother to be kinder to me?", "summary": "my twin brother is a prick how do i fix"}
{"id": "t3_3flgsg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Boyfriend going to be incarcerated, help with joint expenses (CAN)", "post": "I don't know if this should be in /r/legaladvice or here but since it's more about money then the law I'd figure here would work. \n\nMy boyfriend will being going to jail for around 6-12months (hasn't been sentenced yet). Currently we have financed a vehicle together with him listed as the primary and me as the secondary and we split the payments (he does car payments I do insurance which is solely under my name). He thinks that we should open a joint account where he'll put enough of his savings to cover a year of car payments so that when he's away they'll automatically be covered every month and I'll just pay insurance like usual. My question is pretty much is this a good idea? I'm mainly worried because he has quiet a bit of equity to his name (he's owner of a company) but has the potential of being sued or something going wrong with business which could bankrupt him or at least have him left with a decent amount of debt. Would there be any repercussions to my credit having a joint account or lease together? Could we lose the vehicle or have the bank pull money from the joint account if things went south... Basically am I smarter to keep financially separate from him, or it won't hurt to have the joint. Personally I'd like the joint account to have the security of knowing the money is there and I have access to it when need be (honestly I just can't afford to pay it all by myself too). Just wondering how do you plan for something like this??\n\n (BTW our relationship is solid, I am in no way worried about that, I trust him 100% but knowing I'm in it for the long haul and after he's out we're going to have alot of expenses, at least one of us needs to have a strong financial foothold)", "summary": "Boyfriend is going to jail (6-12 months). We have financed a vehicle together. He wants to open a joint account to place 12months of car payments (which I can't afford by myself) into so I have it when he's away. Is this smart or could it financially bite me in the butt. (not needing relationship advice, just financial...)"}
{"id": "t3_2lrq7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28 F and just broke up with my boyfriend 27 M. No questions, really, just need to vent.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 and a half years. Throughout those years, we've talked about marriage, kids, the whole shebang. Mostly casually, but there were a couple more serious talks about the future. He always said he wanted to get married, wanted 2 kids, a boy and a girl. We had picked out potential baby names and everything.\n\nFor reference: We are both lawyers. We met in law school. He works crazy hours; I don't. He lives with his parents. I live alone. \n\nRecently his hours have been getting worse and worse, and I have been lonely. I finally asked him to think about the future, like-- make a timeline-- and so he did. And it turns out, his timeline is this: He never wants to get married. Or if he does, it won't be for another decade or so. And he has decided that he doesn't want kids. (Until maybe he's 45, when conveniently, I will be menopausal.)\n\nHe says he doesn't want the \"emotional responsibility\" of marriage. This hurts, because he was happy enough to have the emotional responsibility of a long-term girlfriend. \n\nWe have been so close and so in love, and he's \"letting me go\" so I have a chance of a future with someone else. Theoretically, I can appreciate this, but it hurts so, so much. Like so much. We have been through a lot together (unemployment, a cancer diagnosis, depression) and I feel like a failure now that it was all for nothing.\n\nI know it's not nice, but I hope he is incredibly lonely in his new life, without emotional responsibility. \n\nIn any case, I moved to his hometown to be closer to him two years ago. All my friends were his friends first. So now I have no one nearby to talk to. That is why I am venting on Reddit. My heart aches and I have no one to hold me.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I broke up because he changed his mind about the future. It hurts."}
{"id": "t3_4wpxje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [14M] tell my parents I don't want to go to high school with my brothers [16M&17M]", "post": "I am the youngest of my brothers and sisters. My sisters are college students and they have moved out of home. I live with my parents and two brothers. I am starting High School and I don't want to go to the same High School as them.  \n\nMy brothers bully me all them time. They lock me in the basement, They shove me into the pool, they have burned my books, they steal my allowance and use it for weed. My parents ground them but it only makes things worse. When mom and dad go to work they bully me. \n\nI don't want to go to the same high school as them. How do I tell my parents. I want to talk to mom first and I don't know what to say.", "summary": "How do I tell my parents I don't want to go to the same high school as my brothers?"}
{"id": "t3_3u3g5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23f] with my stepmom [50f] argument about gift giving", "post": "We have a history of not getting along and disagreeing on everything from minor to fundamental issues. She also likes to talk shit about me to her family. This is the latest one that happened over text. \n\nMary - Your uncle mike's bday is thursday. he likes gift cards to cabelas. \n\nMe - Mike's wife just sent me a card in the mail for my bday this year so i guess we arent exchanging anymore for bdays.\n\nMary - I know nothing of that. I dont give gifts to get gifts.\n\nK so. I know thats a trap from years of interacting. I havent responded. Am I wrong to just give my uncle (who i havent talked to in a year btw) a nice card on his bday? How would you respond here?", "summary": "are you supposed to give a gift when you dont receive one?"}
{"id": "t3_49c2dh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29m] want to rebuild relationship with long time gf [27f]", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nSo my [29m] GF [27f] have been through a pretty sour patch as of recently. We're not able to talk to each other any more besides general small talk. It seems that anytime we try to discuss things it leads to a fight.\n\nI've been trying to build on us by taking time off work and being available to her and also tried sending her some links to some relationship support videos that I found. She hasn't viewed them and still seems disengaged and frequently snaps at me for feeling like I'm getting pushed off to the side. I'm not perfect myself and I don't expect a perfect relationship but I feel alone in this whole thing.\n\nWhat are some ways some of you redditors have salvaged a relationship from ending to being strong again? She used to be my best friend now I feel like she just goes through the motions to be with me. I don't want to take a break or end it because if this relationship ends I will move away and most likely never see her again since the reason I moved here was to be with her.", "summary": "what are some ways to rekindle a dying flame in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3dxgbf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] of 3 months having tension while she away on holiday and its all my fault.", "post": "So my girlfriend had booked two holidays to go away with her friends one to magaluf and one to kavos. Initally i was fine with this as she had booked them before i had known her.\n\nThe first couple of days she had went away on the first holiday it was great, she would call me while her and her friends were getting ready and keep me up to date with how it was going and some funny storys here and there but then after a few nights it died. and me being somewhat clingy i was trying to text her still and got all wound up because i wasnt getting a reply. We'd normally text each other what we called 'cute texts' where we'd basically say how much we miss each other and cant wait too see eachother etc.\n\nshe came back for 2 days before she went on another holiday and so she invited me round hers for one. She was very tired and snappy and did not have a lot of patience. She can normally take good banter and i was just acting like normal and winding her up but i was called an asshole and she slept for most of the night.\n\nI shouldnt of probably went round but she then went away on the other holiday. The only regular contact we had was us trying to keep our snapchat streak going... which consisted of a blank picture of whatever was infront of us and no real conversations.\n\nive told her i missed her a couple of times and rung her once but yesterday i sent her a snapchat saying \"miss you xx\" and she replied with \"stopit xx\". she seems to becoming ever more frustrated with me and i really miss the girl.\n\n Ive talked to a couple of friends that have told me to dump her due to her not seeing it from your point of view and others are saying wait to see how she acts when she comes back.", "summary": "Girlfriend on clubbing holiday has become very distance and short tempered, not as affectionate and lovey dovey before she went opinions/help?"}
{"id": "t3_t1tz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First online dating experience. Rating: used", "post": "Edit (at the beginning because I can't read--go me!): I'm 20. The guy in question is 23. I've known him for two months. \n\nSo I decided a few months back to join a dating site because I had seen plenty of success with it among friends and thought I would give it a try. I wasn't planning on anything serious forming from it because I have a tendency to seem like a different (read: cooler, more relaxed, etc) person online. \nSo weeks passed, I talked to some fairly cool people, enjoyed getting a chance to talk to people with different personalities and interests, and then one person messaged me and we instantly clicked. The similarities were astounding: communicating style, interests, political, philosophical, and social beliefs in line. We met IRL, hit it off, hung out a few times, and then he spent the night. We met up 5 times before that, so I didn't think it was moving too fast, plus the physical attraction was there.\nHere we are a week and a half later and I've barely heard from him. He cancelled our last date (hang out? chill time? whatever you want to call it) in favor of going to the bar with his coworkers, and I've attempted to make plans since with no response. \nI suppose the main question here is am I right to feel used? I don't tend to jump towards extreme explanations but it follows, in my mind at least, that his motive in this was sex, and once that was achieved he moved on. It hurts because I thought we really had a chance at a friendship at the very least, due to the ease of conversation, how natural it felt talking to him, things like that.", "summary": "Met a guy online, we hit it off, slept together 5 dates in and now he hasn't talked to me or responded to attempts to make plans in a week and a half. Am I wrong to feel used?"}
{"id": "t3_2w4vqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my partner [24 F] of two years, considering celibacy to help solve problems caused by my past experiences.", "post": "My ex and I had a very unhealthy relationship sexually, there was a lot of guilt involved. So in my current relations hip I still have all that guilt and fear. I thought time would fix everything, but that hasn't really worked. For a while I felt better, but now I have gone back to being scared every time she touches me. I am still attracted to her. But the fear gets in the way. I don't want to make it worse, but I also don't want to lose her or have her  resent me, and I feel very guilty for even thinking about this, but I am wondering if a break from sexually relations might help. I am running out of ideas. Please anyone with experience or similar problemS tell me what you did. Thank you.", "summary": "Bad relationship in the past causing issues in my sex life now, considering celibacy for a month or two I would like to hear some alternate  solutions or options."}
{"id": "t3_1s7vf1", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "What would you do in", "post": "Me and a few friends are planning on going to Europe shortly and Asia for about four and a half months. The plan would be to start in Belgium, only to see Tomorrowland (a huge music festival). Then we would head to Amsterdam to explore the tourist attraction, this ends the Europe portion of our journey. From there we would fly to India and stay for two weeks, next, Nepal for two weeks. Fly to Laos for two weeks, then make our way into Thailand and spend about a month there. After that we would head to Cambodia for two weeks, then Singapore for three weeks. We would end the trip in Australia and stay for three weeks before heading home. A little less than five months on an ~$12,000 budget, lets say $10,000 to be safe. Where specifically in each country would you go? What would you do? What would you want to see? All of us are very outgoing and into nature. We want to do it all, Full-Moon parties, hiking, scuba-diving, sky-diving, visit some monuments and nature preserves, explore some caves and ancient ruins. The group of us is also not against spending time with locals to learn about culture, traditions and day-to-day life. I've done some research about each country so I have a rough idea of what I'd like to do. But to be able to hear some stories or personal experiences from you guys would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "India for 2 weeks, Nepal for 2 weeks, Laos for 2 weeks, Thailand for a month, Cambodia for 2 weeks, Singapore for 3 weeks and Australia for 3 weeks. What would you do with a $10,000 budget?"}
{"id": "t3_37xgel", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving porn open on an open laptop. [NSFW]", "post": "This happened on Monday night. I'm still clenching my sphincter so hard, it may as well be used as a woodcutter...\n\nI was alone, and feeling some spice in my sausage, so I decided to hold it hostage until it confessed. During, I opened up a site we all know and love to help persuade my sausage into spilling its guts. About 15 minutes later, my sister, whom graciously brought dinner for me, called me down. I told her I'd be there in a minute or two, and I kept beating the meat. She had no idea. After the details of the crime blurted out of the suspect, I cleaned up, and went down, completely oblivious to the fact that I left my door wide open, and have a frozen image of a man's disco stick being ridden by a woman's chocolate starfish on my open laptop screen. \n\nMy sister, and also, her boyfriend were downstairs. As I got my dinner, they both went upstairs to grab some stuff, since they were headed out for dinner. Once they came back downstairs, They looked at me, smiled weirdly and laughed under their breath, then said that they were leaving. I thought their behaviour was strange, but I didn't pay attention to it.\n\nAfter dinner, I went back upstairs and noticed the image of the meat train riding through the cadbury tunnel. I immediately thought. \"They saw it. They fucking saw it.\"\n\nI'll never be able to look at either of them in the face again.", "summary": "Left porn open on my laptop while having dinner, sister and her bf went upstairs and saw it, came back down, laughed and gave me weird-ish looks, then left. After dinner, I went up and noticed I left it open. Cringed super hard."}
{"id": "t3_1a4gob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17F) need to find a way to get over him (17M) without spoiling our friendship.", "post": "I met this guy eight years ago when we both started playing the same instrument. Ever since then I've always a bit of a crush on him. I've dated other guys and he's dated other girls, but these last few months when we have both been single, I reaaaallly fell for him. Like, pining over him. ( I realize how stereotypical this sounds coming from a teenage girl, but it's what's happening.) Today, after months of mixed signals, a negative prom response then apology for said response, many turned down date invites, and flirting on both our parts; I finally poured out my feelings for him. I expressed how amazing I think he is and all I got in response was a \"thank you gurll\". He outright told me he thinks of me as his best friend and that's all. So I realize I need to move on and get over him without spoiling our friendship (such as distancing myself and not talking to him). I think at this point I'll always just be his friend and nothing more. Reddit, how do you suggest I get over my feelings for him? Because honestly right now, I'm a mess.", "summary": "I realllllyyy like a guy (17M), but know he doesn't have feelings for me (17F). How do I get over it without killing the friendship? "}
{"id": "t3_1lgd0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 20 M just found out my girlfriend 18 F Cheated", "post": "When I get into a relationship I give all the trust i have. I never would ask to check her phone. Never ask where she is at every moment. People need space and I get that. But my last two relationships I would get this feeling that I am being cheated on. I don't know why but it just comes out of no where. Then I always find out later its true. I've been with my current girlfriend for near 7 months officially but we've been hanging out for nearly two years. So about 5 months ago I get this feeling that I'm being cheated on again. So I decided to talk to her about it. She looked me straight in the eye and said \"I promise I have never cheated on you I've been completely faithfull\". \n\nSo the other night she slept at my house and I decided to be an ass hole for some reason hoping I wouldn't find anything and I checked her phone. Low and behold there it is. Talking to some guy telling him she doesn't want to cheat on me again because she felt like an ass last time. Then the next day making plans to have sex with the guy she was talking to. \n\nI do believe I love this girl, but how can I go on knowing she cheated and lied straight to my face with no problem? Reddit please help :(", "summary": "girlfiend cheated, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1atvju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(19/m) her(19/f) friends -> strangers ->dating ->friends -strangers?", "post": "I known this girl for 7 years.\n\nWell this girl and I didn't really date, we talked about it after she gave me a giant speech on how she would never date me, and I hadn't even asked her out. \n\nI left for a month in which we had no contact, and we had been talking every day, from waking up to going to sleep. Then she comes to me and says she over reacted and she did like me as more than a friend.\n\nWe talked for two weeks fixing the relationship with a sense to date. \nAfter those two weeks she simply tells me she sees me as a (brother) and that I'm the guy who will validate her boyfriend. I told her alright since we are good friends.\n\nTwo days pass by and I ask her if she is completly sure that we will never date and she says: I wouldn't date you unless you were the last guy in the planet(ouch)\n\nSkip two weeks now, she hasn't talked to me, even though she said she would. Past spring break and she tries to have a going conversation with me on what she did during spring break. I was kinda busy so I didn't text to be interested. She hasn't texted me since, and is distant. The interesting thing is that her best friend who I met, has started texting me, and we have started very very casually talking. \n\nWhat the heck is going on with this girl? She had told everyone she really freaking liked me and all of a sudden changed. I still don't understand her way of thinking, or if she is insecure. I honestly don't see how it is possible to go from \"I like you\" to \"I wouldn't date you unless you were the last option\"", "summary": "Friend of 7 years seeks me out to date. We began to talk and in two week she changes her mind. Two weeks later she tries to restart conversation with me. Her best friend is talking to me very very casually, but the actual girl of interest isn't speaking to me at all."}
{"id": "t3_3j7h6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my bf [26 M] of almost 7 years, has had incredibly difficult trust issues...due to his constant online cheating throughout the years.", "post": "My bf of almost 7 years has always had reaally bad trust and jealousy issues from the jump...i at first didnt understand but he explained to me his first love (which was long term) cheated on him quite traumatically. I thought with patience and reassurance from my loyalty would help him to learn to put down his guards and trust again throughout the years.....but it hasn't..\n\nHis jealousy and paranoia has taken quite a toll on me and my relationships....everytime i go out he thinks im cheating or being deceitful...and i have been nothing but loyal and honest with him...and he will still never fully trust me...\n\nTo add onto that....he has emotionally cheated on me many times either through people i know or online dating..and in turn has now made me paranoid and insecure and jealous...as well...and i am constantly fighting these demons\n\nI dont even know why I'm here explaining all this because its probably clear to everyone I shouldnt be with him....but we are together and want things to work. We have been through quite a lot and do share a deep history and love  for eachother like family and know our relationship is flawed and has a lot of obstacles to overcome....im just curious to hear others stories...i dont really want to be told im being dumb etc because i can hear that all day from my friends so that is why i am on reddit.", "summary": "Im just wondering has anyone else have a similar experienc and if so have you had success in overcoming these issues in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1hjfmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] just told wife [25F] that I wanted a divorce and that I don't love her.", "post": "I know that it had to be done.\n\nThe only scary part is that she is already planning on taking the kids [5] and [9months] back to FL (I am stationed here in VA for 3 years). \n\nI can't stay with someone who said she despises me, and wanted me to die. It isn't fair to me (I can shamelessly say that I've been a good husband) and it probably isn't fair to her if she truly feels that way.  I can't put the kids through that either, and what if it gets worse?\n\nI told her that I didn't love her, and I did say it spitefully. But I feel that she has driven me to a point of disgust. I'm literally disgusted by what she's said and how's she's acted recently. She isn't the same person I married when she's like that.\n\nHer family tells me she should be back on her medicine (depression medicine I think?) because it makes her happy and she doesn't act so immaturely.\n\nI don't want to lose my kids. I will probably leave the Navy as soon as possible of it comes to this.\n\nOne bad thing is that her mom helps her with court and lawyers, and she'll be ahead of the game as soon as possible. I don't even know where I need to start with this.\n\nAny suggestions? Please?", "summary": "I told wife I wanted a divorce, she is threatening to take the kids."}
{"id": "t3_lv9s7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shady cab driver brought back my computer after I left it in the cab and he gleaned my information from it...should I be worried?", "post": "Reddit, I thought you'd be a great community to ask. \n\nSo I drunkenly leave my macbook in a cab last night. I get a call from an unknown number and it's the cabbie, saying he will bring back my computer, and for this he expects $100. After incredulously asking him to clarify himself several times, he repeated that he required a \"large gift.\"\n\nI said ok, to get him to bring me my computer. When he arrived, I met him with a couple friends. He handed it over and we argued for a few minutes. Understand that we are poor young people, and can't just go giving him $100. I think I have approximately $8 in my bank account at the moment. (The used macbook was a very generous gift.)\n\nHe finally accepted $10 and drove away, after I said to him, \"Good people don't demand rewards for their good deeds.\" I think that struck the right chord.\n\nWhen I looked at the computer, a basic resume was pulled up, not mine, just a random one that had my information at the top. He had said he got my information from the computer so he could get my number and call me.\n\nI have no idea what the resume was about, how that all worked. But it had my name, address, phone and email at the top.\n\nBasically, I'm wondering if I should be worried about identity theft or anything like that. What do you think?", "summary": "Should I be worried that a shady cab driver has some important info on me?"}
{"id": "t3_32ryk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] trying - and failing - to enter the dating pool", "post": "So, here goes. 32 years old, and never had a girlfriend. In fact, I've never been on a date that could lead to me having a girlfriend.\n\nWhen I was younger, I saw no need to date, instead focusing my attention on my studies. I first started to try and date at the age of 25, but rejection has been a common theme, as I've not only not yet found Ms. Right, I can't even seem to find Ms. Right Now.\n\nPart of this, I suspect, is how I was raised. I was raised to be a Catholic gentleman; to stay devoted to my faith, to respect others, to put others before oneself, and to not ever deal in vices such as alcohol, tobacco, drugs, pornography, or intercourse.\n\nI've done the online dating thing, or at least I've tried to do the online dating thing. I've always been taught to be fully honest with people, so I acknowledge my history and some of my beliefs. Unfortunately, this had led to ridicule, as I've gotten numerous questions of why am I even looking for a girlfriend, and comments of how one actually needs experience dating to find a date at my apparently advanced age.\n\nI look to my friends, most of whom are happily married or about to be so, and at the very least all with more experience than I've got. But when I ask them for help, I am rebuffed, being told that it's better off that I remain single because they need single friends (which currently I fit).\n\nI'm tired of being single and I'm starting to feel like part of me is missing, but I can't exactly put my finger on it. Any advice for this Catholic gentleman?", "summary": "32, never having dated, looking but rejected, suspecting my lack of experience is to blame."}
{"id": "t3_2nzxs3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking off my shirt at hot yoga", "post": "First, I'm a dude; sorry to disappoint, Reddit.\n\nPretty new to yoga, and hot yoga at that. Go to today's yoga class and it's hotter than normal. Like super hot. Maybe so hot someone should've said something, because it's pretty much a sauna. Separately, I'm the only dude in class, though it's often the case. Always a little insecure despite being pretty athletic and mostly able to hold my own. All is well, though, despite sweating more profusely than normal. People are taking breaks more than normal, but I'm powering through, damnit!\n\nAbout halfway through class, my shirt is drenched. It's always drenched, but it's doing much more harm than good. I'm a bit self conscious (being pale as fuck), but I can't stand it anymore and I have to take my shirt off. No big deal, it's hot yoga and that's acceptable here. We finish our standing poses and hit the mats for a lot of work on our backs. This is where my horror begins...\n\nI'm on a mat with no towel, which has been fine for now. Never had any problems with grip, so what's the big deal? I roll back on the mat, adjust myself a little bit and it happens: my back is so sweaty and moist that the worst imaginable sound of wet fart protrudes from between my shoulder blades and the mat. This high quality shart sounds we're talking about here, and there's no hiding it. I'm trying to figure out a way to make it stop but I can't and every move with my back flat on the floor sounds like I'm shitting my pants. I'm playing it off like no big deal, but people are giving sideways glances. Finally, the shirt goes back on, but not before I've definitely established serious issues with my GI tract. \n\nCan't look anyone in the eye on the way out. Many more classes to go in my package. Yay. No more shirt off for this guy.", "summary": "I'm now the guy who farts uncontrollably at yoga class. Fuck."}
{"id": "t3_iiom7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help thinking of bad things to make my buddy do after he loses a bet", "post": "*Recently my buddy and I have been challenging eachother to NHL 11 tournaments on playstation, with the loser having to do something shitty to make it more interesting. examples: I lost the first series and as a result had to send a public message to my exgf begging her to come back to me and i wasnt allowed to explain to anybody why untill after 24 hours. That was pretty brutal but i got him back 3 days ago and he's currently in the process of growing a beard for the next 2 weeks. \n*Anyways we're running out of ideas and i know if we i want to get some crazy ideas to make him do then look to no farther then the trollz on reddit. Thants where you wonderful people come in. \n*If he agrees to something and it makes a good video or picture ill post it on here later. Thanks a bunch.", "summary": "my friend is gonna lose at videogames and im gonna make him do the embarrasing shit you suggest as punishment"}
{"id": "t3_1zikum", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My shitty roommate just wiped his ass with my facecloth because there was no TP... because he won't buy any", "post": "So we haven't had toilet paper for a few weeks now. It's his turn to buy it, but he won't. \n\n\"But slimy_facecloths\", you may say, \"why don't you ask him to buy more?\"\n\nWell you see, Surprising Redditor Who Actually Is Reading My Rant, I am already nagging him to help me clean the house. He and I agreed to a cleaning schedule last month, which he has NOT stuck to. Since the month of September when I moved in, here is his track record of housekeeping:\n\n* swept the kitchen floor two days ago  \n* that's it.\n\nI do not enjoy nagging, I don't derive pleasure from it. As far as I am concerned, he and I both have a vested interest in having toilet paper in this house, he should just fucking buy the damn TP.\n\nOne other relevant thing: we both agreed to a cleaning schedule. He would do certain chores every other week, I would do them the other weeks. For the month of Feb, I was to do some chore, he was to do different chores. Then we are to switch roles in March, etc)\n\n**So today**\n\n5:00pm Me: \"Hey can you please clean the shower?\" (since it was supposed to have been done by him in Feb)  \nHim: \"Yah sure\"\n\n12:00om I enter the bathroom. Shower is not clean. Bathroom garbage has been taken out. Me: suspicious. He never takes the garbage out. The toilet lid is down, his sign for having just taken a shit. Remember: we don't have toilet paper.\n\nI see my face cloths on the counter.\n\nOh no you fucking didn't.\n\nCheck the outside garbage.\n\nOh yes you fucking did.", "summary": "If you are my roommate, clean the fucking shower. You have 20 hours."}
{"id": "t3_497hzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am confused what I should do with her [17 F]", "post": "A few weeks ago I met new people while planning our senior/exam trip abroad. I met Sita, she is literally my type, she is pretty, latin, cute, small, enthousiast, rich, loves to watch series and play Pok\u00e9mon. She's like the jackpot.\n\nRecently I went to a party with the people from our exam trip, I got told that I'm also her type. I look like her ex as in body as personality. She really likes me.\n\nHowever, she lives 15 km away, I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing. But here's the deal:\n\nI'm really confused. I'm only 17 years and I'm going with her on the exam trip in 4 months, all the people (5 total) will live and sleep in the same room. There are 2 chambers and 1 bank to sleep on. I will *meet* lots of girls there. It's like a paradise of girls with kissing and sex, I think. I don't want to cheat on her ofcourse, but I like and love Sita.\n\nI don't know how should handle this situation..", "summary": "Going with a girl I really like on an examtrip in 4 months with other people. If i ruin the relationship, the examtrip will also be ruined. I want her, we have nothing yet, but I kinda want to be free during the examtrip and have sex / kiss other girls during the trip. How should I handle this, cause Sita is like everything I'm searching for."}
{"id": "t3_3wjxlf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't stop thinking about co-worker (M25) after our holiday party (F25). Does this mean my relationship is doomed?", "post": "It was my work's holiday party on Thursday, and I got chatting to one of my co-workers I'd only really seen in passing. He is gorgeous, intelligent and witty, and it turns out we have everything (from degree/thesis choices to politics) in common, and the chemistry between us was undeniable. You could feel the tension. We are both in relationships, so nothing happened or even came close to, but you could tell that if we were both single we would probably have taken things further.\n\nI've been with my partner for around 8 months now. We live together and the story of our relationship is complicated and surrounded by grief, but it's romantic and it works. My partner is gorgeous, talented, caring and loving. I have never felt more valued or appreciated by someone (even to the point where it's a little smothering) and there isn't a bad bone in his body. I do absolutely adore him and I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend.\n\nThe guilt lies because since that night I can't stop thinking about my co-worker and comparing the two. My partner would be the first to admit that intellectually we are on different levels (with no disrespect to him - he has a self-admitted poor vocabulary and has spoken to me before about his slight insecurity that his conversation doesn't stimulate me enough) whereas my co-worker and I were able to talk all night about things my partner would not be able to focus on or comprehend, which was refreshing and a feeling I had forgotten.\n\nPrior to that night, I hadn't realised that the slight intellectual gap between us could be frustrating or causing any issue. But now I can't stop thinking about it and how much I wish I could discuss my passions with someone who understands or can pay attention for more than 5 minutes. I love my partner, he is perfect in literally every other aspect, and I know he is completely enamored by me and would do anything to make me happy.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? Is it just a grass is greener thing that I can pass over, or do you think that it's a sign that I will never be fully satisfied in my relationship?", "summary": "Spent an evening with co-worker and had an intellectual conversation with someone I was attracted to for the first time since I got with my current partner. Not sure if this means I don't feel for my partner as strongly as I thought."}
{"id": "t3_4fek7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) broke up with my (25F) girlfriend of 9 months last night and I'm completely heart broken. All I want to do now is get back together with her but I'm not sure if that is the right thing.", "post": "This is the first long term relationship I've had. I dated a girl shortly in highschool but then I joined the army. I was too busy training and deploying and living in a state I hated so I never made an effort to date back then. After the army, I went to college and dated a bunch of girls but never found one I was happy with.\n\nDuring my last year of college, however, I found a great girl that I hit it off with right away. She had a boyfriend at the time but eventually dumped him and moved closer to where I lived. We became bf and gf and she has pretty much slept over at my house every night since she moved. \n\nI'm the type of guy that needs a lot of space and alone time and it has been a reoccurring issue in our relationship, where I want more alone time but she is unhappy when we are apart. I decided to sacrifice my personal space to make it work because she is so great but it does make things hard sometimes.\n\nAnother thing that had been bothering me, the most important, is that I didn't know if I was in love with her. We would always say I love you to each other and it always felt right, but then part of me wonders if I'm actually in love and that I might be too inexperienced to know what love is. I often thought about breaking up because of this. \n\nBut now, after last nights break up, I'm absolutely crushed and heartbroken. There's nothing I want to do more than tell her I love her with all my heart and get her back. I really feel this right now but I don't know if this feeling will last if we get back together. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I have been unsure about my feelings for my first long term girlfriend of 9 months and now that we have broken up, I am completely heart broken and want her back. Not sure if getting back together is the right thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_wjtwl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you every told a lie so convincingly that even you started to believe it?", "post": "When I was in junior high, I had forgotten to write a paper for history class. When I went to speak to the teacher that morning, I told him that I had handed in the paper a week early, leaving it in his mailbox. I was so adamant about it, had so many fake details, and my record had been stellar prior that he apologized for misplacing it and gave me a passing grade based on his own guilt (this is before common computer usage). It wasn't until 20 years later that I remembered that it was a total lie and I never handed in the paper and bs'd my way through it. How about you?", "summary": "Pretty much exactly what the title line is."}
{"id": "t3_m317a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the coolest decision you made without thinking about it for more than a second? I'll start.", "post": "I'm a cashier and handle loads of customers.  On most days, the store I work in is very busy.  We have a tip jar next to the register that gets pretty full because our work requires us to get things for the customer from all different parts of the store.  While I was getting something for one woman, she decided to take all of our tips and stuff them into her bag.  We didn't realize until after we closed, so we checked the camera and saw what happened.  The next time she came in, months later, I recognized her instantly and without thinking, very friendly, told her that the last time she was in the store she had left something on the counter and I would grab it for her from the back room.  I watched on the camera as she put her hands in the tip jar again and called security. She stood waiting for ten minutes until security came down and took her for questioning.", "summary": "I convinced a thief to stay in our store 10 minutes while I phoned security."}
{"id": "t3_1vz4nc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Good friend [F, 24] who is in a relationship started to behave weirdly towards me [M, 24]. Why?", "post": "I have a good friend who is currently in a relationship with other guy. We were usually having a good time, laughing a lot, talking about stuff, but recently her behaviour towards me changed quite a bit. She responds to my questions with short answers, tries to ignore my jokes, conversations feel awkward and overall it looks like she is trying to keep distance from me. I can occasionally catch her off guard and things are back to normal, but only for a short period of time. \n\nTo me it feels like she likes me or falls for me(or whats that word), but she doesn't want to end her current relationship. Could it be the cause of her behaviour? Or what else? How do I change things back to normal?", "summary": "Good friend suddenly started to behave weirdly towards me. Why? Is it because she likes me?(My probably wrong guess )"}
{"id": "t3_wbgen", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just sacrificed my car and my body to save a woman working the drive through from getting a \"Fire in the hole\" What are some of your crazy drive through stories Reddit?", "post": "So I'm at McDonalds minding my own business in the drive through and I hear the kids infront of me say something about \"fire in the hole\". I see the kids get their order, 4 drinks.... They pull out of the parking lot and all was well, or so I thought. \n\nI'm just about to get to the window to get my food when I hear a car pulling around going fast enough to make tires screech, what do you know, its the kids who were in front of me. I pulled my car up to the drive through window as quickly as possible but forgot to roll up my passenger window effectively leaving my car the new fire in the hole target. Needless to say a drink flew into my car, exploded everywhere and three more hit the outside of my car. \n\nThey floored it and started taking off, what they didn't anticipate was me following them. Unfortunately I was only able to get the first two license plate numbers (6E-----) before they blew two red lights in a row and were speeding in excess of 70 MPH on surface streets. \n\nHowever I did return to the McDonalds where they informed me that the first thing tomorrow morning they're going to be doing is reviewing the drive through footage to get their license plate. I was given a refund for my meal because they felt bad for my car/me getting soaked in soda and also gave me the store owner's phone number to contact in the morning.", "summary": "Sacrifice your car/body to save the person working drive through and get a free meal!!"}
{"id": "t3_19fg13", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do Reddit? I passed out today while driving because of my phobia of needles.", "post": "Ok some more info. I have been afraid of needles for my entire life. I have passed out cold because of this multiple times. Recently it has become a more serious phobia, not only am I afraid of needles, but general medical things; hospitals, doctors, medical procedures, and so on. If someone is speaking in depth about personal medical issues, I can began to feel weird. \n\nThe first time I passed out was in doctors office visit where I saw large needle draining fluid from a patients knee and I was out cold. Woke up with my feet in the air and the doctor snapping his fingers in my face. From then it has been different reasons, everything from receiving a vaccine myself, to watching someone on TV receiving an IV. Anyways I have been able to start control the clammy, shaky, feeling for quite a while now, haven't passed out for a good year. I would be able to calm my body and mind down before I began to black out.\n\nToday while driving, someone was speaking on the radio about a procedure that sounded quite painful. I turned it off immediately after feeling slightly queasy. Thoughts of needles and medical things rush into my head and began to fuel the feelings. I feel more sick to my stomach and start thinking I need to turn around and go home (was about 5-6 blocks from home). Green light, seeing stars, blacked out. Hear a car horn honk and wake up. Car isn't in gear and I'm not accelerating. I immediately wonder if I have had an accident. I acquire enough information as I come to and look around, I'm fine. I pull over quickly into Mcdonalds, parked and sat for a second, called my wife and ate a sausage McMuffin.", "summary": "Passed out alone in the car while driving because I over thought things. I'm fine, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ta02v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] can't figure out how to know if I really connect with someone.", "post": "I've been in plenty of short lived relationships before but I just can't seem to differentiate if they are real feelings or feelings I'm forcing myself to have because I am lonely.\n\nI have a really big trust issue because of my mother being a cheater and dragging me into her other relationships when I was young. Also, being in the military I see how quick people are to cheat on and lie to their SO.\n\nI am a really emotional yet reserved person, if that makes any sense? I also have anger issues, which I have been working on but it isn't an easy journey. I try to keep a distance from people because of these reasons and I know I can't be in a happy relationship unless I am happy with myself.\n\nEven though I feel that way, I still feel null and void of so many feelings. It makes it hard for me to truly connect with someone, because I feel like I do it out of loneliness or boredom. I've been through a lot in life already so I think way too much for my own good and I'm a lot to handle.\n\nI'm not trying to rush for a true love or anything like that. I just don't know if I'm even capable of realizing when I really have feelings for someone. \n\nPlus it doesn't help that I'm a lesbian and it hasn't been the easiest road for me.", "summary": "Can't figure out if my feelings are true or just out of boredom. Any advice? Is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_1td4po", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[31/f] Feeling stuck in a rut [31/m] husband doesn't really see it and thinks everything is A-ok.", "post": "Backstory: Husband and I have been together since 1999, married since 2007.  I have spent half of my life with this man.  We have one child, just bought a house, etc.  Here's my problem: He drives me crazy, he would rather be a lump on the couch than go out.  He doesn't think before he speaks, example, I had my hair cut really short in a pixie cut and he says that I looked like a fat feminine man.  He buys an elliptical machine, rubs my stomach and says good-bye to it.  Yes, I am overweight, but I have been working hard on losing weight and I don't need it pointed out to me.  He's no longer sweet and loving to me, more like a friend with benefits.  I'm working on me, going back to school, joining local groups, making friends and the like, and he's just sitting there playing video games.  I want more out of life, but all we do is work, come home, raise the child, and do all again in the morning.  Not really any passion left, just the routine actions; while enjoyable they leave something to be desired.  I've been contemplating counseling, with or with out him, and contemplating being on my own for a while.  How do I get him to see that we can't keep going the way we are and expect to like each other in a year?", "summary": "Husband is a couch potato and I want to run away."}
{"id": "t3_1fzabq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (F/19) being too paranoid?", "post": "I (F19) am in a relationship with him (M20), have been for about two years now. He's gone back home (several thousand miles away) for the summer to visit his friends and family; last night was a birthday party for this girl (F/19?20?) that he has admitted to me he finds very attractive. This morning, there are pictures of him with \"Why won't you love me\" scrawled across his forehead, which followed posts by her of this kind:\n\nPost 1: \"It really sucks when you can't tell him that you love him.\"\n\nPost 2: \"Nuzzle my boobs! I can't believe I actually said that on multiple occasions last night.\"\n\nAdditionally, he is easily the most attractive male in their friend group. This isn't me being biased, it's just true.\n\nShe's invited him to several events this summer (she's newly single) and in most of the pictures, they're sitting together. Never inappropriately, but enough to make my blood f$%^ing boil.\n\nThoughts? We've been fighting for the past couple of days and he has always been the type to think with his dick before his brain, so I'm not optimistic.", "summary": "Famously flirtatious boyfriend seen in pictures with the same girl for multiple days - at her birthday party last night, suggestive Facebook posts were made and he was seen with writing scrawled across his face that matched up to one of the posts. We've been fighting for a while. Am I being too paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_4spqm7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Please help - My employer is selling and the new employment contract is crazy", "post": "My employer announced today that they sold the company. They passed out the new employment contracts and there are some awful no-compete and IP sections (everything you do outside the office belongs to the company regardless).\n\nThe compensation is the same as it was before, but the employment contract brings forth some very nasty differences from the environment/agreement I have been working under for the past 6 years.\n\nI tried to negotiate a very small modification to the contract and got shot down.\n\nI tried to negotiage slightly higher (industry standard) wages to compensate for the negative changes and got shot down.\n\nThey are giving us 48 hours to make a decision. Keeping my same rate of pay and agreeing to this crazy contract is not in my best interest.\n\nQuestion: Would I be eligible to receive unemployment while I look for another job?", "summary": "Company got bought out, new contract is insane, I will be unemployed if I don't agree to new contract within 48 hours - would I be eligible for unemployment?"}
{"id": "t3_44ln7b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By wasting $80 on a game I already had", "post": "About a year ago I brought Grand Theft Auto 5 and played it to my hearts desire till fallout 4 came out and after buying it i was so keen to play it I brought my ps4 to my mums from my dads (I'm 16) and took out GTA 5, put it in the fallout 4 case not to play it for about a month.\n\nAbout month goes by a new update comes out I search for hours and could not find that Fallout 4 case anywhere, but I wasn't to bummed and just played Black ops 3 while it was still fresh.\n\nI'm on youtube a see you can buy a fucking yacht now so I search everywhere for that cover, I was so despite I even seached outside, no luck.\n\nNow recently a update came out that allows you to take a couple of sports cars into a exclusive mod shop and since one of them was my favorite car I couldn't bare it no more I had another extensive search and no luck so I decide to buy it again.\n\nFRIDAY: I'm at JB Hi-Fi asking some random in the shop to buy it for me cause I'm only 16 (R18+ game) and accidentally give him 3 $20 notes instead of 4 and he spent 9 dollars out of his own pocket (shout out to this absolute fucking living legend) (I paid him a extra 20 don't worry) \n\nWell anyway I go home and have I a night full of memories driving in my pimped out banshee, then a friend came over and we play the new Black ops 3 dlc for the rest of the week end. \n\nSUNDAY: I come home from a dramatic day of working at maccas and put my phone in the draw of my room, about a hour later I am looking in my draw and feel something under the wallpaper-like bottom of my draw I see blue poking out I pick it up and just say \"fuckkkkkkkk\" and wake up my understanding mum who puts a cherry onto saying I can't return it because I played it.", "summary": "lost a game brought it again then found the original"}
{"id": "t3_3ctuak", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering honestly to my little brother", "post": "My little brother is 8 years old. I have always taught him to ask me any questions and that I'd promise to always answer to the best of my ability with no consequent.\n\nSo there we were, shopping in the mall when he randomly asked me \"What does prostituted mean?\". I was taken aback since I know what type of books and videos he watches, so I wouldn't expect him to hear this word. But nonetheless, I begin to explain to him what 'prostituted' and 'prostitution' mean.\n\nI start to explain to him that people really love sex and what 'sex' actually is. I continue to expound that some people love sex a lot but don't have girlfriends/boyfriends/SO/etc to have sex with. Therefore, there are people who offer themselves in return for money or other favors for sex in return. And therefore, they're prostituting themselves.\n\nHe has a dumbfounded look on his face after... He then asked me Why would people be \"prostituted\" to the fullest extent of the law for stealing then. I then notice the sign across from us stating 'you will be prosecuted to the full extent of the law for theft'.\n\nI lose my cool here. I yell at my brother \"YOU LITTLE SHIET, ITS PROSECUTED, NOT PROSTITUTED. LEARN TO READ DIPSHEIT!\"", "summary": "TIFU by having the sex talk with my little brother because he asked me what 'prostituted' mean when he actually meant 'prosecuted'."}
{"id": "t3_2d7j3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girl (21F) and I (21M) broke up. She cheated on me.", "post": "First official post. Never posted before. Thought id try it and see if anybody responds. \n\nAnyways today my girlfriend of 1 year and I broke up. Neither of us really drink but she just turned 21 and decided to go out and get a drink with some of her friends from work. Doesnt really text me at all that night so finally i texted her and told her not to drink too much seeing how she needed to drive home. She texted back and said shes had too many to drive and would be staying the night at a work friends (F) house.\n\nComes home the next morning and stayed in bed all day and was pretty quiet. I knew something was wrong so i tried to get her to talk to me. After trying to get something out of her even saying \"no matter what it is we can talk thru it\" i asked her. Did you cheat on me? She couldnt look at me and started crying. After i asked her again i stood right up and walked out of the room but she grabbed me sobbing saying how that wasnt her and she just ruined her whole life and doesnt want to lose me. \n\nI was very much in love with this girl and i thought she was 110% the one. Long story short i loved her too much to even walk away from her. So i stayed and went camping for the weekend pretending nothing was wrong and we are going to work through this and everything is going to be so much better than it was. \n\nWe got home and i told her she didnt make any kind of special effort to fight for me not to leave and doesnt want to do it anymore. I told her i didnt care that she cheated on me and i just wanted her to stay. \nDidnt matter. We broke up. I kept the apartment. She kept the cat. Life sucks today.", "summary": "Girl of 1 year cheated on me and i couldnt make myself walk away and we still brokeup."}
{"id": "t3_1ivr82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "am i wrong for wantin to feel validated in my relationship?", "post": "I [f/23] am in a relationship and have been in it on and off for awhile [since early teens].\n\nI was explaining to my partner [m/24] the other day that I wanted to feel \"worshipped\" by the person I'm with. This in not in an I am amazing or selfish kind of way but in a way that I feel like he wants me and I mean a lot to him and that I feel validated WITHIN the relationship itself. I say this cause I believe he doesn't act in a way that shows that the relationship is important to him. \n\nWhen I said this he told me that I seem like all I want is for him to validate me all the time as a person to make me feel complete. \n\nAt this I try not to get angry because I feel like I know who I am and am happy with who I am and would be validated as an individual person without the relationship. i just would like him to do more things that make me feel like I am appreciated within the relationship and that the relationship is a priority. \n\nOscar Wilde said \"we should never love anyone who treats us like we are ordinary\"\n\nBy asking my partner to \"worship\" me and do things that show me i am important, am I being unfair?", "summary": "I would like my partner to do more things that's show me that our relationship is important to him, without him thinking it is just cause I need to be validated as a person by this relationship. Am I wrong for wanting this?"}
{"id": "t3_2v8fdn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU while trying to lift an armrest", "post": "Well, actually this happened a couple months ago, but whatever. I had a major crush on this girl from my class since I was a high school fresman (we were seniors), but I never got the nerve to ask her out, until the last two months of the school year. I said \"well, screw it\" and asked her to go out with me and have some ice cream. She said yes (to my surprise, I was waiting to be rejected since she is way out of my league.)\n   \nSo we went out and it was great. I wasn't planning on making a move, since we barely knew each other, so it was just about spending quality time together.\n\n   Anyway, I asked her out again a week after, this time to go to the movies, and this is where the REAL story begins: It was all fun and games until she got scared by a scene and grabbed my hand. Then, being the good guy that I am, I put my arm around her. I said to myself \"This is it!\" and tried to lift the armrest up, to make things easier for us. But that damn thing was stuck! I tried harder, but it was worthless. The whole time the girl was staring at me, and I could see the pity in her eyes. After a moment she said \"Forget it, I'm alright.\" and leaned to the other side, getting away from me. After that, nothing happened between us, and I spent the whole night silently cursing the poor motherf***er who broke the damn thing.", "summary": "Because of a malfunctioning armrest at the movies, I didn't get to kiss my high school crush."}
{"id": "t3_3apvxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my coworker [early 50s M] for 5 years. We worked at the same level 5 years ago. I went to another company, moved up, and now returned to the previous company as his boss. He's not taking it too well.", "post": "So now I'm his boss, but he goes over my head to my boss and others above me about with issues instead of going through me, he tries to take charge of situations and push me out, he doesn't inform me on issues that are occurring, and he seems annoyed when I ask him to do something. Other co-workers have noticed it and joke with us about it...they'll say something like \"give that to your boss\" and he'll say \"pft\". It's getting annoying. What makes it tougher is that we were really cool back when we were at the same level. So that friendship carries over to now and we talk about common interests frequently. But when it comes to work it's different. I sympathize though. I understand it may hit his ego pretty hard to have to work for someone half his age that was previously his equal. But it's affecting my work and reputation. I already asked him nicely to stop going over my head. He wasn't too happy about it and that only lasted a week. I'm getting to where I want to stop being friendly about it and tell him that I'm his boss and he needs to do what I tell him to, but I'm afraid that will piss him off and he'll try to make my life miserable. Perhaps I should mention it to my boss. What do you think?", "summary": "Previous coworker now works for me. He's not happy about it and goes over my head and tries to run my team. It's getting annoying and makes me look bad. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fub0d", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I want to find out something about my girlfriend without her realizing it, any help?", "post": "Before anything, not a sad story or anything, I don't think she's cheating or anything of the sorts. My country's equivalent to Valentine's Day is coming and I had this pretty simple idea to surprise my girlfriend and it would involve giving her some roses. The thing is, although I know she would appreciate my intention in and of itself, I don't know if she would like the actual flowers and such, so I wanted to find out if she likes roses and if she would like getting some, but without her realizing it so as not to spoil the surprise. Any ideas on how to get that information out of her?", "summary": "I wanna find out if my girlfriend likes roses without her realizing my underlining intentions of surprising her with some. Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3257ta", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do you fit social drinking into a healthy lifestyle?", "post": "Hi Loseit!\n\nThis subreddit has helped me make some drastic changes to my lifestyle, but there's one thing that I have a constant struggle with that I need a little advice on. I tend to eat around 1200-1300 calories per day and exercise daily (cario + weight training). My goal is less numbers-based and more about feeling healthy and getting in shape, as I am already at a healthy weight for my height. In contrast, my SO (in the \"obese\" range at 6'1\" and 235lbs, used to be 180lbs freshman year, but gained all the weight after he joined a fraternity due to the drinking culture) constantly says that he wants to lose weight, but so far he has only been making minimal effort by means of eating a little better and going to the gym a couple times a week with me. \n\nWe're both in college and in Greek life, so something that's central to our social lives is drinking. During this past semester, I've been mostly sober, but it's getting harder and harder to tell my friends why I'm not drinking because they don't take me seriously. On top of this, my SO feels like we should drink with our friends since it's our last semester and begs me to drink with him, but he rarely stays within a reasonable number of drinks, often averaging 7-8 beers or mixed drinks in a night. \n\nDoes anyone have experience dealing with situations like this? What can I do to get my SO to stop binge drinking and ruining the minimal progress he makes each week? And how do I help him to see that making changes to our lifestyle is the best way to lose weight? Any tips or advice would be great because I've been stressed out about this for weeks!", "summary": "SO feels like we should drink heavily every weekend because we're graduating soon and we're in Greek life, but it stresses me out because it's undoing all the healthy changes we're trying to make. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_335l8q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bursting out laughing in the middle of a funeral", "post": "Earlier today I went back to my hometown for the first time in 6 years for the funeral of an old classmate/neighbor who was killed by a drunk driver at the age of 24. At the church sitting with her family there was a woman on a scooter. I didn't recognize her until I got a second look. It was the deceased girl's cousin. She was thin, pretty and popular and took pleasure in hurting others. She stole people's jeans when they were in gym class and wrote fatty across the butt with a marker. She would ask out nerds and have the football team humiliate them when they showed up. My last name rhymes with \"Lardy\" and I was overweight back then so you can guess what nickname she gave me. She was the most toxic, horrible person I've ever known (her deceased cousin was the complete opposite and nothing like her) \n\nIn high school she was maybe 100 pounds and now she was easily over 300 and was so large she couldn't fit between the rows of benches if she wanted to. She was also wearing a mumu dress instead of regular clothes. Now I used to be overweight myself and I would never judge someone based on their weight but I couldn't believe the sweet karma that I was witnessing. The funeral started and I wanted to laugh so badly but I knew it wasn't the time or the place. I could feel the laughter building inside of me to the point where I just wanted the funeral to end so I could get out of there. I wanted to excuse myself but my sister was crying and clinging to my arm. I had to sneeze and with the sneeze came laughter. I tried to stop it but I couldn't and I burst out laughing. The church is an old building with a high roof so my laughter echoed. Everyone looked at me and I had to high tail it out of there. I was still laughing as I ran out of there. I went and sat in the car and it took me 10 minutes to get myself under control. My mom and sister are so furious they won't talk to me and I'm getting hate messages on Facebook from other old classmates, even ones I never added as a friend.", "summary": "Went back home for a classmates funeral. Saw the bully who made my life hell there. She's easily over 300 pounds and was using a scooter. Couldn't contain myself and burst out laughing during the funeral, embarrassing my mom and sister who won't talk to me now and causing everyone to send me hate messages on Facebook."}
{"id": "t3_2atsxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my [30M] 4 months - SO posting pictures of another woman?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm posting this here in hopes that I'm not overreacting over something completely stupid.  I (28F) have been dating my boyfriend (30M) for about four months.  He has been posting pictures of his gorgeous coworker on his instagram, she's posting back hearts, and it's starting to make me feel sick.  It would be one thing if he had told me that he's in love with me and I suppose I wouldn't feel so insecure - I'm pretty laid back, but she's really hot, and it's just striking me as being not cool under the circumstances.\n\nI was thinking that I would nicely say, \"I can't help but notice that you're posting a lot of pictures of that girl.  I don't mean to let it bother me, but it makes me feel like she's important to you in some way which makes me feel pretty awful on many levels\".  I don't even know.  Part of me just wants to peace out.  I'm too old for this and I already feel like I've had my heart trampled.  \n\nHas anyone ever had to deal with something like this?  Did it ultimately mean impending doom for the relationship?  Do you think that my approach is appropriate, or am I overreacting?", "summary": "Boyfriend of four months posting tons of pictures of his very attractive female coworker on instagram and it's making me very uncomfortable.  How to handle an uncomfortable, depressing situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2ft2mq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) need to distance myself", "post": "So I'm officially stuck with everything about this. I come from a very big and very obnoxious Greek family (who knew). This has been a problem for years but I desperately need to take action NOW. I'm adopted and have met my biological parents, despite my adoptive parents not being fans of that. From both my biological and adoptive parents, I've had now nothing but problems (this was before I met my real parents as well). Both lie to me, use my money, steal from me, diss me, have hit me many times, etc. \n\nI have considered before distancing myself from all of them all together. Now before I hear any \"theyre still family \"give them a chance\" I have, on a number of occasions, most of which have left me in a shithole. I have a wonderful boyfriend (27F) who has been nothing short of the best support system, and my best friend. My family has found a way to critize everything, including my relationship. They have hurt me in ways no one else could ever do. Physically and mentally.  It truly hurts me to feel like i have to distance myself from my own family. I've gotten advice to do whats best for me from my therapist, my boyfriend, and my closest friends. They all say to just to what will make my future better. And the sad realization that going on without the people who hurt me is quite depressing (as stupid as that sounds)\n\nSo with all that being said, I'd like everyones opinions. I have dreams and a future planned, im going back to school next September to get my BS in Nursing, and of course the family is against that. Do you guys think this is the right thing to do? Am i overreacting?", "summary": "family has gone over the top, do i completely cut them out?"}
{"id": "t3_2xt77m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "At what point do I just assume that she [24 F] is just not going to respond to my [24 M] text asking her out on a third date?", "post": "Quick background: We met via a dating app and after a few days of chatting decided to meet up for brunch (her idea) two weekends ago for a first date. I was bit hesitant about brunch for a first meetup due to the time commitment in case it became awkward/uninteresting etc. but it turned out to be one of the best first dates I've been on. Conversation flowed really naturally and we had a lot in common and overall we both had a lot of fun. \n\nWe agreed that we should do it again and after a couple of rescheduling conflicts (we both have pretty busy jobs) met up for a bite drinks after work last Thursday. Again, conversation was great and we had a fun time and even talked about what we should do next time we went out together. \n\nI texted her Sunday asking if she wanted to check out this cool bar we both heard of (one of the places we talked about going to on date 2) and haven't heard from her since. I consider myself pretty good at getting social cues and taking hints, but am wondering if somewhere along the lines I just screwed this up. I've been on plenty of dates before, so unless i completely misread her vibe, i know when they go well and when they don't and every indication so far was that it was former. We're both really busy at work so that could definitely be a big factor as to the non-response, but at the same time she's been pretty responsive to texts before. The last time i heard from her was Friday, when we exchanged a couple of random texts during the workday. I sent the last text that day so it's been two messages with no response.\n\nAt what point do i just move on and assume she did a 180? Is it worth texting her again? I just dont want to fall into the trap of being that guy that is constantly texting her as the next one will be the third text i send to her in a row.", "summary": "Been on two dates with this girl where we both had fun and during date two agreed there would be a third date. Asked her out via text two days ago and havent heard back."}
{"id": "t3_16e9yz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Workplace Issue: Wound Up By Way Business Partner  Speaks To Me (31)", "post": "Quick back story: I work doing web design, SEO and all that kind of internet marketing type of work with a business partner who I have been training up to do the same work as me since we started together about 18 months ago (she was in another field before).\n\nIt does tend to work well most of the time, but I find the way she speaks to me when going through projects to put it bluntly insulting. I do all the coding because she doesn't code and when we design together I do the actual manipulating in Photoshop as again it comes down to I know more so it's quicker that I do it (her words not mine..). \n\nWhen we run through projects, conversations tend to be her going *\"That section there is wrong... This part is completely out of proportion... You can see that's not correct can't you... Why did you do it like that I don't remember it being like that when we designed it\"*\n\nThere also seems to be a tendency to not just say a certain thing is wrong, but she feels the need to say it in three different ways and with each one I get more annoyed until far from being able to deal with it rationally I end up snapping and saying something like \"Yes, thanks. You know the first it was wrong was more than enough\".\n\nThe end result is I get called passive aggressive and our working environment ends up feeling all levels of unpleasant till both of us calm down enough or I apologise.\n\nMy question is am I being too sensitive to my business partner's way of communicating with me? I keep trying to talk to her about how she speaks to me overwhelms me and stresses me, but her response tends to be basically this is real life and deal with it. Maybe she is right! \n\nReally could do with some advice from you all. How can I talk to her without it just creating more tension and do I have any reason to or should I just accept that's how she works in business and just lump it?", "summary": "Business partner always speaks to me with a blunt, ordering kind of tone when working that I feel undermines what I do"}
{"id": "t3_gza53", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I tell her the truth?", "post": "I have been lying to someone I care about for awhile. About 3 months. We are both in school but I have dropped out and not told her. She thinks I am still going to classes and am going to graduate next year. That is not true at all. And I feel like shit about the way I have been treating her. I have this amazing beautiful girl who I deeply care about but I can't bring myself to tell her the truth because I know she is going to dump me. We go to different schools and I drive to see her on the weekends so it has been far to easy to get away with. Anyways, I can't bear this guilt any longer. I am going to tell her but the only question is do I tell her now or wait until after her finals are over next week?", "summary": "Been lying to gf about school, Do I tell her now or wait until her finals are finished?"}
{"id": "t3_1cjcu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a nice Kit car, when combined with the donor car, can be had for under 15,000?", "post": "Im in college, and I graduate in 3 years. I have a very well paying summer job (~12k in about 4 months) and very few bills, as most of my schooling is through aid and loans to pay later in life. I recently decided to give back to my Dad for being an amazing father through the years by gifting him with a kit car at my graduation dinner. This way he and I can work on it over the following months for a real bonding experience and the ability to do something he has wanted to do all his life but never had the opportunity since he was raising two kids. \n\nI know I could spend the money to pay off my college bills and that would be the best thing for me, but I've realized that I will have bills until the day I die, but I wont have him. I would rather have the bills for a little longer than not have this opportunity to share an experience that would mean the world to him.", "summary": "Need a budget kit car so a son can give his dad the experience he has always wanted."}
{"id": "t3_qec33", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "HELP. What should I do with this cat???", "post": "Last night, during rain, a friendly young cat followed me home and ran straight into my apartment. He seemed lost and was quite wet from the rain, so I took him in for the night, assuming he was one of the cats I kept seeing \"lost\" posters for, and started looking for the owners. I sent out flyers and posted/looked online and have since learned that he's an indoor/outdoor cat who lives near me.  A neighbor said she's seen him around and almost certainly lives on a a certain block and heard him meowing last night and then heard the neighbor open the door.\n\nI know the street, but not the actual house, and unfortunately, I haven't been able to get in contact with the owner, and am going out of town tomorrow and can't take him with me. Nor can he stay in my apartment, which is not pet friendly.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I just drop the cat off on his block and hope he finds the right house, since he presumably is indoor/outdoor and his owners will just let him out again anyway? That makes me a little uneasy, but maybe it shouldn't? I'm not a cat person, so I don't know these things or how well cats can navigate. I'm trying to get someone to take him until the owners call, but no luck. I don't want to bring him to the shelter (only the kill shelters have room and have a high euth rate) if he has a home.\n\nNow I feel like an idiot who kidnapped somebody's friendly cat and don't know how to resolve this. I'm a dog person, not a cat person, but I figured if somebody's dog ran into my foyer I wouldn't send it out in the rain... stupid good samaritan ideals. I put posters in the mailboxes of the houses on his block, but no luck. If nobody agrees to take him in for a couple of days, I don't know what to do. Help me reddit!!! Shelter or home street?", "summary": "I'm a moron who took in someone's outdoor cat and can't get in touch with the owners. Leaving town and need a place to put him, don't know whether to leave him where he lives or go to a shelter."}
{"id": "t3_42ejfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me M27 with my gf F28 of 5 years. My gf used a sex toy on a friend F27.", "post": "Hi \n\nSo my gf is out for a girl's night out and since it's a slow night for me, I decided to clean and tidy up. I'm in our bedroom and I open our sex drawer to see if lube got spilled or anything and I notice that the brand new sex toy, we just bought last night, has been used. It's a strap on harness (Yes, we have kinky sex, sue us). \n\nI know it has been used because it's greasy and stained from lube. I know that my gf's best friend (F27) was over earlier and they were home alone. I have a feeling that my gf used it on her friend or vice versa. I don't know this for sure but the nature of the toy doesn't really encourage 1 person use. \n\nI'm not sure what to do now. I'm head over heels with this girl but I can't forgive her if she went ahead and had sex with her friend. We are very serious and we are talking about marriage.  I don't know how to end it. I'm very hurt that she would do something like this. But I don't know if I want to end it and I don't know if I can live with what she did. I've never had to break up a relationship. I'm very upset. I haven't confronted her yet because she's still out and she is drinking. I don't want to do it over the phone. What should I do? Maybe I should just ignore it for now and ask her tomorrow when she sobers up.", "summary": "GF probably used our new sex toy on her friend. I don't know how to approach her about it."}
{"id": "t3_xxce5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(27f) Should I spare my boyfriend (30m) the trouble of dealing with me?", "post": "I have never been diagnosed with anything, but I am an extremely anxious person.  On the plus side, it has made me very high-achieving; on the negative side, I am generally pretty unhappy and minor setbacks are extremely hard for me to deal with.  I have recently started seeing a therapist, but I think she can probably only do so much.\n\nToday is a good example.  I made a minor mistake at work, and have spent the entire day fighting back tears and tearing myself up.  I am completely miserable and nothing is going to make me feel better.\n\nI love him, and I love our relationship.  But he is nothing like this, and I feel like he should not have to deal with my horrible moodiness forever.  I am terrified that when we have kids it will only get worse (have had bad reactions to hormonal birth control in the past).\n\nShould I just spare him the trouble?  I feel like he deserves so much better.", "summary": "I drive myself crazy with my anxiety, wondering if it's unfair to inflict it on my boyfriend for the rest of his life."}
{"id": "t3_2cr10t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "\"How much do you make a year vs a month\"? (CL)", "post": "Hello, \n\nI'm from Chile and I have seen in many threads, blogs, movies, etc. people (mostly from the US) referring to how much they make in terms of **years**. In Chile (and probably the rest of South America) we say how much we make **a month**. At least for me it's easier to know how well you do because the bills usually are charged at the end of the month, and I can quickly - and roughly- estimate how much you have left.\n\nIs it just a cultural thing? or does it has to do with taxes, bills at the end of the year, etc? How is it in your country? Is there any advantage in thinking salary/year than salary/month or even salary/day?\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "why some people say I make $$$ a **year** rather than $$$ a **month**?"}
{"id": "t3_558ma4", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "moving out and my car is dying.", "post": "Hello PF! \n\nBeen a reddit lurker for a few weeks and i figured now i will make an account to ask for some guidance as i feel a little lost in my current situation.\n\nI am a 21 year old male living on long island working an 8-5 office job and going to college twice a week (last class till i can graduate with my associates). I currently own a old beater car with alot of problems and im constantly scared its going to die on me. On top of that I have to be out of my house by january. I make $14 an hour, roughly 400 a week now with school, have only $2000 saved for an emergency and a credit card with a $2000 limit i only want to use for emergencies. I honsetly have no idea what to do. Im saving every penny possible until ja uary so i can try and get a decent living situation as well as a new car but it just doesnt seem possibe.", "summary": "i have $2000 in saving, need a new car and a new place to live. What course of action would yoi recommend?"}
{"id": "t3_29f78w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "600$ in quarters", "post": "I have found that I can save quartars but I have a little trouble saving much else. Well 600$ in quarters is probably a bit much and id like to invest it. I also have about 2000 dollars that I need to get away from myself. And then if I invest all this I would also like to invest about 50-75 a week on top of that. So I guess I need something easy to add to, and completely separate from my retirement.\n\nAnother thing while I'm on personal finance is that I have a collection in 2010 that wasn't reported untiln 2013 . It's for a gym membership that I cancelled multiple times and dutifully I've tried to get it taken off my reports every year. So for now to try to establish some good credit I've got a secured card through a credit union, and a secured loan as well both for 500$. I also have 2store credit cards that I use every 3 months or so. Is there any no fee credit card companies that PF knows that I could apply for? My credit score is about 580. Anything that could bump up my credit would be awesome.", "summary": "would like to invest 2600$ somewhere I could add to easily, but that would be slightly more difficult to take out. Investing period being about 5years."}
{"id": "t3_3asohy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] thought I would be okay with being FWB with my ex [21 F] but I am conflicted", "post": "So I suggested to my ex, who I have recently gotten back in touch with, that maybe she could spend the night over at my house. She's a really great girl and I know she still has a lot of strong feelings for me. \n\nShe acts like she doesn't mind just being friends with benefits, but I know she does and would want a relationship with me if I was open to it. But honestly I don't feel like getting into a relationship because my life is really fucked up and weird right now. Also she is going through a some shit and I don't want to take advantage of her in anyway because I do care about her. Also she is very into sex being an emotional thing rather than just a fun thing.\n\nBut I am really conflicted. Would sleeping with her just make her want a relationship more? I don't want to hurt her, and yeah it would be nice...but do you think it would make her feel worse?", "summary": "ex gf says she's ok with being fwb but she still wants to be in a relationship and i don't want to hurt her"}
{"id": "t3_2se7on", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forcing my dishwasher door shut.", "post": "I was in my apartment washing dishes. I was in a hurry because I was going to meet friends at a sports bar later and I didn't want to be late. \n\nI was pre-washing dishes in the sink then putting them in the racks. My normal dish placement organization was set aside in favor of speed; there were glass cups on the bottom rack, plates in the top rack. No rhyme or reason to this organization, getting it done quickly was the overriding concern. \n\nAs I finished, I started to push the racks back in. The bottom rack slid in fine, but the top rack started to slide in only to stop with about an inch left to go. I slid the rack back out to look for the offending bowl or cup or whatever that was preventing normal sliding operation. I didn't see anything, and figured the racks' sliding arms were a bit old. \n\nSo, being in a hurry, I used my muscles and pushed the dishwasher door against the top rack. It paused as it met the resistance,  and then suddenly closed shit with a satisfying jostle of dishes. \n\nI started the wash and went out with my friends. Came back to a flooded kitchen. The offending \"dish\" preventing the top rack from fully closing was a long, sharp knife sticking just an inch or so back from the end of the top rack. It was stuck out and held in place because of my haphazard arranent of dishes. When I forced the door closed, the knife had no place to go other than through the interior plastic wall of dishwasher.", "summary": "Forced my dishwasher shut, causing a knife to cut through the dishwasher's wall which led to flooding."}
{"id": "t3_1ls2gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29/f with 25/m, 9 months. Need positive encouragement from redditors regarding our transition to long-distance!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We don't live together but we live in the same city and see each other often.\n\nHe's just got his dream job in the US and once the visa is sorted will be moving there. He says he will stay for 2 years or so and then come back to be with me. He also says he's dedicated to me and that he won't let the distance ruin our relationship.\n\nWhile I believe truly that he means these things, I've been roughed up around the edges before about loves lost and have a failed long-distance relationship in my past.  I am having a huge amount of trouble accepting that our relationship can last.  He says my negativity is getting him down about it, and that if anything will ruin it, it will be my wet blanket.\n\nRedditors, can it work? Please share some positive helpful stories about long-distance that's really turned out for the best. I hear so much that goes wrong, and have had bad experiences. I need to channel a better outlook about this!", "summary": "Boyfriend moving abroad for work in a couple of months. I'm terrified that things won't work out. I've only heard the bad stories. Should I have faith and trust it will be okay?"}
{"id": "t3_3td0pt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Deposited my student loan money, funds where available the next day, then they were put back on hold. Now I have a negative balance, no money, and rent due.", "post": "Hey guys,\nI received my student loan money, recently, and I made sure to deposit it in person, at the bank with a teller (I've had mishaps occur before with their atm's). The check was put on hold, which I was expecting, and it was made available the next day. \n\nAt this point I was thrilled, I've been working full time and going to school full time to pay my bills and I had very little money to spend on nonessential items. My bed was broken, guitar was falling apart, computer was held together with tape and dreams, etc.  \n\nI went out on the following day purchased decent groceries for the first time in weeks, purchased a new guitar, and started getting supplies to build a new bed, bench, and other items. No problems, I purchased everything with debit and still no problems.\n\nENTER PROBLEMS\n\nBefore I ordered the rest of my building supplies and my computer, and found out that my bank had placed the funds back on hold, leaving me with a negative balance, no money, and no notice from the bank about why.\n\nAll my transactions are listed online, debited from the amount that was originally available. And there is no charge that shows when the funds were taken back,\n\nI didn't know that this was possible, have never had this problem before, and have no idea what I'm supposed to or can do. My rent checks were sent and now I have no money for them. \n\nIf anyone has any ideas on what I should do please let me know, I'm sort of freaking out about it and it's just all very strange and confusing.", "summary": "Deposited Checks, Money made available, spent some, money put back on hold, negative balance left."}
{"id": "t3_429p0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] girlfriend [19 F] of 2 years said that sex is disgusting and dumb. I have a very different view and don't know how to cope with her perspective.", "post": "First of all, we have never had sex. I am her first boyfriend and she is my first (serious) girlfriend. Since the beginning of our relationship I wanted to take things slow so that I didn't screw things up, I wanted to have a perfect relationship and not rush things. \n\nWe've had a respectful and responsible relationship. She's never been the kind of person that shows affection physically, she dislikes french kisses and doesn't hug much. I thought that this was OK, maybe kisses and hugs aren't her thing, it doesn't mean she dislikes me, so I never brought it up too much. Honestly, I was hoping that this changed later on. \n\nWe never talked about sex or sensuality... until now. It was a little bit awkward to start talking about that since it was the first time, but after a bit we started talking. Maybe I waited this long to address the topic because I was afraid of what I would find out about, and it was exactly that. Not only did she say that she finds sex a repulsive act, she also said that she doesn't really pay much attention to physical attractiveness. Basically, what she is attracted to in a person is his personality, intelligence, and his face. \n\nI have a very different view on this, I do consider sex as an important part of a relationship and I do find her body to be very sexy. Obviously there are other things I like about her (which made me fall in love with her) like her personality, our connection on an emotional level, and other things. \n\nWe've been together for 2 years now and sex isn't a determining factor, but I find it hard to accept that I will never share a sexual connection with her. I honestly don't know how to tell her this without sounding like a complete jerk that is only interested in sex.", "summary": "My girlfriend have never had sex, not even talked about it. When I finally bring it up after two years, I find out that she thinks  it's repulsive while I find it desirable. I do t know how to manage this situation."}
{"id": "t3_h6n13", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Skills Verification Exam for Programming position?", "post": "So I have a skills verification exam for an entry level programming position coming up soon, and Im curious what it's like and what questions are asked. I did incredibly well on every programming class I took (Computer Science major) and have a really good handle and understanding of C++ with a good bit of C and C#. However, It's been a while since I've looked at some/many topics and given the time frame it's not practical for me to refresh myself on 2-3 years of programming. The things Im fuzzy on I know that I would be like \"Oh Yeah!\" the moment I got inside MSVS or went to actually start working on something but on a pen and paper exam I wont have the resources or time to make that happen. Just trying to get an idea of what I have in store for me.", "summary": "Exam on programming coming up for a job position, a little worried as Im fuzzy on things I havent touched in a while and wondering what's on them."}
{"id": "t3_2sn231", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [32M] and I no longer like his caress.", "post": "I'm sorry if this in the wrong sub. My boyfriend and I are in a dead bedroom. We used to have great sex like six times a week. It was passionate, hot and heavy. It was wonderful and amazing. I don't think I've ever \"made love\" until I was with him. We have a great relationship. He is so caring and sweet. He always wants to cuddle, cooks for me, surprises me with gifts, and just other nice things. When I'm with him I feel like the only person in the world to him (lame I know).   \n  \nSex now has been dwindling. And now it's four times a month, or three times a month. This month it has only been once and the month is almost over. I feel bad for counting but I this is something that I have been deprived of for almost a year. We have talked about it a few times on why his sex drive is down. He now has a stressful job with is very understaffed. I understand that but he masturbates so much. Now, I know it is much easier just to have wank than to have sex. I'm guilty of it, you the reader probably is to. I've tried many things to try and initiate sex, sexy outfits, new sexy underwear, some role play. I'm tired of masturbating and I'm now so irritable. Lots of little things just set me off and I know I need some sexual relief.  \n  \nNow I've come to the point where his touch no longer excites me. I actually don't want him to touch me. He usually grabs me. He'll grab my ass, my tits, and my whole body in a sensual way but it always goes nowhere. Now I don't want him to touch me. I don't like when he does, I almost always pull away.  \n   \nMy question is how do we get back to normal? Is this normal that I don't want him to touch me? Is the only solution to break up? I don't want to break up, we just signed a lease together.  Everything is so great, he's so much more than my lover, he's my best friend.", "summary": "I'm in a dead bedroom situation. Perfect relationship except for sex. His touch is no longer wanted by me, is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3th01y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my home town friend [23/M] I can't tell if I'm being friendzoned or..", "post": "I recently (within the past 6 months) started hanging out with a guy from my home town/high school. When we first started hanging out we would just spend countless hours showing funny internet things to each other and having long talks and just generally hanging, as friends do. I found myself attracted to him slightly and he would give me VERY small cues that maybe he was also attracted to me.\n\nFast forward x amount of months and I have asked him on a date. At first, he said he would LOVE to but things were hectic right now with him but he then relented and said he would really very much like to. So we agreed to go on a date. \n\nNow, since I've asked, I haven't really brought it up - he brought it up recently (to my surprise) because we hadn't yet planned it nor did I think he actually wanted to. He also has very recently subtly started complimenting me, something he rarely did before. \n\nHowever, there is still a very strong barrier between us - we will talk about everything under the sun but when it comes to like, flirting, he is very odd about it. I think he likes me, but I don't know. Part of me just wants to tell him that I like him a bit, but would that be weird?\n\nA bit of background on him: he is quite awkward, I think, when it comes to girls. In the entire time I've known him (HS and now) he has rarely had girlfriends. When we hang, everything is super chill but I wonder if maybe he's just either A. Not that into me or B. Super awkward with girls/flirting, things like that.", "summary": "Friend and I agreed to go on a date - he recently started SLIGHTLY flirting with me but keeps a very firm barrier/acts awkward about flirting/etc sometimes - am I being slightly friendzoned? Do I tell him I like him?"}
{"id": "t3_1ribii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex [19 F] broke up 5 months ago, still having trouble staying friends/getting over her.", "post": "I've been dealing with this for quite some time now and its been rough. Mostly on my part. I've suggested to stop talking to each other numerous times, but she always ends up crying or  indirectly make me feel terrible. I don't have the balls to actually end it, and just say something along the lines of, \"Sorry, I was weak.\" \n\n---\n\nShe moved to another state because issues, and I have too. We talk casually on the phone/skype but its really tough for me still. Maybe I really am just weak or incapable of getting over someone. I just need some help dealing with break ups. What do I do?", "summary": "can't get over the girl, too hard to stay friends."}
{"id": "t3_jto67", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does reddit know any good meals which are easy to make and you can bring with you to classes?", "post": "I usually try and eat lunch before class but every time I do I usually end up falling asleep.  Most of the time I bring my own lunch but every once in a while I will grab something on campus.  \n\nI personally like to make large meals on the weekend and like to use left overs throughout the week so it usually ends up being some type of sauce or soup that I can usually mix with pasta (I think it may be the pasta making me tired), but I have trouble with meals that will keep me full otherwise.  \n\nSo does anyone have any lunch favorites that they like bringing with them to work/class and doesn't make them super drowsy?", "summary": "Food = Sleep"}
{"id": "t3_28fqhd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [16F] keeps lying and hiding serious things from me [17M]. We are together for 2 years now. Should i keep up?", "post": "For the last 1 year and some months, she's been doing wrong things from my back and hiding it from me. Things like: flerting with other guys, taking semi-nude pictures with her girlfriend, talking with people i've already said i don't want her to talk to, etc. And then, when i ask her if she did any of this, she goes ahead and says \"no\". So i take out my proofs, like \"it's on your fucking phone! I saw it!\". And then she proceeds to complain about me getting too much into her personal live, stalking her and stuff. Well, the only reason i do that is because she keeps fucking up.\n\nNow, she already said to me a million times that she's going to change for better, and that i should give her \"one more last chance\". I honestly already gave her more last chances that i can remember right now. Her last fuckup was flerting with a guy on skype, saying things like \"we should watch this tv show on bed together, i would love it\". This was the last straw to me and now i want to break up, and once again she says she will change. Now, should i give her another chance?", "summary": "Girlfriend is a lier who keeps fucking things up and saying that she will change, but never does. Last time, fucked up real big and now wants another chance. Should i give it?"}
{"id": "t3_13beh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stupid lie... what to do?", "post": "My girlfriend (27) and I (M 26) have been together for a little over a year and are now living together. \n\nOur relationship is going great, but I lied to her and now I'm not so sure about what to do.\n\nA while back when we were back home (home for me, we live in her hometown 10 hours away from mine) we were at a party with a bunch of my friends. She asked me if anything ever happened between me and a specific female friend and I said no.\n\nThe truth is, between the ages of 18 and 21, we slept together maybe 4-5 times total. It was never anything between me and that friend. More of an ultimate backup if we both didn't have sex for a long time.\n\nBecause of the living situation, we see that friend maybe once a year. Also what happened between us was so long ago and so minimal that I don't know if I should just come clean or not.\n\nLooking back, I think I lied because when she asked I realized I should have mention this before we arrived at the party and I didn't want to blindside her.\n\nNow I'm torn because I'm not sure how she would react if I told her. Plus everything else is going really well between us.", "summary": "Lied to my girlfriend about sleeping with a female friend a while back. Nothing between us since way before I met my girlfriend. Should I come clean?"}
{"id": "t3_365lyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(30F) with my ex(30M) - strange text 2 years after we broke up.", "post": "Tumultuous 1.5 year relationship that ended 2 years ago. \n\nA little background- met and fell in love, moved in together after dating for 6 months. I had a mental breakdown during the time we lived together. Our relationship deteriorated, and I moved out after living together for one year. That was 2 years ago. Basically no contact for the past two years, until I got a text from him about 6 months ago. I didn't respond at the time. Then, a few weeks ago I texted him: 'I was visiting (his town) and thought of you. Hope you and your family are doing well.' Exchanged a few pleasant texts. \n\nThe weird text: \nLast night he texted: 'So I'm going to be in (your town) soon. Interested in  Hanging out? hooking up?  Or just getting coffee?' \n\nBased on this it seems he's looking to hook up with me- which is not going to happen. \n\nQuestion: how to respond? I'm leaning toward calling him out. I am pretty pissed that his goal is having sex with me. I was heartbroken when we broke up. \nShould I even respond- or go back to no contact?", "summary": "Ex wants to meet up. Now, I'm not sure that it's a good idea. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_ig6tw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Choosing apartments - Living above a store/restaurant", "post": "Me and my girlfriend are planning on moving out mid-july to beginning of August. Finding the right place has really been a pain in the ass. It's only the beginning of the month, but we found two suitable places:\n\nApartment 1: Looks recently renovated and very clean. The sinks and the appliances were very new.  The landlord seemed very kind and caring about the building. However, one of the big drawbacks bugging me is that it's located above a store/restaurant. The entrance was separate, but around the corner in a weird spot. It's also a bit smaller than I wanted, and lacked storage space. There are no laundry facilities in the building but there is a Laundromat one only a couple blocks away. \n\nApartment 2: This one was very large for a great price. Although do like it as well, my girlfriend is a little iffy about this one. Some things were a bit beat-up, mainly the hardwood floors. Older appliances but I don't mind. The landlord was kind but I'm not sure how well kept thing will be in the long run. The building in no way looked dirty, but it did look like things could be repaired here and there. There are a few small chips and cracks on the walls, which worries us because we live in a city where bedbugs roam. We worry about those and other bugs coming in that way. I do feel like our view of this one is skewed because we viewed it before they had a chance to clean and paint it.\n\nOur other option is to wait out for other units to become available elsewhere. I'm just afraid of leaving things too long as places have been snatched from me the same day I viewed them. Both places are in the area we like, but I feel like it's a bargain between new renovations vs. size. \n\nWhat do you think? Apartment 1 or 2? Or wait out for another option? Has living above stores/restaurants been a problem for anyone else?", "summary": "Need to pick a new place. Older place+large space vs. Smaller place+newly rennovated."}
{"id": "t3_3unvvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] am being terrorized by a house of unruly neighbors [30ish Ms/Fs] and the police and landlord have been no help. How do I make them stop?", "post": "They have been a problem since they moved in and are now just messing with me because they know the police and the landlord won't do anything. \n\nThey sell drugs, and have a camera system on their front door. They smear their dogs' poop on my truck and threaten me with violence when I ask them about it. When I called the police and explained what they were doing (including selling drugs) they went over there, talked to them and just left. It's low income housing, so the landlord doesn't care as long as he's getting a rent check from them each month. How do I stop this terrorism so I can live in peace, and go on with my life?", "summary": "Cops and landlord haven't helped with unruly neighbors, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_31jsrk", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "United First Class Upgrade bait and switch", "post": "On 3/31 I went to upgrade the outbound flight on myreservation to First Class- in the amount of $190.98 each for 2 seats (total $381.98).\n\nImmediately after checkout I went to select seats and saw that I could upgrade my return flight to first class for $50 per seat ($100 total). i checked out with my credit card for the second time and selected my seats. I verified on my credit card that there were 2 pending charges from United: $381.98 & $100. I noticed today that the $100 charge has changed to $381.98. \n\nUpon calling customer service and speaking to 2 different people for over an hour, I was told it was a glitch in the online system that showed $50 first class upgrade and they could not honor the price. \n\nI was told the system would not allow them to honor the $50 per seat upgrade. I suggested that in lieu of a refund, I would accept a travel credit in the amount owed to me ($281.98), but they said I had to send feedback through their site.\n\nI fly exclusively United and am a very loyal customer, and I am flabbergasted that such a huge company would bait and switch me like they have done. Showing me $100 then jacking it up to $381.98. \n\nI'm assuming I have no real recourse?", "summary": "United baited me with a $50/seat 1st class upgrade, then charged my credit card $190/seat. Won't honor original price..."}
{"id": "t3_t4t8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most fun thing you have done on a whim with another person.", "post": "I was out with a girl from work, car dealership.  I really liked her but I never made a real move.  I was kind of out to prove that I was fun and spontaneous.  We went to a bar, and there was one of those bachelorette parties where you do something fun and then sign their shirt. Well, I didn't want to ruin my shirt, so I decided to make them all sign my skin. I invited her to join me.  We bar hopped to about 8 different bars.  Pants, shoes, shirts, all but underwear came off to sign every inch we could.  Didn't realize until it was too late that it was permanent, but we were drunk at that point and didn't care.  Next day at work, you could tell we went out together because we were both covered head to toe with Sharpie.  One of the funnest things I have ever done.", "summary": "Got drunk with a co-worker and had people cover us with sharpie signatures, head to toe."}
{"id": "t3_418488", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my prospective date [33 M]. Supposed to be going on a date tomorrow but he's not replied to text about plans. Should I follow up?", "post": "I met Jon online a couple of months ago. We moved to text and seemed to hit it off. Exchanged pics, flirted etc. He suggested we go for a drink and set up plans to meet tomorrow. We made these plans a couple of weeks ago.\n\nYesterday we were texting about random stuff, then I asked him what the plans were for Sunday. This was almost 24 hours ago and he's not replied. He's been online, but hasn't opened my message (though I'm sure he'd have seen the contents in preview).\n\nIs he blowing me off? Should I send a follow up message to ask if he's not interested? If we're not going to hang out, I'd like to make other plans, so it's kinda annoying that I don't know what's happening. Or should I just leave it and take his silence as my answer?", "summary": "Prospective date hasn't answered text to firm up plans. How to handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_ov1dy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Apparently I have a great voice", "post": "Hi friends,\n\nSo I've had multiple people come up to me and say \"You have a great voice\".  Not a great singing voice, just a nice, easy to listen to, talking voice.  The range of my voice is also pretty good as well, able to hit high and low notes on command.  I have even had a few people tell me that I should \"go be the voice of something\".  \n\nI alway just kind of laughed it off, but the other day I thought maybe I would see if I really do have a unique voice.  I'm 25 years old, i've never taken any sort of acting/drama class, I currently have a great career, and i'm just now deciding that this might be cool to try out.  Anyone with some advice on where to go from here?", "summary": "My voice is unique, many people say it's special, I'm interested in finding out if that is actually true and if I could use this voice at some point in my career."}
{"id": "t3_30psb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently I [25 M] has started ERPing with a friend [26 F]. She is married and it's all RPing, but I get jealous when she does it with other people online. Can't sort out my feelings.", "post": "So several months ago I met a friend through a MMO.  I played with her and her husband and we gradually got closer as friends over time.  A few weeks ago, it comes out that she enjoys erotic role playing and asks me if I want to try it out.\n\nThings go great, but I then ask about her husband and what he thinks about all this.  She says it's cool and that he is totally fine with it.  We do with several more times and she even goes as far as to tell me what her and her husband have done on several occasions.\n\nHowever, this is a problem now.  I feel like I'm starting to get jealous of her when she does the same with other partners.  When she talks about what she does with her husband, I don't feel anything though.  \n\nIs this normal?  I'm having a hard time sorting out my feelings on the matter.  If I liked her, would I not also be jealous of her and her husband?  Am I secretly a clinger?  I just feel angry at myself for feeling this way most of the time.", "summary": "Started RPing with a friend, jealous of her online partners but not of her husband.  Having trouble sorting my feelings out, help?"}
{"id": "t3_4ac6rp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Soon-to-be-LDR, need advice on keeping relationship strong", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. Our relationship is strong, and we spend a lot of time together hanging out, watching TV, and doing homework together. However, he is graduating from our college this year, while I still have a few more years as well as graduate school to go through. He's told me the farthest he's going to be looking for jobs is 1-2 hours away, and he's willing to do long distance once he graduates. I'm just hoping for advice on how to keep a long-distance relationship strong and keep it from getting \"stale\" or \"boring\"? Neither of us are a big fan of phone calls in general, so I'm trying to think of other alternatives. I can really see a future with him, so I'd appreciate any advice you redditors have to give.", "summary": "boyfriend and I are going to be LDR soon, looking for advice on ways to keep the relationship strong over distance"}
{"id": "t3_4h3d5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] have been told by my friend [24 M] (of about a year) that they have feelings for me. However, I am not interested and they are not getting the message.", "post": "So, I'm a leader in an on campus club at my university. About a week ago my friend, Cameron, (who is male but uses female pronouns) has recently told me that she has developed \"*deep, real, and excessive*\" feelings for me over the course of the past year. \n\nI simply explained that I am straight and not interested, that it doesn't change our friendship, and I take the confession of feelings as a compliment (as to not try and make things weird between us because she is my friend). A couple of days go by without contact or seeing each other on campus (it's finals week and everyone is on weird schedules) but eventually we see each other in the cafeteria. We have a short chat and part ways until as I left she calls out my name and blows me a kiss from across the room, which I had no real response in mind other than just to nod and walk off. In the past couple of days when we've seen each other, she's been very close and personal (more so than before she announced her feelings) and has constantly been complimenting me (also did not do before this event). Ever since the talk, she's just been over the top flirty and making me feel more uncomfortable.\n\nBasically, she doesn't really gets the message that I'm not interested, even after I plainly spelled it out. I'm not sure how to go about this, because I'm also trying to be a friend and not come across as mean or a jerk (and I'm supposed to be a role model to my campus group).", "summary": "My (22M) friend (24M) has announced they have feelings for me, but I'm not interested. However friend does not get the message and I need to get it across while not being mean/jerkish."}
{"id": "t3_131g9r", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My friends got no time for me. Are they no friends?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nAbout me: I'm male and in my late 20's. I have some issues with my life, but I can mostly keep it in bay. Slight phases of depression and some social anxieties, especially with women. \n\nFor the past half year I live in a *new town*, I've just finished college and started working. Now my only friends in the new town are *co-workers*, who quite like me after all. They said they would want to help me, e.g. with my problems with *approaching women*, but they never do. They have *rarely time*, to get out, so we can just have fun in live, for our both sakes. Now I don't know how I should confront them. I've already begun to *annoy them*, through nagging, because I just don't know what else I can do. Unfortunately, this is a recurring circle, I have thought I would have already learned to prevent.\n\nIt has always been like this: My friends won't help me at all, I get angry with them for letting me down and then, consequently, *I am completely alone again*. Even when they, for example got many opportunities to let me participate, I end up being alone at home, *desperate*.     I always think, that there wouldn't be to much of a sacrifice by them, but a large gain for me. So, the absurd question: **Why don't they have any time for me and how can I be friends with people I am already a friend of?** \n\nAnd who is the victim, I think a lot about it, and in my opinion objectively I am right, but of course I can't seriously force people to spend time with me. So this is a dilemma. I wouldn't ask you, if it was easy. ;)\n\nIt is very hard to meet new people, and also why should I meet new people, when I already got some friends? ...", "summary": "Because I have been there several times, I know I am about to ruin my new friendships."}
{"id": "t3_4r8fcz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to get over my fear of dating", "post": "I am a 22F who has never really had a real relationship with a guy. With a low self esteem to start from year of being bullied, I feel already at a disadvantage.\n\nI lost my virginity in a one night stand, which may be part of the issue.\n\nMy issue is that when a guy asks me on a date or to hang out one on one (whether it be in person or from tinder or some other app), I immediately back away and make excuses. Somewhere in my brain, I assume that all they want out of me is sex. \n\nI know that to get over this I need to bite the bullet and just say yes, but the fear is holding me back.\n\nSo any advice to help?", "summary": "When a guy asks me out I assume all he wants is sex, so I make excuses."}
{"id": "t3_3mjys2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-Romantic] My (27M) best friend (28M) is getting married, and something is really bothering me...", "post": "So my best friend is getting married, and that is all well and good, but instead of asking me to be his best man, he asked a guy that he has worked with for the past year. They aren't very close and don't really hang out that much. \n\nMe and this guy have been super tight for 15 years. I bought him his first car, when I moved out I let him live with me rent free until he moved in with his fianc\u00e9e to whom I introduced him. \n\nNow, I'm not trying to build myself up as some superhero, just giving my current mindset.\n\nHe hasn't acted any differently towards me, our day to day interactions are pretty much normal. I haven't  said anything because I don't want to put any negative vibes into their happy day. (Which is in 3 weeks) But it has been eating away at me for some reason. I don't know if this feeling is justified or if I should just stop being a bitch about it.", "summary": "best friend picked an acquaintance for a best man, it is bothering me"}
{"id": "t3_3fkgpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Wife (F25) and I started a company together & she is upset because I listed on my website & resume that \"I founded\" it. She wants me to fix it. Am I in completely the wrong?", "post": "Her argument is that since we both started it we are both technically co-founders. To be a founder means that there was only one individual in the beginning. I feel like she really encouraged me to start it, but that I did most of the work in the beginning getting it going & she more so took on the role of getting people involved. She said she feels like me putting up that I founded the company completely takes away her role in it and she's very hurt. \n\nIs she overreacting? I didn't see it that way, but am I wrong to have done that?", "summary": "Wife is upset with me for stating that I founded a company that we both had a part in, I'm not sure if she's over reacting or if this is an actual error on my part."}
{"id": "t3_3hhzvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18F) friend (22F) continually violates my personal space and its making me pull away from her.", "post": "I have a friend with whom I've had on/off contact since 2010. She's a good person but extremely boisterous. \nShe's also a lesbian. I have no problem with lesbians but sometimes she crosses the line.\n\nWe agreed to meet up for lunch at uni on Wednesdays. I thought it was a good idea but she wont stop:\n\n* kissing my hair\n* snuggling up with me or hugging me\n* generally being in my personal space in a way I feel uncomfortable with.\n\nShe's very lonely. She also KNOWS i have a boyfriend and that these things make me uncomfortable. I generally am a push over about this stuff because I feel so awkward but that last time we met up I kept saying \"no, stop\" firmly and trying to squirm away from her when she displayed such behavior (such as licking my hand).\nI am really bad at confronting people sometimes, and I don't know how to approach the issue with her. I would rather just stop seeing her but I feel that's unfair. \n\nshe's not attracted to me, she's pursuing our mutual friend, she's just always been like this.", "summary": "lesbian friend keeps getting weird with me, how do i stop her from doing that"}
{"id": "t3_4ps8h5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] ex [22M] little brother [8M] keeps messaging me asking when I am coming to hang out again. I don't know how to handle this because I don't want to be mean to the kid", "post": "Hi Reddit, so this sounds kind of pathetic issue but I have no idea to do. I am dealing with an 8 year old child who absolutely adores me who is my exes little brother. Whenever I would go over to his parents' house he would want to play with me. He really likes me and he would always ask when I was going to Marry his brother. He would always show me his work from school and ask for my help. He has two other sisters who adore him as well, I always noticed they like their little brother a lot more than they did my ex. My ex and his sisters do not get along at all  \n\nMy ex and I broke up because he cheated on me when he went on a business trip to Las Vegas (probably another lie he told). His excuse was \"I had to get some pussy somewhere\". He was gone for a week and we had sex twice on the day he left. So if he can't save sex for a week then I don't know what to tell you. \n\nHis brother keeps texting me from the home phone (it's the household cell phone, it is there for someone to call home if that makes sense). He asks me when am I coming over to play, when are we going to play video games again. The whole deal and I feel really bad for ignoring him. He really likes me and I would love to hang out with him/babysit him again sometime. That would mean having to potentially see or talk to my ex and I can't stand him. I can't stand the sight of him. \n\nHow do I deal with this?", "summary": "My exes little brother adores me and he keeps texting me asking when I am coming over to hang out/play again and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_jqj07", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone put GHB in my drink and I can't remember what happened for 4 or 5 hours and I think I was raped. Is there some way I can get that memory back, even though it could be horrible?", "post": "Every year around my birthday I think about this: About 5 years ago I went interrailing (backpacking by train) alone in Austria and Italy. In Rimini I stayed at a hostile, where I was for a few days. The bartender of that hostel tried to hit on me for a couple of times, but I wasn't into him. The night before my birthday we decided to celebrate it with a couple of people I had met. I was still hungover from the night before so my first drink was around 11 pm and I got it from the bartender of the hostel, who said this was his birthday gift from him. I drank it and half an hour later we all got up and went to the bars close to the beach. The bartender also came with us. The last thing I remember was buying some cigarettes along the way and than I woke up 4 or 5 hours later in front of my room. I was really nauseous and threw up a few times and I found out that my underwear was dirty.\nThe next morning I asked everyone who was with me when we were walking to the bars if they had saw me that evening and if they knew who I was with. But nobody had seen me after came there. The bartender also acted funny and said that 'we had a good time'. I happen to have read an article about the drug called GHB and it is used as a date rape drug. When someone puts it in your drink you don't notice it, because it doesn't have a weird taste, and if you use it it can happen that you can't remember what happened when you were using it and it takes about 15 minutes before it kicks in. There were just too many things that were pointing to this that I felt sick, dirty and alone.\nThat day I booked a train ticket to France where my parents were at that time and I went as quickly as possible. At home I did a STD test, luckily it was negative. I don't really think about it a lot, but every year around my birthday I think about this night and lie awake wondering what the hell happened that night and if there is any chance I could get that memory back.", "summary": "Someone put GHB in my drink on my birthday and I can't remember what happened that night."}
{"id": "t3_1jkzg8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22f] and my SO [23f] [2 years] trying to sort this out.", "post": "I'll make it quick and easy. I have a feeling I already know the answer but I would love some reassurance. We went through a rough patch for about a week that ended in her breaking up with me. \n\n2 days later I hooked up with someone else. I didn't seek them out nor do I have any feelings for this person it just happened when we were hanging out. \n\nMy girl is seeing it as cheating, even though we were broken up. I understand and respect 100% that it caused her pain but I don't see it the same way she does and I wouldn't say it was cheating if the tabled were turned. \n\nSorry this might be a mess of a post but I'm a little scatter brained at the moment trying to figure everything out. \n\nDoes anyone have experience with this? I'm ready for constructive criticism if needed. I want to know how to fix this and how to make her stop hurting and how to ease the jealousy on her part. It meant nothing it will never mean anything all I want is her. Please help me thank you", "summary": "She thinks its cheating and I need to fix our relationship I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1960ya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do about a relationship with a dead line?", "post": "I (f21) have only been seeing my boyfriend (M23) for about 4 months, but I really like him. After the summer is over, or possibly in a year, he will be going to grad school in another state. I don't think I could do long distance, and I could never ask him to stay, AND I don't think I could move to another state with someone Ive only known a year.\nI just feel really weird about it, and I don't want to break up.\n\nMy question is, how have other people in this situation dealt with it, and what is your opinion?", "summary": "Boyfriend is moving in a few months or a year, how to deal with a deadline in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3g0zum", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching the DOTA2 Internationals", "post": "So this happened last night and I didn't even realize what went wrong until about five minutes ago...\n\nThis week the DOTA 2 International 5 started and for those that don't know it is a competitive gaming championship where a bunch of teams are competing to win a shit load of money (this years prize pool is 18mil). Anyway, my favorite team (I won't tell you the team name... It's a secret) got knocked down too the lower brackets and risked getting eliminated from the competition. \n\nI was watching the first game of the series with the lads and a realize my girlfriend texted me 30min ago asking if we could hang out...I text her telling her that I'm kinda busy and probably wouldn't be able to hangout now and naturally she asks if what I was doing is more important than seeing her (in a joking manor, or so it seemed). I tell her that I'm watching the international with my friends and that it would be going on all night. \n\nHere's where I fuck up...\n\nI then send another text after a few minutes of her not responding saying: \"I'm sorry, these games are just really important\" \nNow, at the time I figured: \"perfect, she will understand now!\" Nope. \nShe didn't text me back all night and I just figured that she fell asleep.\n\nThe games continued and I fell asleep watching them, completely forgetting my conversation with my gf. This morning I wake up and headed to work, all hyped up that my favorite team won their games, thinking it was strange that my girlfriend hasn't texted me yet, but I get occupied by work and quickly forget about it again... \n\nIt wasn't until a few minutes ago that I decided to text her and see if she was alright, it was then that I realized that I told my girlfriend that watching other people across the continent play video games was more important than hanging out with her...", "summary": "Jumped aboard the hype train and left my gf at the station..."}
{"id": "t3_4a90co", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my crush [18 M] - Unsure how to proceed", "post": "Typical story, I started college this year and developed a crush on a good friend of mine. He's cute, amiable and probably your poster boy definition of a nerd. Following the stereotype, he has zero experience with girls. Nor have I heard him ever express interest in this area at all.\n\nOn the flip side, I think there's still *a chance* the attraction may be mutual. For example, he waited an hour for me alone (without my asking) so we could go home together after my class. Idk if guys would usually do this for their female friends. More examples like this, but too much information to list. And it could just be me getting my hopes up and him really liking me as a friend.\n\nSo I don't think I'm quite ready to take the plunge and confess, but what are some subtle ways I can show my interest without being over the top? Test the waters, per se\n\n(Sorry about the super general question, I'm just at a bit of a loss because he honestly strikes me as someone who doesn't knows the first thing about dating. Even if our feelings were mutual, I feel like it'd fall on me to make some semblance of first move)", "summary": "How do I flirt"}
{"id": "t3_46uirh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my partner [29 F] 6 years, I'm struggling.", "post": "Hey all. \n\nBeen thinking about posting something here for a while. Posting for an alt, as my partner does use Reddit. \n\nWe've been together for about 6 1/2 years. We live together, we have pets. We have a generally good relationship with decent communication. She's completely committed. I'm looking to the future and I can't tell if I want to stay with her. \n\nPart of it is my issues. I've only had two previous partners, and both hurt me a lot. When we started dating I'd been single for 5 years. I have been struggling with anxiety and depression since childhood. I'm just now, finally, getting a handle on it. As I have been, I've started to think - what else is out there?\n\nIn this relationship, I'm always, always, looking after her. It feels often like I'm her parent rather than her partner. That goes for practical things - tidying the house, cooking, shipping - and emotional support. \n\nWe've also pretty much stopped having sex. We might get to it once a month, probably less. It's unsatisfying; she doesn't engage at all, and I'm finding myself less attracted to her over time.\n\nThe thing is, though, there's a lot that's good in the relationship. We _can_ support each other when we need it. We _do_ talk about our problems and try to work on them. We rent a nice house. Our pets are great. We share a lot of friends.\n\nTo me, it feels like even considering something else - looking for a more fulfilling relationship - is selfish and greedy. Not to mention, what kind of judgement is this on my partner? She's putting in everything she can but I'm not satisfied. I feel like an asshole for even thinking about it. \n\nBut as I look ahead, what about kids? I want them, she does too. If she can't look after herself, what about kids? I can't rationalise it in my head. I don't think I can, or want to, look after everyone all the time. I want a partner who can carry her own.", "summary": "Is this normal? What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ot85n", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl [21F] hitting on me [22M], I would like to start something but I'm not sure how?", "post": "So there is this girl, a friend of one of my best F friends. We met couple of months ago but we started to hang out together more often last month. We kissed at our friends party but hadn't talked much for few busy weeks, but then she asked me to meet her, we went to her place, cuddled, watched some movies, play some games, made out a bit but again for a week barely talk. I'm a little bit confused. Is she looking only for some fun or relationship? Anyway I decided to ask her out this week but I'm not sure how to do this. She studies at the different university, has a lot of work to do, even more than me. Should i call her like in the evening and say... yeah, say what? And wouldn't it be awkward if she only looks for some fun?", "summary": "How to ask a girl out?"}
{"id": "t3_4btwim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my ex[28M] broke up after 3 years...now im having a meltdown", "post": "This breakup is absolutely destroying me. He is still living in the same house and is moving out on 22nd April. I have tried to do no contact which worked for 4 days...but the last 24 hours i have just been crying all the time.\n\nI was so upset today that i cried at work, ive been crying since i got home and i just went to my ex now and he was so cold and uncaring that I gave him what for. He didnt even stop typing when i was talking to him.\n\nI am beyond distraught. He told me less than a week ago how much he loved me, but now he just doesnt care and told me he didnt love me for a long time.\n\nI dont know how to move on. This isnt even my first breakup. I left a 6 year relationship that was overall more healthy than this one has been, yet i still find that i am struggling so much more this time round.\n\nI dont want to be starting over with anyone else. I dont want to do it at 28 either. Everyone around me has someone. At work today people were all talking about their husbands and families and now ive got no one to come home to.\n\nIm on antidepressants but they dont seem to be helping, in fact i feel more out of control of my emotions now that at any other point that i can remember to date.\n\nIt just hurts so much that someone can just completely forget me and throw their feelings for me away so quickly and leave me with all this pain and heartbreak. Its not fair, I didnt even do anything to deserve it. he's even told me he willl just walk away from me on his last day and never speak to me again :'(", "summary": "how can i get over someone  that i still love with all my heart"}
{"id": "t3_loi08", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A company has asked be to get a FBI background check, but they haven't really told me how.  Is that weird?", "post": "So, I've been looking into teaching English abroad, and I've been in contact with the company called Travel and Teach Recruiting.  They've told me that to go abroad, I need to get an FBI background check.  They gave me a link to the FBI webpage and told me to get back to them when I had gotten it taken care of.  However, they didn't give me a fingerprint card and they never really explained to me what exactly I do.  Well, I've been to the police station, and I've called the FBI, and they all said that this sounds suspicious.  Apparently, companies almost always give you a card and detailed information.  Without a card and certain information, I can't really get the check done.  However, when I called the company, they just told me to try talking to the police again and that they should be able to help.  So, I don't really know what to think.  I haven't paid this company anything, so I don't think I'm getting scammed.  But what they're telling me contradicts what everyone else is telling me.  What do you guys think?", "summary": "A recruiting company told me to get an FBI check, but didn't explain how or give me a fingerprint card.  The police say that's weird."}
{"id": "t3_nhs0s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HELP!  I need home insurance claim advice!", "post": "My mother's lives in CT and her house was damaged in the big snowstorm in October. Many of my friends houses were damaged, some of them only had a little bit of damage. The payouts ranged from about $4,000 to $20,000, the $4,000 claim was for a little water spot on the ceiling, and the $20,000 claim was for a tree trough the roof. Everybody else's insurance company estimated the damages very high, and sent the check right out to them. My mother's insurance company completely low balled her quote and is making her fight for her money. When all is said and done, there is about $15,000 worth of damage to her house / shed, and they wrote her a check for under $5,000. They have been slimy about everything, including not including labor, and deducting for depreciation on a replacement value policy. They told her that they will give her more money if needed as the work was completed, and that the money was so that she could get the work started. They then said that she needed to get the higher prices okay-ed before any of the work gets started. When the adjuster came, she had 3 quotes in hand stating there was between $13,000 and $17,000 worth of damage, and since then she has gotten two more quotes in that price range. They still have not budged on anything, and no work has begun. Any suggestions on where to go from here?\n\nAnother side note: I was a licensed/insured contractor for years (not anymore) and am planning to do the work myself. I am not trying to scam the insurance company out of money, but I am trying to get her the money she would have been paid out had she been insured with some other company. She needs this money to save her house. She lost her job two weeks ago, called the mortgage company to make payment arrangements, and they have started foreclosure because she is on unemployment and she was 10 days late with her payment.\n\nAny expert advice or advice from anyone with the same experiences would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "My mother's home insurance company is screwing her, we need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_192k9e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting all my wisdom teeth pulled in 10 hours. Any last minute tips?", "post": "Just nervous about it. Anything helps.\n\nFOLLOW UP:  Thanks for all of the tips.  I was taking all of them to heart. It was quite an experience today.  Mainly because I didn't end up getting them pulled.  I got to the office and they started giving me the drugs to prep for the surgery when a dentist who I had never met introduced himself and said he would be the one performing the operation.  o_O wtf??  He looks at the xrays on file while I'm sitting in the chair letting the drugs slowly take effect (which I don't think they were) for an HOUR!  They were constantly checking on me asking how I was then finally the dentist comes back and says that they have to send me to a different office to get a different type of xray, and that I would have to pay out of pocket.  WTF? He said it was important because he was not sure if he would be comfortable pulling my teeth because they would be really difficult to get out.  So my wife drives me over to this other office where we get the x-ray done then head back.  Once back he takes a look at the xray and says, well I am not confident that I can get one of them out, and the others will be difficult but I can do them.... btw I am already livid.  He says I should really go to a surgeon and see what they think, so I say \"OK write me a referral and I'll go get a second opinion on all 4 teeth\"  Suddenly he backpedals saying, \"well I think I can do three of them\" to which I reply \"You think? Sorry, but that's just not good enough for me.\"  I get the referral and walk out.", "summary": "Lost all faith in the skills of the guy who wanted to rip the teeth out of my mouth.  Walked out and will be getting a second opinion about whether it's even necessary to pull them out."}
{"id": "t3_4lbaaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being played? and what is my next move?", "post": "Me(20M) met (21F) a month after my devastating break up. She had also just gotten out of a very bad relationship and we found comfort in each other to help forget them. We hung out twice a week, held hands in public, had sex, and overall I was having a perfect experience with her.\n\nWe always made sure to be honest with each other, but one flaw with her is the continuation of talking to her ex. They would talk, her ex always being nice then turning foul and cursing, throwing things, and telling her she wasn't worth it. Then she would call crying for my comfort. Her ex was always showing up at her work giving gifts, and always calling her, and occasionally showing up at her house demanding to be let in.\n\nSo It seemed she would only come to me when in need of comfort so I told her I wouldn't talk to her for alittle while so she could resolve her troubles. Three days later she calls crying her eyes out at all the things her ex told her when they met and how angry he was. So I say maybe now she learned her lesson to stray away from him.\n\nA few days later she is talking to him again, and being incredibly distant from me, and hardly finding the time to hang out. It upsets me so much being a kind of center of comfort but never meeting. So much so the temptation to tell her ex that \"we've both been played\" feels incredibly tempting.\n\nI don't know what to do, I drove myself away and she just came back.", "summary": "met a girl that always goes back to her ex, gets mistreated, and comes crying back to me"}
{"id": "t3_1b6kwj", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Can a Traumatized Dog be Helped?", "post": "One year ago, I came home to see a skeleton of a hound dog stumbling all over my pastures.  I didn't have anything to catch her with, but I am a sucker for animals in need and tried anyway.  It took an hour of walking up and down the same fence before she just collapsed and I \"caught\" her.  We took her to the vet for two broken front paws, but nothing else was wrong with her.\n\nShe was so scared of everything, the slightest sound made her take off literally shitting herself.  A whisper could make her cower in the corner and pee everywhere.  My neighbor also told me he'd seen her thrown out of a truck the day before.  So I kept her, afraid she would be put down if I took her to anyone else.\n\nIt's been a year of taking sweetly, lots of food and treats, going on walks, befriending my other dogs, and sitting and petting her for long periods of time.  *A year.*  She still won't come to anyone but me, and she only started coming to me in the last couple of months, and being very nervous when she does.  She's still terrified of noises, movement, and pee's around anyone else.  She runs so much to avoid (even though they're not interested) my family and friends that feeding her three times a day still has her looking like a skeleton and sleeps standing up during the day to be ready to bolt again.  We had to triple reinforce the fence to keep her in because she continuously rams it to get out in a panic, cutting herself up once in a while, when one of us walks into the yard.  She doesn't even make eye contact, and flips out when she bumps into something like a chair.\n\nI still don't want her to go elsewhere and risk a bad or no future since I know she is really a sweet and loyal dog under all the mess, but I am moving to start over in a couple of months and want her to come with us and start over, too...\n\nIs there anything more I can do for her?  :(", "summary": "Out of all my rescue animals, this dog is the toughest. A year of sweet care later, she is still piss-herself-terrified of anyone, any movement, any sound. What else can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_34v27r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking too loud", "post": "Whatup /r/tifu?\nSo I fucked up by talking too loud publicly. I was standing with a classmate at the busstation and was talking about the next few weeks. The next few weeks are pretty tough for the students in Switzerland, because we're getting closer to the finals. In addition to that our teachers decided to give us a shit load of homework. \nSo we both were complaining about how annyoing this is and out of the conversation I dropped the phrase: \"We're getting fucked harder than in an american prison!\" My classmate got the metaphor, but a man who always is on the same bus in the moring like I am probably just heard this one sentence. After I've said the last word I saw him kinda disturbed looking at me. So he will probably remember me as the \"getting fucked in a american prison guy\".", "summary": "spoke too loud at the busstation, now will be remembered as the guy who got fucked in an american prison."}
{"id": "t3_g2uri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I do anything? Re: sharing ideas after a job interview.", "post": "I interviewed for a job as a moderator for a start-up website in NYC. The website was down the day prior and the day of my interview so I wasn't able to really play around with it.\n\nAfter my lengthy interview I sent a thank you email. I didn't hear anything back but I decided to sign up for the website and give some feedback. A week later I sent my interviewer a decent sized email about things I liked and areas I thought could be improved.\n\nI never received a response but I did notice that there was a poll asking about one of my suggestions and the general consensus was favorable. I thought this was very odd because I never heard back from them until the other day (weeks later) stating that I did not get the job.\n\nI somewhat felt that the interviewer might have just taken my ideas and presented them as her own? Is that common? Should I just continue to brush it off and move on because I feel that I am not really in a position to do anything. Just felt that it was somewhat messed up.", "summary": "Should I do anything? I submitted some ideas about a website after a job interview. Didn't get the job but they appear to be entertaining one of my ideas."}
{"id": "t3_17irlo", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Any advice on taking back possession of a recovered stolen firearm while on misdemeanor drug probation?(FL)", "post": "More than a year ago my home was burglarized and i had some firearms stolen from me. In the months following I was arrested for misdemeanor pot possession(wrong place wrong time). Instead of fighting the charges I took Pre Trial Intervention (PTI) which means i plead NOT GUILTY and enter a 12 month probation program which if I complete the charges will be dropped and with a little more lawyering my file sealed. Recently two of the firearms were recovered, one by a local agency and the other at a pawn shop in the next county. For me to get the firearm back from the pawn shop, I have to buy it from them for the money that they spent on it. The detective in charge of the firearm told me it would be okay for a friend or relative to pick it up I just needed to let him know who would be coming for it, but I also didn't inform him that i was currently on PTI. I'm just not sure of the legality of taking back possession while on PTI or even having someone else pick it up for me, and the last thing I want to do is get somebody else in trouble for doing me a favor. \n\nHas anyone else dealt with a similar situation or able to offer me any insight on what to do next? Would a lawyer be able to inform me of the laws without much of a payment? Its already going to cost me a few hundred dollars to get back my own property that was stolen from me and its not really worth it for me to put out much more for something that i dont think i need representation for. Or if anyone has someone who could clarify things for me off of reddit PM me.", "summary": "GUNS GOT STOLEN AND RECOVERED,BUT NOW ON PROBATION. IS IT LEGAL FOR ME OR A FRIEND/RELATIVE TO GET THEM BACK FROM THE PAWN SHOP?"}
{"id": "t3_38kn56", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) am very conflicted about letting my SO (21M) go to a strip club with his friends", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for five months and things have been going really well. I have been dealing with some anxiety and trust issues that developed from my previous relationship but my current SO is amazing, understanding, and I trust him. \n\nHere's my issue: he wants to go to a strip club for the first time and for the life of me I cannot figure out why I am so uncomfortable with this. I know he loves me, he just told me for the first time this week. He also knows that I trust him, so it disappoints him that I'm not okay with it. \n\nI don't worry about him wanting to leave me for a stripper but all I can picture is a bunch of beautiful women trying to seduce my man, and him paying for it. Yikes. I would like to point out at this time that he is a total babe: tall, fit, handsome, and has a killer smile. He gets a lot of female interest and that's fine but it makes me nervous when I think about him going to a location to put himself in that exact position. \n\nHe wants to go with his friends and said he only wanted to look and not pay for lap dances/whatever the heck you do at a strip club. This makes me feel inadequate, like I don't provide enough sexual excitement for him. \nHe even mentioned that he knows other girls in relationships who go to strip clubs with their partners and are okay with their partners going without them. I feel like I'm not cool or lenient like he expected me to be about this. \n\nWhat can I do to be more understanding about this? Not sure if I'm trying to justify my awkward feelings or trying to loosen up for him to see what it's like. I am not willing to go to a strip club with someone I am dating. We had an argument about this last night and I don't want to feel like this anymore. Help!", "summary": "BF wants to go to a strip club for the first time. I've always had the idea that strip clubs are no place for people who are serious about their monogamous relationship but now I am in a trusting one and I don't want to make him feel restricted or think I'm controlling. Not sure if I should stand my ground with \"no strip club\" rule or loosen up. Low self esteem issues but I love him. "}
{"id": "t3_2hgx3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [21 M] after 2 years, left me but still thinks something could happen in the future", "post": "We had a rough first year, but otherwise our relationship had been perfect (we were best friends as well as lovers, we committed to telling each other everything about ourselves and never lying to each other). Then he started getting the 'sick' feeling and said he couldn't be around me sometimes. We still saw each other daily and then after a month of this he left me \"to see other people.\"\n\nI am STILL totally in love with him and I don't want to forget him or get over him. This week we made out (and he had *that* look in his eyes, if you know what I mean), but then he quickly felt bad again. After a talk, I realized that he was feeling was guilty because he didn't love me and I really loved him. He still wants to be friends, and I want more.\n\nHe says he thinks we could be together again down the road, but he pretty much wants to 'do' other people for a while. I WANT to wait for him, but I dont want to wait for nothing and I know I shouldnt even wait.", "summary": "Ex bf wants do fuck other people and maybe try again with me later."}
{"id": "t3_3btfn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakups] Should I[28m] get back with my ex[28f]", "post": "I hope I'm doing this right because I'm on mobile, I'm try to make it short. Me and my exgf were together for almost 3 years, we lived together for the last year. Back in February we broke up because she wanted to go live with her sister in New York ( I'm in Baltimore) Anyway she tells me over texts the other day she misses me and wants to get back together. I loved the idea until I found out she slept with 2 other guys. I know, we were broke up so she had the right, that's not what's bothering me, it's picturing it without wanting to and trying to find a way to overcome this and live with this that's bothering me. I love this woman with all my heart and couldn't wait to get back together, until that news. What have you guys done to deal with this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "ex slept with men while we were apart. How do I move on and forgive her before we reunite the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_xie5i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] wondering if traditional no sex/no cohabitation/no foreplay rules [27/f] till marriage actually lead to a stronger marriage?", "post": "My girlfriend 27 has grown up with a very strong set of beliefs that there should be no sex/foreplay/cohabitation till marriage, subsequently she has never had a solid relationship, has never had sex or fallen in love. To put things in perspective, she had recently achieved (her first) orgasm one night I had helped her though her cloths.\n\nSo here we are dating... going out to dinner a few times a week, making out on the couch like teenagers. If I press her too far sexually, she then regresses back and that is not done for a few weeks. Meanwhile I am thinking, that I will never be close enough to marry her if we are not progressing the relationship (foreplay, spending the night, maybe even moving in with each other at some point).\n\n--------------------------------------------\n\nWhen I asked her values she states the following. :\n\n\"I dont want to be test ridden like a car\".\n\n\"If I am going to act like the wife, why not become the wife\".\n\n\"Its harder to just walk away when you are married\".\n\n\"I would feel less of my self if I was living with someone who did not marry me\".\n\n\"Marriage is great for taxes\".\n\n\"I need to be engaged before we do anything more than we are currently doing\".\n\n\"I know you want to buy a house, but I wont move in unless we are married (once we are married I want us to buy a joint house together so were both on the title and the partner could never say \"this is MY house\".\n\n\"We could sign a prenump if you want\".\n\n--------------------------------------------------\n\nLike this is some formula for a relationship, minus the love that would somehow fall into a good relationship.\n\nI dont see any of this shit above.. I want basic love, love that would flourish into a normal sexual life, and progress into a strong relationship, then marriage.\n\nI currently feel none of this and here is she talking about heavy, outdated formal dating. Dont get me wrong I like this girl, but every time she talks about this I drift further apart.", "summary": "Current (relationship novice) girlfriend is making me jump through all the traditional dating to marriage hoops like its some sort of magic formula for a successful marriage, I am not feeling any of this and see it as a receipt for disaster."}
{"id": "t3_2jf5ts", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Don't Know What To Do", "post": "Earlier this year my company held a Biggest Loser competition in the office and I busted my butt and managed to win the competition losing 30 pounds. For several months after I was able to maintain my weight. While I wanted to lose more I was glad I wasn't gaining. \n\nOver the last month I've lost all the self-control I managed to build up earlier this year. All I want to do is eat biscuits and bacon and pizza and cake. \n\nThis is where I'm here screaming HELP!!!!\n\nI have so many goals but I want to get down to 200lbs/90.72kgs by the end of the year. I'm starting at 219lbs/99.33kgs. \n\nAm I crazy? Is this even possible? How do I get back on track???", "summary": "I've fallen off the wagon, help."}
{"id": "t3_4uakep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] was using GFs [24] phone for gps and another guy was sending cutesy texts, now she wants space.", "post": "Hey guys\n\nSo last weekend my gf and I went camping and we were using her phone to gps out of the woods back to her place. While I was plugging in directions her phone buzzed with a series of cutesy texts from her coworker (pic of his cat saying it misses her, pics of him and what he was doing that weekend). \n\nA little backstory.. I recently moved over 1k miles to take a summer job and it was a bonus because the job was closer to her, we were long distance for over 3 months and one night she frantically called me because she felt like she was emotionally cheating on me with this same guy. She said nothing happened he just tried to make moves on her while they were out with other coworkers, and she told him to keep it professional.\n\nFast forward a month after that and I see these texts, so I get a little upset and we talk about the relationship. She tells me she she's never done anything with him although she enjoys his company, and doesn't really respond to the texts. While we're talking she mentions that she's clueless about serious relationships (I'm the second longest at 7 months), is confused etc etc, and comes to the conclusion that she loves me but wants some space.\n\nNow this was yesterday and today she's texted me that she still wants to try, but I can't help but think it'll feel like a forced relationship, or that she'll continue to not take the relationship seriously and I'll get hurt.", "summary": "Relationship on the rocks because gf still talks to someone she \"emotionally cheated\" on me with, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_qaec5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Web of lies", "post": "Me(F) 25 SO(M) 27\nI have so much on my chest that I just need to get it out. I met him 5 years ago and I feel like he has tangled me in a web of lies. The first time I met him we were amazing with each other, always chatting, it was never the ooey gooey \"I love you so much\" type, actually he hardly said I love you to me at all, but we were just fine (at least to me). We acted more like best friends that fucked. After 3 months he disappeared, no warning, text, call, NOTHING. I tried to contact him several times and I never got anything back. I hated this, I was in misery, like I had fucked up in a past life and this was my punishment. Months later, I get a call. He acted like nothing had happened, as if he had never ignored me, and I loved this man,  so I just went along with it. But he disappeared AGAIN. He ignored me, picked up the phone and hung up, the whole 9 yards. Needless to say this happened many times over the first 4 years. I've been with him for a year now with no breaks and we are even talking about marriage, but come on reddit there has to be something amiss. During our (good) year I've found out that he had a serious ex who has seriously fucked him up, and he would just keep going right back to her, or fucking other people. While this was going on he was ignoring me, or playing me like a fool for a week. He damaged half of my 20's with his crap, but now he is back and as he says \"has always been in love with me\" \nI think that I'm his second choice, or there is something that he isn't telling me.", "summary": "Boyfriend ignored me for 4 years, now he says he is here to stay. "}
{"id": "t3_4gj8bb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my ex [22 M] really need advice..feel terrible", "post": "Me and my ex were together for four years. He was an amazing boyfriend and was always there for me and willing to do basically whatever for me. We were in love and often talked about our future together.\n\nSeemingly out of no where he breaks up with me because he was unhappy with himself and thought he needed to figure things out on his own and it has caused his to lose some feelings.\n\nWe have been broken up for two months and a week ago we talked and he said he misses me but he needs to get through this on his own. He also said that he sees us together again in the future. These past two months have been so hard and all I want is to be back with him. I just don't understand why he can't be with me now. I also don't want to just wait around because we don't talk in the mean time and I feel like I don't know what's going on in his head.", "summary": "I want to believe there's hope for us but I don't know what do!"}
{"id": "t3_2cmkvw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [22/F] I have a major crush on a very old and good friend [22/M], we're staying the night in a hotel together soon, not sure if he's interested in fooling around or not, Any suggestions?", "post": "So about 3 or 4 months ago me and my ex of 6 years broke up. Totally over it now feeling the happiest I've felt in a very long time. \n\nThe day after we broke up I spoke to my friend about what happened and he was very helpful in helping me to lift myself up and to pull myself together and was very grateful for him.\n\nI decided that this summer I was gonna treat a couple of my close friends to some days/nights out, I've already taken one of my close friends to see a show in the o2 and a night at a hotel, taking another friend to a festival this thursday and the friend I was first talking about I decided to treat him to see a show in the west end with me and stay in London over night. \n\nSince arranging this we flirted quite a bit, mostly over text and facebook for a few weeks but then lost contact a little but we've been hanging out again recently and the flirting hasn't continued. I've developed a bit of a crush on him and I don't know how to quite handle this. I should also mention that we have been good friends for about 5 or so years now and no longer live in the same city or even country for that matter. I live in Wales he lives in England. I see him every other weekend or so though because we meet up quite a lot to hang out with our other friends. \n\nI'm not looking for a relationship though I kinda just wanna fool around and I'd kinda like that to happen on the night we stay in a hotel together, maybe it'll just happen I dunno but I'm just a little concerned the flirting just randomly stopping. I'm a little concerned about initiating it again, like how do I go about it? Should I even bother and just see what happens on the night? it's not until the end of august but I'd just like someone else's take on this. Help a sister out.", "summary": "I have a crush on my friend of 5 years, we flirted for a while it randomly stopped, we're spending the night together in a hotel after a west end show at the end of august and I'd like something to happen, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_32y2zx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my non-English speaking potential stepson [13 M]. Will it work? xposted to Stepparents", "post": "Please give me your advice, insight, thoughts, opinions, experiences on my situation.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He has an almost 13 year old son from his previous long-term relationship. We don't live together but we talk about it in terms of 'someday.' \n\nBoyfriend used to live in a non-English speaking country. This is where SS currently lives. Boyfriend's English is very good but SS's English is very very basic.\n\nSince SS lives in another country he only visits during school breaks. I met him and spent time with him when he was here over the holidays. We got a long well and had fun (despite the language barrier.)\n\nSS talks about moving here, and Boyfriend is pursuing that option. I have no doubt that it will be a dramatic struggle and huge fight with BM.\n\nObviously SS has a lot of stress, pressure and upheaval in his future if he moves here. I told boyfriend that we can't live together (or move ahead in our relationship) until this move happens.\n\nPlease ask questions as I feel like I didn't include all the relevant details. I'll do my best to answer. As I said at the beginning, please give me your advice, insight, thoughts, opinions, experiences on this situation.", "summary": "Do I continue a relationship where I will potentially be a stepmom to a complicated stepson or do I run?"}
{"id": "t3_j8xol", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Idea for stopping repost snipers karma whoring.", "post": "This might not work as it would need pretty much the entire community to get on board. But, what if there was a group of redditors (sort of like the Knights of New) that would check articles getting upvotes to see if they are reposts. If so they can sound the alarm coordinate a mass downvoting from the proletariat while identifying the original post so it can get its due. \n\nThis is more aimed at people scouting for new links that could be good, stealing then reposting them immediately. Not reposts after a decent amount of time or from different subreddits. The person who posted it first should really get the credit. Could run into problems if the title of the repost is genuinely funnier or just better, but that will be at the discretion of this group of redditors. What would they be called? The Repost Rangers?", "summary": "Someone immediately reposts something new for karma, take em' down!"}
{"id": "t3_2ziesz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I passed the pre-employment polygraph, but I'm still worrying.", "post": "Sorry for the wall of text!  This is, of course, a disposable account due to the sensitive nature of my dilemma.\n\nI'm in the process of applying for a non-sworn position at the sheriff's department in my area.  I have gotten most of the way through the process, including having had my polygraph a couple of days ago.  I passed, which makes sense because I was truthful.\n\nHere's the rub:  I revealed some information during that session, and I don't know if it will disqualify me from getting the job.  \nI consider myself a generally good person- I'm no saint, but overall I don't think I've done anything too awful.  (BTW, I'm female, in my mid-30's.)\n\nHere's the item I'm worried about:   15 or so years ago, in the Napster/Limewire days, I downloaded a file.  I don't remember what I was looking for- anyway, this file was named something innocuous and I had no idea what I was getting into.\nTurned out it was child porn.  As soon as I realized what it was, I turned it off and deleted the file.  So, it wasn't deliberate, but it doesn't change the fact that I have seen (\"viewed\") child porn.\n\nI was honest about this in the polygraph, and I think my results reflected that I don't purposely watch anything like that.  I've also been much more careful on the Interwebs ever since.\n\nThe examiner told me that everything that we went over, will be included in her report to the department.  I really hope that this, or anything else I revealed (minor theft, experimented with pot years ago) doesn't disqualify me; I'm having a hard time not worrying about it.  The background check is next; I should pass that with no problem.\n\nDoes anyone have any words of advice?  I need to stop thinking about this!   Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Admitted having accidentally seen child porn, in polygraph session.  Now I'm worried about not getting the job."}
{"id": "t3_25apt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Pretty sure my boyfriend (22m) is going to choose occasional drugs over me (22f)", "post": "Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for about two years exclusive for a year and a half living together for eight months. \n\nOk so our relationship has been a fairly happy one, we've had our problems like any other couple but we always work through it. My biggest issue is that for about the last year and a half I've been trying everything I can to get him to stop doing coke. I've asked him a million times, I've tried giving him ultimatums (but they never work because he always does it anyway and I love him so I forgive him), explaining where I'm coming from, reminding him of his health... I don't even know what to do anymore. I've become suspicious,which I absolutely hate because I'm usually trusting. His thing is that he \"doesn't do it that often\" but I'm pretty positive he does. I've caught him a countless number of times in lies straight to my face about it, it kills me. He said it doesn't affect me and that I just don't like it because I don't do it myself which is so untrue I worry about his health and the fact that he's a miserable snot nosed zombie jerk for days after the party's over whining about how bad he feels and how he doesn't know why he does it to himself and I'm the only one that has to deal with it... \nOn to my current issue, last night he was acting really suspicious and when I confronted him about it he lied, per usual, and told me it was nothing. Well I went through his phone (we have an open phone policy) an  just that night he was planning on doing it again! Legitimately for like the hundredth time and I told him he had to pick me or the coke. He just kept saying he wanted to just forget about it and go back to normal but I'm at my wits end.. I know this post is terribly scatter brained but its my first post and I really need advice\n:(", "summary": "boyfriend has an issue I think, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lchbh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need help with landlord and lease", "post": "I have a question about a lease my roommates and I signed. We are living in a house off campus that is usually rented to college students. \n\nOur lease says in one section, \" Landlord agrees to furnish the following appliances, if any: 2 Stove, 2 Refrigerator, 1 Dishwasher, 1 washer/dryer, and A/C\"\n\nHowever, our house only has one stove and one fridge. I emailed the landlord company and asked them to provide the other kitchen with appliances since the lease says she should provide them for us. Her response is as follows: \n\n\"Hi X,\nThere will not approve of any change in the lease terms and the rental amount.  I understand your lease states 2 refrigerators and 2 stoves.  But, the refrigerator and stove in the smaller kitchen was not purchased by _____ Properties, it was left by the previous tenants years ago.  Each year the new set of tenants agreed to keep the appliances but recently the appliances have been working, so that is why they were removed from the property... After the work is completed in the kitchen, I will see if we have any appliances (maybe a refrigerator) available at that time.  \nThank you,\nY\"\n\nI'm thinking, the landlord wrote the lease and we signed it without making any changes. Is this not materially complying with the terms of the contract? Since she wrote it, shouldn't it be construed against her (if it that clause is even ambiguous)? Is it a material eviction to not have the second kitchen working? There are six girls living in my house so we would really like to either have the fridge provided or the rent reduced by the amount of the replacement.", "summary": "Our lease says the landlord needs to provide us with two fridges and stoves but we only have one of each. Landlord won't give us the other two."}
{"id": "t3_44rzgh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] with my [27M] boyfriend. He...stinks.", "post": "So this is really weird and really embarrassing for me to talk about. Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nBeen with my 27m boyfriend \"Ross\" for 3.5 years, living together for a year. I kind of noticed this even before we lived together...but sometimes I notice a stink around him. It's usually when we've been sitting on a couch or in the car for awhile, he'll get up and suddenly the smell hits me. It literally smells like ass, there's no other way to describe it. \n\nI don't know if it's because he doesn't wash down there, or if he doesn't change his underwear, but since we've been living together it's bothered me even more. Sometimes I'll smell it when I go down on him or when we have sex and I'm always too embarrassed to say anything, I usually just stop breathing through my nose and suck it up.\n\nFirst off I don't know *if* I should bring it up and second of all *how* do I. I'm really embarrassed about it, so I can't imagine how embarrassed he will be, and obviously it's a weird topic to bring up.", "summary": "Notice an odor around my bf sometimes, don't know how to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_2e0myi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [32 M] together 5 years: he's a dreamer who can't seem to get his act together, otherwise a good relationship but is it time to break it off?", "post": "I've been with my partner for 5 years and we communicate really well and enjoy each other's company, but in this last year I've been wondering if this is actually workable for the long term.\n\nWhile I'm not interested in marriage and kids, I am interested in building a life together and it seems challenging to do with him. Last year he quit his job because it was unfulfilling and I was supportive of him taking the time to find out what he wants to do. The year has gone by and it's hard not to notice that he hasn't made much progress. His biggest breakthrough has been that he wants to create art and doesn't care which means it takes to support himself. Even settling on a career in art wouldnt bother me, but he just wants to create art and is not interested in making a career out of it. Doesn't want any kind of career it seems, but I find myself embittered by how selfish that feels, because I work so many hours.\n\nLong story short he just refuses to think about any practical parts of life, how to sustain a life financially (maybe because he is willing to get help from his parents when he needs it?). In the meantime, I want to be able to plan trips, live together, invest in a dog, etc. Every element that requires planning seems impossible. I get frustrated by the thought of everything falling on my shoulders, but I also appreciate the emotional support and distraction he provides me from my career-driven life. We've talked about these differences a lot but just keep hitting a dead end. We care about each other but also are not sure if we're too different.", "summary": "Are we just too different: Me a career-minded planner and him a free spirit? How do I decided whether it's time to break up after 5 years?"}
{"id": "t3_14ouhu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when did you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you?", "post": "This problem seems more and more trivial every time I think about it. Now that finals are coming around, I keep thinking back to my freshman year in college. I had just bombed an exam and it was consuming my mind. It was all that I could think about, failing the class, ruining my GPA, hurting my odds of getting into a professional school. Shortly after my exam, I went to volunteer at a hospital nearby for the afternoon. It was a slow day, but eventually I got called to the maternity ward to discharge a patient. Most of the patients at this hospital, like the one I was wheeling out, were Hispanic and didn't speak very good English, but occasionally I would get a little small talk. On the way into the elevator she asked me how my day was, and with my thoughts on my exam, I said, \"alright.\" \"Just alright?\" she asked. I explained to her how I was really worried about an exam I just took. She smiled and nodded understandingly. She asked me what college I went to and after I answered she said, \"Oh, I applied there last year, but I got pregnant so I had to withdraw.\" I was thrown for a loop, she was about the same age as me. After she left with her parents, she tried to give me a tip. We weren't supposed to accept tips, but she insisted I take it, so via protocol, I took it and gave it to the office, and they added it to the student scholarship fund. When I returned the wheelchair to the nurse's station, I overheard them talking about the patient I just discharged. I commented on how nice she was. They filled me in on the rest of her story. She had just spent a month in the neonatal infant care unit because her baby was born premature, her healthcare wouldn't be able to cover most of the costs, the father of the baby had skipped out, and she was turning 19 next week. I was stunned. With so much on her plate, she had the courtesy to ask me about my day and without money to spare, she had insisted on giving me a tip.", "summary": "I was a bitch about failing an exam. Met another girl, same age as me, just had a premature baby, had no SO, would be paying off hospital bills for years to come, but was still extremely nice."}
{"id": "t3_4acygv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Girlfriend is suicidal, wont get help (X-Post /r/relationships)", "post": "She has been depressed for as long as we have known each other, and she, after lots of convincing from me, took depression pills for about a month before she deemed they made her feel worse and swore never to use them again. Since then, we have just tried to deal with it. We have tried lots of little things to bring some sort of happiness to her view on life, to no avail.\n\nYesterday we got arguing because she was saying that she no longer wanted to live any more, and that her life was horrid. I replied to that with \"Even the part with me and our puppies in it?\" \"Everything. You wanted the truth\".\n\nThis, quite understandably, crushed me. Crushed me enough to issue her an ultimatum. Get professional help, or I will have to leave. I can't allow myself to become depressed, I have already battled it once, and gotten out of it, and I outright refuse to let it take me again.\n\nShe refuses pills, she refuses therapy, and refuses to look for other ways. She said she doesn't want help. After reading online, I've come to the conclusion that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink. She simply sees my ultimatum as her \"bowing down to me\" and \"doing my bidding\".\n\nAfter another argument at lunch today, and me saying \"Well, this relationship doesnt seem to be working, and it wont get any worse from you trying to get help\", she retaliated with \"Well maybe you're the reason this relationship isn't working. You're the one who hasn't managed to keep your other relationships going before!!\". I put the phone down there.\n\nI feel that she crossed a line with that comment, and that it's gone too far, but I'm unsure as to whether I'm being melodramatic.\n\nAny advice on what to do, or how to deal with this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.", "summary": "Depressed girlfriend doesn't want to live any more, refuses help, uses my past relationships as a reason why we wont work, instead of addressing her own suicidal-ness(?)."}
{"id": "t3_3jph93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 M] with my parents [40-50 M/F]: my parents despise me.", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right place to post it, but here we go:  \nMy parents really, really dislike me. They never show me any trace of \"love\", they carry their frustration from work home and let it loose on me (it's quite easy to tell, because on the dinner table all they talk about is how their coworkers are stupid, or useless, and then couple minutes later they start yelling at me for random things, like \"why didn't you pack your bag\" when usually I pack it before I go to bed; they constantly have a bone to pick with me, and my father (if I even want to call him that) has threatened to ship me off to a shitty boarding school so that he \"never has to see (me) again\". They constantly state that I was a waste of money and that I can do nothing right, they even comment on my body weight and size, and just now they just called me a \"disappointment and shame to the family\". I really don't want to be associated with them at all, nor do I want to see them but sadly their only purpose in my life (I feel) is to pay for my essentials; a bank account would be more efficient. What do I do?", "summary": "I feel that parents hate me, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1y1t24", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] found out my boyfriend[18 M] of 11 months is jacking off to pictures of my friends", "post": "My boyfriend of 11 months has told me before that he has masturbation and porn addictions and that he's working on them, I try to not bug him too much about this.\n\nI went through his phone today (I know, terrible and crazy of me, I invaded his privacy) and I read an email between him and his friend. My SO was saying he jacks off to slutty pictures of my friends on instagram. I am hurt, but I know that most men do fantasize about girls they know. I don't know if I should confront him about this, should I be angry or am I in the wrong for snooping? Is it normal to jack off to pictures of girls that are friends? Keep in mind he has a masturbation addiction, so this is probably a frequent thing.", "summary": "Boyfriend has porn/masturbation addictions. Snooped and found out he jacks off to my friends pictures. Is this normal? Should I be mad? Or am I in the wrong for snooping?"}
{"id": "t3_2ei2wr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20F] My [22M] SO never wants to spend time with me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together off & on for three years. We've had our fair share of issues, but I love him and I think he loves me. \n\nWe work opposite shifts, and it really cuts into our time together. Majorly. On the few days we both have off, every other weekend, he chooses to hang out with his friends. He works with his friends on the same schedule, an they are over every single day.\n\n I always feel like I have to force him to do anything with me and I'm getting tired of it. I always complain to him that it would be nice if we could spend time together. But, he just says in over reacting. And that I can hang out with him and his friends. The thing is, we haven't spent a day together just him and I in over a year. I like his friends but I just want a day where we can be together just us. I'm sick of being ignored for his friends, or video games and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "my boyfriend and I work opposite shifts and never see Eachother, on the few days off we both have together, he chooses to spend it with his friends over me."}
{"id": "t3_12udt9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Having trouble sticking to my daily calorie goal.", "post": "I'm slightly over halfway finished with my weight loss journey, I've got 30 pounds to go. I hit a plateau and decided to relax and let my metabolism recharge. Lately I got back on the wagon and decided to be totally honest with myself about what I'm eating, and discovered that I'm way overdoing it. What I thought was a 1600 calorie day turned out to be 2600! No wonder I'm not losing...\n\nSo now I'm planning what I eat and recording throughout the day, and my goal is 1200 (I'm petite and fairly sedentary). I can tell by my hunger etc. that I don't really need much. However, I can't stop eating. I do well during the day until I get home from work. I'll be moderately hungry and eat a decent dinner that should satisfy me and it does physically, but after that I'm mainly eating my feelings. It's like a driving need that I can't seem to control. \n\nI could up my calories a little but I don't think that will help, it's like a compulsion and I go way overboard like I'm on auto-pilot. I plan to add exercise, but I want to get a handle on my eating first, exercise will just make me feel I have an excuse to abuse my diet even more. I know \"put down the fork\" is the answer, but I can't seem to. \n\nAny advice is much appreciated, or just if you've been there.", "summary": "I can't seem to stick to a reasonable weight-loss calorie goal."}
{"id": "t3_4dhxxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "27f when will I learn that on and of relationships (4yrs) would never work out with 25m?", "post": "After 4 years I've been in this madness of up and down for 4 years and each time we would try dating again. Each time he would crush my heart and tell me he have commitment problems. Every time my ex breaks it off with me, I feel my world crashing over and this repeats itself where I can't get myself out of bed and call in sick from work. \n\nEach time we get back together, I truly believe that it will work out this next time. I would trust that he wanted a serious commitment. It would start out great, full of energy, love and affection. Then after this huge fight and a break, he said we should take a longer break to grow. He is afraid of missing out on life because he is young. That is his mentality. I would lash out by saying he just wants to hook up with multiple women. But we are both not the type for one night stands. \n\nI would fantasize about planning trips together, maybe even moving in with each other, etc. and he would rather say things where he doesn't mind living in another country for a year. That's the type of things he would say that would send me into so much hurt and anger. \n\nThroughout the relationship, I'd feel extremely insecure and anxiety because he was never sure in the end about us. This cause me to be crazy and lash out over little things and controlling. And sooner or later we break up once again. He doesn't understand the pain I go through each time I heal and start over again. This time the pain is ripped from a million bandages over the course of 4 years.", "summary": "ex always breaks up when it gets too serious and I get insecure, when will I learn not to go back to this on and off madness and hurt myself all over again?"}
{"id": "t3_3c6vty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell my (18F) SO of two years I(18M) used an escort (and regret it) but it has now made me never want to leave her?", "post": "Some background: I've been having an existential crisis lately where I don't see any point of living other than to reproduce and die. (I don't want to put the burden of life onto someone else either!) I discussed it with my friends and came down to \"enjoy your time here while you can\", so I decided I'd focus on the things I love, which are videogames and sex.\n\n With my GF and I going to seperate colleges in a month, I figured that this would be the end and I would be able to finally get my sex life going and have some fun. (We will be 12hrs apart by car)\n\n So now that I'm overseas I thought I'd visit an erotic massage place and enjoy myself. I recieved unprotected fellatio for 20seconds before I suggested that she wrap it up. We then had protected intercourse. \n\n It was not very enjoyable. It made me realize sex is not just about pleasing yourself or your partner but its about the special connection you share. I really regret not rubbing one out before I left that day.\n\n When I got home that night I realized I had betrayed my SO's trust and I cried thinking about it. How it would hurt her knowing I did this. I realized how special she is to me. (I'm tearing up as I write this.)\n\n I sent her a message that night telling her how much she meant to me and I would stay in a long distance relationship so that we could move in together and that I will stay loyal to her for four years. I meant it and I mean it forever, this experienced changed me for the better. I'm out of my existential crisis now, I realized that my purpose is in life is to build a great one with her, together.\n\n How can I break it to her? I'm a very honest person so I can't go on seeing her each day knowing I took advantage of her trust. I return to my country soon.\n\n(And I'm going to get an STD test even though i show no symptoms, just in case)", "summary": "sex with an escort made me realize I want to spend the rest of my life with my GF who sincerely cares for me and I need to tell her this"}
{"id": "t3_1th3ou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (23M) of one and a half years cheated on me (20F). So confused, need advice.", "post": "My boyfriend (23M) and I (20F) have been together for one year and seven months. We both have been cheated on in our past and vowed to never do that to one another.\n\nIn the beginning I could tell he was insecure and had trust issues from past relationships. I kept building him up and reassuring him. \n\nAbout seven months into our relationship he texted me under a new number pretending to be somebody else and I had responded to the flirtatious text. I had to regain trust in him and he was able to move forward. I have never cheated on him. \n\nFast forward to yesterday, I have had a feeling things weren't right. We haven't been seeing eachother as much even though we talk everyday and profess our deep love for eachother daily. I saw his phone had texts from two different women that were very flirtatious and that he's seen them multiple times. \n\nI confronted him and he begged and pleaded for me back and to forgive him like he forgave me. He claims that I have been distant (even though I make time for him) and that hes scared of me moving an hour away for school. He also says he did not have sex with them although one text from one woman asked if she could still come over to his apartment later. \n\nI made him leave a voicemail to one who he claims was his ex that cheated on him. He told her to never text him or call him back as he messed up a valuable relationship. He says I'm the woman he wants to marry, the love of his life, and that they don't mean anything. How do I trust him? What do I do? I dont know what to believe.", "summary": "My boyfriend of a year and seven months cheated on me with two different women because he says im distant and hes scared of losing me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2r9k7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mom (56f) thinks my (29m) girlfriend (23f) is too sexual. Is she on to something or is it an over reaction?", "post": "So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 months and I thought things were serious enough for me to invite her to my family's home for the Xmas holiday break. I didn't ask if I could share a bedroom with her, because it was OK with my previous girlfriend.  We moved our stuff into the same bedroom and spent the week there without incident.\nAfter she left, I had a couple days with my parents and my mom revealed she was worried about my girlfriend \"oozing sex\" and being way too touchy feely and that she wasn't emotionally mature. My mom and dad were  upset that we just shared a bedroom without asking. (I have my own apartment and they know that we spend most of our weekends together.)   Now my mom can be overly analytical of this stuff because she's in the counseling profession.\nMy girlfriend is pretty touchy feely but I like it and aren't all relationships mostly physical at the beginning?  I think she's really smart and sexy and fun to be around.  She is a bit younger than me so should I be worried about what my mom thinks? Might she have some validity for her concerns?", "summary": "my mom thinks my girlfriend is too physical and not emotionally mature. Should I listen to my mom and slow down a little with my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_jpab9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, am I doing it wrong, offered $5 to a college student who came to my door step asking for donations", "post": "Reddit, I got pissed off with a student's behavior today and wanted to find out if I did anything wrong!\n\nSo, this guy comes to my door step and showed me some papers (that he got admission into some college and needs some monitory help). He said typically people are giving him $20 but any amount is fine for him.\n\nI have seen guys like this very frequently, in our neighborhood, all earlier guys used to ask me to subscribe to a news paper (so that they would get some commission) and gave me a tip that I can cancel the subscription on the very same day when my subscription started.\nBecause of my experiences with this subscription cancellation etc., I used to just offer $5 and ask them to leave me alone on that subscription.\nSo I did the same with this guy asked me to stop explain the stuff and just  take $5, initially he agreed but I noticed later on that I didn't have exact change. I asked the same guy if he had change for $20 he started to explain how tough his life is and how $20 could change his situation etc.. I stopped him and said don't make me feel guilty and said I decided to give you $5 even before I started to listen your reasons and added that I myself have gone through tough times like this when I was a student.\nAt this point that guy got pissed off and started to curse me on my race religion etc.., and left the premises.\nReddit, let me know your opinion, did I do it wrongly?", "summary": "student came for donations, offered $5, he refuses and started cursing me..."}
{"id": "t3_2p7nkd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining Ian McKellens dinner.", "post": "Okay this wasn't today but in 2005.\n\nMy dad worked for a few production companies in London and often got to meet celebrities through work and as social friends. He managed to get tickets to go see a Pantomime in London which Ian McKellen was starring in as Widow Twankey. The show was a rendition of Aladdin.\n\nAfter the show we got to go backstage to see the cast, and as a 10 year old I was super exited because I was going to see fucking Gandalf in person! Holy shit I was pumped! \n\nWe get into the backstage area of the venue and inside a big dressing room where all the cast were getting out of their make up and costumes etc and sat down in the corner laughing away with Roger Allen was indeed Sir Ian McKellan, who was eating a[ Pot Noodle] on a saucer in a dressing gown and high heels (part of his show outfit)\n\nMy face lit up when I saw him, my dad walked me over to say hi and to sign the booklet about the show with his signature.\n\nAs my dad said who I was he stood up and said 'Ahhh!! Splendid to meet you young Mr_Murdoc!' But as he lent over to shake my hand I accidentally reached out for his and knock his Pot Noodle all over him and his dressing gown. He jumped with an 'oh my!' and began to wipe off all the noddles and sauce I just got all over him. All the other cast members were laughing like crazy.\n\nHe laughed it off as well and said it was alright and to give me the book so he could sign it. We ended up talking about some of the films he did and how I loved LOTR's and X-Men etc... Left with all their autographs which I still have (see below).\n\nIan, if you ever somehow read this, you were amazing. A true gentleman and a friendly person, sorry about the gown. \n\n**Proof", "summary": "Went to see show starring Ian McKellan, went backstage to see hima nd spilt food on him."}
{"id": "t3_3w10oi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] kissed, and almost went home with my friend [21 F] from college, however, I think she has a boyfriend, and I like her, advice?", "post": "So I recently went out and saw a friend of mine from college, we kissed at a few points throughout the night and had a great time and I had found out she wanted to come home with me (unless it was sarcastic flirting?).\n\nLong story short, it didn't happen which is fine, I don't care to simply sleep with her, because I actually care/like/respect her and would like to have a relationship with this girl but I think she might have a boyfriend. \n\nWhat do I do? to those who will inevitably say \"don't do anything, don't be selfish, she's happy and so is her boyfriend\" I get that, I do, however, I really care about her, and while I want her to be happy, I want to be happy to. Is there any way I can make this happen?", "summary": "Had a good night with a friend, she may have a boyfriend, I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3ew61i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a new mother she had a beautiful boobie.", "post": "So this just happened about half an hour ago. \n\nI work in a hospital. People have babies at hospitals. I was on our labor and delivery floor and I go into the patients room and she's breast feeding. She tells me I can continue though it won't bother her. This isn't all that unusual especially if it's not their first child. So anyway, I'm making small talk I smile at her and say \"You have a beautiful boobie\". What I had meant to say is you have a beautiful baby! I immediately turned bright red, correct myself and start apologizing profusely. \n\nShe just laughed and said \"Freudian slips are a bitch.\" with a big smile. This could have been sooooo much worse! Thank GOD the father had just stepped out to get some breakfast.", "summary": "said boobie meant baby. Mom was cool though."}
{"id": "t3_101wwa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(x-post from r/relationships) Should I [18]M stay or leave her [18]F?", "post": "Alright r/relationship_advice here's my story: I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now, she's my first girlfriend and i love her very much. I recently moved to another province and she decided to come with me. We are now living together, at first it was great! but lately I've been noticing a change in her. Don't get me wrong she's a great girl in some aspects.. for example she's cute, kind-hearted, loyal, loving, and cares about me a great deal. However, on the flip side, she's extremely jealous and over-sensitive, she's clingy, moody, and (this is going to sound horrible) but she's all around unintelligent which really bothers me as i would like a girl with whom i could share intellectual conversation with every once in a while. We are both attending college and i feel like it would be much easier for me to focus on my schooling and getting a career in the future if she wasn't here. But the problem with breaking up with her is that she would still live with me until her semester is finished in June.. which i fear could be awkward. So there, given the pro's and con's i've listed about her and given the information on my current situation, what do you guys and gals think I should do? I would like input from both a male and female perspective if at all possible. Thanks -Warinthenorth", "summary": "should i leave my gf of 1.5 years to focus on school?"}
{"id": "t3_2bd7ou", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Always seize the opportunity to help others", "post": "This is my first post so here's a little intro about what I do for work. I'm a security guard. I work the graveyard shift in the downtown part of my city. Nothing special. Being a security guard is easy money. \n\nAnyways, while making my first round I noticed a larger man in a wheelchair across the street trying to make it onto the curb. The transition for the handicapped access wasn't smooth enough and he was stuck. I crossed and pushed him onto the sidewalk. \n\nHe needed to go to the hospital five blocks the road. I called my supervisor and said I'd be back in a few I had to help this guy. I pushed him to the hospital and walked back. \n\nIf I had my headphones in like any other day, I wouldn't have seen him and he'd be struggling to get there. \n\nI'm not sure what was wrong but he had one arm and one leg missing.", "summary": "I pushed a large man with one leg and one usable arm five blocks to the hospital because he was alone and stuck on curb at 12am."}
{"id": "t3_yl6t3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Relationship - I need an out.", "post": "Story: Little over a year ago, we started dating. She has no concept of how expensive life is (she scrapes by month by month at her job), but wants to do things on a regular basis, which I find myself being responsible for funding. She demands an obscure amount of time (face-time 2-3 times during the week, as well as the entire weekend), alongside speaking by phone for a minimum of an hour every day.\nShe can't handle me being away for any reason, personal or professional, for more than a couple days.\nShe jumps to conclusions during innocent conversations, rendering her to tears for NO REASON.\nShe says things along the lines of: \"You're the best thing that has ever happened to me\" and \"I don't know what I'd do without you\".\nShe is far more invested in the relationship than I am; my schedule, wallet, and mental well being can't keep up any more.\nLooking for suggestions of how to handle the situation as gently as possible, without creating a psycho stalker ex.", "summary": "? -- I stuck my **** in crazy. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_10w6te", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update (10/03/12) from [30/m] Wife left with daughter, needs space to think...", "post": "Originally posting here -- \n\nSo here is an", "summary": "Progress is being made, not as fast as I would like but at least it's being done. Not sure what else to do at this point."}
{"id": "t3_4rklt3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (29/m) and I (28/f) have been together for a little over 2 yrs, but he has broken up with me several times. Can this be fixed?", "post": "It hurts very much every time he breaks up with me. This situation is taking a toll on me and I'd like to hear your thoughts about what's best to do.\n\nGenerally, this is what happens: we have an argument and it ends with him breaking up with me. He either goes completely silent or leaves the house for a few days while I am crying/begging him to stay. I know I shouldn't. Twice, I really thought it was over, had stopped all contact with him and he reached out to me.\n\nLast week, right before a camping trip, he threatened to break up with me before the end of the Summer and acted like nothing happened the next morning, being super nice to me. I feel frustrated, because it's like I have to tiptoe around him, he gets angry very quickly, sometimes calls me names in the heat of the moment. He acts nice with me infront of his friends, but otherwise we rarely have one on one dates. I don't mind that he needs alone time since I need a lot of that myself, but it is annoying that he doesn't want to help out with house chores. Furthermore, we aren't sleeping in the same bed nor does he seem enthused to get intimate. For the last part, it might just be my impression since I don't know how I feel about that myself with everything that has happened. \n\nI don't know what to think: are relationships this messy and am I just making too big of a deal out of this?\n\nFinally, I feel very vulnerable since my job contract ended unexpectedly about a month ago and maybe that puts more of a restrain on the relationship. I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts about whether this relationship can be fixed or not. Feel free to ask questions if I left out some important details. Thank you for reading me.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are together at the moment, but I feel very insecure and confused about everything. I am afraid it's a matter of days, weeks before the next time he threatens to break up."}
{"id": "t3_2w473e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 9 months, says she doesn't like me in a \"boyfriend\" way but wants to.", "post": "Ok, so long story short, me and my best friend met last summer. At the time, we both wanted something more however it was online. I wasn't sure if it was what she wanted because well, online was weird (at the time. I now realize if you love someone enough distance doesn't matter).\n\nIt was really rough leading up to now, it was on and off and eventually she fell for someone else (who rejected her). Now, we're basically trying to err, be more than friends but less than a relationship if that makes any sense. Instead of dating right away (we had done this previously, but it ended over an argument). We're best friends, and she says she really does want to like me in a \"boyfriend way\" and every time we split up she says she always wants me back as her \"boyfriend\" and not just a best friend, the feeling doesn't last very long though.", "summary": "On and off relationship with an online best friend, she doesn't like me in a boyfriend way, it's what we both want but she's not feeling it/liking me in a boyfriend way, do I cut it off with her or do we keep trying?"}
{"id": "t3_4kfpkj", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Injury: When to visit a doctor?", "post": "Well, I thought I was being careful, but here I am, confessing at the altar of Runnit, a runner's greatest sin: impatience.\n\nA week ago Sunday I went out for a 4 mile run as I am currently in the middle of a 10k training program. I started the run with what felt like a tight left glute, but I wasn't concerned. By mile 3 I was feeling some pain in my left hip (nothing super concerning), but finished my 4 miles because it had taken a lot of mental fortitude and willpower to get out there that day and I wanted to finish.\n\nI hobbled home and did some massage and stretching. Decided to rest up and heal. I skipped my scheduled Tuesday 3.5 mile, then the Thursday 2 mile, and now here I am going to skip my scheduled 4 mile run again because the pain hasn't really gone away. It's a dull, achey, pinching pain, maybe a 3 to 4 on the pain scale? Feels deep, but not in the actual joint itself.\n\nI've never experienced a sports injury like this before, and so I'm here wondering when and if you would see a doctor about this. I'm kind of crabby, because my race is at the end of June and I really want to at least perform moderately well on my first 10k.", "summary": "Dull achey pain in left hip, a week of rest hasn't resolved the problem...time to see a doctor? Yes/no/how to proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_san5y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people complain about reposts on Reddit?", "post": "People get surprisingly angry when they see reposts on a news aggregator website. \n\nI mean, I used to get a bit miffed when someone reposts the same thing I did a few months later but then I thought about it.\n\nIf a post is succesful, repost or not, and makes it onto the front page of a subreddit there has to be significantly more upvotes than downvotes. This being said, users have logged in and taken the time to upvote a post. So really if it gets on some sort of 1st page, it is not there by chance.\n\nTo some extent I feel that if there are enough people who enjoyed a post to the point that it has 800~ net karma then most people have enjoyed it.\n\nBut people still whine and complain. Even if someone had seen a post and downvoted/commented to complain about reposting, don't they realize that other people are enjoying the post? \n\n**There is definitely occasionally OC on and this OC gets reposted. So what? If there are upvotes to go around and people to enjoy content regardless of originality, why go ahead and whine about seeing it before? If these people take the trouble of logging in and commenting they might as well get RES and hide the post.", "summary": "Do people actually expect to see an information aggregator website devoid of reposts?"}
{"id": "t3_gcva8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone made effective use of their newfound free time after living a life of full-time work?", "post": "I noticed that since I started working full time, I have had much less free time to pursue my extracurricular activities. I have, however, also noticed that even with such little free time, I get a lot more done than when I was in university. I've learnt many skills, met many people and visited many places. When I was in university my free time was spent playing games, and that was about it (haven't discovered Reddit back fortunately).\n\nI like to think that I would become much more efficient with my usage of free time if I were to ever go back to a life of free time. I don't, however, think that is reasonable considering during my vacations and holidays I have had so far I tended to just sit around at home doing nothing.\n\nI'm curious about the thoughts of those of you who have had the opportunity to complain while at an office job about the lack of free time to pursue your own hobbies, and then found yourself in a situation where you had plenty of time to do whatever you wanted. Did you use that time effectively or did you just waste time like you used to?", "summary": "For those of you who have worked full time for many years (and regretted how you wasted your free time when you were younger), quit and then returned to a life of free time, did you use the free time as effectively as you would have liked?"}
{"id": "t3_2nl0bc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By pasting Navy Seals on Tinder", "post": "So last month i was checking out tinder and there was a girl posting weird replies, i started to bullshit too and in the end i pasted the navyseal pasta and unmatched her.\n\nfast forward today , my friend calls me telling me cops are looking for me because of the pasta. \nI asked him why cops went to him and that's because his car plates were visible in one of my pics. \nHe obviously told the cops they are looking for me as they got the wrong person.\n\nSo I don't know what to do? what charges cops are gonna file on me ? if i can get away by saying it was spam ,they got the screen shots.\n\nFrankly, i am bit terrified now .", "summary": "posted navyseals pasta on tinder,girl went to cops and cops are now looking for me."}
{"id": "t3_v8rte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf fucked a random guy; should we have a (ffm) threesome?", "post": "Me (22m)\n\nGf (21f)\n\nDating for 4 years. (Both virgins before hooking up)\n\nGf just admitted to me that she had sex with a random guy while drunk after a party. She is *very* ashamed/ regretful and is afraid that I will dump her (she admits that if I had have done that to her she would have dumped me).\n\nI'm happy that she was the one who told me, and feel weird just how much it doesn't hurt me (it helps that I know she is really sorry). I still trust her.\n\nWe have toyed with the idea of having a ffm threesome before (she is a bit bi-curious) but I decided against it since I knew how insanely jealous she would be afterwards.\n\nNow she will do anything to make it up to me and suggested the threesome. I'm not sure if she is just saying that to relieve her guilt, and don't want her to do something she doesn't want to. And most of all I don't want to lose her.\n\nSo guys and gals, are threesomes all they are cracked up to be? Does having a threesome adversely affect relationships?", "summary": "My gf had sex with a random guy after a party and wants to make it up to me by having a ffm threesome. Does this type of situation ever end well?"}
{"id": "t3_z5vrn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it horribly wrong/weak of me to want my boyfriend to tell me he thinks I'm beautiful?", "post": "We are M and F, late 30's - dating for a year.\n\nI know through his actions and demeanor that my amazing boyfriend loves me.  I have zero doubt that this is the person I am meant to be with for a very long time/forever.  I also am usually fairly confident in my looks etc though I once in a while fall into old ways of thinking that allow my insecurities run amok in my head for various reasons. \n\nBasically, while he is there for me and clearly loves me in every way possible he never really says to me that he thinks I am beautiful or even pretty.  He has on occasion when I am dressed up to go out indicated that I look 'nice' and he definitely is attracted to me in bed.  I just never hear from him the actual words. If we were to break it down into that \"love languages\" thing, he is a 'do-er', he shows his love via quality time and actions, I am a talker and show my love via words and physical touch.  In this we are pretty extreme.  We even have a running joke about sexting since he really just doesn't or hardly responds when I have come at him with a sexy email or text, I typically get a smiley as a response.  (Yes, I know, but bitches love....blahblah)\n\nHe is definitely my best friend and a generous lover. I adore him and believe that he feels the same. I am overall very happy and feel that he is too, but he almost never tells me in the same way that I tell him except sometimes he responds with \"I feel the same\" or \"Of course I like you or I wouldn't be here...\"  Which deflates me because I want at least once in a while for him to spontaneously tell me what it seems that he feels or is thinking.  \n\nOR: Is me wanting him to tell me how he feels in actual words a valid thing or is it something that comes from the marinating of past self esteem issues/bad relationships/pop culture conditioning?", "summary": "Is it wrong of me to want to hear him say to me that he thinks I am pretty or just express emotions to me the same way that I do?  Is this is just 'my problem' to get over -- or something that needs to be discussed with him and if yes then how?"}
{"id": "t3_10w8ke", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/f] my boyfriend [25/m] is too clingy!", "post": "Hi all!\nSo I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years now. He is totally wonderful except he is so clingy. \n\nWhen ever we are alone he is always cuddling me too close and holding me and it feels suffocating. When we are in public he is always trying to hug me from behind and constantly kissing me. He will always try to kiss me on the neck in public and it is driving me nuts! I hate pda. hate it. Its driving me crazy. I have tried to get him to stop but if I mention anything he'll pout and walk behind me. If I get irritated when we're alone he'll ask me if he is a clingy boyfriend and i'll say yes, he will giggle and tell me he's ok with that. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I think I'll explode at him one day.\n\nWhy is he doing this? and how can I make him stop?", "summary": "boyfriend loves excessive pda. I want him to cut it out and not pout when I ask him to stop."}
{"id": "t3_4xsjkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [19 F] known her for a couple years. I like her", "post": "So I've known this girl for a couple years (about 4) and day by day i realize she's everything I want in a girl. But I don't know what to do about it because I've never had a girlfriend before and never really been intimate with someone. \n\nWe went to elementary together but didn't really talk much. Afterwards she moved and to another country and came back when we started 9th grade. \n\nwe went to the same school through 9th - 12th grade. I liked her back then too but didn't realize it until now how much she means to me. \n\nWhen we still were in school we didn't really talk over the phone much because we hung out at school and some times in the weekend. The problem is that none of us texts a whole lot so communication is kinda weak now and I don't know how to tell her that i like her without risking our \"friendship\". Although it should be noted that she's a very kind and understanding person so I don't know what her reaction will be.\n\nShe's the kindest person in the world, she's funny and caring and is the only person who manages to make me genuinely happy without having to fake it.\n\nSorry if this sounded like a rant but I have so much going through my head while now knowing if she even cares about me.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Shy guy [19M] have feelings for friend [19F] of 4 years, never had a gf so don't know how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_4deszz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm a flake, will you help me fix it?", "post": "I never actually ditch anyone, but I'm late to almost everything and I have a hard time \"penciling\" people into my schedule. I tend to designate people blocks of time before running off to do the next thing.\n\nI'm in college and transferred from another local university. So I have my friends from my old school and then friends from my new school. At my new school, I'm a part of two different sororities (one social and one community service) and have worked at two different on-campus internships. I currently work about twenty hours a week on top of taking a full course-load of classes.\n\nBefore college, I never used to have friends or anything. Now that I have friends and I have things to do and I'm actually a functioning member of society, I feel like I'm neglecting everybody and eventually nobody will like me anymore because I don't have any time for them.\n\nIn addition, I'm worrying about giving everybody the time that they need and I'm not saving enough for myself. When I do have downtime, I like to spend it watching movies or reading books instead of actually doing the work I need to do because I just need some time to relax from it all (I'm a natural introvert pretending to be socially talented).", "summary": "I'm a naturally shy person that suddenly has a ton of friends and social obligations. I'm \"penciling people in\" to my schedule and it makes it seem like I think I'm too important/busy for others. I just want to make everybody happy and still have time to be happy myself. Help me manage my schedule better because I have no organizational skills!"}
{"id": "t3_1im7b5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recommended website hosting for artist: Leifkicker", "post": "Hello Reddit! I am artist/craftsman Leifkicker and for years I've simply relied on the store front of Etsy and eBay to get by. Id really like to take the next step and put up a webpage as I think its silly to link people to my eBay or Etsy store when they ask what do I do, or do I have a website. I do have a webpage/domain at www.leifkicker.com Its currently just a hold page until I can fine tune it and make it more presentable. I want to make a simple website with pages to show my customers past, current, and upcoming projects. A forum would be nice, have some contact info for new customers, and maybe someday add in some eCommerce. I feel like a gallery is a must. I have browsed endlessly trying to find the best match and I just can't decide on who to go with. So many offer basically the same thing. I've also heard godaddy is forbidden so I guess I ruled them out. For someone who can build just about anything I cant understand why building a website has troubled me for so long.", "summary": "Who is best option to host a website and offer some kind of templates at a fair price. "}
{"id": "t3_3tjfn2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M], Picking between long-time friend [17M], her [15F] sister, or her sister's [15F] friend", "post": "I'm in Grade 12 at high school, staying for another year next year.  I don't get around and have had practically no relationships.\n\nI have known a girl [17F, GR12] for 4 years.  Let's call her Jess.  We've always gotten along very well but have never been romantically involved.  She is really fun to be around.  I didn't really notice she was attractive until this year, (eh, big school).  I sit with her and a few others at lunch.\n\nI'm in a class for a musical at my school. There are 79 students in the class, including crew and cast.  I am playing the male lead.\n\nJess' sister [15F, GR10] is in the class.  Let's call her Jill.  She is a nun in the musical. Not a major role, but she does have some solos.  I only met her in passing last year.  This year, I have gotten to know her better.  Whenever we talk, she seems to laugh at all my crappy jokes and might(?) be flirting with me.  She started conversations with me on FB.  She is really attractive.\n\nJill's friend [15F, GR10] is also a nun.  Let's call her Amanda.  I had never spoken a word to her until this year.  I like everything about her.  I try not to stare.  She has a beautiful singing voice, and may have been a female lead if she wasn't busy being a dancer (outside of school) as well.  We talk every day during class, and always seem to have fun around each other.\n\nI want a serious relationship, I don't know who to pick.  Also, I can't pick one, get rejected, and go for a different girl.  Amanda would tell Jill if I asked her out first; Jess would tell Jill if I asked her out first; Jill would tell either if I asked her out first.  \n\nOnce (if) I decide I will post any updates.", "summary": "I am trying to decide between my [17F] friend, her [15F] sister, and her's sister's friend [15F]."}
{"id": "t3_zouty", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what events in your neighborhood have made you think twice about your living situation?", "post": "I live in an older neighborhood in my city where the houses are usually very close together and my house/the empty house next door are no exception. Last night someone broke into the backyard of that house and lit the porch and back door on fire with some sort of fuel. The smell of the smoke woke me up in time to call the Fire Dept and by the time they arrived the fuel had mostly burned itself out, with a small fire still going.\n\nThe place has been empty and for sale for a few months. I suspect it was foreclosed on and this was retaliation, or this was some sort of attempted insurance fraud. I have no way to know for sure since there are no witnesses/leads. \n\nHad the fire gone unnoticed and grown, it would have likely jumped to my house and the other close residence. The whole thing makes me wonder if someone will try again and in the process burn down half the neighborhood.", "summary": "Arson next door has me wondering about my house's safety."}
{"id": "t3_1ygdhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my [19 F] almost 1 year, how do I tell her I think she's too clingy?", "post": "We've been dating for almost 1 year and things were great for awhile. We have been getting into more arguments since I graduated, she's still in school. She also has a problem with depression that we're trying to handle, but I think the main problem is that she doesn't seem to have a life of her own. I know that may seem harsh to say but it seems like she wants to spend all of her free time with me. I love spending time with her but I don't get much time to myself between her and work. I don't get to work on my own projects or hang out with friends much.\n\nWhenever I tell her that I want to work on things or hang out with friends I think she takes it as I don't want to hang out with her or that I don't care about her. I feel like I'm the only thing that makes her happy due to her depression and so I feel responsible for her happiness, which doesn't seem fair. I want to tell her to go out and make more friends, find more hobbies. I don't want to be the only thing she has in her life.\n\nI'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. Any thoughts are welcome, I don't want this relationship to end but I'm afraid if something doesn't change it will.", "summary": "Girlfriend of almost 1 year, has become very clingy and gets upset easily when I want to have some alone time. She seems to want to spend all of her time with me and I just want some time to have to myself sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_1w80fs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [26f] wants to get back together with my ex [41m]", "post": "Update: So the ex sent me a text last night saying that he didn't understand why I had an okcupid profile when I wanted to try and get back together with him, he said that it seemed like I was more \"lonely and sad\" and not a person sho was still in love with him. I created my profile about 2 weeks ago and haven't been on any dates, because he wasn't communicating with me; meanwhile he reactivated the account I met him through right after the break up, and has been on dates.\n\nI tried to explain to him, that I haven't been using the account at all, and haven't  been on any dates, and I brought up the fact that he never deleted the account he had originally (we had talked about eventually getting hitched, so to me it seems like he kept the profile because he never planned on getting hitched). \n\nHe is also convinced that I have narcissistic  personality disorder, which is devastating for me to hear. I have gone to my shrink about this, and my shrink said   no that I don't have this, and that it sounds like my ex is projecting. I told this all to my ex, in an attempt to open communication and to get him to drop this \"diagnosis\", and I even got a second opinion from a counselor that specializes in personality disorders,who also said that I don't have npd, though I do display signs of defaulting into co-dependent behaviours. Even though 2 medical professionals have said I don't have npd, my ex continues to say \"that's classic npd\" when I say something contrary to what he wants.\n\nHe is also, negating anything I say as lying, or thinking only of me, or of changing  the subject.  I know I'm not perfect, and I know I caused him a lot of pain, it's just so hard to try and apologize and fix things between us so that we can move on and rebuild, when he takes anything I say and twists it into the opposite of what I intended it to mean, and that when I try to explain in different ways he says I'm lying or back tracking\n\nSorry for bad link posting, my laptop died, and I'm using a crappy tablet:", "summary": "Ex tested me last night, called me a jerk for having okcupid profile, even though he's been on dates.  Also throws npd armchair diagnosis around."}
{"id": "t3_4al056", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Her (21 F) ex hug-lift-spin her in front of me (23 M), normal?", "post": "We have only recently got together. She knew him for a long time in college before they dated for 8 months. It didn't work out and they broke up 10 months ago. She claims that neither of them have romantic feeling for each other and are just good friends. She has weekly standing lunch plans with him and texts him frequently. There was an instance where she got a job and when we ran into her ex, he hug-lift-spin her in front of me and her friend. \n\nI am not good at trusting someone half way, and I really don't have time/energy/interest to be suspicious, so I fully trust her. But I involuntarily feel uncomfortable and disrespected. It really is not an issue that I would ever mention if I don't happen to be free and start feeling curious about how normal is their behavior. What do you guys think?\n\n**P/S**: While I feel disrespected, I don't see the need of explicitly disallowing her to do this. I posted this mainly to find out whether or not I am the only one who thinks this hug-lift-spin is weird. And thanks so much for all the comments so far!", "summary": "Is it normal her ex hug-lift-spin her in front of me and her friend?"}
{"id": "t3_jwvoi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the worst that can happen?", "post": "So tonight I walk back to my apartment defeated and utterly lack the will to live right now.\nI'm an Intelligence Analyst for the Army National Guard. I hold a Top Secret Clearance. and Im 20.\nI'm already on diversion because when I was sober, I drove a drunk friend home, who happened to have weed on him when I was driving him home, to then be pulled over by the police.\nI'm on a 90 day diversion, 1 UA a month, everyday I call to see if my 'Color' is called to go take a breathalyser test. Tonight, I decided to have 2 shots with a friend (it takes alot to get me even buzzed) who is getting married in a week and I can't make it. Luckily enough, my other friend who was taking us to a place to meet other friends, got pulled over with an open container and breathalysed, and thrown in jail.\nI (being the good natured, newly renewed Christian I am(couple months,trying to turn a new leaf)) told the officer what happened the whole night. \nexplaining that I'd be totally F**ked if anything else happened to my record while on diversion. TS clearance- gone, ADOS job to pay bills - gone, and 1 of 2 other things would happen... A:I'd lose my clearance and HOPEFULLY be allowed to reclass to a different job, and owing the $20k, or B:Be kicked out of the military for not having the job they gave me, and still owe them $20k for the enlistment bonus.\nEither way I look at it.. I'm fucked because doing the good thing and telling the cop I had something to drink and cooperating with him about the night.\nSo my question is.. Why shouldn't I leave the country and just travel the world and leave all my family and life behind to travel and read the bible......\n\nAnd in the meantime.....AMA....I'll try my best.''", "summary": "Got MIP'd, end of career in the Intelligence Community of the USA, possibly get kicked of the military under dishonorable discharge."}
{"id": "t3_3bm9aw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/M] with my girlfriend [20/F] 6 months, met girlfriend on night out she's with her (guy/girl) friends, she tells me to go back t0 my friends, blames me for not wanting to see her", "post": "Ok so I go with my friends on a night out, girlfriend goes with hers (both are friendship groups have girls/boys in), I bump into her by accident early on in the night, we have small talk for a few minutes, both of us are laughing (having fun), then she tells me to go back to my friends. I haven't offended any of her friends or anything, there's nothing me or my friends have done wrong - just to get that straight.\n'You should go back to your friends', I keep the conversation going, wanting to stay with her a bit longer, replying 'yeah in 5 minutes (etc. etc.)'. Eventually I just go back, respecting what she told me to do and not wanting to question her in front of friends (I always avoid getting friends involved in disagreements with relationships - we both do).\n\nOn top of this she has introduced me to her friends like once - I always respect peoples privacy and keeping friendships separate, but when my girlfriend doesn't want me top hang around with her and her friends, feel devalued by her.\n\nAt the end of the night, I question why, apparently it's my fault as she didn't think I wanted to see her. I make it clear that she was the one who told me to go back to my friends.\n\nWe've also had an issue with meeting each others friends too, she has met all of mine, knows them well etc. But I have barely met hers. I told her a couple of weeks ago, that I wanted to meet her friends. She told me that she would let me meet them etc. etc. It's not like it would be hard for me to meet them - she hangs out with them all the time.\n\nOpinions on why she is doing this? Where do I go from here?", "summary": "Meet girlfriend on night out with her friends, she tells me to go back to my friends, then blames me for not wanting to see her - I haven't met her friends more than once."}
{"id": "t3_2doyrp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19f] girlfriend is breaking up w me because I [20m] searched my ex [20f] on facebook", "post": "Weve been together for almost two years our anniversary is January 4th. Now, me and my ex go to the same college, my girlfriend has trust issues because I used to be a liar and a Jerk, I changed my whole life over the past years and stopped blaming the world for things n treating people like shit, I changed a lot for her and mostly for myself but she has it stuck in her head I'm not over my ex, which was a problem in our relationship. but I'm passed that and over my ex.\n\nShe thinks I'm in denial and love my ex but ik I love my girlfriend. Now about the Facebook my ex chills with a lot of kids in my fraternity so I saw some photos and I went to check them out n see what people were up to. She thinks this is the worst thing n on top doesn't believe me n thinks I was just checking on her because you know, \"I love her\"  and all. She blocked my number and i can facebook message her but id rather see her in person, she leaves to go back to school sunday and i leave to go back wednesday, i feel like a holes been punched through me, i love her so much.", "summary": "My girlfriend has trust issues so she broke up with me when i was just looking at some photos that were on my exes profile of mutual friends that we have, was not interested in her at all."}
{"id": "t3_1mfpyx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Tired of being used.", "post": "Why do  keep putting myself out there and trying to help people and actually care? For the most part people are just using me to get something. \nEveryone just looks out for themselves. I'm tired of it. People are greedy and will pretend to care just to get what they want. \nIt's been this way my whole life it seems. This is why I shut down and close myself off from people. \n\nI'm not so jaded as to cut myself off from everyone forever, but I'm going to be more careful. And I AM going to take a few days for myself. I'm going to be \"selfish\" for a 2 or 3 days and not bother with anyone. Cut off communication for the most par. Just kind of whatever. \n\nI keep falling into the same trap. Though this time it wasn't as harsh as previous times and didn't last as long. It only being \"online people\" that I haven't known long makes it better in some ways but makes me feel a bit more dumb for putting myself out there like I did. \n\nPeople just don't give a shit. Greed rules over all.  \nI'll stick to the friends I have and go back to lurking in the shadows for the most part.", "summary": "People are greedy, I'm giving myself permission to take a few \"selfish\" days, and no more new \"friends\"."}
{"id": "t3_4ypl9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [30M] and I [25F] have feelings for each other but he has someone else. How can I deal with this and not feel envious?", "post": "Well, he and I have told each other we have feelings for each other but he's sleeping with someone else and still is. I don't want this type of relationship. But I see him very frequently and I see him with her frequently as well. Every time I see them together I feel really sad. I go along fine and happy because I don't see that very often but when I do it's ouch! \n\nI have distractions and hobbies and such, and no I can't go no contact as I have many parallel things that I have to do with him. \n\nI've had as little contact as I could with him, not talking much and only about things we have to communicate with. He has no social media which is good. \n\nI'm not so much jealous but more envious of the closeness and how he shares his life and stories with her. We used to be like that and this happened, and I've tried to still be friends but my feelings got in the way. It doesn't seem to be bothering him outwardly, which kind of hurts. Because of that I went to as little contact as possible. He did ask me if I hated him and wondered if we were still friends. \n\nI would like to balance between being the friends we used to be and not being envious over his relationship. I don't know if this going to as little contact as possible is something that is a mature thing to do, and if I've hurt him if he has to wonder if I hated him. I really would like to resume our old friendship, I loved it, but hate the envy and sadness I get now. Any advice would be great. Thanks!", "summary": "Is there really any realistic way to still be good friends with someone you have mutual feelings for and not feel ridiculously upset and sad when you see them with their partner?"}
{"id": "t3_4flt6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16m] with my friend [16m], is always threatening to hurt/kill himself, and needs help for sure", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nMy friend, who I will call Bob, gets extremely depressed over very very smallest things. Bob always threatens others and himself, that he will hurt/kill them, and he usually never does if he's left alone, and the next day he's all better. But that personality change and anger is what I'm worried about, because if he can become like this over minor things, what will happens if something major happens to him, and he goes batshit crazy? I can imagine him stabbing or hurting someone in rage, and I'm worried he might go to jail/prison one day because of it.\nWhenever he is angry, he does have a knife, and always threaten to kill others/himself, and he \"hates himself\" for not being able to hurt them. I think he needs help, fast. What do I do?", "summary": "I'm worried my suicidal friend will actually do something one day, and I think he needs help, fast, but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_121cgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on cheating.", "post": "Alright some back information, I'm 18 female I've been in a few really great relationships with some really great girls! I'm currently in one (it's been 2 months) and I have to say I couldn't be happier. My girlfriend is the greatest thing I could ever ask for and more than I'd ever expect from a person. I'm not unhappy at all, not bored at all (of the sex either.. that's just.. amazing), I have no issues really with the relationship and how it is!\n\nThat being said.. why do I think about cheating? I know I have a really *really* high sex drive, but hers is rather high as well. It works out great, and I can't complain at all about what/how she does. \n\nI just have always, in every relationship, felt an urge to cheat. Not to end my relationship, but because *I know* that it's bad. That's why I want to do it? I'm just looking for opinions here, maybe someone else faces the same thoughts? I have dreams that I can control and I'll dream of my girlfriend all the time but some nights I'll cheat in my dreams. There's just this feeling that hits me where it's like.. \"yeah.. I'd do that. It's bad.. but I want to.\"\nAs a side note maybe, it's always been part of my \"fantasies\" to do bad things. (sex with a teacher..coach..married woman..someone else cheating with me) Maybe I'm just attracted to the bad things? \n\nI never would though! I love my girlfriend and I'd never want to hurt her. I'm just curious as to what it means/any advice or thoughts on it. Any questions as well I can answer! Thanks for reading this jumbled train of thoughts!", "summary": "In a perfect relationship, no complaints about sex/love/feelings/I'm very happy! But still want to cheat, maybe because I know it's bad? Just looking for opinions/advice! Thanks"}
{"id": "t3_3f6ec2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not saying Goodbye.", "post": "As most of the fuck up's here, this didn't happen today but a couple of days ago.A good friend of mine hardly uses any form of social networking and never gave his phone number let's call him Josh. So Josh had told a group consisting of me and my friends that he was leaving to his homeland, never specified the date or when he would leave. Keep in mind were 17 so we're going to be seniors in high school.  \n  I would also like to mention that I'm a  pretty competitive gamer I like to play mainly Counter Strike: Global Offensive nd DoTA2 each of which require concentration and require a lot of silence and patience to play. Meaning I put my phone on \"Do Not Disturb\" Mode and threw it somewhere so it wouldn't distract me from the match.  \n  \nSo a couple of days ago i was in the middle of one of my matches when i got a text on Whatsapp from another one of my friends telling me that Josh was going to the airport and asked if i would like to say goodbye to him. Me, being in the middle of the match payed no attention to it. After several hours of playing a few matches i threw in the towel and called it a day.When i checked my phone i was shocked and asked my friend if Josh was still there and if there was any chance I could still say goodbye, he said that he's already boarded and his flight already took off. A long time friend someone I've known for as long as i can remember and i forget to say fucking goodbye to him. I may never see or hear from him again, call it far-fetched but thats My Tifu.", "summary": "Fuck steam and my gaming habits."}
{"id": "t3_408oxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [21F] has a big problem that we can't see each other for a couple of days and questions my feelings for her because of it.", "post": "Hey there everyone,\n\nI just had quite a long phone conversation with my girlfriend.\n\nWe are both working in the same company and she has had a couple days off from past wednesday till sunday (tomorrow). I have off tomorrow (sunday). Next week I have off monday till wednesday evening and due to some circumstances we won't be seeing each other till next sunday (the 17th).\n\nIt was said that she would come back this sunday afternoon and we then go out for dinner and have the evening for us.\n\nToday she called and said that she'd come back from vacation already tonight if I'd like. I told her that I would like to have the half of sunday to my own as previously stated just to have some peace to myself (it's my first day off this week) and mind my own things until the afternoon.\n\nShe started questioning our relationship (which is about 8 months young) and that she feels like I would not appreciate the time with her since we can't see each other next week as well.", "summary": "How long don't you mind not seeing each other?"}
{"id": "t3_1vbt8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F21) found a condom in my boyfriend's (M22) dresser...", "post": "MY Boyfriend (of a year) and I stopped using condoms... it might have been in the summertime, might have been before that.  \n\nAnyway, we just started using them again last night.  We threw the one condom we used away, and put the box of condoms on his dresser. Well, this morning, while I was packing up, I opened his dresser to put the condoms away.  There was a used condom in his dresser.  I don't think my boyfriend would ever cheat on me, but why was a used condom in his dresser...\n\nI should also note that we're in college and don't usually spend time in his parents' house (this was his parents house).  We're just on a month long winter break.", "summary": "didn't think my boyfriend would cheat on me, but there is a used condom in his dresser?"}
{"id": "t3_28uc0s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[207lb M] Trying \"intermittent fasting\" and its going great", "post": "So basically I skip breakfast now. I still have my coffee, it seemed to really help with hunger at first. I drink it black, no calories! I have really bad heartburn all the time, so I do a cold brew coffee. It makes black coffee really smooth and not bitter. I use[ this thing] its amazing\n\nI eat lunch at noon, and I go at it hard. 700 calories. Usually i just eat leftovers from dinner, like mashed potatoes and slow cooker turkey breast or something\n\nthen we eat dinner at 5-6pm, another 700 calories, total of 1400. \n\nAt this rate I'm losing 2lbs a week with no exercise, I don't feel hungry, I'm not eating fast food anymore (my biggest problem). I'm 207 now, once I reach my goal of 155 I'll just start eating a good breakfast again and to stop losing. This is the easiest time I've ever had and I feel like this has been totally effortless.", "summary": "something finally is working for me and I'm excited"}
{"id": "t3_3ddeou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [25] was giving me mixed signals and I [F/23] decided to ignore him", "post": "After a few weeks of flirting with a guy, I became completely tired of his bullshit and ignored him completely. No text messages, no FB likes, nothing. We had a really nice time together and I could see us dating, but he would always ask me out, make specific plans and then cancel two hours beforehand. Or he would let me do all the work (like calling him first) and start flirting again like everything was OK. \n\nWell I was finally tired of his bullshit and stopped communicating with him. I wasn't a bitch about it, I just stopped talking to him. Now he is begging me for a date and is initiating conversations. Does he think I am playing hard to get? Do guys like being ignored? Was I too available??", "summary": "do guys enjoy being ignored?"}
{"id": "t3_122ha6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I have the opportunity to retaliate against someone who has wronged me. What should I do?", "post": "Earlier this week, something of extremely high value went missing from one of our work facilities. I used an e-mail to make a public announcement that it was missing and I was looking for it. Today, I discovered hard and undeniable evidence of who had last seen/touched my property.\n\nWhen I asked the culprit in a casual and non-confrontational manner, he denied ever seeing it and said that he \"feels my pain\". Then I informed them of the evidence against them, and he admitting to having taken it.This made him visibly nervous. I told him I don't care why he did it, and I just wanted my property back. At this time I am the only person that knows he is the culprit, and I told him that I would keep it that way as long as he immediately did what I ask. \n\nBut now I am having second thoughts. This guy knew exactly what he was doing to me when he took my stuff, because I straightforward told him the repercussions of my loss. For lack of better words, he completely fucked me. Then he had the audacity to look directly into my face and say that he didn't have it, but he felt bad for me. Obviously he didn't feel the need to worry about my problems, and I don't see why I should care about his problems. \n\nThis is someone I see every day. We have the same professional network, peers, and superiors. Basically, all I would have to do is let any of our colleagues know the identity of our department's thief. I am a well-liked and respected member of this \"community\", and somebody that tried to screw me would instantly be outcast. I think that this is fair punishment for the amount of stress and anguish that was caused to me, but that's just my opinion.", "summary": "Someone tried to screw me, I caught them red-handed, and now I can screw them. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rnzal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] and my SO [23F] are too competitive and keep getting into fights", "post": "We have been together for about a year and things have generally been going well, but somehow we keep getting into fights because she feels like I'm always trying to 'one up' her on everything. \n\nSo our latest fight started when we were playing a silly little mobile game where you collect coins for a highscore. The game is connected to Facebook so you can see who's score you just beat. I set a pretty decent score and challenge her by telling her she's not going to beat me (which obviously she was going to because the score wasn't THAT good). So she sets out to beat me and does so gleefully. At this point I'm pretty hyped and think 'the game is on'. I beat her highscore the next day and she gets mad at me for doing so. She told me that I couldn't let her score be on top for even a day or so and that me being competitive all the time is frustrating. \n\nThis has happened before with games like Wii Sport, where she would just play in silence after losing consecutive rounds of tennis. It also happens when we wrestle or go for a run or even cook something. I sometimes feel like she'd rather plug her ears than listen to any advice I give her because it would mean I'd 'win'  by being more knowledgeable. Somehow I always manage to turn every situation into a competition. \n\nI am pretty competitive by nature and i might come off too strong by challenging her a bit too often. I've tried to adjust and tone it down a notch; lay off the smacktalk. I love her to death, but can't help enjoying a good challenge and feel like it would be disingenuous to let her win by performing poorly. \n\nI enjoy our activities together and would like to keep doing them without her feeling like she has to compete with me all the time. It's kinda hard at times because most games/sports are competitive by nature. Not sure what to do at this point..", "summary": "Girlfriend and I get into fights because she thinks I turn every situation into a competition."}
{"id": "t3_311yym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] just got a new job in a new city and am planning to move with my [23F] girlfriend. However, I'm having second thoughts on our relationship.", "post": "So like the title says I'm moving to a new city within the next month for my first big boy job. I've been planning on taking my girlfriend of over a year with me but lately I've been having second thoughts on our relationship. I find that when I'm with her I'm thinking about the moment I'll be free to play video games or do whatever I want to do. We've almost broken up before but I decided to give it a couple more chances.\n\nI guess the issue is that I feel sort of dead inside. I care about her but I don't really see a future and I don't really know how to break the news without completely shattering her heart and mine in the process. Should I simply tell her how I'm feeling and let us both try to move on from this?", "summary": "I'm going to be moving and idk if I should break up with my gf of over a year"}
{"id": "t3_1g3vok", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Rejection?", "post": "Gather around kids it's story time. So friend and I are at the bar enjoying a beer after a long ride on our bikes. When this fairly hot woman walks in with a group of her friends for (girls night?). My friends takes notice of her and thinks she's cute. A few drinks later he decided that he was going to go talk to her while her friends where dancing. They start talking and are flirting back and fourth. A few minutes later her friends come back and she flips personalitys faster then sponge bob flipping a burger. She starts in to her friends that this creep came over and wouldn't  leave, she also said he didn't have a chance since he was way below her in looks. But what she didn't know is my friend is extraordinarily vendictive. She was wearing high heel you know the ones with the supper skinny heel. The started to walk away and my freind kicked the heel breaking it and ruining her night with her friends. I'm not sure if this is petty but it was really funny for me anyways.", "summary": "My freind get rejected he ruined a pair of heels and some ones night"}
{"id": "t3_1acjqh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Seriously.. What can I do to wake up on time??", "post": "Ive been number one in sales for the past 3 months at my store.. My sales are unstoppable. My main goal is to get promoted. However... Every Friday we have meetings at 7:30am. I live 30 minutes away from my store.. I'm already on a verbal warning, but today is probably going to push it to a written.. So it will actually be on fucking file. \n\nThis is the most ridiculous god damned reason to get fired from a job.. But I set 3 alarms to go off every minute. I start all 3 alarms (2 phones and my computer that plays sound through the TV) at 6:15. And I literally set them to go off every single minute. When I work at 8:30, it works every time.. But for some fucking reason, when we have our meetings, I can never fucking wake up in time. Today, I woke up at 7:30. The time our meeting fucking starts. So by the time I made it there, the meeting would be over anyway.", "summary": "How the fuck can I wake up on time!? Is there an alarm clock I can buy that  beats the shit out of me or something!!?!? I don't give a shit if you downvote everything I ever do if you can give me a good answer.."}
{"id": "t3_1h8nde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24F] just split with my best friend[23M] after 4 months together but 5 years as best friends, dont know if ive screwed everything up.", "post": "Sorry for massive wall of text\n\nwe became best friends five years ago after statting working together, but i was in a long term relationship. I was aware of his feelings but decided to just be friends due to other half.\n\nabout 5 months ago I started developing feelings for him, so I split with my ex (we were rocky for a while) and after about a week my best friend hit on me. I told him I dont think I could do it as I needed time, and he basically gave me an ultimatum saying he couldnt wait any longer and couldn't be my friend anymore.\n\nI didnt want to lose him so I decided to try ad give it a go. And for a while it was great, I mean amazing sex with your best friend? Who doesn't want that right? \n\nThings started to go wrong a month ago when he told me he was properly in love with me and how we're going to be together forever and since then ive basically freaked and realised I cant settle down right now. I haven't been sinhle in so long to just know myself and just be who I am and focus on myself.\n\nIve always chosen sort of broken people to date because I always want to help people and this was the same deal where he isnt really going anywhere.in his life or doesnt do very much where as im passionate about alot of things like art and photography and ive almost graduated from uni where as he hasnt even started yet. and ive realised I shouldnt go into something to change someone to be what I want, who I want to be with should be already settled in their own life and not rely on me.\n\nI told him last night and basically broke his heart, but now I dont know.if ive made the right decision. We work together, have the same group of friends and train at the same gym every night. Have a made a huge mistake?", "summary": "went out with best friend of five years, realised it wasnt right for me but now feel guilty and selfish"}
{"id": "t3_2uh6vm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've (27m) dated this girl (20f) for a month, she then left the country to see her family for a month. When she came back she told me she wanted to take it slow.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for a month before she left to see her family in her country for a month after school finished. Before she left things were going really well, she was really into me and we would text almost everyday. While she was gone we texted about twice a week talk about our day ect. We would say how we missed each other. \n\nWhen she came back she told me she wanted to take it slow and wasn't sure how she felt about me. So I told her I respected her decision and that I would be willing to go at what ever speed that she wanted. \n\nAfter she seemed a little distant. She seemed to be avoiding seeing me, having excuses when I would ask her out. After almost 2 weeks out of the blue she texts me on Friday night asking to see me the following day. She invites me over to her place for lunch. \n\nOn the Saturday I head to her place not really sure what to except. We kiss we talked about our month apart , eat, watch a movie. The day goes by really fast. \n\nSoon I have to leave since I had plans that night, on my way out I noticed she has a bulletin board with a bunch of stuff that are important to her. What caught my eye was that she had pinned the movie studs from our first date to it. \n\nSo now I'm a little confused, should I keep asking her out every week or should I wait until she asks me. Should I wait for her to make the next move? I don't want to come off as too needy or attached.", "summary": "dated girl for a month, left one month, came back and said she wanted to take it slow, became distant, called me out of blue to see her, she's giving me mixed signals. Need advice on what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_2csaj8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [35/f] am dating a sensitive man [35/m] whom I keep offending", "post": "Does anyone have any advice or experience dating someone who is really sensitive? \nMost of the time, my boyfriend and I have a lot of fun. But, there are times, when we have the stupidest disagreements because I am hurt or he is offended. He is so sensitive that even when I approach him when he has done something inconsiderate--and I try to be super tactful--he gets so offended that I end up apologizing.  \nExample: He nearly left my house last night because I asked him if he would get off the computer and interact with me. Then, he refuses to speak to me, tells me he is uncomfortable, and thinking about leaving. So, I end up apologizing. We end up having a nice night and great sex; yet, I woke up this morning completely depressed. I don't know if I'm upset because I cannot communicate with him, or if I apologized to him when I don't think I owed him an apology. Apologizing is reflexive for me.  \nI really care for him, and he has a lot of wonderful qualities as a result of his sensitivity.  I want this relationship to work. He said that I could tell him when I'm hurt; but, that clearly does not work.  I am pretty gentle with him when I express my feelings, and yet, he never apologizes and I end up feeling guilty. And, nothing is really resolved.\nBottom line-- we are both really sensitive people but not about the same things.", "summary": "How do I stand my ground without offending my boyfriend, or apologizing when no apology is necessary?"}
{"id": "t3_270s7x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My(22F) mentally unstable friend(24F) wants to have a baby ASAP. Should I talk to her? (x-post relationships)", "post": "My friend Danielle was engaged for 4 years in what I can only describe as an extremely toxic relationship (gaslighting and cheating galore in both directions). She finally broke up with him a little under a year ago, and quickly began dating someone new. I have only met the new guy (Mark) a couple of times, but they seem like a far better fit and like they are happy together.\n\nRecently Danielle told me that she wants to get pregnant in the next few months. I didn't say anything about this at the time, but there are a few reasons why I think this would be a bad idea.\n\nFirstly (and least significantly), her and Mark have only been together for about 5 months, and she started dating him really soon after she broke up with her fiance.\n\nSecondly, she isn't mentally stable. I'm not entirely sure what she has been diagnosed with, but it is something like borderline personality disorder or extreme depression. This manifests itself in the form of panic attacks, neurosis, depression and narcissism. She claims that she cannot afford medication, even though we live in a country where prescriptions are incredibly cheap, and you can get free repeat prescriptions. Her not being medicated has led to her being fired or quitting her last few jobs.\nI don't think she realises just how expensive and mentally draining having a child can be. I think it's important that she focuses on getting well before considering having children. I don't think it would be fair to bring up a child in the environment that she can currently offer it.\n\nShould I talk to her about my concerns, or would I be massively out of line for doing so? I'm not sure that she would react well or take what I say on board. I know another of my friends agrees with me, and would probably have another point or two to add, so I could potentially have back up if I were to talk to her. I love this girl and want what's best for her. We have been good friends for about 10 years now.", "summary": "I am struggling with whether I should mind my own business, or mention my concerns to one of my closest friends about her becoming pregnant."}
{"id": "t3_3w9ol8", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "My dress finding story.", "post": "So I did a thing today. (I post the pictures earlier today)\n\nAbout a month ago I was coming home from Therapy and feeling crappy and me and my mum went to a wedding dress shop (the one that used to be renaissance) . We just tried on some dresses. As you can guess they were big and poofy and they were all nice but they were all missing something. \n\nSo my mum got me to try on one and I'm like it fits my criteria (princess sparkerly and strapless) but it had some detail that I didn't like. Anyway I tried it on and fell in love. It was beautiful. It was a stock dress so I could have it for \u00a3800 (which is my budget) ultimately we said no. \n\nSo I've been thinking about it a lot and my mum said we could go back and look. I said it'll never be there, cause it was a stock dress and I couldn't afford it otherwise. \n\nWe went in and the women recognised us. She was with another client. We said we were back to see if she still had the dress. She said she did! And the other girl had put it in her top three!!! In the end the other girl decided against that dress and left without buying one. \n\nI tried it on again and it was still perfect (I've actually lost boob weight since I last had it on. But the woman assured us it's able to be altered and it's the size that she would give me) \n\nI lamented that I hadn't gone shopping with Out my bridesmaids. And she said that I could bring them all in so they could see me in it. Which I totally want to do cause.....\n\nI brought the dress!!!! I have a wedding dress and this feels more real than putting the deposit down on the venue. \n\nSitting here listening to mine and FH love playlist. (That includes such romantic songs as Roxanne by The Police) It's strange though cause I look at the pictures online and I hate the dress and I'm not fond of the pictures of me. But in the mirror and on I feel like the prettiest princess that ever lived. \n\nHave fun wedding dress hunting.", "summary": "I didn't like my dress in pictures and IRL until I tried it on and now I'm in love and it was a stock dress which I did without my BM."}
{"id": "t3_1gj3tk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not filtering before I write", "post": "So lately I've been getting into trouble by writing things down that should not be written down. Especially on things like tests. Well today me and my friend came up with a nickname for a friend whose name is Annie. The name was Trannie. The name was a funny joke and she thought it was funny, but me being the person who doesn't filter before he acts decides to write in down on her Mac case. Now I haven't gotten in trouble from this stuff in a month or two so I've been a good boy lately. But I wrote it down in pen... Now it won't come off and she seems a little pissed but who really knows, she's Annie. So now she has to present something with her computer and the computer goes right in front of the teacher. As I'm typing this now the teacher is looking right at the writing and I know in dead soon or later. We'll have to see what happens next but for now my ass is hers.", "summary": "I wrote Trannie on a girls computer and I know I'm fucked."}
{"id": "t3_49ayoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] and my Girlfriend [19F] keep arguing and it seems like this relationship is crumbling.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over a year now.\n\n It started while she was still in high school and was great. We would hang out everyday and just have so much with each other. \n\nThen she moved to her dad's an hour and half away. Now we've always had very differing views on things, but never argued or anything until last November. 2 days after my 17th birthday we had an argument and ended up breaking for like a day and a half. And there have been a lot of times since then where we have made each other cry or really mad, but we still have fun when we actually see each other. (We talk on the phone every night)\n\nNow the past couple weeks she has been really depressed and stressed out and it's been really emotionally draining. It's making me want to have a break from her for a while but I fear that will make her even more depressed and she wouldn't talk to me again(after first argument she said if we ever had a break or broke up it would be final) and I don't know what to do because I really like her but it's hard.", "summary": "Me and my depressed girlfriend argue alot and I don't know how to handle it without breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_30djdw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stealing from a church", "post": "Im starting this by saying I did this a few years ago. So me and my friend Joey went to kids church. When that finished we were packing our backpacks and walking out. On the way out we saw an xbox 360 and halo 3 playing on it. So we decided to play a game. After that we were leaving and I said \"I dare you to steal halo 3.\" Joey just said ok and walked to the xbox 360, turned the cart that the xbox was on, and opened the tray and removed halo. After, we put the cart back and as we did the pastor came in and gave us a weird look and walked away. We ran to our parents and never got caught. But the pastor did say during one of his sermons that some college kids stole a game and need god.", "summary": "stole stuff from church and never got caught. Probably going to hell"}
{"id": "t3_1uozb7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [18/F] and I [19/M] keep having fights due to a third party", "post": "To make a long story short, my girlfriend and I keep having regular fights over one of her friends. This friend of hers consistently hits on her and makes advances. This behaviour has been going on since the summer with no signs of stopping soon. She refuses to take action against him since they used to be best friends a few years back. \n\nI have tried contacting him to try and talk about things (with her approval) and he ignored me. This to me shows he's completely aware of his behaviour and doesn't want to stop. \n\nBefore I met her and began dating her she tried asking him out and he rejected her. I think that in his mind he's trying to get those feelings to come back to her.\n\nI'm not worried about her cheating on me or anything of the like since we have a strong relationship. It's just that this guy makes me incredibly uncomfortable and she doesn't want to do anything about it.\n\nAlso another piece of important evidence is that we are currently in a long distance relationship until this coming summer.\n\nI'd like to hear other people's opinions and will answer any questions anyone has. I don't know what to do anymore about this issue since it seems to me like my options have been exhausted.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a beta orbiter and it makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_3k22mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] recently found out that a girl I'm interested in [18F] has a boyfriend, what do I do?", "post": "I just started college a couple of weeks ago, and met this really nice girl that I've been talking to. I thought she was being really receptive and might even be interested in me, but I recently saw on facebook that she actually has a boyfriend who goes to the same college we do.\n\nI was never really concerned with having a girlfriend in high school so I really don't have much experience with this kind of stuff. I'm feeling somewhat of a mixture of stupidity and sadness over this, this is the first girl that I've ever been seriously interested in.\n\nI feel like I should stop talking to her because my feelings for her aren't just going to go away and it'll just be awkward (and I'm not the type of person who would get in the way of someone's relationship just so I could have one). \n\nAt the same time, I'm just having a hard time forgetting about her just like that, since this is the first time I've had any real feelings for a girl.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Girl I'm interested in (and I thought was interested in me), has a boyfriend - what do?"}
{"id": "t3_18to53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[F16] found out my bf[M17] posted about doing drugs on reddit, not sure on how to handle it.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend (im 16 and he is 17) have been dating 6 months now, I know that isn't long and we are young, but I do care for him a lot, He was with me during the hardest situation of my life. I've had more dating experience than he has, I am  his first gf, and I have had one serious relationship before him that was about 1 year and 9 months. Anyways when we first started talking I asked if he did any drugs (I already knew he smoked weed, and I do too so that is not a problem) he was honest with me and said he also popped pills every once in a while. I told him I do not date guys that do drugs (not including weed). He said it wasn't a big deal. After we were officially together I asked if he had planned on doing any other drugs and he said again it wasn't a big deal, but I told him it was and he said it was okay and he wouldn't do anything else. (6 months later) He tells me he posted something to r/trees so I searched his username and there was one post 4 months ago how he did DXM, then another that he was going to do MDMA and had the powder and everything already. I was furious seeing this considering he broke the promise he made me before. I called him and he told me he only did the DXM and ended up giving the MDMA away.  Problem is he broke my trust now and I don't know how to handle it.. Help?", "summary": "My boyfriend broke his promise of not doing drugs, how am I supposed to trust him now? "}
{"id": "t3_1yru61", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] about a month her parents hate me.", "post": "So we had been face-timing every night for almost a month. Chemistry was great and we're really into each other. On friday I stole my parents car (I don't get my license for another month and a half), picked her up, and went on a date. We basically went to town in the backseat and agreed to go to prom together and blah blah blah. Then I get the fucking retard idea to go drifting in her schools parking lot. Cops show up, shit hits the fan. Now her parents hate me, texted me saying never to text her again, and are trying to forbid her from texting me. What do?", "summary": "I really like girl, but her parents hate me because their first impression of me was seeing me in the back of a cop car. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wwfdd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[Update] I [19m] met this girl [19f] two weeks ago, I want to tell her how I am feeling about her before Christmas break...", "post": "Link to original post (sorry its long, I'm on mobile): \n\nSo not just 20 minutes ago I had her in my arms, we were enjoying our show that we are watching together (white collar, 10/10 would recommend if you haven't watched it). The episode we are on ends, and I then I stop it from auto switching to the next episode like I always do so we can either decide to talk or watch another episode. I had literally completed this short task, and began to turn my head like I was going to talk with her (although this time I was going to kiss her), when she announced that she better be going. She said she had more studying to do for finals and wants to get to bed early (completely understandable, it IS finals week).\n\nSo that obviously threw me off from kissing her. But in a last effort, I asked her to stay for just a few minutes to talk, which we normally do before she goes anyway, but she insisted that she really did need to go. So no kiss tonight.\n\nHere is where I need advice again. We only have this week till we will be away from each other for winter break. We don't know if we will be able to meet up once more or not. So what do I do, hope for the best? Hope we can meet up one more time, and if not, just leave it? Meet her right before she leaves for break, give her a kiss to think on? Should I try and call and talk to her tonight or another day this week? Should I just give up and not get my hopes up?\n\nI hate it when I catch the feels so easily. Damn me for being so slow on this, and for letting so many opportunities slip by me!", "summary": "I almost kissed the girl, but she said she had to go, right before I was about to go for it. Now I don't know what to do, because of the circumstances."}
{"id": "t3_364mt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M 58) fo 2 months flew me (F 45) into town for 2 weeks to visit him on a job. I just got to the temp housing-he's still at work. He's been going to gay bathhouses. I feel broken.", "post": "We have been dating for 3 months and have already talked about monogamy, (although never gay sex - but hey, monogamy is monogamy right?) agreed to only seeing each other. He was married for 17 years and I know he has in the past met and had relationships with woman he's actively searched for on dating sites. He's been excited to have me come out and now I am here. He's not home yet. I went to put my stuff in the top drawer and there's 3 condoms in there (we don't use condoms) and one is from a gay bathhouse back at home (another state)so its not like someone else left them there. \n\nSo, I got started and then started searching around and found a whole bag of stuff hidden in the floor of the closet. Don't ask, it doesn't matter what it is.\n\nI am not interested in having a non-monogamous relationship. And especially not with a bi-sexual because 1)disease 2)he will always want that and I can't give it to him so it will NEVER be monogamous.\n\nDo I call at taxi and head back to the airport? Or do I wait around - he won't be home til like 6 am and have a big fight? This is a non-negotiable for me and also he lied/betrayed me so now the trust is gone.\n\nI'd like to hear some constructive advice because right now I am kind of in shock.", "summary": "jump on plane or wait to talk, just found out my boyfriend is having sex with men"}
{"id": "t3_46m219", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [23/f] husband [29/m] is texting an ex-coworker.", "post": "Yesterday I asked my husband if I could use his phone because mine was dead.  I was talking to my mother and my phone died right in the middle of our conversation, so I was going to use his to text her and let her know what happened.  Anyway, I pull up his messaging app and I see he was been talking to an ex-coworker from the state we used to live in.  He was telling her how her low cut shirts would make him stop working because he had to stare.  He said that he had never been a fan of tall women except for her.  \nAt one point, she was talking to him about her marriage becoming terrible and that she wasn't getting what she wanted out of it. to which he replied, \"I'm in the same boat, I feel like I have a Facebook marriage.\"  I'm not sure what that even means. yes, I have a Facebook but I'm curious as to how that's relevant. He was also saying that he was no angel because he has been flirting with her this past week, etc.\n\nTo give you a little more context, he has been acting not his usual self lately.  Its going to sound terrible but he's been more light and more giving with attention.  Telling me he has told his coworkers at his present place how much he has enjoyed the last few days spending time with me and our son, instead of playing videos games.  It struck me. I felt like something was going on but didn't think anything of it until this came to light.  I get a guilty vibe from him.  And it hurts for multiple reasons. \n\nI am needing advice as to how I can approach him about this.  The only thing I have to go on is to be civil with the conversation. And to be completely honest in regards to why I felt the need to look at that thread of messages. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Husband having inappropriate conversations with ex coworker. Need advice in how I can speak to him about this."}
{"id": "t3_36mpqk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] went out for the first time with a girl [26/F] after weeks of talking and she tells me she has a 6 year old.", "post": "After weeks of talking to this girl I met through Tinder, we met up at a bar last night. We're talking and she tells me she has a 6 year old. I'm taken by surprise because I felt this is something she should have mentioned sooner.\n\n I'm only 23 and I don't really like kids nor do I want them. I like to be able to play with them for a while and then be able to give them back. I still want to get to know this girl but I don't want there to be any expectations with me having to get to know her kid right away. What would you do in this situation?", "summary": "Went on a first date with a girl I've been talking to for weeks and she drops the \"I have a 6 year old\" bomb on me. I don't like or want kids and I'm only 23."}
{"id": "t3_sp4zu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors: Who do you need to ask for forgiveness?", "post": "I was online and reading an [article] about a young boy who asked to be transferred out of a class of a gay (but closeted) teacher in his middle school. The boy had been picked on and harassed by other students for being \"teacher's pet\". He couldn't handle it, so he asked for the transfer.\n\n38 years later, he apologized to the teacher for his disappearing from the class.\n\nMy own story is about a girl with Down's Syndrome in my P.E. class. She was fun and funny. Always cracked jokes and tried to make everyone happy. After spending most of the year with her, I had become the focus of most of her attention. Being a moody teenager, I didn't want this attention and would avoid talking to her.\n\nNear the end of term, she wanted to give me a hug. As she closed in on me, I turned around and walked away. I later wrote a letter to her asking her not to talk to me and to leave me alone.\n\nAs I've gotten older, that letter and my actions make me ashamed of myself. I never apologized to her or even looked at her for the next 2 years. I've tried to find out what happened to her since her graduation (children with Down's are developmentally delayed. She was 21 when she graduated), but I've never found anything. I would like to ask her forgiveness and I hope one day I will.", "summary": "Was mean to a developmentally disabled girl in HS because she liked me. I hope she can forgive a selfish prig."}
{"id": "t3_359g22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf (24M) always watches porn before sex and I (25F) feel used.", "post": "I'll fall asleep and my bf of two years will come in and I wake up to him lubing me up, then we have sex. I've noticed (just by turning on our tablet after he used it) that they'll be multiple open tabs of porn. \nI don't care about him jerking off to porn. I get it. Completely obligation free orgasm, no worries about another person the please. Score. \nHowever... Watching it before he has sex with me, every time? How am I not supposed be offended/hurt by that? I feel like a human fleshlight. \n(It's not an attraction thing, cause I've actually lost weight and he talks about how I look great often.)\nHow do I approach this with tact?", "summary": "Bf watches porn before he wakes me up for sex every time. I feel used."}
{"id": "t3_2aragb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "(NSFW/NSFL) TIFU by riding a bicycle commando with pool shorts.", "post": "Last night I fucked up. My friend had a pool party and but I didn't want to take my car because i didn't want to wet the seat. So, I took my bike.  She doesn't live far from me, 4 miles. After so long I needed to take off so I just got on my bike and rode home. \n\nThe ride was OK. I kept switching position on the saddle. I didn't think much about it. This morning on my commute I noticed my balls ache a bit, there was a slight sting. I didn't think much of it, I figured it was a bug bite. I ride into work as well it usually takes 15 minutes this time it took me 20 minutes. \n\nI go to the bathroom, check myself and I am bleeding. I have a huge rash it covers over half my ball sack. I think the pool shorts burned my balls as I was riding.", "summary": "rode home with pool shorts, pool shorts gave me a rash on my balls."}
{"id": "t3_39v0z5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by numbing my lady-bits.", "post": "Technically this happened a few days ago, but when I posted it originally it was removed due to the no-NSFW posts rule. Whoops. \n\nSo I got off of work a little early today. This almost never happens, so needless to say I'm pretty stoked. Kids were still at school, husband was still at work and would be for a couple of hours. Alone time!\n\nMy opportunities for happy fun by myself time are extremely limited, so with a couple of free hours I decided I'd take full advantage of the situation. In my not-thinking-so-clearly brain, I decided to numb my hand and try it. Hey, guys do it? Why not give it a shot?\n\nI had some Lidocaine liquid left over from being sick a few months back, and I had the bright idea to numb my hand by applying Lidocaine, which is a prescription strength numbing liquid. Hand goes numb as planned, and we're in business!\nI put on an \"art film\", had a towel nearby, and was ready to see what the hype was all about. At first it was awesome. Actually almost felt like it could have been someone else's hand. A few moments later, I realize that I've made a huge mistake.\n\nI have applied a topical numbing agent to my hand which has now transferred onto and into my lady garden. The whole thing, fucking numb. Now I can't feel a damn thing down there. Fuck.\nI'm seriously on the verge of tears at this point. How could I be so stupid? I was so distracted about having time to myself that I didn't even think about it. I wouldn't recommend trying it, as it completely ruined my me time.", "summary": "Applied numbing agent to hand to give myself a stranger, wound up numbing my vagina, rendering it useless."}
{"id": "t3_24fdtr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 F] with my ex-BF [16 M] of close to 1 year, First love/First heartbreak", "post": "First of all, I apologize for any/all spelling and grammar mistakes and sloppy writing. This whole situation has made me a crying, emotional wreck and my writing has suffered sufficiently. \n\nI'm sixteen and dealing with my first heartbreak. Now, I am a very logical and analytical person. I know my fears and worries are stupid. However, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm never going to find someone like him. I feel like I don't deserve to be treated like he treated me. He was the first guy to treat me well, and the only guy to ever make me feel loved. \n\nWell, we met on reddit. We facebooked, PM'd skyped, texted, everything. We talked almost all day everyday. I loved him and he loved me. He was the only person I trusted enough to tell everything to (self-esteem/body image/ depression issues), he was the only one to make me feel happy. He would always tell me that I was it for him. That he wanted to marry me and I was his soul-mate. \n\nWell, we broke up. He told me he would fight for me and that he'd make me trust him again, but he never did. Instead he \"fell for\" my now ex-best friend. Less than a week after we broke up. He's already moved on and I'm miserable wishing that we could be back together. Now I feel worthless and like I meant nothing to him. That our year meant nothing to him. \n\nIt's like being treated like crap for all your life, then suddenly finding that one person who treats you like a queen or goddess. Then, having that person stomp on you then wiping you off of their shoes like the piece of crap you truly are. \n\nHow do I move on from this?", "summary": "Ex-BF (first love) told me I was his soulmate. Now he wants my friend. I feel completely worthless and I have no idea how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_lqdg6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm only 20, but a rocky, abnormal start to relationships has left me jaded. What do?", "post": "(20, Male, University, busy with academic work and a couple of hobbies, good friendship circle etc.)\n\nIt's really hard to describe my feelings towards relationships. I've had plenty of crushes, have acted on them, and have been turned down or used emotionally (I was very naive at the start of university). Now, this isn't going to be some pity-party. That'd be silly. But I must admit that the prospect of relationships is kind of drifting out of my head as a possibility. To me this seems perfectly logical - if the only thing I've experienced has been, at most, girls who really can't decide whether they like me 'in that way' or not, then why would I see things any other way?\n\nBut here's the kicker. I know plenty of people drift quite seamlessly into relationships, even if these opportunities are rare. I know they're quite simple and straightforward, but my past experiences have left me quite jaded and cynical to the possibility of this being true.\n\nI'm not a virgin, and have had a couple of flings earlier in university. When I lost my virginity, it was enjoyable (in a 'finally!' kind of way), but ultimately embarrassing (including her telling me I'm 'weird', then sort of kicking me out of her flat (have no idea what I did wrong...)); and I guess I kind of have a negative experience. The second fling was a bit messed up too (was with a long-time friend), but far more enjoyable/awesome - only her being 'on the fence' made everything really awkward after the fact.\n\nWhat I'm trying to get at is, I have yet to actually have any kind of decent, 'normal', genuinely nice sexual relationship. Coupled with some memories I'd rather forget, I am left probably worse off than having no experience at all.\n\nI'm sure all of this doubt will kinda vanish once I'm actually *there*, *in* a relationship and I get to find out what the fuss is all about, but naturally, the process of getting there (e.g. meeting new people, and so on) is made harder by a really rocky start to relationships.", "summary": "Bad sexual experiences make me in a worse position than I would be without any experiences at all - this makes me cynical about what a 'true' relationship would be like. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ar74u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not living in the moment.", "post": "So, this fuck up happened three days ago.   I had just eaten a large, greasy, and honestly a little disgusting meal at a local diner and decided to go and park by the beach and watch the sunset. I have just  recently returned home from my first year away at school and have a few decisions to make as to my plans for next year and other pressing matters socially on top of owing some money to the community college I was attending.  I've always had a tendency to worry about where I'm headed more than enjoy where I am and have been trying best to get out of this habit. After all, here I am at one of my favorite places in the world with a bounty of beauty right in front of my face and I can't escape these anxious thoughts of what I need to do months down the road. \"Not tonight,\" I told myself, \"I'm going to enjoy this moment and nothing else matters.\" Unbeknownst to me however, there was another pressing matter I had ignored and it was located in my intestines. As soon as I finished my mental pep talk I let loose what I thought was a fart but in reality was the most heinous liquid shit I had ever known. It was as if somebody had turned on a faucet and rancid sewer water had been unleashed down my pant leg and into my socks and shoes. \n\nSo, not only had my favorite pants been ruined but my understanding of irony had been reaffirmed. All is well though because,  as my dad told me when he found out, \"shit happen.\"", "summary": "I future tripped and shit myself."}
{"id": "t3_4rdex5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 F] with my [28 F] online friend of 2 years. Her grandmother is dying. Want to know how to help.", "post": "I have been friends with this woman who I have never met for about 2 years.  She and I are both divorced and we bonded over not wanting to lose our marriages but it ending up happening anyway.  She is usually really strong and doesn't complain about raising her two young children alone very often but her grandmother, who was an emotional rock in her life, is dying of cancer.\n\nShe lives in Oregon and I live in Texas and so I can't just go over and help but she has become more depressed I can tell over the last couple of days and I just don't know what to do for her.  To make matters worse I am very emotional and in tune with my emotions and she is very walled off and unemotional.  This makes the communication gap even harder because I am not really sure how people of this type process grief.  Things I have done, talk with her when she wants to talk about her grandma and talk to her about mundane things when she wants.  I plan on sending her small children something fun and really I am not sure what else to do?", "summary": "My out of state friend's grandmother is dying and I want to know how to help."}
{"id": "t3_278g17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my exBF [23M] were together just over 3 years. Broke up at the end of Jan. Is it possible to be friends?", "post": "My ex and I were together for just over 3 months.  I ended things with him at the end of Jan because I had cheated on him and he found out.  Our relationship was in a rut at the time and communication seemed to not be working.  (Not trying to justify my actions since cheating is wrong no matter what).  When he found out that I cheated on him, I only felt bad for trying to be happy - not for actually breaking his trust and hurting him.  That was the main reason why I chose to leave instead of trying to make it work.\n\nWhen I broke up with him, I did the whole no-contact thing.  But if he reached out to me, I would respond.  Eventually, I ended up blocking him on everything because it would result in us fighting, and I didn't want to be fighting.  After a while, I would unblock him and the cycle would repeat.  Each time we've talked I can tell how torn up he is about it and he's also expressed an interest in being friends because \"something is better than nothing.\"  I'm hesitant to be friends because I don't want to hurt him more than I already have.  I also still harbor negative feelings towards him for things that happened while we were together.  I'm also in general indifferent whether or not we're friends.\n\nSo my question is, is it possible for exes to be friends?  If not, how can I go about telling him we shouldn't be friends without being too harsh?", "summary": "I broke up with my ex at the end of Jan.  He wants to be friends. I'm unsure. Is it possible to be friends? If not, how do I tell him I don't want to be friends without being too harsh?"}
{"id": "t3_1rjacg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you cope with the death of a parent or loved one reddit?", "post": "My parent just passed away and I have no idea how to cope with it. So sick of crying because I felt powerless to save her. I know I should be thankful I knew her at all but it just doesn't seem like enough. Food, games, and other activities I used to enjoy just don't feel the same. Do I need therapy? Is this depression? Will I have to live the rest of my life with this pain or will it subside with time? Sorry for all the questions, I just don't know anyone as young as I am that has went through this same situation.", "summary": "I just want to stop a bitch and get on with my life but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_tcger", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Heading to Puerto Vallarta for my first Mexico trip, and I would like some advice, please?", "post": "My girlfriend and I are heading to PV at the end of June for 6 days/5 nights. I really want to make the most of it, but I'll be on somewhat of a budget. Here are some of my thoughts/concerns/questions:\n\n--I've heard sport fishing is amazing and I want to do it. How easy is it to just jump onto a pre-booked boat with an extra seat? It'll just be me--my gf isn't interested. Any idea how much I should expect to spend on that?\n\n--I really like getting a local experience when I travel. (ie, when I go to SF I avoid the pier and head to the Mission instead) Any can't miss hidden gems that are gringo friendly? I have some decent Spanish--I expect it'll come back more when I'm there.\n\n--I think SCUBA is out--not enough time. Is snorkeling worth it? \n\n--Anything like renting a scooter and cruising around scenic highways or anything?\n\nI'm open to all kinds of great experiences so if you think of something throw it out there!\n\nI would really appreciate experienced insight. Thanks for taking the time to read/comment.\n\nOh! One last thing: do I need to exchange my dollars for pesos or is American currency accepted around there?", "summary": "Going to Puerto Vallarta; what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_37p29l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] After being the \"Other man\" many times loose faith in Relationship, please advice", "post": "I am [27M] a avg looking male, asian, wighted slightly more, ever since college I have been the \"other guy\" in a relationship, at the time I enjoy the excitement, and it hugely satisfied my ego... when they tell me how I am better then their other half are.\n\nAs I get older, the relationships become more serious, and the other \"gf\", now is mostly other \"wives\". I am amaze at how they lie to their husband/boyfriend with so much detail, (I think man are very sloppy lier). they even introduce me to their husbands, and went on a few trip together. and we would have sex while their husband are in the shower sharing a motel room at night.\n\nand there are time she invite me for dinner, she would ask her husband to go pick up something at the nearby store, while we have sex in the kitchen. or we would watching a movie with her husband, while watching movie she is riding on my finger under a blanket... and there are just so many encounter like this.\nI wonder if anyone feel the same way about woman, as I am. and how do I find someone that can be with my for the rest of my life.\n\nand it's has become a burden in my current relationship every time my girlfriend's chain of event don't match, or even tiny thing that she forgot to mention.\n\ne.g. she stay late for work, my phone told me she is on a 4G network, when she have wifi at the office, and i would start imagine things that didn't happen. it could be that she just step out to the bank.\nor when she come home I would smell her very closely, if she smell different (after sex smell), I am very sensitive to her 'pheromones' not sure if I am crazy. sometime the little thing could drive me nuts!\n\nPlease don't judge. but share anything you want, and any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "How do I gain trust when I was the other guy"}
{"id": "t3_3gx9f5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/m] feel guilty I did something and wonder if/when I should tell her [20/f]", "post": "I've very recently started dating this girl - boyfriend/girlfriend wouldn't even be accurate labels. About a month ago I took her out for a date and it was quiet, though it seemed it went quite well (this has since been confirmed).\n\nI soon asked her out again, but she didn't get back to me for some time. I thought this was her shy way of letting me down gently; I've been turned down that way before and failed to recognize it the first time, being quite the socially unaware fool. I felt dumb for not being able to evaluate such an obvious thing and thinking she'd been interested in me - it'd be good to mention I'd had a change in anti-depressants at the time, so my mood was all sorts of whack.\n\nI fell back into a depressive slump for about a week. This passed and I started considering asking her out one more time in person to see if my impression were reality or due only to poor self-esteem.\n\nBut, after failing to work up the nerve for that, I sexted a random girl online, had some fun, and then I found my courage the day after and asked for a second date. We set something up, and we've been on a few more since then.\n\nThe issue is the guilt has set in and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'll have to confess it at some point - not now, we're not that deep into a relationship, but in the future. I understand the general consensus: it's not an issue, technically I'm single, it's not like we'd yet explicitly discussed an exclusive status, dating multiple people isn't unacceptable in the very beginning, etc. etc. But those thoughts aren't who I am, and she's a sweet, shy girl so I suspect it's not who she is either.", "summary": "Sexted a random girl online a couple weeks after the first date but before the second, feel guilty, I want some perspective, and I wish someone would agree that what I did is at least a little wrong."}
{"id": "t3_456dos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M], how to explain to future prospects that I left the mother of my child during the pregnancy?", "post": "I am pretty sure that at some point I will need to explain that I left my ex girlfriend while she was pregnant with my child. Has anyone been in the same boat? How did you handle it?\n\nI was thinking that I should just leave it at \"things didn't work out\" until further questions. \n\nDoes it matter if the child was intentional or not? Since I live pretty far away from both mother and child the possibility of verification/confrontation should be near zero.\n\nWill women actually press the issue or do most leave it alone?\n\nI understand that leaving a pregnant woman is taboo but what's done is done and I will have to move on with my life. I'm not the first one to have been put in the position of having to do it. Just want to hear from other men and how to cope with dating moving forward.", "summary": "How to handle dating as a man who left his pregnant girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1prwio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[F/22] SO[M/23] feels inexperienced compared to me and is upset about it", "post": "My boyfriend told me he feels bad that he isn't as experienced. That he didnt live an interesting life before he dated me.\n\nWe're in a long distance relationship, its about to end in less than two months. After I was talking to him about some of my past experiences because he asked me to tell him something about me he didnt already know, he got upset and irritated. I then tried to talk to him about it. I told him that if he is feeling this way because we havent had the chance to explore together, then maybe we can work this out, but if he feels like he wishes he saw other people then I can't do anything about that. He tell told me that he wishes we met later in life and that he wished his life was more interesting. Then I asked if he wanted to break up. We decided to talk about this some other time, so thats where I am at right now.\n\nA little background: I'm the 2nd girlfriend and sexual partner he's had. He's my fifth partner and third boyfriend. We spent all summer together last summer. I'm about to graduate and go home in less than two months.\nI don't know what to do. I want to run. If he wants to sleep with other people, fuck him. But if he thinks the feeling will go away when we move in together in a year (I'll be home, but we live with our parents) then I want to make it work. /sigh", "summary": "boyfriend feels inexperienced."}
{"id": "t3_3pl0b9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by winning the raffle.", "post": "This happened back in Highschool. Grade 10, to be exact; I'm Canadian, so that should be 16? Anyways, I was in PhysEd when our gym teacher gave us raffle tickets and told us to sell them.\n\nWell, I procrastinated hard, to the point that I didn't try selling anything in the two weeks, until just the night before. I started freaking out, and after managing to sell half my lot, I said \"Screw it, I tried.\" Well, just before giving the remaining tickets, and money to the teacher, I got nervous, so I bought three more tickets. ($2 a pop)\n\nThe next day is the day of the Highschool basketball game. I don't care for it, so I head home. I come back the next day and all my classmates are giving me dead pan stares. The teacher stares through my soul and in the most serious voice, he asks, \"Where were you yesterday?\" I'm confused, and told him the truth.\n\nI find out that of the three prizes, I won two. The first being courtside seats on a freaking couch they pushed into the gym, as well as a private box of pizza and sodas for myself and one friend. Second prize was an authentic, Vince Carter signed basketball.\n\nI lost the couch prize, but the teacher saved the ball for me. The entire class was pissed, and the teacher just exclaims, \"You're fucking lucky as hell, you know that?\" (He was a chill dude)\n\nI was leaving the school, and was about to tear apart the packaging to play with the basketball, when the same teacher and a few others exclaimed and ran to me. They started having a betting war right in front of me. The price went as high as $100.\nI declined the offers, and just took the ball home and showed my parents. They offered to keep it stored.\n\nI didn't want to, I know Vince Carter would have wanted me to play with it, but when everyone makes a big deal about it, what can you do as a kid? I'll take a picture of the ball when I can, it's still with my parents. I've moved out when I married.", "summary": "I cheated and ended up winning the majority of the prizes, getting pretty much everyone mad at me. I now have a sweet basketball."}
{"id": "t3_20ebvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my \"Friend\" [22 F] 1yr, Long Distance-y, make the move? Confusing love for passion? Hoping for some advice.", "post": "* Hi everyone, myself A (23) met N (22) while we were both traveling overseas in South America. A from NZ and N from Eygpt. We hit it off incredibly well and spent the next few weeks travelling together. It was a very intense and passionate albeit short experience. That is a year ago, since then we constantly have talked and skyped with each other. I haven't been able to get her off my mind, and nor her me - so she says.\n\n* We both agreed that as hard as it is we both do want each other to be happy and we would try to be happy for each of us to date someone. As we previously established long distance was never going to be a real possibility. We both looked into making the move and it seemed unlikely -  we both had plans. My plans fell through due to various reasons and now the plans I did have are not there anymore.\n\n* Recently, N just got into a relationship with someone and I didn't realise how much it would affect me. I haven't been sleeping right, it's all I can think about. We have talked about it a few times but it is difficult. I don't know if I am confusing my emotions but all I want to do is head over and be with her now. I proposed this idea to her and she seems kind of willing but hesitant for that it may not work out, that she just started going out with someone, what happens when I have to leave it might make things harder etc.\n\n* I just dont know what to do, has anyone been in a situation like this before? What happened? Any advice or something that can help soothe my psyche?", "summary": "Confused about long distance semi-partner, unsure on what to do, at my wits end. HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_2okdjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] moving on from my ex-girlfriend after almost 2 months.", "post": "I am moving on from my ex, who dumped me a little less than 2 months ago. She has a new boyfriend and wants nothing to do with me in her life. I have accepted this and taken steps to move on.\n\nI have started going to the gym. I have had intercourse with several women, and I am attending my first orgy tomorrow night.\n\nI still cannot seem to get the thought of her out of my mind, and still wonder if monogamy would have worked with a woman like her.\n\nHas anyone on here ever been to an orgy? Is it a good place to meet a long-term partner?", "summary": "Moving on from my ex girlfriend, attending first orgy this week. Any tips or pointers?"}
{"id": "t3_25v2e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my cousin [32F]--older cousin's sister has schizophrenia and it's heartbreaking/a tragedy. I told her that I developed PTSD a few years ago (which isn't something that pretty much anyone knows). Was this a good idea?", "post": "I was really scared to share this and then even when I went home, I really regretted not telling her this thing about myself (I wasn't completely honest with her when she asked me if I was happy back home), especially when I knew about her sister.  And even though my thing was different, I thought it would help to share this with her, so that I can tell her that I see things form a different perspective. But, I was beyond terrified because I only told my sister and two older cousins late last year even though I worked with a specialist back in 2011/2012.  \n\nAnd even though I don't work with any mental health professionals now because I'm in a really good place, I know that this thing from my past will always be there--that if something really devastating happens to me then it's possible for me to end up in the same place (hopefully not because I worked really hard to get here, but I'd be more likely to have that happen then someone that hasn't had PTSD-dissociation/depersonalization/derealization)..\n\nI told my cousin that it was hard for me to tell her, that it was me taking a risk and putting myself in a vulnerable position, but that I loved and trusted this person.  A few months later, I asked her if she told anyone because only my sister knew from here (out of two parents and three siblings in total) and that if she did, then it would be okay, but just so I know about who knows.  I'm not sure if she did tell anyone or not, but I'm scared if everyone could find out now..\n\nWas it a good idea to share this part of my past with my older cousin?  I'm not sure how to feel about it, especially because it all happened through email/text and I worry that she could have read what I wrote to other family.", "summary": "Me [23 F] with my cousin [32F]--my cousin's older sister has schizophrenia and it's really heartbreaking/a tragedy for them.  I only told my younger sister, but I developed PTSD and worked with a trauma specialist and psych nurse a few years ago.  I shared this with my older cousin, was it a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_4s4wsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What on earth is going on between me [15/M] and a romantic interest of mine [17/F]?", "post": "Yes, I know this may be the wrong place to post, and that there's one specifically designed for teenagers. But hang on a second. This is a series of messages we've been sending back and forth.\n\nMe: Hey, next weekend, would you like to go out with me? Or if you're not free, the weekend after? :)\n\nHer, the day after: I'm so sorry I just saw this now but yes I'd love to! I should be free x :))\n\nMe: Alright, sounds great :) x how about [location] on Saturday?\n\nHer: Sounds like an awesome plan:)\n\nMe: Okay, cool. Can I pick you up at yours? And at what time?\n\n*no response*\n\nMe, a day later: So are you still up for [location] on Saturday?\n\nHer: Of course I'm still up for it <3\n\nMe: I'd like to pick you up at yours, if that's alright -- what time should I pick you up? X\n\n*no response*\n\nNow, at this point, I realised that I might have been a bit forward, asking to go to hers on the first date (the idea being I'd get her flowers). Fair enough.\n\nMe, two days later: Hey, if you still want to go -- how about meeting at [different location] instead of at yours? x\n\n*No response*\n\nMe, on the morning we were supposed to go out: Oh, okay. Nevermind :/\n\nNow, the last couple of messages weren't read at all by her, so it could be that she just wasn't available. But hang on a minute, she's been posting quite a bit on social media during the time, so what's that all about?\n\nAlso, this is completely different to what's been going on previously, where we would be talking regularly and often. So this is quite decisively against her normal behaviours. What's going on?", "summary": "Girl seems to like me, accepts a date, doesn't follow up on it when I ask to pick her up at hers, so I change the location, and she still never replied."}
{"id": "t3_4vowyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28 [F]: No butterflies when meeting 34 [M]. Confused.", "post": "I [28/F] met this guy [34/M] the other day for the first time after talking for almost a month. We met online, and clicked instantly. Since then we talked on the phone almost every night and slowly grew to really like each other. When we met for the first time, I felt no butterflies... just an instant comfort feeling. I didn't feel like that intense, nervous, immediate infatuation. We did end up having sex, and the entire time we were together, he just kept remarking on how \"good different\" everything was. \nI'm very confused. I purposely searched for guys that are not my type: passionate \"bad boys\" who party a lot. I've had a string of tumultuous relationships where the guy idolized me, fell in love with the idea of me, and once I fell from that pedestal it all crashed and burned. But, he's different. Very different...\nIs it possible to fall for someone without that instant tummy butterfly, fuzzy feeling? Or does this sound like more of just s friendship in the making?", "summary": "Met a guy who seems perfect for me. No butterfly feelings on my end. Is this normal to fall for someone when that fuzzy feeling isn't present?"}
{"id": "t3_k3ptv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Imagine you would wake up one morning in a small village in the year 1639 (lets say England), what valuable skill or knowledge could you teach the people back then?", "post": "It really blew my mind. Even though I am doing a Masters degree (International Business) at a highly reputable university I don't think I could teach the people much back then. By that I mean, further than teaching them the theory of it. For example I know that planes can fly but could not teach them about the wind currents and how they affect the drag under the wings. Thus due to this lack of information I could tell them about a plane, probably be burned for witchcraft in the process, but never build one (I am not talking about an A380 but a Wright Brother type model). The plane example might be a bit extreme but I think it illustrates what I mean. So would you be helpless like me (eventually I think I would die of starvation) or could you teach them something useful and end up as the King of the World?", "summary": "Don't know how to build stuff, would die of starvation if send back into the past, Would you?"}
{"id": "t3_3sgcmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28f) boyfriend (29m) very rarely will reciprocate oral sex to me despite my efforts to talk about it", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now and I would consider us to have a healthy relationship EXCEPT that he does not meet any of my needs sexually. Both orally and otherwise. \nBut my biggest issue is oral because the thing is that I go down on him on average about once a day. No joke or exaggeration, sometimes I do it more. And I enjoy doing it for him, truly, which is why I continue even though I don't feel like I should until I start to get more action from him. \nNow, I've tried talking to him about it in numerous ways. I've gently asked what he would do to my pussy next time he goes down on me, and other gentle applications of the subject. I've tried flat out asking him why he doesn't go down more often. I've asked if it has anything to do with my hygiene, tried offering ways to change anything I'm doing, and I'm always met with that he \"loves\" going down on me and that my lady parts are \"totally clean\" and then what happens? We get frisky and he has me go down on him and then I get nothing. And if I bring it up that moment he gets defensive and says things like \"sorry I'm not a better lover for you\" when he has the chance to be right then! But doesn't take it.", "summary": "my boyfriend very rarely goes down on me and I have tried in my opinion very mature tactics to get it back with no avail. And I'm getting desperate for a way to get through to him!"}
{"id": "t3_4z9vji", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to break up with extremely controlling girlfriend?", "post": "I know this post is probably going to make me look like an asshole, but here it goes.\n\nAround 3 weeks ago I(M17) first started dating my new girlfriend(F18). For the first week of the relationship everything was fairly normal, the only notable thing is that she has a few mental health issues based on past experiences, basically there are a LOT of things that are triggers for her (not her fault, she has had to deal with a lot of shit). The second week there were more issues appearing, such as controlling various aspects of my life, not taking no for an answer in any context, and feeling the need to inform me of anything she thinks I do wrong (to an obsessive amount), and becoming extremely passive aggressive if I don't respond to her texts within 5 minutes of sending them. The third week this basically had the same things happening but worse and with more frequency. She is also \"extremely in love with me\" according to her own words, if that is relevant information.\n\n I honestly feel trapped right now, and I'm scared to break up with her, since the last guy who did got a broken nose. Any help on how to break up with her without conflict would be greatly appreciated.\n\nAlso a side note: I don't want to break up with her because she has any mental trauma or anything, I simply feel realy uncomfortable and trapped.", "summary": "Girlfriend is incredibly controlling and makes me feel like shit, need solutions on how to peacefully break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_1l6flv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my friend [19F] of 1 year. Mixed signals with girl I met at a language exchange.", "post": "I met this girl who volunteers at a language exchange teaching the language I am learning (she is fluent in English).\n\nWe became friends and after a while she would invite me to practice outside of the institution for lunch and there she wouldn't speak a word outside of English (which I went along with because she's cute and I reaaaallly enjoy just talking to her because she is funny).\n\nWe'd met up for lunch a few times and she always dressed up really well for them, sent me messages saying she had fun and wanted to do it again after... brought me gifts form her home country... that sort of thing. I of course gave likewise signals. I have paid for her lunch and she likewise has paid for mine on occasion. \n\nSo I bit the bullet and asked her out to dinner at an Italian restaurant. I didn't call it a date because I thought it would be obvious from the setting and she came and it was a great night. \n\nHOWEVER, my foolish assumption it was a date led to me telling her how I felt about her. To which she said the old \"you are my first friend in this country, I don't want to ruin that\". After that we just continued hanging out as friends with no awkwardness to my knowledge.\n\nNow I'm not going to get caught up in the whole \"she owes me a relationship\" whining thing. I'm fine leaving us as friends, but I'd like to know... what on Earth do people consider signals nowadays? She wasn't using me for money or anything. I have friends who are girls already and it's just a different dynamic to what me and this girl have.\n\nIs this salvageable? I've been through a lot in my life and am probably expecting a bit much for my age, but I really enjoy having someone I can talk to so freely ya know. I don't want to throw this friendship away over nothing.", "summary": "Classic case of mixed signals."}
{"id": "t3_4d2e3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] girlfriend [19 F] of almost 5 months didn't get me a birthday gift? Is it unreasonable of me to be upset?", "post": "I've been dating a girl at my college for almost the past five months now.\n\nMy birthday was two weeks ago, during our spring break. Before we left for the break (she came to my hometown for a few days), she told me she was getting me a gift, but that for some reason, she likely wouldn't have it by my actual birthday. I figured it was being shipped or something and told her that was no big deal, and that I was just happy that she was getting me a gift. \n\nOn my birthday, we went out for a nice little brunch at a French Restaurant to celebrate. After the meal, I thought we would split the check \u2013 which is what we normally do on dates \u2013\u00a0but she said she would pick it up. I thanked her and she wished me happy birthday. We spent the rest of the day together after that, went to an art gallery, etc. It was a really nice day.\n\nBut since then, there's been nothing on the gift front, not even a nice card. I realize that she may have \"gifted\" me the meal on my birthday, but if that's the case, I guess I'd say I'm not thrilled. After all the meal was like $30 total, and $15 isn't *that* much more than it would have cost in a split of one of our weekly dates.\n\nI would have probably broached the subject already, but there are a few reasons I haven't yet. First off, this past week has been really stressful for my girlfriend, and I don't want to add more to her plate. Further, she's also been pretty financially strapped lately, and it would be pretty awful of me to ask her to spend more money. \n\nWhat do you think reddit? Am I being unreasonable? How can I handle this in a way that is delicate but also effective? Should I wait until she gets another paycheck?\n\nThanks for your thoughts.", "summary": "My girlfriend didn't get me a birthday gift or even a card after saying she had, but she also is really stressed right now and doesn't have a lot of spare cash. I'm feeling hurt. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_444bsr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20m) feel like I've ruined my chances with my dream guy (19m)", "post": "There was a guy who I met about six months ago on grindr and we met up twice to have sex. We also spent time together watching movies and walking through the city. However, he always made it very clear that we were just friends.\n\nThe problem is that I fell for him really hard. Everything about him seems perfect. It might sound stupid but he is the person I can imagine marrying. I've never felt this sure about someone in my life. My feelings for him are ridiculously strong.\n\nIt didn't take long for to blurt out that I really (really) liked him. I asked him if we would have a chance together and he said 'maybe, but first I want us to be really good friends and then maybe we'll see what happens'. I don't know whether or not this was a gentle way of letting me down but this is something that has constantly stuck at the back of my mind because there was the faintest hope for us being something together.\n\nUnfortunately I started acting very strangely and I became desperate to keep seeing him, being pushy and paranoid and at times downright rude. It was extremely out of character for me but basically all of my emotions were all over the place after meeting this perfect guy.\n\nThe result was that I pushed this guy away and I feel like I've ruined any chance I ever had with him. We've never even met for a third time. And after all of this drama he doesn't even want to be fuckbuddies any more. I've managed to reconcile things a bit by apologising a lot and backing off a lot so that we now have very very minimal contact. We are able to be friendly with one another now.\n\nHowever, I'm desperate to meet him for at least one more time. Ideally, I want to be able to very carefully build some kind of relationship with this guy so that we can come to a point where he might consider me being boyfriend material. And basically I need advice on how to do this. Or perhaps more generally, do people have comments on this situation? Has anyone been in a similar situation before?", "summary": "I want to salvage what connection I have left with a guy who I think is so perfect"}
{"id": "t3_nsjpb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Was what Penny Arcade did to Paul Christoforo the right thing to do?", "post": "I guess I'm taking a pretty big risk with my account reputation here...\n\nI just felt like I had to ask the question. I, like everybody else, think Ocean Marketting's PR stallion is a class-A asshat, and I understand that Paul was *particularly* stupid in acting that way towards Mike Krahulik, but I can't convince myself that Mike acted in the right here.\n\nPenny Arcade, and Mike Krahulik through it, command IMMENSE authority with the internet and the entire gaming community--so much so that I feel it could threaten to spread into other realms of this guy's life. Mike decided to power up the internet hate machine, and [some are already starting to feel the backlash.] As Dave observed many times in the original email chain, the Avenger is a fantastic controller, and now the product's sales are going to be affected by misguided hatred.\n\nThat controller was originally designed for the disabled. Is Ocean Marketing responsible for their new product's infamy because they had one awful, reckless marketer associated with it? Moreover, is there the possibility of Paul's actual life (read: not INTERNET life, like the rest of us) becoming endangered because of this and mob mentality? As Facebook, MySpace and Twitter prove to us, his identity and face are no secret, and there are now many, many, MANY people who dislike Paul Christoforo.", "summary": "Was Mike Krahulik justified in bringing the world crashing down about this guy's ears? Should anybody hold this kind of power?"}
{"id": "t3_mgpvs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When have you felt old recently, Reddit?", "post": "Let me preface this by saying I'm 17. In no way am I saying that I'm old, or even mature. In fact, let me be very clear and point out that I'm one of the least mature people I know. Including people younger than myself. So, with that settled, onto the story.\n\nAs I was browsing Youtube, I came across the whole \"Star Wars Clone Wars\" animated crap, and I realized that kids growing up with an animated tv series like that will *never* respect Star Wars for what it is. For example, in a lego short of Jango's death, Mace Windu *WINKS* at Boba after casually lopping Jango's head off. That was, quite possibly, the most emotional moment of the new movies, and they *KILLED IT*! IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!", "summary": "I'm feeling old, reddit. What have you experienced/realized recently that made you feel old, sorry for future generations, or downright annoyed at something that has been killed?"}
{"id": "t3_2398o5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "how do you get over your physical appearance?", "post": "For a personal example, I've done everything I can in my power to make myself the best I can be\n\nI'm in great shape, work out, handsome, i have great hygiene, regular haircuts, great teeth, i smile a lot, im happy, i dress impeccable, i have lots of hobbies and interests, I'm talented at what I do, I'm intelligent, funny, creative, I'm a lot of things, but there's just one thing...\n\nI'm short (5'10\" barefoot)\n\nOver and over I hear women saying they want \"TALL, dark, and handsome\"\n\nA guys gotta be over 6'0\" to date. Even if I were able to convince a woman to date me I feel like I'd be inadequate for her, like she would always be ready to leave as soon as a taller guy came around. I just wouldnt want her to resent me or have her teased by her friends \"oh your boyfriend is a midget\"\n\nThe worst part is i cant change my height, and to this day Ive never been on a date and never asked a woman out. and I get it, you never know if you don't try but I've seen how women swoon over at tall men. I feel like the only thing people care about in dating goes by the first rule, be attractive, and that means be tall if you're a guy. but I totally understand it, and I dont blame any woman for wanting a tall guy. Society puts an overwhelming pressure on women to be thin and pretty, its almost suffocating to see. so its no surprise a girl is going to want the social norm.", "summary": "So... back to the question: how do you get over your physical appearance?"}
{"id": "t3_33lky6", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Chronic Costochodritis - very irritating but only during certain activities", "post": "My doctor recently told me that I may have costochondritis and I cannot begin to describe just how much it bothers me over the course of my days.\n\nI am a 41 year old male, about 6' tall and between 275-315lbs (it varies).  I have had this pain and discomfort for almost two decades now and have taken NSAIDS for it but they don't seem to be doing the trick.\n\nThe pain is always centered just under my right ribcage at and a bit to the lower right of my sternum.  It ALWAYS hits when I am sitting and I work in an office so sitting down is constant for me and thus, the discomfort.  I have tried all methods of sitting properly, not slouching, etc., but nothing seems to work.  It goes away on its own for some time but then comes back seemingly with a vengeance.  Whenever I stand up and walk around it goes away completely.  Pushing down on the area that the area that it affects does results in mild to moderate pain but the sensation is never deeper than the area of my ribcage.\n\nI had weight loss surgery in which I lost 200lbs and have gained a little of it back but I am within the 275-315 weight range but I don't know if that has much to do with it.\n\nIt always seems to want to flare up when I eat or shortly thereafter and then it continues off and on all day but again, ONLY when I am sitting.  No other time.\n\nThis has bothered me long enough.  There has got to be something I can do or take or way to correct this because it is literally ruining my ability to do my day-to-day activities without always having to squirm around in a vain attempt to relieve the pressure and discomfort - at the expense of now having some bad knots in my lower back from all the contorting.\n\nI plan on going back to my doctor but I'd like to at least have some \"ammo\" to take with me along with my story.  Has anyone had something similar to this and was able to treat it without the discomfort ever coming back?  This is just ridiculous.", "summary": "Costocondritis will not go away, what can I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_h6if3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Advice on dating from opposite backgrounds", "post": "I'm a 22 F recently graduated from college and using my engineering degree. I recently met a 23 year old guy (through work though we don't actually work together) who could be described as blue collar. He's definitely been flirting and trying to sound out if I'm single. He's a lot of fun and I think we have pretty good chemistry. But we come from very different backgrounds and have very different views. He's kind of conservative and I'm a liberal from Berkeley. I think he sees my liberalness as humorous eccentricities. We share some interests but not a lot. I'm mostly seeking advice from people with experience in similar relationships, whether they worked out or fell apart, what you talked about in the early stages, etc.", "summary": "Hippy liberal thinking about dating a construction worker."}
{"id": "t3_2dyx4x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by listening to my sister have sex on a voice memo", "post": "This all happened around three years ago when my older sister gave me her iPhone 3GS because she was upgrading to an iPhone 4. I was pretty stoked to own a smartphone (I had flip phones up until that point) so I immediately went in and explore the features that come with it. Later that night when I got board looking at the main apps I started diving down into Apple's bloatware. Apps like passport, news stand, game center and of course, Voice Memos. \n\nI was not prepared for what I was about to listen to. The first few memos were of my sister  (poorly) singing or saying shitting \"thought provoking\" quotes about life. But the last one was different. Expecting more stupid shit, I listened and heard something shocking. My sister's boyfriend (now ex) was talking to her and saying REALLY sexual things to her and you could hear them kiss. Suddenly, she starts to groan as the distinct sound of fucking was heard. This lasted for a full minute (yeah impressive time bud) and I was left incredibly disturbed afterwards. I'll never look at her the same way again.\n\nMaybe next time sis you make sure you've deleted **everything** before you give a phone away.", "summary": "My sister gave me hear old iPhone. Recorded herself having sex with her boyfriend. I found it. Shit was scarring"}
{"id": "t3_19zm4y", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M] I think I got stood up by [21?F]", "post": "I met this girl at a party, got her number and we went out this past Monday. It was a regular coffee date that turned into us going back to her studio space (we're both in college; she's a sculpture major). It was super cool. \n\nAnyways, we've been texting on and off. I asked her on Thursday to do something Friday. She said she couldn't because she was watching a movie with some friends, but then invited me to come. I said yeah. She said she wasn't sure when, and I said to let me know, to which she agreed. \n\nThe next day, we were talking a bit, and then she just did respond at like 4. So I figured she'd let me know what was up.\n\nWell, at around 9, after denying other plans, I text her asking if the movie was still on. No response.\n\nShe just texted me, at 3PM the next day saying \"Sorry I like passed out!\"\n\nI somehow doubt this is the case, so I don't really know what to do. I do like this girl quite a bit, but this kind of sucks. I'm weighing in my head saying something like \"You slept for 20 hours?\" or just asking her to explain, or just not responding. But my ideal outcome for this would be to talk to this girl more without seeming like I just bent over to this. I'm really uncertain on what to do.", "summary": "Pretty sure I got stood up on a second date and got a really shitty excuse. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2uf8po", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking coffee", "post": "This happened 12 years ago--I was 14. I was in the 8th grade, and before I left for school that morning I decided to have myself some coffee. I never really drank it before then, but thought, why not? Well, with my mom yelling that my siblings and I were going to miss our bus if we didn't hurry, I grabbed that big-ass cup of coffee I poured and chugged it like there was no tomorrow. Roughly four hours later (about 10 a.m.), my stomach is killing me--at this point, I am certain that a good vom session is imminent. I tell my teacher that I'm going to be sick and haul ass to the restroom (thankfully it was unoccupied). I rush into one of the stalls, get down on my knees, flip up the toilet seat, and take aim thinking I am about to barf like the Dickens at any second. Instead, I let out the wettest fart of my life, which coincided with an awful ass-plosion. Yes, I did not vomit--I shat my pants. And let me tell you, I shatt'em bad. My only reprieve was that I was still wearing briefs and hadn't yet switched to boxers. In shame and terror, I eked my way to the nurses office and told her I was sick (I actually just told her I vomited up a storm, rather than admit the truth). She calls my teacher to tell her I am going home; my mom arrived with 20 minutes or so to pick me up. (By the grace of God there was no stank or leakage). I walk upstairs to my bedroom, legs tightly clenched, and proceed to carefully remove pants and underwear; I stuffed all evidence into an old pillow, which I tossed into the garbage and immediately emptied. I cleaned myself up, took a nap and didn't take a single sip of coffee for a long, long time. To this day, the smell of coffee makes my sphincter wince.", "summary": "Chug coffee, hours later confusing stomach pains. Gonna vom? Nope, shat pants. The worst part of waking up? Folgers in your butt."}
{"id": "t3_2cjrxj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Quit drinking - no weight loss?", "post": "So, I gained approximately 30-40 lbs after turning 21 - just the past year and 8 months. I would say a good deal of that came from drinking and the drunk eating. Additionally, I moved off campus for my senior year and found it easier to eat out or grab fast food for lunch and dinner rather than cook for myself or go to the dining hall on campus as I did my first three years. During my last semester of college I was easily drinking every day. Typically Sunday-Wednesday were \"light\" nights varying 2-4 beers, with Thursday-Saturday being heavy nights where I may have 8-10 drinks or more in a night. After graduating in early, I have drank maybe 3 times total and each time it was only a glass or two of wine. I've also been more responsible about not eating out (though still not perfect) and exercising.\n\nNow, I'm wondering why I haven't seen any weight loss. I've been trying to take the \"Ease into it\" approach, but it seems like even just cutting drinking I should be losing weight. Beyond that, no late night taco bell and mcdonalds runs, or pizza/pasta for dinner every night should be showing on the scale too right?", "summary": "went from drinking heavily for the past 1.75 year to not drinking for several months and have lost no weight. "}
{"id": "t3_11ii7e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad Cyber-Stalks me through facebook, what can I do to make him stop.", "post": "I'm 22 and still live at home due to having to continue school. My dad got a facebook probably like 3-4 years ago and is like obsessed with it. He is almost always online. If I post anything on my facebook my dad is asking me about whats going on in the post. Its almost to the point were I can't have friends on my facebook talk about me so my dad cant find out. The main problem comes from are differences in what I should be doing on my time off from work. I like to go out drink and have fun, he thinks i should just sit at home and do nothing. So when I go out with freinds I can't be tagged or post any pictures from the night.\n\nIve thought about deleting him, but I think that would just piss him off. I can't find a privacy setting to block him out. What can I do reddit?", "summary": "My Dad follows me on facebook and lectures me about my. life*."}
{"id": "t3_295md4", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "My company isn't paying me what they owe me...", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI am a young recruiter, I started my job about 7 months ago.  I took the job because it seemed like a good opportunity and was stable (paycheck/benefits).\n\nThe caveat upon taking it was that I would be paid very, very little as most of my income was to come from commission.  My mistake was that I never had my pay structure ironed out and explained to me.\n\nAnyways I am leaving soon because in combination with the fact that I want to pursue another career, there are internal problems (my manager is flaky, and I have about a 10% hit rate on getting him on the phone with important people that he agreed he'd speak to, so basically I've just been making myself look like an idiot to dozens and dozens of people).\n\nI want to leave, but I am afraid that I will not be compensated for the placements I have made.  A different manager (who has been having the same problems) suggested I save all my emails that have to do with these placements.  This scares me as I do not want to have to resort to lawyers or anything, but I really need them to pay me as they owe me a lot of money; but I'm scared if I tell them I'm leaving then they just flat out won't ever pay me at all.", "summary": "I am leaving my job and they owe me a lot of money, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wlfeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20F] manage this possibly-mutual crush on a coworker [19M]?", "post": "6 months ago I started working in the back of a restaurant twice a week to make some extra money.  I'm the only female in a staff of all males, and I've developed a crush on one of the boys I work with.  This is all sorts of inconvenient and when I first started liking him I figured I would try to get over it quickly since I don't really believe in mixing work and play.\n\nWell, that was months ago, and since then the boy and I have managed to become quite close.  We go out after work with other coworkers, play video games together, and text a few times a week.  Definitely not best friends, but we sometimes joke about being bros.\n\nRecently he's been way more flirty than usual (me being the only girl in a kitchen full of 18 year old boys inevitably leads to some flirting regardless) and asked to hang out alone once he returns from vacation after Christmas.  I would really love to do this and would love for this to mean he likes me, too, but am afraid to say something because \n\na) if he does like me back, I'm not sure it's appropriate to be involved with a coworker (even though there are a few other boys in the kitchen who are dating female servers) \n\nb) if he doesn't like me back not only do I risk losing our friendship by letting him know I like him, but he might tell some of our other coworkers and the whole work environment could get quite awkward.\n\nSo do I let him know I like him?  Do I keep quiet about it and try to make it go away?  Do I wait and see how hanging out alone goes?  I feel slightly dumb about this because I'm very good at being direct with boys, but since he's a coworker I don't know how to handle this and I'm starting to like him A LOT.", "summary": "I have a possibly-mutual crush on a coworker and I'm not sure whether I should let him know I like him or keep it a secret because of professional and personal reasons."}
{"id": "t3_2inxjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (33f) just broke up with boyfriend (33m) of 3 years and feel tremendous guilt.", "post": "This is the third time I have broken up with him. The first two were due to his heroin use. He got clean and I took him back but I felt trapped.\n\nHe still used Benzos and ate klonipin like it was candy. He was staying at my place for a few days and managed to burn my rug (that covered the burned carpet from when he lived here) three times, knock a lamp off a table, and break an antique piece of furniture I have. Before owning up to it, he blamed me. I was asleep when it hapoened. This was almost the last straw.\n\nMy friends and family hate him. They don't know I took him back. I was having friends over to watch the game yesterday evening. Yesterday morning, he slips in my bathroom and gets a concussion and gets mad when I don't cancel my plans. I am just now mending fences with some friends and family because of his actions in the past.\n\nHe also challenged everything. On my one day off this week, that we were supposed to spend together, he ate a handful of benzos and kept pestering me to go to McDonalds for him. I would tell him no...he would ask five minutes later. At least fifteen times. I know, trivial...but it pissed me off and ruined my day.\n\nSo I dumped him...again. Told him we needed time apart. He had no idea I was unhappy. Like he couldn't tell when we would yell at each other or we weren't sleeping in the same bed ever.\n\nI feel guilty because I worry he is going to relapse because he claims he only quit for me. I don't want to have that on my conscience. I also feel like I betrayed him.", "summary": "feel guilty for dumping former addict bf for 3rd time"}
{"id": "t3_ub27f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a first generation American raised by Eastern European parents, and when I visited by boyfriends parents for the first time (Americans since god knows when) I was shocked. What cultural differences have perplexed you?", "post": "My parents are Polish and being raised by them and visiting Poland every summer I guess there are some major things Americans don't do:\n1- In Poland if someone asks you to stay for dinner, you better damn well stay or it's really offensive. I felt rude when my boyfriends parents asked us to stay and he said \" Nah, I don't want to.\"\n\n2- If my parents talk to me while I'm walking by them or call me, I better stop and listen or run the fuck over or I'll get my ass beat. My boy friend, his sister an I walked into the house and his mother started to speak to them, I stopped and listened and they just kept walking. \n\n3- If my parents ask me to do something, I better do it now or in a very near future time frame. His parents asked my boyfriend to do something minor and he said \"Yeah yeah I'll do it,\" and never did. Parents didn't give a fuck.\n\n4- In Poland, it's respectful if you bring a gift when going to\nSomeone's house, so I brought chocolates to his parents. His mom made such a big deal and now thinks I'm the sweetest person ever.\n\nThese might be cultural things or just the way his family is but what cultural differences have you noticed. \n\nOn my iPhone - excuse all grammar and spelling! Thank you.", "summary": "Huge cultural differences between Americans and Eastern Europeans."}
{"id": "t3_1v8b9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I ask my long distance SO [M24] that I [F20] want to sext?!", "post": "not sure if this is the right place to ask. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year, long distance, we see each other about 1 weekend a month. it's hard and doesn't always go smoothly but i love him and want things to work out. he has exams at the moment and is in college, also runs a business and does lots of things on the side, so is always very very busy (i don't have any real suspicions that he is cheating, for what it's worth). during our time apart, i get lonely and sexually frustrated. we've sexted a little bit in the past, and done \"skype sex\", and i really like it for when we are not together. it's been almost 7 weeks since we've seen each other so i'm feeling it, and really want to ask him to do this with me but i'm scared of being shot down or told he doesn't have the time. i think it would be fun, sexy and do wonders for our relationship, so why am i so scared to ask in case he says no?", "summary": "long distance, i want to sext and skype-sex but too scared to ask in case i am rejected"}
{"id": "t3_r1acp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am looking for help in making a career choice, I want to become a paramedic so any help is welcome. (UK)", "post": "I am currently studying at A level in year 12 (britain), I am finding school boring and same old day in and day out. This is causing stress for me and my family. My lifes dream is to become a paramedic but because of a fault at school I was not allowed to do any further science. I acheived straight A's in my sciences. I read on the NHS website that you can become a paramedic by first starting as a technician and then after a period going for further training. Is it possible that you can become a technician without A levels? Please help.", "summary": "I want to become a paramedic but am not enjoying A levels."}
{"id": "t3_1i4i8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my ___ [21F] 1 year, what does this sentence really mean?", "post": "\"I want to be free of constant relationships to be able to make friends and know what I want\"\n\nto me: we are ldr during the summer and all last semester and she has lots of time on her hands. so her wanting to make friends by not being in a relationship is crap. She has nothing stopping her from making friends with anyone expect herself. So, this reads to me as \"I want to be single so I can flirt/hook up with a lot of people and do whatever i want with no consequences. she said its not that and it is just that she wants to make friends.. Except that makes no sense to me.\nHere is the reddit thread that she made. I honestly stumbled across it cause she was talking about a diff thread that the same account commented on. I thought the style of writing was familiar so i clicked it and yea... it reads 1,3,2", "summary": "GF thinking of breaking up to let herself make more friends even though she has more than enough opportunity to. I think its her bad excuse to hook up and mess around with ppl and not have to worry."}
{"id": "t3_1bu9fa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I help my wife?", "post": "Reddit, no history here but reading for a long time and I think this is the place to start.  My wife is recovering sexual abuse memories in her mid 30s after having kids (manifesting in shooting up out of bed screaming in wild uncontrollable terror with no idea what's going on, vague memories now that affect her for days, increasing social anxiety, pretty serious depression) there's history of abuse in the family, and I believe her.  She is perfect and amazing and I have no idea what to do.  \\\\\\  She schedules then cancels appointments with therapists or psychologists. Seems Reddit is a wealth of experience, any advice for a husband who wants to help?  Give me what you got.", "summary": "Wife sexually abused, how can I be the best husband?"}
{"id": "t3_283uhy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If I have evidence that my sister may have a relationship outsider of her marriage, should I tell her husband, or her (that I know), or both, or what?", "post": "Her husband is a great guy, and has been devastated that she \"no longer loves him.\"\n\nShe has moved out. Our families are equally as devastated about the failing marriage of 10 years. My sister claims there is nobody else, but she just needs her space...married too young, etc.\n\nToday, through facebook, I discovered inappropriate posts involving her and another man.\n\nPersonally I think her husband should know the truth, but another family member thinks it will be too hard on him. I said the wound won't heal until it's been cleaned, and it always hurts the most to get it clean.\n\nI know if I confront my sister, she will just explain it away as being innocent. So I don't think there is a point to telling her.\n\nOpinions on what would be best for the relationship?", "summary": "Have photo evidence of sister in a relationship apart from her husband. Don't know what to do with it."}
{"id": "t3_112np0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by marching barefoot in freezing water", "post": "I'm in a high school marching band. Today, we were preparing for our first marching contest. It was 7:30 in the morning, it had rained the previous night, and it was about 50 degrees outside. We went out to the football field to practice for the contest, and as I got there, I had realized I had forgotten my marching shoes. Our director was coming out onto the field, so, in the panic I was in, I decided I had no choice but to take my shoes and socks off and go barefoot. I walked onto the field, and there was about an inch of incredibly cold water all across the field. Almost instantly, I felt a certain numbness in my feet, but I kept on. Everyone was either amused or horrified by my decision.\nI did this for 20 minutes. I could not feel my feet at all after a while. When I couldn't stand it any more, I asked my director if I could just wear my non-suitable shoes. He was angry at my forgetfulness, but when he saw my multi-colored feet, he felt pity for me and let me wear them.\nIt's 10:30 at night right now, and no, I don't have frostbite or hypothermia. The only thing that came out of this experience is that I look like a bamf in front of my friends.", "summary": "Forgot to bring suitable marching shoes to marching practice, had to march barefoot in ice water for 20 minutes, couldn't feel my feet, nearly had an encounter with frostbite."}
{"id": "t3_2wzeds", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Damages reported by landlord AFTER moving out, having written down no damages at all (France)", "post": "So, the etat de lieux (basically the French name of the check in / check out when moving in / out) was done and EVERYTHING was noted down as \"comme dans l'etat de lieux d'entr\u00e9e\" or so, basically that EVERYTHING is exactly like it was when we moved in. You get the idea. :)\n\nNow the landlord is claiming that the bed is broken (it was a furnished appartment, he even lifted the mattress during the checkout and looked at everything) the day after the papers were signed (papers done on Sunday, he sent an email on Monday claiming it was broken when he went to bed on Sunday evening).\n\nSince we have papers saying everything is OK he can't make any claims, I assume? Might want to add that he didn't ask ANY questions during the whole etat de lieux, basically walked around the flat and we followed him...but he never asked any questions, at all.\n\nHe claimed his flat back without proper notice too (email instead of registered mail) and we left within 5 weeks, so we made it easy for him to come back to France after getting himself fired in the US for something stupid and losing his work visa.\n\nHe didn't ask for any money yet but I'd like to be prepared in case this comes up. I'm a tad sad since, for once in my life, I tried to help others even tho it doesn't benefit me at all...and bam, we're running into such issues.\n\nThanks for your advice!", "summary": "checkout papers are stating no damages, landlord now claims the bed is broken. Can he make any claims? KKTHXBYE! :D"}
{"id": "t3_2rdroh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by landing on penis and having urine on my face", "post": "So this fuck up happened today morning \n\nMy mother had gone out to see her friend and just me and my dad at home .\n\nWe have a backdoor to the garden that is open most of the time(\nThe area where i live in has had thefts recently) , and a small back hall that leads to the backdoor. There is bathroom is in between\n which has a urinal installed (only one at home)which i prefer. \n\nSo my dad was in the garden this morning , I woke up with an erection and a need to pee . I forget to turn off the fan, FUCK UP 1\n\nI walk to the bathroom which is near the backdoor and not mine,FUCK UP 2\n\nBeing lazy i stand behind the door and pee from there targeting the urinal. ( some of which i miss)\n\nSo my dad on hearing the door sound comes in to check and instead of calling me or anything he proceeds to back hall and from there sees the fan still running in my room which is on the opposite side of the hall , thinking that im still sleeping and that someone has come in he pushes the bathroom door with full force . I was still waking up and eyes half open . This sudden push makes me land face first on the floor , crashing with my boner and face on spilt pee .", "summary": "Landed on penis and urine on face for being mistaken as a theif"}
{"id": "t3_284zft", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My younger brother is getting bullied and has become anti social, I need advice on how to break him out of his shell again.", "post": "I am eight years older than my brother, I'm in my mid twenties and he's just a teenager, but recently he has been getting picked on a lot in school. He's always been a really strict rule follower and if kids tried to cheat or skip class he would tell them not to, and I'm assuming he would tell the teacher. I'm not sure if it's because he has a learning disability, but he has had a hard time realizing that he is losing friends because of it. He has started getting picked on because of his height and weight even though he is quite skinny. \n\nTo try and help him feel more comfortable in his own skin I've been helping him eat better and start weight lifting (I have a bachelor's of science in exercise physiology and a minor in nutrition). While he's become more confident physically, he still struggles making friends and understanding how to fit in. I've had him come with me to social activities, but there is only so much I can do because of the age gap. \n\nSorry that this is such a long brick of text. But", "summary": "I just am looking for ideas of things that I can do with him to get him more comfortable around people and feel more confident as a person."}
{"id": "t3_4rrp6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] trying to be as best as possible to my anxiety prone [15F] girlfriend .", "post": "I just recently started dating Penelope, who is two grades behind me. We met at our highschool during choir and musical; and, as youthful relationships typically begin, we are just wild about eachother.\n\nMy question is dual-faceted but I extend it to /r/relationships with the idea generally being that I am making an honest attempt to cross the schema gap to be the best boyfriend I can be.\n\nFirst and foremost, the most obvious difference between us is our age disparity of two years. This isn't a huge problem between us, but might be an issue in the future, (parents raising eyebrows, peers being skiddish, etc.) So, what are my ethical obligations to her, (being the older of the two,) how can I traverse the two-year gap so that we have more common ground, and what do I do about negative societal judgement?\n\nThe second factor contributing to my ignorance is that Penelope happens to have pretty bad social anxiety. She arbitrarily experiences episodes where she believes that I'm lying and that the relationship isn't real, and has difficulties talking about the way she feels. She experiences occasional anxiety attacks as well. Her anxiety isn't advanced enough for me to consider it a serious hindrance to our relationship, I knew her for a couple months with that knowledge before making the decision to move forward into a romantic relationship. What can I do to make her feel less embarrassed about her anxiety when it strikes? As somebody who does not experience the same issue, what should I know to be more educated and empathetic going forward?", "summary": "New girlfriend is two years younger, (a decent gap because we're still in highschool,) and experiences strong anxiety. What should I know, and what should I do in these regards to improve our relationship in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_4zxtou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) struggling to breakup with my boyfriend (28M) due to his panic attacks", "post": "I don't believe in staying with someone because of a health reason. \n\nMy boyfriend who is a lovely person, but not the right fit for me in the long run due to various reasons including different interests and him seemingly forgetting to put effort into our relationship has panic attacks. \n\nHe shares a very personal story which I greatly appreciated him trusting me with about how when the last girl he was seriously seeing ended things with him, he had a panic attack and ended up in the ER. He had to take a week off of work and had a very difficult time, eventually getting a psychologist. \n\nHe has since stopped going to the psychologist.\n\nI do not see things going well with him. I'm bored with the relationship and were about to enter long distance which I'm just not down for. It was suppose to be our last night together and he fell asleep early. By chance I ended up staying in the city but I was so fed up by the end of that night I decided it was over. \n\nI am extremely worried about breaking up with him. It's not that I think I am his God given world or anything like that at all. For all I know he could want to breakup too. \n\nWe previously got in a large fight when we were drunk and I broke up with him. He said some extremely mean things about my health and I got up and said this is not what I need. \n\nHe broke down crying and couldn't breathe on his bed. I ended up staying the night and calming him down. \n\nThings got better since but I can't see this relationship lasting forever and I don't think it's fair to stay with him.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? \n\nI'm his first serious girlfriend in 8 years and the first girl ever to meet his family. \n\nThe last girl he had a breakdown over was a FwB who he said he fell in love with. \n\nI've made him promise before that if we did breakup and he got sick, he had to let me know if he wanted and I would want to help him. I do not want to see him suffer and he knows this.", "summary": "boyfriend previously had massive breakdown post last girl he was seeing. I'm the first girl he's seriously seen since and when we talked previously after drinking he had a breakdown. I don't know how to do this."}
{"id": "t3_1pqzkd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] having trouble accepting my BF's [23/M] religious beliefs", "post": "Today after a conversation about religion, my SO of two years told me he sometimes worries that I think his beliefs are 'silly'. I didn't want to sound like an asshole and said that while I didn't share the same beliefs as him, that didn't mean that he's 'silly' to believe. \n\n...But honestly, as an atheist I try to put the idea that he believes in a god at the back of my mind because it's only once in a blue moon we talk about religion (he would never bring it up, he accepts completely the fact that I'm not religious) and it's something that I have a hard time accepting and it's the only aspect of our relationship that I just avoid talking about.\n\nHe then said he sometimes thinks that if I could change one thing about him, it would be his beliefs. I didn't really know what to say to this and sorta fobbed him off, not making eye-contact and said I love him the way he is (which is true).\n\n**My question is: Does it make me a bad person to admit that of COURSE I would change this about him if I could?** We were discussing the idea of what happens after death - I had said I couldn't think of anything more terrifying than continuing to exist for eternity while he said he couldn't think of anything worse than ceasing to exist - which completely baffles me and for the first time I realised that our views are polar opposites and will most likely stay that way. He believes there's something more than just chemistry that makes him 'him' and that he wouldn't want this to just end after death.\n\nI feel like a horrible person for admitting to myself that there's something about him that I'd like to change, while he's perfectly happy accepting the fact that I'll never hold any religious beliefs..", "summary": "SO is religious and I'm not - does it make me a bad gf to want to change this if I could?*"}
{"id": "t3_3u2tge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Meeting my [21F] boyfriend's [20M] parents for the first time. Dating for 3 months, friends for about a year. Should I bring a baked good?", "post": "So, for Thanksgiving break, originally my boyfriend and I planned on driving down to his hometown, and then I would fly to mine soon after. It worked out because his hometown is on the way to mine, and he lives in a city so there is an airport.\n\nWhen his parents found out, then asked him if they could meet me (I've never met his parents, been dating for 3 months). They said I could visit and sleep on the couch for a few hours before my flight instead of sleeping at the airport. I wanted to be hospitable to them for being so kind without even knowing me. My question is, should I bring them cookies? I already made the cookies to be honest (I like to bake), but now I'm having second thoughts. I can always give the cookies to friends before I leave if need be.\n\nBeing desperate for an answer, I tried googling this. Most people asked about bringing flowers. This is something I would never do. I bake pretty often, so I didn't think cookies would be a big deal, and flowers seem too extravagant. He also has 3 little sisters (under 12) so I thought they would really like cookies. Plus it's Thanksgiving, and you know- food is a big thing. But one of the comments on a thread I read said \"Don't act desperate\", and that scared me. I don't want to seem desperate, even though I really do want his parents to like me. They are pretty conservative. I don't want to seem too far one way or the other (not too standoffish but not too desperate). Thoughts?", "summary": "Meeting boyfriend's parents for the first time. They are letting me nap on their couch before my flight. Is making cookies for them desperate?"}
{"id": "t3_3hj1ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why is my ex moving on so quickly from the relationship when he told me that he was in love with me? I'm very confused.", "post": "My boyfriend (18) and I (female 19) broke up about 3 and a half weeks ago. About two weeks ago I called him for closure and he told me that he had no interest in talking to me ever again. He was clearly very angry and said that he had moved on. We broke p because my parents caught us having sex and he felt very uncomfortable so he wanted out. I saw that he now follows his ex on twitter (his ex cheated on him btw) and she follows him. Why would he do that? \n\nHe had told me before we broke up that he was madly in love with me and that he wouldn't know what to do without me. It was obvious that we both cared a lot about each other, so I don't understand why he wants no contact. Should I reach out to him?", "summary": "My ex is moving on so fast, even started following his ex on social media, do guys really move on within weeks from a girl that told they were in love with?"}
{"id": "t3_3sjtki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] am desperately trying to be ok with my bf [18 M] watching porn, please help!", "post": "Hi everyone, I've been struggling with my bf watching porn ever since he started causing infidelity problems in our relationship. We've been better than ever recently and I've loosened up on the porn and I've been good with that as long as I don't know what he's watching. \n\nI recently saw a few gifs he was looking at on here (reddit) and I've always had a bigger problem with him viewing things like that because he could directly message them (which was a problem in the past). I'm trying to be okay with all of this the best that I can but he knows explicitly how I feel about viewing things people themselves post on the internet. \n\nWhat do you tell yourself when your sig other looks at these types of things? What advice can you give me on this? He always gets really defensive when I have issues about these things so I didn't know where else to go for help.", "summary": "I've been better about my bf watching porn recently but he's viewing irl people posting content on the internet. This is something he knows I'm not okay with because of his past infidelity."}
{"id": "t3_3i6qub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/M] think I may have caused a grandmother's death for rejecting her granddaughter [20/F]", "post": "Last Wednesday I hear that my grandma's friend's granddaughter is coming to my town to attend a nearby uni as an international student. I keep hearing things from my mom saying she's pretty, smart, etc. and that her side of the family takes an interest in me (in hopes of marriage). My dad is a very wealthy man in his native land and I attend a reputable school in the states so I guess they like me. \n\nOn Wednesday night I meet her and she is drop dead gorgeous. The craziest part is that her looks aren't even the best thing about her. She has traveled quite a few places in her life so she's very well-cultured and open-minded. We will call her Barbara. \n\nPerfect, right? Cept I'm in a really great relationship right now and wouldn't trade it for the world. So I tell Barbara about my girlfriend as I am introducing her to a mutual friend that attends the same uni as her. I also mention how I will be visiting her next week. \n\nThe next two days pass and I'm off to visit my girlfriend (we are doing long distance). On the morning of my departure I hear that Barbara's grandma fainted. Later that night I hear that she had passed away.  \n\nI feel like a narcissist saying this but I can't help to feel that her grandma's death is my fault. I know for a fact that Barbara told her mom and grandma that I already have a gf and that id be visiting her this week. I can't help to think that I caused the grandma's fainting and death. \n\nRight now I feel terrible for being far apart from Barbara, who is all alone in a foreign land and starting school. But then again I owe my girlfriend a good amount of dates since I have not seeing her for a while. I plan to go back in a few days but am tempted to go back earlier.\n\nWhat should I do? How should I feel? What do I tell her the next time I see her? I feel so lost and confused.", "summary": "Indirectly rejected girl saying I already have a gf and then her grandmother fainted. Is this my fault? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_269he6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my wife [22 F] for two years. She says I'm overprotective.", "post": "So my wife is normally an extremely safe driver but every since we've moved I have noticed that she has been becoming complacent. She is doing things like not stopping before the stop sign, crossing in front of traffic instead of waiting, and not noticing cars slowing ahead of us until it's almost too late to stop. I do have some anxiety due to PTSD from a driving related incident while deployed to a an area outside of combat zones. (I witnessed pedestrians being hit by traffic on three occasions.)\n\nSo tonight when leaving our house she was approaching the stop sign and did the standard look left and then right but wasn't slowing down quickly enough to stop before the stop sign. I exhaled as I was concerned due to oncoming traffic. She asked why I was acting like she wasn't going to stop so I approached the subject of noticing her complacent habit.\n\nThis resulted in a huge argument that involved her telling me that I'm overprotective and controlling. And basically saying that she is done and has given up on us. (We've struggled with other issues in the past and also have a 9month old together)", "summary": "wife thinks I'm overprotective because I said I thought she has been being complacent with driving safely"}
{"id": "t3_199gvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can we get on the same page about our future?", "post": "I (27/f) am going to lose him (26/m) because we can't seem to get on the same page. We've been together for a year and a half and I think deep down we both want the same thing but we keep missing each other and I can't even explain it much less understand it fully. \n\nHe wants someone he can build a life with and will be his intimate partner as well as his business partner. He wants to make future plans for the financial security of his family and he wants that all to start now. I want that too but he doesn't think I do. He is not convinced by the words that I say, but I truly mean them. \n\nHe doesn't want to live with me right now or even spend a lot of time with me because he's soooo busy with work and educating himself on future security. Among other reasons he is a man who needs quite a bit of space. I can't commit to his picture of a long term future together if I don't even see myself in it in the short term. I don't feel that there is a real commitment now, how can I skip steps and plan a long term future? And I can't seem to get him to grasp that point. \n\nTo him business and personal life are one in the same. I separate the two. I certainly cannot be his business partner if I cannot see myself as his life partner. We're currently separated because we don't see eye to eye and I am afraid of losing him. I might have already lost him. I have never felt so right, so good, and so whole about someone in my life. He is it. He is amazing. WE are amazing when it works and we have so much to give and learn from each other. There is a powerful connection there. However I feel his head is constantly in the clouds while I'm trying for the basics of the foundation. And I fear I cannot get my head in our future if he cannot get his head in our now. What do I do?!", "summary": "Boyfriend keeps dreaming about the long term but wont lay any basic foundations NOW for our future together. It's tearing us apart."}
{"id": "t3_2e8lbt", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I ran straight through.", "post": "Today, I ran for almost 7km straight in 47 minutes.  Started my Zombies, Run! mission, and didn't stop running until I heard \"Mission Completed\".\n\nA little background - overweight and out of shape my entire adult life, I had joint problems and was diagnosed with asthma.  I moved across the US from everything I knew. \n\nThe day after my boyfriend's birthday (2 weeks after mine), I started working out.  Then I decided that I was going to try running.  I got a c25k app and barely made it through the 15 second run drills.  I finished the app and have been running almost daily, but seemed to have trouble with slowing to a walk way more often than I wanted.  \n\nI realized that I was paying too much attention to the distance I was running.  It'd tell myself 'after this km, you can walk.'  And it would seem like an eternity.  So I turned of the distance prompts in the game.  I chose a road for today that I've been on a few times, and has a park at the end in case I wanted to add some distance.  \n\nI'm still stunned that I did that - even more so that I just want to go back out tonight and do it all over again.", "summary": "I ran farther than I ever have without stopping.  And it felt GLORIOUS!!"}
{"id": "t3_1jk7ol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/m] made a joke via text that didn't go over well, I think, to her [24/f]. - What next?", "post": "As the title says. Sunday we hung out and had a fantastic night together - our eighth time hanging out, and I'm patient with the pace she moves at. While together she is very, very into me, and while apart she is very, very busy with her research job at a hospital.\n\nThis past Sunday, I teased her about a beeper she has to carry when she goes to the hospital. Asked her for a date Tuesday via phone, she called me back and had good small talk, and she said she'd let me know. Day after I get a text from her explaining why she can't make it Friday - basically, she has to go into the hospital for a patient. \n\nI commented on that hopefully it'll be more eventful this time, no problem especially because of her beeper. She replied laughing and said because her schedule is pre-planned she won't have her beeper.\n\n> Oh, guess I'll have to beep another crazy, hot girl for a kiss then ;)\n\nAnd I didn't hear - sent that around the time she is studying for professional exams after work.\n\nSo yesterday morning, I texted her (I've only done somoething similar once) \"Good morning, beautiful :)\" and I did not hear back at all yesterday.\n\nToday is the day after, and I'm panicking. Things were going so well and now I don't know. I thought it was a clear joke, especially how she knows I am patient with not being intimate with her, she knows I would commit when she's ready, I try to actively see her or bend my schedule for when she is free in the little time she has to see her, etc.", "summary": "Sent a text that was meant at a joke, not sure if she took it the wrong way, and then to save grace send her a nice good morning text the day after while she is at her very busy work - no response, today is the day after."}
{"id": "t3_4imohz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Crush [16F] is throwing me [16M] for a loop. Need Insight!", "post": "2 months ago she got out of a bad relationship with a guy who treated her like crap. She is funny, outgoing, and very energetic. Occasionally she is a bit flirty with some guys.\n\nWe talk every night over text, and we have a class together. We always tease each other, and joke, and laugh. Some of our discussions are really deep. She has told me a lot of stuff that she hasn't told too many other people.\n\nShe said at first that she was not looking for a relationship, but recently she said she is looking for a guy who can show her that he deserves her, because shes tired of being treated like crap.\n\nToday, for example, she wanted me to share a chair with her while we worked on our project together. She would look at me and laugh, whisper into my ear, and get real close to me. She would rest her head on my shoulder. We were teasing eachother the whole time, but she seemed genuinely flirty.\n\nBut when our other group member took notice and asked if we were dating, she quickly and blandly said no, like it was nothing. This isn't the first time either.\n\nShe sometimes talks about enjoying the single life, but also asks me if she will ever fall in love, and about how guys are always interested in her. Some nights she will give me a full layout of info, others she seems aggravated and ends the conversation shortly.\n\nA lot of times she tells me about how great I am, and that she would be dumb to lose such a great friend. But when relationships emerge in the conversation, she usually say something like \"I hope you find the right girl, youre such an amazing person\".\n\nIts just so on and off, and I need a few pointers.", "summary": "She is physically flirty, and has contradicting statements about relationships. She either full on flirts with me or treats me more like a friend."}
{"id": "t3_328qiw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not hiding my erotic drawings well enough", "post": "So I'm 16 and enjoy drawing and occasionally I'll draw something sexual just to past the time not for jerk off material and usually when I'm done I'll throw them under my bed. Well today I was looking for something and asked my dad if he had seen it, he asked if I had checked my room. I said yes. Of course my dad went upstairs while I was in the toilet and moved my bed. Hearing him rummaging. After he had come down i sped upstairs and the drawings were in the bin in my room.\nHe obviously saw them, I'm kinda worried.", "summary": "I might be avoiding my dad for the rest of my life"}
{"id": "t3_u9eg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I was going through the room used for the storage of my grandparent's (and great grandparent's) things, when I stumbled upon this.", "post": "My grandfather was a wood/metal worker, and a good half of the things in that room are tools and unfinished projects stuffed into boxes. Among these are boxes that he packed while he was still alive that are full of the most random stuff (keys, marbles, bits of metal and wire etc). In one of these boxes was 4 old flip top metal zippo lighters, and one of these was this one.\n\nOn the back of that lighter is an inscription of my great grandfather's name, I did some digging on google but couldn't find anything about 25 year anniversary lighters with custom names on the back (also, did some searching and found out he was never a pilot for them). Does anyone have any information on it?", "summary": "Found this, what's the story behind it? "}
{"id": "t3_138omz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I handle my POS neighbor who is now deliberately blasting surround sound/etc?", "post": "My husband, 7 year old and I live in a 100 year old building on the third floor.  It's casual, rent by owner, not corporate.  There is a landlord on site, but he is a puss and is rarely here anyway.  Our new downstairs neighbors have a surround sound system they play video games and watch tv on until 4-5 am.  It shakes our apartment so bad, and it is so loud we can't even hear our tv.  Last night they were hammering on the walls at 3 am.  I knocked on the floor to let them know, hey, not cool.  They decided to make hammering song like crap for an hour as retaliation.  I asked the landlord to talk to them and he said he would go right up, but they still do it, and louder I might add, plus the banging on the walls and you can hear them laughing.  I'm at my wits end, and need advice.  My husband wants to silently get them back like getting deer urine at the hunting store and pouring it in their door frame or something along those lines.  I'm afraid if I show my face, they will key my truck or something of that nature.", "summary": "My asshole neighbors deliberately have their surround sound on and bang the walls till 4am and the landlord talking didn't help."}
{"id": "t3_49lkrt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I feel stuck in a 3 year relationship that I don't want to be in.", "post": "I (m/31) am currently in a relationship that I want out of.  I would have ended the relationship over a year ago, but tragically her mother developed cancer.  I would have guilted myself to no end if I dumped her while she was going through that ordeal.  \n\nUnfortunately, her mother recently passed.  She's understandably heartbroken and I know I need to be there for her now more than ever, but I still desperately want to be free of the relationship.  \n\nShe's VERY invested in our relationship, which will result in a lot more heartache that I really don't want to put on her right now.  Am I committed to sticking it out with her for as long as she's so emotionally distraught?  Am I in this for at least another year or 2?  I know I owe her honesty, but I just don't know if she can handle any more stress at this time.", "summary": "Girlfriend's mom developed cancer and passed.  I know I need to be there for my g/f, but I really just want to be out of the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1ixf7j", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Rant/Spiritual Awakening] My sister said my wedding dress made me look like a sausage. LADIES DON'T LET ANYONE RUIN YOUR ENGAGEMENT GLOW!", "post": "Yep, my 28 year old adult sister was watching me try on my wedding dress, and I mentioned that I wanted to lose 5-10 pounds before the wedding.  Her response was \"Oh good!  Then you won't look like a sausage for the wedding!\"  Uhh..rude?  \n\nIf any of you remember that AMA a while back about her family shipping her off because she was \"demon possessed\" that was me, so I'm not at all surprised that someone in my family said something hurtful, but it still hurt.  And I panicked.  When I found out I was getting a huge bonus from work, I broke down stressing about whether or not I needed to go get a brand new dress because the other one made me sausage-y.  \n\nWell, you know what?  I love my dress.  It looks amazing on me, and if someone thinks I look like a sausage, they can keep their opinions to themselves because it makes me feel AMAZING.  Don't you ladies let anyone drag you down, because I promise you they WILL try.  They don't even deserve the time it would take you to be concerned about the things they say or do.", "summary": "YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL AND YOUR WEDDING WILL BE PERFECT BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT!!!"}
{"id": "t3_1ua06g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/M] with gf [20/F] Should there be a lot of pressure in saying 'I love you'?", "post": "Sorry if this seems trivial compared to other posts on this sub, but this is really the only question I have about my relationship right now.\n\nI feel like rationally, there shouldn't be. It's just words. But I'm not thinking rationally because I am...well, in love. I guess I'm just afraid that if she doesn't reciprocate that it could make things awkward and I'd mess up a good thing. Here's a back story.\n\nI met this girl back in September and we got pretty close, hanging out and going to parties every weekend (we were in the same social circle) and then back in November we officially started dating. Things have been great, no issues whatsoever. \n\nTo be honest, things started out a little slow. I had recently gotten out of a long relationship and was comparing the feelings I had in that relationship to the feelings I had in my new one, but once I realized what a mistake that was things have been amazing. \n\nOver the past month or so we've gotten particularly close. It went from a fun, low key relationship to something a lot more. Now everyday I'm not with her I miss her. I'm always thinking about her and it always makes me smile. I can picture myself with her for a long time, which is something that I look for in relationships. \n\nSo back to the question, should there be a lot of pressure on telling her I love you? I'm certainly putting that pressure on myself, perhaps unnecessarily, and I guess I'm just thinking what the worst case scenario would be. We're always on the same page when it comes to the relationship and maybe this won't be any different. It's not like those online 'does your SO love you?' quizzes are ever accurate...maybe I should just take the plunge and hope that she feels the same way. That's really all I can do, right?", "summary": "Is saying 'I love you' for the first time a big deal?"}
{"id": "t3_1oc5ig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "whats the worse thing you have ever done out of boredom?", "post": "I would have to say mine was throwing a glow stick into a microwave and  heating it up. My cousin had told me that if we had warmed it up that it would regain its glow, now my 12 year oldself thought it was a good idea to listen and so i did it. But then i had it on for too long and when it was done heating up and in my hands, it burst and shot into my then 9 year old sister's eye. Afraid of what my mom would say when she got home, we rinsed out her eyes and wiped out the microwaves, threw away the rags and aired out the house.", "summary": "threw a glowstick in a microwave, explodes into sister's eyes, cleans up mess and never said anything until now"}
{"id": "t3_4v8itu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23M] GF's[24F] visa to live in the UK expires later this year. Looking for some new perspectives on our situation.", "post": "My girlfriend is Malaysian and has been studying in the UK for the past 3 years. We have been in a relationship for 2 \u00bd years now.\n\nHer visa to stay here is coming to an end later this year, then she will be forced to return to Malaysia despite opting to stay here if she had the choice. We have gone down the job route, to the point that she was offered the job here, but the employer failed to get a license to issue Visas on very petty grounds.\n\nI (and others) have suggested getting married. It is something we've discussed before, and we are both happy to do it except that she refuses to get married before she goes back as she feels like she will just be doing it so she can get a visa, rather than because she will actually be married. She's happy for me to propose in 6 months, but not before she returns. The problem for me is that the delay will mean we are not going to be close to one another for at least a year, perhaps longer, other than for short visits (we both will be working full time).\n\nRight now, I am positive and optimistic about our situation as I think that we can make it work, but two people living in entirely different cultures on opposite sides of the world might mean that we change a lot.\n\nCan anyone offer any advice on how to make this work, or just a new perspective on the situation?", "summary": "Girlfriend's visa is expiring and she has to leave the country for at least a year. Advice on how to make the relationship work and some new perspectives are what I'm after."}
{"id": "t3_2prmgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] 7 months, recent following of naked girls on social media", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months, talking before that. We have a great sex life and communicate what the other wants. All aspects of our relationship are great and we always talk about how happy we are with each other.\n\nI recently noticed that he follows instagrams of basically naked girls or girls who are training to become swimsuit models, etc. He never followed these types of accounts prior to us dating or during us dating until a few weeks ago. \n\nIs this normal or am I just being a freak about things? I haven't brought it up because I don't want to come off in the wrong way, but I'm not sure what to make of it. \n\nObviously men look at other women and I accept that, I'm just wondering why this would suddenly happen.", "summary": "Boyfriend recently following nude instagram accounts, is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3wgftj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [19 F] for a little over a year, I'm graduating and it's causing problems", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo this is a pretty short post, but basically I only have one more semester left in college. This has sparked lots of emotions and confusion of what we should do.  I love this girl to bits but we have had our fair share of problems, and a lot of the problems were caused during summer and last year's winter break.  Basically, it is apparent that we cannot handle long distance and we have said it before in the past.  \n\nI should also mention I go to school with her but I live a state away during the breaks.  There is a huge chance I am going back after college to come back home and find a job somewhere which is what my sister did when she graduated college.  \n\nMy question to you guys is I have no idea what to do now, winter break just started and we have already been freaking out cuz the date is getting closer and closer to me graduating.  It sounds like we have an expiration date but it is really hard for me to understand what to do with this situation.  It is really hard to force a breakup when things are not going that poorly.", "summary": "Graduating college next semester, gf isn't and long distance is not an option. I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3amzw2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because I Electro Static Discharged all over the place", "post": "This FuckUp was not today but two days ago but I'm still feeling the repercussions of it now.\n\nSo to start off this story I was in town with a few friends when I remembered I could do with some more RAM and I also had a CEX (UK game buy and sell) store. \n\nThey had some sweet shiny RAM out front which I decided to pick up.\n(Yes I know it's bad to buy RAM second hand but I need it being on 4GB in my PC, I would also do a RAMTest as soon as I got it and return it immediately if it got any faults)\n\nSo I bought it, went home and decided to put it into my other computer.\n\nRAMTest, Fine.\n\nSo I decide to put it in my other PC.\nI turn the machine off at the", "summary": "Fried Computer, 3 Deadlines, Impossible to find motherboard."}
{"id": "t3_lpa27", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should subreddits with niche appeal be allowed to become default subreddits?", "post": "For the uninitiated: Default subreddits are subreddits with a certain number of subscribers which makes them visible to people who aren't signed into reddit or haven't added or removed any subreddits.\n\nI'm finding some of the default subreddits (i.e. atheism and politics) tend to be very off putting, it's not even about the principle of what is being argued or discussed but the way in which it is and the communities comments behind them.\n\nBasically they're offputting and can scare away people who don't agree with these set of narrow principles these sorts of subreddits offer. So if you're religious you might be put off, if you're a Republican or conservative in general you might be put off, so on and so forth.\n\nSubreddits which are more neutral and encourage intelligent discussion tend to be far more welcoming to all, subreddits such as videos or funny's are neutral anyway and would probably be a good 'hook' for new users.\n\nI hesitate to recommend reddit to friends because they might see some of the incredibly narrow and arrogant opinions expressed in certain default subreddits and just associate that with me, which is not something I want.", "summary": "default subreddits should be picked based on the quality and neutrality of their content and not on the amount of circlejerking and subscribers."}
{"id": "t3_2zuxcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22M and GF21 in a LDR; GF gets hit on by guys, I want to get her to tell them off without being too protective.", "post": "I'm not sure where to turn so I figured I'd ask you guys:\n\nI'm a pretty confident guy, that said, my GF gets hit on a lot by a myriad of other guys. I usually laugh it off and joke about it with her because I don't think its a big deal. If anything, its flattering that other guys are interested in her while I get to date her.\n\nIn the last month, she's told me about at least 5 different guys all showing a range of interest. She told two of them to leave her alone, which they did. Another one keeps asking her out to coffee/ to do things with her when she moves back home (away for school right now), but I'm not too concerned since he's not even in the same city (that will change come summertime). The last guy annoys me a little. He says that he has a GF to everyone that will listen, but when he talks to her, he tells her that they're not really dating. He goes out of his way to talk to her in class, he strokes her hair (which she has repeatedly told him to stop doing) and has even tried to grab her hand multiple times. She's told him to stop and he keeps insisting. \n\nUsually, I'd talk to him guy to guy and tell him to screw off and to go somewhere else. The problem is that we're in a LDR right now so it's not like I can do that. I want to get the guy to screw off, but at the same time, I don't want to seem overly protective/clingy and tell her how to tell the guy to screw off. She's a nice person and isn't the type to tell people to fuck off. She'll hint at it, but won't explicitly say it. Haven't had this problem before. Not sure what to do.Thoughts?", "summary": "GF gets hit on by a lot of guys. One keeps insisting and has been trying to ask her out for the last little while. In a LDR and want the guy(s) to screw off/ get her to tell him to screw off without being too protective/clingy."}
{"id": "t3_3wi4tc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Secret Santa Debacle - Me [32F] + Work Colleagues [M + F late 20s/early 30s?]", "post": "I read this subreddit religiously but as my husband and I can't agree on what I should do here and I have nobody I can talk to about it, I'm posting here. Am on mobile so sorry for any spelling/grammatical errors. \n\nI've organised my work secret santa/kris kringle this year as I do every year. Our team has a few interstate people so they're included too. It was all opt-in and anyone interested signed up via the Elfster link so it wasn't like I pressured anyone into participating who didn't want to. It's a $20 limit/budget. It's up to the gift giver too if they want to reveal their identity at the end.\n\nAs I'm friends with a lot of people in the office, I already know who a lot of people have as they've asked me what to get their secret santas. One guy who is interstate (let's call him Dougie) told me he has my work friend Trish. He was in town this week so when I saw him he gave me his gift for Trish so i could hang onto it for him and give it to her next week when we do the exchange. \n\nYou guys - He told me he picked it up from a 7-11 on his way to our work xmas party. It's a little blue wooden clock that looks like he got it from the $2 shop. Not to mention - Trish was with him waiting outside when he ran in to get it and was joking that he was probably getting his secret santa present from a convenience store. \n\nWhat do I do? He's given it to me to wrap and give to her. I really want to spend my own money and give her a different gift (like a word of the day calendar or something she would actually like - English isn't her first language) or maybe just drop it at her desk anonymously the morning of - but my husband is saying it's not my problem. But it's such a shitty present... she's going to be really disappointed when she opens it. Help.", "summary": "Girl at work is going to get a crap secret santa gift. Do I get her a replacement gift instead or try to fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_1vmcys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am unsure how to tell my mom [53F] that I plan to move in with my boyfriend [23M] instead of her.", "post": "I'm in my final year of university, and have been planning my next move now that this phase of my life is coming to a close. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We met and began dating in the city where I currently live, and 6 months ago he relocated to a city about 2 hours away for a job. We decided to give the LDR a try, and we've made it work. We have discussed in depth the concept of me moving in with him and looking for a job in his area when I finish school. His area has many job opportunities in my field, and we are both certain that this is a positive move for both of us.\n\nMy mother is convinced that I need to move back home to quickly pay down my student debt (which will be less than $10k). I see her point, and initially agreed - we had this conversation while my boyfriend and I were in an argument, which was a result of the distance, and has since been resolved. Currently, my mom thinks I am 100% moving back with her and my dad [53M].\n\nI don't have a strained relationship with my mom, but our relationship certainly improved when I moved out to go to school. When I do visit my parents, I spend the most time with my brother [17M], who will be moving out to go to school in the fall. I don't think my dad has an opinion of where I go, so long as I am happy.\n\nMy mind is made up about where I want to go - I have given it a lot of thought and after weighing my options, my boyfriend and I decided that we want to move in together. I'm afraid that when I tell my mom what I've decided, she will be hurt and object. I've never had to approach such a topic with her before, and am unsure how to proceed.", "summary": "My mom thinks I'm moving back with her and my dad when I graduate from university, but I've decided to move in with my boyfriend instead. How do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_4h6umt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] roommate [20f] chews with her mouth open", "post": "This ones pretty self explanatory. Best friend/roommate and I have been living together for 2 years. Her chewing has always annoyed me but I've never said anything, but recently a few friends commented behind her back that her chewing was annoying. She has talked before about being a mouth breather, meaning that it's easier for her to breathe through her mouth than her nose, which is probably why she chews with her mouth open. \n\nI've held off for so long, but I felt kinda bad for her when some friends said her chewing annoyed them. I started to wonder if it might be easier for her to hear it from me than, say, some guy who's dumping her after a few dates or something because her chewing is a turn off. (I know, that's a more extremes situation that's not likely to happen but you know what I mean.) she's a pretty sensitive girl and I don't want her to feel bad. so... Should I say anything? Should I just ignore it like I've been doing? Thanks guys.", "summary": "roommate chews really loudly to the point of multiple people noticing. Should I say something as her best friend or keep quiet to save any hurt feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_f4h71", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Home networking question: Is there an affordable and/or reasonable way to block file sharing traffic on a home network?", "post": "OK, here's the deal. My dad got remarried a few years back and my step-brother is several years my junior and still lives at home with my dad and step-mom. He's kind of a fuck-up; flunking out of junior college and such, no job, etc..\n\nRecently my dad's ISP temporarily shut them off because my stepbrother had downloaded and was sharing adult movies. I'm guessing it was torrents or kazaa, etc..\n\nMy dad wants to just cut him off from the internet completely, but this was a first-time offense so to speak, and my step-mom REALLY doesn't like that idea.\n\nSo here's the question: can their home network be set up to block torrenting and/or other file-sharing programs? right now they have a basic home network setup with a wi-fi router and an older desktop running windows XP.", "summary": "last paragraph"}
{"id": "t3_35rf7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?", "post": "I dated Jason (M26) for five years. We broke up a year ago because we were in different places in our lives and both moved away to different cities. We are still good friends, and talk quite often. I love Jason a lot. He's everything I could want in a man. We share similar values and background. I can see my future with him. Jason hasn't explicitly said that he felt the same, but he has mentioned moving to my town quite a few times.\n\nAfter Jason and I broke up, I casually dated a few different guys. These guys were the complete opposite of Jason. I believe I did this because I'm not over Jason and was not ready for anything serious. I started casually seeing David (M32), and quickly fell head over heels for him. David does not possess any of the qualities that I would like a man to have in a relationship. At first, I thought it was just infatuation or just a physical attraction and that it would fade over time. Except it hasn't. I've never loved anyone like David. David says he wants a relationship with me, just wants to take things slow. I'm not sure if I believe him. I find it very difficult to see a future with David. I've tried to break things off with David multiple times but I just can't keep him off of my mind. \n\nIs it even possible to be in love with both of them at once?", "summary": "is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?"}
{"id": "t3_2ranjb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when talking to a colleague", "post": "My colleague and I work as delivery drivers, and he regularly complains how it's hard work, and that the management and people above us are always dumping things on us, making things harder. \n\nThis morning he was going off on one, saying that was they were doing was illegal and he'll \"get his solicitors involved\". \n\nSo I said to him, if he doesn't like it then why doesn't he just leave. So he did. He promptly said see you later and quit there and then. \n\nI feel partly to blame for planting the idea in his head. Although to be honest his constant moaning was growing tiresome!", "summary": "Suggested my colleague quits, which he did."}
{"id": "t3_23w1yl", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Need advice on tech school socializing", "post": "Hi guys! I am a future freshman from Europe (I am a male and I will study in the US) at a tech school. Although I am smart, I am not very geeky (actually not at all) and I like to have fun. I am not into wild parties every night, but one every weekend (or at least every couple of weekends) is a priority for me. These are my problems:\n\n* Tech school students are not that much into partying\n* I am international so I basically have no idea how to be cool with Americans\n* (because of these two) I don't know how to find the wright people to hang out with (geeks --- wright people --- wild animals)\n* I heard that some weirdos rat people for no good reason, like drinking a beer in the room or coming back from a party drunk, and this may seem like no big deal to citizens, but I am on visa and they will find any reason to kick me out, so how do I stay away from those guys\n* (Q) are there places where each type of students usually hang out?\n\nCould you give me advice on how to deal with these problems and stay away from the dark side at the same time? Thanks!", "summary": "How do I find people with whom I can chill with and have fun at the same time (not like reading a book kind of fun) at a tech school?"}
{"id": "t3_4khs47", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By ruining several thousand dollars worth of clothes.", "post": "A few hours ago I nocked over a can of paint while me, my brothers, my mom and my step dad were moving things around upstairs so we could paint the roof and walls. It splattered all over their racks of clothes and the floor. We filled up the bath tubs with water and put their cloths in them and put soaked towels on the floor. My mom left to get a rug doctor, some paint thinner, rubbing alcohol and mineral spirits from the store. We got the paint out of the carpet but it wouldn't come out from most the clothes. Does anyone know how I can get the paint out with something more effective than paint thinner, rubbing alcohol, or mineral spirits? Also I've been using a sponge to get it out, do you guys know of anything more effective than a sponge?", "summary": "nocked over a can of paint that got all over a bunch of clothes, can't get it out of the clothes."}
{"id": "t3_28aqba", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I danced with a girl and tried to make a joke", "post": "This happened within the past 36 hours, so it's more of a T\u00bdIFU\n\nIn my hometown there is a Swiss hall that has annual events.  During the day there is Swiss style wrestling (which I compete in) and at night a dance with plenty of food and drink all day.  At the dance I was trying to build up some manliness to ask a cute girl to dance, and lo and behold, she sees me standing awkwardly a few yards off and beats me to the punch.  I have known this girls family vaguely for many years even though I see them several times a year at the hall.   So we're dancing and having a good time, and she is much better than me.  The music mainly consists of slower dances.  I keep stumbling around (I'm not even drunk) and try to crack a few jokes.  I say that I should cut of my toes so that I stop stepping on hers.  She gives me a strange look and a half laugh and we keep on dancing.  Later that evening I am talking with my best friend who is that girl's cousin.  He hears that I was dancing with her and asks if I knew she had a prosthetic leg. I most certainly did not know this.  Later I would find out that everyone but me was aware of this.   I now understand her uncomfortable reaction to my 'joke' and why she asked her sister if she wanted to switch dance partners.", "summary": "While dancing with a  girl, I said I should cut off my toes so I stop stepping on hers, found out she has a prosthetic leg. "}
{"id": "t3_1y881v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help please!", "post": "So I'm 18 and she's 18. Been dating for about a year now and she's perfect. Were in love its great. Anyway I'm working on my car late at night and she's at a party drinking. I text her at 2:30am and tell her I'll come pick her up because the whole idea makes me uncomfortable. I get there and get her. I take her back to my house and tuck her in in my basement where my parents won't find her. Its now about 3am. I bring her water and kiss her goodnight. She's asleep, I checked on her about 5 minutes after. I go up to bed and check snapchat. Two girls I've hooked up with in the past are snapping me obviously drunk. I haven't talked to them in awhile and I'm not that tired. One thing leads to another and were sending naked pictures back and forth. I go to bed about 5:30am. Continue working on car all day the next day and finish dinner time a day later. I text my girlfriend and no response. So I ask if everything is OK she says no. She found out somehow about me snapchatting these girls and she feels unloved. She said she feels worthless and that I've changed. How do I approach her and tell her it was stupid and I love her? I can't lose this girl.", "summary": "send and received nudes via snapchat. Girlfriend knows. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1e0824", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How hold are you, and would you be alive today without modern medicine? If not, how/when would you have died?", "post": "As I get older (now 50) I see more and more friends my age who for whatever reason would not be here if not for modern medicine or any kind of medical treatment.  \n\nUntil recently, I'd thought I was the exception. I've never been in a hospital except for a few emergency room visits for minor fractures that would eventually have healed on their own. I've never had appendicitis or any other health issue. \n\nThen I realized that I would probably have died in my mid-20s of something we don't even think of as life-threatening now. I have bad teeth and had major infections. In years past, dental issues were a MAJOR cause of death. Once you get a bad infection, or your teeth get bad enough that you can't eat, you are pretty much done for. \n\nI know many of could have potentially had any number of epidemic diseases that are now virtually wiped out, but lets not count those. What has happened to you personally that you would not have survive lets say any earlier than the beginning of the 19th century?", "summary": "I am the living dead."}
{"id": "t3_37mt8j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my GF of one month for a booty call.", "post": "Im going to green text this cause it's the only way I can explain.\n\n\\> Be me\n\n\\> 17, bored, horny af\n\n\\>Birthday is coming up next week\n\n\\> Pick up my phone and start texting GF\n\n\\> Ask her how her day was, etc.\n\n\\> finally we get to a pause\n\n\\> thisismychance.gif\n\n\\> *hey my b-day is coming up next week, anything you want to do?*\n\n\\>*not really* she replies\n\n\\> *well we could uhhh.... do the do?*\n\n\\> *what?*\n\n\\> abort.jpg\n\n\\> *I have only known you a month you . I don't think I can stay with you if this is how you're gonna act*\n\n\\> fuck me, i am an idiot\n\n\\> Bye for now, don't talk to me in the morning please\n\n\\> relationship.exe has been terminated, no backups found\n\nI swear to god I did not mean for this to happen, I am a selfish idiot. I did apologize, but to no avail. Am I a bad guy for wanting this? I'm probably an asshole.", "summary": "Half-assed an attempt to get some, failed miserably. Now single, and probably hated by EX's friends."}
{"id": "t3_1ohkg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my girlfriend is mad at me. What should I do?", "post": "I am 22 [F] and she is 19 [F]. We have been dating about 2 months.\n\nHere's the thing, I know she is busy and probably tired but can someone be so busy as to not spend a second seeing how their significant other is doing? We met online and she lives in Mexico while I live in the U.S., so I understand a that it is harder to communicate. We used to message everyday and now I'm lucky if she messages me back and if she does, she stops after a short while. I do text her to see how she is doing but I feel like I'm annoying and needy and wait for her to go first. I realize this all sounds a little selfish of me but it is clawing at my mind and I am literally crying myself to sleep over this. Does she hate me? Did she find someone else? Am I as boring as I think I am? I don't want to ask her because I'm afraid I'll make her feel bad and make me look like a crazy needy freak. Also, I don't want her to start messaging me more just because I complained about it. I seriously can't sleep and I feel so stupid.", "summary": "I am afraid that my girlfriend is upset at me. I don't want to cause problems so I'm avoiding the issue."}
{"id": "t3_1sg4jx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Love dies - but the pain doesn't", "post": "(Don't read. Just venting.)\n\nI think I loved him at first sight, well maybe 2nd or 3rd sight. That was 6 years ago. Now he is the only person in this world I truly hate. I will never understand how he could do it - from the first hour I was there through those next few days.  I just couldn't process what he was saying and doing - even after reading their emails and texts and watching the game playing and having him scream at me abusively. Even after all the humiliation I suffered, I stayed for that week.  I don't know why I stayed other than: love dies slowly. Too slowly. \n\nBut I assure you, it does die. \n\nThe pain does not.\n\nHe threw away the best thing that ever happened to him. He threw away a good person who loved him - who held on for years thinking she just wasn't being patient enough. Thinking one day he'd see how worth it she was - and ache for her the way she ached for him.  But the truth is he never wanted me like that. I didn't think he had it in him emotionally, but I told myself I could live with that - until I saw him chase her - for 5 horrible days. Worse, I realized why I was there - OH, GOD! (How could you do that to me - after everything?) \n\nAnd for what?  THAT is what you thought was special? THAT is what you thought was worthy? A liar? A cheater? A smirking, rude, classless, skank? (Talk about insult to injury!) \n\nBroken? What is broken inside me YOU broke. I'll move on - but I'll never completely heal.", "summary": "There was this guy I dated for a while. Nothing special. Soon I won't even remember his face."}
{"id": "t3_2tdsnt", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "help with my marriage license?", "post": "I live in California. so, without getting too much into it, I got engaged to my boyfriend in May last year, and we decided to elope in July.\n\non our way out of the County Clerk office, it was misty and the way I was carrying the marriage license, along with the envelope they had given us, the seal of the envelope had gotten stuck to the face of the document. I was unable to tear it off without damaging the text slightly. this wasn't until after we got back to our house from the office, which was 40 minutes away and it was far too late to go back for a duplicate. we immediately called the office and were told that we should just go through with the ceremony, file the marriage license, and, if it was deemed unacceptable, we would need to pay for a duplicate. the clerk also said that this would all be handled through our officiant.\n\nso we took her advice and followed through with the ceremony, and when we handed off the marriage license to our officiant, we explained about the damaged document and told him about the duplicate license.\n\nso, months later, we received a call from the County Clerk saying that our marriage license was deemed unacceptable and we would need to pay for a duplicate, and that they had already mailed our officiant an affidavit. but they were calling because they hadn't heard anything back for so long and our marriage license was subsequently in legal \"limbo\". we have also been unsuccessful in trying to contact our officiant about this.\n\nnow the County Clerk has called again, and it's really getting frustrating that my officiant seems to have disappeared, so I guess my question is:\n\nwould it be easier to file for divorce? we plan on having a larger wedding with family next year, and would not mind just being regular engaged until then. do we qualify for an annulment? from my reading about them, I don't think we do, but I cannot say for sure. should I try harder to hunt down my officiant?\n\nit's really not a big deal to us whether we are married or engaged for the time being while we plan our second wedding. we are really just looking for the most convenient option here.", "summary": "eloped last summer, marriage license was deemed unacceptable due to damaged text, can't get in touch with officiant to file the affidavit for the duplicate license, would it be easier to annul/divorce until we remarry in a year?"}
{"id": "t3_4peaqq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF (31) likes to go out. I (F 34) like to stay in. I try to compromise, but sometimes I don't want to. Need advice for this Saturday.", "post": "My girlfriend is 31. No kids. Works full time and has great work ethic, has pets, but no other real responsibilities . . . EVER. Me - 34, have an 18 year old daughter, grew up quick, very responsible, I'm the cooker, cleaner, and pay the majority of the bills. We have a house together, plan on getting married, and have the best relationship you could ever ask for. \nThe problem is, she likes to go out and I'm a homebody. My job is stressful and time consuming and with all the house responsibilities on me, when I get free time, I just want to relax. She  doesn't ask to go out too often, but I know that's because she knows I don't really like it. I'm always DD, my choice. I prefer to only drink at home if I am going to drink. I went to a 4 days music festival recently and that's totally not my thing. But she loves it so I went and smiled through it. \nThis coming Saturday there is a PRIDE festival and she is wanting to go. I sucked it up and said ok (smiled through it). Tonight she informs me that she would like to go out after (one of her friends is going). So the plan is - go to the festival, hang out by friends pool after until time to get ready to go, then go out. From the time we leave the house until we get back home will be around 14 hours. That sounds exhausting to me. \nWe communicate well and she knew before she mentioned it that I wouldn't want to do all of the above. But she also knows I usually do whatever she wants. I told her it sounded exhausting. She mentioned maybe just going to the festival or going out. I said that would be better and she chose to skip the festival and go out instead. I really really don't want to (we also live an hour and a half from where we will be going). Am I being a brat? Should I suck it up and go? She doesn't want to go without me.", "summary": "Great relationship, she likes to go out, I don't. She doesn't ask too often. I always go when she asks even though I don't want to. Should I suck it up and go and smile even though I'm miserable, or do I say no?"}
{"id": "t3_2mmout", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my husband[22 M] married for two years.", "post": "I have been happily married to my husband for two years. I am really in love with him. I wanted to tell him I am bisexual... but am afraid it will be weird?? He isn't homophobic or anything at all, I just don't know how he would feel about his wife telling him this? Is this stupid of me? Maybe I am just over thinking this. \n\nI know some people wrongly assume that being bisexual while married means it's okay to cheat on your husband and wife as long as it is the same sex as you.... which in my opinion is still cheating...and that isn't what I am asking.", "summary": "How do I tell my husband of two years that I am bisexual?"}
{"id": "t3_2ultkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [18 M] ex [19 F] leading me on?", "post": "We dated for about 1.5 years, and then decided to try seeing other people. There were some complications in our relationship, but we were happy while it was going. \n\nI recently told her that my feelings for her were resurfacing. We talked tonight, and she said that she felt the same way, but didn't want to get back together. When I asked why, she said she didn't want her friends to judge her. She said she wants to wait a few months for them to grow on the idea, but still wants to text and talk to me like we have been doing the last week (very often, like if we were a couple). \n\nIs she telling the truth? It seems like she is leading me on, but she doesn't seem like someone who would do that? I just need a second opinion reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend says she loves me but doesn't want to get back together to avoid judgement, but wants to wait and get back together at a later date."}
{"id": "t3_gael7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Seems the replacement I trained is slacking a bit", "post": "[] )\n\n^ Screenshot of netflix.....\nThis winter break I worked a fairly simple office job doing payroll and quality control for about 140 warehouse employees at a meat packing warehouse in Newark. It was a company I used to work for and they had someone unexpectedly quit so they asked if I could come in for 2 months until they found a replacement. I spend the last week training my replacement. Overall nice guy and seemed to be able to perform the tasks necessary. So back to school I went. At school we use my roommates Netflix account so mine has not been used by me since early January. I recently logged in and some strange history came up. I then realized the only other place my password is saved is on the computer that was in my office. Being a upper middle class white kid from a nice part of Jersey the employees of Newark were not very inviting so I usually ate alone and family guy kept me company. Seems this guys been chilling pretty hard.", "summary": "Left password saved on work computer replacement spends every hour of the day watching netflix."}
{"id": "t3_3cqt59", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Moving My Chair", "post": "A few weeks ago, I was getting ready to play some GTA Online with my brother. We had our computers ready, and just as I was loading the game, I decided to move my chair forward. I slide the chair north, and my knee hit the case of the pc and killed my shitty power supply. So we tried replacing it with an older", "summary": "Kicked PC, killed it."}
{"id": "t3_1zce4f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m26] Decided I need to break up with my [25f] girlfriend of almost 2 years. I need some advice.", "post": "I've posted a couple of these over the past few months asking for advice, maybe you've seen them.\n\nI've come to the conclusion that my girlfriend and I are simply incompatible, we have different values, and I don't feel a deep connection with her anymore.\n\nWe've been together almost 2 years (anniversary a month from Monday). We live together about 4 hours away from our hometowns.\n\nI've never broken up with anyone before, never been in a relationship really. How do I approach this?\n\nMy plan is to talk to her as soon as she gets off work Monday. We're both visiting home right now (different towns) and will be getting back late Sunday night.", "summary": "breaking up with my long-term live-together girlfriend, never done this before, need tips!"}
{"id": "t3_2na39u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] feel so lonely despite my relationship with [20/M] 1 yr together", "post": "Sorry I don't know if this is the right place to post, but I'm feeling so horrid right now. \n\nI have been with my current partner for 1 year now, and I have given up alot to be with him (moved to another country, even). When we first got together we had the most beautiful relationship of my life, I had never been that content with anyone. \n\nFastforward to now - he's asleep, clueless of any problem and I'm lying here wanting to cry...same as every night for the last week. \nWe barely talk any more, he comes home from work in the evening, plays his phone for a few hours (despite my requests to spend some time together/watch a movie/anything) and then he goes to sleep. When we do talk, I feel like it is meaningless small talk (\"oh its hot today!\"), and not lighthearted conversation like we used to have/like couples should have. \n\n...he won't even be intimate with me, and pushes me off when I hug him, saying I'm being clingy and annoying (I probably am by this point, I'm desperate for answers). I have explained how I feel to him, and he tries to assure me he still loves me. I ask him why we have changed and he denies that anything has changed, or says he will try harder but then the next day its back to the same old...\n\nSorry to sound like a neurotic headcase, but everything is different, and I don't know why. I feel like he doesn't love me anymore, and I'm beyond depressed about it. And in turn, worrying that by having this depressed and unhappy attitude will push him away even further because I'm not my old happy self. Its a vicious cycle - I can't pretend to be happy because I feel wretched, and being unhappy around him is sure to make it worse. \n\nNOTE: He doesn't have time/opportunity to meet any other girls so I'm not worried he's cheating, since he comes straight home from work every day/his only mobile is our shared one.", "summary": "I am depressed and terrified my boyfriend doesnt love me anymore. He says there is no problem. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4xjk3e", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Advice on whether I should wax?", "post": "So, I have a slight body hair problem. I have really thick hair on my arms and legs and pretty much everywhere except my back. My back is naturally almost hairless. Now I'm usually quite the guy, didn't really care about the hair, just let it be there, except my chest which I used to trim for when I was wearing shirts with the buttons open. However it's been bothering me more and more recently. The hairs leave a mess where I go, e.g my bed will have loads of random hairs in it and it just makes a mess in general. I was considering getting my arms and legs waxed and keeping some trimmed hair on my chest, so I still look a bit manly. I have a sister and she constantly tells me to just wax it, because it's beyond hairy. What's your thoughts on this?", "summary": "(M/21) Really hairy arms and legs, considering waxing them, not sure how this comes across?"}
{"id": "t3_11c4e0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving the house door open.", "post": "This happened a couple of hours ago, and i'm still a bit nervous about all this. I'm what most would consider a hardcore gamer, and as most people into this, they usually cherish and collect their favorite games and such.\n\nToday I skipped work because i woke up feeling like something had banged on my left side, hurting all over (ear infection, it's a reoccurring thing, I need to get this checked more often than not.) and decided to stay home and rest a bit more.\n\nI stayed home all day and at about 6 my dad rolls around to pick me up to go to the ER to see what's going on with my ear. During the following hour and a half I spent on the ER to get this checked and pick up the prescription the doctor gave me, I get home and find some clothing on my porch, lying on the path to my entrance. My dog was feasting on some plastic bag and at first I thought it was just some kids who'd have thrown a bag of old clothing onto my yard.\n\nAs soon as I get up to my room though, things took a dire turn for me. I froze, looking baffled at what was right in front of me. My monitor was all crooked and the cables were off, and I look to the left and see this gaping hole where all my consoles were. Then it finally sunk into me: Someone robbed my house.\n\nShit Shit Shit!", "summary": "Was sick, stayed home. 6PM went to doctor, left front door open, got my consoles stolen. TIFU."}
{"id": "t3_qmlh5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some good things to know in the event of a natural disaster/survivalist situation/zombie apocalypse?", "post": "I was watching the first season of the Walking Dead again and one of the girls gathered a bunch of mushrooms and asked how to tell which are poisonous, and I realized that would be a good thing to know. I'm hoping people can give advice/ask questions so we can all learn. Here are a few I can think of\n\n-How to tell which mushrooms are poisonous?\n\n-How to tell which berries (Or other plants) are poisonous or beneficial?\n\n-What insects are good to eat?\n\n-How can you tell if water if safe to drink?\n\n-What is the best way to make shelter from natural resources (If you don't have tents, tarps, etc).\n\n-If you don't have guns (Or want to conserve ammo) how do you hunt/catch food?", "summary": "How to survive in an emergency?"}
{"id": "t3_23peaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO(24M) didn't get into the school of his choice and I(21F) don't really know how to be there for him because I'm happy.", "post": "Okay, to start off, I know my title is making me sound like an uber bitch. Please let me explain. \n\nMy boyfriend, lets call him Bubba, have been together for almost four years. We've been friends for almost seven. For the past two years I have been living with him and his Mother. My Mom and I had a very bad relationship, so his Mom graciously invited me into her home. For the most past, we really love each other. We do fight, but I can honestly see myself settling with him. He's the most generous man I've ever encontured. \n\nBack to the question, Bubba applied to a very prestigious school. I can't afford to leave the city yet, so I was just going to move downtown and go to school there. This would mean we would be close to three hours apart. I know a lot of people can make long distance relationships work, but I knew I couldn't. It's been making me miserable thinking about not being with him whenever I want. Plus, we have two cats and he would be taking them. I didn't want to split them up because they love each other. \n\nToday he found out that he didn't get in. Of course, he is crushed. He's now doubting his intelligence and the fact that he went back to school. He took off a few years and when we started dating I motivated him to go back. Since he has been back, he has been excelling in every class. Everyone thought he would get in without a problem. To make it worse his sister got in and his parents, unintentionally, tend to compare them to one another. I want to be there for him, but I'm happy. I feel like a sick bastard saying that, but I am happy. I didn't want him to leave. I figured he'd go off and find someone much better than me. I'm being very selfish, I know...\nHow do I sincerely be there for him without coming off fake?", "summary": "My boyfriend didn't get into the university of his choice. How can I emotionally be there for him when I'm happy."}
{"id": "t3_4xx9rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my friend[21 M] , I'm getting crazy mixed signals.", "post": "I think I should start by saying that I have always had 0 self confidence, and I'm just not good at these things.\n\nAnyway, I've known this guy for a while now, but recently he started sending me mixed signals.\n\nPositive signals: He tells me I'm beautiful, he trusts me, we have great conversations, he usually chooses to sit near me when we're around mutual friends, he'll touch me in small ways (like on the shoulder if he walks by; I don't know if this is actually a sign, but some of my friends say so)\n\nNegative signs: He told me he liked another girl at one point, we talk about his exs, he doesn't talk to me much outside of in person.", "summary": "I'm getting mixed signals and don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_15ovm0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by vomiting in my fiances pants.", "post": "We get home and put the pizza in the oven, while we waited for the pizza to finish I thought I would go ahead and have an energy drink. I downed that in a few minutes. Big mistake. My stomach started to hurt a little but I said what the fuck and went for the nice greasy pizza when it came out.\nSo about five minutes after I finish my pizza I get the brilliant idea to go down on my fiance. She gets in front of me and pulls down her pants and I start to please her. I stop for a second because I think I have to burp. NOPE. It wasn't a burp it was vomit. I threw up the pizza and energy drink I just had into her pants and it ran down her legs. She just stood there and took it. The pain and embarrassment crippled me to the floor and I just laid there and wept for a few minutes while she cleaned herself up.", "summary": "had greasy pizza and an energy drink, few minutes later tried to greet my lady with my tongue and greeted her with stomach rejected food instead."}
{"id": "t3_2nicaz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I have an urge to kill one of my cats.", "post": "We have 2 cats. One is a fantastic indoor cat. The other one is lives outside. This cat was a gift from a friend who got it from a shelter. It was injured and overall nasty. No big deal, we took it to the vet and nursed it back to health. This is where the weird stuff starts.\n\nThe cat did nothing but sit behind the toilet and shit on the floor. We tried to teach it to use a litter box but it would just go back to pooping and peeing on the floor. Then it got violent. It started hissing and jumping at the kids when they would go into the bathroom. The climax was when it attacked a child while she was just playing video games and ignoring the cat. The cat ran to her and started scratching and hissing at her. I threw it outside.\n\nThis cat now just sits on the deck looking in the window and meows until we feed it. After feeding it leaves for a few minutes and starts the meowing again. More compassionate people than I have let the cat inside but it immediately stands at the door and meows to go back outside. \n\nI feel an irrational amount of resentment for this cat to the point of wanting to put it down. It has seemingly no redeemable qualities and has caused much damage to our house as well as attacking the children. If I were alone I would have done it already. I still may.", "summary": "My cat ruined the carpet, scratched my children, and meows incessantly after I saved its life. Now I honestly want to end its life."}
{"id": "t3_fo2mu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Don't know much about college relationships - is this considered normal?", "post": "Background information: I'm 18 (19 in less than a week), female, and a freshman at a small college. I've been told I'm pretty good-looking. He's around the same age, and a sophomore at the same small college. Also good-looking, but has a reputation for being extremely awkward around girls.\n\nStoryline: We have the same biology class. He catches me checking him out daily, and I notice him listening to my conversations and looking at me. We meet at a party about a week after we first see each other, go through formal introductions, dance, and wind up drunk-making out the rest of the night.\n\nFast forward - we talk all day the next day because he has my jacket, and it turns out we hit it off. We're both chem majors and huge nerds, enjoy some of the same tv shows/music, and have overlapping senses of humor. That night he picks me up from a party where he knew was not enjoying myself, and I spend the night at his place.\n\nNow we talk every day either in person or via text, and we've had study dates that turn into hookups quite a few times. We tease each other pretty much all the time, which is one relationship dynamic I love. Last night I spent the night in his room again, and we talked more than usual in class the next morning. Tomorrow he is my date to a dance.\n\nMy question is, how can I tell whether he is interested in dating me or just wants to be study/hookup buddies? I found out that he is really inexperienced - hasn't ever slept with a girl, doesn't date much, etc. I am incredibly nervous and overanalysis-prone when it comes to relationships, so please help me out.", "summary": "How can I tell if a guy is interested in a relationship/dating me?"}
{"id": "t3_1ickkj", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Rising senior. Can anyone recommend me a major/career based on my description (warning long)?", "post": "I'm torn as I have many interests but none of them seem to lead to a good career. If I am capable of being an engineering major but I don't particularly like the sciences but I prefer the arts, should I pursue it anyway to have a well paying job? Same goes for being a pre-med student although the whole process seems way too long.  \n\nBut that's the thing, as much as I love art, I have zero talent for creating it, just appreciating and consuming it, especially film.\n\nFrom Lars von Trier to Paul Thomas Anderson, Kim Ki Duk, and Dardenne brothers to name a few, I love studying film. My other interests are equally lacking in job prospects such as philosophy, religious studies, women's studies, and literature. \n\nI have average GPA so I can't into top top schools, so I'm already set on my state flagship. I've already taken all the standardized tests. The only thing left is choosing a major or a department to apply for.  \n\nHere are some of my numbers that reflect my academic abilities.\n\n3.5 unweighted (but 3.2 during my last year due to laziness). \n\n4.3 weighted (pretty much every class has been IB or \"pre-IB\" w/e that means) \n\n2300 SAT. 780 Math + 740 Reading + 780 Writing\n\n800 SAT II Math II, 720 Biology. \n\nAP Exam: 5's and 4's on BC Calc, European History, English Literature, English Language, Chemistry, Spanish Language. (Govt + American History from first 2 years) \n\nI've found ^ none of the classes to be interesting. Only class I enjoyed was a philosophy elective when I became obsessed with existentialism, Sartre and Camus (but this seems to be a typical first year kinda thing).  \n\npersonality wise, I'm very good with people and socializing, although I prefer to avoid public speaking.", "summary": "decently smart (hopefully? but everyone likes to think of themselves as intelligent so take this as a grain of salt) "}
{"id": "t3_1y3rul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] GF [22 F] says she loves me, doesn't mind if I don't love her back", "post": "I have been dating this girl for about 7-8 months.  We have had some conversations about how neither of us is looking for anything too \"serious.\"  I just got out of a very long term relationship about 6 months before I met her, and have had difficulty with relationships since then (ex was mentally abusive and relationship was terrible).  \n\nI try to be a good BF, take her out, make her feel special, and am generally a nice guy.  She means a lot to me, is one of the sweetest people I have ever met and is a really genuine, caring person.  \n\nLong story short, she recently told me she loves me. I was sort of dreading this moment, responded sort of awkwardly of course with a \"thanks\" (not joking, I said thanks). Its not that I don't care about her, I just don't feel that emotion towards her and don't really expect to. I am not a very emotional guy, and have only told one person before that I love them.  \n\nTo my surprise, she just said \"I know\" when I told her this.  She wasn't expecting me to say it back.  She said she doesn't mind at all that she loves me and I don't love her, because she knows how I am.  Not gonna lie, this blew my mind.  Now I'm struggling with the feeling that I am somehow wronging her, or taking advantage of her, because she is more invested than me in this relationship.  \n\nI don't want to react wrongly, but am I crazy for feeling that its just wrong for both parties to a relationship to know that one loves the other, but the second doesn't love back?", "summary": "GF says she loves me, doesn't mind if I don't love her back.  Am I crazy for worrying about this?"}
{"id": "t3_3te62x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ex girlfriend told me she broke up woth her boyfriend and we kissed **M20, F18**", "post": "**M20; F18** \nSo she came by the other night after I came from the bars, and her a party. She hung out with me and my roommates for a bit before they went to sleep. \n\n**When they did we talked for a long time, and in the middle of it she subtly said that she had broken up with her boyfriend.** Somehow she was laying on the couch, and I on the other end with her legs on me. After about 2 hours of just the two of us, my exes friend called telling that she could pick her up to take her home. \n\n**While she was giving directions on speaker phone I went in to kiss her, and we kissed for 10+ seconds and when I stopped she giggled. When her friend got there, she kissed me goodbye when I walked her out.", "summary": "I never stopped having feelings for her! when we stopped seeing each other it was because of me leaving for college! **We didn't stop being friends when we stopped seeing each other, I didn't want her out of my life. I really want to get back with her and I think she does too!** I also talked to her last night on the phone for a hour. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1dz0nv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some tips for starting to pee in front of someone during a drug test???", "post": "So I am on a pre-trial assessment and have to take a drug test a couple times a month. I had to take my first one this morning. I was the 2nd one in the door and 2 hours later the last one out. I had to pee really bad, just could not go in front of the PO. I have always had the problem of peeing with someone there watching me. I don't have a problem peeing in stalls or anywhere that I am enclosed and feel like I'm in a private space.\n\nI did everything I could like morning; ran water, put my hand in warm water, tried to relax. It just wouldn't happen. Finally when everyone had left my PO let me get naked and he checked out all my junk and let me go in alone. I dont want to have to wait this long every time.\n\nIs there something I can drink that will not make my pee look diluted? I don't do drugs so I am clean and I dont have a problem showing people my junk, just cant pee. I just need a way to make myself go.", "summary": "Whats something I cant do to help myself pee in front of someone in a drug test?"}
{"id": "t3_2qxj5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (27m) quit smoking pot in order to find a relationship?", "post": "For starters, not sure if this is the right sub and format and everything. So please let me know if I messed anything up here. \n\nI feel like I'm a decent catch. I have two college degrees, a great job in my field, workout 5-6 times per week (and have ~9% body fat and a bit of muscle definition), pay my bills on time, and have a few thousand dollars saved up to buy my first house. I also smoke pot almost every night. \n\nI'm responsible about it. I don't smoke and drive, I take care of my business for the day before I smoke, and I try to minimize tar inhalation as much as possible. Also, I now rarely drink because I simply prefer to smoke.\n\nI'm about a year out of my last relationship and feeling really good about myself. I've gone on a couple dates from OKC, but have yet to find a good match.\n\nI know pot is a deal breaker for at least some women and am wondering whether I should quit in order to increase the number of potential matches. I also feel like there are other reasons to quit like health, job opportunities, etc. But the main one for me right now is to eliminate it as a deal breaker for potential relationships. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be considering quitting right now.\n\nShould I change my lifestyle? I don't necessarily see smoking as \"wrong\". But I don't love being a pothead either. What do you all think?", "summary": "Should I stop smoking pot to be more \"attractive\" to women or try and meet someone who approves of my lifestyle?"}
{"id": "t3_34zeh2", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Just want to be loved by my wife again. Insights welcomed!", "post": "Me (M29) and my wife (F29) have been married for just one year, and had dated for four prior. Over this past year, we were lacking in the intimacy department. This was my fault, I foolishly thought that our emotional connection was enough and didn't need sex as much. I was quite wrong and now understand that. \n\nAnyway, this led my wife to feel rejected by me and she fell out of love. After this came to my knowledge, I have changed the way I look at our relationship, and have readjusted my priorities in it. I want nothing more than for us to work things out. \n\nRecently she had an affair with her boss (who is 50 years old and also engaged), and says she has real feelings for him. This sounds bad I know. But I understand how it got to this point.  She is trying to give us a chance, and things are getting better (sleeping in the same bed again, I get a kiss goodbye in the morning, spend time together after we get home from work etc), but she still has feelings for him, and seemingly slightly less feelings for me.  We had a fight about it, I yelled (which I have never done in an argument during my adult life), but I told her that I forgive her even though it hurts. \n\nShe says she cares a great deal about me, but is having a hard time loving me again after being rejected so many times.  \n\nWe're starting marriage counseling next week, and she seems optimistic about it.  I guess I wanted to get other women's thoughts on my situation. What do I need to communicate to her, is there anything I can do to salvage our marriage.", "summary": "I was a bad husband, which led my wife to cheat, wanting to save our relationship and looking for advice/insights."}
{"id": "t3_2gqgye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Another guy groped my [26m] girlfriend's [21f] boobs.", "post": "Girlfriend's cousin, her new bf and my gf were horsing around. My gf is very close with her cousin and she grabbed the cousin's boobs. Then the bf grabbed my gf's boobs. We don't know the guy at all and she did slap his hands off and came to tell me about it. \n\nThe cousin is fine with it, says it was just a joke. They all say there was nothing sexual in it and cousin (ofc she would defend him) and her bf don't see the problem. They also gave some explanation that where he lives there is different culture and you can casually kiss with friends and stuff. Thing is, we live in the same country (Finland) and there is in my honest opinion some way to go from kissing a friend to fondling random person's ~~thoughts~~ boobs. I don't care if it's not sexual, it's about personal space and respect and stuff like that.\n\nI heard only good things about the guy before this and would like to like him as I will probably see him every now and then, he made it really hard though.\n\nAm I just too jealous (i don't think so) or is the guy bad news? What kind of guy would do that?", "summary": "GUY WHO WE DON'T KNOW FONDLED MY GF. WTF DUDE?"}
{"id": "t3_3fbuwn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using my forearm as an oven mitt", "post": "Usual disclaimer:this happened 3 weeks ago.\n\nA little context to the story; due to a skin graft on my arm I have no nerve endings on my forearm. \n\nI went on my lunch to a small teriyaki restaurant about 10 minutes away. They have amazing food and I usually eat on site. \n\nThat day was a very hot one and I was wearing a short sleeved shirt. I was in a hurry so I asked for my order in a takeaway container.  I started walking back to work and kept on having to shift the container from hand to hand as it was really hot. I finally found a comfortable position using my finger tips and with the assistance of my arm to keep it balanced.\n\nAs I walked back my mind was distracted and I was multitasking between using my phone and dodging pedestrians. I made it back to my office in good time and got ready to eat. I look down and notice a blister forming on my arm. I had unknowingly given myself a 2nd degree burn about the size of 2 postage stamps. Its been 3 weeks and it's slowly healing but still looks like a horrible mess. I still can't  believe how stupid I was.", "summary": "burned my arm for the sake of teriyaki."}
{"id": "t3_1jesoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my friend [21F] of one year, Conflicted on what to do", "post": "I am not sure if this right place to post this, if it is not I am sorry\n\nOk so I am gonna make this as short as possible.\n\nThis married woman i have been sexual with in the past via a threesome with me and my ex (she was not married at the time) has come back into contact with me as we get to talking she confessed to me that she has had strong feelings for me since our sexual encounter and i confessed the same. She then tells me she is very unhappy in her marriage and regrets it. This goes on for about two months or so and I am falling for her hard she also tells me that she would be lost without me and she cant go a single moment without thinking of me. The confliction comes in because of my moral beliefs and the fact that I don't want to be the sole reason of a divorce.\n\nPlease pardon any errors, I am using my phone to post this and I have huge fingers.", "summary": "Friend cam back into my life tells me she has feels for me, she is married and hates her marriage, what should i do"}
{"id": "t3_3bx6sm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my three roommates [21 F] and best friends of three years: I was bullied and stolen from all year and am finally moving out next month. Is there anything I should do or say or is this something I just need to move on from?", "post": "My initial post from earlier this year:\n\nSo things never improved since I posted that. They talked about me within my earshot to make me feel bad, stole food and alcohol from me, had parties most nights of the week, and then continued to expect me to be my cheery self around them all year. I haven't spoken to them in two months, but my stuff keeps getting broken and stolen. There's no proof it's them, but it's not like I would hide/break my own belongings. It's been expensive (lost around 500 dollars in belongings) having to live with this treatment. I can't get past my anger about all of this, and don't want to take the financial hit from just moving on and not talking to them anymore.", "summary": "Is this one of those things I have to just move on from? Or is there any way I can't get them to pay me back for the stuff they broke and stole?"}
{"id": "t3_3h381q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend of 3 years [23M] is making me very uncomfortable with his friend [18F]", "post": "He met this girl at his old job.\n\nShe posted booty pics, bikini pics and constant selfies on her Instagram, and my boyfriend likes every single one of them. \n\nWe've had discussions in the past about his Instagram activity - him following scantily clad models and porn stars which I've said makes me feel uncomfortable because of the level of interaction there. \n\nHe has this girls number and has her on snapchat and Facebook etc, and him liking her bikini pics and booty pics makes me uncomfortable.\n\nHe had a previous friend who posted nudes on her twitter constantly, which made me uncomfortable but I feel like I can't tell him to unfollow his friends so I didn't say anything - for other reasons they are no longer friends and don't talk anymore, so she's off all of his social media, but I feel like this other girl is heading the same way. I can't tell him not to be friends with people but I dislike that he's liking these photos.\n\nAm I being unreasonable? What do I do?", "summary": "boyfriend liking semi-nude pics and literally every single selfie of his friend - I'm uncomfortable, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2m1gsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with a love interest [20 F] of 8 months, did long distance but came to visit and found out about her sexually abusive parent and now we can no longer date because she's projecting the past onto me.", "post": "I need a bit of guidance.\n\nI found the most amazing women I've ever met. She's well read, sharp as a tac, beautiful, wants all the same things I want etc etc.\n\nWe've been doing a LDR for a little over half a year now and we finally bought tickets to see each other. She lives in Hawaii so I took 11 days off work and flew out to see her.\n\nWe smashed together like magnets. For the first three days there was nothing that could separate us - and we could tell this was going to happen because of how attracted we were to one another.\n\nSaturday night comes along and we're in bed and things are getting frisky. Nothing crazy just some intimacy and BAM. It hits. She withdraws. We stop. That's it.\n\nWe go to Church the following day everything is fine and then a few hours after Church she withdraws again. Avoiding eye contact, physical contact, conversation, everything.\n\nTwo days of tears and craziness she alludes to some serious sexual abuse as a child. I have no grasp on this. She will not share and my assumption is she is projecting the abuse onto me and it's just a crippling fear I can't help her with. She told me she's horrified of men and that we can never see each other again.\n\nI bought a ticket back home that leaves tomorrow (7 days earlier than planned). I'm holding on by a thread here. I'm not sure how to handle this. I fell for her and now she's so far removed from my life I'm at a loss. The rugs been pulled out and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Did long distance with this chick only to find out that after flying to Hawaii to see her that we can't date because she's horrified of men."}
{"id": "t3_3dab67", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "New Brand/Identity design studio needs advice on intellectual property.", "post": "Hey! I'm a self employed designer launching a branding consultancy/design studio. Legal stuff in general is unfamiliar territory. Can anyone out there bring me up to speed on the most common practices in the branding industry regarding copyright law? If I create a logo or a full brand identity system, what steps do I take to protect my work? What must I do to protect my client's brand? What options do I have in terms of licensing or selling rights to my clients? What are the pros and cons of these options? Any advice or resources are appreciated! \n\nMy personal inclination is to give copyrights freely, but it's a cop-out rather than a conscious choice. I just don't know enough yet on the topic to try anything else. What opportunities am I missing by ignoring this important topic for so long. Pls help!", "summary": "Designer of logos/brand identity needs intellectual property advice- How do I protect the work and make the most money? What are my options in terms of selling or licensing copyrights to my branding clients? What are the most common practices in the industry? "}
{"id": "t3_k8yv4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, help me resolve one of the biggest fights my group of friends has ever had", "post": "Back story: I have a small, very tight group of friends that I have known since as early as elementary school. One day, with the assistance of some alcohol and a very random string of conversations which I do not entirely recall, the question was posed whether or not a Dolphin (further clarified to be a bottlenose dolphin) could kill a Whale (further clarified to be a blue whale). This turned into a very heated and animated shouting match on a New York subway train, with no resolution ever being reached. \n\nPlease note that we are assuming the Dolphin is not self aware enough to kill the Whale by sticking it's nose in the Whale's blowhole, thus drowning it (Oh yeah, the argument was THAT serious). We are talking primarily about blunt force trauma, and if a very committed and homicidal Dolphin, if he set his mind to it, could eventually do enough damage to a blue whale to kill it. What do you think Reddit?", "summary": "Could a bottlenose dolphin kill a blue whale?"}
{"id": "t3_4g46xx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Gf [24F] Dating 2 months known each other for 5 months, concerning stuff regarding ex?", "post": "So I am off to the trailer with this girl i have been seeing for 5 months and exclusively for 2 months. I saw on her phone she had her ex over to her place yesterday to pick up her cats to look after them for the weekend. and she texted him at like 1230 last night saying i wish you picked them up this morning cause i miss them.  to which he said \"come visit us lol\". She replied \"not happeneing, as nice as itd be.\"\n\nThis seems grand she denied his advance to come over. however she hasnt told me about any of this.. What does reddit think of all this?..", "summary": "Gf still talking with ex and hasnt told me.. Normal for a new relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_eanw9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So is campaign finance really this shady/sketchy in the USA or am I missing something?", "post": "So I am doing a thought experiment using the publicly available FEC data and am seeing if I can draw a parallel between how a given candidate votes and who donates to them. \n\nThis is all fine well and good but the problem I am running into are the things that I am not finding in the files.  For example companies and unions are forbidden from donating directly to candidates / PAC's but that does not prevent them from running, say, an attack ad on a given candidate or having a circular mailed out. These things are, from my understanding, deemed \"non-related\" and therefore nothing needs to be filed with the FEC.  \n\nIt seems to me that these \"non-related\" items make up a significant portion of any given campaign and is a crucial piece of data.  The problem is, unless I am missing something, the only record of these non-related transactions are going to be on a given companies books.  I am making a few assumptions here of course but if everything above is correct I find it pretty shady and makes me question why would even need an FEC.", "summary": "Looking for financial data from companies donating indirectly to political campaigns.  Is there anywhere where this data is stored?"}
{"id": "t3_2uh08e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) am struggling with a friend(22F) and money.", "post": "I have a friend, Mary, who I've been close to for over 10 years and her fiance who I have known for 3. The fiance, Jason, has a very high paying job while Mary is still attending college and works very sparingly. Jason spends a lot of money taking Mary out/paying her bills, and whatever he doesnt cover her parents do. \n\nI, on the other hand, have never had money. I am a super saver, but I still scrape by with my fiance every month. I've told her multiple times that I just can't afford to go out, but all she wants to do is just that. Our friendship is starting to suffer because of it. I've definitely been a little jealous of her at parts of my life, but I deal with it. \n\nShe recently asked me to be her maid of honor in a very grandeur wedding occuring next winter. The price tag for the dress itself is $250 and she wants me to plan a trip to Vegas for her bachelorette. I am getting married this fall and moving across the country immediately after for grad school, so needless to say, I can't afford it. I told her that I can't, and she told me that I'm so good at saving I'm sure I will figure it out. I'm sure if we really tried, we could swing it, but I'm struggling with it on principal. She's asking a lot from me already and I think she just doesn't understand what it means to struggle financially. We are in the process of rebuilding my fiance's credit and planning a wedding, and nothing I say convinces Mary that I just can't justify spending all this money on her wedding.\n\nI don't want to back out, and I really want to be there for her, but I don't think it's possible the way she wants it.", "summary": "My friend has a lot of other people's money, I have very little of my own money."}
{"id": "t3_2ba0n6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(24m) need advice", "post": "So I've been with my gf for 5 years now, and we have lived together for the last year. Since we've been living together we have had our fights and now its gotten to the point that when our lease is up she doesn't now if she wants to stay with me, or go our separate ways. She has asked me to think it over and to tell her why I love her and why I think we should be together. Me being me I never know what to say, can someone give me some advice on what you would say in a situation such as this.", "summary": "how to tell gf I want to stay with her"}
{"id": "t3_28m2it", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20F] doing the right thing by cutting him [23M] off?", "post": "We meet, date for a few weeks, take things too fast, and we mutually decide to slow things down. Apparently to this guy, slowing things down meant being friends. While slowing things down to me meant dating but holding back much of the physical part of the relationship. Thinking I had a chance, I agree to being \"just friends\" (while under the assumption that there is potential for more). He continues wanting to talk to me regularly which confuses me. So to clarify, I ask him if he plans on talking to other people and he reiterates that that's what \"being friends\" means. And that he can handle me talking to other people as well. Days later, I find out that he already went out on a date with another girl. I bite my tongue and say nothing and try to keep my options open as well. Despite this, he continues to text me throughout the day and the dynamic did not change from how we always were, despite the fact that we were no longer dating. I end up breaking and telling him that I need space. He doesn't understand this but agrees. He stops texting me for a day, but I stupidly text him happy birthday and he's backing to wanting to talk 24/7. And to wanting to \"hang out\".\n\nA week or so later, I agree to hang out with him (he pretty much invites himself). During this time, I ask to use his phone and as I do it buzzes to a text from another girl. Nonetheless, we go out for a run that ends up being fun. As he walks me back, he puts his arm around me and begins to stroke my arm (wtf), and rests his head against mine. I feel like this isn't a \"real friendship\" despite what he claims. \n\nI've finally come to my sense today and realized that maybe there's something wrong with this picture? I posted a status on FB implying that I'm over something, and he comments \"hi\" seconds later (having not spoken to me the entire day) then messages me and asks what I'm over. I haven't replied (although tempted).\n\nShould I run for the hills?", "summary": "Confused guy, confusing girl!"}
{"id": "t3_2hyuwc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Girlfriend [18F] cheated on me [19M] in our LDR the other day, I want to make it work but need advice", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now and we've been doing long distance for the last month and a half. Most of the time we've spent together has been great, although we have had a few rough patches, it's never been anything we couldn't work through. \n\nBut  a few days ago we decided to take some time to ourselves, continue dating, just cut contact for a week to have some alone time to figure things out. We made it very clear that we would stay exclusive and not do anything with anyone else in the meantime. Today was our first day talking again and she immediately told me she had cheated on me the night after we stopped talking. She hadn't been drunk or anything, just made some bad decisions and one thing led to the next, her and this guy, we'll call him Steve, had slept together. \n\n She is deeply sorry and hates that she did it, she wants to try to keep our relationship intact, and I do too. Steve was a friend of hers away at school and they haven't talked since. I told her if she wanted things to work between us, that her and Steve could not remain such good friends. I told her it was okay for them to hang out in group settings because I understand that they have the same friend group and to cut contact with him entirely, she would have to cut herself off from almost all of her friends up there.  \n\nI'm just having a hard time accepting that she would do this, because it's so against everything she stands for. I'm also having a hard time trusting her now because we will have to remain in an LDR for another 2 months, then I will be up there as well and we can be together, but until then I can't bare the thought of her seeing this guy every day or so and I don't know what I can do to just improve this situation in general. \n\nAlso, Steve will actually be in town where I live over the weekend, and I want to confront him, but I'm not sure that's such a good idea.", "summary": "My girlfriend cheated on me in our LDR, but we want to make it work, having trust issues and issues proceeding from here in general."}
{"id": "t3_2mib1u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not seeing the roach in my towel", "post": "Let me start off by saying that I have very poor vision and I wear glasses most of the time. Obviously I can't wear them in the shower, so I don't see that well while showering. Well, I finished taking a shower and went to grab my towel. The towel slipped and fell on the floor. It was then that I noticed a big brown spot on the towel, which was gross. I bent down to pick it up and the spot starts crawling towards me. I am unbelievably terrified of roaches, especially the ones that fly (there are a lot of those in Florida). So this thing starts coming towards me. I start screaming and jump on the toilet, completely naked. My dad freaks out and thinks I'm hurt so he comes running into the bathroom only to find his naked daughter on the toilet, cornered by a flying roach.", "summary": "Found a flying roach in my towel and my dad found me standing on the toilet screaming and naked. "}
{"id": "t3_4jenji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my SO [23 M] have been dating for about 6 months and I'm emotionally drained...", "post": "Here's some background:\n\nI've been told multiple times that I'm unsupportive, I don't care, and that I don't put in any effort into the relationship. Mind you, I've given my SO permission to use my car to drive to X, Y, and Z places without much complaint, picked him up from work, brought him home, and always gave him money regardless of the financial situation I was in due to the burdening costs of commuting to school every day. During the semester I did not work because of my schedule, and the money I had to spend on supplies (Visual Arts major), food and gas was fairly limited. Therefore, I've always squeezed pennies and sacrificed many things that I needed to foot the bill for my partner. \n\nIn addition to the stress of not having money to spend in general, my partner would put pressure on me to get to certain places on time and rarely took my schedule into consideration before berating me for being late. I often found myself becoming very tense and uneasy when we made plans because I felt like I was walking on eggshells if I didn't arrive on time, or if I had to cancel at last minute. If plans were cancelled, all hell broke loose. I was constantly told that I was wasting his time and that I messed up and everything was my fault, even if it was out of my control. Keep in mind that the average time it takes to travel from my house to his was about 45 minutes without traffic. This meant I had to get up extremely early and commute at odd hours of the night as he was dropped off and went to bed as soon as he got home.\n\nI've addressed the topic of inconsideration several times, but of course, I am wrong and I'm selfish for only thinking about myself.\n\nIn addition, I've put up with my partner intentionally ignoring me for long periods of time as he was engrossed in his phone and seemed to be bothered if I made any attempt to engage in conversation. Of course, I was generally upset by his behavior and have put up with this longer than the duration of his past relationships.", "summary": "My partner thinks I'm unsupportive and defines me as a terrible girlfriend although I sacrifice a lot for the sake of his needs. Am I wrong for feeling emotionally drained/upset?"}
{"id": "t3_t9c3j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors with long-distance relationships: I'm considering moving across the country for a new job post-graduation...what's your best advice?", "post": "Graduated from University on the east coast this past week (yay!) and have been fortunate to receive a few job offers this past year. I've narrowed it down to two: one on the east coast and one on the west coast. The west coast job is basically my dream job with better benefits and ~$10k more in salary than the east coast job. My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years and have a great relationship. She has a few more years left finishing up her bachelors and masters degrees before she's done and is obviously upset with the idea of me being 3500 miles away, although she is being very supportive. I told her that I know we can make it work although it will be hard, especially at first. It's been really hard for me to choose between jobs because of this since I know I can drive a few hours on a Friday night after to see her or my family for a weekend instead of taking off of work on a Friday and Monday to fly home for a weekend.\n\nSo, fellow Redditors, how you guys keep up your relationships with your S.O. when you're both far apart from each other? Give me some ideas!", "summary": "Might take a job 3500 miles away from girlfriend and family. Any ideas on making long distance relationships easier?"}
{"id": "t3_2s82l3", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Can I begin my Australian Working Holiday Visa trip with only \u00a31500 (Around $2800 AUD) in 3 months' time?", "post": "Hello, I have just got my Australian Working holiday visa. I have my backpack, my sunnies, and most of everything else I need.\n\nI am planning on landing in Perth in 3 months' time where I have food and board covered. I am staying with my aunt for at LEAST the first month where I will hopefully be able to find employment in Perth, even though I hope to get a job secured before I land. (I have years of bar and restaurant experience, as well as experience in retail, I'm sure somebody, somewhere will have a position for me, I am very employable and very determined.)\n\nSo, to begin with, my only expense will be frivolous things such as drinking, and perhaps the odd unforeseen purchase.\n\nMy flights to and away from Australia are already covered. I do not need to worry about those.\n\nI know that most people say that you need $5000 in your bank account when you arrive in Australia to prove to immigration that you can look after yourself, that you will not be a burden on the Australian system. However, subtracting food and board, and my return flight from that $5000, will I still be allowed in with only around $3000? I have read around that this number does have some lee way with all factors taken into account. Push comes to desperate shove, I could locate funds from another source to bulk out my bank account when I enter Australia, but I would prefer not to.\n\nThoughts? Thanks1", "summary": "Most people say you need $5000 to enter Australia on a visa, I have $3000, but have room and board and my flight home taken care of from outside sources. Can I still go?"}
{"id": "t3_41ftjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my _gf__ [27F] 3 years, broke-up, was it a good choice?", "post": "I have girlfriend who is 8y older than me and she has kid with her ex husband. We were in a really good relationship, almost like perfect but today we broke up because today we got some time for only us two and she spent that time being on computer. And i told her like you have been all our free time on pc or phone and well one thing lead to other and ended up basically that way she said im too bad in bed and etc... and i said fine, i don't want to be with you anymore and she said that's great because i don't want to be with you too. Sorry it's very bad and unclear post because english is not my native language.", "summary": "Broke up with gf after 3 years because she doesn't spend time with me and im bad in bed. Was it a good choice or should i fix thing because i really love her."}
{"id": "t3_39ifea", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by promptly breaking up with my girlfriend.", "post": "So this one happened a few weeks ago. Things have been complicated since and maybe not all is lost but the incident was worth writing about anyway.\n\nSo I had been with my girlfriend for just over two years. We have always had problems but there's always been a lot holding us together. I've known her since high school and was secretly talking to her for years without telling my friends or hers (would have made things complicated). So anyway here I am ready to break it off because the differences are becoming too great and \"maybe we just want different things\" you know the drill.\n\nI go to her house. Its really difficult because she's my friend and I love her still. I've rehearsed what I'm going to say and I know if I dont start right away it'll turn into an argument and I'll get lost. I want her to know how I feel and that its not her fault, so when I get to hers we walk upstairs and I sit her down and start talking.\n\nI tell her everything. It turns into finger pointing anyway. I choke up a lot and tell her I want to end it. She doesn't take it very well, and remains ice cold. \n\nAfter a moment or two in silence she says \"oh by the way your anniversary present finally came but I guess i cant give it to you now\". It had been our anniversary maybe 3 weeks prior to that. I took her to an expensive restaurant in the city and we had a good night, but she had said she didn't have a gift and i didn't mind. So I plead with her to show me. I mean we made it two years, the gift was for that, and it still meant a lot to me. She reluctantly walks me to her room and reaches under the bed.\n\nMy (ex?) girlfriend pulls out this big frame with a comic book cover in it. We're on the front cover. Its a professionally drawn artwork of us as the heroes of a story we'd always joked about writing together (where we manage competing slushie / slurpee stores, also fight crime, discover each other and join forces. Its called \"affairs in justice\" [just-ice]).\n\nMy heart sinks and my jaw drops. I'm a fucking idiot, what have I done?", "summary": "Break up with my girlfriend without giving her a chance to give me the most heartfelt (belated anniversary) present anyone has ever given me."}
{"id": "t3_3qk0ab", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Breeds] Big dog Breeds?", "post": "So my family is looking to get another. We are a very active family with a large property and easy access to veterinary care. My dad has always wanted to have a large dog and now that my brothers are in college, we have more time and room to be able to care for one. I was wondering if anyone here had any advice as to what types of large dogs they have enjoyed through the years, and, perhaps most importantly, how long they lived. Our old dog whose sister is still with us died a few months ago from sudden organ failure due to a bad vaccination :/ And when my mom and dad first got married, they were going to adopt two St. Bernard puppies l, but they died before they could adopt them. Sorry for the sad stories but I felt like they were necessary.", "summary": "Has anyone had a large dog that they absolutely loved and that has lived a long and happy life?"}
{"id": "t3_l386j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do about my dad?", "post": "Background: I grew up in a strict Christian household. My dad might have had a beer every now and then, and my mom wouldn't even touch a sip of wine on my brother's 21st birthday. \n\nI was very stressed out by the high standards and always obeyed them 100%. I was diagnosed with depression. Now I've started fighting back.\n\nThings are getting worse. My dad tells me that 'I should still be innocent'. (This was a month ago. I'm 25) because I'm not a virgin and I've never been married. He lords the depression over my head. If I tell him I don't agree with something he automatically says that I must not be getting enough sleep or it's because of medication I was prescribed from the Dr.\n\nHe tried to order some pills from Amazon.com to help me sleep better. I had to take steroids because of an outbreak. My dad was talking on the phone and kept asking, \"are you listening\", even though I kept saying \"yes\". When I got frustrated he immediately said that he was going to let it go because it must be the steroids.\n\nHe even ran a background check on my boyfriend and said that it was to make sure he wasn't a pervert.\n\nI don't know what to do. I love him, but this crap has to stop.", "summary": "Every time I disagree with my dad he says it's because I'm depressed, or because of medication, and even tried to by pills from Amazon.com for me to take. He also ran a background check on my boyfriend. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3hx7rv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting IcyHot on my penis", "post": "This just happened about 10 minutes ago.\n\nI was digging around in my medicine cabinet for a band-aid, when I stumbled across a tube of IcyHot. I had one idea flow through my mind- *have some fun.* I laid down on the couch, opened the tube, and started slathering it on.\n\nIt felt great, a nice cooling sensation for about 30 seconds, it was a blast. Then it started feeling like like someone stuck it in hot ashes, and then like someone pepper-sprayed my dick.  \n\nThe burning was intense. My downstairs tarted turning red, and it was getting worse by the minute. I ran upstairs to my bathtub and started spraying water on myself. Finally, relief came. Everything started cooling down, and it feels like someone put my undercarriage in a cold feather bed.", "summary": "Put IcyHot on my dick, felt like pepper-spray."}
{"id": "t3_37ywvh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "My boss knows I went to an interview and now wants an answer to what my plans are on Monday", "post": "One of the managers must of overheard me talking about the interview or something but however it was discovered my boss knows I had an interview.  I bombed that interview, badly.\n\nNow my boss wants to know what my plans are and wants an answer on Monday.\n\nSome background, I graduated with a degree in computer engineering last May and this is a the first job I got after that.  It's a small start up call center selling services to small businesses.  I'm the sole technical person there.  It's not making money currently and I'm paid little.\n\nThe job I interviewed for was an integration position, not quite engineering but closer at least and paid literally double of my current job.\n\nMy position is so vital in my current job that if I took a sick day the entire company would have to shutdown because no one else can do my job.  I was also denied a raise recently.\n\nIt gets more complicated, I'm currently training a person in my job to have some redundancy and there is a planned merger happening in September with enough technical people to replace me at that point.\n\nSo my boss wants to know what my plans are.  I failed that interview and it's unlikely I'll get another any time soon.\n\nThe reality is that I just need more money I don't really care what I'm doing so long as I can support myself and help my family.\n\nWhat should I tell my boss?", "summary": "Boss knows about my interview and wants to know what I'm planning"}
{"id": "t3_402yg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Silly situation to be worried about... my boss [50sM] gave me [20F] a phone case but I don't like it. Now I've bought a new phone case... what do I do about the old one?!", "post": "Okay. This is such a stupid thing, but pls I'm autistic and have an anxious disposition anyway. I genuinely don't know what to do in this situation.\n\nI bought a new phone and my boss told me he'd bring in an old case he had. So he did. And it's a really decent case. But I really dislike the colour. \n\nSo... I had the case for the day and just bought another that I prefer.\n\nHow do I go about this? Do I just turn up next time with the new case on? Do I give the old case back? Do I keep the old case and just hope he doesn't notice (he will)? \n\nWHAT DO I DO", "summary": "silly situation with a gifted phone case."}
{"id": "t3_hz0gc", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Kitty diagnosed with kidney failure... Need support/advice", "post": "Took my lady kitty, Bella, into the vet today for dental work, and the blood work showed that she's in the beginning stages of renal failure.  I am, honestly, devastated.  \n\nShe's the first cat I ever rescued from the shelter as a Humane Society volunteer (I was in high school, didn't usually get to pick the kitties).  At the time she had mange and a host of other problems.  After awhile, she was diagnosed to an immune system problem which caused an allergy response (pollen, etc), the inability to grow an undercoat, and a problem combating skin bacteria and yeast.  Last year, she was diagnosed with UTI crystals, so it's been wet food ever since.\n\nI've read that a protein rich diet can hasten renal failure, so I'm feeling some amount of guilt from that.  She's also on low dose steroids for her immune system problem.  \n\nI know no one can tell me how long we have left together, and that the final call will have to be mine when I think her quality of life has diminished too far.  I've seen several cats die of kidney disease, and while the end isn't painful for them, it isn't comfortable either.\n\nI'm a bit at a loss, cattit.  I can't stop weeping, even thouh I know we have time left.  She's 14.  She's aged faster than most cats because of her problems.  But she's still my cuddlebug.  She's still my little lady.  Processing this is hard right now.\n\nSorry for", "summary": "Have pics."}
{"id": "t3_ug41a", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Honeymoon Ideas? Starting in Philippines", "post": "Hi all,\n\nThis is my first post, so forgive me if I miss any norms for this subreddit. Anyhow, my fianc\u00e9 and I are getting married in El Nido in the Philippines this December, and I'm in need for suggestions on a honeymoon destination after the wedding.\n\nWe have one week after the wedding for a honeymoon, and our return flight back home is from Manila. So, wherever we go we'll have to return back to Manila after the honeymoon for our final flight back home.\n\nThe big question I have is do we stay in the Philippines or try somewhere else?\n\nWe're open for any destination, but want some solitude and to avoid the touristy sites like Phuket. In the Philippines, we've been all over the island of Luzon (Manila, Vigan, Banaue), we've also been all over Palawan, and Busuanga (Coron).\n\nWe don't mind traveling off the beaten path. For reference, we once backpacked from Banaue over the Bassang Pass to Tagudin, but probably are looking for something that rough for the honeymoon. Something nice on a budget is what we're looking for.", "summary": "Manila as our launch point, where should we go for our honeymoon? Outside the Philippines or within?"}
{"id": "t3_2igfjv", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Canada - From West to East in 4 Weeks!", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nThe next summer I will be traveling with my brother, mom and dad from West Canada to East Canada with a camper. We got family in Canada which we wish to visit while traveling from west to east. We are starting at Vancouver then head towards Calgary to meet an uncle of mine and then continue our journey to Toronto which is also our final destination. In Toronto I got a lot more family. We also wish to travel through the Rocky Mountains as that is something we really wish to see.\n\nOther than that we still have no clue what we should visit. I did some research and found a couple of interesting places but I don't know if it is actually worth going to so I decided to ask in here. I have been following this subreddit for quite some time and always enjoy reading the stories and advices people give here. \n\nSo now I am wondering if people who have done this before know where we should have a look. I am really excited to visit Canada, I think it is a gorgeous country but I really want to get the most out of it.\n__________\n**Some details:**\n\n**Start:** Vancouver\n\n**Guaranteed Stop at:** Calgary\n\n**End:** Toronto\n\n**Date:** early summer, think July.\n\n**Interests:** the nature, the culture, mountainbiking/hiking (basically experiencing Canada's nature), swimming, no extreme sports (jumping out planes, bungiejumping that kind of stuff).\n____________", "summary": "going to Canada this summer for 4 weeks with family. Traveling with a camper from Vancouver to Toronto and passing by Calgary. What MUST I see?"}
{"id": "t3_kzvm3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've never job hunted for anything besides a teaching position--any suggestions?", "post": "I've taught for two years (in two different schools) as an English teacher.  Both times I've had to leave because of budget cuts, but left with excellent recommendations.  This last summer I foolishly only applied to private schools for a change, and now it's October and I'm essentially unemployed.\n\nI have a few part time jobs that help pay the bills, but I want a big boy job.  I've never job hunted aside from teaching jobs, and I have no idea if my degree will help me get a job anywhere else.  I would be eternally grateful for suggestions of what kind of positions I could look into or where to find them.", "summary": "What jobs can I apply for that an English Teaching degree and a skill set from two years of teaching experience can get me?"}
{"id": "t3_397zf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know what to do about my[26F] friend[20M]'s sleeping schedule. I'm trying to help him wake up earlier and get going with his life, but it's not working. It's taking a toll on our friendship [3y?].", "post": "My friend seems to need a lot of sleep. For one thing, though, he stays up quite late playing games with his friends. But then, he often doesn't get up until ~3pm. That's around 12 hours of sleep! Is that normal at all for a 20-year-old?\n\nFor weeks I've been calling him in the morning to wake him up, as a backup to his alarm. The problem is, he doesn't wake up when I call. He speaks to me (albeit groggily, but still), but then *goes back to sleep*. He says he'll text me to prove he's awake, but he never ever does. I always text him first and I've suggested he go to the doctor about it, but the office has weird hours and you can only call on certain days? He's often not up in time for that.\n\nAdditionally, he has been applying for summer jobs but doesn't give himself much of a window because of his extensive sleeping. \n\nPart of me feels I should just give up calling, because he might need to just want to change badly enough. The other part feels like I can't give up on him. I don't want to let him down. However, I am tired of feeling like a human alarm clock.\n\nMaybe this isn't the right sub for this, but under this whole sleeping issue, we are very very good friends. I don't want to become so frustrated that this ruins our relationship. I want to help him, but I just do not know how. (Saying \"stop being friends, he's not doing *you* any favors\" isn't exactly an option.)", "summary": "Friend wants to change sleep habits. I'm trying to assist but nothing seems to be working. Afraid relationship will deteriorate."}
{"id": "t3_41z7wm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M19]Need Advice on Showing Interest in Person I Rarely See", "post": "I am a student at college, and there is this girl in orchestra who I think fairly obviously has a crush on me. She seems like she would really be my type, so I am interested in trying to see where things go. The problem is I have only talked to her a few times, I don't have any way to contact her other than our university email addresses, and we sit far apart enough that I would really have to go awkwardly out of my way to talk to her in orchestra. I want to talk with her, but I also want it to be in a way that doesn't make a complete ass out of myself if I am misreading the situation (I'm not exactly a social butterfly). The only thing I could come up with was emailing, with no prior contact with her, something like \"hey, can you help me out with this one part in the music,\" but I thought that might be a little too transparent. Any other suggestions/comments? Also this is a throwaway account because reasons. Sorry for any spelling errors, I'm typing on mobile.", "summary": "I would like to show a girl I think likes me that I potentially like her but I have no plausible reason to talk with her, and I haven't spoken with her very often previously."}
{"id": "t3_2okdih", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Bike tour around the world?", "post": "Hi there redditors! \n\nFirst of all I'd like to apologize for my English, but as you will see (I hope not), I'm not a native speaker.\n\nI'm 23-year-old who recently graduated from university and just stared my first job. Now, you see, my job is interesting and all, but it's an office job and I feel I'm not suited for this. I'm the adventures type, I want something happening around me and going to work from 9 to 6 is just killing me.\n\nThe one thing that I thought of is a bike trip mostly in Europe, Asia and North Africa. The problem is that I'm from a country with an average salary around 350 euros or 450 USD. My salary is a bit higher - around 450 euros, but still not enough according to what I read is needed for such a trip, witch is about 30000 USD.\n\nMy question is if somebody has done something like this without any money and if they have some tips for me. I'm thinking about sleeping outdoors or helping some locals for food and a place to crash. Is this something that could work out? I'm planning to go with my girlfriend and I think not too many people would take us in.\n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I'm a broke ass guy who plans a bike tour around the world with his girlfriend but doesn't want to raise funds or beg for money. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3svygk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] and my girlfriend [22F] together for 3 months. She's great but its just missing that spark?", "post": "I met my girlfriend a little over 3 months ago. We hit it off and started dating immediately then quickly moved into a relationship. \nI was trying to move on from another girl who was sort of jerking me around but who I really cared for. So in a sense I may have rushed into this current relationship.\n\nMy girlfriend is great and I know she really cares for me. She has already dropped the big L word and I was very confused at that point because those are not my feelings at all right now.  My family really likes her which is extremely important in my eyes. The problem is that I just dont feel that great connection that I've felt in the past with other girlfriends. I'm not sure if its because I was really hurt by the last person I fell hard for and dont want that to happen again? Or maybe that I just am not that into this particular girl. I really can't make sense of my lack of feelings.\n\nI guess the", "summary": "here is: How long do I stick with this relationship to see if I develop the same feelings that she has for me? And is it fair to her that I even stay in a relationship if I am unsure?"}
{"id": "t3_4grvek", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Clarification/help on renewing a lease", "post": "Hi PF - so I started subletting a room in mid January 2016 after having graduated college in December. As part of the process to sublet, I paid an application fee of $25 and had my credit run. I was approved and the real estate agency then said I would be added to the tenancy, rather than the lease, to simplify things. I'm not entirely sure what the difference is, as the agent said that by being on the tenancy, technically it's in my favour because I'm not legally contracted to the room/apartment. I have no plans on leaving the apartment or stiffing the landlord/prior tenant on the rent and am looking to renew when the lease expires in August. I was just curious if this is normal or if I should be wary of anything regarding this setup.\n\nOnto renewing the lease. The lease is expiring in August and my current rental rate is $700. It's a 3 bedroom, and the prior tenant did mention the room is lowered because one of the other bedrooms is being shared, so the landlord reduced 2 rooms by $100 and inflated that shared room's rent by $200. I would like to keep my $700 a month rent when I renew but I'm not sure if this is possible since it is being subsidised by a shared room right now. Is this possible/reasonable to accomplish or will I have to suck it up come September and start paying $100 more for my current room? Additionally, the other room that was subsidised is no longer occupied by the signing tenant as they too sublet the room out. This room is now being occupied by a couple (so it's also shared) however they pay the same rent as I do to live in my own room. I feel this is quite unfair and was wondering if I can negotiate this with the landlord when the lease expires, to basically inflate their room since they are sharing, in order to keep my personal room/rental costs low.", "summary": "I'm on the tenancy, not the lease right now and what does that mean/what should I know/be careful of? 3 bedrooms, one pays a higher price because it's shared which subsidises the other two rooms, but now one of the other rooms is also shared without receiving an inflated price to match. Can I use this when negotiating my lease in August to force the other roommates to pay more because they are sharing in order to keep my costs low? "}
{"id": "t3_473psv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my car in neutral", "post": "This was about an hour ago.\n\nSo my brother has a stick shift honda accord, and since my car was in the shop getting some work done. I borrowed my brothers honda. I was in a rush to get into my local safeway to pickup stuff to make dinner tonight. So not being used to driving stick, I didn't think to put the e-brake up. I just don't have the habit in me. So I leave my car and I'm inside shopping when I hear an employee announcing \"Owner of a Honda accord (insert license plate here) please come to customer service.\"\n\nSo I knew that was my car, I went up and there was a girl there that explained to me what had happened once I had left the car.\n\nHer story:\nShe was trying to back out and noticed a car a few car stalls to her right was also backing out. So she waited and realized this car is still backing out and has plenty of room to leave. And it continued backing and she realized theres no driver. So she hops out of her front seat and rushes to my car and starts pushing my car away from the car that was in the stall behind me. A few other people came to help and thanks to them there was no damage and my brother will never know what really happened while I was borrowing his car. \n\nMonday, am I right?", "summary": "left my car in the parking lot in neutral and didn't put up the e-brake. Went inside to hear my license plate being read because my car had rolled out of the stall."}
{"id": "t3_2cw7kl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not inspecting the contents of the McDonalds cup", "post": "It was a normal night, I'd just gone to bed and was about to take my glasses off. I set them on the nightstand, but it was wet and sticky. I remembered that we went to McDonalds previously and had left a cup with some coke left in it. It was leaking. It was just pop so I drank it as fast as I could and put my glasses back on the night stand after wiping it up. It tasted slightly weird as I was drinking it, but I was drinking really fast so I didn't fully notice, but when I pulled my lips off the straw, the most intense taste of windex filled up my mouth and I started gagging. I went into my girlfriends room which was right beside it, she was sleeping but I thought drinking windex or whatever cleaning chemicals she put in there was cause enough to wake her, and asked her if she put anything into the McDonalds cup. She said \"no\", surprisingly. I said \"That's weird, because it tastes like chemicals\" to which she probably fell back asleep and didn't respond. I went back to bed and thought about what it could be and fell asleep shortly after, not coming to any real conclusions. I wake up this morning and am about ready to go to work when girlfriend walks in my section of the basement. She lays down beside me and we start talking. She started by saying she's been up since early and that she had some time to think about stuff and that she remembers me asking about the McDonalds cup. Apparently she was so tired when I woke her up that she gives those asleep responses that people give when they're not fully awake and seem to be responding without being conscious when she said \"No\". She said she put two Lysol Wipes in the McDonalds cup. Gross. But the problem is that I remember her talking about having to clean up some cat shit from the basement where we sleep.", "summary": "I drank a McDonalds cup full of Lysol Wipes used to clean cat shit because I thought it was the pop I left in there"}
{"id": "t3_535vg5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Not special to her", "post": "Hi there! First post ever on here, or Reddit for that matter. This has been bothering me for awhile and I think about it quite often.  \n\nSo I have this teacher who I talk to. We've really spoken a lot over the past few years and she's helped me through some of the problems I have. She's very charismatic, funny and an overall nice person. One of the other teachers joked that I was going for therapy everytime I see her.\n\nI also helped her a lot and without going into too much detail we share a common interest and I help her buy stuff related to said interest and other things(for school). I have been doing this for quite some time now and I'm more than happy to do it. I'm not doing this because I'm expecting anything of her and I was never the top student or even close in her class. I don't think she treated me any differently, and I didn't want her to. BUT I do wish she was more appreciative of me getting the things for her. She is a very popular teacher and she has a lot of ex students that keep in contact and are \"special\" to her so I feel that me helping her is nothing to her lol. I guess she kinda expects it? \n\nI'm not really sure, but on a side note a majority of her \"special\" ex students are incredibly accomplished and I'm not. I sometimes wonder if I didn't do all this for her maybe she wouldn't bother keeping in contact with me etc. Or maybe she sees me helping her as an exchange for all the \"therapy\"? I don't know.\n\nBut no matter what, I'm going to carry on helping her and stuff because obviously I want her to like me. I hope we will still keep in close contact(graduating soon). I'm also a bit miffed at myself as to why I'm so bothered about this whole issue. I would like to think that I have a very \"live and let live\" attitude towards the rest of my life, except for this.", "summary": "She's special to me but I'm probably not special to her"}
{"id": "t3_441s0u", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "About to contact Collection Agency to repay debt", "post": "With a decent income tax coming in the next few weeks I've decided to take care of 2 derogatory marks on my credit report from 2 debts that have gone into collections, one for a good 3-4 years at least and the other being from about a year ago, maybe 2 years ago. I am receiving 1500$ in my tax return and would like to handle my 2 outstanding debts of collectively $1000 ($700  & $300 each debt with a different agency.) I've yet to contact the debt agencies as it has been a few years since I've seen any letters and I've never received any phone calls, I've gathered the phone numbers and mailing addresses of both companies but I'm not sure how I should proceed. Its my understanding that I can maybe get a debt settlement on both of these accounts for a much MUCH lower cost than the price of the debt and would like to pursue a pay for delete option and AM willing to pay the debt in full but if I can negotiate the price down a little that would be extremely beneficial. My question is should I contact the companies via phone and request something in writing (Debt verification?) and then reply solely via snail mail? or could I do everything over the phone and have a negotiated payment made and have documentation mailed/emailed to me afterwards to keep for my records? I've read a lot of stories on here of people calling and negotiating payment over the phone as low as 20% of the debt total and not having it come back and bite them in the ass but I guess I'd just like a little clarification or advice on whats the best route to take. Thank's for reading my wall of text up there ^\nreally appreciate it :D", "summary": "Best way to handle Collection  on 2 years old debts ($700 & $300) via phone all at once or through snail mail for paper trail plus paper records."}
{"id": "t3_1e3pqh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking flavoured milks all the time", "post": "I like the little cartons of flavoured milk and before you open then you give them a quick shake to stir it up. I don't usually have soft drink but in the case of a University musical theory exam I thought I could use something fizzy. \n\nI sit down, exam begins. I pick up my bottle of coke and give it two quick shakes and immediately open it, not realising what hell I have unleashed. It spews all over me, my phone and the chick sitting in front of me drenching her. She screeches like a wild yeti and here I am holding a now completely empty bottle with ruined exams in a 3 metre radius. I look like a complete jack ass and the professor didn't have any spare exams left so I will have to do it tomorrow. The chick I soaked burst into tears too, I apologised but it was too late for that. \n\nPhone is toast too.", "summary": "Shook a bottle of coke like I would a flavoured milk in an exam. Ruined exams, phone and social life."}
{"id": "t3_2u78n6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/f] and my boyfriend [26/m]...Not sure of where our 1 year relationship is headed...stay together or breakup?", "post": "We've been together a little over a year now. We come from different backgrounds (different ethnicities and cultures). The relationship is kind of long distance, because he lives an hour away, and so due to our busy work schedules, we see each other about once or twice a week. We get along great actually, rarely fight, very affectionate & loving towards each other. We text each other frequently thru out the day, he tells me that he loves me every single day, multiple times. And if he is going somewhere with his friends, he ALWAYS lets me know, and keeps me in the loop, and I greatly appreciate that. The thing is, we never really talk about our future, in terms of marriage, when that's likely to be possible, etc. He does want kids with me because he does talk about that sometimes, but in about 3 years from now. However, he never talks about marriage. We haven't even met each other's families. I can't bring him home to meet my parents until I'm sure that he does want to get married. My parents are strict Indian ppl, so if I bring a guy home, they will know it's serious and that the relationship is headed towards marriage. I don't really know how to talk to him about this, because I don't want to put him in an awkward position, or push him away. I certainly don't want him to feel pressured or anything like that, but I'm pretty sure that he definitely wants to wait 2/ 3 years for anything. It's just that I'm at a point where I would like to get settled down soon, and because my boyfriend wants to wait 2/3 years, I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time with the wrong guy...?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to wait 2, 3 years before we progress in our relationship (marriage/kids)...I'm ready to settle down and get married. I'm not sure if I should wait and be with him, or if I'm potentially wasting my time with the wrong guy...??"}
{"id": "t3_4j9338", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (21M) never buys me what I want on my birthday or for holidays.", "post": "Now this isn't what you think, I'm not trying to be ungrateful I just think this is really weird. \n\nMy birthday is this month and I tend to give my boyfriend gift ideas so he doesn't stress over what to get me. He does the same for me. Well, I'm a huge plush collector and there is this plush I have wanted for YEARS. It's only $25 so I thought that would be a perfect thing for him to get since inexpensive and one of my favorite plushes. I sent him a link of where to buy it and he said it was neat.\n\nToday he sent me a picture of a nerdy item he bought for me that was the same price as the plush and I have a feeling this is my birthday gift. I mean yeah, I like it and it's something I've expressed interest in before, but I have to admit I was a little disappointed. \n\nHe does this with every holiday though. Sometimes he spends even more money than the item I truly wanted was worth. Again, it's not like Im not happy he took time to get me something, I just don't really understand his reasoning behind all this. \n\nHe told me all the things he wanted for his birthday and I got them for him with some extra gifts on the side and he was so happy. I just really don't get why he doesn't do the same for me.\n\nNow if he made something for me or something like that I would completely understand and it would be better than any old plush because it came from him. But, since we are talking about non personal items, why is he ignoring my suggestions?\n\nI'm afraid to bring this up to him because I don't want him to think I don't appreciate the things he gets me, because again he could just get me nothing. \n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "boyfriend buys other gifts for holidays and my birthday and sort of ignores what I say I'd like for my birthday."}
{"id": "t3_35mzrx", "subreddit": "college", "title": "How would I email my professor about an unfair grade? or how would I convince them to give me a higher grade?", "post": "First off, I apologize for the pretentious title. I don't know how else to word it as it is the truth/my true intent.  \n- *English is not my first language.*  \n- *This college class is an online dual credit class.*  \nLast semester, I made a B in ENGL 1301. I knew it was due to my procrastination and laziness. This semester, my overall grade is an 89%. I hope to make it an *A* with the final tomorrow. The professor stepped it up for ENGL 1302 and my classmates have all fallen behind with *C's* and *D's*.  \nI turned in an essay^1 and got a high grade compared to my classmates. One of our other major projects it to revise one of our two past essays. I followed all of the instructions, got it peer-reviewed, and corrected the flaws I got marked off for on the original essay^1.  \n**I was given the same grade for my final draft.** My classmate with a high *D* turned in her revised essay and received a very high grade that brought her up to a 70. *Except she didn't change her essay at all and her original grade for that essay was an F.* My other failing classmates have received high grades despite barely editing their original essays. I believe that the professor has given them higher grades to keep them from failing near the end of the semester. Their overall grade went from high 60's to low 70's.", "summary": "How do I email my professor to give me a fair grade without sounding demanding or betraying my classmate?*  "}
{"id": "t3_121sdl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [20/f] out of line? (20/m)", "post": "Dating 20m and we go to the same university, which is 20 minutes away from his parents. He spends A LOT of time with his family which is great! I have just never quite seen him be independent and it's hard for me to picture him far away from our area. \n\n.\n\nWe've been dating for six months and he already gave me a ring (to show me how much he cares), has talked about our future children and I'm already in several family pictures (their yearly easter picture with grandparents, cousins, and whatnot). \n\n.\n\nAm I out of line to be terrified of these things? Or am I in the wrong to believe he will probably never move away from home? \n\n.", "summary": "Boyfrand's not very independent. Moving very quickly in relationship. Are these things considered red flags?"}
{"id": "t3_2l9yhs", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is my recruiter looking out for my interests?", "post": "This is my first time working with a recruiter.  I've been working with her for a couple weeks and I'm not sure what's normal in this process.  I live in San Antonio and the recruiter is in Dallas.  She asked me to come up for an initial interview (Mon.) with her to make sure I was serious about moving to Dallas.  Two days later she called me back to set up interviews (Fri.) with two companies.  When I asked her if the companies will provide any relocation assistance or travel reimbursement she said no relocation and didn't address the travel reimbursement (I unfortunately forgot to ask her about the travel again because the topic shifted).  She called me back for another interview with company \"A\" which they want to set up for next week.  Company \"A\" recruits exclusively through my recruiter, so I know that I'm the only candidate they've asked back.  When I asked my about travel reimbursement this time she said she didn't even ask the company because people don't provide that assistance at this level.  Is that true or is my recruiter just looking out for the company's interest instead of looking out for me and the company?\n\nExtra details:\nI have a BA in Comparative Literature and 2 years of work experience.\nMy recruiter said she's been a recruiter for 13 years.\nI told her that my minimum salary is $42,500 (unless the whole benefits package is really phenomenal and in that case $40,000).  I was previously making $40,000.  The two jobs she got me interviews with would offer $40,000 (I know that one of them has excellent benefits, but I don't know about Company \"A\")", "summary": "I just found out that my recruiter isn't even asking the companies about things like travel reimbursement and I'm having to travel 5 hr (600 miles round trip) for interviews.  Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_lgx4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Passion fading from my relationship", "post": "Hi Redditors, first post, figured I could get some advice.\n\nEarly this summer I started dating a girl whom I've known for about 10 years (met in middle school/high school, apart during college, started hanging out again once I returned home after college). When we started dating, things were really great, really easy, and went really fast. Within a month we were already so close and I could see myself marrying this girl within a year or two (I'm 23, she's 26). We get along great, spend decent time together, and I can tell that she really cares about me. She has all the qualities of a good spouse, good mother, good life partner.\n\nWe've now been dating for 4-5 months and things are starting to slow down and I'm becoming less passionate about the relationship. I want to be with her, but i'm not crazy passionate about it. I don't wake up every morning with a burning desire to be with her, crazy about being with her. I know that it's unrealistic to have this feeling every minute of everyday, but I haven't felt that way since the first few weeks of our relationship.\n\nI also have to admit, even though it makes me feel shallow and a bad person, that my attraction to her isn't top notch. I am attracted to her, and we do have a physical aspect of our relationship, but she's not the most attractive women I know (or dated).\n\nI should also mention that we are both christain and that God is a central part of our relationship. Its something that we can share together and has been a good way to bring us together. I've slept with 2 girls before, she's a virgin, we have decided to wait before marriage to have sex. I'm ok with it, though I do fear that it will have an impact on our intimacy (possibly a source for my lack of attraction?)\n\nSo what should I do? Am i expecting too much from the relationship? Is physical attraction an unimportant thing in the long run as long as we have an intimate connection? If I choose to ignore these feelings, will they come back to haunt the relationship later?\n\nThanks for your help.", "summary": "GF is awesome, good/healthy relationship. Attraction is not super high, passion is fading. Is that a sign of we shouldn't be together, or too high expectation/wont matter in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_1l4v8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] with my g/f [23f] 8 months, flirting w/ guy on txt msg.", "post": "I'll keep this quick. I noticed her getting close to a guy a few weeks ago and told her it bothered me. She said I had nothing to worry about. Later I found out she was talking with him in a very flirty way. Not sexual but like \"you know I'm an angel ;)\" things like that. Confronted her, and she apologized. Said she wouldn't talk to him.\n\nThen a few days ago found out she talked with him again - late at night. Nothing sexual, but something she said was very forward. He told her he doesn't like how girls just \"use\" him in class. She told him she appreciates his help and that if she was single she would even flirt with him.\n\nI really want to forgive her but I just can't. I don't know if I can keep giving her more chances. Am I in the right to end the relationship?", "summary": "gf flirting with a guy from class. even after I brought it up and we discussed it."}
{"id": "t3_lkjf2", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Dealing with uninvited guests", "post": "My aunt emailed me today to inform me that her son (my 26 year old cousin) will be bringing a date to my wedding (next week!) I did not invite anyone +1, and when I saw the email initially I got really upset. I didn't respond to the email and I'm glad I waited. \n\nAfter thinking about it, I realized that \n1. I can call my cousin directly, he is an adult and should have asked me directly.\n2. After flip-flopping with allowing him to bring her which means changing the table arrangements, changing my catering order, etc. I have a clear and kind reason to decline his request.\n\nOther than immediate family, I invited a total of 4 friends to my wedding, 3 of them are single and one is married. My parents did not invite a single friend, and my fiance's parents only invited 3 close couples. I know every one of the guests personally, and unless you live with your significant other, you did not get a +1. Every guest was invited by name. For these reason I'm going to let him know tomorrow that unfortunately he may not bring his friend who is visiting from another country. The whole she-bang is only 4 hours long in the middle of the day, but if she would like to come for dessert, she is welcome. \n\nFor the record, he did this 5 years ago at another cousin's wedding, and we had to squeeze 13 people at an already crowded table. AND to add to the difficulty, I'm getting ready at this aunt's house. urg.", "summary": "cousin might not come, aunt hung up on me  Do I really care? No."}
{"id": "t3_103zng", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I really want to fuck another woman.", "post": "So I'm (female) happily married to a man and would NEVER cheat on him but I must express my carnal wants to someone. I'm bisexual and i miss being with women but the whole 3some thing is next to impossible to achieve.\n\nSo I want to get this off my chest:\n\nI've been horny for women these past couple of weeks and last week I sat next to one of my female classmates. She's cute in a nondescript way, wears cute, modest looking dresses with cardigans and riding boots. her hair is usually messy and her make up is hit or miss. I never thought of her in a sexual manner b/c she's 21 and I'm a couple of years older than her. \n\nLecture was as boring as usual and then I noticed from the corner of my eye than she was rubbing her knee. And I know it sounds retarded, but I found it very sensual. Her hands are long and supple, her skin had a healthy glow and you could barely make out any thigh above the hem of her dress. I imagined my hand rubbing her other knee and then slowly making my way up her dress to see if she was messy with all her hair. I imagined kissing her elegant neck, shivering under my kisses. I could go on and on with the things I imagined doing to her but lets just say I made a mess of my panties thinking naughty things.\n\nThen a few days ago I found out she was a virgin. I felt guilty about lusting after her, not to mention I couldn't invite her for a threesome.", "summary": "had sexy thoughts about a virgin classmate"}
{"id": "t3_2qsx03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [18F] gently, yet effectively end things with him [26M]?", "post": "Okay, I realize that this may be a very stupid and insignificant question, but I am planning on ending things with someone tomorrow night and would like it to go as smoothly as possible. I know that the person will care about the end result far more than specifics of the delivery of the break-up, but it is a relatively delicate situation as we work together.\n\nIf it makes any difference, we aren't actually officially dating, I was just trying to make the title a bit more straightforward and relatable. If details do help, I [18F] have slept with my manager [26M] a couple of times and he asked me to be his girlfriend yesterday (the job is temporary & unrelated to my desired career and other people at work get involved with one another, so the manager thing isn't really an issue). While I like him a lot, I don't feel as strongly about him as he does me and have no desire to get serious with him and realize that the best solution is to end things completely. I will probably say that I want to end it because I am simply young and not looking for a relationship (though this isn't completely true... should I tell him the truth or is it alright to say this?). Should I start off by saying that I want to end things and then explain why, or is it better to lay out my thoughts and feelings to lead up to the conclusion that I want to break up for those reasons? I have a feeling he won't take it well, but I gotta get it over with. I just need some help handling this as tactfully as possible.\n\nThanks in advance!!", "summary": "How do I handle the delivery of explaining to a guy that I want to end things?"}
{"id": "t3_2l66xm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend's sister [17F] she's just not a great person", "post": "I'm trying to be very diplomatic and nice towards her, but she makes it so damn difficult.\n\nShe constantly tries to cause trouble. I recently went to stay with a friend in another country for 3 weeks, my boyfriend trusts me so it was no issue at all for him. \n\nOf course she's telling everyone I had sex with my friend, not just telling her friends, but my boyfriends family and even people I work with. The whole of facebook has had updated on how much I must be having sex. \n\nI tried to speak to her about this and she threw a hissy fit and started crying because \n\n''I'm pregnant you can't say mean things to me you fucking bitch''. \n\nShe does things on purpose to cause trouble. My boyfriend looks after her toddler because she's just incapable of doing it.\n\nHe goes to a group, last week she rolled up with her new boyfriend (I assume the father of the baby she's having now) and took him out without contacting my boyfriend or me or his grandmother.\n\nOf course when we get there to pick him up he's not there we called the police in a panic. \n\nFind her in his apartment with the baby, police and social now don't want her as involved with her own son as she is. (which is fair enough in the space of 2 year she's fluffed up so often) \n\nSo her reaction was to wait until my boyfriend's mother had the baby and just physically go and pull him away and walk off with him.\n\nI just don't know how to deal with her.\n\nTo be honest, looking after a 2 year old when you're 21 is draining, least of all someone elses 2 year old and the thought she'll probably end up with the next one taken off her and placed with use is just too much.\n\nI can't deal with her anymore and her lying and shit but I have no idea how to deal with it", "summary": "boyfriend's sister is just plain crazy and childish, I have no idea how to deal with her"}
{"id": "t3_14ukdw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A little question about something I'm experiencing!", "post": "Ok so first of all, I'm not really sure if this is the right place to ask this, but the subreddit is AskReddit after all and I don't know where else to go with.\n\nSo lately I'm experiencing something very strange, when I'm trying to fall asleep I get some kind of mini-blackout's they last for 1 to maximum 2 seconds. When this happens my visual is pitchblack instead of those funny twirlings you see when you close your eyes to get some sleep. My heartrate jumps up a bit after this too and it doesn't stay with 1. (it's not the falling sensation I'm talking about, this is something totally different)\n\nAnd it happens more often when I'm really really tired and wanne go to sleep. I don't know if there is something wrong with my body or so, but thats why I asked you guys (and girls!). I can't be the only one who has this.\n\nAlso sometimes (once or twice in a week it feels like my muscles around my heart cramp together)\n\nI'm sorry if my english ain't that good, it ain't my native language after all.", "summary": "Mini blackouts -> higher heart rate -> kinda scared when trying to fall a sleep sometimes"}
{"id": "t3_n8ksj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In deep with money issues. Need advice.", "post": "First off, sorry for the length.\n\nI need some serious help. My husband and I have been having pretty serious problems with money. It isn't that we are lazy, we are just in a really tight spot. He has tried posting on r/Frugal, but didn't get any advice other than \"don't spend what you don't have to and you'll be fine.\" It isn't that simple for us. We just don't make enough money to pay off all of our bills each month.\n\nBasically, I've gotten very sick recently. I've been out of work for nearly 5 months because I can't stand or walk on my own. We've been saving money where we can. I even got a buzz cut for the sake of saving water and shampoo (not to mention, I couldn't shower by myself). But despite our best efforts, we can't make it. My husband makes about $1,000 a month. Our rent cost us $650, our cell phones cost $70, and utilities usually cost about $70 (with internet). We still have to pay for gas and food. We've been sent to collections because of my medical bills and a credit card (which we haven't been using for nearly 3 years). We still have 7 months on our lease, and can't ask for any money from family, because I have already tapped them out. \n\nPlease, if anyone has any legitimate advice (no \"just be more careful with your money\" advice, please), I would love to hear from you. Anything helps.", "summary": "In deep shit with money because of collection agencies, and only one income between two people (because I'm sick). Need serious advice before we aren't able to keep our heads above water anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2ncjh6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my EX- GF [25F] 9 months caught her cheating on webcam. What do I do? I am so embarrassed. I loved this girl. . .", "post": "she hung on on me to talk to a \"cousin\" she called me back said she wanted sleep with me on the phone. I could here panting and out of breath I swear I heard giggling.\n\n I asked her to go on her webcam she was pissed. (after she took forever) she finally got on with makeup and new earrings I've never seen her wear before. She couldn't even tell me where she bought them and stuttering to tell me when. I can see her smiling at him in the background he was touching her and she was moaning while eyes closed right there on the webcam. I could see a moving shadow and everything. After stumbling on her lies. . .\n\nFinally got up to call her brother on her phone (he was supposed to be sleeping in the next room) oops! (Can't get her story straight) So while she's on the \"phone\" I grab my phone and call her I can hear the ring in the back round! She was not on the phone. She was playing games \n\nI am the BIGGEST IDIOT. I ignored EVERY RED FLAG! Men. . .always always ALWAYS trust your gut. I am so fucking pissed. I don't know what to even think right now this happened a hour ago.", "summary": "caught her cheating on webcam. What Do I fucking do now? How can I learn from this?"}
{"id": "t3_4437vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Question]Me [19/m] with my girlfriend [18/F] are gonna have sex for the first time, how do I handle clean up, cause I think I might have OCD?", "post": "Hello. What I am gonna write sounds quite unusual, I am sure, but I am serious. I might have OCD, I am not sure, but here it goes: \nI am going to have sex with my girlfriend, soon, but I am very nervous and not for the usual reasons. I know it may sound really stupid, but I wanted to ask the guys: \n\nHow do you open the door of your room, with your hands being, you know, covered in vaginal fluids from fingering the girl, and maybe your own semen? I suppose you wipe your hands with something like a towel or tissues?\nI am asking since I am very big clean freak and I wipe door handles and surfaces a lot. I don't want to scare my girlfriend. or to make her feel unclean if she sees me to wipe the door handles I have touched with my hands just wiped on a towel or something. I was thinking maybe going to the bathroom, washing my hands and on the way back wiping the door handles I have touched? \nI just don't want to spread semen around my flat. What do the normal guys do without my fear? Does any of you wipe door handles? Do you care if some invisible semen or vaginal fluid is around? \nP. S. And I cannot leave the door of the room opened cause I live with flatmates.", "summary": "Sex, Cleanup, First Time, Clean freak!"}
{"id": "t3_2b0iyp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Serious] I [M23] need advice on dealing with GF [25] moving away.", "post": "So my girlfriend, who is 25, just informed me, who is 23, that she plans on moving away next December to be closer to family members. We have been together a year and are a serious relationship, although still relatively new. The distance she is moving is about 6-8 hours on a bus, less on a train (I think). We are both willing to stay together during this move but I have never done a kind of long distance thing before. We have decided that compromise will be best and take it in turns to travel to see each other. \n\nI want to ask if any of you Redditors have made a relationship work when it was semi-long distance? My biggest issue is the being apart part of it as since we met we have always been less than 30 mins away from each other and I will have to get used to her making a new life elsewhere without me. I told her from day 1 I would never get in between her and her family so although it has gotten me pretty down about the prospect of her not being there, I fully support her in what she wants. \n\nI guess I'm just looking for advice as it has gotten me kinda upset and I don't know the best way of going about seeing her leave. Any advice would be much appreciated and I ask that you be somewhat gentle and I don't want to be told that long distance never works. We want to make it work.", "summary": "GF is moving 6-8 hours away, don't know how to deal with it although I am fully supportive."}
{"id": "t3_jlto8", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How does one choose a new roommate...?", "post": "My two roommates and I are looking for someone to fill an empty room in the house we are renting. I've had some interesting roommate situations before however, and am hoping to avoid that if at all possible in the future.\n\nI've had lots of responses so far, some students and some professionals. I'm starting to realize that I simply have no idea what questions to ask people to see if they're a good fit. In the past I've always found roommates through friends so I haven't been in this situation before. Either way, some people don't live in town so I would just be talking to them through email or phone until they move in, and others are coming in person to check the place out.", "summary": "Does reddit have any suggestions on what to ask people/how to weed people out for a new roommate?"}
{"id": "t3_2ezlu6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "is it even worth it.....", "post": "About a month ago I found out my boyfriend(M.18) cheated on me(F.19). Although we were face to face when I found out about, we are in a long distance relationship and he's going off to boot camp in November. \nI have chosen to forgive him and forget the situation but his reasoning for cheating and who he chose to do it with continues to bother me. Yes, we've moved on from it but I still think about from time to time. \nHe is my first love and I don't want to give up but I can't believe he would cheat on me. I don't know if the feeling of betrayal will ever leave my heart and is it even worth staying together?", "summary": "IS IT EVEN WORTH IT"}
{"id": "t3_443mhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've been in a fwb [19/F] with someone [20/M] for a month, and my low self-esteem is killing me slowly", "post": "This is my first relationship in a while and I've always been wary of them because I have low self-esteem. I don't think I'm worthy of my guy because he's outgoing, has so many hobbies and passions, and is really popular in comparison to me. The relationship is a fwb and I think he's only with me due to physical attraction, not even as a friend. \n\nI'm starting to get feelings for him and it hurts me each time I see him because I feel so lame compared to him. I like the physical aspect of the relationship, but emotionally I can't handle it.", "summary": "Have low self-esteem and don't think I'm good enough for my guy and think it will ruin my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_10360u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mom can't accept me getting back with my cheating ex. [m&f 26]", "post": "So I've recently rekindled a relationship with my ex, M. We've been together for about five months now and things are great. The only problem is my mother. She refuses to see M and constantly says terrible things about him. \n\nWhen M and I were together before (only for a couple weeks) he hugged another girl. I was heartbroken. I was devastated. \n\nI was also 10. He \"cheated\" on me in fifth grade. 16 years ago. We'd never even kissed. I honestly think it's a funny story.\n\nMy mom says people never change, and says I'm being a hypocrite because I didn't support when my friend wanted to take back her cheating husband. She said that my situation is no different and I'm being naive.\n\nShe keeps going on about how people's personalities are set at age 6 and there's no way he could go from cheater to good person. It's put a real strain on our relationship because she brings it up every time we speak. Before this we had a good relationship and she's pretty much stayed out of my romantic life. I would have never dreamed she'd handle it this way.\n\nMy friends and other family are all supportive of my relationship. My dad is supportive, and apparently they've been arguing a lot about this. I just don't know how to deal with my mother.", "summary": "My current boyfriend \"cheated\" on me by hugging another girl when we were 10. My mom hates him for it."}
{"id": "t3_37y986", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Average guy [27 M] considering marrying an Asian mail order bride. Should I go for it?", "post": "I am an average guy, 27, coming from Eastern Europe but living in Germany for about 10 years. I would say I look more or less ok, dress neatly, spend a lot of time in the gym and take a good care of myself.\n\nIn the past I have had a few serious relationships, but recently I am having difficulties finding a girlfriend. I guess I am just a bit awkward socially, but I also blame it on my lifestyle. Until recently I was studying at grad school (so, social life was zero), now I moved to a new city and starting a relationship here is difficult for most people. Being a foreigner makes it slightly more difficult, too. My last two relationships were bordering emotional abuse, so I also got very cautious with girls.\n\nI checked recently a website for mail order brides (or more like a marriage oriented dating site) and I found the girls to be much hotter than what I could get in Germany as a foreigner. Maybe my liking for Asian girls helps, too. \n\nThey also seem to be all family oriented, or at least they claim to be so, and recently I start to think about marriage more and more.\n\nAlso, when I say mail order bride, I actually mean just meeting an Asian girl online who wants to marry abroad and bringing her to Europe. Not human traficking.\n\nWhat are your thoughts on this? Should I go for it?", "summary": "An average looking 27M European considering getting an Asian mail order bride. Your thougths on it?"}
{"id": "t3_3qd6x7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [21F] of five months; she suddenly \"doesn't think she's ready for a relationship\"", "post": "This girl and I have chemistry unlike **anything** I've ever experienced.  We've been hanging out every night, and everything has been going great *(Sure, we have our little tiffs, but we always work them out and kiss at the end.)*\n\nWe're both about to graduate college after next year, so we've been talking about finding jobs in the same place after school.  She's met my parents, we finally dropped the \"L Bomb\", people love us together, unbelievable sex *(she hasn't not finished at least twice)*, etc.  \n\nI do have some anxiety because of recent family losses *(not a bitch about it, but it's there)* and she **assured** me she would never give up on me, and can't imagine her future without me in it.\n\nWe had a fight on Friday night, but nothing we shouldn't be able to get by.  Now, she's suddenly questioning whether or not she's ready to be in a relationship.  \n\nWe talked about it last night and she was balling...she threw up, cried, hyperventilated, and apologized for feeling like this.  I held her and told her not to apologize, that it is what it is, but my heart is still shattered.  \n\nWhile sobbing uncontrollably, she told me she \"fucking loves\" me and \"wants to be with me\", but there's something in the back of her mind that makes her think she isn't ready for a relationship, and while she's felt it for a couple months, the fight on Friday really brought it to light.  I told her that although it didn't make it easier, I appreciated her honesty.\n\nSince she was so confused and pained about it, I told her that she can take some time (hopefully within this week) to figure it out.  \n\nI'm thinking if she goes a week without talking to me, she'll realize **she likes being single**, or **she'll realize she'd rather be with me.** \n\n**What the hell is happening?", "summary": "Girl and I have amazing relationship in nearly every possible way.  We had a fight.  Now she's not sure she's ready for a relationship.  I'm giving her some time, preferably within a week, to figure it out."}
{"id": "t3_rgkj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on a strange situation..", "post": "So Im 20 yrs old and have been with my boyfriend for three years now. \n\nHe was my first, and I've never had sex with anyone but him. We enjoy a very active sex life with each other and are in love. In bed recently, dirty talk has consisted of him watching me get it for the first time from other men, and then refined to just this particular guy friend of mine.\n\nIts hot, but today he told me he actually would not only be okay withit but would WANT me to actually sleep with this guy... and i have plans to see him this coming weekend.\n\nWhat do i do? He says he would never expect me to be okay with him doing the same unless it was a threesome, that this would only be a one time thing, and that its only okay bc he knows about it. Also so if we were to get married he doesnt want me to regret never being with anyone else.\n\nHe says for him, he thinks I'm really hot wants me to record my friend and I so he can watch someone go crazy over my body and enjoy that part of me that no one else gets to. He watches porn often and says he wants me to make a video just for him.", "summary": "committed boyfriend wants me to sleep with my friend and record it, I'm worried itll ruin a great relationship and that one of us will regret it afterward."}
{"id": "t3_4cqia6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We are having sex **only when she wants it**, when i do want it she **reacts nervously and become angry** . Should i break up ?", "post": "Hi, i am a 24 years old boy, and i don't really know what to do. \n\nMe and my gf (23 years) (beeing together more than 2 years ) have **sex just once a week** and for me its really bad, i would like to have about 3-4 times a week, **once a week it is a hell for me**, so i can't stand that way. \n\nI do love her, but the **main problem** is that she doesn't even try to offer me something more to make me satisfied like a handjob or blowjob (it only depends on her, and it happens only sometime when she is drunk or sometime when somewhere in the universe a star exploded ) . \n\nWe are having sex **only when she wants it**, when i do want it she **reacts nervously and become angry** . \n\nI've tried many things to make her know that i need more sex than once a week, at least to try to offer me something instead, but **no changes for couple of months** (( .", "summary": "Should i break up with my girlfriend ?"}
{"id": "t3_31pxm4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21m]wrote a love letter to a [21f] I've known for a while. Ive had a crush on we basically since we've met, but she's had a boyfriend. They've recently broke up and I'm trying to give her some space but it's hard.. Tell me what you think. I call her Sara in the post. throwaway account", "post": "I'm writing this to you because for months now I've been wanting to express the way I feel about you but for reasons that are out of my control I haven't been able too. The feelings and emotions I have towards you are utterly indescribable. I've never felt the way I do about any women ever and I've had difficulties holding it back but I no longer can. Sara you are by far the most intriguingly beautiful person I've ever known. When you enter the room It feels like the earth freezes and my heart speeds up. I don't hear anything anybody else is saying all I can focus on is you. You put me in another world where the feeling is so tranquil its indescribable. It's literally a drug. Everything ceases to exist when I'm around you. You're constantly on my mind. Sara you're everything and more I've ever imagined what I'd want in a woman. I honesty can say I believe that we're soul mates. You make me want to be a better person everyday I'm with you. And I want to help you pursue your goals a dreams. I'd do whatever it takes to make you happy Sara I hope you can believe that. I'd give everything I have to you. I wouldn't hold back what so ever. You would get the absolute best I could possibly give any person. Sara I have to know what happens between us. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't let you know. You're a blessing to me and if I ignored it, it'd become my curse.", "summary": "wanting opinions and advice on this letter?! Please help"}
{"id": "t3_jckpt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just want a couple of opinions on my moms decisions", "post": "This might just be me taking out my anger but I'm pretty sure that i have some valid points to make. I'm a sophomore male and I'm not sure what's actually wrong with my mom. I'm underweight, which I don't see much of a problem in. I eat three+ meals a day and I feel healthy. But, it seems my mom is only capable of asking me when I want to eat, what I want to eat etc. If i tell her I'm not hungry at the moment, all hell breaks loose. She forbids me from leaving the house, and she makes a big scene. Shes never gotten physical, but the constant screaming and questioning is really beginning to take a toll on me. Its to the point where she opens her mouth and before saying three words I can already answer with \"I'm not hungry right now\" or \"I'm eating out today\" or something along the lines of that. I always end up in some sort of trouble with her, and I cant just eat on command. So, do you guys think its alright for my mom to punish me nonstop for not being hungry?\nI love my mom and everything, but she has seriously got to give me some space, I can't even do my summer homework without her having a conniption about food.", "summary": "Mom is obsessed with me eating, I'm not always hungry, she punishes me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_c8i8x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have the most important job interview of my life coming up tomorrow, any tips on how to 'wow' the interviewers", "post": "So, a little bit about my situation.  I'm a recent college graduate from a Maritime Academy over in California, with a degree in International Business and Logistics with a Law minor.  \n\nI am applying for a Port Superintendent postion, which pretty much means I will be managing Longshoremen loading and unloading containers from ships.  Looking at salary.com this position can get anywhere from $40k-$60k/yr.  \n\nI don't have any experience in Port Management, but I do have extensive experience in leadership, and I also worked as a ship supplier for a few years, so I know how the loading/unloading process works, and I've worked with longshoremen during that time. \n\nNow, I know how to do well in an interview: knowing the company, knowing the postion, and even what questions to ask the interviewer (there is going to be about 6 of them interviewing me at once). \n\nThere are quite a few people applying for the job (pretty much all graduates from my college), any tips on how to 'wow' the interviewers, so I stand out above the rest?  Thanks Reddit!", "summary": "I have a huge interview tomorrow, any tips on how to stand out amongst the rest?"}
{"id": "t3_3ztb2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] have been making plans with my friend [18F] to visit me for 1-3 nights. All of a sudden she has been ignoring any question I ask about the plan to visit me. Why would she suddenly dodge the questions?", "post": "I recently made friends with this girl last summer and at the end of the week we spent together I told her she could hangout with me at my university for a few days if she wanted to, especially if she ever got bored during her gap year. She gladly accepted my offer since we had a very fun week together.\n\nTo this day we have been snapchat bestfriends and mainly communicate with the app every day without fail texting about normal stuff friends would text about.\n\nThroughout our back and forth texting, we would constantly remind each other that the plan to come to my uni needs to happen, going as far as planning a specific day and looking into train times that would fit both of our schedules. \n\nNow we get to the confusing part... We have found a day for my friend to visit me. However, all of a sudden, whenever I ask her a question about the visit, she will completely ignore the question and change the subject to something else. I would simply play along with her to avoid a conflict. This has led me to ask her if she has changed her mind about visiting me, but she will STILL simply ignore the question and change the subject. This is becoming problematic because the date we set is fast approaching.\n\nWhy would she suddenly ignore the questions about our plan? My theory is that her friends have told her it's a bad idea to visit a 20yr old guy at his uni, or she's afraid to say she can't visit me anymore since we've hyped it up for the past few months.\n\nImportant! I should add that just before we started snapchatting I told her that I really like her as more than just a friend. She turned me down but we continue to be close friends. Something I have accepted and am ok with since I'm not looking for a girlfriend, let alone a hookup. I'll also add we haven't brought up this conversation since it initially happened", "summary": "Made plans with friend I really like. A month before the visit, she ignores any question about it."}
{"id": "t3_4wh0gu", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "High blood pressure at 26. Is this genetics or anxiety?", "post": "I'm 26, 63 inches, 110lbs. I run 2.5 miles about once a week, I have a desk job. \n\nI started monitoring my blood pressure since I got a 145/95 rate at the eye doctor. I am prone to white coat syndrome. Whenever I've had high blood pressure at the doctor, I've made that excuse.  But the eye doctor is an EASY one for me. Since I've been monitoring, my blood pressure has never been in the \"green\" range. I take readings at morning, midday, and night. I've been writing down everything I eat and drinking, looking at salt intake and caffeine. It isn't high.\n\nThis morning, right out of bed and before my coffee, 125/112. Wow. I did drink last night and eat salty snacks, but my god.\n\nIn general, I'm an anxious person. I've broken out in hives during interviews and if there isn't a way to order food from a place online instead of over the phone, I don't order. \n\nLately, I have a reason to be anxious. I'm currently facing moving to my boyfriend's home state 500 miles from here. I haven't told my work or my family about it, and I'm dreading breaking the news. I haven't had a good night of sleep in months.\n\nI have nightmares, cheek biting, tooth grinding almost every night. I'm tired all the time. I get headaches. I cry easily.\n\nSo, I guess my question is what do I go to the doctor looking to treat? Could I be genetically predisposed to have high blood pressure, or is the BP another symptom of my anxiety? I've never taken anything for anxiety because I'm afraid to. My mom was taking something years ago and she just wasn't the same person. I don't want to be that way.", "summary": "I'm a generally healthy weight, have a decent diet, maybe I could be more active. But that stress tho. What do we treat?"}
{"id": "t3_2t7odf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my university examination (and also whole day)", "post": "I had my examination from Agrochemistry today, it was from 8am, i had two alarms set to 6:40. Around 5:30 i suddenly woke up and i couldn't fall asleep again. So i thought i'd better wake up, but in that moment i felt asleep, it was around 6:00. I woke up at 7:50, found messages from my friend i was supposed to meet at 7:15. I knew nothing is gonna be okay. \n\nI got up and went to school, because i needed to have two things get done in school. I came to school around 8:30 and the examinator was so polite and he let me to get to the examination. I sat down and started to write the examination test. They offered me i could have few more minutes in another room to finnish the test, but since they cut my thoughts, i said i'd better refuse.\n\nThen we waited 3 hours for the results. As i came to the examiner, he showed me my exam. test and said that if i had 1,5 point more, he would let me pass. So I failed.\n\nAlso my precious phone broke down after less then a week since i got him back from the repair...\n\nAnd then few other things got wrong today, but they don't stay a chance mentioning...", "summary": "I got late to my examination and then i failed it aswell as whole day..."}
{"id": "t3_28dsy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] and I [28M] ended our 2 year relationship. She wants to stay friends but I'm still in love. How do I get over her so we can stay friends?", "post": "Two weeks ago my girlfriend of the last 2 years and I seperated. Since then we've been trying to stay friends but it's been difficult. She tells me that I am one of her best friends and that the only thing that's changed about her feelings towards me is that she no longer wants a relationship. She still cares about me and we talk all the time. We hang out every few days and have a lot of fun. But she insists that any romantic feelings are gone. \n\nI'm still in love with her and didn't want to break up. I've tried mercilessly to get her to give the relationship another shot, but she's adamant that those feelings are gone. She is one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her from my life just because I'm having a hard time accepting that it's over. This is my first long term relationship and it's my first big breakup. I don't know how I'm supposed to get over her. What are some things I can do to help me get over the relationship? How can I accept that she's not coming back and dull the feelings that I have for her enough that we can stay friends?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I seperated and we both want to be friends but I'm still in love. How do I get over her in order to save our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_2h4x6b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving with my sunroof open.", "post": "So I'm driving to work this morning and I'm stopped at a red light under a highway overpass when I hear that \"pit-pat\" sound a drop of liquid makes when it hits something solid, like a car's center console and passenger seat.  The noise was louder than that of a typical droplet of say, water, and was also accompanied by a warm, sticky sensation on my arm as the drop splattered on impact.  I process all of this in a fraction of a second and look up expecting to find that the source was just a leaky drainage pipe from the overpass above, but instead find a chorus line of pigeon asses along one of the horizontal support beams.  I immediately hit the button to close the sunroof to protect me from further bombardment.  Then I look at the impact area and see a slimy, transparent oval about 6\" long with smatterings of green waste debris dripping down the side of the passenger seat.  I lean toward it to see the extent of the damage, and sure as shit, it's all over the area between the seat and the arm rest and my arm.  Then the smell hits, which was actually more benign than I had imagined, slightly worse then the salty funk of low-tide.  But the light is still red, so I have a few seconds to grab a travel pack of tissues from the center console to wipe away the bulk of the pigeon excrement from my forearm, seat, and arm-rest.  I then compose myself and prepare to continue my lovely Monday morning commute, checking my rear-view mirror, seeing the guy behind me cracking up, waving to him, then green light, and go.", "summary": "bird crapped through my sunroof while stopped at a red light."}
{"id": "t3_cghsu", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Thinking about adopting an older pup.", "post": "I think i would be a really great dog owner. i love animals and currently have a cat but i just yearn for a pup.  my SO really wants a dog too.  a friend of mine recently adopted a dog that is about 5 years old.  this dog has had all sorts of problems, she just had an eye removed and has problems eating because her teeth are so messed up from so many years of eating garbage on the reservation.  but if you saw those two together, i mean, it's love!  i've been inspired to get an older pup. maybe more for a \"trial run\" because i've never had a dog on my own before, but also because the older dogs have more trouble getting adopted then the puppies.  i feel like it's a good idea also because it's not finances that is keeping me from getting a dog, it's time.  i'm about to start grad school and my internship is going to be about an hour away and i have to be there 20 hours a week plus 16 hours a week of in class time.  puppies want so much of your time, and really NEED time, but i feel like older dogs tend to be more chill and if you give them a yard to pee in they are content.  my boyfriend on the other hand thinks that we should get a puppy. that way we can raise it how we want, and we won't spend a ton of money on vet bills.  i think that whether or not i have a dog for 6 years or 12 years i'm still gonna love it and pay those vet bills.", "summary": "what are some arguments for and against adopting an older dog?"}
{"id": "t3_3lal9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with the person I'm seeing [32F] for one month, feeling insecure about her spending time 1 on 1 with a lesbian.", "post": "Before I even begin let me say that I'm completely pro-equal rights so that's not the issue.\n\n32F and I met at a meetup a couple months ago but we've only been seeing each other for about a month. To be fair, we haven't had the 'establish the relationship' talk but we have told each other that we're not seeing anyone else and it seems to be heading in a long-term direction.\n\nAnyway, at the function we met at there was a lesbian woman there who gave 32F a goodbye look at the end that I interpreted to mean \"I'm interested in you.\" I took note at the time but that was it since I had only just met 32F.\n\nWell, fast forward to yesterday and they're both going to a park during the day while I'm at work. Even though 32F has previously told me she's not bi, I still have a sick feeling in my gut. Should I listen to it or am I worrying unnecessarily?\n\nI'm looking forward to any advice you have, Reddit. I'm doing my best to be supportive and make sure I give adequate space but I'm feeling pretty lousy here. Is it ok to ask 32F about this? If so, I'm not sure how to do it without sounding suspicious. This is why I'm not sleeping right now. Ugh!", "summary": "Woman I'm seeing spending time with a lesbian. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_2blpy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my gf [32 F] , Her 'number' is higher than mine", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 months although we started hooking up about 10 months ago. She asked me for my number recently which is 15, hers is 27. I'm not sure why but this has been bugging me a little bit. She started having sex when she was 19, now 32, I didn't start until 25, now 30, so in terms of partners per year I have more.\n\nWe love each other and have talked about a future together, marriage, kids, etc. She said a lot of hers were in med school after ending her 2 relationships there, so it was a number of years ago. I'm not sure why I'm letting this get to me. Everything is perfect when we're together. It's only when she isn't around (during work, watching tv) that my mind starts wandering and it starts bugging me. I've had a couple of one night stands and casual sex partners, as has she, so for me to criticize is hypocritical.\n\nI'm sure I will get over this because we love each other and care for each other deeply, I just want my mind to get over this. Has anyone else had this happen? What did you do to get over it? Are there questions I should be asking her? She's very open about everything and would answer anything I ask honestly. I'd appreciate any advice you have. Thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend has more partners than me, not sure why it is upsetting me."}
{"id": "t3_50x9hp", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I think my (25F) fianc\u00e9 (24M) is depressed.", "post": "Hello. I've been here for a while but this is my first time posting because the situation is rather pressing.\n\nSince we moved in together I've noticed that he often looks like he just finished crying. When I ask him what's wrong he says it's nothing and that it's allergies. I let it go on his word but I know him. I can tell he was crying but I didn't know how to comfort him without making him feel embarrassed or angry.\n\nHe also has mood swings. He'll be the happiest man on earth one second and then he doesn't want anyone to talk to him. He loses his appetite and he becomes agitated.\n\nHe also can frighteningly easily throw people out of his life. A few years ago his cousin who he grew up with (they always called eachother brothers. I didn't even know they were cousins til we'd been dating for 2 years) told him that he wasn't his brother and my fianc\u00e9 hasn't talked to him since.\n\nHe does not forgive people. You cross him, he's done with you. Period.\n\nAll this I was able to kind of just, idk. Deal with (that probably isn't the right way to say it). But last night I woke up after noticing he wasn't in bed with me anymore. I found him on the balcony outside our bedroom silently weeping. Tears are streaming down his face and he could barely talk to me.\n\nI started crying and asked him what was wrong and he told me he didn't know.\n\nAfter he said that he hurried and wiped his tears and refused to talk about it. We went back to bed and today has been normal aside from that elephant in the room.\n\nIs this depression or something else? What can I do to help him?", "summary": "I caught fiance' weeping last night after multiple incidents of me catching him after he had been crying alone. He doesn't know what's wrong and refuses to talk about it. I think he is depressed and I want to help him."}
{"id": "t3_1fz1nw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] Protocol on my ex's stuff", "post": "My ex left me 8 months ago.  I'm over that, but whilst digging through my closet I found a bag of her clothes and toiletries.  We don't really talk anymore, she pretty much avoids talking to me as much as humanly possible, with the occasional \"I'm just calling to make sure you're not dead\" phone call.  She has a book of mine.  I just don't really know if the awkward returning of things is necessary.  I sort of feel like a dick if I just trashed the stuff, but she's never coming by to pick it up anyway.  I guess I'm looking for other peoples's experience with that sort of thing.", "summary": "I found a bag of my ex's stuff, she's been long gone.  What do I do with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2yf15h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my girlfriend [26F] 5 years together, I can't trust her and it's not her fault.", "post": "I have huge trust issues and this has absolutely nothing to do with her. We've had our issues before that have flared my insecurities, nothing really worth mentioning.\n\n However, due to some difficult circumstances we now have a long distance relationship, and it will remain so for one more year.\n\nI can't take it. If I see her online on whatsapp most of the times I'm wondering who she's talking to. Today, she had a meetup with some old friends she hadn't seen in a while. I was texting her and she took a while to answer, my mind just went haywire. I don't know what to do. I don't know how not to feel what I'm feeling. I have this feeling in my gut that doesn't ever go away, it's just always there. \n\nWe are really close, and have always been throughout our relationship and this jealousy that I'm feeling is killing me. I've never felt like that before. Right now I'm sitting in the computer, listening to music, drowning with a bottle of whiskey. I need help. How do I stop feeling like this? I feel like I'm just going to snap and ruin our relationship. I wasn't like this. I don't know what's going on.", "summary": "Insecurities are killing me and I believe it will end my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_349u8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am not in love with my LDR GF [18F] of 1.5 years - already planned a summer trip.", "post": "OK. She is really, really cute, incredibly kind and is hopelessly in love with me, but I don't feel that we are compatible anymore. She is like a mold that could fit any person. A blank sheet without a hobby. To top it I don't feel like myself when around her.\n\nI should probably have ended it sooner, but I waited it out to see if it got better. The problem now is that we have booked a flight for summer and I have no idea when to break up.\n\nWriting this I think I should just tell her now. Need to man up.", "summary": "I'm not in love with her. Do I break up before or after the trip?"}
{"id": "t3_d68id", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your advice! How do i get this prodigy recognized?", "post": "This may not be the best place to get advice on this, but there's this kid in town (19 y.o.) who is a phenomenal soccer player, to say the absolute least.\n\nI don't know his full background, but he came here from Liberia 4 years ago after a U.S. couple adopted him.  At age 15 he was already playing in Africa's 2nd division (not sure how soccer is set up there, but I know it was one step below the major teams).\n\nHe was brought here, to Small Town, USA where barely anyone knows anything about soccer. He was home-schooled so never got to play in high school but did play on a recreational club team for a bit. Now he plays in pick-up games once or twice a week with out-of-shape 30-40 year olds.  Needless to say, he runs circles around everyone.  It's almost sad seeing talent like that in such a talentless group. It's like seeing an orca at Sea World: It's cool to witness but you know that's not where it belongs.\n\nI'm not exaggerating when I say this kid could be playing for an MLS team right now.  He's so agile and fast and controls the ball with so much accuracy.  He can make the ball do whatever he wants.\n\nHe loves soccer more than anything but doesn't realize what he can do with it.  I told him he could play for a college team and he said, \"oh, I can't afford that.\" I was like, \"Dude! *The school* will pay for it.  *You're free*!\"\n\nHe doesn't have a GED yet so he probably wouldn't be able to play for the NCAA right away but he could go to a CC, or just go straight to a club.\n\nSo how do we get him recognized? Do I film him playing against these old guys?  Film him doing drills?  What do I do with the videos?\n\nThanks for any advice you can give!", "summary": "Kid who is freakishly good at soccer is wasting away in a small town in America.  How do I help him chase his dream?"}
{"id": "t3_447j3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with woman [24 F] 8 months, found out she's married and pregnant with my baby.", "post": "I met a lovely woman a few months ago (triss) she's very beautiful smart funny charming and kind hearted.\n\nDuring these few months she made me a better man and helped me with my drinking problem and anxiety I am very grateful to have met her at that point in my life.\n\nAbout 3 months I noticed she was texting someone most of the time we were going out so I did something bad and looked through her phone.\n\nShe's married to a nice woman named Carol and they have been together for 4 years also to make matters worse her wife works in the same building as me only 5 floors above me.\n\nand to make matters fucked up we found out she is pregnant about 6 weeks ago and she wants to keep it.\n\nWhat do I do how does she plan to keep it without her wife knowing she already said she wants to get married and have a future with me.\n\nHelp.", "summary": "woman I'm seeing is married and pregnant don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_bieka", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm beginning to think the telecoms are trying to use mobile internet service as a tool to destroy net neutrality...", "post": "Just thought I'd throw this out there and see what opinions arise out of it:\n\nOver the past decade our internet usage has been moving rapidly towards a model that utilizes mobility.  With the release of the iPad and the mainstream adoption of Android devices combined with the construction of nation wide 4G networks an ever increasing dependency on wireless data services is emerging.  My fear is that telcoms will separate this form of data transfer from hardline services such as cable or DSL and will clam that they aren't subject to the same rules concerning Net Neutrality.  I know this is bullshit, you know this is bullshit, but little Suzie must have her new iPhone and what does it matter if the telcom charges her just a little more for the internet service because \"that phone requires more bandwidth\"... it seems, they already do this as the N1 service through TMobile featuring \"Android Web Service\" is $20/month more expensive than the same plan featuring identical, unlimited web service.  Just the fact that they brand it \"Android Web Service\" raises a red flag for me.", "summary": "Telcoms may use public desire for new gadgetry combined with Cadillac data plan services for smartphones to end-around, and eventually attempt to destroy net neutrality.  Agree?"}
{"id": "t3_elt8t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for dog that gets scared/goes nuts at veterinarian visit", "post": "I have a 20-lb, 5yr old., male Welsh Corgi. He's a great dog... smart, playful, great around kids. If a stranger knocks at the door, he'll bark at first, but then greet them playfully when they enter the house, etc. He's not really a lapdog, and isn't really into just sitting there and being pet. He's very obedient and I never have any problems with him... except when we go to the vet.  \n  \nHe gets extremely scared at the vet's office, panting, stressed, etc.  A nurse will come up to him, talking sweetly and gently trying to pet him... he'll pull away.  I've tried a few things to calm him, speaking softly to him, speaking loudly to him, giving him treats... nothing seems to work.  \n  \nOnce he's on the exam table, it gets worse.  He pants, paces and attempts to jump off. When the nurses or doctor get close, he shys away. But once they actually lay a hand on him, he goes nuts, doing whatever he can to get away. One time he even fell off the table. \n  \nWell, two years ago, in his attempt to not be handled, he nipped a nurse on her thumb.  Then, last year, he bit me while I was holding him and the doc grabbed his paw. (Dunno if it was really a bite, probably more like... as he violently lashed to pull away, he hit me in the hand with his open mouth/teeth)  \n    \nLast time, the doc mentioned the possibility of sedating him before the next visit.  Does anyone have any experience with this?  Any other ideas?  \nThanks.\n  \n.", "summary": "Dog(corgi) is great, obedient, playful, great around kids, etc. Only problem is at the vet's office. He goes nuts trying to get away from nurse/doc. Nipped a nurse once. Nipped me once. Doc said next visit we might need to sedate him. Any experience with this?"}
{"id": "t3_ktarq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, am I being too protective?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been friends for many years and just started \"dating\" a few months ago. Now that we're together I'm realizing how many other guy friends she has. I mean, it's ridiculous, I think she has like 3 close friends that are girls. It seems to me like she treats them the same as she treats me. It's to the point where we'll be hanging out and she'll get a call from a guy and go talk to him for half an hour on the phone. At lunch today she was asleep on the table (she didn't sleep well last night) and the guy on the other side of her decided to grab her and start tickling her right in front of me, and she just laughed as if that were totally normal. Now, I have a good friend (female) and my girlfriend doesn't like her cuz she's kind of a bitch, and a whore, and I honestly can't really disagree. So, I stopped talking to her, and basically all girls in general, because I know how it feels to me when she does that kinda stuff. It's really starting to get to me now. So here's my question: Am I in the wrong for thinking other guys should back off? I've been cheated on before by a girl and it killed me inside. I trust her enough to know that she wouldn't cheat, but I don't trust other guys as much. Am I being too protective?", "summary": "My girlfriend has a copious amount of guy friends, and it gets to me sometimes how many guys she has around her all the time. Am I being too protective?"}
{"id": "t3_10a5ub", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "the dreaded scenario of a crush on a friend", "post": "god it is embarrassing to post here about this....\n\nme: 22f. him: 23m. we are friends in the same friend circle who have known each other for years but have maybe gotten a teensy bit closer lately and because my luck sucks it means I now have developed a crush on him. before I didn't have one because I didn't know him well and couldn't get a read on him, but now it is established. I don't make first moves ever and every time I have a crush it is a long slog (years sometimes) of me having it and him probably not and me never telling him, sooooo....\n\nwe are both very recently out of short-term relationships. his ended a lot worse than mine did but neither was mutual. like I said we keep hanging out. almost always in groups but we talk one-on-one at times and when we do he keeps almost inviting me to stuff that's maybe one-on-one but never follows through with the actual details. like he'll say \"we should get lunch sometime\" or \"there's this thing XYZ you should go to, I'll send you the info\" but then doesn't. obviously this could mean nothing, but it is something he has to go out of his way to bring up, but then it never materializes and besides I am not in the mindset for looking at things objectively. we don't chat online too often and when we do it is never for long because I am too chicken to try to draw out the conversation and he doesn't draw it out either for whatever reason. god it's like I'm 13.\n\nso obv I haven't made any moves because I don't want to ruin our friendship or make it awkward and there are no clear-cut signals he is interested. plus I get the feeling it might not be good for him to rebound right now so I'm not pushing that. partly out of respect for him but let's be real partly out of cowardice too. I'm online dating other people but who knows where that will or won't go. oh and the time between developing the crush and posting this was literally like two weeks.", "summary": "crush on friend. no idea whether he's interested. no idea how to get an idea. help?"}
{"id": "t3_2xgg4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am 90% certain my gf [22F], of 3.4 years, will break up with me today. I also am 85% certain that she has had, at the very least, an emotional affair. Any advice on how much I should ask about?", "post": "My girl and I are meeting for the first time after taking a week apart. This time has been for her to decide if she wants to stay with me. I've made it clear that I want to be with her, so it is up to her to decide if she wants to make this work. We haven't spoken in the last 3 days and during this break I've initiated contact 4 times, all brief and not clingy, and that has been it, she has not reached out to me. Thus my belief she is going to end it. \n\nMy other issue is that she has been behaving very shady about one of her coworkers to me. Hiding texts, being super awkward when I am in the same area as him, and not inviting me to go out with her work friends. I have never met this guy who has been one of her friends for the last 3 months and it seems it is very intentional that I haven't met him. There are other things but I didn't want this section to get too long, if promted I can add more, but it is extremely likely that I am correct. \n\nPart of me really wants to ask how far it went, everything else tells me this is a bad idea because I doubt I really want to know. If she decides to stay together I am 100% asking about this guy because it has been a problem that we need to get through if we're going to work. But if she decides to cut me loose, do I want to know? Obviously a decision I have to make but I am just wondering if I am better off knowing there was some infidelity and leaving it, or if I should know the extent of it. No guarantees that she'll tell me, I know, just wondering if it is something to even push in our conversation later today?", "summary": "should I ask about the extent of the infidelity?"}
{"id": "t3_qsz18", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Looking some advice", "post": "Backstory: I am 20 years old, about to graduate from college and move on to Graduate School for Neuroscience. I'll be making around $26,000 a year once that starts. I don't have a car or insurance payments. I have around $40,000 in student loan debt. Now for the question.\n\nI was recently accepted into a class over the summer that would give me a huge amount of specialized training and let me get a leg up when I go to school. The issue is I live in New York and the class is in Seattle. In total my expenses for this 5 week long course is $6,000. The school is providing $1,800 in financial aid. Since I will be between college and graduate school, can I still take out student loans to help pay for this class? I really want to take the class, but I can't afford it without some sort of loan. Is this a smart idea?", "summary": "Can I take out student loans for a class outside of college? And should I?"}
{"id": "t3_v74jt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am i making the right choice?", "post": "I have been unemployed in California for about a year. In that year my dog,  who was my best friend past away which threw my world into a spiral.  to top it off my father lost the house I grew up in , he no resides in a veterans home.  I have felt depressed about my life , to make a long story short after my mother passed away when i was 12, my family has grown apart. I hate to rely on my father at 26 knowing he isnt well off either. I have friends and family in Washington state, and had a few call backs about jobs up there. I have a safety net if things get too hard too with my family. Now my choice is to leave and leave behind my gf who we have only been together for 8 months or stay in my depressed state. Our relationship hasnt been solid either we haven't had sex in 4months and we fight because i take my dogs death out on her... im so confused at a crossroads really any imput?", "summary": "move to another state for work and leave a rocky relationship behind?"}
{"id": "t3_3dm9pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) (6 months) are going long distance in about 4-5 weeks. Anything I need to know or ways to cope?", "post": "Hi Reddit! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now, both just graduated from senior year of HS. We are going to colleges 6 hours apart.\n\nFirstly, I am hopeful of our relationship lasting, not naive. I know how many relationships end from HS to college, especially long distance, especially when no end is seemingly in sight, considering both of our programs are 4 years. I know the stats. But I want to try and make it work, or I'll regret not at least trying. I know college is a period of growth that you are truly finding yourself ect ect. \n\nWe already have our first visit planned (train from each other is only 30 dollars for round trip, so money isn't too much of an issue) \n\nAny who, I would like to make it work.  My only fear is communicating. We have strong communication, but most of it is based in us talking in person, which obviously won't be happening very often. When we have things to say to each other, we say it He has always been one not to respond to texts or not tell me when he wont respond (like instead of \"hey, im gonna go hangout with my friends. talk to you in a few hours\" he just will stop responding. I've talked to him about this once before and it has gotten better, but still), which makes me feel like less of a priority to him. I am especially concerned as texting will have to be one of our main communication methods, just due to the nature of it. I know for a fact I will be talking to him about this soon again, and this segues into my main point\n\nWhat else should I talk to him about? What else should I establish with him before we leave our close distance relationships? I just want to know what is most important in making a long distance relationship work, or at least have a chance in working. I know the answer will probably be \"communication\", but what specifically?", "summary": "HS BF and I are going off to college, would like to at least attempt a long distance relationship. How to"}
{"id": "t3_ghgkp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Creating a comic & would appreciate your imagination!", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nMy best friend (a wonderful artist) and I (at best average writer) have been contemplating for a while, as a sort of hobby, to create our own comic. We understand it will take years to create anything worthy of being read but time is something we have! We've spent some time brainstorming ideas and such but unfortunately are lacking some inspiration. This is where you guys come in! We'd appreciate it if you could pick at your imagination and just suggest anything. Literally. Anything. We'd love to mix and match your many ideas together. \n\nWe'd be sure to keep you guys updated on the progress :)", "summary": "Starting a comic w/ my best friend. Would love if you could pick at your imagination and chuck whatever it conjures at us for inspiration as we brainstorm ideas."}
{"id": "t3_126o6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M19) My girlfriend (20) has kissed more than 30  guys including 2 girls. Including her sex life I feel  not very proud of having her, I really like her but  still think to break up.", "post": "My girlfriend(20) and I(19) are together for 2 months but I feel like I know her for 2 years. I really like her and I think im in love. She is really sweet and says that feels the same way about me. She stays at my place very often and some times even cooks for me. She would have been the perfect girlfriend except from this. We always say the truth between us and this is what I learned about her.\n\n* She regularly meets with her friends to party.\n* She lives in a very small town where everybody knows each other. \n* She has kissed 30-40 guys. Including a 30 year old.\n* Also has kissed 2 girls. Including lesbian sex with one of them.\n* She never had a real boyfriend. Just casual flirting/kissing and some times fucking.\n* Before me she never had regular sex. Only 10 times with 4 different guys in total.\n* But almost none of those times were in a bed.\n* She had sex in a park at night. (blowjob/sex).\n* In a car. On the floor. In the school....\n\nAll of this makes me feel really bad. I dont know which part is annoying me the most but it still does. I cant stop thinking about it and some times I feel like im dating \"bad\" girl.\nI am afraid going to her town, because every encountered male may have kissed/fucked her and that just kills me.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I break up? How can I forget this?\nI tried talking with her but I got nowhere. She says she cant change her past and thats true. Her excuse is that she is young and free and wants to try everything, if she likes someone why not kissing him.\nOf cource all of this was before me. Now she is all mine.\n\nNo idea what to do.", "summary": "She has kissed a lot of guys, had sex in public and with girls. I love her and she loves me but I still feel really bad inside. How can I overcome this?"}
{"id": "t3_38j07e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally taking Meth.", "post": "This actually happened a couple of years ago, but i just read a different TIFU story that reminded me of mine. So, with no further ado...\n\nI used to sell drugs. Molly, more specifically. I also dabbled in selling rolls (ecstasy), but not as much as Molly. She was good to me. Made me a lot of money. It also made me have a lot of fun and very popular among nightlife scenes. I like to think i was smart, so i frequently tested my drugs for their authenticity. I care about my friends and don't want to sell them bunk shit, of course. \n\nSo one day, I pick up a new batch of powder for the upcoming weekend. It looked really good, but looks can be deceiving when it comes to drugs. I inspected it well and left, being satisfied. I decided to try a little of the powder when I got back to my house. Capped out a half of a gram and swallowed it with some water. \n\nAbout 20 minutes later, I'm rolling. Pretty hard. Then after an hour I started getting twitchy and feel super anxious. Three hours in, I decide whatever I picked up is not what I thought. That's when I went out and bought a test kit. The sample came out as methamphetamine. I was fucking pissed. I dumped the powder down the toilet. Cost me $1,000. I got out of the drug game shortly after due to the threat of getting caught.", "summary": "Accidentally took meth then flushed nearly $1,000 down the toilet."}
{"id": "t3_u6nlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I give up?", "post": "OK, so this is a long and confusing story but, I'll give it a shot.  I was with a girl for 3 years when we got married on a whim.  I am 21 she is 19.  After about two months of being married she leaves me for a different guy.  After a few days I weft without paying her half of the billsas talking to this girl online and we decided to hangout to make my ex jealous.  The plan worked cause the ex was jealous but, I feel for the girl whom is 20.  We started hanging out a lot.  about two weeks go by and I'm having the greatest time of my life.  My ex then starts trying to get back with me.  In the end I did the honorable thing and stuck by my vows.  I did marry her so I had to atleast try.  Well after I get back with her the girl quit talking to me.  now after about two months I found out the ex is pregnant...with another mans child.  She had been cheating on me the whole time.  We split up.  I don't know what to do.  Ever since I hung out with the girl I haven't been able to get her out of my mind.  I feel though I burned that bridge.  Should I try and patch things up or is it a waist of time?", "summary": "Ex wife cheated on me and crushed my spirit, meanwhile I broke a girls heart whom I really cared about."}
{"id": "t3_4fc0tw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] feel I should contact my ex [28 F] to apologize after 10 years apart.", "post": "Without getting too into it, I was kind of a dick to my ex while we were dating. It got real bad towards the end of the relationship to the point where she cut all contact with me and had her friends tell me things for her. \n\nThis was about 10 years ago give or take, and we've both moved on into our own serious relationships.\n\nI feel like I owe her a huge apology for being such an ass. The problem is that I don't want my current S.O. to know as I worry she'll freak out about it. \n\nI'm also not sure if there's even a point anymore, like my ex has most likely moved on and never thinks about me. \n\nI've been thinking about her more lately and even have had dreams of me talking and apologizing to her.", "summary": "Should I try to contact my ex of ~10 years to apologize? Should I tell my current S.O. about it? Am I just over reacting and need to focus on letting it go? "}
{"id": "t3_jxp4a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Me: Seller on Amazon; Him: Person who doesn't understand that standard shipping isn't a magical teleporter to his door.", "post": "I've been selling old textbooks and the like on Amazon recently to get a little extra money.  Quite a few sold, and quickly.  One of these orders was made on a Saturday afternoon, August 20.  Though I offered expedited shipping as an option, this guy chose standard shipping.  I think, no problem, I'll ship all these books off (a handful of others sold that weekend too) Monday morning, and it'll be fine.  \n\nSince this guy asked for standard shipping, I used Media Mail, which promises delivery within (I think) 8 business days, well within the 14 business day limit Amazon uses.  I didn't get tracking, or delivery confirmation, however.  I know it's recommended, but I didn't figure there'd be too many problems, and I'd rather not spend an extra $5-10 that would be coming straight out of my pocket.  \n\nIn any case, I got a message from this guy today asking where his book was, it wasn't there yet and his class starts tomorrow.  I told him that I shipped it on Monday the 22nd, and Media Mail can take up to 8 business days, so it should be there by Wednesday.  At that point, this guy responds with \"Had I known you would be so slow I would have not ordered with you. If it does not arrive on time or all expect a complaint on your feedback I should have known your 97% ment (sic) something.\"  I calmly reminded him that it's only been five business days, and that I had offered expedited shipping.  I told him that I'd be happy to refund his money if it is not delivered within 14 business days, but that I don't know his schedule or when his classes start, and I shipped it out promptly and according to his directions.  I'm still worried though; if this guy does complain, is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Guy orders book via standard delivery, thinks it's instant, is mad when he finds out otherwise.  What can I do to keep his irrational anger from affecting my seller reputation?"}
{"id": "t3_4czrla", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to go about getting a decent chunk of money", "post": "So background, i'm a 15 year old male from Illinois. As silly as it sounds, lately I've really wanted to get a", "summary": "15 year old trying to get $350 for a"}
{"id": "t3_3i4bkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my potential BF [25M] are taking a \"break\" because of my age", "post": "So I met him about a month ago and we hit it off from the start. We hung out non stop for the first 3 week(4 night a week) and he told me he could really see a future with me.\nour only issue is he thinks I have some growing up to do. \n\nOne night last week we were laying in bed just talking and he says \"you are just too young for me\" and I said \"what do you mean\" he started explaining how I need to work and move out of my parents house.He works 40hr weeks so He feels like im a spoiled princess cause my parents are well off and they take care of me while im in college. Hearing him say that made me feel really bad about myself, as if I was a baby and that I wasnt good enough for him.\n\nThe next morning he dropped me off at home and I text him saying we should take a break until I get on my feet(which was a immature impulse decision on my part cause i really dint want to break things off) and He replied with just \"ok\". \n\nI really miss him like crazy and If becoming more independent is something i need to do to make things work i will. Its been about 5 days since we spoke and I just want to know if i should call\\text him saying i miss him or something cause I could really see myself being with him.", "summary": "broke things off with Potential bf because he called me spoiled and immature .want to know what i should say for him to consider taking me back."}
{"id": "t3_2pkbgp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19f] boyfriend [24m] easily angered at small things", "post": "Today I didn't text him back for two hours and he said it drove him crazy, to the point where he said it would be better not to text at all after that. It wasn't because I was ignoring him intentionally, but I simply didn't check my phone that whole time, which I told him. I feel like this would ruin our communication over time, and we would lose touch with each other. He suggests to talk through calls but we've been texting all this time in our relationship and prior to that. \n\nHe said he gets infuriated whenever people don't text him back, and even more so when it's his SO. We've had previous arguments because of his anger from me not texting soon enough. In fact, he said his last relationship was ruined because of the hatred built up due to his ex not texting back. We've only been together for over a month, and many issues have come up from small incidents. I'm trying to communicate with him, but in his moments of anger he  assumes the worst. He said he realizes he shouldn't get mad at things like this. I feel like we shouldn't have to give up texting all together, especially since its a long distance relationship. What can I do to fix this texting problem?", "summary": "boyfriend gets angry when I don't text him within a few hours, says to not text at all anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3k23im", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my friend [20 M], how do I be *just* friends with him?", "post": "I met this guy in school who, years later, has recently been asking to hangout with me, and I agreed to meeting up. I've never had guy friends for very long, as the only ones who've approached me were eventually interested in dating me, and I was/am still not ready to date. Over the last few years, I've become wary of befriending males because of past awkward experiences with rejecting them, but would very much like to have platonic friendships with the opposite gender. \n\nI get the feeling that this person may be romantically interested in me, but I'm not entirely sure (I'm not good at reading people). How can I let him know that I want to be just friends, without sounding awkward? Or is there a better way to proceed?", "summary": "I think a guy likes me, but I want to be just friends. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ynkdj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] am straight, my friend [3X M] is questionably gay, he's crossing my boundaries and it's uncomfortable", "post": "This friend of mine is questionably gay. Some friends and I used to hangout together with him but we all went our separate ways. But he keeps calling me and texting me and it got to the point where it just annoys me and I end up ignoring his advancement towards me.\n\n2 years later, I received a phone call from a number that I didn't recognize. I answered the call and it was HIM! He accused me of blocking his calls and called me a liar. Anyways, he wants to hangout with me and I told him that I'm busy and I don't have time.\n\nWhy do I think he's gay? He makes advancement towards me. For example, he wants to go on trips together. He said \"I haven't seen you for awhile now, I miss you.\" He wants to go eat out with me, just the two of us.\n\nHave I tried rejecting him? Yes I have. I ignore his calls and texts. I'm in a relationship with a spectacular girl and I even mentioned to him about my girlfriend. In our last conversation over the phone, we spoke for 30 minutes. I did everything to try and hang up the phone on him, but he's so persistent. We ended the conversation by me telling him that I need to use the bathroom and take a shower. He even said \"Just take the phone into the bathroom and talk to me.\" Dude, come on, you want to hear my grunt and groans when I'm pooping because that turns you on? \n\nThis guy can't take a hint, seriously. So what else can I do to let him know that I'm not interested in him that way? I'm 100% straight.", "summary": "My questionably gay friend is coming on to me, how can I tell him to back off without hurting him?"}
{"id": "t3_35mi1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with someone I've known online for a few years [16F] say we fell in love but are still in high school and have no way of seeing each other IRL...", "post": "I've known this girl (let's call her Jenn) for several years, originally met on a video game in 2011ish. We became really good friends, play video games together a lot, in skype/teamspeak a lot, video chats, have each others phone numbers and IRL info and the such, and both pretty much admitted our love for each other. I just feel really confused, confused because we live in completely different parts of the country, and since we're both in high school there'd be no way to move near each other for some reason (not that either of our parents has any reason to move). We've considered applying to the same colleges, but I don't know because there's always \"what if one of us doesn't get in\" and we really want to go there. I am just confused about what I should be doing. I have really strong feelings but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Girl I've known online for years. Never met IRL. We love each other. Confused about what we should do as we can't move closer or do anything before we enter or leave college."}
{"id": "t3_23cuna", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24f] am having second thoughts about my relationship with [28m] together for 3months", "post": "I met X from an online dating site, I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and wasn't looking for anything super quick. \n\nAfter about 2 months of being no title etc we agreed to be \"offical\" which was great I really like X, but X is a tough love kind of guy. No romanace or cute little things are done, we don't go out and do things together like movies or date nights.  He always says we will but then something happens and we don't. (Example on my birthday he told me we would go to the science centre. The day of he said we didn't have enough time because he had to go feed the cats and shower before we went to my parents so we'd go shoot guns instead, which we didn't do either.) I've only met two of his friends, he doesn't invite me out with them it's always \"I need to see them first then I'll come over.\"  He has no intention of spending time with my friends.  \n\nBesides those things I do enjoy his company and I do like him but then Y [20m] has come along. Y texts me daily, interested in getting to know me, we have great conversations about anything and everything.  I find Y attractive, but I haven't spent any time with Y because I am faithful to X. Since Y has been around my emotions for X have been up and down. More so with his lack of speaking to me (he is a busy person but lately it's gone from a good portion of the day to a few words.) \n\nI am confused about how I feel. Is Y just a temptation? Is Y filling the void I have for X? Is X worth my time? \n\nSee this may seem like silly nonsense to you but I have not dated for 4 yrs so I feel like a high shool kid.", "summary": "I am dating someone I am interested in another but I like who I am dating he just lacks certain needs. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_24pz2k", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Feeling like I'm not a part of the family", "post": "Yesterday, I came home from a mid-week holiday with the family (from my dad's side) and my mom said that we're (me, her and my dad) not a part of 'the family'. It got me thinking. For example: They like to walk, so we did a couple of 'em. The thing is, they all wore blue jackets from The North Face. Twelve people with exactly the same jackets. Except for us. Great group-feeling, huh?\nAnother example... My grandma got diagnosed with cancer a few months ago and we simply 'weren't allowed to know'. My dad called to my aunt (who was in the car with my grandma/pa) to ask how my grandma was doing and what the hospital said. She said she was DOING FINE. Shit, her own son isn't allowed to know that she has cancer while her daughters went to the hospital with her. I mean... \n\nAnd then there's me. Whenever there's a party, most of them don't notice me, except for saying hello and giving presents. Thank God there's my 3 and 5 year old cousins, who I can play with. And there's also my other cousin who talks with me about vinyl (yay, vinyl :D) and tv series. But except for them, nobody knows I'm there.", "summary": "I've got a pretty shitty family that doesn't notice me. Should I care?"}
{"id": "t3_geaxm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Dealing with anger after two stupid breakups", "post": "Throwaway because they both use reddit. \n\nThis is a long story, and I apologize. Basically, I was with a guy for a bit over three years (August 2007-October 2010) and our relationship was excellent, but then he got offered an internship that meant that he had to move away for a year. We decided our relationship was so excellent that we would be able to handle long distance for a year. \n\nI moved apartments (we had lived together before - couldn't afford rent on my own), and became friends with this guy that lived across the hall. Over the next six months I steadily started falling for him, and realized I wasn't being \"emotionally faithful\" to the first guy anymore, so I ended it when he came home for Thanksgiving in October (we're Canadians).  \n\nIn December, I started dating the new guy that lived across the hall. Since we basically lived in the same apartment, we got to be together all the time and that was definitely fun...\n\nBut then, in February, my mom got diagnosed with cancer and I had to move home to help her out for a few months (Parents are divorced, I'm an only child).  My new guy decided that he would be okay with long distance, since I'd be moving back in May (hopefully). \n\nTwo weeks ago, he broke up with me because he wasn't feeling it anymore.\n\nThe problem is now that I'm just really angry with myself for throwing away my relationship with my old guy for this new one. Old guy was okay to hold on to me for a whole year when we were long-distance, but new guy couldn't even hold on for two more months. \n\nI guess I'm just really angry because I feel like I wasted my time, and for chose the wrong guy, and really just for a bunch of things. I know I should just chalk it up to \"life experience\" or whatever, but I'm having a hard time doing that. Advice for getting over myself? I know that it was wrong to drop old guy for new one, so I don't need to hear people berating me for that, thanks.  \n\nI'm F24, old guy was M24, new guy was M23.", "summary": "I dumped the guy I was with for 3+ years because long distance got too hard, only to get dumped by another guy because long distance was too hard for him, and now I feel like shit for dumping the first guy."}
{"id": "t3_3x5bl6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure where to post, but I [21/M] was just wondering if there are any laws regarding hooking up with a former teacher [33/f]?", "post": "I've known my teacher for a while now... she was my teacher for 4th grade and unofficially crowned as her teacher's pet from 4th til 6th. In my 7th grade I transferred from grade schools and was in contact with her once again my 8th grade year to help me prep up for my science courses in high school. We lost contact during my time in high school, didn't contact for most of my time in college until one day we bump into each other.\n\nAmazed by how much I've grown up, she would speak to me in a manner that wasn't reflective of showing a teacher-student relationship but more of a friend-to-friend kind of relationship. Is it illegal to hookup or get into a temporary relationship with one's own former teacher?\n\nPlus has anyone ever held a fwb or relationship with a former teacher of theirs?", "summary": "can I just get with her without any repercussions?"}
{"id": "t3_3ltk9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[25M] meeting this girl[23F].What are the things I should avoid when going out with a girl, which generally guys do and screw up.", "post": "So, here is context: I'm[25M] meeting this girl[23F] on the weekend. She is a student, and I'm out school & working for almost 2 years now. I really liked her in our initial meetings(there were bunch of other people), So I wanted to proceed further and asked her if we can hangout sometime? she said 'we should, totally!':) I somehow managed to find time this weekend. We are going to visit some places in the city (we both are pretty new here). I got 5 days to plan and not to screw up!. I first want to concentrate on don'ts. My friends say I'm fun kinda guy but some times I think I over-talk on any subject(Reddit to blame :P).\nSo can anyone advice me the do's and don'ts. what kind of things a women like to talk about, any advice on 'what kind of places to visit'.I can give you more inputs if needed.\nThanks!", "summary": "things that I should avoid soing when I'm with a girl"}
{"id": "t3_fr7pl", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need some direction and help", "post": "Over the course of the past 6 month I've only managed to get about 5-6 interviews even though I've been more than qualified for many of the positions I've applied for, but it seems less qualified than others.\n\nI've been applying directly to companies websites, craigslist, and trying to go in person but I'm feeling lucky to even get an interview at this point. Denial letters are coming in every few days for the jobs that I do apply for, and even menial jobs like retail seem to want an exorbitant amount of experience that I can't offer in the form of direct retail experience.\n\nI have a Bachelor's in Sociology (criminology to be specific) and not a lot of work experience about (2 1/4 years worth roughly over the past 4 years). I have a roughly a year and a half worth of coaching experience but the field is really limited for the sport so the likelihood of being able to get a job is slim unless I move to a remote location.\n\nI live in Boston, and since my car was sold when I moved here my options of leaving the city are fairly limited. So public transportation and my bicycle are my options of getting around for the time being.", "summary": "I'm another college graduate who can't find a job to save his life"}
{"id": "t3_2wi8lh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationship] Me [21 M] with my GF [20 F] together 3 years, considering an open relationship", "post": "Me (age 21) and my girlfriend (age 20) have been together for three years. She is the only person I have slept with, she has slept with me and one other person in the past.\n\nWe have a great relationship, are interested in staying in it for the long-term (forever) because we are extremely compatible with one another. The only issue that tends to come up between us is that I have only slept with her, and never experienced any other women. She is concerned that if we were to get married and spend the rest of our lives together, the fact that I have never experienced another woman would potentially cause an issue in our relationship and I would always be curious. I am going away to study after next year, I will be gone for around 10 months, and we have been discussing if it is a good idea or not to open the relationship for that period of time. We feel like this may benefit us in the long run, seeing as we can experience other people during this time and get a better sense of if we are the best people for one another and that we should stay together. This obviously comes with risks, but we wanted to hear stories or opinions from other couples or individuals who have gone through similar things.", "summary": "Only slept with one girl, I'm going to study abroad, should me and my gf open our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1ohijd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] love my friend [19 M/F] and she's been friend zoning me hard for the past 5 years.", "post": "I have loved my friend for the past 5 years. I'm pretty sure she knows and most of my friends know by now. She's been with a bunch of guys and I've always been close but not too close of friends with her. We both enjoy the same things and have this mutual connection even if we haven't seen each other in a while. At the end of high school, I thought we would stop talking since we both went to different colleges.\n---\nFreshman year of college, I had a semi-existential crises and took a school sponsored day trip to her college area. We met and it was possibly the high point of my semester since I didn't really settle the first semester that well. After the trip, we didn't talk until summer and we barely hang out. I thought by now we just stopped being friends which I understand since were getting older and life happens.\n---\nSo now in my sophomore year, I don't talk to her that much until a couple months ago where she starts snapchatting. I thought \"yeah, its whatever. I can just send her goofy pics when I'm drunk.\" So after a few snapchats, she starts saving them. And I mean like at least 15 in a row. I ask her why and she gives some BS response. So then I get very smacked and call her. We talk for the first time in months and I felt so jittery. She said how her life was and said I should visit her again and stay over for a couple days (goes to school in a big city). So I say maybe and here we are.", "summary": "Not sure if I should tell my friend I love her and possibly ruin 5 years of friendship in the process."}
{"id": "t3_egsbp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are my options for finding lost mail?", "post": "I moved to a new city in August to start graduate school.  The apartment I found has been awesome (great location, nice amenities, etc.), except for the mail service.  Mail here is delivered by a third party company ([warning: the homepage has an automatic video in the corner] instead of directly by USPS.\n\nSome examples of why I don't like this service:  I went without for a paycheck for a month because they lost it and my employer's policy is that I can't request new check until the old one has been lost for a month.  In the end, the check arrived exactly one day before I would have been able to request a new one.  My employer sent me other correspondence during this time that arrived before the check but was postmarked much later than the check.  My Netflix dvds never arrive when Netflix says they will (usually four days late) even though they always have at every other address I've used with Netflix.  My utility bill should have come in the mail at least a week ago and I still haven't seen it.  Maybe this is due to my local USPS, but I haven't heard anyone else at school complaining about the their mail.\n\nAbout a week before Halloween, my boyfriend sent me an package with candy and other gifts.  I still haven't seen that package.  At first I was just waiting for it to show up, like the lost paycheck.  Unfortunately, there is no tracking number on the package, so I didn't think there was anything I could do.  Then it seemed like it had been more than long enough for the package to arrive, so my boyfriend called the post office he sent it from and my local post office.  They said that it wasn't lying around in their offices and that if they had lost it, it probably would have been returned to him by now.  He called Postal Solutions and they said they would look into it and get back to him, but they have not.  My question is whether I have any options for finding this package, since it does not have tracking on it?", "summary": "Can you find a lost package if there wasn't any tracking service put on it?"}
{"id": "t3_1xebgy", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My first job out of college pays six figures. Will my poorer friends/family see me differently?", "post": "I'm 23, just graduated college. I've been pretty poor my entire life. I'm one of the only people in my family to attend college, and the only one who went into engineering. I paid for it all myself through community college and student loans; I worked all the way through my undergrad to support myself. I've spent my entire life shopping at thrift stores, fixing my car myself, living very simply. \n\nWell, last week I accepted my dream job, and it pays just over six figures, which is more money than anyone I know makes. More money than my parents make combined (and they're close to retirement), and far more than any of my friends. \n\nIt's been a huge deal to my family so far, and because of this, I've been very hesitant to tell any of my friends, because I fear they will see me differently. I was always the poor kid of the group, and now I'm (far and above) the wealthiest.", "summary": "Has anyone had a friend (or themselves) suddenly find success? Did you view them differently? How do I hide the fact that I make so much money? Should I hide it? Will my friends see me differently? I have to buy a car so I can get to work, and I'd like to buy something nice and reliable for once in my life, but I'm worried it will be a tell. "}
{"id": "t3_2cb0y2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by impaling my hand on a sea urchin.", "post": "This actually didn't happen today (surprise), but three weeks ago while on a cruise. On this particular day the port-of-call was a private beach in Haiti. The beach was about 300 yards long with natural rock formations going out in the water on either side for about 200 yards. So after a few drinks my cousin and I decide to go for a swim. We were wading around for some time until we decided to head over to the rocks on the right side where some people were snorkelling. The water was beautiful and you could see a few fish swimming by underneath.  Suddenly I get a dumbass idea to get close to the rock to try and hold onto it, and possibly climb up a bit. As I was swimming over to a particular section I notice to my left a couple of round dark spiky balls, which I recognized to be sea urchins, on a submerged section of rock. I made a mental note to make sure to avoid those at all costs, but still decided to climb up right over top of them. Well as soon as I fell I kind of landed right above the submerged rock and to avoid scraping my knee I planted my left palm down. The only problem was I planted it right on one of those damn urchins! The pain was pretty immediate and felt similar to a wasp sting. I lifted my hand out of the water to see a couple of spikes poking in my palm. I pulled one out right away but the other snapped at the tip, which was beneath the skin like a splinter. So I kind of started getting worried because I wasn't too sure if these things were dangerously poisonous at all.  \nAfter frantically swimming to shore like an idiot I found the first aid hut. I explained my predicament to one of the locals working and he kind of just laughed at me and told me to pee on it or soak it in some white vinegar. I eventually managed to pick the broken spike out of my cramping palm with a pin later that day and peed on my hand in the shower. All those drains lead to the same place anyways.", "summary": "Climbed rock in water to seek adventure. Fell onto a sea urchin. Later peed on myself."}
{"id": "t3_1bu8au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have trouble trusting gf's [24f] actions vs words.", "post": "Hello everyone.  I'm [26m] having some trouble trusting my gf's [24f] words.\n\nBackground:\n\nWe've been together for one year, and throughout this time, we've struggled with her being \"too nice\" to guys who have been interested in her.  Guys will ask her to coffee or lunch and she'll assume it's friendly and go, until it doesn't turn friendly anymore.\n\nOne colleague, in particular, has been carpooling with her to work three times a week.  He's asked her to breakfast/coffee/lunch, and she's gone, glad to have met a friend.  When it went as far as dinner, that's when I put my foot down and asked her to think if this guy may have ulterior motives.  Since then, no problems.\n\nShe's gone as far to say that he's become annoying and is immature, will say things that are inappropriate at work (nothing sexual in nature, but just inappropriate office gossip) and how annoying she finds him.\n\nToday, she had an office party.  Her facebook updated and it shows her with this guy in multiple pictures, goofing off, her playing around with his tie, laughing, etc.\n\nI'm not jealous of him, but it's that when I listen to her complain about this guy, how annoying he is, how repulsive he is, and how she doesn't like this guy, and then I see pictures of her and him goofing off, it makes me sometimes question her words vs her actions.\n\nShould I even bring this up to her?", "summary": "girlfriend has a colleague she finds \"annoying\" and \"repulsive\" and yet acts very friendly with the guy.  Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4nby9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[F 42] with my daughter [F 15] she's dealing with a crush on an adult man [M 36]", "post": "My daughter's a good kid. Seriously, she's never caused me trouble in all these years. I was the devil at her age, god knows my parents have had it tough. But she's a darling. She's smart, beyond her years. but this is a situation all of us go through at this age, and i want to be able to help her and guide her and be there for her as a mother.\n\nMy daughter has a hopeless crush on our neighbor. He's a great guy, a good neighbor and seems alright overall. To my knowledge he hasn't really done anything to exasperate the situation, like giving her mixed signals or anything, and this is simply a harmless one sided crush she has on him. What's bothering me is just how much it affects her. She hasn't confided in me or anything - and really which teen does-  but it's painfully apparent. getting all excited and giddy when he shows up, loitering around the time he drives home, sneakily looking through the windows across to catch a glimpse of him. Sometimes I try to just ignore it. However  sometimes I have t intervene and put my foot down, as in when she tries to find excuses to go at his place after dusk or tries to parade herself when she knows he'll be around in revealing clothes or stupid shenanigans like that. \n\nThe question is what do I do now ? I don't think confrontation is a good idea. Acceptance too hasn't helped, since she is trying to convince me to talk with him and let her use his swimming pool for god sake. So how do I deal with this ? Talk , not talk ? keep an eye to make sure things don't go out of hand and hope this phase just passes ?", "summary": "Need help to not screw up as daughter has crush on much elder neighbor."}
{"id": "t3_39z7fl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "23/f, how to win 20/m easily scared off, back?", "post": "I scared off this guy I got really into 2 months.\nHe told me he's never had a gf before, and has never really fallen for a girl before.\nHe seemed into me but I was cautious, we hung out a few times, then we kind of accidentally plowed (I didn't mean to, but for the first time I got super drunk because I was nervous) in the back seat of my car, and after being talked to by the police under the suspicion I was going to drive (I wasn't we just left out friends house to be in my car) he confessed he actually likes me and invited me over for cuddles. He would say how \"unfairly adorable\" he thinks I am. At a friend big party, he stayed by my side and kept offering me water. One of his best friends said he's never seen him like that with a girl before and how \"weird\" it was to see him like a girl.\nAfter a trip to LA with him and his buddies, him and I got drunk at a friends house, my friend was being negative and said she think he isn't that into me, and I cried to his friend asking \"is he even into meee??!1\" :( ugh. That night he had me over again to watch movies, but after that he didn't message me. People we didn't even know that well would get in our business and ask about us to his face, too.\nI messaged him saying sorry everyone got in our business, and he said \"we should just be friends.\"\nI still see him occasionally and it hurts really bad. If he was once interested in me, surely he can be again?", "summary": "scared off a guy by getting a bit clingy and weird, want to win him back or just get the opportunity to hang out with him alone again but he seems really turned off now."}
{"id": "t3_2necb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [24 F] kissed a close friend of hers and is unhappy with the consequences and is now taking it out on me [24 M]", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSome background: my girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year now, dating for about 3 total. The distance has certainly been tough, and we tend to only see each other every couple months. \n\nThe story:\n\nWithin the last year, she had befriended one of her coworkers and they got pretty close. She's gone through a rough patch with some health stuff, etc, and he was basically who she relied on to help, since I couldn't be directly there. Recently though, when she was having a bad night, he came over and they ended up kissing. From what she's said, she immediately cut things off there and had him leave. Since then, he's quit their place of work and many of her coworkers have turned on her saying that she \"led him on\". They don't talk anymore so as far as I can tell, she thought of him as a friend and he thought of her as more than that.\n\nNow, she feels totally alienated and has lost a good friend. I'm honestly not even that upset with the kiss, since she immediately told me about it. What I'm struggling with is that now she seems to be taking her frustrations out on me. Last month when I visited, she was incredibly distant, and still really upset regarding losing a close friend and having work now be a tough environment. She basically avoided any and all physical contact, but has said that she still loves me and that things are ok. I've been as supportive as I possibly can be, and I think very understanding regarding the whole kissing another person situation. But honestly, I'm not sure how to handle this. Should I just continue to be as supportive as possible right now? I really love this girl and I don't want to come off as being needy or selfish. Thanks!", "summary": "Girlfriend kissed a close friend of hers, resulted in losing said friend and some others. Has been upset and seems to be taking it out on me."}
{"id": "t3_4v5jqn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating is like the gauntlet.", "post": "This might be a bit ranty\nSo in hockey we have this practise called the gauntlet where everyone lines up on the boards. one person skates through everyone while they throw their hardest checks at you 20-30 people you have to go through. Dating is exactly the same way you go through so many different people all for the same result them trying to knock you on your ass. However when you get through everyone you realise you are on your own and it's your turn to deal out the punishment. Then your back at the front of the line going through everyone again. It just keeps repeating and repeating. Until you make it through without getting your ass knocked down. Sometimes you stand tall with someone and sometimes you don't. But you have to find a way to get back up at the end of the day.", "summary": "you get your ass knocked down, but you do the same as well. Sometimes you'll find someone sometimes you won't, But you have to get back up. "}
{"id": "t3_2ps6vc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26(f) with ex 30(m). It's a horrible situation. I need help coping with not being jealous/upset.", "post": "Im not going to go into huge detail but basically, I dated this guy from work for a few months, all of a sudden he up and ends it. Citing reasons of \"he needs freedom\" and \"things got serious way too fast\". I actually do respect his reasons. He's going through a huge life change plus it's a busy time of year etc, and it's he was honest with me and told me fairly early on. He wants to be friends for now. \n\nUnfortunately I was further in with my feelings so I still hurt pretty bad (almost a week later) but I have to see this guy regularly at work and tonight I see he's gone out with all the work people, I'm not invited obviously. I understand. But it's making me spiral a bit. I miss him so much! I'm doing the whole no contact outside of work thing so we can be friends later (we were friends before) but it's so hard to see through mutual friends facebook etc pics of his gorgeous face having fun with people I normally hang with, and knowing he no longer cares for me in that way. It's soul crushing. I have zero confidence right now. \n\nI'm seeing my psychologist tomorrow to talk over how I feel but I guess I was wondering if there's anyone out here who can give me advice of how to shut my mind to it, how to move on. \n\nWith my ex's it's always been a bad breakup, so I've been ok hating them etc and could rationalise. It's so much harder here? I don't hate him. He's a wonderful guy who told me early on how sorry he was and how he thought he was ready but isn't. I can't hate him, but I just feel so unwanted it's painful. \n\nAnyone out there who can give me some advice or love?", "summary": "seeing guy at work, it ended amicably, but I hurt so bad seeing him all the time. Please help???"}
{"id": "t3_297r0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24) bf's(30) new-ish job causing strain on our sexual relationship.", "post": "*Background: we've been together for 3 1/2 years, lived together for 2. I have a promise ring and we are each other's longest, happiest relationship. On every other level, things are wonderful.*\n\nSo, basically my boyfriend got a job about a month and a half ago, and it's a pretty labor intensive job, with an early start. Our sex life has died waaay down since then and I'm having a hard time adjusting. It used to be an average of 2 or so times a week, with the odd oral session here and there. Pretty healthy for the most part. Anyways, since starting he's always quite tired. Reasonably so, I understand he has a physical job... But we're down to once a week, if I'm lucky. We've had sex/fooled around three times this month. We used to be like bunnies, but that of course slowed over time, but I was never unsatisfied. \n\nNow, the problem is, while I understand he's exhausted from working, I have a hard time not taking it personally. I feel rejected. I feel like he's not interested in sleeping with me. I know this isn't the case, but when you're turned down in a semi regular basis, it starts to get to you and eats at your confidence.\n\nI've told him how I feel and he always apologizes and reassures me that it's nothing to do with me, he's just too tired. But nothing has changed. I'm not sure what to do next. I've told him I wish he's just try once in a while, because even if he's not in the mood, he usually happily comes around once we get going (and vice versa). \n\nAnyways, if anyone has been in a similar situation, I'd love to know how you managed. Was there a compromise? And no, we won't have an open relationship. We are a monogamous couple and happily prefer it that way :)", "summary": "My boyfriend has a new job and is often too tired to fool around or have sex more than maybe once a week. I need more. What do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_43mbwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27F] not sure how to address my fear with my BF [29 M] without hurting feelings.", "post": "I'll be as brief as I can be.  I've been dating George for over five years with proposals and wedding plans in the near future.  We're solid, he's awesome. \n\nWe visited family over Thanksgiving and his mother had a cold sore, and a few weeks or a month later George had one.  He was very upset.  He grieved a lot over the idea of being \"unclean\" and had a very hard time with coming to terms with having HSV.  Every little thing bothered him, from not sharing drinks to getting his own chapstick.  For a whole week he was just beside himself.  I think he has accepted it now and we did our homework on preventing me from getting it.\n\nThe problem now is me.  I read that his body can shed the virus even without symptoms of a sore.  I can deal with getting cold sores one day, i suppose it's inevitable.   But i CANT stand the idea of having genital herpes.  I cant stand the idea of oral sex anymore.   Lucky for me I get off in other ways and have never been a huge fan of eating out so I can totally live without it.  My BF on the other hand is a big fan.  I have avoided the conversation with no problems but I know eventually I'm going to need to explain that I won't let him eat me out anymore.  Better safe than sorry, right?  I realize this is mostly a me issue and I'm over reacting, but for over a month I've been trying to see past it but just the thought of him going down on me dries me up like the Sahara.\n\nI haven't a clue how to explain my change of heart without sending him back into panic mode.  Any ideas?", "summary": "BF's HSV freaking me out, how do i broach this topic gracefully?"}
{"id": "t3_27mvi3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [22 M] works a lot and goes to school, doesn't have time for me [22 F]and I don't want him to give stuff up for me.", "post": "Aside from this, we don't really have any other problems.\n\nHe works 8 hours a day in a factory and also is a dancer at weekend nights. Besides, he goes to university (Product design. I study there too) and whatever little amount of free times he (we) get is spent studying or working on our designs.\nWe attend school at night and three times a week he also trains so seeing each other during weekdays is out of the question.\n\nWe also live with our respective parents, which limits even further the quality of our time together. We end up seeing each other maybe once every two weeks, and due to our family circumstances, get to have sex maybe once every three weeks.\n\nThis has come up several times already, and I don't want him to give up what he does because of me, because I know he will regret it later on. I don't work currently and even so, I have little free time as well, but I can make do and arrange my schedule to see him.\n\nYesterday he told me there was this cultural festival in our town, and he and his friends were scheduled to dance there. I am not invited to go with him. Said we could meet an hour before the festival for coffee, and I'd have to travel 1.5 hr each way to see him for an hour. I said I wasn't up for that since I have to study today, and that it made me sad that we could only see each other when he had a couple hours leftover from all his activities. \n\nSo here's the thing, I understand that the \"I don't have time\" situation is real, but it still makes me sad. He says he feels it as well and is tired of never being free, but that \"it will pass\". I know it won't pass unless he gives something up, but I don't want to be the reason he does.\n\nI am asking you here, reddit, not to tell me to break up with him, that option is already being considered. I just need advice on how to word this to him and work it out without directly and simply breaking up.", "summary": "My SO is so busy he doesn't have time to do almost anything with me, and I need help or ideas on how to work it out without making him feel he has to give things up for me."}
{"id": "t3_2wu9cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Which should I choose (25f) when it comes to my career", "post": "I have been a Pharmacy tech for years now and still am in school, doing pre-med now. Got a new job that will cover ALL pharmacy school expenses and will give me a stable and well paying job as soon as done. Or I continue with pre-med and become an MD, which I feel like I will love more, but still requires years and years...\n\nWith both I am confident I will be good enough with studying, but one will be completely payed off and with the other I will need to take out a huge loan since I won't want to take away the time form my studies and work.", "summary": "Facing a hard decision about a career choice and I do not know which way to go, the easy one or the hard one that will possibly make me happier"}
{"id": "t3_1nat96", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Starting to slow, and stuck in a plateau", "post": "Most of the time I heard people are starting to run too fast, getting wind up and unable to continuously run. Somehow I think I am in the exact opposite. \n\nI started running very slow in tread mill, perhaps 8km/h, 5 mph. Continue with running outside, not following any programs, I just keep on running very slowly and increasing the distance.\n\nAfter 1.5 years, I came to the point of doing half marathon with constant speed, i.e. this 8km/h that I started with. Well maybe slightly faster since I finish at around 2:30.\n\nI wanted to run faster but not quite sure how. Looking at running videos, comparing with what I do,  I am certain that I am actually just jogging/shuffling, my feet does not spread more than 1 m, for every step I did.\n\nWhenever I tried to run slightly faster I ended up out of breath, and could only maintain speed for 400 m. I am tempted to try again C25K but with real running speed instead of my current shuffling/jogging. What do you think? Is this a good idea? Or should I try to do something else ?", "summary": "stuck in long very slow running mode, wanting to change into real running but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3eqxwg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What it means to be human.", "post": "L**e is rejecting me. I don't for a second think that it is to hurt me. If anything I'm certain that she would have it any other way if it were simply possible. I don't think I have ever really felt such a strong feeling for anyone. I am not going to sugar coat it, I love someone. And I am certain of this. \n\nFor a psychologist to understand, what I feel is complete faith, complete acceptance, complete willingness to understand, complete desire to do well for her and by her, complete craving for her emotions. It is not by far as sexual as I've experienced love beforehand, it is way beyond what I'm used to and what I have ever felt.\n\nI honestly did not even think in the past, that I could ever feel this much emotion again. Scarily it's even more than it was the first time I witnessed love. I never knew that I could even love this deeply.\n\nThe harshest lesson to learn, is to learn how to love unconditionally.\n\nI'm scared, afraid that this love can never be mine, no matter how much strength I put into me and it. This love is not for me and I do not understand why. I truly don't know why I or why God am/is so unnecessarily cruel to me. I honestly don't know why or even what must I learn. I am in pieces and dying. I didn't know you can feel so much heartache even when you've never actually had a romantic relationship. I didn't know I would give my world away to someone who claims inability to love. I didn't know that she actually deserves me the most out of all the world. She doesn't ask for a guardian angel , but behind her eyes her soul calls out to me in despair. \nI didn't know that I could cry in front of my loved one and feel that she understands me, yet she doesn't say a word. I didn't know that there is no cure for this. It's so difficult to admit that even with all your heart, with all your logic and reason I simply don't know what to do.\n\nI am in pieces.\n\nShort end of it/", "summary": "a girl told me that she is unable to love. I live to love and love her completely."}
{"id": "t3_1bgfs9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job fair coming up this week at my college. Do you have any tips?", "post": "I'm a second year student with a year and a half's work of experience in customer service and clerical work. My resume makes me look sort of like a job hopper from my previous three positions (4-5 months per job) because of unfortunate events, like a store I worked at closing and a sudden replacement at a place I was supposed to be employed at again for the upcoming season. \n\nAside from dressing to impress and a resume, what else should I be aware of? Or even protips for the little things, like what colors I should wear or how to wear my hair(I'm female)?  I went last year and snagged a few interviews somehow, but unfortunately I was unaware of family members already working for those companies/businesses, so I didn't get hired.", "summary": "Job fair coming up. I've been to it last year, and got a few interviews, but I would like to to better this year. Any tips or tricks?"}
{"id": "t3_lbjtt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Several of my friends at university are on track to have jobs at graduation or go to high level professional schools. What's your excuse, 99% people in college?", "post": "One is going to UNC pharm school, another will attend Hopkins medical school, one has a job in his field (statistics) practically in the bag after graduating. Yesterday, my friend got offered a job in I-banking and will make 6 figures out of college.\n\nI want to know, why is it that most of you cannot realize that if you are good at what you do, or show yourself to be in the upper echelon of students, you can get a great job and be wildly successful.\n\nDid any of you ever stop to think about how if you stopped complaining, took some classes that teach useful analytical skills (calculus, finance, organic chemistry e.g.) and did well in them, and made friends with professors and people at employer conventions at your school, you would have a great chance of being successful and having everything you want?\n\nIt seems like the self esteem generation is finally getting the message, \"Most of you are losers out of your own fault, and losers have never been successful,\" and they are in denial for the most part.\n\nI do realize there are extenuating circumstances (no college, although national merit scholars are offered boatloads of money, especially if they are low SES), but for the most part college students all seem to be victims of their own mediocrity.", "summary": "Most college grads who can't get jobs have no foresight or are just plain mediocre with no skills of any value."}
{"id": "t3_1pup1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] Ex Girlfriend kicked Me [18 M] off a pre-paid cruise meant as a birthday present.", "post": "Throwaway because I don't know if the people I know, know that I reddit.\n\nOkay sort of backstory here, I dated a girl for a year and half and for my birthday in December we were planning on going on a Caribbean cruise with her parents. She ended up going to an out of state college at the beginning of September and she not only cheated on me, but said I was no longer allowed to go on the cruise, that was originally for my birthday, with her and her parents. The plane ticket to get to the cruise was a gift from her parents for my Graduation last June, and the cruise had already been paid for. Yet, I was still no longer allowed to go. I had talked to her Mom on whether she had even talked to her about it, and she hadn't talked to her prior to telling me I was kicked off. I even offered to reimburse her Mom for the plane ticket, but she insisted it was a gift that would go unused unfortunately.\n\nFast forward to now. I have a female friend I have known for over two years, and it occurred to her today that the cruise her and her family are going on just may be the same cruise I was supposed to go on. Aaaaand it is. She has talked to her parents about me going with them, and I have enough money for the cruise...but not for the plane ticket. Seeing as their daughter cheated on me and kicked me off a pre-paid for cruise/flight, would it be unreasonable for me to ask my ex's parents for my plane ticket?", "summary": "Ex and I were planning on going on a cruise in December with her parents, she cheated on me/kicked me off the cruise. Is it okay for me to ask my ex's parents for my plane ticket back."}
{"id": "t3_23ghlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl I am in love with[18F] has split feelings for me[17M] and another guy[18M].", "post": "So I've liked this girl for a few years but didn't really make a move until recently because I knew I had no chance. She is basically my \"dream girl.\" For the past few months we have been sort of a FWB status(cuddling and kissing/making out when were alone). \n\nJust as she was starting to gain feelings for me, this other guy who she has known longer than me, is friends with her family, and has had feelings for her in the past is now in the picture. He and I are very similar: both \"nice guys,\" both somewhat shy around others, and we even look quite similar. I made my move first and she also liked me first but he just decided to jump in anyways. (side note: I asked her to prom already and he knows that. He decided to ask her to his school's prom anyways since they are on different dates. Now she is going to go with him first then me.)\n\nShe is worried that her and I won't work out in the future since I still have a year of high school left and she is going to college next year(same city). He is also going to college next year so she thinks he is a better pick in regards to the following year. Oh and all of this she told me(and not him), so obviously she is more comfortable talking to me about it than him. \n\nShe says she's ready for a serious relationship now and I know for a fact that I would treat her better and care more than he ever will. How do I show her that I am worth it? Should I try to advance our relationship or keep going at her pace?", "summary": "The girl I love has split feelings for me and another guy that has recently butted in between us."}
{"id": "t3_4pbjob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (34/M) continue to pursue a new woman (32/F) who is depressed?", "post": "I met her online a little over a month ago and we had some great dates. She would say something a little curious or worrisome once in a while but she'd always be interested in going out again.\n\nShe canceled our date last week, saying she had the flu. She happily rescheduled a few days later, but then pulled out once again, saying it wasn't the flu -- she's actually been slipping into another depression (which happens to her sometimes) and she thinks I'm great but wasn't feeling like anyone would want to date her right now. \n\nWe've kept in touch a bit. I don't mind that, as I care about mental health and people in general. She didn't explicitly say she's not interested ever, but didn't say she would be interested again either. Should I just assume she's not and view her as a friend?", "summary": "I dated a girl for a month who said her depression (and not me) was why she couldn't keep dating. I believe she's honest about being depressed but, at the same time, she's also just not interested in me either, right?"}
{"id": "t3_nxj66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to stop this constant arguing?", "post": "Throwaway account here.\n\nI'm M (20) and she's F (20). We've been dating for about 4 months now, although we have been close friends for 3 years prior to dating. During these 4 months, we've had good times but we have noticed that we argue a lot. They're not usually arguments about big things but generally just many arguments about small things.\n\nFirstly, I admit that I am a person who is a bit quick to anger and I tend to get annoyed by small things. I am aware that this is a problem and have been consciously trying to correct such a bad trait. It's not at an extreme level where I get ticked off at everything, but things like when she decides to, for example, see her friends over seeing me after she has been away for a month sort of ticks me off.\n\nWe end up arguing over things like that and it happens way too frequently. I'd say we average an argument almost every week and I know it can't be healthy for our relationship. I really want to make things work between us but I really don't know how to approach it.\n\nI'm here, requesting advice on how to make everything better. I've grown tired of arguing over small things because I know it cannot be good. I do not mind if I have to do all the work and change myself so that I don't get annoyed so easily, as long as I know how to approach it. Please help.", "summary": "Me and gf constantly argue over small things. I am a person who gets ticked off easily. How to cut down on arguments?"}
{"id": "t3_4rpand", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning my thumb with a fork after raging at a mobile game called Clash Royale", "post": "So this happened today.\n\nAs many of you may or may not know, Clash Royale is a mobile card-ish game.  It involves competing against others in real time.\n\nRecently, the creators release a tournament mode.  These tournaments require you, in order to win, to remain online and active for usually an hour at a time.\n\nI would consider myself a decent player having never spent money on the game.  \n\nSo I'm in a tournament, and somehow, I lose 4 or 5 in a row mainly because I'm shittier than I thought and everyone else has bullshit cards. \n\nSo after losing to a bullshit play that makes me lose the game, I grab the nearest object which happened to be a fork, and I unleash all my anger on it.\n\nYes a fork\n\nI begin to furiously bend this fork using my left thumb as a fulcrum point.  Before I realize, that point on the fork is now really fucking hot and literally burns my thumb.  I didn't even know that shit was possible.", "summary": "I bent a fork with my thumb and it got hot.  Fuck Clash Royale"}
{"id": "t3_1jeix3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What is your strategy for investing to reach medium term saving goals (5-10 years)?", "post": "**SITUATION:** I'm in my mid-20s, no debt, solid emergency fund, maxed out Roth IRA, and contributing 10% to my 401k with 4% match. I think I've got a good grasp on how to save for my long term goals, but I'm still a little unsure of how to save/invest for more general medium term goals. \n\nI'm thinking of stuff along the lines of *someday* wanting to buy an engagement ring / get married / buy a car / make a down payment a house, etc. Things that are likely going to happen sometime in my 30s, but not soon enough for me to be very sure of how much I'll need to save for any particular one of them. \n\nI want to put away whatever extra money I can to put myself in a good position to afford these goals, but it seems like a missed opportunity to put money in a savings account or CD getting less than 1% per year and losing value to inflation when I might not need the money for 10 years and almost certainly won't need it for at least five. I'm ok with a little bit of risk here, in exchange for a chance at decent returns.\n\n**QUESTIONS:** \n\n* Would something like the Vanguard LifeStrategy Conservative or Moderate Growth Funds make sense here? \n* Are there other funds you'd recommend? \n* Are there options besides bond funds, CDs, and \"high-interest\" savings accounts that I'm not thinking of?\n\nAny suggestions would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "What do you use to save for ambiguous financial goals 5-10 years in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_4yvzqo", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Questions about Antidepressants (Nuzak), Niacin and birth control (Trigestrel/Triphasil).", "post": "I was diagnosed with depression 3 years ago. I was on Nuzak and Seroquel (or something like that) for about 1.5 years until I went off it. After that I still had my lows (Quite low at times). I was still struggling but somehow I managed.\n\nA couple of months ago I started taking Triphasil and they told me I must discontinue use if signs of depression occur. I didn't really pay too much attention to it since I basically live with symptoms of depression every day. I didn't believe a little pill could have such a big effect. I've dealt with a lot before and didn't think it could possibly get any worse that what I've managed to deal with before.\n\nRecently I had a major trigger and I feel like I'm pretty much at my previous lowest point. I was very close to ending my life today but was motivated by some kind people to try make it better. I'm going to make an appointment at my psychiatrist and I'll hopefully see her in 2 weeks. (I'm writing tests at the moment).\n\nRight now I still have some Nuzak that I didn't take last time. My boyfriend got me some Niacin which I've read helps for depression as well. Yesterday I switched over from Triphasil to Trigestrel.\n\nSo my question, what should I do with what I have right now?\n- Should I stop oral birth control all together or can I continue with Trigestrel?\n- Can I start taking the Nuzak so long?\n- If I take the Nuzak is it safe to take the Niacin?\n\nAny advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Currently on Trigestrel."}
{"id": "t3_28ngu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (18F) repair my relationship with my mother (38F)? Is this even possible?", "post": "I've never had the best relationship with my mother and it just seems to be getting worse. She was abusive when I was a kid, but in a weird way, we were still close and I knew she still loved me even though she hurt me. She still talked to me and hugged me back then. She isn't physically abusive anymore, but within the last like 4 years we have grown really distant... ever since she and my dad got divorced and she started dating some other guy. \n\nEver since that happened, my mom barely talks to me even though we live together. The only time we ever communicate is when we're fighting, which happens maybe once a week, but other than that she just ignores me like I don't exist. I've tried to start a normal conversation with her, but I can tell by her expression and tone of voice that she doesn't want to talk to me, like she gets irritated just by the sight of me. \n\nThe reason why we fight is because she says that I am a failure in life, and an embarrassment compared to her friends' daughters. They're pretty and friendly and they have a lot of friends. I, on the other hand, have never really had any friends, I get crippling anxiety around people, and I'm not pretty. My mother says that I'm not her daughter and she wishes I could disappear from her life. When my mother says these things to me, I say some pretty horrible things back. \n\nI'm so ashamed of what I've said I don't even want to repeat it here. I just can't control myself in the heat of the moment but every night I just start crying because I feel so guilty about all the terrible things I say to my mother. I want to make things better with her but it seems like it never will because the damage has been done, we have absolutely no mother/daughter bond, we're just two strangers now.", "summary": "My mother and I despise each other and I want to make things better but our relationship seems irreparable."}
{"id": "t3_2vmtsl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18/F] My friend [18/F] has naked picture of my boyfriend [17/M]?", "post": "This is the weirdest situation ever so please bear with me. My friend was over earlier tonight and she was using my cell phone while I was making food. My cell phone has nudes of my boyfriend on it, I know it's stupid to do that so I don't need a lesson about it please. We've been together for over two years and we fully trust eachother and I'm never doing anything like it again. I had gave her permission to use my phone, she didn't just take it. But I hadn't thought about the pictures, she was just using it to go online on though so I didn't think much of it. I came back in the room and got my phone back and we just went on with our evening.\n\nBut about an hour after she leaves I got some email notifications on my phone, that was weird because I don't have my email set up on my phone in the email app. So I check it and she had left her email signed in, I saw messages from herself to herself, of pictures that was sent around the time she wouldve been using my phone. I know it's kind of snooping but I clicked on it, and she literally sent pictures of my boyfriend on my phone, to her own email. So she probably has them saved on her computer or something now.\n\nI have no idea how to confront her about it because it's the most awkward situation ever, but I have to say something. And I want to make sure she deletes those pictures. I don't even want to continue our friendship anymore if she doesn't. I feel completely betrayed and I think that was disrespectful to my boyfriend, me, our relationship, and our friendship. I haven't told my boyfriend yet as I'm sure he'll be mad at me, but I'll tell him after I resolve this. What can I do?! :(", "summary": "My friend was using my phone, she left her email signed in and I saw that she sent naked pictures of my boyfriend from my phone, to her email. So she probably had them saved on her own computer now. :/"}
{"id": "t3_4uoxso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I friend guy[29M] who had a crush on me[21F] is dating someone else[30F], I'm hurt", "post": "I'm using a throwaway and sorry for my English\n\nI met this great guy a little under a year ago while i was traveling in France. When i went back to my home country we started talking on Skype and became great friends. We spent hours talking every day and he is sweet and amazing guy and we have exactly the same sense of humor.\n\nAfter a month he told me he liked me but i said i wanted to stay just friends because we lived in different countries and i knew it would end badly and also because he was older than me and i couldn't move to France because I still have many years of university left. We kept talking and became even closer. There were multiple times that he told me he wanted something more but every time i said i don't want to date him\n\nSo last weekend when we were talking he told me he has met a girl \"Jessica\" and they are maybe going to start dating. They slept together last weekend and its killing me. i have been crying the entire weekend. it's so stupid because i kept telling him i don't want to date him and he should find a nice french girl. Today we talked on the Skype and he could hear i was sad and tried to ask what was wrong and after a while asked whether the reason was Jessica. I just hung up the call and started sobbing and sent him a message saying i wish all the best to him and Jessica and after i sent it I deleted him from my contacts,. He has sent messages to me but i haven't replied\n\nNow I'm feeling terrible. I never thought i liked him so much until he ended up dating someone. But i know that it would be wrong to now start pursuing something because he is with someone else. He is a shy guy and isn't really great at meeting girls so i don't want to ruin it if he finally found a great girl (who is near to his age). but I just feel so terrible and sad and I need someone to tell me that I'm doing the right thing", "summary": "A friend who liked me started to date someone, i'm devastated but I know it would be wrong to pursue something now so I cut contact. Need someone to tell me I'm doing the right thing"}
{"id": "t3_4fkhjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need opinions: Old flame [30 M] contacted me [30 F] after years of not speaking, and I am confused about what to make of it.", "post": "I met the man of my dreams when I was 18.  When we got to know each other, he confessed that he'd told his friends the day we met that he'd met the woman he was going to marry.  That terrified me as a college freshman bc I wanted to party and be social and not be in a super intense relationship, so I pushed him away romantically.  We remained friends and eventually became very best friends.  We celebrated holidays with each other, took vacations together, etc. and just had a very unique friendship.  We both wound up dating other people but it never interupted our friendship, and sometimes when we were both single, I'd still think about \"what if\" we dated, but I never told him bc I felt like it could jeopardize our friendship.  (Or that he wouldn't feel the same and I'd be humiliated.)\n\nWhen we were both 28, he started dating someone and it got very serious very quickly, and for the first time ever he shut me out.  He just stopped calling one day and never answered when I called him.  Two years later, he has contacted me out of the blue saying that he has been thinking of me and that he misses me.  The fact that he reached out after not speaking for so long speaks volumes about the kind of friendship we had, I think, but I was still surprised to hear from him as I had pretty much accepted that he and I were done.\n\nI am SO CURIOUS now as to what his agenda actually is.  I know I'll figure that out eventually through conversation with him, and I am not expecting anyone to be able to lay out his intentions so please don't comment being a jerk/ telling me to just him.  I eventually will but for now, I am just wanting outside perspectives.  Would you reach out to someone you had a romantic past with after years of not speaking just for friendship?  If someone reached out to you like that, would you assume it was strictly friendship or more?  Curious to hear other opinions on this.", "summary": "Old flame reached out and wondering why (but you should just read the whole story! lol)"}
{"id": "t3_3t7kms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my supervises [20'sM+F], need management advice", "post": "I am a grad student and I have a grad assistant position in Student Affairs, although I am not studying anything related to student affairs. I have run in to a problem with the undergraduate students I supervise. They are very busy and have not made time to do things as a group to build the team-spirit that they so desire. We have taken many approaches to building team spirit, but they never show up. \n\nThis lack of team spirit has been a constant problem for this group because it's something they really seem to desire. They have asked that we take time out of our meetings for team activities. Our meetings are already too short to accomplish all our business and we do take about 15 minutes to have a snack and to a team building exercise each meeting. I've constantly reminded them that we do not have time for anything more than that and that to build our team, they need to commit to events outside our weekly meeting.\n\nAnother student mentioned how they want to know me better and spend more time with me. I said they could stop by during my office hours (part-time) and chat at any time. They wanted to know if they could invite me out to events on evenings/weekends. I am glad that they are interested in inviting me, but I have my own life out of work. I hardly have time for my friends between school and work. I don't want to take my minimal free time and spend it at a work event. \n\nI am struggling with the interpersonal relationships of this job and I am thinking of leaving at the end of the semester. My boss and I have strategized on many occasions and she is not hesitant to emphasize that I am not at fault for the challenges we are facing in group dynamics. I'm confused how to build team when they won't commit and when the requests they make (regarding team building and otherwise) are requests that just make my job harder or are not in pursuit of their professional development (part of their experience and a role of mine in this job)\n\nIn our latest meeting I mentioned that our time constraints are real and unchangeable, but that we need to change our expectations if we can't change our circumstances.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2n6gkv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of 6 years, she is the love of my life, but I have only ever been with her and recently fooled around with another girl. I feel terrible, but a confession will ruin us and I love us more than anything.", "post": "So, I have know my gf all of HS, basically. She had a boyfriend before she dated me, but she has always been good to me. She is truly the love of my life, but I have never been with another girl. \n\nLast night I had a sexual encounter with another girl, and while we didn't have sex, we did do some foreplay. I am happy I at least didn't commit to sex, but I still feel like a huge sleez ball. I know confessing will only hurt her, and break us up. We have been through everything together, but this is something she couldn't handle. \n\nI feel like I should swallow my guilt, and devote everything to my gf now. I truly understand and beyond grateful of her and I now appreciate her more than anything. Reddit, help.", "summary": "I fooled around with another girl, feel like crap."}
{"id": "t3_3pwrui", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I stop embarrassing memories from bothering me?", "post": "This is a problem that appears to be getting worse and worse so I decided to turn to reddit for help. \n\nI'll be going about my business, having a perfectly normal day when all of a sudden I have a flashback of one of the most embarrassing moments of my life: the time I had incredibly loud sex and all of my friends heard me. The fact that they heard me wouldn't have been a problem but the day after it happened all of my friends imitated me screaming my boyfriends name. This was absolutely mortifying.\n\nWhenever I remember this, I physically flinch and suddenly swear or yell; as if I have tourettes or something. It's not like I can control it either. The memory just pops up in my head and I have a physical reaction to it. It's getting to the point where it's happening in public and I have to play it off as me suddenly remembering something I forgot to do or something like that. I really really need to stop this because I'm starting to act like a crazy person in public, to the point where I start to get embarrassed about remembering that embarrassing moment!", "summary": "How do I stop an embarrassing memory flashback from ruining my life?!"}
{"id": "t3_3i5cye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] lied to my parents about how old my girlfriend [20M] is", "post": "For the last several months I've been dating a girl a few years younger than me. When we first started dating, I told my parents that she was a year older than she actually was because I was afraid my parents would think she was too young for me. I told my parents she was 20 and about to turn 21 when in reality she was 19 and about to turn 20. In July, she finally turned 20 but my parents, still under the impression that she was a year older, believed she turned 21. Later that month, at a family party, because my parents believed she was 21, were asking her all of these questions about her now being able to legally drink and go to bars. I told my girlfriend before the party that they all thought she was 21 so she went along with it all day. The problem is that my girlfriend now thinks that no one can find out she's actually 20 because she's worried my family will think she's a liar even though it was my idea to have her say she was 21. I think it's best to come clean right now before my family asks her how her 22nd birthday was next year! (Haha) What do you guys think? Should I just be truthful to my parents or do I just hope my parents eventually forget how old she is? Thanks for any advice!", "summary": "I told my parents my girlfriend was 21 when she was actually 20. We went to a family party together and people were asking her about being 21 and she went along with it. Now she feels like my family can't know she's actually 20 because she's scared they'll think she's a liar but I want to come clean and just tell them it was my fault."}
{"id": "t3_yi07p", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Advice on sudden panicking?", "post": "I have a border collie/mystery-mix dog who's just about to turn two. I rescued her when she was about 10 weeks old, and she's always been skittish about new things, especially if they're loud or surprisingly mobile (skateboarders, the roomba, the custodial staff with their mobile trash cans, thunder, umbrellas, et cetera). I've always reacted to this patiently and gently, and she's gotten over many of her fears.\n\nRecently, though, other of her fears seem to be getting worse -- she's gone from being scared during thunderstorms to being afraid during rain, and now seems to be unhappy during overcast days.\n\nWorse, tonight at the off-leash park, she was happily playing with other dogs then got spooked by *something* invisible and sprinted the entirety of the half-mile home, across several busy roads. She's never done that before, and is normally very good about not crossing streets without permission. I retrieved her, brought her back to the park on-leash, and she seemed completely recovered and interested in playing with the other dogs. I (foolishly) let her play, and about 10 minutes into this, a nearby car backfired, and she sprinted home across traffic *again*. \n\nI've been trusting her off-leash around town for a year now, and I usually walk her to and from work without a leash. Now I'm skeptical about trusting her, and am not sure what to do. I'm going to start going through the \"Fearful Dogs\" websites now.\n\nMost importantly, though, no matter how scared she is, it's not ok for her to run in the street. She's got this down when she's not panicked -- is there any hope that she'll get this down even when panicking? How can you train it?", "summary": "Historically skittish dog panics tonight, forgets what she knows about staying out of the street, and runs all the way home. Twice. How can I train her to obey her street-training even when she's panicking?"}
{"id": "t3_gmws2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Positive pregnancy test. Would rather kill myself. need someone to talk to, have no one else.", "post": "My GF today told me she was pregnant. I though for sure this was a joke and was reacted with a sort of \"haha.. what everr\" when she insisted she wasn't joking i started to get more defensive and she started to cry. I knew then that this wasn't just some small joke and I have not stopped crying for hours. I'm in my second semester of college, just moved into an apartment less than a month ago and feel, or felt, like my life was going awesome.\n\nI can't stop crying and i literally want to kill myself. I could easily take my pistol and get rid of this severely unwanted problem very easily and it's crossed my mind a million times every hour. She says she's going to call the doctor tomorrow and get a better test done while I've been frantically searching through Google for any positive hopes that she has a false positive test. \n\n-i didn't get to see her take the test\n\n-A pregnant family friend is at their house today because they are having a cook out ( yes, it wouldn't surprise me but that'd mean her brief, and only tears, would be tears of \"this is how he'd react if it were real)\n\n-i went and bought pee tests for her to use at my apartment but when she went to do it, because we didn't have a cup, she said she couldn't make sure she was peeing on the right spot. ( this made me mad and feel she didn't really want to take it because she could have easily, or so i thought, made sure she hit the right spot. she didn't even look to be trying)\n\n-She has had very unscheduled periods the past few months\n\n-claims to be late but wouldn't surprise me if its not even her time yet because of the above ( cant remember exact date of last period. just know it was late)\n\nSo im looking for some opinions, experience, or anything. I just want this to be a false positive test, a malfunction, or one of those chemical pregnancy's. I cant handle bringing a baby into the world and didn't even want that kind of life with her anyway. Please comment", "summary": "GF told me she was prego. Dont want it to be true. Would rather kill myself. Been crying all day. i don't believe she's even considered late yet do to her previous late period. Wouldn't surprise me if this wasn't real ( although unlikely) hope its a chemical pregnancy or a malfunction. help."}
{"id": "t3_3om4i2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] letting personal issues get in the way of school and feel like I'm drowning", "post": "I'm a senior in college, but I have an extra semester due to changing majors/dicking around freshman year. \n\nI got my best gpa that I have ever gotten all year last year, but this year I have been unable to handle the stress from other parts of my life and found out I am failing a class. \n\nI have a pretty severe case of psoriasis that is mostly under control, but this was a big factor in why I was so stressed and did so poorly my freshman year/sophomore. I recently found out about a month ago that I may have an autoimmune kidney disease and am in the process of finding out what it is with my doctors. \n\nI also had a paternity test done and got the results back about 2 weeks ago and found out who my father is(could have been two people, one of whom is dead according to my mother) after he abandoned me for my entire life, and he has been sending me messages trying to explain himself to me, and I can barely stand to read them and I don't know how I want to proceed with our relationship (he is married with two young twin girls).\n\nMy grandfather also passed away sort of suddenly last Christmas, and he was like a father to me. Though he was sick from when I was 12 with different types of cancer and illnesses, I was always there to take care of him. His birthday was last week.\n\nMy sleeping schedule is all sorts of fucked up, I haven't been eating properly, and I can't focus or find the motivation in myself to keep up with school. How can I get past this? How can I turn around from my current position? I should be able to pass everything, but I know I would be disappointing my family with my lower grades. I just really don't know what to do. None of my friends or boyfriend seems to really understand how shitty things are for me right now and I don't want to upset them and make them listen to me cry about it. \n\nAny advice is really appreciated. I'm in way over my head here.", "summary": "stressed, school, drowning, please help"}
{"id": "t3_be9jc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question for graduate redditors, where do i go from here?", "post": "Please allow me to introduce myself, I am finishing university in May and am slightly frazzled about what I'm going to do with my life afterwards. There seems to be a lot of options, but I can't decide on one. I know what I don't want, I don't want to end up in some office job that doesn't excite me, not yet anyway! My question is for those post graduates, what decisions have you mad since you left University that how regret, or made your life great? What would you have some different? What would you advise i do now when I'm young? I live in Ireland, so am thinking of living in London for a few months anyway, as I have no attachments here. Other ideas include volunteering in the third world, but that does cost a lot of money which I don't have right now. If you could give me one bit of advice about what you learned about that transition from college to real society, what would it be?", "summary": "finishing university in a few months, what would you advise i experience from here?"}
{"id": "t3_22igkg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] with my girlfriend [19F] for 2months..i need help.", "post": "I met a girl 2 months ago, and we talked for long time, 1 month after that we got into a relationship, she had told me all her secrets and that she had a boyfriend before and that she was a virgin, etc... 1 week ago we had unprotected sex, she was a virgin, but i was also a virgin. today i found out that she might still be with the other guy, and she might be playing me real good... my friends told me all this information about her cheating on me and stuff, but no proof what so ever. they went on and on for hours, i really dont know how to feel anymore, because, all the things they said, didnt match the way she is... honestly this girl is so kind, nice...she is everything to me, she just doesnt seem like the kind of person that would do something like that... but anyways, the question for you guys here is... should i still be with her? or what...\n\nbut more importantly is... if she did play me, will she allow herself to get pregnant, because if she does....my life is ruined :(...help me please!\n(her mom was talking to kicking her out of the house in a few months)\n(she told me she was under the birth control pill)", "summary": "my girl might be cheating on me, and we had unprotected sex, if she did play me, will she allow herself to get pregnant?, because if she does....my life is ruined :(...help me please!"}
{"id": "t3_1xa1jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [F,25] leave my job because my boss [M,35] trys it on with me and others?", "post": "My boss is a player I know, he has slept with one of the other women in the office and a girl has left over her feelings for him. He has always been super nice to me and is now just openly flirtatious. He is like a friend, I like him and we get on well and I probably do flirt back. I know I absolutely shouldn't because he has a girlfriend and it is work. I feel horrible about it and feel like its a situation that could just explode.\n\nHe uses me to try and make the woman he slept with jealous in a very open way which really worries me because even when I make a point of not responding to that I know it is just going to get me in trouble. He did the same to the other girl who left. I'm worried people are talking about it because it is so obvious and I feel really stressed out and horrible. I didnt think I had feelings for him but I was so upset when I thought I was gonna leave I couldnt stop crying which just made me think maybe I should. When he thought I had a boyfriend he was so horrible I wanted to leave work anyway. Have been there for 4 months and our boss, a woman, blatantly flirts with him too so absolutely could not report it too her.", "summary": "Should I leave my job because my boss is openly flirtatious and I am worried what will happen?"}
{"id": "t3_1p8r41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] for almost 2 years, have lived together for about a year and a half and she forgot a dinner date tonight and our anniversary in a week and a half.", "post": "To give some background my girlfriend has been working 38 hour weeks and she wasn't used to them before. Tonight I found out that she forgot a little dinner date and she forgot to ask off on our anniversary so she is going to work that whole day. The reason she is working so much is that she's taking a semester off from school and getting into the school's nursing program in the Spring.\n\nI understand she works a lot but I also work and go to school. I try to make time to take care of her needs and go the extra mile. I think of things we could do, places we could go, gifts I could get her and typical relationship stuff. \n\nI feel almost like the more emotionally aware of the two of us and feel like I'm not that important to her. She says I am and I can tell rifts between us affect her but she doesn't handle her reactions like me. I get that.\n\nI want her to want to go out of the way to do things for me. We have a very healthy and great day to day relationship most times. We talk things through and try to work out all the small kinks before they get bigger.\n\nThe thing is though, that I feel unless I do something or push for something it doesn't happen. \n\nI had to basically mediate and tie our relationship together with the way we argue, the way we communicate, and even sex. \n\nI don't really get suggestions from her on these things but she replies when I reach out. \n\nThe thing is though that I don't want to have to reach out all the time to get a response pinged back. I would like her to reach out to me as well. \n\nThis might not make sense, and honestly it's kind of a ramble, but does anyone understand or have experience with these things?", "summary": "Girlfriend forgetting a dinner date and our anniversary became apparent on the same night. I'm reading into it a bit and venting."}
{"id": "t3_4agfdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [31M] not attracted to my [32F] girlfriend of 5 years anymore. Should I end the relationship?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for over 5 years now and I've lost the attraction, and desire to have sex with her.  The truth is I wasn't ever insanely lustful towards her from the beginning, it was her solid 10/10 personality that drew me to her -- to hang out with her and share time as best friends.\n\nI have had stronger physical relationships in the past, that ended sour, this is part of my basis for comparison. \n\nI feel like the other female (attractive) acquaintances in my life are making me second guess my current long term relationship.  is this incredibly shallow? any thoughts?", "summary": "I'm not physically attracted to my long term girlfriend, should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3850za", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "thoughts on owner financing?", "post": "i have some land that needs to be sold. i paid 14 k for it . i had to pay in full, or have a foreclosure against my credit, which was not going to happen since i was planning on buying a house. \n\n*back story for those who care* me and an ex bought land, we were a week from getting married. i was on the papers too. this was back in 07, and we split right after from him getting cold feet. we got my name off of the land deed, but i had no idea that i had to also get my name off the bank . so i thought it was all him from then out (he did too) and we went our seperate ways. fast forward to 2 years ago, i get a notice (the first actually) threatening foreclosure becuase he had apparently not been paying it at all. i went to see what the deal was, and my credit had dropped to almost 500 because of it. i had less than a month , so i pulled my savings and bought it\n\nso, here i am  , still trying to sell this land that i want no part of,  and it seems like the only people that are interested are wanting to do owner financing. i'm leary about it, because its in a subdivision. if they have a house built, and stop paying me, then what happens? \n\nsorry this is long.", "summary": "had to buy land to get out of foreclosure, trying to sell but only people interested are asking if i will do owner financing."}
{"id": "t3_2zhumu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] feels like my cat is ruining my relationship with my [27m] boyfriend", "post": "My boyfriend and I of 1 year live together. He moved in with me and my two cats. One of the cats is 3, the other is 2. Ive had them both since they were kittens so im very much attached to them and they're a very big part of my life. I love my cats, my boyfriend on the other hand absolutely hates them. He has it out for the young on in particular. The young one is goofy and being only 2 years old still acts like a fiesty kitten once and awhile. He is the friendliest cat on the planet and he adores my boyfriend. The cat likes knocking stuff off tables, so you really cant leave any drink glasses out unattended because he most likely will want to knock it over. But my boyfriend cant stand that he behaves like that. Hes never had a cat so he doesn't understand their behavior. \n\nHe got really upset the other night when I firmly told him that I didn't like the way he had grabbed my cat by his leg and disciplined him. He then told me that he doesn't understand why I have the cats in the first place, they're a waste of money and provide me with nothing. He says my younger cat is a fat useless blob, that has no purpose in life other than to stuff his fat ass face. I get extremely upset and defensive when he makes insults like that. \n\nIf the young cat misbehaves again he said hes throwing him outside. I told him flat out Im not \"choosing\" between my boyfriend and the cats. I told him I will work on training the younger one to behave better, because Im not choosing. Its going to have to work out. But Im also not going to tip toe around him and discipline that cat on being an F-ing cat just to make my boyfriend happy. How in the hell does anyone deal with this??? What are my options here? How can you choose between a partner and an animal??", "summary": "Live in boyfriend hates my cats, and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get rid of them."}
{"id": "t3_4x3psp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (25m) broke up with ex (23f) three years ago and I'm thinking of trying to rekindle.", "post": "We were together for two years in college and then we went separate ways since I wasn't ready to seriously commit. It was an agreed upon break up. We've now been apart for three years.\n\nWe live in different states now and we talk from time to time. She sends me messages saying that I should be where she is and that she misses me. I've been with other girls so it's not like I'm super lonely...maybe a little since all I do is hookup. I can't seem to commit to anyone else. \n\nWe've tried to meet up when I took a couple trips to her part of the country, but it's always a long drive and I'm doing other things. I was thinking about asking her to take a trip with me...wherever. What y'all think? Bad idea?", "summary": "I want to ask my ex whom I haven't seen in three years to take a trip with me to try and rekindle."}
{"id": "t3_1wptwj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] I am uncomfortable with my girlfriend[18/f] of 3 months joining a sorority while in a temporary long distance relationship", "post": "So I am currently studying abroad for three months. My girlfriend wants to rush a sorority this semester. However, even though I know that she is not the type to cheat, I still feel uncomfortable with the fact that she will be around intoxicated guys and spending time with the sorority girls \n\nWe kind of had a scuffle yesterday. I never said that she can't join it but I told her it made me feel extremely uncomfortable. However, she keeps asking me why and why I dislike her rushing.\nI constantly see pictures of these parties at our school and it just looks like a bunch of intoxicated people. \nI explained to her that a majority of her time will be devoted to the sorority and will have a strain on our relationship and that I am uncomfortable with her around hundreds of intoxicated men. Also, we are in a long distance relationship and her emotional unavailability will take a huge toll on this relationship. \n\nI told her she can do whatever she wants but I know that I can't deal with this kind of jealousy. Am I justified to feel like this?", "summary": "girlfriend wants to join sorority. I feel uncomfortable about it."}
{"id": "t3_3ydoik", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting blackout drunk. NSFW", "post": "My boyfriend has been trying to impress my father for years. He was doing pretty well up until we decided to get really drunk one night because my dad wasn't supposed to be home. I must have blacked out leaving my bedroom and got knocked out on the way to the bathroom. Next thing I wake up I am face down on the hallway floor near my bathroom, almost blocking the bathroom door. \n\nSuddenly I hear and see my boyfriend run over me into the bathroom and hear MY FATHER yelling \"WHAT THE HELL?!?!\" and I see my boyfriend burst through the door and vomit on my father while HE IS TAKING A DUMP ON THE TOILET!?!?! I can't believe my eyes, this can't be happening! I have never seen my dad so angry in my life!\n\nMy boyfriend apparently couldn't hold it in because he was really drunk and was running so he was already doing it and couldn't stop. He is so embarrassed. I had no clue my dad would be home and I can't believe he and my boyfriend stepped over me while I was passed out on the floor too. I think the whole thing is hilarious but they don't. My dad told me to break up with him too. He eventually got over it though and we can laugh about it now. I am never drinking like that again, that's for sure. I can't believe the crazy shit that happens in my family I swear my life should be a movie or something.", "summary": "My boyfriend threw up all over my father while he was sitting on the throne taking a dump."}
{"id": "t3_1cinl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F20] have found out a guy [M21] I went out with a few times and was going to get involved with used to watch child porn and bestiality.", "post": "We've only known each other that well a month but we got along very well, he was very chatty. The topic came up of what was the worst things we've done, he said he used to watch child porn a few years back and that he is still into bestiality. But he shows little remorse over it other than that it's an illegal thing. So I ended the relationship, but in the interim I had slept with him (before knowing). I didn't want to be judgmental, I wanted to think he could be redeemed and that so long as he wasn't directly harming anyone that it'd be okay, but it's not. I feel so much disgust now. \n\nI seem to keep finding guys like this, who tell me how they want to murder people or hurt people and all of this dark, dark stuff. I don't understand, most people tell me that I come off witty, funny and light-hearted. The only thing I can think of is that people tend to find me understanding and easy to get into an intense conversation with.", "summary": "I keep finding dark guys, and I want someone light. Is it normal for certain people to be secret keepers?"}
{"id": "t3_vkcep", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Don't know how to put it, but: What do friends do?", "post": "This is an attempt to figure out a social gap I have had for a long time. It will likely be jumbled as I am saying things as they come to mind. I am going into my Senior year of high school, and haven't had a best friend since fourth grade. I am the only guy in my very small class, and consider the other girls as \"acquaintances\". I hang out with them because there is no one else, and share a few good moments. The rest is awkward silence from me, because I have no idea what to talk about and how to say it. I share nothing in common with anyone else. I play guitar and ride road bikes, and I could talk about those for a while. But what else do people talk about? I don't watch movies, so I can't relate there. As long as they are all there, I can smile along while they talk and insert remarks. But if I'm alone with just one of them, it quickly becomes awkward (I have no intention of dating any of them, by the way. I want nothing more than to befriend them) because there is no common bond. Now for a large question: What do friends talk about? I haven't ever had a friend that you look forward to meeting in the morning, talk about a random little thing, and bounce a conversation back and forth, then ask to do something next weekend. I just come to a bunch of acquaintances, with no real bonds to any of them. How do people even talk to each other all the time? I only get a good idea every once in a while. Same with hanging out. How do these things happen?", "summary": "Freaking friends, how do they work?"}
{"id": "t3_1ewo4g", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Tough decision, I need some advice reddit", "post": "I'm 20 years old and I need to make a decision about the next two years of my life. Within a week. I currently work for a bank that requires strict sales goals to meet. IF they aren't met three times (three months) you're canned. They pay me 10/hour and it's not unheard of to get a raise in 6ish months. The issue is, **I'm not a salesperson**. That's not my personality. I'm amazing at customer service, I have the most positive customer service \"reports\" done about me in the short time I've worked here. A coworker asked \"do you ask for people to fill these out? you have a ton\". That being said, I have a job opportunity at Chase Bank as a part time teller. What makes this decision so hard is that at my current job, I get 40 hours and Chase could only offer me 20 hours/week. Drive time to my current job is also 21 miles **one way** while Chase is literally 1.8 miles from my house, allowing me to go home for lunch. I do have an apartment and an awesome roommate that I know wont be late on his portion of rent, so paying bills with 20hours a week isn't the issue. It's the spending money and being broke all the time.\n\nI previously worked at Wal-Mart and took home just about 400 dollars every other week. So I know i can survive on this income. I just don't know whether I should go for Chase as I could definitely see myself having a career there. I'm a math major likely going to become an actuary, so Chase could provide excellent opportunities for me **eventually**.", "summary": "should I take a potentially better job that could take up to two years to pay off or my current job that pays twice as much that I dislike?"}
{"id": "t3_43fqlw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] like my coworker [23/F] who I see one time a month.", "post": "Frist of all I am shy and not very self-confident, but this is something I am working on right now and I have not been in a relationship ever before.\n \nLast year I worked 9 months at the Red Cross in Austria and saw her on one evening in this period of time. \nAs I ended working and started studying I started volunteering for the Red Cross one time a month (weekend shift) and I was surprised that she also works the same day in the month. \nAs I was working I heard, that she had been single since spring 2015. \nI basically saw her 10 times in 2015, but I really feel connected to her. \nOn Christmas I asked her out to play pool/billard with me sometime. She posponed it to a later date, because she had serious exams to do after the chistmas break. \nHence I have my exams now, I have not saw her neither asked her since then. \nThe last thing before I sleep and the first thing in the morning is that I think of her. \nI think I am overthinking the whole situation, how she will react and if I am her type of guy. \nWhat makes me think that is, that she is more the type of girl which is into sports and party on the weekends and I am the IT kind of guy and I use my free time playing video games. \nMy Question now is, how do I know if there is any chance, should I just say it straight forward, that I like her, when we meet up to play pool/billard, or should I try to tease a little bit and get to go slowly.", "summary": "I am shy, like my coworker, will meet her to play pool/billard, do not know how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_1mp5kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23/M] with my \"friend\" [24F] 5 months, not worth continuing friendship if I am nothing but a shoulder to cry on?", "post": "Met a girl at a gaming meetup event and we started a friendship. We've done stuff together (play games and go see movies, meet for coffee) and I enjoy the friendship we've had up until now. I know she's developed feelings for me but I already told her I am only interested in a friendship and nothing else. \n\nHer marriage has been deteriorating and when we are together on an outing or online chatting she's slowly over time been confiding in me very personal stuff (which she should be discussing with her husband and not me). I understand people need to vent, but I get the feeling I'm becoming nothing more than a shoulder to cry on. It feels like emotional cheating, and morally I wouldn't infringe on anything like that. \n\nI already brought it up with her and she's using the pretext as a \"friend\" to continue to divulge personal things... Am I just better off cutting ties?", "summary": "Met a girl who I have had a good friendship with for 5 months. I like her as a friend and only want a friendship, nothing else. However, I get the feeling I'm nothing more than a shoulder to cry on."}
{"id": "t3_3ivxcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F]\"GF\" stopped texting completely", "post": "We met on OkCupid about 2 months ago. Been out together like 8 times, and we get together REALLY REALLY well, and its perfect. We get along great, no awkwardness, and we love to be together! \n\nShe then got busy with work, and things got a little rougher... she then told me she does not want to be in a relationship yet and wants her main focus in like to be work... and she does not have time to fully commit yet....\n\nBut still says I'm still kind of her bf...  we still see eachother and do all the things bf/gf's do.... and she said shes not going to talk to other guys (looking for another guy).... I'm like ok, this is fine, I can wait a little bit of time. Our relationship still went on, we saw each other, spent time together, and it was fine.\n\nThen, 3 days ago, her friend says shes having a rough night, and I have not heard from her since... I reached out to her, told her I was there for her, and asked if she was ok.... nothing........ not even \"I need some space\" etc. She always texts back..... maybe not right away, but she's never rude and straight up ignores me.....\n\nI then sent a text like every 6 hours maybe, just checking up on her, called a few times,left a few messages NOTHING. I do confess I might have been a bit TOO pushy, but she wont even tell me if shes mad at me..... anything\n\nBut I am actually worried about her physically at this point.... shes been really stressed and she has a PAST of drug use, and I'm not sure if she went back... or she could just be out fucking guys, idk...... there are so many things going on, and I'm just sitting here, feeling completely powerless, feeling like shit. Help me Reddit :( (and yes, I caught feels to quick, I know)", "summary": "Girl friend\" stopped all communication for the past 3 days for no reason.....Won't even tell me if there's a problem, or if she needs space.... we usually at least communicate in some way every day.... worried about her, not sure if shes mad or went back to drug use..."}
{"id": "t3_1xx5n7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is hitting your partner sometimes tolerable behavior? [26M] with [23F] girlfriend", "post": "Over the course of our 1 year relationship, my SO has hit me a few times. Each time it bothered me quite a bit but since this is my first relationship, I don't have any sort of metric... Typically, she's not like that at all, only when she gets frustrated. \n\nFor example, there was a situation when it seemed we'll be late for a theatre show and it seemed that I'm making us late. The event was a big deal for her since her boss was also going. However, I was the one arranging the (for whatever reason complicated) transportation so I knew we have a decent time reserve (plus, we were going by public transport and there was always the backup option to take a taxi). It did not occur to me she doesn't know this and might get so worried because... well, I knew we are going to make it. (With hindsight it is super obvious that I should have clearly said \"we need to be out of the house by 5.30pm\" so that everyone knows.)\n\nAnother situation was when I criticized \"The Big Bang Theory\". I have to admit that my arguments were on the level of a 14 year old idiot and it is her favourite show. Really, I was saying stupid things about the show. On two different occasions. So that was another punch in the stomach. \n\nThis is only a \"once-in-3-months\" kind of thing. I've told her it bothers me. It happened again. \n\nObviously, I have never hit her (or done anything remotely similar).", "summary": "She hit me 4 times over the course of a year."}
{"id": "t3_2ebogv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20] and my good girlfriend[20]", "post": "Hello /relationships,\n\nI am a 20 years old, shy introvert boy and I have great ability to see what other people think,  mostly I can \"read\" people's feelings and their feels to others.\nI correctly guessd some duos in my old school (who likes whom), saw girls who like my friends and then put them together. I just see a lot.\n\nNow i am here with a problem. On grammar school I was attending, I found girl who liked me but I wasnt able to speak to her. She is as shy as I am, silent and she was in other classroom than me. We were just 2 or 3 hours a week together and with next 20 students. Now we both are attending high school and I can see her sometimes there and she me. We both are friends on FB but we arent writing too much. We even dont know each other much to keep our friendship there so long. Last time we were writing was before the school leaving exam, year and half ago. In school she always nicely smiles to me. I am sure she likes me and I like her.", "summary": "Can you please give me some advices how to talk with her and maybe get together? When could be the right time? What should I talk about?"}
{"id": "t3_gb1s9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible to knock out a heavy drinker with a tablespoon of whiskey?", "post": "One of my professors told us a story today in class. He claims his father was stationed around Scotland after WWII, and he would go to the local bars and bet people that he could knock them out with one tablespoon of whiskey. The only possible things I could think of are making them to a whiskey enema (kind of a weird thing to do in a bar), and making knockout drops beforehand. My professor also said that only 2 people have ever got the answer right, which makes me think both my answers are wrong. Anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "Professor claims his dad could knock people out with a tablespoon of whiskey. Trying to figure out how."}
{"id": "t3_3g2hnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] with my best friend [22 M], need advice on what to tell him", "post": "My best friend moved to the US after he graduated because his mom lives there. Naturally he starts working there (New York). Out of the blue he breaks up with his girl friend [22 F] who is also a close friend of mine. So I chat him up and ask him what's up. He tells me he doesn't know, tells me he works 14 hours a day, goes to the bar by himself everyday after work, and sleeps an average of 3 hours a day. He tells me he just needs to breathe. Before he moved, we worked extremely hard to get with his girl friend and I was there to witness the whole thing and that's why it seems strange that he would break up with her for no apparent reason. I asked him if he's seeing someone new, he tells me no. Is this all just because of the long distance? or is there something deeper? I need advice on what to tell him and his (ex) girl friend.", "summary": "Just need advice on what to tell my best friend who seems lost at the moment as well as his girl friend."}
{"id": "t3_26vf0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25F] can't stop thinking about my ex [25 M]...", "post": "It's been two months since my ex broke up with me. We were together for 16 months and had planned this amazing life together. We fit so well together and I honestly felt like he was my soul mate. The only reason we broke up is because his family would not accept me or him if he stayed with me (he's Jewish, I'm not) and he couldn't bear to do what he saw as breaking up his family. \n\nI've been doing everything right. I've been dating other guys, taking up new hobbies (guitar lessons, drawing classes, photography), throwing myself into work, and going out often with friends. I've committed to NC but I fucking miss him. We were in an LDR but we used to talk constantly. We'd text all day. He would call me in the afternoon after work and then again at night when we'd stay on the phone until morning. I hate that I can't call him whenever I see something on here that he would enjoy, or when I can't sleep, or just to hear his voice. I miss him so much and it's killing me. My younger brother told me that he spoke to him a couple of weeks ago to let him know my family understood and didn't hate him. My ex went on about how he still loves me and thinks about my all of the time but can't bear to hurt his own family. I understand where he's coming from but knowing that we're fucking perfect for each other and love each other but can't be together because of something outside of our own will and volition tears me apart.\n\nHe got everything about me, accepted me, and loved me for all of my flaws and I am terrified I'll never feel as comfortable or as in love with anyone else again. I've been through break ups before but this one has left me feeling like I'm completely broken and missing something so vital to my being. I don't know what else to do.", "summary": "Doing everything right post break-up. Still miserable and don't know what else there is to do..."}
{"id": "t3_2hal7z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend who is very sensitive/stubborn, how do I respond when she becomes upset/angered?", "post": "Best friend and I have known eachother about ten years, both 24 year old females. She is very sensitive to criticism, and does not handle it well. She does not get defensive but rather has a childish and irrational response when she feels she is being criticized or is offended. For example, she was upset with her current living situation so I asked why she hadn't considered moving somewhere else. Her response was that she was upset I never supported her decisions, I was mean and critical. I tried to tell her that I was trying to help, I didn't understand why she would continue to make herself unhappy when she could change it. She became more frustrated, calling me rude of names and the conversation got worse from there. \n\nI am very bad with social cues and my wording, I can be a little too blunt sometimes.  I am aware that sometimes I come off at rude, but if I upset someone I try to make it very clear that wasn't my intention. \nMy friend has not acted this way towards me till about a year ago. She had some health issues in the past but is alright now (maybe stress has something to do with this?). She works almost everyday, and doesn't take as good care of herself as she used to,  she's often sick or exhausted. \n\nWe've only fought a few times, but when we do I'm not sure how to handle her. She is very stubborn and will refuse to see another point of view. If I don't pick her side she tries to make me feel guilty, and will \"play victim \" to make me feel bad for her. When she gets in a fight she is manipulative, and will twist the other persons words to make her sound like the victim.", "summary": "Friend gets offended easily, acts stubborn and childish. How can I react in a way that won't anger her more, or help her see her see things more rationally?"}
{"id": "t3_4xr6tc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not putting my bags in the trunk.", "post": "This tifu didn't happen today, but rather on Friday night.  I had just spent a week on vacation in Hawaii gathering a bunch of memories in my mind and on my camera.  I flew into Portland to spend a couple of days visiting friends before returning to my home in Missouri.  My friend picked me up from the airport, I threw my bags into the back of his car and away we went.  We hit up Branch Whiskey Bar for a few and then went downtown to hit up Ground Control, a bar-cade that I'd wanted to visit the last time I was in Portland.  This was where the fuck up happened.  I left my bags in the back seat of the car instead of putting them in the trunk and we went to the barcade for 2 hours. When we were out of quarters my buddy and I left and walked the block and half back to his car where we found his rear driver's side window broken out and both of my bags were gone:  clothes, laptop, camera, souvenirs, memories... all gone.  Luckily I had taken my wallet back out of my bag when I landed or that would be gone too.  I've spent yesterday and today cataloging all the lost items as my friends homeowners insurance will be covering the cost of at least some of the items, but it's the sentimental stuff that I can't replace that is sticking in my craw.", "summary": "Didn't put my bags in my friends trunk and someone came along and stole every thing I had from my trip."}
{"id": "t3_4nrw6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (24 F) move past a breakup that happened over a year ago and stop obsessing over him (36 M)", "post": "We had a very intense relationship that lasted about a year, although we only spent physically about 5 months together (long distance relationship, him in USA, me in UK). We mutually ended things because of distance and age difference, but I was utterly madly in love with him. Although I've given him plenty of space and allowed him to peacefully get on with his life (he's now in a new relationship and moved state and job, successfully forgetting about me) I've found myself completely unable to move on. Every guy I meet on a romantic level just doesn't compare and I don't feel passion for anything since our breakup, not even for my job or my travels or things that used to get me excited. I feel like I've lost a piece of myself and don't have a purpose anymore unless he's in it.\n\nHonestly we weren't even that compatible, we argued all the time, but there was a chemistry and romance there that I've yet to find again. It's obviously something that's just triggered in my head and turned into this unhealthy obsession that doesn't seem to want to die.\n\nI've spoken to friends about this and they've told me that time is the only cure, but it's been over a year and I'm still caught up on him. I so badly want to move on with my life and forget, but it seems so hopeless. Is there anything I can do to make this easier? Move on? Or even just force myself to see this person in a negative light?\n\nIt's a fragile subject for me so please be kind, and I know this is a topic that's likely repeated a lot. I'm simply hoping to get a perspective from strangers or people who have experienced something similar before I resort to any kind of therapy...", "summary": "Unable to move on after a breakup, feelings just as strong over a year later and I need advice as to how to forget."}
{"id": "t3_187b6p", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just read Damien Echols \"Life After Death\".", "post": "Can I first say that how I found out about Damien was reading through the top 500 AMAs ( , and I saw that he did one. I found his posts interesting. After reading it I wanted to learn more about the case, so I watched Paradise Lost 1,2,3 and West Of Memphis. After this I read the book.\n\nThe book was a great read, and very easy read because Damien walks you through his life experience. His writing is very vivid in that it evokes imagery, and even though you were not there you can see what he saw. I found many of his stories achieved the perfect balance of humour and realism, and I think he told the right ones that gave you insight on his view of things, as well as some recurring themes in his life. I found reading how he perceives his family interesting, and some of his childhood experiences.  It was also interesting to hear how the events of the trial unfolded to him, from his perspective. \n\nThere were some Southern undertones in his narrative that were constant which I noticed, and thought about, but focused on the over all read and am choosing not to comment on them.\n\nOne thing I feel really connected with him on is the interest he has always had in spirituality, and religion. He seems to have always been on a journey to learn, and understand. This ended up manifesting during his time on death row, into the way he not only kept his sanity - but made him grow as a human being in an environment that tries to stunt all growth or positivity.\n\nUltimately I really enjoyed the book and maybe I can post some stories I liked from it in other posts.  I have chosen to comment on the book its self not the case, however if you want to discuss opinions on the case we can. I have mine.", "summary": "Saw Damien Echols AMA, watched Paradise Lost documentaries, West Of Memphis, and then read his book *\"Life After Death\"* which I liked. I found his perspective intriguing, and thoroughly enjoyed the book. I have commented on the book its self not the case, though if you want to discuss, I have opinions about the case as well."}
{"id": "t3_nnke5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just out of a 4 year relationship - now have a new girl, but having troubles down below", "post": "Age: 23, Male.\n\nSo I just got out of a 4 year relationship two months ago (I have a 2 year old daughter with that girl). She cheated on me, thats how it ended.\n\nAnyways, I've been dating this girl for the past month who my best friend hooked me up with. We're really hitting it off, shes everything I could ask for and she genuinely has feels for me as I do to her.\n\nThe other night, its the first time we got into sex, and I don't know what is wrong with me. I'm extremely horny and all that, but for some reason, I had a lot of trouble getting 'it up'.\n\nI don't know if it was because I was nervous, because she's new to me, or what but it just hit me so strange because shes gorgeous and it felt right, but I just could not get it up right away.\n\nI kinda had to foreplay for a long while before I finally could, but I do not want this to happen next time :/ is there any tips you guys can offer or insights into the problem?\n\nSorry if this is not the right sub-reddit, I'm not familier with them all.", "summary": "Got out of a 4 year relationship, got a new girl now, finding trouble getting it up now and don't want to embarrass myself or make her feel like I'm not attracted to her. :/"}
{"id": "t3_2mueiz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After many unhappy months, my [32M] wife [34F] has moved out of the house.", "post": "The past six months have been really bad. My wife and I were fighting a lot. I wasn't giving her the attention she needed. We fought a lot about a male friend of hers who I suspected did not have innocent intentions. \n\nA couple of weeks ago I found out she had a fake facebook account with a pseudonym. Turns out she has been using that as an outlet to chat with this guy for 3 months (she claims 3 months but I'll never know). \n\nShe says she did this because she knows I can easily check her phone messages and email messages. She claims that the two of them only chatted and never had a physical relationship. She claims it was all about receiving his compliments and friendly flirtations. So whatever, again, I will never know the truth. \n\nShe's now out of the house, and we occasionally text each other. I still care about her well being, but I'm very worried about myself. \n\nI'm so broken and tired all the time. I'm drinking too much, trying to cope. \n\nMy question to this wonderful community is this - What did you do to cope when bad stuff happened to you? I have work deadlines, important projects. How do I focus on myself, heal myself, and get back to doing good work. I have a major, major deadline Dec 15th, but I am not pulling myself up.", "summary": "Wife finally moved out, I'm worried about her, but I'm worried about myself, because I'm so broken inside and I'm not productive anymore. What techniques can I use to get feeling better?"}
{"id": "t3_ixn4n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any watermelon margarita mix available stateside?", "post": "Background: So my fiance went with me on a cruise to Mexico last december. Stoped in Playa de Carmen (loved it) and signed up for a Shopping/Beach trip excursion. As we're hoping off the bus, the tour guide was like \"If anyone wants a good margarita, come with me.\" I was stoked. A real mexican margarita, not any of that premixed crap. So we show up to this little booth and be damned, the guy has like 20 bottles of Jose cuervo mix for the flavored margaritas. I order a regular one and my fiance wanted a watermelon one. The watermelon flavor was amazing. Now that I look online, I can't find it anywhere. Not on the website or amazon or anywere. Does anyone have any ideas where find this mix? All they listed was regular/lite, strawberry and mango.", "summary": "Where can I find Jose Cuervo Watermelon Margarita Mix?"}
{"id": "t3_1yrenh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Could you (or do you) live without a cell phone?", "post": "Hey reddit, I've decided to see how long I can go without getting a new cell phone. I was quite addicted to my iPhone in the last three years & I feel that \"smartphones\" make it much easier to get to that point. Just wondering if anyone else here is getting by fine without a cell phone? Has it been difficult or have you found it to be less stressful without it? For those who think it's ridiculous to go without a phone, could explain why anyone really needs a smartphone or even a basic cell phone? \n\nFor context, I'm a university student in her early 20s. I've had many different cell phones for almost 9years now, but this addiction has become apparent only with my iPhone & my Blackberry before that.", "summary": "= the title!"}
{"id": "t3_3mmxci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "American(25 m) fell for a German woman(20 f) while she was working in my city. Need advice on how to proceed next.", "post": "So as the title says I am an American man aged 25 and I fell for a beautiful German woman I met at my work. She was here working as an au pair. \n\nI work on a military base on the western coast of the USA in the recreation department and she would come to my facility a lot with the young boy she watched. We talked a lot and we became friends quickly. We spent some time together in and outside of my work and I developed feelings for her. \n\nI'm not the kind of guy to make a move too quickly and I also didn't want to scare her off. I could tell she had interest but was also being somewhat guarded because she knew she was leaving. \n\nAt the beginning on August she moved with the family to the eastern coast of the United States. Since then her and I text almost everyday and Skype at least once a week. We flirt and laugh and there is a lot of chemistry between us. I have developed some strong feelings for her and think she may have feelings for me too. I haven't said anything because I'm afraid of how she may react. \n\nThe job I work is a seasonal job and it ends at the beginning of November and starts again in March. My idea is to possibly move to the east coast for two and half months to spend time with her. I'm not going to flat out ask her to be my girlfriend or anything. I just want a chance to really get to know her and and see if this is real. That isn't going to happen with just texting and Skype. She goes back to Germany in March.\n\nSo my question for you all is: how should I approach her about my idea? Should I just tell her exactly how I feel? Should I ask her how she feels? Is it a bad idea altogether? How to tell her about this idea without coming off as a total creep/stalker? What would you do in my shoes? \n\nI'm crazy about this girl. She's like no one I've ever met and I feel like I have to at least try or I'll regret it forever. Thank you for reading my post. Any and all help and advice appreciated.", "summary": "Met a foreign woman in USA who now lives in a different state than me, how do/can I make this work?"}
{"id": "t3_msxfj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help! Gay man vs. US immigration. How do I go about this?", "post": "So I'm a 22 year old gay guy who lives in Ontario right now. I'm about to finish my last semester of school in December, and graduate with a B.Eng in Aerospace Engineering. I've been with my partner for 2+ years, spent months and months with him over summers/breaks, and I'm planning on moving to be with him come January. I haven't done a co-op job placement, and have no experience in engineering specifically (I've worked retail, crappy cash job at a grocery store, and a dirty factory line worker at Michelin). My partner is ALSO graduating with a B.Eng in Mechanical Engineering this December, but he's done a placement, and he has a job lined up in Kentucky (a -GREAT- job).\n\nMy issue : How do I get into the US/stay there to be with him? I know my degree qualifies me for certain Visas under NAFTA (I don't remember the specific Visas), but with the current economy and my lack of experience there's no one who will sponsor my employment as an international person. The job my partner has is restricted to a specific area, so it's not like I can just find a job anywhere in the US and go ahead and move there, and his job is absolutely amazing for a fresh grad, so there's no way we're passing on it.\n\nI think illegal immigrants are a bad thing, that's for sure, but if I \"visited\", and just stayed, I would only be doing so because I'm treated as less than anyone who is straight and doing the same thing I am. I WANT to go there as a legal citizen and live out my life and work like any straight couple, but I'm at a loss.", "summary": "I'm gay, my partner lives in the US, I live in Canada. Finding work (that will sponsor my citizenship) in a certain very specific area is nigh impossible. How do I go to be with him?"}
{"id": "t3_30rduk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend [20 F] of 6 months who is very attractive", "post": "I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 6 months but we were casually dating before for about 3 months. We both knew I was moving away to study for one year so we never decided to officially start dating. However I came home for thanksgiving after a month without seeing each other and she had asked if we could try to date long distance and I was all for it. \n\nThings had been going well, we skyped each other almost nightly and we saw each other at Christmas and she came to visit me at school a few weeks back. Everything seemed to be going ok until very recently when she started to act distant and almost secretive. I hear about her hanging out with guy friends and stories of men hitting on her a lot lately and I find it really difficult not to get jealous.  I have never been the jealous type but I find it so hard when it is long distance and because she is absolutely gorgeous. She is the most attractive woman I have ever been with and I know she could date many different guys who happen to live in the same city as her. \n\nI have not informed her of my jealousy or suspicions and I don't intend to, but I really care for her and I know how great things are when we are together. I am just unsure if there is anything I can do to ensure I don't lose her. \n\nI am going to see her in a few weeks again for one week, then we go three months (the longest time so far) without seeing one another and I fear that this could be the end of the relationship. \n\nBased on this I have a few questions for people out in R/ Relationships\n\n* Am I just being paranoid or should I be concerned?\n\n* How do you deal with jealousy when you can't be with your SO?\n\n* How do you deal with men hitting on your attractive girlfriends?\n\n* Is there anything I can do when I see her next to show her how much this relationship means to me, without acting clingy or jealous?", "summary": "Long distance relationship with beautiful girlfriend, she is acting distant, I am feeling jealous, worried this could be near its end."}
{"id": "t3_2kxm95", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] and GF[26 F] 3 months. Financial issues; splitting the bill versus switching to pay", "post": "I was late to start dating (24), and just recently got my first girlfriend. At first, I would pick up the bill for all the dates, but she started picking up the bill every now and then, and I thought it would somehow normalize. I make about twice as much as her, but I have expenses that she doesn't (car payments, student loans, extra money spent on rent, extra money taken out from taxes.) Before I started dating her, I had about $500 a month left to put in savings. The past few months I had been taking about $400 a month out of savings along with using payments that would have went to student loans while my loan plan was being restructured ($650 a month.) That's a little over $1500 a month.    \n  \nWe see each other nearly every day, so it can get quite expensive. She prefers to eat out quite a bit, which is not something I did before meeting her. I told her I was spending way too much money, and she said she was too (note: she borrows money from her parents when she doesn't have enough.)  \n  \nLast week, we had issues about both of us being passive aggressive towards each other and took a little time off. Started seeing her again, and made a point to split the check each time. She thinks its weird, and even when she offers to pay for the bill, I'd still rather split it. Switching to pay clearly wasn't even before, and I feel like it would be easier to split all the bills.  \n  \nIs splitting the bill less romantic? If we do decide to switch off, how can I make sure it's even?", "summary": "Girlfriend views splitting the bill less romantic than switching off, but I end up spending way more than her."}
{"id": "t3_2463pc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my classmate/potential roommate [20M]. Found out some closer friends want me as a roommate, not sure how to go about letting the other guy down.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nAfter talking with a college classmate of mine about living situations, we went out searching for an apartment to live in. We didn't come to any solid conclusions, but we did narrow it down.\n\nProblem is, I have recently found out that a few friends of mine are in need of a roommate and want me to join them in apartment hunting.\n\nNothing is set in stone with my friends, but if it gets to the point where I need to let the original guy down, I'm not sure how to do it without hurting him.\n\nI'd like to have the talk with him as soon as possible, but I'm not sure how to do it without upsetting him. What is the best approach to this?", "summary": "Might need to ditch the guy I was supposed to get an apartment with for some other friends, dont want to hurt the original guys feelings. How do I manage without coming off as a total asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_1y7l6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 F] have questions about how to be come more independent for a healthier relationship.", "post": "My (30f)idea of a great relationship is one free of dependency. I'd love to be independent with a partner that's independent as well. Especially when it comes to feelings.\n\nI'm currently single, but seeing someone(28m). I hate how bummed out I get when he doesn't text me back. And it also don't think it's healthy how happy I get when he finally does text me back. \n\nI feel like my moods shouldn't be so dependant on his attention.  Do you think this is a confidence issue? I feel like he isn't waiting by his phone for me to text. If I didn't text him back that night, I doubt he stayed up for an hour thinking about it. \n\nAny thoughts on what to do with these emotions? How to control them? Any thoughts on relationships with low dependency? And tips on becoming an independent person entering into a relationship? \n\nSide note - I ended a extremely dependant relationship of 6 years with a guy with severe depression about 10 months ago.", "summary": "how do I become independent and control my emotions better? How much independence is good for a healthy relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2jtgxl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a sexist joke in my women's lit class", "post": "I'm one of two guys in my women's lit class. I usually sit right in front of the other guy, and we're always cracking each other up by making (subtle) sexist **jokes.** (It's one of those in-the-moment things)\n\nAnyways, I'm out of it, having stayed up the whole night before. The professor is talking about the Presidential elections in a few years, how Hilary could be president, etc. etc. He then asks where we were when we found out that Obama was first elected president. A girl raises her hand and says \"I was in the kitchen with my family, we all started cheering\", or something like that.\n\nI turn around to my friend and whisper discretely, \"Of course she would be in the kitchen\".\n\nExcept it's not my friend. He's absent. IT'S THE FUCKING PRESIDENT OF THE WOMEN'S RIGHTS CLUB. She stands up and instantly shouts/announces that she'll be dropping the class because there are certain people in the class who are anti-women, and that she's disgusted that people like me exist. (while staring and pointing at me the whole time, I pretty much wanted to dissolve on the spot)", "summary": "I made a sexist joke to the president of the women's rights club, who proceeded to call me out in front of the class and storm out, now the whole class + professor thinks I'm against women in general."}
{"id": "t3_1lbg99", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[21M] have grown really close to my best friend [21F], who her roommate told me that she is not interested in me. Do I trust my guts and ask her out or trust her roommate?", "post": "Over the past month and a half, one of my best friends and I have become nearly inseparable. We've been seeing each other every day for at least the past two weeks, and when we are not together, we text and chat. Neither have taken the extra step to make this formally into a relationship, but I was planning to tell her my sincere feelings about her very soon. But before I can make that move, i thought I needed some consultation.\n\nThe girl I've fallen for and her roommate have been living together for three years and are the best of buddies. The roommate, however, did miss out on witness the beginning and the maturation of our budding relationship because she went abroad for most of the summer. Two weeks after she came back, I told the roommate in private during a party about my feelings for the friend, and she slapped me in the face, saying that my friend's not interested and that it's a bad idea. The roommate explained to me that my friend grew attached to me because she doesn't have a lot of friends (which is true) and because I was really the only one around her over the summer.\n\nI am confused because I am getting mixed signals inside my head. I would believe that the friend and her roommate talked about me in the two weeks both were together. But we have developed such a comfort level with each other that is expected of girlfriend and boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's worth it to ask my friend out when her closest confidant tells me the contrary.", "summary": "Became inseparable from my best friend, her roommate tells me that the friend is not interested in starting a relationship. I am left dazed and confused and unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2n8v9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26m] with my pregnant wife [27f] or four years, I'm feeling guilty about my flirtatious urges", "post": "Ok, some background. She is 6 months pregnant, everything is going well on that front.  We are both happy to be parents and our professional lives are moving in positive directions.  Overall, we are happy together and only ever have small disagreements. We are very compatible on most levels. \n\nSexually she is slightly more controlling than I would like.  Only likes it certain ways, gets uncomfortable and upset with much experimentation.  We've talked about this but our relationship is more important.  With her pregnancy the sex has dropped off, but my libido isn't super high and I don't think that's an issue\n\nAfter a separation of a married couple we are close friends with, she confided in me that she had gotten drunk and made out with a work friend just before she had gotten pregnant (definitely not sex, definitely my baby) and had kept it from me.  She apologized profusely and I accepted it.  We even make jokes about it now (go make out with your other boyfriend, is that girl gonna be the one you make out with to even us out, etc.) though maybe we shouldn't? Maybe that makes it worse?\n\nRecently I've found myself wanting to flirt and make new connections with the opposite sex.  New friends through old ones, hanging out at the bar, playing games at a game store I go to, Facebook friends I haven't talked to much recently.  I don't really have sexual feelings towards anybody in particular, but I miss getting to know someone on more than a surface level. \n\nI want to get the validation of someone liking me and my sense of humor, but I don't want to cheat.  Is there any practical way to get that thrill of meeting someone new without being disrespectful of my marriage?", "summary": "My man lizard brain wants to cheat on my pregnant wife who made out with a work friend several months ago, I don't.  How do I satisfy lizard brain without hurting my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_2uqkgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-gf[F -20] said she wanted to marry me then dumped me [M-22] almost a week later", "post": "Not sure what happened here had been with this girl for 8 months and never spent more than a day apart, then one day out of the blue she says she wants to get married.  I wasn't against this but wasn't going to jump into this right away.  However about a week later she started acting really distant , I figured she wanted to dump me so I tried to break things off for both our sakes but she said she still loved me and immediately changed. However the very next day she dumps me stating:\n1. I'm better off without her\n2. She's not \"happy\"\n3. She wants to be independent\n4. She still loves me\n\nI'm really lost as to what happened here or what could have brought about such an unexpected change... I normally can read people very well and I don't think there was another dude involved here.  Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend says she wanted to get married then dumps me a week later - I don't get it?"}
{"id": "t3_48uz44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28F) got tired of waiting for BF (27M) to show up.", "post": "BG: So my boyfriend lives in an apartment building that's gated and you can't enter the building without one of those key passes.  As a result, I'm always waiting for him when I drive up.  Even when I give him a heads up that I'm five minutes away, I'll still be parked and waiting between 5 - 10 minutes for him to ride the elevator down so he can let me in.  We've been together 1.5 years.\n\nWe had plans for me to pick up Panera and for my daughter (5) and me to have dinner at his place.  He tells to let him know when to leave work (he typically gets off at 5:30) and I text him at 5:40 to let him know he should leave, since it takes 10 - 15 minutes to drive home.  No response, but whatever.  \n\nI pull up to the apartment at 5:50 and I let him know I'm parked.  15 minutes pass by and I text him that I hope he's on his way.  No response.  30 minutes pass by.  I'm still sitting in my car with a bag of food and a bored, hungry, five year old.  So I text him that I am leaving and do so.\n\nSo he calls five minutes later, while I'm driving away, apologizing about having been pulled into something for work and saying he is on his way home and wants me to turn around.  I'm halfway to my own place (as I live ten minutes away from him), so I say no.  We wouldn't be eating until seven at this rate if I turn around, so I tell him that I'm gonna eat at home, but he can pick up his food if he likes or eat at my house after he lets his dog out.\n\nHe refuses and then calls me stubborn and that I have no empathy because I don't turn around and now he doesn't want to have lunch with me tomorrow.  Did I handle it badly?  I wasn't really mad at him, I just wanted to get home, was tired of waiting and tired from work and want to put my kid who has school tomorrow to bed by eight and staying there would delay that.", "summary": "Waited for BF to get home and left after waiting for 30 minutes before he called and said he was on his way.  Am I a bitch for not turning around?"}
{"id": "t3_1smgwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] feel like I'm messing something up with the girl I've been 'dating' [21 F] for roughly a week.", "post": "I've had one relationship in my life.  It started in high school, ended last year, and left me in the crap situation of having no idea what I'm doing in terms of dating someone who, as far as I can tell, is really great for me and nails everything I'm looking for in a partner.\n\nAs far as I can tell, she feels the same way about me.  We talk a lot, have a ton in common, and generally have a really great time when we're together.  We met online but live relatively close and plan to meet up next month.\n\nMy problem is that I know I'm being *way* too clingy.  I brought it up and she claims she doesn't mind, but I definitely feel distance and coldness when I'm talking to her while she's doing something else.  I also try to keep in touch with her all the time, exchanging texts when I'm at work or she's in class, and talking online when we're both at home.\n\nI feel like I'm being immature, or in this case very 'clingy', and normally I play piano or games or just browse Reddit/Youtube when I'm bored and not doing anything, but ever since I met her and things started getting somewhat serious, I can't focus on anything else other than \"oh shit what did i do why doesn't she want to talk to me now\".  Little pangs of jealousy kick in when she's doing something I can't do with her, but I know it's absolutely ridiculous to expect her attention constantly.\n\nI want to get this feeling out of my system before it starts becoming a serious problem.  I know she likes me and enjoys my company, but even still I know that too much of it is going to fracture the relationship before it gets high enough off the ground.", "summary": "Trying to avoid messing up with someone I really like, how can I get the 'clingyness' out of my system?"}
{"id": "t3_2rq0ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] uncomfortable with dating [29 F] who has active facebook, how about you?", "post": "I just started going out with this girl, we both just met each other too. \nI am a private guy, I like intimacy and privacy. However I just noticed this girl has a very active facebook, and it's making me very uncomfortable when I'm otherwise very secure of myself and confident around her when we're out together.\n\nShe has like 1k+ friends (compared to my sub-200 count, I hate fb.), and any posts she makes (boring/trivial to awesome news/photos) gets like 30 - 50 \"Likes\" , and they're all from dudes.\n\nI really like this girl and I guess I am starting to assume \"why I like her\"... what do you guys think? Should I continue pursuing?\n\nI'm posting and asking 'cause I wanna get a sense what 'is normal'... and I'm struggling if I should just ignore it and own the fact that the other thousand dudes can like her but I'm the one going home with her, or if I should quit it now since I'm looking for a serious long-term relationship and not a playdate.\n\nAlso, it's a 3-5 year \"interval\" between any single date I actually secure, I'm used to getting rejected. So now I'm actually super stoked and treasuring the fact that I have someone that is interested in spending time with me, which is making it even harder to decide what to do...", "summary": "Girl I just started dating has tons of dudes \"Liking\" her activity on facebook and is making me very uncomfortable, can't decide if I should quit now or ignore?"}
{"id": "t3_28rcyf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it even worth pursuing anymore? (24/m)", "post": "So I met this young lady (f/22) at work. She was student teaching, and I am a temp aide who worked closely with the teacher she student taught for. Right away, we got along very well. Because I was in her class just  about every day, we had good conversations, usually joked back and forth, maybe borderline flirted. I was very attracted to her, but obviously had to be professional.\n\nI did some info digging (and by that I mean asked her what she did for fun) and no boyfriend was ever mentioned. I felt good about asking her out, but there was never time. Usually we were around at least one student, or another teacher, or the situation was chaotic and not convenient. Her placement ended but she came back to sub, as friendly as ever, but again there was no time to ask her.\n\nHer last day there, I thought I had a shot. I stopped by during her free period to talk. We were doing our usual small talk about job hunting, and I asked what she was doing that weekend, and she responded work (She had told me worked at Dicks Sporting Goods), and that she was closing that weekend. I was just about to pop the question to do something when she WASN'T working....and sure enough a kid walks in needing extra help!! And of course he stays there the whole period!!!!!\n\nI didn't have a chance after that. Now the school year's over, so she won't be back to sub, and I don't even know if I'll be back at the school next year. I've \"dropped by\" her store at times she would likely be working just to see was there, but she wasn't. (It's a big chain so there's multiple locations in our metro area). These places are about 15-30 minutes away and I can't keep chasing after her like that, lest I come off as desperate or a stalker, which I am not. \n\nShould I keep trying? Try something different? Give up completely? I have had **Horrible** luck with women and am getting frustrated at seeing what looks like a sure thing fade away, but I don't know if I should give up.", "summary": "Met girl through work, very good connection/chemistry, school year is over and am trying to figure out if I still have a chance by finding her at other job"}
{"id": "t3_2vb7jj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [22/M] and I [22/F] had an extremely smooth, mutual/amicable breakup but does that make it easier or harder to be friends? So confused.", "post": "Ex and I had a bit of an odd breakup. We dated for over 1.5 years, but realized we were going in two completely different places in life. The breakup didn't come out of nowhere - I hadn't been romantically interested in him for a while, but the way it happened did come as a surprise to me. We talked on the phone and decided that it would be best if we didn't date any longer and I haven't talked to him since.\n\nHe expressed that he still wanted to be friends (straight away) while I wanted to be alone for a bit. For the first few days I was a bit of a mess because although I was glad the relationship was finally over, I really missed his company, I consider him to be one of my best friends.\n\nIt's been almost 2 weeks now and I am extremely confused. I go through phases of still wanting to be friends with him and having no desire to be his friend at all. All I know is that I am absolutely certain that I do not want to get back together with him.\n\nI know I'll have to eventually reach out to him soon as I need to give him some stuff back and figure out what we're supposed to do with future plans we had e.g. we had tickets to go to a concert next month and plans for a roadtrip. But I have no idea how to approach it.\n\nI also feel like since our breakup was kind of abrupt (pretty much a 10 minute phonecall) I may need some closure by having a longer conversation in person but is that even necessary at this point? And how does one approach becoming friends with an ex?\n\nI am just so confused.", "summary": "Ex and I had a quick, mutual breakup over the phone but confused as to whether being friends is a good idea or not. I really miss him as a best friend, not as a boyfriend. Will need to contact him at some point so how do I do it? Do I need a conversation in person for closure?"}
{"id": "t3_31bk4w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching \"The Faltner Stars\"", "post": "This actually happened about a month ago.\n\nI don't pay attention to upcoming releases of movies and books usually, so when my girlfriend asked if I wanted to watch \"The Faltner Stars\" with her I was a little intrigued because I like sci-fi movies and just assumed with the title that it'd involve space or something. And look it had that actress from Divergent, which even further supported my idea that it was going to be a sci-fi movie. The story was taking forever to develop (honestly I zoned out for the first 20 minutes and didn't realize the kids had cancer until I asked why one of the characters was going to have his eyes removed).\n\nSo at this point I gathered that there was a group/couple of kids with cancer and they had a dream to go to Amsterdam to visit an author they felt could provide them with answers. At this point I was seriously expecting the author to be a space traveling alien or something that cures their cancer (magic or alien tech) and the couple then live happily ever after in space. Things kept going wrong and it seemed like their dreams would not be achievable, but they eventually beat the odds and were able to go to Amsterdam and meet the author. Suddenly Willem Dafoe. Willem plays a mean old man that doesn't give a shit about the kids or anyone else, my confusion hits a peak at this point as I thought this was a sci-fi (\"Did they seriously use such an awesome actor for such a small role?\" I asked myself). Then there's this scene at Anne Frank's house and I ask my girlfriend what the fuck was going on and tell her that this is the slowest sci-fi movie I've ever watched. I am then finally told that this movie is called \"The Fault in Our Stars\" and that it is nowhere near a sci-fi movie. It's gonna take awhile to live this down.", "summary": "Willem Dafoe was not a space wizard that cures cancer."}
{"id": "t3_3xpie8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[33/M] wife[32/F] asked for an open marriage, and I don't know where to go from here.", "post": "Met Stacy in college, and we have been married for 11 years. We have always had open communication, and one thing I have told her was any time she felt unsatisfied, with our sex, with our emotional health, with anything, is to never be afraid to tell me, so we could discuss it and work it out.\n\nAbout 7 years ago we got our feet wet with nonmongamy, and had two threesomes, one MMF, one MFF. Curiosity was satisfied and we both agreed we didn't need to do anymore.\n\nLife went on, quite happily for us. We are both high libido, and I still find her sexy as ever, and we have sex usually once a day, still. I am completely happy with our sex life, and completely happy with her.\n\nWhich is why when she asked me for an open relationship yesterday, it hit me in the gut. I asked her why, and she said she just needed to spice up her sex life, that she needs to date and be with different people. I asked her to let me think about it.\n\nIt is like a punch in the gut. I feel inadequate now, I had always thought she was pleased with me. I have no desire for others, nor do I have the time to try and work, maintain a marriage, and date on the side(truthfully have no idea how people handle so many partners, it sounds exhausting). I also know that this will cut directly into time with my wife, which hurts even more. What kind of marriage is it where you only see your spouse a few nights a week?\n\nI know I don't want this, but I don't know what this means for our marriage. What can I do?", "summary": "Wife wants open marriage, I don't."}
{"id": "t3_1hnhft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24M] met this girl [23M] at a Physiotherapy clinic I go to. We have been talking for a few months. What do I do?", "post": "So as the title suggests, I met this girl at a Physiotherapy clinic I go to for my back. I go there around 3 times a week. We started talking there and sooner or later I added her onto fb (turns out, we have a few friends in common). So we end up talking for a while, like 4 months. I talk to her a LOT on fb and at the clinic, and we've chilled like once outside the clinic. We open up to eachother and start telling each other a lot of personal stuff. I would have asked her out sooner, but for health reasons, I wasnt able to go out too often. My health has gotten better though. \n\nBut lately, I've noticed that she is becoming a little bit distant, and doesnt talk as much as we used to. I end up initiating the conversation more and more often. In the past two weeks, Ive asked her to hang out, but she said she is busy. Whether she is bullshitting or not, I dont know. My friends say that I'm giving her wayyyy too much attention, and I agree. Im sure she knows that I have the hots for her. And as a result, I've have gotten friendzoned, or something similar, because when we do talk, she really likes to get into it. Hell, I asked her to chill today, and no dice.\n\nNow people are saying that I should stop talking to her for a week or so. Just to show that Im not dependant on her. Thing is, I would like to date her eventually, later on. Did I mess things up completely? or is it salvageable? Some tips or opinions would really help.", "summary": "Girl I met may be losing interest. Is there any way to turn it around? or should I pull the chute?"}
{"id": "t3_1plgl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21f] talk to my boyfriend [24m] about the extreme emotional/physical abuse I suffered as a child?", "post": "Basically some really awful stuff went down in my childhood and while it doesn't really affect me outwardly, it is sort of important to know and some things do kind of set me off. He has a vague idea, at least I think so becasue I've mentioned it in passing but I don't think he really understands because lately he's sort of been berating me for things that I'm afraid of that kind of stem from those issues or whatever but I don't think he really understands that. \n\nHow do I explain everything to him without making it sound like I'm looking for a pity party or without completely turning him off to me for being an emotionally high-maintenence mess with slight PTSD?", "summary": "How do I talk about my issues without sounding like a nutcase and making my boyfriend afraid he's sticking his dick in crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_12h2nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/f) was advised by my Dr. that I have a narrow window for pregnancy. My bf (21) of a year is not up for it. My best friend (23/m) volunteered to donate sperm. Is there a right answer?", "post": "My bf and I have been dating for almost a year and we have a nice thing going. We aren't too serious though but we have fun and our lives mesh well. Neither of us is near ready to settle down and have kids.\n\nBut... I have endometriosis and need to have surgery soon. Which my bf has been completely sure of. My doctor told me that if I prioritize having natural children I need to have them as soon as possible after the dilation or it might never happen. \n\nAnd I really want them. I have already graduated and have my own place and support myself, so it wouldn't be way too early for me. Just early. He is still in school and then has his masters and doesn't want kids until he's thirty. Which..great, but I don't have  that long.\n\nI might just be sad and try and learn to live with never bearing my own children, but my best friend offered to donate sperm. We've been best friends since high school and it's an offer from the soul.\n\nHowever, I know this will end my current relationship and complicate my friendship. I just don't know what's right.", "summary": "I (22/4) was advised by my Dr. that I have a narrow window for pregnancy. I have a degree and am selfsupporting, I could do it. My bf (21) of a year is not up for it. He is still in school and has a long time left. My best friend (23/m) volunteered to donate sperm. I know if I accept this, I will end my relationship and complicate my friendship. But I will get a baby in return, one I might never have otherwise. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2ile6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30/m) girlfriend (31/f) snooped through my email and is moving out", "post": "So my girlfriend asked me for the password to my computer. There isn't one, and I told her as much. \n\nApparently after she got done shopping, she got into my email and searched herself. She found some older gchats from a few months ago where I had talked to a couple of old friends about some fights we had. I didn't say anything derogatory, just explained what happened. These people live nowhere near us and are not in our current shared social circle, and very close to me and not judgmental, so I thought it would be ok to get things off my chest. I also had an email exchange from a while back when we had broken up and (subsequently) gotten back together with my mother, who was just saying it sounds like we just got in a fight, she really likes her, and if we get back together, she'd be happy.\n\nThis very much angered her, and she claims she can never look at those people without feeling shame. Right now she's apartment hunting.\n\nI guess my main question here is if I did anything that terrible. I understand her embarrassment, but it wasn't anything bad, just arguments, that I was talking about. And she's flat out told me she's complained to her friends about me. Friends we used to see often.\n\nThe other thing is that it took a bit of effort for her to find those. Even just searching her name, she had to go through a few hundred messages to find anything incriminating. It feels very violating, honestly.\n\nThanks for reading. I'd like honest feedback so I don't repeat the same mistakes. I don't know if the relationship is salvageable though.", "summary": "girlfriend found some older email exchanges of me talking about some fights. Now she's moving out. I feel like she was kind of out of line, especially since it wasn't anything too terrible."}
{"id": "t3_1huhsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am wrong and enraged by my [22 M] bf of 4 years", "post": "He is pretty much always right about everything and always proves it. It's very frustrating. A third of the time, things just turn into arguments, and he always wins. I am enraged. \n\nIf it matters, the most recent fight was about lyrics to a popular song and we both looked up the lyrics and he turned up to right. again. surprise. I am pissed off about it since it's happened several times and I can't just be right once. Is it too much to ask for him to at least let me feel right once or twice?\n\nI can't be immature and lash out at him for being right, but I can't stand to keep being wrong and to keep feeling like shit for always being wrong and getting upset about it. I am too angry to sleep. \n\nAdvice?", "summary": "I am mad about always being wrong in my bf's \"quiz games\" and don't know exactly how to approach the issue."}
{"id": "t3_2oxyhe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F]. She lied about keeping in contact with her ex", "post": "When my girlfriend and I started dating 7 months ago, she mentioned she had a crazy stalker ex who was still crazy over her and would call/text her once in a while although she said she wouldn't reciprocate. I didn't think much of it.\n\nThis past weekend she told me that this guy tried calling her saying he would try to break up our relationship. When I asked her the reasons why he would want to do that, she was not straightforward with me and I felt something was up.\n\nSo I found the number of the other guy and called him up. Surprisingly, he said years ago she used to be madly in love him and went pscyho trying to ruin his life and trying to break up his relationships. He also said that on the friday before the weekend, she texted him asking to give her and a friend a ride from the bar. Furthermore, he said that they do text each other in a while.\n\nWhen I confronted my girlfriend about all this, she confessed and said everything was true. But she said the only reason she talked to him was to keep tabs as he used to be a big part of her life. As for the reason for asking for a ride, she said she was just drunk with her friend and needed  a ride home (I don't have a car). \n\nShe said she didn't want to tell me about the truth because she didn't want me to get upset. But why did she lie and tell me he's a crazy stalker when in truth she was reciprocating? Also I was shocked she asked him for a ride while she was really drunk. She never told me any of this.\n\nIn all honesty, I don't think she had the intention of cheating, but I just think she doesn't want to let go of the past. She still says she loves me and would never want him over me, which I believe.\n\nWhat scares me most is how she lied about the whole situation. I feel like my trust for her has been severely violated and I don't know how to move forward. Is this something I should forgive? Or are these signs that she might do something like this in the future and I should get out while I can?", "summary": "Girlfriend lied to me about keeping in contact with an ex, who she claimed was stalking/harassing her. Truth is she was also keeping tabs on him too."}
{"id": "t3_vzw8w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cliche alert--based on your experience, how do you heal a broken heart?", "post": "This is more or less a throwaway account, thought I don't think she reads this subreddit, anyway.\n\nI'd been with the same woman for a long time--won't say how long, exactly, but closer to ten years than five--and my love for her has only grown over time. She inspired me to be a better person, and to do things I never thought I would do (go to college, love myself, etc.) I basically built my life around her (yeah, I know that's a stupid thing to do or whatever, but I thought we were in it for the long haul) We did the long distance thing while I was at college. It was really tough but we managed (actually, she might have managed a little too well). I graduated a month or two ago, and all I could think about was how jazzed out of my head I was to finally start my life with her, though aware that it would take work readjusting to no longer being long-distance. I went home with her graduation night, she told me we needed to talk, she dumped me, I cried on the couch until morning. She had grown accustomed to being alone and felt that I would stifle her independence. For me, it came out of nowhere. We had both always been really respectful and open with each other. Our relationship, it seemed, had been, if not perfect, functional, loving and fulfilling. Needless to say, I am having a really hard time getting over this. I still love her, and I feel lost and incomplete without her, but now I also feel sick and ashamed that I couldn't read her well enough to see this coming. Friends have tried to help, but all anyone has offered were well-intended platitudes. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Were you able to move on? How did you do it?", "summary": "major breakup came out of the blue. very sad. very lost. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_100fxo", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help! The police are trying to screw me over.", "post": "I'm in the stillwater Oklahoma area and just got written 2 tickets totalling 700 dollars. \n\nIt's a college town so there are parties all the time and last week I went to one and we got a noise complaint. When the police came to the door I answered like a good samaritain and they instantly started trying to strong arm me. I apologized and they didn't write me a ticket so all is good right?\n\nApparently they came back a couple times cause the party didn't die down looking for me or the owner and no one answered the door. In our earlier conversation (which was mostly them telling me to shut up and that I'm being disrespectful...) I had mentioned I work at Taco Bell. Bad idea. \n\nThey came to my work. They came to my place of employment so they could take me outside and berate me. I honestly asked why they were being so apprehensive and one of the officers took huge offense and started writing a ticket for disturbing the peace. For 150 dollars. I asked how I was disturbing anything by trying to work so he wrote me another ticket saying I had hampered police investigation by not opening the door again. I don't even live there. \n\nHelp me reddit, I need any advice at all on how to lessen this. I have a baby girl due in December and I can't even halfway pay this money.", "summary": "police are trying to screw me because they have some grudge or biased against young people."}
{"id": "t3_1fubg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just the general rules about going on a break? (22m) (19f)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating 6 months now. We just have a disagreement about what a break in a relationship really is. We're not going on a break but I just fail to understand what the hell a break even is. The way I see it, a break is very close to a breakup, in which the people are free to see others and could develop feelings for those other people. My girlfriend knows people her age that have gone on a break and are now still dating after it, so she views it as something that could benefit a couple and help them grow while apart and get back together in the future. It could just be the age difference between us that leads to this different view. With my current situation, which would require me to basically be a shut in for four months (studying for the LSAT) we may go on a break in the future. I'm just asking you guys to help me understand what a break actually is.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have a different view of a break, and due to current circumstances on my part, we might go on a break in the future (even though I don't want one). Just explain to me what a break actually is."}
{"id": "t3_10nbbm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Oh hey Reddit, I'm getting screwed over (royally) by my roommate, anything I can do to screw him over?", "post": "Back Story\n\nI found my roommate randomly, and moved in quickly. No sublease was signed (stupid I know, but I was desperate) and things have slowly deteriorated. He's super messy, things are leaking, and just plain dirty living conditions. To top it all off, because my roommate and landlord have \"bad blood\" he hasn't be paying rent. This only came to light for me because the Marshall came and took the apartment for 24hours. So, I had been paying him, and he probably was spending it on hookers and blackjack. After the lack of rent paying came about, I informed him that I would no longer be paying him directly, and wanted to pay the landlord instead. Anger flared (on his part, I think it's a legit request), and he told me to be out of the room by Oct 2nd. Thankfully I have a supportive SO who will let me live with him temporally (and NO, it is not an option to live with him permanently), but I'm stuck trying to find a mover for Oct. 1st. and a new roommate situation ASAP. All while working and going to school full time. First world problems, I know. \n\nSo Reddit, whats a clandestine and classy way (AKA not illegal) to screw him over?", "summary": "My roommate doesn't like to pay rent so I am being forced to relocate and really want to send him a nice FUCK YOU."}
{"id": "t3_3xk79g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] found out my girlfriend [18 F] sexually cheated on me and ended it. I feel terrible.", "post": "Every time i brought her ex up she told me a little more. Finally, tonight, she admitted to fooling around with him multiple times while we were dating.\n\nI feel terrible. I ended it and I know she's devastated. It hurt me saying goodbye. I feel dirty. I feel like I lived a lie for such a long time. \n\nOn top of all of this (i can't explain it and i know it makes no sense) but if anyone finds out that her and I were talking tonight, i can be fired. I work at a church and made a commitment to be single for a year to grow as a single man. I know it sounds crazy, please don't dwell on this portion. \n\nI have the option of telling my uplink that I broke my commitment to the church and come clean with a chance of being fired on the spot. I don't know what's worse. Living with the guilt and fear of getting found out... or telling them and coming clean with a chance of getting fired too.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated. I ended it. I feel terrible. I could be fired. How do I move on and not feel bad for her?"}
{"id": "t3_3azz1f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU : Not meeting her needs", "post": "I should start off by saying, she broke up with me (over snapchat >.< ) 3 days ago..\n\nSo, firstly I don't have the confidence that many of you have.. As a gamer and not really much more, being with a girl as cute and funny (insert more compliments that makes me miss her ) was apsolutely amazing. But, a month has passed and I hadn't even kissed her.. We'd joke about it and how I was being a pussy but I couldn't do it.\n\nAfter ignoring me for 2 days (I didn't spam, as I figured I'd done something wrong.. Still asked if she was ok) I got a snapchat message saying that it just isn't working and we shouldn't go out anymore. \n\nIf only I had that confidence, I really liked her too.", "summary": "didn't kiss my girlfriend for a month, she broke up with me on snapchat >..< (still can't get over that. So funny) "}
{"id": "t3_1pqzkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] just broke up with my GF of 6 months [21/F] because the reasons of her past. Did I did the right thing? [more details inside]", "post": "We were very much in love for past 6 months. We practically lived together (she slept over at least 5 days per week), we had some travels, meet the family and everything that makes a real relationship. I knew she had at least 10 boyfriends before me, 2 of them were serious relationships of 1 and 2 years. She cheated her ex boyfriend of 1 year with some guy. After she finished having sex with him she will call her boyfriend and say how much she love him and miss him. I was disguised with that and thinking \"OK, at least she broke up with him and 15 days later she started dating me and we are doing fine\".\n\nWell, last night she forgot to log off from facebook and I wanted to see if she is still in touch with the guy she was having sex. She is not in contact (at least not on facebook) but she is visiting his profile. The thing that disguised me is what she told her sister about whole cheating: She was with her boyfriend brother wedding, got into fight with BF and left wedding and gone by herself to the bars. After a while she stumble upon on guy she was cheating with and gone into back alley and had sex in street. She described how good he was fucking her that night at street. I almost throw up.\n\nI want a princess, not a whore. I need a serious GF. I can't get that image out of my head. I broke up with her and told her everything. She has no regrets and shame for that night for fucking him on streets.\n\nDid I did a right thing?\n\nSorry for my poor English.", "summary": "I found out my GF fucked some guy in back alley 15 days before we started dating so I broke up with her."}
{"id": "t3_ezuy0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do if you were paralyzed tomorrow?", "post": "I was doing some volunteer work for a hospital and met a guy named Connor.  He's 22 and is awesome.\nI was wondering what you would do if you were in his shoes:\n\nAbbreviated Transcript:\n>\"Before my accident I was going to college at RIT in upstate New York.\n>Was going into my senior year.\n>Worked at a restaurant over the summer.\n>I was at a coworker party at a camp.  Dove off a dock with a few of my buddies. \n>There was a rock right below the surface.  Cut the top of my head just right on the rock and couldn't move from the neck down.\n>They pulled me out after I passed out facedown in the water.  Got me to the hospital and then got helicoptered to a couple others.\n>But um, I'm here.\"\n\n>\"Long time, though - I want to be able to walk again.\"\n\nMore information: I've worked with Connor and he's amazingly upbeat.  I've had this video for over a year now and haven't really known what to do with it.  It was just an impromptu mini interview.\nI can't imagine being as upbeat after becoming a quad as he is.  \n\nSide note: I found out today he got kicked from his insurance.", "summary": "What would you do if you go paralyzed from the neck down tomorrow?  The kid above was, but he's a total badass about it. Smiles when talking about getting better."}
{"id": "t3_3mglg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M 35, married for 7 years. My wife is having all sorts of male friendships and getting further and further from a joint social life with me. I'm cool with her having her own life but when should I start feeling sleighted?", "post": "I trust her.  But we spend zero time together anymore. She spends more time at a bar with dudes I don't even know, coming home late, and keeping me up all night.  At best when we spend time together, she sits on the couch texting friends.  Last night we had a fight and she left at midnight until 2 am to go drinking when the kids have to get up at 7 am for soccer.  I would love to have a life like that but don't have time to meet anyone because all I do I work, so my social life is her...and she wants no part of it.  I just go to work to pay for the family, then get ignored by her.  It's really really depressing.", "summary": "guess if I was included in the social circle it wouldn't faze me at all but she doesnt want me a part of it...idk... "}
{"id": "t3_12i0ro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24f] seeing my ex-boyfriend [27m], would I seem desperate and pathetic if I looked hot?", "post": "I dated this guy for 2 months, and he broke up with me. I'm meeting him soon to get my stuff back and I was just wondering how I should dress.\n\nI told him I would meet him after a meeting, so should I just show up in slacks and a nice shirt? I originally wanted to wear a hot dress and make him drool but I just realized how pathetic it might seem. I was going to tell him I was headed to the bar to relax - that's why I look so sexy - but I'm sure he could see right through it. Yet I don't want to look like a total square and wear nice clothes, you know? But I feel like he'll be expecting me to look hot for him, and I don't want them.\n\nSo professional or hot?", "summary": "I'm seeing an ex, don't know whether I should dress hot or conservative, lest I seem desperate. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2duwdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF [21M] of 5 months. LDR is coming to an end, but he is becoming more distant...", "post": "Throwaway because paranoid. Sorry in advance if there's poor grammar/spelling... I'm basically venting.\n\nBasically, we jumped into this relationship a few months before going on summer break from college. In hindsight, this may have been foolish. We live ~3 hours apart. Earlier in the summer, everything was fine and dandy: we skyped weekly, texted all day every day, and went and visited each other. He was busy with work this whole time too. \n\nLately I've noticed we don't text as much unless I initiate conversation. He is done with his internship and isn't doing anything else as far as I'm aware, so I figured I would get more attention from him. I feel needy and immature at the thought even bringing this up with him, but really, shouldn't he WANT to talk to me seeing as I'm his GF? At least a \"hey how was your day\" would suffice. We're both moving back to school soon; I'll see him in a week. Is he just settling into the relationship/taking it for granted? Should I wait it out and see if it gets better?", "summary": "Communication with BF in LDR has become nonexistent unless I initiate it. We will be moving back to school and seeing each other in a week. Do I bring up the issue now or wait and see if things go back to normal once we're both back at school?"}
{"id": "t3_2aeaym", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Medical debt! Help!", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMy wife and I are expecting a newborn in august. Our current health insurance basically involves us meeting a 10K out of pocket deductable before insurance kicks in (@ 100%). The problem we are facing now is we had some blood tests taken (muscular dystrophy, down syndrome, a few others). From what I learned now, these are out of network (which carries its own deductable, 20K). These 5 tests alone are being billed to us to the tune of around 8K. Im having trouble wrapping my head around this - is there anything I can do at this point? I'm trying to call the testing center and see if they will take a settlement or if they can meet us in the middle.", "summary": "our healthy newborn is going to cost us around 18 to be delivered."}
{"id": "t3_54hmqc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] dont know if i should keep my distance with my friend [20/f] since i feel she is developing feelings towards me.", "post": "Ok so to better explain, I have this friend that is somewhat of a bestie to me, she has been really affectionate to me and only me in our group of friends. \n\nIn the past couple of weeks she and her bf have been having a lot of fights that were really intense for what she told me (and for how obvious her sadness was) to the point of breaking up for a couple of days. I didn't want to butt in (I've known her for a couple months now) so I just told her to think wisely, and she decided to give him one last chance, and I understood since they've been together for 3 years.\n\nNowadays we've been chatting and getting really close to each other day by day in and out of college and I legit don't know what to do or not to do now. I've been trying to not develop serious feelings towards her and I also noticed she is trying to do the same. I don't know her bf personally so no friend backstabbing there.\n\nI just don't want to ruin our friendship since I've done that with most of the few girl-friends I've know in my life. She has told me that I'm attractive but don't want me to find a gf since she wouldn't be able to be as loving to me as now, that tipped me off. Also she has had a lot of boyfriends (and 1 girlfriend) and I'm still sitting at 0 so I haven't got the slightest clue of what I'm to do.\n\nJust please, don't let me fuck this up with her, I really like her, she is smart, funny, an awesome person overall. I just don't want history to repeat itself.", "summary": "A friend of mine is being too loving towards me and she has a bf, i don't know what course of action i should take."}
{"id": "t3_exz5v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you talk in the movies?", "post": "A few weeks ago, wifey and I went to a movie. People talked the entire time and didn't seem to care for my half turn, then full turn to indicate my displeasure. We tried to ignore it and enjoy the movie but once something gets under your skin, its hard to see past it.\n\nLast night we tried a night at the movies again. A couple behind us to the left had a comment about everything, sang along to the lyrics of the background music, etc. A woman behind us to the right answered HER FUCKING PHONE and had a full conversation! After a while I got fed up and said \"Are you gonna talk the whole time?\" To which I was told \"Everyone else is talking. Just enjoy the movie.\"\n\nSo after a few more words were exchanged between us and the talkers, my wife and I got up and left, assuming that they would only get worse. Is this common movie theater behavior now or am I just going to a theater full of assholes?", "summary": "Is people talking at the movies just part of the experience now?"}
{"id": "t3_3htzkr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] I'm into a guy [28M] but I found he has a girlfriend and he doesn't know that I knew it already.Personal issues (self.relationships)", "post": "We met in a facebook group and actually asked me out 8 months ago but I said no because I was busy. Last August 5 he messaged me and asked if we could meet up, I told him I was very shy and I dont have the guts to meet anyone.\n\nWe finally met on August 10 it was Saturday and we had coffee but I brought my friend with me for security reasons and we had some coffee and we had a good conversation, he asked if I was okay or he could take me home but I insisted.\n\nWhen I reached home I was browsing facebook and I accidentally saw a picture of my facebook friend (22F) and they have a picture together, I found out she was his gf. They also met from the same facebook group. And actually met last summer.\n\nHe asked me out again (it was sunday) and asked where I was, I keep on insisting that its okay but he wanted to see me, i told him where I was and he actually went there and texted me that he was already at where I was and he told me he brought their car and their driver will only take us to the terminal.\n\nHe took me home and we had some good laugh and I can't stop smiling because he's really nice and when he arrived home , he texted me saying he wanted to bite my lips and wanted to pinch my cheeks. I didnt know how to react because I know he has a gf. I wanted to tell his gf about it but I do not want to ruin anything. He also ask if I wanted to smoke weeds because I told him I was curious and he will find one for me lel", "summary": "This guy I met twice already and is very nice , he is not good looking doh but I love being with him has a gf. I dont know what to do. Should I tell his gf? I really like talking and being with him tho.HALPP"}
{"id": "t3_2gxgcj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm a bisexual female [21f] unsure weather to make contact with a girl [23f] I met 3 months ago", "post": "I'm bisexual but not out to many and I have never been with a girl, although I have wanted to for a long time. At a festival I volunteered at 3 months ago I was put on shift with a girl I'll call Hannah. Me and Hannah spent a lot of time together on shift and using her sharp gaydar I'm pretty sure she began to suspect I liked girls, so she dropped a few hints that she was gay and then made a few passes at me. I was too shy to reciprocate, especially because at that point I wasn't out to the people I attended the festival with, who me and Hannah were also working with. I stupidly left my last shift without her number and never saw her again. So today while scrolling through the volunteer group Facebook page I found a post by someone that looked a lot like her had made about a week ago, and it did turn out to be Hannah. (Not that I've been looking for her for the last 3 months, or anything.) Would it be weird to add her on Facebook and try and talk to her, or has it been too long? I feel pretty stupid for still thinking this over this 3 months later and I'm worried that I might come across as really creepy. I know this seems really trivial, but I would love for my first experience with a girl to be with her.", "summary": "Met a lesbian at a festival who was coming on to me and was too shy about my sexuality to let anything happen, not sure weather to message her 3 months later."}
{"id": "t3_3enycf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being too honest", "post": "OK this happened yesterday and I am only posting it because my fiance does not have a Reddit account (I am working on it, she is subscribed to Mandatory so yeah, baby steps) and I have \"*explicit permission*\" from said fiance to post this in her first person, as it was told to me. So I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.\n\nI walked in the back to clock in, and after I did, I realize there was money on the ground  - 2 dollars but still, not my money and $2 is still $2. I ask everyone in the back if they had seen anyone come in recently as I had not seen the money on the floor as I went in to clock in, I saw it *after*.\n\nI must have asked 30 people - \"is this *your* money?\" - finally I decided to go turn it into the manager's office in case anyone lost it. I go in, give the $2 to one of the assistant managers and told her I had asked almost everyone if it was theirs and everyone said no & even if it was just 2 bucks I couldn't keep it because it wasn't my money.\n\nI turn and walk out of the office. About 6 feet down the hallway it hits me: I had just come off break (where I had walked over to the nearby Subway and had a combo meal) and *that was *MY* $2 I had gotten back as change from my sammich!!! I had just turned in *my own money* to the lost and found after pretty loudly stating that it wasn't MY money and \"if it were me, I would hope someone would turn it in\"...\n\nI didn't go back. I will never tell them that was my 2 dollars.  At least it wasn't a *too costly* lesson. I also realized how honest my co-workers are :)", "summary": "Found money, looked for money's owner frantically, turn money into the office, after leaving office realize the money was actually mine. Can't go back because shame, yall."}
{"id": "t3_2uzkh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend [21/F] of 10 months need advice on breaking up with obsessive girlfriend near valentine's day", "post": "I am thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend of 10 months, but I am not sure if I should do it now since it is very close to valentine's day or if I should wait. I don't want to leave her with a bad memory of valentine's day for the future. Her friend is also coming to visit her from very far away this weekend and I don't want to ruin her time with her friend. Should I just pretend to be okay with everything until after valentine's day or should I just tell her right now and see how it goes. \n\nThe reason I am thinking of breaking up is that she has become very obsessive and jealous the past few months. She gets upset whenever I talk to any other girl even if it is for school or work. If I am sitting in the library studying for example and some girl ends up sitting somewhat around me she will start to ask questions like if I talked to her. If I say no she will start calling me a liar and end up saying some pretty harsh things about me and the people that I am friends with.\n\nI have talked to her about this and she said she will try to get better, but it has been 2-3 months and sometimes it seems like she is getting better. However, she ends up doing everything all over again. It is very confusing because when she is good she's probably one the nicest people to be around, but she starts becoming obsessive she becomes a completely different person. \n\nAlso, a female co-worker added me on Facebook and my girlfriend went on my Facebook and declined her request without telling me. She then started to ask questions about who she was and if I was attracted to her. When I explained to her she just called me a liar and said that I should just go have sex with her.\n\nI already have issues with some depression and anxiety and this really is not helping. I asked for some space and she just continues to send me messages through text/viber/whatsapp/email. She will keep calling me even if I don't pick up.\n\nThis is all very frustrating for me and the people around me and I am not relay sure what to do.", "summary": "Not sure how to go about breaking up with obsessive girlfriend near valentine's days"}
{"id": "t3_qkitb", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Advice on upcoming Half Marathon: to run, or not to run?", "post": "I should really say run/walk, I am no where near advanced enough to simply \"run\".\n\nI'll try to stick to the \"need to knows\" and keep this short-ish...\n\nI trained last fall for a half marathon, I ended up not run/walking in the official marathon(financial issues) so instead went to a park where I normally do my thing, I ran/walked the 13.1 miles on my own(my time was 3:11:17). That was in October. November I barely ran (maybe 10 days total, including a 10k, but most of the other runs were 1.5-3 miles). I did not run at all in December or January, and I started running 2-4 days a week mid way through February and have been consistent with that up until last week when I dropped the ball(kind of messy break up).\nSo I haven't ran any more that 3 miles since November, and am feeling really unprepared for this half marathon I am signed up for on March 11th. I have a friend who is amazingly supportive and wants me to go for it, but I just feel I am going to make a fool of myself(we have a 4 hour time limit) or worse, end up hurting myself. \nI know only I know my own body in the end, but with the information at hand, any advice, opinions would be greatly appreciated. I am teetering in the middle so I thought some advice from strangers that know something about running might be able to help.", "summary": "unsure if I am ready for an upcoming half marathon, not sure if I should stick it out, or jump ship and better prepare for the next one. "}
{"id": "t3_1ozjsh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Need a family lawyer's advice....", "post": "I posted this 5 months ago hoping to get advice in a few subs:\n\n>I'm a 15 going on 16 year old and I have 3 siblings; 13 year old sister, 12 year old brother and a 6 year old brother. Yesterday our parents sat the three oldest of us down and told us they had filed for divorce. I'm not really bothered by it since I saw it coming. My real problem is I don't want to go anywhere my siblings go.\n\n>I don't have a good relationship with my family. My mum and dad >haven't gotten along for years and have always taken their frustration out on me. They didn't want to parent us and wanted me to step up and take care of my siblings.\n\n>My siblings and I hate each other. My brother thinks its funny to wreck my stuff and steal my savings (summer jobs). My sister steals my stuff and is physically abusive (hits and scratches me). If I retaliate I get slapped and if I try to take my stuff back I get yelled at because \"I'm the older sibling and should be the bigger person\". The 6 year old is alright since he hasn't picked up any bad habits from those two and I wouldn't mind him staying with me.\n\n>When my parents split I want to be away from them, I want to be in the custody of the person who doesn't have their custody. I wouldn't mind going to foster homes if it comes to that, I reckon it'll be better than having those two constantly ruin my days. I don't really want to meet them either if my non-custodial parent gets visiting rights.\n\n>I don't know if I'll get asked for my preference when my custody is decided. I talked to me school counselor and she said she didn't know much about it (haven't had any kid come to her with that problem) but said she'd expect the judge to get that sorted. I don't really want to choose between my mum and dad, I just want my brother and sister to not be with me.\n\n>How do I tell the judge this if he asks me? I really want him to take me seriously on this. Thanks for reading.\n\n>", "summary": "Parents have filed for divorce, I prefer my brother and sister to be with one parent, and me with the other."}
{"id": "t3_431zc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend(21/m) didn't tell me(19/m) he had a girlfriend.", "post": "I'm a 19M on college and my friend(21M) which I studied with since middle school and now studies in a university on another city. He didn't tell me he had a girlfriend, she's a girl that studied with us on the same school and they're on a relationship for 5 months as he told me.\n\nI really thought we were close enough to tell everything to each other, and I understand that he doesn't need to come up with it the exact moment he engages in a relationship, but even when he was asked about what he was doing lately, after a while without getting in contact, he would not say a thing about, as if he was avoiding talking about it, it's just, what is the problem in just mentioning it?\n\nAs a friend of him, I didnt expect this, it looks like there's a lack of trust and it makes me sad, we've been friends for years, but something like that still happens, and it seems like there are other people that knew it before me. I've already mentioned to him that I didn't understand why would he do such a thing, and I'm not sure if bringing this up once more and complaining about it, would be any good.\n\nI'm not sure if there's anything that he can say to make me feel better in any way. What should I do? I think it's a matter of changing my mindset, but there's something else that I can do? Except talking to him about how I feel about this?\n\nI know that it doesn't sound like a big think, that I may be overreacting, but the point here is that, 'trust' is something that I really care, and if there's anything that I may be able to do, I would be pleased to know.", "summary": "My friend(21/m) didn't tell me(19/m) he had a girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_3asrru", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/F] Sex problems with my boyfriend [24/M]", "post": "Currently, I feel like my boyfriend does not enjoy having sex as much as I do with him. We have been together for almost 3.5 years now. I sleepover at his house about 4 times a week. We do not have sex often.. maybe once a week or, a little over a week. When we do have sex, I am always the one to make the first move. \n\nA couple nights ago, after having sex, I decided to be authentic and let my boyfriend know how I have been feeling. I asked him, \"Do you enjoy having sex with me? I feel like I am always the one to initiate sex.\" So he replies, \"Yes, I do babe. Sometimes I am just really tired and I want to sleep.\" \n\nI get that. \n\nThen, I asked if he thinks our sex is boring. He said, \"maybe we can change it up a bit?...So, I came to realize that our sex IS really routine-like. My boyfriend and I usually have sex after we are all set for bedtime. I kiss him over and over again.. He kisses me back..We make out... He touches my breast/kisses them. I start touching his private area and slowly start going down on him. Sooner or later, we would have sex.\n\nAny advice on how I can bring some excitement into our sex life? Don't get me wrong, our relationship is great. But, I would like our sex to be more exciting (for the both of us).", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are having semi sex problems. Scared it might affect our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_bgx2f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Relationship questions (sexuality involved)", "post": "So I've liked men for a few years now, but I've never been in a relationship with a guy, as I live in a very non-gay area. I'm in a position to start a relationship with a girl, but I'm not sure I want to be in a committed relationship yet.\n\nThe reason why I'm confused is because I could see myself in a longterm relationship with the girl in question, but I feel like if I start something with her I will miss the opportunity to find a guy while in college (september). My sexuality is a large part of my psyche and personality, and discovering that I liked men was an important moment in my life. I don't mean to be melodramatic, but I really want to experience homosexual culture while I have the chance.\n\nI know I'm being ridiculous about the timing and I know I'll still have chances to be gay, but I really think that I could end up marrying the girl. She has liked me for a long time, we are very similar, she wants to go to the same school as me, and even her mother has brought up the fact that we should get married (albeit somewhat jokingly) in conversation a few times now.\n\nAnyways, I'm rambling but I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "I don't want miss out on what could potentially be a great relationship but I also don't want to get into a committed relationship and miss the opportunity to be gay. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_jjb4x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "About to go into sales for the first time and I need some help", "post": "I recently interviewed for sales account manager position for a start up in the medical software business. The interview went fine and I was really interested in the product but unfortunately the pay was on a draw and commission plan which didn't seem dependable enough for me, so I turned down the job.\nThe manager called me the same day and told me that because of my other responsibilities that weren't sales related, it might be possible to draft some other pay structure. The ball is in my court now and having never worked in sales, just retail, I'm not sure what to ask for, what to expect to make starting out in sales, or what some common pay structures might be. The ball is in my court now and I don't want to fumble this. Help me Reddit, You're my only hope.", "summary": "Offered a sales job but need to come up with a stable pay structure"}
{"id": "t3_kp8fu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My experience with city cops today, what do you think?", "post": "Context: I go to a large state school which is pretty much integrated into a major city.  I am brown skinned (Indian). \n\nToday, I was just sitting at a bench near a bus stop eating a fig newton with my backpack next to me, alone. A city cop comes up to me and starts asking me questions about what I'm doing and stuff. I tell him I'm just sitting here eating breakfast before going to class. He asks me to empty my pockets and show him my ID. I'm not really too worried, and I have nothing to hide, so I show him my college ID and the contents of my pockets. In my pocket I had my wallet, phone, car keys and a small (3in) pocket knife with a bottle opener on the back. He takes the knife and asks me why I have it, I tell him that I have it for the bottle opener and opening boxes (part time job at a warehouse). He tells me to sit down, puts all my stuff on the bench away from me and calls for back up. He clearly states onto the radio that I am armed and dangerous. Two more cops show up in like 30 seconds, one male and one female. The first cop has me stand up and put my hands behind my head and him and the other cop start patting me down. The female cop starts going through my backpack, and finds (surprise) 2 text books, a laptop and a notebook. At this point, my class starts in about 5 minutes, I tell them I gotta go to class and they tell me that they still need me. The first cop starts asking me a bunch of random questions about my family and where I went to high school. And now the female cop is going through my wallet, she finds my military ID and shows it to the other 2 cops, who just realized that I am a Marne. They pretty much immediately let me go, and the first cop apologized to me for wasting my time. \n\nWhat does Reddit make of this?", "summary": "Im brown, eating breakfast, cop thinks im a terrorist and starts searching my shit, calls for more cops, they let me go once they look through my wallet and find my military ID."}
{"id": "t3_3iyimm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being bedridden in a hospital", "post": "About 10 years ago I was in the hospital having a cyst removed from my tailbone, I had to lay on this special inflatable bed to keep pressure on it. I was in there for a week which was fortunate for the most part as I had a beautiful nurse who was looking after me and she really made the time pass nicely. Unfortunately being bed ridden didn't lend itself to getting up for a #2. I didn't go for a week. They eventually had to give me some superlax to get it out. When I did go, it looked like a foot long subway sandwich in shape. Of course, it wouldn't flush, and the beautiful nurse ended up having to cut it up in the toilet to get it to go. I was mortified and apologized profusely. Luckily I got out the next day so I didn't have to face her much more.", "summary": "held poop for a week, hot nurse had to cut it up"}
{"id": "t3_jdtrc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can we deal with the looters in England?", "post": "The people that are looting cities across England aren't standing up for any cause, there has been no injustice done to them, yet they feel dissatisfied with the government and take this out on small business owners and retail chains who are not the root of the problem. Some of these people (gang members and criminals aside) justify it by saying that they have been wronged by society, the police, the government. How do you deal with people like this? If you whack them, you just increase the feeling of resentment whilst pacifying them for a while, and if you pander to them and try to placate them, they just feel more entitled to do the same thing again like a spoiled child.", "summary": "How do you deal with rioters/looters when they resent you if you pacify them, and feel entitled to rob small businesses and burn buildings?"}
{"id": "t3_35t1ny", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Background check at consulting firm.", "post": "I was just offered a job at one the larger consulting firms in the US. They are currently doing a background check. 5 years ago I got a misdemeanor for possession of marijuana that was reduced to possession of paraphernalia. Haven't had any other legal issues and can pass a drug test if given one.\n\nBasically, my question is, how likely is it they will rescind the contract offer? During the application I filled out a background check form and was honest and upfront about everything. Am I freaking out over nothing or am I right to worry that my stupid mistake from 5 years ago will come back and haunt me?", "summary": "Misdemeanor charge for paraphernalia from 5 years ago. Got a job offer at large consulting firm and they are doing background check. Should I be worried I lose the job?"}
{"id": "t3_m29pl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my job legally allowed to do this?", "post": "My job has us come in on daylight savings day, I work the overnight shift. (10pm-6am) and we get the extra hour of work tonight, but they only pay us for 8 instead of the 9 I work. Their reasoing is that next time it comes around we work 7 hours and they pay us for 8. My schedule is not set and I usually dont work that day, I have done this twice now and lost the hour of pay and never got the free hour. So my question is, is this legal?", "summary": "Work makes me work 9 hours, pays for 8"}
{"id": "t3_4dfr2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[21 F] of 5 years, I feel exhausted in our relationship. Is this relationship saveable?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Our relationship has always been me giving my 100% all the time. I feel like I am constantly needing to do something to keep her happy. Whenever she gets in a bad mood for no reason, I stress out over how I can help. The problem is that nothing I ever do seems to help. \n\nWe have talked about this too many times. She needs me to provide more in our relationship than i need from her to be happy. It leads to a point where I am doing things because I have to and not because i want to. For anyone out there who has been there, you understand. It is exhausting to be in a relationship where the person you want to please needs so much more than you do to be happy. We talked and she says that \"she is selfish and has been taking advantage of what i give\". Do I just take her word for it? she is more scared of losing me than she is of changing her personality.", "summary": "My GF requires more from the relationship than me. I confronted her about it and she said that she will change ( for the 3rd time.) do i take her word for it or do i finally leave her?"}
{"id": "t3_l1i5b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Enter: these assholes...", "post": "My girlfriend is a brilliant makeup/hair/beauty/body art/shitguysdon'tknowabout type artist.  I have been encouraging her to pursue her art without consequence, find her niche and create economic stability on her own terms.  She has had some fairly high profile gigs, and has gained some confidence in her ability to pursue her business.  \n\nWellll, some internet troll douchebagger emailed her and set himself up for a shoot. They said they were sending a check, wanted her address/phone.  She asked if I thought it was legit. My response was, if they did not ask for your bank info, you're probably OK.  They're not asking for money up front right? Just like every other gig right? \n\nSecond verse, more assholes than the first...\n\nThey used a shit domain name on their emails, along with their broken English a medium sized European cosmetic company.  I was quite impressed with their targeting skills.  Clearly the -1 level scammers evolve as we all do, but has anyone else noticed more sophisticated targeting such as this?\n\nMy bad.  She sent them her phone number.  No address or other damning info.  They now want much more info.  We are asking for fun, unique way to troll these assholes.", "summary": "girlfriend got semi rousted by some internet assholes, want to creatively mega troll them instead."}
{"id": "t3_3515n8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[NEED HELP PLEASE] My sister is getting sucked into Advocare, a not-pyramind scheme. Want to help her see the light. [Xpost]", "post": "I'll try to be as brief as possible.\n\nI've been between 40-60 pounds overweight since primary school. I'm 26 now, my sister is 22. She called me yesterday talking about a guy who was her 'business partner' who wanted to help me lose weight. I figured it could be a scam but could be legit since the guy was working out of a reputable local gym. Guess which one it was?\n\nThe way everything was laid out to me was this: buy the $190 package to do a 24-day-challenge, and \"It'll bring you home, you'll have so much energy, you'll feel like a new person.\" When I mentioned to the guy that I only had $400 to my name and I was moving several states away next month, he went off on how one of his associates bought the product when she only had $400 (I know, right? What are the odds?!) and how she's making five figures a year selling the stuff and she's, like, totally super happy with life, blah blah blah.\n\nNormally, I would be first to tell these people what I think of their business, but they have my sister tied into it. I'm trying to be careful with what I say/do so she doesn't get into if further out of spite. I want to extract her but let her be the one to do it.\n\nThey're wanting me to go to a meeting their having on Friday, and to \"bring three of my friends with me.\" I'm planning on going and asking some questions about the business that they won't want to answer. I'm asking for some help in getting a broad range of questions I should be asking these people. What they're business model is, how many people actually make money, etc. What are some real zingers I can throw at these scammers?\n\nMany thanks in advance!", "summary": "Sister caught up in multi level marketing, want to expose her to their multi level bullshit."}
{"id": "t3_2njvey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21 F) don't know how to let go of my ex(23 M). My mind wants to move on, but my heart doesn't. Please help!", "post": "I was with my ex for ~ 1 year, been broken up since June, and haven't talked since September. And since we stopped talking, I've done a lot of soul searching. Looking back, I now know that neither me or my ex were ready for a serious relationship. We both had abusive childhoods; this left us both emotionally immature and lacking in self esteem and self love. We found solace in each other, and were each other's first loves. Our relationship didn't stand a chance because we were both so battered from our upbringings. Letting go was so hard to do, but it was necessary. I couldn't have made the strides I did if I were still so dependent on him. \n\nI know cutting off communication with him was the right thing to do. And I also know that getting back together right now is a bad idea, because 3 months isn't enough time for significant change to develop that a 2nd try would work out. But I find myself daydreaming A LOT about us trying again way down the line because I truly believe that once we both mature and grow up a bit more, we'd have a real chance at making it last. Realistically I know that getting back together probably won't happen. But my heart is clinging onto him. I'm so conflicted. Please help me move on, I don't want to hold onto false hope anymore. Tell me what to do.", "summary": "My ex and I have been broken up for months. I know we shouldn't be together right now and that we both need more alone time, but I still have hope that someday in the future we'll be together. How do I kill this hope? It's preventing me from moving on. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_3l7kcl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29 M] Girlfriend [26 F] spends more time with her mother than she does with me.", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about 3 years now and I've always thought her relationship with her mother was strange. Most of the girls I've dated in the past would seldom talk about their mothers or even talk TO their mothers, but she is incredibly different. She texts her mom constantly, calls her 3-4 times a day, calls her 'momma' like a kid would and not a day goes by where I don't hear something about her mom. Now, we live right around the corner from her mother and lately she has been spending the night there on and off for the past 2 weeks. She says it's because her mom is lonely and misses her, but I just can't wrap my head around it. \n\nMy first impression was that maybe she was cheating and using this as some form of cover, but she always snapchats me pictures of her and her mom hanging out, watching movies, etc. We barely have time to see each other during the week due to work and school, and then she spends what little free time she has with her mom instead of me? I should note that her parents absolutely hate me, for a long list of reasons. I've basically called them cheap and worthless to their faces for making their daughter pay for her own education and bills, leaving her in crippling debt while they're both making huge money as lawyers. I mean they have multiple boats, four houses in three different states and like six sports cars.. but they made her go into debt to get an education.\n\nBut I digress, what can I do? Am I slowly being weeded out of her life by a manipulative mother? There's a ton I could probably include about this but I wanna keep it relatively short.", "summary": "Girlfriend spends more time with her mother, not sure why, her parents hate me and I think they're manipulating her to get me to break up with her or something."}
{"id": "t3_24v2pb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hookup [20m] told me he loves me [20f] but doesn't know what he wants from our relationship", "post": "I've been \"hooking up\" with a guy for a little more than a month now. We clearly liked each other when we first got together--I stopped seeing a different guy before I even kissed him--and immediately had an incredible amount of sexual chemistry. We now sleep over in the other's room 5-6 nights a week (we're both in college), sometimes just to cuddle and fall asleep and not have sex. \n\nBecause we spend so much time together, friends have started referring to us as a couple. We've started to have the \"what are we doing\" conversation a few times, but it's always kind of been cut short-- or we've been drunk and decided we shouldn't talk about it anymore. \n\nFrom his perspective, he just finally ended a complicated open relationship with his girlfriend from high school, and I'm pretty sure is afraid of committing to something for the wrong reasons.\n\nLast night in bed, he was falling asleep and told me he loved me for the first time. He said he wasn't \"in love\" with me, but loved me \"in the chill way.\" I told him it's not that I didn't feel the same, but that I knew I was going to get my feelings hurt since I didn't know his intentions with us. He said he didn't know either, and that was the end of the conversation. Is he just trying to mess with my emotions? What should I be doing at this point?", "summary": "Serious hookup of a month+ told me he loved me but isn't sure what his intentions are with me. Am I gunning to get my feelings hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_231btb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need advice, with a plateau", "post": "Hi,\n\nFirst of all my weight loss journey started almost 2 years ago, i have been struggling with overweight all my life but 2 year ago i was really fat, i used to weight around 330 lbs, so i decided to start changing from june 2013 i lost around 100 lbs, with the help of a nutriologist, but work made it impossible to continue, so i gained almost all my weight back, again in june last year i started again, now counting calories by my own, lost 100 lbs again, but i hit the gym harder, (4 times a week on average) + 40 mins cardio almost everyday.\nNow after 10 months of diet i think i hit a plateau, i am eating the same amount of calories (1400 in average), but i am not losing weight, and don't know what to change my macro is 40/35/25, i am 6\"1, and weight 224 lbs.\nSo what do you guys recommend, should i increase my calories intake for a few months, or lower it even more?, all the advices are apreciated.", "summary": "Been on diet for 10 months, still fat, hit a plateau."}
{"id": "t3_42gx97", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by allowing myself to be stood up and telling a friend about it", "post": "As always, this didn't actually happen today\n\nI made plans with a girl I had been talking to online for a few months for her to come down and visit me. She didn't live too far but it was still three trains away. Well the day came and she hadn't been responding to my messages. Waited all day, she didn't come. I get a message the next day just: *I have a virus*. I called 'bullshit' and just ignored the message. She stood me up.\n\nThe day after, I was talking to a friend of mine about it. We were friends as kids, family are pretty close, they moved away not so long ago. She asked me whether I was a virgin and I confided in her, telling her that I had been recently stood up. She laughed for a solid two minutes. At first I was laughing with her but that eventually faded. She immediately apologised (she could tell I wasn't enjoying it) but couldn't hold herself any longer. I eventually hung up and couldn't bear the embarrassment anymore. We usually give each other a hard time and laugh but this was just plain mean.\n\nI feel like shit still.", "summary": "got stood up by a girl, told a good friend, got laughed at, hung up with embarrassment. Still feel like crap about it."}
{"id": "t3_4q8n6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am worried I will not be able to keep my little friend down when she [15F] talks about us as a couple.", "post": "I hope it's not unreasonable to use a throwaway for this. It's a little embarrassing. And while unlikely, she could track my Reddit account, so.\n\nAnyways. So I really like this girl. She apparently really likes me too. All that stuff. You get the idea.\n\nWe talk a lot over messages because she's cripplingly shy. She has almost no friends but me, and even then, she's pretty quiet to her family too. When we're in person, she'll often nod to signify yes or just use facial expressions or something. She gets very nervous, and I kinda get nervous too as a result. But that's not the problem here.\n\nSo when we talk over messaging, because that's really all we can seriously talk over, she will sometimes talk about a date I suggested or us spending time together in a positive light. My weird issue is, every time she does this, I get a big ol' boner.\n\nNow, we haven't talked about us as a couple in person. And we haven't actually gone on our date yet either. So I'm worried I'll get this erection later too.\n\nGuys (or girls, I guess?), is there a super duper way to make sure this doesn't happen? Because it would be unfortunate if she noticed and we had a bad time because of it. Knowing her, she'd just shut down because of it. Bleh.\n\nDon't get me wrong- I think doing intimate stuff would be nice. But sex isn't what's on my mind. So I'd rather get it out of the way entirely. Any ideas?", "summary": "Help me not pop a boner during our date. I could use some advice in that regard."}
{"id": "t3_1leuso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am falling for my best friend [19M] now that I can't have him, but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend [18M]", "post": "I attended a tiny, conservative boarding high school for two years. There I met my best friend Mike*, and we were developed a very close, wholly platonic friendship based on respect and shared values.\n\nImmediately after graduating, I went home for two weeks and met my current boyfriend, Liam*. We started dating within two days, and then I went off to community college about two hours away from my home.\n\nMike and I remained close, and he expressed feelings for me, I didn't reciprocate and continued a very close and intimate friendship, which was often threatening to Liam. Liam has tried to restrict the time I spend with Mike, going so far as to delete his number from my cell phone without my consent, and threatening to fight him. I insisted that he had nothing to worry about.\n\nLiam and I have been together for 8 months, and recently, Mike has gotten a new girlfriend, with whom he seems to be very happy. Every since they got together, I haven't been able to get him off my mind. Every time I see his name on my phone, or spend time with him, I feel like I'm head over heels. It's somewhat apparent to Liam, though I've been denying it and he has demanded that I choose my friendship with Mike or my relationship with him. He called me a stupid lying bitch, which is totally out of character for him. His jealousy is changing him.\n\nI told him I chose Mike, because I couldn't stand to be controlled by him anymore. Liam instantly broke down crying and said he would change, and that I can spend as much time as I want with Mike, and he will get over it.\n\nI know it's dishonest to stay with Liam when I have these feelings for Mike, but I don't want to tear Mike away from him girlfriend, because if I care about him, I wouldn't introduce any of this turmoil to them, and I don't want to be alone.", "summary": "I want to have my cake and eat it too."}
{"id": "t3_vf5m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have you and your girlfriend / boyfriend ever had trouble deciding where to live?", "post": "Me: 27F   Him : 27M\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We just moved in together and everything so far is going great.\n\nWe started talking about how maybe we can buy a house in two years. We both rapidly saw that we want different things.\nI'm a city girl and pretty much want to live and work in the city I'm currently in.\n\nHe wants to move a bit out of the city. He says the city is a lot more expensive, which of course it is, and he wants a bigger house with a backyard. He also wants a quieter life away from the city.\n\nI currently don't have a car. I told him that I'm sure we can compromise and come to a decision. I'll get a car so we have more options, but I really want to stay close to the city.\n\nWe looked at a map together, and he has no problem moving away where it would be a 30 - 40 minutes high way drive to get to the city.\nTo me this seems far and I'm not excited about it at all.\n\nWe agreed that when the time comes, we'll both have to compromise to make sure we're both happy.\n\nI want to make it work, but I'm a little bit scared that we'll never be able to. I don't see how we can both be happy, since no matter what we decide it won't be what one person wanted.\n\nSo reddit, have you ever had a similar problem , and if you did, what did you do?\n\nWhat was the compromise and what was the conclusion to this dilemma?\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "My boyfriend and I want very different things when it comes to deciding where to live. I want to live in the city, he wants to move away. Has anyone else ever had this problem?"}
{"id": "t3_3bc6t1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [19M] met a nice girl a few years older [23F]", "post": "So I was at a bar with my friend, we had a couple beers and decided to go talk to some people/girls. I went and talked to this one girl and her friends, after a bit, our friends seemed to disperse to leave us as we had really started talking. We talked and walked around together in the bar for a good hour or two. It got late and she had to head back to her parents she was staying with. She gave me her number and I when I texted saying it was nice to meet her, she replied very nicely.\n\nThe thing that stuck out the most is the way she touched me, it may have been the alcohol influencing her, but she put my hands on her several times as we were walking. However, this might have been to deter guys that were hitting on her as she walked away from them with me. I don't think she even really drank much as she appeared kind of sober, and had me finish most of the only beer I saw her drinking that night. (I had a half dozen+) She seemed a bit held up on the fact that she was \"old\", but I reassured her that she wasn't.\n\nWe are both leaving in a week or two, but will be return at the same time in a few months. At the very least, I would like to see this girl again, even if it's just going out as friends (we left on a good note). I'm open to the possibility of more, but don't know how I would proceed or if things could work out.", "summary": "Met a girl a few years older, we got along great, seemed to be some physical attraction, but age may have been a factor holding us back. Not sure what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_1edlz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23M] being irrational for being upset with my gf [22F] ?", "post": "Hey reddit, \n\nYesterday afternoon I made plans with my girlfriend of 6 months to go see a pre-screening of the internship after I finished work. \n\nWhen we talked, I informed her that the screeners of the movie always overbook the tickets so it's always full and because of this we needed to get there early, so we agreed that she'd pick me up directly from the train and we'd go over. \n\nSo, she picks me up and we head over. On the way she informs me that she is starving and hasn't eaten all day long and wants to stop before at the whole foods. I tell her that if we don't go straight there we won't get seats, but if we go get our seats first, she could leave and run over because we'd have time to spare. \n\nShe refuses to park first and just drops me off out front. I go in where there's already a line, you have to check your phone (anti-piracy), and long story short it sells out before she gets back just like I knew it would. For the record, you can't save seats because they fill every seat. \n\nHere's the thing, I really wanted to see this movie and she isn't that big into going to the movies. I just started working downtown 9 hours a day + commute and she's just moved home from college. I repeatedly told her to grab a snack before hand because if we didn't go straight there we'd miss it. \n\nIt's just frustrating because it seems like she willfully and selfishly put her needs in front of mine. \n\nI won't try to parallel my behavior with hers for the sake of objectivism, but I know for a fact that I have in the past given her my full consideration for things she's wanted to do, even if I didn't really want to go. \n\nReddit am I wrong for seeing this as selfish at most and thoughtless at best?", "summary": "I missed a pre-screening of a movie because my gf decided to go to the grocery store right before against my firm advisement."}
{"id": "t3_2el1xp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] friend [23M] is cheating on his girlfriend [22F] of 1 year.", "post": "My friend has been cheating on his girlfriend with a mutual friend. I've told him that he needs to break up with his gf. He has yet to make any re decision and goes on about how much he loves her but they have a terrible sex life. How do I get him to realize he needs to break it off now before he gets caught or trapped in the relationship ending up only resenting her for the lack of sex?  \nI'm not going to tell his gf because I'm not gonna cross my best friend like that and I can't really stand his gf anyway.", "summary": "Friend is cheating on his gf. Need to get him to realize he needs to break it off now."}
{"id": "t3_2vefxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my mom just started dating again .....", "post": "Edit: forgot ages! Me [30/m], mom [55/f], her new SO [? Around her age/m]\n\nSo I guess I'll start by saying my mom is widowed for 7 years now and I fully expected this to happen and I aswell as my sisters are fully grown . It's the situation that is frustrating me . She met this man online and has been seeing him for if say over seven months . Now the person in question is avoiding any contact with friends family and otherwise . Literally the only person that knows him is my mom. I have approached the topic to her and in the moment she will agree it's off that he refuses to meet any one close to her but when she has that conversation with her he turns her head all around and she comes back thinking this is ok . His most common excuse is that he has never had kids so he is uncomfortable meeting us . But also won't meet any of my moms friends either . Literally all I know about this guy is his first name . I find this super bizarre and really all I want is to look this person in the eye and know perhaps what type of person he is . Am I wrong to want that ? Is it odd that closing in on a year this person won't even exchange words with any important people in my moms life ?", "summary": "mom boyfriend of 7 months won't meet friends or family"}
{"id": "t3_2ttu95", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by screaming at my PC screen, now my neighbour wants to punch me", "post": "So I was home alone, and I started playing some Hearthstone. I am that kind of person that is pretty quiet, but when I am alone I just do crazy stuff, like dancing on the bathroom or singing a love song to my cookies and stupid things like that.\n\nThe thing is that I was losing a game (stupid Priests...) and I started screaming at the screen and cursing the other player. You know how we, Spanish people, insult each other, we compose swears like Shakespeare composed beautiful lyric.\n\nMy neighbour was sleeping, and turns out I waked him up with my screams (we share a wall) and he began to punch the wall to make me shut up. I obviously didnt hear him, and instead of closing my mouth I said something like \"You son of a thousand hienas, I am sure you dont find your willy when you go to the bathroom, you fatass\". Of course my words were dedicated to the player I was playing against, but my neighbour thought that what I was saying was for him. \n\nThen he came to my door and started ringing. As I was home alone, I didn't move a muscle to even go and see who it was. And he started beating the door and screaming. Here is when I realized what had happened, and I started getting a little scaried, since my neighbour (a 60 year old rugged man) was in my door saying that he wanted to do nasty things to my neck. \n\nHe eventually calmed down, and I hope that he has forgotten about it, but from now on before I leave my house I will have to check if the old man is anywhere near.", "summary": "I screamed to my screen, my neighbour thought that the insults were for him, now he wants to drink my tears"}
{"id": "t3_wigts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [21] smokes weed. Not bothered by it, but wondering if my [18/f] requests are too overbearing.", "post": "Hi, guys!\n\nSo my boyfriend and I have only been together for a couple of weeks, and he recently told me he smokes weed responsibly(as in, doesn't drive or anything whilst under the influence). I told him it didn't bother me, but was too afraid to request that he doesn't do it around me or be around me while under the influence in fear of it being too overbearing. My reasons behind my request are mostly about legality, not morality or aversion to weed.\n\nWhat does /r/relationships think? Is it overbearing to ask that he doesn't do it in front of me? Or is this a rational request? Thanks, guys!", "summary": "Boyfriend does weed, doesn't bother me, I just don't want him to do it in front of me. Wondering if too overbearing to ask this."}
{"id": "t3_3eqiab", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get my car door un-stuck", "post": "So this wasn't today but it was a few months ago.  \n\nDead of winter, I often had to bump my hip against the door to get the ice to break so I can open the door. Today was another one of those days. But my door no matter what I could do, wouldn't open. \n\nI began googling ideas. One idea said to use rubbing alcohol. I spent about an hour outside trying very hard to continue to apply rubbing alcohol to help ease the door. No luck. A few minutes later, I ask my wife to come help me. She comes outside in the freezing cold, and I ask her to pull on the door while I pour the rubbing alcohol. \n\nNot even a few seconds later, she grabs the keys, puts them in the door, unlocks the car, and opens the door.", "summary": "Sat outside in the freezing cold for an hour trying to de-ice car enough to open doors only to have my wife unlock the car and open the doors."}
{"id": "t3_1p0iwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] need help getting over my [20 F] Crush.", "post": "Hello guys. So i'll just start off by saying there is a girl, a girl i've been a schoolmate with for 8 years and have known her for about 13 years.\n\nFor as long as i can remember, i had a crush on her. Thought it was just going to pass, but i liked her more and more, so i worked up the nerve to ask her for her number a while ago. We never really hang out or anything, but we always greeted each other and talked for a bit if we saw each other anywhere.\n\nI got the number, even though it seemed like she wasn't too interested when she gave me it. She made an excuse when i called her to meet up, so i just figured she's not interested, but i can't just forget her, i'm in deep, even hearing her voice when i called her is like a drug to me. \n\nShe studies in a city about an hour away at the moment, which i will be going to with my friend. It's not because of her, we're going just to go out and party there, it's the capital here.\n\nWhich brings me up to my question.\nDo you guys/girls think there is still a chance? Should i call her one last time when i'll be there and ask if there is a chance if she makes an excuse again or what? If not,\n\nHow do I get over a lifelong crush?", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl i know for about 13 years and it's pretty bad, how do i get over her?."}
{"id": "t3_ln81j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit community: What is the proper etiquette when is comes to down-voting (or up-voting) posts?", "post": "**Background:** Lurked for a few months before joining. Posted a few things, got down-voted into oblivion. Pretty standard tale as far as I can gather.  \n\nWhat surprises me is that even the posts that make it to the front page, although boasting a clear majority of up-votes, will also sport a large number of down-votes. Clearly we are a community of trigger-happy down-voters. \n\nPerhaps I need clarification on what ought to be down-voted and when. I've seldom down-voted anything, only electing to down-vote things I found offensive, in poor-taste, or blatant plagiarizing for karma. Most posts I will neither up-vote nor down-vote. Ones I particularly enjoy get up-voted. (My ratio of up-votes to down is about 10:1).\n\nAm I being overly discriminating in my voting? Are up/down-votes more casual affairs? I'm curious to hear how other Redditors vote and what criteria they use.\n\nThe only text I found on the subject, in the [Reddiqette] section reads: \"If you think it shouldn't be on reddit, or if it is off-topic on a particular community, downvote it.\" This would seem to suggest I'm not off-base in my voting habits?", "summary": "When you vote on Reddit, what are your criteria for up/down-voting?"}
{"id": "t3_1diu2k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Waiting for him to contact me first in order to give space?", "post": "I'm gonna try to make this quick, me (f25) and my ex (m28) are dating but are not official we were together 6 years, broken up for about 4 months. Because we aren't official, I can't get mad when he doesn't call, ect. However, last week, I asked him to call me on a certain day to set up plans for the weekend, and he didn't, so I did get upset. He got all upset because he's set up this rule that we can't see each other more than once a week because he's afraid of being official just yet and doesn't want to rush things. Fine, I'll respect that. I last saw him Sunday, called him Monday because I was feeling anxious about something and just needed to ask him for clarification. He was a little annoyed at it, at first but told me he saw where I was coming from. Have not heard from him since. On Friday we had a little argument, and he still texted me later that night to say hi...so I would have thought I would hear from him by now, as he's been texting me pretty much everyday. I'm wondering if he'll contact me tonight, as it's been a few days. \n\nI want to contact him because I have a lot of good/cool things I want to share with him, but because I want to give him his space and make him worry about me if I haven't contacted him first (I'm usually the first to contact) I'm hesitant. But, I'm just worried if I DON'T text him he'll just think I'm losing interest, but, the other day I made it pretty clear that I was all on board for getting back together officially when he was ready. I've read other posts where guys have said that if you want to contact him, just do it because if you don't, it shows disinterest, however, this situation is a little bit different. Am I doing the right thing by just waiting for him to contact me first so that I've given him some space?", "summary": "Dating ex bf, but we are not official, I usually contact him first, but now I want him to contact me first so I can give him space. Wondering if I should go for it or if I am doing the right thing since I don't want him to think I'm disinterested."}
{"id": "t3_2ohryn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19m) am dating a girl (17f) we both really like each other but I'm leaving to college 5 hours away. We aren't sure what to do.", "post": "We've been dating for over a month now and known each other since August. We met at our favourite band's show through mutual friends. \n\nI am leaving in less than a month and I feel like 2 months isn't any time at all for a relationship and I really like her. We have talked a bit about it and she's afraid of the long distance relationship deal but I think we can work through it. The college is in the same city as the university she wants to go to but she won't be going until next September. \n\nAny suggestions for what we could do?", "summary": "short term relationship is too short but I'm leaving to go to college."}
{"id": "t3_2ltcru", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF [21 F] of 6 months (3 months LDR) broke up with me [22 M] 2 nights ago because of the distance...need some friendly advice.", "post": "She goes to school 13 hours away from me, and it put a real strain on us. I tried my best to keep us going, but she was having a rough time trying to balance me, and her busy life at school. She said if we lived by each other it would be much different, but she said she's not strong enough to do long distance. We see each other every couple months, and when we do, its blissful. But when we're apart for extended periods of time, we start to have a tough time dealing with everything.\n\nWe broke up instead of trying to drag it on, in order to not burn any bridges or resent each other. I understand the importance of this decision, and that it is the best possible scenario if we ever want a shot at getting back together in the future if we find ourselves in the same physical place.\n\nPart of me really hopes that we get back together in the future. There is still a chance for us to end up in the same area because she has interviews with companies in my area (which is her hometown). Only time will tell, though.", "summary": "GF broke up with me cause of distance, need some positive words."}
{"id": "t3_3fpf9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] found someone [25 F] on Facebook I feel I'd connect with, but I don't know whether I should go for it or not.", "post": "I randomly stumbled upon this girl's profile on Facebook. I was first attracted by her picture because she's looks exactly like the type of girl I'd be into. Then I looked at her profile a little and as silly as it sounds, I felt like there's a lot we could connect over. We seem to have a lot in common, and she just seems like the kind of person I could see myself getting into a relationship with (and she is single). The thing is the only common friends we have are people I don't talk to at all, and she basically has no idea I even exist. I'd like to try and message her to see where this could go, but I don't want to come off as a creep (which is close to impossible in that situation). Should I go for it, and if so how? If someone tried to approach you on Facebook out of the blue like that, what would you deem an acceptable way to do it?", "summary": "Have you ever asked someone out on Facebook that you'd never met before?"}
{"id": "t3_4iyy69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop being an overly attached girlfriend?", "post": "Hey reddit, \n\nSo I have the most amazing boyfriend [23M]. Mature, smart, funny, handsome, committed, the works. The problem is me [23F]. I cannot seem to get over the idea that if I'm not hanging out with him, my time is not being spent as well as it could be. I like being alone sometimes, but only for a few hours and then I'm bored again. I also LOVE to travel, but a trip without him sounds like a waste of time. We both have the same ideas of what is fun and relaxing. I like hanging out with my friends, but I just can't seem to connect with them on the same level I do with my bf. We're both science people and mostly introverted. He has a tight group of friends and large family, both things that I lack (only child), but wish I had. I can't really just make those things happen for me. I would be perfectly content spending most of my free time just relaxing with him, but he has vocalized that he needs more space, though he does love me and loves spending time with me. I understand the importance of this, but it sucks. I feel unsatisfied and a bit anxious. Does anyone have any experience with this? How can I help myself think differently?", "summary": "BF is so perfect for me that I can't stop being an overly attached girlfriend. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1qv6ob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my [21F] ex of 4 years is talking to me again after her failed relationship, wants to be friends.", "post": "Long story short my ex of our 4 year relationship wanted to have the single life kind of put me on the back burner, so we broke up, she jumped into a relationship, i went NC immediately and tried to move on and live my life. Her relationship failed, she messaged me telling me if we could be friends again, i don't think much of it so i say yes.\n\nShe tells me how good i was to her and how some lucky girl is going to get me and she wishes me the best. I say thank you and i tell her i hope to find that lucky girl.\n\nShe invites me to hang out with her and a friend of hers, and later he friend told me she was worried my ex would make it weird by bringing up our old relationship.\n\nDoes she want a friendship or something more?", "summary": "ex of 4 years breaks up with me, gets crushed in her new relationship, tells me how good i was to her and wants to be friends. What does she expect from me?"}
{"id": "t3_srca4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Considering moving to Canada. Thoughts?", "post": "Hey everyone. So essentially, I'm a 17 year old on the brink of graduating high school. The more time I spend reading about what's happening to America, the more scared of the future I get. Loss of civil liberties, diminishing retirements, the social security scam, creationism being taught in schools... Honestly, I'm getting a bit worried. When I was having a discussion with my mother the other day about healthcare, it got me thinking about Canada's healthcare. Then it got me thinking about all the other places where Canadians seem to be doing so much better than America. After a long time thinking, I started considering moving to Canada. The more I think about it, the more it seems that my life would just be plain better in the land of Canada. Am I thinking straight here, or am I just another idealist teenager?\n\nA little background: I'm 17 and I'm on my last leg of high school. I'm in a program called Running Start, where I take classes at a local community college instead of high school (feels good man). I live pretty near Seattle, and I've been to Canada a few times. If I were to move to Canada, it would almost definitely be in south British Columbia (Maybe Vancouver or something), so my friends and family would only be a 3-4 hour drive away. Also, I plan on playing rock music for a living. How is the music scene for a budding musician in BC? \n\nSo what do you guys think? Would it be a good idea to move to Canada? What would it be like adjusting to Canadian life? What would be some major differences/major hardships I would have to overcome? Obviously, exclude all the details about changing citizenship to a different country. I know it's bitch to change citizenship.", "summary": "17 musician wants to move from Seattle to Vancouver. Yay or nay?"}
{"id": "t3_wa863", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some advise", "post": "Ill make it short. I've (m25) been with this chick(30) for about a year and a half. she's great but there's some issues I can't get past and don't know how serious I should let it get.\n\nLast year we were both fresh out of long relationships and were taking it slow. we wanted to start dating but she was leaving to go back home and work with her dad for the summer so we decide to wait till she gets back, promising to wait for each other. fast forward to the end of summer, she text me when she gets back that she didn't sleep with any one but her ex left some hickies. I don't press for details and we pick up where we left off just \"officially\" dating. fast forward a few months I find out she blew him the night before she came back. I'm pissed but I reason that we weren't official so I couldn't let it bug me. then later she tells me of her five man gangbang... ouch. that one gets me. I had known of her promiscuous past (50 + she \" remembers\") but this was a bit of a deal breaker. now it all adding up and I can't take her seriously. \n\nI've talked to her about it and she knows how I feel but it gets us no where. and here I am a year later feeling the same way. every thing is good besides and were talking about getting a place but Idk. sex isn't even special with her anymore knowing what I do. it my problem to get over I know but how? it all goes away when I'm with cuz I just can't see her being like that but these twelve hour shift have thinkin a lot and its got me fucked up.\n\nI never would have started dating her had I known what happened when she got back. But I found out after feelings were already there. Now I'm torn. Do I throw it all away or stick with it and hope I can eventually look past it?", "summary": "I FEEL WE HOOKED UP UNDER FALSE PRETENSE AND I'M NOT SURE IF I SHOULD LET IT GET ANY MORE SERIOUS."}
{"id": "t3_1veuve", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I think I feel bad about the wrong thing.", "post": "I have a girlfriend, Sarah, and we've been damn happy these past couple of months. There was a party last night that she was unable to attend, but a girl I used to like returned to my life, caused me a bit of anxiety before seeing her, and for good reason. She tried to kiss me and then confessed that she planned on taking advantage of me just to have someone to be affectionate with. I fucking knew this was going to happen because of our past and I should've made a bet with a friend and gotten ten bucks out of it instead of overwhelming guilt.\n\nAfter the party, I spent the night at a good friend of mine's house. He and I have had a few run-ins with expressing sexual desire for each other but it hadn't come up in a while so I figured it'd be all good. Well we woke up, ignored the alarms telling us to get out of bed and ready for class, and cuddled instead. Which led to ear stroking, which led to neck brushing, which led to choking(we're both into bdsm.) The choking was the catalyst for the whole damn morning. The next two hours were spent on acting on the almost-a-year of pent up lust. \n\nAnd I don't even feel bad about it. I don't seem to care that I've essentially cheated on my girlfriend with someone who she happens to also be really good friends with. And I'd be totally okay with it happening again very soon.\n\nI'm more worried about the girl who brushed my ass in a public setting and tried to kiss me than the guy I had intense sexy times with this morning.", "summary": "Chicks and dick."}
{"id": "t3_4g6jln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my [20 M] bf 1.5 year relationship", "post": "Basically, bf (lets call him Andy) and I have been together for about 1.5 years and for the past 4-5 months has been pure chaos. He did something to betray me and I decided to give him another chance and although I do see his loyalty now and I truly believe he is not playing any games, we still fight a lot about petty things (admittedly half is my own fault) and I'm not sure what to do. At one point he is someone that I wanted to marry in the future and he still speaks as if he wants to as well, but all I feel is anger bc I have such a short temper and he knows exactly what to say to make me angry. I do love him a lot but we are both extremely stressed from school and various activities, so we always seem to push each other's buttons. I used to be very mean with my words and I think that now I don't do it at all I do not call him names, but he calls me very rude names when he's angry and claims that \"its not that serious\" when the words (i suppose aren't THAT mean) but really hurt me.\n\nAny suggestions on what to do? Is there any sort of exercise we could do to just calm down and not blow up at each other all the time? \n\nI know that \"break up\" will be something most people might say but I just want to make sure I did all that I could have and tried the most that I could before ending things with someone I love.", "summary": "any advice for someone who doesn't want to break up with SO but constantly fight over little things? Both SO and I are extremely stressed out from school and EC as well as finals coming up."}
{"id": "t3_34hpbc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[Auto] Stressful Car-payments", "post": "I read the sidebar, hopefully I'm within ordinance with the rules, if not, my apologies. This maybe long... \n\nThis may sound irresponsible and I lose sleep over it, but about 3 months ago my lovely \"you have to pay for it yourself\" graduation present started to die.\n\n So, since I have a part-time job, while attending college full-time in a STEM degree, which eats all my time up I started looking around for a new car. The dealership my parents got their car at said they could help me. After a few days of back and forth they said they got a brand new 2014 car approved for me. Me being ignorant to my financial ability agreed, along with having a major influence from almost everyone in my family telling me to \"take it.\"\n\nWell, next summer I'm suppose to transfer out and I'll be in Uni, taking 40-60 hours a semester for the next 3 years. The only probelm with this is it will render me unable to afford my $300 a month car payment. My folks have said they would \"pay\" for it, but that's just about as reliable as Direct TV during a thunderstorm. \n\nI'm trying to be responsible and look into my options, but every chance I take I get told that I'm making a stupid decision. I have 6 more years of $300 monthly car payments that is going to be next to impossible. I've thought about dropping out and paying it off, but that throws everything off.", "summary": "have $300 car payment, wont be able to afford come next summer, trying to find the most suitable way of mitigating the damage I've caused; if at all possible."}
{"id": "t3_1ylz47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 2.5 years, dating", "post": "We are really good for each other. I can't imagine someone who is more compatible with me intellectually and by personality, social situation, etc.\n\nThe only thing missing is the spark. We never had that spark. She was a girl that I admired, but I can't say that she ever gave me butterflies. And ever so often, I go out without her and meet someone new or someone from the past who gives me those crush-y feelings. I never act on them by any means.\n\nMy thoughts are that that feeling is something that only ever lasts in the honeymoon stage, so it really isn't important in the long-term of our relationship that I (or maybe we) never felt it. But it does bug me ever so often.\n\nWhat are your thoughts. Thank you :)", "summary": "I'm with a really amazing girl that's very, very compatible with me but it concerns me that I never had the 'butterflies' for her, when I do get that feeling for other girls."}
{"id": "t3_4ige5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] with my BF[38 M]of 1.5 years and need perspective and understanding about his fractured family.", "post": "Been dating this man for 1.5 years. When we first started dating he told me he was open to kids and marriage.  Now he doesn't want either.\n\nI'm giving it a bit more time to see if anything gives, but until then I recently learned some weird things about his family and would like help understanding the factors that lead to this dynamic.\n\nBackground: I dome from an intact family and never really experienced anything with family and drugs.  I'm bringing up this point since I don't know about this subject concerning families, so I appreciate any responses anyone could provide me. \n\nRecently I've learned some of his family members have been jailed and abuse drugs.  He doesn't really drink that much but will have an occasional glass of wine.\n\nHis relationship with his mother is a bit odd. She is always sleeping over, staying for hours, cooking and cleaning- everywhere in his house! ( There have been instances where we could not **** because she was in the next room) I felt like he was my brother and it was just plain weird.  I already have a brother so I'm good with that.\n\nThis is where it's weird. I went away with him for a bit and learned growing up his father was an alcoholic except he got custody oh him and his family even though he drank.  All I know about his mother which is not a lot is she ended up with a newer, richer man and the alcoholic  father got custody.  That's the part I don't understand,\n\nAnd to add to that, years later, now that I'm dating him, he and his mother are always together and he plans on buying a second house and wants to give his old one to her.  As well, he has marriage issues now because of a multitude of reasons.\n\nI can't understand any of this, from the alcoholic father getting custody, to the mother and the rich man only to re-emerge decades later. It's all, weird!\n\nCan anyone decipher any of this?", "summary": "Weird family dynamic."}
{"id": "t3_2yh3e3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21/f) My boyfriend (21/m) has an adorable potential plan for an engagement ring... and I'm touched, but not into the idea.", "post": "First of all, I absolutely want to marry this man - our relationship isn't exactly the problem here. We've been talking about getting engaged for a while, but we have absolutely no money. This weekend, his parents told him that he could propose to me with his mother's ring (she's getting a new one) which was the same ring that his grandfather used to propose to his grandmother. Sounds incredibly sweet, right? Here's my issue with it: both of those marriages were *terrible*! His grandparents divorced after only a few years and his parents have nearly gotten divorced several times since we've been dating and many times before. I'm beyond touched that they would be willing to do this for us, but I'm not sure I want a ring with that sort of history. Our relationship is worlds away from theirs, and I want a ring that we choose together to symbolize *our* unique bond, not a constant reminder of a relationship that we've essentially used as a model of how not to treat each other. How should I tell him this without hurting his feelings? I don't want him to think that I don't want to get engaged, because I really, really do, I would just rather not use his family's ring. Advice?", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to propose to me with a ring used by his father and grandfather to propose to their wives, but their relationships were very unhappy. I absolutely want to marry him, but I would like a ring without such a rough history."}
{"id": "t3_3881ax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's this girl's deal??", "post": "I've know this girl (17f) for a few months, let's call her Holly. We've been talking pretty much non stop for those few months. Last month, she told me she loves me (18m). We're not in a relationship necessarily, but I really like her, but we are pretty far away, about 200km. For a girl who claims to be \"in love\" with me, her actions seem very strange to me. \n\nSo she's been going to parties, texting a few guys, having kissed them at parties and whatnot, being very open telling me this. I don't really mind considering we're by no means in a relationship. But here's where I'm a little confused. She tells me she loves me, she has a tinder account and is texting this other guy that lives near her. Does she just like the attention? She's adamant that she loves me and she sees no problem with it. But the guy doesn't know that! He thinks she's only texting him, needless to say she doesn't tell all her tinder matches that she's \"in love\". She's really nice whenever we FaceTime and chat, and I really like her then, but this stuff is just crazy to me. I want to pursue something with her, but really, is it ever worth it?", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to tell me she loves me. Continues to \"hook up\"/text a couple guys around her and use tinder a lot. Jump ship?"}
{"id": "t3_3kgvmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20 M] and I think I spend too much time with my gf [21 F]", "post": "She's my first serious relationship, and I love her. She loves me too, and I think I may have a problem with wanting to be around her all the time. We see each other practically everyday and she spends the night all the time. But it's gotten to the point where if I know she's out with her friends and stuff I feel a bit jealous of them because she's with them and not me. And I think that leads me to feel like she's not showing her love or affection as much. I know I should just hang out with friends and stuff but I recently moved here and don't really know too many people. Plus my work/school schedule kind of prohibit me from going out and on top of that I have guardianship over my little brother so i'm basically a dad at the same time. How do I get over this feeling of her choosing them over me, when I know that's stupid but it's how I think sometimes.", "summary": "I think I want to spend an unhealthy amount of time with the gf. Want to know how to break that urge."}
{"id": "t3_2eoy5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] don't like kissing. I've known this for a while now, and no amount of kissing good or bad will change that. How do I bring it up to the person I'm dating?", "post": "Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. \n\nA little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) \n\nI've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. \n\nSo what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it.", "summary": "Hate kissing, what do? When do I tell the person I'm dating without scaring them off? And how do I tell them?"}
{"id": "t3_fhgy4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit - If I found a way to help people who are going without medical care because they don't have money, would you be interested in helping?", "post": "I am a banker.  I see the impact medical costs have on people's health and finances. \n\nSometimes I see people who are looking for a loan to cover a deductible for a surgery they need.  Sometimes I see people in pain because they can't afford to go to the dentist to get a bad tooth drilled or removed.\n\nOther times I see people who HAVE insurance who are still financially wrecked because of the part of their meds they still need to cover.  For instance I have a client who has a specific type of cancer.  It is treatable but the meds cost $150,000 per year!!!  His insurance covers all but $18,000, but that still leaves him $1500/month to cover and that's pretty hard when you are not working because you feel like shit.\n\nSo anyway, I am sick of seeing people left behind.  I have seen Reddit help people get medicine, new wheelchairs, cover the cost of funerals when tragedy strikes...yeah you guys are a pretty benevolent bunch.\n\nI am developing a website that will help people out of these situations.  It is still in the conceptual stage, but I sent in my application for non-profit status today.  (THAT was a bitch!)\n\nWhen it launches, I would like to post it to Reddit so you can check it out and support it if you feel like it is worthy.  \n\nBUT - I suck at getting things noticed on Reddit.  My posts tend to drop faster than Charlie Sheen's fly at the Bunny Ranch.  I think I am doing it wrong.\n\nSO - When it launches, where should I post it?\n\nALSO - What do you think your interest level would be in something like this if you could easily establish that it was legit and was really helping people?  Something you could get behind?\n\nPlease message me with questions, if you have any.  And thanks!", "summary": "I am designing a website to help people with their medical costs.  I want to post it on Reddit when it launches but don't know exactly the best way to do it."}
{"id": "t3_2dupnn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "An incredible offer", "post": "Hey /r/loseit fans. My mind was blown a little bit today, and I hope you stick with me while I explain the story.\n\nI have always had problems with my weight. Being the heaviest of 5 brothers has always been a trouble I dealt with. When I went away to college and moved 2000 miles away after graduating, I thought I put my negative thoughts behind me, but the negativity always stuck in my mind. \n\nMy highest weight has been 240. And while I know some of you have had to deal with more, and I have seen the success stories of people blowing me out of the water, that number haunted me.\n\nWell, today while visiting my Dad's house, he offered me $10,000 to pay for my student loans under the condition that I lose weight until I am \"healthy\". \n\nPart of me resents him for judging me and my appearance, but the other half of me knows he is telling the truth. I understand that this is an incredible opportunity that I wish more people would have the chance to realize, but I need assistance.\n\nEven after spending a large amount of time on this subreddit, and seeing all of the people who are so helpful and incredible and have broken every stigma of \"overweight\" individuals, I was hoping to tap into the great community.\n\nI have very little time to cook, and I fall into awful habits of binge eating/drinking.\n\nAre there simple ideas or mantras that can set me on the right path? What were the reasons that you awesome people have found to make a change?\n\nSorry for the book. Thanks for the help.", "summary": "I'm fat, my dad has money. offer ensues. read the damn post :)"}
{"id": "t3_4ipgjf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] My boyfriend [28/M] thinks I'm getting a diploma because of \"daddy's money\"", "post": "Hi there /r/relationship_advice , long time lurker here !\n\nI'm using a throwaway because my bf is a fellow redditor.\n\u00a0\n\n   A bit of background : I'm a 22 year old girl from Greece , I  sat the national exams, managed to get myself in a CS Univeristy, which I unfortunately ended up abandoning after 1 year, since I had some personal issues. After a one year break , I decided that I had to do something in my life , and I ended up in a private CS (Computer Science ) college. \n\u00a0\n\nMy boyfriend , followed the same process as me , but he got in a national Technical School ( maybe that's the wrong term  ,but here we have : universities > technical schools , as we call them , or as I roughly translate at least :P ). He is now on his 10th year and he has to pass 1 lesson to get his degree. He is interested in computers , which has nothing to do with what he used to study.\n\u00a0\n\u00a0\n\n**The problem** : Well the obvious problem is that he thinks I'm getting a degree no matter what , because my father's paying a bunch of money. The other problem is that he thinks I'm stupid he explains the most basic stuff like he would explain it to a 4 year old.\n\u00a0\n\u00a0\n\nFor example: \"You cannot do [insert paragraph here] with this command, the database doesn't allow it\" . And I'm like \"yeah , I know, that's pretty basic stuff\".\n\nI'm seriously thinking of not inviting him to my graduation ceremony,  because what's really the point?  How should I handle this situation?", "summary": "Bf thinks I'm graduating only because my father's paying for a CS college.  Bf also thinks I'm stupid. 99% sure I won't invite him to my graduation ceremony."}
{"id": "t3_p03rh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How selfish is too selfish?", "post": "She: 26, Me: 29 together about 5 years, off and on, mostly on.\n\nShe tends to be rather selfish in my opinion in the relationship.  The basic rule is to not talk too much about yourself because it's boring, but she always talks about herself.  Recently I told her how I felt, that I'd like to change the subject more often and maybe stop talking about her all the time.  I do care about her world, but it would be nice if she weren't so selfish in the conversations.  I know females love attention, but honestly, it's about give AND take.\n\nQuestion - am I in the wrong to think she's selfish when our conversations involve a lot more \"I\" and \"me\" and \"my\" than \"you\" or \"our\"?  When I told her what I did she didn't snap and we didn't fight about it, but based on her reaction I don't know if anyone else has ever told her that she's kind of...egocentric.", "summary": "I know women love to be the center of attention, but is it wrong to call them on this so they realize the other person is actually a person not a lap dog?"}
{"id": "t3_1z4dx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am getting seriously offended by my friend [16/F] I don't wanna make a deal about it because I'm terrified of being alone for prom.", "post": "So I'm going to prom with this girl I dated from November up to late January. We're still good friends, we didn't stop dating for any bad reason, It was just that she felt guilty about dating me so soon after breaking up with someone.\n\nShe's a nice girl all in all but there's just one thing. She has this flirty thing that she does where she insults me.\n\nNow I can take a joke or whatever but she really goes to far and hurts me.\n\nI'm a short guy, I'm 5'6 and I look young for my age and before I met this girl I had no problem with it.\n\nShe constantly tells me how I'm not actually 18 and that her 15 year old friends look older, she tells me that i'm a midget, she tells me that my voice is too high and worst of all she complains about how she can't wear heels to prom because she's going with me and doesn't want to be taller than the guy.\n\nRecently I'v been getting really depressed about my height and young looks because of all this. \n\nIt's going too far and I wan't to tell her without her getting offended and deciding to not go to prom with me that I'm getting really depressed about the things shes saying to me.", "summary": "Friend is making me feel insecure about my height, I want to tell her how I feel but I don't want to be alone for prom."}
{"id": "t3_2wl51k", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "MOH wants me to create a guest list for a bridal shower. How do I assess who would be interested in being included on that list?", "post": "Here's the situation: my wedding will be local to where I currently live (Kansas City).  Family and friends (including bridal party), however, are all over the place.  My maternal family is mostly in WI, and my paternal side is pretty dispersed these days.  Friends from high school and college have mostly scattered as well.  I only have a small handful of friends and FH's family in the area.\n\nMy MOH, who is my cousin, is in MN.  She's trying to figure out some logistics for the bridal shower, which will likely be held in the summer.  She's happy to host in WI where most of our family is.  She's thinking though, that it might be smart to host a second shower locally (I have a BM here that might be willing to take that on, or maybe my FMIL) so folks don't have to travel as far.  Even if I were to have a KC party, that only solves the travel dilemma for maybe about 15 people who are local.\n\nHere's my question: for the folks who are local, how do I assess if anyone would even want to attend a (probably small) bridal shower vs. if they'd prefer to be invited to the larger one being planned in WI?  \n\nSecond question: for folks who are local to neither location, is there a polite way of asking if they want to come to a bridal shower that would require travel on their part?  My wedding guest list has over 300 people on it at the moment, most of who will have to travel for the wedding.  I certainly don't want them to feel obligated to come to a gift-giving opportunity too.  But I don't want to exclude anyone by assuming folks don't want to travel.  At the same time, I don't want my bridal party to have to send out 150 invites to folks who most likely won't be able to attend and/or find a venue appropriate for 100s if only 20 are able to make it.  That shit gets expensive and is a headache to plan around.", "summary": "MOH is trying to figure out logistics for a bridal shower and I have no idea how many folks I can expect would want to attend such an event (b/c most would be traveling).  How do I politely ask them if they want to schlep up to WI to give me presents without a) being rude and implying that their attendance is expected or b) being rude and not inviting someone simply b/c I assume they won't want to travel?"}
{"id": "t3_2fh0a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] going to a small festival at which my recent ex-boyfriend [21M] will also be at.", "post": "So, to give a little background to the story, my ex and I broke up this past July after getting together in May.. it was short, however, we fell very hard for each other. Our summer spent together was beautiful, we had an amazing time with one another. That is, until he decided it wasn't worth his time.\n\nAnyway, this post isn't about the break up. I met my ex up in Vermont at his school where my best friend goes to. We all share mutual friends, as I have become close with their friends up there. Everyone is going to this festival, which I'm very excited for, however, he is as well.\n\nI've been doing pretty alright for the most part since the break up. I meditated and severed the mental attachment I had to him (for the most part.) What I mean by that is meditating, imagining a clear connection to the person who you are attached to emotionally, and then severing it. All mental and meditation.. \n\nSo point being, thinking about him doesn't throw me into despair and panic attacks. However, finding out last night that I will be seeing him and quite possibly hanging out in the same group at our campsite might be really difficult..\n\nMy fear is losing my shit if he doesn't talk to me and losing my shit if he does indeed talk to me. I don't plan on staying sober that weekend which might make that even more possible.\n\nI'm not sure what I need to do to prepare myself. I need advice how to go about this entire situation if I do see him. Should I say hello? Be the bigger person? My mind screams no because he really hurt me and took the wrong way to break up the relationship.. but at the same time I really don't want to have a bad time and have others feel negative energy when we're all trying to hang out and have a good time..", "summary": "Ex and I will be at the same tiny festival. Bumping into each other is inevitable. Don't know how I should go about this encounter when it happens."}
{"id": "t3_4bbos3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/M] am having doubts on the relationship with my girlfriend [19/F]", "post": "Hello Reddit. This is a throwaway account as my girlfriend knows my main username. \n\nI have known my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, but it wasn't until last month that we started dating. Before that we were just friends. I would like to state that this is our first serious relationship for both of us. \n\nThe main thought that keeps popping in my head is about her past. She's the party type. She would get drunk and make out with other guys on a regular basis. I have never done this. I know that the past is the past, but for whatever reason I can't seem to accept this fact about her and whenever I think about it, it just makes me sad. And the fact that sometimes she discusses the guys she made out with, with her friends in front of me, keeps putting more doubts in my head.\n\nAnother thing that's causing me doubts is our lack of communication during the day. She never talks to me during the day time. She's not busy and can spare a few minutes to catch up with me. However we talk every night to catch up on our days and here she initiates the contact. I don't know if I am being too clingy or maybe she is independent and likes to have some alone time. \n\nAnd final thing is, that she never really makes an effort to meet up with me during the week. During the weekends it's fine, we always meet up. But I really miss her during the week and would like to meet up, at least once. But when we do go out, she's the one that takes the initiative to go a certain place. Again, I don't know if I am being clingy on this issue as well.\n\nSometimes I feel like I not the type of guy that she would go for. \n\nProblems I have only arise when I am not with her. When we are together it is amazing. We really enjoy each others company and have a great time together.\n\nSo Reddit, what is your opinion on this? I need some help to make me straighten up my mind because I don't want to sabotage this relationship and up losing her for nothing.", "summary": "Having difficult time accepting facts about my girlfriend's past and current issues in our present relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1jnkeu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Right now I am so scared", "post": "I feel so pathetic.  I moved to a new town last year for school and I have never ever felt so out of place before, in school or in the city that I live in.  I've always lived in a big city and now I live in a much smaller city where people are much nicer but they gossip so much more, since you're likely to run into people you know everywhere.  This makes me feel so self-conscious.  I can't even go to the grocery store without freaking out.\n\nI am letting all of my fears work against me: I feel too old at school (I'm 41), being a minority (i'm asian); and embarrassed that I'll be divorced. \n\nI live a solitary life and this is the first time in my life I am without friends.  I have never felt lonelier and this makes me feel incredibly self-conscious.  Right now I am so scared to let go.  I finally joined meetup but I am frightened to death to meet people, for fear of being misunderstood.  As this is how I feel every single day here.\n\nDoubly frustrating because I'm a nice guy, whom everybody likes.  But I feel out of place here.  They say 'fake until you make it', but I can't do that.  I really feel like I don't belong here.", "summary": "I have extreme social anxiety to reach out to people:  am in a tough life situation and desperately need companionship"}
{"id": "t3_1dcd5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22m Infatuated with 24F friend that might not feel the same way.", "post": "My feelings are growing for this incredible woman. The way she walks. The way she talks, and laughs, her personality. So much desire for her. I could go on and on. But she doesn't want to commit to anything right now. We're just friends at the moment and I'm trying to \"not\" like her for her sake, which is impossible. We've already talked about these feelings to a point.\n\n22M 24F known for 1 year, hanging out a lot for 1 month\n\nI don't want to come off as pushy or \"creepy\". What are the things I should not do? How long should I wait before realizing she's not interested in me in that way?", "summary": "Pretty much in love with a friend and I'm not sure how to handle it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_35wnj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46 M] with my wife [22 F] has been sending ambiguous texts to various men while at college. Is she cheating on me?", "post": "So my wife and I started dating 6 years ago, been married for 2.  I met her when I was at the park with my kids from my first marriage.  We immediately clicked and started dating.  She was really mature for her age and came from a broken family,  I'm a very wealthy business owner and took her in.\n\nThe past year or so she has been more aloof.  She has been away on college the past 4 years and we've only been able to be together on the weekends.  I have noticed that this past year she has been coming over to visit me less and less.  She has an instagram and posts pics of her with other men at parties and raves.  She didn't get to experience this kind of stuff in high school so I'm giving her some leeway\n\nHowever, I can't help but be paranoid.  I'm not proud of it but when she came to visit me last weekend, I snooped on her phone when she was in the shower (I know her passcode and she doesn't know that I know).  I went to her text  and she had many ongoing conversations with various men.  They would write things like \"I had an amazing time ;) see u next week?\"  and she would respond with \"haha it was a little much but I had a lot of fun ;) lets do it again soon <3\" \n\nAnd then she would send a pic of her in a bra with her face out of the frame.  Is she cheating on me?  I'm paying for her degree and I know she wouldn't cheat on me to jeopardize it.\n\nWhat should I do reddit?", "summary": "Wife is off to college and she's sending ambiguous texts to various men.  Is it cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_18ap0z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] How to deal with nonmonogamous desires in a monogamous relationship?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Although our \"puppy love\" has gone, I love more than anyone. However, I have sexual and (less often) emotional attractions to other people. We have spoken about having an open relationship, but she needs monogamy. \n\nI feel trapped: to leave her would cause me immense pain, but to stay causes me pain on a regular basis.\n\nHow common is it to have these desires?\nHow can I get out of this trap?\n\nI realize this may just be a case where there is no information anyone can give me, but even a little advice on how to come to a decision would be helpful. I've been trying to work it out on my own for months.", "summary": "hurts to stay because I get crushes on other people, hurts to leave because I love her. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3c8pd7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By asking a person from my town if he was english.", "post": "So today i was going home  from a  gym tired as hell, when i see a guy walking by. He had a shirt with a team from american football which is pretty rare to find in my country (Denmark). Nevertheless i say hello in Danish and he says hi back. Only, it didn't really sound like he said it in danish. I then  became sure that he was an american since he even had that american football shirt on. I then say \"Oh so do you talk english?\" and he says very frankly \"nej\" (which is the word for no in case you're as dumb as me). I stand there for about 5 seconds feeling extremely awkward about it until i finally say goodbye.", "summary": "I thought that a man from my country even though he talked danish, asked him if he was english, and looked like an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_10x2g2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I insane for thinking about transferring from Harvard to a less prestigious university?", "post": "Using a throwaway for fear of my SO seeing this post. \n\nI am a freshman at what is considered a \"prestigious\" American university. Let me just start off saying it has been a wonderful experience academically. None of my classes are larger than 100 people, which provides the support I like to have from my professors. That being said, the social scene has not been treating me well. I have not been making any \"real\" friends and the party/drinking scene here is just not for me. I suppose that might be due in part to the fact that my longterm SO and I are attending school together. Actually, its more like we attend our entire lives together. All of our friends are mutual, our holidays consist of both our families, and we pretty much do most things in unison. I also have been connected to some very influential people because of my SO's family. I have begun to realize that while I have only been here a short time, I am at a major crossroads. Part of me wants to start living my own life but the other part of me says I should simply put up with whatever in order to reach my aspirations (which I might add, are very high for an average 19 y/o). \nReddit, would giving up all the opportunities by transferring be worth it if I were \"happy\"?", "summary": "I basically feel like my whole life has begun to be lived for someone/something else and I have no clue what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3cu0f5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) fiance (24M) grabbed me to \"get my attention\"", "post": "I'll keep it short. Together 3 years. He's always been nice and kind to me. We've always known we would get married and we share everything and live together. Because of this I found the engagement ring in the closet and asked him about it and he told me (last night) that he's proposing tonight. I tried it on because I was so excited but he took it back to do it officially tonight.\n\nToday I was setting up the internet. He was mad I wasn't paying attention to him because today is special. We started arguing and he was screaming and in my face. I just started to ignore him so he'd do his own thing and calm down. He grabbed my hand and squeezed it hard and then bent my arm. He's never done this before. Is it because we're going to get married?", "summary": "boyfriend grabbed my arm day of proposal"}
{"id": "t3_2iuldz", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Best rice cooker for 1-pot meals?", "post": "I love my rice cooker. It's always been handy, but some time back (few years ago maybe) I read a post on reddit about how amazing rice cookers are and about all of the many crazy things other than rice that you can cook in them. I started experimenting and now I like making all sorts of things in my rice cooker, including several one-pot meals. It's so easy!\n\nThe problem is that the one I have was purchased 8 years ago to make just rice for two people. Well time passes, custody arrangements change, and now I'm trying to make not just rice but whole meals for two adults and a thirteen-year-old bottomless pit of hunger :) The poor thing is just too small!\n\nSo I have resigned myself to the idea that I need a newer, bigger one. Any advice on size or brand? There are so many options out there now, and some are ridiculously fancy and expensive. I don't want to waste money, my $8 Rival is still working perfectly after 8 years so I know I don't have to spend a lot, but are any of those bells and whistles actually worth laying out a bit more for?", "summary": "My rice cooker is too small, want recommendations on a bigger one."}
{"id": "t3_34yh97", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by working in a women's washroom", "post": "This happened about a year ago. I'm an electrician in a large city in Canada. We get a service call to install conduit from the lan room of an office on the 20th floor to the data room; that is the chase between floors for the new fiber optic line. So I see that the only route available takes me through the men's and women's washroom and into the office space. So I happily get to work bending conduit throwing it in the cling and putting the tiles back in the tbar. I get through the mechanical  room into the men's room and stuff the conduit into the ladies side.\n\nSo we pull our stuff out of the men's room and into the Hallway. We go for lunch and come back to site to finish the last half of the day put up signage directing office personell to washrooms on other floors. Setup my ladder and get to work measuring for the next piece. As I'm comming back out I can hear my coworker talking to a woman who wants to use the facilities.  I say hey its not a problem and let her go in and wait until she is out to test fit my next piece. While I'm in the celing I hear someone come into the washroom and go to the one beside me. Figuring it was my coworker I look down as I say hey bud can you pass me... and realize that some woman has decided the stall adjacent to me is the best seat in the house. Catching myself before she looks up my eyes are glued to the roof Until she leaves. This happens 4 more times before I finish. There are 5 stalls and I'm in stall 2 so  I dunno if I'm in the best stall or if the others are that dirty. But I wasn't going to get a sexual harassment talk.", "summary": "women like to have someone there to watch them pee"}
{"id": "t3_tx49z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Life Advice/Help Please!!", "post": "I'll start off with saying what's going on.  I am 19 years old living with my parent's, at least till next Sunday, and then they're kicking me out.  I hate to admit it, but I'm scared on what to do.  They're giving me nothing but the last few days to clear my stuff out and move on since apparently I'm \"holding them back\".  I've worked a job since I was 16 years old and recently quit to try something new.  So I'm jobless and only have about 5 grand to my name.  I really don't know what I should do financial or how I'm going to get a place to live.  I've graduated High school, and currently am enrolled in a Community college which I really want to continue to move onto a University, but I have no idea how I'll be able to afford such a thing financially so I'll probably have to give that up.  I'm scrambling to find a job as soon as I can, but I've been looking around for the past weeks since I've left my old one.  I honestly just really need some advice on what I should do, any ideas for a plan, or personal experiences that may help give me an exact idea on what might be the best path to head down.", "summary": "Parent's kicking me out, what should I do :/"}
{"id": "t3_2b1khq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf (24m) and I (20f) just got into a fight because he doesn't understand why I hate it when he checks out other women when he never looks at me like that", "post": "Don't get me wrong. We all notice attractive people. That's not the issue. The issue is...when we're out he points out nice bodies. When we watch tv he drools over the actresses. But then I try to start something sexual, and he has a million and one excuses why not to. I hate it...I know only you are responsible for your self esteem, but mine is plummeting. I'm not unattractive. I work out, and I dress nice every time I see him. I just want him to look at me like that. He always brushes it off when I try to say how this hurts me. He just says I'm being immature and it's dumb to think he doesn't notice people. Once again, i would 100% not care if he could only look at me like that. He claims he has a low libido, but that's not true in my eyes...it's been like this since we got together just over a yr ago and I don't know what to do about it.", "summary": "BF checks out other women, but rarely has sex with me. Probably 2/10 times i try to initiate it he will accept it, and it will be boring passion-less sex."}
{"id": "t3_1ohc32", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I just turned 30 [F] and I am so disappointed by my husbands [30] behavior and gift on my birthday. Together since we were 18.", "post": "My husband and I are temporarily in different countries. He ruined my birthday with some very uncool behavior on his part (that ended up with him threatening to leave me on my birthday).  \n\nWe mostly worked through that until yesterday I went to the post office to get the gift he sent me. It was a week late (which would not have bothered me had he not utterly ruined my birthday) and it was just full of candy and a bag for a show that I sorta like and sorta hate (including the receipt for the bag $6.50 from Hot Topic). Even worse, the candy was not the candy I would prefer. He got me tropical flavored fruit by the foot, and I don't like tropical flavored anything, and peanut butter M&Ms, which are good, but more of his thing than mine. \n\nI wouldn't have been upset about these oversights and lack of a \"real\" gift, except he already ruined my birthday. It just made me feel like he really doesn't give a damn. To be fair, he sent the package before my birthday, so he didn't realize at the time that he was going to ruin my birthday.\n\nAnyway, I talked to him about it, and now I feel bad. I shouldn't be ungrateful and I know I hurt his feelings. Still, I feel like his gift was so thoughtless and uncaring that I can't help but feel hurt. \n\nShould I not have said anything? Am I being terrible?", "summary": "Husband ruined my 30th birthday with very bad behaviour, and I was getting over it until I received his really crummy birthday gift."}
{"id": "t3_28maf9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stealing condoms", "post": "So I have been dating this girl for little over a year and having sex causally for half a year. So this morning she texts me telling me she'll be home alone tonight and that she's extremely horny. We had been all out of condoms for a week and so I decided to go get some. As I got into the store I had realized I forgot my wallet at home but I thought, \"hey, I'll just steal them\". So I garbed a small pack of a brand I had never used before and walked out. Later that night I show up at her house and we start to have sex and it is amazing. After I finish I go to take off the condom and realize it wasn't there... I see it on the bed and realize that I had just busted inside her. She's freaking out, I'm freaking out. It's really shitty and I ended up calling my brother for 50 dollars because I was all out of money and wasn't going to be paid for another week. I took the walk of shame through target to buy plan b about an hour ago.", "summary": "I ended up paying 50 dollars because I didn't pay 5"}
{"id": "t3_xvvdl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my roommate might be brainwashed. Help?", "post": "I wasn't sure where to post this, so if this is the wrong place, just point me somewhere else.\n\nMy roommate went to this \"training workshop\" called [Pathways Core Training, inc.] over the winter break this year.\n\n At first I thought it was just a group therapy organization, and thought he was better off for doing it, but recently he has been behaving strangely. Before this camp he was a lot like myself, and I'm sure many of you: cynical, skeptical, easygoing, and a smidge of socially awkward. In short, a great guy to be around. Nowadays he is constantly on edge (at least towards me) and refuses to accept criticism or any kind of insult. Not that I'm being cruel, we're just guys, and guys do that sort of thing. \n\nDespite all this, he claims to be the happiest and freest he's ever been. He constantly posts statuses involving the word \"blessed\" but if I, or anyone, says something even slightly negative on it, he gets defensive and angry. \n\nOn top of the behavior listed above, he has also been actively recruiting for this \"Training\" workshop. His mother, two of his friends, and his girlfriend of barely a month have all gone since he was forced to go by his then-girlfriend last December/January. \n\nI'm only an undergrad in my psychology program, but this seems to have all the warning signs of someone joining a cult/being brainwashed. Has anyone else heard of this Dallas-based group or had any experience with them? This guy was(is?) one of my best friends, and I'm worried about him. I'm also worried about my friends that he will get to also drink the kool-aid.", "summary": "My friend went to a training thing in Dallas and came back all different. I think he may be brainwashed. What do you think? What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4xw3en", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19 M] can only be with my girlfriend[20F], for specifically the next year. After that I won't ever see her again.", "post": "Hi reddit, made an account just for this. I'm studying at University atm with my girlfriend who I met at the university.  She's from Germany (I'm from UK), and lives there with her family outside of term time.  Next year she's going to do a year in work in another country, without visiting the UK once. After that, she'll return to Germany for the summer.\n\nWhen the term starts again and she'll be in the UK, I'll be doing a year in work in another country, at which point she'll be doing her final year. I won't be able to see her for 2 years straight. After that, she'll live in Germany again. She's stated that she has no interest in long distance relationships, so when she goes away at the end of this year, things will be over.\n\nMy emotional predicament is that I really care about her, and we have this upcoming academic year to spend together. However, after this year it's likely I'll never see her again.\n\nWhat should I do? I don't know if I can deal with knowing that I'm going to be hurt for a whole year. Should I ride it out? Do I end things now before I care too much?", "summary": "My relationship is going to end due to distance and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3w6fne", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Should I get rid of my mole? 16 Male", "post": "I have a mole that has been kinda bothering me for the past year or so. I've had it my whole life, but recently I began getting self conscious about it. It is located between [the 12 and 15 spot in the left side](\n\nThe problem with the mole is that it is raised and it is way darker than my skin tone, so it stands out.\n\nI've never really gotten any criticism or teases about it.\n\nIt isn't too big. [It is around the size of this, but way darker](\n\nI kind of want to get rid of it, but I also don't because I feel like I will be missing a part of me when I do. \n\nWhat are you guys' thoughts on it?", "summary": "I have a mole near my chin that stands out, but I am afraid to remove it because I think i'll be missing a \"part of me\"."}
{"id": "t3_4ezv92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my BF [24 M/F] of 4 years, he watches porn but won't let me use toys?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have used \"toys\" before, but I have never picked one and bought one myself. I was thinking about buying one for myself and my boyfriend flipped a bit. He doesn't want me using anything that \"changes my biology\" or \"gets me used to orgasming a certain way\" or anything. \n\nIt seems really unfair. He watches porn, and a lot o\nf his arguments seemed like they could apply to porn. Why can he have his \"tool\" but I can't have mine? How can I make him see that, like with porn, I will never prefer it over the real thing!", "summary": "He watches porn but I can't have a vibrator/dildo."}
{"id": "t3_4rx6y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M,22) noticed my girlfriend (F,20) search up her old FWB on Facebook", "post": "I'll call her K in this instance. K and I have been dating for just over 6 months now. I love her, and we both are so happy with the way things have been going with us. \n\nA while back, a \" friend\" of mine who was also a coworker of hers at the time let me know that K had slept with one of her former coworkers which became a fuckbuddy type of situation. He also mentioned to me that she told him it was some of the best sex she's ever had (not sure why he thought I needed to know that information). But this all happened before we were even exclusive so naturally, I paid it no mind. I knew no details about their relationship other than this guy's name. \n\nFast forward to last night, K and I were out to dinner, and we wanted to check what time a certain event was that we're attending over the weekend. She pulls up Facebook on her phone and starts to search for it when it pops up that her most recent search is of this former coworker that she was involved with last year. \n\nI just can't wrap my head around the fact of why he could even come into her mind enough to make her want to search up his page. It could be insecurity, jealousy, but it made me unsettled nonetheless. The biggest problem is that K doesn't even know that I know this guy exists, let alone them sleeping together. Don't get me wrong, I trust her and in no way think that she's having an affair. I feel our relationship getting stronger by the day which is why this confuses me so much. Not sure how I should take it from here.", "summary": "found out my girlfriend searched up her former fuckbuddy's facebook page while we were out at dinner"}
{"id": "t3_qva0p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do I find simple things so difficult?", "post": "It's something I've noticed more and more over the years.\n\nI can write long and complicated essays on a technical subject with difficult words and spellings yet the word character is beyond me without a spell check.\n\nI understand complex mathematical equations. I read them like most people read a newspaper or a witty comment on a website. Yet some really simple equation like 7 x 43 has me stumped.\n\nI know the names of a million electronic components and their required inputs. However I recently forgot the word spoon for about 3 days and this is not the first such thing.", "summary": "complex stuff I can do. easy stuff I struggle."}
{"id": "t3_1ob5wh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26F] with my boyfriend[35M] he visits his kids at his ex's house. Is this normal?", "post": "My boyfriend of 3.5 years goes over to his ex wife's house, and stays there to visit his kids. I've tried everything to tell him that I am not comfortable with this kind of behavior, because I think it is not normal. His excuse is that it costs too much money to drive back and forth, so I have offered him money for gas and to pay for activities for him and the kids(I work most days when he has them) so he doesn't have to spend the time there. He still refuses to stop going over there. I am at my breaking point with this and I need opinions.", "summary": "Is it ever acceptable to stay at the ex-wife's house for visitation instead of picking up the kids and going to the park?"}
{"id": "t3_3xqx97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my roommate [22F] 7 months, who is unstable", "post": "My roommate lets call her sofie is unstable. Ive lived here since June 2015, and things have slowly gotten worse. Lately, Ive taken to avoiding her. But this recent incident occurred that has really driven me up a wall.\n\nSo I have my good family friend, pretty much my uncle over last night. I have not seen him in a month or two. Him and I are talking in my apartment's living room. Then Sofie grabs her art project and sits on the floor, coloring while my uncle and I are talking. She continues to interrupt the conversation and constantly invalidate what I say. The best part was my uncle asked me a question and she totally interrupted and answered it for me.\n\nNow her and I barely talk. Because she tries to micromanage and control me or she downplays everything I say. I've been avoiding her and she acts like everything is fine when I have family over. She does not talk to me and only did so last night.\n\nFurther examples of what she does\n\n1. My roommates and I have all paid her for utilities and she said she paid the bill. She did not and our power got shut off.\n\n2. My girlfriend at the time was over and Sofie asked if my gf wanted a hug and proceeded to hug her without waiting for a response.\n\n3. She leaves dishes in the sink and doesn't do them. But tells me how to do my dishes. Btw I'm a well paid dishwasher at a fancy pasta place.\n\n4.  Constantly interrupts me and disagrees. Not just normal disagreeing but everything I say she says is wrong. She was at my job and in front of my coworkers interrupted me and invalidated my statement.", "summary": "Roommate constantly interrupted me last night when I had my uncle over. She never apologized and she never talks to me in the first place."}
{"id": "t3_3dhzj9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Pennsylvania] Wife was in fender bender with uninsured neighbor", "post": "My wife was backing out of our driveway today at the same time as our across the street neighbor.  They collided rear-bumper to rear-bumper.  Neither saw the other so it was relatively high speed.  I was at work already when this happened.\n\nMy wife drives a Prius C and they drive a Highlander with a hitch.  As you can imagine, damage was fairly extensive for my wife and pretty much nada for the neighbor.\n\nNeighbors are a husband and wife, native Spanish speakers.  The husband speaks very little English.  They conferred for a while in Spanish and told my wife that they have no car insurance ... well they have insurance but it's registered in Maryland ... well actually they have no car insurance.  That's pretty much how it was communicated.\n\nThis seems pretty cut and dry.  Make an insurance claim, pay the deductible, get the repairs done.  But we really do not want to cause a whole host of legal/insurance problems for the neighbors.  We would hate to have their lives turned upside down because of a small fender bender which only caused bumper damage to one vehicle.  At the same time, we don't have the money to cover this outright.  \n\nI'm afraid our only option is the traditional route.  Can anyone share how much of an impact this may have on their lives?  Are there any other options I just may be missing?  Thanks.", "summary": "Wife and uninsured neighbors in fender bender.  Don't want to fuck them over but can't cover cost straight up."}
{"id": "t3_1yqrmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[25 M] broke up with my SO [24 F] of 2 years, now I'm living all alone and depressed", "post": "I've written this up in details but got no response, I thought I'd summarise it now. I've been going out with my SO for 2 years, and we even moved together in a house that I took a loan for. She also applied for a partner visa under my sponsorship, which requires that we prove that we are still together 2 years after she applied for it (in early 2015).\n\nProblem is, I feel that my feelings have withered, and I broke up with her at the start of Feb. I don't feel anything for her, and she kinda irritates me with how she talks and her mannerisms, even sex has become a chore. But since she is so anchored in my life and house, we're taking it slow until she figures out something.\n\nNow she took a flight to UK to see her sister and clear her mind, leavigin me by myself at the house. It's been 4 days and the loneliness is killing me. I don't have any close friends to talk about all this, and the other 'friends' are always busy with their own stuff and ignore me. I've tried messaging 2 of them, and they just blew me off. My close circle of friend blew apart a few years ago due to my SO actually, as she was going out with a friend of the group. After a few months of her breaking it off, she showed interest in me and we starting dating. My close friends were pissed and turned a cold shoulder on us, and I servered ties with them.\n\nI've never been on my own before. After leaving my parent's house I was always living in shared accomodation with people, now I'm alone in my own house. I feel like I miss the connection with a human being, be it a SO or close friend. I've been having panic attacks, having trouble falling asleep, lack of appetite, my heart's always racing. I have no idea how to go about recreating such a connection, let alone meeting new people. How do I handle this situation? Or if the root of the problem is something else, what is it?\n\nThank you if you've read this far, and for the input if any....", "summary": "A girl made my closest group of friends fall apart when she dated me a few months after breaking up with one of the friends. A few years later, I decide to break up with her as my feelings have withered, but during that time I haven't made any real friends and I'm now all alone by myself, feeling depressed in my own pit of despair."}
{"id": "t3_2vc9fa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have a crush on someone [22M] even though I'm in a long term relationship with an amazing person [22M]", "post": "Hey guys. Throwaway, yadda yadda.\n\nI'm a university student who has been dating the same guy, who I'll call Mark, for almost all of college. We celebrated our 3-yr anniversary in December, and our relationship has been 99% wonderful and fulfilling and positively challenging for the entire time. I love Mark so freaking much, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I am so in love with him.\n\nUnfortunately, I'm developing a crush on someone outside of my relationship :( I've known this guy, I'll call him Jeff, for awhile but I only recently started to know him a little better. We have mutual friends and see each other every once in awhile, and he is amazing. Jeff is just an overall incredible person, just like Mark.\n\nI feel so guilty. Of course Mark and I have tiny problems to work on just like any couple, but nothing that would make me want to abandon our relationship. I hate that I feel myself blush and get nervous whenever I see Jeff walk into a room. Disclaimer: I would NEVER, and I repeat, EVER cheat on Mark. Furthermore, Jeff knows that I am in a relationship, and even though I suspect he might feel the same about me, he will never pursue me out of respect for my relationship.\n\nPretty much, the only problem I'm having is that I don't know why I am feeling this way. Mark is wonderful and amazing, so why do I care about Jeff? I am graduating soon and me & Mark's relationship will be under a lot of stress as we try to find our footing in the real adult world, so I don't want to be feeling this way.\n\nIs this normal? Why is this happening? Should I tell Mark or just let it be? Should I avoid contact with Jeff? Thank you all so much!", "summary": "I'm in a great long-term relationship but I'm developing a crush. Why & how is this happening, and how can I make it stop?"}
{"id": "t3_r1qjm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone had that sense that someone is about to die?", "post": "My story: I was going to visit my great grandfather for a birthday dinner it was two weeks past my birthday I do not remember why. He was 90 and very active would walk every day about a mile. We pull up in front of his house and grab groceries as usual. I had this weird sense that something was not quite right and sort of knew that this was the last of something it was eerie. Walking into the house we heard him calling for help he had fallen or something. Calling the paramedics he was resuscitated and taken to the hospital about 3 hours later he was gone.", "summary": "visited great grandfather pulled up in front of house sensed something was wrong passed away in the house, revived by paramedics. Dies later at the hospital"}
{"id": "t3_3gl1fx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] with my girlfriend [19F] of nearly 2 years, growing distant and unattracted.", "post": "Hi, firstly, thanks for taking the time to read.\n\nI am 19 and we met at sixth form (college?). She then went to uni and I did not.. So we have a long distance relationship which she is currently back from over summer.\n\nThings were great and I visited her as much as financially possible, spent so much money, time and effort into seeing her. We argued ALOT however.\n\nAlso during this time, I began to really take care of myself and my fitness levels due to family reasons which means I work out a lot. However she has done the opposite. Put on a lot of weight during uni and doesn't seem to care, unless it's for a day and then goes back to her old ways.\n\nI have also spoke to my fears and told her I no longer find her AS attractive but it did not go well. She changed her way for about 4 days and also seemed see me as a different person during that time like I had broken her trust or something when I was also trying to help her help herself, as I know she complains about her weight. I also used to be EXTREMELY overweight so I know what it's like.\n\nI don't know if it's the weight, the distance or a mixture of everything and general life taking a toll but I now feel extremely distant from her. She recently went away to see family for 5 days and we barely spoke or texted the entire time, around 10minutes on a night time and a few texts sparingly throughout the day.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice? Does perhaps this situation seem familiar to you? Any advice will help", "summary": "summary: Girlfriend put on weight. Also growing emotionally distant from one another due to a mix of long distance/weight and other shit."}
{"id": "t3_12vzjh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone lend me a hand with my IA classes?", "post": "Hello Reddit, I need to resolve this maze for my IA classes, I need to use the A* algorithm.\n[The maze](\nI will explain it a bit:\nThere is a famour adventurer character in this maze. He must collect the 4 gem tiles and then get the coffer using the shortest path. In each tile there are some arrow meaning the FORBIDEN path from that tile to the next one. I need to find the heuristic.\n\nI was lurking Reddit for months and I thought the Reddit community could lend me a hand with this :)\nForgive my bad english, it isn't my main language. I appreciate language corrections too.\n\nThank you very much.", "summary": "Help me getting the heuristic for A* algorith to resolve this maze :)"}
{"id": "t3_104un9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents dont approve.", "post": "M-31, F-28 I have been dating this girl for 8 months. Long story short we broke up a few months ago due to her commitment issues. She has a hard time putting a label on anything due to her past, which is understandable in some ways. I was the one to cut ties. We ended up being broken up for about a month, talking every other day during that time. We worked things out and up getting back together. That was 3 months ago.\n\nNow, my parents do not like this girl. One of the reasons being the stuff I had said to them about her when I was mad. I should have kept my mouth shut, stupid me. They do not think this girl is going to make me happy in the long run. I understand their concern and am happy to listen to their advice, the problem is I am not going to just break it off with this girl because they think I should. Things have been going very very well with her. So, since im still with her and am not doing what they think, they are very cold to me. Things are not the same between us. Any advice on what I should do?", "summary": "Parents dont think girlfriend will make me happy, how can I convince them to give her a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_4u0fnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my fiance [27 F] 2 years, Mom's birthday is on the same day as my fiance's", "post": "So my mom's birthday is the same day as my fiance's, which is a disastrous coincidence.  What's worse is that my mom's 50th birthday is on the same day as my fiance's golden birthday.  Now I'm in an impossible scenario.  My fiance wants nothing more than to go out to eat with me, come home and sit on the couch and watch a movie, eat cake or ice cream or something, and of course  open her nice thoughtful card and gift that I got her.  \n\nMy mom wants everyone (me, my fiance, brother, sister-in law) to get together for her birthday and do something \"special,\" which really means bending over backwards and worshiping her all day while we do something stupid.  The problem is I can't reconcile the two.  My fiance doesn't want to spend her birthday hanging out with my annoying family, which is perfectly understandable, but my mom will probably freak out if I say that I can't do anything the day of her birthday.\n\nLast year I messed this up, I tried to celebrate my mom's birthday the day of her birthday and my fiance's birthday the day before, and it was apparently \"not special\" and what not. It seems that if you don't celebrate it on the right day then you might as well not be celebrating it.", "summary": "Mom and fiance have the same birthday, either way I lose and everyone is mad at me.  Are there any possible solutions to this dilemma?"}
{"id": "t3_2uu2ml", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by following the dress code to a T", "post": "About a year ago we had a big customer meeting coming up. The project manager was sweating all the meeting details since this was a big deal, with about 40 people expected in attendance. A few days before the meeting he sent us all a note reminding of all the logistics and specifying that the required attire was a suit and tie. Crap, I don't own a tie! *Never mind*, I thought, *I'll borrow one of my husband's ties*. He showed me how to tie it a couple of times and away I went. \n\nThe day of the meeting I put a nice suit on and made a valiant attempt to tie the tie. Alas, instead of a Windsor knot I just ended up with a crooked mess. Not deterred, I came into the conference room early and asked one of my coworkers, let's call him Bob, to help me. Bob gave me an odd look but complimented on the outfit and fixed my tie. Just then the project manager walked in and stopped dead in his tracks. *\"What are you wearing?\"* he said. *\"I followed your instructions,\"* I said. Maybe this was not such a good idea, I thought to myself, but it was too late. Guests were streaming into the room and the meeting commenced shortly.\n\nMy boss sat in the back of the room and grumbled about my clothing choices any time I was the presenter. It turns out that with certain body configurations a tie is almost as distracting as suspenders, a lesson I had learned a few years earlier. On the bright side, from that day on, the dress code became **business formal**.", "summary": "Wore a suit and tie and had my boss tied up in knots."}
{"id": "t3_4soifd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29M) am disappointed that my SO (25F) is getting another tattoo. Is this normal?", "post": "This is her second tattoo and she's planning on getting it under her collar bone. She talked to me about it yesterday and I really didn't have much to say about it other than she's her own person and I can't tell her yes or no.\n\nI'm not against tattoos by any means, and I've dated others that had many. However, with this SO I feel like she's losing her innocence right in front of me. I feel like the woman I've fallen in love with years ago is changing the person she is, and it scares me. We've been dating for over two years now and I was planning on proposing to her within the year. \n\nIs there a way to think about it that isn't negative? Am I looking at this wrong?", "summary": "girlfriend is getting a tattoo and it alarms me."}
{"id": "t3_2du1ul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just ended a year long relationship", "post": "Two months ago I (19, F) ended a one year long relationship with my ex (25/M). I found out my ex didn't love me anymore, but, for some reason I still don't understand, he was not able to finish our relationship and just kept faking it. We fought a lot through the relationship, mainly because I felt that he didn't love me, he always said that I wanted him to love me on my terms and that this was why I felt that way. We also had problems because I've always been a sarcastic person and this hurted him and made him hostile towards me, I think the main reason for him to take it so personally was that he was intimidated by me (he told me so when we started dating). I don't think a relationship can ever be healthy if one of the parts feels inferior, it was wrong since the beginning.\n\n We broke up 1 time before ending the relationship for real, we got back. He said he could not take my hurtful comments anymore, and we both agreed that we had to fix our emotional problems before we could ever be together. We remained friends, for a day or two, and we got back together.  Had he broke up with me by telling mw he didn't love me anymore, I would have never got back with him. Time passed by, problems remained. I found out on the internet that he didn't love me anymore. I talked to him and we broke up. He almost thanked me, because he said he wouldn't have been able to do so himself.\n\nIt's been 2 months. My friends blocked him from my fb account. I currently feel rejection towards any type of romantic relationship and also towards sex (any form of it). All I see in guys are traits that my ex has. I can't see people for what they are, instead I see copies of him everywhere. I found out he's already dating someone or in the process of doing so.\n\nI feel destroyed, I've lost weight like crazy and I really can't talk about this with anyone, it makes me feel so stupid and weak. I need advice, please.", "summary": "Broke up two months ago with my one year long ex. He's already dating, I feel rejection toward any  type of relationship and sex. What can I do? Have you ever been through this, if so how did you get over it? opinions?"}
{"id": "t3_3cfjmf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[GER] Had to make a large unexpected payment, how do I get back to a positive account balance without much to spare?", "post": "Hey PF!\n\nI need help \u2013 I'm not quite sure what exactly happened in the last few days, but I went from having 3000 Euros saved up to having overdrafted my account by thousand euros.\n\nLong story short: Mid last year I switched schools & my major. Due to the legal circumstances here, my father did not have to pay child support any longer after that, however, he agreed on supporting me nonetheless (he was in the same position during his university years). My dad and I always had a fragile relationship and his wife hates me (not my mother). Last Monday, I received a letter from a lawyer telling me I had to repay short of 4000 Euros to my father as I supposedly made false claims and did not inform him about switching majors (and therefore him not having to pay support). I'm not here for legal advice, I checked with my other family side's lawyer (parents are divorced) and unfortunately for me, I trusted my father enough to not set up a written contract about the continued support payments & his claims are bullet proof. Lesson learned.\n\nSo, my financial situation looks like this: Monthly, I have bills coming in at about 100\u20ac. My rent is taken care of by my mom. I work and make about 450\u20ac per month which I do not have to tax, leaving me with about 350\u20ac monthly to spend on food, clothes, daily needs. To be honest, I never worried all that much about my financial situation, I usually took my salary and saved most of it and lived off my father's allowance (ca. 300\u20ac per month, the discontinued payment). \n\nHow do I best get rid of the overdrafted amount on my account? I barely have anything I can save I suppose, unless I live super frugal (and I'm not sure I know how to). Overdraft fees are not a problem as I have a special bank account with student conditions, I pay barely anything, so if it takes time that is okay.", "summary": "I'm broke and my account is overdrafted, I don't have much to save. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_jftkz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "In response to the recent posts about people overcoming depression:", "post": "It's all very nice that people can make changes in their lives to make it go away, but for many or most, that does not help at all. If you have been feeling depressed for a time longer than six months, and/or it interferes with your life, see a counselor AND GP. Sure, many have factors in their lives which cause them to feel this way, but many are genetically predisposed to the condition and no scenery change or 'opening up' will change that.\n\nGo to a counselor (not a psychiatrist) to determine whether your problems are psychological, and a GP to determine whether it is at all related to any physical issues that you may have (allergies, diet, et cetera). Go to a specialist at the recommendation of your counselor and GP. Starting with a specialist can be problematic, first because it may cost you unnecessarily, and second because, at least in my experience, someone who limits their field of work can sometimes limit their field of vision. Unnecessary treatment and incorrect diagnosis kind of suck. So, start out with a wide view, and work your way toward a more focused treatment.\n\nDon't just wait for it to get better, and don't expect the world to get better with a change of location. The worst week of my life, I spent in DisneyWorld.", "summary": "It's awesome that some people can make changes to their lives and get over depression. Others can't. See a doctor if there's an issue."}
{"id": "t3_213c46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16/F] need a second opinion about my bf's [19/M] and my relationship, semi long distance, i'm having doubts?", "post": "we have been dating for about four months (but have known each other a year and I know he's a bit older, that is not something we are concerned about) and he recently moved into Seattle. I live on an island off Seattle and since i'm still in school I can only see him on the weekends. \n\nBut this is the fourth weekend I haven't been able to see him. Our only form of communication is text and he has told me he doesnt like texting. He will usually only text back if I ask him a question (i'm always asking questions...) and it will take him anywhere from two mintues to 12 hours to get back to me. \n\nI haven't been able to see him because since he just moved, he's still getting settled and looking for a job.  I know he cares about me. I feel like I might just be insecure and need to give it more time, but I have been really patient. \n\nAm I wasting my time or am I just insecure? I believe this relationship is worth the wait. What do you think?", "summary": "my boyfriend and I haven't seen each other in four weeks and I am looking for an opinion on whether it's worth it or not"}
{"id": "t3_2r2e7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some unbiased opinions.", "post": "I (19m) work with a girl (18f) and I suspect that she may be interested in me but to be honest I really have no idea. Before I'm told about how its not a good idea to get involved with coworkers I know. Really I do, but as I'm moving on in the next month or so I'm willing to chance it.\n\nSo anyway I've worked with her for roughly a year at this point, we're cleaners to add some context. When I first met her we got on and chatted occasionally  then but about 2-3 months ago I was shifted to working in the same area as her. Since then we spend at least an hour per shift talking and laughing with each other and have exchanged numbers, social media crap and Snapchat info.\n\nWe often text having a conversation at least once every 2 days or so not including random snaps. The thing is she is usually the one who initiates the conversations. Always laughs at my shitty jokes and things like that.\n\nThe stuff we talk about is pretty mundane but the way she reacts is what makes me think. Like I said separate texts just saying \"hahahahah\" or when we talk about work, how she backs me up if I've had an argument with another coworker.\n\nWe also went out for a drink with another coworker. Good times were had by all and I'm not really reading into at. She often hints at going out with me more, most recently new years, and introducing me friends and the like.\n\nOh and she let slip she was looking at my Facebook profile a few days ago so there's that. Not much else but the other day I said \"Can I ask you a personal question\", she froze and looked pretty nervous, I THINK she thought she was going to ask her out. I'm not sure if that's a good reaction. \n\nAnyway we really get on and I enjoy her company. I'd be willing to take things further but I don't want to ruin the friendship or us working together. Let me know what you think!", "summary": "Flirting or just being a decent human being?"}
{"id": "t3_rlc50", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Almost to my goal, but I've been stuck for the last 2 weeks.", "post": "Hello, I want to say two things. First, the stories on here inspired me to get to 220 from 250 that used to be 225 of almost no muscle. (Fat to bulky to less fat/less bulky) Your stories are hugely inspiring everyone! Secondly: please don't lynch me for my habits that I know are god aweful.\n\nI'm currently bouncing back and forth on and off from 220 - 223 and can't seem to break past it. I have classes from 10 to 3 most days and work on some of those days as well. \n\nDue to having almost no time to eat or prepare something my diet is a makeshift \"college student calorie counting diet.\" Basically: toast with peanut butter before I drive to campus. Two 90 calorie bars. I then usually don't have anything to eat since the commons and food halls close by now to prepare for dinner, so I go run my 2 miles at 8m a mile (I know it sucks, trying to train for a physical test coming up) and then do my muscle group for the day.\n\nThe main problem is I know my diet is terrible, but I am completely at a loss on how to make it work with a stupid busy schedule and being away from home all day. And to make matters worse I must work 12 hours over night (tonight) so rest and clean eating is almost impossible to acheive on nights like this.\n\nI hate to ask for advice, but I'm not sure what I can do to lose the next 20 pounds before the end of May? (Started January 1st) Also, my apologies if I left something out.", "summary": "250 January 1st. Now 220ish aiming for 200 by end of May. Horrible diet, a lot of running before lifting. Job and classes keep me too busy to do anything propper, including resting and eating. SOS"}
{"id": "t3_4jbafz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(19F) with my parents(39F&38M), we're getting a dog but they plan to leave it home while we party right after we get it? I don't know if I'm right or being dramatic?", "post": "I am a longtime lurker, first time poster. I'll be honest, I never thought that's I'd need advice for anything but I am left confused and hurt by whats happening right now.\n\nMy little sister is turning 7 on Monday and she has been begging for a puppy for nearly a year. The original plan was for her to have a birthday at school with her friends, then we would go to the shelter and adopt a dog after. But my sister changed her mind and wants to go to an arcade for her birthday, which means we would have to adopt the dog, and then leave it in a cage by itself while everyone is gone for several hours. I am extremely against this. I believe it's unfair and cruel to leave a dog in an unfamiliar environment by itself immediately after we get it.\n\nI have told my parents how I felt about this, but they think I'm the being dramatic. I told them I would stay home with the dog while they go celebrate but they told me I'm prioritizing a dog over my sister. I ask if we could get a dog today, but my mom has to work, and I guess my father doesn't feel like taking my sister and I? I asked if we could get it Thursday, when both parents are off of work and everyone would be home but my mom yelled, \"How DARE you try to take this dog away from her on her special day?! She has been asking for this dog for a year!\". \n\nI feel like I don't really have much a choice here but to stay home with the dog while they go out because I really don't feel comfortable leaving it here by itself. My Mom says that dogs can left home by themselves, and I know that but I don't think it should be by itself immediately after we get it? She said (right in front of my sister) that I am horrible for caring about a dog more than my sister. Now my parents are mad at me and my sister is crying because she thinks I don't care about her. I don't know if I'm right or if I really am being dramatic?", "summary": "Sister is getting a dog for her birthday but is leaving to party right after getting it. I want to stay home with the dog but my parents think I'm wrong to do that. Now everyone is upset with  me and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3qd9q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my ex [22 M] broke up and hope is giving me anxiety", "post": "Me and my ex were together for 3 months, but we were good friends for a few more before that. We had great chemistry in my opinion, and we both loved the relationship. Unfortunately, he's going to grad school next year and he doesn't like the idea of \"crossing that bridge when we get there,\" he'd rather end it now before it hurts more. But I would have rather stuck with it, and enjoyed it as much as possible before it would (most likely end). Since he wanted to break up, we did. We decided to reassess our situation in 1 month and see how being apart it. That was 5 days ago. \n\nFor the first few days, it wasn't bad except for heartache. Today, I found out that he already had gotten his grindr back. I know he isn't a very sexual person, and why would he want a relationship? He probably just got it to talk but it still hurts really badly.\n\nAlso, he posted about maybe going to another year of school here, so it gave me a bit of hope we'd get back together. That hope is giving me anxiety and I can't do anything productive (I'm in pharmacy school, I need to!!)\n\nShould I talk to him about how I'm feeling? Or painfully wait it out?", "summary": "Broke up even though neither of us wanted to, I still have hope and it's tearing me apart. He reinstalled grindr and I don't know what to make of it."}
{"id": "t3_2j32av", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 23 [f] have feelings for 27 [M] coworker", "post": "I've liked this guy at my job for six months. We'll call him Sam. At first we only talked when we were alone. When someone would walk in while we were talking it would get awkward. Now we talk all the time. We have so much in common. We both love horror movies and comics. I feel like there's something there and I dont know if its one sided. The problem is he has a girlfriend. We have never flirted with each other and he hardly ever talks about her. I normally wouldn't be interested in someone who's in a relationship but Ive only felt this way once. The only person Ive been in love with so I cant shake it off. What should I do?", "summary": "I have feelings for my coworker but he has a girlfriend. We talk all the time at work. We have never flirted with each other. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3gdtwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] met my girlfriend [18F] three months ago, now she's moving across the Atlantic", "post": "About three months ago, I started to date a wonderful girl. We knew from the start that she was moving to the US to study for a year (while I live in Europe), but we still fell in love and are now a very happy couple. As I am posting this, it's only one week left until she's leaving. \n\nI will probably not be able to visit her during her stay, possibly once but I can't count on that. She won't be back home any time until next summer.\n\nA few weeks ago, we decided to pause our relationship during the time she'll be away (i.e. not to be a couple, keep a friendly contact and not talk about people we might be sleeping with). We definitely do not want to break up and we're not interested in trying an open relationship either. We also felt that a closed relationship (i.e. that we're not sleeping with others, which is what we have now and hope to have when she gets back) would be unnecessarily strict given our age and the amount of time we have known each other.\n\nHowever, we both felt that our jealousy would make a pause in our relationship unbearable. So yesterday night, we agreed on trying a closed relationship for the time she'll be away. \n\nIs this the right decision? What should we do? What option would make the following ten months most manageable?", "summary": "I met a girl three months ago. We immediately fell in love and are already a couple. In a week, she's moving across the Atlantic for a year (which she had planned long before we met). What should we do with our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_477mow", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking it was funny to take my friends backpack", "post": "I'm college and I see my friend (let's call him K) deeply ingrained watch YouTube on his laptop at the library so another friend (N) i have and I decided to see how close we can get to him without him noticing. Then for some reason we take his backpack thinking it would be funny and he still doesn't notice. We walk away laughing our asses off then after about 15 minutes later we call him and get no answer. Go to the same place and can't find him so we start to panic. N and I start looking for him all over the school and have no luck so we decide to head over the piano room thinking he probably went home. On our way there we see K at public safety with his father and we began to panic more. Right when he left we told K the situation and his father comes by saying \"I'm going to kick that thief's ass!\" Eventually we came clean to them and Ks dad was cool with it but public safety set up an appointment with my Dean for attempted theft, and disruption of staff.", "summary": "friend and I took another friends backpack as a prank, now I have a record."}
{"id": "t3_40jdys", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Calculatorless", "post": "So like most tifus, this happened not today, but several weeks ago. This is so pathetic it might not even be considered a freshmen move (in college). I woke up an hour early on the day of my chemistry final and to my horror, could not find my calculator. Following the advice of my brother whom I called, I decided to go full retard and just pray to god someone else had a calculator. When I arrived, I quickly began asking everyone for one. By the time I reached the front row I prayed to freaking Jesus that my professor had an extra, but even Jesus had to let me down...But when all seemed lost a random girl said she had an extra and I was thinking \"sweet jesus\". First problem on the final, the calculator gave out an answer in fractional form and I was like holy fuck because it was one of those \"what is the mole fraction from part A\" kind of exams. Somehow managed to click random shit and I got decimals FTW.", "summary": "Went into a college final exam without a necessary calculator and managed to find one last minute"}
{"id": "t3_1fyivx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27m] sent her[29] flowers, LOVED them, but...", "post": "...after making a big deal and saying she's excited to see me, we're meeting up tomorrow for a local fest in her area. I mentioned getting together a little early, I like being around her. Said she wanted to meet much later, I pushed back one time and she clarified what she mean (alone time, not the event) so I immediately backed off. Last text was 'I enjoy my independent time'. Huh? It's been two weeks since we last saw each other. What happen to being excited about seeing me? Am I being misled? This is the fifth date by the way. I am just so freaking confused. She's an odd one but incredibly bright and quirky, which I am highly attractive too. What does this say about us possibly in the future?", "summary": "excited to see me, but wants 'me' time before we meet. I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_2vhzqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] trying to deal with the fact that my FWB [28 M] is leaving in 4 months", "post": "I met my FWB last September, and we decided to keep it a purely FWB relationship. We are seeing each other exclusively and spend the bulk of our free time together. He and I text every day, and he's become my best friend during this last year of grad school. We graduate in May, and he is moving 8 hours back home after graduation. \n\nI told him that I am developing feelings for him, and he said that he liked me too. But right after that, he went on a rant about how he had a LDR with his last ex, and it took a toll on him. He didn't wish that tragedy on him or anyone else again. I understood and never brought up any discussion about feelings again.\n\nIt's starting to hit me that I dug myself a hole. \nHim leaving is going to hurt like a bitch. I can already feel it.\n\nBackground: A few months before I met him, I just got out of an abusive 5 year relationship. I don't want to go through this emotional wreckage again, but I know that losing him won't hurt nearly as much as what I went through last year with my ex. \n\nShould I just let this good thing run its course until July, or should I watch out for my emotional well-being and cut him off now before I fall deeper?", "summary": "I'm falling for my FWB who has turned into my senior year best friend. Should I continue what we have or end it?"}
{"id": "t3_28dyq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] met a girl [20'sF] on a flight. Need an outside opinion on avoiding being \"that guy\"", "post": "Apologies if this is incredibly awkward...\n\nYesterday I was on a short flight and got into a really nice conversation with a girl I sat next to. We seemed to click on a lot of levels and as she left she gave me a hug. I was beaming for about an hour or so afterwards.\n\nShe gave me her profile on a social networking site that I don't belong to. I'm going into this with a more \"see what happens\" attitude. I feel like she'd be a cool friend to have but I'd be open to a relationship if, as we got to know each other better, we continued to click on these levels. Would it be creepy if I created an account, threw some content on there and waited a few days to follow her?", "summary": "met a girl, really like her, got her contact info but I don't wanna be off-putting in going about contacting her."}
{"id": "t3_365vxi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my wallet at my friend", "post": "Last night I went out to party with the boys. Everything was awesome so far. Free drinks. Good sushi. Good vibes. Then we end up at the club. We all settle in at the bar and order drinks. I'm over here thinking, \"Man, what a great night this is!\". Then everything started to blur.\n\nI remember going up to the second story of this nightclub and looking down at all the festivities. I happen to see on of my friends dancing with a female. I start shouting to get his attention. I start waving to get his attention. I start waving and shouting to get his attention. Well, when all else fails, I decide THROW MY WALLET AT HIM... IN A CROWDED NIGHTCLUB. I couldn't have made such a bigger fuck up. My wallet completely missed my intended target, my friend didn't even see it get thrown, and some random person picked it up. I didn't realize how big i fucked up until i saw it get carried away.\n\nI then proceeded to dart down the stairs to the spot i threw it, but of course the guy is gone... Probably for good. The search ensued, and it ended with no results, no wallet.\n\nI am now wasting my weekend worrying and hoping that this man turned it in.", "summary": "Don't throw your wallet... Ever... For any reason..."}
{"id": "t3_31v81g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my girlfriend a question badly", "post": "So, Me, a 16 year old male, was skyping with my also 16 year old girlfriend. We have only been dating a few weeks.\nShe mentions that one of her parents put some pressure on her to go on birth control (we are not active, and have not talked about going active) so, remembering to a time when a female friend of mine used this conversation as a way to move her relationship with her then boyfriend to the next level, I stupidly decided to ask a question in my usual manner of limited prior thinking.\n\nIt took a long time to get it out, but eventually I got out something along the lines of \"Is this your way of asking for the next step, because I have a friend who tried that using this conversation, or is this just you making general conversation?\" (Picture it taking a long time and being about as awkward as is humanly possible)\n\nThis did not go down well. I am always bad at delivering questions I have not planned. She took this as me calling her a slut and insulting her, she was surprised and a little horrified to say the least. \nShe very quickly decided she wanted to go to bed and only stayed around for a few minutes while I tried poorly to apologise, to no avail. I am now worried for what is my first real relationship's existence because of this one screw up.", "summary": "asked my girlfriend a difficult question badly, she got very insulted"}
{"id": "t3_jow5h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice: SO has horrible breath", "post": "We're both in our mid-20s and have been together several years. My boyfriend is totally awesome and I love him to pieces. However... he rarely brushes his teeth. (He's otherwise hygienic, so this baffles me.)\n\nThe first time I got the nerve to talk to him about it was a couple months into the relationship. I learned then that he only brushed his teeth a couple times a week. I was horrified, and over a the next few months, I pestered him to brush his teeth more often. Eventually, he got up to brushing his teeth most days. Many months later and more pestering, he was brushing daily, flossing a couple times per week, and usually using mouthwash.\n\nBut lately I've been noticing it again. I can smell his breath from a few feet away. It's gross to kiss him. I've had to interrupt foreplay a few times and ask him to go brush. Sometimes I outright refuse to kiss him until he brushes. He's always annoyed and a bit mad when I do that, but in my opinion, he should know by now that he needs to brush his damn teeth.\n\nI feel like this is ridiculous; I shouldn't have to tell him several times a week to brush his teeth. I thought my refusing to kiss him and/or interrupting foreplay would be enough, but this still happens on a fairly regular basis. What can I do to get my point across? I'm tired of acting like his mom on this.", "summary": "Boyfriend has horrible breath and brushes infrequently, despite me asking him often to brush his teeth. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1tnrcl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My mom wanted only one thing for Christmas, and I didn't get it", "post": "Well, I sort of did. For the past couple of months, my mother mentioned that the one thing she really wanted for Christmas was a hoodie, as she had given the one she had before to a homeless man. After buying all her other presents, I had realized I hadn't gotten the hoodie. I went to Target about a week ago and bought a fairly nice one. But then my mom mentioned today that not only did she want a hoodie, but one with a design of some sort on it, not just a plain color. She mentioned that she had said this all along whenever she mentioned the hoodie thing. If I remember correctly, the one I got was just a plain gray hoodie with nothing else on it. This has been eating at me for a while now.", "summary": "messed up on getting the one thing my mother wanted and now feel really bad about it."}
{"id": "t3_2am12s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] duration, short-description", "post": "This guy i've been seeing for about 2 months and I have a really strong connection. We mutually have deep emotions for each other and had saw us having a long term relationship. He treats me so well, and makes me feel amazing. He cause me so much happiness. Over the past week and a half though, his drinking caused him to have some out of control outbursts (not specifically towards me, towards everyone at the party) like smashing a window, causing fights. He is now seeking therapy and getting sober. I also have issues being sloppy when i'm drinking, and have choose to stop doing so as well. The last incident cause us to cut things off, and see what happens. I'm really uneasy with the uncertainty and i'm unsure if I should cut my loses and move on, or try to work things out through the obstacles we're over coming. I would ideally, try to work things out.", "summary": "Is it worth is to try, or should i move on?"}
{"id": "t3_p43ql", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Young puppy insists on sleeping on laps or feet", "post": "I live in a decent sized condo with 3 other guys and we just got a 6 week old shar pei puppy this Sunday. So far he has been a very easy going dog. He sleeps through a majority of the day and hasn't had many accidents since I make the effort to take him out to potty roughly every 2 hours or after a nap/meal. \n\nWhile I have had several dogs before, I've never had a puppy, especially one this young and they've never been particularly well trained. My roommates and I have been doing a lot of research into what we should and shouldn't be doing to try and mold the dogs behavior to what we want. \n\nOne thing that I have noticed is whenever the puppy is tired, he tried to lay down on someones lap or at least on/between their feet. Even when he is not trying to nap, he likes to walk between my feet and just sit there. At first we just let him do it because who wouldn't want an adorable little puppy on their lap, but after some reading we've realized we probably shouldn't let the puppy just do this whenever it pleases.\n\nSo is it right to not let him sit in our lap or sleep on our feet when he wants? And why does he have to be so close to us when he sleeps? could this be separation anxiety? \n\nWhen he is pretty tuckered out we can normally transport him into his crate and he's fine there for an hour or so but I would like for him to stop being so stubborn on sleeping next to us.", "summary": "Puppy insists on sleeping on our lap or feet. Is this ok? If not how should we stop it? Could it be because he is so young and away from his littermates/mother? How do we comfort him without coddling?"}
{"id": "t3_s6alx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I have a case Reddit?", "post": "I was pulled over this morning for running a red light.  I was not speeding and merely made a split second decision to continue driving as the light turned yellow.  I was in the solid line portion before the stoplight and there was a cop waiting to pull out in front of me.  \n\nWhat he saw most likely was that the light turned red while I was in the intersection and decided right there to pull me over.  I did not see the light turn red at any point and was actually kinda irritated that I had gotten pulled over for running through a yellow light.  This is probably the reason why the cop wrote up a ticket for me instead of giving me a warning.  \n\nThe only evidence for my ticket is what the cop saw and what I saw, his word against mine.  Is there any way I can challenge this ticket?  I didn't see a red light at any point.  He says that the light turned red before I got into the intersection.  I never saw it turn red because I would have had that minor heart attack that I know I usually get if I do actually run a red light.", "summary": "Got a ticket for running a red light, never saw a red light."}
{"id": "t3_3a4pq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] Having issues with self-confidence, dating, and an ex", "post": "So, I'm an 18 year old male, and I've had a few relationships, longest one lasting 2 years, and that one ended towards the end of my sophomore year. However, almost all of my relationships have been me dating someone I've been friends with for a while prior to so I've never had the whole classic dating experiance. That being said, I've also almost never asked a girl just plain and squarely out. I've almost always thought it would be creepy if I, as a random dude, saw a cute girl at a mall and just gave her my number, despite having had girls do this to me at least twice in my life now. \n\nAs odd as it may sound, I just have no idea whatsoever how to go about it. I've had a case recently where I saw a girl I really wanted to try and give my number to, but I just couldn't build up the courage to do so. \n\nI'm just asking for advice and how do other people do this? It's a concept I've never had to do.", "summary": "Just an 18 year old who has never had to ask a random girl doesn't know how to, despite wanting to needing advice on how to."}
{"id": "t3_eqatp", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Traveling decision (Cockatiel care)", "post": "I have two cockatiels, one of which is very old, pushing 18 years of age. She is very fragile and very care intensive. She is unable to sleep on a perch anymore, so she usually sleeps in a soft pillow-lined box draped in towels with a number of soft socks and scarves to cuddle up in. I have a cage for her to stay in, but I feel like I'm punishing her if I lock her up in it. \n\nI'm leaving for a graduation trip to another city for the New Years (about an 8 day stay) and I do not really want to take the birds on a 12 hour drive across country. Unfortunately, the only people I trust to proved proper care for the birds (especially my elderly bird) are my parents who are also going on the trip with me. \n\nI'm forced to leave my feathered friends with a companion of ours from school, I trust him as he has been a pet-sitter for a number of other friends and promises to take good care of them, but I am still uncomfortable about leaving my Elderly bird with him. I'm not sure if he will know how to handle her being scared or what to do if she needs some attention...\n\nUnfortunately, my only options are: Leave both birds with him and hope everything goes well, or take the Care intensive bird with me on the 12 hour trip to stay in a hotel room while I go with my family. \nI am afraid the bird will feel I've abandoned her, get depressed and die before I have a chance to come back. What should I do?", "summary": "I am going on an 8 day vacation, not sure if I should take my 18 year-old very fragile cockatiel with me or leave her with a family friend. What would you choose?"}
{"id": "t3_1aryy9", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "A new idea for staying in my exercise routine", "post": "I am a person who enjoys smoking weed and drinking beer. I am also a person who enjoys swimming biking running jumping and lifting weights. I've found that if I allow myself to smoke or drink on days when I haven't exercised, I risk getting lazy the next day and avoiding exercise that day as well.\n\nIn order to prevent myself from slacking on my exercise routine I've started forbidding myself to enjoy a drink or a smoke on any day that I haven't already busted my ass exercising. I think this concept can help others: it's fine to reward yourself for working hard.", "summary": "If you haven't yet exercised today, don't let yourself have that beer that you're craving until you get out and burn a couple calories."}
{"id": "t3_26zn4l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by showering with my wife.", "post": "Today my wife decided that it would be a nice idea to take a shower together. We do it all of the time and it is a nice way to kick start our night together after work. \n\nIt was a typical shower which consists of her using all of the water with me being left in the cold waiting for my turn in the warm water.\n\nAfter a while she decided to forfeit the water and let me have my turn. I grabbed my body wash off the shelf and proceeded to drop it. This is where I fucked up.\n\nI quickly bent down to grab it. I bent at the knees remembering that it's bad for you to bend down to grab something only using your waist. \n\nI was soon met with a painful sensation that I had never experienced before. The small push/ pull valve that changes the water from the faucet to the shower head penetrated my virgin ass. \n\nThe pain was unreal. The water changed from the shower head to the faucet. I shot up trying to get away from the metal knob that just violated me. Upon standing up the shower resumed. \n\nI stood there in shock looking up at my wife. She witnessed the entire thing. She won't stop laughing at me about it. It hurts to sit.", "summary": "Showered with my wife trying to put something in her. Ended up with something in me."}
{"id": "t3_v0vpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's Google history shows that he is looking for Glory Holes, what should I do?", "post": "I'm 20f and he is 19m. So basically I looked at my boyfriend's Google search history (I know, I know) and I stumbled across \"glory holes\", he read forums about them and ended up looking for \"glory holes IN [our city's name]. I told him what I found and he said he was just \"being curious\", but why is he THAT curious to look for specific locations of glory holes? I don't know what do to. I don't think he would ever go to one but it scares me anyways. We have had issues with our sex life recently and I think he may be looking for other outlets. What should I do? What should I think?", "summary": "Boyfriend's Google history shows that he is looking for local glory holes, he says it is just \"curiosity\", should I believe him?"}
{"id": "t3_3lfi8p", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Not counting calories this time. Anyone else? 110kg - 76kg - 93kg.", "post": "Hey guys, I was wondering if there is anyone else on here who isn't counting calories? What has been your experience with this? Advice? Positives and negatives!?\n\nBackground: I used to weigh 110kgs (242.5 lbs) and at my lowest I was at 76kg (167 lbs). That wasn't something I was able to maintain. My calorie count was 1400, I did cardio every day for 45mins to an hour, and I weighed myself everyday. \n\nBUT some days I would only eat 900 calories (not often but it's never a good idea IMO) and beat myself up about the scales. Basically, I was starting to get obsessed with the numbers.\n\nI ended up with a knee injury and stomach issues so I had to pull back on the exercise. I also entered a new relationship and didn't want to count calories constantly. So between these two factors, I've put on weight.\n\nThis time around I don't want to count calories and I want to keep my exercise in check (my knee is just... done...). I've set a goal of losing 10kgs in 5 months (totally do-able!) and am just trying to focus on planning out my meals, looking at making healthy choices, exercising in a non-debilitating way  and not beating myself up for having dessert.\n\nMy aim is to make this a sustainable habit, which - for me - calorie counting is not. I think as a short-term, get-the-ball-rolling type of thing calorie counting is great but I'm now viewing it as 'phase one'. It has introduced an awareness around nutrition and portions. And physical activity is now part of my lifestyle (I have a treadmill desk where I aim to walk ten thousand steps per day).\n\nI started on Monday and have lost 0.5kgs thus far, so it seems to be working.\n\nIs anyone else forgoing calorie counting? How's it working out for you?", "summary": "was counting calories and exercising like a demon, realised it was unsustainable for me and am trying to lose weight without calorie counting. Interested in other's experiences/advice."}
{"id": "t3_1084m4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Broken closet doors don't equal closet remodel... Does it?", "post": "In February of 2010 an unfortunate incident occurred which resulted in on of the panels of my sliding closet door to break. Basically a hole in the door. I contacted my landlord to let him know of the damage, trying to be a good tenant. He came in, looked at the door, and asked if he could take it, to try and match the panel. I agreed, and he took the door. Fast forward 19 months. I am still without my door. My landlord claims that the door is no longer manufactured and the panel isn't available, and I am welcome to look. He has made no communications with me aside from when I ask him directly. This usually ends with him informing me that I am responsible for the damages and since the panel isn't available I have to pay to have the whole closet remodeled. So my question is, just what am I responsible for? I have minimal understanding here, I'm just concerned that my landlord is trying to manipulate me. Thanks.", "summary": "Landlord is trying to make me pay for remodel over a a broken door panel, what are my rights?"}
{"id": "t3_44xvim", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So glad I dodged an emotionally abusive relationship. I'm not even sad anymore.", "post": "I always try to see the best in people, and I'll admit that it takes 2 people to make a relationship fail as it does to make one work.  \n\nAfter weeks and weeks of my ex not knowing if he wanted to be wth me, and in the last couple weeks his ex became a factor, I finally let go and set him free to find out what he wants because I didn't want to get in the way of his happiness. \n\nIn hindsight, I realize this was the best move I made. He has a lot of baggage due to family issues as well as past relationships, and though I genuinely appreciate him as a person, I got fed up with letting him project his issues onto me.  \n\nI have baggage too so I would never belittle someone else's baggage, but I'm strong enough to know that how you treat others is a choice, not an excuse or explanation for your pain.", "summary": "I am not one to let my past define me and I am so glad I got myself out of a relationship with someone who lets the past define him."}
{"id": "t3_yp0p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO's [M 25] constant self-pitying is becoming a major problem for me [F 26].", "post": "I guess what I am mainly looking for is some advice for how I can help him (age 25) cope or how I (age 26) can be supportive without getting annoyed/frustrated. I personally try to always be grateful and look for the best in situations.\n\nWhen my fiance and I met he was working a job he wasn't thrilled with (I think most of us can relate).  His employers were very shady and encouraged unethical business practices.  The entire year he was working there he was searching for a new job so I was glad to see that he was not just complaining, but taking action to rectify the situation.\n\nHowever after taking a stand against the employer's requests to cheat people out of money, they told him to hit the road.\n\nHe job searched for several more months complaining the whole time that there are \"no good jobs where we live\" which is partially true if you ask me, but I encouraged him to take anything to pay the bills since crappy income is better than no income.  \n\nFinally it got to a point where he needed health insurance and was \"forced\" to start working at a family business as a last result (His parents are in the middle of a divorce because his Dad cheated so he has a horrible relationship with his father).\n\nNow he comes home miserable every night with a \"woe is me\" pouty face on and barely wants to talk.  When I push him to talk about what's bothering him he says \"You know my situation, I'm miserable in my job...\"  It doesn't help that he's making no extra money beyond what's necessary to pay his bills.\n\nNow I want to be sympathetic since I know what it's like to get up each day and do something you hate, but at the same time there is only so much pity-party observing I can take.  \n\nOther relevant info: We are planning to move across the country in about 4 months for a transfer with my job so he doesn't want to start something new for that short amount of time.  \n\nAnyway, how do I help get him out of his funk or how do I keep his miserable mood from making me constantly miserable as well?", "summary": "Fiance hasn't been happy with his job/career situation since we've began dating and it's affecting his attitude so much that it's starting to take a toll on our relationship (from my point of view)."}
{"id": "t3_4i22lg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Ontario, Canada] Abandoned Property (busted car)", "post": "Hello,\n\nMy relative sold a car to someone over the phone. This person sent a money order (that cleared and deposited fine). However, part of the verbal agreement is they had to come get the car. The car is in horrible shape, pictures were shown to the person who bought it before the sale. Many months have gone by and this person still says they will get to it. \n\nWe are convinced he won't and we want it gone.\n\nI want to send him a \"x\" day notice to come get it or we will resell it or trash it. \n\nI figured I would send a registered mail letter to the return address on the money order saying you have 30days to come get the car, ignoring this and failing to get the car will result in forfeiture of the item and no refund.\n\nAm I missing something here or does my plan sound solid? Is it even necessary?\n\nWhenever I google this issue I mostly find people talking about abandoned cars with no owner, or tenants who've abandoned their apartment.\n\nThanks for your time.", "summary": "Someone bought a car, paid, hasn't picked it up, we want it gone in any fashion that's civil, no refunds."}
{"id": "t3_415ti8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my 3 mth [17 F] Broke up would you attend ex's birthday?", "post": "Broke up as she was confused about the relationship, started getting quite distant etc. Should say it was kind of a rebound relationship, however both our feelings were genuine and at least for the first 2 months we did want to make it work. She has had no contact with that ex since their split (too much hurt feelings between the two).\n\nFast forward a few weeks and she's sending messages again saying she wants things to go back to normal and be friends. She's wanting to hang out alot, i've declined three times, but did meet up to go christmas shopping. It was a little awkward and the hug at the end was... not friendly, very awkward. \n\nNow a few weeks after this, she wants me to attend her birthday (sent me a facebook invite and a message) just hoping i can come.\n\nShould also add that she has a new 'friend', who im supposed to know nothing about but unfortunately my friend knows him. He has also been invited, but god only knows if they are in a relationship (i have never asked, as i should not really know). \n\nNow as i'm on here, you can tell i still have feelings for her, but if you were in my position, what would you do? Bearing in mind i only know her and a mutual friend, the rest of the people i don't have a clue who they are. \n\nWhy on earth would a woman want to remain friends with a 3 month relationship (with whom she went distant from)? Should also note it's not alot of communication, it's literally maybe once a week or two since our split 4 months ago (yes 4 MONTHS...)", "summary": "Would you attend an ex's birthday? Bearing in mind i still have feelings but don't wanna get back with her. Also i only know her and a mutual friend."}
{"id": "t3_3u0aew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] started working with this gorgeous girl [19 F] today. What's the next step?", "post": "This is the first time I've worked with her because I transferred to a different location. We both work at this coffee shop and we hit it off super well. A few months ago, another co worker told me that she has a boyfriend, but he lives a few thousand miles away. Idk if this is true or not, but she's really attractive and I already like he a lot. She's super nice, so I don't know if there's anything I can do? When we were talking, she would laugh a lot, but i cant tell if shes just trying to be nice. I would ask her if she wanted to hang out or something, but i dont want to come off as creepy. It's a little hard since I work with her.", "summary": "Can I become friends with my coworker crush or is it too weird?"}
{"id": "t3_3ctv5u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a racist 14 year old", "post": "So for some back story, I was in my first year of highschool and all I did was sit at home and watch various YouTube channels (I had no life). I was very socially awkward and never knew what to say when made fun of or when something unexpected happened. So here I am in math class on my phone watching FilthyFrank. My teacher was fairly strict and ends up taking my phone and sending me to the front of the class. Now.... Our school has many types of foreign exchanges every year, students from all over the world come to our school. So trying to make light of the situation thinking that people will understand my filthy frank reference, I said \"JEEZ IT SURE SMELLS LIKE PAKISTAN UP HERE\". Funny right? False. Everyone looks shocked, so I look around and notice that there are three students sitting behind me. 2 of which are wearing turbans.", "summary": "immature 14 year old (me) got sent to front of class. Said it smells like Pakistan, 2 students with turbans behind me"}
{"id": "t3_sdaas", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "[Question] What are some natural ant remedies that you have used in your home that have proved both successful and safe?", "post": "I have a nine month old son who is the king of infant parkour, I swear this child crawls and pulls up to any level with in his reach.\n    I recently with this streak of nice weather have noticed some ants invading my cabinets. With the help of my finance I cleaned all excess food from out kitchen and tidied up the containers of syrup and sugary substances of the sort. I want to rid my home of the pests without risking exposure of harmful chemicals and I would like some feed back from the subreddit on what has worked for you", "summary": "Got ants. Need a safe removal method."}
{"id": "t3_koqmh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a sub-$800 camera that can shoot high quality video ideal for music video-like appearances?", "post": "[This is a video of what we're trying to achieve.](\n\nMy school currently has a Sony HVR-HD1000u, and compared to that, our videos are nowhere near as good. I understand that things like lighting and color correction play a pretty big role, but even then I feel like our videos are never that clean. I usually can't get 720p clips out of our camera and the slow motion that they have is something we can't even come close to.\n\nOne possible *problem* is that for some reason we can't use firewire to connect the camera to the computer so we have to play the tape on this thing that basically plays it and then we capture the tape playing. I feel like this is probably a huge problem because it's like trying to show a friend a movie by screen-capping from Skype.\n\nSO, should we scrap the HVR-HD1000u and get a Canon T2i (a cheaper DSLR which from the samples I've seen on YouTube and clips from that video, seems pretty high quality), or continue trying to use the Sony?", "summary": "To get music video quality, would it be better to use our Sony HVR-HD1000u or buy a Canon T2i? Or something else entirely (<$800)?"}
{"id": "t3_3oa07f", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Drunk redneck asshole called CPS we need advice! [xpost]", "post": "Sorry for any typos in advance I am LIVID \n\nSo a little back story: We have this drunk redneck asshole (RA)that has had it out for my dad ever since he went to a car accident involving RA friend. RA has a little boy that my sister plays with and we live in a gated community with patrolling guards so we only check on her around every 2 hours. Keep in mind that I am a 16 yr old male. \n\nSo RA called CPS sometime this week saying that we do not keep a good eye on her and that our house is unsafe for living. RA hasn't even seen the inside of our house. More backstory: My father had non Hodgkin's lymphoma in 2011 and cannot work anymore because the chemo messed him up bad. RA thinks my dad just sits on his ass all day high on painkillers. This is simply not true and my mother is a cardiac surgeon. \n\nSo finally to my askreddit: how do we prepare our house so that we pass inspection tomorrow at 1 clock EST. Such as: Food in the house Child locks Etc.. \n\nThank you Reddit in advance. And fuck you RA", "summary": "Redneck asshole called CPS for bullshit reasons need help preparing house."}
{"id": "t3_zoy3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend started getting really flirty with me, but she's in a relationship M20 F20", "post": "So, my best friend, who I've had a crush on for about 2 years, has started getting really flirty with me. There are a couple of reasons why this is weird to me.\n\nFirst, we've been friends for about 3 years, and has never seemed interested in me. When I first told her about my crush on her, she got really distant, and it took a while just to be comfortable around her again, but now our relationship is as strong as ever.\n\nSecond, she's really involved with another guy, who I personally think is below her standards. However, I try and stay out of the relationship as much as possible and just let them do their thing. However, she has gotten more and more flirty with me as she has been dating this guy.\n\nShe is very, very uncomfortable with touching other people, but recently (as in last weekend), began to put her arm on my shoulder, tickle me, hit me playfully, and is allowing me to do the same. This morning in class, i was tickling her, and she was perfectly fine. Then another of her friends put their hand on her shoulder to ask her a question, and she freaked out.\n\nI've also noticed that she has started talking really quietly around me, forcing me to move my head in closer so I can hear her. When I do this, she flits her eyes between my eyes and my lips. I've also caught her looking at me from across the room quiet often, and even though we are good friends, she looks away as if she's really shy or embarrassed.\n\nI think she may be developing a crush on me, but maybe I'm just becoming really close with her, and she is just becoming more comfortable with me. Any thoughts? Also, if it becomes obvious that she does indeed have feelings for me, is it appropriate to make a move while she is with this other guy (their relationship is about 7 months now)?", "summary": "Old friend is being really flirty with me. The feeling is definitely mutual, but shes in a serious relationship with someone else. How should I respond?"}
{"id": "t3_4hzgoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I know why I'm [20M] single and don't have many friends. It's because I'm boring.", "post": "I want a relationship, but I doubt I can get one. I also wouldnt mind having some friends. \n\nI'm boring.\n\nI don't have any fun life experiences. I don't have much to talk about. I don't DO anything outside of  studying, playing video games and watching anime. \n\nI don't have friends outside of a few people I've kept into contact with from where I used to live. None where I live.\n\nI don't know where to go from here. Life isn't bad, but it's not exciting or fun. I don't really feel joy except for when I play video games and I win a match. \n\nI'm thinking having friends and a relationship would change that. But I don't know how to do that.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "lonely boring guy wants to have friends and find a relationship. Not sure where to begin."}
{"id": "t3_1b9j0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to repair a relationship with my father ..", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI have always had a rough relationship with my father. I am a 30/m.  We haven't communicated well with each other over the years and have had many, many falling outs leading to rude remarks. We haven't seen eye to eye on issues over the years.  He's an explosive person, and so am I.  You can say I am just like him in some ways.. \n\nI honestly don't know how to have a good father-son relationship.  I can say that whatever relationship I have with my dad is the same relationship he had with his father.  Not sure if this is a factor? \n\nAny advice from you nice people?", "summary": "Bad relationship with dad over the years, want to repair.  Don't really know how to. Never had a strong father son relationship before and don't know what that feels like."}
{"id": "t3_3ki621", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my professor to \"suck it\" in front of the class", "post": "At my university, I am a tutor in our Library for Physics. While doing a class visit to advertise the free tutoring service provided by the college, I was sharing about the confidentiality in that if the professor asked whether or not a certain student has been dropping in for tutoring, I cannot say. The way I said this is as follows and we will say the professor's name is Smith for secrecy: \"If your professor, Smith, asks me outside of class whether or not you have been visiting the library for tutoring, well, I can't tell Smith that, so he would just have to suck it.\"\nImmediately, I promptly sh*t myself in my mind and looked at Smith to see if I was going to die. Smith, being the awesome 75-ish year old engineer that he is, didn't give a damn and just said, \"Yeah, I don't care if you go for tutoring. It's a good service, so you should get your money's worth!\" I'm not sure if he didn't hear me, didn't understand, or just showed me the grace of God, but I thank Jesus him!", "summary": "For confidentiality reasons, I can't share with professors whether a student has come for tutoring, and so I told that class that if they were to ask me, they would just have to suck it. The professor is old, just laughed, and told the class to take advantage of the service. I survived!"}
{"id": "t3_ex3pa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Fickle-hearted girlfriend", "post": "I started dating my best friend of about 9 years last month. All is well and peachy until the past few days. We were very affectionate for the first few weeks, but all of a sudden she's just impossible to please and get a return on the attention that I'm giving her. It makes me feel really shitty actually. Now, I really like her quite a bit, but it's so damn tough to lean over and give her a kiss on the cheek of forehead while she's focused on going through FB for the thousandth time.\n\nShe says she's just upset about all of her friends (me including) going back to school and her working at a daycare while the rest of us are continuing with our education. She repeatedly asks me about the girl that I was consumed with for the past few years who I also was very much still in love with the last time that my current girlfriend was interested in me. My current gf was cheated on by her last boyfriend so I think it may be linked. I just want to know how to break this barrier of hers.\n\nI've tried a lot to try and get through to her, but none of it is working. I specifically choose things to do that I KNOW she will enjoy doing, she shows no interest. She's tired after work so I offer up my place to nap and watch Netflix in, not interested. Dinner with friends is fun for 25 minutes before she becomes somber. I bought her lilies which are her favorites and then white chocolate Lindor Truffles which she specifically said she loved about a month ago. She smiled for I swear 5 seconds and then dismissed them. She put the flowers out of sight and ate 1 of the chocolates when she usually devours them.\n\nI don't know what it is that I need to do, but I want to do it so that our last few days are full of affection and happiness. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Girlfriend is unaffectionate and wont return any of attention given despite very thoughtful outings, gifts, and mucho affection. Last BF cheated on her and constantly asks about my last ex who I was hung up on until late October. Need help with how I should break the barrier she's erected."}
{"id": "t3_tcd52", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some situations from childhood where you went to great lengths and stress to hide something from parents/teachers, only for it to be way less of a big deal than you thought?", "post": "When I was 9, my dad never recycled anything our huge laserjet churned out.\n\nThe computer room was part of my bedroom. One night I was on a cot near the computer since I had a friend sleeping over in my bed. I got up to pee, but being unfamiliar with the new bed, couldn't find the door in the dark. I panicked, and just peed against the nearest wall. I turned on a desk lamp and saw that I'd pissed all over my dad's precious pile of printer paper. And the wall. And carpet. I was sure he'd be furious. Since he was saving those papers, and this was his office, I figured they must be important documents.\n\nWith piss-stained pyjamas (I couldn't change because I didn't want to risk waking up my friend by opening the closet), I frantically cleaned up my piss and tried to copy by hand all the text on those pages onto new paper with a pencil. But there was no hiding the fact that I'd pissed all over several hundred pages of white paper.\n\nI gave up and went to bed crying, struggling to keep quiet because my friend was a few feet away and I didn't want to wake him and see what I'd done.\n\nMy dad never noticed the next morning, my stomach in knots. Months went by, until we were moving to a new house. He picked up the pile of papers while packing, I froze. He said it looked like they'd gotten water damage somehow. He shrugged, and threw them all in the trash without ever bothering to save any of the information on them. All worthless. FML.\n\nI still recycle paper frequently due to the scar this left.", "summary": "9 year old me accidentally pissed all over a pile of my dad's \"important documents\", found out months later they were just garbage."}
{"id": "t3_1ua5an", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing CoD while texting", "post": "Oh, the woes of surprisingly accurate voice typing. \n\nSo, I'm playing some Call of Duty on my", "summary": "Bitch. "}
{"id": "t3_2kfdlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) need help initiating a casual convo with my BF (24M) about our future", "post": "We've been dating a year, and it's been crazy good. Communication, sex life, we jive (I love that word) on just about every level. We've had short, vague conversations in which our end goals come up (marriage, family, career etc), but there has never been an actual discussion about our future as a couple (other than the vague \"I love you\", \"I can't see myself w/o you\" stuff). My personality wants something a little more concrete while I think he's fine with an abstract view of it. \n\nI've reached a point where I can see myself marrying/having a family with him, and I more or less want to tell him that. I just want him to know what page I' on. I'm not asking for him to get down on one knee right now, but I guess I want a little bit of validation that he sees us going there too.\n\nHow on earth do I start that conversation without coming across too heavy? Should I even bring it up? I've never been at this point with a bf before so this is uncharted waters, and I'm wondering if it's best just to leave it alone unless he brings it up.", "summary": "How would you bring up the future of your relationship with your boyfriend in a casual way?"}
{"id": "t3_2fwoco", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU, locked myself out in my apartment balcony and had to climb down half naked.", "post": "Washed my shoes, was taking it out to dry on the balcony. It was raining outside. The balcony was a little bit untidy and dusty, so I though maybe I could wash it up. Without thinking, closed the door. Suddenly realized, oh dear, I locked myself out my own room. Oh shit, I was half naked, it was raining. Hard. I didn't know how to get inside. Shout towards to room besides me. No one answered. What the hell am I going to do. Tried to nudge my door. Unsuccessful. Eventually decides to climb down the fire escape, no shoe, saw some cables dangling, the ladder was wet. Please don't let me die like this. I looked like I was escaping from an angry husband because of a secret affair. Climbs down two level, thank you lord, found one room with their lights on. Shouted. The door opens. It was a group of boys. Thank the lord again they were not girls. I tried to explain but hurried out. Ran back up to my room. I looked the door in front as well. Decides, it couldn't get any worst. Goes to the apartment office to get my spare keys. No one is there. I had to slowly sneak outside. The manager saw me, started laughing before I could explain. She proceeds to run out and called one of the girl she was having a conversation with to see me. My face was burning. FML", "summary": "locked my self out my balcony, climb down fire escape half naked. Got laughed at by building manager."}
{"id": "t3_4xlfbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] feel trapped in a relationship with my girlfriend [20 F] that I don't know if I want to be in", "post": "Everyone that said we were moving in together too soon can now say they told me so. We moved in after 5 months, and we've now been together for nine. There are frequent arguments, but we don't really have big fights. It's just there are a lot of things I've discovered about being with her that I'm not thrilled about, and I don't know, some of them may be dealbreakers.\n\nShe gets annoyed at me for tiny things, and it's draining. She can't budget her money, and I end up having to pay for things she needs after she blows it all. I don't believe she is serious enough about her education for the studies she is taking, and worry that she won't be able to establish a real career. Further, I think she will distract me from mine. Finally, I just don't feel we enjoy talking about the same things. Truly good conversations are rare.\n\nBecause of this, while I enjoy her, I don't know if I want to stay with her forever. I am pretty happy, but wonder if I could be happier. She, on the other hand, wants us to extend out 1-year lease pretty soon, and wants me to propose pretty soon as well. I'm just not ready to commit to her like that.\n\nI don't feel like I should break up with her, but even if I wanted to, how could I? Neither of us would be able to love somewhere else until next summer, and i think living with an ex would make focusing on our schooling impossible. Also, we have furniture, and a cat! She's on my phone plan. I have no idea how things like this are supposed to work. I was such an idiot to jump into this in my first relationship, and feel lost as hell", "summary": "moved in too soon and there's no way out"}
{"id": "t3_4y7awc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my coworker [26 M] 1 year, I have a crush on my coworker", "post": "So I got my first job about a year ago now. And one of my coworkers started a few months before me. I was a bit weary of him at first because he seemed stuck up, but I was forced to interact with him during a travel day together. I had a blast. He even gave me his personal number. \n\nSo a few months go by and we end up hanging out a few times. The second time we spent at my apartment. He cooked me dinner (salmon stuffed with lobster, homemade mashed potatoes and baked veggies - not an easy meal and he bought it all) and then he did the dishes, gave me a back rub and cuddled with me on the couch while we watched a movie. I had a really good night and it seemed like he had fun too (hugged me a few times before he left)\n\nI wasn't expecting anything to come of it but I enjoy his company and would like to see him more. We spent some more time with each other but nothing more happened. I was okay with that as long as I got to see him, as a friend. Now though, he wont respond to my messages about hanging out. He responds to other ones but not those. I don't think I did anything to upset him as conversation about other things goes very well. I know he's busy being a sales person, but I'd like to see him. I thought we were going to hang out last weekend but he suddenly became cold and said he was busy. \n\nI know I have a crush on him because him becoming cold and distant hurts my feelings. I think he's a great guy and fun to be around and even if he doesn't reciprocate my crush feelings, I could see us being good friends.", "summary": "I like my coworker, but either he is super busy or doesn't like me enough to even be my friend. Should I pursue him/try to be friends outside of work or am I reading this all wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_36tjlm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying someones wood shop project", "post": "So this fuck up did happen today actually. Anyways, so this morning in my shop class in high school, I'm working in my notebook for the next project we're working on. Our teacher, who at the time was grading our last project (wood frame of a house) and was (at least I assumed) handing back our graded project. Turns out he was just making sure it was my project. So here's the fuck up, I go up to get it off his desk (thinking he graded it already) and when i get back to my seat I just smash it on the ground. My partner then asks me \"Yo Georgefancy, that was graded right?\". But of course it wasn't. Then as i am taking the scrap wood to the wood bin in his room, he looks over at me and tells me it wasn't graded yet but will at least give me and my partner 70%. Part two of the fuck up, only at that moment did I realize that the house I smashed, wasn't my project. It had the exact same shape, and the doors and windows were in the exact same place to, but the one thing i noticed was that the labels on it were not my handwriting at all. At that moment I realized I just completely screwed over another group completely. Thus was my fuck up.", "summary": "Hulk smashed someones house and got it on snapchat."}
{"id": "t3_1eziok", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Pain in the side of my leg during and after a jog", "post": "Alright- So I'm doing the c25k thing and have been at it for three weeks now. Today was w3 d3. So last Friday (w2 d3) my jog resulted in this sort of tight pain\" up the side of my left leg, not on top of my shin but on the outside of the leg, sort of like a cramp. Now I stretch before and after every run, so I'm not sure what was going on. I didn't really do anything for it, figuring it would go away but it took three days, a few ice packs and finally a heat pad to get it to stop. \n\nSo Monday, I go for my run and it's back. Not too horrible but there. the runs are longer this week (3 minutes) and my jogging pace that day was barely a jog. I come home stick my leg in the Jacuzzi for 20 minutes and the pain is gone. same on Wednesday. \n\nToday I'm doing my run, going a bit faster than I was before, and the pain comes back. While I'm jogging, it's just small twinges, but when I slow to my walk it comes back with a vengeance. I figure for some reason I'm not allowing my ankle a full range of motion, so I try to relax and walk normally, but the pain gets worse and worse and worse. - I end the run, stretch out again get in my car and it disappears for the most part. It still feels tight in that whole area, but no real pain anymore. \n\nDoes anyone at all experience this?, is there a special stretch I should be doing. I bought some kinesiology tape, but I don't think I put it on the right place.", "summary": "Tight Pain running from the top of my ankle up the outside of my calf, gets worse when I walk after a run, and heat makes it go away- any stretching or other advice for it."}
{"id": "t3_1xaoqk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 m] ex [21 f] Relationship of 4 years. Same friends.", "post": "So my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me on christmas, One day she just said she doesn't feel the same as she used to for me. (No love). I was deffinatly still in love with her, still am actually :(. I got her to block me on fb so i dont keep creeping her ( as permy request). I try to keep no contact but its extremly difficult because we have the same friends.\n\nits really hard for me to see her and keep my mouth shut. But whenever I go to a friend gathering (or host one for that matter) she is there. Right now her best friend is my main support system, things are all fucky :(.(", "summary": "Gf broke up with me seemingly out of the blue, same friends awkward situations for me."}
{"id": "t3_2kdvf6", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "How to pose?", "post": "Hello planners! My wedding is in less than two weeks, and I'm starting to freak out about posing for pictures.\n\nTypically, I'm the one behind the camera. I hate being the subject of photos. Maybe it's because my mom is a photographer and I got tired of posing for her shoots all the time. Maybe it's because I'm extremely self conscious. \n\nI'm particularly worried about my flabby arms and potential double chin. How do I pose so that my arms look decent and my chin doesn't look so...double?\n\nI tried asking my mom. She just says I look beautiful no matter what. Sweet, but not at all helpful.", "summary": "Have flabby arms and sometimes a double chin. How should I pose in pictures?"}
{"id": "t3_3pt4em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationships] Me [27 F] with my BF [31 M] of 1 year--fast track my career in a place I don't plan to live or slow track and stay with my boyfriend?", "post": "Thanks in advance for reading this.  \n\nPart 1: I've been seeing my boyfriend for about a year.  We're serious and have talked about the possibility of being together long term.  We met when I moved from the New York to Texas.  I've always lived in New York before moving to Texas, and all of my friends and family are there.  I plan to move back to the east coast someday, and Boyfriend has said he would like to do the same.  (He worked there for a few years and liked it.)\n\nHowever, my boyfriend is a single parent and in the midst of completing a drawn-out divorce (that began long before we ever met).  He won't be free to leave the state with his child or remarry until his divorce is finalized.  This could happen tomorrow, or take months or years if some unforeseen circumstances crop up, like his ex-wife deciding to no longer cooperate with proceedings in the future.\n\nPart 2: I've recently decided that I'd like to do a 3 month career accelerator program to change career paths.  Such programs are available in Texas and some back in New York.  I'm unsure of whether I should 1) attend a program in New York and be closer to my friends and family, and either get a job there or move back to Texas temporarily, or break up with my boyfriend, or 2) attend a program here in Texas which will probably be less prestigious than and have fewer networking opportunities for jobs on the east coast.\n\nMarriage and family have always been very important to me, and I'm at a point in my life where I want to start settling down.  My boyfriend and I have similar goals and preferences for our lifestyle and I want to make things work with him, even if it takes a bit longer for us to get back to the east coast.", "summary": "Should I stay in Texas for a short program and continue building my relationship with my boyfriend and his child until he's free to move, possibly getting my first new job here?  Or should I do what's probably best for my career and go back to New York for this program, unsure of where I'll live after that or how it will impact my relationship with my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_vnedq", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Quick question! not sure which path to take....", "post": "If your here to say \" move on\" dont bother commentating thats not what im asking for..\n\n26 (m) and dated 26(F) for 4 years.\n\nBasically at the beginning of the relationship i was the one always going out of my way to show affection. And over the past 6 months its been her showing affection and i really didnt..\nI did still love her i just was a moron and didnt show it i guess..\n\nAnyways i broke up with her a few weeks ago and she was heartbroken.. she keeps saying she wanted to get married..\nI asked for her back and she says she cant date me anymore because i hurt her to much..\nShe says not to wait for her.. and to lose all hope.\n\nI KNOW she is still in love with me and i really want her back.\n\nQuestion is do i give her space and time and give her the silent treatment kind of thing.. or do i go out of my way to keep showing her i deserve a second chance.. ( yes i will treat her the way she deserves and show her)\n\nWhats the best way to get her back?", "summary": "Broke up, she still loves me but says she cant date me again beause i hurt her to much.. "}
{"id": "t3_4jn5km", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Prospective Landlord says no alcohol.", "post": "Fiancee and I are looking for a house to rent in a town midway between our two jobs. It is small town Kansas, in a predominantly Mennonite area. A lot of the landlords that we have been running into say that they do not allow alcohol to be stored or consumed in the house. Is this legal? I seem to remember learning about something in history class about the right to privacy in one's own legally occupied domicile. Neither of us are heavy drinkers or partiers (contrary to my username). We do enjoy the occasional after work drink about 1-2 nights per week.", "summary": "In Kansas, can the landlord dictate whether or not I can have alcohol in my refridgerator?"}
{"id": "t3_fevcw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Facebook is holding my PERSONAL account ransom because I disputed $3,000 worth of advertising that never happened. Isn't this blackmail?", "post": "So I created an ad on Facebook for a new business that I'm trying to get off the ground. I started at $100/day. 3 days later I've got $3,000 worth of charges on my debit card. \n\nI called Facebook to ask them what was going on and they basically didn't want to hear a word I had to say. Their whole attitude was \"deal with it\". My new business received NO new traffic from them during the time when the ads were supposed to have been active (and I've got the analytics data to prove it) let alone **$3,000** worth! I disputed the credit card charges with my bank.\n\nSo what did Facebook do? They deactivated my PERSONAL Facebook account. Don't get me wrong, I'm not someone who thinks that Facebook is the only thing to do online, but it does have merit. I had (have?) something like 700 Facebook friends and losing track of them would be a true-to-life bummer.\n\nI called Facebook again asking about the deactivation of my account and they said (summarized), \"Remove the disputes for the charges and we will reinstate your personal account.\" FUCK YOU!\n\nI am comparatively NOT concerned about my personal Facebook account compared with 3 grand and I don't see why they're doing either of these things, but I'd like more input.\n\nWhat say you, reddit? Is this blackmail? Have any of you dealt with Facebook in this capacity? Are there any tips/tricks/sites you could recommend?", "summary": "Advertised on Facebook. What should have been $300 ended up being $3,000. I received NO benefit. I disputed credit card charges. Facebook deactivated my personal account."}
{"id": "t3_v9fur", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been furious when confronting somebody and left feeling bad for them?", "post": "I will start this off with what recently happened to me. A car pulled out in front of me on a highway from the driveway of a store without looking. I didn't have enough time to stop but luckily our cars just bumped. After  checking that everybody in the car was ok I got out to check the damage (there was none) and talk to the other driver. It was a little old lady who was leaving Sears after buying a black dress for the funeral of a family member. She immediately started crying, apologizing and asking if I had any children in the car. Because there was no damage we parted ways, and I went from being furious with somebody causing an accident to feeling bad for her.", "summary": "Little old lady caused an accident (no damage/injuries) left feeling bad for her instead of being mad. "}
{"id": "t3_2n68b3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] My friend is in love with a guy [20/m] she haven't met and it's ruining her life.", "post": "My friend has been in a relationship for 2 years with a guy she met online on Tumblr. They've known each other for 4 years now but they still haven't met outside of Skype calls, and other online chat service. It's ruining her life. She's constantly crying and complaining about how much this guy messes up. She's always getting drunk because of something stupid this guy did, and I'm always there to pick her up for it. She always get drunk just to get even with him, and at one point she would cheat on him. Honestly, it happened more than once (happened 4 times, with 4 different guys) but for some crazy reason, they are still together. I asked her why she's still with him and she says \"It's cause he's hot\". And on not so rare occasions she would say \"If you love someone you'll fix your problems\". But is it really worth it? For a guy you still haven't met? How can I help my friend at least be happy. Whether they break up or not is not a concern for me. What matters is that she stops crying and stop making bad decisions. Also out of the 4 guys she's cheated on him with, she's still talking to him. The guy goes out of his way to help her. He likes her, and I know it's bad on his part but this guy cares more than her boyfriend does. He even baked her a cake and got her a gift for her birthday while travelling 2 hours just to drop it off. While her boyfriend wouldn't even greet her a happy birthday. It's honestly terrible seeing my friend friendzone a guy that deserves it much more. I don't know the situation completely, but I would love to hear a general opinion based on what guys have seen. Thank you. :)", "summary": "Friend is in a relationship with a dude, and it's ruining her life. She's friend zoning another guy cause she's clinging onto her current LDR."}
{"id": "t3_3kksvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (37M) boyfriend is addicted to PC Gaming and it's starting to seem like he no longer cares about me (26F) or our child.", "post": "My Boyfriends and I have been together for 3 years. He has always been a gamer. I have too although most of my gaming days were before my son was born. I understand that it's his way to unwind from work. There's this one game he's started playing two months ago with some other guy he met online and since he's started playing, it's like I don't exist. He doesn't want to do anything with me our or son. I've even come home late at night and come back to find our 2 year old still awake at 10:00 pm because he forgot him on the couch. He has a second son that he doesn't pay much attention to either because of his gaming addictions.\n\nThe only time he comes to me is if he wants sex...but I just feel so neglected by him that I'm never in the mood for that. And when I do it, it's just because I feel obligated to him. I've told him that I feel he's spending too much time playing that game, and I've even brought up couples counselling. He's not interested in any of it. And when I try to have a serious conversation he just shuts down and has this poker face displayed so I have no idea what he's thinking, and he never responds to me after these conversations. \n\nI have anxiety issues and depression and with him being so into this game, I feel like he doesn't care about the relationship anymore, and it's just causing me to sink further into my depression.\n\nI don't want to leave him. We have a son together. Also, even though I work, I don't make enough to financially support myself and my son. I'm going to school for the bachelors degree a couple evenings during the week but I am still a few years away from completing that. \n\nAt this point, I feel lost and I don't know what to do. I don't want to stop him from gaming, but I feel like he needs to also focus on his family more.", "summary": "My boyfriend is addicted to PC gaming. I feel like I've tried everything I can to reach out to him and I don't know what else to do. Can someone offer me some advice on the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_29gno9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "That feeling. [17,M]", "post": "I'm sure many of you have experienced this. That moment when you feel like someone is \"checking you out\".  Now I'm no narcissist,in fact,I'm really **really** insecure and generally not confident at all. So whenever I get this feeling,I usually just brush it off,thinking: \"Who the hell do I think I am\".\n\nThing is,a few hours ago,I was on the train minding my own business when the feeling crept up. I noticed from the corner of my eye a really cute guy sitting just a few steps from me. I tried brushing the feeling off but something about his body language was just off. He was sitting not straight,but diagonally facing me. He was looking down at his hands\n and had this poker face expression. So I tried forgetting about him since I wasn't feeling my best today.\n\n However this feeling just kept coming back and I decided to glance at him again. This time,he was leaning his head on the window with the most **ADORABLE** grin *but* was looking out instead of at me. So I'm just standing there,insecure as hell,very much attracted to him but very much confused as well. \n\nSo yada yada,few stops fly by,and here's where it gets interesting. We were about to approach a station in about a minute or so,and this guy stands up and walks a few steps towards me. He holds onto a handrail,facing DIRECTLY at me  while waiting for his stop. So I'm just there like *OMFGOMFGOMFG*. I was basically frozen. That one minute felt like an eternity. I wanted to smile at him but I just couldn't so I looked down at the floor. Alas,his stop comes and he alights. Of course,there's always this sense of regret every time this happens. But oh well. \n\nMy question is,has anyone here ever had this feeling and acted on it? Like when you approached him/her,were they really \"checking you out\"? Or should I just stick to my  \"Who the hell do I think I am\" thinking? *sigh* Thank you in advance!", "summary": "Not sure if someone is checking me out or just my mind playing cruel tricks on me."}
{"id": "t3_4t7o9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] father [57M] needs a kidney and I won't give him one", "post": "To make a long story short, my father is a classic narcissist with a long list of symptoms, which makes this even more complicated. He believes he knows more than doctors and that they're just \"out to get your money\". He's nuts. This ties into him not managing his diabetes like it's recommended and not caring for his feet (he's had two toes and their metatarsals removed because of this). He also smokes two packs a day, has heart disease (& a history of heart attacks), and is overweight. He also hasn't worked in about a decade (for no real reason). \n\nRecently it's come out that his kidney disease is getting bad. To the point where the doctor believes he's going to need a kidney transplant in the near future. Due to his poor life choices, he'll never be eligible for a donor kidney. It would have to be a private transplant. Of the family, I am the only one that is his blood type. He has no friends. \n\nThere is no way I want to give him a kidney. He's absolutely awful, especially to me and my mother. He's been abusive in the past. Besides that, there's no way he'd ever take care of it, he'd continue his same poor health habits. I'd be throwing my kidney into a dumpster. \n\nI live at home as I'm currently in school (2 years to go). I already avoid him as much as possible, but I know that he would resent me if I refused to give him my kidney and those tensions would make the household even worse. He'll hold a grudge for decade. As much as I would love to go no contact, I am at home til school is done and I'd still have to see him on holidays with the family. I don't even know if I'm a tissue match and I'm terrified to find out. My mother is supportive of me not donating a kidney, but is at a loss for how to explain it to him. \n\nWhat do I do? How do I keep my kidneys while maintaining the peace?", "summary": "My narcissictic father needs one of my kidneys and I won't give him one. How do I explain that without him exploding since I'll live at home for another two years?"}
{"id": "t3_26cswg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18 M with my girlfriend 18 F of a year. Am I over-reacting?", "post": "This wont be a very long post. I don't like alcohol, not drinking it or anything but there's a lot of bad, bad history I have with it. I had to check my dad into rehab a few months ago and it's damaged a lot of friendships and family relations I've had. My girlfriend and I had this talk a long time ago, and re-affirmed it since that she wouldn't drink alcohol anymore (not at my request, but she knows I hate it). \n\nThere's a lot of back-story to this, but basically for the past few months she's been situationally depressed living with an emotionally abusive mom and dealing with the fact that I've had a different girlfriend in the past (there's a lot of back story to this too, she has low self esteem and doesn't find herself very special :( ). \n\nAnyway, she told me tonight that she drank. I'm glad she told me that she did instead of keeping it a secret, but it hurt, it really did. I guess it's just a trust thing for me.\n\nAnyway, am I over-reacting? Should I just let it go? Do you think it's a one time thing?", "summary": "Girlfriend said wouldn't drink alcohol, drank alcohol (drunk?), feel like my trust is damaged"}
{"id": "t3_ql849", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Advice and suggestions for Eastern coast of Australia and maybe New Zealand with a Sydney New Year's Eve.", "post": "I want to be in Sydney for New Year's Eve, this year I am going to make it happen! I realized I should try and see more of Australia/New Zealand while I am there.\n\nMy rough plan is to make it to Australia early/mid December and travel for a few weeks, possibly ending with Sydney on December 31 and enjoy the city for a few days after until traveling back to the states.\n\nI like adventurous activities, parties and people; a 24 year old trying to have fun. But would not want to miss any important landmarks/museums/parks along the way.\n\nHas anyone done something like this? Please any help or suggestions will be appreciated.", "summary": "A 24 year-old guy trying to plan a trip to Australia and Sydney for New Year's Eve."}
{"id": "t3_2dt6wr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am in my first serious relationship with my [18F] girlfriend of 4 months and I think I'm out of the honeymoon period so I'v just got some questions.", "post": "So I met my girlfriend earlier this year. We were actually friends originally which is good because I find her interesting on an intellectual level and not just attractive.\n\nI'm not going to go into detail but after a while we decided to start dating and after a few dates we happily became a couple.\n\nWe are still very happy, but at the beginning it was such an insane high, I remember on our first date I felt sick from emotions and first time doing anything sexually we couldn't keep our hands off eachother.  \n\nNow things have finally came down and there's more of a comfortable feeling than a high of butterflies and etc.\n\nI understand that its biologically impossible to be on such a high 24/7 and I do still get the odd case of butterflies so there's nothing to worry about but I'm just wondering is this all normal? \n\nI'v never been in a serious relationship before, only short high school ones so I don't have much experience after this far into a relationship (if it is far at all) \n\nWhat can I do to make things interesting so we still get the odd rush? \n\nIs this all normal?\n\nWhat pros come after the honeymoon phase? (I'v noticed Im not as worried about what I say/how I look now in front of her now)\n\nDoes anybody have any advice for a couple who have just ended there honeymoon phase?", "summary": "I think I'm just after ending the honeymoon phase in my first relationship and I'm wondering is what I'm feeling all normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2ifmha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23] girlfriend [20] doesn't want me to be in the delivery room when my sister [25] gives birth. How do we get past this?", "post": "My sister is giving birth in a few months and she's asked me to be there when she delivers. Her boyfriend has left her, she has very few friends and doesn't get along with our parents. I feel like I'm the only one she has.\n\nI was happy to be there when she delivers, but unfortunately my girlfriend doesn't feel the same way. She says it's weird and this was something we were meant to share. \n\nRecent text messages:\n\n\"I'm always going to be last. I'm never going to be anyone's first option.\"\n\n\"Was she there to support you the past year when you needed motivation? Was she there when you were stressed?\"\n\nI love my girlfriend but I'm not backing down on this, unless I'm completely wrong, am I wrong?", "summary": "Sister wants be to be there when she gives birth. Girlfriend threatening to break up (indirectly) if we do."}
{"id": "t3_uawwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are massages inappropriate?", "post": "I (25F) am very close friends with K (38M) who is married for 3 years. We've known each other for 2 years and we work together in the same place. Our relationship is very much like older brother/ little sister most of the time. Occasionally though, I do feel sexual attraction towards him most likely due to my LDR. I see my bf twice a month but after I see him, my attraction to K is mostly gone. K is generally a flirty person but I don't know if today might have crossed a line. We were talking and made a bet on whether some animal existed. I told him if I won, he'd have to buy me ice cream and he said if he won I'd have to walk on his back which I thought was a little weird since we weren't that physically close. I ended losing and tried to talk my way out of the bet but he was insistent. I ended up walking on his back and then giving him a short back massage (he was clothed). He then showed me how to crack his back by standing behind him and wrapping my arms around him and lifting him up. The thing is, none of this felt sexual to me at all. I used to do this to my little brother. It was just a little strange coming from him since he was married and all. So do you think this was innocent and just a natural evolution of our close friendship or do you think there was something more to it? Is it ever appropriate to give a married friend a massage?", "summary": "Gave married man a massage after losing bet. Not sure if it was appropriate."}
{"id": "t3_1v6voa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] have been with my boyfriend [27/M] for almost 2 years. I feel like his porn habits have started causing problems in our sex life. How do I bring it up?", "post": "Here's what's up:\n\nOver the last ~4 months, my boyfriend I have barely been sexually active. My drive hasn't changed at all, but he stopped initiating and probably 90% of the time will turn me down when I initiate. After a month or two I finally asked him what was going on, and he explained that the medication he's been taking has lowered his libido.\n\nI accepted that explanation and tried to back off a little, so that he wouldn't feel like I was putting too much pressure on him or being insensitive to the situation. Nothing changed as far as how often we were having sex, but I felt better at least knowing why it was happening.\n\nFast forward to a conversation we had yesterday, where he happened to let it slip that he's been jacking off to porn everyday while I'm at work. I know he's had problems over-using porn in the past (he's told me as much himself.) I really feel like this is a huge part, if not all, of the current problem, more so than his meds since he's apparently still getting horny.\n\nHow do I voice this concern reasonably? I'm afraid it will come off like I'm insecure or jealous of him looking at other girls and he won't take it seriously, or that he'll feel like I'm trying to forbid him from watching porn and will just get defensive.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is choosing fapping to internet porn over having sex with me. How do I talk to him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_4h9b2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and boyfriend [23M]. Is this just sexual incompatibility?", "post": "I will keep it short. My boyfriend often lets things get in the way of having sex: his mood, stress, being tired. I feel like I do this too, but never to this extent. He will have a long day at work and be too tired for sex. He will be feeling sad one day (he had depression) and will be not in the mood. \n\nYesterday we got a hotel room because we had flown out to his home town to visit family. We had started getting intimate but we had to cut it short before we actually got to have sex because we had dinner plans with his friend from high school. He hadn't spoken to this friend for years, and the dinner didn't go super well. He was really excited for the dinner but during the dinner it was clear that he and his friend had really grown apart and had nothing at all in common. It was awkward \n\nAfterwards we get back to the hotel and he's too disappointed with how dinner went to have sex with me. \n\nI try to be understanding because I know how awful it is to be pressured for sex when you don't want it, but I also feel really unsatisfied. What do I do? Are we just incompatible?", "summary": "boyfriend is OFTEN not in the mood for sex for one reason or another.  Are we just incompatible or is there something I can do"}
{"id": "t3_3cczue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (32f) ex of 6 yrs (37m) said he was bi, then claimed he wasn't the next day", "post": "I should preface this by saying that my ex of 6 years has a massive drinking problem and we always had sexual issues because he has very extreme sexual tastes and thinks the fact that I didn't want to try golden showers (just an example of many) meant I wasn't sexually adventurous enough. \n\nHe texted me drunk one night about a month after we broke up. He told me he had invited a guy from Craigslist over to hook up and that he was bi, that he always had been. I felt betrayed, not because I have an issue with bi/gay people AT ALL, but because I felt like he had been lying to me the whole time we were together.\n\nWhy did he even tell me this? We weren't together, so he was allowed to do whatever he wanted. I had left him and it really hurt him, so maybe he just wanted to hurt me by telling me he had been lying to me the whole time we were together? I wondered if it actually was a betrayal or if it was his personal business that I had no right to be upset about. \n\nThe next day, he told me he had just been curious what it would be like, but that he's not in any way bi. Then he gave me a guilt trip, saying that I had no right to be upset and that meant I was homophobic. Was I overreacting?", "summary": "Alcoholic and very sexually adventurous ex of 6 years told me he hooked up with a guy after we broke up and was bi and always had been, only to take it back the next day, calling me homophobic for being upset. I'm not sure what to believe or why he would tell me that in the first place. Is that a betrayal or his personal business?"}
{"id": "t3_37tnhq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to the food court at the mall.", "post": "I rarely do this as I'm a health freak but I thought some sushi would be ok and I didn't have time for anything else.  I get my sushi and have a seat.  Then a couple in their 20s with their 1yr old sit down in front of me.  These two people are spilling out of the booth they are so obese.  They have that dazed look on their face, that malnourished, exhausted but full of caffeine yet sugar crashing at the same time look.  They've got their burgers, fries and fizz.  I'm surprised they were not on mobility scooters.  The baby looks a mess and is already getting fat, not baby fat, like he's actually looking like a mini fat dude.  They proceed to force feed this baby a large bowl of fries and then they wash it down him with orange soda.  The baby finished half a 16oz orange soda, too young to hold it they just tipped it down his throat.  The baby's eyes were bulging shortly after, I think he must have been like \"holy fuck I feel weird, what the fuck  is happening\".  I almost had an aneurysm at this point trying to process what I was seeing.. how could this be happening, should I have made a citizens arrest or something?", "summary": "I lost all my remaining faith in humanity today, we are doomed."}
{"id": "t3_2qn1pg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I Hate Movie Snobs", "post": "Yesterday, I went and saw the new version of Annie, which I thoroughly enjoyed. Today, I saw online that most movie critics gave it very negative reviews. They called it cliche, didn't like the music, and other random crap. Here's my answer to you.\n\nAnnie is based off of a musical that has been performed more times than can be counted, of course it's cliche. Many movies use cliches in some form or another, and there's nothing necessarily wrong with that. As long as the cliches enhance the world of the movie, it doesn't matter. And as far as originality goes, they did update it to modern times and changed the music. If that's not original enough for you, then you're in the wrong business.\n\nSecond, they updated the music to pop and had rampant materialism in the movie. All I'm gonna say is that they set it in a modern world showcasing modern ways of life. Get over it.\n\nCritics do this with many movies, and it makes me sick. Movie critics should be held to the same requirement as play critics. Suspend your disbelief. Just allow the world of the movie to breath. If it's believable and entertaining, don't give it a 1 or a 2. Give it the average review that it deserves and let the public decide if they like it or not.", "summary": "Critics shut down decent and entertaining movies for stupid reasons."}
{"id": "t3_11s7no", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most amazing thing you've ever experienced?", "post": "Mine is probably not that great in comparison to what I'm sure other people have experienced, but whatever. It was a pretty amazing experience for me. This spring our dog went missing when she got spooked and slipped her collar. She instantly went into \"survival mode\" and although we had a few sightings, she did not recognize anyone or anything from being so out of sorts and was pretty much acting like a wild animal. She was missing in the woods for 2 1/2 days. After we had tried pretty much everything else to catch her, we realized that we'd have to wait for her to approach us. I sat in the middle of a freezing cold, soaking wet hay field with a bowl of food and just waited for her to get brave/hungry enough to approach me. \n\nAfter about an hour and a half, she cautiously made her way toward me. She stopped about 10 feet away from me and started barking aggressively, trying to scare me off of the food. At this point I started to softly and calmly talk to her and slowly held out a piece of steak. I was scared SHITLESS, by the way; my own Great Dane was barking aggressively at me and I only had one chance to grab her when she got close enough...I legitimately thought she was going to sink her teeth into my arm when I tried.\n\nAs she reached out to grab the steak from my hand, the most amazing thing happened. I watched as, within a split second, her eyes went from totally empty to recognizing who I was. I have never seen an animal so clearly have a moment of total relief and utter happiness. I swear, if someone had been filming the encounter it would be the key scene in a sappy dog movie. (Not to mention I was bawling and babbling incoherently while she was jumping 6 feet in the air licking my face).", "summary": "Lost my dog, she freaked out and forgot who I was, then realized who I was right before she was about to chomp on me and totally freaked from happiness."}
{"id": "t3_q2avs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your most embarrassing sexual encounter? (NSFW)", "post": "Fortunately, none of my \"encounters\" have been embarrassing, but one of my close friends just recently ended up going home with a girl from a club. They were both trashed and after they finished, he left her dorm room in order to go to the bathroom. Unfortunately, he was on the girls floor so he couldn't use the bathroom. He preceded to leave the floor not realizing the door locks behind him. He ended up pissing on the stairwell and waited there for hours until someone would let him in (all his stuff was in her room and she was passed out). The next day, he learns she left her tampon in and had to go to the doctors because it was stuck. Reddit, what is your most embarrassing story?", "summary": "my friend hooked up with this girl, locked him self out, pissed on the stairs, and learned she left her tampon in after the fact. your most embarrassing story?"}
{"id": "t3_10ok0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do new customers get better deals then existing customers for Telephone/TV/Internet/Radio??", "post": "This has been happening to me very much recently as I've re-upped my cell phone/switched my TV and internet service and cancelled my Sirius subscription.  I can't be the only one that hates this crap.\n\nWhy do companies offer great prices for people to join, but don't allow current customers to get those same rates.\n\nFor example:  \n\n1.) AT&T U-verse.   My bill steadily increased 5-10 dollars a month for 6 months.   I called them to complain and it worked once, then they refused to give me what I would consider reasonable service for a price.    I pleaded to let me have something anywhere close to the \"introductory rates\" that new members get.  But as a customer for 6 years I wasn't allowed those low rates.   This practice to me seems backwards.  \n\nThe kicker?   When I called to actually cancel, they offered me this rate.   To bad for them I had already gotten an alternate service at their \"introductory rate\".\n\n2.)  Sirius XM   .  On their website 199/12 months.     I called to cancel my 6 months subscription (had a coupon that was about $6 a month).    I've called previously asking for that rate (or close) to be extended for a year and no help.    Today when I called to cancel and they offered me 12 months for 85$, 6 months for 26$, a free home radio, and pretty much her first born.\n\nJust publish your dang rates and make them worth subscribing too.   Damnit.", "summary": "Why don't existing customers get the lower rates, if anything having been with a company for 5 years should get you the lower rates, not new customers.   Why are there even different rates, offer the lowest price you can for the service you provide and customers will come.   It just pisses me off."}
{"id": "t3_c7ha5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is an English major a bad way to go?", "post": "I've heard that no matter what you do with an English major there's no way to make decent pay. \n\nI've decided I want to be a published author, or a successful enough writer to make a living off of it. I hear it's hard, and I want to improve my writing. My parents are telling me I have to attend college otherwise they can't afford insurance. From experience is it best to pursue your writing in college, or set yourself off in a solid-pay job starting out on your own? \n\nI'm by no means asking for anyone to decide for me, but I feel like I'm wasting money in college, and reading/writing are the only things I enjoy besides movies/plays/video games. I'll take everything with a grain of salt, but even writing tips would be helpful. I hate working and love stimulating my mind. I think constantly which makes work torturous. *I don't want to be rich, I want to live happy and pursue things that interest me.", "summary": "or summarized/coherent version: Can I make a living on my writing, and what's the best way to improve it?"}
{"id": "t3_t5vf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I cheated on my husband", "post": "Just trying to give some advice to others who may be in or thinking about this from someone who gets it.  \nLet me say, I love my husband, he is my best friend, and an all around good guy.  We have no children, have been married for 3 years ( I know, not all that long ) and been together for 5 years.  I am 27 F, hubs is 28 M, other friend is 32 M. 8 months ago I started \"seeing\" someone on the side.  Hubs was out of town that week, had been working a lot, I was questioning my love, etc...I go to a bar by myself and ended up taking a boy home with me.  We did nothing that night. A friendship ensues and progresses over the next 6 months (use your imagination) Hubs finds out, is incredibly hurt, I feel horrible, vow to never hurt him like that again. Would I take it back? Probably not (should have said I don't know, but didn't).  My love and appreciation for him now is stronger than it ever was.  I am NOT suggesting that women or men take this approach in order to solve any issues they may have.", "summary": "Had an affair, questions?"}
{"id": "t3_3kjm7y", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Question for Anyone in the Field of Software Quality Assurance", "post": "Do you guys like your jobs? Does you have job satisfaction?\n\n I found myself working a project where I do a lot of manual quality assurance and have been doing it for about the past year. This wasn't the work I chose to do (I was actually hired on as a BA and did that for about the first month of the project). I enjoy QA sometimes but I find it hard to talk about my job to others (I think that is common amongst the IT profession). I also am not a fan of upsetting people and I'm still working on my delivery method for \"YOUR CODE FAILED. FIX IT.\". \n\nBeing in the oil and gas industry I felt as if I could lose my job at any time so I have been sending out 'feeler' resumes on Indeed and one thing led to another and now I am at the second round interview for a job that could pay at least $7,000 more each year.  However, I know that once I take this job (If I want to maintain my salary and not go back to school) I know that QA will be my career. \n\nSo should I do it? Does anyone out there regret being a manual software tester? \n\nP.S - I'm an MIS major and I have taken a couple of programming classes. I'm not sure how hard it would be to learn to created automated programming scripts, but I feel like I would need more training to accomplish that.", "summary": "Started working as a BA. Got assigned QA work. Sent out resumes for QA jobs. Currently in interview for a job that pays 7k more but I'm worried I wont have job satisfaction. Should I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1wowlk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by buying a motorcycle off of craigslist. I had no idea what a certificate of destruction was.", "post": "So last week I decided to finally get my motorcycle license and get a bike. Originally I wanted to buy one from a used bike shop but after searching for a while I found a used Ducati Monster on craigslist for 2100. So I called the guy and set up a buy. \n\nHe told me that he ran a storage facility for expensive luxury cars. Now I am unsure if the location was the correct place even though he went and got a ramp off of the property to place the bike in the back of my van.\n\nHe said that the bike was previously owned by an insurance company and that the title was turned over to them once the company did not pay the storage fees. As we were signing papers in the dark I noticed that the top of the paper did say certificate of desttruction but I put it off as some legal term.\n\nIt showed that the vehicle was signed over to a company from state farm in 2012 and it showed about a thousand miles has been put on the bike since then. \nNow today after getting my motorcycle license, getting insurance on the bike buying all of the gear gps and security for the bike, I took it to get a plate registered on the bike and the guy says no can do.\n\nI have no idea what the certificate of destruction was issued for becuase it looks like the bike was completely restored. The tires are brand new, they changed the oil. The guy even stayed with me for about a half an hour explaining everything about the bike and I called him whenever I had any issues but now he is not answering.\n\nI live in Florida and the guy at the tag place said that the only place that I can register the vehicle is in georgia or virginia. I searched that it is possible to get a rebuilt status for the bike by buying a new frame but I cannot find one online. But I would have to transfer ownership over to a relative that lives in eiter state or Kentucy, I found a forum post online stating that they will do it as well.\n\nI have no idea what to do. I tried searching for frames online for the bike but couldnt find any.", "summary": "got sold an unusable bike in what seems like great condition."}
{"id": "t3_1wxxxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [27 F] 2.5 years, I cheated on her more than 20 times.", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nPlease do not judge me from what I will be saying. I just need your objective advice and opinion.\n\nI have been with my GF for the last 2.5 years. We met in my undergraduate studies at the same university and then I went to work abroad and since then we started a LDR.\n\nI love her a lot but LDR is tiring and frustrating me in many ways.\n\nThe big problem is that I cheated on her more than 20 times while together but on a LDR. I am still convinced that I love her and that I can marry her at 1 stage in my life.\n\nI personally justify my actions because I never had a lot of girls back at university (I was a bit chubby, not so much social power, focused on my studies..). Now that I work in a very good company, earn quite well, much better looking (lost a lot of weight and actually I am considered v. fit), and feel just much more attractive to girls, a lot of girls that I meet in bars actually hit on me and are open for sex. And I do not say no.\n\nMy GF loves me a lot, and I do love her a lot. But I still would like to sleep around with other girls (I am being totally honest with you). I just love all the attention that I get now, wherever I go.\n\nAt the same time, I am convinced that I love my GF. I am old enough (29) to start being serious and I am actually afraid to loose my GF as I think it's very hard nowadays to meet a nice/good girl.\n\nWhat do you think? am I too selfish? Do you think that love exists even though I cheated on her?", "summary": "Cheated more than 20 times on my GF, however I am convinced that I love her."}
{"id": "t3_1n9lem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my recent ex [25 M] have a lot of the same friends; how do I hang out with them?", "post": "So me and my ex have a lot of friends that we both know and hang out with. These were people that knew and were friends with him before I stepped in the picture mostly, but some are new that we both met and became friends with. I don't know now that we are broken up if any of our shared friends will want to be with me. I only have a handful of my friends in school still this year; most of them graduated and left for jobs else wheres. I don't know how to spend my weekends. And for almost two years I pretty exclusively met friends through him, despite being apart of a college community, going out and enjoying my personal interests in groups of people with the same interests, and so on.", "summary": "The ex and I broke up, but all of the friends I feel close to were his friends first. How do I enjoy my life, if they all turn away from me? Will they turn away from me? Am I paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_2u0li8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a new phone.", "post": "To start this off, I must say that I come from a fairly conservative home, where my parents believe that their now 20-year-old son is a saint of sorts. I have spent the last 2 years studying away from home, so naturally some self discovery and experimentation is to be expected. Recently got a contract upgrade from my cellular service provider and decided to give my mom my old phone, thinking I had deleted all things suspicious and incriminating. Little did I know that when she re-downloaded whatsapp, it would revert to my account, bringing back all my contacts, groups and conversations. She was not pleased by some of the reading material she uncovered. I never delete my chats, because ain't nobody got time for that. So she pretty much had access to every conversation I'd had in the last 2 years. Guys, a lot has happened in 2 years. None of which they were supposed to know about. A rude awakening for my mom at first. You can imagine how I was shaking with fear when she confronted me about this. Imagine your mom finding out everything you ever wanted to hide from her, in a single evening.", "summary": "my parents found out about the LSD, shrooms, weed smoking, excessive drinking and unprotected sex I have been having away from home."}
{"id": "t3_211i5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23F) with ex (23M), together 4 years, apart 4 months. Feeling upset about interaction with ex.", "post": "Me and my ex broke up mid december, we had been fighting quite a bit the month before and we were both very stressed out from school. He broke up with me cause he felt that our relationship wasn't beneficial to each other anymore and that things just weren't the same between us. \n\nIt's been a maybe 4 months now and we haven't talked much at all (he completely blocked me from everything). He is seeing a girl that he's had class with for awhile and I'm dating too. The other day thought he unexpected showed up at my apartment with a package that had accidentally been delivered to his apartment. I was really surprised that he showed up to give me it cause when ever we have decided to met for any reason since the breakup he insist we meet in a public place. He didn't stay for long and he seemed to keep his distance from me (like trying to stand as far as way as possible). We had a good interaction nothing eventful in anyway, but now I'm feeling odd for some reason. \n\nI mean I have been missing him and everything, but have been keeping away form him of course. It just felt very different then any other interaction we have had almost like we were just aquaitence. I don't like the feeling, we were so closed he was my best friend, we shared so much personal, intimate, and emotional stuff. I don't know why this is upsetting me so much but it really is. Of course I want to be friends but this change in the dynamic between us is upsetting and I'm not sure why.", "summary": "had a run in with my ex and feeling upset about how our dynamic is different now, but i'm not sure why."}
{"id": "t3_2cvpay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 3 years is afraid of losing her job", "post": "Hey reddit.\n\nLove my girl. She graduated from college two years ago, but did get her current job like 3 months ago. The thing is... the field of her profession is very competitive in the country that we live. So she is very afraid of losing her job and be unemployed with all the bills to pay (she lives alone and pay for all her bills, no support for her dad, only I lend some money once in awhile). I felt like that in my first employment, but since there are a lot of open spots in the field that I work, that fear went away very quickly.\n\nHow can I support her in this situation? I always tell her that she is a very talented professional (and she is, indeed), but I'd like to know if anyone has put through the same feeling and if you would like to hear something else. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "girlfriend is afraid of losing her current and first job. How can I confort her that's not going to happen? Or, if it happens, she is safe and will succeed in another job?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhilr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [44F] with my _Fianc\u00e9 of 3 yr__ [55/M] duration 5 yr, lied to me about being home when he said he was 2 hours away \"driving\".", "post": "Fiance is known for white lies.  Otherwise, he is charming, handsome, very compatible for me.\n\nHe spent the night 5 hours away because his 87 yr old mom went into the hospital.\n\nNo problem, I'm busy. I don't care that he's gone doing what he should.\n\nI call him coz texting/driving is illegal.  He says he's  in far away town, driving home.  I say he sounds like he's at home.  He states what the temp on his truck says and asks what it's like back home.\n\nI'm in bed.  But I'm suspicious.  So I get in my car and drive to his house 5 miles away.\n\nThere it is.  He IS home.  I knew it!\n\nI go in.  Fight ensues.  He says he didn't want to come over, he's tired.\n\nI say I never asked/expected/wanted him to any way, so why did he lie?!\n\nHe says because I get upset.\n\nI call total bullshit.  I NEVER get upset with petty shit like that.\n\nHe challenges me to search his house for another woman.  I refuse.  There is no other woman.  I know.\n\nBut the point remains he lied about stupid shit.\n\nThis is total stupid shit to lie about.\n\nNow has me questioning everything.\n\nWe have an invention we have been developing on my funding alone for three years.  Without me, he has none of the prospects of success.\n\nI trusted him.  \n\nNow, should I?\n\nMy gut is telling me to break up.", "summary": "do I breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_n7mv7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit! I need help with a KFC incident", "post": "Hey guys!\n\nSo about 2 or 3 days ago, a few friends and I were at a nearby KFC when my friend noticed something strange in his meal. Upon having a closer look, he pulled out the \"mystery object\" and it was a feather. A small, white feather was lodged inside his chicken!!! Anyways, we talked to the people working there and they literally acted like it was just something that happens everyday. After a complaint,all they did was give us a free new piece of chicken, which nobody honestly felt like eating any more. After complaining to the manager, we got the same result and they didn't seem to care. So what I ask of you, reddit, is what can we do about this? Could it be proof of animal cruelty or something? However, the problem is that we live in Austria, where lawsuits aren't as common as in America, and people generally don't give a shit about these things. Any advice?", "summary": "me and my friends found a feather in our KFC and we don't know what to do about it. Also, we live in Austria."}
{"id": "t3_3pjb47", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stepping in wet cement", "post": "So this morning I was getting to my car (in the building complex parking lot) for work, only to find that someone got into it and stole my old GPS and a pair of cheap sunglasses. No biggie except I also kept a secret backup key to my apartment hidden in my stuff. Concerned that they might have found the key and made a copy, as well as having seen my address on the insurance card, I decided to ask the community superintendent to change my locks. He wasn't answering the phone, so I decided to walk over to his house, located across the street. On the way I see some contractors who I thought were lawn guys and I decided to ask them if they've seen the super.\n\nAs I'm walking towards them on the sidewalk, I say \"Excuse Me\" and the main guy turns around in horror and yells 'No!' Too late. I already lifted my foot onto the brand new, immaculate sidewalk, and proceed to stomp a full sized footprint deep into the wet cement with my black Rockport dress shoes. The contractors look pretty pissed, yelled something probably very profane in Spanish, and told me to get lost so they could re-pave the pavement. I tried to rinse it off with a hose nearby, which of course wasn't perfect. I was already late for work, so I've been walking around all day at the office with one foot looking like a rock. At least I won't have loose shoe laces on that foot.", "summary": "Car broken into, tried to find super, stepped in wet cement, walking around work today with one cement covered shoe"}
{"id": "t3_3fx4ad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [20F] of 1+ years, changes holiday plans with me the last person to know", "post": "English isn't my native language. Sorry for broken language. \n\nHello. This will be a short story with short question. Because I don't know how to feel about this. \n\nBasically what happened was my GF was planning a holiday trip and is going to fly by plane. Nearest airport is in another city. She said that she'll go there by car. leave the car for a week and just drive back when she comes. I said ok told her that I was going to travel to the city at her arrival day and greet her. (by train and we both can drive back). \n\nShe got all defensive. She said that doesn't need to happen. That she feels like it's a waste of my time (i need to work, however I do work from home so that's not a problem) etc. Well ok. I still insisted but she denied me. \n\nAbout a week later, one day is left until her trip. I visit her at her house. She then drops that: I'll have to drive her to that city for her plane and drive back the car home. Then drive to that city again to pick her up from her flight. And that's when there was one day left for her fly date. There was no \"will you be able?\" or \"how about the time?\". I wasn't warned or even asked if I can / am willing to. \n\nShe had already planned everything with her parents and everyone else troughout the second to last day. Except me. I was left out on all of this and she only told me what I will kinda have to do. I was the last person to know when everything relied on me to drive them there. \n\nI don't know why but this really hurt me. Why was all that bullshit about having time when I wanted to greet her at the comming back then ?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't accept with me going to greet her when she comes back from a trip her reasining that I need to work. One day left she changes plans for me to drive her to the airport and come pick her up with me the last person know and without asking and care about my job. How should I feel about this ? Am i just butthurt?"}
{"id": "t3_4z4r1q", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How/where to get more clerical and office administrative skills?", "post": "Been volunteering for a local non-profit for about 2 years in the hopes of getting some admin skills to beef up my resume. So far though, I do mostly filing, folding & bundling newsletters at the end of each season, some maintenance here and there. I want/need more experience using computer programs like MS Office and data entry. I've only gotten maybe a few handfuls of computer work in my pocket. The folks where I volunteer are wonderful and I would love it if I could work there. But they seem to have plenty of staff and hiring me is out of their purview. Most computer work is only allowed to the staff. Nothing against them, but I feel like I've wasted the past couple of years there on grunt work.\n\nBeyond typing up college papers on Word and making flyers on Publisher, I've got little practice in MS Office programs. Learning Excel, Acces, mail merge, etc. would be so useful. At a previous non-profit, I learned a bit of html using Wordpress to update their websites. That has withered from disuse. What kind of place can I apply to for office work where the employer wouldn't mind training me? Or are non-profits my only option? If the latter, are there specific kinds that will get me more office work? Mine is part gallery so they need more help outside of the office. Could I take classes somewhere, ideally free?", "summary": "Need more office admin experience. What place will train me? Is volunteering the only way? Classes an option, if so, where and free?"}
{"id": "t3_3lrkga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) finally told my best friend (35M) that I love him", "post": "Me and my best friend have been friends for almost 10 months now, and it has been my best friendship. We talk everyday, he had been my rock, and my confident.  He has had my back through some tough spots, and given me so much advice. A month into our friendship, he told me he didn't think we meshed too well, and probably shouldnt date. I was half way fine with it , because we had started to get intaimate , and i wad fine being Best friends with benefits. \n  Our friendship all this year has had its ups and downs, but we always have greay conversations and sex. But somewhere in this friendship,  I fell in love with him. I have attempted to date , but to no avail, I kept comparing them to my best friend.  But it always worked out bevause he wasn't dating and i could fall back on him. He's a truly amazing man and friend. \n \n\n  To sum up a long post,  he knew I had feelings for him, but told me he didn't share them. Today i told him I loved him and we probably shouldn't be friends anymore.  He told me he didnt want to hurt me anymore , and didn't want to stop being friends,  but it was hurting him too. We talked for hours, i cried and felt terrible. But we got to somewhat better ground. But then he told me, he had a crush on a girl he met two months ago, but it isn't anything more than friends right now.  I trust him,  he's never been dishonest,  and he's always open and forthcoming.  \n\n But im just hurt, and i don't how to get over this, sorry if i rambling.  Im still crying and emotional.", "summary": "I fell in love with my best friend,  and I dont know what to do because he doesn't love me back. But he's a great friend and I dont want to end a friendship over this."}
{"id": "t3_4zskdm", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to get two girls, who both like me and are bi, into a threesome?", "post": "So I introduced 2 girls to each other. They hit it off. They are both bisexual. Anyways, they started dating. And on the side, I found out that both like me, and they are both sexually liberal about themselves. So my question, is how do I get into a 3some with the two? \n\nI am not a sleezy douche. I'm just being lost and confused since I'm a virgin. \n\nFirst: How do I bring up the idea of a 3some? I don't know if they know that the other person likes me. \nBoth they do both like me. They told me, separately.  \nAnd if they both agree, how would a 3some work? \n\nI am 20 years male.\nOne girl is 21 years old.\nThe other is 19 years old.\nTheir relationship duration is 2 weeks.", "summary": "I'm a virgin. I introduced two bi girls together. Then I found out both like me. They are sexually liberal. I don't know how to get into a 3some."}
{"id": "t3_1rjuhk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [27 M] is using my sons medicine. What do I do?", "post": "I've been struggling the past few months with my husband using my sons inhaler.  He went through most of his first inhaler, leaving enough in case my son needed to use it in an emergency.  (It gives a reading on the back and counts down so you know when to refill it.)  When I confronted him about it he was very non chalant about it.  Saying he shouldn't have done it and he would get a new one.  He is a long time smoker and says sometimes he has trouble breathing.  I was very upset about this.  He thought I was making a big deal out of it.\n\nWhen we got a new one, he swore he wouldn't use it.  But I saw the numbers go down a little and knew he did a few times.  Then we went to stay at my moms, and when we got home it was gone.  My mom says it isn't there and I looked all over here.  He admits he had been using it but swears he didn't take it.  I can't be sure and regardless he shouldn't have been sneaking it.\n\nI don't know what to do about this.  I told him if he is having trouble breathing he needs to see a doctor and get his own inhaler.  I also think he needs to seek help.  He used to take some pills recreationally but swears you can't use a childrens inhaler recreationally (don't know if this is true.)  It just scares me that he thinks it's okay to use our preschoolers asthma medication up.  I don't know how a person in their right mind can justify it.  \n\nI just got a new one for our son but now I have to always keep an eye on the number and stress over it.  Am I over-reacting?  And what should I do about it?", "summary": "Husband has been using sons inhaler, doesn't think it's a big deal.  I do."}
{"id": "t3_3qulzg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with girl [17 F] like me but I think I scared her. Is there hope?", "post": "A girl liked me a lot. She told her friends and admitted to me afterwards. She asked if I wanted marriage one day and implied I should marry someone like her. I was her only crush and we were super close. \n\nOne day I said something that scared her and she needed time to think. I wish I stopped texting her so we both had time but I kept doing it for a week and I know I messed up there. \n\nShe said we should be friends but peoples feelings don't disappear quick and she had the biggest crush on me. Even her friends told me. I think she wants space and after a while, I should slowly get back but I want your opinion. You think we can rekindle what we had?", "summary": "Girl had a crush on me and I scared her. Is there hope?"}
{"id": "t3_3zrdh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My (27m) best friends (28m) sister(22f) who i saved from her rape keeps makibg advances", "post": "[Original](\n\nBefore i start I would like to thank the people of reddit for the advice i was given.\n\nI went to her this morning to admit my feelings. When i did the longest momebt of silence that ever happened occured. She hugged ne, started crying on my chest, and released all her emotions on me. She said she has loved for a long time and believed that after her attack that i qould see her as dirty, trashy, and used. She feared that because she was quick to give up on herself then i would eventually giv up on her too.\n\nI told her that i would never consider her any of those things and that she could fall as many times as she pleased, but i will always be there to pick her back up. \n\nAfter things settled down we discussed postponning out relationship until shes further down her recovery. Her therapist thinks its best she not have a relationship until shes done with her therapy. She thinks that i am best at helping her recover( other than herself).\n\nI told her famuly this and i was met with sarcasm. \" great job OP, it only took you 4 years\". Her mom said ive had her blessings since sort of, not yet, recovering gf was 18. She grinned as as dad slipped her cash from i assume a bet.\n\nThats pretty much it.", "summary": "Admitted feelings to friends sister. She admitted her's. Postponibg relation ship until her therapy is over. Family was very sarcastic about it."}
{"id": "t3_4sxnk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and a new girl I'm seeing (25)", "post": "I'm mostly asking women, because I haven't had a good relationship since I was a teenager.  I met his girl at CON, (our syblings hooked us up) and we hit it off. I really like her, and each time I've seen her (3 times since) we hit it off and she says she really likes me.  Today is Thursday, I haven't seen her since Saturday (again, just met her).  Since I haven't seen her, she's not responding much when I ask her to hang out in the future.  She's responding, but kind of blows off any plan-making, but still says we should hang out in the future.  Is it clingy/pushy/weak to ask if she still feels the way she said she felt?  I just feel like if she did feel the way she's been saying, then she would try more to communicate instead of short texts without any conversation.  I prefer a girl that doesn't spend all day on the phone, don't get me wrong, but I feel the start of a relationship is usually more flirty and stuff but maybe I'm wrong at this age?  Or maybe I just feel all mushy because I have a crush on her and am thinking too much. Girl's advice plz ty.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_16s5qa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever crapped your pants in public and if so, how did you deal with it?", "post": "When I was 7 years old I crapped my pants in Macy's. \n\nI had been in the mall all afternoon with my mom while she was shopping for what seemed like an eternity. My brother and I were particularly gassy that day so to pass the time we were having a competition to see who could fart the loudest or longest. While in Macy's my bro let out an impressively long popcorn fart that lasted a good 10-15 seconds. The ego of my 7 year old brain would not accept defeat in this battle of farts, so after building up what I thought was going to be a loud fart I pushed hard.... too hard... Right in the middle of the women's clothing section I proceeded to crap my pants... \n\nWhile holding back tears and trying to think how I was going to get myself out of this mess I make a quick decision to hide in the middle of one of those circular clothing racks. Out of public view I proceed take off my underwear filled with dookie, grab a sleeve from one of the jackets hanging in the rack and wipe my ass with it. \n\nAfter I \"cleaned up\", I stuffed my soiled underwear into the pocket of the jacket, crawled out from the clothing rack and rejoined my mother and bro like nothing happened.", "summary": "I crapped my pants in Macy's and used clothing for sale to dispose of the evidence."}
{"id": "t3_3l7wkl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] Husband [28M] struggles to get a job and keep it. I read his email and discovered his last job didn't end exactly how he told me", "post": "I met my husband at university when I was 18 and he was 24. We got married straight after. He's great, looks after me and has never cheated.\n\nThe only problem is, he struggles to get work. He has a criminal record and struggles to accept that he can't work in his degree (humanities) field. I did the same degree, but have been busting my balls in sales jobs. \n\nHe was recently working in a call centre, but left for a sales job. I was thrilled- better pay, hours and benefits. He lasted in this sales job for one week. Apparently they didn't think he was up to it, so they got rid of him. He has been very vague about it.\n\nI don't know why I did this, but I went through his emails to try and find out more. It appears that on Monday, the day he got fired, he pulled a sicky to telling his boss he had to look after me in hospital. I do have kidney issues, but I was at work on Monday, and he should have been too- we got the bus into the city together that morning!\n\nI asked him about the details of how he got fired and he said it was in the office, by a guy called Stuart. The emails say a guy called Ed fired him over the phone. \n\nI'm upset he obviously lied to me and that he felt the need to put his suit on, get the bus to work with me, then turn around and go home.\n\nHe has asked why I'm so curious about the details, so he's getting worried. I don't know whether to confront him or not, because snooping isn't really on.\n\nI'm so annoyed he lost his job and now I'll be struggling to keep a roof over our heads, pay the bills etc.", "summary": "Husband struggles to get and keep a job, read his emails and discovered he'd been bunking the day he got fired. Asked him about it, the lies continued."}
{"id": "t3_3rn8b4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing a store evacuation for 5 hours", "post": "I was working in the coolers and reorganizing all the merchandise after going through the backstock, when I noticed the heavy ice build-up on the fans. Now, they're supposed to have someone clean that off every month, but the ice has clearly been there for at least a year. It's been dripping on the cases kept under it and ruining those boxes, making it entirely unsafe. I thought I could chisel the ice off as long as I avoided the coolant pipe. I managed to get MOST of the ice off, but then after one nice hit, suddenly a LOUD HISSING NOISE starts up. I immediately run to the office and tell the managers, and as they're walking to the backroom to verify, the alarm starts going off, and we start getting EVERYONE out of the store. We stood around outside for about 3 hours before the repair team showed up, and then the managers started letting us leave. I had the pleasure of explaining all of this to five different managers, and then a mandatory drug test, which I was ESCORTED to by one of those managers. I wasn't fired, but I was pretty embarrassed.", "summary": "I caused a coolant leak and cost the store some wicked cash as well as 4 hours of business."}
{"id": "t3_3c65v7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] really like a girl [18F] but she's going to college an hour away next year.", "post": "Some quick details. I have known her for 2 years now, been good friends for one year, and we both started talking a lot and liking each other within the past 2-3 months. I'm still in high school (senior next year) and she is starting college next year. She moves into her place which is an hour away in 2 weeks and is also leaving to Europe for 2 weeks the same week. I basically have 3 weeks of summer with her and 2 of them consist of her living an hour away.\n\nI like her a lot. She is the best match I have ever found. We are alike in all the right ways and yet are different enough to stay interested. She likes me, not quite as much honestly, but as much as I would expect from 2 months of frequent talking.\n\nNow the issue. She is going to live an hour away. Now a few problems arise. 1. Transportation. Well I can drive and so can she. My parents are kind enough to where if I say that we're dating they'd pay for the gas for me to see her like once a week. 2. It feels wrong, like I'm holding her back from fully experiencing life and the newfound freedom that she has. I talked to her about it and she said it felt the same for her, like it would be holding me back from experiences I could have, with me being stuck on her. And 3. The reality of a long distance relationship, even if its only an hour long. We are both realists when it comes to life. We see what we think the most likely outcome would be. Although I am oddly optimistic about it, she is still being realistic. We agreed, it could work but what we get out of it just isn't enough to justify it.\n\nSo, what's your opinion? Is it worth it? Is it realistic to do?", "summary": "I like her and she likes me but she'll be an hour away and we just don't know if its worth it to really try and make it work or to let it go."}
{"id": "t3_4tyv4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] can't see like LTR material this girl [26 F] and feel really sorry because she's perfect.", "post": "We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (dating and sleeping together) for four months.\n\nI like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my attention. She is kind, nice, with a lot of common interests. She's good with people, she is sunny, she makes me laugh, she is smart. She is a strenght of nature, a really beautiful and rare person. I like beeing with her, she makes me feel good like I never felt. And the sex is incredible. We have an harmony that I've never had with anyone else.\n\nIn this two years I've known her, she is always been single. Instead I've been in a relationship for a year. She enjoyed her single time a lot, but this is not the problem. I have the opinion that if you are single you can do whatever you want. I enoyed my single time too, more then she did. \nThe problem is that i know people she had sex with, \"one night stand\" or \"fwb relatioship\", however nothing serious, just sex or other things. Some of these people are acquaintances, two of them are my big friends (me and this girl live in a small town and we go out in the same social cirlce). \n\nThis thing block me a lot and I don't know how to go beyond it, and if I ever will. This makes me feel sorry because I think that I will never meet someone like her. \nI'm not afraid of cheating, I know her and I know that if she is in relationship she is faithful at all. I'm afraid of people judjment, I can't accept to hear stories or voices of her past.\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "Would you have problems to consider this girl like ltr material?"}
{"id": "t3_1nokoy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] I like one of my friends [19/f] but one of my other friends [19/f] likes me", "post": "I've recently grown rather fond of one of my friends. Let's call her A. Another of my friends, B, likes me. A and B are friends with each other as well as with me. B is aware that I like A and A is aware that B likes me, but neither is aware that I know that B likes me. (Or that I know that A knows that B likes me and so on) B told A that B likes me. B has not told me that she likes me, but it is fairly obvious. (She has said stuff about someone that she likes, and I am the only person who fits the description. Her general behaviour also seems to indicate this, and some of my other friends have remarked that they think that B likes me based on her behaviour towards me vs other people.)\n\nI can survive without being in a relationship, but I don't want to make things weird and awkward or mess everything up.\n\nB is a great person but I do not have a romantic interest in her. Apparently she has liked me for a very long time though (more than 2 years apparently), which is kind of weird because I met her once briefly about 4 years ago, saw her once more about 3 years ago and hadn't seen her, messaged her or spoken to her at all for two years before the start of this year. (i.e. We both happened to be at the same event about 4 years ago and again 3 years ago. There were very few people that I stayed in proper contact with. We're now studying at the same university and have a lot of our courses together)\n\nI have no idea about A's feelings toward anyone. The most that she has ever said is that she likes someone but it's complicated and tat she wasn't going to discuss it at that point. This is partly due to someone else who likes her but who she does not like being there and acting awkwardly.", "summary": "I like A, B likes me, both are my friends and are friends with each other."}
{"id": "t3_4bklue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] don't know how to go about with my [20 F] coworker as we continue talking.", "post": "We have been working together for about 20 hours a week at a very low stress part time job and spend a good amount of time interacting while at work. About two months ago my ex broke up with me and so did hers around the same time, so we were open with how we were feeling and supported each other after the break ups.\n\nSince then we have been been getting closer and I have always had the mindset that she would be a great friend to have and to not start a relationship with her, mostly because I am worried about what baggage we might both carry into it.  Both of her previous boyfriends have cheated on her, and I've always told myself after getting out of a relationship where I wasn't trusted that I would find somebody that I know trust won't be an issue.\n\nAs time goes by I am starting to have more feelings for her and I can feel my head trying to rationalize maybe giving a relationship a chance.  She has told me that she likes me and I told her I felt the same way, and just recently we hooked up (just making out no sex) after a long day of working together, and I'm looking for any advice you guys can give me! Is it smart to just give it a chance if its something we're both ready for? When would I know if its time or what signs should I look for to tell me its too soon or it wouldn't work?", "summary": "My friend at work and I have caught feelings for each other after 2 months of flirting/talking a lot and I don't know how to know when/if its the right time for a relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4k0s58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 Other] with my ex girlfriend [19 F] 6 months, bad breakup and suspected infidelity.", "post": "Hi, \n\nI have recently broke up with my transgender girlfriend. I myself have a history of neglect, sexual, physical and emotional abuse. She said she had the same things like that happen to her too. \n\nThat is why I fell so hard for her. She was using me for my money and life. She made it seem like she cared about me. When I pressured her about getting a job she said she had to be on hormone therapy or else she would feel like killing herself.\n\n I waited several weeks for her hormone therapy to make her into someone she was comfortable being. I tried to get her out and meet new friends. She is addicted to substances such as weed and alcohol. \n\nAt this point in my life being in my apartment makes me uncomfortable. Being outside it makes me uncomfortable too. I have a deep sadness and don't have any answers.", "summary": "got fucked by girl for my possessions."}
{"id": "t3_3x7g3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my gf [26 F] 5 months, gf having too much contact with her ex?", "post": "My gf is talking to her ex daily, pretty much throughout the day (from 09:00 to 00:00) and sees him once or twice every week (sorta feels like thats something mandatory). \n\nThis is mostly due to his emotional state, he's extremely messed up since she broke up, but ofcourse she can choose to simply ignore him for a few days etc. but she doesnt do that so.. i cant fully blame him for it.\n\nI am getting more annoyed by it every day, it's building up.. i've been telling her how much it annoys me and she understands. So she's noticably spending less time on him, but when it comes down to it.. they still talk every day and throughout the day and they will see eachother once or twice a week.\n\nMy frustration grows and grows and grows.. i'm not sure if this is normal, i've never been in such a situation before.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Is it just me, should I 'allow' this to continue and calm down about it, or am i right to be so very annoyed by this?\n\nThanks so much!", "summary": "Gf has daily and ongoing whatsapp contact with her ex and sees him once or twice a week. Am i right to be annoyed?"}
{"id": "t3_3x8ckf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord went Bankrupt, Being Evicted. what are my rights?", "post": "hey reddit so me and my roommate rent an apt in Salem, Massachusetts with our landlord who recently has been in the hospital since summer.Yesterday we got a letter from her saying she had gone bankrupt and we had basically a month to vacate (January 15,2016). The thing is both me and my friend work and don't have time to look for a place on top of the holidays and not many people willing to show houses in this timespan. I'm calling her friend today to see if we can get an extension on our eviction but if they don't budge what is our legal recourse? I don't want to have to take them to court bc beyond this she has been a good landlord but if her friend doesn't budge with the eviction date I'm afraid I might have to. What can i do in the situation? (Keep in mind we're both in our 20's and cant afford any legal rep either)", "summary": "Landlord Bankrupt,Being Evicted in a month but need more time what can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_10me90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Inexperienced and not sure if what im feeling is normal. [20m]", "post": "So basically I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years. We were friends however she never really liked my friends. Basically over the last few years I've lost most of my friends and many of them say that I have changed and as much as i try to convince them and myself that I havent i can see how different I have become. \n\nNow that we're in college i feel like im drifting further away from her even though I love her. She talks about marriage a lot and as much as i do love her i dont feel like she is the wife that i want. Basic thing such as how to raise kids (shes said numerous times she will read there phones) and pets and really putting me off. For the first year we had sex a lot then something changed and now we havent had sex in about 11 months. Another thing is that she always says that shes traditional in that she wants to get married in a church and wishes she had waited till we were married to have sex however she refuses if we do get married to take my last name, might not sound like much but all these in consistencies with my views and making me feel as though i should cut ties now and start to enjoy my 20's\n\nI'm just wondering as anyone else been in the same position or have any advice as too how i should go about this. I think what im most scared of is being alone and also i'm worried about how she is going to handle it if i do break up with her. It's been weighing on my mind for about 6months and now im coming to you guys for help.\n\nThis is probably really over the place, sorry its 3:30am and im really tired and can't sleep.", "summary": "Love my girlfriend however I can't see her as my wife."}
{"id": "t3_3jrnls", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by opening iTunes and losing 99% of my music.", "post": "This just happened a few minutes ago. \n\nI went to open my iTunes so that I could download some new music, I get into iTunes and it's empty. Okay, that's weird, maybe it logged me out when I updated the app. Logged in, now there are two songs in my iTunes, both recent purchases. Okaaay where are my other almost 500 songs? \n\nAfter digging around for a few minutes I'm not seeing any of my other music anywhere. Naturally, I start panicking, so I go to apple support. My Mac is no longer under warranty so I have to pay about $30 to even get on the phone with customer support. Fuck me, right? \n\nSo I get someone on the phone and explain the situation to the customer service rep. She seems skeptical so we open a screen share on my laptop so she can see what I'm talking about. After digging through iTunes purchases (which wouldn't include CD downloads or audio recordings), my downloads folder, and the hidden Library window that I never knew existed, she straight up says, \"Yeah, I dunno, I've never seen that before\" and ends the call after asking if I needed anything else. \n\nSo that's the story of how I lost over $500 of music just by opening iTunes this afternoon, and how I paid another $30 to have someone tell me that this is basically an act of God.", "summary": "I just lost a lot of money to Apple."}
{"id": "t3_29cfi3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help I broke up with my long term girlfriend because of distance yet I still love her", "post": "I've recently broken up with my long term girlfriend, it was a long distance relationship and that's the reason I ended up breaking up with her. I love her and I know she loves me, but I can't cope with the lack of actually being together, like you would in a real relationship. We were only actually together about 2-3 days each month. Which is very little. What I tell myself is that in the relationship, you get the downsides  about a relationship, which is having to only have sex and kiss and so on with that one person. but all the good things like having someone to sleep with everynight and someone you cuddle with no matter how your day went weren't there because of the distance. So I broke up because as a single I don't have the good things anyways, but the downsides would be gone atleast. \nDid I make the right decision? We're both 17, I'm male and she's female. We were dating for a little over 2 years.\n\nI'm sorry about any mistakes, I'm not english.", "summary": "Broke up with long term GF because of distance yet I still love her, did I make the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_4fzc47", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(CAN) I'm looking into buying a house in three years. What kind of savings plan is right for me?", "post": "I'm 21 years old and I've been saving for a house for about a year now. I live with my parents currently who are totally in support of me but I don't know what to do with my money to maximize my efforts.\n\nCurrently, my money is in a savings account through my bank, I'm not getting a huge interest (can't remember the rate), and it's not locked in at all, I can pull out of it once a month, or pay $1 on every transaction after that. I'm looking for some kind of savings plan that I can lock into for three years, but still contribute to as I go along. \n\nWhat are my options?", "summary": "I want a savings plan that I can continually contribute to over the course of three years."}
{"id": "t3_3k369f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [36 F] of 1 year. Body language, should I pay so much attention to it?", "post": "This sounds unimportant when considering some of the issues I've just read here. My girlfriend and I work together in different parts of the same place. There's a guy she works with in her office that I find myself feeling jealous of. When she's talking to him her feet point in his direction  and I have the feeling she is holding his gaze too long.  When he walked in earlier she immediately started fixing her hair. This is stupid. How do I get over stuff like this? I've been cheated on in the past and I feel like it's affecting my current relationship. However I trust my gut more than any woman. I realise there's a whole bunch of stuff wrong with this. Any advice would be appreciated. \nThanks in advance.", "summary": "should I be paying this much attention to body language? I feel like it's messing me up."}
{"id": "t3_2vcpkt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I called my sister's probation office and told them she was back on drugs. She lost custody of her daughter. I regret nothing.", "post": "My sister was in drug court for a drug charge she got almost 5 years ago. She has a 9 year old daughter. My sister and my niece had been living with her b/f who is in recovery and doing well. Everything had been going fine until I got word that she had been doing meth. I didn't even hesitate, I called her PO the next morning after find out. The way I found out was, her bf finally got sick of her shit, and he asked her to leave. He paid for her phone so he made her leave the phone. He brought the phone directly to my house, and we looked through the text messages. She was CLEARLY buying and selling meth, WHILE on probation. HER PO called Department of Child Services and they made my sister sign over custody of my niece to our mother. My sister is now in jail for violation of probation. I regret nothing. I do however, feel terrible. I just don't want to see my sister go down that dark path yet again, however, my main motivation was to make sure her daughter was safe. My niece's father was living with registered child molesters so I knew they would not send her to her dads. Her other grandmother was one of the people my sister was getting meth from, so I knew she wouldn't be an issue. I feel bad, but at the same time, I fell great!", "summary": "My sister got back on meth, I called her PO, they made her sign over custody of her daughter to my mom. No regrets, bu I feel terrible."}
{"id": "t3_45wwfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [19M] of about 3 months, how do I stop comparing myself to his exes?", "post": "So, like  I said in the title, I've been with my SO for about 3 months now, and honestly things are going REALLY well. I'm extremely happy in the relationship, and so is he...\n\nExcept, I have this problem where  I can't stop comparing myself to other people. I especially get hung up on his exes and girls he's had flings with in the past, but  I mean, I compare myself to just about anyone, really. \n\nI wouldn't call it jealousy. I have my exes too, and that's totally fine, don't get me wrong. I just tend to compare myself. Like, for instance, pretty much all of his exes are a bit skinnier than myself and I feel bad about that, like  I'm less than them for that. I have low self esteem, so  I pick out the things in them that I think make them physically prettier than myself. \n\nI don't want to talk about it with my SO, because  I don't really want to upset him.  I've kind of mentioned it before but he didn't really seem to know what to say/do (he just kind of said \"Aw, no. you don't have to worry about that\" and told me some things he thinks are great about m, which is nice but.. doesn't really help me stop?)\n\nI don't want this to be the thing that tears us apart, because  Ii really do care about him and want it to work, but it's really stressful on me and is causing my insecurities to really flare up and create new issues based on those.", "summary": "I need help in figuring out how  I can stop comparing myself to others before it causes more problems in a fairly new relationship (the first truly stable one I've had)."}
{"id": "t3_3qte5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my Friend [20 M/F] who doesn't respect herself", "post": "Hey, so my good friend who I have known for five years just told me tonight that when she hooks up with other guys it is because she feels bad for them. She told me she doesn't want to see them get mad or deal with any of that and I briefly told her that is absurd and she should not have to feel that way. I am asking for advice on how to talk to her about this issue and address the fact that she should never feel bad about someone else and should respect herself for who she is. Any and all advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "My friend hooks up with people out of pity. I want to tell her to respect herself."}
{"id": "t3_2y2c5t", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have a love-hate relationship with food", "post": "And it's consuming my life.\n\nI don't think or obsess over it out loud, so my friends, family and SO aren't aware of it. Every day, I wake up and I immediately think of food, and how I need to eat healthy so I can lose weight. Then I think about food constantly until the food is in front of me and I eat it with no problem whatsoever.\n\n As soon as I'm done eating, I feel incredibly guilty for eating and I regret eating immediately. Even if it was something relatively healthy like cereal or pancakes. And it's pretty much like that for every time I eat. I think about food 95% of the time. If I could eat healthier, if I should eat at all, if there's anything I could eat that'll fill me up so I don't have to eat for the rest of the day, how good something would taste, how guilty food makes me feel once I've eaten it, but then I go off and eat something again because 1) I am hungry and 2) I know I should eat because it's necessary to stay alive.  A part of me feels like I'm in an eating disorder limbo of some sort because I know what I'm feeling is wrong but I literally cannot stop myself from thinking about food and what I can do to lose weight after eating. I feel disgusting and it's just a giant cycle I can't stop.", "summary": "I hate food and it's consuming my life."}
{"id": "t3_1e0fm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23F] a self described introvert, insecure 1 month into relationship with more extroverted [25M] boyfriend. How can I stop freaking out?", "post": "We've been together a month, but have known each other for 2 years. working together, not much interaction other than at work. I am a much more introverted person, (although he has mentioned feeling introverted as well) but I can become very outgoing once I become completely comfortable which someone -- which sometimes takes no time at all to a longer amount of time. \n\nI feel insecurities creeping in because of his lifestyle. His family is very close, outgoing, while mine is full more of recluses who love each other, but don't spend endless amounts of time together as a group. I keep encountering situations where I am meeting family members or friends without much of a forewarning, but even if there is, I constantly feel drained and upset because I am so hard on myself and my \"quietness\" upon meeting new people. This insecurity creeps into other aspects as well about myself -- \"am I funny enough? Am I interesting enough? Should I have said that? What is he thinking?\" And I really don't like it. I just want to be me and stop it with these panic attacks about not being \"like everyone else.\" I am afraid I will push him away.", "summary": "Introverted lady feeling insecure about introverted-ness with extroverted boyfriend. How can I stop panicking and be comfortable with myself and accept his love?"}
{"id": "t3_42jipj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] uncomfortable about my boyfriend's \"cheating\" best friend [24 M]", "post": "Long story short, my boyfriend's best friend is dating a girl long-distance but is actively pursuing another girl who lives in our area.  I don't think anything physical has happened yet, but he's definitely emotionally disconnected from his girlfriend.  \n\nI'm profoundly uncomfortable with this situation, not least because I have been cheated on before, but also because my boyfriend isn't stepping up to advise his best friend against doing something he could regret.  I understand it is not my place to be commenting on his best friend's personal life, nor is it my boyfriend's responsibility to be his relationship police.  Yet a part of me I don't quite understand feels torn to act upon something.  I also believe you are the average of your five closest friends, so what does this say about my boyfriend?  To be perhaps not actively, but certainly passively, allowing this to unfold.  Someone\u2014please advise, or tear my thoughts apart and put me in my place!!", "summary": "What to do about boyfriend's \"cheating\" best friend"}
{"id": "t3_14l85o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] My girlfriend (21/f) cheated on me. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I know what I should do but letting go is so goddamned hard. She cheated on me with some 30 something year old dude that she knew since she was younger. Apparently, she had a fantasy about it for a long time and chose to start fucking him early last week. I found out last Friday. The first time I ever decided to snoop through her phone shit bit me in the ass. I'm glad I found out though. I'm pretty sure she would've kept fucking him if I hadn't found out. I live with her and I'm about to move out and live with my sister tomorrow. I would've left sooner but I'm an idiot and can't let go. We've been together for over 3 and a half long years through a lot of shit and this came out of nowhere. We have talked about it a lot. She feels terrible, I feel terrible. She knows what she did wrong and says we should spend time apart. I should be more mad at her. I mean, I do feel mad at her but at the same time I still love her. I hate it. I feel so befuddled. I know I should listen to her but honestly I really wanna fuck the hell outta her and I wish I knew exactly why. \n\nSorry if I was too 'ranty'. I hope this belongs here if not I'll move it.", "summary": "My girlfriend is a slut who cheated on me; I don't know how to handle this shit."}
{"id": "t3_2m822j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Challenging a blemish on my credit score... made by my college.", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI stumbled upon this subreddit and I've been addicted for a month or so. This is a throwaway, however as a few people know my daily account. \n\nBasically, I signed up for 3 credit reports - great! Everything was fine and I had a good score besides 1 minor thing by ALL 3 reports - When I was 18, I had no money and no parents financing me and my college pushed loads of paper in my hands over and over and made me sign a BUNCH of stuff. I honestly don't remember anything about a loan but apparently they applied for one on my behalf that got rejected as I had no credit history at the time and I was unemployed trying to get into college. \n\nNow, I really want this off my report. I'm going to fight tooth and nail for it but where do I begin and what should I do? I have read a few posts and the FAQ but I feel as though I have a good grasp, I don't actually have a plan in motion. Any help?", "summary": "College applied for a loan on my behalf that got rejected and is messing up my credit score. I want to fight to get it removed..."}
{"id": "t3_3ztj3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My future roommate [22/F] does not want to live with me [20/F] anymore", "post": "Both of us just graduated from college and we are foreigners. Our previous supervisor from our campus job offered her house for us to rent without lease since we might not stay permanently. \n\nShe's one of my closest friends in college and we used to be roommate our first semester here. However, after our lease ended, the management put us on different rooms. Before graduation, we decided to live together and share a car after graduation before one of us going to buy another car if we find a job. We are going to buy from a friend who is going to move to another state.\n\nAfter graduation, I travelled for a while with my parents. She moved into the house in December while my lease for my current apartment ends on January 22nd. During my travel, I checked in on her about the house and car situation. She said she does not have money yet to buy the car. Today, I texted her that I will pay up the car first because I need it and she can pay me up later. She decided to text me a long message. Essentially she said that she bought the car on her own and is unwilling to share and that she actually want to stay alone. She told me to get another place and she could not say no to me when I asked if she was willing to share the house because I was her friend. \n\nI haven't replied to her message yet and I have only told my current roommate. I am frantically trying to find a place to stay in a short period and I have to find a car on my own. My question is, how should I respond to her message? I am pretty sure that after this, I do not want to live with her anymore. We have the same circle of friends although I'm quite a loner. Our other closest friend is out of state and she still doesn't know about this. I'm completely baffled.", "summary": "My future roommate and close friend decided that she doesn't want to live with me anymore. My lease ends in 2 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_3e4qqm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/M] Trying to find an exit-ramp for a toxic relationship with a \"collector\" [25/f] who just had a trauma in their life.", "post": "So, I'm a loner and a few months back a good friend of mine introduced me to his SO, an emotional wreck of a woman but alright overall person with whom I share a lot of interests and hobbies. We formed  a friendship, but their relationship fell apart. Not wanting to be a fair weather friend I decided to continue the association. But very quickly it became clear that she was what I'd call a \"collector\".(someone who draws loners in really closely to boost their confidence with their current bf/gf) To the point that I met her previous \"BFF\" and the parallels between us were uncanny to say the least. All the while she wants to draw in closer and closer, messaging me at all hours in the day and getting offended when I don't answer, wanting me to stay by her house and go dancing until stupid o'clock, asking me to be her *insert close  female friend name here* for the night.\n\nSo, I decide to pull away for my own comfort. and wouldn't you know it: One day in, her only parent has a massive medical emergency and she leans on me for support. \n\nFor now I'm taking it in stride, being there for her but for example: She asked me out to lunch today, we ate, I gave my support/advice and when I told her I would be walking home alone she literally begged me to get in the car with her (to which I refused).", "summary": "Advice on burning a toxic friendship at the absolute worst moment."}
{"id": "t3_27v2xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] Him [M/25] - Why do guys stop calling after you're in a relationship with them?", "post": "Before I was officially dating my boyfriend he'd text me as soon as he got off work and then call me later in the night for like an hour.\n\nNow we're 3 months in and it seems like I can't get a text or call to save my life during the week.\n\nHe works out of town during the week too. He'll text to say he loves me or he misses me... so why no phone conversations? He'll just drink with his coworkers for hours and then call me for 3 minutes... if at all before going to bed.\n\nI'm not asking for hours on the phone, but a couple of times a week I'd like to have actual conversations. I try to bring this up and he brushes it off and says it's fine.\n\nPlus everything is amazing with us on the weekends. I don't get it... I feel like our communication has dropped by 90%.\n\nI've noticed that this seems common in relationships...", "summary": "Why do guys stop texting and calling after you're in a relationship with them?"}
{"id": "t3_eymyt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why am I sleeping so much?", "post": "So I went to bed last night at I dunno 1AM and slept like a baby. But I guess I slept a little too comfortably because when I woke up, my dad came in the room to talk to me and in my head I'm thinking \"Aww cmon dad it's noon on saturday just let me sleep\". So I talk to him and when he leaves the room I look at the clock and it's 3 FUCKING PM. I SLEPT FOR 14 COCKING HOURS. Is this unhealthy? Why was I so tired?\n\nP.S.: I did wake up at 10 AM but I turned off the alarm and went back to bed (For 5 more hours).", "summary": "Last night I slept for 14 COCKING HOURS. WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_2cych6", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "VERY strange reaction to new Effexor medication.", "post": "26 year old male starting my first ever script of Effexor. I finally got help after battling depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I got put on Effexor, with Gabapentin (?) in case of emergency anxiety. The other night (my 3rd day on Effexor) I got no sleep at all, which really fucks me up. I took my pills but was a zombie all day (especially as my body gets used to the new drugs.)\n\nSo I started kind of nodding out but as I did I'd *hear* something. Not in the traditional sense where you hear with your ears, more like when you think of a piece of music or think of Arnie saying \"I'll be back\" you remember it in his voice, not yours. So it was like that but it was a little boy's voice saying \"but my friend is dead.\"\n\nI looked around like what the fuck and wasn't even sure if I heard it or not. But over the course of the night it happened a few more times:\n\n-A guy: \"Four brothers, two techniques\"\n\n-Another, different boy: \"I've been here three weeks I live with my parents.\"\n\n-Exasperated guy: \"I'm gonna find the programs and hunt them down.\"\n\nI'm kind of freaked out about this shit, I am a writer and spend a lot of time rehearsing dialogue in my head, but still. It's fine today. Was I just experiencing some delirium from drugs/lack of sleep? Or is this like, don't stay at an abandoned hotel over the winter with my wife and kid status crazy.", "summary": "new drugs, no sleep, \"heard\" some weird shit."}
{"id": "t3_v3xdl", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Last night the Police knocked on my door at 1:00 AM on an \"Unattended Children\" welfare call. I refused to let him into my home without a warrant, to which he replied he didn't need one on welfare calls. Reddit, what are my rights in this sort of situation? (X-post fromAskReddit)", "post": "Hello, I was informed I should cross-post this here.\n\nI live in Texas, and I'm sitting in my study at 1 AM playing a computer game when there is a knock on my door. Now, I don't live in the best part of town, and I'm somewhat of a paranoid man, so I refuse to open the door not knowing whether he was actually an officer or not (It also didn't help that I had no peep-hole and no way to see if he was who he said he was). The officer then claims he is responding to a call about unattended children and wants to come in and look around. I tell him there are no children here but informed him that \"I'd be happy to let you in if you have a warrant, but without one I do not give permission to enter my home.\" He then informs me that on a welfare call he does not need a warrant to enter my home and then threatens to break the door down. I stand my ground and tell him he may not enter without a warrant, which is followed by silence. In this time I go to another room and look out of the window, see the badge and gun, and then go outside to meet him. It turns out the caller hadn't given him the full address and he was at the wrong place. He then (in a very polite and respectful manner) informs me he does not need a warrant to enter my home on a welfare call.\n\nReddit, is this true? If so, then what are my rights if this happens again? Care to expand my knowledge (and most likely that of others) of what to do in this situation?", "summary": "Officer says he doesn't need a warrant to enter a home without permission on a welfare check in Texas. IANAL, is this true?"}
{"id": "t3_52qyh5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(19/M)My Girlfriend (18/F) has shown interest in becoming a stripper. I don't like the idea at all. Any advice?", "post": "My girlfriend has never been any sort of stripper ever, and has only shown interest in doing it because of the enormous amounts of money she can make as one. I have expressed to her that this idea makes me uncomfortable because it would mean she has to be naked in front of other people. I do understand that some people would be okay with their girlfriend doing this, but I don't feel that way. She has said it's only so she can make a lot of money, and that no one would be touching her. Despite this I still don't like the idea. Any thoughts/comments?\n\nWe have been dating since November 2013. Just for those interested in that detail.", "summary": "Is it wrong of me to tell her that I don't like the idea and that I wouldn't appreciate her taking her clothes off in front of others even if it's just for money?"}
{"id": "t3_14m2mr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do I (19M) go from here (with 18F)?", "post": "So this past summer, I started a Long Distance Relationship with my girlfriend of nearly two years. As a result, we often fought, a lot, about all types of stupid, pointless shit. On one such occasion (about a month and a half ago), I broke up with her out of anger. \n\nThe very next day, I drive the 120 mile trip (one way) to apologize and fix things. She agrees she doesn't want it to end and all is well. A few days later, she breaks up with me saying she can't be with me. I tried for a little over a week to fix things with her, but she was not interested. As a result, another massive fight ensued, which ended on bad terms for both of us. Consequently, she went out to a frat party got drunk, and proceeded to \"try and meet new guys to forget about me\" (her words). That ended in her babbling on to some interested guy about me until she threw up on him. At that point, she wanted to fix things, but I was too off put by the idea that she had moved on so quickly (trying to meet other people) to want to fix anything. But she begged and pleaded and explained and justified and as of right then, we decided we would talk when she came down for winter. It was mutually stressed that we were not together, nor were things fixed, but that we did think we owe it to ourselves to talk and see where we stood. \n\nLast night, out of frustration (both physical, emotional and mental), i went out and made a bootycall of another ex girlfriend. Afterwards, I felt weird. I felt a tinge of disgust for myself, but I could not really try and make myself feel worse because I was simply a single guy. There were no feelings attached to this incident on either side, just purely physical. \n\nNow my most recent ex is coming down to see me tomorrow, and to talk and see where we stand. Honestly, I do love her and i'd love to make things work between us, and there is a good probability that she feels the same. I guess at this point, i'm just asking where do I go from here?", "summary": "GF of 2 years, LDR of a few months, fight, break ups, booty call, where go?"}
{"id": "t3_13qbi0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you've ever had a parking space stolen from you, what's the worst thing you've done in response?", "post": "I'll go 1st.  \n\nI was waiting for a space to open up at a mall in Raleigh, NC last weekend.  The person getting in their car was taking their sweet time and a line had started to form behind me, I waved people by and put on my blinker to call the spot.  About 5 cars went around me while I waited.  A 6th was on his was around when the guy finally backed out.  Right after he did, #6 took my spot I had so patiently waited for.  I honked, but realized that was not going to solve my problem.  Instead I went for the dish best served cold.... revenge.  The problem with stealing a parking spot is that you have to leave your car.\n\nNow I'm not a very vengeful person, and I'm definitely not trying to cause property damage and go to jail, so I took the middle ground.   I took off my valve stem cap from my tire and put a tiny pebble in it.  I then screwed it on to #6's left front tire.  sssSSSSSSS!!!!!  The pebble provided a means to press in the air release while the cap held it in place.  After finishing up my shopping, I returned to #6's car and retrieved my valve stem cap, removed the pebble and went about my merry way.  His tire was completely flat (all it needed was air, no holes in it).  \n\nMy friend suggested I do it to the rest of his tires since it only took about 10sec to screw on.  I thought that was too much.  At least with 1 flat he can fix it and reflect on his assholishness.  2 would really drive the point home, but I didnt feel that mean.  Did I go too far?  Not far enough?\n\nI'm sure I'm not the worst, but would love to hear some parking stories....", "summary": "I let the air out of someones tire for stealing a spot.  What about you?"}
{"id": "t3_cff27", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Request for help from redditors educated in engineering/programming.", "post": "OK, first year of Uni I got depressed and dropped out of the engineering course I was in opting for an easier route in sociology.  For some reason I didn't want to restart my first year and Sociology was the only course that would accept me a semester into the year.  I don't understand the logic behind this decision any more, but that is what I did.\n\nI have just finished the 3 year bachellor's course and am now looking to do a Masters, but would like to get back into something closer to my original engineering degree, or maybe something in programming as that was my favourite module of the original course, but would rather not do another 3 year bachellor's to get there.\n\nIf any of you have ideas about the fastest route to gaining the qualifications to apply for this kind of degree (if things like conversions or advanced foundation years exist, this would be helpful), could you please offer some advice?  At the moment I have no idea what to do with my life.", "summary": "Have just finished a degree in Sociology, any ideas on the quickest route to a more lucrative/interesting qualification?"}
{"id": "t3_1s3rlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do you draw the line on interaction with an ex while in a relationship?", "post": "So I(23m) dated my girlfriend(21f) for a little under a year, we broke up, spent a few months with no contact, started talking again and did fwb for a few months, then decided to make it official again.\n\nDuring our time apart/as fwb, we both hooked up with a few people, discussed it, decided to move on when getting back together again.\n\nA couple nights ago we had a conversation about what is and isn't ok in regard to talking to other people. The basic agreement was that anything she'd be uncomfortable with me doing, she also shouldn't do and vice versa. Specifically during this talk I asked her if she talked with any of the guys she hooked up with while we weren't official. This brought us to the agreement that texting our previous hookups/ex's is only ok if it's a response to the ex texting you with a quick question or something. Having a conversation via text is not ok.\n\nToday she mentioned in passing that she wished one of her previous hookups a happy birthday via text and he was a dick to her. Wishing people a happy birthday via text is something she does frequently, but we literally JUST had this conversation about how texting past hookups/ex's isn't ok.\n\nI'm not super pissed off because I can understand how she could think this might be an exception since it's something she does with lots of people. When I brought it up that it bothers me because she's initiating something that will likely turn into a conversation and we agreed not to start conversations with ex's, she didn't seem to think it was a big deal.\n\nI guess it's more of a principal thing? We agreed on something and now shes making exceptions... am I overreacting or justified?\n\nWhat other limits do you think are necessary when dealing with ex's/past hookups while you're in a relationship?", "summary": "Girlfriend texted a recent hookup to say happy birthday after we'd just agreed a few days ago not to initiate texting with ex's/hookups, and doesn't think it's a big deal. Am I overreacting? Where do you set limits for interaction with past hookups/ex's when you're in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4jr9v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What does a healthy relationship really look like? Me (29F) Doubting marriage with my partner (33M)", "post": "My fiancee and I have been together for 10 years, so I don't know any other serious relationship. We broke up briefly about 5 years ago because of broken trust and poor communication. I thought we had resolved things, but now we are engaged and I am having cold feet.\n\nI guess my question comes to this: what is a normal amount of doubt to feel in a healthy relationship? I know relationships are hard and you will never find someone who is perfect for you, but what does \"good enough\" actually look like?\n\nI feel like we don't fight well, and sometimes I wish I were with someone who had their life more together. My partner has gone through several jobs and I don't fully trust him financially. I suspect he has recently been hiding work issues from me again.\n\nI'm always worried though that I am the cause of our communication issues, or that it is my fault that he feels like he needs to keep stuff from me. But, I am also worried that maybe we aren't compatible, or that some of our issues wouldn't exist if I were with someone else. \n\nHow do I know if I should take the leap for marriage? How do I know if this is the best relationship I will have? I am really scared of leaving him only to regret it later. He has lots of good qualities also, he is so funny and I love spending time with him. I know he will make a good father one day, and he loves me a lot. But, I feel like he isn't living up to his full potential and I don't know how to help him. Is this a normal feeling before getting married??\n\nIf there are any redditors on r/relationships who are in healthy relationships, but I would love to hear from you!", "summary": "I have been in a serious relationship for my whole adult life and I can't tell if my doubts about marriage are normal! What does a marriage-worthy relationship look like?"}
{"id": "t3_2l1jq7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am debating blocking the man who bought a $400 plane ticket to come visit me. [x-post /r/advice]", "post": "I began talking to a guy online maybe 2 or 3 months ago and it's progressed very fast. I am only 18 and he's 25, although I have moved out of home and support myself. We talk all day, every day, calling or facetiming pretty much every night. He really, really likes me but the problem is I don't like him as much. It was all fine, until recently I mentioned how it sucks I'll never see him. Fast-forward a couple of days and he tells me he has found a super cheap plane ticket to the city I live in. He asks if I would be open to him coming to visit and not really thinking or wanting to hurt his feelings I said of course! He bought it right then and there and now I am scared. As time goes on my attraction to him is fading and I can see that he mainly likes me because I am his ideal 'perfect girl'. He is not my perfect guy, I do not want to commit to him and I am not sure if I even have feelings for him. If it weren't for the plane ticket I would probably stop talking to him as to not lead him on but now I have this paralyzing guilt that he has spent all this money to come see me and I don't even want him to. I feel like when he gets here I'm going to have to put on this huge facade, because I don't want to hurt his feelings. It takes every ounce of patience within me not to lose it with him when he's being annoying eg- going on about how well traveled he is (keep in mind I have visited 10+ countries, 5 of which on my own. He has never been outside of the Americas), how cool he is, and how so many girls want him. To be honest I feel almost no sexual attraction anymore and it's becoming overwhelming keeping up with this lie. I don't know what to do, how to go about this, or whether or not plane tickets are refundable. I need help but I am too ashamed to go to my friends about this because I'm embarrassed we met online.", "summary": "I met a guy on the internet, he bought a plane ticket to come see me, and now I am rapidly losing feelings for him."}
{"id": "t3_1c8g6o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I feel like no else thinks like me. Help me answer this question.", "post": "I am an individual however there are 7 billion people on earth. \n\nYet it seems so few think like I do. \n\nMy experiment will be to determine who thinks like me.\n\nWhy? You say.\n\nMy best answer is. \n\nI think the people who think like me will want to know that there are others out there like them.\n\nThat sounds kinda creepy but hear me out.\n\nI feel I belong to a minority and I can't define the minority.\n\nAll I can do is ask questions and let the minority define itself.\n\nI chose reddit for this experiment because it is the best medium to conduct it on.\n\nThe experiment will work as follows;\n\nI will ask a question today and 2 days later I will release my answer as well as the following question.  \n\nAt this point u may choose to follow the experiment for the total of the 15 more questions that will be asked because either you agreed didn't agree or whatever because you're interested.\n\nI will not reveal my identity until 2 days after the final question is answered.\n\nThis seems a tad dramatic but I feel it will help the experiment.\n\nI will post the choices for the answer to the questions in the comments and you upvote whichever comment you agree with.\n\nIf you haven't read this far or you don't want to participate I understand this is just something I am curious about not everyone will think like me but I am very interested to see those that do.\n\nSo here is my first question to those who will partake and discover who will be a part of what I will call the QE Minority.\n\nDoes God exist?\n\nI know this seems far too clich\u00e9 but to me it must be the first question asked.\n\nVote in the comments, post if you like. Upvote for visibility please.", "summary": "I am conducting an experiment to discover who thinks the way I do. I feel I am part of a minority that can only be defined by the answers to the questions. I will release the question wait for the data to collect for a few days then release the next. If this sounds at all interesting read the full thing and take part."}
{"id": "t3_4jczak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28/f) SO (27/m) of 2 years broke up with me. Lease is up 7/31, what do I do until then?", "post": "I'll keep this short and sweet, since I'd prefer to avoid riding the emotional roller-coaster as the wounds are fresh and raw.\n\nThis happened last night.   We've been together for 2 years, living together for 10 months.  In this time we've combined so many aspects of our lives -- from our families meeting one another (which was an awesome time!), we merged our careers (both musicians) so we spent a great deal of time working and being together; I know this is a short list, but keep in mind this is the abridged version and if requested I can apply additional details.   These experiences and ultimately the life we've built together (and assumed would continue building together, read: matching career goals, discussions about marriage,  visits to the jewelry store to learn about having his family heirloom ring resized, etc) been the most loving, rewarding, and productive years of my life.   Until a few weeks ago when he said he was moving on without me. \n\nNow I'm wondering what is the logical next step.   I never in a million years knew that he was even considering separating, and for that reason I did not think it was necessary to have an exit plan.   As it is, we have a joint lease that goes through July.  I'm in an even tighter bind as I cannot afford to pay the fine to break the lease, nor do I make enough to pay the monthly rent by my self. \n\nI'm feeling extremely lost and alone, but I truly appreciate any advice you might offer.", "summary": "SO ended our 2 year relationship.  Our shared lease extends through the end of July.  I cannot afford to break the lease or pay the entire rent on my own.  Feeling lost, looking for answers."}
{"id": "t3_211dns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] Feels like he may have blown it with [20F] girl of his dreams.", "post": "Hello all,\n\nI've been thinking about an event for the past 24 hours; it's even kept me from sleeping. Here recently I took a vacation with some friends and we met up with some cute ladies from out school. I was meeting one for the first time and after ten minutes of chitter-chatter I realized she was the love of my life. I had been in and out of the dating pool for a while and had yet to ever meet a woman that made me fall in love, but never one so quickly. It's almost as everything clicked.\nShe hung out in our group the whole week. I turned everything up, was very nice, and made people laugh constantly. I've never tried this hard. Ever. I never made a move, usually I will, but I was scared stiff not wanting to blow it.\n\nWe ended up on the beach. All of the sudden she got right next to me and leaned her head against my arm. I instantly went blank. I didn't say anything. A few seconds later she made the response I'm cold. So naturally I take my jacked off and give it to her. Right after I gave her my jacket I recieved a high priority phone call and drifted off for a second to chat.\n\nWe later went back up to their room and I never made another move. I stayed for a while, but she seemed distant and ended up spending the rest of the time in her room without even coming out very often.\nDid I blow this? If so what now. I don't even have her number, it was just a given we would hang out with that group each day. It has me in a terrible depressed mood. The words \"She makes me want to be a better man\" come to mind when I even think of her.", "summary": "She learned on me. I didn't make a move. She said he was cold. Gave her my jacket. The group went up to her apartment. She didn't come out of the room and felt distant. I never made a move. Did she make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_1xc9nu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26m] fiancee [26f] and I have been together for 8 years and need help thinking of free after-work activities.", "post": "We've been together for more than 8 years and have a very happy, healthy relationship. We have lived together for about 5 years.\n\nUnfortunately, we're very short on money at the moment and the only leisure spending we can afford is Netflix. Our routine is to get home, eat dinner, then watch shows or movies all night. We're both very bored of this and we want to find activities that are free and more interactive. We own a few board games and we like to take frequent walks around our neighborhood.\n\nHowever, we would like to find other interactive things that we can do so that we can change our routine and stop spending so much time watching tv. We already googled the topic but we haven't found much. We would appreciate any suggestions!", "summary": "My fiancee and I live together and need to find free interactive after-work activities."}
{"id": "t3_2i1w7h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Pairing my phone.", "post": "I was at Best Buy today and I wanted to hear how this fancy Sony Bazooka box sounded. There was no radio reception, but the box has Bluetooth and I thought, \"Hey, I'll just play some music from my phone\". HA HA, joke was on me! I scanned for devices and the list that came back was....GINORMOUS! I picked what I thought was the right one, and music started blasting from an unknown device two aisles over! So here I am, trying to find the device while simultaneously trying to un-pair my phone. Employees are looking and I am laughing. It took a few more tries to finally get the right one but I was smart and had the pause button ready. Sad part is that once I heard the unit, the sound was not that great, especially for the price.", "summary": "Tried to pair my phone at Best But and wound up playing music all over the store."}
{"id": "t3_xj6wx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, would you support a grass roots protest/boycott of a record company that sues individuals for piracy?", "post": "Maybe this is stupid, but I think the punishment does not meet the crime of piracy. I mean, for the people who just download for personal use, the damage long term financially and criminally that ensue from being sued by these record companies are disproportionate.\n\nThe only effective way to encourage corporations to do good action is to make it too expensive not too. If they sue, and we boycott, they lose money, and thus will not do it.\n\nIt does'nt happen much but it still freaks swim out to download because its possible to be tracked and sued. so yea, thought?", "summary": "Boycott record companies that sue people for piracy"}
{"id": "t3_2rfakr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with the girl I went on a date with just before Xmas [19]", "post": "So I met this girl on Tinder a while back (first time properly making use of it) and we hit it off. After texting back and forth for a week or so I took her out to dinner and it went really well. Walking back to the station she was talking about what we should do \"next time, after Christmas\".\n\nMore texting back and forth over the christmas break and we both just came back this weekend.\n\nOn to the actual issue, I texted her Saturday night asking if she wanted to do something next weekend and she hasn't replied since. Do I just ignore it until she does reply, or text her again and risk looking desperate?\n\nI don't have a great deal of experience dating unfortunately.", "summary": "Would it look too desperate to text her again?"}
{"id": "t3_kbb5j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone abandoned a young cat at my house. Now what?", "post": "Our county doesn't have a humane society or any place to take strays for adoption. If you call animal control so that strays can be put down humanely in the absence of any adoption program they politely take your message, assure you someone will be by, hang up and laugh while they make a paper airplane out of the note and toss it out the window.\n\nIt's a cute little cat, just older than a kitten and it has decided it will now be living under my carport. I'm familiar with all the neighborhood cats and this one is definitely new. He's very friendly and runs toward humans so I'm assuming it isn't \"feral.\" It's been three days now and I've kind of been ignoring the issue, hoping that he'll find his way home or something. House cats who escape don't run off too far. They hide near the home and are skittish, from what I've read, so I doubt that's the case with him. His coat is very healthy, he doesn't seem malnourished but isn't plump either. \n\nI went out to check the mail earlier and he seemed like he wasn't doesn't as well as he had been the last three days... probably hungry and thirsty, so I finally put out some food and water, ensuring that he'll now never leave.\n\nDo I make posters for him? He's a pretty bog standard looking tabby cat. I'd honestly take him in but I've already got 3 rescues. I'm not a fan of keeping cats as outside free-range pets. I live in a small town but I *do* live in town. Lots of cars and hicks who hate cats walking on their cars and don't mind putting out poison or shooting them with .22's or pellet guns. Not something I'd choose for my \"pet.\"", "summary": "what the hell am I going to do with this fucking cat?!"}
{"id": "t3_123b98", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [24] gain my boyfriend's respect [28]?", "post": "Me [24] Him [28], relationship of 6 months.\n\nIt's not that my boyfriend doesn't respect me.  It's that I want him to respect me even more.  I want him to admire me and for him to see me in my best light as often as possible.  Maybe this is non-sequitor, but there are so many TV wives who are not very respect-worthy.  Wives are often seen as kind of a drag.  I don't want to be that ever in his mind.  What can I do to be a woman worthy of great respect in his eyes?  Thanks for your input!", "summary": "My boyfriend treats me pretty great.  I don't have any major complaints.  I would like him to respect and admire me even more.  How do I become a woman worthy of great respect?"}
{"id": "t3_pkpd2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tea time lads! What is your favourite tea?", "post": "From time to time you feel like wearing that top hat and monocle to drink your favourite tea kind... But you feel alone. You feel like \"Hell why ain't ma dawg drinkin dis shit?\". But dogs don't drink tea. So you feel alone. Alone with your after-effects of the holy tea very few know about. Visions emerge before you as you're having the best trip ever from the tea. Then! Why not share my favourite tea with the Internet? Maybe I will enlighten someone? Maybe this is my destiny! This is what I was born to do! Share my exquisite tea collection!", "summary": "Post your favourite tea."}
{"id": "t3_btrsn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My landlady seems to be going crazy, how should I handle this?", "post": "Last night my landlady (who lives in the unit below mine) called me at 2:30 in the morning freaked out and paranoid.  She asked me if I would come downstairs and sleep on her couch because she was afraid and couldn't sleep.  I'm not sure why I agreed, but I did.  We talked for a little while and she seemed extremely overwrought, paranoid and nervous.  At one point she asked if she could stay in my room until she found a new place to live, to which I politely said no.  Overall it was a very bizarre experience; I sat on her couch until about 6 AM and then went back upstairs to my unit.  There was no sign of any disturbance or anyone outside.  Apparently she also cornered one of my roommates a few weeks back as she was leaving the house and asked her if she had seen or heard anything strange going on.  None of us have seen any evidence of anybody loitering or hanging around or anything.  I've lived at this place for 5 years and she has always been a bit flighty, but since her husband left her a few months ago she has been even weirder, and this is a new low.\n\nAny thoughts on how I handle a potentially crazy and thus potentially very invasive/unreliable landlady without pissing her off or making my living situation untenable?", "summary": "My Landlady (who lives downstairs) seems to be going crazy and is becoming unreliable and invasive, how do I (and my housemates) handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_2v9n8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I ask my friend[22F] If I[21F] will be allowed a plus one for her wedding?", "post": "Backstory: Bekkah and I have been friends for 3 years and she was the nanny to my daughter for over a year. She is very religious and because of this she is in a huge rush to get married (a different issue all together) and is having a wedding with little to no money.\n\nShe is having children at the ceremony but not at the reception and although my daughter was invited to the ceremony I declined and said that she would probably cause a commotion and I thought it would be best if she stayed at home. Although I did offer to dress my daughter up and for Bekkah and I to do photos before or after the ceremony which Bekkah was more than happy with. \n\nThe issue I am having is that even though it hasn't been officially said I don't think she is giving me a plus one. I do not know ANY of her friends and family or her fiance's so I will be all by myself during the ceremony and the reception. Even if I had chosen to bring my daughter to the ceremony, I would still be alone at the reception, where the socializing happens, as children are not allowed.\n\nThe invites haven't been sent out but she did mention that \"there would be a few tables of random friends\" when I expressed that I wouldn't know anyone there. That hurt. Because of this I am assuming there will be no plus one.\n\nI understand that they are tight on money but honestly I am not sure if I even want to go to a 4 hour long reception and eat dinner so I can socialize with a bunch of strangers and get a total of 5 seconds to see my friend. We are close and I want to support her on her special day but it feels sort of tacky to ask to bring a plus one but then again I feel it is sort of tacky to not include one in my invite. Maybe I am wrong.", "summary": "My friend is getting married and it looks like I won't be receiving a plus one. I don't know anyone else who will be attending."}
{"id": "t3_lewmq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i dont know what to do.", "post": "i fell like i'm going into a downward spiral of self destructive behavior. the only thing that is keeping me sane is smoking weed, and thats slowly getting taken away from me as i get drug tested more and more often, i'm losing all my friends, and the only ones i have left i fucking hate. i fell like i hate everyone. i know this isnt typically something that gets voted up and that people want to read but im not doing this for the karma im doing this because i dont know what im doing anymore. i just try to start fights with everyone i see, my girlfriend is no help at all, she just thinks im an ass who hates the world. but how could i not when the world is so fucked up? how could i not hate a world that is designed for the benefit of the rixh and the demise of the poor. i literally cant have a full conversation with someone without growing to hate them. i dont know what im doing with my life. i know that reddit is not a psychiatrist office and im not expecting you to evaluate me. i just need someone to talk to. even just one person. i dont even know why im typing this. but its just like dude. fuck.", "summary": "i need a friend"}
{"id": "t3_3mxcew", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking a sink.", "post": "This happened about 30 minutes ago.  I am a 17 year old senior in high school with an important paper due tommorow.  I was trying to relax my nerves and get the creative juices flowing by lighting a candle. The pleasant scent did relax me and allowed me to bust out half this paper, while at the same time forcing me into a deep slumber. Fast forward 45 mins and mama kirrydragons comes into the room screaming and yelling that i need to finish this paper. I frantically get up and try to focus. The candle is still lit and needs to be disposed. Now in my half-asleep state I decided to dump all the wax down my bathroom sink. Sadly wax has this amazing ability to cool and solidify in .3 seconds. Now im frantically trying to finish this paper and pour drain-o through a clogged sink.", "summary": "Relaxed too hard, had kinky hot wax sex with bathroom sink."}
{"id": "t3_3vfwa7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update!Me [26F] with my BF [29 M] living together, sexual relationship, but wanting to try 3 way with my GFUpdates", "post": "Here is the previous link!.\n\nThought I would update since I received a few messages with some good advice and ideas.\nMy BF and I discussed this in detail last night and are still texting about it. We are both excited, and he did profess his love for me and that we plan on building a great future, and I did the same. We both agreed this would just be something fun. We also agreed that this will be just for fooling around naked, then when all 3 are comfortable, we can get to oral sex. If there is some un comfort, we won't go there. As for PIV with her, he wants to make sure we are all very comfy with each other, so that won't happen the first time. But his brutal honest answer was, \"yes, PIV with 2 women would be awesome, but only if you're 110% or more ok watching and knowing\" I can not give that answer yet, so this is why we are not going yet.\nI hope I can get comfy enough that we can do this! I would like to see his facial expression and want to help him with one of his wishes, I guess.\nWe do have a stop term, and have agreed to abide by it. And have agreed under no circumstances will there be any penetration, with me or my gf, regardless of how we feel in the moment. We want to reflect and then if we move forward we will decide.\nWe also agreed she won't spend the night, and that she will leave soon after.\nWe also tried some role play sex last night. I wanted him to imagine being with her, and use her name.. Kinda weird but it helped me understand my feelings a little bit. Actually after all this discussion, the sex turned out pretty damn good! It also helped him get a little more comfy.\nWe are meeting up for lunch with her to discuss some more. So far we are planning either tonight or saturday night! We are excited and can't wait!\nThese are some basic ground rules. Have I missed anything major?", "summary": "Update, We are having our first 3 way. Very excited, set ground rules. Did I miss anything?"}
{"id": "t3_32t7pi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Vent] Me [22M] with my girlfriend [20F] 40 days, Should I tell her about my bad day?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out and known each other for 40 days... I know short time and we're very young xp. \n\nAnyways she is still in school and studying hard for coming exams. Recently I decided to give her some space (emotional and physical), so she can ace them exams. Also she visits her parents every other weekend (she's away this weekend). \n\nWith my current job I am off only on weekends, so I see her for about 3 days every 2 weeks, but lately I've not seen her.\n\nI had a really bad day today and I feel like crying right now, but I don't know if I should confide in her, I don't want to distract her from her studies. If she wasn't visiting her parents this weekend then I can at least have physical comfort even if I don't tell her about all the bullshit today. Not only is she away, but I probably won't be able to see her next week either (due to the bullshit today).\n\nI'm probably not going to tell her seeing as how venting here made me feel better :)", "summary": "Had a bad day. should I tell my girlfriend whose busy with other stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_lc08y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "where does a snake like to hide?", "post": "EDIT: FOUND HIM!!!! he was in a box filled with old game controllers, right next to his tank. XD\nI'm snake-sitting for a friend. And....the snake got out last night. There's supposed to be a pin holding the top of the cage on, but it's on the floor, and the cage was cracked, with no snake in the tank. (lol). \nI'm about 95% sure the snake was there when I went to bed last night. Where in my (slightly messy) room should I look in order to find him? Also, my bedroom door was closed last night but I can't guarantee he didn't get under the door. \nIf it helps, he's a California King Snake, about 3.5 feet long.", "summary": "There is a snake somewhere in my room, ideas on where to look?"}
{"id": "t3_30nd04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I had an argument with the gf about a guy getting fired from her job", "post": "32 m 25 f of 1 year\n\nI feel like the gf disagrees with me just for the sake of arguing lol it happens so much that its kinda funny\n\nany way, this guy at her work has been sexually harassing her. lets say that she works at Ross. she told the managers and i guess it stopped. he has been harassing some of the other girls. i guess he has been crude with them. he told my gf that he flat out wanted to **** her. he has pulled out a radio out of back pocket. gf felt uncomfortable.\n\ni told the gf that i will write to the headquarters about his behavior and i hope he gets fired. she said no that he shouldnt get fired because the economy is bad and it sucks not having a job. i told her yeah but he can work somewhere else, not just at your workplace.\n\nshe disagreed and said it doesnt matter if he works there, as long as they dont work the same shifts. then i just said yeah but hes harassing the girls that work there. he should be fired from Ross. this went on for about 15 minutes. back and forth, pretty ridiculous.\n\nwas this even worth arguing? couldnt the gf just agree that hes a creep and he doesnt belong there??", "summary": "told gf that this creep shouldnt work at Ross with her but she argued for about 20 minutes on why he shouldnt get fired."}
{"id": "t3_3aqh65", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking my brother's spit.", "post": "This actually happened on Saturday but whatever I had better things to do than post a TIFU.\n\nSo I'm at a house party where some of the people also happen to know my younger brother.  I text him that I am at this party with [insert his friend's names here] and that he should come by since I haven't seen him in a while.\n\nNight continues on drinking and such and I end up taking a round of shots with my friends.  My brother texts me as I'm taking the shot to come outside and let him in, so I skip the chaser and run outside.\n\nTurns out he bought a new car and wanted to show it to me real quick so I hop in the passenger seat and check it out.  While sitting there I notice an open can of Rock Star in his cupholder. Realizing my mouth still tastes like tequila and being thirsty I decide to take a swig...turns out my brother had recently taken up chewing tobacco and this can of Rock Star was actually full of his chew spit.  My brother looks and instantly starts laughing as I realize what I have just ingested and I proceed to vomit all over the neighbor's front yard.", "summary": "Forgot to chase a shot of tequila and drank my brother's chew spit as a chaser."}
{"id": "t3_1aw875", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He's[24M] being distant, am I[22F] over analyzing?", "post": "I'm in a ldr with my boyfriend[24] of almost a year. Lately we've both been stressed...him more than me. He's been living in a place that he's unhappy at, mostly because of roommates. He works a job he's displeased with, one because of coworkers being so drama filled, and two the pay isn't enough to pay his bills. He has his own debts to worry about, plus paying to fix his car. \n\nI don't have a car, so if we want to see each other he has to come to me. I have my own debt that i've been trying to pay off. Also, i have been trying to join the NAVY since October. As far as the military goes its been a long process because of my debt, and me having a few slip-ups. \n\nTo the point; My boyfriend has been feeling less and less confident about the military working out. And in doing so, he seems more distant. He's saying that maybe we should focus on ourselves and our individual goals. I replied saying that we can do that and still be together, and he was iffy about it. \n\nI just don't understand whats going on. We both agree that breaks are stupid, and we love each other too much to breakup. And by love i mean we talk about marriage and long term goals. But what i'm upset about is, if things with the navy were going well, then he wouldn't be saying these things...at least i hope he wouldn't. And then I don't know what he means by the things he's saying? \n\nI don't know what he wants. I don't know if i'm over analyzing or if he's not being as open with me as he should be. Am i being to pushy? What should i do?", "summary": "He's[24m] being distant, am i[22f] over-analyzing or should i be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_3vgmb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my gf [26 F] 3-4 months have started talking much less recently.", "post": "So we have known each other for about 10 years, but kind of hung in different circles so would speak if we saw each other and that was about it never made plans to meet up somewhere. Recently she had became single so I sent her a text and things went great we went out for drinks and clicked right away. \n\nOver the next three-four months things progressed great, have met and bonded very well with her daughter, have been informed of all the drama with the ex and court proceedings over custody etc. So she has defiantly opened up and let me into her life pretty fast. \n\nNow with both of us working shift work sometimes it was hard for us to see each other more than once a week, so we would text pretty much all day everyday getting to know each other better and stuff. \n\nNow things still seemed fine last time we hung out about a week ago (work in the way) but the texting has all but dried up since then. Am I just getting worried for no reason and we have just moved passed the \"honeymoon\" need to talk all day or do you think maybe she is having second thoughts?", "summary": "Communication has dropped off recently. No signs as to why. Am I being paranoid and should just chill out."}
{"id": "t3_2njcwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am not sure what I am feeling and how to deal with it, kinda about a friend of a friend [20F]", "post": "so the small backstory of my romantic life is I got cheated on. A lot. so about 2 and a half years ago I decided I was sick of relationships and girls, I started focusing on my life goals and what not but over these few years I have been telling myself that relationships are a horrible thing and I just want to be alone and it was working, I am happy being single and don't want it any other way. This is where it gets confusing though.\n\nI met this girl [20F] Saturday night and it turns out we have loads in common, we were talking to each other a lot and got quite close, like arms around each other and stuff, I should point out we were both drunk but we were having a really good time in each other's company. I was told at one point that she was in a relationship, which I'm fine with because I don't want a relationship yet I felt really close to her that night. Nothing else happened and I have spoken to her since then and while we weren't all over each other she was hugging me and showed interest in me.\n\nThis is the issue though, there is a part of me feeling attracted to her and wanting to see her, I'm thinking about her a bit and generic 'crush' behaviour but the other part of me wants to keep my peace and quiet lifestyle and I keep telling myself that girls are bad news but I'm tearing myself apart over this small attraction to a girl I hardly know. I'm angry at myself for being close to a girl while drunk when I knew she was in a relationship, I want to get closer to her, but I don't ever want to see her again just to restore peace to my life.\n\nThis is so frustrating because I have no idea what I am feeling right now, but it is stopping me from sleeping, it's currently 2am and I need to be up at 7am to get to lectures. I need to restore peace in my mind so I can relax again and sleep. I just don't know, I'm in such a confused state right now. Any insights would be nice, just anything that could clear my head. Please.", "summary": "read the last 2 paragraphs, there is no way I can make it shorter. Please help, I can't stay like this."}
{"id": "t3_4uguat", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "brother (28M) and I (26M) recently got into an argument that got physical.", "post": "My older brother and I are in our late twenties and are only two years apart. This afternoon we got into a physical altercation in front of family and strangers.\nWe were coming back from a family trip to Cancun and our seats were separated on our way back. I was sitting in the back and my mother, father, sis-in-law and brother were up towards the front. When the plane landed, they went directly to customs without letting me know. I got off the plane and couldn't find them. I waited around since my phone was dead, assuming they went to the bathroom. Eventually I ran to customs to find them in line. After sprinting to them I asked them why they left without letting me know. My brother got upset with this question and began calling me names in front of our mother and a line full of strangers, calling me immature, stupid and a p*ssy for thinking this way and not going straight to customs. I tried to explain to him why I brought it up, but he shoved me and continued arguing. Eventually I straightened up (I work out and box on a regular basis, while he is more of the sit at home activity/video gamer type) and told him it was not okay to do that. He proceeded to continue arguing and told me to \"f---- off\" and that he was \"done with me and never to call him again\". I was incredibly hurt by his words, but still upset that he would not respect my boundaries.  I'm still up, hours later, wondering if this is a normal thing that happens or if I need to apologize. Please help and be blunt, I respect my older brother and consider him one of my best friends and have never sworn or raised my hand in anger to him. I care about him and his new family (he is recently married to a wonderful woman).", "summary": "brother(28m) and I(26m) got into a physical confrontation after a miscommunication. I asked him to respect my boundaries and he told me to F off."}
{"id": "t3_rdgl1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I ask her on a date? [ 21 M]", "post": "So I'm 21, male and am currently a student. She is 19 and a chef at a small hotel.\n\nWe've been talking for a couple years over skype because of the distance between us - roughly 300km or 186 miles. In this time we have met up a few times, I've been traveling to her.\n\nI find it pretty difficult to stop thinking about her and believe that me and her would have a great shot at a relationship. Better than any of the previous girls I've dated. \n\nTwo problems though;\n\n1. How the hell do I tell if she likes me? As she's a chef she's only on skype for a few hours in the late evening and usually watching a films. So periods of sparce conversation and periods of plentiful conversation.\n\n2. Distance. It's not much, I know, but enough to make it hard. Train tickets are hardly cheap and I'm a student so not exactly rolling in it. Ideally I'd like to see my SO once a week at minimum (not sure if that's clingy or not?). Her work schedule is hectic at best. Getting two days off a week but she's usually told only a couple days before she has them. They are also usualy during the week - when im busy. This leaves a small amount of time to arrange to meet up etc.\n\nAny advice?!", "summary": "How to tell if she likes you and then read point two!!"}
{"id": "t3_o2qm3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help me get my dog back.", "post": "My father is a loser. He doesn't take care of anything and feels he has no responsibility in this world.  Four years ago my sister got a golden retriever puppy for Christmas names Sage.  A little over a year ago me and my sister were removed from out home by DCF (department of children and families) and we were forced to leave my dog behind. I have tried to get him back but my dad threatened to call the police (the dog was registered to him).  I have just found out that my dog was taken from him for cruelty/neglect. This was over a week ago. He was has some behavior issues, nothing major but he is very hyperactive and I am worried they will put him down because of this. I want to get him back and bring him to my home. So I need some advice on how to find him and how to get him home.", "summary": "My loser father got my dog taken away and I need help/advice to get him back."}
{"id": "t3_43d52x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and girl im hanging out with [23F] just revealed her sex count to me and I guess I am taking this the wrong way, any advice?", "post": "Okay, so me and this girl have been hanging out a lot the last month, and she brought up the conversation of sexual partners. So, of course I tell her mine, 1(7 year relationship). I was not sure If I should ask her... but curiosity killed the cat, and she said 7.\n\nNow, you may be thinking oh 7 that aint shit, I thought the same thing. Until she added that 6 of them were one night stand while in college. and this just ate me alive. I am obviously into relationships, and not casual hookups/sex at all, and this kind of hit me like a bricks because I am not interested in someone who has had one night stands and would rather build something with someone who has had meaningful relationships. I played it off like it was cool, but I got home just now and am like wow... I just don't know how to feel or anything cause we have gotten super close.\n\nJust want to know how to approach the situation or how to ask her questions without seeming like an insecure guy/ shallow person because of her one night stands/promiscuity for the one night stands'.\n\nThanks guys.", "summary": "Girl ive been hanging with told sexual partners, was not a lot, but 6 out of 7were one night stands and this bothers me, how do I approach this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1aikaf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fucking in my car", "post": "So I met up with a horny lady friend on the interwebs. House is occupied so we decided that it was all fine to fuck in my coupe vehicle. We shared some bubbles and then went at it on the passenger seat. Things started to get so hot that I had to open the door, as the car was full of condensation and such. Damn car makes a beeping noise when the doors open and the keys are in the ignition, so I switched the key to the accessory position - didn't think much of it. Bucket loads of sweat was extracted all over each other, dripping into the seatback.\n\nLater that evening after dropping her off, I noticed the SRS light on my dash. Damn, must have shaken the car too much and tripped the incident meter. I googled around and contacted the local specialist to visit me the following day while at work to sort it out.\n\nWell, today he turned up and hooked his computer into my dash. \nHim: \"Hmm... looks like theres a reported fault with the sensor\". \nMe: \"Oh, yeah. Damn thing's played up in the past. What's it say?\"\nHim: \"It's reporting a fault with the sensor in the passenger seat.\"\nMe\" \"Um... yeah I was moving some stuff in my car in the weekend\".\nHim: \"Oh, it says here the liquid submersion indicators were set off. Did you get the seats wet?\"\nMe: *blushing* \"um... yeah I also cleaned my car. Perhaps I wet the seat. Ooops.\".\n\n$80 later and he's reset my system, and told me that in the future if i'm moving things about or cleaning to turn my ignition off to not trip the sensors.", "summary": "If you're going to fuck in your modern SRS-equipped car, turn the ignition off or you're going to have a bad time. Or fuck on the back seats."}
{"id": "t3_159fxh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of Reddit, what was your most alpha moment?", "post": "Yesterday a friend invited me to go to a club. The music was kind of lame, so I just stood by the bar watching Fight Club.\n\nAll of a sudden, a guy and a woman came up to me and complimented the way I was dressed. We chatted a little and the guy goes out to smoke.\n\nI kept chatting with the woman and asked if he was her boyfriend. She said that he wasn't, and that her boyfriend had just dumped her. And damn, she's gourgeous.\n\nThen a friend of her came to us, said I was handsome and that I should kiss her friend. I said \"no problem\", but the woman just evades me.\n\nThen her friend said \"if she doesn't want to kiss you, I want\". We kiss and she tells me I'm the fourth guy she kissed that night, but I was the handsomest and the best kisser.\n\nI keep talking to the first woman. She invites me to dance with her. Before we go to the dance floor, her friend asks for another kiss.\n\nWe go to the dance floor and she says to me she wanted to kiss me badly, but couldn't because I'm 20 and she was 27. I said \"that's bullshit. Just close your eyes and pretend I'm 30.\" So she kiss me, and says I'm an amazing kisser.\n\nBy the end of the night, I felt like the Overly Manly Man meme should be a photo of me, not that black-and-white faggot.", "summary": "Kissed two beautiful women at the same night, both way older than me and both said I was an amazing kisser."}
{"id": "t3_2e208c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] am dating someone new [23M] and he's very shy", "post": "I started dating a new guy about a month and a half ago.  I really like him.  We get along very well.  At first, I was unsure if he liked me.  He's not very affectionate and very rarely compliments me.  However, he took his 'single' status off of OKCupid without me mentioning it (we met in real life and I'm not sure if he knows that I've seen his OKCupid).   Also, when our friends asked if we're 'together,' he'll confirm first.  These things make me think he does like me.\n\nAnyway, another problem that I have is that he rarely puts the moves on me.  I usually have to go in for the kiss.  He doesn't really ever try to do more than kiss unless it's a night that he sleeps over, which is only the weekend.  The times that he has slept over, he's brought condoms, so I know that he was thinking about it before he came over.  Unfortunately, I'm kind of shy in this area too, so in the past I've had the guys do most of the initiating (at least in the beginning).  \n\nHas anyone else had this problem?  I don't think that he is the most experienced.  I think his last relationship was kind of short and I know that I'm only the second girl that he's had sex with.", "summary": "New relationship with guy who is kind of shy."}
{"id": "t3_3dvj2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my bf [23M] a little over a year, says he's not sexually attracted to me anymore", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half and I love him more than anything.  We both try to be open and communicative and rarely fight.  \n\nWhen we first started dating we would have sex once or twice a week, but then for a while it was like twice a month.  Now I don't think we've had sex since the beginning of June.  He's gained a bit of weight and he blamed his lack of a sex drive on that, citing that it makes him self-conscious, something that I can easily understand.\n\nLast night we were both drunk, him more so, and he admitted to me that the night before he made out with his guy friend.  It's been an acknowledged problem that I'm a kinda shitty kisser and so I thought it was just because of that.  He admitted though that he realized a few weeks ago that he's not sexually attracted to me anymore.  \n\nBecause we were both drunk, it blew up into the biggest fight we've ever had by far.  He told me that my new hair cut is part of the problem (shaved on sides, long on top- think Ruby Rose) as is the bad-kisser-thing.  He even nearly broke up with me.\n\nWe eventually decided to just go to bed and talk about it in the morning. \n\n So this morning, we talked about it a little more- and 100% more rationally and reasonably.  He was miserable about the way he brought it up and how rude he was about it.  He still loves me, he still loves being affectionate, but sexually it's just not there for him.  This is super disappointing to me, but we've both agreed it's totally fixable and we love each other enough to make it work.  \n\nBut now I'm sort of sitting here grasping at any straw I can trying to find some way to make him want to bone me.  It's super depressing.", "summary": "My boyfriend isn't sexually attracted to me, but we still love each other... I want to figure out how to make this work/how to reignite a spark.  Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3rgbqg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Verizon FIOS!!!!!!!!........ can go fuck themselves", "post": "i just had a long ass conversation with unintelligible twats about why my internet service is only 1% functional of what I paid for. Called those fuckers up... They told me about you can either pay, pay, or pay for a technician and when I finally got this fucker in a corner to guarantee some shit I bluffed and told him that he better stick to his word because I was recording, at which point he told me that he could terminate the conversation at any time and hung up on me...... What the fuck can I do about this?? they are fucking me over, claim that some cords the technician gave me are technically mine and can be the cause of the problem which they will then charge me $90 for the first hour and $40 every hour after.", "summary": "Even though they are not providing the service that they gave me they want me to pay more and I am fed up with getting fucked over. I would love some help"}
{"id": "t3_2zij1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(15M) asked out my crush (15F), confused about her answer...", "post": "I've been into this girl for a few weeks. I've seen her around the hallways a few times, but we've never really talked. Recently, I've gotten to know her a bit better, and started to notice she was kind of cute. So, today, I decided to ask her out after class.\n\nI pulled her aside after we had class today, and asked if she'd like to have lunch together sometime, and she just kind of looked at the ground and started giggling, saying, \"I don't know, I don't know,..\"\n\nI was hoping for a ***real*** answer, but this is worse than a yes OR a no. A yes would've been great, and no would've stung, but I'd have been over it in a day or two. But this feels like some sort of weird limbo. I told her, \"If you want to say no say it, you're not going to hurt my feelings.\" But she kept saying, \"I don't know, I don't know\". I feel like this is some sort of weird way to spare my feelings, even though I don't need them spared, I just want an answer. \n\nI had class with her after that again today, and she seemed very, stiff, I guess the word would be. Just kind of staring down blankly at her book, not really moving her head or body, and seemed to(at least to me, although I must admit I wasn't paying much attention)rush out of class a bit quickly.\n\nI don't want things to be awkward between us, but would it be weird if I asked her tomorrow if it was a definitive \"no\"? Or should I just tell her not to worry, and that it's only awkward if we make it awkward.\n\nI **do** want to handle this like adults, and continue to have a friendship with her, but I'm not sure how to make this happen without asking her what, \"I don't know means\". Is this something all girls do, did I do something wrong?", "summary": "Asked out crush of a few weeks, she repeated, \"I don't know\" quite a few times, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4np667", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 F] with my lover [30 M] chose other woman, I behaved badly", "post": "After 8 months, my lover chose another woman over me. We tried to maintain a work relationship, but I just was a total bitch. I don't want to be but then I think too much, and I'm hurt and mad. He's been so kind. I thought I was in love, but how can I love someone I'm so willing to hurt and be mean to? I should be happy for him, and I should want him to be happy no matter what. But why am I so hateful if I love him? Maybe I am just a selfish bitch? He loves me on some level, he's said, I believe him. He just has other obligations to this other woman. I get it, but why then can't I be happy for him, and just love him and move on? Am I incapable of love?", "summary": "I was dumped but we still are in contact. I can't just be happy for him. Does that mean I didn't really love him?"}
{"id": "t3_1dagm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (F26) cheated on me (M25). Now I have feelings for her best friend who broke the news.", "post": "My hands are covered in glitter after a project with my niece, hence the username.  \n\nMy girlfriend cheated on me a few weeks ago and it was her best friend that broke the news to me.  We're in a serious relationship of seven months.  \n\nAfter finding out she cheated, I confronted her and she admitted to everything.  She felt terrible and was pretty much bawling her eyes out the entire night, begging me not to leave her.  For the time being, I agreed to try and work things out.\n\nHowever, ever since her best friend broke the news to me, I feel like I'm beginning to crush on her.  She's an attractive girl and she has morals, something my girlfriend obviously lacks.  We've gotten close over the last few weeks and I'm really falling for her.  And she doesn't hide the fact that the feelings are mutual.  We've got a lot in common, she *gets* me - Maybe this is why she decided to throw my girlfriend under the bus?  \n\nHowever,  **I'm not a cheater.**  So I guess I have to make a decision, which is why I'm here.  Would I be an asshole to dump my girlfriend for her best friend?  I'm not looking to get revenge on my girlfriend - I'm not that type of guy.  But I really don't know if I want to fix a relationship that my girlfriend was willing to risk for a sex-filled night with her ex.\n\nI need to make a decision soon.  I don't want to string either girl along.  Do I suck it up and work things out with my girlfriend, dump her for her best friend, or leave both of them behind entirely?  \n\nAdvice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated, her best friend broke the news to me and now I'm falling for her.  Having a hard time deciding if I should leave my girlfriend for her best friend."}
{"id": "t3_1oojtt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fucking make up your mind brain!", "post": "I hate myself so fucking much. I sabotage just about everything I wanted to work for and now I'm working for jack-shit. Doing a shitty job with no brain power, no purpose, no drive to get me through the day. Most of the day I think to myself, \"I just want to make something\" but instead I'm pushing buttons.  \n  \nTrying to get past this, into school and I've fucked that up too. When will I be satisfied with this masochism. When I've finally bought the fucking gun. I don't want to die but I do? I don't want to drone around all day for shit work but I don't want to be hard working like I use too. What the fuck is up with this lazy fucking, self pitying, self-entitled fuck that has taken over my life. It's not bad enough to be that and not care but to be that way and see it in myself, everyday. To hate myself for it, every moment. To not know what the fuck I am doing or want to do anymore. I just want someone in my head to pick a side and stick to it. To have a mentality and be ONE fucking person and not two polar opposites.", "summary": "I feel like I can be so much strong, but I feel so god damned weak too."}
{"id": "t3_1bpdb5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My [27M] first date with [23F] tonight...help me read the signs please.", "post": "My [27M] first date with [23F] tonight, we met online and texted for 4 days before meeting a lot. Lots of similar interests, good conversation both texting and in person. We exchanged pictures before meeting and we discussed her coming back to my house and cuddling to a movie after the bar and she said yes possibly.\n\nSo tonight, we had a few drinks at the bar, stayed for 1.5 hours, and she was getting a lot of texts on her phone, she said her room mates were cooking enchiladas and were being very persuasive for her to go home and eat with them...\n\nSo she bailed on the cuddling/movie, I asked if she wanted to hangout again and she said \"Yes definitely and we should watch Lord of the Rings together since we both love it.\" I walked her to her car, and got a quick kiss on the lips, no tongue.\n\nMixed signals it seems like to me right? Could go either way, her liking me or not?", "summary": "1st date, mixed signals, quick peck on lips, says yes to 2nd date, but bails on our followup plans on 1st date. Whats the story?"}
{"id": "t3_1iacd8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some perspective on my [21/m] possible break up with my [20/f] girlfriend.", "post": "So this all started two nights ago. I was suppose to be leaving to go on vacation with my girlfriend and some of her family. We ended up getting into an argument and I decided that I did not want to go and that I wanted to use this time apart to just have some space, not meaning that I want to break up. But just time apart. \n\nShe was upset which was understandable, but things just kept getting more and more extreme. Now its to the point were she wants time apart cause she hasn't been single in a long time. Which is odd because she just recently told me she wants to continue to live together and settle down, and even have a kid eventually. So I'm kind of confused with all of this. \n\nShe didnt even want to break up at first, she was like I just want time to think. But I told her that she has to decided, cause I have to get my shit figured out if we do(where I'm going to be living, ect.). She basically told me that if she has to decide now, then she wants to break up. She is also saying she wants to be on her own cause shes been with someone for the past 5 years, and hasnt had time to be on her own. Which I understand. But this is coming out of the blue. She has never said anything or acted remotely like this in our time together. One of my friends said it may be because of what her sisters telling her. \n\nWe are going to be apart all week, so I cant really talk to her till she gets back. The last thing I told her was that I respect her decision and that I just want her to be happy.\n\nPeople that I've talking to keep saying to just wait it out give each other space, and ect.. I just don't understand what to do. Our relationship is fine other then this. We sometimes argue about our apartment getting messy. But it never really gets into a huge argument. This is probably the biggest, fight/problem that we have had in our relationship thus far. \n\nI guess I'm just trying to find perspective on what I should do and how I should take all of this, cause as of right now I'm clueless.", "summary": "girlfriend said she wanted to settle down, now wants space to be \"herself\""}
{"id": "t3_q2nzz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Examples of casual dining?", "post": "Generally, I choose either coffee, lunch, or drinks for my dates. Or, if I know the person a bit, something that is relevant to them.\n\nRecently, my schedule has been shying towards weeknights being free. Which means I don't want to be drinking, and it's a bit late for lunch.\n\nObviously, fast food is (generally) a poor date choice unless you know the person gets wet for McDonalds. Fine dining is both expensive and over the top, but I'm wondering if anyone can give me some examples of casual dining. Is this like, Denny's kinda stuff? Tony Roma's or Boston Pizza?", "summary": "I'm completely lost when it comes to dinner places, and would love a few examples of places so I know what I'm looking for."}
{"id": "t3_3u3mxy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be the good guy", "post": "So this happened yesterday.. My best friend ( a girl) started flirting with a friend of mine on Friday. She never told me anything.. I found out when my friend decided to show half the squad their text message exchange. That shit hurt like a mf, this lead to me finding out I have feelings for her. \n\nI had the ability to end what was happening between them but chose not to.. Opting to let it carry on since she was happy. So come Monday they fuck. I should probably mention that my friend thinks I have no feelings for her. By then half the dorm knows what's going on and she has no idea. \n\nLater that night I received a message from her saying we need to talk and that she'd fucked up. This is where shit turns bad.. I let her know that I've known this entire time and half the dorm does too. (She asked me a direct question and I almost never lie to her). She lost her shit. She's now mad at me for not saying anything all weekend and I'm like fuck I was just trying to be a good guy.", "summary": "my best friend hooks up with my friend thinking its discreet, due to my feelings for her I choose to stay away from this. She still ends up being mad at me"}
{"id": "t3_127dpc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help Medical Debt", "post": "A year ago I was my friend was in a horrendous accident and got some wonderful help at kaiser. While staying with him over night there was a stressful moment asking nurses for painkillers. while my friend was pleading for drugs I passed out infront of the nurse. \n\nShe called an emergency code and I was put in a wheel chair and brought to the ER. Once there I caught my breath and felt fine and demanded to be released knowing the test the plained to run in me would cost a pretty Penny. I'm a student with no insurance. they insisted my school would cover me and took my information. 8 months pass and I get a call from debt collection that my debt has already been sold and I owe $1000. since I have savings below double digits I couldn't  pay them. \n\nDoes anyone know of a program or fund I may qualify for that could absolve.my debt? I've ignored it got almost half a year and I fear our may ruin me if I ignore out longer", "summary": "broke student passed out in front of nurses, garnered large debt. Didn't kiaser never contacted me only collection company"}
{"id": "t3_2dgrcs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [F/20] in a relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years [M/23] and my close friend just told me he likes me.", "post": "I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years (It's a LDR...he's in England and I'm in Canada. We're moving in together next summer). \n\nI used to work at a cafe, and met one of my very good friends there. I feel it's important to say that I don't have many friends. I'm a bit of an introvert and prefer to spend time alone 90% of the time. He's someone I share a lot in common with and get along with very well. HE KNOWS I'M IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. I don't give him any false signs, he knows we're just friends. I speak to him about how great my boyfriend is etc. \n\nHowever, today he texted me this morning telling me to please let him take me on a date just to see how it goes. I didn't know what to say. It's been about a month since I left my old job and yesterday he was texting me telling me he wished I never left, it's not the same etc. \n\nI told him I had a boyfriend and we could hang out when he's not working.\n\nI'm not good at letting people down. I ESPECIALLY don't want to ruin one of my really good friendships with this guy.\n\nI'm going to tell my boyfriend...he wouldn't tell me to end my friendship with him, however I know he would be passive aggressive about it. \n\nWhat would you do in my situation? He wants me to give him a chance. I reminded him I'm in a relationship. What would the right thing in this situation be? Do I end the friendship despite the fact that he's one of my few friends?", "summary": "I'm in a relationship of 6 years and one of my good friends (I don't have too many friends) just asked me on a date despite the fact that he knows I'm in a relationship. He wants me to give him a chance. I reminded him I'm in a relationship. What would the right thing in this situation be? Do I end the friendship despite the fact that he's one of my few friends?"}
{"id": "t3_1lmgsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18M] not sure how to fix this with my [17F] girlfriend", "post": "The other night we we're outside star gazing and having a good time. We kissed cuddled and everything was great. Once we got in her truck to go home, she begins telling me that she isnt sure that are relationship is going anywhere and that we are at a stalemate. This left me confused since we have only been dating for 3 weeks and we have both been busy from work and haven't seen each other as often as we would have liked to. We have kissed, made out, cuddled, watched movies together, everything besides sex. So im not sure how we are at a stalemate? \n\nAnother point she said was that we are going to slow. We have met each others parents and, once again, have done about everything except for sex (we are both virgins). I dont really know how i could speed things up? Perhaps more time together? \n\nAny advice is much appreciated! :)", "summary": "Girlfriend said that we are moving too slow and that out relationship isnt going anywhere and is at a \"stalemate\". Now sure how to fix this"}
{"id": "t3_1zcwcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [27/F] seeking to reconnect with estranged family after 12 years", "post": "[Original post here](\n\nI emailed my grandparents a few times and they said they were excited to hear from me. I found out that they have a winter house in Florida now, which is where I went on vacation with my husband a few weeks ago. My flights back got delayed so I had a free day so I asked if they would like to get dinner. I thought it might be too much too soon since we'd only just started talking, but I also thought that it was too perfect an opportunity not to take. They said yes so I drove the two hours to their house for dinner.\n\nAnd it was the most awkward time of my life. I was really nervous so I kind of rambled about living in Alaska and they asked me different questions. Towards the end of the night there was a lull in the conversation and my grandfather tells me that they were going to take a trip to Alaska back when my mother was under their care, but then she got sick and died. My face looked something like this o.O I had no idea what to say to that. There were also a few times that I felt like they were fishing for information, either to see what I knew of other family members (asking me questions they already knew the answer to) or to show that they knew that family member better than I did. \n\nI flew back home the following morning and its been two weeks and I haven't heard anything from them in response. It makes me think that they didn't like me and maybe my dad's side of the family was right about them all along and them not being nice people. I knew that rejection was a risk with trying to reconnect, but I think it would have hurt less than if they'd rejected me from the first.", "summary": "Had dinner with estranged grandparents, and now they won't talk to me anymore. Rejection hurts."}
{"id": "t3_2aogkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] called my husband [32m] of 8 years physically unattractive in the heat of an argument. I'm worried I destroyed intimacy forever...", "post": "So my husband and I were arguing about how I don't feel heard/validated in any of my complaints but his get addressed and resolved promptly. I was trying to convey to him that his words towards me affect the way I feel about him sexually and I told him he's not physically attractive to me anymore. \n\nHe is morbidly obese and has been going to the gym daily for 4 months. He doesn't diet. His apathy about his health for the past 6 years has built up for me. We have 3 kids and I've maintained my health/looks. I know it sounds selfish to say that but I want him to take care of himself too. I will admit that throughout our relationship our sex life has been in trouble because of this and my low libido. I'm currently pregnant and want to have sex with everything that walks, I'd like to use this to our advantage because I know sex can be healing.\n\nI know that I was too hard on him when he came to me the morning after and basically told me I had him boxed in. That there is nowhere for him to go from here and how do you restore intimacy after something like that. He even said that after he loses 100lbs its still not going to be the same. He's humiliated.", "summary": "How do I help my husband understand what I was actually trying to say and help him feel less humiliated? I want to restore intimacy and make our sex life better."}
{"id": "t3_198ujm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors that have been shot or stabbed, what did it feel like? (NSFW)", "post": "Having never been unfortunate enough to experience either of those two injuries myself, I'm curious as to just how bad they are. I was actually thinking about the movie Hot Fuzz, in which the bad-ass main character says that being stabbed in the hand was the \"single most painful experience of [his] life.\" In other movies, protagonists seem to be able to function after multiple GSWs. So, is the pain similar to anything else, or is it the worst thing ever? Does it burn or sting? Does where you get shot or stabbed have an effect on the amount of pain? Feel free to share the story of how it happened as well.", "summary": "Can anyone describe what it's like to be shot or stabbed?"}
{"id": "t3_3ijdct", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) can't seem to make any friends after starting Uni earlier this year.", "post": "Not sure if this is the right subreddit, but I'll shove it here anyway.\n\nI graduated high school last year, and pretty much immediately fell out of touch with most of the people I'd hung out with there. I made some half-hearted attempts at making friends when Uni started up in March this year, and since then, but I just don't have any idea how to go about it. I'm kind of thinking I've missed the bus now, since everyone seems to have friends and I have no idea how to inject myself into an existing group of friends. There's a couple of people that I was in a group with on O-week, who I talk to occasionally, but I don't know how to make the next step there, either.", "summary": "Dropped out of contact with most (not all) high-school friends, and don't have any idea how to make new friends at Uni this year. How do I do that, reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_xecdi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy I was dating [25/M] said he wanted to back off and be friends... but now he's talking and flirting with me [23/F] even more than before! What's going on?", "post": "Background: We met online and had our first date about 2 or 3 months ago. It went well, we had great chemistry, so we had a second, third, and fourth date. During this time, we started talking to each other a lot online in between dates. We slept together after the 4th date, and it started to get to the point where we would spend time together every weekend, no official date plans needed.\n\nHowever, last week he told me that he was spooked that it was getting too serious, and he did want something serious but wasn't sure we had long-term potential because our careers were too different (sounds like bs to me, but whatever). I took it in stride, even though I do want a relationship with, and decided to give him his space.\n\nAfter that, though, he started contacting me all the time! Chatting and flirting anytime he sees me online, texting sometimes when I'm not. What is up with that? Is he maybe one of those guys who prefers to be the pursuer? I like him a lot and we have gotten very close, so should I maybe let him take things at his own pace? Any insight on the situation would be awesome.", "summary": "Exactly like the title"}
{"id": "t3_pa637", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the craziest thing that you have ever seen, but don't have a picture to prove it?", "post": "I'll go first.\n\nWhile on vacation in South Carolina, my family rented out a house in a marshy area for the duration of the stay.  After spending the day at the beach, we came home and changed out of our swimsuits into different clothes.  All of a sudden, we heard a horrific screaming noise.  We all came together in the living room, at first thinking that someone in our family had seriously injured themselves.  Quickly we realized that the noise was coming from outside.  We walked out to the deck, which faced the marshy lake area, and there we found a fucking alligator with his big jaws wrapped around a deer's leg.  The scream had come from the deer.  My mom was so freaked out that she ran inside and cried.  My sisters, dad, and I were just so freaking intrigued.  We watched the alligator slowly twist around the deer's leg, and every time it would move, the deer would scream again.  At the moment, we were just too freaked out to even think about running to get a camera.  The alligator ate the whole deer.  What the fuck.  Basically every time I tell this story I feel like people don't believe me because it is so crazy.  We should have taken a picture!!", "summary": "My family and I were practically Steve Irwin for a night and watched on our porch as an alligator ate a deer.  "}
{"id": "t3_2rvdmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] pregnant to my [22M] boyfriend and I want to keep it", "post": "I'll try to sum this up best that I can.  I am a 22 year old career focused female who just found out tonight that I am pregnant to my 22 year old boyfriend.  We have a very tumultuous relationship and he does not want a child anytime soon.  This was a complete accident.  I was on the pill.  I had an abortion when I became pregnant with his child 12 months ago whilst I was also on contraceptive.  I do not think I can go through that again and want to keep the child but not want to upset him or ruin his life by doing so.  I need some advice.", "summary": "Pregnant to my boyfriend by pure accident.  Had an abortion before and don't want to go through one again.  Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_3bjjgz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Being into biting", "post": "I'm an 18 year old male and until the past year girls weren't into me...So i'm a rookie when it comes to all things female related. I got my first girlfriend and we had been slowly doing stuff together and I realized i'm really into biting. She is now my ex but helped show me the ropes on all  things sex related. She was a lightskin black girl and often times I would bite/suck on her neck and nothing would show up the next day no matter what I did. A few days ago I was hooking up with a random girl I had just met and showing her how terrible I was at making out. I started going to town on her neck the way I would with my ex. This girl was very very white and by the time we were done  and turned on some lights her neck looked like it had been fucking nibbled on by a raccoon. She went home and was instantly grounded and now I feel like a real dick and she won't talk to me.", "summary": "Once you go black you never go back."}
{"id": "t3_1tee8v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sexual compatibility of ex'es?", "post": "I recently got out of a relationship, had ups and downs, didn't want it to end but ex proceeded with a forced break-up...\n\nEven though the vast material of our relationship was sentimental and intelectual, the sex was great. Best. Almost complete compatibility...we were both fairly open, kinky, pervy, and we loved to succumb into the intimacy of us having sex.\n\nAnd being through fairly many heartbrokes, I can handle the emotional part of the breakup, but the sex was never this good and I'm constantly wondering if I'll ever find someone else to be so compatible with...someone to be so opened with in intimacy.\n\nI wanted to ask, in reddit's experience, did you ever fear your next potential SOs would not be as good at sex as an ex? Does it matter after a time? Do you still look back to an ex, did you ever wish you next SO was like him/her, have you broke up with someone because they couldn't compete with an ex?", "summary": "was the memory of great sex with an ex a problem in other relationships? Anyone found someone better or as good?"}
{"id": "t3_3ag9oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my cousin [24 F] Our group wants to reset our minecraft server, cousin doesn't", "post": "Minecraft is a game were you mine resources and build stuff.\n\nWe've had a minecraft server for a little over a year using the same world we've put a lot of hours into gathering resources and building projects and its of course been fun.\n\nBut three of us are kind of bored with the server right now, we've done everything we want to do and were in a situation where there are hundreds of tunnels all over the place interconnecting so its easy to get lost and a lot of the resources (by spawn) are gone.\n\nWe've tried moving thousands of blocks away and starting from scratch but the nether is still effected by a year of work.\n\nSo were of the opinion that in the next could of months (probably when the new update comes out) that we want to delete this world and start from scratch.\n\nThe problem is my cousin doesn't feel the same way, my sister created a new world for her and one of the group to play on (whilst keeping the old world intact) and she got quite angry, believing we'd reset without asking her.\n\nOnce my sister calmed her down everything was fine but its a pretty clear statement that if we want to reset she's not going to be happy about it.\n\nMy cousin can be a little obsessive and we know her current employment is about to end and they wont be renewing the contract meaning she'll be unemployed.\n\nWe feel like she's holding us to ransom (my sister is paying for the server), we don't want to hurt her feelings and were worried about causing an argument within the family, especially over something so silly.\n\nBut we have no idea what to do, I mean it feels unfair for us to have to pay for a service we don't want to use any more.\n\nI should add that we often find it difficult to communicate with her as it is because she doesn't get our sense of humour or our pop cultural references, were nice to each other but it often feels like she's just humouring us and doesn't get us.\n   \n\nAnyway out of this awkward situation would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "We pay \u00a38 a month for a minecraft server that we've been using for a year, majority of players want to delete the world and start over, cousin wants to keep it. We are scared of causing a family argument and having her fall out with us."}
{"id": "t3_4motmm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What sort of activities can help strengthen my [27/F] relationship [30/M]?", "post": "My boyfriend [30/M] and I [27/F] have been together for 3 years and living together for the past 2 years. He is an addict currently going through the Step process of recovery. I am a former occasional abuser of alcohol on the weekends. When we were both drinking all the time at the start of our relationship we bonded over craft beer and making beer. Once the alcohol and drug abuse became over the top we stopped all of that completely. We stopped going to breweries, stop reading about beer, stopped making beer, and stopped going out. At that point our relationship was almost completely new because on Fri and Sat nights when we would normally be partying we had to find something else to do. That was also a struggle, but we overcame it.\n\nNow about 1 year into recovery we are really struggling with the \"big picture\" of our relationship which is - what really unites us? What is it that we bond over that we value that will give us a long lasting relationship?\n\nWe just had an hour or so long conversation about our fears and realities of our relationship and have agreed that it is worth saving or worth putting in the time to find what unites us. We have some ideas going, but I'd like to see if anyone has any input on things that have worked to save a relationship or on how we can find things to save it. \n\nWe were very frank with each other today and it was very emotional and we came to the conclusion that this is the biggie that we need to fix. Any advice or ideas is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I just had a long, honest chat about our relationship. We want to try to make it work and one thing we lack is a common activity that we can bond over. We think this will help strengthen our relationship. Any ideas? Or Any ideas on how we can find that activity?"}
{"id": "t3_2xtysy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Asking an interviewer for a name.", "post": "Earlier this week*\n\nSo, I have this interview for this summer job I really want. I should add it's my first job interview in my life and it's a somewhat competitive position, but I've done other kinds of interviews and Q/a things before.\n\nTry to hype myself up and what not, but all I end up doing is getting to be a nervous wreck. That's usual for me, and it's just something I have to deal with in these kinds of situations.\n\nInterview goes acceptably by my standards. I think I really did fine considering my nervousness. I get home and google what's normal to do after an interview and the consensus seems to be to send personalized thank you cards.\n\nI can't remember a single name.\n\n(I don't people always say they're bad with names, but I'm really bad. Like, in and out one ear bad.)\n\nGo online and search for company. Look up the office number, and find a phone number. Plan on talking to receptionist and asking for name.\n\nHere's the call, Gonna call the interviewer Benedict:\nring* ring* ring* ring*....... silence......\n\nMe: ..... uhm....,Hello?\n\nOther: Hello.\n\nMe: Is this the [company's] office?\n\nOther: Yes.\n\nMe: Hi, uh, I was wondering if, uh, you could tell me the name of t-the person who was doing interviews here today?\n\nOther: Who is this?\n\nMe: uh... AroundCorner\n\nOther: And you wanted to know the name of the interviewer?\n\nMe: Yea, I think it was something like Bens... or...Bens...?\n\nOther: Benedict?\n\nMe: Ah yes, that was it!\n\nOther: That's my name, we were talking earlier this hour\n\nSilence*\n\nMe: Oh, Uh... yea we met half an hour ago.\n\nOther: Is that all.\n\n(I'm really flustered)\nMe: Yea, uhm, (something cringe* about spelling)\n\nOther: okay bye.", "summary": "Had an interview. Forgot interviewers name. Called expecting a receptionist. Interviewer picked up. Thought I was talking to receptionist until the very end."}
{"id": "t3_20xp5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24] and my boyfriend[26] are at our wits end.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. We have had a lot of communication problems and I have had issues with giving him attitude making things worse, and him blowing things out of proportion that were such small issues. I get defensive when he gets upset and overreacts over small things instead of apologizing and being considerate that he is upset. Sometimes I will say or do something with good intentions but it comes off as rude to him, and I don't realize it at the time, which makes him blow up, and it gets ridiculous. We can't seem to have a fight with out things getting blown out of proportion. \n\nHe is at the end of his rope and I can't stand to let this relationship end, because we have so much going for us. He wants me to present him with a new way to fix things, and gain trust that this will not be a frequent thing in our relationship anymore. I don't know what to say with out insulting him, or how to reassure him that things will be better in future fights. I had gone to therapy to help deal with some anger I had, and I was able to accomplish a lot. But he says he has heard all of the same excuses too many times and nothing has changed. Someone, give me an action plan to help improve this madness! HELP.\n\nHe thinks it is only me that has to think of a plan at this point. How can I tell him in the best way that it has to be both of us together?", "summary": "If your boyfriend made you think of a \"plan\" to better communication, especially where there's conflict when he's pretty much threatening the relationship, what could I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2grf8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there any polite way for us [23F, 24F] to ask our roommate [22M] to shower?", "post": "Our roommate is a nice, friendly person. We really don't have issues with him other than the fact that he doesn't shower, and this is causing our common spaces (living room, bathroom, and kitchen) to all smell. Even if he just walks through the apartment and leaves (not stopping at all), the smell lingers for a few minutes.\n\nAt first I tried to attribute it to him being very busy, but even now he has plenty of time to sit in our living room and play video games. Aside from the room smelling like him while he's there and a little bit after, even the couch (which I purchased) is starting to smell like him....\n\nAre there any polite ways to hint to someone (Maybe like, \"Oh, I was going to shower, did you need the shower now or later?\") that they need to shower? Or do we just need to straight-up sit him down and talk to him about it? (Or should I have a close mutual friend of his and mine talk to him?) I feel so badly about this, but he really is starting to make my roommate and I uncomfortable. You can smell him across the apartment, and it makes having guests over very awkward.", "summary": "Roommate smells so much that the entire apartment smells like him, he has time to shower but just chooses not to, and the couch I purchased for our apartment (which he uses frequently) is starting to smell like him. What are polite ways (or should we just be direct) to get someone to shower?"}
{"id": "t3_zysdd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a \"grown up\" thing that you just don't understand or want any part of?", "post": "While some folks think of being an adult as going to college and getting a degree, then starting a career, and then having children with their husband or wife, I just never saw the appeal of having children. The rest of the is all well and good but children just aren't for me. Luckily, I've found  a woman who quite possibly hates the idea of having children even more than me so I'm lucky there.\n\nI don't hate all children or anything but I just feel like I'd rather build and work for a future with my eventual wife and our eventual pets instead of having children. And yet people like my girlfriend and I tend to get looked down upon or even disregarded by others around us that have children.  We get told \"Oh, you'll see. You'll change your mind someday. Just wait and see\" or even getting told that we're selfish for not wanting children. I just don't get why folks can't live and let live.", "summary": "What's a traditionally \"adult\" thing that you aren't going to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3xdbse", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[VENT] Football schedules and wedding planning", "post": "I live in a city that revolves around college football and it's starting to irritate me how many roadblocks we run into because the football schedule won't be released until January/February and we're trying to schedule our wedding in October. There's at least one venue we looked at that wouldn't book anything until it was released and several of the hotels have mentioned that room rates might go up for our guests if it's a game day weekend. Even the amphitheater won't schedule concerts on game days.  \n\nAnyway, we thought we had found the perfect venue (a newer restaurant near said amphitheater) but when we spoke to the park supervisor regarding a permit to have the ceremony nearby he mentioned that the amphitheater hasn't determined their schedule yet because they're waiting on the football schedule. So there is a 50/50 chance there could be a concert going on the same night as my wedding. I don't want to sign a contract with this restaurant because it's too risky and if we wait until January-February I'm worried there will be this huge date grab/rush to book venues in October. Also we already have limited choices because of our party size and my FH would prefer not to do it in a church.", "summary": "college football is throwing a wrench in my wedding planning and I have to confess I had myself a little cry. FH was supportive and told me we would figure it out, which I know we will. He suggested May since I would have a week off between semesters for it, there'd be no football, and it wouldn't be humid yet but my gut feeling is a lot of venues/vendors are already booked. That's also way too little notice for my family which is flying in. Bah."}
{"id": "t3_2huq51", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidently calling my girlfriend fat.", "post": "This just happened. \n\nI was hanging out at my girlfriends house watching movies with her. She asked if there were any chips in the kitchen, so I got her the bag and she started eating them. After a few minutes I was getting really tired and wanted to get going home, so I asked if she was ready for bed. She told me she was wide awake and not ready for bed, to which I responded \"you don't need to be eating those chips.\" \n\nApparently that means she's fat, not that they're going to keep her awake. She got pissed, I apologized and left. I tried calling her when I got home, and she just ignored it. Oops. So now I'm posting it on reddit.", "summary": "you don't need chips."}
{"id": "t3_3f8oci", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Women who never tell the father that they have a child are the biggest POS, keeping a kid from their fathers a secret.", "post": "My roommate just informed me someone he hooked up with from his home town years ago told him they have a kid together...she waited to tell him this 6 years later.  My roommate doesn't have a lot of money so it's not like he's loaded and these women want him for his cash.\n\nThat's my biggest fear of settling down with someone promiscuous is that they have unknown children out there.  Currently, my partner (not my roommate), has a promiscuous past but he is sure he does not have unknown children out there.  He says he has always protected himself.\n\nI've also known a high school classmate who didn't know he had a half sibling out there.  He always thought he was the only child.", "summary": "Why do some women think it's cool to not tell a guy they have a kid?  What if some guys did want to be in the children's lives but they never knew.  I think this is one of the most screwed up things \"humans\" do: keeping children a secret, never telling a man that they're pregnant with his kid."}
{"id": "t3_2j3ppb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] best friend's [19F] boyfriend [20ish] won't let her have contact with her guy friends.", "post": "It's basically what the title says.  My friend of 4 years (the kind of friend with whom you share everything) started dating a guy around the beginning of March.\n\nNear the end of March, she stopped answering my IMs.  I finally got through with an email, and she said we can't be friends anymore because of her boyfriend.  Apparently, he threatened to leave her if she continued her friendship with me and her ex.  I was extremely upset about this, but I told her I'd be waiting whenever she decided to get out of the relationship.\n\nDuring the summer, I was able to talk to her briefly, but she still insisted on no contact.  I was able to find out that her boyfriend was monitoring her IMs, texts, emails, etc.  Obviously, this is a major red flag.  That kind of behavior is linked to all sorts of abuse and stuff (the threat of him leaving could be termed emotional abuse).  I tried contacting her mother, but I don't know if the mother even got my message.\n\nWell, it's now mid-October, and I still miss her.  I'm really tired of not being able to contact my best friend, and I really want to help her get out of this abusive relationship.  Is there any way for me to do anything?", "summary": "Closest possible friend's boyfriend is preventing her from contacting her guy friends.  It's gone on too long, and I'm tired of it.  What can I do to get her to help herself out of the emotionally-abusive relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_12rry2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend [16/m] and I [17/f] aren't going as we'll as we used to.", "post": "We've been going out for a little over a year and things have changed dramatically. We started out as best friends, then to lovers. We used to be a really happy couple, but ever since we started going to different schools he's just stopped caring about our relationship. He claims I'm boring, nothing's new, etc. He's been flirting with multiple girls ever since then too. We've had multiple fights about this but he just doesn't seem to understand his limits. I know what you guys are thinking \"just dump him already.\" I just don't know how, I can't find the courage to do it. We've just been through so much, I don't want to lose a boyfriend and a best friend.", "summary": "relationships going downhill. Boyfriend's flirting with other girls. Don't know how to let go."}
{"id": "t3_12f90q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "think I got gipped? [ex post from /r/relationship_advice]", "post": "Alright, I maybe exaggerating but I have to vent. So a few days ago, I broke up with my gf of 11 months [18/f] and got into a small depression. But then it hit me, the next day I started talking to a new girl, she seemed pretty legit and everything, I kinda edged on that she was pretty chill and got to the point that day we started saying \"Oh you're cute\" and all that mushy shit. She seemed a bit girly saying I was lovely, adorable, etc etc, but the here and now, the next day, started with a good morning text, she said it back, then we talked for a bit there jokingly saying to come over here and make both of us food so we don't starve since she had no power, then it stopped there. Tonight, I decided to text her a goodnight message then I got a text back saying goodnight.. jokingly, I said \"Oh, forgot about me already huh?\" she said \"Nah, I'm just easily distracted\" Now I can't determine whether or not if she's bullshitting or not", "summary": "Talked to this girl the whole day then barely talked the next, any conclusion whether or not she's bullshitting?"}
{"id": "t3_27lssr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Did i took these signals wrong from [17/f]? And what should i do next?", "post": "So i am [19/m] and i met this girl. So we have been chatting on facebook for the past 3-4 weeks. At first our topics were pretty casual, asking each other questions getting to know each other more, joking around. I started to think that she might like me, she was constantly sending pictures of herself (some really sexy) while we were chatting and conversations began to be more flirty and we constantly teased each other.\n\nAt that point i kind of knew that she had a boyfriend before which she still loves/can't forget. And lately we stayed up all night chatting, when conversations turned even more sexual, like we played a game in which you are only allowed to say truth and yeah.. topics were pretty dirty. The point is that last night she asked me a question if there is a girl/girls at our school that i liked or had erotic fantasies about. So i said that there were two girls before, but lately I've been thinking only about one (and yeah, she is going to the same school). So she added a bonus question to that one, asking to tell her the names of these girls, because she wanted to know if my taste in women is good. So with a little bit of teasing and messing around i tell her two of the girls names, which i liked in the past. And yet she asks me about the last one and even though i let her know that i don't really want to tell her the name, she still convinces me to tell her the name. After i do that she says it's a bad that I do like her and that she is not ready for any new relationships, tells me about this guy who she was dating after the last one (the one who she still loves) and that the memories of that guy ruined the whole relationship and the guy got hurt pretty bad and that she is not going to do the same mistake again. And after this whole conversation, atleast from my perspective, everything got pretty cold.\n\nAnd the thing is that this girl is really awesome and I think that I really like her. What are your opinions on that and what should I do next?", "summary": "Met a girl, with which I chatted a lot on facebook, believed that she likes me. One time when chatting everything turn out that way that I told her that I like her and she tells me that shes not ready for a relationship after a horrible experience before and that she still loves her ex."}
{"id": "t3_517ak2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] partner [35 M] of almost 2 years, has a weight/body image problem and i dont know what to do", "post": "I am planning on moving into my partners house next year, things have been so good between us, we just work as a couple even though we don't have a predominantly sexual or romantic relationship. We are very affectionate with each other though and i think of him as my world. \nWhen we started dating he was definitely overweight but he was working on it and it was very intense and i felt like i had come into his life at a time when he was really trying to do something positive about his body, he wouldnt over eat, drink much and was seeing a personal trainer while working full time - after 6 months he had actually lost more than a quarter of himself which is actually quite allot. he was still big but not to any degree i had a problem with. \n\nthis year however, he has suffered through some heavy depression as well as i and he has put allot of his energy into helping me get through stuff. at some points though i was monitoring his diet and stuff (not in a wierd way just asking him what he was having for lunch) and i noticed that even though he was working 8 hour shifts standing up and moving around, eating small meals and just generally pushing himself, he was actually gaining weight?\nhe is now as big if not bigger than when we started dating? I think its simply the sugar in his diet and i confronted him on this and he pulled away from me. we havent spoken in two days now. \nI was addressing a concern i had regarding our long term future, like - will this be a problem in ten years? is this never going to be resolved for him and if so, do i have to make a decision based on that. \n  \nalso just to add - i never really had a problem with his weight so much, though i have learned how important and big a deal it is for him.", "summary": "really great relationship with partner but concerned about spending the rest of our lives together because of his weight and body image problems."}
{"id": "t3_39bqp5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not sure how I [28m] should feel about some things my girlfriend [26f] of 1.5 years has done recently.", "post": "So, long story short, my girlfriend and I have had a bit of a rough patch recently. (That part's not super important --  we've mostly worked it out, I think. Mainly resulted from some unrelated stress we were both going through, although we also argued about a few issues in our relationship.)\n\nWhat I'm asking about is this: I recently found out that during our \"rough patch,\" she invited a guy friend of hers over to hang out. Normally, that's fine, right? I have female friends, she has male friends, it's all cool. Except, A) it turns out this perfectly coincided with when her roommate was out of town, B) I have never met this guy, C) *He* just got out of a relationship, and D) before we were dating, he explicitly told my gf that he wanted to hook up with her. \n\nAnd I'm just confused about it all. They ended up just getting drinks together (she told me about it at the time), and then she came over to my place (drunk) afterwards. The thing is, though, while I knew B and D, I did not know details A or C. \n\nI don't have any proof that anything untoward happened, and my gf hasn't been acting off or anything, but I just feel weird about this. What do you think, reddit?", "summary": "During a rough patch, my girlfriend hung out with a guy who was into her, and told me about the hangout; she did *not* tell me, however, that he had just broken up with his gf, that her roommate was out of town, or that they were supposed to hang out at her house instead of the bar where they ended up going. Also, I've never met the guy."}
{"id": "t3_4uz8l1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with [24 F] 3 week Tindr date. Suspected gold digging.", "post": "So, I setup a Tindr profile and included things all about myself... including what I do for a living. Fast forward a week I get super liked by a girl and things carried on naturally. Well, we've been seeing eachother for 3 weeks now and went on ~9 dates during that time.\n\nEach one felt really nice, but as time went on I could just feel this weird vibe like she was forcing herself to be with me. But we'd keep going on these extravagant (read: expensive) dates and I was happy at least since I don't usually get much female attention. However, I can just tell when she's not 'in character' that she has next to no real interest in me. That is just what I believe, I can't say that that's the truth.\n\nWell, today she suggested we go out again tomorrow as she usually does. Since I'm just beat with work and am an introvert by nature I just wanted one night in and said I'd like it if she came to my apartment instead. She usually replies instantly and there has been just radio silence all day. Immediately the first thought that comes to mind is \"Oh she was just using me for expensive dates\" since she is obviously against just spending time with me.\n\nWhat do you guys think and also do you have any similar experiences? I could just be a boring unlikable person (which doesn't sound far off), but I'm also suspecting she just wanted all the nice free stuff that came along with seeing me. I'm also thinking about hiding my job position from the next girl I date so they can't just google my salary. Any other tips and should I just delete her number and move on?", "summary": "Things were going great with a girl until I suggested a non-monetary date"}
{"id": "t3_2pz8nv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for keeping my cumsock under bedsheet.", "post": "I am from a conservative muslim family. It is getting really cold in our country so this evening dad came in my room with more heavy bedding to put on my bed.\n\nI told him to leave them on table and I will spread them on bed before sleeping. Dad insisted that I am lazy and he will help me do it. Negotiations in process and he went ahead and pulled sheets off bed AND there it is my cumsock worth 2 months of dried semen. Smell spread into whole room like wildfire. I jumped from my chair to cover it with new beddings but it was too late.\n\nDad awkwardly helped me with making bed in total silence. We havent talked from 2 hours. He regret his decision and I too for not throwing it out on first place.", "summary": "I am a wanker in my dad's eye from today."}
{"id": "t3_2yz2cp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My mum can't speak English, and is illiterate - what jobs are available for her?", "post": "Hello reddit. I'm curious as to what the anons of the interwebs might have to suggest.\n\nI'm in my final semester of uni, would love to live/work/travel abroad after I graduate, and generally would like life experience away from home  (i.e living independently). \n\nDear mother is illiterate in both her native tongue and English, but can speak very basic English (enough to do the shopping, have a short and simple conversation with people), so is very reliant on me. She's currently on government benefits. She's always complaining about her bad eye sight.\n\nQuestion is - what type of jobs would be available for her? Is there anything she can do to survive independently if I were to move out?", "summary": "Dear mother not literate in English or native tongue, what are some plausible job options for her to make a living to survive on her own?"}
{"id": "t3_q0vbg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend has a 9 year old. Every year the local PUBLIC school sends all 5th graders on an overnight trip to a Christian camp where there is praying/worship.  We want to end this for all children and provide the school with better options. Reddit, how should we go about this?", "post": "This is the camp's mission statement.\n\n\"YMCA Camp Thunderbird has a long and rich history in the YMCA. We believe that YMCA Camping has the capacity to transform young lives in many ways. With such a concentrated amount of time, a pristine natural environment and campers being surrounded by positive role models, the combination is perfect for enhancing lives and building positive character traits.\n\nIt is our goal to help children to make the connection between God, nature and daily life. With our beautiful camp and great learning environment, we are well equipped to help children make this connection.\n\nThe YMCA of Greater Charlotte welcomes children of all faiths as well as no faith at all. Our goal is to be the most welcoming, inclusive organization anywhere. As we live out the \"Christian mission\" of our YMCA, it is our hope that each child would feel their own great value as a child of God, as a result of their camping experience. It is our desire that each child would know of God's great love for all people. We celebrate the individual value and accomplishments of each child and expect our leaders to be not only strong role model, but spiritual encouragers.\n\nWe are all children of God, and at Camp we have a unique opportunity to explore what that means, in a safe, supportive and enriching environment. We look forward to sharing life-long experiences with your child while growing in spirit, mind and body at YMCA Camp Thunderbird. \"\n\nWe really want to give them other options that will make all kids feel welcome without alienating his son. I know what its like to be told \"I can't hang out with you because your parents don't take you to church every Sunday.", "summary": "5th grade public school sends all kids to bible camp, we want different options to give to school so they don't have to go to this camp while not compromising child's social life and/or just general ways to handle the situation."}
{"id": "t3_3rss2j", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(FL) Ex-girlfriend cashed a check, will I be sent to collections?", "post": "Here's the story. I went to the dentist over a year ago to extract my wisdom tooth. At the time, I was with my, then, girlfriend who was our policy holder. The destist advised us that a check would be sent in the mail to us and that we would have to give them that check as payment. (They didn't charge me at the time since it would have been $400+ and they were really nice) Time passed and we finally received the check, but we were in the process of moving. In that process, the check got lost and was forgotten. Some time ago, the dentist began to call me asking for payment, which I had forgotten about. I was still with my ex at the time. \n\nI advised the dentist that I would call the insurance and get another check sent out so that they could get paid. During the time period that the check was being sent, my ex and I officially ended our relationship. \n\nToday, I remembered the check and realized that I had not received it yet. Worried, I called the insurance and asked where it was. They told me that it was cashed by my ex since the check was under her name. (Her being the policy holder, of course it would be.) I contacted the dentist and explained all of this to them, but they couldn't give me a definite answer and who would be sent to collections. I gave them my ex's number so that they could possibly scare her in to payment, but I know she won't.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend cashed a check for payment needed for a dentist and wondering who they would send to collections. "}
{"id": "t3_19ufda", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do you show someone you like them without eventually smothering them or coming across as clingy?", "post": "2 months ago, I (m 28) met a girl (f 29). We went on 6 dates, the last being her finally inviting me over her apartment for a night of board games, wine and good times.  \n\nIn the midst of conversation she reviews her dating history and states that over the last year and a half she's seen a range of guys but never made anything official because they all at some point \"smothered her\". She saw a lot of these guys within a range of 3-5 months.  \n\nIn that same conversation she stated that she hadn't met any guys that she liked enough to make time for over and around her friends. As she said this she laughed and stated that I was an obvious exception. (She travels for work and is around only on the weekends and since we've met I've gotten at least 1 or 2 of those days.) She and I get along really well and her friends have all expressed that she really likes me. However, I'm admittedly a little concerned over letting my personal feelings grow over time, so I, like those before me, don't come across as \"smothering\". I'd hate to scare her away just because I started liking her more than I already do. \n\nSo I find myself with a difficult task of trying to show this girl that I like her without coming across as clingy or smothering.  As it stands, we're not a couple but we're definitely dating (considering we've already made plans to get together for at least the next two weeks). Usually when we're both out, we text at the end of the night to meetup. I'm careful not to always initiate this because of the smothering potential. I let it be her idea so she can't say I'm getting clingy...but honestly I'd like to initiate sometimes so she doesn't think I'm just along for the ride.", "summary": "I want it to be known that I really like this girl who travels for work and makes time with me every weekend she's here that I've been on 6 dates with. However I want to do so without coming across as smothering, like her last few exes (The smothering is what caused her to dump them)."}
{"id": "t3_2cdfe6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would you wait 5 years for the love of your life? I am [28 F] moving across the country for school and not sure if it's fair to ask my bf [28 M] of 1 year to wait for me", "post": "So the length of our relationship is complicated... I've known him for over 4 years and we've always been very close, but we've technically only been a \"couple\" for about 1 of those years because of both of us having personal issues that kept us apart (basically he was dealing with alcoholism and I didn't want to be around him when he was drunk all the time, but he's been sober for years now and I've learned to trust him again). \n\nAfter I found out I was accepted into a great program for school was also the same time that I realized that I am actually really serious about this person and I want to have a future with him! Like, we would be married already if it wasn't for me moving away... He's really serious about me, and he's trying to be supportive about me leaving but I know he's worried that it means it's over.\n\nMaking the decision to leave and not just stay with him has been really painful, and now that I've decided to put my education first, I'm not sure where that leaves us. It might be possible that he could join me in 2 years, but not earlier than that because of his own career commitments.", "summary": "i'm moving across the country for school, and i'm not sure if it's fair to ask the love of my life to wait 5 years for me to return, or what we should do?"}
{"id": "t3_2m9pqm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF [32/F] of 5 months just broke with me [26/M]. Saying \"it just stopped working\"", "post": "We had a conversation at the end of September, the future was discussed and I freaked out a little bit. Freaked out because of what I might say to ruin it and by that I meant that I saw her in my future. We threw the around the idea of moving in together.\nAt the beginning of October we had 2 drunk arguments which were my fault.\nI have some issues with how I control my words when I'm drunk and emotions are involved. I'm working on this.\n\nHow do you get over a stale relationship? I feel like I've been a husk...a shell of my former self for the last 6 weeks as I knew it was coming to an end.\n\nOur last messages to each other were lovely and I'm going to leave it that way.\n\nBest way to describe is that I feel like that guy on the beach in Saving Private Ryan walking around looking for his arm. Obviously his situation in reality was worse.", "summary": "how do you reclaim yourself after a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_30ql2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M]with a best friend/sister like[18F] \"possible progress\" problem.", "post": "Hello, I think it's important to point out that I'm not your typical \"senior year high school\" guy. I tend to, maybe not stand out, but I'm defnitely different from the others. My town is pretty small, and most people listen to rap, while I'm one of the few who listens to heavier stuff like metal, however I also like Eminem! The point is, I don't really have that many friends, tho the ones I have are great. I'm also pretty shy, which surprises many people because I usually wear full black, with heavy boots and sometimes chains hanging out of my belt.\n\nI have this best friend, she's like a little sister to me, and I'm like a brother to her. We know each other for almost 4 years now. I'm pretty sure she had a crush on me, while I had on her, but on different \"stages\" per say. Many people would often confuse us as a couple, because we acted like one, without kissing, having an intercourse and so on, that's not to say we hadn't had a sleepover. We do a lot of things together,  sometimes even catch ourselves finishing each others senteces, or say the same thing at the same time. Her parents like me so much they lent me a key to their house so I could surprise her with her best(girl)friend on her birthday. Now, my crush has started after 2 years of our friendship, then it kind of disappeared, but started to take effect about a month-two ago. Yet I'm not sure if I should talk to her about it, since her crush \"time\" I believe has long since ended. She didn't talk to me about hers, and I don't think I have the guts to talk about mine. It's a weird situation for me, as I've never really had to deal with those things, because..well, I'm only 19. I'd really appreciate any suggestions, if I should lay everything on the table, if I should forget about it and keep what's at the moment..I'm in a pinch!", "summary": "I'm 19, shy, not your normal guy, who recently \"fell\" again for his bestfriend, little sister like girl, that I know for four years, but have no idea how to come about it."}
{"id": "t3_3zpkc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31m] girlfriend [28f] isn't happy about the hours I work", "post": "I support a guy with learning disabilities in his home. Because of the nature of the work, the hours are unconventional. Usually I'll work 24 hours a time, sleeping there for the night. Due to money being tight at the moment, I try to work occasional overtime, however I try to avoid sleeping in more then 3 or 4 times a week.\n\nI live with my girlfriend. We have been together for nearly 2 years and have lived together for 6 months. She claims that I put everything before her because of the overtime. Pretty much whenever I'm not at work, I'm at home. If I'm not at home, I'm at the gym or somewhere with her. \n\nI don't want to break up, but she keeps using this as an excuse to do so, even though we always end up making up. The overtime isn't the only issue, the 24 hour shifts are as well.\n\nI need advice on this and it's really getting to me.", "summary": "girlfriend keeps arguing with me about my working hours"}
{"id": "t3_4jvbb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She (25f) broke up with me (26m) , what now.", "post": "We were together for 7 years and tonight it ended;  I am very surprised to say the least. \n\nThe reasons she gave me were so contradictory to what I thought she felt that I'm still in shock. \nI've told her that marriage and children are things I do not desire but have not totally wrote off  and she has always said she felt the same way. \nWell tonight  apparently  she wants to get married and have children and their is no longer a future with me.  \n\nI'm more hurt than sad since she never tried to talk about it with me but it's too late now. \nAt this point I'm looking for tips on how to start healing since I've been in a relationship my entire adult life and have no idea how to be alone.", "summary": "Got dumped after 7 years,  need advice on how to manage."}
{"id": "t3_ovlrv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you catch a Phantom Pooper?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I've been a lurker for quite some time now, but I've finally made an account to post about a problem that I'm hoping some of you might have ideas how to solve. Read on at your own risk -- it's pretty gross.\n\nI'm a Resident Advisor in one of the residence halls at my university, and we've recently been having a problem with a bathroom on one of the floors. Some mystery resident (aka the Phantom Pooper) keeps using the restroom, and when finished, the Phantom Pooper decides to smear their poop on the toilet seat and the walls around the toilet. They even draw pictures with it, I kid you not. The worst part? This has happened **20 DIFFERENT TIMES**. And yet, this person has somehow managed to never have been caught in the act.\n\nThe doors of the restroom are locked 24/7 except to those who live on the floor, so unless somebody is giving their key away to another person, the culprit has to be somebody who lives on that floor. The phantom pooping has occurred at varying times of day -- sometimes late at night, and other times right smack-dab in the middle of the afternoon. Everybody is beginning to point fingers at who they personally think the culprits are, and the floor is slowly turning to chaos. Obviously we can't put video cameras in the bathrooms, and unfortunately, we aren't allowed to restrict access to the bathrooms in any way. We're fresh out of ideas on how to solve this issue, and it's becoming frustrating.\n\nSo I pose to question to you Reddit: How can we catch/stop the phantom pooper? Any ideas?", "summary": "Someone keeps smearing poop on the walls in our dorm. How can we catch him/her?"}
{"id": "t3_2246vj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone who's into fitness be attracted to someone who's not particularly athletic?", "post": "I [F20s] recently started talking to a guy [20s] online and we really seem to hit it off. However, simply put, he's really into fitness and I'm not super athletic. I'm nervous about meeting him in person because I'm afraid he won't find me physically attractive.\n\nLet me clarify, I am not obese or extremely overweight; I have some curves and a bit of tummy squish but overall I'm very proportioned and have never had trouble getting dates or having guys find me attractive. I'm just not toned-- I have an ass and hips but I'm generally happy with my figure except for a few problem areas. \n\nI've started to try and fix  those problem areas by adding work outs into my routine. I'm definitely not trying to change for him, I just happened to meet him at this particular moment in my life when I decided to get healthy and fit for myself. \n\nMy whole point is this-- is it likely that a guy who's into fitness can be attracted to a girl who isn't particularly toned? Is my slight squish a problem?", "summary": "I met this guy online that I'm worried about meeting in person because he's into fitness and I'm a little squishy (not toned), but overall proportioned and relatively attractive. Will this be a problem?"}
{"id": "t3_qjzrf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most profound thing you've overheard?", "post": "Gimme the goods, Reddit, what's something profound you happened to hear while dropping eaves?\n\nHere's mine:\n\nMy parents were visiting me at school this weekend. The weather was terrible, so all we did was drink and eat. On Saturday night, while killing time in a bar waiting for a dinner reservation, my dad started talking to an old man who happened to be a Vietnam War vet. My dad never talks about his experiences to anyone who doesn't have a military background, so while my mom and boyfriend were giggling and drinking, I had an ear turned towards my dad's conversation. The most he's ever told me about his time in the service was in the 6th grade for a report, and that was a stiff and uncomfortable experience. After talking about building firebases, having bleeding and cracked feet during monsoon season, and all sorts of awe inspiring things I'd never heard him breathe a word of, he told the old man that one of his buddies, who was black (and died in Vietnam), told him:\n\n> You'll know what it's like to be a nigger when you go back home.\n\nSure enough, all the stories my mom told me about my dad being spit on, and having to dig ditches because no one would hire veterans suddenly slid in to place. I've always had a huge amount of respect for my dad for never being racist, despite being caught right in the middle of the civil rights movement (we're talking about a guy who has a foot long scar down his side from being randomly stabbed with a box cutter in his high school for being white), but goddamn. This is something that'll stick with me for the rest of my life.", "summary": "Heard my dad liken his experience as a veteran to being black during the civil rights movement, hit me like a bag of bricks."}
{"id": "t3_1tc6fb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to quit the band I'm in, what's the best way to handle this situation?", "post": "So I'm a guitar player in a metal band. I've been in the band for about a year now and it's been really fun, but lately I just don't see it going anywhere and I am getting increasingly annoyed by my bandmates. The reason I joined was because the old guitarist who was an original member quit and they needed a new guitarist/songwriter. Since the time I've been in the band, we've gone through 2 drummers and our current drummer is alright, but he's very young and still not quite at the right skill level. Our singer is the only original member, so it's like \"his band\" but to be honest, he seems to care the least about everything. He's completely ignorant about music and about equipment and he really brings nothing to the table since he is consistently broke and not a very bright dude.\n\nThis is where the situation gets sticky. I currently live with the bass player, we have an apartment together and our lease is up in September. Our friendship is basically based off the band, so I'm afraid that if I quit, he's going to be mega pissed at me. I would try to explain how I feel about the whole situation to him but he's kind of stubborn and I predict he will throw a shit fit about the whole thing.\n\nI've worked my ass off holding this band together and I just don't see the point anymore when it's mainly me doing all the work. I do most of the writing, the band uses my van to transport gear, so that means that I am always the one driving and responsible for loading/unloading. A lot of the time I'll get fucked over by one or more of the other guys in the band and have to unload all the gear with just one other person, while the other guys go out to another show or to a bar.\n\nSorry for the wall of text, just looking for some advice to handle this situation as best as possible so I can stay friends with these guys.", "summary": "I want to quit the band I'm in currently but I live with the bass player and don't want ruin our friendship because of it."}
{"id": "t3_10eivi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when did you feel really proud of your country/countrymen?", "post": "Today I learned Charlie Hebdo (the French journal which published caricatures of Mahomet) has decided to publish two forms of their journal. Answering those who called them irresponsible for putting at risk French lives, the journal is publishing a \"Responsible Journal\" and an \"Irresponsible Journal\" -basically saying fuck you, we say what we want. This makes me very proud a French media has the balls to actually stand up for liberty of speech -or liberty of money. So yeah proud to be French today, though it's kinda stereotypical to be proud being French x) When did you specially feel proud of your nationality?", "summary": "French journal stands up for free speech, -> proud to be French"}
{"id": "t3_2z9qm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] best friend [19 F] feels 'stuck' in an unhappy relationship with her boyfriend [20 M] of 3 years", "post": "My best friend, \"Anna\" and her boyfriend \"Bill\" have been together for 3 years. Bill comes from a rather broken home and he quit school early to work and get a place of his own. \n\nLong story short, he partied too much and eventually ended up having money problems and losing his apartment. He went to live with his mom for a short while but since they don't really get along and she has money problems as well, he ended up moving into Anna's house. Fast forward about a year, he's still living with them, totally free. So basically, he has become dependent on her family.\n\nAnna has come to the conclusion that it's best to end the relationship, for many different reasons I won't go into but she simply doesn't see a future with him. But she worries that the breakup would ruin his life/future.\n\n* He would not have a place to stay\n* He could not afford his own place\n* He would likely end up with debt trying to get an apartment\n* He already has some amount of debt he's been trying to pay\n\nAnd then there's the fact that she bought a trip for them to Spain this summer, and it could be hard to get refund for his ticket or sell it. She's considered breaking up with him a few weeks after the trip.\n\nDespite the problems they have, she loves him and doesn't want him to end up broke, in debt and homeless. He can't even have his own car after losing his license for DUI.\n\nI really want to give her good advice but I don't have a clue what to say to her. I really want to help her because I know she is not happy in this relationship.", "summary": "My best friend wants to break up with her boyfriend, is afraid it would affect his life too much"}
{"id": "t3_hiu0l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ex asks me to be guarantor for tenancy - what would reddit do?", "post": "I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard jaggy uncomfortable place right now, and looking for a little advice from fellow redditors.\n\nMy ex and I have been divorced for about four years now.  We'd been married for over ten years and had three wonderful kids when she left and started a relationship with a woman she'd met.  At first things were very amicable, however over time I found her partner to be emotionally controlling and distanced myself from them while remaining cordial.  Somewhere along the line my ex decided she would stop my sons from seeing me, much to both my sons and my distress, which resulted in me going to court and racking up solicitor bills over the course of a year to get a contact order.\n\nLately her partner has been stressed out and doesn't want the kids in her house any more.  My ex found a house to let but asked me to be guarantor.  From everything I've read, this sounds like a terrible idea, not to mention the fact this is someone I obviously can't trust given their history, so I say no.  She manages to find another person to act as guarantor but has discovered the day before she's due to move in that they can't do it, so asks me again.  If she doesn't find someone she'll apparently lose her deposit.\n\nReddit, am I right to continue to refuse here?  I'm getting abusive texts from her partner telling me I've got a responsibility to my sons to do this, which is just the sort of s**t I'd expect from her.  My sons can always stay with me, I'd obviously never allow them be homeless... but I don't think it's right that my ex expects me to continue to underwrite her life after all that's happened?", "summary": "ex of four years wants me to sign as guarantor on property let, I don't want to but feeling pressured to do so. Am I right to stick to my guns?"}
{"id": "t3_s364i", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit has become really mean.", "post": "So I've recently got the internet hooked up in my new apartment, which I live in with my girlfriend. Since doing so I've spent most of my time when not working, on reddit. Ignoring my SO while doing so. So she was complaining saying \"Now you're never going to pay any attention to me\" and half jokingly I said \"well if you're on the front page of reddit I will\".\n\n   She took this to heart made an account and a rage comic to try and do so, surprisingly it worked I noticed it and it meant a lot that she cared enough to do so. But she got really upset by the comments, people telling her she was probably not a girl, a karma whore, she should feel bad for making such a bad comic ect. I tried to explain that it was just a bunch of but-hurt bitches who cared about fake internet points a little too much but she said she didn't want to go on reddit anymore. \n\n   So I just wanted to make this self post to say fuck you all you fucking karma caring losers for scaring away a new reddit user that could have made a lot of you laugh with future comics and stories.\nAlso Thank you all of you who upvoted and said nice things of encouragement that also got her to the front page.\n\n   \n  One of the reasons I liked reddit so much when I first came here was the nice helpful community, it seems the community had changed into a bunch of little karma mining little-dicks. I'll stay because I know what reddit can be, but she wont and she might of even posted a picture to gonewild if she wasn't treated so badly for a comic(that quite frankly I've seen so many comics of people just ranting about shit in a comic just to get karma and no one says anything, those are far worse then her funny little story)", "summary": "gf made an account and comic that was popular and was offended by all the mean comments, now doesn't want to come to reddit anymore."}
{"id": "t3_nh86z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can I stop myself from being so judgemental?  I swear it's getting worse ...", "post": "I try to live my life seeing the good in others, and in fact have a reputation for being 'too nice'.  I'm quick to trust, give people a second chance, and I'm happy with being that way.  But, I'm seeing myself making quick conclusions along the lines of:\n\nFat?  You must have bad hygiene, a low sense of worth and a general innability to control yourself.\n\nPoor grammer?  If you don't care about how you are perceived in text ...\n\nMildy chavvy?  No time.\n\nSo, I either need to know how to curb this before I become a miserly old git that hates people, or, learn to trust my instincts and be happy not conversing with fat chavvy folk that cannot spell, which actually sounds pretty sensible. \n\nAny sensible thoughts on the matter?", "summary": "I'm becoming more selective with people, and more inclined to judge as I get older.  Normal, or the sign of advancing Scrooge-ness?"}
{"id": "t3_zur26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife [26] here.  Just found an odd text between Hubby [31] and guy he plays an MMO with... HELP!", "post": "We've been married for two years.  Just recently had a new baby (and 2 year old) Hubby has problems with gaming addiction.  We've had fights about the game and the nights he's spent staying up and gaming.  This guy he's talking to has caused fights for us because hubby gets defensive about him (the guy can do no wrong because he's NEVER met anyone he's had so much in common with).\n\nHow would you interpret this message session?\n\nHUBBY: sorry I had to jump off earlier. lots of shit happening today. Fucking car is broken down now. could just be the battery but I'm no mechanic. When it rains it pours. 7:56 PM\nOTHER DUDE: Yes it doea 8:06 PM\nOTHER DUDE: You did fall for me however 8:24 PM\nHUBBY: not sure how to take that one lol. 8:40 PM\nOTHER DUDE: Yeah mt lol 8:40 PM\nHUBBY: lol. at least I got google voice so I cant text 8:42 PM\nOTHER DUDE: Lol 8:43 PM", "summary": "Is my husband having a gay MMO affair??  Also, it will be hard for me to check up on this, but I will do so as often as I can..."}
{"id": "t3_3ex39z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend of 6 years is afraid to date because she's afraid of breaking up and us going our separate ways.", "post": "This girl and i have been very good friends for many years. We know everything about each other. We are going into our senior year of high school and we have recently become more than just friends when I asked her to prom and we hooked up on prom night. Ever since then we've been hooking up and spending most of our time with each other. We are really really close. She told me that she's always had feelings for me, and i told her that I've always had feeling for her. Lately, we've been talking about where things are going between us. I really want to date her because i really care about her and i want to be able to call her mine. She told me that she also want to date me, but is hesitant because she is afraid that someday we will have to face a break up (due to us going to different colleges next year, or maybe things just don't work out). She says that if we ever broke up, things would never be the same between us and it would be difficult for us to be friends again. I really really care about this woman and i know that she really care about me. I would almost even call it love.\n\n**Help me out reddit. How can i show her that it's okay for us to date and that there is nothing to be afraid of? How can i show her that things will work out?", "summary": "My best friend of many years and i have had feeling for each other this whole time. We recently became more than just friends and now are basically in love. She is afraid to date because she values me as a friend too much and is afraid that someday we will face a break up. She wants me in her life forever. How do i show her that it's okay for us to date and that things will work out?"}
{"id": "t3_3ut466", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my ex [25 F] 3 months, Mixed signals", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo my ex broke up with me several months ago, remained friends, and began dating somebody else. Since the breakup, there have been several extended periods of no contact (about a month each) on my end, but she usually seems to find a way to come back into my life. I got her into biking, since I was an avid biker. She signs up for long bike race about a 1.5 months after the breakup and we begin training together. We enjoy each others company and get along very well when together, it seemed pretty clear we cared about each other. She seemed very hot and cold, like we would bike together several times one week, then not at all for the next. I would ask her to hang out and do something else, and she would be very non-committal or cancel on me more often than not. I would get frustrated and swear off talking to her, but she would always apologize and act like she needed my support. She would send late night texts in which she would discuss how scared or nervous she was about the upcoming race. I played cheerleader, as thats what I felt a friend would do.\n\n After the race, I distanced myself, unfollowed her on various social media (again) and didn't have any contact for about another month, but she saw I got a new truck on social media and reached out and we began talking again. She's now single. Haven't physically seen her in about 2 months. She wants to have dinner and get some \"life advice\" from me. I reconciled my feelings a long time ago and am happy with the way things are, but would be open to getting back together. My question is, why did she reach out to me for support instead of her (at the time) boyfriend? Why does she come to me for \"life advice\" instead of other friends or family? WHY ME? It feels a bit like I'm getting used, but why would she want to go out of her way to see me in person rather than ask for advice over text or phone call? How do I interpret this? How to I broach the subject of getting back together? Tell her I miss her?", "summary": "Ex goes hot and cold, there is clearly chemistry and its clear I care about her. Reaches out to me for support and the like and now wants to meet up after an extended period of no contact. How should I interpret this and possibly bring up getting back together?"}
{"id": "t3_27hged", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] cannot figure out if I should live with my current roommate [23/M] or a friend [21/F] that I betrayed.", "post": "A few months ago my roommate (Sean) and I had a falling out because I started dating his ex-girlfriend (they broke up in high school, besides that's not what this is about). During this time he noted that he had no interest in renewing our lease (which runs out at the end of July) and wanting to ensure that I'd had a place to live I talked to a couple friends of mine and ended up having a tentative place to live if need be, with a girl named Sarah. Time has past and since then the damage between my roommate and I has healed and everything is back to normal, we're even looking to sign a two year lease!\n\nNow perhaps I should have been more upfront about what was going on with Sean and updated Sarah as things improved, but that ship has long since sailed. I told Sarah about a week and a half ago that I didn't want to move. I don't drive, but I am thankful enough to currently live downtown and right next to a transportation hub at that. My friends actually come and park at our apartment before we go downtown - I'm centrally located to everything is my point. Sean would like to keep living here, as would I, but that leaves Sarah in a predicament of possibly being homeless.\n\nSarah wants her, her friend, and I to get an apartment on the edge of town as she refuses to live downtown (my tentative plan). While it should just be as simple as her and the friend (Steve) getting a two bedroom unit, that wouldn't work. According to Sarah, Steve has always had a crush on her and \"every time [they] hangout he wants to cuddle.\" He's creepy, but unfortunately she cannot find someone else to take his or my spot this close to the the deadline.\n\nTherein lies my issue. I'd like to continue living where I am now as my social and business life is literally next door, but at the same time I cannot help but feel responsible for Sarah's current predicament given that I didn't tell her as soon as possible and would rather not have her living with a guy who has probably ended up on r/creepypms", "summary": "Will update, have to leave for work."}
{"id": "t3_ups5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF wants kids sooner then I would like them...", "post": "I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide...\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate...which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost", "summary": "Gf wants kids soon, I dont, and she doesn't want to wait around. She can't decide to stay or leave"}
{"id": "t3_19rvgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] feel trapped!", "post": "I [21f] feel trapped with my SO [26m], and I am not sure how to go about becoming untrapped.\n\nWe have been together for 3 years. We met in college and he is my first real boyfriend, but I am definitely not his first girlfriend. In fact, he hasnt been single since he was 13 pretty much, which should have been a red flag but of course I was in the \" I am different and can change him\" mindframe. Whatever. I have come to the conclusion that he clearly isnt going to change. He is very self-centered and set in his way. I should add that I am a social worker and he is a racist, bigoted bastard. I have an African-American friend who recently sent me an invitation to her wedding and he said he thought it was a \"help stop aids\" flyer. He is a douche. He is like a child. I spend most of my free time cleaning up after him and doing his laundry, etc. He is 26 yrs. old and can't even write a check out for himself. I know you are now asking yourself well you should obviously leave. My problem is I am originally from another state and came here for college and have 0 friends or family in my area to go to, and I dont make enough money to live on my own. He pays all of my bills and everything so I don't have to worry about that right now. To top it all off he is very unpredictable when he gets mad so I am a little afraid to stay with him until I would be able to move out. If anyone has any advise I would greatly appreciate it. I am sorry if I have left out any key information. I am not sure how to leave him and if anyone has any suggestions I would appreciate it.", "summary": "My [21f] SO [26m] of 3 years is an a-hole and I dont have the financial ability to leave."}
{"id": "t3_2ws0pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[m23] called my SO[f20] a bitch last night", "post": "I jokingly said \"you don't do anything\" after I put our son to sleep, and she got pissed. She started arguing and tossing empty bottles at the wall, and after repeatedly asking her to stop I said \"you're a stupid ass bitch.\" I feel ashamed that I let those words slip my mouth, but they stopped the argument completely. She started cleaning the apartment, something I've been asking her to do since I work 14 to 18  hours a day and spend the few hours I have helping with our newborn. Afterwards, she was as happy as could be, and even this morning she looked excited and ready to face the day. I still feel bad, but I'm confused by her behavior. When we usually argue I try to agree with her and it explodes in face, but I called the worst thing I could think of and she reacted positively? I mean I'm glad the argument ended, I just don't like the means I used. Should I use it more often? Did I set myself up for something? What does it mean?", "summary": "Called my SO a bitch out of anger, and got a positive reaction?"}
{"id": "t3_2tryiq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By playing Bowling for the first time in my life.", "post": "Well me and a group of friends went in a store to play billiard after we completed our games they told me man lets go play bowling. I was all like no i dont want and i have never played it before, fast fordward they convice me to play first 2 shots i get nothing second 2 shots nothing and my faill goes on. \nimagine me now i sit there with 2 other people that own me in the game the store is full and i try to find a way to beat them BAM i think that i am left handed and all this time i play with my right fucking hand.\n\nNOPE not good idea. i try my left hand and guess what i almost got a strike...in area next to ours that others people where playing.\nmy friends then like good friends began the rain of the laughs and with them pretty much the whole store. \n\ni will never play this game again.", "summary": "Got an \"Almost\" Strike in bowling but in the wrong area. people laughed"}
{"id": "t3_3mxdgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Introverts: How do you explain to your SO that you need alone time?", "post": "I'm (23 F) in a relationship with a guy (25 M) who loves to spend time together. He sleeps over as much as possible and is constantly communicating with me otherwise. I've been able to keep up with this for a few months but he recently went on a trip where we didn't have contact with each other for a couple of weeks and it was completely freeing not to have to constantly well, talk.\n\nI've always been an introvert but it feels like I've been keeping up this extrovert-faux for the last few months and I'm just realizing now how draining it has been. \n\nHow do I tell my boyfriend I need more 'time alone' without it being taken out of context and him taking it personally?", "summary": "bf wants to spend a lot of time together but I find it very draining."}
{"id": "t3_zd514", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "NC landlord isn't returning security deposit. What can I do?", "post": "Okay, so this stoner landlord is very low key and casual. He has cut me deals in the past because he didn't do what was asked or left me in unfit living conditions. My old roommate punched a hole in a door and he said he wouldn't worry about the cost on the security deposit because of... something, I honestly can't remember. This made me see that I can't just take things easy. The main detail is that it's been past the thirty days allowed by NC law since my lease concluded and he hasn't given me my deposit back or a detail of what it was spent on. What can I do legally to fix this situation since he didn't do his due diligence?", "summary": "Landlord hasn't paid me back my security deposit in NC, what can I do legally?"}
{"id": "t3_4dlalz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] Just broke up with my partner of 2 months [20/F] - Have I done the right thing?", "post": "Hi r/Relationship_Advice. \n\nSo, on Monday night I decided to end my relationship with my girlfriend of 2 months.\n\nI had been thinking about ending things for about a week or so now after doubts about whether my heart was really in it started to creep in. \n\nIt was my first *serious* relationship and although we had only been together for 2 months things things had accelerated really quickly, too quickly for me, & I honestly felt overwhelmed by the intensity of the relationship. \n\nI am a self confessed introvert and I am so used to living on my own so being plunged into a relationship was a big change for me to try and deal with - I felt suffocated.\n\nI genuinely and truly loved her and I still believe I have feelings for her but I was beginning to feel like I couldn't give the same level of commitment as her and I didn't feel it was fair of me to lead her on knowing I didn't see it lasting.\n\nI have tried my best to explain my situation it to her but I don't think she quite understands it - and maybe you guys won't either. I was just wanting to know if I had done the right thing in ending it when I did..\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Didn't see the relationship going anywhere & I didn't want to lead her on, was I right to end the relationship sooner rather than later?"}
{"id": "t3_1u1mou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long distance girlfriend (19f) of 4 months broke up with me (19m) a few nights ago and things are getting confusing.", "post": "Okay so me and this girl had been going out for 4 months. The other night out of blue she broke up with me because she says she cant do the distance, since next semester it will get harder due to her getting her license suspended for a year. She says her brain told her to leave but her heart wants her to stay. I made it clear I want to stay together, because we are perfect together.\n\nDespite breaking up with me she wants to remain really good friends and she wants to continue talking all the time. Last night we talked for 3 and a half hours about everything. We both cried a lot throughout the conversation, because we both know how much we mean to each other. We also felt good when talking to each other though too. She said it would be so hard for her if we couldn't talk, but she doesn't want to get back together. She thinks we can get over each other while still being able to talk to each other. I think that there's a humongous chunk of her that wants us to get back together.\n\nI feel better today than I have for the past two days, but I don't know if it's because I genuinely feel better or because there's a part of me saying that we will get back together. I want to get back together and I know a part of her does too she even admitted it. \n\nI don't know what to do. Can someone please give me some guidance?", "summary": "Me and my ex are still talking despite the break up and it makes things confusing."}
{"id": "t3_13czci", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Only tightening up on one side of my body after 4 months. Other side doesn't even look like it's changed. Any help?", "post": "22\n6\"\nabout 191 lbs.\nWorkout: MWF push,pull, leg, core 5x5. End with bicep/shoulder shrugs, and then push ups and dips till I can't move my arms anymore. \nFinish that up with 30 minutes of cardio or HIIT. \n\n[IMG]\n\nBeen sticking to a workout/diet schedule for the past four months. \nHave went from 202 to 191(it fluctuates, but that happens). I've also went from a 40 to 36 in the waist. \n\nWhile I'm making progress, it only seems to be on my left side. I noticed that one side was shrinking faster than the first, but figured it would even out soon enough. As you can see from the picture, not so. \n\nI'm aware that you can't spot reduce fat, but I've never seen other progress pics with people who had this problem. Am I doing something wrong? I mean, I would argue my right side is actually the stronger arm/shoulder/what have you, so I don't think I'm favoring that side to the other.", "summary": "Look weird. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_1dxr7r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost eating moldy bread...", "post": "Technically yesterday but I was too baked to type/stay functional.\nSo anyways, yesterday I had my last of 6 finals and decided appropriate celebration was necessary, so I called up some of my friends to go smoke some weed.  After smoking, of course, came the munchies, and I didn't have much in my room except for some burger buns, but since I am baked and have the munchies, I figure, hey, why not?  So I go up to my room and grab the buns and bring it back down to my friend's room where I begin to open it, until one of my friends says, \"Dude, why are the buns green and fuzzy?\"  I look down, and to my horror, my buns look more like dead tribbles than burger buns, and realization settles in.  I had had those buns since SPRING BREAK (aka 2 months ago), and had been letting them sit in my room since then.  The nauseating idea of almost eating tribble buns nearly made me throw up, but I was able to groggily throw them away before I gave myself a trip to the hospital.", "summary": "Got high, tried to eat some burger buns, turned out the mold made them look like tribbles :P"}
{"id": "t3_3oh3z2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22m] with my GF [21F] of 1.5 years, can't handle I want to crossdress", "post": "So my GF and I have been dating for about 1.5 years and about 9 months into our relationship I told her I crossdress. This is something that I had done before I met her, and I felt like it was time to be more open with her and let her know this side of me if we were going to move forward.\n When I told her I wouldn't she freaked out, but she got very confused and upset. We have had multiple long talks about this and she is worried about me changing. She has told me how she wants the me she fell in love with, not someone that she doesn't know. She is most scared of me saying I want to become a women even though I say I don't.\nWe have made some progress, she is okay with me wearing panties around her and even finds it mildly attractive. However, she is convinced if I am given a free range I will change into something that is not \"her guy\". \nI believe this is an issue of her not being able to trust me, even though she does in everything else, which is frustrating to me. She also would like me to experiment with everything possibly feminine so I can find out what I want and then she will decide if she's okay with that. This is were I get very frustrated as its not possible to systematically eliminate all things that she might not be okay with, and hurts because she doesn't trust me.\n\nAm I being unreasonable for wanting her to trust me on this? I know I can't give her a definite guarantee, and I love her so much I would give it all for her (she doesn't want me to do that because she wants me to me).", "summary": "I crossdress and GF thinks this will lead to me becoming someone different, not the person she loves. I say she needs to trust me that I will always be me."}
{"id": "t3_326muu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22F] moving to another state partially to be with a guy [34M] and now he says he doesn't want a relationship with me.", "post": "Throwaway because he's a redditor. \n\nSo my freshman year of college, I met a guy on here after posting on the sub for the city I was going to be interning in for the summer. We became friends after he found me a sublease for the summer and checked it out for me, and we and talked for a few months before I got to the city. Once I got there, he really helped me out and showed me around, and next thing you know we were going out on dates, kissing, having sex, etc. We visit each other often, still basically acting like a couple AND he has told me he loves me. Neither of us have dated anyone else over the past 4 years. The last time I saw him was about a month ago where I literally spent all of spring break with him. \n\nWell I'm graduating in a few weeks and I took a job in his city, and I'll be moving there in June. I wanted to move there anyway, but I had further motivation because of him. Last night we were talking on the phone and I mentioned that I was glad my apartment was close to him and that I was happy we could finally be together as a real couple. But then he said \"well babe, you know not like that.\" To which I said \"what do you mean? I thought that was always the plan\". And he just said \"not right now, ok? you're just young and I'm not sure it's ok, or if it's what I want.\" so I just said \"you literally told me you loved me a few hours ago, how could you say you don't want a relationship with me?\" then he didn't say anything and I got pretty upset and hung up. He called me again today but I can't even deal with talking to him right now. \n\nI just feel like I am completely stupid and naive for falling for a guy much older than me who all of a sudden seems like he doesn't even want to be with me. Am I crazy for being upset about this?", "summary": "guy I've been seeing for 4 years all of a sudden doesn't want a relationship with me even though I'm moving to a new city halfway across the country to start my career and be with him."}
{"id": "t3_mm47v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Grade Marketing: An economic system where students can sell grades among each other. What do you think Reddit?", "post": "During economics classes we stumbled upon an interesting topic. What if students could sell their grades to other students for real money?\n\n**For example:**\n\n*One person gets full score on his test and decides to sell 40% of his score to his friend who only scored 20% on that test. They arrange a price and both pass the subject.*\n\nAfter class I discussed this topic in more detail with a good friend of mine. Arguments went back and forth. However, instead of writing a wall of text. I'd like to know your thoughts and maybe even start a small debate. As far as my pal and I discussed it, we are certain that it even has a positive effect on the quality of education.", "summary": "Why is selling grades to peer students good or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_4pagtj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sex, insecurity, and schedules, oh my! Me (21F) with boyfriend (21M)", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together for three years.  We live in separate dorms (all female and all male) and have had pretty stubborn roommates, so our 'intimate time' has always been on a relatively infrequent schedule.  It's an amazing occurrence if we're able to have sex twice in a week.\n\nHowever, this year my boyfriend will have his own room, which means we no longer have to pencil in time for sex.  However, I would still prefer sex once per week.  My reasons are as follows:\n\n1. It just doesn't feel right to have sex more often.  Like I'd be slutty for doing that.  I know this is completely stupid and illogical for me to think, but it's always been in the back of my mind.  I've always been at least a little ashamed of having sex, especially since my sex drive is higher than my boyfriend's.\n\n2.  We (my boyfriend especially) are not particularly imaginative.  Sex follows the same pattern every single time, and I worry I'm going to get bored if we do it too often.\n\n3.  Yesterday, I was skyping with my boyfriend and was asking him if he liked my glasses.  He said yes, that he likes the librarian look, so I asked if he thinks me dressing up as a 'sexy librarian' as a halloween costume would be a good idea.  He immediately said \"maybe you should get fit first\".  I crumpled immediately.  He's always said he loves my body, and he apologized profusely.  He told me it's not that I'd look bad wearing the costume now, but just even better if I was fit (to me that's the same thing, right?)  Eventually I calmed down and forgave him, everyone says things that just come out wrong, but it's still in the back of my mind.  I don't know if I should even have sex with him until I lose a lot of weight first.  I don't know how much, just a lot, I'm feeling really ashamed of my body right now.\n\nWhat should I do about this?", "summary": "My sex life with my boyfriend has the opportunity to change and I don't know if I want it to."}
{"id": "t3_x2lbi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you seen/heard you friends do/say which has made you doubt why you even hang out with them?", "post": "The other day, my friend was explaining to me that \"Fraping\" (Facebook/rape. Y'know, someone leaves themselves logged into FB, leaves an odd status, profile owner later claims it was \"hacked\".) a gay person would be difficult, because you would have to leave a status update saying \"I'm straight\". Apparently that wouldn't work, because it would be a \"compliment\".\n\nYeah. Apparently, if you're gay, being called \"straight\" is a compliment. I asked him, if he were gay, would he take being called gay an insult, and straight a compliment. \"Yeah, of course! Why would I want to *seem* gay?\"\n\nI had to drop the subject. He's said plenty of stupid things in the past, but he's pushing it.", "summary": "Apparently it's an insult to be called gay, and a compliment to be called straight, regardless of whether you're actually gay or straight."}
{"id": "t3_1n4qbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend still hasn't proposed. Should I be concerned? (6 years) 29F+29M", "post": "I've brought up the idea of getting married and having kids before and he's indicated that he'd like these things as well but he's never even hinted at proposing before.  Should I be concerned? I know I'm more than ready to take the next step in our relationship and he's definitely the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.\n\nOther than this, the relationship is perfect.  He's good looking, smart, funny, and sweet.  He treats me like a princess and he's always surprising me with spontaneous romantic gestures.  It's not like I need him to propose to validate his love for me; I know that we're the loves of each other's lives and we'll spend the rest of our lives together, married or not.  I'm just a little upset because if he does want kids and marriage like he says he does, why hasn't he proposed to me yet?  Am I overanalyzing?  Is this ok for me to bring up more directly?  Sometimes I'll playfully hint at us getting married and he'll play along but it never goes past playful teasing.", "summary": "My BF hasn't proposed after 6 years of an awesome relationship.  He says he wants marriage and kids in the future.  Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_29n3o2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[M/26] crushing on a co-worker [F/26], need help for first contact", "post": "So I've relocated back to my hometown after about 5 years and thanks to a couple of crazy relationships I'm really down in the dumps. \n\nSo to cut the long story short I've been crushing on this co-worker of mine, she isn't in the same division on anything so it seems pretty safe.\n\nNow the problem is that I really don't have many chances of talking or anything (plus the office is super prude). That and, as I mentioned I'm pretty low in confidence right now.\n\nSo help me guys how can I be discreet and get her to know I exist.\n\nP.S. I was thinking of leaving a bunch of post-it notes, nothing cute or sexual but somethings like quotes or something. Example, a quote for hitchhiker's \"what has to happen.....\"\nIs this too lame (sounds lame now that I right it down)\n\nHelp me reddit. Need wingwomen/wingmen\n\nP.P.S. sorry for the wall'o words", "summary": "Need help talk to a girl I can't really talk to"}
{"id": "t3_lxply", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For people who have or did group projects, have you ever had someone that was super overbearing? What's your story? I hope I'm not the only one.", "post": "I have a group in class for my whole semester. First, I was happy this girl was in my group because I wasn't going to be the only one doing the work. Now, I'm pissed. She calls me every goddamn day about the project. Tells me that all of the other group members suck, which I don't take too kindly to. She calls me about stupid little things. I've gotten to the point where it's completely obvious that I'm irritated, and I still have to deal with her for another month. I've been super pissed ever since I sacrificed a whole weekend to complete our essay, then she goes ahead and tells me that I don't have transitions (that don't add anything to the paper anyway because it's not an English paper) and then says... *cringes*... that I had sentences that don't make sense. This... this one thing she said... I became pissed. I am super OCD when it comes to complete, readable sentences in a paper. I even know how to you semicolons properly! She turned my paper into simple sentences... simple sentences! It now reads like a ten year old put the sentences together. Everyone else in the group said that many of the things she said didn't need to be changed, because it was so insignificant since it didn't add information into the paper. The only one who is willing to stand up to her is me, and she thinks I'm attacking her when she's been the one that has been highly critical of our group. I don't care about the transitions, but telling me that I don't know how to make complete sentences that make sense pisses me off, especially since we all had to write an individual paper in the beginning to get a feel for what the group paper would be like; it goes by the same format. I got the best grade with a 25/25, while the other group members got a lower grade.\n\nSorry about the rant. It feels good to get it out.", "summary": "Group member calls me everyday and is super critical of everyone in the group."}
{"id": "t3_m0m99", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Apathy Vs. Activism", "post": "A friend and I were talking about the Occupy Wall Street movement and the presence of business in government.  After much back-and-forthing of ideals and motivations and background of the movement, he ending the conversation by saying:\n\n\"This is stupid anyways.  What's the point of getting all up in arms over it? Protesting is not going to do anything at all.  It's best to just let the government take its natural course and fall apart just like all the other governments.  We're just regular people.  We can't do anything\".  \n\nThis, of course,  spawned an entirely NEW argument, but it got me thinking.\n\n-Is this apathetic attitude popular among people? (I'm around college kids all day, so I'm in a bubble).  \n-Is it better to let the government just \"run its course\"?", "summary": "My friend thinks OWS is stupid because we're normal people and have no power, and that we should just let government \"run its course\""}
{"id": "t3_52o386", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32F] can't stop fantasizing about my husband [35M] cheating", "post": "Hello all. throwaway account. \n\nAbout 10 years ago my boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me. We lived together, I was so in love, it never dawned on me that he could be cheating. One night after he didn't come home I found out that he had a completely other girlfriend of a few months. He hung out with her family and everything. I was shocked and devastated. \n\nWe broke up and moved to different cities but we couldn't stay apart. He kept dating her and I dated other people but we would still hook up. After about 2 years of that we got back together and moved in again. \n\nFast forward to now and we are happily married. But recently when we have sex I'm having a mental struggle. During foreplay when he goes down on me I picture HER down on me and him doing her from behind, usually in the butt to cause a little pain. I know it's a fucked up fantasy. I also fantasize about us with other women, but SHE works best. Now I can't really get off during foreplay without that image and it bothers me. \n\nOnce we get to PIV sex it's all about us again and I never think of women. I have no problem getting off this way. \n\nIm not sure what the deal is with this fantasy. Please don't respond saying it's just a fantasy because it's really bothering me. Im not sure if it's because of the intense pain cheating caused me before that I'm translating that fear? Additionally I have had MFF 3somes but not with my husband, so I do enjoy women to an extent. I don't think I would ever want to actually see him with another woman again though. \n\nHelp?!", "summary": "help me stop fantasizing about my husband cheating"}
{"id": "t3_ox1ue", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "17/M Looking for your help with 17/F", "post": "Hi guys first post here just looking for some advice/help.  So theres this girl lets call her X.  Ive known X for quite a while but this year specifically we have had chances to talk due to classes and such.  Ive found out a lot about X and we talk just about daily.  My problem here is that im interested and her and i cant seem to put it out there.  She has had a few boyfriends this year and they are all assholes.  Im not just saying that because im jealous, they really are.  How can i make her see me as an somone to date instead of just talking casually while she goes out with other guys.  It seems like im always there for her but she always picks somone else....  If im in the friend zone what do i do... Hopefully you can mildy understand my situation from this post \n>.<", "summary": "guy likes girl but she always seems to be picking somone else who will always burn her"}
{"id": "t3_ytwui", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I saw a guy miss out on 20,000 cash and 25,000 in home makeovers, only to win a shake-weight. What's the most gut-wrenching/humiliating thing you've ever seen?", "post": "We had a foreign exchange student from Austrailia come to play basketball at our school, and he had a sort of bucket list of things to do while he was \"in the states.\" One of them was to see an NBA game in person. So I bought four of us tickets to go watch the Memphis Grizzlies at home play the New Jersey Nets (killer matchup.) it was around Christmas, so at half time they called a seat for te audience to come pick between three presents, a tall, medium, or small gift wrapped box. Once he meandered down from his seat, they informed him there were two money prizes and one item. He picks the smallest of the boxes. They let him open the tallest; 20,000 in cash. Disappointed. He opens the middle box; 25,000. More disappointment, but left with a glimmer of hope in store for the his present.   He pulls back the top and his eyes feast upon a shake-weight. Crushed.\n\nHe hung his head low, but kneeled to the ground and gave the shake-weight the most solemn shaking I've ever seen while walking back to his seat.", "summary": "Fan gets to pick box 1, 2, or 3. Hidden prizes are 20k cash, 25k for house, or shakeweight. Wins a mother fucking shakeweight."}
{"id": "t3_xjh6d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I missed out on meeting my crush/best gaming friend in real life because I was scared of internet strangers. Reddit, what do you regret missing out on?", "post": "It started in 2004. My boyfriend introduced me to Halo PC, and I was hooked. I joined a Halo clan, became better than my boyfriend, and kept playing even after he quit (and later, after we broke up).\n\nI played a *lot*. Probably 1-2 hours per day for over a year. Probably more like 3-4 hours per day if I'm honest. I'd destroy nearly everyone, but there was this one guy who I almost never defeated.\n\nHe was funny, smart, and the only person better than me with a shotgun. We started spending loads of time together on TeamSpeak, he let me have the password to his Halo server so I could pick maps and rules (wooo, big deal), and we had this great flirty rivalry going on.\n\nAbout a year and a half after I started playing Halo, he told me he was visiting friends who lived near my college (I was then a freshman). We discussed meeting up and he suggested times/places/things we could do, but I never actually agreed to it since I was naive and had had \"PEOPLE FROM THE INTERNET ARE DANGEROUS\" drilled into me since I was a child.\n\nNot only did I miss out on a chance to meet this guy who I definitely liked, I lost my best gamer friend. After I declined to meet him in real life, he stopped playing Halo as much, and then so did I.\n\nI rarely think about Halo anymore, but I do regret not meeting my friend/crush, especially since I've met so many nice, normal people online in recent years. It totally would have been okay.\n\nWhat do you regret missing out on?", "summary": "Didn't meet gamer guy I had huge crush on because internet strangers. What do you regret missing out on?"}
{"id": "t3_318do5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24F] really fatigued by LDR with fianc\u00e9 [26 M] Any suggestions? 2 years in.", "post": "We're about two years into long distance and it's really started to wear on me. If I could go back in time, as much as I love my fianc\u00e9 and am looking forward to being together when visa issues are resolved, I don't think I would have put myself through it if I knew I'd get here. \n\nOur time apart is ending in the next year but the truth is I absolutely do not want to wait. He's rotten at keeping me in the loop and we never seem to do anything so we barely feel like a couple when we're apart. The magic is there when we're together, don't get me wrong. It's not a boredom thing, I think it's an \"I can't stand being apart any more\"  thing.\n\n I'm at a loss for what to do at this point because I spend most of my days miserable that we're apart. I'm hoping someone has a perspective or idea that I haven't been able to get my head around.", "summary": "don't want to be in long distance relationship any more but do want to stay together. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_xudha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm donating 10% of my net income to change the world. Do you think anyone will join me?", "post": "My personal 10% contribution probably isn't going to change the world in any meaningful way, but I'm thinking about building a website called Commit10 to try and convince other people to do the same. If I can eventually convince .1% of the U.S. population to take on the challenge, we can raise over $1 billion every year toward creating our own future. I know that's a drop in the bucket...but imagine the impact we could have even with that small amount! \n\n**Here are some questions I'm struggling with:**\n\n- Is this even worth pursuing? I'm willing to contribute 10% toward something meaningful, but are other people?\n* How should we filter charities and projects to fund? I don't want people's money being wasted on overly beaurocratic or inefficient organizations.\n* How can we build up enough critical mass to get media coverage?\n* What payment platforms will help us reduce transaction costs other than Dwolla? I don't want a ton of money going to transaction networks and banks.\n* Is this something an investor or angel would help fund until I can get it off the ground or should I just plan on eating ramen for the next year?\n\nThanks in advance for your input! Hopefully I won't get downvoted into oblivion!", "summary": "Trying to change the world by getting people to donate 10% of their net income to a meaningful cause."}
{"id": "t3_3afl3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[16 M] just found out my best friend[16 M]of 3 three years is in love with me and i don't know what to do.", "post": "So i just found out that my best friend wants to be romantically involved with me.\n\nThe big problem is that we are both dudes and i'm straight so i don't want to be in a relationship with him but has been my best bro for years and he really helped me through some tough times. \n\nWe had a talk about it and it turns out that he is, according to him, head over heels in love with me and he has assured me that he isn't confused or going through a phase and that his feelings are genuine.\n\nI told him that i was no longer comfortable being his best friend and he responded by telling me how he still wanted to hang out with me even through i didn't want to because he didn't want to lose me. However after that he told me something that worried me; apparently when we first met he hated me as he felt i was stealing his best friend (who is now my best friend) and he has had those types of feelings for all his previous best friends. It worries me because he appears to be very possessive towards his best friends and he wants to keep them all to himself.\n \nhe has also done a number of creepy things like asking a female friend of ours to let him sleep in her bed with her and cuddle. He has also joked about raping me a lot over the few years we were best friends and i always thought he playing up to the fact that everyone at our school called us gay or maybe he liked making uncomfortable jokes like that. \n\nThroughout most of our friendship he has wanted to sleep with me and this is a dude that i have shared bedrooms with and now i'm scared that he may have done something creepy while i was asleep. I can't trust him anymore. \n\nThis entire altercation has also split our very close group of friends apart and i need some unbiased opinions on what actions to take as i'm now having to try and convince my friends that i'm not homophobic or a liar. The worse part is that out of the five people in our friendship circle only one person doesn't know about it.", "summary": "So to conclude i need some unbiased opinions on what to do when your best friend is in love with you. Any advice will be helpful."}
{"id": "t3_1thgo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [23F] doesn't think I'm playful or flirty enough when texting.", "post": "We've been together for 1.5 years or so. We're usually together on the weekends and maybe a day or two during the week. When we aren't together we text each other pretty continuously. we talk about what we're doing or whatever other topic. She doesn't think that I'm flirty or playful, or generally fun, when texting. She feels more distant and not really close to me. I try to say heartfelt things  and be complimentary occasionally, but it doesn't seem to be enough. I don't know what to say to seem flirty and fun. It's important to both of us to get this fixed because it leads to issues when we're together. So I'm looking for some tips on how to keep texting fun and flirty/playful! \nIf you've got some ideas I'd love to hear them!", "summary": "GF wants texting to be more fun/flirty, feel closer"}
{"id": "t3_119rvc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with an unprofessional apartment manager?", "post": "Couldn't find a good subreddit for this\n\nI live with my fianc\u00e9 and a male roommate. Things are not bad at all. We like where we live and most of our neighbors are really great. My problem stems from the apartment manager. She is rude, unprofessional and seriously starting to get on my nerves. \nThe way we have it set up (between the 3 of us) is that I take care of the house and I am the one who notifies the manager about issues and all of that kind of thing. She has been told multiple times that I am the one to get in touch with about any apartment related things. \n\nShe refuses. I can call her a dozen times and leave message after message and she refuses to get back to me. But she has no problem calling either my roommate or my fianc\u00e9 back. In fact there have been times where I was calling everyday for 2 weeks and heard nothing from her, (the matter was about resigning our lease) my fianc\u00e9 called\u2026and she called him back within 5 minutes. \n\nShe not only completely ignores me and ignores the guys when they tell her to call me, she flirts endlessly with my fianc\u00e9. Asking him out to do things and all of that to which he *always* tells her no. I'm not jealous\u2026but I am getting pissed over the disrespect she is showing not only to my face but behind my back. Now, I also happen to know that she does this with every other couple in the apartment complex. Ignores the woman and hits on the man. \n\nI just don't know what to do about her anymore. Anybody ever have to deal with this, or know how to deal with this. It has been going on (and getting worse) over the past two years. \n\nNote: We don't want to move because right now we can't afford any other place. And like where we live.", "summary": "The apartment manager actively ignores me and constantly hits on my fianc\u00e9, even after repeated discussions with her about it. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3dnakp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MI] What can I do about my year old forgery felony?", "post": "Hey all, I'm not sure if there is even anything I can do with my case, but at this point I am willing to try anything. I was a treasurer for a student accounting society for my university, and when some financial hardship hit, I made the idiotic decision to use my availability of funds to help front some money, with the intent to pay it back. However, before I was able to fully pay it back, the academic advisor of the group took notice and turned it over the university police who took it to the county. I was up front with all of my information and did not try to hide anything from them, knowing that they had access to all copies of the checks and had talked to the other student board members. August 14th, 2014 I was sentenced for a felony count of forgery through a county court. Being 23 and dealing with this completely on my own, I had to take a court appointed attorney, who was able to get the prosecutor to drop the other counts of forgery and embezzlement. In total, the amount in question was $4,000 which was paid as restitution in full amount on the date of sentencing. I never spent time in jail besides the 6 hours while I was waiting arraignment, I never had probation or any other court ordered conditions I unfortunately did not look into the possible pros of hiring an attorney versus taking a court appointed one, and now at 24, cannot find work. I took a year off from school in order to get my life somewhat together, I found a low paying job that did not background check, but as I approach completion of school, I am afraid of the non-existence of finding a job that will allow me to survive on my own. I know that 5 years after sentencing I can apply for expungement, but that also means I just wasted my time finishing school if I can't even find a job. Some may say that I got off easy, but looking into other similar cases, I see that restitution was paid and charges were dropped. I am just ready to move on with my life and try and bounce back from this but I feel like I'm trying to swim up a waterfall.", "summary": "I have a year old forgery felony charge, I want to see if its possible to reverse, appeal, or early expunge it"}
{"id": "t3_f4yz4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For a university case study, all my group members did nothing and I did everything.  What do I do?", "post": "I thought this would never happen.  There were 4 other people in my group. Basically, I thought that at least someone would do something before the deadline.  I waited to the last day to see if anyone had done anything.  I even told everyone in my group to at least attempt the case study by themselves and be ready to discuss it.  Before the last day though, I attempted answering every question in the case study myself and uploaded the work the following morning on the due date.  \n\nSo in the end, I couldn't believe that none of my group members did literally nothing and the final work handed in was purely my own effort.  Just when class starts and the project is due, I handed it in and put all their names on it.  They seriously didn't talk to me about anything on the day of class except 1 question:   \nDid you hand it in?   \n   \nI seriously can't believe this.  I don't know what to do.  I feel like I'm being taken advantage of and I'm regretting the decision to keep the names of my group members on the project.   What should I do now?", "summary": "I did everything.  Group members actually did nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2sb02a", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am a selfish person.", "post": "My biggest fear in life is that someone will know that I'm a selfish, terrible person.\n\nI spend days analyzing my motivations for different things. I agonize over things that I have done selfishly - like when I fostered and gave the babies to my parents or my husband's aunt to take care of every week while we went and saw a movie. Or that time that we had his aunt take care of them for A WEEK while we did stuff with our youth organization and had a night with friends. I think back to that, and I feel so guilty - maybe I'm infertile because I'm too selfish for children. They were only with us for 8 months, and I spent a full week without them because I thought I needed \"sanity\"? I was perfectly sane - I just wanted to have a few nights of sleep and friends, and uninterrupted nights with the youth organization. You don't get those luxuries with babies! \n\nI missed out on a full week with them, and now they're gone. For what? A night with friends? Sleep that I can get any time now?\n\nI want a child, and I hope it's not for selfish reason. I tell myself that I want a child to give them an amazing life - a life that I wasn't able to have myself. I want them to grow up, and be happy with themselves, no matter who they are. I want to raise a happy, healthy, independent person. But, I worry that part of my reasoning might be that I want someone to love and to love me back because I didn't get that much growing up.", "summary": "I feel really selfish for different times in my life, and I don't want to have kids for selfish reasons."}
{"id": "t3_4gf0wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(22f) sisters (22f, 25f,) won't stop shaming me about my ex boyfriend(34m)", "post": "Clearly my ex was a lot older than me. We dated for three years. I am incredibly embarrassed about how long I stayed with him. He mistreated me and I can honestly say that now that things are over I haven't been this happy in a long long time. Finally I can see how bad the relationship was. Ever since I ended things, my sisters won't stop bringing him up and making fun of me about the situation. When they say things, you can tell they are doing it because they are so happy that they were right about the relationship, but isn't my happiness more important than them being right? Like they couldn't give a shit, they just want to say they told me so.\n\n It has even gotten to the point where my parents are starting to make comments too along the lines of, \"What were you thinking? Did you just have low-self esteem? How could you have been so stupid?\" WOW I don't know, I was eighteen and was taken advantage of?? I feel disgusting and so much shame about my previous relationship and all I am getting from anybody is negativity and ridicule. \n\nThe new guy I am dating knows about my ex and even he won't stop asking questions about it. I keep telling everybody that this is in the past and I want to keep it there but they won't listen. Even my friends can't stop themselves from talking about what a loser my ex was, how they couldn't believe I was with him. When they talk about it it is almost like they are making a joke and I find it very belittling. What should I do to make them stop discussing a time in my life I really regret?", "summary": "Keep getting shamed by family about and friends about ex boyfriend. Want them to stop."}
{"id": "t3_3rdtnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [21F] accidentally found out my boyfriend [25M] of a year has a ring... And he now knows that I know about it", "post": "So I was searching through his Dropbox looking for pictures of him and his daughter so I could put together and suprise him with a photo album through shutterfly in her voice as her Christmas gift to him (she's 2) and accidentally came across a picture of a ring.   Anyway shit happened and he knows I know about it.  I'm mad at myself for finding it cause now I feel like I've ruined the suprise of the proposal (he said he had a lot planned right down the the t).  And I love him dearly and want so much to spend the rest of my life with him but im crushed that such a big milestone in our relationship is ruined over this since the suprise aspect is gone.   I don't know what I'm supposed to do or how to deal with this feeling of guilt.  Help.", "summary": "found the picture of the ring and now the suprise of the proposal is ruined, what now?"}
{"id": "t3_2ujoxu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23m] feel like a therapist for one of my best friends [21f]", "post": "I met 21f through a buddy almost two years ago shortly before moving away. We became good pals through facetime and texting pretty regularly. Last May I moved to a new city and we Would facetime daily since I didn't know\nMany people. It was a huge help. She's had a rough couple of months with a family member passing, I was there for her more than the guy she was seeing even though I'm Six hours away. Lately though, I've started to feel more and more like a therapist to her as she often will ask me for advice, what do to and if she can do certain things. \n\nIt's getting to be a bit much for me to the point I just told her how I feel this morning. She has some additional issues which I won't get into but has now\nTold me she feels bad and won't talk about things anymore. I've tried to talk about things I'm excited about and will often not get a reply or the subject will get changed, I show interest in what she is doing when she's excited. Things just seem one sided and I'm getting tired of it.", "summary": "I feel like a therapist for a good friend and told her. She feels bad and now doesn't want to talk about things."}
{"id": "t3_3jf1u9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting one rip in the server room", "post": "This happened last week. So as a sysadmin I have access to the server room at my workplace and the guys in IT regularly go into the server room to, well fart. It's the best place to do so actually since it's sealed, the servers mask the sound and the dedicated AC keeps the smells away from rest of the office.\n\nSo after my afternoon coffee break, I feel one coming on and go straight to the server room to take care of business as usual. Only that this day the insurance people were inspecting the fire extinguishers and fire suppression systems... So I go in, let it rip and immediately after I get called over by the compliance manager and the insurance guy that are INSIDE the server room.\nThe room is like 15X10 feet so not huge. Anywho they start asking me questions and 5 seconds into the conversation, it hits and daaammmn it was bad.\n\nThey noticed, made the I smell fart and it wasn't me face but kept on talking normally while I probably had the shit it was me face on. I answer the questions and get out of there. A couple of days later I see the compliance manager again at the break room and we have an awkward laugh about it... So yea, that happened.", "summary": "Farted at the server room while other people were inside.."}
{"id": "t3_22bpkt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] may lose my boyfriend [23 M] and my family [ages vary] if I take internship", "post": "I recently was accepted into an internship that would require me to move to Florida for four months. It's for a prestigious company and would help my career. I want to work on the legal team of the company one day. However, I was told by my boyfriend that he would dump me if I went. We've been dating several months and it's very serious. My family, mainly my mother, also does not support my choice to do this internship. They see it as a \"vacation\" that doesn't pay well. Instead, they'd rather me get a part time job after my college graduation in may so i can support them. If I go, they won't talk to me ever again. This is bad because I don't have many friends, and no friends to truly rely on, so I would be alone in the world.\nAny advice?", "summary": "I'm stuck between career and love/family."}
{"id": "t3_4lcrkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [25M] had his girlfriend [23F] unwillingly been forced into another relationship", "post": "Throwaway because necessary. Story is modified to keep people safe. \n\nThe girl in the 3 years relationship has been forced into another relationship that she does not want to be in.  \n\nA dangerous man (D-man) who I don't know fancied the girl and wants her to be his bride. D-man has told her to stop contact with any guy and threatened to hurt her and any guy she gets in contact with. He has a criminal record and on probation apparently. \n\nThe girl said not to contact authorities because D-man will cause harm to her and her friends. She is hoping to he will get tired of her.  \n\nI am at lost at what options are to help the situation.", "summary": "bad man takes girl against will. Threatens to harm her and her friend if they get in the way."}
{"id": "t3_1ejlaa", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Not sure if this is the right subreddit! (Not sure what to title this)", "post": "A couple months ago, I bought a Cyborg M.M.O. 7 (computer mouse). Nothing out of the ordinary. A few weeks ago, it started double-clicking and the scroll wheel was starting to malfunction. I then sent it back to the company to have it replaced, and they agreed to do so. This week I got a package from Mad Catz, the company that owns Cyborg, and it was another M.M.O. 7! However, they've changed the model, and I really don't like it. It doesn't lay flat on the ground (it's wobbly), and the precision button on the side doesn't work without the plugin (it worked before). \n\nI'd love to know if I can do something about it, like get it replace or something.", "summary": "Bought a mouse, it broke. While it was getting replaced, the company changed the model. I don't like it. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4vba4h", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "19 years old, saved over 20k what to do (NZ)", "post": "Hi. I've been working for over a year now and managed to save a decent amount of money (20k+). I currently still live with the parents, therefore don't pay a huge amount for rent etc hence why I'm able to save so efficiently. Also because I don't waste money on stuff I consider unnecessary (partying etc).\n\nWell anyway. I'm currently working a pretty cool job, though, it is getting a bit boring and I want to start my apprenticeship in a civil trade next year as my current job has barely any opportunities for the future. My plan is to move city next year and start my apprenticeship, which obviously would cost more in living expenses. Luckily with trades apprenticeships you get paid as you learn, therefore I won't get in-debt or struggle to pay bills . With that being said I don't imagine me chewing up all of my savings, therefore what is the best way to use my money wisely. I still would like to have some spending money and have a bit in the savings account for living expenses (especially for next year), but am not extremely worried as I will be getting getting paid as I learn.\nIf you wise men of personal finance reddit were my age with the amount of money I have what would you do with it?", "summary": "Have 20k, current cost of living is low (will be higher next year). What to wisely do with the 20k to assist me in future."}
{"id": "t3_2ixyco", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by banging my co-worker", "post": "I work with a large group of people. We all came from different parts of the country to do the same thing, so naturally our shared experience made us all pretty close friends. Well, a few nights ago, we're all out as a group (about 50 of us), getting tanked and listening to live music. The night takes us all our seperate ways and with our seperate smaller groups of friends. I end up with one of my closest friends here and a few others. This girl is VERY attractive, I'd say out of my league. While I've always been attracted to her, it's never been like, something I've pursued because of the fact we work very closely together, and I genuinely just enjoy her company. Well... After a night fueled by fireball, friend and I end up drunkenly (very, very drunkenly) boning. \n\nthe next morning, we wake up, everything seems... Alright. We laugh it off, say everything is cool and that's that. Fast forward to that evening, our large group is out for a birthday party. Instantly I can tell things are awkward. She won't make eye contact with me, and we don't talk. At all. Which is weird. I make the rounds, say goodnight, and go home. \n\nWell, now it's the next morning and I'm sitting here trying to figure out how to salvage this situation. Sorry it's not humorous, or super cringeworthy, but any guidance others might have in a similar situation would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "drunkenly Banged a super hot friend/co-worker. Wondering how to move past it for our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_2blp1y", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need advice about a medical settlement", "post": "Hello, I am in Texas and having an issue with my father about a medical settlement from when I was younger. When I was just a little boy, 5 or so, I had an accident at a hospital that doctor's thought would physically disable me for the rest of my life. \n\nLong story short, the hospital was found at fault and there was a settlement reached on my behalf including increasing payments every month for basically my entire life, as well as lump sums every few years.\n\nMy issue stems with my dad who is controlling all of the money, I am much older now, over 25, and he will not release any information about it to me. Any time that I ask him about it, he just talks a bunch of gibberish confusing me. In the past he had said I would get it when I was of age, which I had just assumed meant 18 or 21, and it was no big deal. \n\nHowever, now that I am older than my assumptions, he still will not tell me anything about it. I recently found a document that outlined some of the settlement (It seemed to be some sort of draft) that had a lawyers name on it and gave her a call, where she referred me to another lawyer who has not gotten back to me in about 2 months.\n\nAnyway, I am just curious about what I actually need to do. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my dad over it, cause he is actually a pretty great dad, but what other recourse do I have than to find a lawyer or something? I now have bills and a kid on the way, and access to that money would be fairly helpful in resolving some things.", "summary": "Settlement from a hospital due to their negligence when I was very young that my dad is holding back from me and won't give me any info about."}
{"id": "t3_4wcfml", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Bought my gorgeous dress yesterday (used), and have a few questions for you wedditors!", "post": "First of all, I'm so excited to have found my perfect, gorgeous dress! It's this year's line, and I was ready to order it new in store before stumbling upon it used for 1/3 the price + no tax!  (I'd love to share the style number but want to maintain the surprise for my FH! You can PM if you're curious). So thrilled, and amazed that no one snapped it up.\n\nBecause it's a used dress which hasn't been cleaned and will need alteration, I'm seeking recommendations for cleaning and seamstresses in the Vancouver, BC area. More details below!\n\nThe dress is visibly perfect, no soiling or wear, even on the lace train. I still want to get it cleaned ASAP to avoid any discolouration - if you don't know a specific cleaner, is there anything I should look for or keep in mind?\n\nMy other question/concern is about alterations. I will need it altered down fairly significantly. It fits 38-31-41 right now, and I'm 35-28-39 currently.  With weight loss I should end up a few inches down on waist/hips/thighs - the bust doesn't change much since there not much there to change! :-)\n\nI'm nervous about how much it'll need to be taken in - I'm hoping to lose 10-15lb before my June wedding, and am concerned that it will end up being too loose to alter down and still look good. So, I'm seeking advice or reassurance on that front! Can anyone recommend a Vancouver area seamstress who is good with lace, can maintain the lines of a dress well, and is preferably economical?", "summary": "bought a gorgeous used dress, looking for advice on cleaning and alterations in Vancouver area"}
{"id": "t3_110whi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "from my current perspective the last 7 years of my life never happened (pic's included)", "post": "The actual number of pounds lost is 37, (220 to 183) and still going down I will probably stop at 180 or 175 depending on what my body says about going below 180.  The whole weight loss thing started not to long ago (around 4 and a half months ago) when I came to the conclusion that I was consuming 900 calories of cereal for breakfast minus the 2 cups of milk that went with it, so my whole world was rocked when I found out I was having over 1000 calories to start my day off,  I decided to go look at other foods that I frequented and came to the conclusion that adding up breakfast lunch and dinner I had about 1900 calories a day... wait a sec, that's not to bad, oh yeah... I had about 3000 calories worth of snacks added up in-between those meals... so yeah I was not to happy with what the number came to and decided I needed to get my shit in order quick, well I did,  and 4 months later i'm down 37 pounds and just about to start a body weight fitness routine to tone and build lean muscle. And here are some pictures.", "summary": "Found out I was having a minimum of 4900 calories a day, wasn't happy                                  "}
{"id": "t3_3emeh5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my boyfriend [21M] of a year-ish, one time boyfriend, one time casual boyfriend has moved on and now I don't know what to do?", "post": "So I dated this guy for about five months, we mutually decided that we didn't have much in common so we ended it. We didn't talk for two months and then we ran into each other at a party and hooked up about three months ago. Over the past three months we've been taking it casually. Mostly just hookups but also a lot of dinners, movies and concerts. I've been kinda falling for him. I've been learning new things about him, things I somehow didn't know the first time we dated.\n\nA few hours ago though, I watched his snapchat story and it was a picture of him kissing this cute guy on the cheek with the caption \"best date of my life\".\nI just feel empty. I didn't realize how much I liked him until I saw him with another guy. I feel so worthless. I want to cry but I can't for some reason.\nThis whole time he was over me and I thought I was too but I don't think I ever dealt with it. And now all I can think about is what might have been and how much time I've wasted on a guy who seemingly doesn't care about me.\n\nThis keeps happening to me. I keep falling for guys who keep me at arms length. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know why I'm submitting this. I guess I'm looking for advice or experience.", "summary": "Had a casual fling for three months with an ex boyfriend, accidentally fell for him, now he's moved on and I don't know how to not feel so terrible."}
{"id": "t3_38jp0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46 M] with my wife [37 F] married 8 years, wife had \"affair\" with former boss, now wants reference from him", "post": "My wife recently had a few-weeks \"emotional affair\" with her boss. I'm not sure it was really an \"emotional affair\", because they didn't talk about anything except work. On the other hand, it wasn't merely infatuation on her part, because he knew her feelings and reciprocated somehow. I gathered all this from what she told me, because I have no independent evidence to go on.\n\nAnyway, her latest contact with this character was an (innocuous) email exchange just after she quit the job (which was temporary), in which she asked if he could provide a reference for future job applications, and he agreed.\n\nAfter this, she confessed to me about this thing and insisted that it was all in the past. She agreed not to contact him again and not to reply if he contacted her, which (apparently) he hasn't.\n\nThe problem is that she is now thinking of applying for her next temporary job and has already updated her CV with details of her last employer, naming this guy as a referee.  I'm not exactly happy about this because it could provide an excuse for him to contact her. Even if he doesn't contact her, writing a reference effectively gives him some kind of power to be helpful to her. (I know because I often write references for people at work.) This is a sensitive topic because apparently the main reason she fell for him is that he was soooo helpful at work.\n\nMy wife doesn't see this as a problem because the agent or new employer (not she) would be contacting him for a reference, and she thinks it would look strange/suspicious if she omitted this detail from her job application. I suggested simply stating truthfully that the name is omitted for personal reasons, but she thinks that would also look strange.\n\nWhat is the best thing to do in this situation?", "summary": "Wife had \"affair\" with former boss, regretted it and stopped contact, but now wants reference for new job application. Is it appropriate to name former boss as referee?"}
{"id": "t3_35243s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfiriend [24 F] 7+YR. She keeps forgetting almost everything.", "post": "Sorry for any mistakes in the text below. English is not my first language.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for more than seven years. While she has always been a person that didn't have the best memory, things have taken a turn for the worse lately. As some of you probably figured out by the title, we became a couple when we were still in high school. \n\nFast forward to the present; We have been living together for the past two years. While these past two years were great, her memory is starting to annoy me more and more. We both have our chores in the house, which she forgets to do most of the time. I KNOW that this isn't because she is lazy. She is a very hard worker and the way she looks at me when I point it out proves to me that she genuinely forgot. This happens with a lot of things. Birthdays, appointments, work-related things and even names. This has put me in a lot of awkward situations where she forgot my birthday, our anniverary, the list goes on. She uses an agenda but without it she is lost. I often have to help her look for things around the house, because she cannot remember where she left them. \n\nI am getting really tired to remind and help her with almost everything since I simply do not have time for it.(full time job, semi-professional band etc.) On top of that she also has trouble hearing. She has hearing aids for that, but often forgets where she put them. It isn't rare for me to explain something at least three times over the course of day. We tried memory training games, whiteboard in the living room (looks ugly, but still), different memory techniques, alarms on devices. Nothing seems to work well enough. \n\nI am running out of ideas. The problem for me is that no matter how much I try, she keeps on forgetting. It pisses me off, but I have no reason to be mad at her since she really cannot help it.\nWhat can I do help her remember things? I love her more than anything in the world, but I can't keep this up.", "summary": "Girlfriend of seven years has trouble remembering things. What can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_29471t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Love and TEFL: Should we marry before we go?", "post": "Serious advice time:\n\nMy girlfriend (F 23) and I (M 24) of 4 years are going to teach in Thailand next year and I've been considering proposing to her for a long time. However, for us to live together and be in the same city or province with the program we were both accepted to, we have to be legally married (generally the rule with tefl). \n\nHowever, because I don't want to steal a nice big family wedding from her (her dream), I was thinking of proposing, and getting the legal stuff taken care of right away, and saving the religious wedding for when we return. Is that out of touch or am I being selfish? I don't want to be stationed somewhere else without her,  I don't know how this would come across. \n\nBefore asking, she's my best friend and was before we started dating. Ever since, we've only become closer. I'd propose on my own, but the teaching requirements make me more interested in ways to have a legal marriage without spoiling the family affair for her.", "summary": "Should I propose to and promptly marry my longtime girlfriend so we can teach together in another country?"}
{"id": "t3_3pveaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] roommate's [26F] FWB is over all the time", "post": "I own my house and my roommate rents from me. We've lived together through college and afterwards in an apartment out in the suburbs. Now that we have newly moved into a house in the city, she's been dating more. We both work full time, I have an earlier morning start and she has a late morning start. \n\nFor the past month she's been hooking up with a guy [26] who only ever comes to our house because he still lives with family. He's here at least 3 nights a week and always sleeps over. He isn't a bad guy but he's super loud. He also will just walk into the house unannounced without knocking, which I hate. She will say oh he's coming over sometime tonight and then he just lets himself in. \n\nHe doesn't come over until 9:30-10 pm because she gets off work at 7 or 8. They often get drunk and start talking super loud, and stay up for hours after I've tried to go to bed. Right now, I'm not working but I go back to work in a week. This just isn't going to work once I'm full time and commuting early in the morning  again. \n\nI'm not trying to be a buzzkill, I know she unwinds by getting drunk and boning this dude, but they don't get around to it until the middle of the night, and I barely fall asleep until they've quieted down, and then he stays, and then he's here in the morning when I'm trying to get ready. Hell, when my (out of town) boyfriend was here for the weekend I cooked her FWB breakfast as well as my bf.", "summary": "Am I out of bounds to ask that her FWB only comes over on the weekends? And yes I do the whole white noise song and dance, but them going in and out of the house for smokes and his impossibly heavy tread are hard to muffle, along with loud drunk stuff."}
{"id": "t3_3hu4gb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "27[f] Ran into guy who I went out on a date with a couple of years ago. Want to try again, but is it possible to proceed?", "post": "About two years ago I asked a guy out from one of my classes. He accepted and we went out on a great date. He mentioned he had thought about asking me out but was too chicken to do it. Talked for hours, messed up and did a funny good night kiss, and he said he wanted to do it again. \n\nSo we went out on a second date to a movie. Another great date and driving me home he was so excited. Asking \"when can he see me again?\", \"can he see me this weekend,\" \"let's go to a museum and have a really wonderful time.\" Things like that. I go on dates and I can tell when someone is into to me or not. He was into me. I kissed me good night, and was excited to see him again.\n\nA couple of days before our next date I asked to confirm plans and he said \"we could still go out as friends sometime but he didn't have time for anything else right now\" I said \"I said, I understand maybe some other time then\" and that was that. \n\nSo yesterday I ran into him in the street, he told me just moved to my neighborhood. He seemed not unhappy to talk to me, and he remembered lots of things we talked about. He smiled a lot and was really friendly. Anyways I am still totally into him I discovered after we bumped into each other. Is there any way I can proceed? \n\nSince he called it off last time should I just let it go? Can I ask if he wants to hang out again sometime? Even as friends? Would it be creepy to add him on facebook? Anyways main question, should I just let it go?", "summary": "Want another date with a guy I went out with a couple of years ago, should I just give it up though?"}
{"id": "t3_4378ps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] thinking of ending relationship with my girlfriend [27 M/F] of over a year", "post": "I have asked my girlfriend many times to put on makeup and wear nice, flattering clothes but she always has excuses not to do it. It is usually money related. For Christmas I gave her gift cards for a makeover and for her favorite clothing store. I told her to dress up for New Year's Eve. She said she would do it.  However, on New Year's Eve, she wear an old non-flattering dress and did her own hair and makeup. She wanted to save the gift cards for later. She still looked nice but average. I thought I was okay with how she looked but when we got to the New Year's Eve party, all my friends and their dates looked amazing. My girlfriend looked so out of place and I was kind of disappointed she didn't put more effort for me. \n\nNow for Valentine's Day I have plans to take her to a fancy restaurant and an formal event. I told to dress up again.  I'm afraid if she disappoints me again. I will break up with her. How can I get her to understand what my expectations in a nice way?", "summary": "wants gf to put on makeup and wear nice, flattering clothes"}
{"id": "t3_2kf9p8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to eat granola", "post": "I was enjoying a spoonful of peanut butter dipped in my nice organic granola. I'm sitting on the couch in men's fleece pj pants (I'm a female, fly is basically wide open)\n\nI cut the bag of granola in half because it was basically the end of the bag. I had placed it in my lap, watching Firefly halfway done already! I go to dip my peanut butter covered spoon into the little bag of granola and it just spills everywhere and I start to panic. It's all in my pj pants, covering the front of my lap.... that was a lot more granola than I thought it was... Most of my panic is because I'm always so clumsy that it's more of than annoyance than \"oh she's just clumsy it's cute\", my bf's sitting right next to me I just know he's gonna laugh. My initial reaction is to wiggle out of my pjs pants ever so delicately and go and shake the pj pants out over the kitchen garbage.... didn't go so well. It was troublesome to get out of my moccasin's with thick socks on and I had to have a hand under my butt to catch oats flying out onto the couch from between my legs. I actually managed to clean up without making too much of a mess. But damn kinda of embarrassing.", "summary": "I'm clumsy and spilled granola down my pants."}
{"id": "t3_pcx62", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Females of Reddit... I could use a huge favor.", "post": "I need a fake ID. Okay, okay okay, I'm probably gonna get downvoted to hell, but just remember most of you have been under 21 at some point, wishing you could party with your friends. My boyfriend turns 21 next month and I'm pretty close with all his friends (who are already 21), and I really want to be able to go out with them. I've checked out \"IDChief.com\" but I don't like the fact that they don't make California ID's and the fact that I'd be dropping a $100 to some man over the internet (the process is very complicated as well). I will resort if I have to, but my friend suggested trying AskReddit first. I know my fellow redditors have worked wonders in the past :D", "summary": "Females that are over 21-25 in California who look similar to me, will you mail me a duplicate of your ID? I will compensate you if asked. You will be doing me a huge favor and making someone's day, month, year."}
{"id": "t3_2std4v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting high on my sister's birthday", "post": "From Tuesday but whatever. \n\nSo on Tuesday my sister and I get high in my car. It's the first time we ever smoked in my hometown, so we didn't have anything to use so I made a nice Apple bong. When we get home we are laughing so hard because we don't know if our parents know that we are high. We have to eat dinner and my parents made some noodles and broth. So my sister eats first and since it was her birthday she took out the cake and put it on the table. \n\nI start laughing and then I spit all of the food in my mouth across the table and onto the cake.", "summary": "Got high and laughed so hard that I spit my food and ruined my sisters cake"}
{"id": "t3_2fenvb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (22/f) message an old crush(22/m) from hs?", "post": "Recently Ive run into an old crush twice.  Both times were an accident but they were both at a place he worked. Each time he saw me first and started a conversation.  Although the second time it was a little more business related. Anyway both times he made laugh and smile and brought back feelings from hs. We  basically lost touch after hs. But we are Facebook friends and I know hes single. \n\nBackstory: we were friends in hs and had p.e together.  I think he asked me to prom  senior year but I didn't take it seriously because he said it jokingly.  The next day he asked my friend who he wasn't even as close with.  So I always kinda assumed he actually had meant to ask me. So I know at some point he probably sorta liked me.", "summary": "ran into a crush at his place of work twice. Now I want to ask him to hang out to catch up. But don't know the best way to do it or what to say."}
{"id": "t3_2l65rh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) recently began a FWB situation with (26m) but I'm starting to feel uncomfortable", "post": "We've never been close friends but have always been attracted to each other yet always in relationships. The sex is great.\n\nI have explained to him clearly that:\n\n* I'm still not over my ex\n\n* I do not want a relationship\n\n* I'm planning to move halfway across the world within the next year, and hopefully sooner\n\nHe said that all this was fine, and I thought he felt the same way. However, since the last time we slept together he has been texting me non-stop, and saying things like he's never felt such an intense sexual connection with anyone, that he wants to go on trips together and just kind of cutesy stuff like \"I wish I was snuggled up with you.\" \n\nI've never had a FWB before, but this isn't FWB kind of territory, is it?  I feel like because I've already had a talk with him about it, I don't want to be an asshole who's constantly reminding him not to develop feelings for me. Should I just end it? What should I say?", "summary": "New fwb is texting me all day and making me uncomfortable"}
{"id": "t3_54lvat", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dressing like a hobo for a job interview", "post": "After nearly a decade with my current employer I've decided to look for other work. I found a great company in a field I'm passionate about  and had an interview scheduled this morning.\nI left my house early expecting a 10 minute drive and got to the location 10 minutes before the interview time.\nAso I walked towards the office I noticed my shoelace was untied. Then I realized my toe was sticking out through the front of my shoe. In my excitement for a new career I had grabbed an old black shoe for my left foot and a new black shoes for my right. I was early enough to go home and change but not to make it back in time.\nI called the guy I was set up to have a  interview with and explained the wardrobe mishap. He chuckled. I now have a rescheduled interview in 15 minutes, and I'm wearing matching shoes. Wish me luck reddit.", "summary": "wore mismatching shoes, one with a hole in it, to a job interview and had to delay the meeting."}
{"id": "t3_1rvjt9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Advice on equipment?", "post": "If this isn't the right place to ask, please let me know!\n\nI'm 24/F/5'9\"/CW180/GW155. I'm working to lose weight by counting calories, monitoring carb/fat intake, and generally making better choices (taking the stairs, walking places instead of taking the metro, etc). I'm having little success. I have ceased getting larger (which to be fair is a victory), but I have yet to get much smaller in size or on the scale. I was down to 174 before Thanksgiving, and despite making great choices that day, I ended up blowing it Saturday and I'm right back to where I was.\n\nMy biggest issue is getting enough exercise. I'm in a relatively demanding graduate program. I spend probably 12-16 hours a day on my butt writing, researching, and reading/taking notes. This leaves very little time to get in good cardio. Additionally, as a grad student, I am tight on cash and live in a tiny apartment. I've heard about folding exercise bikes and manual treadmills, but I don't know enough about them to know if they work well enough to be worth the cost.\n\nMy quest: can you help me find a way to get decent cardio without spending too much, without taking up too much room, and preferably with the ability to multitask? I'm sure I'm not the only one out here in this boat.", "summary": "I need cardio but have no time, no space, and little money. Advice on equipment?"}
{"id": "t3_29x233", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [19 F] of 4 months, thinking I could probably do better and feeling guilty about it.", "post": "So I've been with my gf for 4 months now and in the beginning I was so excited to get with her cause we had been friends for a while and I always thought she would be awesome to hook up with. However, things have not gone as planned. She acts very open and adventurous about things so I thought sex would be the same but it's not, the sex is very vanilla. \n\nOn top of that, I'm starting to think I could find a more attractive partner. I mean my current gf is cute, but for a long term relationship I would prefer to have a girl that wows me every time I look at her or think about her.\n\nMy current gf is a great friend, and gets along well with the guys but she's just not... Sexy I guess is the word. Idk I feel selfish and shallow for writing all this, but I'm being honest. Has anyone experienced something similar? Know if I'm just making something out of nothing or panicking? Any advice or thoughts are welcome.", "summary": "my gf, although smart ambitious and fun, is pretty bland sexually and I'm starting to think I could find someone far more physically attractive. Is this wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3vftpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[28m] girlfriend[27f]'s posted sex tapes online with her ex[23m]", "post": "I don't know what the hell to do. I made an account to post this here. Girlfriend and I have been together for a year. \n\nOn my main reddit account I had got gotten a lot of karma from a big post. I never showed my girlfriend reddit before, but I wanted to show off how popular my post had gotten. She told me she was familiar with reddit, that her ex actually showed her the website. \n\nIn my competitive nature, I wanted to see if I had more karma than him. I asked her, his username and she told me that it was probably the same as his Instagram. I went on to see his profile\u2026 all of his posts were in gonewild subreddits. I started looking back this guy's dick was twice the size of mine. \n\nNot only that he had posts up of my girlfriend. There was a gif of my girlfriend giving him a blow job (Her eyes/face are blurred out but I can tell by everything else its her), and then her swallowing it all and smiling. This is something she has NEVER done for me. If she does give me a blow job which isn't often she runs to the bathroom like she has battery acid in her mouth. And now here she is doing it lovingly for this other guy.  \n\nThere were other things too, there was one of him with my girlfriend and another girl. All of this was a shock to me. My girlfriend has not ever been that sexual of a person with me. She always told me she wasn't like that kind of girl, that her idea of a fun night was cuddling and watching a movie. However, looking at this she was this other guy's bedroom acrobat.\n\nAfter watching the videos, I asked her if she would ever be interested in spicing up our sex life. I asked her if she would be interested in some of the stuff I saw on the posts of her. She got mad at me and said does she look like a prostitute.", "summary": "there are videos of my girlfriend online that show her enjoying sex with her ex. In the video she does a lot of stuff she has never done with me."}
{"id": "t3_2kb9et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] have been on a few dates with [26 M]. Starting to like him but should I be concerned about the age gap?", "post": "Will try to keep this short. Went on a date with someone we'll call Jeff over the summer. I had a blast - he was incredibly sweet, we had great conversations, and I ended up staying the night at his place cuddling most of the night (among other things). We would have seen each other again right after that, but that week I had to return to school several states away. We stayed in contact, texting a few times a week and promising to see each other again once I was home.  \n\nFast forward to now. I ended up going on another date with him a few days ago, which went even better than the first. I admitted to him that I was starting to like him and he returned the sentiment. \n\nHowever, I'm finding myself concerned about the age gap (~7 years) between us. Jeff is really sweet, sensible, holds a steady job and really has his shit together. I'm just second year in college. I'm painfully aware of how much I have matured in the last year alone and I'm not sure if I should be worried that someone who has had 7 more years to mature and develop would be interested in me. When I asked him if he made a habit of dating 19 year olds, he said no, never, but that \"if two people connect, they connect.\" \n\nI definitely agree with him there, but I also know I'm young and have a *lot* more growing up to do. I guess I'm just wondering what kind of 26 year old would be interested in someone so immature. I keep thinking there must be something wrong with him for this to be the case, even though he seems to be the perfect guy. As I only have my perspective on this, I don't know if this is normal or not. \n\n**I guess my question for reddit is, is it automatically a red flag for this guy to be into me? Other redditors in their mid twenties, would you consider dating someone my age?", "summary": "Went on a few dates with an amazing guy, worried that him being interested in someone as young as me is a red flag. Could use some advice."}
{"id": "t3_4hf0hc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with SO [27M], he's complacent/satisfied with sex life, I'm not.", "post": "I [27F] have been in a relationship with SO for ~5 yrs. When we were first dating, sex was more experimental and varied. Now it's routine - same 3-4 positions, same sequence of events. Still feels good, but kinda boring. I've actually told SO that I wished we could have more variety in our sex life. He's not against it per se but I'm coming up with all the ideas so sometimes it feels like he's not super into it or just doing things to humor me. \n\nSO says that what we do now works for him and I guess he doesn't feel the need to try anything else. No secret unfulfilled fetishes or anything like that,  I've asked repeatedly and promised not to judge. I can respect his preferences but it's weird to me that his attitude towards sex seems so vanilla now when he was more into experimenting at the beginning of our relationship. \n\nIn his defense, he's been at a demanding job for the last two years. But does that mean sex for him has become an afterthought?  I love him but he's not changing careers so is this it??", "summary": "Seems like SO doesn't care about the quality or variety of sex, just wants me to scratch the itch so he can get on with his day"}
{"id": "t3_2jmy0w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my 26 [F] 6 months, we're having weight issues", "post": "So I began dating a girl six months ago. Really nice girl, we are opposite but attract all good.\n\nWhen we met she told me she was a sports starlet in her youth. I thought it was cool but it didn't impact how I felt about her all that much.\n\nNow I have been trying to get in better shape myself for on off the last year, and I told her this when we met. One day about three months in she said she had decided to do the same, and explained how she used to be in great shape, super hot and had let herself go, showing me pictures etc.\n\nI was pleased for her and asked her to keep me posted on how it goes. So she keeps telling me she's doing all these things, classes, runs, etc, yet there's literally been no change in three months. Whenever we end up eating, she's usually having some kind of fast food or savoury food.\n\nI've dropped some weight and I'm looking good. Meanwhile her stories are getting less and less.\n\nI really don't know how to bring this up without sounding like a dick. It's also lead me to question whether we can move forward because I want a partner that takes care of themselves and she just doesn't seem to be doing so or even want to.", "summary": "Girl I'm dating said she wanted to get in shape. Keeps telling me she's working out but nothing's changed."}
{"id": "t3_khjlr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it right for my flatmate's friend to have sex in my lounge?", "post": "I share a flat with six people, each of us having our own pretty big rooms. One of my flatmates has a friend staying with us for a couple of weeks so she's sleeping in the lounge while she's here. I got up for work the other morning after they'd just come in from a night out (at about 7am). As I'm eating breakfast I sense that they're waiting for me to leave the lounge making me feel a little uncomfortable.\n\n  Half an hour later as I'm heading out the door I hear the friend and some guy she met in a club having sex in the lounge. When I return home after work I tell the flatmate that I don't want her friend (or anyone else) having sex in the lounge because it's a communal area for all the flat. She argued that as she paid rent for the flat as well that her friends could fuck wherever they want. \n\n  Am I crazy for thinking it's wrong for people to be having sex in the lounge?", "summary": "Flatmate's friend has sex in the lounge. This angers me."}
{"id": "t3_215tlh", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Heading to Brazil this summer! What are the must-sees and the off-the-beaten-track gems?", "post": "My family is headed to Brazil for the World Cup this summer and we're starting to set our itinerary. Here is what we know (pretty much revolves around where we have tickets):\n\n- Salvador for the Germany v Portugal game on 6/16\n- Fortaleza for Germany v Ghana on 6/21\n- (Probably) Recife for Germany v USA on 6/26\n\nWe don't know where we'll be for the round of 16 and quarterfinal games, but it looks like we'll be moving around between Sao Paulo, Brasilia, and Rio starting July 1.  Our plans also will include Iguazu Falls at some point.\n\n**What I'm asking**\n\n- Are there any must-sees in the country that I'm missing?\n- What might be some good, interesting day trips I can take from any of those cities?  We like outdoorsy hiking type activities, beautiful landscapes and wildlife, interesting cultural anecdotes, good food...\n- What are some hidden gems in any of those cities (like good restaurants, market places, neighborhoods) that may not show up in a travel book?\n- Logistical advice on getting around, what to look for in choosing hotels (like which neighborhoods?), etc.  We saw that there is a Brazil air pass which we will probably purchase, but any other thoughts are welcome.\n\nI've ordered the NatGeo travel book, Fodor's Brazil 2014 (World Cup edition), as well as Fodor's: Rio, Best 25.  If I'm missing a good one, let me know!\n\nNo specific budget, but let's keep it reasonable :)\n\nThank you!\n\n*<", "summary": "> Looking for secret gems of all sorts in Brazil, specifically in the cities of Rio, Sao Paulo, Recife, Brasilia, Fortaleza, and Salvador.*"}
{"id": "t3_4x0to1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by towing a car backwards.", "post": "A few months ago I was lending a car to someone and the A/C compressor pulley locked up on the car and burned through the serpentine belt. They coasted to a shop and had them look into it. They wanted 2K to fix it (the car is worth that much) and 1400 just to put a new pully on it without changing out the compressor. Fuck that. I could do it myself for 200, but I didn't really care enough to because it's my third vehicle and I didn't feel like putting more money into it right now. \n\nFast forward to Saturday. The shop had called me a few days prior and said they wanted it out of their lot or they were towing it, or that the owner would buy it for 1500. I don't have the money for a tow truck at the moment and wasn't going to be able to get it up on a uhaul dolly without a team of people so I just figured I'd yank it home with my Jeep and put my brother in the car. \n\nWe get to the shop and discover there's no tow hook on the front of the car. Fuck. So I'd have to pull it home backwards. We get out of the lot and make it about a mile, and the lights turn yellow. There was no way I was going to make it through the light (I should've just fucking ran it) so I slow to a stop. The brakes stopped working on the car and he plowed right into me, butt to butt. Fucked up the ass end of the car and broke the back window, and fucked up the tire rack on my jeep. So I pulled it to a side street and just said fuck it and left it for now. \n\nNow I need to decide if I fix the car or junk it. The only reason I haven't sold it is my wife still owes 4K on it and it's worth half that.", "summary": "towed a car backwards and had it slam into me butt to butt, fucking up the car and my Jeep. "}
{"id": "t3_twsnw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Making a movie, and knew Reddit was the best place for Feed back. I have some questions!", "post": "Ill keep this short and will go into detail when I am asked about the specific subject.\n\nSo, there are a lot of \"mockumentary\" films being produced and they are obviously catching on. There are huge Hollywood budget first person films being made constantly. And a large majority of these films are subject around teenagers (The Virginity Hit, Chronicle, etc.) What's better than a mockumentary? An Actual Documentary.\n\nWhat I would love to do is Film my friends and I entire Summer from when school gets out, till school begins. I would ask them what their plans for the summer are, and follow through with them through summer and film it.\n\nI would love to make this film so that the viewer actually feels like they were teenagers again, getting the rush of school letting out, and those first steps outside of the building knowing that you have months ahead of you of nothing but laziness and fun.\n\nI have been making short films for 3 years now and I believe I require the Camera work and editing skills to pull this off. I would love to grasp the feeling of summer and hopefully create nostalgia for people watching this film. I would keep it short, probably around an hour and twenty minutes of running time.\n\nI have two 1080p cameras in my hands already and Sony Vegas Pro 11. I have the required instruments to pull this off, but i don't want to go through all of this trouble for 10 views. Due to electronic cameras i could have days of film on my laptop with out having to deal with worrying about space.\n\nI would upload the film on Youtube for free because, fuck it, why not?\nI'm doing this because I love film and would love to share my experience with other movie lovers as well.\n\nIN NO WAY AM I ASKING FOR MONEY. I know people do things like this all the time asking for their Kick Starter. I am just seeing who would be interested.\n\nUp voting this would be so awesome because that means more feedback.\n\nAll questions or statements below will not be taken personally, i am just looking for honest feedback.", "summary": "Making a documentary of Highschool summer with friends, seeing who's interested in seeing final product."}
{"id": "t3_eevoa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you imagine all the people? Sharing all the world?", "post": "Alright, Reddit I'm coming to you for help (again!) I've been really inspired by multiple posts of people either giving stuff away for no real reason or random acts of pizza kindness sprinkled here and there. This, to me, is incredible! However, I think the community can do better. Much, much, much better. Would you like to trade clothes with people from all over Reddit-land? What about sending some food to a hungry college kid? Got a bunch of crap you'd either throw away or lose in the garage for many many decades? Let's do it! I've set up a reddit just for this purpose: [Surplus Exchange] I'm sure this has been done before. But we can make it better. We have to go deeper! If you've got something (*anything!*) that your looking to get rid of or exchange for something cool, post it up! I hope you'll look past this shameless self plug, but I really am passionate about this idea and i believe it could be something wonderful for this community! Hope you can see things the same way =)", "summary": "r/surplusexchange  Let's change the world"}
{"id": "t3_2op91o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28 M] dumped by [32 F] after 2 months. Why go on a whole other date before doing it?", "post": "So I've been dating this woman for about two months. It seemed to be going really well. I assumed at some point she'd bring up if this would turn into a relationship.\n\nWe had a bit of a break because of Thanksgiving (both out of town) but kept in touch over the phone. We made plans this weekend, had what seems like a nice night out and then I go to drop her off.\n\nJust before she gets out of the car she gives me a rehearsed line that she doesn't see it going to the next level, doesn't know why etc but she really enjoys spending time with me.\n\nWow, that's quite a 180 there... I was shocked and just said \"If you're not feeling it...\" and trailed off. She teared up, kind of waited around for a while, and said I could text her whenever I wanted (yeah, right). I think she expected me to say \"let's be friends\" but I just said \"later\" and she got out.\n\nHere's what I don't understand. It seems clear to me that this wasn't a new issue. So why stay in contact over the holiday? Why let me plan another night out? Why go on a half hour drive each way with me plus dinner?\n\nWHY go on another entire date and then break off the whole thing just as we're saying goodbye? I would have been fine with a phone call or \"hey, come over and let's talk.\"", "summary": "Why schedule another date specifically to break up at very end?"}
{"id": "t3_2j5h0y", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Atlanta, GA] Rent increase switching from lease to month-to-month", "post": "My 12-month apartment lease expired at the end of August, and I need to stay on a month-to-month agreement now since I plan to move in a few months.\n\nThe lease specifies that the MTM rate is \"market rate\" + $50.  I was paying $1200 during the lease, and when the lease expired I received no word from my land-lord, and I totally forgot it expired.  I paid $1200 for Sept and mailed $1200 for Oct.  Only after they received the October check they told me that the lease expired and market rate is now $1450, so I need to pay $1500 for Oct.\n\nMy understanding is that in GA, 60 days notice is required for a rent increase on a MTM agreement.  Does this apply to my situation, immediately coming off of a lease?  If I had known I was going to get hit by a 25% increase I would have considered moving instead, but that's not possible with zero notice.  Is it my responsibility to have inquired what \"market rate\" was nearing the end of the lease?", "summary": "Does raising the MTM rent as the lease expires require advanced notice?"}
{"id": "t3_4k1so2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] SO and I [21 M] recently broke up due to religious differences. Now talking about getting back together", "post": "Me and her dated for 1 and a half years but it was a great time. She's a highly devout Catholic, even being the rep of the Catholic Student Movement, while I am a typical redditor so that says a lot about my take on religion but I never pressured her and tried to be supportive of her beliefs and never pushed for sex and we never did end up having it due to her beliefs. After one of her friends started talking about \"being equally yoked\" it started to weigh on her mind and we eventually broke up amicably because of it. It was Lent and she wanted to read the Bible with me. I did it, but she could see I wasn't genuinely interested. She has been to a retreat recently and the speaker told her she shouldn't judge people based on their spirituality because people change. \n\nNow she's talking about getting back together. But I'm generally concerned if I should put myself back in that situation. It caused a lot of heartbreak the first time and I don't know if I want to deal with that again. Though I do still love her and I'm greatly unsure if I'd ever find anyone who gets me that well. Mainly though, I'm unsure if I should enter a relationship where the other person openly wants me to change and be religious and would always be on the lookout for that. Also because of how one person brought it up and a speaker reassured her, I'm wondering if all it's gonna take is a priest saying the wrong thing. I absolutely love her still. I'm not an easy person to understand and she did a good job", "summary": "Not sure if should get back with gf. Halp reddit"}
{"id": "t3_52c3g2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/F] with live-in BF [28/M] I need help understanding his transgender fetish", "post": "I posted late last night but got hardly any responses so I'm trying again. Where do I begin..about a year ago I caught my SO \"Mike\" messaging transgender prostitutes on craigslist. He said it was because he was feeling insecure (don't know why, I love him and would never cheat on him or talk to other guys in an inappropriate manner). That's when it came out for the first time he had this fetish. I saw the emails, he definitely cut contact after their initial response. \n\nNext incident, A few months ago we were visiting NYC and I said we should download tinder for fun just to see the people in this city and to mess with people (I know, I'm the worst). Well, it turns out he had a message from a girl on tinder from 2 months before, nothing incriminating, just him reaching out seeing if she would bite. Same excuse, he was feeling insecure.\n\nFast forward to this past week. I've been on edge a bit from all these incidents (so sue me, seriously so would you) so I look at his phone occasionally (and he can look at mine) and up pops a twitter account for \"Hung transexuals only\" that he posts in everyday multiple times a day.\n\nNow, I'm not the kind of girlfriend that cares about porn habits, but when you're running your own porn website I think that's a bit extreme and uncomfortable.\nThere is more dynamic at play here but that's the gist of it and I really need an outside opinion to tell me I'm not going crazy or feeling unjustifiable.", "summary": "BF has fetish, I'm too old for this shit."}
{"id": "t3_288mb5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A question for guys: Do you do these things when you are interested in someone?", "post": "I have a guy friend who I made recently and he asks to hang out a lot and whenever we go grab a bite he offers to pay. I always say no but sometimes he is very persistent. He also tries to hug me a lot and texts me rather often. I've just recently met him at work so I find his behaviour a bit odd because even though we're friends, I'm still getting to know him and I don't feel close enough to him to be so touchy feely. Also, I think he may be interested in me, which if he is, I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want him to think I don't appreciate his friendship. I do enjoy hanging out with him but just as a friend.\n\nHow do I know if he likes me or is just being friendly? How do I set boundaries without being rude? He is fun to hangout with but I'm not a sentimental person and I don't like being touched. I am also not attracted to him at all.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot  and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts? We are both 19."}
{"id": "t3_2wpuva", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By trolling my brothers Facebook.", "post": "So it was around 12am and I had just seen Forest Gump for the third time and I was bored, so I logged onto my computer and opened Firefox and lo and behold Facebook was open with my brothers account logged in. So I seized the opportunity to have some fun, at first I changed his profile pic to MLP but then realized I could do something much more diabolical. So I uploaded some swastika photos to his account, changed his name to Adolf Hitler and then made his profile picture and banner into swastikas! Yay me! when I woke up, my Brother had been receiving messages about the photos, (not kind ones) My brother has (had) some Jewish friends and I feel like shit.", "summary": "Turned my bros fb account into Nazi propaganda and suffered the consequences."}
{"id": "t3_15yr2g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you view the use of emoticons in daily communication?", "post": "* Do you look down on them?\n* Do you not care?\n* Do you find the occasional use pleasant if tasteful?\n\nWhat about if used for:\n\n* Dating sites\n* Texts\n* Emails (Professional)\n\nThe english language allows us to express ourselves quite well (er, and other languages too!) - but even as someone who enjoys quality writing, I still add the occasional :) if I feel I need to remind someone I'm being friendly. \n\nPersonally I dislike :) in professional emails, general overuse, etc. Otherwise I don't mind them (the exception for sites like Facebook which turn your :) into an ANNOYING ugly smiley face without asking).", "summary": "Emoticons, love or hate and why?"}
{"id": "t3_15x8kr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M/21], not sure how to communicate with emotionally inexperienced girl [F/20]", "post": "Warning: I'm pretty inexperienced with women. Never had a relationship... ever. So keep that in mind. This girl is also inexperienced too, I think, since she's been single for the last three years at least.\n\nI'm in college, and have known this girl since freshman year. We are NOT really friends, more like acquaintances who bump into each other from time to time. She's interesting, pretty, funny, etc, and I like her. We were chatting yesterday through FB the other night and afterwards, I sent a message inviting her to get a drink. A day's gone by and she saw it this morning but has said nothing. So my questions:\n\n1) Not bothering to reply for 12+ hours is a big deal or not? I figure it wouldn't take too long to say \"sure\". Should I put her in the rejection category and move on?\n\n2) If I want to prod a bit, should I make a joking reference that this is in fact a date? Something like sending her a message now saying \"Haha also, my New Year's resolution is to be pointedly obvious so yes, this is a date request\".\n\nDeep down inside, I'm thinking that #2 is a really bad idea so I'm only half serious about that. But please, give advice and tell me if I'm coming across as a complete tool or whatever. Maybe she doesn't know it's a date request since nobody's really asked her in a long time. Asking her in person would probably be a better idea but I don't know when I'll physically see her again.", "summary": "Dunno how to ask girl out."}
{"id": "t3_20qm7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my partner [20F] of 4 years, she will not have sex due to fear of pregnancy.", "post": "We have been dating for almost 4 years now, and we are both still virgins because she refuses to have sex. She explains she wants to try, but gets very upset whenever I ask if she's ready or how long I will have to wait. \n\nHer reasoning is that she doesn't know how to get birth control without letting her parents know, and she won't try with just condoms because she's terrified of getting pregnant. It's almost my 21st birthday and it's been eating away at my self-esteem knowing that I'm still a virgin and it's because my lover doesn't think it's worth trying. It's not even an option in her mind and I don't know how I can convince her otherwise. I don't know what to do, but this is definitely hurting our relationship.", "summary": "I am in a sexless relationship of 4 years and I don't know how to help my partner feel more comfortable with the idea of sex. Does anyone have a similar experience or advice for how I should try to resolve this? Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_1je0z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy friend (35M) confessed his feelings for me (25F). Really don't want to hurt him, but I don't want a relationship.", "post": "I know it's fairly obvious what needs to be done here. I need to tell him that I'm not interested. But, I'm just feeling so guilty... for a couple reasons:\n\n1) I know it take a LOT of courage to tell someone that you're into them. He put himself out there for me, let himself be vulnerable for my sake, and I really don't want him to feel embarrassed or hurt by my rejection.\n\n2) I probably led him on a little bit. When he told me he was interested I was totally shocked and caught off guard. He told me RIGHT after he had been on a date with a girl he met on Match.com, which I knew about and was totally rooting for him for it to go well. But, when he told me, and subsequently kissed me, I let him... and I kissed him back. It was such a sweet and courageous thing for him to do, and I was taken aback, and I let it happen. Up to this point, I had sporadically considered what it would be like to date him, and occasionally fantasized about him confessing feelings for me, but when he actually did it, I knew right then that it wasn't right.\n\nI really wish I could just magically develop feelings for him, because we hang out a lot and get along really well and have a lot in common. But I know now that I just don't have those feelings for him and that I have to break it off before things get any deeper (no pun intended :P). I am definitely not looking for a relationship right now (which people seem to find hard to believe) and he clearly is if he's been posting to Match.com. \n\nSo, tell me, wise Redditors. How do I let him down as tenderly yet firmly as possible? I really really don't want to hurt him, yet this seems inevitable right now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. He's calling me to \"talk\" in about an hour, and I'm at a loss for what to say.", "summary": "Guy friend confessed having feelings for me. I let him kiss me. Don't want this relationship. HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_4r3mn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/m] am hosting a weekend in a fortnight, and two of the guests [21/m][20/m] have fallen out bitterly over a girl", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief.\n\nNine months ago one of my best friends [20/m then] was dumped by his girlfriend [20/f then]. He was very upset about it but they did carry on on/off for another few months. She didn't treat him well, leading him on while having things with other guys. \n\nAs soon as they broke up one of his best mates [19/m then] latched onto her and became like her GBF. He lied to the previous boyfriend about his relationship with her right up until the moment when they first hooked up. One thing led to another and they're now going out. If that isn't clear: a guy is going out with a former best mate's ex.\n\nThe fallout from this has been so bitter. It's caused a massive rift in our social circle, and they can't stand each other.\n\nAnyway, I'm hosting a weekend at my house in a fortnight and they had both been invited before this all went down. I don't think I can have them both here and I would have to choose the guy whose ex it is, because I'm closer to him and because it's not his fault. I don't know what to say to them or if there is a way of making this work.", "summary": "In our social group, two former best mates have fallen out so badly because one of them is now going out with the other's ex, and tried to get in there as soon as they broke up. They're both coming to a weekend at mine and I don't know what to do/say. I think I have to tell the now-boyfriend not to come."}
{"id": "t3_3httd1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating tzatziki", "post": "Obligatory this was when I was in high school. \n\nSo, for those of you who don't know, in Boston there's a shopping area called Haymarket. To all the tourists in the area, it's just Faneuil Hall, which is the crazy cramped food court building in the center of the area. You can get all kinds of foods there, ranging from Irish pub to mediocre Chinese food to sushi to Gelato. My personal favorite is currently the mac and cheese shop, but that's not the point.\n\nWhen I was in high school and come into Boston on my own, I would always make a bee line to the Greek shop in Faneuil Hall. During my first time there, I noticed the food item called \"tzatziki - a kind of Greek yogurt.\" Coming from East Bumfuck, NH, I didn't know much about many other cultures' food stuffs, but I certainly knew about Greek yogurt!\n\nI don't know why I choose this, because I hated yogurt at the time (\"it has live bacteria in it!\" I can't explain the logic in that argument if I tried,) but I decided to order it. The people at the counter looked at me and were like, \"Okay, tzatziki aaaaaand?\" And then I cheerfully replied with, \"Oh, and a Nantucket Nectar!\"\n\nThey just looked at me, reached into the display case, and slid the solid near-2 cup tub of tzatziki over to me. I bounced up and down in excitement, gave them some money (and told them to keep the change! I'm a good person!) And bounced upstairs to eat lunch with a spoon. It tasted great, but after like five or more bites it caused that reaction where your body is just like, \"Okay, you need to cool it with that stuff.\"\n\nI proceeded to order tzatziki every time I went to Faneuil Hall for a solid year. I couldn't figure out why everyone around me looked at me with mild disgust/bewilderment. Until I looked at the ingredient list for an online recipe for tzatziki.", "summary": "I sat by myself in one of the most cramped sections of Boston eating the Greek equivalent of mayonnaise with a spoon. A lot."}
{"id": "t3_uotot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I let him down gently?", "post": "Me 23F him 28M We have been friends for around 4 years and used to work with each other, We have remained in contact over facebook chat since I left that job. We often rant to each other about our lives and talk about our common interests. I believed it to be two friends offloading problems and bouncing ideas off one another. \nNow he has asked me to go out with him next week, as I am fairly naive I believed this to be just two old friends catching up. Only as he is texting me he is talking about how well we will get on and how good our \"arrangement\" will be. Not only that but he is arranging things for us to do in the future. To be honest he is freaking me out a little and has text me six times today without a reply from me. \n\nUsually I am pretty straight forward and very honest I don't believe in playing games or keeping someone hanging on but he has a fair few mental problems and with rights he should as his ex of eight years broke up with him when he proposed to her and also let him in on the fact she had been cheating on him throughout their relationship. He often rants to me about being alone forever and how girls only want to be friends with him. \nI don't want to upset him or give him another reason to feel bad but I honestly don't know what else to do. I do only see him as a friend and am not at all sexually attracted to the guy personality or looks. I can be pretty harsh especially with guys that message/phone me every five minuets (I was in a very controlling relationship for 2.5 years) and he is already doing my head in.", "summary": "Gotta tell a clingy depressed friend that I'm not interested. How? "}
{"id": "t3_3auocs", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Depressed, anxious. Alternatives to self choking?", "post": "I used to be bullied. Am on a break from college due to mental illness.\n\nI don't have many friends to talk to.\n\nI do have one close friend but I don't want to trouble them. When I get sad instead of talking I take it out on me by choking/muffling myself. To the point Ive almost suffocated several times.\n\nSometimes the feels get too much and it's like I lose all rationality. Become a different and more violent person, and just want to see the kinder and 'weaker' me suffer. Like I deserve the pain. Like I shouldn't be alive. Like even if I were gone it doesn't matter.\n\nYes I'm seeing a psychaitrist in the near future.", "summary": "Alternatives to self choking? Advice on what to do please?"}
{"id": "t3_3ujuek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "16[M] likes this girl I met this year who is 16[F] want to ask her to winter formal", "post": "I met this girl this year in high school in my engineering class. I actually got into a group with her and her friend. For the past month I have been talking with her every time it becomes that period. \n\nMaybe a few weeks ago, I notice they were playing a game and said \"oh my god, your playing plant versus zombies.\" She giggled and told me to sit right next to her with her friend. We have pretty long conversation about stuff, she even showed me pictures of her as a child on her google drive. I was wondering is there a chance she likes me, and how would I ask her to winter formal.\n\nI joined youth and government this year, which is a ymca hosted club which introduces you to the democratic system that happens in our government. She is also in it and we talk, she introduced me to it and told me to join. She also asked me if I was going to the trip and sounded exited when i said yes.\nK thx :D", "summary": "Met this girl, talk to her a lot. want to ask her to winter formal tips"}
{"id": "t3_1zjwk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my girlfriend [33F] of 2 months, trying to support her in a male dominated career/industry/workplace.", "post": "This conversations started the other day with me explaining to my girlfriend that a pair of glasses she usually wears are particularly unattractive (which, I believe, is true and she agrees). This turned in to something much more.\n\nShe tells me that the job she started 3-4 months ago is male-dominated and she feels as if she's constantly being \"stared at\" and wants to be treated as a regular employee. She says that she wears unattractive glasses because she feels as if she's taken more seriously by being deliberately \"non-sexy\" which I absolutely understand. She then began crying and saying how much she hates it and that she has to deal with garbage truck drivers frequently who she feels like are staring at her in a potentially sexual nature.\n\nIt absolutely breaks my heart to hear these things and I'm completely lost on how to support her, which I want to desperately. Quitting her job is a non-option as it's an opportunity she has been working for the past 5-6 years and is a massive career breakthrough for her.\n\nAny advice? Thank you!", "summary": "Girlfriend feels she needs to appear unattractive at work in order to be taken seriously. How can I support her?"}
{"id": "t3_44jd7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[33M] want to ask a coworker [33F]of one month out but I don't know if my behavior has lowered my chances.", "post": "There is this woman I worked with that I felt an attraction towards.  The work we did didn't allow for much conversation so let's just say I know next to nothing about her.  \n\nThere are some things she does that makes me think she is interested in me.  For example, I notice her looking at me quite often.  Also, she seems kind of shy around me.\n\nHowever, there are somethings that she also does that makes me think she doesn't like me.  She has never made an attempt to talk to me.  And she sometimes seems uncomfortable around me.  I'm not sure if this is due to her shyness or if she genuinely does not like me.\n\nOne day I got into a fight with the boss and abruptly quit.  No one at work, including the girl that I liked, knows why I quit.\n\nBut about a month after I returned to work working on a different shift.  I know longer saw the girl that I liked except once in a while when we change shifts.  One time I was late and running into the workplace when I saw her walking towards the bathroom.  Immediately I made a left turn so it looked like I was avoiding her.\n\nIn my peripheral vision I saw her waving towards me but I ignored it.  I think this might have been seen as my rejection of her.  I've since realized what a huge mistake it was because it would have given me a chance to clear the air about my reasons for quitting.  \n\nNow i want to give her my number and have her call me to see if we can have something outside of work.  I'm not sure if what I did was bad enough that she has just turned off towards the idea of going out with me.", "summary": "Want to ask a girl out at work but don't know if some of the things I've done have turned her off.  Should I take a chance and give her my number and have her call me?"}
{"id": "t3_3ewgn6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17f) father (57m) and I have massive communication problems.", "post": "My fathers emotions show whenever he has them. He thinks he can hide them, but thats not true at all. \n\nWhen he gets angry, he won't yell, but there is a really bad pressure in his voice. It's like he hisses his words and the person he's hissing at feels like he will jump at them and rip them to pieces any moment. Occasionally he will throw stuff around the room (NOT at people!) or kick and hit the wall. Still he thinks he remains perfectly calm.\n\nUsually I back away and so whatever he wants when he gets like this and hide in my room until it's over. Once he followed me and blocked my way. I have a needle phobia. When he came running towards me, I had the exact same reaction as I have towards needles. \n\nI also have asthma. One evening I realized I would have to talk to him about some minor theme. I knew he would be angry again. I had an asthma attack (don't know if thats what it's called in english). My body reacts to the thought of a fight with my father by almost killing itself?!\n\nI don't know what to do anymore, when I adress the topic, he either gets mad or denies it. Even when his wife does. I love my father, except for this he is great. Please give me ideas how to deal with this so we can have a healthy relationship again.", "summary": "father gets really aggressive really easily; I'm scared shitless of him;"}
{"id": "t3_3xiud3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] in a 1 year relationship, girl wants to take it to the next level", "post": "Okay everyone, I created a reddit account to ask you all for some advice. I've been dating a great girl for almost a year, we get along great and we're both in college, living in separate apartments, and have different groups of friends. \n\nI'm fairly introverted in the sense that being with someone for extended periods of time is exhausting. Because we have such different lives, we only spend 3-5 days a week together and communicate through text/etc when we are apart. This works for us and I rarely get sick of seeing her.\n \nNow however, she wants to take our relationship to the next level and has told me she wants to find a place and move in together. I don't want this at all because I need my alone time and the personal space that living separately gives me. She is very insistent and any mention of my concerns ends with her stating that I dont love her, etc etc. \n\nAs stated I am still very young and I'm not ready for this.\n-Am I selfish or are my thoughts reasonable?\n-How do I tell her I don't want this without it ruining our relationship?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to live together, I'm not ready for that level of commitment -- how to I tell her this?"}
{"id": "t3_4tbdml", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Above minimum wage Jobs that require no degree?", "post": "I'm in debt due to student loans (yay) and I'd like to go back to school for something I'd actually enjoy pursing a career in. But since my 18 year dumb ass thought graphic design was a great idea in 2008, I'm stuck with a worthless associates degree in graphic design from the art institutes. \n\nIdeally I'd want to be a piercer, taxidermist, working with animals in some aspect, dead people/dead animals, or something that requires an artistic touch. But I have no connections to help me with an apprenticeship for piercing so that's out, I can't go back to school due to debt, and my town is very small and the only jobs I've found that are artistic in any way are screen printing jobs but they only pay minimum wage and are on the opposite side of town. \n\nI guess the", "summary": "version is: Is there any way I can obtain a job in any of the above mentioned career paths without having to go back to school because getting any sort of school loan is not possible for me."}
{"id": "t3_2fm3rg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing bong snaps", "post": "So on Tuesday morning, my roommate woke me up and asked if I wanted to smoke some bong. I had an afternoon class, but it wasn't too intense, so I figured I could smoke a little. We went over to the apartment where he kept the bong, and he packed the first bowl. He asked if I had ever done \"snaps\". I'm a fairly experienced smoker, but had never heard of these. He explained that snapping basically entails packing a bowl, lighting it, and then inhaling hard until the entire bowl went through the slide (the little pipe that connects the bowl to the water). Basically, smoking an entire bowl in one hit.\n\nNot really thinking too hard, I decided to try it. I packed the bowl, lit it and inhaled as hard as I could, and like magic the bowl burned down and slid into the water. Somehow, I was able to clear the entire ~2 foot bong in one go. I started coughing and got up to get water, and within 30 seconds felt very high. I was impressed, and sat down, and almost immediately felt terribly uncomfortable. My skin felt greasy from the tiny amount of sweat it had accumulated in the sun, and the mucus in my throat from a recent cold felt cold and disgusting. Within a few more minutes I felt nauseated and was in front of the toilet wondering why the fuck I just got this high. My roommate suggested I head back to my room, which I did. Walking through the bright sun and heat was a terrible experience. I got back to my room, set an alarm for before my class, and went to sleep.\n\nWhen I woke up, I started scrambling to get ready, but after a few seconds of standing up, I realized I had the worst, most splitting headache of my life and still felt nauseated. I realized there was absolutely no chance of me getting to class.\n\nLuckily, the fact that I was recovering from a cold meant that the teachers believed me when I said I didn't make it to class because I was terribly sick.", "summary": "Don't try new, adventurous weed-smoking techniques on school days."}
{"id": "t3_16h9wk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] In a relationship with (20/f) and I need help..", "post": "So I met this girl who's a sophomore my first semester of college and we hit it off really well and became \"official\" towards the end of the semester. She lives 3.5 hours away so I haven't gotten to see her too much since our winter break started. I visited once and it was great meeting her family and friends and I'm looking forward to seeing her again this Tuesday.\n\nAnyway...this is only my second relationship and my first was awful because my ex was very manipulative and cheated on me twice and unfortunately I let her walk all over me because I thought I was being \"nice\". That one lasted for about a year. I never did anything to wrong my ex and she always talked about how I was \"the best bf ever because I actually treated her right\" and then shit happened anyway...this has kinda made me a bit worried about things with my current gf for no reason.\n\nWe've only known each other for a few months but we're already very comfortable together and act weird all the time and it's great. I was very hesitant about things with her because I consider her \"out of my league\" but apparently she's actually attracted to me (I wouldn't say I'm very attractive) but the biggest thing I get from her friends is that I'm actually a nice guy unlike previous bf's.\n\nThe problem is that I get these irrational thoughts of her cheating on me (since I'm not around during breaks) and I get depressed and everything just seems so difficult. It's not like \"she hasn't texted me back in 10 minutes...she's cheating\". It doesn't happen very often thank goodness and I'm dealing with it a lot better than I would've almost a year ago after the last relationship but I'd prefer if it didn't happen at all. My friends are the best because I can talk to them about this (and I do) but I thought I would get some feedback from /r/relationship_advice.", "summary": "I have a fantastic relationship with a girl and I would like to know how to deal with my irrational fears of cheating because I'm worried they might prevent me from seeing what I have right now..."}
{"id": "t3_18mh8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend(M17) began ignoring me(F18) without explanation, and suddenly wants me to call him, argument ensues. UPDATE", "post": "New account, forgot the other throw away account password.\n\nOriginal Post [Here] (\n\nThanks to everyone who gave me advice on this. I appreciate it! I regarded it but there wasn't much to go off of other than \"he's crazy, don't stick your dick in crazy\" or whatever. (I appreciate it none the less). \nWe messaged for a few hours or so. I got defensive and I retaliated and things got very heated. He ended up cutting contact with me and it felt pretty awful. I said things I didn't mean and lost a good friend. In a sense, I felt smothered by him and I said it. He put out that he just wanted to enjoy my company. I'm really confused because I know I didn't go about this the right way and I want to at least be on good terms with him. \nI'm not sure I can after the things we said to each other. \nI'm not sure I should even say anything. I value our friendship but he constantly tried to act like a boyfriend. \nI don't know what to do.", "summary": "Good friend of 2 years cut contact with me, I feel absolutely awful. Would contacting him make things help or hinder our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3qjgkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my exbf [24 M] for 2 years, broke up 2 years ago.", "post": "So today it finally happened. My ex hit me up after two years. I decided to respond to his \"hey\" to be nice and fix any animosity between us (relationship didnt end well), and see how he was doing and where he was in life. \n\nHe started saying things like \"wow you look so different in your pictures. like in a good way\" and \"is that you in that pic? idk. its someone.\" and its really bothering me. He is acting cold and unfriendly. Any advice? I am feeling a great deal of anxiety waiting for his replies, I can't even sleep. And it kind of hurts how he thinks im barely recognizable. Am I being overly sensitive? Am I reading too much into it?", "summary": "feeling anxious/hurt that my exbf (2 years ago) barely recognizes me from my pictures. am i being stupid."}
{"id": "t3_1p741c", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "If you're rude, you will be denied important information.", "post": "Was walking along a relatively busy street earlier and saw a young lady who had unfortunately tucked her skirt into her underwear.\n\nA few people had noticed and some were ignoring it but some were pointing and laughing but no one seemed to had told her yet. I managed to catch up to her and saw she was on her phone, so I politely tapped her on the shoulder and the exchange went something like this;\n\n\"Excuse me, Miss, you....\"\n\n(In a very loud, shrill tone, not at all pleasant) \"WHAT?! CAN'T YOU SEE I AM ON THE F**KING PHONE?\" \n\n\"...nothing, sorry.\"\n\nThen I carried on walking. Looking back it was a bit mean but ah well.", "summary": "Manners cost nothing, rudeness shows your undies"}
{"id": "t3_1d446i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused about her.", "post": "We go to college together I'm 21, she's 18, over a year of friendship, we had a tiny fling where I was broken up with my gf for a bit, we got drunk, made-out, told each other we've liked each other, slept together(no-sex) and the next day she said her feelings were true but then she had to concentrate on life issues and I ended back with the old gf, we broke-up, flash-forward to now(4months later) and we just started talking again, we hung-out 2 days back to back with some friends from 2pm-10pm. \n\nShe stuck with me the whole time mostly, always played with her hair, and we would always make eye contact and keep it and sometimes she would look down if i smiled and made eye contact, if i slowed down while walking and fell behind my friends, she'd slow down too. We haven't talked about the one night, but it's hard to contact her, she doesnt text much, she's pretty popular and is always talking to some guys(some who are trying to get with her but she turns them down), but whenever she see's me, she'll stare or she'll wave and smile.  I honestly don't know how to approach it, but I want to approach it so much.", "summary": "I really like my friend, And I think she may still like me, but I don't know how to just approach it because I get nervous and she's hard to contact. Whenever I ask to hangout and she doesn't have previous plans or work she says yes really quick though."}
{"id": "t3_2jupyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18F] have no idea how to talk to this guy [20ish M] that hit on me at a party", "post": "So a little over a week ago, while sitting awkwardly in the corner at a party browsing Reddit on a phone, a rather attractive and charismatic guy sat down by me and striked up a conversation.  We ended up exchanging numbers, and started texting a bit.  However, I soon came to realize that I have no idea how to really hold a decent conversation with him.  I came off as overly tense and polite, and obviously, he's lost interest. So basically, I'm trying to figure out:\n\n1)How can I regain his interest if I choose to do so?\n\n2)How can I hold interesting and engaging conversations without being extremely tense?", "summary": "I'm a socially awkard college freshman who has no idea how to converse with a charismatic upperclassman"}
{"id": "t3_3qt4t2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 /F] feel like I have been feeling too attached to my [22 /M] bf, and it is really scary/ starting to hurt.", "post": "I feel like I am the type of person that doesn't get close to people often... but when i do, i get attached. \n\nMy bf and I have  been dating for almost 2 years now. He is my best friend and my lover. There are so many things about him that make me happy. He makes me feel really comfortable and makes me laugh more than anybody and all of that wonderful stuff... but im starting to feel sad when I am not around him. I mean, I KNOW its normal to miss someone but it just hurts in an unhealthy way.\n\nWe had this \"break\"  during the summer. I moved out and we both agreed not to talk for 2 weeks and see if we wanted to work things out after those 2 weeks. We did end up wanting to work things out and i honestly feel like we are a lot closer to each other than before. \nThe break was so hard and scary. I went days hardly eating and hardly sleeping. \nI think this is why I miss him TOO much sometimes -because I am so scared of feeling that way again. I remember the hardest part was sitting still -not knowing if id ever be happy without him.\n\nMy counselor said that I could have been codependent on him. And I dont want that. I give him space and we have never fought about us being too much together so thats good but I just hate feeling this way.\n\nI wish I could be okay with the fact that there is a chance that we may break up one day. I want to be okay with being alone. I want to know that I will eat or sleep if I am ever alone. \nI want to be more independent.\nI love him so much... it just hurts a lot sometimes and I am starting to wonder if its healthy and what i can do to fix this about myself.", "summary": "I feel too attatched, i love him so much, but I know it could turn into something unhealthy."}
{"id": "t3_2qzi1x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smacking lips with the wrong girl at New years.", "post": "Happened 20 minutes ago. Im at a New Years party.\n\nSpot girl of my dreams across the room, I run over to her to try to kiss her before the ball drops. I spin this girl around and start making out with her, open my eyes and I fucked up. This was not the girl I thought it was. Random chick seems pissed, I start backing away and she tosses a drink at me. Her friends start gathering around her as if I had just raped her, she's making a huge scene. Girl of my dreams is leaving the party, she seems pissed too (We had agreed to kiss at Midnight). I try to catch up to her but a group of Knights in Shining armour stop me, they start interrogating me and instigating a Fight, I try to apologize and they're not listening. One of them shove me and I my phone falls out of my pocket, I notice it on the floor, I flip it over and It's completely shattered. I get pissed and shove the asshole back. All his friends try to gang up on me until my friends arrive and we all leave the party.\n\nGirl of my dreams isn't answering my calls or texts. It was really complicated before the party and the party was my only chance to fix things. She's moving to the US in less than a week.", "summary": "Kissed the wrong girl, broken phone and pissed date."}
{"id": "t3_vk75p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What changes to society have ruined the way you view the world? I'll start.", "post": "Not sure if I should've said what type of political correctness has changed blah blah blah but I'll give you an example, this happened to me yesterday and I was absolutely stunned.\n\nOkay so, I was grocery shopping yesterday, and as I entered the store there was a lady holding the door open, as I passed through the door I said *Thank you* and nodded my head. I went about my normal shopping, and proceeded to the check out. After I purchased my groceries and put them in my vehicle, I realized I had left my Debit Card inside the pin pad / chip reader thing. I quickly walked towards the door and saw someone about to come out with both hands full of groceries, I noticed it was the lady from before so I held the door open for her, after she passed she didn't say a word, I ignored it and went and got my card, as I left the store she was waiting with a scowl on her face, concerned I asked her what the matter was, she then gave me an ear full for about 5 minutes on how I'm a male chauvinistic pig and women can open their own god damn doors and she didn't need to be treated like a child etc etc. After about 5 minutes of this I realized trying to apologize would've been useless, so I told her in an era where they say Chivalry is dead, and that men aren't men anymore, I thought I'd do the right thing by lending a helping hand rather than being an ass hat and watching her struggle (Which she clearly was) and what did I get for it? Banter and bullshit, I told her if she wanted to know why men are such assholes and pigs, it was because of cunt's such as herself. I then turned, and walked towards my car like a boss with her jaw on the ground in utter dismay. What types of changes in the world have changed your view / perspective on things?", "summary": "= Girl held door for me, I held door for girl, girl got mad and bitched me out."}
{"id": "t3_n6d24", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you feel comfortable with this transaction?", "post": "I'm dealing with an Internet company who buys junked/damaged cars. \n\nThey have made an offer on my beat-up truck. I'm fine with the offer but it's not outrageous or suspicious. \n\nThey wish for me to sign the title and fax them a copy. After this, they will dispatch a local driver to pick up the vehicle, title, and give me a check. \n\nObviously I'm exposed in accepting a check. However, their site appears legit and my phone interactions with them have set off no red flags. \n\nI've also Googled the company, without seeing posts from people claiming to have been scammed. \n\nIt is a relatively small amount of money in play here and it just seems like it would be a hell of a long scam just to get my old truck. \n\nWhat are your thoughts Reddit?  I have left out the name of the company because I wasn't certain whether that was frowned upon. I can provide it if requested. I hope this question is thought provoking enough for Askreddit but I really wanted the opinion of the community.", "summary": "Out of state company wants to buy my old truck. I send copy of title, then they come pick up and pay with check. Legit?"}
{"id": "t3_1wlwpd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I tell an annoying friend she can't bunk with us?", "post": "In a few months is my birthday and I'm planning for a trip to Vegas (only about 3 hours away). I'm inviting pretty much anyone and everyone who wants to go.\n\nSo I am inviting this friend (transgendered female, I am a female also), let's call her Cindy. We're 27ish, been friends since high school. Usually Vegas trips are just me and my husband & my cousin and his girlfriend, aka my best friend, and we split a room as two couples. Last time we went though, Cindy went and we thought it'd be fine to bunk with her as well. Wrong! She's great in small doses but after one day she's annoyed with everything and has to make that known. Has to subtly have something to say about the bed, the heat, the walking, the drink prices. That's not what vacations and VEGAS are for, and it's such a buzzkill, like this little fly that is everywhere even when you just want to relax in your room.\n\nBut... Cindy also doesn't have any friends outside of us four, besides Internet friends. I know she'll want to go and I of course want her to go, and I feel bad because I know it'll be a hassle for her to either stay alone or find a friend to take (ideal and welcome). I think she ***could*** find a friend to take but she's not the type to actually try. \n\nThe whole problem is that when I invite her to the trip, she's going to assume I am inviting her to stay with us, too. So how do I do this? I also wonder if I should offer suggestions because she may just be like \"oh well I won't go then.\"", "summary": "tell a long-time, but kinda annoying, friend that she can't room with us this time"}
{"id": "t3_4s2a4f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] having trouble dealing with the break up.", "post": "Recently I broke up with my my girlfriend of a year and a half. This is my first break up and I'm not really sure how to deal with it. The break up was mutual but it became apparent it hit me a lot harder than it hit her and we broke up due to the fact that I expressed I didn't like being walked all over or manipulated and she didn't like that. She also had trouble being there for me when I had bad spells, not depression or anything like that, but just regular stuff aka family death stuff like that.\n\nAnyways, I'm finding it hard dealing with it and letting go to the point when her name on my facebook (I've deleted her but old posts and likes) and photos of her send my system in to shock and a deep feeling of anxiety. I also feel pathetic doing my day to day now as I'm single and hobbies such as video games and badminton make me feel nerdy , childish and pathetic. \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "first break up, feel like I'm falling apart, help?"}
{"id": "t3_ox7yw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of the internet, when was the first time you were successfully trolled online? I'll start...", "post": "Shortly after getting our AOL subscription (back in 1997 so I was 10 at the time), I thought I had a long running correspondence with famed country singer Leann Rhymes.  She even convinced me to go out and purchase her terrible, terrible album that I tried my hardest to appreciate but couldn't. I was so young and impressionable and new to the internet that I believed every word written in our email exchanges. One day I started to get more specific about tour dates, what it's like to be famous and the answers were just a little...off. She couldn't quite explain where she was touring, where she had been or where she was going next. Confused by this sudden turn of events, I justified it by saying that she was probably busy with writing music and didn't have time to remember past, present, or future events. I made up so many excuses until a lightbulb went off and I realized, I had been trolled and this entire scenario was made up. When I finally got the courage to confront \"Leann\" he/she stopped responding, which was devastating to me at the time. That was the day my internet innocence was lost and I have done my best to not trust anyone on the internet since.", "summary": "Thought I was talking to Leann Rhymes as a 10 year old online, got trolled, lost internet innocence"}
{"id": "t3_tyj3l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it selfish to love someone just because they love you?", "post": "I met a guy at a gaming convention and saw him a few times after that at some other gaming events. After my ex broke up with me I ended up sleeping with him. I didn't really fancy him, but I could tell he liked me. I thought that would be that, but he wanted to see me again and told me how much he liked me. He treated me so well and it was such a difference to the way I was treated by my ex, I couldn't help but fall for him. He's honestly the nicest guy; everything you could ever want. A little bit shy, a little bit weird and nerdy (I love that about him), and he really loves me. I wouldn't say that it's the only thing I love about him now, but initially the only reason I went for him is because he liked me. Is that a bad thing?", "summary": "I tried to hit it and quit it, but his feelings for me made me in love with him. Is it selfish to love them just because of how they love you?"}
{"id": "t3_50s1se", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [26M] have been together almost four years but he still can't drive.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost about four years now, and all this time he hasn't had a driver's license nor does he know how to drive. I'm always the one that drives to see him every weekend and sometimes on the weekday (40 min drive, 1hr+ with traffic). The only reason for him not having a license is simply because he's lazy. It's not like he's afraid to drive or anything like that. I'm the one that has to drive us if we want to go eat, watch a movie, etc. He's also literally only come to my house about five times because he can't drive and always wants to just sit in his chair at home playing video games. Also to note that he has never invited me out to dinner or gotten me any gifts before. What would you guys do in this situation? Is this normal at all? Any time I try to bring anything up about our relationship to him he just kind of brushes it off or changes the topic to something stupid like video games.", "summary": "my boyfriend still can't drive after four years and won't really talk about it with me"}
{"id": "t3_2ym2re", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23f] friend[22f] is on Tinder but has been in a relationship for 4 years.", "post": "I am not sure what to do. I have known her longer, we are very close. Her SO I liked enough and I know they are having lots of problems.\n\nOne night a bunch of us were hanging out at my house and discovered her on Tinder. It said she had been active hours before. Just to see what happened we swiped right and she matched with the person whose Tinder it was. So she was definitely using it. Also she knows the person in real life so she clearly wasn't trying to keep it hidden from her friends.\n\nI texted her after and said I saw she had a Tinder and did her SO know. She said she had just made it that night with some friends because they all had it and said it was funny. (No mention of her SO knowing).\n\nHer photo is also a photo of her and her SO but cropped to show just her, which is bothersome to me.\n\nIt's not like I could outright call her a liar and I want to believe her. The other part of me though wants to tell her SO what I found. But I feel like I have an obligation to my friend. I know if we discuss it further she will keep saying it's not for that. Should I do nothing? I've known for a couple months now and it bothers me from time to time because it still says she is active on it.", "summary": "Friend has SO and a Tinder, having a moral dilemma."}
{"id": "t3_4rgo2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (21M) doesnt want to come to my(22F) grandma's funeral", "post": "I am on my phone so sorry about the formatting. \n\nMy grandmother was told earlier this year that she had stage four kidney failure, she was expected to last till later on in the year but her health declined very suddenly and she died last sunday. During the time she was sick I asked my boyfriend of just over a year if when she died he would come to the funeral with me, he said he would. I asked him two more times, once on the day she died and once a couple of days ago, and he said he would every time so I asked my parents yesterday if he could come as they were booking a house to stay in over the time of the funeral. \n\nEarlier this morning he messaged me that he doesnt want to go anymore because he feels it will be awkward as he hasnt met most of my family and he doesnt want to sit around for a couple of days (the funeral is being held in her home town five hours away from where we live) with people he barely knows. I feel really upset that he waited till yesterday to tell me he didnt want to go after we had already discussed it a few times, I kinda want him to just tough it out and go regardless but now he has told me he doesnt want to I dont want to drag him to a small town a hours away for the weekend. \n\nAm I justified in being upset with him? Or am I overreacting and should just let him not go?", "summary": "boyfriend said he would go to my grandma's funeral multiple times but thought it through more and decided it would be too awkward and doesnt want to go anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2y8dvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) was proposed to after sex by my bf (27M), unhappy about effort", "post": "A little background first. We have been dating since school and have been together over 10 years and have discussed marriage for a while now. We also did a lot of mock proposals with plastic rings and random objects for fun. We chose a ring together last month so I was expecting him to ask soon.  \n\nToday, after we had sex and had our clothes back on he shows me the certificate which I eagerly take a look at in the bed. Then he took the box out and showed me the ring. I said \"cool is that it?\", he then goes down on one knee while I'm still laying on the bed and awkwardly asks in a joking manner \"will you marry me\". I said yes stick my hand out and he puts the ring on. After ogling the ring for a bit I was a bit confused and asked if he was serious, which he said he was. Being a bit disappointed I just let it soak for a bit and then suggested he re-do it tomorrow (at a regular place we go) and basically am telling him how to do it, because I don't want to explain our \"real\" proposal to family and friends.  \n\n(P.s. We don't live together)  \n\nInitially I was quite happy, but now I'm at home trying to sleep, but I can't help having negative thoughts. Such as how little effort and thought he placed into it and how easy it would of been to have done more research into it (he does far more research for his hobbies). Am I right to think he hadn't given it much thought cause he knows the answer will be yes? I can't help thinking I deserve better.   \n\nSorry for my ramblings, I just kind of wanted to know if what I'm feeling is right or if I'm just over thinking things. I'm afraid this will taint what's supposed to be a happy memory.", "summary": "BF proposed after sex, I'm disappointed and asked for a re-do. Confront him about how I feel or wait and see?"}
{"id": "t3_3rouk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (33f) tell him (34m) my feelings", "post": "I've been with my wonderful boyfriend for two years, and I'm happier than I've ever been. My previous two relationships before this were abusive and left me deeply depressed, unable to talk openly with anyone about my feelings. I always avoid talking about my feelings now, as I feel uncomfortable sharing them for chance they are used against me.\n\nMy boyfriend is literally the best thing to have ever have happened to me. With him I feel that I have finally started to live. I've had some amazing experiences with him. He also never talks about his feelings, I can tell he cares for me from the way he acts. But I'm not sure if he loves me.\n\nHe spends every night at my house with me, but technically still lives at home with his parents. I really want to ask him to move in properly with me. But more than anything I want to tell him how much I love and appreciate him. I'm terrified he doesn't feel the same, and I'll look like a complete knob head if he doesn't say it back.", "summary": "I massively love him, don't know how to talk about my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_23m83p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] met my ex GF [20 F] who I haven't seen in about a year, who I thought I was over..", "post": "I know there is probably alot of similar posts to this, but I'm out of options here.\n\nSo I was home for the easter holidays and went out to town with my friends. Later that night I run into my ex and 2 of her friends and I end up talking with them for a good while.\n\nI really thought I was over her, been feeling that for a while, but when I  stand there I think to myself \"fuck.. I miss you!\". I was basically just standing there looking at her.\n\nWhen I woke up the next morning, I get a message from her saying \"I know you miss me. I could see it last night\". I broke down reading it.\n\nWe dated on and off for about 3 years, but it finally ended around this time last year. I moved away to college after the summer so we haven't talked or seen each other since.\n\nThis was my first relationship where I really loved someone. We didn't have the greatest relationship, she cheated on me and it was a lot back and forth, but for some fucked up reason I still miss her..\n\nI feel like its been ruining my other relationships. I haven't been able to have a proper relationship after her.\n\nAll these memories and feelings are just coming back. \n\nI thought after a year I would finally be over her. I just don't what to do, how to get over her.. \nIts been a year now and honestly its a bit exhausting.\n\nWhat do I do? How do you deal with this?", "summary": "Met my girlfriend while I was home for easter and realized I'm still not over her. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3rzccf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I do when spouse drives drunk?", "post": "41F - me. 41F - spouse. Married 21 years\n\nHi. My husband drives drunk. After he does it, we talk about it in the morning and he swears he's so sorry and won't do it again. Then he does. Over and over.\n\nThe incidents are spaced out over a few months usually. The last time was this past Tuesday. Before that it was probably in May. At that time I talked to him about the money just getting a DUI would involve, not to mention if he had an accident or killed someone. It seemed like he really understood finally. He even used uber a few times.\n\nWe've been married over 20 years and have worked hard to get what we have. I don't want to lose everything because of a stupid choice he makes. I feel like when he chooses to drive drunk he's kind of saying, \"Fuck you and fuck our kids and our comfortable life. I don't give a shit if my bad choice ruins everything.\"\n\nI feel like I have no other tools to use. I've already stopped riding with him if he's been drinking, leaving the house if he comes home drunk, etc. I ask him to not drive drunk, but what if he does? How can I protect myself and our children financially if something happens? We live in Florida.\n\nI'm tired and going to go to bed now. \n\nThanks for any insight.", "summary": "Husband drinks and drives. I'm not in physical danger, but what can I do to make sure we don't get financially wiped out if he gets a DUI or worse?"}
{"id": "t3_10ehc9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Huge (to us) increase in rent -- what is the best course of action? FL, US", "post": "My boyfriend and I live in a managed apartment community, have lived here for about two years. We moved to this city in huge part because of the lower living expenses. When we moved in, we were told to expect increases of at least $25 on lease renewal, and last year the rent increased $27 which was *totally* reasonable. Currently we pay $936/month for a 2/2, which we split about 40/60.\n\nThe other day I got a renewal offer in my email, the lowest priced option was $1051/month, which is an increase of $115 a month and seems unreasonable. I called and spoke to one of the girls in the front office and was told she can regenerate the renewal offer in a week and see if the prices change, but the manager was not around so I couldn't get any more info\n\nWhat's the best course of action here? For background, we are doing okay financially(0 debt, we each have at least a 6 month emergency fund, there's money left over to save each month but not a ton), but we are planning to get married soon and the extra $115 a month is money I had mentally put aside for modest rings and a short honeymoon. Add to that, we will have about $2k in additional expenses in November outside of our regular bills... so the idea of our rent going up after that stresses me out.\n\nMy question is this -- is there anything we can do about this? I've looked up the law where I live and they are within their rights to increase the rent however much they want as long as they give us notice. I have drafted a letter detailing our excellent payment history, how we've never had any problems, mentioning the cost/risk of new tenants, etc., and suggesting that the max increase we will accept is 5%... but I'm not sure that this would have any effect. The girl I spoke to in the office basically said \"the computer does it\" and that she has no say, but I'm thinking the manager might. Does anyone have any experience with this? Are we basically screwed? And also, am I wrong to think this much of an increase is unreasonable?", "summary": "Rent going up by over 12% in a managed apartment community, what's our best course of action to stop this? Is this truly an unreasonable increase, or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_3rzct4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my friend what a absolute stupid idea his concept of snapchat was and how no one would ever use it, today its valuation is 16 billion dollars", "post": "This happened in early 2011 after the massive spike in popularity of instagram, a popular cell phone app that was sold for 1 billion dollars a while back, but worth much more today.  \n  \nMy best friend from high school wanted to create a social media app since he claimed it was going to be the next big thing and his \"instagram\". He pitched it to me during dinner. His was idea was messaging photos to each other like text messages without relying on sms service and rather through wifi. I immediately, laugh and tell him what a stupid idea that was and that no one was going to use it because people can just share photos through instagram. He continues to tell me how people can send random moments of their day to each other and I continue with stupid rebuttal ideas such that it would be faster to message people by text instead.  \n  \nAnyways fast forward to present day, the only app he has made is some small game and organizer which he did for fun. He realized that it was just a hobby and nothing serious. We joke constantly that he would be a billionaire if I had liked his idea and that he would bring me aboard.", "summary": "Friend had the idea for a concept of snapchat before it was released, I told him it was stupid and we joke about it daily."}
{"id": "t3_1mfcpv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/M] girlfriend [20/F] of 3 years has a male friend she seems to see all the time, yet I've never met him. Or any of her friends. Really bothering me.", "post": "Let me start off by saying I trust my girlfriend. I've never gone through her phone or facebook messages, as I know that would just create a rift in our relationship. However, I read her twitter feed and see that she often likes to hang out (usually late at night) with a close friend of hers. I've asked her about him a handful of times, she says he's just a close friend of hers. Fair enough. \n\nProblem is, I've never met this guy. Or any of her friends, for that matter. This is really starting to bother me as of late. Our relationship feels completely one-sided, and any time I try to talk to her about it, it just erupts in an argument. Typically she will just accuse me of not trusting her, which, obviously I deny. \n\nLately she's been acting more and more distant, and it's really getting at me. I might see her one or two days a week, if I'm lucky. She only lives about 7 miles away, so it's not that big of a deal to me.\n\nShe will also complain about how we don't have the same passion we used to, or that I'm not the same person I used to be. I feel as if she wants a break up but can't bring herself to do it. Problem is, I'm still in love with her.\n\nI guess it's important to note that I was a daily pot smoker for a couple of years during our relationship. Now that I quit, our problems have caught up to me fast and hard, and I don't know how to handle them. I realize that I used weed daily as a way of escapism, thus my decision to quit. She smokes, but not very often I assume.", "summary": "Girlfriend has a male friend she hangs out with all the time, hasn't let me meet him or any of her friends, recently stopped smoking and realized that we have a lot more problems than I thought. Not sure if she wants to end it, I still love her."}
{"id": "t3_2rqz0u", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "False advertising from Samsung and what I can do about it.", "post": "Samsung recently started a promotion to receive a year of free Netflix when you buy one of their qualifying devices. I've been looking into the Galaxy Tab S for a while now, so I finally took the plunge and ordered it from Samsung's official storefront on Amazon. Upon receiving the package, I entered the required info on the promo website and was told that my serial number is not valid. I hopped on the live chat support and spoke with a customer service representative. He informed me that despite ordering the device in the US and having it shipped to my home in the US, from Amazon's US WEBSITE, that I was somehow shipped an international version and therefore do not qualify for the promotion. The thing is, however, I have read through the official terms and conditions from top to bottom and nowhere in there does it say it must be a US device. It DOES say that I must be a legal US resident, which I am; living in Boston, Massachusetts. I have spoken to 4 representatives now who refuse to let me speak to a supervisor. I have been provided a number for Prize Logic, who is running the promotion, but discovered upon calling it that my only option is to leave them a message. Is there any sort of legal action I can take against them for violating the policies which they have set forth?", "summary": "Bought a Samsung tablet to take part in a promotion. Samsung is refusing my claim despite satisfying all of the terms and condition. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_220eol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am struggling with my girlfriend [23F]", "post": "Short Backstory: We firstly met at an event in October last year (Halloween). We met a few times (cinema, dinner, certain events with a group, shopping). and we came closer. \nShe has a few money problems.\n\nActual situation: I bought Tickets for a two day convention, but because of her monetary problems, she has sold her ticket (about 4x the price, because the event us sold out).\nShe also wants to help at the convention, but there aren't any jobs left. \nWe both know a lot of people there, who we don't met elsewhere. \n\nNow she wants to split the ticket, she demands to go on Saturday and I should go on Sunday. (Saturday is a lot longer and has a more packet program). \n\nShe has a hard time right now (no job, scared of her previous boyfriend (bad things happened), but she's using that to convince me to do things. \nShe also has a type of communication issue and can't trust male persons, only me (so she says), because she feels good around me and she trusts me. \nShe can't even phone other people besides me and her mum. \nShe can't go to work because of her male coworkers / boss. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend sold her ticket I gifted her, now demands to use the bigger part of mine"}
{"id": "t3_16tmcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: 25F cut out 26F; my wits hath returned. Thanks r/relationships!", "post": "Link to original post: \n\nI typed up a message and sent it to her via Facebook, where I basically just said that I cannot be a part of her life any longer because her behavior is endangering my health and my happiness. I noted that I do not want to speak to her, and if I change my mind, I will let her know (so she has no reason to 'reach out' to me). Then, I blocked her and I haven't heard from her since. \n\nIt seems as though she has removed herself from the weekly game. I do not know for sure, as I have not talked to her or her SO (my and my SO's good friend), but we will see. If she is there, I plan on asking her politely to leave, or politely excusing myself. At this point, as you all noted, seeing her at all would only give her the impression that I wanted to see her, and that is not going to help anything. \n\nThanks, reddit and r/relationships! I tend to feel unnecessary guilt about things and I am working to improve my (incredibly low) self esteem, so things were a lot clearer once ya'll jumped in. I really appreciate it. My SO kept laughing as I was reading your comments because I kept saying \"THEY ARE SO RIGHT!\" So really, thank you all.", "summary": "I am dense, you are not. Thank you all!"}
{"id": "t3_1a98lh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can/should I [21F] ask out a guy [20ishM] whom I don't really know at all, without coming off as a creep?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships. Throwaway I guess, but this is my first post on reddit, so go easy haha! I essentially need help deciding if I should/how I should hit on a guy. I searched in this sub and on the internets in general, and no such luck. Most 'hitting on' advice isn't directed towards girls.\n\nOkay. So I met this guy (we'll call him L, I forget his name, how sad!) at his place of work about a year ago. I was tagging along with a friend and my friend had to do some paperwork at L's office, with one of his coworkers. So L and I get to chatting, and I find out that we go to the same uni, he seems nice, but I have a boyfriend at the time. We talk for half an hour, I leave and forget about him. Sure enough, we've started passing each other in the hall in the last few weeks. Took me a day or two, but I remembered our conversation. We've made eye contact a few times, maybe he is trying to place me? I would like to ask him out (I would have before if I hadn't been with my ex) but I would feel... creepy? I don't know.\n\nSo reddit, am I crazy? What would you say if you were this guy? Bleh. Thanks in advance for the advice!", "summary": "Shy girl, cute guy, met him a year ago. See him at school, should I ask him out? If yes, how?"}
{"id": "t3_3dmq0e", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Online freelancing scam, can I get paid? [VA]", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right community for this, so please point me to a better place if one exists.\n\nI got laid off about a month ago and started freelancing via Elance. My second day, I got offered a regular freelancing gig writing 500-word articles at a good pay rate. I took it on, and because I was so new, I didn't know about or use the time tracking tools Elance has built in to guarantee payment. I know, stupid of me, but so it goes. Over two weeks I wrote about 30 articles for him.\n\nSo I turned in my invoice and, surprise, I never got paid. Elance said since I hadn't used their time tracking tools, all they could do was give me contact information. I tried and got nothing -- no surprise, since all they had was an email address and a fake phone number. So that was a dead end.\n\nBut I was able to identify and reach some of the webmasters who had originally commissioned the articles, and one told me he'd bought it from someone on Fiverr. I talked to the Fiverr person and she said she'd outsourced it to a friend (uh huh) and had no idea it was stolen. She refused to tell me who she'd outsourced it to. I suspect she probably resold most, if not all, of my stolen work. Unfortunately, Fiverr doesn't seem to have a way to see what jobs someone has done, so that seems to be another dead end.\n\nI guess my question is, is there any point in reporting to Fiverr? Are there other legal steps I could take? Or do I just need to move on and eat the losses?\n\nI'm in Virginia. The person who hired me claims to be in California but who knows if that's true.", "summary": "Got scammed into doing free work on a freelancing site. Found someone who resold at least some of my stolen work, wondering whether there are legal steps I can take at this point."}
{"id": "t3_4o5645", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need to fix my relationship", "post": "Sorry for the long post. Every guy/girl feels that their partner is perfect, I'm just trying to hold on to mine.\n\nBasically me and my girl started dating a few months ago and everything was great. Things were low-key in the sense that there was no PDA on social media and we kept the pictures of trips we shared to ourselves. We enjoyed this obscurity but obviously our really close friends knew.\nIt started with our friends randomly tagging us in couple-y/lovey stuff on Facebook but since this wasnt a lot we didn't mind, plus the feeling a lot of people shipping(?) us felt nice. This is where I feel things turned bad. I kinda got carried away by the whole attention and just started posting romantic stuff on her wall or pictures instead of PMing her like before and the attention and \"awww you guys so cute\" kept on piling up.\nUnknowingly, this also cultivated a culture of people identifying us as one person instead of our own individual identities, she'd be addressed as my girlfriend more than her name and it's something neither of us approved.\nLast night she confronted me saying the relationship had become difficult for her and she was having second thoughts, despite loving me. She feels she lost her individuality as a person and we lost our own personal space as a relationship and there were way too many people involved in this and she felt suffocated and backed against a wall.\nI'm glad we talked out everything in detail especially how our conversations lately got so uncomfortable that it was apparent that we were trying too hard.\n\nShe agreed to give me another chance but told me it's all over if things don't change. The obvious thing is to reduce social media presence again and switch back over to personal messaging and calls. But what else can I do? Also her being on another continent over the summer with like a 6 hour time difference doesn't help.", "summary": "we love each other but we went from a really private relationship to a really public one. Gf feels suffocated ."}
{"id": "t3_25anun", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last night I[25 M] almost cheated on my gf [24 F] of 2.5 years, I guess.", "post": "And I'm just feeling meh. So many mixed emotions.\n\nI've been dating a lovely girl for about 2.5 years. She is quite attractive, much smarter than I am, and oh so sweet. Unfortunately, we're long distance, and we'll remain long distance for at least another year.\n\nLast night, a girl I know basically propositioned me for sex. I came THIS close to telling her yes, come over, please. This girl is local, lives right up the street from me. She's the type of girl I've always been strongly attracted to (the manic pixie dream girl type, I suppose) but have never actually dated. Ultimately, I did NOT invite her up. But afterwards, I tossed and turned in bed all night.\n\nI feel guilty, for even considering cheating; I feel regret at missing out on what probably would've been a really fun night -- coupled with a sort of deeper melancholy I feel when I consider all the girls I'll *never* know; I feel relief, at not having cheated; I feel sad about what this surely must say about the state of my relationship; and honestly, I don't know which of these emotions I'm feeling most strongly. (To tell you the truth, things *have* been tough lately. Long distance is hard, to begin with, and my significant other is leaving the country for a few months and we'll have even LESS contact; she has been clinically depressed for a while now, and doesn't seem to be getting better, and it's getting harder to deal with; and realistically, we'll probably be long distance for another 1.5 years, best case scenario).\n\nThanks for reading. I'm not sure that I really have a question -- I mainly just wanted to get this off my chest. Your thoughts are certainly welcome, though.", "summary": "in a long distance relationship that's been getting tougher; attractive local girl I know propositions me for sex, I almost accept but ultimately do not; have been feeling lots of feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1k94n9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19F] am terrified of implying that I want something more with the [18M] in my class.", "post": "So, a little back story. I'm in a 5 day class that ends tomorrow. Over the last few days I've made pretty decent friends with a guy in it. I've been talking to my friend about it and she thinks he's into me, but I'm still terrified of being rejected by him.\n\nAbout a month ago I hooked up with a guy. It was my first anything (yes even my first kiss) and even though he ignored me afterwards it still made me feel more confident because I felt like someone could finally look past my horrible appearance and actually like me. Then a few days ago I found out that when it had come out (no idea how it did I honestly didn't tell anyone) he was telling people that I was lying because I was so desperate and lonely. He pretty much implied no one would hook up with me because of how unattractive I am.\nSo, that has a lot to do with me being hesitant about implying that I kind of like this guy. According to my friend the kind of things he's doing implies he's into me. I don't know, I just don't see how someone could find me attractive.\n\nI'm thinking about tomorrow (since it's the last day of class and if it does go wrong I won't have to see him again) when he walks me out to my car giving him my number on piece of paper and asking him to stay in touch because he's a really nice guy. That way the rejection won't be face to face.\n\nDoes that sound like a good idea?", "summary": "I really want to further my relationship with this guy but my lack of confidence is holding me back."}
{"id": "t3_3bq8kr", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "At A Career Crossroads", "post": "I recently began pursuing my second Bachelors in accounting after doing four years in the Marines as Logistics Officer (the reason I was offered the following position). My previous bachelors degree was in liberal arts but my GPA was lackluster and would impede me from attending a good MBA school. I am doing very well in school and expect to complete the program in spring 2017 (I'll be 29). I currently roughly make the equivalent of 42 grand a year pre-tax attending school with my part-time job and the GI Bill. \n\nI was recently offered a position with a very large food company as a route logistics analyst which starts at 52k/year ut would require a 90 mn commute for the first year or two. \n\nI figure that accounting would give career and financial stability, knowing that the first years as accountant are less than ideal when it comes to a work/life balance. \nI am certain that taking the logistics position will be much more interesting and would have a better work/life balance but I am really concerned about hitting a glass ceiling in the future due to my lack of a supply chain degree. My thoughts are that I will crowded out of future opportunities by the current rise in people obtaining supply chain degrees but I feel that food distribution has many career possibilities.\n\nI am trying to gain insight on which path might offer a better career future and am appreciative of any advice.", "summary": "Pursuing second bachelors in accounting, offered route logistics analyst position, unsure of which path to take"}
{"id": "t3_1u7yws", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] I have been in an verbally abusive relationship for almost 10mo now [29/m]. I mistakenly signed a 6mo lease with him and now want to move out.", "post": "I had met my boyfriend while visiting a friend in San Francisco we clicked and began and ldr. Eventually I leave my town to live with him, with out having any friends in the city. As soon as I moved in sooo many red flags popped up, found out he had lied about his age, he would just flip shit over little things, constantly needed to know where I was, constantly called me stupid and a bitch. Now I realized I had made a mistake but I had enrolled in a semester and just began working and so I was stuck (manipulation was also a factor in me not getting the fuck out). A few months down the line thing actually start getting better, living together is working out until his landlord demands I leave by the end of November. Not knowing anyone in the city made finding a place very hard and expensive and he wanted to get a place together so I complied. Of course the abuse came back full force as soon as we moved. So here I am now, cash drained from the move (5k savings gone), completely alone, depressed and being constantly attacked for being myself. Now I am a strong person it takes a lot to break me but I want to get away from him asap. Also I would like to mention since I moved to sf minus the abuse part my life has never been better I went from making <$800 a year to making 60k a year with no college degree and job experience. So there no way in hell I'm letting that go.", "summary": "moved to a different city with verbally abusive bf, now wants to leave but just signed a 6mo lease and is broke af"}
{"id": "t3_4haqkd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23m] with my love interest [24f] of a year, had a bad falling out but I'm still in love with her. How do I make it better for the both of us?", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for a little of a month, and it's been amazing. We've been friends for some time but we finally tried to take it somewhere. She just got out of a really bad relationship almost 4 months ago, but it never seemed like it would affect us like it did. She still cannot keep comparing me to him, and she's always mad at me about the littlest things. I feel like I could never be out of his shadow. But she told me she was falling for me, which I told her I was falling for her. We've been intimate and I absolutely love everything about her because she makes me feel happier then I've felt in a long time. We had a falling out, and I found out she just cannot get over her old relationship. She told me she liked me more then friends but she has a lot going on. I respect that and I want to give her space so she can think everything over. The problem is I'm madly in love with my best friend. And I don't know how to let it go, or if I even should. She seems to be bouncing,back and,forth about staying with me. Should I just get over my feelings for this girl, or keep,being supportive of what she's going through?", "summary": "In a relationship with my best friend, her old boyfriend is still on her mind."}
{"id": "t3_15fv4u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I [24M] approach this to ensure I won't enter her [18F] friendzone?", "post": "There is this girl [F, 18] who I've had classes with. We talked a lot and she clearly expected me to ask her out but I didn't (most of all I was worried about the age difference). Now, 6 months later I wrote her an email asking what's up and she seemed very happy to get it. Today I wrote her again and it turned into an intense exchange of emails. She's studying at med school now and wrote that I may help her relax a bit (she's really stressed). I already wrote her that I'll be happy to exchange mails with her today.\n\nI'm interested in her even though it would be a long distance relationship. How do I approach e-mail exchange to ensure that I will not enter the friendzone? Can it be done? She's right now at her home not far from my city for Christmas. Will she expect me to ask her out? \n\nOur e-mails are mostly about her studies and mine.", "summary": "I don't want to enter the friendzone; I hope I'm not even her friend yet."}
{"id": "t3_3fk9wv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] feel like my girlfriend [23 F] lacks self-respect", "post": "So, the other day my girlfriend told me about how when she was in college she hooked up with a friend due to being drunk, nursing a broken heart, you get the idea. She said she had made the first move. Whatever, it's in the past and things happen.\n\nMy problem is that I told her that the boy was never truly her friend in that scenario. Single men judge women physically and instantly decide if they would sleep with that woman if the opportunity presented itself, especially horny college boys. A real friend picks you up when you're at your lowest point and helps you keep moving, not take advantage of you physically when you are weak. Before anyone says, \"he was drunk! his judgement was impaired!\" I'm going to call BS on that because he would not have obliged her had he not been attracted to her in the first place. I don't buy that excuse; I have been drunk and while I have had drunk goggles on ultimately my attraction to those women exists in my sober state to some capacity, albeit subconsciously.\n\nSo basically she tried to defend their friendship and attack my views on \"male friends\" because I'm smart enough to know that most men just want to get in women's pants and use friendship for the sake of making them comfortable with them.\n\nHere's my problem: I think her justifying her friendship with this guy is garbage. I think she's too naive/trusting for not realizing that the friendship was an illusion. The thing is, it's okay if she made a mistake. What's not okay is excusing someone physically taking advantage of you and saying that you guys were friends, that means you have no self respect because that is wrong and has nothing to do with a friendship. I feel like my girl is foolish for not just realizing that the friendship was never there, physical attraction was, and that she needs to understand that it was never real. My issues here are that I think she's embracing a lie and turning a blind eye to truth, in the interest of preserving her own emotions which means a lack of self respect.", "summary": "My girlfriend hooked up with a guy in the past who she said she was friends with. I told her they were never really friends and she needs to realize that he took advantage of her so isn't a real friend. I feel like she's 100% wrong and lacking respect for herself in not seeing this"}
{"id": "t3_130lgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (21 F) win back my boyfriend (22 M)?", "post": "My boyfriend of almost a year recently broke up with me because he felt like I don't trust him. I've been cheated on in the past and the result was me being very protective of my feelings. I do trust him 100% and I'm usually able to remind myself of that but we've had a couple drunk fights where I couldn't and got mad at him for no reason. I don't know what to do but I love him and I just want to be with him. I just need some advice of what I could say to him so he might consider getting back together or making this a break instead of being completely done.", "summary": "My boyfriend (22 M) of a year broke up with me (21 F) because he felt like I didn't trust him."}
{"id": "t3_3xsjf1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on what to do in a new dating relationship with an old friend", "post": "Recently an old friend(41M)  and I(40F) started dating. It was something I wanted for a long  time. We hve known each other since grade school and always ran into each other after graduating high school. Anyway, he obviously has some depression issues. I drive him to a facility for treatment and oicked him up after his brief stay. We talked just about  every day while he was there. Now he's  been home for a week and he's  back to  how he was prior to going. He doesn't  respond to me, last messge was him telling me that the depression is  back and its not me. I understand depression  but the least I deserve is a response, or am I wrong. I sent him a text today simply  saying I missed him and hoped he was feeling better. A simple  \"thx\" would be nice. \n\nSo with my history of horrible  relationships, I of course am believing that he is blowing me off, which is unlike him, especially seeing as the first date  we were supposed to go in he had to cancel because he was working late  and he made a point  of talking to me rather  than texting me. It hasn't  been a long  \"relationship \" but  I have always genuinely cared about him.  I have littke presents for him and his kids which I plan on still giving them (they are personalized  so they can't  be returned).", "summary": "Dating a life long friend who has \"depression\" or is he blwong me off? "}
{"id": "t3_2m7z18", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost crashing my dad's car", "post": "Ok so this happened a few days ago but then again most posts here rant from today.\n\nSo I Am a learner driver who learning on a manual car, now as you can imagine, I hate hill starts to the point where I'll do anything to avoid them.  Now to the fuck up, I was coming a particular hill which in my eyes was almost vertcle, I was about 30 meters from the light when it turned orange, so naturally I started to panic and speed up. There just so happened to be one of those dick head drivers who was turning at this hill and has already stopped HALF IN HIS LANE AND HALF IN MINE!! So there I was foot down on the accelarator comming up to this guy, my dad told me to stop three times before he watched me swerve away from the other driver and about to run the now red light. This is where I wish it ended but no, because the light went red other cars could go, this is where my dad got really mad! Not only did I swerve one way to get away from the dick driver but I also swerved the opposite way from another car.  \n\nMy da was absolutely furious with me. Made me Pull the car over and swap drivers, he then proceeded to shout at me the rest of the way home. I honestly thought he was going to throw me out of the window", "summary": "I swerved out of the way of two cars almost hitting both of them just so I wouldn't stop at a hill"}
{"id": "t3_1carzh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f21] am in a great relationship of 6 years with [m25] but also in love with my best friend", "post": "Two years into our relationship I met this guy, and we immediately became best friends. He was very special to me from the beginning on, but it wasn't for two years until i noticed i had developed strong feelings for him. \n\nAs I was (and still am) in a happy and well-working relationship with an amazing guy, I tried to ignore those feelings as best as I could, telling myself, they would go away with time.\n\nWell, they didn't. I have been sort of in love with him (there is really no other way to put it, really) for four years now. \n\nnowadays we're living pretty far apart, so we only get to see each other a few times a year, but when we do, it is so intense. the weeks after I cannot stop thinking about him ever, I feel like an 11 year old crushing for the first time, it's ridiculous. Eventually it gets better again, but I still think about him so much. \n\nI fucking hate myself for it and i would give everything to not feel this way, but apparantely I am very much in love with two very different people at the same time. \n\nTo this day, I have no idea how my best friend feels about me. He has never had a girlfriend, that's actually the one thing we never talk about, he's very secretive about this matter. He isn't the kind of guy to express his feelings for me, if he had any, especially in regard of me being a relationship. \n\nOf course I have thought about telling him about my feelings a million times, but I've never brought up the courage and I'm not exactly convinced that that's such a brilliant idea. \n\nwhat the hell should i do? \n\ni know it's a bit of a classic - but i would appreciate any advice you've got for me, redditors!", "summary": "In a happy long term relationship but having intense feelings about close friend for long time."}
{"id": "t3_3002lx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Advice Needed] Parking and the selling of permits", "post": "First of all, I will apologize in advance if any formatting is wrong here (first time posting in this subreddit).\n\nEssentially, this is my question: is there a law or laws against an owner of car parks selling x amount of tickets when they only have y amount of car parks? For example, selling 100 car permits (giving you access to the car parks 24/7) if they only have 50 car parks available?\n\nCurrently I am living on res at my university in Australia and there is an incredible car park epidemic. I know this sounds absurd but basically they have sold car permits to all res students to use the car parks at uni while they stay here. Although, there are significantly less car parks than actual permits sold, resulting in people spending $200+ on the permit, to not actually have a car park, have to park illegally or at least 500m away from where they stay, resulting in a $100+ dollar fine. \n\nSo,", "summary": "is there a law being breached here by my university? As far as I am concerned, we are paying for a service, and not receiving it. If anything we are getting punished even further by being given fines when forced to park illegally or in disabled car parks because they can't provide the service they have sold to everyone. Can anyone put it in a different light/perspective if I am wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2vsmo3", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "History of hypertension inducing drugs, but too young for an aortic aneurysm. Could it be?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old male who has never had to go to the hospital for anything more than staples and stitches. Years ago I recreationally used some incredibly vasoconstrictive drugs on a regular basis, which I believe has lead to a few symptoms I'm concerned about.\n\nI've read up plenty about what symptoms I should watch out for in the case of aortic aneurysm, but I'm having one that just wont stop bugging me. \n\nBack pressure. I feel as if there is a fist sized lump under my lower left shoulder-blade, and at some angles of movement it feels as though my bones are *pushing* whatever it is out of the way. I've had \"deep inner aches\" maybe months and years ago rarely, but even now this pressure doesn't hurt. If I try to stretch to work out this \"knot\" behind my muscles in my back I feel as though the pressure comes back even more noticeably for a short while, so that I can ambiently feel the tension of this ball as I sit in a chair or walk around.\n\nCould this be an aortic aneurysm? I'd be afraid it was a symptomless tumor if it weren't for my history with these vasoconstrictors.", "summary": "could centralized back pressure be a symptom of a ballooning artery"}
{"id": "t3_1ojulv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 18/F girlfriend broke up with me 17/M last night out of the blue destroying me completely.", "post": "My girlfriend of 2 months broke up with me last night after I got back home from her place. She said she knew I wasn't the guy she was looking for, and that we probably won't last. Although she said still loved me and wants to stay friends. This completely devastated me. I loved this girl a lot and even though we didn't date for too long. I felt like she was the one. We had so much in common and I loved all the things about her we didn't have in common. And I know this sounds cliche but she was one of a kind. I don't want to lose her, but I told her that I didn't want to stay friends because it would hurt too much to be around her anymore if we aren't dating, but she's very stubborn and won't admit anything I say to be right. \n\nI told her i'd stop by on Thursday to drop off the things she gave me (stories, pictures, etc..) I also am going to give her what was supposed to be her Christmas present. She is trying to convince me to stay on Thursday, but I don't know how I feel about that. I want her back, but I don't at the same time because what if I get her back but I'm unable to meet her standards? What should I do on Thursday guys?", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me and I'm pretty sure she's the one, so I'm going to see her on Thursday and I want to know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_32gtcp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my Girlfriend [25 F], Girlfriend says she feels \"numb\".", "post": "I have recently felt a lack of affection, both physically and emotionally, coming from my girlfriend. I brought it up to her and she agrees she has been feeling that way. She says she has a hard time figuring out how she feels, but she said she does feels numb overall about everything in life, including me. \n\nShe tells me she knows that she loves me and wants to be with me, but she feels numb towards me at the same time and is confused about why she feels that way. Her confusion is confusing me and I don't know how to interpret all this.", "summary": "Girlfriend's confusion is confusing me."}
{"id": "t3_28nlop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with Humanity, Mental health issue conundrum and attractiveness.", "post": "Recently I have had a falling out with a girl who means alot to me and I dont know whether I want a romantic or a friendship relationship with her. She wants none of the romantic part of it though.\n\nWhen it comes to finding a suitable romantic partner, why is it that when ever I bring up the fact I have tourette, OCD, and AD(H)D to them. It immediately sends up a signal in their head at a subconscious level \"Danger, danger will robinson. Abort, abort\"?\n\nWhen I speak here, I speak for ALL Tourette, AD(H)D, and OCD sufferers with [similar situations and across all gender-boundaries[emended addition thanks to /u/glitter_cunt ]].  Not just myself.\n\nIs it really true that evolutionary traits and the ability for a woman to \"sniff\" out flawed DNA[RNA] kicks in and only looks for males that are socially normal, physiologically sound, and mentally unflawed in anyway? This seems to be a resounding pattern over my last 7 encounters with female-persons. If I am on a 0:7 failure rate. Something is wrong here at a biological/evolutionary level. And I am about to throw up the white flag and deem myself unworthy of any woman out there and live my life alone.\n\nAre there any sane and non-evolutionary-seeking female-persons out there that even realize that I and many other sufferers of Tourette, OCD, and AD(H)D deserve the same treatment as my non-mentally ill male counterparts? I hate living in a forced exile state in this society and world. If the evolutionarily-sound men can live happy productive lives and start families, be a father, and be a care giver. Why the hell cant I be privy to that type of embrace? Im 30 y/o and find myself getting alot of non-preferential treatment out there.", "summary": "I am frustrated at the world not being able to see my side of things and seemingly reject me due to my mental illness when it comes to relationships."}
{"id": "t3_1tsd9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] having issues dealing with how my mom is still friends with my ex", "post": "I was with my ex for a year and a half.\n\nHe used to live across the street from my mother's workplace and would call her mom and she would call him son.\n\nWe broke up 3 YEARS ago.\n\nHe still talks to her on Mother's Day, her birthday and he called her Christmas morning.\n\nAfter a little Facebook stalking, I found an update he posted two weeks ago complaining because he was sick and asked for someone to call his mom. My mom commented on it with \"I'm here\".\n\nThe FB incident pisses me off because when I previously talked to my mom about it, she said *he* was the one contacting *her* all the time. But clearly this isn't true. I feel betrayed.\n\nI've talked to her about it and expressed my concerns and she just brushes me off.\n\nShe doesn't think it's creepy.\n\nAm I being paranoid or could there be something going on between them or is this just my clueless, but sweet, mom being sweet?", "summary": "My mom is still friends with my ex and it's creepy."}
{"id": "t3_lqgqv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, What is your absolute best real story?", "post": "Ill start. A long time ago on one of my early \"tween\" birthdays, i had a sleepover with my friends. Around 1 o'clock in the morning there were these construction workers flattening out this pavement for a nearby new apartment building. They were using this big and really loud machine, and it was quite annoying. So my dad (who was a little tipsy at the time) got the idea to have a \"covert\" operation to make them shut the fuck up. So we brought out some walkie talkies and my paintball gun. So my dad stayed back while me and a couple friends went out to scope the construction site. My dad told me that when he said it was clear, to unload on the bastards. So he did and I gave the guy a good 5 shots to the torso. We snuck back to my house and they never knew who did it. Then my dad called the cops on them for being too loud. The cops pulled up and they talked for about 10 minutes, then everyone left the site, and rest assured they never worked passed 11 ever again.", "summary": "My dad told me to shoot construction with a paintball gun for working to late at night."}
{"id": "t3_2om3eb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by setting my fantasy lineup all wrong", "post": "Okay, so for any of you out there that play fantasy football you can certainly feel my pain on this one. For this week in fantasy football I went with the following lineup, and next to each player I'll put the total points they got me.\n\nQB: Peyton Manning- 2 points (WTF)\nRB: Eddie Lacy- Plays tomorrow night\nRB: CJ Anderson- 23 points\nWR: Demaryius Thomas- 1 point are you fucking kidding me?\nWR: Kelvin Benjamin- 8 points\nTE: Greg Olson- 13 Points\nFLEX: Mohammed Sanu- 1 point\nFLEX: Josh Gordon- 1 point\nD/ST: 49ers Defense- 5 Points\nK: Justin Tucker- 4 Points\n\nPretty shitty huh? Well here's some key players I left on the bench and the points they WOULD HAVE gotten me.\n\nQB: Cam Newton- 35 Points\nWR: Alshon Jeffery- 15 points\nWR: Mike Evans- 16 Points\nWR: Steve Smith- 13 Points\n\nSo with my total at 58 and my opponents at 100 I'm in deep shit. He has nobody left to play luckily so if Eddie Lacy goes completely off tomorrow night, I have a chance, very slim albeit. \n\nWho saw Cam Newton having such a huge day? And I say this as a Carolina Panthers Fan. Damnit!", "summary": "I suck at fantasy football and clearly have no clue how to set my lineup."}
{"id": "t3_217sns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] am afraid that my ex-boyfriend [24M] won't pay his share of the rent. Is there anything I can do?", "post": "I just broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years after I found out that he was cheating on me. I am in college, and I can barely afford the apartment on my own. He has a steady job.\nWhen we broke up, we made a deal that *I* would pay for the first two months of the final four months on our lease, and he would pay for the last two. I will live here for the months that I pay, and then I will move out and he will move in.\nI'm afraid that he might go back on his offer. The lease is under both of our names, and my dad is the co-signer. Is there anything I can do?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Broke up w/ cheating ex, now I'm afraid he won't pay his share of the rent."}
{"id": "t3_glc3c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brother won't be allowed to continue his cancer follow-up treatments because he was dropped from my family's insurance.", "post": "I'm a lurker here. I know I don't have the karma to back this up, but I am really real, and I've seen what the hive-mind can do, so I'm going out on a limb and asking for advice on medical and legal fronts here. \n\nI recently moved to the East Coast from Utah. A couple months ago, I was shocked to hear my mother call and tell me that my 27 year old brother (living in Utah) had been diagnosed with cancer. Luckily, he received primary treatments, and his cancer is in remission. \n\nHowever, he was medically advised to get post-chemo treatment to make sure that the cancer hasn't spread (it was a particularly aggressive type). These were supposed to last for 5 years, twice a month for one year, once a month for the next year, and once every couple months for years 3-5. He had surgery to remove the tumors 3 months ago. \n\nHe had been insured under the policy my dad got through his job, but my dad's company tanked recently and my parents lost almost everything they had (including our family home). My brother told me today that he missed one insurance payment last month, and now the insurance company has dropped him as a client. \n\nThis means that he is facing the next 5 years without any medical help. No doctors, no medication, nothing.\n\nThere has to be something I can do, but I'm just kind of shocked. My family are hard-working people, and my brother is a full-time college student as well as a nearly full-time worker. He has looked in to the pitiful excuse for public health options they have at home, but no luck. He *is* a member of the LDS church (I'm not), so if anyone knows of any outreach to the LDS community, or any church-based help for people in such situations, those might be good options. Other than that, I'm just really looking for advice. What should I/my family/my brother do?\n\nThank you very, very much in advance.", "summary": "My brother's cancer treatments were supposed to last for 5 years, but 3 months in he lost his insurance. Looking for any advice about medical services in Utah area that might apply."}
{"id": "t3_2i7anb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my gf [26 F] of 3 months, am I being paranoid or are things really going sour?", "post": "I met this girl online earlier in May and we hit it off quite nicely and went on several dates. Not long after in June I had gone on vacation for a week and a half and upon returning, we decided to make it official. \n\nFast forward 2 and a half months to September and she goes on a trip for 2 and half weeks. Upon returning, she seemed....colder. I thought nothing of it as she was really jet lagged and was constantly taking naps during the day and really not feeling her best. That weekend we saw each other, had supper, took a mini road trip to her hometown a few hours away and we spent the day there as she showed me around where she grew up. \n\nThis past week has been gut wrenching for me at best. From reduced conversation to not initiating it at all. We were supposed to see each other yesterday as I was supposed to go there and we were going to have a movie night. Originally she said I could go over in the afternoon but later changed it to after supper as she had some chores and cooking to do before going to her parents place the next day 3 hours away and she wanted to go to bed early (i.e. 9ish) as she is still jet lagged. Come the time for me to start getting ready to go, she texts me apologizing profusely saying she has to cancel our evening as she hasn't been able to complete all she had to do and her neighbor called her to help her with her dog (she didn't provide details) and asked if we could move our movie night to another day. I simply told her OK and her response was thanking me for understanding. \n\nI haven't felt like this about a girl for a long time am very worried that this is the beginning of the end and it will inevitably end with her calling me telling me 'We need to talk' My question is, am I being overly paranoid and sensitive about this, or does this really not look good?\n\nIf there are any other details I can provide, please let me know.", "summary": "I feel my gf of 3 months has distanced herself from me, but I could be overdoing it."}
{"id": "t3_330odd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[18/m]How do I get over someone[18/f] who I still love and who I still have to see almost everyday for the next 2 months?", "post": "So, I really liked this girl(we are both 18) for a year now (we are classmates, now in our senior year), and last month she told me she had feelings for me too.\n\nWe started dating, going out and kissing and all seemed great untill we went to a bar with some friends and she started making out with some random dude she found there, and she spent whole night with him.\n\nI tried to end whatever we had together, but she told me next day that she was really sorry and that she was drunk, so I forgave her.\n\nFast forward till this week, i know she is still constantly talking with that guy, and even seeing him (I'm not supposed to know this). Even more, she started spending more time with her ex, who is still in her group of friends.\n\nI know that my chances are probably gone, and I'm trying to get over her, but the thing is we still have 2 months of classes together and I can't just ignore her, she's a very sensitive person and she always complained to me that she doesn't have close friends around her.\n\nAlso, I have an extremely important exam to take in 2 months, and I just can't focus on studying because I always think about her and what she is doing, I even check her FB and her friends' FB every hour or so.", "summary": "So, the tricky question is, how do I get over her without completely breaking her and without looking like an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_icxj6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it all over?", "post": "So basically we're both 19 and have both been going pretty hard out at playing the game for the past two months. We have gone out a couple of times and we can go for weeks texting each other novel length messages and not get sick of it.\n\nI thought I had it pretty sweet for a while, our friends refer to us as being bf and gf, but we have never admitted it ourselves, or would reply with 'she/he wishes', pretty much just both trying to not show too much interest in the other. \n\nI should also add that we have both never been in relationships, and he has a history of never really pursuing girls but is most definitely not gay (before you go there haha)\n\nRecently I lost my virginity to him, which isn't something that I regret at all, but this is where things started getting fucked. Around the second time we did it my mother found out (most awkwarddd) but ended up being alright with it, and I told him of this. He started just being awkward and kind of stand-offish, and said 'its so awkward that she knows everything...' and fearing that my parents will slaughter him, but at the same time would say things like 'i want to meet your mum so she can know that she has nothing to worry about' blah.\n\nI've initiated texting since, which is something i would ordinarily rarely do, but his replies have been pretty shit. I'm taking a step back and have ceased contact, thinking maybe he needs space. Based on what i've experienced and everything i've heard about him, he's not the 'love em and leave em' type of guy, but he's being pretty asshole-y right now.\n\nWas I right in doing this? Will he even come back to me? WHAT IS HAPPENING?!?!", "summary": "Smooth sailing up until we had sex and my mom found out, now he's being crazy awkward and I don't know if he's just not interested anymore or if he is being awkward because of the mother thing."}
{"id": "t3_1fyhhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(NSFW?) How do I [19F] talk to my super vanilla bf [20M] about switching things up in the bedroom?", "post": "Apologies if this belongs in /r/sex - I wasn't sure.\n\nWe've been together ~5 months and have great communication about everything but our sex life, which hasn't been going amazingly. I took his virginity, but he's not the first guy I've been with.\n\n I'm into some basic kinky stuff, nothing too \"out there\", I would just enjoy some light bondage, spanking, dirty talk, etc. A week or so ago I brought up the topic of kinks and encouraged him to talk about specific fantasies he has...all he came up with was telling me his favorite position thus far (missionary, incidentally) and that he really is not into the whole dominance/submission power play thing, which was a little disappointing. Now I feel awkward talking about stuff I want to try because I really doubt he'd be into it...how can I bring this up?", "summary": "Boyfriend is apparently kink free, I'm not. How can I discuss my desires with him without freaking him out?"}
{"id": "t3_1kiotq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR based mostly on texting, is this normal?", "post": "My(25M) gf(F25) and I have a fairly new relationship, and unfortunately it has been a long distance thing from the beginning. Even though our distance is only about 90 miles, we still only get to see each other on weekends, maybe every other if we have some other plans. We mostly text all the time when we aren't together. We have had phone conversations that I have initiated, but it seems like she prefers to only text.\n\n \nI don't mind it, but some things can be taken the wrong way though texting(sarcasm as he biggest one) and it's much less personal as many of you know.\n\nSo the question is do most people who aren't around their SO's mostly text all the time or should I try to push phone conversations more often? She's also fairly introverted, which I think plays a large role in this as well. Thanks for your thoughts in advance..", "summary": "Dating a girl for about 5 weeks long distance, we mostly only talk through texting when not around each other. Standard for most relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_1drt0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] Having difficulty expressing intimacy with a [19F]girl.", "post": "So i've always considered myself very logical and distanced or somewhat disconnected from my emotions. However i cannot ignore the fact they are there.\n\nThe specific issue is that i have started talking to this girl for the past 3 or 4 months who is intellectully stimulating and i am beginning to feel emotionally attached and want a less Platonic relationship, but i always experience an awkwardness when trying to show romantic interest like holding hands or kissing. It feels almost like a betrayal of my personality and philosophies to give into behaviour of emotional origin; even things like cheering, dancing etc.\n\nI know i would certainly enjoy being able to just go ahead and do it, and she has given plenty subtle invitation but I can't help but feel cheesy or non genuine while initiating more intimate contact.\n\nI really hope there is a way to overcome this.", "summary": "Feeling a little uncomfortable about showing affection and hoping someone else has a similar problem/solution."}
{"id": "t3_2844jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) finally ended things with semi abusive gf (19f). Just looking for perspective on things...", "post": "Dated for 1.5 years and always loved this girl. However, she has a narcissistic mother who has emotionally abused her since birth. Because of this she has a serious anger problem. When she gets really really mad she'll say anything she can to hurt me. After ups and downs and things getting better and worse, eventually we had an incident where she physically assaulted me. I drew the line there and ended things. After a few days of no contact she called me crying and in tears, extremely apologetic and now rational (surprise surprise...). I explained I didn't hate her but that we couldn't be together. We could always be friends. Then she dropped a bomb on me.\n\nShe explained that the night prior one of my good friends, both very drunk, was at a party with her and followed her home and asked to spend the night. He ended up forcinr himself on her, but she gave in and had sex with him. She then told him to stop and forced him to go home. She apologized to me over and over again but I can't take her back. Especially after what happened that night. \n\nIt's quite obvious how much this girl loves me and how much I love her. But I can't just pretend she didn't do all those things to me. \n\nI really don't know how to handle the friend situation, I feel very betrayed.", "summary": "gf is abusive, finally ended it. Then she gets borderline raped by a close friend of mine and begs for me back. I tell her no but really miss her and don't know how to handle the friend situation."}
{"id": "t3_1fraqj", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Steal my work? no grade for you!", "post": "To understand this you will have to know that my school uses google docs for most of the work we do. I walk into the lecture hall and get my computer set up and wait for the class to start. Then my \"friend\" calls me up, I say hi, and am expecting a nice conversation. I was dead wrong. She starts telling me i didn't do my work and that she just started doing a project that was apparently due today. I had been getting ready for a presentation and obviously forgot about it. I walk back down to my seat and check the document i created for the project. sure enough she took the paragraph i had written and took credit for it while writing a paragraph more. I call my friend over and she can't stand this girl, I show her what happened and she says \"Maybe you should just do your work.\" I was stunned. Then the bitch comes down to yell at me more. I call her lie and she says \"You can ask my dad! I did all of this!!!\" i ask her to leave, she doesn't I shout \"Leave now!\" the whole class of 83 people heard me. She retreats back to my other \"friends\" to spread lies. Here comes the revenge, I take her name off the work, revert it back to what I had already done, turn it in, then report her for cheating, plagiarism, and theft.", "summary": "Bitch claims my work as own, I make sure she doesn't get a grade on a valuable project."}
{"id": "t3_47d6og", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] close friends [21M and F] have been cold and distant towards me and I have no clue why. Should I try to fix it or should I back off and call it a loss?", "post": "I have always struggled with friendships as I struggle with depression and tend to isolate myself. I am a senior in college. Last semester I really connected with these two people. They texted me every day, we had inside jokes, they came up with a funny nickname for me, we hung out all the time. It made me feel so wonderful and happy and connected, they really made me feel like I had friends and was \"normal.\" We texted over our break every single day. I felt so loved for the first time since I graduated high school and left my high school group of friends. \n\nThis semester, we got back from break and after a few days, kinda stopped hearing from them. No more daily texts or anything. We still see each other weekly or so, but I sometimes I peek over at their phones and realize they are texting each other and not talking to me. I feel like with a dramatic change like this, there has to be something that I did, but I just don't know what it is. When I try to start conversations it seems cold, distance, surface level. They don't seem happy to see me anymore. \n\nI know it is complicated, because I don't have many friends and I know that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. But their friendship just meant so much to me and it hurts so bad that it is gone. I know they don't owe me friendship, but they gave it to me and then they took it away. I feel so hurt and sad. \n\nShould I try to figure out what happened? How do I do that? What do I say? Is it in person or a text message? I'm afraid if I talked to them in person I would start crying. \n\nOr should I just accept that we weren't meant to be friends and move on.", "summary": "I had two great friends, who texted me with daily affirmations and made me feel so happy and loved. Suddenly a new semester started and they have stopped talking to me. This has hurt me so much and I feel so upset that I have lost friends and that I don't know why. Do I confront the situation, or just let it pass?"}
{"id": "t3_39ymaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21 F) boyfriend (23 M) of one year scares me with his aggressive behaviour. How can I deal with it?", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now and we really hit it off. I love him very much and I know he, too, cares about me deeply and takes our relationship seriously so I don't want to break up with him in any case but there's one problem which is increasingly bothering me.\n\nMy bf has always been a rather impulsive person but I had known this before we became a couple. The thing is that sometimes, the way he reacts downright scares me. Sure we fight from time to time, I guess it's pretty normal that we don't always agree on everything but when he gets mad at me he goes as fas as pushing me or grabbing my wrists. After one fight, I was so scared when I realized that I have bruises on them!\n\nI always try to voice my feelings and tell him he had scared me with his behaviour and he'd.apologize but two or three weeks later he loses his temper again...\n\nThe point is, our relationship is a very important part of my life and I want to avoid losing it at all costs. I'm only 21 and it's the first 'serious' relationship for me and frankly, I feel confused and I don't know what to do.\n\nHe never actually hit me or anything, we have a brilliant relationship outside this and I don't believe that he does scare me on purpose or wants to hurt me.\n\nHas anyone been there? How do you think we can overcome this? Thank you very much in advance for your advice, as I don't really have anyone to turn to - I live away from my family and I have a feeling my friends would get the wrong idea. It worries me a geeat deal so I'd appreaciate any help.\n\nAlso, sorry for the long post and all the mistakes I made! English is not a native language to me :(", "summary": "My boyfriend sometimes loses his temper and gets mildly aggressive with me when we argue. How can I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_1n0gut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] am concerned that my finance [24 M] might have a drinking problem.", "post": "I dated my finance for a year before he left for the military. Never had any alcohol problems. Since then we have flown to see each other about 5 times.  We will have a drink or two during the time we spend together but it is never excessive.  \n\nThe fourth time and the last time that I saw him, he got blackout drunk and was very aggressive and controlling.  \n\nThe first incident was at Las Vegas. Being Vegas, I thought maybe it was just the city so I didn't say anything.  The second time was for a Buddy's deployment party.  It was all guys getting drunk so I tried to leave.  And he was extremely controlling. He pushed me and then tried to make me feel guilty by crying and then when that didn't work he started being condescending.  My mom finally came to pick me up.\n\nThe next day he said he didn't remember any of this and promised to never get this drunk again.  Its been about 6 months now since this happened but my mom doesn't let me hear the end of it.\n\nShould I be concerned?", "summary": "The last two times that I saw my military fiance during our vacation, he got blackout drunk and was very aggressive and controlling. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_3uuvnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24/m] is acting too casual... Should I [24/f] be worried?", "post": "We've been together for 2 months, previously we were friends for nearly a year. It was me who initiated the first move in telling him how I feel, and he reciprocated. He had got out of a long relationship last year in which he got pretty hurt.\n\n The first few weeks he seemed super keen to see me and talk to me, and admittedly it was a weird transition from friendship to relationship but now it seems perfectly natural to be with him. However there is a niggle that is getting at me. \n\nHe seems to be very casual in when/how we meet, as in he doesn't initiate the next date straight away, he does with me sometimes a day or two after, which is still okay because we're both studying and I know that's gotta come first. It's just that sometimes we only see each other once a week and he seems totally cool with that, like I'll be missing him and will sometimes say it but won't get that back.\n\n I don't think his feelings are nearly as strong with me as mine are for him. Is it a case of it being early days, and/or him not wanting to get his guard down right away? Or is he just not very into me? \n\nWe don't speak very romantically, sometimes he will say sweet things but more often than not it's still like we talk like friends. I don't think it's something he's intentionally doing but he is very chilled about everything. When we are together though everything is great.\n\n I've never gone from friends to a relationship so this is all new to me too, and not sure if i'm over thinking things or not?", "summary": "should I worry about my boyfriends lack of date initiation?"}
{"id": "t3_mcjy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend wants us to have a threesome with another girl. Advice?", "post": "I'm a 21 year old female in a relationship with a 21 year old male, we've been dating for around six months. We've always been very open about our sexual desires and interests (we watch porn together, we're fairly experimental, use your imagination.) \n\nLong story short, he's never had a threesome, and I've only had one in the past -- I've known that he's wanted to have one for some time, but until very recently, the conversation has always been purely theoretical. Now, things are getting more concrete.\n\nI should note that I'm bisexual and have hooked up with more than my fair share of women -- my current relationship is actually somewhat open, as my boyfriend doesn't mind me having sex with other girls. So, the reservations I have about participating in a three-way have nothing to do with the presence of another woman in a sexual setting... that's something I'm generally down with.\n\nWhile I consider myself to be very open-minded about sex and would THEORETICALLY love to have a threesome with him and another girl, there's another part of me that thinks I might be upset about watching him have sex with someone else. The threesome I had before was with two friends, and it was a lot of fun, but I wasn't really emotionally attached to either of them the way I am to my boyfriend. \n\nI guess I'm just looking for advice as to the best course of action: this is something that I do really want to do, but I'm afraid of getting upset halfway through and being a massive buzzkill.", "summary": "My boyfriend would like to have a threesome with me and another girl. I would like to do this and have had threesomes in the past, but I'm afraid that my emotional attachment to him will get in the way of things. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_gt8fe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is a group with known pedophilia ties advertising on Hulu?", "post": "I was just watching Hulu and saw an advertisement for Boys Town. This triggered my memory of a documentary I saw on TV a few years ago about a place called Boys Town in Omaha that was linked to a huge pedophilia ring (similar video [here](\n\nI was thinking, \"man, why would anyone use the same name as something that was associated with such pure evil?\" Looked into it, not just the same name, but it's the same Boys Town (\n\nIt seems they've done a ton of good work and are well respected, but after being associated with that, it seems like you would close up shop. Instead, they're soliciting donations on Hulu! I'm really hoping someone can just explain to me what I'm missing here because I'm outraged and this seems pretty obvious...", "summary": "popular charity turned child prostitution ring in the 80s is now advertising on Hulu, I'm looking for answers."}
{"id": "t3_3dqu1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me: 31/F, bf: 27/M, together for almost 2yrs... How often do you text your SO while he or she is out with their friends? Whether it's a night out or some kind of vacation/weekend getaway...", "post": "Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't  text each other on the regular anyways. \n\nHowever, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. \n\nI'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state?", "summary": "want to know if you guys text SO while they go out w/out you, if so, how often & does it matter if they are in/out the country/state"}
{"id": "t3_1ly8x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17M] with my gf [17F] of 5 months, broke up and need to deal with seeing her everday.", "post": "This was my first real relationship, and it met its demise due to my trust issues and her feelings changing based on my lack of trust.\n\nI decided to break things off a week ago after fighting for 8 days non-stop, but due to changes in my plans for my education I am now back in school. (I'm repeating my Leaving Cert year in order to get better grades & points to go to a better college and a better course.)\n\nMy now ex-gf is in this same year so I have to see her everday, she is avoidable for most of the day but we do have classes together. Although I broke it off I still have strong feelings for her and seeing her is incredibly distracting from my studies. What do I do? How do I get over it as soon as possible?", "summary": "Broke up with gf, still have feelings for her, have to see her everday which is distracting me from study."}
{"id": "t3_2ixm1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my ex-bf [17 M] two years, I hacked his social media", "post": "Okay so here was the original post regarding the break up:\n\nWhat happened afterwards was that we started talking again (the other girl stopped talking to him, I don't know why) and we became friends, things were going well even though in the back of my mind I knew that it may be too soon and I knew that if this girl comes back and they become friends again I will not be able to deal with it. But of course I continued to talk to him and be friendly and whatnot. So last week, we were talking on Facebook and on Saturday he blatantly ignored me (you know how you can see \"last seen\" on Facebook chat? Yeah, that's what happened to me) and I was just really confused because we were having a good conversation and whatnot. I still had my dignity so I decided not to initiate until he does. But he never did and I was just so confused and curious as to what was going on that I hacked into his Snapchat, his Instagram, and his Skype. I didn't do anything to them at first, I was just curious and I was poking around at it (Skype didn't have anything btw). But then I don't know what I was thinking and I deleted the other girl from all his contact lists because I guess I hated her so much and I thought he wouldn't care since she kind of ignored him anyway. Well, worst comes to worst, yesterday they started talking again and now they're like best friends and he suspects me for hacking his accounts because he remembered that he told me his passwords before. He told me that he is willing to let it go if I tell him now, but I also know that he's been telling his girl friends about it (including that girl and some of my friends). Now the question is whether I should come clean about it or keep denying it.", "summary": "boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me, got a rebound, I didn't take it well and logged in to his social media accounts to delete her off his contacts. Boyfriend now suspects me for hacking and I don't know what to say to him."}
{"id": "t3_256aaz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] with my Boyfriend [18 M] 6 months, Going away to college. How will it work and what to expect?", "post": "I know I am 16, but I am not ignorant to the fact that most high school relationships do not end in marriage. I am honestly not looking into that at the moment anyway and for a very long time, have not even considered it to be in my future. Regardless, i found myself dating this wonderful guy and I have grown very very fond of him. I am confident in saying that i love him and i know he loves me too. He is a reserved man and relationships have been hard for him in the past, not because he has commitment issues or anything, he could just not connect with the girls he was seeing. \n\nAnywho, we are now together in a healthy relationship and he is going to college in the same city i will be in highschool. I am a junior and plan on applying to a university in the same city. mostly because it is a prestigious university but the fact that he will be nearby is very nice as well.  If i get accepted, i would definitely attend for financial reasons even if it isn't necessarily my first choice. \n\nWe have talked over things vaguely and he says he would really like to stay with me in college. I completely understand if his mind changes and have took tiny steps in preparing myself to let him go should he choose to break up after summer. For now, i guess i'll just go with the time we have together. it's not like he is moving incredibly far anyway.\n\n So reddit, what advice could you give me for the months to come? How have your highschool/ college relationships worked out? please share!", "summary": "Boyfriend is going to college in the same city as me/What should I expect and how did your experiences turn out?"}
{"id": "t3_15ay2z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing up on my friend while sober", "post": "A few friends and I were playing Halo and getting ready to go out to a bar to meet up with some people, you know just sort of a gaming session before getting properly shitfaced before we all went home for Christmas.\n\nMy friend, showered and dressed, comes out of the bathroom and sits on his bed and lets out the biggest burp we'd heard in a while. Another friend proceeds to counter this, starting what has to be the most juvenile burping war of all time. Then, because I have the worst luck ever, I start to farm up a monster of a belch. I tap the friend on the shoulder, get in real close to his face, and let out what starts off as a burp and ended in me throwing up half a bag of Doritos and around 3 cans of coke onto his face and shoulder.\n\nThere was what seemed like an hour of silence, but what probably was around 10 seconds where no one knew what to do or say. The friend sat on his bed, astounded that I had managed to throw up on him, as I simply looked at him dead in the eyes and began to try and explain myself. Eventually I just began to laugh (you know what feeling when there's nothing else you can do except laugh), along with everyone else in the room, as he went to the bathroom and cleaned himself up.\n\nJust because I feel odd not putting this in, we're all around 18-19", "summary": "Tried to 'out burp' my friend, threw up on him, laughed as he cleaned himself up."}
{"id": "t3_392a6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] having trouble saying no to my [21M] controlling ex of 1.5 yrs", "post": "Our relationship got off to a hasty start. We moved in together in about a week of meeting each other. We became infatuated quickly and developed a rather codependent relationship. After a week or two he told me about his recreational substance use. I am pretty open minded when it comes to most chemicals. He has been using pain killers since he was a teenager. I don't like supporting that since it influences his mood swings even more and it can be addictive.\n\nWhen we moved in together, we moved to my mom's. They didn't always get along. They both have similar mental health issues (bipolar depression) so sometimes I have a hard time distinguishing their true feelings between their manic phases. My ex seems to think we can work things out. I tried to leave twice prior to this, but agreed to give it another shot at a new apartment.\n\nI couldn't put up with him so I moved back in with my mom (alone). But they kind of despise each other so I can feel them trying to pit me against the other at times. He still has my cat which I had prior to our relationship. He won't give it back since my mom's house has bugs. I also work in hospitality so customer service is a must for me. It is hard to be fun and happy with customers when I have been walking on eggshells for so long.\n\nIt has been about 3 weeks since we split. I still get invited to visit. I still do visit. About a week ago I got a little too drunk and stayed at his apartment. I may have said and done things that led him on. I want to let him off easy but we want to stay friends. I think he wants more than that. He has already been flirting/sending nudes to guys on social apps. He says that doesn't mean anything but I feel otherwise. He doesn't believe me when I say we need a bit of a grieving period to get over each other. Its hard for me to be brutally honest sometimes. Please help me stick to this decision!", "summary": "How do I gracefully end a codependent relationship without losing my cat/job performance? Is friendship off the table for now?"}
{"id": "t3_25w2cf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] I've never had a closer contact with a girl, I need some advice", "post": "As the title says i need some advice about talking, flirting and starting relationships with girlfriends. My problem is that since I was born I really didn't have a big intrest about girls and I've never really tried to know them or sth. But since I started to feel really lonely and weakhearted ( I hope you know what I mean, I'm very sensitive about feelings ) I would say that my desire was to find someone, fall in love with her and give her everything she wants, offer myself. I don't know how to start, when to write, when not to write, what to write in what way, in which way should I propose her a date or meeting, how to recognize what's going on in certain situations. I'm kind of person who wants to not to be boring and always tries to colourise things, finds some situational jokes and try to use my voice and moves in the best possible way full of energy. My problem is definetely a lack od self-confidence despite my talent in hiding it. Please help me Reddit!\nSorry for poor English, despite having a European Council B2 paper it doesnt seem like I'm that pro :(", "summary": "I'm new to girls and dating, help me please"}
{"id": "t3_yaojk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Americans of reddit, what's your stance on gun control, and why?", "post": "I'm a staunch supporter of the 2nd Amendment. I believe citizens have both the constitutional and the natural right to bear any small arms they choose - including assault rifles, machine guns, and even should-fired missiles. I support thorough background checks on weapons purchases, as well as state-issued firearm licenses. However, I don't think people should have to pay special fees or taxes on specified weapons types (for example, the current NFA tax on short-barreled rifles). In short, I advocate firearms being freely available with minimal government regulation.\n\nThe common arguments against gun control involve hunting, recreational shooting, and home defense. I whole-heartedly support those things, but I think focusing on them too much ignores the primary reason for an armed civilian population: PROTECTION FROM TYRANNICAL GOVERNMENT.\n\nWhen writing the 2nd Amendment, the Founding Fathers specifically had armed militias in mind. Such militias played a pivotal role against the British during the American Revolution, and it was assumed that they could play a role in keeping any future government in check.\n\nToday, the media regularly tells us about police brutality and CIA torture. It is now \"legal\" for the federal government to spy on, kidnap, indefinitely detain, and assassinate anyone (including American citizens) it deems a \"threat\" to itself. I don't care what Congress or the Supreme Court says- these things are wrong, and they threaten the freedom of the American people! \n\nIn order to maintain a free, safe, democratic nation, PEOPLE SHOULD NOT FEAR THEIR GOVERNMENT! THE GOVERNMENT SHOULD FEAR THEM!", "summary": "I advocate an armed civilian population as protection against tyrannical government. I'm against any further gun control measures, and believe that the system in fact needs to deregulated."}
{"id": "t3_kpb4r", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Anxious about traveling alone - any tips?", "post": "I'm an American living in Germany, working as an au pair for a relative. I like to travel, and I want to take advantage of the opportunity to explore Europe... but I've never traveled all alone before and it's freaking me out. I was going to take a nice little day trip to Cologne today, but when I got to the train station I just felt so overwhelmed by everything, nauseous with anxiety and like I was going to lose my self-control and start crying if I tried to ask anyone for help.\n\nBy the time I calmed myself down, I didn't even want to go anymore, I just wanted to come home and sleep. I'm homesick and lonely, and if I can't manage a little day trip how can I get myself to Paris or London? I was so excited to come here, but I've practically lost interest in traveling. I'm disappointed and I feel like I can't rely on myself. What can I do to get over this?", "summary": "I want to travel in Europe while I have the chance, but I'm so anxious about it I can't even leave the city I'm staying in. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_hivtx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How does one move to America?", "post": "So, my girlfriend lives in Norway, I'm here in the USA.  We've been together for a year and a half now and we are starting to discuss her moving here for a period of time and then me exchanging there for college for a while.\n\nThe main problem is, we have no idea where to start on how to get her here to live in America with me >_>  We've both agreed that we won't get married simply for a visa, we just aren't ready for marriage yet (not that it isn't a plan in the future :3 ).\n\nShe'll be here june through august to visit ^^ is there anything we can do while she's here?  Or does that matter? \n\nThank you guys!", "summary": "What is the process someone has to go through to move to America WITHOUT getting married?"}
{"id": "t3_2oi2lw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my wife [29 F] of five years, wants me to pay her for \"extra work\" she'll have to do while I'm on a business trip.", "post": "My wife and I have an already very strained relationship. We are essentially roommates at this point. We have two children (3F & 1F). I have a business trip coming up next week, just found out today. I will be gone from Thursday to Monday. \n\nWe have been splitting most bills in half (rent, daycare, utilities, etc.) And keeping track and currently my wife is about $4,000 behind since January 2014. I have no access to or knowledge of her finances, and vice versa. The balance was even higher for previous years but she said she didn't trust my spreadsheet so the 4K is just this year. We make roughly the same amount of money.\n\nNormally I take the kids to daycare and she picks them up. Being out of town would require my wife to do both and hence the \"extra work\" in addition to reading time, dinnertime, and playtime that I usually do with the girls at night.\n\nPart of me knows that just throwing a couple hundred at the balance due would be the easiest (I also know I will never see the 4K anyway so it doesn't really matter), but this feels a little like negotiating with terrorists. \n\nAny advice? To be honest this is just the tip of the iceberg for my marriage, but I'm curious if anyone has dealt with anything like this before. I can provide more info if needed/wanted. Thanks!", "summary": "I'm leaving on a business trip and my wife wants me to pay her for her \"extra work\"."}
{"id": "t3_1k0lks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What memory stands out when you think of your parents (or parental figures, for those of you who had to go without)?", "post": "It was my 17th birthday. I was pretty heavy into drumming, and I had been playing for more than a year on a cheap Pearl kit with the same stock cheap-o cymbal it came with. My birthday comes around, and right after my Mom and Brother finish singing happy birthday and passing me a donut (not a big fan of cake), my Dad asks me to follow him into the garage.\n\nI follow him in there, and he reaches up behind the refrigerator and pulls out a bag with a scratched up crash and a dinged ride cymbal. He hands it to me, and says, \"Happy Birthday, son. The drum guy said these are good ones, but they're a little banged up. I'm sorry they're not new.\"\n\nI was just blown away; my childhood hero is scraping cash together to get me a present (that I absolutely loved, by the way), and he's apologizing?! At that moment, I knew that whatever hardship that my Dad and I experienced before and whatever we'd experience in the future was just because he loved me so very much.\n\nJust thinking about it now causes me to choke up. Ever since then I've done my best to live up to his example.", "summary": "It's my birthday, my Dad scrapes cash together to buy me used cymbals and apologizes unnecessarily, and as a result, I have a grand realization."}
{"id": "t3_40iwst", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching YTP", "post": "So, around 2012, we just moved into a new house. We had absolutely no internet at that time, but my mom was a saint, she had the magical power of her cell phone, which had internet! Every Monday night, she would let us use her phone to look up random shit. I had tons of awesome memories with her phone, like the reveal of the new Mario Kart and Super Mario game coming next year. It was great...\n\nBut, onto the real story. It was another Monday night, my mom gave us both the phone with unhindered internet access. Now, I watch YouTube videos all the time, it was how I found news about the latest in tech and stuff! As I was searching through the vids, going from link to link, I found this strange video. It's name? \"YTP: Spongebob starts a Farting Contest in class\". What is this beast that lives on my screen? I found out quickly. It was vulgar, it was poorly edited, but most of all, it was hilarious. I tapped on the Youtuber's icon, and I looked at all of his YTPs, which were also hilarious.\n\nI do this until around 11 P.M., and my Mom bursts into the room to tell be something while I was watching a YTP. I quickly turn the phone off and nervously asked if it was time for bed, but before Mom answered, she grabbed the phone out of my hands and watched the entire fucking YTP. She gets pissed, and sends me to bed. You might think I just got yelled at, but NO. What my mom was going to tell me was that I could go out into the living room and have a midnight snack of a cupcake. A CUPCAKE. Let's just say, my pillow was drenched in tears when I finally fell asleep. I'm now 16 years old, and I've found ways to watch YTP in secrecy now.", "summary": "I watch a vulgar edit of a Spongebob episode and miss the perfect chance to have the best night of my life."}
{"id": "t3_1mrvba", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I made it finally", "post": "I did it. I god damn did it. \n\nAlmost a year and a half ago at the age of 28, I left an abusive relationship with someone I thought was the love of my life. I left a job on a career path I didn't like at all. I left a city I didn't like living in, and left the entire country too. I was shattered and so unhappy.\n\nI started over in a foreign country with no friends. It has been so hard, and I fell into depression and barely could find work due to no solid school or trades background. I doubted all my decisions and wondered just how stupid I was as I watched my money slowly evaporate. I've hidden much of this from family and old friends due to feelings of embarrassment, and left over feelings of being worthless.\n\nBit by bit i've worked towards goals I made. I've met people, made new friends, found new great hobbies, took chances and risks, forced myself to get out there and deal with being uncomfortable. I've talked to and shared about the abuse and come to peace with it. Day by day I struggled at the gym getting my fitness back to where I wanted to be. \n\nI'm now more fit than i've ever been, more confident and outgoing than ever, have a great bunch of friends, and I just landed a job I've wanted and worked towards the last 6 months in a career that for the first time in my life makes me excited. For the first time in years, today I smiled freely and I feel proud of myself and just FUCK YES.\n\nIf I can start over. Maybe you can too.", "summary": "Life was shit, now it isn't."}
{"id": "t3_3qknt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F25] Brother's [M30] ex-girlfriend [30?F] Fed my brother information about an accident I was in.", "post": "Two nights ago I hit a deer on my way home from work. I called the non-emergency line to send a police officer out to make a report so I could have my insurance cover the damage to the vehicle. \n\nBefore I had a chance to call my parents they called me asking if I was okay. Apparently my brother had called them. \n\nHow did my brother know? Well his ex girlfriend (from two years ago) was the non-emergency operator. After I hung up she texted my brother said \"Hey your sister got in a car accident with a deer.\" and he called my parents. This happened within minutes of me hanging out up with the non-emergency line.\n\nI'm a little miffed, even if she did have the best intentions. I'm an adult, I live on my own, my brother lives on his own and we have little contact between us. I am very tempted to message her on Facebook and tell her that I'm not OK with what she did. She had no right to pass along information like that, and I actually think she might be able to lose her job over this. \n\nWould I be in the wrong to contact her and say \"In the future please do not contact my brother unless given express permission to?\"", "summary": "My brother's ex gf ratted me out that I was in a car accident."}
{"id": "t3_yf5i8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question regarding learning/teaching.", "post": "I apologize in advance if this is not the right sub reddit for this kind of question.\n\nfor the past 2 years, i've been slowly but surely developing my illustration skills. I am 18, recently out of high school, and will be going to college for a bachelors in illustration in likely 1-2 years. \n\nDespite teaching my self to be better, by using resources from the internet/library ext, but improvement has been slow. It can be seen, but I still feel i am behind where i should be at my age, and for how long i have been drawing/painting.\n\nI've met many artists who are self taught, and never went to college at all for what they do, yet i have it in my mind that college will help me greatly, since i learn faster when taught by another, rather then myself.\n\nMy question is, is this actually possible? do some people just have a harder time of teaching theirself? I have the dedication and interest to pursue education, but i respond so much better to being instructed, rather than instructing myself. Is this normal?", "summary": "Do some people just learn better when being taught, rather than teaching themselves? Is it normal to not be able to learn as effectively by yourself?"}
{"id": "t3_2m48y3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21f]with my boyfriend [23m] for 8 months. How much change is normal??", "post": "So a little back story. I met my boyfriend about 9 and a half months ago. We started hanging out and sleeping together pretty frequently and within a month we were exclusive. Things moved pretty fast after that. We've moved in together, bought furniture and televisions and a car together. \n\nHe has had issues with anxiety and depression. He also has a condition that causes physical pain in his legs, ankles and feet.\n\nWe've only had a few issues during our relationship. There's been no cheating, no lying that I know of, nothing to have caused things to go wrong. However it still feels like things are going wrong.\n\nUntil about a month ago we were having sex every day. We experimented and tried new things. He performed oral sex on me at least twice a week. It was great. So when the sex started getting less frequent, I talked to him about it. At first he told me I was crazy and I was imagining it so I gave it time. After a week or so though nothing changed. I talked to him about it again and this time he blamed it on his depression, poor self image and his leg pain. I now get sex once a week if I'm lucky and if we have sex, I'm always on top.\n\nSo on top of not having sex, we don't do anything except sit around, watch Netflix and maybe get high. We never go on dates or take walks or cook together and we rarely talk unless we're outside smoking a cigarette. \n\nOn top of that he is constantly getting annoyed with things I do. Even things that he used to find endearing. He makes me feel like I'm an idiot. \n\nSo basically I'm wondering if this kind of change in a relationship is normal. I've only been with 2 guys exclusively before this one and they were both cheaters and liars and had no respect for me so I'm afraid my idea of normal is not in fact normal. Should I expect better or is this the best I'll get?", "summary": "I know that relationships change but I don't know if this much change is normal. Things moved very fast between us and I'm concerned that it affected the way out relationship developed."}
{"id": "t3_2wigcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [19 M], missed two solid opportunities to hook up with my friend, [18 F], anything i can do about it?", "post": "On two occasions in the last 2 weeks I was alone with my friend at her house; she invited me, we were in her bed watching a movie, on the internet, drinking, etc, and on both occasions I didn't make a move. It seems obvious to me now that I should have made a move, after speaking with two close friends who are more experienced with women.\n\nI've never had sex before, and although I'm comfortable around women, and I was comfortable around her, I think my lack of experience was the main factor here; I was afraid of taking a risk. She on the other hand is very experienced with making out and sex, but she's not into doing it with one person at a time.\n\nWe're still friends, but I feel like i may have unintentionally made her think I'm not attracted to her, and to be honest, I'm more attracted to the possibility of making out, and having sex for the first time, even though she is cute. Is it a good idea to try to pursue things with her? Would it be strange for me to make a move on her next time (if she does invite me over again), even though I haven't on the first two times?", "summary": "Missed 2 chances to lose virginity, should I try again next time with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3y1wrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] can't trust my SO [20M] of 6 months, but I really want to.", "post": "Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and I really do love him, and I really want to trust him and spend the rest of my life with him. \n\nThe problem is that I am very insecure, and he hasn't helped much with that. He showers me with compliments all the time, but then he'll start talking to other girls, and get pictures of them and stuff. He swears that he doesn't ask for anything like that and it just happens, but I find that hard to believe.\n\nAlso, his best friend is really rude to me, and always encouraging my boyfriend to look at other girls. I have finally declared that I want nothing to do with his friend, but my boyfriend doesn't really care. Even though his friend is an asshole in general, not just to me, my boyfriend still hangs out with him instead of spending time with me. I have a busy schedule and can really only see him on the weekends, and even though he sees his friend every single weekday, he still sometimes doesn't reserve the weekends for me.\n\nAll I want to do is trust him.  It's just that I'm not always around to be making sure that he's not talking inappropriately to some girl again. He tells me that he wouldn't ever do anything like that again and that I can check his phone when I bring it up, but I figure even if he was talking to someone he would just delete the evidence. \n\nIt just seems like as soon as I start to trust him again I find our about another girl or he says something really hurtful or offensive and then we are back to square one.", "summary": "my boyfriend is nice to me, but has proven to be untrustworthy before. He swears that he has changed though."}
{"id": "t3_2wk5fu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by snapping my co-worker's bra strap.", "post": "Whenever I hug my wife, I'll often put my hand on the clasp of her bra and give it a playful tug, just pull it out an inch or so, as if threatening to snap it back.  She'll say something like, \"Don't you dare!\" or something equally playful.  Sometimes if we're home, I'll even undo the clasp with one hand (a skill I perfected in high school) and she'll scold me and clasp it back.  It's fun.  We've been married a million years.\n\nToday, a co-worker who's been on maternity leave, saw me for the first time in months and hugged me quite innocently.  As I gently and brotherly patted her on the middle of her back, instinct took over and I before I could stop myself, I grabbed her bra clasp and gave it a tug.  Like, tug-tug.  She had to have noticed.\n\nWe finished the small talk about her new baby and went about our business.  Yeah, I'm pretty sure she'll never hug me again.  I'm an idiot.", "summary": "I hugged a co-worker and automatically grabbed her bra strap.  You know, the way I do."}
{"id": "t3_v9za5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Customer service runaround about a simple UI fix. Anyone want to help me demonstrate the utter laziness of their engineers and customer support?", "post": "Basically, my company pays $1000's of dollars every year to CapitalIQ for access to their financial database. I use it all the time (have to for my job) and have recently gotten frustrated because their customer service is saying they can't fix a simple bug in their web page.\n\nSee here: \n\nProblem I have is that CapitalIQ's website puts a huge notification (advertisements of other services) banner on the home screen that takes up over 20% of the vertical space. You can close the banner, but then if you refresh the page, the banner comes right back. \n\nSo basically, my company is already paying them a ton of money to use their software, and they are forcing me to see advertisements of other stuff they want to sell me. And I have to see those ads over and over and over again, every day, multiple times a day in fact (every page refresh).\n\nI've asked them to make each *new* banner go away forever once I close it. And **their response was effectively for me to go fuck myself for asking, it's too complicated, but they have logged my complaint and their engineers *might look at it in September*, but in the meanwhile, again I should continue to go fuck myself for asking.**\n\nI don't know much java script, but it seems like this should be like 2 lines of code to fix. I would really like to send them what the code looks like just to show them how utterly (a) lazy their engineers are and (b) lame and lazy their customer service support is.\n\nI was hoping a couple people on Reddit might be crack programmers or SW engineers who know enough about java and UIs to help me out.\n\nThanks-\nNazdaq", "summary": "SW company is giving me the runaround about a simple fix in their UI and I'm looking for a crack programmer to suggest what the code would look like to fix the bug. See"}
{"id": "t3_ejepu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Don't really know what it's about", "post": "I'm new to reddit and don't really know, if I'm writing this to the right place, but here it goes.\n\nI'm in my last year in high school and things just aren't working out anymore. For my whole life I've had no trouble taking up new things and doing well in school. It was because I never had to do any extra learning for it, I just figured everything out really fast. But also had a hard time concentrating on things that didn't interest me. While it was okay when I was younger, it got harder to deal with when I went to high school.\n\nWhile a couple of years ago I could manage the equivalent of A's and B's in school, I'm now struggling to get the grades needed to pass classes. And it's just because I can't push myself to do those things anymore. I'm great at history, civics or creative writing, but it gets really hard with maths and the like.\n\nWhat I'm getting at, is that I'm feeling that this isn't just some puberty induced rebelling or the like, but that I may have some disorder like ADHD. This may be me trying too hard to find some medical reasons, but the more I read about ADHD, the more it seems to fit. My problem is that I'm really not ready to consult my parents or friends about this. The reason for that is that because of all this I've developed a tendency for substance abuse. I get hammered every single weekend and when I try not to drink (because I really don't enjoy it that much, I just like the partying company that comes with it) I start to smoke cigarettes or weed. I also drink lots of coffee. And when someone like that comes to tell you that he has a problem with something, everyone points to the lifestyle. But the lifestyle is caused by the problem, not the other way round - I used to play soccer 5-6 times a week and be really good at it and have a part-time job as a journalist.\n\nSo yea, if you understood any of this rambling, I'd be happy to know your thoughts. Also English isn't my first language, so sorry about any mistakes in the test.", "summary": "I'm depressed; abusing alcohol, cigs, weed; think that there's more to it than lazyness"}
{"id": "t3_2jyju3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using conditioner instead of shampoo..", "post": "So as I was in the shower getting ready to scrub my head, I accidentally poured some conditioner in my hand. I said eh whatever and tossed towards the drain. Now my drain is one of those that can be plugged up, so the plug managed to hold on to some conditioner. I got lazy scrubbing my balls I mean head and thought the running water would take care of it. \n\nSo I got out and went ahead and headed to my room. 20 mins later my mom comes and tells me \"I just got out of the shower and you forgot to clean your man juice. You always forget and it stays stuck to the plug. Please clean up.\" \n\nI didn't bother saying anything because she said it always happens. Which is partially true... .____.", "summary": "I accidentally used conditioner, tossed it towards drain, got stuck on plug, mom thought it was jizz"}
{"id": "t3_1b2p6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] am freaking out and need help keeping a cool head and maintaining the correct frame of mind with a girl [21f]", "post": "So here's my current situation. I live in the same building of appartements as this girl and have been seeing her for about two months. We've spent time with each other talking, watching movies and we've taken a step further and have had sex a few times. Everything was great and feeling comfortable.\n\nLike I said everything was fine at first but recently out of no where I have began to freak out such as looking too much in to text messages and generally over thinking everything. This always happens when I start to care deeply for a girl. We are both in uni and are very busy so only really get to see each other on weekends. \n\nWe went on a proper date for drinks but unlike when we would generally hang out with each other there seemed to be a struggle in conversation at points. I asked if I could take her out again and she said of course but when uni is finished which would be around 6 or 7 weeks so we'd have more time to do things. I'm hoping this is due to the heavy work load and not a way of postponing any date type situation.  \n\nI think it may be a case of me liking her more than she likes me and I'm getting my head in a complete mess. If any kind redditors out there can spare some advice in helping me keep a cool head and not totally fucking this up, it would greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm over thinking things with a girl and need help keeping a calm mind."}
{"id": "t3_4p5j9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[29m] broke up with my girlfriend[29f] after finding out she slept around a lot did I make a mistake?", "post": "My girlfriend and I were together for eleven months. Both of us have met each others friends and family and we were getting pretty close. We were hanging out on average 5-6 times in a week. \n\nWhen it came to how many people she has slept with, one of my friends's girlfriends brought it up, and my girlfriend told me 3. I asked her if it was actually 3 or did she just say that to not be embarassed. She told me, that it was a definite 3. My number is also 3 in case any commenters are curious. \n\nBut later on one of my friends that is really good with women he told me bro your girlfriend is lying, that he can tell. Now, I know he is generally really good with women, but he had no proof or anything like that just his word, so I just kept it in the back of my mind. \n\nBut recently I started noticing inconsistencies with with what my girlfriend told me with her story of only being with 3 guys. I then found out through some people that knew her in college, that she actually slept around A LOT. I asked her about it, she first lied, and then eventually she admitted it. \n\nI told her that her past made me uncomfortable and that I don't want to be with her. And then we got into an argument first she called me a piece of shit and then afterwards she begged me to get back together with her. And she tried aggressively seducing me. I just told her to leave and that I'll think about it. But I later texted her that we are done. \n\nSince then, I miss her but am mentally happier. Its an odd feeling. I don't know if I made a mistake, what do you guys think of my situation?", "summary": "girlfriend lied about how many people she slept with."}
{"id": "t3_elsy2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a computer problem and don't know what to do!", "post": "So this may be a really stupid problem, but I really don't know anything about computers :(. Also, very very sorry if this is the wrong place to post this! \n\nI just restarted my computer to refresh my internet connection. When it turned back on, this anti-virus program 'System Tool' had taken over my desktop with grammatically incorrect warnings and pop up scan alert things and an option to buy a 'lifetime warranty' for this safety program. This 'System Tool' is a virus itself, I know... but everything I've looked up to get rid of it just tells me to download something. What do I do?? How do I get rid of this and make sure it never happens again?", "summary": "My computer is infected with the System Tool Virus and I have no idea how to get rid of it- help!"}
{"id": "t3_tokai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I tell my boyfriend that his friends are a bad influence on him?", "post": "Background:\nI'm 21(F) and he's 25. He moved in with his old college room mates about a year ago, and they're a terrible influence on him. Before he moved in there, he used to go to the gym regularly, eat well, and go to church. Since he's moved in with them, he's gained about 30 lbs. To be fair, I've gained weight as well since we started dating, but it's mostly because I started at a University with a meal plan, and later on I could only afford cheap, less-healthy food. I've been trying to work with him constantly for both of us to go to the gym more, eat better, and go to church together.  He ends up going out to eat way more than he should (his friends all have good paying jobs and don't really care about their health, while he's still looking for a job in his field of study), and is just generally negatively affected by the environment. I like the person he is when we're alone a lot better than him around his guy friends. It seems like he just makes a lot of poor choices around this group. I don't know how to go about telling him this...I know guys can be sensitive when it comes to their friends, though he already knows I don't like his friends. They give me a hard time a lot and tend to make me feel like crap- they've actually reduced me to tears a few times. On that note- they're about 70/30 as far as being jerks goes. Maybe 1/3 of the time they're actually decent to me, but I mostly end up feeling belittled and uncomfortable- it's a lot like High School. I've talked to him about this multiple times, and he says that A) I need to stand up for myself, and B) I need to let him know when I get upset, because he genuinely doesn't know what's making me upset, or what they say that sets me off. So, suggestions for how to bring this up with him?", "summary": "My boyfriend's friends are a bad influence on him, and I don't quite know how to convey that to him properly."}
{"id": "t3_2tjvfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my GF [23F] of 2 years have fallen into the same sexual routine. I don't feel satisfied as much and want things to change, but she doesn't know this and I'm afraid to speak up.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years. We don't live together or see each other as often as we'd like (distance) but we are very committed. At first we were exploring and experimenting sexually, but it soon faded away and we are now very set in our ways.\n\nIt was going to be a wall of text so I've narrowed it down to this. These are my problems:\n\n* We only do one position now, which is her favourite.\n* I want to experiment with more positions and other things.\n* I asked her what she likes during sex, she seems to have no specific turn-ons or anything she'd like to try. She's happy the way things are.\n* I however do have some things, nothing crazy. (Braided hair, a fave position, her wearing boots)\n* I'm afraid to own up and be open about these things, because she is easily offended. (Once got upset that I said I preferred a different position)\n* She is quite prudish, and may think even these simple things are weird.\n* I don't know how to be open with her. On one hand I'm worried she'll get angry that I haven't opened up earlier or will think I'm unsatisfied (sort of true), and will flip out.\n* On the other hand, if I don't say anything nothing will change and will get worse for me, but she is already happy.\n* I am perfectly happy to do things that will please her too. I don't want to be selfish about it.\n\nI just want us to be open with each other and try new things,  *without* her getting angry about it. What can a guy do?", "summary": "Beginning to feel unsatisfied with sex life with GF of 2 years, although she is perfectly happy. I want to try new things, but worried about telling her as she is quite prudish and will likely be upset."}
{"id": "t3_3te9x2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (m/25) gf (f/25) of 2years broke up with me because I have a crush on another girl (f/25).", "post": "My gf and I have been together for 2 years before she broke up with me yesterday. things were going well, however, it is obvious that passion wears off in this time, but commitment and respect stays. Recently, a new woman joined the company I work for and I have the most massive crush on her. \n\nI was always under the impression that crushes in a relationship are ok. Since i could not romantically pursue her, I decided to be friends with her. We had a company event last week, at which my gf was also present. I talked to my crush for some time, I honestly thought nothing of it, and it did not seem like that bothered my gf. However, she brought it up yesterday, asking if there's anything between me and that other girl. I believe in honesty so I told her about my feelings. I did not expect her to react the way she did. \n\nShe just looked at me and told me that she thinks it is time fore me to leave (we were at her apartment, we do not leave together) and that I have an hour to pack my clothes and go. Anything I did not pack she'd ship to my address. i tried reasoning with her, but she would not listen, so I left, leaving, however, my stuff at her place, hoping I could come back. This afternoon the stuff was at my door, apparently brought over by one of her friends. My gf is not talking to me, not picking up my calls, not answering messages. I want to get back with her - I don't think me having a crush on someone else is a legitimate reason to ruin a good thing.", "summary": "How can I get back with my gf?"}
{"id": "t3_2fdhdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with constant traveling job. Anxious about my romantic future.", "post": "Thanks for taking the time to read this.\n\nBackground: I was really never much of a ladies man in highschool/college. Quiet introverted with not much interest in \"playing the game.\" In the past year however, I turned that around. I have been much more successful engaging women, getting their number, going on dates etc... This isn't so much a problem any longer, meeting them is still difficult however. \n\n I am a 25year old dude that travels a lot with work. I'm an engineer with a very cool and good paying job and all that jazz. I chose to travel because sitting on a computer designing for 8 hours a day would probably drive me nuts, not to mention I enjoy what  I do. I tried it for a little but I found it monotonous and un-challenging. Eventually...2-5 years down the line I feel like I will retire to a desk job just because that's where my promotion progression will lead me. \n\nI work on a rotation so I basically work 19 days straight then get 9 days off. It's hard to meet a women, keep them interested long enough and have them wait around for me. If I meet a chick while working, then it turns into a long distance relationship, which hasn't worked out either.\n\nIn the past months where relationships have fallen apart because of my work I have become increasingly anxious of my romantic future. I'd like to be settled down by 30, with having known my potential partner for many years hopefully. For me this timetable might work but I can't get my anxieties of dying alone out of my head. I'm wondering if I should settle for a desk job or follow work that I enjoy doing.\n\nCan anyone else relate? How did you handle these thoughts?", "summary": "I travel a lot, hard to meet keep women interested in me past a couple months. Anxious I will die alone."}
{"id": "t3_4buiqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend has trouble engaging with people socially, especially guys.", "post": "I'm 20 years old and I'm dating a girl I've been good friends with for several years. We met the summer before middle school and are have been dating for two years now and we are currently in college. She's always been very shy since I've known her but is just now starting to come out of her shell. Moving out of her house and onto her dorm has done wonders for her friend making capabilities.\n\nShe still has some trouble engaging with people and she has stated that she and I may never have become friends if I hadn't been the one to talk to her first all those years ago. She relies on me as a bit of an emotional pillar, a role I am happy to fill and I am always trying to be there for her. \n\nI have some guy friends who she has met that she seems to like, including my best friend whom she has spent time with before. Aside from him however she doesn't have any male friends really.", "summary": "How can I help my girlfriend be more comfortable in social situations with new people?"}
{"id": "t3_sz5yz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever wanted to say a compliment to someone another color but it came out really wrong?", "post": "So the other day we were playing volleyball at my school and since there's people who can't play we're allowed to catch the ball. So I jump and push the ball where no one can reach it, but there's this black guy who dolphin dive and catch it (most amazing volleyball catch I ever saw) Me wanting to make a funny joke, told him he should get back in the NBA ( I actually wanted to say NFL because of that catch) but since I heard that joke about every black people being good at basketball, so many times, the word NBA just came automatically. Now he thinks I'm racist (Which I'm really not) Long story short, What's your worst racial comment/joke?", "summary": "Made NBA joke to a black guy when I wanted to say a compliment about an amazing catch at volleyball and now he think I'm racist."}
{"id": "t3_1yqv3k", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My dog is acting a bit weird. It's most likely not a disease, but it is quite odd. Need advice.", "post": "My dog is a  female eight year old Yorkshire Terrier. She is a liiitle bit overweight but nothing too serious. She regularly goes off on walks and gets plenty of exercise for her dimensions. We feed her twice a day, about a cup of Dog Chow/ Hill's Science Diet Lamb Recipe.\nShe has never had pups. She hasn't been spayed.\n\nRecently, and frankly, every now and then, my dog goes through these really weird behaviour patterns.\nIt always includes the same things: she pants a lot, she starts following me everywhere, and she wants to sleep near me all the time. This may not seem as odd, but the thing is, my dog has very settled ways. She always sleeps in her bed in my sister's room. She never, **never** sleeps near me because I don't allow it.\n\nBut when these fits start, she starts to scratch my door and whimpers to me so I open it. She doesn't stop until I open the door and allow her to sleep on my bed. She can whimper and scratch for *hours*.\n\nOnce she does, she starts doing this weird nesting behaviour. She starts to \"dig\" around in the bed sheets for minutes, panting like crazy (mind you, this dog almost *never* pants). It's like she's scared. She hides inside my shirt and remains there for the rest of the night. It's weird because she's usually very independent and doesn't like to be too close to you while sleeping.\nThis behaviour usually lasts for a week or two. She only does this to me, for some reason.\n\nI thought it might be nesting, but it doesn't exactly fit into the description. \n\nIt's not because of the weather, because we are currently at summer in my country and definitely *not cold*. Also, this can happen literally in any season. It's quite random.\n\nI'd appreciate any help, 'cause this can get very annoying. She won't let anyone in my household sleep.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Usually independent female eight year old Yorkshire Terrier starts weird needy behaviour"}
{"id": "t3_4azj2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 1 year, she is being hit on by a professor", "post": "So my girlfriend was recently accepted into a graduate program, which I am extremely excited for her and proud of her. I've been staying with her the last few months and we are moving into a new place next month. \n\nDuring her last semester, late last year, she had one professor who she always spoke very highly of. He was younger and held classes that were \"fun\" like film studies and things like that.  He wrote her a letter of recommendation and said that he was on the board of people who chose who would be accepted into the program and that he would try to get her in and that he wanted her to be his tracking assistant.\n\nA few weeks ago they had a dinner for the students who were accepted and the staff so they could meet. She said that when she got there he stood up and said that he saved her a seat next to him. \n\nThe next day they invited the grad students to sit in on a grad class, this professors class. She said that he mentioned her and pointed her out saying how smart she was all class. Then he came up to her after class asking if he could buy her a drink so they could talk about literature. \n\nSo she came home to change and told me and our roommates and they were the first to say that he was asking her out. We walked into our room and we're talking while she was getting ready. And I said it was a little weird and she started crying because she called her mom excited about it and her mom said that it was weird of him to do that. \n\nSo we had a long conversation about him and she said that he is just the only one who gets her and she kept going on about how smart he is and that they have a lot of interests in common.\n\nWell today she got an email from him saying that he pulled strings to get her assigned as her advisor and his teaching assistant. And I'm feeling a lot of jealousy and what I can't tell is if it is warranted or if I'm being to controlling or jealous. \n\nAny advice or opinions would be welcome", "summary": "My girlfriends professor is making what I would consider inappropriate moves toward her."}
{"id": "t3_2hm5ey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] with my possible GF [19F]", "post": "I say Possible GF because I'm not sure if I feel comfortable with what I am about to explain.\n\nSo I have only ever had one other GF we dated for around 6 Months she broke up with me it took me around 2 months to get over her, I didn't think I could but I did and honestly I look back now and just think why did I ever date her. So with that being said I am now dating another girl we have only been going out for a month and we had the chat about our exs...\n\nShe told me how she has been hurt by a lot of guys and stuff like that so I told her yeah guys can be dicks sometimes. That was fine but then she said \"My ex is a wonderful guy, his a really nice\". She wasn't being sarcastic, she meant this and I'm afraid she either has feelings for him still or she's just crazy... Or am I over reacting, because I couldn't even think of a reason to say that about my ex especial to my new partner?\n\nOhh also, she has said that she left her old city to get away from her ex so yeah not sure...", "summary": "girl I'm dating possible not over ex, or am I over reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_1c0y5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I may have a sleeping disorder, reddit please help me find an answer.", "post": "Whenever I do activities that don't involve much focus, I get extremely tired and have an almost uncontrollable urge to close my eyes and fall asleep. This happens when in church, in class and even when driving (only in low activity areas like driving between towns). \n\nI love going to church and listening to sermons but am unable to stay awake. I love to drive but again fall asleep. My classes are understandable because most of them are boring but I still have an almost uncontrollable urge to fall asleep. I am only tired when I do these things and as soon as I stop and do something that involves more focus or brain activity I am wide awake and couldn't fall asleep if I wanted too.\n\n I am a 21 year old white male, who sleeps for 8 hours every night. I have a sleep number bed that is only a couple months old. This has been happening since I was around 17. Is their anything that I can do? An actual diagnosis for this?", "summary": "Uncontrollable urge to fall asleep when doing activities that don't involve much brain work or focus. What can I do to fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3toaal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[17/F] boyfriend [16 M] broke up with me but we're still kind of \"together\"", "post": "So my ex and I were in a long-short-distance relationship which was causing a lot of pressure on our relationship. We got very serious way too quick and that led to some arguments about trust (whether I can trust his promises about the future). This is his first relationship, which I think makes the whole thing even more stressful for him. He said that when he's with me, we feel like forever and that's why our relationship seems stressful because he's never been with anyone else before. Also, our relationship has the whole world against it--we go to different schools, and I'm at boarding school, so that exacerbates the problem. I see him once a week.\n\nSo we came up with some sort of post-break-up blob arrangement--not defined at all, right? We kiss and cuddle and have sex, he still calls me baby and tells me he still loves me, and the arrangement is all in all very confusing. Moreover, I can't reconcile the idea of him kissing another girl and then kissing me. I understand his point, I support him in his exploration (kind of) but I feel like if he wants to know what life is like without me, we shouldn't be acting like we're still in a relationship. He can't have his cake and eat it too, right? \n\nI really love him. We love each other, no doubt. I know that we're young but we've both sacrificed so much for this relationship--I applied to my second choice college instead of my first choice Early Decision (which is binding) just for him. And yes, I did settle a little bit, but the school I applied to is still incredibly rigorous and a great school in general; he's planning on going to a nearby university. Being without him will be so, so hard and I want nothing more than to be with him but I feel like I'm not actually with him in this arrangement we've come up with.\n\nI guess my final question is: which approach should I take to get him back as soon as possible? Should I go along with our weird blob of a relationship (despite my doubts), or should I cut him off (at least romantically) so he can realise what he's missing?", "summary": "serious boyfriend broke up with me to explore his options, we still act like we're together, don't know whether I should stop seeing him."}
{"id": "t3_3yaag0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19M] support my [18F] friend while she's in hospital?", "post": "One of my closest friends told me a couple of months ago that she's got an eating disorder and was living at home to try to get better. She hasn't improved for a while so is going to start being an inpatient at a hospital next month.\n\nI'm at university and we talk a lot, we started sending each other letters recently which has been really nice. She's not sure whether she'll have her mobile, so I was going to call her too as she'll have a phone in her room.\n\nIs there anything more I can do? I'll visit her when I can (if I'm allowed) and just basically make sure I'm there for her whatever.\n\nThis post is more to make sure I'm doing the right thing than anything else, I'm the sort of person who has to triple check everything to make sure I'm doing it right (my anxiety doesn't help either).\n\nHopefully that makes sense, it's my first post here so yeah.", "summary": "My friend is going to hospital soon for her eating disorder, how can I support her?"}
{"id": "t3_3dh2jw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "He (22/M) never makes the first move but is always responsive when I (24/F) do. Wasting my time?", "post": "Is this ... Normal? I'm (24/F) always the one making the first move. Ive asked him (22M) out twice. The first was with a group of friends and we had a great time and he couldn't make the second. I've told him I liked him and he didn't bring it up or anything. I also offered an open invitation of \"let me know if YOU want to hang out.\" \nBut he never initiates a conversation or asks me out but he's always responsive when I do. So ... Am I wasting my time? If I don't put in the effort does that mean he won't at all? I know it's immature to give someone the silent treatment but Im not sure what to do. We get along so well it's like we've been friends for a long time. So I'm not sure what the thought process is on his end. I'm pretty new to NOT being passive when it comes to dating so .... I'm not sure if I'm too forward or ... What.", "summary": "He never makes the first move to initiate conversation or hang outs. But when I do he's 100% responsive. What's going on? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_19ofit", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Seeking help with an on/off flirtatious relationship.", "post": "Hey fellow Redditors! First time post with this kind of thing, but I felt like getting more unbiased advice would help with this. \n\nThis Girl [18] and myself [18] have been close since 7th grade. Back then nothing serious, considering we were just in middle school. But between then and now, both seniors graduating this spring, we've had our flirtatious moments etc. \n\nShe had moved about 4 hours away at the start of freshman year in high school. She had a boyfriend for a few months, during sophomore-junior year. It ended badly, he broke up with her the day before prom when she had her dress and everything planned out. \n\nSo with that, These past few months she's shown a little bit of interest in me. But I've been hesitant and I don't know why. I like her and all. As a friend, and I'd like to think a little bit more than that. \n\nBut whenever she comes down to visit friends/family and wants to hangout,of course I did, but I felt like a third wheel. She would always bring along a friend, and they would always kind of exclude me. So with that brings that hesitant part of me with her I suppose. \n\nI really enjoy spending time with her when she doesn't act as if I'm not there. But the past few times shes come down to visit friends and family I've made excuses, or ignored her when she would ask to hangout, or go somewhere. \n\nI feel like I blew it, I acted like a dick, but at times I feel it was just with me not enjoying being with her if she treats me the way she does. I don't know where to go with this anymore. Part of me really wants to go for it, but then when I'm thinking of that I can help but remember the times we have hung out, and was treated like a third wheel.\n\nJust another tidbit she is moving back this summer after graduation.", "summary": "Girl treats me like a third wheel when we hangout. I've ignored/made excuses past few times she wants to go somewhere/hangout. Part of me wants to give it another go, but I feel like a dick that I've ignored her, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2f505b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) SO (27M) of drinks too much to drive. I'm having a hard time dealing with it.", "post": "My boyfriend (27) drinks.\n\nWe met when drinking. We dated while drinking. So much of our social lives involved drinking. I was often our DD, and the times he was, I sometimes felt uncomfortable with his abilities. It was all brushed off our shoulders until about a year and a half into our relationship, we were hit by a drunk driver (I was driving).\n\nThat night, I suffered life long injuries to my leg. He has a scar on his face and arm that will last a lifetime. He has helped me with the months long battle to get back to a somewhat normal lifestyle, and has been incredibly supportive and sweet. As a result of the accident, I won't drive after a drink of alcohol. This often leads to us being dependent on him to get us home. I try to suggest cabs or public transportation, but in cases where our friends live far away, we don't have another choice.\n\nHowever, we have a huge problem that persists. He won't give up drinking and driving. He'll always say he's fine and just want \"one more,\" and then slur and hiccup on our horrifying ride home. I fight, I give ultimatums, I get mean (I never want to, but I feel like there's no other way to make my point any clearer). He always says he's fine. I have some serious anxiety from our accident and just wish he'd follow speed limits / recommendations, and be more cautious. He always argues he's being reasonable and that I'm overacting. Sometimes he'll listen and make an effort the next week to improve. But it always comes back.\n\nI feel like this is really driving us apart, (no pun intended) and I don't know what to do. I've confronted him in front of friends, family, no one ever really stands up to him. I hate that I might be embarrassing him, or making a scene. I love him so much, I just feel so scared this is going to kill us (or someone else) one day. I want to work through it, but I don't know how. He just moved in this July, and despite this problem I think we could have a future together. Please help.", "summary": "Even after serious accident with drunk driver, boyfriend still drives after drinking. Can he change?"}
{"id": "t3_fm3q3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Looking to hear stories of couples who met in HighSchool and are still together!", "post": "Hey everyone, I'm in a relationship with a girl who I met in Highschool my senior year and we've been together for six months now. She's currently a senior (was a junior when we met) and I'm going to a community college that isn't too far away from where we live. She has already been accepted to a college that's about 2 hours away from where we live so in August she leaves for 4 years.\n\n( I should also add that she plans on visiting ever so often because the distance isn't too long.)\n\nI've always planned on staying in this area because everything I need school wise is right here, however she's going to a private college hence why it's so far away. Her and I have an excellent relationship and we both plan on staying together even after she leaves.\n\nI want to know everyone else's story as far as how you guys have dealt with distance relationships due to work or college, if you guys met in high school, or how did you meet? Are you guys still together and has the distanced made you stronger or weaker?\n\nI ask this basically because I want to know how other people deal with it, I know every relationship is different but I want some real examples from someone's first hand experiences.", "summary": "OP has high school sweetheart type relationship, his GF is going to college in August, needs a bit of advice on how to maintain / is looking for first hand examples from reddit!"}
{"id": "t3_54ehjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] Mom [57F] pretended to be my boyfriend's [19M] imaginary ex-girlfriend [22F]", "post": "So yesterday, while at work, I received a very weird message on my phone from a girl who pretended to be my boyfriend's ex girlfriend.\n\nShe trash talked my boyfriend, telling me she lost all her money, friends and family, because of him. That he only used her for her money. That his family is very fake (she met him supposedly) and in the end, they're going to marry him off with somebody from his own ancestry. That he dumps her, because she was older than him anyway. (Like I am) That he's very greedy (about money) and so on. That I have to watch out for him, because he has two complete different faces.\n\nWell, my boyfriend has never had a girlfriend before and I'm the first one to meet his parents and his friends, which has been confirmed. Next to that, he's the complete opposite of being greedy, so everything she said about him was a lie, expect for certain details about us (where his parents live, where we went on our summer trip) His parents are extremely upset by this person. (my mom, but they don't know that yet)\n\nI found out that she talks in the same way as my Mom does and she almost has the same phone number as her at the same provider. When I told her, his supposed ex-girlfriend, that, she immediately deleted her account.\n\nNow, my boyfriend never wants to meet my Mom and I don't know how I should approach this.", "summary": "My Mom pretended to be a supposed ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend to break us apart, and now my boyfriend never wants to meet her."}
{"id": "t3_2044xk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF is having a breakdown, what can I do to save her?", "post": "I(26/M) met my gf(24/F) in high school 10 years ago and we fell in love  a year after. We then spent 2  years together without telling our parents because they think its too early. After high school, she got accepted by a decent university, and decided to study abroad thinking we can overcome the distance and still be together. It went well untill the fourth year,  I had a hard time in university and became so depressed that I stop replying her because I felt too embarrassed to tell her I won't delivery my promise in time. I came back this February, asked her out without any expectation, just wanted to get feelings off my chest.\nI felt nothing but comfort the moment I saw her, she smile s to me the old way,  the chemistry is still there but stronger. We talked about our lifes past and future no tears only comfort. We still love each other which made me felt its not too late to make up. We walked to her house, she finally cried and telling me her loneliness after I hugged her as I used to do before leaving. We reunited and planned to build a family. Working together for a couple of weeks, she told me her family had arranged a marriage for her last year with her boss's nephew who  she don't like  and she didn't promise anything because the guy won't be back before summer from another city. I told her its a dangerous game, someone will end up losing, so  make it quick. She called the guy and let him know its not gonna happen. She then told me, he will understand. Yesterday, the guy called her parents to complaint and saying she is bad which her parents agreed. She had fight with her family and they refuse to cancel the marriage because it will jeopardize her career. And I believe the parents made a deal without her.\nShe told me this morning, she is about to breakdown,  can't fight the pressure from work and family any more.\n\nP.s.\nI am starting my career and I am capable of providing a quality life to my family.\n\nParents value their daughter's name and job over anything else.\n\nI don't want to see her in pain, that's all.", "summary": "parents want my longtime gf marry a job."}
{"id": "t3_11dw1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some help", "post": "So I (14f) recently broke up with my boyfriend (15m) of two months, and I'm kinda scared. After I broke up with him, he just walked away and I thought that he just didn't care. But now he's texting me that he wants to die, and that there's a gun in the next room that he could easily use. He told me that I broke him and if I stop talking to him, he'll blow his brains out. I've tried calming him down but nothing has worked. I don't know what to do and I am currently crying my eyes out, so please help me.", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend and now he's suicidal, please help."}
{"id": "t3_jdvgf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, how did you get that scar under your chin?  I'll start", "post": "I was ten years old and had just learned how to do a backflip from the diving board. Have you ever seen those movies where some lunatic smashes his head in the diving board? Well, yeah, that happened to me. I miscalculated the distance backwards, so after a full rotation the chin made contact with the diving board, I bit myself through the lip, and then I miraculously managed to open up my mouth and bite the diving board itself (I seriously had turquoise diving board material on my two front teeth for weeks). \n\nThis resulted in seven stings in the chin, four stings in the lip, a broken jaw, and two root canals. \n\nSo what is your story?", "summary": "I tasted the diving board."}
{"id": "t3_3l0dyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I/do I at all [20 F] tell my boyfriend [23 M] that I'm bisexual?", "post": "I've had two serious relationships prior to this one, both with women. They had no problem with me being bisexual and it was something known before the relationship -- my first girlfriend was also bisexual.\n\nI am now in a relationship with a guy. We've been exclusive for about a month. Having never faced this issue, I come to you, Reddit.\n\nIs this something that he needs to know? Is it really relevant to a hetero relationship, regardless of if one of the participants in the relationship is bisexual?\n\nIf you guys think it is necessary, when do you think is the right time? I think my biggest fear is losing him because of it. I know that I should be with someone who is fine with who I am, but I really like the guy and I'd hate for my sexual orientation to be the thing that kills this.", "summary": "in my first hetero relationship. Don't know if I should tell the guy I'm bi, or if I should, when I should."}
{"id": "t3_3lq2ae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am ready to leave my BF[23m] of three years. I'm only staying because of his cat.", "post": "I know that title sounds silly, but let me elaborate. About a year and a half into our relationship me and my bf got a pair of rescue kittens. Let's call the kitty 1 and kitty 2. Kitty 1 is mine and kitty 2 is his. After three years and numerous problems I'm done.\n\nI'm ready to move into my parents home at least temporarily until I can find a place. The issue is that the kitties are sisters. They sleep with each other, cry when apart and are generally glued at the hip. My bf doesn't want his cat and I am more than happy to take both. My parents on the other hand won't let me take both even temporarily. Only mine. It really sucks, the idea of splitting them up and would hate to do so but adopting them as a pair is also unlikely as they are know full grown cats and mine has semi costly medical issues. \n\nAny ideas reddit?\n\nAlso I'm on mobile so be gentle :/", "summary": "I'm in a hairy situation and its so not purrfect (I'm trying too hard)"}
{"id": "t3_2yr9z0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my Husband [27 M] 6 Years, No Romance", "post": "There is an extreme lack of romance in my marriage on my husbands behalf. I have tried for the last 2 years and begged him to no avail. He insists that I watch too many movies and I believe in fairytale BS. He is a great man and he claims that our relationship has no issues. I feel a huge disconnect with him. I feel at this point that I got everything I could ever want in a marriage but the thing I needed the most is not there. I do admit I am a huge romantic but there should be something in my marriage besides a peck on the lips in the mornings. We are best friends in ever other way but I am breaking down over this. I realize he is a simple man but I need romance. I need to be kissed, I need to be told I'm beautiful, I need him to miss me or to want to dance with me. Am I overacting? I feel like this is all ending. Yes in the beginning he way very romantic, we married fast, young and had everything but this is no longer the case. What can i do to stop wanting this? Should I move on? I cant no matter how hard I try let go.. it's making me bitter and there's no hope for him to change. I have talked till I'm blue in the face with him about this. I have made every move to the point that he pushes me away now. I'm heartbroken. Please offer some advice.", "summary": "Marriage has no romance. I'm dying inside."}
{"id": "t3_22dncx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am confused about my relationship after talking about it to my boyfriends best friend [23F, 27M]", "post": "Yesterday I went to a party at my boyfriend's apartment. My boyfriend was away, but his roommate \"Alex\" was hosting and a bunch of our friends were there.\n\nWe all got really drunk and I ended up having a heart-to-heart with Alex, who went on about how crazy my boyfriend was about me, how awesome we were together, how he's so happy that his friend found somebody like me. Really nice stuff, and my boyfriend is great to me so I believe it. I gushed about how happy I was as well, and Alex was like \"Good! You deserve him and he deserves you. He's crazy about you, you're the first girl he's dated seriously in long time, he's got walls up, fiancee cheated on him years ago but he's so good to you, talks about you all the time, blah blah.\"\n\nThen he said \" Even if he doesn't say it, he loves you. He told me.\"\n\nMy boyfriend adheres to this weird relationship \"timeline\". When we had a friend start dating a new guy and she said \"I think I love him\" after a couple months, he said \"Oh no, it's way too soon! You can't know unless you've been dating much longer...like a year\". So basically he doesn't even consider saying until then, we've been dating for 7 months so I obviously haven't heard it. \n\nSo I said \"Hold up, he said that to you\" and Alex said \"Yep...he said he loves ya. But he doesn't know what to do about it\".\n\nThis guy was *loaded* so I'm not sure how much stock I should be putting into his words. I also don't understand the \"not knowing what to do about it\" bit. Does he not know whether he should tell me? Whether he should break up with me? Our relationship is awesome and it doesn't seem like he wants it to end.\n\nBasically, should I believe what his friend told me? If he's telling the truth, I am a bit mad that he has these feelings and hasn't shared them. But he was very drunk and I don't know if he was just blurting out stuff.", "summary": "Confused after talking to my boyfriends best friend about my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2xf8qn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to pee too hard", "post": "Ok so a little background. Today I had a cardiac catheter oblation for Wolff Parkinson White syndrom if you dont know what it is, look it up. I don't feel like explaining it.\n\n so after the surgery I had to stay in bed without movement for 3 hours for the wound to heal over. So to pee I had to use a little box called a urinal. (Not an actual urinal. A boxed named one) I had to pee so everyone left the room so I could do my business with the urinal. I was trying to pee but couldn't because of the anesthetics when by my wound I feel a pop and then a rush of fluid like blood through my leg and this intense pain. I called for help and the nurse came in and treated it. Well for the wound to heal over the blood needed to clot. So as I was trying to pee I was having trouble getting it out so I started pushing harder and then I felt that sensation. What happened was the clot popped. I was trying to pee so hard that I caused my blood clot to pop -_", "summary": "was trying to pee so hard I caused a blood clot to pop"}
{"id": "t3_1cqedn", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Having a hard night...(m23) I just saw my ex's (F25) photo through a mutual friend, she's with another guy.", "post": "I was doing, really, really well until I stumbled across a photo of my ex through a mutual friend. It was a picture of her with another guy, less than a month ago that was a picture of us. \n\nIt feels like shit, my entire world literally shattered again all over from seeing that, all the memories of the breakup came back to my head and all I did was break down. For all the advice that I dole out on this forum its still hard to see this, and hard to keep it together.\n\nIts only been a month and a bit, and the pain feels as fresh as it was then...Her last words to me were \"I need real love\" and when I asked if there was someone else she just said \"Goodbye\"\n\nThe pain of not knowing if there was another person kills me every day, the pain of knowing that five years of a relationship suddenly ends because she needs \"Real love\" kills me.", "summary": "Saw a photo of my recent ex with a guy, felt like it completely ruined any progress I made. Feeling worthless as a man and as a fianc\u00e9 for not being able to provide her with \"Real love\" whatever that means."}
{"id": "t3_4kx3ni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (20F) in a verbally abusive relationship with my boyfriend (30M)", "post": "Okay I'll try to keep this short. Basically for the past two years I've been in what I think is a verbally abusive relationship with my SO.\n\nWe started fighting from the beginning, silly stuff. But it's progressed into him just tearing me apart everyday. \n\nHe calls me every name in the book (bitch, slut, cunt, etc). He comments negativitely on my looks if I'm breaking out or having a bad hair day, he calls me fat and a pig when I eat after he's suggested I could drop a few. \n\nObviously him being 30, he has an established career and I don't. He calls me lazy and unmotivated and a failure even though I work and go to school.  \n\nI know I should leave him but I'm afraid. Part of me feels like this is what I deserve and I am what he says. It's disgusting but I want so badly to please him and be good enough for him. \n\nIf I end up leaving, we live together currently. What do I do? How do I do it? How do I convince myself I'm good enough?", "summary": "Considering leaving a verbally abusive relationship, but how?"}
{"id": "t3_54nbvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [27 M] he cheated and I now feel strange having sex with him, he blames me for lack of intimacy.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. About 3 weeks ago we had a massive fight because I found out he was having very sexual conversations with people he was meeting online. I should add that we were having sex daily, and more often than not, several times a day. I was and still am insanely hurt and it has left me insecure about whether or not I'm enough for him. He never met them physically, but I still strongly believe that I can consider it cheating. Anyway, the past few weeks have been a little rocky. I decided to give it a second chance because I want to believe that we can get through it. We get along still like we always have until he tries to have sex with me.\n\nWhen we start getting intimate my chest gets tight, like I'm having a panic attack. He started out saying he knew he fucked up big time and that he would wait until I trusted him like that again. Fast forward to late last week, we were play wrestling and I grazed his crotch (on accident), prompting him to say, very angrily, \"Hey, don't touch him. You won't help me get off, I have to do that by myself so don't tease me. It's not like you've been helping.\"\n\nAm I wrong to feel hurt by this? He acted understanding and now he's being passive aggressive about me not getting him off. I feel fine until he tries to have sex with me, and I don't know how long it'll take to change that. I do love him but I don't know if we can get through this now. His behavior lately is making it harder for me to heal from the situation that caused all of this. I have talked to my therapist about it and she said to give it time if I really want to try with him again but he has seemingly lost his patience.", "summary": "My boyfriend cheated and is now being passive aggressive about me not being intimate with him lately."}
{"id": "t3_kfrj5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone know someone getting rid of a RV?", "post": "So my husband and myself will be doing a year long fundraiser, to help other diabetics Live the Cure, through an active and natural lifestyle. \n\nWe will be climbing everyday for 365 Days across the US to do this. \n\nNow being experienced climbing dirtbags, this is not our first time at the rodeo and we are fully and completely prepared to do this on a shoe string budget and live out of our 84 Toyota Tercel in necessary. \n\nHowever a trip of this size and length clearly would be much more comfy with a little leg room and a traveling homebase to keep other interested via blogs and what not. \n\nSo that being said, if you know anyone that would be willing to donate/loan their (working) RV or Travel Trailer to us for this cause send them my way. \n\nand just so you know I'm not full of shit. \n\n[LIVINGVERTICAL] \n\nIf we weren't trying to make an impact on difference in the feeling of dread that accompanies a Type 1 Diagnosis and just wanted to climb everyday for a year for funsies, I wouldn't be trying.", "summary": "? Type 1 Diabetic. Climbing everyday for 1 year to raise money to educate other Type 1 Diabetics that life doesn't have to suck just because your pancreas does. [LivingVertical]("}
{"id": "t3_4xbv9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20 F Dumped, stuck and can't move forward", "post": "I got dumped for being insecure, now I can't move on from it.\n\nI feel awful because I think If I had not been insecure everything would have been fine, and I think I might have hurt him too, but I didn't mean to, I basically feel like I ruined everything.\n[This post] makes me hate myself more than anything, because this is what I did. I'm assuming this is how I made him feel and I don't think I can ever get over that. I loved him so much.\n\nIf I had just not been insecure he would have stayed. I think I'm a bad person, and feel like I deserve this heartbreak.\n\nNow I can't get into another relationship because of multiple reasons. I still love my ex and I still blame myself. I'm still kinda insecure too.\n\nI'm really lonely, but I can't let go of my ex, I can't let go of what we would have had, had I just been normal. I can't seem to forgive myself for my mistakes and my insecurity, I feel like a freak. I feel worthless, ashamed, stupid, I hate myself for messing up the relationship with someone I loved more than anyone. Now I'm afraid of messing up any relationship I try to get into, I'm afraid I won't love them as much as I do my ex, I'm afraid I'm just the crazy psycho ex girlfriend guys always make fun of. The ex a guy looks back on and thinks \"Wow, glad I got rid of that!\" and then makes jokes about me to his friends.\n\nNow boys scare me.\n\nI'm sad because it feels like no matter what I do I'll just be that one psycho ex. I don't know if I can ever get over my ex, if I can ever stop wishing for what could of been, or if I can ever stop blaming myself. I'm also sad because I'm pretty sure I'm going to be alone, I don't think anyone will love me again or if I can love someone else. I feel like a worthless loser.", "summary": "Got dumped for being insecure, can't forgive myself for it and can't move on to other relationships."}
{"id": "t3_30bl9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sex and attachment?", "post": "So I (17F) just ended a relationship a little less than a month ago. Although the relationship was short lived, I liked this guy (20M) a lot. Even though he certainly wasn't my Prince Charming, things were smooth sailing until I had to deal with some personal issues which was where things started tanking. I would like to say I was depressed because of said issues, but I'm not entirely certain.\n\nAnywho, our main connection was sex because there was seemingly no other form of communication for us. He was also the first guy ive had sex with more than once, and felt comfortable enough with to do it consistently.\n\nThat's all it was every time we saw each other; hardly even conversation. I really had no problem with it and obviously neither did he, but now that the relationship has officially ended I can't help but feel like I need him. Just that physical connection with him. Like I don't feel interested in any other kind of relationship with anyone. I shrug at the idea of even casual sex with someone else. I just feel uncomfortable with others and he somehow winds up on top of all my thoughts.", "summary": "I don't even like this guy anymore, I really want nothing to do with him, and I really want to move past this, but I always have this underlying feeling that he's the only guy I can sleep with and feel sexually comfortable and satisfied with regardless of current relationship status."}
{"id": "t3_wl5m5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Just Found GF is Cheating on me", "post": "Has the tittle says 1+ Year relationship Me (22) her (19) Even thought it was kinda an on and off  . she was really one of the few persons that changed me and had me really happy. She is a natural flirt( I guess) the kind that would stare at lot of guys and be really social. She had confessed before she had done slutty things on her teenage life including selling weed in high school. Also even thought underage she always loves to drink. Several of those slutty times of her teenage life happened when she was drunk. When i met her i kinda knew what i was kinda getting into. and we tried to worked it out . i tried something i shouldn't have never tried to do, and that was trying to changed her. She did really made a lot of mistakes in our relationship like flirting and staring. but i always gave her several chances and at the ended we worked it out (or that's what i tried to believe i was doing). So now a couple weeks ago she  left with her family to mexico. and we both know our Facebook password. And just today I decided to check it and just found out she actually already cheated on me. and even planning more of it with different guys. I really haven't even processed all of this right now. Its really too much to fucking bared . She was the only thing in my life that made my days and nights. and all of that is gone. I was already going trough the worst time of my life. and now this is gonna bring me lower i don't even know how all of this is gonna work out. Am really an introvert independent unemployed person with no close family, parents and only Friend out of the country.she was my everything. and I just feel this anger of being cheated again. I feel of going on her Facebook and calling herself a slut. even tough i might regret doing it and its sound really childlike . Please Reddit if you can convinced me not to do it. it would help me alto .", "summary": "I found trougth facebook gf is cheating on me and Am really thinking on taking revenge on her Facebook. Please convinced me not to.  "}
{"id": "t3_vopms", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am an adult male and I pooped in my pants yesterday while trying to make it home after some bad fast food. What's the most degrading moment of your adult life?", "post": "I was driving home from a business trip and stopped at a rest area to grab a quick bite. About an hour after the meal (and about 40 minutes from home) the rumbling starts. I know this feeling and I start thinking about my options. No more rest stops between here and home.\n\nI chance it. \"I can make it home,\" I think, and I increase my speed a little. The rumbling picks up and the pressure starts. \"Ok, you can do this,\" I tell myself as I loosen my belt and undo the top button on my pants.\n\nAs I exit the highway the shakes begin and I have to physically tighten my body to keep from erupting in the car. \"Not in the car,\" I command my body knowing I'll never the stains or the stench out of the fabric.\n\nThe shaking worsens as I finally get to my street and am forced to park my car several doors down from my building. I leave my clothes and bags in the car, and start to duck step as quickly and carefully as I can. The walking is only making things worse and I know that I am only seconds away from disaster. But I'm almost home and I have the realization that I'm going to make it. I'm going to win!\n\nAs I fumble to get the key in the outside door I feel it. The flood gates open as one massive release flashes me back to my childhood inability to control my bowels. The dissipating pressure in my stomach is little relief for the realization that I am an adult and I just shit my pants.\n\nHumiliated, I stumble to my apartment, strip my clothes as carefully as possible and throw them into the garbage can. I step immediately into the shower to wash away my shame and avoid looking at myself in the mirror.", "summary": "Not eating fast food for a while."}
{"id": "t3_1uo4pa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do all night? ;)", "post": "So I have a friend whom I only see once a year that is coming down to visit and she is going to spend the night at my place and we're going to pull an all nighter.  BEST THING: we're going to get drunk and have sex, we both already know it and we've even talked about it, it's a for sure thing.  Does anyone have any fun ideas what stuff we can do? (whether or not sex is involved) we are already planning to hot box my car and watch a movie or two. what are some other fun things to do? I want to do as much as possible since I wont see her till next year and this is the first time were doing this. Throw some ideas.\n \nSome things to consider are that I am living with other people so we will be confined to just my bedroom or out in my roomy car.", "summary": "Fuck budy from out of state spending 1 night at my house. what fun activities can we do? with or without sex"}
{"id": "t3_3eafe9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by commenting on water", "post": "Like many posts, this happened a while ago. A year ago in fact.\n\nSo I work at a cruise company on the Seattle waterfront. We do daily sightseeing cruises. One of the jobs that we in the guest services have to do is called \"barking\". This means talking on a microphone to a few blocks of the waterfront.\n\nSo me and my friend (we will call him \"Jack\") were having some fun with barking. We were tag teaming and energetically barking, as we were both 17 and it was our first summer on the job, so we had youthful and innocent energy for it. \n\nSo Jack is doing a little bit about the full service bar onboard. \"nine local microbrews, local wines, cocktails, martinis, and even that so good old pure h2o!\"\n\nJack holds the mic to my mouth.\n\nOff the cuff, I begin to say something witty and great...\n\n\"that's not even available in some countries!\"\n\nThe whole entirety of guest services stopped what they were doing and stared at me, mouths wide open.  Jack looks at me in bewilderment and confusion, attempting to mouth words but alas, he cannot.  But my coworkers were not the only ones to drop their jaws and stare at me.  In fact, so did the 300 or so people within earshot of the speakers.  \n\nNow this is a tourist centric area. These 300 people? The vast majority were from other continents.  \n\nSo the whole waterfront was quiet for a moment before things grinded back in to motion, as jack stuttered, \"and... A... Em... Ladies and gentlemen you can pick up your tickets at out ticket booth right here...\"", "summary": "spoke without thinking to about 300 people from all over the world."}
{"id": "t3_ic0uo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your traumatizing childhood stories / experiences?", "post": "When I was 10, I got a spider bite on my stomach. It was during the night but I was almost positive at the time that it was a spider bite because when I awoke there was one hovering over my sheets.\n\nAt the time, this didn't bother me one bit. I didn't mind spiders back then.\nFast forward two weeks. The bite is now swollen and red. It itches like a mother. Fucker. Oh my god. It was awful. I didn't want to pop it because I thought it would be to painful.\n\nOne night I was lying in bed. *I shared a room with my brother and had the top bunk. I was roughly 3 feet away from the ceiling*\n\nSo I'm lying in bed when out of nowhere the thing just pops. Inexplicably pops. I thought\".. ohey.. That's good.. I guess..\"\n\nMOTHER FUCKING WRONG. That fucking spider who bit me LAID. EGGS. IN. MY. STOMACH. So a couple dozen spider babies are sprawling around my stomach and I'm under the sheets having the WORST thing imaginable happening in real life. I fling myself forward and of course hit the ceiling. So now I have spider babies everywhere and the worst fucking headache. I didn't sleep that night after burning those sheets with my father.", "summary": "I gave birth to spiders against my will, not knowing I was pregnant."}
{"id": "t3_2serap", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having access to an open bar", "post": "So this past Saturday a good friend of mine got married. At the reception he had an open bar, like all good wedding receptions do. Having left my keys and car at a friends place I figured I would go a little harder than usual knowing I wouldn't have to drive.\n\nThe reception started around 5 and ended about 10, so during that time I had become pretty drunk. Because the reception ended so early, a few of us decided to head out and hit up some of the bars downtown. \n\nThis is where the fuck up begins, and most of this I've had to piece together through third party accounts and texts/calls from the night. Heading down there I began to text this girl I had just started seeing and really liked, trying to get her to come meet us. Her and her friends decide to come out, and get there maybe an hour, hour and a half after we did. In that time I had continued to drink and past the black-out point of alcohol consumption. So we meet up, continue drinking, and around 2:00am the bars close and I hitch a ride back to the girls place. All I remember from being at the girls place is being trashed on their couch and at one point just deciding I was gonna leave. I walked out the door thinking I would walk home, about 20 miles away. Luckily I had some sense, and somehow ordered an Uber ride and got home around 4-4:30am.\n\nRoommates weren't home, and my keys were still at my friends place. Amazingly, all luck goes against me and my phone dies shortly after getting there. So I decide to just pass out in front of my apartment and hope my roommates get home early. They don't, and I end up walking to a 7-eleven to get a taxi to go get my keys and car. Finally get into my apartment around noon, charge my phone, and immediately text the girl apologizing for anything stupid I might have done and that I didn't really remember anything. All I get back is \"It's fine\" and haven't heard anything from her since. So now I'm going crazy thinking I ruined a relationship before it even had a chance to start.", "summary": "Got black out drunk, locked out of my apartment all night, and possibly ruined a new relationship. But I didn't drive drunk, so I got that goin for me."}
{"id": "t3_e8waz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I've been wanting to lose weight for a while, but am not really sure where to start", "post": "I'm 21 years old, currently 6 ft 3 in. and weigh 250 lbs. I've been taking a martial art (Wing Chun) for about a year, but haven't been able to go for the past month due to an unrelated wrist injury.\n\nWhen I was able to go, my weight averaged about 235, and I just checked now having forgot for the month to see 250 staring back at me.\n\nI have access to a [weight lifting machine] and a treadmill (albeit barely functional) but can never figure the ins and outs of reps or sets and all that. On top of that, I've been a pretty severe asthmatic all my life so running has been my natural enemy. It's only recently I've been able to run without wheezing due to my medication, but obviously, I'm terrible at it.\n\nI'm not sure if I should be exercising (probably should) or dieting (that too) or what. So, reddit, can you help me figure something out?", "summary": "fat is a loafing roommate that won't move out need help"}
{"id": "t3_r2e5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "May be turning my life upside down based on little more than instinct.  I am in need of some help, folks.", "post": "All right, background.  I live with my girlfriend.  I love her.  I have been with her for 2.5 years.  We have been living very different lives and distance has been creeping in.\nI have recently been writing and hanging out with another woman.  She is perhaps a bit more like me, in that she writes as well.  We could have some good product being produced.  Not sure. \nRecently, lady 2 and I have professed some very confusing feelings for each other, namely that we are basically in love with each other. I have known her for a month and have been fighting these confusing feelings since day one.  This has got me so upside down that I'm considering psychics, clairvoyants, not to mention some heavy counseling and stuff.\nNow, the only thing that is pushing me to this other girl is something that I could loosely approximate as destiny/fate and following it is something close to my gut/instinct/heart.  It goes without saying that this is completely against logic/sound thought and all that.  \nChoosing her would be basically turning my life completely upside down, living on my own for a while. \nI could really use some advice Reddit, and fast. Is it worth following something like the fates and just doing something pretty much stupid? Anything could help, kind words, people that could talk, anything.  Thanks a lot.", "summary": "In love more or less with two women, my girlfriend and basically a stranger."}
{"id": "t3_exblf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your mental image of the typical 4chan user?", "post": "Kind of dumb question, I know, but on three separate occasions in the last 2 weeks or so, I've been asked some variant of \"do you spend a lot of time on 4chan?\" When I've asked what possibly make someone think that, they've all responded \"I dunno, it's not how you act...you just look like the kind of guy who would\"\n\nMaybe my image of the average 4chan user is off...but I'm 27, not white (kind of brownish really), typically dressed business casual (lots of suit pants and sweaters/button ups). I'm in shape, bearded, but neatly trimmed. Hell, the only odd thing appearance wise I can think of about myself is I have streched ears, but relatively small, and always with solid stone earrings. \n\nSo yeah,", "summary": "What do you picture the average 4chan user looking like."}
{"id": "t3_1b5vad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [m29] approach my relationship with my father [60] if he is unwilling to do anything for himself?", "post": "My father is a depressive pessimistic alcoholic hermit.  He is currently unemployed. He has been fired from several jobs for various irresponsible reasons, which he will argue are/were out of his control.  He pulls the pity card any time I try to rationalize his situation with him and look for a way out.  I have to admit, I have been enabling him. I have allowed him to remain on my cell phone provider's family plan (for free) as well as utilize one of my checking accounts to pay some of his bills with the small amount of money he has to his name.\n\nTonight I found out that he has overdrawn on the checking account, so I am going to close that tomorrow. I have also since switched cell phone carriers to be on my wife's family plan (to save money), so the cell service is going to be cancelled tomorrow as well, seeing as it is only burning a hole in my fiscal pocket.\n\nI can talk with him until I'm blue in the face. I can take responsible action concerning my end of things. But there seems to be nothing to motivate him. He has had ample time to go out and get a job. He was a big rig driver (all of those jobs he squandered), now he could at least go out and get a menial job just for the income, but he doesn't. He's exhausted his retirement, fails to drawn on his pension (because he believes that he can't 'yet', so he doesn't try...either way I think it is small and he only gets half because of a divorce settlement), and he's in the process of losing his house and everything he owns.\n\nAfter I close the accounts tomorrow, what do I do?!", "summary": "Dad (60) is unmotivated to help himself and is withering away to homelessness and depression, son (29) is seemingly helpless to improve the situation."}
{"id": "t3_2fflnv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [M/30] is avoidant when it comes to communicating. I'm [24/F]..", "post": "Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I \"just want to argue\" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as \"irrational arguing\" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them.\n\nA little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P", "summary": "My fiance shuts out when I try and talk to him about anything serious."}
{"id": "t3_2je41o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[23f] with a mom[45f] that is sick of being single. I feel bad for her.", "post": "My mom married my dad in 1990, I was born in 1991. They divorced when I turned 3. About 4 years later she met a man and they dated for awhile. I don't remember when they broke up, but I do know it was before I was in the third grade,  After that she met someone and I think they were getting serious. I was too young to remember but I do remember being over his house a lot, but something happened that is unknown to me so we stopped going. Sometime later, she was seeing this guy, but then we found out he was a player so they stopped talking, then the year 2000 came around she finally met someone she thought she could spend the rest of her life with. \n\nAlmost  a year ago (it will be a year November 4th), She finally kicked her boyfriend of 13 years out, who is also the father of my 7 year old half brother. The relationship had been fallen apart months before that. They had slept apart for months, and literally almost never spoke. \n\nIt was the most miserable relationship ever, and in my opinion, he should have been gone YEARS ago. They broke up and he moved out  a couple of times, but ended up getting back together.  He wasn't hitting her or nothing, but just bad in other ways. He was great the  first few years, but years went along, he just got  worse and worse. \n\nAwhile after they  FINALLY broke up, she started talking to this one guy and went out on a few dates, but had personality issues where he was angered easily, and stuff. She decided she couldn't do it so they stopped seeing each other. \n\nFor the last  2 or 3  months she had been on sites like plenty of fish and okcupid, but she didn't want the accounts anymore. \n\nRecently she had started talking to her sister's neighbor, they were supposed to meet up this past weekend,but he cancelled and her sister says he was on the porch with another woman, so that fell through. She wants someone real bad and I feel bad for her.", "summary": "My mom is sick of being single and wants someone to treat her right after having shitty relationships."}
{"id": "t3_3k5lyx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my GF [21F] ended just after a few weeks.", "post": "How short does a relationship have to be for one to not care that it's over?\n\nWe met over summer break while she was vacationing in my hometown. We had an amazing summer and decided it was worth a long distance relationship since she was moving to where I live after she graduates in one semester. I bought a ticket to see her this Labor Day weekend on her request.\n\nTwo hours before my flight she called me and ended it. She said that the long distance was too hard and she didn't want to have an amazing time together just to end it after.\n\nI know we weren't together for long, but I can't get her out of my mind. To make things worse, she's is still moving to where I live and says she wants to continue the relationship at that time; but has decided to completely ignore me till then to make things easier for her. Except that doesn't make things easier on me, being a person that relies on some sort of a connection.\n\nI guess what I'm asking is how do I get through the semester while I wait for the girl that I want to be with and she completely ignores me?", "summary": "Got broken up with in a short term, long distance relationship. Still want to be with her. How do I wait?"}
{"id": "t3_1l09iu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I find myself [21m] more attracted to one of our mutual friends [21f] than I do my girlfriend [21f]", "post": "Obvious throwaway here. Well for a little background information here, I'm part of a friend group that my SO is also part of, let's call her Amber. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her, she has a great personality and cares about me a lot. However another girl, let's call her Melissa, is also part of our friend group that consists of about 14-18 people and we see each other just about every day.\n\nMy problem is that I have found myself each and every day, especially after getting back from summer vacation, more attracted to Melissa than my SO. I have no idea what to do because we're all really good friends and it's not like I'm in an abusive relationship or anything, I just find myself to be extremely attracted to Melissa. Last night I got pretty drunk when we went out to a party and when I went to sleep the only dream I had the entire night was of me spending the night with Melissa and not my SO. I'm not talking about just sex; it was like going out to dinner, the whole deal. \n\nI'm not sure how to figure out if Melissa is attracted to me or not, because I don't want to ruin the friendship of the entire group just because I say/do something stupid. I also don't want to hurt my SO because she is a really great girl and even if I broke up with her I would still care about her quite a bit, but in a different way if that makes any sense. Please help me out here, I can give more information upon request. Names changed because privacy.", "summary": "I'm more attracted to my friend than I am my SO, the only problem is that we're all in the same friend group and it's a pretty tight knit bunch."}
{"id": "t3_m12s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help, how can I get over being cheated on, while in a relationship?", "post": "here is my situation.. I'm 21 and I've been dating the same guy for over a year now. He's an incredible guy we get along great there is very little I cant complain about in our relationship. Before dating my current boyfriend I was in another relationship for about a year.. In that relationship there weren't many problems we didn't fight much and everything was always pretty good then one day I was asked to come over to talk and I got the break up speech. My ex told me he was no longer attracted to me, didn't love me, literally everything you don't want to hear. I spent 3 months and a summer away from him getting over him and pretty much just accepting the fact that he got bored with the relationship and decided to break up. During our summer apart I received a lot of phone calls from my ex attempting to get back together and I decided not to give him a chance considering not even a week after we broke up he was hooking up with his neighbor.. getting to the point about 3 months into my relationship with my current boyfriend I found out  from him(the girl he cheated on me with turned out to be friends with my boyfriend and told him) my ex had been cheating on me the whole time we had dated. Since finding out this truth which was eventually admitted by my ex I tend to feel very insecure about my relationship (although there is no reason for it). My current boyfriend is quick to reassure me but I experience anxiety when he goes out with his friends and I have a really hard time calming myself down. I guess Im finding it difficult to wrap my head around the fact I was cheated. I was able to rationalize the unexpected break with my ex with the fact that at least he was honest and hadn't cheated on me. \n\nHonestly I just want to know how to deal with the anxiety I experience... what kind of methods can I use to calm myself down? My current boyfriend is very understanding but I don't want to keep putting him through the same conversation about it...", "summary": "I found from my current boyfriend that my ex had been cheating on me the entire span of our relationship, I'm now experiencing feelings of insecurity and anxiety towards my current relationship."}
{"id": "t3_52pi10", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m25) fear going home (f23)", "post": "Hello,\n\nMe and my SO have been dating for 6 years now. And I am tired of her abuse. Whenever I do something wrong or make a mistake she tells me I'm pathetic, I'm not an adult, I'm stupid, she hits me and breaks my things and does not even apologize. When I cry she just gets even more angrier and pushes me and I am at a point where I consider hanging myself or jumping off a cliff or train just to end it all. \n\nI am was recently unemployed and very financial unstable and deeply in debtand she just uses it as even more fuel to prove how pathetic I am. I am in the process of turning that all around but when I get set back or make a mistake she just blows up and let's the insults fly. There is no use in trying to talk, she never tries to see it from my perspective, or considers my feelings, she just cares that she is right and I'm causing her stress and grief. \n\nAnd then it escalates the argument more since apparently Im not allowed to be depressed since I'm the reason our situation is shit. And she starts yelling and breaking my stuff. I have tried to leave but I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't know what's wrong with me. I guess it's fear and i just don't know how to grab my stuff and escape. I fear going home. Also I'm locked into the lease on the place with our roommate s and I have no where to go, no friends or family.\n\n I do have a co-worker that offered to let me crash her couch but I feel too intruding and I barely know her. Also I snore extremely loud and I don't want to bring that on her and her roommates.  \n\nI felt like I have put up with her abuse long enough. But I have no idea what to do or how to leave with my things intact.", "summary": "leaving abusive gf of 6 years, I don't know what to do or how to escape"}
{"id": "t3_4hqg4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GFs [20 F] birthday today and I [21 M] feel really bad", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year now and it is her birthday today. I wanted to spend some time with her but she didn't bother to reply. \n\nI'm not proud of it but I logged onto her facebook and she was chatting with this guy continuously. I always figured when 2 people are really in love, they'd spend their best days with the other as well as their worsts. I had a lot planned for her and it hurt me when she didn't bother chatting with me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to fight with her on her birthday. \n\nI know on my birthday, I'd love to spend every minute talking to her. It kinda feels like she doesn't really care that much and she has other people and when things go to shit with them, she'll come back to me. Or am I really stupid and I should let her enjoy her day?", "summary": "Girlfriend ignoring me on her birthday because shes too busy chatting with other guys. Am I stupid to feel bad about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1lunqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] have trouble setting boundaries with non-close friends", "post": "if it's a close friend then I feel comfortable enough to just be bluntly honest with them about it, but anybody else I'm worried about offending them or making things awkward. last time it was my boyfriend's best friend, who just generally doesn't respect boundaries (came from a large family). it wasn't that what he was doing was wrong, it was just that it crossed my personal boundaries (invasion of personal space mostly). now it's his sister (28F) who's moved in across the street. Bf (24m) & I live in his mom (59F)'s house, so technically she can come and go as she pleases since it's her mom's house and I'm the \"guest\" (though I've been living here and paying rent for the past three years now, while the sister only just moved back to this city like 5 months ago, and then moved into the apartment across the street as of yesterday).\n\nI'm probably overreacting and in time things will settle down and normalize. She still hasn't quite gotten all of her stuff moved out of here anyways. But still, it's so hard for me to figure out how to express my feelings without offending anybody.\n\n(The incident I take issue with this morning is she came into the house while bf & I were showering & kitten-napped the kitten who was locked in our bedroom while we showered so she (the kitten) could play with her (the sister)'s cats who had also been temporarily living with us while she was here)", "summary": "i don't know how to communicate my boundaries to people i'm not close to out of fear of making things awkward or causing other problems."}
{"id": "t3_t5l4r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, what's a really stupid thing you've asked a family member? [nsfw]", "post": "Oh god... I've said so many things, but here is one of the worst.\nI was 9 at the time, and my annoying childhood friend shows me new kinds of porn. Okay, honestly, I knew about this shit when I was 8, but only really soft core stuff, and he says to me: \"Psst.. Look at this, it gives my weeny, and uppy!\" He logs on to some crazy foreign site, and I couldn't believe my eyes. There was this woman, shoving a huge dildo into a mans butt, and it started bleeding everywhere. Naturally, the other kid loses his shit laughing, but I'm looking at it, with a face of unimaginable disgust for this kid imprinted on me. Anyway, so a couple of days later, I grab a toilet role, and come running down the stairs to my sister, bend over, and with the creepiest grin on my face, whack off my clothes, and ask my sister to shove the toilet role up my ass. Don't know why. Neither did she. But I can tell you there was a good half hour of awkward silence, 'till my mum comes home and sees me with my ass up in my sisters face. She still won't let it go. Neither will my recurring dreams.", "summary": "Imitated porn, horrible results."}
{"id": "t3_3j61hd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit- what is something you wish you could go back and tell your 20-year-old (or college aged) self?", "post": "I write for HerCampus, and I want to do an article composed of the best pieces of advice from women that have gone through college (or their 20s) can give to current 20 somethings (mainly in college, since its a website for college aged girls).  Anything from love, dating, sex, work, school, partying, health habits, beauty advice (yes, I know, wear sunscreen), ANYTHING!  What is something (or a few things) you wish you could go back and tell yourself at age 18-23?  Thank you!!  Also if you could, commenting with your age would be appreciated:)  All names/usernames will not be used in the article.", "summary": "what is something you wish you could go back and tell 18-23 year old you?"}
{"id": "t3_1fb4n9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I go about dealing with intense social anxiety?", "post": "I have been an introvert with social anxiety for as long as I can remember. I am self diagnosed but it's pretty obvious from the way I feel after years of, I guess I could call it, suffering. Anytime I am excluded by my friends, intentionally or not, I become very anxious, somewhat depressed and therefore, angry. It became significantly more problematic this past year. I was bullied, to put it bluntly. I was mocked, harassed, and for no good reason, feared for my health and safety. Being in situations like these gives me an intense sick feeling and I want to, in short, curl up and die. I frequently feel as though life would be easier if I didn't exist (even though that sentence doesn't actually make sense...) I am filled with terror at just the sight of some of these people and am constantly paranoid. I try to adopt an \"I don't care\" attitude and sometimes it makes me feel better, but I don't know how to relax and put these things out of my mind. It lead to me treating my best friend terribly and losing her, having no friends in the new place I was living, and lead to compulsive emotional eating, skipping classes (and failing exams, sure enough), rarely sleeping, and resorting to non-lethal methods of self harm as well as alcoholism for periods of time. I am seeking professional help, but I'm hoping someone out here can relate and give me some suggestions, or even just tell me that I'm not alone. I can give more information if anyone asks questions but I'm not sure what else to say at this point.", "summary": "Being bullied makes me feel physically and emotionally sick and wish I wasn't alive. Want to be able to go about my life without constantly thinking of the people I fear and having the thought of them ruin my outlook on life."}
{"id": "t3_35wuvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my roomates [24 M/F] of 2 years, noise issues", "post": "After graduating from college two years ago I moved in with my brother. His brother eventually moved in and started staying with us. After two years of bouncing around with roommates we ended up finding a two bedroom for myself and him and his girlfriend. \nIn our new place my room and theirs are pretty close (not sharing a wall, but perpendicular). This has started to cause issues because they don't like any noise at night. It started off that they don like when I play music or movies in my room with the door if they can hear it. So I close the door when they ask. Then if I turn the music up loud enough for them to hear at night they'll text me (even though I'm a room away). \n\nWhats really started to bother me is that I've started to see someone, and they complain about our sex. They don't do much on weekends, but if I have a girl over Friday or Saturday night, they'll tell me to keep it down if they can hear us. At first my brother asked to put some music on to cover any sounds, which I gladly did. But now that I put music on he complains that he can hear it all night. I'm not blasting music in any way (it wa at 30% on my computer). I don't know what to do at this point. \nMy brother is annoyed with me, and his gf says I (along says the girl I'm seeing) am being rude for ignoring their wishes. Am I being unreasonaly for wanting to listen to music and have some private time in my own room and apartment?", "summary": "How can I resolve noise issues with my roommates?"}
{"id": "t3_y8hnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(21f) wondering if my feelings for my (22m) boyfriend are lessening or if it's caused by depression", "post": "Hi /r/relationships.  \n\nFor a bit of backstory, I've had a really difficult time recently - deaths of loved ones, family drama/tension, breakup with an abusive ex boyfriend, just an overall awful year.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend about 9 months.  We were friends for years before we dated and developed an interest in each other.  Our relationship has been pretty happy so far, a couple of blips/arguments but nothing too significant.\n\nLately I've been feeling more depressed than I ever have in my life.  I used to be pretty easy-going and cried maybe three times a year.  Now I cry every few days and everyday tasks are hugely difficult.  I've lost interest in a lot of my favourite things - example, I'm a classical pianist who has practiced 2 hours every single day since I was five years old, and I haven't touched my piano in months.  I am going to counselling regularly and don't often tell friends and family about my feelings, instead preferring to just deal with it on my own.\n\nLast week I did break down and tell my boyfriend just how bad it was.  He was amazing and kind and comforting and even cried with me while I told him what was going on.  One thing I can't tell him, though, is that sometimes I feel like I don't feel anything for him at all.  Sometimes I feel a lot of love for him, sometimes I feel like I just don't care.  This isn't just limited to him, though - lately I've been feeling almost no affection for my parents or sister and I have very little interest in seeing my friends.\n\nWhat do I do, Redditors?  With this cloud of depression hanging over my head I just can't trust my feelings at all.  I'm seeing a counsellor regularly but it just doesn't seem like enough to deal with all this.  Anyone ever been in a similar situation?\n\nAlso, feel free to ask questions and I'll try to answer them, I'm not sure if I left any important details out.", "summary": "Had a rough year and have been experiencing some depression.  Not sure if my feelings for my boyfriend of 9 months are diminishing or if it's the depression.  Me (21f) him (22m)"}
{"id": "t3_cjaxb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, how have you dealt with a close friend moving away?", "post": "He's not really the sentimental type, but I kind of am. He's moved around a lot in life and I get the sense that he'll probably forget about me and find new friends pretty quickly. This makes me happy for him but doesn't really make me feel that much better about my situation.\n\nWe were roomies for the last few months, and going from seeing him every day to not seeing him really at all has been tough :-( He's about 3 hours away for the summer, but is looking for jobs all over the country after that (he just graduated college). Due to work schedules I don't know that I'll get to see him more than once or twice this summer before he's even further away.\n\nAdvice or stories about your experiences would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I'm having a hard time letting go of my buddy who is moving away. I don't really expect that we'll keep in touch, even though I'd like to."}
{"id": "t3_4z4k4e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "He (m/28) bailed on our second date due to a sick family member. I (f/24) am not sure how to proceed next. Do I let him be? Any ideas?", "post": "He asked me for my number. We went on our first date 2 weeks ago. I thought it went well. We hung out for 7 hours straight. At the end of the night, he drove me back to my car and asked to kiss me good night. He texted me when he got home to make sure I arrived home ok. And we texted throughout the next day as well.\n\nHe rarely texts me first, but when I text him, it seems like he seems happy to talk. He keeps the conversation going, he has lots to say, and asks about my day, etc. When he takes long to reply, he always apologizes and says \"sorry, my phone was dead\" or whatever. He always has a reason for his long replies.\n\nI was getting tired of waiting for him to ask me on second date, so I did it myself. I asked him if he wanted to hang out again and he said \"yes, for sure\".\nWe made plans for last weekend but he bailed because he had to take his grandfather to the hospital (he takes care of his grandfather and they are very close). We texted throughout the night, while he was sitting with his grandfather in the hospital. I guess I kept him company, but I haven't heard from him since. I assume he is probably busy with him. He said he would be staying with him over the next few days.\n\nSo, I'm not sure how his grandfather is doing. I would like to text him and ask, but I don't want to be a bother. I especially feel like one because it is always me texting him first, although he never seems to be bothered by it... Should I just let him be?\n\nAnd as for our second date that he bailed on, do I wait for him to reschedule? Or bring it up in a few days?", "summary": "First date went well. We hung out for 7 hours, ended it with a kiss, and he texted me to make sure I arrived home ok. He rarely texts me first, but seems happy to text when I text him first. (but he could be pretending...) He always keeps the text convo going. I got tired of waiting for him to ask me on 2nd date, so I asked him myself. He said he was for sure down to hang out with me again. We made plans for the weekend, but he had to bail because he had to take his Grandfather to the hospital (he takes care of his Grandfather). He texted me throughout the night while he sat in the hospital. I haven't heard from him since (3 days ago). I want to text him and ask how he's doing and if his Grandfather is ok. But I feel like I am a bother since I am always the one texting first and he is probably busy taking care of him. And as for our second date that he cancelled - do I wait for him to reschedule? Or bring it up in a few dates?"}
{"id": "t3_3u5l41", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [21/M] and my GF [19/F] broke up a few days ago, now she wants to meet up again what should I do?", "post": "For the backstory, we were together for almost 3 years.\nIn the last few months she had a lot of shit going down in her life, her abusive father showed up again, her mother fell into depression, stress in college and a lot of other stuff. I tried to console her and be there for her in every situation but I noticed her feeling worse and worse every day. I tried everything I could to make her feel better but nothing seemed to work. Now last sunday she wanted to talk and said under tears she couldn't go on anymore with the relationship because she feels powerless and can't invest any emotions in the relation ship at that point. She assured me over and over again that she still loves me but just can't go on. \nI tried to tell her that I'll be there for her in every situation and whatever might happen I'd be there for her, but she didn't really accept that.  \nToday I got a text from her,  asking me to go out in 2 days.\nI'm really confused and don't know what to do, but on the other hand I don't wanna push her away. I really need your advice reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "GF and I broke up 2 days ago, now  she wants to meet up again, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1j1bgc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (m23) girlfriend (f28) still can't get over her ex. Am I fighting an un-winnable battle?", "post": "Weve been together 4months. Known each other for 5. Her last relationship was a tumultuous 3+ years. Both good and bad. She broke up with him for very good reasons, and I was surprised their relationship lasted so long considering. \n\nI love this woman. I see a great future already. She's perfect. \n\n She doesn't feel the same way yet. She still dreams about him, or sees something that reminds her of him and feels sad/guilty she still has feelings for him. She recognizes how good I am to her and for her. But he can't shake her old feelings. \n\nI get frustrated and can't understand how she hasn't gotten over him yet. I met her after they'd been apart for about a year. They were still off and on. Actually, that's how we started dating... She was goin to give him another chance, I confessed my feelings for her in my most alpha of alpha moments, and she said yes. But I get frustrated still having to tell her how good we are for each other. \n\nAll of this has been discussed in rational, clean, open conversation between the two of us. It's pretty amazing we can talk so openly this early. But Just because we talk about it, doesn't mean her feelings will change anytime soon. What do I do? Am I fighting a losing battle? Will she ever love me like I love her?", "summary": "I love my gf. She doesn't love me as much as she loved/loves her ex. We both know this. We also both recognize the amazing relationship we have going. She feels guilty she still hasn't gotten over her ex. Am I fighting a losing battle?"}
{"id": "t3_342ks2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [25 F] and I [29 M] took a break in January. We're meeting to talk on Friday. I feel broken.", "post": "I became really depressed, bitter, and selfish in my relationship.  Work drove me up the wall and I was not fun to live with.  That's the preface, long-story-short.\n\nShe told me one night that she needed a break.  She moved out, I found a new place, and I've given her time and space.\n\nI told her that I would give her the time and space she needed, but I also said that I wanted to fight for us.  In the three months I've had, I have done a lot of soul-searching.  I have taken ownership of my faults.  I have made changes in my life to move forward in a healthy manner.  But at every turn, I can only think of her.  Every single morning, when I wake up alone... part of me dies all over again.  I'm usually a fairly strong person, but this is crippling me.\n\nWhen I originally asked her if she was done with me... with us, I was met with \"I can't answer that right now.\"\n\nI received the security deposit check from our previous landlord and we're meeting this Friday to cash that and have a talk.\n\nWe agreed that putting a timeline on talking was a bad idea, but I feel like I need to know.  She offered to bring our dog so we could see each other, but I can't help but think that this won't end well for me.\n\nI think that I've been made to feel complacent until she figures out *her* life.\n\nI'm in love.  I miss her to death.  I lead my day-to-day life, actually feeling like the best part of it is gone.", "summary": "Girl and I took a break 3 months ago and are meeting to talk for the first time since the split.  Have no idea how this talk will go.  Any anecdotes or advice would be appreciated and feel free to ask questions."}
{"id": "t3_1n1p6f", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "17y/o male needs help with shy girl", "post": "So I met this girl through a group of friends and I like her. She doesn't go to the same school so I only really see her when the group meets up, which is hard. We have probably hung out about 5 times (in a group) and only really talked 1 on 1 a few times. \n\nShe is definitely a shy girl and I like that about her. I have made her laugh and smile when we have talked but I am not sure how to proceed. I can't stand waiting to see her again and I cant really just hit her up on Facebook out of the blue because we aren't that close. I do not have her number yet either. So I would just like some opinions on how to proceed. It would REALLY help me if a few shy girls replied to this!!!", "summary": "met shy girl, dont see her often, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1gjx9v", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "People who use reward miles: How do you decide where to go? Is there somewhere that would normally be too expensive, but is worth traveling to?", "post": "I'm looking to cash in all of my miles (United) before I have to finish school and have to get a job. I have more than enough for a roundtrip flight to anywhere in the world and I want to make the most of it.\n\nI know places there are places that would otherwise be extremely expensive to travel to (coming from US), such as Easter Island, New Zealand etc. Right now I'm thinking SE Asia with an open jaw (filling that in with my own itinerary) and a stopover somewhere else, but I'm not sure that is getting the most value out of this. I find it awesome that United allows a free stopover for up to a year *and* an open jaw on a roundtrip flight. Making use of this would be great.", "summary": "Facing the option of going anywhere in the world using reward miles, I've realized how difficult this decision is. People who have been in similar positions: How do you decide? And what's the best way to maximize a free flight's value?"}
{"id": "t3_4r9i69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband [29/m] was cold and distant last night. I'm [29/f] still upset despite him apologizing this morning. Should I bring it up and probably cause a fight? Or drop it and move on?", "post": "I'll keep this short. We had a great weekend away for the long weekend. As soon as we get home he is miserable. I ask for help unpacking and doing laundry, and he huffs and puffs about it. He went from being super affectionate during our trip away to not even looking at me. I ask him what wrong and he says \"just leave me alone\". \n\nI don't get it at all. I end up going to bed alone early because he isn't making room on the couch for me and is watching a TV show he knows I hate.\n\nThis morning he apologizes for being a jerk, but I am still hurt and I don't understand why his mood changed so drastically.", "summary": "husband was mean to me last night. And I'm still upset. Do I bring it up and probably cause another fight? Or do I just move on and pretend I'm fine?"}
{"id": "t3_y4wb1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's an awkward event that happened at your school?", "post": "Mine happened when I was in 8th grade. (not long ago)\n\nLet me start by saying I go to a very small school, K-12 and about 230 kids in all. A lot of kids have helicopter parents and are pretty innocent.  Our school was going to have a scary movie night, it had to be PG-13 so the selection was pretty small. Student council ended up choosing The Roommate.\n\nI had a crush at the time and I thought it'd be good to sit next to her during this event so I did. Everything was going pretty good until I realized the age group who was invited. 4th graders were allowed to come with a permission slip. Many did. I was even sitting next to one.\n\nThere is a mild sex scene in the movie and that's when it got awkward. The 4th graders were shuffling around uneasily and all the teachers were telling everyone not to look. Although there was no nudity, it was still pretty weird. I even made accidental eye contact with my crush. \n\nWasn't too awkward, but I know you guys got some pretty bad ones up your sleeves, so let them spill.", "summary": "Movie night at small school. Sat next to little kid and crush. Sex scene."}
{"id": "t3_1zxm8c", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "f/17/5'2- 200 pounds: I don't want to get Diabetes", "post": "Currently I am 200 pounds. I have been chubby my whole life but now I am reaching morbidly obese. My doctor told me that if I don't do anything now I *will* get diabetes. \n\nI have seen lots of weight loss tips and exercises but I never know which one to follow so I don't do anything at all. \n\nI was thinking about starting with something like calorie counting but I don't know how affective that's going to be for me. I can barely breathe out of my nose and that makes me not want to exercise at all, but I am willing to push through it.\n\nI really want to lose around 60 pounds before september and I am willing to try anything.", "summary": "I have no idea on where to start on my weight loss journey"}
{"id": "t3_v45dh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How legitimate is craigslist?", "post": "Context: I'm an Australian (and we don't use CL there) traveling the States for a couple of months and primarily staying in hostels as that's the cheapest form of accommodation. \n\nExcept when it comes to NYC it seems, all their hostels are expensive relative to everywhere else (I realise NYC has a reputation for being expensive relative to every where else but still) and so I decided to check out craigslist's vacation rentals section. There's a couple that are $50-60 a night in what look to be amazing apartments. And when the hostels are that much, I can't see any downside. Basically it looks to good to be true, is it?", "summary": "Are craigslist's vacation rentals too good to be true? Are they a scam more often than not?"}
{"id": "t3_volpi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to fuck with my girlfriend's old  bullies?", "post": "She was bullied by the same ten guys from first grade to the end junior high. From what I've understood from her friends and herself, it included both physical and psychological bullying. Pushing her around literally and figuratively, name-calling, exclusion from friends, gossiping lies about her and sometimes even assaulting he\n\nIt left her with serious depression, which she's gotten over now, extreme shyness, emotional scars, trust issues and confidence issues. I want to get back at the cunts in some way. I don't want to go to jail but I can stand a small fine and a minor criminal record. I'm moving to Scotland in a couple of years anyways.", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_2f7jla", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] Dont feel chemistry with my [27 F] date who I've been seeing for a month after meeting online", "post": "I met this girl online on an Indian dating website.\n\nThe girl is great - she is super sweet, was open about her previous relationships/dates, is really well educated girl,  likes a bit of craft and art projects. \n\nShe is looking to get married in a year or so. I've met her four times at occasions and have been talking on the phone on and off. \n\nFew things that came to my attention was she liked to have conversations about anything and everything without any substance (eg. went to mall and used a coupon to get xyz, my sister cooked this, etc etc). I, personally, dont find that really helpful in learning about her. \n\nAlso, she seems to be moving a bit quicker and looks like she has fallen for me already. I on the other hand dont feel much chemistry yet.", "summary": "Met this girl on dating site, been talking for a month, went out four times. She's super sweet, but I dont feel chemistry/attraction yet. Should I tell her to take it slow and give it more time or cut it off?"}
{"id": "t3_krxrz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "leaking blood (don't worry, I'm a dude.  This isn't a period thread), panicking, just need to vent.", "post": "I'm sorry.  In the course of the past week or so, my body has gone completely haywire and it's freaking me the fuck out.  \n\nIt started as a cold last Sunday, with the occasional bloody mucus-ball.  No big deal, it happens.  As the week went on the cold went away, but the bloody cough did not.  In fact every morning since last Sunday, I've woken up and coughed up blood into my toilet.  I went to the campus nurse practitioner on Thursday and she said that I probably just burst a blood vessel in my throat from all the coughing and not to worry about it.  \n\nSo that's exactly what I did, until yesterday.  Yesterday, shortly after I woke up, I noticed a stabbing pain halfway between my back and my chest that grew much worse when I inhaled.   I still have it now, and I'm taking very shallow breaths because of it.  I ignored it last night, and tried to have a good time with my friends.  This morning it was worse, and I coughed up a considerable amount of blood.  Not bloody mucus.  Blood.  \nI've smoked cigarettes for about four years and weed for five.\n\nI plan on going to get a chest x-ray tomorrow.  I wonder how much it would cost to hire a call-girl to give me a hug and tell me everything's going to be okay.", "summary": "Coughing up blood, very worried, wanted to vent, could use a hug."}
{"id": "t3_34rbbf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking about someone dieing", "post": "So this happened a few months back when I was working in a supermarket picking shopping people order online. Two of the people I worked with were talking let's call them Alice & Bill. When I get close Bill says to me \"Did you know Alice is getting a brand new car\". Taking into account Alice is 17 and has just passed her test and a brand new Audi is a big deal. So I just say the first thing that comes to my mind. \"What?! Did someone die?\" Alice gives a little smile and Bill gives a shocked face but still laughing, \"You cant say that\". I walk off laughing, getting the reaction I wanted.\n\nA few days later Bill comes up to me and says \"You do know that Alice's sister did die\". It was in some freak accident of her being in the wrong place at the wrong time and an explosion in a house. I felt really bad. Not just because I was an idiot but remembering Alice's face when I said that. She had smiled but thinking back it seemed forced. I didn't know what to say next time I saw her but she acted like it never happened.", "summary": "Don't say the first thing that pops into your head for a shock laugh, horrible things can and do happen."}
{"id": "t3_1pe7ym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[23 M] be mad with my GF [23 F] of 2 months. For something that happened months ago?", "post": "okay so me and my gf are great together, we are highly compatible. There is one thing that came to the surface last night and Its really bothering me. Before we were official, me gf and I were seeing each other for a good 4-5 months. Apparently during that time my gf and her coworker kissed. Should I be mad? \n\nHer argument is that we were not official, therefor it should not matter. My argument was that regardless of our status there should have been a mutual level of respect and understanding, and I believed there was until now.\n\n \n\nI just feel like she lied to me by not telling me. We were really close (not as friends) during the few months before we were official.", "summary": "Gf kissed another guy a few months ago while we were \"seeing\" each other. Should I be upset now?"}
{"id": "t3_2t35fa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] am ruining my relationships with my husband [29M] of four years because I have low self-esteem and trust issues.", "post": "He's never done anything even remotely suspicious to make me not trust him.  My trust issues stem from my self-esteem issues.  \n\nI'm going to the gym, taking antidepressants, and trying to be pleasant to be around, but our lives are about to change (graduation from graduate schools) in a big way, and when he mentions having friends and grabbing drinks with them after work to wind down (his job is going to be very, very stressful at times) I get physically ill.  \n\nAs I work on my diet and exercise and get the antidepressants into my system, what are some tips this community can offer me to not feel so anxious at the thought of him doing anything social that doesn't involve me?", "summary": "I have horrible self-esteem.  Working on that with diet, exercise, and an SSRI.  How can I not feel so anxious at the thought of him doing social activities without me in the future even though there's no reason for me to distrust him?"}
{"id": "t3_4jo7y4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/f] have low sex drive, and my partner (24/m) is insecure sexually. We want to improve our sex life.", "post": "We've been together over a year, and all other aspects of our relationship are fantastic. We have a lot of love and respect for each other and we've talked extensively about the future. Communication is not an issue for us.\n\nHe was a virgin when I met him; I was considerably more experienced. I've had previous relationships, he has not.\n\nThe whole time we've been together, our sex life has been pretty meh. We've had a handful of really good romps, but mostly it's all the same and few and far between. We want to improve things.\n\nFactors on my end:\n* I've always had a bit of an issue with low sex drive. In previous relationships, it's been all hot and stuff at the beginning but has cooled down a few months in.\n*  In the last two years, I've put on a fair bit of weight. I used to be quite thin and now I'm quite squishy. I'm very insecure about it, and it's a source of stress for me on an almost daily basis. He's very supportive and doesn't criticize.\n* Lately I'm feeling almost put off by the idea of sex in general.\n* I'm under a decent amount of stress and don't have the social supports I'd like to in my life.\n\nFactors on his end:\n* I'm the only person he's been with. He stresses about how he compares to my previous partners (I've assured him it's not a thing).\n* He gets quite nervous and insecure about his performance. This has previously caused some issues with rising to the occasion.\n* He feels his stamina is lacking.\n* He's not a particularly confident person in general.\n\nWe've discussed the issues we have and we both want to find ways to improve them. We want to have more exciting sex, and I want to want it more. Any advice for things to try is much appreciated.", "summary": "I have low sex drive, boyfriend is insecure, we want to have more exciting and frequent sex."}
{"id": "t3_iqvvi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was filmed while driving today....", "post": "Today I was driving along, after sitting at a dealership for two hours. I came up on a double-left turn lane, and approached it sort of fast. The arrow was probably yellow, but not full-on red by any means. Other traffic was turning with me. I accidentally put it into the wrong gear (I have manual) and the truck engine-braked sort of hard as I was turning through the intersection. I imagine my nose of my truck dove from an outsiders perspective. None of this seemed odd to me. I shift incorrectly fairly often, but not this bad.\n\nI was half a mile down the road, and driving at a normal clip. From behind, a minivan with a large woman as the sole occupant pulls up next to me, with a camcorder. She is parallel to me across from my passenger window, actively filming me, my face, and my vehicle. I do a double-take, then actively ignore her. I feel my face get hot.  We drive on, then catch another red light. I notice she does not have the camera up, roll down my passenger window, and ask her \"What's the problem..?!\" She says nothing and immediately starts filming again. I smile, laugh to myself, and roll my window up to ignore her again. I am really seething inside! I am so angry I can feel my pulse in my head and all I wanted to do was get out of my truck and rip that thing out of her hand, further escalating what ever trumped-up charges she thought she had on me. I did not do anything that warranted a filming of myself. So I think. \n\nWho would do this? Could anything come of it?", "summary": "Ran a yellow light, some lady pulls a camcorder out and gets all paparazzi on my ass."}
{"id": "t3_25ull9", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My dog has swollen salivary glands. Anyone have any experience with this?", "post": "Noticed around noon that my greyhound had two tiny lumps within her mouth, and by 2pm they had swollen up to about the size of a golf ball. We took her to the emergency vet since our regular one was booked for the day, and they told us basically just to keep her on the Rimadyl and Tramadol she was already on and there was nothing they could do without surgery.  \nI'm a little concerned; they said she'd be fine until we were able to take her the our normal vet on Monday, but the medicine doesn't seem to be doing anything and her mouth is just as swollen as it was before. The vet seemed very rushed and mostly just looked at her bloodwork and that was it. Is there a way they could drain some of the fluid to make her more comfortable? She can't eat because it's so swollen and I'm afraid it's going to make it hard for her to drink as well.  \nI just feel really unsatisfied with the way that the emergency vet handled this and I'm looking for advice. Does anyone know how much this surgery tends to cost/other treatments? She's really old and I'd love to avoid major surgery if at all possible.", "summary": "Dog has golf ball sized mass under tongue. Vet said to wait until Monday, but I'm still worried. Looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_2yw1ct", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [17 M] of 10 months, and her best friend has a crush on her..... what can I do?", "post": "My Girlfriend has a friend, Genna, who's completely obsessed with my girlfriend, Kat. They've been friends for as long at least 7 or 8 years. Genna is a bit over protective and has even accused me of cheating on Kat. They spend a lot of time together, do the same sports, schedule the same classes, and do the same school activities.\n\nGenna has admitted to having feelings towards Kat. I thought nothing of it since Kat told me to ignore it.... but lately they've been hanging out a lot more and I rarely see her outside of school.\n\nInitially I thought it was nothing but now even when we do hang out Genna texts Kat and calls her. So what little time I do see her is now being interrupted by her. I don't really know what to say since they're so close and I don't wanna fight a huge battle over something like that.\n\nIn the past when I've asked anything about Genna she assures me that it's fine and they're isn't anything going on. But this time seems different....I was with Kat and Genna texted her saying she wanted to talk. Kat told me to leave the room and that she'd \"summon me when she was finished\". I hadn't seen cat in over a week and i was kinda pissed that she'd put Genna before me. 20 minutes later she comes into the room I'm in and acts like nothing happened. \n\nI'm upset that she places Genna before me; but I don't know how to tell her how I feel. If this keeps occurring I want to know how to deal with it without setting her off at all.", "summary": "Girlfriend's best friend has a crush on my girlfriend what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ebypj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Influence of Gaming?", "post": "I have been a gamer for as long as I can remember, and I love it.  Yet most people feel that gaming is nothing more than a waste of time, I feel that I've learned a lot from it and I feel that many people did too.\n\nFrom the typing skills I developed from Runescape to learning how to build computers from a person that I knew from World of Warcraft (and made me the guy that fixes everyone's computers during Thanksgiving).  \n\nWhen people ask me how I learned how to fix computers, they are always amazed that a thirty year old *former Marine*, who I've never met, taught me one of the most useful things I have ever learned in my life.\n\nNow I am about to graduate high school and become a Marine myself, and I honestly look back two or three years at this person, who has no idea on how big of an impact he has made on my life.  \n\n*So reddit, who is the stranger that changed your life?", "summary": "A person from WoW taught me how to fix computers, and it changed my life forever."}
{"id": "t3_2k75ol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother[~60F] is upset over my[21f] pregnancy.", "post": "My mom is angry that I'm pregnant, I'm happily married(for one year) and this is a planned baby. My husband[31m] is extremely excited  about the baby and can't wait.\n\nWhen we told my mother her first reaction was to tell us not to have a baby. She told me it would make my husband hate me.\n\nNow thats she realized I'm keeping the baby, she's trying to force me to have either my tubes tied or a full hysterectomy after birth. My husband and I might want another baby in 5 years or so, so obviously I want to keep everything functioning.\n\nShe cant force me to give up my reproductive rights but how can I make her stop? She's even tried to call my OB. My mom never wanted me to have children or get married, so now she's disappointed in me and tries to make me miserable.", "summary": "My moms[~60f] angry I'm pregnant[21f and married(husband[31m])] and wants to force me to be sterilized after I have the baby."}
{"id": "t3_36p7nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40M] with my GF [35F] of 5 years, hard time cycling out of fights", "post": "This is probably an old question but I couldn't find it anywhere.  My GF and I usually get along quite well but like everyone sometimes have disagreements.  When this happens we fall into a cycle that is very unhelpful.  Essentially neither of us is willing to apologize or make up first and so several days to a week go by until we just start ignoring that the fight occurred in the first place.\n\nI tried to break this cycle by being the \"bigger man\" and apologizing and making up first.  This worked several times but she never reciprocated and so I was always being the \"bigger man.\"  I'm not sure why but this really bothered me.  It seemed very unfair that I would always be the \"bigger man\" when surely not all fights are always my fault.  So I stopped doing this and we returned to our old ways. \n\nIs there anything I can do about this?  Should I just wait it out every time?", "summary": "We have a hard time breaking out of being at loggerheads; I tried to break the cycle but failed."}
{"id": "t3_1remfe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my wife [26F] of 2 years, she has a history of not backing other men off when they approach her.", "post": "She's great and I love her. But she has a history since before we married of not backing other men off or shutting them down when they do inappropriate things or make moves on her. This includes men she knows and sometimes strangers. \n\nI'm not accusing her of wanting to do anything inappropriate or step out on our marriage. But her policy always seems to be wait and see what happens, talk to him about it, whatever. Some of them can be very forward and aggressive, in some cases physical.\n\nIt makes me jealous and insecure obviously. Sometimes with strangers I worry about her safety also. She disagrees that anything needs to change in most cases. Why is she letting this go on? Do I have the right to demand she tell men off or get rid of them when this happens?", "summary": "How do I get my wife to back other men off when they approach her inappropriately?"}
{"id": "t3_266ewm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] Leaving for different colleges in September, need outside perspectives on our situation. Please read.", "post": "We've been dating for a little over 2 months now. I like this girl a lot, and I know she really likes me. I was told it would be obvious when I'll feel \"in love\" with a girl. While I don't feel that yet, I like her enough to think seriously about the future.\n\nWe leave in September for our schools that are 7 hours apart. We've talked about it some, but what it sounds like from her is that she feels we couldn't make it work. I'm on edge about it. I was told that if I felt that I loved her, it was worth holding on and trying to make long distance work. Like I said, I don't love her. At least, not yet.\n\nShe is afraid of the time immediately following our inevitable break up. She doesn't want to be crying and sad her first few months of college, so she proposed the following: We start separating slowly. Try to stop our more intimate activities, and try to become friends again. She wants to revert back into friendship so by the time we have to leave for college, we aren't as emotionally attached to each other.\n\nI really fucking hate that idea because I want to be close to her for the next 4 months. I want to be that close to her, and I know for a fact that I won't be able to do \"friends\" again. I couldn't separate myself in that way that I could think of her any less romantically than I do now.\n\nIf she really wants to do this, then that means we are splitting up, unfortunately.\n\nI would rather see what becomes of this relationship. 4 months is a long time and I want to make the best of it, and not wonder what could have been. \n\nIf I learn at the end of 4 months that I don't love her, then I'd end it before college and deal with the emotions that come with it. I think that'd be better than wondering, but this is my first serious relationship, so I'm not certain about anything.\n\nPlease share your thoughts with me, because this has been running through my head for way too long.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are going to colleges 7 hours apart. Over the Summer, she wants to slowly start becoming friends again because she doesn't want to deal with the emotions of a break up right before she leaves for college. I know I won't be able to stop thinking of her romantically. It will leave me wondering what could have become of the relationship. Need other perspectives on the situation. Please read entire post."}
{"id": "t3_2wbmxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25/m] desperately trying to figure out if I should tell this girl [25/f] I like her", "post": "I've been talking to this girl who is a friend of a friend. She's funny, beautiful, kind, ambitious and I'm falling for her quite hard.\n\nWe've only met each other a handful of times, but we started texting increasingly often. Its hard to believe it only started around a month ago but its at the point where we're talking every day, from morning to night, and its really brightened up my life. We're going to hang out tonight and it'll be the first time we're alone. I'm going to be gauging the vibes and trying to see if it's a good idea at all to confess or to see if I can attempt to move on. \n\nI have a few first dates coming up after a long time but its hard to care about anything happening other than with her. I've been getting so self-conscious about what I have to offer her, I'm not feeling too desirable for several reasons at the moment. She seems to have overcome a lot of similar struggles and says she understands but at the moment all I have to offer her is just me. I know the right person will be okay with me, but that doesn't help me believe it'll be her. \n\nShe's an incredible person to talk to and I would be poorer for it if I scared her off. I smile all the time because we're talking and I feel like I may jeopardize that. The tension is killing me, I've never been this nervous about asking anyone out.", "summary": "I'm worried confessing will ruin the best part of my day."}
{"id": "t3_uip0t", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Today my little girl turned four and my mom reminded me how horrid she is. [rant]", "post": "Today is my daughter's fourth birthday. My mom promised her that this year she would spend the day with her and they would go to the zoo, Monkey Joe's, or Chuck E Cheese. My daughter went to bed early, \"so I can wake up sooner!\" she told me. After she went to bed, my mom called, all excited. \"Hey Bekahbv! I'm at the airport getting ready for my trip to Los Angeles! Wish me luck!\"\n\nShe hung up on me when I reminded her of her promise, saying, \"So now I'm a horrible grandma for missing ONE birthday!\" \n\nI dreaded this morning. I left a note for my husband explaining to him what happened. (He works third shift and can't carry his cell on him at work.) I went to bed, trying not to cry for my little girl. \n\nToday has been terrible. My daughter has been crying all day, since 6 AM. My sixteen year old has been trying to cheer her up She even went to the store with her dad, bought doughnuts, bananas and apples. (Ali's favorite foods) Ali just wanted her grandma.\n\nI know it's only 11 AM here, but I can't imagine this day could get any better for my baby girl. We are broke and were only able to get her one present and we couldn't afford a birthday party.", "summary": "My mom decided to go to Los Angeles the day before my daughter's birthday, after promising my birthday girl a day filled with fun and games."}
{"id": "t3_22htjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 9 months, I'm moving away. Should we stay together?", "post": "I'm on a year abroad to New Zealand as part of my university course. I met my girlfriend here. I have 3 months until I leave. This has became a bigger and bigger issue. \n\nShe has suggested that she can come on exchange to England for 3 months, this would be 3/4 months after I leave New Zealand. She currently has 2 and half year left of university and I have one. \n\nI don't know whether to try a long distance relationship. Also my girlfriend has to know decide about her exchange to England by June, so we need to decide in advance what will happen with our relationship before we leave. We can't just see how it goes.", "summary": "I don't know whether to continue this relationship into a long-distance relationship when it hasn't been great recently."}
{"id": "t3_2z3y6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [48F] want to move back home and travel and my[42M] husband doesn't want to", "post": "I've lived in this country for 8 years now and moved here to be with my husband. \n\nWe have no family or friends here and I am lonely and miss my kids and grandkids. I want to move to back to the US and he keeps putting me off saying he is afraid of the US.\n\nI feel like I am just sitting here wasting my life as we don't do anything. I haven't seen my kids in over 3 years. I don't understand why he won't try it. \n\nWe truly have no reason to stay here. To be honest, I want to try the digital nomad life for a few years too.  Not sure what to do.", "summary": "I want to move back home. Husband doesn't want to."}
{"id": "t3_ks9h7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your first kiss?", "post": "Or just any ol' memorable kiss. Romantic, awkward, beautiful... whatever it is, post it :P\n\nFirst, a short back story: I met this girl once and became super close to her. 3 years later we were absolute best friends. On and off we liked each other and one day she says that she pretty much trusted me with everything. Also, it's appropriate to say that i don't go around kissing people. I make absolute sure i want to kiss them before i do so there aren't many people out there that can honestly say i kissed them. I've dated people for a year and haven't kissed them... i guess I'm just a little old fashioned \n\nSo she was at me house and we were just hanging out and i decided \"hey, i think it would mean the world to her if i kissed her\". So were talking and i get SUPER nervous. She gave me a smile that's like \"what's going on?\" because i was a little shaky and stuff. I stood up, lightly put my palm on her cheek, leaned in, and kissed her her gently. Quickly and nervously i feel back into a chair behind me and my heart just started screaming and racing. She looked at me with these puppy eyes and she couldn't stop smiling. We both blushed like maniacs and couldn't stop.\n\nThe rest of her day was spent mumbling with tears and this big smile \"He trusts me, he really trusts me.\"\nTo this day It's one of my favorite memories. It's been 6 months after and we're even closer then that day.", "summary": "We kissed"}
{"id": "t3_3h4pwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] feel guilty for matching on tinder before a first date while drunk", "post": "I realize this probably sounds ridiculous but it's something I've been worrying about for the past day or two. I met this girl at a friends house, we talked she seemed cool. A few days later I asked her, Our first date is tomorrow. Long story short I went up to a friends mountain house for the week and got drunk a few nights. During this time I remember pulling my phone out and opening tinder but I decided to close it because of this date I have. Well anyway I wake up the next morning with a new match. I'm confused because I closed my phone before going through tinder, or i accidentally swiped, or maybe I forgot opening  it again. But now in some way I feel incredibly guilty now. It should be noted that I almost never message people on tinder, out of 40 matches I've only really talked to two, I mostly go on to see who I match with. (Also I have anxiety that manifests itself in the form of guilt fairly often so that's probably why this sounds crazy)", "summary": "feel guilty for tinder matching while drunk before a first date"}
{"id": "t3_3es0zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27 F) found condoms in my fianc\u00e9's (27 M) desk. We don't use them. Getting married in 54 days!", "post": "Yesterday I was looking for return address stickers in my fianc\u00e9's deck and I found condoms (specifically two 3packs each with one condom missing). I decided to ask him about it, and he said he bought them when we first got together. We only used condoms for the very beginning of our relationship (been together since 2010, and lived together since 2011). We have not used them in the last 4 years, as I got on the pill for us because he \"hated\" condoms. \n\nI looked up on Trojan's FAQs and it said that condoms are good for 4-5 years if kept properly, so these should be expired / about to expire\u2026 not be good until 02/2020 as printed on the box. It also looks like these were manufactured in 2015 if I am reading the box correctly. When I told him that he swore that's when he bought them, and only kept them around in case we needed them. \n\nNo other behavior leads me to believe he is cheating on me, but this whole condom thing is not adding up. We're getting married in less than 2 months. Help!", "summary": "\u2013 Found condoms in my fianc\u00e9's desk. He claims they were purchased when we started dating (back in 2010), but they don't expired until 2020 and appear to be manufactured in 2015."}
{"id": "t3_zuzka", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just found out I am likely getting discharged from the military, any advice for a soon-to-be unemployed?", "post": "Last week had the interesting sensation of being awake, but not being able to motivate my feet body to move, and after it happening twice talked to a few doctors, had some blood work done and am supposed to have a cmap test done after my next attack, but the only thing they could think of that fit my symptoms is Hypokalemic periodic paralysis. If everything comes back the way doctors think it will I will definitely be discharged, likely only with an administrative discharge (genetic disorder counts as pre-existing condition.)\nNo Idea where to even start planning my life now, planned to have almost 4 more years in the service and another few years of college to convince all my ducks to queue up properly, but instead looks like i'll be  finding a new town to live in, getting  a Mcjob and focusing on surviving for a while. Can't even think about going home at this point, my family would be understanding to an extent, but don't think I could deal with the look that I failed something that most of my family has made a career out of.", "summary": "Woke up one day and couldn't move, hilarity ensues. Getting separated from military once definite diagnosis comes back, looking at no job, no house, minimal savings, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_19p2bq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] am in a relationship with [24F] but think I am in love with my best friend's [26M] girlfriend [25F]", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, this may sound confusing to you, it's driving me razy\n\nI [23M] am pretty confused, I've been dating my girlfriend [24F] for over a year now and things have been going well, ups and downs as is usual in relationships. Recently my girlfriend (refered to as G from now) [24F] has slept with my best friend's girlfriend [25F] (refered to as T from now), both myself and my best friend [26M] were fine with this. I have known T for a few years now as well, my best friend was dating her for a while before, then they broke up for a while and are back together now for probably over 6 months or so. I've always been attracted to T but now more so, every time I think about her I get butterflies in my stomach and I have no idea what to do about the whole situation. I don't know if I should stay with G or if it isn't fair and I should end it and wait to see what happens. Any advice or thoughts would be great. Thank you.", "summary": "I have been dating someone for a over a year and am still in love with her but think I have feelings for my best friends girlfriend. Unsure about what to do."}
{"id": "t3_33n8l8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 35M with my 42F spouse of 15 years, she wants her the father of her son to stay at our house for 5 days for his graduation", "post": "Update: I told her yesterday that he could stay here.  Thanks for the feedback everyone.  I felt that my position basically came down to I don't want him to stay here because I don't want him to stay here.  If I can't come up with a good reason for it and it's for a special occasion for my stepson, I should just do what's best for him.  I bet it will be more uncomfortable in theory than in practice anyway.  Thanks also for the replies relating past experiences from the stepson's perspective.\n\nMy wife of 15 years has a 22 year old son from a previous relationship.  He is graduating college this month and his dad will be visiting him from another country for 5 days.  His dad travels a lot and has money for a hotel, yet my wife offered for him to sleep at my place without asking me first.  \n\nShe's brought up the topic 3 times and each time I've said no.  I don't think she'd do anything with him or anything like that, but I also don't want somebody who was in a relationship with her in the past, even the far past, sleeping at my house when there's no real reason for it.  Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Wife wants the father of her 22 year old child to stay at our house instead of getting a hotel, which he can afford.  Am I being unreasonable in saying absolutely not?"}
{"id": "t3_3jzuk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 2 years, I'm studying in Amsterdam and he's acting very jealous", "post": "So I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is in the UK and I am going back to the UK in a month. Currently I am doing an internship in Amsterdam. \n\nFor the first week, we were fine. We have done long distance quite a lot, Skyping every day. The first week I have been living with a host family my mother knows. I moved in to a hostel last night.\n\nThere are 8 people to a room in these hostels. There are 6 American guys in my room with me. They are all cool, around 25 years old. The night I arrived, they were very friendly and we all got very drunk together. I told them about my boyfriend and that I loved him so there were no false intentions and I drew the line.\n\nHowever, as soon as I told him I was staying with these Americans, he has completely shut down emotionally. He doesn't like the idea of me staying in a room with 6 American men by myself. He says he is getting jealous and he trusts me but sometimes the jealousy gets the better of him. And it's only because he loves me that he gets upset and jealous that he'll lose me. I have no intentions of cheating and I tell him I love him, want to spend the rest of my life with him but he keeps acting weird and neglecting me. \n\nIs this reasonable? Is there anything I can do to help his trust issues?", "summary": "Boyfriend has jealousy/trust issues because I am living with 6 men in Amsterdam"}
{"id": "t3_heimq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm thinking of applying for Pharmacy Technician position in San Antonio, TX", "post": "However, I wonder if it's worth it.\n\nApparently certification is obligatory in Texas, so in order to even apply for the job, you will need to be certified and registered prior to applying (at least that's what I was told by a Walgreens technician).\n\nLooking around I see books for $40 as a review for the test, $125 for the test, and a recurrent $40 every 2 years to maintain your registry status. Whilst the pay is around $9~$14 (I'm assuming you get $14 only if you have worked for a long period of time). Oh, and taking the test and getting registered seems to take almost if not over 2 months since you have to apply for the exam, take it, get results back, apply for registration, and then 2~3 weeks for it to be processed.\n\nThis makes me wonder if it's even worth the trouble.\n\nI graduated from a university and have a bachelor's degree in Biology with a sad 2.5 GPA which hinders my ability to find a job in my field (or I suppose I lack a good understanding of my field, I've only worked as a research assistant before and that was work-study).\n\nI thought of applying for a pharm tech position because I want to get a good understanding of what it entails to be a pharmacist from a hands on point of view. I considered the possibility of continuing my education (after accumulating some experience since with just the GPA will make me a laughing stock for the registrar office) in pharmacy, but question whether I am up for the job.\n\nDon't get me wrong though, I actually do need a job. 20k in student loans isn't easy to pay off without some dough. Granted, my parents paid off most of it already but now I get to pay my parents.\n\nI'm mostly hoping for advice, or you know, a job if you happen to have one laying around.\n\nI'm also looking at research assistant jobs (I've mostly worked with budding yeast) but haven't received any replies yet or the job postings require experience I don't have.", "summary": "Pharm Tech certificate required in TX, cost quite a bit, salary not much better than cashiers, is it worth it?  I fail at college.  I need a job. Cover letters suck."}
{"id": "t3_1h8cca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24m] Broke up 6 weeks ago. Back to feeling hopeless and lonely", "post": "I'm not sure the details of the breakup are relevant here. I felt like shit for the first 2 weeks or so then picked myself up. I'd been feeling great and doing more stuff for myself and with mates, going out etc.\n\nI was sick this week and off work until Wednesday. Since then, I'm back to feeling awful, lonely and hopeless and she's back to the front of my mind. I haven't been able to concentrate since I've been back at work and I don't know what to do with myself.\n\nAlso have a really strong urge to call her/see her and try to talk which I know is stupid.\n\nAdvice?", "summary": "broke up 6 weeks ago, felt like shit for ~2 weeks, picked myself up, felt great, got sick this week and am feeling horrid again."}
{"id": "t3_ttigs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Car accident advice.", "post": "I'm coming here to see if anyone would be willing to give me some advice on my chances of getting the person, who caused my recent car wreck, to pay for the damage to my car. So here's what happened. I was traveling about 30mph about 1 to 1 1/2 car lengths behind the person in front of me. As the driver in front of me was about to pass through our approaching intersection with a red light system, another car (the one who technically caused the accident) blew through his red light which caused the car in front of me to slam on his brakes which didn't give me enough time to stop so I rear ended him. The driver who ran the red light did not hit anyone so he kept on driving. There was no serious damage to the person I hit but my car has some damage to the bumper/hood but not internal damage that I can see.\n\nSo we called the cops, got a report, and they gave me a citation which I expected due to the rear end aspect. Here's the kicker. There was a witness who followed the driver which ran the red light and took down his license plate number. He gave all of that information to the police and gave me his contact information. He told me that he would testify on my behalf if I requested him to. \n\nThe reason I'm trying to find out is because I only have liability coverage on my insurance policy and since it's a rear end, the damage is considered my fault and probably not covered. What are my chances that I could hold the person who ran the red light responsible for my damages? Does having a witness help my chances or is this just a case of he said she said bs? I haven't gotten a quote on my damage yet so I don't know if it's worth the cost of having to lawyer up. If I had to make an educated guess I'd say around $1500-2000 worth of damage and labor. Is this something my insurance company should pursue? \n\nThanks in advance for any advice.", "summary": "Rear ended someone because another driver ran a red light. Have a witness and want to know if I can hold that driver responsible."}
{"id": "t3_v69aq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do salespeople do that you cannot stand?", "post": "I recently went into a salon with a Groupon that I paid for in advance. After I had my hair cut, I was sent to the register to pay my bill. The girl at the register rings me up, takes my Groupon then asks if I like the products used in my hair. I told her I did and she started showing me the products on the shelves, grabs one and asks if she should ring it up for me. I gracefully declined as even though I made myself get my hair cut, I still am a broke college student. She wouldn't take no for an answer. She went on about how I am ruining my hair by not using their products and that it is a worthwhile investment. I again reminded her that it is not my lack of desire for the product that stops me, but my lack of money. She continues. We went back and forth for a while until I couldn't stand it anymore, it took me raising my voice and saying, \"MONEY, I don't have it\" before I could leave the tip for my stylist and walk out of there. \n\nSalespeople, do not milk my money udders, they are empty.", "summary": "Want to buy? I'd love to, but I just don't have the money right now. But is amazing, want buy? Sorry, not now. Plz want buy? NO. Want buy? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO."}
{"id": "t3_1yrhar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone offer advice / suggestions / direction on the purchase of an older used Kirby vacuum?", "post": "My parents had the Heritage II when I was a kid and I remember there being a lot of tools (drill, dremel, grinder, etc) with it.  Are these tools interchangeable across models -- i.e. will the \"handi-butler\" from a Classic work with a Legend?\n\nHow do older ones like the Heritage (or the Legend) hold up?  Are there models that tended to be a bit more solid and/or models that tended to be lemons?\n\nHow about newer ones with the self-propelled features (generation 3 and up, I believe)?  I often see whole setups for less than $150 and I was thinking about buying one instead of a POST plastic crapvac for about the same price.\n\nWhat maintenance items will I be looking at? Reasonable to believe I could probably handle it myself?\n\nI know all the attachments are interchangeable amoung the G3 and later ones, but how about earlier ones (legend and heritage specifically)?\n\nAnything you can tell me about these machines -- or any resources you can direct me to -- please do.  Since most of the problems I see with the used Kirbys seem to involve the self-propelled parts, I'm of the mind that I'd like to avoid that altogether and just buy something pre-G3, like a heritage, legend, or classic. I see these all the time for $20-$100.  I'm no expert, so if this is a dumb idea please tell me.  Thanks...", "summary": "Thinking about buying a used kirby, please give me some advice."}
{"id": "t3_3ovh67", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How motivation changes.", "post": "I wanted to tell my story of motivation so far, and maybe it will help some folks who aren't sure what/where their motivation comes from.\n\nA few months ago, I had someone I loved very much go away. My heart was broken. Our situations were the cause, so it wasn't something that either would have chosen if they were different. This set something off in my brain. This is when I started my weight loss journey. At first, it was the only thing that distracted from my broken heart. As time went on, I also questioned if my motivation to lose weight was JUST because of this. \nRecently, I was able to reconnect with her. It is nothing like it was, but it's what I desperately wanted that whole time. But today, I had a realization that my weight loss path and the road to a healthier version is more important to me now. I still want to reconnect with that person, but I know now, I am only getting healthy for myself. It was a great feeling. I know I will keep going with or without them in my life. She was the catalyst to start, but not the fuel to keep going. I found that in myself.", "summary": "If you have doubts about your motivations, sometimes the spark that caused the change doesn't matter. It's what fuels you along the path that matters. Find your fuel and trust in it."}
{"id": "t3_3gd9z5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) girlfriend (21F) is staying with me and she never does anything", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for four years. We started dating in high school and have been long distance for college since then. She came back to our hometown for the summer and has been living with me in my parents' house. How she acts is starting to annoy me. She was working almost full time when the summer started but then she chose to cut her hours down to about 15 a week because it was too stressful. She works evenings so she spends all day in bed. I don't like to stay in my room so when I come home from work I play video games in the living room. I go to say hi and she gets mad I leave the light on. When I go to bed, she's sitting up on her ipad and she stays on it until 4 or 5 in the morning until I wake up for work. She was exercising a lot when she was away but now that she's here she never wants to go. I try to get her to go with me and my friends but she gets mad when I work out with them instead of her. She always says she wants to hang out but doesn't want to do things I want to do like walk around the mall or anything that requires leaving the bedroom. She also always has a cup in the room even though I asked her not to.\n\nShe's leaving to go back soon and I'm actually a little relieved. We are supposed to move in together at the end of this year and this summer was supposed to be a trial run but now I'm not sure. But was this really how things would be with us? Won't it be different if she's working and out of the house more and we're not at my parents' house? What can I do to encourage her to do other things for the next few weeks that she is here?", "summary": "What should I do about my girlfriend not doing anything?"}
{"id": "t3_13uqih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F24) think my best friend likes my boyfriend (M24) and I don't know what to do", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 24 and have been together now for almost a year.  Recently, I noticed that my best friend acts a little different around my boyfriend.  At first, I didn't think much of it but after I put everything together, I've come to the conclusion that she's majorly crushing on him.\n\nFirst of all, I ALWAYS catch her staring at him.  I've stopped inviting her over to hot tub with us because the second my boyfriend takes his shirt off, she can't seem to stop from staring.  She also gets that nervous laugh when he's around.  Like she'll laugh at every little thing he says and tries to be all cutesy.  Grrr.\n\nThis weekend, I had a party at my house so both my best friend and boyfriend were there.  My boyfriend hadn't been feeling well all weekend so he decided to head to bed early.  So he goes upstairs to my room to sleep and not even five minutes later, my best friend's asking where he is.  I told her he went upstairs, that's when she said, \"Ugh!  He never told me good night!\"  So she marches upstairs to my room to tell him good night.  10 minutes later, she comes back downstairs and says, \"I tucked him in.. he's so cute.  Hehehe.\"  At this point, I just roll my eyes and try to blow it off but it's still really bothering me.  \n\nSo I don't know what to do.  How do you talk to your supposed BEST FRIEND about crushing on your boyfriend?", "summary": "My best friend's being inappropriate around my boyfriend (M24) and I (F24) don't know how to talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_1qgj03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28M] roommate hit on me [25F], I turned him down, but things are awkward now...", "post": "On Thursday night my roommate (who is extremely attractive) and I were sitting on the couch drinking and watching TV - not unusual.  He started to come closer towards me, which I thought nothing of, and then put his arm around me and started moving in closer.  I wish I could say I was in the right mind and moved away from him, but I was drunk too and, as I said, I find him extremely attractive.  In a moment of clarity (before anything could happen) I looked at him and told him this was probably a huge mistake - we still have six months on our lease - and someone may end up getting hurt if we let anything happen between us.  It was hard for me, due to how much I genuinely like him as a person and how attractive I find him, but I think I made the right decision.\n\nThings have been slightly awkward since, and as much as I am trying to forget about it, I can't stop thinking about him - we are great friends and get along so brilliantly.  I am about 3 months out of a long relationship and never expected something like this to happen with him.  I guess my question is...do I say something to him about what happened or should I just ignore what happened and try to forget?", "summary": "My roommate and I are attracted to each other, and he made a move, which I (begrudgingly) turned down.  Do I ignore it or say something to him?"}
{"id": "t3_2cae4w", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Toddler Plane Trips, Whiskey, Benadryl, Covering the Mouth", "post": "I'm a single dad who is taking is 2 year old on his first flight - four/five hours, non-stop. I've been reading up on tips, tricks, and tracking down other parents (plus some flight attendant friends) for advice.\n\nSo here's what I'm bringing:\n\n- iPad with games (plus headphones)\n- Blanket\n- Stuffed Bear\n- Juice\n- Snacks\n- New Hot Wheels car\n\nI've been told by a few parents that a ground-up Benadryl in the juice will knock him out for the flight. I was all set to do that, when I started reading horror stories from other parents about it making the kids hyperactive instead. \n\nThen I thought - why not just make a \"knock-out\" tea of chamomile, honey, and a dropperful of whiskey? I've tried to test it out on him for the last two nights, but no matter how I make it, he doesn't seem to want to drink it (and then I do, because it's delicious). \n\nI'm not sure what else to do. Part of me is really concerned that he's going to scream non-stop, and the passengers will rise up en mass and murder me for being such a terrible dad. The other part of me is all like \"ya'll can suck it, it's just a few hours and we'll be done.\"\n\nA compromise that I can't bring myself to do is cover his mouth while he's screaming. I've tried it before, and I'm suddenly keenly aware of the fact that it looks like I'm killing him. I certainly don't want people to see me apparently smothering a screaming child while I'm looking around yelling \"I'M DOING THIS FOR ALL OF YOU! EVERYONE! I'M SO SORRY!!\"\n\nOr maybe I'm just overthinking things. Does anyone have any stories of two year olds who just have a wonderful and easy time with airplanes? Please?", "summary": "One of the better outcomes, and no drugs involved."}
{"id": "t3_zban2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Where should 16m ask a 16f to go on a first hangout/study/date?", "post": "Hey guys. There is a girl in one of my college classes (early college so we are 16/17, basically juniors in high school, mixed in with normal college students) and she is very cute. I want to ask her out. My plan is to introduce myself in the library (we both seem to hang out there after and in between classes) Then talk about class and stuff... Then leave with an invitation to go out somewhere and hopefully her number but where to go... Neither of us can drive but there is a cafe on campus but it kinda sucks (always full and nothing good to eat) Would it be ok to ask her to go on a short walk (about 10-15 mins off campus, possibly during our 2 hour break) to get coffee/doughnuts(at dunkin doughnuts). Also should I disguise it as a study time instead of directly using the word date? The only issue with this plan is the class that we share (that I know of she may have other classes that I have just at different times) is really easy (world religions) and doesn't really require and studying.", "summary": "I like a girl at my school. Open campus but neither of us can drive. Would a 10-15 min walk (in Florida heat) be ok to go get coffee?"}
{"id": "t3_3l9jdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am having doubts about my boyfriend [26M] of 3 yrs and don't know what to do!", "post": "I created this throwaway because idk what to do or who to talk to. I have been dating John for over 3 years, we have been long distance since the end of the first year. It has been going ok so far but now that I am out of school and have more time for myself it has been super hard. \n\nHe isn't super affectionate either. He is better in person but not the best communicator. He is also more and more insecure as time goes by. I only have male co workers and friends and it is getting to the point where I feel guilty hanging out with my friends. I know he doesn't mean to make me feel that way but he does. Basically, I feel guilty because he just moved and hasn't made a lot of friends at his new job. His texts are completely different when I tell him I am going to go hang out with my friends. He seems sad and says things like \"well I guess I'll talk to you later then\" or  if I am going out to something that will run late it'll be \" I guess I won't talk to you until the morning\". It's like I am suddenly talking to Eeyore. \n\nI honestly don't know how I feel. Sometimes I feel like the happiest person ever because I am dating my best friend and sometimes I feel like I am with John because I don't want to hurt him. I am honestly afraid I will cheat on him in a weak moment and feel awful about it. \n\nI think part of the reason I feel this way is because I never have really been single since I was in high school. I just went from bf to bf. Maybe I am falling for the \"the grass is always greener\" mistake but maybe I am just sticking with him because of guilt and convenience. We have the same phone plan and spend money to visit each other regularly. \n\nI just need advice on what to do to help me realize what is going on.", "summary": "I'm Tigger and an in an LDR with Eeyore."}
{"id": "t3_4p0b8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my SO [37 M/F] 9 months. I am ready to take the next step, now what?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We get along great, never had a fight, we both travel a lot for our jobs, we trust each other and make the best of our time together. When we are both in town, we usually cook dinner at my place, watch T.V. or a movie, and get to bed early so we can wake up and get our day started and get to work. \n\nWe have, as i said above, been together for 9 months. I am ready to move forward with him and ask him to move in. I think he is the one guy I am suppose to end up with. However, we both have a jaded past when it comes to living with an ex. We both had very bad experiences and I fear when I ask him to move in, he will absolutely say NO because of the past. I am able to let my past go, but I fear he is not quite ready for this step. \n\nI know every relationship is different and to judge on what I think is best, but I am just looking for a little guidance on bringing it up without the negative past coming into play.", "summary": "I am ready to ask my boyfriend to move in with me, how do I bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_1g8qca", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Registry etiquette question-help!", "post": "So my fiance and I are getting married in four months, but we have yet to put together a registry. We've been living together for about 2 years, and we need more household stuff like we need punched in the face. \n\nOur original idea was to ask solely for Lowe's gift cards to help us replace the elderly, crappy carpet in our house with laminate. However, it's always been a dream of ours to own a chunk of land and build so we could have our space and solitude. The problem is, in our area, parcels large enough to interest us typically only come up in areas too far out for us to commute or are ridiculously expensive. \n\nWe recently found a 14 acre plot in the area we want to live in for an incredible price, but it would necessitate that we refinance, sell, and then live like broke college kids in a mobile home on the site while we build. Though tight, it's financially doable, but there's no point putting in new floors in our current house if we're going to sell soon. We're talking about skipping the honeymoon to invest that money into realizing our dream, and I'm wondering if there's any polite way to ask for gifts of cash for the wedding rather than physical gifts or gift cards to help us make this happen, or if it's beyond tacky.", "summary": "is asking for money in lieu of gifts a total faux pas?"}
{"id": "t3_27xc81", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I tell my boyfriend I don't want to tag along on his vacation? [23F, 28M]", "post": "My boyfriend is gone for work a lot. Probably at least 20 days a month. The rest of the time we usually spend together, but this summer he decided to turn one of his business trips into an extra-long vacation. So we will see each other 8 days this summer, by his choice.\n\nHe planned this out and booked it without mentioning it to me. He only brought it up when plans were solidified, about a month before, and said I can \"tag along if I feel like it\". When I protested, he said it was \"necessary\" (only the business portion of it) and got defensive.\n\nI do not want to \"tag along\". I wish he had talked about this with me and planned it better, and I feel like I am being left out of something big (the only extended period of time he's had off). I'm a bit offended that he is making me do all the work, I feel like if he really wanted me to come he would have opened a dialogue for us to plan this *together*.\n\nOn top of that, I don't feel like planning my own vacation just to crash his plans.\n\nIs this a reasonable stance? I got quite upset when he told me he was going, and I think that when I say I don't plan on coming he will think I'm being petty. The thing is, he doesn't seem very concerned if I come or not and being together only 8 days in 3 months is a big deal. Especially considering his other work travel through the year.", "summary": "Boyfriend planned a long vacation without me, invited me to \"tag along if I felt like it\". Upset that he doesn't seem to mind being apart for so long and not really interested in being the only person to put in any effort to see each other. I wish he would have talked this out with me so it would be beneficial to us both. How do I decline?"}
{"id": "t3_2auxe9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not looking at what shorts i put on in the morning", "post": "I know this is nothing major but anyways. \n\nSo yeah basically i had my \"girlfriend\" over last night and after watching a movie there was some grinding action going on when i still had my pants on and she didnt so my pants may or may not have gotten a bit messy.           \neverything went well etc and thats not the fuckup. but apparently in the morning i didnt even think of it and put the same damn pants on and went to eat breakfast with my family (i had dropped the girl home a few hours earlier and gone back to sleep) and didnt realize they had a huge stain on my crotch area. and it was obvious. i didnt realize it until i finished eating and looked down a bit and there it was. i quickly scurried away and tried not to make it so obvious to everyone.", "summary": "had a girl over, grinding ensues with pants on, put same pants on morning for the whole family to see"}
{"id": "t3_12pwr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24f]Am I wrong for bringing up the past when an ex tries to be friends and pretend like its a clean slate?[24m]", "post": "Am I a bitch for telling him i want nothing to do with him? Why i let go - he (24m) never really understood me (24f) and saw me as the perfect gf and after we broke up bc of trust issues he could not talk to me about the real issues (the lies he told me, communication issues, incompatible goals and personalities)...\n\nNothing i was saying was affecting him! he kept trying to chalk it up to circumstances. I was very patient but eventually i realized we should not be friends and told him to leave me alone for good. \n\nHis friends were telling me he was getting emo about me and even though he started to date someone else, he was lying to her too.\n\n1.5 years later I thought we would have a proper adult convo and get closure but he is still trying to blame game, saying that i didnt care about his goals or dreams, etc. \n\nI was doing my best to be objective and try to see it from his side, but after all that time i spent explaining to him he still wouldnt accept responsibility for degrading all my trust i had for him which is common thing that makes people stop caring about each others futures together.\n\nWhat can I do or say to help him move on? I dont want to feel guilty for bringing up the horrid past but every time i try to be honest i end up sounding cruel or emotionless (like telling him to stop running from the past and taking resp. for his actions and their consequences). \n\nHe already apologized but i get angry when he acts like everything is forgotten and that i will see him in a NEW light. I have a hard time being fake nice and sympathetic to someone who wont talk bluntly to me - I get annoyed with casual formalities bc I still see all his actions as FAKE and incongruent with reality.", "summary": "ex was trying to be very nice and start over, not talk about the past but I cant be fake nice and act like we just met for the first time again. I still see him as a liar and a phony."}
{"id": "t3_36tj3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] into a guy [26M] I met travelling - do I send him his Christmas present?", "post": "Met a guy when I was travelling, and we got along really well - spent a few days together doing the fun things and getting to know each other. I mentioned I was orphaned for Christmas and he invited me to his, so I got him a little something (DVDs), but then Christmas never happened - change of plans, and then I went travelling again.\n\nI've since returned and still have his present. We don't really message anymore - jut every so often with a \"Hey, how's life?\", but I don't have any use for the DVDs as I can't play them on my computer, and don't have a DVD player, and thought it might be a cute way to get in touch again. Thoughts?", "summary": "Met a guy - got him DVDs I can't use - should I send them?"}
{"id": "t3_53ke3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] am scared that my SO [19 M] might be cheating...", "post": "So my boyfriend (19/M) and I (18/F) have been dating for about 2 or 3 months now but I have a gut feeling that something isn't right. Sometimes when we're laying down in bed or driving in the car and he gets a text he'll turn his phone screen to make sure that I can't see it. When he sets his phone down the screen is always facing down and if I pick up his phone even to just move it he freaks out. We had one really bad fight and he left me crying outside, since then we've talked and everything seems to be okay but he still hides his phone and now will take hours to text back and often tries to cancel hanging out. Am I over thinking it or could he be up to something?", "summary": "My boyfriend hides his phone, freaks out if I even touch it, and often tries to cancel plans. Could he be cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_mqxxh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think Cogeco is scamming my dad.", "post": "My dad tells me that we have the Ultimate 50 plan with 50mbs/250gb bandwidth and that he even upgraded it to 100mbs. He's currently paying ALOT of money (165$ a month) for internet. We have five computers in our house.\n\nHere's the problem: \n\n1 )I don't believe there's an option to upgrade to 100mbs... \n\n2 )Also, the internet is ridiculously slow. Even when I'm the only one on the computer in the household, I've check bandwidth speed tests and have got 5-9mbs(download) and 1.5-1.8mbs(upload).\n\nCan anyone tell me if I'm right in being concerned? \n\nAlso, are bandwidth speed tests accurate? \n\nI mean, we've called Cogeco and when my dad (knows nothing of computers) said our speed doesn't seem much faster, they said it is, but you may not notice it.\n\n If I'm the only one online shouldn't speed be breaking 50mbs easily?", "summary": "Dad paying $165/month for 100mbs internet; still really slow."}
{"id": "t3_24ex3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Crush [26f] on boss [31m]", "post": "Almost a year ago I moved to a new location within my company. I instantly clicked with a supervisor. We goofed around a lot then all of the sudden he became cold to me. I continued to work with him when I absolutely had to. Though I was still swooning over him. \nEven though he was distant and sometimes rude I could not shake off my feeling for him. I knew he was only like that towards me and the times he was being the real him we had a blast. \nIt would be against company policy for him to be with me. He's on his way up in the company and he's very by the book. Meanwhile I'm just using this job to pay my way through school. \nLast December he switched management positions and is now someone I report directly to. We have come into a good work relationship. \nWe get along great and he's been a huge inspiration for me trying to be a better person. \nSometimes I can catch a glimmer of pain in his eyes when he looks at me. I feel like maybe it's harder for him to say no. \nI don't want to quit my job because it pays my bills and school tuition. I can't transfer since there are no stores near me. \nI can try to stick it out till I get into my school program. I won't be able to work then. \nWhat should I do?", "summary": "I am in love with my boss now a year"}
{"id": "t3_1zl3nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, [17/M] has no idea how to flirt/date/ask out a girl who likes me [16/F]", "post": "Alright, so there's this girl I met this year in chemistry, she's a year younger than me (junior in HS) but *definitely* likes me and I kind of like her back. Problem is, I have zero dating experience and have no idea how to \"flirt\" beyond the small talk we're having in class (in chemistry) or whatever else we're talking about.\n\nLike, no clue whatsoever. I'm not sure if she knows I like her, and I'm afraid if I just ask her out of the blue if she wants to go on a date she'll see it as waaaay too forward. So what can I do to be sure of whether she likes me or not? Or should I just ask her out to dinner or something?\n\nAgain, no experience on flirting or dating or anything. Halp!\n\nALSO: I don't really see her alone, it's pretty much always in class, with people hanging out, or in the hallway. So unless I ask her out I can't really talk to her alone I think.", "summary": "Think a girl likes me, I like her back, no idea how to ask her out or gauge if she actually does like me, stuck doing small talk still."}
{"id": "t3_3bcszl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19m Advice for hooking up with friend's ex-girlfriend of five years..", "post": "So I am a 19 year old in college with limited experience in dating girls. I recently found out that my friend's girlfriend (who I will call B),of five years broke up with him 2 weeks ago. In the past they have broken up for short periods of time and have always got back together so it is an on and off type of relationship. It is important to note that my friend has previously cheated on her by having sex with other girls. Furthermore we are not bestfriends and i have only known him for a year with a friendship of about six months through mutual friends. Last night I randomly ran into his ex-girlfriend at a bar. B was with an older friend of hers and as the night went on her friend pulled me aside. During this conversation she told me that B had spoken highly of me to her saying that I would be perfect for her and expressing obvious interest in me. In the past when I have talked to her she has complimented me on my looks and once claimed that she herself would date me. Now that I know her true feelings for me I am stuck between going behind my friend's back to hook up with and possibly date his ex-girlfriend.. Consequences of hooking up with her would obviously be losing a cool friend as well as close friend who is a mutual friend of his. I would also receive negative backlash from our circle of friends but nothing that I don't think I can handle. Is it worth it?", "summary": "friend's ex-girlfriend is interested in me, not sure if giving in to her interests is worth the consequences."}
{"id": "t3_1cq2ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't seem to get out of relationship [FM 20s]", "post": "Been with SO for two years. We work together and I want out, but everytime I try, SO freaks out, cries, gets angry, so I end up feeling awful and agreeing to keep on keeping on. Why does anyone want to be with someone they know is miserable? Why am I so weak?\n\nI've heard it's best to end it before it goes on too long, but sometimes going on is just what happens to the young and inexperienced like myself. I know I am making a mistake. I just can't help but not want to cause pain.\n\nAlso, I know that SO might badmouth me, have angry outbursts at me, and try to destroy me at work. So there's that. Sometimes I have terrible thoughts about getting out without having to deal with my SO. Thoughts like making myself.... disappear forever. It's just so much easier said than done to \"just break up.\" I can't believe I let it get this far. SO thinks we're fine and dandy. I'm not.\n\nI wish they'd just let me go. Calmly, quietly, lovingly. Just let go. Help?", "summary": "Want to end it with SO, but I am too weak/scared to do it, much less stick with it when I try to."}
{"id": "t3_53ygg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] with exGf[18f] would like to try and win her back", "post": "So I know the typical advice on here is just to give up and move on, I get that.\n\nBut I want to try and win her back, she broke up with me 5 months ago and I still miss her as much as when she first ended it.\n\nShe said she wants to try and remain friends, which I figure if I do and prove ive changed gives me the best chance of possibly getting back together in the future.\n\nShe is currently \"seeing\" someone but she's told me she doesn't even know what it is, I'm bothered by it but who wouldn't be.\n\nIf we do stay as friends and after a few months I still feel the same, should I speak to her about it? Provided she isn't with someone else because that isn't fair. Or should I still speak about it anyway?", "summary": "want to win my girlfriend back, she wants to stay friends at the moment"}
{"id": "t3_3faz70", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "I unknowingly took my dosage too early...", "post": "I'm taking Cephalexin 500mg for every 6 hours (it says 4 times a day). However, since I had to wake up early in the morning to take a regular dosage,   I had no recollection of taking it at all when I woke up later. I was so sure I didn't take it, so I took another dosage. After counting my pills, it seems that I actually DID take a dosage early in the morning..so I pretty much took a following dosage 3.5 hours after the previous one. Is this bad? I've been regularly doing 6 hours apart. Will this damage my liver?", "summary": "Supposed to take Cephalexin 500mg 6 hours apart, and I took a following dosage after 3.5 hours. Will this do any damage to my liver or is there any concern?"}
{"id": "t3_2g8vgf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my BF [23M] of 10 months, he wants other women (advice from men, please!)", "post": "If you really love your girlfriend, do you want to have sex with other people? \n\nMy boyfriend admitted to me that longterm monogamy scares him (to the best of my knowledge, all of his previous relationships were monogamous) and that he'd like to have 'something on the side' once a year or so, because novelty is appealing. \n\nI'm a biology nerd and love makes the male brain release vasopressin, which in turn makes a man want to be loyal to his mate. Since the desire to be loyal seems to be lacking, I wonder whether the love is, too. I'm not saying that he would cheat on me - he's a good guy and I trust him completely. But he wants me to sanction him sleeping with other women (a small fraction of the time, but still). \n\nI said that a FFM threesome once a year would be okay, because that would hurt way less than him being with someone else intimately alone and I think I can handle it. \n\nBut I'm starting to have doubts now, because I think that if we're in this really long term (ie: forever) it wouldn't work long-term. I think I might get really jealous and butthurt and that would destroy our relationship. And I really, really love this guy so that would beyond suck.\n\nBut basically I want to know from you guys (the men):", "summary": "If you really love your girlfriend a lot, would you still want other women, too (assuming you've always been in monogamous relationships - this isn't a question for swingers)? Would she not be enough?"}
{"id": "t3_244b1n", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Does 1 'bad' Puppy ruin a Litter ??? (X-Post /r/GreatDanes)", "post": "I have been researching endlessly for almost 6 months before deciding on getting a great dane.\n\nI am in the vancouver bc area and have found a selection of breeders within BC Alberta and Washington. Ive contacted many breeders and found a few that I feel comfortable with and are having a litter of puppies ready for june/july\n\nWe have been looking at a litter of harlequins after seeing them at a local show but am worried by some possible red flags.\n\nThe litter had 7 puppies, 4 with the traditional spotting and 3 almost fully white. The breeder is waiting to have the ears/eyes and other issues that are common with white danes before commiting to any sort of sale. \n\nThis seems like a responsible thing to do however,\nShould I be nervous of these imperfections within the litter? is this any sort of indicator on possible genetic flaws I may be paying for in the future?\n\nAny help is much appreciated, and feel free to ask any questions.", "summary": "Buying a great dane puppy, one is pure white and potentially deaf, does this have any effect on the rest of the litter or reflect the quality of the breeder?"}
{"id": "t3_4huxfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] frustrated with with my wife [36 F] of 3 years for always speaking a different language", "post": "My wife is bilingual, and is very committed to teaching our two year old her native language.  I have always supported that, even though I don't speak the language myself.  (I would love to learn, but I am very language challenged.  I didn't start talking until I was almost 3, I spent years in speech therapy, etc...).\n\nFrustration #1 is my wife doesn't understand that language is difficult for me.  I've tried to explain, but she just doesn't get it.  I haven't told her directly I am never going to learn her language, because I expect she would be offended by that and get overly emotional about it (which she has a habit of doing).\n\nFrustration #2 is she virtually doesn't speak English around the child, even when I'm present.  I end up giving her a lot of alone time with our daughter, and I hope she will switch to English when I'm around.  I have tried to explain that I feel left out when she doesn't speak English, and it is not \"family time\" if she's speaking a different language.  But she gets offended that I'm taking away her teaching time.  (We both work full time, and our daughter is in daycare, so her English is much more advanced).\n\nFrustration #3 is when her parents visit, she pressures them into always using the native tongue.  So I end up feeling even more left out. \n\nHow can I (delicately) get across to her that I am not going to learn her language, and that for me to enjoy \"family time\" she needs to use English?  Or should I wait it out until our daughter is more proficient in both languages?  I am already thinking about teaching our daughter to only speak English around other English speakers, and to use a different language is rude.", "summary": "My wife prioritizes teaching our daughter a second language over including me in family time."}
{"id": "t3_2wuvpi", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Dishwashing job at 17 years old.", "post": "I've had this job for over three months now, and at first I did not like it since I started at 4:00 pm and powered through towers of dishes and other misc items all the way to 11pm or even 12 somedays. I only went to work on Saturdays while taking high school classes on Wednesdays. I already graduated a month ago and was planning on quitting but instead I decided to hold it in for a couple more months. Last week I received training to make pizza during the week. The only problem is that the workers there speak Spanish and I can't really understand instructions in Spanish. There is one worker that speaks English but he only comes one day during the week. They told me that I will be working alone next week but I don't feel ready at all, since I only received around 1 hour of instruction over the period of 5 days. Also, yesterday, I got off at work from the dishwasher position at 1am in the morning since the dishwasher before me left a huge fucking mess. I didn't get a break since I could not afford to take it, if I did, the pile of work would have accumulated since none covers for me while I'm gone and I would have probably got off from work even later. So basically 4pm to 1am with no break. I honestly just want to quit but my parents tell me that I should just hold it in and wait to see what happens. I don't know when my first day of making pizzas is but I do not feel ready at all. Can the managers actually leave me alone if I did not receive proper training? I feel so conflicted and frustrated, I honestly don't know what to do right now. One part of me says to stay and just face whatever is ahead. The other part wants to quit and give a 2 week notice for the dishwasher position only since they did not train me well enough to work make pizzas by myself. Man, my entire body still aches from work and I cannot sleep because of work-related stress.", "summary": "Dishwashing job, 8-9 hours no break"}
{"id": "t3_2rwrz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my [33M] duration 6 months, started communication out of the blue", "post": "By BF (Damon) and I broke up 6 months ago after a night out, we had an argument, then I said I didn't think that I was a priority for him and perhaps we should just stop seeing each other.  IT was unexpected.  Damon completely cut me off treating me with disdain, no contact whatsoever, wouldn't talk about what happened etc., didn't want to discuss anything.  His priority was/is his career.  \n\nI was hurt by the lack of contact and felt like he just wanted to wipe all memory of me from his life.  Then on NYE I received a message from Damon, totally out of the blue.  It was a generic message - hope you're well, this is what I'm doing now etc. \n\nWhy?  It's stirred up feelings that I have for him that I still haven't dealt with.  I feel like we really could have worked, but sadly didn't.  Why contact me now?  What's the point?", "summary": "Relationship ended suddenly 6 months ago, he messages out of the blue. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3oe7dx", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Injury and training questions from a recovering idiot.", "post": "Hello all, and thanks in advance. So, I have been an athlete my whole life, started competitive soccer and other sports when I was 5 (27 now), and have always considered myself physically fit. About 4 years ago, I moved to Hawaii and basically became a beach potato with almost no consistent physical activity for the first time in my life. A year and a half ago, I had a baby with my fiance, moved back to the Mainland, and decided I needed to get my life on track for the benefit of my child (now children). So I quit smoking tobacco and signed up for a half marathon. I was doing my best to follow a training program I found on Garmin Connect, but about 8 weeks into the training I started pushing too hard, running too many miles too fast, a classic rookie maneuver, I know, but it felt so good to build strength in my body and I began to rely on the peaceful solace I found running alone, away from the chaos of raising now 2 small children. Anyway, after a nice long run, a hot shower and a nap, I squatted slightly to pick up my son, and I felt a *pop* in my 2nd toe on my left foot. It swelled immediately, and was painful to walk on, let alone run, for (the past) 6-7 weeks, and although MUCH improved this past 2 weeks, I still feel it occasionally. I did some research and I think it may be either Metatarsalgia or Capsulitis, the symptoms match both somewhat. So my questions are these: would it be stupid to try and run again before the symptoms completely dissipate? and when I do start running again, what mileage is safe? Should I start with a c25k (really don't want to be re-injured)? I was running 5-6 miles 4 days a week, with a long run about 8 miles, again, from not running in years in about an 8-10 week span.\nThanks for the help, and all the inspiration and motivation! (longtime lurker here)", "summary": "How long should I spend recovering from a toe tendon injury, and how many miles should be my starting base, for a first-time half-marathoner, long-time athlete?"}
{"id": "t3_p7tmz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We've all shit ourselves before, if it be as an adolescent or as an adult. What's your shittiest story?", "post": "When I was in middle school, I tagged along with my mother to attend my older brother's high school basketball game. During the game I started to get excruciating pains throughout my stomach, and I visited the bathroom three times to shit, and to no prevail. The pain eased off, and at halftime I told my mom I was going to walk home because I could feel it coming on again.\n\nLittle did I know, there would be no walking. I started to sprint from the high school to my house (mind you it was in the middle of winter and snow was on the ground). I took a shortcut through these little woods near the railroad tracks, and while sprinting, I shit everywhere. I was wearing an all swishy outfit so the shit was literally dripping all down my legs but this did not stop me from running. When I got home, I got naked on my back porch and stuffed the swishy outfit inside a trash bag. The shower immediately following was the most satisfying shower once the leftover feces drained. The worst part about it was, I was only two blocks away from my house before the eruption.", "summary": "In the middle of winter, I shit myself while running home from my brother's high school basketball game."}
{"id": "t3_2qa0m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] started dating her [21/F] a week ago, but it doesn't feel like a relationship.", "post": "We actually started talking about a month ago, and we get along great. We've been on three dates since, and we started dating last Thursday. Thing is, it doesn't feel like we are dating. Our texting is bland and we sometimes go a while without communicating.\n\nWhat I want to know is how can I be more interesting and get closer to her? We're dating, but it still feels as if we're just friends. Should I not text her as much and try to do more things in person? Where do I go from here?\n\nSorry, I'm new the the whole dating thing.", "summary": "How can I get closer to this girl? Feels like we are still friends."}
{"id": "t3_cbnuo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I say?", "post": "Basically, I can't have a conversation with the girl I have immense feelings for because I'm afraid of rejection. I also have no idea what to talk about with her. I think to myself \"She probably won't care at all about whatever I say so why bother trying?\" \n\nI had a scenario today where it was me and her all alone pretty much cleaning up a mess and we didn't say a word to each other other than to pass the soap or whatever. It was awkward for me and I feel as if I should have made conversation but I don't know what to talk about at all. \n\nI will be seeing her tomorrow also so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "What do I say to make conversation to take my mind off the fact the most amazing girl is right in front of me?"}
{"id": "t3_2vvf48", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going \"Downtown\"", "post": "So this happened few hours ago. My wife and I decided to celebrate Valentine's a day early seeing as I have family coming in today from out of town. So she decides she really wants to go to the Chinese buffet, I told her we could easily go some where romantic but no she wants Chinese  buffet, so I agree. We go and eat our little hearts out, we get home and after a while she tells me to put the baby down for the night while she gets out of her dress and what not. So I do, when I walk in the room she was all sexy'd up in lingerie, awesome! So we start getting frisky just mostly foreplay when I start to go down on her. Everything is going great, I can feel she's getting close to finishing. Then she says \" stop,stop,stop\" but before I can lift my head up, here it comes. I thought she was about to squirt or something but no. She rips the biggest, ugliest, stinkies wet fart I've ever heard come out of her right in my open mouth 2 inches away. I immediately recoil to the other side of the room gagging and trying to breath. Which then sends her into a fit of laughter that last over 10 minutes. And im like \"what the hell\" and all she can squeeze out between laughs is \"Chinese food\".", "summary": "wife farted a nasty Chinese food fart directly in my mouth while I was eating her out"}
{"id": "t3_1g85qq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [26M] recently got the number of a girl [23F] at the bar only to hang out with her once and fall for her friend.", "post": "First time poster here, I hope I'm meeting all the requirements.\n\nSo about two weeks ago I meet this cute girl at the bar and we chat it up for a bit.  I decide to get her number and see if she wants to go out sometime.  We chat for about a week or so via text and yesterday she invites me out with her and some friends of hers for drinks.  So I go meet with them, and I am not really feeling any spark between us.  I can tell she is into me, and I think shes pretty fun to talk to but I really don't feel any romantic attraction.  Turns out though that her friend that joined us is another story...  This isn't a case of a dude just going for the hotter of the two friends, please don't think that.  Both of them are cute girls, I just felt a definite attraction to her friend. Her personality sucked me right in.  \n\nNow, after I left for the night the first girl sent me a text saying she had a good time and we should get together again. I can tell she likes me, but I just want to be friends.  I'm not sure how to get out of this one without looking like a total asshole, but how can I let her down easy and still have a chance with her friend?  For the record, I have no idea if the friend is interested in me, I'm sure that if she was she wouldn't make it obvious in front of her friend who brought me out as a potential suitor. \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Obtain girls number at bar only to hang out with her later and fall for her friend instead, don't want to be an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_15pehj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the societal and genetic costs of warfare to our species?", "post": "A friend of mine brought this up the one night over a few beers:\n\nYoung men in the prime of their lives by the thousands have been going off to die for causes and conditions beyond their control for eons now. How many advances could have been made if all of those people lived long, productive lives?  How much innovation and advancement have we missed out on because we are robbed of so many in the prime of their life? How many Newtons, Bohrs, Faradays, Euclids and Gausses have we missed out on along the way? How much further would our species be?\n\nAlso, what is the genetic cost of war? Evolution, as I understand it, has a 'Survival of the fittest' mandate. Therefore the best and most able humans have been passing on their genes for millennia. With the advent of modern warfare, our best and most able specimens go out to kill each other. So I assume the genetic cost is pretty high to our species because inherently, the whole thing seems evolutionarily counter intuitive.  \n\nIn case you are wondering, my drunken friend was far less eloquent when he posed this question.", "summary": "Hypothetically how much further along genetically and evolutionarily speaking would we be if didn't have war?"}
{"id": "t3_39hm13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have been in love with my good friend [24M] of about ~6 years for close to the entire time I've known him. I've had relationships since our very short one, but I can't get him out of my head. He's my bf's [22M] best friend & I see him everyday. How can I make it stop?", "post": "My friend isn't interested in me anymore. However, he does know how I feel. My boyfriend has no idea and I'm glad, because I think he'd be very hurt. I'd never act on it or anything but I can't stand seeing him almost everyday. I even dream about him. My heart just hurts.\n\nI am polyamorous (solely with other women besides my boyfriend) so I know that it isn't that my boyfriend isn't good enough, I just can't stop loving my friend. It's so painful and I've woken up from dreams crying numerous times, because the dreams are always with us happy and together.\nPlease help me or give me some advice. I can't take this anymore. My boyfriend and the friend I'm talking about both live with me, and due to various reasons there is no way around that.", "summary": "I can't stop loving my friend."}
{"id": "t3_196f24", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm currently in a slump and lacking motivation, what do you do to motivate yourselves?", "post": "By all means, comment to your hearts' content.", "summary": "Depressed as fuck for sometime now, now on non-effective anti-depressants, mediocre life, \"That Guy that everyone vents to\", suicide is indifferent."}
{"id": "t3_2rvx8c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "close friend is making me (22F) second guess if guy (24M) I like and have been seeing for 3 months is interested in me anymore", "post": "So I (22F) have a question about a behavior of a guy (24M) I am seeing for around 3 months. So the guy I am seeing is not good at texting. He explained to me that it's something he ignores mostly through out the day or forgets to text back. He's been sick too for the past few weeks and this has seem to make him even more out of touch than usual.\n\nA few days ago I got the news that a close family member had passed and I was really upset about it. I asked him to come over because I needed some company and seeing him makes me happy. He came over but was very visible not feeling well, and stuck around just talking and watch tv with me for like an hour. Till I told him he should go home cause he looked really bad off. \n\nAnyway I was telling a close friend of mine about this and she responded with it seemed like I guilted him into coming over and also that him not texting me back seems suspicious. \n\nI really believe that he is just a bad at texting and along with being sick and busy, it's just not his thing. But she's put this idea in my head that maybe he's not that interested in me and it's worrying me. \n\nI just feel like if someone asked me to come over because of a similar reason that I wasn't really into and were trying to like cut things off, I wouldn't want to go over or maybe I'd go over for a few minutes. I wasn't trying to guilt him into anything I was just honest and told him what happened and that I would like to see him.", "summary": "close friend is making second guess guy if guy I like and have been seeing is interested in me anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3bqim4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] just can't seem to get over someone [27F] and would like some advice.", "post": "I dont have a lot of experience when it comes to dating or romance in general.  I never had a girlfriend.  Because of that I think I might latch onto people that I shouldn't latch onto.\n\nI developed this crush on this girl i met about 6 months ago.  She made the first move, by getting drunk and making out with me.  I was smitten ever since.  When she sobered up however she wasnt so keen on getting together, and strung me along for a few months.  However, I eventually got tired of it and forced her to make a decision.  She said no, and hooked up with some random dude like a week later.  That really hurt.  Now I understand all this but I still can't get over her.  She can flirt with me a little bit, and I immediately swoon again. I eventually come back to my senses, and then I feel like shit again. repeat\n\nThis is so incredibly frustrating.  She's not a terrible person, but logically, I understand she treated me poorly.  Logically, I don't think we'd have a good relationship. Logically, I think the only reason I like her is because she is attractive and is the only girl I've ever known who chose me to be the object of her affection for a short period of time.  I understand all this and yet I can't get over her.  \n\nWhat makes it worse is I have to see this girl a lot because we live in the same apartment complex and our social groups are very intertwined.  I made it for 3 and a half months actively avoiding her, but that just made me constantly think of her because I had to ask around to avoid her schedule.  After the 3 months, she can still just flirt with me a little bit, and all these dumb feelings come up again.  How do I get over this girl once and for all?  How do I not care?", "summary": "I fell for a girl.  I dont think this girl is good for me, but  I can't get over her because I'm so inexperienced.  Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4pt49r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stuck in a situation with a co-worker of mine who I like.", "post": "So I'm 21 years old (Male). I started to get feelings for a co-worker of mine who happens to be fairly older than I am. I was getting the impression she was flirting with me so I asked her out. She said I was so sweet, and I got her number. \n\nA friend of mine who works with us said that this lady I'm attracted to told her \"I hope he (Me) thinks were just friends I'm too old for him.\" I didn't find this out until a couple of days later. By that time I had already texted her, and told her to let me know when shes free to go get drinks. I got a reply back saying ok so I thought I was golden.\n\nAt this point I'm playing the waiting game to see when she might ask me to get a drink. If she doesn't say anything for another week should I just ask one more time with a set date? I'm not sure whether I should even continue pursuing partly because of that remark she said to my friend. I haven't expressed my feelings of attraction to her yet. I would have done it by now but the only thing I'm afraid of is if she might feel wierded out. Any advice would be great!", "summary": "Stuck In a situation on whether I should continue to pursue a woman I work with who I'm not sure is attracted to me or not."}
{"id": "t3_2isozp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with the guy I've been dating off and on [24 M] for 2 years, having communication issues.", "post": "This guy and I met 2 years ago on a trip while we were both dating other people. We instantly hit it off and talked for 2 hours while our boyfriends (already friends) danced and drank. \n\nI personally felt an instant connection and knew he would be somehow be in my life, even just as friends. We lost touch a little after that and we broke up w/ our SO's and I had moved away. We finally ended up single and back in the same city a year later and reconnected. We went on a great date and caught up but unfortunately he was leaving for work the following week for 8 months in another state. We promised to stay connected but didn't want to put pressure on anything. \n\nDuring his time gone we spoke off and on, catching up here and there but never feeling pressured. Leading up to his return we spoke more than ever. Daily texts and occasional phone calls. Always stating we were excited to reconnect and that we were interested in spending time together. \n\nHe returned a couple weeks ago and we met up the day he returned and it was amazing. I asked to take him on a date a few days later, the day we met 2 years prior. I took him to the place we met and had a great dinner. Since that date he has slowly faded out a bit, not responding or talking as often as before. He did state he was just getting settled and had to take care of some things. It seems he has disappeared but responds when I text or make an effort but never initiates anything. \n\nNot sure if I should just back off or continue to show I'm interested. I want to make this work because of the time and effort that has been put into this so far. I really care about him and just really want it to go well. \n\nAny advice on how to continue without overwhelming but still showing interest? I'm new to the dating game with someone I actually care about and don't want to screw it up.\n\nCan clarify anything that is confusing.", "summary": "Off and on dating a guy for 2 years. Never lived in the same place until now and want to make something out of it all while taking it slow. He has semi fallen off since some initial dates now that we are back together but saying he's settling back in and getting things organized. Not sure how to balance moving at a good pace/ while not overwhelming?"}
{"id": "t3_3i20nx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] considering if my boyfriend [20M] is right for me", "post": "Alright, so the title is pretty stupid considering how you should immediately sense that the relationship isn't right when you start to doubt the relationship. LOL But bear with me.\n\nI'm a late bloomer. I just recently got into romance freshman year of college and got into a LDR with my high school friend (now ex). It took me months to get over him.  I also tend to be emotionally attached easily, which is the biggest problem here.\n\nRecently I got into a relationship with a boy in a fraternity. He is what you expect.. extroverted, loves to party and smoke, etc. He's a bit selfish, but he shows he cares (which may be fake). One thing's for SURE, he doesn't want to lose me. So many times during the relationship he's been caught being unfaithful. Just the small little things, such as telling another girl he was single, accepting my drunk friend's kisses, etc. I obviously wanted to break it off so many times, but he always refused to and promised he would do better. But this was before he had a major surgery. I was genuinely worried about his health since the surgery was very risky, so I traveled one hour (bus, train) to visit him while he was recovering various times. I guess he started to like me more and more. He stopped talking to other girls, he was more affectionate, etc. He introduced me to his friends, he made it facebook official. But here's where I need input: is he more attracted to me because I helped him in his most vulnerable state and what's the chance he may disregard me like he did before we dated? He's also very possessive. Could he be afraid to lose me because he's possessive of me?\n\nI'm considering breaking up with him. And this time, I don't plan to stall or listen to him. I want to think this thoroughly before ending anything. It's only been a few months, but I still want some input on how you guys think of this relationship!", "summary": "Girlfriend's having doubts about frat boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1rybxa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my crush [15 F] Tips on how to talk to her, how to prepare to talk to her", "post": "Hey Guys! I'm here again to get some advice about talking to a girl that scares me shitless and gives me butterflies. \n\nEverytime I see this girl in the hallways my mind freezes. I get super scared because I want to talk to her but I'm scared of what she'll say, if anything. it almost feels like half of my brain is telling me to just talk to her and the other half of my brain is scared shitless about what the other half will say to her. It's hard to understand haha. I rarely talk to girls and have had very few friends that are girls. Maybe 2 or 3 or something. I can speak to them just fine because I'm not attracted to them. \n\nI just need a huge confidence boost is basicaly what I'm getting at, I just finished a great workout and feel fantastic ( Before I felt like shit because I didnt say hi to the girl I liked, I planned to but pussied out )\nI'm jsut wondering, how do I get super pumped during the heat of the moment? Any tips? Thoughts? Suggestions?\n\n I've never talked to this girl befoer and she doesnt really know me, I'm just kinda winging it hoping for a good outcome. Maybe her phone number or something. I only see her once a day and it's very brief (on the way to lunch/ during lunch). Thanks so much for reading this huge thing!", "summary": "I need some tips one how to get pumped so I can talk to this girl I really like and not fuck up, maybe possibly get her number."}
{"id": "t3_r7xp5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, how should I bring revenge upon two lazy group members?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nHere's the situation.\n\nI have a Seminar I am presenting tomorrow. I am in a group of three people. However, two of my group members are lazy and have refused to contribute an ounce of work to this seminar. This is not the first time this has happened with the same people in my group...\n\nHere's my question.... I've just spent the past hour attempting to get ideas out of them. I've gotten virtually nothing. One group member has sent me a series of WikiPedia links and the other has sent me nothing.\n\nI want to mess with their heads come the presentation time. They want me to finish the project by staying up all night as \"I am the smart one of the group.\" Their solution is to create the Seminar the period before... Bad idea, great way to lose marks. Despite their laziness, they still care for getting good marks.\n\nSo, I ask of you Reddit, what are your best tips for messing with lazy classmates on a project?", "summary": "I'm stuck with lazy group members; how should I mess with them come presentation time? "}
{"id": "t3_45uqwy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by installing Steam on my Mom's computer.", "post": "So my mom's laptop has been dying and I suggested that we get her a new computer. I suggested that I build one and make it a pretty good gaming rig so that I don't have to constantly move my battle station between home and college for breaks. I order the parts and get it up and running pretty smoothly. \n\nNow, I wanted to test and see how this rig compared to my older one so I install steam, download Tomb Raider, and run the Tomb Raider benchmark (I know there are better ones but this one is free because I own the game). I head off to college and think very little about the steam settings I have chosen for her computer; specifically run steam on boot and auto login. \n\nFast forward to tonight when I'm talking to my mom and she mentions that she can see how much time I'm spending online. What? This is news to me. \n\nTurns out she can see all the messages I'm making to friends, what games I'm playing, and when I'm playing them. She also won't uninstall steam, so I'm pretty fucked.", "summary": "Installed steam on mom's computer, now she can see all my conversations and when I'm online."}
{"id": "t3_18ahog", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I don't know where I'm going in life.", "post": "My girlfriend has been in Taiwan for the last week. We've got 3 weeks before she returns. I've been sitting at my computer all day trying to ignore the pain of missing her as I do. I'm afraid of losing her, because she want's me to go back to school, and I don't know what I want to do. She keeps pressuring me about it. I've already got a job (medium wage), about to buy my first condo, and just started exploring new and exciting hobbies. We've been together for 2 years, and she's talking about preparing for marriage, kids and the lifestyle we want to live.\n\nHer leaving has taught me 2 things: \n\n-I am madly, deeply in love with this woman, so much so that a week without hearing from her is tearing me up inside.\n\n-I get depressing thinking about how quickly I've been growing up recently, and as a 24 year old, I believed myself to have my shit together.\n\nI don't hate my job, but I need a better paying field if I want to make this work! I'm afraid that I'm just stalling, and wasting her time. That I won't be the capable man who can father our children successfully. That she'll leave me for someone far more successful. I'm supposed to be an average joe, but I feel like an incapable loser.\n\n(Also, I tell myself to get out of this mind frame, but the mental abuse from my ex stuck with me)", "summary": "I'm just scared about the future, and I don't know what to do :("}
{"id": "t3_3852hr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Have about 15k in cash laying around, pondering my next step.", "post": "For the past six months I built a bit of a shady business. I was making pretty decent money and decided to save a really decent portion of it.\n\nI probably need to repair my car, ~$1000 all together. Other than that I have no pressing debts other than about 30k in student loans. I'm still trying to finish college. \n\nDo I need to launder this money? I work as a server at a restaurant, and I figure I can slowly deposit some of the money over time, or use It for various expenditures. But I'd rather find a way to make this sum grow.... Legally this time.", "summary": "Have 15k in cash under my bed. Would like to multiply said cash in a legal way."}
{"id": "t3_3mm4rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33 F] found out my boyfriend [35 M] of six years created an OkCupid account while I was out of town.", "post": "The other week I found out that my boyfriend of 6 years created an okcupid account while I was out of town for work.\n\nI found out about the account because I saw messages from OkCupid when he logged into his email. Later I went to okcupid.com on his computer and he was logged in. No major detective work here. His profile is fairly bare with no picture, but states that he is single, and I can tell that he has looked at other women's profiles and \"liked\" them. He has no messages in his inbox, but you can delete those right? I haven't ever used the site.\n\nI didn't bring it up to him for a few days because I just didn't want to think about it. When I finally told him that I had found the account, he admitted it to me. He said he had looked at women's pictures but that's it. His reason why was that \"I was out of town,\" which is fucking stupid.\nWe are generally a good couple, and though of course we fight about stupid shit sometimes, this is the first time I've had trust issues with him. He's a bartender and often doesn't come home until 7 am, but I've always just trusted that he just gets off work late and then maybe has a few drinks with his coworkers. I travel often for work and never assumed that he was looking to meet up with other women while I was gone.\n\nSo, am I being a total fucking shmuck? What would you do? I will be devastated if he cheats on me, and I'm not even sure that he is trustworthy anymore. Can I believe him if he says it was nothing?", "summary": "Found out my boyfriend of six years started an okcupid account. Wondering if this means our relationship is a sham."}
{"id": "t3_eybvu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Is anyone else here afraid to drive?", "post": "I am not afraid of the part of operating a two ton vehicle, that's easy. I'm terrified of others driving. I'm a safe driver (do I sound like a douche?) I see other's texting, eating, even changing.. idiots driving drunk. \n\nI would find driving enjoyable if I was the only person who had a car. IF I had my way, I'd take all of your cars and I'd be the only one in the world with one. Heh, :p. But as of now, I find it freaking terrifying! I only drive to work and close places by. It seems to me that I'm the only one not use to it. People are so relaxed, calmed. It's like driving it's a second nature to them. When I get behind the wheel, I don't necessarily freak out but I just get paranoid that I might die because some idiot wasn't' careful or paying attention. \n\nI don't know. I think i'm a weirdo. I've been driving for 3 years now, had close experiences to crashing. The first day mom took me out to teach me some driver skipped his stop and he was a few inches away from hitting my side. I almost shat my pants.", "summary": "I'm afraid to drive because of others. I have been close to accidents before. I feel like I'm the only one."}
{"id": "t3_2n9tdz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing in Sesame Place", "post": "This happened a few years ago.  I was making frequent trips out east to do some work.  On the last of those trips, I decided to bring the family along & make it a quasi family vacation.  Anyway, on our way through Pennsylvania, we decided to stop at Sesame Place:\n\nThe day is beautiful, the sun is shining, birds are chirping, and the radio played my favorite songs all of the way there.  The world was at peace, and everything was serene.  The kids were splashing away in the zero-depth \"Ernie\" themed wading pool, and I was sitting in about an inch of water just enjoying the time.  Without warning, my intestines started to rumble a bit.  Weeks of eating on the road had made things.. unreliable (putting it mildly).  I adjusted my seating appropriately in order to buy more time - at which time, my bladder decided that it would get in on the act.\n\nBeing a chronic pool pisser, I figured that just a little squirt would get me through until the wife returned.  Folks, when you make a contract with your bladder, always know that your bladder always reneges on said contracts.  I tried to piddle, and an unstoppable firehose ensued.  In my foggy and oblivious mind, I figured \"Eh, nobody will notice\".  My wife returned, and the look on her face was pure horror.\n\nI had taken B12 that morning.  She returned to see me staring off into space, in a 10 foot radius of inch-deep neon yellow water.  I was clearly at the epicenter.  Parents were rushing in, grabbing their kids, and leaving the scene.  After the gravity of the situation settles in, we leave as well.", "summary": "Pissed in the kiddy pool at Sesame Place - cleared the place out."}
{"id": "t3_2imdwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22 M] duration, short-description", "post": "My boyfriend (22m) and I (21f) recently broke up from a 3 year relationship because he said he did not see a future and was scared to commit. We love each other and love being around each other but I am scared of being with someone who in the end might not want anything serious from me, which I am ready for. Everyone says I need space, and I know i do but it is so hard to stay away. It wouldve been easier if one of us lost feeling or didnt care, but both of us dont. I make it seem a lot like I want to be with him, but its so hard to feel insecure in such a relationship where you devote all your energy, love and time. We also happen to see each other often because we work within one block of each other in the city. Seeing how everyone I know gives me some biast answer I need the criticism of you fellow redditors. Do I end things completely ( because I too feel like I am leading him on by feeling so happy when I see him) since I do not think we can last with any insecurities or do I give it one more chance and see what happens?? I would appreciate anything anyone sends my way.", "summary": "My ex and I love spending time together but I had to let him go because he doesnt want to commit, but I cannot stay away. Should I stay away for good or give it another chance if he says he will change??"}
{"id": "t3_53vto4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [24 F] 8 years , every part of relationship works, except she's no longer attracted to me", "post": "So my ex and I met in high school, and hit it off immediately. Started dating about 4 months later, and been together since. Until earlier this year that is. We broke up on mutual terms, there were issues in the relationship that we wanted to work on and we decided that moving out and giving space would be the best option to work on ourselves before reconciling and giving it another shot. Problem is she is telling me she is no longer attracted to me. Sexually that is. \n\nI'm not an unattractive guy. I'd give myself a 7.5/8-10 honestly speaking. I'm active, I eat healthy, and all of our hobbies line up almost perfectly and we have the most amazing friendship.\n\nNow she wants to give it another shot, but being in a relationship with someone you are no longer attracted to is obviously not healthy and a mistake. I had an idea that we take it slow, just continue to hang out more as we have the last few weeks, and allow her to see the little things that made her fall for me in the first place.\n\nShe is unsure this will work, and is very upset about it. My question is. \"How many of you have been in a relationship where you lost attraction to your SO for whatever reason, but managed to get it back? What did you do and what is your best advice?\"\n\nI really love is girl and I want to be with here. But I dont want her to do something she isn't completely comfortable with. What can I do?", "summary": "ex girlfriend and I are talking about getting back together, everything is perfect except she is no longer attracted to me. Have any of you become unattractive to your SO, but gained that attraction back? And if so, what is your story?"}
{"id": "t3_3b3ep0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] Been out of the dating game for too long. Need some serious advice here!", "post": "Ah I've been single for over 3 years now! I'm getting tired of picking up girls at parties and bars for just a one night stand. At one point in my life a serious relationship did not sound like any fun but now its as if I'm being pulled towards wanting a real relationship. \n\nNo matter what I'm doing there's always this loneliness there like something is missing and I have now come to the conclusion that it is a significant other that has been missing this whole time. The one night stands were fun for a while but now I want something real, I want someone I can share my life with.\n\nThis is all brand new to me and I feel like I am being reborn lol. I feel like picking up girls in a bar and finding a girl I want to be in a relationship with are 2 totally different approaches/mindsets. I feel like I fell off the face of the earth dating wise. I was into girls quite early in my life and had \"girlfriends\" since kindergarten, not that this really means anything other than I used to be a natural at relationship type stuff and used to love it but I feel like I've lost that magic, I feel like a Neanderthal trying to figure out how to use a computer. \n\nMy Strengths-\n\n* Ambitious\n\n* good at inspiring others; good at heart to heart conversations.\n\n* Can very easily put myself in others shoes.\n\nmore importantly....\n\nMy WEAKNESSES- \n\n* hard to put myself in a position of needing/ relying on anyone, I feel this would get in the way of a relationship.\n\n* Although I can easily put myself into other people's shoes, I can still be very self-centered. I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. \n\n* Can be stubborn- if anything goes against a goal I have set out for myself I will get irritated if anyone does anything to take me off path.\n\nANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED! THANKS:)", "summary": "Been out of the dating game for a while and could use some constructive criticism or advice based on flaws^"}
{"id": "t3_r18md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Never cheated but husband is convinced I have.", "post": "We've been married for about 10 years (I'm 37 and he's 40) and have 3 great kids. We're best friends and, when things are good, they're fantastic. He got laid off from his teaching job and hasn't been able to find anything so he's really down on himself. When he gets down on himself he gets down on me and accuses me of cheating on him. He's considering divorce.\n\nHe was out of town a while back visiting family, but I couldn't go because we we couldn't afford it, and he says that someone saw me with someone else. He won't clarify for me what was seen and expects me to fill in the details. There is nothing to fill in!\n\nI have been faithful to him since the first time we met, but he won't get past it. He wants me to be honest open up to him and tell him what happened, but nothing ever has with anyone. I could tell him a story to make him shut up, but that would be a lie.\n\nWhat can I do? He's completely averse to counseling, for himself or us.", "summary": "He thinks I'm cheating, but I never have."}
{"id": "t3_2dk3fo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "COLLEGE. Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 10 months, about to go to different colleges and need advice.", "post": "The situation: I started dating a girl my senior year of high school in October. Aside from a few rough patches, things generally got better and better up until the very end of the school year. We both agreed we were in love.\n\nFast forward to early July, she tells me in the heat of some intimacy (2nd base if you will), that with college coming up that \"I do want to have sex but that is a big commitment and lots of changes are coming up in college and I think we should wait until college to go any further.\" I respect her wishes. \n\nFast forward to now; we haven't seen each other very much due to vacations, and no longer talk on a daily basis. We have never been a couple who calls but we used to text each other more often. In college we will probably see each other every two weeks at the very best, similarly to this past month.\n\nMy thoughts: I don't like how we currently function and am finding it hard to feel as much affection for her as when we were both around ans seeing each other more frequently. I am having doubts about what to do going into college which is why I am here.\n\nSo. Advice is welcome, but what I am really looking for are your stories about how long distance worked or didn't work for you, and what happened. I want to know what might happen, and I think its safe to assume that many others are in my position as well. So please, share your stories and your opinions of what happened. Thanks.", "summary": "About to leave for college, want to know what happened to all of your relationships."}
{"id": "t3_tpqys", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing you've \"let happen,\" because you knew the results would be hilarious?", "post": "*", "summary": "I could have helped my dog's precarious situation, thus preventing injury to the love of my life, but I didn't. The outcome was pretty funny. I'm a bad person. "}
{"id": "t3_1xaqbi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] Him[21M/] Am I blowing things out of proportion or is my anger reasonable? confusion", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now. Just recently he's joined his local gym. Yes it's good for him, him joining the gym getting healthy and improving fitness. \n\nHowever, he keeps telling me how he sees all these girls with nice bums in yoga pants and how very fit they are, how he doesn't intend to perv on them but they just so happen to be in-front of him whilst he's doing his thing. I don't know if its reasonable for me to feel angry and annoyed or whether I'm simply blowing things out of proportion and going overboard with jealousy? Is this a normal reaction?\n\n Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "Bf recently joined the gym making comments on girls asses and how fit they are. Reasonable for me to be angry? or am I simply blowing things out of proportion?"}
{"id": "t3_4ywi5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] feel like my Girlfriend [24F] is losing interest in sex.", "post": "I already posted this to r/deadbedrooms, but I figured I would post it here as well. \nOk, i'm honestly very confused and I'm not sure whether I'm being childish or whether my concerns are warranted. I (23M) have been dating my girlfriend (24F) for just about six months. For pretty much the entire relationship we have been having sex around two to three a week. The frequency of our sex has remained relatively consistent throughout or relationship, although as of recently is becoming less frequent. \n    Whats bothering me the most though is her lack of interest when it comes to sex. At the beginning of our relationship she would often be the first to initiate via flirty texts, kissing ect. But as of recently She has shown practically no interest in sex. I will try to initiate but more often than not i'll get shut down. And when we do have sex it feels like she does it just to appease me. Like she'll say \"I guess we can have sex if you want to\" which to me is a total turn off. \n     I feel like it is important to note that she has told me time and time again that this is the best sex of her life (she gets off almost every time) and she is completely happy with our sex life. Like I said earlier I'm not sure whether we are heading towards a dead bedroom or whether I am being paranoid. Obviously I have a Higher sex drive then her and although I would love to have sex more often, I understand that her sex drive is lower and I'm fine with twice a week. I just don't understand why it seems like she never actually wants to have sex. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't seem interested in sex anymore. I feel like 6 months is early in the relationship for that to happen."}
{"id": "t3_4656ls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my ex girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years, after months of no contact she texted me. Not sure what to do.", "post": "My ex girlfriend of 5 years Amy (26F) and I(28M) broke up at the end of the summer, she suffers from borderline personality disorder and this put a tremendous strain on our relationship over time. \n\nI suffered a great deal of manipulation and emotional abuse over those years and even though we had some good times i know in hindsight I should have gotten out sooner. \n\nDuring the relationship Amy lied about many things large and small, anything from saying someone was just a friend (who would later turn out to be a former fwb, love interest etc) to things like trying to hide smoking and a drinking problem from me. \n\nWe agreed to break up mutually but shortly thereafter she began to message me expecting me to be her emotional crutch and being angry at me for spending time with female friends. After lashing out at me and spreading rumors I just cut contact. A month or two later she reached out and I politely but quickly ended the conversation. \n\nA week ago she messaged me again just saying, 'hey....' I didn't reply yet but I can't help but feeling bad. Despite things turning south after an amicable breakup I still feel bad not replying, even briefly. Also we're from a decently small town so I will run in to her at some point and I'd like to try and keep things civil at least. \n\nSo my question is, should I at least be courteous and reply? Or is just not answering an acceptable, non rude option. I don't want to get back with her, or give the impression that I'm open to regular communication. But I don't want to hurt her either.", "summary": "ex of 5 Years texted me after months of no contact. Don't want to open the door for regular communication but don't want to be rude either."}
{"id": "t3_1nltcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [20 F] of 1 year, Interested in dating her", "post": "Around this time last year I met a girl in one of my classes and we became acquainted. A short time later she was talking to me about how she was struggling in her chemistry class and I offered to tutor her in it since that's my major and I'm pretty good at it. So I help her out and she's grateful, I'm attracted to her but she has boyfriend at the time so nothing happens but we become decent friends. Anyways after class went out over the summer we didn't talk much up until a month ago when she suddenly starts talking with me again and is asking me to take classes with her next quarter. So I do and we start getting very close texting every day, flirting, and such but I don't have a chance to see her due to conflicting schedules. I also learn that she recently broke up with her boyfriend.\n\nThen two weeks ago class starts and a week later she starts acting kind of disinterested. Which sucks because I've just realized I like her and want a relationship with her. We still get along great when we're together, she just acts a little weird when we text and we no longer do it as often. \n\nI'm going over to hang out/tutor her later today and was wondering if anyone had tips on how I should act around her, assuming I'm still interested. Confessions typically end poorly, correct?\n\nSome other stuff to note is she has never told me about her boyfriend, I found out they were together and had broken through one of her friends and a picture on her facebook (she had her relationship status hidden). Also I asked her out to dinner last week and she said \"We can if you want\" Or something like that. And she is extremely shy, much more so than any girl I've ever known.", "summary": "Friend ended her relationship a few weeks ago and I'm interested in dating her. I'm new to dating and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3diyt5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[30F] with my boyfriend [30M] of 5 years, not sure if i'm weird, or he is", "post": "Hi! \n\nMy boyfriend used to watch a lot of porn before we dated, and describes himself as \"jerking off all the time\". I know he slowed down since we moved in together. Recently, I caught him masturbating to a coworker's Facebook picture. \n\nHe doesn't understand that I see a difference between pleasuring himself to porn and pleasuring himself with a real person he works with. He doesn't think it's any different and is disorting the issue. \n\nTo me, there is a major difference, and I am not comfortable with the situation at all. \n\nSo I'm wondering... \nGUYS :  Is it a normal guy thing? Do men in general don't see the difference between jerking off to someone you share your environment with, is it just as unpersonal to you as porn is? \n\nGIRLS : Am I over reacting? Would you be comfortable with this?", "summary": "Boyfriend jerked off to a coworker. Doesn't see why I think its different than porn or why I'm upset. .. Any thoughts on who needs to chill?"}
{"id": "t3_1cly93", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your theory on the ramifications of automated manufacturing/services?", "post": "I've been thinking a lot about automated manufacturing/services, and how it is poised to permeate into all aspects of our society. An interesting example is the driver-less car that Google is developing, not only will it affect everyday commuters, but it will effect industries where driving is the primary source of income, trucking, cabs, pizza delivery, etc. I feel sweat shops in China aren't even safe. Why pay a human being who will most likely get fatigued, burnt out, or demand better pay/working conditions when they can be replaced by machines that only require basic maintenance?\n\nIt will be interesting to see how society and the economy adapts, as automation will turn us on our head. Especially when you think about basic economics, if potentially billions of people are going to be put out of a job in the next twenty years, they will no longer have income. Without income they can no longer buy the products being manufactured, which in turn would cause product manufacturing to recede on all fronts. No matter how you look at it, the current economic model will not be able to adapt well to full automation of the world. \n\nIt's terrifying and exciting at the same time. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Automation is only going to get better and more precise, leaving billions out of a job, what do you think this will do to our society/economy worldwide?"}
{"id": "t3_emrtb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit! Feel like helping a long-time lurker with some inspiration?", "post": "As my title said, I'm a long-time lurker at reddit (and especially programming as subreddit) and today I'm actually making my first post a selfish one. Sorry about that.\n\nNevertheless, I'm a professional programmer (as in; I work as one) and enjoy programming as a craft. I've worked with everything from large-scale game development studios to small-scale consulting firms and the thing that annoys me is that I've completely stopped doing any kind of hobby development. This saddens me. I truly enjoy coding, but I seem to be lacking the inspiration lately (this has been going on for a year or two now).\n\nInspired by the awesome and intelligent posts here on proggit, I decided to try and ask for help. I'd like to start coding on my spare time again, fighting the good fight.\n\nCan you help me? What I'd like is either personal experiences regarding loss of inspiration (and hopefully how you overcame it) or actual tips on projects that I could start contributing to small-scale. I know this post makes me sound like a lazy douche but I'd really appreciate some help with this. Do you know of (or even manage!) a GitHub/othersocialcodingnetwork project that could use an extra hand, please let me know!\n\nLanguage, platform or technology are not really barriers but lately I seem to be enjoying work in C++, C# (.NET or Mono), Java or web stuff.", "summary": "I haven't been coding on my spare time for a few years now and miss it. Please help me get back into the groove by sharing helpful inspirational mantras or directing me to projects that I could start contributing small-scale to."}
{"id": "t3_1m5hkq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M20] upset because I didn't say sorry when I [F20] was late", "post": "So we're both college students, studying at our respective locations. He's studying at school and I at a coffee shop. I offered to pick him up at around 8 when the library closes so then he doesn't have to walk  home.\n\nI end up taking ~20 minutes to get to school due to traffic, etc. He's been waiting in the cold for 20 minutes. Then he gets in the car. He asks, \"was traffic bad or something?\" and I reply with \"yeah, there were cars on the --\" blah blah, proceed to explain the situation of traffic. He then stays in a bad mood the rest of the car ride, not talking, then instead of studying together like we were supposed to I just ended up dropping him off because he was in such a crappy mood.\n\nPretty much he was mad at me because I didn't say \"sorry\" for making him wait in the cold for 20 minutes while I was picking him up. I however didn't feel the need to say sorry because I came as fast as I can, taking however long it was because of many cars on the busy street near our school. Plus I was doing him a favor by going out of my way to pick him up. Am I wrong and illogical for not saying sorry? He claims it's common sense to do that, \"Because saying sorry if youre late and caused someone to stand in the cold is common sense\". Because I still made him wait in the cold by taking a while. Or is he overreacting? I'm new to relationships so I don't know what to do :(", "summary": "offered to drive bf home. ended up being late and made him wait in the cold for 20 minutes. didn't say sorry - he got mad because its common sense to do so in such a situation. am i wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2dk6dr", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Help Me Choose a Destination! (TLDR included)", "post": "Hey guys and gals I'm planning a trip and wanted to hear some suggestions and input from you all. I will describe myself and what I am looking for based on my research as well as I can.\n\nMyself:\n\nI am a 23 y/o white male living in Atlanta and from Florida originally. My previous trips out of the country have all been to either Europe or the Caribbean and while I enjoyed them I am looking for something different this time. I really like the outdoors, wildlife, and thrill seeking. I used to swim and love all forms of water, but also enjoy a good mountain or rain forest. I took a couple years of spanish and could get to a passable level if necessary. I have a lot of vacation days to use before the end of the year and right now am planning on taking two weeks off for this trip.\n\nWhat I am looking for:\n\nThe above section applies to this one as well but I will try to go more in depth here. The best way I have found to describe what I'm looking for is an adventure. I haven't done well in pinning specific activities to how I want this trip to make me feel, which is why I'm asking you wonderful people, but I want to feel any or all of these: awestruck, humbled, risky, unconstrained, unfamiliar. I would like to go some place where I can see/experience a good variety of things and places during my trip, which means I wouldn't stay in one place for more than a couple days. I would prefer to avoid extra flights once there, but if it would open up a lot of opportunities I would consider one halfway through. I think that optimally I would rent a motorcycle or something (and drive a few hours every couple days)as this would fulfill several of my interests(variety of places, unconstrained, (slightly) risky, adventure). \n\nSummary /", "summary": "young guy wants to go on a two week foreign adventure to see/experience as many different awe-inspiring landscapes, thrill seeking activities, and cultures as possible."}
{"id": "t3_ga5xg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just a small \"vent\"", "post": "This isn't a serious problem, but I just wanted to write it somewhere so I figured this subreddit was appropriate.\n\nMy school's prom is coming up and I was rather hoping to go with my bestfriend(of the opposite gender). We already discussed the prom idea, and she said she was going to wait and see who asked her first. So instead of me asking her, I waited... Looking back on this, I kinda regret it. But looking back on alot of things, I regret other things as well so oh well. Today she texts me and says she is probably going with another kid and that I needed to find a date. This just really disappointed me. I'm trying to avoid feeling selfish here only thinking about my feelings, but we are human and its hard.", "summary": "Don't wait for something to happen. Make it happen."}
{"id": "t3_de5xu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a meeting today for a job I'm uninterested in.  What should I do?", "post": "Quick background: I have several years of work experience in consulting and am currently working to complete a masters degree.  I graduate next fall, so I have begun the dreaded job searching process again.\n\nLong story short, I grabed an interview with a company today because the work they are doing sounds very interesting.  However, after finding out a few more details, I discovered that the job posting is geared towards undergraduates with 0-2 years work of experience.\n\nEssentially I'd be going back several years in work experience and figuratively throwing away my master's degree if I took this position.  However, I cannot simply skip out on the interview (or can I?)", "summary": "stuck in an interview for a position I don't want and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ih8o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] likes my roommates' ex-FWB [21 F] should I facebook her?", "post": "So my roommate used to have this FWB from Tinder, every time we hung out together we got along great. They broke it off cause she wanted something more serious.\n\nMy dilemma: No smartphone means no Tinder for me, I never got her number, but I was able to find her thru facebook. Problem is, my facebook is a ghost town - I never use it. Like \"I have 2 friends on there\" use it. Do I send her a nice 'we should hang out' message, or is that bordering on creepy?\n\nI'm more than a bit inexperienced when it comes to dating, I never got to figure out what was awkward and what wasn't when I was still in high school/community college, so here I am, trying to find out.", "summary": "Roommates ex FWB is cool, never got information from her while they were together, found her on Facebook, and want to know whether I should reach out that way even though my Facebook looks like a deserted ghost town."}
{"id": "t3_4uuvkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How best can I [26M] contact an old friend [26F] of mine from high school", "post": "I'm about to move to a big city so naturally a lot of my friends from high school live there as they moved for work. In particular, there is this one girl who I noticed from Facebook is also there. I'd like to reach out to get in touch to at least have some friends in a new city, but I admit I wouldn't mind taking it further if the chemistry works out. In fact, I'm more interested to see if after several years this chemistry might be there, but if it isn't then at least I have a friend :)\n\nNow my problem is that I haven't spoken to her in the 8 years since high school (in all honesty I haven't kept up much with my high school friends). And back then we weren't particularly close friends, but we hung out with the same group of people. We weren't close not due to a lack of connection, but rather because I was close friends with different people than she was.\n\nWhat would be the best way to get in touch? I was thinking of just sending a message once I move to meet up for a drink to catch up as I'd like to make some friends in the new place, but I'm concerned that might be a bit questionable as I have plenty of friends in the city already so why would I be contacting her. Admittedly she can't know this, but because the city is so big and central it is highly unlikely I wouldn't have closer friends there already. Any help would be appreciated. I'm fine with her not caring about me and not wanting to meet up, I just want to make sure I get the tone of the message right.", "summary": "want to get in touch with high school friend to see if there is any chemistry, but bit unsure how to contact her."}
{"id": "t3_4ny1mb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my fiance [24 F] (been together 3 years), her sister is going to show up uninvited to my fiance's graduation and I don't know what I can do.", "post": "My fiance's family is pretty abrasive, especially her sister. When the sister found out that she wasn't invited to my fiance's graduation she flipped out and said that she was going to come anyway. Fiance was only given 3 tickets (mum, dad, grandmother) so I already have to go early to buy my own. \n\nHer sister is going to use all kinds of manipulation tactics to try and make my fiance feel like shit (\"Grandma didn't do anything to help you\", \"Don't you give a shit about your sisters you selfish bitch!?\", \"I can't believe you wouldn't invite your family\") and my fiance doesn't deal with these things face on. She is a sensitive woman who would rather absorb the abuse and make nice until she can get away. \n\nI am not good at conflict management either, but I think that confronting her sister directly about this is the only way to deal with it. The problem is that it's not my place to speak on my fiance's behalf and she has a hard time confronting her family because when she stands up for herself they yell louder and get meaner. \n\nIs it appropriate for me to approach her sister and tell her how I feel? The way she treats my fiance is not appropriate and at some point I feel that I need to stand up to her ridiculous and childish behaviour, especially because I take personal offence to her absurd complaining.", "summary": "Fiance's sister is abusive and declaring that she will be showing up to the graduation ceremony, fiance has tried to confront her to no avail, I take offence and want to say something but don't want to cross my fiance and make her look \"weak\". What can I do or consider?"}
{"id": "t3_1bdpj9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Possible leg injury?", "post": "I didn't see this anywhere but know that it's happened to myself as well as a few runner friends. I'm new to running but my friends have all more or less consistently run for a few years. We've all noticed that sometimes, one of our calves feels extremely tight. But only one. For example, mine is the left calf. I've been to a doctor who says he sees nothing wrong with it, just stay off it for a few days, etc. but it's starting to get in the way of running. It's like I can't put my foot flat on the ground without feeling like I'm going to pull a muscle. I've tried several methods to ease the tension including staying off it, applying Icy Hot and massaging the muscle, but nothing's working for me, even the things that worked for my friends. Basically I'm asking if anyone else has experienced this or could suggest and potential remedies? Thanks guys!", "summary": "Left calf feels uncomfortably tight and prevents running or even walking. Anyone have potential remedies?"}
{"id": "t3_1enywg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeing my(24m) sort of sex fiancee(25f) for the weekend. Help me figure what to make of it?", "post": "So, long story short, i dated a girl for over 2 yrs, which resulted in an engagement. We were always deeply in love, and to this day we maintain it was something special, and the best relationship weve ever had. However, When my ex's visa ran out, and she returned to her home country(was supposed to be temporary), things started to fall apart. She was adapting to a new life, and i, with starting law school. \n\nHowever, i went to see her over winter break, and it was an incredible time, and we resolved to make things work, but once i left, we fell into the same routine, and parted ways in january. Through out this time, we have kept in contact daily, and have basically acted as we always have, with occasional arguments here and there, and her maintaining she is too afraid of the distance, which to me is just an obstacle. I went through a period where i didnt want to talk any longer, but she always talked me out of it, and when i recently agreed to keep talking, to let things \"flow naturally\" as she said, all of a sudden we werent talking that much. However, she is coming to visit her mother, and begged me to come visit her whe she does, so i purchased a ticket to see her. She seems kind of apprehensive now, and says maybe we should talk in the week before we see each other(i go next weekend), and that shes hoping to figure things out once and for all. \n\nWhat am i walking into when i get off the plane? throughout this time she has refused to remove our relationship status off fb, and hasnt even told much of her family that we split, but has been giving me an attitude and now seems apprehensive lately.", "summary": "seeing my foreign ex-fiancee next weekend, and need help to figure what to make of it. does she still want us?"}
{"id": "t3_50ng9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my friend [24/M] 2-3 weeks, does he seem interested in me as more than a friend?", "post": "I know these questions are probably annoying as they are probably asked all the time but there's this guy I just met and was wondering, based off of these things would you say it seems like he's interested in me? I can tend to be quite dense/get mixed signals.\n\n* we officially met through facebook: I added him and he messaged me first. \n* I invited him to grab drinks and talk, he said yes. \n* he has invited himself over to my apartment a couple times to swim.\n* I told him about some slightly difficult things I'm going through and he asked his mom to call me to chat about it (as she has gone through very similar things).\n* he always calls me 'lady' or says my whole first name for no reason\n* he constantly picks on me (the way I pronounce words, when I'm on my phone, I vape - please don't judge, it helped me quit smoking cigarettes - and he jokes around and says things like 'it's so hot how you blow that smoke out')\n* he left for NYC for 2 weeks this morning, so yesterday was his last day home and he spontaneously (wasn't planned) spent 4 hours with me (we hung out at his place, walked to this place to grab drinks, chatted)\n* he always hugs goodbye\n\nSo, yesterday his mom invited me over to chat about the similar difficulties we're going through and I wasn't expecting that he'd be there but he was. When his mom and I were finished talking I was planning on just leaving since I went to talk to her and not necessarily to visit him, but he made me some coffee and I ended up staying and chatting for a few hours. He gave me a tour of his house, including his room... and then asked me if I wanted to walk with him to this local wine house to grab a drink. \n\nHOWEVER -not sure if this means anything at all but when we went to the wine house, he didn't pay for my drink (which was only like 2 bucks) and that didn't bother me but I've heard things like you know it's sort of a date if the guy pays.", "summary": "Wondering if new guy friend is showing signs of romantic interest in me"}
{"id": "t3_37jwv9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not setting my alarm", "post": "So this happened literally minutes ago, still a bit groggy so bear with me. I had set up an elaborate scheme dating back more than a year. It involved me placing secret/cryptic messages all around Dallas, TX where I thought they would be found by interesting people. I had offered varying amounts of cash rewards were the person to discover my secret message be able to communicate in some way with me and, in so doing, form an everlasting bond or at the very least and interesting social study on human interactions.\n\nAnyways, skip ahead 12-14 months and I'm just now waking up. My job involves shift work (I work at one of the major hospital centers in Dallas) and I had actually changed my weekly schedule with a colleague who was getting married, totally forgetting about today's important date. Now I'm reading the front page and some of the top hits and I think I let a whole lot of folks down and I feel terrible. I have more than enough cash to go around for everyone involved and I would be up for rescheduling if at all possible.", "summary": "I may have fucked up all of reddit by sleeping in a year late, like Rumpelstiltskin"}
{"id": "t3_2mc3gn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend is pregnant and wants to keep the baby", "post": "Hi all I need your advice desperately, I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year, we are both 23, we are very close and have talked a lot about our future and children but both agreed that we would wait until we live together and ideally be married before committing to such a huge responsibility, she herself has raised a boy in her mother's house without his father and its been extremely difficult for her, she said if she fell pregnant again and it wasn't planned she would terminate the pregnancy.\n\nA few days ago she was saying how she's late for her period and she was worried, I naturally reassured her saying it's fine you can't be pregnant your on the pill there's nothing to worry about, she goes on to say 'but what if I am....if I am I don't think I'd want to abort' ....a few days later she comes round with a test that confirms she is pregnant and its 3 weeks or more since we conceived\nThen shit gets real, she doesn't seem shocked, scared, nothing only wondering what I'm thinking, to be honest I don't know what I'm thinking, all I know is I want to abort the pregnancy, I am too young neither of us earn enough money to support the baby without funding from the government, we both live at home and she already shares a bed with her 5 yr old due to lack of space in her house, I mean there are hundreds of reasons not to have a baby and her only reason for keeping it is because 'I'm the one' and 'it's not the end of the world'.\n\nI know a lot of people are against abortions but surely it's more cruel to have a baby that you don't want and not be able to give it the best possible start in life? I also understand it's a lot easier being a guy to say get rid but I would support her all the way, \npersonally I don't think I'm being selfish I think I'm being sensible but she's got me questioning myself right now and I would love to get some opinions and advice...", "summary": "what do I do if she goes through with the pregnancy? I'm not dad material yet!!!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_31x3di", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Your anxiety is bothering me.", "post": "So I've got a bit of an anxiety problem, and tend to bounce my leg, especially when I'm sitting, and in nice crowded public places. It'll wear off as soon as I'm distracted by whatever event is taking place. \n\nI sit down in a crowded church, on a not so crowded wooden pew. Hoping no one will fill in too much, but I was out of luck. A nice young gentleman, you know, the charismatic, capable of social interaction kind, sits down right next to me. Not 10 seconds after he sits down, he faces me, big smile, shakes my hand and says \"It's a 2 hour program, and that leg bouncing is really annoying\", then turns back and continues his confident socializing. \n\nAbout half hour in, the room is dark for the projection screen, I'm about to burst, I have my legs tucked up underneath the pew I'm sitting on and I accidentally knocked my nice church shoes into the bench, making a somewhat audible knock, but one you could definitely feel. Mr social butterfly glances behind us and scowls in an attempt to determine which vermin was responsible for kicking his pew. \n\nFor the next hour and a half I sat perfectly still, intently studying the presentation and randomly tapped my shoe on the underside of the pew. By the end of the evening, he was about as anxious as I was when I first arrived.", "summary": "I didn't mean for my anxiety to annoy you, let me annoy you on purpose"}
{"id": "t3_xd3mv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I think I just ruined my friendship with my ex by breaking the 'No Contact' rule. What do I do?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I brokeup after a year and a half together in a sort of abrupt way that I just couldn't accept as an actual breakup. We've sort of had it rough for a few months to the point where it felt like we argued all the time. Between both of us having full time jobs, it really felt like fighting was the only thing we were doing.  \n\nWe met earlier today and we talked for a bit, I said some stupid things and I tried to save our relationship or at least our friendship. That really didn't fly for her and she just walked out without saying a word. \n\nI know this subreddit has seen MUCH worse, but I'm not really distraught by the breakup. I'm just upset that I lost my best friend because I was an idiot and didn't wait to talk and ruined the friendship.\n\nAny idea what I can do to cope with this sad incident? Anything is appreciated :)", "summary": "tried to stay friends with my ex and shit the bed and she refuses to even see me"}
{"id": "t3_ixbcs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Went from 240 to 170 in ~5 months in desperate need of an advice adjusting/getting rid of extra stomach fat", "post": "I did a lot of cardio and picked up starting strength few months ago by Rippetoe(Squats/Deadlifts/Bench); but my stomach is flabby I was wondering if time is the only remedy and If I should worry less about this issue.  I will be picking up swimming in a few weeks and I started doing crunches/leg raises every day of the week while still following a decent diet and improving in lifting. \n\nWhen I originally started to lose weight at 240 I had 0 muscle and at 5'8 I was weak and obese.  Now I'm 172 and I look a little like I have a bit more muscle (2 months in) but I also don't have any more of that fat anywhere except on the stomach and a bit of man boobs but its no big deal, nothing like it was before.  The stomach is killing me though and I'm not sure how to approach this.  If time is the only thing and as long as I'm improving and finding new ab exercises and swimming and lifting weights then I would feel alright but I feel like this will take a very long time before it disappears, although honestly its no where as big as it was at 240.\n\nMy biggest problem I guess is I have to stop doing so much cardio every day and work on building muscle, but I afraid I'll have this awful stomach and won't be able to take off my shirt for a long time :(\n\nCan anyone advice me on this?   Here's a pic I've included.  Thank you guys so much.", "summary": "flabby stomach, need halp, look pic plz."}
{"id": "t3_47t6qs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriiend [17 F] of 1 year, I realized I've become very manipulative, controlling, and jealous, how do I fix this?", "post": "Hello everyone\n\nI ( 18M ) have become to realize that I am an extremely manipulative, controlling, and jealous boyfriend to my girlfriend ( 17 F ). Things were going great until just recently, about 2 months ago, when for some reason I would just get extremely angry, jealous, irritated for little to no reason.\n\nFor example, we're both track and field runners ( we go to the same high school ). This is her first year of track and she decided to join the distance running team based off my recommendations ( I'm a distance runner, and she really enjoyed her first year of cross country ) But now she has decided to try pole vault, and for some reason, this is making me unreasonably mad and extremely jealous of the fact that that means she'll be spending time with 3 other males training, although she has 2 other girls with her. I have no idea what is wrong with me..\n\nI realize that I am being irrational and I beat myself up mentally for it, and tell myself I won't do it again, but then it just happens again, and the same cycle begins. \n\nI am leaving for college and will be ~2 hours away from home in a few months while she finishes her last year of high school ( She's a junior, I'm a senior ). My theory is I just want her for myself for the remaining 5-6 months before I leave because I doubt I'd be seeing her much more than once every other week\n   \nYes, I have talked to her about this and she told me she has noticed my behavior changing and told me that I might just be having another bout with depression and anxiety, both of which I've had before. She honestly is the best and told me that \"We'd take it one day at a time and get over it together\". I want to know what I can do on my side to make this easier for her and myself.", "summary": "I've turned into a irrational, jealous, angry boyfriend and I'm aware of it, how do I go about fixing this?"}
{"id": "t3_10lwbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/M] am starting to \"disconnect\" from parents [54/M] [49/F]", "post": "It just started happening today. Dad (strict) [54] picked me up for something optional at school which I didn't want to go to, exited the car and started walking home, he pulls on my shirt to get me back and I just keep going, tells me I'm walking home and I say \"good\". Mom is starting to really get on my nerves for some reason despite the fact that she is usually leaves for work at 500 and returns after 20:30. Starting to get moody. I'm not sure if normal part of puberty or not. Any ideas of what it is and how I can fix it?", "summary": "Starting to \"disconnect\" from mom and dad and starting to get moody. Not sure if normal or not. Any ideas of what it is?"}
{"id": "t3_zvbz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"I more than like you, but I don't know if I love you\"", "post": "After spending a year and a half with my boyfriend, he said this to me last night. I'm 20 and he's 21. He continued with \"I'm saying this because I don't really know what love is\" I think this is a fair statement, were both quite young and I'm not sure if I know what love is myself, but when he said this I felt terrible. It hurt, and I don't know why. \n\nHe assured me he still wants to be with me, for now anyway. He's only had one girlfriend before this and it was when he was a teenager. I'm starting to think he doesn't plan on sticking around for to long, that he thinks we will eventually break up. \n\nHe might want to experience more than me in his early 20's. He added \"I don't know if we'l be together in 5 years or even a year, hell we could still be together when were 70 but I don't know\" It's a realistic outlook, and he's right, but it really hurt to hear that. I guess I didn't notice how much iv'e grown to \"love\" him over the past year and a half, I was going to mention moving in together but now I'm starting to think he might not want the same things, that he's just like \"Yhea let's just see where it goes\" and he's right! \n\nI was not looking to settle down with anyone when we started going out, but since being with him it's different, I would marry the fucker! I haven't felt like this about anyone else. I honestly thought he might feel the same way about me. \n\nI dunno, just \"I more than like you\" isn't enough for me simply because I more than like him more.\n\nReddit, what should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't know if he loves me, starting to think we want different things."}
{"id": "t3_1y603g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Fianc\u00e9 [25M] only recently told me [26F] about the abortion he's had in a prior relationship...", "post": "My Fianc\u00e9 [25M] only recently told me [26F] about the abortion he's had in a prior relationship. \nWe've known each other for over 12 years. We've been best friends through and through. I knew about the 1 abortion he has been through, but not the second one with his most recent ex. \nThe first one I knew about bc I was also best friends with his ex at the time. The second one I didn't know about until now. He wasn't clear, but from what I gathered he wasn't aware about the abortion until it was too late, and that he wasn't fully okay with it; though he's very thankful he doesn't have any children. L\n(As am I, his ex was a heroine addict) Now I think of all the times I've made jokes about how smart we have been by getting this far in life and NOT following the popular suit of our friends by having kids before marriage, and feel like a jerk. \nWe're getting married soon, and want to have children someday. The thought of it now churns my stomach as I realize that I am more than one woman from being his first he'd impregnate. \nCan someone please share similar situations to stray my mind from jealousy, and how similar people have dealt with similar situations?\n\nI'm not sure what to think or feel, and I almost wish I didn't know. I love him and I'm not letting this stop that or get in the way, but I've silently been struggling with how to deal with such a delicate situation. I'm scared that it will affect our future of having children together.", "summary": "My Fianc\u00e9 [25M] only recently told me [26F] about the abortion he's had in a prior relationship. I can't help but think about how this will affect our future of having children together since I wouldn't be the first, or second even, that he'd ever impregnate. Looking for advice from similar situations."}
{"id": "t3_42xxxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my [24M] boyfriend - 1.5 years together, he may not love me anymore", "post": "BF and I currently live together and after a discussion last night about how unhappy he is, we agreed that I would move out for a little while. I'm unsure if I'm just giving him space or if we're breaking up, but I'm heartbroken.\n\nI packed a few things and drove to my dads. Thankfully he lives close. My bf basically told me he wasn't sure if he was in love with me anymore and wasn't sure how he felt about us. He couldn't really describe why, but I just don't make him happy anymore. He feels like I never want to go out with him on the weekends anymore, and we're not connecting.\n\nWe were planning to move into a new apartment in April and get a dog. We've talked about marriage and kids. I've never wanted that before with anyone. He makes me so happy. Even when things aren't perfect, he makes me happy every day. Certainly not all day every day, but I feel happy more often than not. This is one of the best relationships I've been in. We hardly fight, we communicate decently (most of the time), we make each other laugh. However, he just started going back to school and I just started my new (and very busy) career. He likes to go out on the weekends, but I'm usually tired and want to stay in nowadays. We bonded over going out drinking with our friends when we first started dating. I think maybe he misses that spontaneity and fun that surrounded the beginning of our relationship. I get that.\n\nI'm going to give him some space, I may take a trip this weekend if work allows. I just don't know how to focus on anything. I didn't sleep last night, and I'm writing this at my work desk. I'm still shaking. \n\nI guess I'm just looking for any advice on how to cope. I feel so blindsided. It's just not over for me.", "summary": "Boyfriend may not love me, don't know how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_123dvi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what childhood (or childish) \"sins\" have you committed?", "post": "When I was in the third grade, we had to go sit on the carpet for part of the lesson. Now, being little kids, my peers' pants would sometimes just not cover everything and their butt cracks would show. I always sat in the back with my friend and we saw who all had a plumbers butt, especially taking note of the people sitting near us. The floor was often very dirty because the school could barely afford janitors, and, hey, we were third graders, so we would pick up the random dirt or fuzz or whatever and aim for the butt cracks. It was funny because dirt and butts.", "summary": "In third grade, I filled peoples' undies with random crap because I could see their ass."}
{"id": "t3_seko8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A good friend chirped me for accepting money from my parents, do I have a right to be upset?", "post": "Going to make this as short as possible.  Basically a long time friend of mine said something that really bothers me. I want to get Reddit's opinion.\n\nBackground details: Growing up my family was flat broke because my mom was in school to become a lawyer and my dad was sick and couldn't work. Years have past since then and my parents are in a much better financial position.  They pay for my car and insurance, and cell phone.  I pay for the rest of my expenses like rent, internet, gas, groceries, utilities, entertainment, booze, etc. Sometimes I fall short and my Mom will take me to the grocery store but that's pretty much the extent of my acceptance of money from my parents. \n\nSo anyway's, me and a few friends were discussing a trip we were going to take.  I had a shift at work the day we wanted to go and I said I could get it covered. More people wanted to go than there were seats in the car and my friend starts saying \"don't you want the money from that shift, I thought you said you were broke\" and I just said \"well, w.e\" because I wanted to go on this trip. He then says mocking me \"I'll just ask my Mom for that $100\".\n\nClearly I'm kind of upset about this because I don't like accepting money from my parents when they've worked so hard to earn it.  I'm trying hard to reach financial independence and I don't advertise or show off the fact that they pay for certain things. But at the same time, most people in their early 20's are still a financial burden to their parents in some way shape or form. I mean this guy lives at home with his mom and doesn't pay for anything except his own internet service because his mom doesn't need or want it. \n\nSo what's your opinion Reddit? Am I a piece of shit for accepting money from my parents. Do I have a right to be upset with my friend for chirping me over it when I've always been respectful to him? How do I bring it up that what he said upset me?\n\nThanks for your input!", "summary": "I accept money from my parents, a friend chirped me over it, I'm upset, do I have a right to be upset or is he a dick for chirping me over something that isn't his business? Also, am I a piece of shit for accepting money from them(not for school)?"}
{"id": "t3_2u9xn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 M] and alone my entire life. What now?", "post": "I like myself, which is good, since I spend most of my time alone. But when I don't want to be alone, I'm out of luck. My few relationships have been out of circumstance.\n\nI just want one friend (or better, a girlfriend, but maybe I'm getting ahead of myself). If you can't tell, I dread going to social events since they just seem like a whole lot of noise. But I feel like I'm not going to find anyone else like me, especially one who's also fond of me.\n\nFew people here do anything but go to bars, and the few clubs/meets I have found I am completely uninterested in. I don't like sports, and though I guess I'm nerdy myself, I dislike nerd \"culture.\" I'm back in school full-time, but not to socialize (maybe I should try to take a \"lighter\" class or two?). I tried online dating--let's just say I've never seen someone do worse. \n\nIs \"be someone else\" my only option here? I've tried it, but I also found it very unsatisfying.", "summary": "I prefer being alone most of the time, but when I want companionship I don't know what to do. How can I find someone like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3uwwo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my close friend [27/F] found her with my other close friend. could use advice.", "post": "So this girl who has been a close friend of mine since high school invited me over to her house last week so we could hang out since I live in a different state and we rarely get to see each other. Little background first. We typically text everyday/ talk on the phone every weekend. Has been this way all year. We went on a 2 week vacation together and when my mom was diagnosed with cancer she spent time in the hospital room with me. Now back to next week, she invited me over along with a couple of our other good friends we went to high school with. She told me to leave my stuff (my travel bag since I was in out of town and my coat) well, I went in there to get my tooth brush because the night was winding down and she is sleeping with my other good friend. I walked out of the room and didn't say anything, grabbed my stuff and left. The next morning I told her (finally, i guess) how much she meant to me and how I felt completely blind sided. She told me she didn't expect it to happen but didn't not want to stop talking to me because of it. I told her things would be dramatically different now and I don't know if we can be as close. She asked me why I was being weird and now won't answer my phone calls. Should i just cut my losses and leave?", "summary": "walked in on my good friend sleeping with my other good friend"}
{"id": "t3_4mgqgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] refuse to let my boyfriend's [30M] mom [60'sF] clean the kitchen and they think I'm being rude.", "post": "My boyfriend's mom is visiting for three weeks from quite a distance away. His mom and I have a decent but minimal relationship. I don't see her often, and she's a little hard to connect with, but in all we've never had any problems. I'm closer to his dad.\n\nIn general, I think that cleaning other people's kitchens is not a good idea. There's too much of a risk that you may misplace or break something, so it's best to just leave it up to the host. This doesn't mean I never offer to do the dishes, but if they say no, I don't push it.\n\nCooking is my hobby. My kitchen is not stocked with your standard Teflon pans and plastic pastry brush pushed into the back of some drawer from disuse. I have handmade, antique, and expensive tools that require special care, and I've learned from experience that I can never trust anyone else to even wash the dishes due to the special care some things need. You wouldn't offer to clean someone's hobby carpentry shop, and I don't want people messing with my hobby kitchen.\n\nThat, and I don't think guests should have to do any chores at all. Not in my house at least.\n\nMy boyfriend's mom sees it differently. She wants to help and keeps insisting on cleaning the kitchen. My boyfriend thinks I should at least let her do the dishes so she feels like she's contributing, but I would likely just have to do it over again. They think I'm being rude by not letting her feel like she has a place to be \"mom\" in the kitchen. My boyfriend thinks I could teach her how to clean, but I can imagine that feeling very condescending to her and being overwhelming and testing for both of us.\n\nAm I wrong to be so protective of my kitchen?", "summary": "Boyfriend's mom wants to clean my kitchen, but I don't want her to because she would break, damage or misplace something. They think I'm being rude. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_v7vsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm worried that if I don't break up with my gf, I'll resent her for the rest of our lives.", "post": "Hi. I have been with my girlfriend (both 20) for three years and things are still good. We were together from school and, so far, through University. I still love her but she was my first 'proper' girlfriend and can't help but feel I'm missing out on a single lifestyle and having more relationship experiences. \n\nI don't want to end up marrying the girl and just resenting her being the reason I haven't had the experiences most have (I know it's not all it's made up to be, but I'd like to find out for myself). Also, I was depressed and dropped out of Uni, partly because the distance of our relationship (went to different Unis) was taking it's toll on me. I couldn't be with her, nor other people.\n\nAny advice please? I'm afraid if I do end it because of this it'll be a huge mistake.", "summary": "I'm happy with my current gf of 3 years. But just worried I'll resent her in the future for being why I didn't have more relationship experiences/feel more independent rather than always feeling as 'us' rather than 'me'. "}
{"id": "t3_2b1gds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 m][27f] 7 month relationship with dream girl and im devistated", "post": "I have always had an idea in my head of what my perfect woman was. [Half asian beauty with everything in common. EVERYTHING.] She suddenly showed up in my life HOLY SHIT SPARKS FLEW. I GOT HER. IT WAS PERFECT. It was like living in a dream. She was a model gorwing up.\n\nLong story short, She got cold out of nowhere. Emotionally abused me pushed me away and blamed me for not giving her space and then I found out she had started a new relationship behind my back.\n\n Absolutely crushed me. I explained in more detail the night I found out on r-off my chest. Link will be provided in comments.  I confronted her and she lied to my face about it for 2 hours straight with PHOTO EVIDENCE. Left me for the guy the very next day.\n\n Talked shit about me, stole from me, lied to my face. A few days after my world came tumbling down I wound up calling my mother one night and telling her I was going to kill myself. She called the police and I was forcibly removed from my home and taken to the psych ward.\n\n It has been 3 months and I still cry everyday. I am still devastated. I don't sleep much anymore and when I do, I dream of her. I have cut all contact and I feel like I will never find anything near what we had.\n**HELP", "summary": "my dream girl lied cheated and left me for another man"}
{"id": "t3_1la6b2", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "My own PHOB story", "post": "The PHOB - A little acronym I made up.  Most offices have one...the \"Power Hungry Office Bitch\". This is the woman (or man...I've only seen women do this though...) who holds a generally pointless job (think HR) and tries to accumulate as much political office power as possible. I imagine it's so that she can feel special and important.  \n\nThe Setup: I work as an phone clerk for a law office.  My job is to sit in my cubicle, call potential clients, and try to schedule them to come in for an appointment.  The boss, R, is a generally laid-back, cool kind of guy.  The PHOB would constantly scrutinize my every move, even though I am NOT under her management purview.  She scans applications and writes payroll, that's about it.  I always bring my laptop to fill the dull stints where no hits are happening on the dialer.  (I usually just Reddit or watch YouTube)  Naturally, I pause what I'm doing to speak to any clients on the dialer that pop up.  I'm getting occasional clients booked, so I'm doing my job just fine, yet the PHOB kept \"tattling\" to R, the boss, that I was wasting company time and playing games.  Naturally, R checks the dialer reports and sees that I'm his top performing agent, but only after hassling me over her rumors.  Long story short, the PHOB did everything she could to bureaucratically hassle me in every way possible.\n\nThe Vengeance - I go through my days as best I can.  I look for other jobs in the meantime.  Finally, I land an interview, and then a job.  On my resignation letter, I put a few helpful hints about how the firm could be made more efficient.  I ended up with about two paragraphs on how the PHOB's job could essentially be replaced by Quickbooks for a fraction of the cost.  R, who is not tech savvy, was astounded at this revelation and ended up canning her and following my advice.", "summary": "The PHOB kept fucking with me with her little bureaucratic tricks, so I got her ass replaced by computer software."}
{"id": "t3_1s8o6n", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Breaking Contracts [North Carolina & South Korea]", "post": "I help a friend run a Korea-based business that basically gets graduates from the United States contracts to teach English at various schools in South Korea.  On this side, I help them with all the travel stuff you have to do to get over there, and my friend organizes meetings with different schools and basically \"sells\" them the candidates that are interested in the program.  \n\nIts kind of a new business and we're running it with very little actual business experience between the two of us.  Which is why we've run into this current situation.\n\nThe schools have a contract with us for the teacher.  The teacher has a candidate with the school, but there really isn't a lot of legalese between us (the business) and the teachers we find.  \n\nWhat recently happened is a teacher decided the 'Teach-In-Korea' thing was a bad idea and broke his contract and ran home.  Obviously, this leaves the school in a bad situation and we're paying to help them replace the teacher and for the breach of contract.  \n\nHow can we protect ourselves from this type of thing in the future?  Obviously a contract, but what we're really worried about is that the business is based in Korea and any contract for a Korea-based business would really be considered a binding contract here in America.\n\nAny advice on this?  We would really like to avoid paying damages for any teachers that suddenly get cold feet in the middle of their contract again.", "summary": "Would a contract for a business in South Korea be binding if we brought it court in the United States?"}
{"id": "t3_2065nn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [24F] am not sure how much is too much between my fianc\u00e9 [23M] and his co-worker [21F].", "post": "[Original post here.](\n\nI didn't say this last time because I wanted unbiased advice, but our relationship was emotionally abusive as well as manipulative. I've loved him for so long that I just kept hoping things would turn around. And while I sat there hoping I lost my self-esteem and most of my sanity.\n\nAnyway, I went to his apartment earlier to talk to him about our relationship. I explained that, although I love him and care about him, I don't see us building a future together.\n\nI avoided blaming him, although I did a little bit. Honestly for the past couple weeks I've been thinking I would be better off single and -- thanks to you all -- I had a little extra courage to stand up for myself. I made it absolutely crystal clear that we are over. I told him that we could possibly be friends some day, but I need two months of no contact. He agreed.\n\nIt was incredibly hard. We both cried a lot and held each other but I knew that what we were doing before wasn't working. I need to take care of myself right now and we both need to grow as people. I do still love him, but as a friend not a lover.\n\nI just wanted to thank everyone again for their words of wisdom. You helped this broken little lady put herself first. I know that I don't feel so happy right now but some day soon I will, and I'll look back and know that I made the right decision.", "summary": "I grew balls."}
{"id": "t3_3hbuju", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m]Trust Issue's and Anxiety on new girl. Help?!?!?", "post": "Hey guys first time posting. First my story and then my issues.\nMy first relationship lasted roughly 8 years until eventually we grew apart and it was time things had to end. That was fine and it was even my choice to make the decision to leave. Not realizing what I was doing I quickly got into another relationship from a girl I met on Tinder and well we really hit it off and I really liked her and I fell for her relatively quickly. We starting dating about 4 months after I left my first girl, everything went well but I had alot of anxiety, never believed anything she said and went through a depression during the relationship and evidently she left me for someone else. Lasted 7 months, Which hurt me alot and destroyed my trust in anybody. I felt that I gave her all of me which she evidently didnt deserve at all and took me completely for granted with everything I did for her. So obviously I have developed trust issues now. So its been about 6 months since her and I just met a girl last weekend using Tinder again and she's really awesome, seems to be really into me and we spent the whole weekend together. So things would be going good and im looking forward to getting to know her.\nBut the weekend is over and I can't shake off this intense anxiety that I really really really shouldn't trust anything she says or does. That she's most likely off going to meet some other men and/or just using me for wtv she wants.\nNow, im no idiot. I realize that we dont owe eachother anything etc... and this is Okay. Honestly im ok with wtv she does and if she wants to see other people then thats fine with me...... But why can't I get it out of my head that im going to be hurt.\nAnyways.... The real issue here is. I am EXTREMELY afraid to get any deeper with this girl or with anyone for that fact and I just dont know what to do???\nAlso I have ALOT of anxiety about everything pertaining to this subject since ive met this girl.\nAny advice at all on anything like this?? Thank You", "summary": "Gave someone everything and they took it away in one swoop and now I cant trust anyone."}
{"id": "t3_2qans1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Question about my girlfriends night out", "post": "Male/female 23//22 been in a relationship for one year\n\nMy girlfriends best friend came home from break last Monday. They decide to hangout and end up going out to a local bar together.\n\nThe next day she tells me she ran into 2 guys from high school. One which used to have a crush on her. They asked them to smoke, to which my gf and her friend agreed. They went out, all four, to the local dock to smoke. \n\nI'm happy she told me because it makes me feel she's honest. I'm not happy she agreed to go out alone with these two guys to smoke with them. Knowing one of them likes her. It's one thing to be at the bar and chill with them, it's another to agree to step out alone with them. They asked my gf to hang out more but she said she declined and that nothing happened that night. Am I over reacting to this? Should I voice my concern or just let it slide? I'm 23 she's 22.", "summary": "Gf goes out w best friend to local bar"}
{"id": "t3_2aer4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Pursuing a friendship then more.", "post": "I'm a 19 yr old male. I really like this girl(18 yr). I met her through a friend and have a hungout with her a couple times. We get along well and have similar personalities.  The main contact I have is through social media: twitter, snapchat and text. Our conversations usually don't last long except one occasion when we discussed a serious topic of depression and shared how we've had our moments. So we connected on another level (so I thought). Anyway the question is how can I pursue a friendship then more if she won't talk to me much. Is she ignoring me or just a busy person? I feel like we could have something if we tried.", "summary": "How can I pursue a friendship and more if she won't talk to me very long. Is she ignoring me or just busy?"}
{"id": "t3_4ukbbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [19F] wants to go on a very low-calorie diet, but don't want to seem controlling and tell her not to because it will be bad for her.", "post": "We were talking today, and as I said she wants to go on a low calorie diet and I know it will be bad for her. She started the conversation by saying she didn't want to tell me since she thought I would judge her or shout at her because of it. \n\nI'm a strong believer in not being controlling, so I'm not going to tell her what to do or not to do, I gave her  my thoughts on it but whether or not she will still do it, is up to her.\n\nI have a very strong feeling she will go through with it, I don't want to her to because it has a lot of negative affects and with it being close to coming up to school again it's quite important that we have enough nutritions throughout the day so we can do work efficiently and I just think this will affect her massively.\n\nI don't want to tell her what to do, so I'm going to let her decide what to do, but do you guys think I should be more controlling/forward with this or not?", "summary": "She is going on a diet of around 600/700 calories, and she was scared tell me in case I judge her or have a go at her. I haven't because she can do what she wants, but what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_37vfx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M37] son [M17] just told me that he's in love with my fiance [F29].", "post": "Yesterday my son brought me into his room so that we could talk. I was somewhat worried, everything's pretty relaxed in our household, not much you can't say in the lounge room. He sat me down and said that he's in love with my fiance. He said he was sorry and that he didn't mean for it to happen. He was on the verge of tears and I didn't really know what to say, so I just sat down next to him and gave him a pat on the back and said that it was alright.\n\nMy fiance and I have been together for 2 and a half years now. She moved in 6 months ago after we got engaged. Since then she's been trying to do things with my son so that she could feel more like part of the family. I'm guessing some wires got crossed.\n\nDo I just leave it at that? Should I tell my fiance so she can comfort him? I don't really know what else to do. I haven't seen him this upset since he was a kid. I would feel wrong just leaving it at that, but I have no idea what else to say or do.", "summary": "My [M37] son [M17] just told me that he's in love with my fiance [F29]."}
{"id": "t3_sz8x7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, what's your most awesome (or awkward) Omegle experience?", "post": "Okay, so I'll start with the awkward one. One time, well, last night actually, me and my bestfriend (we are both teenage males) decided to go onto Omegle. It was great, there was a very attractive girl on the other end with a nice rack. We talked for about an hour, got her Skype, number, Facebook, ect., and she was pretty nice. And then the subject of sex came up. My douche bag friend then proceeded to ask if we could have a peek at her tits, and after like 5 minutes of him negotiating with her she said this, \"I'll show you my tits if you guys both make out right now.\" And oh my... Me and him made eye-contact and stared at each other for what seemed like an eternity. Then he flicked off the girl, closed omegle, and the opened pornhub. We didn't talk for like an hour because of the thought of us making out. What a scumbag Stacy that chick was at the end.\n\nAnd now for the awesome, this was last month. Found really hot 17 y/o brunette. She was just my type. (too bad it was over the internet) She liked a lot the things I liked to do, she played lacrosse, PC games, and loved to talk with people. And then we clicked when we started to talk about religion. She started all out raging on religious people and the bible. I wanted to fucking marry this girl. It was awesome, found a gorgeous girl who was an atheist. And when she was about to get off she flashed me her tits without me even asking. Got her number, Skype, and Facebook and we've been talking almost every night. The bad part? She lives in California, I live in Illinois...\n\nSo reddit, what was your most awesome/awkward Omegle experience?", "summary": "Awkward: Was with best friend, met hot girl with huge rack, talked to her for awhile, she said she would show us her tits if me and my best friend would make out, me and my best friend had awkward eye contact for what seemed like an eternity, we didn't talk to each other for like an hour."}
{"id": "t3_1amm6x", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Hello /r/pets, please help me with a poop problem!", "post": "Sorry for the lack of better title... >.> and I hope this is the right section for these sort of concerns.\n\nI've always wanted a dog or cat, and I would discuss all kinds of pet related subjects with both pet owning and non-pet owning friends. One day a friend says \"dogs/cats obviously can't use toilet paper after they do their business, right? So imagine, anything they sit on... Floor, couch, bed, your shirt.... Isn't that gross...??? I agreed, it is a bit gross. It caused my mind to conjure chain events that made me shudder and slightly reconsider the idea of owning a dog/cat. I don't know much about dogs/cats so I am not even sure if there is merit to what he said. I don't know how common these ideas are but I would like to read how people feel about this topic!", "summary": "Dogs/cats can't clean their butts and it's making me worried about how that will affect other objects in my life. Please tell me what you feel about it!"}
{"id": "t3_2yc3sk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 4 months, I lied to her", "post": "I lied to my girlfriend about going to a party and she is very hurt about it. I didnt do anyhting at the party or anything but we had been fighting that day because i went to an event earlier that day that my ex showed up to. I did not invite my girlfriend to the event and she obviously felt bad and she felt like i was excluding her from a family event but the only reason i didnt invite her was because I didnt even know about till last minute. Now that situation has been resolved as I have made it clear to my ex that she repulses me in every way. But yes I did lie and I feel like an asshole. She asked me about it yesterday and I came clean, needless to say she was furious and I understand but I never meant any harm by it. I lie, a lot, to get me out of sticky situations, I try to not lie to her about anything but this one time that I did I feel so guilty I just want her to be happy but I feel like Im always letting her down. What can I do to fix this?", "summary": "Lied to my girlfriend and she found out. How do I apologize genuinely and how do I start gaining her trust again?"}
{"id": "t3_4t7cjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] in love with my [27M] gay friend. Should I spoil friendship and disclose feelings?", "post": "Let me keep this succinct and sweet. Perhaps best with bullet points\n\n- me and said friend work in the same lab (both graduate students doing short-term projects, I'm affiliated with the university, he's a visiting student)\n- became interested in him because, as per his body language, he seemed interested in me (and he is pretty much my type physically speaking)\n- didn't realize he was gay until I finally struck up a conversation with him (he appears very hetero in terms of almost everything) and he made it abundantly clear (didn't make it abundantly clear because I expressed interest but just in context of our conversations)\n- got to know him A LOT better (spending more time together than before) and realized he's even my type, personality-wise\n- he seems to like me a lot back but only as a friend\n- he leaves for Germany at the end of this coming week\n- I want to tell him how I really feel but I'm afraid this will not only spoil our friendship, but he'll think I've only been hanging out with him because of my feelings for him (and ergo, spoil friendship)", "summary": "30 y/o female in love with her 27 y/o gay male friend who is leaving for Germany in a week. Should I disclose feelings or not?"}
{"id": "t3_3mokvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M/Gay] crush on [19M/Straight] - both are best friends but I get closer to him each day...", "post": "_Throwaway because he knows my reddit account since we found us there ;)_\n\nI transformed the last year from a straight person to a bi and then to a gay person. (Nobody knows except a couple of online friends, him included).\n\nJuly this year we discovered each other on a smaller subreddit and are now best friends. Like real friends and no relationship. Although I have a crush on him and he **probably** knows about that. \n\nWell after a month or two we tried to nsfw texting and he kinda enjoyed it + wanted to do more. But after a couple weeks, he just said that he wanted to stop and never do it again + was sorry about it and that we shouldn't have started it. Well I was shocked since I thought he maybe has a crush on me also but, well, I guess I was wrong.\n\nBut the real problem is that I simply don't see him anymore as a friend, but more as a boyfriend. I just help him out whenever I can (and also the other way around since I'm depressed and he is also falling into a depressing state) I just describe it to him as \"he's a brother for me\" (since I don't have one).\n\nGeneral information about us:\n\n* _Other friends think that we both are a couple / should go out and so on..._\n* He's in a religious home with strict parents.\n* We both play / talk the whole day whenever it's possible (Like: Good morning texts, good night texts, and just communication throughout the whole time whenever it's possible)\n\nYes I'm young, but it's just, erm, well my first love... What should I do, please help me here.", "summary": "I [gay] fell in love with a straight guy. Both tried to nsfw text, he enjoyed it but after a couple weeks he said that he doesn't want to do it anymore. I'm in love with him. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hj836", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How long is too long?", "post": "I (26m) am dating a (31f). We've been seeing each other for about two months now. It's clear, at least to me that we like one another and I've told her I want to move on to the next level and be in a relationship with her. Shw tells me that she's still not sure. One reason being that she wants a man who's ready to settle and succesful etc etc. I tell her that i understand and that for me its only a matter of time before i get to that part of life. We act like a couple. Do things couples do. Yet we arent an official couple...just exclusively dating. Im beginning to feel that this may be a wild goose chase. What are your thoughts? What would you do?", "summary": "been dating this woman for 2 months now and she keeps telling me she's not sure where she wants to go with this? How long is too long?"}
{"id": "t3_2ef2pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17 F) \"broke up\" with my fwb (17 m) and it broke my heart.", "post": "Yes, I managed to break my own heart. When I was in,a committed relationship (lasted 13 months) somewhere along the lines we agreed to be friends with benefits if we broke up. We waited about a month before we did anything though. No, I wasn't completely over him at the time we started this but about 2 months in I was. I only saw him as a friend and fuck buddy. \n\nHe told me twice, on 2 separate occasions that he liked me and was thinking about getting back together. The first time, I said no. The more recent time, I told him I was  down if he was. But we both needed time to think so its been about 3 weeks- 1 month and nothing.\n\nso last night, I slept at his place and we had sex. I had never slept with him before and when we cuddled, I got mad butterflies and it scared me, so today I called everything off. He decided it was time to move on.\n\nI'm sad cuz I didn't actually explain to him why I didn't want to have sex anymore... And I also haven't told anybody that we've been having sex still. (its been about 7 months since we broke up).\n\nI just needed a vent and maybe some advice on what to do.", "summary": "Broke things off with my fwb (who is also my ex) but we both had crushes on each other. Also haven't told friends or family we've been seeing each other."}
{"id": "t3_cybv1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, how do I become more of a (gentle)man?", "post": "So the short version is that my long-distance girlfriend has decided to take a break. We're planning on living in the same place soon, but since graduating a few months ago, most of my friends left town and I haven't managed to find a job (I'm a CS major). Basically she thinks I'm burning out and not trying hard enough (working) to get back to her.\n\nThing is, I want to be with this girl. I've decided to get my shit together and go get her back. I'm shooting out resumes, I've started working out, etc. It's a work in progress, but the intention is good.\n\nAnyway, I've decided to quit playing video games altogether and spend my down time learning a few new skills to aid me in my quest, and just generally make me and my life more interesting. I'm thinking I'll learn piano, maybe (a manly form of) dance. Maybe the thing with the sword and the wine bottle.", "summary": "What are some skills every (gentle)man should possess?"}
{"id": "t3_nrtau", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got peed on...what do I do?", "post": "So this might top the list of questions I never thought I'd have to ask, haha.\n\nBackground: Derpina and I have been friends for a year or so, met at a mutual job but only worked together a few months, still see each other every other week or so, more in the last 2 weeks, becoming increasingly interested in her, and it appears to be reciprocal.\n\nLast night (Christmas), we're out drinking like elves, she tells me that she just found out her family has to put her dog down, so I decide to be quite supportive and we have a good night at the pub. She tells me she doesn't want to sleep at home with all her dog's stuff that night, so I offer her my place of course. I offer to sleep on the couch, she insists we cuddle up instead, I'm down. Knowing full well how wrong it would be to take advantage of the alcohol and grief situation, we spoon up and fall asleep. \n\nA few hours later? Warmth. WTF Is that? Reach down...oh shit, she's passed out, and pissing the bed. A lot. I get up, leave her be, change my pants, and sleep on the couch. Get up this morning and she's mortified. I tell her it's no big deal (It isn't, this is why washing machines exist, and I've done plenty of drunk embarrassing shit so I can't judge) and she doesn't say 10 words to me.\n\nSo yeah...what do?", "summary": "Had a ladyfriend over, she pisses the bed, and me, unsure about how to handle this and still have a good relationship, she's mortified and walled off."}
{"id": "t3_1f8rko", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Credit card fraud follow up -- worth pursuing?", "post": "A little over a month ago I had a pending ~$700 charge on my visa from a cell phone company I do not use.  Talked to my CC company and they said nothing they can do until it either posts or goes away.  A week later, the charge finally disappears --- I decided to cancel the account anyway just in case.  No harm done.\n\nFlash forward to today - received a voicemail from a computer company I've never purchased anything from asking if I would like to reorder my attempted order from April (which evidently did not go through because of a 'credit card issue').  Clearly another charge that isn't mine which probably came right as I canceled my original card, or there abouts. \n\nBut they left a reference number for the order in the voicemail so I figured I would follow up.  I wound up getting all the info off of the account -- it included my name, home billing address, phone number and my (now canceled) credit card info.  It also included a shipping address (which is presumably the home address of the fraudster) on the other side of the US.\n\nSo now I have this info but I have no idea what I can/should do with it.  My bank doesn't seem to be that interested because no charge was ever made on my account (though they said even if one was it probably wouldn't change anything) and I live in a huge city far, far away from where the person possibly lives so I doubt getting in touch with my local PD would matter or if they would even care (and like I said, not even sure a crime was committed -- though someone clearly intended to at least try).\n\nAny thoughts?  I have no interest in \"tracking the person down\" or anything like that though would like to try to make sure they can't keep getting away with this.  Or is it a lost cause and just be happy it didn't cause me more hassle than canceling my account?\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "people attempted to steal my credit card info but none of the charges went through.  I have their shipping address but not sure if any authority cares or who, if anyone, to present the info to."}
{"id": "t3_l3rdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fed up with boyfriends best friend (whos a girl)", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for  2 year  now. He's got a girl best friend who I've never really cared for. We are in our early 20s.\n\nLet me back up some- when we first started dating, her and I met and I could tell right off the bat that she never really warmed up to me. I didn't get that welcomed feeling with her. Instead, I got nothing, everytime I'd talk to her, it was almost as if she'd ignore me.\nWhen we would all hang out, the two of them would talk, and any time I would try to talk, it was like it didn't matter.\nNormally I know how to handle myself when situations like the occur, but with the 2 of them I don't know how to do so.\n\nI've talked with my boyferiend about it, and he said I shouldnt worry about that, and that she likes me.\n\nI've come to find out that she doesnt give a shit cause him and I aren't serious, which really irks me. It proves the type of person you really are is an extrmely shitty one. What type of person DOESN'T care to know their best friends significant other even if it is temporary? \n\nI WANT to be her friend-but since she started this relationship shitty cause of her past :grew up in a broken home, parents divorced etc... doesn't give her that right to NOT care. I've been in the same parental situation she's been in and I care about my friends significant others whether or not they ARE serious, -but I can't forgive that she simply \"didnt care\" from the getgo about me\n\nI'm not going anywhere, and neither is she.  I love my boyfriend so much, I want to be with him, but her and I are dampening our own relationship together, and it hurts.", "summary": "My boyfriend's best friend who's a girl can't stand me, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_24nral", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and my bf [23M] hardly have sex anymore", "post": "A little back story:\n\nMy bf and I met on Reddit last year, of all places. We hit things off really well. One thing led to another and now we're living together in his country.\n\nI love him to bits and I know he does too, but we rarely have sex. We recently celebrated our 1 year together. On average, we probably do it about once a month. For our 1 year anniversary, he didn't even seem enthusiastic about having sex. I almost had to beg him for it. About 90% of the time, I have to initiate.\n\nI try my bit by asking him to come to bed to cuddle, but he just falls asleep. Or if I ask, he's too tired or groans about it before we do it.\n\nHe shows his affection in other ways. Like kissing me, hugging me etc. but no sex.\n\nI have talked to him about this on several occasions and he acknowledges the problem but nothing changes. Last night he told me it was because he's lazy.\n\nHe seems to be fine living in a sex-less relationship, but I'm not!\n\nI didn't want to turn to the internet for answers, as I wanted to work this out between the two of us, but I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm lost and don't know who to talk to about this. I need an outsider's opinion. I hate doing this behind his back, but I don't know what else to do.", "summary": "Bf of 1 year never wants to have sex. I initiate but get rejected."}
{"id": "t3_46vit8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19f) bf (23f) of 2 years has crazy desires for his female friends", "post": "I snooped through my bf's phone and found out that he has been taking photos of his female friends while they undress. I believe that my bf acts like a nice guy around them to make them trust him since he has a gf but secretly desires them sexually.\nThe reason the girls were undressing is because they were on a school trip and they just got out of the shower. The photos were all taken from far away.\n\nHe also takes photos of girls he walks behind outside (butts) \n\nSo suddenly my bf is a total pervert and I just want some opinions because I feel embarrassed about this and could never tell my friends that I am not good enough for my own bf.\nMaybe all guys are like that??\nAlso: How can I trust him when he meets those friend everyday at school?", "summary": "Bf desires female friends from school and other girls sexually, what would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2h1uki", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have $10,000. Should I invest in solar panels or pay off some of my student loan.", "post": "I recently moved into a new house. From the sale of my old house, I will receive about $10,000 that didn't go into the down payment of the new house. I originally planned on putting that towards my student loan but I am now looking at using it towards solar panels for my house. Financing on the solar panels (about 16k) is 6.5% while my two loans (16,000k at 3.5% variable rate and 19.5k at 4.75%). I plan to stay in this house 10 years so if I were to wait a few years to get solar, then I wouldn't recoup the cost of putting it in. I live in a very sunny area and my normal electricity bill is about $150 a month on average but I'm very frugal with electricity. \n\nFrom how I'm planning it, I will use my tax refund over the next 3 years to pay off the remaining student loans so it's really more of a timing issue. I hate the idea of student loans and don't like being in debt but I also want to get the most of out my house. Student loan payments are about $350 a month if that helps.", "summary": "Have $10,000. Should I put it towards the investment of solar or pay off a portion of my student loans?"}
{"id": "t3_1ojsuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-Romantic] For people with crazy, drug addicted and/or manipulative family members, how did they get that way and how do you deal with them?", "post": "I was hoping that this could be a more general question, but the rules say that ages are required. So, my cousin is in her late 30's, she's struggling with all kind of issues, but refuses to address any of her problems. \n\nBasically, she's a single Mom with health issues, a history of abusive relationships and is currently barely getting by on disability. We also think that she's addicted to her pain medicine, regularly smokes marijuana and hangs out with all kinds of really questionable guys.\n\nShe regularly skips doctor appointments. She makes it impossible for family and friends to help by being impossible with her schedule, lying, making all kinds of drama. She manipulates people into giving her money, and gets really angry when we offer to buy groceries or pay bills directly. She also refuses to go to therapy, make a budget or generally be rational about any of her problems.\n\nRight now I mostly leave it to other family members to help because I got too sucked in, and felt like I was enabling her. I'm not sure what we can do at this point, but I'm sure her daughter is going to be really affected by all of this. We've already tried an intervention of sorts, my parents have talked to lawyers to look into getting custody and we've had to contact Child Protective Services, but nothing came of any of it. What do?", "summary": "Cousin is manipulative, unstable and possibly addicted to drugs. How do I help without being dragged into her shit?"}
{"id": "t3_16183d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] am considering an open relationship with my boyfriend [30] of 3 years. Is this a bad idea or could this work?", "post": "It's a very long story so I'll try to summarize and provide details when asked. We have lived together since almost the start of our relationship and have always been extremely close. One of our issues has always been sexual needs. We split up a couple of days ago over this because he met someone at work who he immediately wanted to fuck their brains out and felt guilty and like it wasn't fair to me.\n\nI explained to him tonight that every human in a relationship has these feelings at one time or another (correct me if I'm wrong). I too have wanted to fuck other people before but have never considered ending the relationship because of it. I feel like it's important these things remain sexual-only and no emotions involved which he has already stated would be the case with the current girl in question.\n\nHe also didn't have many other sexual partners before me so it's definitely coming into play. This situation is also something I have considered in the past without him (being polyamorous/non- monogamous-not sure?) We have also discussed threesomes and such before.\n\nThe reason none of it has come to fruition before now is because of my own insecurities with my body. I'm trying to reach the point now of knowing its my only body and working it. I'm in the process of losing 30 lbs and have lost weight since we started dating. My weight has always been a strain on my sexual confidence especially in bed with him. \n\nSo on one hand I feel mostly okay with letting him fuck other women (and me fucking other men when I find someone appropriate) but I don't want to be jealous. I have thought all of this out without getting emotional at all so it's all with a clear head. I want to have our amazing and awesome relationship as partners and still be open to other things. I also don't want to be completely neglected by him and find a balance of healthy sex and also occasional sex with others. Is this possible? \n\nIs this appropriate? Would I be better off posting this to r/polyamory or  something?", "summary": "A relationship in which we can fuck other people is something I have always been interested in but I'm afraid of my own insecurity getting in the way. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4fh8jm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] miss my friend [19F, would be 23F] and want to know where she is buried.", "post": "Hi, pretty much just what the title says. I had a friend in high school who took her life at 19 four years ago; without going into detail I miss her a lot and just want to visit her before I move across the country in a year. \n\nI looked up to her so much and her mental fortitude and perseverance gave me the strength to push myself through some of the hardest times in my life. She was my hero, but she never even knew. \n\nI only went to her wake, as the funeral service was family-only-- so I do not know anything about the funeral itself.\n\nI tried calling the foreman of cemeteries in the town that she passed away in, but he said he had no record of someone with her name being buried there. Should I try other towns nearby? Or is it possible this means she was cremated?\n\nI only met her family once or twice, and would feel inappropriate asking. Although they do have Facebook, so if I needed to reach out to them for any information it would be possible--just unsure how to go about doing so. Any advice would be extremely appreciated.\n\nJust want to see my friend again.", "summary": "Friend passed away unexpectedly, want to know if there is any way I can find her grave and say goodbye. I am moving far away in a year so this is very important to me."}
{"id": "t3_fbmii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Insecure", "post": "Hi reddit. My partner of 6 years (I am F, 34; he is 36) and I are having a tough time sexually. He has been uninterested in sex through the years and is very uncomfortable talking about it. I have also been uncomfortable with the situation and have personalized it. We have been working on things, but I am having a tough time.  I have lost confidence in my body and am having a hard time building it back. When I am with him I often feel unattractive and on edge. When I tell him I am feeling this way, he says I am being selfish. It is also common for him to insult me by minimizing my feelings, saying he doesn't care how I feel. He also sometimes calls me names when I bring it up. There are other times when he is great to be with, and he has been supportive to me in other ways, so the situation feels fucked up for me. I have had very insecure reactions to his withdrawal of affection -have been jealous of people in his life, things on tv or the Internet that feel \"threatening\" to me, I guess? Which I know isn't cool. But mostly now the reactions are turned inward and I feel on constant edge of losing the relationship. What do? I am own worst enemy? I am so damn insecure.", "summary": "totally insecure & need help & ideas"}
{"id": "t3_3tnh66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unclear whether my [21 F] coworker/friend of a couple months has more than friendly feelings for [24 M] me.", "post": "Known this girl for about four months now and we recently really started to hang out/ get to know each other better. At first I felt she liked me in a flirty way, but the more I hang out with her/ get to know her I feel more friendly to her in my head.\n\nThe other day she shared some really personal backstory with me about her family and then took me out to lunch which we haven't done yet so can't tell if we're becoming better friends or there's more to it.\n\nShe laughs at all my jokes, constantly tries to touch me, always is this hyper giddy goofy person around me.\n\nFrom what I can tell it doesn't look like she is like this with other guy friends. I've become friends with her girlfriends and they seem to like me as well.\n\nI'm attracted to her, but I'm not sure if I just want her as a friend or something more quite yet.", "summary": "Unsure if coworker friend is simply becoming closer friend or has deeper feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1o0po1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 4 years. Her sister is making inappropriate advances.", "post": "I posted this in /r/askreddit yesterday, but the advice was bad. Here's a direct copy/paste:\n\nI'm 22. My girlfriend is 23 and we've been together for 4 years. Realistically, we're going to get married, but we're just waiting until we're settled down in life (I'm a phd candidate, so my salary is like $35K. My girlfriend is a teacher and the pay is really really really shitty for young teachers (read: less than minimum wage with the hours she puts in.) The money just isn't there for marriage.)\n\nAnyway, she has a twin sister. Said sister recently got dumped by her boyfriend and was all depressed. So she came over on Saturday night crying. Us three got drunk. In our alcoholic stupor, I ended up making out with my girlfriend's sister. Right in front of my girlfriend. I don't remember how it happened. Something about trying to boost her self-confidence because she felt unwanted by men. \n\nSunday morning, she and I briefly talked about it before she got called into work, and then she was at work all day. I tried to talk to my girlfriend about it, but it's pretty clear she doesn't care. I figured that'd be the end of it and I should just get less drunk next time.\n\nExcept my girlfriend's sister came over for dinner just a while ago and greeted me by slapping my ass and kissing me. In front of my girlfriend.\n\nI confronted her about it and essentially said something like \"What are you doing, I'm dating your sister, etc etc.\" Except, she didn't see to care.\n\nWhat should I do about this?", "summary": "Girlfriend's sister is making advances. Girlfriend doesn't care."}
{"id": "t3_2jjt6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [23/M] makes fart noises with his mouth to mock/try to silence me whenever we're having an argument. Is this abusive?", "post": "It's 'funny', but at the same time it feels like as close as you can get to a physical attack without actually attacking someone. Like, worse than cuss words. It's done mockingly and seems intended to humiliate me. We'll be arguing and then when he gets sick of hearing it he does this noise over any of my words from then on out. I don't know, is this abusive behavior?\n\ncan I get serious replies only please", "summary": "my (22/f) boyfriend (23/m) of 3 years mocks me with farting noises when we're arguing and it's actually really annoying and feels abusive"}
{"id": "t3_4f146v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell someone you aren't interested in them when they're being friendly-flirty?", "post": "I (f21) have a new job (part time, been there 2 weeks) and I really like it. \n\nOne of the guys(m24) at my work friend requested me on Facebook and I accepted it. He messaged me and it was pretty casual. just getting to know you type stuff. He said I have a great smile & I just replied with a smile emoji & changed the subject. Then he said we should hang out sometime and I said \"I'm down\". He also expressed how I'm extra nice to him & he usually doesn't get that from coworkers because he's an introvert. \n\nI know it doesn't sound like much but I'm really not interested in anything more than a friendship with this person. I don't want to be a tease which is what I'm most worried about, him thinking I'm interested.\n\nI don't know when I should tell him I'm not looking for anything right now or if I should at all. I don't want to be *that* girl who tells a guy she's not interested when he isn't either. I really wanted an outsiders view because I'm kind of going cazy in my mind, thanks", "summary": "my new coworker showed signs he's interested in me (that's how it feels) and I wanted advice on how to keep it a friendship & friendship only"}
{"id": "t3_gg4wn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice with wedding drama", "post": "Five months from now I'll be getting married and the planning has been going swimmingly... until recently.  Turns out there are two dissenting parties on how things should go down: the first party consists of my fianc\u00e9e and her parents, while the second consists of my family and ailing grandmother.\n\nMy grandmother is very sick and lives in a nursing home where she requires constant care for everything (feeding, bathing, etc.) so for her to attend the ceremony, which is 4 hours away, she'd need special transport, accommodations, and caregivers.  To make things more difficult the wedding/reception is being held outside/in a barn making accessibility that much more difficult.  For these reasons my fianc\u00e9e doesn't want my grandma to be invited as her presence would be an unnecessary distraction and, since it's our wedding, the emphasis should be on us.  My grandma is at the end of her life and she's really looking forward to this as her last hurrah, but my fianc\u00e9e is adamant that she will not be coming.\n\nRight now I'm trying to reach a compromise so that I 1) won't have to tell my dying grandmother she's not invited (I don't think I could ever do that anyway) and 2) my fianc\u00e9e won't eternally resent me for inviting my grandmother and ruining our wedding day.\n\nFrom a practical standpoint, I think my grandmother travelling such a distance and navigating such difficult terrain would be stressful and harmful to her health, but I certainly don't want to deny her last request.  Also, I think my fianc\u00e9e is being unreasonable and is putting much more importance on the pomp and circumstance of the ceremony than on sharing the festivities with our families.\n\nSo far I've suggested eloping (been pushing for that since the day I proposed), having the videographer stream footage of the wedding to my grandma, or having a separate smaller ceremony close to my grandmother so it'd be easier for her to attend, however all of these ideas have been shot down.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9e doesn't want sick grandmother to attend wedding, grandmother wants to attend wedding before she dies."}
{"id": "t3_3qf0sn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Am I breaking the law by helping my mother hide her savings from the bank?", "post": "**Background:**\n\nI'm a student in Ireland. I live away from home and keep two separate bank accounts. I don't really use my second account. My parents have just recently made a deal with the bank (to clear their debt if they sell the properties they own). As part of the deal, they get to move to an older home that needs a lot of work. Obviously they need money to do this house up, but the bank watches their accounts very carefully.\n\nMy mom asked me if she could keep \u20ac12,000 in my bank account (\u20ac3,000 at first and then another \u20ac9,000) so that the bank doesn't know about it and take it off them. I said yes because I know they're really stressed about all this and I wanted to help in any way I could. I was kind of worried that I might get in trouble for it, but decided to trust her. She's asked me to take the money out in lots of \u20ac500 euro multiple times a week, so that she can pay the guys who are working on the house.\n\nI know this all sounds very dodgy, but I'm certain this money hasn't come from drugs, robberies, etc. I know that my mom used my name/Personal Public Service Number to pay \"me\" for \"hours that I worked\" in their shop, so I think that's probably where the money came from (probably not much better in the eyes of the law).\nAm I at risk of getting in trouble here? I don't really know anything about finance, or what's actually going on. I really want to help my parents, but at the same time I have to protect myself too.", "summary": "Mom has \u20ac12,000 in my bank account. She wants me to withdraw it in small amounts so the bank don't notice. Can I get in trouble for this?"}
{"id": "t3_4obs1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My co-worker/crush [26 F] wants to work out with me [27 M] at the gym. Is this a good idea?", "post": "Hello Reddit.\n\nMy co-worker/crush wants to get serious about fitness. Over the year of knowing her, she's been mentioning her desire to get in shape. I offered to show her a few lifts to get her started. She seems very excited about it and just picked up her gym pass recently.\n\nHere's the gist of our relationship thus far. We're very close and we spend most of our time at work together; we sit next to each other, go on walks together during our breaks, etc. She had a passing crush on me, which is kind of up in the air right now. A few months ago, we finally talked about it, and she said she wasn't interested in dating me. I completely respect her feelings. We went to dinner and a movie the other night though, and I thought it might've been kind of awkward (I made a couple jokes about it seeming like a high school date. I also told her my offer of taking her out on a real date still stands if she's ever interested). However, the next day she told me, and I quote, \"If that's a fraction of how your dates go, then it was really nice.\" I'm trying not to read too much into that.\n\nAnyway, this idea of hitting the gym with her is a bit new for me because I've never trained with a girl before, let alone a girl I'm attracted to. Never lifted with my past girlfriends, as they usually had their own fitness routine or activity (yoga, pilates, running, etc.) My lifting sessions have always been bro-centric.\n\nAnyway, is this a good idea Reddit? Should I be drawing some boundaries? Or should I teach her for a little while, then go back to my lone wolf training?", "summary": "My co-worker/crush of one year wants to work out with me. Is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2rnls5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rejecting an offer to trade a car for a \"The Who\" album", "post": "This was actually in 1986.  Ancient history.   Anyway, I was browsing a thrift store and came across a beat up vinyl copy of \"The Who:  Live at Leeds\".   It looked like a generic album cover, and inside it were a few pictures of the band, a rejection letter from EMI, and, to my shock, a copy of their contract to play at Woodstock!\n\nMother Lode!\n\nI quietly paid fifty cents and contemplated my newly found riches!   This thing must be worth thousands, I thought!\n\nThe fuck up is that I showed the album to a die-hard fan and she immediately offered her car for the album.   It was maybe a $2,000 car.  I knew better and rejected the trade.\n\nI held on to the album for twelve more years, figuring it would only go up in value.   In 1998 I emailed a record dealer about my treasure and eagerly awaited his multi-thousand dollar offer...\n\n\"All the albums came like that.  Sorry.\"\n\nA further gut punch is that there were actually items missing from the album, making it just about worthless.", "summary": "Bought a cheap record at thrift store.  Thought it was rare and valuable.  Rejected offer of a car for it.  Later found out it was worthless."}
{"id": "t3_3grzg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] was informed that I have chlamydia. GF[21F] highly possible that she cheated on me.", "post": "My GF is currently on vacation overseas and she's ready to go home tomorrow. Unfortunately, I got the bad news from the doc, that I tested positive for chlamydia. Last year I tested negative for any STD so worst part, this has to be only a year old. I had to ask my GF if she cheated on me last year. She responded no and confused why would I ask such thing. I told her I have chlamydia, and I am 100% sure that she is the only person I had sex with. She is paranoid. She knows it was from her, but she tried to convince me that she didnt cheat. She said that she used a sex toy that wasnt hers and it mightve been that. I told her Im not convinced. I called my doc again, to ask if its possible to get chlamydia using shared sex toys. He told me its possible but unlikely. Doctor adviced not to trace where it originally came from because it can end relationship pretty badly. Right now, I just want truth. I just want to know if my GF is hiding something. She said she's not taking the flight home for she is ashamed of herself, and caant face me. I honestly dont know what to do. I love my GF but its kinda unfair if she actually did cheat on me. I dont wanna lose her but this is gonna haunt me.", "summary": "Doctor said I have chlamydia. GF is the only person I had sex with. GF says she never did it with anyone else. She blames the sex toy she borrowed. Im not convinced. I dont know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_3et2wz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I have a better attitude?", "post": "Hey everyone. I will exercise extreme brevity for this post, because if I don't, it'll be an unapproachable tome.\n\nI've always been a very polite and caring person. I am, however, endlessly negative, something that I have not always been. Thanks to a series of events over the course of two years (such as losing my visa to live with my wife, my father dying, being unemployed for a year after returning to my wife, and a few more) I essentially turned into a depressed introvert. I'm not nervous or shy whatsoever beyond a normal level, but I tire very easily in social situations, and I've come to love my own solitude and the company of my wife and dog above all else, essentially.\n\nI've finally been hired for a pub down the road. I've put on a face and acted as happy as I can (which in a way, I very much am for finally getting a job), but I've been hired as a waiter, and I'm dreading it. My whole working life has been labor or warehouse jobs, and some degree-related work before that went to pot. I'm not used to dealing with customers, and I seem to only be able to look and act happy and excited for a solid 2-3 hours. I then get tired, irritable and bitter. I never used to be like this, so I manage to activate a bit of my old self enough to barely pull through, but it's really hard to do and makes me even more tired.\n\nI'm not sure how common this is, or if maybe I just need to grow up. All I know is it's worrying me enough to warrant advice from someone, and I really could use some help.", "summary": "I'm negative and get tired socializing after a major bout of depression, and I have a waiting job for the next year. I genuinely do want to change how I act/think/feel. How can I change my attitude to be more positive and fulfilling?"}
{"id": "t3_2ek04w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my SO [25 F] of 1.5 years having trouble in paradise", "post": "My girlfriend and I have had a near perfect relationship for the last year and a half. We have similar interests and do almost everything together. This past weekend i was bored at home alone and stupidly decided to check out this \"tinder\" app everyone has been talking about. i know its a dating app but i had no intentions of meeting anyone or even talking to another girl. One of my girlfriend's friends obviously spotted me and told her i was on there and now my girlfriend is convinced i am cheating. I deleted the app after only 10 mins of playing with it and tried to explain this to her but now she said she has lost all trust in me. how do i make this right?", "summary": "i did something stupid and now my girlfriend doesnt trust me. I need advice"}
{"id": "t3_30t7qr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 6 month..she kinda broke up with me on saturday after a small fight", "post": "So on saturday my girlfriend came over to sleep at my place, she got everything with her and i did not think everything was bad at all. We got a fight on friday evening and didnt talked much the first minutes she was with me, after some time passed she started crying and said she wants so leave..\n\nI started asking what that means and she wasnt really sure, she said i constrict her freedome and shes not sure if she is feeling 'it' anymore. Honestly i cant believe her, we were together the whole last weekend and had sex for the first time. On Thursday i was at her place and everthing was fine, we had dinner together and everything was just as it always was.\n\nYesterday, on sunday,  she asked me over the phone how i am, and we both talked about how we are feeling and whats different in our relationship compared to relationships our friends have, everything seems to be normal. Just the normal talk we have after we had a argument. \n\nI dont know how to interpret this whole situation, its the first relationship for both of us, if she really wants to break up with me, dont you plan on do it and not come with all your sleepover things and contact the person the next day. Im not sure what i should do at the moment, im still in love and for me it seems as she loves me too..", "summary": "GF kinda broke up with me although in the week before everything was fine. A day after the 'break up' she contacts me and we talk again. I dont know what to do and how to interpret this whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_jy98j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for Plasma TV advice, details inside", "post": "So here's the deal, I'm looking for a tV, obviously.  After some research I've basically settled on plasma over LCD.  Mostly because almost every complaint I've seen about plasma tvs has to do with burn-in, and at this point, my understanding is that burn-in is more of a PR problem than an actual problem at this point.  I also prefer the lack of input lag (for gaming) that would come with plasma as opposed to LCD.\n\nSo, I've settled on plasma, and I think I've basically settled on a 50\" model.  My question for you guys is about brands.  I've found Panasonic, LG, and Samsung for all around the same price, about $800.  Aside from the various port configurations, do you have experience with any of these plasma brands, and which do you prefer?", "summary": "Which 50\" plasma is best between Samsung, Panasonic, and LG?"}
{"id": "t3_45uyvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my [21 F] friend, sent her valentines message", "post": "Short backstory. Both at separate colleges, never dated but we were into each other in high school(I know I suck). We hit each other up every now and then but havnt seen her since high school. Also take into consideration that I am not very good at women and that I read into things way too hard when reading this story. \n\nI sent a Valentine's Day message on snapchat (only method of reaching her) and she literally didn't respond. Keep in mind that for the last few time we would talk, she would hit me up first. So I figured let me hit her up and surprise her. it was sort of a funny snap, not really romantic because I didn't feel it was necessary. We aren't dating. What do you guys think? I just feel like she's not into me anymore or found another. Last we talked was around New Years.", "summary": "Sent a girl a kinda funny snap on Valentine's Day. She did not respond. Is it a big deal?"}
{"id": "t3_3ma58t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my gf [25 F] 2 years LDR, anxious about future.", "post": "So, I have been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend (Germany(me)-Afghanistan(her)) for two years but have seen other only twice(had PIV sex,it was good). \nNow, after trying for a long time she found a job in Germany(3 hour drive from my place) and we would see each other 3-4 days a week.\nI'm extremely anxious/scared about living together.\nI love her a lot and she loves me too and I have stayed faithful throughout and so has she(I trust her).\nPlease guide me as to how to handle this.\nAlso, she was supposed to arrive on 21st sept but her visa approval got pushed back due to administrative issues(refugee visa issuance is a higher priority) and now she will arrive 1st oct.\nIs this a sign from the universe or something. I really love her a lot and don't want to screw it up.", "summary": "LDR anxiousness."}
{"id": "t3_4eam1l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] am not sure if I am in a relationship with her, and not sure I mind [22/f]", "post": "Using a throwaway because too many friends on Reddit. So a quick intro:\n\nI broke up with my long term girlfriend about eight months ago. Since then I've been just going on dates and stuff nothing special. Until about two months ago when I meet this girl and we just clicked. \n\nSince then we have been hanging out on a weekly basis, just doing stuff having a blast and everything, nothing more I can ask for. Everything was until we got really drunk one time and out of the blue she just turns around and says \"Are you invested in this relationship? Because I have no emotions towards it\", this kinda catches me of guard and before I can answer she just switches the topic and moves on. Now normally I would just assume friends with benefits, high five myself internally and move on. However...\n\nEverything else I received from her just screams otherwise. She already opened up to me about a bunch of stuff she hasn't told anybody else, which isn't really important for this thread except that it kinda explains the fact that she hasn't been in a single relationship during her adult life. Shes also really distant on the surface and really hard to break through all the armor but I feel like I am making steady progress.\n\nSo my question is simple? If you were in a similar situation, how did you react? Do you know anybody who is similar? Is this a case where she truly doesn't care for me or something else?\n\nThe best part is that I am not sure how I feel about the whole situation. I am not really rushing to get into a new serious relationship but I am darn curious about the whole situation :D", "summary": "getting mixed signals from an emotionally distant person"}
{"id": "t3_1fj9vj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(25m) I think there's something wrong with me.", "post": "I've had 2 serious relationships in the past year. They both have started out the same with just a casual hookup through parties or work functions and then the girls fall hard. I have a good job and I'm very responsible and for some reason I can not find a girl my age that has the same.\n\n I've supported both girls and have had to dumb down my aspirations as to not make my current gf insecure. The girls themselves were loving and giving but I just sort of lose interest mentally and sexually around the 6th month mark like clockwork. I was abused mentally by my bi polar father for a good portion of my life but I have let those feelings of hatred go for the most part so not sure if that would have anything to do with it.\n\nAny advice on why I check out so quickly? Or anybody else in a similar situation?\n\nSorry for any grammatical errors BTW this was typed on my phone.", "summary": "I quickly get over people and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_19zy9i", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She's a foodie, I'm a frugal eater.  Is this new relationship bound to fail?", "post": "Ages: 25 male, 24 female\n\nThings are going well.  Although we are not \"official\"/boyfriend and girlfriend, we have spent a lot of time together in the last two weeks. Good connection, great sex, we like each other, and I'm pretty sure we're exclusive at this point (official talk about that coming soon), because we've spent every night together...if she's still dating around, they must be 20 minute afternoon dates, or something!  Either way:\n\nShe's a foodie; she loves to try new restaurants (often pricey ones), knows *a lot* about different types, styles, ethnicities.  She likes exotic and new things in terms of food and frankly, it makes me feel dumb talking to her about food because she knows so much.\n\nI'm a frugal eater.  I cook a rice/beans/veggie combo that I put in the fridge and it lasts me for dinner all week.  I don't really care about trying new, expensive things every week; as long as I'm eating healthy, I want to spend as little on food as possible.  I just don't care about it.\n\nNow, a few weeks in, it's making me uncomfortable going to restaurants and paying a bunch of money.  I don't even enjoy the meal; all I think about is \"wow, I could be saving this 30 dollars but instead I'm spending it on an exquisite meal I don't want.\"\n\nI really want to keep spending time with this girl, but I don't want to eat out anymore, or spend money on food.  I don't mind treating her every now and then, but I feel like she'd quickly grow bored with my eating habits.\n\nDoes this sound like an irrelevant issue that can be easily worked out? Or is this going to cause problems again and again?  If so, should I get out now before spending more time and money?", "summary": "new girl I'm seeing loves to experience bizarre, new, often pricey foods.  I prefer to eat at home for as little money as possible.  Deal-breaker, or can this work?"}
{"id": "t3_u3cui", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what's something that's you've spent a lot of time on, that ended up being a HUGE waste of time?", "post": "* So, I got Skyrim back in December, and never really got any time to play it. \nThen I got sick a few days ago. \nSince Tuesday, I've been playing Skyrim whenever I'm not puking, sleeping, or trying to eat. \n\n* Yesterday, I was talking to my friend and somehow, Skyrim became the topic, and he reminded me of the '[sneak exploit](\nFirst thing I did after waking up today, was start the exploit. I then went and watched Adventure Time with Finn & Jake. \n\nIt was going well for a good 6 hours of my routine (puking and stuff), and I finally got to sneak lvl 100, I decided to continue with the main story line for a bit. \nI opened up the menu to save--\n\nMy Xbox crashed. ._.", "summary": "While staying home sick, I wasted a full school day exploiting Skyrim to have my Xbox crash."}
{"id": "t3_2qs5t6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M] My girlfriend (21/F) just told me she's a virgin and I'm not sure how to handle it.", "post": "We've been dating on and off for a little over a month and she just randomly told me she's a virgin. I guess it's not really that random since every time we're together we've broached the subject but it's never gotten to that point.\n\nOn the one hand, I really like her and it doesn't bother me that she's never had sex before. It's just sex it's not like some miraculous thing. But on the other hand, I've never been someone's first and it's kind of making me nervous. I mean I was definitely anticipating our first time together but now it feels like there's a lot of pressure.\n\nI feel like this could just be easily solved by me telling her what I just wrote here but I don't want to upset her so I'd rather hear what you guys have to say first.", "summary": "Gf is virgin, I'm not, don't know what to say"}
{"id": "t3_usw5d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't shake this feeling. Scared to commit, but want to...", "post": "So this girl (22F) and I (26M) have been seeing each other for about two months. We aren't \"exclusive,\" but I haven't been seeing/hooking up with anyone else, I don't know about her.\n\nWe always have fun when we hang out, and we have a blast when we go out.  For about the past two weeks, just about, she has either stayed at my place or her at mine.  We can hang out, go to dinner, and watch a movie and are extremely happy just being around each other.  She kisses me every time we meet or are leaving each other.\n\nWhen we go out we have fun. She likes to talk to EVERYONE at the bar, guys and girls, but especially guys.  She will compliment guys, saying if she finds them attractive and they will get interested (she's very attractive and has a bubbly personality), but, when I'm there, and they come by saying something she'll call me her boyfriend and say to them \"just because I find you attractive and enjoy talking to you doesn't mean I want to take you home, this (pointing to me) is my boy.\"\n\nThis all doesn't bother me too much (sometimes) because I'm not really the jealous type, but I'm not her boyfriend and she doesn't want an \"official boyfriend\" she says.  Ok fine.\n\nWhen I have to leave town, like this weekend, she goes radio silent except for one word answers and smiley faces texts.\n\nHer actions at the bar and her distance when I'm gone make me worry, and I'm a pretty confident, good looking guy, that I've fallen for the wrong girl and I'm being played.  \n\nLike I said, I'm not typically jealous, but the attraction I have for this girl coupled with her constantly talking with other guys makes me nervous and suspicious like I haven't felt before.\n\nI've never gone through her phone or anything, although I have been tempted, because it is her business, but I can't shake this feeling of unease.  What do you think? Am I being played? Should I cut ties now in hopes of losing my attraction as fast as possible?", "summary": "seeing a girl who acts very attracted to me, but is very flirty with guys at bars when I'm there even though she comes back to me (when I'm there at least, as far as I know) and gets distant/no response when I'm out of town. Should I bail?"}
{"id": "t3_4urxhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my one night stand [28M] It's been four years and I can't stop thinking about him", "post": "I'm a normal, friendly person with solid social skills, but I'm also a late bloomer sexually. I had sex for the first time four years ago with \"Ben\", a guy I was friendly with and had a crush on. We hooked up and it was great, but then he immediately started ignoring me and we never really spoke again. It was really irritating at the time but I wasn't heartbroken by any stretch of the imagination. \n\nFlash forward four years. I haven't had any sexual or romantic relationships since Ben. Then about eight months ago, Ben randomly liked my new profile picture. Ever since then I've been thinking about him a lot and I'm really not sure why. I haven't messaged him or even looked at his profile, but I have this little fantasy where I run into him in my new town and he asks me to meet him for dinner. \n\nI'm posting here because I'm super confused about why I'm so fixated on the idea of this guy who treated me pretty disrespectfully, and who I never really had any emotional attachment to.", "summary": "Four years ago I hooked up with an acquaintance, never heard from him again, and suddenly I'm obsessing over him."}
{"id": "t3_239nls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [28 F] of 5 months, just found out she believes in psychics and I'm having a hard time with it.", "post": "My girlfriend (we will call her Jennifer) and I have been dating for 5 months. Jennifer is quirky and adorable. She is also not the most logical person, she often forms views based upon gut feelings, not upon reason or facts. It's harmless most of the time. \n\nRecently, her brother's mother in law went to a psychic and the psychic told her some vague information related to an individuals whose names started with D and S. Jennifer is amazed because that's her grandparents initials. I then explain to Jennifer the process of how psychics utilize their craft, that they are professionals at what they do but it is certainly not a real thing. I provide links of testimonials from former \"psychics\" and how to manuals on how they do it. She seems convinced and seems to understand why. We go on with our lives.\n\nAround a week and a half passes and last night Jennifer says \"I know you might judge me for this but brother's mother in law went to the psychic again and said mroe things about the family...\" She is so amazed but how good the psychic is and went on with a bunch of \"How did she know that?!\" type of stories. She is now convinced this psychic is the real deal.\n\nWhen I heard her talking about this I immediately shut down. I was crestfallen. I lost respect for her for believing in something so stupid. It upset me that she had facts and information presented to her and she simply disregarded it very quickly. Our minds work in different ways, and in the past I've liked that. I'm calculated and logical, she goes on intuition. For the most part, it's great that way, we feed off each other's personalities and it leads to fun talks. For this however, it's too much. I may be overreacting, but I do not feel as though I am. I'm very uncomfortable with all of this.", "summary": "Girlfriend believes in psychics. It bums me out. Not sure how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_49pwih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (29m) girlfriend (28f) of 2.5 years has been unemployed for 6 months and it's starting to get to us both.", "post": "She lost her job six months ago through no fault of her own (lay-offs) and even though she has been looking nonstop for one, going on interviews, etc, the hiring process in our city is harsh and there are over 600 applicants for even menial jobs. \n\nI don't know what to do. I don't make a lot (34kish) and I'm paying for everything for us. She handles the budget and food shopping and all of that and she cooks and cleans and does what she can (not all of the cooking/cleaning but most of it) alongside looking for work. \n\nBut there's so much stress and frustration on us both now and I don't know what to do to really help it for either of us. She cries a lot because she doesn't like mooching off me and because she's bored and feels useless (she's not interested in volunteering either, and I don't blame her, it's unpaid labor), and we don't have a lot of chances to have a lot of fun since everything fun pretty much costs money.\n\nWhat can we do? Life's so fucking hard.", "summary": "GF and I are stressed out of our minds because she's unemployed and having the worst time trying to find a job, we're both suffering for it and I don't know what to do. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_ftmhz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friends for several years, just asked her out.  Well this is is awkward....", "post": "Me 21, her 19.  I've known this girl since the middle of high school and we are both in college now.  As the years have gone on, she has dropped hints that she may have feelings for me.  (\"I'm talking to my family about you ;)\" or \"You should take your pics down, their distracting me\"... etc)\n\nI asked reddit a while ago what to do about her, and the consensus was to ask her out.  The things she said seemed too unfriendish to be taken any other way.\n\nI asked her out tonight after we went to a concert, and I got this weirdest \"yes\" ever.  I don't know if it was even a yes.  I said, \"What do you say we go out on a real date sometime?\" and she seemed rather uncomfortable about it.  I told her it was no pressure and that I didn't have a specific day in mind, but that it was something I had been thinking about.  Basically when we both have a little free time, I said, and then changed the subject and got her talking about herself as I figured would lighten the mood and it did.  I dropped her off and everything was normal.\n\nNow, I don't know if it is important to ask for clarification here, but her yes seemed very shakey and unsure.  Was she just nervous and has actual feelings for me, or does she just have a hard time saying no to me and is now dreading hanging out with me?  She just got done dating this other guy that I had heard about, so she's not seeing anybody at the moment, so her excuse of not being in the right place seems a bit weak.\n\nWhat should I do?  Drop and it not bring it up again, or try a little harder?", "summary": "Friend for a number of years has been dropping hints for a while that she may be interested in me.  I ask her out and get weird half-yes response.  Should I follow-up on this or drop it and maintain a friendship.  "}
{"id": "t3_2q1hk7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What happened?", "post": "I'm 28m and she's 22F. We have been married for 5 years.\nOk, here is some background.  This morning I'm being super sweet and holding her and loving on her in bed. We get up and I get the kids fed and she takes off with the baby to see our great grandmother.  Well that night we are cuddling on the sofa watching movies and we head to bed. \n\nI come in a bit later after saying good night to my niece. I come in and cuddle up next to her and she is soaking wet... so I start to finger her and then I eat her out until she comes 3 or 4 times. ( hitting all the spots that drive her crazy)  She starts begging me to stop with full body convolutions. I roll over get up and wash up I come back. I'm thinking she's going to return the favor and she suddenly gets pissed at me. ( this is after I washed my face and hands) she just turns over and basically went to sleep.  What the fuck did I do wrong?", "summary": "great day with so. She came 3 or 4 times. She gets mad at me and will not tell me why."}
{"id": "t3_2fvskf", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "How to deal with public healthcare docs who seem illogically reluctant to prescribe painkillers.", "post": "So my SO has been suffering from a mystery abdominal pain for a year now and it keeps getting worse.\n\nLast december she had to change her eating habits to lighter and more easily digestable foods and for the past three months her diet has mostly been liquid. The pain when eating is just too much for her. After dinner (juice soup and a cookie) she writhes on the floor and begs to die. Sometimes she starts to lose consciousness from the pain.\n\nI won't go into medical history here but I do need advice on the doctors.\n\nTests have shown nothing. We have been to at least five doctors and keep getting delegated forward. We have been refused time and again from anything stronger than paracetamol/codeine pills. We sometimes hear the warnings about possible addiction but it somehow seems that that is not the real reason we can't get painkillers.\n\nAnd the latest insult to injury is being sent to a psychiatrist. *Not* so she can get help for coping with the pain but because due to her rapid weight loss, she is being diagnosed with an eating disorder.\n\nThis is the Finnish public healthcare so things are naturally different elsewhere.\nBut we are out of options here, we do not have the finances for a private doctor which are known for prescribing stronger drugs a lot more often than their public counterparts..\n\nSo. My question:\nHow do I handle this? Why is it so hard to get painkillers for a person in immense pain? I have heard and read a lot of similar complaints, even from cancer patients...", "summary": "Public healthcare doctors won't prescribe painkillers for someone who clearly needs them."}
{"id": "t3_moeii", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is tobacco the victim of a witch hunt?", "post": "Tobacco has long been touted as the #1 cause for cancer, heart disease and many other health issues.  The number of cigarette smokers is declining all around the world, yet the presence of cancer is increasing.  Is it really the tobacco that is causing the cancer or something else altogether? \n\nI can find many history books on Native Americans that will mention the use of tobacco by the natives but I can't recall any of them stating that the natives were in bad health.  Wouldn't they all have cancer?  Pretty sure, peace pipes didn't come equipped with filters either.\n\nThe tobacco farmer is like any other farmer in the early 1900s.  They want to increase their yield, control pests and ultimately increase their profit.  When pesticides came about it was a no-brainer to these farmers to use them because they promised all these things.\n\nIt was also around this time that many other chemicals came about and more and more products were being created through synthesized chemicals.  Many of these chemicals are now banned and have been proven to be devastating to not only our health but also our environment. \n\nIf all these companies are dumping chemicals into the water, releasing them into the air, exposing the workers to them and spraying the food suppply with them, can we truthfully say that tobacco is the problem?\n\nPerhaps it wasn't just the cigarettes that gave little Johnny cancer but all the other chemicals he and his entire generation of smokers were exposed.  Think about your 90 year old grandma who still smokes and drinks and the only thing she is suffering from is old age.  \n\nIf it were proven that organic tobacco didn't cause cancer and only commercially grown, pesticide laced tobacco did cause cancer would tobacco ever recover?  Would you start smoking if it was proven that tobacco itself had no ill effects?", "summary": "Pesticides and chemicals bad, Tobacco good?"}
{"id": "t3_43569u", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Updated thoughts on Garmin 235?", "post": "My old Garmin 610 has been on its last legs for awhile, and although I keep managing to bring it back to life, I'm actively looking for a good replacement.\n\nI'm leaning towards the 230 or 235, with a strong interest in the 235. I like to run with an HRM, and I'm curious to hear from those who have been using it regularly for a few weeks now to weigh in on how accurate the 235 is and/or if Garmin has released any firmware updates.\n\nI currently run with the Garmin Premium Soft Strap HRM on the smallest adjustment settings and often find that it starts to slip down a bit as I run, and I'm constantly readjusting. Most of my runs are at a steady pace on fairly flat terrain, which I've heard is where the 235 does best.\n\nIf I can avoid finicky straps, I'd really like to get the 235 and just have one less accessory to worry about on runs. I'd also be interested in hearing how the battery life is after regular use.", "summary": "If you've been using the Garmin 235 for a few weeks now, would you recommend it?"}
{"id": "t3_1yca6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [20 F] 3 weeks, entered relationship and now I'm regretting it.", "post": "I recently entered a relationship with a girl I've been friends with for more than a year now. She's not the type to sleep around, fun to talk to and I can tell she really cares for me.\n\nThe problem is I am not \"in love\" with her. We became an item through a drunken night when my sense of judgement was not the best. Before that night thought I've always had thoughts of entering in a relationship with her. After that night and until know I have huge regrets of asking her to be my girlfriend.\n\nI guess the root of the problem is that I am not physically attracted to her and I  miss single life. Oh and my friends saying stuff like \"dude why'd you settle??\" doesn't help at all.\n\nI'm really happy that she's so happy that we're together but I feel like this relationship is doomed because of me. Right now I'm literally planning out whens a good time to end it (planning to hit at least 2 months~)\nI'm hoping it wont' come to that. I really hope that I learn to love her.", "summary": "Get into relationship, now really regretting it."}
{"id": "t3_4fj7au", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not finishing my glass of wine", "post": "I woke up yesterday after a 16hr shift and a 5 hour alcohol binge to find my lights on, my shoes and clothes on, and my brothers macbook opened on my lap with red stains all over the keyboard.  I must've passed out with a glass of wine but it couldn't have been more than an ounce or two because there wasn't a drop on my clothes, on the couch, on the floor; it had all been absorbed by my brothers brand fucking new macbook pro.  \n\nspent all day yesterday recovering from my hangover and bringing his macbook around for repairs. thing won't turn on, the charger doesnt light up. macstore said they could replace all the internals for $750 but they wouldn't backup the data.  3rd party store said \"sure we'll do it for $125\" but called today to say it would actually be $350.  i just ordered an internal hard drive disk enclosure for ssd and a screwdriver so i could just take the ssd out and backup the files from the enclosure for a whopping $25 with next day air. lol $350 smd.", "summary": "this really sucks though, i don't have a laptop bc i cant afford it but now im replacing my brothers bc i passed out while listening to his itunes w a glass of wine in my hand"}
{"id": "t3_1nvid1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (18F) trying to find real friends. My ex-friends from elementary school threw away our 8 years of friendship, recently.", "post": "Me: Girl, 18, doesn't use girl logic, has some patience but won't take shit from people, would do anything for (now ex) friends.\n\nTravis: Guy, 18, was closest friend until he started ditching me for the high-school whore (sounds cliche, but just my luck) was okay with it for a couple of instances (friend-code) but, he would treat me like dirt for the longest. We're on okay terms now.\n\nJames: Guy, 18, was the more innocent of the group, very sweet, said he, \"cherished\" our friendship. I babied him to death, eventually he wanted to date (something I've wanted for a while, I loved this guy). Dated for a few weeks, everything was fine, started making out--he freaked out but wouldn't tell me why. Next day broke up with me because he couldn't get passed the, \"friend\" thing. Few days later he's drooling over 14 year old freshman. Tried to talk to him about it, he completely ignored me and wouldn't even talk to me even though he preached about how our friendship meant the world to him...\n\nLet me add that I was at their bedside whenever they got sick, or when they were crying their eyes out when a girl broke their heart.", "summary": "I would do anything for these two guys, they both swear they, \"cherished\" the friendship, really just lied, one guy ditched me for a 14 year old. "}
{"id": "t3_mar0a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is 'sexism' / 'racism' / 'ageism' / etc acknowledged in life, but there is nothing in place for being ugly?", "post": "If someone gets treated a certain way in society (doesn't get a fair chance at a job for instance) because of their sex, race or age, there are laws in place to take legal action. Thus ensuring people are treated equally where it is possible.\n\nHowever, there is nothing for 'uglism', being treated or discriminated against in society due to the way you look - essentially because you're ugly.\n\nNote, when I say ugly, I don't mean overweight, bad hygiene, no style, etc. I mean physically facially ugly, e.g. large hook / crooked noses, lack of symmetry on face - generally odd looking ugliness.\n\nThings like weight / body shape can be resolved through exercise, but if someone is ugly or someone is beautiful it is not by choice. Yes cosmetic surgery may be an option, but people will say 'its not needed' and it's questionable how much it can achieve (i.e. can't polish a turd).\n\nI have grown up and lived a life with a fairly ugly face and as such I've noticed the way I've been treated in life, through jobs, social situations, romantic encounters and just general attitudes towards me (people pre judge you because of how you look).\n\nIt annoys me that natural beauty prevails in almost all situations, whether it's getting that job, getting a stable relationship, growing social circles, having 'good luck', having people 'help out' / 'be nice on first meeting', even getting something like a picture of your cat to the front page (if the OP is beautiful it goes to the front, if not it gets downvoted), youtube channels getting more popular than others, etc.\n\nYou only have to look at a typical 'reddit post your photo' thread to see this in action, with the users upvoting beauty to the top.\n\nI guess it mostly stems from natural selection / our animal instincts to mate with the superior candidate (beauty is an indicator of good health), but the poor people who have to live with this have no choice. So why is it not treated like the other factors?", "summary": "Why is being ugly or discriminated for the way you look not taken more seriously in general life?"}
{"id": "t3_sqdkm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the craziest dream(s) that you have ever had?", "post": "I'm really interested in seeing what kind of dreams that everyone else seems to have. I think the dream that has bothered me the most occurred when I was about 11 years old. I remember dreaming of this lake that was somewhat dried up, and had vegetation absolutely everywhere. There was a forest not to far off from it, that I remember walking into during the dream. Skip forward about 7 years later, my girlfriend and I went to Cassadaga, FL to meet up with a friend. We were walking down the dock, and I instantly recognized the area, and was able to pinpoint the location of a boat, a fallen tree, and a huge hole on the dried up lake without ever being in Cassadaga my entire life.", "summary": "Extreme Deja Vu."}
{"id": "t3_3uormg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend[22M], I made out with another dude, should I tell him?", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been dating about a year, and we are currently long distance. While I've been away, I've been extremely lonely, I have no friends in this new location and it's been very stressful for me. I am coming back home pretty soon, and  suspect these problems will disappear when I return.\n\nLast night, I was out forcing myself to socialize. When a cute guy put his arm around me, I didn't stop him. I miss being touched. As the night went on, I ended up pretty intensely making out with this guy. He asked me to come home with him, and I actually considered it but decided that would be unforgivable. The entire time I was with this guy, I was just wishing it was my boyfriend.\n\nI don't plan on doing this kind of thing again. Now that I've somewhat sated the desire for physical affection, I think I can hold out until I see the man I love again. The question is, should I tell him that I had this slip-up?", "summary": "Made out with a random guy in a fit of loneliness, no intention to do it again. Should I confess?"}
{"id": "t3_mtt73", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Taking my girl to Paris, what to see?", "post": "First off, some background inf0: back during Sophomore year in highschool (USA) I went to the \"Homecoming Dance\" that the football team was hosting. While there, I saw a girl who stopped me dead in my tracks. Stunning! So one thing leads to another and 2 months later we are \"official\". Fast forward 3 years. I decide to pursue Software Engineering and she decides to become a Psychologist (mostly for adolescents). This causes us to start an extreme long distance relationship, as my choice took me to studying in the Netherlands while she chose a college in Florida, a little over 4,500 miles away. While some long distance relationships fall into oblivion (loved that game), our's has remained constant for a six months now without seeing each other. \n\nSo now it's nearly December and we have planned for her to come spend Christmas in the Netherlands. As her Christmas present/3 years together present, I have decided to take her to Paris, France, the city she has dreamed of visiting since she was very young. Here is the problem: I know absolutely NO French, as I studied German and Spanish in high school, and don't know much about the city or its history/places to visit.\n\nWhat I came here to ask, and I hope this doesn't get buried in /r/AskReddit, is what are some amazing places to visit while there? I'm looking for the special places, like a good place to eat with a beautiful view of one of the monuments, or a lookout on the city at night. Also, what are some common French terms that I should learn before going (I don't trust Google's translator much)? Thanks for the help and sorry for the long read!", "summary": "Taking girl to Paris: What phrases to learn/what places to visit?"}
{"id": "t3_2elhfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19 M] \"in\" a class with this girl [19ish], but I may not be in the class in a week. What's the move here?", "post": "Long story short w/ regards to the class: I've been attending a class in the hopes of moving from the waiting list to being enrolled, but it's looking grim right now. And if I do get in, it would likely be a different time than I want.\n\nThe girl: It started off  with me asking for direction as to where I would get a supply for the class,  and I got her number right there. Great! We've texted a bit (nothing significant, maybe 40 between both), but we seemed to really hit it off Monday in class. I would have talked to her after class, but I had to talk to the prof about the wait list situation.\n\nAnyway, I'll go to the class Wednesday, but that may be the last time I'm in there and we don't have any other classes together, so how do I not let this die? Should I maybe text her tomorrow (Tuesday) and see if she wants to hang out (study, eat, whatever) or just wait until Wednesday to do something. If the move is to wait until Wednesday, what should that move be? I know I'm probably over-thinking this, but I'm not really up to here with girls, so any help would be cool.", "summary": "On wait list for class w/ girl in it that seems really great. Probably won't get into class, so how do I maintain a connection with her?"}
{"id": "t3_2u167t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Can you stay friends with someone who you may be attracted to??", "post": "I have a friend of the opposite sex that Ive known for almost 10 years.  Full disclosure- we did hook up drunk, ONCE,  like 9 years ago.   And we kissed a few years ago when we were both single. And again, drinking.   Besides that we have stayed friends.  We only live 10 minutes apart, but because I have an SO and we know were both attracted to eachother, we dont hang out.  \n\nI have  been with SO for less than 2 years.  Is it wrong to want to keep my best friend, even though we are kind of attracted to eachother?    This is my absolute best friend that I tell everything to.  I have not/would not cheat on my SO.  I dont hide the friendship from my SO.  (And yes, SO knows that we hooked up once, and that kissed a few years ago.)\n\nI have heard people say its emotional cheating if you would rather talk to someone other than your SO.  Is this always true?   This friend understands my awkward social stuff, morbid and generally inappropriate sense of humor,  and reddit obsession. \n\nI dont think about the friend super sexually... but I do smile like an idiot when I think about them.  And we do talk every day.  More than either of us talk to anyone else.  Is this just a normal *grown up* way to feel about a best friend and Im worrying too much and being a weirdo because they are the opposite sex and society says thats bad??", "summary": "Growing up is weird.  Am I being a dirtbag if I like talking to my best friend  more than my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_3p2zoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 9 months I'm against his constant cocaine use and I fear nothing will stop it.", "post": "He told me last night that he used cocaine and I do not approve of that. However he said he wanted to continue to use it the rest of his life. I would be fine if it was an every now and then thing but the way he talks he sounds like he loves it enough to do it often. He used cocaine to try to forget about me lying to him at the beginning of the year...so it is my fault I feel. I am worried because his parents used cocaine and had many issues resulting in them dying from drugs. I love him and want to stay and help him even though he says he will continue no matter what. The other half of me says leave. I am just afraid he won't fight to keep me. I am afraid of hurting him so much he does something reckless... I am do lost what do I do?", "summary": "bf wants to snort cocaine but I won't have it. We live far away from each other and I don't know what to do. HELP"}
{"id": "t3_35r4gv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my [19 F] SO of 2 months, at a really strange point in our relationship and I badly need advice", "post": "I met my current SO about 2 months ago, we go to the same university, but come from different states. Things progressed fairly quickly; after a month she told me she loved me and began referring to herself as my girlfriend- this signaled to me that we were an \"official\" relationship. \n\nAnyways we both come from different states, and would be long-distance during our summer break- we'd both be back at school in mid-august. Before we left, she told me she didn't want to be in a long-distance relationship and that she didn't know if she would want to remain exclusive over the summer break. I saw this as essentially the end of our relationship and I told her that I would be moving on. \n\nThis is where things got complicated, as what I said seemed to really upset her. She asked why we couldn't \"just be friends and talk\" over summer then get back together in the fall, and I ignored her for a few days before I ended up breaking down and resuming contact with her. We are still talking and she has at times mentioned plans of what we'll do together when we come back to school, but I just don't know.\n\nWe aren't in an \"official\" relationship, but I feel as if I'm being used; she wants to be single over the summer, but wants me to hang around so we can get back together in the fall. I think this is unfair and I don't like the idea of us going from a relationship to being friends to back to a relationship whenever she wants. \n\nI do have very strong feelings for her, but I don't like the idea that she wants to be single while we're apart but then get back together if nobody better comes along.", "summary": "girlfriend of 2 months wants to \"be friends\" over the summer then get back to an official relationship when we return to school. I don't like this at all."}
{"id": "t3_2eotl4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not wearing goggles", "post": "This is actually not a fuck up that happened today, rather a few of years ago. It's short but a good warning.\n\nI was at school, and on this particular day we were participating in what the school called a deep-learning day. A day spent studying a single subject or topic as opposed to actually doing something somewhat useful. On this particular day, I was assigned to science. Later in the day we had to get into pairs and do an experiment with water. However, it wasn't just any water. Our school had a partnership with another school overseas in Africa. We'd held charitable events, donated a generator etc. etc. and we had to use their water. What we had to do with this unclean water was boil it with a Bunsen burner. Why we had to do this I don't even remember. \n\nAnyway, we pour in our sample of water, only a small amount, and after a while it starts to boil. In fact most people's water does, however, while their water is boiling clearly, ours has turned into a strange black bubbling goop. My partner goes to check with the teacher what's going on while I, in the meantime, inspect it closer... with my goggles up. A few seconds after he's gone the liquid explodes and small hot specks splash against my face. The teacher suspected there were excess chemicals in the container holding our water that had reacted and caused the resulting bang. Luckily I escaped with a few very minor burns, and my eyes intact. That was the day I learned to wear my goggles in science, no matter how safe the experiment in question seemed.", "summary": "I made a makeshift bomb out of African drinking water."}
{"id": "t3_2t8j45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F30) HATE his (M31) beard.", "post": "I know this is going to sound pathetic but it really is a huge issue between us. \n\nWe've been together almost 12yrs. Lived together for 10yrs. Have a baby son.\n\nMy boyfriend has had a beard for years now. I've never been attracted to men with beards. He used to keep it quite short and thin which suited him so I didn't mind but he'd always let it grow longer and I'd nag him to shave. \n\nAt the moment it's a full on, past the chin, wirey, rough, scruffy monstrosity stuck to his face and I cannot bear it. I hate how it looks. I can't stand the feel of it. I hate it when he kisses me. \n\nOur sex life took a dive when I had our son 5 months ago, obviously. I've had a very up and down sex drive over the years anyway.  I'm doing my best to improve it. I've begged and pleaded with him over and over and over again to shave, just to thin it down. I need oral, it's an essential part of sex to me, but there's no way he's coming near me. I think the last time we had sex was 2 months ago. It's also hampered by my finding it so unattractive of course. \n\nI said it's unfair of him to expect blow jobs when all I get in return is a bit of touching. He said I'm pathetic and petty. Am I being petty? I feel as though I am but I can't put into strong enough words how much I loathe and detest his beard. And I shave for him even though it causes me irritation and almost constant itching of the legs for a week afterwards.\n\nHe knows that all that's preventing sex is his unwillingness to shave a bit. He knows how much I hate it. He knows I'm completely unattracted to men with beards. I don't know what else to do.", "summary": "My hatred of boyfriend's beard ruining sex life and relationship."}
{"id": "t3_w493y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I found out that my uncle (who has been in and out of jail for the past 30 years) is a \"sergeant-at-arms\" for a notorious gang. What interesting/bizarre secrets have you discovered about your relatives?", "post": "Today I was talking to my mom about different members of my family when we got on to the topic of my uncle, a compassionate individual who would willingly take a bullet for anyone he loves and has the utmost respect for his family and has been in and out of the prison system a majority of his life and is currently serving a 15 year sentence. My entire life (I'm 20 years old now) my uncle has come and gone through my life and his physical absence is just something I've been used to. She began to describe how he is glorified and respected at his prison and inmates would undoubtedly kill for him if he simply asked. I scoffed at her saying there's no way my uncle is like that (I was told my whole life that he was in jail for random non-gang related instances) and in order for that to be true he would have to be gang-affiliated (which I was always led to believe wasn't the case). My mom then (in an almost humorous nature) explained that he is a high-ranking \"sergeant\" in a notorious gang and it's from within the prison that he gives his orders while remaining protected. She explained how his small charges that gave him these reduced sentences were his way of staying within his \"fortress\" while being able to deliver his orders efficiently and quickly.", "summary": "My loving, caring uncle is also a highly regarded sergeant in a large, notorious gang."}
{"id": "t3_1bq2t8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m25] just went on a great date with a [f29]; afterwards during a phone conversation she gets weird, then tells me in a whisper that she hasn't been on birth control in 8 years. Why did she tell me that?", "post": "I [m25] met a great woman [f29] at my community college a few weeks ago. On Tuesday I found out she was single from a mutual friend and then I asked her out on Thursday. We went to a restaurant, had a great date with good conversation. As we were walking to our cars in the parking lot, she motioned for a hug. Two long hugs later and a denied kiss attempt, we parted ways but we made promises to see each other soon. We really hit it off!\n\nA few hours after the date we are texting late into the night. She calls me after a few texts and then we end up talking for about an hour and a half.\n\nOk, this is the issue or question I have. At one point in the conversation, she became kind of weird and started to speak really softly. I don't know how the topic came up (we were kind of talking around our attraction to each other and past sexual experience), but she whispered very softly to me that she hadn't been on birth control in 8 years. I told her that I appreciate her telling me that, but it was her choice to be on birth control. I think the way she told me implied that she was guilty about it.\n\nI know some women don't like being on birth control. It affects them in weird ways. I'm just confused why she felt the need to tell me that. Is a woman NOT being on birth control a weird thing and/or is it something a woman could feel guilty for?\nAnyway, I also told her that I ALWAYS use a condom. She seemed more relieved after that.", "summary": "Woman I just took out for a great date told me in a whispering, possibly guilty voice that she hasn't been on birth-control in over 8 years. Why did she feel the need to tell me this so soon?"}
{"id": "t3_kgm41", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the appeal of fast food breakfast? Is there anything worthwhile about it?", "post": "I can't think of a single fast food breakfast item worth eating, besides coffee. I hate yogurt. The hashbrows taste like they took them out of the fryer, then just dipped them in oil for good measure. A rubbery disk of egg does not appeal to me. Is the sausage they use even meat?? Fast food biscuits are just way too heavy and I feel like my intestines are confused for the rest of the day after eating one. And don't get me started on chicken biscuits! Why would you need to wrap something that is already breaded in bread? Plus they are dry and just generally gross.", "summary": "Is there anything decent about fast food breakfast??"}
{"id": "t3_1m4wcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27m] am getting married to my fiance [25f] on Thursday in a civil ceremony. Critique my vows?", "post": "Hi everyone, I am getting married in a civil ceremony this week, mostly to appease my fiancee's mother (ie future MIL) who would like to see us legally married before living together. Our official wedding is next spring.\n\nI'm trying to get psyched for the upcoming \"courthouse wedding\" in just a few days, because even though it doesn't come with the big spectacle and fuss of the actual wedding, it's real and important in its own way. I'd like to get some critiques on my vows (never written any before!) and any other general tips for the mini Big Day :)\n\n*(fiancee), you are my best friend, my most trusted partner, and the love of my life. I promise you the best of me, as much as I can give anyone in the world. I will work hard to take care of you and keep you safe from harm. I will treat you with respect and make you feel valued. I promise to work with you through any and all challenges that come our way. I am excited to share experiences together, grow together, and build a future together with you as my wife.", "summary": "Marriage vows - sound ok?"}
{"id": "t3_2h4lb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] am crushing obsessively over an older friend [40 M], who also happens to be the first guy I ever slept with.", "post": "I met this guy off a hookup app about 6 months ago, having decided I was ready to try stuff with a another man (I've realised I am 100% gay but am not out). We got along really well and have a lot in common, despite the relatively huge age difference. We kept talking pretty much daily via apps and later Facebook. He had told me from the start that he had a boyfriend but they hadn't been together long and some stupid part of me thought I should pursue something with him.\n\nThe second time we met up was with his boyfriend as well and that ended in us having a (somewhat awkward) threesome. We've since met a few more times and they have made it very clear that sex was a one time thing, which is fine by me as I would love to be just friends. The problem is that I can't shake this crush on him.\n\nI've been told previously (on Reddit and other online advice platforms) that it's just infatuation and that if I meet other guys I'll get over it. I've tried this and it's really not working, I just can't stop thinking about the dude and I really hate myself for it. I don't want to take the cut-off all contact route because I want to remain friends with him and his boyfriend. Their experience is invaluable in the process of coming out and they are just generally really cool guys. I'm sure that I will eventually find another guy and forget all about this guy but at the moment it is killing me and destroying any and all motivation I have. \n\nI'm sorry that this is really awfully worded, this whole thing gets me uncharacteristically emotional. Thanks to anyone who reads this. :-)", "summary": "I'm crushing on a non-single guy but want to maintain a friendship."}
{"id": "t3_3v11is", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] broke up with my girlfriend [24 F]of 2 years a few months ago with my girlfriend of 2 years. Now I'm second guessing my decision.", "post": "Back in September I broke up with my girlfriend of two years. We had a fight, but I told myself at the time that the breakup wasn't over the fight. I told myself that it was because of a bunch of little things I saw as \"wrong\" with the relationship. I told myself it was because she was messy, because she may have smoked (weed) and drank too much. This is all despite the fact that there was a lot right with the relationship, same interests, similar personalities, all the physical stuff was great. \n\nBut since then I've just been unhappy. I've dated a bit, but no one has really sparked my interest as much as she did. We've talked a little bit since then and she seems to be the same person she was before. I'm not really sure what to do, was I just blowing things out of proportion before (with the fight making everything seem worse)? Should I pursue her again (if she will even take me back)? Or am I just clinging to something that I think would make happy? Apologies for walls of text, if I've been unclear anywhere, just let me know and I will clarify any point.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend of two years, thought it was over legitimate reasons, still unhappy after several months of being single, should I pursue her again?"}
{"id": "t3_10f0fh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why Youtube/Google Deserve the Worst Company of the Year Award. What Should I do Reddit?", "post": "If you use Youtube even a little bit, you should already know the MANY problems, with the site. Sub boxes don't work, uploading and processing has problems all the time. Well, I've just added another problem to the list: The Impossibility of Adsense.\n  \n In the past, I submitted an application to Adsense, which was NOT ACCEPTED, NOR ACTIVATED due to my age. They stated that if a parent or guardian took control of my account, I would be fine and dandy, and be accepted.\n\nFast forward several months. I apply for a partnership with RPM/MakerStudios and am accepted. I go through everything, sign the contract, and am only waiting for Youtube's response. When we get it: Adsense account is disabled due to invalid clicking. Funny, seeing as I don't have any videos monetized, or have NEVER had any videos monetized, so I submit an appeal. \n\nThen, I remember that I still have the email letting me know that if a parent or guardian takes control of my account everything's good. I go and click on the link to put verification of my parents' age, and show documentation as requested. Then this happens:  \n\nLast time I checked, if you were born in 1966, that's a lot older than 18. I have a bright idea Google. Why don't you have someone check your forms every once and a while, to see if they're working as intended. It's now impossible for me to change my birthdate, get my Adsense enabled, make a new Adsense account under my parents (Since I have to go through Youtube Settings and I can't submit a new one from there) and I can't continue with my partnership. Oh, did I mention that Google and Youtube has absolutely no support staff/forums of any type? \n\nSo, Reddit, what should I do? How would I go about getting in contact with an actual real life person, instead of an automated form/email. Hope you guys can help out.", "summary": "Adsense forms screwed up, no possible way to fix age."}
{"id": "t3_33885s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I become more assertive / how can I have more 'power' in my relationship? (24F, 27M, 1 yr 4 mnths)", "post": "I feel like I'm the one who 'loves more' in the relationship and as a result, I feel weak and get upset easily...\n\nI seem to just go along with what my boyfriend wants, e. g. when he asks me what I want to do when we hang out, I usually say whatever he wants because I don't mind. But when I think more and more about these kinds of situations, I think I do actually mind. E.g. he's always the one who decides when to call it a day when we're hanging out. I never do this because I want to hang out with him as much as possible so I always feel down when it's time to leave. I know that one way to fix this is to just dictate when I want to leave instead. I could also get in there before him and tell him when I'm going to leave. I'm so bad at saying no too. Like when I'm in a bad mood, I still go over to his because he makes me feel better but I want to be able to turn him down for once and not feel guilty, as well as being able to cheer myself up.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on how I can be more assertive without feeling guilty or scared of hurting my BF's feelings...?", "summary": "I want to be more assertive without feeling guilty or scared of the consequences. How can I do this...?"}
{"id": "t3_1k4k0s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] kissed a girl last night [20F] that has been a friend for a while, my ideal girl.", "post": "I met this girl when I was 16, and have always had a bit of a crush on her. She is the girl I have always used as my example for my ideal. She is very social, and nice to jsut about everyone, and having known her for so long, I really can't ever tell if she is flirting or not. Timing has never worked out for me as one of us has always been in a relationship while the other isnt. I have never been able to make a move of any kind or show any interest.\n\nLast night we were at my friend's house drinking, and I found out that she was single again. After a little while I was able to find a time where I could kiss her. We made out/ had philosophical talks for the rest of the night, and gebneral life discussions. Pretty standard stuff.\n\nI am going back to school in a week, I could probably manage to hang out with her one more time, as we are both busy people. I don't think I want to get in to a long distance relationship, and I doubt she does either. I just want to try to establish more of a dating-like relationship with the person, as opposed to pure friendship. Something to form ouyr friendship into a bit more, to make it clear that I would like to try to make something of it some day, if it worked out for us.\n\nWhat advice do you guys have for me to try to do this? Feel free to give me personal experiences, share stories. This means alot to me (I'm not much for relationships usually)", "summary": "kissed a good friend of mine, want to be more than friends, but I'm leaving for school soon. Dont want a realtionship now, but would like to transition our friendship into one more of a realtionship. need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3am6cp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [22M] says weird things to me sometimes and I don't know what to think of it.", "post": "I've been with him for about six months and there have been a few times where he's said something borderline psychopathic to me. One time I couldn't stop laughing about something (kind of hysterical but I really couldn't help it) and he told me he'd hit me in the face if I didn't stop, he once told me he was going to tear my ass apart (what does that even mean?) and he said some other similar stuff a few times. \n\nI told him that I didn't find these kind of things funny and he told me they were just jokes and apologized, but then he'll just do it again. \n\nHe's otherwise very thoughtful, caring (bla bla), so I'm wondering if this is a big red flag or if I should just take it as misplaced humor?", "summary": "BF makes weird \"jokes\", I'm not sure if I should see it as a red flag or if it's just weird humor."}
{"id": "t3_20v1pf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Says he doesn't talk to his recess, but he still does?", "post": "So I know I have a great nab and he loves New and is trustworthy, but I have some sous insecurities after several relationships and Patty dramas and I can't seem to shake this nagging fear in the back of my mind. I know it's me, it's not his fault. \n\nBut I also know I've been honest with him about my insecurities and that staying in contact with exes makes me really uneasy, and he's always assured me he doesn't talk to them.\n\nBut I was just having a snack and turned Netflix on his computer (he lets me use it because it's a hassle to set up my laptop up sometimes) and there was a conversation up on the screen between him and a user I didn't recognize...he and I and his friends sometimes play games together and I recognize the regulars). \n\nThe conversation starts with this person saying \"hey boo what's up\", and him replying with small talk. This was recent, like today add yesterday, and the message history was erased before that. He didn't say anything suggestive but their conversation makes it seem like this person was up to date with current events in his life. I was weak and checked that person's profile history ads he left a comment in 2012 that says hey sweets.\n\nI know he's the best man I've ever been with and the part of me that can trust totally trusts him. But there's a part of me that is possibly neurotic beyond repair and that part takes the wheel sometimes, and I'm freaking out because I didn't think he still talked to exes. I know he didn't say anything sketchy, but the way she address him and the fact that he participated in the conversation ready unnerved me.\n\nPlease help me not make a mistake and ruin my relationship if I should back off, but please save me from getting blind sides too. I don't know if or how to mention it.", "summary": "bf of 9 mos says he didn't talk to exes and knows how uncomfortable it makes me, but I accidentally found a conversation with history deterred where someone calls him boo and they have a conversation. He left a comment on their profile a year ago saying hey sweets, so this person must be someone. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_40g44u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bringing my niece to school.", "post": "Before we get into this I feel like you should know I'm a pretty sarcastic guy, it's the basis for pretty much all of my humour. On this day however, it would prove to be my downfall.\nSo my sister Diane (who is heavily pregnant) asked me today to walk her daughter to school because she can't. You know, pregnant and whatnot. \nSo I, being the loving brother that I am agree to walk my niece to school. As the weather is pretty cold here lately, I put on my big black trench coat to keep warm. I drop off my niece and as I'm walking back home I notice a group of teachers I walked past are remarking on my coat and it was here that I made my mistake. I, a 20 year old scrote just in college said to a group of elderly teachers and suspicious parents \"come on guys, a trench coat doesn't make me a pedophile. The stack of child pornography under my mattress does.\"\nInternally I laughed, I thought it was hilarious! But you could have heard a fucking pin drop in that playground. I quickly make my exit and awkwardly walk/run home.\nFast forward to about an hour ago when the school calls my sister to tell her about the incident and inform her that I have been removed from the list of people who are allowed to collect/drop my niece to school and that i am no longer welcome on school property.", "summary": "made a pedophile joke in my niece's school and am now banned from the premises."}
{"id": "t3_1z3b1o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Feeling down? Give this a thought", "post": "This thought came to me while I was watching the film Gravity. Now I won't spoil it for those of you who haven't watched it, but without giving anything important anyway, there is a scene where our protagonist, faced with almost certain doom, calms herself down by listening to random radio broadcasts coming from Earth. She can hear them, but they can't hear her. It's a nice scene because it reminds you that if you were faced with your own impending mortality, you would instantly miss the most mundane parts of life, and one of its most simple pleasures - the luxury of not having to worry about your own death.\n\nThis scene just made me realise - and you can trade out the protagonist's imprisonment in space for anything, such as a cancer diagnosis or life on death row - these people would trade anything just to get back the opportunity to wake up in the morning of a standard day where your biggest worry is getting to work on time, or finishing an essay for college. They would trade anything just to return back to a normal, boring, mundane reality.\n\n*THIS IS YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW, AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRADE IT FOR ANYTHING.* \n\nEven if you are poor, or ill, you have options. You can choose to read this post or you can close your internet browser and run outside and just taste the fresh air. You can learn something new, fall in love, or get blisteringly drunk. It sounds cliched but you'll never realise how much you would value these privileges unless you actually lost them. So if you are feeling down, or depressed, just remember that you are a tiny ant, crawling on a tiny pebble, in the infinite sandy beach that is our universe. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself, no one is judging you from afar, and you are capable of whatever it is you want to do. If you fail, at least you can sit back, relax, and enjoy the fact you have the time to fail, fail, fail, and fail again. \n\nDon't treat every day as if it was your last, treat every day as if it were your first. Earth has a lot of surprises in store for you, and if you're seen everything and done everything, you still have the potential to change yourself.", "summary": "if a man was in a falling plane and the pilot managed to land it safely against all odds, that man would feel like he had received the greatest gift on earth. You have the exact same gift."}
{"id": "t3_1d4wj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cute girl(19) asks me(19) to go to comic con.", "post": "So I have known this girl for about a year and have seen her on a good amount of occasions. The first time I hung out with her alone(she was and still is single)was unintentional because I was expecting a group of friends, but none were able to come. She came regardless of me telling her it would just be me and her. It was an awkward moment for me because I didn't know what to do. So the night ended and she went home. She also said she enjoyed herself which I found hard to believe. Later in the week I asked her if I could make it up to her for the awkward night by making her dinner the following week. I decided to make everything from scratch. I felt some of the things I made weren't as good as I wanted. Once again she said she enjoyed herself. Fast forward a couple weeks and I decided to ask her if she felt the same way as me. She said she wasn't looking for anything at the moment. Although I was a little heartbroken I kept my composure, acted maturely, and just kind of brushed it off. We hung out later with no awkwardness. Fast forward to now where she asks me, my friend, and his girlfriend to go to comic con. Everybody I tell about this tell me it is a double date. I am horrible with reading women and I often misinterpret signals. I would just like some of your guys opinions if possible.", "summary": "girl I like says he enjoys my presence, but I am unsure if that indicates if she also has feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_4u4j8j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Next step for credit inquiry removal", "post": "In December I applied over the phone for a credit limit increase with US Bank. I ended up not applying because I couldn't verify my income at the time and didn't want to apply and not get the increase. \n\nMy credit was still ran so the next day I went into a branch. They said I could cancel the application but I'd still have to dispute the inquiry. They said as an alternative they could use the same credit report and i could apply for a lot better card. I went with the second option but my credit was ran again. \n\nI've been working with online card member services and the branch manager working on this since December. It's been a bunch of submitting the wrong paperwork, the original branch member leaving, waiting 6 weeks to find out the wrong paperwork was sent, etc. \n\nTwo weeks ago the branch manager resubmitted all of the paperwork with a letter/statement from me staying the second inquiry should not have happened and I'd like it removed. \n\nI just got 2 letters in the mail and it looks like they're attempting to remove *both* inquiries now. Should I call the branch manager and say something, to stop the removal of one inquiry? Or just let them remove both?", "summary": "months after trying to get a second credit inquiry removed, US Bank is attempting to remove both."}
{"id": "t3_1h85cx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If someone were to walk into a bank and hand a teller a note asking for money, and the teller complied, is that a crime?", "post": "Most have heard the story about a man who robbed a bank for a dollar so he could get treatment for his medical conditions in prison since he couldn't afford health insurance. \n\nBut what if someone were to walk into a bank completely unarmed and make no threatening gestures, hand a teller a note simply *asking* for money (no specific amount), and left upon receiving it?  Not a robbery. Just a request. \n\nIf I ask a stranger for money and they comply, I'm not robbing them. Yes, banks hold a lot of money, but in this instance the note would not specifically be asking for money from the bank. The teller could reach into their pocket and hand over a few dollars or a few twenties, or they could reach into a drawer and hand over several thousand of the banks money in hundred dollar bills. It would be entirely up to her. The note isn't specific. \n\nThe US legal system is full of inconsistencies, irregularities, and loopholes that people use to exploit the law all the time. It's not uncommon for people to get away with murder based on a technicality, even if their guilt is entirely apparent and proven. \n\nThat said, how do you feel the case would be treated?  And no, I would never do this. Just thought I'd through out a hypothetical.", "summary": "It's in the title"}
{"id": "t3_52mb8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have just come out of 8 year relationship. Feel like I don't know how to date/flirt. Scared will grow old with many cats. Any advice?", "post": "This is my first post so please be kind :)\n\nI know that lots of people often feel confused when they come out of a long-term relationship. They think they have forgotten how to be single, or how to flirt/date.\n\nI am one of these people.\n\nThe problem is, my relationship started when I had just turned 16. I have never been single - as an adult. That might sound silly. But the only time I have ever flirted or dated was as an over-confident, hormone-riddled teenager.\n\nNow I have a pretty demanding job, responsibilities blah blah... And I just don't know how to this!\n\nI'm no way in a rush to get into a new relationship, but that doesn't mean I want to be completely alone in the mean time.\n\nIf anyone has experienced anything similar, or just generally has some advice, it would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Started a long-term relationship as a teenager, ended as an adult. Now feel like I don't know how to date."}
{"id": "t3_1sb2o1", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Laundry Revenge", "post": "Backstory:\nMy family is terrible about laundry. They will get as far as filling the machine with dirty clothing, but then they will just leave it there. For days. That is, or until I come around and start the damn thing. Every time I have to put in their detergent and softener, wait half an hour, then move all their crap to the drier before repeating the process with my own laundry just so I can wear a clean t shirt. It's not a huge inconvenience most of the time, but today, I had places to be and nothing to wear. I take my clothing into the laundry room, open the machine, and it's full of dirty, unwashed laundry. \n\nThe revenge:\nI started that load of laundry. But I didn't put in any fabric softener.", "summary": "Enjoy your mild discomfort"}
{"id": "t3_4vpqjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's going on with me [20 F] and this guy [23 M]?", "post": "The other night this guy came over to my house. He knew my mom and sister would be there and when he got there, he sat down and talked to them. They seemed to really connect and he said \"I never talk to people who get it like you guys\". When my family went to bed, me and him talked. He knows I'm bipolar and I told him that I had to go off my medication. He then said \"I can tell you're manic\". That night we kissed and made out for the first time. He admitted to me that it's taken him a while but he feels like he's finally connected to me. He then told me when we got in bed that he didn't want to have sex, that he wanted to wait a bit for us to do it. I kept him up all night due to me being in a manic state and told him he could go sleep on the couch. He wouldn't and we snuggled all night. At 5 in the morning, he got up and told me he had to leave to go back to his place to sleep and that he knew that I would keep him up all night due to me being manic and that he would've slept on the couch if he chose to. He then left and has been ignoring my text all day, but apparently hes moving today but hes been posting on Facebook.\nMy family told me that they've never seen someone connect to me so well and that they can't even seem to get me to open up to them the way he does. They also want him to meet my dad and they think that they'll get along amazingly. He hasn't texted me for the two days after we met though :/ \nWhat is going on with this guy? Is he just using me?", "summary": "This guy I've known for a few months keeps sending mixed signals. Is he using me?"}
{"id": "t3_1bzb0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19m) want more from a FWB relationship with her (19f)", "post": "So, we met in August at the start of college. We were friends, best friends, then I told her I liked her. She wasn't into it, stayed friends. Then this year she told me she liked me, but then we talked about it and she is still not entirely over her ex from home. We hooked up once, then she said it was a mistake, we stopped for a while. Then over Easter we hooked up pretty much for 3 days straight. Since then we've been up and down over it. I want to go out with her, she doesn't want to go out with me (or anyone else, because she doesn't like the commitment). I asked about the future, she said 'maybe', but she likes how it is now apparently.\n\nSo, I really like her and want to go out with her, but don't think we should do the whole long distance relationship thing over Summer.  She still isn't completely over her ex from home, so she may end up having sex with him, which doesn't bother me too much, I told her she should do whatever she thinks she needs to, in order to help her decide about us. So my hopes right now are that she comes back next year and wants to go out, but for now we're friends with benefits, but it's pretty clear it's something more to me and she said that nothing would have happened if the person were anyone but myself, so you can take that however you see it. I'm not sure if we should keep going the way we're going or stop now.", "summary": "I want to go out with this girl, she isn't sure (about anything).  Should I continue FWB while waiting for her to decide whether she's sure?"}
{"id": "t3_vcegg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Some girlfriend advice please...", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We both work together and go to college together. We still live at home but its a 35 minute drive to our college as well as a 35 minute drive out to work. The gas cost is ridiculous. We carpool when we can, but that's not always possible. We were thinking about getting an apartment close to where we work and attend school.\n\nWe have weighed all the pros and cons and decided we can afford it without a problem.  The only thing holding me back is my parents. Being Christians, they are against living to together prior to marriage and have taken issue with me sleeping over at my girlfriend's house occasionally  (let's say about twice a week).  While arguing with my parents about sleeping over, I told them we were looking at places.  Needless to say, that didn't go over well.   Now understand that I have a deep respect for my parents and hate to see them hurt; however, I also hate to see my girlfriend hurt, and my parents have not been the most gracious of hosts (this may be somewhat of an understatement).  Their views differ on the whole living together prior to marriage.  My own views are that it is not a problem.  \n\nNow here is the question. Do I move out and disregard my parents wishes? Moving out would hurt them, but I do want to do it, and I think that it would be a great experience.  What are reddit's views on this?  Also, is doing something that your parents disagree with disrespectful?  Keep in mind that I am 19 years old.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I want to move in together, but my parents are against it.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1s31iz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my SO [21F] having problems communicating", "post": "Hello /r/relationships!\n\nMe and my SO for 3 months have been having a hard time expressing our feelings and it is kind of slowly breaking the relationship. \n\nSo a little background: I've been seeing this girl for almost 10 months now, however we didn't officially start dating until this September. \n\nWe click on a lot of levels and have a fantastic sex life.\n\nWe both had long-term relationships before this one that kind of messed us up too.\n\nMy question is, she will sometimes text me stuff like \"<3 <3 <3\" or \"thinking about you ;)\" and I never know how to respond.\n\nMy ex-girlfriend never did stuff like that and it feels weird to me text feelings like that. \n\nSo when I respond with \"ok :)\" or \":D <3\" she will get pretty upset and try to take back what she said because to her she feels like she is being rejected.\n\nHow can I make her understand that its not that I'm rejecting her, I just don't know what to do in that type of situation?\n\nThe L-word hasn't been said, but i've been hinting around it for a while and just waiting for the right time.\n\nI do think that I really do love this girl and want her for the long haul but I feel like this is just making it very hard\n\nAny advice will be greatly appreciated :)", "summary": "Girlfriend [21F] texts me stuff like \"<3 <3\" or \"thinking about you sexy :)\" and I [20M] don't know how to respond."}
{"id": "t3_3wws5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my coworker [60+ M] of 5 mos, acting inappropriate towards me. Not sure what to do", "post": "While talking to some of my coworker friends, an older coworker of mine (\"John\"), walked up to me from behind without me noticing and started rubbing my shoulders.  \n\nIt immediately made me very uncomfortable (I didn't even know who was touching me until I turned around).  I gave him a look and he said \"Sorry!\".  Later in the day he invited me to his house this weekend (....as if).  I have about 4 eyewitnesses to the back rubbing and one witness of him inviting me over.\n\nBefore this, I thought the guy was a little weird but never felt threatened by him.  Now I am dreading being around him or god forbid ever being alone with him.  What should I do?  Do I report to HR?  I am a new employee and don't want to start drama but the more I think about this the more disgusted I feel.  I feel physically sick thinking about it :(", "summary": "My older coworker is being inappropriate to me, don't know what to do or if I am over reacting :("}
{"id": "t3_2jwq0j", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I am being gifted a car. Need some advice on how to best to handle it when it comes to taxes. (State of Washington). (x-post /r/taxes and /r/tax)", "post": "Story:\n\nMy dad's mom passed in July. He and his brother are to split her estate and all things included in it 50/50. They both agreed that I can have her 2009 Lexus RX350. I will receive it on Saturday. I plan to sell it at some point in the near future and combine the money from that sale and the money from the sale of my own vehicle to buy a newer vehicle.\n\nQuestions:\n\nPart 1: I read that Washington State has no gift tax on the amount that the value of the car would be. However, there is a federal gift tax on values of $14,001 or more. From what I have looked at, this vehicle has a value of $18,000 - $25,000 in my area.\n\nDoes this mean that I will have to pay taxes on the full value of the vehicle being given to me?\n\nPart 2: I am new to the state of Washington, and new to having sales tax. This means I have no idea how sales tax works when purchasing a used vehicle from a private seller. Would it perhaps be more reasonable in terms of the amount of taxes I will have to pay for me to \"Purchase\" the vehicle from my father for the low low price of $10? Would this avoid the gift tax? I probably would still have to pay sales tax, but whatever the percentage is on $10 wont be much at all.\nIs this a good idea?", "summary": "Being gifted an expensive vehicle, is it better to let it be a gift and pay gift tax, or to \"purchase\" it for a very low amount and pay sales tax? Is that even allowed?"}
{"id": "t3_4xjoyj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Probiller robbed me. Is there anything I can do?", "post": "So I'll start off by saying I'm 20 years old and only recently started checking my transactions from my checking account. I had noticed that I was missing some money each month for awhile, but had only attributed it to turkey hill and wawa runs. \n\nA few nights ago I decided to check my transaction history, and noticed that some company named \"probiller\" had been taking out $29.97 from me for a long time, reoccurring each month. I looked further into it and called the probiller company. As it turns out, they've been doing this since December of 2014. The math comes out to around $599.04. According to probiller I had started one of those \"$1 for a week\" accounts on an adult website, the strange thing was, is that I cancelled that account right when that trial ended and have emails from probiller telling me that yes, this account had been cancelled. \n\nI inquired Further as to why I was since then being charged every month for an account that had been cancelled. They told me that I had somehow accepted a secondary offer and started a second account for the monthly rate of $30. Only I have no record anywhere of starting this second account. I only have the two emails from the first account. One for when I started it, and one for when I ended it a few days later. (Dec 4, 2014 - Dec 7, 2014). They told me there's nothing that I can do, and refunded me $90 for 3 months.", "summary": "Probiller is charging me for an account that I have no record of, has been charging me for 20 months a rate of $30 a month, and yet I have a record of an account that I did begin and end, both confirmed by probiller."}
{"id": "t3_13xphe", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I [24/F] am about to make a career move that's probably going to change my life (not in the way I'd imagined) and really need some advice.", "post": "Where to start? First of all, I graduated in May with a BA in English. This was the first of many mistakes. I have been employed with a library for 2.5 years now and make $10.86/hour. \n\nI had been thinking of going back to school for Speech Language Pathology, but the program is so competitive that it seems like a waste (400 applicants, 20 are selected) to gamble away an opportunity to work full-time. Two full-time jobs are open in my building and I am guaranteed to land at least one of them; however, the idea of accepting a job that's going to make it probably nearly impossible for me to do anything more lucrative in life depresses me. The cost of living, in my area, doesn't seem to be horrid (I still live with my parents) but 20k/year isn't impressive. It isn't even \"good.\" \n\nThe position in my department (I know what to expect in regard to work) is the same thing I've been doing for two+ years and I interact with the public on a daily basis. The shifts are a few 8-5s and a few 11-8s and either a FRI. or SAT. The other position is upstairs and I would not have to deal with the public, I'd work 8-5 MON.-FRI. and have no weekends. I'm also a decent-looking single twenty-four-year-old who has no outlet for meeting people (The last guy I dated works in my department which is why I'm considering jumping ship on my department to work in another one; long, unpleasant story = lesson learned) so I worry that going upstairs to work in solitude is going to spell out my future as a cat lady. The hours, however, are better - so I have no idea.", "summary": "Basically, I never thought I'd be mediocre. I always saw myself as someone who had decent earning potential and as a person who'd really be something someday. Accepting this job means accepting that I'm probably not going to go too far in life, but I need to do something solid (and not gamble on a program that's going to cost me a FT job with benefits if I don't get in)."}
{"id": "t3_297rxn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by browsing late at night", "post": "This happened about 20 minutes ago, I was sitting at my desktop at about 11:55. I had been browsing a few threads like \"most disturbing/creepy stories you have\" and after an hour of this i went to get some cereal as all late night browsers do, I quickly realized my mistake as the whole house was pitch black and I immediately started seeing scary shit like figures of people or other hallucinations. Let out a small scream and lost my footing while walking up the stairs and fell while smashing my face into a wooden staircase and spilling cereal everywhere. the only plus is that my staircase looks like a jizz waterfall.", "summary": "browsed fucked up shit, had a bitch fit while getting food, smashed my face up but made a jizz waterfall."}
{"id": "t3_p8gy5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Crazy ex? [NSFW]", "post": "Share your love/dating-stories of pure bullshitery. I'll start.\nOut on a date. After we've been to the movies, we hung out at a party, drank a little bit (I got a little tipsy, but she didn't). We go back to my place, and lay down on the couch. She's REALLY horny, and we start getting intimate. I start rubbing her tits and inner tighs, working my way down her pants, and undressing us. She climbs on top of me, and we start making out, still undressing.\nSuddenly, she flips the fuck out. She screams at me for not stopping her, and \"broke up\" with me, whatever relationship we ever had. We had an argument for about an hour, which she just kept telling me I was \"using her\". 10 minutes after she left, she told me not to take anything she said seriously. What the FUCK.\nShe apologized, and told me she still wanted us to be friends.", "summary": "ex climbed on top of me, and as I was about to put my dick in her, she flipped out, and told me I was using her. We NEVER spoke again."}
{"id": "t3_rmu3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Got matched up online with a total stranger only to find out...", "post": "No she's not my long lost sister or something...it is much less dramatic than that. \n\nSo I use online dating and I (28M) was matched up with a nice lady (27) with high potential, who I had a couple great conversations with.  We decided to meet in person and things are going quite great, we get along fantastic, have a lot in common, there is absolutely a spark as well.  So I used to live in one town not too far from my current home (we both live in London now, but I grew up not too far away) .  I have a lot of friends back there that I see on a regular basis.  \n\nAfter multiple fine dates we start talking about the places we've lived/childhoods and things of that nature.  She tells me she dated someone in uni from the city where I grew up in, but wasn't sure if I knew him.  She drops his name on me and what do you know...it is one of my closest male friends.  I had never heard mention of her before because I knew him post-uni and we really don't talk about previous relationships.  She tells me they dated for a short amount of time (less than one year) and it ended because he cheated on her.  Keep in mind this was also 6 years prior to today. \n\nI feel like her and I have great chemistry and I would like to pursue seeing her (we both are looking for longer relationships at this stage in our lives).  The downside is that my friend and I see each other usually one or two times a week and are very close friends. I don't know how he would react to this.  I'm now very much conflicted on what I should do in this situation.  If I continue seeing this girl there is no way they will not run into each other eventually as I am very social and hang out with my old friends a lot.   \n\n Just looking for some general advice on the subject, seeing if it may have happened to others out there.", "summary": "matched up online with great potential match, turns out she briefly dated (6 years ago) one of my closest friends before him and I had even met. Would like to continue to see her, but am unsure of how to break it to him, or if I should break it off with her."}
{"id": "t3_3gm2ma", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to SO nervously after a rough day a good dinner.", "post": "This happened about 30 minutes ago, it's 12:39 am as I write this and it all started when I texted my B at ~8:30 I was really quite nervous, I waited for her to text back while I was in bed trying to catch some Z's listening to some Redbone when I hear some rap music playing, some random guy was walking down the street with music blasting, that was pretty weird. FF to ~11:59 I couldn't keep waiting so I hoped back on my phone and looked at the message. I waited for a bit before reading old conversations and getting a lil emotional when suddenly... anxiety round house kicks me in the dick I have a panic attack and then I threw up all over myself. I proceeded to get into the bathroom with my jeans at my ankles, I made into the toilet and the seat was closed. I felt more coming up so I tried to open the seat as fast as I could but it was too late. I projectile vomited into the top of the seat while lifting it causing a rainbow of liquid pepperoni and cheese pizza all over the goddamn wall. it was pure filth. I finished shitting out of my mouth then cleaned my face up. it was all over my bed and on every surface of the toilet room. by the time I finished cleaning it up it was 12:30. To put a lil cherry on top I also have an English test of some sort tomorrow and I'm really fucken tired.", "summary": "Hopped into a lil difficult situation with SO, anxiety kicks my dick in and I threw up all over the walls n shit. the end."}
{"id": "t3_11kvsg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Belligerent drunk, entered car that wasn't mine to sleep, owner called cops, charged for theft.", "post": "I live in Wisconsin and have had a drinking problem for quite some time now. It escalated the other night when I entered an unlocked car with the owners nearby. This is completely out of character for me, but not necessarily drunk me. There's no excuse for what I did, I know that, and I am not trying to make any. I've been going to local support groups since the incident (6 days sober). \n\nI should also mention the citation was for theft, but I did not take anything from the car. Cops found a small bottle of holy water (I kid you not) on the ground, which belonged to the car's owners.\n\nHere's my immediate legal/financial problem: $700 citation, no way in hell I can afford that. I'm a student working full time barely getting by on rent (/sob story). Are there any options I can discuss with the judge to reduce the cost, do community service, anything like that? I need to take responsibility for my actions, but unless I win the lottery this ticket could make me homeless in a month.", "summary": "any alternative non-financial penalty for theft citation in Wisco?"}
{"id": "t3_lbom1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need surveillance system upgrade advice from actual home surveillance system users.", "post": "A month ago a neighbor in my brother's mobile home park vandalized someone's property and my brother reported it to the police.  Two weeks ago nails and broken glass were dumped across my brother's driveway, and that same neighbor called the police and told them he witnessed my brother doing it. (My brother didn't.)  The police issued my brother a citation based solely on the neighbor's statement.  He took it to court, and since it was a questionable he said/he said situation, the charge was dismissed, but my brother still had to pay court costs.  I currently have signals from multiple cameras going to a Linux system running ZoneMinder at his place, but the vandalized part of his driveway wasn't covered.  In addition to adding more cameras, he has Comcast internet service so I'd like to be able to store all surveillance data offsite.  I'm looking to the Reddit family for real-life surveillance system experience to advise me on wired and wireless versus IP cameras, \"appliance-type\" dedicated systems versus computer based systems and any other hints to help me upgrade what he's got. (He's already lawyered-up and gotten legal advice on what he needs to do prior to recording surveillance video and audio surrounding his property.)\nMuch Thanks!", "summary": "Need suggestions for video surveillance system upgrade to keep my brother from getting framed again."}
{"id": "t3_3f4ofq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by disobeying my parents", "post": "Alrighty. This was bad. TIFU by disobeying my parents. How, you ask? Well let's just say I am 16 almost 17 years old, and my parents are really strict with people coming over etc. But anyways, my cousin who I have known for since I was born, who is basically my brother, comes over. ( not the person who wasn't allowed to be here obviously lol) So I show him these 2 Asian girls, that I have known from school. He thinks they are cute etc, we ask them to come over later in the night for movies. (Obviously the intent was to try to get some if possible, but not bring it up and go with the flow) My parents are gone until very late partying, and they come over after we waited for like an hour and a half. We begin to watch movies and don't try anything that would ruin the night haha. We get 10 minutes into a movie and there is a knock at the door, which scares all of us shitless! My parents aren't at the door, I'm thinking is it the girls parent or brother or someone? Come to find out, it's my fucking cousin's mother. Coming over to check for the EXACT REASON that she thought we would have people over. My cousin tries to hide them in a closet, not thinking like we should, we could of easily led them out through the back door. Anyways, his mom enters, we try to play it off, and one of our Asian woman friends leaves her shoes on the floor! We notice and make gestures to each other like \"oh fuck oh fuck!\" Well guess what, my cousins mom checks the closet, finds the girls, and, yea. She says hi to them, they say hi back, she takes my cousin home. We try to tell her we had no intent on having sex, (LOL HAHAH) trying to get her to believe us. Anyways, she ends up believing us, and she doesn't tell my parents, after I finally talked her out of it. So Uhm, yea. Dodged a fucking gigantic bullet there. Still feel stupid I didn't lead them out the back door.", "summary": "Parents went out, said no one over, my cousin and I invite someone over, get caught. Cool cousin mom doesn't tell my parents yay, dodged a bullet!"}
{"id": "t3_2rcrk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Neither myself [22,?] nor the girl with whom I'm going on a date [18,f] have ever been in a relationship. How do I show her a good time without us looking like bumbling schoolchildren?", "post": "We met at a NYE party, where a mutual female friend with whom I've previously fooled around set us up.  We made out for a while and spent the night cuddling asleep on the couch, and for a while the next morning hungover.\n\nWe're both super introverted and have been chatting over text the last couple days, and she agreed to go out together this Tuesday.  I'm just worried that we'll both be super awkward in person and sober.\n\nI was planning on taking her to a local coffee shop with tables on the roof and a great view, then going to see Interstellar or Big Hero 6.", "summary": "First date ever for both of us, don't want it to be awkward."}
{"id": "t3_2tio5o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my bf [21/M] duration 25 years, can't get over his porn habits.", "post": "BACKGROUND INFORMATION: I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2.5 years (NOT 25 years like the title suggests. sorry for the typo) . We have a pretty active sex life, having sex or me giving him oral about 4 nights of the week that we stay at each others houses. We've only ever had one major fight; he met a girl a year ago at a New Years party, and proceeded to sext with her until I found out a month later. \n\nOut of the two of us, I have the higher sex drive. I have only ever turned down sex or oral with him twice, both times I was sick. I on the other hand get turned down maybe twice a week or more. For the past 2 months we've been living together, and sex has obviously gone down a little, but he's been sneaking off to the bathroom to get off to porn most mornings, and then declining me. If I had a low libido I'd be okay with it, but I don't and I feel like he chooses porn over me some times. \n\nTyping this all out I feel really stupid and selfish, but it upsets me that he'd rather be getting off to these beautiful, thin, younger looking girls than actually being with me. As mentioned, he had an emotional/sexting affair with another girl a year ago, and it reminds me that he chose another girl of me. I don't know how to approach him about this, or even if I should.", "summary": "Feel like BF would prefer the girls in porn over me."}
{"id": "t3_3vf2tc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my older sister [22F] admitted something and younger siblings [18M/17F] birthday party is tomorrow", "post": "Was working on a paper and have 3 hours until I have to get up but I'm feeling a bit stressed out now. Question: I feel annoyed, almost disgusted at my older sister, what should I do?\n\nGot into bed and my older sister woke up (bunk bed) and she just admitted that she lost 3 wii remotes (2 belonged to family, 1 to my brother) months ago that she borrowed for a friend's party and never told anyone about it. \n\nI can't help but feel disappointed because my younger siblings came to talk to me right after they both got home from work last night to talk about their party (cleaning up, getting the wii remotes back). \n\nIgnoring our bedroom, the two livingooms are a mess because of all of her stuff (she sews and leaves everything everywhere). She just told me that she was stressed out from school/work/wii remotes/cleaning up/buying the cake for their birthday (offered to split with her). She told me how she gets 8 hours of sleep but is always so tired (can't stay up to work on stuff because she gets too tired and passes out in bed) \n\nI told her to tell them about the wii remotes because they deserve to know. \nI'm a bit annoyed because she told me she was just ranting, so I could have slept earlier... I feel disappointed. \n\nI'm so sorry that this is all over the place, trying to post on my phone.", "summary": "older sister lost wii remotes months ago and never told anyone, she's stressed out due to school/work/home, younger siblings are expecting them back for their birthday party tomorrow- what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_kkfym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I legally have a house party?", "post": "A few days ago, the police interrupted a weekly gathering I have with friends due to a noise complaint somewhere in the area. This has been a traditional gathering for many years at this house, and we've never had the cops tell us to shut it down. Now we're on a short leash with the law. I don't want to stop having this weekly gathering, but I don't want to get ticketed instead of just a warning.\n\nNormally we charge $5 a cup, pretty much a standard kegger. The main difference between this and a normal kegger is we know everyone that's coming. Usually 20-40 of our friends will show up. Would it be legal if we did the following?\n\n* Still charged for cups\n* 21+ only\n* Avoided breaking other, non alcohol-related laws (noise, littering, etc).\n\nOr is there still an issue with selling alcohol out of a private residence? Could we simply ask for monetary donations to cover costs rather than actually charge?", "summary": "Want to have kegger for just friends (not open door) at my house in Wisconsin, is there a legal way to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1zhh0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] broke up with my boyfriend [24/M] of 6 years, and I regret it.", "post": "We were together for 6+ years and had been fighting a lot, among other things. I decided to break up because I thought we couldn't resolve our issues (we'd tried and failed), he told me he thought I was giving up on us, but I disagreed. I really thought I was making the right decision. We agreed not to talk anymore, and he basically disappeared from the radar. \nThe thing is, I regret it so much. I want him back; I had a lot of time to think and reflect about it and realized I made a huge mistake. I know he still loves me, and I'm 90% sure he'd agree to talk to me about us and the possibility of staying together. I just don't know what to say so that he'll forgive me for all the pain that I've caused him... :(.\n\nWhat I'm asking for is advice on how to handle the conversation. I want us to get back together, I love him dearly and I'm willing to do anything in my power for us to be a couple again. But I'm not really good at talking and explaining myself, or my feelings... so I would really appreciate if you guys could give me a few tips on how to handle myself, how to prepare and what to say.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I broke up with my boyfriend of six years and I regret it. I know he still loves me and want to get in touch with him... I need advice on what to say and how to say it."}
{"id": "t3_3g5d9m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting that yesterday was the 6th of the month", "post": "My girlfriend who I have been dating for 2 months had lost her father 5 months ago and overall very shortly before I had met her online. All in all she has not taking been taking it well as one can imagine and it's been a struggle on all fronts. The tragedy took place on the 6th of the month, 3 months prior to meeting her so it really was so fresh. IN addition to having a lot of trouble with it all and every 6th of the month is extremely difficult on her. \n\nYesterday was the 6th and after a super long and busy day I got caught up in my own plans and life. We didn't talk much that day and I had obviously forgotten the date so at the end of the day I received a nasty drunk text message from my girlfriend telling me how badly I fucked up. Sadly when she drinks she gets emotionally abusive and despite me apologizing the conversation got super heated and after a bunch of \"fuck yous\" thrown my way it was clear things were not going well. \n\nWe've had a rocky two months and this isn't the first time her alcohol tendencies tend to be taken out on me. I definitely fucked up but what happened last night was totally uncalled for and now...both of us don't know where this is all leading.", "summary": "Forgot to be there for my girl on the monthly anniversary of her father's death, huge drunk fight may be the last straw in our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2eknib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[30m] fear that my emotional unavailability has ruined my chances with a girl [31f] im in love with. I dont want this to ruin relationships.", "post": "she said she didnt feel like we were connecting emotionally, I hate the thought that there are some glaring communication issues that im oblivious to. We otherwise hit it off great for the first couple months.\n\nMy emotional range has always felt pretty narrow, ever since puberty age. I have cried probably 3-4 times in the past ten years and after being rejected yesterday I felt terrible, but it was just numb and didnt have the energy to do anything. Today I wanted to cry, i tried thinking about how much I care for her and the fact that It will never work out the way I wish, yet I cant get myself to cry. Its like the more i try, the more numb I feel. I want to embrace these feelings and its scaring me how much trouble Im having. She cried while she was rejecting me, yet i didnt. It makes me feel like i have a major problem.", "summary": "Im worried that im emotionally unavailable"}
{"id": "t3_1wka0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19 F] am in love with a married man[19] and am trying to save his marriage with his pregnant wife[28]", "post": "I met, lets call him Tommy, a couple of months ago over the internet through games and mutual friends. At the time we just talked and played around. Fast forward to recently and him and I start talking more, his wife is pregnant and he's having relationship issues. He helped me through multiple breakups and I began to fall in love with him. He made it clear he had strong feelings too.\n\nFast forward again to a few days ago and his wife comes to me, tells me why she's the way she is and she genuinely loves him and wants to be with him. I feel horrible about it, having feelings for a married man, but I want people to be happy. So today I'm going to talk with him, asking him to give his wife another chance and forget my feelings.\n\nReddit, does anyone have advice on what I can say without messing this all up? I want them to be happy together and have a good life for the kid and it's partially my fault they are this way. Yes I see multiple problems with their marriage. Lack of communication, money issues, interest issues and the inability to move forward, but they could work things out for the better.", "summary": "I love him and want him but the right thing to do is to save the relationship and forget my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_4l79qp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] was instantly attracted to a guy [20M] on my new job. How do I pursue him?!", "post": "I've found myself in an unusual situation. I started my new job a couple of weeks ago and all of my co workers have been awesome. It's mostly people aged 18-23 working there and in midst of everything I've discovered a really hot guy. I'm rarely attracted to someone, but this just clicked when I saw him. I couldn't take my eyes off him and he looked back at me, and I think he understood I was checking him out (awkward as f).\n\nI have no relationship experience since before and I don't know how to approach guys I'm attracted to/interested in. I used to like popular guys in HS but I never had a chance so I didn't even try. So guys and gals, how do I pursue this guy and let him know of my interest? And best of all, how do I get him to be interested in me? I look average 6-7, do you think I stand a chance? How do I charm him?", "summary": "I'm attracted to a co worker at my new job and I don't know how to pursue him since I'm inexperienced when it comes to these things. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_vvchj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just moved to a new country and I have no friends here. Any tips on meeting new people and not coming off like a creepy bastard?", "post": "**Background Info**\n\nWell, I just moved to Australia from Canada. My girlfriend and I are living here now, after she spent three years with me in Canada. Every single one of my friends is back home in Canada, and I'm starting to miss hanging out with people who share common interests.\n\nI'm a really social person, but I'm the type of person who makes acquaintances easily, not friends. The vast majority of people I consider friends, have been my friends since we were in grade school.\n\nMy problem is that I don't know how to ask other guys to hang out. I always feel super awkward, like they are misreading my intentions and they think I'm trying to ask them out. I just want to hang out with a small group of guys, drink a couple beers and play some fuckin' video games and talk shit.", "summary": "Having trouble asking other guys to hang out without coming off overly eager/creepy."}
{"id": "t3_2zl32l", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travelling with a cochlear implant", "post": "(X-post with [r/deaf] )\n\nSo this might be a long shot, but I'm looking for a little advice. I'm going to be taking a 2 month trip through Europe with my boyfriend. We are hostelling/airbnb-ing with our backpacks and doing europe on the cheap (as possible).\n\nI am hard of hearing with one hearing aid (left) and one cochlear (right). I've traveled extensively with hearing aids before and it's pretty low maintenance. However, I've only had a cochlear for 3 years now and have yet to travel outside of the Us with one. I'm fairly able to communicate without sign language and my speech is quite good.\n\nI am wondering the following:\n-----------------------------------------------------\n\n1. How should I keep my battery charged: bring my charger / disposable individual batteries / both? It generally takes 1-1/2 hours to charge a battery with the charger. They last for 2.5 days. Batteries where you replace individually them are 2 at a time and disposable and last as long but generally are more expensive than using the rechargeable\n\n2. Do you suggest I bring up my back up cochlear or leave it at home. I'm thinking at home, but bringing some basic things like hooks because they are cheap\n\n3. Are people in Europe generally open and friendly towards disabled persons / hard of hearing members? \n\n4. Is it easy to pick up 675 zinc air blue tab batteries in stores in Europe? I ask because I wonder how easy it'll be to get more if they are stolen / lost / etc\n\n5. Anything else I should consider while travelling with a cochlear implant?\n\nAlso in case it helps, my itinerary: The Netherlands > Belgium > West Germany > France > Switzerland > Austria/Hungary > Czech > Poland > Germany > Denmark \nWe are spending at least 3 days in each place.", "summary": "I am travelling to Europe with a cochlear, any advice? Or am I just a little too worried about it."}
{"id": "t3_13sqs5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best Friend [19m] is way too chatty with my girlfriend [20f], how do I proceed to make him back off a little?", "post": "My girlfriend and I [19m] have been dating for almost a year and a half. I met her in high school and we ended up going to different schools in the same town. We started dating before my freshman year/her sophomore year. Everything has been amazing, except my suitemate has also taken a strong interest in her over the last semester. They met last year but really only started to hang out this year, which is great because I want all of my friends to like my girlfriend, and I want her to like them. What isn't great is he has begun to text/fb message her constantly. He has even called her a few times out of the blue with no real reason for calling. Also he has also done more boyfriendish things with her such as picking her up from the bus stop while I was at work, then inviting her up to our room while I wasn't around (she politely refused). He has a history of doing this to other people's significant others, so this isn't out of jealousy, it's more to look for a way of creating a boundary and hopefully helping him move on to girls who don't have boyfriends.\n\nI'm not worried about my girlfriend cheating on me and there isn't anything that she does to lead him on. She is just nice to him, like she is with everyone.\n\nMy girlfriend and I both agree that we need to do something, so we were wondering if there is a better way to approach this.", "summary": "Suitemate/friend is becoming more and more clingy with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. What is the best way to approach this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_12qwn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help. It feels like my relationship is on the verge of collapsing. What can I do to save it? Throwaway cause I don't care for the Karma, just want advice, please!", "post": "How can I save my relationship? This is my first real relationship, everything had been going perfectly. We are both 22 (m + f, dated for 2 years) and I feel that over the last month we have begun to drift apart. We haven't had sex since the beginning of August and she has stopped replying as much to my texts. She instead just reads them and dosen't reply but when she left her facebook logged on I was able to see she offered a guy her number and was texting him. We're about to hit our 2nd year anniversary in december and I really don't want this relationship to end. I love her and I would do anything for her. Any help on how I can try stop us drifting apart and try to save my relationship? Am I just having a small trust issue? I mean I'm fine with her having boys as friends but while reading the conversation between the two it just seemed the same as what she used to say to me before we began going out. When she told me she was subtly flirting with me. Please help.", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend are drifting apart and I feel I may be losing her."}
{"id": "t3_273367", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally letting a person know their mom has cancer", "post": "A traumatic brain injury patient wanted to talk to their mom. I called her on speaker phone figuring it's best they hear her voice as much as possible. They're mostly nonverbal. She and I were talking and she tells me the reason she hasn't been as present as usual lately is because she has brain cancer. \n\nAlmost no lead-up. \n\nI fumble with the phone and get it off speaker as quickly as possible. \nThe patient stares at me, very worried looking. \n\nAny time they talk for the rest of the night they just repeat, \"Mom mom mom mom mom...\" \n\nShe didn't say not to tell them, but I don't think she'd want them to know either; she tries to keep her problems hidden from them as much as possible so they don't spend all their time worrying. They lead a rich inner life with very few outlets and escapes. \n\nShe doesn't know that they heard. \n\nI feel like complete, total shit.", "summary": "a patient overheard on a speakerphone convo that their mom has brain cancer."}
{"id": "t3_3olv6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M22] think my girlfriend [F24] of a year and a half is cheating.", "post": "Ok we meet in a city I'm planning on living in once I finish college.  I had to go back home to finish my last semester. We started long distance in August and at first it was going great.  I mean long distance is shitty but we were making it work, we talked on the phone everyday.  She started her new job and was overwhelmed with working until 7 on some days.  I should mention that there's a 3 hour difference between us, but she still found time to talk before I went to bed.  \n\nThen I came to visit and she was so distant, she had ZERO interest in sex.  We had sex once and she showed no emotion.  We weren't really clicking with our conversations either then I went back home after a quick weekend visit.  We haven't really recovered from that and she has been hanging out with one of her male coworkers a lot.  Now we talk 3 times a week and hardly text.  Every time I send something flirty, she just ignores it.  Doesn't even acknowledge it.  \n\nHas she just checked out?  Maybe there is something we can do to fix the situation.  Do you guys think she's cheating?  What are your thoughts.  Also I'm visiting her again tomorrow so should I even bring this up or wait to see how the visit goes.  Also I'm moving back in 2 months, should I just stick it out?", "summary": "Was fine before we started long distance, now she is distant, hanging out a lot with a male coworker, I'm moving back in two months."}
{"id": "t3_4hkhnf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [26 F] 5 years, is a little embarrassed because I have to take care of her.", "post": "Well, this is kinda strange.\n\nMy wife was in an accident a truck hit her car and her car was wedged in-between a tree. She came out with a broken arm and wrist (thank god nothing worse happened), so I have to take care of her.\n\nI have to help her bathe and eat and.....wipe but it doesn't bother me because I love her. She was lying down and she told me she's a bit embarrassed because I have to do all of this for her.\n\nShe said she's afraid I'll find her gross because I \"literally have to help her wipe\" which she thinks I'll find gross. I told her it doesn't bother me because I love her and this is part of our vows so it really doesn't bother me.\n\nShe started crying and I just comforted her, I know she hates feeling this way I hate seeing her this way. I'm not sure what to do how can I make her more comfortable I know she's embarrassed but I don't want her to be.", "summary": "my wife told me she's embarrassed because I have to take care of her which includes helping her wipe."}
{"id": "t3_nzijv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone know any ways for a US citizen over 31 to get a Working Holiday visa for Australia?", "post": "Yes, this will seem unbeliavably premature once you read the backstory.  Putting that aside, I am after strictly practical advice.\n\nI (29m) met my SO (even 'SO' seems premature to use as a term, but what the hell) in Chile late this year.  We became friends very quickly and romantically and physically involved almost as quickly.  She is hilarious, warm, intelligent, pretty as a button and very kind.  I currently live in Melbourne, Australia (Oz citizen) and she will be living in California within the next month or so (US citizen, Georgia native).  \n\nI will be visiting her for a month or two early this year.  However, if as I believe will be the case, she and I wish to continue pursuing the relationship, obviously 3-monthly visits across continents will prove unsatisfactory, if not downright unworkable.\n\nThe reason I'm looking into a visa for her to come to Oz rather than vice versa is simple (and may cause a hail of downvotes):  I think in the long term life in Australia offers better prospects.  Better health system, hugely superior education system, excellent wages/salary and quality of life that rivals anywhere in the world.\n\nSo, can anyone give me any advice vis a vis securing a working (non-spousal) visa that may be available to US citizens over the age of 31 hailing from the US?", "summary": "Interested in the possibility of securing the working visa for Australia for my American girlfriend.  Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_52422y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32/M], married w/ a kid, am corresponding a lot w/ a girl. Is it emotional cheating ?", "post": "OK, so I am married with a wonderful woman and we have a small kid. We always had a semi-open relationship, in the following sense: when we are apart (eg work trip), it's no big deal if we hook up with a random person. It's a bit of don't ask don't tell. \n\n3 months ago, I traveled to Asia (the other side of the world for me), hooked up with a fun girl for two nights. Since then, we have been writing a lots of emails back and forth, chatting a lot about random things. It did get more personal as we shared some things (not about my family though). It's a new thing for me, as the deal with my wife is hooking up, and usually I don't follow up. Is this cheating ? I have essentially no chance of meeting that girl ever again due to geographical reasons.", "summary": "my wife and I are ok with the other one hooking up when traveling. Hooked up with someone and kept emailing. Is that ok ?"}
{"id": "t3_22iayq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spoiling a wrong ending of HIMYM", "post": "When my friend and I were leaving school I asked him if I should spoil the end of how i met your mother. As expected he said no. Then i told him that everybody in show in the end will die. \nHe is very liking the show and did believe me that this was the ending. Then he got mad at me. After that I tried to explain that I told him the wrong ending but he does not want to change his mind. The worst thing is that I do not even watch HIMYM for myself.\nI am not really sure what I should do right now.", "summary": "i told the wrong ending of a popular TV-show to a friend who still does not believe that i lied."}
{"id": "t3_54u81i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29F] roommate [33F] has been charging her couch-crashing friend rent without telling me. Am I over reacting?", "post": "I've been living with this girl for two months. She had a friend who really needed a place to stay and I agreed as long as it was very temporary. It's been two months and he's still here. His move-out deadline keeps getting pushed back and it's an absolute nightmare. Obviously I shouldn't have agreed in the first place, but that part is on me.  \n\n  I'm upset because I just found out today he's been paying her $350/month in rent. I pay $450/month. She didn't mention this to me and has been pocketing the rent money. She has a bathroom in her room so he's been sharing my bathroom. I confronted her about it today and said that wasn't fair and told her I felt very deceived because she didn't tell me about it. She said that because it was her house (she's on the primary lease, I technically have a sublease with her) she could rent space to whoever she wanted and charge whatever she wanted and that it was her decision to do that. I asked her to split his rent with me and she refused.   \n\n  Legally she's right, plus I realize I did initially agree to let her friend stay with us. But I've lived with a lot of different roommates and I've never run into anyone who views a house-sharing situation like this. She offered to break the sublease and let me move out, which I'm considering because I don't feel like I can trust her to be a decent, well-intentioned person. Am I over-reacting to this? If you were in her situation would you think this was an ok thing to do?", "summary": "My roommate has been charging her friend who is staying with us rent without telling me. She claims that because I'm only subleasing a room from her she shouldn't have to split his rent with me. Am I over-reacting by thinking that's ridiculous?"}
{"id": "t3_1x3c74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [21F] contemplating getting involved with a [20F]", "post": "I've moved to a new city as an exchange student, so I'm only here until May(ish), and I hadn't really seen any kind of relationship in this period of time as an option. I'm bi and was in a complicated relationship with a [21M] last year, who I still have some complicated feelings for. This may just be a remnant of the fact that he was the last person I had strong feelings for (and was possibly the first person I've fallen in love with?). I like this girl, but not as much as I believe that she likes me. We also live on the same hall and all the friends I've made in this new city are also her friends. I don't think that if it ended it would be a nasty end, but I'm hesitant anyway. My friends from home, who are pretty intimately familiar with my feelings about the aforementioned guy, think that I should go for it with this girl. She and I talked today and said we would give it a try, \"see what happens\". \n\nI have such a dodgy relationship past, I think I'm afraid and also in some ways unsure of how to behave at all, having had little (see: no) experience with stable relationships, and I also have a tendency to puzzle out the situation to the bitter end. \n\nI've been upfront about my apprehensions and she still wants to get involved. Is it fair to do that considering she knows what she's getting into, even if I'm unsure?", "summary": "Considering dating a girl who I like, but maybe not enough to warrant the possible consequences."}
{"id": "t3_2bd8pt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [21 F] 2.5 yrs, double-brother sex?", "post": "I just want to say that I've gotten past this (haha maybe I haven't since I'm asking this) and I believe it was just a weak point of her life.\n\nMy girlfriend of 2.5 years lost her virginity to a guy in highschool. Long story short he messed around with other girls and bascially broke her heart/dumped her. \n\nSo she was at a party a couple mothers later and his brother was there. Once again, long story short she ended up fucking his brother out of pure spite. To get back at him. \n\nNow it's been a long time since this has happened, and honestly I don't think of it that much, but it is a little fucked up. \n\nIt's fucked up because she said she enjoyed it, she enjoyed getting the revenge. We talked about this a year ago. \n\nI'm just going to assume she was a weak phase in her life, she is now hopelessly devoted to me and has always been faithful and honest. And I will never hold it to her for stuff she has done in the past, but wow that is something else, especially since she still says the revenge was sweet.", "summary": "Current girlfriend's first sex/love cheated on her, and she fucked his brother for revenge. Tells me a year ago that she enjoyed getting revenge."}
{"id": "t3_2n3n07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M] trying to spend Thanksgiving break alone to complete the final, hardest part of my taper of a physically dependent prescription. My family refuses to accept any excuses and is suggesting consequences if I don't show up.", "post": "I was prescribed Klonopin daily a few months back, and quitting them is extremely difficult. It's not a surprise, but I'm trying to make the final transition from a small dosage, to none. \n\nDoing this at my job severely effects my work ability, which is unacceptable for it being my dream job out of college, and only a month in. Being around my family would not only have to stop my taper, but possibly even set me back by having to increase it, due to the high amounts of socializing expected at the family events. \n\nMy family does not ~~approve of~~ understand medicine, and the suggestion of having to \"taper\" off something would have them label me as a drug addict, they simply do not understand medications, I know this from past experiences.\n\nMy only excuse right now is that my girlfriend's dad is upset that I haven't met him before me and her move in together (true, and understandable, but that's another issue), and that I'll be spending Thanksgiving with her family instead to meet them (not true). \n\nThey are extremely upset, especially that I've given them such short notice. I would have told them sooner if I had realized how difficult this last tapering section would be, and the risk of being set back at the family events.", "summary": "Do I have any options in this situation? Spending Thanksgiving alone is the best possible thing for my long term situation and health, but it could be very damaging for my relationship with my parents. How can I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_1lq5pt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Hey, Reddit. I was here yesterday. If you don't wanna read that, it's fine. I'll give a brief summary.\n\nBasically, my ex and I broke up a few weeks ago. I went to her house, and we talked. First, we talked about the issues in our relationship and whether or not it was worth fixing. She said that she didn't know and would need some time to think. So we started hanging out, just being normal teenagers and having fun. Then in a moment of serendipity, we kissed. That continued for a few minutes. We cuddled and hugged and held hands and kissed for about 20 more minutes until I had to go home. Before I left, I said, \"Let me know when you're ready.\" She said, \"Alright.\" \n\nI saw her at school yesterday. I was almost completely ignored, to say the least. However, last night (after I made the recent post), we talked over FaceTime. It was a great conversation, we had a lot of fun, laughs, and she even gave mention to Saturday (the day I came over). The conversation ended on a high note, and needless to say, I was realy encouraged and happy.\n\nToday (I'm typing this at school), I saw her. We have the same group of friends, so we got involved in conversation. However, things were noticeably distant. It was nothing like the conversations we used to have or even the one last night. \n\nI know I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing. But to be honest, I want her back. It seems as if she doesn't want to talk to me in public, but in private, she's more than willing to hold a conversation. What can/should I do? If things don't work out, I'll try to move on, but I just want to know what I can do to try to get her back.\n\nThank you in advance.", "summary": "My ex and I had an intimate moment, but after that, things have been getting distant."}
{"id": "t3_17kkll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18M] cut of ties with my friend [18M] after he insulted my girlfriend [20F]?", "post": "I've known this guy for a little over a month, just hanging out and playing games together. He added me on facebook yesterday, and today he told me that his friend (someone I barely know) saw a picture of my girlfriend and said she was ugly. He brought it up completely casually and even made a little joke about it, but I was hurt that he would say something like that. It seems like common courtesy that you should just keep stuff like that to yourself.\n\nI haven't known this guy for very long and I'm honestly quite indifferent to him, but he seems to really think I'm great and always wants to do stuff. I'm considering just cutting ties with him, but would that be too extreme? If this happened to you, would you still want to be friends with the person? I want some impartial opinions because I don't want to make an emotional decision that I'll regret.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "a friend casually brought up the fact that his friend said my girlfriend was ugly. Should I cut ties with him?"}
{"id": "t3_1pbh33", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "17 M, trying to determine how important virginity really is.", "post": "Okay, r/relationship_advice. I need your help. So there is this girl I've known for the past almost 7 years, and now in the latter stages of high school, we finally \"have a thing\". We would always flirt in middle school, and in sophomore year of high school, I worked up the courage to ask her on a date. She was blunt and dismissive, and told me she had a boyfriend. He was a well-known scumbag, and I thought that she was smart enough, high achieving, and different enough from this kid that their relationship would end soon. It didn't, they proceeded to date for 1 1/2 years and he took her virginity. They finally broke up because he also had sex with his best friend's girlfriend, and he broke her heart. She now has deep trust issues, so that now she is extremely cautious with me and relates everything back to how this one kid broke her heart. But she likes me, and says she wants to continue being with me, but I simply don't know how I feel about how she gave her virginity to this scumbag. Is this a big deal? Should I really be concerned with this? I've been with a handful of girls in high school, and even gotten rather intimate with a few, but would *never* consider going that far with them. So the fact that she did, with this kid, scares me a lot. She's incredible, smart, adorable, and high-achieving, and I just want to know whether this factor should really be affecting me this much. Thanks for your time.", "summary": "Girl I'm in love with lost her virginity to scumbag ex-boyfriend, and it's freaking me out."}
{"id": "t3_4ikr3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [22F] 1yr and some months, danced with another girl while drunk", "post": "So a few months ago I was at a party that my gf was not at and I started talking to a few girls I knew at the bar.\n\nSide note: I was very very drunk already by the time I got to the party\n\nI ended up blacking out and dancing with one of the girls, grinding and such. I vaguely remember doing this but just the thought of it disgusts me. Needless to say I got a little handsy during the whole thing.\n\nI love my girlfriend so so much and I am devastated of what I did to her and our relationship.\n\nAlso I have talked to the girl, she has a boyfriend aswell, she said she won't be telling her bf, who I know, because she doesn't see it as such a big deal.\n\nNow Reddit, my questions is what should I do? Should I tell her and take any consequences that come from it? Or should I bury it and and just make my relationship the best it can be and move forward? \n\nI have weighed the pros and cons of both and I know the later I wait to tell her the more things could go wrong or she never finds out and I take it as a lesson in love and move forward. \nAny criticism is welcome but I'd much prefer advice.", "summary": "I cheated on my gf by dancing with someone else, not sure what to do from there"}
{"id": "t3_17r4gk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [18M] been dating a [18F] for two years and she's changing what college she's attenting for me. I have strong feelings for her but I'm confused about my sexuality.", "post": "We've [18M&F] been friends since middle school and started dating a little over two years ago. About a year ago I started at age 16/17 to notice guys a lot more and today it has evolved to me prefering to watch gay porn rather than straight, don't ask me how these things work. \n\nThat doesn't change my feelings for this girl, she's been my best friend for almost all my teenage years. We shared all our firsts, our sex life is great and she's the only person I feel I can trust completely (except maybe with the gay thing).\n\nEven with all that, I'm terrified I may slip one night in college and hook up with a guy which I must admit intrigues me greatly even though I can't imagine hurting her like that. I signed up on grindr six months ago just to see if there were guys in my neighborhood who I knew on there and that made me feel sick.\n\nShe told me two weeks ago that she can't imgaine being apart for so long every year and that she found similar courses at my college but it will cost her more so I'm not sure how to feel about that or what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend is changing her college plans for me, I love her but I'm confused about my sexuality and unsure about my future."}
{"id": "t3_4scwk3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[GA] Medical provider choosing to put lien on car wreck settlement rather than accept P's insurance. Any workarounds?", "post": "GA attorney here,\n\nI've landed a huge tort case involving a guy who was really messed up in a car wreck. The tortfeasor was an employee of a well-known company and the damages are pretty high. \n\nThe one wrinkle in this case (and there's always one...) is that P's hospital has *refused* to accept his group health coverage to pay for his bills and is instead filing a lien on the settlement proceeds. \n\nThis could potentially screw my client over in a major way. He has hundreds of thousands of dollars in medical bills. He pays for insurance so that they can cover these bills. Why on earth is he paying for insurance if the medical provider can simply reject it, take all of the money he gets from a settlement, and leave him with nothing after repayment of medical bills + attorney's fees?\n\nTheoretically we could go to court in a year and lose. How on earth is he expected to pay them back at that point? More likely, we could not win enough to fairly compensate him if he must pay back his attorneys and his doctors too. \n\nI'm a younger attorney and I've never experienced this situation before. If anyone has any ideas on how to approach this and somehow force the hospital to accept payment from the insurance company (who is literally sitting around waiting to pay them), I'd love to hear it.", "summary": "Car wreck case. P's med providers refused to accept insurance and instead put lien on settlement proceeds. Looking for a way to force them to accept insurance."}
{"id": "t3_y7di5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any ideas to fight against particularly aggressive telemarketers/con men?", "post": "Recording begins, \"HI! This is Anne with Account Services! We can lower your interest rates! Press one to enter a hell of your own making!\" Ok, that last part was my own addition. These calls come from a number that changes states every few days. \n\nI began by asking to speak with a manager or a supervisor and simultaneously asking to be removed from the calling list. This led to hang ups galore, and no end to the calls. I progressed to angry barking and general machismo. More hangups, more calls. \n\nRecently I've pushed into long-form baiting them/wasting their time with crude dick joke dismounts. \"I can't quite see the last four of my account number. Wait! The last four numbers are just an elephant raping your mother.\" \n\nThis led to veiled threats on their part. \"You're going to have to change your name, IdealizedSalt. Karma is a bitch.\" I didn't give them my name. \"We'll never stop calling because you keep playing with us.\" \n\nI want to step up my [game] and impress upon them that I am not to be trifled with. All ideas welcome. I've reported to Do Not Call folks multiple times.", "summary": "I wish to rain hellfire on fools. Cobra Kai, no mercy."}
{"id": "t3_3hdl2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ex-girlfriend [18F], I can't move on 8 weeks later.", "post": "Do you think you've found *the one* and never been able to get over them? Yep, that's what I'm dealing with. Before I begin there's the obligatory \"You're still young, it can't be this!\" Alright, I may be young but at this stage of my life the only person I believe I will truly love is B. I need help dealing with it, not comments saying I can't be experiencing this due to age.\n\nI've dealt with a lot of bad stuff while with this girl. Angry ex's hurting us (myself physically and her both emotionally and physically), people spreading rumours to break us apart but every time it happens we deal with it.\n\nWe broke up so university will be easier but within 3 weeks she had a new boyfriend. People have told me she broke up to be with him and while for a time I was distraught and dead inside, I got over it and tried moving on because she was happy.\n\nEight weeks after the breakup I'm still lost and can't think about anyone else. When I think of her it hurts and I physically can't move on without crying. I know I should have had time to be sad but why is it still happening 8 weeks later?", "summary": "Why am I still broken? It's been almost eight weeks!"}
{"id": "t3_2g8des", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Any tips for running both Chicago and NYC Marathons this year?", "post": "I was lucky (cursed?) enough to have gained lottery entries into both the Chicago and NYC marathons this fall.  They will be my 2nd and 3rd marathons after also running Chicago last year. I've trained my butt off this year building up a much better aerobic base than last year. With the marathons just 3 weeks apart I'm hoping not to fall apart in NYC.  The plan is to do Chicago for time and enjoy the NYC for the experience unless the conditions for Chicago suck and then that becomes a supported training run.  Anyone run marathons close together like this have advice?", "summary": "Running Chicago and NYC just 3 weeks apart. Halp?"}
{"id": "t3_434ygc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) coworker stinks to high heaven. I don't know what to do. Please help.", "post": "I've been working at my current job for about a year. I like it so enough, it's in the field I want to be in, etc. In other words, I'm not going to find another job over this.\n\nI work with a woman in her 70s that I'll call June. June stinks. It's like she doesn't shower. Her ponytail is always greasy. But it wasn't always like this. It's been reoccurring, but it's never been this bad.\n\nWhen I walk into the workroom I smell her. When I sit next to her desk I smell her. When I have to walk by the two office rooms that we use, I smell her. I went into one of the rooms after she had left one day and I literally gagged it was so bad. One day she stood too close to me and I could TASTE her stink, like I was at a petting zoo.\n\nI have told my supervisor. Others have complained too. My supervisor knows it's an issue and has escalated the situation. HR refuses to do anything. They don't want to embarrass her, and frankly I think they're afraid she'll go after them for firing her for being old. They have said they'll give her a couple of months (!!!) to see if the issue resolves itself.\n\nIt's so bad I lose my appetite for lunch. I'm scared I'm going to go home and my boyfriend will tell me I stink. I think her stench sticks to things.\n\nMine and my supervisor's hands are tied.\n\nWhat can I do? We can't use aerosols because they aggravate people's allergies, so I can't even use febreeze. I've thought about perfume but I don't want to make myself overwhelming trying to block her stench. I've thought about peppermint oil under my nose, but frankly, I don't think I should have to fuck up my skin because the old lady won't shower.\n\nPlease give me advice. When my boss told me she couldn't do anything I wanted to cry. It's been 2 weeks now and I can't stand this smell anymore. I'm at my wits end.", "summary": "I have an elderly coworker that doesn't bathe. HR refuses to talk to her until a couple of months have passed. I'm at the end of my rope and hyper paranoid about her smell rubbing off onto my clothes."}
{"id": "t3_1uu99m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my new boyfriend [26] of 2 months. He's a momma's boy", "post": "Okay, so I've been seeing this guy for just about 2 months and things started off great. He is kind, attentive and adores me. There is no problem in our relationship except his mother. He is a mommas boy, which would be okay if she wasn't into illegal activities that she brings him into and involves him in. \n\nHe has told me that he is very close to his mother and that they only have each other. His mother is 50yrs old and deals drugs. She sometimes gets my boyfriend to do it for her as well, she has also given him drugs. She comes to stay at his house and smokes pot in the living room (I'm okay with being an end but surely she could do it outside). She stays for days upon days and just demands his attention. When I'm at his house she gets shitty if we leave to go do something (like get coffee).\n\nRecently I had police show up while I was at his house (he was at work) because they had found some illegally dumped rubbish that his mother made me dump late at night as they didn't want to pay to take it out to the rubbish dump!\n\nI'm having a hard time handling this sort of activity. I'm not a prude but I didn't grow up around anything like this. My parents were very law abiding, conservative people and this is just a whole new world. Can anyone give me advice on how to deal with this? Or someone with experience dating someone who was close to one parent? I tried having a conversation about this with him but he gets very defensive and so does his mother. He tells her EVERYTHING", "summary": "new bf is a mommas boy which would be okay if she wasn't into illicit drugs and involving him in her criminal activities"}
{"id": "t3_1jge26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I go about getting a job in Pomona?", "post": "I'm 18 years old. I currently live in the Bay Area and I work at McDonald's up here. I'm going to be attending Cal Poly Pomona next month and I don't know what my chances would be getting a job down there. My mother is out of work so I will still be helping her pay her bills and I have other monthly payments to pay off such as my phone bill, etc. Therefore, I want to make sure that I have a steady job when I move. Does anybody have any tips for me getting a job in Pomona ?", "summary": "Going to school at Cal Poly and I need a job ASAP."}
{"id": "t3_4yyxlq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[personal] advice required to eliminate procastination", "post": "I procrastinate and postpone all my works until the last minute when it's do or die situation. I hate myself for doing that,but always end up doing it the same way. For example, I had given a task on Thursday, i could have finished on Friday but I was we can do it at home also and was doing something else. Then, At home I wasted all my Saturday and Sunday until night 9 either watching movies and tv shows. Now I started working on it as I need to show the task on Monday. Also if I have to go to my work at 8. I generally won't wake up before 7:30 then rush to restroom and get ready and run. Even though if I get up early I just waste time and finally end up rushing to the work. I hate to admit sometimes even though I create a todo list nothing works I only do when it's time to do. I have been doing this for a really long long time. Sometimes when I really want to learn something out of my passion,I start that make a little progress and then I give it up. I want to work on my goals and dreams. I should leave me laziness and procrastination behind,Please suggest me with ideas and ways to be my best.", "summary": "I procrastinate a lot. Need a work around and ideas to eliminate it."}
{"id": "t3_ctc49", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any other redditors have no friends?", "post": "I'm 26 and I own a successful personal training company.  Every day, I help people get one step closer to getting their bodies back.  I have a wife and two children.  I work several days a week...as some of you may know, running your own business involves putting in ungodly hours.\n\nThat being said, I have no local friends.  My best friend moved up north last year and we talk on the phone on a daily basis.  My wife and the kids are out of town for the weekend and I realized that I have no buds to call up to have a beer.  I actually tried calling a few acquaintances but none of them answered their phone.\n\nI'm aware that going out and making friends, volunteering, and getting involved is a way of making friends-- but this isn't necessarily me ONLY asking for advice as much as it is asking for others to share their similar experiences so I don't feel alone in that regard.\n\nHell, maybe there's one of you that lives near me and this can be the beginning of a new friendship.  We can braid each-others' hair, make orangered t-shirts for each-other, and take long walks barefoot along the rail-road tracks.", "summary": "I don't have friends.  I'd like to think I'm not a loser, but eh."}
{"id": "t3_shmsg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I just accidentally broke a mouse's back trying to catch it in a tub. To end its misery quickly I threw it out my 3rd-floor window thinking the tarmac would do the rest, instead it bounced off a traffic warden. Any other fails in the name of humanity?", "post": "Here's the back-story:\n\nWe've had a mouse problem for a couple of months now. Rather than use poison I've laid out a number of humane traps with the idea of relocating them. \n\nI spotted one scampering behind my board games so got a couple of nice big tubs and tried to tease him out, sadly I hurt his back in the process and he rolled over, eyes blinking and looking panicky. Not wanting him to suffer I quickly figured the best course of action would be to hurl him out the nearby open window. I thought 2 seconds of freefall is preferable to 30 second of stom-finding-his-hammer-and-a-bit-of-newspaper.\n\nI tried to lob him into the road but I guess a gust of wind foiled the plan and he drifted a bit and hit a traffic warden on his shoulder (well, tricep, but meh) who didn't seem to notice.\n\nNow I'm feeling guilty, so it's up to you Reddit to **distract me with tales of well-meant intentions gone awry**.", "summary": "Tried to catch mouse, broke its back. Threw it out window for mercy, got an unexpected comfy landing. Feelsbadman.jpg."}
{"id": "t3_p5dlg", "subreddit": "running", "title": "r/running, be safe out there!", "post": "I'm a runner, so believe me, I know how it is when you're in the zone, doing your thing.  But, a gentle reminder: many cars are not looking for you!\n\nIn the past four days, I have come dangerously close to hitting four separate runners with my car.  The first guy dashed in front of my car seconds after my light turned green.  The second guy crossed within inches of my car (behind) as I was exiting the freeway.  The third was a lady running in the center turn lane of a five-lane road.  The fourth was a pair of dudes who made several cars slam on their brakes crossing the same road- far away from any crosswalk.  \n\nIf I wasn't a runner and very careful when I drive, any one of these situations could have turned into a disaster.  Lots of other drivers are not keeping an eye out for you! In many cases, I know it would be the car's fault, but the runner will lose!", "summary": "Please, choose safe routes and be aware of your surroundings! And keep running!"}
{"id": "t3_449yxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (32M) taller girlfriend (33F) of seven weeks has recently been mentioning the difference in our heights a lot recently", "post": "I am 5'8\"/1.73m and my GF is 6'/1.83m.  We started dating about seven weeks ago and things seemed to go well for the past few weeks.  This past Tuesday we were talking about something I do not remember and I said that I am 5'8\".  She disagreed and was in disbelief that I am 4\"/10cm shorter than her.  She kept saying that maybe I measured incorrectly and that I am at least 5'10\"/1.78m.  She was ok with the height difference until she realized the numerical value of the difference.\n\nI thought Tuesday was the end of it, but she has mentioned it while talking to her yesterday on the phone and also today while we were walking in the park.\n\nI am uncertain what to make of it.  Maybe nothing, maybe discomfort.", "summary": "GF was ok with me being shorter until she discovered the difference is 4\"/10cm and has mentioned it several times in two days."}
{"id": "t3_wacek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Too late to set the record straight. Or is it?", "post": "25f. \n\nAbout five years ago, I briefly dated someone my age before leaving for university abroad. We promised to write, to somehow make it work, but two months into the LDR it I realized it was too difficult and we barely knew each other, so it was too big of a sacrifice. I wrote him a sweet but realistic letter and broke it off. Six months later I met the guy (also my age) who I got into my first serious relationship with, we've been together for five years now. He too eventually dated someone he's still with. \n\nWhen I returned home one summer, he immediately dumped his gf so he could ask me out, but I was taken and I wasn't cool with stealing someone's boyfriend, so I said no and he got hurt. \n\nAfter all this time I find out today that he thought I had first dumped him because I cheated on him. I didn't! Half a year passed before I dated someone again! And it seems petty compared to other problems on here, but I'm really bothered by this and I wish I could set the record straight. I didn't dump him because I cheated or met someone else, I dumped him because it was right, and from a long term perspective, I did him a favor.  But I can't set the record straight because so many years have passed, and I dread being \"that\" person. I just wish he knew I was truthful to him when we were together. \n\nI'm torn. Is my gut right about this? Or should I tell him? It sucks that it stuck with everyone that I cheated on him, because he's very well liked in our circle of friends, and apparently all this time I've been \"the cheater\".", "summary": "my circle of friends wrongly think of me as a cheater because of a break-up with one of their best friends years ago, and I don't know if I should bother setting the record straight at this point."}
{"id": "t3_t7cf5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just stumbled on my flatmate's porn stash. What's the most embarrassing secret your friend doesn't know you know?", "post": "So my laptop charger died and I'm still waiting for a placement but luckily my straight female flatmate is very kindly letting me use hers while she's out of town for the weekend. I'm sitting here minding my own business, go to type in a website when the browser suggests 'Pornhub'. No big deal but I just never imagined her as the type so out of sheer morbid curiosity I browsed the 7 day history (", "summary": "my flatmate watches asian lesbian strap-on porn and would be horribly embarrassed if she knew that I knew"}
{"id": "t3_1ivrhg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anybody suffered through child abuse (of any kind), and have it greatly affect how they act and deal with situations today? How have you overcome it or if you haven't, how are you dealing with it?", "post": "I've recently started dealing with the fact that I was physically abused by my father for a good 10 years of my childhood. I've never talked about it with anybody or really been aware of how it affects me until my most recent relationship with my current BF. We've been together for 9 months and I would get upset at the smallest and most insignificant things and completely blow up within seconds. \n\nI started seeing a therapist this past March and I've felt it has helped a little bit. These past few weeks have gotten especially bad though as I have begun resorting to self destructive ways (hitting myself, cutting). My bf can no longer put up with my behavior and is telling me we should end things. I can't help but feel at a total loss now that the person I love most is thinking of abandoning me. \n\nI'm curious to know what other people in similar situations have done/are doing? For me, it just seems like a vicious cycle that I can't get out of. The same thing over and over again: Get annoyed, get mad, blow up/yell, calm down, feel regret/apologize profusely. Basically the same process my father would get into when he would hit me. He once told me to try and talk to him while he was mad and say something like \"Dad, it's ok. you're calm. you don't need to do this.\" But it never worked. \n\nI'm afraid I will just end up like him, hurting everybody around me whether it be emotional or physical. A part of me is afraid to have children because of what I could possibly do to them when I get upset. Anybody else out there with similar situations?\n\nI checked and have seen a few threads posted a year ago dealing with the topic of child abuse, but not one really asking how people are coping/have coped with it. (Maybe there were and I just missed them; I'm new to reddit btw so sorry if this post is redudant!).\n\nAnyway, thanks for reading if you took the time to do so.", "summary": "Had an abusive childhood. It's affecting important relationships I have in my life now. Don't know how to cope. Anybody have similar situations? How are you coping/How have you coped?"}
{"id": "t3_31mmp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Been having a rough time with my SO lately. What should I do? [M/F late 20s]", "post": "So, theres been a lot going on lately with my boyfriend of two years, and I'm honestly not sure what to do. \n\nThroughout the course of our relationship, he has  always been late for pretty much everything, to the point where if we make plans with others, I will tell him a different time so he will show up sort of on time. The worst is with me though. We will plan to spend the day together, and often he will show up at 8-10 pm, hours later than the agreed time making me wait around for him all day with no forewarning that he will actually show up soon. Often we will just end up watching Netflix together because he shows up so late that there's not much open, so we don't really ever go on dates anymore.  \n\nHe also has started to make little effort in actually making contact with me unless it's after 10 pm, when he knows I am going to sleep for work the next day. It feels like I'm always calling him all the time as well. When I've asked him to call me earlier while he's at school if he can't make it home by a reasonable time, he won't take a 5 min break to call me while he's there, and will call late at night.  When I have tried to talk to him about this,  he immediately  gets defensive and doesn't own up to any of it. Then he will go on to say that he should quit school because apparently asking him to be on time and call me before I go to sleep (he often wakes me up) is too much for him.  I'm also in school, so it really upsets me that he uses school as an excuse to not put effort into our relationship. \n\nLately our sex life has suffered as well. I'm always initating and getting turned down more often than not. We've gone from 1-3x a week to once a month in the last couple of months. \n\nHe always says he loves me, wants to marry me and have kids with me, but he has a funny way of showing it. I love him but I'm starting to get very frustrated.", "summary": "boyfriend is always late, not making an effort to sustain our relationship and our sex life is starting to suffer as well. What should I do? How should I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_4sic88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [42 M] with my wife [48 F] of 20 years. I'm changing but she is not. It is causing some tension", "post": "We have been married for 20 years.  She has always be a super fun, non-serious kind of person.  I have always been a little reserved which is why we clicked, balance.\n\nNow we are getting older and I have quit drinking and smoking, I went to school and got a real job, and I have started being more active and looking to the future (hopefully not too late) in regards to finances, retirement and buying a home.\n\nShe still drinks and smokes and wants to spend everything we make and figures everything will magically be ok.  \n\nI have tried to explain my viewpoint, she says she agrees and thinks what ever I do sounds good, but does nothing to actually back it up with actions.\n\nHow do I get her to see that if she doesn't start to make some changes, we are going to end up eating cat food and living in a tent so we can pay for her medical bills because she isn't taking care of herself?", "summary": "How do I get wife to see it is time to start taking life and future seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_3adqvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [24F] of 4 years cheated on me [25M] on a vacation, is it forgivable?", "post": "While on vacation with a friend my GF [24F] was approached by a guy at a bar, told him she had a boyfriend and continued talking to this guy, ended up kissing him later in the evening. She texts me that night (5am) that \"we have to talk\", I wake up at 5 pm next day (bc of work my sleep schedule is odd) and she proceeds to tell me what she's done. I'm in shock and dealing with some other really bad family shit (she doesn't know at  this point, I was waiting for her to return to tell her) so we barely talk.\n\nThe next day we talk and she's honest about what happened and Im starting to forgive her.\n\nToday (when she returned), I drove to her house and we talked, it was good, the only part that was off and I reacted at the time but now (hours later) its eating away at me. She said that the next day before Iwoke up she had met this guy back at the bar and they \"made out\" before he made some \"asshole\" comments and they parted. \n\nI was ready to forgive but this second act to me is worse, she wasn't drunk  when she agreed to meet this guy, although she said she was \"devastated\" bc she knew I was going to break up with her. THEN she ended up getting drunk and making out with this guy, Im guessing while texting me about the whole incident.\n\nI want to forgive her, she's very self conscious and doesn't drink alcohol, she's taking this pretty hard as far as I can tell and what she has shown. The second meeting just digs at me. I love her. \n\nAm I crazy for wanting to forgive her?", "summary": "GF kissed guy at bar told me next day, she tells me 2 days later that she met him a second time, same day she told me about first kiss. ***"}
{"id": "t3_2k053x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do I [25F] risk losing the friendship I've formed with ex [35M] and sleep with him?", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I dated for 7 or so months. He was always really busy and I felt neglected, so much so that I ended the relationship. We had the best sex I have ever had in my life though. We've remained friends.\n\nThen I began to date this other guy, Tom. Tom and I were together for two and a half years. We lived together and everything was great until it wasn't anymore. He is 28 and I'm 25 and he just stopped being attracted to me I guess, because he would never try to sleep with me. I had to initiate everything and half the time he would reject me because he was on adderall or something. We didn't click sexually. In fact, when I told him how I wanted rough sex, he replied about how he \"isn't into rape\" and made me feel really shitty. I broke up with him last Thursday (it was very civil, he didn't try to get me to change my mind, it's very obvious he's no longer interested) and he is in the process of moving out. He's not staying at my house, he is just packing on the weekends (while i stay at my sisters) and should be out by the end of this weekend.\n\nI have been talking to my ex lately about my breakup and he's really been supportive. Not like a \"I want to get in your pants\" supportive, but just a really great listener. He's probably one of my best friends, but I really want to fuck him. In fact we've talked about it. Neither of us want to date again, we just both agreed it was like the best sex ever. My question is - do I go down the sticky friends with benefits road with my ex? I don't want to \"ruin\" our friendship, but we've already had sex before and I kind of feel like this would make our friendship stronger. He's the most open person ever sexually, we explore all kinds of fantasies. Of course I won't be sleeping with anyone until all of Tom's shit is out of my house because I need to make sure I close that door for real. Keep in mind I haven't have sex for about 5 or so months.", "summary": "I am super fucking horny and am getting out of a relationship with a guy who never wanted to have sex. Do I have sex with the guy who I dated before him, who is now my close friend?"}
{"id": "t3_u0xz0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ending 5 year relationship. Feel enormous guilt and have second thoughts.", "post": "I'm 28, male, and just two days ago I told my 25 y.o. husband that I'm moving out this week.\n\nI've been mulling over this for the last 6 months or so. My reason is that we are totally different and for the last couple of years we've been basically just living together. We don't have mutual interest in almost anything (besides watching some TV shows), we don't go out or even talk much. It definitely felt like a dysfunctional relationship that was there just because we both went with it.\n\nThat's how I explained this to him. I did not blame anything or anyone, just stated these reasons.\n\nI don't love him anymore (I think I'm used to) but I care a lot. I care about his job situation and his finances, but most of all I'm worried about his mental state. He hasn't been too happy about things lately (work, money, career) and now I added this break up into the mix. I'm afraid I pushed him into depression.\n\nWe haven't discussed this yet, besides initial talk. Maybe it hasn't hit either of us still. I'm definitely in denial myself, scrambling as I need to start packing.\n\nI've never felt more guilty in my life. I keep thinking how he'll be all alone in the apartment for the next few months (I'll move out and continue to pay rent), with no one to talk to or to hug him. He has no real friends, only work acquaintances. After all preparations I've done to be ready to move I find myself unable to leave him behind on his own.", "summary": "I'm a traitorous asshole who dumped his husband and now I want to kill myself."}
{"id": "t3_xymzc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there any uncircumcised Jews out there?  I really need to know.", "post": "OK, here's the story.  I'm having my second child.  It's going to be a boy.  My first was a boy.  I didn't want to circumcise him, but I gave in to family pressure.  One of the things I was told was, 'don't worry, everyone does it and everyone is fine.'  Well, after seeing the first emotional expression on my newborn baby's face; fear, pain, confusion... it was traumatizing for me to say the least.  Yes, he's fine now, but that memory will always haunt me.  (And perhaps him too, who knows)  \nSo, now, with boy #2 on the way I am absolutely refusing to put myself and my child through that again!  As you can imagine, I feel I am totally alone in this.  Yes, my husband is standing by me, but he is also being affected by the stress of it.  \nNow, I've been raised Jewish, but I'm not a religious person at all.  I've *always* questioned tradition. I don't keep kosher, I travel on the Sabbath, I don't go to temple, even on the high holidays.  So, I can't justify putting another child through, what I feel is, an out dated traditional ceremony.  It just doesn't feel right.  There is an alternative ceremony that includes the blessings and the bagels ;) but no cutting.  \nOf course there's the issue of both boys being different and if it might cause a problem for my child in the future.  \nSo, my question is, are there any Jewish males out there who have gone through this ceremony and what was it like for you growing up?  Are there any brothers out there who are different in that way and how does it effect your relationship?  \nIf anyone wants to share their story about how they wish they were or weren't circumcised, I'd be interested in hearing it.", "summary": "I'm refusing to circumcise my second boy.  No one is happy with my decision.  Looking for advice from those with experience"}
{"id": "t3_3bldqq", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My Parenting Opposite", "post": "Tonight I met my parenting opposite and I wish I could say it was a good experience, that we learned from each other, had a good calm discussion and thoughtfully went our separate ways pondering the others perspective.  I can't say any of that.  I can say that she watched her son utilizing public property incorrectly and instead of correcting him and using it as a teaching moment she stood by and watched as my Mom attempted to correct him repeatedly, until finally telling the child she needed his full name to report to the police after they found the park property broken due to his choices.  This woman then had the amazing audacity to come to my Mom and tell her how RUDE it was to scare her child by mentioning the cops!  I jumped in with some words of my own and she told me how this is not how Christ would do things.  I absolutely disagree, Christ was and is a great man because He does NOT accept improper behavior.  He in fact threw the money changers out of the temple.  Being Christlike does not being a doormat and never getting mad.  Being Christlike means teaching children right from wrong even if their parents won't, making tough calls and being brave.  We prayed for that little guy and his mother tonight that they might learn from this, but I doubt she will teach her son anything other than how his ego is worth more than being responsible for your actions and choices.  This is disheartening.  This is sad and this is how children now in our society will not recognize the little areas of black, white and grey and will grow up not recognizing big areas of black white and grey.  My children are not angels and when they misbehave in public, I have them go tell people their apologies and what they have learned rather than defending bad choices. UGH! Parenting my own children is hard but parenting yours is ridiculous!", "summary": "If your not going to watch your kids and discipline them when they are about to break public property and someone else does, you don't get to put Christ in your defense!"}
{"id": "t3_41w902", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] with my GF [22 F] of 2 years, girlfriend (genuinely) needs financial help constantly. Is it right for me to keep helping her?", "post": "So we have been together for more than two years. Let me give you a picture of our relationship first. She has an abusive family  which she can't leave right now (cultural reasons. Girls can't live alone. Smh). Not until she gets married or something. She has some  depression and anxiety issues cause of it too. We are really close and in love. Communication is great. We're right for each other.\n\nSo the thing is. Her depression and anxiety shot up a year back due to douchy family. It was becoming impossible to handle. I made her leave work, had her take admission in a better university. Promised to pay for it. I could easily do it too. Fees isn't much here according to international standards. She pays like $700 dollars per semester. I paid for one semester too. Change in environment, admission in university she really wanted to study, new place, friends, and not having the pressure of work really helped her and her mental health problems really got better. The change was significant. I used to work online but I lost the account on the website I used to work at as a freelance writer. Now the problem is, it is becoming too hard for me to manage finances. I am already indebted for around $800 amount and it's increasing. Debts I took to pay for her fee and other stuff. \n\nThe thing is, I am sure that if she works again, she won't be able to handle the university, won't be able to cope with pressure and her anxiety and depression would return. I talked to her therapist and she agrees that work won't be good for her. But I have no way of paying back debts and her coming semester's fee. Her need is genuine but I don't think I can provide this assistance. Should I tell her? She already feels like a burden on me and I don't want her to lose the progress she has made. I really wanna help her get through university. Please give me advice about whether to ask her to work again or not.", "summary": "I made gf leave work to focus on her mental health and university. Her depression and anxiety got under control. I lost my freelance job. Now I'm under debt and gf needs money for tuition fee and all. Should I ask her to work again? If I do, it might affect her mental health."}
{"id": "t3_1iqra0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Those of you dealing with a breakup may find some appreciation for this. Or at least some new meaning.", "post": "I need to provide some backstory on myself in order to follow the posting rules for the mods. I[M-17] am still getting over being dumped [F-16], just recently saw pictures of her with my replacement. We dated for eight months. I was watching Eternal Sunshine, and read the poem from which the title was taken from. Basically, it was a pretty cliche moment. Around 2am, I can see the moon out my window. I'd just seen the pictures of her with my replacement, and was watching Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. There was something so beautifully sad in that moment. I pretty much cried through the entire movie, and I wasn't sure if it was out of sadness, me just being a loser, or out of some appreciation of the beauty in the movie, compared to my life situation at the time. The poem and the ending of the film gave me some sort of solace, especially the poem. It made me wonder how I would feel if I could erase her from my memory, and spare myself the heartbreak. You'd be amazed how you can still feel heartbreak even after over a month of being separated; it's pretty mind-boggling the kind of influence one person can have on your emotional health. Logic doesn't help your feelings in these situations. Especially as young as I am, I understand that this overall is a small portion of my life, yet it doesn't make me feel any different. Although, I believe everybody experiences heartbreak the same way, regardless of age. When I read the poem, especially the following excerpt I've given, I felt at peace, in such an oddly miserable way.\n\nI saw some miserable beauty in this. If you're getting through a breakup, you can understand the imaginative desire to have your mind completely erased.\n\n\"How happy is the blameless vestal's lot!\n\nThe world forgetting, by the world forgot.\n\nEternal sunshine of the spotless mind!\n\nEach pray'r accepted, and each wish resign'd.\"\n\n-excerpt taken from Eloise to Abelard, by Alexander Pope.", "summary": "If you're going through a breakup, read the poem \"Eloise to Abelard\" by Alexander Pope, and watch \"Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.\" It will do something to you."}
{"id": "t3_2vey3k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] Texting a girl [18/F], I'm the one starting the conversations and I don't know if I should continue or stop.", "post": "So I met this girl online through Twitter, and we had a brief conversation until we exchanged numbers. First time I talked to her, she seemed interested and then the conversation started dying and I ended it, I felt like she lost interest or had something better to do, so I just told her that I had to go and I'll talk to her later. She said \"she'll be around\".\nThe next day, I started talking to her and she seemed uninterested. She was replying to me with those 2-4 words and I got fed up and didn't reply to her at all. I stopped talking to her for a few days to see if she'd ever start a conversation, she never did. I thought I'd give it one last shot before moving on, I texted her, and she replied 3 hours later. I talked to her, flirted a bit and then she started flirting and talking to me about sex I thought it was weird because we barely know each other. Anyways, I haven't texted her since that day and she didn't text me until now. I don't know if I should give it another shot, or just move on and try my luck with someone else?", "summary": "Texting a girl, I'm the one always starting the conversations and she seems uninterested most of the time."}
{"id": "t3_29tku6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my SO [25 F] 7y, Are HS sweet hearts. Its boring.", "post": "Lately I have  been thinking allot about me and my SO and how we have become more and more distant from each other.\nWe always used to be this couple who were very passionate, you know the type, public display of affection, attraction and frustration. One minute we would be loving each other and the next we would be hating each other and back and forth. We were the on-again off-again couple, although we never broke up.\nBut today it feels more like a job than a relationship, I know that can be fixed but that's not the point. I'm not sure I (maybe even we) wan't to fix it. The thing is, in these seven years, allot has changed, we bought an apartment, had a baby, she went to university and I got a full time job. We love each other very much but we seem to have grown apart to the point that the only thing we have in common is our child. We want different things in almost any aspect of our lives, anywhere from what to watch to our sex life, and when we compromise we always seem to decide on on a outcome that, it is better for both to lose than only one to win.\n\nSo at this point I'm wondering what to do, I love this woman with all my heart, I know I can spend the rest of my life with her and be completely content, but right this moment i'm not sure I will ever be completely happy either.\nI know this is not much information I'm giving you, but I'm hoping people that have been in similar situation will be able to give any advice on what I/we can do.", "summary": "Me, My girl, Been together 7 years, bored."}
{"id": "t3_nfz1t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A large *vocal* majority of people on this site are Pro-abortion and yet another large *vocal* majority of people are also Anti-circumcision/gender mutilation. Why?", "post": "First hear me out. The passing of Christopher Hitchens has led to a barrage of youtube posts of his famous arguments/Hithslaps. The one I saw was Hitchslap #5 involving a rabbi who jokingly stated his son cried more during his first haircut than his circumcision. Hitches was like \"shame on you and your religion for joking about genital mutilation. would you laugh if i said the same regarding my daughter having her clitoris being cut off?\" Valid point, but the reasoning behind the two are way different. Circumcision was done for cleanliness and tradition while FGM was done to keep libido down and to ensure a woman kept her viginity intact (according to wikipedia). Circumcision is a rather common practice in the US while FGM is done mostly in Africa, so the idea is forgeign to us and cruel (which I agree with). The argument against anytype of genital mutilation/alteration is \"You should let the person choose for themselves.\" True, but parents also choose to pierce ears, send them to school, play sports, etc. all without their child's choosing. That being said \"to let the child choose for themselves\" is completely overidden when Abortion is brought up. It's the mother's choice, her body, she can do whatever she please regardless of what the father of the child says, and so on. I just find it odd that we can be so forceful about both arguments and yet they both override whose \"rights\" are being violated when one of the parties is unable to speak for themselves.", "summary": "Why argue for a person who can't speak for themselves and yet, deprive them when they not born yet?"}
{"id": "t3_4mud7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (37f) am having a hard time with my BF (33m) keeping in touch with his exes.", "post": "I cannot wrap my head around the idea of why people want to stay \"friends\" with their ex. I have one ex around and that is because of my kids. Otherwise I have told them all to hit the bricks because I wouldn't want it to interfere with my current relationship.\n\nMy current bf of over 7 months thinks that it is no big deal to stay friends with his exes and it bothers the shit out of me.\nI have spoke with him on the subject and he says that he was friends with them before and will be friends always. I see no good in this and I'm frustrated!", "summary": "My bf thinks it is ok to stay \"friends\" with exes and I have a hard time understanding why someone wants to be friends with an ex.."}
{"id": "t3_1me7dw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "18M confused about 18F", "post": "To start things off we've known each other for about 3 months. We met each other at something for the college we go to. At first things were good, she seemed interested, liked talking to me, asked me to hang out and all that. It seemed like it was going somewhere. Now for some reason she barely ever answers if I try to talk to her, and if I ever ask her if she wants to do anything she has some excuse as to why she can't. I'm sure some of them are legitimate but for the past 3 weeks I haven't been able to get much out of her. I'm getting the vibe that she's avoiding me for some reason and I have no idea how to confront her about it. I'd rather do it in person, but I can't get a hold of her to arrange anything.", "summary": "Relationship looked good, but then she stops talking to me for no apparent reason resulting in much "}
{"id": "t3_3aws34", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing the relationship in between two friends of mine", "post": "So tonight for a national festivity in Catalonia, we decided to make a diner and then go to a salsa club with one of my groups of friends.\n\nGiven the place we go I think about inviting people from another group of friends to have a better time, but only.my salsa partner responds affirmatively, the rest either had plans or did reject directly the invitation.\n\nFun things is a girl of the main group does not want to get along with my salsa partner because of a \"bad feeling\" and bad things she has heard or acknowledged of her, so she says I didn't take her into account before making this move (she was the last one to answer tho) and that I let her down, she is a friend I appreciate greatly and don't know how to make up for this mistake.", "summary": "I invited my salsa partner to spend the night with a group of friends I have and a girl from said group does not want get along with her and she says that I let her down"}
{"id": "t3_1omi5h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why doesn't the government find a loophole to get rid of the Federal Reserve Bank?", "post": "From everything I've heard/read the Federal Reserve Bank (which is not  part of or regulated by the Federal government) is shitty and just makes debt by printing money putting the government (and the nation) in an endless cycle of debt. What, if anything, does the government have to gain from this being a thing still? And why isn't this a bigger deal to everyone? Am I misinformed of the actual power this entity has? What more than an old law and \"word is bond\" obligation does the government have to them and why can they finagle their way out of it, since they pretty much do whatever they want anyway?", "summary": "Why is the gubment ok with being the Federal Reserves bitch and what stops them from sticking their nose in this like everything else I'd actually rather them stay out of?"}
{"id": "t3_123jcb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some experiences with ex-friends/SO's that made you say \"Wow i dodged a bullet there.\"", "post": "For me it was this one crazy possessive girl.\n\n**Backstory**\n\nThis one girl gives me gas money each week to drive her to college.(lets call her A) Things started out fine, I hung around her and she hung around me. We didnt know anybody in our program so she was pretty positive and happy at first. I started to gain some interest in her.\n\nWell a couple weeks into the program, this new girl shows up(Lets call her B). She was accepted late into the program. She was lonely, scared, and did not have a clue in the world what to do.\n\nBeing the nice guy (that i think i am) decided to help (B) out. I start sitting with her, talking to her, and start to become friends with her. I realize that this girl is pretty awesome to be around.\n\nThis is when the girl that i drive to school(A) started to show her craziness.\n\nOne morning when i pick up (A) , she was not as happy and cheery as usual.\nThis  was kind of odd, so i ask whats up. She instantly loses her shit. Goes on and on about how i can not sit with other people, and i should not talk to this other girl(B) because I should spend my time with (A), blah blah blah. I defend myself, by basically saying you are not the motha fuckin boss o me.\n\nBecause i am a college kid and need gas money, i still drive this crazy bitch to school. We just sit there, no conversation, me listening to the radio. When i do sit with (B), i just get dirty death stares from (A) from across the room.\n\nAnd to think i actually started to like (A).", "summary": "Drive nice friendly girl to college, start to gain a little interest in her. I meet new girl and become friends with new girl. Girl i drive goes bat shit cray, because I talk to new girl. Dodged a bullet."}
{"id": "t3_2maz4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my husband [34 M] 5 years, he cheated, I left, I'm feeling emotionally abused by everyone in my life about it", "post": "By my ex, by therapists, friends. Everyone is managing to make me feel like some kind of egomaniac or something for having a problem with being cheated on. Because \"its not about me\", he was struggling with   his own issues. He couldn't have chosen me over his affair at the time that I demanded he do so, because he wasn't in his right mind essentially, and he needed to grieve his affair. He was genuinely confused about whether or not he wanted me (due to completely self-inflicted issues) and that by focusing on the cheating I'm not dealing with the REAL problem and I'm just \"running away\". That in the right conditions anyone can cheat and I'm being pompous or something for thinking I never would. \n\nI'm sure my ex fucking loves this narrative, it makes everything all about him 24/7. They have me thinking I'm the disordered person for not being able to grasp all this. \n\nI mean Jesus, can't a girl have some standards? Can't cheating simply hurt too much and cause me to lose all interest? I saw everything about how this other relationship developed, what the other woman was doing, can't I just not be interested in being with a self-involved idiot? I feel like this narrative has been set up about how it worked that I simply don't buy into, and it bothers me that that seems to be what the story is. That my inability to forgive, and my demands for respect, are coming from a place of insecurity rather than strength. And I'm just being too black-and-white in my thinking. \n\nAll in all I made more concesssions than I'm even willing to make normally, in the interests of giving our marriage a chance. But I never mattered. And I'm told that's just how it is with the kind of crisis he's having, and he wants me now and wants to work on his problems that caused this crisis so whats the big deal?", "summary": "Husband indulged in an affair, I don't care what his issues are, that apparently makes me lazy or something"}
{"id": "t3_16r4p1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Great first date, trying to get second proving difficult.", "post": "Me (24M) caught this cute barmaid (21F) that I caught checking me out 2 weeks I a row at a bar I frequent, anyway I grew some balls and got her number, texted a little, 2 days later went for a drink, it went really well lots of talking, touching, joking, no awkwardness nothing to presume it went badly, if anything it went very well. Now trying to get her out on a second date is proving tricky, I understand she has 2 jobs and goes to university. But Ive been trying for 3 weeks trying to walk the fine line of not being perceived as a clingy creep and not being a total pushover wet blanket. \n\nI've been trying to keep electronic communication to a minimum, we texted more just after date and it has been trailing off, I get replies but no counter offers, also I get other forms of acknowledgement from her (when I saw her at work she gave me without me asking free drinks, etc). So how to proceed? move on find someone else? or try a different approach??", "summary": "Solid first date, trying unsuccessfully to get a second date communication slowing down. HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_1f1nld", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (20,F) find love?", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI'm 20 and I've never had a boyfriend and I can't help but feel like it will never happen for me.\n\nI'm not unattractive, I'm not high maintenance, I'm 420 friendly and a bit of a geek and constantly have male friends telling me I would make the perfect girlfriend.\n\nAbout a year ago, I started sleeping with a friend I really liked and thought he liked me too. But, it kind of just fizzled out because we started living together and if it had ended badly, it would have made things awkward with the other people we live with.\n\nI'm clearly good enough to have sex with but not good enough to be with?\n\nA year ago, I tried OkCupid in desperation. But, unfortunately, the area I'm from leaves a lot to be desired in the way of 'talent' and the few guys I did meet up with, I had no chemistry with.\n\nMy sister's recently got engaged, two of my friends are having a baby and pretty much all the others are in solid, stable relationships.\n\nI can't help but feel as though there's something completely wrong with me.", "summary": "been single for all my life, completely worried I'll never find a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_1p9k7b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would i need braces ?", "post": "About 2 years ago i got braces and had it for about a year + . It was to slightly straighten my teeth and for a front tooth gap . I took off my braces and my teeth were perfect i got to wear my retainer. I then lost my retainer and they then gave me a replacement i wore that but then noticed since i didnt wear it for so long a gap on my sides appeared. I kept wearing the retainer but it never fixed the gap so i stopped wearing it. I would like to get my teeth back to where they were before. My bottom teeth are still perfect. I just want my top to be good.\nWhat should i do / what would have to happen in the dentist.", "summary": "Lost retainers - gap appeared- retainers didn't help stopped wearing them"}
{"id": "t3_2kt492", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a girl out", "post": "Okay so skip 2 weeks ago this new girl, Annie comes into my class. She's the cute band lover kinda girl with dyed hair. I get the courage to ask her out after talking to her a while. Yesterday we're walking in the halls and i ask simply \"Do you wanna go out?\" she gives me a teeth clenched inhale \"No sorry\" and then walks away. Last night I tried apologizing for asking her out so quickly and asked if she wanted to hang out. Today the message is still unseen and she hasn't shown online to me in a day. I'm pretty sure she went offline to me. I heard today she doesn't like me and doesn't wanna talk to me or hang out.", "summary": "I asked a new girl out too quickly and now she wants nothing to do with me."}
{"id": "t3_2suyii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of almost 4 years, Ive just fallen out of love, but i dont know why.", "post": "This is my first girlfriend and we've been together for nearly 4 years.\n\nSo basically just before we we're celebrating our 3 year anniversary, it felt like id just woken up and couldn't say that i loved her anymore. We talked it over and separated for just over a month before we decided to try again, this went okay for about another 8 months, now we're not far off being together for 4 years and ive decided its time we talk again.\nWe have spoke about fixing it, but i dont know what it is that needs fixing as i dont know why we fell out of love...\n\nWhat should i do, i feel i know what the answer is, but i dont know what i would do without her, any advice would be greatly appreciated.\nThanks", "summary": "Been together four years but things went down hill just after the 3rd, but i dont know why or what i should do."}
{"id": "t3_2nx9wl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being able to read Portuguese.", "post": "A couple weeks ago, I bought a game for my new Xbox One and have really been loving it. Any free time I get, straight to my game.\n\nNow I'm normally not one to buy into the DLC crap that's put out, but I really have been enjoying this game so much that I figured, 'ah, what the hell. I'll look online and see if I can find it cheap from Black Friday.'\n\nI came across this Portuguese website that had the DLC I wanted for 50% off. I ran the website through Google Translate, but to no avail, it wasn't able to translate the entire page. The website seemed easy enough, though, that I thought I could figure out the check-out process as I went.\n\nAfter some struggling, I managed to get my DLC code and sit down to type it into my Xbone. \"Huh,\" I thought. \"Weird that the Xbone says the code should be 25 characters long but this is only 15... Oh well, I'm sure it's fine.\" After 5 minutes of typing and re-typing, it dawns on me: I just wasted $12 for a PC DLC code. Now I have to pay one and a half times the normal amount to buy the DLC that will actually work.", "summary": "Never learned Portuguese, wasted $12 on DLC I can't use."}
{"id": "t3_364r3q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally getting bug spray in my asshole", "post": "this happened about 30 minutes ago, and is such a jumbled up series of events that it had to be planned by the devil himself.\n\nhome alone, i go out for a cigarette. i notice as i'm going outside, a huge spider has made a web ride on the inside of the door. fuck no. not tonight. i go and retrieve my spider killer bug spray. now every time i use this spray, it's always kind of clogged and sprays a stream instead of a mist, which sucks, so i spray it until it's unclogged. on this night, i decided to do that into the toilet. it takes a minute, so i end up spraying a lot of it into the toilet water. it becomes unclogged, i kill the spider, i have my cigarette. \n\nwhen i come back inside, i have to take a shit. so i go to the bathroom, forgetting the toilet is filled with bug spray. i start shitting. all is normal until the end. i shit and it plops pretty big, splashing the bug spray water directly into my asshole. i don't realize at first, until i'm done and stand up, feeling the most ungodly burn that could ever be felt on an unsuspecting butthole. and here i am, still burning, and about to take a shower.", "summary": "i sprayed bug spray into a toilet, then took a shit and splashed it into my asshole."}
{"id": "t3_2y4pqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 F] with my [30 M] SO of 2 years, stays out late to drink after work multiple times a week and it bothers me, he doesn't understand why", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for 2 years and live together. He works as a chef in the restaurant business and has recently starting working somewhere new. \n\nPreviously, his hours were always manageable. At his new job however, he stays at the bar drinking with coworkers until ~1am three times a week. He works a double every day so it's not as if I see him any other times. I'm still in school and I like to go to bed at a reasonable hour but I do want to see him at least once a day so I often wait up for him. He never let's me know when he's coming home as the time varies every time. Often I give up around 1 and head to bed really angry. He comes in drunk and gets angry that I'm upset with him.\n\nI've told my SO that this really upsets me. He is always working and would rather stay at work even longer instead of coming home to see me even for just a few hours before bed. He says \"I don't get it\" and that drinking after work is necessary to relieve tension with his coworkers (and female servers).\n\nI don't know what else to do. We end up fighting every night when we gets home. It's a catch-22. I'm upset because I miss him and he doesn't seem to care. My being upset pushes him away and then he sleeps on the couch so we basically live as roommates rather than a couple. Am I over reacting? I think he's being terribly immature. Not sure if it's a deal breaker.", "summary": "SO thinks I'm over reacting and doesn't see the problem with staying late often to drink after work."}
{"id": "t3_onfjw", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My wife is leaving me after almost 12 years of marriage.", "post": "We would have been married 12 years in June.  We dated for almost 5 years before that. Both 33 years old. \nWe are telling our two children (11&7) tonight. \nI still want to be with her, but I feel like she is already happier without me. \nI currently sleep in a spare room, as I don't have the money for another place right now. I lay awake at night and think about her in the room above me.  Sleeping in the bed we used to share. \nShe was my strength, and now I feel so weak. \n\nI've tried to reach out to someone, anyone, that could help me get through this.  One of our wonderful fellow redditors struck up a conversation with me, and I managed to freak them out and scare them off. I feel like I have nothing to offer anyone, now. \n\nMy wife is infatuated with another man.  She tells me he makes her feel good, happy.  I can see it.  He makes her feel sexy.  I guess I never could.  I told her all the time, how sexy she is. I tried to show her often.  The only reason I can imagine that it didn't mean anything to her is that she wasn't attracted to me.  I feel hideous.", "summary": "My wife is leaving me for another man, and I feel worthless. "}
{"id": "t3_2h24fx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making out with a Catholic girl", "post": "This happened today at around 2 AM...\n\nIt was the first party I managed to actually party at this year, being that I am usually a designated driver.\n\nI met this cute Catholic girl, let's call her Hillary. \n\nThings start off okay, I finally built up the courage to start making out with her. Now the kissing wasn't \"kissing\", it was what two drunk people would call making out. Basically a lot of excessive tongue and lip biting, but whatever -- it was still the most I have gotten in a month. \n\nThings start getting hot and heavy in my friends living room. We were both undoing each others pants and I thought we were both really into it. I started foreplay on my end, and she was doing something with my johnson that I don't seem to remember out of bleak drunkeness. \n\n\"Should we head back to your place?\" I asked, hoping my friend's living room floor wasn't my final rest stop for the night.\n\nShe gave no reply, but as I was about to kiss her again she pounced into the air and ran out the front door in what I thought was Mach 3.\n\n*I just stood there* for a moment in a lapse of utter confusion. My pants around my thighs and an erection making itself visible in my briefs, like a ghost in a sheet.\n\n**Now** I don't know exactly what happened. I knocked on my friends door (Let's call her Marie) and asked Marie what had just happened. \n\nMarie told me about Hillary's devotion to Catholicism,  and how she was planning on waiting for marriage to *get down*.\n\nI have yet to hear from her, and I plan on apologizing for what happened when I see her next. I don't think I am in the wrong, neither of us are, but I think it was just a lack of communication at fault.", "summary": "Haven't touched a girl in a month, finally do and I send her running out the front door in my confusion."}
{"id": "t3_2b2pi8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I like this girl.", "post": "So in high school I asked a girl out. She turned me down. I still crushed on her for a while but eventually I graduated and went to college. I thought I wouldn't see her again so I gave up. She was different than previous crushes I've had because we still talk on Facebook from time to time. \n\nFast forward 4 years, I'm starting my third year at college and she just graduated high school and came to the same college as me. It's an art school so we are both doing some form of art. We like a lot of the same stuff. I'm crushing on her again but even more so than in high school. \n\nHer and her friend sat down with me and my friend the other day in the lounge while waiting for our next classes. We talked for a while. We talked about a bunch of stuff from video games to what she planned on doing when she graduates. from what I can tell, she is not interested in me at all though because I'm unattractive and she is very attractive. I don't know what to do. I am going to ask for her number when I talk to her next week but I don't want to make things awkward. She probably already knows I like her which could be awkward enough. What should I do?", "summary": "I really like a girl who turned me down years ago. She now goes to the same college as me. We talk but she doesn't seem interested in me"}
{"id": "t3_3gurcm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having sleep apnea.", "post": "This one happened last night, around 2am.\n\nSo as the title suggests, I have sleep apnea.  I was diagnosed about 6 months ago after going to the doctor because I would wake up incredibly tired almost every day.  After doing an at home sleep study, my doctor suggested I should get a CPAP machine -- pretty standard procedure.\n\nSo for those of you who don't know what a CPAP machine is/does, it's a machine that pumps air into your face while you sleep to keep you breathing regularly throughout the night.  There are two types of masks you can get, one that just goes over your nose, or one that goes over your nose and mouth and straps to your head.  Because I often end up breathing through my mouth when I sleep, I opted for the latter.  And then the mask connects to the machine through a long plastic hose.\n\nSo I've been wearing it pretty much every night for the last 6 months.  No problems.  Last night started out no differently than usual.  I put the mask on, strapped it to my face, started the machine up, and laid down in bed.  It takes about 5-10 seconds for the machine to fully boot up and begin shooting air, so I'm working on finding the most comfy position in my bed.\n\nThe air rushes in all at once, filling up the mask and creating positive pressure in it.  But last night, something else rushed in with it.  It seems a [wolf spider] thought my CPAP hose would be the perfect place to rest for the night.\n\nAnd now it's in... my mouth.  I am freaking out, and frantically fumbling with the straps that are holding this huge spider in its mouth prison for what feels like decades.  I finally just ripped it off over my head and spit the spider onto the floor.  It's still in my room somewhere.  I didn't get much sleep.", "summary": "The itsy-bitsy spider crawled in my CPAP machine.  Down came the wind and washed the spider out (into my mouth).  Up came my hands to rip off the apnea mask.  And the itsy-bitsy spider will haunt my life forever."}
{"id": "t3_2hl09a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23F] tell the owner of the dogs I'm sitting that they destroyed my property?", "post": "I'm babysitting two little dogs through a website called Rover. An owner contacts me online when he is going out of town, I watch the dogs and get paid. These two dogs were with me for 5 nights. I have a full time job. When I went to work, I came home and one of them had completely destroyed my expensive reading glasses, my flats and my EarPods for my iPhone. They did well over $100 worth of damage. A lot more damage then I am getting paid for. They had to jump on a table to get to that stuff, it was not laying on the ground. Do I tell the owner that the dogs damaged my property? If I tell him, should I expect him to pay for it? Or is that the risk I take watching a stranger's dogs?", "summary": "Dogs I'm babysitting did over $100 worth of damage to my property. I don't know if I should tell the owner and expect him to pay for it."}
{"id": "t3_32q49t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting into bed with my Mother in Law.", "post": "This happened a few years back.  My wife and I were living in VT at the time, and would travel down to NJ to visit her family about once  a month.  My wife is Puerto Rican, and her and her family are all about LA FAMILIA... So I've become accustomed to not having any privacy anymore when around them.  They often all hang out together in her Mom's bed for hours, just talking - a completely foreign concept to me.\n\nSo I was out seeing some friends while my wife stayed home visiting with her Mom and sisters.  I got home late, around 1 in the morning, and went to her old bedroom upstairs where we generally stayed when in town.  Sometimes her Mom would give us her bedroom, as the bed was much more comfy and large, and we would be exhausted by the 5 hour drive.  I proceeded to get down to my birthday suit, as that's the only way I can sleep now (I'm from the West Coast and a desert climate - this East Coast humidity kills me and my little friends).  I climbed over her, as she took the outside of the bed, all the while unconsciously rubbing my junk all over her.  I got under the sheets, got in my usual large spoon position, and laid my head on the pillow... It was her hair, of ALL things, that I noticed was first.  It took about 2 or 3 seconds of lying there before I then ran my hand down her side and it just didn't have the same (youthful?) feel.\n\nI instantly shot up out of bed, scrambling for my belongings on the floor - all the while naked - and ran to the master bedroom to find my wife (double checked for accuracy this time) sleeping.  Told everyone what happened the next day, as I didn't want my MIL to be secretly awake or something, and wondering wtf had gone on last night.  We all laugh about it today, afterall, we are *Familia*.", "summary": "Wife and MIL switched bedrooms, didn't tell me.  I got naked and in bed with the wrong one."}
{"id": "t3_27zt2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I attracted to him or not? Me (F21) and BF (M25)", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 6 months and we have said our three words, although I feel like our relationship is begged to differ.\n\nAt the start of the relationship, I wasn't really attracted to him despite the fact that our first date I found out some qualities of him that I considered desirable. So I thought maybe it can change once we start dating a bit further to see if I develop any infatuation with him. However it didn't seem like it happened, but let me explain further. \n\nAt times, sometimes I feel like the attraction comes and goes. One moment I would have a few minutes of me missing him and having a bit of inflated heart but then mext moment it would be all nothingness. This happened probably like few times per day (although not missing him, but just having inflated and bit of attraction). \n\nI used to have a bit of fear with sex with him because of said factors, but now I feel alright with it.\n\nHe is certainly a guy that I am very compatible with, but it feels like on my end there isn't much chemistry. I have thought about breaking up with him over this a couple times in our relationahip and he reacted like he was scared it was going to end because he loves me more than I do for him and asks to \"find it within my heart my love for him,\" which I was extremely skeptical about because I would know about it (my previous relationship I definitely knew I liked him very much) but because of that conversation I felt very confused, and made me question my attraction for him. \n\nAnd also, around a couple months into our relationship because of afformated factors (not liking him), I had some attraction, as in slight elevated heartrate, for men generally speaking (doesnt matter if they were bald or hairy or what race, as long as they were men), and I even held a small crush within the last month or so for a classmate I dont even consider my type at all. \n\nPlease help, and I can provide extra background information if necessary.", "summary": "I don't know if I truly love my boyfriend even after nearly 6 months of dating."}
{"id": "t3_4iyq1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Doubts about getting married", "post": "I want to start by saying I met my fianc\u00e9 almost a year ago and we immediately clicked. I felt like I've known the guy forever, and that I could say anything to him. I've never felt that way about anyone before. We ended up getting engaged 5 months after we started dating. He was definitely ready to get married before I was, because we are relatively young (24 years old) and I had always planned to get married later in life, but decided there was no point in waiting if I already met \"the one\"\n\nI feel like I'm having doubts about getting married. When we argue about small things, the arguments turn huge. Im not as \"loving\" or emotional as my fianc\u00e9 would like. He's been amazing about communicating that with me and I'm very proud of him for doing so, because I understand that's difficult. And I agree I am not as romantic as he is, and agree to work on it.\n\nThe thing is, sometimes when we fight, he is so stubborn. At first I was hoping it was just my point of view that was skewed and I was just afraid of being wrong, but now when we argue I often sit there quietly just to listen to the things he says. The way he fights isn't fair- even if I apologize for something, he says I'm not apologetic enough. If I stay quiet, he accuses me of wanting to fight and not trying. If I try and tell my point of view, he says I don't listen to him enough. He's wonderful and thoughtful when we arent arguing, and I know everyone argues, but when we argue I feel so helpless to the point where I can't get my point across and we stop talking for hours, sometimes even a day or two. I've only been in two relationships before this, but those weren't nearly as serious. Is this normal?", "summary": "My fiance and I don't fight fair, and it results in us not talking for hours or even days and me doubting our relationship altogether. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2mhmz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/F] friend [18/F] only talks about herself/her problems. I feel like i'm her counselor.", "post": "We've been friends for so long that I feel as though we've outgrown each other. She's still the same exact person she was 9 years ago when we met, which is annoying, clingy, obnoxious, etc. A few years ago, she moved to a different state but still texts and calls me every day.\n\n All she ever talks to me about is her ex boyfriend and how annoying his girlfriend is. She'll ask to call about 5 times a day and I've recently started making up excuses so I won't have to listen to her talk about people I don't know/care about for the next several hours. I can't even remember the last time she asked about me. Last week she asked if she could call and I lied and told her I was busy spending the weekend visiting friends in San Fran. She got upset and couldn't understand why it would be rude of me to talk to her while visiting them. Two days ago she asked again and I told her I was getting ready for a date (no lie this time) and she told me to text her when I got back. Not to make sure I got home safely or anything (because she didn't even acknowledge the date) but because she wanted to complain about her ex's girlfriend again...\n\nI know i'm being a huge pushover and doormat but I don't know what to do. Right now I have 10 ignored texts and 4 missed calls from her (all from the past two days) with the last text being, \"Never mind. Sorry for bugging you.\" Should I tell her I need some space and time to deal with my own problems? I don't even know if that's true. She's so immature and clingy and our personalities have become so incompatible that i'm not even sure I can do this anymore.", "summary": "Friend has become incredibly annoying and only talks about herself. Not sure if I should confront her or end friendship"}
{"id": "t3_1welb3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22m] screwed up and told my gf[21f] of 6 months hurtful things and she's had enough. Is there anyway I can mend this?", "post": "My gf and I argue about the same things over and over about every two weeks but we always recover from it and learn a little more each time we do. But this time, I said some hurtful things in the midst of being angry (things I don't really mean) and she's understandably upset over it. She even took her stuff(we live together while going to school) and slept at a friend's house last night but she said she wants to sleep at our place from now until she finds a permanent place to stay. \n\nShe said she mostly wants to break up but she isn't sure yet. I'm giving her some space and haven't spoke to her since last night even though it's all I want to do. As far as I know, she's coming over tonight to sleep over and I'm hoping I can make things better over a few days. I'm still in denial that she wants to break up with me and am convinced we'll just recover from this and be happy again but this is the most intense fight we've had and I'm a little worried I'm wrong.\n\nHow should I go about talking with her tonight? What things should I be saying or doing to prove that I really love her and don't mean to hurt her and to please forgive me? Should I buy flowers?", "summary": "girlfriend of 6 months is very upset with things I said and now it's seriously considering breaking up with me. What should(our shouldn't) I say and do to convince her she's the love of my life and to please forgive me because I didn't mean the things I said?"}
{"id": "t3_nyhr7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Drowned puppies! ---What's the most shocking thing you've ever caught a family member doing? (possibly nsfw)(cont'd, a confession)", "post": "I read through hundreds of replies and answers to the \"What's the most most shocking thing you've ever caught a family member doing thread\" and honestly/vainly/selfishly wanted to add something but not get lost in the masses. I will try to keep it as short as possible. I was around 16 or 17 and still living with my parents . Our family dog got out one day and was impregnated, she subsequently had 6 puppies. My parents put it upon me to find them homes. I found a home for one, my mom found one home, my dad found one as I remember. This was all within a few weeks of them being weened. I came home from school one day a week or 2 later to find the rest gone and when I asked my mom where the remaining puppies were she very sadly responded that \"you're dad said you could not find them homes so he was taking care of them.\" Years later I confronted him and learned he had drowned them in a sack in the local river. I know that his upbringing in a rural environment \"justified\" this behavior to livestock and \"lesser\" beasts but it is absolutely the moral/ethical point of separation that I became estranged from my parents in anything more than my own reluctant obligation in reciprocating their parental love. Is that harsh? ---\nSince my mum has developed breast cancer we have become very close but even though my dad and actually worked together in a business for almost 10 years and he had a heart attack last year I am closer with an occasional bar friend than I am with him. Ramble ramble ramble, I this a normal parental relationship?", "summary": "dad drowns puppies when 16, mom seems to approve, affect relations from then on, is it normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3pu888", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my stranger [0 F], how do i get to know her?she says she doesnt accept friend requests from strangers and we have no mutual friends", "post": "so i was looking on facebook for friends who i lost contact with and i found this girl who mesmerized me straight away. she has a ask.fm and she writes that she doesnt accept friend requests from strangers and only from people she knows irl.\n\nnow i really want to get to know her but i dont know how. we dont have any mutual friends and i am at a loss on how to get to know her.\n\nshe has a friend who is in the university i graduated from thou and it is a pretty small one, is adding him and asking him to introduce us okay?\n\nplease help!", "summary": "i want to get to this girl who i found on facebook accidentally but she doesnt accept friend requests from strangers."}
{"id": "t3_4fqv8y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Lying to My Girlfriend About Game of Thrones (Season 1 Spoilers)", "post": "This actually happened today. A few minutes ago actually. \n\nI'm all caught up on the Game of Thrones series but I've wanted to have my girlfriend watch the show with me. So we've been watching season 1 over the past few days and she's really been enjoying it. \n\nLast night we got to through the eighth episode before we called it a night. When her and I went to bed she was asking a lot of questions about the lore and the story and which characters were aligned with who. Then I asked her who she thought would be the next person to die in the show? She told me she didn't care who died as long as Ned Stark survived through the series. I thought it would be funny at this point to convince her that Ned actually does end up staying alive through the show. She goes to sleep, content her favorite character wouldn't suffer a brutal death.\n\nJump to just a few minutes ago.\n\nWe're watching the ninth episode of the show, and we're coming up on the scene where Ned Stark gets beheaded by Joffrey. I'm staying pretty calm and collected at this point but I keep glancing at my girlfriend and I can see she's a bit confused as to why Ned is being paraded around in front of everyone. \n\nIf you've seen the show you know that shortly after Ned's confession, he gets beheaded anyways and the episode ends there.\n\nWell the credits are rolling and my girlfriend starts sounding really concerned, and she keeps asking, \"Is he really dead?\" I'm telling her that yes he is in fact, now dead. \n\nWell after a few seconds she bursts out in tears and starts calling me a liar. I, for some odd reason, thought that was absolutely hilarious and burst out laughing.\n\nSo here we are on the couch. She's crying because her favorite character is now dead (after I convinced her he'd live throughout the show), and I'm laughing uncontrollably while shes crying.\n\nShe's fine now and we laughed about it afterwards, but I feel like I was a bit of an ass.", "summary": "I made my girlfriend cry because I told her Ned Stark lives. Then laughed in her face about it."}
{"id": "t3_2c544j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] really think I fucked up with this girl [23F] that I had a crush on", "post": "Ok only hung out with this girl 1 time and we were tripping together and it was awesome. This is like a year later I texted her and told her I kind of had a crush on her and all this stuff then she said nothing. I was being a total fucking idiot and thought she was ignoring me so I was saying things like \" you can be decent enough to tell me your not interested\".\n\nThen she texted me this morning and said \"I was sleeping......\". I apologized and really told her I was such an idiot. Do you think my chances ares pretty much done?", "summary": "I like to let my mind get the best of me"}
{"id": "t3_tbnqo", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I am in Lima and need advice on bus companies and prices to Cuzco. Looking for cheaper companies.", "post": "I am currently in Lima. Long story short, my bags got lost in Mexico City and I only received them last night. 5 days without anything kind of drained my budget pretty quickly and I need to get to Cuzco in the next few days. I have found it is pretty difficult to find out about bus companies without actually going to the bus station. The hostel I am staying in, The Point, only gives me times and prices for Cruz del Sur. It is a very safe and comfortable company, but a little bit more than I would like to pay. Also, just going to the bus station to check it out is an option, but that is another 20-30 soles I would rather not spend. I have about 115 Soles in my pocket and about 500 more available to me for about the next 8 days.  Even if I could get the ball rolling and find a cheap bus to Ica or Huacachina. The safer the better, obviously. Just want to kind of get a feel for prices, it is my first time in South America. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Low budget, need some prices and advice from someone who has experienced a cheaper bus company. Lima to Cuzco, or anything in between. Gracias!"}
{"id": "t3_503ht5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roommate doesn't want to buy individual pieces of furniture", "post": "I'm about to move into a new apartment. I'm moving in with two other people, one guy I know and one guy that I haven't met but is friends with my friend (I didn't know many people in the area so I thought I'd give it a shot).\n\nThe problem that I'm having is that while I was on a trip, my two roommates went out and bought furniture for the apartment. They spent $1800 and got a couch, a kitchen table, a media center, and a shoe rack. Then a bunch of other small things (dishes, screw gun, silverware, etc). IMHO we definitely didn't need to spend that much money. \n\nSo now it's time to split the cost, everywhere I read everyone says that it is 100x easier for everyone to buy their \"own\" pieces of furniture so that everyone knows who is responsible for what. (Someone buys the couch, someone else buys the kitchen table and rug, etc). This in my head makes sense, but when I brought it up, I was shot down.", "summary": "we are splitting the cost of furniture evenly even though everywhere says that it's a bad idea, my question is: how would be good way of suggesting that splitting even is not the best way to split the furniture? And when move out day comes, if we split evenly, how would each of us select and pay for certain pieces of furniture? For example, one of us wants the $700 couch so presumably that person would pay the other two people $50 each since we all paid $600 to begin with. But then what if someone wants the $60 shoe rack? What does THAT person pay the other two?"}
{"id": "t3_1k9dis", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I don't feel at place with the friends I have.", "post": "I'm really a lucky teenager, growing up in a fantastic suburban community and surrounded by opportunity, but I can't find myself at ease with my current friends. Most of them are lazy and could be considered bad influences, but they really don't do anything wrong, they just have poor work ethics. Anyway, most of that was more or less backstory, but I really just have a hard time seeing how they feel about me. Most of it is just me, I can tell, but I am by no means the punching bag type of friend. However, I always end up the butt of a joke or long stream of jokes, usually pertaining to a band I like or making fun of instruments I play (bass and bassoon in concert band) only because I enjoy talking about them since all I'm really good at in life is music. I guess it could tie with howthey aren't interested in hearing about my personal stuff, but what kinds of friends are those? Well, I should quit generalizing, because I do like most of my friends, but they cling to the friend circle with the ones who harp on me. I sometimes think of starting friendships with accquaintances who I relate to more and who are more involved in music like me, but I really don't know how to go about that.\nI probably sound super babbley, so all in all: I don't hate my friends, but they don't appreciate or respect me as much as I'd like them to. If you guys have any things to say that could possibly make me seem less whiny or make my friends not make fun of what I say (depsite my direct demanding that they don't ridicule me), I would appreciate that and a shoulder to lean on. Pretty frustrated and lost. Thanks for hearing me out, guys.", "summary": "mild teen drama, look away if feint-hearted"}
{"id": "t3_3h8wjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] want to break up with my gf [23F] of 2.5 years but I'm having trouble.", "post": "I am in love with her.\n\nShe is emotionally abusive to me. Whenever we have arguments she uses past arguments as weapons against me, saying stuff like I remember that time when you did this or that and you're mean.\n\nShe uses the past, despite us having resolved those issues again, against me as if they were never resolved. \n\nAlso she never lets me have a chance at discussion; whenever she expresses her dislike of something its more of a rant than a discussion. She goes on and on about how she thinks I did something was mean, then as Im about to reply she goes \"...and then also ____\" and its just a rant and I can't even reply.  She makes me feel like a horrible person.\n\nThe problem is the thought of her with another guy and sleeping with him for some reason hurts me incredibly. She's incredibly beautiful so that doesn't help either. How do i overcome this?", "summary": "Girlfriend is emotionally abusive and I want to break up with her, but the thought of her having sex with another man or falling in love with him hurts me. How do I overcome this?"}
{"id": "t3_25nuel", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My cats have been fighting", "post": "Background: Two male cats, both neutered young, one was given to my roommate by me for her birthday about 8 years ago... she had him declawed (I begged her not to). They lived together for 2 years then I moved to California and my cat went to my parents house.\n\nFast foward to four years ago: My friend got pregnant, couldn't (aka didn't want to) keep the cat. I got him back and they've been living together for the last four years. They actually remembered each other and they cuddle when they sleep... all is well.\n\nToday: They have been fighting recently. They don't really cuddle anymore. They're two years apart, my cat is 10 and my friends ex-cat is 8. My cat (the older one) will just out of nowhere seek the other cat and start the gutteral growl and attack. This happens mostly at night or very early in the morning. They have two large litter boxes (they're big boys) which are cleaned daily. They eat together out of one dog dish that has a divider, like one side was supposed to be for water. They share the food just fine. They clean each other. Then they'll randomly fight. I'm worried because the younger one (Onyx) does not have nails. Worried that the older one (Thatcher) will hurt him. Worried because I have no idea why this is happening. The three of us have been living in my current apartment going on three years now.\n\nThanks in advance for any help you can offer.", "summary": "My cats used to get along and now they fight, nothing else has changed."}
{"id": "t3_4dab1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommate's GF [23F] has the flu and now practically lives at our apartment. If I get sick, do I have the right to be mad?", "post": "I [23M] need advice on how to handle this situation. My roommate [23M] and I live in a small two bedroom apartment. He has his GF over probably 5 nights a week. It doesn't bother me. But now she has the flu and has pretty much not left our apartment for more than a couple hours for the past 6 days. She lives on a boat that I've never seen but I think is in disrepair - hence her staying over so much. I get that staying in his bed is probably the best place for her recovery (as opposed to on the boat) but I feel like I'm starting to come down with something. Do I have the right to be pissed at him if I catch what she has?\n\nI've been good friends with my roommate since childhood and I get along with his (relatively new) GF pretty well too. If she had her own apartment I wouldn't feel bad telling him that she needs to stay away until she's better, but since she's living on a unfinished boat, I feel like telling him she has to go would be like throwing her out on the street. Every twenty minutes I can hear her coughing up a lung. I know the flu virus doesn't transmit via surfaces very well, but I don't think she covers her mouth when she coughs. She also doesn't work so is here 24/7 and smokes weed multiple times a day - which I can't imagine helps her coughing get better faster.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Roommates GF is very sick and is now living at our apartment. I am worried I am going to get sick and want her out, but she has a poor living situation, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i51st", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "One cat seems to no longer recognize the other one", "post": "I have two female cats that live inside the house and never go outside. Yesterday night one of them allegedly flew through a window, and we noticed it few minutes/hours later.\n\nI found her wandering in the garden, all wet and dirty. I guess she fell to the pool, as we have a dog outside and maybe scared her and ran away.\n\nThe thing is, once inside home again, the other cat (btw they are sisters and been always together) seems to no longer recognize her, and starts doing a sound like growling after smelling her.\n\nIt could be just because she still smells different and it will pass or could be something else?", "summary": "One cat flew home at night and (maybe) fell to the pool. The other one now growls at her."}
{"id": "t3_fd85y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So tell me Reddit, what IS so goddamn important about sexual exclusivity? I really wanna know...", "post": "I've been thinking about this for quite some time, but after [this] just happend, I really want to understand what makes faithfulness such a major emotional trigger for many people? \nI mean, I can understand that someone might feel neglected and I see the danger of STDs but it seems that nobody views these things rationally:\n\n1. Your SO probably fucked somebody else before, why is it a problem now?\n2. In a long term relationship the sex might get less fulfilling over time, why not search it outside of the realationship and focus on other mutual goals together?\n3. condoms exist.\n4. so does birth control (in combination with 3, conception is virtually out of the picture)  \n5. Why would you deny your SO some nice experience?\n6. Has jealousy really ever made anything better?\n\nI also got the feeling that this phenomenon (i.e. cheating being a absolute deal-breaker) is much more wide-spread in the U.S. than in europe, where I'm from. To illustrate this, a GAY friend of mine once had a boyfriend from the u.s. who's jealousy drove my friend mad til the point where he broke up. Seriously guys? I heard that promiscuity was rather the norm in that subculture (And why shouldn't it be?).\nSo does anyone have an idea why americans are so much more sensitive about this topic?", "summary": "the title"}
{"id": "t3_4nd9t5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 30F having a hard time conversing with youngster gamers", "post": "I'm part of many gaming groups and the biggest slice of the demographic pie are folks younger than I (12-28 might be a good range). I feel as if there has been a large shift from fact to feelings in the past 10 or 15 years and as a rather factual person, I feel more and more hostility directed at me. I'm not an uncivil person and I do go out of my way to help others, I just don't cater much to feelings and that is landing me in a lot of hostility and drama directed towards me.\n\nFor example, a conversation might go like this:\n\nThem: \"I need help\"\n\nMe: \"Hi, gamer, here is this and this and ...\"\n\nThem: \"No, I go by GAMERESS specifically as it says in my profile. You have offended me. Fuck you.\"\n\nOr like this:\n\nThem: \"I need to loose weight but I don't want anything to do with calories.\"\n\nMe: \"Well, calories are ...\"\n\nThem: \"NO. I don't want to talk about calories! It didn't work for me! I'm offended at it and I'm offended at you!\"\n\nThe person I am talking too feels that I have insulted them and anything else I might have to say goes straight into the garbage - further persisting to attempt to help them only pisses them off more. At the same time, I feel angry that I just wasted time and energy and got a lot of backlash for my trouble. I feel sad and anxious at the rejection and angry because I feel that I am right. When something does turn into a conflict, I am always bewildered, and that doesn't help. I am also fearful of becoming incapable of accepting criticism and I want to make sure that my feelings are on the right levels. Sometimes I am wrong but I get over it quickly and try to do a little more research to learn what things are new.\n\nThe conflict when it hits always takes me by surprise and causes a moderate amount of anxiety.", "summary": "How do I relate to youngsters? Should I be taking more measures to not be offensive? Etc "}
{"id": "t3_2x5qrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend[21 F] 5 years, How do i tell if i have fallen out of love", "post": "Ill keep this short and sweet. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years, we bought a house together and things are going well, how ever 2 weeks ago I started to feel unhappy. I think that I may have fallen out of love with her, a big part of that is that i don't feel like having sex with her (or anyone for that matter) anymore.\n\nWhat I really want to know is how can I determine if I'm still in love or just depressed.\n\nI realize there might not be enough info so ill provide more specifics on request.", "summary": "How can i tell if I'm not in love anymore!"}
{"id": "t3_1904om", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why the internet can be a dark and conflicted place.", "post": "I've had way too much time on my hands lately, and have been in a weird state of mind in general. I've been using the internet since the 90's, but I'm in no way saying that I'm some kind of veteran-hipster of interweb depravity. I would consider myself a general user. \n\nOn reddit and other social networking sites, there is a lot of hate and conflict- I think this is because people are terrified. We are terrified of being so close to the inner thoughts of an infinite number of minds. We have been abruptly thrust into a new age of total mental nakedness, living without privacy, and the anonymity factor just adds to the chaos and panic. It's scary, exhilarating and a huge leap in our society as a planet.\n\nWhat I want to get off my chest is this: I love it. I love the hive mind, the good and the bad shit, the trolls, the psycho tumblr users, the wanna-be porn stars, the karma whores and every anonymous rambler. I love you because you are me, and we are all proving we're human as **fuck** on a daily basis. Lurking around here these past few months has helped me through a lot. Thank you for entertaining me, and teaching me about the human condition from the comfort of my living room.", "summary": "I look forward to being telepathically linked to all of you in future. And to being called a fag."}
{"id": "t3_4kivo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my BF [25M] of 3 years, gave me an ultimatum of counselling or breaking up. Has since refused to set up counselling.", "post": "We have been having our issues for a while, and while we usually do not have full fights over them, we do tend to get prickly with each other whenever things are unaddressed. Admittedly, we are both not great communicators. \n\nAfter our last real fight, he told me that we needed to go to counselling or we needed to break up. I agreed to try counselling. He has a specific group in mind he wants to go to, so I said to set up the sessions and we would go. This was over 3 weeks ago.\n\nSince then he's brushed off setting anything up, I can't set it up since I don't know the name of the only place he's willing to go to, and we're starting to bicker again. It's now at the point that if I mention something is wrong, or that I would have appreciated if X,Y, or Z had been done, I am accused of trying to start another fight. \n\nI'm at my wit's end here, am I being unfair for pressing him to do the thing he threatened to end our relationship over if it wasn't done?", "summary": "BF demands counselling, then refuses to set up counselling. Meanwhile, we're returning to our bickering and the relationship is suffering again."}
{"id": "t3_2d3dgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] find myself being hyper-critical of my girlfriend [F 22] and cold towards her after extended contact with her. I'm unsure whether it's doubts about our future or just pushback from close contact.", "post": "Some back story, my girlfriend [22] and I [21] have been together 8 months and things had been great for the majority of that. We were close friends for 3 years prior to dating. We are very compatible and things moved really smoothly. \n\n.\n\nAt the beginning of June, she went abroad for 6 weeks before I then met up with her and we continued to travel together for another 2 and a half weeks. During this time, we were together essentially 24/7. Like, sharing a twin bed somewhere every night and doing everything during the day together, all with the stress of traveling involved.\n\nBasically, here is my train of thoughts/actions best I can recognize them happening. \n\n* Something minor she does will start to annoy me\n* I try to figure out why it happened, i.e. underlying character flaw\n* Find other instances where this \"character flaw\" has caused problems\n* Extrapolate to where this will cause problems in the future\n* Freak out, watch her super closely, and treat her poorly\n* Make her feel shitty, feel shitty for making her feel shitty, don't know how to change, rinse, repeat.\n\nIf anyone has any experience with this train of thought, how did it play out, what can I do when I see this happening. This sequence has happened twice now and its pretty scary. I can't figure out why I'm feeling this way and she can tell something is off, that makes her doubt how I feel about her which is obviously shitty.\n\nIs it as simple as just taking some space, how does that even work? Just feels like I'm pushing her away. I just need some outside perspective to get myself in order maybe.", "summary": "Had GF of 8mo, went long distance for 6 weeks, immediate transistion to really close contact for 3 weeks (living/traveling together). I become critical and cold towards her. Not sure if this stems from doubts about our future or just way too much close contact."}
{"id": "t3_2dk1y3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] have an anxious feeling my new SO [25 M] may have domestic violence tendencies. What do?", "post": "I have been exclusive with my boyfriend for one month. It has seemed like a fairy tale thus far. He is extremely handsome, fit, doesn't drink/smoke, soft spoken, thoughtful, homebody like myself, supports his mother, and is extremely successful. He has taken me on trips with beautiful hotel suites and fancy dinners, pays me endless compliments, we always have a great time together no matter if we are watching movies or just washing his car together, and he has been there for me during some rocky times. It is the most exciting beginning to a relationship i have ever had.\n\nThere are some concerns though which make me wonder how healthy things are:\n\n1. when i googled his name, it came up with an arrest earlier this May for \"DV INV\" which supposedly means domestic violence. Not sure how to bring that topic up for conversation?\n\n2. He says he is not a jealous person, but i have noticed if i go out with friends, the next day he will hardly text me/not see me if we had plans. Seems like a \"conditional love\"\n\n3. He likes sex to hurt me. Granted this is not the entirety of sex, but maybe 10% of the time, and he stops when i tell him.  I'm understanding of kinks, but i do know this can be a warning sign.\n\n4. He has already told me he wants to marry and have children with me. (granted i've fallen for him, and these things sound wonderful to me too)\n\n5. His father was physically abusive to him and his mother until he was 7 when his mother fled to the US.\n\nIt is very well possible i am being overly cautious as i do volunteer for a domestic violence organization, combined with the fact i feel like this is too good to be true and i don't deserve something so perfect. Where do i go from here? Do i discuss my concerns/his arrest or try to hold back so i don't get hurt? Am i being a crazy person for getting this \"feeling\" that he may abuse me?", "summary": "I have had a \"feeling\", which is new to me, that my SO is capable of domestic violence based on very loose leads, how should I proceed with these concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_1idp2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my exchange student [18F].", "post": "So basically my family has an exchange student at my house who we have known for over a year and have gone on trips with her. I spend a lot of time with her and we are pretty playful with each other like getting in water fights and making funny faces at each other. So i've been trying to make it apparent that im interested in her by talking to her more than usual subtly light touching her arm or something when im talking to her but what is a good way to show my intentions? Or should i abandon it all together because its an exchange student? Just some general advice would be nice. Thank you.", "summary": "exchange student at my house that i like, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_19cmx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mindset for getting back together with an ex-girlfriend [21m] [21f]", "post": "My ex and i were good friends for 3 years before going out. We broke up up a little over a month ago and the reason behind the breakup was that I was a little too clingy and she needed her space. She claimed that the relationship was unhealthy which now that I look back it is very true. Fact is that I still am very much in love with her and I do want her back in my life but not so the same problem repeats itself. She initiated no contact. At first I was really crushed and confused but I realized that this is a good time to figure what went wrong and how to improve myself so this problem doesn't have to repeat itself. I'm at the point where I realize the relationship is over but now I want to build a better one for the both of us. We went out for half a year. At this point I can accept the fact that if she says no, I am going to respect that decision. Is this the right mindset to go about this or am I just crazy?", "summary": "friends with ex 3 years before going out and she left because she thought relationship was toxic. What is the proper mindset to win her back or am I crazy?  Went out for 6 months"}
{"id": "t3_1t85ug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a senior she's a freshman...", "post": "So I'm a guy and my neighbor, the girl, have known each other for four years or so and have talked off and on. Now we really like each other and I'm conflicted on what the next step forward is.I really like this girl and I made the decision to stay in state for college a long time ago before we started really talking. I'll most likely go to the dorms but on the off chance that I do not take out a loan and live at home should I pursue the relationship. \nThen there's the fact that I'm 17 and she's 15 and in two months I'll be 18. I'm not sure what I should do and I'm really conflicted. Offer me some advice...please.", "summary": "I'm a senior she's a freshman"}
{"id": "t3_keire", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do you get tattooed?", "post": "I got into a extremely heated argument with a co-worker today about having tattoos.  I was told that they look stupid and that I will regret them some day, followed by questions that made me look a punk kid by the people that over-heard it.  I must ask you, reddit, why do you get tattooed?  I have a full sleeve on my left arm and right lower leg as well as many others.  They signify people Ive lost, the fact that Im a horror movie/sci-fi geek, and that I love my wife.  I would also like to hear from those that do not like them and why.", "summary": "why do you like tattoos? why do you get them?  why DONT you like tattoos?"}
{"id": "t3_1lhktt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24M) found pictures on my girlfriends (22M) computer of naked girls sent to her cheating ex-boyfriend.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nWeird situation and I'm not sure what to do. Quick backstory, my girlfriend and I have been dating about 4 months and things are going really well. She got out out of a bad relationship where her ex boyfriend cheated on her. As far as she knew it was only with one girl and that's it. They've split up and he's not longer in the picture, we started dating and things are going swimmingly. We're at our \"I love yous\" stage and have been intimate. \n\nRecently I was going through her computer looking for her resume she couldn't find, and I stumbled upon some pictures. They are nudes that were received just around and before the time they would have spit apart. So its possible he was sleeping with more than one girl , or at least messing around with.\n\nMy question is should I bring this up with her. He's out of the picture and it hardly matters now, but she probably has the right to know that things may have been worse than what she thought.", "summary": "Found pictures sent to my girlfriend's cheating ex of girls she doesn't know about. Conflicted on whether or not to tell herT"}
{"id": "t3_308tqq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing outside", "post": "My apartment building has a very strange phenomenon where people will just sit in their cars for extended periods of time.  Why?  I have no fucking clue.  This one lady I know for a fact lives there and I see her every afternoon sitting there when I pull in after work, and still sitting there a half hour later after I take a shower.  The building faces the ocean, but these people choose to back into the parking spot so they are facing the building, middle of winter so it's cold as balls outside, and just sit there.  Doing who the hell knows what.  It's so weird.\n\nAnyway one morning I wake up and my roommates rockin a piss already.  It's one of those mornings where I simply could not wait 30 seconds for him to finish, I had to piss *now*.  I did the only logical thing and swung open the sliding door to the deck (that faces the parking lot/ocean) and do my business in the warm doorway, giving that dirty deck a nice golden shower. \n\nThis happened at 6:15 am.  Before I pissed everywhere I was careful to check out the lot.  Every single car was off.  There was no wind; it was silent. I was sure no cars were running.  I scanned each car individually and they all appeared totally empty.  Perfect, open the flood gates.\n\nBut as fate would have it, on the one god damn morning I decide to piss out the deck door, halfway through my business some lone motherfucker just swings his car door open and hops out like it's nothing out of the ordinary to sit in his car at 6:15am doing literally nothing.  I had my pants pulled down just enough to reveal just my dick; I don't even care if he saw it.  I cared more about cutting off the flow and not dribbling all over the inside rug for fuck's sakes.\n\nWhat the fuck though, does anyone else experience this?  People who live in a nice cushy apartment yet they will just... sit in their cars, regardless of the time of day?", "summary": "pissed out the deck doorway in front of presumed empty parking lot early in the morning before the sun was even up, one guy hops out of car out of nowhere and probably saw everything"}
{"id": "t3_52rfel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself [23F] with my fiance [29M] my parents [58M & 51F] I don't know if I want them to attend my wedding.", "post": "I posted this question to /r/confession the other day and got some good advice, but my fiance and I wanted to hear from a broader audience as well, if possible. Copy/Paste job below:\n\nMy fiance and I are planning for our wedding next year and I don't know what to do when it comes to my parents. Our relationship has never been perfect, but two years ago everything came to a head and I haven't directly spoken to them in over a year. I still love my parents but I really don't want them to attend the ceremony, but I feel like I should invite them because:\n\n1. My fiance's family has no idea about the strained relationship in my family and it would be humiliating to have to explain why my parents aren't there and\n\n2. I already don't have any other relatives other than my sister that I would invite, or many other people for that matter\n\nEvery day I'm conflicted on whether or not to even tell them I'm engaged, let alone getting married in less than a year. I want them there but at the same time I really don't, yet I want my parents back but I truly am better off without them. I feel like there's thick tar being constantly poured down my throat because I can't come to a decision about any of this. What would you do if you were in my shoes?", "summary": "Invite more-or-less estranged parents to wedding. Yes, no, maybe so?"}
{"id": "t3_1wecld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24f] My [24m] ex has returned", "post": "I met my ex boyfriend about 2 years ago and when I met him I knew that he was known to get around quite a bit with females and I knew if I slept with him id get attached. He has a very charming personality. Well eventually I did sleep with him and I did get attached. He was fun to be around and we had so many good moments. We \"talked\" for about a year before I couldn't take it anymore and I had to give him an ultimatum of either being in a relationship with me or separating from each other. He reluctantly chose a relationship. We were together for a year but the relationship left a lot to be desired. Throughout the time I couldn't trust him and for good reason (females would pop up at his home, ridiculously possessive of his phone, caught his ex girlfriend over his house, never wanting to take pictures together or show affection in public, constantly voicing his desire for other women) and I voiced my anxiety of not being able to trust him. He broke up with me. Saying that we've always made better friends and be never wanted to be in a relationship in the first place. We've been out of a relationship for the past 8 months but still sleep together. I haven't slept with anyone else during that 8 months but I'm sure he has. Well in the past 3 weeks I've met someone else who I REALLY like. He's funny, handsome, smart, and just extremely kind. In the past few days though my ex has come back around (I swear SO's can sense when you're moving on) and he's been texting me, asking what I'm doing Valentine's Day now says he wants to \"talk\" about our relationship and I'm almost certain he wants to get back together. I still love him. He was my best friend but I don't want to ruin or kill what me and my new potential friend are creating. What should I do? Should I just let my ex go and see what happens or should I give my ex another chance maybe he realizes how much he misses what we had?", "summary": "Fell in love with a guy I had extreme trouble trusting, was broken up with but I couldn't move on, now I'm finally moving on with someone I think is awesome and my ex  who I'm still in love with has returned."}
{"id": "t3_2ys4gc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] got stood up by my date [21/F]. Should I try again?", "post": "Last weekend (before our spring break) we had planned to meet on a Friday, but we re-scheduled for noon on Sunday as it was more convenient because we both had work to do.\n\nIn light of this, I didn't pick up an extra shift at work before going out of town, because I thought I'd be having lunch or whatever with this girl.\n\nWell, Sunday rolls around and it's noon, and I waited for a text but nothing. I waited TWO hours, still nothing. So I texted her, \"Hey what's the deal, are we getting food? If you're not ready I'm going to eat cause Im really hungry\". She says \"Go eat! I'm about to go on a run, and then run errands with [roommate]!\" wtf? \"So let's just plan for dinner, then?\" She never texted back.\n\nNow, this really pisses me off. Like, I set a whole day aside *planning* on meeting up with this girl. I don't care if you dont like me or dont want to go on this date with me, fucks sake just tell me instead of making plans and having them fall through.\n\nSo, yesterday I bump into her on campus. She says \"Sorry! I meant to text you but had to finish an essay! But I'll text you!\" I didn't really respond. An essay, at the start of spring break? I thought about going off on how it was rude to stand me up etc, but I didn't.\n\nSo at dinner tonight I was with a mutual friend and she said this girl, in all honesty, had forgotten to text me. She had forgotten about the whole thing. I've never done something like that before, not even with insignificant plans. It may just be me, but it sounds like a load of horseshit to me. \n\nLater in the evening I got a text from her. Should I ask her to hang out again, or just not respond and tell her (in my head) to fuck off?", "summary": "Got stood up by a girl, friend says she just forgot about the date. Texted me tonight, should I try again?"}
{"id": "t3_3t28lz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by leaving a sticky fly trap on the floor", "post": "This happened a few months ago actually.\n\nSo, a few months ago I had a fly problem in my house, way to many of them, so I bought some fly catchers from home depot.\n\nLong story short they didn't work and I ended up leaving them were they were because I thought its probably better to have something than nothing.\n\nNext thing that happened is my cat found the fly trap and got her fur stuck on. Luckily I was nearby in the living room so I got the fly trap off by pulling it off slowly, fur coming off.\n\nMy cat is still alive and healthy and the flytrap is probably in the dump by now.", "summary": "left flycatcher on the ground, cat got it stuck on her fur, she is still fine.***"}
{"id": "t3_51q3f6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Please help me find a new pair of zero drop, lightweight pair of shoes for my flat feet!", "post": "Hey folks,\n\nI hope I'm at the right place to get some recommendations from you experienced runners out there. \nI've been doing some research, but it really is getting a bit difficult for me to find the right pair of shoes that deliver my needs, especially being that my options for trying on actual pairs are quite limited!\n\nSo here's me: I run about 25-30 miles a week. My feet show quite a bit of overpronation, which shows in a lot of my old regular casual shoes, as the midsoles are permanently tilted inwards. To combat my conditions, I have practiced and am quite comfortable landing on my fore/mid-foot, thanks to my current pair of Altra Impulse. However, ever since I moved from heel landing to fore/mid-foot landing, I have been experiencing a bit of tightness on the bottom of my feet, like a mild plantar-fasciitis. Not only that, I'm about to be on my third pair of Altras because they tore on my right foot outside area! I think it's time for me to find a new fit.", "summary": "Summary:"}
{"id": "t3_2ofnkh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [23M] is extremely unhappy with his job. How can I [23F] motivate him to find something else?", "post": "My SO and I have been together for three years. During that time, he's had some trouble with jobs. He cannot afford to go to college at this point, and in order to go to school for what he'd like to do we would have to move about an hour away, (which, at this point in time, we cannot afford but are saving up to do so). \n\nHe's currently extremely unhappy with his job, so much so that he seems incredibly depressed all of the time. His boss doesn't listen to him, (he is in a management position), and also has been cutting his hours. I would love for him to find something else, but he feels like he any job that he would get would be exactly the same. He has issues with anxiety, and filling out job applications causing him so much stress that he seems to shut down. I try to motivate him to find something he likes, or anything that will be different from his current situation, but it's almost like he sees no hope in anything. \n\nI want to be supportive, I listen to all of the problems he has at work, and I offer suggestions to make it more bearable. I'm also doing my best to present him with other places in town that he could apply to. His unhappiness at work is affecting him so much at home that I just want him to be able to quit this job and find something else. We would like to have children one day, but ideally when he has a job that he is comfortable and stable in.\n\nHow can I motivate him to really push past his comfort zones and show him that better jobs do exist?", "summary": "My SO is incredibly unhappy at his job and sees no hope for any other workplace. How can I motivate him to seek other work?"}
{"id": "t3_crsc3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I realized my former girlfriend had been cheating on me. What should I do with her other boyfriend to get back?", "post": "So long story short, I had been dating a girl for a couple of months, and we ended our relationship just about two months ago, because she was moving to Wales, and I was moving to Los Angeles. We ended on good terms, and still talked every now and then. This morning, I got a message from another man, claiming to be her boyfriend for over a year. I check out his FB profile, and sure enough, there are pictures of him and her making out. He explained that he was visiting her in Wales, and while visiting, saw texts between her and I. We start talking, and realize she had been playing us both. She now is denying everything her and I did together (including things she mentioned in the before mentioned texts), and says we only went out once. She of course, has never mentioned him to me before. I won't go into more details, but it is becoming clear that our entire relationship(s) were based on one lie after another (including telling him she was pregnant with his child). Right now, it's just him and me, but he claims he has gotten in contact with a third guy who she was involved with during our time dating.\n\nAs him and I unravel her secrets, I am wondering if you guys have any thoughts on what to do. Her and I had alot of great times together, and really felt like she could've been one I could spend my entire life with if we ever got back in the same city. It seemed like we had alot in common, and now I'm wondering if those things she said were yet another in her long line of lies.\n\nReddit, revenge help, or relationship help, both would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "BITCH LIED! WHAT TO DO?"}
{"id": "t3_192cuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Coming up on 4 years, [25M] hates having to treat his SO [25F] extra special while not getting a lot in return. How can I get this point across without sounding \"unmanly\" or needy?", "post": "I am lucky in a few ways: I know she loves me, isn't money-grubbing, and is good in bed, which many will say is plenty, but really those are just the minimums for being a good girlfriend, aren't they? Shouldn't your girlfriend love you regardless of money and make you feel good physically? So those don't count.\n\nShe is often impunctual while I am not. If she's tired she makes me take her home, as though me having fun doesn't count. If we do stay out she sulks. If it's chilly outside she won't dress up because \"she's cold,\" and if she does I have to hear about it the whole time, like she wants to remind me \"look how much effort this is for you.\" Meanwhile I'm just as cold and keeping quiet.", "summary": "It comes down to \"Thing I Do Standard\" is the same as \"Thing She Does And Thinks Is Extra.\" Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_4ug5bs", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[NYC] Signed \"lease\" without knowing it was under the table - found out later it was - can I leave?", "post": "Signed a \"lease\" and paid $300 dollars for a so called \"sub-lease fee\". I later found out that it is under the table and all they did was put my name down as a visitor in the guest book and the money went to the doorman to put me in the book. \n\nI was **completely unaware** of that until the move in day and the doorman had no clue who I was. I had to call the person who \"sub-leased\" me the apt, and he explained to the doorman the situation...and eventually I was let up. I was than explained the situation by the person who subleased it to me later that day. \n\nI had no where else to live, so I have stayed here for about 2 months now. \n\nI am in NYC for a project that has ended earlier than expected and I would like to leave. There has been many issues with the apt, more people living here than told, etc. \n\nThe \"lease\" I signed is until the middle of August. Is there any legitimacy to this \"lease\"? Do I have to pay him for what I signed? It's a lease templet pulled off of the internet.", "summary": "I signed a lease and payed a \"sub-lease\" fee believing that it was a legitimate process. Later found out it was under the table and the doorman was paid the \"sub-lease fee\" to put my name down in the guest book for the time I am here. Have had many issues and want to leave. Is the lease legitimate? Can I leave and not pay for the remaining time?"}
{"id": "t3_3ghias", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29] dad [66] has been seeing a woman [30s] for many years behind my mom's [58] back. My mom cannot drive, has cancer, and is house bound mostly. And I want to confront him.", "post": "So my dad met \"Jessica\" when he worked at a school. My dad used to talk about her all of the time. At the time my mom would get annoyed but would let him have his \"friend\". One day my mom found a secret email address he was using to talk to her and confronted him. He told her it was all innocent but my mom was suspicious as he could have easily just talked to her openly. \n\nFast forward to about a couple years later and he starts talking about a new girl. He at first gives her a different name. However it doesn't take long for my mom to figure it out that it's Jessica again. She confronts him and he says yeah but there is nothing between them.\n\nThen he retires last year from the school. My mom is relieved as he no longer sees Jessica daily. Well, it continues now in secret texts, pictures, and phone calls. He also has started tower her in his favorite \"fishing\" spots. My mom is now diagnosed with cancer, not working, and cannot drive. She confronted him again about it and explained to him how deeply it hurt her to see he is doing this. He agrees, cries, and apologizes. \n\nToday my dad woke me up and called me to drive me to the ER as he was by feeling well. When I took him in, he didn't bring his cell. He is having surgery, so I came home to check on my sick mom. Lo and behold, there is his cell phone. I open it up to check it and he has tons of phone calls back and forth with her under her initials JB. I told my mom but she does not want to confront him. I do. She is afraid because she needs him to take her to her treatments. I just want justice. What do I do?", "summary": "My dad is cheating on my mom and I want to confront him but my mom doesn't want to in order to be cared for during her cancer."}
{"id": "t3_2243zy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F22] boyfriend [M24] of a year and a half may have ADHD. Curious about anyone's experience dating someone with ADHD.", "post": "I saw a few posts on reddit relating to relationship issues when someone has ADHD. A couple of those issues resonated with me when thinking about my current relationship. I'm with someone who has casually said in the past that he thinks he might have ADHD but had never been diagnosed with it.\nIssues include seeming inconsiderate, causing me to get upset about lateness, left out information, etc.\nImpulsivity in regards to things he decides to do without taking into account my thoughts or feelings.\nLack of romance.\n\nThere are obviously other issues and examples of my suspicion, but this is mainly to see other people's experience dating someone with any degree of ADHD so I can asses my feelings better and maybe talk to him about seeing someone about his possible diagnosis.\nSorry if this is not suited here. Perhaps direct me in the right direction if so.", "summary": "boyfriend seems to have symptoms of ADHD, impeding on relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3wvxez", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Odd payment request?", "post": "I'm unsure if this would be the correct subreddit, as it didn't seem to fit in elsewhere, maybe askreddit or legal? If not, here goes.  \n\nA little background, I'm in the military and looking to buy some car parts. I saw on the Perrin Performance website that they have a \"Military and first responder discount\" [reddit!] . To be approved for this, you need to email or call the representative listed with a few requirements and also list the parts you wish to purchase.  \n\nAfter sending all of this I received an email this afternoon statin all of the (newly) priced items at about 10-15% discount (awesome!). The email also includes the following text, which I found incredibly off.\n\n> If you'd like to complete an order, feel free to call or email me with your credit card number, expiration date, and 3 digit code OR send a paypal payment to sales@perrinperformance.com, just put it to my attention.  \n\nI shot the representative an email back asking if he could somehow give me a discount code equalling the amount of the discount I was to receive noted in his email, as it didn't feel right to do either of the options listed. I am also going to call tomorrow to see if he could answer some other questions I may have. \n\nI can't wrap my head around it being a scam, as it is from a reputable company, it just seems odd that the initial payment options listed were what he mentioned.   \n\nAny help or suggestions would be great, or maybe someone has used their discounts before? For all I know this is completely normal, but I've never been asked to send my \"credit card number, expiration, and 3 digit code\" to someone via email.", "summary": "want to buy car parts, inquired about military discount, received email back with discounted prices but asked to pay by email/paypal."}
{"id": "t3_24fdj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M 19] get to know girl [F20] from college more?", "post": "(Please bear with me as you read. I've never talked to a girl this much, I am clueless and lost and don't know what to do)\n\nSo, I'm in college, been talking to a girl who's really intelligent and down to earth. I've been walking with her to her next class every day (she came up to me after class once and that's how it started) and...well, I don't know what to do to go further. I really enjoy talking to her, and I think she does too because otherwise she wouldn't start talking to me after class.\n\nThe semester is ending, I think the only class we have left together is gonna be finals. What do I do? Should I wait after the test and ask for her number? And how? \n\nOr add her on FB? I feel pretty intrusive if I look her up on FB. \nThe reason I might be overthinking this is because this girl is pretty mature and intelligent compared to all the girls I've met, I find that quite intimidating but charming.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_ovecb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Help With A Surprise For Our Son", "post": "Ok, long story short.  I recently ended employment at a position that made it impossible to spend time with my family on any type of consistent basis.  I have since left that job, and with some savings and honestly some help from networking we are able to take our son to Disney World for his 1st time.  He is soon to be 8.  \n\nI would like to surprise him and maybe even make a silly little video because I know for certain he will freak out and maybe even cry, and when he is older I would like for him to see it and Id like to share a laugh with him over it.\n\nAt the moment, I have the idea of getting a puzzle like 24pc and on the back put a golden ticket type thing.  And make the puzzle pieces a treasure hunt.  And when he finds the last piece the directions will be to assemble the puzzle and tape it and flip it over where he will read his invitation and then he will get a backpack filled with some disney stuff and whatnot.  \n\nI was just wondering if you could help with something a bit more unique?  I dont have the best imagination when it comes to this stuff, and I know this will be the only time we will ever be able to afford something like this.", "summary": "Would like to hear suggestions on how to surprise our child with the news that he is going to disneyworld."}
{"id": "t3_4y9yg2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Feeling lame because all my friends are moving in and I'm stuck at home. Any advice to get over this?", "post": "Hi!\n\nSo here's some background information-all my friends and I are recent high school graduates and incoming college freshmen. All of my friends are moving except for me-my family can't afford to get me a dorm, so I'll be commuting.\n\nIt's move in week for a lot of schools. Everyone's posting about how they're \"so excited\" and how \"beautiful their dorm is\" and \"getting dinner with the roomie!\" Since I'm commuting, I'll be living at home and won't get to do these fun things. I had accepted this as fact beforehand, but seeing everyone's cool posts makes me feel lame for being stuck at home with Mommy and Daddy in my old bedroom because I didn't get enough financial aid/scholarship money. I'm also kind of concerned because my school is an hour away one-way, and I'm worried that the distance will prevent me from making new friends as easily-something I was super excited about (high school drama ate me alive). \n\nAnyway, I wrote this vaguely whiny post because I wanted to know if you guys had any advice about feeling less pathetic or making friends while I'm at home. Or is this something that I'm just going to have to ride out...? I'm planning on moving in next year if I get enough money, but right now I'm just not sure if that'll be a possibility.", "summary": "Wondering if there's anything I could do to feel less lame about commuting instead of moving in."}
{"id": "t3_15mjvk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to give my mum the recognition she deserves without her getting offended or upset?", "post": "Hi!\nMy mum's raised me on her own, ever since my father died when I was seven.\nEven though we don't always get on, I truly appreciate all the sacrifices she's made and hard work that she's put in (by caring for a young girl with little money for the past decade.) She cares for my grandma, and she helps so many people in our neighborhood. For this, she gets little recognition.\n\nI recently got my inheritance from my father, and I want to treat her the way she deserves.\n\nI thought about putting money from my inheritance in my purse, but that would go straight back to me, or not spent on herself. Also, it's doubtful she'd accept a money sum, as she's too modest to truly accept it.\n\nI have no idea what to do, all I know is I want to let her know she is truly loved and appreciated by so many people, and now I have the funds, maybe splash out a bit?\n\nAny ideas as to what I could do?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Absolute star of a mum deserves something brilliant, any ideas? :D"}
{"id": "t3_1sguv0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do coworkers do that drive you crazy but are powerless to change?", "post": "So this might be ignored/downvoted because its born out of a rant, but we'll see.\n\nI currently have a coworker that just plain sucks. Because the team is so small its impossible to resolve this without making things a lot worse. There's no way I can complain about her actions without getting ostracized.\n\nShe spends hours of the week on the phone to her family and constantly brings her family problems to work. Right now shes pleading with her 3 year old daughter to go to an after school class and has been on the phone for 15 minutes.\n\nThere's plenty more but I don't have the time to put it all down.\n\n/", "summary": "my coworker is ignorant and makes it hard to do my job."}
{"id": "t3_342ohr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Over break, I [16 M] worked with this girl [15 F] who apparently goes to my school. However, I literally never see her. I felt a really strong connection, and I felt like it went two ways. How can I contact her in a way that isn't awkward?", "post": "So I work at this place in my town that is a volunteer-basis. I volunteered, and she was there with me. I usually have a tough time talking to girls, but I really felt like I could talk to her. I really felt a strong connection, and I get the feeling that she liked me a bit as well.\n\nApparently, she goes to my school (about 1,000 students, HS). I had literally never even seen her before, and I am pretty sure I  will never see her again, or until at least next year. I want to contact her, but I didn't get a phone number or anything. How can I possibly get in contact with her that doesn't make it seem like I am stalking her?", "summary": "Felt connection with girl, but never see her. How should I make contact?"}
{"id": "t3_280f0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [25 M] and his [27 F] 3 years. Just got engaged and 1 year ago she tried to cheat on him with me.", "post": "Perhaps not the correct sub reddit in theory but I think it's perfect. I need advice from people in relationships whether or not people would want to know if their partner tried to cheat before they got married and how you would react.\n\nCircumstances:\n\n3 of us where out drunk and my best friend and his gf started having a huge fight. Massively awkward for me. She stormed off and we were in a rough area; she is small and petite so my best mate asked to me chase after her and make sure she gets in a taxi and home safe.\n\nWe walked chatted and got a taxi and she came on to me and was very forward.\n\nShe said something a long the lines of, let's go back to yours and I can stay over.I said no that's not going to happen and I awkwardly seen her home.\n\nHe has been my best friend or 14 years and I decided that it was best to leave it because who knows if she would try and flip the situation and lie etc. They were going through a rough time and honestly though it would have a natural end in the near future.\n\nShould I tell him now 1 year on?", "summary": "best friend and gf got engaged; his gf tried to cheat on him with me and I declined. How should I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_44sur2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] fianc\u00e9 [31M] doesn't understand my anxiety issues! How can I explain to him that it's serious and not something completely of my control?", "post": "So, I've dealt with some anxiety/panic disorder issues since my college years. The worst of it was prior to me meeting him where I pretty much had a breakdown and started an antidepressant pill. \n\nI met him about a year after this and because of how well my life was going, and things were stable I decided to get off of the medication and test run how my anxiety was at that point. Well, things have been going pretty great until about six months ago when my medical boards occurred and other life changes to where my anxiety slowly started creeping back in and lately where I've been kind of going through some troublesome moments.\n\nNow, I don't like being on medication unless it is absolutely necessary and there's no other options or coping mechanisms for it. The thing is, he just thinks anxiety can disappear and truly doesn't understand it. His mother has severe anxiety so I'm just surprised he isn't more understanding of when I ask for space or react in different ways. \n\nHas anyone here been in a similar situation where your SO doesn't understand mental health? I'm pretty outgoing but sometimes certain situations/potential health scares will get me thinking and concerned and I can panic.", "summary": "Suffer with anxiety and my fianc\u00e9 of 3 years still doesn't understand my issues and how anxiety affects my life. How can I get him to understand it's not something in my control?"}
{"id": "t3_fk81q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What kinds of unintentional bad-assery have you committed?", "post": "Something that happened this morning inspired this. I was laying on our love seat, which is perpendicular to the wall the TV is on. My two year old daughter was sitting on the sofa, around 3-4 feet behind me, flipping through a coloring book and being cute as all get-out. I randomly extended my arm sideways and felt something hit my hand, which triggered an immediate fist clenching. Stunned, I looked at my hand - I had caught a crayon that my daughter threw without looking. I turned to look at her, thinking she had gotten down and put the crayon in my hand, but she was still sitting on the sofa, just looking at me.", "summary": "caught a crayon without meaning to and without looking that my daughter threw from 3-4 feet behind me."}
{"id": "t3_1ro2th", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my potential girlfriend [24 F] After two weeks, \"Reaching and Settling\" dilemma", "post": "During a game of \"Never have I ever\" the question of \"1-10 scale\" had come up. I gave her my honest opinion. I believed that she was an 8. She told me that she found me to be a 6 and a half. This actually threw me for a loop. I'm generally found to be fairly physically attractive by my partners. My question is as follows:\n\nIs this a relationship that's worth pursuing? In terms of sexual chemistry we seem to fall short. (She doesn't kiss with tongue or like what I like). Aside from that our personalities fit together very well. I'm just curious if this base level of attraction is indicative of problems in the future. If I'm not her type and she chooses to date me what kind of challenges will that bring up later? I do have to admit that I'm bothered by the fact that I (physically) barely meet her most basic requirements for attraction.\n\nAny thoughts/bits of advice?", "summary": "A girl and I met and like each other, but in terms of physical appearance I'm not her type. Is this worth pursuing?"}
{"id": "t3_2jr272", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend[18 M] of 2 years, I can't seem to feel normal about sex with him", "post": "My man and I have been together for 2 years, and while we have been intimate throughout the majority of the relationship, we recently started having sex.\n\nRecently, my sex drive has dropped. If he is sweet and turns me on, I completely enjoy the sex and have a great time, but if he doesn't initiate, I usually just forget, and I feel like I'm forgetting about his needs.\n\nThe real problem lies in the fact that I always feel guilty about wanting sex or after having sex. I have never been abused, and while my family is religious, my parents never had *the talk* with me, and they never really discouraged sex either. I don't know how to get over this feeling of guilt.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend and feel comfortable with him, but feel guilty about having sex with him."}
{"id": "t3_3g35dp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my husband [39M] together 11 years. He used to have sex with me while I was sleeping and I can't get over it.", "post": "My husband (39m) and I (31f) have been together since I was a young adult and we have three kids. For a while, in addition to any other issues I might have had with him, he would only want to have sex with me after I had already been asleep. I would wake up to him fingering me or even as he was starting to penetrate me. Each time this happened I would tell him it made me feel terrible and please don't do it again. But he would still do it. His excuse was that he didn't know I was asleep and he thought I was into it.\n\nThere are some other issues aside from this, but generally he is a kind, supportive, encouraging person. He wants me to be happy. He never talks to be in a bad or mean way. Lately he's finally stopped doing the sex while I'm sleeping, but I realize I'm not really attracted to him anymore. In fact, when he kisses or touches me I'm almost repulsed. I feel horrible because he tells me how much he loves me and how good sex feels, I'm honestly not sure I love him anymore.\n\nAnyway, I guess my question to you guys is--Do you think I'm being ridiculous in letting this get to me as much as it has? I know we should do counseling, but we just can't afford the copay for each session right now. Is there anything I can do to get over this while we're waiting to go to counseling?", "summary": "Husband used to have sex with me while I was asleep, now doesn't. How do I get over it and make the marriage good again?"}
{"id": "t3_3fb0l9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking Netfrix wouldn't be such an asshole", "post": "So I just started my new month yesterday on my cell phone plan. \n\nI decide to put on some Netfrix, but I'm currently without an internet connection. I didn't feel like using my phone to watch, so I decided to tether to my laptop and lower the bitrate to the lowest possible setting (Alt+Ctrl+Shift+S in my browser at least.)\n\nI only planned to watch one episode, but I ended up letting it roll on to the next.\n\n3/4 of the way thru the second episode I get a text saying I used all my data.\n\nI don't know what I expected, for some reason I suppose I just assumed, same session=same settings.\n\nFML I now have to go 30 days with the most shit throttled bullshit data. I'm blaming Netfrix, frankly it's the only Damn thing I CAN complain about with Netfrix. \n\nWell.. there is the fact that you can't transfer profiles across accounts... or that you can't delete items off your history without deleting the whole profile. Yeah see Netfrix is preeettty good... Fuck you Netfrix. You're not that great. Also the last season of arrested development was disappointing. My friends ps3 shows different thumbnails for the same shows on the same type ps3 as mine with the SAME", "summary": "I used all my data by thinking Netfrix would actually keep the bitrate limits I set in the same session."}
{"id": "t3_gpm8t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Well, I'm terribly confused about how to proceed with an awesome lady friend", "post": "Ok, this is not simple. Me = 21 year old male, Gf = 21 year old female, Awesome girl = 21 year old female. Recently, me and my gf have been having a few issues, mostly stemming from me just kinda falling out of love. It sucks, but it happens. Now, I recently met and started talking to this other girl. At first it was innocent but we got some crazy conversations going. Then her bf broke up with her after a long break. She lost faith in relationships and just wants to sleep around. I am breaking away from my gf, and I want this girl like no one's business. We've already had some relations, but I want her for my own. Issue is, she doesn't want a relationship and she is kinda sleeping with another guy. Kinda because tonight may be the first time since we really hit it off. She seems to like me a lot, and not just for the sex. Reddit, I want this girl.", "summary": "How do I claim a girl for myself when the universe is against me?"}
{"id": "t3_3nlgxt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Uninsured and deep into hospital bill debt at only 20. Don't know how to tackle the debt. Also, I might have been scammed.", "post": "Hi, here is some background info on me.\nDue to my weight I have gone to the ER for the first time at 19 due to chest pain, and twitching(thought I was dying). The doctors said it was from stress, and that I need to learn how to not be so stressed out. Gave them my insurance info, turns out my insurance was obsolete, mom never informed me, so they billed me about $900. Ever since I have made an effort to try and pay off the debt, even getting a second job, and haggling to a lower monthly premium. Since then however I lost both of my jobs and was unable to pay it. Strangely, they just stopped taking the $75 from my bank account every month. \nIn fact, this has caused me to believe that I might have been scammed because...\nI called the debt collector Grace, she never picks up\n\n * They don't send me letters anymore about the debt\n* Every time I call she seems to be away* Once I called and they said she \"switched directories or w/e\"\n* They don't send me letters anymore about the debt\nI have also been sent another bill from the hospital. I was in a car accident and was hit from behind by a truck. Somehow I lived, but my spine has never been the same. I am nervous about paying this bill because of my experience from the last. I don't even think I can pay it off due to my other debts that piled up from me losing my jobs. I make $7.50 an hour, how can I pay off this money while affording to eat...??", "summary": "Might have been scammed when trying to repay bills, have more bills to pay and not making enough to pay them off, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_192axs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with those irresponsible types of neighbors?", "post": "About a year ago a new family moved into a house next door to my family's house. Over the past year they've been nothing but obnoxious. Here's a few examples of what i'm talking about:\n\n* Their son threw rocks from over the fence at our dogs. (This kid is at least 7-9 years old)\n\n* Their son barked back at our dog for a solid 15 minutes at 8 in the morning... on a weekend.\n\n* Just recently they got a puppy and it is constantly whining and crying (loudly) outside in their backyard. They don't play with this dog much I assume. However the whining goes on for at least 1-3 hours in the mornings and at night.\n\n*  they have a back light that shines directly into my room when on, they often leave this light on for days at a time, i've actually asked politely if they could remember to turn the light off because it shines brightly into my room which makes it difficult to sleep (for school the next day).\n\nNow i'm only 17 so im not sure how serious they'll take me, however it just seems like one problem after another.", "summary": "annoying neighbors, how do i deal?"}
{"id": "t3_28o1l5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [M24] being unreasonable with my fiancee [F24] of 3 years?", "post": "I'll preface this with the fact that we accidentally had a son 2 years ago. \n\nAnyway... We moved in together about a year ago, and after several months we ran out of things to talk about that weren't work (mainly because I left my friends and family behind and her friends just stopped talking to her). We had decided that we were going to try out hobbies and favorite shows of one another that we hadn't tried before (so as to potentially give us something else to do).\n\nFast forward a few months and I'd already picked up Doctor Who, The Sims, Friends, Weeds, Boy Meets World, and a few other shows/games I normally had no interest in. On the other hand, she'd made no attempts whatsoever to actually try anything I liked to do.\n\nAbout 2-3 weeks ago, I sat her down and we watched the first episode of Avatar: the Last Airbender. She claims to have fallen in love with the show. Every night since we started, one of the first things she'll say after getting home and eating will be \"Can we watch Avatar?\" and she expects me to put it on regardless of what I'm playing (on my", "summary": "She claims to be interested in a show I'm in love with, but every time she makes me turn off whatever I'm doing so we can \"watch it together,\" she needs me to pause or rewind every 5 minutes because she \"got distracted\" on her phone. Am I unreasonable for getting agitated at this kind of behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_256mrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] now ex-gf [22 F] slept with her ex 3 days after breaking up with me.", "post": "My ex and I were seriously in love. We dated for about 7 months. She has a troubled past and was hurt a lot by guys.  She wasn't ready for a serious relationship even though she wanted to be and ended it with me. 3 days later she sleeps with a guy she used to see before me. She says it's easier for her to have just a \"physical\" relationship than have both physical and feelings. Hard to explain.\n\nBasically, I'm just really struggling right now. I miss her and I still love her. I'm giving her the space she needs but she still says she misses me. I was starting to try to move on when she texted me saying she misses me. I care so much about this girl even still. I'm in pain but I don't want to lose her for good. Any advice or anything - thank you.", "summary": "My ex whom I love sleeps with other guy 3 days after breaking up with me. She still cares for me and I, her. I don't know whether to move on completely or still be there for her."}
{"id": "t3_3xx1qb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] think my sister [29/F] is irresponsible for letting her children [5/M and 9/F] stay up past midnight. What should I do?", "post": "My 29 year old sister is a single mom of 2 children. She recently moved back in with our parents. I am home from graduate school for Christmas break. I asked my 5 year old nephew yesterday what time his bedtime was and he said he didn't have one. I thought he must be joking. Then I witnessed for myself that they truly do not have a bedtime.\n\nLast night they stayed up until 1am running around and playing on their tablets and cell phones. I couldn't believe she let a 5 year old stay up that late. \n\nIt is affecting me because when they stay up late, they bother me all night long, coming into my room, wanting to play. She doesn't watch them. Half of the time, she goes to sleep and I am forced to stay up late watching them.\n\nWhat should I do about this? Am I crazy to think that a 5 year old and 9 year old should have a reasonable bedtime and not just stay up all night? I know it's Christmas break, but this is really annoying me. Is it appropriate for me to tell her that she needs to get them to bed at a respectable hour?", "summary": "29 year old sister let's her kids stay up late at night and annoy me all night long. What can i do about this?"}
{"id": "t3_18m5ng", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you get someone you dislike to stop talking to you?", "post": "I remained friends with my ex and I'm regretting it. He won't stop talking to me. He still rang me every day after I broke up with him, and wouldn't stop until my friends (plural) rang him and told him I was considering a restraining order. That was a while ago now, but he still pounces every single time I log into any instant messenger, including Facebook. I've tried ignoring/short answers/\"I'm very busy\", and I'm too much of a coward to outright say \"I don't like you, please go away\", so he just... keeps.... TALKING........ \n\nand also keeps jimmying for staying over at my place while expo's on, because he lives further away. This would be a) all kinds of awkward because I live with my current SO who hates him, and b) awful because *he is an awful person and i do not like spending time with him", "summary": "how to politely & without offense remove somebody from your life"}
{"id": "t3_3ltpdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend's[18F] SO[19F] of 1 year is going to study abroad. How do I comfort her?", "post": "I'm asking for a friend, because she doesn't feel like going out and doesn't really feel like talking to anyone about what happened.\n\nMy friend, Cathy, has had a complicated relationship with her SO, Jaime, for the past year, they both love each other but know they can't end up together due to religious reasons, so they chose not to pursue a full-fledged relationship. However, they are still really good friends who know they love each other very much. \n\nRecently, Cathy found out that Jaime is going to study abroad for the next six years, and she is devastated by the news. She knows that they never had a chance of being an item, but she hates that she is going to lose a great friend that she loves so much. As a result, she started to stay at home and said that she's lonely but didn't want to go out because she didn't feel like doing so. \n\nCathy said that she's afraid no one will listen when she needs someone to talk to, and I'm trying my best to comfort her right now. I've told her that she can always talk to me and I've asked her if she wants to talk about it, but she didn't really want to. She also didn't feel like talking to a helpline or anything. \n\nI'm not sure if she wants to talk about it, and what I can do to help her. Any advice?", "summary": "Friend's SO is going to study abroad, what can I do to help?"}
{"id": "t3_1rmwq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] feel that deep down I should end it with her [F17], but part of me doesn't want to.", "post": "I really don't know why im writing this. Maybe for someone to tell me what I want to hear I dont know.\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for over a year and a half. We had dated through my junior and senior of high school. alot of my fondest memories of high school will involve her. She and I did everything together. I'd like to say were in love. \n\nWe've never fought about anything, only petty dissagrements that were resolved within minutes. She and I have done alot of the cute high school relationship things I.e cooking dinner together, going to the movies, spending hours walking around the neigborhood lake together. We did everything together and we loved it.\nI graduated high school in early June and two weeks later, I moved out, not just an hour to campus, but to the other side of the country. This was almost half a year ago now.\n\nIve learned the hard way that even your closest friends, at least mine, work with an 'out of sight, out of mind' attitude. None of my old friends talk to me. They don't keep in touch or ask how im doing, but every day she and I talk, we text, we skype, we call. Any form of communication. We talk about each other's day and we laugh and just talk.\nIm heading back home for winter break and Its all she's been talking about. \"I can't wait for you to come back theres so much we need to do\" she tells me all the time. but then theres the sad \"I cant beleive youll only be here for 2 weeks, then you're leaving again\"... I feel terrible to get her hopes up and spend time with her then to just leave again. \n\nI've always wanted the best for her, and seeing her once or twice a year, I just feel like its not fair to her, or I, to be in this situation. \nPart of me says let her go and have an amazing life there that I know she'll have, but part of me cant grasp the concept of letting go. \nShe cant move out here, and im not moving back there...", "summary": "Been going out with girlfriend for over a year, now I've moved away and we rarely ever see eachother."}
{"id": "t3_2vpqow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [23/M] asked other girls out for lunch throughout our almost 2 year relationship. Am I overreacting?", "post": "Made a throwaway for this post, I would really appreciate your response!\n\nA couple of months ago I found out that my boyfriend has been asking his female friends out for lunch throughout our relationship. He has known some of them for several years. My problem is that these are girls that I have never met (and I know all of his close female friends), or even heard of. He even gave one of them brownies for Valentine's last year, and has invited her to go clubbing along with his friends (he has NEVER invited me).\n\nHe actually just went out with one of them once, and he told me a couple of hours before their 'date'. He claims that he just wants to talk to them and chill, since he isn't that big on texting. I don't think he has cheated, or is even the cheating type, but I'm worried that he may be flirting with some of them, especially since he had feelings for another girl (really close friend who he decided to not cut contact with) during the first months of our relationship.\n\nI told him that I do not appreciate him hanging one-on-one with random girls, but I'm ok if he goes out with his close female friends that I have met. He hasn't invited girls out since (that I know of), but I want to ask you if i'm being reasonable, or just overreacting.\n\nThank you for your time!", "summary": "Am I overreacting if my boyfriend invites his female friends out to lunch?"}
{"id": "t3_29cte5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [Early 30's M] with my GF [Mid 20's F], 2 yr relationship, Hides that I am divorced from her parents", "post": "Been with a girl almost 2 years now. She finally told her parents we were a real thing. I asked her if her parents knew I was divorced (she and her mom are close). She said no, they can never know. They don't speak English, so I don't know them very well. \n\nHas me having doubts again. I don't like keeping secrets, and this is something huge to me. Not to mention it is a matter of public record, so it's not like you can actually hide it anyway. Makes me really uncomfortable. \n\nThis is on a pile of other things that make me think of calling it quits.", "summary": "GF hides the fact that I am divorced from her parents, says they can never know. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_s6gdk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "my sister just told me she was raped...12 years ago.  need advice", "post": "she is 25 now and she just told me today  that when she was 13 this happened.  she was at my aunts house and at the time my aunt was in a band and my sister always hung out with her. so apparently one of the band members friends convinced my sister to do a line of coke with him(she didnt know it was coke, but still dumb of her to do it. I know).  after that she doesnt remember too much except the rape.  she's held it in all these years and now she is telling me she can't go to bed without crying herself to sleep and can't do anything productive around the house. and on top of this she said she had been suffering belemia  since it happened(I had no idea. she looks and has always acted healthy)  she wants to tell our parents tomorrow but I'm just unsure of what to tell her or do.  I'm kind of lost so any advice or people with a similiar story would be great right now.  thanks Reddit!", "summary": "sister got raped at age 13. she is 25 now and just told me about it. need advice or something."}
{"id": "t3_2n1wje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M18] I want to be in a relationship with my [F18] friend", "post": "Me and her have been decent friends for awhile. We aren't super close but close enough to be good friends. She is an amazing girl and I always had a crush on her but I kept things platonic because I knew that is what she wanted. I don't think I am her type in terms of looks but personality wise I feel like we would make a great couple. She also was dating a guy recently who made her happy however I guess a relationship was to much for him. Anyway, I can't say anything about us dating. So i figured I had to put the idea in her head, that she wants me. Any advice?", "summary": "I want to get together with my friend but she has to ask me out."}
{"id": "t3_385ig5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Question: Is it possible for a relationship to become stronger after cheating?", "post": "Recently found out my [21F] boyfriend [23M] of 1 year drunkenly slept with someone else three days ago. He's very remorseful and wants to stay together. Is it worth it for me to try and work through this? \n\nI've already started to forgive him, which has lifted a huge weight off of my heart. I felt as though his self hatred was punishment enough. \n\nI'm am still very cautious though and will need some time. For now we've agreed to start from the beginning (not see each other every day, go out on dates, etc.) \n\nLooking for some input from people who have been in a similar situation where it either worked out or didn't.", "summary": "boyfriend cheated. Worth staying?"}
{"id": "t3_2dy7qy", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Found a way to connect with an old crush...", "post": "So I need advice...\n\nI just moved back to my hometown after 10+ years. After settling in I found that I had lost contact with all of my old friends (I was 13 when I moved). \n\nI decided to do an internet search on the church group that I knew some of them through, and it lead me to the information that an old crush's parents host a bible study group on Wednesday nights. \n\nThe question that I can answer is whether to go or not. I don't know if she will remember me, (it has been 10+ years, have had major facial surgery because of an accident and we were 13 at the time) or if she will even be in attendance, and since that time I have changed my religious perspective. \n\nI thought up a plan to go in under a fake name and scope out the thing to see if it is even worth it, but I also don't want to start off on a lie if it does turn out well. At the same time I don't want to risk the possible embarrassment if is doesn't and the false name would give me a \"mask\" to hide behind.\n\nAny advise would be great!", "summary": "Found out an old crush's parents host a bible study group, don't know whether to go or not."}
{"id": "t3_537u96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] still feel terrible about a break up [24F] from last year", "post": "I had a short relationship with a girl last year and we fell hard for each other very fast. Circumstances in our life made the relationship very difficult and I tried to force it to work. I went out of my way to be with her and it just wasn't working. She was there for me to the very end but when I realized it just wasn't going to work out, I acted like an immature douche and turned my back on her despite her being there for me. \n\nI have felt terrible about this since it happened. There was so much I wanted to say to her that I didn't which could have been easily solved if I had just communicated like an adult. I definitely hurt her and treated her terribly. I tried a few weeks ago to reach out and apologize but she's blocked me on social media (which I understand, not complaining) and when I texted her, as soon as she realized it was me I guess she blocked/ignored me there too. \n\nI don't want another chance, I just want to apologize for my behavior and have closure. I just can't take the guilt and depression anymore. It hurts having someone you care so much for lose respect for you but I deserve it. I just want to make things right as best I can.", "summary": "I was in a short relationship, when it ended peacefully I was an immature douche and ghosted her despite her going out of the way to be there for me. I want to apologize for the sake of closure but she won't allow me to contact her."}
{"id": "t3_2uiube", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having Superbowl smalltalk with an old lady", "post": "So I was just in the checkout line at the store and an old lady behind me starts talking about weather and the Superbowl. I am a new football fan and was glad to practice sports talk. At first it goes well. I say: \"blah blah interception\", she says: \"blah blah people say game was rigged\". So far so good, and still waiting for my turn at checkout. So I mention madden score how it matched the actual score:\n\n\"People are talking about how the score of the game exactly matched...\"\n\n\"HI SIR DO YOU HAVE A SHOP RITE SAVINGS CLUB CARD\" interrupts the cashier.\n\nIt was finally my turn to checkout but my items were not rung up yet and the savings card can be applied at the end of the process as I have done many times before so I knew I was not holding the line up in any way at this point and I was just slightly upset to be interrupted unnecessarily but I try to say nicely:\n\n\"Yes, may I input my card after you've rung up the purchases?\"\n\nAnd then she just stares at me and everyone in line becomes very quiet. So now she is refusing to ring up the items until I input my card and NOW the line is held up. So I go and input my card number and hit enter and then resume the last bit of small talk:\n\n\"So the score matched the...\"\n\n\"SIR THE CARD NUMBER IS INVALID\", cashier interrupts again.\n\nAt this point I have to be visibly upset at the cashier. I'm pretty sure I looked like the guy in \"the professional\" right before he says \"BRING ME EVERYONE\". Anyway everyone in line is averting their eyes and says nothing, so I also say nothing but just stare at my phone in uncomfortable silence for the next 2 minutes while she rings up my purchases and I pay and leave.", "summary": "tried small talk, made everyone uncomfortable and left in shame."}
{"id": "t3_175s4r", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex-gf started talking and flirting with me over Winter Break but now seems distant.", "post": "So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again.", "summary": "Ex was being flirty with me over break but now that school has started up again she seems kind of distant. Thanks for any advice"}
{"id": "t3_2o5qzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] only dating a month [27 F] met online, I've closed my account, shes still talking to other guys what do I do now?", "post": "I've been going out with this really cool girl for about a month, we've met each other's friends and have been over to each others places.\n\nWe've both confided some personal things with each other and things are going great, we've been moving at a faster pace however...\n\nI told her I closed my online account last week because I didn't want any distractions (other women, liking 2 women at the same time) and I wanted to devote my time to getting to know her more.\n\nI asked her last night if she still had her account open and she said yes. she also asked if I get jealous. I'm not a jealous person but I do believe in self respect. I respect myself enough to be with someone who wants to devote their attention to getting to know me more. and vice versa. I'd say we're both a little bit newbies to dating (she invited me to meet her parents last sunday) \n\nAm I jumping the gun? going crazy? I mean if she wants to go out on dates (date around) thats fine but I'd much rather move on if she does.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_pmpcz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does the US gov't have the right to force tobacco companies to put warning pictures on their boxes?", "post": "I was reading [this article] about how the US government is trying to make tobacco companies put \"grotesque\" warning pictures on their cigarette boxes.  \n\nThe tobacco companies are saying that it's a violation of their first amendment rights to make them do that.  \n\nAren't there already other countries that do this?  It's been awhile since i've seen a pack of smokes outside of the US.  \n\nI also feel like that the majority of people know that smoking is bad for them and they still do it anyway.  So are the pictures really going to change much in that regard.  It's different from not being able to advertise, which is to get people to start smoking.  \n\nand if people are worried about the nasty looking pictures maybe I'm just desensitized to those things but they don't bother me.\n\nthe article also states that if smoking was discovered/invented today and the government knew about the health risks it would get pulled from the store shelves in a heartbeat.  i suppose you can compare banning smoking to prohibition, and i know drinking isn't good for you specially in excess but smoking is far worse.", "summary": "US is trying to put nasty pictures on cigarette boxes to get people to stop smoking.  tobacco companies say its a violation of 1st amendment rights to do so."}
{"id": "t3_4u1iqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] Me with my GF, (29 and 26) dissapointed with lack of intimacy after a trip", "post": "Hey,\n\nSo, first of all, thanks to everyone who gave me advice!\n\nAfter reading all this I decided to talk to my girlfriend. \n\nI told her I felt sad that she had rejected me before my trip and made no initative after. \n\nShe told me she felt pressured before my trip. Just because I was leaving didnt mean we 'had' to have sex. \nI told her that it was a nice way to say goodbye and that it is the ultimate form of being together for me.\n\nAfter more talking she started telling me that she doesnt feel normal, because she never (or hardly ever) feels like initiating. When we do have sex, she enjoys it though.\n\nShe knows it hurts me when she turns me down. \nIve asked her if she was willing to get some help and she told me yes. \n\nShe said she'll make an appointment with her ob-gyn and talk about it. She is on the pill, so that might have some influence as well. \n\nSo, there is that. I hope she follows through on it. I love her a lot, but there needs to be a change.", "summary": "We talked, she has low libido, will go see doc"}
{"id": "t3_3az7y3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using my phone light to pee at work with the power out", "post": "So I'm in Jersey and we had some pretty bad thunderstorms and tornado warnings last night.  I get to work today, and the power's out.  I head to the bathroom and go into the stall to pee because our bathroom has no urinals, and I whip out my phone light to see.  Note there's a guy in the stall next to me pooping.  So I start peeing, all is well, I feel relieved - it's a long pee.  As I'm finishing, I look over at the ground and this whole time my light had been casting an enormous shadow of my pissing dick on the floor of the stall next to me.  Right at the feet of the guy shitting.  I get the FUCK out of there and now I'm looking around the office trying to think which of my co workers was in that stall", "summary": "Peed during power outage at work.  Phone light cast shadow of my pissing dick in stall next to me.  wondering which of my co-workers was in that stall"}
{"id": "t3_1pujs8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) told my friend (25F) that I love her, she has blown me off", "post": "The story is more complicated than the title indicates, I'll try to keep it brief.\n\nA few months ago, my best friend drunk texts me that she's interested in me.  I tell her I feel the same way, but there are some complicating factors going on on her end.  We're in this weird limbo for a few months, and then about a month ago she tells me that she thinks it doesn't feel right and wants to just be friends.\n\nI was pretty hurt over it (especially because she brought it up).  We stayed in contact for a few weeks (against the advice of all my other friends).  One night I drunk texted her that I'm still in love with her.  This was about two weeks ago.\n\nShe didn't reply.  She's always good about replying to texts, so this is definitely intentional.  I texted several apologies the next day, as it was obviously a drunken outburst borne of hurt feelings and frustration, and asked if she could just ignore it.  She eventually texted me back a few days later, and her tone was very cold and distant, as she is known to do when she is pissed off.\n\nI give her a few days and then tell her that I'm sad that things are off, and I hope that things can go back to normal.  No response.  Eventually she texted me a couple nights ago, asking me something random.  I replied and asked her an equally innocuous question.  No response.\n\nCan someone explain to me what is going on?  How long is this going to continue for, we're at 2 weeks now.  Before all this happened, I told her that I was still struggling with it and she said that she couldn't imagine not having me as a friend.  She has called me her best friend on numerous occasions.\n\nIs she suddenly just done being my friend?  Do I just stop talking to her until she cools off?  Will she cool off?", "summary": "told friend I still have feelings for her, now she won't talk to me.  will she get over it?  what's a reasonable timetable?"}
{"id": "t3_hrldk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Am I a bad pet owner?", "post": "I will light a smoke and as soon as my dog hears the sound of the lighter flint striking he will be in my face eager to get a face full of second hand. I generally try not to blow smoke on him but sometimes it can't be helped, he really seems to like it.\n\nUsually a minute or two after that he'll start whining uncontrollably expecting to be taken out on a walk. I guess he has a Pavlovian connection between me getting home from work, smoking, and then taking him out for a walk shortly there after. Thing is the whining can go on for a long time, sometimes I can't take him out asap. Sometimes it just gets me to laugh at him because of how feverish he gets about it.", "summary": "My dog likes to go for walks after a smoke"}
{"id": "t3_3gwbwv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending my boss a Nazi joke", "post": "Background info: I work in a corporate call center and the main communication between co-workers is an instant message system. Most correspondence with bosses are emails.\n\nToday (about 2 hours ago) our system went down and working in front of computers, most people browse reddit, imgur, facebook, etc... While, browsing I come across the wondershowzen post on imgur and decided it was funny enough to share with a friend who works for the same company. As I copy the link, my boss sends me an instant message seeing if our system was back up and working. Usually I send a quick response and close out of the conversation, but I received an email after I responded and spaced closing out the convo. This is where the FU happened. I click back over to the IM, assuming I'm still talking with my friend, paste the link and send it not noticing that I'm still talking with the boss man. After several nervous minutes I get a message from my boss saying \"LMAO.\" thank god he has a sense of humor and hopefully I don't have a meeting with HR tomorrow.", "summary": "Accidently sent my boss a Nazi reference, he found it funny, but now probably thinks I'm Hitler youth."}
{"id": "t3_2i8ze9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] have been in a relationship with my girlfriend [28 F] for a little under a year. I come from a very large family and am very family oriented, my cousins are like brothers and sisters. She is not very close with her family. This is creating problems.", "post": "In our relationship, we have had a rocky Summer and it is becoming an even rockier Fall. There have been a lot of important life events happening between myself (grad school), my friends (bachelor party/5 weddings) and my family (observing anniversaries of deaths in the family). For her, she wants me to compromise in the relationship by not seeing my family so much. I live about 30 miles from my parents and often have family visiting town. She feels like I'm not compromising, since I am often visiting family or they are visiting me. My girlfriend and I spend every day together during the week, but on the weekends we share time as a couple with our friends or family. \n\nHer family lives far away and we have spent a few weekends to visit them. My family is very important to me and she makes me feel like they are a burden or an obstacle to our relationship. But I feel like she doesn't make an effort to get to know them or to get close with them which is something important to me. I've about had it with this argument because we have been going back and forth all Summer about it. Am I being bull headed? I'm thinking this could be a deal killer.", "summary": "For my gf, she wants me to compromise in the relationship by not seeing my family so much. However, I am a family oriented guy and I feel like this shouldn't be a big deal and could be deal killer."}
{"id": "t3_4jnqmn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (F22) hooked up with a guy (M25) and am not sure what I could/should potentially expect now?", "post": "I'm in need of some advice! Disclaimer though, I know not everyone agrees with casual sex, but all that matters is that I am and that I am safe about it. Please no judging on that aspect :)\n\nThis last weekend while out I ended up meeting a guy and we found out we had some mutual connections,we danced, hit it off (both were drinking though) and I walked home with him to his place. He got my number before we went to his place.\n\nObviously, we hooked up and he said a lot of \"sweet\" things (like constantly mentioning that he loved what was happening and that he really liked me a lot - I know that can't be entirely true though as we only had just met). After we were done, he kept mentioning that sex with me was the best and I said that I should probably go home as I didn't want to overstay, but he told me not to worry and to spend the night.\n\nIn the morning, he kept on cuddling up to me while we were both awake and we kind of just lingered in bed for about an hour because we both weren't feeling 100%. I was going to walk home, but he insisted on driving me, so I let him. There was just small talk in the car about plans for the day (what we were each doing) and about how we both didn't even plan on going out the night before.\nBefore I got out of the car, he double checked to make sure he got my number.\n\nMy question I guess is - do you usually hear from guys like this again? I guess because of the cuddling in the morning, and some comments he made during the night and then the checking to make sure he got my number are throwing me off a bit. I know this very well could be a one night stand, but what do you think from a listeners POV? It's only been almost three days since I last saw him.\n\n(", "summary": ") Hooked up with a guy, he was nice, not sure if there's a chance I could hear from him again or was he just being nice because he felt like he had too"}
{"id": "t3_3jpk8i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sleeping with my crush", "post": "A little backstory: I got a new job about 9 months ago, and instantly had feelings for a girl who worked there. She's the best. We started hanging out as friends after about a month and really hit it off. Since then it's been nothing but great times, so much so that we moved in together (as friends). \n\nShots Fired: Last weekend after some decent drinking at a cookout, things got heated. It started with me playing with her hair and went straight into some long awaited booty time. She leaned over to kissed me and before I knew it I was wrapped up and ready to go. We had fun for hours and I couldn't have been happier. We fell asleep happy as could be.\n\nHit Confirmed: After 3 days of acting like nothing happened I couldn't take it, I had to say something. I asked if we were going to talk about it and was shot down. I'm told our friendship is too important, which is understandable, we're great together. But I want more than that. I've fallen for my best friend / roommate and I... have no idea what to do about it.", "summary": "friend zone level over nine thousand."}
{"id": "t3_52so7q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU getting into the car.", "post": "I appear to have lost the ability to car door today.\n\nWent out to the shops a few hours ago to drop off some bottles for recycling and buy some sweet, sweet Pepsi. Now this is an activity I perform on the regular, so you'd think there would be absolutely no room to fuck *this* one up, wouldn't you? Yeah, that's what I thought too.\n\nThe world, however, thought otherwise.\n\nSo as you do, I place my newly acquired colored sugar water into the backseat, shut the door and prepare to place my body into the front seat. This, however, is where I apparently lose the ability to door, a thing I have done countless times before with no detriment or harm to my person whatsoever. Grab handle, open door--\n\nOne thought promptly manages to enter my brain case: \"Bloody hell I think my head just exploded.\"\n\nYes, I manage to open the door right into my forehead. Not only that, but once I flop into the seat like a bag of particularly pained bricks and inspect the damage, I find my rent flesh is currently attempting to paint the rest of my face bright red.\n\nAt least I wasn't driving and the Pepsi is safe.", "summary": "Bard is a klutz who managed to open a door into his face and split his forehead open. Here, observe."}
{"id": "t3_w409p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Are / Were these things Red Flags?", "post": "So, the relationship is over, but this post isn't really about a break up, just about the relationship, relationship red flags in general. I'm trying to be unbiased in my portrayal of this, so I don't want to give out the gender of the S/O. I don't know if it would make a difference, but I can add it if people request it.\n\nSo, what does it say if since high school (now a college grad) a person has continually jumped from long term relationship to long term relationship with out being single and leave a healthy, reasonably good relationship (no abuse, cheating, etc) -- that has reached a point where some extra but not unfair work is needed (i know that no real reason for leaving a relationship is needed so focus on the second part) -- for other people to start long term relationships with them?\nAges - 23. Gender - male and female. Length of relationship - 2 years.\n\nAgain, this may seem broad, but mentally I am trying to work through this, so some omissions were done in order to remove potential bias.", "summary": "constant ltr's a red flag? Leaving relationships for someone else a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_ifgqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can you tell if you're really in love with a girl, and how do you tell her about it?", "post": "I am a 19 year old male. I'm a very neutral person, as in I usually don't care one way or another about most things. Because of this I almost never show emotion. Enter problem.\n\nI've been dating this girl, also 19, for nearly 4 months now, and she's perfect. This is the longest relationship I've been in and I've never felt the way I feel about her before. I want to tell her how I feel, but there are a few things holding me back. First and most obviously, I fear the lack of reciprocation. What if she doesn't love me back? That would feel terrible. Secondly, I despise vulnerability. To put myself out there like this, reciprocation or not, is to be completely open and unprotected. The relationship may be good now, but what if things go awry and she ends up using the things I've trusted her with against me? This leads me to my next insecurity: I don't want this to change us or the relationship. I like how things are now. I don't wanna fuck it up by saying something that may not ought be said. Lastly, what if it's not really love? How do I know what love feels like? I've never been in this situation before so how could I really know? Is 4 months really enough time to develop such strong emotion? I don't want to scare her away.\n\nAlso, how could I go about telling her without sounding too stupid and/or sappy? I've thought about asking her if she loves me first, or saying something dumb like \"I think we're in love,\" but I think that's because I want to see her be vulnerable first? Damn that sounds immature. I just don't wanna come out randomly and say \"I love you\" and let that be that. That feels like a very awkward moment that I'd much rather avoid.\n\nCall me paranoid, immature, insecure, selfish, a pussy, whatever, but these are the things going through my head every time I'm with her. I want to tell her how I feel about her, I feel like she deserves to know. But I'm afraid of what it might mean. What say you, /r/relationships?", "summary": "See title."}
{"id": "t3_1pe73e", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "What goes around comes around, motherfucker", "post": "Story:\n\nI just got a job in the Army (IT-related), and I was filling out this form to get security clearance to work with military equipment in the base. Now this required me to get a few signatures from different leaders within the base, among them the Head of Security (Ranked Lieutenant Colonel). I had gotten all the others signatures, all I needed was this guys signature. \n\nSo I headed down to his office, on the card scanner there was a note saying \"if the light is green, come on in!\", so knocked on the door and went in. I saw the guy sitting behind his desk and here's how the conversation went:\n\nMe: \"Good mor-\"\n\nHim: \"I don't have time, get out\"\n\nMe: \"I just need your sign-\"\n\nHim: \"I said get out that door, NOW!\"\n\nI went out the door completely baffled with the lack of respect he showed me. I respect the rank as long as the one carrying it shows respect towards others, something this asshole did not. I was pissed.\n\n.\n\nThe revenge:\n\nEventually I got one of his coworker's signature instead, but I wanted revenge, I craved it. After a few weeks I was able to work quite independantly (I have worked a similar job at another base for 2 years), so my boss let me roam around as I wished. \n\nI found a map over all the network connections in the base, and there it was. His goddamn office. I unplugged all network connections going to his computers (He has a few with different security clearances).\n\nAn hour goes by, then it happens. My phone at my desk rings, and guess who it was, the fucking asshole. He started yelling right away:\n\nHim: \"None of my goddamn computers are working, get here right n-\"\n\nMe: \"Sorry we're swamped call me later\"\n\nThen I hung the fuck up. It took 2 days before I plugged them back in.", "summary": "Don't be a dick to IT people."}
{"id": "t3_1otp3z", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Initiating casual-- but not cheap-- relationships. Suggestions?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI [30M] am at a bit of a transitional point in my life at which I intend to move out-of-state in about a year's time.  I am also finally at a point where I feel I have emotionally \"moved on\" from a previous long-term relationship.  These two factors combine to form my desire to meet and have a relationship with a woman, though simultaneously keeping things necessarily short-term-- I am clean-slating this out-of-state move and I'm not trying to take a relationship with me (if it happens, so be it, but that's not the target I'm aiming at).\n\nThe problem is I don't really know how to do this.  I've always done either a high-quality committed relationship OR 'one night stand' type of hook-ups.  I don't have much interest in doing the bar-pickup 'one night stand' scene at this point just because-- at my current state of person-- it takes a little more than just biology to get me into a girl enough to want to sleep with her.  What I'm trying to achieve is to maintain a casual relationship with a woman that doesn't feel cheap to either side.  I'm not down for misleading.  I'm not down for sleeping with a woman that I can't at least enjoy conversing with during non-sexual time.  I haven't had much luck in the past because the few women that I felt I had this kind of set-up with told me in the beginning that they were okay with the arrangement, only to actually end up wanting a greater commitment as time progressed.\n\nSo...is there anyone out there who has had this work out well?  Am I chasing a phantom?", "summary": "I'm looking for advice on how to achieve a short-term relationship that doesn't feel completely cheap/unfulfilling."}
{"id": "t3_4wi360", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] Is this a normal value to want from a partner, or am I just being prude?", "post": "Hello all! So I always had this mindset even growing up in puberty and stuff that I wanted a partner that didn't have a history of hook ups or one night stands. I never cared at all the number of partners a person had inside of relationships (Unless it was like a huge number of relationships for my age, then that would be a concern in itself.) but the hook up thing never seemed to fit right with me. I personally always seen sex as something intimate and exclusive, but I always made sure to be supportive to my friends and anyone else and how they wanted to share their bodies! I know people can have a one night stand and still have intimate sex with someone they care about. But I guess I just want someone who values sex for a relationship, like me. \n\nSince I'm supportive of other people i'm not dating, and don't care about partner count inside relationships am I still being prude for wanting this? I guess the reason for doubting myself so much is because as a gay male a lot of the community is hook up culture, and I feel prude for even having the desire of wanting someone with these values. But on the other hand some people only want to date Catholics, or save sex till marriage, so it almost doesn't seem unreasonable what I would like.\n\nUltimately do you think its reasonable to look for this in a partner?", "summary": "Is it prude or unreasonable to seek a partner that doesn't hook up or have one night stands if those are the values you want to share in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2ackon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have finally asked out a girl [23 F] I work with. We get along great, but I'm having trouble maintaining my confidence around her because I think I might be intimidated by her.", "post": "I have been working with Stacie for about 5 or 6 months now. We have been talking more of the past couple of months since I was moved to the same position as her. A couple times we have spontaneously gone to a movie or had a few drinks after work, and she's also hung out with me and my friends a couple times. \n\nSo I finally forced myself to ask her out and actually acknowledge it as a date. I think she had fun. I did. We make each other laugh a lot. \n\nBut the problem is I overthink everything. I talk to much. She makes me an idiot. I don't know if it's because she's slightly older than me (all my other interests have been my age or slightly younger) or if it's because I actually have my first googly-eyed crush I've had in a long time. \n\nIt's like there's a wall that's preventing me from being fully comfortable around her because I'm so worried I'll say something stupid. All other girls I've gone out with have always gave me clear signals and mostly made moves on their own, and I've always been able to easily being open and myself. With Stacie, she definitely does not broadcast her interest in me, I have no idea what she's thinking, and I'm shit at making any kind of gesture towards intimacy. I can barely look her in the eyes, it's dumb and I know it's dumb, but I cannot break through that wall. \n\nThis has never happened to me before. I know she likes me and we're going on another date, I'm just worried I'll continue feeling this way.\n\nMy thoughts are all over the place. Let me know if anything needs clarifying.", "summary": "Finally took/taking out girl I have a huge crush on. I know she likes me, but I'm overthinking everything and can't force myself to be open and comfortable. How fix?"}
{"id": "t3_1tzxs4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32/M] dating [27/F] 2 months, probably disagree on having kids.", "post": "I [32/M] have been dating a new lady [27/F] for the past 2 months. We recently had the \"define the relationship\" talk, which resulted in her becoming visibly upset and tearful when she found out I don't ever want to have children. \n\nWe met online, where she contacted me first. My profile clearly states that I don't want children, while her profile was ambiguous with an answer of \"maybe\". \n\nWhile it may seem early to discuss children at this point, my past two long term relationships have ended because my partners wanted children. It's important for me to be as upfront as possible about what I want in a relationship to avoid any confusion later. \n\nAfter our conversation, things have gone back to normal for us. We still see each other several times a week and have regular sleep-overs. I'm really confused where we stand on the whole relationship question. Is she sticking with me hoping that I'll change my mind about having kids? Is she just viewing this as a short-term relationship? Is she thinking about what she really wants and just needs time? I've never had a \"define the relationship\" talk that didn't result in either a relationship or a parting of ways.", "summary": "New lady seems to want kids, while I don't. Not sure where this leaves us in terms of relationship status."}
{"id": "t3_52p031", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with a huge issue. How do I ask a girl out?", "post": "Okay so i have a huge issue, its my first year out of highschool and my first year in college, so this is the first time that I havent known a girl for a few years before asking her out. Shes super cool but we havent really talked. Shes in my math class and asks me a lot of questions even though I never have a solid answer.\n\nI'm scared of rejection and making things awkward between us since we sit so close together. I've only learned her name today which is weird because we've sat next to eachother two days a week  for the last month. \n\nId like to get to know her better before actually going forward with any sort of real relationship, so how do I ask her out?", "summary": "How do I ask a girl out in my first year of college."}
{"id": "t3_4stfv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] not sure what to say to my gf [18F]", "post": "Some backstory first, when I was younger (14-16) I wasn't really a \"good\" kid. I was smoking and had a lot of friends who were in gangs or that were beating people up for money. And at some point one of my friends took me with him to one \"job\", I didn't know what we were doing because at first he only said he needed some help but I realized later when I entered a dark street that something was going down. So we did that \"job\" and fro  that point on my life changed completely, I started helping as many friends as I could with the fights and they were asking for help because I can hold my own in a fight (trained mma for 5 years). Just a little clarification, when I said beating peopme up for money I don't mean robbing them. Whenever someone that we knew wanted to beat a guy or more up he called us and after it was done he would give us money.\n\nNowadays I'm completely different, at 16 I moved to another country and I realized how bad I was falling and how lucky I was with the moving. When I think about the things I've done I'm disguted and hate myself for it but that won't change anything. The only problem now is that 3 months ago I've started talking to a girl and we've been together ever since and last night someone from my past decided to make a joke and write to her on facebook that if she knew everything she wouldn't like me anymore. She told me about the message and she is supposed to come over tonight to talk about what that means. I'm afraid that if she learns the truth she is going to break up and I don't want to lose her. Should I tell the truth or should I just tell her that someone was just making a joke", "summary": "I used to beat people up for money and now I'm different and not sure if I should tell my girlfriend the truth after someone wrote to her."}
{"id": "t3_1srkma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] would like to start a relationship with someone but I don't think he [23M] could see past our differences?", "post": "So a little back story. When I was a freshman in highschool I had a friend who was senior. He was nice guy and I kind of had that weird old brother type feeling for him. We shared a few classes and we always had a great time at school. Well, he graduated and started college, we added each other on facebook but never really talked outside that. Recently he's been hinted that he's like to take me out on a date sometime, which I would really like, but I'm afraid he wouldn't be able to see past our differences if he knew how different we really were.\n\nNow, he really doesn't know much about my opinions on things because I'm a little quiet, he however is constantly posting his opinions on facebook, so I know them all too well.\n\nI guess the biggest difference it religion. He's catholic and it's a huge part of his life. I've been an atheist since I was about 14. Now for me personally this isn't a huge deal. My last boyfriend was religious, and we simply avoided the subject, but I'm thinking that this guy is just a little too... uh... devoted to just brush it off.\n\nHe's also constantly going on about being pro life and anti gay marriage. He's started several 100+ comment flame wars by being so forward with his opinions. I'm very pro choice, and my believe that everyone deserves to be happy in regards to love. Again, not a big deal to me personally. You believe what you believe, and no one can chance that but you. Again though, he's not like that.\n\nOther than that though we have a lot in common and both obviously are attracted to each other. I'm just wondering if you guys think it's worth it to try and start a relationship.", "summary": "I'm wondering if it's worth starting a relationship with someone who doesn't exactly see eye to eye with me on some important topics."}
{"id": "t3_1wvniv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boss [34 M] does he like me or does he like having power over me?", "post": "So here it is. I have a boss who is helping me get a promotion. We spend alone time together and have often talked about personal issues, like family history and childhoods. often getting into personal and vulnerable issues. \n\nThe issue is that he has a long time GF who has told me he is not crazy about. he brings her up from time to time. She wants him to get married and have kids. he wants neither. he said he might just stay because he doesn't like change. he tells me he's lonely, even though she lives with him. \n\nBut he also listens to me... a lot... he thinks about things i say, and he remembers them. (i'm not sure if he does this with everyone). he has also watched my back in the office and does his best to support me and make sure i get my promotion. he offers tons of advice. sometimes our conversations are moody. I often confess a lot of personal things to him, and he will sometimes do the same. it feels very personal and intimate. these conversations can be dark and intense. sometimes those emotions are clearly written on our faces. He has also asked to spend time (getting lunch) with me out of the office. I have never done this with any of my other bosses. \n\nthe other day, i tried to help train a fellow employee and was being kind and nice to the employee. and my boss was upset with me. he lashed out (which he's never done) and asked me if I was bipolar and how i had changed to become such a different and happy person (in front of the new trainee). he then recoiled and withdrew. he asked me to leave his office.\n\nI like my boss. he's taken, but i feel a closeness to him. how can i tell if he is into me - or just likes having a sense of authority and mentorship over me? is there any way to tell ??? \n\nplease help. any advice is helpful. thank you !!", "summary": "think i have sexual tension with my taken boss, but i can't tell. not sure how to approach or what to ask to find out."}
{"id": "t3_r9yhm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have been trying to consider women equals but I cannot !", "post": "I am a  male and I have been brought up in a pretty testosterone filled family. 11 out of my 13 cousins are also all male. I grew up in a patriarchal household and was always instilled in my head that men are superior to women. I am now in my mid 20's and I am trying to get out of this mentality but I cannot. How can you believe women are our equals when logic and reason suggests they are not? Please note I am atheist and do not have any cultural inclinations either. Whenever I hear women can do anything they want, first thing that comes to my mind is 1)Physically they are no where close to being as strong as men and 2) Even when it comes to intellect, men seem to be have the upper hand. Look at all the nobel prize winners(Forget the past, even in the present men are overshadowing women). Furthermore take chess  for instance, it is a game of mental skill and is dominated by men. The point I am trying to get across is there is no real field or skill that women have an advantage over men. \n\nI have a girlfriend and I do treat her with the utmost  respect but deep down inside I do not believe she is capable of doing everything I am. This eats me inside because she makes me feel like I can achieve anything and I want her to feel the same but I want it to be genuine. \n\nPlease note, I have been taught to treat women with the utmost respect. I want to make sure that you understand this, I would never disrespect women I want to know how do men consider women  as equals.", "summary": "raised in a patriarchal Family , treat women with respect but do not know how to consider them as equals due to the men's achievements overshadow women. I understand why this was possible in the past prior to the 80s but even today. "}
{"id": "t3_2jkchv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [27M] with my ex [33F]. Broke up 2+ weeks ago. She has already moved with the guy that 'nothing was happening with'. Horrid Depression ensues", "post": "I honestly just hate life right now. In the last 2 weeks she has been texting me. I've given mostly cold responses since I discovered that she has gone back to sleeping with the guy I feel ruined our relationship. Yesterday she texted me asking if I wanted to go out and get lunch or dinner sometime. I responded hours later and essentially said the reason I am not willing to be her friend is probably sitting right next to her, right this moment. I never heard back from her. \n\nThen I got drunk and cruelly texted her to never message me or my friends ever again, that we will never be friends, and that when she inevitably ended up alone again not to try and contact me. \n\nThis morning I'm feeling guilty and depressed and hating life.", "summary": "How do I move on when my ex who started sleeping with the guy who I feel destroyed our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4jhpmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [19 M] break up with my girlfriend [18 F] of 8 months to go to a great college?", "post": "My girlfriend and I just finished our freshman year at a state school in New England. We've been together since September, and put a \"label\" on it in February. She's great and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't in love.\n\nI got accepted into Northeastern University for this fall. Compared to the state school we attend, Northeastern is much better. My parents say it will \"open doors\" for me in ways my state school never could. It's also much more expensive than my state school.\n\nLast semester, I got into another state school that was better than my current university, but not as good as Northeastern. I was going to go, but my feelings for my girlfriend kept me from leaving.\n\nI put down a deposit on Northeastern to save a spot, but I am hesitant. This seems like a head vs. heart dilemma to me. I am having a tough time and would like to know what anyone else would do in my shoes, for perspective.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I go to an average state school. I got into Northeastern, which is much better. I'm wondering if it's worth it to break up with my girlfriend, who I do love, to go to Northeastern."}
{"id": "t3_1b3oqp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] How to break up w/ Mental Fragile Person [28,m]", "post": "Please give me some advice. I've been with my current bf for over 2 years. Things have not been good quite a while, mostly on my part. I have regrettably stuck by it for all the wrong reasons. I did not want to hurt him, I usually need a big push to make a serious change, and I am afraid of what would become of him if I ended it. He does not have strong relationships with people other than me, he is very co-dependent, can show aspects of depression and anxiety, etc. For the 2nd time in our relationship I have discovered that he has been exchanging dirty messages with other people. I forgave him the first time because I blamed myself for not giving him adequate attention, plus I still corresponded with my ex against his wishes. This time I cannot look past it, mostly because I am looking for a way OUT. I need to end this relationship for my own mental and emotional well-being. Nonetheless I can't help, but worry that he might hurt himself if I leave him.", "summary": "How to break up with a depressive and co-dependent partner. Additionally, what, if anything, can I do to prevent him from potentially hurting himself if I end it. Any words of advice can help."}
{"id": "t3_iqp5e", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How do you choose your career? Or if you have a rough idea, how do you narrow it down?", "post": "Pretty much as title says.\n\nMy brian is a complete mess over this; Where I want to be career wise is going to play a massive part in the next year - looking for graduate programmes, choosing an honors project.\n\nI'm just about to start me Honors year of a Computer Security and Forensics degree so it's time to really start zeroing in on career options for after University.\n\nThe degree has taught me loads of general computing areas (software dev, web dev, networking etc) but not much in the areas I was interested in so I'm doing a lot of self study.\n\nI'm exploring low level programming (c / assembly) and security (exploitation, mitigation) in my own time and think I could potentially be interested in it enough for a career.\n\nI also really fancy the idea of Embedded systems programming, specifically working with robots, making them evolve / cooperate together.\n\nThe only way I can see those overlapping is some sort of Defence research job (maybe Autonomous robot programming?) which seems unlikely to exist let alone hire students out of University.\n\nAnyone able to help straighten my brain out?", "summary": "How do you choose a career path?"}
{"id": "t3_tdaah", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I faked transactions and forged currency when I was little. What mischievous things did you do back then?", "post": "In my elementrary school, there was auction at the end of every single year. During the year, the teachers passed out \"School\" bills that were printed on color paper to kids that were being good/did a assignment right/etc.\nI was transferred to this school (after moving for the 3rd time during elementrary school) in the middle of 4th grade. After the first year, I realized that the prizes were really damn awesome from the auction and I wanted a lot of them but I can't really afford them because I was never that good brown nosing kid that did everything the teacher asked. Everything was tracked on a sheet of paper that was kept by ourselves.\n\nSo in 5th grade, I was determined to get some of the great prizes. Since Pokemon and Magic cards were popular, I traded pokemon and magic cards for the \"bills\" but I realized that it wasn't fast enough. So I started forging \"trades\" with low amounts to boost the amount of the money I got. By the middle of the year, I thought that this still wasn't enough so I started actively photocopying the \"bills\" with a photocopier. I went out and bought the exact same type of thin colored paper, then saved up enough of the bills to be able to print out the bills (This was kind of tricky because the bills were printed on both sides and it required a bit of aligning and adjustments so the backs are aligned to the front)\n\nAt the end of the year, SUCCESS! I had almost twice as much \"money\" as the next closest person (I had around 20,000) and I was able to buy a lot of the things I wanted from the auction.\n\nIn the end, I got a Jim Davis signature (Garfield), the Pokemon trading card game for GBC, a sweet race car model, and a coin seperator.", "summary": "I faked transactions and forged currency to buy awesome shit from the end of the year auction at my elementrary school"}
{"id": "t3_3o5k3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my new GF [19F] of 1 week. Question is, where to go for a romantic date for my birthday that isn't a meal? (We've known each other for over a year and are best friends already)", "post": "This seems like a stupid question in context to how long I've known the girl, but it's my birthday in less than a week and there's nothing material that I want, need, or even care about. Because of this, I suggested a romantic date, which to be honest, would make me far happier than a physical present. \n\nI just don't know where to go, cinema is off the record, that isn't romantic, and a meal is too, well normal, and neither of us are the normal types. If it's clich\u00e9d and 'cheesy' that's cool with me, she loves that stuff, but as long as it's different.", "summary": "Known girl for a year, recently started dating, don't know where to go for a romantic date for my birthday"}
{"id": "t3_3ncb0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22/F] get [22/M] to ask me out?", "post": "I am really head over heels for this guy in one of my classes and would love it if he would ask me out. He's smart, handsome, funny, and kind. He's also pretty nerdy whereas I am a more \"stereotypical\" college girl that has a large social circle.\n\nThe weird thing, though, is that he is convinced that my friendship is not genuine/is part of some elaborate prank. Like, he is never rude or whatever but he will sometimes drop things in conversation like \"what I would say if you didn't have ulterior motives is...\". After a month of talking to him he sat me down and told me that he's resigned to the prank now. What he said was that \"I know you are faking it, you know were faking it, can't you just drop it?\" I told him my friendship was definitely not a prank on him. He said that he'll play along but that he won't be the one to crack first.\n\nNow, a few weeks later, I am getting somewhat frustrated because he is clearly interested in me but he thinks that the real me is actually some \"fake\" me made for the purpose of embarrassing him when he asks me out.\n\nHow do I convince him that I'm not out to shame him? This seems like a really strange issue, but maybe other people have played pranks on him like this before?", "summary": "I am interested in guy, he likes my personality but thinks that the \"real\" me is trying to bait him into asking him out so that I can reject him. How do I let him know he's wrong and that we should go out?"}
{"id": "t3_1hgsq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Personal Issues] Me [18M], very shy around my crush.", "post": "Fast forwarded trough some random conversations about her douche boyfriend and funny stuff. My crush (never been into a girl has much has HER) and I are talking one very late night at her house (reason: her brother is my friend) and she says she wants to break up with him because he loves someone else, he even told her straight up. Then says she wants a guy, listing pretty much my characteristics. But to me this could mean anything. But I get choked up at any moment I want to express my feelings for her and I am horrible at reading any vibes from her. I am just a shy 18 dude who has not dated for five years. I am open to any advice or extra info. Thanks for any help", "summary": "Choke up when I want to express feelings to my my crush."}
{"id": "t3_1askev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "At what point is lack of sex a reasonable cause to end a relationship? (25M, 27F)", "post": "I'm 25 and male, my girlfriend is 27. We have dated for over a year and a half and we don't have our own places so it's relatively rare to get a chance to fool around, maybe once or twice a month. She's a virgin (though had two previous boyfriends in which she had manual and oral sex), and the handful of times we tried to have vaginal sex she would ask me to try repeatedly but immediately cringe and push me away because of the pain. She insists she doesn't have any kind of medical problem, and always eventually says we will try again next time.\n\nThis is my first proper relationship and I don't want to just throw it away since I have no idea how long until I'm in another. I also don't know how common this kind of problem is but by now this aspect of the relationship makes me angry. I don't see how I could  explain that she needs to start having sex and enjoying it, or break up. Also I'm worried about feeling that if the relationship is ended I'll feel that I've wasted time hoping the negative things would sort themselves out. Just yesterday I found out that a female friend I was attracted to started dating someone else which bothered me more than it should have, from the sense that doors are closing.", "summary": "1.5 year, first relationship. Fooling around but no sex. Increasingly frustrated but don't want to be a dick by breaking up because of sex, and don't want to hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_praj8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Philosophers out there?   Is it true that if I have a duty to rescue a drowning child in a shallow pond, I have a duty to save the life of a starving child in a distant land by sending money to charity?", "post": "Ok, I'm a science student but one of my modules is in philosophy, I took the module as it was the only one that fit in with my schedule and I need to meet a credits quota.  Now this course is fascinating, the lecturer is so interesting and it amazes me that he is able to talk for 2 solid hours about this stuff without any props!  The only downside is that now I have to write an essay but I don't know the first thing about how to write a philosophy essay.  Now I don't want anyone to write this essay for me I just want help on the layout and how to present arguments, maybe a helping hand on which philosophers I should research?  I know my view on the matter, I'm against the notion of responsibility, I don't even believe I have a responsibility towards the child in the pond as I am not their guardian, nor do I live in France (where it is the law to save randoms in visible danger) but what now? Where do I go from here?  Any tips greatly appreciated or tell me your view points, especially if you agree with the statement so I can work out how to strengthen my views!", "summary": "Scientist knows jack shit about philosophy would like helpful guide to writing a philosophy paper!"}
{"id": "t3_qdlrz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ideas for tattoos?", "post": "I'm currently planning on getting a tattoo this summer, and is therefore looking for ideas/designs. Simply put, I have no idea what design im looking for, only ideas for what I want. \n\nI am an exchange student right now for a year, and I want to get something kind of small to remember all this, kind of what im looking for with my tattoo is these things;\n\n-Development\n\n-Experiences\n\n-Meeting lifelong friends\n\n-Something going for completion\n\n-Independence \n\nIf anyone knows where i can find multiple designs/ideas for any of these things, or just have any idea they are willing to share im happy to know of them!\n\nI'm planning on getting the tattoo on my bicep or like the front shoulder, closer to your breast than actual shoulder.", "summary": "Looking for exchange student ideas/designs, where are they found?"}
{"id": "t3_147r6e", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Karma Whore /u/mepper is a Prolific Blogspammer with over 1 million link karma, much of it from spam", "post": "/u/mepper has been blogspamming a few of these domains:\n\n **Has linked** ***[79+ times.] **Definitely seems to be illegitimate. There are a lot of ads on this blog, and [mepper even links to the blog when only a youtube video might be the post content,] so it is possible, if not likely, that they are sharing some of the ad revenue.**\n\n (1 link, could be legitimate though)\n\n (3 links, not sure if legitimate)\n\n (8 links, not sure if legitimate)\n\n (1 link, **doesn't look legitimate**, a lot of ads, just a post of a youtube video and transcript)\n\n (2 links, doesn't look legitimate, but not many ads)\n\n **(4 links, probably illegitimate)**\n\n (1 link, not sure if legitimate)\n\n*(note that these numbers could be higher per domain if a moderator spammed or removed a link, and that you might not find their post on the domain page if it was removed, but it will still be in the user overview)*\n\n______", "summary": "this is a prolific submitter that is probably blogspamming for 1 to 3 blogs, at least."}
{"id": "t3_37or0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] girlfriend [19 F] of over 1 year often feels alone when I'm gone. How do I help?", "post": "My girlfriend is often lonely when I'm not around and it doesn't help that she doesn't have any close friends anymore. She's the kind of person to latch onto one close friend, but unfortunately she doesn't have those friends anymore (most of them weren't great people so she grew out of those relationships).The problem is that I am the one she latches on to and I'm not always around. She wants friends of her own to be able to hang out with when I'm busy or with my friends and she also wants to get into some hobbies again. This all sounds pretty good, but she's pretty terrified of people\u2014especially girls\u2014and she's overly critical of her abilities, leading to her quitting out of intimidation.\n\nHow can I encourage her to pursue these things or what kinds of advice can I give? I've been really working on not blaming recently and I feel like saying \"you need to do this\", \"you need to do that\", blah blah, might make her feel less motivated. She used to really be into writing and I told her I'd write some stuff with her (even though I'm trash). This, she said, will give her some confidence in her writing again. My worry is that she'll just end up relying on this so when I'm not around she won't find joy in it anymore.", "summary": "GF no friends/hobbies but wants them. Need to prevent archetype of sad wife that waits for husband to get home. How to encourage without being an ass?"}
{"id": "t3_1pua2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19m) want to meet a (18/19f) but am not sure how to approach...", "post": "I am currently in university, and this one girl has sat near me all semester. I didn't notice her until a few weeks ago, and finally decided that I want to talk to her. \n\nIt's a fairly large class, but no one sits next to her (the guy who used to sit next to her dropped the class, I assume). \n\nHere is my only problem. Would it be creepy to just sit next to her? I was contemplating on just walking up and asking \"Hey, do you mind if I sit here?\" I'm under the assumption she'll say yes; we have made eye contact a fair amount and when a girl who sits behind her asked me a question, she seemed to perk up and stared right at me as I spoke.\n\nEven if she does say yes, what would I even say? I haven't noticed anything I could really comment on, as that seems to be pretty common advice. She dresses fairly simply (jeans, black sweatshirts and stuff). I'm fairly confident when people are talking to me, the only problem I have is actually starting a conversation. \n\nI guess my main question is, how do I go about talking to her? what are some good ice breaker questions that I can use to ease into more conversation and get to know her better?", "summary": "Girl sits near me in my class at uni and I want to sit next to her. If she's cool with me sitting there, what can I say to break the ice and jump into conversation? thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_4isqui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26F] always horny and my bf [30M] is uninterested in sex but still jerks it regularly...", "post": "We've been dating for 4.5 years. In the beginning we used to have sex all the time. This was great for me since I have a really high sex drive. For the past year he has been less and less interested in sex even though he still masturbates regularly. We have sex maybe once a week now. He's said before that sometimes he'd rather just masturbate cause it's less time consuming and not as much work. He still thinks I'm beautiful and sexy. Usually this wouldn't be a huge deal, but I have a huge sex drive. I am always horny. He is also the only guy I've been with. I keep finding my mind wandering and fantasizing about other guys I know...I feel unfulfilled. I'm happy to stay with him (absolutely do not want to break up) but I want to explore our sexuality and try new things. I've told him before how this is frustrating to me but nothing changes. How do I have a conversation about this with him and get him to actually listen and care?", "summary": "I'm horny as hell and my boyfriend is uninterested. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_xtaqa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what is the most creepy or annoying thing a classmate has ever asked you?", "post": "So a while ago, I was going through some stuff and I ended up dating someone of the same gender. It was only 4 days, but he was incredibly well known for being the most fabulous(no joke) person in the entire grade. Let's pretend his name is John. Anyway, the fact that John knew everybody meant that he knew the annoying people. He had just recently helped this girl out with dying her hair, and she was stalking the crap out of him. I was sitting in the cafeteria, (we had different lunch periods, so I didn't get to see him.) and she and her little gang of surprisingly less annoying girls walk in and start being teenage girls. Basic loudness and ditziness. They walk up to me and start talking to me about this event on Facebook that I commented on that she found offensive(like I give a damn). I decided to throw annoying girl a bone. (John has mentioned that she gives off a stalkery vibe.) I take out my laptop and she flips out. She asks me incredibly loudly \"OH MY GOSH! IS YOUR PASSWORD I LOVE JOHN?!?\" I tell her just how insane she is, and tell her that I'm not doing shit for her and that she has some serious issues. She proceeded to bug me all through L.A. about it. I still remember the endless barrage of \"Did you delete it yet? Did you delete it yet? I want you to delete that?\"", "summary": "obnoxious girl asks if the password to my laptop confesses my love for my 2 day gay boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4c25xw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] don't know how to avoid a recurring negative dynamic with my ex girlfriend [28 F] of four months", "post": "I had the most wonderful four months of my life with a smart, beautiful, caring woman. We broke up when she moved across the country eight months ago. It took me much longer than her to move on. I believe I have been over her for about two months now, but I still recognize that she is a wonderful person and would like to stay in touch. Since we broke up, we've spoken on the phone once every 2 to 8 weeks.\n\nWe have only had one \"fight\", but it takes on several forms. The first time was when we were still together. I wanted to hang out with her one evening, but she was busy with something else. I was disappointed, she felt guilty for my disappointment and at the same time resented me for being disappointed, then I felt guilty for making her feel guilty.\n\nI think a lot of people would shake this off, but it hung over us for a few days. We both felt terrible for making the other person feel terrible. I don't remember how we moved past it, but we did. Probably by ignoring it.\n\nWhat should have happened in that situation to avoid the conflict? I think it's valid for me to want to spend time with someone I care about and feel disappointed when it doesn't happen. I also think it's valid for her to spend time doing other things. I don't want to make her feel guilty or resentful, but I don't know how to avoid feeling disappointed.\n\nWhen we broke up, we agreed to be friends. The old \"fight\" took on a new form. Instead of hanging out, I wanted to talk on the phone. She took five weeks to call me back, which made me feel crummy and disappointed. She felt guilty and resented my disappointment. I felt guilty for making her feel guilty.\n\nThis could be a problem with me. Maybe it's just not reasonable for me to feel disappointed when I don't get to spend time with her / she doesn't call me back. I wish she would just not feel guilty and resentful, but I have no control over her reactions, so maybe I just have to suck it up and hide my disappointment.", "summary": "My disappointment made / makes my ex resentful. How can I avoid that dynamic?"}
{"id": "t3_23s173", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] been with with my Fiance[23 F] 3 years and she hates every other female", "post": "Hello /r/Relationships,  Long time lurker first time poster. I have something of a dilemma with my fiance in regards to other women lately. \n\nTo begin, I'd like to describe our seperate situations:\n\nMyself: I work in a very large office with lots of people of various ages and genders. I'm sociable, helpful around the office and generally know alot of people around here.  \n\nFiance: Is a stay at home mom, doesn't leave the house very much and is something of an introvert. Since having the baby , she has gained some weight which she is self concious about.    \n\nThe dilemma is that If I speak to any female, be it online or in person SHE GETS PISSED. I have female friends who are VERY aware I have a fiance. I don't feel the need to sneak around that fact because I am not looking for anything other than a strictly platonic friendship. \n\nAnytime a girl messages/adds me on facebook, a good hour or more of my life will be dedicated to arguing until I give up. I have thourouly explained that I am not trying to get laid and if any of my female friends makes an inappropriate move/comment [they haven't and won't, most are married!] I would cease contact immediately. \n\nThis is not good enough for her. She feels it is inappropriate for me to have a friendship with a woman while in a relationship with her.  I have had to stop talking to 3 GOOD friends simply because my fiance didn't like me talking to other women. Its not like I ignore her either.. \n\nSo, /r/relationships, can someone please give me perspective on this? Can you think of some way where I can help her understand my intentions are pure? Any advice is welcome and I will elaborate as much as needed!", "summary": "I have 99 problems and women are atleast 98 of them"}
{"id": "t3_2u4xni", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "HELP! Epic end of year journey - South America - South Africa", "post": "Hey Guys! I hope this is the right place for this, and that you can help me.\n\nSo I managed to get onto something known as the Young Endeavour program, which is awesome because it means I will be sailing from Rio to Cape Town and a Tall Ship. which is awesome.\n\nHowever, I have never been to South America/Africa before and have no idea what I should do there. The more I research the more confused I get.\n\nFor South America, I like the idea of the Inca Trail, but I also want to see some of Brazil, but then I started thinking about Patagonia.  Given I only have 2-3 weeks available for this part, I clearly can't do all of it. I'll be there around October\n\nAnd South Africa, I have absolutely no clue. I'll be there in December 2015 and only have 2 weeks.", "summary": "Recommendations for South America in October and South Africa in December"}
{"id": "t3_1pop2q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like I shouldn't even need to hold myself back on this.", "post": "So I've always thought this girl I know is pretty hot and I wouldn't hesitate to fuck her brains out if the opportunity arose. (I don't think it ever will/would though, even if I was trying to make it happen, so I guess the point is moot.) The only problem is that I know that it would be wrong to do that on so many levels for a whole host of reasons. \n\nFirst, I've known her long enough to know she's crazy. And we all know the rule about that. \n\nSecond, she's been dating my best friend for almost 3 years now. So that would be a serious betrayal on my part and I wouldn't do that to him.\n\nThird, I'm happliy in a relationship of just over a year. I would never cheat and I hate myself for even letting the thought enter my mind. I'm in love with my girlfriend and I would never do anything to hurt her. \n\nFourth, she's not 18 so it might be illegal (not sure about the laws where I live. Not like I would need to look them up though because I won't act on it.) And before you call me a pedophile, I just recently turned 18 so it's not like I'm some middle-aged creep getting the hots for a teenager. There's only like a year between us.\n\nFifth, she and I are pretty good friends, so if we did hook up, things would get weird really fast (especially since she's got a few screws loose.)\n\nI don't know. I just feel like an idiot for even having to remind myself not to act or anything even though there are so many obvious reasons why I shouldn't. I won't act on it ever, of course. But still, I feel bad for having these thoughts.", "summary": "I feel bad for having to remind myself not to put the moves on a my best friend's girl because there are so many obvious reasons why I shouldn't. I don't do it, but I feel bad for having to remind myself."}
{"id": "t3_2qrjhj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Date [18 M/F] 3 months, is it the right time to ask her to be my girlfriend?", "post": "Okay so I've been dating this amazing girl for about 3 months. We see each other at least 2/3/4 times in a week and I am pretty sure of what I want with her, and I know that she feels the same way... However I am not sure if its the right time + I don't know what to do in relation to asking it... We both live in NYC and new years eve is coming up and she wanted to go watch the ball so I figured that it would be a great time to make such request. What should I do?", "summary": "Wanna ask my date(3months) to be my girlfriend but don't know if its the right time. What should I give her? Would it be nice to ask her to be my girlfriend on the new years eve?"}
{"id": "t3_2q73pm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) best friend (23M) with his new GF (22F), she still logs into online dating sites", "post": "My buddy (let's call him Mark) has been dating a girl (Jen) for about two months now. They've decided to go exclusive and I'm happy for him, she seems like a cool girl. They met at school and hit it off pretty quickly.\n\nI've been less than lucky in the dating world and like many I've dipped my toes into the world of online dating. When I was browsing profiles last night I saw Jen on there. I assumed it was an old, little used profile from her single days but when I clicked it I was surprised to see that she was online within 24 hours. It's been about a month since Mark and Jen became official, even on social media so you KNOW it's big lol.\n\nI'm thinking that there are really two reasons she could be doing this:\n\n 1. \nShe likes the stream of attention she gets from the men on there. (Bad)\n\n 2. \nShe's not that into my friend and she's keeping her options open. (Really bad).\n\n \nMy friend is a sweet guy and he definitely likes this girl. He has a tendency to move fast and fall in love hard and I'm worried he's going to get his heart broken again (like his last GF).\n\nMy question to you fine folks is if you were in a relationship where monogomy was explicitly stated would you browse your old online dating sites?\n\nIf so, or if you personally have, why?\n\nDoes it speak negatively for the chances of this relationship?", "summary": "My best friends GF is still checking her online dating sites, what's up wit dat?"}
{"id": "t3_2bfkdv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16F] I didn't know where to post this... (gingers plz", "post": "I don't know if this is the right category but I'll ask my question anyway. \nI have a huge problem, it's the main reason why I'm single and have no experience with guys. \n\nI think physical attraction is something very important in a relationship (don't lie, most people have a 'type' and you probably do too) and this is where the problem lies. I'm only attracted to a certain type of people: Gingers. I have a thing for red/auburn haired men with freckles and pale skin but they're extremely rare :(\n\nI know this might sound weird or a bit superficial but I'm not attracted to blondes and brunettes, I'm only attracted to redheads and I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I'm probably gonna wait until college to find someone, there will be more people, but I'm scared I'll have to settle for a guy I'm not attracted to. \n\nWhat am I supposed to do? Can you guys give me some tips or stuff like that? Like I said previously I have NO experience with guys :/", "summary": "I'm ONLY attracted to redheads, and I don't know how to deal with this because they're rare. I'm not attracted to blondes and brunettes so that's why I have no experience with guys. I don't know how to deal with this weird preference."}
{"id": "t3_xdkjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my SO plans for us to stay at her old flings house for our vacation /:", "post": "My girlfriend (24) and I (28) have been dating for almost 6 months. We are taking a road trip in a couple of months and I've come to discover that the person for whom well be staying with, is someone she's been intimate with on several occasions in the past. Am I out of line to think that this is completely weird. Or am I overreacting here, I'm conflicted on how I feel considering she feels that he is one of her closest friends, and she hasn't seen him in almost a year. It would be cheaper to stay at said guys house, but given their past physical history, that makes me feel uncomfortable. What to do? What to do?", "summary": "The gf wants to stay with an old fling for our road trip adventure, is that weird?"}
{"id": "t3_3yht45", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I bought a puppy from a puppy mill. [Help]", "post": "My best friend has been looking to get a dog for sometime now. She has always had huskies, and was ready to get another, as her last dog had passed away a year ago. \n\nAfter careful talking and collaboration with her, we decided that as a \"Christmas gift\" I would pay for her puppy. I am normally against the puppy for Christmas thing, but she wanted a puppy, the time of year just worked out like that. \n\nI have 3 dogs myself, all rescues, I wasn't overly familiar with the process of buying a dog. But I know enough to know that I did in fact end up supporting a puppy mill. \n\nThis pup is a husky, he cost me $350, which is insanely cheap for a husky puppy (Sign #1). The \"breeder\" wouldn't let me on the property to see the dogs (Sign #2). The breeder also had no organization, no contracts, no vet records, no health certificate, nothing. I know I shouldn't have gotten the dog from him. I supported a puppy mill. This poor pup is stained with pee and feces. \n\nSo why did I do it? I was so caught up in getting my friend a husky, which again she knew about, that I looked past my better judgement. \n\nNot to mention, upon meeting this guy to pick up the puppy, I was alone. I had gone to meet him before with my boyfriend and he said he was fine because we were meeting in a public place and he didn't seem weird last time. This time I went alone, he didn't speak much and kept staring at me. After I paid for the dog and took him he told me to give him a hug, being scared I did. Stupid, I know- but I didn't want him to get angry, he seemed a little off. I didn't know what he would do. Nothing happened, but I feel so stupid for putting myself in that situation.", "summary": "I knowingly bought a dog from a puppy mill in order to make my friend happy, but looked past my better judgement and put myself in danger as well."}
{"id": "t3_3mvq9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [41M] mom [68F] won't stop buying my biracial daughter [4F] blonde haired Barbies and my wife [33F] is furious.", "post": "I'm a white guy married to a black woman. My mom never approved of our relationship because of this, but after several years of being estranged she came around once my wife and I had our daughter...at least we thought. My wife was hesitant to let her back in our lives and I agreed, so we started slowly letting her back in. My mom has been watching our daughter sometimes and she's given our daughter white Barbies. at first, neither of us thought anything of it until one day my wife asked our daughter why she wouldn't play with any of her other Barbies (the black ones). My daughter says \"because they aren't pretty like these ones\". My wife asks, Lily where did you get that from? And she says \"nana said the blonde ones are the prettiest\". My wife is rightly FURIOUS, calls my mother up and tells her she will never allow her to see Lily again. I feel absolutely horrible about this and I stupidly tried to give my mom the benefit of the doubt and think that maybe Lily misunderstood her, but my mom basically confirmed to me that that wasn't that case. I am standing by my wife in our decision to not allow her to be around our daughter anymore. Am I making the right decision here? I feel like my daughter's self esteem has already been damaged and she's only 4, and my biggest concern is her. Is there anything I can do to help her?", "summary": "my mom's racist beliefs got to my daughter and I don't know how to do damage control."}
{"id": "t3_1oaw41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 22] was cheated on by gf [F 23], still cant get over it.", "post": "Hey, so I have been in a relationship for of 3.5 years. I love my gf a lot and i know she does too. We have had rough patches but always made it through. She has an issue with lying and it has caused a lot of fights. A little over a year ago we broke up (mychoice) and saw other people. Then we got back together about 4 months later. I thought everything was going good. \n\nIt ends up being that about 2 months in, she started talking with one of her ex hookups. She had been texting/calling with him and periodically seeing him for 1.5 months. I was able to get her to admit it after a lot of fighting and me having to bring up physical evidence to prove it. All the while she was still talking to him. She swore she had stopped but didnt. It was a really bad time for us and she eventually did stop talking to him. \n\nShe has told me all they did was kiss but I find it very hard to believe. I personally think she slept with him. I am a person that is completely honest about everything, so you can already see that there is a serious discrepancy between us in that respect. I cant believe that she has been completely forthcoming. We have been trying to make it work for about 5 months now but I cant shake that feeling. She has lied to me again since this happened. Were in a long distance relationship and shes lied to me about where shes going out to for the night. \n\nIdk if ill ever be able to get over it or if she will ever really change. Its just so confusing and I still feel like she lying. Im in a serious point in my life, law schools is only a year or less away and i dont think i should be going through. I also can just be going crazy and imaging this, but that would just prove that I have no trust in her. Love stinks.", "summary": "Relationship for 3.5 years, she cheated. I cant believe she been completely candid, and now am in a serious predicament. Idk what to do and would like to hear some advice specially for someone who's gone through something similar. I really think she slept with him and is lying to me."}
{"id": "t3_4tvi36", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My cousin crashed my boyfriend's car, need help.", "post": "My dad, mom, my boyfriend, and I went to LA for the weekend so my dad offered to help my boyfriend find somebody to leave his unused car to (we live in bad area and the street cleaner sweeps daily so we had to leave the car somewhere else.) My dad leaves it with my cousin and tells him repetitively to just leave it outside his house and keep an eye on it. He gives him the keys and off we go. We're in LA and we receive a call from my cousin that he crashed it against another car (he fell asleep on the wheel) and my boyfriend's car got completely destroyed and towed. My boyfriend had just taken out the car out of his insurance because he was planning on selling it (he doesn't use it) and now we don't know what to do. What are my boyfriend's best options? My dad is willing to take the blame since he gave the keys to my cousin. My cousin doesn't have a car so no insurance, but his wife does.. So IDK. my boyfriend is panicking that they're going to arrest him and whatnot, he has no idea what to do. He doesn't care about the loss of the car, just doesn't want to get in trouble. So what are his best options?", "summary": "cousin crashed boyfriend's car when told not to use it, no insurance on both sides, we were out of the city 7 hours away. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_507hxp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Double standards", "post": "throw away for obvious reasons.\n\nMy[23M] gf [24F] of 3 years has some trust issues from being cheated on in other relationships and has huge problems with me hanging out with girls when she isn't there. She however hangs out with guys but thinks that is okay. I have no problem with her being around other men as I trust her, I just want her to treat me the same way. \n\nI have talked to her a couple times about it and only recently got any traction by using a hypothetical situation for myself that was the same situation she was in the night prior (stayed at a female friend who lives with a few guys). I got her to realize the double standards but she just says that she thinks that other girls are going to try to sleep with me whenever I go out. She says it's not me she doesn't trust but other girls. This over the last few months has been worse and I can't figure out how to make her realize that she can trust me.\n\nJust for some background I have never cheated on anyone and have never given her a reason to think I would. Also, I fully trust her and know she has never has/would cheat on me.", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't okay with me hanging out with girls but doesn't see a problem with her hanging out with guys."}
{"id": "t3_2rsi85", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 9 months, hurt and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Sorry for the long post. I'm really hurting right now and could use some advice or wise words.\n\nTo give a brief background, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months. He's a physician in an intense fellowship program and generally very stressed/tired/busy, I'm currently in school, and stay pretty busy with an internship and working. We spend almost everyday together, support each other, have a lot of fun and both refer to the other as our best friend (that we enjoy touching inappropriately.) \n\nFor the first couple months we were very happy together. The issues didn't start until I brought up the dreaded question, \"So what are we?\". Then began a bit of a struggle. I always wanted more from the relationship and was greeted by hesitancy, by 3 months I asked for exclusivity and he eventually agreed but only because I was going to leave if he didn't (I wanted something serious.)  by 6-7 months I said I love you, he didn't say it back. This is totally fine, painful, but fine. I said I'd be patient with him until he is ready.  He still hasn't said it back, but now at 9 months he said that he feels like he is falling in love, but isn't in love yet. This progress has given me hope, but not being on the same page has made me feel a bit insecure about our relationship. \nHe has mentioned that he doesn't want to fall in love unless he knows that we will have a serious future together, so he doesn't get hurt like he did in his 2 prior relationships. :( \n\nWe have been fighting a lot recently because: I still haven't met his family (they live 5 minutes from him), he doesn't want to share our relationship on Facebook (not the biggest deal!), he isn't in love with me, we don't really talk about the future, and the quality of time spent together isn't the best due to the nature of his work and how stressed and tired he is all of the time. After expressing my concerns about these things, he said he doesn't want to lose me and will try to open up to me. The fighting is really getting to us both.", "summary": "Basically, I need to know if this is a lost cause and if I'm being foolish for staying with this man. OR if I'm making a mountain out of molehill,and should just chill out? "}
{"id": "t3_tmsx7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "We didn't have a bad breakup, but I'm having a hard time avoiding my ex, and I'm not sure I want to.", "post": "I'm 24, she's 25. We broke up a couple months ago after a 3yr relationship. It was a mutual decision. I think we loved each other very much, but weren't really in love anymore. I don't regret breaking up, it's been hard, but I feel more like myself than I have in a while. Still, its hard having my best friend ripped away from me. There were no hard feelings during the breakup but I feel like it would have been easier if there were; then at least I could convince myself to dislike her or not wish her well.\n\nA large part of the problem is that we share almost all the same friends. We've unofficially split them up as far as hanging out on a day to day basis goes, but we're both still really good friends with all the same people. Two birthday parties we're both invited to are coming up, then a wedding we're going to together since the invite came before we broke up, and another wedding later in the summer.\n\nAs it is I ran into her randomly last week, we hugged, said a couple words and parted ways, and that was enough to completely break me down. I miss her so much. I know I need to separate and be able to heal, but I honestly don't see how I can do that without abandoning some of my friends, and even worse, there's a large part of me that wants to be able to go hang out with her.", "summary": "Every time I see her it's painful, and I don't know what to do without ceding my friends to her."}
{"id": "t3_1c88cj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex [23f] wants me to reimburse her for a trip we cancelled due to break up. She cheated on me [25m]", "post": "So we planned a trip together. About a month before the trip I found out she had kissed another guy. Between that and some other stuff I felt the need to break up with her. After the break up the flood gates opened and I found out about a bunch of other times she cheated on me since the very first week we dated, including sleeping with someone moments before I picked her up to hang out on one occasion. We had spent time together since August and were official in December to give an idea of time lines. \n\nSo this trip was costing us about $700 a piece. I made all of the reservations under my name and she had just written me a check. I cancelled the trip, but only the hotel had an insurance policy to get some money back, and the flights were just given to me in credits to use in the next year (-$200 in cancellation fees.) She had told me before she would reimburse me for any losses, I just said don't worry about it. Just today she asked me how much we lost on the trip and if I could write her a check for her half.\n\nI don't feel like I owe her anything. Had she just kissed a guy, whatever, but I've been told there were at least 5 other guys she slept with. She hasn't admitted to a single thing though, her friends just couldn't hold it in and told me all. So, what would you do?", "summary": "Ex wants reimbursement on a vacation, but she slept with everything that walked."}
{"id": "t3_381swr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20) girlfriend's (20) best friend (21F) hates me.", "post": "To begin, we are both college students who attend universities two states away from each other. We have a hard time being together because of logistics, but we make it work. Anyway, her close friend hates me for seemingly no reason. Her only explanation is that she has a bad feeling about me. She says awful things to my girlfriend about me \"He's just a terrible person\" or \"I hate him and you should stay away from him\". I don't know what makes her say these things, since I have only been nice to her friend (only met her once) and have never done anything to be considered a terrible person. It has only recently gotten worse, and she's starting to get more distant from me. I'm afraid I'm losing her, and I don't know what to do because she's so wonderful and I don't know how to solve this.", "summary": "Girlfriend's best friend hates me and is trying to convince her that I'm an awful person."}
{"id": "t3_1szk0s", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "So, you don't want to change lanes so I can merge", "post": "Yesterday, I was accelerating on the on-ramp, reaching the speed of the flow of traffic (~70 mph, ~110 kph). I look in my mirror to make sure I'm clear to merge, and sure enough there's an 18 wheeler in the lane and isn't moving over. I start blowing my horn, but he doesn't even acknowledge me. At this point, I realize the on-ramp is ending and I have about 500 feet until it ends. I slam on the brakes to reach 50 mph (~80 kph), merge lanes as the on-ram is ending. I gain some space between the truck and myself, then move to the left lane and pass him. I look in the rear-view mirror and see the vehicle thats in front of the tractor trailer is going about 5 mph (~8 kph) below the speed limit. The tractor trailer moves into my lane, at which point I slow down to the speed of the vehicle the 18 wheeler was trying to pass. Once I slow down, the tractor trailer turned his blinker to move back into the right lane; I then sped up and the 18 wheeler turned off his blinker. Once it went off, I slowed back down and then the 18 wheeler turned his blinker back on. This went on for a couple of miles, until my exit came up. In retrospect, this definitely wasn't the safest thing to do but road rage got the best of me. And damn, did it feel good.", "summary": "18 wheeler doesn't move over to let car merge, ends up getting stuck behind two cars going 5 mph under the speed limit"}
{"id": "t3_44s9zx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 6 months, Talking to Members of the Opposite Sex", "post": "When you are in a committed relationship, isn't it right that you're not supposed to talk to members of the opposite sex unless you're friends with them? Like you shouldn't go talking to girls if you have a girlfriend? And you DEFINITELY shouldn't go giving them compliments on their hair and other physical traits, right? I want to know. Am I the only one that thinks this?\n\nMy boyfriend is really bad about talking to girls. I don't mind if they are in our group of friends, mostly because I know those girls and I trust them, but he will casually talk to girls in class and around at school, and I am certainly not ok with it. He always tells me when he does, and today he told me that he told a girl that he liked what she did with her hair. I was MORTIFIED. I am furious! He doesn't seem to see anything wrong with talking to girls or giving them PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS, and I feel like a controlling bitch when I tell him to stop. Am I wrong here? I've also caught him staring at this one bitch on multiple occasions and I catch her looking at him too. I know he used to flirt with her before we got together, and I'm pretty sure if I wasn't around, he'd talk to her. What do I do about this?", "summary": "Is it wrong to expect my partner not to talk to members of the opposite sex?"}
{"id": "t3_28kr18", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Looking for input regarding [Invite] timeline", "post": "Hi Weddit! \n\nFH and I have decided on 9/19/2015. We're starting to get more of the details hashed out have come to a cross roads with standard invitation etiquette. \n\nOur guest list is \"large\" (200ish) but includes 80+% family. Most of the family is my side, which is convenient since my parents' house and yard will be our venue. \n\nFH has suggested that we send out the formal invitations soon-ish. About a year in advance. Similar to how STDs are traditionally done. This would have the location, date, etc. We're eager-beaver early planners, so we have lots of these things set in stone already.\n\nHis logic is that our family will plan around it and will know whether or not they intend to come. And that there's no point in waiting to send the invitation if we have a plan.\n\nWe would ask for RSVPs via our website on this formal invite. \n\nCome 2 months before the actual date, we will send out \"reminders\" similar to STDs with the basic details. We wouldn't send them to the people who RSVP'd no.\n\nThis makes a lot of sense to me, but I feel like there's a standard in place for a reason, and if this was so much better, it would already be done.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "FH wants to send formal invites for our Sept 2015 wedding now, ask for RSVPs, and then send reminders a few months before."}
{"id": "t3_108f6g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Inlaws and the inter-relationships", "post": "Throw-away here. I love my wife and we get along great but her mother and her do not get along that well. I myself lost my mother 7 years ago so I find it especially jarring when she won't phone her mother. At the same time I do recognize that my mother-in-law can be difficult to deal with. She does not talk to her son as he does not approve of his wife and thinks she is taking him away from her. He used to support her whole heatedly and was the good son but I think he just snapped at some point as he realized that he needed to focus on his marriage and not his mom.\n\nShe has the idea that everyone should help her in her life and kind of guilt trips people into doing so. She has a kind of self pity attitude that really grates on me. Nevertheless I have and do try to have a good relationship with her and make an effort to phone her. It is somewhat awkward as she usually vents to me about things that are wrong in her life and why we won't get involved with her son (who I get along with) to convince him to talk to her. She refuses to phone him even though I repeatedly (sometimes angrily to get the point across) that they are 2 adults that need to work it out. She also vents about my wife which is really hard for me to listen to as it gets me a bit angry.\nI know enough not to get in between my m-i-l and my wife (as I will almost always agree with my wife) or my m-i-l and her son. \n\nWhat is the best thing for me to do? \n\nI find it hard to motivate myself to call her as I know it will be awkward or hard for some reason, but I do not want to cut ties like my wife usually does (both are very stubborn) which I also do not agree with.", "summary": "How to I help the relationships between my in-laws without stepping on a land mine."}
{"id": "t3_1tijd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24M] and I [22F] have been dating for almost 4 months and I love him, should I tell him?", "post": "My boyfriend [24M] and I [22F] have been dating for almost 4 months and it dawned on me the other day that I love him. It's getting to the point where it almost slips out or I just look at him and have this weird urge to yell it at him (almost like the scene in Elf when he's singing to his dad).\n\nHe is not good at expressing himself and talking about his feelings is hard for him as, he admits, he doesn't know the proper words to say and messes up what he really means. Along with his problems with being emotionally vocal, he also hasn't dated very much (longest relationship being 6 months) and he has never been in love. \n\nI almost let it slip the other night when we were cuddling because I expressed that I'd miss him (we're spending the holidays with our families in different provinces and won't see each other until a week after New Years or so), but I caught myself out of fear I'd scare him off.\n\nDo I wait longer into our relationship to say it? Do I wait for him to say it? Should I tell him, even if it scares him off?", "summary": "Boyfriend [24M] and I [22F] have been dating for almost 4 months. I love him but am scared that if I say I do, he will be scared off. He hasn't dated much and has never been in love. Do I tell him? Do I wait?"}
{"id": "t3_1b98jp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24m] Out on a limb here", "post": "So my gf (21) and I have been dating since last November. It's been interesting to say the least, as we're both almost out of college, and our universities are an hour or so apart. At first we managed to see each other once or twice a week. Things were busy but great. Lately though, I can't get her to talk to me. At all. I'm a theatre technician and she's a performer so our schedules are always busy, especially on the weekends, so I understand that she can't talk much since neither can I. But I can't get more than a single text message in any given day. Phone calls go straight to voicemail. It's been this way for about a month now. I trust her not to cheat on me, but she has been active on Facebook like normal, and still texts my friends. I know nothing is going on with those people because, well, they're mostly gay. Short of sounding crazy/bitchy/clingy, I don't really know what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a few months in a semi-long distance relationship suddenly cut communication with what appears to be specifically me. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3aay1t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] I have an interview with an electrical utility company as an I&C Engineer, but am unfamiliar with the position. Could anybody help tell me exactly what an I&C Engineer is and does?", "post": "First off, a little information about me. I've been out of school for roughly 3 years with a B.S. in Chemical Engineering. For that time I've been working as a Technical Manager. Recently I've been interviewing for new positions and I'm now on my second interview with this company. However, even though I know the basics of what an I&C Engineer is, I'd like to be more familiar if any questions were to come up in relation to it during the meeting. I do know I&C is short for Instrumentation & Control; however, outside of using Googl-Fu, that's about as far as my knowledge goes. Thanks for helping!", "summary": "Need help understand what exactly an I&C Engineer is and does."}
{"id": "t3_3dw5n1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f/29) am a widow and I'm not sure I'll ever want to date again, but my parents (m/f/60s) keep pressuring me to remarry.", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster. \n\nI have married my high school sweetheart right after college when we both were 22. We've been married for 3 amazing years and dated for 6 years before getting married. He died in a car crash not long after our 3rd anniversary and his 25th birthday. \n\nI've been widowed for 4 years and I completely lost any romantic and sexual interest in other people. My husband was my first and only and I have no desire to change that. I feel comfortable this way, and I would prefer to stay like this because I have a happy and fulfilling life that I enjoy. \n\nMy parents, on the other hand, don't understand that and insist that I should get married before I'm too old and have children. I've tried telling them that that's not what I want but they so not seem to listen, telling me that I can't stop living just because my husband is dead. \n\nHow do I deal with them?", "summary": "Lost husband 4 years ago, at the moment have a happy and fulfilling life, but parents insist I can' the happy without another husband. How do I deal with them?"}
{"id": "t3_amztj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey tech-savvy Redditors, I need some help. If I  get the message \"Windows was unable to complete  format\" while formatting a Memory Stick Pro Duo,  is it bricked?", "post": "I turn to you, Reddit, in my darkest hour of need. Although I admit this may not be as pressing as some of the other issues Reddit has dealt with(divorce, depression, P-dub), I really don't want to have to buy another one. Here are the details: I use the stick to listen to music on a Sony Ericsson phone, when I noticed that a few songs were corrupted. I figured it would be quicker and easier to reformat and retransfer the music than try to locate each corrupted song. But when I went to reformat to FAT32, I got the message. I pretty much tried everything I could find posted on the Internet. First I got the recommendation to reformat as NTFS then FAT32, but near the end of the NTFS format, it crapped out again and this time the card was left in RAW format. I tried to use cmd line format and got the message \"Invalid media or Track 0 bad - disk unusable\" So now things are looking really bad. So is the stick really toast or is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Stick bricked."}
{"id": "t3_zmoo0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is something one of your friends did to make you doubt the credibility of anything they say?", "post": "Today I was talking a friend of mine when we suddenly remembered something. A mutual friend of ours had lost the bet we made at the beginning of the summer. Everyone we hang out with usually take our bets pretty seriously, but this guy was different. \n\nWhen we tried to collect our money, 25 dollars each, he said no. When I asked why, his response was \" I added a stipulation during agreement, which stated that the bet is off if I forget about it.\". Naturally, I called bullshit. Eventually, I tell him that he is a scumbag and that he needs to pay. Several of our Mutual friends(who have no stake in the bet) agree that he made the bet, and he needs to pay. He promised us when we did the bet that he wouldn't back out. I told him it is not about the money, it is about the principle. The conversation ended with him telling me to go away. \n\nThis was the last in a long line of lies and bitching out. He has lost all credibility in my eyes.", "summary": "Guy loses a bet with me and a friend and doesn't pay."}
{"id": "t3_2tsl9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M27] have been seeing my girlfriend [F32] for four months. Did some snooping on her phone and found questionable messages... Help please?", "post": "My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends, some of whom she has had sex with, others she hasn't. There is a guy friend in particular she always speaks fondly of... I'll call him Chris. She has assured me before that he has never slept with him, that they are simply good friends. \n\nToday I committed a no-no and decided to snoop on her phone. I've told her previously that I would never look through her phone, but I had a funny feeling and chose to break my promise.\n\nA few days ago I had told her that I may be working out of town for the weekend. Apparently she texted Chris and told him that I would be leaving town for the weekend, and he should come over one of those nights and \"watch a movie or just hang out, lol.\"\n\nOne thing to note is that I've never actually met this dude. She is just constantly texting him.\n\nI'm sitting here, confused.I've always trusted her, and I don't want to jump the gun and assume the worst. It could be that she wanted to hang out with him just as friends, and knew that the best opportunity would be while I'm busy out of town... But it seems incredibly shady.\n\nAny advice? For me to confront her would be admittance of me snooping through her text messages. I understand that she's friends with him, but how crazy would it be for me to text a female friend and ask her to come over some night when my girlfriend is out or town? I would never do that.", "summary": "I broke a promise and snooped through my girlfriend's phone... She tells a male friend to come over some night while I'm out of town"}
{"id": "t3_2hx5bv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28 M] Found Out My Bipolar Wife [27 F] Cheated", "post": "My wife, who is Bipolar 1 (but compliant with her meds), recently revealed to me that she's been sleeping with other people for the last few months. I think there were 3 total, mostly met through dating sites. \n\nThe hardest part of this to process is how relieved I feel knowing this now. For months I've been suspicious, to the point that I'd go to bed with chest pains. I actually carried a lot of guilt over my suspicions and assumed they were the root of our relationship problems.\n\nWe've been married for only just over a year. I knew about the BP going in, and I specifically thought she might be manic during this time. She explained away and covered up her behavior very well.\n\nHere's the thing: I'm having a hard time sorting out what I'm capable of dealing with moving forward. I don't know if I should write this off as an 'episode'. Maybe I overestimated what I'm capable of putting up with at the beginning of the relationship. She is absolutely MASTERFUL in her deceit. I don't bring that to the table, so I only feel the need to put up walls around her now. It also doesn't help that we now live in a place where I don't have a support network. She does, but I know she doesn't tell them everything. I can't function like that.\n\nShe brought it up 100% on her own with no chance of being caught. She could not possibly be displaying more remorse.  But I also question her understanding of who she is. She's bipolar, but maybe she's also fundamentally not monogamous? For my sake I want her to sort that out so I don't get dragged further into something that will never work out.\n\nI don't know. This has all been very stream of consciousness. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.", "summary": "Bipolar wife cheated, I don't know whether or not to write it off as a \"sickness\""}
{"id": "t3_vw8tm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[31/m] Do I reveal my extensive collection of porn?", "post": "Here is the story... I am 31(m) and she is 36(f), we've been together for almost 6years, completely monogamous to each other (of this I am reasonably certain), not married, not engaged, but talking about the possibility. Things could be better, and specifically I mean in the past 6 years we had sex perhaps almost 10 times. To be honest, I am a bit frustrated here. \n\nBut things seem to have been improving; after discussing this topic in so many ways and in so many hours with her, it appears to me that she is particularly embarrassed/uncomfortable with sex and trust in general or even disinterested in it (which makes me feel like an oversexed fiend). She is in therapy, which has been helpful. We have slowly been enjoying more intimacy recently. I for my part have been trying to be as open, patient, forth-coming and encouraging as possible. I'll admit that some days are better than others and I get frustrated and lose patience, usually we can talk about it, but it happens. \n\nSo here is the question: given her general sense of uncomfort and given the trust issues and given my efforts to be as reasonably open as possible; should I reveal to her my porn collection (which has been accumulating for the past 6years now). I have told her in the past that I looked at porn, but I do not believe she realizes to what extent (nor did I make an attempt to clarify it). Her reaction was feeling angry, insecure and betrayed. She begrudgingly got over it once her friend affirmed that this is not completely unheard of, as her husband does it too.\n\nPart of me believes this reveal might cause domestic WWIII and end it all together (which if that is the case may be the best long run solution, except for the whole 'war' part). The other part of me does not want to set her recent progress back by 4years. Ideally I hope this will demonstrate my sincerity to being open and honest with her, and perhaps even allow her to be more comfortable with this topic. And I do concede also the possibility that perhaps I am the one with a problem, but I lack the perspective to recognize it. \n\nRegardless, thanks for your insight.", "summary": "do I tell her about the enormous amount of porn I have been hoardin"}
{"id": "t3_mudyd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "do you or did you have imaginary friend? What's you experience like?", "post": "I used to have an imaginary friend who I simply called \"brother\" (I'll refer to him as bro). If you're curious, I'm the youngest child, I have an older sister who is 6 years older than me. I think I have \"relationship\" with my bro up till I was in 7th grade, after that it's just gone. I never really interact with him in public, usually I \"talked\" or \"played\" with him when I was alone. Often it was when I was eating and I would shared it with him, well of course, imaginary shared with him. Most of the time, I only did it in my mind. Up until now, I still remember him as a part of my life; however, unlike when I was younger, I can no longer feel his \"presence\". When I was a kid I used to feel he's always beside me. I'm not sure if he's more like a friend or younger brother to me. I think maybe the second one.", "summary": "I used to have an \"imaginary brother\""}
{"id": "t3_539r20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23m] use her [21f] for sex?", "post": "Went on a date with a girl I met off a dating site. She wasnt engaged much in the conversation at all and it felt like pulling teeth the whole time. It got even worse when she asked me what I do for a living and I told her im in landscaping. At that point she spent almost the rest of the date playing around on her phone. \n\nWe walked out of the restaurant together (I paid of course, not even an attempt on her part) and she noticed that my car is a brand new charger hellcat (80k car). All of a sudden she put her phone away and was 110% interested in everything I had to say and asked me how I could afford it being a landscaper. I informed her that I own my own business.\n\nClearly this girl is not relationship material. Im frankly disgusted by her behavior. But shes hot and I wouldnt mind fucking her a few times before I cut contact.", "summary": "Went on a date with a gold digger. Should I fuck the gold digger a few times before I cut contact?"}
{"id": "t3_1xk25q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have never been crazy about anyone", "post": "First of all, this is the first post of a long-time lurker (diff account though) and I'm feeling a little sad so please excuse me if none of this makes sense.\n\nThe only romantic relationship I ever had was in high school-I dated a girl for a couple of weeks or months, I cannot remember completely. As you may notice, I didn't really care much about her (I actually thought she was ugly) and I broke her heart in a truly pathetic way. I got in that relationship because I was a horny teenager with low self esteem. Six years later, having passed graduated college and everything, I haven't had any romantic contact with anyone else.\n\nThe weird part is that I actually like girls in a sexual way. Sometimes I even feel lonely in my bed and would like to have a girl by my side. However, I don't think I ever wanted any of that badly enough to do anything about it. I fantasized about some girls (friends and acquaintances) in the past yet I always found them to be out of my league.\n\nIf it isn't obvious by now, I have low self-esteem and I think I might have episodes of depression. However, there are days where I could conquer the world and yet I'm still unable to form any sort of meaningful romantic relationship. Most of the time I tell myself that I haven't found the right person yet, which could be true since I live a rather solitary life (as the result of my hobbies and financial situation). This all leaves me very confused though since everybody around me seems to be in some sort of relationship right now, even people who seem to be even less fit for relationships.\n\nI don't think I'm a psychopath either, I love my family and my creator. I have some friends and people seem to like me. It's just that I can't seem to find anybody utterly fascinating like in the tales of love songs...", "summary": "I like girls but have never been crazy about one, can anyone relate?"}
{"id": "t3_1uk8zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong for me [26 M] to feel uncomfortable that my gf [22F, ~1 year] is hanging out alone with her guy friend that most likely has feeling for her?", "post": "We have been together for almost a year now, but currently we are in a LDR. She moved away for school. She used to hang out with this guy friend who she said that she has a hunch the guy might have feeling for her, but he was her good friend. I didn't mind her hanging out with him and I really do trust her. She came back for a month during the holidays. Everything was great.\n\nShe went back last week, and on the first day back, she made plan to have lunch with the guy friend the following day. They went for lunch/brunch, hang out, go tea shopping etc. Again she said that she is pretty sure that he likes her. I told her that I am uncomfortable about this. She said that she absolutely has no feeling for him. I don't think its wrong to hang out with a friend, but I feel uneasy with her hanging out alone with a guy that has feeling for her, which might give him hope. She has many other good male friend and she do hanging out with them alone from time to time which I don't mind at all. This dude is the first one that I feel uncomfortable with.\n\nWe end up having a bit of a discussion. She said she will not be hanging out with him alone anymore because she does not want to risk the relationship. I told her that I really don't mind her hanging out, although it feel uncomfortable, and asked her to be careful, and not to lead him on without knowing.\n\nIs there anything else I should bring up with her??? Is it insecure of me to feel that way?", "summary": "LDR gf start to hangout with a guy friend, he probably has feeling for her, I feel uncomfortable, told her, discussed, she said she won't be hanging out alone with him anymore, conflict feeling..."}
{"id": "t3_15i5et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(18/m) Hey guys, I really like this girl (19/f) but I don't know what to do next.  Do y'all have any idea?", "post": "Okay guys, I'll try to keep this short.\n\nSo, I've known her / liked her (I REALLY like her) for about 3 months now. We see each other quite often outside of class. I've only been alone with her a couple times: once, we went to dinner because everyone backed out, and another time we had coffee (she brought a girl friend, FML, but she left reasonably soon.) Both times, we had an awesome time. The conversation was fast, fresh, funny...I had her laughing at all of my jokes. And we relate in so many ways. She's really confusing though. She'll text me, seeming really sweet, act like she really wants to talk to me, etc. and then just stop talking to me / act like she doesn't care for absolutely no reason. IDK what's going on.\n\nThe reason I haven't made a move yet is I always thought there was someone else (turns out it wasn't). She mentioned a cute guy she talked to but I don't think that's going anywhere.\n\nFinal note: I asked her what she looked for in a guy. She pretty much described me to a T. She's looking for a nice guy, and I feel like I'm really sincere, and would be really sweet to her. I really want to; she's dated some jerks in the past who really hurt her, and I just want to be with her and make her happy. I have every other characteristic she listed. Is my luck just that bad, or....?", "summary": "I like a girl who seems to, and should, like me, but she's confusing. I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1vpo4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] been together with my girlfriend [19 F] for 9 months, my mind feels so clouded all the time", "post": "Alright, so as the title says we've been together for 9 months. We live several hours apart, not enough for it to be considered long distance but far enough away that we visit eachother during the weekend, and also stay the entire weekend. We usually also see eachother one day during the week, when one of stays the night. \n\nI must add that this is my first actual relationship, and my girlfriends second serious one. \n\nNow since a couple of months, my mind feels so clouded whenever we're apart and I think of my gf and/or our relationship. I don't know how to describe it that well, except for that it feels like a slight unease, and other than that the only way to describe it is just clouded. I can't make much out in my mind, so to speak. \n\nWhenever we're together things are good, no feelings of unease and not really clouded, except when we argue (just the cloudedness, no unease). Whenever we argue and I try to think of an example of something or something like that, my mind feels so clouded and I can't think of much at all, similar to feeling pressured or a lack of confidence (this is nothing my girlfriend is causing, even when we argue she doesn't pressure me or anything). But honestly, other than that, when we are together everything's good. I'm not sure what's going on. I'm very happy with my girlfriend, but this unease and cloudedness sometimes put a damper on that and makes this relationship feel kind of... heavy, those feelings are tiring.", "summary": "Whenever we're apart, my head feels clouded in regards to my girlfriend/relationship,  and I sometimes feel some unease ( perhaps due to the cloudedness?). What is causing this and what does it mean?"}
{"id": "t3_ccuwq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Can an economist type help answer some questions please?", "post": "I was thinking this morning about something I'd heard or read in the news about the large amounts of consumer debt and its effect on the economy here in the U.S., so I'm hoping someone could help me out please.  \n  \nI was wondering what would happen if they were to do things that instantly put money back in people's pockets, such as forgiving all student loans, capping any home mortgages interest rate to say 9 or 10 percent if they are currently above that, something along these lines.  In addition doing something about interest rates on credit card balances.  Would this have a negative impact on the overall economy? Or would it help?  \n  \nI'm not saying that all debts are forgiven, or some type of clean slate, but an across the board type debt restructuring.  \n  \nDisclaimer for me here, I have no credit cards, no auto loans, a small amount in student loans and a modest house payment.  I can survive in the current environment with no issue on my income.  I don't buy into the idea that people should suffer, and I think everyone is to blame for the situation we're in, it simply seems to me that only corporations are really seeing any kind of help from the government while real people suffer.", "summary": "what would happen if they wiped out the majority of US consumer debt?"}
{"id": "t3_tzojr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Songs for Reddit: Vol II. Hey Reddit, can I write another album of songs for you?", "post": "Hi there,\n\nI'm a songwriter. I really, really like to write songs for other people. Two months ago I posted [this thread] ( challenging myself to write, record, mix and master an album of 10 songs based on the content of the top upvoted comments within the span of 5 days. [Well, I did it and lots of people really enjoyed it.]  So much so that I've decided to do it again. \n\nYou can listen to the first album [here!](\n\nSo again, tell me a story. About anything. Tell me about your husband or wife or mom or dad or girlfriend or doctor or bartender, or whatever else. Maybe something or someone makes you particularly happy, sad or moved or whatever else. Maybe you're struggling with something right now and it's possible that a song about it would prove to be therapeutic in some way. Or maybe it'll be 10 songs about bacon or narwhals. I don't mind that either. If I've learned anything from doing this, it's that the human experience is incredibly wide and trying to quantify, judge or put value to it is absolutely fruitless, so instead I just write songs about it.\n\nTo give you a general idea, the first album consisted of songs about r/spacedicks, some r/bestof posts, a love song or two, and the ballad of mediumpace. However, do feel free to have me write ten songs about bacon.\n\nSo post a comment! **The top 10 upvoted comments within 24 hours will be turned into CD quality MP3s** and delivered in a timely manner. I'm not giving myself a crazy deadline this time, because, well, I have a full time job now. I want to take my time this time and create something I'm truly proud to share without the burden of time forcing me to settle for less than perfect performances and production. Besides, trying to pull this off in 5 days with a 40 hour work week might actually kill me. However, I will keep everyone updated with a blog of some nature. I'll even try to make it interactive and educational so if you've ever had the itch to learn about songwriting or recording, here's your chance for free!", "summary": "I'd like to write you guys another album. Within 24 hours I'm going to take the top 10 comments and turn them into tunes. Tell me a story, upvote the ones you want to hear, and listen to the album when it's complete! It went amazingly well the first time, and it would be cool to have the same success with the sophomore album! Comment away!"}
{"id": "t3_20ajho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [20/M] keeps bothering me [19/F] about \"Us\" when I'm not interested in it. How can I get him to stop?", "post": "I get text messages from him... we dated for two years about a year ago.\n\nMe: Every time I hit the seven month mark with someone you always pop up. \n\nHim: What are you talking about? I've made my feelings clear to you since last December. You just choose to ignore them until you realize your boyfriend will never love you like I do. \n\nMe: Things would NEVER be the sane between us. \n\nHim: If we were together and you truly wanted to be with me you would never be happier. Guaranteed.\n\nHim: And it would only get better.\n\nI am in a happy relationship of almost eight months and can't imagine ending it for someone I don't have the same type of feelings for.", "summary": "Help me with my crazy ex. Please?"}
{"id": "t3_1clsru", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is mean't by \"Make sure you keep in touch\" in response to possible work opportunities?", "post": "I'm a freelance producer/videographer/editor and recently collaborated with a major national radio station. All the producers involved commended my work and were very pleased with the outcome. One producer (from head office) emailed me: \n\n>Make sure you stay in touch, we have plenty of video projects over the year, it's always good to know there is a reliable pair of hands in town and keep me posted on what you're up to.\n\nand another producer (from my city) emailed me:\n>Shoot me through your resume and clips. Let's sort a time for you to come in and have a chat.\n\n>I can't promise you any work or a job but I can tell you how to get work at [NAME]. The fact you produced this for us on a deadline and that my bosses have seen that is a great step towards that.\n\nSo I have email my resume and what not to that one producer but whats the next step for me in \"keeping in touch\" with the other? What do I update him with and how often?", "summary": "Producer said to \"keep in touch\" in regards to possible work opportunities, but what do I keep in touch about?"}
{"id": "t3_4iuxv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should my (34/f) expectations be as I begin dating again?", "post": "What is your take on dating a woman who was abused in the recent past? I have been told that the reality is that any intelligent, stable man looking for a long term relationship would immediately disqualify me if he knew (the logic being akin to why most would not consider dating single mothers: why bother dealing with additional baggage if he doesn't have to?) and only men with serious psychological issues and/or moochers masquerading as empathetic white knights would be interested.\n\nThanks in advance for your honest responses. I would much rather hear people's honest opinions than any sort of feel-good PC rhetoric (I appreciate that such statements come from a well-intentioned place but false information will nonetheless ultimately do me a disservice). I'm an adult and can handle the truth.", "summary": "What is your take on dating a woman who was abused in the past?"}
{"id": "t3_107ged", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] Boyfriend is (23/m) said I looked too skinny. Should I be offended?", "post": "This morning my bf found a picture of me on my computer from this summer where I was wearing a bikini. I wasn't in the country this summer, so he wasn't seeing my body every day.\n\nI blushed and was a little embarrassed, more or less playing coy but not really ashamed that he found a picture of me like that (I had intended to send it to him since we were apart for so long).\n\nThen he mentions that \"I almost look too skinny\" in the photo. This makes me angry, and I still am a little bit because A) I felt like I looked really attractive there, and B) I'm taking a \"dirty\" picture for him and he responds with a critique. Also, his comment set off an alarm in my head that there's a skinny threshold in his mind that I may have been crossing. Given that I'm a size 10 and 5'11'', I'm not fat by any means, but I'm at least 20 pounds away from being \"too skinny\", which is bullshit anyways.\n\nWhen we talked about it he said that he didn't mean it like that, but when he tried to say what he did mean he couldn't really explain it in a way that wasn't offensive and just kept saying he didn't mean it, he finds me so attractive, and that wasn't the first thing he thought of when he saw the photo, etc. A part of me was trying to justifying it by thinking that maybe he was just trying to make me feel good about my body by emphasizing how \"skinny\" isn't necessarily attractive to him (I've told him I put pressure on myself to look like that before), but that's not how it came across. \n\nOverall, I just feel confused because what he thought was \"too skinny\" was actually quite normal. It was an odd comment for him to make, and as soon as he said it he realized he had put his foot in his mouth. I guess I just don't know if I'm being over sensitive.", "summary": "Boyfriend finds a recent photo from this summer, says I kinda look too skinny, and I feel trapped in a double bind and oversensitive about the issue."}
{"id": "t3_2gube5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my x-gf [22 F], in love with her, had a chance to get her back but fucked it up.", "post": "So I was dating her in college, and then things kind of dwindled apart. A year later, we start talking... we both sort of realize we still love each other. I live on the west coast, she lives on the east coast. She comes to visit, it's fantastic, she wants to get back together, but I don't really fully emotionally release because we're not together. She takes that as - I just wanted her to come visit to have sex and have no interest in dating again. I don't know how to respond to that and I'm unsure we should get back together after spending 3 days together, and so we stop talking for like 3 weeks. Now it's 3 weeks later and I'm kinda going nuts because i had a shot to have her back and I realize too late how much I love her, basically i fucked it up. This has happened before, so she will probably hate me if i just tell her I want her back....what do i do?", "summary": "X-gf wanted to get back together, I wasn't sure, now I want to and it's 3 weeks later without talking"}
{"id": "t3_3fttbo", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Should I stay or Should I go? F(21) friendship between F(21)", "post": "So I decided to move temporarily up to a new a state to be with my best friend for the month of July and August. I found a room to sublet and it's fairly nice. So far, it's been pretty rocky, either amazing fun and good times or a lot of downtime and lots of loneliness. I wasn't able to find a job here like I thought it would, mostly because it's a college town and I'm only here for two months so that is very discouraging for employers. My friend on the other hand has a great job at a movie theater but works full time and is always working. I've done my best to try and amuse myself, read a few books and done a lot of meditation and hiking and exploring myself while she's gone at work.\n\nBut I'm really homesick. I've tried making friends but I find a lot of people have been flakey. I've met a few guys here as well and found it's the same, a few late night night booty calls but no real wanting to hang out during the day and not drunk it seems. Additionally, problems have arisen with my friend since she recently has starting dating someone meaning that even more of her time is spent else where and I feel rejected and left out more often than not. \n\nSo as of right now, my friend is on a 10 day trip (unplanned when I first arrived here) on the other side of the country. That means 10 days without having a real friend, I'm pretty tired of meeting one day friends or dates at bars by now so there's that.  So the question is should I stay here and tough it out for the next 10 days and hope that things will get better for the rest of the month after that since me and my friends do have some stuff we still wanted to do here together or go home and be with my home friends and my family and get my old job back and be happy?", "summary": "Alone in a new city with no friends anymore, should I just go back home or try to work it out?"}
{"id": "t3_3ewg0y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] Communicating with my girlfriend (20/f) regularly tires me.", "post": "We have been together for the past year and a half but I have been abroad for 8 months during this time. Now I'm back for a couple of months and naturally we are spending a lot of time together. 6 out of 7 days a week we go out for at least 3 hours and after that we go home (we don't live together) and skype chat for another 4-5 hours and that repeats everyday. Our interests are very different so usually when we are talking to one another we aren't paying attention because we are interested in the conversation but because the one who is talking is. She seems to be fine with all of this but I'm feeling very tired and I just don't know what to do. Sorry if this doesn't make a lot of sense.", "summary": "My girlfriends likes spending time together and talking and I'm not really feeling it."}
{"id": "t3_38fbjx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being the least observant person ever.", "post": "So I'm walking with a couple buddies towards a downtown restaurant.  One of them was in town on leave, so we wanted to go have a good meal at the time.  No real backstory needed, other than knowing we were just some dudes out walking.  \n\nWe reach a crosswalk, and decide to hurry it up across.  My buddy mentions something about getting across the road faster than a vehicle that has a hard time maneuvering (a tank, I think? we were discussing video games, Metal Gear was on my mind), so I shoot back with an easy, \"Well, that's the nice thing about legs, you can change pace and get around fast and easy.\"\n\nLiterally as the words leave my mouth, I see a guy in a wheelchair being pushed by a woman. Basically the only other people on the street; they were already on the side we were heading onto.  \n\nAs caught-up in the discussion as I was, my brain took a bit to register what had just happened, and it wasn't until they pulled over to the side to let us pass and I see out of the corner of my eye the guy look away with an expression of consternation that it starts to dawn on me what I just did.  And like the coward I am, I just kept walking with my friends, totally frozen with literally no clue how to react to my fuckup.  I couldn't be completely sure it was because of what I said, but in retrospect, I'm not sure what else it could have been.\n\nI didn't even see what was really wrong with the guy, but presumably, he needed that wheelchair for a reason.  Just... goddamn, I'm fucking retarded sometimes.  At the very least, I should have said sorry, but the thought that he might not have actually heard me and I would have made a bigger fool of myself made me panic.", "summary": "Accidentally twisted the knife about as hard as I possibly could for someone in a wheelchair."}
{"id": "t3_2g4tpf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] dating [27 M] for a month - really like him but not sure where it's going, started to see other guys but feel guilty?", "post": "I've  been seeing someone I really like for a month - we've been on 7 dates and it seems things were progressing really well. Last weekend he canceled plans the day of our date which threw me and I couldn't do the days he suggested to reschedule on, so I think it came off I was blowing him off. I didn't phrase it well and it was over text. I reached out Tuesday to mend the miscommunication that happened - turns out he did think I was miffed - and we are talking again though not as often as we had been. I'm worried this one blip threw us off course. We haven't made plans this weekend as he has friends coming into town. As its a male and female group I thought hed invite me to hang with them but he hasn't. As I'm not sure if he is feeling it anymore, I've made plans to see other dudes. We have had no exclusivity talk. I'm just worried though he or a friend of his will see me out with a guy and he'll be angry. But at the same time I really don't know where I stand with him. And don't feel ready to bring exclusivity up to him where we are after these past few days.", "summary": "Dating guy for a month but not exclusive - worry he is losing just interest, going to start dating others again but don't want to hurt him?"}
{"id": "t3_40umx4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not looking at my drivers license closely for years.", "post": "So I am flying to orlando florida tomorrow for family wedding and originally my family was going to pick me up from the airport to go to the wedding. However there was a bit of a problem/mix up on their end and now I have to get from Orlando to the wedding site.  I am 28 years old and have rented a car on several occasions and it isn't that big of a deal.  Fast forward to me attempting to book said rental car and I pull it out of its little flap which I never do and I come to find out that my license is not only expired but expire by about 9 months.  I have used that ID for months for alcohol, flights, everything without one word said to me once. Not only that I have been paying car insurance this whole time without a word from the insurance company, thank god I am a decent driver.  Now I have to figure out what the hell I am going to do once I get to florida. It doesn't look like there is anything like a shuttle and it would be prohibitively expensive to get a taxi.... Maybe I just play dumb and hope they give me the car... I've really screwed the pooch on this one.", "summary": "Had to make a last minute car rental, look at Drivers license and find it has been expired since April and nobody including my insurance company has said a thing.  Lets see if the rent a car place is as lax... fuck."}
{"id": "t3_2yge2d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cockblocking myself from my dream girl A", "post": "I had fallen for my best friend but sadly she already had a boyfriend and she hadn't felt the same towards me. All of my attempts got me no where and I was just waiting for another opportunity or chance to prove myself and I had finally gotten it.\n\nHer and her boyfriend had finally broken up and she was craving attention. But for once, it was from me. In my head I was just thinking \"This is my chance. It has finally come\"\n\nWe go on a double date as friends, but it was way more than friendly. It was incredibly flirty and pretty touchy. It was pretty steamy if I say so myself, but I didn't mind.\n\nSuddenly it's just me and her, and we're still being flirty. We stare into each others eyes, then to the others lips, and I can feel her breath on my lips. With her hand on my thigh, and her lips just almost touching mine, I think my soul was lifting to be honest. But then it all happened.\n\nA loud sudden bang erupts and I jump\n\nLet me make this clear, I'm a very jumpy guy and I got a bad habit of saying awkward when I shouldn't.\n\nI told her it was awkward that I got so jumpy but she had perceived it as me making an excuse because I did not truly want her like I had said. \n\nSo I'm sitting there, the moment is completely dead and I'm slowly dying inside because the moment I've waited months for happened and I ruined it, I can only imagine how much farther that might could have taken me. It still haunts me , months later, and she reminds me of it daily.", "summary": "I told the girl of my dreams that our moment was awkward, Me + Her = Never Again"}
{"id": "t3_35130h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] found some questionable things on my boyfriends [26M] laptop.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and a half now, and living together for a year. We haven't had many issues apart from one big one (even longer story) and this. \n\nWhen he was with his ex girlfriend I know he flirted with other girls because he wasn't happy in the relationship, but that doesn't really excuse his behaviour. \n\nWe just moved recently and I have been looking for a job so I was applying to them today on his laptop and had to download my resume and when I went to open it saw he had naked pictures of some girl downloaded (no clue where from). I don't really have an issue with him looking at porn but I don't really want to see it, especially since it's always BBWs and makes me really self-conscious since I am trying to lose weight. \n\nBeing as upset as I was finding that I looked through his downloads and found a video he took playing with himself that I had never seen before and he had not sent to me. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't send it because he didn't like it. I asked to look through other folders and his phone and found he had more photos of himself in a locked folder most of which were never sent to me. Again, he claimed that he just didn't like them so didn't send them. \n\nWithin the last month or so we haven't really been spending much time together so he's had a lot of time to himself, I noticed he had downloaded a bunch of apps when he was scrolling through one day but didn't think anything of it. \n\nMy issue is I don't know if I believe that he just doesn't like this photos. The naked pictures of another girl bugged me a bit but the fact he had these and the video was in his downloads file seemed a little odd to me. I feel like he may have sent it to someone else but I don't really know what to believe right now. \n\nAm I being irrational thinking this? I don't know what to do because now I feel like I can't trust him and question everything he is doing...", "summary": "Found some naked pictures and a video of my boyfriend on his laptop and phone and not sure how to feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_2ojobd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "People of Loseit, Do you find that your personal preference for physical attractiveness has an impact on your weight loss?", "post": "Serious question here.\nAlways been a \"rugby build\" kind of guy, stress got me up to 210 at 5'8, now back down to a comfy 170, I don't care about food, work out whenever I can, bike everywhere in NYC.\nI don't want to offend anyone or lessen the great achievements of people here, but when I see the progress Picts, I always find the \"in between\" shots super attractive, and usually never find the \"skinniest\" version attractive at all.\nAnd I wondered if that is why I always plateau in the 170's. Is my personal idea of \"physical attractiveness\" and preference for the Bears and Boobs crowd, and not just some physiological reason,  responsible for me staying at a \"rugby build\" where I find others most attractive?\n\nDon't want to start WWIII, just wondering if others have a similar experience.", "summary": "Do you think personal preference for attractiveness is a huge factor in weight loss \"achievement\"?"}
{"id": "t3_15gpd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (F23) deal with my friend (F22) of 20 years copying me?", "post": "I have been close friends with this girl for 20 years, I love her to bits and above all else I value her friendship. For as long as I can remember she has copied me; I know that they say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery but it can really get me down sometimes.\n\nIt has got to the point that I'm having to lie about where I bought things from or that I don't remember just so she won't go out and get it. I can wear an outfit one day, see her the next and she will be dressed almost identically. Not only does she buy exact same clothes and shoes, she will copy my hairstyles, jewellery, make-up, and even bought the same car as me. I can even mention in conversation that I want something and she will go out and buy it before I have the chance.\n\nI feel like my identity is being taken away from me, it's like I'm being cloned and I'm really struggling to be flattered any more because it has been going on for so long. Does the issue lie with me? How can I move past it because I don't want to lose her friendship.", "summary": "Lifelong friend copies **every** aspect of my life. After several years, I feel like I've lost my identity, and don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_1u8671", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my ex-gf [39 F] duration, should I contact her?", "post": "My ex and I were only seeing each other for a few months; we'd known each other some 20 years before and re-met at a reunion party. We got together after a little while and had some fun times. After a short while she asked me to move into her place with her and I agreed. It was all happening really fast and I'm not sure that I could handle the influx of emotions - and sadly if we'd been out drinking anywhere it would sometimes end in arguments - most likely my fault and a way for me to let these emotions out; I guess.\nWe agreed to go our seperate ways, but I've been thinking about her ever since.\nI feel that we just missed being happy together by a whisker and because of stupidity (again, mostly likely on my part).\nWe are still in contact on occassion and say nice things to each other.\nI honestly believe that her and I could truly be happy together.\nI'm wondering if I should let her know how I feel, or simply let her get on with her life.", "summary": "Split with ex over silly things, still feel that she and I could be happy together, should I contact her?"}
{"id": "t3_2r6pvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (18 F) just stopped talking to me (18 M) since she came back from college.", "post": "My SO (18 F) just came back from college and has straight up just stopped talking to me (18 M). \n\nWe still talked after high school and had an \"unofficial official\" status thing before she left. (We wouldn't confirm nor deny being a couple in our group of friends) For the last 3-4 months we still talked whenever we can, and she would almost message back instantly despite the time difference. Joking around, talking about our dreams, problems, days, etx. We talked on the phone at least once in a while (we're busy people).\n\nHowever the last two weeks or so before she came back, she stopped messaging me on our usual frequent rates. I would try again and she texts back, completely ignoring why she didn't message. When she came back on Christmas Eve and we hung out, I made a mistake and asked her if we could make it \"official\". She declined because of distance reasons, which I got, but it was a hard 3-4 months, and I didn't want to lose her, and thought we were on a deeper personal level enough that she would say yes.\n\nWhen asking her in person why she ignored me before, she said she \"felt cold\" towards everyone, and I left it at that. We texted on the 26th and nothing since. Talked about how was her day and plans (she went with her group of gaming buddies) I've tried reaching out to her about three times since then. Nothing. No \"we should stop seeing each other.\" Just nothing. Did I ruin our relationship because of asking her to be my girlfriend? Help me out reddit, this has been pretty much bottled up, and Thanks for reading. Also HAPPY NEW YEAR! May all your relationship problems be solved! (Trying to stay positive!)", "summary": "SO (18 F) stopped talking/texting to me (18 M) after consistent basis, until she came back from college and I asked her to be my girlfriend. Declined and says because of distance and \"feeling cold\". Nothing since last week. Why stop all of a sudden?"}
{"id": "t3_3mregw", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] My dog seems sad, need some ideas/advice. More information about what's happening inside...", "post": "Hello fellow dog lovers,\n\nI have a 3 1/2 year old male Lab mix (have had him since he was a puppy) about 9 months ago my husband and I rescued another dog. We got a male 6-7 year old Lab mix. Fast forward 9 months my two dogs bonded so well! Better than I expected. Now, last week we had to put down our 6-7 year old dog unexpectedly. (That's another long story) Pete (he is the 3 1/2 year old) seemed to handle it okay. He was a little sad for a couple days but my husband and I gave him extra attention, walks, and play time. \nSo Pete seemed to handle that change alright. Well now, today my husband moved out (another long story, we are in the middle of a trial separation). \n\nSo here is my dilemma.... Now a lot has changed, I am having to develop some new routines for Pete. Half his pack has dissapeared in a very short time. I am also very busy right now. I go to school 3 days a week and also work 2-3 days a week. So Pete is also having to adjust to being home alone a lot more.\n\nHe is a very well behaved/trained dog so he isn't doing anything negative while I am gone. He just seems...sad and kind of mopes around. I feel really bad for the guy. So much has changed and I know dogs thrive on routine.\n\nObviously, I am also struggling a little with everything that has happened but I am trying to stay strong for my dog and give him more than normal attention. But it doesn't seem to be enough. \n\nAny help or ideas would be amazing!", "summary": "My dog has lost half his pack in a short amount of time and seems very sad. Need ideas on how to help him."}
{"id": "t3_2tqdwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My grandmother passed away, and I am on the other side of the world. Not sure how to consider the situation. [24M]", "post": "The funeral is in just over a week and I'm not sure if it's better to attend or not.\n\nI was home over Christmas just to see her since it was clear that she was not going to live for much longer, so I did get the opportunity to say goodbye in person. I am studying on the other side of the world and just got back two weeks ago. Uni is in the middle of the summer break right now, so at least I won't be missing out on anything in that regard if I do decide to go home for the funeral.\n\nIt is a very long journey - about 30 hours each way - which is quite exhausting. The cheapest tickets I can find are around $2K since it's on very short notice. I'm slightly worried that going back will leave me jetlagged and unable to be as present as I should during the ceremony and family gathering afterwards. If it ends up this way, it seems it will be more stressful and depressing than what I would get back for it (mentally speaking).\n\nRight now I have no idea if any of this matters in the bigger picture, compared to attending the funeral service. She is the first person this close to me who has passed away, so I can't really tell if being physically present at the funeral is a big deal to me or not. While this could appear slightly self-centered, I don't think she would have wanted me to go if it is too inconvenient and stressful, and funerals are for the living, so it doesn't feel wrong to consider it.\n\nDue to the inherent time pressure of making a decision - I would have to arrive at least a day in advance if it is to be meaningful, after all - I don't feel like I will be able to assess my options properly (I'm not able to think very clearly right now), so if anyone here has been in a similar situation, I would appreciate your input.", "summary": "I'm not sure whether going home for the funeral is worth it. Input from people with similar experiences would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_3gwkwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25 F] having feelings for my fwb [29 M] of 4 months. How do I tell him?", "post": "My fwb and I get together 2-4 times per week. He always stays the night and we usually also talk at least once per day. I've never been to his house, or met his family. \n\nI've come to have really strong feelings for him, and feel like this is outside the range of a \"normal\" fwb setup (no staying over). It is really impossible to tell if he has feelings for me, but it does seem like he's had a lot of what I'd see as standard short-term relationships but he labels fwb. We have a very fulfilling sexual relationship, however, and I don't want to compromise that by having a conversation like this. \n\nIs it breaking the cardinal rule of fwb to develop feelings? Should I run in the opposite direction? How do I have a conversation about where this arrangement/relationship is headed? Do I have a shot?", "summary": "I have feelings for my fwb and don't know how to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_1wr79g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [25F] of 1 year , angry at flirting.", "post": "Last night I went to go meet up with my girlfriend and her friend at a bar. When I get there I find her talking to another guy, really no big problem in my eyes.\n\nWhat I am angry at is it turns out that she and her friend met these guys 3 bars ago and have been flirting with them for free drinks. \n\nI confronted her this morning on the issue and she told me she didn't think it was a big deal. In my eyes I feel as if this wasn't like she was at a bar and got a free drink.  She left and lead on these guys with no regard about I would feel about it. \n\n Am I the only one who believes this is incredibly disrespectful? I know she would never do anything.  But we both travel a lot for work and I know she goes out drinking with other people on trips. If she is acting this with other guys I don't know what to think.", "summary": "Was I wrong to get angry at her for flirting with another guy?"}
{"id": "t3_4yz6ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I hate my mom so much that I wish I didnt have to see her face at all", "post": "I am an Indian [22M]. For the last 4 years I was living in a college hostel and now after graduation I have finally returned home. I keep having heated discussions with my mother everyday simply because our opinions don't match anymore.\n\nI like to live independently while she calls it living selfishly. Last night, we had a discussion cause I told her not to touch my things and she said that she will move things if she thinks that she needs to clean the house. Argument got really heated up and continued till 1am. Next morning when I woke up, she once again started shouting and questioning me who gave me the right to shout at her and insult her. It's reaching a limit and I can tolerate her anymore.", "summary": "daily fights with mother without an end have made me start hating her"}
{"id": "t3_2py1kt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my S.O. [25 M] who says he will always have a thing for this friend in his life", "post": "Background: My s.o. and I have been together for 9 months. \n\nBasically, there is this girl he met in college. They were really good friends but there was a lot of moments things could have happened or that he wanted to happened but they never did. And, all of this happened before me. However, I have slowly been learning more about her and he made this comment that she will always be a problem but certain things wouldn't have allowed it to work out between them. They still communicate infrequently. \n\nI'm not worried about cheating but it's more about does someone really want to be with me kind of concern...So, I am just wondering people's feedback or opinions on the situation. Do you think it's something I should play out or is this a red flag?\n\nThanks in advance ya'll!", "summary": "Friend in his past that he thinks will always be a problem. Not really sure how to take it. Opinions?"}
{"id": "t3_47jej7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] with my Mom [38/F], I failed a class and am scared of being thrown out", "post": "This is my first time posting so I apologize if this is messy.\n\nBasically, I'm in my last year of college and am supposed to graduate this April. The thing is, I failed a class. My professor purposely failed me in order to hold me back because of her personal vendetta against me. This personal vendetta was rooted from the fact that I was one of the students who filed a complaint against her. She verbally abused many of us in the class (we have recordings and transcriptions), hacked into our class' PRIVATE Facebook group to see what we say about her and used that to threaten us after. We took legal actions but the case got dropped, did not even reach the University President's office for that matter, because of her status and connections.\n\nWe'd try to complain again but she already failed five of us and the others are scared she's going to do something to hinder them from graduating too.\n\nMy dad and I tried talking to her, asking for some kind of compromise--but she was unrelenting. She didn't change my grade, which I didn't deserve. I wanted to complain more but she's in a higher position and has connections and everything.\n\nAnyway. I failed a class which in turn restricted me from enrolling two classes I need this semester to graduate. Which means I'm going to have to endure another year of school. My dad already know of this, he was really accepting. But I'm scared of my mom because she still doesn't know. She's actually looking forward to my graduation already, asking me when is it. I can't tell her the truth because she's really strict when it comes to my grades. I'm 99% sure she's gonna throw me out and have me live with my grandma's once she knows the truth.\n\nNow, I don't know what to do because it's already March and everyone else is telling me to admit it to her already but I'm scared of the consequences. Everything is going to change and I'm just so.", "summary": "I'm not gonna graduate this year; Mom is looking forward to it and might throw me out when she finds out. I don't know what to do, please help."}
{"id": "t3_10b6fp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've just been shut down and assured that there is no way I'm getting out of the friendzoned with the person I've loved for almost 3 years. I know this has probably been done time and time again, but could you perhaps offer me some words of comfort/advice?", "post": "Short backstory: back in grade 12, (I'm in second year university now), there was this girl in grade 10 (year-and-a-quarter age difference) who needed help writing a musical because our highschool's musical theater department wasn't going to do anything that year unless we wrote something. I have a background in piano, so I agreed, and we wrote the musical that the school produced that year. At some point during the musical's production, I found myself quite fond of her, and we went to my prom together, but it was too late: friend-zone central.\n\nAnyways, almost 3 years after the start of the musical's creation, I'm sitting here now, having planned out how I was going to attempt the climb out of friend-zone canyon, when I hear from her friends that she absolutely does not feel for me that way and that there is no way we would ever date. This is the first time I have legitimately cried over anything, so I'm pretty shaken up and I don't know what to do. I'm really, really sad Reddit; what should I do?", "summary": "the girl of my dreams rejected me past the point of return. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_t75hq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should i feel selfish for feeling this way?", "post": "Background Story:\nFor the past 6 months my best friends sister and I decide to start dating. Ive been friends with her too, we've known each other since we were kids and hang out all the time. So in all, we have known each other for 10 years. There is an age difference between us (her 19 and im 25). I see her as an equal maturity wise, hell shes more so than I am. We have seen each other at our worst, we always laugh and have a good time. Plus, we didnt feel comfortable dating other people because we didnt have as much fun as we do with each other, hence why we both decided to see where this would go. \n\nNow to the issue:\nI hardly hear from her. We are both so busy with college and working, we just see each other on the weekends. I work about 50-60 hours a week along with being a full time college student. She works like 20 hours and is also a full time student. I always find time to ask her how her day is and how shes doing, but she never asks how im doing, even randomly or after I ask her. I dont see myself as \"needy\", I dont feel like I have to talk to her every second of the day. A few weeks ago she had an allergic reaction to something and had to be taken to the hospital. I found out about it via facebook. Alot of the times I find out whats going on through her mom. Hell when we are together in person, everything is alright. Ive talked to her about it saying \"well, just let me know whats up from time to time.\" and she agreed (this was before the trip to the hospital). Shes admitted this is the furthest shes been in a relationship.\n\nAlso, I feel like if I asked her to let me know whats up or see how things are going is like asking someone to care. I think caring should be common knowledge, and not bound to how much dating experience you have. It only takes a couple seconds to type out a text message.\n\nThanks ahead of time for the advice.", "summary": "Girlfriend does not let me know how she is doing or ask how I am doing, Doesnt know whether to feel selfish or not"}
{"id": "t3_4aglft", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24F) heart is breaking. Caught him (28M) texting another woman inappropriately.", "post": "Apologies for writing on phone. \n\nWe've been together 4 years, living together for 1 year. I'll start by saying our relationship has been rocky the last few months, we both knew that. \n\nI've done absolutely everything I could these last few months to make it work, and got nothing back in return. He's never been one to communicate to me. So I was always the one to ask what was wrong and what we can do to get us happy again. We'd seemingly solve everything after these talks, then a week later be right back at square one again. \n\nI found out today he's been texting a girl at work a lot the last few months, after I caught him hiding his phone while texting and confronted him. He admitted he'd been speaking to her about how down our relationship was, which hurts that he couldn't talk to me about it. He also admitted they had a fling before we got together, but denies anything physical since. \n\nI told him if we're to get past this I need to see the texts, he refused. Reddit I'm heartbroken. I told him to pack a bag and leave. My trust is shattered. \n\nI genuinely thought we'd spend our lives together. It hurts so much to know I put so much time and effort to make this work, but it wasn't enough. \n\nThis is just the latest in a long string of events (though the first with any kind of emotional cheating). I love him but I don't want to be sad anymore, it's draining me. \n\nRight now feels like my world has collapsed, and I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through this. \nPlease be kind, I know deep down I'll come out okay, but right now I need some words from outside my own mind.", "summary": "Caught my boyfriend emotionally cheating after giving him my everything. How to I stay strong and get through this?"}
{"id": "t3_sbrg8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Use of recordings in Canada for an academic appeal", "post": "Hi r/legaladvice! I'm having a hard time pinning this one down. Basically, I was in a meeting with a university professor and his administrative assistant for a course I'm taking. I put my phone in front of me for the meeting and recorded it, but did not tell the others in the meeting I was recording it. We're now in the middle of a dispute and I'm considering appealing this course.\n\nCan I use the recording of the meeting in my appeal? The recording was taken for personal notes, and also, to be honest, I was worried the prof might change his tune after the meeting. He's known for saying one thing and doing another. I haven't found anything about this in the appeal process yet, so I've started looking into Canadian Law, but I'm having a hard time figuring it out for this instance.\n\nAny help would be much appreciated!", "summary": "Want to use recording of an in-person meeting for an academic appeal, but I did not tell anyone at the meeting I was recording. Can I use it as evidence?"}
{"id": "t3_2tbldh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] feel constant desire for other girls than my gf [18M] of one year", "post": "(She knows my reddit username, so, throwaway)\nIt's the first real long-term relationship I've ever had yet so I don't really know how to handle the problems I'm having right now. I've been with my girlfriend for a little more than a year and I could easily say that until less than a week ago everything was perfect: I was in love as could be, we'd never fought even once yet, I found her beautiful, kind... I really wasn't attracted to anyone else at all... But I don't know what happened. I know I still love her, I'm quite convinced of that. It's the only person I have that kind of intellectual/psychological connexion with. \nBut I don't know, I just don't see her as beautiful as I used to, nor do I want her as much as I used to. I've started looking at other girls again, and I've been considering cheating for almost a week now (with girls I know for shure I could sleep with... again). And I hate myself for that. I really want to be with this girl for as long as possible. What can I do to learn to love my gf's body and appearance again?", "summary": "I love my gf's mind but I not her body anymore. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2q9zul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 2months has a gaming habit.", "post": "I tried to start a convo with the boyfriend everyday but it seems to be making me a little depress because he's always playing video games than paying attention to me. I'm not trying to be an attention but it's seems to be a bad habit of his. I don't know what to do or how to even confront him about it. Any IDEAS?", "summary": "How can I get my boyfriend attention and tell him that I'm really hurt because he is ignoring m...? Also he really means a lot to me and I want him to understand the same way as I do for him."}
{"id": "t3_4eikij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I (19F) do when I don't agree with friends' behaviour?", "post": "So this is not a particular situation, but more in general. \nI'm a bit of a goody two shoes and hate getting reprimanded. Therefore I always try to follow the rules (or etiquette), but not really to an extreme (I think), mostly it's just that I try not to bother others. \n\nHowever sometimes I'm hanging out with people that are a bit more carefree when it comes to this and I'm not sure what I should do in these situations. \n\nFor example, I was working with a small group of people in the library and they were talking pretty loudly. They had their backs to the other people working there, but I could clearly see people looking very annoyed at us. It made me very uncomfortable. When I suggested we move somewhere else where we could talk more freely they said \"We are allowed to talk here, as long as we're not yelling.\" \n\nWhen something like this happens should I say something about it or ignore it? They're allowed to behave how they want ofcourse, but I'm not comfortable knowing that we're bothering people. Am I just a killjoy?", "summary": "not sure what to do when friends seem to (not purposely) bother others"}
{"id": "t3_15i4tk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I a crap girlfriend [21/f], or am I just worrying too much ? [25/m]", "post": "I recently got back with my sons father , after separating due to outside influences, and I already feel like a shit girlfriend. I had my son almost a year ago, and so far we've only had sex a max of 7 times since. Before the birth of our son, we had sex weekly. He keeps questioning and pestering for sex, but I'm never in the mood, and oral is out of the question because I have a fear of throwing up (the gag reflex thing). Am I just shit at being a shit girlfriend? I cook and clean and look after our son, but I just feel like I'm failing, because he always makes a joke like \"the shittest girlfriend.\" I don't want to lose him again, because it was very painful last time, so any advice for me? Am I really a shit girlfriend?", "summary": "Feel like shit girlfriend due to lack of sex."}
{"id": "t3_3qv2sx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] ex-girlfriend's [26 F] niece [21 F] is advertising sexual services on Backpage- should I tell her family?", "post": "I was browsing the local backpage.com ads (for masturbatory reasons) when I came across one that had pictures of my ex-girlfriend's niece.  My ex and I dated for 6 years (age 13-18), and I ended up spending a lot of time with her young niece and nephew.  This niece is an adult now (about 21 years old), but I am still in contact with her family and I'm pretty sure they would be upset if they found out (obviously). \n\nWhen I searched the phone number that was listed, it brought up advertisements going back several months and in cities around in the country.\n\nI'm concerned she is putting herself in danger by doing this, but I don't really now how to go about alerting her family. It's weird because I babysat this woman when she was 10 years old. Should I make a fake e-mail account or something and send the links to the family?", "summary": "I found my ex-girlfriend's niece on the local prostitute listings and need to know what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_1z340h", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Leaving job after two months. I believe my reason for leaving is legitimate. Would like to include job on resume.", "post": "I've been working for an elected official since the beginning of January and will be working my last day on March 6. I believe that the job would look good on my resume, but understand that my leaving after two months is undoubtedly a huge red flag. I understand that I should probably not include this job on my resume.\n\nHowever, my main reason for leaving is that my job requires me to travel to the state capitol anywhere from 3-5 days/week. Expenses, which are astronomical, are \"covered\" under an expense stipend which is INCLUDED in my already low salary. This was not outlined properly when I accepted the job and, after doing some number crunching, my expenses will far exceed the allowance. It turns out that, not only am I making $5000 less than my reported salary, I am really making about $7000 less. I am digging about $2000 into my own pocket AND since my expense allowance is included in salary I am taxed on it. Also, I only have to travel to the capitol for 6 months out of the year, but my expense allowance is disbursed over twelve months. I am literally losing money by staying at this job, which many would consider a \"privilege\" and \"honor\" to have.\n\nLuckily, I have a friend who lives in the state capitol who has been helping me out, but this should not have to be an option for me. I have brought up my concerns regarding expenses to my boss and he was unwilling to make any adjustments, claiming that I am the first staff member to have a problem with this in 20 years. I was later told that this is completely false and that people have left for this reason in the past.\n\nI guess what I am trying to ask is, since I believe my reasons for leaving are legitimate, would including this job on my resume still be harmful? I believe I have done a lot of work in my short time here and would not like to throw the experience and hard work away.\n\nI would try and stick this job out, but I have already resigned and I make way more money at my side job, which isn't exactly career oriented.", "summary": "Leaving good job for financial reasons after only two months. Would like to include job on resume. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_48a9ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] girlfriend [22 F] of six months has a self-admitted low sex drive, but everything else in our relationship is perfect. What do I do?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI've been with my girlfriend now for about 6 months and everything is going great. It's one of those relationships where everything clicks and I could see myself spending a lifetime with her, which I haven't felt in my previous few relationships in my life. We've talked about values, kids, damn near everything and I most definitely have fallen in love with this woman.\n\nThe trouble is this: she's admitted to having a low sex drive and I've seen it at work. I have a pretty average guy sex drive and would be very satisfied with once per day, but getting her turned on is like a mix of lock picking and negotiation. Sometimes I try to initiate and basically get almost entirely ignored. I hate that feeling of rejection, even if I know she still loves me. When she *does* consent (and btw I would never try and have sex with her without her consent, that's fucked up) it's always because I kind of have to talk her into it. \n\nThe part that gives me hope is that once we get going, she really enjoys it and gets into it. I can finish her with oral sex, but haven't yet been able to do it with traditional PIV. She says she doesn't masturbate ever and she's generally pretty conservative in the bedroom, so I'm thinking maybe there is a sexual tigress under there that just needs to be let out.\n\nI talked with her about it and asked her what turns her on. She couldn't put her thumb on anything really, which is frustrating for me. She said that she's got a low sex drive and always has.\n\nI'm the kind of boyfriend who showers her in compliments and, in general, treat her very well. Plus I am pretty sure attraction isn't an issue; I am a conventionally attractive male with a fairly attractive career (military pilot).\n\nIs there any way for my girlfriend to aid her sex drive? Is this relationship doomed because of sexual incompatibility?", "summary": "girlfriend is great in every way, but has a low sex drive. Can we save this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2d78m0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am going through my first real breakup and I'm falling apart", "post": "About two weeks ago she broke up with me over a text, and I was honestly ok then today I found out that shes already with another guy.\n\nWe were together almost 3 years, and I was the one that did all the driving, hung out with her friends when she hated mine, and she hurt me many times but I always stayed and loved her and treated her like gold, now she's gone and has moved on and I;m just falling apart over here.\n\nIf anyone has advice or anything that could help me It would mean the world right now. This is my first relationship and i'm heartbroken.", "summary": "She's gone and with another guy and I don't know how to deal."}
{"id": "t3_1qzztz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Starting to Save! (CA)", "post": "I'm a young guy (21) still living at home, but moving out soon. I work around 120+ h/month making 13$/h (1560+), and I'd like some advice on what you think about my plan.\n\nI want to open up two accounts - one savings (emergency) as well as starting a retirement fund. For these accounts, I'd want to put aside 40% of my monthly income (20% for each) until my e-fund gets to 5k. Should I stop at 5k, open up another account to save for a long-term investment like a house?\n\nI have until July (when I move out), to save as much as I can in preparation for the move. I'm allotting 700$/m for bills, as my gf and I are looking at a place for max 700$/m and we're splitting things down the middle. \n\nThis leaves me with basically 200$ for whatever I want, which is a drastic difference in what I'm currently used to... but I need to crack down on my spending habits and become more financially responsible.", "summary": "making:"}
{"id": "t3_4yli2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my fiance's aunt [50sF], Her son recently passed away and I just found out she may be attending my bridal shower. Should I/How do I address this sensitively?", "post": "One of my fiance's cousins passed away from cancer about a month ago. He was only 27 and while it wasn't sudden, his mother (fiance's aunt) was his main caretaker at the end and I can't imagine how much pain she must be in.\n\nThat being said, I heard through the family grapevine that she may attend my bridal shower this weekend. Obviously this is a happy time for me and my future husband - we are also expecting our first child! I was going to reveal that at the shower too only...\n\n I haven't seen her since her son died and it is *so* recent that she must still be in a lot of pain. I'm sure she doesn't want me to make a big deal about it, but I also feel like I can't just not acknowledge her son's passing.\n\nWhat - if anything -  should I say to her when I see her? I want to tell her how sorry I am for her loss, but I also don't want to cause her any extra pain.", "summary": "My Aunt-In-Law just lost her son and I don't know what to say to her - or if I should say anything to her when she comes to my wedding shower/surprise baby announcement."}
{"id": "t3_2uk744", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (21F) had sex with someone else while we were talking about getting back together. Now I (22M) don't know what to do.", "post": "So, my girlfriend (21F) and I (22M) broke up about a month ago. We still talk everyday and we have been talking about getting back together although admitedly I had been a little distant because of school and work being a little overwhelming. We go to colleges about two and a half hours apart which is pretty much the only reason we broke up in the first place. Anyway, yesterday, she told me she had sex with someone else while drinking on Saturday night. I got some of the details, and it crushed me. She told me she felt terrible and that she still loves me and that it meant nothing to her. So I asked her to come visit me next weekend so we could talk about it.\n\nI talked to a friend of mine about it and he said if I want her back, then it shouldn't matter what she did. But that just seems like terrible advice. My question is, am I being too much of a push over if I take her back? Or should it not bother me since we were broken up?", "summary": "My ex had sex with someone else while we were talking about getting back together. And now idk what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1yv13b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have a crush on [18 F], don't want to scare her off.", "post": "We are both seniors in high school, and in the same friend group. However, we have never been close friends. She asked me to the last formal dance, and it was a ton of fun, but I'm not sure if she has any feelings for me. \n\nShe is super innocent, despite being absurdly pretty has never kissed a guy, so it's hard to tell if she's interested in that sort of thing at all.\n\nI'm considering asking her on a proper date to make my intentions clear, but I'm worried it would kind of freak her out. I'm especially worried because I really enjoy being a part of that friend group, and don't want to make things awkward or uncomfortable for either of us. \n\nShould I maybe try to hang out with her more in a group setting to get a better feel for it? I just don't want to miss my window of opportunity since I think we both had such a good time at the last dance. Help", "summary": "Like a super innocent friend, not sure if she feels the same way or knows how I feel. Don't want to scare her off."}
{"id": "t3_1w05ys", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Help, I know nothing about ferrets and now have two in my basement. Posted to r/ferrets but no replies yet.", "post": "Please read this. It's long. Reddit you are my only hope tonight. Forgive my hasty typing but I have had litter box house trained rabbits and know that setting a good precedent is important from the get-go. I got the ferrets two hours ago from a friend, getting rid of them because her boyfriend hated them. She seemed to have good intentions, however she didn't know shit about ferrets. Just like me. I know unspayed females can go into heat and it can cause a disorder that kills them. I asked if she'd spayed the female due to this and she laughed at me, said no, and told me she'd never heard of such a thing. Am I wrong? I'm flustered.\nHere are the facts: The female is a white black eyed unspayed baby (less than a year old) The male is a \"regular?\" adult one. 2 years old? She said he is unscented. They need baths. They are friendly.\nI want them to have free range of my basement and use a litterbox like my rabbits used to. I want to know how to train them. I like ferrets, I always wanted one, but everyone said \"They stink\" or thought they were creepy. I think they are cool...\nTheir cage was disgusting. I took it apart and put it in my shower and cleaned it. It's drying. The ferrets are running around in my empty guest bedroom. I gave them some toys and a blanket, and put a litterbox in two corners, (at first I put only one box in but found a ferret poo in the opposite corner?) and put out food and water. Please can you tell me what I need to know about getting along with these two critters? They also need baths but I have never bathed anything but a dog. I know I need to take them to a vet but I live in rural Wyoming and that is just not on option until next month. Rural Wyoming knows little to none about ferrets. Thanks for your help ferret lovers of reddit.", "summary": "Obtained ferrets, Need help understanding communication with them, need help caring for them, don't believe in cages unless it's necessary, can't get to vet until at least the 5th of feburary"}
{"id": "t3_1l78j4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] have an unstable relationship with my girlfriend [27F] and I want to know if abandonment is at work here.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend a year now.  We've always had the same issue.  Brilliant together and in company of one or two good friends.  Terrible at parties!!\n\nShe spends ALL of her time talking to other people and won't engage me in conversation AT ALL. At parties where I know a few people this doesn't really bother me but its accentuated when I know almost nobody and she knows almost all. \n\nWhen I question her about it (usually after a big row of her being angry with me for not being confident, and I am usually very confident) she says apologizes and says she thinks she has abandonment issues due to her father leaving her family at 10 yrs old.\n\nI would understand if i was a clingy person but i'm really not, i'm an extrovert as well.\n\nDoes anybody recognize this occurrence and have advice?\n\nI love her and usually feel loved but I feel so unwanted and embarrassed at parties!", "summary": "My usually loving GF ignores me completely at parties and actively avoids me.  Any clues?"}
{"id": "t3_2r5qba", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You know when you're upset about something you probably shouldn't be upset about but are still upset?", "post": "I'm stupidly jealous of my boyfriend right now. I live with him in a different country but came home for the holidays. I have no friends here at home. One group of friends got jealous and spread lies about me in high school (she said that I starved her when she came over my house and people believed her...), one group of friends stopped talking to me when I was in a relationship (turns out he had a crush on me the whole time/didn't value my friendship), one group turned to drugs. So, through no fault of my own, I'm a bit alone here on holiday break. I have nothing to do aside from go to the gym and stay in my old room as I only get on with my parents 50% of the time. Narcissistic tendencies.\n\nMy boyfriend though. He's great, charming, sweet, funny - we get along great and have been together for 2 years. He's out, drunk, with his/our friends. I don't get to see these friends very much and I'm so jealous I can't be there. Instead I'm sat in my childhood bedroom, looking at all the pictures they're uploading. And how much fun they're having.\n\nI found out I have to have surgery today. It's a minor one, but it's still disheartening. I'd have really liked to Skype my boyfriend about it, but our schedules didn't allow for that.\n\nBut now he's having fun and I'm wallowing in self pity. I'm so happy when I'm away from home, but when I'm back here I just cry and feel terrible about myself. I'm recovering from an eating disorder (and doing a fucking amazing job) but all the feelings of worthlessness come back when I'm here.\n\nI don't expect my boyfriend to throw everything aside, nor do I want him to. I just feel so lonely here and get so jealous to see him having fun with our friends when I can't be there. \n\nSorry if this was the wrong place to post, I just needed to get it off my chest.", "summary": "I'm jealous that my boyfriend with our friends is having fun while I'm having a lousy time."}
{"id": "t3_1ey8wi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get through to an emotionally unstable parents?", "post": "My mother raised me and my sisters alone no father figure or anything just us and my grandparents. The only sort of men in her life were a man who was terribly cruel to me and he was there for 10 years and the recent one who has a baby mother.  All my life I've grown up with shouting tears and fighting. It has affected me but I won't let it hold me back I just don't know how to get her to understand he needs to hit the bricks that she deserves better. How do I get her to see this.", "summary": "My mom dates jerks for a long time how do I get her out before she loses another 10 years?"}
{"id": "t3_v0dme", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "TL;DR Throw Away Time. Not advice, just feel compelled to share about an experience and hoping I'm not alone.", "post": "Throw aways get ready. Me and my best friend (males) were watching Brazzers beating it together. It progressed into stroking eachother. We agreed (during the act) this will never fucking happen again, ever. We will never speak of it. It will basically be the skeleton in the closet until the skeleton is dust and blows away in the wind. It did not progress into anything further. No anal stuff, no kissing, no oral, no part of this was out of attraction or feelings. This entire thing was purely out of curiosity. We both have girlfriends we are in love with (I feel my girl is THE ONE). Despite this experience, I would never consider myself bisexual or homosexual, the idea of another man is by no means enticing, tempting, or gets me aroused or excited whatsoever. As much as I would like to erase this experience completely, what's done is done. Nothing is awkward at this point, still buds, still do same old bro stuff (shooting, off roading, cigars). Curiosity was strongly present is all. Guys of Reddit, how many of you have \"experimented\" (to any extent), but your sexuality is not in question? \n\n**What's Going Through My Head Now**\nHonestly, I'm hard on myself when it comes to anything. Integrity is huge to me, and being integral in all of your experiences is also very important. Obviously not going to share this with my girlfriend, but at the same time, I share everything with her. Reddit, it would just help to know that this is normal, I'm not a freak, and that not sharing this with **ANYBODY**, including my girlfriend, is ok. I feel like I have to tell somebody and discuss it to get it off my chest, and Reddit Throw Aways is the only way I will ever do it.\n\nPlease share", "summary": "Buddy and I gave each other hand jobs out of curiosity, as far as we're concerned, it never happened. Have you guys experimented before?"}
{"id": "t3_3ma93i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (35f) children (9, 10, 13) are beginning to bond with my boyfriend (40m) and I'm petrified", "post": "I've been divorced over 4 years. I've been dating a great guy for 2 1/2 years. He's been wonderful to me, to my children and has been nothing but positive to our lives. My kids and I are reserved and introverted and are slow to let people in. As silly as this sounds, I didn't really anticipate them really bonding with him (and it's taken a while) but all 3 are and it has been very natural and very slow. But I'm now petrified.  He's wonderful and I'll never regret them knowing him, but I'm afraid we won't work out long term and they'll be hurt and see another failed relationship. Their father is an alcoholic and they see him briefly every week but there is not a true father relationship there. BF and I get along fantastically but with 6 kids between us I'm struggling to picture the next step and having that be best for everyone. I think he would continue like this forever but I fear I may want more as the relationship progresses and it may be difficult for us to make that work no matter how much we want it to. I'm just unsure where to go from here. Wondering if anyone has been there or can relate.", "summary": "kids bonding with boyfriend, I'm afraid of hurting them if it doesn't work out"}
{"id": "t3_4mnqnj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [30/m] being selfish in my relationship with my girlfriend [26/f]?", "post": "I live abroad and am dating a girl from the country I live in. I've been here for 3 years and we've been dating for 1. \n\nWe had an argument today about New Year's Eve, I know it's a long way away but we like to plan our travels in advance. I want to go home and spend it with my friends and family, I'll be home for Christmas which is great, but I don't get to go home very often (I spend about 9 - 10 months a year abroad) and I miss them a lot. She has a big problem with this because in her culture NYE is a very important holiday (more like Christmas) and she really want me to come back for it. \n\nHere's where I feel I'm being selfish: I'll be home for about 7 weeks this summer and she plans to visit me twice, it's going to be great and we have loads of stuff planned. She's spending a fair amount of money to come and see me (she also has to get a visa to enter my country). I live about 1,000 miles from home so it's not MEGA far or expensive. Because she's visiting me twice and I don't want to be back for New Years it makes me feel like I'm being a bit selfish in the relationship. \n\nSo she feels I don't care about her as much because I'd rather be at home for NYE. I feel quite guilty about this and I can totally understand. She's spending X money to come and see me this summer but I don't want to leave my country early to spend New Years with her, as much as I love her, I want to see my friends and family. I miss them a lot, I'll be spending Xmas with my dad but I might not have time to go and see my mum if I leave early. However this is a MASSIVE deal for her and she said she might even think of splitting if I choose to stay at home. \n\nI love her so much and she is such a wonderful, kind person, I don't want to put her in a bad light. This is a tricky situation though.", "summary": "I'm an expat and I want to spend New Years with my family but my gf really wants me to spend it with her abroad."}
{"id": "t3_54cndx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] My boyfriend (26/m) is moving, do I go with him?", "post": "I've recently started a relationship with someone who I've been kinda in love with for a long time. We had a short lived fling a little over two years ago but things were complicated and it ended. We remained good friends after and having been living together as housemates with two other people for the past year and a half or so. About two months ago though, we started officially dating! I was thrilled and we have both been happy. I knew he was planning on moving away around May, but something came up and he is now leaving in a month and will be about 800 miles away, one way. I wouldn't mind going with him, but I realize it seems a little crazy since we've only been together for two months. I really do think we could have a future together though and we know that we can live together without wanting to kill each other. Is it crazy to ask to go with him? Or would he ask me if he wanted me to? I wouldn't be giving anything up by moving, I can transfer at my job and would actually be closer to family. We both agree long distance without a plan of eventually not being so is impractical and don't want to do that. So it's either go with him or break up essentially and that'll break my heart. I'm just unsure of how to ask and phrase everything without it all seeming crazy. What would you do?", "summary": "boyfriend of two months moving away, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4fdebc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU-By throwing my car keys down the storm drain", "post": "This happened a few years ago so let's start with some back story. It was a sunny warm day. I had just finished acing a college test and was on my way to the bank to cash a check because I had just been paid. Side note I was also driving my younger brother home, we went to the same collage. Anyways we get to the bank and I go in feeling all happy and such to get my money. I get my money and exit the bank humming Natasha Bedingfield - Pocket Full of Sunshine. I am feeling on top of the world. While I am walk to my car I am twirling my keys on my index finger. Whilst sing in my head \"I got a Pocket Full of Sun Shine\" my keys slip off my finger and go high into the air. I look up thinking no big deal. I watch as my keys make a high long graceful ark towards a grated manhole cover. Of course the keys go straight down the hole. I search my car for a coat hanger that I can use to get the keys back, no luck. I end up waiting in the car with my brother for over an hour while my dad found the spar keys and brought them to us.  I no longer had a pocket full of sun shine.", "summary": "Natasha Bedingfield made me throw my keys in the storm drain"}
{"id": "t3_1xhpb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my good friend [22 F] of 3 years, wanted to get her and her friends small gifts Valentine's. That weird?", "post": "So Valentine's is around the corner and I found an amazing company that makes delicious chocolates and desserts. I wanted to by my friend and her close friends (who are also close friends of mine) each a small little gift as a gesture of friendship and to show that they do mean a lot to me. It would cost like $20 for all of them combined, so it's not like they are expensive. My main concern is I like one of our friends. My best friend knows already. I just don't want it to be taken awkwardly since this is purely a platonic gift. You all see any issues with this?", "summary": "I want to buy chocolates for my good friends as a friendly gesture since they mean a lot to me. That ok?"}
{"id": "t3_2iv1q8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] dont want to come off as jealous or possesive with my 21 [F] girl friend, but I dont know what to do.. please help", "post": "We've been dating for 3 months, and she has a bunch of guy friends which I can't stand; might I add, one of those guys used to be inlove with her. I told her I don't like it when she hangs with them alone and she understood and stopped.\n\nLast night she went to the library to study, it was only once I asked her with who she was going with was when she said Jesse. \n\nAm I crazy for being pissed that a) she didnt tell me she was going with him and b) because she went to study with a dude alone? \n\nI let her know how I feel, but its still lurking in my head and Im not entirely sure what to do.", "summary": "My gf went to study with a dude by them selves and Im not sure if im acting crazy or not.."}
{"id": "t3_1961ko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [17] wrong to be upset with my girlfriend's [17] lack of a drive to communicate with me?", "post": "Let me lay down the details here: we've been dating for three months. Nothing big, I know, but there's been some kinks thus far, and as the title suggests, the big one is the fact she has no drive to text or call first. I've always got to be the one who talks first, or ropes her into a conversation. Usually not an issue, because I'm a relatively charismatic kind of guy, and we typically have an hour or so of conversation daily.\n\nFor me, the kicker is that she just got back from a two week cruise without net or phone service, and has been in Texas for two days, completely able to say hello or tell me how it went. She hasn't. She's not said anything to me, and I've only found out that she was able to by her circle of friends texting her when I went to the theater with them.\n\nA'ight, I get it, I look a bit clingy, but I'm upset that she didn't even talk to me. We've gone half a month without saying anything to each other, and it sucks that she's zipped her mouth shut when she's got the chance to talk. So that's my case. Am I in the right to feel a bit hurt?", "summary": "Girlfriend got back from a 2 week cruise. Has chose not to say anything to me for 2 days. I'm a whiny bitch."}
{"id": "t3_yuayj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to move to new country - but to take my newly broken-up-GF with me [m/20]", "post": "I am not happy in the place where I live. I want to move to a new city, in a country not too far away (it takes <1h to fly there from here). I broke up with the girl I love for a month ago, for reasons I don't even really understand (i.e. that I am an idiot). We have been together for 3 years. \n\nNow I want to convince her to move with me, and that we move together. She has her friends here, where I have none. But we both love eachother. What is the best way to go around theese things? Has anyone else had a similar situation, what did you do and how did it turn out?", "summary": "I want to move to new country, and want my GF to take me back and come with me. Now wondering if anyone else has experience of this."}
{"id": "t3_2l768x", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Advise on two questions?", "post": "Hey guys! Okay, two things I'm conflicted on right now.\n\n1- I went dress shopping and really liked 4 dresses. 3 looked good with really great prices, and the 4th one was pretty spot on to what I wanted, but costs a couple hundred dollars more then the first three. My Grandma is offering to help pay for the dress, but I really hate asking for help, and I especially hate taking money from my grandmother. I also found a 5th dress that a few people said they loved and it's on clearance. [Dresses for Reference](\n\nMy question is, how do you decide which dress is \"the one\" when you have a few that are your 'favorite?'  \n\nAnd my second conundrum is... I don't have a relationship/healthy relationship with my parents, but am very close to an aunt and uncle of mine. We're including my uncle in several parts of our wedding, but can't figure out how to include my Aunt. I was thinking of making her a Matron of Honor. Even though I have a Maid of Honor and 6 bridesmaids, I think this would be a really special way of including her. But I'm also concerned this will cause issues with my crazy mother who will probably get mad at my Aunt if she hears about it. Are there other ways to include her, or do you think this is a good idea and I should pursue it.", "summary": "I don't know what the hell I'm doing. I need an Adult."}
{"id": "t3_n2om3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "A Fickle old Flame", "post": "23/m 22/f\n\nBeen walking the line with a gal for 3 years now. She is a tough Gal to read, Avoids talking about feelings and presents a tough front. She liked me first and I didint see the signs. I ended up getting interested in a other girls, may have accidentally kissed her roommate...\n\nShe has dated other boys, some who I have known/ been friends with. After a break up she was about to take a semester abroad, we hung out and eventually kissed. Then we talked about some of the feeling from the past. She later kissed a friend of mine, She left for semester abroad and while there sent me some E-mails that were more sentimental then any of our previous communications\n\nI started dating a girl while she was gone and we lost a bit of touch. She got into a relationship as well upon return. We both got into break ups and have been talking again, \n\nWe have hung out, cuddled, held hands but no kissing/etc. She is still kinda on and off with contact and initiation. If she wants to see me its on, but if i want to see her its not a guarantee. I dont know if Im just holding on to the past, but I really do like her and always have wished we could have dated, but am I letting that allow her to use my emotions and attention.\n\nHow should I deal with this Fickle situation, also do you all think she resents me for how things happened in the beginning?", "summary": "Old flame which has been on and off, May be situated to relight it but signaling has been flaky as always."}
{"id": "t3_4ijlo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] fantasized about an ex while having sex with my current gf [22F] and now my brain associates my current gf's name with my ex's. What do I do?", "post": "Hi guys, just wanted to know how I should go about handling this situation as it has really been bringing me down. My current gf and I have been dating about 7 months, and we have known each other for nearly a decade, and everything was peachy until recently. A few weeks ago my girlfriend and I were having sex and I fantasized about my old girlfriend. Ever since then, it's as if my brain can't distinguish the two as different people. Every time I say my current gf's name inside my head or picture her face, something in me brings up the name/face of my old flame. \n\nI really love my current gf, she is everything that this ex was not: caring, loving, loyal, reliable, sweet, selfless. I will do absolutely anything to give us a happy ending and make these thoughts go away. They have started infiltrating the time we spend together now as well, not just when I'm alone. It's like I'm fighting with my own brain. I do not love my ex and there is no future with her, even if I was single I would never pursue her again due to all the lying, cheating, pain, and selfishness. I have discussed this with my current gf and she's been absolutely amazing and is holding my hand every step of the way. I just feel disgusted with myself for letting this past pain poison my present happiness.\n\nSo help me out r/relationships, how do I get back to seeing my gf without bringing my past into play?", "summary": "Fantasized about ex during sex, can't separate my current gf  and ex within my mind despite them having very different character traits."}
{"id": "t3_1lnaw1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I tell my boyfriend I desperately need a night in?", "post": "My boyfriend(M24) is and extrovert and I(F23) am an introvert. We have been in a relationship for 2 years and have been best friends for 2 before that. He loves always having plans and hanging out with people, which I also sometimes enjoy doing but I also need nights where we can just stay in and watch movies or do nothing. Lately we haven't had a moment to ourselves. We are constantly running all over, hangin with people and filling our free time with activities. This week alone we have plans with friends every single night. I like seeing friends but it getting so exhausting trying to keep up with him. Last night I almost had a nervous breakdown at his parents house. This morning I almost had another and while trying to make me feel better I said \"I just feel like we are busy all the time\" and he said \"Life is busy, you're going to have to get used to it\". This caused me to start crying and frekaing out and it seems like he couldn't understand where I am coming from. Everytime I mention that I want/need a night in it feel like he he thinks I'm being lazy or don't want to hang out with his friends. I'ma afraid if I continue trying to keep up with him I'm to have a complete frekout. I don't know how much longer I can try suppressing these current mini breakdowns. How do I get him to see my point of view.", "summary": "Boyfriend is extrovert, I'm introvert. He always wants to go out and I need some nights in. How do I get him to see my side without thinking I'm lazy."}
{"id": "t3_2sjf5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25/M with my fianc\u00e9 24/F 3 years together, 1 engaged. She cheated on me and still talks to the guy. what do I do.", "post": "I've been with my fianc\u00e9 now for 3 years (1 yr engaged). We have had our ups and downs for each side. I found out 10 days ago she cheated on me on the previous Saturday. She tells me she wants to work this out with me. I asked her to stop contacting him and to send him a text and show me that she is ending the relationship with the other man, but she refused to send the text and she said she wasn't going to talk to him anymore. Things have been hell the last week. She is up and down just like I am. I'll admit I have been watching her like a hawk lately because I was suspicious she was still talking to the guy. Behold, Last night, I found out I was right. She tells me I need to get out of the house more and need to give her space and time to think. I'm afraid that the space is to be with the other guy.\n\nI really do love her. We have a home together, a car, and 2 children (my daughter and her son from previous relationships). I really do want to be with her and am working on trying to trust her but it's insanely hard when he is still around. I want so bad to go to his house and kick the living shit out of him because he knows she engaged and he knows me and her are still together. \n\nShe tell me she still loves me. She tells me she still wants to be with me, but she needs the space. She hasn't taken off her engagement ring and still wants to be my fianc\u00e9.", "summary": "Fiance cheated, says wants to be together but still talks to the guy."}
{"id": "t3_feoif", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I being over analytical?", "post": "Since I've graduated college I find myself missing the 'day to day' of class activities. Being a History major and an English minor my analytical skills skyrocketed in my senior year, every assignment I touched involved thought and opinion - get your argument across while keeping the audience sustained and attentive. Please note that while I say this, I in no way mean that other majors or minors don't coincide with building their analytical skills.  \n\nThat being said, here is my issue. I've continued my analytical ways after graduation and into everyday life. Any situation that comes up within my realm of life I think \"hmmmm, here is an interesting situation - this point, that point - my resolution\". I pride myself in being as progressive as I can. I don't like sitting still while there is a \"problem\" to fix. However I can't help but digress and become condescending when I sit still droning at the television while herp de derping at MTV, TLC, or really any sitcom with my fianc\u00e9e. Although I view it as being directed at the show, she is taking my statements to heart and acting as though they are directed at her. This seems to be happening with everything, each and every aspect of day to day life - I always seem to interpret the problem as an overall picture that can be solved with simple steps.  \n\nThis problem seems to be branching off towards my friends too. Some situational drama will arise and instead of being passive or letting things play out naturally. I attempt to control that which I cannot. I try to tell myself that I shouldn't want my influence to reign supreme over others in certain situations, that they should lead completely within their decisions. Perhaps it is just human nature to push one's influence over another. However, because of my over confidence I appear condescending to those around me. This isn't my intention but it keeps happening!", "summary": "Reddit, what can I do to combat my situation? The question itself can seem contradicting given my statements above. How can I just relax, stop worrying so much and let events play out without constantly being controlling?"}
{"id": "t3_1pvyli", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help! I'm 19 and female and I'm constantly begging my bf for sex (and not always getting it).", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We're both 19. In general I'd say our relationship is pretty great. We communicate,  we have fun, we handle conflicts well but the one nagging issue that I can't get over is our sex life. \n\nI'm his second and he's my first so neither of us is experienced by any means but we both have very different ideas on sex. I like to go at least once a day, maybe twice, three times etc. I really like having sex. He thinks even once a day is \"too much\" and \"weird\". I also always initiate.  I can count three times since we started where he asked. We've talked a lot about how this affects me and my self esteem (I basically feel needy and unattractive) and he always says he will work on it but nothing ever changes. \n\nMost of the advice given to me has been to talk (I've been trying), suducing him (which has become impossible or so difficult its come to begging) and withholding (which is more punishment for me than him).What ive been doing clearly isn't working. Can anyone help guide me on how to handle this?\n\nJust quick notes:\nHe doesn't have any medical issues that I'm aware of\nHe isn't abusing porn\nI believe he is truly attracted to me we just have different sex drives\n\nThank you for any and all advice!", "summary": "how can I cope with different sex drives if I'm the needy one?"}
{"id": "t3_rk1tr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College bound. Could I get some help/advice?", "post": "Hello. I'm a junior in high school and as you can imagine, I'm looking at colleges. I really want to go to Purdue for engineering and was wondering if you could tell me my chance of getting in, and any tips that might help me get in. I figured Reddit has plenty of wisdom about this kind of thing. Anyway, for some backround, I would be an out of state student wanting to live on campus. I have taken(including senior year) 4 years of English(English I-IV), 3 years of social studies including AP US Gov, 6 years of Math(Alg I/II, Honors Geom, Honors Precalc, AP Stats and AP Calc), 4 years of science(Physical Science, Bio., Chem., and AP Physics), 4 years of Band, some irrelevant electives, and 2 years of a foreign language(German).I have a 3.7 GPA. For my SAT, I got a 650 Math, 550 Crit. Reading, and 490 Writing. I'll be taking the ACT coming up pretty soon. ANYWAYS, some questions that I have. Does only having 2 years of a foreign language have a large affect on being accepted, should I retake the SAT, if I do better on the ACT should I send just the ACT or both, and finally what could I do to improve chances and what chance do I have on getting accepted with the above information. Thanks for any help! This is a big decision for me so any help at all would be wonderful.", "summary": "Want to go to Purdue for engineering. 3.7 GPA. Kinda low SAT score but solid academic cources. Chances of getting in/advice?"}
{"id": "t3_151oqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25/m dating 23/f, I have big problems with her most recent serious ex, she was still friends on facebook, still had semi intimate pictures. we took care of that, i thought. I found out very inadvertently, she has been facebook stalking him about 2 weeks before our 1 year anniversary. wat do?", "post": "What the hell do I say? We have been together a year 3 days ago. Two months in, I found out she was still in contact with all her exs via facebook and who knows what else. I know some guys are fine with facebook friends and olds pictures of exs, but I am not. Period.  I told her this when we first got serious.  At my request she deleted all exs on her facebook and all intimate pictures of her and them together.  Couple of weeks ago I happened to type a couple of letters that corresponded with her exs name when googling around on her computer, and the most recent link that autofilled happened to be her most serious, most recent ex's facebook profile.  I was pissed and confronted her, she claimed she didn't rememeber even doing it. I have brought it up a couple of times and she doesn't seem to think it's a big a deal, it really is to me though. I really just don't know what to do. Please do not post some shit like \"get over it\",  \"it's no big deal\", it is to me, and the worst part is that it isn't to her, and that she not only claims to not remember doing it, but shows little to no remorse over it.", "summary": "Been with gf 1 year, im not cool with exs pics or being friends on facebook, she deletes that shit. two weeks ago, google some shit on her computer, most recent activity pops up her most serious exs profile. Not cool, she gets defensive when i bring it up. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_fg1ny", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why won't he show me he cares?", "post": "I'm a pretty forgiving person who tries her hardest to consider what's going on in someone's life to make them act the way they act.  I'm in a relationship with a very sweet man (we're both 23).  He has a huge heart, he never thinks poorly about people and he just doesn't have the kind of demeanor that causes people or those they're friends with to be sad.  In this regard, I am very lucky.  I know that he loves me and he's not afraid to say that he does.  We've had our bumps but like I said, I have forgiven all. \nHere's the problem... I feel like we're just friends.  We don't live together, and he never calls me to hang out.  We see eachother very often, about 5 times a week, but it's always me who initiates.  In fact, if I don't contact him, I likely will not hear from him or see him for days.  He doesn't do special boyfriend-like things for me (except for being generally nice and helpful when we're together).  I know it sounds silly and petty and I know it's stupid, but he won't even acknowledge me on facebook and if you looked through his phone, you'd see that he never reaches out to me.  I do all sorts of things for him, I won't give examples, but please believe me that I suprise him and show him how special he is to me all the time.  \nIs there a reason he pretty much treats me like a buddy who could come or go without much consequence.  Is he just bored after 4 years?  When I bring this up to him, I try to explain that I need to know I'm important to him.  He says that I *am* important to him and that he will start to show me, **but nothing ever changes**.  I don't *think* this is enough to break up over, but the truth is, I still feel very young and I honestly want to be with a man who goes to the end of the earth to make me happy.  Am I wrong to want a man to have some passion?", "summary": "Been with a really good hearted guy for 4 years now, but he just doesn't show me that he cares at all.  I feel like buddies with no romance and when I talk to him about it, he agrees that he should put in more effort but never does.  What's going on here, and how can I help improve this?"}
{"id": "t3_1q3qyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] dating girl [20 F] for a little over a month, she has a competition coming up and I don't know how to comfort her.", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for a little over a month now, things have been going great! We have been texting frequently and seeing each other multiple times a week. \n\nWe are both extremely busy and dedicated to our school work, which I like, but she also competitively figure skates. So here's the problem, this week on top of tests/assignments/practice etc she also has a big competition that she has said she hasn't had a lot of time to prepare for. I have no figure skating experience, so I can't really feel her pain and I feel like I can't really give her legitimate support. Even worse, her schedule is completely blocked up this week so she can only text. It would be ok if I could see her to tell her it'll be ok, but I really don't know what I can really say texting trying to make her feel comfortable.\n\nAlso, since we started talking, messaging has been pretty consistent. But in the days leading up to the competition, she's been kind of short and dispersed with her communication. I've been giving her space and not texting because I know she's busy, and she's been starting conversations at night. Even though I know she's unbelievably busy, I can't help but feel she is being a little distant. \n\n---\n\nSo tonight is her big night. What the hell can I text her if she tells me she totally bombed her routine? \n\nAlso, do you think the distance could be because she's possibly losing interest? Or am I just paranoid haha. We have a date Monday after she's done everything, I plan on casually asking her about why she was being a little distant when we go out.", "summary": "Girl I've been seeing has a competition coming up on top of her super busy schedule. She's been a little distant and I don't really know how to comfort her."}
{"id": "t3_4owjf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 2 years, preparing for a disastrous financial situation", "post": "Education:\n\nI am going to graduate this fall with a bachelors in Computer Science, with my girlfriend looking to graduate next spring with a bachelors in Food Science. She plans to get her masters in Business Administration starting fall 2017.\n\nFinancial Situation:\n\nShe needs to pay off her car with monthly payments, pay off student loan, and possibly her sister's financial needs. Her family may not be able to support her 13 year old sister, as the parents are getting sick. They might move out of country if they cannot work. I'm not sure when this can happen, so I'm really scared about the financial implications of my girlfriend suddenly becoming the guardian of her sister. She says that it will be ok and she will handle the costs of her sister, but I am just worried that we might not be able to fully handle this sort of situation. I just learned about the sister thing tonight and I am absolutely terrified. What can I do?\n\nFinancial Endeavors:\n\nI would like to be able to travel out of country with her by our late 20s, as well as start looking for affordable houses on the west coast. Ideally we would have at least $2000 contributed each year to our IRAs and saving regularly. I want us to be debt-free and financially stable by 25, at most. I definitely do not want kids, but that might change as I get older.\n\nAny help is extremely appreciated. Also, please do not just suggest that I break up with her. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend, who hasn't even finished paying off student loans and car, could possibly become guardian of her 13 year old sister."}
{"id": "t3_vrfxn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "27m Concerning my friend and his ex", "post": "So, my best friend and former room mate (25m) got dumped by his girlfriend (23f) after they dated for about 2 years.  I don't know the exact reasons why but then again I don't need to.  She moved across the country right after she ended it, this was approximately four months ago.  This past weekend she was back in town visiting and I consider her to be a good friend so I made sure to spend some time with her while she was here.  She was very excited when I saw her because she had gotten engaged the night before to her new boyfriend (33m).  \n\nSince it had happened so recently I was one of the first people she told and not many people know about it yet still.  So my question is, should I tell my friend about her new engagement?  He's still pretty upset about the break up, I feel like I should say something to him because I don't want him to get blind sided by a shitty status update or something insincere like that but at the same time I feel like it's really not my place to say anything since it's between them and I have nothing to do with it.  Should I just keep my mouth shut?  Am I making a bigger deal out of this than I need to?", "summary": "My friend got dumped, not long after that his ex got engaged, he doesn't know yet, should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_4ywptm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] don't understand how anyone can truly love another person. Is my definition of trust too far? Am I just being selfish?", "post": "My mom just told me that she hates me, and that all I've done is ruin her life. That she should've had an abortion.\n\nMy girlfriend of 5 years just left me because she \"didn't feel like it anymore\". All the happy marriages I ever see seem just so forced. I've never seen a relationship where the parties loved and trusted each other to the extent of which I expected in a relationship.\n\nAnd now that I know that a mother's \"unconditional\" love isn't even always as loving or trusting as I thought it'd be, I'm thinking there's something wrong with MY mindset. \n\nMaybe love isn't as great or intimate as I thought it'd be. Maybe that's just me being selfish. I don't think anyone would ever love me enough to feel like I should trust them back, especially after what's happened. And that's a bad thing.\n\nMaybe I'm just too trusting? That I always win the \"I love you more argument\" in a bad way? Maybe I need to care less about the other person and more for myself.\n\n Maybe in a relationship I need to care less about it, that trusting the other person is bad because they don't love me as much as I thought they did. Because a broken relationship hurts a lot more when you trust them a lot.\n\nI don't know what to feel anymore.", "summary": "I don't know if my definition of love is selfish because I expected a lot more out of a relationship of 5 years that just ended because she \"didn't feel like it\"."}
{"id": "t3_4yoac2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with dad [57M] and step mother [53F]. They told me that I'm receiving half the inheritance my step siblings will receive.", "post": "So a few nights ago my dad called me and he told me that he and my step mother are preparing their wills and he wants to talk to me about what portion I'll be receiving.\n\nFirst let's get this out there that this isn't about money. I'm a high earner and don't need a cent from them. And my dad and step mother are healthy as horses and I hope they'll be with us for 50 more years.\n\nSo he told me that they're considering 1/5 of the amount they're setting aside for children. My step brother and step sister (step mother's children) will receive 2/5 each. I asked why not 1/3 each and he thinks that will be unfair as my (stay at home) step mother has contributed a lot to the family and it's unfair if I'll be getting as much as her children. I asked if he has made half the contributions his wife has, as he's now giving me half but he does indeed think her children deserve more.\n\nI lived with my parents until I was 12 when they divorced, and my dad married this woman shortly after. I lived with my mom after that. I visited my dad regularly and have OK relationship with step mother and step siblings, but it's always fair to say I've been an outsider to that family. This decision just cements that. I wouldn't expect my step mother to include me equally as her own children in her will, hell I don't even expect her to include me at all, but I expected more from my dad. This just tells me he considers me half as valuable/wanted as his step kids.\n\nSo is it ok to be disappointed here?", "summary": "My dad told me I'm receiving half the inheritance that my step siblings are receiving. I'm feeling disappointed and not valued. Is that feeling alright even when I don't even need that money?"}
{"id": "t3_2v9028", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [16F] is envious of my past relationships. Not sure how to talk her out of it", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 7 months now, and it has been a blast since the very first day. We basically went from rather good friends to an amazing couple without any awkwardness or friendzone-y (?) problems. Because of this, we are both pretty much convinced that we have found \"the one\".\n\nHowever, I recently learned that she is rather envious of my past girlfriends, my last ex in particular. As far as I can tell, her main concern is that I have been intimate in the same ways with them as I have been with her. She can't quite seem to grasp the idea that with her, everything is very much different. Sexual acts are much more meaningful, if that makes any sense, than they were before. \n\nAdditionally, she has a hard time processing the idea that I, at some point, loved and cared for them too in the same way as I care for her now. I tend to be a little \"overly-attached\" at times, so I can't really object to this statement. It is not entirely impossible that I care for her the way I do simply because it's in my nature.\n\nHowever, I am positive that I have never been in love with anyone as I have been with my current girlfriend, and wouldn't want it all to end because of this. I have consoled her the best I could, but I'd rather keep it from you redditors. This way, it might be easier to come up with an objective advice.", "summary": "My current girlfriend is envious of my past (sexual) relationships and I wouldn't want it all to end because of this. How can I talk her out of her envy?"}
{"id": "t3_37tkqu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By watching World War Z", "post": "Unlike most TIFU's this actually happened today. I was lying in bed, watching netflix and just generally chilling, which is a normal day for someone as antisocial as me. Having run out of good things to watch I chucked on World War Z. Unfortunately, it was a very cold day so I chucked my hands down my pants to keep warm (wasn't masturbating I swear). Shortly into the movie however came the scene where Brad Pitt and his family were climbing onto the roof to meet the helicopter (how original). Those of you who have seen this movie will know that there is a huge jumpscare as they walk through a door. This caused me to jump with fright and unintentionally squeeze the living shit out of my ballsack.", "summary": "Got blackballed by a zombie"}
{"id": "t3_3tdp96", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "The post office almost lost my engagement ring", "post": "FH and I have been \"unofficially\" engaged for over a month. Officially in my mind, but apparently people don't take you seriously until you're wearing a ring! Well, we picked out my ring together, I started some wedding spreadsheets, joined this sub (hello!) and we finally placed the order to a ringmaker on Etsy.\n\nWe'd had a string of package thefts on my block this fall, so I suggested that FH have the package delivered to his office. Even though we were already in the throes of wedding planning, the actual ring-proposal was supposed to be a surprise.\n\nThree weeks later, FH sends me a frantic message from the post office that package was \"undeliverable as addressed\" and was going to be shipped back to the ringmaker in California. Receptionists at his office said they didn't see a package, and the post office he called gave him a number that no one answered. We're in a mild panic because we don't know where the ring is, why it couldn't be delivered, and--in the best case scenario--not stoked to wait two more weeks for it to get back to California and then BACK to DC! Thanksgiving week is supposed to be the Big Reveal, and again, I've been finding people really don't take the engagement seriously until there's a ring on that finger!\n\nFH goes to the post office right as they open the following day, and thankfully a very helpful manager points him to the place where undeliverable packages are dropped off to be redirected, and he gets the ring! Huzzah! The proposal wasn't a surprise, but it was very \"us,\" and it was perfect.\n\nStill no clue why the package wasn't delivered the first time. The address was right! Courier must have walked into the wrong building or something.", "summary": "I got engaged. Ring pic:"}
{"id": "t3_31t9wy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] texting her [36 F], while she is in a relationship. Boundaries?", "post": "For a couple of years now I've had an acquaintance that I really enjoy talking to and ended up developing a big crush on.\n\nWe met when we were both married, nothing inappropriate went on. Eventually I found out she got separated and we stopped talking. About a year went by and I ended up getting separated from my wife. After I was separated for a bit I contacted her again and after a little back and forth I asked her out. She then informed me that she was seeing someone else (that really hurt).\n\nEven though she is seeing someone, and it really hurt to be rejected, I still enjoy talking to her. Our conversations have been been limited to email and texting for now. Our conversations are light and simple, some joking around.\n\nI know continuing to talk to her is not the smartest decision, since she is involved, and if she doesn't answer I get paranoid she doesn't want to talk to me. Despite this, I would like to keep some time of communication with her. Is this weird? \n\nI know there are no rules for relationship situations, but does anyone have any advise or suggestions?", "summary": "Like talking to women who is seeing someone else, do I continue to talk to her even if I have a crush on her?"}
{"id": "t3_3cbsfo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22f] with my mother [56f], got black ink stains on the comforter she really likes that I've been using on my bed", "post": "It's an old pastel comforter with lots of flowers and light colors and these black ink stains are big.  It's a reversible one so the other side's okay, and the stains are at the bottom so I don't know how long it will take her to find out on her own.  THe stains happened because I left a pen on my bed :(\n\nThat's basically it.  I live at home.  She knows I got the stains on the sheets that were on the bed with the comforter and she's really upset, as she should be, but I couldn't bring myself to tell her about the comforter.  I don't know what to do.\n\nI'm thinking of bringing them to a dry cleaner to try to get them out, but I don't know how to do that without her finding out.  I don't know how to talk to her about this, I feel awful and I\"m really scared.  \n\nI've also tried a lot of things to get rid of them - rubbing alcohol, hairspray, nail polish remover, stain remover. I can't was the whole comforter though or else she'll find out. Maybe it needs to be soaked. Idk, I'm panicking a bit, does anyone have suggestions?", "summary": "got ink on mom's comforter, scared."}
{"id": "t3_16lnf0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I officially don't know what I'm not doing.", "post": "Edit: sorry for the wall of text, heh.\nHi. Just a fore warning, this is going to be about dating/relationships and what have you. Or a rant thereof, really.\nAs the title said, I have no idea what I'm not doing correctly. I'm 19 and male, and the only girlfriend I've ever had broke up with me after about three weeks and the only reason she got with me in the first place was because she was lonely and sad and what have you and I was there for her when she needed it. People (read: female friends) always say things like \"How do you not have a girlfriend?\" \"You're so nice, if I wasn't into ____, I would totally date you.\" \"You'd make, like, the perfect boyfriend.\" \"I couldn't ask for a better friend, you make me so happy.\"\n\nI'm not making that shit up, multiple girls have said those things to me. And yet, whenever I start to like one of them, it's always \"I like you, but I only like you as a friend,\" or, \"you're cute, but I don't think us dating would be a good idea.\" Even the one that said \"If I wasn't into ___, I would date you,\" which makes her a straight up liar anyway. I just get really pissed that every single fucking female I meet says stuff like this and yet NONE of them feel more than that...Don't misunderstand, I'm not angry at them for it, I'm still friends with the ex girlfriend mentioned before and with all the girls that said they don't feel that way(the ones that LET me be friends with them, anyway). I know it's not their fault, but it gets frustrating after a while. I'm pretty sure now that if a girl walked up to me and asked for sex, I would just think that she was being nice to me for some unknown reason. \nI dunno. It does not make me a happy nt_a =|.\nThank you.\n\nEdit2:", "summary": "female friends always say things like \"How are you possibly single?\" And yet every girl I've ever fancied (including the ones that say things like that) doesn't seem to like me in the same way. I dunno what I'm not doing. Not mad, just frustrated, I guess."}
{"id": "t3_2s2jcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my BF[23/M] - I said something stupid that I cannot take back.", "post": "I said something stupid that I cannot take back, during an argument, and my boyfriend wants to break up. He told me that he feels like he cannot trust me anymore because of what I said. (He thinks I might cheat on him in the future and he doesn't want to have to go through that.)\n\nI don't want the relationship to end like that - I want to work things out. While he was firm on his decision at the beginning, he decided that maybe he could give it a week to think things through, as perhaps he's just too upset now, but no promises. If he thinks we can work it out by the end of the week, he intends to come down to see me. (We live 2 hours away from each other.)\n\nWhat should I do that might help fix things? What's the best way to work things out? He's a very logical person, if that means anything.\n\nNote: I know that it is my fault and that I have issues that I have to deal with in therapy. I take full responsibility for what has happened, so please don't berate me. I just want to know how to fix this relationship in the best way possible.", "summary": "Said something stupid in an argument with my BF. He now thinks that the relationship won't work out. He's giving this a week to mull over it. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_16ngo5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, what do you think I should do about my ex-girlfriend?", "post": "A little background here : My ex broke up with me after cheating on me over a year ago. Five months after the break up, she worked her way back into my life and spent the next year dating other guys who weren't me and treated her like crap. Her mother has recently died and her father was released from jail around the same time of the break up. Her recent behavior has been convincing me that I am better off without her in my life but another part of me wants to keep her around to look out for her. What do you think I should do?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend is emotionally abusive timebomb and can't decide if better to kick her out of my life or support her and keep her around"}
{"id": "t3_3ab88l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16F] Mum [45F] just walked in on me in the bath and I think I'm overreacting", "post": "Sorry for formatting - I'm on mobile\n\nStuff like this isn't really an issue normally. My mum came home whilst I was in bath (it's prom tomorrow so I taking longer because I was shaving and whatnot) so she shouted up to me that she needed to use the bathroom and I told her I'd be 10 minutes so that I could finish up. Not 5 minutes again so was shouting up the stairs to me that she needed to go out so she needed to use the bathroom now. I told her that I'd be two minutes more and she could come in (I had to get out with shampoo still in my hair). She opened the door slightly literally 20 seconds later and said \"are you done yet?\" as I was getting out of the bath with a towel around my body. I said (or more like shouted at her) to not open the door at me when I was in the bath. She laughedand said  that it didn't matter because I had a towel on.\n\nI don't feel like that the fucking point though. She didn't know if I had a towel on or not - she may be my mum but I don't feel comfortable being seen naked by her. Who would? I'm really angry about it. I feel like she disrespected me and my privacy by doing this and especially just to laugh it off because it could have left me majorly embarrassed. Like I said, she's never done anything like this before.\n\nReddit, am I overreacting here? I don't know if I can justify being this angry. What should I say about it when she comes home/should I even mention it? If it was me I would have waited until the person inside opened the door for me...", "summary": "my mum walked in on me in the bath (with a towel on) and I don't know if I have the right to be angry or am I overreacting"}
{"id": "t3_11q2vs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18M currently using 18F and we both know it", "post": "18M here, just started college, have been having a FWB thing with my close friend 18F for about a year now.  We'e known each other for 7.  I treat her less than any other person I talk to, because I know I can.  She loves me profusely and used to get upset at me for treating her so poorly, sleeping with other girls, etc. but now she says she just doesnt care what I do, as long as we remain friends.\n\nI think this is so fucked up.  I actually go out of my way to be an ass to her and she comes back for more, and even brings me cake.  She's insanely sweet and dependent on me.  That's why I think she's better off without me.  I cause her so much emotional pain and we both know it, but she doesn't want to let me go.  She tells me she's miserable without me, but I feel like it's for her own good to break off this friendship.  \n\nShe cares about me an insane amount, I mean she must after all the crap I've put her through.  Anyway why can't I seem to get rid of her.  Not that it's in my particular best interest.  I mean I use her to satisfy my own selfish desires for sex and emotional support, but I provide her with nothing positive. \n\nShe tells me this friendship is something worth fighting for, no matter what I do.  I feel like I just can't win with her.  What do I do?", "summary": "18M is an ass to FWB 18F, yet she will still do anything for our friendship.  I think this is unhealthy, but can't convince her"}
{"id": "t3_4o46gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) hypocrisy over a girl I've been casually sleeping with is eating me up inside", "post": "Two months ago I met a European girl in a club. We slept together that night, and since then we've been in touch fairly often, and even done things like going to the beach together and a football match (she's a fan, don't worry I didn't drag her there). However we always made it clear that this is not some sort of relationship. She recently got out of an abusive one with a man she was going to marry and I know she needs some time to be free; I'll be leaving here back to Britain in a month or so too so I can't really date anyone per se...\n\nHowever every time I see her post a photo with another guy on Instagram, it eats me up inside. It makes me feel horrible. This is despite the fact that since I last saw her two weeks ago, I've had sex with someone else I'm planning to meet up with.\n\nAt this point I would like to appreciate that it is me at fault here, but how can I overcome this?", "summary": "Despite sleeping around myself, I can't stomach my casual partner doing the same. How do I get over (what is clearly *my* problem"}
{"id": "t3_2quw46", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Moving to CO, need help deciding on a breed", "post": "I am moving out to Colorado from Virginia in May and I intend on getting a dog, my first dog. I don't know much about dogs and will do a lot of research into training and the personalities of each specific breed but I'm looking for ideas for which breed to get. \n\nA little about me: I'm a 27 year old male moving in (to hopefully a single family home, but maybe an apartment) with 2 other guys in their mid-twenties. I will be living in the Denver area of Colorado with frequent weekend hiking trips in the mountains that I would want my dog to take part in. I also like to go running so that would be awesome to have a dog that could join me in that too. \n\nI would prefer a short haired breed. Also, I would prefer a dog around 40-60 lbs, not too big, but certainly not too small. I looked into Siberian Husky and Shiba Inu, but they both seem like pretty stubborn breeds that are hard to train and the massive shedding is not desirable, although not a deal breaker. Just started looking into breeds today but I thought the Australian Cattle Dog looked like a good breed for me. Thoughts? Any help would be greatly appreciated!!", "summary": "I'm moving to Colorado in May and need help deciding on a breed for the active young guy that has never owned a dog before."}
{"id": "t3_319t6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16m]differences from my [16f] gf, is making me feel out of place all the time and stressed.", "post": "Hello, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 3 months now and we are both really happy. We are going strong and would love for this relationship to last! We get over our problems easily and work things out so we don't break up for silly reasons like other relationships our age.\n\nI have a problem with adjusting myself to her fully. Its usually something small like how she falls asleep so fast and I don't. Normally, people would just go with it and not really think/worry about how they are different from their partner. But for some reason the fact that she does something I do every day differently than I do, it makes me almost feel as if there is something wrong with me. I try and blame it on her in my mind that there is something wrong with her. I absolutely hate thinking like this because it puts stress on everything different she does than me.\n\nI do understand that everyone is different and they do things differently, but this is bugging me especially because she is so close to me. I need help in trying to figure out what I can do to prevent me from caring so much! I do eventually get over the things that I am different from her in, it just takes a long time and during that time I over think things way too much.", "summary": "I care too much about how my gf is different from me, is putting on too much stress "}
{"id": "t3_w0lpx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have found five dead or dying baby bird in my tiny city backyard in the past 2 months. Does anyone have an explanation?", "post": "I've found 5 baby birds- undamaged, different stages of development, different species, in different parts of my small city yard over the past 6 weeks or so. I cant find a nest or another explanation but it is breaking my heart. The first was unidentifiable but black and just out in the backyard; the second was a duckling (super, super tiny) on the front walk; the third was disemboweled on my front steps; the fourth was hairless but alive and wedged in my back steps; the fifth and latest was alive; a chickadee, hopping but very, very young, in my garden. Her family found her and was frantic. My neighbors are\nnot experiencing similar incidents.", "summary": "Why is my yard a baby bird graveyard?"}
{"id": "t3_1eapl7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[19M] [21F] Need some reassurance and advice.", "post": "I've been talking with this girl now for a week or so, if you wanna even call it that. We've kissed, gone out a few times, and both have made it very clear that we have feelings for each other. To put it simply, I never have actually had feelings for a girl like this before. (Truthfully, I'm known as a slut.) I genuinely and truthfully like this girl and have absolutely all intention on dating her so I definently am not looking to screw this up. She does seem to send mixed signals which I hate and always throws me for a loop. Any advice besides just taking it slow? Maybe exactly HOW to take it slow, considering I've never even done that before... Considering I'm paranoid parrot about things like this, even just reassurance would help. She usually texts me first and all that. (Seems silly to say, I know, but it does usually mean a girl has a lot of interest in a guy.) Simply, I'd just like some concrete, legit advice regarding the whole matter and even reassurance would help.", "summary": "She sends mixed signals, but we're both clear that we have feelings for each other."}
{"id": "t3_2xdekv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M19] 'Subtly' asked a girl out on FB, she responded with a kinda puzzling response. Help appreciated!", "post": "So there's this girl that I met about 3 weeks ago and I spoken to her briefly in person and a few short conversations on Facebook. I find her really attractive and she seems like a fun girl, so I thought I'd go about asking her out (easier said than done, building up the confidence to ask my first girl out ever!)\n\nI barely get to see her in person so I sent her a message on Facebook saying *'Hey, wondering if you'd fancy going out for drinks sometime? x'* In hindsight, this might have been a bit vague, but I'm sure she must know that I like her now. I've got hints from people that know her that she likes me too, so fingers crossed.\n\nShe ended up responding with *'Hey, what sort of drinks do you mean? :)'*  Usually I'm good at coming up with responses, but this kind of had me stumped. The sarcastic part of me wants to say something stupid like *'Ones that you drink'*.\n\nI asked my mate and he wasn't sure what he'd put either, so any suggestions reddit?", "summary": "What do I respond to 'What sort of drinks do you mean?'"}
{"id": "t3_2ky5t5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by growing catnip.", "post": "A little back story. Less than one year ago I moved from a cold climate to one which is mild. Wanting to pick up on new experiences I decide to take on a small gardening project. \n\nHaving no clue where to start I head to the local home and garden store seeking advice. Staff was very helpful in choosing seeds, tools, and nutrients. Now armed with the goods I'm on my way to the cash register. But wait...what's this at the register? Catnip seeds! At home I have an aging cat that could use a reason to hit the scratching post again. Something for me and something for her, what a great day. \n\nIt was early summer and sunny as can be. The tomatoes, snap peas, and strawberries are coming in nicely. Catnip not so much. I didn't do research but assumed the plant needed more sun. Luckily this plant was still in its pot, so I move it to higher ground on the porch. Several weeks later the catnip is thriving!\n\nNow I usually let my cat out on the porch so she can watch the birds and keep mice away. Old girl doesn't stray far, this being a new and still unfamiliar place. One day she stopped asking to go outside and I couldn't even talk her into it. \n\nFast forward several days. I need to know what's wrong out there. I thought she'd love fresh catnip. Which I'm sure she did. However, so did every other cat in the neighborhood. I do a quick search of the property. There are cats everywhere. By simply planting a seed for the first time in my life I had unknowingly created a 'felinic war zone'. One of which my old kitty cannot compete. \n\nThe plant is now an indoor plant. Kitty is back to playing outside :)", "summary": "planted catnip and compromised the safety of my cat and likely others."}
{"id": "t3_ks8cm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of Reddit:  At what age did your parents allow you to decide how you wanted your hair?", "post": "Background info:\nI have a stepson who will be 10 in a few days.  He wants to grow his hair out.  His dad & I have no problem with that, and whenever needed, we trim it around his ears a bit.  My stepson's mother, on the other hand, thinks he looks \"stupid\" (and has used this word at him).  In April or May, she got her boyfriend to shave his head against his will.  At school the next day, kids made fun of him.  My BF shaved his head that night so as not to make his son feel so bad about himself.  My BF got a call from his ex's BF last night (she was apparently CRYING because her son was refusing to allow them to shave his head) saying that their son was being difficult and wouldn't let them shave his head.  After a VERY long and frustrating conversation, it was decided that they would attempt to trim it.  He's ten years old, he should be allowed to choose how he wants to have his hair.  I feel terrible for him.", "summary": "10 year old isn't allowed to choose his own hairstyle because his mother is a cunt.  BF & I don't care how he has his hair."}
{"id": "t3_20mx27", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Should I tell my girlfriend (20/f) that I slept with her promiscuous friend right before we started going out?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out nine months and she's not the type to sleep around and she's slightly critical of other promiscuous people (especially those with a track record of going in bare and being reckless). Anyway, she has a friend she's not particularly close to and she made a comment that she would never consider dating anyone that has been with this friend of hers since those men are only there for the pussy, they use her friend, and any man who is dumb enough to fuck her without protection has no standards or any regard for his personal health.\n\nWell, I kind of fucked the friend. Three days before I asked my girlfriend out. She doesn't know. At all. She thinks I hadn't fucked anyone since the relationship I had before her because that's what I told her.\n\nI'd keep her in ignorance because if I could do it again I wouldn't have fucked the friend but we were both drunk and she was down to fuck and I wanted some pussy. Now, my issue is that their friendship is on the rocks and I feel that if shit hits the fan her friend will tell her we fucked and I'll be caught in a lie.\n\nI do know that she wouldn't be dating me if she knew I fucked her friend and she's the world to me. She's foreign and not as liberal with random fucking between strangers (which I'm not opposed to at all but she doesn't know that). I do admit that I find that quality in her super admirable but, again, I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place.\n\nDoes she hear it from me or do I risk her potentially finding out from either her friend or another third party?", "summary": "Fucked my girlfriend's friend and my girlfriend doesn't know. Wouldn't be dating me if she knew. Do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_13ubgi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I recently moved cross-country with my job and I hate it! Help!", "post": "Hello everyone ... let me give you a little background. About 2 months ago, my company moved my department, including my job, from New York to California. I reluctantly went with my job because I am young and felt that it would be good for my career. I don't know a single person here -- no family, friends, etc. -- and my job situation has gotten progressively more difficult every day. I really hate where I am living, and my job has gotten me so stressed out and depressed that I need to start taking anti-depressants again. I've even been having major panic attacks. The company was very shifty and unsupportive in the move, but has me locked into 2 years or else I have to pay back the moving expenses. I really wish I could transfer back home or quit, but I can't. What do I do?", "summary": "I hate my job and want to quit, moved 2500 miles from home for it, know no one here, but I'm locked into 2 years. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qxzq5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not doing well on the AMC 8", "post": "Happy New Years Eve, everyone! I hope your's is more enjoyable than mine. MAA is slowly posting the high scorers(with the scores) for the AMC 8 on their website. They seem to post school by school. My mother got extremely angry when she saw that they posted a score from someone in my, but didn't post my score. (The highest score you can get is a 25, they were posting any score that 19 or above) She has been screaming at me for the last hour about the whole deal. As a middle schooler taking Precalc, my mother and I were expecting me to score 23 or higher. However, according to the website, I am not a high scorer. This will not daunt me, I will do try to get a great score for the AMC 10. This post was relieve some stress. Thank you for reading.", "summary": "Middler schooler tacking precalc screws up on the AMC 8. Mother screams, middle schooler now determined to do fantastic on the AMC 10."}
{"id": "t3_ap9pk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am in desperate need of your help.", "post": "Alright, I will try to keep this short while still giving you guys the full scope of my problem. I am a 19 year old male who is healthy in almost every way possible. I am not overweight, I take care of my body and I interact socially with a large group of friends on a regular basis. My problem is that I have been suffering from depression since the begining of highschool (freshman in college now). I realize that many people suffer from depression, and it can be overcome, but depression is not the reason I am here today. Reddit, although it pains me to admit it, I have completely lost any semblance of a sex drive I once had. It has nothing to do with lack of being able to get girls in bed, I am fairly attractive (or so i've been told) and pretty confident and charismatic as well. The problem is that when I get girls in bed, I am unable to function sexually (I can't get hard). \n\nNow initially I blamed this on the anti-depressants, was talking prozac at the time which is an SSRI, but I switched to a non-ssri called bupropinol of which I take 450 mg daily. Reddit, the problem is nothing has changed. I was drinking with a gorgeous girl the other night, and when we got down to it I was unable to function. I ended up just going down on her and we both had a good time, but it was embarassing for me not to be able to do what we both wanted to do. \n\nI am set to see this girl again (later today, possibly tomorrow if I push it back) so any advice you can give would be greatly appriciated. This is not an isolated incident either, this has happened to me a total of 3 times so far. Initially it was just anxiety, but now I dont know what to think. I literally have no motivation to go after girls anymore because I feel like I wont be able to function when I need to. Please help me reddit, you're the only people I feel I can trust to give me an honest opinion with legitimate answers.", "summary": "cant get hard when in bed with girls, healthy life from an outside perspective, emotional wreck inside. pls suggest potential solutions or just give advice or even opinions."}
{"id": "t3_2r6awz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Loaned a friend money. Refuses to pay back. What can I do?", "post": "Made a mistake I know and loaned a friend $1000. Was in a bad situation all around. Moved in with a friend after going through an emotionally rough time. Asked to borrow $1000 and gladly lent it to him. He was letting me stay in his apartment after all. Found out he was violent and into drugs and I pretty much fled for a few days. The cash I has was stolen another 800$ my entire savings. Went back home a couple states away and he threatened to charge me rent. Got scared and told him to keep my things as compensation (", "summary": "Loaned money to a \"friend\", had to flee. Can I get anything back?"}
{"id": "t3_40457y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] telling friend [27 M] how much he means to me?", "post": "Hopefully this doesn't sound too silly. Anyway, I became really close with someone online over the past few months. I've made close friends online and even met my husband that way but this was when I was a lot younger so I feel a little more weird about it now.\n\nI'm an introvert and it's been hard for me to open up to this guy (this is platonic). I haven't felt this close to someone since my husband. So sometimes I really want to text him that I love him. He's done this to me. He's said it to me over voice several times and he'll also text me things like \"hope you're having an amazing day!\" along with \"love you!\" He's said other sweet things as well.\n\nDespite all this I still feel weird just texting him I love him, I've never really done this with a friend before. Plus the opposite sex stuff is there...\n\nAnyway, I was curious as to how many of you tell your friends you love them and how often? Do you just text them this randomly (like I'd be doing...) or in specific moments? I just don't want him to feel weird =\\ I'm really trying to open up more.", "summary": "Really close to platonic friend of opposite sex and want to tell him how important he is to me but don't want him to feel weird about it. He's told me he loves me several times. He's also an online friend."}
{"id": "t3_166c45", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Boyfriend (M23) and I (F23) broke up today.We are meeting this weekend for one last talk to \"clear the air\". Should I tell him I cheated on him, or let the relationship go in peace?", "post": "If you are going to tell me what a horrible person I am don't because I already know.\nLength of Relationship-- 5.5+ years\n\nAnyways...I have been in a relationship with my now ex-boyfriend my entire time in college. I have graduated and am currently employed. We broke up today (he broke up with me but I felt the same way). We have had a very toxic relationship for a while. We both have had emotional abuse from both ends. We should have ended it a while ago.\n\nHe wants to get together this weekend and have one last talk. Over the summer we were apart and we didn't speak for weeks. I was in a very bad place in my life and I hung out with an old ex. We didn't have sex but we did make out and things got a bit touchy-feely.\n\nMy question is..Do I tell him this weekend when we get together for one last talk? He is planning on admitting me a few things to me, ( I don't think it is cheating) in order to clear the air. Or do I let things be and not burden him with this?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I broke up today. He wants to get together for one last \"clear the air\" talk. Should I tell him I cheated on him or should I let things go and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1kcsvw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[F/21]Cheated on [M/22] and just found out, what do I do.", "post": "I had been with my very recently ex boyfriend for 6 years, we dated throughout high school and college and are now entering our senior year of college. Last semester I studied abroad and despite things being very rocky with my boyfriend I was adamant that I didn't want to cheat. I had many opportunities to and many temptations and felt bad I even wanted to but was happy I didn't. After coming home from abroad we broke up for nonrelated reasons. It was my decision to break up and I did so because there were problems in our relationship I couldn't look past when there was suddenly so much pressure on us to get engaged after such a long time together or at the very least make permanent plans together. I knew we needed to grow up if we ever wanted a chance together in the future, and even though I don't want to be together right now I know it is something I always want available for me in the future because he still is someone who is very important to me.\n\nI just yesterday found out that I had too much to drink and kissed another guy. I don't remember anything. I feel awful. I don't know if I should tell my ex because we were together when it happened or if it would be better to keep it to myself. We are trying very hard to be friends and have an amicable break up. I'm worried if I tell him it won't help anything however I feel as if telling the truth is the right thing to do. I don't care what I have to do, I just want to do what is best for him.", "summary": "BF of 6 years, went abroad and cheated while blacked out, came home and broke up, just found out about cheating. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_25wl2f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19F & 21M. Been dating 3.5 years. About to move in together. What's mine is mine and what's yours is... also mine?", "post": "Him: You don't have to ask permission every time you want to use my laptop. Just use it.\n\nHer: Well I'd hope you ask permission before using my stuff.\n\nHim: What's the big deal?\n\nHer: These things are mine. I feel like it's about respect for me and my things when you ask, or at least let me know when you're going to use something of mine.\n\nHim: You only feel like this because you're hiding something.\n\nHer: No. I've honestly got nothing to hide. It just makes me feel better if you ask. \n\nSo, our question is - who's right? She can't imagine a situation where she would say \"no\" if he asked to use her things, but he doesn't think he needs to ask every time.", "summary": "When a couple lives together, do they need to ask permission to use each others things? "}
{"id": "t3_4x9axl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (31m) roommate's (31m) guest never leaves my apartment. Going on 2 weeks now and I'm annoyed", "post": "Hey everyone. My roommate and I are coming to the end of 2 years of living together. Long story short, I will not continue to live with him beyond 2 years.\n\nWe used to work together and I thought he had his act together. Little did I know it was all a front. He hardly leaves the apartment besides to go to work, never buys household goods, barely cleans up after himself, and definitely doesn't do his fair share of things around the apt.\n\nHe's generally a nice guy but he's completely oblivious and can be really inconsiderate. For example we used to smoke (weed) together from time to time. I am for the most part cool with it. Then it started turning into 12 hour smoke sessions where he would sit in his room all day smoking. I eventually asked him to stop smoking inside, but slowly he started to again. Finally one night, I had had enough and I called him out and he's taken to smoking outside.\n\nSo here's what happened. At the beginning of the month he told me a friend of his needed a place to stay for a few days. I obliged under the agreement that she wouldn't be in the apt all day (I'm working from home and interviewing, speaking on the phone with privileged information, financials, etc.)\n\nHere we are almost two weeks later. She's been here almost every day. The one day she wasn't here, he had his FWB staying the night.\n\nI'm incredibly annoyed at this point. I texted him yesterday (as I knew I wouldn't be home when he was.) Yet he never replied. I texted him again this AM and still crickets.\n\nMy friends say I'm more upset than I should be, but I think my anger is justified. It makes more work for me (constantly emptying the dishwasher, trash I only take out, lack of any kind of alone time in MY own apartment.) I'm not sure what to do at this point. I know I have to confront him but I feel like such a nag with these situations he puts me in. Any type of advice for confronting this would be really appreciated.", "summary": "Roommates houseguest has overstayed her welcome. Tried to ask roommate how much longer she'd be staying and he's avoiding answering me. Need advice with how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2ivkol", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How we dove the great barrier reef for free (and you can too)", "post": "Originally shared this as a link but I think it's in the spam filter so I'll just self post the details. \n\nWhile Travelling Australia we (wife and I) went to Cairns and got our PADI certification (this obviously costs money), but while living in Cairns we found a very simple way to scuba dive for free and I wanted to share it with other travellers, it could work in other locations as well. \n\n**My first free dive was a 1 week free trip living on a boat and diving 3 times a day, 2 day dives and 1 night dive**, you're probably thinking \"BULLSHIT\" but I'm serious. \n\n**This is how**\n\nEach dive company needs staff, some jobs (doing dishes, making beds, etc) don't require much work, so they don't want to pay someone a full wage to be on the boat for a day, week or sometimes longer. **For these types of jobs they offer a volunteer position that they call a \"hostie\"**. \nIf you're willing to vacuum, make some beds, and wash some dishes (about 3 hours of easy work) you can live on the boat and dive for free. You get fed, a place to live and sleep for a week, AND you dive the great barrier reef FOR FREE. It's awesome\n\nWhile in OZ I did about 40 free dives, and they were amazing. To some picture you can check out the blogpost my wife wrote on it (she just started her own blog and is really excited to share it but it went in the spam filter)\n\n**Oh yeah, my brother dove for 3 months straight (5 days on 2 off) for free AND got his dive master certification for free as well all by volunteering", "summary": "First you need your dive cert and to be in Cairns"}
{"id": "t3_204ub0", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "5 year old abruptly stops talking. Seeking advice on selective mutism", "post": "I'm looking for some advice. \n\nI have a 5 year old boy who, until recently, was very friendly, extroverted, and would never run out of things to say. He's spoiled but that's a different issue we're working on. He's intelligent too, learned to read at age 2 and a half and is advanced academically among other things. Unlike his parents, he's incredibly extroverted.\n\nOur problem though is that we have not heard his voice in almost 2 weeks. After picking him up from a weekend with his grandparents, he would only speak in whispers. He still has absolutely plenty to say but he absolutely refuses to bring his voice to a normal (audible) level.  \n\nTo add to the problem, we were applying him to his new school for the first grade and scheduled an appointment for assessment just today. We didn't have this problem when we scheduled the assessment and we were hoping that we could prepare him and convince him to talk normally by this point. We couldn't and the school wouldn't accept him unless it was through a 'special needs' program.\n\nAfter the interview his mom had a conversation with him that went like this:\n\n\"The school won't accept you because you won't talk normally\"\n\"But I answered all her questions and I'm smart\"\n\"It doesn't matter because you won't talk so they won't know how smart you are\"\n\nThis problem has come out of nowhere and some quick googling tells me he is showing symptoms of selective mutism. He, however, does not share majority of the common symptoms like the following:\n\nnervous\nuneasy and socially awkward\nclingy\nexcessively shy and withdrawn, dreading that they will be expected to speak \nserious\nstubborn or aggressive, having temper tantrums when they get home from school \nfrozen and expressionless during periods they cannot talk\n\nHe's none of that. He still talks excitedly and has plenty to say but refuses to raise his voice past a whisper. I'm still holding out hope that this is a phase. We're seeing a speech pathologist soon.", "summary": "I want advice on how to address selective mutism."}
{"id": "t3_137wcp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been told that it looks terrible if you quit a job within 2 years. Reddit, when is it okay to quit your job?", "post": "I've been a Marketing Assistant at my company for 5 months now. This is my first job out of school and I couldn't be more miserable. I'm overworked and underpaid and I'm always taking the blame even when I'm not involved. I do not have a good work/life balance anymore. I am looked down upon when I do not continue work at home unpaid while others do nothing. Speaking of, I've taken on key functions of other employees jobs which I am not qualified for but my supervisor doesn't care. I cannot complete these tasks because I do not understand what I'm doing. I want to leave but I don't want potential employers to frown upon the \"5 months\". I can stay a little longer but I can't handle much more. When would it be acceptable to quit and not have potential employers look down upon my experience?", "summary": "I'm extremely uncomfortable at my first job out of college and I want to quit but I've only been there for 5 months. How long should I stay there so I still look like a good, reliable candidate in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_37zyvl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I tried to get some jellybeans", "post": "TIFU actually a couple months ago back when school was in. So it was a regular morning and I was waiting for my sister to get down stairs so we could leave for school (both in HS), so we have this jellybean machine right? You put a nickel in and you get like 3 jellybeans. Well I wasn't having that shit so of COURSE I unscrew the top of the machine and stick my hand in to grab a handful to take with me to school. This is where my dignity ends. I go to put the top back on the machine and suddenly the round part containing all of the jellybeans lifts off the bottom part and at least 400 jellybeans comes rushing all over the counter and the floor. A minute later I hear my sister coming down the stairs and fucking run outside to the car. When we got home my sister was blamed and yeah well I still have that haunting me.", "summary": "Tried to get some jellybeans, machine breaaks and jellybeans go everywhere"}
{"id": "t3_2dsck9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "i feel that's i lost my childhood", "post": "in before people judge me for what i will write\n\ni had the most unfortunate luck of being born in egypt , i lived middle life by the stranded of egypt ,, i went to privet school just because my father wanted me to have good education but it was like the rest of the government education ,, filled with cheating tests and passing anyway, getting bullied everyday by everyone in school just because i was the stranger who came in 4th grade from ksa , life was hell until i transferd to high school , \n\nthere i got along with people because i was already know most of them before the school ,, but they like the rest just because they started to treat me like the uncool kid and i never liked hurting people .. i started to drift away from people until i walked to my first internet cafe and never got out , kept playing cracked games because i could never buy the real thing because i cant afford it \n\nmy mom make 215$/month\n\ni accepted the fact i can play them but with bugs/viruses/being asshole etc but after i stumbled over wow privet server and i fell in love ,, i loved everything about the game the player the quests the stories , but i never got to finish any story line or get the full experience because of bugs \n\nand here we come to the title . im setting here thinking what other teenagers who live in usa and eu got ,, they got to play wow every day with friends ,, they dont need to pirate anything ,they get to play my favorite game and i cant .. they get to play any game and i dont ,,just because of money .. and here im my birthday was at 21/7 and now im 20 years old .. im no longer young .. just an almost adult ,, so ye i hate my life", "summary": "You got to play wow and i didn't and i feel bitter about it"}
{"id": "t3_1cg7mv", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Advice please: My two adopted kittens now fight", "post": "Background: We adopted two 8 month old kittens about a month ago from a shelter.  The shelter staff said that as brother and sister they had to be adopted out together, and that fighting shouldn't be a problem.  They are also currently entirely indoor, but in a couple of weeks when the weather improves in UK there going to be able to go outside in the day time.\n\nProblem: They have always done some rough housing, but in the last week this has got much worse.  The two of them seem to constantly been pouncing and fighting each other now, and its gone from playing to hissing and yowling.\n\nIts particularly infuriating because it tends to start at about midnight and keep going till at least 3am disturbing everyones sleep.\n\nI know play fighting is common, and cats need to establish dominance when they first come into a new area but this is getting to be a bit of a problem, and i'm worried the smaller one will get hurt.\n\nAny ideas on how to stop this? is there something I can be doing to help them get along again or at least stop this fighting?", "summary": "Two sibling cats adopted together gone from grooming each other to attempting to maul each other.  Would like that to stop please."}
{"id": "t3_18cpjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/f] My Boyfriend [32M] of 10 months Lied about an office fling", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 10mos. He recently moved in with me and things have been going very well.He is everything I have ever wanted in a partner. Just amazing.\n\nSo, last Saturday I was going through his internet history trying to find what kind of porn he watches so I could be sexy and surprise him by watching something he likes with him. (He said its cool if I snoop around)\n\nWell, I came across a ton of craigslist personal ads he read while he was out of town on a business trip. My heart sank, I knew he was probably just making fun of people, or bored and reading it for entertainment, but still...it worried me. So I did something I am ashamed of...I read his e-mail. :(\n\nI found out that before he met me he had sex with a coworker (someone he brings up constantly) Thing is...I asked months ago if he slept with her and he said no. He told me they were just friends and that nothing has ever gone on between them. She is of course gorgeous, funny, and has fake tits. And her boyfriend knew she was sleeping around and was ok with it. I can't compete with that.\n\nMy boyfriend came clean about the fling when I confronted him, and says that nothing is going on now. I want so badly to put all this in the past, and move on. I want nothing more than to not feel jealousy, and just trust him. I don't know what to feel. I want him to be my \"one\" and I think he wants to be mine. How do I get over this?", "summary": "Boyfriend slept with \"bestfriend/coworker\" before we met, but told me he never slept with her. I found out through reading his email. Why would he do this? How do I get over my feelings of mistrust."}
{"id": "t3_rlguq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Making it 'official'--important or not?", "post": "We're both in our mid-twenties.\n\nI've been seeing her for about 2 months. In the past month, we've spent almost every day together and have been on plenty of dates. We sleep together almost every night and have had sex about a dozen times. We're affectionate, communicative and generally very happy with one another. Essentially, we're in a relationship, but we haven't made it official, or exclusive.\n\nShe got out of a serious relationship about 2 months before meeting me, and she was the one who was broken up with. She has said that she's wary of getting into another serious relationship, as she has been in one kind or another since her teenage years, with little gap between. She seems anxious about us becoming serious so fast, but we seem to be so good together that we've been able to get to this point despite her reservations.\n\n**If I'm fairly certain that she's committed to being romantically involved with only me, should I even make the move to talk with her about making it 'official'?** I don't really care about titles or labels, etc. but I'm afraid of scaring her off by talking to her about it. That said, I want some sense of security. \n\nShould I instead just man up and let it play out on its own (i.e. enjoy the relationship for what it is and wait for a natural progression), or is asking her to make it official a natural move in and of itself?\n\nLastly, what signs from her should I look for that she wants to make it official? She's already said things like \"I love sleeping with you; I love holding and being held by you; You're amazing; We're virtually in a relationship (but not quite); I really really like you\" etc. but she has also said things like \"This is moving kind of fast; You're going to get bored of me; We see each other so much\"", "summary": "Two months in, I really like this girl. Girl seems wary of commitment but really likes me. We're practically in a relationship but without the label. Bring up 'official' talk, or is it detrimental?"}
{"id": "t3_2wbdia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] recently divorced, having anxiety about new relationships", "post": "I am recently divorced.  She cheated on me.  We were married for 6 years with no kids.  I tried to work it out but I felt she hated herself too much and she left me.  She left the start of December.\n\nI told myself I wasn't going to do anything until the divorced is finalized (end of March).  However, I ended up meeting a girl I really liked.  I've never crushed on someone so hard.  If I talked to her and it went well, I couldn't sleep.  If I talked to her and it didn't go well, I couldn't sleep.  \n\nI kept trying to tell myself to stop thinking about it.  I'm in excellent physical shape, I have a good job, and the ex didn't want to take anything.  I know how talk to women and fall in love.  I will have plenty of opportunities.  But couldn't stop thinking about this one girl I barely know.\n\nI'd tell myself \"take it slow, don't hit her up again until next week\".  And of course she'd end up messaging me before that time.  But then when I tried to do something with her it didn't work out.  Then she went completely dark for a time.  I couldn't tell if she was really interested or not.\n\nI couldn't handle the uncertainty.  The thought of it not working out or her not being interested was too much.  She knows my situation (she went through similar), and so I told her I just couldn't handle talking to new girls right now.  She was very understanding, and said we can just be friends.  I told her we can't be friends, but that I would maybe talk to her again when I'm doing better.  She said sounds good.\n\nHow do I get over these feelings so I can have the nerve to date again?", "summary": "Recently divorced, have anxiety about new relationships not working."}
{"id": "t3_2s8qu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my husband [31 M] 3 years, he has a history of abuse, may be repeating. How long do I hold on?", "post": "we have been married for a few years. He was in a serious relationship before that was very rocky. Involved abuse on both sides. When I met him and was dating him he was up front about his past and accepted responsibility without making excuses. It happened to come up in conversation after a few months of getting to know him and until tonight I'd never seen this side of him. \n\nTonight: we had just gotten home from running some errands (paid bills, groceries etc). He was extremely mad at our dog for peeing in his kennel and was yelling at him and pushed him towards the door with his foot. I told him to quit scaring the dog and he gave it a hard kick that knocked it into the door frame. (I'm already planning to regime the dog it's only 2 months and cannot be treated like that). He followed the dog outside still yelling and I told him he needed to stay outside too and locked the door behind him. He came back immediately pounding on the door and right away I felt childish so I unlocked it (probably spent 20 seconds locked) and he charged in and grabbed me by the arm and held me up against the counter while he said in my face not to lock him out of his own house. \n\nI didn't say a word. Just waited until he let go and went to sit down. He then started teasing me and asking if I was going to sit and stare at a wall all night then walked away after a few minutes of me not reacting. \n\nMy problem is.. What do I do? I'm a mature, independent, college educated woman and I have no idea what to do. Is it a line that's been crossed and there's no going back? Do I separate from him? Divorce? I just don't know what someone in a marriage puts up with before turning to divorce. I have an infant to consider as well.", "summary": "husband angry, kicked dog, hurt me. How far is too far?"}
{"id": "t3_2nz2mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could you move past emotional infidelity? Me and my ex [21 F and 21 M]", "post": "Long story short, we dated for almost four years and in the last few months, I emotionally cheated. I came clean and because I was depressed, he was willing to work on it at the time. However, I broke up with him because I didn't think it was fair to him and I didn't think I loved him anymore.\n\nNow, it's been six months. We've been hovering in the friends with benefits category as we pretty much act like we used to except he says he doesn't feel that spark for me anymore. If he was willing to take me back, I'd prove to him that I made a terrible mistake, of my own volition, and that I would not do it again. However, he's not sure if he could ever love ANYONE again, not just me. He has proposed that we stay in this limbo indefinitely because, as he says, \"Who else am I going to find that I can talk so freely with and just get me?\"\n\nShould we just go NC and end it? Have you ever taken back an emotional cheating SO and did it work out? Would you?", "summary": "is it possible for a relationship to be successful after emotional infidelity?"}
{"id": "t3_2p79ao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would age be a big deal to you? How would you deal with it? [20 M + 16 F]", "post": "I got talking to a girl, she's nice and we get along.\n\nAfter talking to her for a bit and really feeling a connection, I discovered she's actually 4 years younger than me. \n\nShe's above the legal age so I have no worries in that department, but in terms of telling others, like friends and family about the age difference, the more I think about it the more off putting it seems, she doesn't have a job yet for example...We couldn't go for a drink together if we wanted to (Gotta be 18). Stuff like that.\n\nI know it gets better as time goes on. Like a 20 year old and a 24 year old doesn't sound half as bad. But when I (Living in the UK) am in my final year at University and she only left secondary school in June...It has left me with a funny feeling.\n\nIt's also not as if we're nailed on to be in a relationship, she's said she's not looking to jump into anything serious and we'll just see how it things go. So I actually could have nothing to worry about. I saw her today though and she agreed to go on a date next week. We've already been out together and kissed and all that jazz.", "summary": "What is your general view on age gaps when you're younger?"}
{"id": "t3_2jvmm9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a blowjob", "post": "So I'm writing this as I just read another TIFU blowjob stories and it reminded me of my unfortunate, strange experience I had recently.\nSo me and my partner were in the bedroom, getting each other worked up and ready to go and she starts giving me head. As you could imagine I'm quite pleased with this. So all is going well after 5 minutes but it's not really going anywhere so I tell her to stop, feeling guilty but she insists on continuing. What's a guy supposed to do?! \nSo she gets back into it and begins this intense suction. And dear god, amazing. I imagine this is what a vacuum must feel like. After another 5 minutes though I'm still not any closer to liftoff and tell her it's ok but she doesn't even stop and keeps up this amazing shop vac work . I'm enjoying this thoroughly and can feel it getting to shuttle launch when all of a sudden I feel this this sharp pinching pain on the top of my Johnson and end up with flaccid rope. Concerned, she asks what's wrong and I don't know so I look down...\n\nThe end of my Richard is a red-purple colour and raised a little. My partner had sucked so hard that I had gotten a hickey/blood blister on my bell end.", "summary": "Johnson sucked so hard, got a hickey on the tip."}
{"id": "t3_3wg1g3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making statements, assuming [too much about an old acquaintance]", "post": "This was a little while back, when I was a second semester freshman in college. I went to the big state college (U.S.) (let's call it University of Michigan, doesn't really matter), pretty solid school, but not MIT or something too big. Anyways, I suggest to a few buddies we go to the other side of campus to get food, and I see a girl from my middle/grade school. Back then, I kinda thought this girl was a bit snobby, but people change (hey maybe I was a little dick, who knows?) and I ended up right near her in line for food, so I had to say something. What could possibly go wrong? It wasn't like either of us could play the \"I don't recognize you game,\" it just..just no. \n\nTurns out a lot could go wrong. Somehow the first words out of my mouth after \"hi\" were \"so are you here visiting *Amy?\" The look on her face was just..I can't even describe it. After a pause she gets out \"Actually, I go here\" in probably the most 'fuck you' way imaginable. Conversation pretty much instantly ends as I realize I basically just suggested that she wasn't smart enough to get into Michigan. Worst part, I don't even know if Amy and her were friends at the time. I just associated them together in my head for whatever reason.A minute or two later one of us just straight left the line.\n\nTurns out a few minutes later she was trying to flirt with one of my friends. Can't remember the reason, but he was just having none of it that day, and just blatantly ignored her advances. I think I both directly and indirectly ruined her day.\n\nNot part of the fuckup, but for good measure - that wasn't the end of me seeing her. Michigan is a huge campus, but somehow we both chose and stayed in the same major throughout college. We had quite a few classes together, including at least one discussion/lab (aka like 20 people). Said maybe one sentence to her before a test about some random question. Might not have even been a complete sentence.", "summary": "Asked a girl if she was visiting someone at college. She goes to the college. Yikes"}
{"id": "t3_xln97", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "16 year old friend of my brother takes massive dump, uses our vacuum to suck up the shitty water. Mom doesn't want to call him out to protect my brother. What can I do?", "post": "I live away from home. My mom  calls me tonight and tells me this story:\n\nSo he came over for a sleep over. Took a massive dump in the bathroom, saw the water wasn't going down and instead of using the plunger, went back to sleep. Next day he and my mom tried to plunge the sucker but it would not budge. She had to leave to go to the gym and in the meantime he used our central vacuum (not a cheap toy) to suck up the shitty water before it overflowed.\n\nFilled a fair amount of the tank, which is in the garage. Didn't tell a soul. 3 weeks of crazy heat wave weather later, mom goes into the garage and smells death. She thinks \"Hey, I also havent emptied this tank in months, I should check it\". This woman, with a terrible spine, proceeds to lift what she thought was a light tank, and is stuck with 40lbs of liquid. The smell hits her. She somehow manages to unhook it and spends 2 hrs cleaning the fucker. Thank goodness she works in the healthcare industry and knows how to deal with this hazard.\n\nI asked her if she's going to call the kid's parents or talk to the kid. She doesn't want my brother to be mocked as a taddler (highschool is plai ol' retarded and he is relatively popular) so she simply is banning the kid from the house.\n\nI can't just sit here and let this happen without any responsibility on the kid! My dad is gone for a year long tour in Africa so it's not like he can step in and scare the kid straight.\n\nReddit, ideas?", "summary": "kid clogs toilet, uses vacuum to suck the shitty water, mom cleans the tank 3 weeks later, won't call the kid's parents."}
{"id": "t3_3gw8wl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21 M] shared some of his drink with me [22 F] It feels kind of intimate, but I'm not sure if I'm looking too deeply into it.", "post": "I am engaged, and my friend is married. He is actually more of my fiance's friend than he is mine. He has known my fiance for about 6 months now, and me for a shorter amount of time. He, my fiance and I have spent probably a total of 7 whole days together, and only about 2 with his wife involved.\n\nLast night, he spent the night at me and my fiance's place. My fiance was on the computer, and my friend and I were sitting watching TV. He held up an unopened fruit juice and asked me if I had ever had it before. I said no. He said he thought it was pretty good, then mentioned it's one of the few ways he can get his wife to drink anything that's not soda. \n\nHe asked me if I wanted some. I was genuinely curious and didn't want to say no, so I accepted. I opened it and took a drink. I told him I thought it was good, and gave it back. He drank.\n\nI have never shared a drink with someone who was not my family or SO, so this whole thing seems intimate to me. Is it a big deal or no?", "summary": "Married friend asked me if I wanted some of his drink. He drank after me. Is it an intimate thing, or is it normal around friends, even relatively new ones?"}
{"id": "t3_xykn8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My bf (27m) just claimed I (19f) broke up with him...", "post": "We've been dating a relatively short amount of time.. about 3 months, but had been talking for awhile before that. We went on trips together, and he was the first guy I've been sexually active with multiple times. So, we were close.. we spent most of our free time together.\nHe though is very confident and independent, and I've always been insecure, dependent, and paranoid. So the relationship had always been a struggle for me. I constantly felt like I couldn't be myself out of fear of him wanting to leave me. This stemmed from one argument we had where I was paranoid and insinuated something about him, he was VERY upset about it. I felt like I was getting scolded by my dad, that what I did wasn't acceptable. He forgave me and we moved on.\nYesterday though, we were having such a great night together and a bunch of shady things started to add up in my head (his Facebook is very private and hidden, his new housemate thought he had already met me when he didn't which makes me believe he brought another girl home before, he's been a lot busier at work). I usually try and suppress all these thoughts but there were just too many and I exploded and accused him of cheating and told him I couldn't trust him anymore.\nSo today he didn't talk to me at all until after work where he just told me what I said upset him and that was it. I was confused and asked him if he was breaking up with me. He then went on a rant saying that I broke up with him by saying I don't trust him anymore. I apologized, saying that that wasn't my intention. He said he forgives me but he doesn't have \"time for my drama\" and so on. I pretty much had to beg him to just agree to having us talk it out and see how things go for a week.\nSo now I'm here wondering if I did that wrong thing... should I have just left it end like that? Should I try and work things out?", "summary": "Boyfriend claims I dumped him when I told him I couldn't trust him after accusing him of cheating."}
{"id": "t3_3wx7da", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by insulting my friends religion", "post": "So me and some of my friends were hanging out, were 12ies (no hate pls) and we got onto the subject of sex. I asked jokingly if anyone had had sex before. My Mormon friend \"Clint\" responded with \"Sex for pleasure is not gods will.\" I responded with \"Oh yes, and ill read the book of Mormon and pray everyday!\" He didn't like this. Im about 6 inches taller than this kid and about 30lbs heavier than him, but he fucking jumps on me. He starts punching me as hard as he could. Being a scrawny little kid he doesn't get very far. But he proceeds to insult me and have all my friends back him up, even after he hit me. Basically i then hit him, we went to the principle and got a week of detention.", "summary": "Insulted friends religion and got in fight."}
{"id": "t3_1bwh9o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(25/m) I'm worried about my first real relationship with my boyfriend of 4 months (24/m).", "post": "I'm a bisexual guy who is in a long-distance relationship with another man (for the first time). He is the first person I've ever felt \"in love\" with, and for a long time I was incredibly happy talking to him 24/7 online and through texts.\n\nMore and more often, though, I've started getting bad feelings in my gut and I don't know where the problem lies. I feel like I've let him have too much of a grip on my emotions. The smallest negative thing makes me feel so horrible, even though I know I'm overreacting. He never says anything that bad, it's 95% my own mind.\n\nMy thought process is that I have to regain control of my emotions by limiting the amount I talk to him. But then I wonder if that's how a normal relationship should be. Is this a sign that it's not going to work out? We're still really in love, but breaking up feels like the easiest way to protect myself from... myself. I know this isn't fair to him and it makes me feel horrible.\n\nI should mention that I'm a pretty depressed person and right now is an incredibly stressful time in my life as I deal with someone very close to me dying. Are my feelings wrong? What is the best way I can get a grip on the reality of the situation?", "summary": "I feel like a crazy person what do I do"}
{"id": "t3_2hlmao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25M) left my fiance (26F) of 9 years. Need some encouragement.", "post": "So my fiance and I had been together for almost 9 years, and tonight, I decided I wanted my life back. For the last 3 months or so I would come home and look around and say to myself, \"is this it? is this how life's supposed to be?\" honestly I was very unhappy the last 3 years or so. Before we started dating we were best friends for a year or so, I was still on again off again with an ex. After that we ultimately formed an intimate relationship. 6 months into the relationship, I find out my ex gave birth to a girl, which I am the father of (DNA says so). So like a man I take on my responsibility and raise my little girl, pay my child support etc etc. Said girlfriend decides to stay with me, which I believed to be incredibly noble and a true sign of our love for one another. After years of what I would call comfort I decided to end it after 9 years for the following reasons:\n\n1. Her relationship with my daughter was shit. They do not talk to each other what so ever because she \"doesn't like kids\". Really? Because you seem to do great with your nieces and nephews!\n\n2. Our sex life was shit. As of this writing we hadn't had sex in 3 months, I would say the average was 6-10 times a year. I'm 25 years old, I have needs.\n\n3. I wasn't myself around her, for fear of pissing her off. I distance myself from my friends, and most importantly, my sister, who has been a huge influence on my life, but we didn't have the relationship we used to have because her and my fiance didn't get along.\n\nI'm not stupid, I know this won't be easy. I still have a lot of things to move out. I just need to know that I, and my daughter, will be happy someday.", "summary": "my fiance of 9 years was a cold and negative person, so I left."}
{"id": "t3_3ci8wc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "At what point should you help family with debt?", "post": "Recently, my mother asked for a loan from me and my sibling to get her and my father out of debt, but I'm not entirely sure if we should or not? It's somewhat substantial (around 30k, so 15k from my sibling and me), and while we can afford to do so I'm not sure it's something that we should absolutely do. My mother offered to write up a contract to pay us back over the span of three years; she even suggested a decent annual interest rate of 5 percent. \n\nMy hesitation lies primarily with her spending habits. While I'm fairly confident in her promise to pay back the loan in full, I feel that she is only asking this because she recently discovered our financial situation and realized that we can afford to essentially bail her out. While her spending habits are not too crazy, she often splurges on trips and eats out a fair amount and will often buy things she doesn't need. Currently, my parents are saving up for a fancy motorcycle, although my mother has assured me that they are not planning on buying it anytime soon. I'm worried that she will use our money to pay off her debts without adopting more frugal habits as a result (and perhaps even splurging on the motorcycle).\n\nI'm mostly feeling obligated because my parents paid for both of our college tuitions (at great financial stress), but I also feel like if she adopted a decent financial plan they could pay off their debts on their own.", "summary": "Mother wants to use my sibling's and my financial resources to pay off her debt (with interest) in lieu of the current high interest rates offered by credit card companies. When is this something you should consider doing?"}
{"id": "t3_4i3iq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] SIL [29F] wants nothing to do with me. How do I mend our relationship before our entire family falls apart?", "post": "So I work at a family business that is very quickly growing into a large business. I have been working there for 3 years with my husband [32M], both his parents and his sister.\n\nBasically his sister thinks I have been going behind her back attempting to sabotage her part of the business, and I honestly am blown away that she thinks that. While she was pregnant and on leave I helped build her brand into something that could really take off and she really did not do anything with it once I passed it back to her.\n\nAfter a big dramatic event at work, she did not talk to me and my husband for an entire month.\n\nI finally confronted her about it today and told her I was sorry that it seemed like we were going behind her back, but that was never any of our intention and we didn't mean to hurt her if we had done so and I would like to mend our relationship and sister-in-laws.\n\nShe came back and said that I was young and immature and don't think about other people. I apparently am incredibly inconsiderate and am too ambitious. She also says I never should have had anything to do with her part of the business/brand and that it was my fault that it is the way it is. She says she doesn't want anything to do with us right now and we took too long to apologize to her and her ship has sailed.\n\nI am afraid I am breaking up my husbands family. His parents have only given us bad advice from the start and its really what has gotten us to this breaking point. They kept telling us to move forward with working on her stuff, then when we said we didn't have the bandwidth anymore to the CEO and her boss, thats when she stopped talking to us.\n\nCommunication with her has been out the door since she got pregnant with her first kid. I will admit that my communication should have been better, but she did not make any effort herself.\n\nSo now this whole family fight is my fault and I am the one who just married in and I feel like I am breaking the family apart. How do I fix everything?", "summary": "SIL thinks I went behind her back at work and now doesn't want to have anything to do with my husband and I."}
{"id": "t3_2t8i7r", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need some advice on improving my living situation and my life in general. (X-Post from /r/personalfinance)", "post": "I graduated from highschool in 2012. I am now 20 years old (21 in June). So about 3 years ago my mom finally won custody over my sister and me after about 10 years of custody battles. The only problem is that all the years before took such a financial toll on my mom. So the past years she's basically been struggling to even be there for us at all. About 2 years ago she lost the apartment that we were living in. I had to live with my bestfriend for the last months of Highschool. My mom and sister stayed with one of her friends from the area. After Highschool we all moved in with my mom's parents. It's a mess really. I don't like going into detail on the living situation, but let's just say its very messy. I really don't like living like this although I have for the past couple of years.\n\nI have a pretty nice job at a high end computer retailer and I'm looking to continue education for a better career. The only problem is I really don't have the drive to do anything significant at the moment. What I would like to do is get my own apartment (Don't care about the size) and start again on my own. I feel like I've been dragged into a pit with the rest of my family that I cannot get out of. I just need some advice on how I can move forward. It probably doesn't help that I haven't been getting along with my mom lately. \n\nIn recent months she has denied my access to use the car (Which I ONLY use for work) and I had to improvise on ways to get to work everyday. It seems to have come to that again and I don't know if I'll be able to keep my job if I can't get there. The next best way would be by train which is a 3 hour ride so I have to get up 5 hours before my shift (Which is REALLY bad if my shift starts at 7am). Even worse the trains dont run at all the hours that I work and I just dont make enough for so many train rides.", "summary": "I have a terrible living situation at the moment. My current goals are simple: Get my own place to stay and a way to get back and forth to work. That's all I want right now."}
{"id": "t3_10bpl8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you consider infidelity to be?", "post": "Hi everyone, I'm 24(female) been with my 27 year old boyfriend for a year and a half. He's awesome and overall things are great. \n\nIn the past I've been cheated on emotionally and physically. I don't think that my current boyfriend is doing that...but I'm worried. \n\nHe is very over protective of his cellphone, he keeps it locked with a password. He works in customer service with a lot of young women, and adds them on facebook. I understand adding coworkers is very common, but it makes me uncomfortable. \n\nAm I being too sensitive? \n\nSo my question is, what is considered infidelity to you?", "summary": "happy in relationship, but am getting warning signs. What is cheating to you?"}
{"id": "t3_1gwm03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't think I actually like my girlfriend. Am I right to break up with her?", "post": "I know the title sounds stupid.\n\nI am 35, my girlfriend is 37.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for 7 years. She is super smart, kind, funny, loyal, and has made me a better person. I do love her.\n\nBut for a few years she wasn't very nice to me (she's now a recovering alcoholic) and in general I would describe her as fairly rude and nagging and in general wound up too tight. To top it off she had very low self esteem and a huge ego. \n\nShe has family members who are the same. It would be fair to describe them as \"difficult\".\n\nI have my own issues of course, and I am sure some of her behavior is a result of my behavior, but in general it's just her personality and overall she just isn't very nice to be around sometimes.\n\nFor example, I have a very stressful job (senior manager in a messed up company). She has an easy job (part-time English teacher). I will come home and tell her about my day. She immediately starts telling me what to do (in an aggressive tone) and gets a bit annoyed if I don't take her advice or I disagree. Every time I tell her about my day I start regretting telling her, even though her advice is often very good. She's just so aggressive with her opinions.\n\nSo this has been dragging on for years and I have been patient with her and she has tried to change (she really has) but I think at this stage it has just killed our relationship. I love her but I don't think I like her. She's rude, domineering, aggressive, irritable, moody. \n\nI should also mention my dislike of her has now entered the bedroom and I don't want to have sex with her, or children.\n\nSo I broke up with her yesterday but I don't know if I am making a big mistake. She is trying. Maybe I need to be more supportive. Maybe it's my fault... I am confused.\n\nThis has been an issue for a few years.\n\nAny advice for me?!\n\nThanks", "summary": "my girlfriend has been a bit of a pain in the ass for so long I don't think I even like her as a person anymore"}
{"id": "t3_s5gz6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever ate something so good that you will never eat again? (Story inside)", "post": "So I wanted to sweeten up my bosses this morning by showing up early and with a box of doughnuts. Went to the local bakery and asked for an assorted dozen. Well either the baker knew what I was in for or it was just fate. Packed in that floppy white box was a blueberry muffin doughnut with a hint of glaze on top. After realizing that showing up early and getting no thanks for the doughnuts I said screw it I'm going to get one. I chose that blueberry muffin doughnut. I split it in half and took a bite..........I felt like I have never been awake in my entire life until just then.  This was almost 16 hours ago and I can't stop thinking about that doughnut. So much that I don't want to eat it again at the chance it might not be as good as the first time around.", "summary": "Ate a blueberry muffin doughnut and it was so good that I never want to eat it again at the chance of ruining that moment I had"}
{"id": "t3_262ihq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] girlfriend [25 F] of 2 years hates my relationship with a friend", "post": "So I have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years now.  Seems to be going good most of the time but we have one main issue that keeps coming up.  She hates one of my friends who is a girl.  This girl has been my friend for 6-7 years all through college and the years after.  Me and this friend have never had sex or kissed or dated or anything, it has always been strictly friendship.  After a while my girlfriend told me she is uncomfortable with my and her close friendship and thinks that I am closer to my friend than her.  So I pretty much stop hanging out with this friend and only talk very occasionally.  However it is difficult since this friend is part of my circle of friends and is a good friend of my roommates and also a roommate of one of my very good friends.\n\nTo me this is an issue with her trusting me.  I have never cheated, nor came close to cheating on her with anyone.  I am a trustworthy person, I dont go out late partying or anything like that anymore.  And I know sometimes her ex's text her and she gives them quick blow-off replies and such but I never worry about it because I trust her.  I also don't like the idea of being told whom I can and cant be friends with if the relationship with this person is only based in friendship.\n\nAm I in the wrong here? Is this something I need to respect and just end a friendship even though I completely disagree? Is she in the wrong?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesnt like female friend.  Friendship is not sexual or flirty.  Girlfriend still complains.  Barely friends, still complains"}
{"id": "t3_p1hft", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "First post, be kind to me...", "post": "I don't want to admit that I'm having a hard time to anyone that knows, but I am.  I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and I'm taking anti-anxiety medications.  I have the support of my wife and family but I don't have any friends nearby, so it's hard for me to deal with my fears of being alone, despite me knowing full well that I'm not.\n\nI'm not supposed to worry about things as much as I used to, but I've been staying up later due to the medications.  I don't intend on stopping them, as they are keeping me from hurting myself.  It's just... well I just turned 30 a week ago and I thought it would be easier, not harder, to make friends, especially my age, that have similar interests to me.\n\nI came to reddit on a whim of some WowInsider staff members finding something here, I forget what.  I love WoW and League of Legends, and gaming in general.  I find that this makes it harder to make friends here, as not many people here are the video game type, at least not the MMO or MOBA type.\n\nI guess I'm just lonely, hoping to make some easy friends, hoping to get over my fears of Solo Queing for Dominion, queing for heroics, or just opening up in general about the fact that I need medication to be somewhat normal.\n\nSorry if the long post is boring.  I'm no good at", "summary": "s.  Cheers!"}
{"id": "t3_2v2bu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a 20F and I want to learn how to be less needy. Please help.", "post": "I am not currently in a relationship, though there's someone I just started seeing, which fueled me to finally get advice in a timely manner.  I am very needy.  Even when I'm keeping busy, I'm anxiously waiting to be texted back or something like that.  I should add that I never ACT clingy or needy.  I don't double text or ever get mad when someone I'm seeing doesn't text me back soon/ for a length of time.  I'm good at communicating rationally, but inside it tears me up.  I don't want to be constantly in desperate need of attention or affection.  It's so unrealistic.\n\nFor example, if a boy I'm seeing doesn't text me back from 7pm to 3pm the next day, I wouldn't interrogate him asking why he stopped texting me or accuse him of everything.  I'd just ask how his night went because we hadn't spoken in that time.\n\nMy internal neediness hasn't affected any of my relationships negatively because I can act civilized.  But how do I calm myself and relax?  Please help me.  It's been eating at me for years.", "summary": "Clingy/needy, but outwardly stable and realistic.  need help to relax."}
{"id": "t3_14ojfn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you done to improve your life this year?", "post": "A year ago I pledged to try my best to become a better person and imprvoce my life: I've lost 40 pounds, stopped bitting my nails, saved money to go to any concert I wanted including a cruise, and starting dating an amazing girl.\n\nThis year I will be attempting to improve my speaking skills by learning new words, reading more books, and being less vulgar. I want to save money to pay off my loans. **AND THE HARDEST OF ALL**, I will be quitting reddit. Starting (ending?) with this post. I will not visit the site again as soon as I hit the submit button. \n\nI think reddit is an amazing source for information and one of my absolutely favorite places; However, I do not yet posses the personal restraint to stop it from inhibiting my productivity. I wish you all the best of luck in improving your lives and look forwarding to reading your responses (if any at all) in a year.", "summary": "I did things. I liked what I did. I'm trying harder to do more things. I don't want it to end."}
{"id": "t3_1i3r8i", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Do they ever come back from the 'grass is greener on the other side' phase? Is it worth it to try or move on?", "post": "I (f/18) was dumped via text by him (m/18) after a 2.5 year relationship because he was not done 'partying' and felt as if we had growing up to do. Commonly these are signs of the 'grass is greener on the other side' syndrome. We just recently graduated and plan to attend college this fall (him at a university, me at a small community college about 30 minutes away.) The relationship was honestly very smooth, we were in love, had many plans and aspirations together and our families adored one another. He showed no signs of disinterest until about a week ago, he started partying more, hanging out with more friends that he normally wouldn't.\n \n\nNow, I had no problem with this, I never asked to join in on his fun time with friends, always offered to be a safe drive home and only asked for simple information in return, when he couldn't produce that information that is when it upset me. He started being shady, putting friends/getting drunk before me especially at times I really needed him and finally ended it 3 days ago. All these newly developed characteristics are highly unlike him, if he comes back and gets his priorities in check what shall I do? This pattern could stop and then continue in college, yet I know school is a number one priority for him.\n \n\nI understand when he said we needed to grow. We've been together most of our high school years. But I also know that was just a diversion from the whole \"I want to go out and party\" and there is nothing better than growing WITH someone and if two people can do that it is truly amazing. Does anyone have experience with a relationship like this? What was it like to move on/do they ever come back and realize how dumb they were being?", "summary": "Boyfriend dumps me out of the blue because he wants to continue partying when I never hindered him from doing so. If he tries to come back, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_g2pcg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how the fuck do I make friends?", "post": "Sup Reddit,\n\nI have no more friends. This is not an attack toward my friends' choices, but a desperate call for advice. In the recent years, I started to let go of all my childhood friends due to a gradual separation of whatever the fuck used to keep us together. I'm 20 now. In college with a part-time job. Since my childhood, I've been friends with people who care not for their future, but rather live in the present. I decided that these friends were just not right for me and therefore slowly started keeping away from them. Them and I do not share the same interests at all. They still do hard drugs, while I smoke the occasional joint. They stay up until 4 am, when I have to wake up at 6 every day. \n\nAbout me: I'm a student who loves every kind of music. I consider myself a geek, but not the kind that is willing to let everything else go. For example, I take boxing lessons 3 times a week to keep fit. I love to go out to a bar once a week and get hammered. I love reading, playing Scrabble, staying home on a day off watching tv shows and movies all day. I'm an Apple \"fanboy\": I have an iPhone, Macbook pro, and iPad. I love Windows, Android, and WP7 (although I don't see the appeal in in Blackberry). I'm an atheist but I will not try to prove to you that god does not exist. I'm extremely open-minded. I live in Montreal, Canada.\n\nAnyway, I just don't understand why I can't find friends who share the same lifestyle as I do. For example, I make new friends at school and they still use internet explorer for browsing. Little things like that make me believe that I can never be really good friends with them. I've been searching desperately for years now, and I still cannot find one new friend who is exactly like I am... Am I being too picky? I need friends who are educated geeks. \n\nI'm sorry if my post is vague, I really don't know how to express myself in vivid detail.\n\nReddit, how do I make new friends?", "summary": "No more friends. Need new friends."}
{"id": "t3_205dtq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my woman [24 F] of two yrs having conversations with a guy she use to date", "post": ">Here's the story!! I caught my woman on the phone a few months back\non the phone with a guy 3 o'clock (guy she use to deal with). She said she was trying to avoid the call.\nPresent, she continue to keep in contact with the guy (I think he calls her) every other week (her exact words), she says \"she likes his personality.\"\nNow, I'm trying to be cool about the situation because we have\na child, she's trying to finish school, and she just found a job part-\ntime, So I'm trying to help her. Also, i don't trust due to past situations.\nShe has put my personality, statemind of mind, and feeling in murky waters.\nAny advice!!", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_cat8g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men: Would you be happy to recieve a romantic love letter from your sweetheart?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are very affectionate and loving. I'll be going on holiday for 3 weeks later this summer, and I was wondering how the men of reddit would feel about recieving a romantic love letter from your best girl, telling you what she loves about you and how she looks forward to seeing you again.\n\nOf course, for we girls, it's a no brainer. If I got one, I'd keep it next to my bed and read it whenever I was down, but I'm not a man. Would it seem a bit immasculating? Maybe the opposite, maybe too \"I'm including a sandwich I made for you in the post, don't forget to always wear clean pants\"?\n\nI'd ask him, but I want it to be a suprise.", "summary": "Is a love letter from a girl wonderful, or weird?"}
{"id": "t3_1bi2p2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am confused/between current [18M] boyfriend and [18M] ex", "post": "My boyfriend of over two and a half years and I broke up right before summer (before going to college for me, before his sophomore college year).  He had been acting different upon returning from school, we grew a bit distant; told him I was unsure, he broke up with me the next day. Almost got back together twice over the summer, he initiated it and ended it both times. I (stupidly) had rebound of my high school best friend over summer, ex-boyfriend thinks he was reason why we broke up and despises me for it.  I leave for school on bad terms with both, ex-boyfriend blocks my number, refuses to talk to me, etc.\n\nFast forward September college freshman, meet and begin dating new guy I meet at school. Fall in love with him and we are together currently, doing well and are both happy.  The ex-boyfriend contacts me approximately two weeks prior, I tell the current boyfriend of our  interaction.  I end up writing pages and pages to ex-boyfriend, and think maybe he has feelings? He wants to stop talking; I get upset; he tells me he still loves me and wants to be together and is sorry for everything.\n\nI feel bad for even considering the possibility of being with my ex-boyfriend again.  My current relationship has its ups and its downs, but is still beautiful and wonderful.  I am going home for work purposes in two weeks, as is the ex-boyfriend, and we are meeting and talking. Is it possible to love two people at once? Am I holding onto residual feelings? I feel bad for my current boyfriend and my ex and cannot distinguish my feelings for which one to be with.  It is unfair to both and I don't want to feel guilty and bad again but I also don't want to make the wrong choice.  I did not consider my feelings for my ex before he told me he still loved me, and I do not want to be emotionally cheating, although I realize that seems as if it is happening. What to do?", "summary": "Ex boyfriend of 2.5 year relationship contacts me during happy 6 month+ current relationship and old feelings seem to be surfacing HELP?!"}
{"id": "t3_50hyf1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What's the next step? I'm a 21/M interested in a 19/F", "post": "I met this girl at the pool of my apartment complex about 10 days ago. I got her number, and she was pretty bad at responding to my texts and snapchats, so I took it as she wasn't interested in me and kind of let it go. Then this past Friday night, she hit me up and we went out to eat, but she brought along a girl friend. So again, I took that as she's not interested in being more than friends.\n\nThen this past Monday night, she hits me up and says she wants to come see my puppy at my apartment again, and that she needed a ride to my place. So i picked her up, and we ended up cuddling in my room for about 2 hours. Within the first 10 minutes or so, I went for a kiss but she said \"no not yet.\" But we continued cuddling then towards the end of the night when she was about to walk to her friends place in my same apartment complex, she let me kiss her, then we cuddled for a few more minutes and she left. \n\nShe then came back to my place again and had me bring her home, and I dropped her off and kissed her goodnight.  \n\nWhat is the next step for me, in terms of wanting a relationship with her? How do I let my intentions known? How do I learn her intentions?", "summary": "Met a girl, cuddled/kissed first night along together, she doesn't always respond to texts/snapchats, is she really interested and how do I find out her feelings/intentions and/or make mine known?"}
{"id": "t3_e0bb3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "so today.....", "post": "I took my almost 3 year old with me so I could vote, on the way ove rI treid to explain that today we pick out the people who help make the rules. when we got there he handed my ID to the lady to check in and they gave him a sample ballot to fill out. he waited for me to fill out my ballot and then had me pick him up so he could fill out his, he smiled when they gave him the I voted sticker and put it on his coat. made me smile to see him happy to \"vote\".", "summary": "my almost 3 year learned about voting and was happy about."}
{"id": "t3_3xalnc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] want to break up with my girlfriend [16F] of 11 months, and I'm worries about what I might do do her emotionally", "post": "I'll make this short (ish)\nI've been dating my girlfriend for 11 months. I have put up with a lot off trash from her, details i wont go into. I have been her crutch and she is very emotionally attached to me and i believe this break up will he better for both of us in rhe long run. \n\nAnyway she comes from a very troubled family and lives with her grandma, who is abusive emotionally to her. She suffers from depression, but her grandma doesnt get ger medication. She told me she has tried to kill herself, and that I'm her only reason she doesn't kill herself. The only family she really has is an older sister she visits on weekends. \n\nI want to end this peacefully and with the least amount of damage to her. I plan on doing it at her sisters so she'll have someone to be with. Is there anything I csn do to make this easier for her and me, without making her feal bad about herself?", "summary": "breaking up with overly attached and troubled girlfriend, wanting tips on how to make this go smoothly as possible for her."}
{"id": "t3_3fhwr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriends [21M] roommate [35F] caught me [19F] having sex with another man, we don't know how to explain to her that we are in a chuckhold relationship", "post": "First time posting, bare with me.\n\nMy [19F] boyfriend and I [21m] have been dating for three years, we have a great relationship, communicate really well, understand each other better than anyone. He's into a fetish called chuckholding, where he likes me to hook up with other men. I have no problem doing this, and we're both very open about our boundaries with each other.\n\nHim and his friend [35F], I'll call her Janis, have known one another for a long time, and have lived together for over a year. She has no idea about our lifestyle/fetish/kink/whatever you want to call it. I've recently had family issues, forcing me to stay with him and Janis for a few months until I get a new place. She was okay with this, and we all got along really well, until she walked in on me today. With another man.\n\nShe's basically furious at me. When she caught me, she told me to get the fuck out. I complied, not really knowing what to do. I didn't want to try to explain anything since my boyfriend was at work, and didn't want to complicate things without him and I being on the same page. I texted him what happened, and picked him up from work later. He told me that she'd called him multiple times but he hasn't picked up. Nither of us know how to explain this, since it's a very personal thing for him.\n\nI've even considered taking the fall and pretending to have betrayed his trust, just to avoid having to explain. But I really don't want to lose her respect (although that's probably long gone). I have this instinct to put his and her friendship before my own personal feelings, dispite the fact that he's against it. We spent the night in a hotel just to avoid the inevitable confrontation. I'd really appreciate some advice on what to say, without having to expose our sex life.", "summary": "Don't know how to explain intimate life with boyfriends roomate"}
{"id": "t3_2bqj2m", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My Girlfriend Won't Trust Me And Makes Annoying Fucking \"You're A Cheater\" Comments", "post": "Even though she loves me and I know she's crazy about me she can't trust me. The only two things that could've violated the trust.\n\n- She found a shirt from an ex girlfriend in my room 6 months ago. Apologized profusely. Did full cleanse of apartment.\n- She found a pair of underwear in my room, was my roommates girlfriend who left them in my laundry. Mistake.\n\nNow I can't make a single joke that might slightly reference a woman in my life/past life without getting some sort of snarky comment. \n\nExample: I use to go to school with some asian girl. I made a joke about how I was Godzilla and Asians are scared of me. She said something like \"No Asians. Ever.\" But it wasn't in a joking manner.\n\nI'm just so sick of it. Yeah, I get it. You're nervous. But I'm not cheating on you and I never have. It's fucking annoying. I think I'd rather you just leave at this point if you're gonna keep giving me shit. I'm not going to be sorry or feel guilty for shit I'm not guilty of.\n\nThe thing is, you feel like I deserve it. If I brought this up to you, you would just say WELL, WAS THERE ANOTHER GIRL'S PANTIES IN YOUR ROOM OR NOT????\n\nUm, yeah there was. But if you're not using caveman zero tolerance, no room for judgement problem solving then you'd know that that was a fucking accident, and not my god damn fault. I don't have an inventory of your underwear. Thought it was fucking yours.\n\n/rant", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't trust me"}
{"id": "t3_164kpu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some fun adult tech/hardware projects.", "post": "I was always a huge fan of things like k'nex and fischertechnik as a kid, and loved my \"300-in-1 Electronic Project Lab\" even though I didn't understand any of it (could still follow the directions to do the projects though and had a lot of fun).\n\nI'm looking for something along those lines but a little more advanced. Are there any fun kits out there for adults to build that still give that sought after sense of satisfaction when you finish it?\n\nI've peeked at things like the raspberry pi or the arduino. But I'm not really the most imaginative type and prefer to work through a predefined project than just fiddle around with no real goal. And the variations of arduino boards was a little overwhelming, would never be able to decide on a whim. I have a BS in Comp. Sci. and programming is my full time job, just hoping to get a little experience hardware side in a fun way.\n\nI tried to find a more focused subreddit to ask this in but wasn't able to uncover anything, so feel free to just yell at me to go to some other sub, still appreciated.\n\nMany thanks!", "summary": "Looking for fun kits to build as an adult. Be it a complete box with everything. Or a specific arduino board and a link to your favorite project."}
{"id": "t3_3fq0qw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20 M] meeting my girlfriend's [19 F] parents, and I have no idea what to expect.", "post": "A couple months ago, I matched with a girl on Tinder, right before I went on a two week vacation. We've talked everyday, and eventually decided to meet up. When I came back, we've been hanging out every weekend, usually on short hiking trips. This past weekend I finally had the courage to ask her out, to which she said yes. Unfortunately, she mentioned that her father isn't too pleased that we're together fairly early on.\n\nI decided the best thing to do would be to meet with her parents, but I am now very nervous about making a good first impression. I have already decided on bringing a gift for the house and some nice flowers for her mom, but have no clue what to do / what to expect next.", "summary": "First time meeting girlfriend's parents, pretty nervous and her father feels it's too early to be dating. No idea what to expect."}
{"id": "t3_2yta2m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stealing toilet paper from my university.", "post": "Context: I'm a third year student living with three other female room mates. We use a lot of toilet paper. **This is not directly about defecation so I wasn't sure if I should save it for the weekend, please let me know if I should!**\n\nA couple months ago, one of my room mates discovered the only single-stall bathroom in the hall that most of our classes in. Though kind of ramshackle, it was still much better than the stalls in other parts of the building -- it was actually somewhat private. So we both started using this bathroom instead of the others because we value our privacy.\n\nSo a week ago this roomie and I have lunch together before class and, heading the same way, agree that we'll stop by the bathroom on our way to class. We do so and I notice a cabinet with a sign that reads \"EXTRA PAPER TOWEL AND TOILET PAPER etc\". \n\nBeing a cheap-ass student, I'm like, \"Sweet; I know we're running out of toilet paper at home!\" so I grab the massive roll from the cabinet and stick it in my bag. It'll come out of my tuition, right? I'm pretty much paying for it...\n\nSmug as all get out, I'm pretty pleased with this find. So today, I head back there. I plant myself and do the do and reach for some toilet paper...\n\nIt's gone.\n\nThere is none left. \n\nI shuffle out, open the cabinet...\n\nIt's left exactly the same as it was a week ago -- the bottle of soap sitting there next to an empty space where the toilet paper roll was sitting a week ago. \n\nAnd that is how past me fucked over present me, and I am now sitting in a bathroom with no toilet paper five minutes before class begins.", "summary": "Karma is a bitch, even when it's just TP theft involved."}
{"id": "t3_2kylqn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Because of a misdemeanor charge over two years ago, I am having trouble finding a job.", "post": "Almost two years ago, my (now ex) girlfriend got caught stealing a box of condoms. I was not stealing, but I was with her when she did. I did not stop her, but I also was not aware that she was stealing. She got caught, and I went to jail with her. I lawyered up, but the lawyer said that it would be best if I plead guilty, as to avoid a costly trial with Wal-Mart that would likely result in a conviction, even if I wasn't actually guilty. I was told that Wal-Mart goes all-out on their lawyers, and that they would hire a lawyer even if the ends didn't justify the means, so that they could prove a point.\n\nThe judge was nice and didn't sentence a fine or jail time to me, but he did for my girlfriend. I did plead guilty, and that is still on my record.\n\nTwo years later, and I am still having trouble finding employers that will hire me. Lots of my friends have said that it would be better to just lie on an application and that many employers don't check criminal history.\n\nI currently have a job, but as the company will likely go under in the next three years, I am looking for a new career.\n\nIs it best to lie on an application? On all of the ones I have filled out, I have not lied. It seems underhanded, even if I did not commit the crime. What would you guys do?", "summary": "Pleaded guilty to stealing, but didn't actually steal. No jail time, no fine (aside from court costs) no community service. Trouble finding a job."}
{"id": "t3_14vacj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Dad emails me (28F) and demands I change my name. What to do?", "post": "Little background. Im a 28 Asian(vietnamese) female. Born and raised in California. First generation. Only child. My name has always been \"asian,\" never really had a legal american name. Regardless, around the age of 8, due to my name ending in Dai (Pronounded Die), people started calling me Lady or Lady Dai. So for 20 years, my given name correlated with my birth name.\n\nSo today I get an email from my dad. He wants to change my birth name to an even harder to pronounce vietnamese name \" Thien Kim T. Nguyen\" Personally I cant even pronounce the first word.  Ive stated \" if Im going to change my name to anything, Its going to be Lady or something AMERICAN.\" due to the fact, I work in a business industry, an even more complexed asian name, will not fit, or make introductions to others any easier. \n\nThe problem is my dad is your typical \" Im right you are wrong\". His reason for changing my name is to change my fate. To make my life better, change the course I am on. I don't agree with this logic, and as he is the most superstitious,  demanding asian father, I dont know what to do.\n\nI know I can simply say no. And not go through with the paperwork, but my dad is vengeful. He will make sure my life is a living hell, cutting me off, disowning me. etc. etc. Its all been done before. \n\nIs there a way I can approach him, to get him to understand? Im hoping someone has some insight on dealing with asian parents. As I was more influenced by the American Culture, its hard for myself to speak in a way that could be understood and respected.", "summary": "Asian father wants me to change my name to something even more \"asian\" for superstitious reasons. How to approach him?"}
{"id": "t3_32n4o7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [19 F] of 8 months is uncomfortable with me[20 M] living with a female friend of several years during the summer. Is it as big a deal as she says it is?", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for 8 months, and we've been best friends for just under two years. I absolutely love her and our relationship is great. \n\nSo I have an internship this summer in a very expensive city, and a female friend of several years, also 20 is working right next to me. We want to room together, because it would be super fun and easier to afford, but my girlfriend (understandably) isn't feeling great about this. \n\nDepending on the place, we might be sharing one room with 2 beds.\n\nWhat should I do about this? I don't want to make her worry or anything over the summer, and I feel like if I push super hard for it it would make it even weirder.", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't want me rooming with another girl this summer; I don't think it's that big of a deal."}
{"id": "t3_329m5n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/f] A close friend of mine (17/f) recently confessed to me. She wants to see a movie with me; is this a date? What do I do?", "post": "A few months ago, a female friend of mine who I've known since elementary school confessed she had romantic feelings towards me. \n\nI don't really reciprocate those feelings, I think, but I don't particularly care if she has a crush on me or not. I don't feel uncomfortable. I just don't want to hurt her feelings or damage our friendship, you know?\n\nAfter confessing, she said she'd try and forget about it. I don't want to act any differently around her or change our friendship just because she likes me, but she has behaved kinda flirtatiously since that time. Now, a few hours ago, she asked me if I wanted to  \"go on a movie date in town\". \n\nNormally, I would suggest someone else come along, but this is a movie that everyone else in our friend group saw for its midnight premiere. I agreed to meet her but... I don't want this to be a date. I just want to hang out with a friend. I don't want to avoid spending time with her for \"what if\" situations.\n\nSince nothing has been explicitly said, I don't wanna come flat out \"I only like you as a friend\" unprovoked. It seems presumptuous to do so.", "summary": "Girl who likes me wants to hang out. How can I make sure this is a friend thing, not a date thing?"}
{"id": "t3_2efgdy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I didn't like being both black and white as a child", "post": "My dad is \"white\" and my mom is \"black\" or brown-skinned. I tell others I am biracial, though I believe multi-ethnic is the best way to describe me.\n\nI have always had light skin. As a child, I had rather white skin, similar to my father's. I knew that my mom was in fact my mom, but I didn't understand why I didn't look more like her. \n\nMy parents would explain I was biracial and I would argue back that I'm not black, I was white, like my dad. It didn't make sense that I could be black AND white, if my skin color is white.\n\nI could tell that I was hurting my mom's feelings by rejecting the notion of our common \"blackness\" so I tried to compromise the best I could as a child who could not even perform multiplication problems. I decided I was \"plaid.\" This way I was neither black or white. But my parents denied that. With that made-up race out of the way, I decided I must be gray if I was both black and white.\n\nAs I got older, I got a bit darker and my facial features became more enhanced. I shifted to a bronze-olive color with more defined African-American facial features. These features include my eyes, lips and nose shapes. My hair remains dark, long and wavy. I look less \"white\" but I still don't fit the label of \"black.\" \n\nPeople would tell me I'm not black. People would tell me that I'm Hispanic. People would ask \"If you're black, why do you act so white?\" which added SO much more confusion to my younger self. *What does it mean to act white?* I would ask myself.\n\nToday, I am a young adult who is the most comfortable I have ever felt in my own skin. I still question society and others' ability to define me regardless of my personal identification. I am happy and lucky to not have a set definition of my race, though it still causes me issues with my identity. \n\nComments welcome. Discussion encouraged.", "summary": "Race is a social construct and that social construct is confusing."}
{"id": "t3_3dzhdm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to get Landlord to actually fix the sink?", "post": "Hi all... hopefully this is an OK place to post this? If not, feel free to let me know!\n\nMy husband and I are currently renting in the UK. We've recently moved into a new house that's a bit older and has a few small issues which aren't really a big deal overall. \n\nOne issue which bothers me big time is the kitchen sink. The previous tenants took the little filter thing out of it so now when you turn it on it just sprays EVERYWHERE. This was noted on the initial inventory, discussed with the housing agency, and on the day we moved in the Landlord told us he had a new faucet already (and  suggested that we fix it ourselves with his new faucet which we will NOT do). Now, the sink itself is still useable, so long as I don't mind looking like I've just gone for a run in the pouring rain and having water all over the backsplash/window sill/countertops of the surrounding area. \n\nSo my question is, how do we get them to actually come and fix it? We've now complained about it several times with no luck. Is there anything we can do? I know LL's here have a duty to make repairs for this type of thing, but because it's not dangerous or unlivable I feel like we don't have much recourse. It's just bloody annoying.", "summary": "sink sprays like a super-soaker. How to get the LL to actually come fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_28272u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my fiancee [31 F] of 1.5 years, dealing with alcohol and quasi-infidelity", "post": "Rant follows:\n\nSo my fiancee and I have been in an amazing, intense relationship. We both like to drink and have a good time. That was one of the first things we noticed about each other - in past relationships we both felt like we had to try to act mature and stop partying, but together we just had so much fun hanging out together and going out with each others' friends, etc. \n\nBut this past week she was at a work conference and her company threw a big party the last night. There was an open bar, and she had been working really hard so I guess she just got really drunk and was kind of a mess. She was talking shit about her old boss (who works at her company but is in another department now) to anyone who would listen. Then she started dancing with random guys. She didn't even remember until one of her friends called the next day to make sure she was ok and didn't do anything stupid. She said she didn't kiss anyone or do anything other than dance, but that she was dancing \"scandalously,\" at least for a work setting. Obviously, I was very hurt, but what hurt the most was when she saw I was upset she said \"I shouldn't have told you.\" \n\nThat's when I really got upset and went to go lie down. We talked a bunch and she says she's always had self-destructive tendencies (which we've discussed before) but that she thought that was all behind her because it hadn't happened while we've been together and she said I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her, etc.\n\nShe now wants to see a therapist and stop drinking, at least for a bit and then decide whether to cut back or stop altogether. I guess I don't really have a question, I just wanted to rant a bit. But advice is welcome and I'll try to answer any questions people have. Thanks for listening.", "summary": "Fiancee got drunk, destroyed her reputation at work and danced inappropriately with random guys; is seeking treatment for alcohol dependency."}
{"id": "t3_319gkq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by inviting boys to a bar", "post": "so this fuck up happened about a month ago, \ni was dating this dude, we'll call him Bryan. and i decided to break up with Bryan for unrelated reasons. \nat this period in time i decided to get tinder back and matched with another guy, who we will call Sean. we get to talking and really seem to hit it off and plan on meeting at a bar that up coming weekend. \na day or two after we make plans to meet and hang out when dude #3 (Alex) who i have been seeing on and off for about 4 or 5 months, texts me and asks me if i want to hang out soon\n\nso Friday night comes along when I'm supposed to meet with tinder guy Sean, also on and off boy Alex. I plan to meet Sean at a bar on one side of the town, have a few drinks and then meet Alex at a different bar on the opposite side of town. I bring my friend \"Rachel\" along with me to the bar to meet Sean, and while we are waiting we see her ex boyfriend walk in. She immediately freaks out and wants to go across town to the other bar, so i agree not really caring about tinder boy. \n\nBUT i am not a rude girl!! so i text tinder boy to tell him we are just going to the other bar and that i will meet him another time, and then right after texting him, i text Alex to let him know were heading to the bar he is at.\n\nHERES THE FUCK UP, i walk into the bar to greet Alex, and as I'm hugging him i look to my right and there's Bryan, (The boy i just broke up with) who is just staring at me hugging Alex. I am at the bar getting a drink and i see Sean (tinder boy) staring at me across the bar while i have Alex hanging all over me. \n3 boys, one bar. two mad boys, one oblivious horny boy.", "summary": "I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_p25tp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell him I know...", "post": "So my boyfriend (23 m) who I've been with for almost a year now, left his Facebook up on my (21 f) computer with a conversation up between him and his ex-girlfriend who he dated for 5 years, probably thinking I wasn't going to come home on a lunch break.  In spite of my better judgement, I read the entire conversation. There was a lot of talk about their feelings for one another And how they never go away. He also talked about a time when he went to his hometown and they slept in the same bed together. He asked her if he hadn't been in a relationship (with me) if they would have had sex that night.\n\nThe conversation was dated from November and he has since deleted her as a Facebook friend, but why was he still looking at the conversation? It's pretty clear to me that he still has feelings for her and it's driving me crazy. I'm in love with him completely and I know he loves me too, but we can't move forward with these thoughts perching and growing in my head, so I really want to say something, yet how do I bring it up? I betrayed his trust by going through private conversations that I know I shouldn't have read...I feel bad about it but I feel worse about his feelings for his ex. Or should I just let it \nGo and take solace in the fact that he is no longer speaking to her?", "summary": "Found boyfriends flirty conversations with ex. Don't know"}
{"id": "t3_1cckpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M/33) of seven months asked me how many guys I've (F/34) slept with. Do I have to answer this?", "post": "My boyfriend asked me today how many guys I've slept with in the past. I know that I am the more experienced of the two of us and I really don't want to tell him. I think he's slept with two women and while I love him and love the sex we have, he isn't as great as previous partners and I'm afraid he'll start to compare himself. I've had about five partners, seven if we're not just counting actual penetration. They've all been in serious relationships and one a marriage. I don't feel like this makes me a whore but I'm afraid he will view it that way. I feel like this is a normal number for a guy but maybe a little high for a woman? Should I just lie?", "summary": "I think my boyfriend will think I'm a slut if I tell him how many guys I've slept with. Do I have to be honest about everything?"}
{"id": "t3_29doss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex[26 M] 1 year, need helps.....", "post": "We have been friends since we apart. This summer both of us are not as busy as when we were at school, so we have been texting each other very often. He always initiated the conversations. \n\nI can feel there still a thing between us, or maybe I just think too much..anyway, he is going to study abroad for two yeas at the end of September.  He told me he could not make plans for things after two years. \n\nAnd I know even if he likes me, he definitely will never let me know, because there is only two months left, he is just that kind of person. However, we probably would never be able to see each other after this summer-I'll go back to my hometown next year. I don't know if I should let him know my feelings, I'm not sure whether the result will hurt our friendship. \n\nAppreciate any help, thanks!", "summary": "He's going to study abroad within two month, and I'm not sure whether I should let him know I like him."}
{"id": "t3_kxt9j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has Reddit started to make you more depressed?", "post": "If I am just sticking to AskReddit for instance you can see most of the posts are a wave of depressing material.\n\n1.What was rock-bottom in your life?\n2.What is one thing you suffer from that other people should be grateful they don't have?\n3.Parents of Reddit, tell us embarrassing stories about your children.\n4.What is your biggest personality flaw? I'll start. \n5.Reddit, why do you cheat? \n6.How many of you were abandoned by your parents?\n\nThat is just today and only in one section of this site. Looking at the front page it is mostly negative and I am really getting bored of coming to this site and feeling worse. \nPerhaps a new subreddit called R/Support or R/depressing R/problems would help make this site into less negative place. \n\nI am in no way a depressed person or have any of these kinds of problems I come here to let off some steam and perhaps learn something but right now all I can learn here are problems about how other people hate themselves, how they are lonely/fat/sad/bored/virgins/can't get women. \n\nWhere celebrities are god, posts that are equal to reality tv trash are highly acclaimed, maybe I have outgrown this place or it has outgrown me.", "summary": "This place has become a real drag"}
{"id": "t3_3a0uv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/F] keep stalking my BFs [23] Ex-Girlfriends on Facebook!", "post": "We've been together for only 3 Months now and he is not my first relationship. But I have never been this jealous. \n\nTwo of his ex-girlfriends kinda keep interfering in our relationship. His first girlfriend (who is stunning in every way!) had her bestfriend send me some facebook-messages (they just wanted to see my pictures). His last girlfriend keeps telling rumours and lies that my boyfriend would be violent (absolutely NOT true).\n\nMy boyfriend wants me to ignore all of this.. but I can't! I keep stalking there facebookprofiles, I want (need) to know what there doing, how they look, etc. I want to stop this, I want to ignore this but somehow I can't. They make me so insecure somehow...\n\nI even went through my boyfriends phone.. \n\nHow do I stop?", "summary": "How do I stop being so obsessed with my boyfriends Ex-Girlfriends?"}
{"id": "t3_34qgih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23M] get over my crush [23F] when she's genuinely my best friend?", "post": "Known her 8 months, love her to pieces. Absolutely believe she's pretty perfect for me in every way. Adoreee her.\n\nWe were kinda acting like a couple for about 4-5 months until a month or two ago when she had to deal with some personal stuff. It forced her to put \"us\" aside and since then we've been close and pretty much the same as ever, but not nearly as consistent.\n\nI think I need to get over her, but it's so fucking hard because she still acts the same way she always did around me. I feel like I can't be friends with her because she was or is in love with me and I'm in love with her but for some reason there's always something preventing us from committing to each other.\n\nI can't seem to justify cutting off such a close friend for \"feelings\" in my head but it's so painful every day wishing she'd just tell me she loved me out of the blue.", "summary": "Feel like I should be cutting off my best friend because I'm in love with her but I can't justify it."}
{"id": "t3_2e33f3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This is not the typical relationship seeking advice. I want to help a friend of mine to improve his relationship with his fathers. He's 33/M.", "post": "He's 33 years old... but age does not mean maturity.\n\nI've married and divorced, I have a daughter... he's still helping in his grandfather business and he's recently commiting to his first girlfriend.\n\nHe used to play WoW for ages and I look at him and realize his EQ is quite low... he does not see the blackmail, manipulation and overall toxic patterns that got him stranded where he is.\n\nSo let me explain a little. His fathers are in a rough financial situation... they have three childs (none of them are childs per se), he's the older brother and they assume its his duty to help them.\n\nThe next girl, she's 25, got pregnant at 20 and now she has two childs but still lives with her parents, the youngest just turned 18 and she wants her parents to pay everything for her.\n\n(So far, the problem here is that parents does not have any limits with their daughters, while being severe with him... and HIS problem is that he sees this dynamic as normal and he has zero limits over them)\n\nHis grandpa is the business patron and he's also abusive, since he is his employee and his grandson he expects and demands so much from him... he pays terrible, he does not grant him any form of social security, and expects him to be the first person to open and the last to close the business. My friend is very noble... and I understand that family is important... but he's being abused.\n\nI see in his eyes that he's tired... his GF is tired of explaining over and over again that he needs to put stronger limits.\n\nBut I don't think its MY duty to explain that to him... **I want you to help me compile the most information about fixing a toxic relationship with his family.**\n\nHe wants to change but he's lost. I already gave him a little booklet of emotional intelligence and he's ready to learn... but I need help as well.", "summary": "What's in bold."}
{"id": "t3_3bi9xy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of two years, making me jealous of his friends", "post": "So my SO and I have been together for two years and a bit, we're pretty close and I've never met someone quite like him. He's proposed to me, and am now engaged. But to the meat of the story... SO got quite sick for the last few months and I was his primary caregiver during that time, he wasn't able to work or do much without assistance. He was on heavy medications as well. So now he's feeling much better, meds are gone, he's basically back to normal. I get a message this morning as I go into work that he's made a picture -SO is an artist- for his friend who helped him while he was sick. The friend had drawn him something a week prior to this and he basically exploded with gratitude and happiness -I'm an artist too and drew a few things for him while he was sick but never received the reaction his friend got- so to say it stung that, despite everything I'd done for him, all the time, effort, pain and hard work I'd been through just for him. I'm not even the first one he does anything for. \n\nI know I sound petty, but the months he was sick were probably the hardest of my life. I had to maintain my job, plus take care of him. I even ended up getting sick myself with a stress induced attack once. \n\nAm I really being a petty jealous girlfriend? ;-;", "summary": "Boyfriend gave his friend a gift art after he was sick as a thank you, but skipped over me who was his caregiver for that time. Am I petty?"}
{"id": "t3_2nm0bw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [30F] of one year, it's only a matter of time until I cheat again.", "post": "I've had two long term (5 year relationships) and cheated on both women many times despite loving them. I'm in a new relationship (12 months) and falling for her but the urge to have sex with other women is constantly there. I've had sex with numerous women in the last year behind her back, to me it's recreational sex and it's a thrill but there's no emotional attachment. There is however a huge emotional attachment to my partner. I love the feeling of building and escalating sexual tension with new women and deliberately do this whenever the opportunity arises. I'm in excellent shape, quick witted and not ugly so these opportunities arise often.\n\nHow do I stop this compulsion? It's an urge that feels completely natural, is cheating in my dna? My promiscuity is an inherent part of what makes me, me. It gives me confidence in daily life and this helps to attract new partners time and time again. My girlfriend is an attractive, sexually adventurous, driven, amazing and intelligent woman yet it feels that no single woman will ever satisfy my sex drive.\n\nHonest opinions please reddit. Do I need help? Should I embrace my sexual urges and seek a partner with similar views? Please realize that for me love and sex can be both combined or separate entities. It is entirely possible to love someone whilst having sex with others.  \n\nMy girlfriend is starting to push towards us moving in together she has no idea that I'm a serial cheat. I know the 'right' thing is not committing to her long term and ending the relationship. I know I will always seek others behind her/anyone elses back and I've grown so used to cheating that my conscience doesn't say stop it says carry on.", "summary": "I'm a serial cheat and can't stop. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_rc3se", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have strong feelings for a close friend, but am seeing someone", "post": "I (21yo M) have known my friend (20yo F) for about two years, and i've been going out with my current GF (19yo F) for about 5 months now.\nI've been the only person in my class to ask my friend to come out with the rest of us consistently, the others dont' seem to care that much. Although I love my GF very much, I can't help but feel strong feelings towards my friend. We've grown very close over the last 9 months, and I wasn't sure she liked me so I dismissed the feelings I had for her and looked elsewhere.. I feel love for my friend, but I'm not sure wether it is just a very strong friendship or our friendship turning into something more. \nWhich is it? and that am I meant to do about it?", "summary": "Strong feelings for best friend, almost stronger than feeling for GF. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_lk161", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF cut herself, found out months later. What is this I don't even.", "post": "Me: 25M, Her: 22, 1.5ish Year Relationship\n\nThis afternoon, I noticed a whole bunch of small scars on my gf's leg, they weren't from deep cuts, but they were all healed up. It's just coming out of winter here so, it's been a while since she's worn shorts. Apparently, I didn't notice them before because she usually puts make up on them. \n\nShe was completely avoidant / embarrassed about them and it took me a few hours before she admitted that she did it intentionally. She would only tell me more if I *promised* that I wouldn't tell anyone, especially her mother. So, of course, I lied through my teeth.\n\nI'm completely shocked, because I can't think of any reasoning behind it. As far as I knew, things were going great between us, but obviously things aren't if she can do something like that and have me be oblivious for months. I suppose it makes me ask a lot of questions about her wellbeing, and our relationship.\n\nI'm so lost right now! I don't know what to do :( Help!\n\nI think I'll go to sleep now, I feel better getting that off my chest.", "summary": "My dog was abducted by aliens and forced to eat vegetables."}
{"id": "t3_2bhzup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my SO [19M] need advice on handling/coping with anxiety to move forward.", "post": "My SO and I just solidified our relationship. It began while he was finishing up the lease with his ex. I met her, and explained that we would be dating, as I didn't want to be the 'other woman', and wanted everything to be cut, dry and clear.\n\nShe understood, and it was three months of dating, helping him pack, find an apartment, etc. Now, yesterday we gathered the final things from his place, and she went insane. Constant calls, emails, texts, Facebook, calling me every name in the book. We've blocked her on all accounts, and I understand her anger. Should she have accepted I was not a fling sooner? Sure, but I don't control other people.\n\nNow, my fear now, is that he's going to regret moving out and away. The relationship was over before me, as it was physically abusive. He'd often come over my house with black eyes, or bruises from where she'd attack him. My fear stems from the past of being cheated on, and knowing the hold an abusive relationship can have, having been in one before.\n\nI should note I'm probably borderline narcissistic. I spent my teenage years with crippling low self-esteem, and built myself back up to a very confident woman. But, this brings back the old feelings of my abusive relationship, where the ex was a prominent figure. I told my SO this, and he understands and assures me and takes everything in stride despite the high-stress of moving and whatnot.\n\nSo I would like to know if you have any suggestions on how I can face this like a proper adult, and not worry, trying only to focus on moving forward in my relationship? I have very little knowledge with coping skills and resources pertaining to anxiety, and was just looking for a bit of insight.", "summary": "Any advice or coping skills to overcome anxiety stemming from an old, abusive relationship, so that I can move forward with my current one, is highly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_39kvu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23f) boyfriend (27) is upset that I post on gonewild and that there's nudes of my ex in our fb chat shared photos history.", "post": "Okay, so he's known for a while that I post there. He mentioned it months ago that if we were to date, he would only be okay with topless pictures, but I completely forgot about that conversion because I'm a flake.  We haven't been together long, so I didn't even think about talking to him about it before I posted again. I've been posting there for a while, and I'm used to my ex being okay with it. I admit that I fucked up here. I should've talked to him about it. \n\nLast night I posted a picture that I had saved in me and my exes fb chat history shared photos, so I had the app open to that. In those pictures,  there were naked pictures of him as well. My bf now thinks that i was intentionally saving nudes from my ex, which isn't the case. \n\nI honestly felt that I had nothing to hide,  which is why I'm not mad that he went through my phone. The only reason he went through my phone was to close out the apps that i had open as he plugged in my dying phone. I'm not upset that he snooped. \n\nSo how do I go about fixing this?  He's really upset with me about all this.", "summary": "Bf is mad about finding that i post on gw and that i have an exes picture in our fb chat shared photos."}
{"id": "t3_4sxwla", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "(F) Pain/Constipation Since Surgery 10yrs Ago", "post": "I'm asking for my girlfriend... struggling to find the appropriate place. \n43, F, 5'0\", 170lbs, White (Non Latino), 10 yrs, abdominal, previous cysts & hysterectomy, no current meds\n\nAround 10 years ago, she had surgery to remove a cyst (I forget what it's called, but she explained it as basically a fetus that ends up growing as a cyst - we weren't together then, so that's the best I can do). This was performed at a rural hospital, and poorly apparently. They told her that during the surgery, they accidentally nicked an artery or vein, and had trouble stopping the bleeding. The surgeon at the time told her that she had to use very large sutures, and following, she had bleeding for at least a couple weeks. Ever since then, she has had irregular bowel movements - in that, she is often constipated for days. Presently, she does show some signs of potential gall bladder issues, but the symptoms in question predate this by years. She has been dealing with abdominal pain and constipation since the surgery. I am wondering if it's possible that this surgical mishap could have cut off some blood flow to the intestines or some other part of the excretory system resulting in the symptoms... but researching this has been difficult. I understand medical terms, but my searches have mostly turned up home remedies for constipation. She has taken stool softener to minor effect, and magnesium citrate to almost no effect. Any ideas are appreciated.\n\nThere is a long history as to why she hasn't pursued the matter previously, but it's beyond the scope of the issue at hand.", "summary": "Girlfriend suffers abdominal pain and constipation since surgery 10 years ago where surgeon admitted to nicking an artery/vein."}
{"id": "t3_o8pay", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when adults bully each other?", "post": "Fortunately, I'm not the one being bullied. Here's my situation.\n\nI go to school for engineering at a generic North American school. I recently transferred from one engineering discipline to another - kind of late into the program with about a year to go before graduation. As most technical programs are, you're basically with the same people for the 4-6 years your program requires, unless people drop out/leave/etc. As a result of this, you don't really know people outside your discipline, so I came to this class not really knowing anyone in it.\n\nFirst day, some dudes try to make friends with me. They seem sort of fratty but nice enough. I figure I'd take whatever I can get. We exchange numbers and they say they'll let me know whenever they go out for a drink so I can be introduced to everyone. Unfortunately, none of these guys are in any of my lab sections, so I reach out to some (pretty traditional looking South Asian) girls who seem really studious and hardworking, but equally nice and fairly shy.\n\nSo at this point - I'm more than acquaintances with everyone, but not really actual friends with everyone. The girls are nice but it's always the fratty guys that end up saving a seat for me in lectures. \n\nOne day, I end up going to lunch with a couple of the girls and they mention... they are and have been pretty consistently bullied by the fratty dudes for the last few years. While none of it has been extremely bad, the constant verbal harassment has been wearing them down, to the point that they go to abandoned classrooms and cry. The worst thing is I am fairly sure they are being bullied for looking dowdy (fairly sure it isn't racism because I am not white by any means). \n\nI am really torn. I don't know anyone that well and I really don't want to get on the dudes' bad side, but I sort of want to do something.\n\nP.S.: Please don't take this to front page. Pretty sure everyone I know (that I actually care about) is on reddit.", "summary": "Fratty dudes in my class are bullying some sweet girls for looking homely. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_104wng", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just impersonated a deaf guy when I was caught using the disabled toilet at work. What's your least proud moment?", "post": "I work in an office of about 50 different companies. I like to poop on my own & appreciate the extra legroom, so always poop in one of the many disabled toilets. \n\nToday coming out there was a rather angry looking woman standing outside the toilet. She has no authority over me, or is connected to me or the building management in any way.\n\nShe shouted: \"These are not toilets for you! What if there'd been a disabled person waiting here?\" to which I replied in my best family guy greased up deaf guy voice \"I'm deaf.\" - the blood drained from her face, she turned around & went to wherever she was supposed to be rather than stalking men outside the bathroom. \n\nThe thing is. I'm not deaf. I felt quite bad about pretending, but there are no disabled people in my building. The toilet is on the second floor, so not sure how a disabled person would even get up here (broken elevators for months) and she was being a dick for no real reason.", "summary": "you can't catch me! You're wasting your time!\""}
{"id": "t3_vlbeo", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Advice for a socially awkward kid who needs help finding an insect vacation spot in the United States.", "post": "I'm going to turn 21 in eight months, and my dad has been constantly insisting that we go on vacation to New Orleans and party/bar hop. To some people that might seem awesome, but as an hikikomori who really doesn't enjoy drinking, it seems like hell. Right away I started hinting that it was a terrible idea, and he's finally coming around to other suggestions.\n     I fucking love bugs (pretty sure i'm an aspie), and have always wanted to travel to see some really interesting ones/collections. I know the magicicada come out in droves like every 16 years, maybe some other bug lovers know something that's coming up that would be awesome to see.", "summary": "Please reddit, save me from the tits, beads, and liquor."}
{"id": "t3_1rq61z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Really like this girl, want her to know that I am interested in physically dating her someday. But for today we live really far away. What should I do?", "post": "So I met her more than a year ago. Just casually through online friends who played the same games I did. We immediately had a lot of in common, we played games, always had something to talk about, talked on Skype for more than 12 hours a day, everyday. And we at least talk 3-4 hours a day still. I really like her but I live in a different state. \nShe is very complicated because of her past but that's what I love about her. Everything that makes her who she is right now. And I really just want to say that I love her and would love to see it go further. But because of us living so far away I know there's not a whole lot of further. But I keep reading about people doing this kind of stuff and I was just wondering what reddit had to say about this.\n\nTo sum it up, as of now we are very close friends who care about each other a lot. I obviously want more. And I don't know what she wants. How do I proceed? ( As of now I have no means of travelling there and seeing her, I will obviously will be able to do it later in life, but I don't want to miss this chance. Because I really like her.)", "summary": "Girl I like very much lives in another state, I still want to date her. I don't want to be friend zoned. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_k9pm5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A computer problem that has me puzzled", "post": "First, I wasn't quite sure where to post this, so I posted it here because this is the best place I could think of off hand.\n\n**The problem:** I do some DJing (currently as a hobby) and I use two controllers (as of right now) for my setup. When the controllers are plugged into my desktop they work perfectly fine but when I plug them into my laptop my whole computer freezes up and I am forced to restart it by holding the power button. It doesn't freeze right away when I plug them in, but when I start up the program I use (Traktor). I believe that is because that is when the controllers get initialized and the lights turn on. I think it may be a power issue and I might need a powered usb hub but that is just a guess. The two controllers are the Numark Mixtrack Pro and the Novation Launchpad. What does reddit think?", "summary": "Computer freezes when starting a program that initializes (lights up) two midi controllers. Power issues?"}
{"id": "t3_11fsfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am interested in a friend [21M] and I'm pretty sure he's interested in me, but he isn't making a move.", "post": "I've [22F] known this guy [21M] for the past six months. In the past three months we've started hanging out a lot together. We've been flirting a whole lot lately, and everyone tells me that he's into me. However, I don't think he has a lot of experience with girls and he doesn't seem capable of making a move. I've been giving him every hint possible besides outright saying that I like him. Last week we went to a concert together, just the two of us, and he put his arm around me for most of the concert, and was stroking my arm. I had my head of his shoulder and then he rested his head on mine. Since then, nothing like that has happened. I don't know if I should just tell him if I like him, ask if he likes me, or just outright try to kiss him. Help?", "summary": "I like a guy, pretty sure he likes me, he won't make a move."}
{"id": "t3_2pamw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my ex-fiance[29 F] of six years, broke up two months ago but I want to reconcile", "post": "I broke up with my fiance two months ago in October, we had been arguing and bickering for about a year.  I think we both suffered from self-esteem issues and instead of supporting each other took out our frustrations on each other quite often. \n\nI can't get over the break up I want her back.  I am thinking right now of whether to drive to her house and ring the bell.  Pretty stupid right.  I've been through painful break ups in the past, but I guess I have learned nothing!!  The thing is in the past through persistence I have sometimes gotten back with an ex although it would fall apart later on.  I would do anything to have the same thing happen now (get back together) reason be damned.", "summary": "Broke up with fiancee after six years; conflicted as to whether I should attempt contact"}
{"id": "t3_20x470", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] was dumped by my ex[26 M] after dating for a year and a half; he said he wanted to be alone for awhile, but has been talking to me every day still. Feeling so confused.", "post": "After being with this guy for awhile, one night he texts me at 1 am drunk, telling me he wants to be alone for awhile and that I deserve better than him. I was completely blindsided that he felt that way. A few days later, we saw each other and he told me that he drinks and smokes a lot more than I thought he did. He also mentioned that he started seeing a therapist for some of his substance issues, and I had no clue. He was lying to me for a long time about how serious this stuff was. \n\nAt the end of the conversation, he told me he didn't think it should be completely over. He has been texting and calling me ever since and will say he loves and misses me and loves talking to me. But, he doesn't want to see me in person and says he still wants to be single. A night ago he called and said he would want to meet me in person, but the next day he never brought it up--like he completely forgot. He also said a few days ago that it's really hard for him going through a day not talking to me. \n\nHe texted me a little while ago and asked how I was, but didn't respond for awhile after asking me that. I want to talk to him still and not give up complete hope that we may get back together in the future, but this is leaving me feeling very confused and agitated. I don't know why he brings up us meeting each other, but then doesn't want to. I need help.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4l1cf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my first real boyfriend [30M] of two weeks. I'm really confused about what I'm supposed to be feeling.", "post": "Like I said, this is my first real relationship.\n\nWe were friends for awhile (1 year) and it became clear maybe eight months in that we liked each other enough to date. We started dating about two weeks ago. He's the first boyfriend I've gone \"official\" with. (I've done some on and off things that could be considered \"dates\" before with other people, it just never became exclusive.)\n\nPart of me wonders if something is wrong with me, though. I enjoyed spending time with him before with my group of friends but frankly I think it's really boring going on one on one things with him, but that's what he seems to like doing. He's into paying for dinner, movies, etc, I'm not, I'd prefer to go with a group of our friends to a bar and be social that way. I don't feel a lot of excitement about going out with him-- if I'm going to be honest, sometimes it annoys me-- because I feel constantly on guard due to our new dynamic. Like before I could be silly and goofy, now I feel like that's more difficult. He feels a little awkward, too. Like so much more serious than he was before. \n\nI think he's handsome but I really don't want to jump in bed and fuck him or anything. But honestly that's not really a feeling I've had for anyone before. For the record, I'm not gay, but my sex drive really isn't as strong as the average person, I think. And my understanding is that this lack of attraction is not normal. \n\nUltimately I don't think I'm doing anything \"wrong\" because part of dating is just figuring out if two people work as a dynamic but I'm trying to determine if this is normal (like, the adjustment period from turning as friends into boyfriend/girlfriend) or if I am just not feeling this period and shouldn't lead the poor guy on.\n\nWhat's your take?", "summary": "Started dating a friend, I'm not sure if it's work out."}
{"id": "t3_29wiev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [28M] 1 year, I found a troubling email in my boyfriend's account and I don't know what to do...", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and everything has been absolutely perfect.  I love him more than anything.  His birthday is on Tuesday and we are going to a baseball game.  I wanted to surprise him by having the scoreboard display a happy birthday message from me.  He had logged into his email on my computer the day before, so I went in to find our ticket confirmation to see our seat numbers so that the camera would pan to him when the message came up.  So I went in with zero intention of snooping, I swear.  I noticed he had an email from an old friend of his in the trash (he has mentioned this friend a couple times, mostly about how he kind of \"disappeared\" a couple years ago and they haven't really talked since.  Curiosity got the better of me and I opened it.  His \"friend\" had written him an explicit email about his sexual fantasies about my boyfriend and about how he has great memories of fucking my boyfriend.  My boyfriend didn't reply to the email, but (and I know this is bad) I looked at phone.  All I saw was a text from my boyfriend to this guy asking him to \"delete the pictures\" my boyfriend sent him the other night.  I'm freaking out.  My boyfriend is asleep now and I really don't know what to do.  Help :(", "summary": "Boyfriend receives sexually explicit email from old friend.  Checked his phone and there was only a text asking the friend to delete pictures."}
{"id": "t3_2zyogm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a pervert", "post": "First, let me preface by saying this was 5 years ago and I was a messed up person. Also I fully understand why everything I did is super stalker-ish/horrible.\nI was taking care of my friend's dog at their house when they were on vacation. and this friend I think is hella hot BTW. \nSo being the creep and violator of trust I am, I go into their room and use some of her panties to jerk off on her bed. I finish off into the toilet later to avoid a mess and put everything away. \nThat night, at home, I was changing when I realized that my dick hurt like hell and was super itchy and sore. I didn't realize her bed was covered in cat hair, which I'm allergic to. I didn't know they even had a cat", "summary": "Dogsitting for a hot friend and used her panties to jerk off on her cat hair covered bed and had an allergic reaction on my junk"}
{"id": "t3_114c5k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24m My gf 23f of 6yrs has too many male friends.", "post": "My gf of 6yrs has always been off handedly flirty. Like she doesn't mean to be and doesn't realize that she does it and doesn't think she is but as I a guy I know when a girl is flirty. Anyways she barely has any female friends, though her best friend is female, she usually gets irritated when they hang out cuz her friend is one of those people who thinks she's always right and you're wrong. Other than that most of her friends are guys. I think she just doesn't get along with females since she's always kinda been a tomboy (not the jocky kind but the nerdy/geeky kind).\nThat's where my problem lies. I'm okay if she has a couple of guy friends but most if not all of them are (single) guys and seeing how flirty she can sometimes get, I worry. I'm not saying I don't trust her because I do and I know she wouldn't do anything to hurt my feelings but I don't trust the guy's she is with. I'm pretty sure some of them have a thing for her and some of them would jump on any given opportunity. She's kinda naive so she wouldn't notice or think anything of it but as a guy and I'm sure some of you would agree, if a chick is \"flirting\" with you, you would think \"Hey maybe this chick likes me\" or \"Hey I might have a chance.\" I'm not sure on how to approach this with her and how to explain that it makes me uncomfortable without getting her upset or damaging the relationship. Any advice would help greatly.", "summary": "Flirty gf of 6yrs has too many guy friends which makes me uncomfortable and unsure how to approach situation."}
{"id": "t3_3mlwg3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "~190k in student loans. Should I refinance?", "post": "I have around ~$190,000 in federal loans at an average rate of 6.6%. I haven't consolidated yet, so I have loans ranging anywhere from 5% to 7.9%.  I work in law and will be making $175k (pre-tax including bonus) my first year (the salary increases lock-step each year). My original plan was to get onto PAYE as a safety net, but aggressively pay down the loans within 4-5 years (focusing on the higher interest rate loans first), while still contributing to a 401K and Roth IRA. \n\nI'm wondering, however, whether refinancing is a better call. My credit score is in the mid-700s, so I think I'd be able to obtain a solid rate. I was thinking of going with something like variable over 10 years (given that when the Fed does increase rates, it will be slow and gradual -- plus, I can just refinance to fixed if absolutely needed). Is this a good idea? What rates would this make sense at? I did some quick number crunching, and over a 4-5 year period (assuming the bank allows me to prepay without penalty), it would save me around $12-15k in interest. \n\nMoreover, which company is best? For instance, I know SoFi requires that you be admitted to the bar before refinancing, whereas other companies do not. I'm naturally a risk averse person, but if refinancing is objectively the right call, it would hard to pass up.", "summary": "$190k in debt at 6.6%; $175k salary (pre-tax + bonus; increases every year). Worth it to refinance? If so, where?"}
{"id": "t3_2urghv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Unemployed, but with serious prospects, need cash now", "post": "I've been unemployed for about a month, but I've been invited to interview for a job with nice salary and benefits, etc. To be clear, this is the second interview, it's on the other side of the state, and they're buying my hotel room, and reimbursing for gas. I'm sure I've got this thing.\n\nProblem: I'm very cash short. I have a CD which I really can't touch or what's the point, I've exhausted any loans from friends. And I'm not sure I have the upfront cash for gas/incidentals etc.\n\nI considered asking the employer if they could spot me, but that's embarrassing and they're already being generous.\n\nIs there a way to get a loan that isn't predatory at this point? I mean, even payday scams require some proof of income.\n\nIs there an option I may not know about?", "summary": "unemployed, likely to get employed soon, short on cash, what are my options?"}
{"id": "t3_196neg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "**Update** My boyfriend (23m) punched me (19f) in the face.", "post": "[original link](\n\nBeen together over a year.\n\nI'm leaving him. I went to see a free crisis therapist and they helped me call him to tell him what was going on. I'm getting a restraining order, \nhopefully... But I'm not pressing charged.\n\nHe was sorry and said he under stood and he'd leave to his parents in a few hours and stay there. I got a police escort home when he said he left, to make sure he did and he had.\n\nThis is hard and heartbreaking for me...\n\nAlso, to those comments saying that I downplayed my act of tossing the shoes, I assure you, I didn't. I really did only toss them and he even admitted that after he hit my head into the wall that he realized how insignificant my act had been. It wasn't aimed at him, the fish, or the wall and it wasn't hard.\n\nI do get out of the house every day without him and go on walks. I love my alone time redditing and such and want to make friends. I don't follow him around all day, expecting him to hang out and pouting if he doesn't. And I didn't not let him leave after he said he didn't feel any love or lust or joy. I suggested we split then, and he said no and that he didn't really mean any of that and he was just tired and he really loved me and he did feel lust, just not all the time.\n\nThe argument was that he did tell me positives, yes, but they're directly opposite to the negatives he keeps saying and it's messing with my head, so what does he really think? No, I wasn't calm or collected, yes I did cry and not accept the good he said. Yeah, I am part of the reason we had the argument, but I didn't do anything that deserved my head put into a wall and a fucked up face...", "summary": "Boyfriend's gone. Thanks guys for all the help."}
{"id": "t3_krdln", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just admitted to friends and family that I am a moderate Republican. It has been met with much outrage. Did I make a mistake?", "post": "Let me start at the beginning. Ever since I became old enough to understand politics and form my own opinions, I have been a Republican. This was at odds with literally all my friends growing up, as well as my family, all of whom are very outspoken Democrats. \n\nSomehow I always felt it was uncool or wrong to be a Republican, so I hid it.  I never talked politics, and when I did, I would automatically take the liberal stance, which was usually the exact opposite of my feelings.  I often just didn't vote because I felt that my honest vote was wrong. I even was talked into volunteering in the Obama campaign. \n\nThis week I found myself sitting home with the flu and I was watching lots of news coverage and I began to think long and hard about my views and decided to stop hiding them. \n\nI decided to declare myself as a GOP supporter on Facebook via their political affiliation category in my profile. \n\nWhat followed in the next few hours were angry messages, texts, calls and people dropping friendships with me online and offline. \n\nThe scariest part for me is yet to come; my parents are in Europe and returning tomorrow. They have had no access to the internet while there and will find all of this out sometime tomorrow. The way they have mercilessly trash-talked every Republican that has ever been mentioned to them (even non-politicians) has me really freaked out by this. \n\nDid I make a mistake \"coming out\" GOP? I can't take it back so what can I do to make this not Hell on me? Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My very liberal friends and family just found out I am a Republican and aren't taking it well. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1ysisx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] need help recognising if I have been put in the \"friend zone\"", "post": "I understand I'm young and relatively immature, but please try and bear with me.\n\n---\nThere's a girl I've been crushing on for about a year- with varying intensity. I would say there is some chemistry between us but I'm not sure if it's mostly wishful thinking.\n\nSmall bit of background: I'm a bit hesitant to make any sort of move, because I asked her out several months ago (We weren't anywhere near as close then) and for a long time our relationship suffered. It was incredibly awkward to be around her and one-on-one interaction was a lost cause.\n\nWe have since developed a friendship but I am having feelings for her once more. We joke around a lot but there is a clear understanding that we are sort of \"there\" for one another- in other words, it is not a strictly casual friendship, but it can be very casual in nature at times.\n\nToday she delivered this private \"tbh\" to my facebook inbox (everybody else, to my knowledge, got a public post on their wall):\n\n\"Tbh mayhaps_a_throwaway! You are actually the funniest fucking guy especially in maths and society and culture! Like I would die in those classes without you to make them entertaining.\nYou are a great guy and a really good friend. I know that you will always be there if I need .. thank you !\nWe have good conversations half the time and our inside jokes/things like [inside joke] or [inside joke] and [inside joke].\nSorry but I can't come to [location] tomorrow but have fun anyways :).\nYou honestly deserve the best in life [inside joke]\"\n\nWe have a strong friendship which I highly value, but I yearn for a closer relationship. I am not sure if I have been put in the \"friend zone\" or not.\n\nWhat do you think? And do you think I should make a move?", "summary": "Have I been friendzoned? What should my next step be?"}
{"id": "t3_2l8jxt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [25 M/F] who I [21F] met online a few weeks ago is giving me the silent treatment, but I can't figure out how to get him to respond to me.", "post": "I made a friend a few weeks ago in an online chat room. We hit it off, and were talking to each other for a couple hours each night and having a good time. While he is a very smart, interesting person, from what he said about his life I felt that he was depressed. The other day I told him he might benefit from seeking therapy, which at first he seemed grateful for my concern, and then became very agitated about it and wanted to know how I had figured out he was depressed. I tried texting him two days ago, but he responded curtly. The next day I texted him again, but with no reply. I told him I missed him and apologized for upsetting him, and hoped that he would at least tell me if he didn't want to talk to me anymore. \n\nI really want to talk with him again, but I don't know what else to do! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Suggested my friend should go to therapy, now he's giving me the silent treatment."}
{"id": "t3_1rvhhv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Who would have guessed, I could need your advice.", "post": "I'm a 21 year old male and I currently live at home.\nLast week, when I was home alone, a girl rang at my door, she 19, lets call her N. She was jobbing as a Representative for a Society for Nature Conservation. It was very cold outside, she asked if she could come in. As my room looked somewhat like Dresden '45, I routed her to the kitchen and offered her a tea to warm herself up. So we both sat down and started talking. After I signed the contract for the Nature Conservation thingy, we talked for quite a while about everything and we had a lot in common, so there was no awkward silence and we laughed a bit. At this point I'm not quite sure, I had the feeling we connected on some level, but I'm such a lousy flirter, that I think I could have missed one or another thing^^.\n But everything seemed against us having a undisrupted conversation, the door rang like 500 times, my brother came home, my grandfather came to visit (but disappeared without a word). Unfortunately my mother had to come home and start cooking. As my mother started to make mothery-awkward comments on our conversation, it grew more and more awkward, so in the end N said that she had to go working again. While I walked her to the door I thougt \"You have nothing to lose, say something goddamit!\". So I said a little bit awkward that it was a pleasure to meet her and if she should be bored on Sunday (her only free day), she could just give me a call and I would meet up with her and show her the town (she wasn't from here). I gave my phone number in the contract I signed, so technically she had access to it.\nYet there was no word from her since then. Now I could use your advice whether I should try to establish contact to her or not. I don't want to force anything and I know that I will let it go if nothing happens. But somehow I am sad that I never wanna see her again if I do nothing.\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "met an interesting girl from another city, talked with her for a few hours and now thinking if I should try to establish contact with her"}
{"id": "t3_saukk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "All of My Girlfriend's Friends are Hot.", "post": "My girlfriend, to whom I am very physically attracted, is still pretty close to a fair amount of her childhood friends. Though my girlfriend branched out, most of her friends still live where they grew up, and we sometimes visit.\n\nA year or so ago, I was introduced to a small group of her close friends, and I remember instantly thinking they were all very pretty. At the time, it didn't seem like an abnormal feeling to have. However, as my relationship has progressed, I get more and more excited when I hear we'll be doing something in which her friends will be involved.\n\nI guess this would be a real problem if it were something I kept hidden from my girlfriend, but I haven't. I have, in a less-than-serious manner, brought up the fact that I think her friends are pretty. I speak pretty loosely about it, I guess; but it hasn't reached the point of weirdness.\n\n*former last paragraph deleted*", "summary": "My girlfriend has a bunch of hot friends, and that's a fact I'd like to share."}
{"id": "t3_osp2v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Long distance and falling apart", "post": "Hey, so my girlfriend and i of 3 years now llive about 3 hours away when we used to live 3 minutes away and saw each other every second of every day. I am enrolled in university and work fulltime so i cant really go off and see her especially since i am dependent on transit so it takes even longer than 3 hours. \n\nAnyways her and i have a very strange relationship, she is very self centered and needy and i give into her every demand, she is also very controlling and disallows me to have any female friends... Today i hung out with a female co-worker and it felt great we talked we laughed we enjoyed ourselves and i couldnt help but think, am i with the wrong person?\nBTW i am a very social guy\n\nThis has happened before and we have broken up over it because she will not change her stance on me having female friends (she even is uncomfortable with me having female cousins as friends............)\n\nI am getting sick and tired of this and want to enjoy my life, not live in isolation. But here is the tricky part: she has become very co-dependent of me and can become very depressed, the last time we broke up she tried killing herself three times. She also manipulates me, thats why we are together now.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "controlling,depressed gf, wanna get out of the relationship, scared of what she might do to herself."}
{"id": "t3_xq4ej", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend is clingy. However, he has said twice he doesn't want a \"relationship\" anymore. I'm so confused.", "post": "Me, 18F. Him, 18M. Dating for 18 months, on and off. This is my first relationship, it's not his first but by far his longest.\n\n**\"I want to be with you, but I don't want a relationship.\"**\n\nMy boyfriend has said this to me twice. It's heartbreaking. He loves me and doesn't want to lose me, but can't \"handle the stress of relationship.\" We broke up for three months last year because he wanted a stress-free summer. He insists he was miserable, however, and we got back together in September. Now we're getting ready for college and he's started saying this. And I'm not sure how to interpret it, because when I asked what he meant, he clammed up.\n\nReddit, I need your help. I leave for college this week, he comes up the next. (Same college.) I half wonder if we'd be happier single, but when I mentioned this he begged me not to break up with him and began crying. I already know he won't let me end it without more crying, begging, and drama.\n\nPart of the reason he doesn't want to break up is he doesn't want to see me happy with another guy. He already said he wouldn't dump me, even if he wanted to, unless it was mutual because he doesn't want to be remembered as \"that guy.\"", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't want a relationship, but doesn't want to lose me either. But he will not dump me because he doesn't want to be \"that guy.\" I'm not sure where to turn."}
{"id": "t3_e1sw1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear hackers of reddit", "post": "Around the world, second-hand dealers and pawn shops are required to report all of the information on the goods they buy to a corporation called Business Watch International (BWI). This company has a monopoly over their business, which is simply taking this information, putting it into a database, and allowing access to authority figures.\n\nThe way they get implimented is they shop their software around to police departments and cities, saying they'll give the software out free if statutes are written that requires second-hand dealers and pawn shops to use their service (which they charge for by transaction). \n\nFrom a moral standpoint, It's rather shady to send a bunch of people's information to one unified database housed in Canada. Particularly that their system is god-awful (It is based around use with Internet Explorer, and will not function on any other browser).\n\nFrom a democratic standpoint, there is no choice but to use this service for many shops and brokers. If that's no a clear and flagrant violation of  your rights, I don't know what is. Personal information such as ID numbers, phone numbers, serial numbers, and all other types of numbers and personally identifiable information is sent across this poorly protected (and, did I mention, basically mandatory) program.\n\nI feel that it would be healthy for the system in general to have BWI's database shaken up a bit. The access website for the US is", "summary": "the system used by law enforcement to keep tabs on pawn shops is dangerous and undemocratic, and BWIusa.com could use a good hacking*"}
{"id": "t3_4vin1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [41 M] with my ex grilfriend [48F] 2 years of relationship, but we haven't seen each other in 5 years... i've invited her to spend some time in my country...but dunno if it's a good idea", "post": "1st ) in the beginning, i wasn't interested(only went to her place because i would be attenting an event, and she has hosted my and my best friend for one week)\n\n2nd) During the one week, we've spent almost 10 to 12 hours/day chatting(just her and me)\n\n3rd) i realized that i was attracted to her because of how beautiful she is on the inside(she's cute on the outside as well;)\n\n4th) we dated for 2 years, and my self-destructive behaviour i had at the time made things almost impossible between us\n\n5th) after 5 years of not speaking(and mostly after i had written her a letter to tell her how sorry i was to have her suffered because of my addiction, she tells me she is sorry as well, and that although i was in my worse days, i gave her her most amazing NYE and bday, that she is forever grateful for what i gave her(and i used to be a prick at the time)\n6th)on a sentimental evening, i invited her back to my country. She agreed, at the same time telling she wasn't ready to restart a RS. But from what i've seen she was almost VERY happy that i invited her and mostly that i had been keeping in touch.\n7) from now on, i'm wondering if i make a mistake : i've always loved this woman. I've never been in love with her, but i do love her.\n8)i don't want to be hurt anymore, and i don't want to hurt her.\n\nSo : what would you do? if we start dating again it's complicated, because she has a 15 y.o son. I don't want to live in my country, but not hers as well(and i doubt she wants to live in mine as w. I would be able to sustain a living in a country which is neither of ours...like spain, Indonesia, name it...\n\nWhat piece of advice would you give me? thanks in advance", "summary": "After a 2 year wonderful (long distance)RS we separated because i was an autodestructive prick. been 5 years without seeing  each other but i am doing wayyy better now. On a sentimental evening i invited her to my place, she agreed, although saying she wasn't ready to start a RS, although her behaviour seems to indicate she wouldn't really mind. Shall i pursue my endeavour?"}
{"id": "t3_11o1sg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(F 25)Having trust issues after my boyfriend(23) cheated.", "post": "First i want to apologize for my grammar, English is not my main language. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year. 4 months ago i notice some odd behavior and found out over some text messages that he was cheating. The other women called me, sent me dirty emails between them and a recording of her having a orgasms. I know people make mistakes, i have made some of my own, the thing is i always had insecurities about my body and he helped a lot to over come them, i trusted him and i love him very much. The thing is i cant stop having anxiety every time hes cellphone rings or when he opens hes laptop.I really want to still try but sometimes it just hurts so much to remember. I cant overcome the idea and question why do people do such horrible things to the people they love? or what did i do wrong? when i asked him he says he panic to be with someone who was really happy with. My question is, does it make any sense to still try? Can couples overcome an infidelity? thank you for your time reddit.", "summary": "By cheated, dont now how to trust him anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2ru2y8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Socially awkward. [28m] At what point is it alright to tell a girl how physically attractive I find her to be?", "post": "So I'm a bit socially awkward and have started online dating. I met up with a girl [23f] for a coffee. A younger girl than I might expect to date, but seemed like a nice girl, does a lot of volunteer work etc.  This was my first online dating meetup and for whatever reason I expected her to look much worse than her pictures. She showed up and I barely recognized her, she looked amazing. I was shocked. No handshake, no \"you look great\" probably just an open jaw and a stutter. She's not a super model with a 6 pack, but I find her very attractive. (I'm an ugly 5'10\" and 240#, with a great job and other redeeming qualities, not to seem too down on myself) \n  \n\n  \nAnyway, we had coffee, I never really recovered my composure and after 45min we really ran out of things to talk about and we left. No \"let's do this again\", just an awkward \"see ya\" and probably that same wide open jaw.  \n  \nSo, a few days later, I sent her a message online apologizing for not holding up my end of the conversation like I should have, and I basically said that I was a bit stunned when she showed up looking so great and looking into her green eyes left me a bit tongue tied. If she'd like to meet up again sometime I'd love to and if not I still enjoyed our coffee and conversation.  \n    \n\nShe messaged back and is willing to go out for a drink sometime, which really surprised me, based on how weird I felt I was on the first meeting.\n  \nSo here's my question: I've alluded to it in a message, but is it weird/creepy/unmasculine for me to tell her in person how attractive I find her to be and that I was a bit intimidated on our first meeting?\n\n.", "summary": "Was awkward on a first date with a very pretty girl. Possibly going on a second date. Can I tell her how attractive I find her while on a second date? Or is that creepy?"}
{"id": "t3_1dksly", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fucking Cigarettes.", "post": "I am a pretty intense guy so i wind myself up pretty tight. I like to chill out, drink some beers, couple of bong rips, meet new people, the usual shit for a college student. Of course I also picked up smoking cigarrettes. Now I am trying to quit so ive been wheening off but ended up running out of tobacco and having no money to spend on more (i was at least good enough about my smoking habit to make a budget of it). \n\nBut now I am all clamly and just feeling fucked up. My heart is POUNDING and i don't know if I am just making it harder on myself by thinking about it or what, but now that I have typed it out its back on the downhill.\n\nThanks reddit.", "summary": "if youre trying to quit smoking im right there with ya brother!!!!"}
{"id": "t3_29iy93", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "What are some careers in the New York-metro area that are slow-paced, strategic, honest, yet lucrative?", "post": "I'm single and have two years of work experience. I have worked as a risk analyst in New York for a year and each day that I go to work I feel inauthentic- like I'm cheating myself. The paychecks are good, and that's a requirement for me, but I truly seek something more slow-paced, analytical, strategic, honest, and natural. I need more thinking, planning, strategizing, and team-working, way less customer service, blame, stress, thanklessness. I often have Walden Pond-esque fantasies, like picking up and living off the land, hiking the appalachian trail, and WWOOF'ing (likely a knee-jerk reaction to how disconnected I feel), but in this day and age, this economy, this area, and with my student loan debt (60k), I would have to sacrifice my lifestyle, my hopes of owning a home anytime soon, the opportunity to financially provide for a family, and the flexibility to make contributions towards savings and retirement. I'm a thoughtful, honest, philosophical, and natural business professional who just feels disconnected by the hours, the work-load, the stress, and the monotony of my job. It's unfulfilling, I'm too young to be trusted to use my brain, and everything just feels unnatural. I don't mind the business-world, I really just need the right fit. Any suggestions at all? I'm sure most of you have been working and feeling the way I do for more years than I've been alive, but it just doesn't feel right and I wonder if anyone's figured it out and made it better.", "summary": "I feel inauthentic in my life and career because my job is emotionally draining, I have a work-life imbalance, seek a more natural lifestyle, yet will not compromise on the paycheck and the geography."}
{"id": "t3_284n6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [22 M] is showing interest in me [22 F] or am I just a rebound", "post": "I [22 F] have a friend [22 M] who I talk to once every so often and he recently got out of a 5 year relationship with his ex.\n\nWhen I first met up with him he also had some family issues at home so I guess I was there to just listen and be of emotional and moral support. \n\nHe told me that in the past year he has had thoughts about being with other girls including me. Always saying that he doesnt get why I'm single and that he feels like I'm to good for him. He hates the fact that he's lonely and keeps drinking to fall asleep.\n\nWe've met up a couple of times to see how he's going and he says that he misses having someone but doesnt miss his ex. \n\nEach time we meet he shows a lot of interest. When we're in the car talking we hold hands but nothing romantic, more like 'hey it's ok I'm here to listen'. \n\nA couple of days ago, same thing happened as per usual but he leaned over to kiss me. I did kiss him back (which i shouldnt have done probably) but after I told him to stop because I think at the back of my mind he'll get back with his ex. He said that if he was to get back with her he wouldve done that already.\n\nThe next morning he messaged me apologising for what he did and he feels as though I might push him away and he ruined what we had. In the end he said that he likes having me as a close friend. Which confused me ...\n\nI honestly know/feel like a rebound but I'm not sure if he's doing this because he's actually interested in me or just because he wants to hold, kiss and cuddle someone and I'm the only friend he has.\n\nOn another note... the past 3 people I saw ended up me being a rebound so Im curious why it's always me or if I'm just thinking way too much", "summary": "Friend [22 M] just got out of 5 year relationship and has shown signs of interest. Not sure if it's because he just wants someone to hold,kiss and cuddle with or if he's actually interested in me. Rebound? or thinking too much?"}
{"id": "t3_24u0xv", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Can't seem to get \u2014 and stay \u2014 on track", "post": "Hey y'all. \n\nSome stats for you: F/5'1\"/CW: 168 lbs. \n\nAbout end of July last year, I was steadily losing one to two pounds each week. I was hovering at 151 lbs.\n\nThen I just sort of, lost momentum. And now I'm struggling to stay on track for more than a few days at a time. I don't know why I can't find the motivation. My doctor has point-blank told me I need to seriously manage my weight and get to a healthy range. And yet I find myself still drinking soda. Still eating pasta. Not working out consistently. \n\nI'm looking for help. Last year I was doing MyFitnessPal very regularly. Now I've lost interest. I signed up for WeightWatchers mobile and gave that a few feeble attempts. Now I haven't tracked for nearly two weeks. I'm at a point now where I want to drop 60 pounds and just get it over with.", "summary": "Struggling with consistency and need to build better habits. Please advise!"}
{"id": "t3_4s9th2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When would be a good time to confess?", "post": "I've(18M)  known this girl (17F) for about a month now and we've been getting really close, hanging out alone every Sunday etc etc. She has invited me out with her parents when they come to visit in a couple weeks time. She's told me her parents are very protective of her and I'm hoping they'll like me after that. We're both currently studying abroad and plan to return home in about 2 months time for a break. We've made several plans for when we get back but I'm not sure if she has any romantic feelings for me and I'm afraid to find out if she doesn't. She has expressed that she is currently still trying to get over a guy who is in a relationship with another one of her friends, so I'm afraid of rejection since she hasn't gotten over him yet and I want to give her time for this. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm basically clueless in the relationship department, any advice?", "summary": "Crush on a girl and not sure when to confess"}
{"id": "t3_2yam35", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Please...please...PLEASE, put down your f*&^ing cell phone and drive!", "post": "My sister has been in **two accidents in the last 8 months** caused by idiots who were on their phones. In the most recent one the numbskull blew straight through a red light and smashed into a crossing car, bounced off of it completely out of control and careened into my sister's car. No one was hurt, thank God. In both instances my sister had her two children in the car with her. Someone could easily have been hurt badly or killed.\n\nNothing could possibly be so important that you can't just pull the fuck over before conducting your conversation or your text.", "summary": "Hang up your fucking phone and drive."}
{"id": "t3_1ls8xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my GF [20F] duration, Reasonable or Overreacting?", "post": "I've posted this already in askmen, but here we go:\n\nI've been thinking over a situation I had with my gf and trying to figure out, as the title suggests, if I was being reasonable or overreacting. \n\nThe scenario: We are dates for a somewhat big deal type event at my frat (dressed up and whatnot), we both get buzzed while drinking--> she randomly disappears while we're doing an activity together and I wait for her--> I wait for the better part of 30 min --> I search around everywhere to find her, eventually find her in an empty hallway fixing the collar/clothes of another guy really intimately--> the guy and I have a history and he is a massive d-bag--> I play it cool and tell her I was looking for her, she's still drunk/the d-bag looks caught and like he knew exactly what he was doing, backs off accordingly--> my gf and I go to a private room and I tell her how annoyed I was that I had no idea where she was, that she didn't tell me text or otherwise where she was for 1/2 an hour, only for me to find her being intimate and touching a guy who I dislike a lot--> She starts crying--> after some more crying and her storming off for a bit, we eventually reconcile enough to enjoy the rest of the night.\nNow. Looking back on that night, she says that I overreacted and shouldn't have gotten upset/annoyed and that I partially ruined the night. I think that I shouldn't have had to look for my gf/date forever and then find her with another guy. What do you guys think?", "summary": "My gf/date disappears at a party for a long time without telling me, I find her with a guy who I dislike, I get annoyed and she thinks I overreacted."}
{"id": "t3_3pu5di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I still feel like Me [21 M] and my \"ex\" [20 F] were still meant to be? I don't like this feeling", "post": "She broke up with me, like about a year ago because, even though she still really liked me, \"we couldn't be together\" because of many issues I'm not getting into. Here are some facts:\n\n-only dated for 2 months, it wasn't even ever \"official\".\n-Never even got past 2 base, I liked to take things slow.\n-I tend to be fairly superficial usually so she was the first girl to whom I was attracted to mainly because of personality, hence why i took it slow.\n-When we first met everything went so natural, wasn't even trying to impress her like I usually do on dates, we were just having natural fun, mutual attraction and chemistry was there.\n\nSince we split up I saw other girls, dated one for about 6 months, sex was good, but eventually lost attraction, went on dates with others, etc. By now I should be over her, kind of am in a way, don't think about her all day everyday like I used to but it still really feels like, for some reason we were meant to be together, so much chemistry and things in common, same personality and similar backgrounds. Why am I feeling this way? I know we can't and won't be together, I live in a different town now, is this feeling supposed to 'mean' or indicate something?", "summary": "Dated girl for about 2/3 months a year ago, kind of moved on, saw other women, but still feel like we were made for each other lol. the fuck wrong with me"}
{"id": "t3_103i6t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My landlord says I won't be able to keep the dog I've adopted because its a dangerous breed due to insurance canceling his policy. As of Oct. 31st in my state, that practice will become illegal. What can I do in the meantime?", "post": "I adopted a cane corso mutt and my landlord (mainly his wife) says we can't keep him. The dog is a gem. He is kind loving and sweet. He socialized with my landlords dog (also on the list of dangerous breeds) and they love each other. Playing and getting rowdy with each other makes both their days. He checked with his home owners insurance and they said they will drop him if we keep the dog, but as of Oct 31st that practice won't be allowed in my state (legislation being signed into law). I can't fathom letting this dog go. He is amazing. Do I have any options here, or is it a fruitless fight?\n\nHere he is", "summary": "My dog is amazing and I don't want to lose him, but due to insurance my landlord says he has to go. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_34gb49", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Please Stop Making Fun of Me Being Underweight... I Really Can't Take It Anymore...", "post": "Dear family, friends, acquaintances, strangers, and even my barber,\n\nJust because it's the first time you've said it doesn't mean it's the first time I've had to bear hearing it. Or the second time, or the hundredth time, or the thousandth.\n\nI get it. I'm really skinny. I'm not the epitome of male physique. I'll never have a girlfriend if I don't buff up. And, *of course*, I should just \"eat more.\" You don't have to say it. I'm reminded of this every time you stare at my frame in public, thinking I can't see you. I'm reminded of this every time I have to buy clothes that never fit. As I desperately hope the food I shove into my mouth will make me look normal. As I stare into the mirror every morning and someone who you've made me uncomfortable being -- a *husk* ridiculed by everyone -- stares back.\n\nWhen you giggle at me and call me skinny in that demeaning way that you do, I pretend it's okay in real life. I laugh at your remark like it's nothing but a joke, because that makes the pain quick. But in my reality, it cuts deeper than anything else you could have thrown at me, because those words echo throughout the entirety of my existence. It makes me want to bury my fist into your mouth in response. I won't though, because I understand what common decency is; it's the very thing that keeps me from pointing out _your_ insecurities and flaws (and, my friend, they're visible as day).\n\nIf you ever meet or know a man who looks underweight, don't point it out to him. It's not a conversation starter. It's not always a funny joke. It's certainly not something that he doesn't already know. He may look and respond to you like a careless guy, but there's a chance that that's the guise he had to craft in order to put up with people like you.", "summary": "Please, just stop."}
{"id": "t3_ia3xh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having some sound issues going from a headset into a sound board.  Any advice?", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo my friends and I are looking to broadcast a podcast.  We have a [berhinger soundboard] and 5 [cheap headsets]  In our first test, we plugged the mic end in to a 1/8\" to 1/4\" Stereo to Mono adapter, and the adapter in to the sound board.  If we crank the gain and volume sliders, we get sound, but if we lower the volume or gain even the slightest amount, the sound cuts out.\n\nWe also noticed the sound cutting out if we adjusted the high and mid frequencies.  Low we could move with no problems.\n\nWe also tried going from the mic cable into the previously mentioned adapter, and into a 1/4\" to XLR adapter, and while it didn't fix the volume issues, the sound was a lot cleaner.\n\nWe have two regular XLR Mics that we used to test, and all the cables/board channels appear to be working properly.  Its just the signal coming from the headsets that's not working (though it does work when plugged directly into a computer).\n\nAny ideas?  Any advice?  Any subreddits this would be more appropriate in?", "summary": "Tried to save money and got cheap headsets.  Should have bought XLR mics to start."}
{"id": "t3_4b5xi0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gonna break up with her in about an hour. Short and simple or detailed reasoning?", "post": "Hey y'all.  \nAs the title says, I'm(27) about to break up with a girl(23) I've been seeing for the past few months.  We had previously been friends with benefits minus the friends part years ago when we initially met through a mutual friend.  \nThen recently we starting talking on social media and a relationship farted it's way into our lives.  \n\nI am an 'always a bridesmaid never a bride' type of guy normally if you catch my drift.  Not really the best boyfriend material as I am quite busy with work and getting drunk with my cat.  I don't like to hurt feelings so I avoid diving into relationships Free Willy style and normally just stick to flings.  \nHowever, I tried to give this a go against my usual judgement.  \n\nFor a while it was really quite nice and reminded me of the closeness I'd had with previous girlfriends.  But as the honeymoon stage neared its end I realized that we just don't connect on any level outside of physical and I was riding the ole nostalgia train to stale-relationshipville.  \n\nNow I should add that this very sweet and wonderful girl really likes me.  Really, really likes me.  And I know that she has not had the best track record with boyfriends and doesn't take breakups well(weight gain/loss, excessive alcohol use)\n\nSo I ask you ladies, guide me in my approach!   \nI'd really like to hear from those that were in similar situations if possible.", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_155lcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19] love my boyfriend[19] of about 15 months dearly but am not passionate about him anymore. I've never had a serious relationship and don't know if we should we break up. What do I do?", "post": "I've been considering this for quite some time, about three or four months. We've been together since last September, and met when we were living in the dorms as freshmen in August. He's my best friend and we do everything together, practically living together save for the 3 months of summer. But lately, my heart hasn't been in our relationship. We have sex considerably less and even if I'm aroused, I would rather just be alone. I've been seeking more time apart and crave time without him far more than I have before. Right now, we are in our respective homes during Christmas break (we're from different states), and I know I should be missing him, but I'm just... not. \n\nI've talked to him about the possibility of having an open relationship or going on \"break\", but he hates that idea because he says he loves me and doesn't want to give me up or see anyone else. He fights my every argument, and doesn't understand how I could feel this way when our relationship is \"perfect\".  Now, this is my first serious relationship, so I'm new to this too. I don't know how to go about the way I'm feeling or even if I decide to break up with him, how to do that without destroying our friendship? I can't imagine just severing ties with him.  Can I get some advice on how to deal with post-infatuation stage? How do I know our relationship is right?", "summary": "I'm feeling ambivalent about my relationship of 15 months when he clearly isn't and have the urge to be alone, but don't want to give up on our relationship (romantic or platonic). What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_431ins", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing the Newleywed game", "post": "So my girlfriend and I are both in college. We've been together for just shy of 2 years, and are very happy. Her school announced they were going to host a version of the newlywed game. For those not familiar, a couple goes up on stage, and a moderator asks a question along the lines of \"what is person 1's favorite food.\" Both people write down an answer, and if the answer's match, you pass the round. The grand prize was a 200$ Visa card, and, being broke college students, we decided to try and win. We practiced for hours, asking each other questions and memorizing each other's answers. We were convinced we had this in the bag.\n\nI should mention that I'm a bit forgetful, while my girlfriend has an astoundingly good memory. I'm especially bad with specific dates and events. So there we are, on the stage with 7 other couples, and it's round 3. The question comes out, \"what was the first movie you saw together.\"\n\nCrap\n\nWe hadn't gone over the question, and I was struggling to remember. I remembered going over her house to watch Shawn of the dead, and it was definitely a first, but I couldn't remember if it was the first movie we watched together. We only had a few seconds to write down our answer, so I had to act quick. Then the microphone is handed to me, and I answer \"Shawn of the dead?\"\n\nThis is met with a death stare from my girlfriend. \n\nThe correct answer was \"the muppets\" which we had seen in theaters. 2 months earlier.\n\nShawn of the dead had been the first time I went over her house for a while.\n\nWe were the first couple to walk off the stage, (Though that same question knocked out 2 other couples), and tonight I'm sleeping on the couch because I have \"the memory of a drunk squirrel\"", "summary": "I'm terrible with dates"}
{"id": "t3_4cqd0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why won't my girlfriend have sex with me yet?", "post": "**be warned, this is the post of an emotionally immature teenager**\n\n Me (male) and my girlfriend are both 18, and both virgins. I'm totally ready to have sex with her, and we've talked about it and she says that she wants to wait until we've been together at least for a year (been together for about seven months at this point), and says that she has to be in the right mindset. If she loves me as much as she says she does (and I know she does), then why isn't she willing to do that? I'm not asking her this question because I don't want her to think I'm rushing her or pressuring her or anything, because I'm totally okay with waiting. I know a girl losing her virginity is a big deal emotionally, but I just don't completely understand her reasoning.", "summary": "gf says she isn't ready to have sex, but we both love each other so why not?"}
{"id": "t3_3o6s5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 F] relationship with my [28 M] boyfriend has a cultural trusting problem?", "post": "Hello. I have never posted on reddit before. I am Korean (born and raised in Korea) and my boyfriend is hispanic-american. We have an issue for a long time which he thinks is big deal but I don't.  \nAnyways, many times, when we don't hang out or anything is a bit unusual, I ask \"are you cheating on me?\" Or, \"can I trust you?\" We have been together for four years and he has never cheated on me, but I just want reassurance. It makes me feel safe. Recently he is annoyed and says that \"it is insulting\" to ask. He points out that we have been together for a long time (5 years) so this really shouldn't even be a question. But to me, it is normal for Koreans.  \nSorry if it is confusing but I am not a native English speaker.", "summary": "Is asking \"Are you cheating on me?\" about once a month \"insulting\" like my boyfriend says, or normal? (and why?, I have little experience with non-korean dating before him)  "}
{"id": "t3_2t0y7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my ex bf [28M] 1 year broken up, can we be friends?", "post": "It has been 12 months since I have been with my ex bf. During that time he dated another girl and has since broken up with her.\n\nHe contacted me recently wanting a friend. Our relationship was good but we broke up because he didn't trust me and I didn't trust him. We had frequent mis understandings but we loved each other intensely. \n\nI saw him yesterday for the first time in 12 months as I thought I would be over him completely only to find I still have really strong feelings for him. We kissed, almost slept together. It wasn't planned. \n\nI wrote him an email saying I don't think I can see him again because I have feelings for him. I said I know he doesn't want a relationship right now but I cannot help the way I feel about him. I need another 12 months. \n\nHe wrote this email back: \n\n\"Hey so I got your messages. So you don't want to be friends for a another year? Is that what you are saying..... I thought it would be nice to keep in contact and be able to talk to eachother openly about our lives every now and then? Hmm\n\nThankyou for your email. I always liked reading you recount our days together.  I'm not sure how you really feel because you told me in person you didn't want to date yet in your email you speak as if we had potential to be together?\n\nI'd like you in my future. You are unlike anyone else I have ever met and I like that. However I have to stay guarded and I have to keep my distance I have been hurt one too many times lately and I don't think you realise how depressed I have been/am. I think it's best if you stick to what your head says. Mine tells me we can be friends and be there for eachother just not as often or as close as we used to...\n\nWhat do I do? Do I cut contact again or be friends with this guy? He says he only wants to be friends but why kiss me and try sleep with me?", "summary": "Ex bf split with his gf. Contacts me and I see him for the first time after 12 months. I still have feelings for him. He kisses me. Should we be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2kj0fb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have been having overeager issues with women (general) [All Ages F]. How to be less eager?", "post": "I've been going to therapy for about 7 months dealing with rumination over something that I experienced last year. I coming here to ask for some honest and respectful advice from some strangers. \n\nI, for one, have never been a fan of playing \"games\" when it coms to dating. Even when I do, and I score or end up dating someone, I feel annoyed that it was successful because I consciously played \"the game\". It is unnatural for me, and admit that it is my own issue for going against my own dating preferences/style. \n\nI have been called out once on \"interrogating\" a date because I asked them about Y Tu Mama. In the movie an older women sleeps with and ends up ruining the friendship between two boys. I thought this was dumb because the woman didn't have to do this, my date thought otherwise. I asked her if she would've done the same thing. The conversation became a frustrating one that ended with me asking her if she goes for guys who would do the same and got called out as interrogation. I accept responsibility for continuing the conversation to this point. \n\nAnother time I was told by someone who is now a good friend of mine that when I wanted to date them, I was \"overinterested\". \n\nA lot of the time, being overeager is now an insecurity of mine. I feel expected to never be direct at first or honest about how I feel. I feel expected to put on a mask of disinterest not because I am genuinely disinterested, but because it would further my goal,  ie to impress someone else (which I abhor doing). \n\nAm I being whiny for not playing by the game and feeling frustrated by it? Is this an age-relative thing? Should I just be my \"overeager\" self? And if not, how can I feel less eager?", "summary": "Are dating games worth it? Why or why not?"}
{"id": "t3_25ns9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of 10 months- when/who uses the \"L\" word first?", "post": "I know this is the topic of every ladies magazine and has been mused over to death in chick flicks, but I needed a little outside perspective. \n\nWe have been dating for 10 months, and get along really well. He genuinely appreciates me, and always makes me *feel* loved and respected. He responds to my needs, sometimes takes the tough love approach, and is an all around amazing person. I think we both genuinely make each other better people. We both work high powered jobs. He makes me more confident in my academic success, and I try to soften his rough edges a little (as sweet as he is to me, he can be a little gruff in general- he works long hours and is always striving for more, and I've helped him be a bit softer and more approachable- and people have noticed positively.) \n\nThe problem is, this is his first real relationship, and only my second (one long distance <6mo type thing in the past). Both of us have been skirting the L word entirely. Its been replaced with things like \"You're my absolute favorite person, you are so amazing\", and \"I love so many things about you, e.g. X/Y/Z\", and frequent reminders \"You know how important you are to me? I'm so lucky to have you\".  The issue? I keep almost letting it slip out- like when we're having a particularly cozy evening and studying/swapping back rubs/ then sex or cuddling I'll get wrapped in the feeling and I've almost muttered it a few times. I catch myself but it still feels weird.", "summary": "Is it normal to not use the L word 10 mo into a committed relationship that is otherwise stable?"}
{"id": "t3_3aylu6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/m] not sure about future with [29/f]; long term live in relationship was first", "post": "i've been dating my current girlfriend for around 3 years and i feel that something is wrong.. we rarely have sex anymore and while we haven't fought much lately (we used to fight all the time at the beginning) it just feels like an empty relationship. we are both consumed with school/work and when we have free time we seem to just end up doing our own things. \n\nwe are very affectionate with each other outside of sex and get along well, but it just feels more like a friendship at this point than a relationship. i realize losing the spark is normal but this seems very early for that. part of the problem i think is from me; i definitely think that it is one-sided in that she wants the relationship more than me, and i guess that is the problem. but since neither of us seems to be capable of communicating (i think out of fear of hurting the other) i have no actual proof of this at all. \n\nthe reason for this might be that she was actually my first and only girlfriend; we started dating when i was 25 and i have pretty much no experience with women besides her. sometimes when the relationship is really troubling me, like after a fight, i wonder if this is how other couples behave and i really have no idea or context because this is the only relationship i've been in.\n\ndoes it make me a monster to think about different relationships before i settle down with someone for the rest of my life? i feel like a selfish toolbag because she can be very sweet and affectionate and i can tell she loves me (and i love her as well) but i can't help but wonder what other possibilities exist. is this \"grass is greener\" syndrome? i have no idea.. but lately i find myself noticing less and less the positive things i noticed at the beginning of the relationship, and instead noticing negative aspects of her personality instead..", "summary": "only had 1 GF ever, relationship is grinding to a halt and i'm left wondering what else is out there. and just to say this: this isn't about sex really and i don't sit and fantasize about cheating on her; i'm more wondering about the dynamic of the relationship and whether or not the problems i'm having are something that might not exist with someone else.. thank you for listening."}
{"id": "t3_f56zx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married 15months, baby on the way - wife is completely unhappy person", "post": "I'm 27 the wife is 24 and she's about 3 months pregnant. Over the past 6 months my wife has been completely unhappy and it's getting to be a burden to be around her because, IMO she doesn't know how to live without drama. \n\nEvery day she wants to try and 'correct' some flaw in our relationship and i've been thinking about leaving her pretty frequently because I've always been such a happy person, and she's basically ruining my life.\n\nObv. this is just one side of the story but I feel pretty helpless, maybe like I married the wrong person - Thanks for any advice. \n\nBTW - first time on r/relationships, typically just look at pictures and giggle", "summary": "just read it - 3 paragraphs"}
{"id": "t3_3pmjwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my current GF/EX [22 F] of 3 years. Want to know if breaking up is a good solution to anxiety/distance.", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my best friend for 3 years.  And now we aren't sure how to proceed.\n\nCurrently, we just finished college in May, and have not been able to see each other (hardly) at all.  The biggest problem is that our hours are opposite.  She works from at least 5pm to 11pm, Tuesday - Sunday w/ doubles on weekends, and I work an 8-5 M-F job.\n\nThis might be surmountable, but she has a serious anxiety complication.  While I can help her with it when we're together, being unable to communicate really makes it harder on her.  Add that to the fact that our intimacy has been flagging, and we're scared that we should break it off. \n\nHowever, we still really care for each other and don't want to lose our best friend.\n\n-----\n\nThat's where the complications happen, and where I'm requesting advice.\n\nIf we break it off, we put ourselves in the position of finding other people.  That means we can easily hurt each other more, or even hurt the people we are with (like if we aren't fully broken up, or if we decide to get back together with each other instead of the others).  If we don't break it off, then we (she especially) feel like we can't know whether we are right for each other, or if we will be able to stick through tough times in the future if we do end up together.\n\n------\n\nI know you can't tell me the \"right\" thing to do, but I was hoping you could give me your opinions.  We've just run this topic ragged in circles, and it isn't helping either of us feel any better about our position.  I really just want to hear some things we may not have considered.\n\nI'll be happy to provide more description in the comments, but I wanted to keep it short and simple for you.  I'll also tell her about this so she can add to it if she wants.  Her username is llamaears.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Relationship complications brought on by anxiety and distance.  We can't figure out if it's better to try to make things better while together or apart."}
{"id": "t3_os2vp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you ever feel like you're the wrong age/ in the wrong era?", "post": "I'm 16, yes I'm young but that's not really the point. Generally people my own age bore me, bar my girlfriend and my two best friends. I have always found it very easy to make conversation with adults or older people whereas I sometimes find it harder with people my own age. My brother is 20 and he has a tight knit group of friends who are all his age and who I've become very close with and consider most of them brothers/sisters and they have always including me in their parties and drinking and socialising etc etc. Also my sister is 7 years older than me and I'm probably closer to her than anyone else in my family. My girlfriend always says I get on better with adults because I have the same mental age as them but I don't know, I just often get bored of the humour and conversation of people my own age. (Don't get the wrong idea I'm not trying to say I'm better than people my own age, or smarter.. I am by all means an average 16 year old boy. If not a bit strange with odd tastes) \nAlso I have a strange obsession with suits, cigars, whiskey and when I see movies or shows based around the typical American 50s high brow lifestyle, I feel almost nostalgic towards it. I want to be transported back. Also I have always been brought up on a principle of manners and respect from quite disfuctional parents and living where I do, I sometimes literally get angry and kids who're 11/12 who have a complete disregard for peoples possesions and feelings. They seem to think they are invincinble and they act like little bastards. Granted they have never given me any trouble but it just saddens me how children are slowly gettting worse each year as more younger ones come in my school.\nIt's funny because the whole being obsessed with the 50s lifestyle started when I played Fallout 3 and fucking loved it. \nI was wondering if anyone else felt the same? I'm not the only one so I might aswell ask reddit!", "summary": "I feel like I should've been born before the 50s, does anyone else feel the same?"}
{"id": "t3_1fwnou", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This Summer...", "post": "I don't know what to do this summer. My mother is literally begging me to go to a summer camp or summer school. She says it's not normal for a young girl to stay in their basement all summer. Apparently I'm supposed to go out and socialize and meet new people but I really don't want to create dead end friendships. I tried doing that socializing thing about 2 summers ago and yes, I made a couple of friends (none of which I actually talk to anymore.) and there were these 2 girls I also met who treated me like a tool, just an extra when their other friends weren't around. Anyways, I really don't want to go to summer school and take math courses because why the fuck would I want to do extra work over the summer. \n\nI was going to my usual summer camp with my friend but he bailed out on me because he doesn't want to go because \"the camp is too boring.\"\n\nI was planning on going to another summer camp this summer with another friend of mine, I planned on taking the same courses as her but planning with her is just becoming to hard since she basically just blows me off and says you have to go to the camp to create your schedule. A lot of help that was, thanks for the information, now what courses are you taking exactly? \n\nI am considering to learn an instrument but I don't know. Sorry for the wall of text, thanks for reading if you did. my friend bailed out and said he doesn't want to go.", "summary": "I need something to do this summer."}
{"id": "t3_3f35vy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Grandmother [82F] has become a different person after a heart attack. Is it possible for me [20M] or someone else to teach her societal norms again?", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nMy grandma used to be this very old-school, polite woman.  Then, she had a heart attack back in January.  When she had it, she had less than a 5% chance of survival, mainly due to other factors with her health.  Nonetheless, she made it.  She doesn't really seem to be the same person anymore.  She has changed in the following ways:\n\nShe has begun to cuss like a truck driver.  She used to chastise someone for saying \"Darnet\" or \"Crud\".  She herself will now say things like (Example referencing \"The Bachlorette\") \"What a motherfucking white trash bitch!  She ought to just go down to a Vegas motel and rent her cooter by the hour!\".\n\nShe has become super-duper, and I mean super racist.  A woman that used to talk about marching with MLK now uses the N-word like nobody's business.  She also comes up with racist \"theories\".  One of her so called theories is that a nice bachelor next door is actually harboring 3 illegal families who sleep in bunk beds on shifts (I hope I didn't break any sub rules, I don't believe any of what she says.  Mods, pm me and I'll get rid of it if it does).\n\nShe also seems to becoming very forgetful.  Like forgetting her 30 year old niece's name completely.\n\nLastly, she worries about literally everything.  She will stress herself out about where she wants to go eat dinner.\n\nIs there anything I can do about this?  Why is my grandma so different?", "summary": "Grandma has kinda gone nuts since her heart attack.  Is there any way it can be fixed?"}
{"id": "t3_2itgoe", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm an idiot and have a question about my credit.", "post": "This is probably a stupid question and let me preface this by saying I know I am a gigantic idiot and I have no idea why I thought the way  I did.\n\nI had to get some very expensive work done at the dentist. I pulled a line of credit through them for about $1000 with no APR for a year. I am very naive about these things and sometimes not a very good critical thinker. I thought that I didn't have to pay the bill for 12 months. I know, I'm an idiot. I was 90 days late before I started making payments. \n\nI have since payed off the debt through payments. I checked my credit score and it dropped dramatically. Is there anything I can do to raise it back up? Or do I just have to live with this for the next 7.5 years?", "summary": "I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_1w8u07", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Regarding Unemployment Benefits in the US: Why aren't there mandatory requirements set in place to ensure individuals (that are able to work) eventually have to off benefits?", "post": "I heard some of my neighbor's friends discussing how they have been on unemployment for 10-20 years and will stay on because they receive more money from the government than they would if they worked in a job. \nAdditionally, some of these individuals were saying that they can't work because they have to babysit grandchildren, friends' children, etc. \n\nWhy doesn't the government state that an individual who is receiving unemployment benefits need to:\n1) Show proof that they are continuing to apply for jobs that they are eligible for \n2) Mandate that individuals without high school diplomas return to adult school/open-source educational institution for GED/diploma\n3) Show proof of volunteer work", "summary": "why doesn't the government put in place provisions to ensure individuals do not work, do not continue to abuse the system"}
{"id": "t3_14gwmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long should you wait before moving in together? [21m/20f]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 months. Things have been going well and she hasn't thrown any red flags. I've been dating her a bit cautiously after a catastrophic relationship with my ex-girlfriend, and I'm afraid of making moves too fast.\n\nShe's a really good girl however, I thoroughly enjoy her company. She's smart, inspiring, and fun. \n\nOver the last couple of weeks, we've flirted with the idea of living with each other since she basically lives with me already, meaning that she's only at her place when she's going to school. After school, I pick her up, and we spend the rest of our time at my place.\n\nSo, how soon is too soon?", "summary": "I [21m] have been in a relationship with my gf [20f] for 6 months, considering moving the gf in since she is always at my house and I feel really good about her."}
{"id": "t3_1kgwzp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [22/F] help my (long distance) girlfriend [21/f] since she has decided she doesn't want her meth addicted sister in her life anymore? I don't want her to just let her come back and keep treating her badly.", "post": "Excuse the throwaway.\n\nI live across the country from my girlfriend until I finish school. She used to do meth and whenever her sister would come over, her sister would take her money and go buy more and insist she do it with her (against her doctor's orders not to because of some health issues). Earlier this week, she got into a huge fight with her sister about always stealing her stuff and staying at her house for extended periods of time and never helping her with anything and only coming over for money and drugs and told her to get out. She told me that her sister was pregnant but most likely killed the baby shooting up/not going to the doctor and is currently trying to get their mom to take the other baby away from her. \n\nThey've had big fights and she's told her to leave and deleted her number and said she didn't want to talk to her again for similar reasons, but she's never told their mom about anything she's done and lately she's really been complaining about her sister treating her like crap lately so I truly believe this time she means it. \n\nShe had an accident last year and has been working really hard lately to make a lot of changes in her life to get better and I think she finally sees that her sister is the one holding her back.", "summary": "Girlfriend's sister is a meth addict who comes over just to do drugs and steal her money but never helps her clean or do anything like she asks. Girlfriend kicked her sister out and said she doesn't want her in her life anymore because she's been holding her back from getting better after an accident and because she's making it impossible for her to stay off meth. "}
{"id": "t3_3c28m4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Asian men of reddit: is it offensive to say that I (white/27/F) find Asian men attractive on my online dating profile?", "post": "I have an OKCupid account, and I realize that I find Asian guys really, really attractive. I don't want to give someone the idea that I'm only into them because they're Asian, but I also worry that I could be missing out on guys who are shy about hitting on a white girl in case they aren't into asian guys.  Is that even a thing?  I am attractive, fit, and my message box is practically flooded with messages every couple days.  I can't search the site based on race, so it takes me an hour to find someone that I like, least of all someone Asian.\n\nSo my question is,", "summary": "Asian men:  Would it be offensive or weird if I mentioned on my profile that I find you incredibly sexy?"}
{"id": "t3_1mf1xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26F] would like to get some perspective about my relationship with my GF [30F] of 2.5 years. About to get engaged and Im feeling anxious.", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nSo i will keep this brief. I have been with my GF for 2.5 years, moved in after 1.8 years. We have had her ups and downs as all do. we are about to get engaged soon and i guess i am getting cold feet. this is my first long relationship and hers as well.\n\nto be blunt, i guess i am scared and want to know if i am \"truly\" in love but i would like some opinions about what you all think about the matter.\n\n1. she is in my thoughts most of the time. i think about ways to make her happy. i.e. if she brings something up in conversation and i find it i *have* to get it to make her happy. although, when i am playing sports, watching the game or doing personal time i am focused on that.\n\n2. i cant stand to see her sad and will go so far as make an ass out of myself (i sing badly so i will act things out, i will make jokes... anything to get her to smile). she is a little high maintenance at times \n\n3. there is no better feeling than cuddling with her(where should i hand in my man card?) i never thought i wanted this but... damn. its amazing.\n\n4. before i met her, i was never able to shut off my mind. i had a pessimistic attitude about EVERYTHING. but when im with her.... there is peace/silence.\n\nwe agree on alot of things and about the future. she loves me to death and i guess i just want to make sure i can be the man *husband* she wants/needs which is why im anxious... \"can i do this\" thoughts?\n\nperhaps, im just worried about failure and not providing for her?\n\nanyone care to share?", "summary": "Is this love, are these feelings of anxiousness normal!"}
{"id": "t3_snpur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm so confused as to what is happening right now.", "post": "Hey guys, basically what's happening is this girl I like who mutually likes me back (Kissed, foreplay, etc.) is very confusing, the reason being is because I am unsure as to whether or not she wants a relationship in the future or not. \n\nThe reason being is after seeing each other for a month I asked her if she wanted to be my girl friend however she declined it saying she wants to get to know me better, which is where I get confused because she isn't the type of girl that does foreplay and kissing unless you're in an exclusive relationship with her. So any advice on what to do, and also when should I ask her out next if she is of course looking for a \"relationship\".\n\nAges: I'm 18 she's 17.\nGender: I'm male she's female.\n\nSide note: Yes I realize this is very jumbled up but I struggled to word this.", "summary": "Getting mixed signals, about whether she wants a relationship or not, and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_4ugv0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused about my [21/F] ex-boyfriend [22/M] who is also my best friend", "post": "Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up about a month ago because we were long-distance. We'd been together for about a year with an 8 hour time difference. He told me he couldn't handle being so far apart from me anymore and it was causing him a lot of stress. I felt the same way too; I had a lot of anxiety, and so we decided to stay as friends. We still talked regularly as if nothing had changed, except that we cut the \"I love you's\" and pet names. But 2 weeks ago I found out that he has a new girlfriend. I was more upset about the fact that he didn't tell me about it. I suppose because we were friends now we could talk about anything, especially about something as major as that. He said he was afraid to \"lose\" me if he'd told me.\n\nHe still talks to me regularly. I try to avoid him when I can now. I thought he'd rather focus on his new relationship, and so I started talking to a guy on Tinder. We'd meet regularly, mainly for sex. At some point I just forgot to check my phone so I was avoiding calls and texts from my ex. He then asked me if he'd done something wrong because he felt that I was avoiding him. \n\nWhen I told him I was seeing someone, he became really upset/jealous and even said that I deserve better than a guy who just wants to fuck me. We talked for 3 hours about this, and he admitted that he still has feelings for me, that he really loves me but the distance is holding us back. He said his girlfriend is great but not as \"amazing\" as me.  He missed the connection we had. I feel the same way. And now I think we're equally confused. We're not going to stop seeing our new partners because we'll just go back to square one.\n\nJust at a loss of what to do here. Should we go NC? (it's going to hurt so much) Should I pay him a visit and try again?", "summary": "Ex broke up with me a month a go because distance. We're seeing new people but still very into each other. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2aqqgm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) live my boyfriend (27m) of one year but hate his teeth and he refuses to get them fixed!", "post": "Just like the title says. He has terrible teeth due to a combination of smoking and bad dental work done as a kid. He's extremely self conscious about his teeth, to the point where he won't fully smile or open his mouth all the way when he speaks. He sort of mumbles through his lips. We're talking about getting married and I told him I want him to get his teeth fixed so that he'll actually smile in our wedding photos. He wasn't mad at me for that comment and he keeps saying he's going to get them fixed but never does. He hates his teeth as well and is constantly saying how he would like to get them fixed, but always flakes out when it comes time to make an appointment. He's unhappy with his looks and has very little confidence because of his teeth. I really just want to see him happy, confident, and smiling. I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "boyfriend has terrible teeth and won't do anything to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_4a7ehv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my GF? [23 F] 1 year, she went to a wedding reception I wasn't allowed to go to and ended up at a strip club (there now) how the heck do I react to that?", "post": "Title pretty well sums it up.  The reason I wasn't allowed to go was because her friend was marrying someone with ties to her ex's family.  Her ex wasn't there but she didn't want it to be awkward.\n\nI have gotten a few texts over about 8 hours.  Asked how I was doing at 8:30, told me I was amazing at 10:30.  I asked her about midnight if she was going to stop by afterwards, she responded at 1:30 that we would see, she's at a strip club.  \n\nI really have no idea who she is with, what club, anything.  Obviously she is at least drunk, if not on something else.", "summary": "Girlfriend went to wedding reception without me, got drunk, ended up at strip club with I don't know who."}
{"id": "t3_2jjyjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] don't know how to deal with my boyfriend's [21M] sex drive.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and I love him dearly. I honestly believe that he is the one I will marry, but I have a hard time dealing with his sex drive. He could ALWAYS have sex. I understand that this isn't that unusual for guys, but it's very different than what I want, which is maybe once a week.\n\nThis results in him almost begging me to give him a blow job when I'm not interested in sex. I hate when he asks this, but I usually do it for him anyway, because I also hate saying no. He makes me feel a little guilty for saying no usually by acting very quiet and reserved. He is never angry with me, but I feel like I have disappointed with him when I say no.\n\nThe past few times when I have done it for him, throughout the b.j. I feel like I could cry, and I have some resentment towards him. I have come to the conclusion that when he asks for it, I feel like he doesn't feel like I am enough for him without sexual experiences.\n\nI understand that sex is an important part of a relationship, and I want to talk to him about how this makes me feel, but I don't know how.", "summary": "My boyfriend always wants sex and I have some resentment towards him because of it."}
{"id": "t3_d9wbt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need advice on how to stop lusting after someone at work.", "post": "Ok here's the deal.  I'm a young 30's year old guy, good looking, never had any problems with the ladies (though I'm no player).  However, I am absolutely lusting over this woman at work.  I've worked for this place for several months, but only in the last couple months have I begun to develop these feelings.  She haunts my mind 24/7, for absolutely no good reason.  I don't know very much about her, besides obvious things people learn about each other when they are co-workers.  We don't work in the same department, though we are proximate to each other.  At first we developed a casual friendship, exchanging pleasantries and the like, and stares and smiles, and the cute look away thing.  Part of me believes that she has feelings for me because there seems to be some odd tension between us, though I could be mistaken.  But lately I can't bring myself to even talk to her, I'll ignore her, walk by without saying anything.  It's too painful to talk to her knowing that it could never be (she's married, with children).  I figure it has to be lust, because I don't know anything beyond the superficial about her.  \n\nSo I need your help.  I've never had these emotions over someone before, and would like to know how some of you battled these feelings, or any suggestions you might have.  Thanks!", "summary": "need help to stop lusting after a married woman at work."}
{"id": "t3_4d3ie0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 5 months, she's not sure if she'll break up with me or not, what do I do in the mean time?", "post": "Before we left for our easter break (we're at university together). I had a go at her by telling her in a calm but unsympathetic way that I felt trapped by her and that I felt pressurised by her to always pretend I was OK even when I wasn't. After I pulled myself together and comforted her (She cried) I told her we should take a short break after the end of the week and not contact each other over Easter.\n\nAbout 2 weeks into the three week break I texted her a long, heartfelt message telling her I loved her and missed her. I received back a 1 line \"love you too.\" After messaging her on and off for 2 days I sent her a similar message and received a similar answer. I asked to Skype and she told me over Skype that since I had talked to her she had felt disconnected from me. She then said she wasn't sure what she wanted and she would let me know when she sees me face to face. I told her I want to start fresh and have a healthier relationship. We also both agreed that we love eachother.\n\nWhat I want advice on is what I should do to keep myself sane in the intervening week. I know I want to work things out and try to see if we can have a better relationship that doesn't make me feel trapped. Also, how should I go about convincing her to stick with me a little longer to find out if we can make it work? should I try to convince her at all? Finally, if she does dump me, is it appropriate to ask to be fuck buddies? because the sex is super amazingly good.\n\nNot a very exciting post but need advice, thanks for reading to the end.", "summary": "She might be about to break up with me, what do I do? convince her to stay, leave her, or just wait and see?"}
{"id": "t3_3c49uk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Afraid my [23F] boyfriend [21M] of 1.5 years still has a thing for his high school crush", "post": "Boyfriend and I have a good relationship. We've just graduated from university and are moving in together at the end of the summer. I've just come to his hometown for a brief vacation and we met up with an old friend. I knew he was hung up on some girl in high school, but it became very apparent to me that this was that girl. I'm pretty sure (just based on the way he was talking to her, looking at her ect) that he still has a thing for her. \n\nNot sure what to do with that. I really like him, but thinking long term, I'm uncomfortable with the idea that there might be someone else in the back of his mind. Advice?", "summary": "met my boyfriend's friend from high school, pretty sure he has a crush on her. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_12v0ff", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Songs for Reddit, Vol II. Reddit, can I write another album of songs about you?", "post": "So, about seven months ago, I submitted [this] thread. The rules were very simple. Post a comment, get it upvoted and I would write and record songs about the top 10 upvoted comments. \n\n[This is the final product of that thread.] It ended up being a tremendous amount of fun, I think most of the contributors enjoyed their songs and I've found myself wanting (and in the position) to do it again. \n\nSo, tell me a story. About anything! Tell me about your husband or wife or girlfriend or whatever else. Maybe something or someone makes you particularly happy, sad or moved or whatever else. Maybe you're struggling with something right now and it's possible that a song about it would prove to be therapeutic in some way. Or maybe it'll be 10 songs about bacon or narwhals. I don't mind that either. Reddit is a fantastic place, and writing songs about you guys is sorta my way of giving back to a community that has given me so much. \n\nI'll admit that the first album was my second solo recording project ever and this one will be my fifth! I've learned a lot about recording since then, and I'd like this to be a project I'm truly proud of. As such, I'm not going to give myself a strict deadline on this one. I'd like to get everything finished by mid-December, so if you're looking for a Christmas gift for someone, why not a personalized song? Just tell me about someone, or a story or whatever else, get it upvoted, and I'll do the rest.", "summary": "[Wrote an album of songs for reddit at the beginning of the year.] Had so much fun that I've decided to do it again. Top 10 upvoted comments in this thread at the end of 48 hours (11:00AM EST on November 12th!) will be turned into songs just like [these.]("}
{"id": "t3_3a8kut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [19m] favourited one of my [20m] tweets after a month of no-contact, one thing lead to another, now im not sure what to do.", "post": "Short story, I fell in love with a friend, she did not, she still wanted to be very close friends but I could not handle it so I decided to break contact. \n\nThe first few days I would check her social media everyday, but I reliazed I'll never heal if i kept on doing that so I stopped, everyday it kept getting better and better, I still think about her daily and miss her sooo much but It gets little bit better everyday.\n\nToday she favourited one of my tweets (we dont follow each other anymore) It was a suprise to me so I stupidly clicked on her twitter and read a few tweets, didnt really bother me much until she said something about attending the same event I'm going to in 2 months.\n\nBasicly it was long distance thing, two different countries, but in 2 months there's a big event in my hometown, I already got my tickets and I now know she will be there..\n\nIt really fucking sucks to think about it because when we first started talkign we would always talk about hanging out here, now I know she will be in the same room as me but we wont hang out. I'd like to hang out but i dont know if i should contact her again and meet up.\n\nI really dont know what to do, I just want to forget about her because it hurts to much but now I know I'll be in the same room as her in 2 months, not sure how to cope.\n   \nI dont know but its probably worth mentioning its my first time actually \"falling inlove\" so all this is new & confusing to me.", "summary": "LDR old friend favourited one of my tweets after a month of no-contact, I found out she will be in my home town in about 2 months, not sure what to do or how to cope , I'd like to spend that time with her while she is here but dont know if i should for my own sake."}
{"id": "t3_frku9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do prospective employers goad me into believing they will hire me even when they have no intention to?", "post": "So I might sound naive, but I had been set up with an interview today and i was really happy (first place that has offered me an interview in months). One of my good friends had told me about the opening at where he worked and suggested I apply. I did, but so did another one of my friends. She got an earlier interview, (by two hours) then the one they had scheduled for me. After her interview we were texting each other and I was shocked when not only had they given her the position they had shown her the office she was to work in. When I went in two hours later they acted as if I still had an even chance with everyone else applying to get the job. They had no idea from the sounds of things that she was a friend of mine.", "summary": "Went to interview with no hope of getting job. They acted like the position was still open."}
{"id": "t3_2yylxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19f] Friend [19f] Talks Down on My Boyfriend [19m]", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and one of my best friends always says negative stuff about him and it really bothers me. He is into fashion and acting, he dresses and acts kind of \"feminine\" but he is completely heterosexual.\n\nMy friend would joke around about him secretly being gay, when we first started dating. I tried to make light of it, and I thought it would just fade away the longer I dated him.\n\nIt's not fading away, and she keeps saying rude things about him to me, and has even done so right infront of him. Today I pretty much blew up at her because of how mean she was being, she made a comment about his jeans being too skinny and asked if he even has a dick and how it would fit, Mind you, she was wearring baggy sweats. And she is a sloppy person, and I got pissed at her and pretty much told her she was dressed like a hobo, she's too fat to wear nice clothes and she looks like shit. I do feel guilty about saying it, but she has been saying extremely rude things about him for months and I can't stand it anymore. \n\nShe left after I said that and I haven't texted her or anything since, I don't know if I really plan on it, even if she reaches out to me first. Was I in the wrong or is she?", "summary": "My friend insults my boyfriend all the time and she always makes jokes about his sexuality, I blew up at her after a really rude comment she made about him today and now her and I aren't speaking."}
{"id": "t3_2jwma5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (23) wants his parents to move in with us in the future", "post": "We've been together for 6 years now and he's very close with his parents as that's his only family that he speaks to. I too am very close with mine. However, we're in an LDR and he's so close with them that the last 2 times he's come to visit me in Canada (he lives in England) he's brought his mom along. EVERYWHERE we've been this week whiles he's been here, his mom has come along. Every dinner, she's been there. I can't handle it anymore, she's a lovely lady but I'd like some alone time.\n\nWe've planned our next holiday to Portugal where I'm from and he asked me if it's okay if his dad comes along cause he owes him a a holiday. I don't want to be rude and offend him.\n\nI'm moving in with him next year for my studies and he's said he wants one with 2 bedrooms so his parents can stay as well later in the future. He does this as he wants to spend as much time as possible seeing as they're nearly 60 and fed he owes them for all they they've done for him. If I'm moving out, I don't want to move in to be surrounded by someone else's parents.\n\nWhat would you do in my situation?", "summary": "boyfriend wants his parents to move in with us in the future and his parents come on EVERY vacation with us."}
{"id": "t3_1t6zux", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do deal with jealousy?", "post": "I'm in a relationship of almost 3 months and it's amazing. I love my gf so much. But this problem keeps arising... I'm constantly jealous. The issue is that this is all the time. If she laughs at another guys joke I get jealous of that guy. If she gets help from another guy, I get jealous. If she is alone with another guy, I get really jealous. Now keep in mind this barely happens because she doesn't have a lot of friends... But she does have one who is very close. He is a male of the same age as her and everyday they have a class together in which they spend the time having a good time, just the two of them. She and this guy have been best friends since childhood. She isn't someone to cheat and I know she never would but whenever she is there with him I get jealous to the point where I feel sick to my stomach and I feel depressed. A lot of the time we have boring texting conversations... But amazing time when we are together. I often feel like I'm not enough. \nHow do I make the jealousy go away?", "summary": "I often feel jealous anytime were around men together and she has a really close guy friend who makes me especially jealous. I want to stop being jealous"}
{"id": "t3_404jvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sick of my boyfriend being lazy and not doing anything with his life...", "post": "Hi guys!\n\nI'm so sick of it. I just don't know what to do or what to say to him anymore.\n\nHe lost his job over a year ago, since then he has been \"looking\" for one (not a single interview during the whole year though). Once in a while he works in his mum's job for a few days, but that's all. I think he is too picky and it looks like he expects his dream job to be offered to him without him doing anything or something. I asked him if he doesn't feel like he desperately needs a job and he doesn't think so. He spends most of the time at home (he lives with his parents) and it seems that he doesn't really have any hobbies apart from computer and gaming. \nWe were planning to move in together but he changed his mind because, according to him, it will be too difficult for me to concentrate on my studies. I keep persuading him to at least do some exercising cause his whole life is his free-time right now. Guess if he is doing it!\n\nWhat should I do? :( has anyone else been in the same situation? I feel like just giving up. It's so dofficult for me because I'm a complete opposite - I study at uni, work, attend language course, travel,  put effort into achieving my goals...\n\nBy the way, we're both 22 years old and we've been together for over 2 years.", "summary": "boyfriend is a lazy ass, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3rsxjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] looked at my bf [22 M] of 3 years facebook messages", "post": "To start off, I've never looked at his phone, FB, anything until the other day. \n\nAfter a few instances that made it seem like he was messing around (we talked about it and his excuses made complete sense so I looked past it), I got paranoid. The other day he gave me the password for his computer. I tried it on his facebook and got in. \n\nI looked at his messages and found a conversation between him and this girl. Last summer we had gotten in a huge fight while he was out at a bar with his friends and he got really drunk. Well he messaged a girl and basically told her we had gotten in a fight and asked her to fuck but he was really drunk. They didn't do it because she didn't reply to the message until a day or so later just asking what had happened. This was well over a year ago but it hurts to think that he even asked. \n\nIt is my fault for snooping and I have no one to blame but myself. It was very wrong and completely regret it but feel very hurt for what I found.", "summary": "I looked at my boyfriend's facebook messages and found a conversation between my drunk bf and a girl asking her to have sex with him."}
{"id": "t3_376q09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am pretty much done with my 2.5 year long relationship with my girlfriend [25F]. We live together. Do I pack then break up, or break up then pack?", "post": "Hey, /r/relationships.\n\nI think it's over for my relationship. My girlfriend, Felicity, lives with me in our apartment. We've had our problems over the years, but I feel like our communication is just getting more dysfunctional, and I don't see a future with her anymore.\n\nI've never lived with a girlfriend before. We don't co-own much (if anything), so splitting our possessions is not a big concern. The rental is in her name, more or less. We've talked about the possibility of ending things before, but I'm pretty confident this is not going to be mutual. It'll be messy. It will hurt her. I know that's unavoidable, but I think it's best for us in the long run.\n\nMy biggest question: I know we'll both be bawling after I break it off. The idea of packing all my stuff after a conversation like that is terrifying. It's already hard enough thinking about the conversation it would take to end our relationship. The packing process after would be torture. Even worse, I worry I'd lose my nerve hearing her cry. On the other hand, packing beforehand just seems like a cold move.\n\nTyping it out, it seems like there is zero right answer. Does anyone have some advice anyway?", "summary": "Breaking up with my live-in girlfriend of two years, and I don't know what's the most respectful / least damaging way of physically leaving. Is it protocol to pack before, or after the conversation (when you know it's coming, and it's not mutual)?"}
{"id": "t3_1azscq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fuck you Emblem Health", "post": "A little long, but this reddit is for ranting right? So here it goes.\n\nMy fiancee has a herniated disc in her back along with a pinched nerve. As you can imagine, it's extremely painful and has significantly impacted her quality of life. Things have gotten bad over the last few months. Back surgery is out because we can't afford it and insurance didn't cover it (the first fuck you). A back doctor recommended a procedure called a discectomy (it's kind of like surgery, but not as invasive).\n\nAfter us and the back doctor talking to insurance we find out it's approved. Yes! However, they have one caveat that she can't get anesthesia (second fuck you) making the procedure painful, but hey a lot of pain for a short period of time is worth it if it helps her back (and she's been in crucial pain for months anyway).\n\nThis was all booked and ready to go back in January for this Thursday. We've been eagerly awaiting this day because it means she will be able to walk without being in pain. \n\nThen, the big fuck you happens. After getting approvals and confirmations MULTIPLE times from the insurance company. They called today and told my fiancee that they don't cover it after all. No reason why other than that \"we thought we did, but this isn't a procedure that we cover apparently\". This after we had a date booked for 2 months.  Now we don't know what to do. She's crying in the bathroom because she feels so defeated. Epidurals and pain meds haven't helped the situation and this was the light at the end of the tunnel. FUCK YOU EMBLEM. You guys are incompetent greedy fuckers.", "summary": "Emblem approved my fiancee's back procedure two months ago. Two days before the procedure, they changed their mind and she has to continue living in agony."}
{"id": "t3_2xr3xd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M23] need help with my obsessive gf [F22]", "post": "We've been together for almost 2 years now. We're in a long distance relationship but I still see her fairly often. Sometimes I don't see her for a few months and then I'll spend a few months with her.  \n\nShe's actually a really nice and sweet girl but I really can't take her parano\u00efa. She's extremely obsessive, controlling . She had been dumped by her first bf (I'm her second) a few years ago, but still.\n\nSince we aren't physically together all the time she constantly wants to chat/Skype me. When I say constantly it really is non stop.  I could chat her for 5 hours and if I'd stop she would be upset. If she's chatting me and I don't reply within a minute she's upset.\n\nShe also asked for my Facebook and Skype login. She regularly checks my friends list and will get mad/question me if there's any girl in it except family.\n\nWhen I get out with my friends she's pissed and says I don't have time for her even though I spent the whole evening chatting with her. Then she asks me to take photos there (that's ridiculous), not to talk to girls, not to drink etc.\n\nNo matter what I tell her she doesn't give me any space or time for myself. I have roommates which I spent time with,  I have friends, family, or sometimes just want to watch a movie or play video games or whatever. But she continues to msg me, no matter what time.  There have been days where we chatted over 8 hours and she got upset when I told her that I'm about to go and relax in front of a movie. \n\nSooo... what exactly am I supposed to do? She simply doesn't understand.  I thought about cutting contact for a week or two so that I'll have time for myself. And after that if she continues being upset I'll threaten her to cut contact again. I know it sounds a bit harsh but that's the only thing I can come up with.", "summary": "Gf is super obsessive and controlling and doesn't  give me space."}
{"id": "t3_v12mu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it legal to tow a car that is not illegally parked?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMy two roommates and I have been living in a house for about 6 months now. Today we had our first run in with our neighbor (who owns a tow truck) across the street. Our friend came over and parked his car along the curb in front of our neighbors house. When he goes to leave we discover that the neighbor has parked his son's truck inches from our friends rear bumper and his tow truck was parked really close in front. Our friend was basically boxed completely in. We went to knock in the door (we figured it was an accident or something) then out comes our fat neighbor screaming and yelling. He claims that we cannot park in front of his house (it is a public street), and that next time he will tow the car. We tell him that's illegal and he threatens a \"neighbor war\" with us, which is something he will lose (we are all in college). Is it legal to tow a car that is parked perfectly legal? We live in Nevada if that matters. We have considered parking another car there and then letting him tow it, but also secretly film it, good idea?", "summary": "Neighbor with tow truck threatens to tow our friend because he parked on the street in front of his house. Is it legal to tow a legally parked car?"}
{"id": "t3_29vwsp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18 m] may have screwed up friendship with [18 f]", "post": "Hi\n\nI'm not sure how popular this sub reddit is but hopefully someone notices this and can help me\n\nI'd like to pre face this by saying that I have no relationship experience what so ever and this was the first time I've ever asked a girl out\n\nWe met through mutual friends on a pub crawl and have met within the same group several times over the past few months. We have also been chatting through text rather frequently for the past two months. We have a fair amount of things in common such as a liking for Game of Thrones and pokemon. Our uni exams finished recently and we were discussing through text about our holiday plans when I decide to ask her out. \n\nI personally felt that doing it through text wasn't the best plan of action but there's nothing I can do about it now. She initially didn't catch my meaning and thought I meant out as in out drinking as part of the group but when I clarified she responded saying that (even though it sounds horribly clich\u00e9) she's not really looking for a relationship and that she probably isn't ready for one. That I was nice to talk to as a friend and that she's very sorry that she gave me the wrong impression. My next text was an apology for jumping the gun and hoping that we could remain friends and that it didn't make things awkward between us. I asked how her exams went and she responded with a short sentence with no room for follow up which was unlike her previous texts\n\nNow I'm not one of those guys you see in the Internet who moan about being in the friend zone, hell if it means I can hang out with her more often I'm perfectly happy to be in the friend zone. \n\nWhat do I do? Have I screwed up this friendship? It's been three days since we last texted. Am I over reacting?", "summary": "asked a girl out, says she's not ready, text chat has halted, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_t1ayk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please, somebody help me identify who this author is", "post": "Long story short my parents a long time ago gave me a large paperback collection of like 500 pages and around 5 stories from this bald author who made super irreverent children's novels and I wanted to find out who the author was for my sister who is now the same age as I was (6th grade)\n\nDescription of work: I'll write what I remember from memory. One kid was able to see two separate worlds and had an obsession with a chili that was made at this one place and kept going back and forth between a block where the chilli was made. Another was a coney island hot dog shop or something and they were entered into an intergalactic food competition? Another was a kid discovers an underground subculture at night and there is a park where anybody can get up on a pedestal and give a speech about whatever they want and there was a girl obsessed with radios and equipment.Those are a few of the stories briefly from memory. Thanks so much for me and my sister because I'd totally like to read them again", "summary": "magic delicious chilli with alternate demensions, intergalactic food contest, underground speech giving subculture. Name that children's author."}
{"id": "t3_4ythzt", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Should I go to the gym on day six? I'm afraid if I take a rest day I'll never go back", "post": "Alright so I am F/20/5'/SW~137/GW-118/Current-130\n\nHi,  so I am trying to get back to my high school bod,  maybe even better,  its been two years and ive gained too much.  When I was in high school I think i was about 122 or something. \n\nWhen I was in high school I was a cheerleader and I worked out 5 days a week.  I ate McDonald's 2-3 times a week.  Before this week I worked out 0 days a week and ate McDonald's 6-7 days a week.  \n\nThis week I have gone to the gym for the last five days for about an hour and a half to two and a half hours,  I felt great,  was having so much fun and feeling so healthy,  and I've been so motivated I only had McDonald's once since.  \n\nNow my body is exhausted, my legs were quivering while I was trying to do my first couple exercises.  I decided not to do too much cardiovascular and just focus on weights,  thats why my session today was about 2.5 hours,  going slow and not pushing my body past what it could handle.  \n\nMy boyfriend is my workout buddy and he has been working out the last 4 days with me,  he says he's too sore to go tomorrow,  advises me to do the same.  I'm just really afraid to skip gym time.  I feel like if I don't go tomorrow,  I will never go to the gym again.  That's what happened when I first got my membership 6 months ago,  im finally back and working better than ever.  I don't want to fuck this up.\n\nIs there a healthy way to take a rest day but still go in and get some exercise,  should I go in and just so the stairs machine and stretching room and maybe the bike? Ignore muscles machines and let them rest?", "summary": "in need of a rest day,  but i dont want to remember what it feels like to not go to the gym,  im afraid I will get too comfortable with not habitually going..  Is there any tips for a slow day at the gym or should I reallt just not go in?"}
{"id": "t3_3p9crs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [23 M] 3 years, After a great relationship, and both of our lives headed in the right direction, she decided to break up with me out of nowhere. Do I leave her be, and just get on with my life?", "post": "We have had a wonderful relationship. She has OCD and I have Bipolar. A year into the relationship I got on medicine which made my life a hell of a lot better. I am now goin to school, I work and im trying to get out on my own. My girlfriend just got on medicine and is now going to counseling. Everything seemed to be going great. She is also attending college. \n\nThis past Sunday we had a wonderful day out on the bay. Everything seemed to be great. It gets me upset just writing it. The life we wanted seemed to be falling into place.  But then Tuusday came; I went to school, and I went to call her after. She never answered. It wasnt until later that night she said she wanted a break, and that she wants to sort her life out. It came out of nowhere and I guess thats what hurts the most. She said there isnt anyone, which I dont know is true. I know her and she doesn't lie, but maybe she just doesn't want to hurt me.\n\nMy brother and her haven't had the greatest relationship, and my mom and her did get in a fight,recently, but I dont think thats enough reason to break up. We also have had our fair she of arguments, but they normal arguments; people arent going to be happy 24/7.\n\n We have been planing out our lives together, and it really hurts knowing its not going to happen now.\n\nShe never said break up, But I cant wait for her, and she did say  she wants me to move on and doesnt want me to wait, and hopes that I stay in school.", "summary": "After a great relationship, and both of our lives headed in the right direction, she decided to break up with me out of nowhere. What should I do? Do I leave her be, and just get on with my life?"}
{"id": "t3_1fcffr", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Exgirlfriend [F/20] keeps texting me [M/21]", "post": "We dated for 6 months. Long story short, she dumped me on my birthday. She didn't even do it in person, or on the phone; she did it through a fucking facebook message... And I'm 99% sure she dumped me because of another guy she's been getting close to.\n\nit's been 2 months since we broke up, and i've been coping with alot of heartache, hatred and anger. I was just starting to get her out of my head. I deleted her off of facebook, and off of my phone.\n\nNow, after not talking for 2 months, she keeps texting me. It began with \"how are you doing?\". I tried to respond as little as I could to implicitly tell her I wasn't interested anymore. But she keeps on texting me. Now she texts me: \"Did you delete your facebook?\"\n\nI didn't delete my facebook, I fucking deleted you and blocked you because my heart hurt everytime I saw your name.\n\nShould I just ignore her to get her to stop talking to me? I don't know what to do.  Everytime she texts me, my heart hurts, and I keep reminiscing about the good times we've had together. but I know that I shouldn't get back with her, she treated me like shit near the end of our relationship: she lied to me, ignored me, treated me badly, and left me for another guy.", "summary": "my ex keeps texting me, I don't want her in my life anymore. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3q9t6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17 M] I just got over a breakup and now I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "So I just got over a breakup, and that's swell.  I'm not entirely sure what to do now though.  I'm stuck in highschool for another semester until I can get into college, and I feel like there aren't more fish in the sea.  I've already dated a myriad of girls, sexted a bunch more, and now I really have no idea how to find another girl for a go at a long-term (at least until college) relationship.  I've already taken my chances with all the girls I'm interested in in my classes and whom I've met at lunch.  So how can I go about meeting new people in my last year here?", "summary": "I've overfished and now I'm not sure how to go about finding more fish (potential partners) for the rest of my short tenure here in highschool."}
{"id": "t3_4wek49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my bf [21M], he lets his best friend [21M] be overly sexual with me", "post": "My boyfriend's best friend is visiting my boyfriend in the college town where we both live for a week or so. I have been with my bf for 2.5 years and he has been friends with this person since high school. My problem is that when I am hanging out with my bf and his friend, the friend will be extremely touchy with me. For example he will kiss me in front of my bf, touch my ass/boobs, try to cuddle me when I am trying to study, etc. He also makes comments about me getting naked or about having sex with me. In the past my bf and I had a threesome with this friend when we were drunk. My bf was very uncomfortable after this happened and we established that it would never happen again. Before this happened the friend did not act like this or make sexual comments. This is the first time he has acted like this towards me and it makes me feel very awkward. When he does these things I either tell him to stop, ask my bf to tell him to stop, or just get up and move somewhere else. However, my bf says that \"since he's already seen you naked\" and \"since you've already sucked his dick\" it doesn't matter what he does/says to me. When I tell the friend directly to stop he tells me that I'm being mean and my bf then expects me to apologize. This is my bfs best friend so I am reluctant to make a big deal about it and potentially cause problems between me and my bf or between my bf and his friend. My question is, how do I approach this subject with my bf/do I approach it at all or just stay silent? Not spending time with them is not a great option since in the we have been hanging out frequently and they will ask awkward questions if I just disappear for a few days.", "summary": "bfs best friend is making me a bit uncomfortable with his comments/actions and I don't know how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_bay9u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit - who's the craziest person  you ever dated? What did they do?", "post": "I've been quite lucky not to have come across too much craziness. The example which stands out most in my mind is a girl I dated in high school. She lied about everything; her parents' vocations, her finances, her educational achievements, what kind of laptop she had, her exes... *everything*. It was obviously an attempt to prove to me that she's better, but this was a competition I didn't want to partake in and certainly not encouraged.\nThing is, I really thought it was love, so I stuck with her for just short of a year. This whole time she wouldn't let me meet her parents. One time it was simply unavoidable, and I finally met with her mother. In the first five minutes of our discussion the majority of my beliefs about this girl were torn down. I left her mother very confused. But I thought it would be best to give my girlfriend another chance, so I told her I knew that she was lying, and she didn't need to in order to 'win me over'. She denied everything.\nI, in a fit of unaparamounted idiocy, believed her.\n\nA dark period of extreme mistrust followed. I was still with her out of comfort, but things weren't the same at all. I was doubting everything she was saying, even if it was true. I just didn't trust her any more. Especially when she began accusing me of cheating on her while I was on a holiday in Europe (something which I didn't do), and at the same time telling me that she had become a supermodel back home, and that I was missing out on seeing her get skinnier, get prettier, etc.\nI got back - She wasn't exactly skinnier or prettier (if you get my drift).\n\nI had enough. She caught on to the fact that I was planning to break up with her, dumped me first, and started spreading rumours about how I cried for her to come back to me, and how I was most probably gay.\n\nTo this day she yearly asks for sex (something which we didn't do as kept insisting that her body was the \"holy grail\").", "summary": "Dated a pathological liar for way longer than I should have."}
{"id": "t3_3k83w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] need advice on whether or not I should end my 6 year relationship with my gf [22F]", "post": "My gf and I have been together for 6 years, in that time we have had 2 serious break ups (one lasting a week, and the next two weeks). The longer break up was last December.\n\nEssentially, I don't think I'm happy with our relationship. When I think about the person I would want to marry I don't see her. But I love her and absolutely hate to cause her pain... She already has more than enough stress and physical pain in her life. She has chronic health problems that cause her a lot of pain. She is unable to go to school or keep a job with her heath issues. She desperately wants to be better, and I want that for her too. But the person I envision marrying is someone more independent like I am, who does what she wants to do in life, a leader not a follower... And I sort of feel like a jerk for feeling this way... But as Ted Mosby says: there is no worth in settling in a relationship.\n\nSo I guess really I have the answer to my question, and I have for a while. I am just scared to do it, and I don't know how. I really don't have a lot of experience breaking up in an effective way.", "summary": "I don't want to marry my gf of 6 years, but I still love her. What should I do and how?"}
{"id": "t3_3yztb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M], and tinder date [18 F], had our first meet/date, but not attracted to her", "post": "So about two weeks ago I met a girl on Tinder. We hit it off fairly quickly and began texting each other. A lot. We texted all day everyday for two weeks. Today, we finally met up. \n\nBefore I get into that, let me just say that while texting, she sort of fell for me. I like her, too, but still, I hadn't met her so I didn't know how much. I had told her I was looking for more than a hookup, and she said the same. She kept telling me how self conscious she is of her body, how much weight she's gained, and would send me pics of her asking if I was okay with her body. In the pics she sent me, she did seem a little chubby, but still very cute. I reassured her that I found her attractive, because from the pics, I really did.\n\nOn to our date. We had a great time together. Spent about 10 hours in total, including some heavy making out and fooling around. The problem is, she's a lot heavier than I had been anticipating. So much so, that I am just not that attracted to her, and had trouble staying hard when we were fooling around.\n\nWe didn't have sex, because she said she wanted to wait until we were \"official\" as if it was inevitable (and I'll admit, through texting, I thought it was inevitable as well). I just don't know what to do. She's already asking me what to do for our next date, and talking about future plans together, and I'm just kind of going along with it because I'm terrified of hurting an already very self-conscious person. She's such a nice girl, and I feel like if I told her I wasn't feeling it, it would just destroy her. She told me it was the best date she's ever had, and one of the best days of her life. Help me, please :(", "summary": "Not really attracted to Tinder girl, she's very sweet and I don't know how to let her down without hurting her"}
{"id": "t3_2lcoc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28] with my friend(age dont know) 1 month duration, Like and love her alot", "post": "I have to tell you something .\nI am doing everything great. It's been 28 days I didn't do anything bad. I am doing pretty great. Have my own ways to get the dopamine spike. The right way.\nBut the worst of the worst.\nI like a girl , she is beautiful but very choosy I think or she thinks I am a person with low self esteem . I asked her number out. She said later . No problem.\nI think I like this girl more or infact, have love for her.\nI can't talk to her at all when I see her. My humor comes naturally, I never make it.\nI tried to make her happy by some gifts etc. I didn't get her number yet.\nI just cannot talk to her , it goes weird. I am being stupid and making fun out of myself. I am also feeling bad about it.\nI hope if any of you guys or girls out here can help me out.\nI am a great man now. I think she likes me . But I don't know why she likes me. She gives me signs , but I am not sure about those signs. Touching her hair when she sees me .\nSmiling , being more formal to me than others.\nShe seems scared also. Is this love ? Are we being stupid.\nI want your help. I think I should take it slow also.\nBut she has I think a bf who loves her and she loves her. She told me and straight away I told her I am not happy you have a bf . My eyes watered (I hope thats not so unmanly)\nI like another and she likes me. We are far away and she told me to purse her. Later she regretted it. I told her, I had feelings but we both were shy .\nI like her also.\nI am worried about the one who I see.\nCan someone offer me advice.\nI cannot sleep at all.\nI am asking this as a human being from you. Please give me hope. I have a feeling I can get her in my life. I never dated in my life. I am 28 and single.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_16d0wz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M[21] unhappy in my relationship with F[22].", "post": "I've (M[21]) been in a relationship for a year and a half with F[22] and it really has never gone well.  I think we want different things and we are not overly compatible.  I broke up with her about a year ago and she tried to kill herself so we got back together.\n\nThis week I met an F[19] who I think I'm really compatible with.  She and I talked for a few hours and we have a lot in common.  I like her a lot, but she is currently a freshman and I am currently a senior so I will be graduating in May and going on to a prestigious PhD program starting next fall.\n\nSo here are my questions:\n* What should I do in regards to my current relationship?  I know I need to end it, but I just don't know how.\n* What should I do in regards to the other girl?\n* Do you think my feelings for the other girl stem from my distaste for my current relationship?\n\nI appreciate any help you give me.", "summary": "M[21] Relationship not working and not sure if feelings I have for a new girl are because of my current failing relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3tpknt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a Korean rapper", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster yada yada. So like the trend this did not happen today, happened maybe 2 weeks ago. Over the period of summer, a sudden boredom hit me while listening to  music and I decided it would be fun to make a rap song although I knew it would be shitty but was just between me and my friends no biggie.\n Over the course  of remaining year I would continue making shitty rap songs where my best one so far ended up being a lovey-dovey freestyle about no one but used a certain girl as a description of the girl in the song. \n\n**Now  to the the fuck up**\n\n My buddy and I were chilling in his car and decided to listen to it again when suddenly the girl I used to describe in the song walks over. He calls her over without thinking( If you're reading this I hate you) and tells her about my new rap career  and has her listen. Everybody's laughing and smiling but I knew it was coming. The description of EXACTLY her begins and her expression changes to a blank one and then my friend makes a comment about it sounds like I'm taking shots at her boyfriend. I still can't look her in eye when she calls me rapper now.", "summary": "Rap career made a gorgeous girl think I was either taking shots at her boyfriend and saying she needs a good man or I'm in love with her when she's outta my league."}
{"id": "t3_s6fql", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job offer, 2 weeks before start date, and ethics.  Can reddit help me?", "post": "Before I start I have to say I consider myself a very loyal and ethical person in both my own personal life and working career.  I've been on the hunt for a job for about 6 months interviewing here and there and even turning down job offers that weren't a good fit.\n\nFast forward to a few days ago and I accepted a job offer.  Really like the position and people and feel I would do well there.  That same day I got a call from my #1 company I was pursuing about a position that I would enjoy more and I kid you not is more than double the pay.\n\nI've made the final 2 and they are going to make a decision before my start date at the company I accepted the offer with.  I'm anticipating I'll get an offer and don't have the slightest idea how to handle this situation.\n\nAll things considered, they are in the same industry, deal with the same clients, but not in the same vertical if that makes a difference.  So the two companies do NOT compete against one another....\n\nAny help or direction would be grateful!", "summary": "Took a job offer.  Start date is 2 weeks away.  Got a call the same day I accepted from my #1 company.  Made the final cut and the job is 2xs+ the pay.  Will find out if they are offering me before the start date.  Would be very happy with either one.  Wondering how to handle this situation w/ the least amount of bridge burning if I decide to take the more lucrative offer?!"}
{"id": "t3_2skcvg", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "We just wanted to play basketball", "post": "A while ago, my family installed a basketball hoop on the street in front of our house. Of course, my brother and I often played on the street, seeing as it's a very low-traffic cul-de-sac. We were able to play for one or two summers until things started to change.\n\nMy next door neighbor is very spiteful. She is also living with her daughter and son-in-law. For a while, her son-in-law parked in her driveway and shared with her car. When my neighbor became fed up with my brother and I playing basketball, she had her son-in-law park out in the street, right in front of our basketball hoop. Every time we went over and asked her to have the car moved so my brother and I could play basketball, she either did not answer the door or say that there was no room in her driveway (which could fit 4 cars by blocking some in, or 2 without blocking any in).\n\nYears passed and my brother and I ceased to ask her to move her car. Then about 3 or 4 years ago I got my driver's license and my father's old car. Her son-in-law and I coexisted for a few years parking under the basketball hoop. That is, until last night. \n\nI had just gotten off a shift at the hospital and I noticed that her son-in-law's car was no longer under the basketball hoop. Chances are he had not yet gotten back from work. I decided to park about half a car's length from the start of her driveway. I will continue to park there until either I move out, in which case my brother will park there, or until her son-in-law starts to park in her driveway. Either way, he will not park under our basketball hoop under my watch. I do feel sorry for the son-in-law, but this woman has angered most of her neighbors for petty reasons.", "summary": "Be a dick to me, I will be a dick to you."}
{"id": "t3_3cg12c", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need advice with how to help my best friend with her eating disorders/depression, please help im desperate", "post": "Tonight I had to force my friend who is bulimic and suffers from eating disorders to throw up a scarily large amount of pills, shes been struggling for a long time and is scarily thin yet she sees herself as fat.\n\nAs someone who's never suffered from an eating disorder I have no idea how she could possibly view herself as fat when she looks like her legs should hardly be able to hold herself up.\n\nIve tried helping her and talking her out of her way of thinking for so long, and im never going to give up on her but I think I need to grasp a better understanding of her possible thought process and other things I could do to help her, please please help me I dont know what to do\n\nShe deals with doctors although she doesnt like seeing them or going to hospitals but she's also told me shes on her last warning before shes admitted to a psych ward.", "summary": "best friend attempted suicide because of low self esteem/depression caused by eating disorders, looking for advice, help, and tips on how to help her from people with more experience with EDs"}
{"id": "t3_49zxhc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] having trouble trusting my boyfriend [21 M]", "post": "I recently found out that for a majority of my six month relationhsip with my boyfriend, he's been on and off chatting up other girls on facebook and okcupid. \n\nHe says he never intended to cheat and that he couldn't have and what's more he says he realizes now that he loves me, he told me for the first time a couple weeks ago. He says he didn't realize what he had and he took me for granted. He says he doesn't deserve me but that he's so lucky I've forgiven him. He says he thought he doesn't deserve to be happy and that he was afraid to fall in love again. \n\nAll he ever did was chat with other girls, flirt, and ask them to hang out or hookup. He hung out with two girls but says nothing happened and I completely believe him on that. \n\nI'm wondering if maybe it could be true that he was just cheating because he was scared of a serious relationship? I really want to believe he won't cheat again and he's completely changed in the way he treats me since he realized he loves me, but I've just heard so many stories about how people never really stop cheating. But he never physically cheated so I'm wondering if my situation is different? \n\nAny advice would be much appreciated! Thank you so much!", "summary": "My boyfriend had thoughts of cheating but never actually did anything sexual. Is it possible he truly loves me now and won't be tempted again?"}
{"id": "t3_405c1f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 18/m I don't know what to do about my Dad", "post": "My biological father and I have had a lot of issues he and my mother got a divorce when I was ten, it was hard on my family and me. My older brother has had bad experiences with him, and has decided not to talk to him anymore for the most part. My younger brother was about two years old when the divorce happened. My father is a retired marine served a tour during the first gulf war and is manipulative and greedy and he also has PTSD. He helped me a bit when I first started suffering from depression and at the same time he had still been trying to tell me how to live my life he tried to force me to join the  airforce and he was just not an entirely good father. At one point he also was upset with me and my mother and decided he wasn't coming to my graduation which caused tension with my mother and I. He eventually came and tried being Mr. Dad all of a sudden he was whoopin and yelling and cheering me on all of a sudden. He ran out on me and my younger brother he ran away to another state to live with his parents and doesn't pay child support and it feels like he is always trying to make me choose between him and my mother and it honestly tears me apart inside.", "summary": "My biological father who ran out on me usually tries to make me choose between him and my mother and I have a ton of issues with him I don't know whether or not it is worth it to have a relationship anymore"}
{"id": "t3_tou2v", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My ex cheated on me so I broke up with her. Now everyone is pissed at me because she's telling everyone she got raped", "post": "I think this would be better in /r/relationships, but the mod told me to post this here.\n\nI'm 24m and she's 23. We were together for 3 years. We did plan to get married. I hadn't proposed, but I was having a custom ring made to propose. Good thing this came out early and saved me $10K on the ring and howevermuch on the wedding, I guess.\n\nTwo weeks ago she went out drinking with friends on a Friday night and ended up sleeping with some guy she met at the bar. She told me about it once she saw me and I dumped her on the spot. \n\nFortunately my name was the only one on the lease and I could afford rent by myself, so she moved out immediately.\nObviously I was - and still am - taking the breakup hard, but I knew it was for the best. Then, the next thing I know all my friends and family are mad at me. She went around telling everyone that the guy she slept with raped her, and they decided I'm a bad person for dumping her for getting raped.\n\nI can't talk sense into any of them. We ran in the same social circles pretty much and she was really close to my family, so I'm getting pissed on by everyone. What am I supposed to do? Is just letting it blow over best?", "summary": "My ex cheated on me, I broke up. She's now telling everyone she was raped, so everyone hates me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3jrvow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32/F]and my SO [29/ M] of 4.5 years just broke up and Im so sad I cant function", "post": "Boyfriend of 4.5 years lied to me about his continued alcohol abuse and I found out back in June. He has promised to quit more than 10 x during the duration of our relationship and I finally put my foot down got no results and finally called it quits 2 days ago but now Im so sad I cant even deal with my life. He was my first live in bf so it feels like a fucking divorce at this point. Even the dog is even depressed and Im clueless how to stop this sinking feeling that keeps coming at me in waves. Any advice? How do you even face something like this?", "summary": "Im sad as hell and don't want to risk potentially going back on my decision because of my heightened emotional state"}
{"id": "t3_19i3xo", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can I contribute to a 2012 Roth IRA if I have already filed my 2012 taxes?", "post": "Made 26k of taxable income in 2012 as I was in a paraprofessional job and wife was finishing up grad school. \n\nGot a professional job in November. Filed taxes in early Feb while I was bored one weekend. Wife got a job in mid February out of no where, changing our financial situation. \n\nWe will make around 91k pretax for 2013 living in a medium sized Southern city. Now that we are on more secure financial footing I want to make Roth IRA contributions for year 2012. Then create a traditional IRA for 2013 and start doing that once I fill up the Roth IRA. (it makes sense to go to a traditional IRA now that we are making at least 91k pretax now right?)\n\nCurrently have around 11k in the bank, no other real financial assets. We also have no credit card or student loan debt. Want to put at least 5k away before April 15th if I can do the whole 2012 IRA thing.", "summary": "Can I contribute to a 2012 Roth IRA if I have already filed my 2012 taxes?"}
{"id": "t3_eqn1l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I failed my first term in University with the lowest average among my classmates, what should I do, reddit?", "post": "I studied in Canada for 3 years now and worked hard to get into a really good university for Engineering. My entire family consisted of only engineers, except for my mother side - who were teachers and medical doctors. \nMy parents and older brother put a lot of hope in me and want me to become successful. They were really happy when I got into University. I've been struggling though, and I didn't want to worry them as my parents are in their 50s and my brother is already working as well. He graduated from the same university I am in right now and is very successful in his job. \n\nThus, being the youngest and least experienced person in the family, I decided to tell them that everything is ok (it's not).\n\nI struggled in Linear Algebra and Physics the most. So I spent a lot of time (maybe a bit too much) in studying them and putting all assignments behind - worrying only about midterms and finals. I overworked sometimes and fell asleep in lectures, late for lectures, etc. I know it's stupid, being only a first year engineering student and already failing.\n\nWhen midterm arrived, I studied with friends most of the time. But although I understand and was able to solve problems - when the midterms came - I couldnt process any of the given questions to answer them. Same thing happened on finals - I studied every day with friends, but my result was unbearably humiliating.\n\nAs for how I study with friends, we each finish a list of questions and problems individually. Once we are all done, we cross-examine one another's works and correct each other's mistakes in discussions.\n\nNow, I failed my first term with the worst average in the class, that is - way below the passing mark. My family did not know about this and they are celebrating Christmas together, as my brother has just got off work. I am going home soon and does not know what to say to my family. I do not want to make them sad - my parents have not seen me for 3 years and my bro for 4 years. As we study/work overseas (specifically - in Canada).", "summary": "I failed my first term in University because I was too naive. My family have high hopes in me, I don't want to ruin their Xmas reunion with my brother. What should I do, reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_3qqsym", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(EU) How can a student make \u20ac400/month to pay for dorm rent.", "post": "Hello r/PersonalFinance\n\nI'm an 18 year old student that just started college a few months. The only problem is that it's pretty far away. It takes me around 3 hours everyday to commute to school and back, without train delays. This takes a big chunk out of my day and study time.  \nI would like to get a dorm room. But we can't really afford. Now I'm trying to commit myself to make some income. My goal is to make \u20ac400/month by September 2016. This will cover the rent.\n\nSo my assets at the moment are:  \n- 10k in savings (Can't spend more then a thousand or so).  \n- Programming skills (Python, VB.net, HTML, CSS).  \n- More then average computer and networking skills.  \n\nI'm looking for some way to make a monthly income of 400 euros. \nI'm looking for something that doesn't take to much time to operate because college is taking a lot of my free time away. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Need to make \u20ac400/month to pay for dorm rent, please help?"}
{"id": "t3_16obx8", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Going back to tertiary, currently working full-time in a graduate role. How to handle?", "post": "**So I'm in a bit of a (completely self-induced) predicament right now.** Short backstory, I went to university to get a degree for working in a certain field. Earned said degree, ended up in a position of choosing between working in the field I wanted and moving city to live with my (then) girlfriend. I moved. **Picked up a well-paying job in a different field to what I wanted, and I'm not enjoying it.** \n\nI split with the GF a few months ago, and in my following epiphany of realising I shouldn't turn my back on what I love doing most, **I've decided to go back to university to study my field even more indepth** (and network/find such a job where I am now with the extra knowledge I'll pick up).\n\nThing is, **I have to break it to my current work**. It's a corporate job, and I'm working in a graduate role (been there about 9 months). The work's good, but I don't tend to get on too well with people there (they're good people, I'm just super awkward and I don't really feel that I relate to them too well. Maybe it's to do with the work.)\n\nI'm wondering the best route to tackle this. **Course starts in five weeks, and I have to give a month's notice. I'm thinking, I could go to HR and ask if there's any part-time jobs available (while telling them my scenario, of course). If there's not (and I don't believe there is), I'll hand in my resignation a week later. If so, I guess we try and work things out.**\n\nSorry if this sounds like I already answered my own question, I guess my awkwardness around this kinda scenario has me second-guessing a lot. Turns out corporate office-type jobs make me pretty nervous in general. Does this plan sound good? What else would you suggest (if anything)?\n\nThanks in advance. :)", "summary": "read the bold."}
{"id": "t3_2sqmtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M17,F17) My girlfriend's parents dont support our relationship. We've been together for 8 months.", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months now, coming up on 9. Her parents have made it obvious that they do not like me and dont want her to be with me. Their reasoning is that I \"don't have any goals in life and don't have good intentions.\" They only know what my girlfriend has told them, which has all been positive. Last night she said they talked and when she mentioned that I make her happy and am the best thing to ever happen to her, they said \"no he doesn't. He doesn't know what you want and need. He's only trying to gain for himself.\" \n\nI don't have any reason to make they not approve of me. I've always been respectful to them, had her home on time, and even made them a cake for Christmas. I love this girl and don't want to be without her. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Gfs parents don't approve of us, can't prove to them that I have her best interests in mind."}
{"id": "t3_2c34by", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my muslim friend pork", "post": "This was about 2 years ago but its a pretty large fuck up. So that day I had a friend stay over at mine and the morning after we went for some breakfast. Theres a bunch of chinese food stalls near where I live and I recommended them for some noodles. He says \" yeah sure as long as its halal\" ( since he was muslim and infact a strongly devoted one too) . I wasn't thinking and assured him that the food was 100% safe for him to eat. \n\nNext thing were eating the noodles and some pork.He's munching away at the pork with no knowledge that it is actually pig meat. He keeps saying that the food here is amazing and the meat is really really good etc etc. I'm not thinking at the time and only till about a day later I realize that I had pretty much fed him pork. Fuck.", "summary": "Gave my muslim friend pork without him or I knowing. He enjoyed it like no other food he had before."}
{"id": "t3_1jhbsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Appropriate or not for me (26f) to send a message to ex's family thanking them?", "post": "I just got out of a very serious 3 year relationship (planning a wedding) because my ex (25m) was emotionally abusive, a sociopath, and not to mention shallow and obsessive. He was not all of these things when we first met unfortunately, but grew into it overtime.\n\nAnyways, I'm still friends with a lot of his family on facebook and before I remove them I really wanted to thank them for hosting me at their parties and homes. I moved to a place to be with him where I have no family so we frequently spent major holidays with his, and some of them gave me gifts too.\n\nI want to say something like \"Thank you for having me as a guest in your family/events for the past couple years. It's unfortunate that it did not work out between us but I want to extend my appreciation for your generosity and hospitality towards me.\"\n\nOf course I would not mention his issues (as much as I would love to tell his family how horrible of a person he is).\n\nAnyway, is this an appropriate gesture or should I just forget about them?", "summary": "Should I send ex's family a thank you note?"}
{"id": "t3_156yie", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I quit my job to go home for Xmas.", "post": "I work reception in a busy city centre hotel and I hate it. The rates are high enough for a classier hotel further out of town but when people book in they expect five star standard. This makes them incredibly rude, arrogant, demeaning, insulting and, to be honest, cunty. \nI have repeatedly been called a liar, stupid, incompetent and once or twice a thief by guests. Despite the fact I work for min wage and tips on the desk are non-existent I frequently get chewed out for high rates etc when the money is going into someone else's pocket.\nCollege started up again last September as usual and so did the hospitality sectors \"holiday\" period. I was working fifty and sixty hours per week while everyone else went on holiday. Nobody else was asked to do this for some reason. I was also told that come January I would have very little work for two months.\nThe christmas time sheets came out last week and I was down to work xmas eve and day (until 1630 Xmas day & my home is two+ hours away) i was also working new years eve and day. Nobody else got a time sheet close to this and I mentioned it to the boss saying I thought it was unfair when all things were considered. She said she couldn't do anything about it. I thought about my options and decided to go above her.\n\nShe also said there was nothing she could do. I told her that was fine but there was something I could do. I then handed my notice to her and told her I would be with my family on Xmas as it was not worth it to stay. Now they are up shit creek without a paddle and I am almost delighted. They had no problem fucking up my Xmas for themselves so I have no problem fucking up theirs.", "summary": "worked very hard at a job I hate. Was told about a massive reduction in hours to come. Got absolutely clatterfucked for Xmas hours. Quit and fucked them over! Fringe benefit; won't be treated like shit by customers anymore!!!"}
{"id": "t3_2cguuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "29 M with my now ex gf 25 F 1 year relationship...so confused", "post": "My gf and I started dating about a year ago. We met in a foreign city where we both were as ex-pats temporarily. After about 5 months I came back to the US, she returned after 8. We were strong long distance, but once we were both back it wasn't the same. We were hours apart but we would travel to each other on weekends.\n\nThe problem was we no longer had anything in common, we didn't have any mutual friends, and she started picking fights about innocuous things.\n\nIt came to a head a few days ago so we took a break for a few days. When we talked last night we both admitted it was over. We talked about how good things once were, how happy we were that we met each other, and how it was sad to see it end. There was no talk of a possibility of a future.\n\nThen she sent me a message telling me how much she missed me, how she wanted to see me etc etc. I called her and she started by telling me how sad she was to lose me, but now she knew how much I meant. She went on for about an hour saying she knew we were something special. When I offered to meet up with her, she said \"No, I don't want to get back together. I need to find myself. Let's call each other in a month.\"\n\nI told her I can't put my feelings on hold and maybe we shouldn't do that. She said nonchalantly \"Ok.\"...And that was it. Why would she call to build up the possibility of a relationship just to cut it down?\n\nIt's NC from here on out. I'm hurting.", "summary": "Broke up. She messaged me saying she really missed me wanted to meet up with me. Spent an hour telling me she wanted to be with me. I acquiesced, she threw it in my face :*("}
{"id": "t3_jg2ba", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the dumbest thing you have ever done while extremely drunk/intoxicated?", "post": "I'll start: It was my 26th birthday (2008) and my wife and I were hosting a party at my house for the occasion. My wife and I had polished off an entire bottle of tequila by ourselves with small aide from my best friend. I decided that I had to drain the main-vain and accepted the challenge of conquering the two flights of stairs to the bathroom. It probably took me (no joke) 8-10 minutes to make it up the stairs, one conquering step at a time. Once I was up there I had completely forgotten why I came up and felt **really** sick. I laid down on my bed and the spins started coming full-force so I looked for the garbage can next to my bed. I was so drunk that I had accidentally grabbed the fan directly next to the garbage that (of course) was about the same dimensions of the garbage bin and started throwing up into it. Now visualize throwing up full-force into a wall-powered fan. Shit was EVERYWHERE covering myself and my ENTIRE FUCKING BEDROOM. I was cleaning up corn and half-digested chicken for the entire next day.", "summary": "I threw up directly into the middle of a high-powered fan, creating a masterpiece of puke."}
{"id": "t3_3icstk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have been referred for therapy. Do I tell fianc\u00e9 [27M] or surprise him?", "post": "I have had issues with depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember and have been referred for therapy to help me overcome it. I tried once before but I couldn't stick with it but this time I am determined I will because I need to make things better for both of us. \n\nI am torn about telling my fianc\u00e9, I know he would be 100% supportive, as he has been through our whole relationship. I am just worried about disappointing him by failing again. I thought maybe I could do it for a few months and surprise him by telling him and showing him I'm taking action to make myself better. \n\nWhat do you all think? If you were in my/his position would you tell him/want to know?", "summary": "Thinking about surprising my fianc\u00e9 by doing therapy for a few months before telling him, is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2m40e6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of Two years. We'd been dating long distance and He wanted a break", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nSo he just messaged me an hour ago over facebook telling me he misses me like crazy and that he had already bought plane tickets to come surprise me this weekend but wanted to tell me beforehand in case I'd made any plans. I have absolutely no idea how to feel about this. Of course I'm happy to see him and that he missed me but it feels surreal. Over the past few days I'd been seriously considering splitting from him because I wasn't sure I could take it just being on break, not knowing if he was pursuing other women or if he'd already met someone. I figured it would take him months to come back to me if he did at all, but only Two days? Is this a good sign or should we still take a break form each other, because I'm sure the problems he had before aren't just magically gone. Too many feelings over the past few days for me", "summary": "My long distance boyfriend initiated a break on Sunday but ended it today along with the news that he's coming visit this weekend and for some reason I'm still feeling weird"}
{"id": "t3_1fct3q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We like each other [22M, 19F] but she can't seem to completely break up with her mistreating BF.", "post": "Known each other for a few months but only got to really know each other in the last month or so. We've hung out a couple times and the chemistry was just crazy. We know that we're attracted to each other and yet we can talk to each other like friends.\n\nHer BF treats her like shit. He's garbage. Eats her food, asks her to replace his lost phone (she said no), and manipulates her (trying to make her guilt trip). It's an on and off relationship (2-3 months) and living in the same dorm definitely doesn't help her and makes emotions magnified.\n\nWhat can I do? I don't want to directly influence any decisions.", "summary": "Like this girl, pretty sure she likes me too. But she can't break it off with her mistreating BF."}
{"id": "t3_28ee8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeing my [21M] girlfriend [21F] for the first time in a few months, I want to make it special. Help me out?", "post": "Hey guys, I've been separated from my girlfriend for a long time and she misses me a lot, we've been together for 3 years. I told her that I'd be coming to visit her this weekend and spending time with her so she isn't alone at school during the summer term.\n\nI really want to make this special and make her the happiest girl in the world. She means everything to me.\n\nMy current plan is to take a train down to see her tomorrow (she expects me this weekend or at the end of it, I hope to surprise her with an early visit and then go with her to her nieces baby shower). I'm in the process of painting her something to give her and I don't know what else to do to make the occasion really special for her. If you were in the situation what would you want a guy to do?\nAny suggestions on how I can make this the best surprise visit ever?", "summary": "Planning a surprise visit for my SO, what can I do to make it truly special for her?"}
{"id": "t3_2dggxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25M] thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend[26F] of four years cause she fooled around with a guy for two weeks behind my back", "post": "Background:\nWe have been together for four years, living together for two. We moved to a new city together and I think we have started to build a pretty great life for ourselves. Neither of us make much money, but we're comfortable. She is a singer and plays in bands, I teach sailing. We play in the same ten person band and it is awesome. \n\nCurrent events: \nSo three weeks ago my girlfriend started hanging out with a bartender in Mexico where she plays gigs. They danced, kissed and facebooked each other for a solid two weeks, nonstop, until I found out a week ago. She tried to have a conversation about our relationship and I could tell something was wrong. She says she is unsure if she ever actually loved me, and is not sexually attracted to me anymore. Needless to say, I was heartbroken and crushed. \n\nI looked through her facebook messages (which I felt horrible about doing) because I felt so betrayed and I wanted to know why. The more I found out the more I got hurt (obviously). She lied to me for two weeks straight, even to the point where she didn't come home one night because she stayed out all night dancing with the guy. She showed up at 6am saying she was just drinking with her band mates and couldn't drive home. She lied straight to my face. \n\nNow I can't help wonder whether she is a cheater who will hurt me again if we are able to make it work some how, or is it even worth trying if she is so unsure and I don't want to be treated in such a hurtful way. Basically I don't know what to do: I am a rational and forgiving person who could probably get over it and continue to love her, but she is unsure she wants to stay and commit to anything. I don't want to throw away four years of what I thought was a really fun, giving, constructive relationship.", "summary": "My long time girlfriend of four years isn't sure she's in love with me and lied for two weeks about a romantic interest in Mexico. I know this situation isn't uncommon, but I can't figure out what to do even though I think I know the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_xukmw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I wrong to try to limit the amount of skin my girlfriend shows?", "post": "My girlfriend has always worn very revealing clothes (Very short shorts, low cut shirt, tanktops, and the like) and has had problems with guys staring, groping her, flirting and even as far as slapping her ass. (We're in highschool by the way)Am I wrong to ask her to try to wear less revealing clothes to try to limit that kind of response from other males? The problems always decrease and even disappear completely when she wears jeans or reasonable shorts instead of short shorts or yoga pants and a tee shirt or blouse. But when I ask her to wear different clothes she says I am worrying too much about it, or we have a little spat and both get kinda pissy and it's really starting to get to be a big problem.", "summary": "Girlfriend gets harassed for wearing revealing clothes, am I wrong to ask her to wear different styles of clothing?"}
{"id": "t3_1j4bzn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] My boyfriend [23/m) is looking at pornographic images while I'm sitting in the room with him. Am I wrong in finding this disrespectful?", "post": "I want to make it clear that I have come to terms with the fact that my boyfriend masturbates to porn frequently. I have done everything I can to try to accommodate this into our relationship, but he's not interested. I get that we all need some \"me-time\" every so often and I will be the first to admit that I will masturbate when he leaves the house sometimes, so I am fully aware of the reasons why even people in happy sexual relationships masturbate a lot. I refuse to be a hypocrite about this so I have worked very hard to be understanding. \n\nBut today, I was just casually playing", "summary": "I don't mind my boyfriend watching porn but I caught him today looking at pornographic images while I'm in the room with him, and that upsets me. Is it reasonable for me to be upset? Do guys do this often?"}
{"id": "t3_4l8g8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my _best friend__ [27 F] duration 14yrs, I am always the one initiating texts", "post": "My friend and I took a break a few yrs ago because I was feeling like I was sending out a lot her way, and she either didn't respond or only replied to things instead of initiating conversations.  i felt like a clingy person who maybe had too many needs and we stopped talking for 2 yrs.  \nthen we start talking again and ya know she's my best friend and she says i'm her's but like the cycle is repeating itself again.  \ni see a long stream of green messages from me to her spread over time and i start to feel clingy again.  \n\nso i address it and ask if i'm texting too much and she just says that she doesn't really initiate it but she will respond.\nin my opinion, i want to share things with her and i feel like she should want to share with me more.\n\nso my question is this..\nis it completely normal to have a relationship where one person initiates text pretty much all the time?", "summary": "can unequal texting be normal and not a sign of unequal affections?"}
{"id": "t3_41qb73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my SO[29 F] 2 months, she suffers from bio polar and her family has a history of mental health problems", "post": "My written English isn't the best. Please ask for any clarification and I'll respond. I've been dating Julie for about two months and have known her for over a year. She's had boyfriend and I girlfriends but there was a connection. We both were recently single and were talking and one thing lead to another. Now fast forward two months till now. Everything is great but she is showing signs of bi polar disorder. She is intensely happy and excited to the point I start to worry. She sleeps all day and wakes up grogy at one in the afternoon. Three weeks ago she was sleeping very little and was getting pretty moody. All the sex and the dire for it changes from week to week.  I have to walk in egg shells in order for her not to snap at me. She doesn't use medicine. But self medicated with pot and sometimes alchol. My question is does anyone have any history with this disorder? How do I apporch her about her disorder? Also when she snaps how do I respond. Currently I just walk away and when we get into arguments I just walk away. I'm no peach either. I have a past and I have problems from it. But I'm a better person and I'm working on bettering my issues.", "summary": "new girlfriend suffers from bi polar disorder, self medicates and her reactions differ according to her mood. does anyone have any history with this disorder or significant other suffer from it etc? How do I apporch her about her reactions?"}
{"id": "t3_n0w5o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Difficulties with a different college, long distance relationship", "post": "I am finishing up the last week of fall quarter of my second year as an undergrad.  I am in a long distance relationship, eight hours apart.  The college I attend was my first choice for college, though I never had any real reason to want to attend, I just wanted to.  My boyfriend's college is also his first choice.  I was accepted into both.  They are both fantastic colleges, his even being ranked higher than mine.  However, when after talking it over, we decided that me moving away for college, the college I originally wanted to attend would be the best option.  I was to go to his school, and we were to break up, I would feel silly choosing a college over a boy, he would feel guilty for allowing me to make that choice, and overall we would feel awful.  So we decided on doing the long distance thing.\n\nWe have been going out for over three and a half years, and the last year has been difficult.  But we have survived and are even better than before.  Our relationship seems solid.  We do have issues, and they are often exacerbated by the long distance, but we trudge on.  However, through it all, I feel so guilty for putting our relationship through this.  It seems as though this is a relationship that will last, and it would make life ten times easier if we had been in the same school.  He always blames me for the problems we have, because I chose to move away.  I dont really know how to deal with it.  How can I help him move past the decision, and on to fixing the problems that do arise instead of blaming me for my collegiate decision?\n\nSorry for the long post.  It just keeps getting difficult.", "summary": "Chose a far away college, how to help bf get over that \"selfish\" decision to better strengthen our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_27ahqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) think depression/sadness is getting in the way of my relationship with my gf (22f) of 4 months", "post": "I've not been in a relationship for about 3 years. The last one ended poorly put while I was in it, it was very passionate. Before and after this relationship I've been going to a therapist for some mild form of depression.\n\nFast forward to the beginning of 2014. It seems over the past two years or so depression has gotten worse and everything seems pointless. I decided I couldn't do the single lifestyle any more and found this girl who is very intelligent, kind, pretty, funny. I found out she had an eating disorder and depression and we've been able to talk about these things which has been helpful to both of us, I think. While this girl has been great, I'm not feeling the same spark with her as I was the ex. I know this girlfriend likes me a lot, but I think if she said \"I love you,\" I would freak out because I don't feel that way. I mean, I care for her and respect her and don't want to hurt her, but it's just not as much positive feeling or passion as I know I can be capable of. I bounce back and forth multiple times a week or day on if I should end things with her or not because of a lack of feelings on my part. The thing is that it would be through no fault of her own. What do you think?", "summary": "I don't feel as strongly for my gf as I think I should even though she is great. History of depression and not a lot of positive feelings."}
{"id": "t3_45shqd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best option for buying a new car?", "post": "I am just curious about one thing and that is the best way to go about financing my purchase, more specifically getting the loan. For anyone who is curious, the reason I want to buy new is because I plan to start a family in the near future and want something that falls into place with that and can get my fiance and I to work daily.\n\nIf my fiance and I both have limited credit histories (almost 2 years for me, 1 year for her) and scores in the very high 600s, low to mid 700s, would it make sense for her to cosign on a loan with me or should I ask a family member with a more extensive credit history? We have already looked over our finances extensively and decided upon what we can afford together since we are getting married this year, but I just want to know what makes sense in regards to applying for our auto loan. I am looking to get the best interest rate and more than likely looking into a 72 month loan (lower payments but I will pay it off before the term is up).\n\nThe dealer I am looking into has a financing program that gives a 500$ discount to recent grads (Honda), but should I look to get my loan from a bank I have a history with (Wells Fargo) or even joining a local Credit Union since they give the lowest rates? \n\nAlso, if it helps, I am going to be making about a 20% downpayment depending on how much I can afford later this year (already have a good portion saved in a separate account) and I am aiming for an OTD price of $30,000 - $32,000 when I begin negotiations.\n\nThanks in advance guys.", "summary": "Should someone who has a limited credit history cosign a loan for someone else who has a limited credit history to get a better rate?"}
{"id": "t3_32njtg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After dating for 7 months, I [25F] am fed up with him [28M] not putting equal effort into the relationship. Is this a deal breaker?", "post": "I am a very motivated and independent woman. I am super outgoing and have anxiety if I have to stay at home for too long. I love going on outdoor adventures and planning trips. \nI've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. He is smart and also independent, but very much a homebody. He is content watching tv and staying home. This difference is an issue for me so much I am contemplating whether to stay with him or not. He lives 30 minutes from me and I find myself driving to see him about 75% of the time. I feel bad for wanting/needing more than he does. I also get angry when he is unwilling to make plans that involve him being away from home for more than one night. I am also a very active person and feel like I need a mate to go hiking and go to the gym with me. \n\nI am not ready to settle down, I purely want a partner in crime. When we do spend time together, I love our conversations, we have fun, are very comfortable with one another. The sex with him is leaps and bounds better with him than any of my previous boyfriends, and I feel like he truly appreciates my physical self more so than any other relationship I've been in. I just want to be able to take the fun that we have laying in bed/sitting at home, and be able to get outside without having to feel bad/guilty/etc...\n\nI talked to him about this issue about 2 months ago. He has gone on a 2 weekend trips with me, but it pisses me off when we're leaving somewhere and he is constantly reminding me about when he has to be back. It's hard for me to let go and enjoy a trip when he does that, and then I think we'd be better off not even going. It's a catch 22. \n\nIs this a deal breaker? If not, how do I broach this subject for a second time and what language do I use to better communicate my needs the second time around. I do love him, but I am so frustrated and unhappy with this situation.", "summary": "Boyfriend a major homebody and I need to be constantly adventuring. Dealbreaker or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1hzmhe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] found a hair that wasn't mine in my SO's [25/M] bed.", "post": "Not really much to tell. We have only been dating about two months, but quickly started staying the night with each other, almost every night. I haven't went over for about 2-3 days just because our work schedules conflict.. This morning when he was still asleep I notice a rather long hair on *my* pillow. Now, I have short light brown hair. This particular strand was much longer than mine and darker.\n\nHow do I confront this? I don't have the hair in question. I'm pretty afraid that even if there is by some chance an honest explanation that I will have a hard time trusting him now. Is there any chance at all there is a plausible answer besides  cheating? Any and all answers are welcome.", "summary": "Found a hair that I dont recognize in boyfriend's bed. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3d02s4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] and my GF [29 F] Got in a fight over weight", "post": "Hi Peoples of reddit.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been having a pretty rough time lately (constant arguments in which she ends up with a bad case of acid tongue and starts calling me quite frankly vile names) and today she's decided she no longer wants me around because I asked about her weight.\n\nShe weighed herself this morning and came out with \"ugh\" so I asked what was wrong and what the scales said. She shouted at me for it, so I made a guess and got the figure correct. \nI proceeded to tell her how it didn't matter what weight she is because she looks amazing and that, although society conditions us through media to believe weight matters, that it doesn't and to not worry about what the scales say.\n\nThis apparently makes me a C***, A**h*** as well as every other name you can think of that \"doesn't appreciate her feelings\" etc.\n\nNow naturally I think this is a massive overreaction to a simple question and me attempting to comfort her and tell her how great I think she looks.", "summary": "GF flipped out because I asked about weight and wants to break up about it."}
{"id": "t3_3kwzmu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I sell my rental property?", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinance,\n\nI own a condo that I bought in 2008, and initially lived in myself, but have been renting out ever since I moved away in 2010 for a better job. Between the rent, the property management fees, the mortgage payment, PMI, and HOA fees, I estimate that I am paying about $250-300 per month to own this property.\n\nThe tenants in the property for the past couple years are so pleased with it that they're working with a real estate agency (the same I used when buying it) to make me an offer on it. I still don't know the number that they will be offering, but my concern is how to really process that number. There seems to be so much at play:\n\n* Tax breaks I've gotten and continue to get for paying a mortgage\n* Property management fees I've paid over the past 5 years\n* Property tax I've paid over the past 7 years\n* All the mortgage interest that's been paid\n* Taxes that would be assessed as part of the sale\n* 3% agency fees that I'd have to pay for\n* The rent that I didn't have to pay when I was living in the unit, that I would have had to if I hadn't bought it\n\nCan anyone help me figure out how to really quantify the impact that selling it would have? I should also say that I'm in a financially strong position and that owning the property does not put me under any strain. I'd really like to be able to run the numbers and see what it looks like before making a decision one way or the other.\n\nIf it helps to provide specifics about the mortgage and the other costs then say so in the comments and I will.", "summary": "I don't know how to figure out whether I'm losing money by selling my rental property to the tenants who live in it now, how do I reconcile all the factors?"}
{"id": "t3_s2x9i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are some girls completely OK with being pregnant, even if it was with someone they barely know.", "post": "I know a decent amount of girls (mostly from high school, but no always) that wouldn't be too alarmed if they just got pregnant.  They would just keep the kid and raise it. For example, I almost got my ex-girlfriend pregnant once and we discussed the situation and she basically told me if she it happened she would just keep the kid and would basically just let her life flip upside-down. This whole time I was just thinking WTF is wrong with you.  One of my best friends almost got a girl pregnant, turned out she lied about being pregnant so he would have sex with her unprotected and make it really happen.  I also know this girl who I've known since 7th grade (I'm 21 now) got pregnant after knowing her boyfriend for about a month, now they are living together and think everything will end up ok.\n\nReddit what is your opinion on this?", "summary": "I know several girls/women who are completely ok with being pregnant and having no plans. ETC"}
{"id": "t3_4a5015", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend/crush [16 F], friends for about 1.6 years, want to know if risking the friendship for a relationship is worth it", "post": "So I like this girl who I've had a sort of on and off friendship with for a year and a half now. Everytime it's on I develop feelings to some extent and now it's undeniable.\n\nWhen I talk to her we talk a lot about politics and philosophy and the sort, and when it's just the two of us, the conversation always gets sexual. Not directly, but like what we've done, what we like, etc. \n\nI learned that she doesn't do this with most of her friends, but at the same time, she is normally very physical (touchy-feely) with her friends and she's not with me.\n\nI've been told she's trying to get over her ex still, and can definitely tell she has depression and engages in worrying and problematic behaviors at times. I want to be in a better position to help her.\n\nI tried to start texting her a couple of weeks ago. The first conversation went pretty well but the next time I tried she didn't text back. I don't know if that is due to lack of interest or other reasons.\n\nAlso I want to know how to get her want more than just sexual things, because it's possible that, if she likes me at all, she only wants that based on our conversations. (Or she could just be comfortable with me, who knows?)\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Like a girl, girl talks to me about philosophy and sex, is still getting over her ex, has depression and I want to help her. Is it worth it to try and date her?"}
{"id": "t3_hk6ci", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Screwed over by PC repair shop. I've lost 100$+ and loads of time. What should I do?", "post": "Hey all. I recently took my self built computer to a PC repair shop because it had problems starting up. I figured it was either the video card or motherboard. So, I took it to a local PC repair shop so they could figure out what is wrong with it. I would call them about every week or so to see if they had figured it out. It took them nearly 2 MONTHS to figure out that the problem was with the motherboard. Anyway, I order the motherboard (80$) and once it arrives I take it to them and ask them to install the motherboard into the computer. It took them only 3 hours for them to call me and tell me that the motherboard is ACTUALLY FINE and that the video card is the actual problem. I talked to the guy and he told me that they would double check and they would give me a call tomorrow morning.\n\nI clearly got the shaft on this deal. And i'm out 80$ for the new motherboard and 60$ for what they are charging me for diagnostics and installation. I've also been without my computer for 2 months. Both of which I did not need. I know of some pretty good ways to bitch them out. But, I also feel like I should be compensated for somehow. Which thats where my problem lies. Should I ask them for free service and have them pay for the return of the motherboard? And how do I go about asking for this? And what if they say no when I ask them for some kind of compensation? I've never done anything like this before. HELP!", "summary": "Broken computer sent to PC repair shop. They told me it was the motherboard. I bought a new motherboard. Took it back to the repair shop to have it installed. They called me later telling me that it is the video card that is the actual problem (not the mobo). What should I do so this is made better?"}
{"id": "t3_45atp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28/F] FWB [29/M] told me he loves me", "post": "I'm super confused as to why he would ever say something like that? Is this a common thing for men to say they love someone they're hooking up with? What is the point? He said it while we were about to go to sleep so I pretended I was asleep and didn't hear.\n\nFor context, he has told me several times he would never date me, how I am not his type, he will frequently talk about other girls he is actually dating, etc etc. I've known him for about a year so its not like we are really good friends to the point he would randomly tell me he loves me and mean it as a friend type thing would it?", "summary": "FWB told me he loves me even though he said he would never seriously date me. What was the point?"}
{"id": "t3_1x1g7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 8 months, she is lying to me about alking to other guys", "post": "Hey! I have a bit of an issue with my current girlfriend. We have had some problems with her not wanting to tell me stuff because she doesn't want to \"create problems\". Small stuff like she sending pictures a lot with another guy on snapchat, and telling me that she isn't. When I found out, I told her that it didn't matter to me if she talked to other guys as long as she was being honest to me about doing it, and that she was faithful to me.\n\nProblem is that she is currently on a backpacking trip in South-East Asia, and she keeps telling me that she isn't talking to any other guys. Thing is I know her FB password, and I have seen her talking to other guys, only harmless stuff, like partying together etc. I keep telling her that as long as she is honest with me, I don't care if she is talking to guys. I am starting to get suspicious about why she doesn't want me to know that she is talking to theses guys.\n\nMy question is: Why does she keep lying to me, even though I have made it very clear that I am okay with her talking to other guys? Should I be suspicious, and is this some kind of \"red flag\"?", "summary": "Girlfriend is lying to me about talking to boys, even though I have made it clear that i'm ok with it. What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2eic84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17F] best friend [18F] of 9 years died about 12 hours ago, what do I do?", "post": "We met in the fourth grade, we spent every day together for a year and a half before I had to move cross country (summer before grade 6). We kept in touch, speaking almost every day. The last time I saw her (and only time since the last day of school in grade 5) was May of 2013. She was healthy then. \n\nNine months ago, she was diagnosed with a heart/lung condition and was given 7 years to live originally. As her condition progressed, she quickly lost time off of that estimate. Three days ago I got a message from her informing me that she needed a double lung transplant and open heart surgery, without it she would only be able to live between 6 months and 2 years more. I found out 5 hours ago that she passed away. \n\nShe was a compassionate, loving, goofy, accepting,  selfless human being. She was beautiful inside and out. I loved her more than anyone in the world and she was like family to me when my own family wasn't.  I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My best friend passed away yesterday after being diagnosed with between 6 months and 2 years to live only 3 days ago. I am at a loss."}
{"id": "t3_3l9ln1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my father [50M], stressing me out with irresponsible lifestyle.", "post": "My father is very irresponsible. I will only go into detail about his most recent happenings, but he has a history of seeing himself as a victim, blaming everyone else for bad things that happen to him, very poor financial decisions, along with anger issues. He doesn't live with room mates very long because they inevitably get into a fight.He is always on dating web services.\n\nWhat happened: He was living with his brother and they got into a fight. Dad got kicked out. He apparently had been talking to this lady in Ontario ( from Alberta), and just decided to move over there and live with her. Never met her in person, was convinced she was the one. Moved out there and of course both of them were not exactly the people they said they were.She kicked him out after about a month. He had previously ( and stupidly), given her his pin to his debit. He doesn't have a lot of money, but she cleaned him out. Because he gave her his pin the police can do nothing. He is now currently living with me back in Alberta. I am 22/F, newly married, both my husband and I are in school. He really stresses me out with all his problems and inability to hold a job. The agreement is that he could stay one month. He still doesn't have a job and literally $0. He has only 2 weeks until his time with us is up. I don't want to force my dad out because he has nowhere to go, but enough is enough. I think it is really unfair what he does to everyone around him by being so irresponsible all of the time ( remember this is only his latest doing).\n\nAm I a bad daughter if I stand firm by his due date? I almost wonder if I should contact this woman and tell her ( civilly), how much stress she has caused not just him, but me. Asking her to please give him back what is his. I am under no illusions that he was totally innocent in their relationship, but stealing his money was unfair.\nAny advice?", "summary": "Irresponsible father, stressing his young daughter out with his problems, need advice?"}
{"id": "t3_35snp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I'm talking to this guy. There's an eighteen year difference. He's forty-two and I'm twenty-three..", "post": "We met through his band. I added him on facebook because of his band. As is with certain genres, he added me. I tagged him in a post asking for advice, and he called me that same night. We had a pretty in-depth conversation. \n\nThe craziest thing is we share so much. He has a depth I have never seen before in anyone else. Which is perfect because I have a depth. We can talk about the deepest shit, and it's totally normal. We share religion. We share music interests. He still dreams. The man still dreams. I have never met someone I have shared so much with. For someone of his age, he is still so young. He has a hunger for life that I just love. He is always going somewhere, and that is usually the beach. \n\nThe best thing is he has no kids. No offense, but it would be awkward if he did. Let's face it, I would only be ten years older or so than his kids. But he doesn't. \n\nThe bottom line is that despite this difference, we resonate. Our spirits are the same. We are the same person. I want so bad to be with him. I can imagine life with him. He knows I like him. And he hasn't run screaming. In fact, he is speaking to me a bit more since he found it. So I'm taking that as a good sign.", "summary": "I am a twenty-four year old woman speaking to a forty-two year old man. And I have fallen hard and fast, yet we've only been speaking for two months. The age difference is my only concern."}
{"id": "t3_1jh5a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23M] with my GF [23F] 2.5 Years, She is upset at how I spend my money.", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nI need some advice because my girlfriend is upset over me not spending my money on buying her an expensive gift for her 23rd Birthday. \n\nRight now I am unemployed and use the little money I get from completing focus groups and doing random freelance work for the basic necessities like gas, food, school, and her 8 year old niece's birthday present. \n\nShe argues that I should rather be spending it on her present since she is my girlfriend and that I only spend on myself. But that is not true - I take her out to eat a lot. And I am upset because she is very spoiled by her parents, has it all, is in grad school, and can spend her parents money without her getting upset. While my parents are poor and I have to survive on my own.  \n\nFor her birthday I bought her a birthday cake at midnight $25 with toy flowers, card, candles and cooked her a nice dinner that she didn't even appreciate because she says she had already eaten, also spent $70 on her birthday in drinks and food. And I give her a dozen roses at least once a month. \n\nIt upsets me that she thinks that I spend my money on me when I can honestly swear that I never spend any money on myself until recently that I decided to pay for a $30 police exam and a $10 foid card, and my $50 gym membership.\n\nWhat is wrong here? :(\n\nI told her I would talk to her later and that I didn't want to speak on the phone because I was really upset and would snap. She hung up on me and said Fuck you.  \n\nShe argues that she spent a lot on my birthday but she only got me workout gloves and a card.", "summary": "Spoiled Gf wants bday gift, no care for other necessities or people."}
{"id": "t3_wic8p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit we have had bad cop and good cop, but what are some of your strange and hilarious encounters with cops?", "post": "So last night I had been hanging out with a friend and at the end of the night he drove me home. We had been having a discussion on the way there so when we got to my house we just continued to sit in the car and talk.  We sat and talked for maybe 20 minutes.  I think what happen next will be in my best night category for awhile.  Now mind you I do live in an urban area, but on the edge of a nicer neighborhood so while there are nice people in my neighborhood there are also a lot of shady people lurking around.  So our conversation is winding down and I'm getting my stuff together to hop out of the car and leave when not just one but **two** cop cars pull up behind us.  My friend and I turn to each other with the stare of WTF, because all we have been doing is sitting and talking, I mean really we still have our seat belts on! So an officer comes up to window and asks what we are doing, I explain that I live in one of these houses and my friend explains that he was just dropping me off, but we have been talking in the car.  The cop smiles and says, \"yeah I didn't really think anything was up, but we got a call from one of your neighbors who thought there were some shady looking people parked on the street shooting up dope. Can I just see your IDs just to verify though.\" So we hand him our IDs and he just glances at them and hands them back with a, \"I'm sorry about all this guys, you have a goodnight.\" After that they pull off in there cars and my friend and I just sit there dumbfounded, shooting up dope, really...\nTo end the story now me and my friend promise that whenever we want to hang out we will text each other asking if we should go shoot up some dope.", "summary": "my neighbor called the cops on me and my friend, thinking we were shooting up dope in his car"}
{"id": "t3_p4j3j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New to dating, am I in the wrong?", "post": "So, Reddit. I'm 24 and Male. Since 16 I've gone from girlfriend and relationship directly into new girlfriend and relationship. Falling out of one and into another. Recently I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years and I determined that I was going to take some time to myself and some time to date and \"play the field\". It's been 7 months since the complete termination of my previous coupling. Around two months ago I started talking to, spending time with and sleeping with a young lady who I find rather fetching. We both voiced a lack of desire of a \"facebook\" official relationship and our want of freedom, low expectations, etc. I do \"like her\", as juvenile as that (and all of this) sounds. And I could definitely see being in a monogamous relationship, and she has mentioned similar leanings recently. Lets call her Girl A.\nNow. Here is the complication. \nNot seeing myself as \"taken\"  in any capacity, I continued to wander around flirting and generally having fun and putting myself out there. \nOver the past 3 weeks I've been seeing another girl as well. Read seeing as actions mentioned before.\nBoth of them has different personalities and physical characteristics. \nNow here is my issue. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING.\nI don't want to stop seeing either of them and but I don't entirely feel right seeing the both at the same time. Both of them have been making leanings towards a relationship and I don't want a serious, concrete relationship right now. Despite that I could see myself with either of them.  I've never dated and I've never really been pursued I'm lost in the haze of person interest, minor feelings and fear of damaging others.", "summary": "Normally a one woman, old school, monogamist. Dating/Seeing 2 very different girls that are both relationship material. Both seem to be leaning towards that. LOST"}
{"id": "t3_4cg3dv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I (29 M) starting to feel oneitis on a girl (27 F) but haven't seen for about 3 months", "post": "Well like the title says, I believe I'm starting to feel oneities for this girl I met on the gym some long time ago, the matter or issue, don't know how to look at this, is that we haven't seen each other for about 3 months.\n\nI've been thinking about her a lot, even though I have invited her to get coffee sometime, she never accepted because she was always busy on weekends with some other friends or family, and days between the week, well, she came to the gym and that's the only time we chatted in person, other interactions were just texting.\n\nI dated another girl and go out with some friends after I changed of gym at January, but recently started to think about this girl in particular.\n\nAs I said before I'm starting to think is some kind of oneities, because we never dated and rarely text or chat, I don't believe that is love. But why after so much time without contact.\n\nSorry if it isn't the correct place to post this, and for some typos, but this situation is starting to make me lose opportunities on meeting new girls, being a lurker here, well I thought this might be where I can get some help.\n\nThanks for reading!!", "summary": "I started to think about a girl a meet sometime ago and believe its starting to become oneities, missed opportunities to date other girls because thinking on her, even though, we haven't text nor seen each other for about 3 months, don't know what to do, some advice would be helpful, thanks."}
{"id": "t3_jjt3v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "More links to videos and quotes like these please?", "post": "I have this nervous feeling some large amount of redditors might soon explain to me that this is not the best place to post this, but it sure seems like a good place right now.\n\nI started gathering material that all seemed to be coming from an \"Intellectual Sustainability\" angle. In particular, ways of building systems outside of intellectual property laws, the apparent revolution where people are moving from being passive consumers of information to active participants of some kind, and stuff that seems to coalesce, to me at least.\n\nThe site is HERE:\n\nCan you guys suggest any links to media that you think fits this vibe? I'm just looking for more material to post and consume. So, I do have a motive here. Ultimately, this is a first step in trying to write a story around this stuff. I figured Reddit would have lots of folks who can point me to good stuff. *crosses fingers", "summary": "Look at this website:  - do you have any links to content that fits that vibe?"}
{"id": "t3_3q9t9z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hitting a kid in the spine", "post": "Its 2:00 AM as I write this and just thinking about it makes my stomach a little queasy. \n\nToday was my first time surfing ever even though I have done quite a bit of stand up paddle boarding. My balance on the water is quite good and my teacher was quite good so after only five attempts I managed to catch a decent wave. For about 3 seconds it was the largest rush I've ever gotten from being on the water. Then I saw the kid. He was sitting on his board about 10 ft directly in front of me right in the middle of the surf zone. Then I realized that my teacher never told me how to turn sharply.\n\nohfuck.jpeg\n\nI yelled 'watch out' and immediately bailed from the board and he turned just in time for him to see my board ram him right in the spine at full speed. I popped up from the water to swam over to him and ask if he was ok. He whispered that he was fine and immediately paddled into shore. \n\nI get out of the water and find him next to his dad to see if he's alright. His dad is scolding him about being in the surf zone and for looking at the shore. Poor kid looks white as a ghost and I'm pretty sure he is gonna puke.\n\nAfter being reassured by his dad that he's gonna be alright I walk away and that's when I noticed that my [foot] hurt. First time surfing 8/10.", "summary": "First wave I ever caught leads to my first spine slam."}
{"id": "t3_17ow7e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've [23F] recently begun a romantic relationship with my SO [26m] - total dream come true - but unsure of his feelings.", "post": "I'm really confused, any advice at all would be appreciated.\n\nSo. We started out as good friends/best friends for the last year or so, and we've only just agreed to pursue each other romantically (it's only been about a month). \n\nHe's already become quite attached, and is (mostly) convinced that I'm the one for him. I can't say that I'm quite as attached, but things have definitely progressed a lot faster than I expected. Despite all that, I find it hard to believe he feels the way he does, considering that when I first expressed my interest (not too long ago), he responded in kind but was not entirely sure how he felt about me/didn't feel ready to pursue a relationship. He came around soon enough and made up his mind, but I can't stop thinking of his initial doubts.\n\nI'm just really confused because I was burnt badly in my last relationship - he lied a LOT, used me, but was also loving? - and I REALLY don't want the same thing happening to me again. Especially because my current interest is an amazing individual, and I can't understand how I got so lucky.\n\nI don't know if I'm carrying over TOO many remnants of my bad experience into this relationship, or if I am just being cautious by putting my feelings on hold until I can determine how true his are.  I feel like a horrible person for doubting him, even though he tries to prove himself and is very much a sweetheart.", "summary": "Beginning a new relationship, things are moving fast, unsure of his devotion/feelings. Am I a jerk for wanting proof?"}
{"id": "t3_13exde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One of my best friends [17F] may love me [17M].", "post": "Not sure how to start, so I'll just tell it as it occurs to me. This girl is truly one of my best friends, and I love her in that respect immensely. We are very open with each other and are aware that physically, we find one another attractive.\n\n On friday night, as we were both fairly drunk (don't chastise for the age, in our country legal drinking from 16) she turned to me and seemed like she was trying to say something else, but in the end just said \"whatever, I dont care, I dont care, can we just hook up\" and so we did. This night, however, was a bit of an odd one, as we were with a few other friends, and several were making out already. So I went for it, and hooked up with another friend afterwards as well. A probably relevant detail is that at a party a few weeks ago we also made out, but accepted it as being nothing.\n\nThat was fine, and it seemed that there was no problem, however I later saw the girl looking at me oddly and we hooked up again, with her initiating. also when we all crashed at another friends house, she came to sleep next to me. The major complications arise in the fact that a few months ago I broke up with a long term gf who is one of this girl's closest friends.\n\nFurthermore, recently (for about 2 months) I have had a bit of a thing with another girl, but nothing serious. On friday she also mentioned that and it seemed she was sad about it, though I assumed it was just because she was sad about something else (unrelated, I wont go into it). I then asked another friend who was there that night, who is very close with both of us if the girl loved me, and she said \"of course, its obvious\" but she may have been meaning friend-love. So I am not looking for anything with this girl, and she knows that nothing can happen, but what do I do? acknowledge that she has romantic feelings and I dont? Or am I just misinterpreting everything (entirely possible)?", "summary": "Best friend may possibly love me, dont want to mess up our friendship, what do I do? Also I may just be misinterpreting."}
{"id": "t3_248z3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused on what to do in this really complicated situation between me (22/F) and my ex (22/M)", "post": "I've been dating this guy since December, so it's only been a couple of months. But within those four months, we got so close and my feelings for him grew so, so strong. I've been really careful as to who I date and who I give my heart to because I've been hurt badly, and obviously I'm just trying to protect myself from going through something like that again. \n\nWe've had some amazing times together, but we fought a lot. We both wanted different things. He didn't want a relationship, but I did and that caused us a lot of problems. The other day, I was using his phone and a girl texted him (it was 3:30 AM) and I got really mad because I thought it was really disrespectful for him to be talking to another girl at 3:30 in the morning while he was with me. Looking back to it, I realize how stupid that was of me and it could have been easily fixed, but when I confronted him about it, he deleted the texts. That made me lose any trust I had in him. He claims that he only deleted it because he didn't want to deal with it and that there was nothing to hide. It was strictly platonic, but I just can't believe that. If there was nothing to hide, there is absolutely no reason to delete the texts. \n\nAnyways, he broke it off with me last night and I was completely devastated. I felt lost and incomplete. I don't know how to deal with the break up. It would be easier if I didn't have to see him every day, but we're in the same club and it requires us to talk and see each other pretty much every day. I don't know what to do and how to deal. How am I supposed to get over this when I have to see/talk to him every day? Seeing him today really hurt me, especially because he just completely acted as if I didn't exist.", "summary": "Guy I was dating broke it off, but we're in the same club and it's required that we talk/see each other pretty much every day. Devastated about us ending and I don't know how to deal with seeing him everyday."}
{"id": "t3_m892x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst \"First world problem\" story?", "post": "I'll start. \n\nTonight I went out with one of my roommates to eat at a new restaurant. Turns out it was awesome: TONS of beer on tap, awesome food (I devoured the Sausage and Shrimp platter), and there was a TV at every table. Needless to say, I've found my new place to go to watch away football games. \n\nMy friend and I get in the car to drive home and we're both talking about how stuffed we are. We both have eaten so much, too much, that we almost feel sick. We laugh about it and and head home. Then my phone rings. It's my mom. I go to college in the same town that I graduated high school and it turns out that I was supposed to eat supper tonight with the family and spend some time with them. \n\nI tell her that, yes I'd forgotten due to being busy with schoolwork but that I'm on my way now. I proceed to speedily drop my roommate off, wash my hands and brush my teeth of Cajun spices and then head over to my parent's house to eat with them so that they don't feel worse than they already do for having their son forget about dinner with them. \n\nI think I'm about to throw up having just eaten two full meals...", "summary": "I am about to throw up because I was forced to eat two full and wonderful meals so as not to upset my family."}
{"id": "t3_x89cl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone know how to find a personal e-mail for a producer?", "post": "I am at the end of the road. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about ending my life and how I would do it. I was scheduled to be enrolled in a mental/behavioral outpatient program starting Monday. Then I got fired from my job. I'm getting dropped from my insurance. I had to cancel my registration. My dogs are the only thing keeping me here. I could find them a home. A beautiful life on a farm chasing rabbits and digging holes. Laying in the sun and rolling in deer poop. That makes me think about my life long dream. I want to open a shelter. A shelter for people and animals where they can go to live out their final days, or until they find something better, or until they can get on their feet enough to make it on their own. I want to call it The Farm. From lost without a cause to the terminally ill, I want to provide a place where people and animals can find themselves in the harmony and beauty of a relationship with each other. \nI lost my job Friday and found out today that I no longer have insurance. Against my better judgement and the wishes of the doctors I did see, I decided to get drunk. In a moment of what might have been delusion, I had an idea that if I could somehow find a way to contact a producer or someone like Marjorie Kaplan (the GM of Animal Planet) that they might find this idea as beautiful as I do. I think many people would want to see the story of animals or people coming together when their world is against them to live in a place that they can finally call home. I thought maybe if they agreed with me, they would fund the start up of my Farm, air a few seasons then I could continue the work of giving people and animals something to hope for. Maybe I'm delusional. You tell me. I can't afford healthcare. I looked for several hours and could not find a way to contact such a producer personally. Could you help me?", "summary": "I have an idea for a tv show that could not only be a great reality series but help me achieve my dreams. I just need a way to get there."}
{"id": "t3_22dpcs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "On my last leg", "post": "Hello, I'm a long time lurker in these subreddits. I'm 5'8 200 lbs in the army. I was just given an assignment to start working at a network enterprise center. I'll be here for 3 months. This means essentially no exercise, unless on my own time. I got flagged a few months ago for being overweight. I've tried damn near every diet there is including injections while in Korea to kill belly fat. My job and family are on the line due to my shitty body. I bought the fitbit flex 2 weeks ago and I have followed the app the best I can. I've stayed the same weight. I don't know what else to do. I'm begging for help here because I see tons of success stories. Any advice?", "summary": "Going to lose job and family because I can't lose weight."}
{"id": "t3_2vqyju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27m) started dating a virgin (21f) who had been sexually assaulted in the past", "post": "We started dating a couple months ago. Everything is going great so far for the most part. After going out for awhile I asked her to be my gf. After she agreed she told me a week later that her previous bf sexually assaulted her by forcing his fingers inside her while she was asleep (this was over a year ago). She also told me she was still a virgin. Obviously, she went through an awful experience, and she just recently started talking to a counselor about it.\n\nI am a fairly experienced person when it comes to the bedroom and I want to bring my gf up to speed so we can start having the best kinds of fun, but I obviously want her to feel as comfortable as possible before going down that road. Right now all we do is make out as she is uncomfortable moving past that. When she spends the night at my place she sleeps in her jeans. I explained (poorly) that there was a gap between us sexually, which made me feel terrible at the time because obviously there is GOOD reason for that. She apologized for disappointing me to which I said I wanted to be with her (true) and that I will be patient (to a degree).\n\nTo my knowledge I've never dated a girl who had been sexually assaulted, so I am a little unsure of how to proceed. I don't know how long a reasonable partner should wait for sex in this situation. My attitude on sex is pretty liberal I guess. I'm used to one night stands or sex after a couple dates, so this waiting has me concerned that this could be for an extended amount of time. I would feel terrible dumping her because she didn't have sex with me because of her issues. I want to wait for her to be ready, but I don't want to wait until we're married or anything. Sorry if any of this is confusing, I'm pretty tired. If you need anymore info let me know.", "summary": "How long does a reasonable person wait for sex in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2a1d96", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Starting a low-carb diet.", "post": "184cm 132kg male 25\n\nI am thinking of starting a 12 week low carb diet, It is apart of a 12 week challenge run in my country. I am provided with training program and nutrition plan which advocates for low carb meals and protein shakes. I have always for some reason been really against any form of supplements. I am aware that this won't be any sorrow quick fix but I am finding it hard to focus. My wife, sister and brother in law are all looking at doing the same program with nutrition and training differences. It is the sort of challenge that has prizes for most weight lost or inches list. I am unsure as to what to expect in regards to protein shakes and long term issues of how to transfer what I do into normal life without  over indulging. \n\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "low carb good or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2wtbva", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Please help, not sure if I'm (23f) paranoid/insecure about my long distance boyfriend (32m) or legitimately concerned", "post": "We've been dating for nearly a year and I'm head over heels for him. It's not that long but we overcame some pretty serious obstacles...recently we had to deal with an accidental pregnancy and come to a decision together which I think left us stronger together. He recently mentioned he would like to get married and wants me to move in with him.\n\nI don't know a whole lot about his past relationships because I'm very insecure (I know he's had many sexual partners right before he met me) and I prefer to just not know. What I do know is that he has cheated a lot in one of his more \"serious\" relationships with multiple women. He said it was because they were long distance and he didn't think they would ever work out long term anyway, and that he got \"really horny\" which I think are all terrible reasons. This was his ex right before me, and there was only less than a month between them breaking up and meeting me.\n\nWe broke up briefly after a huge fight in December and I had discovered he signed up for an online dating site. A friend saw him on it and told me. I was devastated (we were STILL talking regularly about repairing our relationship and talking about raising the baby together) and hurt that he thought it was ok to just get on okcupid and try to start dating right away.\n\nI guess my point is, I'm scared my boyfriend will cheat on me because he has in the past with , and because he was so eager to find someone else right after we broke up. I've tried to talk to him about this but I can't seem to communicate my concerns very well without accusing him/punishing him for his past behavior even before he met me. And he already deleted the profile before I could say anything about it when we got back together. Any advice? Am I just being paranoid?", "summary": "my boyfriend cheated on his most recent ex multiple times and signed up on okcupid almost immediately after we broke up. We are back together now (he deleted the profile) but I'm scared he will cheat on me. He wants me to move in with him but I'm hesitant. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3iwxeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [39M] and my co-worker [F] - will she think that I am making changes for her?", "post": "I recently developed a crush on a married co-worker.  She definitely knows that I like her, because suddenly I was complimenting her haircut, talking to her a lot more frequently (previously I never talked to her much), and on a few occasions I couldn't help but give her some lingering looks.  But I totally respect her marriage and I'm not going to be making any moves on her.\n   \nAnyway, not long ago I posted my photo to amiugly (to see if it might explain why I can't get dates), and several people told me to get better looking eyeglasses, a different hairstyle, and better looking clothes.  I'm not opposed to doing that, however, what might my co-worker think if I did all that stuff?  Would she think I'm doing it all for her?  I don't want her to get the wrong impression.", "summary": "Married co-worker knows I like her.  If I come in with new glasses/haircut/clothes, will she think I'm doing it all for her?"}
{"id": "t3_1q08jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] am scared of my verbally abusive parents [35/40 M/F], how do I cope?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI am a teenager having trouble dealing with difficult parents. \n\nMy mother is a hot head; when she is happy, everything goes fine, it's laid back, kinda what you would expect from a half-normal family. But when is isn't in the best mood, she goes on a temper tantrum. She yells at me and my brother for little things such as not putting the milk back in the fridge or not bringing the garbage cans back inside. Often she will go to great lengths for the sole purpose of my punishment. She gets nothing out of the process except maybe the relief of letting out her anger at me. I think she enjoys this. \n\nI try to understand that life may be hard for her, the financial responsibility of taking care of the family (my dad is out of the country for a business venture at the moment). My father is very similar to my mother, except worst.\n\nI never really talked much to my parents in my life, even when I was little. Maybe I was just scared, they verbally abuse me and physically abused me in the past. It's really hard trying to talk to my mother now, the first thing she does is rant about her exhausting day. Then she tells me how I have to work hard in school and sometimes she tells these stupid quotes she got from the internet and tries to explain them to us.\n\nI can't say I'm a good student, since I am currently getting a low B (74%), with some work I can hit an A before the semester ends. My current plan is to get out of high school and try to jump into military and have programming as a side skill in case the first plan fails.", "summary": "Living a life with verbally abusive, hotheaded, difficult parents; I need help to cope with them."}
{"id": "t3_1lnq78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Breaking up without a bad guy...", "post": "Reddit, I [Male, 29}just ended a relationship with a wonderful girl[26]. I don't want to make this a long post, so I'll just summarize my reasons. \n\nAfter 2 years of dating, I noticed that I had begun to take steps backwards im my commitment level. I could sense some compatibility issues, and I could feel myselgf falling out of love with her(in a romantic sense). I still care about her deeply and think she is an amazing person. Hurting her was one of the worst feelings I've ever felt. All I want to do right now is go back home, hold her, and tell her that it's going to be ok. I know I can't though. I have to figure out what I really want, and I have to do it alone. \n\nI guess I just want to hear from some of you out there who have been through a similar break up where there is no real bad guy, just two lives that are heading in different directions. How did you get over the guilt? Were you able to salvage a friendship in the end? Would you have done anything differently?", "summary": "I ended it because I needed to figure things out... now I'm dealing with some pretty fresh guilt."}
{"id": "t3_2ekgyn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kneeing my girlfriend in the face.", "post": "So this actually happened a couple years back. Me and my girlfriend had recently just moved in together and had sat down to watch a movie one night. A little ways into the movie she decided it would fun to start tickling me, I'm extremely ticklish so it didn't take long for things to go horribly wrong. I was laying on my stomach and she went for a spot on the back of my leg and in my panic I swung around and managed to knee her in the face.\n\nMostly stunned at first and in some pain she shook it off and we continued to watch the movie, until she noticed a clear like fluid dripping out of her nose. So we went to the emergency room to have her examined and what the fluid turned out to be was cerebrospinal fluid. So the fluid surrounding her brain was leaking causing it to sink on her brain stem and she began to have low pressure headaches.\n\nThey put a drain into her spine to help relieve pressure off of the leak in her skull, but during the procedure the tech had missed his entry point and had mistakenly herniated one of her discs. As a result of this two of her vertebrae collapsed and are now putting pressure on a nerve. It has been over four years since that has happened, she has had a surgery to fix her collapsed septum, and will have several more procedures placing localized pain killers on her nerve endings to help her sciatica she now has as a result of the pressure from her vertebrae. Once they have the sciatica under control they will prepare her spine for surgery and begin the repair process on her vertebrae and herniated disc.", "summary": "girlfriend tickled me I kneed her in the face collapsing her septum and causing a cerebrospinal fluid leak out of her nose, still dealing with problems four years later."}
{"id": "t3_26prcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] can't seem to get over an event in my gf's [22 F] past.", "post": "My roommates, gf included, were talking about our past and she wasn't saying much (she didn't cause as much trouble as her bff, bff's fiance, and I had). But, one sex-story she did tell hit me hard.\n\nShe hooked up with a guy twice, once in a hotel, once at his place. At his place, he had been drinking a bit and wanted to try anal. She didn't want to but he played the \"you don't know until you try it\"-card. After he started, she said she felt sick and he said, \"I've already started, I can't stop.\" And he finished a minute or so later.\n\nIt didn't bother me that she hooked up with a guy, I thought it was cool/out of the ordinary for her. The part that hit hard was that he forced her into something she felt she couldn't avoid.\n\nShe isn't traumatized over it, she just said that she was sore for a couple days, but I can't get over that it happened.\n\nOther stuff: We've dated for 9 months now, the event occurred last May. She knows it hit me hard and we've talked about it.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Gf of 9 months was forced to have anal by drunk hookup before we met; can't stop thinking about it and it hurts to think about it."}
{"id": "t3_3fyade", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] co-worker [30 M] switched to part time and it's starting to affect my workload.", "post": "I work a pretty great job that has a very flexible set up. While I'm assigned to work on various projects by my manager, part of my time is allowed for the development of my own self-initiated projects so long as they can be used to help the company in the future. My co-worker who has the same set up and whose assigned work is often for the same projects as the ones I work on recently switched to working part-time so that he can have more time to develop his own self-initiated projects. This is great, and I'm happy for him except I've noticed a slow creep in my workload increasing as a result. It's nothing drastic so far, but I'm slowly becoming the person others default to in terms of making requests, asking me to attending meetings, etc. because the my co-worker is now not available part of the week and protects his time off by not answering email, etc. on days when he's out. As a result, my time spent on self-initiated projects is starting to decrease. \n\nHow do I talk to my manager about my concerns over the slow creep of my co-worker's former work into my workload? Even though my co-worker informed me he was switching to part-time, our manager never discussed this fact with me at all or what it means for me. I'm also not really sure what he can say given that there is no one else with similar expertise that can take the burden and our company only hires in April. We work in high enough demand positions where I can easily leave and get a new job if someone were to tell me to just suck it up and take it, but I'd really not resort to that. I just want to have a non-threatening conversation with my manager that at the same time allows me to stand up for myself and protect my time on self-initiated projects but I don't know what to say.", "summary": "Co-worker switched to part time and though I don't blame him, it's start to affect my workload. How do I talk to manager?"}
{"id": "t3_4imys5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27 M) with my (25 F), co-worker is harassing her and she tolerates it", "post": "My GF works with this real creep. He will call her beautiful and hit on her at work. He randomly messages her mildly inappropriate texts at inappropriate hours. She has told me that he makes her uncomfortable.\n\nim not worried that there is anything going on between the two of them and i trust her. She does not respond to the messages or the advances, but she will not confront him about it or report it to the proper superior. She is afraid of confrontation. She rationalizes her actions by claiming that she does not want to make things \"awkward at work\" and that he is a harmless \"weird guy\". \n\nPersonally, I dont like her being harassed at work and i would like to step in, but i do not want to go against her wishes of course. I am not too sure what to do in this scenario. I am not mad at her because she is the victim in this situation, I just wish i could convince her that reporting him is the right thing to do. \n\nWhat would be the best route for me to take with this situation. Directly get involved and confront him myself or just offer emotional support for my GF and hope she eventually finds the courage to do something about this inappropriate behavior?", "summary": "GF is being hit on/ harassed at work and also over text messages/social media by a co-worker. She is afraid to confront him for fear of making things awkward at work. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_o88w5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your biggest confidence booster?", "post": "I had a school project where it was either write a paper with different prompts, make an art piece and analyze it, or create a few songs by making an original song or dubbing a song with lyrics that have to do with the book we've read. Since I was never much of a writer or an artist I chose the fastest route to make and record a few songs. I knew my teacher was going to pick some to play to the class but I automatically thought mine wouldn't be chosen...I was wrong. \n\nThe day after I turned in my project, he told me he showed a bunch of other teachers (that were mine) and they liked it, and said they wouldn't of expect it to be me (I'm the quiet student of most of my classes). Then he asked if he could play it to my class, I was kind of skeptical because I just thought of the worst outcome like constant teasing or something. People who chose the song option would usually do a funny parody of some song everyone knew, either rapping, or talking through it rather than singing. When my song came up, I just put my head down so I didn't get any stares. But then I started hearing people saying \"Oh this is pretty good\" or \"Who's singing this? I actually like it\" and when people finally figured out it was me they would give me a bunch of compliments or they didn't believe that I sang it.", "summary": "Recorded a song for a school project, people actually liked it and complimented."}
{"id": "t3_12ux9x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today when driving my friend home, I made a girl think I was about to sexually abuse her because I was slowing down to let a guy out of his driveway. Reddit how have you unintentionally creeped someone out?", "post": "It was about 2pm and we had both just ate several chickens worth of meat and so we were feeling pretty relaxed. I was driving him home and right near his house I see a car trying to pull out onto the road. Being relaxed, I decided to slow down and wave to them to pull out as I was in no rush. Meanwhile there was a girl walking on the pavement next to us. She saw us slowing down and assumed we were after her and broke into a jog. I tried pointing to the car I was letting out but I think she might have interpreted that as 'run bitch run' and so she picked up the pace. Needless to say I we felt pretty bad and to make things worse she got the fright of her life when she saw my car driving past her again after I had dropped my friend off.", "summary": "Ate some chicken, made a girl think she was about to be raped"}
{"id": "t3_3z5y51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (20M) having issues with my girlfriend (20F). Is the relationship getting stale or am I just getting depressed?", "post": "This may seem like an immature problem, but I am looking for people's different perspectives on this topic. I've been dating this girl for 2 years now (senior year of high school to sophomore in college, same school,  wasn't planned). Everything was going fine and I felt that the honeymoon phase would last forever, but as it always ends up, it slowed down.\n\n I guess that's good because we learned to work on our relationship and we both understood that it's not easy to maintain a relationship. Well, recently the entire texting each other all day to me has become a drag and when I think about that my mind goes places such as \"are you losing interest in her?\" \"are you getting bored?\". So, when she got back from vacation a couple days ago I told her about all of this. She agreed and we also went the route of saying we're both 20 and it's hard because we're in college and we both have different urges. We both agreed that we both wonder if there's anything else out there that is better than one of us because this is the first serious relationship either one of us has had. She said she wished we could take a break for 2 weeks and see how it feels (not like going to go fuck anything that moves break but a see how it feels to be single)  and then go back to normal right after. \n\nThis is impractical. We both value the relationship very much but for me it seems to have gone stale, mainly because we usually do the same thing when we're at school because lack of transportation/laziness. I'm not sure if it's other forces in my life such as not being in good shape, low self confidence in my body, or just the stresses of growing into an adult. I also feel that life is getting stale. Starting to think about a career and everything is stressful, so just becoming numb has become my defense mechanism. This might just be a spillover effect. So I beg for different perspectives and advice. If you need any clarifying answers, I can provide if you ask. This is the first time I've ever said this to anyone and I appreciate anyone who has gotten this far!", "summary": "Problems with relationship. It's getting stale but at the same time I think I'm going through a valley in my life."}
{"id": "t3_2f51nf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By having the best sex of my life.", "post": "**First, lets set the scene...**\n\nMy fiancee lives an hour away currently for university and comes home on weekends, so its not like we're having sexy time 24/7 anyway. We parked in a remote location and it was dark so we hopped in the backseat and started making out and touching like normal. Commence slipping the condom on. She starts complaining that it hurts so we contemplate removing it and continuing. We do, and its our first time doing so. We are just completely immersed in eachother. In the already hot texas night, in our little car, its pretty hot (temperature wise!). And towards the end of our intimacy her tits were just completely in my face and there was no escape, but I wasnt complaining. However, about 30 seconds before we were done, the back left and left side of my brain started to hurt BAD. I just contributed it to the heat and lack of oxygen due to breathing in boobs. But who cares, sex right? The last 30 seconds it just got worse... And worse... And worse.. Until she got off of me and I literally felt like I was going to have a stroke or anneurism or something. Typing this two hours later the left part of my head hurts.\n\nFast forward to ice cream. Turns out she is bleeding like hell. After some discussion, with a combination of the rough sex and my large member, we assume that I popped her cherry (she had a hymenectomy, but all they did was divide it into 4ths and sew it along the her vaginal wall).", "summary": "Had best sex of my life, nearly suffocated in titties, made fiancee bleed."}
{"id": "t3_30zo9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my _boyfriend__ [30M/] 1 year, I have just found out he has been cheating for 6 MONTHS!!!!", "post": "6months...6 months!!!!! I've never felt so betrayed. I'm everything you would expect heartbroken, angry. I haven't stopped crying since I've found out I'm pretty sure he's in love with her, and he never was with me.  \nI  don't know how to pick myself up, and I desperately need advice on how to cope. I'm afraid I'm not going to recover from this. My previous breakup nearly killed me off, and this well... It makes the other one seem like a cake walk.\n\nBefore you ask I didn't do anything wrong, he just met someone, started a relationship with her (we are not living together) and decided not to mention it, whilst treating me horribly, making me think all that time that him being awful to me was my fault.\n\nI feel so incredibly alone.  I don't have anyone to talk to.\n\nI know this is probably too generic a question, but is there any advice out there from someone who has been through something similar. or someone who hasn't frankly, I'm open to any suggestion that doesn't involve me walking off a cliff. Help.", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me for past 6 months/Please help me come up with a way to not shoot my self from the sense of loneliness and betrayal."}
{"id": "t3_2000sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my bf [31M] together for 6 years. been broke up for 5 weeks and I just called him. Please help me.", "post": "My ex broke up with me 5 weeks ago telling me he didn't love me anymore. He was a horrible person at all in the relationship and there was no other reason for the breakup. \n\nDuring the break up he did say some horrible things. I was doing the NC but have had a really bad weekend and I ended up speaking to him a second ago. I didn't know what I was going to achieve by this but I asked if he missed me. He Hesitated and then said sometimes. Basically this is really no. \n\nI feel so awful for what I've done to my self. I've no deleted his number and crossed it out where I written it. Why did I do it? What did I think this would achieve?\nI'm being so weak, I'm trying to carry on but why doesn't my mind stop thinking about him? Why when after 6 years he doesn't care why do I care so much? I shouldn't be wasting my time on him when he doesn't want to be in my life, so why am I?\n\nI'm so scared it won't get better and I won't be strong enough to get through this. I feel stupid because I know I shouldnt let this rule my life and I can be me without him. \nPlease can anyone offer a little help I feel like I'm going out of my mind. even doing different things I'm still thinking about him I feel this to much to handle every day.", "summary": "5 weeks since break up and really struggling to pull through. Know what I should do but can't make my mind strong enough to do it. Any help would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_pcq8x", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So how does your body decide where on your body fat will be burned?", "post": "I've wondered this for a long time and am hoping someone with a health background can weigh in... it seems that the areas of your body which at cells get fat are fairly consistent but random, by this I mean you don't get fat from the top down or in some other strange way, it all sort of gets fat at the same rate; I assume this has alot to do with your genetics. So this has me wondering how fat is burned. I assumed for along time that if you walked, you burn fat in your lower body, do sit ups burn fat in your belly etc. But that was always a passing assumption, when I actually thought about it I have no idea.", "summary": "You get fat steadily all over your body simultaneously, how does the body decide which area of the body to burn fat from first?"}
{"id": "t3_1xi9jp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Breach of contract / legal advice please", "post": "Anchorage, Alaska\n\nSo I will keep this short, as I dont know how active this subreddit is, but also put as much detail as possible in hopes I can get some legal advice here.\n\nI work for a multi million dollar company, one which pays me a percentage of its net earnings after my particular expenses such as rent, overhead, etc.  While most of this was clear cut in the past, and I could track it, double check it, we moved to a new computer system last year and for the past several months money has gone missing, my paychecks have been getting smaller and smaller, while profit has been at all time highs.  My accounting department has consistently called me about mis-allocated funds wondering where they are supposed to go, especially at year end. Every month prior to our new computer system I was consistently owed money due to statements needing to be finalized, and it was corrected on the following check.  Now I am never owed a penny, statements are wrong, accounting calls me constantly, my company is in litigation with this software company and I don't think I will ever recover a dime of the 7 going on 8 months I have been underpaid. I have told my superior who agrees with me, but says questioning it further could cost me my job.", "summary": "I signed a clear cut contract for pay with a multi million dollar company; exceeded quotas and was underpaid, 24 pay stubs to prove it, can anyone help?"}
{"id": "t3_1fm29z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] I want to break up with my [19/f] girlfriend for summer", "post": "We've been dating for 8 months now and I think we spent too much time together too soon (we hung out every single night for the last 8 months) and it fizzled out for me and i'm just not enjoying it anymore. I tried to tell her this but I couldn't go through with it, so instead I told her that I think we should break up for summer because we are both considering going to community college instead of a university for a year to save some money, and I didn't want to be the reason she came back, because I wan't her to make decisions about her future for herself.\n\nThat reason is mostly true but frankly it's more because it's gotten old for me. She's still crazy about me and at first she said she was okay with breaking up for summer, but a couple days later she told me that she understands that I don't want to influence her future but that's not what she wants.\n\nAlso, I want to wait until she's done with finals because I don't want to mess anything up for her, but we only have a couple of hours between her last final and when I have to go home, and she will be with her mom the whole time.  \nI would talk to her about it now if I thought she could handle it without it effecting her grades, but she loves me too much and she cries too easily, it just breaks my heart to think about doing that to her.\n\nI really dont know what to do.", "summary": "I want to break up with my girlfriend, I told her it was so I wouldn't influence her future but really we just spent too much time together too soon and too often."}
{"id": "t3_g1bz7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's a story of when you were a child and you did something totally inappropriate because you didn't know any better? I'll go first...", "post": "Before the first day of kindergarten my dad sat me down to have a little father son talk. He told me to listen to my teacher, be nice and have fun. He then told me that if someone I didn't like wouldn't leave me alone I should walk away from them and if they kept bothering me I should tell my teacher. If I couldn't find my teacher and the person kept bothering me I should punch them in the nose (good advice IMO to deal with a bully even though today that will get you kicked out of school). So my first day went fine and I didn't have any problems... until the bus ride home. The kid behind me kept flicking the back of my head. I'd turned around and yelled \"stop it!\". The kid did not stop. Since my teacher wasn't around and I had nowhere to walk away to I knew what I had to do, my father had prepared me for this very moment. I waited sideways for the next flick attack and when the kid stood up to reach over the seat I jumped up and popped her real hard in the nose. Yes that's right... I punched a girl in the face. She teared up and sat right back down. The flick attacks obviously ceased. I felt quite proud of myself, I had listened to my father's advice and it worked perfectly. That night my dad asked how my first day went. I told him it went great and I had followed his advice. When I told him the bus story his jaw dropped and he was mortified. \"Scott, I forgot to say the most important thing is that you never-ever hit a girl!\" Ooops.\n\nWhat's something wrong you did because you didn't know any better?", "summary": "Punched a girl in the face because my Dad told me to."}
{"id": "t3_ekht0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of Reddit - Does anyone else feel furious when someone implies you're making life decisions based on a boy? Why do people still assume women can only make life and career choices because of a man?", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nI'm in the mood to rant - I'm starting a job in a new city (DC) in a few days (am moving away from pretty much all of my friends and family and all that jazz) and every single person I've talked to has asked me, who's the boy? \n\nMy father assumes I'm moving because of an old college beau. He often tells me this with an error of superiority, like yeah sure you're moving for a \"Job.\" And last night while talking to this previous man-friend (the beau), he brought it to my attention that he still thinks I'm after his pants. I'd also like to point out I told the cocky son of a bitch I was through with him over a year ago. \n\nSo now, I reach my breaking point. This is my second time getting up and moving away from all family and friends. I am graduating from one of the most difficult universities in the United States, am starting an awesome job in a city with a thriving job market, and even though people know me as brilliant, motivated, and the type of person that'd do anything for a career they STILL ask if I am moving to DC because of the past beau or if it's for some other boy they haven't met. \n\nSo someone tell me, are even modern day women still expected to live their lives for a boy? Can a girl not do something for herself? \n\nAnd what is the best way to inform my dad and co that I am not co-dependent?", "summary": "Feminism, feminism, feminism..."}
{"id": "t3_2klzfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] broke my leg pretty badly and can't do anything for awhile. My [36M] bf has been helping me but is getting stressed", "post": "So I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 36 (yes, I know, huge age difference, but we've been together for almost a year and it's been going well).  I recently broke my leg pretty badly and will be on crutches for the next 2 months and am not allowed to put any weight on it.  My boyfriend  lives in his own place but has been sleeping over every night to help me before bed and in the morning before he leaves for work.  \n\nHe comes home on his lunch break to check on me and help me with lunch, then goes back to work.  He works from home and does his own projects at night before coming over when he's done.  I appreciate his help because I'm absolutely helpless in these crutches but I'm worried he's beginning to resent me for needing his help. \n\nI've been trying to give him time away from me, trying to get friends to come over and help here and there to give him time to himself but that's only a few times a week. We can't have sex because of my leg/cast, I can only shower occasionally, I cant wear anything but sweat pants.. I'm not looking my best lately and I just want to remind him why he loves me.  I was just hoping you guys would have ideas/suggestions? Have any of you been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Broke my leg, cant have sex, need boyfriend to help me with everything, worried he resents me for needing him so much, looking for ideas to remind him why he loves me/bring back the romance."}
{"id": "t3_l89vp", "subreddit": "running", "title": "When training...stop listening to your iPOD.", "post": "(I know under the FAQ section of this subreddit it says it is hazardous to your hearing and health to use an iPOD or any mp3 on your runs and that might be true, but that has nothing to do with this post.)\n\nSo imagine yourself on a long run, maybe the longest run you have ever been on, lets say 11 miles.  At mile 9 you are really hurting so you put on some of your favorite beats to get you through the pain.  Now at the time this is great the music distracts you and acts as a firm push to get you through the harder miles.  I always hear people talk about how they couldn't run without their iPODs, how the distraction is perfect and how they don't understand how runners could run without them.\n\nSo down to the reason I am writing....On this subreddit I read many many threads about people striving to get better times and pushing their distance limits and a grantee that most if not all of these redditors are training with music.  Listening to music while you run is just distracting you from strengthening your mental game.  The music acts like a mental block for a short amount of time but you will never be able to run faster and faster races with your iPOD in.  Try running without your mp3, and when the going get tough in those later miles try honing in the mental side of your run.  Try focusing in on everything that is screaming at you to stop and tell yourself you can crush the rest of this run.  If you can do this, you will be 10 times the runner you were before, because no matter what any \"runner\" tells you, the mental side of running is the most important.  You can be an elite runner but if your mental game is off you might as well just stop.\n\nThanks for listening, keep running!", "summary": "STOP USING MP3's, work on your mental toughness when you run."}
{"id": "t3_2lqusq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [21 F] of one year. Feeling unsure about whether or not to continue the relationship", "post": "This is my first serious relationship.\n\nI've been really occupied over the last 2 months so haven't really seen her. We barely talk over the phone/fb, just a bit at night. Half because I am busy working, and half because I don't think there's much to talk about.\n\nThere aren't really any gaping flaws in our relationship. I like her, and she likes me, we are generally happy together. I don't think she's \"Crazy\" about me, and probably nowadays I don't think Im \"crazy\" about her either. We could have better communication, and perhaps our personalities are not 100% compatible either.\n\nOver the past few months being alone from her, I haven't really missed her. Sure there were nights of feeling the need of night time cuddles, but it's been pretty bearable.  \n\nThe reason I am confused as to whether or not to discontinue this relationship is because whilst we're happy together, I don't think that we're the \"perfect match\" for each other. I don't mean to say we are settling for one another in any way(or maybe I am in denial), but I have a feeling that there are people out there who could make us happier. \n\nWith that said, I'm sure that's the case in practically every relationship ever.. Am I an asshole for having these thoughts? Has anyone been in a similar predicament? \n\nI think perhaps I don't see much of a future with her. I don't know.", "summary": "Not sure whether to continue relationship, genuinely a decently happy and independent couple."}
{"id": "t3_2xom5l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being incredibly accurate at the gun range", "post": "obligatory disclaimer: This happened a year ago\n\nI was at the shooting range and firing a small 9mm pistol (a cz 82 which fires 9x18mm to be specific) I was approximately 20 yards from my target, and popped off my first round. It was dead on, a near perfect bulls eye. I'm not that great of a shot, so I was a bit impressed with myself.\n\nAccuracy isn't everything, speed also matters. So not wanting to spend too much time aiming, I fired off another round quickly and immediately double over in pain grabbing my left side. I also immediately stopped holding my left side because something was burning my hand.\n\nI remove my hand and a bullet drops to the ground.\n\nUpon further inspection my first round had lodged itself in the target, and my second round hit the first round, mushroomed in on itself and came back at me. The bullet hit a rib, breaking the one it hit and fractured another one. I kept the bullet and made it into a necklace, I also have the smallest of scars left from the ricochet.", "summary": "Shot the same place twice and the bullet ricocheted, breaking and cracking my ribs."}
{"id": "t3_37loo4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling the girl I like how I feel.", "post": "If you are looking for a funny, uplifting, long FU then I recommend you to keep browsing.\nAlso this is my first post in this subreddit so I'm sorry if it's not good enough or belongs to other sub.\nHere we go:\n\nThis FU didn't entirely happened Today, it has been developing over last month.\nI've been in a long distance relationship with a girl I met on elementary school years ago when I was living in Mexico.\nWe've been together for 1 year and a half, honestly is a beautiful relationship, probably she's the one.\nSo this is where the Fuck Up starts, there's a girl in my school, she used to make fun of me and treat me like crap at the beginning of the year, honestly I hated her, but for some reason, months later I started to like her, then I started to have deeper feelings towards her, then I realized that I was in love with her.\n\nThis lead to me treating my girlfriend like crap, I didn't wanted to talk to her, I felt our relationship was monotonous and boring, and I was going to break up with her.\n\nThen one day it happened, I suggested the break-up, she didn't took it very well, she threatened to kill herself.\nSo I was fucked, I couldn't end my relationship and my crush (who started to be nice to me) had just broke up with some douchebag that treated her like complete shit.\n\nSo this is where i Fucked Up (again), yesterday I was texting one of my friends about her, and the motherfucker showed her the conversation, she freaked out, she texted me at night asking what the fuck was going on, I lied to her, she was pissed off, so I haut told her the truth, I told her every single thing. \nNow she doesn't want to talk to me.\n\nWant to know the worst part?, my girlfriend has a very deep depression and it's all my fault.", "summary": "I almost fucked up my 1 year and a half relationship with the perfect girl and almost caused a suicide, OP has a crush on a girl that is into douchebaggs."}
{"id": "t3_2g8wzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] just don't see a future with her [20F], but nothing's specifically wrong. How to break it off?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now. Things are fine, but that's it. They're just fine. I don't have any passion left for this relationship, and I think she takes the relationship much more seriously than I do. \n\nThere are some good things about our relationship: We fight constructively, get along well, and just generally have a good time for the most part, but that's about it.\n\nThere's nothing \"bad\" about the relationship. No one's cheated, no one fights dirty, no emotional blackmail. But there are so many reasons why I know this relationship just isn't built to last, and why I don't know that it's worth working on:\n\n-We don't share *any* interests\n-We prioritize major life categories (money, career, family, etc.) differently\n-We handle finances very differently\n-Our lifestyles (sleep/cleaning habits, hobbies, etc.) aren't compatible and I would not want to live with her\n-Our sex life is terrible--it's either absent or just plain bad\n\nI've come to feel like spending time with her is a task. I don't look forward to it, because I feel like I'm lying to her face just by staying in the relationship. She tells me often that I'm the most important person in her life, but I don't feel the same. I do care a lot about her, and I want her to have a partner who really gives her what she needs. I've become so distant. She leans on me a lot, and I know she'll feel terrible when the breakup happens. I will, too.\n\nMy question, I guess, is: How do you have the breakup conversation when there's nothing specifically bad about the relationship--when you're just not compatible? Especially when the other person is still really into the relationship?", "summary": "How can I end a bland relationship when my partner is so invested in it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ki2c1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wiping sweat right above my eyes and grabbing my dick after unknowingly getting poison ivy on my hand", "post": "I was doing some yardwork to help my parents out and had gloves on for most of the time. At the very end when i was done, i had to put some of the ivy and weeds I had chopped in a trash bag and somehow some poison ivy got mixed up in the bunch. I wiped sweat right above my eyes/eyelids and had to readjust by boys because the pants were a little tight. I immediately took a shower after that, but it was too late. The next morning, I spotted the poison ivy on my hand and new it was about to get bad.", "summary": "read the title"}
{"id": "t3_3ww4uc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] with my boyfriend [17M] of 4 months, he is jealous of me being really good friends with another guy (but i have a good reason?)", "post": "Ok basically my bf and I (both juniors in hs) have been together a few months. around the same time i met a guy who i consider as a pretty close friend; he is a composer (for  music) (17 btw) and so am i , we met through a music composing camp. composing is my passion, ive been doing it for like ten years but ive never met another kid who does it too. i have been waiting all my life to meet another composer so i was so excited! there is clearly no feelings - he has a gf, i have a bf, and i am in no way attracted to him in that way. he doesn't go to my school, so sometimes i text him in school, or i hung out with him like 2  times after camp ended (with another guy-composer, who im also good friends with, he's 17 too) over a span of like three months. anyways my bf gets super bothered by it and in the first three months he really tried to bottle it up and told me he was fine with it, cuz he knew i was so happy to have friends like them. but now its clear he is really bothered by it. i care about my boyfriend but these are friends i have wanted for years. and i really don't hang out with them that often, i cant for the next two months cuz we're all busy probably. anyways point is i understand that my bf is insecure because he doesn't know them, and blah blah but it's really bothering me that he is so uncomfortable over it.\n\nhe even said that if he could pick, he would want me to not hang out/be as close with them. but of course he understands its my life and i dont need his permission ...\n\nwould this make you consider breaking up, if bf is kinda making it hard to keep special friends just because they're guys?", "summary": "bf is jealous of/uncomfortable with  another male friend, but the friend is my only friend with same passion as me, and only friend i've had for that passion in my entire life, so i dont want to lose the friend. am i justified for not breaking friendship for the sake of my bf?"}
{"id": "t3_1fq6i3", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Comcast has never sent me a bill for Internet service in over 4 months [Pennsylvania]", "post": "Back in February my girlfriend and I signed up for a Comcast internet only package at her apartment.  The apt was already wired for service, they mailed their \"Self-Install Kit\", I hooked everything up, called them, and boom internet.  I was expecting a bill after March, since February would be pro-rated and added to March.  Well here it is June and we have yet to see a bill.\n\nI've logged into the online customer account and upon viewing the billing page it still says something like \"You will receive your first bill shortly.\"  No automatic payments are setup, it clearly states paper bill, and the address is correct.  We've even received promotional offers to the address!\n\nWhat obligations am I under here?  Is my account \"late\" if they have never billed me?  For now I'm just riding it out as long as possible and keeping screenshots of the billing page in case they try to say they sent bills.", "summary": "Signed up for Comcast internet, haven't received a bill in 4 months, all information displayed on online account is correct."}
{"id": "t3_fovqy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "You're a badass Sysadmin. How do I get you interested in the position, how do I make sure you can hack it? [Xpost from /r/jobs]", "post": "I've got two problems at the moment, both inter-related.\n\n* First, The Job Posting:\n\nThanks to corporate-speak, it's extremely hard to come across as genuine in a business context.  I'm looking for people who enjoy IT, and take a lot of pride in what they do.  I'm looking for the sort of people to whom \"good enough\" isn't.  How do I let these sort of people that they want to work with me?  How do I let them know that my company knows \"pride\" isn't just a buzzword for \"watching the bottom line\"?\n\n* Second, The Candidates:\n\nI'm pretty new to management.  There are a lot of people who are far more experienced at talking themselves up than I am at figuring them out.  It's easy enough to hire someone qualified, you can test for that with a well-executed test environment.  The problem is that will only tell you what they're capable of, not how much you have to fight them to do anything.  \n\nWe're an IT company in the small/medium business market, our clients don't generally have piles of cash to blow on new servers.  There are times I'll have to hand someone a 3-year old server and some extra RAM and say \"The client's budget fell through this year but they still need an upgrade, see how well you can polish this turd.\"  The kind of person I'm looking for isn't just gonna say \"This thing sucks\".  They're gonna say \"This thing sucks, but it's gonna gleam anyway because it's *my* fuckin' turd.\"", "summary": "I'm looking for people who take pride in their work.  How do I get them interested, and how do I separate them from the half-assers?"}
{"id": "t3_16wq22", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Advice on taking care of a dog with TVT?", "post": "Last year, on August 30th, my mother adopted a dog that was about to be put to sleep. This dog seemed to have been ran over by a car and one of her back legs was necrotic.\n\nAfter two amputation operations over two months, going through cardiac arrest during the last one, and being diagnosed with Ehrlichiosis almost a month ago, she was diagnosed with TVT today.\n\nFor those that don't know, TVT is a rare kind of canine venereal cancer. According to the last vet we took her, she might have contracted it before my mom adopted her.\n\nMy mom is completely devasted, she's afraid about putting her through chemo, and we'd have to wait for that since her platelet count is two low. On top of that, and this is the biggest problem, she has four dogs at home beside this one. They're all female, but the risk of transmission still exists through licking or direct contact.\n\nShe doesn't want to put her to sleep after all she's been through, and I understand that. But taking care of her and keeping her isolated from the other four dogs seems really hard.\n\nI'd appreciate any help anyone could give me in this situation, mostly tips to keep her isolated without having her locked inside a room or something of the sort.", "summary": "Dog has transmissible cancer, need tips on how to keep her isolated from other dogs in the house."}
{"id": "t3_3531i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26/F] went on one date with a Tinder guy [29/M], not feeling a spark. How do I tell him kindly?", "post": "I really don't know how this is going to go over because it's the old friendzone story and I feel pretty guilty about it. I met a smart, stable, funny guy on Tinder. But I have no interest in kissing him or doing anything intimate with him, even though he's good looking! Of course I couldn't tell I'd feel that way until we met in person. \n\nObviously Tinder guy does want a relationship. And I'm very bad at telling people things they don't want to hear. I haven't dated much and I don't really know how to handle this. How can I approach him without hurting his feelings? How likely is it that he'd want to be friends with me after meeting me in a romantic context? I want to keep him in my life solely because there are so few people I legitimately enjoy spending time with. We chat often by text and on FB but this really seems like the sort of thing I should talk to him about in person. Or maybe not, since we've only been on one date?", "summary": "Girl meets boy, boy seems really into girl, but girl doesn't return the sentiment and is too awkward to know what to do. Is friendship with him possible or am I too much of a walking clich\u00e9? Dammit. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3irbf2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting fired at a bad time", "post": "So this actually happened a month ago.\n\nIm 18M and turning 19 september 29th :D. So anyways to the FU, People at my job are exceptionally lazy and always get upset whenever someone clocks out before they all start leaving for some reason. So one day im at my computer and apparently we had a new girl come in and she was STUNNING, nice slender body with a curved rounded booty, man she was pretty decent. So if you guys don;t know, i LOVE talking to women, I can't really explain it but i just love pussy!\n\nSo, the player in me comes out and i introduce myself to her and whatnot. Pretty soon she's giving me 'the eyes\" laughing at my jokes, asking me questions about myself etc. Now the other guys in my job are literally traditional \"haters\" if i do something that they can't, they simply hate on me and try to put me down which i don't give a fuck about. So as im talking to her i notice one of the guys is trying to weasel his way in our convo by trying to stand close and shit, not saying anything like a pussy, he actually thinks he can cockblock me? lol please.\n\nSo i'm flirting with her and she's loving it, next thing you know. fat guy comes up to me and basically tells me that im fired and tells me to leave the building, and as im leaving i see the guy who tried to talk to her earlier try to start up a convo while i was being pushed out the door, in my mind im like FUCK!!!, i didn't even get to say goodbye to my cuban princess!! :(", "summary": "Me and a girl hit it off, got fired instead of getting laid."}
{"id": "t3_2bbs7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my fianc\u00e9 [19 F] 2 years, she texts/flirts other men", "post": "Oak. My fianc\u00e9 was passed out in my room the other day and her phone went off and I saw it was a picture of a topless guy saying hey baby. And since I felt really insecure I did look at the phone and through the messages. She has been flirting with this guy for sometime. He calls her baby and says how pretty she is and she goes right along with it. I don't know where he lives or if he is even close but it still upsets me. She has done this with a couple of guys. She goes right back with them. One example is that he says I'm a straight country boy and she does the whole haha I like country boys. I don't know what's going on and I do need some help. I do t feel that she is committed to this relationship as much as I am. I don't want to bring up the subject with her. There is one thing that shows me hope a guy asked what she was wearing she said shirt and underwear he asks for a pic and she did say no. What do I do ?", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 flirts with other guys/do I break it off?!"}
{"id": "t3_37zf62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] of 14 months. She wants to wait until marriage again...", "post": "We started out taking it slow and getting to know each other.  One night we started making out and she informed that she was waiting until marriage to have sex.  I said it was cool, I enjoyed her company and thought she was a wonderful person.  Anyway we progressed from making out to other sexual acts and we started having sex about 9 months into the relationship.  It was great, we were having a healthy sexual relationship.  Then she dropped a bomb on me three weeks ago... She wanted to wait until marriage to have any type of sexual relationship...\n\nShe said that was her intentions from the start and she gave into her desires.  She made it clear that I did not pressure her and that she did it willingly but is now feeling guilty.  She said it was how she envisioned dating.  She had a long term boyfriend  of 5 years before me and they were also sexually active but did not have penetrative sex.\n\nWe had lengthy discussions about it for a week.  I said that I would respect her wishes and try it out but I want to keep this discussion open for the future.  Three weeks in, I hate it.  I don't feel comfortable around her.  She gives me alot of affection and I love her dearly and want to make this work, but I cannot stand not being able to have a sexual relation.  \n\nWe began seriously discussing marriage and that is something that we both want.  I was going to propose in August when we were planning a vacation but now I don't how I feel.  I don't think I can go without intimacy until 2017 or so...  Not sure what do.", "summary": "GF said she wanted to wait until marriage.  We began a sexual relationship.  Now she wants to go back until waiting."}
{"id": "t3_kjzk1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out my grandfather had an affair. What do I do?", "post": "I wish this was simple but it is because it is not that I come to Reddit for advice. Recently, a woman sent a message via Facebook that explained that she and my grandfather had an affair for five years and that over the course of time she had given him thousands of dollars and she had met his family and would met him in his homestate at least twice a year. She claims she did not know he was married and that he recently contacted her to meet up in her home state.  My grandparents currently live with my parents -they are in their early 60s and still married. My mother is debating on whether she should tell my grandmother and has come to me for advice. This is where t gets difficult.\n\nMy grandfather sexually abused me as a child. For a long time I was too afraid to tell anyone and eventually I made the choice *not* to tell anyone. I wanted to protect my parents and grandmother from the pain and blame that would occur once they have found out. I have a hard time dealing with it but I've done what I can to put on a straight face and carry on. But this information has changed everything. It may be my only chance to get him out of my life. But I know my grandmother truly loves him and will probably forgive him. I don't know if I can tell my family the truth in order to secure the fact that he will be forced out of my life or whether to stay out of it and let whatever happens, happen. What do I do?", "summary": "My grandfather sexually abused me as a child and we just found out he had been having an affair. Should I let my family know what he did to me to make sure he is forced out of my life or should I let my grandparents figure out what they will do without any outside influence?"}
{"id": "t3_1px3a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [16 F] I think is saying that she is unhappy with herself and how she is treating me [M 18] We've been dating nearly 2 years", "post": "We have been going through what I would think is the normal back and forth of happy days and days where we have arguments or are irritated with one another. However today she is saying that she thinks that this is abnormal. Also I have been aware that she has changed some of my behaviors or clothes or things like that but I'm okay with that, I view it that I'm open to change and I'm okay with the changes but now she is saying that she doesn't like that she's doing that. She also said that she thinks that this isn't fair to me, whatever that means, I'm the one that decides that right? Regardless I'm concerned about what could happen. Sorry that this is so scrambled but so is what is happening.", "summary": "I think that my girlfriend is over thinking too much and I don't know what to say or do"}
{"id": "t3_uqw83", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] My long distance girlfriend (21/F) is stressed to the max, can you help me design a care package?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year long distance and we have about six months to go.  Lately she has been up to her neck in school work and has a huge placement test in a few weeks that she failed once and MUST pass.  She generally doesn't handle stress well and it's straining our relationship.  I am there for her and help when I can, but I know she wishes I was there.  Since that's not a possibility, I want to send her something. I was thinking some of her favorite snacks, a movie to pop in when she needs a break, but I'm stuck.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend needs to de-stress, what can I fit in a box and send to her to help?"}
{"id": "t3_4q7per", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(16M) made fun of my teacher(33M)because he couldn't win me in a race and it turns out he had lung cancer", "post": "Hello, a few weeks ago I saw my teacher(I consider him an older brother rather than a teacher, and let's call him \"J\") in the swimming pool I usually go to so I greeted J and he asked if I wanted to race so I accepted. I won because him ran out of breath and couldn't continue so I asked if he was alright then continued my routine swimming. A few days later at school I saw him and reminded him of his loss and said: \"dead lungs, haha\"(Yes, that sounded horrible and I don't know why I said that AT ALL). Then around a week later I heard a few teachers talking and saying that J has lung cancer! I confirmed that by asking certain people. Now I feel guilt every single day because J PROBABLY thinks I knew about his condition and I knowingly mocked him for it. He hasn't changed the way he treats me, but I feel genuinely bad. What should I do?", "summary": "Won race with teacher, made fun of him for running out of breath(Made a direct comment about lungs), turns out he has lung cancer, I feel horrible because he probably thinks I made fun of his condition KNOWINGLY."}
{"id": "t3_3g0frm", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "6 month old WILL NOT SLEEP!!!!", "post": "Hey there.  I'm sure this has been discussed before, so my apologies for any redundancies.   At his best, my little one was sleeping and waking up 2-3 times a night, but honestly, I can count those nights on one hand, he's never been a good sleeper.  We live in a one bedroom apt for the time being, so it probably doesn't help that we sleep 10 feet away.  For the last few weeks, he really never falls totally asleep.  He's always in a state of rustling, shifting, and even the slightest sound, like a dog barking down the block will cause him to stir and lift his head up momentarily.  He fusses to the point of crying and needing a bottle over 5 times a night.  We pump hi full of formula before bed too.  He'll take down 8 oz before bed.  He has 3 naps during the day, usually an hour at 10am, 1pm and 4:30pm.  Neither my wife or I have slept more than 90 minutes in a row for a VERY long time and it's taking it's toll.  I have some friends who's child is roughly the same age and say that their baby sleeps for 8 hours straight.  I didn't believe them, but on a recent trip to our friends ranch, I saw it first hand.  Their kid actually slept!!!  What are we doing wrong?  Do we just have the lightest sleeper in the world?  We've been using white noise since day one.  We sleep with the TV on a low volume so it's not dead silent.  Any advice is welcome.  If you recommend a book, can you add a little", "summary": "as well?  Thanks for the help."}
{"id": "t3_1btaoo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] Guy (19/m) has a weird way of not saying hi and stood me up because of this.", "post": "This guy I have been hanging out with at school practically everyday does not say hi to me. I am always nagging him about it, and he asks how he should say hi but in the end he never says hi anyway. I am always the one to be the first to talk. He seems interested, because we talk a lot and he is always asking me if I want to do the things I do with him, ie talking, hanging out ect... \n\nWe were meant to hang out today (outside of school for the first time), but he showed up an hour late, and I had already left the area we were meant to meet. He calls me and says he is at our meeting place. I tell him to meet me in another area. I get there and he is like hiding or something and just walks off. He calls a couple seconds later saying he is behind me. I describe a person I think is him and he says no, so I say I'm just going to walk away and he does nothing! Resulting in me just going home. I call him and he pretty much asks me why I called. \n\nWhat the hell is up with this guy?! Am I just being messed with?", "summary": "Guy I like seems interested but stood me up. Whats up?"}
{"id": "t3_298h9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 25F, feel like i'm putting all the effort into the relationship than my boyfriend 25M. Please Help", "post": "My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 2 months and already I feel that i am making more effort than him. These couple days i have noticed that he dosen't hold or kiss or come near me like he used to.\n\nHe dosen't hold my hand as much. I feel like i am his friend rather than his girlfriend. I have told him how i feel and he responded to me that people dont have to kiss and hug all the time and that just once is normal. which i honestly dont agree with that. \n\nHe also said that hes got into a routine with having a girlfriend and dosebt have to do the things he did at the begging. \n\nWhen i told him that he made me feel special at the beginning and now hes distant and i feel like hes pushing me away, he replied with 'well thats just me, i cant manage yout emotions for you, you yourself can control/adapt them'. \n\nThat really hurt me these words that hes not even willing to do the little things he did like sweet text messages or calls etc I dont want gifts etc just for him to show me affection.\n\nNot too much to ask is it? Its just making me think now if this is a guy i wanna be with", "summary": "i would want him to show that he likes/cares for me. He tells me that  i need to control/adapt my feelings? I find that very rude"}
{"id": "t3_3bpy2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am concerned that my [22 BF] still talks regularly to his ex", "post": "I started dating my boyfriend around 5 months ago, and I noticed when we first started hooking up that he still talks to his ex a lot (they text a few times every few days and sometimes daily, he likes most of her photos on instagram, she likes most of his photos on instagram, etc). Initially, I wasn't too worried, but as things became more serious I became kind of concerned and asked him what the deal was. He assured me that they're just super close friends and that he longer has romantic feelings for her. Then I creepily and totally immorally read his text messages while he was in the bathroom and discovered that their texts are totally boring and normal. Mostly links to funny articles and music videos. But still they talk almost every day.\n\n She lives far away from him and is dating someone else now, so I don't think he's cheating on me, but she was his first really serious girlfriend and she broke up with him and he was really upset about it, and also they only broke up in the fall and had dated for around 1.5 years. I can't really keep asking him about it because I've mentioned that it bothers me, he's reassured me that they're just friends and it's not a big deal, but it continues to stress me out because I wonder if he wants her back or wishes I were more like her, especially because he likes all of her profile pictures and instagram photos and only likes mine sometimes. \n\nI don't feel comfortable asking him to stop talking to her, so I guess I just wonder how concerned I should be.", "summary": "My boyfriend talks to his ex a lot and it really concerns me."}
{"id": "t3_hcqnx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Letting go of conventional titles. Back together, kind  of.", "post": "Hey RA, I have a slight dilemma\n\n3 days ago I had some harsh realizations and came to the conclusion that I needed to end my relationship. I'm a 23/f, he's 26.\n\nI thought I would be relieved, like I was making the right decision but my gut did not agree. I felt like I losing my right arm or something and after a long talk we realized how much we mattered to each other and we both made a lot of stupid mistakes. We decided last night that we would give it another go, not as boyfriend and girlfriend but rather as untitled. I know it doesn't make sense but we've completely decided to do away with conventional titles and boundaries and just be us. I realized that with titles come expectations and it just added a lot of pressure as to where we were and where we were planning to go in our relationship; ideas we are both not comfortable with.\n\nI was happy with this resolution until he mentioned that eventually he'd want to have them (the titles or some type of definition) again. This bothers me. I extremely terrified of commitment. Since we're both scared of marriage I don't want to be someone's 40 year old girlfriend (I don't know, it just sounds very awkward to me) and I also don't want that outside pressure of people asking, \"Soo you guys have been dating for [x] many years, when are you getting hitched?\"  I just want us to enjoy all the things that made us good together without any added bullshit but now I feel like I'm setting myself up for some major conflict in the future.", "summary": "Broke up with my SO of two years after giving him a relationship on his terms. Realized I can't be without him but I can't deal with the level of commitment he wants. We decided to try again but on different terms (no commitment and no titles).   "}
{"id": "t3_2128iv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] SO [20M] of seven months (whom I live with), has been emotionally cheating on me for what seems like the duration of our relationship.", "post": "A bit of a backstory: was in a shitty relationship for 4 years. Basically verbally/physically abused. Have horrible trust issues. Finally am able to leave this hell hole and meet someone who appears to appreciate me very much, until...\n\nI find myself, and my personality, to be attractive. I have (and still do) had many guys want to date, be in a relationship w/ me, etc.. Which is great and all. However, I finally found someone who I thought I could TRUST and confide in, until about 5 hours ago, when I felt the need to check his Facebook messages (mind you, for the first time in our relationship), to find a shit show of flirtatious remarks to other girls including: \"I like your big fake tits\" and \"send me some pics in lingerie\", and of course, \"I want to bang you again\". I feel like absolute shit, and I've never been so hurt. Basically reamed my SO out and gave him the option to leave me, and he didn't want to. I don't know whether to end it or keep it going longer to see if I can trust him again?", "summary": "Finally thought I found someone I could trust, turns out he has been emotionally cheating on me the WHOLE time, don't know whether to end it or not. Am I stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_4b5h5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Breakups] Is there hope for my family? I [M32] still love my wife [F30] but can't stand the abuse.", "post": "Hey reddit. \nI need your advice, because i can't think straight right now. \n\nFirst I wrote a wall of text and that went... poorly. English is not my native language so sorry for mistakes etc. \nI'll try to be short because I really need a perspective. \nMy family is toxic. We are ok most of the time, but my wife can get hysterical and start to abuse me verbally very often. I don't do that first. \nWhen she does I try to defuse situation and calm her down. I am rarely successful. Usually things go like this: either I just try to stay calm and she calms down. Or it gets worse and she starts to think of new ways to insult me. \nIn worse cases she starts fighting me physically. I try not to react but after few hits I have to restrain her. \nIn the most horrible case she keeps on telling me how she will cheat on me, describe it in a very graphical details. I stay silent but anger builds on and then I may slap her or hold her hands and cry to her to shut up. \nWe have a daughter and this hurts her. \nIf we would be able to remove this shit from our life I think we could be happy. The triggers for this behavior are not important. like I forgot to remove the garbage or something like that. Sometimes no reason, she is just in a bad mood. \nShe does not believe in therapy and refuses to do it, together or not. \nAfter the last outburst when she broke my things and insulted me for absolutely no reason I left. \n\nWhat is the way to save marriage? I know that divorce is a possibility and I consider it (as she does, I think), but this situation would be bad for our kid for numerous reasons. \nI try to avoid the usual \"she is bad what should I do\" thing. I really need a perspective and advice how to save the marriage. I try to change what I do wrong. I am ready to make any steps towards that goal, but she does not thing that she is in the wrong.", "summary": "Wife verbally abuses me. I also done some mistakes. Any chance to fix the marriage?"}
{"id": "t3_2buafp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need (mostly from) men's perspective: should I [18F] tell him [20's M] that I like him?", "post": "I'm going to hang out (not a date) with a friend of mine tomorrow, and I've really been wanting to tell him how I feel towards him because it's been torturing me for the past 2 weeks! I somehow need to get this out of my chest.\n\nI don't know if I'm really bad at picking up signals or if he's just being really nice and friendly to everyone else, so I really have no idea if he's feeling the same way towards me, or if he's interested in me at all.\n\nThe reason why I ask for comments/advice from men is that I often hear that men like to do the pursuing, and that if he's not making the first move, then he's probably not into a girl. I know this sounds old-fashioned, but I think it's often true in some sense. I'm not shy when it comes to confessing my feelings for someone, but I don't know if this is a turn-off for guys or whatnot.\n\nSo, guys, what are your opinions on girls telling you first that they like you?", "summary": "I'm going to be meeting up with my friend and I want him to know that I like him, but I don't know if I should tell him or not. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_1deuhu", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "No paid work since 2007, how screwed am I?", "post": "Australian here, I'll try and keep this short, currently I'm 23 and interested in joining the defence force.\n\nI had my first and only paid job back in grade 10 at Red Rooster, the experience there wasn't exactly the best and this lasted about 2 years before I quit. I wasn't interested in working for the rest of high school (graduated at the end of 2007 anyway).\n\n2008 was a blur for me, I think I was struggling with social anxiety issues which inhibited me from finding work, 2009 I got onto Youth Allowance for finding a job which didn't seem to work that well. In 2010 I started a course for Games Design (what I was interested in at the time) which ended in 2011, however I did partake in a 6 month quality assurance internship for an independent game studio (relevant for data entry). Still, it's a very difficult profession to find work for, so in 2012 I spent the first 6 months looking for any job without Centelink's assistance and again I was unsuccessful, couldn't even land an interview.\n\nIn the second half of 2012 I began my process for the Defence Force. Did great my YouSession and had been training heaps for the assessment session. When it came however I was made class 4, but was given the option to appeal if I could clear up some health issues (asthma mainly).\n\nSo this is where I am now, I'm getting back on Centrelink, called Newstart now and have began applying for jobs again and hoping for the best while I go through the treatment to satisfy the ADF.\n\nConsider this the", "summary": "\u2013 Can anyone provide tips on making more progress in terms of finding work? I'm pretty much looking for anything that isn't fast food. I've made my resume as neat and to the point as possible and I'm not sure what else to do."}
{"id": "t3_4r8u39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (25F) says she misses me but is afraid of being hurt by me (24M), 5 year relationship in jeopardy.", "post": "We officially broke up about a week ago after a few weeks of turmoil. It started after I told her that I wasn't sure what I wanted in life, and suggested a break from the relationship. I knew I wanted her but I needed to figure my stuff out (long story, not relevant) I missed her tremendously but she turned around a week later and told me she needed a break as well. Then this past week she suggested we break up for real while focusing on ourselves. I took this as her wanting to see other people so I left the apartment we share to visit family a few states away.\n\nAfter a few days away she calls and texts like crazy. I want to talk to her but I always want to give her her space, so I'm straight to the point and brief. 6 days pass and I need to visit the apartment to grab a few things in order to continue my roadtrip. We talk and she tells me how much she misses me, knows we're supposed to be together, want to marry me etc etc. I'm happy as I feel the same way, but she says she doesn't want to jump right back into the relationship until we fix the problems we originally had (communication probably being the biggest). We had a great solid relationship and through this all we've remained friends. No big arguments or fights. Just too people that are committed to each other that have unintentionally hurt each other.\n\nHer biggest hurdle it seems is trusting that I actually want to be with her. Our time apart was supposed to be to find out what we (really me) really wanted. She wanted to be sure that I want her, as we had been talking about marriage for some time. It was supposed to last more than 6 days but circumstances didn't allow it. I slept over last night and we had a great time. Might stay tonight. We missed each other dearly. However, I'm not sure what else there is for me to do. I've apologized 100 times for starting this entire thing but she is afraid of getting hurt (rightfully so). What else can I do?", "summary": "Hurt \"ex\" GF, so wants to be with me but is afraid of being hurt."}
{"id": "t3_3aqmx2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "s you progress through life, how do you get over the existential pulse of aging and growing up?", "post": "I'm turning 28, recently moved to a new city, and as I've had to start my social circle over (from moving and starting a new job) and I've been getting these overwhelming feelings of \"oh shit, I'm going to die some day.\"\n\nI realize I started to take on a lot of worry, like what if this new job doesn't work out, or what if I can't afford my apartment? I'm now older than my father was when he married my mother and had me, and that thought FREAKS me out! I look at my girlfriend everyday (she moved with me) and see us growing old together, but at the same time I see us being young together. Then I see my grandparents, and their lives and having kids HOLY CRAP its just all so crazy.\n\nI guess, I don't know what to do with this certain awareness of reality now. Time, age, life. This shit is going by fast! It's scary! How do you all deal with these deep existential realizations? Any tips to just live in the moment and enjoy? (I'm trying!)\nThank you!", "summary": "I'm almost 30, recently moved with my girlfriend to a new city, and have been realizing I'm now more of an adult and it's sort of freaking me out!"}
{"id": "t3_52qbei", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] Providing \"Gift\" Money for a Down Payment", "post": "I'm hoping to get some advice on this real estate related question.  My sister and her husband are working on purchasing their first home.  They approached me and asked if I would be willing to help them out with their down payment.  This assistance would be them handing me $5k in cash, and then I write them a check for the $5k and state it was a gift.  They said the broker told them to do this.\n\nPersonally, I don't see why something like this would be necessary, and for lack of a better term, seems to be money laundering.  I don't see how them having $5k in cash is any different from them getting \"gifted\" $5k.  Money is money, right?  \n\nFrom my little bit of google searching it looks like this then requires me to hand over my personal bank records as well to prove where the money came from.  While I don't have anything to hide, it is just more of an invasion of privacy in something I'm otherwise not a part of.\n\nIs this something that is common?", "summary": "Sister wants to hand me $5k cash and have me write them a check saying the $5k is a gift for their new home purchase."}
{"id": "t3_54j0yk", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Should I see my urologist? Or wait it out?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I have a bit of medical history to address super fast, but I'll split it up. Thank you in advance. ( F , 18 y/o )\n\nOctober 2015 I got my first UTI. They started to come back every 4-6 weeks. I was referred to see a nephrologist. He diagnosed me with kidney disease after having an ultrasound and revealing I have seemingly one kidney. Left has grown to compensate for the right that seems to have not worked since birth. Also had what they said to be a \"small stone\" in the right kidney.\n\nI had then been referred to see a urologist if I got another UTI within the span of the next nephrologist visit. Well, I got one again. So I had a scheduled visit there before the nephrologist.\n\nThat was around June, 2016. Not much longer than a month, I had gotten sick from what seemed to be a stomach virus. All the symptoms. Lasted longer than 48 hours, which was strange. I had two ER visits due to pain and what I thought was bloody stool. CT scan revealed a cyst on my right ovary but that wasn't made a big deal.\n\nThen a GI doctor referral. She scheduled a multitude of tests for me. My stool sample test came back positive with C. Difficile toxin B. I am now taking Flagyl for this. 500 mg 3x a day. I have an endoscopy and colonoscopy October 3rd.\n\nToday, I've had a bit of pain in my lower abdomen very similar to what I would say UTI pain. I've had burning sensations when I've gone to the bathroom, too. I'm a bit worried and was wondering if I should see my urologist. The next time I believed I would have a UTI he requested I go to the clinic. \n\nThank you, all advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Diagnosed with kidney disease, recurrent UTI's, stone in kidney, cyst on right ovary, C. Difficile infection, and UTI symptoms while on Flagyl for C. diff."}
{"id": "t3_3b8av2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by presenting a powerpoint in front of my economics class", "post": "As per TIFU, this didn't happen today. Sue me.\n\nAnyway, I'm actually in a sophomore global economics class, and our final was yesterday. As a class, groups got categories that pertained to business type stuff, such as money management and stuff, that we had to present in a 10 minute powerpoint. My group got Credit and Debt, which worked out for the best.\n\nThe teacher, said we could include a video to introduce our topic. Since my group and I didn't want to talk for 10 minutes straight, we unanimously decided to go with a video explaining our topic on YouTube.\n\nOur presentation was going great, we had it all on Google Drive and everything was perfect. But I missed one crucial mistake that possibly ruined my reputation in front of my entire class.\n\nNow introducing, the fuck up.\n\nIf you aren't familiar of having 2 YouTube accounts connected to your 1 Gmail account, there's a dialogue box that pops up asking which account you would prefer to use YouTube as. One of my accounts was my actual name, and then my sarcastic YouTube persona, \"Choke My Chicken\". Everyone saw it, and they all saw my name below it. My teacher also saw it, and she shot a look of disgust toward me. I had no idea at the time that box could show, and I could barely show my face for the rest of the presentation.", "summary": "Choking your chicken in front of your class isn't good."}
{"id": "t3_126f0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (21f) wants to do a nude photo shoot at her arts school, I was a bit uncomfortable with it, did I overstep boundaries? (I'm 20m)", "post": "(been dating for 2 1/2 years, known each other for 5) So my girlfriend is thinking about helping one of her friends do a nude photo shoot (no faces, limited nudity) for an art project at her school. She won't be the only girl, it's only females being shot because the project has to do with womanhood or something. Anyway she asked me if she should do it or not and I told her go for it, but that I'd feel weird about it if there were other guys there. At the same time I told her I thought it'd be a good way for her to get out of her shell a little bit.\n\nI know it's her body and she can do what she wants, but was it a bad thing to say I'd be uncomfortable if there were other guys there. I understand it's art school and stuff like this kind of flies and it's not that big of a deal in context, but I'd lie if I weren't a little jealous about the idea. She told me there wouldn't be other guys and that was it. I'm just wondering if I overstepped some boundaries here, did I come off controlling/possessive?", "summary": "girlfriend is thinking about doing a nude art shoot for her art school ( no faces limited nudity). I told her to go for it, but that I'd feel a little uncomfortable if there were other guys there. Did I do the bad possessive/ controlling thing here?"}
{"id": "t3_42f44w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] dating a [25F] and wondering how we should approach a relationship that has no real-life ties", "post": "I've been on a couple dates with a 25F, I'm a 24M. We met on tinder and I really like her. We've only been on two dates and made-out both times. It's nothing serious but when I think about how this might play out, I am a bit confused. I guess I'm just now starting to think about the dynamics of real relationship with her. \n\nA couple factors:\nWe live in different cities about a half hour away, and we both have cars. She works in my city. But my worry is that we have no real connections (ie work or shared hobbies). As a result, I feel that our scheduling of dates is rather forced and there isn't any casual way just to hangout (essentially we are either on a date, or not hanging out at all). Is this normal at my age? This dynamic is new to me because I've never really dated outside of college (where at least we had our studies in common). In the past, it's always just been natural to hangout with things like studying and then schedule actual dates intermittently, but now it seems that \"dating\" is the only way to hangout with this girl. In essence its \"dating to date\" rather than knowing each other as friends and then dating. It just feels forced to me. That said, I'd love to be in a committed relationship and I am up to give this a real commitment. \n\nSo I guess my questions are: how does dating change after college change? in general, are you/the general populace in their mid 20's more inclined to make strong efforts to make a relationship work? How do relationships at this age progress into casual, just sitting in front of a TV sort of thing? \n\nMy inclination as of now is just go with the flow and see how things play out. But a part of me gets anxious knowing that I like her but not seeing a way of making it work", "summary": "Two people in their mid 20's looking to have a serious relationship without having a reason to hangout, other than actually \"dating\". In your experience, how does casual dating change to a relationship for people in their mid 20s?"}
{"id": "t3_18lfo9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[m22] like girl A[f19], got caught up in a moment and kissed her sister, girl B[f21]...", "post": "So I met these two girls the same night and we started to hang out in groups. Throughout these hang-outs, I learned that girl B had some sort of 'rights' on me. For example, girl A would take the front-seat forcing girl B to sit in the backseat with me. Girl A was pretty much wing-manning for her sister. One night I was walking with girl B talking about deeper stuff, got caught up in moment, expressed feelings for one another and we kissed.\n\nProblem? I actually like her sister, girl A. Working quickly to rectify this is best I could, I talked to girl B about how things were rushed, I was vulnerable, and it was generally a mistake that we kissed. She took this more in a way of 'lets go back to being friends, and wait'. When in reality, I have no plans of dating her what-so-ever. Now I have successfully seemingly forever barred off the actual love interest,girl A, her sister, as I, being retarded, kissed girl B.\n\nGirl A and Girl B's sister relationship is important to me, I really don't see how I can safely pursue girl A at all, without dramatic things happening.\n\nOnly way I see this happening is if we stay friends long enough for girl B to move on, with the passing of time maybe pursuing girl A would become socially acceptable. Sigh... What if she finds someone else in that time?\n\nNeat info: Girl B told me how her sister, Girl A, talked about me a lot when we first met, and people thought she was interested in me.\n\nWHAT DO?", "summary": "Girl A and girl b are sisters. I am interested in Girl A. I kissed girl B like a moron. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2mhqk1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to stop an argument from happening?", "post": "I am in deep crap right now. As a part of the Noahide religion (Basically Jews, but not allowed to do certain things that Jews can do and only have 7 commandments) and someone with an Islamic mother, I am pretty close to starting a huge argument about the one of the worst things to argue about: religion. Our dog recently ran away and as it is really cold here (snowing, in fact), I believe he is dead. I have blamed my mother since she was the one who forced him outside for the last believed couple of months of his life since Muslims are not allowed to keep animals - even their pets - inside since they are considered beasts. He got out presumably through a hole in the yard and then got out on the streets. Could have gotten hit by a car, run over (unlikely since he's a medium-sized dog), or could've freezed to death. Right now, I am texting with her and even explicitly said that I am trying to get ourselves out of a situation that would've caused sadness in her heart and put me in the Hellfire, as she (and every other Muslim) calls it. Now I need to get myself out of a potential argument as quickly as possible. Give me as much advice as you can, because I need a few pages or so to save myself!", "summary": "My little cousin should learn that ice kills dogs."}
{"id": "t3_1rekrr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my[22 M/F] 7 months, Is it normal to have less sex now?", "post": "So me and my lady have hit our 7 month, and are very compatible. At around the 5 month mark I pretty much moved in with her and so far it's been pretty good. The only thing is we aren't having sex as often as we used to and so I ask should I be worried? These are our current living situation.\n\n-Both go to the same college\n-See each other pretty much every day, the longest during the weekends and the shortest during the week\n-Both have side jobs\n\nI'm just wondering if I should maybe see her every other day (my house isn't far from hers) or even just keep to seeing her during the weekends. (When the relationship started we were only able to see each other during the weekends, resulting and a pretty fun honeymoon phase)", "summary": "Been together for a few months, sex has gone down, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3d7wc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy [33/M] I [27/F] have been seeing isn't as in touch as he was at the beginning. Is this a natural progression or is he just not as interested anymore?", "post": "I have been seeing a guy I met online since the beginning of April. We live an hour apart, and I will be moving abroad in about a year, but decided we'd like to date anyway. We both have varying, often long, work schedules and are able to see each other about every other weekend. \n\nAt the beginning he was texting me all the time. I mean all day. We have so much in common and it was really exciting getting to know one another. Now, sometimes we'll go for a few days without talking at all. I feel like I initiate things more often than not now. But he never ignores me, still always makes plans with me and is always really excited to see me when we do get together. We have a great time together, he always tells me how much he loves spending time with me.\n\nHonestly, now as I am typing this out it feels a bit stupid and insecure. I haven't wanted to bring it up as we aren't serious and I don't WANT to sound needy or insecure. Is this just a normal progression of things or am I right to wonder if he's just not interested anymore? It's been a while since I've been in a relationship or dated anyone longer than a few weeks.", "summary": "Been dating someone who lives an hour away, doesn't text much anymore, still see each other every other weekend. Is this normal or is he not interested anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_rwxpa", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Keeping your dog entertained while at work", "post": "Hello everyone. I recently got dog who is a mixed breed, 3 yr old female. She has been excellent so far (no accidents, no unwanted chewing), but I would love to have some way to keep her entertained while I'm away at work. I currently leave the television on and make sure she has had at least a 1/2 hr to an hour walk before I leave (it is/will be tough to walk for an hour when I need to be at work at 4:45am--it's not often, but it happens. Generally the later I have to go into work, I make sure to walk her for longer and more frequently). She is used to being left alone for longer periods of time--outside--, according to her previous owner, but since she is such a smart dog, I don't want her to become bored with nothing to do. (I have owned dogs before, but this is the first time that I have a dog who is alone", "summary": "I'm looking for ideas about how to keep my dog entertained while I'm not at home. How do you all do it with your dog?"}
{"id": "t3_4ep7wm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [34 F] 4.5yr, after 4+ years she still cant drop the extra weight, should I move on or wait longer?", "post": "I've been dating my current GF for 4 years and change. When I met her she was kinda heavy and I told her from the start my expectation is for her to drop weight if she wants this to go somewhere. At first, I was merely hinting at it, then after a while I flat out told her, directly, no bull shit... this is what I want, do it. I look good, I'm in shape, I lift, have a pretty active lifestyle, I want to have an  8-10 next to me... I do not want to get married to an overweight chick.\n\nShe accepted it and got on board, started going to the gym with me and then got her own membership, and changed her diet. As a person she's great, definitely a 10, we get along, we laugh, the sex is good, she's caring. Definitely, a girl I could wife up. \n\nI've tried pushing her hard in the gym, bought her equipment to use at home, she gets upset and says I'm being too harsh on her. Okay, I backed off, didn't comment much on it and just cheered her on each time I knew she was at the gym putting in work. But she's still not losing weight. After 4 years it should have dropped, people do transformations in 6-8 months. She's by no means obese, but a lot more in the middle than I'd like to see. \n\nAm I being too superficial here? I've seen pictures of her when she was in shape and she looked great, a big belly is not what I'm into. I kinda feel like a dick... but I've overlooked it for this long waiting for her to produce results. \n\nI'm kinda starting to feel I am wasting my time while I could find someone else. \n\nPlease don't tell me I'm a superficial dick or something like that, I already know that. Being fit is a big deal to me, I feel like I gave her a long enough chance \n\nWhen should I call it quits? Should I call it quits at all? Anyone else experience something like this?", "summary": "Gave my gf 4+ year of time to lose weight . She's a great person, sex is good, we laugh, we talk. Visually the weight is a big deal to me. I gave her a chance and was upfront about my expectations. Should I wait longer or is it time to move on? Anyone else have this kind of experience?"}
{"id": "t3_i25rm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "starting to fool around with my ex. nsa?", "post": "So we decided to be friends. We broke up after a few months before the \"I love you\" mark - so that was good timing. We gave eachother some distance and then started talking again. A random hangout here and there, some funny emails/links to articles, etc: \"friend stuff.\" So the other day she stopped by my house on her way home from work to give me $12 and a gift she got for me. The gift was shampoo (random - one reason I like this girl). Then she said she wanted to make out. I smirked and obliged. Things got pretty hot but we didn't quote on quote have \"sex.\" We just made out for like 45 minutes. We're going to do it again. It's kind of more enjoyable without the relationship shadow hanging over but I've kindaaa been in this situation before with ex'es where we start fooling around and I end up getting hurt. I think the difference here is I am older and expecting nothing other than some fun. Am I wrong to think this? or is this a fools dream, the no strings attached sex dream?", "summary": "sex with ex. good bad meh?"}
{"id": "t3_1w2fkb", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Maybe a dumb question, but does home maintenance count as a reason to use the emergency fund?", "post": "Obviously there's context here.  Things like a frozen pipe that bursts in the winter are clearly an emergency.\n\nBut there's a lot of things I'm not sure how to classify.  There are lots of costs of home ownership I *know* I will have to incur, although maybe not *when* I have to pay for them, such as:\n\n* Furnace replacement\n* Re-roofing the house\n* Replacing major appliances (washer, dryer, etc)\n\nDo these things count?  Or should I be saving separately for this?\n\nI ask, because I'm finding myself a bit spread thin; I have money auto-deducted from my paycheque that goes to building my emergency fund, savings for my annual gym membership, my RSPs (I'm Canadian - this is like IRAs), my pension, etc.\n\nShould I be budgeting even more money for the re-roof I'll need to do in ~3-5 years, or is that what the emergency fund is for?", "summary": "Known expenses of home ownership - do they get paid out from your emergency fund, or should I be saving separately for each of them as well?"}
{"id": "t3_2nx098", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 4 years has been cheating, what am i supposed to do?", "post": "I am in a relationship of 4 years with my high school girlfriend, long story short I have been in the military since I was 18 and when I go away to training sites or schools my girlfriend has been cheating on me.  She hasn't shown any change in her demeanor but two of my best friends were the ones that informed me, and she has been locking her cell phone and laptop which she never used to do.\n\nI am 6 credits away from graduating with a bachelors in Finance, I purchased an engagement ring and we have even been looking at houses to buy together. I have molded my life and future around this woman and I feel as if that structure has collapsed. I still love her and she tells me she still loves me, what am I supposed to do in this situation?", "summary": "gf cheated what am I to do?"}
{"id": "t3_53uxgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] have found myself feeling inferior/jealous around my friend [19F].", "post": "Throwaway because I know how petty of an issue this is and I don't want it associated with my main.\n\nSo I [19F] have a good friend that I'm honestly very jealous of. Let's call her Grace [19F]. First of all, Grace is literally the epitome of everything good and sweet in the world. She's the type of girl that doesn't look like she could harm a fly. Just a really sweet, mild temperament. She's very humble and doesn't see what literally everybody else sees in her. She's generous, kind, and an extremely great friend. I seriously have zero problems with her, she's supportive and loyal and everything you'd want a friend to be.\n\nGrace also happens to be 5\"8, lithe (think dancer's body type) perpetually tan, has very nice hair and very pretty blue eyes, and is just generally a really gorgeous person. Nearly every time we hang out I see guys checking her out/staring at her. I cringe every time I see a picture of us together because of the stark contrast between us. I'm 5\"5, pale, still thin but not the same body type as her, have boring brown eyes, and my hair....it's long and wavy and generally just all over the place. I don't think I'm necessarily \"ugly\", but in comparison to her, I'm definitely the inferior looking one.\n\nAs I said before, I have ZERO problems with Grace. She's one of the best friends I've ever had, and an all-around great person. I've just been finding myself feeling insecure when I'm around her lately. She's pretty, smart, kind, generous, has an great boyfriend, a great circle of friends, etc. It's almost getting exhausting being around someone that seems so perfect. I know that no one is actually perfect, and I know that these feelings of jealously are stemming from my own insecurities. I just don't know how to deal with it. I'm tired of feeling ugly and inferior around her. She's such an awesome person and doesn't deserve any negative feelings directed towards her. Any advice/words of wisdom?\n_____________________________________________________________________________________", "summary": "One of my [19F] good friends [19F] is basically the embodiment of perfection and it makes me feel insecure."}
{"id": "t3_1ubj2l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever had to break-up with a SO for logistical reasons? How did it go?", "post": "I am a 24 year old male, I live with my SO right now the UK, and we are both from the US. I have to return to the US very soon while she remains here for another 6 months. The real problem though is that we are moving back to different states and don't think we will ever live in the same place again. Other than that we have a wonderful relationship. We have pretty much accepted that we have to break-up unless we want to be long distance for years. \nSo are there any other Redditors out there who have ended a relationship for logistical reasons? How did it go? Did you remain friends? Did you get back together? \nThanks for sharing.", "summary": "SO and I are moving to different places for many years so we are breaking up. Have you had a similar experience? What happened?"}
{"id": "t3_1qgki3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Personal ledger vs. online banking -- why actually keeping track of your expenses matters", "post": "I know that keeping track of your expenses is a no brainer...  everyone knows they should be doing that.  But, I wanted to offer a warning to people who are relying on the balance reported by their bank, particularly financial responsibility noobs who have tight budgets.\n\nI have been banking online almost exclusively for several years.  When I first started out, I thought it would be the most convenient, hassle-free, error-free way to keep track of spending... after all, it's all right there for me to see, anytime I'm online.  But, I noticed quickly that my mental balance was different than the balance shown on my account.  Why?  Because purchases don't necessarily happen in real time with real amounts.  Various merchants will sometimes authorize a smaller amount before actually charging the full amount.  Consider the case where I spend $60 to fill my car with gas.  Three days later, the $60 has still not left my account.  There is, however, a $1 authorization charge, which will change later.  If I just go by the balance reported by my bank, I will think that I have more money than I actually have.  This happens also anytime you leave a tip.  **Note that it almost never goes the opposite direction.  You will almost never have more money in your account than is being reported by your bank.  This is a systematic error.**\n\nFor me, at any given time, I would say that my reported balance is about $100 *more* than the money I actually have.  If you're running a tight ship like I am, that's a large margin of error.", "summary": "Keep track of your expenses indepently because the balance reported by your bank is usually an *overestimate* of what you actually have."}
{"id": "t3_2yb31v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [21/F] and I'v been with my [21/M] Boyfriend for a while, his mother does not approve? Advice?", "post": "I'v been with my boyfriend for some time now and his mother has met me before. We've both decided we wanna actually spend our lives together and have been planning for that day now (our wedding). We're both adults, pay our taxes, work, ect ect. But when he brought up to his mother that he was possibly gonna be moving to where I live, she blew up.\nNow, his reason for wanting to leave was personal. It was to find another job and build dependency because he felt really uneasy being where he was at. He pretty much isn't happy with where his current living condition is and wants to make a change in life.\nNow, some pointers I should tell you guys about is my boyfriend is Chinese. And his mother is from Hong Kong China, so she has traditional values N what not...I'm Hispanic, grew up in a traditional hispanic house hold. \n\nShe was okay with him dating me, she didn't take it as anything serious. But when she saw that we where planning our futures together, she even went as far as cutting his phone service off and refusing to allow him to leave out of the city to see me.\n(Keep in mind he lives with his mother to finish school, he pays for his own schools and pays for the car he drives, however its under her name.)\nShe went as far as pulling the race card, telling him that \"Mexican girls are lazy, and cling to a good man whenever they can\"\n\nI feel hurt, i feel lost, and above all else he's hurting. He's made it clear that she's not gonna have any affect on us being together but she's trying her hardest to restrict him from seeing me or even talking to me...Next week i'm adding him to my phone plan (i have my own) and we're going to save up money together so he can get another car under his name so she can't have any power over him.\nIt just...really hurts. I really need some advice on how I can get through to his mother that i'm right for him. I love this man like no one else.", "summary": "Boyfriend's chinese mother dosn't like me because i'm hispanic, is trying to keep us apart."}
{"id": "t3_102xzv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m]Solving a guilty conscience", "post": "Hi; sorry if this isn't the correct subreddit, but I thought you would have some advice!\n\nSo I ended up at a random club on Friday, and to cut a long story short, had way too much to drink. \n\nI messaged a girl that was at the club that I met a few days earlier and goes to my uni (also single, recently broken up). All I remember doing is very incoherently asking her (at the end of the night) if she wanted to go out at some point.\n\nI sent her apologies and another message on facebook the day after. I haven't received any replies.\n\nI don't really mind if I don't end up with a date. However, I am the sort of person that gets very guilty about these things. I can't for the life of me remember anything else about the night (It's a miracle I stumbled home...). The fact that I haven't received any replies worries me that I might have done something awful (I have no record of this in the past, but hell, I can't remember).\n\nI know it's entirely entirely my fault for having so much to drink. But I'm feeling very guilty. The way I see it, I have two options: 1) Message her on facebook again asking if I had done anything wrong, and that I feel terribly guilty about it or 2) Leaving it be. I don't want to bug her. Unfortunately the guilt would still tear me up, and it hasn't left over the course of three days.\n\nOn holiday at the moment, so can't contact her physically.", "summary": "Drunken night, minimal memory, very guilty that I've really offended a certain girl. Will another fb message bug her or is it appropriate?"}
{"id": "t3_4yge5q", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CA] I got a terrible surprise chemical peel, how can I be reimbursed for subsequent dermatologist bills?", "post": "Hi folks,\nI need some help here. I posted in /r/SkincareAddiction and got the advise to check in with you guys here. I don't know the first thing about legal matters or where to start...\n\nThis is what happened:\n\nI went in for a Hydrafacial facial in June. The aesthetician did a Chemical Peel as a surprise upgrade without discussing it with me. The results were disaster. I had deep burns immediately afterwards that left scabs all over my face that took 3 weeks to heal. It goes without saying that during that time I was in a lot of pain as well/took days off work to sit in a dimly lit room and ice my face. The spots where I had the scabbing left red scars after the scabs closed up. I followed up with a dermatologist and he did a V-beam treatment to reduce the redness and it helped.\n\nThe salon has refused to refund the treatment or offer anything to help speed up the healing process. They are insisting that my reaction is completely normal and is a healthy part of the skincare process. The first time I went in seeking help they said that the only thing that will help with the pain and potential scarring is if I purchase their products for which I was quoted another $200! \n\nThe spa manager promised a full refund but ended up only offering a partial refund and has been unreachable since that time. I got fed up after a month of being in pain and dealing with the spa shenanigans so I called my credit card company and requested that they dispute this charge.\n\nWhat do I do now though? Ideally, I would like the spa to comp me what I paid for the dermatologist treatment to fix the scarring on my face that was caused by them and any products I need to use for healing.\nHas anyone been in this situation or know what I can do or expect in cases like this?", "summary": "I got a surprise chemical peel at horrid spa with terrible results, need advise on how to get follow up dermatologist visits comped."}
{"id": "t3_1ywm1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [25 M], my ex [24 F] 3 years together, we split last summer, she wants updates on my possible new dates", "post": "We split up last summer.\n\nWe didn't see each other for a while, but hooked up for sex (no strings attached) last month.\n\nLately we stopped seeing each other as it was unhealthy (for her at least), I think I realised she was still emotionally attached... Even though we talked about it a lot.\n\nNow we are both on dating sites and she wants to know if I have a date with a girl. Truth is I met a girl and slept with her recently (**AFTER I stopped seeing my ex**). Should I let my ex know of this or just telll her to stop texting me and turn the page?\n\nMy question is : Should I keep her informed about my whereabouts since she says it would help her get over it, or is it better to cut off contact so that she finally moves on.\n\nThanks guys.", "summary": "ex (who is still emotionally attached it seems) wants to know if I am dating a girl. I slept with a girl I recently met. Should I tell the ex (she says me telling her would help her get over me). I really want to limit the hurt here."}
{"id": "t3_1lxe0p", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Went out for a quick 5 miler this morning. Stumbled into a race. Ran it. Is that legit? Money and running.", "post": "So I woke up this morning and treated myself to a brief five miler at around 9 am. It's was a beautiful september day. Started my normal route around town and suddenly I see a crowd of people coming up the street, flanked by police on bicycles and cheering fans on either side of the road.\n\nI decided to join the race regardless of having started at the beginning (turned out the race was only a 5k).\n\nI was wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience, dropping into a race unannounced. Given what race prices are these days, is a recent college graduate expected to actually pay for each one? Don't tell anyone but I totally skipped the $75 entry fee on a Color Run once. I mean these race organizers must be making a killing. I guess I just figure, catch me if you can.\n\nIsn't running just about being with people? regardless of how much money is in your pocket, or how many causes you support? I mean there's something noble about beating leukemia, but my cousin just did the nyc triathlon, for which he had to raise 5 grand. On race day they billed his account for $1200 because he was short. When he made up the money, they were reluctant to reimburse him. then you factor in all of the sponsorships they get. I think there's something fishy going on here, but I really don't know much on the subject. runnit, enlighten me.", "summary": "didn't register, ran anyway. good or bad? and what's the deal with expensive race registration?"}
{"id": "t3_39o4sw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My wife [F/25] has been talking to an ex behind my [M/25] and it's gotten serious, but she has no clue I know.", "post": "My wife and I have been going through a stressful time in life. Almost all of the stress has been caused apart from the relationship, however, we are beginning to grow apart due to the way we have handled the stress. Long story short, she has started to talk to her ex who she dated over 5 years ago and lives across the country from us. They have mentioned how they want to run away together jokingly(He is married as well). My wife and I have been very close up until the last 3 months when our living situation changed. I feel like much of her talking to him has to deal with her venting to him and finding someone to talk to. She has no clue I have seen all of her texts. We are working on correcting our relationship issues and moving on, so far it has gone well. But this is a major setback and a huge surprise to me. How do I approach her about it to find out her true intentions without running the risk of it blowing out of proportion if it actually is what I, and my friends, suspect it to be.. a crutch?", "summary": "How do I approach my wife on who she has been talking to without the truth being distorted due to me hiding my knowledge?"}
{"id": "t3_4066kz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a barber shop.", "post": "Like the very few posts that was posted here, it happened tonight.\n\nI was going to a barber shop, to cut my hair. When cutting my hair, I should always get rid of my cut hairs on my skin, because it's itchy if I refuse so. Now, it was a normal haircut until after I exit the shop.\n\nNow, this is where the FU happens:\nI have already got rid of my cut hairs on my skin. I didn't notice that there's a lot of hair on my foot, and guess what happens:\nIt's so fucking itchy, that I raised my right foot often on my way, and lucky, I have a hand sanitizer in my bag, and used it to remove the itchiness.\n\nThat's why kids, after cutting your hair, you should always check your  feet, and see if there's any fallen hair on it.", "summary": "Got hair on my foot, Itchiness is intense!"}
{"id": "t3_3e38m4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stuck in a bad cycle, how to get out?", "post": "He is 24, and I am 21. We've been seeing each other for around half a year now. We both agreed on that we're in stages of our lives where we're not ready to be \"boyfriend/girlfriend\" because we are both total messes, yet we do everything like a couple would. Now don't get me wrong, this isn't one of those \"He just isn't into you\" situations because I'm the one refusing to be his \"girlfriend\"\n\nI know he's loyal, ready to be in a relationship, and will never wrong me. But the same problems we've talked about still exist: He has no passion about anything - I can't let him only passion be me. He is unmotivated and can't fight for what he wants. The list could go on and on but he's basically not what I'm looking for in a partner.\n\nHe's already said I love you, I've said it a few times before as well and I really felt it too when I did. But after we spend time together, I always feel so empty. Like something's missing. I know I shouldn't even be questioning what love is if what I was feeling was really love.. I catch myself Google-ing for answers. I see posts telling me love means seeing past the other's flaws. I know I haven't, and not only that but his flaws are starting to irritate me more and more.\n\nI've tried ending things with him but both of us are too weak to let go. We rely on each other too much and he isn't able to let go. I'm honestly so miserable most of the time, even though we don't fight. He's understanding, sensitive, sweet, and most things a girl would wish for. Part of me just wishes he would cheat on me or do something outrageous so I could break it off with him. I don't know what's wrong with me, why can't I just live in the moment and enjoy it? How do I get out?", "summary": "In a relationship but something's missing. Don't want to hurt him but don't know how to get out either. I'm miserable."}
{"id": "t3_1udmbh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by attempting to eat my own tongue", "post": "Saw a post about [eating gummies] and it triggered a memory of something I did last May...  \n\nIt was close to the end of the semester, finals week was coming up, so any second thoughts about eating junk food were tossed out the window.  I was chowing down on some CVS gummy bears that were delicious, but a little hard to chew on partially because my apartment is cold year-round (thank you San Francisco).  Towards the end of the bag of delicious gummy bears, my glorious set of teeth manage to miss each other and instead [make direct contact with my tongue]  \n\nBecause gummy bears do not taste good with tongue blood, my only solution was to play Pokemon on my bed for the next half-hour while I waited for the bleeding to stop.", "summary": "I finished the rest of the gummy bears after the bleeding stopped.  "}
{"id": "t3_2lvj7j", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Give it a second, it's going to space! My opinion on plateaus, loose skin, frustration and relapse.", "post": "Hi Loseit,\n\nA little bit of a rant because I see so many posts here that are along the lines of I've lost 50, 75, 100+lbs and have plateaued, or about loose skin, or feeling large even though they've lost large amounts of weight, or frustration with where they are fitness wise, and it makes me think of a running joke my partner and I have. Any time something is taking awhile, or we need to be patient for something we tend to say \"give it a second, it's going to space\" in reference to this Louis CK bit \n\nMy opinion is people need to chill a little when they hit these frustrating points. Bodies are natural systems, respect yours, it can only change so much so fast. The changes some people here are making are so all encompassing that encountering these problems means you deserve a pat on the back because they represent just how far you've come. Plateau after losing 100lbs? It makes me think \"oh, you're frustrated? And are you virtually unrecognizable from who you were last year? Are you able to fucking enter a gym without feeling awkward? Let alone exercise without feeling like death?\". The plateau will break, the loose skin will rebound, and mental perceptions will shift, but your body might as well be going to space for how much you're asking it to do. It takes years to get really unfit give yourself time to get healthy, internally, externally, and mentally.", "summary": "Congratulate yourself for where you're at and keep working towards the person you want to be. Don't berate yourself for where you feel you should be."}
{"id": "t3_403l53", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22M] not sure how I feel about my recent ex [19] and how or what I should do.", "post": "So we broke up after 4 months and it's because I told her the truth about the encounters I've had in the past before I met her. She's only been with one guy so she found it disgusting and said can't look at me the same way. So we try to make it work but it doesn't work even after two more months\n\nShe later tells me that she likes me still and I do as well but she also said when we're just friends she wants to be more than friends and when we're something more than friends things don't work and we don't always get along as just friends.  \n\nSo I don't know what to do. I think it's childish that she can't get over something as petty as this and it hurts to know that she doesn't or can't date me because of my past. And sometimes I just don't even want to be friends with her but somehow she just comes back into my life and it just makes me super frustrated. I'm not sure of what to do. She still talks to me as a boyfriend and I don't know how I feel about that. I don't wanna be used as just someone to talk to. \n\nAnd one last thing, me as a guy, I don't keep and girl friends and if I do, it's because I want date them in the near future or am attracted to them in some sort of way. I like having a tiny circle of friends and I'm happy with the amount of guy friends I have. \nI guess what I'm trying to say is that I could do without her as a friend, it's weird hurting feeling I have on the inside if I stay friends but that involves me cutting her off completely.", "summary": "lied for 2 months about how many encounters I've had (wasn't even dating) but told her cus I didn't want to start dating based on a lie. Told her everything then went downhill. Now she doesn't want to date but still likes me and talks to me almost every night for 2-3 hrs. And it's annoying how she basically looks for everything that's in me in her ideal guy. It hurts me to stay friends because I know she didn't accept because of my past and I don't know if I can unless she dates me then I guess that means she's accepted me for who I am. "}
{"id": "t3_26hj7u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (26M) girlfriend (22F) just started dating, at first I insisted on paying for most dates. Is it too late to shift the balance more equally now?", "post": "*shit, title should be: My girlfriend and I just started dating*\n\nWe started dating about a month ago and have hit it off extremely well. I seriously adore everything about her, and I don't mind paying for most things we do together as I like to spoil her. She is definitely very caring and offered to pay several times for our first few dates but I declined. Now she hasn't offered, which isn't a huge problem, but I'd like her to pay for some things a little more often. \n\nThis is a factor because we go out together 4-5 times a week. I don't care (nor want) for it to be 50/50 but instead maybe 70/30. Right now it's 95/5", "summary": "Is it too late to ask her to pay more often sometimes, without coming off as an ass? What do I say?"}
{"id": "t3_3riqz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 22m feel like I can't let go of an on-again off-again relationship (22f)", "post": "It's a very long story so I'm going to summarize the best I can. For as long as I could remember I have had trouble relating to people, so it has been hard to find many intimate relationships. Sometimes I think I'm too boring, or neurotic. That's besides the point.\n\nI got to know this girl in highschool, never able to date her until after highschool though. We dated for a year, even started staying together during college in our own place (too soon), it became clear she was verbally abusive and at the end physical. It hurt me so much to end like we did though, she seemed like my missing puzzle piece.\n\nSo she did some awful stuff, said some bad things about my mom (that she heard), and started dating my friend. She left him soon after we met up for lunch, and for a few months we were steady. It ended rough, not nearly as rough as the first go, and she began dating this guy at her work.\n\nThey dated awhile until he dropped her, and she rebounded on his friend for a few months (even she will say this was a questionable decision). Meanwhile I started dating someone else, moved in with them too quick and we recently separated. I pay the price of having her as a roommate now, something we both wish were a little different.\n\nWell what do you know I have lunch with this old flame again, and now we text. She said she's seeking professional help regarding what happened between us, she seems so genuine.\n\nShe makes me worry about how often I text her, I get butterflies when I know we are hanging out, I get excited. I feel so melodramatic asking myself if I will ever feel like this about someone else. When do I know to try again or keep looking for something new? I've always felt like we have had a bond. \n\nIs this just what people experience when they don't date much people? I have dated 3 people seriously. She's the only person I've thought about consistently since I was 16, she enters my mind from time to time. It just seems like we keep making the same mistakes until they bring us back to each other.", "summary": "thought I found the *one* when I was 16, dated her at 18, split up at 20, dated again before going into a serious relationship, now that that one is over she has entered back into my life."}
{"id": "t3_3760ul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] bf hasn't shown me [24F] affection in weeks, says kissing me feels weird", "post": "We met online and he moved down here in December of last year. (We 'got together' in September last year). The first few months he was down here were great. There was so much passion and love, so much affection and time together. Now I'm practically begging for his attention. We were intimate tonight and afterwards I kissed him, to which he responded by turning away and telling me kissing me felt weird.\n\nWhen I asked him further about it, he said he felt like he was doing something wrong by kissing me.. which raised even more questions. Now, he's been depressed lately because he lost his job but I can't imagine it having this much affect on him. But who knows, maybe that is what this is all about. Regardless, I can't seem to get any answers from him other than what was stated above.\n\nAnything that has to do with our relationship anymore is \"I don't know\" or no response at all. I want to work things out, I love him dearly and we've already been through so much. But I can't continue on being the only one putting in effort here. I'm at a loss and very much tired of crying.", "summary": "Bf shows no affection and says kissing me feels wrong, can't get answers as to why"}
{"id": "t3_3e8szg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a vulgar hand gesture in front of my entire class (Kinda-NSFW)", "post": "Hey guys, so TIFU in front of all my classmates and didn't realize it until after my teacher pointed it out.\n\nI'm currently taking an intro to psychology class over the summer at my university. Today in class we talked about Motivation and Emotion, covering a chapter per day as usual. One of the topics is the Drive Reduction Theory of Motivation, where physiological needs cause internal drives and the organism acts to satisfy the need, and tension is reduced. We tied it to sex because college kids, and the issues of meeting online people for sex came up (Tinder, Craigslist, Grindr) and then someone compared that scenario to an Uber taxi, since the driver of the Uber is a stranger. I talked about how one Uber driver locked the back doors of his vehicle and started masturbating next to the female passenger.\n\nExcept I made the hand motion while I told the class that the guy was masturbating. \n\nSo my professor busts out laughing, my friends bust out laughing (our class is like 10 people so we're all friends here) and the guys at the end of the table who couldn't see my hand motion asked me to do it again. They probably thought I'd actually SEEN the video and not just heard about it. I laughed it off but was pretty embarrassed, realized I needed to cut down my guy-friend exposure time, as I've clearly been desensitized to the social norm of not making obscene gestures in a university class.", "summary": "Made jacking-off motion in front of professor and classmates in plain sight while telling story, am made fun of, am embarrassed."}
{"id": "t3_3h6a1t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being apart of a heated Halo debate", "post": "Unlike many TIFU's, this one ACTUALLY happened today. Here I am at work, this casual little burger joint which gets busy enough to stay afloat, but not overwhelming. \n\nDuring one of our more sizable rushes today two of my coworkers (we'll call them Jake and Bill) are cooking and discussing things. Bill turns to Jake and starts saying how Master Chief in Halo 1 is a \"cyborg\", as defined by a specific scene where it states so. Me never having played Halo 1 (but having played the other ones) before chimes in saying that Master Chief most certainly is not a cyborg and merely a cybernetic enhanced human. This leads to immediate debate across the restaurant for the next 3 hours or so crossing into wikis, Super Mario, Avengers, and Bill losing $20 when we finally decide that Master Chief is in fact not a Cyborg.", "summary": "Someone thought Master Chief was a cyborg, only thing I realized is that my co workers and I are nerds."}
{"id": "t3_3f93v7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] encouraged my boyfriend [22M] to sleep with another woman.", "post": "We've been having problems. I'm moving back to my home state and I've been more than depressed and anxious for a couple of months. We had 2 huge fights in the last couple of days. \n\nRecently, he started talking to some other girls online. I encouraged that. After this huge fight yesterday, I thought we were good. He called me today and told me he wanted to sleep with some girl. I told him to go for it. I felt guilty because he told me he wanted to experience what was out there (I'm pretty sure I put that idea in his head) and that he was in a rough spot because he felt trapped. \n\nHe said some pretty nasty things to me in our argument last night. We have since said sorry to each other, but this felt like rubbing salt in the wound. He told me he hated coming home to me. That he would rather sleep or be at work. He told me to pack my shit and get out. We talked a little more and ended up staying together. \n\nHe's a generally positive person and he hates being around negativity. I have a terrible habit of being negative and I have started going to therapy to get my depression and anxiety under control, but lately it's been raging. I've been dealing with these problems for years. \n\nI feel guilty because he tells me its my fault that he can't enjoy being in his home state. He resents me because I encouraged our move here and now I'm miserable. I've been looking for jobs lately, but everyone knows what that's like. He's angry with me because I've been slacking on cleaning a bit lately and keep making empty promises. \n\nThe point is that I encouraged him to sleep with another woman and he did. And now I'm deeply hurt and angry. Mostly at myself. I feel devastated and heartbroken. I'm sleeping in the other room in our apartment because I don't want to sleep in the same bed they fucked in. I feel disgusted even looking at him and it's my fault. \n\nI guess I don't really have a question. I just wonder if I'm wrong in all of this.", "summary": "I encouraged my boyfriend to sleep with another woman after we've been having problems. He did and now I'm disgusted and heartbroken. Am I wrong to feel this way?"}
{"id": "t3_ez0uh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Possible NSFW) Girlfriend bored with sex in general?", "post": "I am a 21 year old college student [M], my girlfriend is 18, we've been together for four months going on five. When we first met, we had sex pretty frequently, once a day, sometimes twice, then it decreased slowly to about once a week, as of right now, I think we haven't had sex in three weeks. She feels like sex isn't really anything about an emotional connection, it's just sex. I accidentally saw her facebook last night, and unfortunately did a little creeping. \nWhat I found out was that she's very pleased with our sex life, always gets off from me, etc, etc, as she was talking to a mutual friend. Despite the fact this friend invited her for a threesome or asked if she'd ever fool around on me, she said she cared too much to ever do that to much and she sees this relationship going somewhere. (Although she did say she almost wishes she would have met me later so that she could spend her freshman year just fooling around with people, but she said she was glad she found me despite that.) Basically what it came down to is she said she was bored of sex in general, as she had it at a pretty early age. My girlfriend and I have a lot of communication about things, and she's very direct and open about her feelings. I know she's probably just finding things stale, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice as how to reignite the spark for her, or how to begin the discussion about some more exotic things we could do that she's never tried, as I can understand where she's coming from, whenever we do have sex it's usually the same positions/nothing exciting, etc.", "summary": "Girlfriend is bored of sex, I don't want her to be bored of me, and I know she would want to have more sex if she was single, and I don't know how to include some passion in her heart to make her want me again."}
{"id": "t3_113szk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Looking for a calm, medium sized dog I can take to the office.", "post": "My wife and I are currently looking to add a canine companion to our lives. We've gotten the OK from our landlord to get a small to medium sized dog, so we're very excited. However, we're looking to for a breed that would fit our lifestyle well, and one that we could take care of as well as possible.\n\nI'm blessed to work in an office where we can bring our dogs to work. We have all sorts of dogs all over the office, and the only real rule for them is they have to be quiet and well-trained. However, I am in a bit of a different situation from the rest of the company. I'm one of our thirty or so engineers, and our office space is a bit different from the rest of the company. While most of the company is an open space, and a bit loud, the engineers are in a more closed off and quiet place. Since we're all mostly software developers, having a quiet dog is an absolute necessity.\n\nNone of the engineers own dogs currently, and I would be the first. Because of this, I want to make sure to get a breed that is obedient, but also on the more quiet side. If I bring a barking dog into a software development area, it will probably take about thirty seconds to become ostracized!\n\nSo I'm looking to Reddit for some help on this subject. What do you guys think would be a good breed for this situation? We're looking at getting a puppy, but luckily my wife will be at home for three months or so, so that he can grow up a bit and become more trained before I take him with me. We'd prefer to adopt from an animal shelter, as we know there are so many dogs in need of homes in our area. If you could give us some advice on breeds, and possibly even early care, that would be great! Thanks guys!", "summary": "Looking for a calm quiet breed to bring with me to the office, any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3bso96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] need some advice with this girl I've been hanging out with.", "post": "Alright, so I started working as a waiter at a resort this summer to help pay for college. Right away I met this extremely pretty girl, who seemed very nice. \n\nAfter we met, we talked casually at work and then started talking about deeper subjects, like our past relationships, our sex lives, etc. This moved into hanging out outside of work and even ending up together after a few weekend parties (FWI: Didnt have sex. It was one of those 3 AM heart-to-hearts that last about an hour or so).\n\nAfter we started to hangout more and more, I felt like she's been trying to hint that she likes me but I'm not for sure. She is always touching or talking to me, and I really enjoy both!\n\n If I knew she has some interest in me, I'd give it a shot but I'm kind of nervous and need some advice. Any help is appriciated.", "summary": "Need some advice, nbd."}
{"id": "t3_2unfcx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "long to short to middlish distance", "post": "hi everyone!  \nso quick back story, was in marines when i {24m} met my gf{23f} when i cam home on leave during my last year in, was a long distance relationship for a year. i got out, came home and moved in with her. its been a year and half, had our bumps and great times, buttttt it looks like i'm going to school upstate starting next semester (sounds like a cliche).  \nso my big question is, ill only be about two hours away, what are some good tips for keeping everything homogeneous, were already planning on every other weekend dates in Denver which is between us, etc. but if anyone else has good advice i'm down!", "summary": "our love knows no bounds, but it knows distance. advice and tips please."}
{"id": "t3_17jq4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [23] is a great guy, but he's boring. (23)", "post": "We've been dating for almost a year. My previous relationship was pretty terrible and abusive and when I met my boyfriend we hit it right off. He's intelligent and attractive and a really great guy (good morals) and I think I was just initially super excited that I was dating a guy who WASN'T a jackass. \n\nI'm glad that he's never screwed me over, but he's kind of boring. He's a quiet guy, so you'd expect some mystery, but he honestly has nothing to say. I have great conversations with friends but I'd like someone to connect with and I'm finally realizing that he's a little stale. Whenever I bring up a topic he's feeble and uninspiring and the conversation dies pretty quickly. I'm not an incredibly outgoing person either, I like quiet time and our quiet moments, but I have a lot of hobbies and there's always a lot going on in my head that I wish I could chat with him about sometimes. \n\nI know he's a great reliable, loyal guy and I still love him, but I'm dying of boredom. Maybe he's bored of me? I don't know. I still see myself being with him in the long run, I'm just struggling with what to do and need some perspective/ advice on what to do in this situation.", "summary": "bf's a super super great person, but i can't connect with him, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_so6i1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the dumbest medical fix you've ever tried on yourself?", "post": "I'll share- friday night, went to bed after un-showered after drunk-sitting my roommate. Woke up saturday and decided to hit the gym before getting cleaned up. Well, I guess my boxers caused some friction on my weiner because when I got back from the gym I had a blood-blister a bit smaller than a dime on my shaft. \n\nLooked up on WebMd, and after sorting out the usual testicular cancer scares, discovered I had a pus-filled lump called an abcess and it probably needed lancing. Well, what college guy wants a stranger 'lancing' his weiner? Not this one, that's for sure.\n\nDuring my shower that night, I heated up and cleaned off my pocket-knife and lanced a weiner-abcess. Just like popping a zit, didn't hurt too bad. What really hurt was putting hand-sanitizer on it afterward. Burned like fire. Worst thing I ever felt in my life. Poured salt on it afterward, because fuck me that's why, added Neosporin. Now we wait it out.", "summary": "I lanced a boil on my penis with a hot pocket knife and poured hand-sanitizer on it."}
{"id": "t3_21r29b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) would really appreciate relationship advice regarding the girl I am with (18f)", "post": "I'm an 18 year old male who has been with a girl for about 3 months now. I should mention that this is the strongest I've ever felt about a girl I've been in a relationship with and that this is probably the most advanced relationship I've ever been in (i.e. It doesn't just feel like one of your typical high school relationships to me, I truly care about her) It's clear that we both really like each other but I constantly worry for a bunch of reasons. \n\nAbout a week or so ago she brought up the conversation of what our label was (which I was too scared to bring up because I was worried her definition for what we were would be much less than what mine was). We both ultimately came up with the conclusion that we are dating. Fast forward a few weeks, I find out from my friends that she  constantly and firmly tells them that her and I are not dating. This made me upset because then I think that she feels differently about me than she says she does. \n\nThe back story to her past relationships is that almost a year ago her boyfriend of two years broke up with her because he was going to college. I know she was in love with him and it pains me that no matter what I could never live up to what he was to her. Do you think this may have something to do with her saying we aren't dating behind my back? Maybe dating isn't even the right word, perhaps we are at the point where we are in a relationship. The other thing is that she pretty much freaks out if anyone if thinks that I'm her boyfriend or she's my girlfriend. She insists that she really likes me and really cares about me, but sometimes I just worry. What do you think of all this?", "summary": "Girl and I come to conclusion that we are dating but she insists to everyone else behind my back that we aren't dating"}
{"id": "t3_4b7j5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with this girl that I almost dated[18 F] She ended it because she still has feelings for her cheating Ex.", "post": "So we had started dating and things were getting very serious, she had some trust issues because this guy cheated on her with her brother's girlfriend, so we were taking it slow. The two of us are both in college so things usually move quick anyway. Regardless everything was fantastic, and we had our spring Break in which she just went home for the week, which is 4 hours away. \n\nShe still hangs out with the guy that cheated on her and realizes that she still has feelings for him, the day that we return she talks to me to tell me that she would feel too guilty going any further with me, knowing she had strong feelings for someone else. I was totally blindsided, but even though it hurts a lot, my main concern is her going back and getting hurt by this guy again, i don't know how to handle this situation.", "summary": "The girl that I was dating still has strong feelings for her ex who cheated on her with her brother's girlfriend, and not only do I want to keep her but I truly don't want her getting hurt"}
{"id": "t3_39nfmc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "No debt, new stable job, but no credit score, how can I get approved for a mortgage?", "post": "Hey everyone, I've reached a stable financial situation and I am committed to the area for an extended number of years. I am in a new area so I'm looking for a bank that is more likely to qualify me for a mortgage (If they vary) so if you have any suggestions please fire! I understand that many will advise me to build a higher down payment amount, emergency fund, etc. and I realize that is what the sub is all about so I appreciate those who take the time to do so. At the same time, although it may involve some risk I'm at a point in my life where I'm OK with risk and simply want guidance to help get me there. \n\n------\n\nQuick facts:\n\nCurrent lease ends early September\n\nMonthly take home after tax, all insurance, and max 401k is $3700\n\nSavings: 8k currently, will have 12k before September\n\nlooking to put 10% down on a condo in the range of 100-120k\n\nOnly 'asset' I have is my car valued ~14k\n\nNever had a credit card, thus no credit", "summary": "Any specific bank I should go with? How should I approach? Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_39hv0s", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Is it too satirical?", "post": "(Little back story) I work the night shifts at a grocery store in my area and I get home around 6:30 am, and later on in the day around 11:00 am I go to go to work at my parents restaurant. \n\nSo one faithful morning I get home, usually tired as hell, about to jump in my bed and drift away. Until my cock juggling thunder cunt of a neighbour decides to blast some folk music (normally I wouldn't mind as I tend to enjoy folk music, but I've been working five days straight between the grocery store and working at my parents restaurant. So Im going on only a few hours of sleep). Well after suffering this ordeal, in the next couple of days my neighbour's decide that they want to sell their house (Here's where the revenge comes in). Every single time they had an open house or people coming to check the house out I'd play one of my favourite song on \"The Eminem Show\" album \"Drips\". Man in minutes people were gone and now three weeks later they still haven't sold their house. Guess no one wants to live beside people who blast music. Take that you mushroom titted whores.", "summary": "Neighbour's suffer the lyrical genius that is \"Drips\""}
{"id": "t3_3ax1hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my Girlfriend [36F] 2 years, I was accused of cheating on her and she's leaving me for it.", "post": "Approximately 2 months ago I was accused of cheating on my girlfriend by an individual who I was on friendly terms with who had expressed interest in dating me several years ago. I made it very clear at that time that there would not be a relationship. The accuser actually showed up at my girlfriends house drunk and dragged her to my home and proceeded to scream and assault me.\n\nSince this initial accusation I've been trying to work actively to reaffirm my commitment to my girlfriend and regain her trust, but we've settled into a 2 steps forward 2 steps back routine which culminated over the past weekend in her returning all of my belongings and cleaning her things out of my home.\n\nI've gone out of my way to give her everything she's asked for and several things she hasn't (fb password, email password, access to mobile records - we're on the same plan).  I've even committed to seeing a therapist for my supposed fidelity/honesty issues and have asked her to come with me.\n\nNothing seems to be working and she's pretty much checked out.  I know this seems like a no brainer, but I love her.  I'd built her a home in my life that I intended to be a long term thing and I'm terrified by the prospect of losing her.\n\nCan anyone offer advice on regaining trust and basically rebuilding a very important personal relationship from ashes?", "summary": "GF had accusations that I cheated on her leveled against me.  Two months running of no real progress on returning.  What can I do to rebuild?"}
{"id": "t3_1rijs4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] need advice with crush [19 F]", "post": "I'm not sure what to do.. \n\nWe've hung out and gone out to eat a few times, we see each quite a bit because we work together, and we text/talk a lot.  It's been like this for several months now, but has heated up more within the last month.  She has told me I'm one of her best guy friends, and she has expressed interest in going to college together so our \"friendship\" doesn't end.  I want to tell her how I really feel, but I don't want work to become super awkward either.  I've never been one for reading signals and hints, so I couldn't tell you if she's been hinting at a more serious relationship.  \n\nIf we didn't work together, I feel like I could just tell her my true feelings.  It's too overwhelming right now because I really like her, but this messes up my approach to selecting a college, and could throw a wrench into my work.  Also some additional info, she doesn't already have BF or anything like that, we don't go to the same school, and we've already talked about going to prom together.", "summary": "Co-worker who I really like and talk to says we are good \"friends\" and I don't know how or if I should tell her how I really feel.."}
{"id": "t3_3krmpq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing on a homeless man", "post": "Sorry happened 2 weeks ago....\n\nI was heading home from work, and was passing a park and i had been battling the urge to pee, so i decided to pull over and do a quick number 1 in the bushes.\n\nRan across the road, and found a dark area covered in some bushes and trees.\n\nNow this is where it all goes down hill and very quickly, about 2 seconds after i that relief feeling of letting it flow, the bush starts moving and swearing like a crazy 80 year old lady just heard BINGO, suddenly a figure comes out of the bush.\n\nI step back and froze. The homeless man goes into a giant rant about what is wrong with me? Why am i not checking areas before peeing? basically asking all the questions someone would ask if someone peed on you while you were asleep.\n\nI felt so bad, and asked him if there is anything i can do for him. He was more annoyed that he needs to find some money to clean his clothes, so i did the right thing and gave him 10 dollars.\n\nHe was happy about it, and turned back around to go back under the bush.\n\nAs i turned around, i said to him \"Its better to be pissed on than pissed off.\"\n\nHe let out a little groan but i like to believe that little groan was a cover up for a laugh.", "summary": "Gave an Homeless man a shower.....a golden one."}
{"id": "t3_2usaop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] like this girl [17F] and I need to know what to do to.", "post": "I really like this girl that I've been talking to for a while now.  We've gone to dinner a couple times, the movies, and have just hung out a lot.  Thing is, she brings her friend with her all the time.  Her friend knows that I like this girl but I don't think that she has really said anything.  Her friend always makes it so the girl I like sits next to me and we are always close.  I'm trying to make a break through somehow to start progressing things so that we can maybe go on a date where it's just the two of us.  I don't want to straight up ask her and make things awkward if she says no.  A while back she even made up this story about her asking a guy out but then she said she was joking after she saw my reaction.  It's just really mixed signals coming from her.  We always seem to end up looking into each others eyes but then her friend is there so I have to pay attention to the both of them.  What should I do?", "summary": "What should I do?  Any creative ways to ask her on a date?"}
{"id": "t3_ksflq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How did any of you, who have completed College level education, go about doing Critical Analytic Reflections?", "post": "I've done compare and contrast essays and I've done Critical Reflections. But never Critical Analytic Reflections. So **What Am I supposed to Write About?** \n\nThis is what our Prof said: \n1) Choose one core idea/concept from one of the readings **Ok Good, that's pretty basic**\n2) Explore \"One Idea\" more in depth than discuss more material but more superficially **Ok, I guess I'll talk about what my idea is and what it's about first to fill up space\"\n3) DO NOT DESCRIBE. ANALYZE. ASSUME READER KNOWS TEXT. **So, I guess my idea above is not going to work...**\n\nLet's say my topic is about Justice. So if I assume the reader knows EVERYTHING about justice, and there is no room for me to say anything about it. Then what should I be saying at all?", "summary": "How do I write a Critical Analytic Reflection paper while leaving out all the details already covered in the reading and assuming everything I know; my marker knows."}
{"id": "t3_2kkorx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and a new girl [23 F], not making enough time/sending mixed signals", "post": "Hey everyone, this is my first post here and I was hoping maybe you guys can help me out.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago I went out with a girl recommended to me by a common acquaintance. We went out for lunch and really hit it off. Had common interests, outlooks on life and really seemed to get along. I figured it went great and we both seemed to really like each other.\n\nNow following the date we have been texting each other back and forth for the past couple of weeks. I have made every attempt I can to organize another date with her when she has the time. She always seems to be busy with birthdays/being sick etc. It has been over 3 weeks now without seeing her.\n\nNow that is fine with me, normally I would take this as a sign that she is not interested and move on. The weird thing is that anytime I mention it she says that we have to meet up again for sure using words like \"definitely\" and \"for sure 100 percent\".\n\nSo my question to you guys is, is this girl still worth pursuing? All of the mixed signals really leave me kind of confused\n\nThanks for any help guys!", "summary": "New girl just doesn't seem to have any free time and is sending me mixed signals"}
{"id": "t3_2wmf7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [19 F] has a little bit of a thing but things went badly.", "post": "So there is this girl that I was friends with in high school, we didn't talk much. So basically she started going to the same university as me and we started talking. She told me she flirted with me all of high school and that I showed no interest. Anyways somehow we ended up talking about sex blah blah and we both want to have sex with each other. So I kinda led her on for about two weeks, and at the beginning of this she said that she didn't just fuck around, which is weird because she is in a relationship and us having sex would mean he cheating. Actually given some of the things we have said to each other I would consider that she has already cheated, although not physically. Along the way I hinted strongly that I wasn't interest in her emotionally and that I was not looking for a relationship. Eventually I told it to her flat out and she got upset, saying that \"she's not just a piece of meat\". I guess I set it up so that she would get pissed at me and not sleep with me. I'm a virgin and I think she expects that I would develop feelings for her as a result of sex. I said \"If you wanted sex and friendship but nothing more, then why would you be mad for me saying I wouldn't give anything more?\" She said \"That's not how sex works. We both know it. Plus who said that's what I wanted. I was saying I knew where YOU stood. And for me that's not okay. Because I'm worth everything and more than that.\" and \"Like if it happened it happened but to just come out and say it? You're an asshole.\". I feel like she is mad because I said I don't want to develop feelings for her and I was to keep it strictly physical. Well now it's not going to happen anyways, and I obviously screwed up because I shouldn't be talking like that to someone who is dating someone else, but I wanted to know what people think of this just from reading it. If you think I'm an asshole speak up, if not say whatever you feel, and if you need things clarified let me know, I will try to make this a bit more readable.", "summary": "A friend reacted badly when i told her that even though she wanted sex and feelings with me, I only wanted sex. How should I handle the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1roeyc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] How can I tell my mother politely, that she is dealing with our dog in an inappropriate way?", "post": "My mother watched Cesar Millan a lot before we got our dog, and she acted like she knew everything there was to know about training and raising a dog. \n\nIts been about 2 years with our dog, and he has a problem with barking at the door when people go to open it (doesn't seem like that much of a problem to me). My mother's reaction is to yell at him, or if he does it sequentially, she will strike him in the thigh/rear end.\n\nWhenever I step in and try and take control of the situation, she will get mad, and try and tell me how to handle this kind of thing, because she thinks she is a dog expert. (This upsets me because it feels like I am being talked down to)\n\nThe last strand was crossed today, when I was in the basement watching tv, I heard my dog bark at the door, and then my mother get up and yell at him. He ran into our sun room, which is above the basement, and I could hear her hit him, and his paws skid on the floor. I went up to check on him (he was fine, no damage, happy little guy when he's with me) and my mother yelled at me to put him back in the room where he is to stay \"for a long long time\" because he tried to bite her when she was \"disciplining\" him.\n\nHer solution to my dogs problem is completely inappropriate, and no way to treat a dog. I believe in positive reinforcement, and I am getting very frustrated listening to her complain about my dog, and her inappropriate ways of dealing with his barking.\n\nSo if anyone knows a way I can tell her what she is doing is wrong, or if there is a way I can try and get my dog to stop barking at the door, please let me know.", "summary": "My mother deals with my dogs barking by yelling or hitting. I would like to let her know what she is doing is wrong, or if there is a way to teach my dog to not bark at the door."}
{"id": "t3_2vdvm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16 f) want to stop being friends with (16 f) while remaining best friends with her sister (16 f)?", "post": "So I know this problem will be resolved on it's own when I go to college in a year and a half, but for now, it has become a very complex issue that I'm not sure how to handle. I've known these two friends since pre-school and they happen to live in my same neighborhood so naturally we talk often and have all grown kind of close over the years. They are twins, so I've usually hung out with both of them together. However, they each have very different personalities and their traits have even grown more distinct throughout high school and I am beginning to absolutely despise one of the twins (I'll refer to her as A).\n\n A has, over the period of about a year, become extrememly moody, aggressive, and exhausting to talk to. Our personalities conflict and we bicker often. I am usually able to laugh it off; she holds grudges. She has started conflicts with me for absolutely no reason and it has progressed to the point where I no longer enjoy being around her and I automatically feel defensive whenever I see her, because of her offensive attitude. \n\nHowever, B & I (the other twin) are the best of friends. Our personalities compliment each other well, and the conflict between A & I has only served to strengthen our friendship. We get along well. I just don't see how I will be able to remain friends with her if I plan to cut A out of my life (even though they \"hate\" each other, they do everything together and have the same mutual friends). It is incredibly frustrasting and I feel I am causing even more conflict between the two of them. For example, A & B give me rides to school (they share a car) sometimes work as well, but after an argument, A told me she would no longer provide transportion for me. I know B however, will not let that happen, and that they will argue and fight over this for some time. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Friends with twins, A & B. A is a bitch. How do I stop being friends with her while staying friends with B?"}
{"id": "t3_2vog7m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a microbiology class.", "post": "Today in microbiology class, we had to collect from our environment an example of a gram positive and a gram negative bacteria.\n\nGram positive is easy, cause that shit's everywhere.  Gram negative is harder to find.\n\nThe instructor told us there's only two places we're going to reasonably find gram negative bacteria.  In her experience, if you swab your mouth, you have about a 10% chance of finding any (keep in mind, this is for a grade).  If you swab... another place... it's almost guaranteed you'll get some e. coli.\n\nShe gave us all q-tips and told us the bathroom was down the hall.", "summary": "got an A in microbiology, only had to stick a q-tip in my butt"}
{"id": "t3_448st2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my GF [19F] 3.5 months LDR communication issues.", "post": "So I've been going out with this girl since last July, and in October we decided to make it 'official'. She said she wanted to be my girlfriend (prior to that we defined our relationship as an 'open' one). I asked her if she was sure, and then I told her that I would love it if she was my girlfriend. \n\nWe are both in University approximately 150 miles away from each other, so we don't get to see each other that often. \n\nShe isn't your typical 19 year old who is glued to her phone all day, however she does check it once and a while but rarely replies to my messages. I don't know how to address this issue. We send a couple of texts a day and on weekends we chat on the phone. During the week we may send a couple of snapchats, but that's the extent of it.\n\nI'm her first boyfriend and I'm not sure if that is why she is so bad at communicating. She is very inconsistent and I don't feel like she communicates with me as her boyfriend. Occasionally she'll call me 'hot stuff' or 'babe' but usually it's 'dude' or 'man'.  Her inconsistency in communicating makes me feel like she is not taking this seriously, or making an effort. Sometimes I worry that there is someone else and I asked her once but she said no. I want to trust her, but given my past experiences it is difficult. Especially with the lack of communication on her behalf. Sometimes I think she's just worried we're going to run out of conversation topics and that's why she replies so sporadically. \n\nAm I overthinking this? Is this normal in early phases of relationships, especially long-distance ones? Maybe I'm just used to clingier girls? \n\nAny help, advice, or input is greatly appreciated!!!\n\nThanks guys!", "summary": "GF is very inconsistent in communicating. I'm afraid she's cheating. Is it because she is new to the whole 'relationship' thing? Maybe I'm overthinking this?"}
{"id": "t3_2qkiv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [24 M] and my girlfriend is [20 F]. We have been very happily together for one year. I think we are going to end up getting married. I am scared s**tless of never being able to sleep with another woman again.", "post": "I am a good guy. Cheating is not on my list of things to do and I despise the act of it. I also am very nervous about ending a very good relationship just to take a chance on some other women who do not exist in my life yet. I am scared of hurting my girlfriend because i love her. I know she would eventually understand but I already know it would not be a good time for either of us.\n\nI'm afraid of getting old and of these women becoming out-of-reach and being tied forever to someone who I love. Our relationship is long distance but will not be that way forever.\n\nAn open relationship would not work. We built our relationship on trust and honesty and confessed very early on that we did not want anyone else.", "summary": "I see other women around me and I am still turned on. I want to talk to them; I don't want to pretend they don't exist like I have been doing for a year. But I don't want to hurt my long-distance girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2udlf4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by running over my own foot with my own car", "post": "TIFU by running over my own foot with my own car, without anyone driving the car.\n\nIronically, the day started with me going to file my taxes to get that tax return. Upon leaving the office, my car stalls, midway to me turning into a busy street. It is about twelve in the afternoon, and I am surrounded by several restaurants, so naturally, there is bumper-to-bumper traffic on the street I'm trying to pull out of.\n\nAfter about five minutes of me trying to start my car, constantly having to tell people I was stuck, getting honked and yelled at, a very nice man emerged from a nearby liquor store and offered to help me push my car. We put the car in neutral and push it backward into the parking lot. The car QUICKLY picks up momentum, and before i can jump back in, it pulls to the left a little, running right over my foot, and crashing and resting on a metal fence.\n\nOnly I could manage to run over my foot with my own car without anyone driving the car. My foot hurts T_T", "summary": "car got stuck, we lost control of it while pushing, driverless car runs over foot"}
{"id": "t3_3holzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my coworker/classmate [22 M]. I like him and need help making moves. Recently out of 2 year relationship.", "post": "So I have class/work on campus with this guy that i've sorta had a crush on for a semester. I've been friendly with him but not flirting cause I had a boyfriend. We recently broke up after 2 years together (bad relationship, mutual decidion, time to move on) and now I have no idea how to flirt(?) with this guy. My ex was the one who went after me and asked me on dates and stuff when we worked together at a fast food restuarant. After not being single for 2 years im not sure what im doing. School/work doesnt start for a few more days but I need pointers on how to intitiate conversation and stuff like that. We only work together like 8 hours a week and not sure if we have any classes together yet.", "summary": "Crush on classmate/coworker, need help flirting after recently ended 2 year relationship."}
{"id": "t3_39xlfm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 2 years, we're moving down different paths and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for around 2 years. We have broken up before but reconciled. Things have generally been good, a few arguments here and there, but nothing that couldn't be fixed. We've been long distance for a year now, and face another year of long distance ahead of us. \n\nNow we've both decided that we don't like long distance. The only thing that has kept us going over the past year is the thought of being together again after next year. But i've realised that we're both moving down different paths in life, and the likelihood of us being in the same place after the next year is extremely low, maybe 5%. (She doesn't want to work where I want to work, and vice versa).\n\nWe've had a conversation about this recently, and pretty much came to the conclusion that we should breakup, but somehow we ended up just saying \"fuck it, we'll make it work\". But it's been nearly a month now and I am constantly doubting it, and am constantly reminded about the fact that I don't see us together in a years time. I've sat on these feelings for a month to make sure I'm not making a rash decision.\n\nBeing truthful to myself I can probably see what the best thing to do is, but I don't want to break her heart. But if I don't break up with her, things are going to deteriorate. I'd rather leave things on a positive note than a negative one.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice? I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "Our lives are diverging, should we break up now?"}
{"id": "t3_2agth3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm not even 18 and I think I've made a mess of my life already.", "post": "Warning: long\n\nI used to be a good kid. I had good grades. I told very few lies and I was respectful to everyone. I don't know what triggered it. It's like the part of my brain that made me care about stuff stopped working. I started getting bad grades in school. I mean like really bad. I was lucky enough not to get summer school but i still did awful. The worst part is that they spent a lot of money on tutoring lessons for an ap exam and i ended up getting a 2. I also cheated alot on tests. I started lying to my parents and told them i was studying when i was doing other stuff. Then when they started seeing a decline in grades they grounded me. I would usually learn my lesson and pull myself out of situations like these but i didnt this time. I kept doing bad stuff and I started disrespecting my own parents and my siblings who were just trying to help me. I eventually lost most of my friends and i put on a huge amount of weight and I started doing bad things. I started lying to my mom and said that i was walking home with friends/staying afterschool but i actually withdrew money from my bank account and spent it on junkfood/useless shit and coming home late. I'm suprised they still let me do it for the rest of the school year. I also started stealing money from my family members because i had used all of mine. They never found out, but i feel terrible about it. I've been trying to study/exercise but i can never stick to any of these habits.", "summary": "I'm 15 years old, i have no friends, i am a thief, a liar, my GPA/future in education is ruined, i weigh 200 pounds, and I don't know what to do. please help"}
{"id": "t3_22a042", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Do you buy cookbooks? If so, do you have a criteria in how you choose them?", "post": "Been into cooking lately and so far I know I enjoy American, French and  East Asian cuisine. I enjoy cookbooks because I feel like they're more thoroughly explained than checking websites and I can easily come back to them as long as I have the books with me. The problem arises with the fact that there are so many cookbooks out there. I'm honestly a bit overwhelmed. I own a few ones I am happy with but I am thinking of expanding my collection to learn more techniques. I am hoping to find cookbooks that will last, like The Joy of Cooking, but I know it's not very good when it comes to let's say, Korean food.\n\nI guess the real question is: what is a good way to choose cookbooks besides its reviews. It seems like all the cookbooks I've searched for have positive reviews that it's hard to find any criticism or shortcomings for them...", "summary": "How do you distinguish good cookbooks vs better ones?"}
{"id": "t3_39qdy7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [24m] get over the residual effects of my ex [23f] sexual abuse?", "post": "Hey all, I was in an interesting situation for about a year and a half. I met a girl who had told me she was raped by a family member for years. From about 6-16. She told me it hadn't happened since but then it happened last Christmas. Rape obviously has a huge impact on all those effected but the one time I tried talking to her about how it made me feel, she told me I was an asshole for letting it bother me. I was insensitive and it's not my problem. Nothing happened to me. \n\nThere were times that we would have sex and it was normal but there was always a conversation about it after. She would tell me she was so sorry for being so messed up and I would hold her and tell her we don't have to do things like that at all anymore. She lashed out telling me that it shouldn't label her, blah, blah, blah. She had a lot of problems regarding this topic. \n\nI never thought they would effect me but recently, since we broke up and (within a week) she's gone to date other guys. Now I've tried to be with someone else and I had trouble holding it up because I kept having flash backs of her situation just like before. I find myself acting as if the new girl I'm with has the same issues and I shy away from sex in general. I don't feel like myself anymore. I feel terrible about suggesting sexual acts or flirting. \n\nI don't know what's wrong or how to properly put it in words to be honest. Has anyone had anything like this happen to them? What did you do?", "summary": "ex girlfriend was raped, we broke up, her situation effected me more than I thought."}
{"id": "t3_3mwl2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my casual dating [29 M] 2 months, please evaluate this text interaction...", "post": "After he and i made up following our first \"argument\" and had plans that he never followed up on:\n\nme 5pm:\n\"I'm feeling pretty hurt. I thought we were on the same page after Tuesday and I felt bad for ending things and like I needed to prove to you that I cared. So I tried to meet you half way. Anyways, after Tuesday I kinda thought we were both still excited about each other but it hasn't felt that way. We had plans today and I was really excited to see you. I'm just not used to feeling disappointed like this. \"\nhim 6pm:\n\"I'm sorry you feel hurt. Didn't really hear from you all day either nor did I reach out so both could be to blame. I was holding with chuck and try not to look at my phone so there's that. Proper expectations weren't laid after our convo either IMO\"\nme 10pm:\n\n\"Ok.. I guess I see that. Just want for us to keep being excited talk and make plans and hang. Thought we spoke last week and things were good. Ur my gold toof. What else did you feel like we didn't discuss. \"\n\nMe 1pm the next day:\n\n\"I really love spending time with you.. Hanging out.. Joking around and feeling close. Getting to know you over the past couple months has been awesome and I've enjoyed your sweet, genuine, positive, fun energy.\n\nIm kind of a sucker for closeness and really like being able to interact without fear on either side. For me, i definitely get easily scared when things are slightly off and feel unsafe so sorry if I've been off lately. I'm just really sensitive to feelings and if there is a sense of closed-offness I just get really uncomfortable and nervous even though I know you'd never intentionally hurt/disappoint me.\n\nAnyways, I can sense things are off between us so I'll leave you alone for the time being. Hope you know I'm here if you need to talk about anything.\"", "summary": "want to evaluate the final text exchange between myself and a guy i thought I really liked."}
{"id": "t3_24vojb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Possibly losing motivation", "post": "It's what I wanted from the beginning. People are now recognizing my weight loss and I'm not even half way into my journey. The act of people telling me on a regular basis that I look alot better has been giving me some motivation...but it's been giving me something else. Deep in my mind it's been giving me the idea that if I get satisfied with the compliment...if I say \"Thanks! I've been working out\", that I'm going to feel like I've achieved my goal.  \n  \nLosing fat, to me, has been an asthetic goal all along. I wanted to be seen as something different than just another fat guy. It feels great to be able to run a mile or to see yourself lifting more weights than some other guys in the gym (you know it's true). But when it comes down to it, it's just been about how people see me. Getting this positive attention is what I really wanted. Now that I'm getting it, I feel that I'm going to lose some of my motivation.  \n  \nMy stats are SW:335, CW: 290, GW: ~210, 6'0. I've been at this for almost three months now and I feel that this is going to be the deciding point. I can either slip back to where I started, or be a man and push through until I'm satisfied with myself.  \n\nThis is mainly just me venting, I'm sorry to bother with my insecurities. I don't really vent to anyone so at some points it has to go somewhere. Have some of you been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it?", "summary": "Satisfaction from compliments on my weight loss up to this point may reduce my motivation to keep going. Have you dealt with something similar and if so how did you proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_1yf1ir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21,F) with my ex (21,M), 1 yr, both in new relationships but can't seem to let go. I need help", "post": "I've posted here multiple times with throwaway accounts but since I want to be done with this situation for good, I don't mind if my ex sees it. \n\nWe dated for a little over a year and it was a good relationship. We loved each other and spent a lot of time together since we went to the same small university and lived in the same dorm. However, towards the end he lied to me about a girl sleeping over and I ended things. He has been dating said girl for the past 6 months or so, except for the month that he broke up with her in order to try and win me back. However, during that time I found someone new and I'm still dating him. He is an amazing person and he fits my ideal boyfriend and I see a future for us. But I haven't been the best girlfriend to him. \n\nThe thing is, neither me or my ex can really let go. I've tried countless times to have no contact, but I always end up slipping. I feel like I'm in a constant cycle of anger and resentment towards him, no contact, missing him, talking to him, nostalgia, then guilt, realization, and back to anger. It never ends.\n\nI know what I need to do is stop slipping up. But how do you deal with the recurring slip ups? In my head I wonder if I'm slipping up because I should hve stayed with him or because I wasn't ready for my current relationship. I loved my ex, but I can't help but feel like he is enjoying all the attention he gets from me AND his current gf. I still can't stand the fact that they are together. \n\nWhat do I do and how do I rationalize these recurring feelings of nostalgia and wanting to talk to him? We run into each other often on campus and that makes it really difficult. I just need some advice on how to deal with not slipping up again.", "summary": "how do you deal with keeping NC for good?"}
{"id": "t3_1ox08m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [23f] of 3 months is really starting to confuse me [24m].", "post": "So I met this girl on OKCupid around 3 months ago and we really hit it off. I hadn't dated in a very long time so I was really just aiming to get back out there, nothing too serious. One thing lead to another and things seem to be pretty serious now. Much more on her end than mine.\n\nI'm lagging behind in terms of how I feel about her. She really likes me while I'm just moving out of the \"this is a good friend\" stage.\n\n Things like randomly saying the names of her exes (who she claims to hate), telling me about how she gave her actual number to a drunk guy at a bar she was at or how she would definitely date one of her coworkers (that I've met before) if we stopped dating. I'm trying to be patient and let things work themselves out, but she does some things that make me question if I should even allow my feelings to catch up to hers.\n\nSorry if that came off kind of rant-y. I don't have anyone in real life to talk to about this stuff so I just needed to get it off of my chest. I can clarify anything if need be.\n \nI've kind of brushed off each of these things, but I'm nearly positive that if I were to say anything of the sort to her she would flip out on me. Those are red flags right? Or am I just reading to much into nothing. Should I just end things now or let things play out a little more?", "summary": "Girlfriend has done/said some strange things to me about other guys and I am curious if the relationship is worth enduring."}
{"id": "t3_3jrvei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [36M] am trapped behind my emotional walls.", "post": "I have build some pretty impressive walls around me emotionally. Everyone I've ever cared about or said they cared about me has hurt me pretty significantly. (I know this can't be objectively true but that's how it feels) So keep my distance.\n\nI don't trust people not to turn on me. Hell it took me 2 years to trust my therapist and I pay the guy to keep my secrets. Predictably, this has made friendship difficult and relationships impossible.\n\nI've been trying to get closer to people but it causes a ton of anxiety. I start assuming the person I'm dealing with is pulling away or is going to stab me in the back. I've tried investing emotionally in a few people but it's never seemed to pay out and that just discourages me even more.\n\nHow do I make investing emotionally in people less terrifying and handle things if/when they don't go the way I'd like.\n\nIt sucks, my job involves being around all day and they seem to like me, but I can't just open up and allow myself to let them in.", "summary": "Trapped in my ivory tower of emotion. Its lonely and really windy up here. How the Hell do I climb down?"}
{"id": "t3_22km63", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Big guy running problems and long term marathon training plans", "post": "I am registered for the NYC Marathon, the race is Nov. 2, so I have approximately 7 months to go from fatass to badass. I am 6'3'' 330#, I'm down 30# in 7 weeks and plan on continuing my loss. I really like many of the core concepts of Crossfit Endurance but no longer have access to a box (damn unpaid summer internships). . I did a 5k two weeks ago and my time was 49:00, the course had a shit ton of hills in it and I didn't do any prior training for it. My questions are these: \n- Do you know any good long-term training plans for a marathon? \n- Shoe recommendations for a big dude?\n\nIf you need anymore info about me just ask.", "summary": "I have 7 months to go from fatass to badass."}
{"id": "t3_cz92r", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I approve of gay marriage. Because I am a Christian.", "post": "Allow me to explain...\n\nI should start by saying that I allow my children to watch as much news as they please (I'm talking BBC, Al Jazeera, etc). I feel it is my duty as a parent to teach my kids about the world around them to the best of my ability. Allowing them to see what's really going on (yes, even the gory stories) one way I feel I am doing my best to prepare them for the world they will face when they are no longer in my care. \n\nThat being said, my family is not incredibly religious, but we do identify ourselves as occasionally practicing Christians (i.e. we go when we feel like worshiping-not when we are supposed to). With all this Prop 8 stuff being talked about in the news, my daughter asked me today why all these Christians were against gay marriage. After all, isn't the \"golden rule\" in Christianity to treat others how you would like to be treated? Why then, do we not allow any two loving people the ability to share their lives together legally. \n\nMy initial feeling was an incredible amount of respect and pride of my 10 year old. My second was sadness in that I didn't really have a good answer for her.", "summary": "I wish Christians would start acting like Christians."}
{"id": "t3_3pkwy6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23M] First time dating in this country(USA), and it's online dating, advice please :)", "post": "Hi there, first time posting here, a bit of a background info about me.\n\nMoved here a few years ago, had 1 touchy/physical fling (Mexican), 1 GF through mutual friend (7 month relationship, Asian), but never actually went on a date with an white American girl before. Met her through OkCupid. Btw, I'm Chinese.\n\nSo.. I asked her out on next Monday and she agreed to it. And we're meeting at a Mall. But I realize, I don't really know the etiquette of dating. Besides dating with mutual friends.\n\nI read online on some guides, tips, advice, do's and don'ts but I'd like to ask what you personally learned through experience.\n\nHere are my question(s),\n\nCan I tell her that I'm nervous and I've never actually done something like this before?\n\nWhat would be a bad idea to do for a first time date in a Mall?", "summary": "Don't know dating etiquette, never dated someone I've never met. Please enlighten me on some tips and advice for dating."}
{"id": "t3_44rcbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend[23M] of over two years, he wants to do long distance again, but that wasn't the plan", "post": "Hi All- throwaway because he Reddits. My boyfriend (we'll call him Stephen) and I started dating over two years ago when we were both in college. He was graduating a year before I was, and was going to a professional program overseas after graduation. He graduated and I stayed behind (we still dated). I didn't want to do the next four years apart, so I applied to the same program and got in. We now live together. (Edit- he asked me to apply and join his program in a different country).\n\nWhile I was still in college and he was overseas, we did long distance for a year, and it was horrible. I was always anxious and on edge. I had some PTSD from stuff that happened, and this long distance just exacerbated it. \n\nWhen I got into the program, I was thrilled. I moved overseas right away, and we moved in together. In our professional program, we do four years of studies, and then \"match\" into a program back in our home country. If you are in a relationship, you can match with your partner and be in the same city. You can only do this if you graduate in the same year.\n\nBecause long distance was so horrible, Stephen said that he would take a gap year so that we could graduate at the same time and then match together. Marriage has been discussed frequently. However, recently, Stephen decided that he would no longer be taking a gap year. This leaves us with two more years of long distance. I'm feeling blind sighted and like he's not being considerate of my feelings. I talked to him about it, and he said he didn't want to do the gap year because he \"would miss his friends.\" Well, I miss my friends and my family, too. I came overseas for him, and I just feel sad and disappointed that he wouldn't reciprocate this sacrifice for me.", "summary": "My boyfriend of over two years wants to do long distance again, after previously agreeing not to. What should I do? Do I suck it up and do two more years of long distance? Or do I be with someone who wants to be with me consistently?"}
{"id": "t3_4xyzwq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking a window in my house with my leg.", "post": "So I was about 4-5 years old at the time during this story. Isn't it incredible I broke a window at the age 4 or 5? Well believe it or not, I was sitting on my couch just looking at a Thomas the Tank Engine book, and all the sudden I randomly put my leg behind the couch where windows were located.\n\nThen I accidentally kicked the window, my mother was there for me at the time thank god. So when I kicked the window, I accidentally shattered it. My leg was bleeding, I just remember it was a big line of blood on my leg.\n\nMy mother wasn't that mad at me as it was an accident, but she was more upset than mad. She was more worried about me than the window thank god. I know I was fine because I remember the next day, I came home from pre-school and greeting my beloving babysitter through the broken window.\n\nI can't even remember if the window got repaired, but most likely it was repaired lmao! We have moved out of the house so I know for sure it is repaired, especially we drove by it one day seeing people moved into it.\n\nI can't remember much of the story as I was extremely young, but I have a decent memory to share the story with you guys.", "summary": "I fucked up by breaking a window in my house, with my leg."}
{"id": "t3_3tdahe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend's [26F] job is ruining our relationship. (I'm 24M)", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. She works managing a small store and enjoys her job very much. Her job pays very little and has no benefits, so she barely makes enough money to live. She works 6 days a week (Tuesday through Sunday with no overtime allowed), so we never share any days off. She is the only employee, so her boss makes her work almost all holidays as well, since it is a retail job. This is really coming between our relationship, because we barely spend any time together. When we do, if it's anything special I have to pay for it. \n\nShe has tried looking for other jobs, but I feel like it's to make me stop nagging her more so than anything else. She's tried negotiating benefits or a raise with her current boss to at least alleviate our financial stress, but her boss keeps stringing her along with false promises. In her defense, she tried to leave her current job for a slightly better one a few months ago, but her boss guilted her into staying by threatening to close up shop if she left. Now my girlfriend is very reluctant to discuss leaving.\n\nI talk to her about this all the time, but nothing changes and we end up arguing. We both love each very much, but this stress is becoming too much. I know this is salvageable, but something has to change and I can't seem to get through to her. What can I do to make her understand how her work schedule and compensation is coming between us? How can we fix this?", "summary": "my girlfriend works 6 days a week and only makes 22k per year. We have no days off together and I have to pay for everything of her's except rent/utilities. She is reluctant to change jobs due to loyalty to her boss. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2nsfem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (F/19) confused about whether I should stay with him (M/18).", "post": "I'm a girl who has only had short term relationships. I just dated people because that was the thing to do in high school... I'm now in University and have met a guy that I would love to try and go the distance. He says he really likes me and we act like we're dating, but he broke up with his long time girl at the beginning of the semester and has episodes of missing her, I'm totally for waiting and not pushing him into anything but it puts a lot of emotional stress on everything because I don't know if I should be there for him as a friend instead. I know what I want, but he doesn't know and I'm confused if I should move on until he figures it out?", "summary": "Guy breaks up with long time girlfriend. Meets me, we have this dating-type thing, has waves of missing ole girl, doesn't know what he wants and I do. Should I stay or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2fu2im", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to move on from a person you thought you would grow old with?", "post": "My fiancee [20/f] broke up with me[20/m] a couple of weeks ago, she then immediately got a friend with benefits, so no chance on getting back together. I asked for to marry me 2 years ago and she said yes. Due to outside things we tried 3 times to get married and 3 times she said not now later. The last time we tried a week before she told me she didn't want to get married and broke up with me. \n\nDue to me not being in the US and her being an American we were going for a fiancee visa. Because of this this last time I dropped out of my university and moved to another city to make the paperwork easier. After this I got stuck having lost everything.\n\nI am at a loss as to how to move on. I am still kinda friends with her. She considers me her best friend... but I consider her a toxic friend (ie im there when she needs me, she is not there when i need her). I tried cutting the friendship, but it resulted in a lot of crying (her FWB left her the same day) and after 4 hours that i told her I didnt want to be her friend I got my first ever panic attack. I then broke NC.\n\nHow do move on from someone I thought I would grow old with? Hell we even had the name of our children planned out, same as the plans for the home we would want to have. I am at a loss.", "summary": "Bad break up,she left before wedding. Not keeping NC. Has no idea how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_12oswe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, what do you think would be the best way to troll someone over tumblr (details inside)?", "post": "A friend of my mine recently found out my tumblr and created a new account made to mimic mine. Same pic, same layout, same theme, and just changed the name by one letter so it's hardly noticeable. He also apparently sends messages to my bf (whom he's also good friends with) to try and confuse him. I'm sure he knows both my bf and I know and it's all in good fun, my bf and I both think it's hilarious, but we both want to try and mess with him as much as we can. One thing I should mention is that I'm currently abroad so the only thing I can do is via the internet, though my bf would probably be willing to step in for some more personal fun, we're both just at a loss for what to do. So Reddit, what would you do to mess with him as much as possible?", "summary": "a friend created a tumblr account to mimic mine in every way possible. What can I do to mess with him?"}
{"id": "t3_3s5c91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my ex [20F] of 4 years, broke up and I really advices help getting over the shitty feeling", "post": "Hi,\n\nMy ex broke up with me because she didn't feel the same way anymore and wanted to move on and meet other guys, which according to what she told me, did happen already. I am 100% aware that the relationship is over and I am 100% trying to move on right now.\n\nMy friends are extremely supportive and they always chill and distract me until late at night when they go home. I also got new hobbies like lifting, got a new haircut and did changes to my life to try and be a brand new person. However, I am having problems like not being able to sleep at night and even if I do, end up waking up extremely early. \n\nAt night, my heart will keep on pounding like a race horse when I am alone and no matter how hard I try I cannot distract the feeling. When I watch a tv show or play games the feeling stays and distracts me from whatever I am doing. When I finally fall asleep at 3AM I always end up waking up at around 7:30AM~ with strong thoughts on her and my heart pounding really fast again. When I go out and eat with my friends, a regular sized pho is usually an easy finish for me but lately I am struggling to eat even half of it. I lost all my appetite. \n\nI am trying really hard to get over this but it is so hard for me at night and in the morning, is there anything I could do to stop these feelings from getting to me? I have a counselor appointment booked for this weekend but for now I am really trying to get recommendations from all you experienced and amazing people to help me not get those pounding feelings anymore and to be able to eat.\n\nThank you so much for all the responses from my ex post, it really helped me make up my mind and I cannot thank you all enough for helping me through my toughest times.", "summary": "gf broke up with me and is meeting new guys, my heart pounds like crazy at night and in the morning, I can't sleep and I wake up super early and I cannot eat either."}
{"id": "t3_nasdv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have become physically unable to have sex with anyone but my long time (uncommitted)lover.", "post": "I am a 21 year old male and the female involved is also 21. We have known each other since about the age of five. She was the first girl I ever had a crush on, it is a very early memory but I remember it well.\n\nShe moved away when we were still both very young and I didn't see her until we were about sixteen years old. For the past five years we have been having sex regularly, and to be completely honest, it is the best I've ever had. We have never been \"committed\" to each other and have never had anything resembling a normal relationship.\n\nIt is essentially \"fuck buddies\" but I have always felt an extremely deep emotional attachment. I feel this awesome feeling of understanding and this giving vibe from her. There has been times where were are separated by great distances, yet we both always end up with each other again.\n\nDown to the problem: we are both sluts. We have always slept with other people, and dated other people and our relationship is essentially short and very intense \"flings\" several times a year. Recently though, I have essentially become impotent. I physically can't have sex with anyone but her. I have been in many extremely embarrassing situations where I'll take a girl home and no matter how attracted and turned on I am by the girl I can't get an erection. My body only seems to want to have sex with one woman, no matter what my brain wants...\n\nWe have never spoken of our relationship being any more than what it is, though now I want to be the only one. I have absolutely no idea how I could ever approach her with this request and if she says no I don't know if I can continue this...\n\nAnd if she declines... how do I get over this mental barrier I seem to have developed?", "summary": "Long time lover, never had a committed relationship. I have become physically unable to have sex with anyone but her... how do I A) become the only one AND/OR B) Get over my inability to sleep with other women?"}
{"id": "t3_3k9zz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) am wondering if it's normal that my bf (27m) gets tired of me?", "post": "Okay so we've been dating for two years and we see each other on weekends. It used to be pretty even on spending time at my place and his but lately its basically just been his place. So when we're at his place we don't have much to do really aside from watching movies or tv and we are together in the same room for like a solid three days. \n\nso by the end of day two he says he starts to feel like he needs to be alone. I totally get that, doesn't seem all that weird to me. I mean he doesnt feel like that when we are actually able to do fun things together, or are playing games together, etc. It seems to affect him most when all we have to do is sit around and chill. He's really introverted, alone time is the way introverts recharge. \n\nwe're both concerned that this is a huge red flag against going to the next level like moving in together. we don't have plans to do that any time soon but if he can't handle three days can he handle living together? \n\nmy opinion on that, living together would feel totally different because its not me encroaching on his otherwise alone time sanctuary that is his house now. and we could work in separate rooms, leave the house and hang with friends, etc. I don't think the issue now would be the same if we lived together. but the fact that he has doubts about it really shakes my confidence in our relationship. I love him and nothing has changed for me but knowing he has doubts scares the hell out of me. what do you guys think?? is it bad to need more space?", "summary": "we see each other on weekends for a solid two or three days"}
{"id": "t3_cj738", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would I know if I was a sociopath?", "post": "I can provide more details if they're asked for, but I've been obsessing about symptoms so I'm not sure if I'm just over-analyzing things.\n\nI've always been disconnected with my emotions, and I don't remember really feeling true sadness for someone else beyond a very fleeting moment of it. \n\nI've been accused of using people more times than I like to admit, and while I was in denial about it, I can't deny it anymore. \n\nI don't seem to make long terms friends even when I try to do so, and my friendships tend to be only with people of the opposite gender I'm attracted to, because those tend to be the only people I can show an effort in talking to. \n\nI keep people away from knowing details about my life as much as possible, especially if it compromises the image I'm trying to project with that person. \n\nI'm really hoping I'm not a sociopath, because as I understand it, that would make having empathy for others impossible.", "summary": "How would I know if I was a sociopath, and if I'm not, how can I gain more empathy for others?"}
{"id": "t3_3zdkcd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my best friend [21 F], not replying to Facebook messages, despite having \"seen\" them?", "post": "I should probably state that my best friend is also my ex. We were incredibly close during our year and a half together, and had a mutual breakup because we wanted to see new people/ I graduated college and got a full-time job about an hour away. Our breakup was mutual, and after a couple of months of no-contact, we recently rebuilt our friendship. I think of her as my closest friend, and actually, just a couple of days ago, she openly admitted the same about me.\n\nDue to the distance, our only means of contact is through Facebook messenger. Since we started talking again though, I'd find that she'd frequently not respond to my last message, despite Facebook saying that she \"saw\" it. Sometimes we'd be having a fairly in-depth conversation (that she sometimes brings up), or she'd be ranting to me about something, when all of a sudden, her messages just stop. I realize that there are probably a number of reasons why she may not be replying; she's a lot more social than I am and often talks to multiple people at once, not all of my messages warrant a response, or that she's just busy, but it's still fairly annoying to see, especially since I'm the sort of individual that tries to send some sort of acknowledgement to all messages that I receive, or tell them if I can't talk at the moment. Because she doesn't always do this, I initially interpreted that she was sending me mixed messages shortly after we resumed contact.\n\nI realize that yes, we're no longer in a relationship, and that I can't expect her to always be there, but I feel as if this issue also extends to courtesy, and I really would like to talk to her about this without trying to sound needy/ pushy (especially given our former status). Maybe it would be best to just accept that this is how she is? All advice is appreciated.", "summary": "best friend that's also my ex doesn't always respond to messages even after seeing them, frustrating me, not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_zflfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24F] Boyfriend of 6 years [28M] thinks I'm fat... yes, sorry, yet another post about weight", "post": "When I first met my boyfriend, I was about ~125 lbs. I was also in college at the time. Now I'm closer to 135 lbs and have been consistently for the past 3 years. I'm not gaining, I just tend to plateau and hover around a comfortable weight. Actually the extra 10lbs was most likely because I graduated from a broke college-student lifestyle and started being able to afford real food (as in, no more ramen). However, my boyfriend now considers me \"fat.\"\n\nNow, I'm familiar with how /r/relationships usually responds to threads about weight gain... usually along the lines of *\"being healthy is better, he's just concerned about you!\"* or *\"physical attractiveness is just as important!\"*--and I can agree with all that...\n\nHowever, my dilemma is I think truly still I feel like I'm at a healthy weight and I don't think 135lbs is fat. He regularly uses the word \"fat\" to describe me and it hurts my feelings. I take care of myself just fine and I feel like it's a little ridiculous. I feel like he doesn't love me as much because of a 10lb difference. I really didn't have any intention to lose weight but it sucks that my boyfriend thinks it's a huge deal and it puts me under stress thinking about how he must think I look disgusting to him.\n\nI think if I met new people who never knew what I looked like before wouldn't even bat an eye or think twice about considering me overweight.", "summary": "Gained 10lbs after graduating college to ~135lbs. Plateaued at this weight for the past 3 years and boyfriend thinks I'm fat and less attractive. Makes me feel shitty when I don't agree with him and honestly feel comfortable at my weight. Worth arguing over 10lbs?"}
{"id": "t3_in150", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I guess I just don't get it -- What's the benefit of Verizon's new Tiered Plans?", "post": "Frankly, I'm really hoping some Verizon person (preferably one who doesn't like their company very much) reads this and chimes in, but here goes:\n\nSome hijinks occurred, and I feel I recently got screwed by Verizon -- regardless of what their people tell me they can and cannot do, I think that there's some bullshit going on in terms of assigning contracts to lines. I hate being told that \"we just can't do that\" when SOMEONE had to design the bloody system. Also: I'm tied in a 1 1/2 year contract (I think) more or less.\n\nThat's not my real point though; end of story is I've gone from having unlimited (5GB cap, realistically), to having a hellova bout of crappy luck I guess, and now have no data.\n\nFor those who don't know, Verizon's tiers (per month) are:\n\n* Pay as you go, 1MB - $1.99*\n* 75MB - $10*\n* 2GB - $30\n* 5GB - $50\n* 10GB - $80\n\n*Not smart-phone eligible (\"feature-phone\" only).\n\n---------\n\nSo let me get this straight: Verizon has \"a lot of usage on their towers\" (and more so now that they have 4G and the iPhone); but rather than upgrading their infrastructure, they're reducing what the customer gets. Fine, you can argue that back and forth.\n\nWhat I don't get is how this (and this is the argument that a Verizon rep straight up told me) is *better* for a consumer. They said \"Well, your average person doesn't use 5GB, they don't even use 2GB\" (and I have friends who have said something similar). That's fine in theory, to me that means LOWER THE PRICE FOR 2GB SO THE CUSTOMERS GET MORE FOR THEIR MONEY. Oh, you have 75MB for $10? Aside from that (and the pay-as-you-go) being LAUGHABLE prices for bandwidth, you CAN'T PUT A SMARTPHONE ON THEM?!", "summary": "Majority of our customers (and lets face it, we're focused entirely on smartphones) don't use 2GB of data, so we'll make a tier targeting that concept, but make it so they can't use it.\" "}
{"id": "t3_1cyowa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "HR personnel of Reddit, I'm about to go into an interview for a State Police communications job but I was fired from my last job and have not worked for a year. How should I approach the inevitable questions about my history? (More info after the jump)", "post": "Long story short, I have depression/focus issues and it affected my previous job and I was let go and have had a hard time being motivated to look for a job this past year.  I cannot get treatment since I don't have insurance so my plan is to get a job and get help ASAP after that.  As for my work experience and expertise; performance issues aside, I think I am very well qualified (according to them after my test, I am in the top tier, \"Best Qualified,\" of candidates) for the position since I've been involved dispatch for over 5 years and have learned a variety of proprietary programs but from the user side and the admin side.  I'm very personable and professional with clients and have received many, many compliments over the years about dealing with me.  Lastly, when I'm in the correct frame of mind and am able to focus, all of my employers have been beyond thrilled with my contributions to their companies.\n\nSo basically, I don't want to lie here, but I don't want to cut my legs out from under me either.  They made me sign and notarize a truthfulness statement before I even come in so I'm wondering if being up front and honest about this might not actually help in that regard (assuming the hiring personnel care about it that is), but I'm worried that it may not stop it from being a deal-breaker or at least might put me below another candidate.  Any thoughts?", "summary": "I think I'm well qualified for a position that I'm about to interview for, but have had serious performance issues due to depression.  I don't want to lie about it in my interview so how should I approach these problems when the come up?"}
{"id": "t3_ojava", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tell us about the bullies who got what they deserved!", "post": "I was picked on quite a bit in middle and high school. While I was bullied by a lot of people, some of them had karma come around and kick their butts. My senior year, my family moved to a new town, and I had no friends and nobody knew me. So one guy decided he was going to give me a place in the social pecking order by immediately calling me names and pushing me down in the hall (I was a small kid and didn't fight back, as I had gotten in quite a bit of trouble previously for my volatile temper). This happened almost every day for the entire year. This guy was on the football team, dating one of the hottest girls in school, and was all-around your classic movie-style bully.\n\nA few weeks ago I was going through the drive-thru at a Taco Bell in the town I graduated from, when I recognized the guy at the window. He tried to make pleasant small talk, asking me what I was doing and how things were. I told him, and asked him the same. He now has 4 children, lives in a trailer park, and is married to his high school girlfriend who is now morbidly obese (I looked up some of this on the googles, he obviously didn't come out and say it). The look of shame, degradation, and sheer depression on his face while he spoke to me was probably one of the most satisfying things I've seen...which makes me a terrible person, I know.\n\nHow about you? Any bullies get what they deserved after being horrible people?", "summary": "Bully works at taco bell, has 4 horrible kids, a fat wife, and a terrible home."}
{"id": "t3_1bxtqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Another woman (24) is calling my boyfriend (26m) \"Sweetie, Darl and other Pet Names\" I (21f) Feel this is inappropriate due to their past history.", "post": "Hello all, \n\nBackstory - My bf (26m) and I (21f) have been dating for close to a year. During this time he admitted he had feelings for this chick (24f) that were inappropriate for while he was with me so voluntarily he ceased all contact with her. (Around October Last Year). \n\nThey started talking after a month (Only once a week or so and nothing bad - I have access to his phone etc - He let me do this). He has reconfirmed that he no longer has feelings for her and I trust him on this however am still rather wary in regards to her. \n\nI have noticed in recent texts she has been calling him \"Sweetie or Darl and has been saying things like \"I miss our lunch dates etc\". \n\nHe does not return the endearments to her in text but did say I miss them too. A group of friends, my bf and this girl are all going on a holiday next week and I'm cautious as this is what prompted him to tell me about the crush last year. \n\nIs it appropriate for her to be calling him these pet names and how do I communicate this to my SO? \n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "A previous crush of my bf(26m) Won't stop calling him sweetie and pet names. I (21f) Feel this is inappropriate due to their past history."}
{"id": "t3_1m35xb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should reparations be given in the United States?", "post": "The southern argument was that since each State (or the people thereof) had voluntarily ratified the Constitution, they could also voluntarily UN-ratify it -- which is what the secession ordinance did. \n\nAbraham Lincoln's argument (and by extension that of the North) was that the Union was intended by the Founders to be permanent.\n\nEach of these arguments is consistent and plausible. What determined the matter was the war. Lacking any precedent, if South Carolina made secession stick, then it was legal; if she lost her bid to secede by being defeated in war, they secession was not legal. Since the South lost, secession is not legal", "summary": "If the Confederacy had the right to secede should reparations be given to the states that were invaded by the United States?"}
{"id": "t3_1y462s", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need help.", "post": "I need help and I'm kinda desperate.\n\nI just don't know where to start.\n\nI'm a M/21/5'5.\n\nI want to share my weight story first.\n\nFirst of all, I used to live in the different country. I was always that fat chunky kid growing up. Then, a miracle happen, by the time I hit 16 I became more active and played sports almost everyday. Needless to say that I lost weight and was at 150-160 lbs range. It was probably the most fit I had in my entire life. But something happen, when I was almost 18, my family moved to the US. I've never told anyone this before but the transition was hard for me. I lost all of my friends and started back to scratch. I started gaining weight slowly. The portion sizes in all of the foods here are almost 3 times as much as what I had back home. At first, I was surprised but then I became accustomed to it and even wanting seconds now. Fast forward 4 years later, I am 21 years old and weighing about 220+.", "summary": "Fat Kid - Lose weight (150-160) -  Moved to the US - Gained Weight (220+)"}
{"id": "t3_dghkw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my shit is not together. Any personal advice, experiences, thoughts? Rude jokes at my expense are welcome too!", "post": "Long time Redditor here. This is a throwaway, but I'm sure some friends will recognize me. I don't mind though.\n\nI'm 20 years old. I got kicked out of my parents' house recently, with absolutely no money to my name. All I have is this laptop, some clothes, and good friends. I'm staying with a friend for the time being, but I don't want to impede his family for longer than two months. However at the rate of my job search, I may have to stay for longer.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about getting kicked out really. I wouldn't want to go back to my parents' house at this point. I will have to rise up and make a man of myself at some point in my life... but it just feels like I'm facing tremendous odds. I've applied at almost everywhere possible within a 3 mile radius (Outskirts of NYC), most places aren't hiring at this time (even McDonald's hasn't called me back yet). I'm not the kind of person to be above a minimum wage job (or two even!), but even those aren't hiring at this time.\n\nI managed to get sick right after I got kicked out, so I didn't do stunningly at my first interview. I'm also lacking in the official documents department. All I have is my birth certificate and high school diploma (my mother lost my social security card a while back so uh...).", "summary": "Got kicked out, no money, want to be self-sufficient as soon as possible. What would you do in my situation? Or what have you done in a similar situation? "}
{"id": "t3_3e7w0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23M) and my ex (25f). Recently had a mutual breakup, felt like I should have spent one last day with her.", "post": "So last Saturday, my ex and I decided to part ways.  We both decided that we were too different on important topics and that too much work would be required to make this relationship work on both of our parts.  Point is, we both knew this was coming.  But it was still the hardest choice I've had to make in a long time.  It was so hard to say bye to someone i was super close to and cared deeply for, even though i knew it was for the best.  \n\nShe came over on Saturday, we talked for 40 minutes, then started packing up all of her stuff at my house.  I was fine up until this point but we gave us each just one final hug for like 10 minutes and both of us just started bawling and kept hugging.  Towards the end she said I'm gonna miss you and gawd dangit that hit me like a ton of bricks.  But anyway we finally said bye about 10 minutes later and that was it.  Been silence on the radio since then.\n\nAs I think about it now, I still stand by my devision that it was for the best.  But I'm thinking back now that maybe I should have spent the rest of that Saturday with her before calling it quits, because just having it end so suddenly felt wierd.  Now when I say this, I don't mean spend the rest of Saturday making out/doing other physical activites.  I mean spend the day with her like you would for a friend who has one week to live.  \n\nThis thought had popped into my head yesterday and since then I haven't been able to get rid of it, like it's a regret, since I don't know if we'll ever talk again.  There's also a few more things I'd like to say to her along the lines of thanks for everything.", "summary": "exgf and I mutually broke up last saturday.  Felt like I should have spent the rest of Saturday with her before calling it quits and going no contact."}
{"id": "t3_3z1glc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] I have been emotionally shattered for the past 2ish years and became emotionless. Few days back I saw a girl at my work and I completely fell in love with her, need help.", "post": "2ish years ago I destroyed a good relationship that I had and became emotionless, stopped feeling anything for anybody I didn't know really well ( old close friends and family, only. ) and started despising every human being I didn't know. \n\nI don't know how to explain it further but I pretty much don't feel anything apart from anger and rage. To give some context, I've had an injury at work and had to stay at home for 3 weeks, when I came back I saw this girl (she had been there already before and I always noticed her but never really clicked on me ) and I must say that I completely fell in love with her, she has this divine aura around her that I just cannot explain.\n\nShe's not even those 10/10 model girls or anything like that but my mind can't stop thinking about anything else than her.\n\nNow the real problem is: She's doing an internship in my company ( I don't know for how much time ) and I've never talked with her, I don't even know her name. \n\nAs I said before, due to the last relationship I had I became pretty much emotionless and my \"ability\" to maintain or start a new relationship has been avoided for the past 2 years so, what should be my next step?", "summary": "Fell in love with a girl and I don't even know her name, what should I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_i9rc8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I Have Feelings For a Coworker with a Boyfriend", "post": "I'm an introvert guy and usually I'm happy alone but for the past few weeks, I've been very lonely. I don't have any close friends so I don't have anyone to talk to most of the time. Last 3 or so weeks, a coworker of mine asked me to hang out with her after work and I went with her. I think she's also a bit lonely since she's new to the city and doesn't have friends yet. Her boyfriend is temporarily in another city for a contract job. Our cubicles at work are pretty much beside each other so we see each other a lot during the day.\n\nI found that I enjoyed talking to her and she said that she enjoyed hanging out with me as well. So, we've been hanging out a lot after work since then. We would go take a walk in the park, watch a movie, etc and we talk about pretty much anything. She talks about her boyfriend a lot too and I'm genuinely interested in hearing about it --their story, triumphs, and problems as well.\n\nI was happy about all this until lately I've started having feelings for her. What kind of feelings? I'm starting to really really like her and I even get sad and a bit jealous when she hangs out with someone else a lot. There, I realized I am totally fucked. I want her to just be a friend, nothing more, out of respect to her man as well.\n\nWhat the hell do I do now? My mind is just flat: \"No, this is stupid, nothing will ever happen to us, not in a million years, not fucking ever.\" But my emotions can't be controlled.. I don't know how to deal with this. Will I kiss her if she offers right now? Absolutely not. But I think about her a lot when I'm not at work and it just saddens me. Can I get some advice?", "summary": "Have feelings for a coworker with a boyfriend, don't how to deal with these feelings because I just want to be friends with her."}
{"id": "t3_3blh93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19F) and my bf(20M) who likes to hang out with his ex", "post": "Background info: we've been dating around 10 months, we met in high school and started dating in college.\n\nAbout 5 weeks ago, I was at work when my boyfriend texted me and told me he was going to a movie and dinner with friends. I didn't think anything of it, until I got a text from him saying \"lol (Ex's name) is here\" then I got curious. \n\nOne of his friends texted me asking what I was doing, and why my bf was with a different girl, because he had seen them, and that's when I learned that it was just my bf and his ex that went to dinner and movie.\n\n Fast forward, we got into a fight about it and almost broke up.\n\nJust recently, (a few days ago) I saw that he had been texting Ex, and I asked if I could see what they were talking about. He said no, so I got up to leave, when I noticed him trying to delete texts between them. I caught him and asked him why he was deleting their messages and he didn't really have an answer so I immediately left his house.\n\nUnfortunately, we had plans for the next day, and I had already bought the tickets for it, which were super expensive. He apologized for doing it, and I pretended things were normal, just for the day so it wouldn't be miserable for us both. \n\nI love him, and I don't believe he would cheat on me, we've discussed it so many times. But he broke my trust.", "summary": "Weeks ago, my boyfriend went to a movie and dinner with an ex after saying he was going with friend. A few days ago I saw they had been texting, I asked if I could seem he said no, I caught him deleting texts between them, I left his house, but had to be with him The next day because we had already purchased expensive event tickets. He apologized, we went about the day as normally as possible. "}
{"id": "t3_uvq26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When did you first realize that your parents were fallible and did not always have the best advice?", "post": "My parents are extremely intelligent and humble people.  They always had great advice and I remember growing up seeing my parents as one of the greatest sources of information available.  My dad was a walking encyclopedia and always strutted his stuff while watching jeopardy.  It wasn't until my teenage years that cracks started to show and that they were not always the best source of information.\n\nThe times where their advice became most clearly outdated was when I entered the workforce and had to deal with \"real world\" issues.  They always believed that honesty was the best policy.  I remember when I applied for summer jobs during colleges they said to, \"Just be honest and say you are only looking for a summer job\".  This is horrible advice, as must companies do not want to invest the time training an employee only to have them bail. In many of my jobs you are expected to lie on a daily basis as a CYA for yourself as well as your superiors.  The corporate world as far as I can tell operates under of veil of lies and bullshit policies that are impossible to follow.", "summary": "When did your parents change in your eyes from all knowing heroes to just regular people?"}
{"id": "t3_v4jr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I'm not allowed to be this happy, and it's straining my relationship.", "post": "I had a very melancholic youth; I had teen parents who never married and separated when I was three. They moved to different towns and remarried. All four have been abusive throughout my life in different ways. I had to be the stable pillar for my two little sisters at my dad's and my little sister and brother at my mom's as I was traded between the two houses. Growing up, I was always miserable and lonely inside but never expressed it. I guess I didn't have it as bad as most, but it still hurt.\n\nWhen I went to college and finally got away, my life drastically improved in every way. I started my first major relationship with a wonderful girl (19M in a relationship with 19F for one year), her family loves me, I got my first job doing something I love, I do great in all my classes. I was finally happy, happier than I've ever been in my entire life. Everyone says I deserve it, and it's my reward for the awful childhood I survived. I can't express how happy I feel every day. \n\nExcept when I'm alone. When I'm alone, I have this awful, terrible dread come over me that I'm about to lose it all. I'm not allowed to be happy. Tomorrow, I'll die in a car crash. My girlfriend will be hurt. I'll lose my job. I'll fuck up my classes next semester. I feel like I'm waiting for it all to go away, any moment now. I struggle to remind myself that it's okay to live well, and all these things are unlikely. \n\nIt's starting to strain my relationship, as I feel like I'm becoming more clingy or watchful than I should be. I'm having a panic attack right now, because she dropped me off at my place and didn't text me that she got back safely like she usually does. She probably forgot is at home playing Fallout right now, but I can't help imagining the worst.\n\nI want this over. I want this done. How do I get over it and come to terms with my own happiness?", "summary": "I have a great job, a great girlfriend, I have a 3.9 GPA at a good university. When I'm alone, I tear myself apart over it."}
{"id": "t3_2tefvt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by French Toast.", "post": "Im 12, and I was making french toast, home alone, and we had kinda just got a new kitchen. I made french toast on the new hob (the cooktop thing) and it didn't seem that hot at all even though it was set to 9. So I switched to a different part of the hob. It turns out that the other part was still very hot, and I rested a plastic spatula on the pan. Most of the spatula melted, I quickly picked it up and I had plastic goop stuck to my hand, washed it off, there was still a reasonably big plastic thingamabob melting on the pan. Parents came home, explained, it got cleaned luckily with no marks. Im eating the french toast as I write this, but now its cold. So sad.", "summary": "Making french toast, never kept an eye on a melting spatula."}
{"id": "t3_517c8e", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Needing help finding out what she thinks is the perfect ring", "post": "I (31m) am ready to go ring shopping for my girlfriend (27f). Problem is, I can't find out her ring size or which kinds of rings she prefers. Because I want to make this perfect, I've browsed every damn Facebook post, picture, and Instagram post that she has and can't find anything. Her number 1 friend hates me (for her own selfish reasons) so I can't ask her. \n\nI have enlisted the help of some of her other friends but they all haven't had that discussion, so here's where I need help, kind ladies and gentleman of Reddit. I need ideas on how can I have people pry for this information without it being obvious to her. I'm completely perplexed by how to do this. \n\nAnd FYI I try to find ways to pry information from her passively and she tells me that \"she isn't gonna spill that info, and that I gotta find ways to figure it out\" and she thinks that I definitely should work for it and I'm 100% ok with that.", "summary": "Needing help and ideas on how myself and her friends can pry engagement ring size and preferences from my future fianc\u00e9e / wife."}
{"id": "t3_ezzrm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When someone says to you, \"Have you ever seen...\" and you haven't seen it, what are you supposed to say?", "post": "If I'm having a conversation with someone, especially when at a party, and they reference a movie that I haven't seen, I don't always know what to say. I often lie and pretend like I get what they're saying, since the mutual laughter (although pretend) is usually better than getting the \"oh... well... nevermind, then.\" But somtimes I can tell they can tell I'm pretending, and that's just even more awkward. If I say I haven't seen the movie, they either don't explain it or they'll go into a long explanation I either don't listen to or really isn't that funny since I haven't seen it. So Reddit, is there a proper response for social situations like this?", "summary": "What's the best thing to say when someone is referencing a movie you haven't seen?"}
{"id": "t3_3ee097", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Finished reading Albert Camus's The Stranger yesterday. Any thoughts?", "post": "Personally, I found the book an interesting, neat, and concise read, but I found myself really annoyed by the philosophy being spouted by the book. It's themes of life being meaningless and that \"nothing matters\" and \"nothing really changes,\" were ridiculous to me. Maybe I'm wrong, but I find the philosophy rather stupid. I mean, the book itself proves it wrong (although probably not intentionally). It's one of those reads that needs to be analyzed in order for its entire meaning to be understood. So there IS a point (or a meaning) to this book, which is its themes. If you think about it, you can't grasp its true meaning WITHOUT analyzing it. This is true for life, as well. It has meaning, you just have to find it, which requires some analyzing. It could be argued that the way literature works is a mirror of how life works. It must be analyzed in order to discern true meaning. Therefore, simply by writing the book, Camus contradicts his own message. Maybe I misunderstood the book? Any thoughts?  I'd love to hear other'side opinions. Thank you!", "summary": "? Camus's argument in the Stranger is flawed and wrong. Your thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_27441e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] girlfriend [24 F] of 3 months has been on birth control since before we were dating (pill), but still makes me use condoms. Is it selfish of me to want to stop using them?", "post": "I've been dating this girl for 3 months, things have been going really well, we really like each other, I truly feel like we love each other, even though it hasn't been that long. \n\nShe has been on birth control for quite some time, but she still makes me use condoms. Not that there's anything wrong with that, I get that birth control pills have a certain failure rate. It's just that that recent ask reddit thread about what women want guys to stop doing, one of them was bugging them to take birth control so that they can come inside. My girl IS on birth control, but we still don't do that. Is that normal? \n\nI think it would be nice if we could stop worrying about condoms and all the fuss they entail. We are already committed and faithful to each other. She doesn't make me do it for STI concerns, as we are both tested and clean, and anyway, we start without condoms, and usually about half way through we put the condom on. She has admitted to me that it doesn't feel as good after we start using one, and our pillow talk often comes to her wishing \"there was a condom without a condom\" meaning she wishes there were a birth control method as trustworthy as a condom without using a condom. When I point out that the pill is actually more effective than the condom, she says the pill is only for a fail safe in case the condom fails, and she doesn't want that to be our only method. \n\nMy question is, is she being overly paranoid? Or am I being selfish wishing we could do away with the condoms? I just need someone to offer a little perspective, please.", "summary": "My girlfriend, who is on birth control, wants to keep using condoms, and I wish we could stop. Is that selfish of me?"}
{"id": "t3_2e0be3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/20] feel like my boyfriend [M/24] doesn't find me attractive anymore?", "post": "We've been together 6 years (long distance relationship) and I'm moving in with him next year.\n\nLet me start off by saying that I DON'T need him to tell me every day how pretty he finds me, like he did in the beginning of the relationship. However, I can't remember the last time that he's complimented me. It's probably been about 6+ months.\nNothing has changed since the beginning, I still take care of myself in every way. The other day for example, I got all dressed up, and REALLY tried in hopes of getting something out of him. He didn't notice or say a word. He tells me he loves me daily, and I really do appreciate that but like I said, a compliment would be nice every once in a while.\n\nSometimes I would like to hear something nice, whatever it is, like my hair looks good that day, or even a 'you're beautiful'. I mean I'm giving him this attention as well, complimenting him. He never says anything- even if I spent a lot of time looking good- of course I assume he might not find me attractive anymore. He rarely initiates sex anymore and watches porn instead which doesn't help either. I don't mind him watching it, but I feel like he doesn't want me anymore or finds me attractive.\n\nThe other day a couple of my friends and I went out for a few drinks and I got a few people asking to buy me drinks (which I declined), told me I looked great etc. It's been AGES since I've heard any of that from my boyfriend. It made me feel good.\nI don't need him to tell me every day how attractive he finds me. But a compliment once in a while wouldn't hurt. So yes, sometimes I need approval and I think I'll need it in the future as well. I'm giving him this approval as well and I like doing it. I like showing him that I do not only love him but that I also find him super attractive.", "summary": "It's been months since my boyfriend has given me a compliment of any sort. I feel he doesn't find me attractive anymore. He doesn't initiate sex when we're together either. When I'm out and receive compliments from other men, it reminds me just how much I miss feeling wanted like that."}
{"id": "t3_co8mu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Meeting Girls?", "post": "So, I have a problem. And it's terribly embarrassing to me. I haven't been laid in a year and a half, and I haven't been in a relationship for nearly three. I'm going nuts. I live in the Pacific Northwest in a city full of young attractive women and I can't seem to meet any single ones.\n\nI'm a reasonably good looking guy, not particularly confident, but good at faking it, and I don't choke up talking to girls (any more). I'm not shy around people and I can appear gregarious when motivated properly (read: by booze). I haven't really had this problem before. I just don't know where to go to meet single girls. All my friends are in relationships. Their friends are in relationships. THEIR friends are in relationships.\n\nI've joined OkCupid. No dice. Not a peep from any of the 50+ girls I've contacted. I go to bars, but the women travel in packs or with their SO's. What am I doing wrong? Do I need a wingman? I do a fair number of activities, when not working. Quiz night, hiking, social events, frisbee golf.  I'm just at a loss.", "summary": "Adequately attractive and interesting early 20's male is distressed by the statistical unlikelihood of his dry spell. Seeks help/reassurance."}
{"id": "t3_1ni9v1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my best friend [18 F], both gone off to uni and have started to have feelings for each other.", "post": "Me and a really good friend have both gone to uni and we have  both realised how much we actually liked the other. Now it's too complicated to organise anything since we live 4 1/2 hours away by train with a cost of around \u00a3100. We have always had this 'thing' between us, but I never thought it was anything more than that until we parted - now it's too late. I could really use some advice on what I could do to get over her or meet her, I just don't know what to do. She says we should start seeing other people rather than waiting for 3-4 years, but the thought of her being with someone else kills me and I, for sure, can't see myself with a different person.", "summary": "Me and my best friend had several 'flings' in college and now we're in uni and separated by a whole country, I want to be with her."}
{"id": "t3_4p1boe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (22M) get over the fact that my gf (23F) cheated on me a couple of years ago?", "post": "Honestly this is a very awkward situation for me since I've always been a person that said he'd leave the moment he found out he's been cheated on. Couple years ago I got cheated on but for the first time ever I decided to give my gf another chance and I have stayed with her since then. For the most part I've been happy since then but my main problem is that deep down I'm unfortunately still enraged and paranoid about what happened in the back of my head. I thought I'd feel more mature for actually giving her another chance but I've honestly just feel like a shameful pathetic idiot for taking that choice. Unfortunately I just have always had issues with letting my anger die out.", "summary": "She cheated on me years ago. I still have negative feelings about it, how can I finally put this 100% behind me??"}
{"id": "t3_s1izg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What ways have you seen people allow a friend or loved one to publicly humiliate themself?  I know a former-model-turned-paraplegic-pillhead-uberchristian who...", "post": "I know a former-model-turned-paraplegic-pillhead-uberchristian who regularly updates her facebook status to something like \"Jesus visited me last night and he told me I will walk again in 23 days.  Can you believe it?  In 23 days I will be healed, everybody! Who's ready to go dancing?\" It's pretty sad/pathetic, but what's worse is that when she's at a bar after she gets nice and drunk, she will start asking guys to let her give them blow jobs, but that usually doesn't work so it turns to begging and finally crying.  It's like clockwork, and that clockwork has turned her into a joke.  It's a small town, and people know her as 'the crippled blow job girl.'  If you see her at the bar, you know it's coming.  I'm not really friends with her; I just know her through the bar(yes, I was one of those guys she begged), but I've seen it happen over and over again.  The thing is she's always with the same people, so they have to know what's going to happen too, but no one seems to want to tell her that she's embarrassing herself, and they just turn their heads and let her do it.  Sometimes people even encourage this behavior, particularly with letting her believe she's going to be healed by a miracle.  It's bothered me for a while.  I figured someone else has to have witnessed a similar story.", "summary": "a crippled bitch regularly announces jesus will heal her within the month. she also begs for sex at bars while crying. her friends/family don't seem to see a problem with this "}
{"id": "t3_3uworr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 3 years, saw his facebook search results and not sure what to think", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend \"John\" for 3 years, he is my first real relationship, and I might just be overreacting here... but I was just wondering if this is something normal that guys do?\n\nSo yesterday I was over at John's apartment to hang out, and during dinner we were talking about a mutual friend of ours who is getting married with his fiancee, and after dinner John went out to run some errands while I stayed behind to browse Amazon on his laptop. Seeing that his facebook page was open in the next tab I went to search for the friend we were talking about to look at some recent updates... and a recent history of what my boyfriend had searched for popped up below the search bar and I noticed that they were all girls ranging from his old crushes to a couple of my friends. Instead of just stopping right there (I know...I should have... but curiosity got the best of me), I went to his search history and saw that he seems to be searching for the same 5-6 girls quite often over the past year or so, always either in the morning right when he wakes up (at around 10-11am), or late at night right before he goes to sleep (1-3am). A couple of these girls were ones he had/(has?) romantic interests in before me, 2 are girls I hang out with on a regular basis, and 1 was an old classmate of his. He doesn't talk to any of them it seems, but he continuously searches for them at least every week or so. Do I need to be worried about anything?", "summary": "Boyfriend searches for the same girls over and over on facebook"}
{"id": "t3_rbz4x", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "What can I do legally to restore water to my condominium!?", "post": "Hi, I live in SE Michigan in a condominium complex. Our water was shut off due to non-payment. (we recieved no notice) and we had to pay all that was due ($1500) We payed this yesterday at 2, they said the water would be turned on immediately. It wasn't. It's now the next day. The lady in our assosciation keeps insisting that the water meter is in another condo. Which we can't access because the person living there is never there (it's being rented) Now we're stuck with no water, no shower, no teeth brushing, no toilets, and no food for certain meals....\n\nPlease help us... What can we do? We called the police and they say that we can file a civil report for the lady not doing her job...", "summary": "Water is shut off in our condo, we pay money, we don't get water back due to meter being in another persons house"}
{"id": "t3_555bew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] needs advice, badly for [F]", "post": "So, school started a few months ago in late July. Fresh out of sophomore year, ready to kick off junior year. Everything's the same, except for this one girl who the moment I saw her I was... erm... in awe? Don't know what term to use... \n\nI've talked to her about mundane topics, such as school. Asking about work and stuff. She doesn't have many friends, as she is new. I've been really nervous to legitimately start a conversation and ask for her number, snapchat, etc... because I fear about rejection and how I look. I honestly don't think I'm that good looking, but so does everyone else I guess. I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder (diagnosed, I take medicine) and it's really hard on me when it comes to girls.\n\nI really like her, and what I'm basically saying is how do I approach her and ask for her number without coming off weird? She seems a little intimidating but that's probably because I'm crushing hard over her.", "summary": "crushing over a girl and I fear of rejection and fear I'm just not good looking and I want her number to talk to her more."}
{"id": "t3_14gy62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this girl (20) giving m(20)e the red flag I need to leave? Or is this just because it's a new relationship?", "post": "Official for JUST 2 weeks. Both 20. Basically the situation was as follows: she was hooking up with this other guy a couple days before we met. From what I gather he seemed to be only interested in sex, which she didn't want. So she met me, but was still talking to this guy a little bit at least (not sure how much they talked/if they hung out). Well one about 2 or 3 weeks into our relationship we go to a bar, he's there and says hi to her, and then basically tried to start a fight with me. So we left, and went home.\n\nWe talked about what happened. I of-course asked who he was and why he was so jealous/aggressive. She told me that they were \"just friends\" and after I pressed a little further she said that they had hooked up. I asked her why  she didn't say anything when he was trying to start stuff with me and she said that the whole situation made her feel uncomfortable. I straight up told her that she needs to stop \"being friends with him\" because it might lead to a fight. \n\nHer reply: she said \"okay\" but \"I don't want things to be awkward\" and something about \"it's going to be awkward if I see him in class/around campus\"\n\n**So I'm not very experienced with relationships**, but, is she basically saying \"I don't give a shit about your feelings, this other guy is obviously important enough to me that even if he is trying to start fights with you, I'm going to disregard that/you/our relationship and continue to be friends with him?\"?", "summary": "Guy from GF's past tries to start fight w/ me at bar. GF is enjoying his attention AT the LEAST. After I told her that being friends with him is a bad idea because it might lead to a fight, she said \"okay\" but that \"she doesn't want class/seeing him around school to be awkward by not talking to him\" (or something to that affect). Unaware whether I should just break up with her, or what here? I mean it's only been two weeks, so I'm not sure if I'm over-reacting or over-thinking."}
{"id": "t3_1oy606", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [26M] and I [25F] broke up after dating for more than five years, are there any books that help getting over first love?", "post": "My bf and I started dating in 2008. He's been my only relationship. We've kind of grown up together over the last five years but still have a lot of growing to do. I'm now in graduate school in a different city and we started feeling distant. I have some codependency and depression issues that were burdensome on the relationship. We mutually decided to break up however we continue to talk frequently since we've been best friends for some time. I'm working on my depression/codependence with a therapist and by reading some pertinent books. \n\nHas anyone read any books to help get over heartbreak? Any books that provide good insight/advice on relationships in general? I feel like everything I've found is pretty biased, either chick-lit or Christian stuff, neither my cup of tea.", "summary": "Can you recommend any books to help get over first love?"}
{"id": "t3_e4moy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey r/relationship_advice - first post here, first use of a throwaway account...I've got an awkward situation on my hands, and need your advice!", "post": "Hey Relationship_Advice,\n\nSo here's the predicament: I've recently been seeing this amazing girl - smart, great body, emotionally stable - she has it all. It's amazing! \n\nWe've been dating for a while now, and we've finally progressed into the bedroom phase of the relationship. Here's where it gets...awkward.\n\nOne of the first few times we had sex, I was behind her, and I noticed a small bit of, well, crap, still hanging out on her butt. Now, I'm no prude, and we were in the middle of sex, so I honestly didn't care. \n\nFast forward a week or two - we're going at it again, and as soon as I take off her pants, I *smell* something...but it's the heat of the moment, and so we just go at it, as it were. I won't get into details, but suffice to say she's a squirter, and did her thing. We did it in missionary that night, and it wasn't until the next morning that I noticed a *skid mark* down the middle of my white sheets. D: Ohhhh no.\n\nFast forward, another few days: Sex again, now I'm worried, I can smell poop, and lo and behold, the next morning, I actually find *crusted shit* on my comforter. :( :(\n\nr/relationship_advice, what do I do? I absolutely adore this girl - her looks, her brain, her calm and cool collected demeanor. What a step up from my ex! BUT - this whole 'my ass isn't clean' thing is **really** getting to me, and I need to know how to break it to her as politely as possible. I'm stuck, and I need your advice!", "summary": "New girlfriend doesn't wipe/clean her ass as well as she should, and is oblivious to it. White sheets/comforter post-sex are now proof :( How do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_37w8ys", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I save my phone number from having been solicited to, or given up or acquired by, dirty and obscene scammers who send unsolicited texts?", "post": "I recently got into an intensely serious disagreement with someone I've known for 6-7 years who will no longer be living in the United States anymore (honest coincidence) starting in a few months. I was at the point where I knew I could not know this person ever again, and I clarified that to them. In fact, I notified this person that if they attempted to contact me again, I would take legal action. After I expressed that to this person, 5-6 hours after they probably saw that text message, I received an obscene text message from an obvious scammer. I received another one today, 5 days later. Note: I've only received about one of these kinds of messages before over a period of 11-12 years.\n\nI'm completely open to the possibility that this situation has not been caused by this person I told never to contact me again. For example, I actually downloaded Textra, a well-known texting app, the same evening before I received the very first illicit text from scammer #1. I'm fairly sure Textra doesn't have anything to do with it however.", "summary": "Regardless of how I ended up in this situation with my phone number now obviously being given up all of the sudden, what can I do to protect my phone number? It seems clear someone is doing this to me, and it's either some random stranger I don't know at all OR it is the person I suspect, who does have a motive, and who will no longer be living in the United States anymore starting in a few months."}
{"id": "t3_4cyij0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my wife [32 F] 11 years, I'm falling for my coworker [32 F]. [UPDATE]", "post": "Original post.\n\nAbout 3 day's after my post I read all the comments and realized everyone was right. And I want to be 100% faithful to my wife and this woman is NOT worth losing my family.\n\nSome posters said something may be missing from my marriage. and I thought about it and realized me and my wife don't spend that much time together.\n\nSo I talked to my wife about it I told her how I felt and what was on my mind and we had a heart to heart. We cried a little and I don't want to lose her we made a schedule and are going to work out date nights for us to spend more time together.\n\nAs for Talia.\n\nMe and her met up and I told her the honest truth I'm married and I don't want to do something I'll regret forever. I told her my feelings were getting a little to inappropriate and that maybe we should not talk outside of work.\n\nShe agreed and told me she started feeling the same and that we should limit contact. She said it's for the best and that I'm a good man because most men would have just let it continue but I didn't.\n\nSo we ended our friendship.\n\nIn the mean time I'm going to focus on my family and my wife and distract myself from thinking of Talia. Looking back it wouldn't have been worth it because my wife has been with me through everything.\n\nWhen I lost my job when my parents died when I needed surgery. She's had my children and sacrifices for them and takes care of them without asking for anything in return.\n\nAnd I'm happy with her and I couldn't replicate all those memories with any woman. She's the only one for me and I realized and appreciate all the things she does for me and our family.\n\nThat's the update and hopefully I'll never have to return to this sub-reddit again.", "summary": "got my head out of my ass and realized how important my wife and family are to me. I ended my friendship with Talia and am going to focus on my wife and family now."}
{"id": "t3_pmqhq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what area of your life have you romanticized?", "post": "This question was brought on by an old mix CD that I've been listening to recently that me ex-girlfriend burned for me a long time ago. First of all, I'm assuming (hoping?) that I'm not the only one who does this. But I think we all do have areas of our lives that we romanticize and feel very nostalgic about, where we only remember the good parts. So, what part of your past do you look at through rose-tinted lenses?\n\nFor me, it was 2005. In the beginning of that year, I had this one group of friends that I hung out with mostly. When drama started to ensue within the group, I started talking to this girl that I had a class with, but really didn't know that well. We kept on talking, and I started shifting from that old group of friends to a different group (which obviously included this girl).\n\nWe started dating about a month and a half after we started talking. I think the rush of hanging out with this girl, and these new people just seemed so foreign, but also fresh to me, that it was strangely exhilarating. She also was into a bit of the same music, but also a lot of different stuff than what I listened to at the time (a lot of stuff I wouldn't really even appreciate until long after). She also made me appreciate a lot of other things around me that I'd never really thought to appreciate before. I know it all seems very Manic Pixie Dream Girl-ish, but I'm pretty sure that's just because how it seems to me looking back on it now after romanticizing it.\n\nWe were together for three and a half years, and while I loved her all that time, I think I've looked at that first year, and that version of her, in a very golden perspective. Whenever I listen to certain movies I watched, or music I listened to because of her, it always brings back the rush of memories, and my nostalgic view of the time.", "summary": "I look back at the first year of my relationship with my first girlfriend super nostalgicly. What part of your life do you do that to?"}
{"id": "t3_4quwli", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [42 M] falling deeper in love with [41 F] 8 1/2 years apart, and she is not in my life anymore has anyone experienced this?", "post": "when I first met this woman we were teenagers, i fell madly in love with her, but was always too shy to ask her out.\n\nshe was on my mind, even when i was madly in love with my wife, I would think back to her and wonder what she was doing where she was, was she happy. and I knew no matter how much i loved my wife, for just for the chance to know her again; just know her, that was all, i would leave my wife.\n\njust feeling that way made me feel like a shity person, so i would only let myself think of her every 2-3 years, maybe 4 times while I was with my wife.\n\nTime went on, and i split up with my wife, and when I was just content, not having to get to know someone again, she walked into my life.\n\nI flipped out at how she could be back in my life, after all this time, i had to get her number and find out what she had been doing.\n\nWe started meeting every tuesday at lunch time, it was all i could think of threw the week, my brain went stupid and I couldn't concentrate on my studies, i was 33 mind you, not a teenager anymore.\n\nanyway we ended up dating for a while, and I know from my point of view I made so many mistakes, rather than be myself I was telling myself to do dumb things. just thing contrary to who i normally was and am.\n\nWhile we were together i could not understand what i was feeling, I had never felt anything remotely like it, and could not really believe what i was feeling either. \n\nI believe she is my soulmate because of events in my life, and since the day I left her, she has not truly left my heart, and I fall deeper in love with her.\n\nthere is a lot more to the story, as in some of the reasons why i believe she is my soulmate, and she has moved on to a new guy and is in a great place personally i hear. I just wanted to get some other perspectives.", "summary": "So it's been eight and a half years now, and i miss her more than ever, is anyone going thru a similar experience?"}
{"id": "t3_2xajsw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] am too easy and I don't like it.", "post": "I don't know what it is or why it happens, but if a girl shows me attention for like 2 days in a row then they can just basically have their way with me.\n\nWhen a girl has been talking to me for a couple of days in a row, I feel like they fancy me and we might get in a relationship soon. This is a massive problem for me cause I'm now afraid that when I find someone I won't actually like them, I'll just like the attention they're giving me. \n\nAlso I hate when this happens because I over think stuff WAY too much (e.g. I start thinking 3 or 4 months ahead) and it just messes with my life.\n\nDoes anyone have the same kinda thing? Or maybe some advice or something.\nThanks", "summary": "if a girl shows me a lot of attention then I think they fancy me and we could get together. This messes with my mind and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_r3abq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what are some of your crazy hostel stories?", "post": "This happened in the first night of a 3 day stay in a hostel in Florence. A friend and I stayed in an 8 person room. Our shared bunk was in an isolated corner of the room with an adjacent row of lockers in front. My friend had the top, I was on the bottom. I woke up around 5am to find a Brazilian guy wearing only his tighty-whities sitting at the end of my bed. Freaked out and groggy from sleep I asked him, \"Hello, what are you doing?\". He got up and walked towards me. Starting to get scared, I tried to distant myself from him by moving over in my bed. He thought I was making room for him and he crawled into my bed. He started to cuddle and kiss my neck. I thought about screaming rape and I knew the people in the room would help me and the guy would get into a shitload of trouble. Then I assessed the situation quickly and realised this guy was shitfaced drunk and had no idea what he was doing. I pushed him away and angrily whispered to him to fucking leave. He got irritated, rolled over and passed out. Me being a tiny 5'1\" female trying to kick and shove an average sized guy off my bed was impossible. No matter how hard I slapped and jabbed him, he didn't wake up. The bunk started to rock back and forth from the force of my pushing. My friend on the top bunk woke up and confusedly called my name. I'm pretty sure at this point the whole room was awake and thought we were doing the nasty. About an hour and a half passed and somehow I woke him up. He must have finally sensed my anger and he got up to leave in a bit of a huff. An hour later everyone else in the room checked out early. Later on just as my friend and I were leaving the room to go sight-seeing, I heard him wake up and I caught a glimpse of him embarrassingly peeking over the locker partition. I never saw him again.", "summary": "Hostel in Florence, woke up to find a half naked Brazilian guy trying to cuddle with me. Turns out he was extremely drunk. Lucky for him I was sympathetic and didn't cause a scene to have him arrested."}
{"id": "t3_1vdk4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my bf [25 M/F] of two years, We have opposing views on the idea that his brothers relationship is none of our business.", "post": "His brother is 32 and his girlfriend is 21. She is a negative, mean and ignorant person. She is destroying relationships in the family. My boyfriend doesn't want to see his brother because of this girl. Every time shes around she is nothing but inconsiderate, rude and outright mean to him. Their dad doesn't want to come down and visit him for the same exact reason. His friends do not want to visit him for the same exact reason! This girl is ripping the family apart and taking everything from him. She also cheated on him already as well. They have been together since the middle of July in 2013 and she moved in with him three weeks later.\n\nIt is a shitty situation and I don't want to deal with the bull shit anymore. Family members are upset and insulted by her and no one wants to deal with it. I just want someone to say something and get it over with instead of walking around the issue and no one thinks it is their place to say something even though it is directly affecting them. I know it is not my place to say something to him but its been months now and I am ready to march over to his house and lay it out. He is a grown ass man not a child he can handle this type of conversation.\n\nIs it my boyfriend and their dads business to talk to him and share their concerns about this unhealthy relationship and tell him that they do not approve?", "summary": "Is my boyfriends brothers relationship any of his or their father's business?"}
{"id": "t3_1qlc7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your best advice for my 4yr old nephew being teased at school for being a baby?", "post": "I have a 4 yr old nephew who is his own person.  He's not a fan of playing with most the boys at school cos the play bad guys, and run around with fake guns.  He'd rather hang with the teachers or girls, and play their games.  Needless to say, the biggest boy in class has started picking on him.  The boys birthday is coming up, and he told my nephew he'd get a baby piece of cake, cos he's a baby.  On my sisters advice, he told him that's not nice, and to stop.  My brother-in-law and myself say he should just ignore him.  But now my sis doesn't know rather to have him go to party or not.  My nephew wants to, as long as he gets a big kid slice of cake.  I adore my little nephew and this breaks my heart, fighting urge to fly 2000 miles a kick a 5yr old.  In lieu of that, what's the best advice I can give him?", "summary": "what's your best advice for a 4yr old being teased for being a baby at school?  Should he go to the kids birthday party or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1h2u6j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Well....I just got dumped...I guess", "post": "Im 22 and shes 20. She hits me up online saying she's seen me at the bowling alley and was too shy to approach me. I find it flattering and she's pretty so we go out. We have a really good time. She's flirting a lot and were touching each other.\n\nI open up to her and tell her I've never kissed a girl and I'm a virgin. She finds it adorable and she flirts all night and makes me comfortable and then we kiss....several times. And again when I say goodbye. I was amazing. Never felt that happy before.\n\nI text her the next day saying I had a really good time. She says she did to and she asks me out for a second date. I text her the next few days trying to get the date going, but she appears busy and hard to meet with.\n\nFinally today she tells me she has been dealing with a lot of drama and personal stuff. Saying she doesnt know if she's looking for a relationship. Another guy she was involved with it in her head too.\n\nBasically I got dumped really early on, which I guess is better than later, but I really liked her and she really liked me. She made me develop a crush on her and now it's over and im sitting her alone.\n\nHow do I get out of this funk. She made me feel so good and not a lot of girls give me that feeling.", "summary": "girl asks me out first 2 dates, says she isnt looking for a relationship and now im out in the dust, depressed. Trying to put it behind me."}
{"id": "t3_3qhkti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my wife[28 F] of a year and half, causing family issues, unhappy parents", "post": "First and foremost, I'm really just mentally exhausted. I am a good guy and sensitive. My wife cheated on me. And bad. I am giving her a another chance and she has been spectacular in doing the right thing and working to rebuild trust. Here comes a major problem though... \n\nWhen this all happened I reached out to my family for support and now they are less than thrilled with my decision to work on my relationship. My wife and I are separated, have been for 4 months, however continue to see each other and work towards reconciliation. We do not live together. It appears to me that my parents, and possibly brothers and sisters in law may not be able to forgive. \n\nI sent an email last night telling my family that I was working on things with my wife. The only response that I have received thus far is from my mother who has said that she \"will pray\" that \"God's plan for us will be accepted by all\". Also, she said that she is upset that maybe I \"disclosed a little too much\" when all of this went down and now its all coming back to bite me. \n\nI'm frustrated. I understand her point and I don't expect them all to forgive or forget today, tomorrow, or anytime soon. However, I feel like I am the black sheep. I feel as if I have done something wrong by taking my wife back and for giving another chance. I feel like I did something wrong for leaning on my family when times got tough. Isn't that what family is for??\n\nI have a very close family but today that email validated my long held feelings that I am THE fuck up. I married a woman who they hate. I have made horrible decisions myself in the past. I feel like my family looks down on me and today just strengthens that feeling. \n\nI feel angry almost because I have been victimized by my wife's actions but today I was essentially told that I almost did something wrong for leaning on my family. My mom told me that she hurts for me. That she hates to see her son in pain. I understand that... Do I have a chance of ever saving my relationship with my immediate family and my marriage or do I have to choose between them?", "summary": "Working on marriage with estranged wife/family is not happy... What can I do? What can my wife do to help the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_rxfpi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Manager is docking pay for talking. Legal?", "post": "I just had a work meeting last week at my fast-food job. Everything was going normal, until my boss mentioned a new rule that we'll be trying out. If he catches you talking, or slacking off, you get a tally mark, and for each tally mark at the end of the week, 5 minutes is deducted from your pay. I go to school full-time, so I only work part-time on the weekends. It shouldn't affect me because I'm hardly there, and when I am, I'm a hard-worker. The thing I'm worried about is that my boss is a dick and I feel like he might arbitrarily deduct from people he doesn't care for because it seems like a rule with a lot of grey area and no oversight for how the manager implements it. Is what he's doing even legal? And if it's not, what would be the appropriate course of action to take?", "summary": "For every time an employee is slacking off, manager will deduct 5 mins pay, but manager is a dick, so might deduct for fun. Legality?"}
{"id": "t3_371es5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] having troubles with my feelings for a girl [19 F] Even though I have a girlfriend [18 F]", "post": "So to set up the ground work me and 19F girl have known each other on a name basis for coming up to 2 years now seeming me and her are in the same college course. Now me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months now, everything great, she is fun and great. I'm enjoying the time together.\n\nNow this is where stuff happens, I've had feelings for 19 F for a while now. But never acted on them because she has a boyfriend and they've been dating close to a year now. Then I met my current girlfriend and started stepping away from 19 F, spending more times with my girlfriend. \nThen I noticed 19 F starting to get pokey and playful with me, starting to hug me and slap my butt, I instinctfully slap her butt back, which I feel terrible for because girlfriend. Then 19 F starts tackling me so I pin her which she smiles too. \n\nSo my question is even though I've wanted to do this sorta thing since I met her I think I should stop because relationships, or maybe I should confront her about this.. ideas?", "summary": "Girl I like even though I have a girlfriend, I've known her close to 2 years, she gets grabby with me when start showing girlfriend attention. Sexual tension ensues. Halp!"}
{"id": "t3_2goxv3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (22 f) don't know what to do about long-distance (22 m) any advice is more than welcome", "post": "So I've known this kid for 8 years and he's been one of my best friends throughout all of that time. We've been \"more than friends\" for about 4 of those years all happening while we attended different colleges. We dated, broke up, were \"together,\" dated other people, ceased contact for months and months at a time but we keep coming back to each other. \n\nLast school year we rekindled our romance while still doing long distance. Everything was perfect and we were physically with each other for a bit over the summer which was great as well. And now we're back doing long distance again for the year. Now, this past school year we were great. Talking everyday, always interested in each others lives, excited to talk to one another or Skype or anything. \n\nNow, though, I feel as things have really died down. I brought this up to him and he promised it was simply because of how intense school is and because he's in the middle of applying and interviewing for a million jobs. He goes to a very competitive school and is in a very competitive major so I understand that his life is busy and stressful right now\u2026.but I still feel the way I feel. He understood and apologized for not really being there lately but nothing has changed since we had this talk. \n\nThe real thing is that it's okay if we don't talk all the time or aren't always up each others butts but I want to feel that he WANTS to be. Like I WANT to talk to him and Skype and everything else but I worry that he doesn't WANT to like I do. \n\nSo do I just wait until he is in a better state of mind? Do I have faith in him and our relationship and just accept this for what it is? Do I walk away because I'm not feeling completely fulfilled or am I just being needy?\n\nSorry for the long post everyone but I am truly at a loss as to what to do next and I would love to hear what you all think!", "summary": "Not feeling completely fulfilled - am I just being needy/should I wait it out or walk away?"}
{"id": "t3_26bfcf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Secured card to boost credit?", "post": "I'm contemplating applying for [this card] I'm trying to get my credit back on track after moving overseas (from the U.S.) and neglecting my finances back home for years. I already have a Capital One card that's unsecured and has a $2,500 limit. I'm charging Netflix to it to keep a balance ticking over, then have the bill paid automatically every month from checking.\n\nThis has been in operation for something like nine months. About three months ago, I decided to apply for another card I thought I'd qualify for, hoping to increase my overall limit. I was denied. Got an offer in the mail for another one just recently, applied for it and was rejected. Little do these banks know, I have many years of perfect payment history overseas.\n\nAnyhow, I have a fairly huge emergency fund and no debt. I think putting a $3,000 deposit down and getting this secured card may be a good move in my quest to improve my credit standing. As I understand it, the higher limit would reduce my utilization somewhat, but would also show that banks were willing to lend to me (even though they're actually not). One of the reasons cited for rejections has been a low number of open accounts.\n\nIs this smart? The deposit for this card would be placed in an interest-bearing account, according to the terms. There's a chance \u2013 it's not clear how big a chance \u2013\u00a0that I'd be converted to an unsecured account after a year or so. I hope at that point I'd be able to withdraw my money, although astonishingly the T&C don't address this at all. The only downside I can think of is a situation where I'm not able to convert it to an unsecured card in the future but I want/need the deposit. I'm also not clear on whether converting to unsecured would mean opening a new account and closing the original, which it seems would negatively affect average account age.", "summary": "Is it wise to put down a deposit on a secured card to rebuild credit when I can easily afford to and have no debt?"}
{"id": "t3_35r8jy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] mildly annoyed with our [24M] sex life.", "post": "I want to start off by saying that I'm fairly happy in the relationship. He's wonderfully supportive, we have a lot of common interest, and he's overall a really great guy for me. \n\nBut, recently it seems like our sex life has been more than lackluster. For the past 3-4 months, we've only been having sex about once every 1-2 weeks. I have a higher libido than him, so ideally, I would love to have sex every day. When we began dating about a year ago, we would have sex almost daily. His excuse for the lack of sex recently is because he's too tired and busy with grad school, which I can understand to an extent. \n\nI've brought up the issue with him, and we reached a compromise that I'll just masturbate more and he'll try to make time for a quickie. \n\nHowever, the other night, I accidentally walked in on him watching porn. Normally, I have no issues with porn at all, I even watch it frequently myself. But it hurts my feelings that he would rather jerk off knowing that I'm horny as hell and DTF/blow/anything. I tried to talk to him about it, but he brushed it off saying that he was just adjusting his balls and not masturbating. \n\nHe knows that I don't mind giving without reciprocation. I enjoy making him feel good and I like the intimacy of it. I'm just feeling confused and annoyed about the current situation.", "summary": "Sex-deprived, feeling grumpy about not getting any while boyfriend watches porn."}
{"id": "t3_4hmtly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my 35m boyfriend 3yr. police officer dating bartender", "post": "hi, reddit,\n\nI've come here to ask a few questions... And thank you all in advance for reading.\n\nI'm a police officer, my boyfriend is a bartender. We've been together for about 3 years. We've had a lot of ups and some downs. \nWhen we first met (before I was in LE) we would frequently hang out at bars together. Now, I work night shift and my patrol area is a large group of bars where I basically deal with drunks constantly throughout the night.\n\nMy boyfriend is a bartender in that bar area. Lately he's been going out and drinking (mostly beer I believe) until about 1am give or take in this bar district. He does this while I'm at work over night. He does this about 3-4 times a week. \n\nSometimes it hurts my feelings because I work so hard in that area to do my job... Getting cussed, thrown up on, working car accidents, DWIs ect. It hurts me to think about my boyfriend hanging out and drinking at these bars while I'm working my butt off overnight.  If it was occasionally, I wouldn't mind. But it's several nights a week. \n\nI know my job is dangerous and I picked my career so I should deal with it. I don't feel like I deserve any special treatment but it also hurts when he decides to stay out and drink instead of coming by the house to say goodbye or anything at all before I go to work. I'm not saying be there every single day but... Maybe shoot me a text or something atleast.  \n\nI feel bad for letting it bother me, and I don't want to feel this way. I also don't know who he's with or when he'll eventually go home so that adds to it.. He knows my feelings on the situation but I feel that he does what he wants sometimes and will just brush it off or just apologize for it later.\n\nI don't want to nag him, he's a grown ass man... But at the same time, I'm not sure if I could have a potential future with him considering my career. \n\nIs this normal for guys to do and am I just over reacting?", "summary": "I'm a police officer, boyfriend is bartender and frequently bar hops in my \"beat\" while I'm at work."}
{"id": "t3_12lu6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO's youngest daughter hates me.", "post": "So my boyfriend (35) and I (27) of 7 months have decided to move forward and introduce eachother to our children. I have a son (3) and he has 2 daughters (14 and 8) and a son (10). \n\nHis son, oldest daughter and I have absolutely hit it off but his 8 year old daughter despises the thought of her daddy and I being together. He did tell me that she was very jealous and he has dated since his divorce but not in the last several years.\n\nInitially, she had the tendency to follow us around everywhere and hop inbetween us on the couch when we'd watch tv, very minor things. Then she became gradually more overbearing. She figured out that if she starts crying about me being over there to her father, he will ask me to leave. \n\nThe problem is not her, it is with my SO. He has not addressed the fact that I am here to stay with her and that she cannot throw a fit because someone else is holding his attention. I feel like I'm going to have to be the one to sit down with her and explain that I am not there to replace her but that I am there as an extra person to love her and be there for her. \n\nI have never been with someone with children before so this is very new to me and I'm not sure that I should be the one handling this and if I am, how to handle it appropriately.\n\nAny suggestions are appreciated!", "summary": "Step daughter is wreaking havoc on my relationship, her father is doing nothing to make it better"}
{"id": "t3_riqn5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "SAP-ish Question: What to do after an abortive attempt at asking a girl to lunch?", "post": "I'm not a super SAP-type, but I'm very quiet and don't really try to pick up girls all that often. There's a girl who I'm on an informal friendly acquaintance with. I find her attractive and would like to get to know her and I've decided that whether she's flirting with me (e.g. playfully swatting my long hair when she walks past) or just naturally friendly, it'd be worth the mild embarrassment if I made an advance and got rejected.\n\nSo when I stopped at the cafe to get some joe before an exam and discovered she was working behind the counter, this exchange happened:\n\nHer: Hey, how are you doing?\n\nMe: Hey, how are YOU doing? [smooth, I know]\n\nHer: I'm at work, how do you think?\n\nMe: Well, when do you go on break?\n\nShe tells me and I leave with my purchase with the intention of coming back to ask her to lunch or something. That time rolls around and I show up to find the place absolutely slammed. Not wanting to look like a freak, I sit close to the door and start working on some light homework, occasionally looking up to see when she gets cut to go on lunch. Maybe ten minutes later, I look up and she's gone.\n\nMy question: how can I bring this up next week in class without seeming like a freak? Should I even say anything at all or just save myself the trouble?\n\nI feel like there's a small chance she didn't catch why I was asking when she went on break (maybe she thought it was idle chit-chat) or that she just plain didn't see me when she left. I want to express my interest to get to know her without creeping her out and the situation seems kind of delicate to me. \n\nWhat's the plan, then? (Assuming going to the Winchester is out of the question.)", "summary": "I hinted that I was going to ask a girl out and she seemed to have dodged me. She is either oblivious or not interested and unwilling to just tell me. How do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_27k8a9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Cutting off intimacy of the physical variety.", "post": "So I've hardly been with this girl at all, about a month so far. Since we started dating I was more than deranged about pacing everything right so as to avoid what happened with my last girlfriend (going way too fast and draining the love from the relationship. I talked to her about it early on but stopped just because of how annoying it is for someone to just drag something on and on forever.\n\nSkip forward to yesterday. After weighing my options for some time, I decided there is no point in extending the physicality of our relationship past what you would see with close friends. That means almost no hugging, and kissing is off the table. It isn't necessary in my eyes and I can better demonstrate how I want to be with someone on an emotional and social level, not a lusty one.\n\nA lot of people I've talked to about this are very opposed. I'm led to believe that's because that's exactly what they do in their relationships (as well as everyone else for that matter) and so would feel like I'm prosecuting them for their choices. Society tells us that kind of romance is needed to have a relationship, but if everything is fine so far why is it needed down the line except to resperate a dying relationship? Thoughts?", "summary": "No more physical contact with gf until further notice."}
{"id": "t3_45vthp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Dealing with changing energy and interest from day-to-day and the future", "post": "I'm at 24 still in very much doubt of what to do with life.\n\nWhen I was a teenager, I wanted to work in Film. I lost interest as I saw my abilities as not good enough, and the work for it seems impossible (also fear it isn't right for me in the end). Right now I'm studying at the university doing a masters which is interesting, but doesn't exactly spark a fire in me at all anymore. \n\nSo now I'm once again debating what to do in life, as my interests are very limited after years of depression and beating them down (\"You can't do that\" / \"You're not good enough\" - I'm better now, but it left marks in lack of interest for life and hobbies. Here comes the biggest problem:\n\nOne day, I want to excel in my studies, become a world-changing academic in my field.\n\nAnother day, I want to be a filmmaker, sometimes directing, sometimes designing.\n\nOther days, I want to be a writer, try to scribble down some stuff and tell fantastic tales.\n\nBut they all seem to die out really quick - These sparks of interests, ideas and dreams die through \"Well, that I just did was shit...\" simply from sleeping a night and waking up not wanting anything. Something in me tells me I just need to force myself to continue, but that seems to kill the joy too when doing it.\n\nThe consequences are, apart from a fleeting life from one thing to another, as well as an empty feeling following, also having beginnings/notes of projects here and there. Some I've tried to continue on, just a little, but they die out in the cloud of shit they seem just moments after I put myself into it.\n\nHelp, my life is so.... Lifeless...", "summary": "How can I fill my life and keep my interests/dreams at the same level?"}
{"id": "t3_1nvpfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my [30M] 1 year, Moved 2 months ago and cant stand his cats!", "post": "I've never been a cat person or pets with fur in general (love reptiles), and actually didn't mind the cats so much when I was just visiting they can be cute at times but since I moved in they're driving me crazy!\n\nThey have already scratched up my favorite piece of furniture, they killed my little beta fish, the front yard is full of dead birds new ones everday, their fur is everywhere, they meow constanly, put their butt right next to my face. My brother took my Mali Uromastyx because he used to pretty much roam free in my apartment but now I fear for his life. I know they aren't but I could swear the things are antagonizing me on purpose. He even lets them in the kitchen and on the dining table.\n\nSometimes it meows at the door so loud then when I open it the thing just stares at me like I'm stupid or something. I love my partner and absolutely don't want to break up. He knows I don't like cats in general but says I will leanr to love these ones because they are \"different\" or \"special\".\n\nI don't want to be the kind of girl who tells a man he has to get rid of a pet he loves. These cats completely destoryed his vinyl collection and he just blew it off like \"that's what happens when you have pets\" I just don't get it and I can't handle it!\n\nAnd the cats are only three years old I know they still have at LEAST another ten years in them, my cousin has a twenty year old cat. I've been trying to play with them with a lazer and also made them some crochet cat toys but seriously i'm going insane.", "summary": "Moved in with boyfriend his cats are driving me nuts!"}
{"id": "t3_dw1hg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbour noise complaints: Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "My girlfriend and I live in a rented two bedroom flat in South London. It's in a nice 200 year-old townhouse, and there are flats above and below us. Since we moved in (1 year ago) we have had frequent complaints from the couple living in the flat downstairs. \nTheir complaints are centred around the fact that they can hear our footsteps and the noise of chairs, etc moving across the floor (no complaints about noise from TV, music etc). It's worth mentioning that we have creaky old floor boards in most of the flat, but thick carpeting in the bedroom, yet they've told us the noise is worst in the bedroom. About 6 months ago they had a false ceiling installed to try to reduce the noise in that part of the house.\nLast night, the woman from downstairs - who is 8 months pregnant - came up at 9.30pm to tell us she could hear noise and, and I calmly told her that there unless we learn to hover 6 inches above the ground, there's not a damn thing we can do. I suggested they learned to live with it, as it's part of living in an old building with people above you. I explained that whilst I sympathise, I was fed up of our lives being disturbed by their complaining and always worrying about getting a knock on our door when we drop something! \n\nWhat can we do? Should we be covering the floor with cotton wool and tip-toeing about our whole lives, or do they need to put up or shut up?", "summary": "Neighbours complain about the noise of our footsteps, our problem or theirs?"}
{"id": "t3_4d3e1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] boyfriend let me [23F] win at a arm wrestling contest, my friend [23F] how it's going to hurt my confidence", "post": "I have been seeing this guy Roman for 4 months now, he is really sweet. His nick name is \" The Gentle Hulk\" not a name he wanted but people labelled him as that \n\nHe is a big guy like 6'8 and is really into body building\n\nToday we were out with one of my friends at a coffee place , and I was talking to Roman about what movie we were going to go see tomorrow. I jokingly suggested a arm wrestle contest, he put his arm on the table and said \" square up\"\n\nHis arm dwarfed mine, it was like a stick compared to a log. He let me win and was like \" oh no you beat me\". He got up a little while later to go do something \n\nMy friend started telling me that, if he let's me win at thing's like that it will hurt my confidence. She was telling me it was really rude how he let me win and she should not treat me as \"weak\". \n\nI have never dated a guy before, but is she telling the truth when she says these things?", "summary": "My boyfriend let me win at a arm wrestling contest, and my friend started telling me that if he continues to let me win / treat me as weak it will hurt my confidence."}
{"id": "t3_5202q2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] formed a dependency on someone [20 F] for the first time and am confused.", "post": "Hi, so I've always spent my life alone not because of any insecurity or depression but because I've felt I don't need anyone else in my life. I've never been in a relationship, never had sex, never felt like it's important and have never felt the need to connect with anyone before.. until someone barged into my life unexpectedly. I fell for someone for the first time. & it's mutual, she feels similarly.\n\nBut I'm worried about my own well being, it isn't far off to say I spend my entire day thinking of her and it disturbs me. It's like an obsession. I **don't like** how she has so much power of me and this is made even worse by how self-absorbed she can be and her occasional bipolar tendencies. When we're both in good moods and we're together, it's perfect, but otherwise I fear it's quite unhealthy for the both of us, and I don't want that part to continue.\n\nThing is, I formed a dependency, I'm attached to her, she's destroying my mental fortress and is reserving a lot of space for herself, it's quite taxing, and I don't know how to take this lock out of my chest. I'm not quite sure whether I want to end it or not (both are equally likely possibilities), but I definitely want to *free* myself. What should I do?", "summary": "first time falling in love, gotten too attached and am desperate to reclaim myself"}
{"id": "t3_wkyxg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most memorable life experience?", "post": "Okay I have never told any one about this like ever and  no one suspects I did it. I am writing this on my iPod so there will be mistakes. \n\nAnyway back to the story, back when I was 10 my friend and I would always play by the river behind my house. We would spend our days swimming and splashing about in the water we had so much fun.\n\nOne day my friend and I watched this pirate movie and naturally we made a treasure map. That map led us down the river. So along with our maps and cardboard paper towel rolls we made two pirate ships. Our parents did not like the idea of us doing that because the current got really fast down stream.\n\nWe would work on the project without them knowing. At this point there was no way to make two ships. We could only get away with one. The ship itself was just a little box of wood but it was sturdy.\n\nOne night at a sleepover my friend and I finally decided it was time. We snuck out at around midnight and took our boat and set out. We had a flashlight our map and the boat. \n\nAfter being on the boat for about 10 minutes we saw this man up river. While trying to get a better look we lost control of the little boat and it slammed into some rocks and we had to swim to shore, right next to the man. \n\nHe was dressed in black and was carrying a glock 17 in one hand and a bottle of jack in the other. When we where landing I ended up twisting my ankle. It was broken no doubt about it. The man saw me and aimed the barrel of the gun right between my eyes. He said kid I have to tell you this. \n\nI responded with \"yes?\" in a very scarred manor. He then said \"you have lead a good life but I'm going to need about tree fiddy.\" Then he turned into the lockness monster and scolded us for being out at night and brought my friend back home and had some tea with my mother. Never told anyone about that. I hope you guys enjoyed.", "summary": "Pirates are awesome."}
{"id": "t3_1a5kda", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Time to be petty a the revolving door", "post": "Yesterday I was queue up to walk through the revolving door at an entrance to a downtown mall.  I noticed that the 20-something girl exiting the building as I was entering was fully engrossed texting someone and expected to have me do the \"work\" of pushing the door.\n\nSo she enters at the same time as I do, head down - texting away - walking forward.  I just stood there in my 1/4 of the doorway and sure enough, she smacked her forehead on the door in front of here that apparently wasn't revolving.\n\nShe looks up -- looks over at me and says WTF out loud.  I just smiled and laughed.  She is just standing there so I said, \"push!  it works when you push!\"  She waited to see what I was going to do, which was nothing.  After a few seconds she pushed on the door and it let her out and me into the mall.", "summary": "texting twat expected me to provide my labor to operate a revolving door - I didn't."}
{"id": "t3_3o3vkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] ex girlfriend [23F] is upset with me because I have become friends with one of her friends[24F].", "post": "So my ex and I dated for over 4 years and broke up about 3 months ago, we said we would stay friends. We work at the same place and have contact with a lot of the same people so I feel like it's impossible that our lives will ever be separate unless one of us finds a new place to work. For awhile I was a bit depressed and she came out as a lesbian about a month after the break up and is dating somebody that we both know and are friendly with. Of course I was a little upset about it, but I wasn't about to tell her that since she already has a bit of an issue with depression, and coming out to her parents has already caused a lot of problems so I didn't want her to feel any worse than she already did. So I just sucked it up and have been as supportive as possible to her through out this and I'm still friendly with her current girlfriend. 4 or 5 weeks ago, her friend and I started hanging out, going to bars, just hanging out together with no motive of hooking up or dating or anything, we are just friends. Recently, my ex comes to me and says that I've crossed a boundary by hanging out with one of her friends, not just because we're hanging out but I guess how close we've become in the 4 or 5 weeks. She feels like this is heading towards us hooking up. While I understand that the concern is warranted, I have tried to reassure her that will never happen and I wouldn't do that to her. I am also annoyed by this situation because I feel like the boundary was already crossed 2 months ago when she decided to date somebody that we're both friendly with from work. I wanted to point this out to her but she already isn't in the best state of mind so I didn't want to make her feel bad about that. Can anybody give me a little insight from an outside perspective? I feel like I'm thinking rationally but I'm way too close to this whole thing to know for sure.", "summary": "Ex started dating somebody we both know from work, I became friends with my ex's friend, now she's upset that her friend and I have become kind of close."}
{"id": "t3_36q755", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] fell too hard and too fast for a girl [19f]", "post": "Met a girl through a mutual friend. She was gorgeous and sweet. Actually ridiculously attractive. She just got out of her first relationship 3 week ago. Lasted 8 months. She lost her virginity to him. \nHe has to leave for military camp for 9 weeks with no communication. \n\nRewind just 1 week. We hang out for 4 days in a row. Emotions going wild. Lots of sex (I'm her 2nd guy), dinner, dates, cuddling. She says she likes me a lot and has never had so much fun. I have a lot of money so I'm spoiling her with an airplane tour around the city and dinner at the top of the hotels.\n\nBut every time she's alone with her thoughts, she starts to feel wrong because of her ex.\n\nI have to move now, to a city 9 hours away. I won't be around. The last thing we talked about is that she would date me now, but she can't promise she's over her ex. I tell her let's not date.\n\nI can't stop thinking about her for the past 3 days. We text. Sometimes she says she misses me and wants me and sometimes she says she just needs to figure things out. \n\nLong distance isn't a big deal, I can fly her anywhere every weekend if I had to. I had a lot in common with her and the passion was unlike any I have had, that I can remember.\n\nI just don't know what to do. She's \"figuring\" things out because her ex was her first on everything so he's going to be special. He comes back in 8 weeks.", "summary": "beautiful girl trying to figure herself out after a handful of unforgettable days with her."}
{"id": "t3_1m6m5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[31M] met a girl [23F] on a dating website, and it went south after 3 days and never having met. What happened??", "post": "I met a seemingly cool, attractive girl on a dating website. Turns out she was only in my town visiting and was leaving the following day back home, halfway across the country. We decide to chat on facebook to get to know each other anyway - maybe pen pals/friends to start, or so I thought.\n\nWe're chatting over the first couple days (cute, flirty stuff) when she asks if I've been on another date with someone else - bear in mind, I've known this girl for all of three days. I had actually been on a simple first date but didn't know the right thing to say here. I believe in honesty so I say I had but that it was a casual first date (it was) and nothing special. She immediately says she's not interested in being with \"that guy\" and proceeds to tell me we can't possibly get to know each other if I'm constantly \"on the prowl\" for dates and that she's not \"that type of girl.\" I tried to explain how I actually don't date much to begin with and that it kind of sounds like she expects exclusivity over long distance, without having met, and knowing her for all of three days. But she instantly unfriended me.\n\nDid I do something wrong? Was I an unintentional jerk? I actually pride myself in being a genuine guy, and I did truly want to get to know her. Just interested in some perspective here. Thanks!", "summary": "Met a girl online dating. Knew her a few days, but it's long distance and a facebook relationship only. She gets upset when she finds out I went on a casual first date and instantly unfriends me. What happened??"}
{"id": "t3_14m2fp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I didn't care that much that she was logging into my e-mail without permission.", "post": "I don't have anything to hide. Maybe it's a little embarrassing when I flip out and pathetically try to reconnect with old flames, but I think I'm entitled to that.\n\nBut it's worse now. After I stopped talking to her completely, there wasn't anything left to show me she gave a shit at all. But then there it was - she looked at my e-mail behind my back! She still did care!\n\nI knew I couldn't talk to her - we are both too stubborn for that - so I archived everything and left a lone note to myself. And of course for anyone else who might happened to take a look.\n\nBut it wasn't nice, or sweet, or forgiving. It was nasty. I told her to fuck off and called her mean names. And she hasn't looked back since.\n\nMaybe that was it. The last connection we'll ever have. Just her sneaking a peak at my email without permission. But I have the feeling there is one tightly-would clandestine sinew holding something about us together, ready for one final for-better-or-for-worse snap back.", "summary": "Stopped communicating with my ex-girlfriend, but caught her looking at my email account a few weeks later. I left her a message in my own email telling her to fuck off, and she hasn't logged in since."}
{"id": "t3_3hckp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't think I'm cut out for monogamy anymore. What now?", "post": "I got married young at 19 and left him ten years later at 29, about two months ago.\n\nPart of the reason I left him is I had the uncontrollable desire to be with other people. I valued his friendship but I couldn't reconcile these things and it drove a wedge between us so away I went.\n\nNow that I'm single and I have the freedom to see people without limits, I have a very hard time picturing myself in a new monogamous relationship. I am almost positive if I got a traditional boyfriend right now I'd end up cheating on him. It's just a part of me that I have a hard time controlling.\n\nBut I still have the desire for something steady and reliable. Someone to always be there, be a +1 for things, that sort of thing. But they don't have to see me exclusively.\n\nWhat now? Open relationships? Polyamory? Perpetually single?", "summary": "Single, not sure I'm monogamous, don't know what my options are."}
{"id": "t3_39wd61", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am finding it hard to keep my girlfriend [20F] positive through tough times.", "post": "Been lurking this subreddit for a while and needed help and you guys and girls are so helpful on many others threads thought you could help me.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months now, and she has told me that coming into her life has been the best thing for her. She is diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety and has had tough times at home. We both live at University and spend the majority of the day with one another.\n\nA few weeks ago her parents rang her with good news that her mum was cancer free, however, they later found out that she is no longer free of cancer and is continuing the battle. I myself have never dealt with the harsh reality of cancer and it is scary though I have put on a brave face for her and tried my best to assure her everything will be ok.\n\nShe has gone home at the moment and we will not be together for another 3 weeks. Currently she is pushing me away and being incredibly short to my text messages and telling me just not to worry. But of course I am worrying. \n\nDo I give her space? Do I reassure her? Help, I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "Cancer trouble and I'm an unsure boyfriend of how to help."}
{"id": "t3_3hkvth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with a girl I've been casually seeing [25 F] for a few weeks, she's moving away in a year should I keep it casual between us?", "post": "I'm currently seeing this girl, lets call her Sarah, anyway basically I really like her and I think she pretty into me too. \n\nThe problem is she is moving to the other side of the world for a year or 2 in about ~10 months time. Which is fine, it'll be a great experience and it'll no doubt be non-stop craic. \n\nI'm kinda falling for her at the moment and I beginning to think that I shouldn't. I know from past experiences long distance just doesn't work for me (she's mentioned the same about an ex she had) so if anything serious did happen between us we'd both probably end it anyway. \n\nThe last relationship I was in crushed me for months after when we broke it off and I just don't want to have to go through it again.\n\nBUT and here's where I'm having doubt, the trip isn't quite set in stone (no tickets or visas bought yet) and she has said there's the slightest possibility she might not go. And if we did get together and got serious and she didn't end up going, I wouldn't want it to be over me (bit big headed I know but I worry about every possibility...)", "summary": "girl I like is most likely moving away in less than a year, is there any point chasing a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3gdoup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23m] am in my first relationship with an older Girlfriend [26] and we have different plans\\views for the future.", "post": "Hey there, so what triggered this post is my girlfriend showing me a list of potential baby names yesterday. I felt very uncomfortable because  \n\na) I feel waaaay not ready to think about children  \nb) I don't think I actually ever want to have my own children.\n\nSo this lead to me staying up late feeling very weird and rethinking alot about our relationship. Being in a relationship with an older women is weird in a lot of ways. She already has a job, while I'm still in University and sometimes it feels like she lives 5 years in the future, while I can't let go of my teenager years. I'm not a theist, while she is catholic and themes like Marriage, children and our perception of the world etc. are not exactly on the same page, but we always said \"we can figure that out when it looks like we'll be together for a long time\" in the beginning. But now it actually looks like it, and I don't feel ready at all.\n\nOur parents are starting to pressure and this is really bothering me too. I told her I'm not sure about children, but I think I know now, that I actually do not want them at all. I do not want to talk about the reasons, please just believe me I thought it through.\nI just had to get this out of my system, because it's really hard on me, but I don't know if I should talk to her about it right now.\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "My girlffriend showed me a list of babany names, I don't feel ready to tell her I don't want children."}
{"id": "t3_2928hn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by brushing my teeth.", "post": "Last week I got my wisdom teeth out, however this has caused some problems over the last few days by way of food apparently getting stuck in one socket. This caused great pain and inflammation.\n\nI went back to the dentist today and after cleaning out the socket and packing it full of oil clove (which I have not had a good reaction to), I went on my way.\n\nWell, tonight when I got home I took some pretty strong painkillers and thought I would just go to bed to sleep away the horrible day I had been having. It turns out if you are quite tired/ drugged up you don't pay attention to what you put on your toothbrush.\n\nThis is where the fun begins.\nI commenced my tooth-brushing by way of turning on my electric toothbrush when I noted a down right awful taste (not the oil clove). It was soap, I had put hand soap on my toothbrush. Queue power chucking all over the bench as the soap mixed with the horrid stuff in my tooth socket. This was so powerful I then got a blood nose aaaannnnndddd then I fainted. \nSo there I was, oil clove, soap, blood, vomit and a teeny hint of leftover toothpaste all mixing in my mouth.\n\nI begrudgingly cleaned the bench then sobbed on the floor for about 10 minutes and then went straight to bed where I am now laying while still tasting faint aromas of everything. Today has not been my day.\n\nI think I will buy a new toothbrush.", "summary": "Brushed my teeth with soap, mixed with oil clove from dentist. Pain, vomit, crying, blood and a little bit of lost dignity."}
{"id": "t3_1hlfzv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[30M] have been dating an amazing [30F] for 6 weeks. Everything was going great but then...", "post": "Dear reddit,\n\nI like this girl a lot! She is smart, honest, beautiful. Our relationship was going so well on multiple levels and we both openly discussed possibility to take it one step further. Both of us are 30 and we have very successful careers. For the first time in my life I started feeling like she could be the one. It was wonderful! But then she told me the painful truth...\n\nShe used to date her boss for couple of months and they eventually broke up to avoid harming the company. I think he is the one who didn't want to make their relationship public and that triggered the breakup. Since they broke up, they've been working closely together, they hangout frequently as friends and sometime go on business trips together.\n\nI am generally not a jealous guy, and I feel like I could live comfortably with something like that but it turns out that her affection for him is still there. He is a good looking guy with a great sense of humor and they actually seem to get along pretty well. On the other hand, she obviously likes me a lot and wants to be with me. So what is my problem then?\n\nWhen I told her I feel a little uncomfortable with the fact that their romantic relationship has not completely ended and that I worry that at some point they might hook up again... she did not deny it. She even confirmed that there is a very small chance that might happen in the future.\n\nToday I feel more depressed and miserable than I felt in a very long time (I am generally a happy guy). I am in a complex conflict with my emotions and reason. I know I like her even more because of her openness and honesty but I know this situation will make me very insecure or even jealous in the future and that is something I don't need in my life. I feel like I should break up and at the same time I am afraid that I am letting something really wonderful slip out of my hands.\n\nPlease advise,", "summary": "I met the most amazing girl and our relationship was wonderful. Then she told me there is a very small chance she might hook up with her ex again (who is also her boss)"}
{"id": "t3_16j0p5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "18m and 19f, we've run into a few problems. I need some help", "post": "This is my first serious relationship, and we have hit a bit of a rough patch and I don't know how best to handle it...\n\nMy girlfriend lives 60 miles away. I'm not commuting there to be with her, we met afterwards. We've been going out for 4 months.\n\nHeres a [map] I live by A, go to school by B and she lives around C.\n\nShe hates her job, she was going to quit but her car died (engine failure) so now shes stuck working her shitty job and her cars broke down and we don't know when the next time we'll get to see each other is.\n\nSo for now its pretty much a LDR and I don't know how to handle it... I want to cheer her up, but I've got no clue how and I don't want to screw it up :/", "summary": "Girlfriend hates her job, and is frustrated at life. Were now in a temporary LDR and I don't know how to handle a LDR and I don't really how to cheer her up :/ Any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated :) If you need some more details to help out, just ask"}
{"id": "t3_n1hfh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tree nut allergy", "post": "Do you think I'll be allergic to coconuts too?\n\nI'm allergic to tree nuts. I first had a reaction pecans, then found out I'm allergic to walnuts too so I just stay away from tree nuts, but I haven't eaten a coconut since years before I had my first reaction and don't even know if I've accidentally had it in any food I've eaten since then. I was about to buy some coconut oil to use as a moisturizer when I read the label  & it had a warning on it for tree nuts. I decided not to but it until I asked my someone.", "summary": "I'm allergic to tree nuts. Am I allergic to coconuts too?"}
{"id": "t3_2p6yyo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(M 26)y girlfriend(F) 24 is bi and kissed another girl last night. I'm really upset.", "post": "Last night my girlfriend and her coworkers went out drinking and I  was invited. She went into the restroom to talk to one of the girls she works with and that girl started trying to make out with her. My gf got upset came out and told me.and I said it was fine. The same coworker from before drank herself sick and my gf went to check on her without telling me what was up and was in the bathroom with her for a half hour. I became more and more upset as I realized they were together in the bathroom. My gf came out and explained that her coworker threw up some and then tried to make out with her again. I'm mad that my girlfriend voluntarily entered into a situation where she would be alone with someone who was trying to hook up with her. When I talked to her about it later that night she had a massive crying fit so I had to pretend everything was fine. My girlfriend is bi and has done stuff with other girls. I'm mad what do I do? I went into work just to avoid her for a while today.", "summary": "girlfriend is bi and put herself in a situation where she was alone with another female who wanted to hook up with her. I'm upset."}
{"id": "t3_20lgql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the best way to handle our financial differences in our relationship without causing a problem?", "post": "My boyfriend (29/m) and I (29/f) have been together for a year and we live together. We recently had our first argument about our money differences. I am the type that saves money and feel uncomfortable unless I have a decent cushion in my savings account. I rarely buy fun things for myself. My boyfriend is the type who rather spend his extra money and enjoy it. We both have known we have different spending habits since we've been together.\n\nHe has a lot of hobbies; playing guitar, drums, home brewing beer, motorcycle riding, etc. I don't really have any hobbies that require a lot of money to buy those types of things. We want to learn from each other. I need to be a bit more loose with my money and he would also like to try to save more.\n\nMy saving has allowed me to have a good credit score. So I am able to open accounts (ie a new cell phone account, get a loan for a motorcycle). My boyfriend is not able to do these things because of owing money on old accounts or a bad credit score.\n\nIt caused the first financial argument this weekend when he needed to use my bank account for his insurance to be pulled and his paychecks to be direct deposited into my account, as he doesn't have a bank account. I was worried he might overdraft, because the account is in my name. I wasn't very tactful about mentioning this fact. I was condescending , I said \"You can't be using the account for everything because you might cause overdraft fees.\" He was offended that I implied he would do this. He has been using this account for awhile and  I have actually had to transfer money to avoid him over-drafting twice, but I never actually told him this when it actually happened. I brought it up during our argument last night, which isn't fair. I didn't feel like he understood where I was coming from in bringing it up\n\nWe know that money and finances can be a major component of relationships ending. So my question is, what is the best way that we can handle our differences without causing a problem in our relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I got in an argument about our differences in money management and do not want the way we approach this topic to cause a problem in our relationship. What is your advice?"}
{"id": "t3_137228", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is a good toy to keep a dog happy & quiet?", "post": "As a cat person, I do not know much about dogs. Everyday when my neighbors leave for work, they leave their dog outside with food and water and some rope toy. The issue is that my Dad works from home, and the dog barks and whines for the 8 hours his owners are gone, disrupting my Dad's phone conferences. We've nicely asked our neighbors to handle it twice now, and they haven't, so I need your help Reddit. What toy can I buy and throw over the fence for this poor puppy to make him quite and happy? I considered dog treats, but I don't know if he has any specific dietary needs. Thanks for the help!", "summary": "Neighbors dog barks for 8 hours a day disrupting phone conferences, what toy can I get to make him happy and keep him from barking?"}
{"id": "t3_klh0c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Most effective way at losing weight?", "post": "I'm a 6' 5\", 18 year old guy who weighs (roughly) about 260lbs.\n\nI've given myself far too much leeway with the my situation, merely chalking my predicament up to \"you're a tall guy, you're going to be big\". \n\nNow, I realize it could have repercussions in the near (or far) future with medical ailments and plus, being fit doesn't hurt your chances with women, as well.\n\nSo, I implore you Reddit, what steps should I take to lose it? I've heard claims ranging from you \"need to work-out as much as you can whenever you can!\" to \"It's 20% what you do, 80% what you put in your body\" and it's driving me up a wall trying to find and stick to new and different plans.\n\nSo, there's that.", "summary": "Tall, tubby 18 year old seeks ways to lose pounds of fat."}
{"id": "t3_3aqnpv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25M] of 1.5 years has started nagging me [22F] about my school work. It's starting to really bother me, but I know he means well. How to I tell him kindly to butt out?", "post": "I'm in my last year of school, working on a 12 month graduate certificate program entirely online (no classes to go to or anything).  I finished high school 3rd in my class, and my university degree with high honours.  I'm no stranger to schoolwork, and I know what works for me in terms of studying and getting assignments done.\n\nMy boyfriend wants me to do well, and I think it worries him that I leave things somewhat last minute.  I'm not one to start an assignment 2 weeks before it's due and work on it an hour at a time, I prefer to spend a full day working and get it over with.  I have always worked this way, and it has never negatively impacted my work, so I see no reason to change it.\n\nMy problem is that my boyfriend has started nagging me about getting things done.  If I spend a day doing something other than schoolwork he gets annoyed and asks me to show him what I got done that day for school.  I should mention that I am working about 30 hours/week instead of a full 40 hours.  At my workplace, this works out to 3 days of work and 4 days off including weekends.  My courseload is considered full time, and I do spend 30-40 hours on it depending on the week.  We live together, and I still contribute the same amount financially as I did before cutting my working hours.  I had 4 months of full time work before starting school during which we determined our financial responsibilities in terms of our shared expenses.\n\nI know he means well, but I hate feeling like he's checking up on me and like he thinks I need him watching over me.  I feel like I finished the first 16 years of school on my own, and I don't need his reminders to get things done.", "summary": "Boyfriend nagging me about schoolwork and starting to get on my nerves.  I work 30 hours/week and spend 30-40 hours/week on school.  He doesn't like that I leave assignments to the last minute, but that is what works for me and I don't intend to change it."}
{"id": "t3_l5c1b", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I'm embarking on a journey of fate. Tips? (x-post from AskReddit)", "post": "I am a 23 year old who graduated from college in 2010 with no clue about what I wanted to do with my life and have yet to apply for a single job. After spending the last year burdened by family duties and slipping into a deep depression, I am in desperate need for an adventure. I am tired of sitting at home wallowing in depression and letting my family suck what little energy I have left in me. So I'm bustin outta this joint.\n\nI've decided to start in my hometown in California and attempt to hitchhike/CouchSurf/wwoof my way down to South America. I am not making any definite plans and I am open to going just about anywhere while loosely attempting to head south. I hope to CouchSurf as much as possible, but part of the adventure for me is to have the freedom and flexibility of no plans so that may be difficult since I will not have a schedule.\n\nMy original plan was to fly to somewhere in Central America and start from there, but I just can't afford the flight. Which brings up another issue: I am leaving with only hundreds of dollars to my name. My plan is to try to find a little work along the way to keep me going when I can't find a free ride, food or place to stay. Any tips on how to do something like that is appreciated. I would also really love to do some volunteer work along the way.\n\nI have never done anything like this so any tips are appreciated. And yes, I do know that it is a crazy idea but I will go mad if I spend another year at home in this useless fog. I plan to read as much as I can on the topic before I go and hopefully I will also find useful advice from Reddit!", "summary": "Fed up with my current life, hitchhiking South from California to South America going pretty much wherever fate takes me. Tips? Ideas? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4rlmdd", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Should I call back or wait?", "post": "Hi,\nI said I, but it's actually my roommates' situation and I want to help her.\n\nShe sent a resume online to a company. They called her and they arranged an interview. When she came back from the interview, she told me the boss told her she was very qualified  and professional so they were glad she applied. It wasn't actually an interview, they told her informations about the company and made her fill some papers. It was pretty much confirmed.\n\nBut they then scheduled a kind of trial or test the next week, they sent her documents on the company's specific methods. It included some examples from employees there, and these employees weren't that good. I also have a bit of knowledge in the area and they indeed weren't so good I could spot many mistakes.\n\nShe studied them and did the trial. She remembers doing two mistakes total during the whole test. She was really nervous even though she's among the best (this job doesn't require a degree, but both her parents got a degree in this area and work in it as well). They offered her part time so it was perfect.\n\nWe're now 2 weeks later and she didn't get any news. She doesn't even know if the boss looked at the reviews and video of her trial (he couldn't be there in person so his employees did that)\n\nThe boss had talked about her starting in October, at first she was supposed to do the test then too. But he decided otherwise because he could maybe fit a few hours during the summer for her.\n\nShe thinks the lack of call and E-mail means she didn't get the job, so she is looking for another job. I try to tell her he is probably busy, and I know a lot of people who only got called back after 1 month.\n\nStill, should she call them or wait? Is calling a bad behavior in a boss point of view?", "summary": "she pretty much got the job, is qualified, but they didn't contact her after a trial. Should she call or write them an e-mail?"}
{"id": "t3_1nrn58", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Recently started taking Lunesta and need help with the side effects", "post": "As the title states I recently started talking Lunesta 3mg after years of Ambien 10mg. The sleep is better but the bad thing about it is the bad taste it leaves your in mouth. I know it's a common side effect but I can't find anything that gets rid of the taste. It lasts all day long and makes almost everything I eat taste awful. Is there anybody out there who has the same problem and found a viable solution? The taste is so bad I'm considering just going back to ambien, even though I'll get a much less refreshing sleep.", "summary": "Lunesta leaves terrible taste in mouth all day long. Any tips for relieving this?"}
{"id": "t3_27pb6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M]life long best friend [18F] is dating the biggest loser and it's beginning to rub off on her.", "post": "This year I began my freshman year of college and left my hometown for the first time. My best friend had to stay in town for her senior year of high school. When I left she was dating another one of my friends and things were really good for her. She was normal and I didn't have to worry so much of staying in touch while I was in school.\n\nTowards the last month of school I was beginning to get phone calls from mutual friends saying that she was talking to this absolute loser. He's a rude snotty brat that gets publicly intoxicated and starts fights very often. He steals a lot and was generally disliked by most of our high school. When I finally came home I talked to her about it and asked why she would want to talk to someone like this and she just loves how he showers her with attention. Now none of her friends get to see her because she spends all of her time with this kid. She steals a lot and drinks too excess. She's moving to the opposite side of the country in a few months and we're scared she's going to bring him with her.\n\nMe and her close group of friends don't know what to do. I'm scared that if I see this kid in public I might get into an altercation that would surely ruin my friendship. Should we sit her down and talk to her about? Should we let it ride out? What should I do?", "summary": "Best friend is dating a douche bag. It is starting to affect her and her friendships. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4nhrko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with a old friend[29] can't decide if his attitude are red flags or if I'm reading to much into this", "post": "So I feel like I'm reading to much into this situation and needing outsiders opinion. \n\nYears ago I was friends with a guy well call him dexter. It was while we were still in high school. As the years went by we drifted apart and didn't speak again.\n\nNow he's friend  with my nephew(18m). I have asked my nephew not to bring dexter to my house many times he doesn't listen. My nephew keeps telling me how much dexter wants to be friends again how much he misses talking to me. \n\nYesterday dexter came over to help with my FIL car. Most if the time he wasn't helping at all. I was sitting with my husband until my husband went inside to grab our battery charger. Dexter immediately sit down right beside of me. He tried talking until he saw my husband come back out. Than he jumped up and walked away.\n\nHe also tried to start a water fight with me using my kids water guns. When I did pick up a water gun and shot him, my husband,  and some others he shouted this is just like high school.\n\nThis bothered me because in high school there was a kiss between us after a water fight one night. Nothing happened after that just a one time kiss.\n\nThan he was nice enough to give my FIL a ride out since my husband was still working on the car. When they got back with groceries instead of just handing them to me, he started touching/rubbing my hands. It was weird an creepy. \n\nMy husband is convinced dexter wants me but I don't want to believe that. Dexter has a girlfriend he lives with her. So no way he would be interested? Plus he knows I'm happily married. I don't want no other man and is one of the reason I ask my nephew to not bring him around.", "summary": "Am I crazy for thinking nothing is happening or is my husband right?"}
{"id": "t3_ms3oe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do i get this girls heart?", "post": "Ok so the thing is i haven't had a real girlfriend in about 2 years. Most of this has to do with my interest. I'm attracted girls who are shy (but naughty if possible) and honest. And for appearance i like girls who are into the metal and skater (also emo to some degree) looks.\nHowever where i live there are generally not many girls like that or they have a bf(longlasting relations mostly). Now there is this girl that i really liked when i saw her (we work at the same store). Now since a few weeks she works at the same time/shift as i do and i got to meet her. Now last week i got into a conversation with this girl and i found that her bf broke up with her about 2 weeks back. Now i'm a pretty sensitive guy and i seriously feel something for her but she is not over her ex yet and is still thinking about him (sometimes apparently she still cries and stuff like that). Now i really don't want to screw up my chances with this girl but to be honest i just wanna hold her and be there for her in this difficult time. However since i barely know her i think it would be weird to tell her that and would probably get me rejected. So I ask you Reddit what would you guys do and what do you girls/women think appropriate for me to do/say?", "summary": "I am pretty much in love with a girl but she has recently had a rough breakup. What to do now?"}
{"id": "t3_mtdu9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Major life choice coming up just wanted to make sure that my parents are wrong.", "post": "Ill try and make this short but looking for some feedback essentially i'm looking to stop my soul sucking job move it down to part time and go back to school for an MBA in Finance. \n\nMy father and mother come from a world where you get a entry level  job and work your way up. I don't think this world exists any more they believe that it does that i'm just not patient (I'm not). I got a degree in Political science Pre-law, decided I did not want to be a lawyer and just took an entry level job with Progressive corporation with the Idea that I could work my way up and go part time to grad school and work on my MBA. \n \nSince then 08 the company has cut benefits twice and theyare cutting pay by 6.9 percent this January. I feel I have no real prospects of moving up in the company and that its just a waste of my life to continue on with the expectation of advancement when they really seem to not give a fuck about me. \n\nThe major hang up with my parents is that I paid for my education while I went to my undergrad and that sucked but I got it done and I am debt free minus my house.  My job only make 32k a year right now + any bonuses I make. So my loans to maintain my standard of living would only be 16k a year + tuition. But I would get to see my wife more and would get to enjoy life  and would more then likely have a much better job faster. My parents love me and always give me the advice they think is right for me and its never been \"wrong\".I am starting to suspect that the America they grew up in is very much dead. I really feel at this point  going to school full time to get away from a job I hate and to make my family more money is the right decision I'm 28 years old and it took me 5.5 years going to school(no summer breaks) and working full time to get my last degree. This next one I could be done in 1.5 years if I just go to school full time and work part time.", "summary": "Want to stop working full time and start going to school full time. Parents think this is a bad Idea as i'm debt free from my under grad. they think I can work my way up a ladder that I feel no longer exists. Want to make sure that me and my wife and I  are not wrong in thinking this is the right move for our family."}
{"id": "t3_4oyslj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A little lost in translation ...", "post": "So I [29 m] recently started dating this girl. She is a foreigner in my country but she speaks very good English. Here's the problem, I'm finding it difficult maintaining a normal  conversation with her....I have never dated someone from a different country and am finding it a little difficult having a natural discussion with her....it's hard to explain but I think it's mostly because of our cultural backgrounds and different use of language...also, she is quite quiet and expects me to do most of the talking....she keeps asking why I'm quiet! Any tips/advice on how I could better the conversations? Topics I could bring up? Date ideas that may spark better conversations?", "summary": "dating a girl from a foreign country and need help in how to work my vocabulary skills!"}
{"id": "t3_1auior", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cultural difference: How long does casual dating take to relationship in America?  F22 and M25.", "post": "I'm not American but currently seeing this American guy, so there might be some cultural difference in dating.\n\nWe start seeing each other since early November, since then, we keep seeing each other 3-5 times a week, almost everyday. Almost 5 months like this is pretty intense. We are not seeing other people and I have met his mom.\n\nWe've done everything that a couple can possibly do, and people around us just assume we are boyfriend/girlfriend. The thing is, we ourselves never call each other bf/gf.\n\nDoes it mean we are official already without being really explicit, or we are still in the causal dating stage?\n\nIn my culture, we make things pretty clear and the guy would just ask directly if you want to be his gf after a few dates. But with this American guy, I don't know.\n\nI know I better just ask him. But to avoid conflicts or whatsoever, he will just say yes to everything I ask, like \"are we a couple? are we in a relationship now?'. How should I approach this?", "summary": "seeing each other for 5 months intensively, still confused about our status. How should I start this conversation appropriately?"}
{"id": "t3_1sr8fr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22F] caught my boyfriend[23M] Facebook messaging random softcore porn spam accounts of fake women. How do I approach this?", "post": "Anyway, he has messaged things like \"Snapchat now.\" and \"Your fuckin sexy as fuck!\" to about 10 fake spam accounts like [this] (I was going to describe it but it's too bizarre to explain). He used to do this when he was much younger. He did it a week ago, while I was sleeping, and says that he remembers doing it but can't remember exactely when.\n\nWe've been fighting more recently, but our sex life is still great, I'm attractive and we have heaps of fun in bed. He says that he's done it because a friend started talking about porn and then it sort of kickstarted him watching porn (not worried about that), and then snowballed into him messaging random women for pictures of their vaginas. Obviously, since the accounts aren't real (and he says that he kindof knew that at the time which is kindof weird), he hasn't really gone any further with it, but I'm scared that if they had been real and the girls had replied to him, he would be going with it and then it becomes a grey area of cheating (not okay) and watching porn (okay).\n\nHe says that he was starting to freak out about it, and doesn't understand why he did it because he has a great thing going on with me and that he wants to make it right, etc. He's cried and begged for forgiveness while I sortof just sat there confused and upset as to what the hell I was witnessing. It's full on.\n\nAnyway, please help me to deal with this because I'm a bit stunned. Thank you.", "summary": "Boyfriend messaged fake spam accounts of women for pictures of their vaginas."}
{"id": "t3_1dp3py", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One of my (27f) best friends (27f) is hiding her friendship with my abusive ex (35m).", "post": "I had a bad breakup ~6 months ago with my ex, let's call him Bill, who was emotionally abusive and ended up cheating on me with one of my friends and getting her pregnant. After the breakup, he expected that I'd eventually come crawling back. It took a lot of work not to, but I cut the cord and haven't spoken to him in 5 months now, even when he was sending me death threats. Asshole. One of my best girlfriends, let's call her Alice, knows all about this and was there for me through it all. She would do what all good girlfriends do: take me out for lunch, coffee, come over, cry with me, etc. \n\nAbout three months ago, Alice went through a breakup of her own, and I was there for her every day. \n\nYesterday, I thought it OK to finally unblock my ex Bill on Facebook. Morbid curiosity, maybe? Most of his Facebook posts are private, but he has several photos that are public. Recent photos, some photos that were even taken at the same time that Alice and I were together hanging out. Anyway, it turns out that Alice is still friends with Bill on Facebook (not a big deal), and she has been commenting and liking all of this posts (big deal--wtf?).\n\nI'm 100% certain Alice isn't interested in Bill sexually, as she is dating someone new now and completely head over heels. Her new man is all she can talk about. So her actions with my ex on Facebook really don't compute. \n\nI realize that it's a touch childish to worry about things over Facebook, but this definitely rubs me the wrong way. I can't really think of a good way to confront her about it either, because I'm afraid she'll immediately go on the defensive. As it stands now, I'm just going to put her at arm's length. This really, really sucks.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "My best girlfriend is still friends with my horrible ex and actively communicating with him on Facebook publicly...as if nothing were wrong."}
{"id": "t3_zikvi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[18m] needing dating advice", "post": "I am [18m] in college. I have been out and partying a lot recently, and have met some nice freshman girls on my travels. One girl [18F] stands out above all of the rest. We have hung out a few times over a 2 week period, and each time makes me want her more. When I asked her about dating, she mentioned she isn't over her \"summer fling\" [20/M] from her hometown. I enjoy time with her over everyone else, but I still want to get out and \"explore\". Essentially, my question is Would I look like an ass for hooking up with other girls while liking her? Could she be testing me to see whether I stick around? What should I do?", "summary": "Nice [18F] has an \"fling\" that is keeping her from getting serious. Should I stick around?"}
{"id": "t3_2qll1l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting turned on in a hotel room [NSFW]", "post": "Well I'm writing this from my phone bc I refuse to go back on my laptop out of embarrassment. Backstory: I'm on a trip with my parents and dog and to my disapproval, I have to share a room with them. Two beds, in an exceptionally small room but hey, there's a kitchen. In all fairness though, a room just for me or even for my dog too would be a lot of money, but I digress. This literally happened about 15 mins ago, when I was just browsing the front page. Now, I wanted to keep it clean bc I don't need to be a horned up 18 year old in the same room as his parents. But, gonewild got the better of me. After a few posts, shit, I started to feel some type of way so I decided to check out that site Reddit is advertising, Thumbzilla (not bad). I found a video and as things started to get heated in it, my hand slipped under the sheets and there was rubbin' galore. This went on for about 5-7 mins before I looked past my laptop screen and saw the glint of my mom's eyes staring me dead. In. The. Face. Instantly, I froze, pretended nothing happened, closed the laptop, and rolled over in the bed. Might as well have been my grave. She hasn't said anything to me and I doubt she will but I don't think she can unsee what she done seen.", "summary": "Got horny in a room with my parents, started to stroke the monkey, got caught by mom, awkward as hell."}
{"id": "t3_2q2rdv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my dude [29M] - he has abysmal self-esteem", "post": "I'm dating an amazing guy and I can see this relationship being long-term for sure. We love spending time together and crack each other up, we balance each other, the sex is bomb, etc.\n\nI am at a point in my life where I am extremely happy - with my body image, my job, my friends, just my life in general. He is not. He has a great job and is VERY successful financially, but doesn't like this city and struggles with feeling lonely. He's lived here for two years and hasn't tried much to branch out and meet people or explore the city. \n\nHe had his heart broken several years ago and I kind of think he's been moving around, switching jobs, running away from how hurt he was. He definitely hides behind how funny he is and I don't think he lets people see that there is more to him than that.\n\nWe had a heart to heart last night about all this and he seemed really touched that I cared and said no one had ever asked him these things before.\n\nSo, my question is, is it risky to date someone who isn't happy with himself as a person yet? Is it possible for him to \"catch up\" or am I setting myself up to be a crutch?", "summary": "I'm happy in my life, dating someone who isn't quite there. Is this okay or am I just going to be a crutch?"}
{"id": "t3_2r37sg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m41) am dreading my two year relationship with my SO (f38) is coming to an end. Seeking support and ideas.", "post": "I have been with my SO for a little over two years.  I have two sons, currently 16 and 13, and she has two daughters, currently 8 and 6, which are from previous marriages.  Our relationship started great.  Lately, some truths are starting to come out about how she feels when my sons are with me.  My oldest one, in fact, is living with us in her house.  \n\nOur time together as in dating has decreased greatly, and it appears to be occupied more with time with her and her daughters.  Now, during winter break, she mentions to me that while both of my sons are with me, I completely ignore her and her daughters, and that it \"isn't fair\" to them.  Note:  this is being told to me even though I shelled out about $3500 on a condo last summer so all six of us could go on vacation to the place where she got married, and still goes to every year with her parents.  \n\nI'm looking for a little support, advice, help, or whatever my fellow redditors have to offer.  I love her still.  I don't think she wants to let me go, but I don't think she's willing to adjust to make changes for us to continue.  There are a lot more details that I left out of this story to keep it short.  So, feel free to ask.", "summary": "Don't want it to end, but is it the best choice to let it end?"}
{"id": "t3_3tq9gg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] abused and ill-treated my girlfriend [28F] of one year on her birthday and I can't seem to forgive myself.", "post": "So here goes.\nIt was my girlfriend's birthday. I gave her a surprise visit at her house at 12 AM. Bought her a cake and a dress. The same night, took her to an exclusive restaurant for a nice romantic dinner. We both drank a lot, had an intimate romantic time. As we got done with dinner and were leaving the restaurant, we had an argument and I just lost it. I was driving, dropping her back home, and I shouted at her, calling her abuses, pushed her couple of times against the car door. She has some bruises from it. And then I threw her out of the car in the middle of road at 1 AM in the night. Although, just 3 minutes back I picked her back up.\n\nI just cant seem to live with this memory. Just cant seem to forgive myself. It kills me knowing how I was at my worst with a person who I love the most. I don't want to blame the alcohol. My behavior was totally uncalled for. What do I do reddit? How do I manage life knowing that I treated her like this?", "summary": "Called my girlfriend abuses, physically assaulted her, threw her out of the car (although picked her up in 3 minutes). Cant seem to forgive myself. Help me."}
{"id": "t3_3f4wn1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [26F] with my Fianc\u00e9 [25 M] 7 years, What should I get him for finishing the bar?", "post": "OKAY SO! My fianc\u00e9 and I have known each other since 2008. I met him the second month of my sophomore year in college, the second month of his freshmen year, we both settled at a small liberal arts college up in Pennsylvania. Through mutual friends from our neighboring hometowns (we lived five minutes from each other, knew one anothers friends, i was roommates freshmen year with the chick he went head to head w/ during some student president election thingy)... but... we never knew each other)... we met through magical circumstances; I was pledging a stupid sorority, and he was just getting in the swing of things...navigating his new environment and acclamating...\n\nOUR RELATIONSHIP (plus 7 years of bickering and kissing and fighting and lots of loving and communication...)\n\n+Studying/Traveling Abroad: Vienna, Paris, Rome/Ven\nice, London, Prague, Amsterdam, Brussels... \n+Graduate College (2012) \n+Got into Graduate School \n+ Law School \n+MY *FIRST* adult JOB \n+GRADUATE, LMSW \n+ENGAGEMENT!!! (4.4.15 it was so personal and meaningful and meticulously executed..I am BLESSED.\n+GRADUATE from Law school\n+ BAR EXAM!!\n\nOur families are close. My family got him this classy michael kors messenger brief case....\n\nHe is my best friend, my life partner, my lover, my big one. I am open to all suggestions!", "summary": "What to get for my fianc\u00e9 who just finished taking his bar exam? 6 hours day 1, 6 hours day 2, 3 hours today! merci bien"}
{"id": "t3_3kmfbl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my girlfriend for a ride on a Seadoo", "post": "So today, my girlfriend and I went up to a buddies cottage. We had been having issues with the seadoo stalling out after running for a few minutes, so we decided to jump it with the truck, and drive it back out to the lake to test. We got it in the water and I fired it up and took it for a spin. It ran perfectly, we thought all was well. I came back to the dock and offered my girlfriend a ride on the back (its a 3 seater), which initially she declined, but eventually accepted the ride. Here's where the fuckup is. She didn't tell me she terrified of Seadoos, falling off them, and especially open water. She hops on and is holding on to me very tightly, which I noticed but didn't think much of at first. I start off slowly, and then start reving up to a good speed,all the time she is clutching tightly. Here comes part two of the fuckup... as im ripping around on the Seadoo, I'm getting further out onto the lake... At this point I'm about 1km away from shore, and suddenly the Seadoo stalls and dies. After a few minutes of trying to start it up with no success, I realized with no other boats in sight, I was going to have to swim the Seadoo back to shore with my Girlfriend on it. And here's part three of the fuckup. I'm absolutely terrified of swiming in lakes, as well as being stranded out in open water. So here I am, slightly stuck between a rock and a hard place. Both of us are wearing PFDs so drowing isn't an issue. I ended up jumping off the Seadoo and swiming, dragging it and my slightly panicky girlfriend 1km back to shore, the whole time I'm having a mild panic attack because I'm terrified of swimming in lakes. Long story short, we made it back to shore after two buddies hopped into the water and swam out to help us get back after going 1/2 a km back to shore. She didn't tell me she was terrified of Seadoos or open water until a little while ago.", "summary": "Drove a Seadoo out into open water with my GF who is terrified of Seadoos, stalled in the middle of the lake, and then I had to swim the Seadoo back to shore while I'm terrified of swimming in lakes."}
{"id": "t3_w40cz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Higgs - boson? I think enough of Reddit dogs on Big Bang Theory so I may be the only one who caught this...Who am I kidding? There's no way.", "post": "So I was watching Big Bang Theory (I feel like Im gonna catch hell for admitting that, but fuck it, at least its not a reality show) when I saw and heard something that I thought was cool. Its in episode 95 when Sheldon makes all of his decisions by rolling dice. Anyway, the Bang Gang is sitting around eating pizza when I notice that Sheldon is wearing a black Reddit tshirt. As soon as I noticed this Sheldon makes a comment about how he is close to figuring out why the Large Hadron Collider has not found the Higgs Boson particle yet...but wait? Was this syndicated rerun aired today on purpose, because of the awesome announcement that CERN made yesterday? Or just a coincidence? Also, I looked up the original air date and it was 2 months before the actual discovery happened in Dec. of 2011. I thought it was cool. Anybody else have the guts to admit they watch Big Bang Theory and caught that too?Tried as I may I could not find a screenshot/know how to get one of that particular scene. Also, it occurred to me that because Sheldon was wearing that shirt it must mean that someone connected to that show must be a redditor and has no doubt redd some of the posts that have ripped that show a new asshole. Should we give them a break? Anyway, main point is I know Im not the only one who caught that, am I? Is this a repost?", "summary": "Reddit shirt, Higgs Boson reference the day after the announcement."}
{"id": "t3_4r8rtm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (32F) husband (35M) likes to put me down", "post": "I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for 8 of those years and he have 4 children together.  We've had lots of rough times over the years over a bunch of things but more so over him trying to hook up with women behind my back (6 incidence that I know of). Over the years my self esteem took a nose dive until last year when he left me. He was gone for 5 months and during that time I found myself. I'm not gorgeous and a bit over weight (5 feet, 140lbs) but I know I'm not hideous and can hold my own.  Fast forward to last week,  my husband looked at me and said \"you wouldn't be able to find anyone else if we weren't together\", I couldn't believe it!  I stood my ground and said \"oh yes, I could!!\" He then accused me of trying to find someone else behind his back, which I didn't! I just know I can!  He then looked like he had tears in his eyes and shut me out completely, he hasn't talked to me since then.  What's his problem?! He's acts as if I NEED him!", "summary": "Husband: \"you wouldn't be able to find anyone else if we weren't together\" .. I think I can.  Why would he say that?"}
{"id": "t3_25citm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] Problems with mom [50 F] and School. Everything is going downhill and don't know what to do.", "post": "Hey r/relationships, I've been lurking this subreddit for a while now and I just had to take this off my chest and just ask some questions.\nThis past 2 semester in school I've been doing terrible, it's my third year in college and before this I've been doing really well with a 3.7 gpa. \n\nI guess it all started once my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me because she was moving to another state. This broke my heart and I had lost all interest in everything. I stopped going to my classes and ended up failing all 4 of them... which ended up in me losing my financialaid and lost the whole next semester due to my uni rules. All I had was my part time job to worry about.\n\nNow this new semester my mom gave me money to get into the uni again but warned me that if I failed again I was out of the house and had to pay her back. She made me quit my job so that I would just focus on school. This just made me get way too stressed and now... I'm doing terrible, I had to drop a class already and will probably fail another class. I feel so useless. I can't even take a damn test without me freaking out and forgetting a lot of stuff. I've been studying a lot but I don't know what's going on with me lately. I used to be a good student but everything it's just been crappy.\n\nI've been thinking a lot about it lately, I'm talking with my mom tomorrow and I know she'll freak out. I'll start looking for another job or apply at the same place that I was before. I am just scared about my future, I feel like a loser.\n\nI need some advice reddit, I don't know what to do :(", "summary": "Been doing shitty in school, mom will probably will kick me out once I tell her I'm still doing terrible and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_l2sp9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help, only time I get for myself.", "post": "Hey guys, I would really appreciate if someone could help me. I spend a lot of time on my computer, mainly because of online courses and Reddit. I've recently started watching shows, like Dexter, and they get extremely addictive. I NEED MORE. However, my Dad decided to make it so my internet shuts off at 1 a.m. which only leaves me with 2 hours of free time everyday. (I am also assigned a bunch of tasks to do around the house since I'm not working, that literally take about 4 hours to finish) and NOBODY should be forced to choose between Dexter OR Reddit. It's just not humane... So I ask of you, how can I figure out the username of my Netgear Router (I know the password, just need the username) so I can disable that setting. Also, I know I can reset the router back to its default state and log in there, but then my Dad would notice that its been changed. I need to be sneaky, any help would be appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "Need the Username for my Netgear Router without restoring to default settings."}
{"id": "t3_2o7ery", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my EX Girlfriend [18 F] 3 Months, Just found out she was cheating on me with her ex", "post": "Let's start by saying I'm not a good looking guy. But this girl was a solid 9/10. We had so much in common and we got along so well. This was really the only girl I've dated that I have wanted to have an actual relationship with and be with for a long period of time. About a month ago, we just kind of stopped talking and it fell off. We would still talk a little bit, but it wasn't the same.\n\n    Earlier today, I was talking with her best friend (we've been friends for a while too) and was told that essentially the entire time we were together, she was hooking up/having sex with her ex. I have a hatred for this guy, he poured sugar in my best friend's gas tank and has threatened to shoot me on multiple occasions. He is the epitome of white trash.\n    \n    I can't confront her about this without screwing my/her friend over, but I really want to just beat the absolute shit out of this kid. Scrawny little fuck would not stand 10 seconds with me without getting knocked out. I know I should be mad at her because she is the one who did wrong, but I would never in my life touch a girl, so this piece of shit is the next best thing. \n    \n    Sorry for the rant I just really had to get it off my chest. Would've used the rant subreddit but I wanted people who might understand to hear.", "summary": "Grimy, hoe-rat of an ex girlfriend cheated on me with her grimy, white trash ex throughout our whole relationship and now I want to beat the living shit out of him."}
{"id": "t3_xt333", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need help telling a girl that I like her", "post": "Alright, so let me start off by saying that I'm completely socially awkward. I barely had friends through most of high school and I didn't date til senior year. Now after a year of college, I'm only slightly less awkward and only have a slightly larger circle of friends. Part of this social awkwardness is that I have no idea how to tell girls that I like them. Now, I've known this girl for a few months now and, in that time, I've gotten to know her pretty well. The catch is that one of the things I know about her is that she doesn't really like the thought of dating right now. She had a bad relationship with a really over-possessive douche and now she's completely turned off of dating. So I'd like some advice on how I can tell this girl that I like her that won't drive her off because if nothing else, she is a pretty good friend.", "summary": "I have no idea how to tell an awesome girl that I like her and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2xvkz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "17 [m] and 17 [f] That one cutie you see on everytime on the bus ride home", "post": "I have seen her everytime i am there at that station. We get on the same bus everytime as well.\n\nLast week we had this spark. As we got on the bus, i catch her looking at me. A couple bus stops before she got off; she looks down at the floor, then looking from the floor (she's checking me out) to the point we make eye contact.\n\nWe lock our eyes for a good 1.5 seconds; and she QUICKLY looks away and blushes. She keeps looking down and lets her hair fall to the side. I literally can see her looking already at me with the corners of her eyes.\n\nShe then gets off.\n\nshe gets off the bus, and i feel like ive missed the opportunity.\n\nI mean I'm not an ugly dude, i do dress well.\n\ni really do not know if she is interested in me. \n\nWas the 'locked eye glance' a giveaway? Or was it just something else?\n\nwould it have been creepy if i approached her in a very crowded bus?\n\nGuys give me some advice.", "summary": "(my bus ride crush; i dont know if she's really interested)"}
{"id": "t3_wn96u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF got hit on by a guy who said to her \"Okay so it's just temporary since you guys are just BF/GF.  Well then I'm REALLY glad to have met you!\"  Am I right in feeling insulted and that he's an ass for saying that?", "post": "So GF (23f) and I (26m) was at a retirement party for her family friend that she had known since childhood.  \n\nMy GF has known that lady's son (seems like a cool dude btw) since childhood and they usually banter back and forth with sarcastic humor, so apparently a joke was started that my GF and I were engaged.  Anyway, she was introduced to one of his friends who then asked her if I was really her fiance and she replied no and then he said something to the effect of: \"Oh okay so it's just a temporary then since you guys are just BF/GF.  Well then I'm REALLY glad to have met you!\"  She told me she didn't respond to that and just basically gave him a dirty look.  \n\nAfter a couple of days of thinking I feel insulted and he seems like an ass for saying that.  It's almost as if he was trying to sabotage our relationship. When we were in the car heading back that day my GF asked if I wanted to know when she got hit on by other guys(I wasn't with her when she met this guy) and that's when she told me of this incident.  And at the time I just passed it off as just some guy trying to hit on her but now I'm actually a bit mad and insulted.  So am I overthinking this?  Note: this guy seems like really good friends with my GF's childhood friend and so there is chance my GF and/or I may see/hangout with him in the near future again. Ugh.\n\nBackground on us: We've been together for about 6mo and everything has been going smoothly.  I know that's not a long time and neither of us has used the \"L\" word yet and I don't know what the future holds for us, obviously I don't plan to breakup.  At the time I told her that I was looking to develop a good, LTR and see where the future takes us and she agreed and that was that.", "summary": "GF got hit on by guy who said he was glad to have met her since we're just BF/GF so we're just temporary and not engaged.  GF and/or I may see this guy again since he's good friends with GF's long-term childhood friend.  Should I feel insulted and that he's an ass for what seems like a sabotage attempt or maybe it's just his way of hitting on women?"}
{"id": "t3_1fby7x", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Fight over the Wings game. Maybe I should date a Blackhawk fan?", "post": "(24f) It's a Wednesday night and my live in boyfriend(29) of 2 years has no money, and works @ 6 am the next morning. We go back and fourth arguing about who should go. He finally says that I should go. I've worked the last 13 consecutive days, and Have a day off tomorrow. I jump at the opportunity.\n\nOne important factor that I have yet to mention is my beautiful 3 yr old son, who's fast asleep in the house. The live in boyfriend is not the father. \n\nAs I'm getting changed, he begins to get upset. My girlfriends are already at my house harassing me to hurry up. He acts very childish. This only makes me want to leave the house more. Why should he get his way if he's being a child about it? He then goes to stay that he's burdened with my son and I, and before he met us he had more privileges. I ignore this response and leave. \n\n1 hour .\nHe calls all my friends at the table. When they refuse to answer, he calls the bar. I'm so embarrassed... I finally check my phone that I've been reluctant to look at and there's mean texts and a threat to leave the house with my son at home. \n\nWhen I arrive there was no conversation. He knows that I'm not into confrontation until the following day. It's important to react rationally, not emotionally. \n\nA part of me knows I went to the game despite him. At that moment, I felt entitled. It's just a Wednesday! I spent every day taking care of my son and the man child.\n\n I never really ask him for favors like watching my son. Maybe this is why...\n\nI'm wondering about letting him go already. If there's a foundation that lacks understanding, I'm not sure if I want to be a part of it.", "summary": "Fight over who gets to go see the wings play transpires to evil texts and ends with bf leaving house, maybe for good."}
{"id": "t3_2p5w4a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By accidentally mixing my phone up with my mom and revealing that I like My Little Pony a little bit too much...", "post": "Me and my mom are both on the same phone plan, so we tend to get the same upgrades at the same time.  Recently we both got new phones, but they were out of white so we both got black.\n\nThis morning when everyone was heading to work and doing the usual morning rush, she somehow grabbed my phone instead of hers. Usually I'm pretty careful about leaving it around, but I've never bothered with a password it at home since it's obnoxious to type ti in every time. \n\nUnfortunately, my gallery has a lot of MLP \"clop\"/rule 34 in it. Like a couple gigabytes. And to go along with that, she's a bit nosey.  When she found out she had my phone, she decided to take the dive into my everything.  \n\nShe already told my Dad, and they are worried im some crazy bestiality freak or something, but really I'm only into the cartoon ones. She deleted it all when she saw it (luckily I back it up on the computer :P) but the home life has suddenly become really awkward.", "summary": "mom found pony porn on my phone."}
{"id": "t3_4eaqup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) was recently softly dumped by my first real healthy relationship with a great girl (24F). What's your advice for a great non-sexual rebound?", "post": "Was softly dumped by my first real healthy relationship this past weekend. She had good reasons, even if it took a few days for it to sink in. She lost the spark for me and while she sees me as someone she deeply cares about, it's just not in a romantic way anymore. Things were getting worse and I was in denial but after being confronted by the truth it seems like the best call was to split up.\n\nANYWAY! I'm not looking to go out and get laid immediately, but I'd like to seize upon this moment to really kick ass in other aspects of my life. Any tips or inspirational stories?", "summary": "best way to proceed after a breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_2acg0n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by encouraging my partner to talk dirty.", "post": "So this actually happened a little while ago, but it's one of my favourite stories.\n\nEarlier in the day, I (male) tell my partner (female) this theory about male recovery time after sex, and how it's shortened if another girl comes in - as if the brain is saying \"Oop, better spread your seed!\". I bring it up like this:\n\n\"I read this interesting theory about male recovery time after sex. Like, you know it usually takes around 10-15 minutes for me to get hard again after I come? Apparently that is totally negated if another sexual partner gets involved.\"\n\n\"Really? Huh. That's interesting.\"\n\nSo, a few hours later, we're going at it, as you do, and she starts very obviously wanting to say something. I encourage her. This exchange happens:\n\n-----\n\nHer: \"Well...\"\n\nMe: \"Go on...\"\n\nHer: \"Remember what you said earlier?\"\n\nMe: \"Yeah?\"\n\nHer: \"That idea really turns me on.\"\n\nMe: \"... *really.*\"\n\nHer: \"Yeah. That's hot. That's really hot.\"\n\nMe: \"Do go on.\"\n\nHer: \"I'd love to make you come and then for the door to open...\"\n\nMe: \"Yeah...\"\n\nHer: \"And for this other guy to come in. And he'd just fuck me, hard, until you're ready to go again.\"\n\nMe: \"Uh...\"\n\nHer: \"Fuck, that's so sexy.\"\n\nMe: \"I think you might have misunderstood the nature of the study.\"\n\n----\n\nThen I laughed. A lot. She got really embarrassed, so I had to explain how we'd sort of missed each other somewhere along the line.", "summary": "I thought my partner was going to talk dirty to me about getting another girl involved in the bedroom. Instead I had to watch her getting off on the thought of being rammed by another guy."}
{"id": "t3_37qo1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] to break up with my long distance girlfriend [20 F] of almost a year often while we are apart, but once I see her in person I completely change my mind every time. What should I do?", "post": "To be honest, I can't completely vocalize why I feel the need to break up with her when we're apart. Some of it has to do with I don't like the long distance thing in general (although we see each other 1-2 times a month), I also don't really like her lack of communication (which we've talked about, but she still hasn't communicated more), and I seem to be more critical of what she does when we're away.\n\nHowever, once we are together, it's a whole different ball game. I'm simply infatuated with her and we do almost everything together.\n\nWhen she leaves, I do get a bit depressed and then after a week, it's back to silently scrutinizing things she's doing and wanting to just end the relationship.\n\nWhat's wrong with me? And what should I do?", "summary": "Think I want to break up with long distance girlfriend between visits. Once we're together, it's the furthest thing from my mind."}
{"id": "t3_3g39k0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New relationship, feeling insecure", "post": "Hi guys,\nI'm turning to you because I need some perspective on my problem.\n\nSo, I (F28) started seeing this guy (35M) a few months ago. We've actually been friends for a bit over a year, but only started dating 4-5 months ago.\n\nWe always got along great and always felt there was a spark betweeen us. I always felt great being with him but since we are dating something feels off. The thing is, he never talks about his feelings... Barely gives me any compliments, never tells me stuff like \"i miss you\" or \"can't wait to see you\". While i'm very expressive and would compliment him and try to flirt with him all the time. The times I tried to do that, he wouldn't say anything back... So it makes me feel unwanted and insecure.\n\nI talked to him about it and he says that's just the way he is. That he doesn't talk much but it doesn't mean he doesn't care about me. That he actually really likes me and i'm a priority for him. But that it's going to take a lot of time before we are \"official\" and also express himself because he likes to take his time and has a hard time getting people into his life. The way he demonstrates his affection is by spending time with me, being nice and being physically affectionate...\n\nI felt somewhat relieved after he said that but after a few weeks the same feeling comes back... I feel needy and insecure and want to hear things from him. The thing is, i am usually not an insecure person in life! But that's how i feel around him!\n\nI guess what I'd like to know is if anybody has had an experience like mine and did time make things better? Or are we simply not compatible ? I really like him but I don't know if this situation is healthy for me. I've never been in this position before.\n\nThanks !", "summary": "I'm in a new relationship that makes me feel insecure because my partner doesn't express himself."}
{"id": "t3_2dhp5i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shaving my balls.", "post": "Yesterday morning I was multitasking,\n\nI put milk on the stove and then went \nto the bathroom to shave, which in itself is not a good idea.\n\nWhile sitting on the toilet I was listening to my iPod classic and began\nto put on a landing strip. Approching take off I cut myself and propelled my iPod into the bowl, panicking I get up knocking my head against the mirror door.\n\nSo by this time I'm lying on the floor bleeding at multiple spots and confused as hell. After realizing what has happend I plan on getting my iPod and turning it off. Easier said than done, grabbing it out of the bowl I notice that I got no idea how to accomplish this trivial seeming task.\n\nSprinting to my laptop and getting blood everywhere I hold play on my ipod. Nothing happens. I figure out that I have to hold play and center, wait for it to boot up fully(which is an eternity for Apple products) and then turn it off. After 2 minutes or so I finally succeed. \n\nRemember the milk from the beginning? Well me neither. But my alarm did and comes screaming at me while I'm disinfecting nearly giving me a heart attack.\n\nYou'll probably like to know if the iPod is working.\nIt does, but it displays a firewire not plugged in message from time to time (which makes sense I guess, since firewire isn't plugged in)", "summary": "Shaved balls while listening to music, cut myself, propelled iPod into the toilet, injured my head and burned my milk."}
{"id": "t3_1z5qd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [21/M], together 3 yeard, says I'm not nice to look at, calls me names...", "post": "My boyfriend had pet names for me.... slut, cunt, bitch. He was a virgin when we started dating. I was not. I didn't sleep around but I did sleep with my long term boyfriends, because of this I am a slut. I am overweight and I have been trying to lose weight. Granted it took me a while to get into the mindset,  I have already lost over 40 pounds but thats still mot good enough. He sits on 4chan and reddit all day and looks at naked women. He always says he has to look because I am not pretty since I am fat. I love him more than anything, I just dont understand why he treats me like this. Should I continue to lose weight and hope he changes? Is this behavior normal???", "summary": "bf is a jerk, should I conform to what he wants or give up on the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1m5eap", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord using \"Lease Abandonment Fee\" to refuse to mitigate broken lease damages", "post": "The following takes place in the state of Ohio, I'll try to keep it brief but it's a little complicated, thanks in advance for any advice:\n\nMy wife and I found a rental house that was perfect for us to move into in mid September. Our apartment's lease does not end until Nov. 30, however. It was mid-August at the time, we let our landlord at large apartment complex know we planned to move out in roughly a month, and they told us, to my surprise, that our only options were to pay a \"lease abandonment fee\" of 2 months rent from the end of a 30 days notice OR find a replacement tenant to take over our lease, for who they would refuse to do the usual cleaning/maintenance done during typical turnover.\n\nThe first option is virtually no different than paying the remainder of our rent, however, and does not seem to be a good faith attempt at mitigating damages, namely because our apartment could easily be re-rented in a far shorter time. In fact, after I told the landlord's office I would attempt to find a replacement tenant, they contacted me to tell me someone was interested in my apartment since it is the only one of our model that will be available in the near future. The leasing agent said she would try to get approval from her manager to have the new tenant start a new 12 month lease with the apartment cleaned. However, she was shot down and told he could only \"take over\" my current lease, then renew if he wanted. \n\nWell, since we have a cat (he is allergic) he did not want to move into an apartment that was possibly uncleaned (I offered to pay for cleaning - the landlord ignored this and the new guy obviously wouldn't want to depend on a former tenant's word that has no longer any stake). I don't see how this sabotage of a potential new tenant is any different than refusing to re-rent and mitigate damages. Can anyone advise me as to whether they are neglecting their duty to re-rent by doing this and refusing to allow me to simply pay rent until it is re-rented?", "summary": "Landlord refuses to offer anything but a massive fee to break lease or lease \"take over\", won't attempt to mitigate damages even when provided with suitable new tenant."}
{"id": "t3_4rd8wh", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Help with major/associates ideas for what I'm interested in", "post": "Okay here's some back story. 22/F/Austin, TX. Been an esthetician for 3 years and I'm extremely bored. Wanting to start college at Austin Community College and I'm not 100% sure what to major in. I want to do something with technology & science (but not too much, don't want math/science to rule my life) and management. I want to be able to make good bank, a little techy, and lots of management. I've always been fascinated by management roles and how they can really shape the entire operation. Any idea what I should major in? I've read about Management Information Systems, seems interesting...but what would I get an associate's in to feed into that? Dis hard. ACC Councelors won't meet with me until I have all my stuff turned in and take a test or two and I'm antsy so I'm asking y'all", "summary": "Want to go back to school and do something with science, management, tech, and money. What are good majors for this and what should I get an associates in? Interested in MIS degree but may not fully understand it."}
{"id": "t3_2l2bec", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting an unwrapped condom in my pocket", "post": "This happened today at about 12:30 AM.\n\nI was at my girlfriend's house and we thought we'd be home alone until around 1 when her mom got home. We started fooling around and next thing you knew I was opening a condom, but when I was about to put it on I heard the front door open. I knew I'd have a few seconds to get my clothes back on, and within about ten seconds I was okay. \n\nIn my haste to get dressed, I dropped the unwrapped condom on the ground, but luckily saw it on my way out of my girlfriend's bedroom. I picked it up, put it in my pocket to throw away later, and went downstairs to greet my girlfriend's mom.\n\nThis is where it gets way worse: the person who entered the house was not my girlfriend's mom, but in fact her dad, who I was graced with meeting for the first time after returning from some sort of trip.\n\nOf course he was already probably  unhappy to see a boy alone with his daughter at 12:30 AM, but was even more upset about what happened next.\n\nI was nervous so I had been keeping my hands in my pockets, which included me idly clutching the condom in my right hand. Then he reached out for a hand shake, and without taking the condom out of my hand, I shook is hand. \n\nI don't think I made a good first impression.", "summary": "Met my girlfriend's dad for the first time and slyly passed him an open condom while shaking his hand."}
{"id": "t3_28qzyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) tested positive on pregnancy test. Dont know how to tell SO (28M)", "post": "We've been together for five years. I've been on birth control the entire time. About a year ago, I was diagnosed with a heart condition that requires me to take daily antibiotics.\n\nI've read that it can render birth control ineffective, and I've read that it has no effect. Well, now I'm pregnant, and I don't know what to do.\n\nWe've talked about kids several times in our relationship. I was strongly against  the idea early on...but he goes through phases where he says he really wants to have a child. Weeks later, he'll say something about not finding mothers attractive.\n\nI'm worried for several reasons. First, losing that physical connection would be a total dealbreaker for me. I'm afraid of getting stretchmarks and gaining weight, even temporarily, if it might make him not physically attracted to me. I know that sounds pretty insecure. I am, in some ways.\n\nAlso, we just moved halfway across the country to open his new business. Its just now getting off the ground and is just isn't stable yet. All of our support network is back home.\n\nI'm afraid we can't afford a child, I'm afraid he wouldn't find me attractive anymore...but I also know it'd break his heart to have an abortion. I don't know if I'm ready for this... I feel like a failure for letting this happen when I wasn't ready or planning for it. \n\nWhat do I do? How do you even have this conversation? Should I decide how I feel about it and whether I want to keep it and Then tell him? Or should I tell him and talk it out together?", "summary": "Accidentally pregnant. Don't know if I want to be or how to talk to SO."}
{"id": "t3_1j0oty", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My gf [17F] and I [18M] have been dating for 3 years, how do I end it...again...", "post": "I've been dating this girl for three years and in these three years have had the time of my life. I took her virginity and we both fell in love. Looking back, I fell harder than I should have because in the beginning I wasn't serious about the relationship. Now after three years, I am known by her grandparents, parents, and her siblings as (Her name here)'s husband. I never wanted to drag her through this and I feel like complete shit for doing it to her. She loves me way more than I love her and I don't know how to break up with her.\n\nI've tried to end it 3 times and they all resulted in both of us running back to the other crying and begging for forgiveness/another chance. Right now, things are rocky and we haven't spoken for 3 days. She just dropped off (On my front porch at 1 a.m.) what my little brother is calling a \"Care package\" including some notes I wrote her in my Sophomore year, my favorite candy, two cards she purchased and wrote books in, and my favorite stuffed animal from her house. All of this was along with a giant letter P that she made in art class with pictures of us throughout the years. \n\nLike I said, I know this is going to break her heart, but I've kind've already made a connection with an old friend and I'm just ready to move onto another part of my life being just finished with high school (She has another year).\n\nHow should I end this without making her family and friends hate me? Is there a way? Also what should I do about the dog WE purchased and is OURS?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years, almost broke up a few times. I'm sick of the relationship. How do I end it"}
{"id": "t3_2cac9i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [17/m] and I've been having this problem in a lot of my relationships.", "post": "So. I'm quite an introverted guy. I was basically a nerd in elementary or whatever you guys call it. That awkward, weird, strange guy who just does his own thing and has no friends. Apparently, somewhere along high school I kinda became attractive. I was part of the hot clique. But I still didn't have/kinda awkward around girls. So no biggie. So my Best friend just decided to tell me that she loves me and wants me as her boyfriend. I just thought \"sure, why not.\" then I was into her in no time. I mean. I literally want her to talk to me like all the time. I get jealous easily. Like. Really easily. Basically clingy. We both were. So I thought that this was normal in relationships. I use this app called WhatsApp. Sometimes, it lets you view someone's last seen. Meaning their last time online. So. The thing is, when my girlfriends(current or past) reads my text without replying, I just get super jealous. Like. I would get moody. Be a jerk to her. And stuff. I mean. Is this bad?", "summary": "I'm clingy. Is this bad?"}
{"id": "t3_4r6iwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend's [17F] mum [late40sF] walked in on me masturbating.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together for a few months. We were hanging out at her place and she went out to pick the pizza I bought. My girlfriend doesn't feel ready to have sex yet so I thought I would quickly jerk of while she was gone to save me feeling frustrated later on in the evening when we normally watch movies and makeout. \n\nMy girlfriends lives in the granny flat bit below her parents house so we have a ton of privacy. I was happily jacking of to my girlfriends underwear thinking she had locked the door on her way out. Turns out she didn't and her mother walked in (without knocking) and caught me right in the middle of everything. She screamed and my girlfriends dad ran down to see what was going on. \n\nIt would have been comical if it wasn't so fucking awful. I was trying to explain myself and her father was yelling at me. Long story short I ended up running because I thought her dad was going to kill me.  \n\nI got a text a few hours ago from my girlfriend saying she didn't think we should be together anymore.\n\nI am beyond devastated. I love my girlfriend and don't want it to end like this. At the same time this is all so fucking embarrassing I don't think I will ever be able to face her family again.\n\nI also left my bag and my laptop at her house and I really need to get it back asap. My bag has a bit of weed in it and I am concerned her parents might find it. I don't know how to ask to get my bag back while still being sensitive. I was thinking maybe I should apologise to her parents? Like writing a letter saying how sorry I am for being so disrespectful or something?\n\nIs there any way to resolve this?", "summary": "Girlfriends mum walked in on me masturbating. I ran. Girlfriend texted me to say we are over. Need to save this relationship and get my bag back."}
{"id": "t3_4ka3j7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Call immigration on my shitty coworkers?", "post": "I work at a restaurant and most of our cooks and back of house people are Mexican men. (Ages ranging from 20-45ish) Now, ALL of these Mexican men have harassed me in some way, shape, or form. (Keep in mind they all have S/O's and children) I have been squeezed, I have been felt up, groped, had people's hands on me for way to long, been called sexy, hot, ect. I originally told them to stop, and when they didn't I went to my manager and she stopped it for me. They all stopped EXCEPT FOR THIS ONE ASSHOLE. He's 20 years old and acts like a 14 year old boy. Not only does he touch me constantly but he also asks me a thousand pointless and mundane questions. I dye my hair different colors pretty frequently and each time I do and come into work the next morning he has to say something shitty about it. Always. I would go to my manager again but this will be the third time and I'm worried about having my hours cut because of it. So my solution is to call immigration because I know for a fact, from my managers mouth, that none of these people are here legally. I'm sick and fucking tired of being grabbed on, talked about behind my back, and talked down to by these men who obviously have no morals. So my question is...How should I go about doing this, and if I do it will there be any negative repercussions for me?", "summary": "My illegal immigrant coworkers continually harass me and I want to get them kicked out of the country."}
{"id": "t3_22z3uw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "To start off: we had bit of history before I started liking her as before she would make flattering remarks to me, and we would sit side by side, but I didn't think of it much because I didn't like her at that time. \n\nI started to like her as her friend told me that she finds me cute. When I asked her on a date, she completely avoided the question and changed the subject. We were pretty close friends at that time, too. We would constantly snap chat and text each other, but after I asked her out, everything changed. I seem to notice that everything is probably going to be awkward whenever I see her considering i haven't seen her in awhile because she goes to a university in a different city. \n\nAnyways, does anyone know what I should do, she hangs out wit my friends, is there a chance of saving our friendship, or should I just ignore her and move on? She stopped snap chatting me as in she doesn't initiate the first move anymore, does anyone know what she's thinking right now? I haven't initiated or even communicated with her in two days, and will continue to do so.", "summary": "asked a friend on a date and now we stopped talking to each other, what's the best course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_3izbjo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Playing Paintball", "post": "Obligatory \"this was actually yesterday...\"\n\nSo me and my housemates had wanted to go play paintball for quite a while, and planned to make this happen on Saturday. Well the day rolled around and conditions were perfect; not too hot, not too cold, no rain, no blasting sun. Great! \n\nSo we rent our guns and visors, fill up with balls (hehe) and head on down for our first match. 10 minutes later I'm out of balls and being overrun by the enemy. Fuck. I feel a ball slap me in the arm, so I put my hands up in the \"I surrender, I'm dead, don't shoot me\" signal. I stand up and begin to walk away. Here comes the FU...\n\nI get maybe 5 steps before I feel an explosion of pain, in the one area that no guy ever wants it. Yup. You guessed it. As I was walking away, one very helpful member of the other team decided that the best target for his 200mph plastic balls of paint was in fact my unprotected gentleman's area. I of course collapse to the floor, the game continues around me. All I care about is the pain in my groin. Eventually I manage to crawl myself out of the way to recover. \n\nStill played the rest of the games (we were there 4 hours) like a trooper. Today there is an obscenely large amount of bruising down there, luckily the girlfriend isn't in town!", "summary": "200mph paintballs to the genitals."}
{"id": "t3_28godr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] kissed a friend [22 F], she wants to break off contact.", "post": "There's this girl I met when I was hanging out in a bar with some friends last fall. I discovered that we were in the same lecture and started talking to her and asked her out quite soon. Our date consisted in going to a random lecture in the evening. Afterwards she told me that she was not interested in relationships (or even sex) because she had just had a drug-induced psychosis at that time.\n\nWe began hanging out as friends which was ok for me because I had dates with other women and didn't mind us just being friends.\n\nA few weeks ago we started meeting in a more date-like setting and I started becoming interested in her again.I decided to tell her that I wanted to date her. We agreed to meet late in the evening in the garden in front of her apartement block. There she gave me all this talk about her being complicated etc. All while letting me touch and finally kiss her (like 10 times). I suggested that she took some time to think about our relationship. We met yesterday.\n\nWithin a minute she told me that she a) had never thought about me during the last week b) thinks our kiss was \"unnatural\" and c) thinks we shouldn't meet anymore (even as friends).\n\nI'm confused now and decided that it probably is best to forget about her. She seems emotionally unstable and would probably just suck off my energy in the long run. Do you guys agree? Should I break off all contact?", "summary": "I confessed that I wanted to be more than friends. She agreed, we kissed. One week later she say's that she doesn't want to ever see my again. Should I break all contact?"}
{"id": "t3_2l4n3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] am really insecure and im worried im going to bore my [17F] girlfriend", "post": "My girlfriend is the person I tell everything to and she tells me everything, I had my first kiss with her and all of that cutsie stuff but am also a really self conscious person. \n\nI think im fat which after we first met she told me was a complete lie (and so have other people), I tend to be really quiet in school (we go to different high schools), and Im just really nerdy/geeky (play video games with my friends all weekend, built my own pc, thought myself how to program in python, etc. -she also says she thinks its cut but eh), I never really went out anywhere on weekends until I met her and the list goes on (I think im ugly, she's really good looking, etc. etc.).\n\nWe have a nice time when we're together and can talk for hours on end but I feel like she's just going to get tired of me eventually.\n\nI don't know if im worrying too much about this or not, I'd really appreciate some advice on how to get over this since I've never really had to deal with my insecurities while in a relationship before", "summary": "Im really insecure and dont know how to deal with it and as a result Im scared my girlfriend is going to get bored of me."}
{"id": "t3_4txeim", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M/22] read some of her [F/21] texts.... I regret it. But I don't know If i should never think about it again or confront her about it.", "post": "So the basis of my relationship with my current gf is stemmed through friendship. We were friends, she broke up with her fianc\u00e9, needed a place to stay and i offered her my spare bedroom. Granted it wasn't anything more than platonic until about 3 months in. Then it was on and off sex, and I gradually fell for her. Now the ex-fiance never really left the picture, but I didn't understand just how much of an issue it was until now. The only reason I went through her iPad to see the texts (we both have apple products only) was because her ex messaged me on Facebook and sent me some... not very pretty screenshots. However these didn't include a date or anything, so I opted to not believe him. But the seed of doubt was placed and it just grew from there. I honestly thought my girlfriend was only ever talking to me (while we were dating, she said this multiple times). We've only been official for about a month mind you, but I read some stuff that makes me question her feelings for me. Basically she never stopped talking to her ex (even though she claimed otherwise) and was also seeing another guy and telling him that she was \"falling pretty hard for him\". Don't chastise me for going through her texts, I feel like shit for it already. I normally don't do that, but something in my gut just told me to. The worst part is that we have a lease together and theres still about 6 months left. I honestly don't know what to do or feel. The only thing I can say for sure is that the \"sexting\" aspect of these texts really only happened before we were official. It's just, how can you tell someone that you're falling for them, then turn around and announce a relationship with someone else?", "summary": "I went through my gf's texts after getting some suspect screenshots from her ex, and found more than I bargained for."}
{"id": "t3_3o54sp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I overslept and my dad fell off a ladder", "post": "Happened today. Last night I couldn't sleep until about 3 AM because of various reasons like roommates and anxiety. So I put my headphones on and listen to music to help me drift off. So I already have a hard time waking up, getting up in the mornings is damn near impossible for me, I don't even hear my alarm go off. \n\nI work for my dad. We manage buildings and today he needed me to help install some lights. I woke up with like 10 missed calls so I freak out and call him back once I start running out the door. I was already an hour late. When he answers he sounds in pain and he tells me he fell of the ladder on the staircase and hit his back. I took him to the doctor and he has 2 broken ribs.\n\nI can't stop feeling like shit. It was my fault he fell because I didn't show up. He laid there for a while before he got back up himself. All while I was asleep. And this isn't the first time I have overslept so it makes it even worse.", "summary": "my dad fell off a ladder, broke 2 ribs, while I was sleeping and supposed to be helping him."}
{"id": "t3_2mlhlg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (M/19) think she (F/19) likes me, but it's more complex than that (Update 1)", "post": "I posted [*here*] a month ago about this girl who I think likes me but has a boyfriend. Here's an update, I'm now more confident she likes me, but as you can see I still need help...\n\nFirstly, she's started being physical - she'll poke me in the arm or the back and just smile and laugh about it. This is probably the deal breaker at the moment; she'll make a point of doing it (ie it's no accident), always without reason and always follows it up with a smile or a laugh.\n\nSecondly, we went for a few drinks. I asked her, she really wanted to, so we did. It was just the two of us, we had a great night and if anything, the experience made me think she liked me even more. She suggested we go see a band next year with her and her mates from her home town. She was constantly asking questions about me and laughing, sitting in a slightly awkward position just to look at me. If all goes to plan we'll be seeing each other again this weekend, and she's said yes to that.\n\nThere's a few other things which have happened which add to all that, but they only make sense in the given context.\n\nWell anyway I've been racking my brain trying to think of how to approach her about it. I want to do something this weekend when I see her but I'm not sure what. Failing that I'm gonna take it slowly. But I'm not sure myself, that's why I'm here.", "summary": "[Posted a month ago] about a girl who likes me but she has a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2310k2", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "\"Friend\" blows off plans without telling me one too many times.", "post": "Warning: potential spoiler for game of thrones \n\nA friend of mine has a bad habit of overextending himself and then not telling people that he considers their plans \"canceled,\" leaving them to figure it out for themselves. He'll then come up with some bullshit excuse the next day explaining why he couldn't uphold his obligation and why he didn't let them know. I've witnessed him do this plenty of times, so unfortunately he's developed a \"boy who cried wolf\" syndrome in my mind. \n\nAnyway, he called me yesterday saying how he hasn't seen me in a while (which is because of him pulling shit like what's mentioned above) and asking if he could come over to hang out and watch the game of thrones episode together. I said of course, and asked if he had any weed I could buy--\"yup, 6 kinds.\" Okay, perfect, 'cuz we're dry. At 7:30 he says he's leaving his house (show airs at 9), I think, \"great, he's gonna be early for once.\" 8:30, still not there, text him, no answer. Uh oh. 9:00, episodes starting, still not here. Call him twice, text him, no response. There it is: he's officially not showing up. Luckily another friend, who really *is* a friend, had come over, had some extra bud and was more than willing to share. We all cheered as a certain scumbag choked to death. \n\nFast forward to 12:30 am, about 3 and a half hours later, douchebag texts me saying \"sorry man I fell asleep.\" Bullshit. My response: \"word. [GoT character] died.\"  I knew he had gone somewhere else to watch it, so it wasn't really a spoiler, but it was extremely satisfying to see him squirm and try to pretend like I had spoiled it for him. \n\nSuch sweet vengeance.", "summary": "douchebag friend blows off plans one too many times, doesn't let me know, loses the satisfaction of watching TV's most hated character choke to death."}
{"id": "t3_2bd2o1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The girl I'm talking to (potential girlfriend 15F) has a mother dying of cancer. She's depressed... What do I (16M) do? I feel like I'm doing wrong anyway.", "post": "Alright, me and this girl have extremely hit off and everything has been fine. \n\nExcept this girl has a mother with stage three cancer and she's being sent to the hospital for a week. The father won't inform her about where the hospital is for some reason.\n\nIt's put a strain on me recently because I'm worry about this girl, because I care and I don't want to see her destroy herself again. She's been so strong through but she broke down when she said her mother is dying. She is currently over her friends house, this guy, and he's having a bonfire. I mean, okay we haven't met since we've been talking because I have work and she's normally gone. However, we talk everyday and on the phone and she says she loves me and all. Which, it does seem like it as our personalities have worked perfectly together and all of that. I don't believe I'm getting played. \n\nHowever, what am I supposed to do? I keep saying to her I don't want to bother her because I feel like I am. She's depressed I know and I felt like she didn't want me to go when I was saying I didn't know what to talk about. I was just calling to see if she was okay. That's all. She was also saying on her own that she hoped my day will go well tomorrow after I was sent home early. I see she still cares. \n\nI just don't know what do I do in this situation. Plus, she seems to always be with her friends now so I promise won't see her. Plus she was raped so that doesn't help either. Although she's bonded and trusted me. So...I don't know. I don't want to be selfish, I just wanted to show her a good time and have her try to be happy some... But I'm passive and it seems her friends are doing a better job than me. \n\nWe just got off the phone and she said she loves me and will either talk tomorrow morning or in the evening when I'm not working.", "summary": "Girl I haven't seen has a mother who has cancer, mother is dying, girl is depressed, what the fuck do I do? Never been in this situation before."}
{"id": "t3_olcqv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Broke up, nothing is resolved.", "post": "Hello Reddit, \n\nI read reddit-break-ups all the time and it has definitely helped me over the past two months. \n\nI have recently come out of a five year relationship. We are both 23 so started dating when we were 18. We ended it mutually after the relationship dwindled but since then several things have happened that have made me question the whole five years we were together: \n\n1. 2 days after we broke up he rang me to tell me that he had got an STI check. I was shocked as he'd had several before, all negative, and we had been together since then. I shrugged this off as I'm not one to criticise people being over precautious. \n\n2. He started a new relationship with someone a week after we broke up. I found out on her blog, a blog that he had shown me. When I asked him if anything was going on he lied. \n\n3. I found out through him that he had slept with someone else during our relationship, three years in to be precise. This meant that he kept me secret from most of his university friends and wouldn't be in a relationship on facebook. Little things that now make a lot of sense. \n\n4. He maintained a okcupid account looking for casual relationships. \n\nI'm extremely happy that we've now broken up. I miss him as a person but not how he made me feel. The thing is I will never know whether he slept with someone else and this is the thing that is really bugging me. I'm sure he's posted on the internet looking for casual sex but I have no way of proving this. How do I move on? \n\nWe are still in contact. He has told me that he wishes he had told me before about the cheating before so we could have made it work. He has also told me that he still likes me which has also messed with my head slightly. I told him that if this is true he should be honest with the girl he is now dating and tell her as well. Could he just be feeding me lines?", "summary": "five year relationship, infidelity, ongoing questioning as to whether there is more I don't know."}
{"id": "t3_kv8dl", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My first Marathon in 16 days...need pacing advice on my last 'long run' (a half) this Saturday", "post": "So there's the 3rd anniversary of a full, half, 10k, 5k, etc going on this weekend in strikingly beautiful Shepherdstown, WV, which is near my hometown so my dad (an ex-distance runner...he'd average 3 a year back in the day) signed he and I up and I was planning to run it super slow, as I have 12 on the [Hal Higdon Novice 1 training schedule] this weekend before a 2 week taper prior to Baltimore.  \n\nMy first 20 mile run ever this past weekend felt good, and the 14 the week before felt great.  I'm slightly overweight and not as dedicated as I should be-i.e., I have definitely not 'overtrained'-so my marathon plans are more or less to finish and to try to hit 4:20.  My long runs like the 20 miler were around a 10 minute pace...but I feel really good right now and am thinking I could really kick this half marathon's ass if i put my mind to it.  \n\nI ran it in 1:58 last year (9:03) and if I tried I'm pretty sure I could improve upon that.   The question is...should I try?  All this work has been to lead up to the marathon, and following a schedule I have been astonished with my recovery ability, so I'm looking for advice on this.", "summary": "I have my first marathon in just over 2 weeks, but I would like to get a PR on the half I am running this weekend.  Could I really suffer consequences in 2 weeks by going hard this Saturday?"}
{"id": "t3_3h9pxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my husband [36M] dating 2 years and married for 2 years, Major Money difference causing problems in regards to a vacation", "post": "So my husband John and I are planning on going on a vacation to Disney World with our 1 yr old John Jr. and my husband's brother Dan along with his wife Sarah and their two younger kids.  Now, John is very close to his brother so trips like these are not unusual for them.  I however never really went on vacation b4 I met my husband since I grew up poor.  He grew up in the upper middle class and then started his own tech business which is really booming.  I have two sisters who are significantly younger than me that are 7 and 10 and I know that they would just love to go to Disney World with me and my parents but we could just never afford to.  So I asked my husband if he could fly them out and put them up in a hotel with us as he could easily afford.  He did not like the idea and said he does not want others living off of his \"largesse\" and does not want my family to be dependent upon him.  I thought this was really mean since my sisters have never had this experience before and I know he could easily afford it.  I still want them to come.  So I am wondering am I in the wrong, or is my husband being selfish? I am worried about my family being excluded.", "summary": "Husband will not help parents and younger sisters come to Disney with us."}
{"id": "t3_13wxl8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To those that are in/have been in a LDR, how do you cope with missing your SO?", "post": "Throwaway account, not really needed in this case but I always post my relationship stuff anonymously.\n\nHey guys, I'm in a LDR, well except its not too long distance. I'm in high school, she's a freshman in college. I can't drive yet, and her college is an hour and a half to two hours away, so until I get my license this spring I can't see her unless she's home for break. My one question for those that have experienced this, what can I do to get my mind off of her? I am so in love with this girl, she's amazing. And it seems like everything I see reminds me of her, whether its a song (she's introduced me to most of the music I listen to now) or something random, like the snow that was on the ground this morning (we met in the winter, associated emotions, blah blah blah). I'm missing her so much, and I know she misses me too but she's really busy out there, and it's unrealistic for me to expect her to text/talk to me all the time. This happened when she first left, and I had attributed it to the sudden change from spending so much time together to spending zero time together. Now it's happening again after she came home for Thanksgiving break. The first time, it took me forever to stop obsessing, and I was miserable. Plus, I've been home from school sick for a few days, so there has literally been nothing to keep me occupied lately. Does anyone have advice on how to stop missing her so much, and how to stop thinking about her every waking minute? This would be greatly appreciated, while I love her to death I don't want to obsess and make my life revolve around her.", "summary": "In a LDR, miss my girlfriend and can't stop thinking of her, how can I ease that?"}
{"id": "t3_24zl14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some LDR advice.", "post": "So me(22m) and my(18f) have been together for about 9 months now. 6 of which I have moved to Las Vegas with my parents due to bankruptcy. My grandparents live here and are well of with a spare house they were willing to let us live in. \n\nAnyways, back to the point. This whole ordeal has been very rough on the both of us and our relationship to the point were she has given me an ultimatum. Either I figure out a way to get a job back in Maryland and live there so we can be together or we split up. She says she can't take being apart any longer, but she knew going into this relationship that I would be leaving after 3 months. \n\nThat sums up most of what's happening and I need your opinions. I do love this girl and I don't think I could have lived here without having her as support. We FaceTime regularly and talk as much as possible. On one hand I do want to move back but on the other I have made new friends here and am not unhappy in that sense. I don't want to lose her but I'm so confused. Please give me your thoughts.", "summary": "Moved to a different state. My SO can't handle to space apart. She has given me an ultimatum to stay here and be single or move home to be with her."}
{"id": "t3_1nnppk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [20M] of a few months, don't know if I'm over reacting.", "post": "A bit of backstory:\n\nMy longest relationship (~2 years) ended about 2 years ago, and not well. It messed me up for awhile, but for the past year or so, I've really enjoyed being single. I'm a senior in college, and after my internship I plan to travel anywhere and everywhere that I can, which is a big reason why I picked the major I did. \n\nMy boyfriend also had a bad relationship that ended a few years ago. This sent him into a whirlwind of drug abuse and depression that he came out of last year. He's never been to college, never moved out of his parents' house, and does not own a car. He's a great person. Really sweet, caring, loving, etc. \n\nHe contacted me on Facebook at the beginning of the year, but we never got too serious about talking because we lived in different cities. Around the beginning of the summer, we both attended this music festival (with separate groups, although we had hung out a few times prior) and we hit it off. Inseparable ever since. \n\nWe live pretty far apart, and without him having a car, this gets frustrating. I didn't really mind, but as far as I know, he has no money saved towards buying one and although he is appreciative of me driving always.. I feel like this is something he should take upon himself. \n\nThat isn't the big issue, however. The bigger issue is that lately, everything I say, he gets offended by. I'm really not attracted to sensitive men, and I have a pretty rude sense of humor. On many more than a few occasions, he has become hostile/offended by something that I said out of complete innocent humor. Also, he gets very offended when I correct/disagree with him. He has know-it-all tendencies, as do I, but I'd like to think that I can admit when I'm wrong, or at least accept it.\n\nKeep in mind, he's a really great guy, otherwise. Not that these qualities are deal-breakers, but since I've never really been in a healthy relationship, I'm not sure if they're red flags or not.", "summary": "I'm really confused by my boyfriend's behavior. He's easily offended, and way too dramatic/serious."}
{"id": "t3_4rvc08", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy [31 m] I've [28 f] been seeing for over a month just told me he's slept with over 50 women", "post": "So I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month and it's been going great! Initially I told him I didn't want anything serious right away and would rather spend time getting to know him first before I put out. He thought that was super respectful of me and he has so far been an amazing guy to be around. I seriously enjoy every second with him.\n\nSo yesterday I finally fucked him and it was mind blowing amazing! I felt good about my decision as we've been hanging out a few times a week, calling each other and in general he has been a stand up guy. I knew the sex would be good because he told me he's been with alot of girls, it didn't bother me that much.\n\nPost sex conversation leads to me asking how many girls has he actually been with. At first he's like \"I don't even know\" and then I asked \"Is it over 50?\" And he kind of laughed and said \" ooooh yeah\"\n\nThe tone in his voice made it seem like he's closer to 100 than 50 and now that bothers me. Initially I assumed maybe 30 women at most, but damn over 50? That seems a bit extreme!\n\nI really would have liked to pursue something serious with this guy eventually but now i'm not so sure if I want to. Should I cut it off before I get in too deep? I don't know if I should trust a guy who's been with THAT many women. He has had a couple of long term relationships but between them he seems to just burn through women. \n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Interested in being serious with a guy till he told me he's been with over 50 women and now I'm not so sure."}
{"id": "t3_1e4o84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 27F involved in a possible catfish relationship with a \"26M.\" Help!", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit for this kind of post. If it's not, would someone tell me where would be appropriate?\n\nBackground Info: This catfishing relationship of mine has been going on for about 3 months now. He found me on FB and we hit it off pretty quickly. So far he's sent hundreds of dollars of flowers to my work, and we speak on the phone for hours almost every day. I've been trying to finally meet him, but something always comes up at the last minute every time.\n\nI've met this person's \"sister\" in real life a couple times, who is coincidentally...gay. I've met her AND her girlfriend and of course, they both talk about him like he's a real person. All my other friends are telling me that his sister is actually him.\n\nHis FB, Twitter, and IG all check out...and I've done reverse image searches. But after watching \"Catfish\" on MTV, I guess that is to be expected. I'm just finding it hard to believe that someone would spend all this $ and effort into starting a relationship, and then just never want to meet. It's pretty obvious that I should just let this one go at this point. But there is that 1% chance that he really is who he says he is, and that his excuses for not showing up...really are valid. Also, the emotional connection I've formed with this person is hard to break. The curiosity of finding out who this person is has pretty much taken over my life...and I'm just looking for some advice on what to do at this point.", "summary": "It's hard to let go of a possible catfish relationship, because the curiosity of finding out the truth is taking over my life. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_joej3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, should the wife try get \"custody\" of the soon-to-be-ex husband's dog if the animal is special-needs and he can't take care of it because of his job?", "post": "***I am NOT planning of giving neither of them advice/opinions etc. They have lawyers for that. I'm just curious to what reddit thinks of this case. ***\n\n*The dog is a he, but to avoid confusion I will refer to him as \"it\".*\n\nOn going divorce between a friend and her husband of 10 years. The dog is the husband's (he had it before the marriage). **However, for most of the marriage, the wife is the one who walks it, feeds it, cleans after it.** And when it got sick (I am not familiar with animal health issues, but it has to take certain meds regularly) she's the one who takes it to the vet and also started making raw food for the dog to improve its overall health.\n\nHowever, he feels that the dog is \"his dog\" and refuses to part with it/is willing to fight over it.\n\nSome background, feel free to skip:\n\nThe wife is the stay-at-home mom of two boys. She does some contract work when she could. It is not her first choice, but the husband was never home because of his career and often out of the country. (Which makes him unfit to take care of the dog) After giving birth to the second child, he asked her to stay home so he could focus on his career and she could take care of:\n\n1. Two boys.\n2. The elderly in-laws. (80 and 75 now)\n3. House-hold chores.\n4. The dog. (walking it, taking it to the vet, giving it meds, making food for it)", "summary": "Man too busy to care for the dog he got before marriage, dog got sick before wife asked for divorce, both the wife and him want to keep the dog."}
{"id": "t3_p00n8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was/is the coolest teacher you've ever had? I'll start.", "post": "My english teacher had gone to an island with some college buddies Lord of the Flies style. He paid a fisherman with a shady boat 10 dollars to drive them to the island and pick them up. When on the island, numerous pounds of cocaine washed up on the shore. The police in the area showed up and picked up the cocaine while my teach and his friends were in the treeline. When they got to shore a couple of days later, they found they had been followed by the police and got arrested for questioning.\nHe also told the officials at a horse race in Italy he was with the press and had a press badge. He showed them his YMCA id and got in for free. (It was an expensive race)\nHe feels free to curse and say orgy cause he doesn't care if he gets fired, \"I can get a job anywhere anytime.\" He's pretty much awesome.", "summary": "Went to an island, got arrested for suspected cocaine smuggling, snuck into an expensive horse race, cusses."}
{"id": "t3_3oy0qw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [M,19] gave me a scalpel \"as a joke\" after I [F,19] told him about my issues", "post": "Long story short, my friend who is a male, gave me a scalpel as a joke after I told him my issues and my mental anxiety. He was so keen to see me, texting me all through out the day telling me that he had a present and a surprise for me. He insisted on going out to grab a drink with our other mates. I was hesitant to go out at first but then I ended up going. When I saw my friend I asked what the surprise/present was, He said\n\n\"I know you have been down lately so I got you a....\"\n\nAnd handed me a scalpel that he stole from his biology prac.\nI was so shocked, as if I was hit in the hammer and I was so shocked and mortified that it took me a while to process what has just happened. There were other people, and they were half laughing and surprised. I didn't know what to do so I just left.\n\nTo be honest, I don't know how I feel. I have been very nice to him all the time. He has got a lot of people that dislikes him and I have always defended him. I always saw the good in him. But now, I don't know how I would be able to see him anymore. Especially after I told him about my struggles and my crisis that I am going through at the moment.  But for someone to tell me go and actually kill myself was very confronting, and not just verbally abusing me but actually giving me the means to kill myself and the fact that he said with no qualms, but laughing about it. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "My friend [M,19] gave me a scalpel \"as a joke\" after I [F,19] told him about my issues and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_36g2o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27M) coworker (29F) keeps asking me what to do about her husband's (30ish M) behavior.", "post": "Background:  She's been married for a few years.   It was an arranged marriage.  She has a kid.  She was already a US citizen and her husband wasn't.   He has citizenship now.  I don't know her husband, but I've met him once and I usually follow my instinct when I meet people because it's never been wrong.  I didn't like this guy.  \n\nProblem according to my coworker:  This guy flirts with other girls constantly on Facebook.  He talks to girls back in India and random girls on Facebook.   He did most of this behind her back.   When she found out, she was crushed, but gave him a chance to fix it.   One year later he hasn't stopped and made multiple accounts.  She read over these messages when she gets on the computer. \n\nShe kept giving him a chance over and over because she loves him.   She talked to his parents and her parents because it's customary in their culture.   Her parents were disgusted by his behavior.   His parents said, \"well, he hasn't done anything yet so what's the problem?\"  \n\nShe says that he used her to get citizenship so he can move his family here.   She even signed the papers this year to get them a green card.  She says she doesn't know what to do anymore. \n\nMy opinion:  She should just divorce the guy.   He makes her feel like shit all of the time.   He's cheating on her on an emotional level.  He obviously has zero respect for her.   She's financially stable by herself.  She has resources to take care of her kid.  \n\nCurrent situation:  She keeps asking me what she should do.   I don't know if I should say what I feel.  Her siblings and parents hold the same opinion as me.   I don't understand why someone should even think about staying with someone like that.", "summary": "Coworker's husband is emotionally cheating on her.   She asked for my advice.   I've never been in any relationship so I wouldn't know where to begin."}
{"id": "t3_2h9mi0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend 26[F] is cheating on her SO 25[M]", "post": "My friend went away on a trip with her SO (who is also my friend and we were friends first before they started dating) and met up with her ex there, without the SO's knowledge. She made it sound like they were just grabbing lunch and catching up, innocuous stuff. Turns out, they made out with each other and the rendezvous went sexual.  Now, they're in a serious texting/sexting relationship and the guy is flying my friend out to go see him (did I mention this guy has a gf too?) this weekend. \n\nAfter the trip ended, my friend's SO went in her phone and read everything after he (rightfully) had suspicions. She basically told her SO that they need to stay together because they're on a lease together and that if they live more separately, then they will maybe miss each other more. I told her that she needs to just end the relationship and she keeps arguing with me over the fact that she needs to keep it for the sake of their apartment. Am I really typing this?\n\nI am really upset with her over everything. I love her as a friend, but if she can do something this cruel to an SO what can she do to me? I am considering meeting up with her SO (who is also my good friend) in confidence to persuade him to leave. Is this a terrible idea? Should I just stay out? I have been cheated on and it HURTS so I feel like I can't sit back and watch this come to fruition.", "summary": "My friend is cheating on her SO who is also my good friend and I'm considering telling him."}
{"id": "t3_22eihq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) am having a problem breaking ties with a long time friend/short time so (19F)", "post": "I initially knew this girl because we dated in HS, and it went on and off with her telling me she wasn't interested, to showing signs. All of our friends thought we were perfect, and some of her family even calls me an in-law. \n\nAnyways, I don't care much for their opinion as they're not the ones that decide. However after all this time, I'm fed up but I avoid taking drastic measures because our main group is just mutual friends. I invested too much in our friendship/relationship and I'm tired of it (example for reference: her birthday i drove her to a beach, to a mountain, and home. I even made her a cake from scratch. We were out from like 8pm to 5am.) All she does is text me when she needs something. It was my birthday a few weeks ago and she didn't bother/know and made no mention of it. It's obviously a one sided relationship and I'm not okay with that.", "summary": "Don't know how to break ties/contact with an unsupporitve friend/(past SO) with whom I share a lot of mutual friends."}
{"id": "t3_3xwm3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend of 6 years [25F] are on a break now but it's going badly I feel help", "post": "like in the title we been together for 6 years and on thanksgiving we had a fight after she talked to me about feeling like we need to try new things.\n\nThe fight lead us to taking a break and it's been hard. I really love her but she doesn't know if she wants to work through are problems. She tells me she is confused about her feelings. In her words her feelings for me and our 6 years are beyond a clear wall she can see them and to a point kinda feel them but their on the other side.\n\nI want things to work out but I have no idea what I can do to help even get on track. Please any advice would be very helpful.", "summary": "On a break with gf of 6 years and freaking out help."}
{"id": "t3_378nr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [28M] with my girlfriend [23F], have been together for six years, I don't know where to go with this relationship.", "post": "We've been together for years, we have lived together for the past 15 months.  \n\nI went round a mates house a few nights back and was hanging out with a few people, lots of drinking and there was a girl there [30F] who tried to get things going with me.\n\nI told her I had a girlfriend and nothing happened, in the end I put her in a bed upstairs, she asked that I sleep in the bed with her and she assured nothing would happen. I said no and went downstairs and fell asleep on the sofa.  \n\nThat was two days ago and I haven't stopped thinking about her, I'm in a bind, was this just a drunken evening thing with no real substance to it? I didn't do the whole go out and sleep around thing when I was younger, I've only slept with three women all of which were when I was in a relationship with that woman.  \n\nThe excitement of the other night I felt was really good and it may be even more so because my current relationship is kind of stagnant, we don't really have much sexual contact.  \n\nThe other part of the relationship I am in is that I can't really plan my future because my girlfriend says that she doesn't know if she wants to get married or wants to have kids because she is too young to think about it. I know my stand point on these two things and I don't want to be wasting my time if this relationship isn't leading anywhere.", "summary": "Should I try and move on from my current girlfriend, maybe play the field a bit and try to find someone who wants the same as I do rather than wait a few years to find out?"}
{"id": "t3_h7py9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, help! Torn about inviting on and off SO to Vegas; are guys innately driven to pursue other females?", "post": "Background:\n\nI am a 26 year old male and SO is 22 year old female. We dated for about a year before we broke up (this was back in January & due to a number of problems) and did not talk for about two months. After that, we attempted to reconcile and have been on and off again with a lot of the same problems but have been working hard to make it work again. She definitely has a lot of the qualities I can see myself ending up with but its mostly potential and not certainty.\n\nDilemma:\n\nAt the end of the month, a large group of my friends (~15 guys, ~25 girls) are going to Vegas for Memorial Day weekend. She is friends with some of the group but does not know most of them. A part of me wants me to invite her on the trip but another part of me want to tell her to find her own thing to do that weekend and go to Vegas alone with my friends.\n\nBecause I've been arguing with myself on whether or not I should invite her, I find myself questioning whether or not this means I should keep trying in this relationship. The decision about the Vegas trip is just a small decision out of a bigger picture. I can honestly admit that the part of me that does not want to invite her is because I want to have fun in Vegas and the possibility of meeting other girls just for the weekend. \n\nDoes that mean I shouldn't be in a committed relationship? Reddit ... do you think that guys will always have the innate feeling to hook up with any hot girl that walks by? Is this feeling just intensified because it IS a Vegas trip on the weekend with a lot of girls going? I don't want to ruin any possibility of reconciling a relationship with her because of a fleeting feeling for one weekend.", "summary": "Does having second thoughts about inviting my ex/SO to Vegas mean I should stop trying to fix this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1yqthd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 M] I'm having difficulty communicating with my girlfriend [24 F] of almost four years. Tips for effective communication?", "post": "My girlfriend and I are having some difficulty communicating effectively with one another. I have a very difficult time verbalizing my feelings and it's becoming a bit of an issue in our relationship. It's very difficult for me to even be in touch with my feelings, much less verbalize and communicate them effectively. It's even difficult for me to talk at length about the small things in life, such as what goes on at work.\n  \nI pretty much only tell people things on a need-to-know basis. I know that's very unhealthy for a relationship, but it's something that I have great difficulty with. I feel very uncomfortable just sharing things about my life and my feelings. My girlfriend has complained that whenever we have a disagreement that they go on for way too long and that they feel like pulling teeth because it takes so long for me to be able to communicate what I'm thinking/feeling. I'm not doing this on purpose and it's very distressful for me. Most of the time, I'm not even fully aware of what I'm feeling. With regards to attachment theory, I'm on the avoidant side of the spectrum and I tend to bury a lot of what I feel. I want to be able to share things with my girlfriend, but it's so difficult for me to open up. This is a behavioral pattern that I've had for as long as I can remember. Is there anything that I can do to change it? It feels so ingrained that it almost feels automatic. Does /r/relationships have any suggestions? I'm already seeing a therapist and it's helping, albeit very slowly.", "summary": "I have a very difficult time opening up with my girlfriend and it's causing communication problems in our relationship. What can I do to facilitate more effective communication and to be better in touch with my feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_dyz1u", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I don't have a lot of good work skills or experience, tips on certifications", "post": "So, here's a summary of what i'm looking at, I live in a small town, and really, the only jobs we have here is factory and McJobs/cashier type stuff, of which i am the latter. I'm very frustrated by my job, I work graveyard shit as a front desk clerk at a motel, I don't do much more than jack shit, and while it was ok at first, it's kinda left me feeling bored, and unchallenged. I know there's not many options here, but i'm applying for jobs out of town, and if i get hired there I have a friend with a couch to crash on when I can pay bills. \nMy thing is, is that I don't much want to hop from min. wage job to min wage  job, and i'd like to earn a bit more, not a whole lot, I'd just like to have a bit more free reign to go on road trips and such.\nAnyways, I've been considering going through training to learn how to build and repair computers. i know a little, enough for me to flounder about with it until i give up and start googling shit. I understand that you can be self-taught, but idk, I'd like to have certification, plus i'm more apt to learn it better if somebody teaches me, or I have to pay for it. \nAnd I'm not just limiting myself to computer repair, if there's anything else I can train at that will increase my chance at getting a better job, and making a little bit more money that I can blow on giving myself unshitty weekends, I'd be glad to hear about that as well!", "summary": "How do I get more job skills so i don't get stranded in the wasteland of minimum wage?"}
{"id": "t3_219g8j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I [24/m] ask out the intern [22/f]?", "post": "For the past seven weeks there has been an intern at my company. She is doing a graduation internship there for about 2 more months. We talked a bit, she is going to the same college I went to (different degree though) and I made her laugh a couple times. To make it easier I know she's not seein anyone at the moment.\n\nThe reason I'm asking this is because I have never had a relationship that wasn't over the internet. In fact I only had the one online one... \n\nObviously I am not the most socially succesful guy, but the past years I made progress:\n\n- Lost weight (less than 1 kg to get my BMI under 25, that's pretty cool).\n- Went on my first date(s) last year.\n- Bought a car.\n- Got an okay financial situation.\n\nGetting along with friends, coworkers, familiy and random people is no problem. It's just that on date-like situation my personal pecularities are more likely to show as \"odd\". Perhaps this is just some lingering insecurity.\n\nBesides all that: this is at my job. I plan on leaving before I turn 25, but still possibly a bad idea?", "summary": "I have no idea what I'm doing. Is asking a girl you have only spoken to a few times at work a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3twexk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] My girlfriend [21/f] versus my family?", "post": "With the holidays coming up, and our first year together, me and my girlfriend want to be together as much as possible. We've made it a plan to go to this christmas event in town on a Saturday but I was told my extended family is having the yearly traditional christmas party on the same day. My dad is very adamant on being a family and the party has been a tradition for years before I met my girlfriend last year. I told my girlfriend we could go to the event on the opening day on the friday, but was told my only baby nephew is having a christmas play/performance that night at 7. My girlfriend does not want to go to the christmas event anymore and is really upset that shes \"last priority\" and I told her this is family. There are other instances where I had to choose her over some other family events and stuff and I can tell my parents are not totally happy depending on what events are happening. I'm stuck between making my family happy and her happy, but she always wants to be first priority and says I should love her more than my family. I'm confused on what to do, I feel like it's very rude of her to be like that since family is family and they're blood and mean a lot to me. But I also really love her, and if I lose her, I literally lose a big chunk of my life, as well losing the best girl ever.", "summary": "Girlfriend likes to be first priority sometimes over my family"}
{"id": "t3_ntjyx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it wrong to think that one of my friends from college can do MUCH better than his current girlfriend?", "post": "I have a friend who wasn't able to return to our college due to financial reasons (my school is not cheap at all) and is finishing his degree back in his home state. He's now in a relationship with this girl that I personally believe is way below is league. I feel like an asshole, because she is probably super sweet, but I just feel like he could do better. I have not said a thing to him obviously, but I'm trying to figure out if what I'm thinking/feeling is inherently wrong. The chances of me meeting her are slim to nothing, but to think about what his other friends from our school would say if they realized, it makes me worried. (Yes I know this makes them not good friends)\n\nPersonally, I think she his overweight and maybe a 4 on a good day - he seems to have actually dropped weight (and he was in shape already) and I think most girls would give him a 7-8. I realize I'm judging her solely on looks, but I feel like he's settled. We're seniors, and it hasn't been happening for long, but I just don't know if it's right or wrong for me to think this. Any suggestions?", "summary": "Friend from college is dating a girl I think is way below his \"league\" and that he could do better - haven't said anything, but I feel like an asshole. Is this wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2nx32l", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to I [M/24) support a woman [F/37] who has been abused?", "post": "I was with a woman last week. We had a good time like we do often. I've known she was abused by her ex a lot. She even has scars on her belly. Makes me so mad that someone did that to her on a regular basis.\n\nSo as were listening to music she requested Manic Street Preachers. She got emotional and started crying during 'If You Tolerate This Your Children Will Be Next' Apparently the scumbag used to put it on as he beat on her. Some sick threat to her child, who she swears he never touched. I asked her if she wanted me to turn it off and she said \"No please don't\" very sharply. She seemed to be trying to shake it off and I hugged her and she started crying on my shoulder. I told her that I was so sorry that she went through that and she pushed me and asked \"Why are you sorry? You've got nothing to be sorry about. Just wish it doesn't happen to me again.\"\n\nI was kind of at a loss here, no never experienced this kind of thing before. Did I do okay? What should I do differently?", "summary": "Woman I really care about was horribly abused, how can I support here through this?"}
{"id": "t3_g3ztf", "subreddit": "self", "title": "please help, i feel like a terrible person.", "post": "Long story short, I got a $6000 tuition refund from my university. I told my mom that the actual deposit was only for about $3000, since it was direct deposited I figured she would have no way of figuring out. She pays for my housing as well as my schooling. I used the other 3000 to pay off some of my immense credit card debt...anyways she found out about it today and I cannot put into words how terrible and embarrassed I feel. I can't even pay the money back to her because I'm taking 22 credit hours and have no time for a job. What should I do? I feel like my mom will never look at me the same ever again.", "summary": "i took $3000 from my mother thinking she wouldn't find out and have no way to pay it back."}
{"id": "t3_1e4z4l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/M), I'm not sure why but most the women I date love that I'm nice, hate that its easy for them.", "post": "I must preface this with where I'm at: one of the biggest party schools in the U.S. and one of the biggest portrayed hook-up cultures I have ever seen. I also do fall for some I date really quickly, so I get a bit more hooked at the beginning, but then mellow out really fast.\n\nI'll define \"nice:\" Actually taking women out on dates, being available, wanting to spend time with them, not ignoring them. Not letting petty shit bother me and letting them do them.\n\nWhenever I try to date women these days it seems like I'm torn between being the \"nice guy\" and being a gentlemen about things and being a complete douche. \n\nWhenever I'm a gentlemen, treat them well, take them out for drinks, and try to spend time with them they back way off. As soon as I pull the plug and back away they come back. As soon as I show lack of attention to them, they seem to try hard to get my attention back.\n\nFor example, one female friend who I've distanced myself from literally offered me sex (She is very attractive) if I would just take her out drinking with my friends. That's a bit of a red flag to me but the weird part is I ignore her for many reasons (one is she is a bit crazy at times and I just don't deal well with crazy) but she still throws herself at me.\n\nThe worst part is the women in my life I confide in tell me that's \"just how it works\" and \"play the game.\" So even though I'd love to spend time with someone I need to just make excuses and be busy 95% of the time? Then one day hang with them? That seems like one hell of a stupid game to me.\n\nQuestion: Should I just approach the dating scene in this atmosphere as, well, not a dating scene? Act like a typical \"Douche\" and confident guy and walk away?", "summary": "Nice guy doesn't work, confident douche who doesn't care does. What should I do when I'm looking for something more serious?"}
{"id": "t3_4s3zva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] been seeing [20 F] for just over a month, need help understanding relationship", "post": "I've been talking to this girl for just over a month now. We have been working together at a fast food place for about a year now and we have always been kinda just work friends where we say hi to each other and maybe talk every now and then during work. \n\nI would really appreciate some help in understanding how my relationship is going. Is my relationship progressing at a normal rate, is everything I'm going through the usual stuff for a relationship of this length? I really enjoy spending time with this girl so I guess I'm happy but I'm seeking an outside opinion. \n\nI have a legit problem with overthinking things, so maybe that is whats happening here. Within the last week or so I have started noticing some of her tendencies, such as her always judging what I say, never wanting to ask to hangout and instead waiting for me to ask, and every now and then she sends me low effort texts(IMO atleast) like \"ahahah yeah!\" and \"looool true\". \n\nI know that for a relationship to be successful you need to be able to accept your partners faults... however I just feel like I'm putting in a lot more effort than she is. \n\nI know this last part is a bit selfish... but atleast what some of my friends have told me my relationship sexually with this girl is apparently really far behind. After just over a month with this girl all we have done is make out and feeling out and rubbing all over eachothers bodies. We havent done anything sexual yet. Are my friends wrong in thinking that this is far behind where we should be?\n\nI think this is another problem of how I am approaching the relationship. I feel like I always expect the nights to end in an intimate experience. I think this is the wrong approach.. but I don't know how to get the thoughts out of my mind. Maybe its because I've never had a sexual experience before so I'm just really excited and anxious, but the times I enjoy the most with this girl are the times where we just chill, spend time together and talk... not the makeouts and whatever.\n\nThanks for reading guys :-)", "summary": "Been seeing a girl for just over a month, unsure if relationship is progressing at normal speed, need help dealing with her tendencies."}
{"id": "t3_12tblq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend wants to go to Thailand for a month to visit an old fuck buddy. Reddit, would you let your significant other do this?", "post": "We have been dating for 3 months, and been getting serious. A week in he dropped the bomb on me that he was going to Thailand in January and told me he \"wanted to have fun\". I was not cool at all with that, but since we were new I just went along with it. A month later I brought it up, and told him I did not feel comfortable with him staying with his old fuck buddy and traveling all over Thailand with her. He assured me he would never cheat on me, but he was going no matter what. I didn't bring it up again until a couple weeks later. This time I told him I would really like to go with him. He told me he would love for me to go but I had to pay for my own ticket. I'm way too broke, so I knew there was no way I would be able to go. I didn't really mention how much the trip bugged me, because when I did I would get upset and he would say, \"It's months away, don't stress out. We'll talk about it when it gets closer to January.\"\nSo this morning I casually brought up the situation to some friends at work, and they flipped. They told me I had to talk to him ASAP about it. It's been upsetting me all day. We've been getting more and more serious and I honestly think it will be a deal breaker for me if he decides to go. I have no idea how to bring it up since we haven't talked about it in a month. The last thing he said was he wasn't sure he wanted to go because of the 19 hour flight. I'm afraid if I make an ultimatum that its either me or Thailand it will make me seem like a bitch. What should I do?", "summary": "boyfriend wants to go see an old fuck buddy, I do not approve."}
{"id": "t3_35ffyd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pretty much dancing in front of my teacher", "post": "***This a a re-post due to changing accounts*** \n\nSo pretty much what happened was:\nMy friend always gets me food for break (in high school), why? No idea. Just a thing that started happening, anyway. He bought me milk and a doughnut (donut for US) and I got the milk and put it where my fly should be and I went to my band room like that. After getting there I made everyone laugh and then I started laughing and the milk carton went down my leg. Everyone laughed more while I was hoping around the room, kicking my other leg trying to get this milk carton out. I had my back to the door and while I was fucking around my teacher came in and as he did the milk slipped out. I picked it up and turned to leave the room and then I saw him looking quite confused. He asked me \"What are you doing?\" to which I held up the carton of milk and replied \"My water got stuck somehow\" and swiftly left the room knowing I had fucked up and looked like a dumbass...", "summary": "A milk carton slipped down my leg and I tried to get it out in a 'awkward' way on purpose while my teacher had walked into the room and stood there watching me."}
{"id": "t3_35jk5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] found out bfs [22m] of 5 years most visited website is a BBW porn site. Asked him about it, awkwardness and anger occurred. What should I do??", "post": "Today I was on my bfs desktop opening a new tap to look for a calorie counting site to help me lose weight. When u opened the tab it showed his most visited sites.  One of them was a BBW porn site, the thumbnail was a big naked woman. Now I'm not a skinny girl by any means. But these women were morbidly obese. He was lying in the bed next to me and I calmly said. \"Oh one of ur top sites is a BBW site, I know u like bigger girls, it's that the type of porn u watch?\"\n\nNow reddit we have been together for 5 years and we are really open with each other. He knows my type of porn is hentai and bondage stuff, he watched and read some of it with me. So I was really caught off guard by his reaction. He totally shut down on me, told me to leave him alone and do what I had to do on  the computer and not to ask him about it. His tone was really cold and rude.  I said okay and that I didn't mean to upset him and that I hope he could eventually talk to me about because I would like to know. He didn't respond and went and laid down. \n\n For the rest of the day he wouldn't speak to me and eventually just slept for 3 hours with me just playing games on my phone and DS. I had plans tonight with my mom so I finally told him I had to leave and woke him up. He just looked at me and then rolled over and ignored me. 20mins later I told him again and he just looked  at me again and didn't respond.  So I got up and left. He just texted me asking why I left in such a rush and am always so nosey? \n\nSo I am at a loss here. I was thinking i should just drop it, maybe he was embarrassed. But he knows all my kinks and fetishes I don't understand why he reacted the way he did. What should I do? Should I try talking to him about it and his response?", "summary": "discovered BBW porn site was one of bfs most visited sites. Asked him about it, he told me to leave him and alone and ignored me for the rest of the day. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1rp5zg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If a girl keeps telling you she wants to meet, but then keeps flaking out every time you plan to meet up, is she actually interested?", "post": "So I met this girl at a party, she's really cute and really nice, and she seemed genuinely interested in hanging out with me. Cut to 2 months later, and every plan that we've made (she initiating most of them) has ended in her flaking out with some excuse (and sometimes not even that, just no contact on the day), followed a few days later by a text saying she still really wants to hang out and is really sorry. Is she actually keen on hanging out, or is she leading me on with no intention of actually hanging out?", "summary": "I do not understand women at all"}
{"id": "t3_4e3byw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a drunk shower.", "post": "So during the very early hours of the morning ~2:00a.m. I came back to my dorm after a party super drunk. Decided to take a warm relaxing shower. So since my drunk ass can barely stand I sit down and enter this meditation type state. When I do this meditation like thing I stay awake but I cant hear anything and I pay no attention to literally anything. So finally I decide to get out of the shower and my roommate is there yelling at me that I flooded the room. I go out and I realize that my drunk ass was on the drain so there was water about a cm high on our floor. So I had to for about 30 mins use all my towels and clothes to try to soak up the water. Now it has been 12 hours and our floor is still damp, and because I used my all my clothes and towels to clean it up I have been doing so much laundry today to clean all the dirty clothes I have created. I have used probably about 15 bucks on laundry today FML.", "summary": "Sat on drain the of the shower and flooded my dorm and I have to do an expensive amount of laundry because of it."}
{"id": "t3_2tz0oh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21 F] painfully shy and terrible at making friends.", "post": "I have a couple of friends that I've known for years, and I'm really close to them, and I live with my boyfriend, but I started university recently and have made no new good friends. There are a few girls that I will say Hi to if I see them, and would probably sit with them if I saw them before a lecture, but we haven't even exchanged numbers and have never seen each other outside of university.\n\nWhen I'm one-to-one with someone I'm much better: I can be myself, joke around and have fun. I'm actually quite a fun person. But when I'm in a group of new people/people I don't know well I feel so ridiculously self-concious, sometimes I just want the ground to swallow me up. \n\nI find it near impossible to join new societies/clubs. I've tried, made it so far as paying for a membership to the hiking society (I enjoy hiking) but haven't picked up my membership card and haven't been on any hikes! \n\nI feel kind of ashamed that I'm not part of a group. People keep talking about their friends and how they're glad they met all these new people in first term, and how friends are great to study with. I'm embarrassed that I don't have that. I usually sit alone in lectures (which is okay by me, as I am usually awkward when talking to people anyway) but I feel like people are judging me for being a loner.\n\nI know the kinds of things I should be doing: joining societies, starting hobbies etc, but actually DOING those things is so hard for me. I've been THINKING about getting counselling through the university for months and haven't acted. I suffered from depression/anxiety for years before going to the doctors and getting anti-depressants (which I am still on).\n\nIf anyone has been in a similar situation and has any advice for me, I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "I'm shy and awkward and a bit of a loner, and I don't know how to make myself change."}
{"id": "t3_2c9o7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f22) ex (m26) followed and tweeted at my friend (f24) I was going no contact with but that made me confront him", "post": "First off this is my personal account and my ex uses reddit. I don't care if he sees this. (i just wanted to say that because everyone says the opposite lol) Am I in the wrong for caring who he talks to after he dumped me? \n\nI got dumped about 3 weeks ago, thought remaining in contact would work since we've known each other 8 years, terrible idea go no contact 2 weeks later because I couldn't get over him still sleeping with him... told him I'd try to talk to him in a month or two, he said talk to you in a few months.\n\nTwo days pass, I look on twitter seeing he is tweeting at my friend who I've been friends with 8 years also. Thankfully she replied and said to swerve. I immediately without thinking text him and say \"can you not try to f**k my friends? kthnxbai\" and then called him crying expressing how messed up that is and he was like \"Well, it got your attention.\" Yeah and it also made me cry thanks douchebag. \n\nThis is my same friend who had to tell him it would be inappropriate to hang out with him after she asked him if he was with me and he said yeah, but its complicated. This was in November 2013 the first time he tried to get with her. \n\nI just wish he knew boundaries. Sure we have mutual friends, but she is not one of them. \n\nHow can I keep myself from creeping on him? I have him blocked on every social media outlet, but still can't fight the urge to look. I really want to overcome this breakup. I've dealt with so much emotional abuse and I want to be okay again, but I always run back because he always has the right things to mend my broken heart.", "summary": "i cant stop creeping on my ex and saw he tweeted at my friend that hes tried to get with in the past, both times being denied. was going no contact failed after 2 days because i called/texted him about the tweet now I am mad at myself and want to figure out a way to not look at his public posts."}
{"id": "t3_2gvpo9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/M) Desperately need to stop having feelings for (twentysomething/f) who is hopelessly out of my league.", "post": "Yeah, I didn't think to ever ask what age she was, but she's definitely somewhere around my age. \n\nI live in a uni town and hang out a lot with the local rock music society. Recently my anxiety has gotten far worse, and tonight I decided because I'm having a relatively good day that I'd properly go out for the first time in an age. However, a girl who I have had feelings for pretty much since I met her last year is also back in town (she's at the uni as well, so obviously she's been away for the summer). We're friends, but I've never spoken to her about my feelings. It's pointless. She's beautiful, smart, she lights up the room, creative, funny, and far kinder to me than I could ever possibly deserve. I'm ugly, I have aspergers and anxiety, so I'm retarded and insane, I'm generally not good with social situations, I try to be a good person but have one hell of a temper problem especially when it teams up with my frequent paranoia problems, the only thing we have in common is that we're both interested in nerdy stuff, and I'm also a creative type. \n\nBut despite the complete illogical-ness of my attraction to her considering it'll only end in me being upset, and her being disgusted that something so repulsive was attracted to her, and my entire friend circle laughing at me for once again failing to be a decent, functional human being, I keep having feelings for her. I even removed her facebook posts from my feed so I wouldn't see her over the summer. I've tried everything I can think of, but I just can't stop having feelings for her, even though I should morally.\n\nNow I'm worried about going out tonight in case I see her and begin the inevitable thought process of trying to remind myself why she would never go for me, making myself feel terrible just to try and stop having feelings for her.", "summary": "I need to stop having feelings for a girl I have no chance with."}
{"id": "t3_1fapkz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a hot shower", "post": "Today is quite hot where I live and, after my workout I really needed to take a shower.\nNo problem so far.  I shampoo and rinse, thinking I am done and ready to leave. I rub over my head just to realize that I left a spot behind my ear still foamy. This is where the fuck up happened. Being lazy and not wanting to move I try to turn the water back on while pressing against the wall of my shower. \nNow, to avoid turning into an ice cube I turn the temperature knob quickly and without a second thought all the way to the warm side.\nThis turned out to be a bad idea. Because now the water is steaming hot and runs over most of my body; turning my chest into the color of a well done lobster and burning my balls. The pain was immediate and sharp; the right side of my bollocks turns into a deep red, almost filling the air with the smell of hard boiled eggs.\nI now sit on the couch, my legs wrapped around a nice cold bottle of water. Ouch!", "summary": "So that's what getting a BJ from a Dragon feels like."}
{"id": "t3_1kglj5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] \"cheated\" on girlfriend [19/f], she forgave me, i feel obligated to stay with her?", "post": "We've been together about a year. Around the 3-month mark, I was staying somewhere with friends, including a very short-term ex (who happens to be a male), and one night, I woke up to him holding me and trying to do something sexual.\n\nI know it was wrong of me to not push him off, but I was a pussy and didn't want to hurt his feelings (we were still friends), so after a long time of him wanting to get something, my biological instincts responding positively (I was hard), I muttered, \"go for it\" and he blew me.\n\nI told my girlfriend the next day and she later told me she cried twice after we hung up. But after lots of apologizing and even the guy consoling me, saying he abused(/lightly raped???) me, she forgave me and our relationship was fine again, around two weeks later.\n\nBut a month after the incident, my girlfriend broke up with me, and I asked if it had to do with the incident and she said she's not sure. But she wanted to keep in touch and a few weeks later, we're back together.\n\nBut now, I'm considering breaking up with her (oh god it'll be tough), but because she forgave me for the incident, I'd feel horrible to end it. But it'd be beneficial for her, too, I think she's just too afraid of losing me to break up with me.", "summary": "She forgave me for a confusing \"cheating\" incident, but now I think we should break up; I feel like I owe her. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_1at4mo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F26] adopt a cat and one of my roomates [M25] turns out to be allergic, he wants me to get rid of the cat, i don't. What's our half way?", "post": "Me: [F26]\nDonald: [M28]\nRichard: [M25]\n\nAs the title says, I [F26] adopt a cat one month ago. I've move out from my sister house (you could read it in my username) cause i'm bisexual, all of my family stop talking to me (till now) and i end up alone looking for an apartment.\n\nI ask one of my friends (let's call him Donald) to move out with me [M28] he's such a great guy, we found a great place but we needed another person to rent it, he ask one of his friends (let's call him Richard) to move in with us. The lease it's on my name.\n\nSo we all move in together and everything was \"fine\" untill i adopt a cat. Her name it's Pippi and it's the best cat ever :) she's sweet and i feel so great when i'm with her, after everything i've been through it's soo great to get home with my baby girl :)\n\nDick told me that he's allergic to cats so i left Pippi stay only in my room and never leave it, but yesterday he told me that he want's the cat out cause he can't take it anymore. I understand that he's allergic but my cat never leave the room, not even to poop (she has everything in my room) so i don't believe that she could create such a big problem if she never leaves the room.\n\nI don't wanna get rid of Pippi just because he ask me to, that's my house too, but i also don't wanna \"put myself in that position\" where it's him or my cat. Does anyone else knows any way we could solve this without get rid of my cat or him to leave?", "summary": "I adopt a cat and one of my roomates it's allergic, he want's me to get rid of the cat but i don't want, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_wxruy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] my girlfriend[17/F]'s parents found out we had sex. Help?", "post": "First post, some background:\n\nWe've been in a relationship for about 7 months now, and the physical aspect of it didn't start until about 5 months in. She's always been innocent, as in never done anything in her life sexually. As for me, I wasn't a virgin going into the relationship, messed around with a lot of people before. However, I was completely fine not doing anything for those 5 months, then one day we started doing regular teenage things with our bodies. (not sex.) Things progressed from there, and the past couple weeks we've been having great, regular sex, my parents being out of town and her sleeping over at my house while telling her parents she was somewhere else.\n\nWell, today she calls me and tells me that her parents know everything that's been going on. Her dad is very uptight, strict, etc; and he and I were pretty cool before this all happened. One of those intimidating \"you-want-my-daughter-go-through-me\" type of guys, but we hit it off okay. Her mom is also like that, but less so in that she isn't aggressive. (I should also mention her dad was in the hospital for high blood pressure a few weeks ago.) \n\nAnyway, what should I do? Our relationship likely won't ever be the same again, but it was the healthiest I've ever had with a person. Her parents hate me, and I'm going to college in a month or so, is this just the right time to break things off? We've talked and we'd still be friends, of course, but it's pretty rough. Do I continue the relationship and make it hard on her because of her parents? Or should I try to patch things up with them so I can even show my face around their neighborhood? (Unlikely.)\n\nHelp!", "summary": "She lied to her parents, we had sex, her parents found out/hate me, do we break it off or attempt to make it better?"}
{"id": "t3_4g2ed6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] don't value myself unless I can sleep with a woman", "post": "To preface my current situation I'd like to make mention several things about myself that I find may help.\n\nI am a competitive ballroom dancer and have been so for 6 years. I'm also an extremely active person who lifts weights to give myself a muscular physique. I love to speak other languages and am becoming a certified medical interpreter this summer.\n\nThe above is worth mentioning because these are things I take great pride in due to how much effort it has taken me to achieve this.\n\nThe following is what is wrong with me.\n\nI can't stop thinking I'm not sexually appealing to women, more specifically, women I find attractive. I'm decently attractive  (I think) and really just want to feel like I'm worth something to someone, I want to be able to whore myself out to feel that validation.\n\nTonight I went out with my friends to a concert and I had some small talk with a cute girl on the bus on the way there. I cracked a few jokes and both of our groups were a big lost and we walked together. At the concert we saw each other again and we ended up grinding for a while and eventually when she saw a friend of mine she just grabbed him and left.\n\nMy confidence has taken a hit, I just want to feel valued as sexual person and I can't do that when I can't get a hookup. I've almost always at least been dating to be having sex and I don't want that commitment of a relationship either since I like to dedicate a lot of time to my studies and that'd be unfair to a potential gf to ignore her.\n\nI'm deeply saddened and overall feel defeated when it comes to hooking up with girls. Getting a relationship and sex is easy but that's not what I'm looking for. My self worth has reached a new low. \n\nHowever, I'm a naturally outgoing guy and always cheerful and confident (thanks to dance) and don't let these emotions show in public.\n\nI want to feel like a man.", "summary": "can't get a hookup, feel shit about myself, want to feel like a man . Help/advice"}
{"id": "t3_255uhq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18m] help my good friend [21f] feel comfortable with who she is?", "post": "Hey guys and gals, long time lurker here. I was hoping you could give me some advice.. This will probably seem fairly minor compared to most things posted here, but it's important to me. I often have a hard time putting my thoughts into words, but I'll do my best.\n\nOne of my closest friends is a girl I met a couple years ago - we were both lifeguards at a summer camp and got along really well. Our relationship is purely platonic (I have had feelings for her, but not enough to risk our friendship over telling her. But that's a story for another time).\n\nHere's the thing - she's on the quiet side and is fairly reserved around most people. She places a high regard on what others think of her. A month or so ago, she confided in me that she has always been afraid of what people think of her, but that she's trying to improve. I see who she is when it's just us two, and it's a beautiful thing. She has a very vibrant, joyful personality and always makes me smile. But when there are other people around, she retreats into her shell again. I want to show her that she's a beautiful person and that she shouldn't be ashamed of who she is.\n\nAny thoughts or advice on how I can support her? She means a lot to me, and it hurts to see her hold back out of fear of what others think.\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "Amazing person, scared of what others think of her, want to help her out of her shell."}
{"id": "t3_2yky35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Gf[23 F] 1 year and a half, Proposal Idea?", "post": "We are both homebodies but this week is the week I am doing it. I am thinking take her out for a hike since this weekend is supposed be really nice out just kinda a mini-road trip. Then when we get home make some dinner and some homemade ice cream (She is obsessed with ice cream, has to have it a couple times a week) then when making it put it in the freezer and make sure there is a swirl on top. Once its frozen put the ring around the swirl and give it to her. Is that a good idea for two people who don't go out much? Or should I do more?", "summary": "Ring on top of the ice cream swirl?"}
{"id": "t3_34rf97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my SO [23M] of two years, what do you think about starting close relationships with people of the opposite sex after you started dating?", "post": "My amazing boyfriend works as a server at a high end restaurant. His coworkers are all partiers, we are not. He frequently complains about all of his coworkers and their morals.\n\nApparently these two girls who he used to work with came into the restaurant and started a conversation with him. I have never met them. My boyfriend has started going out for coffee with just the two of them. I've never been invited. \n\nI'm feeling a little jealous. He has said that in the past, he was friends with mostly girls because he liked the affection girls give. Which leads me to believe that's the reason why he wants to hang out with them. I had never even heard about them before at all, which makes me wonder why he is pursuing them as friends. Apparently they have some of the same interests, though. With one of the girls in particular. \n\nBF also said at one point that he wants to have some separate friends. Which I know is healthy, but I feel excluded, and that he doesn't want me around these girls for some reason. We have friends that we are both friends with, of both genders. Why are these girls so different?\n\nHow would you feel? If I'm crazy, just tell me :) I'll work on it. I haven't brougjt this up with him, as I feel like it's my job to own and work on my insecurities. He doesn't have many dude friends.\n\nI'm afraid that my past experiences of SO's cheating is clouding my judgement. I'm also afraid to let him know I'm insecure about this. \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend has two girls he is friends with, I'm never invited to come along. Scared my insecurities are making me weird!"}
{"id": "t3_1paesw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my wife [26 F] married for 3 years, she went on a double date type thing.", "post": "My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think.", "summary": "Wife went out with a friend,a nerd, and a homosexual. Two were male. Twas not the friend."}
{"id": "t3_xafw9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst day ever?  I'll start, because I just had mine.", "post": "I went to work and had set up and interview for my fiances little brother with my manager.  Manager forgot.  Little brother shows up and asks for manager, is told by bartender that she won't be in until 5, and she'll be in tomorrow morning at 10 if he wants to come back then.  I tell manager later in the evening that he was there, and asked if she wanted him to come back in the morning like the bartender said.  Manager gets pissed that bartender said this, bitches out bartender and throws \"katelynroxx said\" in there.  Bartender comes back to find me to scream in my face about how I'm a lying little bitch etc. etc.  Over and over again she yelled at me, and she's lucky I was so tired or I would have hit her.  It's my fiances birthday today, and he decided to go to a bar that is owned by my cousins that I don't get along with (giant family feud) so I'm not allowed in.  My neighbor calls and asks if I need beer because he's at the store.  I didn't know what time my fiance was getting home so I asked him to grab me a 12 pack.  Fiance gets home and I ask him if he wants to go next door with me for a beer.  He flips the fuck out saying we only do things that I want to do and he never gets to do what he wants to do (just got back from the bar I'm banned from, mind you)  Then he proceeded to bitch at me for never \"wanting\" to spend time with him.  I work 50 hours a week, 6 days a week, and go to school full time because I'm trying to make my/our lives better.  I have a 3.9 GPA and have worked my ass off to have that, and get bitched at for it.  My only day off is Tuesday and he chooses to go shooting (which I hate, so I don't go) every Tuesday.  Who's not spending time with whom now?", "summary": "Almost quit my job, not sure if I'm going tomorrow, can't go to bar with fiance to celebrate his birthday, get screamed at for having a job and a 3.9 GPA."}
{"id": "t3_1y4kf2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am unhealthily attached to my boyfriend [21M] of 2 years and find it hard to forgive his brief unfaithfulness.", "post": "At the beginning of our relationship, we would be around each other almost all the time, if not skyping together through the day and in our sleep. It was my first relationship with a boy, and I had no expectation on what it should have been like. A few months in, he went to study abroad and although we continued to skype, his less verbose affections made me insecure and doubtful about how long the relationship would last.  \nI started to get clingy as he started to contact me less frequently. Too proud to text him first, I'd check my phone obsessively to see if he messaged me, and cancelled plans with friends in case he would want to skype. There was an entire week where he hadn't contacted me, but I knew he was in a place where wifi was hard to come by and tried, with great difficulty, not to think too much of it.  \nWhen he came back, he admitted that in that week he had developed a sort of relationship with another girl, but that they had just gone as far as making out, and that he was hesitant to leave me for her. My first reaction was apologetic. I had thought that my insecurities pushed him away and that he thought I didn't take our relationship seriously. Anger followed in the next few years, but I am still with him today in a relatively happy and progressing relationship.  \nIt's been a little less than 2 years since then, but I still find myself feeling really shitty when he doesn't text me, and always look over that one incident and want to leave him. Of course my mind immediately changes after we talk, but swaying back and forth from being angry at him and being so attached to him is making me even more insecure and depressed.  \nI doubt he has cheated on me since. He rarely leaves the house to hang out with others, and lately has been busy with school. But that doesn't stop me from feeling insecure.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "2 years since bf's brief unfaithfulness, still very clingy around him and insecure about it"}
{"id": "t3_3rx4ko", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Almost did something very foolish.", "post": "Like everyone else, I've been waiting for the new Fallout game for ages. Was bummed to hear that it wasn't going to be out for the", "summary": "I'm an idiot but I did good this time."}
{"id": "t3_2jcawb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with girl I'm dating [19 F] 2 weeks, compatible on some areas then extremely incomparable in others", "post": "Hello everyone, first time posting here and on my phone, sorry in advance.\n\nSo my dilemma is I've been seeing this girl (19F) for about 2 weeks, I think she's pretty into me, she said \"I think I'm falling for you.\" Like on the second date.\n\nWe get along pretty well except for that she's extremely afraid of anything uncomfortable. She won't swim in water with fish in case they touch her feet, only eats hamburgers, pasta (no sauce) and only certain kinds of chicken. Extremely picky eater. Also can't drive due to getting in a car accident when younger.\n\nI think this behavior is due to a very sheltered and protected childhood. I'm very into the outdoors, I go kayaking, surfing, diving, camping, climbing, the works. We haven't gotten too far in the bedroom, though we have gone farther than she ever has. (Grinding and frenching, no boob, clothes stay on) she was very hesitant to kiss me because she doesn't want to get hurt. It's really not the physical part I'm concerned about though.\n\nReddit, I guess what I'm asking is if I should keep seeing her and hope she becomes more open to trying new things or if I should stop seeing her. Honestly as she is right now, she is not what I want in a woman.\nI apologize if this is difficult to read or if I come off as a selfish person, I just thought I'd put my situation out their and see what's extended family has to offer. I know this is probably a very stupid situation compared to the situations others post here, but she and I share similar friends and I'd like to go about this in the most gracefully way possible", "summary": "adventurous guy dating a sheltered inexperienced girl doesn't want to hurt her or drag out what may be a dead end relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4r7ye1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] girlfriend [24F] of three years saw a text message between myself and a friend[M] where we were talking provacatively about another female.", "post": "To give some background, I am currently in grad school where a lot of my time with the same thirty people Monday through Friday and weekends are usually spent studying. That being said it has definetly put a strain on my relationship because I can't spend the time I want or my girlfriend deserves. (She is however coming around and becoming more understanding)\n\nFast forward to a couple days ago, I was studying with a friend[M] and a classmate[F] of mine and toward the end my classmate  made a comment about a vibrator and hooking up with another girl. Later that day I was texting my friend and we starting talking about how my classmate talked about a vibrator. To quote he said he 'popped a chubb' and I said I 'jizzed my pants'; obviously a joke.(Yes... we are adults and yes... we are in a docturate program..No...we are not mature.)\n\nLater that day I find out that my friend's girlfriend logged onto his iMessage on her computer, screenshot the conversation, and decided to send that to my girlfriend. It doesn't help that the classmate my friend and I were talking about is attractive and not liked by the girlfriends in the first place. My girlfriend is now very hurt and will barely talk to me, feels as if I am untrustworthy and 'wont look at me the same'.I have never once cheated on her nor given her a reason to feel as if I did, but I image spending all day with classmates and practicing my 'hands-on' profession does help the situation.  Can I chalk this one up as just 'guy talk' and try and tell her its not that big of a deal? Should I be concerned at the fact that that was a invasion of privacy? Do I have the right to be upset? or am I in the complete wrong for talking like that? Little confused and not sure how to handle the situation.", "summary": "My friend's girlfriend sent a screenshot of a conversation I was having with her boyfriend after secretly logging onto his iMessage. The conversation was somewhat of a provocative conversation about another girl. How to handle the fact my girlfriend is pretty upset right now."}
{"id": "t3_3e1g57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my long-distance boyfriend [18M] of 1 year want to meet up but my mother dismisses it as immaturity", "post": "Sean and I met via an MMORPG, and dated after a few months of back and forth awkward flirting, stuff like that. We met up for the first time in September last year (he flew over to my country and we aren't actually that far from each other, ~1 hour trip)\nSince then, he has flown over every 2-3 months for about 3 days on average. Because our cultures frown upon teenagers dating, I usually told my parents I was meeting up with my friends for the day. \n\nTo clarify, I only hang out with him during the day and go back at home at night. About 3 months ago, we decided that I should fly over instead, because 1) it's getting increasingly expensive for him, 2) his family wants to meet me for real, and 3) we wanted more personal space during our limited time together. Here's the problem. I have already planned out the itinerary, arranged flight tickets and lodging for both of us, since it's cheaper to book/cancel early. My mother simply *refuses* to entertain the thought of me going to see a supposed stranger in a different country, although said country is an hour away. The trip is supposed to be in early September.\n\nI understand her thinking, as my previous relationship did not end so well, but I want to prove to her that I am mature enough to do this alone. She believes that I do not understand what love entails, and that it is only puppy love. It might be, but I sincerely want to give it my best shot. I adore my BF and his brothers, and would like to see them face-to-face at least once. Any starting steps? I'm willing to add on details if asked.", "summary": "Long-distance relationship, my parents will not let me go overseas alone as they believe I am too immature. I have about 1 month to convince them."}
{"id": "t3_pwmet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is your \"What are the chances?\" or seemingly improbable story?", "post": "Tell me your story in which the chances of it happening were extremely unlikely. Was it a series of decisions that lead to an improbable outcome? Was it meeting someone you hadn't seen for years? Was it an abnormal decision that saved your or someone else's life?\n\nI will start:\n\nRoad trips were very common for my work and they were usually about 5 hours of almost continuous driving in one day. Normally, I would always take shotgun, but this time I decided to be nice and give it to my coworker. I also never fall asleep on these trips but this time I decided to take a nap. This time, I decided to just slouch in my seat and sleep isntead of lying down across the back seat as I normally do. \n\nHere come the fun part. The vehicle we were travelling in rolls over.\n\nBoth the person in shotgun and I had fallen asleep, leaving the driver by himself. I was the only one who sustained physcial injuries, mainly due to the seat in the vehicle I had chosen to sit in. I also wonder if, had I stayed awake, I could have kept the driver entertained and engaged, so that this accident could have been avoided. If I had layed across the seats as I normally do while sleeping, I would have died.", "summary": "Series of unfortunate decisions leads to a car accident and physical injury, but a series of fortunate decisions saves my life. So many variables playing together that result in an odd experience. So reddit, what is your story?"}
{"id": "t3_4uz4u2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me 25 almost 26 and 10 years of not loving", "post": "how do i truly love again? Almost 10 years ago my first ever girlfriend lied and dumped me after saying i love you. I realized much later that she broke up with me because i was young and clingy. Ever since her every relationship ive been in has been a mess. almost every girl has told me they love me and it forces me to say i love you back when i dont really mean it. the only 2 girls i loved after her ended up leaving me or i thought i loved i left them before i felt like i was being trapped or suffocated and had to run. im just tired of all the running and not wanting to feel hurt again but i dont know how to truly love after all these years", "summary": "how to love again"}
{"id": "t3_20lrd2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my husband [24M] Am I asking too much of my husband?", "post": "My husband works full-time in the Air Force and I am fortunate enough to not have to work. We have a 7 month old who needs lots of attention. Basically I want to know if I'm asking too much of him to help me out around the house and with the baby. I do everything in my house and I do mean everything. I go up and beyond for him to have a nice home and dinner when he comes home. I ask him daily for any help that he can give. Wash the dishes once in a while, hold the baby when he's crying and I can't get to him, take out the trash, not leave a mess for me to clean up the next day- and he doesn't do a thing. He says he will start helping out more but he blows it off. The only time I actually got through to him was when I threatened to leave him because I had just given birth and was doing everything myself while he sat and played games. Now I realize he comes home exhausted from work and I sympathize, but taking care of a baby, a house and a dog is work too. Am I being too hard on him? Should I just suck it up? I can't imagine the rest of my life like this, especially if we have another child.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_g85e5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm finding myself becoming more and more misogynistic, based entirely on my interactions with women. It's working for me. What are your thoughts?", "post": "The only relationship with a woman I respect is the one I have with my mother. She's consistent in the way she treats me. It's a mutual love and respect, like any healthy person has with his/her mother.\n\nNow, to explain my post better. I realize the stupidity of title. I realize that misogyny is a higher form of generalization. I realize that it's not based on logic, but just experience. I can't stop it though. I can't stop the way I think.\n\nI'm by no means a social outcast or not in contact with women. I'm apparently attractive (sounds really douchey). Every time I've treated female partners, coworkers, friends with respect and politeness general niceness, I get walked all over. They're never, never, reciprocal relationships. As soon as I started treating girls like shit, with disrespect/generally not giving a fuck about them, the dynamics changed. I don't wait for response I take complete control.\n\nMaybe I'm crazy, I don't know. Women of reddit, tell me in what situations you'd start treating a guy like shit/walking all over them or don't, I don't give fuck.\n\nThere's more to this but I can't be fucked typing more.", "summary": "I started treating women like shit and life got better. When ever I treated women with respect I was disrespected. The relationships were never reciprocal."}
{"id": "t3_4yytqz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I'm a recent grad with a degree in languages, can I get some advice on what fields or industries I should look at?", "post": "I just graduated with a BA in Romance Languages, specifically Italian and French. I know it's not the most useful degree but I love learning languages and I enjoyed college. Aside from translation or tourism jobs I heard it would also be useful for getting jobs in HR, sales, or the hotel industry. I live in a part of New York where we get French and Italian speaking tourists from Montreal and Toronto so I'm kind of leaning towards hotels/hospitality to start my job search. I have 5 years of shift supervision and inventory management experience, if there's a way to work that into selling myself better. I'd eventually want to move to a large corporation to translate or work internationally but most bigger companies require 3-5 years of interpreting experience before they'll even consider you for a spot like that.\n\nSo I guess the", "summary": "is: degree in languages, looking for advice on best job choices to build experience"}
{"id": "t3_555b4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] I really want to date this woman and don't how to go about it", "post": "It all started on the first week of college. Saw her in my class and was instantly attracted to her. Weeks go by and I never talk to her. Her name is Ashley\n\nI've been using Okcupid. There was a dominatrix at my school looking for slaves, so I hit her up. She invites me back to her dorm and has a friend with her. When I enter the room I see the hot girl I was attracted to, Ashley. Very crazy. It was a business transaction. So this dominatrix and Ashley were going to dominate me for money. It was supposed to happen but it never did. The dominatrix said she was too busy and that she didn't really want to do it or something, I really don't know.\n\nIn class Ashley says \"Hey\" to me, but sits a little further down from me instead of next to me. She now knows my fetishes, which I don't know if that is a good thing.\n\nSo I then ask Ashley if she wants to study sometime together, and she agrees. On the test day we have a little study session. Things went well. She then even sat next to me on the day of the test. I felt good, and felt a small connection.\n\nI WANT to date her. I don't want to be a creep. I don't even know if she has a boyfriend, it doesn't say so on her facebook. Oh yeah, became friends on facebook, she even follows me on instagram. Never likes me stuff though.\n\nI was thinking after class, asking if she would like to...get a drink sometime? Or is coffee better? I'd much rather have a drink. If I DO get a drink with her, should I pay for her drinks?\n\nShould I message her on facebook asking to go out? Or would it be better to ask in person? \n\nWhat is the next step?", "summary": "Want to date hot girl in my class, want to know what is the next step"}
{"id": "t3_3eeu9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 F] feel sexy enough to lap dance for my fiance [23M]?", "post": "Uhh sorry, this really embarrassing. So my question is how do I do it? I've done it once before, about a year ago, and just about died of embarrassment and couldn't finish. It's so stupid and frustrating for me because I am a former sex worker, I run a nsfw blog, a send him sexy pics, I have no problem with crazy sex and dirty talk, and this other shit, but a lap dance appears to be completely beyond me. \n\nI've looked up wikihow and YouTube clips, but I die in a puddle of embarrassment when ever I try to do it. We have the house to ourselves for entire week (our landlord is out of town for a whole week!) And I wanna make it special.", "summary": "Any advice on how to get confident enough for a lap dance?"}
{"id": "t3_49wwf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend[16 F] of 6 months, potential talk about jealousy", "post": "Hello, lets start with some \"names\".  My girlfriend's \"name\" is Megan, and my 2 friends involved are \"Julia\" and \"Hannah\"\n\nI hope to make this brief.  So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months, she is fabulous, our relationship is really great. However, I learned something today that I found slightly troubling.  Long story short, it seems my girlfriend doesnt like very much when I hang out with my two friends Julia and Hannah.  Today my gf was out of town for something school related, so I hanged with my two friends.  I always gave Megan info like \"yeah i think ima hang with Julia and Hanna when you're out of town\" and she usually says something like \"haha okay sounds good.\"  And I ask her \"you're fine with that right\" and she'd say \"With Julia? Ya of course.\" There has been a few times where like we'd go to Spot coffee and get some food together, always the 3 of us (Me, Julia, and Hannah). I have always believed Megan had not cared... until today.  \n\nToday Julia and Hannah told me that Megan isnt always very nice to them.  Such as, giving \"looks\" to them in the hall.  Or not saying Hi if they see each other.  Apparently Megan only says hello and stuff when Im with her.  Anyway, I never knew this.  As I said, Megan always seemed perfectly fine with me hanging out with my friends.  In addition, she has a good amount of guy friends, so its not like she doesnt understand..  I hang out with Megan a lot, just not ALL the time, I like hanging with friends too.\n\nIn the end, I would like to talk to Megan about this (In person, not text).  How can I bring this out without sounding like I am \"accusing\" her, I just wanna talk about their concerns.  Thanks, I cant be the only guy in history that has had this happen :P", "summary": "GF is probably jealous about me spending time with friends, friends feel slightly threatened by gf.  How can I bring this up to my GF?"}
{"id": "t3_3m5w9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anxiety in my relationship is interfering with my train of thought regarding school", "post": "Hey guys,  first timer here. I am here because over the course of [M 20]y 3 year relationship with my girl[F 21]riend, I have always felt anxious but in the beginning it was because my ex gave me reasons to be anxious.  My Girlfriend has always been calm and collected throughout our relationship, and while I have done my absolute best to try and over come my feelings of anxiousness throughout our relationship I have not gotten very far. \nWe are high-school sweet hearts and decided to stay committed to each other and carry on with a long distance relationship.  For two years my feelings of anxiety, and sadness have been prevalent but I managed to somehow move past all that for a good portion of the first year.  This year we had the opportunity to spend a good amount of time with each other, which I will remember forever.  But the day she left to go back to school,  I was devastated. Previously my anxiousness throughout the day was kept under control and I would feel calm.  \nSince she has left,  I find my self feeling frantic and checking my phone constantly to see if she has messaged me,  only to find nothing.  It doesn't help that her school schedule keeps her extremely busy throughout the week and weekend, leaving very little time for her to get a chance to call me for very long.  This past weekend I had one of the worst bouts of anxiety that I have ever had,  while she was out dressing up and going out celebrating her birthday.  Don't get me wrong,  I do trust her very much,  and she has not given me a reason not too, but just the thought of her going out with all these people and everyone drinking just makes me very uncomfortable.  I am very concerned because this constant worrying over her is starting to take a toll on my schooling,  I often find my self drifting off in into my thought during classes.  Does anyone have any sort of advice? Anything would be appreciated, thank you!", "summary": "Anxiety in my relationship is starting to interfere with my train of thought regarding school."}
{"id": "t3_1otdvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [21F] have a right to sell something that my ex [21M] of four years gave/sold me upon our breakup?", "post": "I had a breakup six months ago with my then-boyfriend of four years. Upon breaking up, we did the old breakup ritual of giving stuff back. He said I could keep a Takamine guitar he had been letting me use, and requested that I only send him a check for $25 for it. I did, I kept the guitar, and that was that.\n\nI thought we parted on good terms, but now we don't talk anymore as he broke off contact with me quite bitterly (he's somewhat emotionally unstable). I do play the guitar on a near daily basis. I don't know how much it's actually worth.\n\nThis week, I came home from college, and my best friend just out of the blue *gave* me--for free--a black Ibanez guitar that I absolutely LOVE. More so than the Takamine. For this reason, I'm thinking of selling the Tak--I really don't need two guitars, I could use a little extra money, and I think I have appropriate enough closure on the relationship that I could leave this part of it behind.\n\nMy problem is I don't know if it's acceptable to sell something that someone who you no longer have contact with gave you. If it's not acceptable, then I apologize if my question (or I) was rude in any way.", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend gave (sold) me a guitar, have recently acquired a better guitar and am thinking of selling the one he gave (sold) to me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lzpap", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My toddler is deliberately hurting herself. Does anyone have experience with this?", "post": "She's 16 months old and she's been doing this for a few months. Most of the time she purposefully hits her head against things, usually slams her forehead into the floor or sometimes a wall. Sometimes she hits herself with whatever she's holding.\n\nWhenever she does these things she starts to cry, sometimes her standard fake cry that I easily recognize, sometimes a genuine cry of hurt. Now, whenever she hurts herself on purpose I don't pick her up and cuddle her, I don't do anything to encourage this kind of behavior. I usually just say \"You're fine. Don't do that.\" Sometimes she continues to cry, other times she stops and goes back to whatever she was doing.\n\nI don't know why she does this. There doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to it most of the time. I give her lots of attention and play with her all the time. When she gets genuinely hurt by falling down or accidentally walking into something I do pick her up and cuddle her or pet her hair and comfort her. \n\nA lot of times she does it when she's mad, like when I've taken something from her that she's not supposed to have or if it's time for bed and she doesn't want to go to bed. But this is definitely not always why she does it, sometimes it's just out of nowhere.\n\nI don't want this behavior to transition into some other kind of unhealthy attention-seeking as she gets older, and if it's symptomatic of her needing something from me I want to know so I can do it.", "summary": "HALP! My baby is crazy!"}
{"id": "t3_416tyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] 1 year 3 months, is too clingy/sappy", "post": "Hello guys, first of all I wanna explain the kind of guy that I am. Im not that romantic or really expressive in terms of emotions, its because of my personality and a previous relationship where I was really affectionate but it wasn't reciprocated, is not that Im holding a grudge, is just that I feel that time of my life is over and I believe I can express my affection in more direct ways (actions, advice, hugging, kisses).\n\nMy girlfriend is more vocal in terms of that, to the point of calling me sappy names and telling me her feelings towards me every day. I liked it at first but it started feeling a little tiring and a little more like seeking a reaction out of me, reciprocating the words. Also, I feel that sometimes she misses me way too much.\n\nIm in love with her because of her strong really in your face personality that attracted me in the first place, also that she is a really independent person in terms of getting things done, but sometimes I feel that this person that I describe gets pushed aside by this really young girl.\n\nId like to talk to her about it but I dont want to hurt her feelings or that she goes all the way to the other side of just not being expressive anymore. Please your advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Gf too clingy/sappy, how can I talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_35r3mp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying the morning after pill.", "post": "Alright reddit. It happened yesterday. \n\nAfter an engaging night with my bf, I decided to take further precautions to reduce chances of pregnancy. Walked into Walgreens to the pharmacy counter and said I would like to purchase plan B. The young male clerk walked around the counter and got it from an aisle for me (oops didn't know I didn't have to go to the pharmacy for it), and then proceeded to ring me up. This is where I fucked up.\n\nAs he rang me up, I noticed those little packs of portable tissues were all along checkout counter and were on sale. Soo, as I've been suffering from allergies, I decided I was gonna splurge and said, \"Oh! I could definitely use these too!\" and threw like 6 packs onto the counter. Lmao the poor guy stared at me with a priceless look of horror and confusion on his face. I then realized what I'd done. It took all of what I had to not crack up laughing.", "summary": "Accidentally paired my purchase of the morning after pill and a ton of kleenex, which clearly freaked out the dude ringing me up"}
{"id": "t3_2sxfb9", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Here's how many seconds people spent looking at my CV", "post": "About a week ago I posted my CV in another, relevant subreddit, as I'm looking for a job. \n\nI used [DocSend] to host my CV so I can see how many vists it got and how much time each visitor spent looking at it.\n\nIn total,  I had 54 visits. Out of those 4 were registered as 0 seconds, possibly because of anti-tracking plugins or something. On the high end, there was one visit at 6 minutes 22 seconds. I eliminated that visit and the 0 second visits and calculated an average time spent per visit: **21 seconds.**\n\nWhat does this say? To me, it signals that CVs are mostly about appearances, not so much about substance, but you of course still need the necessary minimum qualifications such as education. I've seen other, more proper studies saying that hiring managers only give the average CV about a minute of their attention or so, so it's in line with those findings. (Most CVs, of course, are never even looked at.)\n\nWith that in mind, I think the guideline for designing a CV could be: \n\n* Keep it clean - lots of white space\n* Keep it brief\n* Format nicely\n* Choose a nice font\n* Proper, informational headers\n* Display your important qualifications with large font: Degrees, titles, schools\n\nThere are obviously a ton of things that makes this sample not representative -- too small sample size, not everyone that looked was actually interested in hiring etc. \n\nStill, it must mean something that they spent 21 seconds instead of say 5 minutes each, actually reading through the document.", "summary": "21 seconds on average."}
{"id": "t3_2l95ec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] met a girl [20F] who has a baby. She wants to bring her baby to our first date. Not sure how I feel about it.", "post": "So I met her over the Halloween weekend, she's a friend of a friend of mine. We got along well and she didn't hide the fact that she has a kid (1 year old) despite being so young. I got her number and we agreed to meet up and go out on a date sometime. Cool. Now I asked her yesterday when she's available, she said thursday but she has to bring her baby. \n\nNow I'm not sure how I feel about this. If I was in her situation, I wouldnt want to expose my baby to a random date I would go on and sorta \"check\" the guy first. To be honest I dont know how about this whole baby thing. I really like her, but I'm not sure if I could handle the baby situation if we would take this any further.", "summary": "Met a girl who has a kid, asked her out on a date and she already wants to bring her baby along. Not sure how I feel about this."}
{"id": "t3_1agpx6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My jealousy is ruining my relationships [19/f]", "post": "No one *wants* to be that crazy girlfriend, the one who gets mad at you for nothing, is passive aggressive when you go out with female friends, who wants you to skip doing your homework so we can chill, but I've realized I have these tendencies. I don't like who I turn into when I'm jealous, and I want to change before it gets any worse.\n\nI thought I messed things up with a guy a few days ago because of it, but for some reason he's giving me *another* chance. I honestly don't know why, though I do appreciate it;  I do have strong feelings for him. I don't come home (study abroad!) until may, so we only text and Skype every once in a while.\n\nBecause I have a few months to work on myself, I want to know if anyone here has any advice on how to deal with these issues. They're only problems in relationships, never friendships or anything. The first thing I've done is cut out most of the contact between us, at least until I get home.", "summary": "my jealousy is having a negative affect on my relationships and makes me feel terrible, how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_gneva", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Successful guy and girl moving out stories?", "post": "Hey Reddit! I am a University senior moving out with the lady friend of 3 years in august. We've planned this for a while and have five thousand in the bank. I know that's not a lot at all, and I'm not necessarily looking for advice on my personal situation since I know I'll really have to figure it out for myself in the end, but I was just wondering, any successful moving out stories? Preferably with a s/o, but in general would help. I just recently broke the news to my folks and they we're pretty fucking disappointed. Turning towards Reddit to hopefully feel better?", "summary": "Moved out with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Stories?"}
{"id": "t3_490xj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Fast Advice] GF said she wants to live with guys next year [M19] [F20]", "post": "Hey.so my gf is going to be living on campus at our college while I go live with my parants again (this year I lived on campus, which is how we met) and she said she wanted to do coed and live with guys plus one of her girl friends. I said im not toooo okay with this, and I have my reasons, and she agreed where I was coming from was reasonable but still wanted to live with guys since she said \"they may have/get a crush on me (shes fucking hot) but its easier to live with guys than girls\" and said that she'd talk with what her friend wants to do and let her decide because both are fine.\n\nWell today they were talking and I kind if overheard her ask the questionand her friend said \"honestly idc, u choose\" and my gf goes \"i feel like we should do coed then\"\n\nShe said shes fine with both abd only reason she was going to choose coed was if her friend wanted it, which she didnt, and yet she chose it knowing im not going to be too happy.\n\nWas that wrong of her or what? She'll meet me soon and tell me what happened but leave that part out or smthn, is it reasonable/understandable that im unhappy or am I being unreasonable.", "summary": "gf wants to live with guys, i say im not ok with that, said she'll let her friend/roomate decide, she said she dont care and my gf instantly says to live with guys knowing full well im not happy about that."}
{"id": "t3_1qcpuu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (18/M) just got cheated on by my gf (17/F) and now she's seeing him.", "post": "I am a freshman in college and had been dating my girlfriend for thirteen months. She's 17 and a junior in high school in my hometown in CA. I'm off to college in Illinois. Our relationship was going amazing, we had little arguments here and there, but who doesn't? Last Sunday she didn't text me all day, and Sunday night she broke up with me claiming that we should both experience other people. This was unexpected, and being away from all family and friends, I've already been extremely depressed off at college. We didn't talk until Tuesday, I texted her because I was confused about how this all started. This called me and told me that Saturday she got drunk at a party and kissed a guy. I broke down in tears on the phone and decided to hang up and call my mom for advice. I came to the conclusion that I could forgive her and try to get her back, so I told her some story about something I wasn't sure had even happened or not. (I had a dream I was fondling a younger friend of my mom and woke up next to her, so I wasn't sure how much was a dream.) Even after trying to call her down and get her back, she stuck to the idea that we should experience others. This was also fishy to me. I did some detective work and came to the conclusion that she was talking to the guy she cheated on me with. It's been a week, and I'm at college with no friends or ways to get out my stress. I've texted my friends back home, but words are just words and the pain keeps coming back. Advice for a heartbroken kid in college?\n\nEdit1: Forgot to mention that this caused an insane downward spiral of sadness which has caused me to lose 10+ pounds in the last week from a lack of appetite. Any advice for that?", "summary": "SO (17/F) in high school left me (18/M) for another guy after cheating on me with him. I'm off in college without friends and have no activities to get her off my mine. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2drgf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i deal with my[28,M] SO's[24,F] of 4 years seemingly dual personalities?", "post": "I'm having issues dealing with what feels like dual personalities of my SO's based on who we're around. I know this is not a novel issue for couples but its causing me a \nlot of unhappiness. \n\nHome life is characterized by my SO being normal, sweet, loving, fun, and friendly. When out and about together with certain people, she turns into a loud, obnoxious, often \nmean person who just seems to be trying really hard to be someone she's not(or who is she actually then?). This side of her honestly scares me. She's had two emotional(or worse?)\naffairs that I know of and both I \nattribute to this other side of her. We've worked past these for the most part but her 'bad side' is making it really had for me to get over them fully. I can't help but\nfeel that if this other side of her still exists, she's still capable of the lies and cheating from a year ago. When she's like this, I get a pretty overwhelming feeling of\npanic, loss of self esteem, and really feel like I need to get out. Her other side of course comes back and all the good things about our 4 year relationship come back and \nI find I lose all resolve. \n\nI feel trapped in a way. I don't who she'll be at any given time but can't seem to do anything about it because I can't bring myself to lose the girl(good side?) i really do\nlove. The plan was to get engaged this sumemr and married next but this issue continues to hold me back. If i marry her, I don't know who i'm really marrying. \n\nIt's probably insecurities that lead her to act like this around other people i'd guess. I've tried to talk to her about it several times but she gets really defensive and denies this\never happens while she just turns it around on me. \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "SO seems like a different person in certain social situations--one i'm not interested in being with. I don't know who i'll end up with if i marry her."}
{"id": "t3_1ur9ny", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Court payment problem (Didn't know where else to put this)", "post": "I owed a $305 ticket and went to pay it today.  Payed 100 cash and wanted to put the rest on debit.  Gave them my card and they swiped it, and the machine printed out a receipt then they tell me since the card didn't have my name (It's a Bank of America card that has the companies name on it but my paychecks get loaded onto it) since my name wasn't on it they said they couldn't take it, and had to go to an ATM to withdraw money.  Now I go to the ATM but it says I don't have enough even though I did.  So I tell them my story about how they swiped my card and canceled it but now I can't access my money, they tell me I have until the 10th to pay it off but sometimes it can take up to 3 days for this all to clear up.  Would I get any more fines on top of what I owe if I'm late since it's there fault?  They swiped the card and canceled the transaction now I have a $200 thing pending that I can't access.", "summary": "Court swiped my card and canceled the transaction, now the money is pending and can't be with drawled, I owe it by the end of the week and if it isn't unfrozen by then will they add more fees?"}
{"id": "t3_ol9r8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"Thank you for your service\"", "post": "When someone thanks me by saying, \"Thank you for your service\" it makes me uncomfortable, as if they had just asked me a personal question I don't quite want to answer. I don't understand why--I cognitively realize they're most likely saying it to acknowledge what we've done, but I never know what to say in response (the socially awkward penguin in me wishes they hadn't said anything). I usually just default to \"Don't mention it\" or if in a more professional scenario, a plain \"You're welcome,\" but that also bothers me (I suppose I feel like that's not a profound enough recognition to something that holds significant weight).\n\nDo other veterans feel this way? Where does the discomfort stem from? Finally, what the hell do you respond with?", "summary": "When someone thanks me by saying \"Thank you for your service\" I become uncomfortable and don't know what to say... Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3uro1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [24F] won't pick up calls or answer texts from anyone", "post": "I've known my friend Laura for 5 years now (I'm 25M). She's always been cheery and funny and an all-around positive person. Recently, in the past 2 or 3 months, I haven't heard from her, nor has anyone in our friend group (4 other people). We knew she was at least OK thorough social media, but now it looks like she's deleted her Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter (or blocked us all?).\n\nWhenever anyone tries to call or text her, it gets ignored. I had Facebook messages to her that never even got read. It's been like this for weeks, and no one knows what the fuck is going on. No one had a falling out with her, no fights or anyone. She just diappeared, out of the blue.\n\nWhat do we do? Do we just stop trying to contact her, or keep trying? She's been a good friend to me, and I don't want to just give up. This is 100% not her. If she lost her phone, as she has before, I feel like she would have sent us a Facebook message or something and she probably would have had it replaced by now.", "summary": "Friend randomly stopped talking to us, I'm a little worried, do I keep trying to connect?"}
{"id": "t3_3srv2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18M] have been offered \u00a320000 to sleep with a guy [19M], but I have a boyfriend [20M]", "post": "I am a cam guy, one of those people on websites such as chaturbate etc.\n\nOne of my clients is VERY wealthy and has paid a lot of money for private shows so I know he is good for the payment (He had a wealthy grandma who passed away). I have only known him for 3 weeks however and he offered me \u00a320000 to have sex with him. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months, all going very well and I do not want to do anything to ruin it. However \u00a320000 is \u00a320000. It is tempting\n\nI am contemplating discussing this with my Boyfriend but I doubt he would be very pleased and likely say no, however I am not in the wealthiest point in my life at the moment, and I doubt a chance like this is coming around any time soon. He is comfortable with my job, so long as I do not cheat on him.\n\nShould I accept?", "summary": "Should I cheat on my boyfriend for \u00a320 000"}
{"id": "t3_1b33q0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm not quite sure what's going on, it seems like women are ignoring me. (17/M)", "post": "About a month or so ago I messaged a girl I sort of liked on Facebook, and poked her. (I suppose that I should mention that she does know me and we are already friends on Facebook) No response. My message was simple, something like, \"Hey, how are you?\" I don't understand why she'd ignore that. \n\n5 days ago, another girl who I really liked for a long time became single. She used to be sort of a friend of mine. We used to hang out sometimes, a couple of years ago. She seemed interested in me at the time, though I didn't really realize it until it was too late, and I was too anxious to ask her out at the time. Anyway, we got separated by distance and we didn't really talk, and she got into a relationship. I had missed my chance. Now that she's single again I decided to message her. I said \"Hey, how are you?\" In a Facebook message. Then I remembered that I had her phone number from when we used to hang out, so I sent the same thing in a text message. It's been five days, and I've gotten no response to either. I'm not sure if she received the text message though, because originally it sent as an iMessage and I looked at it today and it said sent as text message, so her phone might've been off for a while or something.", "summary": "No response from simple messages to 2 different girls."}
{"id": "t3_49phkx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[New York City to Minneapolis] Is it within the law for parents to ship my prescribed Concerta (controlled substance) ADHD medication to me?", "post": "My psychiatrist just electronically sent my next month's prescription of Concerta for my diagnosed ADHD to the pharmacy my family usually uses. Unfortunately I will be flying to Minneapolis for a couple job interviews **before** the pharmacy will allow me to pick up the new month's prescription (Flying out tomorrow; Pharmacy says the earliest we can pick it up is this Saturday). My current month's prescription is only enough to last me a week and I will be gone for two weeks! So my parents offered to pick up my medication on Saturday, and mail it to me. They've picked up my Concerta before so I know that won't be a problem. But is it within the law for them to mail it to me in Minneapolis?\n\nFrom some quick google research I realize I could have asked my psychiatrist to specifically authorize forward month pick up but at this point it's too late because I'm leaving tomorrow. She seemed to have missed it too since I did bring up that I would be traveling this week :(  Thanks for any help!", "summary": "Can my parents mail me my prescribed Concerta from NY to MN even if it's a controlled substance?"}
{"id": "t3_3kztc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[34 M] who will make me happier? smart/hot/crazy or cute/boring/stable", "post": "cute/boring/stable \nabsolutely adores me, loves me, admires me. We spent 8 happy years together. I loved her and she loved me. \nBut she wasn't very smart or funny, so I felt bored and lost interest. We broke up (my fault)\n\nsmart/hot/crazy\nshe fills me completely, mentally and physically. I also have a great time doing things other than sex. We work out together, drink, go out. \nBut she is emotionally unstable. We fight every two weeks. \nShe insults me, we even hurt each other while drunk the last time. \n\nI want kids. I want a happy family. I want to NEVER divorce. \n\nGrow up people who was in my dillema. Let me learn from your mistakes. I dont know what to do. \n\nI feel like cute is going to end in affairs\n\nI feel like smart is goint to end in fight/divorce", "summary": "cute/boring vs hot/crazy what brings more happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_3vqwez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 /F] am pretty sure a co-worker/friend [23/M] has a huge crush on me, should I halt the friendship because I have no interest?", "post": "I'm in a happy long term relationship with my live-in boyfriend [42 / M].  I started a new job 7 months ago and one of my work friends [23/m] almost definitely has a huge crush on me.  I have never flirted with him or treated him any different than all my other work friends (but I'm pretty outgoing once I get to know people) and made it clear that I'm very happy in my current relationship.  I like our friendship though, he's a decent person and good friend.  Friends of mine have noticed that he \"totally has a huge crush\" on me.  Is this somehow automatically incriminating?  Am I being cruel by even maintaining a regular friendship?  Recently I've been trying to give him tips on meeting girls, etc.  *I* think it's painfully obvious that I'm not interested.  Am I actually being a dick by even being friends with the dude?", "summary": "Should I kill a friendship with a guy who has a crush on me, just because I have no interest?"}
{"id": "t3_11d6nl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife(25f) and I(25m) are having trouble with a mutual friend.", "post": "My wife is a very beautiful woman and a lot of our friends are a little infatuated with her, but they know their boundaries and most only slip up when they're drunk. But we have a mutual male friend we've known over a year that doesn't seem to know his boundaries, he is constantly making lewd or sexual remarks towards her. It makes us a little uneasy, but overall not a huge deal since he is a great guy overall.\n\nI guess my question is how to best deal with the situation. This is my wife so I feel like I gotta say something, but I want to approach it delicately because I don't want to make it awkward or lose a close friend to the both of us.", "summary": "My friend makes sexual remarks towards my wife, need help with solution."}
{"id": "t3_3zenui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M], [24m]y friend of 4 years. Cannot remove him out of my life although this friendship is a hell.", "post": "This guy is very controlling, starting from small stuff (like eat your meal this way, not this way) to big stuff (like he decided that my gf is not suitable, and he said that he will stop talking to me as soon as we get married).  \n\nUsually, I stop seeing people I don't like. But this time, I really enjoy his company when he is a tame lamp, on many levels, and I sometimes I think I will not get a better friend. \n\nAlso, he has a phobia of losing people, whenever we go on a trip (like a 3 days trip) and the trip is about to end he gets very moody, and fucks up the whole last day/days.  Also, whenever I decide to cut him off, he freaks out, starts crying, calling me over and over again, gets depression and starts fucking up his carrier.  Then I feel guilty and I start talking to him again.  \n\nThis is not easy for me and this made me waste a lot of time.  whenever he got the chance, he would blame my problems on me.  Not to mention the recent insults.", "summary": "This guy absolutely needs to be out of my life, I just cant do it. what do you think I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_u8s1z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it time to break up?", "post": "Alright, here's a little background. My boyfriend [19M] and I [17F] have been dating for almost 6 months. We've known each other all through high school, despite going to different schools. I just graduated high school, and he is going into his second year of college. We were really good friends before we started dating. Since we went to different schools that were about an hour apart, our entire friendship and most of our relationship has been long-distance. We've gotten by and fallen in love via Skype and Facebook for the most part. Everything has been good until the last few weeks. I think I'm out of the 'honeymoon phase' now...but he isn't. He still showers me with affection and romantic letters, messages, and gifts, but I don't reciprocate those feelings as strongly. I care about him, yes, but I don't feel 'fireworks' or anything now. \n\nMy thinking started when I realized that he isn't the person I thought he would be from our online chats. Sure, I still love him, but I think I over-romanticized and over-fantasized about how he would be. What I'm saying is, my expectations were different from reality, and now I'm left feeling disappointed and wondering if I should stay or if we should break up. I should also mention that I will be going to college this fall, in a different college than he's at, which we will still be about 30 minutes apart. I love him, but he's just not someone I see something long-term with. What can I do to either save my relationship or find a way out without compromising too many feelings?", "summary": "Long-distance BF different in person than I expected, but I still fell in love. Feeling disappointed and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4azdj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] of 9 months just got married in secret", "post": "I met the love of my life 9 months ago. We had both come to New York for the summer where we would be starting school in the fall. We were living in university owned housing that was being leased out during the summer to students from all colleges who had internships in the city or who were taking summer classes. She was living a few floors below me and amidst a really amazing summer of new friends and experiences we quickly hit it off. School started and we became even closer. \n\nThis was the easiest relationship you could imagine. We have always been on the same page, I can't remember a single fight not because we don't have disagreements but because we love each other too much not to discuss things fairly and honestly. A few months back we were kind of drunk and talking about the fact that we would definitely be married one day and we decided that affectively we were already married. We practically live together (I can't remember the last time I slept alone) and we have become home to each other. After spending time during the holidays at each others homes and being welcomed by her family, vacationing together, and experiencing some trails with her uncle passing away we had become incredibly bonded. Nine months and she takes my breath away just like she did when I had known her a week. \n\nThere is no doubt she is the one and that we would have someday married. Here's the thing though. We took one of our best friends to a courthouse last week to be our witness and we got married. It is a decision we didn't take lightly but I'm sure looks insane to everyone on the outside. I'm 19 years old, a college freshman, and someone's husband. It's fucking crazy. I could't be happier. Just to clarify we are not religious in the slightest, this wasn't about sex or morality. We have been having great sex since the week I knew her. Neither her parents nor mine were married young. I'm have no idea what other people will think of this. The only person who knows is our friend who we love and know will keep a secret. I need to hear what people think of this because I'm not sure I do", "summary": "Secretly married at 19. Big mistake like everyone would probably think or just a different path?"}
{"id": "t3_1qe8wy", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Is $10,000 (CAN) Enough To Travel SE Asia For 6 Months?", "post": "I will be travelling with my girlfriend throughout Thailand/SE Asia in early 2014 and I'm looking for some general budgeting advice. We will be purchasing one-way tickets to Bangkok and we are planning to do Thailand, Laos, Vietnam, (maybe) Cambodia and Indonesia. \n\nWe have both been saving money for this trip over the past two years; I currently have a little over $10,000 (CAN) saved up and will likely have closer to $15,000 by the time we leave. With no set return date, our goal is to travel for at least 6 months. However, I've begun to worry that I have not saved enough. As a travelling couple, we will be able to save money on lodgings by splitting private rooms and guesthouses. We're both pretty frugal individuals and we've traveled together before. And I already have a backpack from my previous journeys... so those are some expenses I don't have to fret about. I have seen people quote a $30-$35 a day budget for SE Asia and I'm beginning to wonder if that is a realistic estimate for expenditures.\n\nWill I have enough money to last 6 months if I budget accordingly?", "summary": "Is $10,000-$15,000 (CAN) sufficient funding for a 6 month SE Asia trip?"}
{"id": "t3_3dmskr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rigging a boat", "post": "This is my first post.  As always, this happened a while ago.  I was doing this sailing camp at a local lake and I've done it for a couple years now so I think I know what to bring/wear.  I wear a swim suit because you fall into the water quite often and last year I had brought a change of clothes with me so I could bike home more comfortably but this year I got a new swim suit so I thought that I would be fine not bringing a change of clothes.  I had worn this suit occasionally before and it seemed to be pretty high quality.  I get to this camp and after talking to us about some random stuff they sent us out to rig, no big deal.  At this lake they have the camps boats out in the buoy field on two boat lifts/docks.  We get to the lift and me and my partner start to rig the boat.  We get the jib up and now it's time to rig the main sail.  One of the steps in the process requires you to pull the sail to the back of the boat so I'm walking backwards and bam, I fall through the lift through a hold I didn't realize was there.  I laughed it off and finished rigging the boat.  Later when we were eating lunch (it's a full day camp) I look down and realize \"Holy shit!\" my swim suit had torn from front to back and now my crotch was protected from the outside word simply by a thin piece of perforated cloth.  So I went the rest of the day like this, hoping and praying no one would notice.  To make it worse, this was the first day.  I then had to bike home with my legs together hoping no one was looking or else they would think I was even weirder seeing as I was also wearing a life vest as that was the only way to transport it.  My new swimsuit that I got later that day is already stretching along that same seam.", "summary": "Didn't look where I was going, swimsuit split along the crotch, awkwardness ensued."}
{"id": "t3_q7htz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you post a review online for a service if given incentive?", "post": "I work customer service for a restaurant delivery service. My boss is always so upset that we don't have heaps of good reviews on review websites like Yelp and GoogleReviews and Yahoo! Local, etc. We have reviews up, just not very many. Bossman actually tries to make me write fake reviews for our company, but I'm not comfortable with that.\n\nSo what I'm wanting to propose to my boss is that we have some kind of incentive for customers to write reviews on said websites, like if we offered free delivery to anyone that posts a review and links us to it, or a credit on their account, or SOMETHING.\n\nMy question to you, oh glorious and all-knowing Redditors, is this: would you be more inclined to write a review for a company if said company offered you some kind of incentive? If this sounds like a good idea I'd like to show the Big Boss how many people said 'Yes' so we can get this rolling.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Would you post a review online for a company if they gave you an incentive to do so? Yes/No"}
{"id": "t3_dd5z6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help with my speaker set up, help me reddit :)", "post": "So i love my music but im on a budget. Being in grade 12 im saving up for expenses that are going to be placed upon me next year at university. i've managed to get a pretty decent second hand subwoofer and have hooked it to my computer with some unorthodox wiring. the standard pc speakers i use have a connection from the left speaker to the right speaker. the right speaker contains the wolume and tone knobs, the port up the back of the right channel speaker that is supposed to lead to the left channel happens to fit the cord for the sweet subwoofer i salvaged. What i want now is to set up my sound drivers so that the left channel (my subwoofer) only recieves signals that are below 500 hz (the deeper sounds i'd like to be produced) and all other sounds besides them (or all ranges of frequencies) to be played by the right channel. This essentially will give me a mono music experience, but it will make the best use of my subwoofer. I'd like suggestions for different types of programs that i can do this with, i'd prefer that be a global driver so that it automatically works with every sound produced by any program, but i'll accept it just happeneing with my itunes.", "summary": "i want my left channel to only play 500hz and below and all other sounds reserved for my right channel, how do i do this?"}
{"id": "t3_37f05e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my girlfriend [29, MtF] immature, or am I [26, F] just impatient?", "post": "My girlfriend of 1 year is deeply  ($1xx,xxx) in student debt after graduating from a second degree nursing program. She's relying on her parents for food/rent, and I basically pay for everything fun. It sucks, but I keep telling myself it'll even out when she gets a job.\n\nThe thing is, she seems to be treating life after graduation like a vacation. She sleeps in until 2 every day and I never hear about her studying for the nursing boards (NCLEX) or applying for jobs. She graduated in April and she's only applied to 3.\n\nI had a tendency to nag her about studying while she was in school, and I'm trying to curb that, but it seriously seems like she's not putting in any effort. She doesn't even have an NCLEX date.\n\nMy friends think I should wait to end things until she has a job because so much will change. When her school /work stuff is put aside, we're great. All of my friends and family love her. \n\nShe just sucks at money and self motivation.", "summary": "My girlfriend is taking her time joining the workforce while her parents and I take care of her - am I being impatient?"}
{"id": "t3_1zwmiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23,M] with my now ex [F,23]. She broke up with me after 3.5 years and may have moved on. Need advice.", "post": "Sorry this might be a bit long, still having trouble getting over everything.\n\nBack story:\nWe've known each other since 5th grade and dated in 7th grade for a few months until I moved to California. Long story short, I move back senior year but we're both in crazy relationships so our contact is limited to MySpace. Fast forward to the summer before sophomore year of college and we reconnect and start dating long distance. Eventually, she moves to a college right near mine and we move in together. Since living together, I became really distant and kind of a dick to be honest. Last October I got a job in new mexico that begins this June. I looked at it as an escape from everything and I told her that I didnt want her to come. We've been struggling with this issue ever since. About two weeks ago she got a job in our hometown and is making plans to move down there. Around the same time I did some soul searching and realized that I couldn't live without her and I wanted her to come. The problem is, she started talking to a guy she used to work with and has told me she doesn't see us being together again. Now I don't want to take my job alone and move to this super small town. I've tried talking to her but its no use. We also still live together although she goes home on the weekends until she officially moves on April 12.\n \nBreaking up has really made me see my flaws and I know I can be the man she needs. All I want is her.\n\nDo you think there's a chance we can make this work? Will it just take time for her to come back or is it really over?", "summary": "girlfriend of 3.5 years breaks up with me and starts talking to another guy. We still live together for the next month. Ive already started to change myself but I think its too late. I just want to be with her again and make a commitment."}
{"id": "t3_2q3gok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) am really freaked out over my SOs (25m) friends cheating", "post": "Hi everyone. I am freaking out and I need some advice/different viewpoints!\n\nI'll start by saying I've been with my SO just shy of 6 months, and it's been really amazing. The best relationship I've ever been in. I think we work really well and I love him very much. However, I have had some shitty shit shit relationships in the past that have left me anxious, untrustworthy and I guess a little sensitive. I found it so hard to start dating again before meeting my SO - it's not been easy for me readjusting to being so vulnerable.\n\nAnyway I'll get to the point... My SO and his mates all went out recently for one of their birthdays and he later tells me how there was a bit of a fight with two of his friends over a girl in this club they were both into. I know his friends by now and that they both have girlfriends. He then tells me how one of them gets with her and fingers her (err) in the club. So my immediate reaction is just.. 'He has a girlfriend?!' And my SO says 'yeah.. But he's just like that'. So I got a little distant and he asks what's up and I just say how I hate it and it disgusts me/upsets me to think about and he gets annoyed saying he isn't like that himself. But I have been so freaked ever since, I do believe he's a good guy. Ive just been cheated on in the past and I'm so terrified it might happen again. It's either that or I'm terrified he isn't the good guy I think he is. I know I need to learn to just trust him, his friends actions don't mean he did or does anything but should I be worried these are the type of guys he hangs out with?\n\nI keep trying to tell myself he's a decent bloke but it always comes up again in the back of my mind especially when they go to hang out.", "summary": "a couple of my SO's friends cheat on their girlfriends when they go out - should I be worried mine does too?"}
{"id": "t3_1mnuld", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help Relationship Advice! My wife [40/F] and I [37/M] are 10 years into our adventure and it's falllllling to pieces.", "post": "Hey RA.\n\nWifernator and I are at our wits end.\n\nI think most people would have already thrown in the towel, but I/we are glutens for punishment - and more importantly there are little people involved.\n\nThings have been spiralling downwards for the last 5 or so years in all departments, except financial.\n\nTo summarize we are terrible communicators whom each feel that they are pulling more weight than the other, sharing a house with a dead bedroom.\n\nWe both acknowledge that if it was not for the small humans we would have split long ago - but I do feel there is something that we can rekindle here.\n\nThe last time we absolved one another of our misgivings I indicated that it was the last time I was going to do so - but, we did not actually do anything to try and change things.\n\nSo here we stand in that terrible place again, she says that all I did on Sunday was make dinner while she was working her way into martyrdom around the house - I was hurt and retreated to my cave, because words hurt (and how could she not see everything else I did?).\n\nWe've been cloistered for the last few days - waiting for the other to make the next move.\n\nSo, I just sent an offering of absolution in exchange for a serious conversation about what we need to do for our grand finale - because this time is the last time and I mean it......this time...really!\n\nMy idea is to have one another craft a list of what we think is working, what we think is not and to lay out what we expect from one another to MAKE THIS WORK.\n\nIts super anti-romantic but I am going to get this down on actual paper and sign it.\n\nI am sure that I am not the first person to want to draft up this type of contract so that is why I am posting today.", "summary": "Wife and I are in hate/loathe with one-another - Is there a proven process that we can engage to achieve some sort of mutual understanding on paper?"}
{"id": "t3_20z6ns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Ex [40M] Haven't had closure and he won't give my stuff back.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend dated for about 8 months. Even though he is twice my age, we did click and we spent everyday together. Eventually within the last couple months, It got sour towards the end and we both knew it was coming to an end, even though I still really wanted to be with him and still do.\n\nThere was no breakup. We were good one day and getting along and then we cut off contact the next day sans closure. Neither of us even tried to communicate. It was a month with no contact. The other day I asked him for my stuff. He asked me to come over that day when he got off work but at the last minute he bailed, blaming \"traffic\" For the reason he couldn't have me over just to get my stuff..\n\nI was bummed. He told me he would get in touch with me the very next day or another day when it would be better. His exact words. I was expecting a text within the next couple days after that but it has been a week and nothing from him.\n\nWhat is he avoiding? It's clear we are not together anymore even though there was never an official break up, but I don't know why he's avoiding this. \n\nAny advice helps.", "summary": "Ex is fucking with my mind and avoiding a simple possession transaction."}
{"id": "t3_nknnr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What random acts of kindness have you experienced?", "post": "I'm alone on a road trip to see my family for Christmas. Stopped to grab a bite, I didn't have any change to fill the meter. I saw a stranger walking my direction and asked him for some change. Having noticed my struggle, he reached right into his pocket and handed me four quarters. I had a dollar out to repay him, but he insisted I keep it. As he walked away, I said, \"You're a good person.\" Smiling, he replied, \"So are you.\" This is just another reminder of all the good people out there.  Simple message here, but it seemed significant to me. It inspired me to leave the 50 cents I didn't need in the meter. Again, it's nothing much, but I hope it helped someone out. \n\nWhat random acts of kindness have you experienced?", "summary": "Didn't have change for the parking meter. Complete stranger gives me 4 quarters without accepting my dollar bill."}
{"id": "t3_fjw9w", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "i don't know what to do anymore. holding back tears.", "post": "for about a year or so (full year not school year) my dad has been in really bad moods when in reality everything is going well for him. and now he's sick, strep throat, and everything just went to shit. he was telling me to put some sweats on and brush my teeth now so i don't wake anyone up later, and i said \"ok, give me one minute.\" i would suspect that i'd actually get up in a few seconds,w hich i did, but instead of him being content with me doing that,\n\nhe fucking pushed me. he pushed me, and he yelled, and he woke my brother up. and you guys are obviously gonna say \"you're a pussy, take a hit.\" but i was always telling my even-slightly abused friends that they should run away or something because i think even verbal abuse is so critical to the way a child acts that a child deserves to be somewhere else if it goes too far. and my dad's starting to get like that and idk what to do. the last thing i want to do is confront him. but if that guy touches me again i'm, calling the cops and i'll live with my fucking (great) mom. (divorce)", "summary": "dad was always nice guy but lately has been in very bad moods even though everything's well for him. he pushes me for the first time and while it may not physically be a big deal at all emotionally it changes everything because he'd always say \"i'll never touch you\""}
{"id": "t3_279uhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my ex-bf[22M] 2.5 years, started to mend our friendship but just told me he doesnt want to talk because of his own problems", "post": "So my ex broke up with me at a friends wedding because he wasn't ready/wanted to do his own thing (ride motorbikes). I was very sad for a long time because we talked about moving in together and we were pretty serious.\n\nI'm moving overseas soon, so I thought I should get my act together and contact him to get his things back, get mine and leave on good terms... even though he broke my heart.\n\nIn the last few weeks we had some contact, texts and saw each other once in which we talked and had a laugh, but today he said not to contact him because he got demoted, he only has one friend, his parents are moving interstate and told him to move out.. and he's not comfortable with seeing me again before I go. It broke my heart a little more.\n\nWhat should I do? Should i leave him or should I go see him? He still has my things, and I his.", "summary": "ex and I broke up, I am moving overseas and wanted to leave on good terms (and get some things). took a bad turn now unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_m569p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should two people who are in love but who have different futures ahead of them try to make it work? I'm begging you guys, help save this relationship!!", "post": "Repost from /r/relationships because I am asking you guys for your opinion.  What should I do about this?\n\nI am 22(f) and he is 27(m) almost 28. Lets call him X. X and I have been dating for three years. We both come from families with an average income.\n\nRight now I am finishing up at college, but am going to grad school near my hometown (which happens to also be where X lives) for numerous reasons. I am probably one of the most ambitious people I know. I am really set on setting myself up to be successful in the future, and so far, everything is going according to plan for me. I have the connections I need for my chosen field and was even promised a job at my desired work location upon my graduation.\n\nWhats the problem, you ask? He is one of the least ambitious people I have ever met in my entire life. He has a minimal pay job that is unreliable and is living paycheck to paycheck. Absolutely nothing has changed with his situation in the last three years. Yes, there were a few failed attempts at a slightly better job then what he is doing now. But as I said, these were FAILED attempts.\n\nWhen X and I first met, it was all fun and games. I had no idea what I wanted from my future so I wasn't really concerned about him not really doing anything all day everyday. But now that I am beginning to think about a career. I am much younger then X and I am getting started on this NOW. It hurts because I see that he might not be headed in the same direction as I am. This sucks. I love everything about him. Minus this one aspect, which unfortunately is important, our relationship is flawless. We NEVER fight (I can think of only one major argument throughout our relationship).\n\nI don't know what to do. Should I stay or should I go?", "summary": "I am on the road to success and he is content with living paycheck-to-paycheck. Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_2wcua0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my SO [32 F] of 4 years. I snooped and saw something -now what?", "post": "I snooped my gf's messages and saw some stuff I wasn't really supposed to.  I use her computer sometimes and her texts messages come up.  I saw a couple and then read through the rest.  She didn't seem to worried about hiding them or just never thought I'd snoop?\n\nIt's basically impossible to explain the complexities of all this, but it's a guy she dated for a little while.  I wanted an open relationship but it didn't work.  We're now engaged.\n\nThe messages are all \"i love you\" \"i miss you' \"lets cuddle\" \"i still haven't had sex since we last did\" - it's this one that bothers me most. it's a lie. i mean our sex life kind of sucks, but it is still a lie.\n\nshe's got a lot of men in her life.  men all over that have been tyring to win her over for years and years. she's like the movie \"something about mary\". men everywhere are obsessed with her. i looked at their messages and it's similar stuff. nothing that explicit, but just like keeping them on the hook kinda.\n\njust not sure what to do.  she's still very good to me. i was the one she originally chose out of all the rich men fawning over her. some younger guy who's not that rich. but i pushed her away for so long. it's not like this isn't my doing - it just makes me uncomfortable how manipulative it seems. \n\nDoes any of this make sesne? what the fuck am i asking? can i bring this up? is our relationship just fucked?", "summary": "snooped and saw some stuff. not sure how to bring it up."}
{"id": "t3_tlvth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mom Issue -- Trying To Motivate Someone to Improve Their Own Health In Terrible Circumstances", "post": "Hello reddit!\n\nI'm having some relationship issues with my mother. She's the strongest person I've ever met, the fiercest defender when it comes to us kids, her husband and our dad, or even strangers.\n\nBut not when it comes to herself.\n\nMy mom has severe allergies. Like can't leave the house very often type allergies. Trouble breathing, heart beat increasing issues  (not sure of the medical term). She's allergic to about 90% of all edible things on the earth. She's down to salt/pepper/chicken/beef and a few vegetables.\n\nAside from environmental allergies and many chemical sensitivities, she's overweight. Not \"on TV\" amount but to the point where it's having undeniable negative effect on her health.  \n\nI want to do what little exercise she's capable of now.\n\nHer reasons for not being able to are quite understandable. She can go several days doing light exercise (she's never been able to last long enough to do heavier exercises) but then has a period of being sick (hard to breath, feels like shit etc) afterwards. She claims she was being careful and I have no reason to doubt it.\n\nBut I feel like she gave up much too quickly. She needs to do it regardless of how she feels afterwards. She has a work at home job that pays commission based. So if she's sick and can't work, it affects her job negatively. My family's financial resources are quire tight so this makes a real difference. I've offered to cover the difference and help out if it means she'll take risks of feeling bad and do the exercise regardless.\n\nI have a feeling if she sticks with a regular routine for 6 months to a year, she'll be a different person at the end of the journey. But I can't convince her to start to continue.... \n\nShe's honestly tried hard but doesn't have the almost super human level effort that's required to overcome something like this.\n\nWe've had a long talk about this lately and I'm at my wits end on what to do. Any advice?", "summary": "Mom has health issues and has tried many medical solutions to help. I want her to just try improving her general health first (lose weight etc) and I can't seem to motivate. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_qduv6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Debit card fraud, are the police taking our claim seriously?", "post": "My wife and I live just outside of Chicago. She used her debit card (run as credit) at a BK drive through in Chicago this morning and shortly afterward I was getting notified of large transactions I wasn't familiar with. I quickly called my wife who sent me a photo of herself at home with her debit card. We called Chase and verified the transactions were from a card with her numbers and they verified they were swiped in person.We spoke with Chase, were credited with the amounts charged and the card was cancelled and a new one issued. We were also advised to contact the police and file a report. \n\nWe had the amounts of charges, the stores and times they were done, and reprints of the receipts from the stores. We also have the store managers' contact info and we were told they have footage for the registers at the time of the transactions they would provide upon police request. One store manager even remembers the particular transaction at his store.\n\nWe went to the local PD and were set to file the report. As soon as they found out the charges happened in Chicago they told us to go to Chicago. Went back to Chicago to be told that first we needed receipts from the stores for all the fraudulent claims. We managed to actually get those. Then we were told we needed to go back to our local PD because that's where we lived. Local PD said go back to Chicago.\n\nAfter hours of back and forth Chicago finally agreed to take our report but made us use the address of one of the stores in Chicago the card was used at because they wouldn't file a report for us unless we used a Chicago address. They didn't want any of the evidence we have, all they wanted was her name, the times and dates of the transactions and the total amount. In return we were given a report number on a page that had \"deceptive practice\" as the heading and a page about how to obtain a credit report.\n\nIs this going to be investigated and taken seriously? Did Chicago screw us by taking the report? What should we do?", "summary": "Wife's debit card was cloned and used at 3 stores. Cops made us jump through hoops to file a report. Now we wonder if anything is even going to be done."}
{"id": "t3_1z1clv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Pregnant Friend [24 F] is getting abused by her BF [27M] for the last 6 months. How do I get her help??", "post": "They have been together for 6 months only and I have never met him but recently She has been showing up with bruises all over.  He has pulled her hair out and left marks on her face but she does not want to do anything.  He has been in trouble most of his life and I am afraid this will only lead to more and also scared for the baby when he arrives.  \n\nI live in another city 8 hours away but have friends that are telling me what is going on and no one has done anything as they are afraid of getting involved or having him her hurt even more but I believe ignoring it will do nothing to help her and her baby.", "summary": "I am not sure who to contact or what I can do even if she is not willing to press charges but she is a woman that needs help."}
{"id": "t3_2d6mla", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like a huge tool", "post": "My situation is nowhere near as bad as some of the others I've read, but fuck it, I feel shitty and this might help\n\nI've been crushing on this girl I work with since summer started and its been a great time. I'm a natural introvert so none of this was super easy for me, but I found myself far more attracted to her personality than any physical sense, rare for someone who, as an introvert, doesn't always connect with people instantly and all that well. I've honestly never tried to chase after a girl until now and by putting her up on a pedestal I've made a mistake. \n\nI finally grew the balls needed to ask her out on a date. \nThe conversation went something like\n\nMe: So, you doing anything this weekend?\n\nHer: Oh yeah, I'm going to my boyfriend's beach house with his family\n\nFuuuuuuck...\n\nI felt stunned at first, that she had never mentioned it in the last 3 months where we've been talking pretty much every day, then kinda angry. Not at her though, at myself for either misreading her intentions entirely or my superhuman abilities to ignore the obvious. Maybe both.\n\nEither way, I feel pretty crappy. It took alot of effort for me to work up the courage and build up the \"relationship\" with her and its all for naught. Best case scenario, I'm in the friend zone! yay.", "summary": "I hate being an introvert sometimes. Also, feelings n' shit."}
{"id": "t3_16qflb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why did you cheat on your SO(s)? (possible NSFW)", "post": "Three women that I either work with or have been close friends with for years are currently cheating on their respective boyfriends, emotional cheating if it makes much difference, and each is determined not to physically cheat on their SO. Each one has a very different dynamic that I suspect is the reason these women are being less than faithful and I was hoping I could get an answer or two from someone who has done it themselves. You can certainly post using throwaway accounts but I'll just go ahead and request that people don't downvote anyone simply because they made a poor choice and cheated on their SO.", "summary": "What has driven you to cheating in the past?"}
{"id": "t3_40ji1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (21F) help my best friend (21F) and her family now that her parents have both lost their jobs?", "post": "Title explains it, but I'm providing a bit of context.\n\nMy best friend, Alice, is the type of person who needs everything to be even. She doesn't like accepting things that she cannot repay. \n\nTo clarify, this Christmas, she requested that none of her friends get her gifts because she couldn't afford to buy presents. After the holidays, she called me from the mall, complaining that another friend had spent over $100 on a present for her. Alice was buying this friend something of equal value (with money she received for Christmas) because she needed things to be even.\n\nI cannot fault her for this--I also feel like this sometimes, but I have tried to explain to her that for little things (like paying for dinner), it's not a big deal. I recently started working full-time, and she is still a college student. I remember what it was like to constantly be on a very tight budget, and now that I am in a better financial position, I don't mind helping where I can.\n\nAlice's father (who was the sole source of income for the family following her mother's lay off a few years ago) was laid off today. As anyone would be, she's devastated and very worried about how things will be for her and her family moving forward.\n\nShe is my best friend and I am very close to her family. I feel compelled to help however I can, but also don't want to make the situation worse with some material offering that Alice would feel obligated to repay (and simply cannot).\n\nOther than offering mental and emotional support, any ideas for how I can help my best friend and her family?", "summary": "Best friend's father lost his job; what is an appropriate way to help her and her family?"}
{"id": "t3_2r00r3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining a silvester party for ~10 people", "post": "Hi! I'm new to this sub and not a native english speaker, so please be gentle to my spelling >.< \n\nSo I was invited to a good friends party yesterday with many old friends from school which I have not seen much lately, because we all are students at different Universities.\n\nThe party goes on and at some time I realize one guy I expected to be there was missing. So I asked where he was, but everyone including me was pretty drunk at this point so it went kinda like this ( \nWhen I finally got some attention by the host I asked my question I did not realize what I was doing.\n\nThe host began to rage. I mean really rage with screaming and shit. About how much of an asshole the missing guy was and how often MissungGuy disappointed him and so on.\nAnd even worse now someone felt the urge to defend MissingGuy.\n\nWhat was following was a 30 minute fight about MissingGuy between the host and Defender. At the end Host was crying and went to bed and all others just said bye and left. :(", "summary": "If you miss someone on a party ask discretly."}
{"id": "t3_1l8apc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why should I even try to help you anymore if you just take your anger out on me", "post": "I want my friend back...\n\nHe has a terrible home-life and just all in all emotionally unstable. When we first started talking, we had a lot of common interests and just like that he and I were Bonnie and Clyde. Over the past two years though, he has ended up going through a lot of stuff and I ended up becoming his punching bag, his dump bucket, his shoulder to cry on.. I mean, at first  it made me think that maybe I was someone who he could share his feelings in confidence and we were getting closer. But before long he ended up having so many...issues. It just ended up being too much. \n\nHe always dumped on me with his problems, and I would do my best to help him with whatever. Nothing like that happened in my case though when I needed help. I would just get a \"that sucks\" \"sorry about that.\" Eventually I began to not share my emotions with him. \n\nWe fought occasionally. At least every other month or so. Usually it was a buildup of emotions on both sides. Something happened at home with him and he took out his anger on somebody. He did things that irked me and I confronted him about it. We would slap a band-aid on it and forget it happened. Finally, he did something to me that was just so unforgivable I couldn't just slap a band-aid and pretend things were okay anymore.\n\nThere were many more problems with our friendship and I just finally have to cut this person off because of this. I don't feel good about it. I should but I don't. I want our friendship to be like it was before, but he's just an angry/sad person and I'm just fed up with having to be his punching bag.", "summary": "I want my friend back, but he has so many personal issues and ends up taking his anger out about these things on me."}
{"id": "t3_2ii6i4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do i get over this unwanted feeling of jealousy? Has anyone else ever felt like this?", "post": "Recently a close friend of mine has begun to have extreme success with women. Dude has been banging beautiful women left and right since this college semester started. At first i felt a deep sense of pride seeing as how we were both virgins who always felt like we always struck out with women, but as the weeks went by unfortunately jealousy slowly began seeping into my mind. The two of us along with my other friends used to go partying and clubbing but i feel like our friendship has become strained and i hate that. I hate feeling jealous that my friend is getting laid and i am not. I don't want to envy my friend, but something deep down is making me jealous of his success.", "summary": "Close friend getting laid a shit ton, i am having unwanted feelings of jealousy due to my lack of success"}
{"id": "t3_1j7u7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] SO [22F] met someone on a month-long trip and has a crush [22M].", "post": "My SO and I have been together for 1.5 years, things are pretty great. We live together, we get along, everything is good. However, at the end of May she went on a month-long trip to China with a study abroad group and met some friends. Specifically, she hung out with her friend from before the trip and this one guy, we'll call him Bill, they met when they got there.\n\nWhen she got back she kept talking about how her friend had a crush on Bill but she thinks Bill is interested in *her*. I got my suspicions and finally came out and asked my SO if he had feelings for her. She says he did. I get mad and ask why he would tell her that while she was in a relationship *and* why she didn't nip it in the bud. She says she thinks Bill and I would be good friends and she didn't want to end a friendship. I say OK and end it at that.\n\nWell, sort of. I notice them texting pretty often - a couple times a day - and I fuck up and snoop through her phone. I  see that she told her best friend that she has a crush on Bill and she gets the \"butterflies\" around him that she doesn't get with me (anymore?). I tell her I snooped through her phone and that was wrong but I know she has a crush.\n\nShe tells me it is just a passing thing and it's normal for relationships, which I understand, but I don't see why she wouldn't tell me. We argue for a while and I say OK as long as you don't see him.\n\nAnyway, I still see his name pop up on her phone all the time when we're together and it makes me really upset. I don't see why she can't understand that it makes me uncomfortable and upset that they're *still* talking after all we've been through about it. I don't know how to bring it up anymore without seeming paranoid or controlling.", "summary": "SO has a crush on guy she met on trip, says nothing will happen but they still talk everyday and I've become really uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_1xchzd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/f] my boyfriend [26/m] of 2 yrs doesnt put out and im having trust issues", "post": "I mean what kind of guy doesnt want sex? I constantly have to initiate,  and even when I do I get shut down the majority of times. We've talked about it many many times and he always says he will try harder but its good for like 2 weeks and then goes back to nothing. Ive asked him to go to the doctor and he says he will but never follows through.\n\nnow for the trust part- I know he looks at reddit gone wild and in the past ive found things- I hacked his reddit account (which i know is shitty of me) and found conversations with many girls who post naked pics.  He posted for a casual encounter, which made us break up last year but we've since gotten back together. i also found fb messages asking to meet with a girl he had a one night stand with before he met me. \n\nI know I shouldnt go looking through his stuff but everytime I do I find something.\nnow im scared to look again in case I do. We've talked about all this and he said he doesnt have a reddit account anymore and doesnt do that stuff anymore but I just cant regain my trust in him. I will always feel like hes emotionally cheating on me. We got back together a year ago and I havent looked at anything since then but im always going to wonder if he is still doing it.", "summary": "I dont know why my bf is searching for something else when im right here practically begging for sex. How do I trust that he isnt emotionally cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_1ogmvh", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "1 year old refuses to eat.", "post": "I read through many of the posts here, just wanted to get some fresh insight.  My son turns 1 year this month, and refuses solid food at all times.  Most days all he has is milk.  Usually about 6 6oz bottles a day.  I know this is normal for some kids, and he will eat when he feels ready, my wife is just also concerned it is related to him possibly having PDD.  Has not been diagnosed yet, but he only likes a couple of games, does not like any change, is mad 80% of the day, and won't talk, just makes loud mmmm noises.  He is kinda clumsy, but already walking great.  We are just new at all this and concerned.  Any one delt with this?", "summary": "my one year old won't eat and might have PDD?"}
{"id": "t3_3vk1f4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] found the blade my sister [15F] uses to cut herself with. Shaken up and not sure what to do.", "post": "We found out my younger sister cuts herself about a year ago. My parents aren't really much help and I don't think handled it as seriously as they should have. As of late i thought this was over and done with until i went into her room to grab something and saw a small blade with dried blood on it. Needless to say it's kind of scary to see the tool your baby sister uses to cut herself and im kind of shaken up right now. Should i throw it out?\n\nWe dont really have the type of relationship where it's easy for me to talk to her about this without her getting defensive, so im not really sure how to handle it at this point. It feels like no one in our family is paying attention to her problems and that this will only get worse.", "summary": "found sisters blade noting that she is cutting again. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_41m32y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anyone have tips for making the move-in successful?", "post": "Hello /r/relationships! I hope it's okay to post this here, because it's a little different than most of the posts I read. My relationship is... actually awesome. My boyfriend is 28 and I am 22. We have been dating for over 2 years and are thrilled to be moving in together at the end of the month. Our friends and families are happy for us and are very supportive. We both have good financial situations and have divided the rent and utilities in a way that we both feel is fair. We have both lived on our own away from our parents, but have never lived with a romantic partner. We are both really excited to live together and have talked at length about everything from marriage to kids to where the TV will go and which day of the week we'll grocery shop. Everything seems.... awesome!\n\nI'm very confident that things will go well, but I like to have insights before all of my life choices. I've always seen a lot of good advice here and thought I would ask you guys for your thoughts on moving out in general. What do you wish you knew when you moved out? What are things you didn't think of asking your partner? What are some ways to make sure you're both happy with the living situation? Just- in general- what are some tips you have for living with your SO for the first time?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are living together! Help us make it great!"}
{"id": "t3_3pywmq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting at will", "post": "This TIFU happened literally 5 minutes ago, and there have been mixed emotions in my house...\n\nSo as I was laying on my bed, after eating my mums 3 bean extra spicy chilli, I felt a good hearty fart brewing that could easily be used to start world war 3. I was browsing TIFU at the time and was laughing so much that I had completely forgot about the fart, and it had seemed to go away... Or so I thought.\n\nI quickly hopped into the shower and then suddenly felt the nuclear bomb brewing in my arse, but didn't let rip as I didn't want to turn my shower into a gas chamber, so I held it in till it went away.\n\nOnce I got out I went and laid down on my bed, but dropped my phone, which was plugged into my speakers which were blaring out music. Just then as I perched myself on my hands and knees to reach down and grab my phone, I heard a voice from above tell me this was the right time to unleash havoc from my arse, so as I mustered up the courage to release the fart, I grasped hold of the side of my bed, and let rip.\n\nThis was a fart like none other that I have encountered. It lasted for a good 15-20 seconds and sounded really wet and sloppy but stank so horrendously bad, I had to cover my nose with one hand. As I came round to finishing, I smiled at the work of art I had just created, to then have my gleefulness shattered by a scream.\n\nMy mum had walked in with my washing, hadn't seen I was perched unleashing this shit storm and had walked right behind my arse and got full wind of it. She quickly ran out of the room as soon as I realised what had actually happened...\n\nI had followed through with a literal shot storm, and it had sprayed all over my mum. And now I can no longer look her in the eye", "summary": "I ate spicy chilli, held in almighty, world ending fart for too long, finally released it, and shat all over my poor mum"}
{"id": "t3_50f2sl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my close friend[23 M]'s sister [22 F], info below", "post": "So I was out to dinner for a birthday for a close friend of mine [23 M]. His family and a couple of their friends were there as well. I have expressed interest in his sister in the past but did not do anything about it as I was too afraid of losing the friendship with my buddy. After the dinner their father (who had had a few to say the least but has always been a straight shooter with me) told me that my friends sister was extremely interested in me if not in love with me after she had already left.  \n  \n  \nI am leaving for an undetermined amount of time to go into the military in a few weeks and while I would love to talk to her about it but I have no idea how to proceed as relationships (since my longest relationship was about 1 week) and feelings in general are not my strong suit.  Open to advice, comments, questions, concerns, etc.", "summary": "I'm leaving possibly forever but there's a girl. Pls help"}
{"id": "t3_3p78db", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i'm [19f] extremely uncomfortable accepting gifts from my previously abusive [41f] mom.", "post": "I had an extremely extremely terrible time growing up with my borderline mother. She consistently pushed me away and idolized my brother/scarcely did anything for me. She also would constantly make careless mistakes at the cost of my health and wellbeing. I felt like she never cared and didn't care about caring. Now that I've moved out she treats my [17M] brother terribly and begs me to call her, visit, etc. Just texting her has been a struggle to let her back in to my life. She is very overbearing and overly emotional with me, and gets dangerously close to how she used to guilt trip me for not loving her enough, so I feel a great deal of anxiety about this.\n\nI'm extremely grateful for some of the gifts and things she's helped me with like buying me a futon and now a pair of glasses. She'll be extremely pushy with gifts and I don't mind- I'm grateful because I need these things, but it makes me extremely uneasy. I'm afraid she's going to hold it over my head or blame me if she doesn't have enough money for something. I'm simply just, afraid. \n\nWhat do I do? How can I keep my boundaries safe?", "summary": "Borderline mom idealizing me after years of neglect/abuse. Her gifts feel like red flags. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_zr7dw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend of two months asked me to marry him...Thoughts?", "post": "Before you get into it... Listen to all of this. I met this guy when I went on a vacation to Florida. I live in Tennessee. He is 16. And I'm 18. I was there for a few days and then we started dating. I visited him a few weeks later for three weeks. It was a nice three weeks. We spent a lot of time together and it seems like a legit relationship. He's sweet and treated me like a lady. Things just seemed to go together when I was with him. Needless to say I started to like him a lot. I had to leave and go home for awhile. I've been home for about 3 weeks now and I'm about to go back in about 3 weeks for his 17th birthday. We haven't gotten a long very well in the past few weeks. Little spats every now and then. And last night he was extremely disrespectful and blatantly asked me a sexual question. I didn't like it at all. Well I confronted him about it and then a little while later he asked me to marry him. I avoided the question. He asked me through text and I told him he couldn't just ask me through text. He's really sweet and everything but things are moving too quickly. What do you guys think I should do? I really don't want to hurt him....", "summary": "really...wtf..."}
{"id": "t3_3ydaa5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was I [27 M] just a one-time fling with her [22 F] ? What are signs women only wanted a \"Booty Call\"?", "post": "So a week ago a cute cashier that works at the local gas station gave me her number. We ended up going out on a date for dinner and drinks , had a blast and went back to her place that night and had sex.\n\nWhile we were on the date she actually said she was looking for a boyfriend and something long term , as was I .\n\nNow over the past week she has barely been commucating with me. I usually always try and initiate conversation (over text and calls) first and when she does respond its usually quick and not detailed. Sometimes she wont answer me for several hours at a time.\n\nToday she told me she had a fever and wasn't feeling good at all so I offered to bring her some medicine to help her feel better and she said that would be nice. So I went to her house just to find out she was at work at the time and didn't mention it . I felt like such a jackass . So tell me reddit , was I just a booty call or is she just genuinely taking things (super) slow?", "summary": "Hooked up with girl a week ago that now barely responds when I try and communicate or make contact. Was I just a booty call?"}
{"id": "t3_43kep8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my Boyfriend of almost a year -- does FB relationship status matter?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. He's met my family, our friends and family know about our relationship in general and overall he's a great guy. His past relationship his ex made a lot of drama on social media and I understand if he wants to avoid it but it has no pictures of me on his facebook. I've put a couple of pictures of us on facebook and have changed my status to \"In a relationship\" a couple of days ago but he doesn't have a status (at least it's not \"single\" heh) \n\nI try not to be the jealous and clingy type girlfriend but I can't help feeling a bit uncomfortable about this. I've been understanding of his feelings about social media after his ex made drama on facebook and generally he doesn't post pictures with other people in them. \n\nThe reason why I got more uncomfortable was because last night he was checking facebook on his phone and ads relative to single men came up. I jokingly said \"Look it thinks you're single!\" and he said \"yeah .. guess I don't have a relationship status\" and didn't do anything about it. A week ago when I changed mine to \"In a relationship\" he was so excited and said I made his night. I just find it weird that I'm the only one in this relationship who posted pics of us (only 2-3 and I've stopped doing that) and has a relationship status.", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't have any trace of me on his social media lol"}
{"id": "t3_cutng", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Suggestions needed for the perhaps impossible", "post": "so, I'm a pretty nerdy dude to the extent that over the last few months have pretty much intentionally isolated myself to pursue an intense study in applied math/physics with a bit of computer programming thrown in. While I love to help people out and explain things (heck my awesome job is to teach children), I'm kind of feeling taken advantage of recently (and that it is bullshit that the vast majority of the times I do anything with girls it is under the pretence of them receiving math or programming help). In particular, there is one girl (who is of course hot) and she is in very desperate need of C++ help (received 5 texts, none answered , in the last hour). So here is the rub. I am a normal looking, even slightly muscular dude (I previously wanted to go into fashion design so I feel like I have a decent sense of this), so what are the things that I need to do in order to accommodate both her urgent needs for C++ and the relentless carnal yearnings of the male??\n\n(I am willing to say pretty much anything. I don' t worry about losing a 'friendship' because it is already way too asymettric)", "summary": "My 'friend' only calls me when she needs homework help. How can I use this to stop being her bitch and get into her pants?"}
{"id": "t3_1j7q30", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [29/m] two week girlfriend (27/f) is getting too serious too fast.", "post": "So here is my situation.\n\nI am a 29/m who is a novice with relationships. I have been happy on my own until this point but I decided to see what was out there and met someone through an online dating site. She, 27/f, is largely in the same situation as me and has very little dating or relationship experience. We hit it off after meeting for drinks and have been going out for about two weeks and started a physical relationship a week ago. We spent the day together yesterday, went out on a date, came back to my place and cuddled up on the couch, got intimate and generally had a lot of fun. When time came for her to get home, she got very emotional and teary. I asked her what was wrong and she said she was a bit overcome with how she felt about me and didn't want to leave. Then she told me she loved me. Now, I like this girl a lot and enjoy spending time with her but this was too much too fast for me. Even so, I had just finished consoling her and telling her she was special and I liked her and when she said she loved me I panicked. I didn't know what to say and didn't want to leave that just hanging and I said I loved her too. I know I shouldn't have said it without actually feeling it but I was caught off guard and it just happened. So now I feel like we are getting way too serious way too fast for me. I absolutely do not want to hurt this girl but I also feel like I have to be honest and I can't let her keep thinking I am in love with her if I am not. I am really stuck on where to go from here. How do I let her know I think we are getting serious too fast? How do I tell her I only said 'I love you' because she surprised me and caught me off guard? Should I get out of the relationship if she if feeling so serious so fast and I am not? Any advice would be so welcome.", "summary": "She said I love you too fast and I said it back without meaning it. Where do I go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_41z18e", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Training for a half/full on a tight schedule", "post": "I'm a Ph.D student who has to commute an hour and a half each way (it's not an option to move) and is trying to figure out an ideal training schedule for a half marathon in April and a full at the end of October. Currently I do my long runs on the weekends, but have a hard time getting the short ones in during the week.  \nMy Ph.D is pretty demanding, and sometimes I can squeeze in run during lunch, or get in an hour at the gym for strength/cross-training however by the time I get home (8-11pm) I usually want to just spend time with my SO and it's too dark to run alone (I'm female).  \n  \nMy goal right now is to keep my pace (9.50 min mile), but I'm worried that Im not investing enough time to complete the run or I'm setting myself up for injury.   \nAny advice? Is there an ideal number of times a week to train?", "summary": "student who can't train everyday needs advice on a half (April) and full (October)  "}
{"id": "t3_26jzia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my bf [28 M] of 2.5 years. I blacked out, cheated. Can we fix this? Should we?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have enjoyed 2.5 years together. We've lived together for most of that time. We have a life together--pets, routine, plans, etc. . Of course there have been some minor issues on both sides, but the question at hand is regarding something major I did recently. I went out with a girlfriend. Got drunk to the point of blacking out. I woke up in an ex's bed. The ex says we slept together, but I have no recollection of leaving the bar or anything past that. This is my first and only betrayal of my bf's trust. I immediately told him the following day. We're both reeling from this. I'm scared, regretful, ashamed. He's heartbroken, hurt, and angry. It goes without saying that it was meaningless and won't happen again. I've committed to not drinking to excess again. Do you think this is something that, with time and work, can be forgiven? Can we move past this and be stronger? Or did I just irreparably screw up a good thing? Do you have any insight or advice in particular for either him or me?", "summary": "Otherwise solid relationship. I don't remember cheating. Full of remorse. Can we move on, or is it too late?"}
{"id": "t3_4776x8", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Issues getting time off for interviews", "post": "I'm in a little bit of a pickle and I would greatly appreciate your opinions on the subject. I am an engineer and have been working at a ceramic tile manufacturer for the last 6 months. I don't like this job and have to commute 130 miles round trip daily to get to and from work. The job is in the middle of the boondocks, there is no relocation assistance, and quite frankly I wouldn't move there even if it was offered.\n\nI am in the process of trying to get a better job closer to home and my problem has been getting time off for interviews. I can't come out and tell my boss I want off to interview somewhere else as I feel like this would cause me more issues. My other problem is that they have been very stingy with me taking vacation time. I am assuming they are doing this because I am fairly new to the company. I have to have vacation time approved by my boss and she particularly likes to know why I'm taking off. \n\nThere is a company wanting me to come in for an interview and I'm not sure how to handle it. I have called in sick recently to attend a career fair. I'm pretty sure that is how I landed this interview, so the time off there was beneficial. I can't keep lying, but I'm running out of options. You guys got any ideas? Quitting isn't an option due to bills and such.", "summary": "Trying to figure out how to get time off for an interview."}
{"id": "t3_33w563", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend [20 F]. Together for two, long distance is nearing one. I told her how unhappy I'm getting and that there's a possibility of us not being together", "post": "I told my girlfriend yesterday that our long distance relationship was becoming extremely difficult for me. I suffer from depression and thoughts of self-harm but before she left, she acted as my escape. When I opened up to her, I finally felt like I had someone there for me. I couldn't be happier. But then she decided to leave for a college across the state. I was beyond devastated on the inside. I still congratulated her though and decided to stay together since we are so in love.\n\nUnfortunately, I caved into my depression and cut myself today. After growing so close to her, it's hard for me to spend time with anyone else now. I find it exhausting. I'm seeing a therapist and have been taking meds but nothing seems to work... Self-harm is something I still think about day in and day out. It's only made worse by this feeling of being alone.\n\nTo summarize our conversation yesterday, she just started crying and asked me not leave her. While it's sweet to know that she cares about me, I think she missed my point. This relationship is now furthering my depression... What do I do? I want to be with her but I don't think she knows what to do either...", "summary": "Long distance relationship making me more depressed than I already am. Tried talking to my girlfriend but didn't feel like I got much out of the conversation."}
{"id": "t3_2gnk31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [22 F] , 6 months, my women checking on her EX'es, i have really big problem on that", "post": "hey /r/relationships\n\nI have really big problem on my mind. I'm with my girlfriend (22 [F]) since 6 months. We have diffrent points of view on few things, one of those is that she thinks casual sex without love is totally normal for her (friends with benefiets in the past) but for me its not (i know - maybe there is something wrong with me? but i'm who i'm). Now she claims that she loves me, shes faithfull etc. but I know that she was still chatting with ex at facebook (they were together 4 years ago for more than year and he still have hope - besides, she cheated on him) and I told her that I really dont like it and I want her to quit that (stop chatting). She did it, but now I know that she is checking profiles of men she had sex/been with  (ex who chatted included) like every 2-3 days. Wtf? Why? Is she really loving me? Or maybe comparing to them? Talking with ex was something that really could destroy our realtionship, but idk what to do with looking at ex'es profiles... And i still have that idea in my mind that if she cheated on ex, maybe she will cheat on me while drunk or things like that.", "summary": "My girl is too open (i think), she did few things i didnt like. Checking at exs"}
{"id": "t3_2jxrzy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Twin [27 M]. He is sucking me dry and I can't do much in life because of it and it's probably my fault he's this way.", "post": "He is my fraternal twin. Growing up we were very close (inside the home). \n\nI've always been a sharing/giving person. During our birthday's he'd get most of my money and whatever presents he wanted and most money I earned from other places. (Not just him, but he was the one to ask the most)\n\nWe're largely opposites, He was put in the \"bad kids\" class and I was put in the accelerated classes. I graduated very early he never graduated at all. I've always been calm and he has had several felonies, and had to spend years in anger management.\n\nNow he has two kids (3,5) with an a complete utter psycho of a girlfriend. And though he loves his kids very much, literally 80%+ of his communication with him consists of yelling at them. Since I've always sort have been the babysitter of the family due to my love of children I have a good relationship with them and it'd pain me to see them in dire straits.\n\nIt's at a point now where I want to start a family of my own but I give him the majority of my income and live an **extremely** simple lifestyle largely as a result of that. He has a shit job, no education and various court fines to pay off, and his girlfriend doesn't work; so most of my money goes toward those affairs.             \n\nMy father notes that I was an enabler growing up and turned him into what he is so I'm responsible for him. I can more or less agree with that premise, but at what point does not helping turn into \"helping him\". As a child I had no idea just being kind would yield terrible consequences later on.\n\nIf I just suddenly cut him off right now, he will, due to probation/court things spiral further down.\n\nI guess I'm just to try living for myself without the terrible guilt consuming me on what might happen to him and his kids.", "summary": "Giving most of my income to my dumbass brother and his family, but I want to stop."}
{"id": "t3_2iclb1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by browsing Facebook", "post": "As you normally do, when duty calls you go to the restroom. Tonight I was at a restaurant and not particularly enjoying my company, so I decided to browse Facebook on my sluggish iPhone as I was sitting down in the middle stall. Scrolling down the news feed, a video starts playing, at max volume. I don't know about every other restroom, but most ones that I enter often make sounds louder than they should be. A video started playing of a world star hip hop fight, and so women screaming and everything like that was blaring. This scared and startled me so I dropped my phone while it was still playing. The mad scramble of me trying to pick up my phone took an eternity, but when I picked it up, my phone was frozen, and the audio was still playing. Eventually it stopped. but immediately after i hear a \"what\" from the stall next to me. I didn't leave the stall for a while.", "summary": "Phone gave me the shits."}
{"id": "t3_46p1oz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My (f/24) bf (m/23) dresses up to go out with his friends, but never puts effort in his appearance when he and I go out and it upsets me.", "post": "What the title says. We've been together 3 years, things are going well, but this really upsets me. Like when he goes out with his friends he always wears nice shirt, nice pants and shoes, showers prior to going out, puts on cologne and makes his hair look good. When we go out together, even to nice places, I'm lucky if he showers the morning of. When I brought it up with him he told me that I'm being demanding and that it should not matter to me, but it does. I take good care of myself and when we go out somewhere I'm always showered, wearing nice clothes and make up, and with my hair styled. Him not putting effort into his appearance makes me unhappy, as I feel like he does not care about looking good for me. I would love any advice on how to deal with the situation.", "summary": "bf makes effort to look good when going out with friends but not when going out with me."}
{"id": "t3_2oakor", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] married with [27 F] for 3 years, cheated with random person while I was away for work.", "post": "I was away for work for about a month when this happened about 8 months ago. Just recently I took a new offer for well paying job 2000 miles away from home. She just barely told me about this.\n\nThe thing that kills me is she just went to a bar and randomly go home with some guy, then went back the next night to do it again with the same person and then cut off contact with him. She never mentioned anything was wrong and I always felt like we got along very well, we were always goofy and loving. This was all while her parents were watching our 2 year old son. She is telling me she did this because I was ignoring her and was that I was too unhappy and she is addicted to attention... I admit that I was pretty depressed and focused on a job I hated that required going to work at 3AM.  \n\nI also feel I need to mention she was married before me and he cheated on her and it devastated her.  This makes it worse, knowing she did the same thing to me even though she knows what it is like.\n\nShe says that she told me because she felt so guilty and had been \"repenting\" for so long by not going out anymore. Every time I bring it up to talk about she will get super defensive and angry, but I do admit I am acting quite emotional at times about this which doesn't help. She says she wants to stay together with me \"forever\" and it was a mistake.\n\nI just don't know how to feel about this, how can you love someone and do something like that. Now I am stuck far away from my friends and other family in this lease and job. I feel like it was super selfish, she only told me to make herself feel better, and she told me after I took this job and got stuck in position. I have to stay here for at least a year and I feel so alone.\n\nShould I tough it out for the rest of the contract I have here to try and make it work for our child, or is that a bad idea?", "summary": "Wife of 3 years cheated on while I was away for work. Should I try to work it out with her while I finish the rest of my contract or just end it? Is that a good or bad idea considering we have a young child together."}
{"id": "t3_fpspw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How will getting married affect our medical insurance?", "post": "I'll be marrying my fianc\u00e9 in about thirteen months; she'll be 25(1/4), and I'll be 24(1/2) years old when we tie to knot.\n \nShe is currently covered by her employer, though the coverage is not that great. Her father is going to get a far better medical package, and she wants to know if she should switch onto his when she is eligible in three months. If we weren't getting married, that would be a done deal as she would save money and be better insured in the process; however, since we are getting married, I would like to know how marriage will affect our medical insurance.\n \nI have read articles relating to the \"marriage penalty\" in the health care bill, but many articles seem to be fuzzy on the details. Does anyone know what the consequences of getting married are regarding how much we pay, and how well we are covered?\n \nI am assuming that our combined income will be somewhere between $50k and $75k when get married. I have been looking for an answer for a while now, and nothing seems to be clear cut. We would like to stay under our parent's health insurance as long as we can as it is probably better than anything we could get for the time being.", "summary": "Should she stay with her employer's plan, or switch to her father's before we get married?"}
{"id": "t3_1vs9gi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How much do I know about a subject if I complete a 100 level college course?", "post": "I'm taking a college level 'survey' in pop culture and cultural theory and I feel I'm learning a lot and gaining a new perspective on pop culture that goes beyond \"#weed #YOLOSWAG #totesmygoats\" (after writing that, it seems hard for anything to not be above that intellectual level, but I digress).\n\nAnyway, my point is that I hear a lot of students come out of 100 level courses feeling like they know everything but really have just scratched the surface (typically this is with psychology). So I'm trying to figure out how much I can presume to know about this topic. When do I cross the line from \"look at this cool information and new perspective on things\" to \"I know everything. You're a total unwashed plebe and I'm a giant douche\"?", "summary": "How much do I really know after a 100 level course? (and when am I being an arrogant jerk?)"}
{"id": "t3_3xsuqc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What does she wants to achieve with this behaviour?", "post": "So I(m18)'m at my first date and she(f17) starts talking about weird guys... the date was going quite well, the talk was going smoothly and we're having a good time, but then we got on the topic of weirdness somehow. She starts telling some horrific stories of creepy-weird guys, and how they all comment on her boobs and how badly they want her, how some say they want to rape her because of her beautiful boobs and all. \n\nI didn't really expect any boobtalk tbh, so i wasnt quite sure how respond to this. Obviously I told her that this was worrying and that I was ashamed to be a man because of this. Some men are really disgusting!\n\nWe soon started talking about other things again. But she managed to talk a little more about her boobs a few more times during the evening anyways.\n\nLater on I've been wondering what she really wanted to achieve with this, because honestly it seemed like she was trying to talk a lot about her boobs, and how big they were. Making it the focal point of the conversation. Perhaps to advertise it for me, that this was something she was proud of..?\n\nNow, it's gotta be said that it is indeed true that she has a really nice rack, but I did not feel like complimenting her boobs would fit in in this date. First of: it weird af, as I had barely seen her before. And also, the content of her stories. It sounded like she had had more than enough of boob-loving weird guys. But why did she keep talking about then then, and why is it that her snaps now regularly contains some cleavage?", "summary": "she told me stories about creepy guys who love her boobs and says they would rape her. At the same time it feels like she wants to make it known that she has great boobs."}
{"id": "t3_1ub9rg", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "What are your opinions about going back to a company that laid you off?", "post": "A little back story. Back in May, myself and about 90 people were laid off from unsaid company. I, luckily, found a job with the competition a couple months later. I haven't been a fan of my new found position; the schedule, the attitudes, and the lack of leadership from management, just to name a few things. Things have been getting better in the last month or so but I still find myself looking elsewhere.\n\nAbout a week ago, an opening at my previous company opened up for a position, even though they laid more people off after the first initial layoff. The position isn't for the one I held previously, but rather, for a higher position that I filled in for every now and then. I thought about it over a couple of drinks and applied over the internet. I received a call yesterday and set up an interview for the beginning of next week. I don't even know if I want the job, I applied just to start a dialogue and see where it might take me. The previous job has aquired some assest and they will need people by September of next year but I'm still not positive they are done with their layoffs. It's a unique situation, I'm just curious what an outside perspective would be.", "summary": "Company laid me off, found new job. Don't quite like new job, have interview with previous company..."}
{"id": "t3_3zgnxj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with guy I'm dating [25 M] four months - I called him (we've not seen each other in five weeks) and his response was 'I'm watching TV, can you not text me' and hung up. Rude or am I overreacting?", "post": "As title says: \n\nNot seen him in five weeks (partly due to me going away for 2 of those) but have wanted to see him. Have only actually seen each other four times in these four months but we text daily and he keeps saying he's interested. \n\nCalled a couple of times over Christmas (2 or 3) and I got home today and thought I'd call. Arrived back in the same city today so we could meet but he says he wants to go to the gym after work this week so can't meet until Friday. As we've not seen each other in ages I was a bit miffed. \n\nWhen I called his response was 'I'm watching TV, can you not text me' and literally hung up. I don't get wtf this is. That felt really rude but he seems to think I overreact. \n\nAm I crazy or was that rude?", "summary": "Is it rude to answer phone abruptly and hang up like this? You're meant to be 'on best behaviour' and chasing the girl in these early stages or am I mental??"}
{"id": "t3_4l8p2q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speeding.", "post": "As is customary. This didn't happen today, but a couple of months ago. I'll keep it short. I was on Pennsylvania I-79 and got pulled over for speeding. (I was late for work, it's no excuse, I know.) So the officer gives me the ticket. I take it and I go on my way. The ticket was $222. I've been driving for 9 years and this is the first speeding ticket that I have received. My record is clean. So anyway, I decide not to dispute the ticket (didn't want to lose work), sign that I'm guilty and pay the ticket. \n\nA couple of weeks later I receive a letter that I need to attend a Department Hearing for Excessive Speeding. I got caught speeding at the area where the speed limit changes from 65 to 55. I was allegedly going 87. I probably was. I was. Excessive Speeding means speeding 31 mph or more above limit. I paid ticket just so I wouldn't have to deal with a court or lose work to go to any hearing at DMV. But here I am, paid the ticket, and going to hearing, and took a day off of work. I get informed at the Hearing that one of two things will happen. Or both.\n\n1. 15  Day  License  Suspension\n2. Special  On-Road  Driver's  Examination (Basically retaking license test again)\n\nIf a 15 day suspension is initiated, the driving record will show 5 points upon restoration. No points are removed if a special driver's examination is initiated and completed.\n\nI'm still waiting on decision from hearing, but one of the two things will definitely happen.\n\nI need to pay $70 to get license back when 15 day suspension is over. I need to pay $50 to get a temporary license (I still don't understand this one) to go to work.\n\nOn top of this, I will get 5 points on license and my insurance rate will probably rise.", "summary": "Speeding. First offense. License suspension. Fees."}
{"id": "t3_3q5ppv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/M] having separation issues with my niece [4/F]", "post": "So my niece was born about 4 years ago and ever since she was born she's always been a really important part of my life. She is my first niece. \n\nThere were a few time periods where I was either unemployed or in school over these last 4 years, so I spent a lot of time \nwith her as she grew up.\n\nAnyways, right now I am currently abroad for an unknown period of time (halfway across the world). This is the first time in my life that I've ever been abroad by myself and while I miss my friends and family very dearly, I miss her the most.\n\nI can talk to my parents or other family members over Skype and I'm perfectly fine but the second my niece comes on and says that she really misses me or asks when I'm coming back and looks exceptionally sad I get teary eyed.\n\nI just don't understand why she gets to me. I miss her so incredibly much it's ridiculous and I just don't get it. I have another nephew and niece that have been born in the last couple years (with another on the way very shortly) but none of them affect me this way. Also, after multiple instances of babysitting I KNOW I do not wants kids for a long period of time. I need to live my own life but sometimes I think about her and I want to be there for her.\n\nCan anyone help?", "summary": "Miss my niece the most out of everyone in my life while abroad, no idea why."}
{"id": "t3_4ih0b7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (20f) handle people asking about my old self-harm scars?", "post": "I'm doing much better now, but two or three years ago I went through a pretty bad time. I ended up with several relatively light scars on my forearms, belly, and upper thighs. Those ones are usually not noticeable and while some people point them out they're pretty easy to shrug off. However, I also have much deeper scars running up the entirety of my upper arms, and now that it's summer again and I'm going out in tshirts and tank tops, people won't stop asking about them. They're raised and heavy and very obviously self-inflicted. \n\nIt seems like everyone from my boss to my Spanish professor (in front of the whole class, which is what prompted this post) has pointed them out. Some people are nice about it, and of course some are really rude, but it always makes me uncomfortable because I just don't know what to tell them.\n\nI've tried covering the scars with concealer and followed some home remedies to make them less noticeable but nothing has really worked so far. I don't think they're going away any time soon, and I'm in the American south so it would be difficult to spend all summer in long sleeves or sweaters. \n\nI don't want to feel like my scars are something I should be ashamed of for the rest of my life. But I also don't want to be stuck explaining a very personal and painful part of my history to strangers all the time. With little kids I can spin some crazy story and laugh about it, with adults I usually tell them they're just old scars, but some people really won't take the hint. One of my coworkers straight up told me I was just looking for attention after I tried to shrug it off. But I don't want attention or pity or a therapy session with strangers; I just want to be able to wear short sleeves this summer.\n\nI guess I just don't know the etiquette on this. What can I say to people to let them know that while I appreciate their concern, I really don't want to talk about it? Or should I suck it up and stick with long sleeves for now?", "summary": "People won't stop asking about the old scars on my arms. How can I get them to leave me alone without being rude?"}
{"id": "t3_4drl1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (20F) being totally unreasonable?", "post": "So I'm a virgin. And I made a promise to myself when I was younger to wait until marriage because I was afraid of getting too attached to someone and letting them break my heart even more than was necessary. (I watched it happen to my sister and didn't want to go through that.) My boyfriend (21M) did not have the same plan (which is completely normal. We're adults); however, this already puts a hitch in our relationship because I feel like I can't give him what he wants or needs and I don't feel like I'm good enough because I don't \"put out.\" He denies that it bothers him but I can tell it still does (he's a terrible liar), and I start to feel bad and it makes me feel shitty, and doubtful, and insecure, and hopeless.\n\nAnyways, on top of that, yesterday I found out that he still watches porn every so often, and maybe I was naiive to think that just because you start dating someone you stop needing porn in your life, but it still really stung. I tried to bring it up to him and told him that it makes me feel really insecure about myself and makes all the feelings I mentioned in the above paragraph much more vivid, and then he got mad, saying, \"you're making me wait and now you don't want me to watch porn?\" And then left. I never told him he couldn't, I was just trying to open up about my feelings to him. And on top of that, him saying that I'm making him wait really hurt since he told me before we started dating that after his last nasty hookup he wanted to wait, too. \n\nAm I being completely unreasonable for having these feelings? Is it wrong of me to be upset that he watches porn? I already have some image issues that I've been working on, but now this kinda piles on and makes me feel worse about myself again.", "summary": "I'm a virgin waiting until marriage, boyfriend hopped on the wait train but I can tell it's difficult for him. Found out he still watches porn to make up for me not fulfilling that need, and it makes me feel like an insecure piece of poo. Now that I'm sad, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5ey1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24m) am starting to fall for my (23f) friend but I am getting married in 3 months to my (25f) fianc\u00e9e and have no idea what to do", "post": "So I'm sorry about any grammer or spelling mistakes in advance I am really dyslexic and I'm having a hard time trying to phrase this. Also I'm on mobile so sorry about format\n\nSo I want to start off by saying me and my fianc\u00e9e have been togered for a little over 7 years. And we have a kinda open relationship where we allow flirting making out pretty much everything but sex. But all of this started about 4 or 5 months ago when I started at a new company and one of my coworker caught my eye and though I would try and talk to her. We quickly became really good friends we have a lot in common and get along really well. My coworker knows I have a fianc\u00e9e and at the time she was dating a girl. About after a month they broke up and she was pretty deviated about it. We were hanging out andI was trying to cheer her up and we had been drinking and one thing led to another and I ended up kissing her and she started kissing back and things got pretty heated and I ended up in her bed, no sex just lots of foreplay. That was a one night thing hasn't happened ssince and she said she is more interested in woman right now anyway. I told her not much else could happen anyway with me getting married soon. And now she is trying to date another woman. But something has been drawing me to her and my days haven't been feeling complete till I talk to her and if I don't I kinda get depressed. And I am slowly growing distant with my fianc\u00e9e. I still love her but something is making me second guessing everything. I have though of calling everything off but I don't know if I could do that to my fianc\u00e9e but at the same time I would rather spend my day with my coworker. Any ideas or am I just being a dumb ass. I will be happy to answer any questions or explain more about any aspectof any of this . Thank you for listening to me", "summary": "can't figure out if I should stay with my fianc\u00e9e or go and wait for my coworker"}
{"id": "t3_11lmuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23] Should I contact my ex?[F24]", "post": "Im sure this question has been addressed before but here goes.\n\nHad a 4 year relationship from age 16-20 broke up because of school and growing up. We have been in contact over the past 4 years and she even told me last year that she still loved me. We have both had numerous relationships. Mine never lasting more than a year at a time.\n\nShe was the love of my life and still one of the few people I can talk to for hours without any problems.\n\nMind you I recently broke up with a girl a couple weeks ago and plan on giving it some time before any contact.\n\nShould I tell her how I feel?", "summary": "Had a great relationship in the past should I contact her?"}
{"id": "t3_29leqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23/M)Girlfriend (23/F) always wants to tag along, I don't like it. how to politely tell her while sparing her feelings", "post": "My wonderful yet some what clingy girlfriend like to accompany me wherever I go,\n\n normally it it's not an issue but recently it has started to irk me in certain circumstances, we live in different cities and she comes down to visit often, I understand she likes to spend time with me because we only see eachother a few times a month.\n\n My problem lies with the fact that she insist to be included in everything. Living in different cities we have different friends so when we go out she tells me to stick to her side the whole night so she doesn't feel lonely which makes it hard to socialize with others which kinda defeats the purpose.\n\n Having her tag along constantly cuts my night short because she says she will feel awkward and want to leave or say she has a \"headache\" and will go sit in the car to try to guilt me into leaving,\n\nI by no means have a problem with taking my girl out but it gets awkward when I'm out with the guys or out with my fraternity brothers at a cookout or something and I'm stuck with her complaining how she wants to leave. \n\nI like having her around but just not when I'm trying to be with my friends.", "summary": "gf likes to tag along yet complains about not knowing anybody"}
{"id": "t3_52ol79", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by resisting Restless Legs Syndrome", "post": "For the uninitiated, restless legs syndrome is another name for hell.  It's an indescribable urge to move your legs, brought on randomly (usually when I'm sitting in a reclined position) and the severity and ways to stop it vary from person to person.  Personally, the only help for me is either walking around or twitching my legs.  TODAY however, I decided that enough was enough, and that English III Honors was the place to conquer this abomination, by resisting the urge to twitch.  The creepy-crawly feeling builds and builds in my legs, and suddenly after about 15 seconds (which felt like hours) my left leg bursts straight upwards into the bottom of my desk.  Four hours later, I'm still icing it while watching my mellophones march around the field with no section leader to guide them.", "summary": "Involuntarily kicked bottom of desk, probably ended up with a bone bruise."}
{"id": "t3_1ruymh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26f] have a FWB [23m] who is lying to his other FWB [28f] about me... why?", "post": "I've had 23/m FWB for about a year.\n\nHis other hook-up, 28/f, sees other people, and has known in the past about his seeing me and others, and this has always been okay with the two of them.\n\nRecently I heard (through other people) that my FWB told this girl he hadn't slept with anyone in two months, even though he and I saw each other quite a bit in the past month.\n\nIf all these situations were so casual, why the hell would he lie about it? I want to call him out but can't because I can't reveal the sources of my gossip. hehe.", "summary": "casual sex friend is lying to other casual sex friend about me, and i cannot figure out why"}
{"id": "t3_2uqryh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update #2:I (24/f) lost my self in depression/anxiety and in return pushed away my girlfriend (22/f) who now asked me for a break. How do I fix myself w/o obsessing over what she may be thinking about?", "post": "[Previous Post](\n\nI have gone to therapy, have taken a step back and have been able to view the break up in a new light.\n\nI am seeing it more positive, working on myself for myself.\n\nThe thing is: Everytime she texts me I get anxiety. I don't know the proper way to respond. We have a dog that we agreed to take turns with for the time being. She has asked me about paying rent, pants that she can't find, etc.\n\nHer mom asked me to pack up her clothes and shoes for her. I would. But I think that it will hurt me. Should I tell her I'd rather her pack up because it would most likely hurt me? Should I not show signs of weakness? What do I do? Should I just pack up and deal with the pain and risk moving back a step?\n\nWhat should I do when she texts? I answer the question cut and dry. But I then worry about what she might think. I don't want to answer to nice, because I don't want her to think I'm trying to get her back yet. I'll fight for her but after I figure out my shit.\n\nWhat do I do? Where do I go from here?", "summary": "What do I do when she texts me?"}
{"id": "t3_e118z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, I am a chronic procrastinator and I really need advice.", "post": "I am one of those individuals who has a list of interests that is near endless. I am very into electronics and robotics and am always starting a new project and stopping ones that are half finished. I also suffer from wikipedia sprees where I will spend hours researching a random subject to the point of probably knowing too much.\n\nWith that being said I am also a Senior in high school (American education system.) Both my parents have never gone to college and have very little formal education. They never pushed me to due my school work and study correctly so I developed really bad habits. I never really noticed how horrible they were until I got into classes that were actually somewhat challenging (AP Physics C).\n\nMy day goes like this: Go to school, come home and eat, and two or three days a week I work until 6. Well somehow everyday I always find a way to put off doing my school work until late hours. It is terrible because I will consciously acknowledge it but then forget and keep going. By the time I look at the clock it is this hour and I am starting to become tired.", "summary": "Reddit, what can I do to get into good habits of studying and school work. "}
{"id": "t3_4wkwei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19[M], Need advice regarding a girl, 19[F] I like.", "post": "Hey guys. So I've liked this girl, since months. I've even almost asked her out a few times. The problem is, she hangs out with such hot guys. And some of them like her. And whenever I see her with them, my self confidence plummets. I mean, why would she date me when she has so many better options. And so, I don't ask her out because I look average at best. Not very hot or good looking. And she is kinda hot. And it's not just her looks. She has such a great personality too! The problem is, even if she dates me, I know I'll never be as good as those guys or treat her the way they would. I feel I don't deserve her.", "summary": "Like a girl very much, but not hot or good enough. I feel she won't like me and have self confidence issues where I compare myself with other guys and think they are better than me. Even if she would like me, I feel I am not good enough for her."}
{"id": "t3_2jwkvx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cutting my skin with an iPad", "post": "[First Post, so I hope this is good]\n\nUnlike most other TIFU this actually happened today. It was a ordinary day in English Class. The class was preparing to get ready for our next assessment. Now, I had a brain wave. Out of a class of 25, I decided to be the odd one out, and be \"The next gen kid\" and do my assessment on an iPad, and the rest of the class did theirs on pen and paper lol\n\nThe class kept looking at me why I did my work, I think it was just for pure jealously as I had the privilege of using an iPad in class. So to piss them off, I spent a couple of minutes just surfing the web just for the fun of it! I then opened up Keynote and got my work done. I would consider myself to be one of the students to know a lot about Technology, so I flown through my work, while the rest of the class still worked on theirs.\n\nBell Rung for lunch. I get up pretty quickly from my seat, open up the box were the iPads sit and charge, and it happened. I cut myself on my hand.... with an iPad. \n\n[INTERESTING PART] \n\nThe case on the iPad was one of those fully protected one. It was kinda hard, but rubbery edges to protect it. While I was putting it back in the box to charge, the edge of the case must a sliced a bit of my skin off while I put it back... ;( While I walked back to my seat to grab to get my money for lunch, I noticed that the top of my thumb started to bleed. When I turned round to look at the class to line up for Lunch, they looked  at my hand, as it started to bleed quite badly. I couldn't understand how it happened as I felt no pain while I was putting it back.\n\nAll I could hear was how stupid I was for cutting myself... with an iPad \"kappa\" \n\nI'm thankfully okay, and don't need stitches. It was only a slight cut, and it healed in no time. The bleeding stopped, and I was fine and dandy after that :D", "summary": "Mock classmates as I got the privilege to use a iPad in class, only to later find out I cut myself with it."}
{"id": "t3_3y9atk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving birth in Europe.", "post": "Im in a youth hostel somewhere in Europe. After days of traveling my gut has taken a beating due to the new foods and environment. Im very, very gassy.\n\nIts very early morning, and my guts drop. Im 20 seconds away of letting out an atomic gas bomb. \nI run to bathroom while every one's waking up.\n\nMy intention was to flush the toilet at the exact moment I unleashed the beast to mask the sound.\nI pull the leaver and give birth to a monster....anally.\n\nThe toilet didnt flush.\nThey cut the water at nighttime.\nEveryone heard it.\nIm still in the bathroom, too embarrassed to leave.", "summary": "Shit hit the pan while I missed my chance."}
{"id": "t3_2ovntp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [25/M] broke up with me [25/F] but very soon I will be seeing him daily. What do I do?", "post": "My ex really was the first person I have ever fully loved. I have one slight deeper issue and it's hard for me to find people that love me and can be in a relationship with me despite it. He could.\n\nWe had a very passionate relationship that drifted off as soon as we were in different cities for the summer. He was set to go abroad at the end of the summer so I kinda knew that a break up might happen (spoiler, it did). Long distance really sucked. He ended our relationship after 10 months of dating. I was 1/2 shocked that our breakup happened and 1/2 expecting it. However it hurt like crazy. It's been 4 months and I really thought I was over it till I had a dream about him last night and now I cannot stop crying.\n\nI attend a very small law school so it's easy for us to share a lot of the same friends. He's also coming back next semester and it is very likely that I will run into him daily. I still love him deeply but our contact has been minimal which makes me think that he's fully over it. I know I shouldn't expect anything to happen but it's so damn hard not to.\n\nI wanted him to come back and see me doing well, physically and emotionally, but I don't know how to when every time I even think about him I fall apart. I'm just sad. I miss him. This damn city is too small to be able to move on. What do I do? What can I do? What is the best way for me to handle the situation?\n\n(aside- our home homes (not law school homes) are very close to each other. I wanted to meet with him over winter break to talk before school started back up. Good idea or no?)", "summary": "love of my life is coming back to our small law school very soon and I'm not over it."}
{"id": "t3_pxt7b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Losing all motivation. . .", "post": "I'm a freshman in college at a pretty good university in the United States. I high school I gave as little effort as I could and I seemed to get by all right. I knew that wouldn't work here and I can definitely tell. First semester went by alright, but now I just have no motivation to do anything. Doing school work gives me no satisfaction and I just can't concentrate on it for shit. If I don't get enjoyment out of doing my school work I don't see how I can be expected or even hope to do well here. The more and more I think about it the more I see myself not even graduating.\n\nJust looking for advice on what I can do to counteract this or some ideas as alternatives to college. I don't feel a need to make six figures in the future so this doesn't really bother me. Thanks.", "summary": "I have no motivation to do school work. Help"}
{"id": "t3_edpnz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm atheist and have been dating a Jewish girl for two years, thinking about future children makes me wonder if I should end it now.", "post": "I also posted this in r/relationshipadvice\n\nSo I'm in a bit of a conundrum. My girlfriend is amazing in every way, and I have the most fun I can imagine when I'm with her. There is no doubt in my (or her) mind that we have real long-term potential. We mesh perfectly in almost every respect, but one respect in which we don't mesh well is the title of this post.\n\nI'm atheist and she's a reformed Jew. She respects my beliefs and I respect hers completely. The thing is she made it clear to me that if we were to stay together and have children someday that they would be raised Jewish (i.e. go to hebrew school, have a bar/bat mitzvah, etc). She is not willing to budge in this respect\u2013at all. I understand that having children is something far in the future but I feel that if it's not going to work in the future I may as well end it now and have fun with other girls.\n\nI'm not sure if I'm in the wrong being completely opposed to raising my children religiously due to my beliefs (or lack of them), but I just can't stand the idea of them being raised in that way. It may have to do with the fact that I was not raised in a religious fashion, whereas she was raised Jewish by her fairly religious mother (my gf is far less religious than her mother, thankfully).\n\nSorry for the length of this post, but I think it's important to point out that my girlfriend believes in raising Jewish children in order to continue tradition, not because of religious beliefs. She also believes that the network one forms when being raised Jewish is important (i.e. temple connections).\n\nShould I end it now? Or should I just suck it up and realize that raising Jewish children is a totally normal thing and that almost all children are raised religiously?", "summary": "I am crazy in love with my girlfriend, but she insists on raising future children Jewish (i.e. hebrew school, bar/bat mitzvah). She will not compromise. End it now or suck it up?"}
{"id": "t3_egsrw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my life was put on the line from a auto mechanic, need your advice.", "post": "Dramatic title, sure, but really, that's exactly what they did.\n\nI went to Precision Auto Care (72nd ave) in Tacoma, WA to get my brakes checked out.\n\nThey were acting a bit squishy so I figured I'd have them install some new pads or see what they could do.  I should've left the second I started talking to the guy, I explained the brakes were giving too much and he said \"Well to me, that sounds like your ABS system is doing EXACTLY what it should be doing.\" \n\n They did their check on it, made an elaborate story about how the brake pads melted on to the calipers and the rotors are completely shot.  I was told this over the phone before I went to go pick it up,  I told him I didn't have the money right now to do what they were asking ($920), and he said they'll put it back for me.\n\nI get to the store, he repeats the story, then says \"I really wouldn't recommend you driving, the way they are right now are very dangerous.\"  He said the \"dangerous\" thing a couple more times.\n\nI drive out, notice that the brakes are way worse, they have a constant grind, even when I wasn't braking.\n\nWhich comes to today, my awesome brother in law said he would do it for me, and when he takes off the passenger front, it shows they put my old pads on backwards.  So the metal from the pad has been wearing on the rotor.  Oh, and by the way the calipers were just fine and dandy.\n\nIs there any sort of legal action I should take?  I didn't drive my car much, maybe once or twice in a short distance, so no worries on that.", "summary": "A mechanic put my brake pads on backwards to have me come back and spend a butt load of money."}
{"id": "t3_1coqez", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone secretly recording my girlfriend in class...? What do we do?", "post": "(Sorry if this isn't the right place to post, please direct me to the appropriate subreddit if so.)\n\nI'm a bit freaked out right now about the whole thing, and wasn't sure how to best approach the issue and calm my girlfriend down (I'm at work while she's in class at university.)\n\nApparently after her class, a girl in her class approached my girlfriend and asked to talk to her. She told my gf that some guy that was sitting next to her was recording her on his cellphone the whole time, and this girl saw him because she sat behind him. They told the TA after class, and apparently he saw the two talking after class. My gf is now in her next class, but we are both pretty freaked out on what to do. She said she doesn't know who the kid is, but remembers the face. She thought it was weird that the kid kept staring at her, so she snapchatted her friend a picture of him (snapchat pictures go away after a few seconds.) She is now in her next class with a close friend of ours.\n\nWhat can we do about this, and what is the best way to approach it? I cannot be there for her because of work, and I'm trying to assure her and myself that everything will be okay. But I'm not sure how to deal with it. Calling the cops seem a bit excessive at this point, but who knows if it was the first or last time this will happen?", "summary": "some guy records gf in class, what should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_3367ne", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New car faulty. What can I do? (Ford Focus 2014)", "post": "I purchased a 2014 Ford Focus 5 months ago and today I got a \"Transmission Fault- Service Now\" error. It only has 7,500 miles on the odometer. I'm extremely upset. I called my Ford Roadside service and got it towed to the dealership. It's currently closed but I will be heading in tomorrow morning when they open to discuss my options. I have a feeling that they will try to just fix the issue but honestly I would prefer to get a new vehicle preferably not a Ford Focus or Fiesta since further research has lead me to believe that the transmission was not well designed. I read about Lemon Laws and  read that the dealer usually tries to repair the issue and after several attempts if the issue still remains then I qualify for a \"Lemon\". Does anyone have any experience dealing with this or any advice in how I should prepare before meeting my contact at the dealership? Any help is much appreciated. Thank You.", "summary": "New car's transmission is faulty meeting dealership tomorrow. What should I do or how should I prepare?"}
{"id": "t3_1kqrv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[27M] and my fianc\u00e9's [28F](together 6.5 years) engagement is on the rocks. We've talked about it but have clue how to move forward. What now?", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for 6.5 years.  Last December I finally proposed and she happily said yes. We began planning the wedding and set the date for next June.  A long engagement.\n\nEverything was fine for the first few months, just normal stresses of wedding planning.  A few months ago we began bickering about everything under the sun, not too out of the ordinary for a couple in the throws of planning a wedding I thought.\n\nAbout a month ago we went on vacation with close friends who are also engaged.  We bickered a lot on the trip.  I also got to see another soon-to-be-married couple's relationship up close.\n\nSince then something has snapped and I starting losing sleep over getting married.  We have been together so long but I can't shake the feeling that it just doesn't feel right.  The romantic spark doesn't seem to be there for a couple who is about to devote the rest of their lives to another.  \n\nShe is a wonderful woman but we differ in some (not a lot though honestly) long term life goals and our relationship just doesn't excite me that much any more.  \n\nI finally broke down and talked to her last night, so she knows to an extent what I am feeling, but I'm having a lot of trouble getting much out.  I'm terrified frankly.\n\nShe wants to work on it, and I do too, i think we've come to far to simply throw it away.  \n\nWhere do we go from here?  Is it really possible to from here to back to committing our lives together in front of 150 people?", "summary": "Long relationship and engagement now on the rocks.  Where to go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_ebkmu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So a girl I kinda like has tried to cut off contact with me for no reason that I know of. What should i say to her?", "post": "So this girl and I have a little history together, nothing serious, we knew each other for a little while. Went to a high school dance and we danced the whole night together and kind of hit it off (We never kissed though). Then we kind of lost touch with each other. I don't believe I have done anything to anger her or anything, but I find out today that she has blocked me from accessing her facebook feed and posting to her wall. I kind of like her and would like to talk to her again but am really confused by the fact that she has tried to block me. What should I say to her as I still want to be her friend (at least) and talk to her. \n\nWhat's Reddit's advice on the matter? What should I say since if I message her, she will know, that I know, that she tried to blocked me.", "summary": "I know a girl that I kinda like, we haven't talked in a while, find out today she blocked me on facebook and I don't know why.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3v06g0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF [26 F] of 7 months, found some pictures in her online portfolio that left me unconfortable", "post": "My GF likes photography and has an online portfolio. The other day I was checking it out and found old pictures of her and her now ex-bf. Some of them where somewhat intimate (kissing) and it really bothered me seeing it.\n\nThey ended on pretty bad terms and have no contact anymore. She still updates the portfolio but it's possible she forgot she has those pictures. Should I tell her how I felt and ask her to delete them or should I suck it up, shut up and just not look in there anymore.", "summary": "Found old pictures of her and her ex-bf"}
{"id": "t3_ubcrw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tales of piss, puke and poo.  My good friend is about to have his first baby. What funny and gross stories do you have to share while he counts down the hours prior to arrival?", "post": "I'll go first. Our lil bundle of joy was just about crawling. She had a bit of a rash on her bottom from her nappy/diaper- so we were letting her move around on a carpet, happy as larry, without anything covering the bottom half. \nSuddenly there was a nuclear size explosion, combined with a squelching noise. Not only was there a steaming pile of poo on the carpet, it had projectile shot across the room, leaving a trail of black/green lumpy liquid on the carpet and on the side of the couch. How can so much poop come from something so small? And the smell!", "summary": "baby infant projectile poops some distance leaving smelly black/green mess in its wake."}
{"id": "t3_v0cga", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "anyone have any stories regarding the deepweb?", "post": "I recently discovered what the deepweb is, and for those who dont know it is essentially an entire network of sites that dont show up on search engines and are only able to be found using anonymous proxies as far as i know. after wading through a number of websites filled with gore/cp i found some interesting conspiracy theories and also a number of arms dealing and drug dealers. there are rumors of leaked documents from Nazi experiments and area 51 but I haven't found anythoing like that. I wanted to know what other redditors have found while exploring the deepweb", "summary": "share stories regarding the deepweb and you experiences with it"}
{"id": "t3_4bl9td", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] sister [20 F] and I want to get matching tattoos, but I'm afraid my other sister [13 F] will feel left out.", "post": "So, I have three sisters, my \"whole\" sister Jo (20), my half-sister Lisa (13), and my step-sister Maria (also 13). Jo and I are best friends. We shared a room when we lived at home, we go to the same college, we share everything with each other. It's great. We aren't as close with our other sisters, though. Since we go to school so far away from home, we don't see them very often, and the age gap makes it hard to connect even when we do spend time together. This doesn't bother Maria very much since she lives with my dad anyway, and she's only been our sister for about a year (our dad recently remarried). But according to my mom, Lisa feels left out pretty often when it comes to me and Jo. We do try and spend time with her, like taking her for ice cream, recommending books and talking about them with her, stuff like that. It isn't the deepest stuff but we really do try. \n\nRecently, Jo and I have been thinking about getting tattoos together. We've been coming up with various ideas, but I haven't committed to anything yet because I'm worried how Lisa will feel about it. Obviously she isn't old enough to get a tattoo so it's not like we could include her in it anyway, but still. I don't want to create drama where it could otherwise be avoided, you know?\n\nAnyway, I'd really like some perspective on the matter. Is this something that would have upset you at 13 years old? Should I talk to her about it, or just not mention anything until after it's done? Thanks guys!", "summary": "Sister and I want to get matching tattoos, but I'm scared it'll make my younger sister feel left out."}
{"id": "t3_og99k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your lucky number (and color)? I'm trying to beat the lottery.", "post": "Hey reddit,    \n    \nI'm tired of being broke all the time, so I've decided that the only option is to win the lottery.  (2 am judgement)\n\nThing is, I'm not winning. The problem is that I'm playing with MINE numbers, but the lottery is for everyone. So I need your help to beat the system. Here's how it works. I need to choose 6 numbers and one color. The numbers are [0,45] and the colors are: red, orange, yellow, green, blue , purple.    \n\nFor those that are wondering, it's [lotto.nl](lotto.nl).   \n   \nSo, if you have an extra minute I'd really appreciate it if you could reply with your \"lucky\" number (between the bounds), and color.   \n\nWould be preferable if you could post them apart, so people with the same number as you can simply upvote your comment instead of making a new one.   \n    \n\n    \n***    \n    \n    \n    \n    \n### What's in it for you?   \n   \nTo be completely honest.... nothing. But I will donate 50% of the winnings (after tax) to a charity of reddit's choosing. If needed I will gladly submit a controversial comment which can be downvoted to oblivion until I come through.", "summary": "Post a number between 0 and 45, and one of these colors: "}
{"id": "t3_3t0xwf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23M] So I haven't kissed a girl for 22 years and in a span of 2 months I made out with over 15 - now I can't handle it", "post": "So okay. I'm an average guy, not bad looking but not anything women dream about. I always had a kind of a social anxiety around girls, not that I couldn't talk to them, but I couldn't make any moves, I was afraid of rejection I guess. \n\nNow a couple of months ago I tried MDMA and kinda changed me, but it's an another story. I now don't have a problem making moves on girls. Even my friends are asking me how I'm doing it. (I honestly don't know, I just go with it, with a little alcohol). \n\nThe issue here is that the girls then usually message me the next day and I don't want to hurt them by not answering or something, so we flirt a little and I'm digging myself deeper. How can I say politely that I don't want a relationship? I did not have this problem for 22 years so now I can't deal with it, funny right? \n\nThe issue number 2 is that my friends girlfriends now kinda start flirting with me, holding hands and shit. I wouldn't betray my friends but let me tell you it's really hard when you're both drunk. The fuck? Why hasn't this happened before? I have even kissed my best female friend even though she's in 6 year relationship, we both really regretted that but why now? \n\nI don't want to be seen as bragging but I realize it kinda looks like it.", "summary": "no ass for 22 years, mdma, and then drowning in ass"}
{"id": "t3_146w3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating and loving an alcoholic.", "post": "I [24f] have been with an alcoholic [28m] for about 6 months. We have a great relationship and I love him very much. He admitted to me on our second date that he is an alcoholic, and that has never really bothered me.\n\nHis problem started with the loss of a close relative. Since we've been together, he has experienced a decrease in alcohol consumption. Whereas he used to get drunk every night in order to sleep, he now sleeps sober when we're together, or maybe has only 1 or 2 drinks. I spent the last 3 nights with him and he only drank on one of them.\n\nMore to the point though, while he has gone several months with great improvement, he is still very self-deprecating. I feel like he has branded himself, and that is holding him back from seeing his progress. I would love some tips on how I can continue to be supportive of him and show him that he's a great boyfriend. So what tips can you give me for dealing with an alcoholic SO?", "summary": "He's an alcoholic who has been drinking less the longer we've been together, but is still very hard on himself. Can you help me with showing him how great he's been doing?"}
{"id": "t3_twsee", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend assaulted me. What do I do?", "post": "This just happened and I'm in a state of embarrassment and shock right now. I have been dating him for almost 2 years now and would consider the relationship to be very serious. I love him he's very sweet at times, but does have issues with anger and communication of which I considered manageable.  But now I don't know what to do. \n\nEarlier we had gotten in an argument (which under comparison was meaningless and stupid), which had to be put aside because we were heading to his families barbeque. His grandmother, aunts and uncles were there and all his cousins. \n\nTowards the end of the bbq all the cousins including him and I went into the basement for a innocent game of Uno. There he made one of his younger cousins; let's name her Natasha (9 years old), cry because how he was accusing her of cheating. So Natasha's older brother, Jayson (18) was sticking up for her. It got heated and my boyfriend (23) and Jayson started fighting. I figured I would let them figure it out until a heard the door break. Head over there and Natasha is crying, Jayson is yelling at my bf who was still getting in Jayson's face. \n\nApparently my bf was choking Jayson. They were separated by Jayson and Natasha's mother. When I tried talking to my bf he was yelling at me. Telling me it's none of my business, while I was telling him to let it go and not go after Jayson while he was being pulled away by his mom. \n\nI admit I was using force to try and stop him, when he pushed me against the wall, in front of the rest of the cousins. \n\nI'm embarrassed. I left with Natasha and Jayson and their mom soon after, leaving my bf there. \n\nHe then messages me this: \nI'm assuming the last message was for the wrong conversation. I havent replied to returned his call yet.", "summary": "boyfriend got in fight with his cousin, I tried to help. He pushed me in front of his family. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_4fgwi7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [31/M] about 4 months together, accepting his porn past and trusting him again?", "post": "About a month ago, I discovered that my boyfriend has been talking to girls behind my back on porn websites, swinging websites and I was baffled to be honest because I didn't expect this at all. I talked to him about it and he was really sorry about it (and he wont do it again). \n\nIt really made me lost a lot of trust on him. I think I am fine with the idea of him watching porn with my knowledge but him talking (not to mention dirty) to other girls on the web (and soliciting for sex!) really haunted me till today. \n\nMy first gut instinct is to leave because I previously experienced similar in my past relationship as it really felt like a dejavu. My boyfriend told me to give him a chance, which I did but I don't know if I am silly to believe or not. It bothers me so much that I am constantly snooping just to make sure he is not doing anything of such and I really don't want to continue doing it. \n\nI know a part of it is about my insecurity which I have to deal with. But I am hoping to get some pointers on how to put it across to him that I am really bothered and from the bottom of my heart that he won't do it again and that we can work something out together. I don't want this to be the cause of us drifting away and start hiding things from each other.", "summary": "How do I trust my boyfriend again or should I just leave"}
{"id": "t3_q4uuz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most amazing thing that has happened to you in the bathroom?", "post": "Today I felt that familiar pressure in my bladder and proceeded to stroll to the porcelain throne. I had consumed quite a bit of liquid earlier so I knew I was in for a fairly long stream. As my golden parabola started to flow I felt another familiar feeling. A rumbling in my bung hole. I knew that this was signaling the evacuation of the poop deck. \"No biggy\" I thought. I would just temporarily shut off waterflow from Dong City and sit down and do my business. That wasn't an option. What had started out as a babbling brook type of flow had increased to a full on opening of the flood gates. The water manes just weren't going to shut. I had to improvise. Implosion was imminent and no one ever wants to paint the insides of their boxers a healthy brown. This little movement of mine was persistent. He had already reached the point of no return and he was slowly creeping towards daylight. With no time to spare I flung my shoes off and dropped my pants and boxers to my ankles. The stream was still mighty strong and showed no signs of stopping. With ballerina like dexterity I lifted my right foot out of my pants. With all the skill and precision of a marksman like I aimed my meat musket towards the center of the bowel as a pivoted on my left foot and arced my right foot around the top of the toilet. With mere milliseconds to spare I touched down. Flawless victory. With the force of one thousand suns  I released what had been yearning to break free. As I sat atop my triumph I couldn't help but smile at the poop-tacular feat I had just accomplished.", "summary": "I am the ballerina of poop"}
{"id": "t3_3sxtja", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(UK) Small question about some headphones I bought, hope it's not too small for this sub", "post": "September of last year I bought a pair of apple earpods which come with a 1 year warranty. They stopped working after about 6 months and they gave me a replacement no questions asked. The replacement has now stopped working and they say they can't give me a replacement because the warranty for the *original* pair has now expired. Shouldn't the warranty restart from when I got the replacement pair or are they allowed to do this? In addition to this, they are now asking for a receipt or email which confirms when I bought them (in order to check if the warranty is still valid), even though the 4 other times I've been given a replacement (I got through quite a few) they replaced them no questions asked.", "summary": "If I get a replacement for a pair of headphones, does the warranty restart from when I got the replacement pair or does it remain from the date I bought the first pair?"}
{"id": "t3_r45ei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "hey reddit! what's the longest time you have been  talking to a fake person or talked to others  pretending to be someone else?", "post": "yes,  i am pretty naive. here is my story:\n\nlike one year ago i was bored,  talking to strangers on omegle. so there was that girl (i should have known there are no girls on omegle), and we had a nice conversation. so after she added me on her facebook, which she just made for me, because she didn't sign up yet (i should have known no person, not even from canada - that's where she claimed to live - that is in the internet has no facebook).\nwell, there was only one picture of her and she never added any other and claimed there aren't any other (not very believable neither - yes i know).\nwell so we have been chatting from time to time. i also chatted with her cousin (suuuuure), who kept emailing me from time to time.\nduring that time she told me always about her fucked up life:\n\nThere was her neighbor girl that slept with her father as a revenge for her breaking up with her ex-boyfriend who was the brother of the neighbor girl (complicated) and a lot of other WTF stories.\n\nWhat made me suspicious was that she mostly came online a couple of days after i ve got an email of her cousin and then always a break for 8 weeks or so.\n\nSo today i was bored and kinda remember my quite good chatfriend and how i was always suspicious so i goggled her facebook picture and BOOM, i end up on various brasilian blogs claiming ppl using that picture are fake (as far as i understand portuguese). \n\nYet, that person was sometimes quite helpful (studying spanish) and we really went on fine and there wasn't anything weird like her asking for money or my address or something alike. So here my questions:\n\n1. Have you also pretend to be someone else? If so, why did you do it and for how long?\n2. Have you been fooled by someone else this way? If so, how did you find out about it?", "summary": "chat with a girl i met on omegle for a year, find her pic on a brasilian blog warning of a fake."}
{"id": "t3_1u6l93", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU (actually last night) by going to 3rd base with a sketchy stoner dude.", "post": "I'm 17. My parents are out of town so last night I had a small party at my house. We had champagne and vodka. So that's already rather stupid. But of course I couldn't stop there. My friend's boyfriend brought his 20 year old stoner friend along. He was sketchy and kind of a loser but seemed harmless. He brought weed and I smoked for the first time with him and some of my other friends. We all sat on my couch watching a movie. All but one of my friends was there as a couple, and as the movie went on they left the room to go make out. And combined with being drunk and high I started cuddling with stoner dude, and that became making out, and eventually we went to a bedroom and he fingered me and ate me out. He kept saying he didnt want me to do something I'd regret. As it turns out, he was really, really bad at everything and eventually I went back downstairs. I didn't regret it because of how far we went, but more because it wasn't even a fun experience. I talked to my friend in the morning and was pretty okay with it but then stoner guy told my friend's boyfriend everything and it really freaked me out. The boyfriend goes to a different school so I don't think it'll get out, and he's an alright guy, but I still can't shake the thought of it. I feel so pathetic.", "summary": "Went too far with a guy I just met; now he told a mutual friend and I feel really overwhelmed."}
{"id": "t3_1re3nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] 4 years, first long term relationship, trying to figure everything out", "post": "I've been with my SO for 4 years now and its the only real romantic relationship I've ever known. It was just a high school relationship I never expected to last like this.  It started out like most relationships but things have started getting rocky. I've always had problems with ADD, Anxiety and Depression and she also has had Depression as well as serious trust issues. \n\nLately she won't stop bringing up marriage, moving out together the things I guess I should be ready for after 4 years. I can't help feeling confused and anxious about the whole thing. I've only been with one person, I have all these issues I'm worried could become worse later in life. Her mother recently gave me her Grandmothers ring and now I'm getting pressure from her to go through with everything as well. I've tried explaining the idea of marriage isn't something I plan on entertaining anytime soon, We're just rather young. But it seems as this point I'm basically expected to either propose or break up with her.", "summary": "Panicking about ultimatum, marriage or relationship is over."}
{"id": "t3_18apfp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (23f) or we (28m) actually let go of the past?", "post": "I'm going to try making this short and sweet. \n\nMy (23f) relationship (with 28m) has undergone a lot of stress (been together for a little over a year). We gave each other some space, and it was madness. We missed each other a ton and decided to start fresh & with a clean slate. It was unrealistic to assume every bad feeling would just vanish, but it's been pretty alright.\n\nBut the small things still tend to get to us, and the jealousy still surfaces. What are some things I can do/suggest to make things easier on our relationship? Stupid things can still become an issue, from both sides. We're doing our best to communicate effectively but it's still difficult. And I'm wondering if there's anything I haven't thought of yet to making things run smoother. Even reading books, articles, blogs, etc. If you've had a positive experience with it, name it and I'll give it a shot.\n\nWe love each other. But the craziest love can breed the most intense passion, good and bad. How do we channel our emotions more towards the good side (ie working through things together instead of getting out rightly upset) and how do we not let what's happened in the past affect the present if we've agreed to start fresh? \n\nI know it's difficult, and some might say it's impossible. But I'm not giving up until it's my absolute last resort. \n\nThanks r/relationships :)", "summary": "What specific things can I do to let go of the past if my SO and I have agreed to start fresh?"}
{"id": "t3_48h9vz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a heroine overdose joke", "post": "So this happened last night actually, but I like to procrastinate.\n\nI have a close friend that I live with in the dorms. We shall call him Billy. Billy and I game together and we are always trying to come up with new insults to throw at each other because that's just what we do. I was in Billy's room trolling him while he played Modern Warfare 2 and he was firing back with insults as much as I could dish out the crispy troll insults. As the final blow I start walking out of his room and turn and say \"I hope you die of a heroin overdose and then get hit by a train on the interstate.\" I had no intention of being serious. Next thing I know I'm sitting in my room and the kid across the hallway open his door and his girlfriend runs out of the room balling her eyes out. Like we're talking Niagara Falls here. I'm good friends with him as well so I asked if everything was alright. He told me one of his girlfriend's family members died of a heroine overdose this past week and she heard what I said and it sent her off. *Enter feelings of how much of a douche canoe I am.* I told him to let me know when she comes back over so I can apologize for my terrible sense of humor. Lesson learned, don't make heroin overdose jokes when the door is open, or possibly at all.", "summary": "Made a heroin OD joke, female heard it who had a family member die of OD and ran away crying"}
{"id": "t3_20zdi5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/F] have to hide my relationship with my boyfriend [21/M] from my parents (x-post from r/relationships)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for six months and he is wonderful. My parents are strict and would not accept my relationship, since he is not from the same country as I am. I basically live a double life, which I\u00b4ve done ever since I realized I wasn't interested in living a life similar to my parents. I do plan on telling my parents, but I think it's too early to introduce a guy I only have been dating for six months. This forces me to lie to them pretty much all the time. I do not live at home, so thankfully that is less of a problem. I know my parents will want no contact with me as soon as they find out, which is why I've made sure I'm not financially dependent on them or anything like that. It's still hard considering I love my parents and I don't want to choose between living a life that I want and pleasing them. I was wondering if anyone has any tips or if anyone has been through the same thing and could give me some uplifting words or advice, since it's basically just killing me lying to them like this.", "summary": "Keeping my relationship hidden from my parents. How do I tell them when the time is right? Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2nwznl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my [22 M] 4 months, I can't tell if he's clingy or if I'm just not into the relationship.", "post": "First of all, this is the first serious relationship I've ever been in. My SO is a great guy, we have a ton in common and share many of the same hobbies, and I know he would do anything for me. This guy is head over heels for me (not trying to sound full of myself here). \n\nI've never been a particularly romantic person. I care about a lot of people, and love my friends and family deeply, but I'm absolute shit at expressing it and usually just hide behind jokes and sarcasm. My SO, on the other hand, is like something out of a rom com. Flowers, dates, gushy messages and voicemails, the whole nine yards. I have to remind myself not to roll my eyes, because I know he's just trying to show me he cares, but he knows I'm not the kind of girl who really wants that stuff. \n\nAnd he's clingy. VERY clingy. Maybe it's because we live in different cities and don't get to see each other as much as he would like, but somehow, despite that distance, he still makes me feel suffocated. I've tried talking to my friends, but they think I'm being ridiculous for not wanting to talk on the phone with him every night like he wants to, or even every other night. If we've been texting all day it just feels like a forced conversation. \n\nHonestly, I don't know what to think. Maybe I was expecting too much: movies and tv build relationships up to these head-over-heels feelings that just don't seem realistic, but thats what I was expecting. I don't feel that head over heels love for him, but I don't understand why. We're great together, we love doing the same past times, and I couldn't ask for a better guy. \n\nAny advice on this situation would be greatly appreciated. \n\nAlso we've only been officially dating for 4 months, but had a very long period of flirtation and spending time together before that.", "summary": "I can't tell if I'm just a more closed-off person or my boyfriend is too \"needy\"."}
{"id": "t3_1jf6ty", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Thought of a childhood TIFU", "post": "I just saw a post on the front page of funny about a nail being more aggressive on feet than legos, and it made me think of when I was young and possibly retarded.\n\nSo a friend and I are approximately age 12, walking through a construction site. I see a large Route 44 sonic cup (they are 44 ounces and made of styrafoam.) I'm thinking fuck this cup I'm gonna stomp this shit. But I some how miss, my inner angst wants to destroy this cup; so I must find something to keep it in place.... a board with a nail through it. I set this Route 44 kingdom atop the nail for placement purposes, and sure enough I stomp on it. Nail only went halfway into my foot. Didn't get a tetnis shot, just rubbing alcohol and kept it wrapped up. Every time I look back to that day, I think god damn I was fucking idiot.", "summary": "put a cup on a nail and stomped."}
{"id": "t3_128xl4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the strangest thing you've ever found by accident in someone else's house?", "post": "I'll start. My dad has worked as a pest control technician for years, it's part of his job to go around and into closets to spray for bugs. He enters a closet, sets down his spray tank and goes about his business. As he's about to leave he knocks his spray tank into a false panel in the wall revealing a shotgun. I mean sure, lots of people have guns. Then the guy comes up behind him, he's about 6'5 and built like a linebacker. My dad continues to apologize about it. All the guy says is \"want to see the rest\"? This guy proceeds to pull out at least 16 different pistols, rifles, and shotguns. My dad is already shitting a brick. Then the guy starts talking about the \"nigger in office\" (excuse the language) and how he hates black people. My dad (who is very liberal) just keeps agreeing with the guy so he doesn't get shot and eventually cuts the appointment short so he doesn't get recruited into the white brotherhood or something.", "summary": "Dad finds guns and linebacker, and avoids plot to kill president."}
{"id": "t3_4ohvae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 17 F need help with casual dating [both 18M]", "post": "Hi guys I'm just looking for some quick advice and etiquette or rules I guess, whatever they're called for when it comes to casual dating. I'm talking to two guys, one who I've been seeing and things have been going well for the past couple weeks and the other who I haven't seen for a while but have picked up talking to again. I've explained to the first guy that I'm not looking for anything like a serious relationship wo which he was fine and the other has expressed interest in me but he's leaving for college in the summer and has also expressed that it would just be something casual. Do I tell the first guy who I've been seeing the most about this? I feel sort of guilty because we've hung out a lot but at the same time nothing has been cemented between either one and I want to be sure no one gets confused or lead on so how do I go about this?", "summary": "Casual dating help and when do I intervene to keep things from getting confused?"}
{"id": "t3_1hxnzg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] I don't know how to feel about my [20/m] GF anymore.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost three years now; and I have never loved someone more. But she doesn't have any hobbies and she doesn't like to hang out with her friends. She constantly guilt trips me into staying with her and making me feel awful when I don't stay with her. Over time in the relationship I have wanted to go out more, and every time I try she gets upset at me. I have tried to talk to her about the way I feel but she gets more upset that I would even think something like that. I've been thinking about breaking up quite a bit lately (the past couple of months) but I don't want to hurt her. I do love her and she is my best friend; but I don't want to be in a relationship with someone that makes me feel trapped. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I love my girlfriend but I she is controlling and that has been killing my feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_2hszre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (ex)girlfriend [17 F] broke up with me on Saturday after dating for 7 months. I [19 M] really want to get back together.", "post": "On Saturday my girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me. When we started dating we both went to the same school, but I'm a year over her, so I finished this spring. I'm currently living 1hr and 40min away from her, going to a new school, while she is finishing her last year.\n\nDuring the summer we were away from eachother for 3 weeks, and things changed. We communicated less, and worse. And towards the end of summer I talked to her about it.\nWe talked about it, and figured we had just been misunderstanding each other. Things improved drastically after this talk. We had lots of fun together and everything was great again. \n\nI moved after summer, and a few weeks after moving things started to deteriorate again. Things seemed strained.\nShe seemed less interested, our conversations were fewer and farther between. It all staggnated.\n\nOn Saturday we met, and she told me she felt it wouldn't work out.\n\nMy plan is to ask to meet her on Thursday/Friday/Saturday to talk to her. She's going away on a school trip on Sunday, and will be gone for 8 days, so I want to talk to her before that. I'm basically going to ask her to give it another shot. I have realized that there are lots of things I could do better, and I think that we could get things back like they were. \n\nBut I'm unsure what exactly I should say. I thought I might buy her flowers also, as a nice gesture. If you have any questions/want more details feel free to ask.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me after the relationship suffered the strain of long distance. I believe we can work through it and make it work. I want to talk to her, and see if we can give it another try. Need advice on what to say/do."}
{"id": "t3_2wv9qb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by commenting \"still a better love story than twlight\"", "post": "Basically this happened about month ago but I just noticed that this was a fuck up yesterday.\n\n**Background Info:**\nFor some reason everytime someone laughs at my jokes I become extremely stupid and try to make them laugh more.\n\nNow about a month ago I was in my school library with some friends and we some how got to the discussion of *Daniel Cook* if you do not know who he is, he used to have a show when he was eight and it was meant for 5 yearolds. Basically someone asked if he died, I looked up on my laptop \"Daniel Cook\" all I found was a bio on him, I then looked up \"Did Daniel Cook Die\" still nothing. Someone said that he heard he died in a deadly bus crash, so I looked up \"Did Daniel Cook Die in a deadly bus crash\" and then I found a video named \"11 yearold boy, Daniel Cook, dies in Bus Crash\" I click the video and its not the Daniel Cook we were looking for but I decided to comment on this video for some reason, but no I didn't say anything nice, and polite, no I said \"still a better love story than twlight\" to a god damn news report about the death of a 11 year old boy. I thought nothing about it until yesterday I saw some notifications on youtube, so I clicked it and it was comments replying to this comment here, I forgot I posted it in general, I though I deleted it. But no, the friends and family of this dead 11 yearold boy replied to my comment basically saying \"**WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU**\"", "summary": "I am a sociopath who finds dead amusing."}
{"id": "t3_eirvm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get my mojo back, fellow redditors?", "post": "I am a college freshman and I'm trying to get my confidence back after having it destroyed. A lot of people see me as being shy, but that's not technically true. As a kid I was a natural born extrovert, the rare class clown who also got straight A's. I was born with that kind of lion-esque confidence that some people have.\n\nIn middle school I had that confidence beaten out of me, either with fists or with words. By high school I trusted no one and assumed that everyone was out to get me. While I can now see how stupid that was, I couldn't then. Hating everyone didn't get me many friends, or girlfriends. After I lost my virginity I got a little of that confidence back and started getting with girls pretty regularly, but that didn't last long. After the first ugly breakup with a girl I went right back into a shell.\n\nSo now I'm a freshman at a small community college and it's very hard to meet people. I have a few close friends who I rarely see, I'm in a band, and I can feel that old confidence coming back, but it's coming back very slowly. I would appreciate any advice on speeding up the 'recharging process' and also on meeting new people.", "summary": "Born an extrovert. Bullied into being an introvert. Shit sucked, but I got over it. Gaining confidence back, slowly though. All advice on that and meeting new people appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_312vtk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP Cop Edition: TIFU by thinking I was being pranked", "post": "So last night some drunk ass Kevin decided to break into my house and instantly knocked over my kitchen table (bitch broke my toaster oven >:/) and proceeded to leave a trail of skittles through the backyard as he left. My roommate heard all this and called the cops, I was fast asleep in my bed on the opposite side of the house. So I woke up at 3:30 am with an officer shinning a light in my face and asking who I was and if I had been drinking, then two more officers came in my room and started looking in the closet, under the bed, etc. In my sleepy state I somehow put together that it was April 1st and that this must be a prank (Totally within the realm of possibility with my friends) so I started to chuckle and said \"Bullshit!\" and pointed at the cop asking me things. He asked me to step outside in my undies and gave me a field sobriety test and then questioned me some more. Couldn't sleep the rest of the night and then had an early class and a fun story.", "summary": "If you're a cop and you wake someone up on April 1st you should probably tell them that they're not being pranked"}
{"id": "t3_xhdv1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of Reddit, how have you been friend-zoned?", "post": "Since it seems to be a fairly large thing on Reddit, I thought that maybe people could share some of their stories.", "summary": "Kids do desperate things for love."}
{"id": "t3_vy1jn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Won a stare down in ChatRoulette last night it was an epic battle.  What was your most non-significant victory you've felt the most accomplished by?", "post": "So, I was extremley hung over yesterday and I really had nothing going on.  I haven't been on CR in a very very long time.  I get on, the usual flashes of frumunda downundas until I come across my nemesis of the night.\n\nWe're moving when all of a sudden we both freeze for some reason.  He has turning his hat backwards and I was in the middle of my stretch.  \n\nWe're locked.  Not wanting to give.  Not even an inch.  At first I thought to myself, \"this is stupid... what the hell am I doing?\"  After two minutes go by I tell myself that I can't lose this.  I can't give up.  Four and a half minutes go by and I feel my arm starting to get a little warm from holding it up.  At the six minute mark he finally gives up.  \n\nIt felt great.  I told him he was a formidable opponent and gave each other a thumbs up.", "summary": "I won a six minute stare down."}
{"id": "t3_uulku", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, what is bringing you down right now?", "post": "We all have those moments where we just really need to tell everyone what's going on to feel better so this is your chance!\n\nI.e. right now, for me, I feel like the universe is really testing my patience. I have exams right now and a month ago when I had just finished my english synopsis, I accidentally deleted it (don't ask). Two weeks before my english exam, my syllabus was missing so I had a hard time trying to read up on everything. (did okay anyways so it's no biggie). The day after my english exam (friday) I lost my phone, haven't found it yet. Now I'm preparing for my danish exam and both my synopsis and the text I'm going to talk about is missing. While trying to look for it I found my english syllabus.", "summary": "I'm an idiot who loses her important stuff"}
{"id": "t3_2mkjtj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by killing my cousins cat", "post": "So I'm visiting my cousin in the sub zero temperature Calgary. My cousin has/had this beautiful tabby cat. It's 1am and this fucker comes into the guest room and starts meowing. Being the good person I am I think it's letting me know it wants to go outside because at home my cats do this. So I grab a broomstick and guide it to the front door and put it out. I am woken up in the morning by a huge argument between my cousin and his wife about who put the cat out last night. I get up and ask what's up only to be informed that cat froze to death. I thought they were joking until they opened the front door to show me.", "summary": "Froze cat"}
{"id": "t3_16t31e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M/28] Dating a [36/F] - I'm fresh out of a year long relationship and don't want to mess this up. General advice?", "post": "I have been trying to break the habit of getting on Reddit for relationship advice. I really think I'm only questioning myself because of the break up a few months ago.\n\nAnyhow, I met this great girl two weeks ago. She is 36, no kids, no divorces, no baggage. Gorgeous, looks 29-30, at most. We have already gone on one date and it went great. Lots of laughs, touching me, kissed a few times at the end of the night.\n\nShe asked me \"We're going to do this again, right?\" It's clear, SHE IS INTERESTED. I had to go out of town for a work trip this week, we went out on Sunday. I literally left our date and got on the road. I haven't spoke to her all week because i've been working 12 hour days and I'm out of town.\n\nShe isn't big on texting, but she will respond always. She had expected I would be back in town this weekend, now I have to stay here work says.\n\nI don't want to play games, but I don't want anything to be too much too soon. I just don't know what the heck to do. I know I should just be myself, and be sweet(my cousin's advice, who knows her.) It would be too much to ask for her to come to me, it's a 4 hour drive and I've only known her for two weeks.", "summary": "Just starting talking to new girl, she is CLEARLY interested, don't want to mess it up. She is 36, although I don't think the age matters. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_19anh9", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Life kinda sucks right now.", "post": "I left for university in september. I go to a pretty good university in the UK.. study economics. I hate my course.. but hey, most people do. I'm only doing it for the money once I graduate. I've made zero friends since being at university. I'm one of the few unfortunate people who got placed in the 'bad, expensive' accommodation, on the other end of campus from everywhere else. I do nothing all day besides play runescape and watch shit on netflix. I thought I would love being at university. I went from applying to a ranked 50 university to a top 15 over the course of high school.. hard work paid off. I was going to the city which I thought would be my favourite in the whole of the UK. I was expecting REALLY good things to happen.\n\nMy dad died 1 month ago too. I had plans to be a new person when coming back to uni after christmas, and make loads of friends. Then 1 week before I was set to go back, he died. I missed the first 4 weeks of term. \n\nSixth form (high school) was awesome for me. Although i'm somewhat an introvert, I managed to become a part of a big group of extroverts which were incredibly fun. I'm not ugly, smelly, unhygenic or boring, so I don't understand how i've got to where i'm at. I have more hobbies than most people.. albeit I don't like 'clubbing' which makes up most peoples nights out. \n\nNow here I am, upset, lonely, NO ONE to talk to about everything that is going on.", "summary": "Haven't made any friends at university, my dad died. Life sucks."}
{"id": "t3_ki3m4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need the wisdom of the collective", "post": "A few weeks ago I went back to school, first time after 2 years. I dropped out because of personal reason. social phobia and as a result depression. Now I met this girl who is my age, she has a few of my classes and we have talked a bit with eachother the last 2 weeks. Now I know she has never had a boyfriend and has a general anxiety disorder where shes still fighting with. I have her number, her phone was broken and she needed to cancel an appointment so I lend her my phone(we actually had to swap simcards since she didnt know the number by heart) and said that she at least should give me her number in return and she did. anyway I really want to ask her out but I have no idea how to do it (forever alone youknow), im averted to asking her over the phone or with an sms since it seems so \"cowardly\" and want to ask her in person. so reddit how should I go about this, how should I ask her out and what would be a good place?", "summary": "boy meets girl in school after a 2 year hiatus, boy is foreveralone and wants to ask girl out. boy asks for help on reddit"}
{"id": "t3_31nymc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24, F] can't tell if the guy I'm seeing [25 M] is into me or not", "post": "We started talking on tinder in January and met for a first date in March. We've gone out on 4 dates and there's been nothing physical happen. I feel like we get along really well, I enjoy his company and I think I'm starting to crush on him. Last time we hung out we watched some tv and he didn't touch me at all. If I sat close he'd kind of readjust his legs so they weren't touching. He hugged me goodbye and that's the first time we'd really touched.\n\nThe night before this he texted me saying he wanted to curl up in bed with a hug. Which I took as an invitation and asked if he wanted to meet up. We had a miscommunication, him thinking I wanted to meet him for drinks and he was tired. Nothing happened even though I said: drinks were not what I had in mind.\n\nNormally I'm cool with making moves but I'm so confused and nervous with this one. I can't tell if he's just a gentleman and is trying to take it slow or if he's not physically attracted to me and doesn't want to tell me. I mean it started off blind so I can see why its slow but at the same time tinder is a hookup app... We're going out on another date in a few days.", "summary": "Getting along with guy I'm seeing but there's been no physical contact. Getting confused."}
{"id": "t3_ojeig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, I could use some opinions on a potentially life changing dilemma..", "post": "I went to school for journalism but struggled to break into the industry after graduating in 2009. I freelanced here and there while working dead-end jobs, always for free, until I finally found a good job at a software company about a year ago.\n\nThe software job ended up being pretty great, I get to travel for work, make a decent salary, and love the company I work for as it is very small and has a relaxed atmosphere.\n\nBut it's not journalism, and I don't get to write. As far as my day to day responsibilities go, they are boring and largely not enjoyable. But I thought \"hey I'm lucky to have a good job\" and resigned myself to the fact that this is where my life has taken me and embraced the favorable career path in front of me. It takes up most of my time, which has caused me to mostly stop writing altogether. \n\nThen the other day, I got a phone call out of the blue from the Managing Editor of my local newspaper, asking if I'd like to interview for a staff writer position. I said yes, and have the interview tomorrow.  It is not a glamorous position, but it does get me back into journalism and would give me the opportunity to focus on nothing but writing for the first time in my life. This brings us to the dilemma.\n\nI know that the staff writer position would likely pay significantly less than I'm currently making, so if I do get an offer, I will have to choose between a comfortable and promising career doing something I don't actually enjoy and taking a shot at my life-long dream while making very little money.\n\nI'm not looking for anyone to make my decision here, just looking for additional opinions as I way the pros and cons. Maybe some of you have had to make a similar decision in your own professional lives?", "summary": "What's more important, making a good amount of money at something you don't really enjoy or making very little money taking a shot at the career you always wanted?"}
{"id": "t3_fyzb6", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Fathers and fathers-to-be: Have/do you attended all the midwife appointments with your partner? Am I really \"unusual\" for doing so?", "post": "Hi reddit! I need some advice. I'm wondering if any other fathers have found themselves in this situation..\n\nYesterday me and my very pregnant partner went for a midwife appointment. This will be our second child - our first child is almost 2yrs old, and we chose the same midwife this time as we had before. She was wonderful last time. As with the first time round, I have attended every midwife appointment with my partner as I want to be as involved as possible.\n\nAnyway, yesterday, our midwife pointed out several times that this was very unusual and I was the only father-to-be that had ever attended every appointment for their second child. The underlying tone was that I wasn't very welcome (I wonder if she sees me as an obstacle to being able to care for my partner directly) and that there was no need for me to be there.\n\nAs a father-to-be, I feel very strongly that I want to be as involved as possible in my child's life, both before and after he is born. I also want to be there for my partner during the pregnancy, supporting her all the way. And she feels the same. I thought that this was an attitude to encourage modern men to have!\n\nHave any other fathers (particularly in the UK) out there felt the same? Have you been to all (or most) of the midwife appointments of your second child? Am I really as unusual as our midwife says?", "summary": "Our midwife seems to think that I'm odd for attending every appointment with my pregnant partner for our second child and seemed to suggest that shouldn't come to future appointments. Is this really so odd?"}
{"id": "t3_3kqdst", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting angry at bagels", "post": "Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. \n\nI spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth.\n\nHe hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to do", "summary": "Woke up, decided to make next week's snack, my roommate comes into the house to find me going caveman on the leftover bagel pieces on the pan, now feel fat and embarrassed in my ways"}
{"id": "t3_1mtd6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (23M) over analyzing? Girlfriend (20F) might have a crush on my best friend.", "post": "We've been together for almost a year and I'm getting weird vibes from her whenever my best friend is around. But this is going to sound silly because she claims to absolutely hate him. It's not like a burning passionate hate, it's more like an eye-roll annoyance kind of hate. She calls him an immature asshole with a superiority complex. And honestly, she's not that far from the truth.\n\nBut here's the thing. She acts differently around him. And ONLY him. When she's around my other friends, she's normal, but I notice a slight change when he comes over. Here are some examples:\n\n* More makeup and accessories. She usually wears makeup, but when he comes over, she touches up. She sometimes touches up during the day, but I notice she does it almost every time I tell her he's going to come by for a bit. Then I'll see she's put on some earrings or a necklace. When I ask her about it, she'll just talk about how she thinks they're very pretty and how she got them on sale or whatever.\n\n* She....how do I put this nicely....flaunts herself more when he's around. She's absolutely gorgeous, way out of my league. I've told her that I love that she's so proud of her body and wears short shorts and skirts and low-cut shirts. But it's a bit much around him. Like, her cleavage seems to become a lot more \"in-your-face\" when he comes over.\n\n* She talks funny around him. Never flirtatious, never obscene, never over the top. Not even when we're piss drunk. She just seems to emphasize the good parts about herself a lot more. Like, she'll talk about how loves taking care of me, or about how easy-gong she is, or about how her sex-drive has skyrocketed since she's hit her 20's. She perks up around him.\n\nThere's a little bit more, but that's all I really want to write about now. So reddit, what do you think? Over reacting? If not, what do I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend of almost a year acts differently around my best friend who she supposedly hates. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wb9s7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My neighbor [middle aged male] blocks me [22F] in my garage a couple times a month. Please help?", "post": "For background purposes I live in Texas and am renting a middle unit of a high end triplex. Unfortunately, my boyfriend [28M] and I share a driveway with one neighbor who lives 4 hours away but rents the unit next to me to tend to a store he owns in town. \n\nTwo months after moving in I woke up one morning to back out of my garage and he had a huge 20 ft long trailer taking up the driveway so I could not exit. I had to get the SO's keys so I could move his truck before I could try to navigate around the massive trailer. This has happened once or twice a month and he would usually arrive in the middle of the night. I go to work around 6 am. This automatically puts me in a bad mood first thing in the morning. The last time I asked him to pull up so I could navigate my way through, and he did. However, it was too small of a gap for my car to fit through. He was gone before I left in the morning. No big deal. Well, I woke up again this morning, blocked in. Then when I came home tonight I was blocked out of the driveway. So, I parked behind my SO.", "summary": "My neighbor keeps blocking me in my garage with his massive trailer. I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2irkt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] depressed [19F] girlfriend of 1.5 years extremely cold suddenly, pushing away and possibly wants to break up. What do I do?", "post": "Hi everyone. My girlfriend of 1.5 years has been quite depressed lately (although stupidly I didn't realize it for a while). I thought the lack of sex and our relationship beginning to falter was due to relationship problems etc. We had a fight about 3 days ago and she basically said she wanted to break up, but she also opened up about her true feelings with other things, ie depressed as fuck, depressed about everything.\n\nI told her that I will be there for her and help her through this and that I can give her as much space/attention as she wants. The last 2 days she has been incredibly cold to me. She still replies etc, but it's just very dry answers. eg \"good, wbu\". Compare this to 1 week ago it's like a massive on/off switch. She has also avoided seeing me. Another thing worth mentioning is she said \"I don't want to be with you, I don't want to be with anyone. I just want to be alone.\" At the same time though she hasn't changed the relationship status on Facebook etc. She still has all her stuff here. \n\nObviously she needs a bit of space, but I also want to show her I care. I guess my questions are:\n\n* Overall what should I be doing to support her?\n\n* How often should I contact her?\n\n* Or should I be waiting for her to contact me first? (but I don't want to give her the impression that I don't care and break up)\n\n* Has anyone been through anything similar and able to offer any advice?", "summary": "Things been rough with the girlfriend lately. Had a fight a few days ago, she wants to break up, I told her I'm here for her and going to help her through this. She's pushing me away hard and acting very cold. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_134vxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[f22] worried about sex tapes with [m28]", "post": "I (22yo female) have been seeing a guy(28) on and off(very sporadically) for a little over a year now. Initially I was very against having our sex videotaped because of the possibility that it could get out and have a negative impact on my future (in the military). But after we were together a while I gave in because he really wanted to do it and made promises that it would never get out on the internet never leave his computer etc. He is a good guy I trust him, I love him, he is head over heals in love with me and so I don't think he would do anything with it.\n\nNow I am going to be moving away very soon and he knows this and knows I don't want a long distance relationship that I want to focus on my training and my career. We are still on good terms and I think we will continue to be, it is not unlikely that should I have some shoreleave I would visit him. \n\nI know he has video of sex with some of his exes, none of which has gotten leaked to my knowledge. But I have also stumbled upon some of his reddit history which fairly explicitly stated that if he thought a girl he was seeing had wronged or betrayed him he would not feel bad about releasing sex tapes to the interwebs. Now I don't think I have done anything which would qualify as wronging or betrayal, but I am aware that some of his friends are not my biggest fans(because we have been so off and on largely due to my fear of commitment) and its possible that once I am gone they may be less restrained in their opinions. It may be unlikely but I am just worried that once I am out of sight everyone will be having much less care and respect for me and it could possibly lead to sexy times being broadcast on the interwebs.\n\nI would appreciate opinions on if I am being overly paranoid, or any personal experience, especially from a guy's point of view. Sorry for the rambles.", "summary": "Made sex tapes with a guy, worried that now I'm going to be leaving its possible they might be leaked."}
{"id": "t3_1egv94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [22] wants to keep our relationship secret.", "post": "I'm 26 years old and we've been together for 5 months now. We are in college and taking the same classes together. I learned that before we met, a friend of hers was interested in me and after we met, we had some problems with another jealous friend of hers complaining that she and I were spending too much time together.\n\nNow that we're together, she wants to keep our relationship hidden from our friends, saying that it's for the best. I have to put on an act for most of the day when we're with our friends and this is really starting to annoy me. She already told about our relationship to her close friends in other cities and some of her family members. She also says she will tell her mother soon.\n\nWhenever I bring it up and try to convince her, she gets upset and says that I don't understand her and what people will do if they find out. Basically she cares too much what people will think because when the jealous friend asked her she denied there's anything between us. \nI like her a lot and we're having a pretty good time outside school, she has no problems being close to me. But since we spend majority of our time in the campus, we have to act like friends and this is becoming increasingly difficult for me.\n\nI'm very conflicted about this so I'm open to any suggestions, thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girlfriend is worried about our friends' reaction to us and wants to keep relationship secret, I don't"}
{"id": "t3_35y6f0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I [24f] had a little trouble with the law a few years ago. Trying to do well for myself now. Any suggestions?", "post": "I'm just going to be as straightforward about this as possible, because I'm concerned that it might interfere with my life now.\n\nIn my earlier twenties, I was arrested twice. My first arrest happened in San Francisco, early 2012, I was 21. My boyfriend at the time and I were bumming it up, living out of a van. He smoked pot at the time, I did not. We decided to buy some other kinds of drugs too, some cocaine, some mushrooms, and some molly. This wasn't the norm for us, but we really went all out. Well, we had this stuff in our van, and we were pulled over, searched, and arrested. I was arrested with 11 charges. Went to jail for a few days, got out, did the court thing. I took a plea deal, not guilty in exchange for six months of AA. Completed my term and went on my merry way.\n\nThe second arrest happened in Marin county, just north of San Francisco about a year later. I was with the same dude (thankfully this relationship is long over), we were on a craigslist ride to San Francisco. By this point, I have a job and a stable home. CL driver was speeding, we get pulled over, cops search. My ex and I had 1 1/2 lbs of pot, other assholes have some other stuff. Go to jail for a few days, get out, go to court. They separated all of our cases because they found we weren't affiliated with each other. I present my medical marijuana information, which covers 8 oz. I end up pleading not guilty and am never fully charged or sentenced, and a few months later, my 8oz. is actually returned to me by the Marin Highway Patrol.\n\nNow I'm going to college, I have a 4.0 GPA, have been clean for years, and am wondering if these mishaps might affect my career. I'm looking at becoming a high-school teacher, and perhaps a college professor later on.", "summary": "Got arrested a couple of times with drugs. First time was really bad, second time wasn't so bad, but neither time did I plead guilty or was I ever fully sentenced. Now I'm doing well for myself and am afraid that this might come back to haunt me and my future."}
{"id": "t3_1001tw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20/F) found nude pics of my boyfriend's (21/M) ex-girlfriend on his computer which were sent during our relationship. Should I bring it up?", "post": "x-post from r/askreddit.\n\nI was using my SO's laptop watching some videos and such and happened upon some naked pictures of an ex. They were the kind of pictures you take with Photo Booth on a mac, so it had the date listed as the file name, and it was during a time when we were still dating. I just closed it out and didn't mention anything and stayed on the computer as if nothing happened. The thing is, I wasn't immediately upset or hurt by it. I was kind of just shocked and had one of those \"...oh..\" feelings. I don't know if I'm so shocked that I'm just feeling numb to the fact that my SO basically cheated on me, or actually physically could have because we have a long distance relationship and said ex lives in the same city as him.\n\nGranted, the date on the picture was almost 2 years ago, but we've been dating for 3 years. I was also constantly reassured by him, probably from 5 or 6 months into our relationship, that they weren't speaking anymore, and by the time we went to college (they went to different colleges in the same town, I go to college about 2 hours away) that they had no contact whatsoever. So, should I shrug this off because it was a long time ago, or should I bring it up because it was still during our relationship and I want to know what was going on?\n\nRight now I have no doubt that we are currently completely committed to each other, and it wouldn't even cross my mind that any sort of unfaithful behavior would be taking place right now. I'm just confused, maybe very slightly hurt, and curious about what actually happened during that time. If they had sex then my feelings would instantly turn into anger, but right now I'm just unsure. Do I bring this up, or let it slide?", "summary": "My boyfriend of 3 years has nude pictures on his computer of his ex-girlfriend which were obtained 1 year into our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_o06ek", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst experience with a manager?", "post": "I've only had this one job so far, working as a cashier at a supermarket.\n\nToday, about 20 minutes before the end of my shift, a lady I recognize comes through my line. Everyone knows her as the cheap lady who buys all the reduced priced items, then proceeds to bring her receipt to the manager to complain until she gets her money back. Anyways, after I hand her the receipt, she runs off to my manager, as usual.\n\nRight while I'm in the middle of the next customer's order, my manager screams my name from across the store. As she walks towards me, she proceeds to, loudly, explain how I completely messed up the woman's order and tell me how unacceptable and ridiculous the mistake was. Apparently, the woman told my manager that I priced her carton of blackberries by weight, instead of scanning the carton itself, charging her extra.\n\nBy this point, the entire checkout department is looking at me. Every customer in my line is giving me that \"stupid kid better not fuck up my order\" look, and I'm completely embarrassed in front of the entire store.\n\nI tried to explain that it's not actually possible to type in blackberries by weight at our store, because we just don't sell them that way. When that didn't work, I went through the receipt, item by item, and calculated it all out for my manager to prove that I had done nothing wrong. She just gave me an exasperated look and asked me to hand her the money I \"owed\" the lady and to stop wasting her, and all the other customers', time. Now, naturally, all my customers also think I'm slow and stupid, and begin looking for other lines to move to.\n\nAs soon as the lady turned around for a moment, my manager whispered to me, \"Don't worry, I know you didn't do anything wrong, I just want to make her happy.\"\n\nI've been a good employee at that store for 5 years now, and I'm absolutely furious that I was put through that level of embarrassment. I was about ready to quit on the spot.\n\nSo, reddit, what was your wost experience with a manager?", "summary": "Manager embarrassed me in front of the entire store to make a customer feel good."}
{"id": "t3_489gmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [22 F] for 2 years, I don't want her to brainwash our future children", "post": "We love each other and want to get married and start a family one day. We've been talking about out future.\n\nShe is religious, I'm not. She want's to teach our children in her religion and bring them to church. I'm in fear of that brainwashing them, because they will be young and vulnerable. \n\nI've read some stuff, that caused the doubt. I'm not sure how relevant it is. Should I worry? Should I discuss it with her? How?", "summary": "Am I right to worry about my religious girlfriend brainwashing our children? How should I bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_3et887", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Coitus Delayus", "post": "Many moons ago I was a second year science teacher and spent one summer at a six week program in my discipline. Attendees ranged in age from early twenties to late fifties and were about evenly split between men and women. The majority were married and were there without spouses so temptations arose.\n\nThree couples formed during the summer. Two were open about it but the third tried desperately to hide what they were doing. The man was in his late forties and married, the woman was single and claimed to be 23, although it was hard to tell as she towelled her makeup on daily. We had no idea how they hooked up but stranger things have happened. The more they tried to pretend nothing was going on the more obvious it became.\n\nThe rest of us would have ignored them with a slight chuckle but for the man's attitude. He redefined the word arrogant, always looking for reasons to put others down. I made the mistake of referring to myself as having \"Scotch\" ancestry and was snootily told it was \"Scottish!\" He was right, but he reminded me about it daily for over a week. Others had similar experiences, so he was not popular in the group.\n\nWe were all living in one dorm and the couple were about four rooms apart on the same wing. About 10:45 one night I was sitting with a friend in the common area and we were about to go up to our rooms when in came the two of them. As they pretended it was a coincidence we started up the stairs. Since my friend's room was opposite their rooms, I looked at him and said \"You know what we should do?\"\n\nHe was right with me and said \"YEAH!,\" laughing.\n\nFor the next two+ hours we sat in his room with the door open talking quietly. Every ten minutes or so we'd hear a door open and close softly. Once the woman asked \"Aren't you going to bed?\" to which we replied \"Sorry, we'll be quieter\" and kept the door open.\n\nEventually the need for sleep got the better of us and I went back to my own room. I had turned the corner in the dorm and taken two steps when I heard two doors close in succession, so presumably they had their nightly consummation.", "summary": "Obnoxious couple gets prevented from sleeping together for two hours because they tried to hide their relationship."}
{"id": "t3_hapc1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "35 year old mother of 3 - my marriage just ended.", "post": "(I posted this a little bit ago on r/relationships but I think it might have gotten eaten by the spam filter or something. Also I originally posted it on a throwaway, but I'm just going to stick to my regular account. I have nothing to be ashamed of.)\n\nA few years ago I discovered my husband has a sex addiction that I had known nothing about. I was devastated but we worked through it. As far as I knew everything was fine, as far as that was concerned. Since then one of the things I have been most proud of is that we worked together to save our marriage.\n\nA few weeks ago my husband lost his job. He told me he was fired for not producing good enough numbers (restaurant manager). Yesterday he called me on his way to his second day at a new job. He said he had to tell me the real reason. It was because of his addiction. He had acted inappropriately with one of the servers. She's now pressing charges against him and probably suing his former employer. He was forced to tell me because of the police involvement. Otherwise I would've never known.\n\nI made the decision right then and there that I'm done. I can not go through this again. He's begging me to take him back but I just can't. I can't let my daughter or sons grow up in this house nor can I have them think it's ok to behave like this in a marriage. So I've kicked him out.\n\nRight now I'm terrified. I've been a SAHM for 8 years. When my husband lost his job I applied for and got a job as a server at a restaurant. I start that on Sunday. I need to find a new place to live, as I can't afford to stay here and pay $900 rent. I just don't know what to do or how to survive. Part of me is scared that I'll be tempted to take him back just because that's the easy way. I'm scared I'll be alone forever. I'm scared this is going to seriously mess up my kids. They don't deserve to have this happen to them, and neither do I.\nI don't know what I'm looking for as far as advice. Maybe I just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "My husband is a sex addict and I kicked him out yesterday. Not sure what I'm going to do."}
{"id": "t3_2akk7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (me 22f) kinda boyfriend (20m) has some serious body image problems.", "post": "He doesn't want to ever take his shirt off in public which can be a bit of a problem when I want to do anything related to water. The thing is that he's over 6 feet, 200 pounds of muscle, is in the military, and works out like a body builder. He's really buff and even though he's had to lose weight recently for some cardio training he's had to do for the military he'd still have the most banging body in any room he walks into easily. I hadn't realized how bad his body image problems were until I realized that it wasn't the sea or water he was afraid of but just didn't want to be seen with his shirt off. What can I do to help?", "summary": "my boyfriend thinks he's fat but he's extremely attractive actually. How to help?"}
{"id": "t3_42naq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M/F] with my friend(?) [22 M/F]: why would this person suddenly cut contact with me and how can I deal with it?", "post": "I hooked up with someone  2 years ago. They began to ignore me for weeks after I gave them my number. They kissed me goodbye and told me they want to hang out again. Then they ignored me for weeks, so I moved on, thinking it was nothing more than a one-time thing. \n\nNow they've come back very aggressively, texting me every day, interacting with me on social media (commenting, likes, etc.) and telling me they were sorry for being a bad person, and that they are intrigued by me and want to see me again. They began texting me random things (eg about their broken household utilities, and how much it's snowing).\n\nAfter 2 dates & hooking up again, they tell me that they are sorry, and really wanted it to work out, but that we just don't seem to click, and still want to be platonic friends if I am willing. I forgave them, but now they've distanced themselves just as before. \n\nThis is some kind of trigger for me based on solved codependency issues I had in the past (thank you CBT)... It's kinda hard for me to deal with it. Most people agree that it turned out this way because within these two dates, I didn't put out, which makes me feel like a prude to be honest. But I could just be presumptous. Either way, something feels contrived and I'm having a hard time letting it not affect my mental health. I have major depression.", "summary": "Push-pull friendship confusing me and agitating my depression. How to deal with it outside of therapy?"}
{"id": "t3_3tdlqu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU petition", "post": "I don't think the mods here realize how annoying it is to try to post on this sub and have your post removed because it's not the weekend. Then when the weekend comes, you don't have the time because the weekend is where people have plans. That's right. Redditors have something these mods have apparently never heard of called a LIFE. I want this rule petitioned. It's better to have sex/shit posts on here than to just have generic shit that happens to everyone. You'll see NSFW posts on here over the weekend anyway so what big difference does it make? But since this is r/TIFU, I must provide a fuck up.\n\nTIFU by being a regular everyday ass moron who drops their cellphone!\n\nI dropped my phone now there are cracks. IT'S THE END OF THE FUCKING WORLD!!!!", "summary": "The weekend rule is pointless."}
{"id": "t3_4egsjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my boyfriend [17M] are starting to have a really weird relationship, help", "post": "I'm in a really messed up situation right now. \n\nMy boyfriend and I had been in a relationship for year and a half. Then he broke up with me because we've had many fights and he just couldn't take it. The next day after the break up I begged him to take me back. He was my first boyfriend and he treated me so well and I was afraid I'm not going to find anyone else who cares about me that much. \n\nWell.. he took me back quite easily but we made up new rules for the relationship because he said he was so anxious and wanted more freedom. I was okay with that. But then at one point I got a feeling he liked being single even though it was just one day. I asked him does he want his freedom to include f*cking other girls or something. He said he is interested to experience another girl in that way. (I was his first and he was mine, we haven't been with anyone else). \n\nWe discussed about that topic for a while and I was so afraid of losing him I said that he can be almost single and hang out with girls more as long as i'm the one he comes to at the end of the day. I was so scared of losing him again and at that point it felt like I have to do anything to get him back.\n\nFew weeks after that I said i'm down for ffm experience and he was excited. Then I asked him does he want my permission to f*ck another girl without me, he said \"yeah xd\u2026.\". I got him back and everything's been fine but now that I have him I'm really anxious about that he wants to experience another girl without me like that\u2026\n\nWhat should I do, I don't know how I feel about this. I want to be with him and I really don't want to break up again, I feel like he's The One. We have such a good time when we're together. And he treats me so well..", "summary": "Boyfriend broke up with me, took me back, now want's to f*ck another girl for experience, what should i do i don't want to lose him"}
{"id": "t3_4cmpgb", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need help training puppy.", "post": "I have this little six months old puppy and I've been having some issues with her.\n\nFirst of all, I've got to say, I taught her to sit, and to poop and pee where she should, and that's about it. The thing is we went on vacation for 3 weeks and now we're back she seems to have forgotten the little she knew and presented a few new problems:\n\n* She poops where she should, but pees wherever she pleases.\n* She only sits when I have something she wants.\n* Becomes agressive when I pet her or pick her toys.\n* She lies down when I'm walking her, and doesn't move.\n* She doesn't stay.\n\nThose are the problems I've been having, how can I solve them, any tips?", "summary": "6 months old puppy, doesn't obey her father, does whatever she pleases."}
{"id": "t3_2aqnyc", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Class action against a temp agency OR the employer or both?", "post": "I've been working as a temp through an agency for about 9 months (state is Oregon). The initial ad myself and coworkers had replied to states there would be a raise after 3 months probation, and once hired you get PTO, full benefits all the standard \"real job\" stuff. The terms of the job also require you to get an industry cert. Some of the temps had the cert from the start, I myself got mine around the 4 month mark of working there. so basically there are 7 or so people in limbo with no benefits etc, but also being told we do great work and \"should\" be hired.\n\nIt seems as though the employer and temp agency are all giving us the run around about when we will get hired on, raises, benefits etc. - The main employer seems to be doing everything in their power not to hire us, while the temp agency are posting craigslist ads on the regular with the same story of raises/benefits etc.", "summary": "is there any possible way to get compensation because of false claims and or misleading ads and job interviews?"}
{"id": "t3_n8myo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shattered kneecap, broken ribs, bruises, missing teeth, and one really messed up face. Help.", "post": "I'm a 10th grader in Camden NJ. Just a skinny white kid in an almost all black and hispanic school with 0 friends. living with my mom and my two younger brothers. I'm still not sure where my dad is my mom doesn't like to talk about it but from what I know he left for good when I was around 8. We have no money. At all. Anyway my birthday was last week and my mom got the money together to me a cell phone, it was one of the free ones but she was going to pay the monthly plan and we were both really happy about it for a little. Friday when I was walking home from school two kids in a scream mask beat the shit out of me one had a bat one just used his fists but he was bigger. They pulled off my pants took 10 dollars out of my pocket then took my phone out of the other and smashed it in front of me. Then they took my house key and threw it down a sewer I dont know why. In my boxers they beat me down knocked out 2 teeth broke my ribcage shattered my kneecap and my face is really really messed up right now i took 3 full downward swings right to it. is there anything i can do? i fucking hate this life and fucking hate everything the hospital bills for this came today in the mail and our insurance company wants us to pay over 2 grand that we really dont have and its all money i have to pay because some fucking kids decided all of that was worth 10 dollars to them. im mostly ranting but i just want to kill myself i cant live like this just being in disposal to be beat up whenever these kids feel like it i bring a knife with me now and if anything ever happens again i WILL go for the throat and the kill i dont fucking care any more god damnit i dont even know what to write anymore im done", "summary": "i think im going on a black man hunt tongiht and i dont care who dies"}
{"id": "t3_2lkkbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] broke up with my girlfriend [F] of 2 and a half years 2 days ago, I always feel sick and I just can't concentrate on anything, I want her back so bad but need advice on how?", "post": "So we were together 2 and a half years, yeah we had a few little problems but everybody does, we went out clubbing last Saturday and I got drunk and a bit insecure/jealous about her talking to another guy most of the night and not me.\n\nBecause I'd had a bit too much drink I made a few comments and we ended up arguing but I thought we had kind of sorted it but it was obvious we had to talk. I thought it was going to be okay but we met up at a pub and we talked about something's and she decided we should spend some time apart.\n\nI know it was kind of my fault I kept saying I would do things but not actually doing them, just things like not managing my money properly, saying I would start driving and I think the main one was that I said quite a few times I would work on my insecurities and that but we would always end up having a talk about it because I made a comment or something.\n\nIt's just really hard and I want to change those things but I want her back so bad, as I said I just haven't been able to do anything these past couple of days, I can't even stand being in my bedroom because of the memories and stuff :/ any advice would be a great help, even on the length of time I should probably leave it before talking to her again?", "summary": "broke up after 2 and a half years, mainly my fault, want her back so bad, want advice on how to go about trying to get her back"}
{"id": "t3_k4tla", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how much does a college degree define a person?", "post": "I'm an undergraduate studying biology at a tier one university in the US. For most of my life I have wanted to make films and act, but when senior year of high school ended I decided that science was the way to go, since I figured I could just act or write/make films without getting a degree. I have decided to go on to biological research and grad school, but I am wondering how narrow this path will be as the years pass. When I do go to graduate school, will I be completely unable to do the creative things I find enjoyable? I currently have many friends who are film students/actors and I am unsure of how solid my choices were. I am also attending school on loans and might be mostly concerned with paying those back when I graduate anyway.", "summary": "I have chosen a busy and difficult career path and I want to know how limited my choices will be as the years pass. How much does a degree define a person?"}
{"id": "t3_4zjcse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 35 M with my 34 F wife, 17 years together, she cheated, staying in for other reasons", "post": "I was never able to forgive my wife for her betrayal. I never recovered from it. She checked out and had an affair 18 months ago. I never was able to come back. I never cheated on her but always thought about it. We have tried many things to get better at our relationship from therapy to seperation. But nothing has improved our relationship. We just get along fine enough to survive in our marraige. \n\nI still love her in my own way. I still care for her. She cares for me too. But it seems i am staying in this relationship for other reasons\n\nReasons I think I have stayed in this relationship\n- 1.  Society (Traditional background. What would everyone think?)\n- 2.  Family. They all would be deeply hurt. This is one of the prime reasons i have stayed. They are deeply connected in our marraige and would be very very hurt.\n- 3.  Companionship\n- 4.  Afraid of being alone\n- 5.  Financial reasons. We both have good income. But 2 decent incomes are better than one. So our std of living is very high since we have 2 good incomes. Though I should be able to survive on my income.\n- 6.  I feel I am too old to find love again or a good partner\n- 7.  She is a good person (but I cant move past her betrayal)\n- 8.  She is trying to make our relationship work\n- 9.  She is/was my best friend\n- 10. Love her. Not as much as i used too but still love her.\n\nIt feels like society, money, family, and other reasons mentioned above should not be rated above LOVE. I feel like i am staying in this for all the wrong reasons.\n\nShould i leave or stay? Please help !!", "summary": "Society, Family, Finance, Little bit of love is driving our relationship instead of love."}
{"id": "t3_2s579k", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[M22] I'm afraid I'm \"beyond repair\" as far as relationships.", "post": "At the beginning of 2014, I had moved to NY to begin a new life and move in with my girlfriend. I had spent all of 2014 with her, becoming engaged, and it was all in all, a good year.\n\nWe had had fights here and there, especially ones that become violent from both sides, but we usually made up in due time and were back to being content. Up until the night before, we were laughing and telling jokes.\n\nThe next day (December 2014), I come home from work, and find all of her personal possessions gone. The TV, her collectibles, some of her clothing, her luggage... all gone. No note, no warning, nothing. I found out later she somehow got to the train station and hopped a train to Texas.\n\nI feel completely broken because I thought things were going well, until I came to the realization she was lying to my face, was packing her things in front of me, lying saying she was just going through her clothes. I gave up everything for her. My manager position at my job back in TX, my home in TX, just everything, and put all my bets on this relationship by moving to NY, and now I'm wondering if there's any recovering.\n\nI want to love again. I wanna find someone even better than her, but I'm so afraid that no woman is ever going to be right for me. And with that, I'm worried that any woman who might have even a remote interest in me isn't going to want to work through my emotional scars I've received from this, and that I'll be just a lost cause. \n\nPart of me thinks that I should just \"man up\" and hide the hurt. This stems from my teenager coworker trying to get me to get some random girl's phone numbers that walk into our store (gas station). \n\nI guess what I'm really trying to ask is, once I get back into a normal routine and get over this depression, should I just hide the scars I bear as far as my emotions, or will the right woman work with me and take the time to help me?\n\nAny other advice is appreciated. Sorry this post is all over the place. I'll answer any questions as well.", "summary": "I gave up everything for a long distance relationship, moved to be with her, but she walked out, and I'm wondering if I'll ever recover, and if any woman is going to want to take the time to work through my emotional issues, or if I should just bury it and move on."}
{"id": "t3_2ry3fj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [18/F] and my boyfriend [22/M] of 2.5 years can't agree on when to get married?", "post": "Ok so for starters yes I know we are incredibly young, and some of you will probably say to wait and experience more people before making a big decision like marraige. We have been through a lot and love each other very much, we get along well and always talk through everything, and put each others needs before out own. \n\nAnyways we both really want to get married, we feel very confident in this decision and feel like this is the right time to take this new step in our lives together. However he wants to marry me now, and I was thinking about getting married after i get my bachelors degree. I do not feel like he is rushing things in any way but I feel like if i get married at 18 my parents would not approve of me, and I really want to have a wedding where my family won't be upset about my choice to get married so young. Also since I am in college it is a very stressful time and it takes a lot of work and energy and maybe it would be better to plan a wedding when i graduate? \n\nI love him with all my heart and i would completely marry him now but a part of me feels like i'll become a disappointment to my family and be super stressed out (my family doesnt think anyone should get married until they are in their mid twenties and i will be 22 when i graduate with my bachelors degree and he will be 26, which my bf thinks is pointless to wait that long simce we both want this now).", "summary": "Should i follow my heart and marry him now? Or meet my family and boyfriend half way and wait till i am 22?"}
{"id": "t3_1iv5rb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Being propositioned by a girl I used to hook up with, but there's a catch...", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo this is my first time posting and it may seem like a silly question to ask, but it stems from a lot of other ?'s that pertain to bigger things in my life.\n\nSo I've been with my girlfriend now for a little over 2 years, we've been on and off throughout the entire relationship, and i've tried my hardest to make things work. While things seem to be improving I'm starting to feel unhappy and a bit unsure of whether or not I want this to continue. I'm tired and have recently started to question where I am in life, and it only fuels whether or not i want to continue this relationship. when we're together things are great but once we're apart we fight a lot. \n\nSo I've decided we take a break so i can figure out what i want.\n\nNow to the question.\n\nI just ran into an old friend of mine who used to work with me a few years back, and we hooked up a couple times (which was great BTW). She's inviting me over tomorrow, for some fun, and i'm considering going over.\n\nthe one catch. She has Herpes :/\n\nwhile i'm clean and have always practiced safe sex, and didn't contract the virus from her, I'm always a bit apprehensive.\n\nThough we're on and off, I'm afraid of going through with this and then the worst happening. especially with my on/off situation.\n\nSoooo what do i do?", "summary": "On a break with the gf, girl i used to hook up with wants to have some fun, but she's got the Herp. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_kr6qd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To fatherless/motherless Redditors -- how do talk about your parents in a friendly conversation without bringing everyone down?", "post": "My father abandoned me before I was born. I saw him once for a day in kindergarten. In sixth grade, I was informed that he died of a heart attack. It didn't phase quite like I anticipated; just the death of a man I didn't really know.\n\nNow I am a college student and am constantly meeting new people. Occasionally, the conversation leads to parents (occupation, hometown, etc.). Oft times I just exchange the phrase \"my parents\" with \"my mom\". Sometimes the grammar doesn't quite work out and I end up saying \"they\", i.e. 'They're doing well'.\n\nThe vast majority of these conversations are so pleasant and I do not wish to bring the mood down by suggesting any marital/fathering issues, let alone death and abandonment. Every once in a while, I get the \"and what does dad do?\" question, and I get really uncomfortable answering.", "summary": "I get uncomfortable talking about my dead father who abandoned me when people ask in conversation."}
{"id": "t3_1ztl51", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using hair removal cream on my armpits", "post": "Last week, there was a post about someone chemically burning their sack. I laughed at it, it was hilarious. \"How could you be so careless,\" I thought to myself, \"to apply a hair removal solution to an area so sensitive without testing it first!\" \n\nIn the comments, /u/Backnblack_66 recommended [that ballsbalm works really well for that sort of thing, and I said that I would give it a try because, why the hell not?](\n\nNow, knowing that I didn't want to end up with a chemically burned sack, I went ahead and tested it out on a small area down there, and, since I wanted to de-hair my pits as well (I figured, as long as I'm down there, i may as well), I tested on a small area there, as well. Worked perfectly fine for the sack. No discomfort at all. The pits, however, were a bit red and uncomfortable. \n\nSomehow, I thought that it was a fluke. \"Surely,\" I thought to myself, \"The genitals have the most sensitive skin, so since it worked for that, I'm fine wherever I put the cream.\" \n\nI was wrong. \n\nI should have paid attention to the redness on my pits. \n\nI now have a very nicely manscaped man-region, and two red, chemically burned armpits. I've been applying all kinds of balm and lotion to it, but I can't yet apply deodorant because it exacerbates the burn.", "summary": "Watch out for chemical burns. It's serious business."}
{"id": "t3_3lht0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] moving out. My dad is having me pay $200/mo on a paid off car. Would like insight.", "post": "A few weeks ago I told my parents that I am moving out and everything is planned and set up to go. As we were figuring out expenses, my dad told me I'd be paying $200 a month on the paid off car I've been driving since I was 16. Before I go any further, let me make it clear that I did not expect this car for free. My mom actually intended to give it to me as a sort of \"gift\" when I leave because it used to be her car, but then my dad got involved. And he is absolutely pissed that I'm leaving. I think $200 is way too steep for the car. I asked him if he'd be willing to do $150, but nope. \n\nHe said he could provide everything in full if he *wanted* to, but he does not want to help a single thing because he is so upset. I did not expect or even ask to provide for anything, but I still think that he was trying to prove a point by saying that. Among the car there are other things he's unwilling to do like co-sign my student loan, etc. All of these things to prove the point that he's mad. All of these things he also supported my other siblings with when they moved out. \n\nI asked him what the $200 would go towards since the car is paid off and he said that isn't my business. I told him again I would really appreciate it if he would do $150, that is a difference between having a day off for school and whatnot, but nope. \n\nMy question for you, /r/relationships, do you think my dad is being spiteful with this? Should I just go through the trouble to purchase a used car and have no emotional ties to the payment?", "summary": "Dad wants me to pay $200 on a paid off car, claims he doesn't need the money but won't tell me where it's going. I want to pay $150. Would like outside insight. "}
{"id": "t3_4dj1i6", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] What are options helping out our dog agressive dog.", "post": "A couple years ago my wife and I found ourselves bringing home a young pit bull. The previous owner had gone to jail a day the poor dog had been in a crate for a week before anybody had known.  So through a coworker we took her in to live with us and our English pointer.\n\nThe next few months are wonderful.  We find out we are expecting our first child, and the new dog is getting along famously with our other dog, our friends 2 dogs and my in-laws dogs.   While walking down the street we have no issues whenever we meet a strange dog.   All of this changed one Christmas while visiting my wife's parents.  Our pitbull was playing in a bedroom and she bumped into their old blind terrier, who was surprised and snapped at our dog.   This caused a quick fight which I broke up quickly after it started.   Both dogs are physically fine, however this lead to our pit bull to become very agressive to any strange dog she meets.\n\nThis brings us to now.  We love very close to our neighbors,  who many have small dogs.   We also go camping often with family or spend time in a mountain cabin.   Our issue is that while we try to keep any other dog fights from happening, we are worried it's a ticking time bomb.  She has gotten into wrestling matches with my brothers lab, neighbors dachshund and chased a few random dogs while camping.  We take measures to keep these issues from happening such as always keeping a leash on while outside and even using a muzzle if we know another dog will be around.   We are very concerned that eventually another animal or person is going to get hurt and she will be put down.  We would love to try to help out the agressive but cannot afford a trainer.  Also we have considered rehoming her, but are worried about liability issues.  So if anybody has any ideas of what we can do to help out this situation please don't be afraid to let me know.    Also we are in the central utah area if anybody has specific knowledge is help in that area.", "summary": "Have dog agressive pitbull and are looking for help in helping keep her out of trouble or finding somewhere for her to find a safe home."}
{"id": "t3_4ome95", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [23M] her [22F] Is it bad I am the only one who initiates any kind of conversation?", "post": "Hey dating advice,\n\nI need some help. I started hanging out with this girl about 3 weeks ago. We talked constantly but the only problem is I always initiate conversation. Also, she does not do any of the planning I always have to initiate hanging out.\n\nThis kind of bothers me a bit because i feel it makes me seem less attractive to her. I mean do not get me wrong, whenever I say lets hang out she is all about it and has not cancelled once.\n\nNow, I have not spoken to her in about 2-3 days because I want to see if she would even message me at all, and she has not. I mean I guess this is over right?\n\nHow would you go about this situation. I know it is probably childish to not talk to her, but seriously I want to be talked to. I feel like I could be bothering her by being the one who always initiates conversation.\n\nSo how do I go about this? Move on from it? Cause I can, but I like her a lot and the 4-5 dates we have went on have been great.", "summary": "Always the one to initiate conversation and hanging out, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ci3wh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does she(18F) tease me(18M) so much?", "post": "This girl whom I go to school with sexually teases me. We made out in my car about a month ago and haven't hung out since. Last weekend I asked her to hang out and she said she might be available. We didn't hang out because she ended up being busy. The following Monday she came to school with hikeys all over her neck and showed them to me. She always tells me about other guys. Today we were watching a movie in the auditorium and she throws her legs up on the seat in front of her, exposing her luscious thighs to my eyes. She then procides to brush against my arm. This teasing is driving me crazy but I don't show it because I don't want to appear desperate. Why does she tease me so much and how should I react?", "summary": "Girl makes out with me. Then teases me sexually."}
{"id": "t3_13zont", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my video interview", "post": "I had my very first interview for my internship at a very prestigious hospital. And since i'm currently not in my home country, i had to do it online.\n\nI was fucking nervous when the screen flashed the faces of the two male consultant doctors who are about to interrogate me. At first i started it nicely by saying good afternoon, but i had to open my big mouth by asking 'how are you GUYS?' 'GUYS'?! I still cringe at the thought of calling them guys instead of calling them doctors. Blooper number one.\n\nThen they start to bombard me with questions based on the answers i put in my statement of values. They asked me what i want to learn. I wrote something different then said something different. I was not consistent. Blooper number two.\n\nThey asked me if i am more of a leader or a follower. I said it depends on the situation.then i blabbered and did not make sense about being a leader, then i eventually said that i'm mostly a good follower. Ugh. Blooper number three.\n\nThen they asked me what was my top priority from a list of five things. Since i can't remember good and i was so nervous, i had them repeat it and i wrote it down. Then i chose integrity. Then i again blabbered justifying my answer, completely forgetting the definition of integrity. They knew that i don't know what i was even saying so he asked again, 'so is what you said your definition of integrity?' I just said yes to make myself seem more confident but as a matter of fact, i was already a blubbering mess on the other side of the world.\n\nI just hope they'll remember me, because they were laughing at the end of it.", "summary": "Had my very first interview and i blabbered a lot."}
{"id": "t3_2p8obe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] looking for some perspective about my ex [19 M] and crush [20 M]", "post": "So for starters, I'm 19F and a freshman in college, home for winter break.\n\nMy ex is 19, We dated through most of high school and broke up last year because I felt things were too serious and didn't want to be in a committed relationship. I'm still in love with him though, and think i always will be.\n\nWe're trying to be friends, but he said he might still have feelings for me, and wanted to kiss me last time i saw him (neither of us would let that happen though). I get the feeling that he might break it off with his gf (they've been together <6 months). If he did, i'd take him back in a heartbeat and never let go. \n\nAt the same time, I have developed a crush on my best friend at school [20 M] and he kissed me before I came home for break. He knows that I still have feelings for my ex, and said he'd be there for me no matter what, and to follow my heart. He's amazing, but i don't want to rush into something because i'm lonely.\n\nOr should I forget both of them and just be single? Maybe date some girls? (I'm bisexual). Work on myself and not focus so much on relationships?", "summary": "still love my high school sweetheart, my best friend kissed me, kinda wanna try girls."}
{"id": "t3_18c4i6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] My girlfriend [19/f] doesn't understand that I need my freedom.", "post": "We've been in a relationship for five months now. Because we're living in a dorm we basically \"stumble\" upon each other every day, if it's on the floor, in the kitchen, just everywhere I go. She's as well in my courses at University. Several days a week we spend time together, if it's watching TV, talking or learning. Now she doesn't understand, that I need my freedom - or you could say free time of her more or less. It's not like we talk much in classes, but the presence of her throughout all the day always gives me the feeling that I'm never seperated from her. When I'm getting up at the weekends she's already angry if I don't call before 2pm, if she's talking with a friend she's angry if I don't interrupt their talk and ask her to come to me. And if I'm sitting in my room doing anything but contacting her for one single day, the pressure knowing she will be totally pissed the next day crushes me and I can't think about something different than her upcoming reaction.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't give me the freedom I need."}
{"id": "t3_2bgi84", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I was given an out today....I don't know what to do...", "post": "So my boyfriend of about 2 years is dying from cancer, it's in his lungs, his stomach, intestines, probably his prostate ect. It's literally eating him alive. I knew he was sick when we got together, and we've had a couple of great years, but he had some more scans today because he's been in alot of pain lately. He got bad news, it's overtaken most of one lung and about a quarter of another.... I knew this day was coming, I just didn't think it would be here so quickly... and tonight at dinner he looks at me and says I'd understand if you got up and left me, but do it soon if you're going to, so I can go do things if I want to.  \nI should point out at this point that we're both brutally honest people, and he's a bit older then me, thus has move savings to go and travel. \nPart of me wants to stay because I do love him and I want to be around for him, but at the same time, I know if I'm here he won't go do things he wants to because I don't get alot of vacation time, and he does, but he won't go anywhere without me... and I'm totally okay with him going without me with his friends, I've said this so many times and he still just shrugs it off... Part of me wants to go... and I feel guilty about it, really guilty about it, because I don't think he'd eat if I wasnt here to bother him into eating dinner...I'm afraid he'd die faster without me, which is both a gift and a curse... I'm so conflicted, and a little hurt that he'd actually say something like that. I helped him recover from a cancer surgery... I don't understand men...", "summary": "Boyfriend of 2 years is dying, said he'd understand if I left him, but that I need to do it soon, I feel conflicted..."}
{"id": "t3_okvkx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Acer computers... Advice on consumer protection from lemons", "post": "So last month I bought me a shiny new acer S3 (with the ssd memory and i7) while in thailand after my old laptop bit the dust. \n\nI work my computers hard with travel and editing videos and all but from what I read this computer could handle it. \n(Why I did not get mac air... Cost and only i5, no sd card slot for off loading)\n\nSo 1 month later I get the BSOD and it auto restarts with the words \"no bootable drive\" well... I restarted it up in safe mode fixed things up with drivers and what not. It restarted... A few days later down again... Then it started going down every 30 or so minutes (no virus or malware.)\n\nSo I took the computer to the Acer HQ here in Singapore to their tech department. They looked at it and said there is a screwed up component they don't know what it is so I would have to leave it. (Keep in mind 1mo old computer)\n\nI was not to happy about this especially since this is my work computer. I asked if they could give me a loaner. Nope. I asked if they could escalate it to less then 3 days. (They did after much complaining. I travel A LOT and have 3 projects that need editing before end of month.. Time equals $$). I told them I would much rather have a new computer especially if this one is already screwing up... I really don't want to have to keep getting it fixed (under warranty thank god). They said they would not give me a new computer because I purchased it in Thailand... I was not pleased because I see Acer everywhere around the world.\n\nSo I'm wondering if anyone in this reddit world knows how I can get another computer (or money back) from an international company.", "summary": "1mo old computer dies under warranty due to hardware and they are not wanting to replace it."}
{"id": "t3_5422x1", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] My 10 year old rat terrier is acting different.", "post": "I got my rat terrier (Bella) in 2006, she was about 6 months. My parents got her for a early birthday gift.  This was my first dog, and I was in 6th grade when I got her. Recently she's been acting different. I know she's old, but I read that rat terrier's life expectancy is 17-24 years old on google. She hasn't been to the vet ever, my parents don't have extra money for vet fees and pills for dogs. Other than that she has been a happy lively gal.  Here are some symptoms:\n-Walks slow and responds slow; she barely even does what I tell her to do for a treat like roll over or sit. She just looks at me.\n-she has slipped walking to the kitchen on our tile.\n-She pee's quite frequently on the carpet.\n-She lost most of her front teeth by now and her back molars are rotting. \n-She doesn't run to the door when someone rings the door bell.\n\nI am quite worried about her because she could not make it into the house after a walk this morning, a small step up into the doorway. I am thinking about going to the vet and seeing what's wrong with her this weekend. With my own money, I am a broke college student but I can't bear to see my baby like this. I almost had a panic attack on my way home because my mom didn't come straight home after work. She was left alone. \n\nI've been trying to get outside with her, but shes super slow and just wants to go back inside most of the time.\n\nAlso, I want to have her meals cooked fresh (ground turkey and pumpkin or something like that) because of her lack of teeth.", "summary": "My 10 year old rat terrier is acting slow, bearly eats anything, slips on the tile, doesn't respond to my commands"}
{"id": "t3_1prtwr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend [20F] 5 months, confused", "post": "Meet this girl, hang out all the time. Meet her family, friends, etc all love me. Everyone assumes we are together even though we aren't. I do not let anyone think that and am quick to stomp out those rumors. Her long distance relationship falls apart. Ask her out, says yes, turns around and says she needs to heal but she loves me. Her friend gets kicked out of rehab and lives with her now. Girl pushes me away and fucks my friend behind my back for a month. He leaves her. I find out, have a super explosive argument with her. I eventually cave because I care about her so much and we both \"apologize\" in our own stubborn ways. Now I do not know what to do when we do see each other again, if that will even happen as she is still being flaky, but it has only been a few days since this all came to light. She wants to move away from here and just start her life over. I feel like she is just very sad and is pushing everyone who cares about her away while hanging out with people that are terrible to make herself feel better.", "summary": "Girl gets out of relationship, tells me she loves me but needs to heal, pushes me away and has sex with my friend behind my back. She is obviously terribly sad and forlorn. She wants to move away form here and just start her life over. Am I a fool for sticking it out despite all of this?"}
{"id": "t3_1dq26v", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Kittens living in our ceiling - how to encourage them to leave?", "post": "Hi /r/cats. You're my only hope! I don't really have experience with keeping pets so I figure you might be able to help.\n\nA few months ago we've had a neighborhood cat give birth to kittens in our ceiling and they've been living there ever since. Mother cat comes to feed them quite often and the kittens, on the rare occasions when we see them, look quite healthy and happy.\n\nNo-one in the neighborhood owns mother cat and we do have a number of  semi-feral cats in the area. I say semi-feral in that they take care of themselves but don't seem to react badly to humans (I don't know if this is the correct term). After doing some research, the advice is that it's best not to feed the kittens so that they don't form a dependency on humans and learn to hunt their own food. Apparently they'll eventually leave, after which I can board up the crawl-space they used to enter the ceiling.\n\nI'd been fairly content to let them take up lodgings there but the room below is now starting to take on a musky odor which I assume is urine. I also have a young child and was told they can catch all sorts of nasty diseases from unvaccinated cats.\n\nA few obstacles:\n\n* The area where they're living is too narrow for a human to gain access.\n* In my location (country/city), there is no such thing as animal services. One bit of advice I was given was just to poison them, which gives you an idea of the general attitude here. Obviously I'm not interested in that option.\n\nI've tried enticing them out with food as well as putting up cat unfriendly smells (citrus, coffee, and the like). Nothing seems to work.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!", "summary": "Kittens have taken up residence in our ceiling. No experience with keeping animals and no animal services in the area; it's just me and the internet. How can I encourage them to leave?"}
{"id": "t3_i2723", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My fiancee applied for her dream job and didn't get it.  Weird situation around the whole deal. How can I help cheer her up?", "post": "My fiancee applied for a position at a State Museum that she interned at this past year.  Her intern supervisor suggested that she apply for the position of collections management, so she did.  She received a response back setting up a time for an interview.  We prepared for the interview, mock questions dressed nice etc...My fiancee went in for the interview and found out that the interviewer was her supervisor.  Now here is where it gets odd (imo).  Not a single question was asked during the course of the interview.  Instead the interviewer chose to talk about vacation and summer and small talk kind of things.  At the end of the interview, my fiancee asked her list of prepared questions just to show interest in the job and then asked if the interviewer had any questions for her?  She said no, and my fiancee thanked her and left.  My fiancee sent a follow up email that night too.  A week goes by and it is almost time for the supervisor to make their decision on the position.  My fiancee gets an email asking for a digital copy of her resume. No problem.  The next day, my fiance gets an email explaining that she did not get the position.  Very confused and very depressed about the situation, my fiancee wants to give up trying for her dream job.  How can I help her?\n\nSome extra background about my fiancee..\nShe graduated from college with a double major in History and Archeology this past spring.\nShe will be returning to college this fall to obtain her masters in Museum Studies.\nThe position was for a collections management with a flexible schedule.", "summary": "fiancee had an interview for her dream job, went very oddly, got declined for job and not sure why.  She is depressed.  Whats a good way to help cheer her up?"}
{"id": "t3_nvsai", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I a bad guy, or should I feel okay about this?", "post": "I'm a 16 year old guy. I broke up with my ex in early october, we had been dating for almost a year. I had thought about it for a long time and was okay with it, she was not. At all. She was very upset and at the time and I thought we had remained friends (or at least acquaintances) up until now.  \n\nI recently started talking to another girl (texting, flirting a little) and we are hanging out on New Year's Eve this Saturday. My ex knows that I have been talking to her. Today, rather randomly since I thought we were doing quite well, my ex decided to defriend me on facebook and unfollow me on twitter. Those things don't concern me too much, but let me get to the main question. \n\nAm I making a bad move by moving in on another girl when my ex and I broke up only 2.5 months ago? Am I responsible for my ex's pain at this point, or is it up to her to move on?", "summary": "Is 2.5 months enough time to date someone else after my ex and I dated for almost a year? "}
{"id": "t3_4kgupj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my wife [27F] argue over last minute plans and family visits.", "post": "First time poster, long time lurker,\n\nI am 32 male, I like planning and not too keen on long family visits.  My family always lets us know a week in advance that they are visiting and its 3-4 hours max.  Her family never calls ahead, they just show up, or call when they are 10 minutes away, and stay for ever, like 10-12 hours.\n\nHave talked about it many times, I asked for some notice and understanding that it puts me out of my comfort zone, she gets mad and drops this stuff on me, and blames me, saying i'm a selfish prick.  \n\nMade a huge effort to be more accommodating,  in which every day a member of her family came and stayed for supper, it bothers me, but is what it is, I should learn to handle visits.  Just too much and too fast is overwhelming.  \n\nToday, had plans to clean out my shed, her mom called, right away I guess they were coming to visit, sure enough that was the case, get mentality prepared for a all day event. She starts pulling the dirty glasses out of the dishwasher saying its quicker to wash by hand, I said its what you get for last minute planning, she flipped her lid, left to buy meat for meatballs, came back, started cooking, then gave me the gears, tossed the meatballs in the garbage, and called her folks to cancel.\n\nTold me she can't even have her family over because I make a big deal over it, I said, I never canceled, you did,  made it clear if I didn't want them over, I would toss them out/not let them in.  I left, thinking of staying gone permanently. \n\nTo add, I told her I don't mind, I just don't under why its 3-4 times a week and last forever, considering they are an hour and half away.  They just never leave and then when I leave, I get told I am being rude, but I never invited them.", "summary": "made a remark, shit hit fan, don't want to go back."}
{"id": "t3_12wibj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [f19] get broken down by my SO when he [m20]says things.", "post": "We have been together for a couple years and we have been through so much together. He has been there through thick and thin for me. He has showed me that guys really arent the same, being cared for isn't a negative aspect, and love can produce happiness. Two years later and he is still showing me that i am worth the time of day. My issue: he Will say things that Will stab deep down and Will push me to bring my guard back up. Its simple comments or joke that Will tear me apart. I have never been so sensitive to anyone before. I've never been so affected by words rither . Yes, i have talked to him about it after i swallow the stupid ball of hurt. Reddit, why. Just why. I don't want to make him Feel like he has to be careful about what he says around me. I want him to be able to tell me anything, that's what it is resulting to. Why am i getting hurt so easily by simple words?", "summary": "SO Will say things and im curious why i am so emotionally hurt when he says certain things."}
{"id": "t3_48y7ma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 20] and in desperate need of help with my [F 20] friend", "post": "This wonderful girl that I've been dating for 9.5 months is following her passion of attending medical school and has declared that she will be entering school single. She has a year and a half until we know where she will apply and where she will get in so we don't know where the hell she will be heading off to. \n\nWe broke up a couple days ago because I was not okay with her not even trying to put in effort into trying to take it past college and into med school because she says it will suck for the both of us if she is studying her ass off and I won't hear from her often. \n\nWhile I understand where she is coming from with this, I just don't understand why she won't even try when obviously she can see that I'm putting ever ounce of my effort into working things out and trying to make her happy. I am completely and utterly in love with this girl and I have been nothing but supportive and have given the upmost effort that I've ever put into anything before and she is still reluctant to even try. \n\nShe says she wants to be friends and I was completely fine with that until tonight when I decided that she is completely worth my effort and I want to be with her. She says that I did everything right for the wrong person but I keep telling her that she doesn't give herself enough credit because she makes me the happiest fucking person ever and that I am choosing her because of that reason and more. I am being selfish because I want the both of us to be happy. \n\nI feel like my life is in shambles without her and I've never felt so lost before. I know I'm still young (20) but holy shit I have never felt so strongly about somebody before and it makes me feel like complete shit that she is basically admitting defeat.  I need help. I need advice.", "summary": "awesome girl refuses to love me while I love the living hell out of her"}
{"id": "t3_1ok303", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] started dating a girl [18 F] a week ago, felt a lot, said I loved her too soon, she may be going out with my best friend now", "post": "I am a fucking idiot. \n\nI started talking to this girl a week ago. After talking to her for a bit, she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend a few weeks prior. We started to get to know each other really well and started seeing each other everyday for about a week.\n\nOn Sunday, we started talking a lot about our past relationships and at the end of this, after an influx of emotions, I told her that I was falling in love with her, which I am honestly feeling. She had already told me that she wasn't looking at getting into a long-term relationship. Obviously, these two things conflict.\n\nSo, I asked her out on Monday to go see a movie this upcoming Friday. She said yes. All is good. Later on she texted me saying that she will let me know for sure about Friday soon, saying that she may not be comfortable with it. I understood and said it was fine. Today she told me that she didn't want to because we were moving too fast.\n\nNow, I was talking to my best friend [20 M] and he told me that he was going to see a movie with her this Friday. He is trying to tell me that it isn't a date. I am having a really hard time believing him. He has been actively been attempting to start dating and been shot down multiple times.\n\nRegardless as to the fact that she isn't really interested in dating anyone right now, I feel like betrayed by my friend for seeing a movie with someone who I have feelings for. I've never been in a situation where one of my friends was interested in someone I also was. It feels unfair to me. \n\nMaybe I am just overreacting. I have never developed emotions this quickly and I wasn't intending on saying anything, but it kinda just came out. She said that she still wants us to hang out, but we need to slow things down and become friends first. I feel sick to my stomach and can't eat. I have a headache and my heart-rate has been jumping all over the place for hours.", "summary": "Met a girl. Spent multiple hours getting to know her over the course of a week. After emotional talk, tell her I'm falling in love with her. Now, she thinks we are moving too fast. She is seeing a movie with my best friend on Friday after canceling our same plans for the same day. I don't know what is going on and I am super upset."}
{"id": "t3_3enj79", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to unfreeze the locks on a rental car", "post": "[This story of a guy who FU by calling a locksmith] reminded me of my own TIFU involving a locked car. This happened several years ago but I'm still going to post it...\n\nI had just started traveling for business and I was in some random Midwest state for a 2-day visit with a customer. Fly in, rental car, hotel, customer, dinner, hotel, customer, airport , home. Two things are important to this story: \n* My rental car was a white, two-door Pontiac\n* It was late fall, almost winter, the weather was getting cold and there had been an overnight freeze/frost that hit the area \n\nSo...I wake up the morning of my customer visit and head out to my rental car. Put the key in the lock to unlock it...key won't turn. The first thing I think is \"Great, the lock is frozen.\" Why I thought this, I don't know...but it sets me up for the FU. \n\nI decide that, since the lock is frozen, I'll just unfreeze it. Go back io my room, grab the ice bucket, fill it with hot water. Proceed to dump it on the car window, hoping that it will get on the lock mechanism and warm it up so I can open it. Try keys again. No joy. Go get another bucket of hot water and repeat. Still no joy. \nAs I'm walking out into the parking lot with my 3rd ice bucket full of hot water, I look across the parking lot. \"wow, another white 2-door rental Pontiac. What are the chances?\" \n\nA light bulb goes on. I walk over to the *other* car, stick in my key...VOILA. It opens. I glance around...nothing to do here!...and I skedaddle out of the lot as quickly as I can before anyone sees me.", "summary": "I spent 30 minutes or so dumping hot water on a rental car that wasn't mine, to unfreeze a lock that wasn't frozen. Great move, Einstein."}
{"id": "t3_3yaxhu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Pulled over for speeding by seemingly aggravated cop in Massachusetts", "post": "Driving back from a breakfast outing I saw an unmarked cop car sitting adjacent to us at the intersection as i prepared to turn left, i pointed to the unmarked car and looked to my girlfriend and said \"thats a subtle one but thats a cop\" My arrow went green and i took the left turn and shortly after i saw the aforementioned unmarked cop make a u-turn into our direction only to see his lights turn on shortly after and get pulled over. The offices, seemingly in plain clothes approached my car and without hesitation shouted at me asking why i was going so fast. I replied saying my car was in neutral and i was gling downhill but i surely wasnt going more that maybe 5 over if anything at all. He replied to me \"No not here back there at the light where you turned left!\" I was confused to say the least and he ripped the license and registration from my hand and went back to his car only to return with a ~$250 ticket for speeding which he basically threw at me before storming off. The ticket stated that i was \"Clocked\" and \"Estimated\" going 57 in a 40 which i definitley was not. I could not have come from 0 mph to 57 mph before taking that left turn in the 1999 car that i drive, not even on a good day could most standard cars do that nor would I do that with a passenger in my car on a major road.", "summary": "I think this cop was aggravated and thought I was being rude or something when i pointed at him when we were at the stop light"}
{"id": "t3_544mxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have a Tinder crush [23F], but she has an anxiety disorder and a lot of sensitive issues", "post": "So, this girl and I have been texting for three months now, we follow each other on social media and we started talking on the phone in the last month.\n\nI have definitely a crush on her, and I know she likes me back. We have shared lots of deep personal issues and we have started to rely more on each other for advice rather than in our respective friends. We could have been dating for a while by now, but she stood me up every single time we tried meeting in real life.\n\nShe was heavily bullied at school and is diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). She has lots of issues regarding her body, her sexuality and her feelings. She thinks she's so ugly she doesn't deserve appearing on pictures, is a virgin and only kissed a guy once, when she tried getting shitfaced in order to overcome her panic. I understand her and I have been really patient and supportive, and she says she's never felt so good with any other guy. However, I want to know if I should try to do something more than just telling her how wonderful she is. I feel as if she really cannot make it to the face-to-face stage, and can only be herself behind a screen. What should I do?", "summary": "we both like each other a lot, but we still haven't met because her anxiety disorder and her traumas make it really difficult for her to open up, socialize and meet new people if she doesn't have a screen to hide behind."}
{"id": "t3_3ep3xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "History of abuse and prostitution need to come clean to boyfriend of 10 months.", "post": "My boyfriend (30/M) knows about some of the sexual abuse I (23/F) went through because of some scars, came clean to him about that but not about what happened when I was much younger and not about having sex with men off the internet for money during college, and also not about dropping out of college, he thinks I have that degree but I don't and I've been through a course recently that led to a job though.\n\nHe's opened up to me about some of his own darker things in life and I'm not scared that he wouldn't understand and forgive the prostitutuion (he might have understood) but it's impossible now as I lied and it's been so long now where I had chances to open up.", "summary": "Was a hooker and first serious boyfriend has no idea or about childhood abuse. This is driving me crazy, I literally break down because of it, any advice on how to tackle this would be appreciated. Or just someone I can actually talk to about this."}
{"id": "t3_13e0ht", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some relationship advice... Like bad", "post": "Hey guys, I need some advice from you.\nAbout three weeks ago I started dating a girl knowing that I don't love her, but that I would give her a chance. I am starting to like her, but I am really unsure about how much, while I am pretty sure she is way more serious about this than I am (I feel like she is already having fantasies about a future with me). I  seem to be the first guy that treats her like a real person, and I am scared that she will be overly attached to the point where she won't let me go if I couldn't handle it. I care for her and I don't wanna break her heart, but I really am scared that she will make me go through a potential horror breakup of her threatening to harm herself or me if it came to that. I simply don't know her well enough to tell. And I feel like I should tell her about my concerns but I don't know how. What should I do?", "summary": "how can I tell a girl that I don't know how far I want to go when she is already thinking of a future together?"}
{"id": "t3_1fskxx", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "I feel my mom treats me and my younger brother differently, looking for explanation.", "post": "I [F25] am the oldest kid in the family with a younger brother who is three years younger than me. Now I have grown up and look back into the past, I feel that my parents, especially my mom, has different treatments to me and my brother. She loves us dearly, I am sure. But I kinda sense that she is more protective of my brother.\nMy mom NEVER guide me throughout my life. She always told me that as a human, I am capable of learning anything on my own. So I learned most of the things on my own, through friends, through reading for example. What's interesting about my mom is, she always criticizes everything I do, like I am never good enough for her. I know that learning  something on my own, without guidance from parents, I won't be perfect for the first time but still, she always says I am never good enough. Like for example, graduated in 4 years with two degrees with 3.7 GPA is not as good as my cousin's achievement. These kind of things cause our relationship to be not as close as between my mom and my brother.\nOn the other hand, my mom never criticizes my brother and is always protective of him. But when there is a problem, even for the smallest one like \"changing facebook setting\", she seeks my help, not my brother's.\nSo for parents out there, could you tell me why my mom is tough on me but still when there is problem she seeks my help not my brother's regardless the fact that she has closer relationship with my brother?", "summary": "My mom is tough on me but not on my brother's but she relies on me more on solving her problems. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3dpmgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "4 months post breakup with ex GF (18F) of 4 years. Having mixed feelings.", "post": "You can look back on my other posts for the rest of the story. Long story short, she broke up with me (19M) out of no where. I guess she wanted other things; not sure. Since then, she's gained a whole bunch of weight and seems to have developed anxiety and insecurity issues. I used the breakup as motivation and I am closing in on 40 pounds weight loss (started at 220 beginning of summer, now at 186). I also have talked to other girls and I'm talking to a girl that I really like right now. She is prettier, more animated, and we have a lot more in common. I am totally winning right now, but I'm still feeling lingering effects from the last relationship and it's getting annoying. Anyone have good advice on how to kick these negative feelings once and for all? I think I need a good, physical relationship with someone, if you know what I mean. Its tough being 19 and going without that for months at a time. What do you guys think? Thanks!", "summary": "ex gf broke up with me. I've almost completely moved on but I need advice on how to completely detach. I think a physical relationship is needed..."}
{"id": "t3_46mox7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU bu choosing a window seat.", "post": "Not today but last week I had to fly home to my native Sweden for urgent family matters, and on the way back I had the opportunity to choose the seat on the flight. I am quite nervous while flying, and being able to see the ground especially during landing somehow seems to help. \n\nThe seat I chose was right by the wing, with clear view of the front half of the engine. The back part hidden under the wing.\n\nAs we hit the ground on a successful landing (yay) but were still braking on the runway I noticed a segment of the engine-hull(?) was no longer there and the innards of said engine was exposed. Needless to say i half shat myself, even though we already landed and I shouted to the lovely Spanish couple next to me something along the lines of \"holy shit, part of the engine has fallen off!!\" As they looked out the window with fear in their eyes, and all other eyes in the plane were fixed at me the \"missing\" part of the engine came sliding back into place from under the wing. Turns out engines have moving parts. \n\nGood thing half of the poor sods on the plane were Swedes and hopefully didn't understand what I said...", "summary": "thought there was something wrong with thew plane's left filange and made a scene."}
{"id": "t3_fdih7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help: There is a leech/moocher in my lab group. What do I do?", "post": "Long time reddit lurker. First time posting. Throwaway account. I will try to keep this short and concise as possible.\n\nI just started first day of semester yesterday. I'm an undergrad lower senior studying Electrical Engineering. First day in lab course, TA allow us to choose partners; total of 3 per group. Now usually I always partner up with my friends (whom I know won't slack) but they already took the course. So I had to partner up with new people (which I am fine with). I found a group and was looking forward to work together. But then this girl (we happen to know each other) came in late and started sitting with... me. So like, we have 4 people in a group now. Then one of the member volunteered to leave to form another group of 3. I know from experience that she does not do work or contribute in any way form or shape. Her written and spoken English is poor.\n\nRight now I don't know what to do. I could talk to the TA but he doesn't seem to care. Every group have 3 people already. I really hate leechers/moochers. I can't wait to get out to the real world and work in teams who actually... work. Any suggestions? Just suffer it and let her ride along?", "summary": "A leecher/moocher in my lab group of 3. TA doesn't care and other groups have 3 already. What can I do? Just suffer it and let her ride along?"}
{"id": "t3_2lg92j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] met a girl (19 F) that wants to hook up while she's waiting on someone else. I am starting to get feelings for her.", "post": "Started talking to this girl and we met up on halloween where we ended up hooking up. I was on rebound from my previous gf who had cheated on me. I had a wayyyy better night with her than I expected, even without the sex it would have been great. \n\nA couple days later she said she just wanted to be friends etc. because before I came along she and another guy are interested in each other, but are not dating. She wanted to hang out and just be friends but kept blowing me off so I confronted her about it.\n\nShe says she wants to hook up with me, but wants to date this other guy. \n\nI am fine with this, except for the fact that after that night I started maybe liking her. We have a lot in common, and talked a lot about random stuff, just overall a great night and she agreed. \n\nThis is sort of rambling and not all the info, but basically she knows that I've started having feelings for her, and feels bad that she's \"leading me on\", but does want just a hook up. IDK if this would be good for me or not. I feel like if I was just able to treat it as a hookup from the start I would be ok, but now idk if hooking up makes things worse or better, or if I should even stay her friend at all.", "summary": "Girl wants to hook up while waiting to date someone else. She's said if we don't hook up we should at least be friends. I would be ok with this except I'm starting to have feelings for her and IDK what to do."}
{"id": "t3_vj6zj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My strong resemblance to my paternal side makes me hate my face. Anybody know if this \"condition\" has a name?", "post": "I am the only woman in my immediate family. I was always a very girly type girl, even after being born to a masculine lesbian, having a masculine father and having three older and two younger brothers. My mother tells me I always showed a lot of interest in fashion, makeup, baby dolls, etc.; all the cliche girly things, even though I had no real influence. This is all very true to my personality now at 27. \n\nThe problem is that I've never been able to attain a true sense of confidence in my appearance. All my adult life I've been told that I'm beautiful, pretty, hot... all the nice stuff that's supposed to make a gal feel good on the outside. Well, it doesn't. None of it makes me feel attractive. Anytime someone tells me something like that, I have to consciously stop myself from saying, \"Ugh, no I'm not,\" and just respond with a simple \"thank you.\" \n\nWhy? I've concluded that I hate my family resemblance. Everyone that came from my paternal grandfather shares striking similarities. But in my opinion, these similarities are not to be celebrated. About six years ago I went to my dad's sister's funeral and was shocked and appalled as I looked around the room and noticed that it was crawling with grandpa clones. I knew that me and my brothers looked alike but I guess I hadn't really grasped the severity of the situation. Anyway, I find the dominant traits to be very masculine-looking. I possess these traits, so I in turn view myself as masculine. I am not masculine on the inside, therefore I don't appreciate the association and I fret about it constantly. However, there's not a single person who's ever corroborated this feeling of mine. Actually, people call me crazy. \n\nWhat do I do? Is there a name for this? Self-help literature I can dive into? I haven't had great success with therapists so that's my last resort. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "I hate my face because I look like my family. Help."}
{"id": "t3_p5bh0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need advice, I am just not sure anymore", "post": "This is going to be long so be prepared. Me and this girl have been on and off for about 2 and 1/2 years now. And this is our senior year in high school. We have finally been able to make things work and we dont have much time because i am staying in state for college and she is moving up north but i really do love her a lot. but we argue a lot. Over stupid things that I dont mean to do. Like if I dont rush around with her to do things for her. And she says i dont do enough or dont care. But recently she acts like she doesn't want me around. But she will turn around and tell me she does and that she loves me too. But this is her birthday weekend and she is currently mad because i cant afford to buy her gifts for birthday and valentines day and take her on two dates and to a movie and the circus and buy her prom ticket on my part time job paycheck. She claims she isnt mad but i can tell she is. And last weekend we were supposed to go out to eat and she decided she didnt want to. But we hung out anyway. It took four calls for her to answer. While i was there another male friend called her and she answered first time and almost made plans with him but didnt. Then when i asked if i could fill the plans she said she couldnt. And I just told her thats what has been bothering me lately and she is now ignoring me and told me to leave her alone.", "summary": "? My girlfriend can be a bitch at times but i really do love her deep down and she doesnt mean to be. What should i do reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_2l68tv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Cancelling long-term life insurance. I'm doing the right thing, right?", "post": "So fresh out of college, Northwestern Mutual talked us into a 80-year term life insurance plans for 300k each (wife and I). Premiums were around $70 monthly combined. We since rolled 75k of each into permanent life insurance. Now premiums are in excess of 200 monthly.\n\nSo I'm setting up a meeting to cancel all these and get them into a 30-year term plan with them, largely due to recommendations on this sub. That should free up a lot more budget for me. And I plan to take care of a couple debts with the difference, and eventually start rolling the difference into a RothIRA.\n\nI plan on keeping the 30-year insurance through them. But when I get into a Roth IRA, I'll do that through vangaard or something lower fees. NWM is notorious for getting 5% year on year, and I've seen many other options that yield better interest.\n\nHopefully, in 30 years (I'm 27), I'll be pretty financially set, and I'll either take another term life insurance at a higher rate, or ideally have enough of a retirement account not to have to worry about it.\n\nMy financial advisor there, I'm sure, will be adamant that I'm making a mistake. He already alluded to that in an email. I just want to make sure I'm armed with the right info and am confident in my decision going into it, and I\"m pretty new with all this.\n\nI'm doing the right thing, right?", "summary": "Currently spending a lot in permanent and 80-year term life insurance, and want to cut that all down to 30-year term. Right thing to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kadl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24, female) found email from boyfriend (23) of 6 months responding to a casual encounters ad on Craigslist. The ad was man looking for a man.", "post": "Background info: He and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. Basically fell head over heels, and moved in quickly together. We had plans to move to a new city in August where I will be starting my first year in law school. We have an apartment reserved and everything is taken care of. I have never had any suspicions and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with. He makes me feel beautiful and worthy of companionship. \n\nA couple of weeks ago he was sent out of state on a short 5 day business trip. He works for a retail company and was helping to set up a new store. \n\nSince his return, he's just been a little off. I felt horrible (and still do) but I did something shitty and went through his phone. \n\nFound out he had responded to a man looking for man casual encounters ad on craigslist. His email sounded very comfortable, as he knew the acronyms and typical format. He sent it the day he got out of town. The man responded 3 days later, to which my boyfriend offered to host. There is no other communication that I could find.\n\nWhen I confronted him, he said that he has no idea why he even responded to the ad. He said he didn't want to actually meet up, but had the urge to talk to someone online only. He claims that what I have read is the only communication he had and that he has never physically cheated on me. He also said that this is the only instance where he was interested in talking to a man sexually. \n\nI have no idea what to do. I love and care about him deeply and I have never connected so easily with anyone. I do not know what to believe and whether what he is saying is bullshit.", "summary": "Caught boyfriend responding to ad for sex with a man while away on business. I am happy for the first time and have no idea whether to work through this or walk way."}
{"id": "t3_22wf9l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by giving myself the plague.", "post": "So I work in a kitchen at a busy restaurant.  The building is about 30 years old or so.  On the counters of the line we have these cut outs that hold bins for ice baths.  Underneath the counter is all stainless steal cubbies that we use to store pans, boxes of wine and other random stuff.  \n\nWell between the counter and the cubbies is a void of space only known to grease, disease and filth that is unreachable by man, so it must have accumulated by other means.  It is beyond gross and can only be neutralized by means of total demolition of the building or set ablaze and sealed for no man to ever see again.  Don't get me wrong though it is sealed and completely clean and sanitary just not in this small void of space.\n\nThis morning set up the line, have the dishwasher guy fill ice bins set off to work.  All is well.\n\nDinner starts and I notice a dark reddish, brownish liquid spilling on the floor.  I immediately check to see if the red wine is leaking from the box, the box is soaked.  \n\nFor some reason I have the brilliant reaction to taste the liquid just to be sure.  Nope not wine, not even fucking close.  One more taste, huh I'm the stupidest person that came to work today.  Then it clicks.  Ice water filtered through that space and taste tested twice.  I feel sick and deserving of the plague that probably came from that liquid.", "summary": "ice bath leaked through old, putrid, nasty void in counter space tasted twice for quality."}
{"id": "t3_28lq08", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] can't stop thinking about a girl [19/f] I've been with. Give me your thoughts reddit!", "post": "I don't really know if it's the right sub, but i'll try it here :)\n\nSo, i [19/m] met a girl [19/f] 9 months ago. She's in my class and after a short time we became good friends. One day i told her i wanted to be more than just friends and it took her a little time, but it happened. It wasn't really a relationship but we had some fun. So after like 1 month it all ended after a fight and i was really upset for some time and got into a depression, because i was really into her.\nSo we 'broke up' about half a year ago and all the time there was this distance between us... like being friendly and stuff when you need to but no private talking at all (to remind you: we see each other 5 times per week since we are in the same class at school). \nNow after 6 months we're kinda friends again, text sometimes etc. \nSince we've broken up, i've been with some girls and so on, but she was always in my mind and i could never really let her go. And now i've come to the point that i can't think normal anymore. I dream almost every night about her and think all the time about her and it's driving me crazy.. but i dont know if its such a good idea to ask her if she would try it again with me.", "summary": "girl i've been with left me and i'm trying to get her back"}
{"id": "t3_4btatv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my sister cut my hair", "post": "This happened a couple hours ago.\nI cut my hair to a mohican just for fun, only for a couple of days. Today I wanted to cut it, and my dad was only supposed to arrive in 3h hours, so I asked my sister (14)  to cut it for me. So we go upstairs to the roof, and I show her how to do it. She is cutting my hair and she suddenly screams. I thought she cut my head, but it turned out that the clip that you put on the machine fell off and I got a square of 1.1mm hair on the back of my head. So we start to freak out, and we're all pretty confused. Eventually, my mom brought this barber to our house and he cut my hair to 3mm, but you can still see the big shaved square.", "summary": "my sister cut my hair, got a huge bald spot on my head."}
{"id": "t3_1nlkaq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Found out my girlfriend [22/f] has semi-cheated on me with her ex.", "post": "Hi,\nSorry for my grammar, I'm not a native english speaker.\nSo I've been dating my gf for 2 years approximately, and this summer she started acting weird. We don't live together, and it has been an issue for a long time; I took up a job and started renting an apartment for us, but she kind of does'nt want to move in (telling that she can't move in if she can't pay a part of the rent; sounds non-standart and cool from a girl, but still). Anyways, she started becoming more and more distant during the summer, and in august she completely disappeared - she went to parties with her friends, her ex came back to our country and she started hanging out with him a little (her friends are mainly connected with her ex). \nLong story short, I tried to figure out what's happening, but she would give answers like \"I think we're in the middle of some kind of a crisis\" and not tell more. Today I was browsing our local social networking site and stumbled upon her ex'es profile; I saw that he has a picture of him kissing with my girlfriend as a profile pic. \nNaturally, I was in shock and disbelief, because she has always been so open (not this summer, of course) about anything regarding our relationship. I called her and told her about the picture. She responded with \"I was drunk, and he had just come back from England, and I suppose we made out a little for the sake of our past.. we understood that we still sympathise each other.\" She was very, very sorry and told that she did'nt tell me because she thought that would ruin our relationship. \n\nI don't want to end this relationship. I love her. I just can't understand what to do now - forgive her? Move on? Is this a red flag somehow? How can I trust her after this?  And why the hell is her ex using this picture as his profile pic?", "summary": "Girlfriend has started acting cold recently; found a picture of her kissing her ex."}
{"id": "t3_3zibe7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need advice on how to ask my [23F] neighbors [20'sM/F] to quiet down", "post": "My upstairs neighbor was very peaceful and quiet until her boyfriend moved in. Now, there are occasionally loud fights. More frequently, however, they are talking very loudly into the night and seemingly moving furniture around/scraping up the floors. (My family owns the building which makes me really thrilled about the obvious floor scraping I hear... but that's neither here nor there.) \n\nNow, I recently found out that an ex-colleague of mine is good friends with the girl living upstairs. The ex-colleague and I are on friendly terms--we sometimes text and catch up on each other's lives. There have been times that I want to text ex-colleague and ask her to check up on her friend after hearing a nasty fight, but I refrain because it's none of my business. Anyway, it's important to me to stay on friendly terms with my ex-colleague because there is a very real chance we will become colleagues again in the next couple of years. I also work in a rather tight knit industry, so it would behoove me to just stay friendly either way.\n\nI know that the upstairs girl knows that we have a mutual friend and would report back if I did anything passive aggressive. I don't like confrontation and honestly, being passive aggressive would be my preferred way to handle this. My ex-colleague is the only reason I haven't taken a broom to the ceiling yet.\n\nSo, I come to you. Is there a diplomatic way to ask my upstairs neighbors to please shut the hell up?", "summary": "My upstairs neighbors are loud but one of them knows an ex-colleague of mine. I want to stay on good terms with ex-colleague especially. Is there a diplomatic way to approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_3v1qjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] have been together for 2 years, love each other very much and plan to marry one day but sex has been becoming more infrequent", "post": "My bf and I have been together for about 2 years, in the beginning we took it slow, physically. Not necessarily on purpose, but because we both lived with our parents and our job schedules made it such that we had little time to get intimate.\n\nWhen we started to get intimate, it was very good. He is the best lover I've ever had. Given our living situation and our work schedules, we only got the opportunity for sex maybe 1x/week, at most 2x/week. He was never a sex-crazed guy who needed it all the time or even more than 1-2x/week. I, in some but not all of my past relationships, was used to sex more often, but in our situation it worked. \n\nOur relationship is really really good. He respects me, is ambitious, has a good job, gets along well with my family, etc etc. The problem is that in the last 6 months maybe, our sex life has really been lacking. Recently it's been 1x/month, and I'm afraid that this will end up ruining what I think is an otherwise perfect relationship. When we do have sex, I enjoy it so much, but I can't say i necessarily feel the need to have sex more often. Maybe that's because I'm so busy that I don't think about sex as much as i used to when I was less busy...\n\nWe both still have very different work schedules, he works evenings and I work days, so we rarely have sex at night. Usually it's in the morning but recently it seems that we are too busy even for that. To put into context, he recently started a new job where the hours are longer and we don't see each other as much.\n\nI am worried that we will lose that intimate part of our relationship, to the point where it'll get more platonic. Before him, i was used to having a lot of sex in a relationship, so even to begin with his lower sex-drive was an adjustment. Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this and can give me advice? did everything turn out okay?", "summary": "Perfect relationship with bf of over 2 years, except sex life has been lacking and I don't want that to ruin the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_4r1zr5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a mechanic", "post": "So this fuck up happened about a week ago. So a good friend of mine was going to go see his family on Canada day weekend. It was about a 700km drive. So he told me he wanted to get his oil changed before he went so I offered to change it for him and teach him how to do it while I'm at it. He gladly accepted because he's a cheap bastard. \nWell we got the oil changed done and he went on his was the next morning. Well about 5 hours later he calls me to tell me his car was smoking, and he had CAA give him a tow to a mechanic. Turns out I forgot to put the oil full cap back on after I filled it. And almost all the oil leaked out, and as it turns out his car didn't like driving without oil. Now his engine is fucked and it's at the dealership.", "summary": "I am not a mechanic."}
{"id": "t3_2cze8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] am not fun and don't make friends. Is there anything I do to be a better friend/coworker etc.", "post": "I grew up in an overly critical household and developed a fear a failure that is mostly triggered by people (rather than accomplishment). \n\nAs an adult I have made great strides to be less shy/more social and if you asked anyone, they would say that I'm a really confident and pretty funny person. But that's all superficial, a script I run to appear better than I am.\n\nI can still see the difference between my relationships and other people's. Mine do not deepen, they don't develop. I've tried the standard tips people suggest like 'Fake it till you make it' & 'Pretend to be a spy and ask people lots of questions' & 'Be genuinely interested in people' & 'Find common interests and talk about them' but there's still something missing.\n\nI see other people do it differently: they're excited when they learn others share their interests, they don't have to put effort into connecting with others, they organically build relationships with people through shared interests or connections. When people talk to me, it always feels like a job interview.\n\nLong story short, yes I do have friends but they're also a bit business like. And no I'm not the creepy guy who stares at you over the cubicle. But there's something missing here. What can I do better? Or is it time to stop worrying about it and accept that my life is not going to be an episode of 'Friends'.", "summary": "I'm the nice but awkward guy you see at work and don't know anything about. How can we be buds? Or is my non-drinking, short-answer, questionably autistic behavior just not going to work for you?"}
{"id": "t3_4m3ga4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "6 months 28m 24f broke up because of video games? ?", "post": "I'm pretty astonished she would break up worth me over this. I failed to go to bed after she called me last night. I was pretty into the game so I didn't think much of it. \n\nI thought we had a great Memorial day weekend spending every second together. She said 3 strikes and we break up after failing to go to sleep when she says so. I think that's pretty ridiculous. It undermines all the other good parts of the relationship. It's not like I'm gambling or watching porn..  she did this when i had to work over night and counted it as a strike. \n\nI couldn't deal with the mood swing so i let her go.  We were fine yesterday, then bamn.  I guess there were signs of her having so many rules in place. I was supposed to take care of her cat whom i loved. \n\nWhat the hell.", "summary": "gf broke up over video games."}
{"id": "t3_1mupkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) am not sure if I'm with my gf (19f) because I love her or because I just don't want to be alone.", "post": "First time posting here, so bear with me.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have had an interesting relationship. First off, it's an online one. We actually met on reddit, which grew to skype and texting. Shoot, we even sleep together with skype voice chat on. Been like this since February. She's great, really. Funny, charming, cute, wicked smart, the whole nine yards. We were planning on meeting up on my birthday about 2 months out. \n\nNow, here's the thing. She has pretty bad anxiety. Like, really really bad. I love her, and I do what I can to be supportive of her as much as I can, but as a long distance boyfriend, there isn't really much I can do. I feel like shit pretty often just cause I feel so helpless. Especially when I'm out doing something fun and she's inches from a panic attack because I can't respond as often. \n\nWe're taking a brief break here this morning because of a rough night, and me just needing a moment. Last night, she had a bad anxiety attack. Like, throwing up bad. She said that she isn't happy in life, but she is happy with me. I... well, dammit. I love her. She's a wonderful girl. But I sincerely just don't know if I wanna be with her, or if I just don't wanna be alone. Like the title says. I sincerely don't know. That's what I told her before we took this little break. \n\nI mean... I want her to be happy! I do! And I know I could be a better boyfriend, try being there for her more and stuff, but I just... dammit I just don't know. I need advice here, please. I don't know to keep things going (Longest I've ever been in a relationship here, like 9 months) Or to just break it off. \n\nHelp, please.", "summary": "Long distance relationship, gf has anxiety, longest I've ever been with a girl, feel like shit I can't help more, unsure to keep things going or break it off. Please read."}
{"id": "t3_19sooc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "ThreeyearsagoIFU by doing athletics with a pulled hamstring.", "post": "I'd had tight hamstrings since I hit puberty, bones grew way too quick or something, but still managed to be pretty fast when I was 13/14. Naturally, school pushes me to do athletics for them so I attend the after-school club every week. This one week, my right hamstring is feeling weird, kinda tight/twangy. Being an ignorant lil teenager I assume i can \"run it off\" and carry on warming up. Then I have to run a 100m and 70m in it goes. Of course, I just think \"owch\" and carry on, as any sensible 13 year old would.... I came last so I decide I have to prove myself a bit and head over to the long jump pits. One of my friends watching described it as thus: \"You started running, got to a sprint and then your whole hamstring just kinda...disappeared\" Skip forward 3 years and it still hurts like bugger randomly and stops me from running fast enough to compete in athletics :S", "summary": "Double pulled hamstring and still can't run properly."}
{"id": "t3_2vkby9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [M 18] Family Hates Bi-Racial Couples, My SO is Latino [F 17]", "post": "I have recently started seeing a Latino girl, named Maria, who almost explicitly speaks Spanish. We met through a mutual friend, and Maria conveyed through our friend that she would like to see me again (a date). \n\nSo we exchanged phone numbers and went on a few dates. We really hit it off, and last week she told me that she would like to be with me in a relationship. With her being a very attractive girl with an amazing personality, I told her I'd love to be exclusive with her. \n\nSo we're getting along amazingly, she's helping me learn Spanish and I'm helping her with English. She hopes to be decently fluent in the next few months for her 18th birthday. \n\nBackground info aside, time for the real problem. I come from the Deep South, and a LOT of my family isn't exactly racist, but they frown upon interracial relationships. Some of the more hardcore members may even \"shun\" me.  My mother (who lives not far from where I am now) is in no way racist, so I'm not worried about that. What about the rest of my family? Maria wants to go with me to stay the weekend in Alabama here soon, but I'm kind of nervous about it.", "summary": "Deep South family doesn't like bi-racial couples, and I happen to be dating a Latina who speaks little English. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4co771", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M/24) new girlfriend (F/25) still talks regularly with her ex. Am I being jealous, or is this normal?", "post": "I just started a relationship a couple months ago with a girl. She's very open about her past dating life and stays friends with her exes, which is fine. But to me she may be crossing the line a bit with her most recent ex. \n\nThey dated for 2 years and he broke up with her last summer. She still keeps in regular contact with him (from long distance), and it seems he still has feelings for her and regrets his decision to break up according to her, though she tells me she has fallen out of love with him. \n\nI've been cordial with my exes, but I would never send them letters/message them weekly. She just texted me nonchalantly saying that she was going to bed, after skyping with [ex's name here]. It kind of upset me. I want to talk to her about it, but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. My longest relationship is 6 months, so I never really formed a strong bond with any of my exes.", "summary": "My new girlfriend talks frequently with her ex and I don't know if I'm overreacting."}
{"id": "t3_2bvvx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21m] become more interesting?", "post": "I'm posting this in a couple of areas, just to try and get some different points of view. Sorry for the slight wall o' text.\n\nOver the last year or so I've made an effort to be more attractive. I've started watching what I eat, I've started dressing better, and I've gotten a better haircut. However, I feel like I'm still no better at holding someone's interest in conversation.\n\nI've heard that people really enjoy talking to someone who's passionate and interesting (and I've encountered it myself first-hand) but I just can't figure out how to be that. It's not that I have nothing to offer; quite the contrary in fact. I'm captain of my university Kendo team, I'm a trumpeter who's played at festivals in 3 different countries, I'm studying rocket science at university, and I've a few more hobbies besides. I just really don't like talking about myself.\n\nIf I talk about the less impressive stuff (I like the theatre, for example) I feel like I'm boring whomever I'm talking to. However, if I talk about the kendo or the trumpet it feels like I'm bragging. I don't know how to talk about myself, but I know from experience how boring it is to talk to a blank slate. Is there some trick to this that I'm missing, or is it just a sort of fake-it-till-you-make-it thing?\n\nThanks Reddit :)", "summary": "I'm not comfortable talking about myself, but I don't want to be a conversational blank. wat do."}
{"id": "t3_10hcfm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I had a chance encounter with an intelligent, sexy, successful and compassionate woman yesterday... I desperately wanted to say something but, she was at work and we all know that's BAD news. My fellow Redditors, has anyone overcome this and gotten a date? Details inside!!", "post": "So basically, I was at work yesterday and tried to chop off a digit with my knife.  I ended up in the ER at a hospital waiting for 6 hours and although I tried to suck it up, I couldn't help but feel angry (at myself), impatient, depressed and just generally shitty.\n\nAfter commenting to a nurse that all I wanted was the injury report (ie. no stiches, mostly cause I'm a wuss), the doctor showed up and my day completely changed.  She came in with a monster smile and commented on the injury.  I said no big deal, no stitches needed, and that made her laugh.  In other words, she saw right through the bullshit tough guy routine.  I really didn't mind.  We shared a little playful banter as she cleaned the wound and then left to get my report.  When she came back, I was greeted by another of the biggest smiles ever, we briefly spoke again and then I just left.  This 15 minutes, really turned my whole day around.  I know she's probably just doing her job and thinks nothing of it.  Is there anything I can do reddit?", "summary": "Hurt myself at work, hated life in the ER for 6 hours, then met my doctor!!!! WOW! :)"}
{"id": "t3_1guc5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I work together professionally with my boyfriend?", "post": "Hi there /r/relationships! Long term lurker first time poster to this subreddit. I've watched you all help and dissect other peoples problems in the past and today I come to you with my own.\n\nMy boyfriend (m25) and I (f24) have been together two years. We're a functioning loving couple who have never had any major fights or escapades involving third parties. We were good buddies before we started dating and I still think of him now as not just my boyfriend but my best friend. \n\nRecently we moved to a new country together to break up the status quo a little and start a new life.\n\nBoyfriend has found a job that he is truly happy in and feels excited to go to work everyday. I, however hold a qualification in journalism but work in boring ol' customer service for the time being as I have had trouble finding jobs in the past in my own field. \n\nThe other night boyfriend came home with a printed job application for the role of Communications Coordinator at his company that he recommended me for. I immediately applied as it sounded right up my alley.\n\nI had my phone interview with the HR person on Friday and they want me in for a proper interview on Monday. I am ecstatic and my boyfriend seems pretty pleased too. \n\nThe only problem is that we're afraid that it will completely change our relationship dynamics. That we will get sick of each other after spending 24 hours a day with each other (we live together also).\n\nDo you all think it's a mistake applying for this role? Are there any workmate/couples out there who can give me a little advice on how we can keep our relationship exciting and fun if we're always in each other's faces?", "summary": "I may be getting a job working together with my boyfriend, is this a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3qhy6i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting on the bus", "post": "I just stepped off of the bus 15 minutes ago, shambled home, and almost immediately decided you weirdos might like to hear this.\n\nI spent the evening and night at the pub with a few friends.  After a couple pints, some chips and some nibbles I quickly realised that I had to run to catch my bus or risk being stuck in the city overnight.\n\nAs I left I discovered that something I had eaten throughout the day was not agreeing with me.  I had nearly crippling pain emanating from just above my hip, but I knew I still had an hour on the bus to suffer through before reaching my sanctuary.\n\nI made it to the bus (double-decker), climbed upstairs, and took my seat in the middle.  It was late, 11:35pm, the last bus out of the city, so the bus was nearly empty.  After a quick survey of the upper level and confirming I was alone, my bowels let loose the most ungodly stench I have ever had the misfortune to smell.  Every silent squeeze resulted in a destructive wave of curdled milk and rotting meat with a hint of rotten eggs.  The smell did not last long, but every small relief brought with it a cocophany of whatever the hell I had decided to put in my body.\n\nAfter relieving myself for approximately an hour, we began to near my stop.  I stood to press the 'Stop' button and locked eyes with a beautiful woman about my age, sitting there rows behind me with the collar of her shirt pulled over her nose.\n\nWhether she had been there since the last stop or for an hour, I don't know, but I wasn't about to stay.  I marched down the stairs, accidentally releasing one final, defiant burst of unpleasantness before muttering a soft \"Thank you\" to the bus driver as I hauled my sorry (and smelly) ass off the bus.", "summary": "WWI-style gassed a bus when I thought I was alone.  Whoops."}
{"id": "t3_2mm008", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my gf [23 F] of one month. I think I want to break up, but I'm not sure.", "post": "So I'm normally a pretty cautious person as far as relationships go. About a month ago, I started dating a girl I go to college with. It happened pretty quick, and without me really thinking about it. I'm historically a date- to- marry person, and I'm suddenly worried because I don't know if I see a life with her. \n\nShe's a wonderful girl, but I just... I don't know. I can't tell if we aren't clicking, or if I'm too scared of commitment after 4 years of being single. There are days where I want out of the relationship, and days where I want nothing more than to be with her. \n\nI don't know what's going on in my head and I'd really appreciate it if someone could talk me through this...", "summary": "I'm worried scared about everything with my relationship, and need someone to talk me through it."}
{"id": "t3_2f077r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my live-in ex [22F] together 2 years, broken up 3 months, sleep in same bed. But I know she is seeing other people?", "post": "I will try to keep it short and simple.. My ex was great and we had a pretty good thing going. We even got a lease renting a wonderful house together(we are halfway through the lease). After too much time together we kinda got pulled apart. She said she did not have feelings for me anymore and so on. It really hurt but I tried online dating to talk to new people for a change. \n\nI happened to find her dating profile on multiple sites(one of which is a sugar daddy site, which is concerning in another way). So she used to be gone for days on end, and I just figured it was completely over. \n\nAnd suddenly, she starts being sweet again and initiating sex with me, cooking me meals, etc. Beyond that, she starts calling me old nicknames, and acting like nothing was wrong or something. I know she is actively on dating sites, so she must be meeting people. \n\nMy issue is should I continue to to play along? Is she thinking of \"dating\" me again up against new guys? Or am I just a backup lay? At this point, I never thought she would never want to be with me again, let alone starting being intimate again. I definitely do not want to get my hopes up. But at the same time I do not want to get played like a fool. I cannot bring up her dating people, as it leads to a lot of fighting. Which tells me she is seeing people. However, lately she has been on her phone less, and spending massive amounts of time with me.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend is acting like when we were together, but I am positive she is lying and seeing other people. If I bring it up, a high fight starts. Should I move to the spare room?"}
{"id": "t3_1psp8x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep in class", "post": "Okay so to start this off i dont usually fall asleep in class but you know theres not much else to do besides play minesweeper in your head. anyway it was a warm thursday school day (i remember because it was Terrific Tuesdays in my math class). anyway, i was chilling in math class and i finished early so im like, hey might as well do some homework that i havent done yet. so i finished my homework in math class, no big deal right? wrong. i had nothing else to do in my other classes. so computer education rolled up and BAM!\n\n free day.\n\n and im like omg i wasted so much time, i coudve done my homework now. i look around and everyone else is sleeping. i figure i should sleep too to blend in (i dont believe in not blending in) \n\nanyway so like i said this was the first time i ever fell asleep in class and when i woke up, everyone was staring at me and pointing and laughing and the teacher was throwing paper wads at me saying \"hey sport you got some z's above your head\"\n\nive nevr been so embarrassed in my life, exept then i woke up for real and the bell had already rang and i was late for PE, my favorite class.\n\nbut after that day and that dream ive never been able to sleep in class again, but i feel like people already expect me to, like ive got a reputation to uphold. so every day i lay my head down and pretend to sleep for up to 20 minutes in every class. its awful.", "summary": "im addicted to pretending to fall asleep because of bad dream."}
{"id": "t3_2hbvkx", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Help ! Should I travel through India, South-East Asia or China? I have 3 months to travel, but only a week to decide...", "post": "*I'm trying to decide where to backpack for the next 3 months and I can choose anywhere in or near Asia.* \n\nPlease share any and all recommendations for locations and relevant information for Thailand/Laos/Camb./Viet. and India/Nepal. Thanks !\n\n**Which, given my interests, would you recommend between Thailand/Laos/Camb./Viet. and India/Nepal?** Thanks !\n\nI'm a shoe-string budget traveler intending on sleeping in hostels & couchsurfing. I've backpacked Europe before and traveled in Africa, but never this part of the world. I'm not big into partying, but I'd like a night out here or there.\n\nI **love** learning about cultures & connecting with people of different backgrounds. I love nature & seeing beautiful historic locations. I also enjoy meeting other travelers.\n\n**I want this to be a slow, relaxed trip**. I've done fast-paced trips before, but that's not the intention here. (In terms of budget, I'd like to stay under 3K for the trip). \n\nThank you so much for the advice and the insight everyone !!\n\nI also xposted this on a couple other subs.", "summary": "I'm choosing between traveling Thailand/Laos/Cambodia/Vietnam or traveling India for 3 months in slow adventure."}
{"id": "t3_4gblhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my [18F] sister, isn't considerate about my past relationships or others, not sure how to address without cutting her out of my life?", "post": "My sister recently came down to visit me in college over the weekend. Long story short, my ex boyfriend (21M) and I have a rollercoaster relationship that should've ended completely a long time ago but whatever reason we still hookup which I agreed to (I'm the one with feelings) as long as I was the only one he was hooking up with. My sister wanted to meet him still though. So we (sister and I) hang out with him and his fraternity this weekend, go drinking, I notice hickeys and as I get more drunk--I get more upset and when we get home, I kind of lock myself in my room to cry for a bit. \n\nNow, my sister is still in high school and I am responsible for her this weekend. So while I'm crying, she decides to head over to my ex-boyfriend's apartment building and go to their pool party and hooks up with this guy who I had told her earlier has a girlfriend (who I know personally). She doesn't tell me where she is, I have to text my ex to find out this information. \n\nHer actions really hurt me because I expected her to be there for me (we are/were? really close) and instead she went to hang out with the person who hurt me and decided to participate in cheating (I guess not actively but she knew). My sister recently got out of her awkward phase and is now super gorgeous, but all the attention sort of went to her head which is I suspect part of the reason why she did all this. What do I do? She hasn't apologized and told me she can't talk to me because she'll say something mean (meanwhile I've been like hysterically crying...rough day). I care about my sister so much and it feels like my life has been full of people I care about hurting me recently. Do I keep her in my life? How do I proceed with this? My family is really tight-knit and I've (sort-of, without some details) told my parents and they say I should just get over it and it was partially my fault for leaving her by herself for an hour while I cried.", "summary": "Sister participates in cheating. Hangs out with ex-boyfriend who hurt me. Honestly, I love her as my sister but I have no idea how to resolve this/deal. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_25w4mx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally telling someone I hated them.", "post": "This happened maybe a year ago now but I didn't know of this subreddit until it was added to the frontpage.\n\nIn Secondary school (high school) me and all my friends would hang out in a small study room connected to our biology classroom. Sometime during the last year a guy from out year started sitting with us, initially he wasn't too bad to sit with but as time went on we started to realise that each time we were together this guy would start an argument and purposefully argue the opposing opinion despite not being his own opinion. Like quote \"studies show...\" then say something he read on the internet. I mean this guy was unbearable and made conversation impossible; but I digress.\n\nSo it's close to the end of year and the end of our school term when me, this guy and my friend are all leaving this study room to go to our class together on the otherside of the school campus (this is a big school bear that in mind). When I get this text from my girlfriend saying \"I was talking to your best friend this morning ;D\" and I say out loud to these two just as we left the room.\n\n\"My girlfriend just told me she was talking to my \"best friend\" this morning, now that's *obviously* someone I **hate** but I hate a lot of people so it really doesn't narrow it down.\"\n\nAnd the guy in question says: \"Eh Rorsaur, I was talking to [girlfriend] this morning.\"\n\nSilence...\n\nAfter that the guy left our study room and I've never spoken to him since.", "summary": "Read out a text about me hating someone in front of that person. "}
{"id": "t3_2g0scp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my wife [24F], argument about bringing our son to a BBQ", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 3 years, we have a 1.5 year old son. We live kind of out in the country, about 60-90 minutes from the nearest big city.\n\nWe have friends who live in/near the big city and they kind of complained that they haven't seen us much since we had our son, so we have been trying to make plans with them. We finally worked out that we will come to a BBQ they're hosting this weekend in the early afternoon.\n\nWe had already made plans that day to bring our son to the city for his first haircut. There is a place that specializes in kids cuts and they have a salon for mom too. So it was going to be a special treat for my wife, she is going to get a salon day, our son gets his hair cut, and after we all go to the BBQ.\n\nOk so here is the problem. My friends who are having the BBQ told us that they don't want us to bring our son. They tried to be nice about it but they basically said that they just don't want to be around kids.\n\nMy wife is saying that we should take 2 cars to the salon, and she'll go home with our son instead of coming to the BBQ. That seems like a PITA to me, plus I want her to come out and socialize. She stays home with him and doesn't get out much.\n\nSo I am at a loss here. I think we should tell our friends that if we are coming to the BBQ we are bringing our son. My wife says that's rude and she will skip the BBQ. I see her point but I think I would rather not go if we can't bring him since it will be so much hassle. Plus I work 60+ hour weeks and weekends are my only time with my boy.\n\nWhat is your advice? Sorry if this is a stupid question this is my first time on this forum.", "summary": "Friends don't want us to bring our 1.5 year old to a BBQ, wife says she'll skip the BBQ, I think we all go or none of us go."}
{"id": "t3_2y67ib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with past insecurities [26, m]", "post": "Hello.  I just have a question about some insecurities that are cropping up and how to deal with this as time goes on in my life.\n\nI'm a 26 year old male who has been single for the past year.  I've been enjoying my time but the past few times I've started dating a woman these insecurities from the past start kicking in.\n\nThe biggest insecurity I have is that my last serious relationship (4+ years) ended primarily due to me having to move back in with my parents.  I was 24 at the time and had to go back to school for an internship with a company.  I'm currently 6 months in my new position making $30,000 / year with a good outlook for a raise soon.... but I'm still stuck at my parents place.  The girl at the time soon left me for someone else shortly after that, and gave the \"I don't know what to tell you, it's not you it's me, etc etc..\".  There is certain evidence that this wasn't the case that I discovered later and I believe it had more to do with finances.\n\nSo now that I'm on my way up, how do I stop fearing this kind of occurrence from happening?  I feel as if I'm less of a person due to the amount of money I'm currently making and though I do have plans to move soon I feel like my whole dating life is currently on hold until I become more financially stable.  Any advice on this?  I feel like I don't even want to enter the dating soon out of fear of being laughed at for how much money I make.  I don't have any other real issues affecting my confidence like this.", "summary": "26[M], How to deal with past insecurities of not making enough money currently / currently living with my parents."}
{"id": "t3_4beait", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25M] girlfriend [28F] of 5 years cheated on me (again?) and now wants to make it work?", "post": "I guess I'll start from the beginning. I met her online. Since the day we met in person we were rarely apart, maybe a handful of days in 5 years. We live together in my parents house which is a bad enough situation on its own. \n\nA couple weeks into the relationship she admitted to having phone sex with another guy she met online while we were together. I guess we never clarified if we were exclusive, but it caused some trust issues early on. \n\nFast forward 2-3 years into the relationship... She's talking with an ex again but claims she has no attraction to him. I'm not sure if anything happened at this time, but I was suspicious. \n\nCut to now. She's talking to yet another guy online, and giving him more time/attention then me. She's also rejecting any sexual advances, and we had been, I guess, celibate for some time. \n\nI don't know what it was yesterday, something about the way she talked to me, but she left the house and I couldn't resist the urge to snoop. What I found was chat transcripts and pictures that verified my suspicions. \n\nNow she's telling me she's sorry and blaming it on our living arrangements, and that I wasn't giving her enough attention. The kicker is, she has absolutely nowhere to go. I put her up in a hotel tomorrow but she was crying telling me she's jobless and homeless and needs to \"come home\" today and talk. I told her I need time and space, but I'm also not the type of person that can put someone out on the street. \n\nWhat should I do?\n\nI have more details but I'm on mobile and my head is a mess...", "summary": "gf cheated, jobless and homeless, wants to make it work now."}
{"id": "t3_2ey3f2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trimming my nose hairs too short.", "post": "I was shaving after a shower and noticed that I had a nose hair which was sticking out of my nostril. No problem, I took out the wee little scissors that came with my nail care kit and got down to business.  After cutting the offending hair I started examining my nose in the mirror.  I pushed up the tip of my nose pig-style and to my surprise I found many hairs which I, in my infinite wisdom, thought I would preemptively trim while they were still not long enough to stick out.  Let me tell you, there were a lot of them.  And I really went to town; I opened my nostrils in various ways and went on a little trimming jag. Feeling particularly proud of my newfound hygiene procedure, I went into my bedroom to grab some clothes and get dressed.\n\nThis being the most wonderful time of the year for allergy sufferers, and being one myself, I reached for a paper towel (Kleenexes go to pieces so I gave up on them years ago) and held it up on my nose.  From the moment I applied pressure on the sides of my nose I knew I had made a terrible mistake. The stubble of my freshly trimmed nasal hair pressed into the ultra-sensitive skin inside my nose like a thousand hot drill bits. Now, still needing to expel the result of my allergies I blew my nose, which caused the little hairs to vibrate against the aforementioned sensitive skin. Only then did I fully comprehend the gravity of the situation.  Not only did it send instant sphincter-puckering pain shooting through my nose and down the back of my neck, but it caused a seemingly endless stream of mucous to cascade out of my nose and tears to flow from my eyes.  This went on for a good (great, even) ten minutes, one action invariably causing the other with no end in sight.  Finally I stopped blowing my nose and just tearily accepted my fate, letting my nose drain itself out.", "summary": "Don't *ever* trim any nose hairs that aren't sticking out of your nostrils."}
{"id": "t3_3cx4xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] told my gf [16F] something serious and know I don't know what to do.", "post": "I know I'm a little young to post here but I really need some quick advice and I'm struggling a little with my sanity.\n\nSo I've only been dating my current gf for 3 weeks but we have been best friends for a year and would have gone out months ago if not for the two months of exams we have in the UK. \n\nSo anyway, about a year ago, I was diagnosed with a nasty illness and it caused me to lose lots of weight (I was already underweight) but also in some way or another, made me very sad and at one point depressed. After beating the illness with short stints in hospital, I still struggle with happiness now and again.\n\nFast forward to last night, when I had my first argument with my gf. It was my fault as I wasn't in the best place but no one outside of my direct family knew about my issues with mental health. I knew I had to tell me gf and I did; but in a stupid Facebook message and not in person because I live too far away to walk and to be honest, I was scared. Now she knows and is angry that I didn't tell her straight away, I don't know if I should say anything after having a brief conversation on Facebook; mainly making sure I wasn't self harming or anything like that. \n\nHowever, she does know that my first relationship ended because my ex gf was cutting herself and I ,again , was scared. I really don't want to break up with her but I know what it's like to be with someone who is hurting seriously. I just want her to know she can break up with me without her feeling remorse; having told her I feel like I've trapped her in a relationship. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is, what should I do now and is there anything i can do make sure she is ok? I know teenrelationships is a thing but I need an adult and quick answer. Thanks for taking the time to read all this.", "summary": "Told my gf about my past struggles with mental health, I've upset her and need to fix things in a way that's best for her."}
{"id": "t3_2suws5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My crush. Does he like me?", "post": "So there is a guy I like in class.   I don't know why.   I just do.  So when we talk it's not how normal people talk (it is in this school) but we talk dirty to eachother.    I know you're probably like,\"What do you mean?\"   Well whenever I sit next to him, we make dirty jokes to eachother.   We make eachother blush.   He would reference sex a lot and sometimes hump/masterubate whilst looking at me.   I know that when he does these, that if I try to get my friend to look, he just stops.   He also once said what's your phone number, stop and stared for a few seconds then said I'm kidding.   We have cute moments and our friends tease us about eachother.   We even had a war about who was going to say bye last on a website.   Thing is he's really nice to my bestfriend.   Like.   Realllllllllyyyy   nice.   Well as nice as he can get. (Quite a jerk at some points).   I've known for a fact he is never nice around me unless it's super important.                So I was wondering.... Does he maybe like me?", "summary": "my and my crush talk dirty. I think he likes my best friend. But does he like me?"}
{"id": "t3_v48gc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advise - relationship going stale?", "post": "Me: 21 M, Her: 21 F, Relationship: 6 Months\n\nHey all, just wanted a bit of advise as I'm really not sure what's up really. Lately things have been feeling like they've been going a bit stale. I'll keep this short and sweet.\n\nFor about a month we didn't see each other much. First she was sick, then I was sick, then I was bombarded with the last couple of stressful weeks of university trying to get all my work in on time. This was when things started to feel off, naturally, as we went from seeing each other at least every other day to seeing each other once a week if we were lucky.\n\nNow that we're getting to see each other more (it's been about 2 weeks of this now) it's been feeling stale, mainly when we're together at my house watching a movie or the usual activities of derping around the house doing stuff. When we're out with friends or out doing something together everything is amazing and feels great, it's just when we're sitting together in my house. Maybe I'm just sick of sitting around my house after the amounts of uni work I had to do while sitting stressing out for weeks?\n\nAnyways, I don't want to break up with her because I know that I still love her. Yeah, 6 months may seem to soon to be saying the \"L\" word to some people (by the way it's mutual and we've both said it), but I don't ever expect people to understand my own relationships when they're not the one involved in them.\n\nSo yeah, I was just wondering if anyone here has any advise or insight as to what is going on. Am I just in a rut? Am I being an idiot? She's an amazing girl and I've never been happier in a relationship.", "summary": "Relationship feels stale, may be in rut, need advice on what is wrong and how to personally work on things as it's only my problem really."}
{"id": "t3_2t78ab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] don't really know what to do at the moment concerning this girl[17 F] I have been friends with for a few months now.", "post": "Hey guys and girls of Reddit,\n\nI'm not sure if this is the right place to ask about these things but I really need some help. \n\nThere is this girl in my class that I have been friends with for a couple of months now. It's kind of ridiculous how much we have in common: same music, movies, games, humor etc. and I really like her but she has had a boyfriend for 2 years.\n\nBut for a couple of weeks now she has been extremely friendly with me, saying things like 'I wish I had met you sooner' and being way more friendly to me than her other guy-friends even though she has only known me for a very short time.\n\nSo do you guys think she see me as a potential boyfriend or am I just over-analyzing things?", "summary": "Girl I like has a bf, but seems interested in me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2viax5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18 M]with my girlfriend [17F] 1 month Not sure what just happened to my relationship", "post": "i am a senior in high school and I have been dating a junior for almost 2 months now. she is the first person I have ever dated for real and she was also my first kiss. But recently she told me that she doesn't know if she still wants to be In a relationship. I made the mistake of asking her to be official only after 3 dates and we haven't even been able to see eachother since. \n\nWe talked on the phone about our relationship toget and she told me that she still liked me but that she doesn't think she wants a relationship right now Because she has things going on in her life that she didn't want to tell me about. I still really care for this girl but I'm unsure of what she wants. We didn't official break up but she did say she didn't want a relationship but we can still talk. She told me she wouldn't be talking to other guys so I told her I wouldn't be talking to other girls. I'm unsure of if she wants us to go back to normal before we became \"official\" like back to just talking and going on dates or if she really wants me to leave her alone for a while. I don't want her to lead me on to wait for something that will never happen. I'm not sure what to do because I still care for this girl and I don't want to lose her. \n\nAlso I already bought her a box of chocolates and a card for Valentine's Day...should I still give it to her?\n\nIf I left something out or if this story didn't really make any since please let me know. I'm new to making posts on reddit", "summary": "I'm unsure what to call my relationship and I don't know if I should keep talking to this girl and to just leave her alone."}
{"id": "t3_38qjzk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wanking on a plane.", "post": "So first off this is true aswell as my other two stories. All these stories happened a few years ago in my mid teen years. \n\nAnyway I was going back to my home country in Indonesia, from Australia, and the flight was about 5 hours long. Back then I had a severe wanking addiction, I had to do it at least 10 times a day. At school and even at the shopping centre sometimes. So I had gotten onto the plane and about an hour in I had to do it. So I went to the toilet and I had a weird way of doing it. I squatted on the floor of the tiny toilet cubicle and went at it. I was going for several minutes before I needed to finish so instead of going in the toilet, I finished into the tiny sink and went back to my seat. About 10 minutes later, the same toilet I was in was closed by one of the flight attendants and locked from the outside so I can only imagine that I didn't clean up properly.", "summary": "Wanked on a plane and didn't finish up properly in the sink. Someone would've had a lovely surprise."}
{"id": "t3_mx0a2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She (20F) never responded to my text. Did I (20M) do anything wrong, or is this beyond my control?", "post": "So I've been getting subtle but solid hints from mutual close friends of hers that Girl A likes me. I've known her for about a year, and hang out occasionally through mutual friends but never alone. I run into Girl A and a two of her friends at a local cafe. The two friends quickly leave, leaving me with Girl A and we talk continuously for two hours or so. I ask for her number, which she enthusiastically gives out, and say we should get coffee again soon. We do get coffee two more times (once albeit incidentally), with the same chemistry. As we're about to part ways, I ask if she'd want to go to one of these monthly art walks my city has. She cheerfully agrees. Fast-forward 11 days (post-Thanksgiving break) and I text her the following: \n\n\"hey do you remember when i asked if you wanted to go to art craw this friday? (if not, you said yes lol). Anyways i wanted to see if you still wanna go/work out the details.\"\n\nAnd she never responded. Now she normally takes a while to respond, but she gets back to me before the day's over. Did I do something wrong here? In hindsight, the part in parentheses may come off as needy. If she had been honest and said no, I would have been okay with that. However, not responding at all irritates me. \n\nAm I to blame here? Should/should have I texted her again?", "summary": "I text a girl (with whom I have pretty solid chemistry) to confirm/coordinate a date that I already asked her on, but she doesn't respond. Did I screw the pooch, or is she just being a bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_2ep6qk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[15 M] I'm about to come out to my parents and sister on my upcoming sixteenth birthday, but it's a little complicated", "post": "Hi! You probably don't remember me [from this thread in /r/relationships about a year ago.] I'm the same guy. Basically, I asked for advice on how to come out to my best friend. Now, I'm coming out to the world. But before that, I have to tell my family, who I'm really close with. \n\n---\n\n**UNIMPORTANT SIDENOTE**\n--\n\nI decided that the age 16 is exactly when I want to come out. It's the year after Freshman year in high school, so I'm already settled in. Plus, it's the year I can start driving. It's also the fourth power of two, and a perfect square itself. Being slightly obsessive-compulsive, and a math nut, it's really a perfect, round age to come out at. Also, I feel much more comfortable with my parents now than I ever have before. It took some remedial therapy to get them to soften up to gays a bit (watching media with LGBT+ representation). That meant sneaking Modern Family into the DVR.\n\n---\n\nAnyway. I think my family may have guessed by my \"abnormalities\" (read: noncompliance to generic teenage masculinity) that I might not be completely heterosexual. I also know that my sister snooped through some of my texts with one of my friends that hints at me liking boys. That's a separate problem, but nonetheless, they may already know about me being gay.", "summary": "If you're a used-to-be-homophobe parent out on their son's 16th birthday in New York, what should he say to come out to you, and what shouldn't he?"}
{"id": "t3_4k08zp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] My brother [45M] passed away two weeks ago. How do I help my parents [64F 71M] cope?", "post": "So, I am a very late child of my elderly father and near-elderly mother. I am one of 4 children (45M, 43F, 40M.)\n\nMy three siblings have had a close relationship with the one another. They were always there for me with guidance, but I never felt a bond with them. We never grew up together, or were able to discuss issues. They always had their own lives when I was in my adolescence, and in fact, I am closer with their children, (my nephews [23 M, 20M]. My other siblings' children are a bit younger.\n\nI am also very close with my parents. I just moved to my own apartment rather close to them and I see them very often. My brother passed away suddenly due to complications of a surgery. My father is devastated, and my mother is trying her hardest to keep her composure for the family. My other siblings have their own lives and children, but they are trying their best to stick around after the initial wake and funeral. But I feel like it is more of my responsibility to be there for my parents.\n\nMy brother's death, although sad, has not really affected me. He was independent before I was born, and I mainly saw him in family gatherings. He was easily the most distant of my siblings with me.\n\nHow can I help my parents cope with a death of an adult child?", "summary": "Distant older brother died. How do I help elderly parents cope with the death of an adult child?"}
{"id": "t3_2pr6gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So me (18m) want to express feelings to a crush (16f)", "post": "So I'll start out saying that I recently met this girl and I'm usually pretty shy, we're only together for about 55 minutes a day (math group) and I seem to be interested in her personality, which she doesn't seem to express much, but since I'm the same way, maybe we could connect in a very similar way... \n\nI used to think this was just a small crush that would easily pass, but every day I talk to her I seem to get more and more attracted, and since I haven't really had much experience in the relationship field, maybe I can get some opinions on how to take a crack at this...", "summary": "I recently met a girl in math class who I'm interested in, New to this and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2wm3af", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [24/f] with my LDR boyfriend [24m] and just want to know how to deal?", "post": "I think I just need to rant and am being over emotional but here it goes......\n\nWe've been together for three years and everything is great when together except when we are apart and it's my fault. Growing up my parents never really allowed me do stuff normal kids did and we always were moving until 3rd grade. I always made friends but I wasn't allowed to go out with them or have sleep overs etc...It wasn't until senior year of high school where I was given freedom. \n\nNow, in college, I've adopted the same friend habits and it sucks(not saying I want sleep overs). I don't really have any friends except two good ones. One never feels like hanging out (in fact just got a text saying \"eh, no thanks\") and the other lives on the other side of the country. So most of my days are spent studying, stuck in my room, gaming,school, or going alone to a bar street located right off campus. What does this have to do with my relationship?\n\n My boyfriend lived in a small town where everyone knows everyone. He has friends, since elementary, everywhere and is always doing something with different people. This makes me feel happy for him because well, he's got people to be with and that's great but on the other hand I get sad and sort of jealous that I am not as privileged to have a circle of my own that I can just turn to and automatically hang with.\n\n I'm already stuck alone most the time. So it is only when he goes out that I start to feel like crap. I try and occupy my time with hobbies but it just gets old after a while. He does his best to keep time for me and I appreciate it. He's literally the best boyfriend I could ask for but how do I deal with the loneliness? I have brought it up but there isn't much he can do and if I keep bringing it up I'll push him away.", "summary": "how do you deal with the loneliness in an LDR when you've got not as many friends as they have to occupy their time with? I'm starting to feel like a scrappy girlfriend for it."}
{"id": "t3_4gifek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] have an acquaintance [19 F] that is in my friend group and I can't seem to befriend her", "post": "Hey Reddit, I'm having an \"issue\" with an acquaintance in my friend group. We are a pretty big crowd, and I'm really good friends with all of them. Except Danny. \nFor whatever reason, Danny and I, no matter how much I try, do not get along. We don't dislike each other or anything, but we have literally nothing to talk about, leading to some very awkward conversations when we end up having to talk.\nWe simply have nothing in common so it pretty much goes as far as the weather before it falls flat.\nThis really gets to me because I get along with everyone else (and its not because she's a chick, half my friends are), are we really just so incompatible? What could I do to become better friends with her?\nI cannot believe there is someone on this Earth I can't befriend so help me reddit!", "summary": "First person I've met that I can't befriend, help!"}
{"id": "t3_4ro432", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) just got home after a month away, my girlfriend (17F) doesn't seem happy that I'm back, and she seems ashamed of us.", "post": "So I've been with my girl for a few good months (~6), just got home from our longest seperation yet (>1 month). Things feel different. She's distant and doesn't seem attracted to me. She seems slightly ashamed of me. She took a picture on snapchat of our reunion, 10 minutes later she frantically took it down because \"she didn't want anyone to think she was \"showing off\" . she constantly seems to be pining after her friends boyfriends and generally just seems very jealous of her friends...it's fine, but if she's unhappy i don't want her to be trapped in this relationship.", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't seem happy in our relationship since my return home."}
{"id": "t3_4bxlq0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to go about financing an engagement ring.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am getting engaged and am in the market for an ring that will probably be in the 10,000 dollar range. I am in a strange position with my credit in that I have a pretty short history which included just 8500 in student loans which have been paid off in full and two credit cards which I have only had for 8 months and 5 months respectively (I had put off getting a credit card pretty stupidly for years as I was busy with grad school,etc). My credit limit is 3000 on 1 card and 1500 on the other so I cannot really put the full balance on those. I am fortunate enough to have enough money to pay for it without financing if necessary without adversely affecting my finances but I would like to maximize positive impact to my credit if possible. My current credit score is 725 according to credit karma. I was wondering if I should get a loan to have more stuff on my credit history or if I should get the bluenile credit card and put it on that (although I don't know if I would qualify given the short length of my credit history) and pay if off in the 1 year interest free period, try to get my credit limit raised or just pay cash. Any help would be greatly appreciated with this.", "summary": "want to buy engagement ring. Have the money but want to maximize benefit to credit"}
{"id": "t3_30n6hj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting some coca-cola in a water bottle", "post": "Tonight I decided I was going to stay up late so I could catch up on some TV shows and watch a couple of movies. \n\nI went to the kitchen to get the food and drink I wanted to take to my room so I wouldn't have to walk through the house during the night and take the risk of waking anyone up. I found a big bottle of cola in the fridge and decided to fill up a smaller bottle (the bottle can hold more than any of the glasses I have in my house). \n\nAfter playing some video games, I decided to settle down and start up the first movie. About 10 minutes into the movie I heard this noise, just like when you open a bottle of cola and the gases release but it was continuous, so I pause it and go investigate. At first I couldn't quite work out what it was and started to get paranoid (I don't know why, I just did). I started looking around my room to find the source of the strange noise. I checked my xbox, because I thought it could have been the fan, I checked my PC to see if it was turned off, I checked the window to see if it was closed properly, but everything was ok.\n\nAll of a sudden I heard this POP behind me and nearly had a heart attack. I turned around and saw that the lid of the bottle had popped off. I guess it was the gases in the cola which had expanded the bottle causing the lid to pop off. This happened about 10 minutes ago and my heart is still beating really fast.\n\nNote to everyone: If you're thinking of putting coca-cola in a bottle, don't screw on the lid!", "summary": "Put coca-cola in a bottle and screwed on the lid, gases built up and popped the lid off, nearly giving me a heart attack."}
{"id": "t3_3idvi9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by walking into the wrong room at work.", "post": "Obligatory, it didn't happen today (but around a month ago) and I am not a morning person. \n\nInterning at a company. One month in I had a meeting with my boss and his boss. We were to meet at 7 am. I usually get into work at 8:30 so 7 am was early for me (specially cause it's a 1 hour drive)\n\nI get to work at 6:50 and see my boss and he said go ahead into his boss's room (since he will be in the meeting late). I'm super tired and I walk into the room and wait. No one is in this room. 10 minutes pass, 20 minutes pass, and then 4 people walk in and I'm like finally (I have never met my boss's boss) and they all sit down and start discussing some project that makes no sense to me -- definitely not the project I was assigned. And I'm completely flabbergasted. I sat in that room for one and a half hours confused as hell.\n\nFinally the meeting ends and everyone starts asking me who I am, and I explain and then they tell me I got the wrong room. Completely embarrassed I leave and see my boss and his boss leaving the adjacent room. They ask where I was and I explain my story and they just laughed and said that I'll have a one on one meeting later this week since I missed the original meeting \n\nKept my job, looked like a dumbass, all in a good day's work. It's been over a month and everyone in our department constantly remind me of this whenever I go into conference rooms or meetings.", "summary": "I walked into the wrong meeting room and wasted 1.5 hours, while the meeting I was supposed to be in was done without me. Everyone makes fun of me still."}
{"id": "t3_1u5hvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [34/F] considering contacting the woman my husband [34/M] is cheating with. Is this a good or bad idea? Has anyone else in this situation ever contacted the OW/OM? If so how did it go?", "post": "I made a [previous post] about my situation but tonight I found out my husband's \"friend\" is also making a new start so basically they're both leaving their spouses for each other. \n\nI decided I'd like to talk to her and not only get some answers but also let her know a few things like how my husband was treated for an STD (I'm clean so I didn't give it to him). For all I know she gave it to him but in case he didn't I think she should know. I'd also like to let her know about the texts he sent me awhile back saying he loved me and wanted to reconcile (Obviously these were lies or he changed his mind) because it goes to show his shady character. She has a kid and as angry as I am, I don't want her kid to get attached to them in the event that she discovers he's truly an asshole and breaks it off with him.\n\nI won't lie though, a little part of me wants to send it as a way of telling her I know what's going on but none of the letter is angry, harassment, blame, etc. It's pretty calm and sort of non-judgemental. So /r/relationship, does this seem like a good or bad idea? \n\nDo you have any advice for me on how I should handle this situation? I'm going crazy not having any closure.", "summary": "Want to contact the OW in the politest way possible but not sure if this is a batshit thing to do."}
{"id": "t3_253ed1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think she [f/16 ] likes to torture me [17/m]. I tried no contact", "post": "Well my ex [16/f] and I [17/m] broke up last September. she had cheated on me and honestly i couldn't really deal with it. we had dated for about ten months. Well soon after we broke up i joined the wrestling team and i started to gain more self confidence. Well i had already gone no contact when a friend of mine was like \" didn't you date ____ for ten months ?\" then when i agreed she showed me a tweet that pretty much said i was a joke and our relationship meant nothing. so that really hurt so i then decided to block her just on everything. except instagram but this becomes more important later. Well im loving life she is out of my life i hear about her every now and then but not too often which is good. Sometime after we broke up she started dating this drugy guy. Well not to long ago i learned they had sex like two weeks in their relationship. so that stung a bit. I got a new girlfriend recently who absolutely love, she is honestly really sweet and she really treats me right and cherishes me. Then one day a mutual friend is like \" Hey thirsty dude check your instagram somebody wants to follow you\" when she said that my heart instantly fell to my gut.\" When i saw that name i honestly wanted to flip a desk and run over to her punch her in the face. well our friend told me that \"she feels bad and she realized that she doesn't hate me \u0ca0_\u0ca0 .\" well now that i saw i was obliged to accept to it or else tons of guilt would ensue from many mutual friends because she told them all. So i unblocked from twitter and i talked to her and i honestly fealt all the pain from all the hurtful stuff she said. so i decided i'm done with that. tried being nice in person it honestly fealt like that time when i was a kid and i knew i was going to get in huge trouble. well i have given up trying to befriend her but i stay off of twitter now because her and her bf all ways post annoying \"lel i luv mah wify <3 <3\" kind of shit.\" what do do guys please help.", "summary": "Ex knows how to get to me when i'm at my happiest"}
{"id": "t3_2uqupc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my foreigner ex [28 M] 3 mos. I'm still enamoured", "post": "So for 3 months, my head was filled love and all that relationship stuff. \n\nThe thing is, for me he was just a casual friend who I occasionally hooked up with. For him, I was the \"girlfriend\". I was almost always flattered. \n\nBut who would be? When all we did was get a taxi, book a motel and do it in less than 3 hours for 2 or more sessions! I mean that was all meaningless sex. However, he kept telling me that if he didn't love me, he wouldn't have had sex with me.\n\nBut I've been asking around. And I was right. He wasn't my boyfriend at all. I mean, he never took me out to dinner. He never held my hand. He never really introduced me to his friends. My heart was controlling my every move. Including the other parts. If you know what I mean. ;)\n\nFirst week passed, met with my ex-fubu. You know what would have happened there right. Eventually, his roommate caught my eye. I'm the type of person who says never say never. So I did it with his roomie/bff. Twice. After a month, you could say I did it again. \n\nRight on Christmas vacation. I found out he gave himself such a trashy gift. His new girl. Also he really loves the girl and did things for her which I kept telling him but he didn't do for me.\n\nI was \"stalking\" him on different social media accounts. I guess you can say I cried. Cause he never did those things for me.", "summary": "Anyway, in summary, I know he'll never take me back, but assume if he will: if you were me, what would you do to take him back?"}
{"id": "t3_3n12cq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [33F] tell my completely dependent fiancee [38F] of two years that I need her to move out?", "post": "Me [33F], her [38F]\u2026 together 2 years, engaged for the last 10 months.\n\nI have to break up with her. I'm not happy, I feel used and I feel like I'm her parent. \n\nShe doesn't work at the moment. These moments happen often, she's had at least 8 jobs in the two years we've been together. I pretty much have to ask her to clean the apartment while I'm at work. Just the other day she waited for me to get home from work so I could help her do the laundry.\n\nShe doesn't physically take care of herself. She eats like crap. She has gained 30lbs in two years. I have to ask her to shave her legs and armpits. \n\nThe last thing is that I am having an extremely hard time staying sober with her. I'm an addict; coke, weed, alcohol. I worked extremely hard to get my life together. She does not do drugs and drinks socially. All her friends are heavily into drinking and also into coke. They are always trying to buy me drinks and taking about drugs. I slipped up last week and did coke for a few days. This isn't what I want for my life!\n\nIt's not working.\nThe problem is that she is completely dependant on me. She could never afford rent on her own and this would basically force her to move back in with her parents.\nI feel like such crap. I pursued her hard. I asked her to move in with me and I asked her to marry me. I believe this will be completely blind side her.\nI know I made her sound bad in this but I really do love her, I just can't be with her.\n\nWhat should I tell her? I don't want to list all the reasons I don't want to be with her, that will just cause unnecessary hurt but I really need her to understand I want to break up. Basically I need help breaking up but without hurting her too badly.", "summary": "I financially support my fiancee and am being taken advantage of. Need to break up but don't want to hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_fo51l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Were the police justified to use excessive force on my drunk ass?", "post": "So last night I was extremely intoxicated. I left the bar and was beat up on a garbage can and give a wall a few slams with my fist. I was mad for some reason. The police were right around the corner and seen everything and then they started to try and get me on my way home. I was waiting for a friend in the bar and was extremely offended that they wanted me to go home so I began arguing with them and using some foul language. Like I said really really drunk. So I got arrested AS I SHOULD HAVE.\n\nNow I didn't resist physically when they were putting my cuffs on but I was swearing at them. I also should add that I walk with a limp and mix that in with alcohol, my balance and feet in general are no good. So when handcuffed they tried to take me to the car. They saw that I wasn't walking, which I was trying to do but under the circumstances was difficult for me. They grabbed me by my under arm and dragged halfway through to the car. I was asking them to stop and let me walk a bunch of times and they finally did on the 3rd or 4th ask. I tried to regain my balance and walk but they didn't give me 5 seconds and dragged me the rest of my way. One cop was extremely aggressive and I have a bruise on bicep that is covering the whole right bicep. The left side is OK, not sure why he couldn't carry me like the guy on the left. Anyways, I have a few small bruises on my right as well. \n\nThe other thing and most painful, was the handcuffs. As I type this I have no feeling from my wrist up the whole thumb on the left side. It feels like when your feet fall asleep. I repeatedly asked for them to loosen them up but they wouldn't. I will see how it feels tomorrow, and I'm hoping it is not any nerve damage. \n\nDo I have any chance if I file a suit against them?", "summary": "I was a drunken asshole to the cops, didn't resist when I was getting arrested, swore at the cops a lot, got a bit roughed up from them, and had EXTREMELY tight handcuffs on which are causing me a lot of pain right now."}
{"id": "t3_1htwxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] Left things unsaid with ex [22F]", "post": "My ex and I's one yearlong relationship ended a year ago. It was my first relationship. She told her dad some things (I was shitty at times but no abuse) and that was really why it ended. He said he wanted to get a restraining order on me. I held back and didn't say all I wanted to at the breakup because I knew it didn't matter because her dad would never accept me. It was clear that she didn't want to break up. I figured I had to let her go but I kept track of her on social media afterwards because I wasn't going to give up until she did. Some things showed that she wanted me to fight. A few months ago she posted \"You know the place between sleep and awake the place you still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you that's where I'll be waiting\". We always told each other we'd love one another forever. A guy she started hanging out with also posted something to her about how \"The desire is greater than the kill and be careful what you wish for not because you'll get it but because you're doomed not to want it if you do\". It was a semi relief that she was moving on but confirmed that she always wanted me to fight. They've been together for a few months now.\n\nI'm still not sure I did the right thing because we really loved each other and both thought we would get married. That's in the past though. I'm just wondering if talking to her about it would help me get closure and help me move on. I wanna tell her that I gave up cause I loved her and not because I didn't and I would have fought forever if not for her dad. I don't want to hurt her but I want her to know. Could it help me or is it a bad idea?", "summary": "I let her go and I want to tell her that it wasn't what I wanted"}
{"id": "t3_4f4ct5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] like my prom date [16 F], but can't tell if she likes me or is just going to prom with me.", "post": "First off, I haven't known this girl for that long. I asked her to prom and she said yes and we have been texting and snap chatting, but I can't tell if she likes me or is just dealing with me.\n\nShes told her friends that I'm cute and my friends hooked me up with her. Her snapchatts are usually half of her face or her w/ her friends. She also sent me a snap chat of her in the bath today (just legs). Through text she asks me a lot of questing and used plenty of emojis. She hasn't responded to my snapchat for 4 hours now, which is unusual, but I think I'm overthinking that.", "summary": "Like my prom date, can't tell if she likes me the same, has given me some signs. Am I just crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_2oios3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and close friend [20F] have hooked up a few times, developed feelings for one another but she is unsure if she wants to commit", "post": "Me and my friend go way back, around 8-9 years or so, last year I lost my virginity to her as a drunken one night stand.  We keep being friends and get past all that, I had a brief relationship and so did she. the same thing happened a few months ago too and we hooked up again. This time however we are quite open and flirty with each other over Skype/texts etc (she lives in a different city to me)\n\nLast week we admitted that we had feelings for each other.  She hooks up with a lot of guys as one night stands and that's all cool and fine but she says that she doesn't know if she could commit to a long distance relationship. Because we have been incredibly close friends for quite a long time we decided that she should visit me in January (she is off on a work expedition for a month) and see how it goes. We've booked tickets and everything and I'm super pumped but I still have a little niggle. \n\nShe's clearly open to the idea of being in a relationship with me but still has reservations whereas I am falling for her kinda hard. What should I do?", "summary": "Close friends with 20F for years, we had sex a few times and have feelings for each other, live in different cities and she is unsure if she wants to commit but I am getting stronger feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_3kkbti", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He (M41) acts like he loves me (F35) but \"doesn't know\" what he feels", "post": "I'm going to try and keep this as brief as possible but get all the needed details in. \n\n* We have known each other for a long time (many years), dated years ago for a year.\n* Broke up then because of outside things.\n* He calls, texts, cuddles, helps around the house, wants me around his family/friends, basically acts like we're in a relationship. I'm talking the kind of cuddles where there's no sex, but he nuzzles and inhales deeply while his head is in my hair. He wanted me to come to a super private family and four friends party. Serious stuff. \n* He says **\"I don't know what I feel\"** when I asked.\n* He said \"I love spending time with you\" etc, and acts like it.\n* I didn't say \"do you love me\" to pressure him to say that, I just asked him how he feels about me/us so I can know what to do. He knows that's why I was asking.\n\nIf he was saying he loved me but not acting like it, that would be a pretty cut and dry situation to me. My thought is that if he doesn't know what he feels for me after this long, it's not enough for me. I know I love him, he knows how I feel. I just can't do the 'hang out' thing without at least knowing what he feels... And if he doesn't know I doubt that's a good sign. I am, though, very glad he didn't just lie and say what I wanted to hear in order to keep the good parts going!\n\nAny thoughts/advice/anecdotes are VERY appreciated!!", "summary": "He acts like he loves but he says he doesn't know how he feels."}
{"id": "t3_z4zvt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After claiming the wind never actually blows girl's skirts up, my buddy and I watched the wind blow a girl's skirt up. When have you said something to be immediately proved wrong by the universe?", "post": "I go to FSU and my roommate and I were leaving a restaurant, we were sitting at a red light and being male we were both checking out a girl that had a flowy, white skirt on. The wind was blowing it a little so I said to my buddy, \"You know you see the wind blow girl's skirts up in movies, but that never actually happens.\" As **SOON** as I said that the wind barely lifted her skirt up and showed us her perfect ass and amazing underwear, without her even noticing her skirt had moved. Which, of course, made us freak out over our shared amazing moment. When have you been immediately been proven wrong by a completely random event?", "summary": "After saying the wind never blows girl's skirts up, the wind did just that"}
{"id": "t3_epyon", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on getting renovation plans approved by the town? Is bribery an option?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI live in a town that can be pretty strict when it comes to home renovation regulations. The second floor of our bungalo was finished when we moved in, but poorly. We wanted to add a bathroom, two dormers, and insulate it properly to make it a master suite with some closet space.\n\nOur contractor, however, is afraid that the township may want us to upgrade our floor joists from 12x6's to 12x10's. If we have to upgrade the flooring, it makes the job exponentially more expensive and time consuming -- possibly out of our price range. But without these renovations, our house just isn't big enough for us and we're liable to lose money on a sale. \n\nSo the contractor and I are drawing up some plans and we plan on submitting them to the town sometime after christmas. We're not asking about the floors because we don't want to raise any red flags -- we're just hoping to slip through and get approval. \n\nSo does anyone have any advice on who to talk to, beg, or bribe if we don't get approval? Has anyone ever had any luck lawyering their way out of this sort of thing? What are my options?", "summary": "I want to renovate my second floor without having to bolster the floors. How can I get the township to approve?"}
{"id": "t3_1hawah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19F] with my Boyfriend [19M] 1 1/2, Making out.", "post": "Well, he and I haven't made out since last year in April...It's almost sad that I can pinpoint the exact month&day as well. \n\nI don't know why, but since that day he won't make out with me, or he hasn't. \n\nI asked him about it during sex once, but he just said \"I'm shy.\"\n\nHelp..how do I get him to make out with me...I've googled everything. \n\nMy bestfriend has told me different things, and that I should just \"GO FOR IT,\" but I can't. I guess that's the shy side of me. I can't just instigate anything we do. He has to start it.", "summary": "Can't get boyfriend of 1 1/2 to make out after making out only once."}
{"id": "t3_3dzq53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (21F) be converned that my SO (26M) wants to take a break for work?", "post": "My SO and I are taking a break and it's been almost a month. He wants to take time to get acclimated to his new career and knows that he can't give me what I need out of a relationship until he becomes comfortable in his new job. We still hang out a few times a week and he still takes me out on dates. We are not having sex or kissing. He talks about how he wants to marry me within the next five years and he wants to have children with me. Is this something I should be concerned about? Does he really just need time or is he just keeping me around because he doesn't want to be alone just yet? \n\nKeep in mind I just met his family for the first time in eight months shortly after we broke up. I've been to lunch with his mom and him twice and she refers to me as family even though she knows we aren't together.", "summary": "Are we doomed or does he actually just need this break for our relationship to thrive?"}
{"id": "t3_xqtbi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you had a choice to prevent one major mistake in your life, what would it be and why?", "post": "I'll start. \n\nI had a rough time in highschool. I hung out with the wrong friends and got into a lot of trouble. I drank and did drugs, and gave zero fucks about anything. One night, me and a group of friends were drunk and took my friend's parent's car and drove around our city (even though we didn't know how to drive nor had a license). We were *way* over the speed limit and somehow we crashed into a tree. One of my (now former) friends got his collar bone broken, two got mild cuncussions, and another got a broken rib. Unfortunately for me, I was driving so I took most of the damage. The impact was so strong that it knocked me into a coma, and the only thing I remember was that my friends were all screaming my name and I could hear one of them calling for 911. When I gained consciousness in the hospital, I couldn't move my legs and I could barely move my fingers. I had to have 4 or 5 surgeries done on me (because I broke a significant amount of bones)  and had to stay for 4 months in the hospital. After they released me, I was good to go execpt that I still couldn't move my legs. This stayed on with me up until now because apparently I took a lot of damage to the brain, but I'm thankful that I still lived after all of this (I was in critical condition and I was unresponsive). So yes, this is one of the things in life that I wish I could've changed. If I haven't been so careless and na\u00efve, then I wouldn't have to be stuck in a wheelchair for the rest of my life.", "summary": "Gets in car crash and gets brain damage so stuck in wheelchair for the rest of life."}
{"id": "t3_36pigk", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Unusual tactic from a new manager. Don't know what purpose it was for. Very weird.", "post": "New manager started a week ago. She wanted to do a one on one with the entire staff. Seemed normal.\n\nI sat down with her. She asked what I used to do before my current role. Normal conversation going on.\n\nThen the weird part comes up. She brings out a notepad. Okay... time for the numbers talk...\n\n\"Whats your favorite drink?\"\n\nWhat?\n\n\"Whats your favorite color\"\n\n... blue?\n\n\"describe yourself in one word.\"\n\nConfused.\n\n\"What do you dislike most?\"\n\nThis.\n\nIt was like a game of 20 questions, only random and kind of intrusive with some parts \"when's your birthday, whats your sign, where are you originally from...\" I guess she just wanted to get to know the team's personality. I felt sorry for her. Maybe she doesn't know how to socialize well and this is it. Or she'll put it into some database. Or she used to be a psychiatrist. Or serial killer.\n\nWell, my colleagues and I had a great laugh. We kept asking each other nonsense questions throughout the day.\n\nStill felt bad for her for some reason. Like she might be autistic. Or is this some sort of management tactic? Because getting to know your employees shouldnt be done this way. I've had great managers who used to just ease into normal conversation and picked up on things about me that I didn't even remember telling them. I guess I'm spooked.", "summary": "New manager plays 20 random questions. Is she a robot in disguise? "}
{"id": "t3_s7jun", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help with Friend!", "post": "Hey reddit I recently told a friend that I needed to talk to him. This friend has been doing things that don't necessarily make me feel uncomfortable but I know they are wrong to do. My friend has a girl somewhere in California and has been leading me on. I am a homosexual guy and he is well aware. Now normally I would take this as just friendly play like it usually is, but this time it feels wrong. The truth is, is that I actually kind of like him. But knowing that if I were to do something with said friend I would never sleep for the rest of my life. I don't think I would ever forgive myself if I was the cause for two people to break apart something beautiful. Probably the most difficult part of this is that I want us to still be friends. I know by me telling him it will come off as an act of aggression. please give me things to say so I don't sound like an idiot.", "summary": "My friend is leading me on,I told him I needed to talk with him, No idea what im gonna say, he has a girlfriend, I'm gay, I like him sort of, don't want to ruin our friendship, HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_2q1c23", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "When applying for jobs, is it OK to say I was hired as a temp. worker when really I was let go before probationary period ended?", "post": "I wouldn't think to put it on my resume except the experience is extremely relevant for my field. I imagine I will end up talking to my future employer/interviewer about certain experiences that I had and knowledge that I gained from this past job. I actually loved the job and wish that it had worked out better.\n\nUnfortunately, I was essentially set up for failure - it was a sink-or-swim type training where management was largely uninvolved. Any sort of outline of job duties/ time management/ expectations were \"in the process of being organized\" and there were several different supervisory personnel who all had conflicting advice/directions on how to do the job. If I asked a question, I was criticized for not knowing already. If I did things without asking questions and tried to figure it out, I was criticized for not doing things a certain way. Finally, the other employees always cut corners and did crap work in order to finish on time. I have a hard time leaving work without my job being done so I would regularly stay later than others not only because I was actually completing my duties but also because I was completing things that others wouldn't finish.", "summary": "I was fired because I didn't work as fast as other employees and I was having a hard time learning how things work (chaos). "}
{"id": "t3_jupxv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How old were you when you met your spouse (or partner)? Are you happy you settled down at that age?", "post": "I would like to hear what you all have to say on this subject. I just turned 19 and I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. We are going to school on opposite sides of the US and he wants to make long distance work. We have no way of knowing how long in the future it will be before we can be in the same place (aside from summers and winter breaks).\n\nWe have already done long distance one year while I was away in Israel on a gap year program. I know we can make that part work, but I miss him terribly and it's extremely hard on me. I become a social recluse and think about nothing but him.\n\nI want a boyfriend who I can actually hold and have a physical relationship with. My boyfriend says he will do anything to make it work with me, even if we don't see each other for several years (aside from summers and winter break). I really love him and don't want to give him up. He is perfect in every way, except for the distance.\n\nI still want to have an adventurous social life. I want to go out and flirt and date and party and have fun while I'm in college. My boyfriend is the only guy I've seriously dated. I didn't talk to many guys during my gap year because I had a long distance boyfriend, and I don't know if I want to forfeit my adventures during college as well.\n\nI really wish I had started dating this guy about 5 years later. He is supportive beyond belief, sweet, caring, respectful, loyal, intelligent, attractive, and you name it. I really think he could be \"the one\" as cliche as it sounds, and he has told me he would marry me if he could. He's only 2 years older, but hes the type of person who knows what he wants, and I believe that if I stay with him, we might get married one day.", "summary": "If I stay with him, I won't have the experience of going on dates and having 19-year-old adventurous fun, and I will have a boyfriend who I only get to see once a year for an unknown amount of time. If I break up with him, I could potentially be giving up \"the one\"."}
{"id": "t3_2ppenp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] Scared after joining the dating world again, how long will this last?", "post": "I'm a 28 year old man who has recently joined the dating world after three years of being single, and I'm scared shitless. I grew up in a broken home where my parents were poor role models for relationship success, and I carried these negative traits into my early dating life. Each of the relationships I've had since I was 16 were toxic and codependent in one way or another, and ended up in flames. The last relationship I had was three years ago, and it ended in such a way that I swore off dating until I was ready to invest time and effort into bettering myself and finding a partner who truly complimented me.\n\nEverything was going well, my career took off like crazy, I started going back to school for my degree, began fostering deeper relationships with my friends and family, and worked on my own mental health. A few months back, I felt like I was ready to join the dating world again. I signed up for a few different dating profiles and met a girl a few weeks ago that I am incredibly drawn to. She has all of the healthy traits that I found myself longing for when dating previously - self sufficient, motivated, independent, honest, trustworthy, loving, kind, fun spirited, intelligent, ambitious, plus she's my same age and has many of the same values as I do - the list goes on. The best part is that she seems to be into me just as much as I'm into her.\n\nHere's where the problem lies - this girl intimidates the hell out of me (in a good way). The other girls I've dated have not been as independent or driven as this one is, which is new and quite honestly a bit scary. This is uncharted territory for me, as I've never tried to pursue someone who doesn't require some sort of \"fixing\". I feel like this could be my first real healthy adult relationship, but I find myself feeling irrationally scared of screwing it up or that I'm not actually ready to date, even though my heart tells me I am.\n\nSo, have any of you experienced this same issue? How do I get past it? How long does it last? Am I batshit crazy?", "summary": "Starting to date after history of bad relationships, how long until I'm over the fear of dating again?"}
{"id": "t3_u87xy", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Need some cat advice!", "post": "So my gf and I got a kitten a while back. He's 16 weeks old now and his name is Tesla. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment and I go to college and my gf works but we still spend a lot of time with him.\n\nTesla is a very energetic kitten. We got him fixed at 12 weeks old and hoped he would settle down a little, but he didn't. He was babied a bit and we spent a lot of time with us, even slept in the bed with us. Early on though, he peed on the bed. After the third time in a month, he now isn't allowed in the bedroom. He's still aggressive and attacks us and bites/claws us. We got him toys and actively play with him up to 2 hours a day.\n\nWe've tried 'time outs' by putting him in the bedroom or now the porch and closing the door for ~15 minutes due to him being aggressive and biting/scratching. The effectiveness has dwindled. Also, he tends to suckle on us after we let him out which seams strange to us.\n\nSo after a while of this, we can't eat or do *anything* without his constant attention, we decided that we would get him a companion. We'd hoped that a new cat would relieve some of his tension and get him to settle down a bit so that he wasn't attacking us or peeing on our bed anymore.\n\nUnfortunately, the cat we were able to get was a 6 week old female kitten. At first Tesla was very curious and passively playful, but by the next day he was playing very rough. By very rough, I mean that I had to pull him off the kitten in fear of her getting severely injured.\n\nSo now we're honestly just not sure what to do with Mr. Tesla. We love him, but he's very aggressive to both us and the new kitten. We've tried to keep him stimulated and play with him a lot, but despite our best efforts it just doesn't seem to be enough. And now we have a new kitten in the mix as well.", "summary": "cat of ~2 months is very aggressive even though we play with him constantly, he's peed on our bed 3 times and is no longer allowed in the bedroom. Got him a buddy but she's a 6 week old kitten and he destroys her. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2puayl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not seeing a glass door.", "post": "My family has been moving into a new house. It's a bit of a fixer uper. We spent many weeks setting up the utilities and painting the house, and we should be moved in soon.\n\nI helped move the deck into its proper location, which sits next to a glass door. I had to tell my brother to get off the toilet, and I tried to get into the house. My face hit the glass, but instead of holding me back, the door shattered, leaving a giant pile of glass all over the floor.\n\nThat incident scared everyone, but thankfully, I only have a few small cuts on me.\n\nMoral of the story: get tempered glass window panes.", "summary": "I walked through a glass door."}
{"id": "t3_2rxvkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [27 F] of 3 years, discovered she is cheating, should I tell the other guy?", "post": "After much suspicion, I discovered by GF of 3 years has been cheating on me with one of her co-workers. In the process of discovering this, I also found out she has been telling him that we have been effectively broken up for about a month an a half (at least as long as this has been going on).\n\nShe essentially lied to both of us and, were I that guy, I would probably want to know. Relationships tend to end as they began when it comes to this. I'm not sure if I should be letting him know. What do?", "summary": "GF cheating on me and lying to me and the other guy. Should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_520per", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best shot at a second chance? (Me: F/33; he: M/36)", "post": "A wonderful guy I dated for a brief period broke up with me about a month ago.  After initial attempts to stay friends, we agreed on a cool-down, no-contact period, and the plan is to try again to be friends in another month or two. \n\nIt's been a month now, and I still can't stop myself from beating myself up over everything I did wrong in this (brief) relationship.  I had not dated in a while, was completely out of practice, and really did everything wrong.  The next time I start dating anyone, I'll take a pretty different approach.  Sadly, much as I try to distract myself, I just can't wait to talk to this guy again.  (And I know I have to wait another month or two.) \n\nHopefully, the cool-off period will serve its purpose and I'll be less focused on the guy in a month or two. But when the time comes, how do I approach this reasonably and fairly?  I want nothing more than a second shot; I have rarely thought as highly of a guy as with this guy.  Of course there is probably nothing more destructive than actually saying that right out of the gate - it would put unwanted pressure on the guy and he would just want to run away.  So do I aim for just hanging out as friends?  Is there anything I can do without totally chasing him away to show him that I have given this a lot of thought and I think I would approach things very differently if he were willing to give me another chance?\n\nStrategic advice much appreciated!", "summary": "How to approach rekindling friendship when really you want a second attempt at a romantic relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_13xmld", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I applied for a job that I thought I was a shoe-in for and got denied the day after it was closed to applications without even an interview. Reddit, what have you been so sure of that ended up not happening?", "post": "Basically, there was a job at a local hospital that my current employer has spent about 10k in training for me to do. It is a very specialized IT job that, along with the training, I have accumulated a certain set of certifications that nobody in this area has. The position's responsibilities specifically revolved around the certifications that I have and while I didnt think I would get the job, I thought that I would at least have an interview. A chance to either prove myself right for the job, or prove that I couldnt handle the job. Instead, I checked their employment system today and found out that I'm not being considered for the position. No reason why. No details whatsoever. Its the largest company in our area and amidst the recession, has basically doubled in size. I want to work there.", "summary": "I built myself up for this job and, ultimately, let myself down."}
{"id": "t3_1nmrdj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] Do guys think I am out of their league?", "post": "I saw a post earlier that said that he was afraid/not interested in a girl because she seemed like she was \"out of his league\". People constantly tell me that I'm attractive, but I don't really believe them. (I don't think I'm ugly, but I don't find myself jaw dropping either.) I try to look nice and, lately, I've been trying to walk with more confidence because \"confidence is key\". And then, only people who I'm not interested in talk to me and they always say, \"How have you never had a boyfriend?\" I literally don't know what I'm doing wrong. How do I get guys that I'm interested in to talk to me and possibly want to date me? \n\nAnd yes, I tried asking the guy I like out with some friends, but I just got nervous and started talking fast and basically embarrassed myself. He said no because he had to do homework and now it's just awkward between us.", "summary": "How do I get guys that I'm interested in to talk to me?"}
{"id": "t3_2ctwsz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Unhappy at work, possibly quitting, will need to negotiate a raise and some changes. How do I approach this with my boss?", "post": "Things at work have gotten insane and I just don't like they way many things have been handled. This is a corporate IT job at a Fortune 250 company. My senior developer quit a few weeks ago and I was offered the position, but things have been so insane lately we haven't had time to discuss details. *I'm now solely responsible for a massive, mission-critical application* and that has brought on a lot of anxiety. They need me, and I really don't want to abandon them.\n\nWe'll be discussing things either tomorrow or next week. I'm not sure what to do here. I'm very unhappy and am pretty sure all the extra responsibility will not help. If they were to offer me a shit ton of money/extras, I'd *consider* waiting it out on the condition that several things change.", "summary": "How do I best communicate with my boss that I'm unhappy, on the verge of quitting, but am willing to stay if they offer me a shit ton of money and some things change?"}
{"id": "t3_1h3akm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [21M/M] am confused with a friend of mine [21/F] whom I like very much.", "post": "I have been friends with this girl since beginning of college, and we are both about to start our senior year. I recently began liking her a lot, and only just recently decided to muster up the courage to begin flirting with her. \n\nWe have opened up to each other quite a bit the last few months, and after my 21st birthday last may, we were holding hands after the bars closed. She was very receptive to my gestures (arm around her shoulder, holding her hand, taking my jacket while I walked her home) We had a great night, and were talking about anything and everything. That's when I chose the opportunity to ask her out. We were both quite drunk and she was a bit overwhelmed (she has never been with anyone before), so she didn't give a certain answer. \n\nUnfortunately, I had to leave the country a few days after that night for family vacation. I had no cell phone service, so we didn't talk much. Now that I'm back (I've been back for about 2 weeks now), she seems to not be as involved anymore. She rarely responds to my texts, and our (short) conversations end on her terms. It's quite discouraging. Any help?", "summary": "I like her, assumed she liked me back, few weeks pass and  now I'm not so sure."}
{"id": "t3_4xigq7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my \"Dating friend\" [20 F] 3 months in and still not Together, Together...", "post": "I have been dating a girl for 3 months but she has had only one relationship before me and it was a best friend turned lover turned awful and broken ended, so she is very hesitant to jump into anything serious. She told me that she is interested in me from the first date, but we haven't kissed or anything further than holding hands (I know), and I have tried not to push the subject, but she is still says she is up in the air about the thought of us being boyfriend/girlfriend. My buddy, (26 M) seems to think she is trying to find a reason to not be with me, but I can't ask her that can I? I don't think she is.", "summary": "Girl I have been dating for 3 months won't agree to being my GF yet... what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_10sdkh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Runners of Reddit, Does anybody know what could be happening to my running? Any advice would be appreciated!!", "post": "So. My sophomore year of high school I joined the cross country team, and I was good. Really good. But towards the end of my season, I got a nasty case of mono. Skip ahead a couple months, I'm finally running again but I'm feeling like shit and it shows. I have a terrible season once again, which was partly because I was anemic, but at this point I'm getting frustrated. Now it's summer 2012 and I train really hard, running almost 600 miles total. But the thing is, I am STILL at the same level or below where I was when I first started.\nWhen I run, my legs oftentimes feel very heavy and my breathing is labored. My coach is convinced that I just tend to freak out mentally, causing me to freak out physically...which may be true. In that case, I would appreciate some advice on being able to control myself while I run. \nRunning is everything to me. I suffer from depression and I honestly feel like it's the only thing that keeps me sane. But I am just so unbelievable frustrated that any advice at all would help, as I also miss feeling good while I run.", "summary": "Was a really good runner, got mono, still running shitty 2 years later."}
{"id": "t3_1bt1qg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Engineers of Reddit: is your life with a degree as you expected?", "post": "I'm currently wrapping up my first year, here's my background:\n\nI took 5 years off after high school to become a journeyman pipefitter. Made very good money in the oil sands. But the work was never rewarding for me. Working alongside some of the dumbest people I've ever met led me to feel like I could do so much more with my career. \n\nI was always a top student in high school, but a bit of alcohol among other things caused me to technically fail grade 12. As my father only has a grade 9 education, my family wasn't too heartbroken. So I headed for the oil patch without a second thought. \n\nFall of 2011 was when I bit the bullet and paid an arm and a leg to upgrade my grade 12 courses. I would work 13 hours a day, and then sit in my room in camp doing Physics, Math and Calculus. I walked away with good marks and am now wrapping up my first year with a decent GPA. Pending finals. \n\nAs the first person on either side of my family to pursue a degree in anything, I am wondering if your life is as you hoped it would be, and if not, why?", "summary": "are you happy with your life as an engineer? Why or why not?"}
{"id": "t3_3hmwed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my [16F] friend. Made out with her, but don't know if I want to take it to next level", "post": "I'm really good friends with this girl. We've sat next to each other in lessons for the past 2 years. A month ago at a party we made out, and we enjoyed it. I thought it didn't mean much, but she's been asking my friends what it meant to me. \n\nWe agreed to meet up again and at first I thought I wasn't really interested. But then we got close and we kissed again. And it felt good. But after the date, I suddenly feel like I'm not really that into her and I don't want to be her boyfriend. I feel like a dick. But my mind keeps on changing as to whether I like her in that way or not. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Friend and I made out a couple of times. Don't know what to do next"}
{"id": "t3_2zyu4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21 F] BF[20M] seems to always be in a financial bind and asks me for money.", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and when we first started dating he had a job. He could pay for himself, he visited often (we lived an hour apart), and we would take turns paying for dinner dates. I have always been very independent when it comes to finances and I paid for most of the things I needed: food, clothes, gas, etc. He really only paid for maybe one dinner a month. \n\nFast forward a few months, he quits his jobs. Falls on hard times and goes between jobs a few times. During this time, I helped him out. I gave him gas money, food money, bought him things like new jeans or shoes (which he actually did need).\n\nHe has now gotten a new job, promised to not quit it unless he has another job lined up, but the money issues are still coming. He hasn't visited me in over a year and I drive to visit very often, one hour each way. I'm in bad credit card debt (my own fault) but I'm trying to get out of it but constantly giving my money to him is getting frustrating and hard financially. \n\nWhen we go out to dinner, I stay as cheap as possible: water to drink, meal under $10 and he always gets $4 speciality drinks that don't have free refills and orders appetizers and a $6 dessert. I'm a college kid so $40 dinner for two is not easy on the wallet. \n\nHow do I tell him gently that I can't afford this anymore? He comes from a poor background so money is a sensitive topic for him so I don't know how to bring it up. Should this be a deal breaker? I feel like even mentioning it will be so offensive to him he will want to break up.", "summary": "My bf depends on me too much financially and I'm running out of money and patience."}
{"id": "t3_3vktmy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting ready for a date", "post": "This just happened you guys. Ouch.\n\nSo I've got a date later tonight involving hot tubs and Netflix, so I figured I would trim the hedges a bit. I'm not talking about in a shorn sheep kind of way, Reddit, I just don't want my undercarriage to look like it's homeless on the initial meet and greet with the Cave of Wonders, you know?\n\nAnyway, I'm standing over my toilet with a little pair of snips just snipping away and, well, top down view has it's advantages, but following the curvature of my coin purse is not one of them. You might see where this is going when I could not.\n\nYes, in my zeal to spruce my goose, I ended up nicking my knuckle instead. It hurt bad, Reddit. It hurt real bad. 0/10 do not recommend.", "summary": "Tried to man-scape, caused a man-scrape."}
{"id": "t3_3debt5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] going on a second date with a woman [28F] in an open relationship", "post": "I went on a date with this insanely beautiful, intelligent, funny, overall amazing woman a few weeks ago. It went really well, and I liked her a lot. She told me from the start that she was married and in an open relationship, and I wasn't phased by that really. I think that I didn't care because I hadn't fully thought through what it would mean to \"date\" someone in an open relationship. \n\nSo now that I'm about to go on a second date with her, I'm freaking out a little about how I'm expected to act. Do I treat her like any other girl I'd date and say cute things and let myself have feelings for her? Or do I try to avoid that and treat it as a sexual relationship only? On the first date, we ended up making out a lot, and I wasn't sure whether I was supposed to invite her back to my place or whether it was too soon, so I said goodnight. I guess this time I invite her back? And then it's just sexual from here out? I've had meaningless sex with guys and that's easy enough, but I'm worried I might not be able to separate feelings with a girl, because they make my heart go pitter patter. Any insight?", "summary": "Not sure what I'm getting myself into dating a woman in an open relationship. Is it just about sex? Do I assume all interactions are more or less booty calls?"}
{"id": "t3_39v7g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to tell my current S/O (m30) that I (f27) want to meet up with my ex?", "post": "I (f28) love my boyfriend (m30) of 18 months and we plan to get married. I know i want to spend the rest of my life with him. There is no doubt in my mind. But because of where I work, there is a chance I may run into my ex (m29) that I once had very strong feelongs for. I actually want to talk to him to clear some air that was left foggy when we ended things 2 yrs ago. I think talking to him and getting something off my chest would officially allow me to move forward in my current relationship. But I don't know how to bring it up to my boyfriend. Part of me thinks he will understand if I tell him and he will appreciate me being honest with him because that is how he is. But I'm also worried he'd be upset and that's the last thing I want.", "summary": "what is the best way to approach this situation? Do I confront my ex or am I setting myself up for a mess?"}
{"id": "t3_3w8vb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out my(18M) GF (17F) of 2 years sent nudes to her FRIEND and never told me during our relationship", "post": "Just to be clear, this happened BEFORE our relationship. So basically she told me that she dated her friend a bit before our relation, but never told me she sent him nudes and she still had phone number saved. When I asked her to delete it, she hesitated to delete her number when I told her too but she eventually did after I forced her too. She said she dated her friend but they were platonic (not physical) until today after 2 years I just found out from her friend that she sent him nudes (so probably were physical too) and he even showed me the nudes. What makes me mad is the fact she never thought to mention this during our relationship.", "summary": "Gf of 2 years was dating this friend of her before relation who she sent nudes too but never told me. Just found out today by myself, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3cnp7l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by stabbing myself at work", "post": "so I work in a deli where we prepare a lot of ham and meats, deli stuff. anyway my boss is super safety cautious and constantly tells us to wear the safety gloves which are essentially chain mail gloves to stop you from cutting yourself when cutting stuff and no one likes to wear them because they are uncomfortable and hard to get on And off so when the boss isn't around We don't use them, so I'm cutting away at a stick of salami with no gloves on and I somehow slip and stab myself right in the palm of my hand (not super hard but enough to cause a fair bit of blood) but I couldn't tell my boss I wasn't wearing the gloves so I ran to the first aid kit and frantically looked for something to stick on it right as my boss walks back in and asks what happened and for some reason I replied with \"I fell over and landed on a knife. I now have to attend a weekly safety meeting and she thinks I'm retarded.", "summary": "I didn't listen to my boss and stabbed myself and now she thinks I'm retarded"}
{"id": "t3_r3ggd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your best/worst nosy neighbor story?", "post": "Asking because my aunt got divorced a while ago but before that she was still living with her ex-husband for the sake of my little cousin. Thing is, everytime her ex went to work or something she would \"get together with seemingly rich random guys and sometimes even a woman\"(as her neighbors put it). They started talking shit about her, insulting her and even insulting us at times because we let her get away with it. Thing is, those people were lawyers... She just wanted to make sure to get a good one so she wouldn't lose everything. When the neighbors saw her ex move out, well, it was the icing on the cake! They wouldn't stop talking for months on end. My aunt never tried explaining anything(why bother?) and later moved away.", "summary": "Aunt has nosy neighbors. They suck."}
{"id": "t3_ylad8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just found out that my gf is behind on her mortgage via an eviction notice, while she was in hospital recovering from a c-section.", "post": "I am in the UK. \n\nSo I just found this out and don't know what to do.\n\nI cant get hold of the lawyers that are handling the case. I have called the number many times just being put though to a voice mail from the reception. I have 4 direct numbers that have been going direct to voice mail. Messages have been left but no reply.\n\nI gave up trying to speak to them and find out what can be done so I called the national debt line who we able to offer some advice.\n\nCurrently filled out some form (and I paid the arrears in full) to try and stop the eviction. Taking it to court tomorrow.\n\nBecause my GF did not tell me about this for what ever reason time is almost up. there is two weeks to go before the eviction date. The debt line people indicated that we need a court hearing in person and if that is not done before the eviction it will go ahead and will pretty much be on the streets.\n\nI don't know why the fuck she done this because I have the money, not rich or anything but could have easily afforded this long ago. To top it off she is pretty much not doing anything about it (as before or this would not have happened) and its pissing me off. Its 100% in her name so there is very little I can do as banks etc wont speak to me.\n\nDo we need to start packing and looking for somewhere to stay, or can this be resolved (as the arrears have been paid)?\n\nHas anyone been given one of these eviction notices and kept their house, or tried to pay and lost it anyway.\n\nThere is only about 60% of the value of the property outstanding and the arrears was just over 1k. The eviction was generated at the courts on the 10th Aug", "summary": "getting evicted from purchased house in two weeks. How can I stop this happening."}
{"id": "t3_17emu5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [27] got mad at me [29] because I haven't commented on how she's gained weight?", "post": "So this is a new one for me!  My girlfriend and I have been together 3 years.  In the last year, she has gained a lot of weight, probably 30 pounds.  I've definitely noticed both the weight, and the fact that she feels negatively about her body now - she won't wear tighter clothes any longer, and she makes comments sometimes about how she feels unattractive.  For my part, I haven't commented on her weight, but I've tried to sympathized, and involve her in exercise and things that I do.  She's usually pretty eager to participate, and she has started trying to lose weight!\n\nAnyway, last night she got angry with me that I've never commented on how she's gained weight.  She even asked if I'd noticed!  I mean, I haven't done so in so many words \"hey babe, looks like you gained some weight, thought about losing it?\" but I have definitely tried to eat healthier with her and exercise more.  To be honest, I thought I was totally nailing the supportive boyfriend role, but I guess not?  \n\nCould someone help me interpret what could be doing on here??", "summary": "gf is annoyed I haven't commented on her weight gain, however I have been supportive in other ways - what's going on?"}
{"id": "t3_rhwgj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 26, laid-off, and forced to live with my parents. I'm going back to school for the first time since 2003, is it the right choice?", "post": "I was recently laid off from a job in the commercial electric field, due to the lack of work/jobs I was forced to move back in with the old folks. After all this happened I realized one reason I'm in this position is because I've been working shit jobs for the past eight years. I decided to go back to school and further my education. I'm going to a community college for an Associates Degree in Applied Sciences in Electronics Technology, possibly leading to a university for a Bachelors degree. I've been reading a lot about the student loan debt crisis and haven't got much support from friends. Am I making the right decision here? I feel like I am but I don't want to screw my self. Any input Reddit?", "summary": "Wondering if I should go back to school or not."}
{"id": "t3_ef89w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My judgment and decision making abilities seem to be seriously on the decline.  I'm in my early thirties.  Should I be worried?", "post": "While others around me call me a genius, I feel like an idiot all the time because I am constantly making mistakes in huge areas that affect my life.  Example: I'm currently jobless, after having quit a very high paying job to move to a new state, and have now spent thru most of the available cash on hand - a known risk, but made bigger by lots of unaccounted-for unexpected expenses and poor timing.\n\n  Despite the urgency the situation and the need for great caution, I continue to make lots of huge money mistakes despite knowing at some level ahead of time that they are probably mistakes. \n\n This kind of anti-pattern is prevalent in every area of my life, from wardrobe choices, to daily activity planning, to even driving choices such as what street to turn on.  \n\nIt's as if my brain knows the right thing to do, but then deliberately chooses the wrong thing anyway.  Surprisingly, its worse the harder I try to be more cautious. \n\nI think  its indicative of widespread problems with executive function, specifically judgment and decision making, but I don't know what I can do about it. It has been getting worse and worse recently  and I am finding that I am no longer able to justify decisions after the fact in ways that make them at least seem remotely well thought out.  I am at the point where I feel I should not be in control of the bank account anymore, if that's any indication.\n\nShould I be worried?  Is this most likely a long term  health issue or a short term response to stress situations that I can expect to improve as I settle into my new environs?  Has anyone else experienced anything like this?  What did you do?", "summary": "I've been making a lot more dumb ass decisions lately and am worried I might train wreck my life.  Help appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2c8b0g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I self sabotage in my relationships. Need to stop. [20's F]", "post": "Going out, whether with friends in a group, at work, or on a date, I have the tendency to self-sabotage. I will be too serious, push people away, and avoid connection. I have a fear of intimacy, which goes into things even as small as avoiding eye contact. It sounds weird but I feel like if I establish connections people will fall too hard for me or it will be awkward and I'm scared of that. Ontop of this, I am terrible at understanding people and generally don't have a lot to say/ask people. At the same time, I wind up pushing people away and low and behold, no matter what the situation, I'm the weird girl that everyone dislikes. I do have social anxiety and am pretty quiet. Especially on dates I will take everything too seriously, and I get very uncomfortable having it just be the two of us. I have a naturally quiet voice and so when the guy can't hear me, I get self conscious and squirmy and almost start to cry; like if a guy says \"what?\" I will get offended and be like \"never mind.\" But yeah, I literally want to cry on dates because I feel like such a loser and a bore, and too serious. I'm probably gonna die alone, it just sucks that I can't beat this. Can someone help me figure out how to stop this pattern and be less awkward/self-sabotaging/serious/fearful?", "summary": "I have a fear of intimacy and inadvertantly cause people to hate me because I am so scared about making a connection in any sense. I also take myself too seriously and my quietness makes me want to cry on dates and stuff. How do I stop this sabotage?"}
{"id": "t3_26rlue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] have a huge crush on my friend [24 F], she has a boyfriend though. It's starting to become painful to be her friend and I don't know what do do.", "post": "So I'm friends with this girl. I've only met her recently and I have a crush on her. She's so much fun and she's really funny. We have really similar senses of humor and always talk super fast when we're together. She's just as weird as I am. I usually can figure out what she's going to say and vice versa. When it's just her I feel like we could talk for hours and hours.\n\nShe has a BF though, which is fine. I can respect that. She's been with the guy for several years. But the problem is I thought I could be friends with her, but the truth is, it hurts when I'm around her. And she's always weird with me whenever her boyfriend is around. It's like suddenly we're not cool anymore. It's starting to not feel good to be around her cause it's painful.\n\nThe other problem is she's good friends with a bunch of people from my friend group. And we hang out as a group often.  I want to preserve the sanctity of the group so it's not like I wanna stop talking to her completely (otherwise I would). But I also don't want to talk to her too much because it just makes me depressed. What should I do, Reddit?", "summary": "What should I do about dealing with a girl who's already in relationship and for whom I have feelings for but whose lost friendship might rock the rest of the friendship... ship?"}
{"id": "t3_2q1ak9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being Rick James", "post": "This actually happened today. Me, the misses and the crew came to Vegas for birthday celebrations - anytime I'm in Vegas and drunk I assume the Rick James persona, from the four thumbs down, the show me your titties, the drugs, the works. Now this is always hilarious, but usually only works when single and not with your sober girlfriend whose first time it is to Vegas. \n\nThe night proceeds as usual with merrymaking and drunken banter. After a few too many Long Islands and vodka shots, Rick James activates... Except instead of scamming on other chicks, I apparently called my (sweetest and most genuine person that I know) girlfriend a gold digger because she wanted to let a random girl whose feet were hurting sit at the table... Multiple times, loudly, in front of my friends. \n\nI'm a patient person and, if I may relay the message I hear frequently, a great boyfriend. In the years we've been together, I've never raised my voice, and I like to think I'm not a douchebag. I have no idea where this came from.\n\nTo make things worse, she took care of me after, took me home, made sure I was fine, slept with me. We woke up in the morning and she was pretty mad understandably, then breaks down crying. Another great thing about this story is that her family isn't all that well off and mine is, so it hit her deep. I always pay for things and don't let her pay for this reason. Between sobs she bursts out that she's been putting money in my wallet for months to pay me back for things I got for her. Now she won't let me buy things for her at all and really believes that I've thought she was a gold digger all along because I said it while drunk, and people always tell the truth when drunk. So this will interesting. Also out of town for the week, so can't even comfort her; instead, the idea will be simmering", "summary": "became Rick James, called the wrong girl a gold digger"}
{"id": "t3_l4sl9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "(Be kind; first post) I know Reddit would be the team for the job.", "post": "Let me give you some background: We met in highschool and had interests in eachother that never went very far due to bad timing, but always stayed friends. He joined the army and was stationed across the country from me then was deployed to Afghanistan. When he came back we decided to give a relationship a try since I was moving to the east coast anyway. Fell in love and by the time I arrived here he was deployed to Korea. He's my best friend and an amazing man. Our one year anniversary, his birthday, and Christmas are all coming up and I have never been a good gift giver. I have a few ideas but they aren't good enough; especially because I have to send them. I know ideas from Reddit would do well. Please help me make him as happy as he makes me. He tends on the side of sentimental so don't throw those ideas out.", "summary": "Boyfriend is deployed to Korea and I need ideas to make his birthday/Christmas abroad stellar."}
{"id": "t3_3rnw0l", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Text] Today is the day to help someone in need.", "post": "My faith in humanity has been continuously lost and restored, but this instance of it being lost really upsets me. I am so done.\nJust earlier today, I was on the phone with my best friend while she was driving around doing errands. Suddenly, she yells and the phone cuts out. Panic sets in. \nShe calls back ten minutes later. Come to find out that she is perfectly fine, but just witnessed a vehicle behind her flip. My worry for her dissipates, but is replaced with concern for the unknown people in this vehicle, which turned out to be a mother and her two young children. \nOf course, my friend does what any good human would do, parks her car, calls 911, and runs to help, as does about twenty other people. Seems miracles do happen, as they were able to get the occupants of the vehicle out, completely unscathed. \nBut what truly irks me are the assholes that yelled at them to \"move your shit out of the way, I've got places to be!\". \n...really? Fucking really? \nYou see a vehicle flipped and a crowd of people struggling to help them and all you can think about is how badly you need your morning coffee and that these people are in your way of getting that. \nIt always kills me how bothered some people are when pushed to help another. \"No, I'm too busy.\" \"I have places to be.\" \"How does this benefit me?\" It won't kill you to find what humanity you have left in you and reach out a hand to those that desperately need it. \nIt is not that difficult to to help another human being, to actually give a fuck about someone other than yourself.\nIf you see a woman and two young children crying in an overturned vehicle, you get out and help them, damn it. Don't be that self-absorbed asshole that just drives past.", "summary": "if you see someone in need of help, take two seconds to go and help them. It won't kill you."}
{"id": "t3_4wwvjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] is lying to me and texting her ex under a different name.", "post": "The story goes that shes been texting someone frequently. When I asked who it was, she told me it was her friend Ashley (name changed for privacy). Immediately red flags go off because her friend Ashley is currently on the other side of the world and it wouldnt make sense that she'd be texting at really late hours in the morning (12 hour time difference). When I looked up the contact info of 'Ashley' and ran the number through Facebook, it was her ex. They arent chatting in a flirtatious way but it bothered me that she didnt tell me the truth\n\nShe doesn't know I know. I'm trying to decide how I should go about this but I am unsure.", "summary": "Girlfriend is texting her ex who is saved under her best friends name."}
{"id": "t3_y81cj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need help. My boyfriend would rather play World Of Warcraft than spend time with me.", "post": "I don't know who else to ask, so Reddit, I need your help. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We are both going to school and we live together. We both work full time during the summer, but we usually get the same type of hours so we have plenty of time to see each other after work. My problem is that any free time he has, he would rather spend it playing WoW than spend it with me. \n\nNow, I'm not saying he should never play WoW, that's what he likes to do. My problem it that it's ALL he ever wants to do. He works from 6-3 Monday to Friday. And he plays from about 3:30 (whenever he gets home) to about 11:30pm. And on the weekends he plays all day. He never wants to go anywhere or do anything but play WoW.  I just want some time with him but I'm not sure how. I've tried to talk to him but he just shrugs it off. Even a few hours a week would be fine. We barely have sex anymore either because at 11:30 when he's done playing, he's too tired to do anything else. \n\nSo reddit, how do I get my boyfriend to spend a bit less time with his laptop and spend a bit more time with me?", "summary": "my boyfriend + WoW = lonely me."}
{"id": "t3_1tyc0s", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Stuck in academic limbo.", "post": "I'm a sophomore pre-nursing major. I have 95% of my prerequisites, and what I don't have, I'm taking this semester. However, to register for those, I have to get a permission number for my adviser. Grades came out while offices were all closed, so I still don't have my numbers. However, offices open back up on the 2nd, which is also the date that the financial aid department reevaluates our hours to make adjustments for our awards. I am currently registered for 9 hours, but waiting on 6 more hours. I need 12 hours to be full-time, and it will be at least the 2nd (probably the 3rd) before I can get my permission numbers. What can I do to get my full award?", "summary": "Need to be full time or will lose award, can't be full time until after award is lost."}
{"id": "t3_1kbf2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] need help deciding what to do next with this girl. [21/F]", "post": "Yes, yes, blah blah age differences. Here's the thing, about a year ago, I met this girl. She's fucking amazing. That's the best way to sum her up. I shortly fell in love with her and after a few months told her how I felt. She said she was flattered but that she just wanted to be friends. I kind of had a few months of sadness after that, after which I got over it and started flirting with her and stuff for shits and giggles, because I knew she didn't mind and I had fun with it.\n\nBut then, one night, she tells me that maybe if she wanted a relationship (she had been broken up with a few months prior to meeting and therefore didn't want a relationship, apparently) she might be more interested in me. Then she goes on to tell me (we're speaking over the internet) how much she wants to give me a blowjob and the aftermath of her panties after thinking of this. I freak out for a day or two, but then things shortly go back to normal and we're \"just friends\" again.\n\nThen, less than a month later, I'm back to flirting with her. The question of \"how do you know you like my boobs if you've never seen them?\" came up. She then sent me a picture of them. With a bra on, but still.\n\nWhat the fuck am I supposed to take away from this? Our mutual friend says I need to sit her down and have a talk with her about it.", "summary": "Girl might want my dick, might not. Is sending very mixed signals."}
{"id": "t3_1ucesj", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "First-time owner looking to adopt. Recommendations?", "post": "My partner and I live in Missouri and are planning to buy a house within the next couple of months. We'll be getting a place out in the country with at least a couple of acres. \n\nThe area is down near St. James, and rural areas here can get sketchy-- this area of the state is a pretty big meth capital for the country. So, we'd like to adopt a dog, both for companionship and for protection.\n\nI have never had a dog before, but have had other pets (a guinea pig, and a couple rabbits). Could anyone give me advice on what breed to look for, or what to look for in general? I want a dog that will bark at strangers (but doesn't necessarily follow through with the threat), and that will be a little intimidating, but won't be standoffish with me or my partner. I also want to make sure that, as a newbie, I can properly train it and give it the care it deserves.\n\nI've done a bit of research, and was suggested either a hound or a pomeranian for what I'm looking for. I'm worried about having a dog as small as a pom, though-- a toy dog with a big personality could be prone to injury. Most dogs up for adoption will most likely be mixed breeds anyway, so I'm not entirely sure what to look out for. Ideally, I'd like one with little to no shedding that would be suited for spending time outdoors. Gender doesn't matter, nor does the amount of exercise it needs. We're both active.", "summary": "first-time owner, looking for an easy-to-train guard/outside dog."}
{"id": "t3_16qgfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] think my father [49M] is a pedophile/sadist.", "post": "I've learned a few things about my father recently, and now i'm starting to think he is a pedophile.\n\nWhen my half brothers (Not related to my dad) were younger, he used to pinch their nipples until they whistled, and then he'd stop, my mum would say something or tell him to stop and he'd beat her, one time he smashed her foot in with a hammer and pissed himself laughing\n\nAlso found out that he did that, and some other things, of which were not disclosed to me, to his nieces and nephews when they were young.\n\nAlso, i remember when i was younger, he used to read / watch porn around me, i was pretty young, but obviously old enough to remember it. (4 or 5) He never did it when my mum was home, and i don't think she knew.\n\nCurrently living with SO and my mum, whenever he comes over to visit (Rarely due to my mother not liking him coming over) he'll sit down the whole time, until my daughter needs a nappy change, then he'll follow me to the nursery and watch.\n\nWhat the hell should i do?", "summary": "Father has done a lot of things that make me think he is a pedophile / sadist, the hell should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ep66x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with [ 24M] two good dates but I always have to Start every convo... Am I bugging him?", "post": "Met a nice guy online and we went out. \n\nFirst date was great, we stayed for 4 hours and hit it off really well. \n\nHe texted me after saying he had a great time. I texted him later that week asking if he wanted to hang out again and he quickly responded yes. \n\nWent out a second time and it was rockier. He was pretty moody but had just come off an extremely long work shift and texted me afrr apologizing. In all honesty if that's him \"moody\" it's still nicer than 90% of guys I know and I still had fun. \n\nHe has not kissed me EITHER time. I've made it fairly obvious that I'm into him by asking him to hang out etc and nada. \n\nHe's extremely extroverted but seems pretty shy when it comes to other things so I'm not sure if he's just projecting being confident and is actually shy or not. \n\nAlso when he does respond he sends paragraph long texts and asks me questions but eventually stops responding.\n\nI actually really like this guy but I'm worries I'm bugging him. Any tips? \n\nI ALWAYS  have to start the convo. I know he is extremely busy (moving somewhere new and new job) but I mean it takes 30 seconds to text or call someone... \n\nDo you think I'm bugging him? Or should I ask him to hang again? \n\nI don't want to play games and wait for him to text me as a test as that feels wrong but that's what all my friends say to do... It just feels sneaky and weird to me. \n\nAlso even when I've asked him to text me the next day when we've been making plans he just texts me back in that convo. Never iniates anything.\n\nI paid for our last date even though he offered and I said we could split because the server looked horrified at the idea of splitting the bill and he only had a card on him. Said he would take me\nOut again to make up for it. Not sure if he said that to just be nice or not?", "summary": "Guy never texts me first. Always responds when I text him within the day. I know he is very busy but I'm worried I'm bothering him? Or he's really shy when it comes to girls but is also very outgoing?"}
{"id": "t3_2qiky4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[35M] am looking to propose to my GF[30F] for 2 years. But we are in different states currently and I don't have much money.", "post": "We have been dating for over two years. And I am positive I want to marry her. Her family is giving her pressure about marriage and I want to make it clear that I will marry her. Her family is of a different culture and I have never meet her dad (lives in home country). Her uncle likes me a lot and approved of us. \n\n9 months ago I moved to another state for a job opportunity, it looks like I will get promoted to a long term position very soon. She was hesitant to move here. Today I learned that she would have moved if I proposed 9 months ago. I found out form a common friend.\n\nThe current situation is that I have limited money. Basically few hundred dollars in savings. I can not afford a ring right now, but I hope to save enough by March to buy a simple ring. **Please share any websites you know that sell affordable rings**. My job should be settled by March of next year. At which time I will ask her to move here and propose to her. \n\nMy question to you all is: 1) how can I comfort her and her family. She had a long talk with her dad today and was very sad. Most likely because of our relationship. 2) is proposing over the phone as bad as I think it is 3) should I go online ring shopping with her or keep it the ring a surprise.", "summary": "GF is feeling pressure to get married by her family. I want to comfort her. I love her and plan to marry her."}
{"id": "t3_rnglc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the craziest thing you've done after taking Ambien, Lunesta, or some other kind of sleeping pill?", "post": "One time, after taking an Ambien, I was getting ready for bed, pretty sure that it wouldnt take long and the medicine wouldn't kick in until I was well into bed. However, it started kicking in while I was brushing my teeth. I went back into my bedroom and I was thirsty so I tried to take a sip of water from the glass on my bedside table, but I dropped the glass on the floor and it shattered. In my ambien-induced state, I tried to pick up a piece of glass so that I could move it out of the way before plugging my phone into its charger. Unfortunatley, a large piece of glass got stuck in my index finger. It didnt seem to hurt so I just stared at it as it gushed blood. I then tried to find a bandaid but since there weren't any, I improvised. I woke up in the morning with a pantyliner taped around my finger with no recollection of the night before.", "summary": "Took Ambien and woke up with a pantyliner stuck on my finger"}
{"id": "t3_4xwch4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16M] girlfriend [16F] gets a little to touchy in the middle of class. How do I get her to stop", "post": "I thought I would just ask for some advice while I am waiting. I tore something in my leg and now I have to go to physio therapy. I am going to be late for school and probably miss first and second period. \n\nMy girlfriend is in all of my classes besides one. She gets too touchy in the middle of glass. For example yesterday we were going over some notes in legal studies for an outcome (test). She slid her hand up my top and started to feel my abs. Like year 10 is not so important for outcomes, but once you reach VCE they become super important \n\nShe randomly feels my pec in the middle of class, a range of other things. In almost every class. I have told her to stop and then she just does it again \n\nI understand she likes touching them. but like in the middle of class when everyone around is not really the time. I am not trying to come off as an ass hole but like it's annoying when I am trying to listen and someone is touching me. \n\nShe will grab my hair and try to tie a dreadlocks or something, so we can have one matching blonde dreadlocks\n\nhow do I get her to stop?", "summary": "Girlfriend is to touchy in the middle of class"}
{"id": "t3_19r0zh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20f] doesn't like my hobbies [20m]", "post": "We've been together over two years, in our second year of university after getting together the middle of senior year of high school.  She goes to a different university from me and so we see each other every weekend, taking turns staying at each other's place. I've gotten into quite a few different hobbies, and she doesn't like what I do.\n\nI got into photography and would tell her about cool lenses like how much they cost or how much they weigh, and she got tired of it after a couple weeks.  I did go out and take some pictures, but she just never wanted me to talk about it.  Then I also got into home theater, telling her about DIY options, huge speakers, expensive speakers, how we would set it up once we got our own place and she hates that too and tells me that I shouldn't even look at it and doesn't want to hear anything about home theater.  \n\nMy best friend from high school has been trying to get me into hockey for at least five years, and now I've been following it more and looking at highlights, and she got upset with me for looking at highlights for five minutes while we were together one night.  She wants me to \"find my own hobbies\", not take on other people's, but apart from hockey that's what I've done.\n\nI also like extremely gritty and sexual TV shows like Game of Thrones and Spartacus, and she watched the first episode of GoT and told me it was disgusting and didn't want to ever hear about it again, and I'm basically forbidden from watching it if I want to stay in this relationship.  I watch them on my own during the week and don't tell her because she would get upset with me and I don't think I ever will tell her.\n\nHow do I deal with finding my own thing to do other than school work and internships?", "summary": "No hobbies that my gf likes, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1sb7in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you ever feel that maybe you haven't slept with enough people? (24/f, long-term monogamist.)", "post": "(24/f) I have had two boyfriends in my entire life- each lasting 4+ years. Never really got a chance to sleep or date around. I know that men prefer younger women, and I feel the older I get the harder it will be for me to sleep with men I find attractive, and who find me attractive as well. I have always had trouble finding guys I would like to date or sleep with too.\n\nOnly problem is I have a boyfriend right now, we've been dating 4 years. I love him a lot but we've had a lot of ups and downs, he treated me poorly in the past, but I had forgiven him. Even though I had forgiven him, it's still never quite the same. I guess the combination of the past plus the fact we've been together awhile, etc. kind of contribute to me feeling bored with him sometimes. I just don't want to wake up one day and feel I missed out.\n\nI don't really know if I want to dump him or if I should. Like I said, he brings me a lot of happiness and I love him and don't want to hurt him. I feel conflicted.", "summary": "24/F scared of missing out in life for only having 2 bfs. However, I love my bf. I am conflicted."}
{"id": "t3_3klb44", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a party.", "post": "Alright guys this fuck up happened about a year ago. I had just gone through a break up and seeing as that my friends were her friends, i started networking. I ended up becoming pretty close with this guy we'll call greg. Greg was... a clingy friend. He'd text me goodmorning everyday (treatment i didnt even get from my ex girlfriend), want to hangout all the time, and constantly poke and tag me in stuff on facebook. It didnt really bug me too much as im a pretty laid back guy, i just took it as an excited friend. The problem i did have with him is that when we went to parties, he'd get black out wasted and everyone we came with had to make sure he was okay the rest of the night. After 4-5 parties where this happened in a row, we decided not to invite him to the next one... which just happened to be one thrown at my house. So we're having a great time without Greg there to worry about, laughing and playing kings cup. That's when i get a call... Greg was on my front porch. He apparently forgot his phone charger at my house a couple days before and was there to get it. The party was in the backyard but luckily my lot is pretty deep and not a sound could be heard from the front porch. Quickly, i grabbed his charger and took it to greg, trying to rush him away before the last of the party animals arrived. He asked, \"Hey SequoiaT, know of any parties tonight?\" I just shook me head no while the rest of the squad walks up with two 36 packs and a bottle of rum. He gave me the dirtiest look and drove off. Havent heard a word from him since.", "summary": "Friend shows up at party he wasn't invited to, told him no party, other friends walk up with booze just as i turn him away."}
{"id": "t3_3h6mhs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Heavily infatuated with soon to be ex-colleague 29M. How do I (24F) proceed?", "post": "Can't deal with this crush anymore. I don't recall being this infatuated with a guy ever. We are soon to cut professional ties as that season comes to an end, and I would love advice on a safe yet straightforward way to express my romantic interest (without straining future potential work collaborations).\n\nThough most of our interactions have been in a professional manner, on the off chances that I do get outside of those, conversation has been fantastic, and I can sense we are equally curious about each other to some general degree. One time I chanced upon him in a casual setting, and we both ended up getting distracted into a 30 minute conversation where we just sat back and observed, shared opinions on something we both love. Very compatible interests and life goals are well in the same direction I'd say. Anyway, I am totally smitten.\n\nI've visualized asking him out, post-work ties, to grab a drink. Pretty sure I can fire that question away - problem is I want him to know I am actually attracted to him and am interested in hopefully advancing non-platonically if things are mutual. I'm at a complete loss on what to say and how to throw my point across, help!", "summary": "Want to grab drinks with an ultra, almost ex-work crush of mine. How to ask and make sure he knows I'm definitely interested and hope to spend more time hanging out? I worry my efforts might get brushed off as no more than platonic friendliness."}
{"id": "t3_198956", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife (29f) wants to separate with me (29m) due to religious differences. Need help to save my family", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 3 years, and have known each other for much longer. We have one kid. Our relationship has been rocky for most of this time we've been together, but nothing worth breaking up for.\n\nShe's from a fairly religious family, while I have relatively humanist, agnostic inclinations and don't give religion nearly the same importance. She's always had a problem with this, but seems to have lost hope now, and wants to separate.\n\nMy family is important for me, and I don't feel these differences/problems are enough reason to ruin our lives and our kid's future. Any ideas for how to fix this?", "summary": "Been married for 3 years. wife wants to break up due to religious differences. need help!"}
{"id": "t3_144ihg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I(19f) being selfish or is my sister (24f) crazy?", "post": "Me and my sister have had the same hours of work today and since we work in the same shopping center, we carpooled. She was suppose to get off work 30 minutes after me and I was just going to walk over there and wait. She texts me in the middle of a rush \"Hey, I got off early but i'll come back to pick you up at 5\" Alright, that's totally fine! Well, 5 rolls around and I'm waiting for her inside since it's so cold out. I get a text from her saying \"I'm never fucking picking you up again\" so I go outside and try to find her car. I finally find it and I open the door and say \"what the hell is your problem?\" and she starts YELLING at me saying she called me 3 times, but I guess I don't have reception at work because all I got was the angry text.\n\nI explain that to her and she says \"WELL YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN WAITING OUTSIDE, I SHOULD'NT HAVE TO DO THIS, I DON'T OWE YOU ANYTHING\"\n\nI look at the texts and she texted that only 5 minutes ago. I ask her if she's only been waiting for 5 minutes and she says \"NO, I've been waiting for like 10!\" I feel like 10 minutes would be a little bit of a stretch though. I don't understand why she's so upset at me for a simple misunderstanding. She seriously yelled at me the whole 15 minutes it took to get home. I don't ever ask for anything but today I just needed a ride. She called my parents up and starts yelling at them about how selfish and immature I am. They called me back once we got home and basically apologize for her. Like what she really wanted to happen was to be able to yell at me without me yelling back and ALSO have me apologize after she's done yelling at me. I get maybe I should have taken into account the no reception but the plan got changed last minute and I wasn't taking into account everything. I bought her a cookie too, but decided to eat it for myself after her freak out. It was a revenge cookie.", "summary": "my sister picked me up from work, she waited for 10 minutes and got angry at me."}
{"id": "t3_27rlco", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Unfriending her from Facebook?", "post": "So I was seeing this girl for a few months up until a two weeks ago when she cut it off due to her feeling as if she didn't have time for a relationship at the moment.\n\nI wasn't too bothered by it, but it still wasn't easy because I really liked her. However, tonight I was on a night out with my friends and I saw her for the first time since (not entirely sure if she saw me) talking to some guy, a minute later, I look back and they're kissing a few meters away from me. I had to leave the club at that moment and it was then that I realised that I'm not over her in the slightest and think that the best course of action would be to unfriend her from Facebook to avoid that constant reminder of our time together and the searing image of her with someone else lodged up in there too.\n\nIs this a typical thing to do to someone you were dating for a short period of time? I don't want to come off as a dick or anything, as I generally liked her as a person, I just feel it's a necessary action if I'm to move on easily.", "summary": "Dating girl for few months, she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, saw her tonight kissing another guy, is it a standard response to delete them from Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_japqb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So yesterday I was on the city bus, it ran a yellow light, a cab slammed into it as a result, the cop came and screamed at the cab driver and found him at fault...I don't think it was his fault is there any way I can help out?", "post": "Yesterday I was on a city bus and the bus ran a yellow light waaaay too late, the light turned red before we were half way through the intersection but obviously had no choice but to keep on going.  A taxi ended up with a green light on the opposing side, didn;t see the bus, and slammed into it as a result.\n\nI was the only one on the bus that was actually watching the lights (it was early early and most people were in the back but I was sitting bored in the front seat and remember thkinking why the fuck is the bus driver taking off so late into this yellow light?!?)  so everyone was just pissed about the wreck cus it was an inconvenience and starting giving major shit to the cabbie.  everyone was on the bus drivers side, leaning out the window just verbally abusing the shit out of this guy\n\nFinally the police came, he started ripping the cab driver a new one.  The cab was comoletely wrecked and you could see the guy was devastated, he was desperately trying to explain he had a green light and the police just kept yelling at him that its not the bus drivers fault and he should have seen the bus because a bus can't stop mid way in an intersection.  He found the cab driver at fault.\n\nI came forward before the police left after the bus driver and passangers had gone and I told the police listen the bus ran that yellow light (as in the light was yellow before we took off from a full stop to go through the intersection) and the cab driver had a green light.  he got really aggitated, yelled at me that the cabbie should have seen the bus and it's not the bus drivers fault, took my name, and left.  There were no other witnesses that were on  record I think\n\nThe cab driver was found at fault but I don't believe its his fault.  I have the case info, etc.  How can I help?   This poor guy was devastated and I am worried it might really affect him", "summary": "bus ran the yellow light, cab collision, police found cab at fault, what to do"}
{"id": "t3_15cmxx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M 20) slept with my ex (F 23) while seeing someone else.", "post": "Me and my ex dated for over six months, I will admit she is the only girl out of my five exes that I ever did truly love. Well on our six months together we break up, she initiated the breakup and that was that. We stopped talking but occasionally checked up on each other just to make sure we were both doing ok.\n\nA little less than a month after the breakup I start seeing someone new, there was a strong physical attraction and our personalities matched up pretty amazingly. Now with this new girl, wee discussed being bf/gf but since winter break was coming up and we would be in diffrent states for a month, she decided it be best if we make things potentially offical when we go back to school.\n\nIt is also important to note she has told me \"I hope you dont find anyone else...I'm at the point in this where if you do I would cry a lot.\"\n\nSo the thing is, I have slept with my ex about 7 times since I started seeing this new girl, primarily in the last week alone.\n\nBut is that wrong? The new girl didnt want to be exclusive bf/gf until we get back from break, but am I going behind her back by not specifically telling her that I slept with my ex? My ex feels like I am \"playing\" this new girl since I am sleeping with both of them (My ex knows about the new girl, but the new girl doesnt know I slept with my ex).\n\nI could really use some insight here.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me after six months, one month later I start seeing a new girl who doesnt want to be official bf/gf until we return to school after Christmas break. Me and the new girl sleep together about 8 times within the month of knowing eachother but then at the end when we part ways for the month, I sleep with my ex a couple of times but since me and the new girl aren't exclusive (she didnt want to be bf/gf until after break), am I wrong here? I don't feel guilty, but my ex insists I am \"playing\" this new girl."}
{"id": "t3_4nx4fb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking my front teeth", "post": "This happened about 6 years ago, so age 13.\n\nWas at church with a childhood friend, and we decided to have a competition on who could launch a ball further by using a chair as a catapult. \n\nNow for the fuck-up.\n\nI decided to get in the chair, facing the back part forwards. Then I used my weight to pull the chair down, then quickly put my weight on the edge of the chair.\n\nEveryone in the room looked at me like I was shot. Then they all ran out of the room screaming. I followed, wondering what had happened. Room full of worried adults. I attempt to say \"What did I do?\" It sounded odd, so I felt my teeth in my mouth. Or, what was left of them.\n\nI had broke two of my top incisors.\n\nShit.\n\nNext thing I know, I'm in my mom's car, bawling my eyes out. \n\nI passed out.\n\nI wake up at home, with two teeth....reattached? No, they feel much too slick. I look in the mirror in my room. There was a large color difference after the break.\n\nThey had stuck metal bars through the root, and put fake caps on it.", "summary": "I broke my front teeth with a high-speed chair."}
{"id": "t3_408x5k", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What now?", "post": "So, as of last May, I have officially become a NEET, and I absolutely hate it.\n\nI messed up in community college, and failed to get my AS in Engineering and a certificate in drafting in the required amount of time.  Because I failed to get it in under two years, FASFA said that I am no longer able to receive FASFA ever again.  Because I wasn't able to successfully balance a job and college at the same time, and attempting really exacerbated my depression and anxiety, I don't have enough money to carry me through CC to finish my last 10 classes.  Because I don't have much job experience or a college degree to use, I am unhirable.  I've been looking for an entry level job since I found out that I would never get FASFA again, which was around last July.  I would go back to retail, like Walmart, but due to the endless bad experiences I had there, and the anxiety that it developed, I would rather avoid it.  I sent them an application anyway, but haven't received a reply.  Whenever a job application asks me to declare a disability, I have to say yes because I was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD when I was a kid, and I personally feel that just ticking that box on an application automadically makes HR throw it out.  I would go into the military, but because I went to the Doctor to have something done about my depression and anxiety, and got prescribed meds for ADHD instead, the Military said that they would not allow me to join until after two years after I stop taking the meds.  The day I found this out, which was 8/13/2015, I stopped taking them.  I still have over a year and then some before I can do the military.   Going to see the doctor to try and improve my situation is the biggest regrets of my life.  It shut more doors than it opened, if it even opened any.\n\nI just want to work.  I hate being a burden on my parents and the rest of my family.  I hate wasting away at this computer.  What should I do now?", "summary": "I am only 22, and I have wasted my entire life."}
{"id": "t3_y4pd7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] Should I tell a girl I won't see anymore about my feelings for her?", "post": "Story time!\n\nI took an English class at my community college last semester. In that class I met a girl, and from the very beginning I was... interested in her. We chit-chatted in class, we'd walk to our cars together, but when I tried to hang out with her she suddenly said, \"Sorry, I'm kinda seeing someone\".\n\nI mean, on the inside I was kind of upset, but I knew that even if she was equally interested in me that we'd both be going away to school at the end of the summer (Monterey, California for her/Boston, Massachussets for me). So, I just let it pass. But things between us never changed. We still chit-chatted throughout class and walked to our cars together. We'd spend hours sending texts messages about nothing. One of my coworkers somehow convinced me that she probably wasn't seeing anyone and it was just a 'test'.\n\nAnyways, summer is nearly over and in a couple weeks we'll each go to our separate campuses and (likely) never see each other again.\n\nMy question is... Should I tell this girl that I would've loved an opportunity to date her? If so, how should I go about that? And if not, why?", "summary": "I had a class with a girl, she's wonderful. Should I tell her that I have feelings for her even though we're both about to go to school's across the country?"}
{"id": "t3_2ku6px", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] am really into this girl [F20]. How can I not appear to be clingy?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, first time caller long time blah blah blah.\n\nLast Saturday, I met this amazing girl at a Halloween party. Usually I go out to parties to do the one-and-done thing, but this one is something else. We went on a drunken adventure and ended up making out for a few hours behind the house party. We met up again last Sunday and I thought everything was going great. We ended up kissing for a while again and i walked her back to her dorm. \n\nThroughout the week, we've been having little text conversations here and there that go on for a while every day. Then I ask her what she's up to tomorrow and she doesn't respond. I ran into her on campus today and everything seemed well, but she still didn't give me a definitive answer about her weekend.\n\nYou'll have to forgive me if I seem a little naive, but I've never been in a position like this before. Should I just not make contact with her for a day or so? Am I appearing clingy? How often should I be trying to meet with her this early into the relationship?\n\nIf there's anything that I haven't made clear, feel free to ask. I'm on mobile and this keyboard sucks.", "summary": "how often does a guy need to contact a girl in order to be seen as \"clingy\" in the very early stages of a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_jq7v1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone provide me with a full explanation of each episode of Breaking Bad in the 4th season? Info inside", "post": "I've watched it since the 1st season and still couldn't understand what was going on in tonight episode, \"Cornered,\" episode 6.\n\nI missed the \"Bullet Points,\" episode 4. Here's the wiki summary of it: \n\nThe episode opens with Mike (Jonathan Banks) patiently waiting inside a refrigerated Los Pollos Hermanos truck smuggling ingredients for the meth lab, should someone attempt to hijack the vehicle. After armed hijackers working for the cartel stop the truck and fire automatic weapons into it, Mike shoots them both but emerges with a wounded ear.\n\nWalter (Bryan Cranston) and Skyler (Anna Gunn) prepare an elaborate story about Walter having a gambling addiction and a successful card counting method. They hope it will explain how they can pay for Hank's (Dean Norris) medical bills and purchase a car wash (that will actually be used to launder Walter's meth profits).\n\nWalter remains too distracted to put much effort into the charade and is worried how Walter Jr. (RJ Mitte) will perceive him. During a family dinner at Hank and Marie's (Betsy Brandt), Skyler and Walter tell everyone the gambling addiction story, but Hank and Walter Jr. turn out to be impressed by it. Walter is later shocked to learn that Hank is investigating Gale's (David Costabile) murder, with Hank believing that Gale was the elusive Heisenberg, expressing regret that he was not able to arrest him. \n\nWalter reads Gale's lab notes and is relieved there is nothing in there to implicate him, but worries that the police will connect Jesse (Aaron Paul) to the murder.", "summary": "Any episodes of this season you can give me a full synopsis to.. Or even a general explanation of this season. Even better, a site that gives full synopsis' to each episode in the season. This is the first time I've felt lost."}
{"id": "t3_2g8uaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Both 29 M/F, I'm content when he's in the room and I'm on my PC, but he isn't?", "post": "Basically, he says he \"missed me while he was here\" and I don't get it. He visited for about a month and while I was completely happy that he was in the same room while I was on my PC reading reddit and FB but he didn't like it. \n\nMy problem is I just like to keep up with the world because friends post a lot on FB. x.x I tried to be on my PC less than usual and I thought I did an ok job.... I guess I should explain that in past relationships me and my exes both spent a lot of time on the PC and it seemed to be ok, so I assumed this was an ok thing to do. But I realize that I need to spend time with my partner too. So I've been working on stopping bad habits but I don't think I'm doing it fast enough and I dunno.\n\nI tell him I miss him now and he tends to bring up me being on the PC.... but I don't think that I would feel any different if I had spent less time on the PC. I'd still miss him.... \n\nI'm probably forgetting things.... My sleep apnea makes it hard. (This also is a problem in the relationship but I'm getting help for it....) Hell I think I spend so much time on the PC because it's one of the least exhausting things I can do right now. I want to be able to be awake and spend time with him, but sex and other things can get exhausting and I don't want to fall asleep and waste time. >.<", "summary": "Like I said I'm just happy to be around him and not like cuddling 24/7 or whatever but I guess he doesn't like that.... I think I need help understanding. x.x (And my sleep apnea certainly doesn't help matters either.)"}
{"id": "t3_2pl4o2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a disabled kid", "post": "So this is my first proper reddit post, and yes like most TIFUs, this was a while ago, 4 years ago to be precise.\n\nSo I was at school then, and there's this kid a year younger than me who has some medical condition whereby his joints are really weak, he had stunted growth and has to use crutches for his whole life - kinda sucks. Anyway it was a rare winter's day in England when there was actually snow on the ground in my school yard/playground, which is dangerously slippery because it is made of tiles that are 100s of years old and grade 2 listed, along with the school building, so cannot be replaced by concrete or grass. So I'm carefully walking across the yard with a friend, when some kid slips over and hits the dirt, without fully recognising who it was, I laughed and yelled (quite loudly) 'LOL' (this was cool as a 14 year old in 2010), I walked a few more paces before my friend pointed out who it was. There was a crowd of kids helping him get up, some looking at me with disgusted looks on their faces. I ran inside, my 'friend' told everyone in the year, I was a dickhead, and it was brought up occassionally throughout the rest of my school years, along with some other minor fuck-ups.", "summary": "I yelled 'LOL' at a disabled kid who slipped in the snow"}
{"id": "t3_17vdyq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does 26/M not love me 27/F, or does he not love me in the way that I want it?", "post": "We've been dating for 14 months now and we get along great. We spend all our free time together and communicate well...most of the time. However, I have always felt a disconnect between what I expect from a loving relationship and what I actually have. \n\nI expect to hear \"I love you\" regularly and other such words of endearment and appreciation. I don't usually hear them. I say them often and get them in return, but he won't ever say them on his own. It really bothers me. \n\nWhen I bring it up he makes sure to tell me that he does love me, and that he'll make an effort to tell me more, but then he doesn't. He has told me how important I am to him, how much I mean to him, and how he wants to work towards a future together. But these are only things he says if I bring it up. And never any other time. Ever.  \n\nAdd on top of that, that I want the relationship to move much faster than he does. I want to move in together and make plans together and he's not quite there. I really don't push him. He has to feel it at his own pace. But I am starting to get the feeling that (although he may care very much) he might not be in love with me. \n\nMy feelings on it are this.. I can hardly contain how much I love him. I want him to know it and feel it and hear it. I want to plan and talk about our plans (not obsessively but comfortably). Why doesn't he want the same for me? Is it a sign that he doesn't or that we show it differently?  Maybe our styles of giving love are just too different.", "summary": "My b/f of over a year never shows verbal affection first. I always have to tell him I love him to hear it in return. It bothers me very much."}
{"id": "t3_bf256", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone know a good place I can read a very clear explanation of the healthcare bill with absolutely no bullshit bias either way?", "post": "I'm generally liberally minded, but I've also heard/seen a few things that still worry me about the bill. I know there's a lot of good stuff in there, but it wouldn't surprise me if there are things that I'm completely opposed to.\n\nFor example, I was told by someone (who watches fox, so I'm taking it with a carton of salt) that under the current bill before the house, if you make any changes to your group healthcare, you're going to be forced to instead pick up the govt funded insurance instead of keeping your group insurance. That sounds like a fauxnews lie to me, but I've seen crazier things in laws.\n\nThe whole bill is far too big for me to be able to read and understand (I support the idea that bills should have a page limit and only deal with a single issue, but that's another post) so I was hoping that someone has actually distilled the issues neutrally and just say what they say without comment on if it's a good or bad thing.", "summary": "I want to understand -all- of the issues in the US healthcare bill in plain English."}
{"id": "t3_2pa74m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with her[24 M/F] know her since August, Last week she was missing me, This week she doesnot want to meet, Your opinion please", "post": "Hello wise ones,\n\nI have been seeing the lady (let us call her P) since August. We are both master students. We met in my town where I live. September she moved to different town for her studies. We have been in touch in all ways possible. last i saw her in early November, when I went to see her and spent a week or more together at her place.\n\nI just finished my exams last week. Last Friday and Saturday, as I was busy partying after my exams finished she was trying to get in touch with me as she said she was missing me. We did Skype on both Saturday and Sunday. \n\nThis week, She had a real busy week with school and her parents visiting her. Her family left last night. We had made plans to meet today. I am already in her town but she says she is too overwhelmed to meet.\n\n If we do or dont meet in next couple of days, we will next meet in Feb 2015. why did she flip out?\n\nBefore, people feel sorry for me, luckily for me my brother lives in same city so I have a place to live.", "summary": "says she is missing me, then flips out when it comes to meeting."}
{"id": "t3_3eio0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] keep feeling like I want to be single. I feel awful for thinking that, and regret it because it would break my [19 F] girlfriend.", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for over two years. I love her but sometimes I feel like I just want to be single. I wish she would break up with me sometimes. \n\nI don't know why I feel like this. I just know that she wants to be with me forever and It would break her if I ended things.\n\nI want to be free, or feel free.  But I can't imagine life without my girlfriend.  We have talked about always being together and I couldn't break her heart.  I am constantly back an fourth between I want to be together and then I want to be single.\nCan anyone give me some advice?", "summary": "I keep feeling like I need to be single but I have always have second thoughts"}
{"id": "t3_2a047f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My semi-devout Muslim LDR boyfriend [30 M] said we can't touch during Ramadan. I [32 F] am upset.", "post": "I only see my boyfriend about once every 4-6 weeks. He is a semi-devout Muslim who used to be extremely religious but divorced after 1 year, at an early age (26). Since then he has had lots of partners and does non-Muslim behaviors regularly, including doing drugs, drinking, having sex with married women, and not praying. \n\nFor reasons I will not get into, I am in a sort of cuckquean relationship with him. I am totally in love with this man and his behaviors don't bother me much because he has proven time and time again that he always chooses me over others, in the end. He hasn't said that he loves me, but I can feel that he does. We have total trust. I am prepared to do anything for him; he need only ask. Except this...\n\nWe live on opposite coasts- him in California, me in NY. I arranged a beautiful, romantic weekend for him in Big Sur and Carmel, which I arranged 100%. Last week I wished him a good Ramadan, and he tells me, \"Oh, I forgot to tell you. We can't touch -at all -- during Ramadan. Sorry.\"\n\nThis greatly upset me as he has sinned repeatedly in the past, and including eating during daylight hours during Ramadan except when he's with family. I made such an effort to visit him and arrange a wonderful weekend for him. \n\nI suppose I don't \"need\" sex with him, but how can he have it both ways? He is picking and choosing what it means to be Muslim. It is hurting me. I would marry him and have his children. I would give up everything I know in NY to be with him in Cali and take care of him forever,and even let him be who he needs to be. One of many wives, even (I am agnostic, FYI). I love him. He is declining to even hold me. \n\nWhat arguments can I make to at least be held and kissed during nighttime hours? Or even have sex?", "summary": "My semi-devout Muslim boyfriend is declining to touch me during Ramadan though he sins repeatedly. We are in a LDR and I arranged a big romantic weekend for us. I am hurt because he is cherry picking his religious behaviors."}
{"id": "t3_3wi0wi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my co-workers [20F]. Weird situation and I need advice", "post": "Hey guys, I've got a bit of a weird situation and I need help with trying to sort it out.\n\nSo currently I work in retail. I've worked at this store for about 3 months now, and I'm really getting to know my co-workers better. For the past 2 months or so, one of my co-workers (19/f) has been flirting with me. I flirt back naturally, because that's the only non-awkward way to respond to it. I'm really not into her at all, but I play along because I don't know how to respond in any other way that wouldn't be awkward.\n\nAlso, I have a co-worker that I have a small crush on (20/f). We constantly pick on each other, and are jokingly mean to one another. Ex. calling each other losers, etc. She's close friends with the co-worker that flirts with me, so I think that would dissuade any potential interest.\n\nI'm not concerned with \"shitting where I eat,\" because I'm leaving the job soon, and there's no threat to my job if \"caught\". Worst case scenario, it'd be awkward.\n\nSo my questions are:\n\n*  How do I slowly reduce to flirting with the one co-worker, without blatantly shutting her down or being awkward?\n\n* How do I convey interest in my crush, without being blunt about it? I want to change the nature of our friendship because I can't imagine anyone wants to be in a relationship with someone who calls them a dork regularly, without getting the praise too.", "summary": "Want to stop girl 1 from flirting. Want to get girl 2 to start flirting."}
{"id": "t3_4g0z06", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Debt charged off, trying to recover", "post": "Dear finance gurus,\n\nI've got a bevy of student loans that I've been paying on and slowly chopping away. Last year I had a rough patch and fell behind 90 days on two loans with discover. They charged off one of the loans but not the other. I didn't see any notifications from them stating they were going to charge it off(doesn't mean they didn't send them). \n\nJump to today. Getting approval for a mortgage and they obviously had issues with the charge off. They were concerned about how fast the debt was charged off. Are there any laws or rulings on how long they have to wait? Could they charge off a loan after 1 day delinquent if they wanted to?\n\nFinally, I've set up a payment plan for the charged off loan. Just want to make sure everything is on the up and up.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Is there a minimum amount of time a bank has to wait before charging off?"}
{"id": "t3_3l1kjl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using baking soda", "post": "Last year, i used to have a bit of peristant acne, and i tried everything possible to get rid of it. One day, i read on the internet, that using baking soda on your face can help clear some acne. So i figured what the hell, why not?   \n\nSo I grabbed some baking soda, mixed it around with water, and started gently rubbing it on my face. Now all this time, i had my eyes closed because I didnt want to get anything in my eyes, so I am just sitting there rubbing the baking soda on my face. Then, I open my eyes and look in the mirror, and there is litterally blood everywhere. Like my face was almost entirely covered in blood. Blood all over the bathroom sink, counter, and floor. I can only imagine what would've happend if my roomate walked into the bathroom to see white powder and blood everywhere and covering my face. Luckily that didnt happen.   \n\nWhat happened is that a bit of baking soda got into my nose and it started bleeding, also, i was rubbing baking soda on my forehead as well, I can only assume started making little micro cuts on my forehead. If you cut your forehead, you bleed alot. So both my nose and forehead was bleeding and i was just rubbing blood all over my face. So i learned never to use baking soda on my face.", "summary": "baking soda, not even once."}
{"id": "t3_3s78v2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] only find girls attractive who are unobtainable, the moment they become single and/or show interest in dating me, I lose all interest. I hate this, how do I stop?", "post": "I'm very new to all this relationship stuff, I used to never speak to girls or anyone for that matter. After my second year of uni, I thought \"fuck being quiet and stepped on\", I bucked up my confidence, started talking to girls and did what I wanted to do. However I'm finding a theme which keeps repeating itself.\n\nAn example of what happened recently; one of my course mates at university [21/F] was in a relationship, I thought she was insanely attractive and really got on with her, I found her funny and fun to be around and I really wanted for there to be something more (I never told her this). She broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago (nothing to do with me) and we made out at a party last week, she now wants to go on a date with me. I've all of a sudden lost all interest in her, I don't find her as attractive or fun to be around anymore, now I like this other girl who's in a relationship. \n\nHow do I stop this destructive way of thinking?", "summary": "I want what I can't have, but when I get it, I no longer want it."}
{"id": "t3_pzi2m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend has pee fetish... What do I do?", "post": "Hi reddit,\nobviously I made a new account, because I do have a hard time talking about this topic but I really don't know what to do anymore.\n\nMy boyfriend (24) and I (23) have been dating for a bit over a year and so far everything has been going well. We moved in together and I feel like he is the one for me and we are pretty much settled. \n\nLately a problem came up for me. It all started when he told me some month ago, that he would like to pee on me. I am very open to try new things so I let him pee on my chest while we took a shower together. I told him right after that I didn't exactly enjoy it but he did a lot. With that the topic was closed for me but a week ago I woke up because something felt weird, so as I opened my eyes I saw my boyfriend standing above me in the bed, peeing on me. Of course everything ran on the bed sheets and I had to clean it up, which wasn't exactly nice to do. I got incredibly mad at him and he apologized and said that he should have asked me before. I told him that I don't like to have pee all over me and that he shouldn't do it again.\n\nToday the same thing happened again. I was sleeping and he peed on me. I am furious, all he says it's that it really turns him on and that I allowed him to do it before. He doesn't understand that I actually have a problem with it. \n\nSo what should I do? I really love this guy and I don't want to break up with him, but this situation is literally sticky.", "summary": "My boyfriend pees on me while I sleep and I don't like it."}
{"id": "t3_3g95ta", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rushing to put on a military hospital gown", "post": "I was put in a private examination room for an EKG as part of separation physical from the military.  The Navy corpsman tossed me what I assumed was a flimsy hospital gown, asked me to strip from the waist up, and stepped out while I undressed.\n\nI'd barely gotten my bra off when the corpsman started to come back in the room. I quickly threw the gown over my head and flailed about wildly trying to find the armholes or opening for my head.  He walked in and stared quietly for a few seconds before saying, \"Lieutenant, that's a pillowcase. Just drape it over your chest, ma'am.\"", "summary": "Performed a topless show for a sailor with a pillowcase on my head."}
{"id": "t3_21wqwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] feel like I'm too young for him [38M]. The fact that he is a divorcee with a kid makes me more timid.", "post": "I have begun an open relationship (okay on both sides) with a guy I met a few years ago. His lifestyle requires an open relationship at this time and I am fine with that. We are very open and honest with each other. I've become the anchor that he comes home to, and I am really enjoying myself. I am enjoying meeting people and mingling too. When boyfriend comes home he takes care of me. \n\nBut I feel a bit self concious that I'm too young for him. It seems like he has loads more life experience than me. I keep it to myself, but it kind of bothers me, he sometimes acts like a \"father figure\" to me. He also has a kid, a little boy age 7, and I am really struggling with the suddenness of having to be an authority figure to this child, having no kids or kid experience myself. I'll let it be known that I was a late bloomer as well, I only moved out of my parents home 2 years ago.\n\nI play video games, something my SO and I don't have in common, his kid loves games. Anytime I try to entertain the kid and play games with him it exacerbates my feelings of feeling too \"childlike\". It makes me more self concious about the age difference.  It's hard to explain and I hope you catch my drift. We've been living together (when he's not on the road touring) for 3 months. I have a few questions:\n\n1. Have any of you had a open relationship that eventually turned monogamous? \n\n2. Have you ever been thrust into a childs life and how do you deal with that? His kid really likes me but I feel more like a \"friend\" to him than a authority figure. The childs mother (who is insanely friendly) brings him over on weekdays.\n\n3. Age difference. 11 years isn't that much but I still can't help but feel like he treats me like a child, even though I keep his home and own my own business. Anyone have experience with a big age difference?", "summary": "Has an open relationship with a man 11 years older than myself, I was a late bloomer into adult life and feeling self concious about the age difference, being thrust into his childs life, etc. Wondering if it's normal to have these feelings. Anyone who can relate would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_15p3e8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf(22f) family is distraught that I(29m) am engaged and marrying her", "post": "I'll make this quick and painless to read. We met a work and have been dating for 3 & 1/2 years, living together for 2&1/2. I come from a close and awesome family. They love my fiance and have made her feel like part of the family since we started dating. Then there's her family......where to begin? Before she moved out they treated her like a prisoner and a child, her whole family! They always tried to control everything she did and every part of her life, she hardly had a life and had to lie about everything. This, of course, all changed after she moved out. Her whole family hates me for no reason. They are judgmental, racist, not that in-tune with how the world really works, and what I like to call \"Sunday Christians\". I've always been nice to them, and I'm a very nice guy overall....even though I don't care for them because of how they are. They think I'm the devil, I've ruined her life, and not even one of them has even told her \"Congrats\" or even acknowledged her getting engaged to me. Her mother told her she was making a huge mistake and is upset about us marrying, along with the rest of her family. Now she is highly upset because they will probably not even come to the wedding and will probably just forget about her (supposedly, she's been taken out of her grandparents will). What am I to do?", "summary": "Gf's family hates that we are engaged and they hate me"}
{"id": "t3_p4r6b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not attracted to my bf anymore, what can I do?", "post": "I'm 26 and he's 29 and we 've been together for about 2 years now. When we first met he used to do a lot of sport and go to the gym almost everyday. As soon as we started dating he stopped all activities but kept eating a lot of junk food. After 2 years of inactivity he's gotten big and I'm just not attracted anymore but I feel horrible  because he really is a great guy.\n\nI tried taking him to the gym with me since I also go there almost everyday, in those 2 years I managed to drag him with me 3 times. Each time he said he felt great and can't wait to go back there the next day but when the next day comes he just seat on his couch and stares at his television complaining that his muscles hurt and that he will take the \"day off\". Same thing with food. I've tried to make him eat healthy stuff and to stop drinking sugar drinks but he will still do it in hiding behind my back.\n\nI'm not sure how to approach this anymore. It's come to a point where we joke about his belly and he seems fine with it like that. He even told me \"I'm never going to have my abs back, I'm just not 21 anymore\". He's 29, if he feels old already I'm really worried.\n\nWe're not even having sex anymore. It's been months. I've tried to a few times but he says he doesn't feel good about the way he looks...I'm so confused as to what to do. After 2 years like this I'm about to give up. I fantasize about other men when I masturbate so this can't be a good thing. I used to be so attracted to him, I don't know what happened that he stopped wanting to look good for me as soon as we've been together.", "summary": "bf got fat, used to be in great shape, doesn't want to make any efforts despite me trying to motivate him. I'm fantasizing about other guys."}
{"id": "t3_4ttzih", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Negotiating salary while transitioning out of a sales role.", "post": "I currently work for a very large insurance company in the US in a telephone sales role. I want to transition away from sales into more of a salary position. \n\nWhat I struggle with is right now that, with their HR policies, most positions I can apply for will result in a significant pay cut. I'll explain further:\n\nMy base salary is about 36K, however with commissions I easily pass 50K per year full time. \nThe positions I can post for have a base salary of about 38k, and they currently either raise you to the base, or apply a 7% raise, whichever is more. This effectively cuts my annual pay by 10-15k per year. Because \"on paper\" I only make 36k. \n\nThe majority of people in my department don't have this issue because they typically work about 24-30 hours/week. And they usually break even with the raise plus moving to full time. And from talking with a lot of people, usually there isn't much of a conversation regarding pay. It's typically more of an after thought during the process. \n\nRealistically I know it would be a hard swing to get 40% more than their starting pay. But I feel as though expecting someone to give up over 10k/year because it's not \"officially\" a part of their compensation plan is very one-sided.", "summary": "I'm wondering if any of you fine folk have any knowledge or advice to impart on how to approach negotiating Salary from within a company when transitioning from a Sales role to a Non-sales role."}
{"id": "t3_4y1jld", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Tenant Getting Sued by Landlord", "post": "So me and two friends had an apartment for college in NYS. Halfway through our second lease, our landlord threatened to evict us, so one friend and I found another apartment. A few months later, the landlord claimed we caused $10,000 in damages. The house was 80 years old, and he was trying to pin years of renting to college students and neglect of the apartment on us. So we contacted a lawyer who contacted his. After months of negotiations, we came to an agreement of $8,500 just to get it over with, as it was easier to pay the money 3 ways than go to court. We soon found out that the landlord had sold the house, so there is now a new owner. We haven't heard anything from the landlord's lawyer in about 3 months. I was wondering if the landlord would still be able to sue without owning the property?", "summary": "Landlord tries to sue, we come to an agreement, he sells the property, and we don't hear back. Can he still sue?"}
{"id": "t3_2t5se9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my SO [24 M/] of 2 years, says he never wants to get married because he 'doesn't believe in marriage'.", "post": "Last night my SO and I stumbled upon the subject of marriage. He said he never ever wants to get married. This was quite shocking for me because I DO *eventually* want to get married and I figured we were on the same page. \n\nWhen I asked him to explain why he doesn't ever want to get married he said something about not believing in marriage and that it is unneccesary. I couldn't really explain why I do want to get married other then saying its what people do when they love each other. I've just always dreamt about getting married and see no reason not to.\n\nAs far as I know there aren't any failed marriages in his surroundings so I don't believe its his experience with other marriages that turned him against marrying in general.\n\nLet me just make it clear that I do not want to marry right now or anything, we don't even live together and I like how things are now. I just want it to be a possibility in the future.\n\nI worry that this issue is eventually something that will end our relationship and while I am willing to make compromises I just don't understand his reasoning to not get married, hell I don't even fully understand why I do want to get married! \n\nI'm hoping some of you can help me understand why my SO is against marriage in general.", "summary": "SO says he never wants to get married. I don't understand why because I do want to say I do some day."}
{"id": "t3_2bg2ta", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost killing a little kid on a bike", "post": "Okay so maybe it's not a complete fuckup but it was within a heartbeat of a life-ruining one.\n\nI work as a powder coater in a converted car shop with 5 big garage doors on each side of a building. Every morning we pull our F250 out of the garage so we can put wheels where it is and move them later. So at the end of the day, one of us has to pull it in.\n\nThis truck is pretty old, so the gears don't exactly slot in every time. Well, I go out to where it's parked and get in and slot in into what I think is reverse.\n\nI end up gunning it kind of hard since I'm not used to driving it and it just revs up, obviously in neutral. Instinctively, I look behind me only to see a fucking little kid with an afro on a bike had just passed. If this goddamn truck worked like it should I would have just splattered a kid all over the pavement, since you couldn't even see him because of the tailgate. He didn't even look back or anything, just kept on riding like he didn't have a care in the world.\n\nShook me up a bit.", "summary": "Truck didn't slot into reverse but if it had I would have rekt a kid."}
{"id": "t3_frp1v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your \"I'm an idiot\" moment?", "post": "What experience did you have that you didn't think much of but realized after the fact that must've looked or seemed stupid to the people around you?\n\nMine was pretty much a balls fail. Buddy of mine and I were at a bar just having a drink one night. I spot this cute girl with a group of friends sitting at a table across the bar. I'm checking her out and she catches me, I'm like oh fuck creeper moment caught. I go back to drinking and BSing with buddy and then I notice the cute chick has walked up to the bar not 6 feet away from us. She orders a drink and stands there, I'm thinking she's waiting for her friend's drink and carry on scoping her out with my peripherals. She stays there for about 15 minutes and no drinks are being made for her, wow bartender is a douche. Eventually she takes her glasses off (beautiful eyes) and is glancing in my direction. I do the whole \"am I blocking her sight\" and do the whole look back to see if someone is behind me. Man this girl is expecting her boyfriend damn. After this goes on for a  while longer she eventually takes her almost empty drink and walks back to her friends at the table with a somewhat disappointed look on her face, I wanna punch her boyfriend for standing her up and continue my night of forever alone.\n\nNext day I'm playing Angry Birds:\n\nPulls back yellow bird, whee--\"wow I'm an idiot\"", "summary": "cute chick was giving me an opening and I might be gay."}
{"id": "t3_3b2wxf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my ex girlfriend [22F] decided to take a break, how long do I wait to message", "post": "My girlfriend and I dated for 4.5 years, recently she decided she needed a break due to stress in other areas of her life, she just needed some time alone. We were very close and if we didn't see each other everyday, we were sure to be texting throughout the day.\n \nWe haven't spoken in a week and a half, both of us are very stubborn and no matter how much either of us is hurting, we will both be reluctant to be the first to try and strike up a conversation. \n\nThe past week and a bit has been very tough as the person I am used to going to for everything is not there right now. I am not sure how she is dealing with it, whether she has been feeling as shitty as I am or whether she is enjoying this time apart. \n\nI really want to talk with her, but i'm not sure if she wants to talk to me. I'm struggling to muster up the confidence to initiate a conversation.", "summary": "4.5 year relationship/on a break/do i message her? or just keep waiting."}
{"id": "t3_2l4mba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] S/O [23 M] of 6 months hangs out with his Ex's roommate (20 F) all the time, advice on how NTGAF?", "post": "Hey reddit, \nMe and my boyfriend have been dating for a relatively short period of time, only about 6 months. Met and started dating pretty quickly, all within about two months. We get along great together, share a lot of interests, goof around a ton, and genuinely care for one another. \n\nFrom the beginning it was known that he and his ex gf were on good terms, no hard feelings and she would actually come over to his apartment a lot to hang out with his roommates because they were still good friends. At first this bothered me, but he assured me that it was nothing to worry about and I began to feel a bit more comfortable.\n\nNow he has been hanging out with his ex's roommate (21 female), mostly when me and him aren't together and also at her apartment. Not sure if this is legitimately something to worry about, but for some reason this rubs me the wrong way. I really don't have trust issues with my boyfriend, and believe that he would never cheat on me or anything. I just feel like this relationship (between him and the roommate) would solely be based on his relationship with his ex, and is a person who they have in common and probably talk a lot about. It makes me uneasy, because she obviously would have a bias to talk positively about her roommate/friend, which could in turn make my SO miss his ex. \n\nUpon writing this, I see how I could come across as jealous- i think it's more of me being insecure. I really just need advice on how not to care about this situation, or steps I could take to feel more comfortable about this relationship my SO wants to keep. \n\nThanks for reading guys!", "summary": "Boyfriend continues to hang out with Ex's roommate/best friend (female), usually when I am not around, and need advice on how not to give a fuck."}
{"id": "t3_2voup3", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Back stab me twice? I'll deny you every time.", "post": "Some back story: I had this friend who we'll call LoudMouth or LM for short. Before I knew LM couldn't keep secrets, I had confided a few things to him. On two occasions I told him some things and on both occasions he goes and 'accidentally' tells the the people who I'm especially not trying to let know... My secrets. So I cut this guy from my life... Fk him. He doesn't know this. \n\nNow for the pettiness. Recently a mutual friend, Kevin, moved out of a residential unit owned by my parents as Kevin decided to move back to his home city. In doing so, Kevin left a few pieces of furniture in the unit. Fast forward 2 months and LM is asking me if I can help him take a piece of furniture from the unit. You have the audacity to ask for a fkin favour after backstabbing me twice? Fk you, so I simply tell him I'm busy with 'life'. A week later he asks me if I can ask my parents for the piece of furniture. To this I tell him 'go read up on the residential act pertaining to furniture that has been leftover upon a mutual agreement of termination between tenant and landlord. Unless you can find me a fking bona fide agreement between my parents and our friend, go fk yourself, that piece of furniture is staying with us as it's mine... Bitch!' And damn did that feel good...", "summary": "my backstabbing ex-friend asked for a favour and I used some knowledge gained over the years to shove his favour up his ass."}
{"id": "t3_1kf7p0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People who quit all drugs and alcohol to improve your life even though you weren't an addict, what's it like?", "post": "I am a social drinker. I drink around 2 to 3 times a week and get pretty drunk at least once a week. I smoke weed daily off and on. Every time I try to slow down on the smoking my drinking speeds up and I end up going back to daily smoking (once a day, not a total stoner). I have recently decided to try and quit doing both. I was able to balance my life really well with the smoking and drinking but I feel like it is keeping me from achieving my full potential. I make straight A's in college, have a good relationship with my gf (of 6.5 yrs), and am in decent shape. I would like to improve in all three of these areas and I feel that quitting is for the best. I want to go at least 3 months totally sober and then smoke maybe once every month or 2 and have a beer from time to time but no more than 1 or 2. Those of you with similar stories, tell me everything. If there is a better subreddit for this, please let me know. Thanks.", "summary": "Social drinker and smoker. Balance my life well but want to improve. What are your stories?"}
{"id": "t3_1hbw4n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "guy's girl [27F] always hinting at how close she is to guys", "post": "there's this girl in my group of friends. we're in our late 20s and it's a mixed group of people. she's great but i noticed she has this quirk that's starting to get on my nerves.\n\noften when we hang out, she tells us how close she is to different guys in our group (obviously those guys aren't around when she says these things). not in a romantic way, but more in a prideful way.... to show how close and deep her connection is to these guys. it's often about personal things, about how those guys regularly feel comfortable to talk about their dating, family, personal lives with her.\n\nSometimes it's subtle (\"oh, dave and i just chatted about that issue over the phone last night\"), and sometimes it's not (\"he wouldn't do that. joe and i are really close. he's always told me about that thing since high school.\")\n\nwhat's going on here?\n\ni'm not threatened by her closeness to these guys. i'm a dude and many of these guys are my good friends. it's just weird that she's always talking about it and makes me think that it's a clue for some other issue entirely.", "summary": "girl in circle of friends always trying to hint at how close she is to different guys. what is she hinting at?"}
{"id": "t3_37gkq0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I was raped five years ago today", "post": "I completely forgot about this until I got on Facebook this morning.  I was only 13 and it just happened to be my friends 14th birthday. I saw today was her 19th and it got me thinking.  \n\nWhen I was 13 I got raped by a boy I went to school with and actually liked since I was in third grade. He was a good guy and wanted to mess around.  I was okay with that but I didn't want it to go past kissing because I had a boyfriend.  When I said no and told him to stop,  he snapped.  Is it weird that I'm not mad at him?  \n\nAfter all was said and done, he sent me a text saying he expected my boobs to be better.  That sent me into depression and to this day I feel like my breasts are ugly and small. This was the only real bad effect of what happened.  \n\nThat night,  I texted my cousin about What happened but accidently sent it to my boyfriend.  He was furious AT ME. He said if I didn't tell my parents he would break up with me.  I did and I finally got them to not go to the kids house and mutulate him. \n\nThe next few months,  my boyfriend started abusing me.  He held guns to my head when we were alone and forced me to do things I didn't want to do.  He pushed me down stairs.  He said it was punishment for lying about my rape. He was convinced I cheated on him and lied because I felt bad about it. \n\nI finally left him but I'm almost glad I was raped because it brought out the true monster in the guy I was with. It helped me finally move on with my life and get out of a relationship that ate up a year of my time.", "summary": "Rape can hurt you but sometimes,  in strange ways,  it can help you let go."}
{"id": "t3_yf6r3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out so (23/f) cheated on me(22/m). But it's complicated", "post": "On a throwaway\n\nFirst off, we have limited communication in our long distance relationship. She only has internet access at an internet cafe where she is overseas at the moment. We've only been in this LDR for 3 or 4 weeks, but have been together before that for 3 years.\n\nSo we were chatting, and it seemed like she was hinting as something she was hiding. So I pressed on it, since I was very concerned, and being cheated on while she was away was definitely my biggest fear, as I'm fairly insecure. So she tells me that she and some guy had oral sex, still sex, and ended up spending the night together after getting drunk. Now, at this point, I was furious, I did cool down pretty quickly, but I'm still upset (obviously) It's exactly why I didnt want her going alone, and and felt worried the entire time. She tells me that it happened a couple days ago, and she was going to tell me when we talked next, which she did. She also tells me that it only strengthened her want to be with me, since it wasnt the same. I was shocked, I couldnt believe it, and i just wanted to run over there and see why this happened.  Now we ended up talking about it for about 5 hours. Going back and forth between being somewhat ok, and more upset. But I'm feeling hopeful. She tells me never ever ever again. That is wasnt worth it, and that she's much more suited to monogamy with me. So, I do want to stay with her, I love her more than anything, and I want to work through this, because I believe we can. But I do know reddit has a history of having a \"one strike you're out\" policy on cheating. \n\nSo any advice on ways to work on this, or what to do. I'm espcially looking for advice from people who have been cheated on, but the relationship went on after the incident.", "summary": "GF in LDR cheated on me, more than apologetic, we both want it to work out and stay in the relationship. Both still love each other, ect,ect."}
{"id": "t3_33l9fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27Fwith my 29M friend (?) a couple weeks - he wants to be exclusive but not \"formally committed\". What is this guy trying to do?!", "post": "I met Peter* a few weeks ago and we completely hit it off and have been talking all day every day since. We have seen each other several times and have had a great time. \n\nWe have slept together and discussed the fact that both of us like each other a lot.\n\nHe mentioned that a girl asked him to dinner, and he turned her down. I asked if it was because he wasn't interested or if it was because of me. He said it was because of me, and that he may talk to other women but he's not hanging out with them or sleeping with them. \n\nHe said that he's still on Tinder for \"shits and giggles\" which makes sense since we send each other funny profiles and it's a funny topic of conversation among him and his friends etc. but he promised he isn't using it to ask women on dates. (Is this bullshit?)\n\nWe established that we're only going on dates with/sleeping with each other.\n\nHe's very honest and upfront about everything even if it's something I may not want to hear (like him still being on Tinder). So I'm almost inclined to believe him. \n\n*However.....* he claims he doesn't want a label. It's like he wants the commitment without the commitment? He got out of a relationship in February so he said he doesn't want a \"formal commitment\" right now ie FB official, boyfriend/girlfriend titles... but I was under the assumption that exclusively dating/sleeping with each other was just that - a commitment. \n\nI don't know if I'm getting played or what. Before I met Peter* I was casually talking to another guy, Steve*. I feel like maybe Peter is trying to manipulate me into only seeing/sleeping with him while he still is out screwing around. \n\nI'm hesitant to break things off with Steve* because I'm not 100% sure of Peter's* intentions.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Guy says he wants to exclusively date/sleep with each other but not have a \"formal commitment\". What is he doing?!"}
{"id": "t3_2nstns", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my bf [23 M] of 6 months, had a fight over me talking to an ex.", "post": "I keep in touch with my ex of about a year, we text a bit once in a week or two, catching up on each others lives. Since we parted on good terms, I saw no issue with keeping contact, he was a part of my life and still is a good friend even though we live far apart.\n\nAbout 6 months ago I started seeing this new guy, and things went very well. I am his first girlfriend and sexual partner, he is my second. We spend a lot of time together, but I didn't talk much about my previous relationship, since it's a sensitive thing for him. \n\nA few days ago he saw a message from the ex, and got very upset about us keeping in touch. It was my fault for not telling him this, and I admitted it and apologized. He said it's like cheating to him and would be a deal breaker, so I deleted the ex from everywhere. \n\nIt seems to have blown over now, but I'm not sure if that was a right thing to do. I know I broke his trust, but I cannot agree that just keeping contact with someone you've been with is cheating, if there are no more feelings involved and we can't even meet without a plane flight.\n\nAny input is welcome, experience and advice, thanks.", "summary": "Am I a cheater in denial, or is he too posessive?"}
{"id": "t3_igym3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need advice publishing children's books.", "post": "I have been writing since I hit my double digits, it used to be my passion.\n\n When I was in my young twenties I wrote a few children's books.\n\nNow I am a thirty something, who is happily married and I am also a stay at home dad.\n\n I love my time with my son, but feel like a reject most of the time.\n \n Due to circumstances, I have been jobless for going on two years.\nI do not have illustrations for my stories, and for whatever reason, this has stopped me from ever reading my stories to my son.\n  From grade school until my early twenties I was \"known\" as a writer.  \n My early twenties turned into alcohol abuse.\n\n Since then I have married the most wonderful woman, and I have a son that makes me laugh on a daily basis.\n \n I spend my days with my son reading stories and listening to music.  \n  We play all day long but I need more.\n\nYears ago my mother gave her friend (a 1-2 grade school teacher in \"ghetto\" schools in Chicago) copies of two of my stories, which she read to her classes. \n \nThe students responded with letters in which they drew pictures of how they imagine my stories looking.\n  \nI am wondering if there is an \"expedited\" route to finding a publisher that will match me with an illustrator, or even take an unsolicited manuscript.", "summary": "Looking for a publisher that reads every manuscript, someone who will respond."}
{"id": "t3_4ekims", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my ex [20 F] broke up 6 months ago. I'm trying to get my stuff (worth in $1000s) back and I need help!", "post": "So my ex and I broke up months ago. I been messaging her through Facebook, Snapchat, text, and tried calling her (she never answers) about returning my belongings. I tried to go to her house (used to be ours) and search for my belongings but she hid them all. I can't find them, and she continues to play with me saying that \"oh you gotta find them *snickers*\". I'm getting really agitated and I tried contacting her dad but he refuse to talk to me because she told him that I cheated on her a bunch of times and I abused her. But everyone except her dad knows it's false. She cheated on me multiple times, mentally abused me, and wouldn't attend my grandma's funeral because she was too drunk, and then cheated on me again after I returned home after the funeral. She continues to blame everything on me and refuse to give me my belongings (worth in the $1000s) for the past 6 months and threaten to burn them. Is it considered stealing? Should I get the police involved? I'm very lost and I need help. (If you're wondering if she's on drugs, she is and I tried contacting her father about her addiction)", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, want my stuff (worth $1000s) back. She refuse to give them back. Tried contacting her dad but her dad hates me cuz \"I hurt her.\" She actually hurt me and trying to find excuses to not return my stuff. Is it stealing? Should I get police involved?"}
{"id": "t3_1tcp3a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it a dirtbag move to wait in the wings for a bad relationship to fail so I can date the girl I have had a crush on since we were kids?", "post": "This girl who I have known for years, (We have both been in serious relationships, so it's not like I have been timelessly waiting for the moment) has told me that her SO will ditch her to go to house parties, and generally makes no time for her. I have had a thing for her since we were about 15, but never acted on it. Is it a wrong to wait until she is done with the relationship to ask her out for dinner? I don't want to be the reason for a breakup, but I feel like I have a lot more to offer her than this guy and am willing to wait until they break up.", "summary": "Girl I have liked for about 10 years is about to dump her neglectful boyfriend. How long is acceptable before I can ask her out without looking like I am playing off of the breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_4qlabc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am i getting the wrong ideas in this friendship?", "post": "i[15M] have liked this girl[15F] for a quite a lone time. I never really talked to her due to us not having classes till we each had a friend who came to gether and we were heavily involved which lead on to us talking more often. I was upfront about it that i like her cause i had not much to lose and she liked another guy. We talked alot and watched tons of netflix through skype/facetime and at school, she gave me a hug before class. So i started hugging her before her classs and we sat together at lunch. I really started to think she was getting to like me when one time she snuck a kiss on my cheek before class. And then one day at the end of school i was getting to hugh her and she pushed back and went home. When i asked her what was that on text, she simple told me \"I couldnt hug you because my crush was right behind you\". And now ive just been depressed. I feel like its my fault for getting my hopes up too high", "summary": "I really liked a girl and we started talking alot. We started regularly hugging and she gave me a kiss which got my hopes up. Then was going o hug her but she declined because her crush was behind me"}
{"id": "t3_38q0gp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering the phone", "post": "I just went to the bank to get a credit card as I am starting college soon. Well they had to wait for the application to be approved so they were going to email it to me. As we're driving home, I've been getting calls from my step-mother and little sisters who all got phones with numbers I don't recognize. So my phone starts ringing after the 2nd sister of 4 had called to try her phone and I assumed it would be the 3rd sister. So I look at the number and the area code matches, prompting me to be a wise-ass and answer with \"Hello, this is dog.\" It was not my sister. It was the lady from the bank calling about my application. There was a slight pause and then she said sorry wrong number and hung up.", "summary": "I answered the phone to my credit card application call with \"Hello this is dog.\""}
{"id": "t3_2hcixc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my partner [29 F] 8 year-relationship... advice for moving on.", "post": "Trying to think through how to handle communicating that I want to move on. No major fights, no flashpoints to draw on, so how do you express wanting to call time on such a long relationship in a mature, respectful way without a major point of drama \u2014 just malaise and being in a different place? The reality is I want to focus professionally, simplify life for a while, and make the call in fairness for her to be able to find someone who can give her the attention she deserves before getting too much older. There are also complications like owning a house, pets, etc. This has been my only long-term relationship, so really any advice on how best to handle something like this on a personal level, as well as financially and such is appreciated.", "summary": "Seeking advice for how to handle ending a long-term relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2xvqru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M18 with crush on F18 and wanting to ask her to movie but keep chickening out?", "post": "Okay, So I'm a senior in highschool, and so I'll apologize now if this is not the best sub to post this in and I will willingly move it if needed.\n\nThat being said, let me give some backstory: I've had an off and on crush on this girl for almost three years. I've gotten to the point I've wanted to ask her out two years ago, and I tried by asking her first if she had a boyfriend, to which she responded yes, and then I just got nervous/disappointed and just went \"oh, okay.\" and walked away without another word. I haven't spoken to her much since thanks to me being nervous and still awkward about that whole incident.\n\nHowever, now, she's single and I really want to take a shot and ask her to a movie, however, every time I see her in the hall, I chicken out and just keep walking by. I can't even get the conversation started. How do I overcome this fear and is she even going to really hold the whole awkward moment against me? And what's even the best way to ask a girl out like that? I've had girlfriends before, but I've managed to either just date people I've already known, or they ask me.", "summary": "Nervous about asking a girl I haven't talked to much out to a movie and unsure of how to do so and get over fear."}
{"id": "t3_1o664t", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Ways to incorporate a subtle Disney/fairy tale theme into my wedding?", "post": "I've always been obsessed with Disney and fairy tales, and my fiance enjoys them too (we watch lots of Disney movies together, he introduced me to the show Once Upon a Time, etc), so it makes perfect sense for us to incorporate that theme into our wedding.\n\nUp until now, I didn't have a real theme to my wedding. I just wanted something elegant and romantic, but now I'm leaning toward a fairy tale them. However, I want it to be very subtle. I still want it to look like an elegant wedding, not just an extravagant birthday party, you know?\n\nSo far, we commissioned a Disney love song medley for string quartet that will play during the processional in the ceremony. To me, this isn't overly cheesy and is still elegant because it's a string quartet arrangement, not like a singalong soundtrack. I'm looking for ideas like this. \n\nLike, I would like people to pick up on the theme and say, \"That's so them with the Disney/fairy tale elements!\" but not leave saying, \"I just attended a Disney wedding.\"\n\nDoes this make sense? Haha. \n\nAnyway, any ideas would be so very greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Non-cheesy, subtle Disney/fairy tale wedding ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_47bam3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/M] and my girlfriend [23/F], said she needs space to sort stuff out, I don't know what to do.", "post": "I'm sorry for the wave of text you're about to receive. I'm going to keep this as short as possible. We've been together 3 months, and have been fighting like crazy. I work full time(50+hrs/week), and she works/goes to school full time\n\n.\nBefore we got together, she said that school comes first and foremost, and I agreed. So the relationship as a whole went great, we were hanging out a lot, sex was awesome, and for the 1st time in my life I felt truly happy. Well the sex slowed to an eventual stop. She started pulling away from me. This was off and on until a few weeks, and I noticed something was up, then she basically told me how she was super stressed and needed space.\n\nI asked her if her feelings for me changed, and she said they weren't as strong as they were a month ago. I gave her the chance on multiple times to end it, but she didn't. After a week of hell, she sent me a long drawn out text saying how she felt like she was dragging a ball of chain, and how she felt like she had to report to me because I'd ask her questions like, how was your day?, what are you up to?, she didn't like small talk texting everyday because it was distracting.\n\nI would ask her to hangout on certain days that way I can still see her and give her the space she needs. She said that ultimately that wasn't reasonable for her, and that all she asked is for time to sort her shit out. Since the text, we went out to dinner, and still say goodnight/morning and talk a little bit, but I want to get back to where we were.\n\nI have been fighting through this because ultimately I feel that this is worth fighting for, and I don't simply believe in giving up and breaking up when things get rough. She doesn't take any bs, so I feel as though if she were going to break up with me after all this shit, she would have by now. Ultimately I need help reddit, what can I do to fix this?", "summary": "girlfriend said her feelings for me weren't as strong as they were a month ago. Says she needs space for school and to sort her shit out. Need advice on how to fix."}
{"id": "t3_prg5b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redding, I got totally shit on by someone I thought was one of my best friends. What's the worst way someone's done you wrong?", "post": "Someone I thought of as a close friend for 25 years totally shit on me this week. I've dropped everything to be at his side in his times of need, given him money when he needed it, listened and encouraged him when things weren't going his way; basically bent over backwards to be the best friend I knew how. \n\nLast Thursday I was unexpectedly hospitalized due to a violent reaction to a new medication. I spent two nights in the hospital, had to have an MRI and EEG, and was scared out of my mind. I was unconscious part of the first night, but when I got myself together enough early the next morning I texted my \"friend. ' after getting no reply, I called and left a message. As of today I still haven't heard from him. \n\nI am devastated that he would do this after all we've endured. I've never had any sort of health crisis before, and am totally shocked at having been basically abandoned in my hour of need.", "summary": "longtime friend ditched me in the midst of a serious crisis. How have you been fucked over by a so-called friend? "}
{"id": "t3_rvx5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what are your best grown man tantrum stories?", "post": "Tonight a few friends and I went to a kegger in the student housing area around my school. Everyone was having a good time(not to big of a party, about 60 people) and one friend, who was really high at the time, was especially enjoying his take-out chicken fingers and fries. \n\nAnyway he had given a few of the chicken tenders away and someone proceeded to grab his last nugget, dunk it and eat it in one bite right in front of him. Now the friend with the chicken proceeds to throw his beer on the legs and feet of the chicken aggressor and yell some obscenities at him. \n\nThe following conversation included such timeless classics as **\"What kind of man eats another mans last nugget\"**, and **\"Honestly man, you need to grow up and learn to not eat other peoples last tenders\"** and something else along the lines of i need that for sustenance. He than storms out the door and slams it behind. The whole party is now in silence and someone asks what that was about\n\n\"someone ate his chicken\"", "summary": "A friend freaked out, threw beer on someone and slammed the door at a party because he ate his last piece of chicken."}
{"id": "t3_51rwnu", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Me [23/m] and the way to ask my hot neighbor [~23/f] out", "post": "Just about one year ago I casually discovered (by seeing a \"dancing ass\" through the curtains) that in the apartment right across the street are two super hot girls, having approximately my age. From my room's window I can see their kitchen, living room and bedroom windows and let's say that since the pleasent finding I've been \"more aware\" of their presence (and they of mine since one time they totally busted me peeping through the window). If their curtains were almost always closed, after the acknowledgement they started to leave one third of the living room's one always open. One of them is almost always away but the other is often chilling on the couch.\n\n Few months ago something epic happened. I was studying (she clearly saw me) and she was on the couch ,right in the spot where the curtains were open, when suddenly she stands up and bends over right in front of the window. I though she was doing some stretching (having seen her dancing the first time I'm sure she's some kind of ballerina) but then she picked up from the ground a shirt and, without thinking twice, took the one that she was wearing off and hung around a bit in the living room (BRALESS), before putting on the new one. After the event nothing else shocking happened (apart from some casual chilling on the visible part of the couch in panties) but I noticed that when the other girl is at home, she tends to keep the curtains closed.\n\n The last 2-3 months they started to keep the curtains closed more often. I've never had the opportunity to say one word to her cause she never sticks her head out of the window since tonight, when we were both looking down on some batshit crazy things happening on the street with police etc. I only managed to talk to her and her friend for 15 seconds about what happened before they went in both giggling after some whispering. I didn't think the situation was appropriate to start a casual conversation (it was also 3:00 am) and introduce myself. What do you guys think I should do? Is she just fucking with me? How can I approach her to ask her out without being a creep on the window?", "summary": "hot girl across the street flashes boobs and possibly teases me but I don't know how to approach her."}
{"id": "t3_2ifjkz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my bf[19 F] of 3 years, is blackmailing me", "post": "We have been together for over 3 years but I grew to get bored of him,he was my first boyfriend and I was his first girlfriend and we did everything together but I just don't have it anymore. He on the other hand is obsessed with me and would never let us break up. So I brought up breaking up and I actually went through it and broke up with him,blocked him from everything but the next day. I received a text from him on my mobile saying everyone I know on facebook will receive my nude pictures,videos(I did really really inappropiate things not only normal but kinky stuff normal ppl dont do). It happend one week ago and now I'm forced to be with him,I tried to get him delete them but he has many copies of it. What should I do?", "summary": "BF is blackmailing me to stay with him"}
{"id": "t3_20lod5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am in a relationship with a great woman [23F] but I have a strange problem", "post": "This is kind of a weird problem, and I don't know exactly where to post it but here.  I've been dating my girlfriend for several years and we currently live together and are looking to buy a house together.  We're going to get engaged soon and I truly love her but there is a problem.  I want to eventually have children and is this the strange part.  I want to have white children but my girlfriend is Asian.  I am not racist at all but this is just a weird thing I have thought about.  When I always imagine my children I imagine them being white like me.  I don't know what the fuck to do, this is bothering me a lot.  I want to raise children with my wife, it just seems strange that they will be half-white half-Asian.  I would even rather have a fully Asian child or another race (if adopted), but that doesn't seem likely.  I am confused and don't know how the hell I should deal with this strange issue.", "summary": "I am in love with an Asian woman and want to have a family but I want white children."}
{"id": "t3_23t1jq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25f) don't know what's going on with my fwb (27m) situation.", "post": "About 5 months ago, I (25f) met a guy (27m) at a friend's party.  He took me home and we ended up sleeping together and he stayed over.  We've continued sleeping together at least once a week since. We've talked about the fact that we're both pretty wary of relationships.  \n\nThe only times we spend together are at each others' houses or if we happen to run into each other at a public place (like a bar) and then end up going home together (happens very rarely).  When we're together, we talk about our lives (jobs, friends, happenings, family, etc.).  We don't communicate very much when we're apart except to hook up. \n\nThe other day, I invited him over as usual.  We did not, however, have sex.  I tried to initiate it, but all he wanted to do was kiss a bit, rub on me, and go to sleep. \n\nWas he just not feeling into sex that day/super tired? If so, why would he come over if that's pretty much all our relationship has been? Does that mean he's catching feelings? Am I reading too much into all of this?", "summary": "FWB and I hung out and didn't have sex for the first time, and I'm a little weirded out by it."}
{"id": "t3_lqjsw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long were you two together before you realized you love him/her?  When did you actually say it?", "post": "I'm 24 and my boyfriend's 26.  We've been together for 3 months and have known each other for 7 years.\n\nHistory:  He's the best friend of one of my friends in college.  We went to the same parties and pretty much hung out with the same people.  My sophomore year he moved to Philadelphia and we lost touch.  He ended up moving to NYC where I got a job after graduating college.  Years went by before we realized we were in the same city.  His best friend who is also my friend had a party and invited both of us.  We hit it off, saw each other a lot, then there you have it - we're in a relationship.  He met my family and they like him.  I'm meeting his in 2 weeks.\n\nThree months into it and I'm positive that I love him.  Haven't said it yet.  Makes me curious about how it all was like for you guys.", "summary": "How long were you two together before you realized you love him/her?  When did you actually say it?"}
{"id": "t3_dtohd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is is safe to turn my noscript off?", "post": "Be honest with you, I have been using noscript for a while now. I do understand that websites stay afloat by their advertisements I want to support the websites I visit. But they can be harsh on my system. Especially pop ups. Also, many of those banner adds and pop ups have flashing lights and can trigger epilepsy. My biggest pet peeve those was those annoying \"You've won a free 'insert product here'\" and goes on and on for 5 minutes about how to \"claim\" it ruing whatever music I had coming from my computer or stereo, forcing me to leave the page and not see what content I wanted. Usually F5ing led to it just changing the product name.", "summary": "Are the flashy ads and ads with voices gone yet?"}
{"id": "t3_1i1d2b", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "In-vitro Fertilization lab tech; is this a career or a dead end? Is it applicable to biotech?", "post": "I am trying to get my foot in the door in the biotech industry. I feel like there are plenty roles I'd be qualified for if I was just given the opportunity. I currently am waiting to hear back from a biotech company I interviewed with a few weeks ago. It went pretty well and I expect to hear good news any day now. In the case I do not, I've very fortunately scored an interview for an IVF tech job. It seems like a nice way to get experience in a laboratory setting but having the job will come at a hefty cost. I would like to know if this is worth pursuing or if I'm going to shoot myself in the foot, having no marketable experience at the end of 3 years.\n\nAs far as the costs are concerned, the recruiter told me it will require a 3 year commitment, which seems like a lot to ask out of an entry level employee. I don't plan on picking up experience and jumping ship but a contractual agreement makes me feel uneasy. This 3 year commitment is exacerbated by the job being filled via temp agency. Being a temp for 3 years makes me feel ill. The job's base salary is about the median for a medical lab tech, which seems pretty reasonable, but I was explicitly told I would be expected to put in overtime. I am not sure if a lab tech working in a hospital is entitled to overtime pay but without the extra pay, the hourly wage rapidly loses its value. My biggest concern is that the role will lead me nowhere. I expect that with a degree and a few years at a biotech company, I'd start learning new roles and wearing new hats, like going from a manufacturing position to quality assurance. With this job, I dunno if I'd ever branch out from freezing semen. \n\nI really hope all of these concerns are due to my ignorance.", "summary": "what are the biotech job prospects for a very specifically trained, non-industrial, non-academic lab tech?"}
{"id": "t3_2jhm1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my friend?[15 F] ; Is she interested?", "post": "I met this girl after a volleyball game. She is in varsity and I decided to man up and say hi to her. I knew her from several social media sites (Instagram, Snapchat, etc.) but we never really met in person so I said hi and said good job at the game. She said thanks but she left early. That was basically the foundation.\n\nLater that night, I decided to link up with her through Instagram and said \"we need to be friends because youre really cute\". (i know i know i shouldve said it at the game). She then said thanks and I really did not know howe to contact her.\n\nTo be a little funny, I sent her a picture of my old photo when puberty didn't hit and said \"idk how to start talking to you so here\" and then she put \"LOOL okay\". Know I'm here, wondering what to do from now. Do I just blatantly ask for her number or other messaging systems or do I just let it go?", "summary": "Knew each other through social media, said hi, introduced myself in social media, uninterested reply"}
{"id": "t3_4gg47h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dumped twice in 9 days! Advice needed!", "post": "My girlfriend (29F) broke up with me (28M) last week but after some discussions, we decided to try again. We got in an argument on Saturday and she broke up with me again. I left and hung out with my friends. Well I proceeded to get black out drunk and hooked up with someone else... She then talked to me on Sunday and I said I needed sometime apart, we agreed not to talk for 2 weeks and revisit this then. She then texted me later on Sunday saying \"if you hook up with anyone, don't even bother talking me.\" So my questions are, 1) did do anything wrong? I mean she broke up with me again, I was operating that we weren't together and I was incredibly intoxicated. 2) should I tell her now, tell her when we talk in 2 weeks, or bury it deep down?", "summary": "gf dumped me, I got drunk and hooked up with someone else, she wants to revisit but said she wouldn't if I hooked up with anyone else."}
{"id": "t3_2o1bj4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f 20] with Boyfriend [m 20] for over 3 years, long-distance isn't working. I need survival tips!", "post": "I have been with my current boyfriend for over 3 years. We began dating at 17 in community college. It was and remains to be, for the both of us, our first serious committed relationship. For the past year and some we have been attending separate universitys and been attempting to make the long distance work. \n\nLong distance is incredibly difficult. Last year we went through a rough patch where I thought it best that we split for a time. Our time apart was short lived but very necessary in developing some much needed independent growth. The issues that were present then have not fully subsided. \n\nMy issue can be summed up very simply: I feel like I have met the right man too soon. I really do believe our relationship is incredibly mature compared to most at this age. With the distance and our hectic schedules we only talk only the phone once or twice a week and we both are not big textual communicators. We are able to see each other on the weekends at least twice a month. Lately, I have been very snappy and generally combative which of course has led to most of our rare time together ending in an argument. \n\nI don't know what to do. I want to be committed to him because we are so close to being in a position to live together but at the same time I don't want to spend the next 12 months of my life in and unhappy relationship. I feel like maybe we have just come to a head and our relationship has entered a phase were it is more about commitment rather than enjoyment. \n\nI just wanted to know if there is anyone out there that has any advice whether it be on maturing relationships or long-distance survival tips. Or just hurl some real talk my way, PLEASE!", "summary": "I have a long-term long-distance great guy but I don't feel great in the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3cm78t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By not liking a song my crush liked", "post": "Like most tifu's this didn't happen today it happened about two months ago.\n\nAnyway, I was text the girl I had a crush on at the moment (Let's call her Mary), and she was saying I should listen to some songs she liked. I said I would. So she listed some songs and I listened to them, but there was one in particular that I thought was awful I thought it sounded depressing.  So, I texted Mary back and she asked me if I liked them. I said, \"I like most of them.\"\n\nHears the FU when she asked me which I didn't like I said the song name in caps (I can't remember the name) SUCKS!!!! The Mary said WHAT THAT SONG IS BAE or something along those lines. Then, she blocked me for, wait for it, A MONTH!", "summary": "Said I didn't like a song, got blocked by the girl I liked."}
{"id": "t3_26fnpt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I don't like my sisters bf what should I do?", "post": "My sister lives in California and I live in Washington with the rest of my family. We were recently told that she has a boyfriend of four months. Now she is in Washington visiting so that the rest of the family can meet him. When she told us to come and meet him we asked, \"do you want our approval?\" And she replied by saying, \"no I'll make my own decision anyway.\" So reddit what do I do? Should I tell her anyway that I don't like the guy or should I let it go knowing I'll see her at most five times a year?", "summary": "I don't like by sisters boy friend can I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_3b2ugt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am pretty sure my (37M) wife (29F) has an eating disorder but I don't know what I can do", "post": "We have been together for 4 years, married for 2. \nSorry for any mistakes or lack of clarity, English is not my first language. \n\nMy wife has always been thin but she always ate and exercised. Recently, her eating habits have become extremely troubling to me. She will not eat in front of me or anyone else now. If we go to a restaurant, she eats maybe three bites, and takes the rest home and won't eat it until I'm asleep. \n\nShe also spends an abnormally long amount of time in the bathroom, and  I searched online for eating disorder symptoms and she seems to fit many of the symptoms of bulimia. Her knuckles always look irritated and I asked her about it and she said it was from her kickboxing class, I also asked her why she wouldn't eat in front of anyone anymore and she got extremely defensive and slept in another room in our house. \n\nI read online also that events can trigger eating disorders if someone has struggled with them in the past. She has never told me she has had issues with eating, I do not know much about eating disorders, but I am wondering if this has to do with the miscarriage she had along with lot of the stress she has had with her work. I am so worried about her but when I ask her anything about it, she gets angry at me and sleeps in another room. Do I tell her family? Or what. I am just not sure what to do.", "summary": "I am pretty sure my wife has an eating disorder that has been triggered by a miscarriage and stress, and I am unsure what I can do to get her help"}
{"id": "t3_2n6l11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend never says I'm beautiful (25M/22F)", "post": "I know how vain and insecure this may sound, and feel free to tell me I'm being silly. It's not even that I think I'm ugly and want him to reassure me - in fact, my confidence in my appearance is pretty good these days. I'm not 100% sure why this issue has started to bother me.\n\nMy boyfriend of 9 months has never looked me in the eyes and said \"You're beautiful\", or any variation of that compliment. A few months ago, he complimented a new outfit I was wearing, and has twice told me I have \"pretty\" eyes. He has also noticed my weight loss and congratulated me on it three or four times. Two weeks after we met, he blurted out that I'm \"really pretty\", which was nice and genuine. But that was it. This is all that comes to mind when I think of the last 9 months (10 months, if you include the time we were just 'dating').\n\nLast night we were watching a movie and he commented that a female character was \"smokin' hot\". This isn't the first time he's commented to me about someone ELSE being gorgeous or hot. Usually it doesn't bother me at all, but this time I felt annoyed, and I realize it is because he has never said anything like that about me.\n\nHe has admitted he is bad with compliments, and I understand. We've even done that \"Love Language\" test that people on this subreddit recommend; he got Quality Time, and I got a tie between Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. We have really strong communication, but I don't want to bring up this issue because then all of his compliments will seem \"forced\". \n\nI wish this didn't bother me, but it definitely does. I'm even have trouble explaining WHY this bothers me. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks!\n\n**ETA**: Forgot to mention that he says 'I love you' well and often. He has given me genuine compliments on my personality and how much he likes spending time with me before, many more than for my appearance. It's just those typical 'romantic' compliments that I never really hear, apart from 'I love you'.", "summary": "Boyfriend has never told me I'm beautiful in the 10 months we've been seeing each other. He comments that other people are \"smokin' hot\" and \"gorgeous\", but has never paid me a compliment nearly that enthusiastic. Not sure why this bothers me, and not sure what I can do about it. I don't want him to start giving me forced compliments because he feels like that's what I want to hear."}
{"id": "t3_2u3ecm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25(F) wanting to help my SO 27(M) with issues from a difficult past.", "post": "A little background to start wouldn't hurt I suppose...My SO and I have been together for nearly 2 years and together everyday since our first date, except for the occasional girls nights I have or him being gone for military purposes. We tend to not fight, the occasional disagreement if not just misunderstanding. Things all together have been very easy considering we have lived together for almost the full 2 years. We just finished our first 1 year lease together! \n\nThe most difficult thing about our relationship is that he was afraid to let himself fall in love. He just recently admitted to me that he had been holding back his feeling not only from me but himself. \n\nThe reason why I am searching for advice is that he has a dark past. He was honestly raised by himself with some help from his extended family. He grew up experiencing drugs from a very young age and drinking. Also he was stuck in a very verbal physical relationship for a good part of his young adult life. Being with me is probably the most easy part of his life and I hope I can continue being by his side and helping him every step of the way. \n\nMy problem is that I do not know how to help someone who has a past with depression and alcoholism. The only experience I have with helping someone who has depression and alcoholism is my dad. I am not close with my dad since moving out when I was 18. I have tried to  help my dad but honestly I feel like I have been more distant since I do not know how to help. I am kind of lost with both the most important men in my life. Reddit can you help shed some light on how I can help?", "summary": "How can I help my SO and be his support while he battles depression and alcoholism?"}
{"id": "t3_3cln7y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [23 M] 2 yrs, part time LDR for college, wont hang out as much when I'm home", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my BF for just over 2 years, and we dated for almost a year before it was \"official.\" We started dating when I was in high school and he was not (live in his college town). I went to school 20 hours away and so during the semesters we are in an LDR. For the most part we do fine LD, we skype, text, call, etc. Get in more fights while apart but nothing huge.\n\nWe're both working full time this summer and have less time to do things. At the beginning, we hung out a lot maybe 2-3 times/week and once on a weekend. Since we've started working he seems to never want to hang out during the week. He says hes tired and wants to go to bed, which I understand, but I am going back to school very soon and want to make the most of our time together before I'm 20 hours away. On the weekends, he always wants to \"make the most of them\" by going out to the bar with his friends or doing other things with his friends. I'm invited sometimes, but I don't think its fair that he prioritizes time for his friends, time for both me and his friends, but not time for just me.\n\nI have already brought this up with him and he said that it wasn't intentional and he was going to work on it so I didn't feel that way.\n\nDuring the week, we do hang out, but it keeps getting less frequent. He wants to be home by 9:00 and all we do is go out to dinner or see a movie and never just hang out and do nothing and enjoy each others company like we used to. We also never have sex during the week anymore (used to like every other day). I know he is just doing this because he's tired. I get that, but I also don't want to waste time since it's going to be hard away from him. I feel like I just want him to want to spend as much time with me as I want to with him.", "summary": "Date my bf LD when at school, now its summer and I feel like I should be a bigger priority."}
{"id": "t3_e3rmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I reduce/eliminate attraction to a coworker?", "post": "I want to preface by saying I am happily married to a wonderful, attractive woman and am in **no way** contemplating cheating.\n\nThat said, I have a coworker who is also a business partner in a new venture that we and some additional coworkers are starting. I have known and been friends with this woman for a number of years but have never worked closely with her. She is an attractive woman, but beyond that she is also extremely good at manipulating men. You know the type, smiles at the right time, touches your arm lightly, makes easily misconstrued comments, and basically makes you believe she might be interested in you sexually even though she probably isn't. She is very intelligent though and doesn't just get by on this behavior, although I know it has helped her career.\n\nThe issue is that as much as I am aware of this behavior, when it is directed towards me it doesn't stop me from becoming \"hormonally charged\" if you catch my drift. I find that this seems to cloud my judgement a bit and is very distracting. Once our first round of funding comes through, we will likely be working together closely every day, and I want to reduce or eliminate altogether this distraction.\n\nOne possible solution that has been mentioned is to use the Seinfeld \"man hands\" technique, which is to focus on something you don't like about a woman to reduce attraction. I have found this to be of limited success. Does anyone have any additional suggestions or can tell me how they dealt with a similar situation?", "summary": "Attracted to coworker. No cheating involved or desired. How can I reduce the attraction?"}
{"id": "t3_4d7f8r", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Las Vegas vacation alternative?", "post": "Hi everyone! I (F, 27) would like to take my lovely husband of 3 months on a weekend trip for his 28th birthday in May. If I could afford it I would take him to Las Vegas, Nevada (his favorite vacation place) but that's pretty pricey. I was hoping you might be able to give me some suggested alternatives for a similar kind of vacation that wouldn't break the bank.\n\nImportant:\n-Less than a day's flight away from the Midwestern United States\n-Being able to walk around a lot without going outdoors (he has severe allergies)\n-Lots of things to look at (crazy architecture, fancy shops, etc.)\n-Being able to stay in a moderately nice hotel\n\nNot important:\n-Gambling\n-Nice weather or outdoor activities", "summary": "Can't afford Vegas; where should I take spouse for vacation?"}
{"id": "t3_rryq2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men & Women - why don't you cheat?", "post": "Ok.. I know this sounds like a silly question, but hear me out.\n\nFirstly - I've been in several relationships, some better, some worse - but I have never cheated in any of them and I never plan to.\n\nI did however start to think about \"why\" I don't cheat.\n\nThinking about this the NUMBER ONE reason I wouldn't cheat is that it would hurt my girlfriend a lot. I couldn't bear that and it alone has definitely and will definitely stop me from ever cheating. \n\nBut in talking to her about this, she also lists a reason of simply not wanting to - and being happy with me. I'm not sure I can say it that way - I love her a great deal but I'm also a young guy with a strong libido. I definitely meet women all the time that, if I wasn't in a relationship, I'd sleep with in a second.\n\nThere's a lot of talk where men view sex and love as two separate things and women don't. Maybe that's part of this.\n\nWhat are your thoughts? Are there more reasons you don't cheat? Is it different for women?", "summary": "I don't cheat on my girlfriend because it would hurt her - but for mostly no other reason."}
{"id": "t3_3a8nej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years thinks I'm [21 M] boring?", "post": "Lately, I've been noticing this more and more. Generally, I'm more of a quiet person. I listen more than I talk, and I don't express emotions too noticeably. I do a simple smirk when I feel joy, I mostly laugh internally when I think something is funny, and I usually have what people might call a \"poker face\". I'm also very shy and socially awkward a lot of the times, unless i'm really comfortable with you. My girlfriend has told me from time to time that I can be really boring, and that she wishes I were a bit more energetic. She also wishes I wasn't so shy and awkward because it embarrasses her sometimes. Hearing this from her hits me straight in the feelings sometimes, though it really gets to me when I see her speaking with other people.\n\nWith others, she puts on a big smile and a joyful tone in her voice that I never hear towards me. She has lots of laughs with the others, but with me, there's just a serious vibe most of the time. It honestly does get me jealous and I wish it wasn't this way. I do try to be a bit more energetic and cheerful but it makes me feel like I'm trying to be something I'm not. I feel like I'm pretending to be someone else. I don't really know what to do. I wish I can have her that cheerful and happy around me.", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks I'm boring, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2clcly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] and my boyfriend [23M] want to experiment with different kinks. Suggestions on how to go about this/be safe?", "post": "Throwaway account here, so excuse the lame username.\n\nSo my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half or so. We decided that we wanted to spice up our sex life by experimenting with different kinks. It's not that our sex life is boring as is right now, it's more that we just both decided we'd like to expand our sexual horizons. We think it could be interesting and fun. (And yes, this is a healthy and stable relationship.) Both of us are into it, but I wanted some advice or suggestions before we started exploring. I'm looking for suggestions as to what kinks to try, how to keep it safe, and anything that could help us.", "summary": "Bf and I want to spice up sex life by exploring kinks, advice and suggestions are needed/welcome."}
{"id": "t3_jfsfs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I avoid bringing these damn fleas home?", "post": "So I'm staying at an apartment with a friend of mine who has a dog and I'm pretty sure their place has fleas. The dog bits and scratches itself all the time, the other roommates have been complaining of bites, and I've killed a few very small bugs that look like fleas....\n\nI'm stuck here for another few days but my real concern is bringing them back to my apartment when I leave. I just moved in and the last thing I want is to have to flea bomb the place the second week. I will be flying on a plane home and I have a carry on suitcase of clothes. How do I ensure I don't bring the fleas home with me?", "summary": "I'm vacationing with fleas, how do I not bring them home?"}
{"id": "t3_1eenn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with a girl (F)(19) and me male (20) that just started talking. Dont know what to do??", "post": "Im new to reddit, so please excuse me if i didnt exercise proper reddit form. \n\nIve know this girl for about a year. Shes a mutual friend of my good guy friend, so i never really knew he too well. But out of the blue the other day, she texts me (i didnt have her #). Shes a pretty girl, so i was shocked that she initiated the conversation. She just got home from school and is home for the summer. \n\nNow usually its the guy who (in my experience) statrs the conversations, and texts the girl first (she keeps on texting me first everyday, i dont mind its just different from my past experiences). Now im getting a good vibe from her, so i ask her to hang out. Then she stiffs me (something about having to go to LA to see her family). Then i ask her the next day, another excuse. Then ask again, and she keeps saying \"we'l get together at some point\". So i was thinking she just was no longer intested, but she continues to text and talk to me. I just getting weird vibes from it because she hasnt came to hang out yet. Im looking for advice as to what to do.", "summary": "hot girl texts me everyday but wont hang out with me (always has \"something\" going on). Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_52lkgw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Lost my passion for what I do after 10 years; Feel very stuck.", "post": "I started my current job as a PT position while in high school. It's in the field of media and video production which I loved growing up. Attended some college while working at my job, but college didn't feel right for me and I dropped out. I've been employed at my job now since 2006. Over the years, as the pay and responsibility increased, I have found myself transitioned into what is essentially a very mundane and monotonous desk job doing programming and transcoding of media files for 40 hours a week, where before I obtained this higher level position, it was mainly creative projects and generating original media for the company which I had control of.\n\nI am now 26 y/o and extremely unhappy in my current position, have that \"stuck\" feeling, and no longer get along well with my superior and it affects my mood outside of work around my family. It's mentally eating me up inside and I really want a change in my life toward employment in a field that will be more active, rather than being at a desk in a windowless room. \n\nThe problem is, I make $18/hr (which for me personally is a good sum of money that takes care of the bills and most of whatever else i need) and my health insurance/benefits are fantastic. I've been dealing with the mental stress of this job for a year or two since losing interest and motivation, but feel chained to it because I don't think I'll find similar-paying gainful employment elsewhere due to my lack of education and specific set of skills. \n\nDoes anyone have any pro life tips for me to conquer this? Do I reinvent myself from the inside to accept the fact that I'm lucky to be employed at all and try to quell back the sadness, or do I reinvent myself by setting a hard quit date say 8 months from now while I work on seeking new skills? I don't want to ever be in this field again.", "summary": "been at my job for ten years. climbed the ladder and hate my current position- don't get along too well with boss anymore, affects my mood and demeanor at home in a negative way."}
{"id": "t3_11lnwt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I need help, long story short, I have a crush", "post": "Ok here goes, I met this girl last year and we talked a lot over the internet but had only one class together and our face to face time was limited. I developed my crush on her in this time as I just wanted to spend more time with her. Rumors went around she had a crush on one of my best friends, Awkward. Well I kinda just waited, waited and waited all through summer.(Boarding School, we live far away) \n      We started to talk again once school was in session, and we talked a lot. We always waited for each other after class to go to the next class together or lunch or whatever, we just talked whenever we got the chance and we almost never run out of things to talk about and I think the chemistries great. \n      Well today after a long bus ride on a trip, everything was just kinda quite, people asleep, you get the idea. I see her drawing a heart around my best friends contact picture in her phone. I didn't know how I felt about that, I still have feeling for her but im just really happy with the way it is right now. I felt like I should of been sad but the feeling I got was just gratefulness that she even takes the time to hang out with me as much as we do (which is a lot).\n      What should I do? I want to tell her my feelings but I know she will say no and I just dont want to lose the friendship we already have. My best friend knows all about this and is trying to help me in anyway possible. He doesn't like her by the way", "summary": "Have crush on girl, she has crush on best friend, dont want to lose friendship"}
{"id": "t3_2fkbil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months, have a conflict with my mom's belief", "post": "Hi I will keep this relatively brief.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for about six months now. She is a great person, with a rocky past but is trying to move forward in life.\n\nShe recently took a job with an organization that performs abortions. This isnt a health clinic, but a full service center for women and sexual health. She is working on the administrative side and this is a cause she feels drawn to. \n\nI did not want to tell my mom about this situation, but my father accidentally told her through casual conversation (I was just planning on lying to my mom about her new job). So now my mom knows that she is working for this organization. \n\nMy mom is a pretty easy going person... except on this issue. She is very very very passionate about protecting the unborn. My girlfriend does not know that my mom knows yet, and I don't know how to handle it.\n\nMy mom basically said it breaks her heart and that I am breaking her heart by condoning my girlfriends career choice. \n\nI need some help navigating this situation. I obviously don't want to hurt the great and mature bond I have with my mom, but I also don't want to break ties with my girlfriend or for her to be in a hostile environment when we visit.\n\nTo provide more context, my girlfriend and I live in the same town as my folks and we see them at least once a week if not more.", "summary": "My mom is super pro-life and my girlfriend just got a job at a place that services abortions... clash *boom* help please"}
{"id": "t3_4fyxm9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [21/m] am fresh out of my only relationship [6 yr], I have no idea how to date, how to flirt", "post": "Just mutually broke up with my first and only girlfriend, and now I'm totally lost. I know next to nothing about how to flirt or participate in the dating game played at my age because the last time I actively sought companionship I was only 15.\n\nThe big hangup for me isn't just not knowing what to do or where to go, it's the fact that I'm really not a hookup kind of guy, that's not to say I'm only looking for a wife every time I meet someone new, but everything about my personality drives me towards longer term relationships with labels. I also don't drink which can make finding places to hang out with anyone on a date or just to meet people at my age kind of hard. \n\nLastly I feel like another obstacle is I've built an image with my friends and anyone I might be interested in dating in the future of myself as a very confident and happy guy, but without the support of my now-ex, I feel pretty depressed and very lonely most of the time and I just hide it when I'm with my friends.", "summary": "I was in a long term relationship since I was 15 that supplied me with confidence that I now no longer have and I don't know how to flirt or date without wanting to move towards a more committed relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2ueyu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] got broken up with my [21 F] of two months, found out my brother [23] had slept with my ex [19 f] the night before.", "post": "I am currently a senior at a north-east liberal arts college in the USA. A couple months ago I broke up with a girl (19) for a girl who was my own age (21). So, I had been dating my current GF for two months, both of us as seniors in college, when she broke up with me. I had known that before us breaking up the younger girl was very interested in me still. It turned out that the night before my (then) gf broke up with me my ex (19/f) slept with my older brother back in our home state, I still care about her. We (me and 19 yo girl) are in the same program at school and see each other at least four times a week, we have the same friend group. My brother is my best friend. I don't know how to deal with this.", "summary": "Brother slept with my ex gf who I still have feelings for. I'm hurt because I just got broken up with the day after it happened and the day I found out about it. Any advice before I burn bridges I can't fix?"}
{"id": "t3_392844", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) need advice on whether I should give up on this girl (19F) or not", "post": "Here's the story. I've been talking to this girl for over two years now and at first it was just friendly chats here and there. We got closer and closer and we've been talking almost every day for the past year or so. I wasn't really interested in her and she had a boyfriend so I didn't think anything of it. The more we spoke, the more I'd get attached.\n\nThings started going downhill around January this year when we both admitted we had feelings for eachother, which is a problem because she has a boyfriend. She always complains about how often they fight and they \"break up\" for a short period of time where I'm there supporting her but they always end up getting back together a few days later. I always get pissed off when this happens because she complains about him and tells me she hates him and still goes back to dating him when she knows I love her. I asked her what she wanted from me or how she saw me and her answer was \"I love you but I'm saving you for the future. I don't want to rush things with you because if things don't work out now i'll lose you forever and I want things to be perfect between us\". Part of me agreed with her but the other part felt used and it made me feel like I was just a plan B, or there to fill in the gap when things don't go well with her boyfriend. She assured me that wasn't the case but I still get really pissed, annoyed and jealous when she gets back and posts pictures with her boyfriend.\n\nEverytime this happens I tell her I'm leaving and I'm tired of her games but it never lasts more than a week. I miss her so much when we don't talk and I always end up going back just so the same thing happens weeks/months later.\nIt happened again two weeks ago, I left and ignored all her texts until yesterday because I missed her so much. I really need help because when I stick around I always end up getting angry and jealous but when I leave I miss her terribly.\n\nI don't know what to do and I need advice", "summary": "In love with a girl that has a boyfriend. Says she loves me too but won't leave her boyfriend for me because she doesn't want to ruin our relationship now. I get angry because I feel used and leave but I end up missing her and idk what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1jkx39", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "People in long term relationships, are you still attracted to your partner? [xposted to r/relationships]", "post": "I've been in a relationship [me27f, SO31m] for almost 5 years but there has been little sexual attraction (on my part) for the past 2 or 3 years. It's quite frustrating as we have an otherwise great relationship, and he still finds me just as sexually attractive as ever. We love each other, and he views me as the future mother of his children and the woman he will marry one day.\n\nI still find him physically attractive, but there is no sexual attraction at all. It's definitely not a psychological thing because I have found myself attracted to other people. Is losing sexual attraction to a long term partner normal? Is sexual attraction important in a long term relationship/marriage?\n\nHow many of you in long term relationships (2+ years, are still sexually attracted to your partners? Are there any of you who aren't? I can't imagine him not being in my life, but I also can't imagine being with someone forever who I am not sexually attracted to. \n\nI'm just wondering how many of you are in a similar experience or have had a similar experience\u2026it's quite frustrating.", "summary": "In a ltr and sexual attraction has faded on my end. How many of you in lts are still attracted to your partners? Is losing attraction normal?"}
{"id": "t3_jw8ij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Problems getting \"the one\" back...", "post": "Dear r/relationships, \n\nI have never heard of this sub before, but I currently feel like shit and I'm doing whatever I can to get some help- I was hoping you guys would be able to offer your advice.\n\nI am not naive on any of this. \nBasically, a girl and I fell in love over the summer - we are both in college.  College starts, and things are going well for the first day, then out of nowhere, she starts acting standoffish, and I find out later the next day that she isn't really looking for a relationship right now.  We agreed on being friends until school got going, then we would try to get back together - both of us are really busy, so we didn't want to have to worry about giving each other the proper amount of attention they deserve.  She says she still loves me, and I still love her, but I'm worried I wont get another chance with her.  I *know* we were right together.  Please offer any advice you have as to how to get her back.", "summary": "lost a girl im in love with, want to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_2sahzn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20F) have never been able to orgasm with my fiance (22M). Any advice?", "post": "We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!", "summary": "I've never had an orgasm with my fiance, and I feel increasingly stressed about it, which makes sexy stuff less enjoyable overall."}
{"id": "t3_353l6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have seen this girl [??F] I know nothing about on-campus the last few days... how do I ask her out?", "post": "So while walking around campus, I've seen this girl the last few days whom I've never seen before but who's really caught my eye. The only thing is that I have absolutely *zero* knowledge about her. Zilch. No idea her name, her age, major, anything. At the same time, I'm going to be leaving college for the summer, maybe permanently (I'm graduating but looking into a way to stay here and get a job), but more than anything, I don't want to leave here with any \"What if?\"s and all that jazz.   \n  \nSo, reddit, what's the best way to ask a girl you only see every once in a while in a way that doesn't come across as creeperish?", "summary": "I want to ask a girl I don't know out on a date; how do I do that without seeming like a weirdo?"}
{"id": "t3_11gi2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23f] Just confronted my boyfriend of 5 years [24m] about a text conversation I found between he and another man from earlier this morning in regards to a potential discrete hook-up/fwb. I'm kind of at a loss.", "post": "My boyfriend ALWAYS sleeps through his alarm, yet he always has one set. I wake up this morning to do just that when I notice \"horny as fck\" in a text when I used the pull down screen on a smartphone.\n\nI open it, and see risque/nude photos my boyfriend sent of himself to another guy, seeking a fwb type of thing. It sounded quite eager. They were hoping to meet as early as tonight, when my boyfriend got off work.\n\nI realize this might be embarrassing for my boyfriend so I calmly ask if we could talk about something. He tried to play dumb at first but finally came around. He said he has never hooked up with anyone and would never do so, it just turns him on talking to other guys. I guess it excites him like a fetish. The reason he doesn't flirt and do this with girls is because of me. He always felt grossed out after the fact and always deleted everything. \n\nThe talk itself didn't go well. He was really defensive, shifting the blame at times on me, \"I only do this when I'm too depressed, when I don't get enough attention from you... etc.\" He said he isn't bi, gay, and wouldn't have a threesome with another guy. \n\nOur relationship isn't the greatest and has been rocky for the most part/as of late. We don't have sex often, and I feel like the emotional connection isn't there anymore. Brief background on our relationship: it began abusive and gradually got worse, but after 2 and a half to 3 years in, it got better. Less hitting, more verbal attacking. I'm not trying to dog on him, he's a good guy at times, but more or less I feel like a lot of the times our relationship is a love/hate thing, literally.", "summary": "I caught my boyfriend trying to hook up with another guy via text -- my bf sent nude photos to him. "}
{"id": "t3_2ehbnk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25/m] Need advice on how to handle a very persistent suitor [30's/m].", "post": "I'm a 25yo male, I met a guy out a few years ago who is in his mid-thirties. We only met in passing, and he was living in a different state at the time. He found me online and started chatting with me, and from the start of things he kept saying that he wanted me to be his boyfriend.\n\nFast forward a couple years and I've relocated to the state in which he lives. I decided to meet up with him for a date just to see what it would be like. He's really nice, everything is fine, so I decide to pursue it. Then, I realize that he has an unhealthy obsession with being in a relationship...Basically, it's less about being with me, and more about him not being alone. He is the type who needs to be in a relationship to be happy/content. \n\nSo, I decide it isn't working and I tell him that I don't think we're a good match. I also tell him that I think he's wanting to be in a relationship for the wrong reason, and that I don't think we would be able to have a healthy relationship.\n\nHe continues to text me, he continues to ask me why I'm not talking to him. Every time I remind him, he doesn't listen and he responds with something like \"I never said I didn't want to talk to you anymore.\" Yeah...I know you didn't...because *I* told *you* that I don't want to pursue this any further.\n\nSo, anyway, he texts me at least a few times a day. I text back to be nice, but I will still occasionally remind him that I'm not interested. I don't want to be rude and I don't want to just ignore him, because I feel like that would be shitty, too...\n \nWhat should I do?", "summary": "I (25m) met a guy (30s,m) a couple years ago. Guy thinks I'm his soulmate immediately. I give him a chance, things are okay for the first few dates, then I realize his obsession and end things. He texts me every day, I've told him I'm not interested as well as why I'm not interested. His responses are telling me he refuses to accept that he is being rejected and he continues to pursue. Advice, please."}
{"id": "t3_vyeyn", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "New kitten urinating in the bed!", "post": "Monday, June 25th, my husband and I adopted a 10 week old kitten whom we have named [Picard] \n\nTwo days later I took him to the vet and he was cleared with a good bill of heath aside from some minor conjunctivitis, which he prescribed some eye ointment for. \n\nThings went great the rest of that week until that weekend when Picard started peeing on the bed. This is driving us both mad and I am worried that our mattress is going to get ruined. We came prepared with \"Nature's Miracle - Stain & Oder Remover\" though and have been using that on the pee-spots. Unfortunately, Picard has persisted since then with urinating on the bed. \n\nFrom 9-5 PM (and when we are asleep, as well) he is being *(temporarily - until he acclimates)* kept in our large bathroom where his litter box and food/water are at - during this time he using the litter box perfectly! \n\nI have done some reading on various forums and many people seem to chalk this behavior up to:\n\n1. Young age / still acclimating to new environment\n2. UTI (vet said he looked heathy? Should I still be concerned about this?)\n3. Territorial behavior (on a side note, he is neutered)\n\nEvery time we catch him in the act we squirt him with water/startle him and tell him no, then put him in the litter box. Should we be doing something else? What else can I do to prevent this?\n\nWe have both had cats in the family before, but neither of us have ran into this issue and I am looking for some options. Any advice is appreciated!", "summary": "New kitten is urinating in our bed. Help! "}
{"id": "t3_386mub", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Looking to entertain the kids during summer... I have NO clue where to begin...", "post": "Hello parents. Well summer is here YAY (sigh!) and it's time to get our summer VACAY on. My kids are 10 and 13, and I've worked every summer since forever...\n\nBut this summer I get to be with the kids and their mom is at work until 2PM.. So im looking for IDEAS or things to do. So far we have watch 26 seasons of The Simpsons but I don't want to sit around all summer watching TV. I love the Simpsons but no.\n\nOk so far I have the obvious planned out:\n\nBeach\nPark\nMall\nMuseums\n\nI guess I wanted CRAZY and interesting ideas... For example I want to go to the mountains, build a fort there out of blankets and cardboard boxes and act like we're in the dark ages. Some sword fighting, running, etc.. But this is just one day. I need something like this, but every day. Well at least 4 times a week and we can just watch Simpsons for 3 days of the week.\n\nSo any ideas?", "summary": "Looking for crazy and interesting ideas to entertain the kids with all summer."}
{"id": "t3_2m76l1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "If you are thinking about joining DirecTV - DONT!!", "post": "Hey all, first time post here.  Just wanted to share my DirecTV experience in the hope of helping out anyone else that might be considering signing up.\n\nI joined DirecTV a little over year ago because I had grown extremely dissatisfied with Time Warner Cable.  One the the incentives/perks DirecTV offers to new customers is a free season of their NFL Sunday Ticket package.  This is a nice perk for many people I guess, but not really useful for me because I follow the local team and all the games are on local broadcast TV.\n\nFast forward to this year, I looked at my October billing statement and found out that DirecTV has been charging me $40/month for the past several months for the fucking NFL Sunday Ticket package that I did not choose to renew! I have auto pay, so I don't normally look at my bill very closely and didn't notice until my October statement. I called customer service and had to speak to four different levels of people before I finally got someone who said she would take care of it for me.  The call took more than 45 minutes and was beyond frustrating.  \n\nTwo weeks later I received my next bill and, you guessed it.  There is another $40 charge on there for NFL Sunday Ticket.  I called back in and found that the first three people I had spoken to on my previous call had noted the account, up to the point that they told me the most they could do was credit me for half of the charges.  The final supervisor I spoke to never noted the account - how convenient.  I ended up spending another 55 minutes on the phone and talked to another four people, but never got anyone to offer anything other than crediting me for half the charges.  At this point I am going to file a small claims suit against DirectTV and will be cancelling my service as soon as my contract is up in July.", "summary": "DirecTV added services to my account that I did not ask for and billed me for it.  After wasting almost two hours of my time, they will only refund half of what they charged for the unwanted services. "}
{"id": "t3_f21pp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone had any experience with [Coat's Disease?](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coats'_disease)  (sometimes spelled Coate's)", "post": "Hi everyone,\nI was recently diagnosed with Coats disease.  I am probably classified as a 2A in the severity of the disease.  I was originally diagnosed with a Retinal Hemangioblastoma, but when the cut into my eye to surgically remove the tumor they found no tumor but a mass of irregular blood vessels that were indicitive of Coats.  Coats in a nutshell is shitty bloodvessels in your retina.  These blood vessels constantly leak blood into your eye which obscures your vision and blinds you until the blood is removed.  They treated the area with Cryotherapy at the time.  A few months later my vision became crappy again and they decided to go in for a second round of Cryotherapy.  A few more months down the road that didn't seem to be stopping the leakage either so they went in to do some Photo Dynamic Therapy (PDT).  A few days after the treatment I gradually lost all the sight in my right eye and am now effectively blind in that eye.  The irregular blood vessels don't seem to be responding very well.  If the blood doesn't clear itself out I have to go in for some more surgery in a couple of weeks.  Does anyone have any advice on someone to see for a second opinion?  Any clinics/hospitals in the U.S. they can reccomend?  I am begining to wonder if my current doctor is able to effectively treat whats going on.  Maybe I am being neurotic, I dunno.  Any advice would be helpful.\n\nBTW, I am currently being treated at the Casey Eye Institute in Portland, OR.", "summary": "I would like some reccomendations on other hospitals/clinics that specialize in this disorder."}
{"id": "t3_1p4sqw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 2 years: he's active on an online dating site. PLEASE HELP!", "post": "He left his mail open on MY laptop, I scrolled but didn't open anything and saw that a girl had \"responded to [his] message\" on a dating website. I'm pre-freak out (just a few tears) because I wanted some advice first. \n\nI know I'm the wrong. I shouldn't have looked. In addition, I had an account on a different site during our relationship that I closed six months ago after he found out (I secretly met up with a lesbian from the site and he walked in before anything sexual happened. He broke up with me but we got back together soon after).\n\nI wish I could \"unsee\" what I saw. Do I talk to him? Do I just let it eat me alive knowing that we deserve our privacy? I feel so betrayed, but also I feel like I deserve it. There's no harm in chatting, but what if it's more than that? Maybe there's a point in a relationship in which both parties have just been too cruel to continue the cycle of shock and forgiveness. What's the protocol for this situation?", "summary": "I met a girl from an online dating site and he forgave me for it, now I find out that he's chatting to girls online."}
{"id": "t3_3gddss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M/F] with my Ex Girlfriend [20 F] of 4 years broke up and felt very little pain.", "post": "When we first broke up i had a lot of pain. I would wake up in the middle of the night and dreamt about her constantly. It took 3 months before I could finally move on with myself. And even then I talked to her shortly afterwards and we got back together. When we broke up the first time i kept the pain to myself and constantly checked her facebook pictures and blogs. I would think about her everyday. \n\nNow we break up again because i felt that she cheated on me emotionally. Though this break up is different than the last. I got over my pain within a week. I started feeling good after a week. Now I cut off all communication, blocked her on all social media, listed a chart with negative things about her, went out non stop with friends, got a friends with benefits, started exercising, got a promotion at work. \n\nI know i should be happy but sometimes i feel like im not. Like i've betrayed our love. Like if me being happy means i didn't actually love her. It's been currently 1 month since we have stopped talking. \nIs this a feeling some people have had?", "summary": "broke up with my cheating girlfriend, feel happy, but then again like I betrayed our love."}
{"id": "t3_12t0tj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and shattered a bowl in the dish washer", "post": "I was loading the dishwasher the other day and I had just put a large, white bowl on the top rack. I was rinsing my mom's (glass) coffee cup that she had let sit for a while, and then I went to put it on the top rack next to the bowl.\n\nThe glass slipped out of my hand, and it the large white glass bowl. It then exploded and scattered broken glass INSIDE the damn dishwasher, all over the floor, and all over the dishwasher door.\n\nSo here I am, picking glass out of my feet, digging in the dishwasher to get glass out, and sweeping the broken glass off of the floor.", "summary": "I'm buying paper utensils now."}
{"id": "t3_2r5m4x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU, by not telling the woman I love that I am in love with her", "post": "Like most this didn't happen today but five days ago, however they have been a dark five days.  \n\nPrelude: we had been seeing each other for four months and five days when this happened.  There is an age gap. I have been hurt by women in the past. She had previously expressed her feelings to me.  \n\nOn this day she asks, \"am I in love with her?\"  \n\nShe is my heart, and of course the answer should be yes with our a doubt.  My fear of being hurt again takes over though.  My answer, while generic,  skirts the lines of both feelings.  I say something to the effect of how amazing she is and that I think that is a feeling to be grown into over time.  This was not ok and prompted an unceremonious exit from her.  \n\nShe is now done with the relationship, I am devastated.", "summary": "She inquired of my feelings for her and I played it safe betraying my feelings and losing a great relationship."}
{"id": "t3_39lnfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25f] needs help with text etiquette with the guy I'm seeing [25]", "post": "Hi everyone! I'll keep this short. Also I'm on mobile so please excuse mistakes.\n\nThis guy and I dated for 5 years. We broke up this past December and moved 2hrs away from each other. Last month we decided to try again and take things extremely slow.\n\nI texted him yesterday morning asking him if he wanted to go watch Jurassic World in the town my sister is in (about an hour away so it'll require some coordination and planning) this weekend. No day was set yet. That was at 10am. \n\nI texted him back to try to see if he wanted to hike and do the movie after in the town because the area is known for being great for hikes. He replied, asking if it would be a whole day thing. I replied that it would be. Then I hear nothing back until I am putting my phone down because I'm about to pass out. This morning I check my phone and he texted me back over 12hrs later asking what time would we leave and that he was okay with my hike+movie plan.\n\nThe problem is that during this entire day's worth (over 12hrs!) of silence from him, my friends start making plans for stuff this weekend that I would like to take part in.\n\nSo my dilemma is this. Am I in the wrong for not holding out for him to reply? Should I not try to make any plans with friends when something may possibly have the potential of happening with him at some point in the future? I know people can get busy but I personally don't want to feel like I'm waiting by the telephone for a guy to respond...", "summary": "Guy I'm seeing doesn't respond to questions about plans until an entire waking day's worth of hours have passed. "}
{"id": "t3_3vk952", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not clearing my browser...", "post": "Oldest fuck-up in the book right?  Well for me it goes one step deeper.  I have gotten really lazy with whats on my laptop as nobody else is really ever on the internet on it, and as a single college guy a lot of dubious sites are cached in my browser.  Of course it finally caught up with me.\n\nLast night I was smoking with friends at a post game party, things cooling down.  This one girl was still hanging with us from the party, and seemed into me.  It's a sweet change of pace compared to recent history, except while I have Spotify rolling from my laptop onto speakers in my small hot-boxxed bedroom she wants to share a youtube video.  Yup.  Your probably like, couldn't you just say youtube, we'd have known the story.  Well, it's my tifu so... gtfo.\nI say I'll pull it up but she's right there next to the computer and sees the obvious flash of youporn.com before the tube gets typed.   \n\nIn and of itself it wasn't too bad, as she laughed and said it would be the same situation with her computer.  But, pair that with other fu's with my being super high and twisted and I pushed her away.", "summary": "Left history untouched, and youporn.com became a self-fulfilling prophecy."}
{"id": "t3_1p50yb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's [M24] really embarrassed. How do I [F24] explain to him that I still find him attractive?", "post": "This is pretty innocent but he's embarrassed, so I figured I'd ask.\n\nLast night, my boyfriend had his wisdom teeth removed and was VERY loopy after the surgery. I was the one driving him home and taking care of him, so I got to witness the whole thing. \n\nDuring the five minute car ride home, he was zoning in and out and was really quiet. When we got home, I made him go to bed because he said he was tired. So as I was tucking him in, I leaned in to give him a hug and that's when he started crying. Like he literally had his arms wrapped around me and was crying into my chest for ten minutes. lol. Poor thing. \n\nHe's a manly guy and in the year we've been together, that was the first time I've ever seen him cry. He's not the emotional type at all.\n\nAnyway, once the drugs wore off and he woke up this morning, he was extremely embarrassed. Now he's worried that I may not find him attractive anymore. \n\nIs there anything I can do to make the situation better? Do I need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him? Or do I just pretend like it never happened?", "summary": "Boyfriend cried for the first time in front of me last night and now he's worried that I find him unattractive."}
{"id": "t3_38ukzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18F] just told me [19M] that we can't kiss or even hug until marriage for religious reasons", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for a short while, and things were going quite well. She was quite comfortable with expressing her affection for me up until today. At the beginning of the relationship, she won't have sex before marriage, which I was completely fine with. I am an atheist, but I completely respect her religious views. However, today she tells me that we can't actually express any physical affection whatsoever anymore. She asked her pastor for guidance in a relationship, as she has not had one before. He told her that any form of hugging or kissing outside of marriage is equally as sinful as sex before marriage. I do not plan on getting married until I am done university. I am planning on completing my full Ph.D, which would mean that I have 8-9 years of university left. Right now, I have no idea what to say or do. I would feel absolutely awful for dumping her because of her religious views.", "summary": "My girlfriend won't hug or kiss me until marriage, what do I do and/or say to her?"}
{"id": "t3_30hbyj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] with my mums flatmate/boyfriend/friend [42M] wondering if we can ever get our relationship back to how it used to be.", "post": "Ok so for a little backstory my mum started dating this guy when I was 4 before she divorced with my father. But after 1 year called it off with my father who later remarried and moved away but this new man has been a father figure to me ever since. So over this 11 year period there have been 8 accounts of both verbal and physical assault of which I witnessed ( most likely quiet a few more) and 2 of them involving  me calling the police and him getting arrested and 1 failed attemp at a restraining order. \n\nOk so after all of this happened about 2010 she was finaly called it of with him which was hard as he controlled her financialy and less than 6 months later I see her phone in the table and a notification on the phone giving a time and address so it clicked she was back to dating him and thus began the cycle again of abuse and break up and this happened up until mid 2014. This is where the relationship stopped for a while until we then move in with him as a flat mate and this I find hard to believe as they sleep in the same bed and have heard them having sex even though we live in a 3 room flat. So can and should I try and forgive and become how it used to be even if he did what he did.", "summary": "should I forgive and try and make up with a man who abused and controlled my mother for years even if he was like a father figure to me."}
{"id": "t3_1jtwqe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18F] with my boyfriend [23M] of several months, recently got into a fight and he's suddenly making everything my decision.", "post": "A couple weeks ago my boyfriend and I got into a fight over something small resulting in him apologizing for overreacting, but things havent been the same. He's been constantly apologizing about what happened and making every choice up to me, like what movie to watch, where to go, what to do, ect. I dont know if he's just feeling bad about the fight or if he doesnt have the effort to care about our relationship anymore. Normally we are very open with each other and i could just ask him if anything is wrong between us but i dont want it leading to another fight.", "summary": "Got into a fight with my boyfriend and now every decision is up to me. Does he not care anymore or is he just feeling guilty?"}
{"id": "t3_3iltdt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Convince me that taking a mortgage out on a house right now is a good investment/idea.", "post": "This isn't a question of affordability - my wife and I have great credit, low debt and by every criteria we could afford the average house in our area.\n\nBut....we make well above the average income, and yet we can really only afford the average house. In our area the average income/price ratio is higher than average compared to other regions, never-mind it's also way above its historical average. And housing prices have been rising much faster than incomes as well. \n\nSome people see that and think \"I better buy now before it's too late!\" But I can't help but think the current prices are already detached enough from their intrinsic value as it is. It's not quite 2007 levels but it's on track to getting back there. \n\nSo that makes me consider buying a house outright for cash is already questionable idea. But most people don't do that. Now also consider that not only have mortgage rates been very low for quite some time, but they've been dropping at a steady clip for the better part of 30 years. To the point where it's inconceivable that they get any lower. By definition that must have had a significant positive effect on the nominal value of homes in the past. And thus even the long term return of investing in a house is based on an idealized version of the market, a distortion that there's no reason to believe can continue (unless rates literally go negative) and every reason to believe will reverse, even if the timing and magnitude is uncertain. And considering mortgage rates are so low, and increase from 4%to 5% would have a massive impact on the affordability of a house - a mortgage payment that would get you a 400K house at 4% today would only get you a 360K house at 5%. And that *must* push prices down. \n\nNow I'm sure very few people here would advise someone to borrow 400K at 4% to buy bonds on margin at any time, but especially at a time when rates seem destined to rise, it seems borderline insane. So why is borrowing to buy a house any different, when the ramifications of rising rates are the same?", "summary": "buying a house seems like a crazy idea, convince me it's sane based on reason and not wishful thinking."}
{"id": "t3_3noewp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my BF [40M] of 3 months, and a lot of things are popping up..", "post": "I met my SO last year during one of our classes at university. He had to go back to university to upgrade a few courses for his job, while I have been working on my program. We hit it off right away! Throughout the semester we hung out, studied together, and made plans to do different activities. Around the start of he summer I told him that I really liked him, and that I really wanted to be exclusive with him. He was open about how he felt and asked how I would feel dating I guy in his 40s. I told him I could careless!\n\nBefore we met, he and his now ex wife of 10 years just broke up. Throughout the our relationship he has had to deal with a lot of the paper work and dealings from the divorce. I have been trying to be supportive and helpful in anyway possible. But, I have been noticing that things have been popping up in the last month. \n\nHe has been balancing the few courses he has been doing, along with work and his divorce settlement. But, for some reason, I just feel like I haven't been any importance to him. He doesn't really want me around when he is dealing with all of the legal stuff and issues with his ex wife. Not to mention, the last couple times we have scheduled to meet up or hang out, he has ended up backing out the day of. We haven't really seen each other in a couple weeks.. Plus, we don't really text a whole lot as much as we used to.. I'm worried that he is getting less interested in me. Am I reading too much into this?", "summary": "Started dating my SO in the beginning of the summer. Things have been popping up on his end lately, and we barely see each other or speak that much. How should I proceed in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_1elias", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) recently broke up with a long-term GF (23F), having second thoughts.", "post": "We dated for 2.5 years since junior year of college. I ended things about 1 week ago because I felt that although she was someone I considered marriage material, I felt I had not dated around enough as I was beginning to have doubts. She was a great girlfriend, and we did have some real wonderful moments. I simply couldn't get past my apprehensions, and on a deeper level I did sometimes feel that we weren't compatible. (we're both very laid back/easy-going so we rarely did anything - kind of realized I needed a much more active, opinionated gf). \n\nI feel like a part of me is gone and I miss her very much. I do realize that this is part of the healing process. We dated for a while and it is weird to not be with her/in constant contact. However, I have struggled as all I can remember are the good parts of the relationship, but not how I felt sometimes that it needed to end when I was in it.  \n\nI can't help but feel like I may have let something slip through my fingertips. Although I have had a few gf's in the past, I have never broken up with anyone for seemingly no reason (such as someone cheated) so I feel its been harder.\n\nHave I made the right decision?", "summary": "Missing ex-gf I broke up with because I was having doubts about our relationship/felt the need to date around and try new things. Right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_11q5nj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20 M) I have started having issues with my (19 F) girlfriend after almost 2 and a half years, now we are on a break...", "post": "So yeah i really dont know what this is but i thought this might be a safe place to post considering i dont really know anyone here. It is somewhat relevant, that due to her strong sense of religion we have postponed sexual relationships which is her choice and i respect it. Currently im in a LDR with my girlfriend and it has been like this for over a year. At first, it was great, we traveled, she visited NJ, NY and we even went to Peru, but recently she has been having trouble at school so we havent had a chance to connect. A couple of days ago she we had an argument, she was never able to be there for me and i ended up having to carry our relationship. This is when things took a turn for the worse. During our earlier stages in our relationship, we reached second base, I did not just throw myself onto her but i did not do anything to stop myself. So for the last year or so given the situation we might get to second base ( and i truly saw nothing wrong with it) and only second base. I recently found out that this actually wasn't as innocent for her and she had been keeping quiet feeling that if she said something she might jepordaize our relationship. I truly feel so ashamed of myself, i have begged her for her forgivness i mean i truly feel like i the worst scum of this earth having taken advantage of her but at this moment i feel it is pointless. She asked me for a break and while it has only been 2 days i just cant get rid of this feeling. I know many people here have had worse problems, and i truly feel for all those people but i have no where else to turn so even if no one can help it feels a bit better to just let some of it out.", "summary": "I inadvertantly took advantage of my Gf and now realize the damage i have caused and fear it might not be able to be fixed."}
{"id": "t3_4wcz8n", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Threatened to be reported to the police even though I followed the law, need help", "post": "Today I was on my way home from work, and I happened to be stuck behind an old couple on my road doing 28 MPH in a 45 MPH area. The road was a yellow passing zone, so I put my turn indicator on and passed them at 45 MPH. They followed me (albeit slowly) all the way to my house and yelled out that they have my plate info and are going to contact the police. Do they have the ability to cause legal action against me even though I followed the law? This is in Michigan By the way.", "summary": "I passed an old couple who were going incredibly slow, while still following legal limits, they threaten police."}
{"id": "t3_1sujpn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (f21) am a serial drama queen.", "post": "Today I had my finals and got excited about going out for drinks to celebrate. I texted my boyfriend(m21) asking if he'd like to go around 6pm, tried calling one time around 7, and he didn't respond until midnight because he was out with a friend and as a rule he doesn't look at his phone when he is with friends. \n\nHe was very apologetic and I felt horrible when I answered the phone in a grumpy tone and I was embarrassed after I explained that I was lonely since all my plans fell through and I hadn't seen him in a week. \n\nWe live in our mutual home town, where all my friends have moved away and his are around since they moved back. I try to meet new people, i play sports and instruments and have many hobbies, but its harder than it sounds to see people outside of those things. I have a few people that I see maybe once a month or bimonthly to hang out, but they are almost always busy. \n\nI've done this before when he was out with friends and I didn't know it and he didn't respond for hours, and I hate myself every time I spend time feeling sad about it. We always reconcile and I apologize, but I'm tired of my emotions getting ahead of me.\n\nPeople who have fewer/no friends but have an SO who does have them, how do you cope?", "summary": "I get mad when he doesn't respond for hours when he's out with friends when i didn't know that he was. I see him maybe twice a week and I don't ask for more but I feel clingy because I have no social life. I'm a drama queen and I want to stop."}
{"id": "t3_4me8y2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30M) don't think my position at my current job will last much longer, how can I approach colleagues to \"create\" a position at another employer?", "post": "I could use some interpersonal communications and relationship advice when it comes to the professional realm, I'm hoping you guys can help.  Apologies for the burner account, I don't necessarily want anyone to know I might be job hopping.\n\nLong story short, my current office has had a change in ownership that has both created a cultural incompatibility and doesn't exactly bode well for the future of the company.  It's discouraging news, but I'm trying to turn it into a positive.\n\nI have a meeting next week where I'd volunteered to put in some significant volunteer hours for my university I'd graduate from and had worked full time at for a number of years.  I'd heard around a year or so ago that the university was interested in creating a position for basically the job I'd be volunteering for, so I'm trying to see if I can get that done.\n\nWhat are the best ways to reach out and make that happen?  I know that I need to make my intentions clear, but at the same time not be too overly bold about it.  What would you all reccomend in terms of how to approach the situation and perhaps get the job created?\n\nHas anyone been in that position before where you're trying to be bold enough to have a job created for you?  What steps did you take?  Even if you haven't been in that position, what would you recommend?", "summary": "My position at my current office likely won't last much longer, either out of my own choosing or because the place might not exist much longer.  I'm going to soon be putting in a lot of hours into a volunteer position that realistically turn into a full time paid position, and could use advice on making that transition happen and how to convince people of it."}
{"id": "t3_52fdi0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and lost a nipple", "post": "Let me start this by saying that this was quite a few years ago and I'm still missing 75% of my nipple. \n\nMy house has a fenced in backyard and an open front yard. The west side of my house has a gate connecting my driveway to my backyard. The east side is just a weird little spot that looks like it should be a driveway but it's completely empty and has a fence (no gate) separating my front and backyard. At the time, we were putting together a swing set but we weren't done yet. \n\nHere's where I fucked up.\n\nBeing a young boy that recently discovered free-running on the Internet, I decided to try to clear the fence in one clear motion. I successfully vaulted myself over the fence but forgot about the swing set two feet from the fence. I'm descending from the fence and the left part of my shirtless chest hooks onto an exposed screw on the swing and rips a large part of my areola clean off. I then walk into my back door crying, my chest covered in blood, to get my dad. Note: It's pretty hard to explain why your left nipple is missing and bloody when you're crying hysterically.", "summary": "wannabe free runner= one nipple"}
{"id": "t3_1g04qa", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My dog just savagely killed a baby rabbit infront of kids at the park", "post": "We were playing fetch for about ten minutes when i decided to launch her toy as far as i could. She ran after it but stopped and started sniffing the grass around her. I thought she was going to use the bathroom but i was wrong. She started digging furiously until i saw her pull something out of the ground. It was a baby rabbit, she was tearing it apart faster than i could run up to her to save the poor thing. By the time i got to her she was eating it, i saw the legs sticking out of her mouth then she swallowed it whole. The kids in the playground all stopped and just watched in horror. I picked up her toy and we left.", "summary": "she ate the bones."}
{"id": "t3_hbvwk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you know any good brain puzzles? Here's one.. (pic)", "post": "[The prisoners and hats puzzle (pic)](\n\n(Puzzle is explained on picture)\n\n--\n\nSolution:\nThe prisoners know that there are only two hats of each colour. So if Derp 1 observes that Derp 2 and 3 have hats of the same colour, Derp 1 would deduce that his own hat is the opposite colour. However, if Derp 2 and 3 have hats of different colours, then Derp 1 can say nothing. The key is that Derp 2, after allowing an appropriate interval, and knowing what Derp 1 would do, can deduce that if Derp 1 says nothing, the hats on Derp 2 and 3 must be different. Being able to see Derp 3's hat he can deduce his own hat colour. (The fourth prisoner is irrelevant to the puzzle: his only purpose is to wear the fourth hat).", "summary": "Derp 2 can tell which hat he has."}
{"id": "t3_xpj93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How does taking it slow work?", "post": "So, my boyfriend (21M) of a year and a half and I (20F) have decided to take things slowly as we were living together and things got far too intense what with us at university etc. \n\nWe now live separately and I don't know how to handle this! I feel so lonely and want to text him constantly but I'm scared we won't see this next year through. I love him a terribly huge amount, and have this knot in my stomach.\n\nI don't know why I feel like crying, I guess I need to see this as a step forwards, not backwards for us as I was becoming very dependent on him and jealous.. but it's so strange not spending every night with him.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have decided to take things slow, how do I deal with this? How do I make him want me more, or show him that I'm an amazing person - I know I should just be myself, but I want tips!"}
{"id": "t3_1qve9r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any suggestions on how to get a Hayao Miyazaki?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of years now, but we've never gotten the time to spend Christmas with each other in person before due to international studies and work. We are always so busy during the holidays, but this year we've decided to finally spend our holidays together for one and I'm so excited!\n\nHer family and herself are a pretty well off family in the upper class, while I'm just about average middle class. Why I'm stating this is because when it comes to getting her a present, she's a bit expensive due to how accustomed she is due to her background. I spoil her when I get the chance and I try to pamper her, because I'm absolutely in love with her.\n\nWith that being said, she's a huge Totoro fan and also Hayao Miyazaki fan. My idea this year is nothing that could come that money can buy, but hopefully by the off chance that anyone could suggest me on how I could obtain his autograph on a Totoro picture or anything for that matter?\n\nHayao Miyazaki has made such a huge impact on her life artistic wise and I guess the fact that she's also Japanese, she just feels that it represents much of her culture as well.\nAny suggestions will help.", "summary": "I really want to make this X-Mas memorable for my girlfriend by getting her a Hayao Miyazaki autograph. Any suggestions or connections? :)"}
{"id": "t3_ujybw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(19m) I want advice about approaching strangers, in groups/ alone. I'll explain more...", "post": "...in the post! I like to think that i'm pretty charismatic most of the time, I'm a bit chubby but not threatening. So why is it hard for me to approach strangers in groups? Especially if i'm alone. Like if I go to a pool hall or something I won't talk to anybody unless someone approaches me. I play pool by myself a lot in school. I think i'd be really nice to make friends with people and anybody that I know would tell you that once I get to know you I'm anything but shy. Is this a regular thing?\n\nI figure once I can approach people and groups as a friendly person I might be able to do it with the opposite sex after a while. Also I can do being introduced by a mutual friend but without a necessary cause (work, school, summer camp,etc) I cannot talk to unknown people. Finally doing this without seeming like a creeper would be nice too!", "summary": "Help me talk to strangers individually and in groups as a friend so that I can talk to people that I might want to have sex with as easily."}
{"id": "t3_10xwon", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Confusion With New Relationship", "post": "Okay, So me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a month now (hope that's okay for this sub). this is my first college relationship so I'm not sure if this is normal, but I feel no Rush (or i guess heat?) in the relationship. This isn't to say i don't like her though. \n\nI really enjoy hanging out with her. She's very nice and encouraging and i love doing things for her, like help her study or read over papers and stuff. We have had some encounters (no intercourse yet), but it feels like i like her in a comfort way, like how one likes a teddy bear or security object. There is no feeling of I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU That i felt in past relationships (I beleive this is called the honeymoon phase?). \n\nBut i should also mention that most of my past girlfriends have been emotional abusive, and my current girlfriend is very emotionally supportive. So i guess my question is, am i normal for not having a honey Moon Phase?", "summary": "New good relationship doesn't have as much \"heat\" feeling as past bad relationships. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2fxg4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21F) boyfriend (22M) of 1.5 years broke up with me yesterday, and I need to win him back.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have had a pretty tough time for most of our relationship. He made some not so good choices over a year ago and it's been tough for me to move last that mentally. After he dumped me yesterday, I suddenly truly realized that it was ME who after all this time was pulling out relationship down... What he had done was in the past but my inability to let go of it constantly came up and broke us. I love him. I love him with all my heart. He is the kindest, most genuine person in the world, and I can't imagine going through day after day without him. I've taken him for granted and now I don't know what to do. We're meeting on Monday to discuss our week and see if maybe there's a chance for us to get back together. It doesn't seem too likely from his end though. I know that this time things will truly be different - they'll be like when we met - amazing and without constant fighting. How can I show him this?", "summary": "I messed up my relationship and I want my baby back"}
{"id": "t3_1c7x11", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Attention fellow Redditors and ENT's...I'm an ENT and i'm looking for music recommendations to listen to when i go on my next \"Galactic Journey\"", "post": "Hello, and as some of you probably already know, due to the label 'ENT', I smoke pot. And because of that, I'm asking fellow Redditors, such as you, for their musical input on what i should listen to while on a 'trip'. I've been listening to Dubstep, electronic, techno, complextro, metal and some retro. But recently I've come to hear some Reggae, Reggae/Dubstep (such as 'Make it Bun Dem by Skrillex...if you could call that Reggae) and Retro Reggae (like Electric Avenue by Eddie Grant) and i really liked it. But the problem is I don't know any artists/bands/song names to look up to listen to. So I would like your guys' help on finding artists/bands/song names to look up. Thanks, and have a nice day. And to my ENT friends; Keep it dank and burn it slow ;)", "summary": "I need music recommendations for Reggae, Reggae-Dubstep and any variations of the genre."}
{"id": "t3_161x1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a strong desire to cheat...", "post": "I [31M] have been seeing this girl [29F] for about 3 months.  I love her, she is fantastic, but obviously we both have our faults.  I'm over-critical and she deals with rage/dependency/trust issues.  We get along fairly well but have fights and deal with our issues as they come.  She is not aware of my constant, very strong desire to cheat on her.  If we don't spend the night together I'll go to a bar to meet women, or even a strip club to look at and proposition strippers.  I haven't done anything yet, but feel it's only a matter of time.\n\nThis is the most serious relationship I've been in.  I don't feel I can talk to her about this sort of thing because she already has trust and insecurity issues and this would just break her.  She is completely in Love with me and I love her almost as much.", "summary": "I struggle with fidelity and feel like I'll cheat soon, but I can't hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_3pb4lw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Crappy Week", "post": "Just got done crying everything that happened this week out of me. I feel so shitty. 3 people in my small town of 3,500 people died within the past two days. My boyfriend's temper has been flared, due to work issues, and since we work at the same company, it makes it worse. I knew 2 out of the three people that have died. I didn't know them well, but it still fucking sucks that they're dead. One of the people that died was a coworker. I had only met her once, but doing work, I keep noticing comments she has made in our system. It shows her name attached to those comments. It's hard to look at, hundreds of customers have comments on their customer profiles that she had written. She died in a head on car crash at the age of 47. She didn't deserve this. The other girl, she was 16, and was a school friend of my sister. She died of leukemia. She only lived for 4 months after being diagnosed. She didn't deserve it either.  Life isn't fucking fair. The President of our company is being grumpy and controlling, a department manager retired because he was being bullied, causing an entire department to be turned upside down. My boyfriend has been pissy, and taking it out on me. I have personal issues, regarding my physical and mental health that have been bogging me down. I have the responsibilities that go along with being an adult dragging me down as well.", "summary": "this week fucking sucks."}
{"id": "t3_4o5gnc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex? [21 F] of 5 months. Taking a break due to distance?", "post": "My girlfriend (21) asked for a break about a month ago - this was after 5 months of a really solid relationship. Friends from both sides continually would comment on how great we were together. Basically, all seemed well until we came to the end of school where she asked for the break because she is going to be out of the country for the next 6 months. \n\nI was taken a little aback because I thought things were going so well and was willing to try the long distance. However, she cited things like not being as invested as I was and needing sometime to find herself. It hurt, but it didn't seem to be up to much debate so I asked for some time to myself. \n\nThe only terms of the break she really clarified is that she wanted to stay in contact and that I could see other people. I took this last month to really think about the relationship, and it has been really hard because I've realized I really want to get back together. However, the problem of distance still remains.\n\nWe've started loosely messaging (8 hour time difference), and it's only served to intensify these feelings. For me, emotionally, the best thing to do would be to cut off communication because I was doing okay before that started up again. However, as objectively as I can say it, I think we are a great match for each other, so I'm afraid to go against her wishes of the break. I also feel as though some form of communication lowers the chances she does something with someone else and, further, see it as a chance to grow as friends. \n\nI hate the idea of being tied down to someone who is a question mark - so, if decide to cut off communication, do I tell her how I feel/things I've learned from the break? And, is this infringing on the space she asked for or not? Similarly, if I decide to stick it out on the break, do I still say these feelings? I don't want to push her away by forcing her to talk about something she isn't ready for. \n\nSorry for the length, this whole break thing is just super confusing. Thanks for any help!", "summary": "Great relationship but on break due to distance, should I stay in communication with her?"}
{"id": "t3_czch7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "\"Boyfriend vanished for a month\" Update", "post": "Original post [here] \n\nIn order for some of this to make sense, it would probably help if you knew a little about me/the relationship: I'm 21 and about to start my last year of undergrad. I live at home to take care of my mom, who suffers from severe depression and anxiety. He's 26 and just got out of law school, and has a new job at a law firm. We live about 45 minutes away from one another and usually spend the weekends together. \n\nI talked to him this morning (Monday). His story is that he was wrapped up in work (his case was getting ready for trial) and didn't have time to call. He told me that he knew things were over after the last weekend we spent together (June 26th and 27th). According to him, our lives no longer have room for one another and he can't see us overcoming the obstacles facing our relationship.", "summary": "His excuse was work-related. The relationship is over. "}
{"id": "t3_1rq21q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] don't know how/when to tell my parents that I'm moving out of the house... and out of state.", "post": "I'm living with my parents right now, due to some serious injuries I've since recovered from.  I have the opportunity to move for a 9 month internship that might turn into a job.  Even if it doesn't, I'd like to be in the general area where I want to settle down, so that I can drive to future interviews.\n\nI'm planning to move in March, and haven't told my family yet.  I will probably tell my sister first, as she's the most reasonable.  I like my parents, but they're kinda... strange sometimes.  They don't like risk at all, and have told me many times that they don't understand why I want to live in a specific region when I can save money by working locally... even though it's a bad state for my career and I've hated it ever since moving here.\n\nAny advice?  I'm thinking of telling my sister today.  Otherwise I'd need to explain why I'm not signing with her new gym (last day to do it for cheap!) and naming her as referral.", "summary": "Parents want me to stay local.  I'm planning to move pretty far away, and don't know when to tell them.  Should I tell my sister today?"}
{"id": "t3_smora", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Where are you guys getting cheap dental plans? (USA here)", "post": "I live in MI and have been checking out dental plans. I found roughly 4 or 5 \"real plans\" and then a ton of indemnity plans. I generally shy away from the indemnity stuff because Aflac never presented themselves well, and I have wrote the idea off since. The \"real plans\" vary from $19-47 a month basically. That has become my perception of a good deal. $19/mo includes 100% preventative care (2 cleanings+annual xray), and then $50 deductible followed by 50% coverage of everything else.\n\nI read around the net and it appears some people are getting dental as low as $7.50-10/mo. I won't link around because it could be perceived as spam, but what are your experiences? The \"cadillac plans\" are about $35-47 and the \"el cheapo\" more for preventative card/50% coverage of more major tooth work have been $19-27 from my experiences.\n\nI have switched from Delta to Humana dental because Delta was like $5/mo more and it only did 50% on preventative care. So it was a no brainer that Humana being $5 less and 100% preventative with the same terms beyond that.", "summary": "I pay $19/mo dental. Is this too much/too little? What are your experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_2yhx8i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [28M] stay friends with a girl [25F] I have feelings for?", "post": "Hi guys. I've been reading this subreddit for a few days now and figured maybe you all can help me with this problem I'm having. Last summer, I was brand new to the whole dating scene. Never even kissed a girl before. Finally, around July last year, I met a girl, J, and we dated for a month. I got attached to her almost immediately, but J was only interested in casual dating. Eventually, she ended things saying that she didn't have the time or ability to maintain a relationship, though she wanted to stay friends. So we did. I asked her every so often if she'd change her mind, but always got turned down. \n\nSome time in December, she started a relationship with M, another guy she dated over the summer. When I found out, I asked her why she wanted a relationship with M, but not with me. She said that she and M are not serious whereas she and I would be. I actually do believe her because 1) M is leaving in a few months and 2) they don't spend much time together (she would actually spend more time with me). \n\nI was pissed off and crushed, but I held on to our friendship until last week, when another girl (S) I had been dating since around October left because I refused to be official with her. I thought that maybe if I didn't spend so much time with J, I would have gotten over her and fell for S. After a couple days, I told J that we can't be friends anymore. \n\nBut now I regret that decision. J was my closest friend in this city, and I miss her. From what I've read here, I suspect most people would recommend I forget and move on. But then I see people who have stayed friends with ex's and crushes and are perfectly happy. What do you think I should do?", "summary": "I have feelings for my friend. Is it possible to stay friends with her?"}
{"id": "t3_eqdtq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Father will not allow my older sister to attend Christmas. Feeling lost, and extremely sad for her...", "post": "So I come from a relatively broken family. My mom left when I was in high school, and my sister also chose to live a more frivolous lifestyle during her years of adolescence. Over the the years, she began to live more 'ghetto' lifestyle; welfare, drugs, boyfriend who beat her, went to jail... etc. She recently got married to him, and my father chose to NOT attend the wedding because he was morally against her marrying this individual. \n\nLast year, She was told that she was absolutely welcome at our annual Christmas gathering on Christmas eve. (So long as her SO was not in attendance) Given this relatively strict stipulation, she could not agree to leaving him at home alone last year, but this year, she came to me, as her sister, asking if I could talk to my dad about having her over for christmas.\n\nI spent the entire time trying to convince her that it would NOT be a problem and that, OF COURSE, she would be welcome to attend the family gathering. \n\nLow and behold.. my Dad is NOT okay with this situation. I spend an entire afternoon crying about this situation trying to deal with the estranged relationship that has developed between my dad and my sister. I can't come to understand why he could reject his eldest daughter this way.\n\nHas anyone else ever experienced a family disrepair around the holiday season that has worked out for the best in the end?? I feel so lost and helpless.", "summary": "Father does not want estranged daughter to attend Christmas family festivities. Sister (myself) feeling sad and unbeknownst as to how deal with the situation. Should family trump all?"}
{"id": "t3_lf2wk", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "What just happened?", "post": "M:22 F:22\n\nBackstory: So I just moved to Singapore for my masters and things were going great. A week into the semester, I met this girl and we hit it off pretty good. We dated for nearly two months, and yeah I know that is not much. But I hate having to trust anybody. My last relationship lasted all of four years, the last year of which was complete misery. After which I decided, I was not going to let my guard down . But she seemed like a nice gal and everything was going fine. Then today morning she wakes me up at 3 in the morning for what seems like a morning quickie, so we get all into it and then as we both finish up, she tells me she doesn't want to be together. I was like WTF? But I saw no point in prolonging it, so I just walked out. I dont have the biggest social circle and I kind of feel lost. I hate this feeling of having to trust someone just to have my trust smashed. \nP.S. Yeah I really liked the girl and she even said she loved me", "summary": "Gf broke up with me after early morning quickie."}
{"id": "t3_2ji3hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We [25M]/[25F] mutually agreed to end the engagement/relationship. Who gets the ring?", "post": "So the title sums it up. Bit more detail:\nBeen together just over 7.5 years, engaged for 2.5 of it. We had issues with intimacy for a long while and things went down hill from there. \nWe decided to call of the engagement and break up. She is in the process of moving out of the flat currently. \n\nThe big question here ultimately is should I ask for the ring back? Or just not care? Or should she offer it back as it was a mutual decision?\n\nI don't particularly care about it, but my parents are telling me that I should get it back.\n\nGive me some objective advice reddit.", "summary": "who gets the item that symbolises what is now completely broken?"}
{"id": "t3_olapn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help reddit! I need your cyber sleuth skills!", "post": "I need reddit's help! Last Sunday (Jan, 15) my car was broken into while I was having brunch in Ohio City, OH (part of Cleveland, OH). I wasn't gone more than 40 minutes, but when I came back a brick was thrown through my window in broad day light. In the rear passenger footwell there was a covered bag that had a friend's glasses, medical equipment, and iPad 2 (wifi only). I filed a police report and tried to track the iPad that day but was not getting any hits. Today I finally tracked it to an apartment/codo building and had police show up but there wasn't much they could do they said. I sent several messages to the iPad, asking them to come out with the merchandise but didn't get any response. Not sure what to do at this point. The iPad is wifi only so its only a rough estimate of where it is but i'm pretty sure I've got the right building. Please let me know if you guys have any ideas. I have the last names of all the tenants from the front door but don't think it's appropriate to post.", "summary": "iPad stolen but know what building it is in. Dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_52sqko", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting my school into a hard lockdown", "post": "Today was a normal day of school for me, and as usual, I see my 2 buddies in the hall. I come up to them and say, \"Let's get out of here in 10 minutes.\" implying to ditch. Then I go outside for P.E. and over the intercom comes the principle saying \"We are now on a school-wide hard lockdown\". As usual, we proceed to our designated \"hiding spot\" while this whole thing gets sorted out, and about 15 minutes into the lockdown, a dean and a gym teacher walk over to me and ask if they can see me for a minute. From then on I proceed to get up and head towards the exit. As soon as I open the exit door, there are about 5-6 cops waiting for me. They pat me down and lead me towards my locker. I show them which locker is mine and they proceed to open and search through all of mine and my buddies belongings. At this point I am shaking because of how nervous I am. After checking all of my stuff, they lead me to the deans office to which I am greeted with two detectives, a white woman with normal police gear, and a larger black guy wearing all casual clothes, but had a dog tag chain with the police badge attached to it, just like in the movies. They then question m and ask what I said and who was with me and what not, and then they leave. The dean comes back after a while and tells me that somebody was eavesdropping in on our conversation and misheard me think I said \"You better be out of here in 10 minutes\" thinking I am going to shoot the place up or something. Dean then calls my mom and tells her the dealio, and then I'm back to class, no punishment.", "summary": "Tried to ditch with friends, someone misheard our conversation, I get placed on the possible school shooter list"}
{"id": "t3_gpuw7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Thank you for inspiring me <3", "post": "I just wanted to give a shout out to r/loseit. Since finding Reddit a few months ago, I've been so inspired by the many stories of weight loss success I've read about from fellow Redditors. I've wanted to do something about the weight I've needed to loose for a long time, had many failures trying. \nThen the other night I came across a random mention of a diet program, something low carb, and low cal, on Reddit. Well I decided it sounded like just what I've been looking for, and bit the bullet and ordered myself a supply. So far its going really well, I'm sticking to it 100%, which is something I haven't been able to do in a long time. Reading other peoples posts helped me to finally realize I have a dysfunctional relationship with food, and this plan is meal replacements, and I'm viewing it like I did with nicotine replacements when I quit smoking 8 years ago. I know its probably not the best idea for everyone, but for me, I can't 'just' eat a healthy portion of real food. I'm also getting referred to an eating disorder counselor via my family doctor, because I'll take all the help I can get to make this the last time I ever have to lose weight.\n\nIf it hadn't been for Reddit, I wouldn't even be in this place right now, wouldn't have realized where my problem truly was, and wouldn't have found the best chance I've had at doing something about it. I have over 100lbs to lose, and I truly hope I'll be able to come back and post my success story for you all, to help inspire others as you have inspired me that we can be successful on this journey.", "summary": "To all the 'losers' out there, please know that you are helping others even as you help yourselves."}
{"id": "t3_t7lva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm working too much, fiance isn't working at all.", "post": "Fiance (M23) and I (F23) together 9 months, engaged for 1 have been going through a lot of hardships lately. He's having a hard time finding work, leaving me to be the sole provider of the household. Since I'm pretty much living paycheck to paycheck because of this, I've become resentful, distant, and stressed out, and I know I have. He's become extremely disrespectful, easily agitated, and hurtful. We hardly ever have sex anymore and both us feel like we are with a complete stranger. I feel like he isn't putting in ANY effort to find a job and he feels like I'm holding the fact that I'm paying the bills over him (saying I'm acting superior). I feel like we're both losing grasp of why we are even together, and we're forgetting that the good times outweigh our bad times. What can we do to fix this and get back to loving each other.", "summary": "Fiance out of work leaving me to pay all the bills. Starting to resent each other."}
{"id": "t3_1u0vls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I [39 M] do with my concerns about my six month relationship with her [29 F]?", "post": "We're both going through divorces. We both have kids. We met on a dating site about six months ago. \n\nThe good: We share a lot intellectually. We \"get\" eachother on a lot of levels. Laughter, culture, even our vulnerabilities and issues. Plus, the sex is great. Really great. She loves me.\n\nThe bad: We don't have much time for eachother. Because of parenting and work etc., we rush to get in some time twice a week. My kids do not want anything to do with her. We tried a quick meeting and it went poorly. I don't like her kid, I don't appreciate her parenting. And it's awful to say, but I feel like I \"could do better\". (She's a bigger girl). She is more fun than classy, and I feel a little odd introducing her to family.\n\nThe problem: I feel like I don't have space in my life for her. It stresses me out to be around her kid, I'm on eggshells with my kids about her existence. I'm sliding on some things that are important to me in order to be with her (workouts, keeping the budget, housework). On the other hand, I wonder who else is going to love me. I don't want to lose her in my life because she's a really awesome person. And I would sorely miss the sex.\n\nMy issue: I don't know how to proceed. On one hand, I feel like I should break up. Even though she would even likely be open to a booty call based relationship, I don't feel good about that. I aslo don't want to hurt her. And the truth is I do love her. I just don't see anything changing to make this actually workable in the long run. Help?", "summary": "When it's not *perfect* do you break up, and how? Or do you just enjoy the occasional and small joys of the relationship, knowing that it's not sustainable?"}
{"id": "t3_3evdq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] haven't been able to see my SO [22M] in 3 weeks. What can I do to show him how much I missed him when I see him in person?", "post": "I have been very ill and highly contagious, so I told my SO that it is best that we don't see each other until I'm better, as I don't want to make him sick and have him miss work.\n\nAnd in this period of his absence, I've truly realized how much my life freaking sucks without him. My life is so dull and bland without him. He really lights up my life. Although we've been speaking on the phone daily, I miss his gentle kisses, his perfect smile, his amazing sense of humor, being tickled by him although I secretly love it, and I miss being caressed by him.\n\nI want to do something special for him and us when I get to see him next week! I was originally thinking of getting dressed up and going out on a date to dinner, but I feel like I'd rather do something more personal. I need some inspiration!\n\nThis is the second time we've been apart for this long. The first time was last year when I traveled to Europe for five weeks.\n\nWe've been together for 3.5 years.", "summary": "I've been sick, and I want to do something special show my SO how much I missed him."}
{"id": "t3_45v0vn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my ex [25 F] 2 months, ended it over it being too serious too fast, been a month, want to tell her what I am feeling", "post": "We dated for 2 months, they were fantastic. Got along really well, had amazing sex, etc. She ended it, saying that she thought I wanted something more serious than she did (even though I had tried really hard to let her define the pace) and that she didn't want to date right now. I made my case to her, but didn't beg, plead or any of the pitfalls that are common to breakups. I've run into her a few times since then, it's always been pleasant and we revert back to our banter from dating.\n\nIt's been a little over a month. We've spoken a few times, but I've given her plenty of space. I wasn't in love with her, but I really had a great time while we dated and really miss it. I'd like to just tell her that I miss dating her and that I'd like to try again. I know that it would be likely counterproductive, based on why she ended it, but the positivity of our interactions has a part of me convinced that she just needed time. Also, she's taken back exes who chased her, which again tempts me. I don't truly think anything will change, as I think (hope?) she knows that I'd be up for trying again if she comes around, but it's still tempting.\n\nOr maybe it's just Valentine's Day and I'm sad.", "summary": "Ex ended things because it was moving too fast, been a month, want to tell her I miss her"}
{"id": "t3_4y8xv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF[27 F] of 6+ years going to propose but unsure what to do for ring and ring size.", "post": "we have been together a long time and no question this is the best relationship i have been in. she supports me in any decision i make and is there when i really need her. we were friends for a couple years always flirting before we started dating.\n\nSo I want to propose but as i have never done this before i need some advise on what i should/need to do. I have a ring from my father (that has passed away years ago) that he gave to my mother. my mother has saved said ring for me to pass on. she also has a ring from her grandma (that has passed away) that she also wants to use the diamonds on it to make a ring. My question is do i buy an engagement ring? do i use my ring and get it resized? i am kinda lot at what is the correct thing for me to do. if i do get it resized how do i know what size to even come close to her ring size?", "summary": "I have a wedding ring but do  i need to buy a ring for proposal?"}
{"id": "t3_4krckc", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Family extremely concerned over First time Solo Traveling in Europe", "post": "So I'm in a tough spot. \n\nI'm a 19 y/o from the Midwest US and will be studying abroad this fall in central Europe and planned to do some backpack pre-traveling 2 weeks before the semester started. I've done a limited amount of traveling with my family, but have never traveled on my own or been to Europe. \n\n**Plan**: My general plan was to fly into London about 15 days before class starts and stay in London for 2 days, then take a train to Brussels and spend 7 days in Belgium (split between Ghent, Antwerp, Bruges) and about 7 days in the Netherlands. I'll be staying in hostels. \n\n**Family Concerns:** So when I explained these plans to my family.. well my Mom started crying if that's an indication to how they felt about it.. They are concerned about me going alone into a new country, my dad is concerned about refugees and terrorists as well as being targeted for being alone. My mother called some of her friends that have traveled and they said I should absolutely not be traveling alone and she said they want to talk to me on the phone to convince me not to go alone. \n\nSo am I being too ambitious and naive or are they blowing this out of proportion? How should I confront them about it?", "summary": "Planned to travel solo in Europe and my family is not having it."}
{"id": "t3_fma2i", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What's the best way to ask a girl out while avoiding drama regardless of response? (repost from relationships)", "post": "Sorry for the title, there's really no good way to describe this in shorthand.\n\n18, male, senior in high school, never been in a relationship. I want to ask a girl who's a little closer than a friend of a friend and a little more distant than a personal friend. Since I can't drive, I'm limited to a very small area in the downtown area of my town which basically has a small coffee shop, a movie theater, and an ice cream place. Closer to my house, but probably more difficult to find, are a whole bunch of park/walking trail like areas. How can I best phrase asking her out to make a negative response as drama-free for both parties, where should I ask her to go to, and what other general advice do you have?\n\nFrankly, I'm at a loss, because my parents and older brother are... not the best sources of this kind of advice. Help?", "summary": "18, male, HS. sr, no prior relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3f0crl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend [19/F] and I [19/M] post fight isssues", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short and simple as possible. \n\nRecently my girlfriend of 6 months got a new job which takes up the majority of her time which leaves us with very little time together, yesterday was our first day together in about a week and everything was good, a few hours into the day she said she was going to leave early to hangout with a few friends, I was acting selfish and childish and got upset since I already see her so little.\n\nI regrettably yelled a bit and we didn't talk much at all until her friend came and got her, a few mintues before her friend showed up I apologized and we made up a bit but things were still kinda rocky.\n\nThe next day she had work so we didn't talk at all and when she got off I messaged her, and she was at a friend's house. I could tell something was wrong and I asked, she said that she wasn't happy after yesterday. I apologized and told her how much an idiot I know I was etc. The more we messaged the more serious it seemed to become, I asked if I could see her tomorrow before work so we could talk and she told me she didn't want to see me right now. She asked for a bit of space  so I stopped messaging her.\n\nI messaged her a few more times just apologizing and telling her I was worried which I probably shouldn't have done. \n\nI love her and don't want to lose her, and I know the consensus is on this sub is when someone ask for space things are done, which I don't agree with but maybe I'm just fooling myself.", "summary": "Girlfriend of six months and I got into a fight, was worse than I realized now she doesn't want to see me right now."}
{"id": "t3_3cqb9z", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Final interview, seemed promising, and then silence. What now?", "post": "Over the past 3 months I have interviewed for a position. I have met many people in the company emailed back and forth over 50 times, and generally felt like I was almost working there already. This past Wednesday (July 1) I had, what I was told was the final interview. One of the people told me that they thought I was the only one they were interviewing at this point, and it was just to check off with the top people. It went well, and I was told I would hear back in a couple of days. July 4th coming up I expected it to take a little longer. Yesterday morning the HR contact emailed me about reimbursement, I responded and used it to inquire as to where they are at in hiring process and she said she would check into get back to me the same day (that day being yesterday). Now I haven't heard anything. Not sure what to do. Kind of thinking it didn't work out for some reason, but am confused by the silence. Everyone has been nice through the whole process. I really liked the job and don't have many other options.", "summary": "Lots of talking with company, then when it really matter nothing, what next?"}
{"id": "t3_3i1af2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] just got cancelled on for my second date by [18 F]", "post": "Hey guys. I met this girl at an event for incoming first year students. To make a long story short I got her number, we went out on one date a week ago which I think went pretty well (although it only ended in a hug which is fine I guess because I had only known her for a few days). We started texting/calling back and forth and she seemed into me (long thoughtful responses, exclamation marks, the odd emoji). I asked her out on a second date a week ago and she said yes. The date was set to be today, the day after our second freshman meetup so I texted her saying something along the lines of \"Aren't I lucky I get to spend two days in a row with you!\" to which she responded positively.\n\nOur second date was to be today, the day after another first year meetup. I wasn't particularly flirty with her at the meetup but when I got home I sent her a text saying something along the lines of \"I gotta be up early because I'm lucky enough to be spending the afternoon with a special someone! Night!\". A short while afterwords she said she couldn't meet up because her sister (who doesn't live with her, she lives alone) grounded her for not finishing her calculus assignments. When I asked her how her sister could ground her if she doesn't live with her she said \"she told her everything\". I'm not entirely sure if this is bullshit because she is really busy with this course she's taking (she was even doing work at the meetup last night). I said \"that's too bad some other time\". \n\nNow I'm not really sure what to do. I'm going on vacation tomorrow and likely won't be texting her and she hasn't texted me today. I don't know if I should text her tonight or just give up on her. I'm really not sure why I did wrong because she seemed really into me the night before the meetup. What do I do? Am I pretty much shit out of luck? Why has she suddenly changed her mind?", "summary": "Met a girl, went on first date and had a good time, seemed into me and got a second date but she cancelled with a lame excuse and haven't spoken since. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_266kgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (38m) friend scheduled his impromptu surprise wedding the day of my (32m) graduation and invited all of our mutual friends.", "post": "I'm a resumed undergrad who, after six years, am graduating an ivy league school, and am the first of my family to do so.  He decided that the scheduling was suck that it was the only day that fit his and her family's schedules.  He knew that I was graduating, but circumstances only allowed memorial day weekend for him to get it done.  \n\nHe invited all of our mutual friends, which puts them in an awkward situation, too.   As it stands, only my immediate family, flying in, will be attending.  My graduation now consists of my family and my live-in SO.  Even my SOs family, including her sister, who lives with us, has decided that a wedding trumps a graduation.  \n\nI understand that its a shitty position for everyone, but my graduation doesn't provide booze, so there's the trump card.  I can't blame the guests, because his invite came a few days before I was sure I would graduate, so I couldn't respectfully ask without the possible shame of failure, but he knew that it was likely the day.  \n\nI was hoping for the friends that I cared about would be there to celebrate with me.  Instead, the second most important event of my life (the first being the birth of my son, who will be there with me) is now disregarded by all of my close friends.  \n\nI get its a shitty situation for my friends, but I feel that they shouldn't have been forced to choose.  But I can't help but feel selfish for wanting them to come see me walk.  What do /b/? (I know this isn't b, but I didn't know how to end this)", "summary": "My friend trumped my graduation day (hour) with his surprise impromptu wedding."}
{"id": "t3_22pnqk", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Chronically swollen tonsil", "post": "So for the last 2-3 years I have had one tonsil that is always swollen. At first I assumed it was from smoking (I'm not a heavy smoker, maybe a few a day for several years, with plenty of week-long breaks) so I quit. It  got better but not completely better, it was still visible in the back of my throat while the other wasn't. I went to the doctor who prescribed antibiotics (which didn't do much). She said there's no reason to do anything  about it unless it's bothering me enough to want surgery. I probably should've mentioned to her  that I smoke but I didn't think of it at the time. I highly doubt  it's cancer though, I'm young and healthy other than the smoking (I know that sounds ridiculous  haha)\n\nSince then, I've been an on-and-off smoker (mostly during exams or nights of drinking) and sometimes my tonsil is fine but  other times, like right now, it gets really swollen and uncomfortable. I know that I should stop smoking and that's the plan, but for now can anyone offer  any ideas as to  what's causing this? Or any advice on how to reduce swelling? I've tried  gargling water, vinegar etc. without much improvement.\n\nI should mention I've had tonsilloliths before but have not had any (visible/noticeable)  ones in probably over a year.", "summary": "Tonsil has been swollen for the  past few years, gets worse with smoking. Wondering  what is the cause and what can do I do to improve it."}
{"id": "t3_13d8ex", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Thinking about saving money by doing generals at a community college?", "post": "A lot of people might fancy the idea of getting their general education at a community college before transferring to a four-year university or state college, I know I did. Community colleges can save you a lot of money and give you the basic credits and prerequisits you need.\n\nHOWEVER! MAKE SURE YOURE TAKING THE RIGHT CREDITS AND THEY WILL TRANSFER!!\n\nI can't emphasize enough how important this is. I went to a community college planning on tranfering into a university, however I wasnt decided on a major so I took all my generals and got my associates degree and transfer curriculum completed. Good idea right? \n\nWRONG! When I transfered into my university I went in with high hopes that I would be graduating in 2 years with my BS. This was not the case. What I came to find out was that most universities have nearly 120 credits of required courses, whether they are advanced electives or prerequisits for classes you will be taking later on. Most of your upper division classes will require you to have completed some form of intoductory class that will double as both an elective and a prerequisite. I am now in my third year of school, ~30,000 in debt, and have three more years to go before graduation. \n\nSo please, anyone who is planning on going to college, know what you are going to major in and stick to that specific curriculum. Make a graduation plan, know which classes you need and what order you need them in. College is not cheap and unless you are the selected few who have it paid for, not knowing what you want to major in can really hurt you financially. I hope this helps at least one person not make the same mistake I did.", "summary": "Be careful when taking credits that they are fulfilling your major requirements."}
{"id": "t3_4v9sr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[23F] tell my boyfriend [25M] that I don't want a dog?", "post": "First post.. just going to try and lay everything out. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and we're talking about long-term. We talk about moving in together, but no set plans yet. \n\nhe has 2 dogs at his apartment now, they're his mom's but he's taking care of them right now. They jump on me and scratch me, they smell bad, and they're constantly peeing and pooping under the DINNER table. He doesn't even take them outside to do their business, he lets them out onto the apartment balcony to poop and pee.\nI honestly don't think I'd enjoy living with a dog, they just don't match my personality and they make me nervous\nI've thought of a compromise where we get a dog, but he will solely take care of it. BUT I feel like that could be worse.  I don't trust that he will properly take care of it, bathe it, clean after it's messes, and properly train it. I don't think he'll have the time to either. they're not my responsibilities to do, so I feel like if he neglects those duties, I'll have to remind him/confront him etc and it will cause tension. \nWhat makes me feel the worst is that, since we've been together he's become more of a cat person as well, and would like to adopt a kitten too. So he's able to go both ways, but I can't.\nI don't want to make my boyfriend choose between having a dog or me, but I also don't want him to compromise for me and always wish he has a dog\n\nI tried to make this post as clear as possible, but let me know if you have any questions. hope it made sense", "summary": "bf and I are looking long-term, he wants a dog but I won't be comfortable around one"}
{"id": "t3_248tby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my fianc\u00e9 [28 F] two years. She's mad I asked her to shave her legs. Am I a jerk?", "post": "Hello.\n\nMy fianc\u00e9 usually gets waxed but isn't always on top of it. She'll let her hair grow until her legs look like mine. We're at a point right now where money is a little tight so waxing would cost money we shouldn't spend on something so frivolous.  So tonight I asked her if she would shave them and she got mad.\n\nShe said why is she required to shave her body hair when guys don't have to.  I understand that argument, but from where I'm coming from, it's kind of disrespectful to me.  Whenever I've done something or had something she deemed unattractive, I changed it. I've been working out and quit smoking for her (and myself because fuck lung cancer) but am I in the wrong for asking her to do it? I find it really unappealing.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 has hairy legs. Told her I want her to shave them. Am I a jerk?"}
{"id": "t3_3sgc87", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to compress.", "post": "This literally just happened, about 2 minutes ago. I'm working for a friend's dad who deals with small electronic components and we got a large order of these pieces that were made shoddily. So we're doing the quality control for the manufacturer. It's a small operation, just 2 machines in his small workshop.\n\nSo the machine is a little complicated: there's one plastic reel of these rice-sized pieces sealed in what almost looks like old film, and we peel this clear plastic covering off to expose them, grab one with a vacuum pen, place it on a piece of glass with a science class cheap \"microscope\" facing upwards. I check the solders and leads for any defects, toss the bad ones, and put the good ones in a separate reel going the opposite direction.\n\nNow this second reel has a contraption that has a sprocket that counts the number of these items as they go through, melting a new strip of clear plastic on very thin edges. The piece is like a stamp, it press down for half a second every 4 pieces.\n\nWell my boss is at his other job, so he left me a key to get in and work by myself, first time since I started about a month ago. So I turn everything on and start heating up the stamp thing. Only thing is, I forgot to start up the compressor outside, raising the stamp off of the reel that is about halfway through a full reel. \n\nDid I mention it's 5000 of these components per reel? Yeah, I'm at 2292 out of 5000 and I let these stamps, heated up to 190\u00b0 C, sit for a good 15 minutes on fragile components while I was filling up a chunk of ~50 before I started stamping.\n\nI noticed the stamps weren't stamping and I look over and the", "summary": "Forgot crucial step in set up for work while on my own for the first time, melted electrical components (product), ruined a reel of said product, and wasted tons of man hours by having to undo all previous work to undo my fuck up."}
{"id": "t3_2wi2tn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] don't know how to propose to my GF [24F] of 3 1/2 years.", "post": "My GF and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years and living together for about 7 months. I know she's the one and I recently bought an engagement ring. I have no idea how to actually propose though.\n\nI just wanted to propose over dinner but my best friend told me that since this is the only time she'll be proposed to, I need to put more thought/effort into it. We live in a rural-ish area so my choice of venue is pretty limited. I've had the ring for a couple of weeks and I'm getting kind of antsy. \n\nAny suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Bought a ring, no proposal ideas feel right, need suggestions."}
{"id": "t3_txxai", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Not sure if the broken blood vessels near my eyes are from crying or vomiting.", "post": "F (early 20's) He's a little older. We broke up very very recently. It was completely mutual. It needed to happen. Trying so hard to adhere to the NC rule but I feel like 3 hours isn't enough time to end a 2 year relationship. Why can't we wean off of one another? Two friends had to nearly physically hold me back from driving to his house drunk last night because I got locked out and needed a place to stay.\nMy argument? What's one more night? Our last romp was quick and impersonal. The last night we slept next to eachother, we had no idea that was the last time. I can't stop crying. The few friends I have are nice, but Tullamore Dew is even nicer. I can't stop making myself puke after drinking. Help.", "summary": "It has to be a for sure thing, but what's one more night if it meant even just 6 hours of comfort amidst this mess?"}
{"id": "t3_1t9k1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] and my boyfriend [23 M] of 4.5 years, disagree on marriage.", "post": "My boyfriend and I grew up in two very different homes. Mine was very conservative and his very liberal. \n\nAs with all couples, we find our upbringing influences our perception of how the world should be, including marriage. I want a wedding, nothing big or fancy, but a public declaration of together-forever and celebration with family and friends. He sees marriage as a legal binding that provides benefits financially and legally to a couple, but does not see that we are in any position to need those benefits at this time. If we were to marry under his belief in marriage, it would only be at a time of the greatest convenience and benefit. \n\nI can see where is coming from, love is love and the title of Mr. & Mrs. doesn't change those feelings (or at least shouldn't). I, also, know he understands where I am coming from, but we struggle to find an acceptable compromise. \n\nMostly just looking for advice or anecdotes from fellow redditors that have or have had non-traditional, long term relationships.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have different ideas about why a couple chooses to marry. Looking for a compromise or at least camaraderie in this confusing situation."}
{"id": "t3_1lgoxu", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "In need of some direction on career options and graduate programs. All advice is welcomed!!", "post": "Background: Female, early 20s, graduated college in 2012 with a 3.7 GPA and BA in Sociology, concentration in criminology and a minor in anthropology. I want to work in Juvenile Justice or provide some sort of  delinquency prevention and/or intervention. I've worked in a domestic violence shelter for teens, with an Assistant District Attorney for Juvenile Court, and with an organization that provides community resources/social services, and recently I've managed to land a state job in adult corrections.\nWhile I am extremely grateful for my job and I enjoy what I do, I'm already thinking about my next move career-wise. My salary is fine for me as a fairly recent college graduate, but I can't see myself living off of it and being content 3-5 years from now. I plan to go back to school to get my masters in 2014, but I'm stuck on what direction to go from here. \n\nSo here's where I need you all. I didn't realize in college how a significant portion of people in criminal justice make $30-40k a year and the slim room for advancement (with my particular job). So what are some career options in the criminal justice field that pay more than 45k and that would somewhat relate to my initial goal (of working with juveniles)? I've considered taking different routes, such as going in law or counseling, so I'm pretty open to stepping outside of criminal justice (psychology, social services, community development, etc.). I've even considered going completely out of these service fields into marketing or something with my Sociology background, just for the money. I know I'm all over the place but that's why I'm posting!", "summary": "I have a government job in adult corrections and that salary will not be sufficient in a few years. My background consists of a BA in Sociology, concentration in Criminology, minor in Anthropology. I want to worth with juveniles in or out of the court system. I plan to go back to school but I need some career options (that pay more than 45k) before I select a graduate program. I'm open to a variety of fields from law to community development."}
{"id": "t3_vtdt1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Good place to play crib online for my 75 year old mom.", "post": "So my mom loves playing crib online.  She has done it for years.  First it was on the Zone's site.  Then when they closed their crib section, she moved to pogo.com.  \n\nShe plays a couple hours every day.  She has notebooks FULL off good user names, and bad user names... And I always ask her why cause its not like she can look through on the fly... But, she says its just her routine... And has been for years.\n\nSince my dad died in 97, its one of the things that she uses to past the time and she loves meeting the good people (and the stories of the bad are... well its the internet right).\n\nAnyways... Pogo has made some changes recently which has the crib community up in arms.  She asked me if I knew of any place else.  \n\nI did a quick google search, and found nothing that jumped out at me... Then I remembered... REDDIT - they will know!\n\nSo my dearest reedit... do you know a good place to play crib online for my 75 year old mom?\n\nThank you.", "summary": "My 75 year old mom is sick of playing crib on pogo and wants an alternative... Got one?"}
{"id": "t3_3nqxiq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [25M] 1 year, keeps stuff from a past girlfriend.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have had a pretty great relationship minus  a few bumps in the road. But I've noticed that he still seems really attached to an ex. They dated years ago and he's had girlfriends since her before me. Through all of that he still keeps a note from her in his wallet. And it's been years. I also noticed that he liked pictures of her all the way up until recently. (I know i was being ceepy getting all CSI on this ish). He also keeps a pretty photo of her on his computer. That he still hasn't deleted. \n\nI don't think he's cheating on me. I don't think he doesn't love me. But.. I do think to him she will always be the best. And sort of perfect. \n\nI've brought it up in the past and he got rid of the note because I was really upset. But he wouldn't have if I didn't notice it. He also still has the picture. \n\nIn the past he's tried to talk to her again and apologise about stuff. He's doted over her for years. I mean YEARS. I'm not sure if I should just drop it or not... I guess the issue is I don't feel secure. I don't want to be the idiot that stays around when his true \"dream girl\" or whatever is someone else. \n\nI want to bring it up in a way that he will feel comfortable telling me what he really thinks and feels about the situation. If he's still holding on to her or what.", "summary": "boyfriend keeps note and picture of an ex and still doesn't seem over her after years."}
{"id": "t3_144k50", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit Do I Save My Dad's House Or Let Him Lose It?What would you do?", "post": "Long and short of it. My dad has been out of work for some time (diabetes among other things) and has not been able to stay current with his house payments. Fast forward he is now in bankruptcy and is more than likely going to lose his house in a little under a month if he does not come current on his house payments (about 15k). \n\nNow I have just enough money saved up so that I could pay off his back house payments but it would leave me with little to nothing left.\nMy concern is that if he does lose the house he would have nowhere to go because he does not have family that would take him in (I am not in a position to take him in), or the means to get a new house or even an apartment. In addition he has lived in the house 25 years plus so it means a great deal to him and myself sentimentally and I really don't want to see him lose it. \n\nI'm at a moral crossroads...My question is do I bail him out or let him lose the house? \n\nWhat would you do?", "summary": "Dad is going to lose house if he doesn't pay off debt, I have just enough to pay his debt. Do I pay it or let him lose his house?"}
{"id": "t3_zgktl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I'm reaching REM sleep right now and imagining some fairly intense interactions with the non-existent.  Anyone else drop into REM upon exhaustion?  Do you have any crazy stories of it?", "post": "This is what I woke up to today on my computer, unposted:\n\n\"I've been dropping off the grid (dozing) and have been trying to sell fruits, ideas, and whiskey to non-existent buyers (in dreamland)... who have kidnapped me and forced me to sing songs.  That is, unless the horses are marching the yard, then there is far too much clatter for our poor vocal chords to sing/ring/vibrate.  Even as I type the message, the girl I've been seeing has invented her company subconsciously through silly shapes of furniteire\"\n\nBackground: I can never get to sleep just from going to bed, I usually need to stay active until I'm simply exhausted and crash.  This sometimes leads to REM cycles when I'm barely conscious and can still function a bit without coming all the way out.", "summary": "I'm a sleepy fuck."}
{"id": "t3_1fmjfx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU On a field trip.", "post": "Actually a couple months ago. Forgot about it until now. I was on my school trip to DC, it was my first time going there so I was pumped. We went to see all of the main touristy attractions (this is day one) then lastly we go on this big yacht. It is pretty popular but I do not remember the name off of the top of my head. At this point I haven't slept for maybe 48 hours, as I can't sleep in vehicles and it is about an 8 hour ride down. I was sitting with my friend and looking out into the river, on the back of the boat. I lean over the railing and look down. My glasses decide to slide off my face. *Shit what do I do now?* I text my mom to tell her my new glasses just fell through the propeller of a huge boat and are now chilling in the Potomac. This was only at the start of the ride and I couldn't see at all for the rest of the time. Remember this is only day one out of two. I missed on seeing about half of the stuff, including Arlington, the Lincoln, Korean, and Vietnam memorials.", "summary": "dropped my new glasses through a propeller into a river on day one of two of a school trip that cost over $300 to go on."}
{"id": "t3_fs2oi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I get surgery or not!?!?", "post": "So basically I was sucker-punched a month ago and my left zygomatic arch (cheekbone) was shattered and is now concaved into my face.\n\nAesthetically, my face looks the same but it's inside that's the problem: the arch is rubbing against my lower jawbone and there is now a grinding noise whenever I open or close my mouth. It's also constricting a full jaw extension.\n\n2 surgeries through my mouth have failed and the bones have regrown in the depressed position. There is however, one solution left: **a hemicoronal approach to fix it for good.** The problem for me: the procedure is basicaly peeling my face off my skull. (google image hemicoronal for nsfw/nsfl pics).\n\nLooking at those pics I'm just plain scared of the procedure. The slim risks include no hair growth where the incision was made and a drooping face, but apparently it's a 3% chance of happening.  fyi I'm young and healthy.\n\nI don't know whether to go ahead with the procedure of just skip it and have this grinding noise the rest of my life.", "summary": "should i get a gnarly surgery on my dome to fix a non-life threatening symptom?"}
{"id": "t3_394a3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I [20M] care that my ex [20F] is going on a date tomorrow?", "post": "Long story short me and my ex, lets call her Amanda, broke up after a 3 year relationship because of a multitude of reasons, nothing bad just kinda drifted apart. I started dating a new girl[20F], Nikki, about 6 months ago and its been pretty great. About a month ago I finally felt that AHA moment and have gotten over my ex. I was cleaning my house and found an old picture of us and i just felt this peace and happiness that I've moved on.\n\nFast forward to about 40 minutes ago. I get a text from Amanda whom I haven't talked to since I told her I'm finally over her and at peace etc. and she just asks how I'm doing and how's life. And I naturally respond and just out of curiosity asked her how her love life was going. She works and goes to school full time and literally threw her life into it after the break up so its been a joke me and our mutual best friend have with her. Except I get a response I don't expect. She's going on a date. I was a little shocked and happy for her because I'm not an asshole. But it hit me right before I wrote this that I'm upset by it. I know it's not because she moved on or anything but I know its something to do with our relationship.\n\nSo that's the story. Any help or insight is greatly appreciated. Also an add in. We were each others first everythings. Kiss, love, sex, etc.", "summary": "Ex im over is going on a date and I'm confused as to why I'm upset."}
{"id": "t3_2jkqnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] girlfriend's [21 F] jealousy is getting out of hand.", "post": "Long story short, I moved in with my girlfriend back in July. Since then, my girlfriend has slowly been limiting my contact with certain friends (mainly girls). Some of these people are just acquaintances, but a few of them are incredibly close friends. \n\nRecently I tried to get in contact with one of my female friends, let's call her June. June's brother is in a rehab program, and I wanted to see how he was doing. While trying to get up with her, I discovered that June had been blocked on my facebook account. Not only that, but her number had been deleted from my phone.\n\nA little more investigating showed that not only was June removed from everything, but about a dozen other people (that I know of) were completely gone from my cell phone and all social media. \n\nFrankly I was overcome with rage at the fact that she would try to be so controlling. I think this might be the last straw, and I'm seriously considering ending the relationship. I don't want to do anything drastic just because I'm angry, though. I'd like to keep a cool head.\n\nWhat do you think I should do in this situation?", "summary": "My girlfriend went behind my back to try and control who I'm friends with. Should I break it off or give her another chance?"}
{"id": "t3_4cpbok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [30 F] of 3 months, she is studying for being a doctor and I have a hard time figuring out how to be with her.", "post": "Hello reddit,\nI got together with my girlfriend 3 months ago and she is amazing. She is studying to be a doctor and I understand the long hours, lack of sleep etc. I try to be understanding and give her space, but sometimes it is pretty hard. We rarely talk during the day, while she is at work as I do not want to bother her at the hospital. I also try to be supportive and offer to make her dinners from time to time or just hang out if she is up for it. I took her on a long weekend vacation for Easter, which she loved.\n\nUnfortunately i feel like when we are back home and reality hits, she is too stressed out about work and I miss the attention and affection she gives me when she is feeling ok. She rarely calls me over as I presume she'd prefer to relax and sleep. Most of the times I am the one proposes to meet up. I have a lot of free time from work so she knows when I am free ( I work some weekends).\n\nI told her yesterday, that sometimes I feel like I am bothering her too much and if that is the case, she should just tell me. I also told her I want to support her and be for her if she needs me. She replied that I do not bother her but she just feels super tired and grumpy after work and just wants to relax. I do not want to be needy and call her, text her or offer to go over to her apartment every time I want to meet. \n\nI am considering giving her even more space and seeing what will happen (wait for her to talk first etc), but also I want to help and support her. I kind of want to see how serious she is about our relationship, but also do not want to test her in such a tough time. \n\nI like her and I want to be the best boyfriend there is, but I have a hard time figuring out how to do it.\nWhat should I do? Any advise?", "summary": "How to deal with my new girlfriend being a doctor and her tough working hours and stress?"}
{"id": "t3_3ihfgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] for over a year, I am very insecure in my relationship. How do I tackle this?", "post": "Basically I am very insecure, i trust my girlfriend, she is kind understanding and very loyal. I trust her, as I am writing this I have no worries. \n\nHowever when she comes to go out with her friends for a night out. I struggle, start feeling like i dont want her to go. If im being honest some how i think i'll lose her to another guy. \n\nHowever trying to be the best partner i can, i do not tell her this. I just hold back and tell her to have fun (she doesnt go a lot) and i worry and its bad for me because I hate the feeling.\n\nHow do I stop feeling those emotions, what can i do. \n\nP.S I am in no way suggesting its her fault. I am not trying to control her on stop her doing anything, i just need advice to help my cope with my inner crazy.", "summary": "How do i stop feeling insecure when all my girlfriend wants to do is have fun with her friends?"}
{"id": "t3_20wocx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex [19 F] of 8 months, she just broke up with me because of music", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. It's been great. We fell in love and spent every waking moment together whatever chance we got. I met her family, she met my family, we've been on trips together... you get the idea. \n\nWell, lately, she's been demanding me to make compromises in everyday things (movies, hobbies, etc.) in order to appease her. Now I told her that who she's suggesting I be is just not 'me' and that I'm not comfortable with her dictating how I live my life. \n\nShe insists that she knows what's best for me and that I need to start living like an adult, whatever that means. In the meantime, she starts pushing her hobbies and media interests on me. \"No, let's listen to this\" she'll say in the car while we're playing the radio, or \"Why do you go to the gym so often? Stay home, babe, and watch New Girl with me.\"\n\nThis behavior is starting to aggravate me and I begin denying her requests. She starts getting more belligerent in her remarks and starts guilt tripping me, telling me \"You don't care about me, you're so inconsiderate to my feelings.\" \n\nAbout a week later I'm driving her home and she's playing some god awful pop radio station I've never heard of. I get this funny idea to play \"Kill You\" by Eminem on full blast while we're driving through the neighborhood because at this point I don't care anymore. She starts yelling something at me but I can't hear her over the music, plus I have the windows open. \n\nAll we hear is \"Sl*t, you think I won't choke no wh*re?!? Til the vocal cords don't work in her throat no more??!\". The look of resolve and assertiveness on her face dissolved completely, she was in horror and I was laughing my ass off. At one point she started screeching and assaulting me as I repelled her from the sound control panel. \n\nWell, I drove her home. She ran out while screaming at me and we haven't spoken since. I'm not sure how I feel about all this...", "summary": "Played Eminem on the car radio to piss off my straight edge gf, she freaked out and broke up with me. Not sure if I was an asshole or we had it coming or what."}
{"id": "t3_2uuz5f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by misreading 2 words", "post": "Hi everyone, I joined recently and after reading the \"Not knowing what a potato was\" post, I remembered this and told a colleague, he told me to post it here since we always read TIFU.\n\nAnyways, this was about 2-3 years ago, I was driving behind a car that had a sign on the back which read \"Heritage Carpets\". there was a little space between \"Car\" and \"pets\" which wasn't too big to look like separate words but big enough to, as my colleague said, \"confuse you\". Me being stupid I read this as \"Car Pets\" and kept thinking and then laughing to wtf this meant, still not realising like a dumbass, I then take a pic so i can show my friends and have a good laugh.\n\nNow the reason for my stupid confusion was because of a car showroom near my area which I used to drive pass a lot and always look at what new car they displayed. The font and colours were similar and I just thought of \"Heritage Cars\" straight a way.\n\nSo after taking that pic, I met up with a friend and showed him the pic, i kept saying \"wtf is a Heritage CAR PET?\" and laughing, he gave me a weird look and said \" you mean carpets...?\"\n\nI felt so stupid, deleted the pic and tried to quickly move on from that subject, he laughed a little but then forgot about it. If it was the other way around I would have been lmao and telling everyone we knew about how dumb he was.... I was lucky it was him alone and not everyone else had met up yet.", "summary": "saw a sign reading \"Heritage Carpets\", read as \"Heritage Car Pets\", told a friend and looked stupid."}
{"id": "t3_4uodhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/F] want to become less anxious and sad over my boyfriend [19/M] living so far away and not being able to talk to me much", "post": "Me and my boyfriend got together at uni and now we've gone home for summer. He works nights in a supermarket so his sleeping pattern is completely different to mine. As we're on different timetables and only awake at the same time for a few hours a day I feel like I'm starting to irritate him because I often send a lot of messages before he wakes up (not expecting a reply, it's things like pictures or memes or whatever) and when he does wake up I always want to speak to him, but I rarely can properly anymore as he has so little time. It upsets me that we can't talk much and I'm really struggling with the distance, so I'm wondering what I can do to try and be less irritating but also maintain the contact with him. He's completely fine with how things are because he realises the situation is just how things have to be - but I'm starting to think he's getting sick of me always asking him to call or text if he gets the time or isn't busy. What can I do?  Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "me and my boyfriend are currently long distance and on different sleeping patterns. We can't talk much and the lack of contact upsets me and makes me worried, but I think my messages and frustrations are starting to be annoying to him and I don't want that. Advice on how to proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_12jp0f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need to improve my life but I'm not sure how to go about it. Any advice?", "post": "So, I'm 20 and I've been living a lifestyle that's just not a viable option at all anymore. I'm essentially the person you talk about living in their mothers basement with no life etc. I'm literally this.\n\nSo that needs to change.\n\nAs of right now, I've been living in that blissful state of total ignorance about my life in the coming years, like I don't even have an ID (Yeah that bad) No license to drive, no job, no ambitions and the like. Unfortunately the parameters allowing for this are about to end, rather abruptly so I need to figure out my life soon and thus I turn to you.", "summary": "Live in my mothers basement with,"}
{"id": "t3_2f89b4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(dating) Me [22M] with my girlfriend [22F] have started dating but her previous abusive relationship with my (ex)best friend has her jaded and tied to their history!", "post": "Throwaway obviously.\n \n\"Joy\" dated my friend \"Chad\" for three years. They lived together for 1 year but he was mentally abusive and threatening so they broke up halfway through that year. Living out of state, she had no choice but to live separately in the same apartment. It turns out he was stealing money from their joint bank account which was specifically for rent. She finally moves away but thanks to his shittiness, she's still financially stuck to the apartment.\n\nIt's been almost a year since they've broken up but she still has to deal with threats from the landlords and Chad is using that to try and keep contact with her.\n\nI started dating Joy about a month ago after talking everyday for a month before that. We had been crushing on each other before her and Chad with neither of us knowing the feeling was mutual. I have very little dating experience (another post in and of itself) and I don't know how to support her when she has so much pressure on her from her family ties, career ties, and this burden from Chad. I seriously want to make this work as this relationship had really been slowly building up for a long time but I'm scared it's doomed from its start. She doesn't want me \"fixing\" her and I don't want her \"fixing\" me but I want still want to be supportive despite us just starting.", "summary": "girlfriend still legally tied to abusive ex. How do I support her when we've just started? I'm mentally moving too fast but physically moving too slow for her but we can't focus on that with all the pressure in her life."}
{"id": "t3_4hs71j", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Messed Up Teeth Ruined Me", "post": "I just really want to get off my chest that I seriously hate my crooked teeth so much. My canines stick out and one of my top teeth are very crooked and makes me have a buck tooth. Ever since 8th grade, I have been trying to cope with having messed up teeth and not being able to afford braces. On the other hand, I've tried following the advice about looks not mattering, but really, my messed up teeth are shutting down my confidence. \n\nAs a Senior in high school, I feel to jealous of my fellow Seniors that were able to get braces and have the perfect smile now. I tried to do things to get this out of my head such as dressing nicely, focusing on hobbies, and being a polite, respectful person. Unfortunately I just can't seem to progress much in terms of happiness because I just hate my crooked teeth. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm socially awkward and can't approach or talk to people at all because of my messed up teeth...", "summary": "Been dealing with having messed up teeth for my whole life (senior in high school), forgot to include my Mom is the only one working so I can't afford braces, and I have so much social anxiety as a result of being afraid of people seeing my teeth so I don't talk much or approach anyone"}
{"id": "t3_3x0vfp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [M/21] be looking for a relationship of focus on myself?", "post": "I've been on vacation for a few days and it gave me some time to clear my mind  and give me some time to think about what I could do for me both in terms of self-growth and in terms of relationships.  \n\nI feel like I should lay low for a while and focus on me. I am overweight and want to lose a few pounds (hopefully starting before school starts up again in January) and do some things to make me more appealing because even though people think I'm attractive, I'm not considered attractive by a lot of the women at my school mainly because I don't have a six pack.  I also wanna be able to save up a bit of cash.  I have a little money but not a ton.  I'm a student with some bills and a job and wanna try to save a bit here and there when I can.\n\nOn the other hand, I wanna be able to make someone happy because I like making people smile and  I want to be able to make someone smile and show that I care about them because I like making people smile.", "summary": "I wanna focus on me, but also want to make someone other than me feel good.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3lw45p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Co-worker[F29] is leaving her job shortly. Should I[M26] pursue this?", "post": "So here's the situation. I've worked with my co-worker (Rebecca) for about 4 years now. We don't have the same job, but we regularly work together. We'll often start talking about work related stuff and then get side tracked talking about personal stuff for half an hour or longer. \n\nOver this time I developed feelings for her \u2013 we have a lot of similar interests and I really enjoy spending time with her. I haven't acted on them though, as I wasn't sure if the feelings were mutual and I didn't want to jeopardize our working relationship.\n\nRecently Rebecca has decided to quit her job in order to pursue some life goals that our company couldn't accommodate (sorry for being a bit vague here). \n\nSince she told me this, we've had a couple of conversations that lead me to believe that she might be interested in me. First of all, these conversations have been completely non-work related and the tone was a bit different (hard to explain). Secondly, a co-worker who sits near me overheard a bit of the conversation and said she was totally into me.\n\nThis along with some other stuff (she's called me her 'favorite <my occupation>' on more than one occasion) leads me to believe that she might be interested after all.\n\nOn the other hand, she's a very friendly person and we haven't really interacted outside of work and work functions.\n\nI'm very inexperienced in this domain, so am I crazy? I'm typically very oblivious about reading social cues, so I wanted a second opinion.\n\nIf I do pursue this, given that we already know a decent amount about each other, what's the best way to approach it? Is asking her out for coffee my best option here?", "summary": "I have feelings for a co-worker who is quitting her job and would like to ask her out before she leaves. Looking for general advice about the situation (is she interested? how should I approach this?)."}
{"id": "t3_tl01e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I laugh?", "post": "Funny just doesn't seem funny anymore. Don't know what it is, but I need to laugh again. Not a chuckle, a full belly laugh. Nothing from the internet is making me laugh right now, everything that makes the claim of being funny is far from it. I know I probably need to lighten up and relax, but what makes me feel great is a good laugh. \nI like a good comedy movie, I'm willing to invest the time to get a laugh. The long build up helps to make a more satisfied laugh.\nSo much of the supposedly funny stuff feels contrived and I end up being disappointed. I've just wasted a few hours on YouTube and could barely get a chuckle.\nSo Reddit, what are some funny movies or stand up routines that make you laugh out loud? What else do you do to laugh?", "summary": "Need to find funny stuff to laugh again."}
{"id": "t3_2izhns", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accepting a bet.", "post": "I went to a friend's house today, originally to watch football. We made wings and had a great time. My friend had some sriracha on his counter and bet me that i couldn't drink a third of the bottle. If I did i would get 5 dollars. The reason why it was 5 dollars, was because I thought it would be easy. I suffer from numerous stomach issues, some are acid reflux, and lactose intolerance. I drank however much i needed to drink. It was hot as hell. I ran to his refrigerator to get a glass of milk. That single glass turned into around 5. I puked once, and shit fury everywhere on his toilet, and then mine, and then in the shower. My ass hurts, my stomach hurts, and because of the puke, my throat burns and hurts.", "summary": "sriracha chugged, asshole torn, 5 dollars richer"}
{"id": "t3_1i4a28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex won't give me my stuff back.", "post": "He (m21) broke up with me (19f) via text message on tuesday. I left my $400 chanel prescription eye glasses at his house. We live an hour and a half away so I asked if he'd mail them to me three weeks ago (before we broke up). And of course he didn't mail them before because he's a lazy fuck. So then yesterday I asked him to mail them to me again and he said he would. I told him I sent him his things in the mail already.  Then later this afternoon I asked if he sent my glasses yet and there's no response. The fuck? I am honestly over our relationship and over him because I realize he sucks but I want my fucking glasses back! I texted his mom and asked if she would send them and there was no response on her end either.\n\nWhat should I do? My parents will kill me if I don't get those glasses back. I honestly want to just be done with him and not have to nag him anymore.", "summary": "ex boyfriend still has my shit. Not responding to my messages."}
{"id": "t3_2568o8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to stimulate someone to be more motivated in life?", "post": "I am writing this on behalf of my parents because I am witnessing their suffering that my brother is causing. So here's a little background to the situation. My brother is 20 years old, out of school for 2 years and works less than 10 hours a week as a stock person at a local grocery store. His daily routine, when he is not working, involves either sleeping, gaming or hanging with friends where he disappears for more than 24 hours at a time. What he does with his friends is truly a mystery but my parents assume that he hangs with his friends to get high (marijuana mainly) which I can confirm, however I feel that I am not at liberty to snitch on him, at least at this point in time.\n\nMy parents and I have gotten into countless conversations/arguments regarding his poor habits as well as the more important topic of what he will do as a career that will allow him to be self sufficient. When these arguments do come up there is usually a large push back from him where he tries to pin the blame on my parents and will try to come up with any excuse to get out of the conversation. Simply put, my brother is lazy and unmotivated and it is because of this my parents are beating themselves up and are beginning to view themselves as failures as parents. With this, I am turning to the reddit community to seek advice to what my parents, as well as myself, can do to try to motivate my brother and push him off this unproductive path.\n\nAlso, it is important to add that my parents understand fully that people learn differently and realize that my brother is less of an academic and more of a hands on technical learner. They tried to use that to his advantage and enrolled him into a technical/trades based high school in hopes to allow him to find something that would interest him. My parents don't care what he does with his life as long as it is productive and he becomes self sufficient.\n\n[", "summary": "] My brother is lazy and unmotivated and down a path with no positive outlook. What can my parents (and myself) do to help him steer towards a path of productiveness."}
{"id": "t3_d9ht6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I deal with this? Help!", "post": "My SO and I have been together for about 4 and a half years now, and I absolutely love her, but every few months the same thing keeps happening:\n\nSome guy gets friendly with her, I get suspicious, she sees him as a friend, he is obviously after more, I tell her this, she just says she loves me and to trust her. So I do. She will flirt knowingly and unknowingly with the guy, as a bit of fun, but then the guy will get creepy, and try and break us up in various ways. When things get very bad, with us on the cusp of breaking up and a couple of times after we've broke up for all of a couple of days/weeks, we'll both be emotionally worn down and get back together, which is strained at first, but then things will soon carry on as normal for a few months as if nothing happened, and then it happens again.\n\nI've spoken to her about all this and she realises she trusts people too much (not just because of this but other instances too) and says she'd never want to do anything to break us up, but yet it keeps happening.\n\nEach time I say 'look, its happening again' she just says to 'trust her' it wont happen again. I genuinely believe she loves me and wants us to be together, but how do I stop this from happening? Is it my problem of not trusting her? I feel like there's been such a track record that I'm within my rights to. Or do I need to put my foot down?", "summary": "My SO cant seem to stop herself from getting close to other guys to the point of breaking our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2gprja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my ex-girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years broke up. Now she's dating a girl. I can't get over it.", "post": "The majority of the breakup is my fault, but I thought we would work it out because we both said we loved each other. I made sure it was clear that I wouldn't say I loved her unless we were both 100% committed because I didn't want either of us to get hurt. Things were shaky during the summer, and I went abroad for about 1 month. She has issues with being alone and started to talk to this girl at her work.  She told me she had sex with her, and about a week after that we really ended things. I still have really strong feelings for her, but I hate her for what she's doing with the other girl. I feel abandoned, she was the closest person to me (I'm at college far away from home). How can i get over this?", "summary": "I can't get over the girl i still have strong feelings for, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_50hxvj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Estranged Parents causing me grief, any advice?", "post": "A bit of backstory: \nGrew up in multiple countries as a child, my parents were rich socialites who only managed to have Sunday 'meetings/family days' with my brother and I, otherwise we were raised by maids. At 16, my brother got sent to boarding school in a different country. I was sent to a boarding school at 18. My brother and I were never close then and the idea of family was only something we saw on tv or in movies. \nFast forward to now, I have my own life, job, engaged to be married. My brother is doing really well and has his own family and baby. We reconciled over the lack of family growing up and have a good relationship now. Our parents become nothing more than distant and inconsistent Penpals. (I would always rag on them for never giving us any updates) They live in a different country so it's difficult to even call them sometimes. \n\nAbout a year ago, I received a call from my mother (we had not spoken in years) asking for a bit of cash for an issue they had run in to. Thinking they were in need, I caved and sent them money. I later found out my brother had as well. \nA month ago, I get an email from my mother explaining that my dad has had dementia for the past 2 years, they are in legal difficulties, kicked out of their house by the bank, too poor to afford food... it goes on. My brother and I scramble and send them money. My brother even went out of his way to make sure we weren't being scammed by some distant relatives. \n\nNow I am getting weekly text messages about needing money for food when she barely ever even wished me a happy birthday in the past. They appear to have estranged themselves to their friends since when I attempt to contact any of them, I get ignored. I sent them most of my wedding savings, which I now regret but I am not sure if that makes me a bad person for not wanting to help them more. I have refused the past two weeks to send anything due to having little to share. \n\nWhat should I do? Is it ok to turn them away?", "summary": "Estranged parents begging for money from their children who have barely heard from them in years. It's emotionally distressing :["}
{"id": "t3_1prhgb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[33/f] My husband [30/m] has a lifelong illness and I don't know what to do", "post": "My husband has recently been diagnosed with a lifelong illness (fibromyalgia). We have a wonderful marriage and I love him dearly but I'm not sure whether I can handle this. A very important part of who I am is someone who does not want to spend my life supporting another person. This is the major reason why I have not had children, nor want children. Being stuck taking care of someone who can't work and needs my constant support is like death to me, as selfish as that may sound.\n\nI also don't want to abandon my husband either. It's unthinkable to just leave someone you love so much. I worry, though, that over time that love will turn to anger and resentment. Especially if he is unable to work a steady job and contribute to our household.\n\nAs it is right now he has no family near us and would be unable to support himself. I have no idea what he would do without me. He'd no longer have health insurance which would be especially devastating considering his condition.\n\nI don't know how to make this decision: Living a life of misery and resentment or abandoning a loved one.\n\nAdvice would be helpful, especially from anyone who is living with fibro.", "summary": "Need to decide to live my worst nightmare and a life of misery or abandon someone I love."}
{"id": "t3_2lf9nw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking the syllabus", "post": "I am currently taking an elementary French course at a university. During high school, I took two years of French, so I'm pretty comfortable with the curriculum. This previous schooling is a curse because I'm not inclined to study so hard in this class. My instructor is a doctoral student at the same university, so she teaches basic language classes. She is in the middle of defending her dissertation, so needless to say, she is a very busy woman.\n\nMy university uses an online website where instructors can post grades, assignments, announcements, etc. This particular website also has a convenient calendar where **most** instructors post due dates for assignments. However, this class barely uses that website and instead uses a different website that has our textbook. Since I don't need to study, I barely check up on the class website, so I rely on classroom discussions and word-of-mouth to submit assignments on time (no problems so far this semester.)\n\nFast forward to today. The lesson of the day is wrapping up and the class is preparing to leave when I hear a kid in the back ask my professor when she will release the grades for the test. \n\n*My asshole slowly begins to clench.*\n\nThe realization sets in that my overconfidence in elementary French fucked me over from regularly checking up on the class website and I am now taking a **ZERO** on exam #4. By the way, I have a scholarship that requires at least a 3.5 GPA. \n\nTo be fair, my instructor has a syllabus with ALL due dates in the course and which website they must be submitted on. I was just too much of a hard-head to check it semi-regularly.", "summary": "Took a zero on an exam because stupid"}
{"id": "t3_llbj3", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Boyfriend and I broke up three years ago and he just told me he's still in love with me.", "post": "I dated this guy when I was fifteen, and he's just a few months older than I am. We dated for maybe six or seven months and then he cheated on me, so I broke it off.\n\nWe stopped talking completely for a year and a half or so and I was alright, I hadn't gotten too attached to him, so it didn't bother me a whole lot. After that point, he got in touch with me and we would talk (as friends) on and off for the next year. \n\nI stopped talking to him again about six months ago and now he's been texting me everyday for the last week. During one of the conversations we had he told me that he was still in love with me and that he hated himself for what he did. I told him that I was pretty much over it and that he should forgive himself too.\n\nHe's told me that the girlfriends he's had since then have all reminded him of me and that he has dreams about still dating me.\n\nI told him straight up that we can be friends, but I wont date him again. The only thing wrong with this is that now I feel like I've obligated myself to talking to him whenever he texts me, which opens me up to more conversations about a relationship that happened a really long time ago. It's just awkward and depressing, I feel like I'm holding him back from being happy.\n\np.s. When we have conversations over text, he still calls me sweetie, honey ect.", "summary": "I broke up with a guy, he's still in love with me. I think it's terribly awkward that we still talk."}
{"id": "t3_2q36iy", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Anything I can do about my parents using my identity? (Colorado)", "post": "My parents have opened credit cards in my name, without asking me, and I never found out until months later. \n\nNow I get hundreds of calls a week from companies about late payments that I am not responsible for. \n\nThey also forced me to take out $7500 in loans, which I didn't see a penny of, saying it would help the family. I was 19 and unemployed so they forced me to lie about having a job as well. \n\nMy credit is surely being ruined, as they are struggling so much that they literally cannot pay for any of the financial burden they put on me. \n\nLegally, is there anything I can do about this situation? I don't know anything about law, but isn't there a way they can relieve me of responsibility for paying these expenses, or something like that? Its not fair that I should get my credit ruined and possibly have to go bankrupt for money that I never borrowed.", "summary": "parents stole my identity to get credit cards and loans, now my credit is slowly crumbling, and I can't do anything about it because I am a 20 year old unemployed college student. What can the law do for me?"}
{"id": "t3_1e44ym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My[18F] mom[35F] is trying to make me sleep with her boyfriend[27M].", "post": "So, the mods deleted my last update and said I needed to give it time to get closure. Well, I'm getting settled in with my father and I figured now is as good of a time as any to let everyone know how I am doing.\n\nThe overall state of my well being is **not good**. I am very depressed. I'm depressed because I have no friends and I miss my mother like crazy. I know, I shouldn't miss her because she is the lord of all that is sick and wrong in the world, but I do. \n\nMy mom has called my dad probably 300 times in the last 3 days threatening to sue, to have him arrested, etc unless he brings me back. He isn't caving. I can tell it is taking a toll on him though. He has been very helpful and open with me. He explained that when they divorced my mom was psychotic towards him. Every time they were anywhere near each other a physical altercation was not far off. He told me he didn't want to put me through that and since he was getting nowhere in family court that he thought it was best to just leave. \n\nAs far as charges go, the initial charges the police arrested them on were dropped. The states attorney said there was not enough evidence to pursue it in court. However, I have a restraining order against him, they would not give me one against my mother. The attorney said he will look into filing other charges but it is very unlikely that will happen unless the order of protection is violated. \n\nOther than this, not much is going on. What do I do about the deep sadness I'm feeling? Should I call my friends and explain to them that I moved, or is it best to just leave everything behind and start working fresh? I just feel... hopeless, I guess.\n\nThanks everyone!", "summary": "I'm with my dad. Mom and BF are out no charges. OP against BF. Miss my life."}
{"id": "t3_2oo9ma", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by passing out at my parents' house.", "post": "This happened over Thanksgiving a little over a week ago. I spent the week at my parents to see them and my extended family (I'm several years out of college). Before leaving, I was talking to my buddy and about how stressful the holidays can be when families get together. It's always fun for the first 24 hrs, and then everyone gets sick of each other. I jokingly said something along the lines of \"yeah, I'm gonna need a Xanax\". He's a little bit of a druggie and replied, half joking, that he knew where I could get some if I actually wanted to. I enjoy weed on occasion, but other than that I'm a pretty boring guy. Later on thinking about it, I was just like fuck it, I actually could do this... So, I did. He contacted his guy the next day, and I bought 10 Xanax pills.  \n\nFlash forward to three days later, just as predicted I'm already so annoyed by my family. We finished eating Thanksgiving dinner and everyone was laying around. I went upstairs and decided to pop a pill to relax. Little did I know, it would absolutely knock me the hell out. It was just 1mg and I had no idea how powerful they were. I woke up about 11pm and figured I'd call it a night. I headed for my bedroom, get to the kitchen where my family and grandparents are still talking, and the room immediately goes silent. My mom stands up, stares at me and holds up the plastic bag with the Xanax. Apparently, I passed out so quick I left the bag laying next to me. They were looking for me and found them, but of course waited til I woke up to make a scene out of it. She yelled \"what the HELL are you doing?\" and went on a big, shouting rant in front of my whole family/grandparents about how they haven't seen me in almost a year, and yet I come home to do drugs. Cue shaking heads of disappointment from my grandmother. She then proceeded to flush them down the toilet.", "summary": "Don't try prescription pills for the first time around your family."}
{"id": "t3_2z7hh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fianc\u00e9 [27m] broke up with with me [28f] tonight after 4 years of living together. I am devastated and lost.", "post": "I need some sort of advice. I'm sitting downstairs crying in the apartment I share with my former fianc\u00e9. He is upstairs asleep. We have built a life together and my wedding dress is hanging in the closet. I have no idea how to begin the process of dividing our shared possessions and bank accounts and frankly, I just want to crawl into a hole and never come out. \n\nHe ended it because he doesn't have the \"energy\" to put into salvaging our relationship, which was seemingly fine until this evening. \nWe argued in the past but have had no issues since September. He recently lost his job and we have been going through a rough time financially, but everything else has been great until now.", "summary": "I [28f] was just dumped by the man [27m] I have loved and shared a life with for the past four years. I have no idea how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_ioozk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to approach sister about her married man...", "post": "So me 26f, sister 29f. \n\nI need some advice on how to approach my sister about her dating relationship. I need something better than \"WTF are you crazy?!\" I just learned from my sister that she's in a relationship with a married man. This sounds bad but it actually gets worse.\n\nWe've talked about guys before and I've never been thrilled with the people she's dated but this takes the cake. She hasn't told me everything, but what she has makes me very concerned. She says that she's in love with a married man. A married man who wants to be separated but is a coward about divorce and hasn't started divorce proceedings yet. He keeps saying he's going to and keeps trying to get reassurance that my sister will be there if he makes it official. \n\nThis \"great\" guy also offered to give her a child but to not marry her. This blows my mind. This guy sounds like a loser and somehow my sister isn't seeing this. The fact that he's cheating on his wife and the fact that my sister is often deployed in the Navy, which means she's not home for stretches at a time, makes me think that she's just his relationship on the side. \n\nI see a huge train wreck coming and I love my sister, but I don't know how to approach it without setting her on the defensive. She often believes that her opinion are right and everyone else's is wrong. I know I can't stop her actions, but I want to try and help her. I know anything I might say probably won't make a difference, but I have to try. She's my older sister and I love her, but she's always had issues with guys, probably stemming to the fact that her biological father abandoned her and my mother. \n\nSo.. any ideas on what to say? How to approach the situation without alienating her? How to somehow try to show her this guy isn't a good guy?", "summary": "Sister is in love with/having an affair with a married man who wants to give her a child. How do I tell her to drop this loser without alienating myself and making me seem like the enemy?"}
{"id": "t3_3sauvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the best way to support him during what is likely to be a rough season? Me (22/F) my boyfriend (28/M)", "post": "My boyfriends dad passed away in early December of last year, before he and I even met. We met in late December/early January, and it actually took me a while to find out that that had happened (his friends told me, because they didn't want either he or I getting hurt). We started dating in the middle of February, and so far as I can tell from what he's told me and the interactions we've had, I don't think he's grieved much since that time, unfortunately we are also long distance most of the time because I'm attending college in a neighboring state. So, the anniversary of his dads passing will be coming up before I'm back in town for winter break (mid December to mid January). I also am not sure if Christmas is a touchy subject, I haven't really brought it up with him because he's never brought it up with me and I don't want to cause him to feel sad by taking about it and asking questions. \n\nIf it helps for advice, he and his father weren't very close, his dad was strict and my boyfriend was a pretty rebellious adolescent, so they were always at odds until my boyfriend got older and they understood each other a bit more. I also am slightly concerned that he feels a small amount of responsibility, for reasons that it's not my place to talk about. \n\nI've never had a close friend who has lost a parent, so I'm really lost on how to give him my support without dragging up a lot of pain. Thank you for any help you can provide.", "summary": "my boyfriends father passed away last year before we started dating, what's the best way to support him as the anniversary comes around this year?"}
{"id": "t3_4jukba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF[25F] of 3 months, Not entirely sure if she is cheating...", "post": "My girl and I have been together for a few months now. However, there is a guy that she still is in contact with that worries me. This guy happens to be her ex LTR. She told me at the beginning of the relationship while we were in the dating phase that she had slept with him. I said I appreciate your honesty and we moved on and we are now exclusive. \n\nShe wants to remain friends with this guy and I told her I found it a bit weird. They were together for a long time and I don't think its my place to tell her who she can and cannot see. She told me anyway that she wouldn't be cutting him out of her life. \n\nI am aware that they are still in contact through social media and text. I had not been aware if they actually see each other but I had a strong suspicion they do during the week. I asked her about it and she came clean. They have been seeing each other platonically about once a week for the whole time we have been together. He is obviously still in love with her. The part that bothers me is that she didn't tell me they were actually hanging out. I think in her mind she covered it by telling me they were still in contact.", "summary": "not sure if what my gf is doing should be considered cheating? it kinda feels like it. Don't know if I am being over sensitive.."}
{"id": "t3_1gn10g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M18) wants to break up with me (F17) while we still like each other in order to stay friends later. (Good friends for 4 years, been dating for almost 4 mouths)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have known each other since 9th grade and have been pretty good friends until later in our Senior year things got romantic. We had an agreement to break up on good terms when he goes out of state for college and not try the long distance thing. Well due to finances he recently (Mid-June) discovered he would not be able to go out of state and have to stay in his home town.\n\nI asked him the other night while we were laying in bed if there were any positives to staying in town and he replied that at least goodmalefriend was here still. Although I'm very sad for him that he isn't going to the college he planned to I was still a little hurt and I asked him if having goodmalefriend around was the only positive and he said yes. I paused for a while and asked him if we were still breaking up when he goes to college like we planned before, even though he's staying in town and he said yes.\n\nHis reasoning is that he really doesn't like losing friends and he liked that we were going to break up on good terms even though we'd still like each other. He said he doesn't want to break up down the line because we hate each other so when college starts is the best time.\n\nI understand his reasoning but it seems silly to break up while we still like each other. I think no matter which way we break up we'll drift apart but will breaking up in August really keep things okay between us? He wants us to be friends throughout college and I'm willing to try but I think it isn't a huge possibility.\n\nI'd like some words on the situation preferably from someone with a few more years on me. Anyone in high school don't reply (Sorry D;)", "summary": "Boyfriend is staying in town for college but wants to break up when the school year starts (Even though we still like each other) so can remain friends through college and we don't break up because we hate each other down the line."}
{"id": "t3_16srf7", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Hey guys, I am in grad school and working part time and having a hard time. Advice?", "post": "I am in school I should finish in a year and half. I am working part time at a low paying job, I have tried for over a year to get something better. I am having family issues, my mother is seriously ill. To make my life work right now I am needing to balance it all out. School, Work and Life. On the side I am looking for things to make life more frugal. I am applying for food stamps and hopefully will get more help in school.\n\nWhat I am asking is for tips and ways to help life right now. I want to live with as little stress as possible but I know its going to be hard.\n\nWhat more is out there? How easy is it to sell clothes etc on ebay? How likely is getting assistance through the state ( only temporarily)?", "summary": "For a college student in trouble what ways can I make life easier? Advice/Tips ?"}
{"id": "t3_3mgu49", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Long distance relationship trouble with fiancee [19/f]", "post": "We've been in contact (long distance) for 1 year: Facebook for texting, and Skype for calls. We finally got engaged this summer. She's a great girl: smart, caring, and good looking. She lives with her family, but we spent time together over the summer.\n\nAfter the summer, she started getting ready for uni. During the weeks before she started attending, we had 2 or 3 Skype calls, which is OK since she's busy. The problem is that she rarely even texts. It's usually me sending her a \"good morning\", 1 response from her a few hours later, then I ask her something else, delayed response, etc. I got fed up, and told her I expect more communication from her side. I told her I feel she's not really interested in how I'm doing. She went defensive, claiming she's really busy. I said OK no problem, just try to send more texts at the very least.\n\nBy now she starts university. She has a lot of coursework and lives in a dorm, so we agreed on 1 long Skype call during the weekend. 2 weeks into the semester, and she STILL isn't texting enough for my liking. I'm the one initiating as always, so I stopped doing so. She starts to send a \"baby?\" message late at night, still not interested in how my day was even though I'm not sending as much as usual..\n\nTwo days back, I repeated what I said last time, telling her she needs to try harder. She apologizes, and says she'll try harder. I don't understand why I need to make this clear again.\n\nWhat I'm not sure of is am I asking for too much? I know she's busy with school, but all I want is for her to be \"here\" more. I want to know what she's doing, how she feels, etc. Are some people just not good at long distance?\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "LD fiancee has trouble keeping in contact, claims heavy coursework responsible"}
{"id": "t3_52qo01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [43 M] with my girlfriend [43 F] of two months, am I being needy or realistic?", "post": "Here's the background:\n\nIn the very beginning, she'd call me from work in the morning.  Several times a day. Talk for hours, even at work.  Was amazing!\n\nAs time moves along, she stopped calling and insists it's because she's too busy.  Of course, I am thinking \"you weren't too busy before!\" but I'm trying not to be dumb about it.\n\nThe issue I'm having is that I'm allowing the lack of calls to make me feel anxious inside.  Today, for example.  She had an early morning meeting that she told me about and said \"I'll try to call you on my way or after the meeting\".  The meeting was 3 hours ago.\n\nWhat I believe I SHOULD do is just not contact her until she calls.  Maybe she's super busy.  Maybe somebody called in sick and she's covering.  Who knows.  What I ultimately end up doing is texting her and asking if she's busy.  The worst part is this:  when she doesn't reply, I sit here like a teenager and make myself sick over it when I have no idea why she hasn't answered!  \n\nHelp me out here. I don't like being this way!", "summary": "I feel like I'm being too needy and need to know if I am and how to fix it!"}
{"id": "t3_31fedk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my [23M] boyfriend. Problems with his ex.", "post": "I'll start by saying that I have two jobs, so I work a lot. One of them is a retail job, so I have a few customers who come in a lot and chat with me, and sometimes I go see them at our local arcade, and I hang out with them there when I see them. \n\nOne of the guys I met, Harvey, is really cool, and we have a similar interest in downhill longboarding. He told me I should come out and skate with our towns longboarding group. Being somewhat new to the area, I got excited to make new friends.\n\nTwo days later, I requested off of both my jobs (which was granted because I never ask for leave) to go skate. I then get a facebook message from Harvey, firmly uninviting me. It was because my boyfriend's ex, Jessica, is part of the skateboard group and said I'm not allowed to go. Harvey said I can come skate one day with a smaller group a friends another day. I didn't ask any questions, and just said okay. It really hurt my feelings at the time, but I'm over it now. This was a week ago\n\nHarvey came into my store yesterday, and apologized for what happened. He felt really bad. Apparently the day they went to go skate, Jessica just talked shit about me the whole time, even though I've never even met her. Whatever, right? \n\nBut then Harvey told me that Jessica was talking about hanging out with my boyfriend recently. My stomach dropped. I didn't want to seem caught off guard so I didn't ask any questions. \n\nI'm not a psycho controlling bitch. If he would have just told me, I wouldn't have minded. Now it seems really sketchy that he's hanging out with her without without telling me. I don't think he would cheat on me, but I still feel uneasy about all this and don't know how to confront him.\n\nI'm mostly posting here because I'm not sure how to confront him. There's a good chance he will freak out on me if I say something, so I really need advice on how to approach this situation.", "summary": "My boyfriend is hanging out with his ex behind my back. I do not know what to say to confront him about this situation. Also, she's kind of a bitch."}
{"id": "t3_4mm5gw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Ca) Real Estate agent flooded a room in our house for sale.", "post": "Mr parents put our house for sale and due to the relocation company were forced to stick with a set real estate company. Well long story short an agent showing the house did not go through it at the end and one of their clients turned on the hot water valve to the washer machine and never fully closed it, which lead to the flooding of our laundry room. Luckily, my mom decided to go back to California to look at the house that day or else the water would not have been discovered for another week eventually flooding the whole house. My parents never shut off the utilities, due to having a pool and wanting to keep the yard in tip top shape. Our real estate agent called the last few people to show the house and of course they all denied everything. Our listing agent agreed to put an electronic lock box on the house which never happened (would document the agents obtaining the key for the house). Our listing agent also made idiotic comments saying \"don't worry the water will just evaporate over night\" when clearly water seeped through the walls and most definitely up the dry wall. She also told my parents that they should just try to hide the damage and hope this wont effect the full offer on the house they accepted the night before the flooding was discovered. My parents doing the right thing had an inspection done and will end up costing my parents thousands out of their own pockets to get fixed.\n\nI doubt my parents are trying to pursue any legal action but possibly if they were what would they be able to do? At the very least is there a real estate equivalent to the \"BAR Association\" to which my parents could report or review both of the agents involved in this incident. They were wronged and do not want this happening to others.", "summary": "Laundry room flooded at the wrongdoing and neglect of our listing agents and other real estate agents showing the house. What legal route can my parents take to hold the ones responsible accountable."}
{"id": "t3_1f8tio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] turned down a threesome with two girls I met because I have a girlfriend [24f] and I regret it...", "post": "...a little bit. I know I made the right choice because I love my girlfriend very much and I want to marry her eventually, but this is one of those things where I feel like every guy dreams of and I just missed possibly the only chance in my life. I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now.\n\nAnyway, here's what happened. My friends and I were at the bar and we met these group of girls. I hit it off with one of the girls. We'll call her H. After the bar closed, my roommate, who also has a girlfriend, and I went back to the girls place. We hung out for a while. H's sister comes up to me after a while and tells me that H and a friend want to have a threesome with me. I thought she was joking so I ignored it. \n\nA little later, my roommate and I are about to leave and I go say goodbye to H and she pulls me close and says, \"My friend and I will make it worth your while if you stay.\" I decline and start leaving. She then tries to drag me into the bathroom and I just push away from her and went to find my roommate and push him out of their place. \n\nI told my roommate after we leave and he said I was an idiot. One of my other friends made a good point. If I went through with it, I couldn't tell anyone, but since I didn't go through with it, I can brag to everyone. I told my girlfriend about it and she's proud that I didn't do anything. She also understands that I regret it a little bit.\n\nI'm glad I didn't go through with it because I would have felt terribly guilty. However, it still sits in the back of my head and I wonder if I missed out. So I have a little bit of regret, a little bit of relief, and I don't know if what I'm feeling is \"normal\" or \"good\".", "summary": "I turned down threesome because I have a girlfriend. Now I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_1f7vn5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/m]I want to leave my girlfriend (17/f) but i am certain she would kill herself and possibly me.", "post": "I know it sounds like i'm overreacting but around three days ago i told her that i couldn't do this and that i had to leave her. on that day she was checked into the hospital because she carved my name into her chest my initials in her bra strap and sliced her thighs to ribbons then she took a large dose of pills to kill herself. luckily she was found and taken to a hospital. then after learning this and knowing that i didn't want her to die i lied and told her that i broke up with her because i thought i was destroying her and it would make her happier in the long run. i know she won't get any help from her parent really because after we broke up and she did that her mom didn't want to take her to the hospital because that's what she deserved for dating me. then after i got back together with her she told me that if i ever did that again then she would kill us both. please i need to end this soon because its gotten almost to the point that i absolutely hate her and wouldn't care if she killed herself. how can i do this without causing a death.", "summary": "If you don't have time to read this just skip it you wouldn't have time for advice either."}
{"id": "t3_2tm65z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 19 F] w/ my Boyfriend [20 M] 2 years cheating finally getting over it now he wants to be friends w/ other girl", "post": "I reallt think i love him, and i think [am pretty sure] he loves me. We've been dating for around two years. on our anniversary we got in a fight because he told me he thought he was in love with a mutual-ish freind. i told him i wasnt sure we could keep seeing eachother if he felt like that.\n\n as the night went on i went home and he continued drinking.\nhe called her then picked her up they spent the night together although he was too drunk to sleep with her. he told me after a couple of days \n\nit hurt but ive slowly come to accept it was a mistake. but now he's saying he wants to call her go out for coffee apologize for not talking to her. they were good friends so i dont want to get in the way of his only female friend. but i think he still thinks hes in love with her. i can see how much it hurts him to lose a dear friend. but im not ready nor do i know if ill ever be to be okay with them seing eachother", "summary": "Boyfreind cheated was okay with it. but now he wants to talk to her they were good freinds so i dont feel okay saying no. but im really not okay with it yet"}
{"id": "t3_1yaget", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) fucked up and cheated on my long distance love my life (25F)", "post": "I have NEVER cheated before. And i just (well 9 months or so) came out of a 8-9 year relationship. I wasn't looking for anything serious, as I was looking forward to some alone time.\n\nYet, here, on Reddit I found a girl I fell in love with INSTANTLY. I would do anything for her. Weve been skyping, sending packages back and fourth, etc etc. its been great.\n\nBut for some STUPID reason i decided some months ago to take a platonic friendship i have here locally to a sexually active one....at which time i kind of said things that werent true to this local girl. i feel bad about it and i know it was wrong, but after 8 years of the same gorl then 6 months of none i felt i needed some physical action.\n\nthe problem comes in because i told my LDR that we would be exclusive, and see only one another. yet i told the local girl that the LDR woman and i werent as serious as we were (because she probably wouldn;t have been okay with that) I really wish I hadn't done what I did, but now that I have is there anything that can be done to pick this relationship back up? Because this woman means the world to me.\n\ni know i am a shitty scumbag piece of crap here. and i am a statistic i promised myself i wouldn;t be. i hate cheaters. i am one. i hate myself. what can i do.", "summary": "cheated on my LDR SO, love her with all my heart is there any way to get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_1k1wt7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Insulted at a wedding...", "post": "So I honestly don't know where to post this. maybe rage or pathetic or maybe its a bit of getmotivated ? All I know is I just want to get this offmychest so here I am.\n\nAround late last year, I was at my cousin's wedding ceremony... it has just ended and I was having dinner at one of the tables outside of the house. Only a few people my age were at my table, but the rest were a generation above us. Conservative. One of the older men said \"Hey you're a pretty handsome fella... still a bachelor?\". I said \"Yeah.\". \"Single? No girlfriend?\". I replied, \"Nope... no girlfriend.\". Then he said \"A guy like you single at this age... well you know what that means...\". Now this may not be so clear here, maybe it was the context of the whole situation that I can't describe here, but it was pretty obvious that he was implying I was gay. And it was pretty obvious that he believed it even just a little bit too and wasn't too happy about it. At the time... I just fake-laughed it off and thought yeah... whatever. It only just hit me just now while I was randomly thinking about it in the shower... how fucked up that insult was.\n\nLook... I've been trying. I'm not single by choice. Man I hate it when I'm single. And just like Charlie Day's character in Horrible Bosses, I grew up just wanting to be a husband. It's been like... one of the most important goals in my life. So I've been trying, and now suddenly this guy is calling me gay. GAY. Look I have no problems with being gay, but that's just not who I am. I fall in love with women. So if there's a meter measuring how good I am in being a heterosexual guy, I'd be rated gay. That's how bad I am at finding a woman, falling in love and getting married. Holy fucking fuck. It's like sprinting... and sprinting for the try outs... using everything you have to get it... then be kicked in the balls and be told that you fucking suck.", "summary": "Guy genuinely thought I was gay... Didn't realise how much of an insult that was to my life until now."}
{"id": "t3_2ehnja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with [25M] short period of time, should I just end it?", "post": "So a few weeks ago we started talking online. I liked the fact that he was a med student and that he seemed like a kind person, and it attracted me to him. The first week we talked he was literally all over me, texting me constantly and wanting to spontaneously come visit me. It took a little getting used to but I just assumed that that was the way he showed affection. He told me that he only ever dates one person at a time, which I liked because I'm that way too, and after we met up in person we decided we'd be exclusive. He wasn't interested in seeing anyone else and neither was I. \n\nFast forward a week, he started a new rotation and has been really busy. I literally haven't had a nice conversation with him in over a week and it's driving me completely insane. I tried talking to him about how I felt, but all he could say was that he was sorry and that he'd just been so tired and busy. Which I understand, but...after everything he'd told me literally days ago that he wants to be best friends with his SO, spend all of his time together with her, come home to her, etc, I feel like he could make more of an effort to at least talk to me for a little bit whenever he had the time. And I've seen him active on Facebook so I know that he's had even just a small amount of downtime. But nope, he barely responds to my texts. \n\nI feel like we have a lot of potential as a couple, because we're similar people with similar life goals, but since it's so early on I feel like there's just not much that I feel like I need to save. At the same time, I do believe that he's genuinely sorry about being neglectful and that he's really been just tired and busy. But I don't want to be part of a relationship in where it doesn't even feel like I have a \"boyfriend,\" and if this is how it's always gonna be, then I can't do it. Any advice on what I should do? Med students, how have your relationships gone while you were in school?", "summary": "Met a great guy online that I see a lot of potential with, we're exclusive but he's been extremely busy with school and I haven't had a conversation with him in over a week. If this continues on for a long time I can't deal with it. Should I just break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_2cscty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my best friend [20F] of 6 years, she keeps intentionally smoking around me and trying to get me to smoke, even though I adamantly don't want to.", "post": "My best friend of 6 years started smoking about 3 years ago, though only in the past 6 months has she started purposefully been smoking around me, blowing the smoke in my direction and has been offering me cigarettes when I have been drinking. \n\nI have no idea why she won't respect my choices, or why she wants to pressure me to smoke so much and I don't know how I'm supposed to confront the issue. I've tried to consult her about quitting, which she wants to, but will never actually go through with anything. \n\nIs there anyway I could approach the issue with her in a respectful way, or help her to quit?", "summary": "How do I get my friend to stop forcing her habit on me, and help her to quit?"}
{"id": "t3_2gm8wz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing to my aunt", "post": "Let me start by giving some back-story: so my aunt who i never in my life saw before was supposed to arrive today after I came home from school but because of some fuck up at the airport she arrived 3 hours earlier. When they arrived home they left my aunt at our house without me knowing and they left to the dry cleaning place. So aunt was at home, silently sleeping off the jet lag in the guest room. The guest room is on the other side of the wall of my room.\n\nAs soon as i got home, i saw that my mom wasn't at home, that's completely normal because she always goes to some nail salon or some shit. So i take a shower and start doing some homework. I soon got bored and decided to listen to music along with it. After about 5 min i started singing along to the song, well if you call yelling loudly along with a song singing then i was singing. My aunt who was trying to sleep wakes to up see whats all the commotion about and tell me to shut up. Fuck.", "summary": "woke up my aunt who i have never seen before by screaming."}
{"id": "t3_we6ky", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I stop someone from harrassing me online if there's no proof that it's them?", "post": "I have an ex (female, I'm male) who, for no reason, went crazy at me and started hating me after she broke up with me last year. Ever since then she has been stalking my reddit account (this is a throwaway) and pretty much any other website I'm a regular on. She's been doing this since around November last year. The thing is though that she does it either anonymously or with new accounts so there's nothing linking them to her.  \nAt the beginning they were directed at me and about our relationship but now it's just abuse and threats referring to me apparently being a horrible person. Not threats of violence but psychological threats like \"I'm going to make sure everyone knows the truth about you, I'm going to ruin your life\". \n\nShe's even sent messages to girls I've been with since her, while I was with them, saying things like \"You'll be better off without him. He'll ruin your life. He's not who you think he is\". I don't know how she finds out who they are but she sends anything that she thinks will make them have second thoughts about me and they're all lies. She's even made one girl stop seeing me before. Not because she believed the messages, she just didn't want to be with someone that had such a vindictive ex.\n\nYou're probably wondering how I can know it's her but I've thought about it long and hard and there's no one else it could be. I'm \"the nice guy\" among my friends, no one dislikes me, at least not enough to harrass me. She's the only person that has a problem with me.\n\nI'm too old to be dealing with this high school bullshit but I can't see anything that could make her stop.", "summary": "Ex is anonymously sending abusive messages to me and any girl I try to start a relationship with. I know it's her but there's no proof to an outside party that it's her so I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_nuf8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my roommate's IP address is blocked from 4chan for child porn -- how should I go about investigating this?", "post": "I apologize in advance if I use the incorrect terminology, or if my statements make me sound stupid as fuck. I'm not particularly technologically minded, and definitely not very well-versed in networking/ISPs/IPs/etc. \n\nI moved in with my roommate a few months ago, and we agreed that we'd just use his internet connection. earlier today, I decided to finally check out 4chan again (I hadn't been there in a LONG time), and I got a \"You are Banned\" message (for \"CP,\" which I'm guessing is child porn). it dates back to 13-Oct-2007.\n\nmy roommate's not home right now, and I don't know if the IP we're using was recycled or what. I'd like to investigate the situation, but I don't know what to do. I definitely don't want to accuse him of anything, and I don't even know if he uses 4chan.", "summary": "using my roommate's internet, I found out 4chan blocked his IP for child porn. now what?"}
{"id": "t3_2wn68r", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I wish South Park would go back to its roots", "post": "I really think South Park has suffered in quality over the years as they have changed from extreme make believe stories that consisted of things like \"Celebrities becoming giant robots that can only be taken down by Leonard Maltin, Robert Smith and Sidney Poitier\" and other crazy scenarios.  Over the season they have moved to topical stories that involve flooding of an entire town to Debate over the political correctness of The Washington Redskins. \n\nI would kill to see SP come out with a season of nothing but outlandish creativity that brings the boys back to their innocence of asking a million questions of adults to which they cannot answer to alien probes coming out of Cartman's ass.", "summary": "I don't like the topical stories that South Park revolves around, I miss fanciful made up stories that could only happen in a cartoon that doesn't take itself too seriously"}
{"id": "t3_1d958b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst event/series of events that happened to you that led to the most positive outcome?", "post": "In 2009 I was living in florida (I'm from the Midwest) and dating a girl. I planned to ask her to marry me. We were on our way to go on a boat ride a few hours north where I would propose. Exactly halfway between our home and the spot my truck died (the radiator blew) and we were stuck on the roadside for a few hours until a friend came and drove us the rest of the way. We went on our boat ride and she said yes. A month later I was fired from my job. I went home and had a party I had planned a few weeks ago. The next morning she broke up with me and went back to her home in Wisconsin. I drove to my familial home in Iowa to collect myself and get on track. A few weeks later I woke up to find that my dog (my best friend for several years) was unable to walk. He had a spinal embolism and would be unable to walk the remainder of his life. I made the toughest decision of my life and had him put down. I spent a few months working on my family's farm in Iowa. I then went to see my parents for Christmas in MA. I met an amazing women (my younger brothers best friend) and fell in love.\n\nThat was three years ago. Today she is three weeks from graduating college, I have a fantastic job, and we are planning to be married. \n\nI can't help but feel that if the radiator hadn't blown I wouldn't be here today.", "summary": "truck died, lost job, fianc\u00e9 left, dog died. Met girl of my dreams and am happier than I could have ever imagined. "}
{"id": "t3_3xht5k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing off on a motorcycle", "post": "This happened last week but my buddies told me to post it here. \n\nI was coming down a big hill in my town and at the bottom there is straightaway that is nearly a mile long. Now, I ride a sport bike and if you know what I'm talking about you will also know that the seat is not something one would want to sit on for multiple hours; especially if one is male. I had been riding for approximately two hours and my ding dongs were stuck to my thigh and becoming most uncomfortable. So, along this straightaway at a speed of 55-60 mph, I stand on my pegs, do a little twerk to unstick my boys, and sit back down. I continued along with a renewed sense of freedom now that sitting was comfortable again. Little did I know, a police officer, on a motorcycle himself, had witnessed my little high speed dance, and once I passed him, he flicked on his lights and gave chase. Now, being the soft, white, law-fearing little sausage that I am, I immediately pulled over on a side street and shut down my two-wheeled speed machine. I sat there, knowing this was going to be difficult to explain. The officer dismounted his own motorcycle and walked over. \n\n\"Hi. What was that back there? You showing off?\"\n\nIt was then I realized that I had no choice other than to simply tell the policeman that I needed to unstick my nuts. \n\n\"No sir. As a fellow motorcyclist I'm sure you can understand that sitting on a bike for awhile doesn't feel that great. I uh... I was... Adjusting myself. Sir.\"\n\nHe looked at me, then back to my bike, then back to me. Then he just started laughing. He laughed and laughed and said, \"I know that feeling all too well! Don't let the squad cars see you, they won't be so understanding. Be safe out there!\"\n\nWith that, he got back on his bike, still smiling and chuckling to himself, and rode away. \n\nI still can't believe it.", "summary": "Had to unstick it, didn't get a ticket."}
{"id": "t3_2upxl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [20M] been dating someone [20F] with opposing political views. Advice/personal experience?", "post": "We're both attending the same university and have been in a relationship for just over 2 months now. We both know we have opposing political views, I'm a democrat and she's a republican and so far things have been pretty good. We get along great and spend a ton of time together. I haven't been able to make a good connection to someone in a while. My only worry is that our political views will eventually come between us and break the relationship. So I'm looking for any advice or personal experience on having a successful relationship with someone of opposing/different political views. Thanks.", "summary": "Looking for advice/personal experience on having a successful relationship with someone of opposing/different political views."}
{"id": "t3_1go7hx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why do I always feel like my relationships aren't good enough?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nI've been in a bunch of relationships on my day. (Male, 29 this year) and I'm starting to wonder why I get to the point where I feel like I want something new, or some girl catches my eye that I can't get out of my head or want to get to know her well enough to date. \n\nI have been in a bunch of 3 month, 2 yr, 5.5yrs before my current gf of 1.5yrs and they all seem to come up the same. I was an asshole before and cheated during some of the previous ones in my younger days but told myself I wouldn't anymore because it's not fair to them. \n\nBut the feeling of getting out and being with someone new always creeps in and ruins my feelings for my current gf. I love her and care for her but don't know if I should stay, go or figure out what's wrong and try to fix it.  \n\nI guess I'm asking if anyone has had the same thing happen or knows what I might be doing wrong or how to change my way of thinking. I feel like maybe I should just not get into a relationship anymore as it doesn't fully make me happy because it ends,or starts to end this way.", "summary": "Every relationship I have I always feel like I want a new girl no matter how in love I feel with the girl I'm with. "}
{"id": "t3_1zwczd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my SO [36 F] of almost 13 years, Trust issues", "post": "My SO and I are going on 13 years together. There is a lot to our history so I'll try to make it short. I have serious anxiety issues and have been hurt in past relationships by cheating GF's. My current relationship (not married but we call each other husband and wife) is very confusing and I need advice.\n\nI am an honest person and, in the beginning, explained to her that I would rather be hurt by the truth than destroyed by a lie. Needless go say, it was lies from the start. Now she wonders why I don't trust her.\n\nShe can look me in the eye and lie about something even if I saw the truth with my own eyes, and when I bring it up, she denies it until no end. I just want her to say what it is I already know so that maybe she will see my point of view. There is so much more to it but.... help please.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_41ax37", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dry humping my room mates new GF (NSFW)", "post": "OK so this was a few years back. My room mate and I would do dumb shit when the other had a girl over, things like knock on the door, shout \"what are you doing....\" Just dumb, but funny (to us) things. \nSo one morning I charge into his room and swan dive on top of the bed, slide my hand under the covers, hold tight and dry hump like the world is going to end. Then he sits up BESIDE me and says \"dude. What are you doing?\" Turned out she couldn't sleep near the window and had to sleep on the side he always slept on. \nSo I pulled the covers back and said \"hi. Um I'm (name) I am so very sorry. And I just noticed you are nude and my hand is still on your tummy. Again. So very sorry\" thankfully she thought this was the funniest thing out and moved past it faster than I did. \nWe didn't play that game after that day..", "summary": "Dry humped room mates new GF as an introduction"}
{"id": "t3_1q9d9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] recently broken up with and confused about her reaction.", "post": "So about two to three weeks ago I got a phone call saying things weren't working. Fair enough, things ended. It was unexpected and I was massively heartbroken. She said she wanted to stay friends and that's fair enough too. But I felt I still needed time apart from her to be able to do this to get over her and be a genuine friend. Standard stuff.\n\nSo to that end I broke off all contact. As soon as I deleted her off of Facebook she gets on at me saying something along the lines of, \"so guess you don't want to be friends\". Very clearly angry. I explained my position (needing time to heal, not wanting to see her now blossoming social/sex life) yet she is absolutely livid. Was I being unreasonable? Can someone help me understand her position?", "summary": "deleted her off Facebook. She's now mad at me. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_iodsn", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Hey r/travel, got any tips for a vegan? (especially Asia?)", "post": "Hello all :)\n\nSo one of my big goals in life involves extensive travel across Asia (other parts the world too, but I'd like to spend an extended amount of time in India/Asia). I've been a vegan for a while now and it's definitely not going anywhere, but I'm not sure if my travel plans will fit well with my lifestyle choice :S I may be completely in the wrong, but it looks like there won't be much to eat if I go, which could be a bit of an issue :P Anyone with experience on ANY part of the continent (I know India will be a LOT easier, but if you know about Thailand/Korea/etc. that'd be great :) ) with advice for a would be backpacker will be greatly appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I want to backpack but not be living on soy and chips for 6 months."}
{"id": "t3_2fl9mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [22F] obligated to tell my boyfriend [32M] that I had sex with someone when we were broken up?", "post": "We've been together around 4 months. We had an argument on Saturday night and he ditched me at the bar when he knew I had no ride home and then ignored me for 4 days. So, after a few days I decided to move on and start going out and having fun but when I was out having fun, I had sex with a couple guys. \n\nI told him about the one because he saw a post on facebook by a couple of our mutual friends. One of them said \"good job hooking up tiffani and ben\" as soon as my \"boyfriend\" saw that, he finally decided to talk to me. He asked if i had sex with him and I didn't want to straight out lie, so I told him the truth about it and he started crying. \n\nAt the time, I was at Ben's house and my \"boyfriend\" said he was going to come pick me up to talk because he said I just assumed that we broke up. I told him I tried to talk to him for 4 and a half days in a row but he wouldn't answer so, I figured it was over..\n\nLast night we technically got back together and I'm still wondering if I'm obligated to tell him about the other guy..\n\nWhat do you think Reddit?", "summary": "Boyfriend ditched and ignored me for 4 days, I figured he was done with us but he wanted to get back together last night. Told him about one guy I had sex with during that time, do I need to tell him about the other??"}
{"id": "t3_1cnkip", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog training has stopped because of a water bottle.", "post": "I have a two year old dog. Hes pretty sociable and is very loyal towards me. I'm assuming he is fairly intelligent because he picks up on tricks quickly. When we go outside to play, I usually carry a water bottle with me. He never reacted negatively to until just a few weeks ago.\n\nI made a decision to cut out all soda and tea from my life. I'm only drinking water now. I tend to have a couple of cases in the house and one in the fridge. I assume I left a bottle out one day and due to temperature change or pressure the bottle \"popped\" (not exploded) and scared the crap out of him. Now, he turns into a quivering little ball every time he sees a water bottle. Right now, he'd be sitting right beside me, instead he is cowering under the bed.\n\nI don't think giving up water bottles as a solution. I stopped buying the cheap \"eco-friendly\" bottles and went with the ones with thicker plastic (and before everyone flips out, I re-fill the bottles multiple times), but his reaction is still the same.\n\nI also don't want to torture him with it. I was thinking about getting one of those stuff-less animals and putting a water bottle with treats in it, but I'm afraid that the opposite would occur in which he'd destroy every bottle he finds. Has anyone dealt with this? Thanks.", "summary": "Dog is terrified of water bottles and hides under bed when I have one out. How do I break this?"}
{"id": "t3_jm169", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the funniest way you've gotten in trouble with the law?", "post": "Not my story, but of a friend.  \n  \nBack in high school we had a website that our school used (as well as many other schools in the nation) to log grades so that students and parents could check them online. Well my friend was maybe 16 at the time, but was the most computer savvy guy that I knew. He programs and hacks for fun and is really bright.  \n  \nBut he was also an idiot. He decides to see what he can do on this grading site, called STI. He somehow gets access to all the grades...and DELETES THEM. The entire state of Alabama. Now, he didn't think it would work, and started to freak out. The school put up a notice that \"STI is down, blah, blah, blah...\" and he just quietly sat there, only he and I in the know.  \n  \nLuckily, the grades came back up about 3 days later from a backup that was kept somewhere. But then the bastard got cocky...While on a break during our history class, he starts showing off to some people and deletes seven states worth of grades. He jokingly says \"Hey, if some guys in black suits come asking for me...I'm not [friend's name]!\" Then he runs off thinking he's badass.  \n  \nWell, they traced the two locations that it was done from to his house and our history classroom and figured out who the culprit was. A few days later, during class, a man in a black suit asked for him. \n  \nHe went to Juvenile Detention for a semester and then was given an application from the CIA to work for them after college.", "summary": "Idiot friend hacks into grading system and deletes seven states worth of information, gets cocky and brags. Jokes about \"men in black suits coming to get him.\" Two days later a man in a black suit came and got him."}
{"id": "t3_3wtl5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26M]cut off my family but now my dad is trying to force me to make contact.", "post": "After a fight and a verbal and mental attack on my wife[25] and I, I cut off my narc/manipulative mother[50s], enabler father[50s], golden child/narc sister[30s]. This fallout has been a lead up of about 3 years of back and forth, the actual fallout happened on my birthday after I didn't want my sister to watch my son one day.\n\nMy wife and I bought a new house and moved, I changed my phone number but today my dad texted my wife saying I need to call my mom, the doctor ordered immediate ultrasounds and not to let potentially her last Christmas be without her son.\n\nI am still seeking counseling and therapy, I finally feel accepted I need it and I don't think I am ready to open up conversations again... but what if he is right?", "summary": "Cut off family, dad texted saying I need to talk again because something could be wrong with my mom and it could be her last christmas"}
{"id": "t3_34rfxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] just broke up with my gf [21 F] toghether for 7 months, although im pretty sure she was the one for me.", "post": "First i wanna apologize for my bad english, my girlfriend always helped me with good englisch structured post.\n\nYesterday we broke up after a perfect relationship of 7 months\nthe last month we made always stupid discussions about the most random stupid things.\n\nWe had too much discussions the last month and i have a very hard time saying sorry to her ( yes i know im a jerk )\nAltho i was wrong the most of the times i wanted to be right even when i was deadwrong, we said mean things and still i didnt even think about saying sorry once.\n\ni was getting sick of these pointless discussions and we both agreed it would be better to split up.\nnow after just one day, i already regret what i said.\nI feel empy, i feel lost without her.\nShe was absolute perfect in anyway, she knew my passion, she knew my dreams and she realled believed in them.\nOther persons would laughed at my ridiculousness big dreams.\nBut not she, she believed them like i could do it.\n\nI know this is a clich\u00e9 thing to say, but i really really sure she was the one.\nI feel my life doesnt have a meaning anymore im lost.\nI had my future planned with her, i had dreams living together so detailed i knew the colour of the walls of our future house.\n\nBefore i met her i was in sort of bi polaire state, one days i absolute loved live and some nights i was crying alone in my car thinking if would crash against a tree all these pain would end.\nThen she came and everything was perfect.\nNow she's gone again, and i feel my depression feeling coming again.\n\nI have no goals anymore, were i used to work for our future.\nI work for absolute nothing anymore, my dreams are crumbled because the girl who supported me left me.\nThe weekend were the best part of the week because of her, now weekend are just days with nothing in them.\n\npeople say there are other fish in the sea.\nBut this girl wasnt a fish, she was my sea.", "summary": "i found the one, we broke because stupid discussions and now im completely lost."}
{"id": "t3_3fgip1", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Found this little bird stuck between a rock after my dog tried to kill it. It fell from it's nest... Can I do anything more for him?", "post": "This ( is the little bird I found. After freeing him and trying to return him back into his nest, the nest and baby were back on the ground 10 minutes later.\n\nI currently have him gated off on my porch, where there's shade -- still with the nest the mother had built. In keeping an eye on him, it seems like the mother came by and fed him in this location and I'm a bit worried about moving the nest repeatedly.\n\nSince I have dogs, I can't leave the nest there without the gate -- they would attack him again if they could get to him, but a few places advised in the stage that this bird looks to be in, it's capable of being out of the nest and will learn how to hunt/fly on it's own that way... Would I be hindering it by keeping it in behind a child gate where it can't, obviously, do these things?", "summary": "Found older looking baby who fell twice from nest. Placed baby gate around it on porch to prevent more falls/protect from my dogs. Is that the best place for it?"}
{"id": "t3_3cmv8i", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I fell of the track and my mom overstepping her bounds got me back on.", "post": "in March~ I started working at a walmart, to save up money for graduate school. working there, specially now that school is over has resulted in very odd hours. Thus, i eat whenever I can and whatever I can find. Before I was working, i found it easy to stave off hunger, cause all I was doing it was sitting around at home. When i was just doing college, I would eat at like...11:00 and then at 5-6. Totally doable. Now its like, I work in the middle of the day for 8 hours then, im back in at 7:00am, it threw me off.\n\nAnywho, before i started there, I was somewhere around 170-172, down from a high of 350+ within a year. Now im like...184 (weighed myself yesterday when I noticed a shirt was a bit tight. I knew I needed to get back on track and fix this, but tonight sealed it for me. My mom was about to go to bed and told me good night, but before leaving she GRABBED MY STOMACH and said \"getting a bit of a belly back, aren't you?\".\n\nI freaked out, felt she totally overstepped her bounds and chewed her out, she didn't seem to know what the problem was. But that was also the wake-up call I needed. Tomorrow (its 11:23pm) its back to clean eating, no deserts/shit food....period. If I have to stand around hungry for a few hours then so be it.", "summary": "mom grabbed my stomach, called me a fatty. Feel like she overstepped her bounds, but i'm glad she did."}
{"id": "t3_2elg36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my casual relationships in college.", "post": "Hey relationship redditors,\n\nI have a quick and intriguing question about relationships in college. What would you do in this situation? It is kind of awkward once I really think about it. Here's my short story. \n\nI'm 20 years old in college. In our college's honor program enjoying life and utilizing my brain to the highest capacity. I've met some really cool people over the couple years at my college. I wasn't too interested in girl's at first, however I am comfortable around them now. I wasn't before. I still am a little reserved, but that's all worked out now. I've changed up my lifestyle and negative habits and I'm in college to be a doctor! Only black man in my honors philosophy course and everyone else is white. Representing the black community! We need to represented in these sophisticated classes! XD\n\nAnyway, I knew this really nice girl from last semester. We met in the hall after a random instance. I don't know how we got to know each other, but anyway I really like talking to her. However, she told me that she's not too interested in doing anything out. Like going out. She's pretty comfy where she's at now and doesn't want to date. She told me that she liked me, but doesn't want to do that type of thing. It's pretty understandable.\n\nShe has a sister and I can sense that she really likes me! 0.o. It is a weird feeling, but all I do is politely bob my head to say hi and she really lights up when she sees me. And I ended up eating lunch with her. It was a really good meal and we have similar interests. She's a vegetarian and was on a cleanse and ate some really good looking salad! That alone was very admirable! Because I thought, \"wow that's exactly what I'd do!\" She kind of hinted and have me good vibes, but I could be wrong.", "summary": "What do I do? Should I get the second girl's digits somehow even though she is related to a girl that is not interested? Stay aqaitances?"}
{"id": "t3_26e8ii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] after [22F]- Commitment Issues", "post": "Hey so I've known this girl about a month now, shes really nice we like alot of the same things we get along well together, the first few weeks we talked alot hung out once just the two of us and twice with her friends at the bar we met at, one of the times her friend approached me and asked if I liked this girl and I said I did and I find her interesting, to which she replied that I should make a move and we didnt have this conversation\n\nWe got outside and I didnt really make a move but after a long hung we both sort of just went for a kiss and ended up making out, anyway since then a few things happened in her life, she was ill and her close friend ended up losing somebody etc, Ive been very understanding offering my support just as you should, one other time we hung out we sort of had a small heart to heart I told her about my ex and everything ive been dealing with and shes sorry ive been having to deal with that.\n\nI saw her out last night and we just generally chatted a little bit but she left because her and her friends were tired, I wanted to say to her face but because she left I couldnt so instead of just text her saying I thank her for being there to listen to me talk about my ex because its been hard and she said its fine shes everybodys vent at the moment, I went onto say thats not exactly what I meant I said that she actually cares and shes fantastic and its hard to find in people these days.\n\nShe went onto say that this is why she avoids ruining things, when I questioned her about that she simply said, she has commitment issues, so many of her friendships have been ruined from getting close, so she panics.\n\nIm just not sure where to go from her, shes the first person ive actually felt attracted to since my ex girlfriend, I think she does like me shes just afraid to make that next step incase it messes up another good friendship, any advice would be great!", "summary": "Boy meets girl, get along together, makeout, heart to heart, girl too afraid of commitment values friendship of friends alot, not sure if next step on the cards?"}
{"id": "t3_2nvbwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (19f) is giving me (19m) a red flag and should I be worried?", "post": "So me and my gf have been dating for 6 months and last night she went to a bar with some of her friends. I couldn't go since I had college work to do.\n\nI text her later in the morning saying good morning. I tell her I'm glad she made it home safe and how was the bar. She said it was fun. I tell her \"ohh cool what happen?\" I always ask how her day is and what happens, so this isn't new. She said \"lots\" and then I ask \"like what?\".\n\nShe tries being cute with me and tries telling me she won't tell me and saying hehe. I go along with it for awhile, but then I ask again. This time she gets defensive and asks why? I tell her \"cause we usually talk about our day and what happens. I don't see why you can't tell me.\" Then she goes quiet and it's been 4 hours since she texted me.", "summary": "Girlfriend went out with friends to bar and when asked what happened she got defensive. Should I be worried or is this a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_391ded", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[22F] too passionate and it's getting in the way of my relationships", "post": "Throwaway and on mobile. Not sure how to tag on mobile. \n\nI have had multiple partners break up with me because I'm \"too passionate\". Multiple partners have told me that, when things are good, things are amazing. But when things are bad, they're the worst situations they've ever been in.\nThe last two guys I've dated broke up with me within a month because I had gotten into fights with them at least twice in that time frame. The worst part? I didn't even realize we were fighting because we weren't screaming at each other (this happened a lot in my first relationship. Hasn't really happened since then because I now realize how destructive that behavior is and am much better at communication my feelings). I really do my best to modulate my behavior but something small will happen, I'll be upset, and then I won't/can't get over it. I've had constructive talks with my exes and the best advice they could give me if that they hope I'll find someone who likes my combative side. But I don't like that side of me. \n\nI obviously have a problem if multiple partners have had issues with me and they all said very similar things. This only really happens with romantic partners. I'm not sure why my platonic relationships don't have this problem. What can I do?", "summary": "my relationships are amazing until I have a mood swing and then it's complete shit. Then it will swing back. I feel helpless because I've ruined otherwise amazing relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2a15h8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 17[M] with my girlfriend 16 [F] of 8 months. Need advice on an issue.", "post": "So I was on the phone with my girlfriend and I told her I wanted to get off the phone for a few minutes to finish up a movie I've been putting on hold all night to talk to her since I got off work at 10pm and got home at 1030pm.  I've been trying to watch it all night but I've been putting it on pause to talk to her.  \n\nWell we were on the phone and I said \"Hey, let me call you back in like ten minutes.  I've been trying to watch this movie all night and I have ten minutes left of it and then I'll call you\".  She kept saying no and this went on 6-7 more times before she said \"Okay, bye\".  About 5 minutes later I call her because it's over and she doesn't pick up and I know she's not asleep. \n\nAbout 5 mins later I get ahold of her and I said \"Hey, why are you so mad?  I only had 5 minutes left?\".  She said something along the lines of \"Oh well I thought you wanted to start a whole new movie.\"  And I said no?  I told you I wanted to finish one and I had ten minutes left.  Turns out she wasn't listening to me the whole time.  I got really upset.  Is it wrong of me to get mad when she doesn't listen after I repeat myself 6-7 times and say the same thing and get a response from her?  Is it not disrespectful to me?", "summary": "gf wasn't listening to me at all after I said the same thing over and over and I'm getting sick of it.  Do I have a right to be upset that she's not listening to me after I say the same thing over and over and OVER again?"}
{"id": "t3_2rkc9d", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat stuck in the crawlspace.", "post": "I don't know where else to go for advice. My girlfriends cat got out of the house while we were celebrating our 6 months at dinner. \n\nWe can see him in the crawlspace but he is too scared to come to us. It's been 3 days and to our knowledge he hasn't eaten or had any water. \n\n(For all we know he may be drinking from a leaking pipe or something, but unsure)\n\nWe have a humane trap in the entrance to the crawlspace with a can of tuna and a can of white fish, but it's been 4 hours since we set the trap.\n\nWhat else can we do?", "summary": "Cat stuck in crawlspace"}
{"id": "t3_101rgt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Am I immature because I don't want contact with my ex?", "post": "I used to date this girl, but we broke up. It was an ugly break up and she ended up hurting me a great deal. I tried maintaining contact and even trying to forgive her and be friends but I couldn't do it. After that point i just blocked her out of my life. It was what i needed to get over it. Months later, i'm fine. Hooray right?\n\nAnyway, We share the same group of friends. I don't really care if they hang out with her and I wouldn't want to stop them from doing so. That'd be shitty of me. Everyone once in a while she sends an apology text but I haven't ever responded.\n\nThis past weekend I had a party at my house and invited an old friend. My old friend was at my ex's house and her only ride to my party was my ex. She kept asking if my ex could come and I said no because she makes me uncomfortable and I'd rather not have some awkward situation unfold in my own house. My friend called me immature and my ex did too. I shouldn't care that they did, and I havent ever had something that my ex said stay in my head but for some reason it really bothers me that she said that.\n\nSo, r/self, am I immature for not wanting my ex in my house? And Does maturity have anything to do with it? If I am, what should I do?  I don't have anyone to talk to and writing this will probably make me feel better. Anyway, thanks for reading.", "summary": "I got called immature for not wanting my ex at my party. Am I?"}
{"id": "t3_3wjnf6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by charging my phone (nsfw)", "post": "I I remember correctly I was 19 and my girlfriend 18 at the time, and we took a few slightly scandalous pictures of each other. (This will come into play) and my mom worked a combination desk/ running around helping do stuff job. I would often sit in her office with her and read a book, or run around and help her help do stuff. \n\n \nThis day was a day like any other except my iphone was a little low on batteries. My mom has a nifty little iphone charging chord dangling from her, work assigned, MacBook so I just go ahead as plug my phone into her computer. The computer does it's thing and asks if I want to download all I my pictures, and music, and get all of the updates that I haven't gotten in the last ten years and my mom just sort of flips it around with a sigh so I can push all the buttons I want to push because at this time in our lives, as well as now, I was better a tech than her. \n\n \nRemembering that I've got my unprofessional personal photos on my phone I request to NOT upload any pictures or music, and just to be safe DONT update my phone. And that was the end of it, or so I thought. \n\nDun dun DDUUUNNN!\n\nI get a call a few days later from my mom \"PROFESSOR! YOU LEFT NUDES ON MY COMP!\" So I rush to her office to see what the hell happened and find that she had a second program, this was a few years ago so I don't remember what it was, that didn't ask if you waned your photos uploaded, it just assumed you wanted it. \n\n \nShe had closed her computer at the first glance of glorious girl meat (I know she's a woman too, she was jut being polite) and let me delete the photos. Thankfully, the only picture that was on the screen was from the waist up, one of our less scandalous screenshots.", "summary": "unintentionally showed off my girlfriends boobs to my mom by charging my phone, which I wrote this story on 3 years later, sorry about formatting."}
{"id": "t3_2fnth6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did I [19M] treat my ex [17M] wrong?", "post": "I was recently dumped, about three days ago, after weeks of begging my ex not to do it. She had had a thing for me since third grade and we started dating two years ago in highschool. Things were pretty okay, but we did take one three week long break. In that break she started flirting with someone else, and it was awful. We did, however, get back together. That was about a month ago. \n\nNow for the past few weeks she has been dancing around the idea of breaking up with me and I have always plead with her not to. I told her I would never talk to her again, never see her again, that I would never give her another chance, and that I would start talking to someone else, because that's exactly what she did to me. After two weeks of telling her all this about once or twice a day she did it anyway. Today she told me about how she wanted me back, but I told her I was talking to a few other girls at this point. Her exact words were \"Fuck you, have a good life.\"\n\n I feel horrible about this whole thing, we haven't had the HEALTHIEST relationship, but it's still one I never wanted to end. We both had our faults; she would get mad at me for just having friends that were girls, but I'm a very social guy and like to make new friends. I would get mad at her for always delving WAY too deep into everything we ever talked about. (An example of this would be: My ex got upset with me for talking to this one girl, Girl B, purely as a friend, who lived about an hour south of me. I told her that was fine, I would just stop talking to Girl B, again purely as a friend. My ex then got mad at me for \"still wanting to be friends with  Girl B\", and threatened to break up with me so I could \"Finally go be friends with more people.\") I want to fix things but at the same time, I'm worrying that things will never get better.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend and I fight a lot, but I don't want to give her up and I want to work things out with her."}
{"id": "t3_2oi8cq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I [M18] proceed?", "post": "Me and this girl has been kind of seeing each other for around two months now. I like her a lot, and I'm around 95% sure she likes me a lot too, from her friends, flirting, physical interaction, etc. Initially, I was taking it REALLY slow because I'm the only guy she's ever been close to, since she has trust issues with guys. We've both never been in any relationship at all, I might add.  \n\nSo fast forward a couple weeks, we're getting pretty comfortable with each other, but I'm clueless as to how to move it forward. I realized that all of our interactions were kind of like... semi-dates like lunch, walking around in the park, and just getting to know each other in general. My college is boring as hell and that's pretty much all we have time for on weekdays. I think we both don't know what the hell we are at this point.   \n\nI planned on asking her out on an actual date on weekends but things kept getting in the way (finals and breaks), so the closest would probably be in another month. Should I just wait it out or what should I do instead? Next week is my last week before a 3 week winter break where we go home.", "summary": "There's this \"thing\" between me and a girl. Don't know what to do to move it forward since I can't ask her until after break. Wait after break to ask her out on an official date or do something else on the last week before?"}
{"id": "t3_l296z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone in the Navy been in the nuke program or know someone close who has been in it?", "post": "My boyfriend is thinking about joining the program. He's already taken the ASVAB, and his score allows it. I'm mostly worried about how long he'll be away and what kind of work he'll be doing. We're having problems gathering information on the program, as we don't know anyone who's been in it first hand. From the little he's gathered on the internet, people were complaining about how much they hated it. Some being dismissed because of depression, while others just pretended to be sad to get out of it.\n\n From a quick search, I read something about most of them being 63 days removed from high school. \"They're bright people who have never been challenged.\" To me this sounds like they're all kids, who finally have a challenge and are just bitching about it. My boyfriend's more mature than this and has no problem taking on challenges.", "summary": "Is this program something that a motivated individual could enjoy doing, or is it some ridiculously taxing program that'll drive a man to suicide?"}
{"id": "t3_3l3qvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Marine friend's fianc\u00e9 may have cheated on him. Not sure how to proceed. ( X-post r/advice)", "post": "Hey, and thanks in advance for any advice. So, my friend, let's call him Steve(M 22), recently got engaged to his GF of one year, let's call her Jane(F 20). Steve flew out on Labor Day weekend to surprise her with the engagement. Today an anonymous contact texted me that Jane may have cheated on Steve while he was in boot camp about 5 months ago. The contact said that Steve's best friend, me, should let him know now before anything gets too serious with them. I tried contacting the guy(Jerry) that Jane may have cheated with but have had no luck. There is a picture of the Jane and Jerry together that would fit the time frame. Jane has been known to be promiscuous in the past and that's why I find it hard not to believe. Steve is currently in school for the Marines in Virginia while we all reside in California so the long distance may be an issue. I'm just worried on how I can tell Steve without really hurting his feelings and without him being love blind. I only want the best for my friend Steve, but I also don't want him to be really hurt in the long run. Not sure how to proceed. Any advice would be welcomed.", "summary": "Marine friend may have been cheated on while at boot camp. Not sure what to tell him."}
{"id": "t3_43n5z6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How much money is worth it start trying more \"high return\" investments", "post": "I'm very very new to this so please go easy on me and ELI5 approach would be super helpful too.\n\nSo I'm a college student and I've kinda reached a peak of stuff that's pressing that I need to buy. I'm an RA so good and housing is fine. I don't really need anymore luxury items, and I've got a bit of a rainy day fund. I've also got a small income that ranges from $200-$400 a month. I'm also a filmmaker, so occasionally I'll purchase somethings for that but I've kinda hit everything I could possibly need for a while. Plus I just came onto a little bit more with some refund checks. \n\nI'm told it's a good idea to start investing as early as you can. I have a very base line knowledge of different investment opportunities (CDs, bonds, stocks, etc.) and I wanted to know what a good place to start would be/ do I even have enough to really make any type of meaningful return (assuming I have give or take $300 to work with)", "summary": "Beginner investor with a little bit of cash to use. Where do I start?"}
{"id": "t3_4yezno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/f] with my horrible hair loss, and discussing it openly with loved ones.", "post": "Hi Reddit.\nThrowaway because I'm embarrassed.\n\nWhen I was 15, I was in the bathroom getting ready for school when I noticed a patch of bald scalp on the back of my head. Since then, for the past 9 years, my hair's gradually been falling out from my entire scalp.\n\nA couple years ago, my mom and dad drove me 3 hours to see a hair specialist doctor, where I received thyroid, hormonal, blood, etc testing to see what the cause is. It was a really frustrating experience - the doctor told me that it's just genetics.\n\nI am asian, and everyone (seriously - everyone) in my family - even my grandparents today - has full, thick hair.\n\nNow, I can't put my hair up without some patches of scalp showing. I can't wear my hair down without my giant part showing. I can't style my hair, can't do anything with it. A good day is when my hair feels remotely normal in thickness.\nI love fashion and beauty, so this whole situation is just a hit to my self esteem.\n\nI have never discussed it with my friends, boyfriends, or boyfriends of the past. No one's every said anything to me about it, either (100% sure that is out o fpoliteness).The hair loss doesn't affect my social life or happiness overall, I have my priorities set, but still - before every date, after every shower, at every camping trip, every single day - it's like I re-realize how ratty my hair looks.\n\nBut I'm the only 24 year old I know with such bad \"genetic\" hair loss, and the only one in my family like this. If I could change it, like going to the gym and eating right will help one lose weight, I would absolutely commit to that.\n\nI guess what I'm looking for is support and some advice on the best way to feel better about something like this.", "summary": "Severe genetic hair loss, wondering how those with similar experiences help themselves feel better about it all. Thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_l3uy6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feeling left out. Not sure how to react.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We both go to the same college. This year, she joined an organization and she lives in a house with a bunch of other girls. It's a lot like a sorority.\n\nAs such, there are a lot of parties at frats and things that basically only she and her house-mates can go to. This happens kinda frequently, usually about two or three times a week. Once in a while (maybe every other week), some of my friends will have one or something and she'll come from wherever she is to be with us. But most of the time I can't go, so I just sit at home or do homework or something.\n\nAm I wrong for feeling really left out? I really wanna be part of her social life. We have plenty of good time to ourselves, and we're there for each other and we do nice things for each other. I don't think she'd cheat on me or do anything questionable while she's away. But it's not like she can get me into these things. We've talked about it too. But it's not like this is going to change for the next year or two. Should I just be happy with what I get? I really want to be, but I don't know how. I'm just not sure how to react. So that's my question. If this happened to you, how would you deal with it?", "summary": "I can't really be part of my girlfriend's social life. How should I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_10gzud", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Very stressed about my major and the possibility of changing. (x-post from r/AskReddit)", "post": "I have been in school to get a Bachelors of Science in communication through my school's film/video program. I have always had a love for story telling and filmmaking. \n\nHowever, more and more I realize that I am a storyteller first, and a filmmaker second. I have no desire to be in production. The two things I love are creating a story in pre-production and editing that story in the editing room during post-production. I have no *real* intention on being at production. I have been contemplating whether or not to switch my major. I haven't looked into it, but I know it will push me back at least a year (I am a junior). I am on my own as far as paying for my school and housing. I am worried switching my major is not a good choice, or even feasible without piling on more debt. \n\nOn the flip side, I love to write, I love making up stories and I can see myself doing this for the rest of my life. I could also say the same about post-production in film though.\n\nI was hoping to get some advice on what the best way in figuring out what exactly is best for me to make the best decision for me. Maybe some of you have been in a similar experience and can shed some light on the issue from your perspective. \n\nThank you for reading, and I hope someone can help.", "summary": "I love telling stories but am at a cross on whether I want to go into Filmmaking/Film editing(what I have spent 2 years in school on so far), or switch to writing."}
{"id": "t3_3emlgf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] Unable to find romantic relationships", "post": "I've never been in a romantic relationship.\n\nI would like some advice as to where I'm going wrong\n\nI wouldn't say it's from lack of trying as I have asked out many women but they usually just say they would rather be friends.\n\nMeeting people doesn't pose a problem as I am a university student.\n\nHaving said that I forgo the usual clubbing scene and usually just go to the pub with my friends. I really dislike clubbing - Not entirely sure why.\n\nI still meet people through sports, clubs (as in social groups) and lectures though.\n\nI tried out online dating for a while and received a few matches, after talking to a few they told me they would rather be friends.\n\nMy friends tell me I need to lower my standards. How can I do this? Is it possible to control who you're attracted to?\n\nIs there something wrong with me?", "summary": "can't get a date"}
{"id": "t3_4dv1u4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] nymphomania is ruining 3 yr relationship with partner [21 M]", "post": "So, my partner and I are high school sweethearts and really, nothing could be more perfect. We manage to talk through everything. We've been living together for almost a year now. \n\nThe problem that we can't resolve is mismatched libidos. Prior to living together, we used to have sex every day, often twice a day. Now I get lucky if it's twice a week. And I am physically uncomfortable when we don't have sex. Like, blueballs that I'm stuck with for 80+ hours at a time. Not to tmi, but I do get actual enlarged, blood swollen genitals for that long.\n\nMaybe I could get used to it eventually, but it was so sudden. Over winter break, I lived with my family. When I came home, our sex life just disappeared.\n\nWe talked a week ago. Haven't talked about it since. I feel like I'm dying. I can't show emotion. I become void to protect others (childhood issues I'm working on).\n\nOpening the relationship, cheating, ending the relationship, and others are completely out of the question. I don't want anyone else. I'd blueball myself til the end of time. So please, don't suggest these. Masturbation doesn't do it for me anymore.\n\nIf there's a way I could castrate myself mentally short of a lobotomy, please tell me. Any meds I can take, let me know. I don't want my body to ruin the best thing that has ever happened to me.", "summary": "my nymphomania is ruining my relationship and I need to fix it, meds suggestions appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1aprzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M17] have a girlfriend [F16] who recently started cutting herself again. I don't know how to help further.", "post": "My girlfriend of 17 months started cutting herself. She has harmed herself before, right before her and I got together. She says it isn't because of me. Of course I still feel like I might be part of it... Which sucks. I haven't treated her badly over all of our relationship. I am trying everything to help her. She doesn't really take help, though. Also, I am not mad at her or anything for doing this. I won't break up with her over this like I have heard some people do. I'm just upset and worried for her. I love her so much but I feel like everything I am doing isn't helping at all.\n\nShe says she harms herself because she feels fat, she feels not as good as others (for example, she dances and doesn't think she is good enough than her friends that also dances), her mom doesn't care that she is depressed, her sister is a terrible influence on her, and her brother is a jerk to her. She gets picked on with harmful jokes by her family as well. \n\nI have talked to her about all of these things and have tried to make her feel better. But she just cut tonight again... I just don't know.\n\nR/relationships.... What do I do??? I'm so worried for her, I feel so bad for her having to go through depression (I also have been severely depressed...), and I want to help her and be a good boyfriend.", "summary": "My girlfriend started cutting herself and I want to be a good boyfriend and help her."}
{"id": "t3_24zqvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] have a great GF [23 F] but cannot forget another girl (not even an exGF), please help.", "post": "Hey guys and girls,\n\nTo give a short summary, I had a long relationship since early teens, but it ended after 8 years, so I was 23 or so with no real dating experience. \n\nStarted dating, had a few girls, but there was one kind of special, lets call her Alice. I was totally into Alice, she was into me too but I completely f*cked that up, being too afraid to get physical and acting insecure. I do not know exactly what happened but one day Alice just stopped communicating with me. I tried a few times to get in touch again but she did not respond, so I blocked her on basically everywhere to stop me from writing to her (and it worked).\n\nIt has been more than a year since, I dated more girls since and found a GF, we are great, but sometimes I just cannot help my brain thinking about Alice. I did not try to get in touch with her (and I do not want to), it just feels weird and bad that sometimes I still think about Alice even though she was not really a GF and I had girls before and after Alice that I got way farther with (relationship-wise and physically) and I do not think about those at all.\n\nCan you please give me any advice on what to do about it ? Let me just point out I love my current GF very much. Thanks a lot.", "summary": "I have a great GF, we live together for almost a year now, but I cannot forget a girl I was on few dates with who just stopped communicating."}
{"id": "t3_17u3ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18 M/F] Girlfriend kissed Ex-Boyfriend while at a party.", "post": "Girlfriend/SO for about 3 weeks, lets call her Alexa. since day one we decided that we would attempt to make it work between us. We've known each other for quite some time, and had shared feelings in the past but never did anything about it. Previous before the 3 weeks we started dating, we basically were together all the time, and did everything together...So, not much has really changed.\n\nFast forward to this morning, I decide to text her asking how her night went etc. Alexa explains to me that their was a party, which i thought nothing of. They drink etc. Doesn't really bug me too much as i trust(ed?) her. A few hours later we get into discussion about her ex, i asked why they had broken up, she explained - and she then told me she had to tell me something, that her and her ex had kissed. I asked whether or not he forced it but no, they had both gone along with it.\n\nShe then tells me to say what's on my mind, said it didn't change much because it was just a kiss and \"we're not really that close to serious yet\" and nothing has really changed since we had been friends.\n\nI feel as if my trust was broken and i have no clue as to how i want to approach this which is basically why i'm posting here. I like her a lot, and it's one of the very few people I want the best for. I have for a very long time, and I'd love to try and rekindle the trust. But i'm quite hurt, and confused. I couldn't ever see myself doing this to someone I *have feelings* for.", "summary": "Girlfriend kissed ex, possibly while intoxicated I didn't ask as i don't think it matters. Told me about it the next day after mentioning of her BF.(Would it have not been mentioned?)And said it didn't mean much as nothing has really changed since we were friends, and we're not that serious yet."}
{"id": "t3_4nnyn5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my GF [14 F] 1 Month, Causing her future problems?", "post": "First of all: this is an actual problem, not a childish cry;\n\nSecond: she's actualy not my GF, you see, english is not my mother language, that said, i don't know the exact word for someone i've been going out, but not dating;\n\nSo, a year ago i broke up, cause my GF chated on me, from that day i started a \"Pick up, don't fall in love\" way of living, lost my virginity in this road, now, a month ago, i started talking with this girl (later got to know that i had flerted with her some weeks before, and we had some contact in our childhood) and we started going out.\n\nRecently, things got more serious, as she came in my house, and we almost did it, twice, but tonight i thought, i know that we have small chances of lasting long, i mean, if all goes acording to plan, in a year and a half, i'm going to college, states away of my little town, and if i pop her cherry, she may have future relationship problems.\n\nNow, i'm pretty worried, after all that time, i'm feeling something (ain't that sure i'm in love, more of liking, a lot) and i'm worried of keep going and causing future problems to her.", "summary": "I'm liking someone after a long time, and afraid of causing problems to her if we reach th 4th base (base talk sounds childish)"}
{"id": "t3_4c5nza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25F brokenhearted over the loss of 22M", "post": "We were together for over 2 years. We started as friends and then started hooking up when neither one of us was ready for a relationship. We had a really great connection and were so comfortable around each other that after a year we had both fallen for one another. Even though we said we were not going to be official boyfriend/girlfriend we both agreed that we were in an exclusive relationship. \n\nHe recently cheated on me and I forgave him enough to try to remain friends. He has continued to see the girl, who was initially a random. I know that it is normal to be hurt and confused and that the best thing to do may be to just walk away completely. But I know if I do, then he will respect my wishes and be gone for good. I have yet to be able to bring myself to pull that trigger, although I do think about it often. He has even recently told me that he feels like he is juggling the two of us and I told him I don't think that is something he should be feeling or doing especially if he is over us and we are just friends. \n\nI just don't understand with everything we had how he can just run to someone else so quickly. I understand the concept of a rebound, but it just seems so cowardly to me. So I am emotionally dealing with all of it and he is just distracting himself and not dealing with any of it. I lost my best friend and my relationship and I just cannot focus or feel less sad. I think that he is young and was not ready to be as serious as we were emotionally, because we never planned for that to happen, and now that there are other people that are interested in him, he is wanting to just play around and have fun. Just feels awful that I had to be the casualty in all of this and that I wasn't enough. Is it possible for us to ever be okay with each other and be okay again? I think this was more of an outlet that actual call for advice, I'm not so sure there is great advice, but I am surely all ears.", "summary": "got cheated on and said we would still be friends. The guy is still seeing the girl he cheated with. Will we be able to be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3bh03l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my ex-GF [22 F], has anyone every broken up and gotten back together successfully?", "post": "My girlfriend and I just split a few weeks ago. I'm past the initial grieving pain but I just feel like our break up was a mistake in big picture sort of way. I've dated a lot and I have never felt closer or more at home with anyone else. I really think of her as my soul mate on many levels. If I had to say why we broke up I would say it was a breach of trust. There wasn't one big incident like cheating or anything, it was more of a long haul of small mistakes that left it hard for us communicate without being defensive. We had a pretty huge breakdown of communication at the end. We got into some bad habits and weren't able to break them, even though we were aware of them and actively tried to. I know that I can't hold onto her just because I have hope for the future, but I want to believe that once we give our wounds some time to heal, we might be able to come back to it with a fresh slate. Is this something that is totally illogical? Thanks.", "summary": "exgf and I split, I feel like it was a mistake. Any chance couples get back together and work it out?"}
{"id": "t3_4ro33g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(25 F) Wants to know, Is he (22 M) just not into me?", "post": "Here goes. I am a 25 year old female and recently starting seeing a 22 year old male (We've been seeing each other for 3.5 months now). Everything was going fine and then he happened to ask me if I wanted a more deeper relationship with him. The question caught me off guard (maybe it was his age not really certain why) but I responded \"Lol no\" (who the f**k says that really) and when I asked him the question in return, he responded \"no not really at the moment\". After that things were awkward for a week but then got back to normal. \n\nAnyways, we went out for dinner and after dinner were sitting under the harbour bridge (yes I'm from Australia) just talking and joking around. Somehow the conversation got more deep so I asked him \"what do you want from me?\". Rather than responding, he said \"what do you want from me\" which annoyed me cause he always expects me to answer so he knows where he stands and answers accordingly. Extremely annoying, be a man and answer he bloody question! I got annoyed so responded, \"I don't want anything\", he got upset so we left and drove home. \n\nThe entire drive back to my place he didn't say a word, so I said considering you are tired, drive directly to yours and I will catch a cab from your place home. He got mad and said, \"as if you'd attempt to emasculate me by suggesting I can't even drop you off home\". We drove in silence once more. When we got to my house I said good night and went in, didn't hang out in the car we usually do cause there was too much tension and quite frankly, I didn't want to put up with his mood any further. I haven't heard from him since. It has been 10 days. \n\nDoes this mean he just not into me and wants to end it hence the no contact? Im confused, generally speaking I know that if a man doesn't contact you he's not that into you but based on whats happened, is he waiting for me to reach out?", "summary": "Is he just not into me? Is it time to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2j4oxo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Work conflicts leading to decreased communication in new relationship.", "post": "I am a 23 year old female who has been seeing a 23 year old male for the past couple months now. We live an hour apart so don't get to see each other much in the first place. He recently was switched to 12 hour night shifts 7 days a week. Now we can't talk much let alone see each other. I'm worried that this will put our relationship in a standstill or cause him to change his mind about having a relationship with me. I really like him and see this turning into a really good long term relationship. I also miss him :( Has anyone else been in this situation? Any advice on how to keep the relationship active and growing?", "summary": "23F dating 23M who works 12hr night shift 7 days a week. How do I keep the relationship active?"}
{"id": "t3_2u2zix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf [23F] acts closer whenever I'm [25M] acting distant, and distant when I'm trying to be close. I understand that girls love to be chased, but I'm bored of this game", "post": "We've been together for 3 months now after dating for 1.\n\nWhenever I want to be close with her, she'll act bored or disinterested.  However, whenever I back away, she ends up wanting to be close.\n\nIt works every time.  It's in my best interest to be seemingly cold and uncaring.  I don't like acting that way, though.  I want to be warm and caring, but the incentives aren't laid out that way.\n\nI don't want to be blunt with her about it, though.  She'll probably deny it and accuse me of being manipulative.  I'd agree with manipulative.\n\nIs there a way to bypass this game?  How *should* I act around her?", "summary": "Gf runs when I chase and chases when I run.  Tired of cat and mouse game."}
{"id": "t3_4jssza", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "It's time to move out. How to confront my parents?", "post": "Dear reddit,\nlet me explain the situation. I'm living together with my parents & my brother. We're living in a relativly tiny village. Since almost 2-3 years we all can feel that the communal life lost it's sparkle. Our interests spread apart (which is ok & somehow inevitable), the motivation to take an interest in another is low too. \nLast year I finished my school education. After that I started a voluntary service for 1 year, which will end in a few months. Therefore I need to start (actually already started) to look out for an apprenticeship/study. My parents  are making suggestions where I could start and it's always something where I could keep living at home cause it's not far away. But that's not something I want... I want to live alone. I want to move out and start my own life. I just don't feel comfortable anymore at home. \nMy parents know I would like to go somewhere else, they know it's my dream to finally start my own life, they know it but I'm sure they refuse to believe it cause they always come with silly excuses when I'm starting to talk about that topic. My mom always ignores all my intentions to make things clear. She doesn't take it really seriously. My dad once told me that's because she doesn't want to let me go, but hey I can't be her little boy forever.  \n\nHow can I explain them that I'm serious and not just dreaming?  Does someone of you had a similiar situation? \n\nOf course I love my parents and I know they love me but it's time to move out, it would be the best for me and they would benefit as well.\nSorry for some inaccuracies, feel free to ask anything.", "summary": "Unhealthy familiy atmosphere -> I want to move out for a job/ start own life. -> Parents not amused. -> What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_xzsam", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why would someone have their hot water boiler running for hours when it's a warm summer?!", "post": "I live in a row of terraced houses in Southern UK.  My neighbours seem to have their combination boiler on for hours at a time.  For example it's just after 1.30pm now and 23c outside.  Not exactly hot but this is the UK!  I have my back door open and it's very comfortable.  And the neighbour's boiler has been on for at least the last 2 hours (I can hear the exhaust vent which is near my back door).  \n\nQuick bit of background - they are a family of 5 (3 kids under age 10) and they rent via a housing association (I suspect low rent). The guy works (manual trade, not sure which, but he seems to do full hours); she doesn't.  I reckon they probably cheat the benefits system to some extent but that's just my hunch.  They have 2 dogs and a new car (I've seen them in a Jaguar before but this is a Ford Focus).  I know they have bred cats in the past (they had a Russian Blue male who used to terrorise the neighbourhood) and could still be doing that I guess - but I haven't seen any male cats recently.\nThey're not the worst neighbours - they don't walk the dogs much and let them crap in the back yard (which they don't clean up regularly) and they have sacks of rubbish in the front.  They're certainly not crazy.  So why might they have the boiler heating hot water so much?  They can't be running a bath for this long and I don't think the boiler would run constantly for a washing machine cycle.", "summary": "Family with money making schemes (benefits cheating (?), cat breeding) have their hot water boiler running a lot"}
{"id": "t3_2cbdvs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jokingly asking my girlfriend to message me a shirtless pic", "post": "Hey there. I am a 15 year old boy who miraculously has managed to keep a girlfriend for nearly 8 months now. I love her very dearly.\n\nAbout two hours ago I decided to sent her a picture of myself in pajama pants just before going to bed. After she responds I say, \"Do you feel obligated to send a complimentary shirtless picture back?\". Normally, I would never say this seriously. It was just a joke, and I thought she saw that. \n\nJokingly, I push the request a bit. After that bit she isn't responding so I let her know it was all a joke. She didn't find it funny; she thought I was being real.\n\nShe has been mad and crying while I have been trying to clean after my insensitive, dick move. I was actually quite astonished to see her respond this way and this harshly. For the past hour I have been apologizing, and I have been trying to console her. Nothing has been helping.\n\nIn the end I feel horrible, regretful, helpless, and disgusted with myself.", "summary": "I joking ask my SO to send me shirtless pics, she thinks I was serious, gets mad, cries, I ~~feel like~~ am a huge smelly butt."}
{"id": "t3_1iqkam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself, [15M], and a wonderful young, [14F] have just confessed our feelings for each other. I don't know how to handle it.", "post": "So the deal is, we have told each other the truth. However there are some complications:\n\n1. She is a family friend, our next door neighbours' granddaughter. Her father her sister, and herself all come down to visit for 3-4 weeks every summer.\n\n2. Her father is slightly over protective. On a scale from 1 to 10 I'd say 5.\n\n3. Her sister [16F] goes practically everywhere with her. There is no alone time.\n\n4. We live in different states, as I said previously, she comes to visit every summer. However, she lives in Georgia and I live in California.\n\nI haven't been in a relationship before and I know one as complicated as this doesn't come up often. Any ideas as to how to make this relationship work? If anyone is wondering she is leaving homeward in 10 days. Any ideas?", "summary": "Two young-ins confess feelings to each other, can never be alone, only with each other for a few weeks every summer."}
{"id": "t3_2s86oy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with the girl I like [18 F], she gets annoyed easily! Someone give me advice?", "post": "Im going to meet a girl im crazy for at the minute, we planned this a few weeks back and she was so excited to see me! Im gonna be staying in her flat!\n UNTIL, these past few days shes being a bit weird, she has gotten a bit annoyed at me for no apparent reason, she says she doesnt love me anymore and doesnt want to do anything when i go meet her tomorrow. You can probably guess how im feeling now! \nShe isnt annoyed at me at the moment but i feel like ive done something wrong but cannot seem to think what it is! Im not in it for the sex im in it cause i love the girl to bits, she makes me happy! How do i go about tomorrow when i go see her?", "summary": "Girl is like is angry at me for no reason! What do I do when I finally meet her tomorrow to make her love me?"}
{"id": "t3_gsowb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The lady had an accident, led to unexpected trust issues.", "post": "I am a 36 year old male, the lady is 43 and our kids are in their pre-teens in elementary/primary school (grades 1-6 here). We've been together since the mid 90:ies.\n\nAbout four years ago she got hit by a car at a pedestrian crossing (drivers fault), leaving her hospitalized for half a year and with permanent brain damage. This was of course a big, unwanted change for the whole family leaving us all shaken. She is now rated with 15% disability, but is working in IT at the same workplace as before. (She chose to, she was entitled to retirement but couldn't stand sitting at home.)\n\nDuring the years that has followed I have noticed that love is over, to put it simply. After a lot of sorting of my feelings I have found that I don't trust her any more. Trust is the most important feeling in a relationship, so no wonder things have gone downhill. Apparently my subconscious has decided that she can't be trusted, as she got herself run over. I'd like to think of myself as a rational human that understands that she has done absolutely nothing wrong and deserves all the respect, love and trust as ever before, but no. This feeling of untrust can't be defeated with rational thoughts, and the struggle between my morals (keeping the family together) and my feelings is really getting to me.\n\nIf anyone has been in a somewhat similar situation, how did you cope and was it possible *or not* to get the relation back on track? How was things resolved?\n\nAnyone with any piece of advice is of course welcome to answer.", "summary": "Asking for advise on struggle between morals as a family man and unfair lost feeling of trust in a relationship where the woman was disabled in an accident."}
{"id": "t3_3d54tr", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "5 months post-hemorrhoidectomy; new hemorrhoid, this one bleeds.", "post": "THIS FUCKING SUCKS! I had no choice but to dump my now-ex hemorrhoid, Harry. One day he got so fed up with my shit that he wouldn't leave me alone. Fully thrombosed, he made every movement of mine uncomfortable. Even his little brother Henry made an appearance.\n\nDoc saw me, saw Harry, scheduled me for outpatient surgery the next day. Went through the revolving surgery door at Kaiser and Harry and Henry were history.\n\nBlah blah worst recovery ever. Terrible BMs. I notice along the road to recovery that I have some swelling. Look it up, people complaining of skin tags and such. Whatever, it'll go away.\n\nWell, it hasn't gone away. I have a brand new hemorrhoid, Harvey, and he's even angrier than Harry. So far his rage subsides after a couple of minutes, usually while I'm cleaning up. So what makes him angrier? He bleeds. Every. Time.\n\nIt's not a lot of blood, but it would be enough to lightly paint an egg at Easter time.\n\nI thought I was still recovering when this was happening 2-3 months out, but FIVE?! Coming up on 6 now. I'm just at a loss. I feel like I'm living with it until Harvey decides to thrombose and I have to have surgery again and take another month off of work.\n\nAny advice? I'm eating lots of fiber, trying to drink lots of water (I get at least 32 oz a day, shoot for 64), eating my fruits and veggies, taking vitamins, and using a Squatty Potty to simulate that real natural poop experience.\n\nI'm just at a loss. I have to wear a fucking maxi pad every day to keep the anal leakage from soiling my boxers and shorts. It's humiliating and I want it to be over.\n\nOh, and details about me:\n\n24M 5'7\" 175 White dude. Existing medical issues are currently mild gastritis and hemorrhoids. Not on medications. Trust me, you don't want to see a picture of my hemorrhoids.", "summary": "Had 2 hemorrhoids, both removed. Now have new hemorrhoid, it bleeds and leaks. WAT DO"}
{"id": "t3_3aje4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] don\u00b4t truly love my gf [20F] of 3 months, but everyone seems to believe I do?", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nFirst of all, I\u00b4d like to ask if this that I\u00b4m going to tell you is a \"normal\" procedure to you. I\u00b4ve had three serious relationships, and when I realize I may not be in love anymore, I usually do the same thing over and over again.\n\nI\u00b4m a very caring person, I love to make my girlfriend feel like she is the luckiest and happiest person alive, treating them with respect, care and giving them the most of me. So, for everyone outside the relationship, it may look obvious that I\u00b4m completely in love with my gf. \n\nWhat happens is, at some point I start realizing that I don\u00b4t truly love her (I guess I\u00b4m still growing on this, as when get into a new relationship, I can understand things better clearer than before), and I have a really hard time with letting the girl go, as I, by that time, have the deepest connection and the greatest relationship with her. \nSo what I do is, I keep being a \"great boyfriend\", and I let the relationship last beyond reasonable, and keep all the obvious feelings and thoughts of lack of love to me. \n\nOf course the relationship eventually ends, but I\u00b4d like to last, do any of you have trouble with letting go, and with having to be reasonable towards your SO? As I\u00b4ve said, I honestly feel like I\u00b4m a great boyfriend, but keeping those feelings of \"this is not true love\" only for me is obviously disrespectful, in the long term, towards my SO.", "summary": "Do you also have trouble letting go someone who is deeply connected with you, and has a great relationship with you, but whom you don\u00b4t love anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_2t8p0n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - Ruining my first relationship...", "post": "Whelp after 21 years of living on earth I finally have a girlfriend and had my first official kiss. Yupp that's right \"21\" f**king years. Why did it take this long? Well I certainly have no damn clue, except for the fact that I'm an idiot. Anyways, I met this girl on an online dating site last week. We went out to the movies and everything went great I even saw a hilarious film. But up until today I realized I didn't want to be in a relationship. I felt that I was not ready for a relationship and I had a lot on my mind. For instances, last semester I did not do so well in some of my classes. In which this year I have to retake them with the addition of courses this summer. This meant that I have to focus on schoolwork, reading, and helluva lot of studying. Another reason is that I felt that she just isn't right for me on a personal level. As in I just couldn't picture me and her as a couple. Don't get me wrong she certainly has an colorful past and attractive. Today we talked and I told her I just didn't want to keep going with us. Of course I had contemplated feelings for awhile even before today. Where I just wasn't sure that I wanted a relationship so I made a terrible call in the beginning which lead to a disaster this morning. I pretty much told her that I'm just not ready and committed, yet I forgot to mention about focusing on school part. smh. This all went downhill to a firery pit of sadness, anger, and mixed emotions. Even the car ride was tense as we both didn't even speak. Actually she did and wished me a better future and I said the same. After dropping her off at home I didn't even feel anything and no emotions were present. My mind and body felt empty, but I tried to feel the sadness, sorrow, and some remorse. Yet I couldn't. So here I'am with full glass of scotch and an empty heart.", "summary": "Met a girl online, didn't go to well , and now in dismal."}
{"id": "t3_2piu7d", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How to pursue someone after a long period of no communication?", "post": "I(23 M) met this girl(sorry, don't really know) in a club after I've been seriously led on, heartbroken and this girl was really into me (she kissed me goodbye, I didn't want to, not because I didn't like her, but because I felt like shit after being led on, I didn't want to lead her on or disappoint her), but I didn't want to pursue anything with her because I was kind of afraid of another rejection and felt bad all round.\n\nThe thing is, some time has passed on (7 months) and I would like to call her (I got her number) and maybe continue talking with her.\n\nI would really appreciate some advice, if I should text her (I know the perfect message I could send) or if it's too late, and to leave her alone. I don't want to lead her on, but I really would like to continue the interaction, but if you say that it feels like it's too late, I'll back off (don't want to EVER break someone's heart, after the amount of hearbreak I've received in my life). I didn't want to lead her on in the first place, as I was having some issues in that period, and didn't want to hurt her feelings! \n\nThanks for your time!", "summary": "met girl in club, exchanged phone numbers, had a bad break-up before, should I follow up?"}
{"id": "t3_3dukjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship ended abruptly (23 M)", "post": "I've had a great relationship over the past few months with a coworker of mine. We have texted nonstop and hung out around a dozen times. We really clicked with each other unlike any girl I have met before. \n\nAbout 2 weeks ago, her attitude changed. After being extremely warm and sweet, she started picking on me. I called her out on it and she immediately ceased communication with me. We had a brief conversation where she said she could only be coworkers and not friends. I gave her a few days to get over it and then asked her if she could let go whatever I did wrong and I apologized, even though I don't know what I did. She told me not to contact her anymore and then the next day reported me for harassment at work. I showed my managers our texts so they know I didn't harass her but they told me not to text her anymore unless it is work related.  \n\nI am pretty crushed by this sudden change. I can't believe someone would try to get me fired when we were so close. I really don't know what I did wrong. Any advice?", "summary": "After an incredible 2 month friendship, it ended abruptly for no discernable reason and she has tried to get me fired."}
{"id": "t3_e4oyl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Really, you just said that?", "post": "Today in my Global Viewpoints class we were discussing the Russian Revolution and we watched a thirty minute video about the Bolshevik party and how they reformed Russia during and after WWI.  After the video our professor asked us a few questions about the video, one girl in my class said ended up referring to Vladimir Lenin as john Lennon (I can't remember exactly What she said or I'd put it).  Me and a couple of other students chuckled at her and she turned to us with a scowl and said \"what?!\" To which a Guy in my class said \"you just said john Lennon,\" she kept her rude scowl on and exclaimed, \"yeah Lenin!\" She was quickly corrected and said she \"didn't think that sounded right.\"", "summary": "john Lennon and Vladimir Lenin are now the same person."}
{"id": "t3_3hmbbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [17/M] understand I don't need my ex's [17/F] affection", "post": "I was in this 5-6 month long-distance relationship over a year ago with a girl I met online. We talked 24/7, I used to visit her every month and I thought she was the love of my life. Only recently did I realise I did not actually like **anything** about her as a person, other than the fact that she *loved* me. She was far too self-centred, sometimes mean and rather immature. She hurt me emotionally a lot, making me jealous and stuff. We broke up in the spring of 2014.\n\nFast forward to this summer: we hadn't talked at all, other than quick Facebook chats every few months that lead to nowhere and a few drunk calls from either one of us. Last month, we met where I live and she stayed at my place for a couple of days (I live alone). We felt great together, had an amazing time and were on good terms when she left. She even said she still loves me.\n\nWe then ended up getting into another fight over a T-shirt she **stole** from me (I would suggest she's crazy, but maybe I'm overreacting) and we stopped talking.\n\nNow, I ask you, why the hell do I still care? Why do I sometimes think of her, when it's clear even to me now that I don't like anything about her? It might be just because I haven't been emotionally close to anyone else in the past 18+ months, haven't hugged anyone properly, haven't had anyone else reciprocate these feelings of simple human affection. Because I think that's what I need \u2013 affection. And I think I associate that with her, which is wrong.\n\nHow do I get over this? How can my brain fully understand that I don't need **her** affection?\n\nI've been reading about Buddhism and pretty much the underlying principle of Buddhism is that you should get rid of attachment, be that to people or things. What are your suggestions towards that?\n\nI clearly do not want or need a romantic relationship, so what can I do to get rid of these wrong feelings?\n\nHopefully I managed to explain everything well enough.", "summary": "Stupid teenage me thought I loved ex-GF, now I realise I only needed affection and that I don't need her for that, but I still associate her with that feeling. Help me get my feelings/thoughts straight."}
{"id": "t3_13h6ej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) am stressing out because I may have to leave my (23m) boyfriend because my visa is expiring. Can someone help us?", "post": "I'm a law student in america(23f) I'm from south africa and I am madly in love with my american sweetheart(23m)..I'm due too leave america in april because of my visa restrictions..I can't seem to find a way to stay and I'm starting to freak out. I will die without him. Iv been in america for 1 year. Due to the j1 visa I am on I cannot extend my stay or renew. Once your time is up you have too leave unless you change to a student visa(F1) but the catch is..never being able too ever leave america..being trapped here or being unable too return are my options..help!", "summary": "My visa expiration date in April may force me to leave the country"}
{"id": "t3_2pbten", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Asking for a raise, should I be specific or no?", "post": "So I got my review and most of the areas had \"above average.\" I'm apparently an \"asset to the company\" and I was recommended to be in a leadership role in 2015.\n\nI know I have to ask for the raise, they wont be just giving them out. I want a 20% bump. Considering when I started they said they were going to pay me a little low because I was brand new in this field, and now i'm going from unskilled entry level to skilled entry level, I feel like it's justified. Also, i've busted my ass the last year.", "summary": "Tomorrow I will be giving the boss a letter requesting the raise. Do I put 20%? Do I put a dollar amount? Do I just request the raise and let them decide what they're going to give me? "}
{"id": "t3_1e14ni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21F] and I [19M] had a relationship for less than a week. She broke it up suddenly and I just can't get over her.", "post": "So I met her at my work and things started to happen. Rumours began spreading around the work while out friendship just got better tho we had it quite a bulky ride. 1st of May, I'm being at work till 3am. She came by and said hi with her friend. Later that night I drove 20km to her friends place where she was staying. Well there it started (kissing that is). Things started moving quite rapidly and the next night I was already having sex with her. She seemed atleast happy, and so was I. We were sexting on the next days. Just 6 days after the kissing she came over to my place. And she said that she just can't do this. She said she doesn't want a relationship yet I'm not asking for anything special. Asked her a few times about becoming my girlfriend but she calls that word a sweardom.\n\nBeen quite broken the last days, trying to stay positive with alcohol and drugs (did them even before her). Decided 2 days ago with her to have a 1 month pause since I need to get over her. I really have feelings for her and everyday I try not to think about her and still I'm finding myself here typing this. I've been forced for the 1 month pause thingy once before and it worked really well so I thought it would be the best choice at the moment. I can't stand being with her without staying as close as we used to be. It hurts. It hurts every day.\n\nShe's an awesome person and I want to have her in my life but just now I can't...\n\nFeel free to state any questions if I've been unclear.\n\n**Question:**\nWhat should I do, give up the pause or keep it on? I need to get over her...or so I think. I need suggestions what to do and how to keep on with my life...", "summary": "Girl breaks up 1 week later just because she doesn't want the boyfriend-girlfriend thing. I'm sad."}
{"id": "t3_1iygkw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20m]i took a screenshot of snapchat[18f] now i'm screwed.", "post": "a little background at first. \n\nwe met about 7 months ago in a club where i got her number. we started texting and almost immediately it clicked. we text almost daily and usually from the moment we're done with school/work until bedtime. we rarely ever see each other in person but i nearly felt in love and so did she. nearly every chat we have is amusing and fun.\n\nits all a platonic relationship, all be it a quite intimate one\n\nnow a few days ago she sent me a sexy snapchat, i took a screenshot and missed didn't think much of it further and moved on. now 2 days ago she noticed and the nuke went off. her words were \n\n> hey asshole   \ni saw that you took a screenshot   \n   i get notified when that happens dear  \ni don't know which one  \nbut i have an idea...  \nyes i get notified when that happens dear ;)   \ni bet you wanted proof or something  \n(then i showed i missed)  \noh you were to slow, what a pity ;)\n\nso i wrote a heartfelt apology: \n\n*sorry i took until now to really react, anything i could've said yesterday could only make it worse. i'm sorry it was a cowardly stab in the back, i didn't really think about it but i now realize i made a VERY big mistake. i have no idea how i'll make it up to you if i can at all but i'll try.* \n\n*i just have so much fun with you and i would a an incredible waste if we'll never see each other anymore. maybe you don't want to talk to me for a week maybe a month or even a year, as long as there will be someday i can say \"hey\" again*\n\n*please think about it*\n\nit's been a day ago and now i'm really scared she may just break all forms of contact and stop talking to me. i worry to the point of desperation, i so badly don't want to screw this up.", "summary": "took a screenshot of a underwear pic on snapchat, now one of my closest friends is mad"}
{"id": "t3_2x738n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Whenever I [19F] become stressed I push my boyfriend [19M] of one year away. Puts a strain on our relationship.", "post": "Normally, my boyfriend is absolutely wonderful. I realize he's not perfect, but it's nearly impossible for me to be unhappy around him. I love talking and being with him. I treasure every moment we have together.\n\nHowever, once I get stressed (honestly, I get that my stresses are not nearly as serious as most people's I read about on here; they're all mainly school/future related, but once I focus on something it nearly consumes me) being in a relationship becomes a chore. I reply to his texts mostly out of courtesy, the slightest comment sets me off, and unless he plans something I won't see him. If my stress gets really bad the only solution my mind can come to is to break up with him, but deep down I really don't want to do that.\n\nHe understands my stress and gets that I'm not really annoyed with him, but I realize that me taking out my stress on him is not fair. Whenever I bring up that that point all he says is he wants to be by my side until he can see me smile again, making me feel even worse that I drag him through all this. I worry that eventually it will all be too much for him and eventually my stress driven apathy will just drive him away.\n\nI want to change, I need to find a better way to deal with stresses in my life so I don't permanently push away a guy who I love. Is there a way to change how one deals with stress? Or at least a way for me to appreciate my boyfriend even when I am stressed?", "summary": "How can I deal with my stress better so I don't take it out on my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2850k9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [25 F] been hit on by my married coworker [26 M] for a couple months", "post": "So I've been talking to this guy at work and we got along great and I thought he was attractive and nice. I'm not really wanting to have a relationship with anyone at this point, but we clicked so I just went with it.\n\nHe added me on Facebook a couple weeks back and I found out he has been married for 4 years. Obviously that threw me off because he never mentioned a wife and never wears a ring and he doesn't live with his wife. Either way at that point, in my head the flirtation was over.\n\nA group of coworkers including him and me went out for drinks on Thursday night and he was all over me and almost kissed me, but I told him I wasn't ready. Neither of us have brought up him being married even after months. Obviously that bothers me. I don't want to date this guy or go anywhere, because the whole married situation is way above what I want to get involved in. He has asked me to go get dinner with him tonight but I made excuses.\n\nMy main question is, how do I be polite and remain good coworkers without awkwardness and how can I also draw lines because I don't want to get involved with someone married AT ALL?\n\nAnyone had a similar experience?", "summary": "Coworker is married and hits on me?"}
{"id": "t3_3kkvvg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Private Student Loan settlement...Good idea?", "post": "So I amassed a large sum of student debt over my college career that I completed like 11 years ago.  I reside in Michigan.  One of my loans is a private student loan.  I just consolidated my federal loans...and the company that I'm working with said they can also help with my private loans.  Basically they said a law firm takes the details of my private loan and works with the private lender to discharge my private loan.  I'm apprehensive about doing this, even though getting rid of this private student debt would be great seeing how I can't actually afford to pay it. Anyone have any experience on this or have done this before?  I'm worried about getting my credit dinged or some other problems from it...even though I was assured the law firm has a 100% success rate at getting these discharged.  I was assured it's legal, but it just seems too good to be true.", "summary": "Hire law firm to discharge private student loan?"}
{"id": "t3_18f9z9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "So a Girl I'm interested in told me \"I don't put out\". What does she mean by this?", "post": "I met this girl at one of my fraternity parties about 2 weeks ago. We ended up making out and we exchanged numbers. Now we've been texting pretty much all day every day for the past two weeks. It's pretty obvious we're both interested in each other. She asked me to hang out this Saturday and I told her I had a fraternity event but I needed a date for it. She said she would be my date if I wanted. I agreed and we discussed the details. After awhile she said \"haha Okay. And I'm sorry but you deserve to know I don't put out\". This was pretty out of nowhere and neither of us had brought up sex or anything. I told her \"You deserve to know I'm not just looking for a hookup :) If that was all I was looking for with you I wouldn't be talking with you this much\". She responded \"awh thank you\".\n\nNow, this leaves me in a bit of a tough situation. I'm not sure exactly what she meant by \"not putting out\". Does that mean she's not going to sleep with me when all I'm doing is taking her out? Does that mean she'd like for us to be in a relationship before we have sex? Or does it mean she's wanting to stay a virgin until marriage?\n\nSex is not the end all be all here, but I'm pretty sure I don't want to be in a 0 sex relationship. I know on her Facebook it says she's a Methodist Christian (I was raised Methodist as well and know that while pre-marital sex is frowned upon it's not a huge deal) but other than that she's never brought up religion or God at all.", "summary": "Girl I've been talking to tells me \"she doesn't put out\". What's that mean."}
{"id": "t3_47b4r3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24F] feel like my boyfriend[26M] is weirdly obsessed with money.", "post": "We've been together for about a year now and overall, its been the best relationship of my life. My boyfriend is a great guy and always so sweet to me, we always have a great time together and have had no major issues. \n\nTheres just one thing that potentially worries me and may be a red flag, and thats that he seems a little obsessed with money. \n\nMy boyfriend owns his own business, and a few other side projects, that makes him quite a bit of money every year. \n\nHe seems to be pretty into the fact that he makes a lot of money to be honest. Like, for example, he's sometimes mentions how rich he is or talks about getting more money. \n\nAll the music he listens to is pretty much about money. \n\nWe've had discussions, and he told me that the only thing that really drives him and that he's passionate about is money. \n\nWhen I've asked him about his goals, its literally just about making as much money as he can. \n\nHe carries about 10,000 dollars in cash with him and pays for a lot of things with 100/50 dollar bills. \n\nAlso he does this weird thing every now and then where he'll literally just sit down with a stack of cash that he withdraws from the bank, and count the money while listening to rap music. \n\nIt's not like he's ever been a douche or acted like he's better than anyone because of his money, but to be honest Reddit, it does weird me out a little, and makes me worried that he is shallow. \n\nI have no idea why he's like this, he comes from an upper-middle class house, his siblings and parents are not like this at all, and he doesn't seem to have any other obvious issues or insecurities. Its not something that has caused any negative consqeuences in his or my life, but its honestly a bit strange. '", "summary": "boyfriend seems weirdly obsessed with the idea of getting money, is it a red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_24kzot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[m17] My friends seem to hate me, and I don't know why.", "post": "I don't even know when this started. I [m17] have a group of friends consisting of f17, m17 x 4, and f16. Recently, they have all quit texting me back if I ask questions, not carrying on real life conversations with me, and ignoring what I say to them. I really have no clue why. I have asked some of them why they're angry with me, and they claim they're not, but then they will begin talking about me 'behind my back' right in front of me, usually passing notes to each other. I feel like maybe I just have social anxiety and it's all in my head, but they did this to another kid in our group a while back, before I was friends with them. \n\nIf there is anything you would like me to clarify on, ask away, and I will answer if I can.", "summary": "My friends are angry with me, but say that they aren't."}
{"id": "t3_2szmm1", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat Health Question - Possible Urinary Tract Infection", "post": "Hi! I don't know if this is the right subreddit for this, but I figured I'd give it a go. \n\nMy 2.5 year old male tabby (Robert Downey Jr. Jr.) has been acting odd today. He first tried to urinate in a cardboard box, but I stopped him before he produced much. Then, over the course of about 4 hours visited the litter box about five times, only staying in there for a few seconds each time, then running around my apartment for about 10 seconds. He's never had any health problems in the past, and is in general a very cuddly, happy boy. The only recent change was that I briefly switched litters to a newspaper-based one to see if it would help with my other cats asthma, but they didn't like it so I went back to their old one.\n\n Could this be urinary crystals? I had a cat when I was a child who developed them, but Robbie doesn't seem to be in pain/obvious distress like my other cat was at the time.\nI'm planning on calling my vet in the morning (they're closed now), but I don't know if this qualifies for an emergency vet visit.\nAny advice? :/", "summary": "Cat tried to pee in box, then made lots of short trips to litterbox. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_z86ja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a pretty small guy[17yo] and I really like this taller girl[17yo]. So small men and tall women of reddit, what are your thoughts on taller women relationships?", "post": "We met on the internet, not through a dating website but through mutual friends on facebook and we have been chatting and skyping for 2 months now. She lives an hours drive from me so we haven't met in person yet. I am a shorter guy(5'7) and she is a taller girl(5'10). We share many common interests but i'm quite self conscious about my height having been teased about being behind on the growth curve my entire life . She wants to meet up in person soon but I feel kind of emasculated about being shorter than her. Do any other short men share this feeling?", "summary": "I am 5'7 she is 5'10. We mutually like each other but I feel slightly emasculated by the situation :/"}
{"id": "t3_eak84", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, How do I deal with friends who flake out last minute?", "post": "It seems when I plan something weeks in advance everyone is in. Karaoke, Bar, Simpsons /Futurama Marathon,Dinner etc. But when the time comes around I usually get texts or calls letting me know they can't make it, something else came up, or \"Gonna stay in tonight\". \n\nI usually try to plan around people's schedule and give them a few weeks heads up. The week of I text, call, and message them to remind them. I could let it slide a once or twice but now its gotten to the point where it seems more of a hassle to them. Frankly, I wouldn't keep on asking them if they didn't show that much interest in the first place. In the past they have helped me out and we have grown a friendship and I know if I needed thier help they would be more than willing to help me out but it just seems im just to passive and don't want to make a big deal out of them bailing out last minute because I know they've helped out in the past and we've shared good memories", "summary": "Friends flake out when plans have been made weeks in advance"}
{"id": "t3_13ezoj", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I have  a problem with my professor", "post": "Okay, here's the deal /r/college: Every day before class - this is my first class of the day, at 8:00 AM - I'm waiting around for the professor to arrive and unlock the door.  He shows up about twenty minutes early, and then he doesn't unlock the door for the rest of us (and another unrelated class in a room next door to ours) until 15 or 20 minutes later.\n\nThe few times that I've knocked on his door to ask him a question, he always comes out after a few minutes, utterly reeking of pot.\n\nThe class is a computers for grandmas class that I forgot to test out of, and the most recent part of the class is on games, specifically gamemaker.  Last Wednesday and Friday, he spent the whole period just talking about games and showing us videos of games.  Being a former hardcore gamer, I'm familiar with the love pot-heads have for games.", "summary": "My professor smokes pot every day, just before class, and then he teaches the class while baked."}
{"id": "t3_4ee0dc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] BF [28M] is embarrassed that I don't have a degree yet", "post": "I'm still working on my degree online while I work full time as a pilot. My boyfriend of 2 years and I live together and split everything 50/50, so it's not an issue of financial concern on his part. Also, having a degree won't expand my employment opportunities at all at this stage, it's not a must-have in this industry. We're both well read, interested in the same topics, able to have adult conversations, ect. I spent 3 years attending college in person, so we have common experiences to share. So it's not that he finds me \"unrelatable\" on some level. \n\nYet, he is always putting me down for not having a degree. Also, he says that the degree Im working towards is worthless because online schools \"don't count\". He's mentioned on numerous occasions he doesn't want to date someone without a degree and that it's embarrassing for him.\n\nToday he brought it up again and I came very close to telling him to just not date me then. I'm still heavily considering just leaving. I don't feel like I should have to deal with someone putting me down, and I feel awful that he feels embarrassed to be with me. Do you think this is something we can talk out or should I just move on?", "summary": "Boyfriend puts me down for not having a degree and says it embarrasses him, should I leave or try to resolve it?"}
{"id": "t3_3hub7p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving an ultimatum", "post": "I met this girl at the beginning of the year. We hit it off and started dating, and living with each other right away. Hit a bumpy spot and she left for about a month, but came back.\n\nIm in the military, and could be getting a job in September that would have me move. So, we discussed marriage. She eventually said she liked the idea, and on July 24th, 2015, we got married.\n\nWednesday morning at like 4am, she tells me that she doesnt want to be married to me anymore, ans that she only married me because she thought she was going to lose me.\n\nWe fought all wednesday, and thursday. This morning, I told her of we annul or get divorced, I would never see her again. She said she loves me, and wants to be with me, just not married. I told her again, if we got divorced, we couldnt ever be together. She left me ajd I lost my cool and said soke really stupid and hurtful crap. Now I am so pissed off, sad, and alone feeling.", "summary": "Gave someone an ultimatium that if they divorced me, we couldnt still date. She decided I didnt mean anything and wants the divorce and left."}
{"id": "t3_2o3qs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) new SO (24M) does not seem interested in making me come.", "post": "I've recently become exclusive with my boyfriend. Everything is going great, except I have a lingering concern that started to really bother me today. We've been together for a few months.\n\nWe have sex frequently, and he is pretty giving... Goes down on me for 10ish minutes almost every time we have sex, fingers me, etc. I never come from sex alone, which is not atypical from me. I always have had to use a vibrator if I want to orgasm. I don't really mind this about myself. What I do mind, however, is how I love being there and watching him and experiencing his orgasm, but he doesn't seem to care about mine. In fact, he seems to find it unappealing.\n\nThe one time (about a month ago) that I decided I wanted to use my vibrator with him while he fingered me, his reaction was pretty neg-like. He said \"That was.. interesting. I could barely tell that you came except from some clenching.\" I laughed and said \"Well, what else should happen?\" He replies, \"I don't know. Usually there's some hip arching too.\"\n\nI laughed this all off and didn't really dwell on it. I'm used to coming alone.  I really love the intimacy of sex and the feeling of being dominated or slight pain during penetration with someone I love... That stuff is very satisfying. The things is that recently I've been more physically active and, as a result, my body (not only my mind) is really fucking horny and actually craves orgasm more regularly. I wish that he were inclined to put forth a solid effort to make me come and/or be enthusiastic about my orgasm/using a vibrator. \n\nI just want him to find my orgasm as sexy as I find is, and he doesn't seem to care if I have one nor does he care to pursue it. \n\nPerhaps this guy is just too immature? How would you try to resolve this if you were in my place?", "summary": "Boyfriend is not interested in my orgasm."}
{"id": "t3_3c2znh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] I'm always the one to pursue a relationship. Never the other way around.", "post": "I've been in a few relationships over the years, some more serious than others.  As of now I have been single for 8 months which is the longest I have gone being single since I started dating.  \n\nIm moving to a new city soon for school, so obviously I am fantasizing about meeting new people.  While i've been thinking about this, I thought about my life so far and realized that in every relationship i've been in, it was with girls who showed no sign of interest at the beginning.  \n\nIt has always been me having feelings for a girl, slowly trying to become closer, talking more often, and then its me who eventually subtly shows a sense of romance in the relationship, which then may lead to being in a romantic relationship. (note, when I am in a relationship, there is mutual interest and romance, this is only about the before)\n\nNot once can I remember a time when; \n\n1. A girl shows signs of interest before I think about my possible mutual feeling.\n\n2. A girl says or texts anything to indicate romance first.\n\n3. Someone gives me a tip that a girl has feelings for me\n\nAlways the other way around.  As if I would never have a lover if I wasn't always the one to start things.  What am I doing wrong?  Am I missing cues?  Am I unapproachable?", "summary": "Im always the one that has to initiate a relationship or show first interest."}
{"id": "t3_fg329", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best Scare Stories", "post": "So a hobby of mine, has been hiding in wait, be it around a corner, inside a box, and jumping out and scaring the bejesus out of my unsuspecting victim, be it my girlfriend, younger siblings, coworkers, etc.  Mind you, I'm an adult male and I know this is highly immature, but I wanted to see if anyone else had any good ones.\n\nFor example-\n\nA few years back I was babysitting my little bro and sis (8+6).  We were on the second floor of the house and I told them I would \"be right back...\" I went to the basement, grabbed an old halloween costume (full body) of a werewolf with a really horrifying mask, went outside, walked up the back steps to the deck, and knocked on the sliding door.  They had no idea who could possibly be outside knocking so they slowly pull back the curtain to look.  I hear them shriek, I open the door, they are screaming bloody murder.  It was at this point that I realized I was looking at the face of pure terror, as far as they were concerned, they were about to be eaten by a werewolf.  They ran into my brothers room and slammed the door closed behind them.  There is no lock so they were both pressing as hard against it as they could just screaming as loud as they can, while I'm pressing on the other side making \"werewolf noises\".  At this point I can hear the screams have turned into a sort of sobbing and I had to call it off.  They were not ok for at least a day after that.  I never trolled them that severely again, but it's something all three of us will remember for ever.", "summary": "child abuse"}
{"id": "t3_15kc3g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (F23) have been with SO (M31) for almost 5 years, lost interest in sex.", "post": "So my SO (M 30) and I (F 22) have been together for almost five years, living together twelve months. We have a great relationship, and always have. Early on when we started dating our sex life was great. We had sex almost every day, tried new things, and it was just generally satisfying for both of us.\n\nFast forward to about eighteen months ago. That's around the time we started looking for a house together. That's about when my sex drive all but died. I'm still very much in love with my SO and want to be with him for the rest of our lives.\n\nWhen we have sex (which he always initiates) I feel so guilty because I just have no interest (while he always enjoys it). It feels fine, but not as good when we first started dating. He wants it to be good for me, I know, but nothing works. I'm not on any kind of medication that would do this to me, so I'm not sure what's going on. I'm just terrified of spending the rest of my life with someone when I really struggle with their sexual appetite. I really have to force myself to have sex and then feel awful about it after 'cos I just don't enjoy it at all. \n\nI'm wondering if there's anything I can do to go back to how things were before. I'm willing to put my feelings aside to make him happy... I know that probably isn't healthy, but I value our relationship too much. Is it possible to fake interest in sex for the next 50+ years? Can I do something physically or mentally to change how I think/feel about sex? I want to enjoy/desire sex, but no matter how much I talk myself into it, it doesn't happen.", "summary": "Five year relationship, I've lost interest in sex, want to know how to reverse it."}
{"id": "t3_1h2dwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24M] with my girlfriend [21F] 10 Months, Trust and BiSexuality", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months now officially and dating for over a year. Things are overall ok, or i thought they were. \n\nA little background:\n\nShe is Bisexual. She cheated on me a week into the relationship and I forgave her. She told me she wanted a girl to fool around with and be close to. While I was not OK with that we agreed that she was allowed to have a cuddle buddy and that was it. Nothing else, if there was more it would be cheating.\n\nFast forward. She met this girl. They hit it off. I felt like something was off and asked if they broke the rule. She denied it. Going on my hunch I had someone get into her FB messages and pull chat logs. Lo and behold I find out she and the girl were kissing and making out. She told this all to a male friend of mine. In addition to that she told him NOT to tell me and she wanted more from the girl. She also was talking to him about very explicit things that I am NOT ok with her talking to my male friend about. I called her out on it and she is not getting why I am upset.\n\nIn addition to the above I have wanted more kissing and making out from her and she wont give me that, yet she does it with the girl. But when I get jealous she says I have an issue and to get over it. I also found out that my male friend went over to her house to \"study\" and \"hang out\". Given the past I am suspicious as to what really happened since she told him to specifically not tell me.\n\nIn the end all her shit is packed up from my place (she was partially moved in) and I changed all the locks on my condo. I am kicking her out either way but I don't even know if I can ever trust her again.", "summary": "GF cheated on me in the past. She is bi. Wanted to fool around with a girl. I allowed it with certain boundaries and they were broken. She kept it from me and told a friend. I am kicking her out of my house. Should I try to even repair this or do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2qz1ry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just need some advice or reassuring", "post": "So I'm a 23 year old male, and I have been out of the dating game a little while due to college and moving, anyway I found a girl that I mesh really well with; we have some of the most similar interests, and get along perfectly, we think alike and honestly I think we're damn near perfect for each other.\n\n I told her my feelings just over 2 months ago, she responded with she didn't know how to answer yet, which I was fine with. Fast forward 2 months and I still don't know how she feels, the most I've gotten from her is she's content with how things are going, we aren't dating just crushing I guess.\n\nShe's much different than any girl I've ever gone for so I'm kinda blind in this situation, and my previous interests ended up just toying with me, I feel like this one is different but idk I've never had this long of a deciding time, and the fear of being toyed with again is getting to me. \n\nShe seems to be putting effort forth by coming to my Thanksgiving over her family's for instance, I'm just a little lost, she seems to be into me, just won't seal the deal. \n\nIs this normal? She wants me to just go with the flow, but that's what I did when I was getting strung along, and I don't want to go through that again. \n\nAnother thing is I'm used to being the one making the moves, it's just how my relationships have gone my whole life. I talked with her about it and she wants to make the moves, which I'm completely fine with, but she hasn't made any yet. She would feel uncomfortable if I made any moves. She also doesn't like me bringing up the subject of her decision, and wants to just tell me in the future. Again she is the best girl I've ever found, well worth the wait. I'm just lost and afraid of getting toyed with again. \n\nThanks for reading reddit, hope someone can shine some light on this for me. Any questions are fine.", "summary": "I don't know if she really wants to date or not."}
{"id": "t3_33bdki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with girl I like [18F]; I'm going overseas; she tells me it's okay to get with other girls while I'm gone. I really sincerely like this girl and would love to be exclusive; but how do I express this to her without limiting her?", "post": "Hi r/relationships. Some context.\n\nI'd been dating this girl around November last year; it didn't work out initially and we went our separate ways. She contacts again about a month ago and asks if I want to hang out; we do. This time it works out so much better than before; we'd both matured a lot due to finishing school, I'd recovered from depression, and it was really utterly fantastic. I really like this girl, but seeing as the US is cemented; we kinda grudgingly agreed to keep it very low-key and casual seeing as I'm away for so long.\n\nFast forward past some pretty awesome casual dates to tonight; where after it all she confesses that she really does truly like me (as i do her) and that she'd like us to date properly when I get back, in spite of me going to the US. Now; my dilemma. This girl is perfect for me in every fashion. Banter is on point; she's stunning, great sexual chemistry, and we really like one another.\n\nI wasnt gonna go out of my way to bang my way across US and Europe anyway; but I feel as if seeing I'm away for so long; it'd be bound to happen at some point (and she doesn't want me to put it all on hold for her while im gone). However; I'm kinda fiercely loyal, and I don't want to hurt her; but want it to happen when I get back. I also know that if she was to move on to someone else, it'd break my stupid little heart, despite how reasonable it is from her perspective.\n\nWe're not going to cut eachother off (we plan to be in constant contact); but naturally the lack of intimacy is an issue and we're not really suited to Long Distance Relationships. Help me out?", "summary": "Going overseas, girl I like says its okay for me to get with other people while I'm gone, however I'd rather be with her. How do I express this wish for exclusivity without placing limits on her?"}
{"id": "t3_4adsa0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Feeling unsupported", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. I have been trying to lose weight for 3 years now. The first year I lost 15lbs by running, counting calories and lifting weights in they gym with an irrational fear of becoming bulky. In about half a year I gained 7lbs back and was introduced to powerlifting. Although I have not gone back to my original weight I have still not reached my goal weight. \n\nI was discussing this with my boyfriend and he said that I should just stop thinking about it so much. If it hadn't happened by now it probably wouldn't and I should just try to be more happy in my skin. Now even though I understand that he meant well it left me feeling unsupported and alone. Now I want to try even harder then I have over the last months and prove him wrong but then I also feel that I'm doing it for the wrong reasons.", "summary": "Trying to lose weight for 3 years not much happened boyfriend tells me that I probably won't get to my goal weight and that I should just get more comfortable in my own skin."}
{"id": "t3_2jvdds", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[25m] How to know how intimate you two are atm (casual, close, dating, ...)", "post": "I've made some significant progress when it comes to social interaction (partially due to this subreddit - thanks!), but I think a lot of my mistakes right now are due to not knowing whether she likes me or not, if so how much she likes me. If she see's me as a friendly stranger, as a casual friend, as a close friend etc.\nThis is also relevant since for the first time I have a number of female friends and don't want to put them off by being clingy.\n\nSo I'm wondering if there are any tips/literature on how to assess this better.\n\n**[", "summary": "] How do I know if she see's me as a friendly stranger, casual friend, a close friend or a potential date?"}
{"id": "t3_wa68b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feelings of drifting apart?", "post": "I've just moved in with my SO of one year.  I am very much in love and am very excited and happy to be living together.  But I've found myself now worried about falling out of love and drifting apart and ultimately losing him down the road.  Is this a normal reaction?  To be honest it has kind of taken me by surprise.  I'm not really sure what to think... I'm worried it may become a self-fulfilling prophecy.", "summary": "Is it normal and natural to fear drifting apart and falling out of love when moving in with a SO?  Does simply having these fears indicate failure at the outset?"}
{"id": "t3_3hw3cr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk on my first day of college", "post": "This happened last night. I just started college and last night me and a bunch of friends went out to one of the university hosted freshman dances. We all pregamed in the dorm a little bit and went out for the night. I unfortunately drank a bit too much and told my group (10-15 boys and girls) that I was going to go back to my room to sober up a bit but that they should all come back after the party was over to continue the night's shenanigans.\n\nI got back, I was drunk, forgot what I told them, and eventually opened up the hub and started jerking it. Of course, 30 minutes later, my entire floor came running into my room trying to party...and saw me ass naked spanking the monkey. The girls screamed and the guys laughed their asses off before leaving the room. So much for reinventing yourself in college...", "summary": "Got drunk, invited people over to my room to party, forgot I invited them, they walked in on me shaking hands with the milkman"}
{"id": "t3_27xlck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my SO [26 M] of 5 months are having an involuntary sex hiatus.", "post": "This seems a little silly for me to type this out but any (constructive) advice is appreciated.  \n\nWe both live with out respective parents who disapprove of premarital sex.  Yes, we're older but we have our reasons for living at home.  We've been able to get around it before when his parents were at work or vice versa.  \n\nHowever, I now have a job that consumes any sexy-times that could be had so it's been awhile.  (He generally works nights.)  Neither of us are used to long periods of \"dry spells\" and I can tell he is definitely getting frustrated.  Do you have any ideas to make things as good as possible given the circumstances until one of us is able to get a place?\n\nAnd no, car sex wouldn't work.  Police are crazy on the lookout for crap like that in my city.  I love sex, but not enough to get a fine for it.", "summary": "Any advice for an involuntarily celibate couple?"}
{"id": "t3_wqwm8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: Today I almost walked out on my job due to a mentally sound customer who threw his food on the floor because he didn't like it. Anyone have any good, \"Fuck this, I quit\" moments?", "post": "Granted, I know I didn't quit, but I seriously considered it. This \"gentleman\" who was with his toddler daughter and girlfriend/wife?, ordered Fish and Chips (asked if the fish had bone in them, what kind of fish it was, if it came with fries--told him no bones, cod, and that yes, our \"chips\" are fries), but he didn't like his meal after one nibble off one of the edges of the fish. So instead, he wants a quesadilla, but he doesn't want that because it had sour cream and guac on the plate....not even touching the quesadilla. Take it back, bring him a brand new plain one, without any sour cream or guac, bites into it and then throws it onto the floor. \n\nThroughout this whole ordeal, he almost never looked me in the eye, was extremely rude with his responses to such questions of,\"What would you like to drink?\" and \"How are you today?\". I ended up having my manager handle the rest of the situation and he finally left. Oh, he also wanted our lemonade, with light ice, but after he found out it was free refills, he asked for a new glass of it, with more ice, and kept sucking them down. I think I counted 6 refills in thirty minutes.", "summary": "Customer did not like any of the food brought to him, is extremely rude, and decides to throw his food on the floor to make his point. Almost threw the food back at him."}
{"id": "t3_47ufsm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Best friend knowingly asked out the girl I was going to ask to prom.", "post": "My best friend asked me in early January who I was going to ask out to prom (in early April), and I replied Girl X. Bestie replies: \"nice! Girl X is rad!\"\n\nFast-forward one month and I had an ukulele song ready to be played for Girl X, when bestie sees me and asks who I'm asking to prom (I think: again!?). I reply again with Girl X. Bestie says: \"oh, but someone is already asking her...\", to which I say \"who?\"... He replies: \"me.\"\n\nIn that moment I was caught way off guard. I really value my friendship with bestie, and maybe for that reason I was just really passive, non-confrontational, and just avoided the subject of him jumping the gun on my potential date. Afterwards, I really felt like I should have stood up for myself, but it was too late. \n\nThe next day, bestie sings Girl X a song and asks her to prom (we're both musically inclined), and she says yes. \n\nProm is still a month away, and I've been feeling like I've been slighted. Bestie knew I was going to ask Girl X, yet tells me the day before that he was going to ask first. I feel super disrespected, yet I'm also worried that I'm overreacting because he did somewhat tell me (albeit in a shitty way the day before)... \n\nI think I wouldn't feel so shitty if we discussed it more than one day before bestie asked her. It feels good to tell people how I feel...", "summary": "Friend asked out girl to prom, knowing full well I was going to."}
{"id": "t3_rmpxc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I ignore my morals?", "post": "I have had a girlfriend for 2 weeks now, she already wants to have sex, but we are both virgins, and I don't fully agree with it, and to top it off I don't think I want to be with her (We have almost nothing in common) Should I A.) Fuck her, and stay with her B.) Leave her or C.) Ignore every moral stance I've taken before to defend the male gender and fuck her, then leave her. Reddit, I've considered all my possibilities and I keep getting conflicting advice, that's why it was brought here, so please no \"you need to make your own decisions\"", "summary": "Should I leave my girlfriend, fuck her, or fuck her then leave her?"}
{"id": "t3_1i25em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 20 year old guy who is having feeling for his ex again, but, I'm in a two year committed relationship with my girlfriend.", "post": "I have been in a longterm relationship with a girl who I absolutely love and even eventually want to marry. But I have a problem, my ex-girlfriend[19/F]. \n\nI don't think I have feelings for her but I find her crossing my mind a lot lately and we have even been talking as friends lately. It was a bad break up and I lost her as a friend and after a few years we're finally becoming friends again. \n\nBut the problem is my SO despises my ex. So really I have no clue whats going on in my relationship and I just wanted some advice I guess.", "summary": "feelings for my ex might be resurfacing"}
{"id": "t3_4l8gqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] going to a concert with friend [18F] who I want to be my girlfriend. How do I make this happen?", "post": "I'm going to a concert with my friend tomorrow,  she invited me and we're going to go eat beforehand. I kind of like the music but not a big fan either. We're going to be waiting in line and it'll just be the two of us. I want to make her mine. I don't know how to go on about it, we've been friends for about 5 years. She doesn't do much physical contact with me and we barely text eachother. But she knows that I like her in the sense that I think she's really good looking and that I've had a crush on her before. We're like best friends, she's told me that my smile is cute and my body is nice a long time ago besides that I can't think of anything that would make me think she'd be interested in me.\n\nI do think I'm good looking and I've been told that often but I wouldn't know if she liked me or not. I want to have a great time with her tomorrow and ask her to be my girlfriend if it goes well enough. We're about to graduate high school and we're going to separate colleges but their close to eachother.", "summary": "going to concert and lunch with friend "}
{"id": "t3_2bja8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sick in bed for months at the same time as breakup? Help!", "post": "I'm 21 and my ex-bf is 24, we dated for 11 months and broke up two weeks ago.  We are very different people, and I never thought that he was \"the one\" for me because of this.  However I ended up falling in love with him anyway.  \n\nWe broke up because he 'loves me but is not in love with me' (he never told me he loved me before this)- and I want to be with someone that can love me, at least one day! He's never been in love before and is emotionally distant in general.\nI'm having a hard time getting over it- I just wish that he could love me! I can't help but keep hoping that he will change.\n\nNow here is the problem.  Getting over a relationship is one thing when you can keep busy, see friends, and work on making yourself a happier and healthier person.  But unfortunately I am very sick- I have been for the past 3 months, and wont be better anytime in the near future (probably a couple of months).  Part of my illness is that I have complete fatigue and have to spend most days in bed.  This is really hard to deal with because I can't see friends much (feel too badly) or even go for a nice long walk.  Does anyone have any advice on how I can help myself get over the breakup while confined to bed and already feeling down about my situation in general?  Has anyone had a break up while they were in a currently unchangeable unhappy position (i.e. severe illness)?  He's having some great summer (from what I knew about his plans) and I'm sitting around all day trying to make up schoolwork.\n\nI am doing the no contact rule by the way, but he still likes my photos on fb- even seeing his name makes me feel sad.", "summary": "I'm sick in bed for the next couple months, how do I get over my breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_4o9fkq", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "I like cooking but my aversion to people keeps me away from it.", "post": "So I really enjoy spending time in the kitchen, and cook for myself and my family, but everytime I step into the kitchen, people start crawling in like vermin and I despise that so much it keeps me from even trying to cook most of the time.\n\nAnyone has had a similar problem? How did you fix it? I've told them I don't like people around when I'm cooking stuff, but doesn't seem to do the trick (also I'm either TOO damn straight to the point I make people cry for hurting their feelings or too indirrect/passive they don't believe I mean it.\n\nIt's the small things I guess.", "summary": "I love cooking, I hate when people sneak around while I cook"}
{"id": "t3_47e0tu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26M] bothered by my new partner's [25F] sexual past but confused why", "post": "I recently met a girl that I am really into and things have been going great for about a month. Yesterday we were kind of talking about our pasts and she mentioned that she used to be quite promiscuous younger in life, she wasn't exactly proud of it and didn't really want to talk about it too much. She did kind of suggest that there were periods where it is a new guy every night type of thing.\nI am for the most part a very non judgmental person and have always thought that my partner's sexual history wouldn't bother me but it has for the last day. I am relatively inexperienced sexually largely due to lack of opportunity but I have had a one night stand before so I don't look down on her if that makes sense. So I think a part of it is just jealously or feeling like I missed out in college.\nTo make things worse she worse she confided in me that it was largely due to having significant self esteem issues triggered by an assault and some other events, so I feel even worse for letting this bother. She trusts me enough to tell me something she doesn't tell a lot of people and its bothering me.\nI think in another day or two I'll get over it but I just feel gross about the way I feel. It doesn't help that I haven't really slept much the last two days either. Anyways commentary welcome and encouraged but mostly just needed to write this down.", "summary": "Never thought I would be bothered by a partner's sexual history but it's been bothering me"}
{"id": "t3_2v2hj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M22] date [F22] canceled on me last minute, only she didn't realize it was a date. How should I play it off when I see her?", "post": "Earlier this week, I asked a co-worker if she wanted to see a show. She agreed, asked what time and who else was going. I panicked and only said the time. She texted me about an hour before the show tonight and said she was in a meeting that was running late and she wasn't going to make it. That's fine, but she texted me later saying she hoped \"you guys\" had fun. Since it was just going to be the two of us, I didn't even go after she cancelled. When she inevitably asks about it tomorrow, how should I respond? I'm sure she'll ask how it was and who went.\n\nSorry if this isn't as involved as most questions here are. I'm just hoping you can help me save a bit of face.", "summary": "Much confusion about going out with a girl."}
{"id": "t3_1kuelt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [23 M] doesn't see that he's being an asshole. Am I wrong?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and he doesn't like to sugar coat things. Ever. I admittedly can be really sensitive and hot headed but we usually manage to talk things out and find common ground. \n\nHowever - and I know this may seem like a really small thing, but it really hurt my feelings - yesterday as I was cooking us dinner he said something really hurtful. Let me give you some context:\n\nWe both **love** steak. I love to cook and I make a pretty bad ass steak, which he loves also. I wanted to try something new, something called a gizo which involves putting steak in a food processor/blender with a tomato sofrito. \n\nHe comes into the kitchen just after I sear the steak and sees me about to put it in my blender. **\"You're gonna put that in a blender? What a waste of steak.\"** \n\nI gave him a *wtf* face and told him what he said was uncalled for. \n\nHe thinks I'm overreacting. But it hurt my feelings. Am I wrong?", "summary": "Boyfriend sees me cooking something new, says what I'm making is a waste of steak. Is he being an asshole or am i just being a whiney baby?"}
{"id": "t3_4f80b5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I Drop Out Of University?", "post": "In 2012 I graduated from uni with a BA in Poli-Sci. In 2013, I went back to uni intending to get an education degree. At the time, I thought I really wanted to be a teacher. I passed my first practicum, but withdrew from the second practicum. I tried to redo the second practicum, but withdrew from it a second time last December.\n\nNow I've been accepted into a two-year program at a different school in my hometown. It's for a job I considered after graduating with my first degree. It doesn't pay as much, but it'll pay enough for me to live on my own.\n\nThe problem is that if I redo my practicum for a third time, I can't do this new program for another year. I don't want to be 30 and still unable to live on my own. I also don't even want to be in education anymore so assuming I passed the practicum, which isn't a guarantee, I wouldn't want to be a teacher and I would sign up again for this other program. I'd just be a year older when I finished it.\n\nMy parents want me to finish my education program. I think they're hoping that I only think I don't want to teach due to anxiety and low-confidence and that when I do my practicum I'll pass and want to be a teacher again. However, I really doubt this.\n\nShould I officially drop out of the education program and do this new program?", "summary": "Should I leave my Bachelor of Education incomplete in order to start a new two year program in a field I prefer?"}
{"id": "t3_1u1bmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [24 F] broke up over a year ago but I can't stop thinking about her resently", "post": "Last October (2012) I broke up with my girlfriend of just over a year.  I don't know if it is just because it is the holidays and I'm seeing my cousins and their SO together, or that my friends have been getting engage, or because the girl I planned on talking to and trying to and maybe start something with at a wedding this past weekend has no interest in me or if it's just because I'm lonely but I've thinking about her more and more lately. We broke up because we fought occasionally like all couples do over small stupid stuff but mainly because my friends said I wasn't my normal self when she was around and they hated it. I thought there has to be a better person for me out there that has everything I want and I shouldn't have to settle for what I'm looking for in a wife. I'm basically just wondering what Reddit thinks. \n\nShould I just be patient and keep trying to date other people and see how it works out or talk to her and try to get back together with her and see if there is anything there? \n\nSorry for the run-ons and other horrible grammar/spelling", "summary": "Broke up with gf over a year ago. Can't stop think about her lately. Looking for advice on what to do"}
{"id": "t3_34v9lb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [21 F] of 5 year broke up with me [22M], but I'm not sure exactly what it is.", "post": "So we've had been dating since HS and we both went to the same school. We never had serious relationships with anyone else. I graduated a year before her and she is still at school and finishes undergrad in a week. We've had a really good relationship with a few bumps but nothing bad, especially recently.\n\nNext fall semester she is doing 3 months in London as part of her Masters degree. A couple weeks ago she said that she thought we should take a break while she was abroad because she wanted to prove to herself that she could handle new challenges without me there as support. She was also worried that the difficulty of communicating with a time difference and no real contact would strain our relationship. This all made sense as I had previously abroad for a month and it had indeed been difficult on us. We agreed that we would be together for the summer and then be on a break for the fall semester.\n\nHowever, last week I noticed she was being very distant and not returning texts. I asked her about it and she said that the thought of leaving me in the fall was bothering her a lot and that she didn't want to be upset for her whole time abroad. She wanted to start the break now and not be together over the summer. This caught me off guard it and it stopped feeling like a break and more like a breakup. I'm worried that she doesn't have an intention of getting back together.\n\nTo make everything worse, she lives in the same town as me and we have a lot of mutual friends so I'll probably see her a lot this summer. She said that she loves me and I think thats true but it hasn't made it hurt less.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Is it a break or a break up? Is there anything I should ask her?", "summary": "Break became a longer break. Feels like a break up"}
{"id": "t3_1x4h6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 Mwith my 29[F] so . 8 months breaks up with me for 3 days because ex texts. Wants me back and is sorry", "post": "We've been dating 8 months and we currently live 45 minutes apart. We see each other twice a week. She wanted to move to my city and eventually live together. So I found her a job in her field and profession she interviewed and got the job. She's planning to move to my city for her new job.\n\nShe came with a lot of baggage from a previous relationship. This can in the form of two dogs ( a pittbull and a boxer) which have never have been trained and are almost feral. She had a house where she lived in with her ex that was an absolute dump. On top of that she has deep financial debt and no real plans to do anything about it.  On top of that when she started living in The house her old ex got arrested and put in jail for life for dealing drugs out of the house. She claims she didn't know that this was going on. She's an awesome person and I have strong feelings for her , but her choices in life up to me haven't been so great.\n\nLast Saturday she called and told me she didn't know if she wanted to be together. She didn't say why. That night instead of telling me to my face that we were done she went and partied with her friends in the city I live. When I texted her she asked for space and I gave it to her. Come Tuesday night she calls me crying saying she made a mistake and her ex had been texting her that he could give her what she wanted. She said she got confused and didn't know what she wanted. She wanted to be with me. Last night I agreed , but after sleeping on it I think I should break up with her. What do you guys think?", "summary": "gf breaks it off for 3 days because ex texts her. She claims she didn't cheat and just texted ex. She wants to be together again. I agreed to take her back , but having a change of heart. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2e4ref", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Overly religious family is overly judgmental", "post": "Here's some background before I start ranting. I was raised in a Mormon household and my mom's side of the family is *very* strong with their beliefs in the church. I left the church when I was around 15-16 (now 20) but my extended family still believes I am an active member of the church. \n\nSo now I can dip into my story. I am currently dating this amazing guy who is pretty much the male version of me, and everything is great. My grandma called and I happened to be near the house phone to answer it (Yeah... We still have a house phone) and she asked about my boyfriend. I told her about him briefly and she asks the inevitable and unavoidable question of if he is a member of the LDS church. I said his family was Catholic, and she immediately commented that I need to end my relationship with him because he isn't Mormon. I told her that I am open-minded and that I accept if my partner has different beliefs than I do (I guess I'm agnostic if anything; I'm just generally open-minded to most religions). She retaliated my comment with \"how are you going to get married in the temple if your partner isn't temple worthy?\" I've been far from \"temple-worthy\" for years, but they don't know that.\n\nTo me, it seems like the LDS church is so close minded to the idea of dating outside of the church. They discriminate against anyone who is even ever-so-slightly different from them. Like, God forbid if I have any friends that don't go to church because they're automatically deemed as a bad influence and are on their way to hell.", "summary": "Talking to my super Mormon grandma about my boyfriend, who is Catholic, and she immediately tells me to break up with him because he's not a member of the Mormon church. It also really grinds my gears how close-minded they are and discriminating they can be."}
{"id": "t3_4h084d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by touching a wall", "post": "Didn't happen today, but a 3-4 years ago.\nI was visiting my Mom's brother and his family in India (I was about 12 years old or so). I lived in another country (not India). Anyways, I stayed with them for about 2 weeks by myself (parents were coming to another city in India later), so I pretty much spent time with my cousins, uncle, aunt and grandma. \nOne day, my uncle decided to take me down to the beach to show me what it was like. So my uncle, cousin and I set out. We left home and walked to the car (it was parked further up a street). It was like 2 pm and there was a lot of traffic on the street. There were 2 trucks blocking our path ahead to the car, which was just in front of these trucks, and there were only 2 ways to get past these trucks - go in between them, or squeeze in between a wall and the truck. My cousin and uncle go between the trucks, but the overly safety-conscious me decides to squeeze in between the wall and the truck. Bad idea. I get through no problem, but I notice something as I reach out to open the car door - there were hundreds of black ants on my left arm. I kid you not, HUNDREDS. My arm was literally black, from wrist to shoulder, and was barely able to see any of my skin. And these weren't just any black ants, they were carpenter ants. I must've brushed past an ant colony, and given them a new home. I frantically started brushing them off, at which point they started biting. I flinched in pain as they kept on biting me. My uncle and cousin, noticing my discomfort, rushed to my aid, and upon seeing my situation, started laughing hysterically before helping me out (they were still laughing then). There were still a few ants on me after we brushed them all off, having spread out to some uncomfortable places. We still went to the beach though, where I rinsed myself thoroughly before taking a shower back home.", "summary": "Tried being safety-conscious, which didn't work as I planned, ended up as a human colony for hundreds of black biting ants."}
{"id": "t3_2v5i6a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(23) everything in my 1-year relationship with gf (21) going good, however, I feel like I'm missing out by being in a monogamous relationship...", "post": "We have a good connection and deeply love each other. This being said, I can't help but feel that I'm passing up on a lot of beautiful women. I was never a handsome, nor charismatic guy in my (relatively) younger dating years and thus, I never really got that much attention from the opposite sex. I guess I've really blossomed and have been having to decline a lot of sexual advances lately. I'm not even out there looking for it: I don't flirt with these other girls (though of course, I engage in polite conversation if prompted) and I'm very conscious about not displaying certain types of body language. I never conceal the fact that I have a GF and often introduce this fact earlier on. My GF and I don't have any problems, especially where sex is concerned, though admittedly, it has become a tad stale. This doesn't mean that I'm itching for more/new sex, it just means that I don't look forward to the sexy times as much as I used to.\nAll this being said, I just can't help feeling like I'm missing out. Polyamory for sure is not an option for discussion with her and I know it would hurt her very much if I tried to initiate that discussion. I've never cheated in my life and never will, but this has been troubling me.", "summary": "In a good, monogamous relationship, though and influx of attention from the opposite sex has me feeling like I'm missing out."}
{"id": "t3_41ci8o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing how to English", "post": "Well, this fuck up happened back when I was a small Asian child in Year 1.\n\nTo begin, I live in Australia and I'm Chinese/Laotian, and my parents did not bother to teach me how to speak English. At all. Despite the fact that they were pretty much fluent. They literally dumped me in kindergarten without being able to communicate with my peers or my teachers. 0/10, do not recommend. Parents, if your child is going to an English speaking school and that is not their native language, please try to teach them the basics at least.\n\nSo I bumbled my way through preschool, and I managed to vaguely learn how to English, but some of the finer phrases and the such sort of escaped me, especially the elusive 'Do you mind if I *insert thing*?'\n\nMy mind sort of related that phrase to asking permission, and one day a girl at my new school asked me, \"Do you mind if I sit here?\" Of course, 6 year old me was beyond excited to make a new friend, and I said yes.\n\nI didn't know that saying yes meant that I did mind and that they should bugger off because I didn't want them to sit next to me. They walked off, dejected, and I was left confused.\n\nOf course, this would be minor incident if it was a once off. Unfortunately, I didn't know the concept of 'minding' if someone did something and I continued to tell people that yes, I did mind when they wanted to interact with me. That, plus a lisp, general awkwardness, and liking books more than people made me an almost friendless child :(", "summary": "yes, I do mind."}
{"id": "t3_fuq87", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, help me pick out a gift for an airline reservations agent who helped my family for hours when our flight was canceled.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nOver the weekend my brother and father got stuck in a small 2 gate airport because our flight was canceled.  Trying to get another flight out soon so that we could be back home across the country in the next two days we talked to an airline rep named Jesse. He was probably about 25 and looked exactly like Jesse from Breaking Bad. He typed away for a while trying to get us flights, looking on multiple airlines. He eventually gets us a flight on another airline for later in the day.  We call to confirm with the other airline and the rep tells us that the flight is not that day but actually the next night.  There seems to be a discrepancy between the two airlines computers and a glitch in the system with the one flight that would be getting us back home.  This is about probably the fifth hour in the airport now and Jesse has been helping our crazy situation the whole time. As we're on our probably eighth hour at the airport, the supervisor who has been \"helping\" (not nearly as much as Jesse) tells us that the ticketing booth was closing in three minutes and if we wanted we could come back the next day.  Jesse responded to that with \"Oh, its fine.  I'll stay and finish this up\".  he ended up staying an extra 45 minutes helping us and ended up getting us out of the airport the next morning on the most complicated flight schedule ever.  We were on five different planes the next day to get home, a trip that usually takes two. Jesse was what made our horrific situation bearable and was just plain amazing.\n\nSo Reddit, any ideas for a gift for a customer service hero?", "summary": "We were stuck at the airport because our flight was canceled due to weather and needed to be home in two days. An airline rep, Jesse, helped us for about eight hours so that we could get there.  We want to get him a gift but don't know what."}
{"id": "t3_12z5g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20f] get over my insecurities I'm having over my boyfriends [19m] exes?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months but we've been friends for around 3years and I've been in love with him for most of that. Thing is I find myself thinking about his exes (or, well...One ex in general - his most recent one). They were together for 10 and a bit months and I'm forever wondering if he still thinks of her, if he misses her, whether he wishes I were her and just general crazy stuff like that. They don't talk anymore and as far as I know she broke up with him but he didn't want to talk about it so I don't know why. I can't ever seem to get him to have a proper conversation about her (not that I ask often, I don't wanna reopen any old wounds he may have.) \n\nLast night it finally got the best of me and I admitted to him that I wonder these things. His reply was \"Well, you know all the answers to those,\" and he smiled at me and that was the end of that conversation.\n\nMy question is, how do I get over this without having to keep talking to him about it? Any advice is appreciated guys! (:", "summary": "I have insecurities about my boyfriends ex because he was super in love with her and she broke it off with him. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_4vipe1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The dad of a sexting buddy (21F) of mine (26M) responded to me", "post": "This isn't too long or complex, just curious is all. There's a girl I've known for a few years through an event we do. She's cute, shorty, has always had a thing for me. We flirt on snapchat and send sexy texts and pictures. Typical shit, we live several hours away from one another, are both busy working and she's told me flat out she doesn't want a serious thing.\n\nWell this morning instead of her replying to me, her dad did :D! Said I was a \"coward,\" that I \"didn't love her,\" that I wasn't man enough to take her to lunch (???), all I wanted was sex (all true accusations, I assure you all). \n\nIn any other situation I'd kind of just laugh and move on. There's not much negotiating to do here. But I know her family well enough, we've all worked together, I enjoy them in the brief spurts I've associated with them, and it would make going to this event in the future slightly strained, but not otherwise uncomfortable. \n\nIt's strange to me that he's looking through his 21 year old daughter's phone, but I digress because who knows how protective I'd feel of my daughter? It's not my place to say if he was out of line, because it really doesn't matter. I'm not really offended this happened. In fact, I'm literally just now remembering she mentioned something like this happened before!\n\nAnyway, I guess I'm wondering how, or if, I should  respond to all of this. Do I apologize? I'm not particularly remorseful, but I guess I'm sorry he saw something he didn't like. I feel like no matter how I answer paints her in a light he'd find unflattering, which is more unfair to her.", "summary": "21 year old girl's dad responds to she and I sexting and calls me a coward for not being in love with her. OP is at a loss for words."}
{"id": "t3_2p2zrs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being able to right type of Chinese", "post": "Well this happened 3 years ago during my first year of University. \n\nI was just finishing my classes for the day and was approaching the main entrance, ready to go home. A chinese girl ran up to me really frantically and she was almost on the verge of tears. She kept pointing as this timetable vigorously and asking me the same question over and over in Mandarin. Now I am chinese yes, but I was born and raised in the UK and I only spoke Cantonese which is what they speak in Hong Kong. Mandarin is a whole new language to me.\n\nNow I replied to her in english, explaining that I have no idea what she needs. At which point she she starts to cry even harder and louder and wraps her arms around her head... I was thinking wtf... Not only was I extremely uncomfortable due to the crying asian stood infront of me, but now all the people walking past think i'm breaking up with the girl who is now whaling like an injured dog and wrapped her own arms around her head like she's being attacked by anacondas. People started to stand there and watch whilst I swiftly made an abbrupt exit.", "summary": "I abandoned a chinese girl who thought I could help because I was chinese too, but I didn't understand her and left her crying in the middle of the Uni campus"}
{"id": "t3_snlwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO is an amazing man and absolutely perfect for me... In theory. So why aren't I happy with the man of every girl's dreams?", "post": "(A bit of background: I'm 31, he's 32 and we've known each other for just over 2 years, been together a year. We live about 30 miles apart so usually spend time together on weekends because of opposite work schedules. For now. There are plans for my son and I to move there in the near future.)\n\nHe's gainfully employed, owns his own home, doesn't have any real emotional baggage. He's attractive and a genuinely good person. No complaints on the sexy-times front. Yeah, he has quirks such as being a D&D-level nerd, but I knew all about that stuff before we dated. His shameless nerding is actually one of the things I love about him. He adores my 11 year old son and my son adores him.  He's not rich by any means, but spoils me by cooking Sunday breakfast for us when I've had a hard week at work. He remembers things I like and then surprises me with something small related to that (e.g. I'm a huge Cubs fan, he surprised me with a Cubs keychain when my old one broke).\n\nI was married to my son's father (now divorced, obviously) and not sure I ever want to marry again. He's never been married and is absolutely fine with not getting married if I don't want to. He has his own friends, he's not clingy or jealous. He's considerate and affectionate. \n\nThis is what a long-term, adult relationship is supposed to be. Why do I not want this? I WANT to want this. I just...don't. Is it possible that I will eventually if I stick it out for a while longer?", "summary": "My boyfriend is prince charming and I'm just \"meh\" on the whole thing. Wtf is wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3a67or", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm falling for him and this scares me. Help? (23F, 23M)", "post": "I've been dating Thom for almost a year now. We took things really slow at the beginning due to having had bad experiences in the past. Over the past few months though we've grown steadily closer, to the point where I think I'm really falling for him. \n\nThis terrifies me. I can already feel myself experiencing all kinds of feelings that I don't like. I think about him too much. Seeing him tends to be the highlight of my day. I'm smart and attractive and accomplished but I worry still if I'm good enough for him or if I'm his \"type.\" He's an artist and has grown more active in our local scene, and I'm nervous that he'll get so swept up in all of it that he'll want to do it alone without me or date some ultra-cool painter instead. The more intimate we become the more afraid I am of something going wrong and getting my heart broken. \n\nLogically I know that all of this is ridiculous. I can't control it, I can't predict the future, so I might as well just enjoy the present and hope for the best. But I'm filled with these stupid anxious emotions that I just can't turn off. How do I pull the focus back onto my own life? How do I make sure that I don't stagnate by letting the relationship take over my sense of self? How do I stop ruminating over shit that I have no control over? \n\nI know I'm being silly but the worst part is I promise I'm actually a pretty cool person with a robust life of my own. Would really appreciate your advice on how to return to that.", "summary": "Falling for this dude and turning into a crazy insecure girl because of it. Help???"}
{"id": "t3_3gv8t0", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "One way flight to Europe from US", "post": "I'm taking a sabbatical, and am planning on taking a trip to Europe.  Because I don't know if I will want to be there for a week or a month, I plan on buying a one way ticket there, and then just buy another one way ticket back when I'm ready to come home.\n\nRecently someone told me that I need to look into it before doing that, because I could get stuck in customs if I don't have proof of a return trip.  Is this true?  Does it depend on the country?\n\n(Looking at Spain, Italy, Germany, possibly France, UK)", "summary": "one way flight from US to Europe, do I need to worry about getting through customs without proof of return trip?"}
{"id": "t3_3k5068", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Trouble with disciplin", "post": "Hey loseit. \n\nMy main problem is that i have no disciplin, and i can't manage to be consistent with training or diet. While i have a pretty good grasp of what i should eat, and what kind if good foods i will be able to stick to etc, i always get distracted.\n\nIts mostly a social thing, wanting to join friends for lunch, or dinner etc. While its perfectly possible to eat healthy when going out, i mostly forget about it then, or am very hungry, or they just have very good burgers...\n\nSo, how can i teach myself to have good disciplin? See a shrink? Some kind of simple exercise? I've tried to build different, simple routines (like eating habits or easy training), but it only sticks for a little while.\n\nSo, i seem to be wired wrong, and find it difficult to deal with. Also, i wouldn't mind paying to get some kind of help, but pretty much everything that turns up when you google weightloss seems like moneytraps... \n\nDoes anyone have any tips for dealing with this?", "summary": "Have motivation, diet, training, but no disciplin. How to practice discinplin?"}
{"id": "t3_icmn1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My village has received a grant of \u00a310k ($16k) to help our goal of becoming carbon neutral by 2020. What'll give us the best bang for buck?", "post": "I live in the coastal village of Robin Hood's Bay, North Yorkshire in the United Kingdom. We've always had a great community spirit, and there are a number of community run organisations in operation locally (for example, we supply our own broadband access). For a while, we've been discussing possibilities for generating our own power, and reducing our carbon footprint. This idea has developed further, and we've been given a grant of \u00a310000 to spend to help us reach our goal of becoming carbon neutral by 2020. \n\nI'll be attending a meeting this Sunday, where I'll be able to present ideas for consideration. If anyone has any knowledge or experience in this sort of thing, I'd love to hear your thoughts.", "summary": "Given \u00a310k, what's the best investment a coastal village can make toward becoming carbon neutral."}
{"id": "t3_2x5wvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16F] Sister [18F] Hit my Boyfriend [16M]", "post": "Yesterday I had the worst experience ever, my boyfriend was at my house and I was making something to eat and I heard my older sister from the other room yelling at my boyfriend, I came out there to see what was happening and I saw her punch him in the frigging face. I pushed her away from him, slapped her, and started swearing at her and she tried saying that he stole her money off the table, when it was MY money that our parents had left out for me and I'm the one who took it. She insisted it was hers (it isn't), and she refused to apologize to my boyfriend. A couple hours after my boyfriend left she comes to my room and says oh maybe it was yours, but still you're a bitch for slapping me. \n\nI was so mad I was like wtf you hit my boyfriend and falsely accused him of stealing. She is being a bitch to me now and I don't know how to work this out. What are your opinions on this? And she still refused to apologize to him..", "summary": "My sister wrongfully accused my boyfriend of stealing from her, yelled at him, and punched him in the face. And now she's pissed off at me for slapping her because of what she did"}
{"id": "t3_144jg3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What movie has haunted you for years after watching it?", "post": "So when I was 6 (11 years ago) I was staying with my Grandma because my parents had left town for a business trip and we decided to watch a movie. So her and my sister left to go find one. They came back after renting a movie and put it in. Now as a kid I was a huge pussy, like scared of his own shadow kind of thing. Now if you had read the Goosbump stories as a little kid you will know they are actually fucked.. well my sister had gotten the movie \"The Werewolf of Fever Swamp\" and after about 25 minutes of watching the movie I was fucking terrified. My sister got to scared and went upstairs and it was only me sitting on the couch in a dark room shitting my pants. Now I would of gone upstairs but I was to scared to turn my head (yes I was a pussy) fearing that their was a Werewolf sitting right behind me getting ready to eat me as soon as I looked backwards. Now if you have seen the movie then you would know that their is a scene when the character is running from the Werewolf and the Werewolf falls into a pit of quicksand or something. Well I had recurring nightmares until I was 14 from that scene. I would wake up in a swamp and see a Werewolf running at me and I would start to run away, the Werewolf would easily catch me and then try to eat my face and as it went in for the bite I would wake up sweating and terrified. Eventually these went away after I watched the \"Haunting of Connecticut\" and yes I did go run into my parents room crying about fucking dead people.. oh god how young and innocent and such a huge pussy I was.", "summary": "I was a huge fucking pussy and fuck Werewolfs and dead people and most of all fuck you Grandma (Still love her) (Kinda)"}
{"id": "t3_3wf4wu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister[31/F] and I[M/29] don't want to have Christmas dinner with out parents[M-F/51] because they both want to bring their new toys[M/20]/[F/18]", "post": "So, parents have never had a great marriage, cheated on other, etc. They divorced finally 6 years ago. Since then they have been petty and mean to each other and have constantly tried to get my sister and I to choose sides. We've chosen each other. I wasn't close with my sister until I got out of college, but since then she is one of my best friends(Along with her husband) and she and her husband are a part of my social group.\n\nAnywho, both of our parents have new young toys(Not sure how, neither have money. They both look good and keep in shape but still) they have been with for half year or so, I don't really keep up with them, and for the last 2 years my sister has hosted Christmas Dinner for our family. They have been strained, but so far no blowouts.\n\nLast week we found out that our parents have been bickering over the phone and have both decided to bring their new partners into our family dinner to one up each other.\n\nI told my sister and she was furious. Neither of us want our kids to be around this stupidity, so we decided to dis-invite them. Since then we have been getting a lot of harassment from our parents and other family members.\n\nMy grandmother called me today and asked how I could be so heartless, that they are family, and family always trumps problems. She said my sister and I had no right to disinvite them and that our parents have every right to be with us and bring whoever they want.\n\nSo I have been dealing with this turmoil for a few hours now, wondering if we were in the wrong for doing this.\n\nDoes family really trump all, even for this situation?", "summary": "Sister and I don't want our parents to come to Christmas Dinner with their new partners just to one up each other. Family is upset at us. Are we in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_1fgao8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17F] tell him [18M] about an extremely drunken peck that meant nothing?", "post": "Me (17F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been going out for about a year, and I really, really love him. We have as close to a perfect relationship as you can get. It's exam season and to celebrate my friends had a wild party last night, and due to losing several shot games I got incredibly drunk. We're talking can't stand up, room-swaying kind of drunk. \n\nMy friend and I were talking with one other guy and then suddenly she kissed me on the lips. I didn't really realise what she'd done until afterwards. Then later she did it again and I didn't stop it even though I knew what she was going to do. I am completely straight and have no attraction for her, but it was just a stupid drunk moment where I didn't think. I know my boyfriend would consider it just as severe as if I had kissed a boy and react accordingly. She has a boyfriend too but he is okay with it. What do I do? Do I tell him and possibly lose a fantastic relationship? I feel like the most horrible person alive right now and I know I'd deserve it if that was how it ended up.", "summary": "I drunkenly pecked another girl. Do I tell my boyfriend and risk break-up or pretend it never happened?"}
{"id": "t3_26ro7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20F) noticed for a while now that my boyfriend (25M) is attracted to women with specific traits, none of which I can possibly have", "post": "I'm brown, black hair, and average in terms of height/weight.\n\nMy boyfriend (also of the same ethnicity) is really turned on by white females with dark brown hair and a specific face, etc. I think the best way to describe them would be \"girl who bear similar resemblance to Megan Fox\" (who has been his ultimate celeb crush for the longest time). I know full well that he checks out other girls, has crushes on these girls, even jerks off to them from time to time, and I've grown to accept that they are just meaningless male habits. We're kind of long distance so it's not like he can really share his horniness with me. He gets turned on by me too, but it's different, I guess. I've noticed that those girls do it for him much better than me, but I know that he loves me and would never cheat, not while in a relationship with me anyway. \n\nI admit that the girls he's attracted to are attractive imo as well. I wish I could be like this, but I'm only good at being me so that's that. \n\nI also check out other guys and think some other men are attractive, but I'm more attracted to personality than body tbh. At the end of the day, my boyfriend is who I honestly prefer to have sex with. \n\nI guess I'm posting here because I feel that I'm sometimes not who he prefers to have sex with. I don't blame him; I'm a pretty plain girl and as you can tell, I can be very insecure at times. I never show him this side of me though; usually, I just deal with it myself. He would be pretty shocked if he ever found out I felt this way about him and his typical male habits. \n\nI know I'll feel better in time, but is there anything I can do to ease the pain in my chest right now? I have to finish my essay tonight and it's just a little hard to concentrate with the aching..", "summary": "Having one of those moments of extreme insecurity due to my boyfriend's harmless-but-maybe-not-so-harmless typical male behavior (checking out girls, stalking them on fb, etc)... wondering how to get past the pain so I can focus on the more important things"}
{"id": "t3_472xw4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship with flatmate?", "post": "I'm (19M) at uni, and I've been really close with two of my flatmates (both F) as friends but recently I've been thinking about one of them in a more than relationship kind of way. So when we went out drinking one night, the other friend told me to go for it because apparently she likes me too, so I went for it was amazing but the next day we've just gone straight back to how we were, and she was talking about other guys etc in front of me.\n\n I'm very confused after everything that happened and would like some advice please. I'm not sure whether to really go for it if she's not that interested cause we live together, plus i don't want to make it awkward. Thanks!", "summary": "got with flatmate, both apparently like each other, next day its just gone back to normal, not sure how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_2g9e4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] feel being lead on by one of my friends [22F] after knowing her for 2 months.", "post": "This might sound like a lame problem. Sorry.\n\nI met this girl at a party and really hit it off. We shared the same interests in hobbies and music. We ended up going to a festival together with about 6 other friends. The night of the second day we slept together in a friend's rv. Just slept.\n\nThings are going great. We're hanging out a lot, but only with friends. We sleep together a few more times at friends' houses. Time passes while I work and she goes to school. \n\nOne night I text her to see if she wanted to go out and meet up with some friends. She says she's tired and I say goodnight and go out. The next morning she texts me saying I seemed mad that she couldn't come out. \n\nI tried telling her that I wasn't mad and she hasn't texted me back in 6 days.", "summary": "Met girl at a party. Start hanging out more frequently.  She texts me saying I seemed mad that she didn't come out the previous night. Am I overreacting? What do I text her or do I wait for her to text me?"}
{"id": "t3_47u6ya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/M] and my girlfriend [24/F] parted ways 2 months ago. Now I need help deciding if I want to give it another shot or not.", "post": "I had a relationship with this girl for like 8 months. Last part of our relationship was long distance. We had great and not so great moments togheter. This was my first relationship and I never felt this way for anyone else, we were really in love. \n\nBut our last weeks togheter were different. She started to be cold towards me. She started to say things like \"we should just be friends\". But after all the things we shared I couldnt be just her friend, and I knew she loved me (at least until that point). So I continued to act normally and one day she got upset when I told her I loved her and after a fight she said we shouldnt talk anymore. \n\nWhen eveything was fine she was the most loving and caring girl ever. But she used to bad those bad days when she got upset and was colder.  She had various unhealthy relationships and bad experiences like past boyfriends cheating on her and things like that. Also she went through some bad stuff lately.\n\nI alredy got asked by my friends if maybe she had a relationship with someone else but Im 100% percent she doenst (She isnt very social she's always had a small group of friends and never was with a guy if he wasnt her boyfriend).\n\nSo we got back in touch and I know that I still love her, I missed her a lot in these 2 months. But even though it would be amazing if we got togheter again and have amazing times like before I dont want to be hurted again. I dont blame her nor Im mad at her but she made me feel bad. \n\nHow should I approach this situation ?. I love her but I dont know if I can/should give her all of me again.", "summary": "Got back in touch with my ex. I still feel something for her but I dont know how should I approach this situation."}
{"id": "t3_f76ix", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get a cat who's attached to you to dislike you?", "post": "I moved into a new apartment recently, and one of my roommates' cats has gotten really attached to me for some reason. She is super friendly towards me, follows me around, and sometimes even sleeps with me. This is super adorable, and I had been loving it, but I found out yesterday that she's started ignoring my roommate! She was apparently really friendly before. So, as much as I love this kitty, I grew up with cats, and I know how sad I'd be if one of my cats suddenly left me for another woman.\n\nSo I've decided to try to get her to start ignoring me, and hopefully she'll start adoring my roommate again. How do I go about doing this? I've started by not letting her into my room anymore.\n\nBtw, she's not a full grown cat yet, if that makes a difference.", "summary": "I adore this kitty, but I've realized that our love was not meant to be."}
{"id": "t3_1u08oj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my friend [29M] is reliant on me [23F] for his happiness, and I'm feeling trapped by it.", "post": "My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do?", "summary": "Friend relies on me for happiness because he has nobody else. I don't like letting him down but I can't do all the things he wants me to do and I feel suffocated."}
{"id": "t3_1r51fi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] SO [25M] does the rudest thing when he doesn't want to listen to you and it's driving me nuts", "post": "I [23F] have been with my SO [25M] for 2 years. I think he is generally an awesome person and for the most part, we get along really well and we have talked about getting married in a few years. \n\nBut, there's one thing that he does that has been bothering me more and more. If I ever begin a sentence and he decides that he doesn't want to hear what I have to say, he curls up, puts his hands over his ears, scrunches up his face and starts talking a mile a minute, basically saying \"okay okay okay I get it I don't care I don't want to hear it!\" as fast as he can to drown out what you're saying. If you keep talking, he just talks louder overtop of you. You might think that he does this only when he thinks I'm nagging him or something, but no, he does it even in light-hearted conversation, when we're talking about simple, non-serious things. \n\nIt reminds me of the way a 5-year old would act and I find it really rude and disrespectful. I've tried to tell him that, since I give him the time to say what he has to say, it would be nice if he could do the same for me. Or, at the very least, if he *really* cannot handle taking 5 seconds to let me finish my sentence, he could at least interrupt me in a less rude way. \n\nIt's really aggravating because sometimes there are things that need to be talked about (like money, landlord-related stuff, etc.) but if he just \"doesn't want to hear it\"... well, too bad for me.", "summary": "I love my SO, but anytime you say anything that he doesn't feel like listening to for whatever reason (be it serious or lighthearted), he curls up and starts talking overtop of you as fast and loud as he can. Does anyone know of what I could maybe say to him to get him to see that it's just really uncourteous? Is there anything I can do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fquen", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Made a move to kiss a girl, things took an interesting turn.", "post": "So there was a party lately and I (m/22) met this girl (20). We had a really great time dancing for many hours, and enjoyed a couple of beers, (she later on was a bit more tipsy than I was) and things got a little more flirty.\u00a0\nEscaped the party a couple of times to get rest, and chill somewhere else and talk.\u00a0\n\nEverybody will now think where this allegedly \"should\" lead to, but things took an interesting turn I have not experienced before.\u00a0\nSo we found a quiet spot, sat next to each other, and myself, even not such an experienced guy in those ways, but anyways I made the first move to kiss her, whereas she was kind of shy and maybe wasn't totally defensive but just not into making out, which I was totally okay with, don't get me wrong. So it ended up with myself giving just a little kiss on the cheek.\u00a0\n\nNow the thing which I was a bit surprised about and happened to me for the first time.\u00a0\nShe said \"Thank you\" afterwards.\nIn a way I can hardly recap but it was somewhat cute in a way.\u00a0\n\nHas anyone else experienced such thing? And female redditors, what lies, or may lie behind such a reaction? I'm just totally curious about the view of you guys on that.\u00a0\n\nI honestly in retrospect think that was kind of cute, but still a feel little bit confused.", "summary": "Made a move to kiss a girl, I kiss on the cheek, she said thank you."}
{"id": "t3_12iv1k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (m36) is asking his ex-wife(f32) to  stay with us because she doesn't have power due to  the hurricane.", "post": "I (23f) has been dating my boyfriend (36m) for about 6 months. I am aware of our age difference, but I have been through a lot growing up and I am way more mature than my peers, anyway, my boyfriend and I have great chemistry, we moved really fast in our relationship, we plan on moving in together next Spring and have already talked about the prospect of getting married. \n\nBackground on him and his ex-wife, they dated for 4 years, were married for 1 year when she one day decided that she doesn't love him anymore, packed up and left him. He doesn't like talking about his pat history, so I never pressured to ask for details. They have been separated for 1 year and divorced for about 6 months before I met him. \n\nSince Hurricane Sandy hit the East Coast my apartment has been without power so I have been living with my bf. I got sick two days ago and he has been the sweetest thing taking care of me, doing everything for me, I was ready to tell him I love him. I stayed at his house working from home today when he texted from work and asked if his ex-wife can come stay with us for a couple of days because tonight's overnight low is going to be in the 30s, and it's dangerous to be without heating. \n\nI am completely taken aback from what he asked. I know he is a good person, and he is always trying to help others, it's one of the reasons why I love him, but this is making me extremely uncomfortable. I'd be happy to have any single one of his friends stay but his ex-wife really is crossing the line. I think the main reason why I'm upset is because he contacted her asking if she's okay, he assured me many times he is completely over his ex but now all his promises just sound like a load of shit to me. \n\nI really love this guy and I want the relationship to work, what I'm asking is for some advice on figuring out if he is genuinely ready to have a relationship with me when he obviously still cares about his ex so much.", "summary": "My boyfriend (m36) of 6 months is asking his ex-wife(f32) to stay with us because she doesn't have power due to the hurricane. I (23f) is extremely uncomfortable at the fact that he still contacts her. "}
{"id": "t3_z3j2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Signed up for LA fitness online, but could not cancel membership online. Should companies be required to meet a standard for subscriptions created/cancelled in an online environment?", "post": "I signed up for LA Fitness online with a credit card in about 5 minutes. It was a quick and easy process and I have 0 gripes with it, however trying to cancel my subscription is an undue hardship.\nIt is required that you snail mail a cancellation form to them. You can't email it, you can't use their robust online platform, you can't walk into the gym and cancel, you have to mail it. The cancellation pieces of the website are purposely cumbersome and buggy to deter anyone from cancelling. You are forced to sit through videos[1] , and I felt like all the sudden clicking links and buttons worked 1/5 times. I felt myself spam clicking and becoming extremely frustrated. After going through this entire cancellation process the output is a simple .PDF that you are expected to print and mail to an address. There is absolutely no good reason why this can't be an email, other than it being a pain in the ass for the user. Also during the time it takes the cancellation form to arrive you can be charged additional membership dues and can't do anything about it. Is this fair? What can we do as consumers to avoid businesses who do this to their customers?", "summary": "Cancelling my gym club membership is a HUGE pain in the ass, but signing up was the complete opposite."}
{"id": "t3_2w0mmy", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Ringing / pressure in one ear.", "post": "This is my first post and I'm glad this sub exists!\n\nAbout six days ago I went for a really hefty workout (martial arts) for about 1.5 hours. After that I felt pretty good, and the next morning I was really sore (pretty usual stuff).\n\nAnyway, now I have an uncomfortable pressure in my right ear with a non-stop ringing (I already have tinnitus, but this ringing puts that to shame).\n\nAnyone know what is causing this? Is it possible I have some kind of head cold or something? Seeing a doctor isn't a problem, I just want to know for sure it's what I should do before taking time off work. It's not terribly uncomfortable but it's not getting better...\n\nThanks guys.", "summary": "have a weird pressure/ringing in my ear after working out Tuesday, only just started the day after. Tips/suggestions on what it could be?"}
{"id": "t3_4c8lkk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Adopted a 6 1/2 year old Australian Cattle dog, but having troubles with its exercise.", "post": "First off: He is the sweetest dog that I've ever seen, he will never nip/bite any person or dog, potty trained, and so far hasn't even barked once. But a problem started to arise:\n\nMy Father and I, out of impulse decided to adopt an Australian Cattle Dog since our last one died (Small breed), and this is our first medium/large breed. And now we are getting worried because we started to notice a problem just after 2 days: Even with 2 hours of walking each day doesn't satisfy his exercise needs, and the main reason is because he needs to be on a leash. (He only listens to his name being called 30% of the time, and we live in a condo area but it has a large patch a grass to run on.) Even after a 45 minute walk he will still want to go outside, so I'm confused on what I should do. (He will eventually settle down and attempt to nap/rest, but most times he just looks bored.) So my father suggested to try and get a very long leash (30 feet or so) so he's more controlled, but has more room to walk/run. But I feel like even that will still restrict the dog, and won't give him the energy expenditure he needs. So should I attempt to train him to come by command more reliably, or similar types of obedience training so he can go off the leash? And if so, could someone suggest videos of which methods I should attempt to do? I was thinking of using [Training Positive's method] (  of training, but I'm no expert on how well these work. I also heard that most Australian Cattle Dogs don't mind a little weight being carried by them, so could I do that to help it use more energy while going on walks?", "summary": "The problem is just exercising the dog, and that's because he can't be off a leash (He only comes when called 30% of the time, and we live in a condo area but has a large patch of grass that he can run on.) which is making it very hard to expend the energy that this dog has. So should I do obedience training, so that he could go off a leash, and if so could you provide a youtube channel for tutorials?"}
{"id": "t3_2s5ebg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17m] dont really know what to do with my crush [17F]", "post": "Sorry this is long, i couldn't express the situation properly any other way\n\nSo. First of all i've known this girl for three years know and i really like her. It has progressed beyond the boundaries of physical attraction to something i can't explain. I've tried to ask this girl out on multiple occasions but cannot bring myself to do it because of my rejection fears.\n------------------------------------------\nAnother problem is that i don't know how she feels towards me somedays she will actively talk to me. Other days she will completely ignore me. She also talks to me differently than other guys. With my friend she is quite loud and boisterous, but when talking to m she seems reserved almost fearful.\n------------------------------------------\nAn example of her \"mood swings\" is a couple of weeks ago. One of her friends got into some really messed up situation. she was \"potentially\" raped. Her, (my crush) was standing outside the counselor's office with another of her friends, who is in my class, crying their eyes out. Naturally i go up and ask whats wrong. Immediately after learning about this whole situation i gave some advice. Her friend smile and thanks me, yet she hugs me. Bear in mind this is the first time she has directly displayed affection.\n----------------------------------------------------\nThe next day i was passing by on my way to class, and saw her sitting in her class, by looking at her red eyes i could tell that she had been crying. I quickly scribbled a note on a piece of paper, telling her that i she needed somebody to talk to, i would be there. She hasn't spoken a word to me since.", "summary": "What do i do. Do i give up and move on, or do i stick through this. Any advice on judging her feelings. All and any advice would be greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2xgabr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking my uncle's urine", "post": "This happened just about an hour ago.\n\nI'm over at my cousin's for a weekend video game marathon. Last night I didn't sleep at all, just stayed up drinking and playing Darkest Dungeon. I feel pretty hungover and shitty, and I have cottonmouth from smoking... but there's a bottle of apple juice sitting on the floor that wasn't there before, so I pour myself a cup and relax. A minute later I throw it back with a huge gulp and I'm immediately shocked by how foul it tastes. I shrug and put it down. After a second I realize that, while I've never tasted urine before, the flavor was unmistakable.\n\nAn hour later my elderly, slovenly uncle stumbled in, apologized, and walked out with it. A few minutes passed before I heard him pissing in it in the adjacent room.", "summary": "It was not apple juice."}
{"id": "t3_ilqp7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why doesn't Bill Murray have a SNL Best of?", "post": "My dad loves him (as do I; he's quite good). It used to be, whenever I gave my dad a gift, it was a Bill Murray dvd. \n\nOne year I gave him Stripes *again* because I'm inattentive, plus my dad and I aren't very close. He pointed it out and I told him I wouldn't get him any more Bill Murray dvds until SNL came out with a \"Best of Bill Murray\". \n\nThat was years ago. I still haven't actually gotten him any gifts for Father's day or Christmas or birthdays because I don't know what else he could want. He really does have everything he wants and anything he doesn't have, I can't get him.\n\nYes, technically speaking, I should just try to be closer to him, but I don't think that's ever going to happen. Maybe if I got him the Bill Murray best-of, it would help. It's kind of the only thing we see eye-to-eye on. Well, that's not entirely true. I don't know why our relationship is the way it is.\n\nWow, didn't think this would really devolve into childhood angsty stuff, but there you go.", "summary": "Don't worry about it, it's not important. Just comment on or answer the question if you can."}
{"id": "t3_egx79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Octopus Basketball", "post": "Hey Redditors. When I was in about the 5th grade, the coolest thing you could do is find a fun online game for everyone to play on the computer. \n\nI remember one time I found this game that I remember only as Octopus Basketball. The game was basically two basketball hoops, a basketball, and two teams of different animals. A few teams I remember were rabbits, grasshoppers, and of course octopi. You clicked a member of your team and he jumped and if he collided with the ball would send it in which ever direction physics demanded. \n\nI played this game on bonusgames.com or something similar to that and that website is now GONE. I remember the game was in chinese or something but it had no effect on gameplay. This was seriously the best game I've ever played on a computer but I haven't been able to find it for like 5 years.", "summary": "Please help me find a game that I remember being called Octopus Basketball!"}
{"id": "t3_2hxhy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "College freshman here, with a general question on staying friends with those who didn't go for being more than friends\u2026", "post": "I am a college freshman at a school with a very high female population. In the past six weeks I have met two amazing girls (not at the same time) that anyone would be lucky to have, but there was that awful friend zoning that happen\u2026 It was shitty but I'm basically over both.\n\nAfter talking with a friend, she mentioned that I shouldn't be friends with them if \"it hurts too much\". Now understand that I have fallen on a tough patch with girls in general over the last 4 months i.e. friend zone, after friend zone. Its truly the most depressing thing right now, but maybe this post will help.\n\nMy question:\nOne of the girls is my next door neighbor in the dorms, like 10 feet away. She is in my group of friends and is in the common area frequently. If I were to say that I wanted to not talk to her for a while, how would I go about doing that?\n\nThe second girl is the only other person in my Calculus class who is open for study seshes in the same time periods as I am. She and I also think very similarly when it comes to math, so we work really well together, and if we get really stuck, who ever is available to go to office hours can report back to the other person. If I were to say that I wanted to not talk to her for a while, how should I break things off?", "summary": "I get too attached to girls I really like, and I'm wondering how to stay away in a close nit, small college setting?"}
{"id": "t3_27l48x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [f25] having problems with my girlfriend [f27]of 10 months pertaining to her playing with my nipples.", "post": "I know the title sounds odd but I didnt know how else to word it.\n\nMy girlfriend grabs my boobs and pinches my nipples all the time no matter we are doing, I could be cooking, in the shower, in the car etc it usually doesn't annoy me but every now and then they get really sensitive or sore so I tell her and ask her to stop but she still does it anyway.\n\nBut, one thing that I sometimes have to say that has a 99% success rate is \"youre making me horny\" and she stops straight away. I think that's bullshit and it happened again last night and I actually got really really upset about it.\n\nShe knew something was up so I told her and I said \"its just really really weird that if I say my nipples are sore or sensitive you will still pinch them really hard and laugh about it but the moment I say im horny you stop.\" And she said \"oh great so now youre having an issue about sex\" and I said \"no im having an issue with the fact that telling you my nipples hurt doesnt stop you but saying im horny does, it makes me feel like shit how can you not see this from my point of view? If you say you are horny I jump your bones straight away, if I say im horny you stop its just shit\".\n\nSo she stormed out of the bedroom and came back in once she thought I went to sleep and now weve woken up shes giving me the silent treatment.\n\nShould I just let this relationship end? It really does make me feel like shit when it happens.", "summary": "girlfriend wont stop playing with my nipples when they are sore but will stop the instant I say im horny. Is this a major red flag?"}
{"id": "t3_2g68f5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my female partners [25-35 F], I enjoy going down on them after finishing inside, but Ive found this weirds them out and prevents me from having a healthy relationship, help.", "post": "32 yr old male here. I swear every time I even bring it up, girls who I would like to date get weirded out. Sometimes I just go for it no warning, bigger mistake.\n\nAnd its not like Im just blowing my unprotected load in randoms. These are girls I have dated for a while and we have gotten tested in order to have unprotected sex.\n\nBut the second I bring up the fact I want to eat them out after sloppy nut busting unprotected sex, they always get freaked out. I really enjoy this part of my sexuality and want to share it with someone that will enjoy it with me. Im getting tired of waiting for the right girl. Literally EVERY girl Ive dated gets weirded out by this. Why? Is it really that weird?", "summary": "Why do all the girls I date get freaked when I want to eat them after internal ejaculation"}
{"id": "t3_306zc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [19M] wants to leave fraternity but is afraid to lose his friends...", "post": "My boyfriend of 4 months has been considering dropping his fraternity for many reasons, but he also does not want to loose his friends in the process. I know this is a hard decision and he asks me what he should do but I'm just not sure what to say.\n\nHe only likes about 25 of the 100 brothers in the house. He does not want to live in the house because it is pretty gross from the parties they have had there. He also feels like he would not be able to study there with the distractions of his brothers, which could lower his gpa.\nWe also as a couple have only gone to a couple of the parties they had this semester because we don't have fun there. We have fun when we drink at home and just chill out.\n\nI also know he doesn't want to lose his friends. And that is hard because you don't want to feel alone but you also don't want to be apart of something that makes you unhappy. And starting over, finding new friends is scary but maybe the friends he has aren't the people he should be hanging around with anyways (especially if they get pissed by his decision to quit), I don't think those are true friends, real friends should support your decision.\n\nI want what is best for him, but I don't want to pressure him into making a decision he doesn't want to make. Some of the brothers know he is thinking about dropping and I think they believe it is because of me, which I hope is not the case and that he would truly be doing this for himself.", "summary": "boyfriend wants to drop fraternity, likes 25 of the brothers, doesn't want to live in, doesn't go to many parties. He doesn't want to lose his friends but true friends would support him. I want the best for him but I don't want to pressure him either way."}
{"id": "t3_mfxg2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, would you like to play \"Ugg\" Game?", "post": "So, its that time of year. The year where the mess of a fashion statement resurfaces. Where girls and guys all across the country dust off their $200 saggy mess-of-a-shoe, and think they are \"snow boots.\"  \n\nI was interested to see how many people would participate if we got a little game going of wild Ugg-ling (wearer of the Uggs) encounters, and awarded points accordingly. If it doesnt take off, well I look like an idiot, and if it does, I just look like less of and idiot. Here we go:\n\n1 pt - Any Ugg-ling\n\n2 pt - Ugg-ling wearing leggings\n\n3 pt - Ugg-ling wearing sweatpants/skirt\n\n4 pt - Male Ugg-ling\n\nWilling to make changes to points if you have a suggestion\n\nRules: \nMust be an original pic (no google images)\n\nTry to limit the profanity.", "summary": "What the most ridiculous Ugg get up you've seen?"}
{"id": "t3_kg2oa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is my internet being throttled?  What is this outside company I am forced to go through?", "post": "So in August I moved into a new apartment, mainly because the internet was included in the rent, and was advertised as HIGH SPEED, I also had some friends tell me the internet here was good.  The first week or so we were getting ~20mbps and it was amazing.  However, a weekish after moving in we had no internet, at least that is how it seemed.  After a while trying to connect to various sites it took us to the [website of this company](\n\nWe went to the front office and they said just make an account with them and we would get internet.  We did this, and when making an account you had to choose a speed package.  The only package available was 1.5mbps...Hardly high speed as they said.  What is weird is Windstream is our ISP, as they were when we first moved in, but now this company comes into the equation for no apparent reason and just slows the fuck out of our internet.\n\nYou cannot connect to the internet here without signing into this website first, and it makes the internet horribly slow.  When we ask people at the front desk about it they basically have no fucking clue what is going on.", "summary": "does anyone know what this [NTC company] is and what the real point of it is? Is there any way to bypass it to get the internet speeds we are paying for?"}
{"id": "t3_2537bo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22F] stop getting overly anxious when my LDR boyfriend [22M] goes out drinking?", "post": "Hi all. My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship at separate universities. Being in college, we both like to go out from time to time and drink. These anxious feelings started coming after I visited him once, but before that I had no issues with him going out. It was his birthday so I drove to visit him for the weekend and attend his birthday party that his roommates and friends had planned for him. When we got to the club, I left him to dance and hang out with his friends to get a quick drink at the bar with one of his roommate's girlfriend. Right when I turned around, I see a random girl that he or any of his friends did not know come up, grab him and start making out with him and grabbing his crotch. No hesitation or anything. He was very drunk but he was taken aback so he pushed her off and grabbed my hand immediately. I know that he would never cheat on me and he showed that by not reciprocating. But every time he says he's going to go out, I just think back on random girls throwing themselves at people like that. I get these knots in my stomach and I kind of just dwell on it while he's out. I hate the way I get when he tells me he's planning on going out so I know he probably doesn't like it either. It seems really silly when I type it out like this or talk about it but when the time comes for him to go out, it's like I forget about being rational. How do I just let this go?", "summary": "Random girl threw herself at my LDR boyfriend one night out and I can't get that image out of my head. How do I move on from this?"}
{"id": "t3_3z6kxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my /Girlfriend/ [18 F] of 6 months, break up after being honest.", "post": "Hey r/relationships, \n\nHere to talk about this since it happened on New Years day. It didn't upset me as much as it confused me. \n\nWe dated in the summer before she went off to college (as I went to college in our hometown). We both agreed to keep in touch and to also look for other people and date others if we feel the need be. We kept flirting off and on through the semester. --- College is over and she comes back down saying how she's still in love with me and wants to have sex.\n\nI broke it down for her, and was honest. Stating that I've been intimate with a girl, and have started dating her like we initially said we should do. \n\nAlthough we both agreed on the gameplan, and I tried to not lead her on, she was extremely upset with me. Now I'm known as a manipulative bastard to all her friends, which is fine, since i never see them anyways.", "summary": "Girl gets upset when I do something we both agreed upon doing and gets butthurt over honesty. Feels good man."}
{"id": "t3_4egqil", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] have an unhealthy obsession with stalking my boyfriend's [26 M] ex on social media", "post": "We've been together for over 3 years, but for the first year and a half, he was addicted to alcohol and drugs, which turned him into a pathological liar. He physically cheated on me with 4 of his exes during his addiction and that may have been the root of all of this. Now, he is almost 2 years sober and has constantly apologized/made up for everything he has done to hurt me. I 100% trust that he would never cheat on me again and he has shown me that. Exes have reached out to him and he immediately blocks them and tells me that they contacted him. He has changed and our relationship is the most solid, trust-filled, secure thing on this planet, but I still think about his ex girlfriends. Every single day. I check both girls' instagrams every day, multiple times a day. If they block me, I create a new account and check from there. I can spend all day just scrolling through their old pictures and reading every comment. I check if they have new followers, if they were tagged in anything new, all of it. I know their accounts and their faces better than I know my own. I know their family members' names, places they've lived, concerts they've been to, their other exes, thing that my boyfriend doesn't even know. I'm not sure why I do this or what will ever come out of it. They don't think about me and my boyfriend anymore, so why am I so stuck on them?", "summary": "I'm obsessed with stalking my boyfriend's exes on social media, even though they're not a threat and I know that. What's wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3tyj4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need some advice getting over the fact that my (20 M) girlfriend (20F) had a threesome while we were casually dating but before we were exclusive", "post": "Hey guys, just need some mindset advice for getting over something.\n\nLast weekend, I was at a party with my girlfriend of a few months and we were both somewhat drunk. She accidentally revealed to me that after our second date she had gone to a party and ended up having a threesome with two people there (MFF). At this time, we had explicitly stated that our relationship was a physical one; we only developed romantic feelings for each other later, and became exclusive about  a month after our second date. However, I feel like I had kind of constructed a narrative in my mind that we had fallen for each other after our first date (during our period of non-exclusivity, I went on a date with another girl, but it didn't go anywhere and we didn't even kiss or anything). So when I heard about this, I felt kind of bad and it sort of put a damper on the rest of the night. She immediately realized that she shouldn't have told me while I was drunk and felt extremely bad, and we still ended up going home together and she slept over and everything was 100% peachy.\n\nSo logically I don't think she did anything wrong at all! I've had a threesome in the past and I don't see anything wrong with her doing it in theory (threesomes are awesome as long as none of the people involved are romantically attracted to each other). Still, despite the fact that I'm logically OK with what happened, I can't shake the image from my head, which kind of sucks.\n\nI really love this girl and I don't fault her for anything (again, at the time we were both under the impression that we were more FWB than boyfriend/girlfriend), I just need advice for how to rationalize this and get over it entirely. I think I'm getting there, but I'd appreciate some words of advice from people who've been in a similar situation. Thanks!", "summary": "While we were still just FWB, my girlfriend had a MFF threesome after we went out on a date. Even though I don't think she did anything wrong, I can't shake the image and could use some help getting over this. I love her and don't want to break up with her at all! Just need some mindset advice."}
{"id": "t3_13byir", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "another dumb easy question...eating before/after doing something?", "post": "Alright...so basic question. I've searched and found some mixed information. \n\nIf I'm trying to lose weight should I eat before or after I exercise?\n\nI'm not talking about lifting weights or anything. Why I'm concerned is because this morning around 10 I had an egg beater omelet and bread for around 300 calories. Then I had to go to this meeting thing. I took the bus with my bike rode a little to the meeting. After the meeting I road to a friends then the supermarket then home. Probably a good ten miles or so. Anywho I didn't eat again until around 6 or so. Then got home had a small turkey sandwich then an hour later ate some chicken burgers and sweet potato fries. I feel stuffed. Sitting at 1500 calories for the day. Not counting the bike trip. \n\nI'm worried that maybe I should have eaten in between the ride. Common sense says that my body burned fat off for fuel, but I'm not sure if that's true and I was thinking that maybe my body will store that food I ate for dinner as a reaction of me not having energy to burn...if that makes sense? Is there any negative consequences of taking in most of my calories after I \"worked out\"?", "summary": "Should I eat before or after a riding my bike?"}
{"id": "t3_1wf9lg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M19] wants to transfer to my University next year and move in with me [F20]. We have been together for almost 3 years now, but is it wrong for me to feel very uneasy about this?", "post": "My boyfriend and I got together at the end of our junior year of high school and we are now sophomores in college. We have both been each other's first everything- first relationship, first love, first sex partners, etc. I know that I love him, but at this point I am only 20 years old and don't think I know whether I am ready for this huge step!\n\nHe has expressed that he wants to marry me one day; I have expressed that I don't want to think about marriage until I'm at least 25. I'm a very motivated person and career-oriented and want to accomplish a lot of things before I settle down, get married, and have children. \n\nI don't want to break up with him. There is no one else in my life that I am interested in romantically and my boyfriend is literally the best boyfriend ever. He may lack in the romance department, but has greatly improved since I've talked to him about it. He's a great guy- he goes to UCF and I go to UF and so his transferring would generally be an improvement, I don't really feel bad about that. \n\nBut sometimes I question whether I want to be with him forever. Forever is a long time, and he's the only thing that I know and have experienced. I have other friends that are living with their SOs but they also are already contemplating engagement and marriage, while the idea of that scares me.\n\nWould it be okay to move in with him when I'm not as sure about him as other people are in their relationships? Or maybe do I just have a fear of commitment? My parents are divorced and I haven't witnessed a really strong long-term relationship before, so this is possible.\n\nHELP!", "summary": "I'm feeling uneasy about moving in with my boyfriend of three years. This may seem abnormal, but we're also only 20 years old. He seems very sure about us. What is wrong with me? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2pg0xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with guy [32M] I've been seeing for a month, was this too much sexting??", "post": "This is how our convo went... was it too much?? we've only been dating for a month. \n\n**Him**: I can't stop thinking about how amazing saturday was...\n\n**Me**: Me too. I want to do it again...\n\n**Him**: Me too! \nI can't stop thinking about you bending over in front of me. \n\n**Me**: Oh yeah? \n\n**Me**: I'll be thinking about sat night when I go to bed tonight\n\n**Him**: Oh yeah? which part?\n\n**Me**: When you came in my mouth and I was looking up at you\n\n**Him**: That's really hot. I think I will go do some thinking about sat night\n\n**Me**: Put those thoughts to good use :) \n\n**Me**: I know I will\n\nI'm afraid he will lose respect for me.", "summary": "Sexting with guy I've known for a month, afraid I said too much. Would he lose respect for me?"}
{"id": "t3_3m1acc", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "19/M Landed on big right toe while playing sport", "post": "First post ever so...\n\nSkip to last 2 paragraphs if you don't want to read so much\n\nSo I am a 19 year old male weighing in around 140 pounds with a height of 5' 10\", and recently I hurt my toe while playing soccer tennis (tennis with a soccer ball, lol); what happened was that I kicked the ball with a high kick and then landed a bit awkwardly and with most of my weight on my right big toe.\n\nAt first I could not bend my toe and it had begun to swell, next day it had swollen but no bruising, bruising appeared on the next day (mostly on the top had expected the bruising to be on the bottom of the toe), and on the 4th day bruising has disappeared but it was still swollen and basically unmovable/frozen. \n\nAfter visiting the doctor on the third day I was informed that it was very likely sprained and/or broken/fractured but have not taken an x-ray because of laziness. At the end of the fourth day I had begun getting very curious as to why I still could not bend my toe so I started bending it and twisting it with my hands, after twisting it hard enough clockwise I heard a loud pop and regained most movement of the toe, and am now curious if it was sprained/fractured to begin with.\n\nSo I guess my question is \"Why was my toe locked in position after landing on it awkwardly, and if I am able to move it freely with very slight pain is it sprained at all?\" Most things I search on google about \"locked Toes\" come back with Hallux Rigidus which I am pretty sure is more of an arthritis type of thing and isn't caused by injuries.\nI will probably get it x-rayed tommorow... probably", "summary": "Hurt Toe after landing awkwardly,was told it was sprained, got annoyed it was stuck in place/frozen decided to twist it and regained movement. Do I have a sprain if at all?"}
{"id": "t3_4u0jhd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (34/F) finally found a man (35/M) that feels right in every way except for just one thing! Have any of you experienced anything like this before?", "post": "Recently a man who has come into my life who is just absolutely amazing. He is incredibly smart, self aware, communicative, generous, affectionate, creative and motivated to always do better for himself and the rest of the world - and we connect so deeply that I feel like there is nothing I could say that he wouldn't understand. On top of that, he actually wants to contribute to my life in a meaningful way, and does so. It's been one month of dating this person, and my life is worlds better because of him. He is so loving, so romantic, always helpful, gives me gifts and poetry and does everything he can to lift me up and support my dreams. Never in my life have I had a man be so good to me. He even gets along with my family beautifully! \n\nSo what could possibly be wrong? I feel no sexual fire for him. Kissing him doesn't make me feel anything. He knows how to give me amazing orgasms, but I don't want to devour him and have sex with him like I have less worthy men in my past. It kills me, because I adore him sooo much and I think about him all the time and crave his affections, but there is also a part of me that is physically repulsed and wants to run away. I don't know why. He's very good looking! Not as hot as some men in my past, but he certainly isn't ugly. \n\nI don't know what to do. I really want to have a romantic relationship with this guy, but I can't imagine it would work without sexual desire. Have any of you guys experienced anything like this before? Have you ever had sexual desire grow?\n\nMaybe I am just jaded and spoiled. My last relationship was with a man who was my physical \"ideal\" and we had amazing sexual chemistry, but he was also abusive. Maybe that ruined me somehow?", "summary": "Perfect man, no sexual \"spark\" on my end. What do I do? Can it grow?"}
{"id": "t3_3pym8s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for taking a picture in the restroom", "post": "So idk about you guys, but whenever using a restroom not at home, and I need to poop, I like it when no one is around. At school, I walked into a stall and started pooping. I heard people come in, and then I heard the door open again, so I thought they left. I wanted to make sure no one knew I was pooping, so I really wanted to make sure no one was around. I thought, it'll be weird of me to peek my head under the stall while my ass was on the toilet, and so I thought, hmm, instead of surfing reddit, I should put my phone under the stall and took a picture to see if anyone was around. \n\nMistake 1 The flash was on\n\nMistake 2 apparently there is a stealthy asian pooper in the stall next to mine. ( im pretty sure the restroom was empty before i started pooping)\n\nHe said wait what the fuck, he was also a visitor at my school (he was like the CEO of some Chinese company or something I later found out. \n\nWell, he made me give him my phone under the stall and he deleted the picture I took and gave me back my phone under the stall. I left as soon as I could and hoped he didn't recognize me by the shoes I was wearing later on. \n\nWhile playing call of duty with my friends on the xbox, he came in  and said something like \"Wow so this is American school play time \" ( I knew it was him because of his voice). He was intrigued they bought us 2 huge ass tv's so we could play violent video games and stood right behind me. Anyways, I tried not to speak so he didn't recognize my voice, but then my phone slipped from my pocket while kicking up my leg and fell right in front of him. I think he recognized it and gave me a look.\n\nI feel sooo weird", "summary": "took a picture of a visitor at my school while they were pooping"}
{"id": "t3_25cjmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] cheated on my girlfriend[20F] of a year and got her back, but not sure how to deal with the insecurity.", "post": "In the summer of 2013, i cheated on my girlfriend. We had only been dating for 3 months, but it still hurt her like crazy, because we were so close.\n\nI cheated on her because I am an idiot, and because my \"White Buffalo\" text me telling me to come over while I was hanging out with 2 guys my girlfriend had previously slept with. \n\nNever mind, no excuses. I won her back in December 2014, and we have been dating since, and I have been beyond good; not going to the bar with my buddies, not texting or talking to other girls ETC. And this is fine with me.\n\nI keep telling my buddies; in the future I'll be able to come to the bar and hang out with you guys all the time, but right now, I need to make her trust me again. My friends are fine with this.\n\nBut she has so many guy friends; due to working at a bar, and she is kind of unreasonably close with them. Of course I can't be the jealous type, due to what I've done, but it still bothers me that I can't even converse with other girls, but she can basically flirt with guys, even though I've been amazing to her the entire time we've been back together.", "summary": "I cheated on my girfriend in the summer, she came back to me, and I've been amazing. But it bother me that she can flirt and talk with guys while I cant even converse with girls."}
{"id": "t3_4j415v", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need advice on asking a girl out.", "post": "Okay.\n\nI'm 13 years old. Middle school (7th grade). Self-proclaimed nerd, drummer, all-around friendly dude, I'm well-known, but not 'popular'. I am in no way, shape or form athletic, though I am a champ at chess and checkers.\n\nSo, there's this girl, we'll call her Miley, cause reasons. She's great. I like her (You know, how the younger generation uses 'like' instead of love? Yah. That's it.). Problem is, a much more 'popular', stronger, taller, and all-around rougher, guy likes her as well. He lives next door to me. He's gonna ask her out tommorow after school. Meaning, of course, I'm asking her out before school.\n\nOkay. Backstory complete.\n\nSo.... HOW THE HECK DO I ASK A GIRL OUT? I have one night, and I'm like, 90% sure she's gonna say no..... yah. Help? Thanks.\n\nAGH!", "summary": "I need advice on how to ask a girl out."}
{"id": "t3_mx7bl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I just got a speeding ticket and need advice...", "post": "I tend to speed when I drive, like most people, but usually it's just to match the speed of traffic. Tonight, however, I was driving aggressively for no particular reason and ended up getting pulled over on the highway. I was going 20 over, which sounds like a lot, but considering the time and the conditions I wasn't putting anyone's life in danger (except maybe my own, but that depends on who you ask, right mom?) \n\nA little background info before I begin: I moved states in July, and changed drivers license to a completely different state.\n\nNow I think you all can offer advice/tips. 12 months ago, I was pulled over for going 5 over on an interstate by a cop who was just trying to meet a monthly quota, imo. It took me a few months to motivate myself to get the Defensive Driving class taken care of, by which point it was March 2011. Now, it being December 2011, I am not out of that magical 12 month period to take a new class, and really don't want to get a hefty insurance spike for speeding (I am a 21 year old male). Since I have a new drivers license for the new state, will I be able to take driving class? I don't know if the first driving class will appear on the driving record for my new license, in which case I will be forced to grow a pair and pay more for a few years for insurance. Does anyone know how I can get out of this ticket? And can I take the class, despite it not being a one year turnaround, since I have a new license?", "summary": "I got a second speeding ticket within a year, but have a new driving license from a new state."}
{"id": "t3_1ixqc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] SO [23F] of 8 months is moving cross-country to attend a grad school that I have serious reservations about. What would you do?", "post": "(Throwaway, because it's a small world after all.)\n\nMe: 24M biomedical engineer, who somehow landed in a rather rural part of the U.S. southeast. I'm technically-minded, and extremely skeptical of most health-related fads and superstitions.\n\nShe: 23F recent grad of a well-respected university, has been a breath of fresh air compared to the redneck teenage mothers who seem to be the dominant life form around here. She's fun, sane, low drama, her family likes me and mine likes her, and the whole relationship has been remarkably effortless thus far.\n\nThe problem: She was accepted at a naturopathic medical school on the west coast shortly after we started dating. She says that she wants to focus more on preventative than curative medicine, so this is a better fit than M.D. school. I (wrongly) assumed that naturopathy was some west-coast version of osteopathic medicine - just a different flavor of M.D. - and supported her decision to attend. BUT... as her move date gets closer, I've been doing more research into naturopathy, and it turns out that most of it is only marginally scientific at all. It focuses on treatments like homeopathy, Oriental traditional medicine, acupuncture, and other pseudoscience. Additionally, it's even more expensive than most traditional MD or OD schools, will still take 4-6 years, and naturopathic physicians aren't even legally allowed to practice in most states, including this one. O_o\n\nI'm worried that she has been duped by shady recruiters. I'm also concerned that maybe she actually believes in the quackery, which could be a deal-breaker for me. I doubt that she'll change her mind before moving at this point (classes start in 6 weeks), and I'd honestly be worried about codependency if she did. I don't like any of the options that I see. What would you do?", "summary": "SO is moving cross-country to possibly become a quack doctor. I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2wupoo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17f] My Boyfriend's [17m] Sister [19f] Hates Me for No Reason", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months, I'm 17 years old and so his my boyfriend, his sister is 19. Our relationship has been great, aside from one problem. His older sister seems to absolutely hate me, and she has ever since I met her. We both go over to eachothers houses a lot and are familiar with eachothers family, and everyone in my family likes him, and everyone in his family likes me except for her.\n\nI have never been rude to her in any way at all, I try to be very nice to her and I even bought her a small Christmas gift. And she still hates me. When I first went over to there house I had dinner with the family, and she was pretty much eyeing me down the whole time. She's said several rude things to/about me throughout our relationship. Once when my boyfriend and I were having a fight on the phone, I heard her in the background refer to me as \"that stupid bitch\" and she posted a mean tweet about me, she didn't tag me or even mention my name but it was like a subliminal insult. And once she commented on an instagram picture of me and a guy (just friend) she put the 2 eyes emoji thing, i took it as like, she's watchin me? And I know for a fact that she has tried telling him to break up with me a couple times. And she is just so rude to me and I don't understand what I ever did wrong.\n\nI've told my boyfriend about how it upsets me that she doesn't like me and he said he's tried talking to her about it and she's stubborn and he doesn't know whats wrong with her. I feel like asking her why she doesn't like me but I don't want to set her off. Our relationship is perfect aside from this, I definitely want to stay together so please don't suggest breaking up. How can I deal with her and why do you think she hates me? I have complimented her and I'm always nice to her even though she isn't to me, and I treat her brother perfectly so I don't understand why she's like this.", "summary": "My boyfriend's older sister hates me for what seems to be no reason, we've been together for over a year now and she's not getting any better."}
{"id": "t3_2tjz5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] and am trying to friendzone [18 F] we have been texting for 3 mounths but she wants to get real", "post": "So I added a girl at work on snapchat, then we exchanged numbers like you do. We started talking about work but that eventually went on to everyday things. She would talk about her boyfriend and I played on as If I actually gave a fuck. When he would not talk to her she would talk to me about her problems. This went on until she broke up with him.\n \nThe following is a conversation with her.\n\n\"good but it would be better if (Her ex) would acc talk to me instead of being with his ex. Your acc quite good looking *crying with laughter face x2*\"\n\n\"Thanks....... you to (smiling face x2)\"\n\nthen we talk about work and it seems that that just came out of the blue and she did not talk about for long. \n\nI not interested in her in the she seems to be with me. I don't want to be in a relationship with her but she is send signals as if she wants to be with me.\n\nThen she sent this.\n\n\"(My name) I need u to be my date for a night *monkey covering eyes*\"\n\n\"*smiley face* Why??? *smiley face* what's up??????\"\n\n\"I have to go on a double date u coming? *crying with laughter face and monkey covering eyes*\"\n\n\"With who??????? *smiley face x2*\n\n\"Me & (her friends name)\"\n\n\"oh who's (her friends name) date?????\"\n\n I don't know if I am leading her on, how can I tell her nicely to fuck of. Help me reddit.", "summary": "May have lead on a girl I have no intention of dating and now want to let her know I don't like her in any sort of way."}
{"id": "t3_2ybdr0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking my door", "post": "Hello redditers,\n\nI live in a very busy area in a university town in Canada (hence leaving the door unlocked). Today, while I was watching a movie with 2 of my roommates we heard the door open and someone go upstairs. We thought nothing of it at first as our roommate was out with a friend and it was around the time we thought she would be coming back. \n\nRight in the middle of of movie our other roommate and her boyfriend come downstairs and ask us to help them with the drunk girl. Not taking them very seriously, we continue to watch for a few more seconds until they yell, \"You have to help us, a random drunk girl just wandered into our bedroom and is now puking in the washroom!\" \n\nIt turns out the person who had come into our house wasn't our roommate, but a severely inebriated university student with no shoes or jacket. Turns out she had initailly wandered into the only room with a person in it, and proceeded to attempt to puke in her closet. Thankfully, my roommate managed to get her out of the room in time and locked her in our washroom, where she proceeded to take off her pants and puke all over our floor. Cue the panic. \n\nInitially thinking that it was an upstair neighbour who had just wandered house as a mistake we knock on their door asking if they had lost a person. No luck there. \n\nAfter a few minutes of panic and wondering wtf was happening, I decide to call the cops and paramedics. Thankfully, they come quickly and get her out of the house, leaving only a puked on the bath mat for us to remember her by.", "summary": "TIFU by not locking the door and letting a super drunk university girl come into our house and puke in the washroom."}
{"id": "t3_2rwtew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious]Do I have the right to be mad at a tinder girl for turning off my alarm and getting me fired?", "post": "To elaborate(not that its very nuanced)\n\nSo I worked at a ski shop where they deliver custom rental skis to rich people(or just the type of people who go on ski trips). The night before a fairly large delivery I had a tinder date who ended up keeping me up pretty late and spending the night. The next morning when my alarm went off she immediately woke up and turned off my alarms which I even set redundantly. Long story short I missed the delivery and was fired.\n\n She was next to the table so it startled her I guess? She said it \"made her feel weird\" its an abrasive song but com'on, Anyways kinda pissed still and she wants to hang out again, do I have the right to lay into her over it? Ive resisted so far.\n\nThanks", "summary": "tinder girl turned off my alarm and i was terminated"}
{"id": "t3_44lgmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] Two Months, Not sure how to keep conversation going in Long Distance relationship", "post": "So I met this girl from China on a language learning website. After some practicing with English/Mandarin we chatted and realised we had a lot in common. For a few weeks we messaged each other and then we started a relationship. This is the first serious relationship (Socially awkward) I have been in and I have no idea what I should do or what I should say. So much of the time I just ask her questions about herself or make banal small talk and sometimes our conversation just end up rather awkward. So this is probably a really stupid question but what is the best way to keep an engaging and interesting ongoing conversation with a long distance relationship?", "summary": "how i talk with girl???"}
{"id": "t3_3tkuqm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Mother [39 F] my mom wont let me go to a four-year university because its too far", "post": "My mom wants me to go to community college first because it is closer. Its not for money reasons, she just doesn't want me to leave home. anytime I bring it up in a conversation she just yells at me and says I just want to be away from her. My dad agrees with me but we don't really talk about it since we don't have a very good relationship. I understand her pain because my dad does the same thing, he goes out of state every two weeks for business purposes and she feels lonely. But I feel like going to this college is whats best for my future.", "summary": "Mom doesn't want me to go to university because she doesn't want me to leave her"}
{"id": "t3_3esvpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] boyfriend [25 M] is becoming increasingly patronizing due to some medical issues (not as bad as it sounds)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. I have a mental illness, and medications have left me with some cognitive deficiencies. I am not as sharp as I was when we first started dating, and it's become increasingly hard for me to think and remember things over the last couple of years.\n\nWhen we are having a conversation, I will be paying attention to him as much as physically possible, but I have a hard time remembering small details. For example, today he was telling me about something his boss was saying to him at work. I could remember the overall message his boss had, but I could not remember the finer details. So I had to ask questions to verify some new information he was giving me. He unintentionally (but not apologizing either) became very patronizing and condescending. Lots of \"I already said this,\" and \"Yes. Like I said...\"\n\nHe knows I struggle, but I know he doesn't fully *understand*, and doesn't seem to remember all the time. I normally brush it off, but I realized I shouldn't be feeling belittled over this.\n\nAm I in the wrong and just being dramatic? Or is there a good way to communicate to him that I struggle and he needs to be patient?", "summary": "Mental health treatment left me struggling to remember finer details and communicate effectively. Boyfriend gets frustrated, but is having a hard time adjusting his expectations and instead becomes condescending."}
{"id": "t3_fjhyo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you're happy about getting/achieving something and you go to tell your friends about it is it your fault if they get jealous or theirs?", "post": "So I got into a small argument with someone about this. She said that in her mind before you are allowed to share good news with someone you have to make sure it's not something that they really want. She further stated that the first thing you learn in kindergarten is that you shouldn't brag and make your friends jealous.\n\nI've always seen it the other way. There will alway be people with more than you; that have the things that you want. Sometimes they will be your friends and you should be happy for them when good things happen to them. This isn't to say that you should rub your good luck in your friends faces but as long as I'm reasonably tactful then it's not really an issue.\n\nWhat do you think reddit?", "summary": "Woman got jealous and blamed it on me. Am I being insensitive or is she being hypersensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_4209u6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/m] am dating a poly [23/f].", "post": "I'm a monogamous person, as far as I know. She's poly. Her definition of poly seems to be romantically involved with one but physically involved with more than one, regardless of how good or often the sex is with the former. I knew this going in, but I thought I could get over it or get used to it. I'm having trouble with that part. I'm a rationalist, but human feelings are irrational and dumb and they hurt. It feels like I'm dating someone who just sleeps around, or that I'm not good enough to fulfill her needs. It makes me feel insecure. I've read a bit about understanding poly people, but that doesn't mean I can change my emotions. Maybe it would be different if I could have sex with anyone I wanted at any time, but that's generally not how it works for men unless they look like Ryan Gosling.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "She's poly. I'm not. Plz halp."}
{"id": "t3_4c2rlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26F] little sister [21F] smells like she cuddles 20 skunks at all times.", "post": "I want to start off by saying my sister is an amazing personality and she's a fabulous woman, but there's a serious problem with her when it comes down to her body odor and body care. My little sister has ALWAYS fought people when they bring up her body odor, we've even brought her to a doctor once after we made her shower for a full week in a row to see if the smell will disappear - but it didn't, it actually got 10x worse. The doctor said the smell seemed more with her care of her body and surroundings than anything else, so that was that. After that, every time ANYONE brought up the hygiene issue, she would not make any excuses, she would actually do the total opposite - she becomes verbally abusive, result to names and then make it almost intolerable to talk to her.\n\nCut to two weeks ago, her friend had brought her home from school and I admit, her odor was fairly strong that day. My sister didn't see it, but her friend hosed her car with febreeze and rolled her windows down before pulling away. I didn't tell her, but I sure did bring her odor up again and was met with, again, verbally abusive language and behavior. \n\nAnother incident that happened is my sister went to use the bathroom on a following day while I had friends over. Her scent was SO OVERPOWERING that when my friend went in, he immediately came out and he had a visibly disturbed look on his face. He, having been my friend since elementary school, was honest with me and told me he smelled some really bad in our bathroom. I checked, it was indeed my sister's odor as it tends to linger. \n\nTHEN another incident where we went to the store, she was elsewhere in the establishment and I was in one aisle with another woman, who was 100% perfectly fine...until my sister showed up. She visibly looked uncomfortable and ended the conversation VERY quickly the second my sister arrived and stuck around for at least 15 seconds. I'm at my rope's end with this, I don't know what to do since she is reaching that age where she needs to get her act together for when she looks for work.", "summary": "Little sister constantly smells like hot cheetos and ass on a hotplate, how can I help her smell a little bit less offensive?"}
{"id": "t3_1vy99h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Survivors of Reddit, if you had a near-death experience what was it?", "post": "Share any time you thought you were going to die!\n-\nMy NDE was a brain tumor when I was a child. Before I was diagnosed my symptoms consisted of headaches, vomiting often, and blurry vision. It turns out the tumor was blocking my spinal fluid from flowing to my spine and was building up, compressing my brain.\n\nAfter a biopsy (which left me with permanent vision problems), I had to go to radiation therapy for 2 months, years later I started having severe memory problems which continue today. I currently work in the IT area and have learned to cope with my disabilities.", "summary": "Had brain tumor, surgery/radiation messed me up, successful anyway."}
{"id": "t3_3qfvo7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/22) am antisocial - go back and forth between wishing I had friends, and not wanting to deal with the hassle/getting easily annoyed at people", "post": "I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else is like this or if I'm just weird? I'm pretty antisocial in general, don't have many friends, would rather relax at home then go out etc.\n\nsomedays I desperately wish I had a group of friends to do stuff with. Other days I don't want to deal with that. Like if I start talking to someone new and they want to talk every day or ask to hang out a lot I immediately get the feeling they're being clingy, don't want to do anything with them etc and kind of react the same way towards romantic relationships also? \n\nHow do I nicely let people know, no I don't want to hang out with you multiple times a week and talk every day, without coming off as a bitch?\n\nAs I said don't have many friends, also never been in \"a relationship\" and am a virgin (part my antisocialness, part haven't tried, part don't want someone hanging on me 24/7).. And I feel really shitty about it. Like I'm way falling behind other people my age in these departments. \n\nI've tried to push myself to \"get over it\" and just deal/be around people more but ugh. Some days I wish I had someone I was close to and other days it's a relief I don't. I don't think I'm asexual, I have sexual *feelings* but not toward anyone in particular. People just annoy me.\n\nIs there something wrong with me for feeling this way? How do I fix it? It's not that I'm afraid of getting close to people. I do that pretty easily actually.  I know this probably comes off as like I am a really SNOBBY person but I'm not. I get along with most people and am friendly.", "summary": "am I crazy for being so antisocial and not wanting to deal with the hassle of relationships? I wish I felt differently and feel I'm missing out on a lot in life"}
{"id": "t3_4bjuz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently surfaced trigger is about to ruin my [39 F] relationship with guy [42 M] I am dating", "post": "I was in a bad relationship with my ex for 9 years.  I have been single for the past 4.  \n\nI have recently started dating again and realize I have a trigger and I want to overcome it.\n\nMy ex was a serial cheater and it was often with women from work.  Eventually I knew that anytime he was talking about \"my friend from work\" he really meant whatever girl at work he was fucking.  \n\nSo fast forward to dating and met a great guy.  Except when he talks about his female co-workers.  It sets off a stupid trigger in my brain that must be sleeping with them.  I hate it and it really is bothering me.  How can I make it go away?", "summary": "Thanks to my ex, everytime the guy I am dating says he did something with \"a friend\" from work, a trigger goes off that he must be sleeping with them."}
{"id": "t3_hje49", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reminder: if you encounter great customer service, especially over the phone, be sure to pass the compliment onto the supervisor", "post": "I just had my first experience calling up Virgin Mobile's customer service, and I hadn't heard good things; their horrid customer service reputation nearly kept me from signing up with them.  So I was pleasantly surprised when the representative who talked to me was incredibly patient, helpful, and had a sense of humor; I didn't have my account numbers ready, I didn't know where to find certain things in my bill, etc., but she was patient and didn't grumble.  At the end, when I thanked her for her great help and asked to speak to her supervisor, I could hear a smile break out on her face.  Her supervisor did say that she would be rewarded for my compliment.", "summary": "I probably made someone's day (and maybe got her a promotion) just be pointing out to her supervisor that she did an excellent job, and you should do the same in the future."}
{"id": "t3_i4nch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going to the courthouse and we're gonna get married?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\n     My girlfriend and I are in love with each other.  We have been together for a year and 4 months.  We both want to get married, but are in college and don't have the money for a service.  We wanted to move in together this year to help save expenses for food, rent, etc. and make our housing situations easier.  I'm currently out of a place, and trying to find a place to live.  While she is looking for a roommate.  However, her parents are very conservative and don't think it's appropriate for a \"young Christian girl\" to live with a boy.  (I'm an atheist, and they don't approve.)  \n     The thought of marriage is something we have talked about and feel very comfortable with.  We really to care about each other.  I want to get married for financial reasons.  I also don't want to ruin the grand idea of a wonderful wedding for her by making her legally married to me first.\n     This is where my potential plan comes in to play.  I was thinking that we could go down to the courthouse and get legally married.  We would tell her parents and mine.  They could even be there.  We wouldn't change her name until we had a nice ceremony.  We could tell our friends that we are engaged.  Finally we could have the wedding that she's always wanted and change her name.  We could even change her name and then have a renewing of the vows sort of deal.\n     I am curious as to what everyone thinks about this plan, especially girls (I know most of you like the idea of weddings.)  I think I might tell her tonight.", "summary": "I wanna get married for financial reasons and don't wanna ruin my girlfriends dream of a wedding.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2g2dlp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "In what circumstances is a new car a \"good\" investment? (financing)", "post": "I bought a new car about a year ago, by all means got a pretty good price through the internet + end of model year sales. Financing at 4% for 60 months, not fantastic but I should qualify to refinance lower through my bank once I get around to it.\n\nThe car has been great, no problems and I don't know of too many being reported with this engine or transmission. Could be worse in terms of the likely value of my car.\n\nInsurance is crazy expensive where I live. Between my payment and insurance but not including gas or maintenance, I put more than $500 a month into this car. I just resent that. \n\nI had the buy the car when I did. I'd been driving junkers for years, but my last one went to car heaven at over 350k. I couldn't use a family car, had almost no cash, but was about to start a high-paying job with a 30 mile commute in a new city, so financing one car or another was the obvious choice. Ended up just going with new. Now though, I really resent that over 5 (or maybe 4) years I'll pay as much in insurance as I could've for a second car, and a good portion of that in collision/comprehensive. If I could buy an older model car now and just have liability, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I don't need a new car and I'm not convinced the reduced maintenance is that significant (and like I said I've owned quite a few old cars and had to make decisions about repairs).\n\nFWIW I can put away $2k a month after taxes and after expenses, including allowing myself a ridiculous amount for dining out. I can afford this car, I just...bleh.", "summary": "Had to finance a car last year and ended up going with new. Car is great, but if I could buy an older model car now and just have liability, I'd do it in a heartbeat. But one year in toward owning this car, that might not even make any sense. What's the common sense advice here?"}
{"id": "t3_4rw1zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family [31m, 31f, 10m, 2m] with my neighbor [late 50sF], creepy neighbor keeps staring at my family with binoculars when we are enjoying our back yard.", "post": "We've lived in our house for about five years. Recently, we renovated our back yard and we have been using it a lot more. Typically, it is my sons (10 and 2) and their friends playing or it is me preparing food on our grill.\n\nWe have a neighbor two houses down that is very strange. I'm not sure if she has a mental disorder or anything else. She always wears gigantic headphones and mutters to herself when I see her in our neighborhood. She feeds and provides little houses for about 5 or 6 stay cats in her back yard. Mostly, she keeps to herself and doesn't bother anyone.\n\nRecently, we've notices that she watches my family from her back window with binoculars. Our back yards are small, and she is only 30 feet away, so I'm not sure why she would even need binoculars. This has creeped out my wife and various guests that we've had over. My son's haven't noticed, but I feel creeped out for them.\n\n I'm nervous about approaching her directly because she seems to be not-all-there mentally. She is in her own home, looking out a back window. I don't think she is doing anything illegal and I doubt the police can do anything. It is really unsettling though.\n\nHow do I best handle this and get her to knock it off?", "summary": "Creepy neighbor is watching my family in the back yard with binoculars from her back window."}
{"id": "t3_27unl9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by humping my dog's water bowl", "post": "I was working outside today, spraying roundup down my fence line. After a little while I needed to pee. I stepped into the woods to take a leak which is a fairly common decision for me. After I had finished and zipped up, I realized that I had just handled my junk with chemicals all over my hands. I ran to the house to wash my junk but somehow I had managed to lock myself out. I panicked and looked around for my next course of action. I saw my dog's water bowl a few feet away from me. I dropped my shorts and began dunking my junk in the water. I had been at this task for about 8 seconds when around the corner came the UPS lady delivering a package. Awkward eye contact followed. I began a stammering explanation which she did not stick around to hear.", "summary": "UPS lady delivered my package and saw my \"package\""}
{"id": "t3_zmtk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, My military contract ends in 145 days and I am seriously considering getting out despite not having a clear plan. Have any of you taken huge career risks? How did it turn out?", "post": "I like the military for the fact that I get paid pretty decent money for the amount of work I do. I also get medical, dental, life insurance, free (though not very reliable) flights to almost anywhere and am able to retire after 20 years. The thing is though, is that I want something different. I get bored with things pretty quick and I am starting to get pretty bored with my career. Also, 20 years in the military can really take it out on a person and once I'm done, then what? I suppose I could get a job doing that working for the military as a civilian doing pretty much the same thing. I would like to go into business for myself, and I figure if I am going to make a move, I should make it now before I have too much time invested into the military.", "summary": "I'm tired of the military and want get out to do something else but I don't know what yet. Have you taken a leap of faith career-wise? How did it work out?"}
{"id": "t3_mwcjq", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Love my NB 890 2E shoes, but looking for something different......(?)", "post": "Hey all:\n\nSo, I have been a runner for about 15 years.  Up until this year, I trained in traditional trainers and have run some races (back in the day) in racing flats.\n\nMy New Balance 890 (2E width) were like a revelation to me.  Not only do I love the fact that they are light, flexible, and light, but the width is great too.  I feel like my feet can stretch and splay naturally and without constriction similar to when I run barefoot (which accounts for about 5-10% of my weekly mileage).  These are my first pair of \"non regular\" width running shoes and I am convinced that I need to pay more attention to this aspect of my shoes.  I am a skinny guy, but have wide forefeet and wide toebox.\n\nI'm interested in trying a shoe with less heel-toe-drop than the 890 (which has a 12mm drop).  Most of my weekly mileage (about 30-35 right now and interested in slowly building) is on singletrack trails, but I have never really felt like I needed more grip than the 890's provide.  The NB store clerk actually commented that the 890 has a fairly aggressive tread for a road shoe.\n\nSo, any suggestions?", "summary": "I like my wide 890's but want something with a little less heel-toe-drop to try."}
{"id": "t3_2l8fyo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to church", "post": "This was actually on Sunday of course but I didn't have internet at the moment. \n\nSo Saturday night, my step-dad with whom I don't have the best relationship asks me to come to church with the family and to invite my SO (let's call her Sohpie), I reluctantly agree. I managed to talk Sophie into going with me even though she gets incredibly nervous around my family. \n\nWe arrive at the church and are greeted by my mom, an old school bible thumpin' baptist and she tells us my step-dad wont be coming because he is sick. After we shoot the shit for a little while, we sit down with my mom on my left and Sophie on my right for service to begin. Around thirty minutes go by, Sophie's phone starts to ring. Her ringtone isn't one of those girly Taylor Swift instrumentals, it's a loud angry black man screaming \"YO PHONE RINGIN!!!\" I quickly reached into her purse and shut it off before my mom notices and put it on silent. Ten minutes later and for whatever the fuck reason, her alarm goes off on full blast. As I'm fumbling to shut it off, Sophie out of frustration mumbles \"Aw fuck,\" Although I'm not sure if my mom heard it, but the rest of the service was super-awkward and afterwards we left in quite the hurry.", "summary": "I think my mom heard my SO say \"fuck\" in church"}
{"id": "t3_i4b86", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people who support human space travel in spite of the obvious, monumental technical and environmental hurdles?", "post": "When I hear people argue in support of manned space travel, I usually hear the theme that man's destiny lies with space. I don't really see how that's true in our lifetimes with current technology. \n\n* Mars is a [toxic dump] Perchlorate is some [nasty stuff] even at low levels. \n* [Radiation] in space. People who support space travel always ignore the fact for some reason. Think about it, even a short trip to Mars could expose an astronaut to enough radiation to kill them. Not to mention all the radiation on Mars, which don't have an atmosphere or Van Allen belt comparable to Earth.\n* Space makes no economic sense. Currently mining in one of the most [war torn countries] on Earth in several orders of magnitude more easier and economic than sending a rocket out to some asteroid. The only exception to this might be helium-3, which even if we actually had the technology to use would be easier to mine roboticly. \n* Space is generally a cold barren shithole. There's not much to do on the moon, Mars is to toxic and exposed to radiation, so that leaves to asteroids and moons of Jupiter and Saturn. But really, what's even the point? We literally know of nothing there that would justify a single manned trip.", "summary": "It seems obvious that human space travel is useless at this stage on our technical development, yet some people support it. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3juyom", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Strange nibbling/biting behavior with other dog...", "post": "My boyfriend's parents live about an hour and a half away. We visit them regularly (used to be every other weekend pre-dog). Since adopting Cocoa, we have visited them 3 times (we have had her two months). She comes along. She is great in the car!\n\nThey have a dog, a 3 year old collie/border collie cross. She's a bit neurotic and under socialized. And morbidly obese. She's nice enough I guess, and they're trying to bring down her weight, but they only recently started walking her regularly. I suspect she's pretty under exercised but she's also a pretty lazy dog (maybe because of her weight..) \n\nSo the weird bit. When Cocoa is allowed to approach Roxy after they greet/play and Roxy is panting, she immediately goes for Roxy's tongue and mouth and tries licking/nibbling. She does this so much that Roxy gets agitated and the bickering starts. \n\nNote that we have been pretty slow on the introductions in that we keep them separated most of the visit, let them romp outside to tucker them out off leash (they play hard, but lots of bows and positive body language, so they seem to get along), and have walked them together. They have gotten more used to each other with every visit. They just can't seem to settle when off leash around each other. They have to be physically separated or Roxy will approach Cocoa and Cocoa will keep trying to lick her. I am concerned the nibbling and subsequent romping will lead to aggression; it hasn't so far, but we separate them until they settle again. \n\nI just can't understand why Cocoa wants to lick/nibble Roxy's tongue. She doesn't do this to dogs at the dog park. She's pretty independent and happy to leave other dogs alone. Except Roxy. She kind of fixates and the two just can't rest without us physically intervening.\n\nWhat causes this behavior and is it something I should be worried about or can do something to alleviate?", "summary": "my dog wants to lick/nibble at another (obese) dog's mouth and tongue. Only this dog. She gets so fixated we have to separate them or other dog gets annoyed. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3acyvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my husband [26 M] 6 years, asked me to get rid of new dog.", "post": "My husband suffers from anxiety and has asked me to get rid of our new dog, a 1 year-old german shepherd husky cross. We've only had her for two days. \n\nThe dog suffers from separation anxiety and does not walk well on a leash. She also has a fear of men and she barks at my husband and he cannot go near her. He is visibly afraid of her which exacerbates the issue. Despite her difficulties she is intelligent and has made good progress. I believe she would be a nice dog given time. I've suggested that we have a trainer come to the house to help us resolve her behavior but he isn't interested. \n\nThis has happened before; we got a puppy in September last year but we had to return him because my husband couldn't cope. I was very upset and insisted my husband go to counselling to address some of his issues. The counsellor told him that he was depressed and that he had adult ADHD. He started medication which seemed to help him manage everyday challenges.\n\nThings were going well and we made the decision together to get a new dog. My husband likes huskies so I thought we had found the ideal dog but from the moment I bought her home he was uncomfortable. \n\nThe first day he was sick at work and went to see a doctor, he explained the situation and she said he had likely been sick because of the dog. He made an appointment to see his counsellor the next day. She said that he needed anxiety medication but he couldn't start it until January because it would interact with his depression/ ADHD medication. She also said he may have a mild form of psychosis where his thoughts and emotions are disconnected with reality i.e. he thinks there is a problem when there isn't one.\n\nSo he asked me to get rid of the dog, again. In his mind there is no room for negotiation. My question is how do I get our relationship back on track after the dog has gone? I'm frustrated with him and upset but he's not emotionally available to me and responds to my feelings with anger.", "summary": "Husband suffers from ADHD, depression, anxiety and possibly mild psychosis. Wants to get rid of new dog. Has happened before when we got a puppy last year. I'm upset but he is not emotionally available to me. How to I get relationship back on track once dog is gone?"}
{"id": "t3_1l6cp1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My boyfriend proposed to me after 2 years of dating. I said yes! This is the happiest night of my life.", "post": "We have been through a lot in the past two years. A lot of fighting and other hardships. Just like in any relationship, I think. We see a relationship counciler to keep us on the right track to improve how we communicate. We are currently both in college and working part time jobs. On top of all that, we live together in our one bedroom apartment with a puppy. Honestly, I'm extremely happy with how everything has turned out.\n\nHowever, I had recently expressed to him that I had been wanting a ring to \"seal the deal.\" It was difficult for me to talk about this because he had proposed before, but it wasn't the traditional on-one-knee-with-a-ring type of proposal. It was more of a cuddling-on-the-couch-watching-Spongebob-Squarepants type of proposal. This had bothered me tremendously. I felt that I was at the very least entitled to that, but it made me feel like I was being materialistic. Justin had felt the same way when I informed him about these feelings. I tried to get him to realize that it wasn't the ring that I cared about, but the gesture and symbolism of the traditional proposal. I think he finally snapped to it once he put the ring on my finger.\n\nThe way he had proposed caught me completely by surprise. After our talk, he told me that he had been planning something for me for a while, but I never really guessed what that surprise could be. So, tonight was the night. He told me to dress nicely and that he was going to take me somewhere, but I had to be blindfolded. Once we got there, he took off my blindfold. We were standing on a bridge lit up by tea candles. He got on his knee and I couldn't help but hug him and kiss him right way. He couldn't even say my full name before I told him yes. He finished his proposal and slipped this [ring] onto my finger. I think that our relationship is only going to get better from here!", "summary": "A lot of hardships in relationship. Boyfriend re-proposed on a bridge lit by candles."}
{"id": "t3_1hwgw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28M] lost my gf[34/F] of 18 months due to something I think I am slowly realizing about myself being raised by an Aspergers father. I'd love some input.", "post": "My gf finally gave up on me about a month ago. I've been talking to my parents about this and would like some more perpective.\n\nI was raised by a father with aspergers. He was raised by an ASD mother and bipolar father. Needless to say he didn't have the best examples to learn from considering observation is his main method of learning emotional/loving interaction. My mother tried to compensate for it as best she could, but I think that lead to an overbearing type of love that really has affected me as well. \n\nAnyway. I lived in a VERY religious household until 20. Once I was out I latched onto a woman I met and we got married at quickly. About 5 years later she divorced me. I met another woman and latched on again. Once again she left me. \n\nSo. My recent realization as to what is ruining my relationships (and actual question) is that I have A LOT OF trouble realizing that someone loves and cares about me. I had the two extremes with my parents and reject love in all forms now. I don't trust/believe people that say they admire me or see anything good in me. \n\nQuestion part: What can I do to deal with this? Anyone else in a similar situation? I feel that I don't know how to feel loved or tell that someone really loves me. It's ruining relationships with friends, family, gfs, coworkers, etc. I seem to follow that same pattern over and over and I'm tired of it.\n\nI've also dealt with depression/anxiety for years, but I don't believe those are the roots of my current issues. I think this is a deeper root that I would like to explore and welcome any and all input.", "summary": "The love of my life finally got tired of my shit. It's becoming a pattern in my life. I think it has something to do with how I deal with \"love.\" Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2oi00l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] former roommate/best friend [20F] abruptly stopped decided to move out, our friendship disintegrated, and I still can't get over her almost a year later.", "post": "\"Sarah\" and I met in the first year of our undergrad, and we soon became best friends and roommates for second year and third year.  We both agreed that we had never had a friend like the other before, and got along extremely well.  We had similar views and personalities (INTJ), and complemented each other well.  \n\nAnyway, last March, a few weeks before finals began, she told me out of the blue that she was moving out.  I had two days to either find a new roommate or find a new place, otherwise I'd be stuck paying double the rent.  She said that it was for personal reasons, which I found strange because we told each other absolutely everything.\n\nWe've talked a handful of times since then, but it's always been awkward and she hasn't been herself.  I know that I need to give her space and I need to respect that she doesn't want me in her life anymore, but it's been really hard to deal with and I don't know what to do.\n\nI just want to know what I did wrong and I want to be able to move on.  I keep having dreams about her, and the situation affecting me significantly.  How do I stop dwelling on it?", "summary": "Best friend stopped being my friend; I need to stop ruminating about it and move on."}
{"id": "t3_2c9241", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[27 F] boyfriend [24 M] of 7 months doesn't take care of himself and it's starting to become an issue.", "post": "Let me preface the issue with this:\n\nMy boyfriend is a recovering heroin addict (has 7 months sober) and I am a recovering alcoholic (9 months sober). We met in a 12-step program. He was homeless for a good year or two before he got clean. \nHe treats me better than I have been treated before. He is loving, caring, tries his best to put my needs before his own (and that is hard for a selfish addict), and does whatever he can to make me happy.\n\nThat being said, He doesn't take care of himself. He doesn't shower very often (1 or 2 times a week maybe?), he doesn't brush his teeth on a regular basis, he has athlete's foot that he won't leave alone, and over all isn't very clean. \n\nI realize this is something that might be hard to change since he was homeless for a while and this was a norm. \n\nThis wasn't a huge issue when I first was dating him (not sure if it wasn't that bad or I just didn't notice) but now it's an issue. I mean, bad breath and greasy hair is kind of a turn off when you want to make out and/or get down to business.", "summary": "I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because he's amazing and sweet, but I also don't like the fact he isn't taking care of himself - it's negatively affecting me and our relationship. How would someone suggest handling this without hurting his feelings? Should I bring it up to him? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_kdu4y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College age and beyond Redditors:  How many of you went from complete introvert to social butterfly in your high school and college years?  How did you do it?", "post": "I'm asking this because I was just reflecting on how a similar transformation happened to me.  This weekend I am going to visit some friends at my old college, and I am legitimately having trouble deciding Who I am actually going to stay with and how I am going to see all of these people.  I then began to think about how freshman year I was so cripplingly shy that people in my building swore they hadn't heard me talk or even seen me ever all year.  For me this transformation came about by being sick of not being able to make my own friends, always relying on other people to introduce me or bring them around.\n\nI literally sat there reading and studying social behavior and the various theories and techniques out there.  Sure, at first it started like some completely inhuman social experiment, but I slowly began to be able to really form strong connections and actually care about other people in my life.  Empathy was a foreign concept for me (for deeper issues I don't really care to discuss) so i literally had to learn how to be empathetic.  Fast forward to today and I couldn't imagine life without my family and friends as they have become such a big part of who I am now.  So reddit, what's the story behind your transformation.", "summary": "Used to be really anti-social. Used all that alone time to study how to be social. After a year and change of practice, can't imagine being who I was before."}
{"id": "t3_4yydds", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My dog is terrified of the rain? Can I do anything?", "post": "Adopted a gorgeous Jack Russell Terrier last November and I love her to pieces. She is about 3/4 years old and generally a playful little ball of sunshine. She loves going out for walks at any time of the day, we go twice a day; unless it's raining. She'll get excited and we get her harness on and she'll be fine until we open the door and as soon as she sees it's raining, she just drops to the floor, her ears sink down and to pull her out is physically pulling her as she digs her feet into the floor. Even when it starts raining mid-walk, she will start to panic and come and run and do the same by my feet, to which I have to carry her home. She even gets like this about going out in the garden, if she needs to pee she wont go outside, and if she does go, she'll run out, under our garden table, pee, and run right back in.\n\nSince she was a rescue, we aren't sure on her history but I suspect it has something to do with it since she's always been like this. Being in England means it's not been to bad when we first got her because this Spring was pretty dry, but now we're coming into Autumn this is really becoming an issue.\n\nI was wondering if there is anything we could do to try and help her with this-, taking her out in the rain at the minute just seems cruel and nigh-on impossible. Is this even something she will be able to get over? I've heard of dogs being hesitant with baths [She is also uncomfortable with that :(] But none of my dog owner friends have ever encountered stuff like this. I'd love to know why, too. But unless I develop dog telepathy I guess I won't find out.", "summary": "Dog absolutely won't go out to walk if it's raining. Can I help her with this?"}
{"id": "t3_2ue65i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my best friend [17M] for 4 years are growing apart.", "post": "Recently my best friend(at least i think he is) and I haven't been talking much lately, but when I do find the time to talk with him, he seems so distant and would talk to other people and avoid me. We're not in the same class BTW but we go for the same tutor and he carpools with me. Usually I do all the talking and he just listens but never really cared from what I saw.\n\nWe also have this mutual friend that I hate with all my heart because he's very annoying and immature. My 'best friend' has been friends with him longer than us. When we talk, the three of us, they'll just brush me off to the side. I feel very unappreciated.\n\nWe ever talked about this but he still treats me like trash. I feel like I am in an abusive friendship and from what my friends have told me, it's taking toll on my mood. I'm usually a cheerful guy but when this happened I became depressed and distant. \n\nWhat should I do? If I talk to him what shold I say? Should I end this friendship because I don't want to, I have so many good memories with him. I need help.", "summary": "Facing problems with best friend that doesn't treat me right recently. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4buxzq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "F/23 5'6\" SW: 242 lbs, CW:157 lbs, GW:135 lbs tips needed on flattening my stomach pouch", "post": "I need some advice on how to tighten up my middle section. I've lost 85 lbs and I'm worried that my stomach will never be flat. It's covered in white stretch marks, which I can live with, but this pooch is driving me insane. I could care less about having visible abs, I just want to know if I'm stuck with this or not. It's a lot of weight, and I'm expecting to have extra skin, but I don't know if I can just do certain exercises to decrease its size, or with the rest of the weight I want to lose, it'll come off that way. I run a few times a week, and eat a paleo diet. Thanks for the tips!", "summary": "can I achieve  a flat stomach after losing 85lbs"}
{"id": "t3_ijrd0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to let a girl down easily?", "post": "Turning down a girl who's asked me out twice:\n\nThe way I see it, my options are:\n* Turn down / stall her invitation, to see if she can get the message herself. Hope I don't run into her sometime soon.\n* Let her know I'm not interested, but still would be up for meeting if she wants to be just friends.\n* Agree to meet, try to convey my lack of interest and hope she gets it\n* Agree to meet, tell her straight up what I feel if it looks she is trying to push it.\n\nI'm leaning towards option 2, but am not sure.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Girl who travels in the same social circle, asked me out once in person, tried to stall her out, she messaged me again. Want to turn her down gently, but without being an ass"}
{"id": "t3_e18o9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Divorce or Reconcile...", "post": "My husband left October 30th and now resides in a studio motel. I've learned that marriage wasn't what I thought it would be, but have now come to a place of understanding and readiness. He on the other hand has not. \n\nHe is in the middle of the road. He says, \"I don't know what I want.\" He said he'd like to try dating (as we never did to begin with) and see if we belong together.\n\nI believe if you're going to give it a shot you have to at least come home first. I think the longer he's gone the farther apart we'll drift. So, what's the point if only to cushion his fall in the end?\n\nI want to stand firm (for me, for once, not him) and just let him know. If he wants to try we can together. Otherwise he can date someone he has not already married. I am ready to move forward alone or with him, but refuse to stagnate and let this break me further.\n\nShould I give him time or not? I ask this question fairly certain of what the answer to this will be, but I ask anyway. Maybe someone can give me real hope or get me out of my god-awful denial. I feel like he'll come back. I think I might be fooling myself.", "summary": "My husband wants to date me while living on his own. I figure if he isn't willing to work on it at home it's pointless."}
{"id": "t3_m7uwf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend says she want a baby or we break up, advice PLEASE!!", "post": "Hey guys, I've been lurking here for a while now but something just happened and since I've come to respect the people here for their insight, I figured I'd see what you guys thought about my little dilemma...\n\nI havnt been dating my GF for too long, about 8 months but she's a total catch.  Beautiful girl, well educated, funny,  kind and her parents like me too.  But she told me yesterday that she wanted kids in at least 5 years (before we're 30) and that if I'm not on the same page as here then we have to break up.\n  Obviously I dont want to lead her on if our life goals dont align. And although I cant imagine myself wanting kids before i'm 30,when I was 20, I thought I would spend the rest of my life backpacking foreign countries and being homeless just for the romance of it all, WOW what was i thinking!?!? Of course I still want to travel in some way (she doesnt)  I now see how immature I was then. So yup, in 5 years a lot can change.\nMaybe having a family will become important to me or maybe I'll always want to move around the world every few years to another state/country?\n\nAny guys out there go through a similiar situation or suddenly realize they want to start a family around 30??", "summary": "My girlfriend wants babies, I want adventure-based on yr experience, which loss is greater?"}
{"id": "t3_1r5pg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [20F] help my friend [M24] get over his breakup?", "post": "I've been friends with this guy, let's call him L. for a few months, mostly online since we live in different cities. He has anxiety issues, and takes medication for it, including anti-depressives.\n\nHe was, at the time, together with K., and they seemed happy together. \n\nRecently (two weeks ago) she broke up with him because she couldn't stand his problems anymore (and I also think she was a bitch to him during the relationship, belittling him, flirting with other guys in front of him, not admitting they were together in front of people & other similar issues). \n\nHe got off anti-depressants, and he was expecting her to be with him in that time of need, but for some reason she broke it off with him. I've not asked for many details because I don't want to enable him to throw himself self-pity parties, unless he shows signs he does want to tell me in detail what happened.\n\nHe's been incredibly depressed since, threw himself into a drunken stupor (he drinks daily, multiple times a day), hasn't taken a bath in a week, goes from blaming himself to blaming her, from hating her to loving her, from wanting to get back together with her to trash talking her.\n\nNow, he can talk all he wants about her with me, but how can I stop him from drinking? He drinks and drives too, which is dangerous.\n\nI'm way over my head, and I don't know how to help because I can't understand. This is so far from how I deal with breakups that I don't know where to start helping or how.", "summary": "Friend's girl breaks up with him, he's off antidepressants, horribly depressed because of the breakup, drinks excessively. How can I help him?"}
{"id": "t3_2log6e", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Puppy-like kitten, what should I do?", "post": "I have 2 adult cats, they are sisters so I got them both when they were 8 weeks old. Recently I took in my friend's 6 months old kitten, his gf hated the kitten after 1 night. They also got the kitten from their friend who had him for 1 month, their friend wanted to get rid of the kitten due to \"allergies\".\n\nI've had this kitten for 2 weeks now. It is the most friendliest thing ever, literally like a puppy. It wants to play all the time, but the problem is that it plays way too roughly. Like clawing and gnawing your hands and feet. I have toys to play with him, but I'd be on the computer and he would bite and scratch. I understand he's playing and I just wish there's a way teach him to not go full force.\n\nThe adult cats have gotten used to having him around and he tries to play with them, but he's really hurting the adult cats. They just run from him and then hiss, they are clearly angry at the kitten. The 2 adult cats never hissed during their play in the yrs I've had them.\n\nThis kitten isn't my responsibility and I want to just give him back to my friend and have him deal with it. My SO doesn't want that, she's afraid the shelter might kill him, even though I reassured her that we will go to a no-kill shelter. We thought about giving away on CL, but whoever takes him will feel the same way. Like this kitten cannot be around small children.", "summary": "Playful kitten playfighting mostly fighting. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_12wgy8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do?", "post": "I'm 22 my boyfriend is 20, we've been together for ten months. We've known each other for years. I'm in love with him, he doesn't love me back, which I told him was fine, I'm loving without expectation. I told him I want him to fall in love with me on his own time when he feels like it's right. I've been patient, I've been \"in love\" with him for a few months now. I'm not quite sure if I should just calm my shit down and wait more, but I have grown anxious. He doesn't have to full blown, head over heels in love with me, I just want to know if the fact has crossed his mind yet. I want to know if he's considered falling in love with me. He says he wants to focus on school and not want to be distracted by thinking about, I personally don't see how it would change anything we'd be the same couple with stronger feelings... but I think it's his defense mechanism. It's not like I'm asking for a ring on my finger, I still have my entire life ahead of me, I also want to finish school before anything too serious. We're pretty much past the \"having fun\" mark, I mean i honestly didn't even think we'd last this long, falling in love just kind of happened.\n\nWe're good together, I just don't want to be the only trying in the relationship, basically I'm asking how I should go about asking him if he's even thought about the chance of love yet? But in a way that won't freak him out because it's not that big of a deal, i'm just growing anxious. Or should I chill for a bit and see how things play out? And i feel awkward posting this....not going to lie.", "summary": "I don't know where we are at in this relationship, but I don't want to freak him out by asking."}
{"id": "t3_wxzyt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What practical joke by someone really did scare you?", "post": "I was on my way back from working at a wedding at around 2am when I got onto an arrow straight stretch of road which would take me back into town and away from this persons old countryside barn. As I was driving a pair of headlights were around 100 metres behind me which then suddenly disappeared leaving said car immersed in total darkness. Obviously with this being a dead straight road it was possible to keep driving in almost total darkness. Now going through my head was the thought of some psycho killer wanting to pull some stupid stunt by trying to drive without any lights. About 30 seconds later the car behind me reappeared by switching on their full beams and literally being only 2 metres from the back end of my car. Never in my life have I been so frightened especially with it being in the middle of nowhere. Turned out it was my friend who had finished his shift just after me and decided to play a cruel practical joke on me.", "summary": "Driving alone at 2am in total blackness when suddenly a car appears metres behind me with full headlights on."}
{"id": "t3_2bx3k0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to show off for a group of 8-10 year olds.", "post": "So today was my sister's birthday party, a lot of my family was there, probably around 30 people or so. So my 7 year old nephew was talking about riding his bike and i proceed to tell him how awesome i used to be on a BMX. \nA little while later I put my money with my mouth is, jump on his bike and immediately start riding a wheelie. Got about 15 feet and pulled to hard on the bike and flipped it. \n\nInstantly I knew something was wrong. I landed on my butt/lowerback and couldn't move much at all. Within 30 seconds I have my whole family and a bunch of the neighborhood kids standing around me freaking out. At this point I am going into shock and trying my best not to pass out. I eventually(with some help) managed to stand up. I tried telling everyone I was fine and not to call an ambulance, they did anyways. When they got there, I'm feeling a little better, but still trying not to feint from the pain. I ended up turning the ambulance away and having my brother drive me to the hospital, do to me not being insured. \n\n5 hours later a plethora of xrays and a catscan that is going to cost me probably around 6k, I find out I broke my back(compression fracture of my L5 vertebrae). Now I'm home laying here in pain and unable to sleep.", "summary": "Tried showing off to a bunch of kids, Broke my back and bruised my ego."}
{"id": "t3_1q4n4q", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I have a very generous family member willing to help out with school tuition payments. I'm not sure how to go about this situation. Do I take out student loans regardless, and pay them back, or avoid them altogether?", "post": "I've been getting all sorts of different financial advice from everyone I ask, so i figured I would get the group consensus from you guys. In January I am starting at a university after finishing off my Gen-Eds debt free at a community college. The difference in tuition is fairly large, and growing up poor and nervous about money, so I believe any debt is too much debt.\n\nMy tuition comes to a total of about $9,000 yearly, without cost of living, books or any other expenses. Due to grades, and financial hardship I was offered around $3300 yearly in grants. That is still $6000 I need to come up with on my own, or take loans out for. While I am hesitant to do so, I will if need be.\n\nHere is the awesome part, though: My aunt who is fairly well off is willing to throw in about $4000 dollars for first two years at the university. I am astounded by her kindness, but don't know how to go about this situation. Should I take out that $6000 offered in student loans through my university, and just stash my aunt's money away to pay it off in due time?\n\nShould I just use part of that money to pay tuition in place of taking unsubsidized loans out, and then save the rest as an emergency, then use it to pay off my debts after graduation? Avoid any loans I can all together? What is your opinions?", "summary": "School tuition is $9k a year, offered ~$3000 in scholarships/grants, leaving me to figure out the last $6k. Aunt has offered to throw in $4k each year to help pay. Do I take out loans and pay them back, do it partially, or avoid loans completely?"}
{"id": "t3_jhcso", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Help! My Kitty has diabetes...and I can't afford insulin.", "post": "This is my kitty.  His name is Lemmywinks.  He is about 11 or 12 years old .  He has been drinking a lot of water (1 quart a day) and urinating an equal amount.  He recently started going outside of his litter pan so I had him tested for a UTI and diabetes.  His blood sugar is through the roof and I was told to put him on insulin.  I cannot afford the $90 a month for the meds.  I have put  him on a new food that says it helps him lose weight and maintain blood sugar levels, but I fear it won't be enough.  It  is not his time to go, so please, if anyone has been through this, any advice would be very helpful!", "summary": "Cat has diabetes, can't afford meds.  Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4lk5fk", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I have no idea where I want to go", "post": "I've been admitted as a transfer to two schools, UC Irvine and American, both for International Studies.  Pretty incredible for me since the last time I was in school was 7 years ago.  The problem is both are compelling in their own ways and I'm not sure how to make my choice.\n\nIrvine is a great school in and of itself, but the program doesn't seem to be the greatest at its campus, plus in Southern California the opportunity to participate in internships/programs geared for International Studies seems limited.\n\nAmerican is primed for International Studies just by being in DC, but is prohibitively expensive.  I'm looking at taking on 20k in loans for one year in order to study there, versus no cost at Irvine.  \n\nSo there's my dilemma and I have until July to figure it out.  I'm hoping some of you guys can offer me opinions so I can make the best possible choice.  Thanks.", "summary": "American or Irvine?"}
{"id": "t3_1xmxqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] SO [21 F] keeps worrying about her exes that cheated on her", "post": "So long story short, I'm in a relationship for 6 months right now and I'm just wondering what I should tell her.  She tells me she doesn't know how to judge people. I just wanted some advise about what I should do or say to help her. She just found out that one of her exes had a new girl a week after she broke up with him. \n\nHas anyone had any experiences about what to do to get over that stuff? I haven't been cheated on so I don't know if its too hard to just think this people can get fucked... (I just told a lot of people to fuck off but she tells me it's different if you have a relationship)", "summary": "SO got cheated on, worrying about what I should do to help her or get over it"}
{"id": "t3_2bja6y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [20F] admitted she cheated in a past relationship. She's going away for school & I'm not sure if I should continue the relationship.", "post": "We've been dating for about 6 weeks now, so not too long. That being said, things have moved very fast and we see each other almost every day. Quite often she'll spend the night at my house, and we both know each other very well already. About a week ago, she confessed to me that in her last relationship, which lasted about a year, she cheated on her boyfriend. She felt remorseful and broke up with him shortly after, and claimed it was a mistake.\n\nI like to believe that the past is in the past, but it's hard when I'm in this situation. Come September, she's moving about an hour away for school, and we have decided we're going to try and do long distance (she's home every other weekend, short drive to visit, etc.) I trust her completely, and she hasn't given me any reason not to, but I'm very worried. If she would cheat on her last boyfriend of a year, what's to say she won't cheat on me while she's away; her boyfriend of only 6 weeks?\n\nI realize this problem is on me, not her. That being said, if I feel this way I'm not sure it's fair to her that I continue the relationship. I'd like to bring it up and talk to her, but I feel that will make her think I don't trust her. What do I do in this situation? I'm torn.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 6 weeks (will be 12 when she moves) admitted she cheated in past relationship. Going to start long-distance relationship, and I'm starting to doubt she will stay faithful, despite her giving me absolutely NO reason to think this. Do I break up with her (as she doesn't deserve this)?"}
{"id": "t3_fwjw9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend and I are having some issues (crosspost from /r/AskWomen).", "post": "Alright so here's the deal. I am twenty years old and she is nineteen. She's currently attending the university that I live five minutes away from and plan to transfer to in the fall.\n\nNow she is my sixth sexual partner. I know that's not an astounding number but it's not incredibly low either. It's enough that I have never questioned whether I was at least decent in bed. Most girls I slept with experienced multiple orgasms during the act. I always considered cunnilingus a pretty solid way of getting at least one for her so that I don't finish feeling entirely selfish.\n\nNow my girlfriend is not a virgin but her sexual history is very reserved. She's only had one other partner and from what I can tell it only happened a few times and was never an enjoyable experience for her.\n\nIt has been much harder for her to orgasm than any other girl I have been with. She has still never experienced a vaginal orgasm in her life.\n\nThe first time we had sex was painful for her, especially during the initial entry. She was definitely wet and we also used lubrication, but it just did not want to fit fantastically. She's told me that the more recent times we've had sex (only been sexually active for a couple weeks now) it has only been painful during entry, once it's in she claims there's no problem. Part of me thinks she may be trying to play down the pain though for my benefit (she truly is a sweetheart like that). Part of me thinks the pain may be getting in the way of her enjoyment.\n\nIs there anything I can do to make the experience more enjoyable for her? It kills me that she's not having regular orgasms when we have sex.", "summary": "Never had a problem with sexual performance until recent girlfriend who is not having regular orgasms. She experiences pain during the act. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2dfr5k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my coworkers father was cremated", "post": "This actually happened two days ago, but here goes. The father of a coworker, call her C, passed away recently and we went to the visitation to support C. It was held at a Catholic church and everyone was gathered in the narthex. We were talking with a few people when C and her mother came over. They began telling the story of her father's last wishes to see a family member and drive his truck one last time. The man was very sick so it was impossible for him to drive. That's when C told everyone to satisfy his wish, \"we drove him to the visitation in the truck and will drive him out to the cemetery. Mom wanted to put him in the back, but I told her that he needed to be up front so we put him up front between us\". As the title suggests I completely blanked on the cremation thing so I thought they were dragging a corpse around in the front seat of the truck. All I could think about was weekend at Bernie's! I was completely shocked by C's actions; these people are psychos! It must have shown on my face, because someone asked if I was feeling alright. I had to walk away from the conversation. It took about 10 minutes for me to remember that C's father was cremated... Completely changed the story.", "summary": "No weekend at Bernie's, just filling a man's last wish."}
{"id": "t3_2mhkj3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking that I was gay.", "post": "To preface this, I'm 23 and haven't had a girlfriend.  I've been on a few dates here and there, but just haven't connected with anyone yet.\n\nSo today we went to a large sports bar and grill to eat and watch the Denver game, and I'm with a good friend, his family, and my entire family.  I'm trying to tell my mother about my job, and she just can't understand me.  I try speaking slower so she can read my lips, but that isn't working either.\n\nFinally, I just raise my voice and say \"I'm gay\" as a joke.\n\nMy mother grins and shouts, \"I knew it!\"  My dad starts laughing and says \"glad you finally got that out of your system son; we've been waiting for you to come out!\"  Everyone starts laughing and congratulating me because of my parents' response while I'm furiously looking for a shovel to dig myself out of this hole I've just created.  \n\nMy friend's dad elbows him and laughs, saying \"I guess that's why he spends so much time with you eh boy?\"  \n\nMy friend starts to say, \"I know you're joking dad, but since Trompson admitted it, I guess I'll just come out and say-\"\n\nAt this point I had just stood up and practically shouted \"It was a joke!\"  A few seconds of really awkward silence followed and my mother looked hurt.  I explained \"I know you guys would be supportive and everything, but really; I'm not gay.\"  More awkward silence followed.  I stammered out \"I...I got to go\" and ran for the bathroom.  There's no window in here and now I'm trapped.  And the Broncos are losing.", "summary": "I joked that I was gay, my friend might actually be gay, the Broncos are losing, and I'm camping out in the bathroom for as long as I can."}
{"id": "t3_2lui12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my [18 F] 3 months, why do we give up in relationships?", "post": "As all relationships start off we were inseparable.\nHowever due to us going to different schools a gap was presented and with it my fear of losing her drove me to become what, we today call clingy. \nI sort of went overboard when i realized she wasnt interested in me anymore. I texted her a medium sized paragraph about my mistakes and that I would do whatever she wanted. \nShe has not replied, its been a couple days.\nWhat am I to think and do at this point. \nShould I give up and not even text her and call her again? Its just so depressing how she could not even give me her last words on how she felt or even a goodbye. \nWhy is all the advice im hearing is to give up and go no contact? Is this what people really do when they are in love with someone? To go no contact? I find it incredibly counter productive. Isnt the whole point in being in a relationship to show how much you care, and doesnt that include going to the moon and back, to do whatever it takes in the name of love? I know, if i was to keep messaging her it would only hurt me more. I know I shouldnt, but the pain is too much. I just want to try again with her so badly...If i was to message her again, what should i say? Why do girls have to be such hard asses once they realize you would do anything for them...", "summary": "girl loved me then suddenly doesnt. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3jtmrq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "(Moral Question) Should I include my 1/8-1/16 Cherokee heritage on college and scholarship forms?", "post": "I feel extremely conflicted. I know that some scholarships don't even require that much heritage in order to give some money or take some cost off of tuition, but I don't know whether I would be taking money away from people who are legitimately oppressed or have experienced negative things because of their heritage. My family is asking me to find as much money for college as I can (I have a job, my mom is on disability with a muscular disease, and my dad doesn't want to support me in the way he should attempt), but I'm in constant worry that I won't have enough money to get a start even with scholarships. However, I am still conflicted about putting this on forms, as I don't want to hurt people in different situations. Please help, reddit.", "summary": "I am primarily white in heritage, but have enough Cherokee heritage to qualify for some scholarships, but don't want to harm people in worse situations"}
{"id": "t3_lq9ll", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just to play devil's advocate, Rich People", "post": "Just to play devil's advocate, because my salary and up-bringing put me in lower middle class at best. But it struck me that rich people seem to have similar things to the middle class but pay significantly more for it, a tax in a way. E.g. they pay significantly more for clothes they wear fewer times of similar quality, drive cars that are more expensive but don't necessarily hold a great deal more value and they buy more of them. They also live in neighborhoods with other rich people and pay more for their houses. I know some very nice townhouses where rich people Used to live until the neighborhoods went to shit, and now the value is 1/10th of what was originally paid.\n\nHealthcare and legal treatment are the areas where most get a leg up, but the same goes for those services that they pay a good deal for.", "summary": "Rich people have more expensive things, not necessarily better and isnt that a form of a hefty social tax"}
{"id": "t3_3w3b4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[LDR] I (16 M) broke up with my girlfriend (16 F) after about 5-6 months. It didn't affect me", "post": "To start off, yeah I know we're teenagers and stuff happens, don't rant about the age. \n\nSo I met her over a year ago, she lives nearby l, I was really nervous to meet her but I was going to try. I took too long, she said she moved to Missouri and probably wouldn't be coming back. I decided that I'd try to make it work. We went through a lot, I got her to stop hurting herself and she seemed a lot happier. Occasionally she told me guys kissed her but shit happens, she's far away and girls like attention I can't blame her. But I \"loved\" her, a lot of people say it takes years so I put quotations around it. Let's just say I cared a lot about her. The feeling was mutual between us. \n\nBut we start dating and not just being friends. We had snapchatted but her dad was protective I guess so she couldn't talk until recently (still haven't talked to this day). I could probably call her now. But to get back on topic we cared about each other but she had guys for friends that were assholes and kissed her knowing she was with someone. She tells me she was feeling unsure about us, I send her a long cute message and sleep. Wake up to her saying I was the only guy she ever wanted to be with and stuff because I was so sweet and whatever else. \n\nFew days go by, pictures on her story of her hugging and kissing a guy. Bothers the hell out of me and it hurts at first. I stop talking to her and it just fell off. I didn't feel bad really at all. Previously I'd be burrowing in depression and being a bitch. But it didn't bother me. I established that we're just friends and I need time. If she moved back I'd consider getting back with her blah blah blah.\n\nThe point was that either I've gotten disattached or just grown out of feeling bad for myself. Still not sure if it's a bad thing but I feel better than ever really.", "summary": "LDR ends when she kisses a guy and starts dating him, I don't feel upset like I previously would be. I feel good now, don't know if it's bad."}
{"id": "t3_14rh1u", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Is it really weird that I still feel connected to some random guy?", "post": "Okay, I don't know if this even counts to put in /r/relationshipadvice or not. It's not even a relationship. It makes me think I am insane.\n\nSo I met this guy while volunteering at this thing at my college. Our first contact was during this team building game. He was on another team, my team asked them for directions. The instant we made eye contact, it was like we couldn't stop looking at each other. There was this weird instant connection. For the next two days we would pass each other by but both of us didn't want to be weird and start talking out of the blue.\n\nHowever, there was an afterparty and we randomly started talking. IT WAS FREAKING FANTASTIC. Everyone around us was getting drunk but we were completely sober. We talked for hours and I was really attracted to him. He did mention that he was too shy with girls sometime but I thought maybe he was just being friendly.\n\nI ran into him again at a party. But both of us were drunk. We still talked but we both kinda messed up because he was acting really silly but still wanted to stand there and just talk but we were both just really really drunk. I kinda lost him when a group of random guys came up to us and started chatting.\n\nEvery now and then I will see him and I will still get the same butterflies. At first I thought it was just a lust thing but it's not going away! It's been 5 months and I still see him and feel the same way. Both of us haven't talked since the party but we keep making eye contact. \n\nPlease help me get over this and talk some sense into me. I know it is crazy. Has this happened to anyone else?", "summary": "Met guy that I connected with greatly and super attracted to. Series of bad timing events happened. Still will see him randomly but both of us just make eye contact. Someone talk some sense into me! Has this happened to anyone else? I swear I'm not normally like this."}
{"id": "t3_2hdt5v", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm 20 years old, having a breakdown, it's my 3rd year of college, feeling inadequate, and thinking of dropping out. Please help, what should I do?", "post": "Hey guys, I recently had to withdraw from my classes (I'm an engineering major by the way) because they were just getting way too difficult for me to handle. As of right now, I'm a part time student taking only 2 classes (8 units) so that I can stay enrolled in the university. I felt like I was fooling myself for thinking that I could make it as an engineer. Working as an engineering intern has also opened my eyes that I don't want to work in that field anymore. It's just too stressful, the work is non-rewarding, and it's just not what I envisioned myself doing for the rest of my life to make a living. I've decided that I'm going to be switching majors, probably something in business.\n\nMost people are telling me to just stick it through, to just go and get that engineering degree. But with the pace and the difficulty level that it's at right now, I'd probably need 2 - 3 more years to do that. That's 2-3 more years of no social life, of stress, of pulling all nighters to get a degree in something I know for sure that I'm no longer passionate about, and it's very likely that I'd graduate with a low GPA. Why spend those years trying to force myself to do something I know I don't like doing?\n\nSo my reasoning is that I'd rather spend those 2-3 years studying something else (I'm leaning towards a marketing degree), just to get a BA degree, graduate with a much higher GPA, and just be done with college.\nI'm feeling lost, hopeless, and the thought of spending another 2-3 years in college in order to get a degree is overwhelming me with anxiety. It has pushed me to the thought of dropping out and trying to make money somehow on my own. I just don't know what to do anymore, I need someone to give me some guidance. Please guys... I could really use this..", "summary": "Switching out of my engineering major on my 3rd year, and now I'm feeling very lost. I don't think I'll be graduating any time soon, and I'm stressing out about the debt I have to pay for college. Please help, I don't know where else to turn to."}
{"id": "t3_2ohtdd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20M], my Dad got remarried recently. He likes to bring his wife a lot when we hang, is it acceptable to want him to compartmentalize his two families?", "post": "So i'm a 20 y/o male and my dad recently got remarried like this year. My parents were divorced for a long time (I went with my mom) so it's not like it bothers me that he remarried. However, what bothers me is the fact that he often brings \"her\" (I guess she is my step-mom relationship-wise) during the times when we used to hang out alone. I mean, I barely know her, the amount of days we've interacted with each other can be counted with my hands. Usually I just accept it, but some times I feel like it is too much. \n\nFor instance, when it was my birthday, my dad called me and asked if I wanted to go out to dinner, I asked if she is bringing her as well, he said yes, of course, like it didn't even cross his mind that it might actually be weird for me. So I said [if you're bringing her] then i'm not going. He said fine (as in dinner is not happening since I don't want to go).\n\nThe thing is, I know technically, she is my step-mom, but I'm already an adult, im not getting another mother figure in my life. So in my eyes, my actual relationship with her is more like \"my dad's friend\". And all my ways of thinking is justified when I pretend like shes my dad's friend. Dad brings his friend when we hang out? Kind of weird, but I will accept it most of the times. Dad wants to bring his friend to birthday dinner with me? No thanks. The problem is, she is not my dad's friend, she is his wife. \n\nSo what do I do? Am I in the wrong here? Is it acceptable for me to expect my dad to at least try to compartmentalize his two families? Cause there is no way that I am going to have a second family. My dad has two families, that is fine, but I only have one.", "summary": "I'm 20 y/o male and Dad got remarried recently. Dad likes to bring his wife during the times we used to hang out alone. Most of the times I accept it, but some times it is too much. Is it acceptable for me to want him to try and compartmentalize his two families?"}
{"id": "t3_4ly1yc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ?friend? [17 F] she wants a 'festival-length' stand again", "post": "Well this is a strange question, but here it goes.\nI had been with a girl in a festival last year and I quite fell in love with her, we had sex and the next 6 month was quite rough for me since we lived far away and we spoke a lot, but she wanted to remain friends after all. It was hard but I accepted it. Now we'll be going to the same festival this year, and she said that \"everything will be the same\" and I don't know how should I feel about this.\n\nIt's true, it'd be great, but still I know that she does not mean it seriously at all, and I'm looking for a more serious relationship, also I just want to have fun with my other friends. \n\nOn the other hand I don't want to upset her either, which I guess I'd be doing if I said no or something along those lines.\n\nSo what is your opinion on this? What should I do?", "summary": "A girl I was \"with\" during a festival wants to get back together in the same festival this year, but I'm not sure about it. What should I do without upsetting her?"}
{"id": "t3_4a0ulz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21F) Dad(62M) is dying and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Hello everyone. I'm a lurker, and I'm on mobile so I would like to apologize for errors in advance. \nLike the title says my dad is dying. He is in a hospital in another state because he is a truck driver, and I am trying to help my family (Mom 43F, brother 17M and sister 13F)  pack up to go and say our goodbyes. Here us the thing though, I grew up in a toxic family. My dad was a prescription drug addict and narcissist who essentially either neglected us or used us against our mom who is verbally and emotionally abusive. She was formerly physically abusive, but I put an end to that. \nAt this time I don't know how to act, honestly. My mom is relieved that my dad is dying, my brother is devastated, my sister completely shut down and won't talk about it, and as the oldest I feel my feelings don't matter because when my parents were sucking at their jobs I stopped in and took over for them. I feel I need to be strong for the kids, but I have to face this too. I'm afraid. I'm afraid of what I have to say and do when I see my dad. I want to tell him he was an awful parent, but that I forgive him and will take care of my family, but that makes me feel like a self righteous bitch.\nI also don't know how to be there for my siblings. They are hurt, but they don't have a good relationship with my mom so they can't turn to her, but there is no manual for this kind of thing. \nAgain, sorry for any errors. I am a bit of a wreck and don't post much. I appreciate all thoughts, vibes and prayers.", "summary": "toxic parents, one of them is dying and I don't know how to emotionally juggle my siblings and myself."}
{"id": "t3_43y404", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I double parked, was confronted and filmed. What can happen to me? [Northern CA]", "post": "I know, I am stupid and dumb for doing this.  This happened in the Bay Area, Northern California.  I am an independent contractor.  There was a crowded parking lot and I double parked with hazard lights, ran out and asked a quick question in the front office about parking.  It was less than 30 seconds.  I did not block any handicap parking spots, I only blocked 2 cars.\n\nWhen I ran back out this guy in his 40's was holding up a cell phone to my face and saying, \"I got you, now you're on the website.  Now everybody knows *expletive expletive etc.  I'm handicapped and it's guys like you that... (I don't remember everything)\".  \n\nI was definitely caught off guard, so I responded \"I don't consent to being filmed\".  He replied, \"this is public!  *More expletives\".  So TIL that you can be filmed in public.  I know now how celebrities feel.  Then, I drove off immediately.  \n\nHe got my face, license plate and everything.  Am I in trouble?  Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Double parked pissed off guy came out and filmed me."}
{"id": "t3_1oxrad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 2+ years (19F) cheated on me (28M) a year ago, hid it until four months ago, and is taking no steps toward fixing the underlying problem.", "post": "First off, yes the age difference is huge.  I guess I was dumb for expecting a result of anything different.\n\nMy girlfriend cheated on me a year ago.  She told me it was because we were having problems with her feeling anything sexually, and she wanted to see if it was me or her.  She ended up not feeling anything with him (supposedly) and ended it after trying twice with him.  \n\nShe never told me she did this, and hid it from me for eight months until we'd reached a point in our relationship where I felt like I wasn't being a good enough boyfriend to her.  I asked if she cheated, and it took her about an hour to admit it.  We spent three days apart and I took her back on the condition she sees a doctor to see if the sexual issue is a medical problem.\n\nFour months later, she hasn't taken any steps toward this goal.  I bring it up, and she says \"yeah I need to do that\".  But nothing afterwards.  Last night, I had it.  I told her she needs to get it done or I walk.  She made an appointment, but she refuses to admit that something is wrong.  She later told me that she cheated also to see if it was just that she wasn't attracted to me anymore.  She wouldn't even give me the name of the person or where she met him until I pryed it out of her.  \n\nI'm at my wits end.  I know I should leave, but I don't know if I can.  I know I deserve somebody who won't keep things from me, but... I don't know.  I've been one of those \"forever alone\" types in the past, and going back to that scares me.  She says I'm important to her, but she may not value our relationship enough to admit she may be the problem.  She's agreed to couples counseling at our college, but What the hell do I do?", "summary": "She cheated, I found out, took her back because she said she'd try to get help, she hasn't done it after four months.  Do I leave?"}
{"id": "t3_30abb5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] going through breakup with gf of 2 years [21F], can't bear going no-contact", "post": "After browsing this sub it seems that the most common advice for people going through a breakup is to go no contact. However this really is easier said than done. My gf and I have been broken up for about a week now and I constantly find myself wanting to be with her and talk to her. She has been my best friend for years and I see her on a daily basis (we work together). Any time something good or bad happens in my day she is the first person I want to tell (and vice versa), and I want that to continue regardless of whether she is my girlfriend or just my friend. \n\nWe had been having difficulties recently, as she has expressed how she frequently misses being single. We have a very open and honest relationship so as much as it hurt to hear, we talked through it and ultimately decided the best thing to do is break up. We still really care about each other and I just don't believe that no-contact is the best way for us to go through this time. \n\nShe has been the most important person in my life for a while now, and I had always believed that even if we didn't end up together, we would remain an important part of each other's lives. Am I completely unrealistic in thinking this? I want to stay friends with her and let the feelings fade away naturally. Has anyone here ever successfully remained friends with their ex without going no-contact?", "summary": "Gf of two years said she misses being single, we both want to remain friends. How do I healthily move on without cutting her out of my life?"}
{"id": "t3_46u765", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me a [25F] med student with my non-medical BF [26M] who won't stop asking questions", "post": "BF was one of those who wanted to go to med school til he took a few weed-out pre-med classes...Now he is in a non-science field and constantly asks me incessant questions.\n\nHe'll be watching television, see some character has some disorder, ask what causes the disorder, ask about the drugs that treat it, ask about the mechanisms for the drugs, ask why the show isn't giving those drugs and how the drugs that show is giving actually work and why that's wrong and what would happen in real life if we did that, and on and on and on...\n\nI feel like I'm constantly being pimped. [\"Pimping\" is when a superior (resident/fellow/attending) who's evaluating you asks you medical questions. It's one of the ways clinical medicine has been taught/tested for ages...and can at times be extremely stressful.]\n\nBF will also come to me with off the wall claims (\"My coworker told me that zinc prevents all colds and 8 different types of cancer. How come you doctors don't have everyone on zinc?\") and he won't leave me alone until I look into zinc and give him some reason that he finds satisfactory. The baseline assumption is always that his non-medical coworker is correct and I have to defend why \"all us doctors\" are/aren't doing xyz.\n\nI've explained that this is not how I want to spend my little time off from the hospital.\n\nWhen I have to look something up to shut him up, he tells me I'm lucky to be in med school and I should be happy that I'm learning things when I look them up to answer him.\n\nI feel small, I don't usually feel small, and I can't figure out where exactly the problem is here.\n\nI know I am lucky to be in med school.\n\nI also feel super frustrated and like I'm being pimped in my own home.\n\nAm I just being stupidly defensive? Should I just...know more things than I do? Does anyone have a good method for dealing with this $hit?", "summary": "Med student. I answer questions all day long at work. BF won't quit with more incessant questions at home. Also demands answers to Dr. Oz-esque claims. This pisses me off, bf reasons it shouldn't, I'm frustrated and confused. Am I just too defensive and/or not enough of an intellectual?"}
{"id": "t3_2zgi0a", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "8th grade science project: my kid's partner's parents spent $90, and want me to pay my share", "post": "My kid and his partner were tasked with making marshmallow shooters in their science class.  They had to design,build and operate the shooter in class, measuring the distance traveled on a shot, the velocity of the marshmallow, etc.  All good.\n\nAs I'm on my way home from work, my son calls me to ask me to pick up some cash to pay for his portion of the project.  \"No problem buddy, how much do you need?\" \"$45, my partner spent $90.\" It's due tomorrow.\n\nAm I alone in my WTF reaction?  I have the money, that's not the issue.  I *can* easily afford the $45, however I think it's completely outrageious. Spending this kind of cash on an 8th grade science project is completely crazy, and out of proportion to what's supposed to be happening in school.  It smacks, to me, of buying a grade.  Further, I don't think this is a good intro to engineering, as most people engineering a solution to problem X, have to find a solution within Y time, and under Z budget.\n\nI wrote the science teacher and the principal, and am meeting with the principal tomorrow morning to discuss this.  I told the science teacher that my kid is not to be paired with the $90 gun project.  We went to Home Depot this morning at 6am, and purchased parts for my kid's own gun, and had the PVC cut for us, for $4.28.\n\nBy way of background, we live in a fairly affluent district.  I can't say the overspending really surprised me.  I do think this teaches kids out-of-whack priorities and habits.", "summary": "$90 for 8th grade science project; out of line, or not? Am I out of line for refusing to pay?"}
{"id": "t3_w7bet", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My father will go bankrupt in the next couple of months because the IRS has dipped into his paychecks for money he doesn't owe. We can't afford a tax attorney. What can we do?", "post": "He hasn't (and won't) give me much detail on the issue, so this is what I know:\n\nIn 2009 (when my parents separated) he gave my mom money, and now the IRS wants taxes on this money. He will not divulge the amount, but I think I remember seeing it's about $30k. That's a lot of money for us.\n\nHis accountant has said this is way above his head, but that he's trying. He says there are about five different offices/entities involved in this and that they are not in communication with one another. About what, I have no idea.\n\nHe (my dad) was told 30 days ago by the IRS that this would be put on hold for 60 days. They have already started taking money out of his paycheck.\n\nBetween divorce attorney fees and just buying a new house (we had to sell the old one and were in an apartment for over a year) and now what they are taking out of his paycheck, he really cannot afford to pay for legal/accounting advice. I acknowledge that it is possible that he really does have to pay what the IRS is asking for, however he and his accountant both genuinely believe it is a mistake. If they continue to take money from his paycheck, he will have to file for bankruptcy in two months.\n\nAny help or advice on the topic would be so greatly appreciated, thank you for even bothering to read this.", "summary": "see title."}
{"id": "t3_1qfrhi", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice on starting a new gym (tumbling/trampoline/gymnastics)", "post": "Hey. So ive been involved in tumbling and trampoline (USTA) for over 18 years now, maybe more, and ive coached for 7. Im now 24 yrs old, and ive been thinking about opening my own gym for a couple years now. My parents are very supportive of the idea, and are looking around for suitable buildings for such a thing even more than i am. They'd love to see me run my own gym, id love to also, and ive been given tons of great feedback from parents and students over the years on my attitude and patience with people. Long story short, i dont have any kind of business degree (working on finishing an arts and science) so i really dont know much at all about what i would need to do to start something like this. Is there any helpful hints, pointers, pros/cons, any information really that people can offer? For the first time, im trying to pursue a dream of mine and any help is appreciated! Thanks in advance!", "summary": "I need any helpful info on starting a tumbling/gymnastics gym."}
{"id": "t3_24ntx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25] looking to...advance my relationship with [23F]", "post": "Some background: Been with my girlfriend for 9 months now, 5 of which I've unfortunately been on the other side of the country but we skype once a week. She was visiting her sister who I work with where I live so that's how we met. \nShe lives about 7 hours from me and doesn't drive(yet) so I've been visiting her once a month for weekends(not including said 5 months). \nShes a very shy girl, her sister says she's had a boyfriend before but I doubt it went very far, had a sheltered upbringing.\n\nSo basically I got back home a month ago and went up to visit her for a week. Before I left for those months our 'contact' had included holding hands everywhere, cuddling on her bed, making out and has pretty much stayed the same. \nWhen cuddling she seems very protective, pulling her shirt over her midriff and guarding her chest when we make out(would say I've only barely made 2nd base). \nWe've both said we love each other and mailed each other valentines presents including a card where she wrote: 'you are the most wonderful guy i can't wait to see you again, I love and miss you' etc.\n\nI'm quite inexperienced in this as well as her so I need some help here guys, we both want a long term relationship but I need to get her out of her shell without being too aggressive, I have so little time when we see each other. \nShould I try talking to her? what should I say?\nI am trying to get my company to transfer me to where she lives as there's no way she would work here(town of 20000 vs 1 million) but probably won't happen until this time next year.", "summary": "Been with my girl for 9 months, both very shy and inexperienced, looking for advice on how to advance our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2k81k9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shower", "post": "I know it sounds odd, how the hell can you fuck up by taking a shower?\nWell, as I discovered, pretty damn easily.\n\nSo I'm in the shower, getting my hair wet and all that jazz, and I move a little.\nMy foot goes completely from under me and I'm on a slip and slide to the other end of the tub, whacking my elbow and knee off the bathtub and narrowly missing my head.\nWhen I stop cussing, I look over and find out that when I fell, I also tore the bathtub away from the wall.\nI now have to get the tub re-caulked...", "summary": "Fell in the shower and managed to pull the bath away from the wall with my fat ass."}
{"id": "t3_2830py", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My exclusive hookup of five months is suddenly acting weird...What should I do?", "post": "Ok so i met this girl during my last semester of college (I just graduated) and we have been exclusive more or less the entire semester. It was going great, and still was for a couple of weeks after we went home. We would call each other, say how much we missed each other, but at no point did we ever talk seriously about being in a relationship. We made plans for the summer where we would visit each other, and go to events, and she even came to me to see a Yankee game. Next week she is going to EDC Las Vegas, and has been acting extremely cold, saying how she doesn't really want to put any effort into making this work,picking petty fights, and how when she's away in Vegas she doesn't want to feel guilty if she hooks up with someone there. I told her that I completely understand if she did considering its Vegas and she is going to be there for almost a week straight partying. My question is do I just forget it and move on, or do I wait until she gets back to see if after Vegas she wants to put in more effort? It's been eating me up the past few days and I could really use some more opinions. I have told my friends the situation and they just think she wants to have fun in Vegas and when she gets back she'll be a little more like the ay she was. What does Reddit think? She has told me multiple times how happy I make her, and every single person that is close to her has said how much happier she is. Her family has said how it only took her 21 years to find someone that actually makes her happy. This is another reason I'm kind of stuck.", "summary": "This girl I have been exclusive with for 5 months suddenly is acting strange before going to EDC Las Vegas. Do I forget her or do I wait and see what happens afterwards?"}
{"id": "t3_2ihg2c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ex girlfriend[24 F] 5.5yrs, Reads my blog;", "post": "I began a blog about one month after my break-up. I tend to write random thoughts on this blog followed by pictures and music. I have posted thoughts on there hoping my ex-girlfriend will read them.\n\n   I never state her name or actual memories etc. But I do leave clues, hoping that she knows its about her but also hoping on throwing her off. Well straight to the point, I know she has been checking up on my blog. Sometimes a few times a day. \n\n  So my question is, does she still care for me? What does this mean? She also checks my blog at weird times sometimes. For example 3am, I'm assuming after she gets home from dates or out with friends. I still care for her and hope to get back together. Some background history, we were together for 5.5 years and she broke up with me. It has been 4 months now. Thanks guys. \n\nP.S. I know that I kind of rambled, and this is very unorganized.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me after 5.5 yrs; checks on my blog. What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1om7zg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My (23F) friend (22F) just spilled to me that she doesn't want to eat. What do I do?", "post": "Hi reddit, I'm looking for any advice on this.\n\nNot sure if there is a more appropriate subreddit for this.\nOne of my friends just had a mental break down and told me that she has an eating disorder that destroyed her a few years back. She was severely anorexic. During that time her parents were not supportive of her so she lived with a friend and smoked weed 24/7. From what I know she just eventually got over it. \nI noticed she hasn't been eating properly for the last few weeks, but what college student eats properly right? It makes sense now that she told me she has a disorder. She says she feels extremely guilty and sick when she eats. \n\nReddit, what the heck do I do? How can I support her? How can I help her?", "summary": "friend got destroyed by anorexia, got over it with weed, is relapsing."}
{"id": "t3_2qx1fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my ex [26F] had a 6 month relationship. Broke up because of grief issues.", "post": "We've been together for about 6 months. The time together was magnificent. We are very similar and connected really good. She's had issues with previous boyfriends and was not capable of opening up to basically anyone. Except me, she felt really safe with me and she told me things she told to no-one. \n\nShe's got problems with her family since she was born. She's got a handicapped sister. About three years ago, her mother was diagnosed with cancer. She barely survived but until this day she's clean. A year after she was done with the treatment her father was also diagnosed with cancer. Unfortunately he passed away a year ago. Shortly after that she broke up with an abusive boyfriend.\n\nAll has been going really well. Until a week before Christmas. Christmas was the time of the year for her family. Unfortunately its also really hard because she's missing her father. Which she did since he passed away, but she's never felt this way before since he passed away. In that very same week, she didn't have any feelings for me, all out of a sudden. She decided to break up because she didn't want to let me waiting until the feeling might come back. This was on Christmas eve.\n\nMy bet is that she's going through a really, really tough time with feelings going all over the place. She doesn't know what to do with it, and because she met me and opened up, the feelings of grief might even be stronger. \n\nThe strangest thing is that, a day before she broke up she texted me that she misses me. During the break up she even told me that she really likes and cares about me, and that she might make a huge mistake. \n\nSo, I have two questions:\n1. Do you guys think we could get back together?\n2. I have the feeling that I have to be there for her, but for the sake of my shitty feelings I shouldn't contact her. What would you guys have done?", "summary": "Had a good relationship. Ex felt like shit because of grief. Lost feelings for me within a week because she felt depressed. Decided to break up because it wouldn't be fair to me."}
{"id": "t3_zf68c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22.F] Hooked up with my best friend [22.F] over the weekend, going out with her tonight, my heart is confused.", "post": "I've been hanging out with someone from my past for the last couple months, we've become really close, I've fallen in love with her. She was dating a pretty shitty dude until recently, near the end of their relationship I told her I had feelings for her and she said \"I'm not really physically attracted to you but you're awesome, lets see where our friendship takes us\"\n\nWe were out at a festival this last week, we camped in different areas and hung out a bunch but I gave her space because I didn't want to crowd her and make her feel weird (I've had some bad experiences with people being made uncomfortable after I explained that I had feelings for them). On the way in we cuddled in the back seat and on the way back we got a hotel, we took some drugs and stayed up all night. I went to bed before she did and woke up with her next to me, I asked if I could spoon her, we started cuddling, she pushed my hand down in to her shorts and we ended up fooling around. We cuddled and held hands afterwards but didn't talk much.\n\nLater we woke up and went to get breakfast with our friends, things seemed a little awkward at first but we ended up falling in to our usual way of interacting. We had a giant tool box in between us on the ride back, we rested with our heads together on it. When I dropped her off she gave me a super awkward double high-five and elaborate 'secret handshake', there was hella hang-time before that though when I felt like I should have leaned in for a kiss but was too nervous.\n\nWe're going out to a concert tonight/we have tickets to a festival that runs all week in our town. I want to tell her that I'm crazy about her but I don't want to ruin this friendship. I don't know whether our sexy-times were a result of pent up tension from the festival or a sign of something more to come...what the fuck should I do?", "summary": "I hooked up with my best friend after a night of rolling on MDMA and can't tell whether it was just her giving in to sexual tension from a week at a festival/being on a drug that makes physical sensations stronger or if she actually shares the feelings I have for her."}
{"id": "t3_v3pdi", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Considering a 2nd dog, can you guys help me with the pros/cons? Why you decided to get two, or maybe decided not to?", "post": "We currently have a 9 mo old mutt (~45 lb), that we got almost 4 months ago. She's a little territorial and timid when guests are over, but other than that we consider ourselves very lucky. She doesn't chew furniture or our stuff, picks ups tricks in training very quickly, etc. \n\nShe's home alone (in the kitchen with a dog door to a small side yard) for about 6 hours a day on weekdays, and on longer days we take her to dog day care. She gets walked 2-3 times a day, and most days goes to the dog park in the morning, where she usually finds the same group of dogs and plays her heart out.\n\nMy wife and I had been planning on getting a 2nd dog, mainly to help keep her company while we're gone during the day. Our duplex is ~1100 sq ft, so we feel like space isn't an issue, especially if we get a dog a little smaller (~35 lbs).\n\nWe realize that everything will cost a little more (food, daycare/boarding, insurance), so we're looking at factors beyond that. \n\nThat said, also to consider or comment on, we plan to have children within the next couple of years. \n\nThanks in advance. Here's a [pic of the pup](", "summary": "What made you decide to get a 2nd dog, or decide not to?"}
{"id": "t3_2s5wch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] Girlfriend [19F] was at a birthday with me and she ended up giving a Guy a \"friend-kiss\"!", "post": "Me and her were invited to a birthday on saturday and we went there together. \n\nIt was our local bar where we actually hang out ALOT during weekends. So for the friend (19/F) who celebrated her birthday it was no problem to reserve a table for everyone. \n\nI would say about 10 people came to her birthday party and at first it was very chill and relaxed. We played darts, had our drinks and just talked about random things. Even played cards together at the table we had reserved. The entire time I was right next to my girlfriend and we were having a lot of fun. \n\nAs the evening went on all of us had our fair share of alcohol but my girlfriend became extremely tipsy and acted accordingly. \nAs her best friend (20/M) sat next to us she told him that she was ready to kiss him in a friendly manner and he refused. \n\nShe was very consistent though and I didn't really pay attention I just saw it within the angle of my eye but I didn't think she would actually go through with it. \n\nAs I was still playing cards with my friends suddenly a lot of looks were on my girlfriend so I turned around and saw that she was kissing her best friend. \n\nIt wasn't a little peck on the cheek though. She was actually kissing him on the lips and my mood immediately changed from 'very good' to 'miserable'. \nI got very angry at her and asked her what the hell she was thinking while kissing another dude and said I was overreacting. \nMe and my girlfriend had to leave the party at this point as we were incredibly toxic to the rest of the group and I didn't want to ruin the friend's birthday. \n\nI drove home with her and didn't talk to her about it at all. I didn't even get an apology since. She still thinks that she did absolutely nothing wrong and I am just overreacting and controlling! \n\nI really, really love her but this is making me angry. I don't know what to do anymore at this point.", "summary": "My girlfriend kissed her best friend on the lips while on a birthday party with me and refuses to apologize"}
{"id": "t3_34e0d9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by loving to rob banks", "post": "Not actually today, but I did notice the fu on tuesday, so... yay..?\n\nWell, recently I have been off college due to being [aquaphobic] (nsfw/weekend rule post (long story short, manhood grew so large that just moving was painful) ) and all my college friends know me as \"the payday guy\" because I love to play /r/paydaytheheist . When the swelling post started to get really bad, a heist happened. just, [in real life](\n\nNow, fast forward to Tuesday. I came into college wearing some new clothes (new jeans and some nike 1 10s) and I was still tired from not being able to sleep due to the swelling. I only realized the FU when one of my best friends pointed it out.", "summary": "be a huge payday: the heist player and can't get into college because of [pain] and a huge bank heist goes on while i'm away. walk into college with some new (and rather costly) clothes and be tired from ~~heisting~~ not being able to sleep due to the pain."}
{"id": "t3_217spw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is she ready for a relationship?", "post": "Met her in the 11th grade but she showed very little interest in spending time together in terms of a casual day out but we would text almost everyday and during the end of the year she finally accepted a day out in which we spent the afternoon together in a bowling alley. Long story short, she invited me round her house in the 12th grade and introduced me to her parents and little brother.\n\nI then told her I liked her but she said she only saw me as a friend but since that time she has introduced me to all of her closest friends and other family members. She's a Sophomore and I'm a Junior in college. She studies medicine whilst I study history but we still find time to communicate after all these years.\n\nShe recently took a 2 hour long journey so we could spend the day together and I asked her out to dinner afterwards, she accepted. Am I still in the friend zone or is there hope for a relationship? P.S. Neither of us have been in a relationship since we met", "summary": "Friends who are constantly growing closer/Am I out of the friend-zone?"}
{"id": "t3_18r8f3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Bad kisser or no chemistry? [20F] [21M]", "post": "I have been spending a lot of time with this guy I met about a month ago. I was physically attracted to him from the start, and grew to like his personality as well. We have been on a couple of dates in addition to hanging out as friends, and I really enjoy spending time with him. The problem is that he's great in when we're just hanging out, but if things start to get romantic he gets incredibly awkward and nervous and it just turns me off. When we've kissed I felt no sparks. If anything I just really want to break it off. \n\nI am very inexperienced with dating/relationships. I had never even kissed anybody before him. So, at first I chalked the bad kissing up to awkwardness on my part. After doing it a couple of other times though, my feelings haven't really changed. I'm starting to think I just don't have chemistry with him. What makes it complicated is that I do feel physically attracted to him, but when we kiss it just goes away. Could he just be a bad kisser?\n\nI don't want to lead him on if it turns out we don't have chemistry, but I also want to give this a chance because I like him. Any advice?", "summary": "Can't figure out if I have no chemistry with a guy I've been seeing or if he's just a bad kisser."}
{"id": "t3_hnz21", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, what was your biggest work-related faux pas?", "post": "Mine is a favorite tale to tell as a cautionary story for all workers in the medical field. It happened about a year ago, where I was working as a part-time research assistant for a doctor's private practice. His private practice is located at a major hospital for a major city here in the NW US, in a medical office building wing that is directly connected to the rest of the center. I started working for him during my college years, but after I graduated with a degree, I received extended hours, a title promotion, and a nice pay raise. I also obtained the necessary licenses in order to directly work with patients along with writing grants and proposals, conducting experiments, and writing follow up articles and the such. The doctor and i just rid a man of his basal cell carcinoma (skin cancer) with a non-standard topical compound, and it turned out to not only get rid of all of his cancer, but left no scar that regular surgery would have caused. Long story short, I was ecstatic. \n\nI had to walk to the main section of the hospital to turn in some forms and see our research representative, and was in a good mood. Without thinking, I started to hum and sing under my breath while walking through a number of eateries, corridors, and waiting rooms. It was Queen's \"Another One Bites the Dust\". Right when i got to the \"and another one gone, and another one gone, and another one bites the dust\" part, I looked around a saw about 5 horrified faces: 4 visitors, 1 staff member, looking at me while I practically skipped through the hospital singing that song. I quietly realized what I was doing, apologized profusely, and walked away as fast as I could, making sure I kept my head down. Needless to say, I carry myself around a bit more dignified, after all, I am a professional. XD", "summary": "I, a research assistant, sang Queen's \"Another One Bites the Dust\" in a hospital, in front of patients, and no doubt ruined someone's already horrible day. Thanks for reading, and please, tell me your stories to make me feel a little better!"}
{"id": "t3_1ft6br", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23f) am suspicious that my long term on and off bf (26m) is cheating on me.", "post": "He has a history of flirting with other girls and I'm not too sure if he physically cheated on me in the past, or if it was just flirtations and nudes via the internet. Today he lied about where he was going, and didn't want me to come along. I peeked at his phone because it makes a neat water dribbling look when you touch it so i was playing around doing that, when it opened to a text msg from a girl, saying they were going to meet. I am not sure if he just didn't tell me because he thought I'd over react if he hung out with a girl? Or if he was going for other intentions. He first asked if he was going to go over to her house, then they decided to meet somewhere else.", "summary": "bf texting other girls asking to go over, planning to meet up with them, is he cheating or is he just hanging out with friends? Am I paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_4fuexr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/F] am just about ready to have a baby, but hubs [31/M] says he's nervous and not sure he's ready yet. What can I do to help talk him through his fears?", "post": "We've been together 5 years, married for two, and a baby has always been on the agenda, but we differ on when we'll \"be ready.\" We're financially stable, and both have great careers. We love to travel, and have seen most of the places on our bucket list. We love to eat out, and we both have our individual hobbies. \n\nI know people say you're never ready for kids, so if you wait til then, you can be waiting a long time, but I also don't want to pressure him into anything. \n\nWhat are some ways that I can help him calm his fears about free time, money, stress, and all the \"bad things\" in his mind that come with a new addition to the household? \n\nWhat are some fears you had before TTC, and how did those pan out for you in the end?", "summary": "Looking for discussion points to ease each others nerves when discussing our timeline for a baby in the future."}
{"id": "t3_167gcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) am falling for best friend (19F) and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "We officially met about two years ago, before that we had gone to the same high school but never talked much. When we first met she was dating one of my good friends, and she had also got a job at the same place as me. We worked together a lot and would chat and occasionally hang out after work and started to become very good friends. Eventually her and her now ex broke up and I had developed a small crush but tried to repress my feelings for her because:\n\n1.) She was my good friend's ex.\n\n2.) We worked together.\n\n3.) I didn't want to ruin any sort of friendship we had. \n\nWe remained good friends, hanging out a lot with mutual friends or going out to eat or just sitting around listening to music. We started getting to know each other more and more, and seeing each other more and more. She is very similar to me, prideful, tends to be hot-headed but rational, likes a lot of things I like, is vocal about her opinion. We seem to really connect. \n\nAfter the this summer I quit my job and got a new one, while she stayed on for another month before finding somewhere else to work. Even though we weren't working together anymore we were still making plans 3-4 times a week, and I started to be more in tune with my feelings towards her. Now its the start of the new year, and I've accepted that I have very strong feelings for her, but I'm unsure how to proceed. I was wondering who else here has been in any kind of situation like this, and how it worked out for them.\n\nShould I tell her my feelings, or keep it to myself? Is it worth it risking our closeness to pursue a relationship? If we do date how should I handle my friend(her ex)? I have a sort of plan that I intend to put in motion in a couple weeks to ask her on a date. I can provide more details on that if anyone wants to know. \n\nI appreciate all advice and insight.", "summary": "Friends for two years/co-workers for one. I've developed feelings that extend beyond friendship and am unsure on how to proceed. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1k73vk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal to fantasize sexually about your ex? [F19]", "post": "It hasn't been long since my boyfriend and I broke up. We had great sex chemistry and I would often fantasize about sex together throughout the day and before I slept. I guess it's become a habit..?\n\nNow that we're broken up, I don't know if it's okay to. On one hand, I think it's just dirty thoughts, everyone has them. He's been my first and only sexual partner and I'm not really attracted to anyone else right now. On the other hand, I'm afraid it'll make it harder for me to move on.\n\nLately, I've been forcing myself not to, but my sexual frustration is manifesting through my dreams! For 3 days in a row now, I keep having dreams about doing sexual things/having sex/getting physical affection from 3 different guy friends. I don't know what's wrong with me.", "summary": "Been having sex dreams about different guys since I force myself to stop having dirty thoughts about my ex. I don't know if it's normal."}
{"id": "t3_3swmgi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex gf [21 F] of 2 1/2 years, trying to take things slowly, not sure if it's a good idea though?", "post": "Sorry if this comes out poorly formatting-wise,doing this on phone.\n\nMy ex and I dated for 2 1/2 years. We met at college and quickly became great friends which led to us dating. Throughout the relationship she stressed that she wasn't one for relationships and was only involved in one with me because she loved me so much (we were each our first serious relationship).\n\nThroughout our time together she kissed another guy once and swore it'd never happen again and broke up with me once only to reconcile a week later and apologize. Around 5 months ago she broke up with me again, saying shewanted to be single her final year of college. She claimed she still loved me and if she had to be with someone it'd be me.\n\nI tried to move on and cut contact but she kept finding a way to stay relevant in my life, even though several times I asked her if she wanted to get back together to which she replied no. She said she jusy wanted to hook-up with other guys, which she has during our time apart.\n\nAs I've said, she's kept in contact despite me asking her to stop and have even had to take her to the hospital at one point. A week ago she showed up at my house saying she missed me and we agreed to meet for lunch to sort things out.\n\nAt lunch we agreed we still loved each other very much and that we should take things slowly. She says that if she finds that I'm not what she wants that she will end it for my sake. It's been a few days now and i just can't help but feel that she isn't nearly as serious about us as I am.\n\nMy question is should i even bother with the relationship at this point? I do love her but she's just such a pain in the ass and has caused me so much grief. I should note we are both graduating in May and are most likely moving to different states. Thanks for any help or insight you can give if you managed to get this far.", "summary": "Gf of 2 1/2 years dumped me for the 2nd time5 months ago, kept in contact and agreed to take things slow. Should I even bother?"}
{"id": "t3_slzpt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "are hotels really full when they tell you there are no other rooms available?", "post": "when the hotel tells me there aren't any more rooms (to switch rooms), are they lying? \nthis is my wife and my 4 year anniversary, so we went and stayed at a pretty nice marriott on the river at $250/night. our first room was on the third floor with a king bed, not facing the river, and overlooking the roof of the lobby along with the air conditioning units. not wanting to pay 250 a night to look at a roof and a road, I complained and asked if there were any other rooms we could possibly switch to. the guy in the lobby said there was only one other room, and it does overlook the river but it's an extra $30 a night. normally I wouldn't pay for an upgrade like this but it is our anniversary and I wanted it to be nice so I did. we grab our bags and go to our new room which is on the first floor (hardly any view), and with 2 double beds. seriously? so I go back and complain again and the guy says there are no other rooms but I can switch back to my original room if I want to. I complained a bit more and said surely there's something else, and explained that it was my anniversary, which I doubt he believed, but anyway, now he gives us a new room and says to come back and let him know if there were any problems with it. this new room is on the 8th floor and overlooks the atrium lobby and we can at least see the river out of the lobby windows. still not what we were hoping for, but we're sick of running back and forth to change rooms so we stay. \nso my question is this... are the hotel clerks just programmed to tell you there isn't any other rooms available until you complain enough? or are they saving the nicer rooms for the repeat guests or something? pretty frustrating!", "summary": "hotel puts us in a crappy room at $250/night, then charges us another $30/night to upgrade to a room with 2 double beds and tells us there's nothing else, then after complaining there's another room available (slightly better but with a king bed)."}
{"id": "t3_3zb16h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my date [26/M] of ~2months, questioning if I made the right move for breaking it off on healthy, justified reasons;text=Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks. **Girl concerned dating a man who wants a serious gf to be/feel less lonely.**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "His reason for wanting a girlfriend: *alleviate loneliness*. This threw me off because I think his \"loneliness\" reason will ruin the dynamics of a healthy, long-term relationship. My reason for dating was to find a match with a long term partner. Granted, I don't want marriage today, but one day. \n\nHe assures me that its just semantics and its our word choice because we want the same things- a serious relationship. Furthermore, he's never had a girlfriend before...\n\nAm I overreacting on the \"loneliness\" reason? Is it  a red flag? What about him never having a girlfriend? \n\nHe explicitly said he wants a girlfriend to feel included in his social circle; avoid being a third wheel. It  also seems like he wants to have a girlfriend to have/gain social acceptance or a confidence boost for achieving his first girlfriend.   \n\nHowever, I'm afraid I'd be a trophy or a morale boost for him as if he doesn't accept my strengths and flaws and like me who I am. His incentives for wanting a serious relationship are  different from mine. I seek companionship, partnership, share life's joys and downs with a long-term partner.  \n\na few hours after the first comment: for clarification, I should add that he said he likes me a lot and I feel he is genuine", "summary": "Healthy reasons for wanting a girlfriend? Am I overthinking this? Is this going the right way?"}
{"id": "t3_1ge375", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] is curious how to comfort my girlfriend[20F] about her regrets with her ex.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for a year now. This is my first relationship and im new to a lot of things. We are really close and going strong. But every once and a while she gets reminded of her previous boyfriend(she dated for one year) and becomes sad and feels down for a while. She has regrets about a guy that cheated on her and she is having trouble forgetting about him and moving on.\n\n I always tell her that it takes time, and ill always be there for her. We normally settle the current sadness and move on, but I can tell she is still upset a little.\n\nI am really patient and always comfort her, but I am just looking for tips on how to comfort her further about this topic. And am looking for more information on break ups and when its normal to get over someone, and how can I help her more?", "summary": "Girlfriend gets sad over things that remind her of her ex-boyfriend who treated her bad and I am curious on how to help her and comfort her further. "}
{"id": "t3_268q7q", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "4months Asia trip with my girlfriend", "post": "hey.\nI want to do a Asia trip with my girlfriend, starting next month. We planned Thailand for long time, but the recent events make us (well more my girlfriend) nervous. And because we now want book the flight and dont know how it will develop there, we want start our Asia trip somewhere else. \n\nWe are not backpackers, we are a fresh pair that wants beautiful beaches and good looking comfortable appartment. Budget.. Dont know. Maybe 100$ a day? Sometimes a beautiful big appartment, sometimes a cheaper just for near the beach. \n\nThe most important for me right now is finding a good starting place. After the 14h+ flight (we fly from Germany) we just want be fast in a good appartment or hotel where we can just relax, and go to the near beach. \n\nI looked now at Philipines and Malaysia. White Beach, Boracay looks awesome. But I think the travel to there is some stressful in the start.\n\nWell much blabla from me here...", "summary": "I am looking for a good starting place in a Asian country (not Thailand) for lazy tourists."}
{"id": "t3_3ta8kd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my 20 Fianc\u00e9e [F] of 1 year, she says sex is no longer about love to her due to a past relationship and it makes me incredibly jealous", "post": "Before my SO and I met, she was in an abusive relationship. This guy was a real asshole, and was eventually arrested because he coaxed my SO's 13 year old sister into providing nude pictures.\n\nMy SO and I were discussing sex and what it means to us. To me, it's one of the most important ways I that I feel love and can express my love. She told me that it's not the same to her because she used to think that, but her abusive SO ruined it for her, and now she mostly has sex because it \"feels good\" and she likes to \"make [me] feel good\". \n\nI guess it could be worse but this leaves me incredibly jealous of her ex with whom she sex  because that was how she showed him how much she loved him. I just want to feel that way too when we have sex.\n\nNote that the frequency is good... it used to be ~7-10/week now it's about 4-5/week. The sex itself is OK... it really can vary depending on my SO's mood and how willing she is to be intimate. Sometimes it's absolutely amazing, other times it's OK.\n\nOccasionally we run into issues when I'm attempting to initiate but when she isn't in the mood because she feels like I'm trying to use her like her ex did. \n\nOther than this our relationship is very strong and I guess I'm hoping for advice on how to get over this jealousy, and perhaps advice on how to help my SO regain the ability to associate love with sex again.", "summary": "SO's ex changed the way she views sex so that it no longer matches how I view it."}
{"id": "t3_1rmqsd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 10 months, love boyfriend, but feeling conflicted", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and even though it's a short time, I still love him so much. There is no one else I feel more comfortable with, and I can see myself being with for a very long time.\n\nBut recently, I've been wanting to be with other people. There was one guy, who is actually a mutual friend of ours, that I've been attracted to and wanted to hook up with. We kept hanging out because I never thought I would cheat on my boyfriend. We drank and did hook up. Nothing beyond kissing. He doesn't know. Neither of us want to say anything because we don't want to hurt him or for things to get weird.\n\nI regret it, but also enjoyed it, which I feel worse about. I'm afraid it could happen again and I wouldn't want to stop myself. I felt this way before over the summer but thought it was just because we weren't together as often. Those feelings went away, but are clearly back again. I don't want to have these feelings because I do love him so much, but they don't seem to be going away.\n\nI don't know if I should end things and potentially lose someone that I love and might not find someone else that could ever compare to him, or I should refocus myself and maybe talk to him about things and work on my relationship.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend. Keep having thoughts of wanting to be single/with other people. Cheated. Don't know whether to stay or go."}
{"id": "t3_1pz5bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F], SO [23M] ended it. How can I stay not feeling bad about myself?", "post": "Basically, my ex ended things but wants to remain friends. I was willing to give that a shot (stupid), but he isn't really holding up his end of the \"bargain\" even though that only requires him keeping up with things HE said he wants to do, mainly, be there for me. It's becoming clear to me that he is being incredibly selfish and (in my mind) only wants to be \"friends\" because he feels bad for doing this to me. The last conversation we had (text) he apologized for not being there like he should and said that he feels bad enough about everything and somehow I make him feel worse (no shit, given the circumstances) and that he already feels like shit regularly and doesn't need more. \n\nWhat I want to know is how do I tell him to kick rocks and maintain that mentality? I swing from hating him to crying about losing him far too many times throughout the day. It has become a real problem and is interfering with my day to day life as I'm not very good at hiding my emotions. \n\nAny and all advice other than a \"no contact\" mantra would be very much appreciated.", "summary": "How do I feel better and tell myself I'm better off without him and mean it?"}
{"id": "t3_1mmpes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] am emotionally confused...", "post": "I developed feelings for a girl [22F] I met while clubbing. \n\nOkay so before everyone starts condemning me, let me explain myself. This girl is a friend of my friend and we introduced ourselves to each other before we started drinking and clubbing. At that time, I just thought of her as a girl I just met, nothing special. \n\nBut it all started when we went into the club. My friends disappeared and I was left alone with her. We started talking and eventually got on the dance floor. She was completely sober and I was a bit tipsy, but sober enough to know what I was doing. I started off dancing with her and one thing led to another and we started making out. I'm not foreign to this kind of thing. I've done my fair share of flings (I'm not particularly proud of it though), but for the first time, I actually felt something for a girl I partied with. I've never felt like this before. \n\nFor 3 weeks after that night we started texting and hanging out together. I finally confonted her about that night and my feelings for her and she told me she's feeling the same confusion that I'm feeling. \n\nWhat is this? Do I actually like her or am I honestly just overreacting? I've been telling myself that I hardly know her but nothing will convince me to stop thinking about her. What does it mean when she says she's feeling the same confusion? Do I need someone to slap me across the face and bring me back to reality? I really need to find a resolution to this.", "summary": "First time developing feelings for a girl I went clubbing with and confused whether or not I actually like her."}
{"id": "t3_ymenx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend is a jerk on Reddit.", "post": "I'm (F26) in a relatively new relationship (6 months) and happened upon my boyfriends (M28) Reddit account (well he told me his username). His posts about me are awful and for the most part untrue! He complains about situations that haven't even happened! He rants about me about situations where I didn't once complain about his wants or needs and he got what he wanted. I had to stop looking at his posts... it changed what I think about him. He's a nice guy, and we knew each other for a few years before finally hooking up and I feel like if I say anything it may do more harm that good but it makes me feel bad. Do I approach him on this? I'm a pretty easy going person, is this normal reddit? Should I just ignore it?", "summary": "Boyfriend acts like a jerk on Reddit and lies about me."}
{"id": "t3_qsx26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit! How does this plan sound? (22 m giving girl number)", "post": "So a little background: I've been going to this tutor for one of my classes for the last three months. We've been vibing and exchanging emails every now and then. She seems to think I'm funny and I really dig her. My last session is coming up and I want to ask her out. Here's the question, would this be a decent plan of action?\n\nI am thinking of just waiting until the end of the session and as I'm saying goodbye, giving her my number and telling her she should text me or call me sometime. \n\nDoes this sound too impersonal? She's a really nice girl, so I don't think she'd be put off by this. My other plan is just asking her if she would want to go out with me sometime, but I'm just trying to avoid putting her on the spot and making her feel comfortable, if not a little flattered.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "want to ask my tutor of 3 months out, thinking of giving her my number"}
{"id": "t3_3u0lcc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: Got my daily workout in!", "post": "NSV: Completed my work out for today (21 Day Fix - Total Body Fix). Did I want to? Nope. Did do it? Yup. Do I feel better after doing it? Absolutely!\n\nMy family is hosting Thanksgiving this year. In preparation, my mom and I started cleaning and set up the tables yesterday. Since we don't have a formal dining room, we set up the tables in the living room. Where do I do my daily work outs? Yup, the living room. Got home from work, took one look at the tables, and just wasn't having it. I felt lazy, unmotivated, and just wanted to binge on sugary cereal. I sat down on the couch and had a small (portioned out) bowl of cheerios. I definitely could have had another bowl (or two) . . . which I would have done in the past. I sat for a bit and thought about how I really didn't want to move the tables, workout, and then move them back again. What's missing one work out after all? Then I thought about all the times I have done that in the past and how the next day I'm beating myself up for giving into the now, rather than thinking about the future and why I started. I picked myself off the couch, changed into my work out gear, moved the tables, and kicked some butt!\n\nI'm POSITIVE I will have plenty more days like this ahead. I won't always want to work out or eat right. Sometimes I will give into these temptations. While I am kicking myself for eating that cereal, I feel so great for powering through my work out! It's not always easy, but it sure is worth it!", "summary": "Didn't want to work out, but I dragged myself to do it and feel great that I did!"}
{"id": "t3_2nk55v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(22/m) girlfriend(20/f) is gettig hit on", "post": "Yestarday my girlfriend of 5 years was out partying, I don't mind her going without me because I have really early mornings and i trust her. She hangs with her after school activities friends often when she's drinking, they males there are much hotter and taller than me, but previously I haven't cared because I trust her. \n\nBut yesterday she came home 2am, and I woke up. She was really drunk so I helped her get to bed and get her water. She asked me to message good night to our mutual female friend good night from her phone so I did. Then waited until she fell asleep and went back to sleep myself. \n\nOnce I woke up I noticed I hadn't put her phone on charge so I did, and it lit up and I saw she had a message. I checked because I thought it was from our mutual friend but as I dragged down the dropdown menu I saw it was from a guy. It said some things about how hot she is and he was thinking of her. I immediately put the phone down and went to school. \n\nI have no idea what I should do, tell her I know? Or hope nothing happends? Thing is I'm going on a traineeship to London (we live in abother country) for 3 months in february, and I'm scared things will happen as she parties a lot with these people.", "summary": "my girlfriend gets a text from a guy who likes her and im going away for 3 months soon"}
{"id": "t3_1qqrr4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I started crying again.", "post": "I can't explain why but throughout my childhood my parents harassed me when I cried.\n\nBoth my mother and father would laugh at me and call me names. I was only about 5 years old.\n\nI cried when I was hurt or when I sad and would laugh and call me a \"faker\". When I didn't stop they would get angry and I'd get spanked until I shut up.\n\nI stopped crying at about 8 years old. I just never did it because I didn't want to get in trouble.\n\nMy parents were nicer too. They didn't laugh at me or spank me.\n\nWhen I was 13 my mom died from leukemia. It was really sad, and I did cry when my dad told me she was going to die. I cried so loud the neighbors called the cops. My voice was sore when I said goodbye to her.\n\nAfter that it was just my dad and I. He didn't really know how to raise me. Mom usually did that while he worked. He started beating me when I got into trouble, and wouldn't stop until I didn't cry anymore.\n\nLife wasn't easy. My grades were bad and I was kicked out of school for poor grades. \n\nBut I'm 18 now, and is been almost a year since he's hurt me. I cry when I'm sad now, and it's awesome.\n\nI'm not weak, I'm not faking. I'm sad, and I'm crying, and I feel better after.", "summary": "Parents didn't allow their daughter to cry, lead to a shitty life, now I'm 18 and crying is awesome."}
{"id": "t3_16trbu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So over fighting with my boyfriend!", "post": "He thinks he can never do any wrong. He's stressed so I walk on fucking eggshells for him and use the phrase \"Pick your battles\" when I feel like getting mad about something. BUT him, Nooo he just always has to have something to say to me or be mad at me about. If I ever find a situation where he got mad at me for it but now he's doing it too..he finds some stupid loop hole to get out of it and turn it around on me for being the bad guy. I text him at work..he keeps track of how long and complains and reminds me of it every twenty minutes. When it comes to me at work. He blows up my phone like no other and when I say something about it he'll freak out and I'll end up apologizing. I'm so over this crap. It's been all week non stop bickering and fighting about the stupidest shit. I say good morning everyday and just because one day he's up and I leave for work and don't say it I get in shit. This is so stupid :( I love him but this is starting to not be worth it. Every fight he brings up past shit. I hate when people do that and I tell him that but his excuse is...I was just giving an example of a time I felt like this so you can understand. I'm not a fucking idiot! I get it...I suck, how much more clear do you have to make it for me. Than I tell him there is obviously some other bigger problem here and his answer: Well I don't think there is a problem but if you do I am here to talk about it!", "summary": "Fuck my life"}
{"id": "t3_4t55u3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with Him [29M] dating about 2 months consistently. But I don't think he's that into me.", "post": "I started dating a guy about two months ago (met on tinder). We see each other about twice a week. At first we would go on dates but it's progressed to really just hanging out and having sex.\n\nI've asked him what the deal is (because dating near or after 30, you want to get to the point) and he says he only wants me and doesn't want anyone else.\n\nBut he never texts me, even just little things to see how I'm doing. Never wants to go anywhere. I know he works a lot but even when I'm working a lot and can't SEE a person... I will think about them and text them little things or call them even to say good morning or good night. **He's gone two whole days with no contact.**\n\nI haven't been in many relationships or dated a whole lot but I see the way other men treat the women they like and that is def not happening here.\n\nSorry, this may seem extremely obvious to others but I'm confused. I feel like I should cut this one loose, huh?", "summary": "If you're into someone, you have nothing but time and attention/affection for them, correct?"}
{"id": "t3_kxty4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I keep pushing friends away. I Like hanging out in groups, but not 1 on 1.", "post": "I need help/advice. I'm 22 now, so most of my friends are in different states for college. I am anxious most of the time, crave alone time when I'm out with a friend, and can be very introverted. I like hanging out with large groups of friends, as almost anything can be made fun this way. However, due to my location, this is hardly ever the case.\n\nI haven't seen or talked to any of my friends in a very very long time now. The only person I see regularly is my girlfriend. I have friends I talk to, but no actual close friends. I complain of feeling lonely, but if a friends asks to hang out, I feel almost sick just thinking about it. This leads my friends to think I'm being distant, or that I don't value their friendship. \n\nIt's just so awkward when it's me and 1 other friend alone. Nothing fun to do. Mostly quiet awkward talks. \n\nAny advice?...anything? Not sure what's wrong with me.\n\nThank you,\n-Heather", "summary": "lonely/bored. like groups of friends. hate 1 on 1. Only get 1 on 1 offers b/c most friends are far away for college."}
{"id": "t3_1qmja0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my ex [23 M/F] of 3 yrs, want to cut ties but I still have his stuff, and he owes me money", "post": "So me and my BF of three years broke up, he's currently living out of town (a few hours away) I'm better off but I still need time (long relationship) \n\na week after I told him he had to pick up his stuff next saturday, (he saw the message but did not reply), that sat at like 8pm he said he could not come that sat I told him to get somebody else to pick it up then. (he left 4 boxes and owes me about $200 for rent and tickets) Nobody came to pick up the stuff. Finally a Day or two ago I had a friend tell him to pick up his stuff and pay me back, he said he would but I'm wary he won't for a long time.\n\n I want to get his stuff out of the house so I can stop thinking about it, move on etc. I also want to start dating again but feel like this is holding me back 'cause I can't move out of this chapter til it's all over.", "summary": "Ex: won't pick up the stuff he left at my place or give me back the money he owes me, and I feel Like it's getting in the way of my \"moving on\""}
{"id": "t3_iqhr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most unusual pet peeve you have ever heard of?", "post": "One day while hanging out with my boyfriend in our apartment, the topic of pet peeves came up. Living together for almost two years now, we pretty much know what bothers one another but decided to recap for the hell of it.  We went back and forth listing the usual annoyances like smacking gum, scraping ones fork across their plate and using the caps lock button instead of shift when typing.  But then I mentioned that I hated the toilet in our apartment because of the splash it creates.  My boyfriend sat back and looked at me as if I was insane and asked \"why the hell would that bother you?\"\n\n I proceeded by saying that I absolutely despise when you are taking a shit and the water splashes on your ass. I explain to him that I angle my ass in a certain way, sitting very close to the edge of the toilet so that it does not make a huge splash and hit me with toilet water, although it is difficult to do in our apartment toilet because it's just like taking a shit in a bucket. He then laughs hysterically at me for a good three minutes and tells me that is the weirdest pet peeve he has ever heard of.\n\nNow I, feeling like I am insane, ask him how he goes about avoiding the splash then. He tells me \"why would I worry about that? So what if it splashes you, you just wipe it off when you are done.\"  Throughout his entire explanation I cringe at the thought of having that cold, possibly soiled water hit my bare ass and decide that there must be others out there who feel the same as I do.  It can't be the weirdest pet peeve out there. In fact I don't know of a pet peeve I've heard of that I can't at least understand the annoyance or distaste for. I would actually like to hear one that I can say \"what the fuck,\" to, so this is why I'm asking.\n\nReddit, what is the weirdest pet peeve you have ever heard of?", "summary": "My biggest pet peeve is shitting in the toilet and having the water splash my ass. My boyfriend thinks that's the weirdest thing ever, I think there could be weirder. Heard of any?"}
{"id": "t3_1qrjiz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] flirting with a close friend's ex [27M]", "post": "... what's the etiquette? \n\nThe three of us (me, 25F/ she, 26F/and he, 27M) are into the same niche sport. They broke up a little before I really got into it, so she and I were friends first. He moved away for work. \n\nHe was visiting one weekend at the centre when she wasn't around (just by bad luck; they're not awkward or bitter exes in any way). We chatted, I thought he was cute, added each other to Facebook. I'm kind of shy - I usually have a long observation period before I can really talk to someone - but it seemed different with him. I had no idea at this point that he was my friend's ex. \n\nAnyway, so their whole past came to light not long after. She and I had a good laugh about me talking to him about her in total oblivion. (I'd say things like, \"Oh you know Jane? Jane Doe? She's awesome, I'm learning a lot from her.\" and he'd go, \"Yeah, I know Jane really well.\" I didn't pick up on it at all.) \n\nSo he went back to his new job and I went back to my life. That was months ago. The last couple of weeks, though, he and I have been chatting on Facebook messenger, just passing time at work. I'm flirting, and I think he is, too. Sometimes hard to tell with text, and impossible to tell if he just is a flirty person. \n\nIt's been a while since I dealt with this sort of thing, and with relationships. Is it still considered courteous to talk to my friend about her feelings regarding her ex and me, or is that too high-school and we're expected to be adult enough to deal with it without asking permissions all around?", "summary": "I'm flirting with a friend's ex. Should I tell her that I'm doing it?"}
{"id": "t3_2emiln", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel so bad", "post": "I feel like I am the cause of a lot of problems in my fianc\u00e9s life. \n\nI moved from the US to be with this man that I am very much in love with we are planning on getting married in 2 years. \n\nA few days ago we were robbed (mind you this is the second time this had happened in the 2 years we have lived together) they took our possessions (most can be re bought yes xbox 360 as well as the One and other things) while I was looking through the house I remembered our wedding rings and I went to look for them with no luck. \nTHEY STOLE OUR WEDDING RINGS!!!\n\nNow I won't keep going on with all the things they took but more as to why I feel bad. \n\nI feel like if I wasn't here with my fianc\u00e9 he wouldn't have been through this. 3 xbox 360's have been stolen from him in the past 2 years. It's my fault cause if I wasn't here he'd be living with his parents with all his things.", "summary": "I feel like I'm making my fianc\u00e9s life hell by being here. We have been broken into twice."}
{"id": "t3_236lg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] considering getting back with ex [24F] after extended break.", "post": "About 5 months ago my ex and I broke things off. We had been fighting a lot and she tells me about some shady things (not cheating, but sketchy) she had done during our relationship. I broke up with her and almost immediately  stopped communicating, maybe one or two texts a month if that. I had pretty much moved on, now several months later all the feelings I had suppressed are emerging and I started talking to her a lot more over the last few days. She doesn't live very close to me but we planned on meeting very soon. I guess in just looking for some insight, preferably from someone who had gotten back with or at least tried with an ex after an extended break. How did things work out?", "summary": "thinking about ex after several months of not, looking for advice about getting back together."}
{"id": "t3_138rn2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I outsmart the landlady who is thus far failing to provide acceptable furniture and is being passive aggressive?", "post": "I should probably preface by saying that I'm living in France, in case anyone has any habitation rights savoir faire!\n\nI moved into my apartment on the first of October this year, and when I arrived to my 'furnished' flat, I noticed some things were missing... I had no cooker, no washing machine, a broken fridge, no cleaning equipment and no other furniture in my room other than a bed.\n\nNow, for 350 euros a month, this is weird. She got me a second hand, unclean fridge. I just cleaned it without complaining because I needed a fridge. Here's where she starts to get passive aggressive. She managed to call me several times on my number before, but when I started to press harder for the necessary furniture she left a note stuffed in my letter box that said 'thisisrage182, can you give me your ACTUAL phone number please?' (in French of course).\n\nLittle weird... there's nothing wring with my phone. Whenever I call she says that she can't find a cooker, that her husband is working so she can't come over, that she doesn't have a car big enough. I'm living out of my suitcase here, and eating microwave food.\n\nThis week she said that she had found me a better bed (not really in my list of priorities, but I was hardly going to say no) so I asked her to make sure she didn't call me in school hours as I'm a teacher. She called while I was in class and then said the bed will now have to wait because I didn't answer my phone.\n\nLast but certainly not least, today she came directly to my flat to announce that my rent is one day late and that she is considering taking action on it... I asked for a direct payment method to be set up at the bank but they obviously hadn't set it up. Seriously though, coming to my house all fussy over one day and a mistake after living here for over a month!\n\nPlease help me get around this bitch!!!", "summary": "My landlady has left me without necessary furniture and demands that I pay the full rent on time even though she has avoided her own responsabilities for 6 weeks. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_lc3o1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Help me Reddit! I don't know how to fully trust my boyfriend again.", "post": "Really long, sorry.\nI have been with him for over two years and I love him to death. We're best friends and lovers. Anyhow, he has cheated on me twice in the past two years that I know of. Nothing physical, but he invited some girl over after I left his house (she didnt go over) & recently he contacted his ex and got naked pictures from her. He denied both even after I had the proof in front of me. He said he didn't know what he was thinking, but could never give me an answer as to why he did it. A friend of his, who became a better friend to me, told me that she is pretty sure he has cheated on numerous girlfriends. He's super protective when guys he isn't friends with talk to me. I love him more than anything, but lately hes become kinda closed about who he talks to and erases all his stuff before handing me his phone. Idk, maybe im paranoid. He has made many many changes for me & he knows I feel like this because I talk to him about it & all he does is cry & say that I'm his world & if I leave he'll start drinking again (he's an alcoholic) & hate his life. The trust is still lacking & it's really hard for me to get it back. He seems to think that I should be over it because he said he was sorry. What do you guys think? Am i wasting my time? He's 24 & i'm 21.", "summary": "my boyfriend of two years has cheated twice, nothing physical, & im wondering if im wasting my time or if he really is sorry."}
{"id": "t3_3lzpze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband (25m) Unsure of How To Deal With Wife's (20f) Anger", "post": "Hey all,\n\nLet me preface this by saying that my wife had a tough growing up with a mildly abusive father (verbally abusive, mildly physically abusive).  \n\nArguments frequently become heated and my wife has a tough time dealing with her anger.  Seemingly minor things spiral way out of control, leading to her mentally breaking down, throwing things (sometimes at me), sometimes breaking things.  I fear for my safety when this happens; she say she would hurt herself before she touched me, but it's still a very scary thing to be around.  She mentions seeing a therapist, but never follows through and sometimes accuses me of being the problem, usually apologizing later.\n\nI try my best to diffuse arguments before they get this way but I feel frustrated that my attempts to calm her seem futile.  Whereas her physical actions seem minor, I still fear for my safety when we argue because of her mental instability.   I am not denying that I can improve at being a good husband in many ways, but my actions do not justify this behavior.  I'm scared for both of our safety.\n\nExample from our last argument:  She ended up raging, punching the pillow beside my head where i was laying down several times at full strength.  Did she hit me?  No.  Was it still scary as hell?  Yes.", "summary": "wife borders on physical abuse and I feel like I'm putting up with it when I shouldn't be.  She's still my best friend with many redeeming qualities and I want to make it better, though."}
{"id": "t3_3rbv7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18 M/F] change my attitude", "post": "I have come to the conclusion that I am an asshole and I want to do something about it. \n\nI'm one of those people that has a bad temper. Any little thing someone does that I feel is out of line sets me off. I guess it's partially a good thing since I don't let anyone take advantage of me, but I feel it probably burns a lot of bridges. \n\nLately I've been noticing that even when I'm not mad, people seem to avoid me. People I don't even know/ever had any contact with. \n\nNow what gets me is that I don't think I look angry or mean. I'm a relatively small guy (5'8, around 135 lbs), so I'm not the most intimidating dude out there. In fact, I would say I look pretty boyish; most people seem to think I'm 15-16. I dress nice, smell nice, always try to look my best, etc. I've usually been complimented on my looks so it can't be that (I know it sounds arrogant, but I already said I'm an asshole so what do you expect)\n\nI think it's odd that whenever I initiate a conversation with someone they're usually extremely friendly and open, almost as if they were waiting for me to talk to them, BUT they won't initiate the conversation themselves. \n\nBecause of all of this, I've come to the conclusion that it must be my attitude that they're somehow picking up on, which is why I want to change it. Do you guys have any tips on how to not be such a jerk?", "summary": "Guy doesn't want to be a jerk anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2evbt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anyone here have success turning their FWB into a committed relationship?", "post": "I've (24f) been on a few dates with a with a guy (32m) over the course of maybe two months. A few nights ago he took me to dinner and then we went back to his place and hooked up. We haven't had sex yet, but things were heading in that direction and it was getting pretty steamy. We took a break to talk and he told me that he thinks we're looking for different things and he doesn't want anything serious right now.\n\nI honestly forget how the subject came up. I'd had a bit to drink and I'm pretty sure I was pressuring him to tell me how he felt. He told me he was confused and didn't want say anything but then I kept pressing him. He said he felt like an asshole and seemed to feel bad about it, but I got angry and basically bitched him out for leading me on and stormed off. \n\nThe next night I was feeling bad because he really was very nice about it and never really did anything to imply that he was looking for a girlfriend. So I texted him apologizing. I just assumed we would never see each other again. The thing is I was reallyyy starting to like him. He seemed to like me too which is why I was so surprised by what he said. Our conversations always flowed very easily and we have a lot in common. \n\nHe texted me back apologizing as well. Then he told me he couldn't stop thinking about me and referenced some things that happened when we hooked up. Anyway eventually the conversation turned pretty sexual and lets just say he was very very complementary of both my appearance and \"skills\" so to speak. Now he says he wants to see me again. \n\nI really really like him and could see this turning into more, but obviously it seems like he's looking for something more physical. For the record I am VERY attracted to him so even the prospect of just sex is very tempting. But has anyone had success in turning their FWB into a committed relationship? Am I being really stupid and naive if I think maybe eventually it could turn into more? Will he respect me less if I go a long with it? Advice?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4hlysl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my boyfriend [27 M] of 6 moths, suggested I go on an SSRI to help me last longer in bed. Is that normal?", "post": "Sorry if this is TMI but here we go:\n\nI've been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months.  I think the sex is great, but he's more experienced that I am.  So far, he's seemed to enjoy it.  \n\nI do have a bit of an issue with premature ejaculation, but there's ways we can do it to avoid it (i.e. changing positions, etc).  \n\nHowever, the other day, we were having sex (I was the receptive partner) and I finished about a minute before he did.  He didn't notice, and after he finished, he made a comment about it being my turn to finish.  I told him I already had, and he goes \"I thought I might've come first..... for once.\"  It was a kind of off putting.  He knows its a sensitive subject (LOL).\n\nI told him I was trying my best and doing techniques to last longer each time, to which he replied, \"you know, you could just go on an SSRI, that would just fix everything.\"\n\nI kinda laughed it off, but I was really turned off by that comment.   I'm not opposed to medications at all for their intended use, but asking your SO to go on an SSRI seems pretty serious, especially just for the sexual side effects.  \n\nAm I wrong for being turned off by that comment?", "summary": "My bf suggested I go on an SSRI to last longer in bed, and I'm really weirded out by it.  I'm a right in doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_22hzdx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] had an \"okay\" first date with girl[20 F] that i really like. Not sure if she is still interested", "post": "So I met a girl a couple weeks ago, and after a couple weeks of texting and facebook chatting we finally had a chance to go on our first date (we both had finals and spring break which created a gap where we couldnt go out).\n\nIt was dinner and a movie and although it went okay i wish we had more time to just chat, the times we did have to chat (over dinner and dessert) were not too interesting but still fun. I feel like i fucked up by deciding a movie date was a good first date but it was something we both wanted to see.\n\nIn any case, we held hands and i even kissed her towards end of the night (and then while at her door she kissed me goodnight), and even got a text from her a couple hours after the date thanking me and saying she had a good time.\n\nBut this past week when i have asked her to hang out she seems to always be busy with studying/work/etc. I mean i know she has *some* free time as i see posts on her facebook about going out to dinner with friends/watching TV shows/etc.\n\nEven when we were texting a lot or facebook chatting before our first date (when i knew she was genuinely interested in going on a date), she seemed to always wait for me to text first, so i can't truly judge her interest by how much she initiates conversation. She seems to act the same way toward me over chat but just whenever i bring up hanging out she has to \"let me know.\"\n\nShe said that the last week and this week are busy for her, should i wait until next week to ask her out again (which would be a full three weeks after our first date) or do i just wait for her to tell me when she is free?\n\nI was considering another option which was telling her something along the lines of \"Hey, I felt our first date didn't give us much time to just chat and get to know each other and I feel like you might have a different idea of who i am. Would you mind if we had a sort of do-over?\" But that comes across as pretty weird to me...", "summary": "first date with amazing girl was only *okay*. Not sure if this caused a bad first impression and she doesn't wanna go out again. Do i directly tell her i want a do-over or wait to ask her out again after some more time, or neither?"}
{"id": "t3_24pw9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] 2 months, Just got dumped. Is this an honest text? Does she really need time to think?", "post": "Finally got in a relationship after 2 years trying to get one. Luck wasn't by my side so to speak. The relationship was going really well. We met once or twice a week and texted twice a week. Yesterday she was saying that she always wants to see me and wanted to meet me twice this week. I was like: okay, great.\n\nThen 1 hour later I get this text (it's translated, so I'm sorry for any errors): I have to say something, I really don't want to do this via a text but if I call I wouldn't be able to tell you. I really like you, and I am really in love with you but I am just not good in relationships. When you are with me, I feel good but when I'm not with you, I feel trapped. There is something else that you don't know, my father treated me and my mother very bad and that's why I have a problem with men. I have had therapy and it helped, but this doesn't go away. It's really not about you, you are the greatest boy I know, that's why you deserve better than me. I need time to process things.\n\nI responded that I love her too and asked her: so you just don't love me any more? she responded: of course I love you, but there is something in the way.\n\nI said: I don't know what to say, I hope you will change your mind. *End of conversation.*\n\nI don't know what to say guys. Is this just a big excuse to dump me? Or does she really need time to think... I feel like I have done nothing wrong in the relationship. I always followed the rules, never made a mistake. But if I have done something wrong I would like her to tell me.\n\nI think I will not contact her for a month and then ask her if she's done thinking. And of course I will move on with my live.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me. Don't know if I have done something wrong."}
{"id": "t3_2os0sr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How long should I[M21] wait to call this girl[19]", "post": "When should I call this girl? We have been on 2 dates and have been texting and stuff for like a month+. Dates have both went very good, cuddled some during the last one and I finally got up the nerve to kiss (my first ever) and she seemed to REALLY want to do that (she may or may not have attacked my face when I finally went in for it). However we live over an hour apart. I HATE texting, I may have mentioned that to her and she has told me several times that pretty much any time I call she will talk to me, just to text first to see if she is in a place where she can. So, I REALLY want to call her. Our last date was friday, but we have texted a little each day since then. On the one hand, I'm not to worried about calling her because she has made it pretty clear she is into me, however I'm worried for several reasons.\n\n1) I don't want to appear needy, Ive never been in a relationship, she was my first kiss, I have never done anything like this before so I don't know whats \"right\" and whats \"needy\". I can't stop think about her though (which probably is the definition of needy/desperate)\n\n2) I don't know what to talk about, I mean, she is REALLY easy to talk to, but I still have to start talking about SOMETHING.\n\n3) I want to ask her out again, however she has finals in the next 2 weeks and has already expressed she probably won't be able to till they are over, but me, being the idiot that I am, will probably ask again (mine are over, so I'm just sitting at home playing video games lol) because I'm an idiot and I REALLY want to meet her face to face again (she is so damn cute, talking on the phone just isn't the same lol).\n\nI thought about doing it tonight or tomorrow night, and honestly its really just a self control game of how long can I hold myself back from calling her. But yea.", "summary": "I'm going crazy."}
{"id": "t3_exxln", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, I need an idea.", "post": "I'm studying film in college and have many lecturers, who teach all aspects of the creation of film and television, all wonderfully relevant lecturers. But we have one class which is dubbed Philisophical Tradition and our lecturer seems to get kicks out of making our class as vague as he can, with as little link to reality as possible. Take for example my notes from our last class which simply say: \"Freud. Noses are the link? Use dreams as example.\" Utter madness.\n\nWell, we have been given a 2000 word essay to submit within the next 3 days. We have been told we have the freedom to write pretty much anything, our only hint on what the context might be is a quote from the philosopher Arthur Rimbaud, \"I am another.\" An interesting quote, but we have been advised that we don't even have to take that into consideration. We could, if we wanted to, write 500 Haikus about Llamas. \n\nI've considered a host of topics to write about but I can't focus on one thing. What I'm now considering is to conduct some sort of experiment on myself and document it.. Something to do with dreams, hypnosis, sleep deprivation etc.\n\n So that's what I'm asking for, an idea for some form of experiment that I can document, conduct within three days and do so without any harm to myself. I'll post whatever I document if this is all goes according to plan.", "summary": "Need to write vague 2000 word essay for vague class. Would like someone to suggest an experiment I can conduct on my self that won't kill me and that can be documented in written form."}
{"id": "t3_2fgy3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy [24/M] I'm dating [23/F] says there's something missing and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I honestly don't know what to do at this point and I feel so empty. I've been in a long distance relationship with him and we've been going strong for 5 months. He visits me in LA and I visit him in Seattle. I recently visited him in Seattle last weekend for almost a week and not going to lie, the moment i saw him, things seemed \"different\" I kept asking him what's wrong and he said nothing is wrong and that's just how he is. That he is comfortable with me. \na little back story: this guy has liked me since 4 years ago and tried to get with me this whole time and I finally caved in and I really like him now. Even though we're far away from each other, I still wanted to make it work.\n\nAnyways, We had our good times while I was there and I enjoyed every minute of it. Our plan was to move in together within the next couple of months. We even talked about it one more time on my last day in Seattle. He said that he isn't ready and that we should wait a bit more. I was crushed because I was set on moving and everything seemed perfect. When I landed in LA, we talked on the phone and he told me that there's something missing in our relationship and that we seemed \"different\" when I was in Seattle. Like we are not clicking. I knew something was different, but I just thought it was him. But apparently, there was something different between us. I'm so confused. Does he still like me? I don't understand. He's been chasing me for so long and now that he has me, he's not really trying? I still want to be with him, but I dont know if Im willing to wait for him to be \"ready\" He told me to give him some time to think about it, but at this point..if he's already having doubts...isnt it over? Please help, I'm really torn about this. I cant eat or sleep. Should I just move on?", "summary": "The guy I'm dating said that he's not ready and that there's something missing. I really care about him and I dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_oxboy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Starting an drm free game club at school help", "post": "Ok so all the clubs at my school suck and recently we had the idea to start our own club. In this club we would play 3 game types. Starcraft 1 an 2. League of Legends and DoTA wc3 mod. And minecraft. These three games would be the best to go with in my opinion for reasons such as they are strategic and cause you to think and be aware. And for minecraft, it encourages creativity. Also these games are steam free which cuts down on a lot of hassle. All these games are teen rated and below and in school they teach about the holocaust so I'm not exactly thinking violence is a huge issue. We have cad classes which would be perfect because all the computers are capable of running this stuff. But they wont likely let us do that. So plan b, when plan a fails is to as the CAD teachers (we just need one to say yes) to let us use there desk space monitors and wiring. All we would do is reconnect cables and people would instead have to bring there own pc's. We could use there networks to combine everyone together and none of this as far as I know requires Internet usage. However if they don't allow us to use there servers or networks we can just invest as a group in buying our own. The only issue I see with people bringing there own pcs is that some might be excluded for not having good ones. So I try and make up for that by having new and old versions of the games so it's more broad. The games would be separated by days so space isn't an issue. We could collect money for charities like child's play and every meeting have educational conversations about new strategies we discovered and different ways to do things in game. We have a lot of ideas and I want to Present this to a faculty member at my school but I want to really sell the idea. So any advice would really help.", "summary": "starting game club in highschool, need ways to convince faculty."}
{"id": "t3_23gw5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [f,22] boyfriend [m,23] keeps making baby hints?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together a few years. He has a 3 year old daughter from another relationship whom I love as if she was my own, and she loves me in return. \n\nWe have always talked about having children one day, but pretty soon as we are aware I may become infertile. HOWEVER, when we talk about the possibility of kids around his family, he has also always said \"I don't need any more babies\" which confuses me a fair amount. \n\nLast week, his daughter was staying at our house - for no reason, completely out of the blue, my boyfriend tells us both that he wants lots of kids (2 more girls and 3 boys, he later specified), and asked his little girl if she wanted a brother or sister. At this point, she was pretty excited, running around saying \"yes daddy, I want a brother and sister!\" and he then asked her how soon she wanted a brother or sister, to which she didn't reply, but he told her \"anything for you princess, daddy and confusedbabygirl will see what we can do!\" Since then he has continued to be very blunt when i've talked about wanting a child or saying the usual \"I don't need any more babies.\" \n\nReddit - how do I get him to tell me what he's really thinking? I've tried being direct and asking him if he wants kids, but he's really vague and confusing! I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense, i'm not very good with words.", "summary": "My boyfriend told me he wants kids. He also promised his 3 year old daughter that we'd give her a brother or sister soon, but he's so blunt and vague whenever I bring up the topic with him. "}
{"id": "t3_3gd89a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] desperately want to be attracted to my GF [22F] again", "post": "We've been dating for a year and a half. I love her to death. She is amazing, and she is head and shoulders above any other woman in my life (except my mom). We're perfect together and things have never gotten stale.\n\nThe problem is that I'm just not attracted to her anymore. We have sex very rarely because of this. It's not because she has gained/lost weight or anything: the attraction just disappeared. I go to work or go to the gym and see all these pretty girls and it frustrates me because I know that an emotional connection is, at least to me, more important than a physical one. But I still can't stop thinking of having sex with other women nonetheless.\n\nUsually in cases like this /r/relationships suggests an open relationship or something of the sort, but she has stated multiple times that she does not like to \"share.\"\n\nI don't know what to do. I'm definitely not going to cheat, but I am very frustrated. I consider myself a very sexual person and being in this situation is tough. I love my girlfriend to no end. She is the sweetest thing I have ever met. If I have to break up with her I want it to be for something important, not because I want to get my dick wet. Do you think spending a couple weeks apart may help? Is there a way to gain attraction that you've lost in a relationship?", "summary": "not attracted to my gf anymore, going crazy"}
{"id": "t3_32c5mt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Met a girl last night off Tinder.. Advice?", "post": "Hey guys I'm new to Reddit but have been lurking for a while, Anyways. Met this girl last night off Tinder that I have been talking to for a while. She's very nice and everything. She's just... not what I expected I guess? \n\nI am 24, She is 21.  \n\nAs with most girls on the internet \" Myspace angles\" are a thing.  She is probably 30lbs heavier than she looked in her pictures.. I say to myself, I can deal with it.\n\nShe leads me up to her apartment where it is an absolute mess. Clothes..food..dog poop... I say to myself \" I can deal with it \" because I myself have animals.\n\nThen I find out she smokes cigarettes which I think are disgusting. \n\nSo we pop a movie in.. She picked... The Iron Giant.. You know? That kids movie from long ago? Yeah. ( I liked it to be honest lol)\n\nSo one things leads to another..and you know. \n\nMy question for you guys is, How do I... \" Break it off \" with her?  She's super nice but.. just not the right person for me. I guess I just don't want to hurt her feelings.   Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Meet girl off Tinder, She smokes.  Dog poop. etc."}
{"id": "t3_ob0pd", "subreddit": "self", "title": "$1900.00 T-Mobile Phone Bill", "post": "So I went to my local T-Mobile store last month to upgrade my daughter's phone and plan as a Christmas gift.  Everything went really well - or so I thought.  I got my first on Saturday from the new plan\u2026 BOOM over $1900.00!\n\nHaving heard many stories about billing disputes and \"sorry, you shouldn't have signed the new contract if you didn't understand it\" responses I really expected that I'd be stuck with paying the whole amount.\n\nBasically, when I changed plans the rep failed to re-apply the existing unlimited messaging plan.  Not knowing if this had been a simple oversight or some sort of money making tactic, I tried to figure out what I could do.\n\n - State Attoney General complain form \u2013 Check\n - Gathered several email addresses for T-Mobile Execs for Executive Email Carpet Bomb (EECB) \u2013 Check\n - Drafted email \u2013 Check\n - Drafted post for Reddit / Consumerist \u2013 Check\n - Research similar complaints for suggestions - Check\n\nSo first thing Sunday, I walked into my local T-Mobile store (I wanted to make sure I did this before blasting the interwebs, etc with what happened.)\n\nEven though I was freaking out inside, I politely and calmly explained what happened to one of the reps.  Imagine my surprise when he very quickly, professionally and without debate, got on the phone and credited all of the texting charges.  He told me my bill would show the adjustment on Tuesday.  \n\nI just checked it and, sure enough, my bill is now $62.00!.", "summary": "Thank you T-Mobile!"}
{"id": "t3_xt0hh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/f] feel like a third wheel when my boyfriend [20/m] and I hang out with his friend.", "post": "A little history: dated two years long distance, finally going to the same school. He has a lot of Mormon friends, so his friend group has dwindled because they're all on their missions.\n\nBasically, it's down to me, my SO, and his friend (we'll call him Jake). When the three of us hang out one of two things will happen; either Jake feels like a third wheel because my boyfriend and I will hold hands (which is the only sign of affection we ever show each other in front of people), or I feel like a third wheel if we don't hold hands, because my boyfriend will pay more attention to Jake and talk more to him. I try to involve myself in their conversations, but when they talk about basketball and working out there's really not much I can do. \n\nIt's come down to my boyfriend deciding that the three of us can't hang out together anymore because at the end of the night either Jake or I will be unhappy. What am I supposed to do? How do I make things better? I really dislike the fact that it's come down to this.", "summary": "when my boyfriend and I hang out with a friend of his, me or the friend ends up feeling like a third wheel"}
{"id": "t3_1e9pvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF[24] pushes question of future/marriage but I[M26] am feeling rushed.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about a year now and things have progressed relatively quickly. Within a year, she has told me that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, eventually get married and have kids. \n\nUnfortunately, I am not yet on that level. I have fallen in love with her but this is the first time I have been in a very committed relationship. I feel that there is no way for me to know if she is 'the one' within a year's time. \n\nThis is a hot button issue for us each time it comes up. She wants reciprocity for the emotions she is feeling but I know I can't give it to her. When I start to give wishy-washy answers (because it's still a big question mark in my head), she becomes upset. It's to a point where I placate her instead of being able to talk honestly. \n\nI find the whole issue frustrating because I am happy with the relationship but feel no need to rush those questions. For her, it's frustrating because she does not want to feel as if she is wasting time with me if marriage isn't possible. \n\nI feel like this is a classic problem many young couples encounter but I am seriously stuck on how to navigate these conversations without heated arguments.", "summary": "Girlfriend knows she wants a life/marriage/kids with me but I am still new to it all and don't know yet. She gets angry at the lack of reciprocity."}
{"id": "t3_1k4dvc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I major in? Something that makes me money or something that I'm good at?", "post": "So this might be long but I've run out of people to ask for advice. I am currently going to be a junior in the Journalism School and I'm on track to study Strategic Communication, specifically advertising. I've always been a really indecisive person and I knew I would have a hard time choosing a major. Lately i've been second guessing the journalism route because of a multitude of things, like people and the internet suggesting I won't find a job (I spend way too much time on reddit and it is SO anti-humanities), the fear that the job with be low paying, and the thought that I'm wasting my time in college and should have gone to trade school because I'm not in STEM. I don't want to be scared about my future job prospects. I'm the type of person that needs to feel confident about what I'm doing.\n\nI went to talk to the career counselor about my fears and he was super reassuring. He said its best to do something you're good at and that \"people find jobs\" and I have nothing to worry about. I then asked if he would give the same advice to an Art History major and he said \"Of course I would, they find good jobs as well and nothing is limited by major.\" Is that true? Because it scared the shit out of me. He didn't help at all by saying that. All I could think of was the old \"have fun serving coffee in 4 years, blah blah\" and he seemed to think Art History and Philosophy were excellent choices in major.\n\nSo the other day I came up with the idea of keeping my same J-school major but taking the med-school prerequisite courses as well. I know, you can't just decide to be premed, but I kinda did. Honestly I just want to have a financially secure future and not be worried and I thought it would give me a backup plan. Is this a good idea?\n\nAnd then I looked up the stats for med-school and realized its hard as fuck to get in and my GPA is already lower than what most school want, so theres that.\\ Does anyone have any advice? Major suggestions? I'm so lost...", "summary": "I'm thinking about changing my major because I don't think I will make enough money as I could in other areas, but I'm realizing other areas may now be out of reach."}
{"id": "t3_2a8ymu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My S/O [22m] may leave in a year and I [23f] don't know what course of action to take.", "post": "I'll try to keep it simple: my boyfriend is in the process of making plans to leave the state/country (possibly for committed lengths of time) and doesn't know where he'll be this time next year. It may even end up that he stays in the states nearby.\n\nMy problem is I love him and want him to fulfill his desires, but I recognize that his future may not include me, as I'm more stationary in life right now. It's scary, but I could foresee a very long future with him if he wanted that. But it seems like his heart is elsewhere right now.\n\nThe question is not if he loves me; I know he loves me deeply, but I'm just not sure we can love each other the way each wants. He wants to let things play out. We've talked about me going with him, but I wouldn't do so if we relocated somewhere I didn't like or if it meant I had to go abroad.\n\nDo most people just... stay with the person they love until they are gone and then move on, or would it be stupid of me and unfair to myself to stay knowing I want a more certain future? It's made more complicated by the fact that this upheaval isn't exactly happening tomorrow, and it's easy to live here in our fantasy land.", "summary": "my boyfriend is leaving in a year, don't know if his plans include me and if I should stay."}
{"id": "t3_24sgdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am worried about me [23M] and my girlfriend's (of 2 months) [21F] work schedules, details inside.", "post": "My girlfriend and I met on okcupid about 3 months ago, and we've been officially \"together\" for 2 months now.  We're absolutely head over heels for each other and everything is going great so far.  It feels like we've known each other for years and the chemistry has been amazing from day one.  We've already said that we love each other, and we mean it.  However I'm a little worried about what comes next, and I think she is too.\n\nI just graduated from university, and she is a chef at an upscale restaurant she loves (career chef, went to culinary school etc).  Everything worked up to this point because I had a very light course load for my last semester which meant we could spend a lot of time together; taking advantage of her days off.  Now that I'm looking for full-time 9-5 jobs, I'm worried that our mismatching schedules will pose an issue.  She generally works 2~11pm, and gets Wednesday and Thursday off.  I'll have the regular 9-5 schedule, sat/sun off.  We don't currently live together, but generally spend almost every night at one of our places.  I've had to move back to my parents about an hour away temporarily after graduating while I look for a job (which isn't a huge deal, I have a car and have no issues driving to her place).  The plan is to move back near her once I get a job, and we've talked about my possibly moving in with her in a few months when we decide our relationship is steady enough to have money as a factor.  \n\nI'm currently trying to start a web-development venture with my brother which I want to make my career, but because of student loans I'm forced to look for a traditional job.   My hope is that if our venture takes off the ground, I can be a little more flexible in my schedule and can match up with her days off, but I'm worried about how long that will take and what it will be like in the meantime.  Has anyone else dealt with similar problem?", "summary": "Great relationship with my girlfriend, but we're about to have very different work schedules until my side business gets off the ground.  I'm worried that it will put a strain on our relationship which we are both very happy with so far."}
{"id": "t3_qolz5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this really a big deal?", "post": "So, earlier today my \"best friend\" who I haven't talked to in over 3 months, nor seen in over 6 months called me up out of the blue and just went off on me. He's furious that I slept with his fiance. Now this left me a little confused, seeing as I never met her. He mentions this one night stand I had over 2 yrs ago, and that it was his fiance. The thing is I honestly didn't know. They met a year ago and I hadn't met her yet; I just knew her name. My one night stand had a very common first name, I never connected the two. Apparently she saw my Facebook and then confessed to him that she had slept with me. Now he's angry at me for lying to him for the last year and for sleeping with his fiance. And then goes off on how the only way he'll forgive me is if he can sleep with my gf. The whole time I was laughing over this cause this is just a stupid coincidence that he's blowing out of proportion.", "summary": "Had a one night stand with my \"bff\"'s fiance before they even met and didn't know it was her. Now he's pissed and I'm laughing my ass off. Is he blowing this out of proportion, or is there something in my head that isn't clicking and this is a big deal? And how the hell do I get him to calm down, cause talking to him rationally isn't doing it."}
{"id": "t3_4bfn19", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Most effective way to lose the tire around the stomach?", "post": "F 23, 5' 9\" SW: 286 CW:239 GW:165\n\nI've got a long ways to go in my weight loss. Although when I look in the mirror my body tends to distribute my weight quite forgivingly- my arms are eh, legs meh, face pretty good, but like side view back view and front view of my stomach is like damnnn. Inner tube. If I could only make some dents into that area it'd make a huge difference for me. I notice it especially around my lower back.\n\nI eat about 1400 cals/day. Don't eat pasta, red meat, or drink soda. Focus a lot on protein, fruits, veggie, and whole foods. Cut way back on bread, alcohol, and dairy. Although I'm  not 100% perfect. Some days it's 1800-2300 depending on how things go.\n\nLately I've been working out about 4 days per week doing cycling keeping my heart rate at 150-175 for 30 mins and then some random weight machines for arms abs and legs for like 30 mins sort of half assed.\n\nBut this has only been consistent for about 3 weeks now.\n\nAny advice on how to maximize that tube around the belly loss? More cardio? Any tips fitness or diet wise?", "summary": "best ways to lose tube around the belly fat? (Fitness or diet wise)"}
{"id": "t3_3hne5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Serious red flag? My [23F] boyfriend [27M] doesn't take finances seriously?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been living with relatives for over a year. It has been a great way for me to build my savings nest, get on my feet financially and with my career, and of course to have much lower expenses. My boyfriend also recently got a new job. He seemed just as enthusiastic as I did about moving out, saving up, and getting our own place. We also seemed to share the same dislike of frivolousness.\n\nCue my red flag: yesterday he informed me that he spent over 1k on an outfit for an event that we are going to. I don't feel that he will use this outfit enough to justify the price tag. I also feel like that money would have been better spent on the apartment that we have talked so much about getting together. Now I don't think he takes finances seriously, and that he is short-sighted with his money. Am I over-reacting? This is potentially a huge deal breaker for me because I personally feel that bad financial judgement is indicative of larger issues.", "summary": "I feel like boyfriend spent an unreasonable amount of money, now considering that he might not take finances seriously which is a huge red flag for me."}
{"id": "t3_24de50", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [23 M] together for three years; is couples therapy beneficial at this young of an age?", "post": "Thank you for taking time to read this. I have been together with my boyfriend for three years. We have been fighting a lot recently, mostly due to our horrible inabilities to communicate effectively. He has suggested couples therapy, but I am hesitant and want advice before I proceed. \n\nA little background on us: I have no examples of successful relationships in my life. All my aunts, uncles, and cousins are divorced or have been in abusive relationships, and my parents have outwardly stated they hate each other for my entire life. My boyfriend lost his dad when he was 7, and his mom is very cold and withdrawn due to her cultural background (so he says). He has stated often that communication and \"love-dovey\" stuff is not common in his household, and he also does not have any examples of positive relationships in his life. \n\nWe have dated for three years, and have been living together for around 7 months.\n\nOur good times are amazing and very frequent, but our bad times (fights) are absolutely horrible and the side effects can last for days. I am already seeking therapy for anxiety and depression. My boyfriend suggested couples therapy to help with our communication issues, but I hesitate because a) I don't know anything about couples therapy; b) I'm afraid a therapist will laugh at us for being too young; and c) What if the solution is to just break up? \n\nI would love any thoughts, advice, or stories regarding couples therapy. Thanks!", "summary": "Is couples therapy worth it for a young couple, or are we just doomed?"}
{"id": "t3_1v7ad5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by, what else, shitting my pants.", "post": "This is just a plain sad story of a commuter student who trusted one too many farts. There have been many close calls in my career as a commuter student, days where the need to poo struck my bowels with the force of a Rancor, but today was not one of those days. I felt no real need to drop a duece, but I have been somewhat flatulant of late. So right as I pull into the parking lot of school I let one rip. \n\nThen I feel the wetness. Or so I think. Sometimes they can feel wet but not be. So I finger check. \n\nThen I feel the shame. And I feel further shame as I hobble into my first class of the day and sit on the load in my pants. People start looking around wondering what that smell could be....just kidding.", "summary": "NEVER trust a fart, handicapped stalls are the best for underwear removal, and if you ever need a reason to skip class...shit your pants."}
{"id": "t3_4ael6c", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "*Click.Click.Click.....*", "post": "Firstly, long time lurker, first post ever. \nSecondly, I'm typing this from my phone, so I apologise for any formatting issue.\nThirdly, English isn't my first language, so please bear with any spelling or grammatical errors.\n\nNow, this happened around 3 years back, when I was in my 6th semester at university. One of the lecturers from my department (who's normally an ok guy but a douche in this story so let's call him DL) informed my section and another that he'd be taking one of our hour long free periods to make up for a lecture that was missed for reasons I can't recall. Fair enough. DL had course to cover, and missing one hour of freedom doesn't really spell the end of the world.\n\nHowever, the thing was, said free period was right before our lunch break, and most students were worried that DL's lecture would cut into that, despite his assurances that it wouldn't. You see, while some students eat at the cafeteria, a significant number head to their dorms mess, which has fixed lunch timings.\n\nSo, the hour comes and goes, and DL is droning on and on, with no end in sight. Students start to complain, but the DL says no one leaves until he's done talking, or they'll be marked absent (attendance held weightage in our grade).\n\nSo, as DL starts eating away at our lunch break, I decide to use the tools at hand to exact retribution on behalf of my dorm friends. From the mid row bench in the class, I begin clicking my ballpoint pen repeatedly. The guy next to me begin, and then the guy next to him, and so on, until DL's voice was drowned out by the glorious chorus of around a 100 clicking pens. He stopped talking.", "summary": "Lecturer wouldn't end the class on time. Buried him in pens."}
{"id": "t3_1hi2mn", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Light cat food?", "post": "I have a cat who has gotten pretty over weight over the past 7 months. The cat and I moved in to a place with my boyfriend and because it's in the city I don't let him go outside on his own anymore. I don't want him to get hit or lost! So I know that has played a role in his weight gain but also my boyfriend had been feeding him in the morning when he left for work and I would feed him again not knowing that! So the cat was eating 2 cups a day!! So once I realized that I reduced him to 1 cup. We went to the vet and he weighs 13 pounds!! He needs to lose some weight in order to be healthy and I saw the brand of food I feed him has a light version? We feed him chicken soup for the pet lover's soul. I was just curious how other cat owners feel about \"light\" cat food? Or maybe if you have a different food recommendation?!", "summary": "I have a fat cat that doesn't get much exercise anymore. What is your reaction to \"light\" cat food? Do you have any recommendations besides the chicken soup for the pet lover's soul food?"}
{"id": "t3_1v6k9l", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I like to skip and sabotage.", "post": "It's becoming a bit of a habit now. I do it where ever and whenever. Skipping just makes me feel better, I don't know why. I skipped dinner last night. And the week before I didn't eat dinner. Now I'm skipping Breakfast and Dinner. I eat only lunch and then exercise once in the evening. I like to skip eating. \n\nCurrently, I'm trying to lose weight but I'm not skipping meals to become thinner. It just provides me with a great sense of self control. It all started when I was too tired to make dinner and then it became a habit. Some days I'll eat nothing at all. I just can't be bothered eating, no point in consuming those calories and counting them. If I skip then I'm happy.\n\nI also love watching others eat and making food for others. I'll make complicated meals only to have you eat it and tell you that I already ate but that isn't true. I like sabotaging my friends weight loss because of all the things she said to me. It's like my own form of petty revenge. It isn't my fault that she has a weak will and consumes food like Charlie Sheen consumes cocaine. Seriously, it's not a fetish but more like a perverse pleasure. I just love sabotaging her weight loss.", "summary": "I like to skip."}
{"id": "t3_1c1swq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(M25) am becoming unhappy with my gf(22)", "post": "I went a few years without having a girlfriend. Somewhere around the neighborhood of three years. About six months ago I got into a relationship with a girl who I thought was absolutely amazing. However in the past month and a half or so it seems like her personality has completely changed towards me.\nNow I've been told that I am one of the most mellow people you'll ever meet and it's hard to frustrate me or really get me upset or bring up problems. But it seems like every little thing is setting her off towards me and the way she argues is extremely immature. She'll hang up on me or completely ignore my phone calls when I'm trying to apologize. She ignores texts for long amounts of time, and when we argue like this she says the most hurtful things she can think of. She continues to take our arguments that she creates from almost nothing and tries to drag them out.\nLately she's been had less desire to spend time with me to and more time with her friends. When we finally are together we have a great time and everything seems fine but it's becoming more rare.\nShe shows minimal affection towards me and rarely says goodnight, asks how I'm doing, calls me by pet names and so on and so forth.\nI'm sure I'm doing a poor job explaining this but when all is said and done I'm feeling really unhappy lately. Does this kind of thing get better or am I more in love with the idea of her more than her? I really don't wanna be lonely again, but this relationship is starting to hurt me. will there be someone better for me?", "summary": "relationship is crashing"}
{"id": "t3_3u3cvc", "subreddit": "college", "title": "I need help with an awful professor", "post": "So done background. I'm in calc 1 in college. And majoring in engineering. I took both calc one and two in high school and did amazing in the classes but couldn't afford the ap test so I didn't take it. My high school calc teacher was talking to me about going to college and recommended taking calc one again because it is very important to have a good understanding of it when majoring in engineering and it couldn't hurt to take it again. So here I am in college taking calc one. But my professor is way too smart to teach this class wherever anyone asks a question he belittles us because he thinks we are stupid for not understanding it first time around. We all try and study and spend a lot of time doing homework but he is just not teaching the class well. Also the last three tests averages have been below a fifty percent for the entire 100+ student class and he refuses to curve the grades because he thinks we aren't studying enough and are lazy students. We tried talking to him about this but he didn't agree and said his classes was not very hard because there are three students who get 100 percent on all the tests so we should too. I've never had an f before but have one now even though I study my ass off 6 nights a week for his class. And his office hours don't even help it's just like class where he doesn't understand why we don't get what to do.", "summary": "calc professor is to smart to teach calc one. Everyone is failing the class because he can't teach us"}
{"id": "t3_10yvw1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The surgeon/lab lost a sample for biopsy taken from my father. Is this normal or negligence/malpractice?", "post": "So my father has been struggling with an unknown skin condition for the past few months. After several doctors visits, referrals, prescriptions, and trying every home remedy and lotion under the sun, it has persisted. The skin is almost leather-like and very thick from his face, all the way down his arms, chest and back,  and he develops painful lumps or nodules under the skin that grow and shrink at various spots along the neck, front shoulder, and upper arm. These lumps start the size of a pea and grow to small ping pong balls and then shrink again over the course of a few days time.\n\nHe was referred to have an outpatient surgery early last week to remove one of these lumps so that they could perform a biopsy and find out what exactly is going on with him.\n\nHe returned today to have his stitches removed and find out some preliminary results. The doctor very frankly said that he was sorry but they have \"lost\" the sample that they extracted from his body. No recourse was offered and my father left the office completely stunned at the situation after having the stitches removed.\n\nThe surgery/referral was covered by his medicare and supplementary insurance, all but $92.00. Now this isn't an obscene amount but we are by no means well off. But I find it very disturbing that my father is still left with no idea of what is wrong with him and now will most likely have to undergo ANOTHER surgery in the near future. \n\nIs there anything I can do reddit? Is this grounds for a negligence or Malpractice lawsuit?\n\nI know that this is no place for seeking legal advice but there has to be someone out there that might have gone through something similar or can offer some advice.", "summary": "Father went in to have a lump removed for biopsy that was lost by the lab. Negligence? Malpractice? What do?"}
{"id": "t3_10uwok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M22] am falling for a co-worker[F30] who recently got engaged", "post": "When I first met her she already had a boyfriend[30]. I always was attracted to her but never tried to pursue it because she had a boyfriend. Due to similar interests we would hang out outside of work. About 3 weeks ago she suggested for me to try and pursue one of her friends over drinks. That day we happened to kiss before her friend even showed up. Since then we were unable to keep our hands off each other.\n\nI have always felt that her boyfriend was trying to change her into something he wants but maintained that they should not break-up a 2 1/2 year relationship because of our fling. She was actually willing to \"take a break\" from her boyfriend to see if we would amount to anything but I told her not to. \n\nI should mention that during the year I have known her, I have surmised that she was mostly with him for his social status(85k a year job/mutual friends that are higher ups in companies) and she has been waiting for him to pop the question to secure her future. From what I gathered he has been waiting to ask her only after she changes her personality for him.\n\nThis past weekend we had sex and the very next day he proposed to her. This after her literally debating to break-up him. She accepts hesitantly. I am happy for her because this is what she wanted since I had met her but I am feeling heartbroken inside. \n\nShe keeps telling me that she does not want this to affect our friendship but I can't even look at her like I used to without feeling empty. \n\nShould I maintain the friendship and act like it never happened? Or should I cut off contact and move on?", "summary": "I fell in love with a girl who recently got engaged"}
{"id": "t3_31ir94", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I'm sick of this song.", "post": "So, I work at a small restaurant, and for the most part me and my coworkers get along. Except when it comes to music.\n\nIn the kitchen we have a small stereo with an aux cord so we can listen to whatever we want while we work. My coworker, John, has been hogging it like crazy. It's just me and John in the kitchen. I will ask for a turn playing music, and he'll grant it, but usually within 20 minutes his ipod is plugged back in, playing his music.\n\nNow, I can enjoy pretty much anything. The problem is, he plays the same 20ish-song playlist EVERY DAY. On repeat. As you can imagine, that gets old really fast.\n\n**THE REVENGE:**\n\nFor the last week I've been fucking with him. Whenever we're really busy, I'll grab his ipod and change it from \"Repeat All\" to \"Repeat Song\". So instead of just looping his playlist, it just starts looping the same song indefinitely.\n\nSince I do this when we're busy, he usually doesn't notice for a good 20 minutes, and when he finally does, he grabs his ipod and goes \"WHAT THE FUCK, STOP\" -- I'm pretty sure he thinks his iPod's malfunctioning.\n\nHowever long it takes, I plan on making him so sick of that playlist he never wants to hear it again.", "summary": "coworker plays the same playlist on repeat every day. I keep switching it to repeat the same single song when he's not looking, slowly driving him mad."}
{"id": "t3_34edwe", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My best friend doesn't know how awesome he is", "post": "Hes nice and funny and interesting. Hes so open minded and will listen to me bable about pretty much anything. He is so kind and understanding and he always gives me really good advice. Thing is he doesn't think hes good enough. Hes such a cool person, I mean hes a football player with a fuzzy little bunny. He lives pretty far away from me and I can't go out there and give him a hug but he needs one. Hes a redditor and I dont wanna call him out but it would be really nice if you could show him some love reddit, I think it could really help him, like I said I don't wanna call him out but I'll make sure he sees this", "summary": "an amazing human being needs some love sent his way"}
{"id": "t3_4y2qgz", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Best Recording Device for Lectures?", "post": "Hello everybody, starting University in September (Switzerland) and posting for the first time in this sub (hope I'm doing everything right).\n\nFor the coming lectures (physics mainly), I'd like to record them for studying and further use. I thought of using my phone, but I feel like the quality may be subpar. Since I'll be using the device for a few years, it would make sense to invest in some good gear. This is where this subreddit comes in. What recording device would you recommend or do you use yourself?\n\nWishlist for the recording device:\n\n* Ability to upload the recording to my PC\n\n* Customizable replay speed (one may wish to hear complicated parts slower and well-known parts faster)\n\n* Not costing a fortune", "summary": "Need a device to record lectures. Recommendations/What do you use?"}
{"id": "t3_u0i6v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to stop stray cats from invading my garden?", "post": "Reddit,\nI need help. Stray cats are coming into my garden and ruining all the vegetation planted, including vegetables and herbs. They use it as a litter box and it is foul. My garden is fenced around but these cats can jump almost 5 feet so it doesn't keep them out. I tried predator urine pellets and that didn't work. I can't install the motion activated water sprinklers because of how the house is set up (hard to explain).\n\nThis never happened before, it only recently started when my neighbor decided to feed a cat he took in. He didn't really take it in, he left her outside. It was only one cat but then another cat came and made kitties (now pretty much adult sized). There is also a little dog-house my neighbor installed for the cats to take shelter in. He never took any of them inside his house as far as I can see and they all roam around the neighborhood and peoples backyards. Yesterday I saw that there are new kittens so the cat probably gave birth again. Can I report this to authorities or something?? I live in NYC.", "summary": "Neighbor has been feeding cats that he doesn't take in, a growing number of cats are invading my block and has been pissing and pooping in my garden killing all vegetation. How do I stop it?"}
{"id": "t3_2y92ku", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Too big for a stroller but too little to walk the distance...", "post": "My youngest is turning four next week, and I'm feeling anxious about my continued stroller use.  While I require him to use his own little legs (and he's little, still wears a size 3 and is 32lbs) and do much of the walking himself, I walk EVERYWHERE.  Yesterday I walked almost 7 miles, and that's just running errands. On a busy day, I have logged over 25000 steps. Our family has one vehicle, which my husband takes to work, and I prefer to get around on foot in any case.  There is no bus to his preschool, which is just over a mile, and in good weather, he hoofs it like a champ. My stroller is equipped with a glider-board, which my 5 year old stands on once she's reached her walking limit (usually 3 miles). Plus the cargo space on my stroller allows me to do most of my grocery shopping on foot (I can't imagine hoofing it home from the grocery store with two little kids and four or five bags of groceries!).\n\nI realize my problem is my own insecurity (I've seen that too big for a stroller blog) and social anxiety (which at one time, along with depression, had me housebound for 6 months), but I REALLY don't want to deal with the judgers and their comments and stares.  I don't want to get a second car. And public transit, being all circle routes and such, actually takes longer than walking AND my little ones get great exercise every day. When they get whiny, I like to tell them \"your body is the first and best vehicle you'll ever own!\"  \n\nSo, other than the obvious venting/whining here, I was wondering what you guys thought of wagons, particularly the folding variety? \nI've seen a couple types and can't decide if it's worth the cost and transition, or if I should suck it up and let myself be embarrassed when people stare/comment (and I've fielded a couple comments already) and just remind myself that walking everywhere is still a better choice for my kids than driving them all over, while stifling the urge to yell \"you don't KNOW ME!\"", "summary": "I still use a stroller for my youngest, who is turning four.  I walk, easily, 7 miles at a time, and can't expect my little kids to keep up, but I'm a socially insecure chicken shit, and don't want to deal with judgers. What does r/Parenting think of wagons?"}
{"id": "t3_3mfaub", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "My(f22) partner's(m24) ex(f25) is sending me alarming messages", "post": "I've been seeing this guy, K for a little over two months. We have been going on dates and having sex. It's not just a sex thing, this is definitely something that I see (maybe saw, sigh) moving into a relationship in the near future. We just click. \n\nWell, about an hour ago, K's ex, P has been sending me screenshots of texts her and K were having back and forth. Pretty much, she found a picture of me, sent it to him with a bunch of question marks and asked if I'm his new girlfriend. He replied no, and then she sent him a really long message about trust and broken hearts, and how she thought he wasn't talking to any girls right now. He replied that she wasn't his keeper and he can see anyone he wants. \n\nShe then sent me another screenshot showing her replying to him (can't see what he wrote) and said that she would never hang out with him if he has to text her first to start a conversation. And he said back that those comments were why he blocks her, and that she would be invited over if she wasn't so annoying. \n\nThen P sent me messages saying how they dated for many years, never officially broke up but aren't together right now, but still have sex sometimes. She said he told her it was only them. And he told me it was only me. I do not know where those timelines are in correlation with eachother. \n\nI sent the screenshots to K and he said that's his ex and he will call me and explain as soon as he's home from work. P had since sent me a message saying that he blocked her again. It keeps going on with this girl rambling. I don't know how to go about it, or who o believe. \n\nPlease help! I really like this guy, and this girl is very much unstable. I'll send screenshots in a pm, there's way too many to have time to block out info right now.", "summary": "partners ex is sending me messages that make show they are broken up, and she is bothering him. But she is non stop telling me he is cheating. They were recently fuck buddies. "}
{"id": "t3_xnokb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today, I royally screwed my closest friend over a lie that I let take a life of its own. Reddit, what is the most reprehensible thing you have done to someone close to you?", "post": "My closest mate has spent the summer at a job well over a thousand miles from home, and I promised him from the offset that I would visit at some point during the summer, to catch up and whatnot. However, his last available free days come around, and I find myself on holiday on the opposite side of the continent, unable to visit him in time. Rather than taking the proper, mature course of action, and explaining my situation, I lie and say I'm headed in his direction, and leave it at that. Later the same day, I tell him I've had car troubles, and can't make it on time, at which time I shut off my phone, to avoid the inevitable. Being the good friend that he is, worried from not hearing back from me, he sets off on a 10-hour journey to find me. After calling the police, his and my parents, and causing quite a stir, the truth stumbles forward on my part. I can't even begin to process my guilt in regards to this, but what bothers me most is the fact that I flat lacked the spine to tell him the truth from the start, and I've just put him out on a major scale.", "summary": "Tell my friend who's been waiting all summer to meet up that I'll be in town the same day, while I'm on Holiday many thousands of miles away, to avoid upsetting him. One lie leads to another, and I lead him on a 10-hour wild goose chase trying to find my lying ass after my little fib falls through."}
{"id": "t3_3vdvw3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21f] won't return my [21f] stuff", "post": "Last year, my friend asked if I could borrow a purse and a jacket for a date. Of course I lent it to her.\n\nOkay, last Christmas I gave it to her. She has YET to return it. We go to different schools but her parents literally live less than a mile from me. And the purse is Steve Madden, so I want my stuff back.\nI text her all the time asking for it, she always has excuses. This past weekend she was in town for four days and the one day she was supposed to bring it it was \"crazy\". I've offered to go to her house and pick it up, and I never get a response.\n\nHow the hell do I get it back? It's starting to get to where I don't even want anything to do with her after I get it all back. And not getting it back isn't even an option, if I have to I'll go sit on her parent's porch until she gives it back.", "summary": "Friend won't return things she borrowed last Christmas, need a way to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_3v2rdj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I find a better suited job? I don't know what my options are", "post": "Some context: I'm a 20 years old Software Developer and I work at this huge and amazing company here in Brazil, one of the biggest at Latin America, and their hours are \"flexible\". But what does that mean? I'm allowed some tolerance at getting to work, and sometimes I can leave early if there is nothing heavy to be done, but I'm also expected to stay until late if needed/asked/FuckingSprintIsRunning.\n\nI imagine I will be miserable in the long run because I really care for time with my family/SO/myself, and working until late with 2 hours commuting every day with barely any time to give to my family, pay attention to my SO and take care of myself and my health (Something I started to pay attention to since I lost weight) is going to drive me nuts. I have lots of examples of this in my life, people who put too much time at work and waste their lives, are miserable, can't see life is just passing by and they are losing most of it. I don't want to be this person.\n\nBut I also can't avoid thinking I'm being spoiled/lazy and there are many people who wish they were in my position, with the opportunity I have.\n\nWhat are my options here? I'm really blind at the moment, I need your help/opinions, anything. If you came all the way to here, thank you. I really appreciate the effort.", "summary": "Have a job at amazing company, but expected to work a lot. Don't want to miss life at work, life is much more than staying in the office for hours a day, but I don't really know my options anymore. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3ytkeu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my SO [35F] <1yr Conflicted with feelings about photo taken while sleeping", "post": "I am [32M] she is [35F]. We have been dating under a year.\n\nWe were hanging out together the other night and I fell asleep while we were watching a movie. Unbeknownst to me she took some photos, which are admittedly funny, of me passed out on her shoulder while she was making faces.\n\nWe have some friends we have a kinda of open and joking relationship with. I found out about the photos when she sent them out in a group text to our friends and me about the selfie we took the other night.\nOn one hand I feel weird cause I didn't know about the photos beforehand, on the other I know she doesn't mean any harm by it. I don't want to make a big deal out of it but at the same time I am so torn between thinking it was kinda weird and thinking I am overreacting.\n\nI kinda want to ask her how she'd feel if I did the same, but I think her answer is it wouldn't bother her, but she may think i was more upset than I am. I don't want to dissuade her being playful and carefree, and in the long run it doesn't feel like it is a big deal, but my immediate reaction was kinda wtf...\n\nAm I overthinking this or is this a discussion we should have?", "summary": "Took photos while I was sleeping, playfully shared with friends, I am conflicted between thinking it was weird to take a photo of me sleeping and appreciating that she was being playful."}
{"id": "t3_53rdxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my EX [21 F] ~4 years, took things way too far.", "post": "Throwaway because wow i don't want to associate this with me.\n\nMe and my girlfriend were together for 4 years and had goods and bads and this time i feel she has taken it way too far and it really cut deep and i am almost in tears. So she ignored all attempts to spend time together for 3 months so i started going out and making friends.\n\n \nFor the first time in 3 months she came over today, we talked for a bit then had sex so i thought everything was going well but when she gets home she starts texting me upset. Eventually she says she's done so i say \"you are insecure and controlling. Atleast look into a therapist?\"\n\nto which she replies \" you can have \"friends\" all you want so go do that go bang them and do whatever with them im seriously done. aint nobody being fucking controlling there not your fucking friends go fuck yourself you fucking asshole bye you fucking piece of shit go fucking die\"\n\n\"leave me alone\"\n\ni then reply \"what\" because i am somewhat dumbfounded\n\n\"leave me alone\"\n\"fucking die\"\n\ni replied with \"you legitimately went too far\"\n\"that's deep\" and left it at that. she has replied about 6 times but i am almost in tears and at a loss of words. \n\nI have no clue on what to even think/say/ what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend seemed fine earlier now she said some deep stuff and i am at a loss of words."}
{"id": "t3_1625g1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] Plenty of reasons not to break up with GF [19/F], only one that matters", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now. It's been a good relationship - we have chemistry, similar interests, sexually active, etc etc. We rarely argue, and several people have told us we make a great couple. \n\nI just want a change now. I don't even think the relationship is stale, and I feel as if this is definitely a it's-not-you-it's-me type of deal. I've been very unmotivated, a little too carefree, and have been feeling a little off recently. \n\nHere are the two big problems - I've been regularly fantasizing about other people. People who I haven't talked to in years. Sometimes I just want to go back in time and have another go at this-or-that girl from high school. This is a silly thought, and I know it's not worth breaking up with a great girlfriend because you have unrealistic desires for other people. But then again, the thoughts of being single and motivated do tempt me far too often. I've felt this way for a while now, and I think it's unfair for her. If I simply don't 'love' her to truly dispel thoughts of temptation, then that's enough reason to break up with her, right?\n\nAnd yes, she deserves much better than me. But if the fire isn't burning strongly enough, it's time to put it out. Fuck I'm high", "summary": "OP has perfect girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_gh0f3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Obviously different strokes for different folks but what (female) body type do you prefer?", "post": "I think it's an interesting poll to be taken. \n\nSource of my question I am about average weight 135 5'4.5 and height for a female now but I have recently lost some weight and with the  weight went about a full cup size of boobs. I used to have an average C/big B. Now I have about average B's, but I'm thinner and my body is a lot tighter. I would like to continue to lose weight and get into the thin ~120 arena and I hope that I don't lose any more boobage but I figure I would rather be thin with small boobs, than chubby with average sized boobs. What do you guys think?", "summary": "reddit poll: what body shape/ breast cup size/ ass size/ height do you prefer? (Question can certainly be answered by females as well! (about their desired men's body type or about what kind of female form they find attractive)"}
{"id": "t3_3w5dee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] can't stand being around my father [59 M].", "post": "We've always had a rocky relationship. My father is the kind of person who is always right even if he's wrong. He also has a very short temper. Random topics will set him off, so it's like walking on eggshells around him.  I know I have a stubborn personality, and I have been watching what I say to him and avoiding arguments. It's tough, but it has helped our relationship. It's just exhausting being around him, though. \nRight now, one of his triggers is Christmas presents. He suggested I get him something around $75. I don't have a job, and not much money on me, so I suggested me and my brother split the cost and buy it. He got super mad saying I'm an ungrateful brat because I won't spend $75 on him. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. If I had the money I would buy it myself. It's the only thing he wants anyway. \nIt's gotten to the point where I don't talk to him much because he just flies off the rails on anything and then demands apologies from us for saying things that we never said. It's emotionally draining and I hate coming home from school and having to put up with this. \nWe have talked to him about this, but it's always me or my brother's fault for making him mad. I'm trying to improve my attitude, but he's unwilling to change his. I don't know what to.", "summary": "Father gets mad over everything and it's emotionally draining"}
{"id": "t3_4k4rls", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[27F] Unconventional dating question: how to ask out a stranger at the grocery store?", "post": "Dear Reddit, \n\nI'm recently single and not even necessarily out on the prowl, but I came across a situation today in which I possibly could've asked out a really cute guy but didn't know how. \n\nJust for a bit of background: I've dated many people in my adult life and been in a few serious relationships, but still looking for the right one. I'm a pretty confident, outgoing woman and have asked out men on several occasions. I don't tend to be too shy if I really want something, however, can be in some situations. \n\nI was at the grocery store today at lunch time and was waiting in line to check out. There was a woman who was having difficulty checking out with her multiple credit cards and people in line were noticeably getting impatient. There were two people in front of me in line, and the person directly in front of me was a very cute guy. Sometimes in these situations people kind of glance around to others waiting for visual commiseration of some sort, surely many of you reading have probably experienced this. \n\nThe cute guy kind of glanced back at me and smiled but I had one of my headphones in listening to music, so I nodded back. I kept noticing him kind of attempting to look my way (or possibly he was just annoyed and waiting, hard to tell). \n\nI kept thinking, \"huh, I'd love to find a way to give this guy my number\". It's hard enough to meet people you think are attractive or interested in dating. I haven't had any real luck with online dating (especially in my current city, which defaults to a hook up culture) and have been thinking about how to meet people in person. \n\nSo I put this to you: how does one takes this kind of situation to the next level? Is it possible to ask someone out with little to no pre-text? Obviously it's risky, you never know someone's situation, but is it just plain weird or gutsy and admirable?", "summary": "wanted to ask out a cute stranger in front of me in line, but couldn't think of sane, reasonable way to do it. Advice and input appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_3d5rrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my ex-gf [30 F]. We dated a year, I cheated and we broke up. I want to apologize or do I let sleeping dogs lie?", "post": "I ended up cheating on my girlfriend during a business trip and she found out. She understandably broke up with me as she was completely trusting of me going on this trip with a female co-worker who was always flirty with me. I messed up bad and beyond repair.\n\nI know the trust is gone and we're not going to get back together, but I want to apologize to her for my shitty actions. I wanted your opinion, is it sensible to apologize or would it just dig up bad memories?", "summary": "Cheated on my g/f of 1 year. Was rightly dumped and want to apologize. Let sleeping dogs lie or apologize?"}
{"id": "t3_2n7djh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you do when you get cheated on? Could really do with some advice for a guy who's slowly losing his marbles. 25 (M) she's 23 (F) year and a half close relationship", "post": "Not sure if this is the right format or what, but I really need some advice from someone outside the box.\n \nGirlfriend cheated on me on Friday. \nMy first partner cheated on me too and it took months of work with my current/ex girlfriend for me to open up and trust her not to do the same thing. \n\nNow a year and a half later, ive found myself back in the same boat, but this time with the numbness of knowing that everything I'd accomplished in my head with the self security of not getting hurt, has all been wrong.", "summary": "Everything I've told myself for a year and a half to get over being cheated on in a previous relationship is wrong and now I'm completely lost"}
{"id": "t3_1iuz1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [21/M] advise my teenager sister [17/F] to avoid risky situations without instilling rape fear or guilt?", "post": "I hope the title is not too bad - english is not my first language, sorry. \n\nMy 17-year-old sister recently put herself in a situation which was quite alarming when my mother heard about it. She was drinking (too much) with 2 of her friends and 5 other people she did not know, on a camping beach, near a lake. Nobody was sober enough and some of them took a midnight bath while clearly drunk. I hope I am not overreacting if I think that it is dangerous, mainly because the drowning risk\u2026 Anyway, I realized that even if I gave her some big brother drinking advice (things like \u00ab if you don't feel like drinking because suddenly, the taste of alcohol kinda disgust you, it is time to stop, no matter what your friends tell you to do, you will not have a good time if you continue \u00bb), I never mentioned certain situations (like drowning while drunk).\n\nIn particular, It made me realize that I never told her something like \u00ab dudes flirting with you while drunk sometimes misinterpret your signals (by clumsiness or malignancy) and bad things can happen to you, so do not get too drunk with people you barely know/trust to be able to react well if it happens \u00bb. I want to tell her that and I want to make her understand that it is serious, but something I've understood by reading feminists books/articles is that many women live in a constant (and horrifying) fear of rape, and when some asshole rapes a woman, this woman often feels some guilt, feeling that it's her fault, that she should have been less clumsy, put on less sexy clothes, drunk less, etc.\n\nI do not my sister to feel that way, and moreover, I do not want to be a part of the transmission of this rape culture which blames victims! On the other hand, I want her to understand that this is a serious issue and that even if, in an ideal world without rapists, she shouldn't have to worry about it, she should be aware of this issue and avoid stupidly risky situations.\n\nHow would you advise me to phrase my advice to her? Again, sorry for my bad english =/", "summary": "I want to tell her that she should be careful when drinking with people she do not know and trust, but I do not want to promote rape culture or terrify her"}
{"id": "t3_2fwpyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should my BF [26/M] have stood up for me [25/F] against his friends?", "post": "Back story: My bf (26/M) and I (25/F) have been together off and on for almost two years now. The reason for the break was because I left to go teach for a year abroad and to kind of find myself. I'm back now and we got back together. \n\n**UPDATED BACKSTORY** - The break up wasn't me breaking up with him to go abroad. We had talked about me going, staying together for the process, and having him come over on a visa for the last two months to stay with me. Three months into my journey **HE** dumped **ME**. Not the other way around. This was a job opportunity trip that helped me in my field of profession. I didn't cheat on him nor did I talk/sleep with someone after the break up. I focused on my job.\n\nLast night while out with my guy (26/M) at a bar we ran into some of his old coworkers. After some chatting the coworkers realized that I was the girl who left the country. They proceed to tell my BF, in front of me, that he should dump me, asked him why he was with me, told him I was a bitch and that I'll probably leave again. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when one of them stated \"Well, at least she lost some weight while she was gone.\" \n\nMy guy, though definitely uncomfortable with the situation, failed to say anything or stick up for me. I was left trying to change the conversation onto anything else that I could. They were drunk so I can look past the remarks but I can't seem to shake the fact that my guy didn't say anything to them to try and make them stop. He did apologize for their remarks afterwards but the damage was done. I'm not looking for him to fight my battles but I was very disappointed in how he handled the situation. Should he have stood up for me or should that be something I should do for myself when it comes to his friends and coworkers?", "summary": "BF's friends talked shit about me in front of my boyfriend and he didn't do anything. Should I be mad?"}
{"id": "t3_4pca0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20/F] and my boyfriend [22/M] have been dating for 9 months, too soon to move in together?", "post": "Ive known my boyfriend since Ausgust 1, 2015. We \"officially\" started dating I believe September 5,2015. \n\nWe used to see each other a lot, twice sometimes three times a week. However, due to new jobs we see each other maybe once a week. We've meet each other's families, have had holidays together and even went on vacation together. We've had our moments of down falls. Been through depression, a health scare, and job loses. \n\nHe is my first boyfriend and my first love. He's been in a serious relationship before we meet. I do love him and he is my best friend. I have a hard time getting along and being myself with people, but not with him. \n\nI think I'm ready for the next step, hell I think I wanna marry him. I know he cares about me but I'm not sure how he feels about the marriage thing.", "summary": "Known him for almost a year, dating 9 months. Want to move in together. Is  it too soon?"}
{"id": "t3_ducwb", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Where does the line go?", "post": "Iam not sure if Iam really asking for advice, but Iam not sure how to react. I was out last weekend and as always I got far to drunk. I ended up at a (male) friends house along with a couple of other people. When it was time to end the party I asked if I could sleep at the couch and I was told I could take the bed and my friend would sleep on the couch. I can't really remember what happend apart from flashes of him on top of me. I'm, not sure if he actually was in side me or if he just touched me. And even worse, I can't relly remember what my reaction was to it at the time. I woke early in the morning and left as fast as I could after yelling at him asking him wtf he thought he was doing and telling him that was not an ok thing to do.\nI don't have a bf but I just started seeing a guy casually, I called him and he came and picked me up right away. I tolk him i might ahve been raped, but he didn't seem to take it seriously unless I call the police about it. But the problem is that hes a friend of most of my friends, including the guy Iam seeing, and Iam not sure if I acted like it was ok for him to do the things he did. \nI got a text the next day saying \"Iam sorry for last night\" but I couldent respond. \nThis has really shaken me, I haven't told anyone who might have raped me, but now I find that I have trubble talking to his friends cause Iam afraid I will have to meet him again.\nSorry for the rambling, Iam very bad at putting my thoughts down on paper.\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "I was drunk, might have had sex, don't know if I gave consent."}
{"id": "t3_kwmji", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tax professionals? People who are working under W9/1099, I have a question or two.", "post": "I apologize beforehand, I am at work and trying to be a ninja about this.\n\nAfter being out of work for 11 months I jumped on the first job opportunity handed to me. Little did I know I was going to be placed under 1099. Now, from my understanding people placed under 1099 are contractual workers, working as well as getting paid on a project to project basis. On top of my 1099 I am also being paid hourly. This does not compute.\n\nI am not sure if what is being done to me is legal, or at least within decent business practices. After breaking down taxes (Federal and social security, haven't even looked into California tax) my \"hourly\" rate is less than minimum wage. (CA minimum wage = 8.00/hr.)", "summary": "I think I'm being fucked in the ass without lube, can some knowledgeable people shed some light on this?"}
{"id": "t3_3c7s3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) with my... friend (20M) after a drunken night out, not sure how to proceed", "post": "Hey reddit, I have a friend (John) who I've dated a couple of times since we were both about 14. Obviously, at 14, it's not really anything, but at 17 we actually went out for a few months, nothing serious. Then a few months ago we fooled around at a party.  Afterwards, we kept making plans to meet up but I cancelled because I was dealing with some intimacy issues from a break up last October. I'm doing better now though. \n\nThe other night, a bunch of friends and I went out and got pretty drunk. John and I hung out, kissed quite a lot, I (in a very blas\u00e9 manner) told him I quite like him. Now... I was drunk and can't remember *exactly* what was said, but I know he said something like \"well are you going to talk to me properly then?\" and him repeatedly yelling \"yes\" when I told him something feelings-related. Classy me! In the taxi home, he kissed me goodbye. \n\nSO I THINK it's fair to say there might be... something there. But again, he was pretty drunk too. I just don't know how to proceed, ask him out for a coffee? Talk? Just lie low and wait for him to come to me? I don't know! I've never been one to shy away from making the first move, but I'm stumped at this one because I made the mistake of being FUCKING DRUNK AS SHIT when I chose to make my move. Maybe I didn't even make the first move! It's a childish and silly situation I know, but god damn I like this guy.", "summary": "got drunk and admitted feelings for also drunk friend; I am idiot - how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_3qb7ao", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending Amazon a pic.", "post": "This actually happened this weekend and I've been thinking about whether or not I should share this with the world but here I go.\n\nI was taking a shit in my bathroom naked when I decided to check some emails on my phone. I had emailed Amazon the previous day to return some hair wax that I bought (the product I received wasn't the one that was displayed on Amazon)\n\nThe email from Amazon stated that in order to proceed with the return, I would have to take a picture of the wax and send it to them. No biggy! I thought and proceeded to finish taking my shit. After I wiped until white, I stood up and picked up the small container of hair wax and took a picture. I sent it to Amazon and went about my day. About a few hours later I receive an email from Amazon and I open it up and it stated:\n\nChoongsam,\n\nWe have reported your message with the picture to Amazon since you sent an inappropriate picture. We are going to close your return request and not authorize it.\n\nTLSS\n\nObviously, I was confused and had to recheck the image and lo and behold, I sent amazon a picture of the hair wax alright but at the bottom of the picture was my dick and balls.", "summary": "Amazon asked me for a picture of an item I wanted to return and I sent them a picture of my dick and balls. Definitely not getting my $20 back"}
{"id": "t3_1jq27b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] am nervous about my gf [19f] meeting up with a guy from her hometown.", "post": "Hey guys, been in relationship for half a year with my lovely girl. This is my first relationship so I want to know how to deal with this situation.\n\nA while back I was using her phone and she got a message on her social media website (she knows I know about it, but not that I actually found her profile). A guy she doesnt really know (loose acquaintance she put it) measages her Saying Hes coming to our town. She's from Russia so it's in Russian and she writes blogs on it so I like to read what she says. \n\nSo what he said was that he was going to surprise her with the date he was coming (I later found out using google translate). She made it seem like to me that she didn't really want to hang out with him since he's not even close to her, just a friend of a friend.\n\nWell I looked at her profile (it's public) and found out she commented on his photo being at the airport \"so ambiguous.\" So she messaged him as soon as he got to our city. I got curious and read it. I'm feeling insecure.\n\nShe doesn't know that I know. The guy is a single guy here and my gf is very pretty. I trust her, but this makes me VERY nervous even though I'm trying to rationally tell myself that it's ok.\n\nBut I can't get over that she really wants to meet up with someone she's not close to.", "summary": "girlfriend meeting up with an acquaintance from her hometown and I'm not sure whether or not I should be extremely nervous. I am extremely nervous."}
{"id": "t3_kn6rv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone had a problem canceling a Netflix account?", "post": "I signed up for a free trial month of Netflix this past June. About three weeks in I decided I didn't really need it for a host of reasons I won't bother getting into here. I canceled my account and Netflix.ca was asking me to re-activate when I logged in, indicating I was successfully canceled. That was that. \n\nFast forward to August, and I notice a payment on my credit card to Netflix for about 8 bucks in July, one month after clearly canceling the free trial. I called them and was reassured that there was some sort of clerical error, and that the matter would be resolved in the next few days. The guy on the phone said I would be contacted with a resolution to the monthly charge, and promised me that I would see no further charges. The only contact I had since was an email asking me to re-open my account, which I obviously didn't want to do. I never did hear about a refund, but life being busy and all I just let it slide.\n\nFast forward again to today when I see yet another Netflix charge on my credit card for August. Another (angrier) phone call and this time was refunded the charge from July on the spot (so she said, have yet to verify) and told that they have no record of me being charged in August. Despite my explaining that I had the bill *in my hand*, she had nothing on her end. I was once again reassured that my account was closed.\n\nI ended up calling my credit card people to get refunded the payment in August, and to prevent any further charges from Netflix. All in all I am far from impressed, and Netflix looks pretty shifty from my point of view. I certainly can't recommend them as a trustworthy company at any rate. Has anyone else experienced this kind of bullshit with them? I feel like I've been scammed.", "summary": "Tried free month of Netflix several months ago, and got charged for it over several months despite closing my account online and over the phone. Netflix has left me feeling scammed. Has anyone else experienced this?"}
{"id": "t3_2tv86k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of four years, employment problems are tearing us apart", "post": "Alright so I've been with my current boyfriend for four years now.  Closer to five.  We don't live together because he helps take care of his father recovering from cancer and I'm living at home while I finish school.  Still, we've had plans in the works to get an apartment together as soon as I finish school so we can start our joint life together.  Well recent things have sort of put a damper on our plans and I can feel ourselves not being as close.\n\nA little bit of backstory; He has ADHD and I have anxiety problems so we've both got problems.  I'm trying my hardest to finish school as fast as I can.  Well he recently got a really nice full time job as a salesman at an upscale electronics store.  He started in late November and everything was great.  He was making good money, with monthly bonuses, and things were going well.  We thought maybe we could definitely get an apartment together this summer.\n\nWell recently I find out he got terminated.  They didn't give him a reason they just said it wasn't working out and let him go.  They can do that because we have this thing where you can just fire someone for any reason in the US.  He's discouraged now and doesn't want to go back to his old shitty job at the shoe store he was working at before.  We've argued a lot about it because I think he should just suck it up and work there for money at least until he finds something else.  He says it stresses him out and depresses him too much.\n\nHe doesn't even know if we'll be able to afford an apartment now.  And I keep trying to talk about it but he doesn't want to.  And it feels like I'm nagging him but I'm worried all the time because of my anxiety.  And I feel like this situation has made us grow more distant but I don't want to lose him.  What should we do?\n\nNote: I plan on getting a job as soon as I'm out of school, but right now I'm taking 18 credits and I have an internship so a job right now is out of the question as I don't have the time.", "summary": "My boyfriend got terminated and now we're growing apart."}
{"id": "t3_lu8oo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am desperately looking for a Minecon ticket; who wants to sell me one/where  can I get one?", "post": "A colleague of mine and I are starting a Minecraft server hosting business. We were hoping to use Minecon as a way to get our name out within the Minecraft community. I thought that the Minecon site had stated that tickets would be available at the door. Well, I decided to buy one ahead of time, went to the site late last night, and saw that the tickets had been sold out. My business partner and I have poured a lot of time and effort into setting up our infrastructure, building servers and writing software to manage things. Bottom line is, I am going to Vegas either way. Ideally I would like to find someone to sell me a ticket before the event, but if worse comes to worse, I'll try and buy one outside of the event. Please sell me a Minecon ticket! I would even be willing to part with the cape and other Minecraft swagger. Please, someone sell me a ticket!", "summary": "Will trade soul for Minecon ticket. Seriously though, I will pay handsomely for a ticket. Just one."}
{"id": "t3_4600gr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should my husband[33M] and I[23F],married 3 years, have lunch with my former best friend[24F,we were friends for 7 years, haven't spoken in 4 years] who thinks he's a racist?", "post": "My former best friend[24F], Marie has never met my husband[33M]. When he and I started dating she wanted to see a picture of him,when I showed her one she immediately proclaimed him a racist and psycho. Eventually we stopped speak and haven't for 4 years.\n\nShe contacted me last weekend, she wants to go to lunch together and meet my husband. He says he'll go if I want him to.\n\nI don't know if we should meet her for lunch. I miss her sometimes, we were friends for 7 years. But I don't want her freaking out on us.\n\nShould we meet her for lunch or not?", "summary": "I haven't spoken to my former best friend in 4 years, she wants meet my husband who she labeled as a racist without meeting him. Should we go for lunch or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2nayck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "25F eloped with my now husband 26M and he won't tell his family or most of his friends", "post": "I've been bothered all week about the fact that my now husband and I eloped over a month ago and he still hasn't told most of his friends and family. I talked to my husband about how this made me feel last weekend and he was very apologetic. He told me that he thought I wanted to keep it a secret but now that he heard how I felt, he claimed he would tell everyone. Since then he has told one friend. He told me that his friend was upset and that she felt hurt. I became so angry at her selfishness and I wonder if it's the reason that he hasn't told anyone else. He claims that he thinks most of his friends will be hurt. I now feel like I'm having to prepare to justify and defend my marriage. This time that should be happy and exciting for us has been turned into a guilt ridden, stressful situation that just feels downright negative. My husband is attempting to spare people's feelings, but in turn is hurting mine. I feel like his mistress instead of his wife. Has anyone else been through this?", "summary": "My now husband and I eloped over a month ago and he still hasn't told his family or most of his friends."}
{"id": "t3_52yigo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25/m] asked out a girl [24/f] last year but never managed to go out on a date. One year later its happening again", "post": "Hey guys, \n\nLast year I started talking to a girl that I knew via mutual friends and eventually bit the bullet and asked her out. She agreed to go on a date and she said she will let me know when she's available to meet. She never got back to me about the time but she ended up telling me that she cant make it to the date. Instead she offered to go for coffee in uni the next day.\nUnfortunately, we met for coffee on campus, so it was close to impossible to have a decent conversation without a friend interrupting and joining us.\n\nFast forward a few weeks, exams piled up and we were both busy and so the conversations died down. I found some time to go and see her. I told her that if she wasn't interested, there was nothing wrong in saying so. To which, she said she IS interested but she was just busy a lot with studying. I was kind of annoyed at this and so I told her that she should choose a time and place for the next time we should go out and left to do the rest of my exams.\n\nAs the exams went on and the rest of the year went on, we talked less and less and we never ended up going out again. However, during the summer we started talking again because our birthdays were around then.\n\nWe came back to uni last week and I asked her if she wanted to meet up for coffee during the week and she said she wanted to. She said she would let me know the time to meet her. The day before we were supposed to meet up i bump into her and she told me that she would tell me the time to meet up. Surprise surprise, she never did, but in the morning we were supposed to meet up she messaged me to say that she forgot to tell me that she was busy with lessons and so she couldn't come out.\n\nNow I'm sat here writing and re writing this post because I don't know what to do or how to deal with it. \n\nWould appreciate any advice!", "summary": "Girl shows signs of interest last year  but never manages to make it to dates, when I tell her that she can say no to dating me, she says that she is still interested. Now its happening again"}
{"id": "t3_20m6dv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] Contacting a [20F] with only email info", "post": "There is a girl I want to ask out, but the only contact information I have for her is her email which I got from someone else. I don't want to try to ask her out through email, but I do want to find a way to talk to her in person so I can ask her. The difficulty is, she would know me by face but not by name, as I have seen her a few times but only talked to her briefly once. Without going out and trying to directly find her, the chances of seeing her again are very low for a long period of time.\n\nI feel there are two possibilities here:\n\nThe first option is to contact her through email to meet in person, then ask her. This feels a bit awkward to do, but I feel it's the better option.\n\nThe second option is I know where she *might* be and I could wander around trying to find her and possibly ask a few people who might know, but even if I do find her, it doesn't mean it would be an opportune time to talk to her.\n\nI'm not on any social network sites, but she seems to have a minimal presence there as well.\n\nIf I do contact her through email, how would I word it?\n\nAs a side note, I am a pretty recognizable person. Most people I've talked to recognize me when I see them again.", "summary": "How to contact a girl to ask her out with only her email address and little chance to find her in person?"}
{"id": "t3_351c49", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking my girlfriends nose", "post": "This happened yesterday but I didn't get a chance to post it sorry!\n\nSome background information we're both 18 and it was raining all day so we decided to stay on and watch some television, usually we go out and do something but today we stayed in.\n\nAnyway, my partner and I are laying in bed watching some boring program that she enjoys and I am forced to watch and she starts nattering away about something that I didn't listen to I kept replying to her with a \"yeah\" or \"yeah I agree baby\" it seemed to be working perfectly fine until she caught on and decided to sit on my lap to stop me looking at the tv or closing my eyes so I was forced to listen to her ramblings, anyway she notices I have a huge spot on my eye and it hurts like hell when anyone touches it and she knows this she always tries to pop the rare spot I get as she puts her fingers on it I flinch my legs shoot her into the metal railing on her bed and she hits it with quite some force, I'm there absolutely dying of laughter while she's there with a broken nose, let's say 3 hours in the hospital and a angry girlfriend isn't the way forward in life.", "summary": "girlfriend tried to pop spot ended up popping her one in the nose"}
{"id": "t3_t3wd6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This morning I had a vivid dream I was inside of Junior Seau's house. I just found out he was found dead. I'm freaking out a bit, do I have powers?", "post": "So, I had a fucking weird dream last night where I was in Junior's house with my mom as she was thinking about buying it. I remember being in his garage looking at some of his weight equipment and jeep lights on a shelf. My mom had like a giant yellow convertible 60's car...like a galaxy or something...that is completely irrelevant. I then had to operate as a spy for some organization in the backyard and make it to the 3rd floor of this building (also in the backyard) of his house. The facility reminded me of the MenInBlack...None of this matters and is all irrelevant...I woke up and told my girlfriend about the weird dream. Then a few hours later around 10am at work I told my office mate and co-worker that I had a weird dream about Junior Seau as well. He even commented at the time \"Who the fuck dreams about Junior Seau?\" well..bam 4pm I click on Yahoo and He's found dead. So obviously i'm freaked out a bit. I just called my girlfriend who also thinks it's weird as shit... The only thing I can think of is... my cousin lives in SanDiego and we've been emailing one another the last couple of days about what he plans on doing on an upcoming trip to NewOrleans. That's it. My cousin lives in San Diego and somehow I've subconsciously had a dream about Junior Seau for no reason at all. I live in Clearwater,FL.", "summary": "I had a dream about Junior last night; told my coworker and girlfriend about it this morning and they are equally as freaked out as me."}
{"id": "t3_496ffa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my friend [30 F] why do I have a problem with her and my dad [45 M] being together?", "post": "My dad and my mom had me at 15 hince the ages.\n\nThroughout my childhood I had a friend (Jane) who has turned out to be a very nice woman. My dad and Jane started to date when he was 35 and she was 20 at first I thought it was a fwb type relationship and I wasn't very happy with it.\n\n(A bit of side info: my dad met Jane when him and my mom were going through a divorce my mom cheated on my dad with several men and Jane was there for him)\n\nBut after the years they got more serious and even had a baby together (Nathan). They have another on they way and are engaged and seem really happy together.\n\nThey announced that they are getting engaged she wants me to be her maid of honor. I'm happy for them but don't feel right for some reason it seems gross to me for some reason and I don't understand why.\n\nWhen I see them all happy it makes me feel good but I still find it gross. Is there anyway for me to fix this?", "summary": "my dad is in a relationship with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_106wu5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [30] introduced me [31f] to his female friend [31], we really hit it off, and are now good friends, then yesterday I found out they used to date.", "post": "I have been dating this guy for about three months.  Last month I went to his buddies [M] house and the three of us were hanging out when their friend [F] showed up crying and upset.  I talked to her about things and we really hit it off, and I was super happy to make a new friend as well as get along with my BF's friends.  I have texted with her and hung out with her, and I genuinely feel she is a real friend.  \n\nThen yesterday my friend since childhood [30F] came over and we were celebrating the end of a string of long shifts at work.  We were pretty drunk.  So my BF and the female friend came over, started drinking too.  My childhood friend asked new female friend if her and my BF went to school together, or how they met, just making drunk meeting new people conversation.  They neither one will say, until finally they admit they used to date.  \n\nMy problem is figuring out how to be grown up about this.  I don't distrust either of them, I have no thoughts whatsoever that they are going to hook back up... I just don't like it and can't sift through my feelings to find the actual reason why I'm so upset about this.  At this point I just don't want to see or hang out with either of them.", "summary": "Boyfriend introduces me to gal pal.  I become friends also.  Find out they're exs.  Now feel shit city over the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_nqud8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can my workplace IT block a program from running on my home desktop?", "post": "I get a file permissions error (which is bogus, I have proper permissions) when I attempt to do any sort of torrenting on both my home desktop and the laptop that work gave me. It makes sense on the work laptop, they don't want to risk illegal activities and viruses and whatnot, but is it possible for them to spread this policy out across my home network? \n\nI've never had issues with uTorrent at home until I started this new job. I originally thought it had something to do with a new ISP (I moved for the job) but it really seems to be the workplace IT doing it.\n\nI'm not home to test this, but will turning the laptop off be enough to allow me to torrent on the desktop?", "summary": "can the IT department at my work spread policies out across my home network?"}
{"id": "t3_1rg5mn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and screwed up about 3TB of data.", "post": "A little backstory: I am living in this tiny apartment for a while, and because it is so small the only available space for my PC-tower is a space behind my desk. In order for the cables to reach my tower had to be facing away from me. \n\nFast forward to today. I am copying about 300GB of data (pictures and stuff mostly) from one drive to another, when I accidentally hit the power switch for my PC with my foot. After powering  back up I notice 2 of my drives are missing from the system overview (2x2TB WD green drives, both of which were pretty full). After a lot of work I have managed to recover about 600GB from one of the drives. Still haven't gotten anything good off of the other one yet, although I am still working on it using Recuva and TestDisk.\n\nHere is a recreation of what happened:", "summary": "Hit the power switch on my PC accidentally and potentially lost a lot of data."}
{"id": "t3_10u1ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [24]F am confused on what to do with my [27]M ex going through personal issues", "post": "I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months, it was going pretty swell in the beginning. We have a lot in common and could talk about anything openly which was something I never truly had with my ex. Things began to fall apart in the last 2 months of being together, these crazy insecurities would come out whenever he would drink. I mean ANYTIME he would drink it would be a complete shitshow, no matter who we were with ( my friends, his friends, co-workers ). It would be as if he felt that everyone in the room was making jokes at his expense or I was doing something sneaky behind his back. It got so bad the last couple of weeks i told him i had to stop seeing him, I was so embarrassed of the scenes and constant put downs at my expense. He has recently admitted to having a problem with alcohol and is currently trying to work through his issues. \n\nI miss him, it's hard especially since he is a completely different person when he is not drinking and is very caring towards me. I am not sure of what my position in his life should be anymore, I want to be able to help him through this but I don't know if we can handle being friends. What should I do reddit?", "summary": "Ex Bf drunk asshole, getting help and wants me to still be a part of his life."}
{"id": "t3_1nv2lu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my boyfriend [24/M] of 3.5 years, My boyfriend won't stop flirting with another woman.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot recently about this girl he met in his grad school program.  He and I started grad school together, but he failed the program last year. This year, he met this girl who also failed too, and he has been constantly texting, emailing, and chatting with her online.\n\nI told him how I felt, and he admonishes for feeling insecure about the situation. He said that I \"broke him\" and \"took his pride away\" because I do not trust him. My boyfriend tried to reassure me that he has nothing to hide and allows me to read his texts and emails.  He said that he contacts everyone in his program equally, but I stumbled upon his chat logs. He only talks to her during class, and he says stuff like \"you're amazing and so smart\" and \"you have the power of the pussy.\" I feel uncomfortable that they even say things like that to each other. He refuses to acknowledge that this is inappropriate and blames me for interfering with his academic success. He asserts that she is the key to his success; she is the ONLY one who will help him. \n\nI just don't understand because I finished the courses last year at the top of my class, and I am trying my best to support him again this year. He has so many peers and friends around him who are much more equipped, more intelligent, and more well-organized than she is. Why is he so adamant that they communicate and flirt with one another?\n\nI hate feeling insecure about this. I just don't understand why he gets so angry with me for feeling uncomfortable with their interaction. He dismisses my feelings, when I try to explain it to him, and he even said that those feelings of mistrust are \"psychotic\" and \"crazy.\" I don't know what to do. I am deeply hurt that he won't acknowledge my discomfort, my sadness, and my distress as valid feelings.  \n\nAre my feelings unreasonable? What can I do to allay the problems?", "summary": "My boyfriend flirts with another girl and yells at me for feeling insecure about it. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4fcw35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [21F] of about a year cheated on me [21M] while visiting school last weekend.", "post": "She told me last night when she got home from a three day trip to visit this school.\n\nWe had had a pretty big fight last weekend, and I needed time, so we hadn't spoken in about a week. She had been trying to contact me all week; I couldn't speak with her.\n\nShe left to visit the school Thursday morning, and returned on Sunday afternoon. She told me she was in a horrible place all week because I wasn't speaking to her.\n\nI was in the backcountry on Friday and Saturday and texted her as soon as I got out to tell her I was ready to talk about everything that happened, so we met up Sunday, and she immediately told me about what she did.\n\nI don't know what to do. She feels terrible about what happened, maybe even as terrible as I'm feeling right now, but I don't know how to forgive her, or even if I should. I feel as if I decide to continue this relationship, I'm going to lose some piece of myself. But, I still care for her immensely.\n\nShe struggles with some form of sex addiction. She slips into these dark places, and uses sex to try to make herself feel better. She's explained it before, but this is the first instance that I've seen it happen.\n\nShe was also under the impression that we were no longer together. After the fight, I cut myself from her completely--unfriended on social media, deletion of her number and all of her info, etc. Although, I never told her explicitly that we had broken up. She says she cheated on me unknowingly.\n\nIs there ever justification for doing what she did? Am I at fault here, too? \n\nI feel very lost and deeply disturbed by the whole situation.", "summary": "GF thought we had broken up, got wasted, and fucked some rando while she was visiting a school."}
{"id": "t3_xrauk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are we so interested in Mars or space in general?", "post": "The funding behind a lot of thinks is pretty straightforward, in my opinion.  Most biological and chemical research can be tied to understanding/curing/treating a disease or something about alternative energy.  That's what people pay for, that's what people want, that's what people need, so scientists do it. \n\nMost engineering is done for a few purposes: Defense. Commercial computing. Industrial manufacturing and things like...cars. Things we sell, things we make to make things we sell, and things to \"protect us\" or w/e.\n\nAnyway, why do we want to go to Mars? To determine the climate and surface radiation to plan for a human mission to Mars? - why would we want a human mission to Mars?\n\nTo see if Mars was at any point habitable - Why do we need to know that? Why would we spend billions of dollars and countless hours of work to determine that?  \n\nIt's an incredible feat, and space has always fascinated me, but what motivates these studies?", "summary": "Why spend this much money on space? What is it we need to know so badly?  How will this help us?"}
{"id": "t3_4iin74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Father [58ish?], essentially stealing a sizeable amount of money from me.", "post": "A couple of weeks ago I went to San Francisco for a work-related trip, and on one of the last nights there, my car was broken into and my camera kit was stolen.. About 6.5k dollars worth of equipment (I'm a photographer and I make most through photo gigs). My work doesn't cover personal affects, and I'm a graduating student so I don't have my own renters or homeowners insurance just ye, so my only out to to recovering some of my stuff is through my father's renters insurance. \n\nWe filed a claim, and he helped out with connecting me to an agent and such, and I was able to get a claim of 6k to replace my stuff. Doing some quick research I found that the claim could cover almost everything I've lost. Fast forward to now, and my father is reluctant to give me the money to replace my belongings. He has been telling me how money has been short and hard to come by recently, and that right now he doesn't have a stable income, and how this claim might increase his premium. When I showed him the list of what I lost and what was valued by the insurance company, he kinda scoffed saying how I don't need a lot of this stuff and I should find cheaper alternatives. He said he's been gracious enough to let me buy the body of my camera back but if he hadn't helped me, I'd be SOL. \n\nI understand money's been right for him, but I can't help but feel this is fucked up. I lost my stuff (all of which I paid for from my own work) and he's cashing in on the insurance claim. I get that his claim might rise, but I don't think it'd raise 4,000 dollars immediately. And the fact that he's leveraging how I wouldn't even had a chance to make a claim without him is even more fucked up. I've acquiesced for now because I'm graduating in a couple of days from uni (the tuition none was he paid for) and I don't want to create a scene with my family during the celebration time... I know this isn't fair but im not sure how to approach this.", "summary": "I file insurance claim to replace my stolen property, he's pocketing most of the money meant to replace it."}
{"id": "t3_2e263w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She[18/f] isn't my girlfriend( I am [19/m] ). She came back from a year studying abroad in Taiwan. She made a boyfriend over there. They are in LDR, yet she's having sex with me. Honestly, I don't know how I feel", "post": "I don't like the girl, let me say right off the bat. She is a very dear friend of mine, though. Before she left, we were hanging out often. We eventually began to fool around. Now that she's back, she tells me she made a boyfriend. Cool. I respect that. I won't make any sexual advances. Yet, she made the initial sexual advance. At first I was hesitant because she told me no sex. But I decided to go with it. First time, she felt awful for cheating, ruined the night. We go at it again soon, and several times. She doesn't feel bad, though. She even admits what she is doing is 'heartless'\n\nSo I found out she only knew the guy for the last 2 months abroad and yet she says she loves him and wanted to spend the rest of her life with him. So I'm thinking, \"really? Why are you cheating on him?\" I just don't know what to make out of this.", "summary": "Girl I fooled around with left for a year abroad. She made a boyfriend(2 months together). She's back and we're having sex."}
{"id": "t3_o2wto", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fannie Mae now owns my (new) mortgage. Do I have any options?", "post": "I just bought a house two months ago, got a phenomenal loan (15 year 3.75%) through USAA, and figured all was well. Reading through the mortgage terms, I knew there was a possibility that my  mortgage could be sold to Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac, but was told by a representative that as my credit was impeccable and my loan terms were so good, it probably wouldn't happen - regrettably, I didn't record that or get it in writing. \n\nMy question is, is there anything that I can do to get my money away from Fannie Mae? I realize that USAA will still service the loan and nothing will change, I just don't like the idea of my mortgage supporting Fannie Mae. \n\nCalled the bank, was told that there was no change in the loan, as USAA was still servicing it. After emphasizing how much I didn't like Fannie Mae, I was placed on hold while the customer service rep talked to her supervisor, and was told that there was absolutely nothing USAA could do, and even if we refinanced it would probably happen again. Emphasizing again that as the loan was serviced by USAA nothing would change from my end, she politely told me not to worry about it anymore.\n\nSo now I ask you, reddit, is there anything I can do without giving up my rather fantastic loan?", "summary": "Fannie Mae bought my mortgage, USAA says nothing to be done. Asking reddit if, in fact, something can be done."}
{"id": "t3_1sbwfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] have a problem with my SO [23/F] taking sides with her brother [25/M] when we have conflicts. How should I address this, as its causing a rift in our relationship.", "post": "Whenever the topic of my conflict with her brother comes into play, my girlfriend is always picking his side, and putting me down. Her brother is not exactly the nicest guy out there. He was verbally abusive and emasculates me in terms of my self esteem and introvert nature. I am not exactly the type of guy that wants to start a conflict. Though I am physically much more than capable, I don't see this leading to such an issue. \n  The problem is that my girlfriend is a nice person overall but holds her brother above me in many ways. She continuously insults and flares at me should I ever mention her/my relationship with her brother. This is causing some issues with our relationship. She said she doesn't care what I think, and my opinion is not an issue. I don't think I can handle this in a positive way. The mere thought of being in the same room as him or both of them at once is terrifying.", "summary": "GF's brother is abusive and bully.She's not going to admit or address it. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_37gakq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Soon to be homeless needs advice in Texas.", "post": "I screwed up by quitting my job without having a backup. First off, I felt it was a little unethical to work while knowing that I would leave soon. I'm in sales so the ROI on employees is a little further out than is typical in other industries.\nI was literally the last person left. My bosses, engineers, and fellow employees quit all as soon as I started. I was with the company for less than a year and didn't want to burn time on a shit company. I was definitely misled into taking the position.\nSeveral of the people I worked with assured me 100% that I could get on at their companies, but none have come through. That's why I'm in this situation.\nNot eligible for any unemployment.\nSo.. onto the question:\nFor those in Texas, particularly Austin, how / where can I get help (aside from begging) to pay rent / bills until I can get a new job.\nI'm about a week away from being evicted (not a notice, but the kind where the cops kick you out) and have literally negative 60 dollars in the bank.\nI have nothing really of value to sell and expect my situation to be temporary.", "summary": "I quit my job without a backup plan. Week from homelessness. How do I get help to pay rent while I find a new job."}
{"id": "t3_359t62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23] with my best friend [20F] of over 1.5 years. I have a crush on her and told her I need space", "post": "I hung out with her all day everyday and eventually developed a crush on her.She's been single for about 4 months and has always had the same bf prior. It slowly happened and I tried to prevent it but I can't anymore. I knew I never had a chance and she didn't feel the same way so I told her I needed some space because I started having a crush. She's mad at me because she thinks I was just being friends with her to get to date her which isn't true. She also has no friends in the area except me. \n\nShe can't accept that I need to change our friendship or understand how it hurts me to hang out with her so much. She was very depressed before I told her all this. I really want to be friends but she won't accept that I can only friends with her and not best friends. She's tried to get me to hang out multiple times since and I have to keep turning her down for my own health. I feel like shit and I'm worried about her harming herself.", "summary": "Female best friend can't accept that I have to not be close with her for my own mental health. She's a wreck. How do I get her to accept this with as little damage as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_452d1h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38F] with my {38M] boyfriend who I live with are pregnant, for second time. He is an alcoholic.", "post": "I am 38, am divorced with no kids or pregnancies until I met him, we instantly hit it off and everything was great. He has three children from a previous marriage. We became pregnant within a month when we first dated, unfortunately we suffered a loss at 4months, no reasons found, it just happened. About a month or two later, he ended up getting a DUI. He never really talked to me about things but I know he was hurting.  \n\nWe broke up about 2-3 years later, both his drinking and mine became out of control. I needed to leave as I was out of control and I used the time when we were broken up to sober up, get healthy. I did not think we would ever get back together. At this time I also accepted the fact that I just wasn't meant to have kids of my own. \n\nOn 9/1/15 we found out that we are pregnant yet again. This time around the doctors seem to be more on top of things, as this is considered a high risk pregnancy. The due date we have been given is 4/30 about two months away and the issues with alcohol are still there. \n\nI am at a loss, as he has said that he has a problem with alcohol but refuses to do anything about it. He says that it's a weakness, his weakness and he's trying to deal with this on his own. I see this as an illness and without outside help he will never get better. I don't want to have this ruin our relationship, but with his three kids and a newborn, it's just too overwhelming. I had just fully moved in 12/1/15, I had hesitations about moving in but felt I wanted to give things another try. \n\nHow can I help him, part of me thinks he doesn't want help or doesn't want to be saved. If so do I just up and leave?", "summary": "I'm 38 pregnant again after suffering loss, due date is getting closer and boyfriend still has issues with alcohol!"}
{"id": "t3_4jgqw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] am becoming increasingly annoyed at my housemate/friend [M21] for using my things/food.", "post": "It started when I began the year. I'd continuously notice that milk, bread, beer etc was going missing from the fridge. At first it was minor amounts, a can here and there, a small amount of milk, but then actual bottles that I had just bought began to go missing. I have 2 housemates, Panjeep and Eric. I initially thought it was Panjeep, since Eric and I are friends and I didn't think he would deem that acceptable.\n\nI eventually said to Eric that Panjeep was annoying me when he stole my food, and Eric said \"Oh, that has been me, I didn't want to say it\" before laughing. He thought it was a joke, he just said it out of nowhere, even though he must have known my annoyance beforehand.\n\nThe thing is, he still thinks it's acceptable. I confronted him again and he just laughed and told me jokingly to fuck off. He's allowed because \"We're friends\". He wont buy his own milk or cereal or teabags, and he keeps everything else in his room. I've started to hoard food in my room, despite that being disgusting, but he frequently uses the milk which I can't keep in my room.\n\nHe also uses my boxers and towels. I shit you not. We have not got a tumble drier, we have a close horse between us (Panjeep has a seperate one), and we have a side each. When he \"forgets\" to wash clothes he uses my boxers and towels which is fucking gross. I said this to him and he said \"we're brahs\" which pissed me off.\n\nUntil I can move the fuck out how do I deal?", "summary": "Housemate uses my food, boxers and towels, I need help, he's a moocher."}
{"id": "t3_y8x9e", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is it possible to lose the weight minus the exercise? ): (Back injury/back surgery) M/5'7/24", "post": "Ok well since late February 2012 I have lost 55 pounds(256-199 /fluctuating )but I have fallen off the exercise since I changed departments at work and was walking about 5 miles a day, I was working out about 2 hours a day 5 times a week and keeping the calorie intake at about 1200-1500.\n \nWell I was having back pains about a month ago and finally last week i could barely walk. went to the doctor and was told i needed to have back surgery because of two ruptured discs .\nI will be on bed rest for a little over 2 months . MY wedding is in about 12 weeks! I can feel the weight just piling on ! ): \nany tips on how to keep the weight off and keep from undoing what I've already worked so hard for?", "summary": "Back surgery pending can barely walk, wedding coming soon need help keeping the weight off with limited exercise."}
{"id": "t3_ebyhb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I teach Japanese swordsmanship and no one cares...", "post": "... and, on the whole, that is in no way problematic for me. I wager a great deal of people here fall under this distinction. \n\nHOWEVER, not owning a school and being forced to sneak-teach (not nearly as suggestive as it sounds) in public parks or sign into a contract deal at a local community center (which I am currently doing) teaching with the very, VERY few students I have is heavy in cost both in time and in money. At this point in time, I am losing money to the community center. 100% of what I take in from student/s covers 60% of the center's monthly fee.\n\nEasy problem to understand. Need to teach indoors due to high chances of inclement weather. Roof cost money. Money comes from Students. Have 1 solid student. No money :C\n\nThe solution is a bit more complicated. It's hard enough generating interest in the martial arts let alone a SWORD art. It's nigh impossible to get someone to understand the benefit of studying swordsmanship when many, many people have already decided ahead of time that they will NOT understand anything you try to tell them because \"I'll just buy a gun OLOLOLOLOLOL!\". It takes a very specific kind of person to earnestly study swordsmanship (I'm gonna say that studying consistently for longer than a year qualifies you as \"earnest\") and finding them is wickid hah'd. \n\nI've tried all of the low cost methods of advertising I could think of which, admittedly, is not many (dropping fliers around, craigslist ads, you know, free things). NOW I am beginning to wonder if a more... I hate to call it \"professional\" considering the many flavors of ads I've seen... let's say \"cost intensive\" approach might be better. Does anyone have any suggestions/ideas/thoughts on how best to approach attracting more students? Totally open to suggestions more abstract than \"place an ad in the paper\". The best ways are probably the simplest but I thought I'd swing by and ask while I was here :D", "summary": "I teach swordsmanship, I have nearly zero students, I'm bleeding money and I suck at marketing myself. How can I continue to teach and attract EARNEST students? Ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_1cs3m0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I Don't Know What to Do [18/m] and [18/f]", "post": "I've liked this girl since I met her my freshman year of high school. We dated my freshman year, but we were both awkward and ended breaking up. Now that we're both mature, I think it could work out well into the future. I've been in love with her for the past year, and have told her so, but she has a boyfriend. Last fall, she actually kissed me while she had been dating her boyfriend for a week, without telling me. She is a year younger than me, and will be working at a camp all summer. I will be going to college next school-year, possibly as far away as Virginia. What I want to know is: Is there a way to win her back over so that something could happen? Should I just move on? (I've had difficulty trying to move on for all of high school) I really want to actually date her and have her like me back. Sooo Advice?", "summary": "I've been in love with the same girl for four years and I've made several attempts to tell her. She has a boyfriend but she kissed me without telling me she has one. Is there a way I can make this work/advice? Please and thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_3s2zdq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating cauliflower", "post": "I'll try to keep it short and sweet. Nobody's gonna read this anyways, but I felt like I was dying.\n\nPretty much today I ran about 8.75 miles for the first time(I've only run 3 miles prior). I got home and drank about 4 glasses of water. 30 minutes later I ate fried egg, two sausages, and a fuck ton of cauliflower(substitute for rice or quinoa). 15 minutes later I felt my abdomen bloating up, as if someone was pumping air into me. For the next 30 minutes I kept burping because it relieved the feeling, but the gas just kept coming. I honestly didn't think it was serious until my face and ears started feeling numb, and I started feeling lightheaded. I thought I was gonna die. I was trying to work on a paper, but I couldn't think. I couldn't sit. So I started walking around the house burping. Thankfully, after vomiting, I just let it pass and felt better. I almost went to the ER, but good thing I didn't because that would be another embarrassing fuck up in itself. Even now, I still don't know if it was actually the cauliflower or not because it's so hard to believe a vegetable could do such a thing.", "summary": "I ate a shit ton of cauliflower. Started bloating like crazy. Couldn't breathe. Almost went to ER for a lame-ass reason."}
{"id": "t3_2jn8fx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my co-worker [23 F] ~1month, hooked up - now she is hooking up with different employee.", "post": "I just started working at an office job where I am an IT contractor. A female got hired as a temp soonafter and we hooked up twice. Within the first week of her working there. Fast forward like two weeks and she is hooking up with a full time employee now. Kissing inside the building we work at and I found out by questioning them leaving together almost every day. What do I do? It's got me all fucked up in the head and I have to watch this happen on a daily basis?\nWho flips a switch like that so easily and says, \"WELL I THOUGHT YOU ONLY WANTED TO HOOK UP AND I REALIZED I WANTED A RELATIONSHIP.\" She didn't even give me the option or share her feelings with me - just jumped ship. I am so confused and really just need some guidance here on how to deal with this in a work environment. This is a small office of 30 people with HQ located in Seattle so it is very intimate space in which I cannot avoid anyone. Help?", "summary": "I hooked up with co-worker. Co-worker hooked up with someone else in office - am now fucked up in the head because I have to go into work every day and watch them interact."}
{"id": "t3_3hl9nv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(23/f) have been in a casually seeing (30/m) for 6 months now, how do I ask him how he feels", "post": "Long story short. I met this guy online. Our first date went surprsingly well and second date was amazing. After that we hung out and had sex about 1-2 times a week for the next few months. One day I asked when what he wanted and he said he didn't know aka he wasn't looking for something serious. I was cool with that so we kept seeing each other but I started keeping an eye out for other guys who wanted a relationship. I met a really great guy a couple months ago and he wanted to get serious after about a month of seeing each other. When I told the first guy that I was going to start dating someone new our conversation went like this:\n\n*Him: oh that's too bad for me good for you.\n\n*Him: guess thats what I get for being unsure about wanting a relationship.\n\n*Me: I didn't know you cared if I was in a relationship\n\n*Him: sorry if I didn't make that obvious :(\n\nEver since this conversation my head has been spinning. I'm wondering if hes just sad that he lost his fwb or if he was really interested in possible getting serious with me. I brought this up with the second guy and we ended things because of it. Now I want to ask the first guy how he feels.. but I'm not sure the exact wording. I'm not wanting to get exclusive in a relationship this minute but I'm wondering if he is interested in that with me at all...", "summary": "how do i ask my fwb how he  *now* feels about me."}
{"id": "t3_p8nst", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit - what is your most random or inappropriate hookup? When/where/why/how did it happen and did anything come from it? Mine was...", "post": "with my political science advisor last August. I am currently pursuing a doctorate and my advisor is a younger professor - I was 25, she is 33. Admittedly, I am an enormous flirt and it was no different with her. I had first met her when I was an undergrad at the same school and I took a few of her classes - the flirting started at that point and continued right up until this particular night. She was in a relationship for a number of years but the guy cheated on her. She found out about it and was staying late in her office while having some beverages to wash down the sting of this news. I happened to have stayed late that night and saw her office light on so I went in and ended up getting the entire story. By the end of the story, we were both quite intoxicated - she kept a surprisingly large amount of alcohol in her office - and she brought up how I was always flirting with anything that can walk. It is a bad habit, one I can't seem to break. BUT, she said she liked it and always felt like I was genuinely interested in her. One thing led to another and we ended up making sexy time all over her office. We've been bumping uglies ever since but are keeping it a secret for the current time until I actually switch advisors (my school only allows it at the end of the year).", "summary": "I fucked my advisor."}
{"id": "t3_3aofyr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me[31f], him [27m] just moved in together... I can't help but fee like he's completely lost interest.", "post": "We just moved to a big row house in a city. We both share the second floor and there are three more people living upstairs and downstairs as well. I do have my own room...Unfortunately everyone is really busy and people are rarely home. \n\nI've tried fun stuff for him...leaving notes, buying him some big purchases (i know, i know), having dinner ready, other surprises.Some sexy surprises too... a lot of the times he'd rather play computer games than have sex with me ( I know, I know... reddit gf/wife syndrome)but even more that that he's just too tired to talk or have sex even. \n\nHe used to be so romantic and cute. Obviously the honeymoon phase is over, but I feel he's not even trying. I've even expressed we could have an open relationship (just none of that junk would happen in the house)... and I've told him how I feel. He says he understands, tells me he loves me, but tit's a lot of talk and no action. He used to make me feel loved and spacial... I don't want to go though the motions. Is the chase over? Having just signed a year's lease makes is so much more complicated:-/", "summary": "we just moved in, afraid he's lost interest. I've tried loads of stuff.. don't know what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_wys9a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [28/F] 98% sure I don't ever want kids, my live-in boyfriend [28/M] wants kids. Should we \"wait and see\"?", "post": "We're 28, living together for a year, together for almost two years now, known each other for several years. We love each other deeply and have no major issues. Marriage is often discussed.\n\n*My argument:* \nI do not ever want children, and unless something neurological drastically changes, I doubt that I will change my mind. I do not like children, do not want to spend money on them, and do not feel rewarded by the time I spend with them.\n\nI am considering getting my tubes tied at some point (in the next five years), and currently have an IUD.\n\n*His argument:* My boyfriend thinks that I will love children if they have my genes. I suspect he is right: if somehow someone forced me to have children, I would probably love it, because it is helpless and it needs someone to love it, and it is mine after all.\n\nBF says my life won't be ruined as he will be the SAHD, will make sure we have plenty of money socked away pregnancy.\n\n*My Offer:* I told him that before we turn 30, he has to spend a week caring for a child. And if he still wants a child, we will have another talk. It's possible my biological clock will somehow kick in, but it is unlikely.\n\n*His Offer:* BF says he will essentially be a single father if he has to, and raise the child by himself with a donated ovum/surrogate. But he doesn't want to leave me. This seems absurd to me, because if I am with him, I will be the secondary caregiver. His life will be different; he will presumably be a different person.\n\n\"We will work things out somehow,\" is his refrain. He doesn't want to think about how much of a dealbreaker this issue is.\n\n*Questions*: Is it time for us to break up, or do I really need to wait the extra two years? Is my BF's offer reasonable, or could it never work?\n\nI am very grateful for any responses, and if you need any more details, let me know.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are at odds regarding having children. I am against, he is for. He has made a seemingly absurd offer. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_30ad0p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bank closed my checking account because I had $0 balance for two days. What to do now?", "post": "I am a single mom.  I get no child support and my job only pays me once a month, so as you can imagine it gets pretty tight towards the end of the month.  I am in the process of paying off credit cards and building savings (thanks to lurking on this sub).  Aside from my monthly bills, I contribute to a 529 plan for my daughter, term life insurance, and a retirement fund.  I budget for my expenses very carefully and usually only leave myself a little bit of wiggle room for incidentals and a little for entertainment.\n\nI had a couple of expenses that went through the other day that just so happened to leave me with exactly a $0 balance in my checking account.  I knew I didn't have anything else that should be hitting my bank until I get paid on the 1st so I figured I'd just let it ride and transfer money in should the need arise.  \n\nI had to write a check today for an unexpected expense and immediately went online to transfer money in to cover it, but my bank had closed my checking account!!  I was completely surprised!  They wouldn't let me do a transfer and claimed that I would have to go into a branch and make a cash deposit and told me that even then it could take 3 business days to open the account back up.\n\nIs this common practice?   I'm worried, of course, that the check is going to be returned.  I'm really upset and really just not sure what to do now.  I was with this bank (Nevada State Bank) when they were bought out a few years ago and I stuck with them through the transition and all of its inconveniences.  I'm thinking maybe its time to move to another bank that will suit my needs and situation better.  What do you think PF?  Can you recommend another bank?  Obligatory apology for the wall of text.  :)", "summary": "My bank closed my checking account after having a $0 balance for two days.  What to do now/Should I switch banks?"}
{"id": "t3_eq21z", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I need to make $375 in a week to avoid eviction.  Please help me come up with ideas reddit", "post": "So I just got a voicemail from my landlord.  He's not very happy about not getting rent from me this month, I'm less happy about not having it for him.  I quit a job selling designer womens' underwear over the phone in November, ended up working at a pizza place as of Dec 1st, but haven't made nearly enough money there ($2.33 minimum wage for servers in Wisconsin).  It's a new restaurant and a number of factors have prevented it from having a busy opening, which in turn prevented me from making any money.  I've scoured Craigslist, the Sunday paper, Yahoo Jobs, everywhere to find gainful employment but can't seem to find/land anything.  Where did all the jobs go, I really thought we were better off in the midwest.  I'm running out of ideas and time so I figured why not ask reddit.", "summary": "I'm out of money, how can I make money quickly for rent?"}
{"id": "t3_1iktox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) have always found her (21F) to be the most beautiful girl", "post": "I'll start from the beginning.  I was 16 and my family went to a new church for a change, and on our first day there I saw her.  She was tall, fit, blonde hair, bluest eyes, amazing smile and the sweetest person.  Eventually I found out she was the pastor's daughter.  \n\nFast forward a little, we started attending the church regularly.  I was working in my church's nursery.  I've always been great with kids and loved taking care of them.  One day while working my boss said that we have a new volunteer.  It was her, \"Jane.\"  \n\nAt this point in my life, I was 16 years old, 5' 4\", looked 12, and weighed maybe 120lbs.  I had zero confidence.  So, given the fact that I thought I was pathetic and that she was this goddess I never asked her out.  I talked to her, but never made a move.  \n\nFast forward some more.  Our church now is a multi-site church.  This means we are the same church with multiple pastors in 2 different locations.  I have since been attending the new site because it is closer.  I went to school and graduated in Mechanical Engineering and have a fantastic job designing military aircraft components.  I am 5' 10\", 185lbs, athletic and very built and now know I'm actually quite attractive.  I've had 2 serious relationships since this time and dated a lot but I have always thought she was this incredible angel and that has never really gone away.  After switching to the new site (I was 18), I haven't seen her except when I see her tagged by mutual friends on facebook and good god (oh know I used the Lord's name in vain) does she look incredible.  \n\nI would love to go up to her and ask her out, but I don't know if I should make an attempt of some sort of contact first (i.e. facebook).  Would love some sort of insight.  Appreciate it!", "summary": "! - I've had a secret crush on this girl for about 7 years.  Lost contact about 5 years ago.  Want insight on how to approach."}
{"id": "t3_3cgvca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my new 'rebound' gf [33F] of one week.Don't know where to go from here.", "post": "I was previously in a 3 year relationship that ended (in May) due to many issues stemming from my exes emotional affairs, amongst other issues.  After breaking up I wanted to be on my own and clear my mind but found myself with too much free time and constantly rationalizing her behavior and wanting to go back. \n\nKnowing that was not a good idea I started going on dates, and hanging out with women to get my mind off her. I began seeing one of my coworkers and I really like her. We had been drinking and now wanting to make the mistakes I made early on in my previous relationship we had the \"exclusive\" conversation. She is beautiful and I really like her but I don't want to \"use\" her? If that makes sense. I am taking this really serious however I keep thinking that she's just a rebound and I'm a dick for using her.\n\nIts gotten to the point where I feel an incredible amount of guilt during sex, so much so that I go soft because I feel like such a shitty human being.\n\nAm I looking too much into it? Or am I really just using this woman?", "summary": "Recently broke up with ex of 3 years and immediately jumped into relationship with new woman and I'm not sure if I'm only using her or if its real."}
{"id": "t3_16x9tg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Can't get some certain people off my back", "post": "hey guys, ive been trying to avoid a few acquaintances or idiotic assholes as id rather call them. It was near perfect, my mobile started to fuck up, i had to move places and because of this i didn't have internet for a while. they couldn't contact me til my phone did actually get fixed but i placed them on reject number and also got internet but left them to see me invisible on fb. today a flaw was found, i left my phone on silent for the whole day, just looking at the phone again, i forgot to block 1 of them and now they've probably found out. \ni do this because i have friends that i trust more than them.", "summary": "trying to avoid assholes that do bad shit and use me for better friends that i have."}
{"id": "t3_2awrg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] buying a birthday gift for the girl I'm seeing [20 F], which one of these options do I go for?", "post": "The girl I'm seeing is having a birthday next month. I fucking like her. A lot. I'm planning on making her a card (kinda camp I know but it might turn out okay if I can pull it off) and getting her a gift.\n\nWe've been seeing each other a little why but it's not super serious as of yet.\n\nLast time we were together she was showing me some trendy ass plastic (3D printed?) jewelry she really wanted. It was a pretty cute necklace of some deer antlers. She was talking about her her friend might be getting her one for her birthday. I made a mental note of the product anyway.\n\nShe's going to see a band later this year (her favourite artist) and I was thinking about getting her a band T shirt. I know her size and shit (I think).\n\nWhat do I go for? The necklace that her friend may have actually got for her already or the band shirt which is a bit dorky but she might secretly like. She wears band hoodies and stuff some times when not getting dressed up. I'm stuck guys.\n\nAny advice here?", "summary": "Band shirt or necklace for girlfriend's birthday present? Someone might already be getting her the necklace though so what do?"}
{"id": "t3_247gi5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you keep conversations fresh and interesting when you spend so much time together? Me: [21M] Her: [23F]", "post": "The other day, I suggested we do dinner somewhere, and while my girlfriend agreed I detected some apprehension. When I asked her, she said it was because she doesn't like how she feels like we run out of stuff to talk about if there isn't anything else to do. During the week this is fine since we both have our individual lives going on and there's new things to talk about, but the weekends I guess can get a little quiet. When you've been together for over a year and you live together, seeing each other most every day, how do you manage to keep talk interesting? Especially with the summer coming up, we won't have classes to talk about.", "summary": "After over a year of being together, and spending so much time together, how do we keep conversations interesting when sometimes it feels like we've talked about everything already?"}
{"id": "t3_46v01t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F21) don't want to love my bf (M24) anymore.", "post": "I've been with Bob for 2 years. I love him very much but the past year has been rough.\n\nHe's always talking shit because I'm in school asking how that will benefit me for a job. He says I'm a bad driver because I'm a female and Hispanic. I have no say in what movie we'll watch or music we listen to. He says I have nothing going for me because I can barely get by now, I work retail but it's temporary. I'm getting into business but he talks shit about office workers saying they don't do any physical work. He doesn't like that I'm meeting new people or wants me hanging out with them. He doesn't like me wearing make-up, doing my nails or hair, or dressing up. He's hit me, left me bruises. He calls me stupid, bitch, slut...even in front of friends and family.\n\nWhy do I love him? I can't seem to let him go no matter how hard I try. He's a high school drop out and thinks he has it made because he makes $15 an hour. Please knock sense into me. Lovers should help each other and encourage, not belittle and make feel like shit. When I bring any of this up he says I'm too s\nensitive. I'm sitting in the restroom crying because he bitched about me crying in my own bed.", "summary": "I want to leave my boyfriend but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_1veabz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lead singer of a band gave me his phone number.. Now what (x-post from r/bands)?", "post": "Last night I went to a concert and ended up meeting the band after. They're pretty well known and I was psyched to meet them. I talked with the lead singer for close to an hour and he looked up his other tour dates for the next time he was performing near me, which is this summer. Then he asked me for my phone number and gave me his. I didn't see him give his number to anyone else that night.\nShould I do anything? Or was it just awesome that I have his number and nothing is going to happen? I'm totally happy either way.", "summary": "exchanged phone numbers with the lead singer of a well known band.. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_3rp22n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] husband [25M] is kind of a slob and won't clean up after himself. Am I being unreasonable?", "post": "My husband and I just moved into a new place with my daughter [3, biologically not his but he cares for her as his own] and I am currently 9 months pregnant. I stay at home while he works nights, usually coming home around 1AM or 2AM depending on the shift. My problem is that when he is home, he doesn't do anything. Dishes and trash litter his computer desk. Clothing lays around on the floors. Shoes are in the middle of the walkway. Boxes from our move are all over the place. \n\nDon't get me wrong... I don't mind cleaning up and keeping our home nice. It's just the added work and ignoring things I need help with (taking large boxes and heavy trash down two flights of stairs, for example) is wearing me out. I ask him politely to clean up his trash, not throw his clothing onto the floors, put his shoes away, put his dishes in the sink.. But I am always the one who ends up doing it. He comes home from work and plays videogames until around 6AM then sleeps until 5PM when he goes back into work. I have no problem with his hobbies but he can't even take 30 minutes out of his night to sort through a box of his junk that has been sitting out for a month??\n\nI don't know, r/relationships. I feel like I'm being selfish because I stay at home while he works. Yesterday I snapped and called him a slob which he seemed to be upset over. All I could think was, \"Are you surprised I think that??\" I have tried talking to him several times about this issue-- especially with the trash and clutter. I ask if he realizes that isn't safe, especially once our child is born and eventually begins crawling and exploring. He seems to just shrug it off and expects to simply gate off his computer desk once the baby becomes mobile. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask a grown man to throw away a pile of candy trash every once in a while. Honestly, I'm not even asking him to clean ANYTHING except for his own messes. Am I being a selfish clean freak or should he make some effort?", "summary": "Husband hoards trash like a dragon hoards treasure and I'm getting frustrated."}
{"id": "t3_45sfh4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [19] is frustrated with me because I [19] thinks the lack of sex is a big deal.", "post": "So usually me and my GF have sex about once a week sometimes twice, but mostly once, while i'd like it to be more often, i can live with once a week it's fine, because when we do have sex it's really great. But it's been over three weeks now, and i'm getting really frustrated. Every time i try to do anything while we are cuddling she just moves so she's not so accesable, e.g if we're spooning she'll move so she lays on her stomach instead. Even just if i try to grab her butt she'll get annoyed and tell me to stop in the most frustrated manner. It's getting to the point where i don't really feel like cuddling with her because i know i'll want to make a move, and i'll just get rejected, and sometimes it's just so much easier to be frustrated than to be rejected by your own GF.\n\nShe's noticed how frustrated i've been in the last couple of days, and i've explained that the lack of sex is a really big deal for me. She says she's been really tired in the las couple of weeks, and it's true she has been extremely tired going to bed an hour or two earlier than usual, and her usual is already earlier than me. I've tried to tell her to take nap when she gets home so we could spend more time in the evening, trying to give her a hint, but she always refuses.\n She doesn't get why it's such a big deal for me, and says that me being to frustrated makes her want sex even less.", "summary": "Girlfriend and i haven't had sex in a while and it really bothers me, it bothers her how frustrated i am."}
{"id": "t3_11lqv0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is auto insurance screwing me over or is this standard?", "post": "I got into an accident this morning. My car was side-swiped by a prius in a tunnel. No one got hurt. The other person agreed to take the liability as he hit my car since he didn't look for blind spot where I was at that instant. \nI called up his insurance company to file a claim. They took all the info and recorded that other guy is liable. Then they asked me to get my car evaluated at one of their body-repair shop which I did.\nMy car status is as following: it got scratches/bumps on the passenger side on back and front door sides.  Other information to be considered is that one week ago some guy keyed on the passenger side from back fender to the front. And the front door already has a huge-ass scatch and bump. I have ignored both of these so far and didn't filed a claim and I thought I will get it fixed when I will sell my car plus laziness.\n\nNow when body-repair shop guy submitted all the information with new scratches and old wounds to Safeco's (other guy's insurance) application, it gave out an estimate on only getting rid of bumps/dents. It clearly said that paint job will not be included as the back door had a key mark and front door had a previous scratch.\n\nI feel screwed over for not getting things back as is. Do I have any options or should I just shut the fuck up? They gave me an estimate of 770 bucks for odd jobs like removing the dents. I haven't talked or haggled with the adjustor at all.", "summary": "Got into an accident. The other driver is liable. His insurance company sent me over to their body shop for evaluation. They told me that with old scratches being present, paint job over new wound will not be done. They will only take out the dents. My pig is without any lipstick. Any solution?"}
{"id": "t3_4a90gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] have started sleeping with my boss [30 M], no one knows and I'm not sure if I should continue.", "post": "Hi Reddit.\nI've started a fwb-type situation with my superior co-worker, and no one knows about it. We've met up a few times now. I like to think it is purely physical (kissing, sex, cuddling) and I am definitely not looking for a serious relationship. He knows this.\n\nAs so many office relationships, it all started on a drunken night out. I've always thought my boss is fairly attractive, but I never thought about him in any other way than professional. One thing lead to another, it sort of \"just happened\". I think it's fun and exciting, but I don't see what the end game is. Is it possible to just work normally and be friends if the sex fizzles out?\nI also worry that one of us will catch feelings and our relationship at work will suffer.", "summary": "I'm sleeping with my boss, should I end it before things turn ugly?"}
{"id": "t3_1ooi1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16 F] dumped by manipulative boyfriend of 2 yrs [16 M]. How do I stop being so bitter towards him?", "post": "So I dated this guy. And he was great while we dated: funny, smart, caring, ect. but he has always been the ass-kissing attention whore type. He dumped me because the relationship had gone bad and I tried to move on, but every time he saw me get close, he would do something to keep me (hook up with me, apologize, tell me how great I am, you get the gist). \n\nEssentially, I was manipulated a lot by him and even though I don't love or want him anymore, I can't seem to move on. He has turned many of our mutual friends (that he was always closer to) against me and I'm just so bitter about the whole situation. Every time I get close to forgiving him, I'll be undermined by my anger at being alone without all the emotional support and friends I had before the breakup. Please help I just really want to move on with my life but it's hard because it's high school and he's EVERYWHERE.", "summary": "ex and I had a messy breakup. He manipulated our friends into thinking I'm a crazy bitch. Now I'm sort of outcasted by my close friends and I feel bitter. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1nmwy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] Met and amazing girl[19F], She lives in another state.", "post": "I met her this summer working at a summer camp.  I'm a pretty calm and honestly pretty shy guy.  Somehow by the grace of God she asked me and a couple friends to help her feed the horses (she was the horseback director).\n\nI had a HUGE crush on her for the remainder of the summer.  I don't think crush accurately describes what I feel for her.  I've had crushes but I can only describe this as finding my soul mate.  I was diagnosed with depression a couple years back, and no amount of therapy or pills made me feel the way she did.  She makes me want to get rid of everything I like and replace it with what she likes just so I can be with her.\n\n  I spent every afternoon this summer helping her feed. After the first couple of days the others didn't want to go out everyday to help, but I had my motive. I started to have some anxiety problems the days we couldn't feed together, and I pretty much stopped eating for just about 2 weeks and lost about 30lbs. I was under the impression that she had a boyfriend, and honestly I'm still not sure if she did, but she definitely doesn't now.  \n\nAnyway the summer ended and now we snapchat and text from time to time, usually with only a 2 day break of not hearing from her.  She gives me short answers for the most part which kind of hurts, but then she'll go and post something random on my facebook wall to get my attention.  Sometimes she doesn't respond to what I send and it really, really hurts.  I'm so confused.\n\nShould I keep texting/snapchatting her and get no response?  Should I wait for her to message me first? How do I get to know her better when she lives in another state?", "summary": "Met a cute girl, we hung out a lot, I went back to my state, she's in hers, how do I get to know her better?"}
{"id": "t3_pf2yk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Doesn't matter; had sex?", "post": "**What are some of your stories in which things got kind of weird, but doesn't matter, you had sex?**\n\nMine goes something like this: It's Spring Break during college and I'm hanging out with my ex. At some point she noticed I had a bunch of blackheads on my face, which I used to let her impulsively pop when we together. With puppy dog eyes she starts asking if she can pop them for old time's sake. With no actual intentions in mind, I relent under the condition that in the spirit of Spring Break, she take a shot for every one she pops. She does five (5) pop-n-shots, during which I match her anyways as I am a gentlemen.\n\nSo some time passes and we are on my couch just talking when she says she wants to pop more, but she doesn't want to take any more shots. I'm buzzed and so of course my mind starts going places. She's easily a 7+ and has this new bellybutton piercing that is kinda grabbing my interest. I don't go fully for it. Instead I get her to remove various articles of clothing in exchange for popping... until she is completely naked. Sadly, afterwards she gets under a blanket.\n\nNot long after, she notices I have a boner and seems a bit bothered. I apologize and tell her I can't help it. Nevertheless, she admits there were still a few she wanted to pop. After some negotiations, I let her pop all of the ones she wants on the condition that she get on me cowgirl style and I get to play with her ass while she is doing it. After the fun she gets back under the blanket. However, the ass-grabbing seemed to have turned her on, as shortly thereafter I noticed she was masturbating under the blanket.\n\nFrom there it becomes trivial. I offer to eat her out and she accepts. At some point she tells me to get a condom and we do our thing. She falls asleep on my couch and I go get dinner at the dining commons.", "summary": "Got an ex drunk, then naked, by letting her pop my blackheads, then hit it like a boss."}
{"id": "t3_4ltdg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] got in a fight with my closest [20 F] friend, she stopped talking to me and don't want to make things worse", "post": "Hi!\n\nWall of text incoming.\n\nAs the title says, I got earlier today in a fight with one of my best and closest friends, lets call her Julie. Julie and I have been friends for several months, being really close to each other and talking about everything almost everyday.\nAs all friends we use some humour and memes and the like to keep laughing a lot of the time. She suffers from depression and anxiety so I try to keep her distracted as much as possible, sometimes she is a bit angry or distant and I know that I should keep my distance.\nWe had arguments before, mostly because one of us says something and it's missinterpreted by the other one, leading to discussions but usually settle down by talking about it.\n\nHowever today was the exception, we were talking as usual and we started talking about gold diggers in relationships (because of a meme), and she said something like \"I'm going to get rich and pay a man to be with me\" and we laughed at it, she suggested an actor for what she said \"He wouldn't even notice me, he only likes supermodels\" so I said, as a joke of course, \"Use your money to get a dream body and then he'll have no choice\". I thought we were joking so didn't make a deal out of it, however she did. She replied \"That hurts! I don't want to be your friend anymore, if you think I'm a gold digger, you are wrong!\" and she proceeded to block me everywhere. I sent her an old-school sms trying to apologize but got no response. I was thinking on calling her, but don't know if that's a good idea. Do you think there's still hope for saving the friendship? or shall I assume I've lost her?", "summary": "Made a comment thinking we were joking, friend took it too serious, doesn't want to be my friend anymore, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_r4koo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "4 days ago I drank a bit, cracked my skull open, woke up in the ER and am still in hospital. Almost had brain surgery. Anybody else drink themselves into the hospital?", "post": "So i drink a lot of days. Only beer. Usually 1 or 2 after work. But every couple of weeks I like to cut loose and get a buzz. Usually I'll walk to a neighborhood bar, meet some friends, drink a little too much, stumble home and enjoy a Saturday hangover. Been doing this for many years. I'm in my 40's. No problem..until last Friday.\n\nSo somehow I end up getting stupid-hammered. Way too drunk. Not sure how that happened. While walking home I fell twice, and the second time I cracked my cranium on the street and was knocked out, blood pouring from my head into the street. Fortunately my brother was with me and he dragged me out of the street and called 911. I wake up early the next morn in ICU with nurses and docs holding me down and so much puke flying outta my face. Those poor people. I start to learn what happened: they stitched my head up, dressed up my face and considered brain surgery to reduce the swelling. I still have some swelling, and a thin film of blood around my skull. My potassium levels, sugar levels and sodium levels were all low, so they have been replenishing them. They were going to let me leave today but my sodium level is still only at 130, they need 137-145 or I might have seizures. Hopefully tomorrow. I've been eating salty chips, sodium tablets and gatorade.\n\nToday was the first day I could walk unassisted, getting stronger everyday but it's tough. Time to reevaluate my life and start making better decisions. I could've ended up dead this weekend. Quite the wake up call.", "summary": "Drank too much, ER, narrowly escaped brain-surgery, wanna stop being a loser!"}
{"id": "t3_rvfu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it wrong to have investments in bad politics?", "post": "So I just came in to some money.  My late grandmother set up the portfolio, and much of it is in wide-ranging index funds (nuveen mid-cap, to be specific).  This fund tracks a very, very wide variety of things, but is heavily invested in things like old media (Viacom, AT&T, Comcast), energy (oil+gas companies), big agriculture, big pharma, basically everything I am politically opposed to.  My question is this: is it wrong for me to invest in stuff like this, if I think it is good for me financially?  I am a realist, and though I think Halliburton should crash and burn, odds are it will continue being successful.  If I promise to spend some of my gains on arts and science, does that make it ok?", "summary": "does personal politics mix with personal finance?"}
{"id": "t3_3a8yn2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a good roommate.", "post": "This is going to be short and sweet.\n\nI am currently renting a room in a house with 3 other roommates, we get along great and have a lot of respect for each other. The floors in my house are very creaky and noisy, also the doors make a lot of noise when being opened so whenever possible I try to avoid leaving my room during very late hours. I am a very creative mind so I spend a lot of time awake during wee hours so it can be difficult. \n\nIt's really late one night and I need to use the bathroom, pretty simple...but tonight I was feeling extra courteous, courageous and confident and decided to urinate inside of a water bottle in order to 1) not awaken my roommates and 2) fulfill my lifelong dream of urinating in a bottle.\n\nThis didn't go over as smoothly as I thought it would...the circumference of the water bottle was no where near big enough for me to ahem...properly utilize. I ended up urinating on my bedroom floor, and in efforts to reverse my FU ran to the bathroom successfully awakening my roommates and relieving myself.", "summary": "tried to take a piss at 3 am and didn't go over too well. Long story short...they need to make bigger water bottles."}
{"id": "t3_3byz51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (15m) am being pushed away by my best friend of 10 years (15m) for odd reasons", "post": "I don't know if this is the right subreddit so sorry I'm writing this on my phone as well. Recently on multiple occasions my best friend since I was 5 has been rude and ignoring me for what I view as stupid reasons. He bought this video game a while back that is going to come out free in a bit and wanted me to buy it, I said I have no money and he shrugged it off saying no problem you can get some.\n\n But I forget about the game and go buy another game and he flips out at me saying thing a like \"I don't want to be friends with people like you\" and blocks me on all media platforms. He has done this twice now. I consider myself a tad bit oversensitive I'm not going to lie and this bugs me a lot. I would really appreciate some advice reddit. Sorry if this is supposed to be a marriage or dating help but I didn't know where else to go. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Long time friend is ignoring me and being rude for stupid reasons"}
{"id": "t3_1tq2qb", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Guest list nightmare", "post": "I have been engaged for a year and started off planning a medium wedding with 75 people. We had to move the wedding up by 4 months as of last October thanks to Obama care (that or pay a $300 fine). We also are passing for the bulk of things ourselves as no one offered to help us, and realized that to keep the list that size was at least $3000 more than we could manage. We cut the list down to 35, essentially immediate family and wedding party plus those helping us. due to family drama we bumped it up to 50 which still worked as that is how much our catering package and venue hold (max). Things were finally coming together and I was feeling good about getting this done.   I am exactly a month away from the wedding, invites have all been received, and now my mom decided that my list is still to small and she will pay for extra catering and cake and whatever else we need to double our guest list. My max is 50, to do that, I would have to completely start over in planning, again and I only have a month and would essentially have to contact everyone and tell them to throw away the invite they just got and replace it with whatever we figure out. I would need a new venue, New church, possibly new time and catering.  I don't even know who would be invited! \nI just don't know what to do!", "summary": "Mom wants to pay for me to double my guest list a month away from my wedding which will make me have to start planning all over and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_fbdfv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How hard would it be to move to Canada?", "post": "BACKGROUND: I'm a student studying History in the UK. Like many others, I'm doing a degree which won't benefit me much in the next ten years; I'm going to be up to my elbows in debt and have no desire to get an office job in order to pay it back. In fact, university for me has just been a formality that I'll be glad to see the back of; my parents wanted me to go, so I went; this is the last thing I have to do before I can start living my own life.\n\nHow hard would it be to move to Canada (after I finish my degree) and start living a life there? I chose Canada because, well, honestly it's because of the Cannabis culture over there. I'm a writer and I feel like I'd have something cool to write about over there; I'd love to become part of the legalisation movement, become a grower, whatever: I just want an adventure! California is also a viable option.\n\nI realise that this is a bit of a crazy pipe dream, but seriously I'd like to know how possible this is. Will my debt make it harder to get a VISA? Is there any work over in Canada? Would I be better off moving somewhere else? Are there any skills I should be developing? Am I just a naive idiot who doesn't stand a chance? Should I just go and work in I.T. or diplomacy like my parents want me to?\n\nI'd appreciate any advice you can give me.", "summary": "English student wants to become part of the Cannabis legalisation movement in Canada/California/Colorado/anywhere! Doesn't want to grow up to be a boring guy in a suit. Looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_12vv7m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should the past matter now? 21[M] 24[F]", "post": "So, I've been in a relationship with a girl for about four months now.  Everything is going great, we are connecting in a way I never have before, we have so much fun when we're together, we are both rational and honest with each other, and not to mention the sex is bananas.\nThere's one thing that creeps into my psyche every now and then, though.  When we were talking about our dating history, I tell her that I have only had sex with four women and have only had one other very serious relationship.  At first she doesn't tell me how many guys she has seen but lets me know that it's more than mine.  Eventually she asks if I want to know how many guys she has slept with, I say sure and she tells me that she has been with around fifty to sixty guys.  She explained that she had a bit of a problem with her self esteem in college and looked for approval in men.  I was shocked at first because this number, in my realm of little sexual experience, is staggering.  I still didn't care too much seeing as how we were both tested and clean and I'm attracted to who she is now and that has little to do with who she was then.\nI said that but every now and then I get this weird feeling of inadequacy/shame/envy about it.  I feel daunted in the light of her sexual shadow, I also wonder about what kind of person could just have sex that emotionless and casually.  I know it shouldn't matter but it's the only thing that creeps doubt about this relationship into my head and it is the only thing I am not completely honest with her about.\nI know I must be the millionth guy to freak out over his girlfriend's sexual past but I haven't found any good ways to think about/forget it.  Do you guys have any ways of shaking off or forgetting about someone's sexual past or does it really say something about them?", "summary": "Girlfriend has had sex with 50+ guys and I want to stop thinking about it."}
{"id": "t3_1yv04g", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Hey /r/Travel-- I'm looking to travel to Birmingham, AL for the Summer and I have some questions?", "post": "I apologize if I seem like I'm 'trolling' in comparison to the rules (they're quite intimidating and I hope you understand it's my first time posting here!) But I'm a guy in high school who's looking to see his dad one more time before I graduate, and if the situation becomes worse, he becomes terminally ill. I'm not here to give a whole life story, but the basis behind my travel, simply put;\nMy dad is sick and has previously had his appendix removed, now turning 59. He recently went to the Emergency Room due to heart problems in the middle to the night. He's a melodramatic turd sometimes, but my fear of his passing has been pounding my mind quietly.\n\nI am NOT an 'adult' in legal terms. I am sixteen years old and live in Seattle, Washington. I am looking for the cheapest way to get down there, departing at any time through 6/25/2014 & 8/17/2014 (Although it'd be nice to be with him during the 4th of July to see Thunder on the Mountain like we'd always would.) \n\nI've debated with my parents about Amtrak or Greyhound, and unfortunately with Amtrak the rates add up to be 600$. As for Greyhound after a few clicks, I'm surprised to see the rate being so cheap for the 'advance purchases', a possible estimate of 300$ round trip. Granted, no matter what the cost my parents will likely have an issue with me taking the bus.\n\nI usually fly Southwest Airlines, but after I while I've gotten my parents to allow me to start browsing prices for other airlines.", "summary": "Dad's sick, what's the cheapest round trip during the summer during the summer months? (Preferrably airline)"}
{"id": "t3_36i7dt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Headteacher beat me when i was 6yo in the middle of the playground. 1996", "post": "Context - ( apologies for grammar and spelling ) I went to a Church of england primary ( elementary ) school and in that school we had a choir. All boys must try out for Choir regardless of how you feel about it. Anyway i was out on my break playing football when the last person who tried out came up to me and said it was my turn. I simply said i was not going and carried on playing football, I had no interest in singing and didn't see any reason why i should be forced into it.\n5 minutes later while happily playing football i felt a large hand grab the collar of my shirt and then heard shouting and look up in horror as my head teacher starts wacking me VERY HARD on the leg, stomach and arse. the whole playgroud stops and watches. next thing i know i am being dragged inside the school by him ( the head master ) and he tells a teacher that I'm crying because i dont want to try out for the choir..... This is when she calls me pathetic.\nAnyway Basically i got beaten into trying out for choir and tried to do as bad a job as possible but he still put me in it just because he knew i would hate it. Time goes by and i don't mention to my parents about the incident as i assumed teachers could just do that..... My parents both found out, but not through me. most of the other kids who witnessed it all went home to tell their parents who in turn told my parents.\nMy mum but an official complaint in and it was going somewhere but we recieved a letter from the department of education stationg that \" for the best interest in Fluffyballsucker's further education we think its best we just let the matter drop Mr child beater has admitted the offense happened \" SO my mum took that as a threat and dropped it.\nWhat i want to know is. can i do something about it? It really messed me up made me give up on education and i still see red when i think about it to this day. Their were other times he hit me which i never told anyone about.", "summary": "Was beaten by my head master and want to know if i can sue 20 years later."}
{"id": "t3_io2aj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does driving like a dick make you a bad driver?", "post": "So I was thinking today, I'm a good driver (over 1 million miles with no accidents), but I'm a total dick on the road.\n\n I gear down instead of hitting my brakes, so it comes off like I'm riding your ass but I'm just trying to save energy. On the other hand, I do ride close if someone is going excessively slow or not merging.\n\n I drive faster than the speed limit almost all the time, despite over 30 tickets for various minor traffic offenses. \n\nI slalom through traffic, if I deem it to be safe. But I do not sit in my lane waiting to merge, I do not sit behind a slow driver. \n\nI honk at pedestrians if I have the green light and they try to cross, and I don't yield for them. It's MY green light.\n\nI flash my high beams when someone is going slow in the left lane, to tell them to let me pass. \n\nI overtake cars on double yellow line roads (legal in my state). The most cars I've ever passed at one time on a 2 lane road is 6 (never felt unsafe for a second).\n\nBasically, as I said before, I'm just an aggressive driver. \n\nHaving said that, my car has a braking difference that's half of most production cars, 300 horsepower and 300 ft/lbs of torque, so I can overtake quickly. \n\nSo am I a bad driver? Or just a total dick.", "summary": "I drive like a dick, however my experience shows I'm a safe driver. Despite my experience, am I still a bad driver since I drive like a dick?"}
{"id": "t3_29egjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/f) think my bf (25/m) still loves his ex and feel like we're competing.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He had a long distance thing with this girl. He was obsessed with her in the beginning but gradually over time he realized that he didn't want to do a long distance relationship. Right around the time they started becoming distant, we met and had a one night stand. \n\nWe hit it off really well and he decided to break things off with her even though they weren't talking as much anymore and weren't exclusive. They mutually agreed it wasn't working out and he offered to still be friends. She declined and blocked him on social media.\n\nA few weeks after this, someone brought her up in conversation and he just shut down. Avoided the topic. I asked what that was about and if he has feeling for her. He said no, just that it didn't work but that he didn't think anything bad of her at all.\n\nI feel like I'm still competing with her even though they haven't talked. He hasn't tried getting in contact with her via text or anything but I feel like that's because he's hurt she didn't want to be friends and not because he doesn't care. The only reason they didn't work out was because of long distance. He finds her beautiful because well, she is. They have tons of things in common. They're the same religion. The list goes on and on. Plus, now that she made it clear that he can't have her or whatever, that might be even more of a hit to his ego. Like she's this unattainable woman that he won't get to be with only because she won't move here!\n\nLately he has been posting Facebook statuses about \"working it out\" and one that said \"she's still just like me\". I feel like this is a direct correlation. He said no, that he liked the lyrics. Yeah, but who posts lyrics that aren't somewhat fitting?\n\nHow do I make sure that he actually prefers me to her and that he's not just with me because she doesn't live here?", "summary": "I feel like my bf still loves his ex because they only broke up over distance. They do not talk."}
{"id": "t3_12a7za", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend is in a terrible relationship and I don't know how to get her to see it.", "post": "So I don't know it this is my place, but it's worth a shot if I can get some advice on what to tell this girl. \n\nI(18f), have a friend(17f), who is dating an awful guy(22m), and she doesn't seem to see it. She has been seeing this guy for about 10 months. He work on the rigs up north and goes away for 21 days and then is home for 7 days. For the past 10 months he's been telling her everytime he is at work that as soon as he gets home he is going to commit to her and they will be official boyfriend and girlfriend. Everytime this has been a lie to convince her to do something sexual with him For a couple months he even started to tell her as soon as he gets home he is going to propose to her, but once he got home he 'didn't have money to'. \n\nOver the amount of time they have been seeing eachother she has been on dating websites seeing and hooking up with other men. They had \"an honest discussion\" the other day, and he admitted to sleeping with mutiple women. Now I know that they weren't commited during this time but everyday he has told her he loves her and \"she's the perfect woman, etc.. Apparently now they're trying to work things out. How can I explain to her they will never be able to trust eachother? She insists on havig all this social network passwords and when he's at home she constantly had his phone. \n\nI just wish I could help this girl; her parents are basically non existent and let her do whatever she pleases, I feel like the only person she has to guide her is me. \n\nAlso... She has a 15 year old sister and this creep adds hers little sisters friends on Facebook and flirts with/ hits on them. He also gave her a disease, it was curable, but still.. Why aren't these things red flags to her?? Once again I know it's not my place but my heart just bleeds for her and I can't watch her get hurt constantly by this ass.", "summary": "Best friend is in a very unhealthy relationship, gets used for sex lied to, cheated on and he likes little girls... What can I say to help her understand this is an unhealthy relationship. "}
{"id": "t3_2y7oqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my Romantic Interest/possible GF [34 F] of a few weeks, is it weird to tell her I miss her?", "post": "I met this girl a while back. We've been on a date every 2 days or so since we started seeing one another. Our relationship, which has yet to be defined, took a turn to physical intimacy lately. Now she's out of town for a few days, and we talk every day, but I miss her.\n\nWould it be strange to tell her I miss her, even though we've only been out about a dozen times? I don't want her to think I'm clingy, because I'm generally not, but I really do miss spending time with her. I try not to over think these things, but sometimes I can't help it.", "summary": "Dating a few weeks, but we've been physically intimate, is it too early to tell her I miss her after she's been gone for a week?"}
{"id": "t3_22xo67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my FWB [20 F] Dealing with Jealousy", "post": "Since January, I've been seeing my current FWB. She's great, the sex is fun, and we enjoy each others company.\n\nHowever, lately, my feelings of jealousy have been creeping up. She enjoys chatting with other guys, found using Whisper. While I tell her it doesn't bother me because we're not exclusive by any means, I cant help but feel a little hurt. We're pretty darn close, having told each just about everything in our past. We talk daily about everything on our minds. When shes having a hard day and at her emotional breaking point, she turns to me for help.\n\nAm I wrong to have these feelings? I understand that we got into this on a FWB status, but as we've talked and been together, it feels almost like a serious relationship in every aspect just with out the BF/GF title.", "summary": "My FWB has flirty conversations with strange men. I'm feeling jealous. Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_420xt1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to file freelance income on taxes?", "post": "Not sure if this is the right sub to post this in but thought Id try here first.  I work a full time job and have a w-2 for that, but made about 800$ from a freelance project last year.  I was wondering if I should file this as 1099 like a freelance project (so I can write off some of my expenses i.e. my website etc.) but not sure if that's how I do it since its not that much money.  I sent an invoice for this amount, but never filled out any paperwork (like social security etc.).  Im currently using turbo tax to file, since it is the easiest way, and im not good with any of this tax stuff.", "summary": "How do I file freelance $ for taxes"}
{"id": "t3_bjiw3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need help getting over my first serious, long term relationship.", "post": "I'm 24. I got into my first serious relationship right before turning 21. He was 6 years older than me and in college. I was attending cosmetology school at the time and had big plans to move when I was finished. We fell in love, became really close and spent the next two years together. When the time came, because out relationship was not going as smoothly, I decided to move even though he couldn't at the time. We spent the next year in a LDR, visiting each other often and making plans to have him move out here. Over time things just didn't seem to be working out and I felt like we were stuck and not growing. I had a hard time being in a new, exciting place and keeping up with a LDR. I broke it off for those reasons back in June. He had a new girlfriend by August. I tried to stay his friend but his new girlfriend wasn't comfortable with it, and it eventually led us to not speak to each other. It's been 9 months since we split, and I still think about him everyday. I still cry about it. I don't know if it's because he's in a new relationship and i'm single, or if it's because we're not friends, or if it's because I'm less experienced in love. I want to stop being hung up on it, but I need advice.", "summary": "Ended first serious relationship, having trouble getting over it."}
{"id": "t3_4usqj3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to work sick.", "post": "So about a month ago, I got back from a vacation and mysteriously contracted a bad case of the cold or sinus infection. I had a high fever and my head felt like a fusion explosion of mucus imminent to happen. So I called in sick for one day, during the worst part of this menacing sickness. (BTW, I have a thing about not calling in 2 days in a row, I feel like im doing a disservice if I do) So, the next day, I was still feeling pretty shitty, I decided to go to work anyways as not to break my rule. I work in a customer service center, so everyone works in close proximity of me. So i went through the whole day, sniffling, coughing, and sneezing around the office, being stupid and showing no concern for getting other people sick, and i would soon learn that would be my downfall, unknown to me that my sickness was of utmost potency and contagiousness.\n\nSo about a week later, I was feeling good as ever, completely over my sickness and ready to work. When I got to work, I found an abandoned office. Everyone (about 15 people) but my manager and one other coworker who must have been a walking white blood cell, had called in sick, leaving me to take on a payload of all of them. This went on for about 2 days before some of them showed back up to work. It was the most stressful week of my life.", "summary": "Went to work sick, contaminating every single one of my co workers."}
{"id": "t3_1j8rap", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I've been able to read conversations going back and forth between my married father and other women besides my mom about sleeping together, future meet ups, etc. No idea what to do", "post": "I suppose everyone will wonder how I'm able to view these texts. I'm not spying on him, (well, in a sense I'm not). My father and I have iPhones, and he logged into iMessage on my phone, and I guess that if he uses iMessage on his phone, if I'm logged into his account on my phone, I get all of his conversations. \n\nNow to the juicy part, for a lack of better terms. Over the past few days, I have read conversations of his to random number such as, and I quote, \"Wife is out of town. Wanna meet up? Name a price per hour.\" and also - \"Want to meet up? Missing you :( \". \n\nWhat scares me most about this is how sincere he sounds in the texts. Almost as if they have a semi-strong relationship, or as if they're somewhat dependent on each other. Fucking emoticons? My parents have been married for around 20 years, and I won't sit here and say that there hasn't been any sleeping around/cheating on my fathers side of the marriage. I don't have a close enough relationship with my parents where I feel I could talk to either of them about this. \n\nI also don't believe that I have a right to be reading theses conversations, whether he's my father or not. I was considering just logging out, and deleting all the conversations, but I'm not sure. My parents and I don't have the most personal relationships, and my childhood has always consisted of a one way relationship with them. They express their opinions to me, show me love, treat we decent(ish), and I listen, say yes sir and yes mam and move on. \n\nI have no idea what to do, and if anyone wants to know, there are about 10 conversations going on throughout the week.", "summary": "My dad may be cheating on my wife, and I can view his conversations with these people. Don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_1xu1u6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend becoming obsessed", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. I'm 23, she's 21. almost everything is great, I love her very much.\n\nMy concern is she seems a little...obsessed with me. Repeatedly texting me \"I miss you\" or something similar...all day, every day. even if we saw each other yesterday. \n\nwe lived together for the summer while she was going through some shit with her mom and it worked out fine living together, is it possible she got used to it and is uncomfortable being apart?\n\nI want to explain to her, without hurting her feelings, that she needs to find interest in other activities besides hanging out with me and do stuff on her own too if she wants.", "summary": "my girlfriend is really really interested in doing stuff with ME but is negative about everything else."}
{"id": "t3_37mk92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [29 F] of 1 year, texts from a guy friend", "post": "My girlfriend texts with with this guy she maintains is a friend. They used to flirt a bunch but she says they don't anymore. She got a text from him this morning saying \"I had a fever dream about you.\" She maintains that this is an innocent text and doesn't mean anything (i.e. isn't flirty). I told her previously that I wanted her to tell me about things like that, and she didn't.\n\nAm I in the right to call her out on that? She got pissed and said that friends tell each other if they're in their dreams all the time. I said sure, but saying it was a fever dream implies something else.", "summary": "guy texts saying my girlfriend was in his fever dream, I get pissed she didn't tell me"}
{"id": "t3_mcq7f", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Getting ready to move and purging some clothes I never wear. If there are any unemployed redditors out there who could use a couple of nice dress shirts for their job hunt, let me know vie msg and I will drop some in the mail. [x-post]", "post": "I posted to a few subreddits on the advice of a friend. Forgive me if I did  it wrong.  \n  \nI have a bunch of Brooks Brothers and Brooks Brothers-like oxford shirts that I have barely worn. I would be happy to send a couple to job hunting redditors who can make use of them for interviews or whatever. I think probably just the United States because of shipping costs. I also have some sportcoats to get rid of. The shirts are size 16 - 4/5 Sportcoats are 38-42 Regular. Most of this stuff fit me when I was slightly heavier than I am now, around 5' 8\" and 185 lbs. Not a lot of items, but I'll invest in some USPS for people who could use them.", "summary": "Moving, and realized that I haven't worn anything but a t-shirt and jeans to work for over 10 years.  "}
{"id": "t3_1bx4k6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend [19f] and her boyfriend [20m] are making my life [18f] much harder than it already is. I am in desperate need of advice.", "post": "I'll try to make this as short as possible. I live with my dad and am currently dealing with some issues (depression, anxiety, possible bipolar). I recently had to drop out of college because every day is a struggle. About two months ago, my best friend moved in with me because her mother would not allow the lifestyle she adopted thanks to her new boyfriend. Since there's a spare room here, my dad and I had no problem with her staying. \n\nShe's not around much (she stays out all night with her boyfriend) but she and him are here every morning until my dad gets home from work (my dad would not allow this, so they're sneaky about it). Now, I have a boyfriend myself, so I understand the rush and need for each other, blah blah. But my mental state is pretty screwed, so I absolutely cannot stand to hear them having sex every day. I want silence and peace. I am VERY irritable and it drives me insane to hear them fucking in her room right next to mine, in the shower, and just recently in the fucking kitchen. \n\nI also hate myself for feeling this way, because I know that they mean no harm. She only knows about my anxiety, but I've made it my mission to hide all of my other issues from her. Not sure why, it just makes me too nervous. She's lovely and she'd do anything for me, so I don't know how to tell her that I go crazy every day when they're here.  Please, any advice?? I just want some quiet time in my own damn room.", "summary": "I'm dealing with depression/anxiety, my best friend moved in with me and brings her boyfriend over every day, it drives me insane to her them have sex, want them out but I get too nervous to tell her."}
{"id": "t3_n65x1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this a major red flag?", "post": "I have been dating Amanda (lets call her that) for over a month. We had gotten pretty far (hooked up, etc), things were looking up.\n\nWe had plans to go to a local bar with a bunch of mutual friends. She texts me a couple of hours saying that she's sorry that she can't stay for very long, she's hanging with friends who are in town for only a couple days. I say Ok. \n\nShe gets there, greets me and says \"Listen, my good friend Andy is very protective of me and gets defensive and honestly I don't want to deal with his ranting about how I'm dating someone when he's drunk later on tonight. So don't mention to him that were dating, no PDA etc. Ok?\"\n\nI agree and really think nothing of it. So far there have been no trust issues in the relationship. This where it gets fucking weird\n\nBut she almost immediately ignores myself our mutual friends and talks to Andy most of the night. So eventually I go over and talk to her and Andy. We're shooting the shit etc. The conversation goes on and I'm forced to introduce myself. She walks off at some point, I say nice meeting you and turn back to my friends. \n\n I can't really remember any of her other friends being there but the beer was getting served to me pretty quick. I definitely did not meet any of them. They leave and I can't remember if they left alone or with other people.", "summary": "GF says no PDA because good friend over protective and then talks to him all night."}
{"id": "t3_3d2y0i", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Everyone agrees mental healthcare needs to improve and be more accessible. How would this affect someone like me, a gun owner whose work requires holding a security clearance? Will/Should my treatment show up on background checks?", "post": "I see a lot of talk about how this needs to be done, especially in the U.S. after mass shootings. I happen to own a firearm and have a concealed carry license. Plenty of training from an 8 year stint in the Army. I've also been on antidepressants and received talk therapy in the past. Three years ago, I worked in a nuclear facility for outage work, in which I had to pass an MMPI (500+ yes/no questions such as \"I am happy with my life\" and \"I am a spiritual person\") test and had to lie about past antidepressant use to get that job.\n\nWould \"making mental healthcare better\" involve my treatment showing up on a background check, whether it be for a job, firearm ownership, loans, etc? I'm all for making mental healthcare more accessible and encouraging people to actually make use of it, and the popular opinion is that the government itself should be providing it... it's just this type of talk always happens after a horrible national incident, so I fear that such \"help\" would actually make my life worse. And if my health records are on government computers instead of a little local clinic, won't that stuff definitely show up on a background check for a job like that nuclear one I had requiring a background check?", "summary": "Will people's idea of improving mental healthcare make me unemployable and unable to own firearms? Should it?"}
{"id": "t3_2mqltd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I tell a girl that her picture is on a certain subreddit?", "post": "I was browsing Reddit in a certain state of interest, as all men have done at one point or another, and it happened. I saw a picture of a girl I know on a particular subreddit. It's not explicit, it's from their Instagram (i.e., probably not hacked/stolen but rather a chain of access or direct access by the poster), and it has no personally identifying information.\n\nDo I inform her?\n\nI've been weighing this somewhat carefully over the past 24 hrs since I made this discovery, and I'm still not sure. On the one hand, ignorance might be bliss. On the other, wouldn't you want to know your picture was floating around on a spank site? On yet another hand, is it up to me to report the pic without informing her? Is that the right thing to do?\n\nOr should I just ask Reddit?", "summary": "I found a friend's bikini photos on a particular subreddit and don't know whether I should tell her."}
{"id": "t3_i6751", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I just Matrixed my way out of staining my interview clothes with coffee.", "post": "It was seriously a thing of beauty. To set the scene, I'm sitting in front of my computer, checking Reddit and drinking my morning cuppa joe. I have already showered and shaved, and I'm totally decked out in finery purchased yesterday. As I'm reading something on r/AskScience about sleeping patterns, I move to take a sip of my coffee. The cup knocks against a protrusion on my desk and overturns, heaving the steaming beverage straight toward my chest and lap. \n\nTime froze. I was flooded with terror. My mind entered bullet time.\n\nI kicked away from the desk in slow motion, watching the scalding brew advance toward my crotch and my new white shirt. I twisted. I arched. I fell out of my chair backwards. I landed on the floor, certain that I'd just ruined the only interview-worthy clothes I own. I looked down and saw.... nothing. Not a drop on me. My cup was empty on the floor and coffee was splattered like blood on an episode of Dexter...but somehow, miraculously, I was completely and totally dry. I am taking this as a sign from Morpheus that I am going to kick ass at my interview today and bring this 6-month streak of unemployment to a close. \n\nTake that, coffee.", "summary": "I have a job interview in an hour. Wish me luck, please"}
{"id": "t3_v9211", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "All my progress lost within 6 months of cheating on my diet and avoiding the gym. Life Re-do. Starting now.", "post": "Just need to get this out there:\n\nAs a 5'7\" F, I went from 190 to 155 during my relationship with my ex who was my workout partner and inspiration. He was the one to remind me to keep going to the gym and to turn my nose up to junk food. After our breakup, I quit going to our gym, stopped my marathon training and started drinking. A LOT. With the drinking came the greasy late-night binge eating and hangovers that deterred me from doing any sort of exercise. Within 6 months I gained it ALL back. Just 15lbs away from my goal, I fell all the way back down to rock-bottom. \n\nBack at square 1, today is the day I lace up and go for a run. Hopefully It won't take too long to get back into the swing of things. I don't need the ex, I can do this on my own.\n\nFor anybody out there in my position, there is no tomorrow. There is right now. Trash the potato chips and move your ass. Get ruthless.", "summary": "Diet/gym cheating is a slippery slope. Regained the 35lbs I lost and went back to couch potato status. Getting back on track today."}
{"id": "t3_pfg4b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else pay for an employer-provided health plan, but very rarely ever use it?", "post": "I've worked at my current job for about 4 years. I pay for dental, health and even vision plans, but haven't been to the dentist in years and it takes quite a bit to get me to go to a doctor. I've had the same pair of glasses since before I got his job.\n\nI don't cancel it (or go for the complete shit one) because I'm sure something awful would happen, plus I keep intending to go to the dentist and doctor, but never seem to get around to it. Does anyone else do this? Does anyone simply not pay for the coverage? If so, how's that working?", "summary": "Have been paying for medical plan at work for years and never uses it."}
{"id": "t3_543nzj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] want an open relationship; he [20 M] does not; and I don't know how to talk to him about sex. (Dating 3 years)", "post": "I know that this is pretty much one of the most extensively discussed relationship problems out there, but... I would like some advice anyway. \n\nI've been with my boyfriend for three years. I've had little to no experience sexually before him, and he claims to have not had much more. We love each other very much, but in spite of that, I can't shake the desire to experiment with other people. I've tried talking to him about it, but he always shuts me down and becomes angry no matter how I go about it. I know he's interested in other men, and have caught him talking to others once (which only upset me that he couldn't talk to me first; I have no problem sharing him). In a similar vein he's caught me as well; and from it I know I definitely can't go behind his back on this. I can't live with that kind of guilt. \n\nTo make matters worse, we are not very sexually compatible. We're both fairly strong-leaning tops, with the only difference being that I can enjoy bottoming at all--which only occurs very infrequently--which only makes my sexual frustration worse. \n\nI want to open that dialogue--I love him so much, but I can't bury it down indefinitely, nor do I think that would be healthy. Our stints of secrecy make open discussion difficult, but I love him and want to work through this issue. He's as sensitive as he is stubborn, and I'm afraid that telling him that he is not enough for me in any sense will crush him.", "summary": "I want to open our relationship, but whenever I bring up including others in our sex lives, he shuts me down. Now I don't know how to talk to him about it, and don't think I can ignore it. How do I talk about this? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4itol9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this a reasonable thing to accept in a relationship?", "post": "I'm 24 and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. \n\nI've never probed him for information about his whereabouts, never go through his phone or personal things or anything like that. \n\nThat being said, he is incredibly secretive. He is constantly on his phone and if i even seem like I glance at it, he immediately turns it away so i cant see. or If i pick it up, he snatches it back from me and becomes accusatory like I'm not respecting his privacy. That has happened a few times and I've never demanded to look through it. \n\nFurthermore, he threw a fit about deleting his exes on facebook (this was a thing because he asked me to not speak to my exes, was adamant that its not acceptable in a relationship so i asked him for the same courtesy), and he brings up the \"sacrifice\" of it on an almost daily basis. \n\nToday, I asked about a past relationship of his. In response to this, he called me every name in the book, told me to \"shut the f%$# up and break up with him\", that his past is none of my business, etc...\nI fundamentally disagree and i think past relationships are relevant for a few reasons, primarily because \n\nthe people hes slept with could give ME stds, \n\nbecause he's lied to me about it in the past when we first started dating, \n\nbecause if he expects to sleep with me, i think its my right to know where he's been.  We also frequent a place where a lot of his prior flings hang out and its weird for me to be in the dark about their past relations\n\nand because simply put, why cant i know who he's been with? why the secrecy?\n\nHe tells me that in order to be in a relationship with him, i must agree to never ask questions about his past, never ask where he is, and never ask what hes doing. He thinks that's a sign of trust. I told him I will not agree to censor myself.", "summary": "what does reddit think? is it reasonable to ask someone to never question your present, and never ask about your past?"}
{"id": "t3_249ae8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] dating girl [21F] 3 months, her and her ex [24m] dated 3 years", "post": "To be clear I am not doubting my trust for her, I am just curious.\n\nSo the story with her [21f] is the guy[24m] she dated before me[21m], she dated for 3 years. They were probably at the point where he was going to propose, except he ended up pulling the whole \" I want to experience other people thing\". I assume he was cheating on her (she does too) since soon after he had some girl on the side. Anyways, having him been her first true love, even though he has hurt her, what stops them from getting back together?\n\nYes, she likes me now. But it took them 3 years to get to the point of where they were, we've only been dating for 3 months. Like i've said she hasn't given me any reason to not trust her, but im just curious. I see this happen to a lot of people. Guy cheats on girl, girl takes him back a year later.\n\nAre there any signs I should be worried about like them communicating? Or obviously hanging out?", "summary": "Girl i am dating was close to marriage with ex, im just getting insecure thoughts tonight for some reason."}
{"id": "t3_ux73v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "baby daddy wants to take mother to court so she won't be allowed to move away with her daughter.. any advice??", "post": "My Girlfriend has a 3 year old daughter with her ex fiance, I am in the Marine Corps and have been dating her since before I joined, her and I have been talking about getting married lately but with my career that will mean she will be moving around a little bit (possibly a lot).  at the moment, her ex fiance and her have no \"official\" custody arrangements for the child (other then both names being on the birth certificate). my girlfriend has a good job and works from home so she is always with her daughter, the dad takes the daughter every other night and every other weekend.  long story short, he doesn't like the idea of her moving out of state with their daughter, he is threatening to take her to court and request that she is not allowed to move out of a certain distance with her daughter, so that he can still be around her.  when she and I get married we were planning on her moving to california where my duty station is (she lives in Florida now)... \n\nBASICALLY, is she screwed? can he really force her to stay put with his daughter for the next 15 years, regardless of if she gets married or any other factors, according to her, even if this happens HE would still be free to move anywhere he wants with the daughter, whats up with that??... \n\nI don't know too much more info, nor do I know anything about custody, I just feel like she is being trapped, and I want to know if anyone has experience with this, or can give advice, or ANY help", "summary": "Girls baby daddy threatening to take mother to court so she won't be allowed to move away with her daughter for the next 15 years.  any advice??"}
{"id": "t3_ocdhc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Regarding US presidential elections, how competitive do these things tend to be?", "post": "As a redditor who has only been in the world to see and not really understand the Clinton/Dole race, witnessed the controversial Bush/Gore finish, followed the Bush/Kerry race and finally voted in the Obama/McCain race, I realize I am actually quite unaware of how these races usually go. That said, the main focus of my question is specifically regarding something I have seen on the Republican primary coverage: over 1/3rd of the people choosing a candidate have chosen Romney for the purpose of DEFEATING OBAMA. Not the best to improve America, or the best foreign policy, or financial policy, or anything that would actually IMPROVE THE COUNTRY IN A PRACTICAL WAY, but rather that he is the most likely to defeat Obama. Is this how most elections are? A pit fight where one side is trying not to better the country in which we live but rather just beat down the other side?", "summary": "in US history, do elections tend to be more about one side simply picking a candidate on their ability to defeat the other side, rather than their ability to improve the country, or is this a modern day aspect of the US presidential race?"}
{"id": "t3_rrebb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ending Relationship with Live-in GF", "post": "I've been with my GF for about 16 months, she moved into my apartment about 6 months ago.  Things have slowly fizzled out (dead bedroom) and although we are very good friends, it has become clear to me that we're looking for different things in a romantic relationship.  \n\nShe works as a teacher, but next year will be enrolled in a master's program at a University in another state.  The plan has been for us both to move out of state in June when her school year is over.  I've recently decided that it is best for both of us to go our separate ways and I will not be moving with her.\n\nDilemma:  When do I break it to her? We live in my 1 bedroom apartment and share a bed.  I cannot expect her to move out and find a new place when she will be moving out of state 2 months.   I'm afraid the news will crush her.  I doubt we can continue to live together in a small space for 2 months, with one of us sleeping on the couch every night.   \n\nI know this will be hard and I know it needs to be done as soon as possible.  But I feel it would work out best (for her and me) to wait until about 2 or 3 weeks before she leaves to drop the hammer.  \n\nHas anyone gone through a similar situation?  Any advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "When is the best time to end things with live-in GF who needs a place to live for another 2 months? "}
{"id": "t3_w61h5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, what should I do? I am at a loss.", "post": "Ok, so here is the situation. I met this girl on facebook through a good friend of mine. She is awesome, to say the least. She enjoys the same things I do such as video games, making stupid ass jokes, and generally having a good time while not worrying what anyone else thinks. I've known her for about 2 months and we hang out about every other day. I like her a lot. The problem is she is \"talking\" to another guy that she met a few weeks before me. She comes over to my house when we do hang out and we watch movies on my bed (I'm 19 and live at home still) and laugh, occasionally wrestle and have a good time. The problem is the other guy. She texts him quite a bit, even when we are hanging out, but she won't text me when she hangs out with him. She will text me any other time, except when they are hanging. She knows that I like her. She knows that I think she is attractive, and I have made it very clear that I want to be friends over anything if an \"us\" doesn't happen. I want to date her, but I don't want to lose this good friendship either. I know I should just be patient and wait it out and see what happens between her and the other guy. She flirts with me every now and then when we are alone, which has gotten me really confused, and she makes teasing comments whenever I say she looks good tan and things like that such as \"so you think I'm cute? hehe\"\n I should just be patient with the whole thing right, and let what happens happens? What would you do in this situation?", "summary": "This girl I really like is talking to another guy, but not dating him. She flirts with me every now and then when we hang out. Should I be patient and wait, or go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_3ti78f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[16f] sister [19f] is horrible to live with and I need coping mechanisms til I can move out", "post": "Hi, this is my first post (throwaway obvs) and I'm on mobile so please excuse any spelling/grammar mistakes. \n\nMy sister is horrible to live with she acts like a spoiled 2 year old I have a scar on my wrist from where she dug into my skin when I wouldn't move fast enough out of bed. \n\nToday she screamed at me for wanting McDonalds and then when I gave up and went to make myself some nachos she called me a fat shit, a fucking bitch and then she hit me and threw a loaf of bread at my face.\n\nShe then walked into my room and stayed there during my rising in loudness pleas for her to get out stating that 'I'm not going to leave until you calm down' even though I was saying that the only way I would calm down is if she left.\n\nPlease do not think this is a one off and that I'm Justin's whining my mum says that this is just what siblings do, but this is an almost weekly occurrence since she turned 13.\n\nMy parents are divorced and she hates our dad. Our mum is working most of the time to help us to afford everything as my sister doesn't contribute to the household - whereas I do. \n\nI tell my mum what she does but then she just tells of my sister and then my sister gets worse when mum has to go back to work\n\nI just can't continue to deal with her in this way and I feel so bad because I don't love her when I know you are supposed to love your family til you die.\n\nPlease I would just like coping mechanisms to deal with her until I can move out", "summary": "My sister is horrible and mean and attacks me at every chance she gets - she won't move out and our parents just make things worse, how do I deal with her?"}
{"id": "t3_3u5n7o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing with thumb tacks in my bed.", "post": "First post after lurking for a few years now. Figure I'll give being a real Redditor a try.\nSo this was actually when I was about 10 years old. It is one of those burried memories that you recall once every 3 years. So here it is:\n\nMy grandpa was visiting over Thanksgiving one year and being that we didn't have a spare bedroom it was routine that I, the youngest sibling, was relocated to the couch and my Grandpa would take over my room. The day before he arrived an intense G.I. Joe battle was in progress. The fight that particular day took place on the harsh terrain of my bed comforter. Finding a package of thumb tacks in the office supplies earlier that day was the true cause of war. See, I wasn't very imaginative as a kid, so the idea came without delay. Gunshots = holes. So, fast forward through what would be concerning to watch as an adult seeing this demon child practicing Voodoo. Two days later at breakfast after my grandfather has spent his first night, my dad comes into the kitchen. \"Morning, did you sleep okay?\". To which my grandfather replies quickly \"I did, until I rolled over on a thumb tack and it stuck me in the pecker\". Busted. No more access to office supplies for quite awhile after that.", "summary": "I played with thumb tacks in my bed. Grandpa took one to the pecker. (Not molestation related, grandfather is a great guy)"}
{"id": "t3_1xgjw1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] want to incorporate friend [25F] in wedding planning w/o upsetting fiance [26M]", "post": "I [25F] just got engaged to fiance [26M] after 3 years of dating. I'm very excited, but I'm worried about how the news will make my close friend Kim (name changed) feel. I want to incorporate Kim into the wedding planning without alienating or causing unnecessary tension with my fiance.\n\nBackstory: Kim [25F] was with her boyfriend Matt [25M] for 3.5 years when he suddenly passed away in a freak accident last October. It hit all of us very hard, especially since he was so young. Kim and I used to discuss wedding plans and dreams of our future all the time just for fun. When we were bored, we would talk about our dream honeymoons and houses. She's been (obviously) very depressed these last few months and has thrown herself into work to pass the time. I've been doing my best to be there for her, and have tried to take her lead in the whole grief process-- if she wants to talk about it, we do. If she doesn't want to talk, we watch movies or do something else. \n\nSince my fiance proposed the other day, I keep feeling like I'm on my way to the future Kim and I always planned, and she's left behind. I know she's still young and will probably find someone else in the future, but I know she feels like I'm living the life she should have had if Matt were still alive. I haven't even told Kim about the engagement yet, because I'm not sure of a good way to break the news.\n\nFiance thinks I'm carrying too much guilt, and sees no reason why Kim should get special treatment or be especially involved in wedding planning. He is concerned that I will end up planning the wedding KIM always wanted, not the wedding WE want. I understand that it is OUR wedding, but I'm hoping there is some way to incorporate Kim so she gets to experience all of the planning we had always discussed, without it being awkward for her or my fiance.", "summary": "How can I incorporate my close friend (whose boyfriend passed away suddenly) into wedding planning without upsetting my fiance?"}
{"id": "t3_xh9b1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Jealous of one guy", "post": "Is it wrong that I'm jealous of this one guy my girlfriend talks to? She said how she was irritated by him and barely went online because of how much he buggered her. But now that we're dating she tells me of how theyve been talking and playing games together and shit. Am I being too worried and jealous over nothing? I'm 17, she's 16; relationship is barely one month long. A sidenote, but possibily related is that I have no idea why she would ever have considered me. She liked me, but I was not the ideal teen as I frequented weed, lsd, alcohol, sex and cigarrettes for the shits and giggles (I did not let them define me as a person), while she is a complete lilly as she did not do a single bad thing. I feel as if I don't want to ruin her innocence which might make my heart a little bit more tender.", "summary": "There is this one guy that my girlfriend said annoyed her, but she still talks to him and that kind of irks me."}
{"id": "t3_ehd9k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Coming to grips with employment and physical/learning disabilities. I may be laid-off. What do I do?", "post": "I am a 35 year, 36 year old cancer survivor who is quickly coming to the realization that there are just certain things that I can't, no matter how I try, do some things very well. I have a poor memory and poor motor skills. I can only type with one hand and, if I am relaxed enough, with one or two fingers on the other.  \nI recently got a job that I really like. It is challenging as hell -on many levels- and if I can stick to it long enough I know that I can learn a lot and have a lot to offer the company.  The problem is my boss is becoming very frustrated with my inability to remeber certain things and master parts of my job as quickly as the others. She has called me on it twice and is wondering how she can help me.  I generally beleive that she wants me to succeed, but the pace of the learning is too fast for me. I have not told her about my disabilties and I don't really want to use that. I have never done so before, but I don't know what to do anymore. This isn't some job flipping burgers, it's database support where I have to master SQL as well as the intricacies of the DB. In time, I can do this, but my boss doesn't seem so convinced. I want to be here. I want this job, but I am so afraid of letting on that I have these cognitive issues with memory and motor skill issues which mean that it can take me 1/3 more time to complete a task.  Do I tell my boss?  Do I tell HR?  I hate playing the crippled card, but I may lose my job.", "summary": "Should I disclose my learning disability and motor skill issues to my employer in an effort to save my job?"}
{"id": "t3_14y8uk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[15/m] Conflicted about how to proceed with a girl [16/f]", "post": "I had been getting to know a certain significant other for a while, we'd been hanging out around school for a few weeks, so I offered to do something this weekend. She agreed, under the impression we were just going as friends. We went and got coffee, saw a movie, and we both had a great time. I was ok, before hand, that she wanted to stay friends, but after really getting a lot of one on one time with her, I'm realizing that I want a relationship out of it.\nBut I don't really think she does. She spent a lot of time talking about a friend of hers that would be perfect for me, how I was like her best friend. I want to come right out and tell her exactly how I feel, but I also don't want to ruin the friendship I've already built, because, whether she's my girlfriend or not, she is absolutely amazing.", "summary": "Met this amazing girl, went on a date, should I be her best friend or her boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_44cnxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with [22 F] Dating window?", "post": "This girl I used to go to school with messaged me on Facebook asking if I remember her (I kind of do but we never talked in school). \n\nWe talked more and started flirting a little.\n\nThis has only been going on for about 3 days but I'm pretty socially inept so I don't know when I should ask for her number or when I should ask her out. \n\nI'm worried that there is a dating window and that it will close if I don't make a move.\n\nI'm also very self conscious about my body right now and I feel like she wouldn't like me if she saw me irl.", "summary": "I want to date this girl but I don't know when to ask for her number etc and I am very self conscious."}
{"id": "t3_ku6b4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question about human evolution.", "post": "Ok Reddit; You seem to know way more about science than me and I trust that a lot of you can answer this question to your own satisfaction but you may not manage to educate me if you assume that I have the same scientific education as you. My formal science education stopped 11 years ago when I was 16 years old. Since then it has been what I happened across and conversations with scientists. (I love learning through conversations). Please go slow explaining this...\n\nHere's my understanding of the principles of evolution theory;\n\nIf you live to make babies who live, well done your genes are passed on. If you don't, sad times mr, your genes are no longer contributing anything.\n\nIf a certain gene gives you an advantage over your competitors for a mate or for a dwelling or for surviving a winter etc then they will help you to survive and make a baby or two. This way the genes that are helpful slowly are preserved whilst the genes which do not help or even hinder slowly get weeded out. It's good it's logical and I'm happy. Until...\n\nI'm considering the final stages of human evolution; At some point we got quite ahead of the curve. We're much more intelligent and adaptable than our closest evolutionary relative right? We have developed technology like weapons and clothes. We can adapt much better. So at some point our competition stopped being with the other species I think and was only down to who got to sleep with yonder hottie and who survived that snow storm last winter. Perhaps it was also to do with fights over who get's to sleep in this part of the valley.\n\nMy point is. There's a huge amount of lovely inhabitable fertile world out there. Once we beat the apes even by 25% of the advantage we have over them now, why did we continue to evolve so far in advance of them? Our competition with fellow humans is surely not fierce enough? Only now are we really in a place where the population is unsustainable. Why would we have evolved before now?\n\nI apologise if this is long and meandering. I wish I knew the short hand for explaining these ideas.", "summary": "Oh man, how to succinctly ask? Why are humans so far in advance of other species? What was the evolutionary motivation or necessity after securing ourselves at the top of the pile?"}
{"id": "t3_2qrn0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my [19 F] 1 year, just worked up the courage to finally end it", "post": "I finally worked up the courage to break up with my long time \n\ngirlfriend. We have been on and off for a good portion of three \n\nyears and she is the only person who I have ever had a real \n\nrelationship with. Recently she has been hanging out solely with her \n\nno life stoner friends and there influence had become evident. \n\nNothing that happened was her fault and she was taking no \n\nresponsibility for anything ie going to a rave instead of buying a \n\nnew laptop that she needs for school. \n\n    I had known it was not going to work out for the last few months \n\nbut recently she blew up at me for a minuscule thing that is \n\nsomewhat out of my control. \n\n  So today I finally sat down with her and ended it. It was difficult to \n\ndo and I'm not really sure how to move forward considering I have \n\nto see her weekly but I know this was the right decision. Thanks for \n\nletting me get this off my chest and taking the time to read.", "summary": "Broke up with my only real long-time girl friend because she needs to grow up, not really sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_29x6jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with a girl 1st date[23F] duration, how long to wait to text back and how long to wait for her?", "post": "So tried Tinder... aha and started talking to a girl for a good 2 weeks before deciding to meet her. We have a lot in common and talked for a good 3/4 hours before I had to leave and go to a prior appointment. I hugged her and she said to message her. \n\nI messaged her the next/day morning as I'm a night time person saying a had a good time and we should catch up whenever she's free and now it's been 48hours without a reply. Is she checking to make sure I'm no creeper messaging her constantly? Should I message her asking how her weekend went? Or is she simply not interested anymore. (She hasn't been on Tinder for 2 days now as well, pretty much the last time I used it as well, before seeing if she was active) Soo what do? Wait it out another day and then message her? If so, what should it include?", "summary": "first date, haven't got a reply from her for 48 hours. what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2kypgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21F] going to be a student at the school my SO [28M] teaches at.", "post": "Yes, I know, giant age gap. I dropped out of school and have been working since 17. Met my boyfriend when I was 18 and moved in together a year later. \n\nI've decided that I wanted to go back to school because I've hit a wall in my career. I've been stuck doing retail and this is not what I want to do for the rest of my life. I've been freelancing doing acting and writing, but those are few and far between. I think going back to school will be something I really need. \n\nProblem is, my SO graduated from the same school 8 years ago, and now he is teaching there.  I would be quitting my job and reverting to student status while he works. That puts us at different life stages. I'm not sure how this will work. I've always been working, and I'm afraid that this may alter the dynamics of our relationship. \n\nAlso, people are going to talk about the professor who is dating and living with one of his students. We cannot keep this a secret because I've already met his friends and coworkers from school. They already know about our relationship. It's going to be weird. \n\nThere isn't any other school near us that I can afford. The school he teaches at is the best in the area and the only one that we can afford, so there really is no other option. \n\nAm I just worrying myself silly, or are these things inconsequential?", "summary": "My SO is teaching at the school I want to go to and I'm not sure if it will work. Plus it is weird."}
{"id": "t3_1o4281", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[m20/f19] so this girl invited me to a party, could use some advice", "post": "Ok so one month or two ago i met this girl in line for a night club. We hit it off so i ended up going home with her, and we had a good time (no sex).\n\nSo we've been talking a bit on facebook since. I also asked her out once and she said ok, but she ended up getting sick so that went down the drain. Cue some radio silence (took this a sign that she wasn't interested) and suddently a few days ago she asked if i wanted to come with her to this pre-party at her friends place this weekend.\n\nThis is good stuff i figured so i said yeah sure i'll come. And now i've been thinking. \n\nThe pre-party is at her friends place and i don't know anyone there. I also dont know this girl all too well either and it just hit me that this is probably not the best \"date\" scenario. Oh well, i'll be going anyway - i'd beat myself up if i didn't.\n\nAlso worth noting is i'm not the most outgoing person, but as the night progresses alcohol tends to smooth this over pretty fast.\n\nSo... how do i approach this situation in the best way possible? \nhow am i supposed to keep her entertained the entire evening?", "summary": "girl invited me to a party, barely know the girl and i know no one that will be there. i'm also somewhat introverted. Never been in this situation, could use some advice."}
{"id": "t3_1kptty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[22/M] quit my job because of my ex [20/F]?", "post": "I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? \n\nWe were together for a year, by the way.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend who works on the school paper. Now I don't want to see her again, but I might lose all of my friends. Help would be greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_13r1lw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I (18m) overthinking things?", "post": "I'm about to end my fall semester at college in my freshman year and its been a big change. I moved 3 states away and lost contact with most of friends, save my closest ones. There was the occasional instance when i would talk to my ex who is in her senior year back home. I cared deeply for even though we only officially dated for about 2 weeks. We were always close friends and such but i figured after moving away and not talking for months, i'd have lost my feelings for her. Well the other night i ended up having a dream about her and now im just utterly confused.", "summary": "I'm having recurring feelings about an ex back home and don't know what to do. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2gpjs7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The attention I [22/F] get from other males seem to be making my BF [24M] of 8 months increasingly insecure, how do I reassure him?", "post": "Hey r/relationships,\n\nI'll cut to the chase, though I'm not super model quality I have been told all my life that I am physically attractive. I get hit on fair amount and, when I was single, me and my girlfriends could go to the clubs with no money and still have a great time. \n\nHowever, I seem to be making my bf uncomfortable, he appears agitated when I tell him stories of other guys hitting on me, despite my telling him I rebuff their advances and tell them I have a bf. \n\nI love my make up and do dress a bit scandalously when I head out with or without him on weekends. Is this wrong? He knows guys hit on me but only recently appears to have become more insecure? \n\nTo be fair, this was after I made him extremely uncomfortable when one of my best friends introduced me to this other guy, that constantly made jokes about how pretty I was and how much he wanted me. I told my bf it was all just for a laugh but he still became rather upset. \n\nHere's the thing though, he's tall, built, athletic, charming and popular. He has a great job with a lot of confidence, I honestly didn't seem him as the insecure type. \n\nHow do I make it up to him? Is it him or me?", "summary": "My potential carelessness is upsetting my bf."}
{"id": "t3_mnpzb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need some help, Reddit... Anxiety, emotionally abusive girlfriend who i love, etc...", "post": "So... I don't want to say this in a \"bragging\" kind of way in saying how awesome i am, but i feel like my girlfriend absolutely takes me for granted.\nI'll buy her things, tell her how amazing she is, tell her i love her, do everything in my power to treat her well, making everything perfectly comfortable for her, and all she gives me in return is either anger towards me, lack of approval or distance.\nShe broke up with me for about a week a few months ago, because i mentioned something off handed about her vicious, casual swearing, so she ignored me, told me not to touch her, pushed me away and didn't talk to me for the rest of the day. This was all the day after i found out from the doctors that my mum might have cancer. She broke up with me a couple of hours afterwards.\nBut the thing is, when our relationship is good... it's really really really good! And i absolutely love her with all my heart, and i know that she loves me with all her heart too.\n\nBut i've been away in another country for a little while now, and i've been feeling really lonely, (FYI, i get high anxiety, to the point of twitches, head banging on tables, and crying), and i told her this, saying that i was feeling so alone that i couldn't breathe and that i missed her so much. I sent her a wall of text in a message telling her how amazing she is and that i was freaking out about how lonely i feel all the time and that it was really getting to me and that i needed her guidance and all she messaged back with in return was \"it's alright, don't worry\". Those exact words, no more, no less. I asked her if my messages weren't coming through properly, and she just said \"yeah, they are, i dunno what to say though\" and then went offline (on skype)...\n\nI spent the rest of the night rocking back and forth, hyperventilating, hitting my head, trying desperately to not feel so alone, and she wasn't there for me...\n\nI'm also so frightened that she is going to change her mind about me when i get back from my trip...", "summary": "i have high anxiety, girlfriend doesn't acknowledge my feelings, doesn't care about me sometimes and takes me for granted when i do nice things for her. Also worried she may dump me when i get back from my long trip."}
{"id": "t3_4setf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] brother [30M] is isolated and likely depressed. I've done nothing to help him and I feel horrible about it.", "post": "My brother isn't in a great situation. He's never been exactly a sociable person but it seems like in recent years it's only got worse. He has no friends, no social life and never has had any relationships. He's always struggled in that aspect of his life and maybe it seems he's given up on himself.\n\nThere are lots in him that I hugely admire. He is incredibly intelligent. His academic performance has always been top notch. He finished number one in high school. Went to a great university, got a first class honours degree (again number one in their department), then a masters with distinction and a PhD from one of the woeld's best universities, all before he was 26.\n\nHe's very kind. Everytime I needed his help all my life, he never said no. I've sometimes been an asshole about it. Shit. Once I called him at 4am to ask help for some stuff and he didn't even complain. I feel like shit since it seems like everytime I'm contacting him it's when I need something from him and that's horrible. I guess I never grew out of seeing him as my big brother to see him like an adult who might be struggling and need help himself.\n\nMy parents are really worried about him. My mom told me that according to himself, he hasn't spoken to anyone except our parents, me and people at work in over 9 months. He's living a life of isolation.\n\nI just don't know how I can help him.", "summary": "Brother seems depressed and lonely. I want to help him but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_10qeb9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18/f) help! (20/m)", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend (who I dated breifly 2 years ago) for about 7 months now, and been living together for most of that. Sometimes we're on the subject of \"when we're older\" and I'm like \"yeah I'm gonna get married\", and he says he's \"never going to, he doesn't need a piece of paper..\" I know I'm only 18 and don't plan on getting married *any* time soon, but I know I want to get married, have a family ect and he doesn't. Do I stay and hope he changes his mind or I dunno, I don't wanna just know we're not going to evolve to anything, that we'd just be bf/gf. I know I'm young and we're only 7 months in but I wanna know I'm with someone I can have a future with.. What would you guys do?\n\nSorry for any spelling errors or anything, typing this on my crapberry", "summary": "I want to get married someday, he doesn't.. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_q8xx7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Open relationship advice", "post": "I am a bisexual female, 19, and my boyfriend is also 19 and straight. \nWe've been together for a year and a half.\nI love him very much and trust him completely and he feels the same about me. \nHe is totally fine with me hooking up with chicks, and I have, I tell him about it and share stories and he's all for it. In fact, he was even disappointed I didn't go home with the girl I made out with at the bar. Lol. So he's really cool.\nHe was virgin when he met me because he comes from a country where premarital sex is illegal (though he is an atheist). And I know he wants to have sex with other women, naturally. I told him I'm okay with it, for months I've been saying so, but though I DO admit when he first brought up the idea to me at the start of our relationship, I was very against it. But my mind has changed, like 6 months ago, but he still doesn't believe me. He feels upset because he is limited but he won't believe me that I'm fine with it even though I've explained it to him why I am. He is not okay with me being with men and I respect that. But how do I get him to believe me? He says he fears me being very upset afterwards and having a bitch-fit or demanding freedom to sleep with men. None of this is true. Advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to sleep with other women. I say that's fine. But he fears I will be bitchy and full of regret afterwards. How do I convince him I'm actually fine with it?"}
{"id": "t3_139m02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband (33m) has stopped having sex with wife (31f), why could this be?", "post": "Little background: we've been together for 10 years and married for 5. We have a 3 year old daughter that we both adore. We are pretty good communicators, having lots of late night chats over drinks and are constantly joking around, laughing, and overall sweet to one another. I'm not saying we don't argue, of course we do, but I wouldn't say it's anything out of the norm for a married couple. The kicker is we are pretty much together all of the time. He and I both work from home and our days are a little monotonous. But this no sex things is pretty new. He even refused oral from me the other night.  We've had some past issues in the sex area that we've overcome. I told him what I like, what turns me on and he pretty much took that to heart and changed his foreplay. I've made sure to ask him what he likes, fantasies, etc as well. But lately if we do have sex it's very mechanical and he pretty much doesn't even seem to care if I finish or not. I have completely stopped trying to initiate sex, mostly because it's just become comical (in a very sad way) at the excuses he gives. I'm getting really frustrated here, sexually and emotionally. I don't know what to do anymore. I need to get laid!! What would be some reasons why a man would stop wanting to have sex with his wife?", "summary": "Husband has stopped having sex with me yet we have an overall good relationship. "}
{"id": "t3_3epwge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if I [20 M] should bring up exclusivity with my sorta LDR girlfriend [20 F] of a few months", "post": "Hello! I started the beginning of a relationship too late with a girl friend of mine, so we are doing a trial long distance \"thing.\" We've always prided ourselves on not needing a label and being flexible with each other. Especially with it being too long of a distance to be able to see each other often, we both thought it was wisest not to put any pressure to keep something afloat between us.\n\nHaving said that, the last time I visited I started thinking \"Why not?\" and have been starting to have major feelings for her. She did too, at least for the first few days after I visited, but like everything long distance, time and distance starts to numb the feelings a bit. \n\nWith my growing affection for this girl, I've noticed myself getting more jealous and insecure about what she's doing all the time. That isn't healthy to begin with, I know, but I find it hard to bring this up in conversation when we have never explicitly mentioned our rule about exclusivity. It would be unfair for me to ask her who she is with and what she is doing without having grounds to worry, if that makes any sense. I wouldn't mind being exclusive, but if she tells me she does not want it or wants to \"see what happens\" then I feel I might get hurt if or when she finally does find someone. I think I may be unintentionally exclusive from my end for someone who does not feel the same drive.", "summary": "Unsure of how best to bring up exclusivity with long-distance girl I have been seeing. Feel like I am down for being exclusive, but will be hurt if/when she does not agree."}
{"id": "t3_4h0l6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF [27M] and I [28F] had a threesome on holiday with a guy [20s M]. He feels weird now.", "post": "Last week BF (of 2 years) and I were on a few days of holiday in another country and talked about having a threesome there. We've always been keen on trying that and this was a good opportunity since we could have just had it with someone and never meet them again.\n\nSo we went into a night club near our hotel and kind of found our guy. A cute early 20s guy. The three of us had some drinks together and we got to business after that. It was a lot of fun. We also had sex again in the middle of the night. The guy left early in the morning and it was us again. I thought we both enjoyed it as it certainly seemed like it that night. In the morning I told him that next time we will bring a girl and he was totally for it.\n\nSo today he told me that he's been thinking about that and he can't get the images that he saw out of his mind, the images of me giving another guy a blowjob and another guy having sex with me. He added that he also feels like he's not enough for me since that night I could handle two guys, and that he's generally not good enough in sex (that night he lasted long but the other guy lasted longer so there was a period when my boyfriend was watching the two of us keep going when he had just finished. During the middle of the night sex the same thing happened). I tried to the best of my abilities to reassure him that he's excellent in bed and I couldn't be more satisfied with him sexually but they all seemed to not make a difference.\n\nWe're both at work now and I want to make sure I say the right things tonight at home to make him feel better and help him overcome these feelings. Any suggestions?", "summary": "BF and I had threesome and we enjoyed it. Now BF feels like he is not sexually capable since the other guy lasted more than he did. How do I help him with his feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_4u3o76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I deal with my nosy, rude, and gossiping boss and co-worker that are interrogating me on what I do on my time off from work?", "post": "Well, I've been working at my job for a little over a year now. \n\nWhen I started working I worked four nights a week and sometimes five. \n\nI started going to college full time since last August and I have only been working two nights a week since, so I \nhave more time to do well on my college work. \n\nWell... as time goes on, I notice increasing tension between one of my bosses and a co-worker that is good friends/related to my boss. \n\nLast week for example, my co-worker abruptly asked me, \"So what do you do on all your time off from work?\" I responded with, \"Oh, I am pretty busy with college work.\" He then continued to push my buttons and he said, \"Oh sure, I'm pretty sure you're just playing games. I can tell when people are BSing me.\"\n\nSo, I took that conversation to be extremely rude. I don't know him well enough to think that his comment was funny. In the past the same co-worker has made jabs at me and scrutinized me for not working enough.\n\nMy boss isn't as persistent on asking me what I do on my time off, but she has been nosy about the issue as well.\n\nMy other boss and the rest of my co-workers don't bring the subject up at all, and they just go about their business... \n\nSo, how do I get out of this uncomfortable situation that presents itself almost every week or so when I go to work?\n\nI am 19 and the co-worker I am referring to is 25, and the boss I am referring to is 35. I am the youngest employee working in our company.", "summary": "How do I stop my co-worker from interrogating me about what I do on my time off from work?"}
{"id": "t3_1dxiji", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think there should be higher penalties if you commit a crime by against a good Samaritan?", "post": "For example, \n1. pretending to be hurt and then pulling a knife to rob the person who comes to help. Or  \n2. there's a fight or someone is in trouble and the good Samaritan goes to help the victim but is also beaten up by the perp. \n\nIt feels like society is getting more suspicious and distrustful of one another. You often hear stories of passer-bys ignoring someone clearly in trouble simply because they don't want any trouble and/or are afraid. Personally as a tiny girl, I would like to help anyone who needs it but often have to think twice, just in case. I hate having to worry and second-guess if someone really is in trouble or out to hurt me.\n\nAlso, an interesting distinction between the two examples above:\nIn case 1) Intentionally baiting a good Samaritan Vs. in case 2 where you did not intend to bait the good Samaritan. Perhaps higher penalties should only be enforced in case 1?", "summary": "Do you think enforcing higher penalties for crimes against a good Samaritan, would decrease these types of crimes and therefore improve trust and encourage society's willingness to help one another?"}
{"id": "t3_chwlo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I am at a loss trying to find a good wedding venue in British Columbia for my fiance and I.", "post": "I realise this is a real long shot, but I figured I would try my luck. I'm looking for a wedding venue for just under 100 people. The ideal place would be something like a Large property with a cabin (for the wedding party) and either the ability to camp or a nearby hotel for other (not so important) guests to stay in. We would love to have it on the Shuswap near Salmon arm or Sicamous, but I have looked quite a bit and we've only found a couple places that don't seem to quite meet our needs. We'd naturally be willing to stay anywhere in BC, but it needs to be outdoor and preferably near a lake. Thanks in advance if anyone replies!", "summary": "We need an outdoor wedding venue in BC for about 100 people, preferably near a lake."}
{"id": "t3_3m9ucv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with an old friend[18 F], Old friend to girl friend.", "post": "She and I used to be good friends around middle school, and I had feelings for her back then until I moved out of town. So it has been some time that I have been in touch with her until we coincidentally ended up in the same college and also ended up living really near each other in the dorms. I went to a few welcome week events with her and her friend and it seemed like we had some connection between us. \n\nSo last night we ended up going off campus for dinner, but it was never established as a date or anything.  Although it was just me and her, the whole thing was awkward. It seemed like we both were wondering if this was actually a date, or if it was just a dinner hang out as a friend. \n\nThe whole night was kind of awkward. I wanted to let her know how I felt, but I didn't want to be all sudden and tell her and potentially create a awkward situation. I'm new to dating so I didn't know how to lead towards telling her. \n\nSo, what should I do guys? Do you think I'm moving too fast since I just met her in a long time. Or should I tell how I feel about her? How would I lead towards that conversation?\n\nSorry for bad English and thank you for reading!", "summary": "Coincidentally ended up in the same college/dorm area with an old friend that I had/have feelings for. Not friend zoned or in a relationship with her. Don't know how to precede in telling her without making it awkward between our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2tcx3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(24f) and I (28m) have been dating 3 minths and go out a lot after work and she gets hit on a lot at bars. I think her personality/behavior sends the wrong message to men.", "post": "Me(M28) and my girlfriend(F24) have been dating 2 months, we work together and will go to local bars after work. We work a job where we interact with many people from town. When we go out guys are constantly coming up to her and talking to her(which i have zero problem with) but tye problem i have is she comes off as almost flirty and will hug people as they come up to say goodbye to us.\n To me it gives off the vibe that she is flirting with them. One guy actually came to our work and gave her his phone number. Now im no bitch i say something to these men when it bothers me. \n\nMy question is, would it be wrong to tell her being friendly and hugging men goodbye gives off a vibe that she is available or interested? \nIs it wrong that i ask her to tone it down a bit with that kind of thing.", "summary": "girlfriend comes off as flirty to men and hugs them goodbye when we go to bars. Was wondering if im wrong to be upsetm"}
{"id": "t3_2sh90p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to Respond to Ex girlfriends (16/F) text? [17/M]", "post": "My gf and I broke up a week ago. She broke up with me. She ended up wanting to become friends with benefits and I said no. I said it would be harder for me to move on if I did that and it made me feel like I was being used. So I was really missing her last night and I posted a song lyric from our fav song and put a broken heart next to it. We dated a long time. Anyways, after s week of not talking, she texted me \"so you say you have to move on but you post that?\". How do I respond? It was Kinda rude of her the way she said it but I honestly miss her but I'm not crawling back because she treated me poorly. She is immature. Plus she is flirting with so many guys and she broke up with me. What would be a nice good response?", "summary": "EX wants to know why I posted sad song lyric missing her, don't know how to respond, haven't talked in a while"}
{"id": "t3_4vvc3i", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Neighbor drove into my patio and his insurance is not helping.", "post": "This has been an ordeal for months now and is getting to the point where I may need to get a lawyer involved.\n\nMy neighbor drove into my patio door and damaged the patio door, some of the carpeting inside, patio furniture and a large planter. This was a hit and run as the neighbor then left and did not report this. One of my other neighbors noticed damage on his vehicle later that evening and we called the police to come take a look at the vehicle. When questioned, the neighbor with a damaged car admitted fault to the police officer.\n\nHis car insurance company is not the greatest, and is only offering a resolution of the actual value of the items and not the replacement value. Therefor, the amount of money they are offering is less than what it would even take to repair the sliding patio door. Side note: when I do email or call, it can take 4 days to get s response via email and I have yet to receive a phone call back even when I have requested it.\n\nOur home owners insurance company is able to put a claim in, but then we would have the issue of our rates going up if we do that.\n\nCan we file a law suit against our neighbor or our neighbors insurance company? Is there anything that can be done with the insurance company to even maybe just push them to give us the replacement value at all? We reside in Illinois.", "summary": "neighbor drove into my house. Admitted fault. Neighbors insurance company won't pay up. Anything we can do?"}
{"id": "t3_1eqvle", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [m/22] don't know if I should ask her [f/22] out on a date or leave it be.", "post": "I'm a part of a co-ed organization that gets new recruits every spring. Each new recruit gets paired up with an older member so that the older member may be a mentor to the new recruit. I happened to be paired up with a fun and very beautiful girl. I really liked her, but she had a boyfriend. I respected that and kept things strictly mentor related. \nA few weeks ago, I was at a bar with some friends and this girl randomly shows up to hang out with us. She and I break off to get drinks from the bar and we start talking. She told me that she and her boyfriend broke up. She then told me that she always had a thing for me, but obviously never acted on it because she was in a relationship. Unfortunately she had to work the next day so nothing really come of the night besides her telling me this.\nFrom the point where she told me this till now, she has treated me differently. Some days she is very flirty with me, but other days she acts like she had a chafe of heart and treats me like just a friend with no potential of dating. \nI want to ask her out on a date, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea. I'm not worried about rejection. I just don't want to put her into an awkward position since I'm her mentor.", "summary": "Girl that I'm a mentor to told me she likes me. She goes between flirting and treating me like a friend. I don't want to mess up the mentor dynamic by asking her out and being wrong about her intentions."}
{"id": "t3_2ao5mh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my housemate [27 F] of 4 months, I have a crush on her, she started dating recently", "post": "We get along very well, and a big part of why there is nothing between us is because we house together. Kind of a don't shit where you eat thing, she had a bad experience in the past.\n\nNonetheless I can't help but wishing there could be something between us. I was able to cope with it thinking she might change her mind as time passes, but recently she started seeing someone and it came as quite a blow.\n\nMy intention is not to have her break-up with him, or try to win her over, more power to her if she's happy; I just don't know how to deal with these feelings. It's especially difficult considering I see her every single day. Do I try to avoid her? Do I suck it up and act as if nothing is bothering me? Do I open up and discuss my issues with her? Every option I try to think of has pros and cons, and I'm at a loss what the right course of action is here.\n\nI should note she moves out in a couple of months, but that's still a long time to live with this issue from my point of view.\n\nThanks for your help.", "summary": "have a crush on my housemate, she's kind of into me as well, but chose someone else, now I'm sad."}
{"id": "t3_4wlmfg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my new girlfriend [31 F] 2 weeks, introducing new gf after separation from wife (9 years relationship, 7 years married).", "post": "I've been married for 7 years, and was together with my ex wife for about 2 years prior to that. We separated in spring (may/june), and we are done. Law here in Norway means we have to be separated for a year. We have two children together, 6 and 1,5 years old.\n\nI've met three women from Tinder, one of whom I'm now intimate with. We're very open with each other, and consider ourselves gf/bf and are exclusive. Neither of us have any hurry to make things very serious as we are both vulnerable because of past breakups. She will not be introduced to my kids before we're ready (after new year?).\n\nWe came home from a very nice weekend together a short while ago. One of my closest neighbors, who I also consider a friend, was outside. I introduced my new gf (only by name, but he probably read the situation), and had a talk with him about what he'd been up to the past weeks, as we'd both been on summer holiday. My wife lived here with me almost since we met. I felt awkward introducing someone new, and uneasy now after it's done.\n\nWe are both reluctant to officially announce being together, since our past breakups are not too far in the past (hers in june). We're not sneaking around or keeping it a secret, but we're not announcing it either. She's more reluctant then me as she has a past of some broken relationships.\n\nI'm still processing the breakup, and probably still will for several months. I feel like I'd be judged if I made this public, but this is'nt anything very unusual. Am I being crazy?", "summary": "Met someone new after about 3 months separation, and feel uneasy introducing new gf to people. She feels the same."}
{"id": "t3_34tnng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 23f with longtime friend 23M, did I overreact by ending the friendship?", "post": "I've been friends with Jason for 6 years without any problems. He's always had a crush on me, but has never acted on it beyond the occasional flirting, because I have a boyfriend of 5 years. \n\nJason and I get drunk together sometimes, as we are of age and it's fun. My boyfriend is 100 percent okay with it and has even told us if we need to, to stay at each other's house so we don't drink and drive. My boyfriend has said Jason is the only male friend I have that he trusts.\n\nAbout a month ago, Jason, my friend Lisa, and I got a hotel room in a busy city and we went bar hopping. We all got wasted, and Lisa and I kept touching each other's boobs and just playing around. Jason decided to join in and reached over and stuck his hand in between my cleavage.He pulled it back out quickly, then did it again two more times very quickly. I was drunk, but furious. I pushed him away and told him he needed to apologize. He said \"I'll apologize to [boyfriend] but not to you.\"\n\nI pretty much avoided him for the rest of the night. I called my boyfriend, crying, because I felt like it was my fault; if I hadnt worn a low cut dress he wouldn't have been able to do that.\n\nI had to drive him home the next morning, because Lisa didnt want to, and I had been the one to drive him in the first place. Since then, I've blocked him on facebook, and he texted me once, which I never responded to. \n\nDid I over-react? Back in the room when he'd sobered up, he did apologize, but...I don't know. I feel dirty just thinking about it, but he has been my friend for so long.", "summary": "Long term friend decides to grope me when drunk, am I  overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2e8wr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] am uncertain about my future with my SO [27/M] because he still lives with his parents.", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and this is my first real relationship.  I met him when I was attending college through friends and we started dating around my junior year. He lives with parents, but he works full time (he's not very wise with his finances). He's always talked about moving out but honestly, it doesn't seem like he's going anywhere because he basically lives paycheck to paycheck.  He buys video games, weed, and eletronics that he only messes around with for a short period of time. Since he lives with his parents he relies on his mom to do his laundry, to cook him food, and clean his room/bathroom. But isn't 27 too old for that? Or am I being too judgmental? \n\nI really do love my boyfriend and this is the first time where I've felt like I can truly love someone (I come from an abused childhood).  However, whenever I bring up the fact that he should try to save his money, he gets upset and starts arguing with me. This worries me. Since this is my first real relationship, I'm not quite sure what to do.", "summary": "Im uncertain about my future with my boyfriend because is 27 and lives with his parents, while relying on his mom to cook & clean."}
{"id": "t3_22k9nr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Opinions on my GF[21F] and I's[21M] break, Is it over?", "post": "GF came over and said we needed to talk and said she didnt know what to do because she doesnt know how she feels and has been praying about it. She feels right now we need a break and i agreed. She cried and explained all of that and we have acknowledged how stressed she has been. \n\nWe are in college so she wants to take this summer and pray about it and better ourselves, she said she wants to still keep up with each other and be friends but as of now we are no contact. We've been dating about five months and the last few she has been just so overwhelmed and busy with everything plus I am her first boyfriend in college. \n\nShe said after this summer we can meet up and go out and see where we are at and if she feels like this is where god wants her to be.\n\nUp until when she started getting busy things were great. No fights we have the same friends and interest and get along great. \n\nLong story short, is it over? or do I need to relax and let things settle for a while and then try to begin again?", "summary": "GF doesnt know how she feels, agreed to a break. Is it over or is there hope?"}
{"id": "t3_1h5ggh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Not sure if this is the right place to ask, but have a question for you guys nevertheless", "post": "Hey guys, so my school this year has had a small focus on boys learning as they have noticed that not only are the female students outscoring the males, but the males results seems to drop off more largely in the later years. I have been asked along with some other lads, to deliver a small presentation at the next school assembly which is supposed to 'show off' (and role model in a way) how academics can be really interesting and cool. We've decided to do this by playing a sort of game where we share some facts with the students and get them to guess which is real and which is not, we'll then go on to share a little more information about the real fact. So here's where you guys come in, I was wondering whether anyone has some really interesting facts to do with academia that you think the students (age 13-18) will find interesting or really cool. They can be facts from any topic such as psychology, physics, history, English even maths. Any ideas would be great! Cheers! :)", "summary": "What are some really interesting/ cool facts to do with academic topics?"}
{"id": "t3_3k6cgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 3 months (talking for 6, known for years), she isn't okay with one of my best friends being a girl I once hooked up with", "post": "Okay, so my girlfriend of 3 months has a big issue with one of my best friends of like 4 years being a girl who I hooked up with once four years ago.  \n\nAnytime I mention my friend (i'll call C) to my Girlfriend (I'll call gf) she shuts down and just gets quiet and doesn't talk.  I've asked her about it and she gets so jealous and uncomfortable at the thought of me being good friends with a girl whom I've hooked up with (not even sex).\n\nI do understand how some odd feelings could arise from it, but C is just my good friend and that's it.  We often talk about how she'll be my best man and I'll be her maid of honor... obviously we're not interested in each other.  \n\nThe problem is that I can't fully commit to someone who doesn't trust me fully.  I trust my GF, but if that isn't reciprocated, then I feel short changed.  I have never cheated before, mind you.  I just don't know how to handle it.  I tell my GF every single day how much she means to me, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.  This is possibly a make or break thing for me, because I won't stop being friends with C.  I'm not going to be the guy who shuts out everyone for a GF.  And the thing is that me and C only hang out maybe two times every three weeks.\n\nWhat do I do or say to my GF to get her okay with C?  I've had us all hang out before and it seems to go well, but any day after, GF still is upset about it.", "summary": "my girlfriend is super uncomfortable with me being good friends with a girl that I hooked up with one time four years ago."}
{"id": "t3_36es5c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking me and my SO were having a blood baby.", "post": "So this happend this morning...  SO had been out of town for the weekend and returned early this morning,  needless to say we were both dying to get laid and wasted no time making out way into the bedroom and stripping down.  We were so heated we didn't even manage to get all our clothes off before I was balls deep inside her ripping those panties to the side and going hard.  Instantly I start to think she is waaay to wet...  Pull out to see my Cock covered in thick red blood..  Ugh great..  I tell SO and she starts apologizing embarrassed as hell and runs to shower off.  Me being a little frustrated as I did not get to \"seal the deal\" goes to the shower to try to finish the dead under the cover of water,  I mean hell why not.  When I get to the shower SO is looking worried and tells me there's no way she could have her...  Thing..  And that it must mean she's (blotting? Apparently this is a thing that pregnant women do and bleed a bit..  :s)  So no both of us completely freaked out are showering not saying a word when I go to wash off my deprived tool.  I pull back the foreskin and was off all the blood...  Gross.. Continue to wash the rest of my body then go for the good old round two junk wash like usual and boom,  huge amount of blood under foreskin again...  Wtf..  Closer examination shows I ripped the whole fucking little skin attachy part where the foreskin connects the the head..  Fucking sliced it in half on her razor sharp panties I had pulled tight to the side in all the excitement.. The baby would have almost been preferred.", "summary": "SO thought she was pregnant,  almost cut my penis off."}
{"id": "t3_c5jio", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "With all the blatant selfishness and greed in the world, would a course like this really make a difference?", "post": "I've been thinking about heading back to school and doing a Masters course in some business related field but I'm sick of all the stories of  corporate greed, lies and selfishness. \n\nI think that corporations not only have a responsibility to their shareholders but also to their employees and to the better good of society/environment.\n\nAnyway, I'm an Aussie and I came across this course: \n[Graduate Certficate in Social Impact](\n\nSo my question is, would doing a course really make a difference if both government and corporations don't feel the need to uphold these ethics/responsibilities if it gets in the way of either the bottom line or popular votes?\n\nNow I know some of you will say, why don't you volunteer/spend time in a foreign land helping out/donate? Well, I've done all these things but yet, when I come back to working with large corporations/government, they're mostly measured by money and the perception that they're a responsible corporate citizen.", "summary": "Would a course in Social Impact in a business context really be useful in the future or is it a waste of time and money? Am I just kidding myself?"}
{"id": "t3_2xdud0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tipping \"generously\"", "post": "Went for a fancy meal in Copenhagen. Bill came to around 5000 danish krone (about 500 pounds). Was planning to give a tip of 600 krone so I pressed 6-0-0 on the card machine. Unfortunately this left a tip of 6 krone (60 pence) But I felt pretty generous.\n\nClearly in this type of restaurant the staff are not going to point out the mistake so the waiter was still being really friendly giving us advice for the rest of our holiday. Also they give you some sweets (candy) when you leave. Only realised our mistake when we got back to the hotel, the sweets seem like blood diamonds now :(", "summary": "left a 0.1% tip at a really fancy restaurant thinking I left 10%"}
{"id": "t3_10mi2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19f] feel like my boyfriend [20m] is babying me.", "post": "We've been together for almost 11 months. Lately, it seems like he's babying me and it makes me feel like he thinks I'm stupid. A lot of the time, it has to do with my car. I'll say something to him about something that's wrong (power steering is messed up right now, for example), and he'll tell me all these things about how dangerous it is and how I need to take it to a mechanic, and that he can do it for me at this time, blah blah blah. Another thing is with school. If I miss a class, he'll be sure to tell me to email the Professor... like I don't already know that... And with work. I haven't been getting many hours, and I was complaining to him, and he keeps telling me to threaten to quit if they don't give me more hours, etc.\n\nI'm getting pretty annoyed. I'm not stupid. I can take care of myself. Maybe it's just his way of showing he cares, but it's making me feel like he thinks I'm dumb or something... I don't know. Any advice on how to get him to stop? I don't want him to take it the wrong way.", "summary": "My boyfriend is making me feel stupid by telling me to do really common sense things when it comes to my car, my job, and my classes. How can I make him stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2btlym", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "trouble with me 21f and ex 21m....does he want to start something up again? or friends?", "post": "We broke up about 8 months ago due to me being going through A LOT of personal crap. He knew the whole time I still cared for him and I wanted him back. We have had very little contact but some since the break up. He has always expressed that he would be here for me whenever i needed him.\n\nHe would also confuse me, because he would text me and then stop. A couple weeks later again he would do the same thing. My birthday he sent me a REALLY long message saying he hopes my day is incredible etc. \n\nAbout a month ago I added him back on fb and snapchat because he deleted me because he wanted me back.\n\nThat probably doesn't make much sense because earlier I said he wouldn't take me back but he was kind of strange in a way that he felt that since we broke up it was for a reason and we could not be together again..\n\nWell this whole summer he has been in Spain for school. He recently came back and we started snap chatting. I initiated because I sent it to everyone and put it on my story. To my surprise, he snapped me back and we started talking. (This was yesterday) I asked him about Spain and he said he has a lot of pictures if I wanted to see. AND THEN later in the day I asked him to send me a recipe and he said \"Or I can teach you how to make it\" Totally caught me off guard, so I said \"Yeah you should because it's really good\" then he continued saying \"let me know when you move back in [to school]\" \n\nI'm not sure what his intentions are and I am honestly too afraid to ask. I'm in love with this kid and breaking up with him made me realize how much I cared for him. I did tell him once that he pursued me the wrong way and we went too fast and that we should have been friends first.\n\nSo I am taking this as a friendship right now but I REALLY am trying not to get my hopes up. I know he still cares but he is so stubborn I don't know if he is wanting to rekindle the relationship.", "summary": "My ex of 8 months who I broke up with suggested dinner in a very very casual way. Not sure what to think. I am still in love with him."}
{"id": "t3_1iovri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] with my boyfriend [25M], I think I would like to be in a polyamorous relationship. I have no idea how to tell him", "post": "I love my boyfriend and we have an amazing relationship. We have been dating for 7 years. I met him when I was 16, and have never really dated or been with anyone else besides him.\n\nHe is a wonderful person and also my best friend. The sex is great and I feel like a crazy person for wanting to explore and open our relationship up to other people. I have felt this way for a while, but always struggled with it and swallowed those feelings- I have been told by many people that polyamory always fails and destroys relationships.\n\nRecently I found out that some coworkers and friends are in \"closeted\" polyamorous relationships. They seem wildly happy and when they told me I was surprised at how jealous I felt.\n\nI would also like to explore because right now I feel like my sexuality is toying with me. I feel attracted to some women but I have never acted on those feelings.\n\nLastly, I am very anxious and feel guilty about how my boyfriend will take all of this. I feel like I should have realized this about myself sooner, and that telling him will really shock and upset him. He moved away from all of his family to come out here and be with me, and I really care about him and want this relationship to work. \n\nAm I being selfish for wanting to bring this up with him? It seems unfair to come at him with this after 7 years of being in a happy monogamous relationship with him. There is also a good chance that communicating this want to him could end our relationship.", "summary": "Been in a monogamous relationship for 7 years, would like to open up relationship but have no idea how to tell boyfriend about it, worried that talking to him could break us up"}
{"id": "t3_2j2mk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of three months. This is kinda a silly question, but I was wondering if you guys could give me input on my idea for asking her to out school cotillion.", "post": "Hello all!  \n  So I have been dating a girl for three months after almost a year of being best friends, and it is coming to that time of year when the boys begin asking girls to the school cotillion, which is a dance. When it comes to asking girls, many guys are usually pretty simplistic with it, however I would want to do something that was creative.  \n  Now coincidentally her birthday is on the 31, which is Halloween (and also our 4 month anniversary!) so I definitely plan on getting her some gifts. One gift that I want to give her is a pair of pajama pants that I have that she says she loves. Now these pajama pants which I would order online are also consumable, so I can add text to it.  \n  Would it be a good idea to ask her by buying a pair with \"Cotil?\" on the pants? I think it is creative, but I am not sure because the text would be on there forever. I know this is a weird question but I want to ask her in the best way possible, so any feedback would be great!  \n     Thank you all!", "summary": "would it be weird to ask my girlfriend to our school cotillion  by getting customized pajama pants with \"Cotil?\" written on it?"}
{"id": "t3_313tad", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it possible to be married but live apart? I'm 29/F, husband 35/M", "post": "My husband posted on here about this a few days ago, but left out a lot of details so I'm just going to ask my own question:\n\nWhat's it like to be married and live in separate homes?\n\nBackstory: We married November 1st and I instantly started having major health issues. I did NOT know he was miserable at his job and trying to avoid telling me about it so I could fight through my issues, so fell into a deep depression, which I couldn't see. Obviously this made things worse, involved some funny activity on our bank account (mistake #1 -- we should not have combined finances!) and caused him to start lying a lot. I got better in January-ish, but he was totally absent -- I wasn't allowed to have feelings, etc etc. \n\nI moved out in early February and filed for divorce on March 1st (but isn't finalized until we sign papers, which would be at the soonest June 1st.) We spent about 2-3 weeks apart before I finally called him to talk. I had been in therapy and so had he -- and we had both grown and realized SO much. I had issues stemming from my parents and so did he. My own negativity was because of my relationship with my mom (I haven't talked to her in 2 weeks now -- planning no contact with her and communicating only with dad) and he's become -- this sounds so cheesy -- just the most AWESOME person.\n\nI've already signed a lease on my own place and he's living with friends in a very healthy house (literally -- everyone eats really well, sleeps by 10pm, etc.). \n\nFor us, I think we need our own spaces to keep growing and healing and find our own happiness -- mostly because we both never HAD space as adults (he's 35, I'm almost 30) and we want to be able to have an awesome marriage. Living together might actually hinder the process we're making in therapy and the ability to learn how to be OURSELVES.\n\nAlso: We are seeing a couples therapist tonight, who hopefully we will see regularly moving forward. This was mistake #2 -- not seeing one MONTHS ago.", "summary": "Can we live apart -- even just for 6 months to a year -- and have a great marriage? Have you done it?"}
{"id": "t3_3154i1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/m] am confused as all get out about the actions of my girlfriend [20/f]. Please help?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for about two months at this stage, so not all that long. I really like her, but so far it's been a roller coaster for me interpreting her actions.\n\nShe's done some awesome things for me like surprise me with random gifts and asked me to accompany her on dates that were a really big deal for her, like her first baseball game ever. They were front row seats, and her dad and brothers LOVE baseball. Yet, she took me. That really meant a lot to me, and it's various things like this that make me think that she genuinely likes me. Plus, she's a really good looking girl (so many guys after her) so it's not like she'd have to stay with me if she didn't like me. \n\nHowever, I'm confused as fuck because we went from texting and talking everyday for a month and a half to all of a sudden her basically dropping off the face of the earth. I know she's been having a difficult personal life lately and has been very, very busy, so I think this is part of it. Sometimes this means not texting/calling me back for two or three days at a time though and she hardly ever initiating the conversations anymore. I understand being busy. I work two jobs and am a full time student and I still find time to talk to her, so this kind of hurts.\n\nI really like her and would like to try my best to make this work before I give up, but I'm not sure what to do right now. For the past three weeks, I've felt like I was the last priority in her life. It's possible she could be fading on me, but then out of the blue she'll text me things about how sweet I've been being. \n\nSeriously, what is up here?", "summary": "I'm pretty sure my gf really does like me, but she sure hasn't been putting effort into the relationship the last 3 weeks. Whats up?"}
{"id": "t3_1zxisg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Times are dark. What can we do for each other? [M and F both 20]", "post": "Hi, all! I've never posted online like this before, but I've been told it could help!\n\nI, [20,F] have been going through a lot of issues lately. I found out about being sexually abused as a child by a friend's father almost 2 years ago (I'm not sure for how long), and just uncovered memories from the past of abuse from someone else last week. In that last week I also lost trust with most of my friends, and am coming to terms with having to live alone next year (something that HORRIFIES me).\n\nI have had a terrible track record with counseling, MHPs, etc. including victim blaming, laughter, etc. I don't have anyone else in my life I can talk to or trust, but am in contact with another service that may be able to help me. I know he's also in contact with people that can actually help him therapeutically.\n\nMy boyfriend is having a hard time coping with the stress that comes with my issues, and I am afraid of seeing him so sad. I feel like we can't talk to each other without hurting each other. We've been together for about a year and a half, and haven't had a moment to just be happy with each other. \n\nThe corrosive loneliness is eating me from the inside, and I know he feels guilty for not knowing what to do. I know I can handle myself in regards to what happened in my past (even with pain), I just don't want to accidentally hurt him anymore, but I don't want to shut him out either.  \n\nI don't know if posting here is the right thing to do, but he always said this might be able to help me. If anyone can, please help us. How can we be there for each other? How can I get past the fear/anxiety/trauma of living alone? How can I be there for him to see him smile again? \n\nI'm sorry if anything is unclear. If so, please ask me anything that may help. Thank you very much for your time, and for any help you can give in advance.", "summary": "Life has been hard for me and my boyfriend. How can we support each other?"}
{"id": "t3_37s3h0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] Hit My Boyfriend [20m] Because I Thought He Cheated", "post": "I found some texts on my boyfriends phone from a (what I thought to be) female name (Ashley), He doesn't hang out with very many girls and the name wasn't one that sounded familiar at all. I confronted him about talking to another girl, he denied it and I thought he was lying to my face and I hit him, in the face, and he was like wtf is wrong with you and stuff, I showed him the texts, he said that's a guy, He called him to confirm this and now I feel like an idiot. He hasn't exactly broke up with me but he's kinda keeping to himself now, he's not talking to me and I feel like he's blocking me out. He's in another room and I want to apologize or do something sweet for him but idk. I feel so terrible. :( we've been together 1 year and 7 months, what do I do", "summary": "I hit my boyfriend because I thought he was cheating on me."}
{"id": "t3_1bqg8w", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I think I have Reddit to thank for being broken up with", "post": "Hi, quick backstory is my now ex-boyfriend decided that he wasn't happy and instead of hashing it out with me and seeing what could be done he came straight to Reddit where people confirmed that it wasn't working and that he should end it. I think it's a shame that no one encouraged him to discuss with me. All he did was give me a \"trial week\" that I had no idea about and during that week he didn't discuss anything, issues or fixes. I was kept in the dark and then suddenly, he just ends it and stops talking to me. (The no contact rule should only really be used to get over someone who you don't want to be friends with again in my opinion. It's more damaging than people realise..)\n\nSince this has happened I have been able to self-reflect and have learnt what I did wrong on my own and am on the path to becoming a better, more optimistic person. (I had some depressing issues in my life making me miserable) But I realise that there is not much of a chance now to work things out since he is absolutely set on his decision.\n\nIt really pains me that he wasn't able to confront me and try to work things out. Don't cut a knot when it can be untied. I have lost an amazing guy and I know that fighting for him just pushes him away further. So I am taking this time to improve myself.\n\nObviously there is some good advice on here, but remember that your baggage and situation is completely unique and might not be the same for someone else. Just be mindful that some people don't look at the situation from all angles or get unbiased advice, so your advice can actually end up being the make or break in someone else's life.", "summary": "Please be more encouraging of situations with your advice and don't write off the other person unless they are truly an awful, abusive, toxic person. Give the dumpee or potential dumpee a fighting chance please..."}
{"id": "t3_1iiade", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] having trouble with finding a time to tell this girl[19F] that I like her", "post": "We've hung out a couple of times and it seems like we have fun when we're together. We both have a lot of the same interests and enjoy doing the same things. There is definitely something on my end but I'm unsure about her feelings.\n\nHere's where I get a little hung up. We work together in close proximity.\n\nI want to tell her how I feel before she gets another boyfriend but I just can't seem to find the right time. The only times I can think of would be when we're hanging out or after work.\n\nOn top of this when I do tell her I want to suggest a date but I can't think of anything that we haven't already done short of going to see a movie or coffee. I just feel that any date ideas would be more like we're hanging out than anything.", "summary": "I work with the girl I like and I want to tell her but I can't figure out when would be best. Also I want to suggest a date but everything I think of seems more like we would be hanging out than a date, even if we call it that."}
{"id": "t3_2tz669", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ex-girlfriend [20 F] duration 8 months. How badly did I mess up trying to get her back?", "post": "Hello,\n\nMy girlfriend broke up with me before Christmas. She told me she loved me and that she felt like shit because she couldn't spend time with me. I let her go.\n\nWe sent each other Christmas gifts. In addition to some stuff I got her before we broke up, I made her a little jar full of notes about what I love about her and why I miss her.\n\nShe told me she hated it because I was trying to guilt trip her. I wasn't. I just wanted to make her something personal. She kept the gift though. She told me all this.\n\nNow all the guys I've spoke to say that doing this was extremely sad and pathetic. So much so that I'm now embarrassed I made it.\n\nWhat I'm asking is, was it a bad thing that I made this and gifted it to her? Did I actually make as big a mistake as I now think I've made? She texted me saying that she never wants to see me again because of the gift I made. This seems like a big over-reaction though to me? Am I just in denial?\n\nGuess I just wanted a place to vent and write something about this.\n\nThanks.\n\nI'm 23, she's 20.", "summary": "Made the girl I love a present telling her why I love her and why I miss her. She hates me after potentially loving me."}
{"id": "t3_538ba4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Crush asked me out and I'm freaking out?? What should I do?!", "post": "So I've been hanging out with this girl (F20) for a while now (about a year, more frequently recently). I (M21) even posted about her on this account. She basically is a very attractive girl who is also kind of a slut (objectively, she's cheated on all of her boyfriends). \n\nRecently I started developing feelings for her, which I am trying to avoid since nothing good would come out of it.\nI haven't seen her since I started feeling this, about a week ago. I'm pretty sure that she sees me only as a friend and I am perfectly fine with that, but today, she somewhat strangely asked me out.\n\nShe calls me and asks what I'm doing today, when I tell her not much, she's basically saying goodbye and about to hang up, so I ask her if she only called me to ask me that. I can tell she got nervous by how she started talking. She responded something like \"yeah, no, I was wondering if you wanna go for a drink.\" I obviously said sure, and we set a time and place.\n\nNow, there's nothing overly strange with this. She might just want to tell me some gossip like she's done before. But I'm freaking out nonetheless. I would love to be able to not think anything about it and be calm and go with it, but I can't help feeling jumpy and nervous.\n\nWhat should I do? Is there anything I can do to calm down and be more relaxed about this?\n\nAlso, what should I do once I get there? What if she's actually somewhat into me? WTF??\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Girl I've been developing feelings for (but don't want to) asked me out and I don't know what to do. I'm freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_16h0vp", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Thank You r/GetMotivated!!!", "post": "Fellow Redditors! 2012 has come and go for about a week now and I have already met some short-term fitness goals and made even more goals to meet later in the future. I just want to take the time to say thank you for everyone who has put up inspiring links to pictures for self-motivation, self-motivation videos, and who have shared their own experiences on what they did to get motivated and how they overcame any obstacle in their way. You guys/girls are great and keep it up! 2013 is going to be a great year filled with lots of room for self-improvement and accomplishing even more challenges! \n\nNow, why am I thanking you guys/girls? Because...\n\nAfter reading through multiple pages of people sharing experiences of their hardships, surpassing their goals, etc, I came to realize that I'm not the only one going through some hard shit when it came to self-improvement. I stopped bullshitting myself into thinking I can never get better at self-improvement. I checked back on this subreddit multiple times when I felt down and unable to go to the gym. All the things I've seen and read here resonated with me at some point or another. So, I started training harder and studying harder. I have a 3.7 GPA in college and my fitness level has never been better!!! I have a 105/60 blood pressure (which is really, really good since previously it was 130/85 and I'm only 20 years old) and my cardiovascular has helped me move past plateaus of fitness challenges that I thought I could never reach! I can move faster, lift heavier (with good form) and endure longer. Aside from lowering my blood pressure, losing 40lbs of weight, and becoming a better me with a goal set to be even better, I feel happier. There is more to say, but it's too much, and maybe most of you won't read through this, so I'd just like to say...\n\n**THANK YOU r/GetMotivated FOR EVERYTHING!!!", "summary": "Thanks for the constant motivation!!! Best of luck in 2013 and keep self-improving!!! WE GOT THIS!!!"}
{"id": "t3_2ollqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my [26 F] of 4 years, cant agree on finances. Specifically with groceries.", "post": "So I am a broke graduate student with a part time job at a grocery store as a assistant manager. My SO works fulltime at a well of neurosurgeons office. So to say the least my finances are stressed while hers are not as much comparatively.\n\nSo the problem occurred tonight when I was studying for finals she went out shopping for our weekly groceries. So the list that I estimated would cost 90 dollars cost 140$\n\nThis mainly occured because she doesnt use coupons, doesnt look for sales(BOGO, $off, or even what the price is most of the time), and she also buys organic.\n\nI dont have the kind of money to be almost doubling what my groceries to cost. We split most finances 50/50, and with the differing incomes it is stressful on me. What is the best way to approach this situation?\n\nSolutions I have come up with.\n\n* Let me shop(Its logical, I know when things go on sale and how to look for the best prices).\n* Go shopping together(Doesnt really work well with our differing schedules)\n* Pay a certain percentage less than her(not optimal)\n* Let her shop and suck it up in other ways (again not optimal)", "summary": "Girlfriend spends too much money grocery shopping and I cant afford it. How do I approach this situation appropriately?"}
{"id": "t3_rhhii", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What unorthodox teaching strategies did your parents employ with you?", "post": "When I was around ten, my dad caught me reading some magazines for adults that I found by chance in a drawer at my grandparent's house. They weren't pornographic but still covered issues about sexuality and had plenty of pictures including, for example, nude couples depicting different sexual positions.  \n\nI remembered when he came in to the room the way my knees shook. I thought I was going to be in such a trouble. Instead, he looked at me with what I recognize now as a slight smile and said calmly \"you shouldn't be reading those, they are not intended for kids and maybe you'll get a wrong idea of how things are\". \n\nSo he put the magazines back into their place and had me follow him to my grandfather's huge studio. He searched for a book out of the bookshelves and when he found it he gave it to me and said \"Read this and we'll discuss it together, once we're finished I'll allow you to read those magazines and whatever else you want\". \n\nThe book was [The Naked Ape] by Desmond Morris.", "summary": "dad caught reading adult magazines, had me read an anthopology classic"}
{"id": "t3_2djtus", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] Worried about connecting with someone new", "post": "I just got out of a relationship with my boyfriend [20/m] of over a year and a half. We have broken up a few times in the past, so this time I was pretty much expecting it. I'm sad, but I'm doing really well. The previous times we've broken up I would be unable to get out of bed for weeks, crying nonstop. This time, it's only been about 4 days but I have barely cried at all, and have been going out with my friends having a good time.\n\nI loved my boyfriend a lot, and could even see myself marrying him one day. However, he wasn't sure if he felt the same way, which is why we broke up. I obviously have to accept that I liked him more than he liked me.\n\nI am starting my third year at college in a few days, and am excited and optimistic about meeting new people. I am not necessarily hunting for a new boyfriend, but the idea of meeting somebody else is nice. I am kind of worried about how it will be though. When I met my ex, we connected immediately. After dating for so long, he became my best friend and we knew everything about each other. I'm nervous it is not going to be so easy again if I happen to meet a new guy I like.\n\nThis was the longest relationship I've ever been in. I've never been so close to somebody. I am ready to move on, but starting over is a bit scary. I am looking for some advice or words of wisdom from those who have been in a similar situation as this. Was it difficult connecting with a new person when you met them? I feel like everybody is going to a stranger. Is it hard to become as close to a new person as you were with you ex?", "summary": "Recently broke up with boyfriend of over a year and a half. Ready to move on, but am nervous about how difficult connecting with a new person is going to be. I hope to one day be as close to somebody new than I was with my ex."}
{"id": "t3_2jrm6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] hit my GF [22 F] of 2 years on accident and I want to make it up to her.", "post": "My mother passed away recently and i was going trough a lot of depression. (not trying to excuse it) My girlfriend was trying to be supportive and get me trough it but during one of our talks she told me that i needed to get on with my life because locking myself u wasn't going to make things better. I got really angry at her and we started arguing and i don't know how but i ended up slapping her pretty hard. \n\nShe told me i was a piece of shit and she was only trying to help me.  She left to stay at a friends house for a bit and i feel like shit. I have never hit a woman before and i would never do it again.\n\n I'm in love with her and don't want this to end because of my mistake. I talked to her and she said she loved me but i had hurt her and she needed some time to think. How can i make it up to her?\n\nI know im a piece of shit and don't deserve to have her back but i swear i never meant to hurt her.", "summary": "I hit my girlfriend in a moment of weakness and i need advice on how to make it better."}
{"id": "t3_1u6rxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is going on in a stonewalling man's mind? (Cross-post from r/askmen)", "post": "My boyfriend (M,29) gets very angry and stonewalls me(F,26) after an argument. Sometimes this takes days and weeks. I have tried apologizing, being nice and loving, crying, begging everything. He does not budge, and continues to ignore me. How do I get him to take down the wall? What is going on in his mind? Help!", "summary": "How to make angry, stonewalling boyfriend talk to me?"}
{"id": "t3_4mezfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] get constantly attached to various girls in my daily routine", "post": "I experience this all the time and I can't figure out how to avoid getting frustrated everytime I get closer to a girl. I have never been in a relationship and I keep find interest in every girl I communicate a little longer with.\n\nThings become very difficult for me when we (any of those girls) get closer and I'm actively noticing that I'm of course not her only friend, confidant or whatever I am to her. At first I don't intend to ask them out or see myself in a relationship with one of them, but then I get really jealous when I'm not alone with them anymore, when I feel being replaceable. This can't be normal. It makes me hate myself for feeling so jealous about other people's interactions, even if I didn't feel attached at first, I do now - more than ever before. Whenever that begins I either realize that she has more close friends than I've believed so far or others kind of notice my affection for her and they become more active as well. It's a curse.\n\nI come up with it now because it just happened again with a girl from work who's also 21 years old, in a relationship for about 3 years and planning to marry him some day. I barely even noticed her until we became very good friends 'on accident' over the course of 6 months. And I feel bad now for these feelings because I just don't want to be like this. I don't want to be jealous about it. She's in a good position, she loves her boyfriend so much and you can see it in her eyes when she speaks about him. I've no intentions to change that at all nor do I want to bring it up because it just complicates everything. She told me about other friends who wanted to be more than friends with her and she totally distanced herself from them, because she didn't wanted to feel weird when hugging them or 'sending wrong signals'.\n\nIt's one of many stories I've experienced so far, this is just the recent. Have you any ideas how to deal with it? Have you been in situations like this before?", "summary": "When I get closer to girls (like friendship) I become pretty jealous very soon when I get to feel I'm not the only person that she trusts or even entertains her. Have you experienced it as well? Have you ideas how to avoid that?"}
{"id": "t3_15gg0r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Christmas vacation with the in-laws, and I'm officially on my first Xanax. How do I get through this week without bitch-slapping someone?", "post": "I told my husband that my one stipulation for going up to his parents for Christmas this year was that he help out with cooking. Every year his mothers \"asks\" for my help in chopping, stirring, frying, and baking the most elaborate and exhausting Christmas dinners for 10 people, while her 4 middle-age sons hide upstairs playing video games and shirking chores. The rest of the trip I usually spend on average 3 hours a day helping her prepare and clean up after meals for \"the boys\". My husband's enthusiastic attempt to help today quickly turned into disgruntled anger once he realized how much work was involved. This led to him arguing with his brothers about helping out, and finally a lecture from his mother to ME about how in her day, the women would never think of asking the men to help. How the fuck do I stay civil to these clowns for rest of this trip?", "summary": "Christmas vacation with my in-laws means that I am subjected to a week of gender-based slavery and I need advice on how to get through it."}
{"id": "t3_qpxz8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to write a victim impact statement about being sexually assaulted from my ex boyfriend. Any tips? More info inside...", "post": "We are both in High School yet, and when my ex boyfriend (Lets call him \"Randy\") and I started dating in mid September this last year, 2011. We were together a little over a month, so through October, but during that time he was extremely pushy about everything, and with everything. He couldnt keep his hands to himself, and was abusive physically and verbally. We would be sitting in the park nearby my house, and he would push me down onto the picnic, pin me there, and run his hands up my shirt and down my pants. I had a curfew to  be home by, and wouldnt care, he'd keep me pinned on the table grinding his nasty body against mine. I would tell him I didnt want this to happen, that I wasnt comfortable, and he told me that if I didnt go along with it that he would spread word around that I was sleeping with all these different guys, that I was smokin' it up everyday, that I cheated on my past boyfriends with someone else, etc. So naturally I was scared to say anything against what he \"wanted to do.\"  Along with pinning me down, he would take my hand and force me to give him a handjob and would try to thrust my head down to give him a blowjob as well. \n\nThis happened on numerous occasions...I feel so guilty right now for not laying down ground rules and boundaries, and Im full of regret that had anything to do with him. \nWhat scares me though is that this all happened in September-October 2011, and I just filed sexual harrassment against him last month or so. The reason I waited so long was because I was afraid to talk about it to anybody, I was constantly angry so I distanced myself from people. Until I finally opened up to one of my closest friends about what he did, and she suggested I file sexual assault.\nSo now I have to write a victim impact statement, and I was wondering if Reddit had any tips for doing that? I believe myself to be good with words, but I just want this to be the best possible so that (hopefully) something will be done.", "summary": "My ex was a douchenozzle andcouldnt keep his hands to himself and I have to write a victim ipmact statement and need help to make it the best as possible."}
{"id": "t3_4du5oq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (37M) deal with girlfriends (33F) best friend (33F)", "post": "Me and my GF have been dating on and off for almost 3 years. We broke up about a year ago but got together after we found we are actually good together. I really love this girl and want a future with her. She says she loves me too and we are planning to move in together.\n.\nProblem is her best friend from high school. They are BFF and tell each other everything (something am uncomfortable with). This BFF does not seem to like me and she actively encourages GF to break up with me. GF knows my concerns and says she makes her own mind, but i am really uncomfortable with this BFF. \n\nHow do I handle this situation. We are going to be seeing each other in social situations in future and there is no way to avoid her. So am not sure how to behave.", "summary": "How do I deal with girlfriend's BFF who actively encourages GF to ditch me?"}
{"id": "t3_1q0ltp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 M] dealing with my GF [23F] of almost five years starting to have feelings for another guy.", "post": "So I'm so distraught right now. My SO of almost five years recently started a second job (for holiday money). At this job she has met a guy(her boss keep in mind) that tells her he really really likes her.\n Turns out she likes him as well but not as much because she loves me. He wants to be with her but knows she's with me and \"respects that\". This hurts bad still knowing the woman I planned on proposing to next year would create these feelings for another this deep in our committed relationship. \nI can't imagine getting feelings for someone other than her. She is now struggling because she doesn't want to hurt either one of us. This hurts as well as I'm like in \"competition\" with some guy she's been having conversations with for a few weeks.. Any advice? I don't know what to do. I can't eat or sleep. It's like my whole world's structure has collapsed. I need some encouragement or something.Am I blowing things outta proportion? I don't even know how to feel right now.", "summary": "girlfriend of almost five years likes coworker to the point it's threatening our relationship and future."}
{"id": "t3_23ouc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 6 months, How long should you stay in a relationship you know isn't going to end in wedding bells", "post": "Six months in a relationship with my Girlfriend and through our conversations I have come to the conclusion that we are not going to go all the way and that is fine. Basically our biggest issues stem from the fact that she does not have the life experiences that she feels that she needs and I am holding her back. \n\nI have no interest in being controlling and I have no right to tell my GF what she can and can't do but I am also entitled to have feelings about things. I have just let her know which actions I would find disrespectful or hurtful.\n\nAnyway in the short term this is fine and we really enjoy each other. Long term this is going to be a problem. She is not a bad person and I hope I am not either. This just isn't going to work long term.\n\nSo how long does the hive mind think is healthy to stay in a relationship that you know has to end? Everyone is different I would just like to establish a baseline.", "summary": "Even if you are enjoying the relationship at what point do you need to move on if you know that you have no future."}
{"id": "t3_2uc9gw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] don't know how to approach my [18F] roommate about her incessant, loud and distracting singing", "post": "My roommate (18) and I (19) get along pretty well, but whenever she's in the dorm room, she plays her music aloud and sings at the top of her lungs. She does this constantly, and it's extremely loud and distracting. My friends can often barely hear me over Skype (even when I'm using a headset), and it makes it really difficult to focus on work. I tell her to turn it down occasionally when it gets really absurd, but I want a more long-term solution. It's been going on for a semester now and my non-confrontational ways have prevented me from talking to her about it. I don't want to get into a fight, and I don't want to upset her. \n\nI know I need to talk to her about not singing in the room, but I don't know how to say it without sounding rude. At this point, I can only assume she thinks I'm totally okay with it. She's not doing it to be annoying, and she probably doesn't even realize it's kind of rude, and really distracting when I'm studying or trying to talk to friends. I don't think she's ever roomed with someone before, so I don't think she's considered what another person might want. I'm just really fed up with it, and I want to have a conversation with her instead of snapping at her.\n\nI'm worried that if I just confront her about it, she'll get angry. She's not someone who would tell me to my face that she's upset, but she talks bad about people to me a lot, and I'm worried she'll think I'm being harsh. She clearly thinks her singing is good, and she tries to get me to listen to her sing all the time. I've made jokes about how I don't want to listen to her, but she seems to brush them off and continue anyway.  \n\nAny suggestions on how to talk to her about the singing would be very appreciated! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Roommate won't stop singing loudly in our dorm room, and I need a polite way to get her to stop."}
{"id": "t3_4jdyo7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting an eye full of hot sauce", "post": "So, yesterday morning I took a girl from work on a date to this fancy little seaside breakfast shack for breakfast. As a side note she brought her baby along. We talked, had a good time, I ordered green tea pancakes and eggs, cus green tea is bombtastic, and the waitress brought our food over.\n\nThis is where the FU happened. So I'm one of those people who like ketchup on their eggs. This little breakfast shack had put their condiments in small little squirt bottles, and there were two of them that were red, but the container was opaque. Being the genius I am, I thought to myself I'd just open it and smell what's inside to find the ketchup. So I picked up a bottle with red liquid inside, opened it, and squeezed so I could get a wiff of what was contained inside. I guess there was some sauce stuck in the top so low and behold I received a face blast of hot sauce and mostly into my left eye.\n\nNow at this point I start freaking out because it feels like my eye ball is about to explode, then the baby starts freaking out, and my date is just laughing and calming her child down. I'm just sitting there wiping my tearing eye, feeling all embarrassed and stuff.", "summary": "Takes date to breakfast, gets a eye full of hot sauce, everyone freaks out, I feel embarrassed."}
{"id": "t3_279lb6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I like a popular girl...", "post": "So I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we became friends. We became friends because I would help her with the relationship she was in. She would tell me things about her boyfriend and things she was annoyed with him about... and their sex life. LONG story short they broke up. She would still talk to me then find me walking in the halls. Then sometimes she would text me too. Sometimes I would catch her staring at me.\n \nOne thing that is difficult is she is popular. I am an inbetweener. She is also really pretty and I think she is WAY out of my league. But one of my friends (who is a girl) said that she mite be playing hard to get. She also has never asked to hang out with me, but does with her other guy friends. I really don't know. I don't want to make a move then ruin our friendship. So I don't know if she likes me or she is just being friendly. I don't know if I should try to go for her either. Any advise would be helpful. Thank you", "summary": "I like a popular girl. I am an inbetweener I really don't know if she likes me. Some people tell me she is playing hard to get, but i don't know."}
{"id": "t3_12oob9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M27] slept with separated close friend [F26]. She wants more. How do I let her down easy?", "post": "I'll try to keep it as short as possible: \n\nThrough most of my university years, I was close friends with a beautiful girl who was well out of my league (back then). Yes, I was well and truly in the friendzone. She got married last year to a guy she'd known for only a few months. Last month, she got into a fight with her husband and moved out of their home. During a night of comforting her at my place, one thing led to another and we had sex. Over the next three weeks, we kept at it and spent a lot of time with each other, mostly in the bedroom. \n\nNow, she's started to talk about filing for divorce and about \"us\" and our future. I have never hinted that I am interested in a relationship or being anything more than FWBs. She seems to be assuming that I would want her as a girlfriend based on my personality she got to know in university, which as since changed a lot.\n\nFor a number of reasons, I don't want to get into a relationship, especially not with her. I want her to do what is right for her (divorce vs. no divorce) without factoring me into her decision. I feel like my only choice may be to bite the bullet and risk losing her as a friend by being clear that I don't want a relationship with her. Has anybody else been in this situation? Is there a way to let her down easy and not lose our friendship?", "summary": "Slept with close friend while she was separated from her husband. Now she wants a relationship and seems to be moving towards divorce based on that. I don't want a relationship. How do I let her down without ruining the friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_2fv0ml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] how do I find friends?", "post": "So I'm 20 very shy because of my past but I am working on over coming that. I get along with everyone even though it takes me a while but I have never had close friends that I would hang out with and stuff. \n\nThe last 4 or 5 years I have traveled all over Australia for work so when I met some one I would only know them for 2 maybe 3 months then never talk to them again. I don't drink or party so that cuts a huge amount of people out but there must be more people like me but where and how?\n\nExtra note, my old Girl Friend deleted my FB account because I had all her friends added and I could never be bothered making a new one.", "summary": "Where are good places to find new mates? How do I start the conversation and get there number or organise to do something?"}
{"id": "t3_2nkg4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I(M21) raped my girlfriend(F21)...", "post": "So me and my girlfriend were laying naked in bed after having sex. We were talking when I get the urge to go down on her. I went between her legs and proceed to go down her and everything was fine. When she pulled me up to her face I realized I was hard and I decided to just slip inside and just chill inside her (something normal we've done a few times before). \n\nI didn't hold her down and wasn't violent about it in anyway, it was all meant to be playful. When I did that she seemed a little peeved and told me to get out, I thought she was just being playful likes she's done before. Before I had a chance to get out she kicked me off and I could tell it really hurt her. \n\nShe curled up and we tried talking about it and I apologized and tried to comfort her. I told her I know I did something wrong and how sorry I was. Now she won't talk to me, and I know I don't deserve her forgiveness right now. But I never meant to hurt her or forcefully have sex with her, I honestly was just messing around. \n\nAs soon as I knew she was being serious I wanted to stop but never had a chance. I just want to know how I can help or if I even should, and how and if we can fix things. Before she stopped talking to me she seemed really lost and confused. Even if she does end up breaking up with me, which I deserve, I want her to be okay and happy again.", "summary": "I thought I was playfully messing around with my girlfriend,  but realized I sexually assaulted her"}
{"id": "t3_k2ypn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Windows 7 Clean install advice? [First Post] [x-post from r/techsupport]", "post": "I purchased [this] laptop 6 months ago as a secondary computer, and recently my primary desktop gave up the ghost, leaving the laptop to take its place in the meantime.  I will be doing a clean install of Windows 7 Home Premium (came with the PC) shortly to get everything back to stock, and I was wondering if reddit had any advice about what I should install (or not install) to keep my middling little Samsung running as lean as possible until I nerd out enough to spend a weekend on /r/buildapc and make a first attempt at building a new desktop. I've done clean installs before, but since then I've discovered reddit and the fact that it usually has pretty solid advice to give.\n\nI am going to back up all my drivers to a flash drive, and anything else worth keeping is already on an external HD.\n\nSuggestions on any good utilities or other things (I do enjoy Rainmeter, Dropbox, Evernote, VLC, and Songbird. No BonziBuddy) are also defnitely welcome.", "summary": "How to keep a fresh Windows 7 install running lean? Favorite programs?"}
{"id": "t3_2vqyd0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why do I take interest in other women?", "post": "Hi there. I'm (24M) currently in a relationship of 7 months. She (21F) is awesome, pretty, has a sense of humor - it's simply put perfect. Sure she has her moments, but I do, too. \nEven though I love her with all my heart and want a life together I seem to look, want and fantasize about other women and I've come to the conclusion that it's not healthy and one way or the other she will be cheated upon if this continues. \nBut I don't want it. I sincerely don't want to cheat and look at other women *like that*... Can anyone explain/help me? I'll provide more details if necessary.", "summary": "I feel like I'll cheat my girlfriend but I don't want to. "}
{"id": "t3_533hc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband(25M) was physically abusive. Now I think I(22F) am emotionally abusive in retaliation.", "post": "In the first couple years of our relationship my husband was physically abusive. He got help and it stopped happening. It's been nearly 3 years since the abuse stopped., But I still haven't gotten over it. I still feel anger and hurt towards him. I watched a movie showing an emotionally abusive relationship and I recognized myself as the abuser! Constant putdowns, always disagreeing with him (most of the time it comes out before I even think about it and I realize I don't ACTUALLY disagree, I just wanted to), refusing to apologize for stupid things, and belittling him in front of our friends.\n\n I feel so bad after realizing this because for the last year I have had it in my head that he is a terrible person and HE was the emotionally abusive one, but I think it's me! I want to make this better, because I don't want to be divorced at such a young age! I want to make this work. He has said many times he wants to be married to me. \n\nI should also include I have depression, I have had it since I was a teenager, but I have always been off and on my medicine. My husband says when I'm on my medicine he enjoys being around me, but when I come off of it I'm miserable to be around. I have been on my medicine for a few weeks now and I actually want to stay on it now that I've recognized this pattern. Hopefully that helps me in the future!\n\nI want to deeply apologize to him for how I've treated him. A real, meaningful apology. And I want to STOP this pattern.", "summary": "exactly as the title reads. How can I first off show him how sorry I am, and secondly STOP this behavior quickly?"}
{"id": "t3_133tci", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you believe in mediums or psychics, and have you had experience with any?", "post": "A complete stranger walked into a store my wife was working at and told her she felt something and wanted to talk with her in private.  She was reluctant, but agreed.  This woman she'd never met told her that her dead mother was looking out for our sick daughter.  Our daughter has had health issues over the past years.  She also mentioned that her dead mother was scarred on her chest from a major surgery.  Her mom did have open heart surgery at one point and was scarred on the chest.  The she said there's also a five year old who is doing well right now, and he will continue to do well.  Turns out the dead grandmother would be speaking of another five year old grandson who is excelling beyond what he should be in school.  None of us believe in psychics or mediums, but this woman showed up out of no where and came up with some very accurate information.", "summary": "Psychic came up with some info."}
{"id": "t3_4yh4e0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(18M) How to move on from my ex? (24M)", "post": "Hey RA, so I need some help. I (18M) had been in a committed relationship with my ex (24M) for a good few months, but recently he broke up with me. It wasn't a bitter break up by any means. It wasn't something either of us did, it was just that he is having personal issues (he really is it's not a lie like I originally thought) and doesn't think he could do a relationship right now and doesn't want to give me the burden of his issues. In fact, we both agreed that we would remain friends and see what the future holds for us, but not to make any expectations. I am ok with that, I just miss him so much. We broke up on Tuesday night and I just need some advice of where to go from here. I have started talking to a few other guys and one guy (22M) is really nice and is just a good decent guy, but every few hours or so I think of my ex and I don't want to. Is it wrong for me to still like my ex or is it normal since it's only been a few days? I do have alittle bit of an emotional attachment to my ex and I don't want to cut him out of my life cause we are such great friends and I don't want to close the door on a friendship. Thoughts keep rolling through my head of whether or not he's out tonight and sleeping with someone else or on another date. I feel bad for being hypocritical but I can't help it, my mind lingers towards it. So I guess I just need some advice on what would be best for me. Thank you guys so much and I'm sorry if I rambled on a little bit.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me two days ago, we still want to be friends but I can't seem to move on right now"}
{"id": "t3_4f9k2r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by learning about my dead little sister.", "post": "SO. some insight. My mother is a heavy believer in spiritualism. Santeria, all that biznasty. And she's also heavily religious. like, catholic nun level shit. this happened about five years ago at Thanksgiving. My super spiritual mother was just edging into the steely grip of menopause and she was NOT happy about it. She's always wanted to have a daughter, and even though she knew she cant care for more kids, she was sad that she would never get the chance to try for a girl anymore. Her children are all boys. And none of us understand, nor care much for religion. \n\nShe imposes a prayer before every turkey day dinner. The usual \"everybody thank jesus for your blessings\" and such. And after this prayer, she says; \"And may you watch over the child that isnt with us today, whoever they would have been. Amen\"\n\nAnd I, thinking she meant my oldest brother, who lives with his own family, blurt out stupidly \"Dont you mean Jay?\"\nand i immediately get daggers stared in my direction from EVERYONE PRESENT. \n\nso i shut up a bit. \nand we eat. \n\nand my mother looks up and she says \"If you didnt know, when you were little i had to have an abortion. Her name would have been my name.\"\nand she starts to cry. \n\nI had NO IDEA how to handle this information. but rather than shut up and let it move on, i opened my stupid mouth and said:\n\n\"well if you're right about that ghost stuff, she's probably around here somewhere.\"\n\nand shit gets real quiet. \n\nFamily's lookin at me like i just killed the hypothetical baby myself. \n\n\"what? I mean, its still with us right? That's supposed to be comforting!\"\n\nI am still not welcome at the family table come thanksgiving.", "summary": "my mom had a secret abortion and i accidentally insulted the fetus. "}
{"id": "t3_2g7kxa", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I work on a personal project that benefits my employer? Washington State labor law question", "post": "I am employed in a position that does NOT involve programming. I have no programming obligations of any kind. I would like to build some programs that automate various tasks that my co-workers and I have to do. Legally, am I able to work on this on my own time and therefore not get paid for it or am I legally obligated to work on it only on my employer's time as it does benefit my employer. My employer offered to let me work on this for a few hours each week during our slow days on company time as they do not want to take advantage of me however I do not want to get paid for this, I want to do it for the learning experience and because I think it will be fun.", "summary": "I want to make a program for my job and not get paid for it. Is there any way for me to get around Washington State labors laws so I can do this?"}
{"id": "t3_3s16z8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by DJing a wedding", "post": "Obligatory not from today but from 2009\n\nA little back story on this fuck up, a couple years ago I was Djing at a bar. Nothing serious, not even my equipment just opening up iTunes and playing a playlist and adding songs people requested, hardly DJing.  Fast forward a couple months and a regular customer of the bar (Paul) is getting married and want a cheap dj for the wedding. Never done a wedding before but fuck it, it's easy money.  Day of the wedding go and set up, get the party started playing all the wedding staples and taking request. Shits going smooth, go out and puff a joint, chillin at about an 8. Come back in and keep doing my thing, it's about time to do the intros. I get my mic ready and do all the bridesmaids and groomsmen. Bride and groom come out and I yell out \"Everyone give it up for the newly weds Mr. and Mrs. Paul Blart! Errrr, Paul (insert real name)\"", "summary": "DJ at a wedding and fucked up the Bride and Grooms intro."}
{"id": "t3_miiwy", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[HELP] Not losing weight.", "post": "I've been raised in an overweight family, but I've always been fairly skinny. Up until a year ago at least. Now, I'm not overweight by any means, but I'm starting to gain a bit of a belly. I do not like this one bit.\n\nI went through a period of very bad anxiety where I lost some weight. A few months after that I finished up school and got a great job. Now, in the past 6 months or so, I've put on about 15ish pounds. For awhile I tried eating less and going to the gym 3 days a week, but after 1.5 to 2 months, I saw very little results. I'm now sitting here discouraged as I've tried creating a calorie deficit, I've tried watching reducing my carbs, and I've tried lifting, and I can't seem to make this stomach going away. Worst of all, my family has started pointing it, which is probably the worst part of it.\n\nNow, I don't have a great diet, that's for sure - But I'm 5'8, about 150-160, and usually hit under 1800 calories. Carbs, I used to aim for 80 or under, but right now I'm at about 100g per day. What can I do differently to get rid of this stomach that is starting to develop?\n\nIf you need any extra information, let me know.", "summary": "5'8\", 150-160lbs, male, 23 years old - Starting to get a belly and calorie deficit/carb counting/weight lifting doesn't seem to be stopping it. Family is mostly obese and starting to point it out. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2d5bb8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my EX [24 M] of 2 years, went on a few dates but he is playing games. How to deal with it nicely?", "post": "Hey everyone.\n\nMy Ex and I just started talking again after being broken up for 2 years. We have dated twice prior to that so this is our 3rd try. When we started talking again and after being on a few dates, we agreed that we want to take things slow although we still like each other and we both haven't been with anyone during our \"break\". Throughout the past few weeks we have been talking every single day, sometimes all day long (Facebook or whatsapp) until last week he just stopped responding mid-conversation. I thought he was just busy so I wasn't bothered. However  after 8 days of him not responding to my last-message, I feel like he wants to play games and Im not up for that. \n\nQuite frankly, Im pissed off for him \"disappearing\" completely and then pretending nothing has happened (probably because he realized I'm not going to run after him, he texted me today about something totally random).\n\nI don't want to play and I don't want to rekindle things with someone who is still into it with 24 years of age. However I don't want to come across as a over-reacting bitch either, so my question is:\n\nShould I just tell him that Im not in for playing mind-games and then leave it be? How do I handle this nicely?", "summary": "EX tries to play mind games but I'm over that - how do I tell him nicely?"}
{"id": "t3_yspdy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tonight, doing a good deed, I made a car full of people think I was about to carjack them. Has there ever been a time where anyone's purely good motives have freaked someone out?", "post": "So, I'm a sous chef at a place that is in a pretty touristy part of town, in an insanely touristy city(charleston,sc). So a huge portion of the people, around half, that are driving down this particular road are out of state. So I'm having a smoke outside waiting for our stewards to finish up when I see a car with North Carolina plates driving by with what looks like a jacket on the hood. I yell to the car to let them know such, but they obviously don't hear me and the drive to the end of the block just as the light turns red. I take this as my cue to save this poor souls jacket and sprint to the car thinking I'm doing the right thing. I immediately rush to the passenger side of the car, bang on the window to try and get their attention, and rightfully scare the hell out of the lady who would have no part of it and stared at me doe eyed the whole time. So I rushed, I felt the red light was the only chance of this jacket not getting lost, to the drivers side where the dude was equally freaked out. I knocked on his window and he opened it a crack and I shoved the jacket through what little space they left me, and the car errupted with \"thank yous!\" I left as the light turned green, and the car didn't move for the whole light cycle. It wasn't until afterwards that I realized that they thought they were about to get robbed, when I was just trying to be a good guy. Anyone else have any scenarios where you are trying to be out of the way nice and it backfired?", "summary": "I tried to give a guy his jacket and he thought I was robbing him."}
{"id": "t3_1w2u1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [21/M] intentionally does or says things to make me [20/F] mad, then laughs at my reaction. What to do?", "post": "I have been in this relationship for almost two years. It hasn't been perfect and I believe it's been on a downhill slope for a while. My boyfriend has recently started a new behavior with me where he will intentionally do or say something that he thinks will annoy me or make me mad, and if he gets a reaction out of me, he laughs.\n\nFor example, he will invite me out to dinner with his friends, then he won't text me when the time comes for dinner. When I text him asking when dinner will be, he'll say, \"whoops I forgot, we're actually eating now.\" Then ten minutes later will say, \"Just kidding, we're leaving in an hour.\"\n\nSometimes, if I excuse myself to return a text when he's around, he sticks his hand onto my screen and moves it around to mess up my text. If I try to pull my phone away, he says, \"I've always wanted to do that: mess up your text just to annoy you.\"\n\nThe last time I tried to have a conversation with him about where our relationship was headed, he just sat down and started laughing, saying that the conversation was \"funny\" to him. When I asked him why he felt that way, all he could say was \"this is just a funny situation. It's just hilarious. It's just so funny.\" Without any further explanation.\n\nI'm not one to feed the troll, but it is beginning to get really annoying. I don't know how to handle this situation other than to just ignore it when it happens, but it is honestly beginning to get really hurtful. Sometimes it feels like I am dealing with a child. Any input on what to do/why he may be acting this way would be appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend does things just to get a rise out of me; refuses to talk about the situation and dismisses my feelings with laughter."}
{"id": "t3_4nh15o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [38 M] longtime friend [40ish M] is giving me the cold shoulder", "post": "For a few years I had some pretty tough times (divorce, medical problems) and didn't handle it very well. I don't have a lot of friends, and during this time I lost most of them. \n\nOne guy always stood by me though. We've known each other for many years, and he was the best man in my wedding. I consider him a brother, and we used to see each other a few times a month. But the past year or two he has been very distant and not very talkative. We used to take turns organizing events, and invited each other to things all the time. Now I have to initiate something, and he usually has a reason he can't go. I no longer get any emails, and recently he had a housewarming party that I wasn't invited to.\n\nI really want to hang out with him and honestly need a friend, but feel that the friendship is practically over and he's just too nice to tell me the truth.", "summary": "Want to hang out with an old friend who's giving me the cold shoulder, but don't know how to ask what's up."}
{"id": "t3_jh206", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I have clothes that fit aka Redditors are Awesome!", "post": "Howdy!  Last week I posted some progress pics as well as a post about how having lost weight, I no longer had clothing that fit me, and being unemployed, was having difficulty justifying buying new clothes, when I knew I still had a few more dress sizes to lose before I am \"done\".  I received an outpouring of support and help from fellow redditors, and the first package came in the mail this week, containing clothes in my current size.  I was shocked to see what I look like now that I have clothes that suit my current figure.  Here is my favorite item that I received in the mail:\n\n[New Haircut + New Dress = Happy Cloberella](\n\nAnyway, thank you r/loseit, you guys are awesome, as well as the folks over at r/favors and r/closetswap, without you, I'd still be feeling like the dumpy fat chick.", "summary": "Lost weight, couldn't afford smaller clothes, redditors helped me out, and now I feel human again :D"}
{"id": "t3_414cve", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by petting my cat", "post": "Bonus points cause this actually happened today!\n\nI got home from my morning shift at work today and prepared to get in the shower. As I got naked, my girlfriend ran into the bathroom to use it first, so I had a minute to wait. My cat came out to say hello while I stood there waiting, so I crouched down to give him a little scratch. I said \"Hi Link, how are you, buddy?\" and held out my hand to pet him, and he ran right past my hand and, like all cats when presented with dangling objects, took a full on swipe, claws extended, at my dangling balls. They only just stopped bleeding.", "summary": "I got pussy whipped. Credit to /u/KronUlget for that."}
{"id": "t3_2ls3ov", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being lazy and procrastinating", "post": "So as you can see from the title, I am lazy. This time it really fucked me up.\n  \nI was driving home from work at 2am in the morning and everything is fine. I am almost home until I hear a loud \"bang\" kinda noise. I'm pretty sure I saw sparks for a bit too but I am not sure. Anyways I pull over to the side of the road praying that the worst of it was just a tire blowing out. I inspect the car and I don't see anything. So here I am wondering what is going on since I am not a car person at all. I thought I'd be able to drive home so I turned on the car, and could hear a sound that I figured meant something was indeed wrong. Then I tried to put the car in drive and it dies immediately.  Same thing happened in reverse. Quick Google search said my transmission was probably fucked up. My transmission fluid hasn't been changed in god knows how long so I'm pretty sure that's what happened,  and changing the tranny fluid was what i put off doing...so I am now probably out one grand, maybe more but I'll know for sure once I go to a car shop.", "summary": "Don't procrastinate!"}
{"id": "t3_nddo9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do i live with my ex for a few more weeks", "post": "Me 30m and my girlfriend 23f of 4 years just broke up a few days ago. We have dated on and of the entire 4 years.We have lived together for about 3 years off and on. We usually go about 8-11 months and then we lose interest it seems then get back together a month or so later. We had trust issues in the beginning but we both moved past alot and trust was rebuilt.\n We have been dating again since may so about 6 months into this. In these six months our communication was 100% better and had some of the best times.\n\n Well up until about 1 1/2 weeks ago.. She started being distant and in turn i reflected the same behavior and became distant as well. Things went south quickly so I start a talk and we admit were mutually unhappy.. But she admits she is emotionally cheating, but its nothing more, and says she doesn't want to break up. But i decide the trust has been broken. And say i cant deal with that anymore.  We are on a m2m lease and nether of us can afford our apt alone. We have very minimal contact. I stay away from our home when i know shes there and she does the same. Its very stressful and i have no idea how to deal with this. I didnt expect this to happen at all. It doesnt hurt the worst but its hard for me because of all the stuff we have together. I feel if we are breaking up, this is IT. I need support.", "summary": "broke up with my GF of 4 years we still live together for at least another 2-3 weeks.. need tips to keep my sanity"}
{"id": "t3_2mq1r3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 y/o M] am having trouble with my co-workers bad mouthing me. Any advice?", "post": "I am currently on an internship in my home town, and have two other interns that work with me. They live together and have grown close, while I live at home. One of them really likes to talk about how bad of worker I am. I do not conciser myself a bad worker, just very conscious in what I do, and it slows me down some. I get the job done. \n\nI wouldn't really care what he said if I wasn't in my home town, but this is where my friends and family live. Everyone from my high school is coming home from college and we are all meeting at the bar. No doubt the other interns will be there. \n\nI have worked hard to keep a good reputation, but I know that this intern will bad mouth me to my friends at the bar when I'm not around. I don't know what to do. Being a good worker is one of the best traits that someone can have since I live in the Midwest. \n\nPlease help me.", "summary": "Live at home on internship. Intern talks badly about me. Friends and acquaintances are coming home this weekend, and I know that the other interns will talk a lot of shit. Please help"}
{"id": "t3_1nx7dj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/m] still love her [24/f] after being together for 4 years.", "post": "We broke up in July because of me. I broke it off with her, in an attempt to sow my wild oats. My wild oats have not been sowed, and I don't even know if that's what I wish to do anymore. I feel like I may have messed up something really good in my life.\n\nShe was my first, and I thought that my curiosity would've gotten the best of me if I had pursued a serious relationship with her. Even given the opportunity to sow my wild oats, the only thing that crosses my mind is her. I feel guilty, as if i'm cheating, even though I am not with her. People tell me I'm not emotionally single. The thought of her with anyone else drives me fucking insane.\n\nI don't even know what I'm looking for. Advice, similar experiences, pep talk.. just anything to pick me up, I guess. I'm feeling like shit.", "summary": "Relationships are hard."}
{"id": "t3_3pq871", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Freshman in college, I think I have 5+ crushes", "post": "In my speech class there is a quieter, very nice girl and she is gorgeous in my eyes, maybe a 7/10 for normal people, but she is extremely shy and I don't know how to talk with her now that we both are setup in our own separate \"cliques\".  In my Comp I class there is a very nice blonde that is again a 7/10 and is really nice to me. We talk because we sit next to eachother conversation is pretty normal and most of the time ends in her laughing and us getting back to the lecture, I think she's been trying to sit with me more the further the semester goes not totally sure though.  In my personal finance class there is a girl that is really cute too and she converses with me when we can, but there is a total bitch that sits in between us and I'd rather not take her seat, because it will be a huge confrontation and I just don't want that.  I joined a club that has quite a few cute girls, one in particular that I really really liked a lot because she was super cute and we liked a lot of the same things.  I don't know what to do, if I should focus on one, try to flirt with them all, or just focus on my schoolwork.  If I had to choose between them all it would be the girl from the club because the hotness to common ground was crazy. About 5 months ago I got out of a long term relationship and I don't know how to flirt.  Thanks anyone and everyone!", "summary": "I don't know how to flirt and I like too many women"}
{"id": "t3_2p2wxb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (22F) can't cope with rejection. Any advice?", "post": "Hi, it's my first time writing here - also english is not my native language, so please excuse any mistakes.\nMy problem is that I realized I can't cope with rejection. As soon as a guy \"rejects\" me or states that he doesn't want a relationship/he's not interested I become obsessed (please note, not a stalker - I'm not *THAT* crazy) I just can't stop thinking about him and wondering what is wrong with me and why he's not interested in me.\n\nI am now aware that I really can't cope with rejection because of what happened two days ago.\nI was at a club, partying with some friends of mine, when a nice-but-really-not-my-type guy asks me a cigarette and after a quick talk kisses me. He wasn't really my type, but there was a good chemistry and I would have loved, maybe, to become FWB with him (or at least to give it a try) so I asked him if I could add him on facebook, so we could \"hang out sometimes\" and he tells me that it sounds like a great idea and also invites me to grab a coffee in the bar he works at.\nThe day after he REJECTS (not ignore, actually REJECTS) my friendship request on facebook, but adds a friend of a friend of mine.\n\nNeedless to say I felt like sh*t because I can't see what I did wrong. I wasn't being too clingy but neither too uninterested. I just tried to act friendly and he seemed to be enjoying it.\n\nOf course I'm trying to brush it off as \"I don't even know him, too bad for him\" and things like this, but actually I feel really terrible.\nI don't know what's wrong with me.\nAny advice?", "summary": "can't cope with rejection, as soon as a guy proceeds to tell me he's not interested I can't stop thinking about him/about what's wrong with me and also feel terrible. I need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_2xu4xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23/F] overreacting that my boyfriend [26/M] is going on a week-long backpacking trip with his female best friend [24/F]?", "post": "Hey, all! Throwaway account time! Here's the story:\n\nMy on-and-off boyfriend of two years is going on a week-long backpacking journey to Thailand with his best friend who is female. Before anyone says anything, I have met her before and she has a boyfriend of two years. However, she is very attractive (a much prettier version of myself) and shares the same interests as my boyfriend. They even used to live together with a bunch of other people. It makes me wonder why they haven't dated. Upon asking my boyfriend this, he has told me he has never hooked up with her, has had feelings for her, or is even attracted to her. He even has gone so far to say that he will never date her as she is like a little sister to him.\n\nSo lately, he told me that he wants to meet up in Thailand for a week  with her alone while she is on her extended backpacking trip to SE-Asia. We have argued about this several times. I continuously told him that this is disrespectful and I don't want him to go. Of course, he goes against my wishes. We recently got back together, so I would understand if he didn't want to go on a vacation with me just yet. \n\nI don't even mind if he went alone to Thailand or with a group, as long as he isn't alone with his female best friend. I find that to be disrespectful. He assures me that they will be staying in hostels with separate beds and he will call me via Skype every single day to make me feel better. We are going on our own vacation later this year. I care about him. I didn't want to give up the relationship, yet. Still, I feel this is crossing way too many boundaries. \n\nAm I overreacting, reddit?", "summary": "My on-and-off boyfriend who I recently got back together with is going on vacation with his female best friend to Thailand. I am not okay with it, but he still insists to go."}
{"id": "t3_yutbq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20M) met this girl in class (18F) and Im pretty sure shes DTF but has a BF", "post": "Ok so I met this girl in class. We were texting each other I was trying to get her to come over to my place and she rainchecked me. I asked her to tell me something about her self and she says she likes to have lots of sex.\n\n Now she has a BF that she has cheated on before. So Im sure she'll do it again. But my question is how do I make that happen? Please no responses telling me Im an asshole, I dont know the guy and he is NOT in the military so Im not breaking any rules.", "summary": "Met a girl with a bf she has cheated on already, How do I get her to do it again?"}
{"id": "t3_2q1gfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't think this relationship is going anywhere but breaking up is complicated. I'm 21M and she's 20F and we've been dating for almost 2 years.", "post": "I guess I just don't see it going anywhere.\n\nI love her. I really do. But at this point in my life I don't wanna settle down with anyone. She keeps dropping hints of one day getting married and I really just don't want to stay in one relationship until I'm ready for marriage. I guess I'm one of those people who wants to meet more people before doing something like that.\n\nThe relationship was nice and fun when it started but I don't have those feelings anymore. She doesn't motivate me. I'm way overweight and keep fucking up in school and she accepts me for it, and I think it's mostly because she's scared to be alone and she knows she has someone in me to be with her. It seems to be just easier to stay in a relationship than to move on. \n\nShe has had depression ever since I've known her. If I knew to what extent it was I definitely wouldn't have started a relationship with her. It's only gotten worse about 4 months ago when she had a traumatic experience and her mood/happiness/self esteem plummeted. She has actually been getting better, but it seems only because she's been with me at my apartment almost 24/7, because somehow to her I'm an escape from her depression. And I'm also kind of her only friend. If I left her, I honestly don't know what would happen and I'm really afraid she'll hurt herself. \n\nAll I want do at this point is distance myself from her and this relationship but I have no idea how. I could cut ties completely, or offer to stay friends, or I would even be open to some sort of open relationship. I know that any of those options will upset her but I don't know how or to what extent.", "summary": "I'm not happy in my current relationship. but she has been battling depression for a while, and me leaving her might make it worse and I'm worried for her. I have no idea how I'm supposed to be able to break up with her. "}
{"id": "t3_1bc676", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think I am getting cheated from a company?", "post": "So I have organized a trip two years in a row now from my University in Raleigh, to Camden, SC for the Carolina Cup horse race. We go as a group of approximately 50 people so we charter a bus for the occasion as it allows to consume copious amounts of alcohol with out a DD. \n\nAnyways for the past 2 years, with two different charter bus companies, each company called me within a week of the event saying the bus broke down.\n\nThis has lead to issues in transportation as we found out the first time around that any and every charter bus in the south east is going to the Carolina Cup at the time. A week before, there is literally no available busses anywhere.\n\nFor the past two years now, we have thought, what are the odds of two different busses breaking down at the exact same time, 1 year apart. Bad luck I guess.\n\nBut then one of my friends brought up something that almost seemed obvious. What if another group is trying to go to this event and order a bus too late, and so they come to our company and say \"We will pay you that plus more\" and the bus company just tells us the bus is broken which would void our contract with them, and then sells it to another group.\n\nHave any of you run into this issue? It's totally logical and really scummy since we know to order our bus 3 months in advance and then we are put in a terrible situation.", "summary": "I believe the local charter bus companies are selling our charted bus to a higher bidder, then lying to us saying the bus is broken to void the contract agreement we have."}
{"id": "t3_1kwnoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just started senior year of highschool [17M] and I met this freshman [14F] and I feel bad about liking her.", "post": "So this all started in my piano class.I met her and we instantly started talking.She's easily one of the most gorgeous girls i've ever seen and in addition to her being gorgeous on the outside, she's gorgeous on the inside as well which is something you don't see very often.We have almost identical taste in everything and we always find new things to talk about.\n\nShe is fairly mature for her age and doesn't fit any of the characteristics of regular freshman at all.She could easily pass for 16-17.A few days after meeting her and getting to know her I had a feeling that I really liked everything about her.In addition to that I feel like Im getting signals from her too.And she let me walk her home the other day which was nice.\n\nWhat do you guys think i should do? She is a really awesome person and I genuinely like her.It feels good to write this so I can at least tell someone.Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Im falling for a freshman as a senior and I don't know how I feel about it"}
{"id": "t3_3q82mc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) am with my long distance SO (18F) of 1.5 years but feeling feelings for a close friend (17F) and don't know exactly how to feel or how to not egg on", "post": "Sorry about the long post in advance.\n\nHave been in an LDR with a girl named Mary and was super in love with her. I say was because it hasn't felt the same. We have met (Probably about 12 times in person) but recently it hasn't felt the same.\n\nWe're in the same state and all, about 4 hours though. And this year I've grown close with a new friend group including this other girl, Sarah. Recently, it's felt like Mary and I have grown apart. We fight more often, and even about 2 weeks or so we almost broke up. \n\nBut Sarah and I have been hanging out more and more. We were out talking just last night until at least 3 in the morning. I would never cheat on Mary, but it's just been hard with all the stress on our relationship. \n\nSarah is totally different from me, but her and I have become fast best friends, and every time I bring up Mary she gets quiet. I've had a lot of thoughts about breaking up with Mary, but I don't think I could.", "summary": "In a long distance with Mary, going through relationship stress, best friends with a new girl, is it okay to break up for someone close distance? Or should I stick it out?"}
{"id": "t3_1z3ax4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/F] Nervous to get back into the dating world", "post": "So let me start off by saying that I've had a single boyfriend ever, that's all, it lasted for a fair length, a little over 2 years. I've been single for almost a year now, and I've been almost scared shitless about the idea of getting back into dating.\n\nMy first relationship was quite solid, but ended quite badly and abruptly. I guess you could say I'm afraid to go out and get hurt again? How does one work around such a fear? It's practically impossible to avoid after all, no?\n\nI'm not the type to go out a lot, pretty much hardly at all, is this something I should look into trying? I'm not entirely sure how to go about it, and I want it to be the least nerve wrecking when it comes to going out and meeting someone who I could develop something potential with.", "summary": "single for a long time, nervous about getting back out there, help?"}
{"id": "t3_2juqef", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I think she's into me, but I have no idea what to do now.", "post": "I'm a freshman in college and I've been hanging out with this girl for a couple weeks now and I'm almost positive she's into me, but I just have one problem: I have no idea what to do now.  I've never had a girlfriend so I don't know what I'm doing.  Saturday morning I called my brother for advice (in retrospect this was probably a bad idea), and his advice was to make a move. Later that night, as I was getting ready to go, I told her how much fun i had that night and almost went for a kiss, but thought better of it.  This really made me realize that I am woefully unprepared and don't know what to do. I think I should just straight up tell her, I think she'd appreciate the honesty.  Any thoughts?", "summary": "Read the title"}
{"id": "t3_1csmlz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I violated my bfs trust... and didn't like what I found.", "post": "I fucked up. I have a wonderful, kind boyfriend who told me a few weeks ago that he loved me. I love him, and we've been together since December. \n\nHe also trusts me with his laptop and this weekend he left me for a few minutes so I went on his facebook and found messages from his ex. Messages in which they talk of loving each other back in August and missing each other in December, followed by \"kisses\" and talk of meeting up in January. He told me that it was well and truly over and, although they still speak, they have no intention of moving to either country. \n\nYes, she lives abroad and I'm still jealous. \n\nTheir last communication (via facebook, I don't know about skype which they talk of) was in February. \n\nI don't think he knows I looked. The guilt at looking is horrible but the thought that he still loved her as recently as January is even worse. How fickle can he be with his love? Are his words to me just empty? \n\nI won't tell him I know - better to keep a quiet eye on any communication they have than to alert him to the fact that, if he's not being honest with me, he has to find another channel.", "summary": "Don't go searching for what you know will hurt."}
{"id": "t3_2dxzd0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my girlfriend [25F] just ended things after 2 months, I'm still a bit confused as to why. Is it appropriate to reach out to her?", "post": "We had been dating for about 2.5 months (\"going steady\" for about 3 weeks) when she started becoming distant after I told her I felt a bit neglected when it came to certain aspects of the relationship. We had talked about it during this period, when she explained that she thought things were moving a bit too quickly and that she was comfortable moving at a slower, more casual pace. I agreed to this (I had only moved things forward because I got the feeling she was ready, and she had agreed to it at the time) and things seemed great for a little while, but then I just stopped hearing from her. After a few days, I got the \"coffee and chat\" text. The breakup itself lasted maybe 5 minutes, during which she cried and said she felt really crappy for not telling me how \"uncomfortable\" she felt with where we were moving the relationship. I didn't have anything to say at the time, although I had already been processing the possibility for about a week, so I just said goodbye and she left.\n\nIt's been 4 days now, and I want to reach out to her and at least see how's she's doing as she seemed very upset, and maybe ask if we can at least talk about it a little more since I'm really not sure what made her change her mind so abruptly after it seemed everything was corrected. However, I don't want to seem overbearing or needy, and I don't want to put her into a corner that would make her feel nervous or even worse about her decision. Is it even worth it to reach out to her, or should I just take this one on the chin and walk away?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2+ months became uncomfortable with how quickly the relationship was moving, became distant and ended things without much of an explanation even after we cleared things up. I want to reach out but am not sure if it's appropriate or worth it."}
{"id": "t3_28oibv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my bedroom window open", "post": "I decided yesterday to leave my window open with a fan in front of it to let some fresher, cooler air in. It was open all day and kept the place relatively livable. At bedtime (aka 3 am) I go to my comfortably cool bedroom. I remember that the screen to my window had fallen off last summer. I think, \"phew, lucky the cat didn't go jumping out a two story window huh.\" I close the window, take off my pants, turn off my fishtank light and get in bed while calling my girlfriend on facetime. \nSOMETHING hits me in the face. It's dark, I don't know what it is. Figure it was a piece of hair or something dumb like that. But it keeps happening, as my girlfriend laughs at me freaking out from her safe distance inside my iphone. Finally, the thing that hit me in the face appears in the light of my phone, which it's clearly attracted to. It's a moth. I laugh it off and turn on the light so I can squish the motherfucker and sleep tight. As I turn on the light another one hits me in the face. I kill the one that's landed on the wall next to me, and go looking for the other one. \nThis is where I realize just how much I've fucked up. They must have been attracted to the light in my fish tank, and the window was open for hours. Now, I'm not scared of moths particularly, but this was an INCREDIBLE amount of moths in one place. And to make it even worse, my fan was drawing them in and turning them into projectiles aimed straight at me. I couldn't possibly find all of them, or get them to all stop flying long enough to kill them. I killed a few but my efforts were futile. There were so many fucking moths. \nI decided to give up my murder spree and just build an inpenetrable blanket fort around me, my bed, and my iphone so I could sleep in moth-free, albeit stuffy peace. I emerged in the morning to a moth-free room. I don't know where they went but I suspect they lie in wait...for revenge.", "summary": "Left my window open all day/night and attracted a fuck ton of moths into my bedroom. Didn't realize until my fan started shooting them at my face. Slept in blanket fort. Revenge moths await me."}
{"id": "t3_qyn3q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the weirdest thing you've seen happen at a public park???", "post": "Mine happened just yesterday! I was leading a group bike ride of about 16 people and we were on the bike trail for about 5 minutes, and we pass this rest area that has a park for kids. The only way to get to it is either by bike or walk and it was about 7:30 ish so it was completely dark except for the lights we had on our bikes. NOW FOR THE GOOD PART. we round the corner to where the park was and on the bench is a woman with her shirt pulled down tits hanging out giving this dude head! she saw our lights on the bikes and quickly pulled her shirt up and the two just sat straight up and stared out into space like nothing was happening. So being the asshole i am i shout any room for one more?!? and got some of the guys to laugh but not 3 seconds later a guy in the back screams screw 1 more how about 16!!! everybody erupted in laughter it was great.", "summary": "GUY GOT HEAD ON A BENCH FROM A SUSPECTED HOOKER LAUGHTER ENSUED"}
{"id": "t3_1ftx0s", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "I do this to angry drivers alot", "post": "Seems to happen time to time, waiting at an inter section, 2-way stop. waiting to turn right and there is a lot of through traffic.\n\nLast time this happened i was waiting to turn and it was maybe 45 seconds to a minute. Big truck pulls up behind and immediately starts honking. I cant go because of traffic, and another minute goes buy. He starts yelling out the window at me to pull out even though the other cars don't have a stop sign and it is very busy. When i finally get a gap its big enough for both of us and hes right on my ass laying on the horn.\n\nDo people not under stand that the car behind has no power. I then proceeded to drive 4 miles at 15 miles per hour under the speed limit. Now he was not happy but I do drive a Buick so the other drivers behind him thought nothing of it. Best part is when i turn off instead of pulling on to the shoulder to turn right onto my road, its a full stop in the middle of the road, count to 5 then turn.", "summary": "No matter what the driver behind you has no power, and them getting mad just makes me happy."}
{"id": "t3_11x7o9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Advice on asking a girl out?", "post": "Ok, so I'm a guy, nineteen years old, and there's a girl in my Expository writing class (Freshman College) that I've liked since the start of this semester. She's very friendly and really sweet. How would I go about asking her out? \nI'm a commuter, and she stays on campus which is like 30 mins away from me. \n\nSo I really can't just ask her to come hang out at my dorm, and because its a writing class I really can't ask her to come study because there is nothing to study.\n\nI've was Homeschooled my entire life so social interactions are pretty awkward for me. The only experiences I have from social interactions are from my two years at my current job, which definitely has opened me up ***a lot***. \n\nEven with that disadvantage I feel like I'm a fairly confident guy. I'm fairly attractive, dress extremely well, and I'm fairly rich for someone of my age. I just struggle at approaching girls and coming up with an opening question. I'd just feel really weird asking her to dinner.", "summary": "Best way to ask a fellow classmate out that you only see in class twice a week.*"}
{"id": "t3_1v8bcx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (semi) long distance girlfriend [20 F] just broke up with me [20 M] after 7 months. Should I tell her we can be friends when we meet up?", "post": "My girlfriend of 7 months just broke up with me after I called her asking what was wrong this past weekend. She didn't wanted to break up with me on the phone but since I asked her, she had to say it. She's meeting up with me this Friday since we both go to different colleges (1 1/2 hours away) so we can talk.\n\nI was dumbstruck when she told me and nearly broke down on the phone, begging and pleading that we can work things out (I know, bad idea). She told me the cliche, \"I don't want to be in a relationship right now,\" and \"You were a great boyfriend, but you're not right for me.\" She told me she'll meet with me but her decision won't change.\n\nEven though we didn't date for long, I fell deeply in love with her and she inspired me as a person. I really want to be friends with her because it would be dumb of me to lose such an amazing person in my life, (and not saying that because I loved this girl, but she really is a good person and we both have the same goals in our life) but doing so will hurt me because I will still have these deep feelings for her and I will never know if she does with me. She visits my town pretty often as well because her best friend lives here, who is my best friend as well (the best friend got us together) and will eventually move here.\n\nIf I do the No Contact, that means that I can't hang out with the crew like we always do and we have such great times when we do. Also, the NC will make me think that she'll miss me and come back to me and I want to wait for her when she does.\n\nShould I be friends with her or no?", "summary": "Should I be friends with my ex because she really is an amazing person and I don't want to lose a person like that in my life."}
{"id": "t3_30ytjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and currently long distance gf [24F]. I want to end our relationship because she can't act like an adult and I'm tired of her clingy nature.", "post": "We have been together for a while and we see each other often.  However I've noticed that she is very child-like and cannot handle basic stuff on her own.  I have to do everything for her and when I am unable to help her sometimes when we are apart she blames me.  \n\nHer behavior is becoming a strain on me.  I am not her servant and there is a limit to how much I have to look after her.  She feels she has the authority to say stuff as if she knows exactly what she is talking about, except she doesn't know anything.  She talks out of her ass on things she has no clue about.  Its frustrating trying to reason with her.\n\nI want to move on, but I'm tired of getting guilt tripped.  How do I do this?", "summary": "gf is acting very childish and I want to move on."}
{"id": "t3_3x7bbo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing a piece of paper in the bin", "post": "This was last week but I decided I have to post this.\n\nI attend a very strict British private school and on our last day we had a small physics test just to recap what we had learned this term or \"semester\". After the test our very strict, almost permanently angry teacher said we could either keep the tests for future references or we could screw them up and PLACE them in the bin. I scrunched the test up and thinking that I was the British Stephen Curry I attempted a \"no-look\" shot at the bin placed next to my teachers desk, this is where everything went wrong. I obviously wasn't precise enough and I heard a splash and then a loud \"OOOOOOOOOHHH\" from my classmates. My test had perfectly landed in my teachers coffee and then splashed onto his white shirt. This was our final day and he had to do a speech on behalf of the science department. Now he had a large stain on his white shirt. At first he was abnormally calm but once all the class had left he exploded at me. He is a very keen fitness enthusiast and told me that in the afternoon I was gonna be running till I can no longer breath. He is keen on fitness. I am not. Therefore I literally died that afternoon.", "summary": "I thought I was slick but I pretty much ruined my day and my physics teacher's day."}
{"id": "t3_2vnpcf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my gf [27 F] 1 & 1/2 year relationship, Need help with breaking up with her.", "post": "So, as the title describes, I'm in a one and a half year relationship with my gf. Things have been going well until early/mid November where I really put things in perspective. \n\n3 months into the relationship, she told me she lied about having a car and said she is on her third learner's permit (she lied out of embarrassment). She confessed the truth, as I was about to meet her whole family on Christmas Eve, so I had to set that aside for the holidays. Also, it's at least a 35 minute/10 mile drive to her place from me; she's never completely attempted to come to me.\n\nThrough last year, I increasingly realized we have very different interests; she is into country music (especially the \"modern\" stuff), sticks to only a few favorite food things, still somewhat shy around me and my friends and loves Bravo. I'm into alternative rock, will try a lot of different food (except Nato; won't eat again), outgoing nerd who loves his video games.\n\nShe still has her learner's permit and can't afford a car since she's still paying student loans and the bills (she still lives w/ her parents). She's also losing her job really soon, but working on getting freelance work.\n\nNow that you have the background, here's my dilema: She's the first non-crazy girlfriend I've had and she's really sweet/kind. The crazy exes were easy to deal with, but her doesn't feel like it will be that easy. How can I prepare myself and let her down as easy as possible? (if possible)", "summary": "Current GF not that easy to break up with; need advice on letting her down easy and getting myself to actually do it"}
{"id": "t3_3cfrr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] and [25/M] friend - what should I do?", "post": "Basically just letting this out there to get it off my chest and to see what you guys think.\n\nWe've been good friends for about 5 years and I have personally always felt a level of chemistry with him. All of my close girlfriends are convinced he likes me judging by his body language and the way he speaks to me. I didn't really believe them for the longest time until recently when he started to pay me more compliments and doing things like guiding me on the small of my back.\n\nI think I was fine with being just friends with him and was always happy for him when he was in a relationship even though he was clearly dating the wrong types of girls for the wrong types of reasons. And he tends to gravitate towards significantly younger girls for whatever reason he has (commitment?). \n\nI've confronted him once before about my feelings for him when a mutual friend confessed that he knew this guy liked me back(this was awhile ago) but the conversation turned out to be super defensive and tense on his part. And he professed that he didn't want to ruin our friendship; however true that was.  \n\nAnyways, judging by what my friends told me and things he's said, he's unhappy in his current relationship. I've asked him recently whether there was any possibility of us pursuing something and he said that he only considered me as a friend.\n\nI'm fine with being just friends but the constant flirting is getting to me and making me think maybe I do have some feelings for him. I've been reading up on some advice and a lot of people suggest that cutting off ties completely with the person is the best option as a level of infatuation/attraction will always be there to put a barrier to personal relationships.", "summary": "Got \"friendzoned\" by guy but feel that he's lying to himself/myself because he's afraid of the risk of a relationship. Am I reading too  much into this or is he simply just not into me?"}
{"id": "t3_3bgh59", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] am having family problems, might be kicked out in the future, need advice", "post": "I am 17 and my parents are really religiously and culturally involved. I am pulling the fake it till you make it act and am trying my best to fufill their wishes like going to pray at the temple on Sunday, go to cultural events etc. My parents are from India and I was born in India but am a US Citizen. My main concern for the future is if I were to get kicked out due to the tensions between my parents and I is which documents would I need\nI know I will need:\n\nSS Card\n\nIndian/US Passport\n\nCertificate of naturalization \n\nBirth certificate\n\nAm I missing anything else?", "summary": "Important life documents I will need?"}
{"id": "t3_tbq0f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most uncomfortable/unsettling interaction you have ever had with someone that you can now laugh at?", "post": "My experience was definitely not as bad as it could have been, but when I was an exchange student I lived in a very small town. My last host family lived on a dairy farm with one neighbor, a group of young guys. The most disgusting of them decided he wanted to sleep with me just because I was from California and constantly sent his brother's girlfriend over to ask if I was in a relationship, like that would change by the week. One time I was talked into going to a house party at his place by my host sister. I wondered off to use the restroom and he was waiting outside of the door. He immediately tried to put his arms around me and when I put my hands up he asked me \"Oh come on, just a hug?\" He was drunk and I thought if I could just get him to go away after than, fine. So I hugged him and he immediately started tongue raping my ear. Luckily my host sister stepped in and we pretty much ran home.", "summary": "Stalked because of where I was born until my ear was tongue raped by a total creeper."}
{"id": "t3_3o0t9t", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How should I handle this situation?", "post": "I've known this girl for a few years. We hung out a bit 4 years ago, but other than some kissing, it never really progressed. We started seeing each other again about 2 months ago. 3 to 5 times a week, much more dating-like, including sex on multiple occasions. \n\nWe had not put any sort of title, or label  to us, but had discussed not hooking up with others, which we both agreed to. \n\nAbout 3 weeks ago now, i had a couple heavy things happen in my life. A family friend passed away, and days later, learned that I had a tumor, which would require some testing to know if it was malignant or benign. \n\nI didn't tell her about my medical issue, and minimized the death, as i didn't want her to feel burdened. After this, I got clingy, asking to hang out more, being overly available. I was looking for someone to be around as a source of comfort. \n\nShe became distant, seeing each other once a week and the interactions in person and text were much less flirty/ sexual. \n\nI decided to tell her what was going on, and asked if we could meet so we could talk. She said she was very busy and wasn't sure when she would have free time. When I asked even for just a couple minutes to talk in person, she said she had \"a lot going on.\" \n\nThat was a couple days ago now, and we haven t talked since. I like this girl, and saw it going somewhere, had this situation gone differently. My question is, should I initiate contact with her, and keep trying, or is this just going to push her further away? I don t want to let the silence go on too long if it's able to be saved, but don t want to continue the cycle of appearing clingy.", "summary": "Seeing girl, heavy shit happened in my life, I got clingy, she got distant."}
{"id": "t3_155qaz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "M(25) 2.5 yr relationship-long distance and dont really miss her", "post": "for the first year and a half we where in the same city, and i pretty much moved in with to her place before work took her out west, she is on a 4:1 rotation meaning 4 weeks gone 1 week here. we skype nearly everyday for 30min plus a little texting during the day. She always says how she misses me, but i cant really say the same. I love her, (i mean to the best of my knowledge i do) but i have never missed anyone since i was a child. i can go without talking to friends and family for months at a time without feeling lonely. i honestly feel like im kinda emotionally stunted or something.", "summary": "i guess i just needed to rant, i dont miss people, i feel guilty about that."}
{"id": "t3_3h2msh", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I get more comfortable with partying/drinking and those who do it?", "post": "I don't really know how to explain this well but I just need to get this off my chest and hear other people's thoughts. Hopefully it kind of makes sense.\n\n I'll be starting college later this year, and my main group of friends has been partying all summer. I have sometimes gone with them to these parties but never drank as I have mostly been the designated driver. I've only been drunk once and it was pretty fun, but it was also with my close friends during spring break. The parties that my friends have been going to are usually bigger with a lot people from out of town that I don't know at all, so I don't usually have fun because my friends are always going from group while drunk and can barely keep track of them. And since I don't drink, I think my friends don't consider inviting me to go to parties. \n\nI guess my apprehension to drinking is because I feel like it changes people to where they feel like it's the only way they can have fun is to drink. That probably isn't true for most people, but right now it's what it seems like all my friends/siblings do. It seems like my friends have had less regular hang outs where we do nothing but watch sports/play video games and have resorted to looking for the next party to get wasted. \n\nThe topic of partying came up when I was texting my gf once so I asked her if she was interested in it. She said not right now because she's still in high school participating in different clubs and sports, but still basically said she would later and it just put a pit in my stomach. I know I shouldn't feel that worried because my friends drink, my family drinks, and most people in the world drink, but that was just my reaction to her saying that.\n\nI apologize for the wall of text, but I'm just so unsure how to feel about all of this. I just needed a place to say this and any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "How do I get comfortable with drinking/partying and those who choose to do so?"}
{"id": "t3_2dnow8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to hit submit on a college application", "post": "Obligatory this happened a couple of months ago but I just found out about it today.\n\nMay 24th I was accepted to a college nearby as an incoming freshman. For the past few weeks I've been waiting and waiting for my roommate information. I've been so antsy to know who I'll become bros with and what hotties will be staying in the rooms nearby. Today I decided to call the residential life office because I'm supposed to move in next Saturday, and everyone else has gotten their room assignments. The call goes as follows:\n\nMe: Hello, I was wondering if you could search for my roommates because I still haven't gotten any information on them.\n\nResLife: Sure, let me get right on that. What's your student number?\n\nMe: XXXXXX\n\nThey told me they'd call me back an hour later because of holdups and what not, okay. Then they call...\n\nResLife: Yeah, you're not in the system. It seems that nothing was ever submitted for you to come here.\n\nMy heart skipped a few beats when she said that. I filled it all out, my mom was right there making sure I checked the \"Goes to bed between 8:00 and 10:00 every night\" and the \"Enjoys a nice quiet room at all times\" boxes. I race up to the school and head into their office. She tells me that the information was due March 31st. Apparently I had saved the information online after I was accepted but never hit the submit button. She told me that they overbooked the rooms so there are zero rooms for me to get into, and to maybe try back in a few weeks. I have since then applied for the Spring semester so I don't have to commute. What still doesn't make sense is that the housing form was due March 31st and I was accepted May 24th, so there was no possible way for me to stay on campus.", "summary": "I was being irresponsible and forgot to hit submit on my housing application"}
{"id": "t3_3oatru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24/M) falling in love with my roommate (26/F), but she's taken, and isn't into guys anyway. Is there any way for me to get rid of these feelings?", "post": "I moved into my current place a little over a year ago, and it's been pretty good. My roommate's been awesome - she's never late with rent, does her share of the chores without being asked/reminded and does them well (and sometimes does more than her share), etc. And in general, she's just a super cool girl, and we've become friends as well as roommates. We renewed the lease for another year about 2 months ago.\n\nRecently, I realized that I'm falling for her, and falling hard. In so many ways, she's exactly what I want in a girlfriend. But there's no chance for me to ever have a relationship with her - she's lesbian, and she has a girlfriend. \n\nI'm hoping there's a way for me to stop myself from falling in love with her. I can't really do no contact - I live with her after all, and flat out moving out would be a pretty big financial blow to me. Is there anything I can do, or do I just have to tough it out for the next 10 months?", "summary": "Recently renewed lease, realized that I'm falling in love with my not-single lesbian roommate. Is there any way for me to stop myself from falling further in love other than no contact?"}
{"id": "t3_27wc3y", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "IRS says I owe back taxes. This is what emergency funds are for!", "post": "Throw away for reasons.\n\nI got a notice in the mail today saying that I owe $850 in taxes from 2012.\n\nI somehow missed an entire W2 (I work freelance and have several anywhere from 3-12 employers each year), as well as some 1099-G income! I can see why I got audited or whatever, even just taking the standard deduction. My actual income was nearly double that of my reported income. \n\nLong story, but my dad had me cash a lottery ticket for him for $4000. He gave me a couple hundred to do it, but I'm realizing it was probably a bad call now.\n\n--------------\n\nWelp, now I'm out $850 because they want their refund back + the extra missing taxes. Lesson learned. Luckily, I have money in the bank to pay this off. If I had gotten this notice a year ago, I'd be completely and utterly screwed.", "summary": "Messed up my taxes because I'm a dummy, owe the IRS money, have an emergency--can pay the IRS"}
{"id": "t3_ap185", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Withdrew from college, now what do I do?", "post": "As of ~10 hours ago, I am withdrawn from my university. I was a comp sci major at a Top 40 overall school/Top 10 engineering school, but I was fucking miserable and hated it. I do find the subject interesting and I definitely have skill in writing actual code, but I'm not very interested in/good at the more theoretical stuff (which my school had a heavy focus on). I don't particularly want to just transfer to another school (doubt I could anyway, towards the end I stopped giving a shit and my grades dropped like Fat Man on Nagasaki), and from what I can tell from talking with pro-coders, I learned most of the useful tidbits already (in terms of development processes, algorithm and structure efficiency, etc).\n\nSo, thoughts on what I do next with my life? I have 6 months before my loan payment plan kicks in, and it'd be nice having some money to throw in that direction. Also, advice on breaking the news to my parents? Dad is a successful doctor, Mom volunteers all her time because she can. Both emphasize education.\n\nQuick FYI, my school noticed that my grades sucked and they considered dismissing me outright, but I convinced them to just let me withdraw for the time being, which is how I find myself where I am now.", "summary": "I'm a coder, dropped out of college, now what do?"}
{"id": "t3_52e9lr", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MI] Mold test at my fiance's workplace came back positive for black mold. Is there any legal ramifications?", "post": "Throwaway. The title pretty much says it all, but the long goes like this:\n\nMy fiance started working for this company as an administrative assistant about a year and a half ago after the company she was working for was acquired by said company. Within the first month  or so of her working there she noticed that there was standing water in the basement of the building that had to mopped/vacuumed up about once a week. She spoke to her boss and he said he was aware of the issue, but they weren't doing anything at the time to fix the problem (mind you this is a building full of engineers and architects).  \n\nFast forward about a year from then, my fiance is now the office manager and was cleaning some documents in basement near the water and found some blueprints with mold on them, she then notifies the president of the company and his response is along the lines of \"you shouldn't have to work in that environment where you could potentially get sick, don't work down there anymore. We will look into the issue.\"  \n\nAnother month goes by and nothing is being done about the issue, so she takes things into her own hands. She gets the go ahead from her boss to schedule an inspection and get a mold test done.  Apart from there being multiple building problems and what not, the mold test comes back positive for black mold. \n\nI should note that this is a building of about 200-300 people, with multiple pregnant women. Since she has started working there my fiance has developed asthma as well as other symptoms that consistent with black mold exposure. \n\nIs there any sort of lawsuit at hand?", "summary": "Fiance's workplace has black mold and she has symptoms consistent with black mold exposure and we don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3yaiie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [19 M] with my friend for 1 year Anne [19 F]: I want to be more than friends but I don't want to lose my only emotional support", "post": "Here is the old post \n\nA while ago I talked to her and told her how I felt. She said that she didn't feel the same way, but if I stopped talking to her now she was going to be super pissed. She also said she wants me to still visit her on my vacation, which I was surprised she said but I will do it.\n\n I appreciate the help I got in my previous post and here is the update you were waiting for u/no_no_no_no_no_ \n\nNow I am just afraid about sexual tension and all that and I still love her but I will respect what she told me. I hope everything works out in the end.", "summary": "She said no but still wants to be friends. Yay!"}
{"id": "t3_1c43m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] feel like my boyfriend [33] doesn't like me.", "post": "I know my problem isn't very interesting but it's still eating me up. We've been dating since January of this year. I know we haven't been together very long, and I realize he's a good amount older than me, but I'm still in the honeymoon phase, especially since I hardly see him anymore (maybe once a week). He has other friends and family of course, but he readily spends time with them and skips me. I do whatever I can to spend time with him, but I don't seem any more important to him than a casual friendship. He's acknowledged we're \"dating,\" and we kiss and cuddle and I love it, but I feel like he doesn't want to invest in me.\n\nI should also mention he was in a 5+ year relationship that ended not too long ago, albeit not badly.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. This is only my second (romantic) relationship.", "summary": "My boyfriend says he's interested in me, but doesn't act like it (anymore), though he says we're dating."}
{"id": "t3_gusjd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shouldn't companies offer to split postage savings with customers who opt for paperless to encourage more people to go green?", "post": "I work for a large, well known insurance company and see more returned mail on a monthly basis than you would believe and all I can think is, how much money in postage is my company wasting on mail that never even gets to the customer - the amount has to be staggering. Like everyone else, we're trying to get everyone to go paperless to be green, etc. Wouldn't it make sense in an effort to get more people to go green/paperless to offer to split the savings on postage with them - give them a credit on their bill or credit their account for half the postage savings. I'm just thinking about my bank statements every month (I have about 5 bank accounts) and if my bank offered to give me 10 or 15 or 20 cents a month for each statement, etc (which btw is more than I earn in interest in my savings account on a monthly basis), I would switch to paperless in a second. Between all my bank statements, credit cards, bills, etc I could probably rack up a few dollars a month in savings and these companies could save millions in postage. This seems like a no-brainer, win-win situation right? Am I missing something? The only thing I can think of is the postage write offs or something but that can't be worth it. The other argument would be the bank could keep the whole savings themselves except probably only 5% of the people I see are paperless so I have to assume the industry average is similar.", "summary": "Read the title"}
{"id": "t3_yeghr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] My girlfriend [19/f] is going to leave for a long time, how do I cope?", "post": "I really try my best not to be a needy person, but I just feel really bad about this situation and I'd like to get some advice from a completely neutral standpoint.\n\nI've known my girlfriend for two years now and we've been together for seven months. It's been a wonderful relationship so far where everyone has always openly stated their standpoints and for every problem there was, we were able to find a solution together.\n\nHowever, it seems that it won't work this time. She says she feels too dependant on her parents and wants to go into another country as an Au Pair for three months. I was initially hoping that due to the relatively short time left, she wouldn't find anything, but it seems that she did. I talked to her and I tried to show her other opportunities how to learn about life and become more independant, like doing a voluntary job, but she doesn't listen. She insists doing this Au Pair and leaving for three months.\n\nJust thinking about her being gone for this long makes me sick. I realize this makes me sound like a very needy person, but I would be very worried about whether she will be fine and how I will feel throughout the entire time. \n\nI have three and a half months before she leaves. I know I am a fairly needy person, that's a long story, but it's a part of mine that I can't change. How does a needy person cope with their SO gone for so long? \n\nI think it would help me a lot to get some advice from you, or to hear some reinforcing words, or to hear a story from you in a similar situation that went well.", "summary": "Girlfriend leaves for three months, needy me needs a way to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_3wagln", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Focusing tips?", "post": "So I'm finishing up my first year of college and I'm not dead and I dident fail out so I'd say it went ok. The workload wasn't too overwhelming but I know it's not going to get any easier. I have recently started breaking through my HUGE procrastination problem and started actually going to the library and getting work done in advance. Although I am getting. Work don't I find it very very hard for me to focus and I know this is mostly a result of my ADD. I can't sit down and study for 6 hours straight like\nOther people that it actually amazes me how people actually do stuff like that but I know as I continue on with college  going to have to be able to do that. Often I find myself studying but think about what I'm going to do later or someone I'll hang out with and then I get all excited for that or something like that and at that point I can't study or do work. I'm so fixed on what I'm gonna do later that it makes it near impossible to do my work. It's really frustrating because I want to get it done and I need to get it done but I simply can't focus. I was prescribed adderall I THINK in middle school (I was to young to care about what the meds were called) and I went off it because it made me sick and never ate. I'm getting reevaluated for it soon so I may have it next semester which I'm hoping will solve this problem for me but for now I need some ways to be able to focus for extended periods of time. Also I have tried the whole studying in short periods multiple times a day and it works but not always because I don't always have the time unless  the library's open late and i don't like staying up late with class in the morning", "summary": "can't focus for more than an hour and a half. Need help"}
{"id": "t3_1mp26g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [22/M] said \"I love you\" after a month of dating and I [19/F] did not. Now he won't speak to me.", "post": "I just need to get this off my chest and could use some advice. I met this guy about a month ago and we clicked right away. We had issues about him wanting sex too soon in a relationship as I was a virgin. Eventually, I went for it and did it. I was really unsure about doing it with him so soon, but I really wanted it and it was actually a pretty great experience. I do not regret it at all and I think I could have not been more ready. We were fine after that up until today when he said \"I love you\" over text. I told him \"Love is strong word.\" That triggered him and he said \"Forget it. I won't say it again.\" Now he won't respond to my texts anymore. \n\nI told him love is something I would prefer to hear or say back in person. I do believe he loves me, but maybe not in love with me. I do have strong feelings for him, but since I've never been in love, I cannot tell. He is much more experienced than I am and has had serious past relationships while I have not. I was thinking about not contacting him anymore and hopefully he would contact me back. If not, I think I will be scarred for life as used by him for sex.", "summary": "I did not say \"I love you\" back and now he won't reply to my texts. Only known him for about a month."}
{"id": "t3_101dfi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24) GF (22) of 9 months kissed another guy for the second time", "post": "First off, she was never sober. She has admitted to having a problem with drinking. She doesn't know when to stop, and when she drinks, she gets black out. This doesn't happen every time she drinks, but it is frequent. She has already said she will stop drinking altogether to salvage the relationship.\n\nBoth times she was beyond drunk. She also has an incredibly guilty conscience. If we go out (which we both enjoy doing) and a guy so much as offers to buy her a drink when I'm not around, she refuses, mentions her BF, and will tell me. She never hid the fact that she screwed up both times. However, she does get flirtatious once she has too much to drink. It's my belief that she is not very confident in herself and that she desires male attention, which her father did not give her growing up.\n\nIt's been the same guy each time. It is her roommates brother. The second time, he apparently wanted nothing to do with her. He tried to snake his way between us after the first occurrence, but my GF told him to back off, and I also had a few cross words to say to him. He has since been no where near her house or her, and has made no attempt at pursuing her any more. She has expressed her disdain towards him and his narcissist tendencies, and that she would not be interested in him sober. Both times, she called me that night, still drunk, telling me what happened and how sorry she was.\n\nI've told her that it's over, that I could not respect myself if I took her back, but I want to, very badly. And so I told her that I need some time to figure things out. This is someone that I see a future with. She has told me how much she regrets it, how much it hurts her knowing that she hurt me, and that she will do whatever it takes to help build the trust back. I don't want to talk to my friends or family because I don't want them to know of her indiscretions. I'm really just looking for some feedback.", "summary": "GF gets too drunk and seeks attention"}
{"id": "t3_4xr1l2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Store franchise owner is probably stealing from their store, or at least acting unethically - not sure what to do.", "post": "I'm not sure if I can even do anything, and if the person in question wasn't an asshole or treated his employees so poorly I wouldn't give a shit, but I thought I'd ask for some advice on this situation.\n\nI work at a grocery store that is franchised in Canada, there is no employee discount or similar program offered at any level in the corporation. The grocery costs at these stores are noticeably more expensive than others. The owner regularly does a grocery shop where the bill averages $400-$500, however they just ring it through the till in training mode and don't actually pay any money for their groceries. The training mode bill is then filed away somewhere, and as far as I can ascertain it's written off as theft/shrink through the store. The only reason I can gather that they do this is so they are actually paying a lower amount for their groceries, maybe it works out so they are just paying for groceries at what they cost the store vs. what a customer would pay, that's my guess anyway.\n\nI don't really know how the ordering/costs work for grocery stores and if they are even getting the groceries cheaper but I assume so because why else would they do that? This situation just seems really sneaky, and I can't imagine corporate would be okay with a store franchise owner doing this, but I could just be making something out of nothing. \n\nThere isn't a store ethical hotline or anything similar that I was able to locate on the corporate website, so I thought maybe I'd just get some other people's opinions on this. Maybe I shouldn't care and I'm making a mountain out of a molehill or whatever. \n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Store franchise owner appears to be writing groceries off as shrink rather than paying for them normally, seems unethical, should / could I do something?"}
{"id": "t3_2fexx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my husband[30 M] of 9 years, works out a lot or so I think...", "post": "My husband is in really good shape. He takes good care of himself and I am very proud of that. However, I feel, he spends a lot of time working out. My husband works out on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. He normally works out for a few hours (like 3 or 4) on these days and we have little time to talk before or after. He has a gym in our backyard and his friends come over and they work out for hours! It is basically understood that MWF are off limits for spending time as a family. It upsets me but I am not sure if I am overreacting. Does he spend too much time working out? Or do I just need to get over it? I don't know if this matters but we only have 1 child, she is my step-daughter and she only comes every other weekend. And yes, he still works out if she is here.", "summary": "Husband works out 3/4 hours on MWF. Is that too much time to spend working out when you have a family?"}
{"id": "t3_1f2cqo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [17M] leaving for 2 months and I seriously like this girl [17W].", "post": "So I just graduated high school. My parents and I are moving 7 hours away in about a week. I've begged to stay with my friend for the summer (my friend's parents even offered very sincerely) so I could spend the summer with my great friends and this girl that I'm crazy for. However, this hopeful plan was brutally shot down. My parents claim that I can come visit whenever, but knowing them, this won't be the case. But onto this girl, we both like each other but it hasn't moved on to officially being \"boyfriend and girlfriend.\" I'm coming back to this area for college in mid August so I will eventually be back. However, I just feel like this summer would just be absolutely perfect and would help our relationship move on further and further. But having to basically just leave for 2 months is depressing me more and more as the days go by. We've talked about it some and about how she felt the same way and didn't want things to end once I go to college. (She's going to be a senior in high school.) But I just really don't know what to do right now. Do I make it official and make her my girlfriend? Which I would love to do but then I would pretty much leave for two months right after doing so. I leave in about a week so I'm trying to figure this out as soon as I can. I'm just really in a tough place here.", "summary": "Leaving for two months, don't know what to do about this girl that I'm crazy for."}
{"id": "t3_3ni6ug", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[UT] Utah liquor laws, how do they work?", "post": "Hi legaladvice,\n\nI am vacationing with my family in Southern Utah right now. We are really enjoying the opportunity to partake of some of our nation's most spectacular natural treasures, but we also really enjoy partaking of some of our nation's most spectacular liquid treasures (and France's and Germany's). Since we are from Texas, and I currently reside in Arizona - two states whose regulatory environments could be summed up as \"Yeehaw! Pew pew pew! *shoots finger guns into the air*\" - we are utterly perplexed by Utah's seemingly unnatural and draconian liquor laws. This seemed like the best sub for the following silly questions:\n\n1. We read that it is illegal to import liquor into the state. If my family had taken my suggestion to stock up before we left Las Vegas, would we be making a Dukes of Hazzardesque run for the state border right now? Can you get in trouble for bringing a bottle of wine over the border?\n\n2. We also read that the state has a monopoly on alcohol sales (not for consumption in site) but we have encountered at least one store selling \"spiritous liquors\" not owned by the state... Did we encounter some courageous bootleggers or what? If we had entered into a cash only transaction for booze with these folks would we all be committing crimes?\n\n3. Are the rules different if you're on federal land? We thought maybe the above was because they were in a national forest. Do state laws apply at all if you are on a federal reservation?\n\n4. (Optional) Why?!?!?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "$108 for three bottles of wine and two six packs is ridiculous."}
{"id": "t3_2d49a8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] get jealous over small things because my boyfriend [22 M] doesn't make me feel beautiful", "post": "We have been together for over 2 years. We have chemistry like we've never felt for anyone before. **I really REALLY love him.** So he's just not someone I can \"throw away\".\n\nBut he never makes me feel special and it hurts. He **occasionally** tells me I'm beautiful but there is no emotion behind it. It sounds monotone and rehearsed. It sounds like he's saying it out of duty of being a good boyfriend. I'm left feeling like, \"Does my boyfriend even think I'm pretty? Does he prefer other girls to me? Is he satisfied with how I look?\" \n\nBecause of this, I get jealous over dumb stuff like him checking out other girls, or constantly liking other girls' selfies on Facebook (he does it a lot).\n\nHow do I get over this? or how do I bring it up without sounding 12?", "summary": "I get jealous over silly stuff like my boyfriend checking out other girls because I don't know if he finds me attractive."}
{"id": "t3_vpv7e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend's parents ignore his needs but treat their other son perfectly. What do I do, Reddit?", "post": "Throwaway here, because my boyfriend would be embarrassed to know I was trying to help him out.\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for around a year and half now and over this time I've come to notice a lot about his parents and how he is treated.\n\nI'm not sure when this initially began but I have heard stories from him that even as a child they favoured his younger brother (allowing and paying for him to go on school trips, not letting my BF go on trips at all.) When he was getting older, he had a stroke and as a result of that lost some of his memory and mobility. He had to teach himself how to do some simple things again like reading the time and he feels really embarrassed about it. I had considered this as a possibility for why they started treating him like crap, but like I say, it's been going on earlier than that.\n\nHis brother also is exactly the same as his parents, self-centred and doesn't think of his brother (my bf) at all. My bf was the only person to show up at his graduation ceremony, but at my bf's graduation neither his parents nor his brother showed at all. \n\nIt continues to this day, he's been given an extension plug for his birthday when his brother got games consoles, whenever he asks for help from them for urgent purposes they treat it like it doesn't matter then shout at him for bothering them about it. It's made it very difficult for him to accept help when it comes to anything, even asking to use my parent's dryer for wet clothes when he has nothing to wear (which my parents do not mind at all.) I often end up making him accept gifts, and he is always overly thankful for small gestures.\n\nWhat should I do Reddit? I hate seeing him get treated like this when my parents treat both myself and my brother so well.", "summary": "My boyfriend's parents treat him like shit but shower his younger brother with attention. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_kd1zr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help us announce our divorce...", "post": "My husband and I of 3 years are getting divorced due to numerous factors, including a realization we were never \"in love\", just scared of being alone. We're great friends and still care about each other (in a brother/sister/best friend sort of way), but we realized that our marriage was making us unhappy and it was time to move on. Overall, very mutual. \nWe've begun the painful process of telling family and friends, most of whom are taking it well, or at least as well as can be expected. We plan to tell his parents Wednesday evening and are at a loss as to what to do. They view me as a daughter and will be devastated by this. Any suggestions on how to ease this blow? I'm concerned about their reaction to me--I expect hurt and anger, but since they live in a secluded area, I'm somewhat concerned for my safety if we do it at their house.", "summary": "Help my soon to be ex-husband and I break the news of our divorce to his parents in the least devastating way possible."}
{"id": "t3_52ogzp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (37M) daughter (6F) asked me about her mom's (35F) weight gain.", "post": "My wife had always been very thin (5'2\" 100 lbs) with no effort. Despite eating mostly junk food and not exercising, she never put on a pound. Even after having 5 kids, she went right back to size each time without trying.\n\nHowever, in the past year her metabolism has started to catch up with her. She has put on around 60 pounds since last July (2015), at which point she was still 100 pounds. Given her height and frame, she looks very different now. She's made some self-deprecating to me comments about it, so I know it's really bothering her.\n\nEarlier this week, our 6 year old daughter asked me, \"How did mom get so big? Last year she was one of the smallest parents at school, and now she's one of the biggest\". I was taken off guard to be asked this. I started off by making sure she didn't mention this at all to her mom. I then gave an explanation of the importance of eating healthy and exercising. Anything else I should have said? Am I keeping things from wife by not telling her?", "summary": "My wife used to be very skinny. She's gained a lot of weight in the last year. Our daughter asked me about the weight gain, and I'm not sure if any follow-ups are necessary."}
{"id": "t3_4o8aju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] dream about exes frequently, 7 years after marriage, and I wish they would stop.", "post": "I [28F] have frequent dreams about ex-boyfriends, about 3-4 times a week. These dreams are mostly non-sexual and the content is usually just me spending time with them, and feeling deeply in love with them. In the dreams, I am never aware of the existence of my husband [35M]. Some of these exes are people I have not seen or spoken to in over a decade. I have been married for 7 years, and I was hoping that over time the dreams would become less frequent, but they haven't. These dreams only involve ex boyfriends that I was involved with long-term. Some of the relationships ended abruptly or on bad terms. I have never had a dream about my husband.\n\nAfter I have the dreams, I usually wake up feeling very heartbroken and alone. By mid-day, I usually feel better and have moved on from the feelings. The dreams do not happen specifically during stressful times or when my husband and I are having issues; they are entirely random. Even on days when my husband and I are enamored with each other, the dreams can still happen. Most of these exes of mine have moved on with their lives, and are happily married with children. I don't think that contacting my exes would be a good idea, even if it was an issue with closure. I think discussing this with my husband would really hurt him. I feel helpless and ashamed that I can't control these dreams. Is this something others have dealt with regularly, and is there anything that I can do?", "summary": "I have been dreaming of ex-boyfriends from long ago, for over 7 years, and I'm not sure how to control them."}
{"id": "t3_2xnchq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] can't decide to ask this girl [17m] out. Help would be greatly appreciated.", "post": "So around a month or so ago I was at a football game with my lads and I saw this cute girl that I haven't really talked to before. I went up and asked for her number and she acted like she was shocked that someone was asking for her number. Texted her a few times that night didn't really get anywhere.\n\nAfter getting to know her I started to realize that she was very, very shy. My friends learned that I was talking to her and basically cringed at me because they deemed her as weird.\n\nThat didn't really deter me and I still perued her but every time I thought of asking her out I just thought \"what is there to do or talk about?\" I never have problems holding conversations with girls or people in general but it is really a struggle with her, when I hear her talking with other people she doesnt have a problem conversing, her voice even sounds different. \n\nI just don't want to ask her then waste it away because of this barrier between us.\n\nNot trying to be harsh but I'll just give some details about her so you can get a better sense of the situation. I find her attractive in personality and appearance.\n\nShe is very quiet and a speak when spoken to type of person. She isn't very popular (just want to make sure that we all understand that i don't care if she is popular or not, just puting this here so you can understand her better.) And she mostly watches netflix or plays with her siblings for entertainment.", "summary": "should I ask out shy girl when it is hard to maintain a conversation with her."}
{"id": "t3_189ojl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] how to handle being ignored on my birthday by [27M]", "post": "Hi all, thanks for reading. \n\nSo I've been casually seeing a guy for about 6 months now. I like him a lot, but its clear that he does not want to pursue a relationship with me. i am okay with that because i'm extremely busy.\n\nAnyway, this past Friday was my birthday. I asked him to hang out with me about a week in advance. He said maybe. I texted him the plan on Wednesday night and he never answered. Then, my birthday arrives, and I don't hear from him. At all. Not even a happy birthday text. He doesn't show up to my bday thing and never even texts to say he won't be there. \n\nI know we aren't boyfriend-girlfriend, but my feelings are really hurt that we have been sleeping together for 6 months (these instances often include taking his dog to the dog park, cooking dinner together, going to art shows, etc) and yet he doesn't respect me enough to even acknowledge my birthday... Even with a polite invite decline... \n\nI don't know how to talk to him about this in a way that conveys how I feel without making it seem like Im being clingy and expected boyfriend treatment from him. I work part time in the same building as him so will probably run into him Monday and am nervous.\n\nDo you guys have any thoughts/advice/insight into why we would act like this?", "summary": "guy I'm seeing casually/FWB said he might come to my birthday thing, then never showed up or even contacted me at all to say happy birthday"}
{"id": "t3_184d6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17f) have never gotten jealous before but bf (18m) talks about how hott my bestfriend (17f) is and she wants to work with him on project. For some reason i want to scream.", "post": "I have been going out with my bf for about 9 months and we have previously known and been close friends 3years prior. I've been in relationships and have never gotten jealous about other guys talking about how attractive certain people are. But with the bf I have now he and my other Guy best friend talk about how hott my female bestfriend is and how they would have sex with her if they could or had a chance. I've talked with my bf privately about this seeing if it was just Guy talk but he said if he wasn't going out with me he would date her. And I've talked to her and she finds him attractive and would date him. We have a partner project coming up and she wants to team up with him. I really don't want her to because I'm for some odd reason am boiling up inside and don't want this to happen at all. I don't know what it is but it makes me want to scream. Help me what do I do?", "summary": "boyfriend find best female friend really hott. She finds him attractive. Wants to team up for project. Want to scream."}
{"id": "t3_46hwpw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [39F] husband [45M] of 10 years is passive-aggressively avoiding employment. I'd like to shake him.", "post": "Almost three weeks ago, my husband was looking for a job change. He thought he had a solid lead, quit his job, applied for the new one, but didn't get it (through EVERY fault of his own, but that's a different story). Shortly after, he had a chance encounter with a potential employer in his current field. He came home very excited about the opportunity; it's a steady union job with decent wages and good benefits. He's not currently a member of the local union, so he said he'd immediately go in and get things taken care of. That was two weeks ago. \n\nSince then, he's taken a temporary low-paying job with one of his buddies and, despite his assurances that he really wants the union job, has done nothing but make excuses. He overslept. The union office was closed due to the holiday. He couldn't go because his friend-boss really needed him to come in and he couldn't be late and let friend-boss down. Today, he didn't have to work, so I texted him to ask how it went at the union. Guess what? He didn't go. He went back to sleep. \n\nWe have lots of issues, but this one is eating away at me. He's had over 10 jobs in our 12 total years together; I've had two. He says this is the field he wants to be in, but he knows he's going to have to apply himself and maybe go back to school to reach his career goals.\n\nAs an aside, he's forever thinking about \"get rich quick\" schemes. I've always valued his work ethic and thought those were just fantasies, but maybe not?\n\nRight now I'm furious. I want him to take responsibility like an adult. I've tried talking with him about it, but he repeats the same reassurances. Am I overreacting? I'm going to get home to dishes in the sink and a (likely) drunk, underemployed husband, and right now that's the very last thing I want to do. I'd appreciate any advice!", "summary": "My husband seems to be avoiding a great job opportunity. I'm too old for this crap."}
{"id": "t3_1g97ka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ok so I (M 22) did something stupid and I regret it. But I would like to know your guy's opinion on it.", "post": "So my girlfriend (F 21) has left for a few months. So I won't be able to see her for a pretty long time. We've been together for 10 months now.\n\nOk so my problems start with Facebook. This girl randomly sends me a friend request. We have mutual friends so why not. So she messages me. She just says hi, blah blah blah. Then she asks me to download KIK. I go ahead and do that. The first thing she says is \n\"Hi there cutie :)\" \n\nThat was the first clue that she wanted something else. So we're still chatting. Then she throws this out there, \"are you all alone?\" Then \"do you wanna trade pics?\" I was thinking with my head down there instead of the one up top, and we ended up exchanging pictures. Nude ones. \n\nNow I just don't feel right. I know I shouldn't have done it. I regret it so much. But what I want to know, is do you think that this is cheating? There is no way we'll ever meet up and have sex or anything. They were only pictures. Please tell me what you think.", "summary": "exchanged photos with girl I don't know very well, behind my girlfriend's back. I feel like shit; should it be considered cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_e18rc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My parents have had a series of unfortunate events over the past few years and turned to me for financial advise, help!", "post": "Hello Reddit, first off this is a throw away account and secondly I have searched Reddit for similar posts and have not came across any that suit my need.\n\nThe back story:\n\nIn 2002 my dad had a brain aneurysm and luckily it was caught soon enough and was able to have surgery. Since his brain surgery, he has developed having frequent (one/month) seizures and diabetes. However he worked just as anyone else would up until about two years ago when he was laid off and started to receive unemployment insurance. Since then my dad's health has declined significantly so he filed disability benefits and now they are waiting on that (apparently it is a long process). I should also mention that my mother has had breast cancer twice, in 1996 and 2006. Also about 3 months ago my mom's pay was cut by about 25%. So as you can tell there has been a long road of medical and financial struggles. Luckily they have made it this far but it has left them in a financial roller coaster over the past 15 or so years. My dad's profession is a pipeline welder and my mother is an assistant manager at a dairy plant so the house hold income was between 150k-250k. They have done some serious cutbacks over the years but it hasn't been enough. So, fast forward to this morning and my mom comes and talks to me before and explains to me that she has several credit cards maxed and she is behind on literally every payment she has and it is expected to get worse because my dad's unemployment is going to end this year. Since I have never been in this type of situation I really didn't know what to tell her but I told her I would look around which brought me here. So my question is, are there any types of programs / government assistance that are available for people in situations like this?", "summary": "My parents have had loads of medical problems, my dad lost his job and became disabled and my mother had her pay cut and as a result they are in a lot of debt. Are there any types of programs / government assistance that are available for people in situations like this?"}
{"id": "t3_2yhdaa", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm so tired of being belittled for taking a minimum wage job.", "post": "I have my bachelors degree, an education in early childhood, and a business degree. I left a $20 an hour management job to work at my dream job which is minimum wage. I now work at a canine behavioral and doggie daycare/day camp center. I start out as minimum wage and have already gotten a raise for experience to $13 an hour. My husband makes enough money that I could stay at home if I wished.\n\nAnyways, my family and close friends are not supportive of my dream job. They think I'm settling for less then I deserve and constantly send me job posts to jobs that pertain to the degrees I have. I am being told everyday that I'm wasting my life away. In my previous management job I HATED my life, I was constantly miserable forcing my husband to being miserable as well. He is so happy I found I job I love and can be happy doing.\n\nThese dogs love me, they know me and protect me from strangers who enter the facility. They make me feel needed and wanted and trust everything I do for them.\n\nI just want to be supported. I want my closest loved ones to realize this is what I need. Next year we are buying a house and I'll be opening my own boarding area and training classes. This job is everything I needed...", "summary": "Friends and family don't support my minimum wage job."}
{"id": "t3_2nanw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my SO [25 M] - Is it better to know your SO's \"number?\" Or are some things better left unsaid?", "post": "Hi, r/relationships. Longtime subscriber, throwaway because friends know my account.\n\nI'm posting to get a general response: What are your thoughts on knowing the details of your SO's sexual past?\n\nI'm posting because I know all about his past relationships, but I deliberately haven't asked about his sexual history. I guess mainly because once it's out, it's out, and I'm worried about how it will make me feel. My SO is my first, so he really doesn't need to ask for more info than that. Logically, I know it shouldn't affect me at all, it was before my time and I generally don't judge people on sex and hookups, but something is holding me back. Have others experienced this? I'm not sure if not asking is a bad thing...or not wanting to know.", "summary": "Do you think every relationship should know each others number or sexual past? Or are some things better unknown?"}
{"id": "t3_301hmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [22 M] and I [22 F] had a really bad break-up a year ago. I miss the friendship.", "post": "We were together on and off for 4 years but knew each other much longer. Our relationship was a hit and miss. We both did things that screwed us over and the whole thing was really toxic for the both of us I think. Its been a year since our big no-contact break up and I'm really starting to miss the **friendship**. \n\nI would never be able to date this person again, and I'm sure they feel the same about me, but I really miss hanging out with them or talking to them. Its been a year since we spoke though, I'm confused about why I am suddenly missing the company.\n\nI guess what I want to know is.. After going no contact for a year is it better to just try and forget about this and move on? \n\nAlso; I am in a happy healthy relationship now that makes me feel fulfilled. I don't think this a feeling of being lonely or wanting to rekindle something.. I just feel like I lost a best friend and its hitting me now, for some reason.", "summary": "Extremely bad no-contact break up a year ago. I miss the friendship. Am in a healthy relationship now, not looking to rekindle anything. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_m005t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lawyers of Reddit/People who know stuff I need your help!", "post": "I dont know if this is the right subreddit, but here goes. I live in upstate NY, and my boss (owner of a pizza shop) is frequently aggravated by a member of the local police. Such instances include giving him the finger, opening the door and calling him a name then leaving, and kicking people out from the shop. My boss has done nothing in response, as the officer only does it in uniform.\n\nIn front of our shop are 2 15 minute parking spaces. They are there because some business has always existed at this spot, so delivery drivers will usually have a spot to pull in. In the 4 years he has owned the business, him and other local businesses have used the parking spaces as unlimited duration parking spaces. While incorrect, there has never been a problem, and there have even been instances of tickets being expunged because they found out it was someone who worked there, and they have no problem.\n\nThis evening said officer was walking on the street, giving out tickets, and the delivery driver's car was parked out front for 2 straight hours without moving. The officer walked by multiple times, no ticket. He later saw the driver get out into his car and take a delivery. Driver returns, parks in the same spot. Leaves it there for 25 minutes, the officer returns, places a ticket under the wiper, looks in and flips us off.\n\nIs there anything that can be done legally to discourage the cop from harassing us? It has now gone from just against the owner to against anyone involved in the business. Help.", "summary": "Cop gave unjust ticket to delivery driver cause he doesnt like the owner. Can we do anything?"}
{"id": "t3_4q5azd", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "My last day at the restaurant...", "post": "So, I worked at a restaurant as my second job, after about a month and a half, things were not going as planned. I will spare the details. However, today, I knew I was going to quit, I was just going to wait until the end of my shift.\n\nThat's when the other food runner started acting like a millennial. First, she almost argued with me over the length of deployment in the military. I thought it was always 4 years, apparently to her, it's ALWAYS been 3. \n\nThen, while I'm sitting at the window waiting for food to come out, I hear her yell from the other side, \"If you're not doing anything, clean\"\n\nNow, I've worked in restaurants my whole life, I get the cleaning aspect and I usually am one to clean but I had just wiped down the counter and was talking to a server while waiting for the ticket to come up.\n\nWho does this bitch think she is? \n\nSo finally, I am refilling the ice and a manager comes up to me and goes, \"is everything okay? The food runner said that you are just talking and not working at all, are you good?\"\n\nOh no she didn't.\n\nThat's where I snapped. Calmly though. I was on the schedule to close and she was getting out in about 15 minutes. I went to the office to collect my tips and paychecks for the weeks past. The manager questioned slightly why I was leaving at 1015, I just said I was leaving at 1030 and was going to clock out right after . Our managers do not check schedules at all.  \n\nI collected my tips and checks and walked out. Knowing I left early enough for them to notice and make her stay until close.", "summary": "On my last day of work, I was going to be nice and finish my shift, but my coworker pissed me off so I screwed her over."}
{"id": "t3_4vt1c3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 2 years, I need help, just got cheated on, things got really complicated, I don't know what to do.", "post": "I have been in my first real relationship for two years now, we started senior year of High School, and carried through freshman year of college sorta long distance (2 hours). Recently she cheated on me, it devastated me. I'm still very much in love with her and a few days after all of this happened, I contacted her to tell her that. She said it was a mistake and she still loves me, but we agreed we couldn't be together right now and we need some time to figure it out. So, we've been in this kinda limbo state ever since. I just don't see a way to move on, even though I know I probably should. Has anyone dealt with a situation similar to this? I need words of advice or just something to make me feel better.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated, I couldn't be without her, now were still talking and acting somewhat loving towards each other but not in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_zfb4n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My older brother's life is spiraling out of control and he's having shotgun wedding in 14 days. I need help Reddit; how do I stop it?", "post": "He's being forced into a wedding because he and his fiance had a baby in June. As if having an unexpected and unplanned for baby wasn't enough, his fiance's father is a pastor and her whole family is practically taking control of the situation. (Those two facts are not very much related). My brother has a lot going for him now and that's exactly why my family loathes his fiance: they think she's trying to take advantage of him. I always gave their relationship the benefit of the doubt even when the rest of my family attacks him for distancing from us to move towards his fiance's family; even though I have noticed things recently. But when he called me two days ago to tell me that he's getting married on the 20th, that was the last straw. They met had only been dating for a few months before she became pregnant and because of the pregnancy, he \"wanted\" to get married next Spring. I don't like seeing my brother being taken advantage of. I need to convince my brother that getting married is a major and terrible mistake. I feel like he knows it too but the he's being overwhelmed by his fiances side of the family and my family is too busy being upset with him to truly talk him out of it. He can't get married. At least not now. They just had a baby and he'll be the only one working. His fiance is going to permanently stop working. He's only 26 and I'm 20. I know my brother well enough to say with confidence that he's not prepared to be married nor does he want to to be married. I can't allow this wedding to happen. What do I do?", "summary": "The title."}
{"id": "t3_1n4zed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21] Am I really being a selfish jerk?", "post": "I've been staying with my dad in Costa Rica studyiing spanish for about a month.\n\nWe got in a big argument becuase I told him I could not give him an exact time that I could lend him my computer for an hour or so. He wanted it becuase he didn't know how to do something on his mac and didn't want to spend the time to get it to work(because he knew that I had a PC). I told him that I was really busy studying today and that I could help him when I was finished, but that I could not give him an exact time. He got exremely mad and proceded to call me unbeliveably selfish and a fucking jerk for \"blowing him off\".\n\nThis has just been really hard for me becuase he's been yelling at me calling me every insult under the sun, and telling me that this will come back to bite me (and other veiled threts).\n\nI don't know what to do because I really don't have the option to just leave, and as much as I'd like to work things out, it seems like there is nothing I can do to change his mind and stop his hurtful barrage of words. What can I do? Am I really being selfish?", "summary": "Didn't let my dad borrow my computer, now he's making me feel like I'm a self serving asshole."}
{"id": "t3_ifrv8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE feel like they would be willing to disable adblock type extensions on their browser if Google would stop allowing video/audio ads?", "post": "With the exception of reddit, I use adblock on every website I visit. I was accustomed to the cluttery appearance of most sites because of their ads, and could tolerate it, until I began to see an increase in ads containing audio and/or video which spurred me into using adblock.  I imagine that extension like adblock generally hurt google's advertisement based revenue stream and would be positively affected if there was a decrease in its use, so I propose that they more tightly regulate the types of ads they allow (not a discrimination of the companies/organizations but of the ads themselves) and prohibit the use of autoplay video/audio ads, especially ones with a dramatically higher default volume than the norm. Redditors, is this even feasible?", "summary": "got sick of loud ads, installed adblock. Willing to disable it if google stops them"}
{"id": "t3_1s0lx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31F] mother in law [59F] endangered my daughters [2F] life. Not sure where to go from here.", "post": "My husband (Jason, 32M) and I are highschool sweethearts. We have been together since we were 15 and have always had a great relationship. I get along great with my father in law because my own father died from lung cancer when I was 12. My mother in law, Sherri, however, has always been a little nutty.\n\nShe can be a compulsive liar and is most likely undiagnosed schizophrenia. She talks to herself, laughs to herself, and talks about imaginary people. She's a very sweet woman however and has always been good to me, ever since we met when I was much younger. She even sewed my nothing over-the-top wedding dress when Jason and I got married 4 years ago.\n\nI work as a medical assistant and Jason is a machinist, so my mother watches our daughter, Kayla, Tuesdays through Thursdays, when she doesn't work. Mondays and Fridays, she is with my in laws. My father in law promised to be there while they watched her.\n\nWell yesterday, after work I went to pick Kayla up. As soon as I pulled into their driveway, I noticed my father in laws car was gone. Not a big deal, I though, he is probably just out to get groceries or something. I walk into the house to see all this smoke. My daughter is wailing in her play pen, like screaming at the top of her lungs, and my mother in law is sitting on the couch smoking a joint. I'm not against marijuana at all and I admit to have doing it before, but it was not okay to do it in the same room as my daughter, especially while she's screaming. I asked her what the hell she was doing. I was absolutely livid. She was laughing, high as can be. I collected my daughter and her things and got out as fast as possible. I told my husband when I got home and Kayla kept asking what was wrong with her Mimi. What in the world do I do? I have not accepted her calls because I'm not sure what step to take next.\n\nHelp me!", "summary": "caught my mother in law smoking marijuana in the same room as my two year old daughter while she cried and needed attention. Not share what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1wqb4x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my wife [23 F] together 6 years, and my wife feels like she is living in my shadow.", "post": "Hey everybody, I've been married for my wife for 2 years and dating for over 6. This has been slowly building the last year or so but exploded in the past few days. My wife has told me she feels like I am always the center of attention and that she constantly lives in my shadow. And honestly I 100% agree with her. I am in law school, and all anyone asks about is how I'm doing and how proud they are of me. I do make pretty good grades, but I don't tell people my grades my wife does. \n\nI do not know what to do to make her feel like the center of attention. We have even had to switch churches because at our previous church all people would ask was how law school was going, and they seemed to ignore her. I honestly hate being the center of attention and don't desire it at all. Up until now I've never been the center of attention so I don't know what to do and how to deflect the attention back to her. \n\nI would also love some advice on steps I can do to make her feel like the center of my world. I am thinking about planning a romantic weekend away sometime soon, but I am afraid that if I plan it and surprise her with it, it will still feel like she's just \"tagging along\" since I did all the planning. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Wife feels like I am the center of attention with family and friends and she is right! Looking for ways to deflect the attention to her and make her feel more loved and cared about."}
{"id": "t3_270yra", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (28f) don't understand my boyfriend (30m) when he says he's not ready for long term things. We have a house together. I don't know what to do.", "post": "First a little about us;\nWe have been together for almost six years. He comes from a good family, college educated has a good job. I have one semester left until I have a college degree and I already have prospects for a full time job in my area of work. We have a house together. We don't drink often or take drugs. We like to keep to ourselves. I always though we had a good relationship, we are different in how we view the world, we have constructive arguments, which I believe are healthy and normal...up until last weekend and now I am questioning the integrity of our relationship.\n\nLast weekend Memorial Day Celebrations happened at his parents. Many family members were there with new babies and pregnant. I have been thinking about babies for the last three years and that night before bed finally got up the courage to ask  my boyfriend if we could try for a baby. He beat around the bush with some bullshit questions, then, finally he told me he \"wasn't ready\". He has given me this same phrase when I asked him why in five years we have never discussed marriage. \n\nI just don't know what that means. He wont elaborate. I feel like he is just nicely telling me to fuck off. What does this mean and what should I do?", "summary": "My boyfriend says he's not ready to try for a baby and I am way past ready."}
{"id": "t3_2hmnbz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving a lit candle next to an unlit candle.", "post": "I lit one of my two candles while I was doing shit around the house. Just before I was about to leave the house, I blew it out. As I was blowing it out, I noticed the candle next to it looked like it had gotten soft. So being the curious idiot I am, I picked it up and poked it with my thumb. Turns out there was a pocket of liquid wax under the soft looking top that ended up squirting directly into my right eye. I set the candle back down and instinctively start rubbing my eye. Wrong move. That just spread the now hardening wax. I spent the next 45 minutes picking out Pumpkin Pecan Waffle wax fragments out of my eye.", "summary": "I got a money shot from my candle and most of the wax hardened on my eyeball."}
{"id": "t3_1psdm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend's (15 F) father doesn't want me (15 M) to see her again.", "post": "To start off we've been dating for 9 months. We took our relationship slow at first, but lately we've been taking it a little faster (making out and whatnot). While we've been doing this, we have limits. We have both agreed that we're too young for anything sexual. \n\nNow, yesterday her dad caught her with a hickey, and he thinks we're going to have sex. We've tried telling him that we've both talked about and agreed that we are nowhere near ready to have anything sexual going on, but he won't listen. He doesn't want us to see each other anymore and I'm scared for our relationship. Can anyone help?", "summary": "My girlfriend's dad doesn't like me and doesn't want us to see each other anymore"}
{"id": "t3_2s2cgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15F] am uncertain whether or not to tell my friend [16F] that her boyfriend [16M] is cheating on her with a mutual friend [16F]. Do I keep quiet or break the other friend's trust?", "post": "We are all sophomores in high school. My friend Hannah is dating a boy named Trent, and they have been on and off for almost two years. They have had a few problems but she trusts him a lot and loves him and is considering letting him take her virginity.\n\nMy friend Emma has a friends with benefits thing going on with Trent that started before he and Hannah got together, but neither of them have stopped it ever. I swore to Emma I wouldn't tell anyone, but after hearing Hannah talking about how much she trusted Trent and that they would lose their virginity together and that she knew they were perfect together... How can I hide a fact like that?\n\nI don't know how many people Emma or Trent have told about their deal, but I know it isn't more than five. To be honest, it would probably be blamed on me if people found out.\n\nI am SO much better friends with Hannah than with Emma, but I have many classes with Emma and she is my biology partner. She would definitely hold a grudge.\n\nWhat should I do? Keep quiet and let it take its course or tell Hannah and save her from a douche bag who is lying about virginity and cheating?", "summary": "one of my best friends' boyfriend is cheating on her with my other friend. Do I tell the truth about the bad boyfriend or just keep paws off?"}
{"id": "t3_2kf7a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] too depressed now if I know if I like her [19 F] or not.", "post": "First time making any kind of post like this so sorry in advance for rambling. I'm also probably posting in the wrong sub for this so if there's anywhere else I can post this that'd be great.\n\nI've been depressed for a few months now, but my parents bought me the plane ticket to and from Atlanta, Georgia and the Walker Stalker Con last week. Figured as I might as well go since they were paying for it, even though I didn't have a lot of interest for The Walking Dead, which the convention is for.\n\nWe got there, and on the first day waiting in line. Met her, and we eventually made plans to get food. We did so and and had a good time. We've still been texting since then, but I'm so depressed that I'm not 100% sure if I like, as with anything lately. At this point I don't know if I want to pursue a full blown long distance relationship or what.", "summary": "Went on a family trip across country. Met a girl. Went on a date. Both of us enjoyed it. I'm too depressed to know if I should pursue a relationship with her."}
{"id": "t3_urty9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most outlandish legitimate excuse you've ever given a teacher?", "post": "I was a senior in high school and I had to present a poster about the three branches of government. I drove a pickup truck at the time, and I had the brilliant idea of putting the poster in the bed of the truck with my backpack on top to keep it down. While doing 70mph down the interstate, I saw my poster fly up out of the bed through my rearview mirror and onto the side of the road. I then had to explain to my teacher that my poster flew out of my truck, which she refused to believe. What's your craziest excuse?", "summary": "My school poster flew out of my pickup truck."}
{"id": "t3_hvit7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've wasted my life in college and I have no friends, how can I change it?", "post": "I'm on summer break from college and I'm entering my senior year, working in the middle of nowhere. I've spent the last two-three years gaming like a fiend.\n\nMost of the people who have made my acquaintance have been batshit (we're talking stabby-stabby stalker level) insane, and I find it very hard to see the good in people who approach me because of that (though I am trying to be more positive about people). I don't know how to strike up a conversation with people (unless it's about computers) and all of the guys who have approached me are just interested in fucking me because of the way I look.\n\nI'd like to expand my interests into something that is more than computers in gaming (sorry nerds, I think you're cool and all, but I don't think that staying with the same kind of people all the time is healthy.) Meetup.com currently only has Japanese Animation Club and something about stay home mothers in my area, so I guess I should start trying to teach myself to be less awkward. Any tips?", "summary": "Female nerd whose life revolves around gaming and computers needs to expand horizons and make friends instead of staying in her room all day."}
{"id": "t3_33lzxq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [23 F] and I [25 M] just recently found out we're pregnant. Definitely not planned. Hoping you guys can give some advice on how to move on from our difficult past.", "post": "My ex and I have been broken up for around 2 years ago. Both of us made mistakes and weren't entirely faithful the first time around, though her mistakes were much harder for me to deal with, but we both regret what happened. Regardless of having a rough history we've remained friends, and recently started spending more time together. After having sex a few times recently, she just discovered we're pregnant. \n\n Despite having a difficult history we've decided to put it behind us for our baby. If you guys have any positive stories about relationships and people changing for the better in situations like this I'd love to hear them to give me some perspective.  I'm also looking for any advice on how to let go the past and solidify our future together for the sake of our child?", "summary": "Bad history, sex, and a baby. Hopefully uplifting stories will follow."}
{"id": "t3_1q6b56", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21M] What to do for a date this weekend with [21F] friend?", "post": "So I plan on asking this girl out today that I work with. The only thing is, I'm not sure what to do for the date. Essentially, she goes to the college right next to mine (they're pretty close, like sometimes people from her college will go to the bars around here, etc), and I know her from work since we have the same fall internship. I asked her to a date night at my fraternity a couple weeks ago (pumpkin carving and beer) and she came by--we carved a pumpkin, had a few drinks, and generally hit it off before her roommate came by to pick her up. Now I'd like to ask her out for a legit date of some sort, but I'm unsure of what. Dinner seems a bit formal, and since I don't have a car (although I might be able to potentially borrow one to pick her up/drive somewhere) it's hard to think of a place that works transportation wise (unless she drives her car, but that seems kind of lame on my part), plus I suck at thinking of casual date ideas. Help? Thanks!", "summary": "need ideas for a date idea with this girl, have already done one casual thing with her, have no car and she goes to the neighboring college so transportation logistics are annoying."}
{"id": "t3_3br2um", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Revenge was not sweet", "post": "One Saturday night, a while ago, I was out having fun with friends. Yay. I received a call from friend X (we'll call him flake) inviting us to his new place. We survived the dangers of public transport and got to the area he lived in. We called him assuming he did guide us to his house but he didn't pick up. Unperturbed we tried again and continued for an hour before deciding he'd abandoned us and that we should leave. \n\nA few months later Flake messaged me saying we should meet up. There was no mention of the incident. In the months that had passed I had moved to a different town some way from Flake. You know what's coming.\n\nI graciously invited Flake to my new place the. He graciously accepted and stated he would visit the following Saturday.\n\nCue Saturday.\n\nTriumph coursed through my veins  as my phone began to rang. I could feel his misery increasing with every missed call. He had just travelled about 2 hours and spent \u00a360 to get here. He would soon be on his way home reeking of rejection. \n\nRevenge! But not sweet. \n\nCue guilt. \n\nI had just royally fucked over someone that had invested more time and effort to see a mate than one usually does and we'll probably never talk again. Should have just confronted him and watched him dig his own grave. Safe to say we've not spoken since.", "summary": "probably lost a friend over some petty petty shit"}
{"id": "t3_11yknu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone help me figure out what this self-induced tingling sensation is??", "post": "Okay so this is going to sound really strange and I really don't know how to describe it but I will do my best. I can generate a tingling sensation throughout my body and can semi control where it goes, I can send it down my arm or legs or my entire body. It seems to stem from the center of my body and it feels like I am somehow raising my blood pressure. I've google searched and found some similar descriptions of it on a health forum but all of the posts said that it was not self-induced. I have never gotten the sensation without purposefully trying to induce it. There must be SOMEONE out there that knows what the hell I'm talking about and can relate! All of my friends just laugh when I explain it to them.\n\nFor science: I'm a 24yo male, 5'10\" 158lbs.", "summary": "I am a superhero/mutant with useless powers"}
{"id": "t3_3pc0yo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] Close Friend [19F] is flirting with my GF [19F]", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend (Lucy) for close to ten months now, a little while before we got together our close friend (Alice) admitted to my girlfriend that she had feelings for her. Lucy very politely shut it down because she and I were dating. \n\nAlice has been in and out of several relationships in the time that Lucy and I have been together but she still seems to be flirting with her and it's getting kind of inappropriate. She will touch Lucy's bum or breasts and frequently ask for kisses from her. Lately Alice has been asking to only spend time with my girlfriend and will arrange meeting times around when I am at work.\n \n\nI don't know if I'm being paranoid or if I should approach her. She is a good friend and I enjoy her company, I just don't enjoy watching her come onto my girlfriend every time she's at our house.", "summary": "Close friend has been flirting inappropriately with my girlfriend. I'm not sure how, or if I should approach the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1ueh3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] want to ask out a friend [29 F] even though I'm not sure she's into me, is this a bad idea?", "post": "Hey, so there's this girl I've known for a while now. Probably 5 years or so. She's mainly been a friend of a friend, so we never have been super close or anything like that. In the past year or so we've started hanging out occasionally without our mutual friends. The more I've gotten to know her outside of our friends the more I think we'd be a good match. I can barely get a read on her however, my one friend who is usually really perceptive with things like this also has agreed she's tough to read one way or another.\nFor example, New Years we hung out at a bar. I was next to her at midnight and she didn't even look my way to possibly do the midnight kiss. But we ended up leaving at the same time and she walked arm and arm w me to our train and let me put my arm around her and put her head on my shoulder and fell asleep (she was drunk, it was late). Basically, my question is this, with no real inclination of whether or not this girl is into me would I be making a dumb move by asking her out given our mutual friend circles, could be awkward as hell for all parties involved if I put that out there if she wasn't into it. Also while I'm at it, I've never asked out a long time friend so any stories/advice there would be appreciated as well.\nI'm aware I sound like a wuss, it's probably because I haven't like a girl this much in like 5 years. That's probably half (or more) of the problems I'm having.", "summary": "Developed crush on long time friend, not sure if mutual, fear creating a weird dynamic if it isn't. Should I go for it anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_2zs7hr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17f) can't deal with my boyfriend (18m) anymore", "post": "We have been together for almost 2 years, which is each of ours longest relationships. I'm really bad at explaining things, but I'll try. This is somewhat of a rant, and this is my first post ever. \n\nLet me start of by saying I really do love him. I have some mental illness that he knew about before we were together. He knows I cut myself and he knows I have a lot of trust problems from past relationships. When we got together he said this was fine, and that he would help me. \n\nWell that's just not the case. \n\nHe doesn't even seem to care when I cut myself, he tells me \"do whatever you want\" in a rather aggressive tone. \n\nIts hard for me to keep a job because of my issues, and that upsets him, even though he's never had a job in his life. \n\nI hear voices, even when I'm on medication, and this upsets him. I'll zone out and won't talk to anyone, sometimes it happens when his friends are there, and that makes him so mad, and he yells when we get back to his house. \n\nHe rarely wants me to go over, anytime I do it's because I basically beg him to let me. When I do go over he just sits on his computer the whole time unless we're having sex/doing something sexual. I can't sit or stand for long periods of time, because of a car accident, and he refuses to lay down and talk to me. \n\nAlong with the sex thing, he never returns the favor. I'll give him a blow job, he'll get up, clean up, and go right back on the computer to play games and talk to friends.\n\nI've tried to talk to him about this, but he always raises his voice, which is knows frightens me, yet he still does it. \n\nI've been so close to ending it. I cant deal with this. The main thing stopping me is that he's literally the only person I talk to besides my mother. I really do love him, but I don't know what to do. Reddit can you help?", "summary": "Boyfriend has been ignoring my mental issues, only talks to me to have sex."}
{"id": "t3_3kv3ip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with [19F] girl I've been dating for 3 months. Caught up in the sex? Need advice.", "post": "Hi reddit, recently I've been seeing a girl for going on 3 months now. Throughout the summer we hung out a lot... went to movies, went to the park, restaurants etc... and became quite sexually active. I've enjoyed the time we've spent together and I'm very unsure as to if I should continue this relationship further and make her my girlfriend or if I'm too caught up in the sex. \n\nBeing cheated on during my last relationship (~2.5 years ago) really impacted my ability to trust girls. I believe trust is the biggest deciding factor while considering a possible SO. We are both in college at the moment. However, she goes to a different school than I do and lives about 2 hours away. Despite this, we've seen each other every weekend since the beginning of school (~3 weeks). I know my situation is not special or uniquely interesting, I'm just looking for other peoples' opinion on what I should do and what questions I need to ask myself before pursuing something serious. I take relationships very seriously and will not tolerate being cheated on again.", "summary": "Am I caught up in the sex or should I pursue a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1h63wt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Trying to mitigate financial risk for my student loan cosigner.", "post": "I'd like my Dad to sign my student loans, but if something were to happen to me and my Dad was stuck with footing the bill, well it wouldn't be good. He has good credit etc, just not enough assets to handle a hit like that. From my perspective, this is really my only concern about the loans. My field is IT and my degree will be Computer Science, work and decent salary and are all but guaranteed in my field. I figure hypothetical worst case scenario I can work odd tech support jobs on craigslist if it really got that bad after college graduation, I already have more than enough job experience for that. This means making my minimum payments really isn't that difficult for me.\n\nMy real concern is if something serious happened to me that left him dealing with the payments. \n\nI've been struggling to find a solution to this, but recently I heard that I might be able to take out a life insurance/disability policy in the total loan amount on myself and in the event of my incapacitation, the insurance money could be used to pay off my debts. I guess I'm basically just restating the purpose of this type of insurance, but I figured if there were any problems with this plan, /r/personalfinance would find them. I'm assuming I'm very healthy too, I am very active and athletic. So does anyone see any flaws in this plan? \n\nAlso, I'm down to trade computer advice for insurance policy advice.", "summary": "Could I use a life insurance/disability policy to protect my loan co-signer?"}
{"id": "t3_254dlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [24M] just messaged me [24F] out of the blue to hang out, but he knows I'm not interested in casual sex?", "post": "- By \"out of the blue\" I mean a month.\n\n- I've been out with this guy once before. It went okay, but relative to my other experiences, it was a pretty mediocre date. We have similar personalities (confident, stubborn) I think, which explains why neither of us showed any vulnerability that day. There was no talk of meeting up again at the end of the date because we established that I'm not into casual sex, whereas he is really enjoying his bachelor lifestyle.    Now if you're asking why we bothered going on the date at all, my answer is that I didn't know he was a bachelor before I went. He must have thought I was open to the idea of going back to his house after the date. \n\nCurrent situation:\n\n- After a month of no contact, he's asked me to go see a local gig with him, and there's nothing to suggest that it's going to be a group thing. So my question is, does this look like a second attempt to get laid, or do you think he's just feeling the waters for compatibility/whatever? \n\n- I've read elsewhere that guys like to keep multiple girls on the backburner and get in touch when they're bored/horny/both, because they know that they'll likely get a positive response. But I'm clearly not someone who would respond to a booty call. This is why I'm asking for your advice reddit!", "summary": "One our first date, we established that things wouldn't work out because he is only looking for casual flings. One month later, why has he suddenly asked me out?"}
{"id": "t3_4xlh8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seems to be going almost too well with me [23m] and her [21f], should I be worried about too much of a good thing?", "post": "I [23m] met her [21f] through tinder, and we grabbed coffee about a week and a half ago.  We hit it off really, really well - the kind of immediate 'clicking' I haven't really experienced since high school - and we've hung out FOUR times since then.\n\nWe've talked a bit about where this is heading, and we're on the same page - it's kind of unspokenly exclusive already, with the definite expectation of dating for a while.  We had talked about waiting on sleeping together for a couple weeks, but I saw her today and it just sort of happened.  There's just a level of chemistry here I'm frankly not used to at all.\n\nI guess my concern is that if things are getting good so fast, will they fade away just as quickly?  Should I be pacing out seeing her so often?  We have plans on Monday again already, but after that we won't see each other for a couple weeks - I'm heading out of state, and then she is too the day I get back.  In the early stages of dating, is seeing someone this often a bad thing?", "summary": "seeing a girl for less than two weeks, things have moved very fast, should I try to slow it down so we don't 'burn out' from each other?"}
{"id": "t3_10ng0p", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I think he found the girl he always wanted.  Why am I not happy for him?", "post": "Hey,\n\nJust wanted to vent a little bit.  I [19/f] was in a first relationship with [20/m] for four months.  Not very long, I know, but we fell for each other quickly.  We've been broken up for three weeks now.\n\nHe's a sweet guy, but he wanted someone different.  I tried to be her (I tried WAY. TOO. HARD. to be her), but that just fucked things up.  So he broke up with me to spare me the effort.  \n\nNow it looks like he's found that girl that he always wanted, and I'm feeling crushed for some reason.  I feel like I failed at being a good girlfriend, and good person, and just feeling kind of worthless now.  \n\nI know that's not the case, though.  I've been taking care of myself, gaining my confidence back, meeting new people (unintentionally, I'm becoming more of the person he was looking for), but I feel like this girl beat me to it.  I'm jealous. I wanted to be the one to find someone first. \n\nThese are childish thoughts though.  I want to be happy for him.  It just makes me feel strange that he was able move on and find someone new so fast.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Ex found the girl he always wanted, and I'm just sitting here self-improving.***"}
{"id": "t3_4fercd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18M) girlfriend (17F) of one month says she'll never go down on me because it's \"too cringey\"", "post": "I've been seeing my girlfriend for a couple months, relationship for one. I'm her first boyfriend, and person she's done anything other than kissing with. We've got each other off multiple times and are basically waiting on the right moment/opportunity to have sex. Earlier today she slipped into conversation that she will never give oral because it's apparently too cringey, she explicitly said no chance. \n\nShe commented I seemed annoyed/mad, but I'm really not angry or anything like that. I'm just a little disappointed because she has no experience with oral, and while it's a big turn on for me (haven't told her this), she has closed that door (pun intended) for good.\nWhat can/should I do about this situation?", "summary": "girlfriend is against blowjobs for iffy reason"}
{"id": "t3_4ugxk0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I lost my GF [21F] trust how do I fix it [21M]", "post": "I have the most making girlfriend ever and unfortunately she wants to break up with me.  I know else loves me so much but unfortunately I lied about my past. She asked me on the third date when I lost my virginity and the true answer is 21 but I thought in the back of my mind this amazing girl will find that pathetic so I stupidly said 19. I knew this would come back to haunt me. \n\nShe has severe result issues after going through a tough time in her life and I don't know what to do. She made me promise once we became a couple to always be honest with her but I knew that I had to hide this as it meant that I only just lost my virginity and I'd recently found out she was a virgin so she would be sad that I couldn't share this experience with her. \n\nSo I held onto this lie but it was eating me up inside until today when she asked about it I is it blurted it out. I've been an absolute idiot and now she thinks she can never trust me again. What can I do to get her back? She's absolutely perfect in my eyes and and couldn't bare to lose her?", "summary": "lied to my girlfriend about a stupid thing because I thought she would think I was pathetic, dug myself in a whole now I'm falling though it"}
{"id": "t3_z47p7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] just want him to open up more and a little more affection. He says that he's [27M] a bad boyfriend.", "post": "I don't know what to do. We've been together for a year and a half but we've had the same problems over and over. Whenever I try to talk about our issues, calmly or not so much, he always closes up and says he's a bad boyfriend and that he's sorry for ruining my life and just other stuff like that, that makes me feel depressed. He's been married and obviously divorced, and cheated on his wife (which I found out feom a friend) with one other girl who eventually cheated on him, and he has trust issues. Which I understand but day after day while I'm away at college, he always says that he's sure I'll replace him soon and that I'm probably thinking about it. I've been nothing but faithful and I've tried to be understanding when he says that stuff but it hurts that he even thinks that, even after everything we've been through. I feel like he is still so emotionally scarred and just so withdrawn within his pain that I won't be able to get him to open up. I just want to be with him, that's all. But it's hard when he says these things and makes me feel terrible about myself and our relationship.", "summary": "I want him to stop accusing me of replacing him and start realizing I'm staying and not going anywhere. And a little more affection would be nice too."}
{"id": "t3_1qunf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] ex boyfriend [21M] won't stop contacting me", "post": "6 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. I reluctantly agreed to try and stay friends. \n\nThe problem was that the only thing he wanted to talk about was our relationship, and all he did was blame me and guilt trip me. I told him I couldn't handle that and that I didn't think we should be friends. He got really angry, told me that \"I guess we just shouldn't talk anymore.\" He blocked me on social media and stopped contacting me. I thought that was the end. \n\nA week later, he texted and asked me why I was giving him the cold shoulder. I was confused. I told him we agreed to stop talking and I was sticking with it. For the next 3 months, he continued to send me texts and leave me voicemails. I made the mistake of responding to one of them, which only led to more and more texts full of things like \"I miss my best friend,\" \"How could you do this to me?\", and even \"Just tell me you want me to die and I'll stop bothering you.\"\n\nI learned to ignore everything he sent. Then he started texting some of my close friends, trying to ask them what they knew about me. My friends are smart and they told him they didn't know anything and that it was really none of their business anyway.\n\nWhen I came back to campus in September (we go to the same college), he continued texting and calling, and approached me one time. Then he finally stopped. I thought it was over. Today he sent me a message through FB (I had unblocked him because I thought it was over).\n\nHe wants to \"have a chat\" with me, which I assume means that he wants to continue this harassment in person. It's been 6 months. How do I get this guy to leave me alone? Why doesn't he get it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My ex won't stop trying to get me to talk to him even though we broke up 6 months ago; any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3ep29g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20m] with my GF[19f] 6 months, I said something I shouldn't have and don't know how to fix things", "post": "I'll try to make this short, I've been dating this amazing girl for 6 months now. She is gorgeous, hilarious, smart, and things have been great until this weekend. We went on a 4 day camping trip, yesterday I noticed she had some black stubble on her chin/neck area, I was really surprised because I've never noticed anything before when we've been up close and personal, it's not like she looks like a dude or bearded lady or anything but it's definitely noticeable up close. We got home this morning and I was dropping her off at her house and she was saying she can't wait to shower and shave her legs. I touched her chin and said \"just your legs?\" She was quiet and I tried to make a joke, I said \" between the plaid and the beard I felt like I was making out with Paul Bunyan\" just trying to be funny, but yeah I know I should have kept my mouth shut...anyway she looked so embarrassed and hurt, she started to cry and I tried to apologize but she didn't want to talk about it and just went inside. I tried to call her but she didn't answer, so I'm just leaving her alone till she feels like talking. She is seriously drop dead gorgeous, I mean yeah it's kinda weird for a chick to have hair there....I don't know how to make her feel better. I told my roommate and he said I'm an idiot because she is awesome. How do I fix this?", "summary": "made a comment about my girlfriend's facial hair and now she's not talking to me"}
{"id": "t3_116f3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, is it ok for your SO hang to out with there ex?", "post": "Hey hey,  I am  25f and he is 21 m. We have been dating 5 months, and we were friends for over a year before. I need some calrification, I need to know whether or not i am over resacting. My bf tonight hung out at his ex's and another friend was there awell. He said whe would never hang there aloene with her. I know her a fair bit, I am getting much less stressed with them hanging out than i was initially. I am working on getting rid of all jealousy but there is sytill some there I guess. I do not honestly ever beleve that he would cheat on me, especially since he was the one to leave her, but it more that I feel that it is wrong fror him to go to his ex's house. I did not freak out on him, I told him it  made me feel uncomfortable, even though there was someone else there.  Is it normal to feel protective over my man? I don't want to  give hime shit over something ridicoulous. I don't want him to feel controlled either.\n  I tried to keep this as short as possible. If any more details are needed  I will provide them.", "summary": "bf hung out at exs house with another person there, but I still uncomfortable with it."}
{"id": "t3_1wx2u5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "When to stop adding to Emergency Fund?", "post": "First off I apologize if this is a re-post, but I did a search and didn't find anything. \n\nI seem to be having trouble with knowing when enough is enough with saving. I have built up a decent emergency fund (~$15k) which is more then enough to cover 6 months and then some. We also have some other savings for other minor things.  I was looking to see if there should be a point where I say \"that's good enough!\" and put money towards other things, like starting a Roth IRA for my husband. I already fund my 401k and a Roth and he funds a 401k and a Roth 401k at work. After savings for so many years it's just hard to know when to stop.", "summary": "Don't know when to stop saving!!"}
{"id": "t3_2iuroy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) girlfriend (25F) of 3 months thinks I don't care about her", "post": "Things were great until she got her overnight job. She used to be smiling and happy all the time and now she's...not. She's stressed, doesn't get much sleep, and the only day I'm able to come up is Sunday and she sleeps most of the day. So we cuddle for awhile until she has to get ready for work again.\n\nNow, I would do absolutely anything for this woman. Even though I don't particularly like her job, I support her decision to work there and I encourage her. I let her know everyday I love her and find her beautiful and perfect in every way, yet now she says she thinks I don't care.\n\nI have no idea what to tell her, and I can't go over unil Sunday to talk about it because of both our work schedules. I can't prove I love her....but I need to. I can't lose her, and I think it's just the stress of this job that's making her like this. No idea what to do.", "summary": "my gf thinks I don't care even though I would do anything for her. Not sure how to show her I do"}
{"id": "t3_25o129", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] had a breakup with my gf[31F] over a dumb lie.", "post": "So I'm positive that my ex doesn't trust me as far as she could throw me. I lied about how much I was using my credit card on iTunes and she decided to go through my statements and saw what I spent. Now she was a pretty insecure person to begin with and I know hiding the truth from her was the worse thing I could do, but I'm desperate to get her back. I wanted to put a ring on her finger by years end and I doubt this will happen. The breakup was just before Easter, we've been together for a 1 1/2 years, and I feel like I've lost her forever.\n\nMy question to anyone reading this is if there is anything(cliche I know) in this entire world I can do to get her back? I really would do anything to have what we once had. I will be seeing her in about a week, she wants to meet to see if we could be \"civil\" amongst our mutual friends. Other than that there's been little to no contact and she's stated that she doesn't want to give the impression that this is to rekindle. Am I fighting a losing battle or is there someway to gain her trust once again?", "summary": "I need advice on how I can get my ex to choose to be with me again"}
{"id": "t3_2zfy36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you fight more when you don't have sex? 21 m&f (together 4 years) having this issue.", "post": "This may be TMI, but I have a vaginal tear from *ahem* rough sex. In order to let it heal, I was told by my gyno to not have sex for a month and come back for a check up.\n\nAnyway, its now been almost a month, hopefully we can have sex again soon, but that's not the issue.\n\nWhile we weren't having sex, I noticed we were a lot more quick tempered and sensitive and bickering. Our relationship seemed to deteriorate.\n\nI know correlation does not equal causation, but it seems logical enough to me.\n\nDo any of you notice your relationship suffer when you go without sex?\n\nI know there are other things we can do, but we've both been busy, on top of not being allowed to have sex.\n\nAnyway.\n\nDoes this mean something bad for us? Is it wrong to suffer each other so much without sex? Does this mean we're not right for each other?", "summary": "Does your relationship go bad without sex? Why? Does it mean bad things for the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_v3qw2", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hey Reddit, I think the dumbest crook ever broke into my car last night", "post": "About 9:00 last night, sitting in my usual spot watching some TV with the wife and about to fire up a game. All of a sudden we hear a short horn honk, sounds really close, as in it came from one of our cars parked in the driveway. I throw everything on the floor and run to the window and see someone running across my yard away from our cars. I grab my keys and run outside and this guy is next door and looks back over his shoulder at me and hauls ass. I go check out my car and sure enough, every compartment is open and shit is everywhere. \n\nI get in and take out after him. Knowing the shitty apartments nearby, I figure that's the best direction to head. Turn a couple of corners and I see him hop a fence into a gated apartment complex. This whole time I'm on the phone with a 911 dispatcher giving them information. I pull up to the fence where he jumped it and hit my bright lights, he's gone and there's no way for me to continue the chase. \n\nTwo hours later the cops show up and take all my information and file a report. Fast forward to this morning as I'm driving to work. I look into my neighbors yard where the guy was. There's a huge culvert that runs through their front yard, kind of a dry creek. On the bank of that is a white shirt. I call my wife and she goes out to check it out and also sees an ID card laying there for some trade school. \n\nSo I call the cops to let them know about these items. They sent a unit by. Cop starts looking around and comes across the guys social security card, a few seconds later he finds his drivers license. At this point, I'm fairly certain the crook didn't know the culvert was there and he took a header, went flying and dropped his shit. Cop runs a background check on the guy and he has a record a mile long, mainly for burglary. Picture on the ID match my description perfectly.", "summary": "Thief goes into my car, honks horn, drops clothing and all his ID running away. I'm out a pair of sunglasses."}
{"id": "t3_1hofu2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do I let my girlfriend become a lingerie model?", "post": "So my girlfriend is already a semi-successful fashion model, and has recently been approached by an extremely important photographer who wants to do a shoot with her that could sky rocket my girlfriends dreams of being a model, into a reality. The only problem, is that it's lingerie. This is a really big deal for her, and my opinion means a lot to her. I personally don't see a difference between lingerie modelling and potential porn pictures, as they could be used as either depending on their context. She tells me that no model has ever become successful without doing a lingerie shoot, and I know I'd be holding her back massively by standing in the way of this, but I just can't help but feel a little betrayed and cheated on by the idea of her getting semi naked, taken photos off, and then having those photos distributed to magazines or all over the internet. What should I do reddit?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to do lingerie modelling, should I let my opinion get in the way of her following her dream"}
{"id": "t3_nosou", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ever started to have feelings for someone you know you shouldn't have feelings for?", "post": "Recently I've been talking a lot to this girl who hasn't had the best of lives. She turned to drugs and alcohol, slept with a number of guys and has some mental issues. She seems nice enough, and she's not a total fuck up. She cares about her future and does well in school. Personally, I drink probably a touch more than I should but that's it. I do well in school, am still a virgin and have never done drugs (even weed, nothing against it, just haven't really had the opportunity). I'm trying to get a job that requires me being clean and have a pretty non-fucked up life. Yet this girl is always on the back of my mind. I really do care about her and want to get to know her better but I feel she could interrupt my future if I pursue her. What do I do?", "summary": "Girl I'm starting to like is a bit of a fuck up and might interrupt my future. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1wlida", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord potentially acting in bad faith. Clarification needed", "post": "Texas.\n\nSo in my drawn out saga with my former landlord:\n\nI received an itemized statement today (1 day past the 30 day mark required in Texas) and there are some charges that I do not think should be there.\n\nI have listed out what the statement says:\n\nStatement date: 1/13/2014\n\nDeposit...................................................$1000\n\nCleaning interior of house, wall restoration\n\nand painting to bedroom 2........................-250\n\nCarpet Solutions- Cleaned Carpets, Pet\n\nTreatment/deodorize..............................-127.74\n\nAtmos Energy 8 Days.............................-30.48\n\nLP&L 12 Days @ 2.68/day.......................-32.11\n\n**Light Bulbs, Batteries, Swiffer Sweeper....-46.94**\n\n**Lubbock County Court Cost....................-289.00**\n\n**Yard Cleanup and Maintenance...............-65.00**\n\nThe ones in bold are the ones I disagree with. My question is about the court cost though. If this is improperly done does he forfeit the right to deduct anything. The court case was dropped. We (LL and I) agreed that we would leave.\n\nAlso the Light Bulbs and batteries are standard wear and tear. The swiffer was a gift. I even posted in here about how I thought it was sexist.\n\nI understand the Atmos and LP&L charges. We scheduled the shutoff for the 20th thinking we would be out by then but we were not out until the 29th. \n\nAlso the \"wall restoration\" is from where we had mounted a LCD monitor. There were a total of 4 screw holes less than 1/4th inch in diameter.\n\nAlso, we returned the keys on the 30th of December and received our \"deposit\" back on the 30th of January. It was mailed on the 29th of January. The day it was due back. \n\nWe have pictures of the condition that we left the house in. It was in great condition. \n\nSo my question is:", "summary": "If any charge on a security deposit is inaccurate does that void the entire return of the security deposit entitling me to the full deposit? If the deposit was received back 1 day late does that entitle me to the full deposit?"}
{"id": "t3_sdvoc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can I go about finding my brother?", "post": "My older brother is 7 years older than me, and stayed in our hometown when our family moved as he finished high school. He never went into college, instead he decided to go with a buddy to Alaska and work on fishing vessels for months at a time. We kept in touch every 6 months or so, and he even made the trip cross country to see us for a Thanksgiving in 2005 or so, but he had plans to go back fishing for a season or two and then move to California. \n\nWe haven't heard from him since. We've moved again since then (although a google search for my dad is the first hit) so it could be possible that he couldn't find us, but I don't know. He was never contractually obliged to any fishing company and he sailed out in a few different ports, so inquiring there has been less than helpful. He's originally from My. Vernon, Washington and sailed on fishing vessels specializing in tuna and salmon. He was a cook on the ship. That's all I know for sure.\n\nAre there any resources that are out there for this sort of thing? I don't want to call the police because I don't know if he's missing or what, and there's nothing illegal going on and I don't want to waste anyone's time. I've just realized that I never really knew the guy because of our age difference and I would really, really like to talk to him.", "summary": "Haven't heard from my brother in 7ish years, don't know where to start looking. Are there any good resources that are dependable?"}
{"id": "t3_3yt7ph", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU because of Kobe Bryant", "post": "This happened last night, didn't realize it was a FU until a few mins ago:\n\nI was playing 2K15 on my gaming desktop PC. I am the home team (Lakers, of course), and am down by 2 with 2.5 seconds left and have the ball. I take the ball out of bounds and pass it to Kobe who was wide open standing at the 3point line. I shoot, the shot meter was almost perfect, just not quite, and the ball hits the front of the rim and I lose the game... Without thinking about it I kick my desk hard as hell, and everything just shakes, my speakers fell down, and the game freezes. Im too pissed so I just force shutdown and go to bed.\n\nNow I have to do some very important, design-intensive work and come to realize that my GPU is dead and my pc will only boot with the integrated one, which is not powerful enough to work with.", "summary": "Kobe missed a game-winning shot and made me mad enough to kick the life out of my PC. Thanks a lot, Kobe Bryant."}
{"id": "t3_3703ln", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "NSFW : TIFU by beating my girlfriend", "post": "Unlike most stories on this sub, this actually happened today. \n\nGiven that me and my girlfriend had an empty house, we decided to engage in some rougher-and-louder than usual sex. By rougher, I mean we had discussed face slapping and choking and the like. So during, I started going to town - basically slapping the shit out of my girlfriends face. \n\nThe more I did it, the more into it she seemed to be and as a result the more I did it. It was a vicious cycle. \n\nAnyway, after finishing up and engaging in some post-coitus snuggling I noticed that the area had bruised slightly. Slightly became more noticeably, which became a large bruised area and a blackened eye. This is obviously a pretty big problem, however the real piss-icing on this shit-cake is that tomorrow evening we have a barbecue with her family. \n\nOh I forgot to mention, afterwards both of us revealed that neither of us are actually into the face slapping. She was into how into it I was, and I was into how into it she was. So this entire experience has been for naught.", "summary": "Slapped gf during sex. Big-ass bruise. Family Barbecue tomorrow. Probably going to look like a gf-beater."}
{"id": "t3_4nuwjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my girlfriend [33 F] together for 6 years, needs advice on how to initiate sex", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nI'm a 33y/o male recovering from a deadbedroom situation. I'm on therapy with a sexology psychiatrist. To summarize, I do have desire and drive, but I'm frozen when I have to ask for sex. And I'm inexperienced to death on sexual things.\n\nWe have sex more or less once every 2 months, mainly because I'm inexperienced (and besides the fact my SO has experience, initiating isn't her thing).\n\nSo I was asking myself a few questions:\n\n-How do you ask for sex? (which word to use, and how not to feel needy)\n\n-Is there a book explaining how to know what a SO likes? \n\n-Is there a way to make it less serious?\n\n-Is it ok to talk during sex? (Would help me a lot)\n\n(I tried to ask theses questions on r/sex, got no answers.)", "summary": "How to initiate sex in a playful way, and not be stressed on the thought of having sex with my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_1k468c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (26m) tell my ex (27f) how I truly feel about her before I leave the country?", "post": "In short, we broke up in April and not without good cause; I essentially had a month long mental breakdown (PTSD is not fun kids). Life's been kind of on the downhill slide since then (lost my job, apartment, etc.). I'll be leaving the country for an undetermined period of time (possibly for good, hopefully not) to visit my family; my grandma had a massive heart attack a few days ago and, from what I'm being told, this might be it.\n\nShould I tell my ex how I feel about her before I go? Or should I just keep my mouth shut?", "summary": "life's been a bit of a bitch for the past few months, I'm leaving Canada so I can see my dying grandma, and I might not be able to make it back. Wanted to let someone I still truly love how I feel about her, even if she doesn't feel that way about me, because I'll likely never see her again. Debating if I should or shouldn't."}
{"id": "t3_2yzj7t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to flush", "post": "So today, about noon, I'm at my girlfriend's house (we're seniors in high school by the way). About this time my bowels start to rumble, as is daily ritual. I'm pretty comfortable at her house so I have no issue shitting there. Usually I use a bathroom connected to the guestroom, which is rather secluded from the rest of the house so as to not hot box the whole family. Today, however, her sister was home from college and napping in the guestroom, so I was forced into \"the outhouse\", a little used, lock-less bathroom barely big enough to fit a toilet in, which just so happens to be next to the main communal area of the house. \n\nNow I'm in the bathroom, and in the process of unleashing a hellacious megladon of a shit into the basin below. Full disclosure, this thing probably had the girth of a large ferret. Anyways, afterwords I'm sitting on the toilet surfing Reddit for much longer than is socially acceptable. Enough time goes by that my girlfriend is annoyed and hungry enough to fling open the door to find me surfing the interwebs. In a hurried panic I wash my hands and swiftly exit The Outhouse, sans flushing.\n\nFast forward a half hour and we're eating lunch at Costco because $1.50 for a hot dog and soda is an unbeatable deal. All of a sudden she gets a text from her mom, \"Did someone use The Outhouse?\". As she reads me the text, it hits me that I have just left a massive turd burger marinating in piss for a half hour in the middle of their home. My girlfriend sees the look of horror on my face and immediately starts to figuratively lose her shit in the middle of Costco. She quickly relays to her mom who the culprit was and just how embarrassed I am. A couple minutes pass and this text comes back: \"No.. it's fine, it's just that he should really get checked out. That couldn't have been healthy\".\n\nI have now resolved to never set foot in their household again.", "summary": "Took massive shit in gf's house, forgot to flush. Her mom found it, thinks I have gastrointestional problems."}
{"id": "t3_3vswiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] ex left me [21 F] after 11 months, said he was too young, got with his ex who has a baby", "post": "So basically after 11 months of an amazing relationship, my now ex boyfriend, has decided he isn't old enough for anything serious, and I was fine with that. We agreed to be friends and we would see if we could pick it up again in a few months, kind of like a break. \n\nWe've both been having stressful times at work so I thought he may just need to clear his head a bit. We'd been talking like we normally would, not much had changed besides the romance and we were both missing each other. But last Monday he was out with his friends and I got a text message that said \"I'm sorry I have to be honest, there's someone else.\" Obviously I was pretty distraught that he'd get over it all so quickly, I wondered why I wasn't good enough and I've thought about it all so much. \n\nAfter completely breaking up with me I've found out he is now with his ex girlfriend who has recently had a baby, I'm struggling to add it all up really. I'm hurt that he couldn't be with me but he feels he can handle the responsibility of a new born child. What makes it even stranger is the fact he told me numerous times that he dislikes this girl a fair bit. \n\nI'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing if I'm honest. I still have extremely strong feelings for him and I don't know if this is all a mistake on his part. I've been on a date to try forget about it but it didn't feel right, I don't know if I should wait for him to explain it all properly before I move on. \n\n*side note: I'm not sure if it's worth mentioning but he saved me from an abusive relationship and I feel like I owe him a lot for that, he made me trust someone again and I'm worried it'll damage me letting go of him.*\n\nI'm sorry if this seem all over the place, I'm just not with it at all, I just need someone to hear me out right now", "summary": "boyfriend wasn't ready for anything serious, has now taken on a new born child, I don't know how to react"}
{"id": "t3_2pcadc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [m/16] looked into my best friend's [f/16] eyes at a party and my heart dropped because I never fully expressed all my feelings for her", "post": "I know I'm young and I have a lot to learn about relationships and love entirely, but I know her for about 12 years. I really do have feelings for her. \n\nGot really close to and at a party we were just chilling so now one or two friends are asking me what are we...and honestly I can't say myself\n\nIt feels like I'm in the friend-zone, but I don't want to classify what we have between us as something so shallow..,because at times it feels like we're a couple(to me, but I tend to over analyze things a lot) . \n\nThis post is mainly because recently she talks to me a little....different than she usually does (playful ily's, kiss emojis) \n\nWhat should I do? And what you think I should do, should it be in person or text?", "summary": "Girl, like here, 'friendzone phase', the point where it feels like more than that, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sz27u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] hooked up with a girl [19 F] at a party and want to ask her out. Any advice is greatly appreciated!", "post": "So this past Friday I was at a college party and met a beautiful girl and started chatting her up. We talked for a little while then we started dancing and eventually the dancing led to making out on the dancefloor. This went on for over an hour and it was the most fun I've had a party in a long time. When the party started to wind down, I walked her back to her room, got her number, and kissed her goodbye. \n\nIt's been three days since then and I haven't had any contact with her. I would love to up and ask her out on a date but I'm not exactly sure what medium to use or how exactly to phrase it. I think texting her \"Hey I had a lot of fun on Friday. Would you like to get dinner some time?\" could come off as standoffish.\n\nI go to a big school and don't see this girl at all throughout the course of my usual day. Any advice on where I should go from here would be fantastic. Thanks y'all!", "summary": "Hooked up with a girl at a party a few days ago and haven't talked to her since. I want to initiate a sober rendez-vous for the first time but I'm not exactly sure how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_2jv3xr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16f] parent's fighting has gotten pretty violent, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "My mom is 45 and my dad is 51. The violence started when I was eleven. My mom thought my dad was cheating on her, and she was pretty furious. The reason she thought this, was because when he'd go grocery shopping or go out to pick up something, and he'd be out for hours at a time. Also my mom let my dad read her emails, texts etc... but my dad got defensive if my mom tried to do the same. In fact, my dad also lied about going grocery shopping once, when he in fact was with his female friends. My mom does not have exact proof that my dad cheated, but she believed he did. This lead to screaming, crying, and my dad snapped and punched my mom. This happened when I was eleven, and I was scared then, so I just hid in my room the whole time. However, since then my parents had \"made up\". My dad had apologized to my mom since then, and my mom accepted his apology. \n\nNow a couple days ago, my mom asked to view my dad's phone. My dad said no, which then started to anger my mom. After awhile, they started arguing and mom got her kitchen knife to threaten my dad that'd she'd hurt him. She didn't stab him, but she did make a minor cut on my dad's hand. I was scared to do anything, so I stayed in my room and listened to them fight. Apparently they made up again, but my mom is still angry at my dad.\n\nThe thing is, my mom gets pretty angry easily. I never seen my dad act violent at all before the incident when I was eleven. Usually it's my mom, screaming & yelling at my dad for minor things, while my dad tries to act calm and reasonable. So what my dad did then had shocked, upset and angered me. I also don't think my mom would ever stab or do any major damage to my dad, but I'm still scared.\n\nI get scared every time my parents  fight, because I'm afraid they're going to hurt each other. Should I just stay out of it? or should I do something?", "summary": "I want to stop my parents from fighting violently, but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4912f2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend [21F] broke up with me [21M] today. I need some help on how to move on.", "post": "So, after being together for a little more than 4 months my girlfriend decided to break up with me. She had said she is going through a lot right now and feels like she is failing in all aspects of her life, including our relationship. It wasn't necessarily a mutual breakup, but more of one that I understood why she was doing it. This was my first real relationship I had ever been in, so this is all new to me. When we said our goodbyes, I asked her if she still loved me, and she said yes. She mentioned that this had been a recent thing and her thinking about this had only been in the past week. I know I'm supposed to move on, but since this was out of the blue, I think there could be a chance to get back together somewhere down the line, maybe after college. If it's meant to be things will work themselves out, but if it isn't maybe this is for the best. I just really need some help getting past this, as it's the only thing on my mind.", "summary": "First girlfriend ended things, need advice on how to cope and move on."}
{"id": "t3_4cirtv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (25M) tell my dad (53M) that I don't want to join the Freemasons without making him mad?", "post": "He joined several months ago. He asked me to help him make dinner for a meeting, and since I owe him some money, I figured I would help. I get there and they keep mentioning me joining, and I laughed it off, saying I was too busy. I'm kind of angry that he didn't tell me that the reason I was going was to be recruited, or whatever they call it. So I left early, saying I wasn't feeling well, which I kind of wasn't. I know he's going to make a big deal out of it because he's going to feel embarrassed, and also because aforementioned debt. But I don't want to pay initiation fees to hang out with a bunch of old, racist guys.", "summary": "My dad wants me to be a Freemason and I don't want to piss him off."}
{"id": "t3_4jeyig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [39F] found out my daughter [16F] doesn't want to go to college. Thinking of putting her out, but I'm not sure on any of this..", "post": "Decided to seek out some second opinions before I make any big decisions. I'm not exactly in my right mind at the moment.\n\nMy daughter use to always talk to me about the colleges and the different states she wanted to move to when she graduated high school. Her job choices has changed quite a lot throughout the years, but she always has wanted to work in the medical field. Right now she is finishing up her sophomore year, and next year is when her school tries to get them to look/apply for colleges. We were having a talk earlier about her grades, she use to always do well in school, but now it seems as if her grades are slipping. She kept on trying to change the subject and shoo me off, and long story short, we got into an argument. I told her that if she didn't get her grades up no college would want her, and she replied by yelling at me that she doesn't even know if she wants to go to college anymore. I thought she was kidding but she looked as if she was pretty serious. \n\nShe told me that she's been thinking about it for awhile, and she doesn't think she wants to \"waste away\" her years studying for another 4 or more years for something that she may become bored of eventually. My reaction might not of been the best, I always imagined her going to college and becoming successful in the medical field like she always dreamed about. I took away her phone and sent her to her room, but now I feel like I made a mistake. I just don't want to see her grow up and struggle like so many people are doing now, but I also know I cant really force her to go to college either. \n\nI don't know what to do, apart of me is angry and doesn't really want anything else to do with her. I'm very disappointed and just confused on how to handle this...particularly with my own thoughts and accepting this.", "summary": "Daughter told me she doesn't want to go to college, I'm extremely upset with her and want to make her go, but know I can't. Don't know what to make of all this."}
{"id": "t3_21zlrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex boyfriend [19M] and I [19 F]. Is this a terrible idea?", "post": "So my ex bf and I dated for two years in high school and the first semester of college. I've never felt close to how strongly i feel about him. Even now. We were best friends and talked about being together forever. Our friends have even told us that we are a perfect match. Even when the relationship ended we both acknowledged that we were still very much in love..\n\nIt ended 5 months ago because we became a part of different social groups and the jealous put a big strain on our relationship. We also were each others firsts and we both knew that at some point we were going to want to experience other people and just see what else is out there. We've both been with other people in that time and i don't regret breaking up because it was good for us, but I can't help but feel like he is still the person i want to be with. He feels the exact same way.\n\nWe did the \"no contact rule\" for these 5 months until yesterday. He initiated the conversation and it was clear that all of the feelings were still there. It was so natural to talk to him again and we just spent 4 hours talking about our lives over the last 5 months. We just miss each other.\n\nThere are two problems. I'm currently casually dating somebody else who is incredibly sweet even though i know it's not going to last forever. We're too incompatible but we were going to wait til summer to end it. Also I'm not sure how my ex bf and I could get past the jealous and trust issues that we have. Any suggestions? Also, is there a chance that our relationship could work this time? After all, the novelty of college has settled down and we've learned what it's like to be with other people and without each other and we don't like it at all.", "summary": "My ex bf and I broke up 5 months ago because we're a part of different social groups and the jealous became too much. Also we wanted to see what else was out there. Is it a good idea to try again? We miss each other like crazy. If we do try again, do you guys have any advice on how to solve our jealous/trust issues?"}
{"id": "t3_1dl5u4", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Alright /r/jobs, do me a solid and prepare me for the worst.", "post": "I'll start this off with the worst part that has proved to be the most damning - I have a Misdemeanor Theft II on my record in Oregon from 2009. \n\nTo be honest, that instance completely changed my train of thought and goals. I was a pre-kinesiology major at the time and, after going through my conviction, transferred colleges and graduated with a Sociology degree focusing on Crime and Juvenile Delinquency. I graduated in 2011, and worked at a \"stepping-stone\" job until I was recently laid-off because of the lack of work. \n\nWell, TOMORROW I have a group interview with the State of Oregon's Department of Child Protective Services. I can tell you how qualified I am for this entry-level position but, to be honest, I can't stop thinking about how shitty it looks to have a Theft II Misdemeanor on my record. \n\nI've really turned my life around since 2009, have absolutely no drug history, and have chosen to go into a career field where I have the opportunity to make an impact on at-risk youth who may need to see that, even with a criminal record, you CAN be successful. \n\nI'd appreciate anyone with a related history or advice to chime in. I've never had a group interview before and have no idea what to expect.", "summary": "I have a criminal record from 4 years ago, but I'll be damned if I let that get in my way tomorrow."}
{"id": "t3_26oy01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] caught my BF [29 M] of 1,5 yrs telling a girl that we broke up (we have not)", "post": "Before I start, sorry about the language. Mobile phone user and not a native speaker.\n\nOkay, so here is what happened. My BF and I got into a fight while being drunk, about something stupid. After we got home he FB chatted this girl he used to work with (he initiated it), telling her she was beautiful etc. She answered him in a similar fashion, but told him that it she thought is was too bad that he had a girlfriend. My BF then told her that we had broken up that very night, and that he wanted to meet her.\n\nI saw the conversation the next morning, bc he left his Facebook open. I confronted it with him, and he apologised and explained himself (he ran into this girl at the bar we were that night) before accusing me of not \"trusting him enough\". I feel like he could have done some more explaining to help me understand why he did it (he said it was bc he was so angry with me) and convince me that I am the only girl for him. With permission, I read their entire facebook-chat, and they had not talked for months, and it was just work stuff. \n\nShould I forgive him?\nI keep thinking about it and I am super snappy towards him about everything. Usually I am very confident, but now I am more insecure than ever.", "summary": "Cought my BF chatting with a girl telling her how we broke up, that he thinks she is beautiful and wants to meet her. Should I forgive him?"}
{"id": "t3_1bpqux", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out my boyfriend thinks many of his female friends are hotter than me, now I'm totally not turned on by him anymore.", "post": "My boyfriend is a giant flirt.  I used to think he thought I was attractive and sexy, and was completely ok with this because as long as he is attracted to me why should I care?  I was bad, and came across a conversation he had with his brother one night online, saw my name, and read it.  \nHe basically sized up a bunch of his female friends and discussed how hot they were. No big deal until his brother told him he should \"upgrade\", \nNow it's in my head and I can't stop thinking about it.  I can't ever get turned on, knowing how mediocre I am and thinking that's what's going through his head.\n\nI'm not overweight, I guess it must be my face....commence thoughts spiraling out of control about what' wrong with it.\n\nhow do I get over this?\nI know my boyfriend must at least think I'm decent since he is dating me, I'm not blaming him or anything.  It's just not sexy to know you're ranked bottom of the barrel.", "summary": "I found out my boyfriend does not think I'm very attractive, but thinks many of his female friends are extremely hot. Trying not to be shallow but it's a huge turn off."}
{"id": "t3_1thopa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] of 4 years, I keep wondering if I'm gay and don't know what to do?", "post": "I have always been confused since I was 13. I would usually watch gay porn mostly, but also watched straight.\n\nI would have a crush on girls or guys, but girls I felt more emotional about, guys more physical. Sometimes though I feel like I forced myself to crush on girls because that's what I wanted, but I really don't know.\n\nI was almost ready to just say I'm gay and be done with the confusion, but I met this girl and fell in love with her.\n\nShes my best friend and I love her, its just physically I don't know what it is I like.\n\nWe have sex, I get hard, everything goes fine just like you would expect. I just feel sometimes like I would like a male more, but I can still do everything and like it with a female.\n\nSometimes I feel like the only reason I get aroused during the sex is because it feels good, and the fact shes female just doesn't effect me.\n\nI have arguments in my head back and forth and don't know what to think?", "summary": "I think I might be gay, I sometimes feel like I rather have a guy, but I am in love with a girl, and we have sex fine, I just don't know what I want."}
{"id": "t3_1s15yu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my ex [23 F] and how to deal with this kind of break up.", "post": "I've been with Mary, of course this isn't her real name, for almost 9 months. Near mid November, she recently went back on anti-depressants. She said that she's feeling stressed out from work, school, and \"other stuff\" (which I assumed to be me even though she said it was't. Now she hasn't felt this way, she told me, since she things went sour with her highschool sweetheart, about 6-7 years ago. That was when she first got on antidepressants. \n\nI am also depressed, but I think I've allowed myself to be depressed because I focused so much on making her happy that I forgot about me. I have made an appointment to see a psychologist this Friday because I believe I have deeper issues that I need to work on. With me being depressed, she feels as if she has a burden or feels like I'm pressuring her to fix me. That freaked her out and scared her away. I kept asking her to hold me and take me away from this place, and that's what led her to feel that way.\n\nSo she broke up with me today because she said she needed time to fix herself. She said that she doesn't want to give me any false hopes that we will get back together or not, but by saying that, I'm kinda strung on the hope that we will get back together. At least, once both of us are solid, good, happy, and \"fixed\". I know that I could use this time as a great opportunity to get better. Except the problem right now is that I keep thinking that I want to get better so that I can get back with her. I want to learn how to get better because... I simply want to get better for own well being. I know that I have to let her go to do this if I really do love her. I can't be selfish and keep her around when she needs time for herself.\n\nI guess, I don't really know what kind of advice I'm looking for. I know there's no definite answer as to if we are going to get back together or not. Maybe I'm just looking for positive feedback.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are depressed. She is on antidepressants. She broke up, wanting time to fix herself. I'm hurting because I don't want to break up and I want to get back together."}
{"id": "t3_4jgher", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 F] have scars that won't go away from a botched nose job, and I'm scared my crush [30 M] won't love me.", "post": "My crush knows of my nose job from the grapevine. I just got my nose done around 7 years ago. He has seen my nose, and even though it is aesthetically pleasing from the front, I have deep scars along one of my nostrils. I don't want to do a revision because the nose job looks good except for the scars. I have been using retin-a like crazy to try to lessen the scars which have worked, but I don't know if I will ever get rid of my scars completely and I don't know how long it will take.\n\nI never consulted my crush about my nose job and it seemed like he liked me before my nose job. I really don't know what to do. I really regret to some extent getting my nose done because I still looked OK without it. I just wanted to touch it up a bit because I didn't like how my nostrils flared when I smiled. After using the retin-a the scars are only visible under certain lighting and at certain angles.\n\nI can't stand the scars and they have been taking over my life ever since I got my nose done. I'm scared that I look vain and superficial and that my crush won't love me because of this. I rarely make the time to be near my crush because I'm embarrassed of even getting a nose job in the first place because it was poorly executed. \n\nIf my crush ever gets fat I know I'd still love him. I feel like he knows about the scars and still cares for me anyway but it's my insecurity that's eating me up and telling me that he shouldn't love me because these scars have made me have to constantly be around a mirror 24/7. It's vain. It's a bad personality trait on top of the scars. I don't know what to do. I feel like I easily get self conscious and angry about the scars. I'm just hoping that the retin-a will fill up my scars.", "summary": "I'm scared that my crush will get tired of my new self conscious personality because of the scars from my nose job 7 years ago. I'm in the middle of trying to fix my scars."}
{"id": "t3_2g73u4", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "[Update] My daughter (5) has a problem with a boy and it keeps escalating. What to do/say now?", "post": "Hi all, I just thought I'd post an update about this post [here] I wasn't expecting nearly as many replies as I got and there was a lot of helpful advice.\n\nBasically, the school was amazing with their response. The morning after I posted, I let her teachers know what was going on. I received a call from them later in the day apologising for not being as vigilant as they had been and also letting me know what they were doing to keep them apart in the playground. I also received a call from the principal apologising, letting me know that she'd just gotten off the phone with the little boy's mother and she was going to make an emergency appointment with his psychologist, so in that regard, I was completely wrong about what I thought was apathy. They didn't muck around and worked to get things sorted out as quickly as they could.\n\nOne of her teachers recommended seeking a referral for a psychologist for my daughter instead of just speaking to the school guidance counsellor and I'm really glad she did. We had our first session on Wednesday and she was absolutely lovely. She picked up on all the things I've been worried about and I didn't have to say anything. Our next session is in two weeks and my daughter is really looking forward to talking to her again.", "summary": "Everything ended up working out, thanks everyone!"}
{"id": "t3_3mzp71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] I went bald at a very young age and now resent everyone, especially women", "post": "original: \n\nAfter battling something (I don't know if it's depression or not)for the past 10+ years, I've finally decided to cave and see a therapist.  My mental health is very obviously getting worse and it's getting harder and harder to fool myself.  Going bald and being lonely is a large part of it but I can't continue like this.  With my mental health deteriorating, it has started to affect me physically.  I have small injuries that are not healing, I have chronic pain, and I'm sure a lot of it is mental\n\nI was always under the impression that finding a nice job would help at least a little bit. Well I went from being unemployed at 26 to making $80k now at 29 and things are worse than ever.  I feel like finding a girlfriend and getting regular intimacy will help me a lot but who knows, it's impossible to find someone at my current state.\n\nSo my question is, how do I go about finding someone?  Therapy is seen as faux pas in my culture so I have to do this on the downlow (especially since I've fooled everyone into thinking I'm this confident guy who has his shit together)\n\nSorry if this is all over the place", "summary": "caved after 10 years of misery and looking for therapist in LA area, no idea how to go about it and am pretty scared about it"}
{"id": "t3_429xkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can i convince my friend (M23) to text a girl (22) he likes?", "post": "Hey guys my friend and I are in a debate about this girl and we thought we'd ask Reddit for your opinion. Basically my friend met this girl over summer in community college and he's liked her ever since. Since they go to different universities they have had close to no communication for four months. \n\nFast forward to now my friend has since graduated and has been texting her to try to hang out and she has agreed, but haven't been able to settle on a day and time that works for both of them. My friend said that she is probably not interested and is only trying to be nice while I told him she is just busy. They live about 30 mins from each other now compared to 4 hours from before so meeting up now would not be that difficult. \n\nI told him to message her again anyways as a last glimmer of hope. What say you, Reddit? Should he bother continuing to try to hang out with her or give up now?", "summary": "my friend likes a girl that lived far from him so they couldn't hang out before. Now he's closer and wants to get to know her but she may or may not still be interested."}
{"id": "t3_32gh6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] and my best friend [19 F] that I've known since August, really like each other but...", "post": "... she's afraid that something will go wrong in the future and make things awkward between us.\n\n**The Story**:\nSo we have been best friends for some time now, as we live in the same building and practically spend all of our time in the other person's apartment. Before this we had never even had a romantic conversation. Well, Friday night we got drunk and started making out, a lot. We slowed down for a bit to talk about it, and found out that we both really like each other, and have for at least a few weeks. We went back to making out and between everything she pulled away, made eye contact with me, and said, \"I *really* like you.\"\n\nShe then said that she didn't want to take it any farther because she's worried that it would make things awkward between us. She has lost some friends in the past due to a similar situation (but the guy was an asshole; when they broke up he said a ton of shit to try and make her insecure). So we decided to just continue making out for a while, until we got tired and wanted to go to bed.\n\nSo the next morning she came right back up to my room, and we smoked and talked about it. When I asked her if she still liked me when she was sober, she said, \"I don't know. I mean, yes, but what if something happens and it get's awkward? We have such a great friendship and I wouldn't us to stop talking because something goes wrong.\" \n\nI completely agree, we have been great friends for longer than we have liked each other, and all of our friends are mutual. The only place where I disagree is that I don't think that we'll stop talking if something goes wrong. I mean, sure, there's a chance, but I have good relationships with all three of my exes.\n\nAnyway, this conversation went on for just a little bit, but we never really landed on a decision, we just haven't brought it back up since then. What do I do? I can't stop thinking about this.", "summary": "My best friend and I really like each other, but she is afraid that if we break up we won't have a friendship afterwards. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_bheee", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I Need a Handbook for Life", "post": "Reddit, I was brought up extremely sheltered by my parents. Basically, all household responsibilities/duties were handled by them, and the only thing I was expected to do was study. Now that I'm moving out, I have no clue how to function on my own. So basically, I'm looking for a handbook for life, all the way from applying for auto insurance to managing bank accounts, paying bills and filing taxes. I have learned some of these things, but what would be great is a consolidated list of what I need to know/be able to do to function on my own. Any and all advice would be appreciated!", "summary": "I need a list of things I should be able to do to live completely on my own. Directions to complete tasks would be an added bonus. All advice/stories are more than welcome!"}
{"id": "t3_1qofcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/m] asked to coffee girl [f/19] said yes but now i feel i screwed up before it happenedd", "post": "Okay so I asked a Russian girl out to coffee over facebook (weve chatted a few times and it went well) she agreed so i said how is sunday she said great I told her I didnt know any places around her area her response was; \"hmmm ill think and get back to you\"\n\n now that was yesterday and im worried because I kind of want to see how it goes shes very nice and attractive but my experience is they never get back to you. should I wait till Saturday and be like hey how about this or just not say anything??? I feel like tommorow would be too soon \n\nBTW I have been introduced to her in person before through a friend, she doesnt remember me (it was very brief) and ive yet told her since I JUST found out i havnt been messaging her trying to keep the conversation secured for when we meet up sunday, but i fear that maybe i should keep the convo alive through chat.", "summary": "Asked her out after chatting to coffee made date but left place and time in her hands"}
{"id": "t3_3hgjkf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my Friend [23M], His Girlfriend [22F] And A Bunch Of Our Friends Revealing A Secret.", "post": "So I've got a friend, we'll call him Jim. Jim has been dating his Girlfriend, we'll call her Sam, for about 2 years now or so. But before this, Sam and I used to fool around. Sam has also fooled around with 4 of our other friends, so including me that makes 5. \n\nHere's where it gets complicated; Jim doesn't know. A good question would be why we didn't tell him. Well I did. Or least I tried to.  The reason I didn't just blurt it out was because when he told me he was interested in Sam, he seemed like he genuinely really liked her so I wanted to tell him as gently as possible but he shut me down and gave a really cocky and arrogant response so I dropped it. We wrestled with whether or not to tell him because we didn't want it to seem like we were jealous or being petty. And I've asked Jim and he said he thinks she's the one and he'll pop the question one day.\n\nNow Sam has been known to tell lies to try and come between our circle of friends. She told a lie about two of our friends, Michael and Ryan. She also lied that Michael and I were fighting over her. Now she's told another lie. She told Jim that our friend, Paul, slept with Ryan's ex girlfriend which is hilariously untrue.\n\nNow Paul is absolutely fuming and says he's going to confront Jim with this and he's going to tell Jim about Sam's history with the 5 of us.\n\nMy question is, what should I do? What's the best course of action here?", "summary": "Jim's girlfriend Sam has a history with 5 of us. Jim doesn't know but now he might find out. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lh2dy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "It's been a long day", "post": "**^NB:** I live in time zone GMT +3 so it's night here already.\n\nI normally have bad days and think nothing off it but today just pissed me off and I just want to rant a bit.\n\nIt technically started of just past midnight when my favourite soccer team Chelsea conceded a goal in the last minute of extra time and then subsequently lost in the penalty shoot out.\n\nSince I was still fuming I only fell asleep at around 2 a.m which is bad as I had an early morning as I have a classes from 8 a.m. Predictably I woke up late and only made it just in time. \n\nThings got bad to worse as I dropped my new Samsung S3 (by new I mean it was 20 hours old) screen first and the internal LED is ruined and am too broke to fix it.\n\nNot only that but I also discovered, just befor lunch, I might need surgery in a month as my gums started bleeding as my dentist predicted due to an ingrown molar.\n\nThe rest of the classes were okay except for me being in Zombie mode due to inadequate sleep but then it started raining at 5.30, half an hour before class was over. The problem is as I live in a 3^rd world country, rain means bus fare triples, traffic jams and flooding of my neighbourhood. \n\nLuckily (finally something good) one of my classmates had a car and agreed to drop me off halfway home and I called my mum to take me the rest of the way. Cue getting drenched for an hour as the store front I was using for shelter decided to close early.\n\nSo as I write this am in bed wheezing, yes I have mild asthma that only rears its head once a year when I fuck up and get exposed, and might need to go to hospital if my reliever inhaler doesn't clear it up.\n\nThank you for reading, I just needed to vent.", "summary": "TODAY WAS NOT A GOOD DAY FOR SCIENCE"}
{"id": "t3_1ewxz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He[22] doesn't seem interested at all in having sex, whereas I[20] am, but sometimes I find...", "post": "About five months ago this really wonderful boy asked me to be his girlfriend. I absolutely adore him, and he's the best possible match I could ask for as far as who I am at the moment. It's especially really convenient that we're in the same profession, because we're both ferociously busy and don't have a lot of free time. This means we're both really understanding when we can't devote as much time as we would like to each other.\n\nThe thing is, I'm extremely attracted to him because I like him so much. (That's how my libido works. Otherwise, it's virtually zero.) He tells me I'm beautiful occasionally, and when we were first starting to fool around he used to instigate naughty activities, but now he doesn't seem interested at all.\n\nI'm always the one who initiates any kind of sex related activity, and really I'm lucky if I can get anything to happen. Most of the time it's just me going down and that's the end of it. We have slept together once, but otherwise nothing really. I asked him once about his libido when he was falling asleep, because I couldn't work up the courage to do it otherwise, and he said he guessed it wasn't very strong because he was tired and stressed all the time-- which I could see.\n\nBut now it's summer, and he is getting plenty of sleep and isn't nearly as stressed as he usually is and still doesn't seem interested. The thing is, I know he does things by himself because occasionally when I use his phone to take a picture I'll see some kind of dirty picture he'd saved recently in the little gallery preview icon on the phone, only to ask to play on his phone later to find it deleted. (I don't go through his phone without permission, mind you! I also don't care that he looks at porn, haha. If you're male, I just assume you look at porn.)", "summary": "He seems interested in sex, but not sex with me? I feel like I should talk to him but I don't know what to say or even what the problem is really."}
{"id": "t3_26o42e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] can't deal with my mother's death", "post": "So three years ago I lost my aunt the day after I got engaged, then the year after that I lost my mother a month after I got married. It's been a couple of years and I'm just starting to really feel their loss, especially my mom.\n\nI didn't deal with any of this. I just bottled up my feelings and probably just refused to accept any of it happened. But it's really hitting me now and I don't feel like discussing it with anyone in my life.\n\nI'm really unsure what to do. I'm almost scared of being happy now, because I feel like it will be followed by another death or bad event. I'm constantly starting to feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.\n\nJust very unsure how to deal with this.", "summary": "Cannot deal with my mother and aunt's death"}
{"id": "t3_4lqfwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I[17/M] tell her[17/F] that I don't want to go to prom with her?", "post": "I've been having some trouble with my girlfriend, we'll call her Pam. I was talking to another female friend of mine, we'll call her Kate, about my problems. I told Kate it didn't look like Pam and I would be going to prom, because we were having a disagreement. Kate decided it would be appropriate to invite herself to be my date to prom. Now, Pam and Kate are friends and they go to the same school, but I go to another school and know them through work. Kate also has a boyfriend who I am pretty good friends with. I went to the prom at Pams school and of course, saw Kate and her boyfriend there. I don't think he knows Kate wants to go to prom with me, and I don't think he would be happy to hear that.\n\nJust a few days ago, Pam and I reconciled and it seems that all is well and we will be going together. Kate has already told her parents that she has a date to prom with me, and I believe she has bought a dress. I tried to talk to her about the situation, but she just tells me that I need to tell Pam that I'm going with Kate. I don't want to loose Kate as a friend and I don't see any way to tell her I'm going with Pam without it ending badly. I'm also sure that if I upset Pams friend, Pam won't be to happy with me either. What shall I do? Thanks", "summary": "Friend wants to go to prom with me, but I am already going with my girlfriend. She won't listen when I tell her this"}
{"id": "t3_t3zax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "IamA Calculus student and I am in dire need of help.", "post": "Hey reddit, this is my very first post and I was wondering if there was anyone that would be able to help me. As the title suggests, I'm in Calculus and I need help! I'm currently in section 5.1 and 5.2 of James Stewart's Early Transcendental/ Single Variable calculus (7th edition.)\n\nGenerally, these sections deal with integrals. I sincerely feel as though I understood the material fairly well until this point, it's just the language used to express ideas that's really confusing me. Any tips or advice on how to interpret the information? Perhaps some direct homework help? Here's a problem that was a little confusing for me.", "summary": "I struggle in calculus because I don't understand how the book explains information. Homework help or advice is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_qsb5l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your most ridiculous cooking mistakes?", "post": "I saw a few people discussing this in a post earlier today, and I wanted to hear some others. Here are a few of mine:  \n\n* I was young (8 or 9), and was told to put a pot of potatoes on to boil. Not being the brightest kid, I proceeded to fill a pot with potatoes, put it on the stove on high, and leave the room. 20 minutes and a smoke alarm later, dinner and the pot are both completely destroyed.  \n\n* A few years later, and I'm considerably better at cooking. I'm making spaghetti for dinner (one of my favorite things to make), and get to seasoning it. We had just gotten a new large container of dried oregano, and I went to sprinkle some in. Turns out, this one didn't have a shaker top. I dumped the entire thing in. I still remember sitting around that table listening to everyone try to eat that spaghetti without gagging.  \n\n* This one was just recently. I was staying at a friends house, and decided to make some pasta salad. She has an electric stove similar to ours, the only differences being that everything identifying has been scratched off, and everything (which one is front and which one is back, and which way is high and which way is low) is reversed. So when the pasta boils, I go to turn off the stove, and end up leaving it on, and turning the other burner on that side on high. Ruined the food, and set fire to the box that had been sitting on the other burner.", "summary": "I probably shouldn't be allowed in kitchens. Anyone got me beat?"}
{"id": "t3_3xdyj6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by vomiting in church.", "post": "As you all have probably guessed by now, no this did not happen today, but when I was twelve.\n\nThe day is Easter Sunday, and my sister is sick. I'm not a religious man but when I was younger my family insisted on going to church, so as usual my mother and I attended Easter mass. I felt fine for the whole hour and a half or so before communion, and then we line it up to collect our jeezit cracker. I put it in my mouth and my stomach rolls, and I tell my mom I'm gonna be sick. I remember her asking if I can wait just a little longer as we enter the pew but she couldn't even finish her sentence before my twelve year old self projectile vomited the body of Christ all over God's workshop. Everybody gasped and whispered to one another and I never realized until I was older that they all probably thought I was the antichrist or something.\n\nThey never made me go back to church after that, or Sunday school for that matter so I was chill.", "summary": "Projectile vomited the body of Christ on his rebirth day, was thought to be an antichrist and got to skip out on church for the rest of forever"}
{"id": "t3_3080i4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "SV: 15lbs in a week and a half!", "post": "Hello r/loseit! As part of my weight loss journey, I've gotta hold myself accountable for every action I take. Part of that is sharing with all of you and hopefully I can inspire someone like I've been inspired by this sub! \n\nMy first week has wrapped up and let me start off by saying it's getting easier and easier every single day. I'm keeping myself to under 1800  healthy calories (MFP says I should intake 2700-3000). Before I was eating burgers and fries large sized of course, with soda for almost every meal. If it wasn't a burger it was deep fried chicken sandwiches or breakfast food. Now I'm intaking fruits, salad, grilled chicken, brown rice, and the occasional chicken taco without sauce or cheese (I'd rather drink milk).\n\nI've also been going on bike rides as often as my body will tolerate.  Usually just a circuit through my neighborhood with multiple laps so I can track my splits and see how my conditioning is going and it's always 5 miles minimum. \n\nWell, after the first week I've lost 16 lbs. I started cutting out sodas about 2 weeks ago and I decided to stop being lazy and unmotivated and change my life. I'm doing something about being overweight and it feels amazing. I'm sleeping better and have more energy throughout the day which motivates me to push myself further and further with each day. I'm now a stones throw from being under 400lbs. It feels awesome!", "summary": "calorie counting, simple exercise daily, and a positive mindset have helped me lose 16lbs now I'm down to 409 :)"}
{"id": "t3_2ux3av", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 5 months, she's the first girl I've dated that's introverted and doesn't express emotion very much. I need insight from people like her!", "post": "Before I begin, this post is a way for me to strengthen my relationship with her! I have no desire to end the relationship, so that advice isn't needed. Thanks!\n\nWe've been dating for roughly 5 to 6 months. From the very beginning, she's never been vocal on how she feels about us. She's not very physical and she rarely compliments. I know she cares, but she's not great at showing it. Besides her parents, I'm literally the only person that she'll hug, or touch for that matter. \n\n I, on the other hand, am very vocal on how I feel about her, compliment her whenever I can, and I try to let her know how happy she makes me. I also go out of my way to surprise her whenever I can (bringing dessert for her, buying small things here and there that remind me of her, etc.). She always shows that these are appreciated, so she definitely doesn't take this for granted. \n\nMy biggest issue is that I'm so used to outgoing, passionate girls that I really am having a hard time seeing from her point of view. I really like her and want to learn how to react properly to how she deals with things. Since I'm the type of person that enjoys that physical, passionate love, I sometimes mistake her lack of passion or action with growing bored of me and our relationship. Can someone that's like her give some insight into how to make this work?", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't passionate and I want to make things work. How do I understand her?"}
{"id": "t3_khz96", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Two redditors and a blank-slate flat - how do we decorate, for maximum awesome?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nMyself and a fellow redditor have recently escaped a seemingly-terminal Scumbag Housemate situation, and have found ourselves a safehaven, ripe for personalizing.\n\nThe problem is, with all the imagination in the world, we just don't know where to *find* stuff! We'd like to hit all the basic areas of pop geek culture - gaming, films, sci-fi. We keep gravitating towards original impressionist art... stuff like the [Nouevau Nintendo posters] or [this] from Portal. Obviouly some things are simply available to buy, but these are just the ballpark we're looking at.\n\nArtwork we can probably scout around for (though would still really appreciate your suggestions) - but really it's the stuff *outside* of artwork we're struggling with. Rugs, doormats, furniture, appliances, accessories, towels, lamps - obviously not everything will be possible, but whatever we can take, we want! We're looking into getting some wall-mountable replica swords, and I already have a Force FX Lightsaber to go up somewhere...\n\nFinally, we're not rich, so we have to be choosy on price. That said, it would be worth spending the money on at least one really cool thing!\n\nSo what are your suggestions, fellow Redditors? What things have you seen and thought \"I want that in my house!\", but simply not done it?", "summary": "Moving into a new flat, want to max out the awesome, need to be directed towards awesome paraphernalia."}
{"id": "t3_k6oer", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a healthy relationship, but still scared from past.", "post": "This is my first post, so bear with me:\n\nI [F] was in a relationship for almost two years with my first real boyfriend. I started talking to him about a month after I was released from the hospital (I was there as a high-risk patient with clinical depression). He helped me get my life back in order, and gave me something to love. We were serious and very committed, or so I thought. After much talk, we did eventually become intimate. \nAfter the first year he started acting differently. He became demanding and distant, but I obeyed because he was all I knew. I was completely in love with him and was positive I would kill myself if I wasn't with him. By then, he had become abusive. I never told anyone. Near the end, I found evidence that he had cheated numerous times. Even then, I wouldn't break it off. It took my two closest friends to convince me to break up with him. After I broke up with him (which I had to do on his voicemail because he was at his other girlfriend's house), I still had a hard time getting over my addiction to him.\n\nOne of my best friends, coincidentally a co-worker of ^his, started becoming more than just a friend. Nowadays, this friend is my boyfriend. He treats me better than anyone I've ever known, I love him and I know the feeling is reciprocated. Recently, I started having nightmares and fears about getting in too deep again, about feeling addicted again, and being abused again. I KNOW this guy would never hurt me on purpose, and I have talked to him about it. But how do I get over this irrational fear?", "summary": "I was in an abusive relationship, currently in a much better, safer one, yet I'm still scared. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_524rch", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Does intentionally taking a week without talking or hanging out count as a bad omen for the relationship? (30/m and 27f)", "post": "I've been dating this awesome chick since late June. The sexual chemistry is unbelievable. We are very open with our feelings, have the same sick sense of humor, and tend to both be athletic.\n\nSo the issue is that we have really lost ourselves. We both are addicted to hanging out with each other. We have both stopped or slowed down our workout regimen and gained weight. I think that the loss of our scheduled activities has caused us to both be a bit depressed.\n\nThe relationship has been moving quickly. She met my folks and I met her dad. We already say I love you to each other.\n\nShe has moments of distance that she attributes to missing her home and family. She has been in this city for about a year and has next to no friends. Im a bit of a workaholic and was a running addict before I met her, so I rarely see my friends.\n\nHere is the big one.. She wants to move back home, close to her family. She doesn't really the lack of her social network in this city and wants to be with her big circle back home.\n\nAfter the time I have spent with her, I think that this could potentially be someone that I could spend my life with. Ive dated around for a very long time. She certainly stands apart. I would move to be with her. She tells me that she wants me to move with her.\n\nThe moments of distance, when she is homesick, has kinda killed my self esteem. She says that as we hit new milestones, with out her understanding why, makes her miss home. She has mentioned that she wants to make a family close to home, so maybe that is it.\n\nI suggested a week without talking or texting, while she takes a trip home. That way we can both see where things lay.   Did I make a mistake here? Was this a good idea?", "summary": "Found great girl, we both love each other. She wants to move back home and says she wants to take me with her. I suggested taking a week without talking to see how we feel then.  Good idea or bad move?"}
{"id": "t3_1b9g3r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/M] my girlfriend [17/F] spends more time with her friend [17/F] than me", "post": "I've been going out with my girlfriend for about two months now. Most of the time when we hangout she decides to bring her friend. I was okay with it a few times but now it's starting to annoy me. I know she wants to hang out with her but whenever I make plans with my girlfriend she comes along and she becomes a 3rd wheel and when we hang out they have convosations and I'm sitting there like confused. I really would like to spend some time between my girlfriend and me without her friend being there. I feel awkard too because I can't kiss my girlfriend goodbye without her looking and I don't want to make her friend jealous.", "summary": "my girlfriend brings her friend with her when we hang out"}
{"id": "t3_2aiqep", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Getting Skinnier, But Not Losing Weight... I'm Confused.", "post": "Hi, I'm new to this subreddit. I came here because I've been overweight for most of my adult life and recently was diagnosed with a genetic medical condition that can only be treated by being a healthy body weight.\n\nSo for the last few months I have been working really hard (mostly the last month) at eating very healthy - 80% vegetables and fruit, vegetable based proteins more often than animal protein, major cuts in sugar and carb intake, etc.\n\nI have also been exercising a few times a week with a friend - going to the gym, aquasize, walking in the park. I work a desk job and 12 hour shifts, so I'm not nearly as active as I should be, but I'm getting better.\n\nSo what is really frustrating for me right now is that I have noticed I am getting skinnier. I can fit my old jeans that are 2 sizes smaller than the ones I've been wearing for the last year. My fat jeans are starting to feel more loose. Nobody has commented or noticed yet though, so I don't think it's much. But I have not lost any weight according to the scale! I keep going up and down a few pounds, but really I've only lost like 2 pounds from a month ago.\n\nI'm starting to think maybe my fat has just relocated? Am I doing something wrong with my diet and exercise? My medical condition (PCOS) makes it very hard for me to lose weight because it's a hormone imbalance, but it shouldn't be impossible... Just starting to feel very discouraged.", "summary": "trying to do everything right for weight loss, feel skinnier and fit smaller jeans, but I haven't lost more than 2 pounds. Is my fat relocating? What am I doing wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_22dwjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ugh, she[f28] and I [m29] have broken up after four years. Been about two weeks. How does anyone do this?", "post": "Yeah, nothing really new, this is just venting, but really, how does anyone do this? I've been through a fair amount in my life, but I've never felt more lonely and sick to my stomach. Everything reminds me of her. I live in a large city and it's just depressing seeing and doing all the things I enjoy because we had done all those things together. It hurts too because we basically broke up for stupid reasons that in a year or so probably would have resolved themselves (or not, who knows). We did start to fight frequently and are both stressed out. I miss her so much though. I acted pretty poorly towards the end of the relationship and basically drove her away. I've apologized profusely but I guess it was just too late. \n\nThe worst part of this is thinking about what she is doing right now, who she is with, if she is as miserable as I am. I know I can now pursue other people but I just don't want to. I hate being alone, but I can't seem to put in the effort with other people. Not to mention my parents are visiting in a couple of weeks and they have only met her a handful times (I live a ways from home). So now I have to break it to them that they won't be seeing her, ugh.\n\nI do work a lot, go to the gym nearly every day, but I did that shit before. I almost feel like I'm getting to old for this and my life will never be the same because I won't be able to forget all the good times we had. Things have just lost their meaning. It's so depressing. \n\nAnyone else feel this way? I know people have, but would like to hear any similar stories. Basically looking for some kind of comfort.", "summary": "How does one REALLY cope with a break up like this? How did you forget about all the good times and stop obsessing over what she is doing now?"}
{"id": "t3_mr7ee", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I'm doing not even nearly as well as I'd hoped to in college so far, and I need advice.", "post": "In high school I was a straight A student, GPA of 3.969. Enter college. I go to the University of Washington. I'm in 3rd quarter calculus as a freshman, as well as into chem and a bullshit art class. Art and chem are okay, I'll definitely pass them. Math however.... different story.\n\nI'd say I'm a mathy person. I got a 5 on the AP Calculus AB test, and was placed rather high in math for being a freshman in college. Unfortunately, most people taking the class I'm in have background in the material, whereas it's all completely new to me. So I'm not doing very well. 66% on the first midterm(mean-74%), and 36% on the second(mean-48%). I have no idea why I'm not doing well. I understand the material, not as much as I'd like, but I still do. I do all the homework just fine (It's Webassign). I HAVE to pass this class, meaning I NEED at least a 2.0. And the class is curved to average a 2.7 I believe. I calculated it out, and it's possible to pass, for sure, but it's going to be hell trying to.\n\nI know college is a very different animal, but this really surprised me nonetheless.\n\nDid this happen to any of you, reddit? How did you solve it? I'm willing to do almost anything to pass this damned math class.\n\nAlso, slightly unrelated, but on top of that, I might get pinned with academic misconduct for showing my chem lab partner my lab report, because apparently he printed a copy of mine out and turned it in as his own. I have proof that I finished first and that I had intended to help him understand why some things were the way they were in teh calculations, and I had no intention in having him copy my work. I have a few meetings with advisers to take care of that early this week.", "summary": "Perfect student in HS, currently getting fucked by college. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_143323", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) snooped on gfs (21F) Facebook and don't know how to feel.", "post": "Alright so this could be a bit long. Gf and I have been dating for around 11 months, everything seems great. I know her FB pass because she told me a few months ago out of random. So I decide to check it out for the hell of it and I look at the messages. 2 most recent ones are from past exes, both times she initiated conversation. Even though the messages weren't about anything exclusive, One guy is a douche and the other got her pregnant and wasn't man enough to step up and take care of the kid so she got an abortion... either way, shes been talking to these guys and got both their numbers. Yet I haven't hardly heard from her all day. I feel sad and somewhat betrayed, what should I do here? I planned on asking to marry this girl in the next few months...", "summary": "Did the dumb thing in snooping on gf because haven't heard from her in hours. I have no clue how to bring this up to her.... I feel betrayed."}
{"id": "t3_4chyut", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] boyfriend [23m] is punishing me for not been ready for a full commitment at the beginning of our one year relationship.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and we have known each other for over two. He claims he's been in love with me since he met me, however I was in a relationship at the time. When we first started dating I was fresh out of a relationship, so I was hesitant to jump right in. It didn't mean I did not feel anything for him, I was just taking my time and making sure everything was right. He was head over heels for me, and I was so greatful for how he was acting.\n\nHowever, after a week of dating he jumped in told me he loved me and wanted everything from me. I wasn't ready for that so it took me around two months to say it back.\n\nThe problem is now, after a year he is resentful for it. Now I am head over heels for him, and he claims that I rejected him at the beginning and it's changed his feelings. He doesn't believe he can ever feel that kind of love anymore. It's emotionally destroyed me and has ruined our relationship. Now he is distant and sometimes unkind. He claims he still loves me and wants a future.\n\nI know it's silly but I can't help but blame myself. It's caused a lot of stress over the past few months.\n\nI'm unsure how to proceed as I don't want to end things, but I'm an emotional wreck and no longer trust him.", "summary": "I was not ready for a serious relationship right away, and a year later my boyfriend still resents me for it."}
{"id": "t3_11rnwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me [19m, trans] initiate sex with my girlfriend [20f].", "post": "Relationship is roughly a month old. \n\nSo this is a kind of complicated problem. To clarify, I'm a trans man who's pre-op, so my relationship with my girlfriend physically resembles a lesbian relationship. That's relevant to my question, but it's not the focus.\n\nThe real problem is that I'm extremely anxious about trying to have sex with my girlfriend because she's completely virginal. I don't have a great deal of sexual experience, but I'm well-educated and I masturbate like anyone else. This girl has never had an orgasm or even attempted to masturbate. I was initially really skeptical, but it's true (it's actually a point of some self-consciousness for her).\n\nI guess the reason that makes me nervous is that I'm afraid I won't be able to bring her to orgasm. She doesn't know what she likes yet and I don't have enough experience to be the one teaching her about sex. She's eager and I'm afraid of disappointing her. The furthest I've been before I got spooked was a few minutes of fingering.\n\nWe kind of have a date tonight. We're just going to watch a movie and drink a little, but she's been coming on to me for the last couple days and I think she's really expecting something more substantial tonight. And I really don't want to pussy out of this again, but I don't know how to approach it.\n\nIs there an aspect to this I'm not seeing or a mental approach I can take that'll make this less intimidating? I don't want to ask for straight-up sex advice, but if you have any, I need all the help I can get. I really don't know how to initiate something like oral sex but I don't think I can keep stalling. And don't get me wrong - I do want to have sex with her. I just don't want to do it wrong. Do you have any advice for me?", "summary": "Girlfriend's never had an orgasm, I'm scared of being too shitty at sex to give her one."}
{"id": "t3_2e8ls4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Hey , the last two days I've(m25) been meeting with a cute girl(23) I really like. Problem is, she still has a boyfriend who I think is abusive.\n\nI'll try to be precise: We already know each other for about 2 years. We took some classes together, and we kinda liked each other. She had the bf already at that time, so even it really clicked between us two, nothing more happened. Flash forward to a month ago, she contacted me asking how I was doing. Long story short, we met two days ago. Just to talk and yea. whatever happens. turns out she's still with her bf but they both have turned their relationship into an open relationship. That's why she took the chance to meet.\n\nI didnt think much of, just enjoyed the time with her. (pretty harmless stuff) She went home some hours ago from our second meeting.\nSo here's the deal: We were talking about her relationship. I already knew her bf is some kind of a yeller if things do not turn out the way he likes. According to her \"sometimes he gets somewhat rough, too\" (whatever the fuck that means). the first one or two years of their relationship wasnt that bad, after that he turned into some kind of yelling, rough, controlling freak. She stood with him for whatever reason.\n\nSome months ago he had the idea that open their relationship would be a good idea to save it. According of her, he already took advance of that open relationship sometimes. Now as she wants to take advandace of it, he wants to close the relationship again. She went home some hours ago, telling me she wanna stay with me, but she needs to go home to clear things up there. I recently got a msg from her bf telling me \"We've talked and you've caused a lot tears tonight. Please consider to keep distance from [insert girls name]\"\nI don't know how to handle the situation. I'm torn between kicking his teeth in or leave them both the fuck alone.#\n\nany ideas?", "summary": "Girl I like, likes me and is in a relationship I think is abusive."}
{"id": "t3_1a3825", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m24] don't know what to do about a girl [f23] I like. She has a kid [6 months] but that isn't a problem.", "post": "I met this girl in high school when we were both 16 and 17. We hooked up a couple times, no serious relationship. We went our separate ways for 7 years. Recently we reconnected through Facebook and have been talking for a couple weeks. She told me about her 6 month old son and the father who left when she was 3 months pregnant. This past weekend I visited her and we hit it off. We watched a movie, had dinner, and I helped her with her kid. I don't mind having a child in the relationship, I actually want to be a father when the time is right. I really like this girl. I know that what I need to do from here is take our time and make sure it will last because you don't want the kid to grow up with men leaving his life. The question I have is how do I make sure it will last? What kind of questions should I ask? What red flags should I have my eyes open for? Where do I go from here?", "summary": "I like a girl who has a 6 month old, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4uas6b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F26] have to bottle up my anger because I don't know how to control it.", "post": "Throwaway because I haven't admitted this to anyone. and because people see me as a very calm and very chill person. Like to the max. That's what I try to project and that's what I feel that I am 95% of the time. \n\nBut the other 5% of the time I am either in a state of extreme stress and anxiety from bottling up a shit ton of rage, or feeling really fucking great from being able to act out all that energy and just *rage.* I can count the number of times the latter has happened and I feel completely out of control when it does but also simultaneously high af. \n\nI just realized that this is a serious problem today after an incident with a neighbor and his dog. I won't go into the specifics and I can't even write down my exact thoughts towards him for you to read because they are so heinous. I felt like he was completely in the wrong in a situation that was 100% preventable. As it was happening I could feel that particular kind of anger building and so did not speak a single word to him. I just let him yell. If I had said anything it would have been very bad and could have led to very bad actions. I had zero facial expressions either, basically just a brick. \n\nThis happened a few hours ago all I've been able to do is fixate on what I would have done had there been no consequences. Or what I would like to do the next time I see him. Or what justice should be for someone like him. All compassion I thought I had just goes completely out the window. All really nasty stuff. When this happens these feelings stay with me for *weeks.*   \n\nThis really interrupts my chill and I hate it. I hate that I have these thoughts and this response sometimes, it feels like all the good I thought I was is completely gone. Like I'm wearing layers and layers of makeup but really deep down I'm just a monster.\n\nI think my question is what can I do to not be this way? Sometimes I feel like I even enjoy having this \"dark side\", which is even more sick.", "summary": "I try really hard to suppress my anger but it doesn't always work and sometimes I lose control. When it does work, the feelings of rage eat at me for weeks. How do I get a handle on this?"}
{"id": "t3_1sj2q3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fellow redditors, How would you deal with my current situation? How would you approach it?", "post": "I am a current student at DeVry university in Chicago Illinois, I love the college and everything but I've been thinking of doing something else with my life. I thought about double majoring and becoming a teacher the program I'm in at the moment is called ECT (Electronic, Computer, Technology). I wasn't the best student and I did pretty bad in high school which limit where I wanted to go. So I settled for either DeVry or Harold Washington. As far as talking to my parents. My step dad is against everything else except DeVry he wants me to go there because that's where he went and he thinks I'll be secured with a job from there when I graduate. Here's the catch. He wants me to go two years, I want to go four years or maybe even more. Every time I bring it up he gets mad and calls me an idiot. At this point I don't know what to do. So if anyone can tell me their college story and what they did to achieve it. I would love to hear some motivation.", "summary": "I have thoughts of going to another college. Step Dad tells me no every time and is only worried about the money."}
{"id": "t3_1bwp79", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Atheists of Reddit, what keeps you motivated?", "post": "Like many other atheists, my motivation often comes from wanting to do the right thing because it's the right thing. Pleasure in my life comes from making others happy so I love seeing other people happy. I love science and although I love seeing pieces of puzzles come together I can't help but think \"Why does this matter\"? It is pretty much a huge coincidence that life even exists. It's hard for me not to think that EVERYTHING is just a coincidence. The most famous and infamous humans/animals die and will eventually be forgotten. Evolution happens and even entire species will be forgotten. I feel like the only point of me still being alive is so that I do not hurt others by taking my own life. That sounds bad and I would never take my own life or anything but damn. To me, iife is just so pointless.\n\n How do you guys keep motivated to do anything? \nI wish I believed in some great deity that would eternally punish/reward me for thinking differently.", "summary": "in the end, life is pretty pointless, what keeps you motivated to do anything with your life?"}
{"id": "t3_28a6uv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My grandma [F70] gifted me [F28] a large sum of money. Completely overwhelmed and grateful. How to write the thank you note?", "post": "I was just gifted a huge sum of money from my grandma ($100,000). I am completely floored. I have never had this much money before and it is just crazy. My immediate family outside of this grandma is pretty solidly middle-class. I am so, so grateful especially since my mom and brother have been going through some medical issues that have been taking a lot of us both emotionally and financially, especially since my dad pretty much cut ties after my parents' divorce. (My dad is estranged from both his children and his mother, the woman who gifted us the money.)\n\nAnyway, I just feel so overwhelmed and grateful and lost for words! I have never been great with thank you notes/condolences/putting my emotions into words gracefully anyway. Please help, what should I say besides \"THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU\"? I will definitely send chocolates too.", "summary": "Completely stunned by huge financial gift from grandma. How to say thank you?"}
{"id": "t3_3ak433", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) don't feel as attracted to my new gf (20f) anymore because she farts around me", "post": "I know this is idiotic. I know that everyone farts and that it's unhealthy to hold them in. But neither of my other girlfriend's used to fart around me. I mean I heard the odd one, now and then, but with my new girlfriend it's every other day.\n\nShe doesn't do it to be obnoxious or funny - she says excuse me and acts like its no big deal. And I know, logically, that its not. But it really bothers me. They don't even smell bad, it's not about that. It's just that I don't want to hear them. It honestly makes me feel less attracted to her.\n\nI don't fart that often, but when I need to I go to the bathroom when she's around. Would it be ok to ask her to do the same? I'm assuming my other girlfriends did this too.\n\nI've only been dating my current girlfriend for seven months, so maybe that's why I'm not comfortable with it yet. Maybe if we stay together for longer and have more intimacy with each other eventually I'll be ok with it. But at the moment I'm not, is that ok to tell her? Has anyone else dealt with this or know a sensitive way to bring it up?", "summary": "my girlfriend farts around me all the time and I'm not comfortable with it. I want to know a good way to talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_1z2jrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 trans-M] think I want to start a relationship with a cousin [50-something M] that I did not know existed", "post": "Firstly- I am so sorry, I will try to make this as clear as possible without being a wall of text. It is late and this is not a pressing issue...it just comes to mind and leaves me guilty and confused.\n\nI was born female. I'm transgender. I now live as a man. I am also gay- as in, I like men. This is how I have been living for the past four years.\n\nWhen I came out to my mother, she revealed to me that I have a gay cousin-once-removed, the \"black sheep\" of her generation's family. We'll call him John. She told me how he was treated by his family and I found it all incredibly unfair to him, while my mother had happy memories of playing with him as children and was sad when he \"went away\".\n\nSomehow, some way, John found out about me and called me up out of the blue one night, I want to say a year or two ago. I don't remember much of the conversation but he gave me the impression of an older person genuinely interested in their young relative 'going about life right'- you know, like when they ask what you're going to school for and whatnot. He sounded concerned, fearful, offered to let me visit him and his partner any time. At the end of the call he practically begged me to keep in touch with him and not hesitate to call.\n\nOf course, being the person I was and still am, I didn't call him again. Now I am regretting that. I have no gay friends. I have no trans friends. No mentors for this. I know no one in my life who has relevant experience to what I'm going through and I feel increasingly isolated in this respect.\n\nYet, I have no idea if I truly want to start a relationship with John or even how to maintain such a thing. He is a stranger to me with the exception that we are both gay and of all my older family members he is the only accepting one; what could I even offer him to make up for having basically spurned him by not calling for so long? What would we even talk about? \"Being gay\"?", "summary": "I am trans and gay. My long-lost gay cousin called me up and offers support. I don't know if I want a relationship with him or what it would even consist of, or if I'm allowed to bring him up around other family members, or if I've too far damaged such a relationship but ignoring him after we first spoke, but I yearn for a connection with someone who remotely knows how lonely it is being a gay trans man."}
{"id": "t3_4c7udq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] dating someone [19F] who doesn't believe in love", "post": "Well, first I should tell you a little bit about her. I know her since we're very young (10 yo), but she was just a friend I didn't have much relation with. After years of not being in touch with her, we met at college in 2014. We started talking more and more, and I discovered that she was extremely smart and we shared a lot of interests. \n\nLong story short, after a lot of comings and goings we started dating like 3 months ago. \n\nShe is very weird in many aspects: she doesn't like hugs or holding hands, she doesn't like me to tell her cute things. And of course she never does this things unless I ask her to. \n\nShe has already told me more than once that she doesn't believe in love, that she only \"loved\" once (an ex bf she had). She says that she is never gonna love again. \n\nSometimes she tells me really mean things. For example, the other day we were chatting and she asked me if I could ever be unfaithful to her (I told her that of course no). Then I asked her the same question and she told me that she couldn't answer because she never knows what can happen. She then told me not to listen to what she'd said. This is just one example from many.\n\nOn the other hand, I have to admit that she is really honest, she is really confused with herself and if I have to describe her I'd say she doesn't even like herself. And I forgot to tell, last year we were in a kind of relationship that wasn't serious, I wanted to date her but she didn't cause she still hadn't really overcome her ex (and she told me that).\n\nI think she has some psychiatric issues like bipolarity and alexithymia. \n\nWhat should I do? Any advices? Am I exaggerating a little bit? Is she isn't that weird or unloving? Thank you very much\n\nP.S: her mother died when she was very young (6 yo), that certainly had a major impact on her personality\n\n\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500\u2500", "summary": "i'm dating someone who doesn't believe in love. I've been having an informal relationship with her for almost 2 years but now we are officially because she has overcome her ex."}
{"id": "t3_416eui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] have been dating for 6 months. He doesn't reciprocate love and makes me feel like I'm not special", "post": "Overall, we have a good relationship but we have had a really bad fight where I caught him flirting online with other people that kind of ruined my trust for him and how he feels for me. I feel as though our relationship has hit a rough patch. We've been fighting a lot and I feel like it is because of his quick temper and the fact he never goes out of his way to do something special for me. I am constantly asking to go on dates and planning them, always the one asking to hang out, giving little surprises and notes because I love him and saying I love you first. The past 2 weeks I have gone above and beyond because he started a new job. Not once has he told me he appreciates my help/ gifts/ love and he rarely reciprocates with actions. (ex: a text saying thank you for all you do I'm glad I met you etc something like that)\n\nI have hit a point where I just can't take it anymore. I don't understand why planning a date, or buying me flowers or candy he knows I love or even more so, just telling me he appreciates me would be so difficult and why he doesn't do it. I try really hard and I know he does too but he doesn't go out of his way and when I mentioned it he said, \"he's way too busy with work\" (even though this has been going on since the period where he didn't work for a bit) and that his old girlfriend \"took the romance out of him.\" Am I crazy for expecting and needing a little something that shows he truly cares and wants me around? I don't need gifts, a simple note saying something sweet would help but he has maybe twice out of 6 months told me something about me he loves about me. \n\nI really love the guy but feel like I love him more than he loves me. I am not sure if this is worth ending something or if I should even speak to him about it because he'll get defensive. Is expecting appreciation like this too much?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't show appreciation and makes me feel like I am not wanted."}
{"id": "t3_1hmy9f", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[M/19] From 235lbs to 165lbs (Pics inside)", "post": "Hi, I am 19 years old and weigh around 165lbs. I startet on October 2011 with 235lbs. I did the following things to reach this: \n\nIn October 2011 I started counting calories. I only ate around 1500kcal per day. I also started doing some sport. For the first few weeks I rode my stationary bike for 30 minutes, soon 40 minutes and ended up with 50 minutes. I did this until summer spring 2012. Then I began to ride my bike outside. Summer '12 was so hot that I stopped bicycling and I gained again some weight.\n\nIn November 2012 a friend of mine invited me to his gym. I liked it because it was something different. Riding a bike gets boring after a time and I also wanted to gain some muscles. Well and this is how I lost very fast weight - by weightlifting. At the beginning I didn't really know what to do so I just trained every part of my body and went every day to the gym. I gained some muscles and felt that I became stronger. Then I started to organize myself. I started a split-programe and now I go 3 times a week to the gym for weightlifting. One day I just run for 45 minutes on the treadmill. It's really amazing how my body changed. At the beginning I couldn't run for 10 minutes, now I can run like forever. Seriously I don't have to stop, my stamina became awesome and I can run faster and jump higher like most of the people I know. \n\nAnyways, here are some pictures and I even found the post when I started this thing. Kind of cringey but hey, bananas. Awesome that I could reach my goals and I even went further. (Notice: \"this train goes to: 175 lbs!\")\nAlso I want to know: Am I ugly? I know this isn't the right subreddit but yeah.\n\nPic October '11: \n\nPic July '13: \n\nFirst post:", "summary": "lost some weight. feels awesome."}
{"id": "t3_1tzjk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[22M] friend[23M], cheated with my [22M] friend's girlfriend[21F]. What do I do?", "post": "My friend (22M), let's call him A, came to me and told me he cheated with his best friend (B)'s girlfriend. She is in town for the month and will be going back soon. After they slept together, she told A that she wants to dump B to be with him. A told her that he doesn't do long distance (she lives in another country) and even though he kept saying that, they still continue sleeping. She eventually broke up with B and now I have B coming to me seeking emotional support. It's destroying me that I have to keep this secret and to comfort B.\n\nB asked A if he could do him a favor and let her sleep at his place (he completely trusts him) and he has no clue that they are just sleeping together behind his (B) back.\n\nB now thinks he owes A a massive favor and is buying him gifts, favors, errands, whatever. \n\nShe will be heading home soon but this doesn't change the position I'm in.\n\nWhat do I do? Do I just pretend like I know nothing or does B deserve to know? I don't know how B will react.", "summary": "I'm stuck in an awkward situation with boy A cheating with boy B's gf and both are coming to me; one gloating and the other crying and thinking A is doing him a solid favor."}
{"id": "t3_11pvpx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get to better know my deaf co-worker?", "post": "A little background- I work at a very busy grocery store as a cashier.  A few months ago our store went through their hiring phase, and in time I've gotten to know many of the people they brought in.  One of them, a younger lady who works as a bagger, is a very hard worker who also happens to be deaf. How would you guys go about getting to know her better without coming off in a creepy, overly forward manner?\n\nSome context- As a cashier you're either scanning and sending things down the belt, or packing them up and putting them in the cart for people.  Usually you have a chance to talk to your bagger a little about random whatnots as you pack and load things into customer's carts, though that's about the extent of it- we don't have much down time.  Both cashiering and bagging is particularly hand-oriented, and as I don't know ASL, writing non-work related things takes too much time away from transactions.  Getting to know her during breaks would be an option, however our schedules don't seem to line up.\n\nI've toyed with the idea of picking up some very basic sign language, though I feel it may be in poor taste in a \"I'm disappointed that you tried\" sense.  A different idea is to give her a note to see if she'd like to exchange Facebook/phone numbers, though it not only seems a bit forward, but reminds me of middle school.  I don't usually have a problem getting to know people, but this one has me socially stumped.  As for the username, I picked it because it seemed to flow well- I'm not trying to immediately date her, though I wouldn't be opposed further down the line if things went well.  Any constructive input is appreciated!", "summary": "How do you get to know a deaf person when your hands are busy?"}
{"id": "t3_1t8n4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bored as hell with my love life [25/f]. I think I'm having a crisis.", "post": "Been with my bf for 3 1/2 years. I care about him but I am extremely bored of our sex life. I have no idea how to tell him this without hurting his feelings. \nDon't know if I should tell him or just leave him. I get freaked out thinking about having sex with the same person forever. It's so begrudgingly boring, the idea to me, even though I have only slept with 3 guys at age 25.  \n\nMore than that I feel like I'd be boring to my partner. Can't imagine anyone wanting to have sex with me forever, even though I am considered to be pretty attractive. Maybe I have some phobia, I don't know.", "summary": "Bf for 3 1/2 years. Bored with my sex life. Freaked out thinking about having sex with the same person forever. Dunno how to get over this."}
{"id": "t3_4jh8bc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "If a guy you've been hanging out with googles you, does it mean he's into you?", "post": "I (late20sF) have a friend (late20sM) that I've known casually for many years but have only hung out with a handful of times because we both have moved around a lot. Nothing explicitly romantic has ever happened between us, but we have a really good connection and sometimes I've wondered if we would have dated if the timing had worked out better. We now live about a half hour apart and recently we hung out for the first time in several months. I have a personal webpage that tracks analytics so I can see who visits my page and where they're located. Late that night, I got an alert that someone had just searched for me on google and had visited a few of the pages on my personal webpage. Based on the location I know it was him. \n\nIs this a strong sign he is interested in me? Or is it somewhat common for people to google random friends of theirs?", "summary": "casual friend googles me at night after hanging out earlier in the day. does it mean he's into me?"}
{"id": "t3_1cwlq4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "(possibly?) used by my boyfriend last night.", "post": "I've been dating this guy for two years, however we do not live together. We were each others firsts and he's a great guy but...I think he used me last night. We went to a party and I got really drunk and extremely tired from the alcohol. When I got to my house he asked to stay over and we snuggled up on the couch. I was in and out of a drunken sleep but I remember opening my eyes now and then and seeing him on top of me with his junk in my mouth, feeling my jaw slackening around him and closing my eyes. I think I knew it was happening but I was truly in a zombie state...how could he have thought I was awake enough for that? Again, I fell asleep and woke up to him asking for sex. I subconsciously was aware and must have mumbled yes but I think I just wanted him to let me sleep. We had sex but I was dozing off the whole time. I don't know if I should be upset because I consented, but I feel used because I was drunk and couldnt make a proper decision. I KNOW he did not put anything into my drinks, I had my cup all night and I was definitely just drunk and tired. But should I be worried that he felt comfortable getting physical with me while I was barely functioning? I talked to him about it and he apologized but it seemed like he only did because he felt like he had to. Am I making a big deal out of nothing?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I got physical while I was drunk/asleep. I consented but I'm uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_xo260", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this over the line?", "post": "To cut a very long story short, I caught my boyfriend out by seeing on his 'recent items' on his laptop that he'd watched a video of one of his ex's and him together. We've been together a year and a half or so and have been living together just over a month. He's 26/m, I'm 22/f. I'd been away for 2 days with work when this must have happened. \n\nI have no issue with him watching porn, although I do think he watches way more than normal and I guess that's another issue (he'd watch it on his lunch break back at home and then in the evening as standard, and other days it would definitely be more). It's just way, way over the line for me for him to watch it with people he used to be with. Is this over-reacting? I plan to talk to him about it later because this conversation came up between us a week or so ago and he said he didn't do it and would think that was over the line too, he just wanted the collections to have a 'history'. So not only does he think he's doing wrong, he's lying too.", "summary": "would you have an issue with your partner continuing to watch videos of him and ex's together when in a new relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_va5g1", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Any way to train my dog to stomp whimpering?", "post": "It's not a terrible problem but I'm just becoming familiar with clicker training and such and was wondering if there was anyway to train my JRT to stop whimpering/whining. He has a(n adorable) habit of kicking a ball under a couch or chair and whimpering until you get it and throw it as a means of getting you to play with him. He also cries like a baby as he watches me eat. I understand this behavior may be hard or impossible to erase, as he's already 6 and JRT's are a vocal breed. I still love him all the same. Just curious. Thanks", "summary": "Dog whimpers to play/when I eat. Just curious if it can be trained out."}
{"id": "t3_4p6i5m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update]My [24M] best friend [25F] assumed I'd be single for her wedding and didn't give me a plus one.", "post": "Original Here: \n\nSo wedding's done with, so I figured I'd explain the aftermath. First of all, I apologize for my inability to explain things correctly on the first go; I was distraught by what I had heard and was still trying to put my thoughts down into words. Second, I appreciate those few of you who put the time and effort despite my inability to explain my situation to give some well-grounded advice and not jump to conclusions. I am very grateful, and I took heed to your advice.\n\nNow, onto the meat of the material. The day before the wedding, my best friend came to me apologizing profusely for what happened. She's been under a lot of stress and made the decision when she was upset with me (over what, neither of us can recall) and was dreading when I'd bring up the plus one situation. She felt really bad, which made me feel really bad about having made a post on here (to clarify, I knew she was going through pre-wedding stress so I steered clear from any type of confrontation or adding any stress to her so I didn't bring up the fact I felt slighted so no, unlike many of you here assumed I wasn't going to put this on her whatsoever) but we made up and it's all water under the bridge.\n\nAfter her honeymoon we talked about it in depth and mended our relationship. I admitted that I was more hurt than I should've been by her decision and she forgave me for it. So it's all good now.", "summary": "we talked it out just before and just after the wedding, all is well now."}
{"id": "t3_3bdgwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22F] of two months and I [26M] are planning a cross country road trip lasting two weeks. It'll be the first time we're spending 100% of our time together. What are some important things I can do to make this memorable and fulfilling experience?", "post": "We have the logistics planned, e.g. route, destinations, budget, rental car, etc. Driving from the east coast to the west, then flying back. But there's one dynamic I need to prepare for: the fact that I'll be spending every single hour with her. All day, all night, in a car, motels, and sightseeing destinations.\n\nI hear from another female friend that on her past roadtrip, she hated the friend that she went with by the end of the trip. Being couped up in car nonstop with no other company turned them both miserable. I don't see this happening with my girlfriend, but it did make me realize that this experience will also actually be a test of patience.\n\nI've known my girlfriend for a year and have dated her for two months, to give you some context on the duration of our relationship. It certainly is a growing one, and we're at the point where a private roadtrip sounds very appealing to both of us. For some further important context, both of us got laid off from our jobs recently and we're looking to decompress mentally and enjoy a relaxing break.\n\nWhat are some particular things/mindsets/activities I can bring with me for this trip to make it enjoyable and progressive for her, me, and us as a growing couple? How can we make it more than a regular old roadtrip and into a fulfilling and bonding experience?", "summary": "My girlfriend [22F] and I [26M] are spending two weeks nonstop with each other on a roadtrip. How can I make this an amazing experience?"}
{"id": "t3_1bv6d5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Girlfriend cleaned out my personal and business account when she left, need advice for Virginia", "post": "My girlfriend and I were together for 4 years and recently moved to VA.  She couldn't find a job so she began helping me with my business and personal affairs.  This gave her banking account access to my personal and business.  \n\nThing went well for a long time but our relationship soured and while I was out of town she moved out.  I don't really care about the personal items/money she took...that can be recovered in time and I didn't want her on the street anyway.  But she cleaned out my business account for about 7500.00.  That money wasn't really mine, it was from customer whom had ordered things that I haven't paid my distributor for yet.  So now I haven't the income to re-order those things and send them to my customers.  \n\n I've waited about a month to try and reason with her before calling the police but now I feel like I don't have an option.  She hasn't responded to anything and now my customers are pissed because I haven't delivered. \n\nwhat are my options if any?  I don't have money to hire a lawyer which is what brought me here.", "summary": "ex GF stole 7500 from business account which was money customers gave me to purchase parts for them...it's not disposable income."}
{"id": "t3_1c7opq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m]My girlfriend [21/f] of 4 years just left me and I don't even know where to start.", "post": "This is my first submission so apologies if I did something wrong.\n\nOk, so first and foremost girlfriend is not the right term. However we never married so she is for lack of a better term, my High School sweetheart. We had two beautiful girls together and spent most of the 4 years very close. When we came into this relationship I was a few years older but we both just wanted a simple life and a family. Which we eventually did.\n  However in the past two years she's actively tried to get new friends and just all the things that a normal 21 year old girl would do, but seeing as we had this family and responsibilities it just wasn't acceptable when she'd go stay at friend's houses for days at a time on my days off, and then come back with an attitude more like a single person would. This led to a lot of fighting between her and I and I'm sure some very nasty words from me. (I'm a very insecure person but I try very hard to not let it effect my decisions as far as our relationship goes.)\n\nSo about 14 days ago she goes to a friends house that lives about 200 miles away and gets stranded there (We're in Montana so there's no real public transport to speak of) And over this time I've seen her progressively get more distant and cold until yesterday she dropped it on me that she thought we needed to go our separate ways. I was just floored because this girl is everything to me and I can't even fathom being apart from her, let alone being with other people... I just really want someone to talk to that might understand a bit more than just \"You're better off.\"", "summary": "Sweetheart of 4 years."}
{"id": "t3_4vcakk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I just give up?", "post": "So my (F21) recent ex (M20) have decided to try and work things out but aren't back together yet. \n\nI know taking things slow is a good idea and we are (not texting or hanging out as much as we used to) but when we do get together it's like nothings changed; we still hold hands, kiss, cuddle, ect.\nWe do argue less which is nice.\n\nWe're going to a party tonight with a group of friends who don't know about the split (or that we're currently trying) I told him this and he said that I don't have to act like I'm in a relationship....even though that's basically what we do without the label.\n\nHe also encourages me to date people and not to hold back on account of him...is the normal for someone who wants to make things work?\nOn one hand I appreciate it since technically I am single but on the other hand I want him to want us to have dates and be together--not with other people.\n\nI don't really know what to think. Advice please?", "summary": "My ex and I are trying to work things out but I'm worried he actually doesn't want to and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3h5p4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [m27] and my gf [f24] can't communicate, and it's destroying our relationship.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. We have a great relationship. She is honestly the best thing that has happened to me and we have a great time together. We get along perfectly with each other's (now mutual) friends, we are both very attracted to each other and we really enjoy spending time together. Despite all this we have trouble communicating, especially when it comes to sex. We don't really communicate frankly unless we've had a few drinks together.  \n\nWe have a pretty good sex life. However, she very rarely initiates sex, despite the fact that she's almost always in the mood for it. I can go for a week without sex so I just assume she's not up for it, and leave it be at that.  It leaves her feeling neglected.\n\nI don't like having sex when she's on her period, and that also leaves her feeling neglected. I don't want to neglect her but when she feels that way she doesn't say anything. She just get's testy and is obviously pissed about being neglected.  And when she is pissed, I (stupidly) get pissed at her for being pissed off, leading to a vicious cycle of us being pissed off at each other for nothing. \n\nI'm generally not very expressive and neither is she, so neither of us seem to bring ourselves to talk about it. Only after a few drinks do we really talk, both agree that we have communication issues and decide to fix it. But we don't fix it, we just start the same shit again. \n\nHow can we fix it? Do you have any good communication techniques for us; for people who are generally a bit closed off?", "summary": "We don't talk, it shit."}
{"id": "t3_ylr27", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, what is a movie you loved as a child, only to rewatch it later as an adult and realize how dumb it is?", "post": "For me it was, sadly, Jumanji. I loved this movie as a child and would watch it almost everyday. The last time I saw it was about 10 years ago. Then about a week ago the woman and I got to talking about movies we liked as kids and when I brought up Jumanji she said the unspeakable and claimed to have never seen it. \n\nI immediately decided I had to correct this, pulled it up on Netflix and away we went. As we sat there watching it, I just couldn't get into it. It was like I was watching a whole different movie. Idk what change my perception on it but I just couldn't get into it like I used to. She ended up not liking it anyway and all I ended up doing was crushing a part of my childhood.", "summary": "fuck growing up. "}
{"id": "t3_1sh996", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my fiance [25 F] of 4 years, unsure about her interactions with new guy friend", "post": "Hi everybody, I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I'm looking for opinions on your experiences in similar situations.\n\nMe and my fiance are currently in a long distance relationship, everything is going extremely well. No big issues. No real trust issues. My fiancee has started hanging out with a new guy friend. Every weekend for the past 3 weeks he'll come over to her place, or she'll go over to his place. They watch a bunch of movies, and she'll usually end up leaving at around 2-3 in the morning. \n\nI'm not super worried or anything, we discussed the issue and she assured me that I have nothing to worry about, and that it's just friendship and whatnot. She makes a point to let me know when/where she will be hanging out with him, and asks me how I feel about the subject.\n\nSo I'd just like to hear from others on their opinions and experiences in similar situations. Is this a totally normal type of thing? I'm just asking because in the 4 years we've been dating, this is the first male friend that she has had that she consistently interacts with.\n\nThanks for reading and responding!!", "summary": "GF now hanging out a lot with a new guy friend. Anything to watch out for? Totally normal interaction?"}
{"id": "t3_24t4iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my Dad [60 M], emailed me and my siblings this morning informing me that he bought our mom's Mother's Day gifts FOR us.", "post": "This is a really trivial problem compared to typical r/relationships but I'd still like advice if anyone has it.\n\nMy dad sent an email to me and my two siblings (25F and 23M) this morning with a screenshot of what he ordered for our mom for Mother's Day. It's a huge, very expensive order of flowers/chocolate/assorted gifts with the prices included (obviously intentionally).\n\nAlong with the screenshot he added, \"I addressed the card to say it's from all of YOU, but don't let that change what YOU yourselves plan on doing for your mom next Sunday, if anything.\"\n\nI'm irritated and hurt. I don't understand why he feels the need to do this and rub it in our faces. It's fine to buy Mother's Day gifts for your wife when your kids are too little, but fuck, we're all in our twenties and I'm about to be a first time mother myself. And I've never disappointed my mom on Mother's Day.\n\nI resisted sending a biting response and just simply said, \"Don't worry, I already have her gift ready\" but I'm still steaming hours later. He never replied so I don't know if that was a satisfying enough answer or what.\n\nAlso it seems like it's going to be pretty awkward when I visit for Mother's Day and all of these gifts get delivered, she reads the tag and thinks it's from us kids. Then my mom will be thanking us, thinking we got together and ordered this expensive stuff for her that none of us can afford.\n\nJust ugh. What is wrong with my dad and how can I let him know this isn't okay? Should I tell my mom it's not from us or just drop it?", "summary": "My dad bought expensive gifts for my mom on Mother's Day and set it up to look like it's from me and my siblings. I'm offended and don't know if I should say something or drop it."}
{"id": "t3_26r794", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[non-romantic] Me [28 M] just met a good friend's [26f] fiance [24m] and I have strong objections. Not sure what/if I should say or do.", "post": "I have no romantic interest in this girl, but, she is a good friend and I'm also pretty tight with her father.  It's a little strange but basically we met in highschool and I started working for her father.  Me and him have many similar interests and as I got older we hung out a lot and became more of business partners.  \n\nShe was always kind of troubled, has some emotional and insecurity issues, and was being generally irresponsible.  I was often in some sort of big brotherly role.\n\nAt one point she was sent away to some correctional school and she met this guy.  They've now been off and on for almost 10 years and I've just spent the weekend with him and his friends for the first time.\n\nThis guy and his friends are the trashiest group of boys I've ever had to spend time with.  I'll spare the details but I found him appalling.  Just lazy, rude, inconsiderate, unappreciative, disrespectful, helpless.  It was just a worthless display of manhood.  I can expand if necessary, but it seems pretty obvious to me that this kid expects to be taken care of.  He's found a girl that will cook and clean and financially support him.  Her mother seems to be quite wealthy and pays for rent etc - just bought them a condo.  I think he sucks and he's going to use her.\n\nIt's sad because she'll have a hard time finding someone else.  But as her friend I feel the need to be honest with her about what I think.  She looks up to me in a lot of ways, and I also feel some obligation to her family to try and prevent this.\n\nShould I tell her what I think? Or is that overstepping my boundary?", "summary": "I met my good friend's fiance and I think he's trash.  Do I tell her or not?"}
{"id": "t3_211gje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 16 months, have been fighting all the time", "post": "So me and my girlfriend of 16 months moved in together 4 months ago after a year of dating. Since then, we have been fighting at least once a week over stupid reasons. While some of the reasons do become some what valid, I'm talking about full on screaming matches over the fact that I want to get something quick to eat before having to do something while she wants to go out for dinner even though I'm busy; or getting mad enough to throw things at me because I can't help her dry dishes at the current time. The thing is, it's not just her getting mad there are times I am getting mad too. We have both started our own fights over stupid things, and it results in us yelling at each other for an hour, her crying for half an hour, and then her telling me that she should never have moved in and wants to move out. \n\nWe do love each other (at least I do) and we try to reconcile it, but after a week we end up in the exact same spot. We are both full time university students, and I work full time her part time to pay the bills/rent. She does alot of the housework (almost all) and cooks on the weekdays while I cook on the weekends (the days we work, basically whoever is home first cooks supper). I would tend to think, based on our jobs only, that I tend to have a busier schedule and more stress, but we do have fairly equal levels over all. I'm running out of options on what I can try to do, and don't want to end this relationship, but I fear it is coming as we are both becoming less willing to help each other out, and more angry with each other while having a shorter temper overall. \n\nI'm asking the experts here if there are things they can suggest so we can try and stop these fights. I first thought it was additional stress from us moving in together causing friction, but now I don't know anymore. I really don't want to break up with her for so many other reasons, and the other 6 days of the week we get close again, but the one day during the weekend is driving us apart.\n\nThanks in advance, Jimmypickins.", "summary": "Girlfriend and me are arguing all the time and on the verge of breaking up, need help to fix the situation!"}
{"id": "t3_2hc2sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [20 F] be less emotionally dependent on my boyfriend [21 M]?", "post": "We're both in school and are quite busy. I've been having a lot of personal/family problems, and it's been stressing me out a lot since I have to take a lot of responsibility for them. As a result I've been doing worse in my classes, and I'm also becoming a bit depressed. I'm not always like this... usually I make him very happy. :/\n\nWhen I'm sad, I sometimes try to go to people other than my boyfriend, although I'm most comfortable being consoled by him. Also when I'm sad, I'm very very negative and usually do not mean the things that I say (typically it involves quite a bit of crying and negative self talk). I'm aware that it's not OK, but I've found it to be very difficult to control.\n\nI've attempted to not tell all of my problems to my boyfriend, but he can always tell if I'm feeling down and he always wants to help me. The problem is that when I need his help and positivity too much, it's very taxing on him and it makes him want to not see me for long periods. It hurts quite a bit, although I know I deserve it... given that I'm already not doing so well, I'm not dealing with it well at all.\n\nI really don't want to just NOT tell my boyfriend what's going on in my life. He doesn't want that either. He really wants to be there for me... I just want to figure out how to not max out his support. How could I avoid making him miserable along with me while still telling him what's happening to me? Any suggestions on how to get out of a super negative mindset when I'm down?", "summary": "I'm in a tough spot but I'm trying not to be so dependent on my boyfriend for emotional support. I want him to know what's happening, but I don't want to bring him down too. How do I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_36kubz", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Flying into Amsterdam with a friend on June 14th, and flying out of Berlin on June 30th. What do I do?", "post": "Hey!\n\nSo a friend and I are flying into Amsterdam, and then leaving on a flight out of Berlin. So minus airplane travel, that is like 13-14 days in between.\n\nI am trying to plan the trip now, but I feel a little overwhelmed, so I thought I'd ask all you guys. (Reddit is usually my google) I kind of want to try to plan some sort of trail that leads us to Berlin throughout that time, but also seeing amazing and beautiful things (specific I know).\n\nWe're two guys, both 21, and not afraid to rough it. I was thinking at looking at those help-ex sites and couch surfing. Cheaper the better, and I dont mind doing work to support my stay. A major thing we both love is nature, so I want to encompass those sights, but not miss out on the city too.\n\nSo, my question to you guys; any suggestions? Sights I need to see, things I need to do, things I shouldn't do? Great places to stay in, terrible places? Some sort of magical convenient trail that can show us awesome things on our way to Berlin? \n\nI know this is broad as all hell, but I feel like I am being dropped in the ocean and I have to navigate something. I've even drawn a map to help myself visually try to map it out. Still confused. So any thoughts, comments, ideas, anything, would make a huge difference.", "summary": "Have 14 days to get from Amsterdam to Berlin. What should I do along the way, within a good price range, and how do I make it there?"}
{"id": "t3_19lm8l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you convince someone who has rationalized an abusive relationship that there is no excuse for abuse?", "post": "This girl is a very close friend of mine, and I have no idea how to handle this situation or what to say to her.\n\nShe had been dating this guy for about 2 years before he started hitting her. She told me that she let him do it because he goes through tough stuff, and it helps him to feel better. Considering he is the only guy that she has ever dated, and is madly in love with him, it is hard to convince her otherwise. He has also cheated on her out of spite, which she has also rationalized. \n\nShe is not back with guy yet, but I'm afraid that she has already made her decision to go back to him soon. She claims that he is a great guy, and cares about her, but that he just goes through tough stuff. Has anyone had an experience like this in which they were able to make someone realize the toxicity of their relationship?\n\nObviously it is a very delicate situation, but I really would love to know what to say to her.", "summary": "Friend has rationalized getting beaten to herself."}
{"id": "t3_1xcqup", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M/F] with my girlfriend [18 M/F] of 8 months, She has chosen to take a friend to senior week over me", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have a long distance feel in our relationship. we only live about 30 min apart from each other but we both have school and after she works or one of us are competing in a sport. We really don't get to talk much or see each other because of our busy schedules.\n\nSo for the end of the year her and 4 friends are going to senior week at the beach. She had invited me because her friends had asked if i wanted to go too. So knowing that her friends were ok with me going she asked me and i said yes. Her friends that are going are all taking their boyfriends with too. With this said i was told there would be a possibility that i wouldn't be able to go because 10 people might be too many and they weren't sure what the limit was. I understood this.\n\nA little while later she was texting me during school and had asked me if i wanted to go to her house before she had softball practice after school. This was weird because we never tried to squeeze time in like this before. By the time i got there we only had like an hour or so together but i'll take whatever time i can with her because of the lack of seeing each other. In this time we talked and really had a good time with what we had, however, she had told me that I couldn't go to senior week, not because of the number of people, but because another friend was going to tag along now. This new friend doesn't have a boyfriend or anything so she is going with my girlfriend. By the way everything played out i feel that my girlfriend had invited her friend over me because all her other friends were ok with and looking forward to me going along.\n\nI don't know what to think about this situation.", "summary": "Girlfriend has pick a friend over me to go to senior week. What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_27c9s8", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "People I haven't spoken to in years expecting invites?", "post": "I feel like ever since we announced the engagement people who I haven't heard from in years, who have had no interest or involvement in my life for at least five or six years, are suddenly coming out of the woodwork and all excited/expecting an invite.\n\nLong story short, my mother's side and I don't get along. They are rude, insulting, controlling, and take 'jokes' WAY too far. Since I moved to a city nine hours away, they've never visited and I hadn't heard much (and I liked it that way). Now I have cousins texting me and posting on Facebook about how they can't wait for the wedding, and asking me about hotels in the area. My grandmother, who will be invited, is making plans to drive up with my aunts, who won't be. \n\nThese people didn't care when my brother or I graduated university, didn't care when my parents were divorcing and my brother and I needed support, and HAVEN'T EVEN MET MY FH. We've been dating three years. \n\nMy FH summed it up when I decided not to invite them: \"Anytime you've mentioned visiting them, it's never been \"Yeah I miss them we should go see them\", it's always \"Ugh, well let's see if we can get around that\".\"", "summary": "DAE have people they hadn't spoken to in YEARS (and don't even like!) suddenly expect invites?!"}
{"id": "t3_43120r", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "OTC canker sore(?) medicine, long white stick packaged in clear tube with red ends, tastes of sour acid", "post": "I originally posted this in the subreddit where you are supposed to post the things you forgot the names of. They told me I'm not allowed to ask my question there because there was a strong likelihood that I might one day use medicine and it's totes frowned upon to use medicine or mention a medicine or talk to anyone about medicine ever. Its like the stock market, we all know it exists but nobody can give you advice about it or they'll be hung. So anyway, here goes.\n\nI remember when I was a kid whenever I got a canker sore in my mouth my mom would pull out this clear tube with red ends on each side and she'd open it and she'd fish out a long white cylindrical\u2014medicine. It was shaped like a piece of chalk and the entire piece was the medicine, you put it against the sore in your mouth and it deadened it. if you accidentally tasted the part of your mouth that you medicated, it was almost like licking a 9 volt battery. Really awful. Maybe its no longer sold, maybe it was an off label use, maybe my mom was torturing me by rubbing white painted batteries in my mouth. Any help here?", "summary": "its medicine, its cylindrical. Not just the package, the medicine itself. You put it on sores. What is it? Am I allowed to see it again?"}
{"id": "t3_28zcu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't tell if my guy friend M(23) is being serious when he flirts with me. How do I F(21) talk to him about it?", "post": "I know that I'm 21 and should know how to approach these sort of things, but I unfortunately am a little bad at it!\n\nI've known my friend for about 6 months. He's always been playful/flirty, but it's in his nature. I'm working a seasonal job for the summer and have been gone for a month.\n\nA couple weeks before I left, I ended up falling asleep at his house during a movie. He asked if I wanted to sleepover, and I did. We ended up cuddling during the night, but we never talked about it. \n\nAfter that, he was more flirty. I figured now that I'm gone, that it would've died down. But he texts me often, tells me how much he misses me and that he wishes I was home. He calls me babe/jokes around about our marriage when we're talking to our mutual friends. I know that those are all OBVIOUS signs of flirting, but he's also a guy who jokes around a lot. \n\nHow can I talk to him about it? I do have feelings for him, but I don't want to get my hopes up if he's not being serious. I also don't want to freak him out by asking him if I'm reading into things too much. Should I wait until I get home?", "summary": "Guy friend flirts with me, don't know how to bring up whether he's being serious or not. What do you guys think is the best way?"}
{"id": "t3_2yobnx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing soccer shorts to the park", "post": "Didn't actually happen today but a couple of years ago.\nI'm a soccer player, and my team plays through the summer. One day after practice my friend texted me and asked if I wanted to chill at this park in our neighborhood. He also informed me that my crush at the time was going to be there. So I quickly replied yes, changed, and went to the park. Apparently I had accidentally forgotten to change out of my soccer shorts in my hurry (bad mistake). I got there and my friend, crush, and a few others that I knew from school were hanging out. I noticed my crush was swinging on some swings. There was an empty seat next to hers. I took the opportunity to chat with her for awhile and sat down. After a couple minutes of stale conversation, my friend decides he needs to make things interesting. Soooo being the total dbag that he is decides to spin me on the swing by twisting the chains until they were super tight and had A LOT of potential energy built up. And here's where it gets bad. He let's go of the chains and instantly the swing starts spinning uncontrollably. Apparently while he was spinning the chains, my shorts got caught in one of the links. The centrifugal force of the swing sent me flying back off of the swing and my shorts decided they wanted to stay a while longer. So there I was in my undies less than a foot away from the girl I liked covered in playground mulch from head to toe. I tried to get my shorts back on as soon as possible but it felt like an eternity. We all had our laughs but it was terribly embarrassing for me. It never did work out with that girl...", "summary": "swing set snatches my shorts and leaves me in my skivvies in front of my crush"}
{"id": "t3_1wpcjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23f] landlord keeps coming into my apartment unannounced.", "post": "Myself and my two roommates (both 19/f) have been living in our house for a little over a year now and we more or less have no problems with our landlord. Since the new year however she has been trying to rent the fourth room in our house so shes been coming over to our house almost every day/every other day unannounced coming down on us about keeping the house clean and not leaving any of our personal items out so it looks presentable when she does a viewing. The house isn't usually messy, just an example, I had a pair of socks near the kitchen table one day after I got off work and she came over a bit later and freaked out about it.\n\nWe don't normally have a problem with her coming over but there has been one too many days where either me or one of my roommates would be getting out of the shower or something only to find electricians or repair people in our house without our knowledge. That or being woken up at about 8/9 am and being kicked out of our own bedrooms so they can do work, again, without letting us know they are coming over in advance.\n\nMy roommates are losing their minds about it because we never know if someone is in our house while we are gone and considering how our landlord has been acting lately we really don't want her coming over without telling us first (yesterday one of my roommates came home to find her cleaning our bathroom and moving our things to make it \"presentable\". A few day prior to that she came over and started to go through our fridge asking who owned what food).\n\nDon't get me wrong, I like that she has people to come over to fix things and make sure the house is ok to live in but I don't think it's too much to ask give us some notice besides \"Hey, the electrician will be over in 10 minutes, be sure to let him in the house\". She's coming over tomorrow to collect rent and I'm really not sure how to approach this to her.", "summary": "Landlord keeps coming over unannounced with various repair people and it's making myself and my roommates uncomfortable in our own home."}
{"id": "t3_3l3e9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21M and 20F made a pot where we put money in for fun unsure how to handle it.", "post": "I have know this girl for about 3 to 4 years. We knew eachothers names but never really talked or interacted in the past. Now recently this has changed. Each time we see eachother we tease eachother and we often take selfies. Last friday she mentioned she was gonna go drink with her sister and niece. She soft asked me te come.\n\n I declined because I had to work on saturday and I am a horrible drunk. One day later she suggested we start a fund that we put money in at certain situations. (kind of like a fund where a kid has to put in a quarter when he swears) The amount is 1 Euro and I have enough money and think its gonna be fun. So I accepted. \n\nI checked and if I act normal it takes about 2 weeks before we can do something. She agreed we should spend it on something we will do together. Should I see this as a date? And how should I handle the fund? My plan was to be fair if it was my case and to be fair if she had to put it in. I could also be light about it if she slips up. And I got enough money to \"accidently\" slip up so I could also do that just to provoke reaction.", "summary": "Me and her have a fund we deposit money in for fun. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_4si9my", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my [30M] BF of 2 years - Need to break up, don't know how to go about it", "post": "I live with my BF, Rick.  We currently have 10 months left on our lease.  For various reasons, I've come to the conclusion that we need to break up.  The problem is, I have no idea how to go about it.  I've never really had to break up with anyone before, especially not someone I live with.  \n\nRick is frequently away on the weekends.  Do I tell him we're breaking up before he goes away for a weekend, then move out that weekend?  Do I move out while he's away for a weekend, then be there when he gets back to tell him we're breaking up?  Do I break up with him now, before I've found a new place to live?  I should mention that Rick is currently my boss, but I'm leaving my job at the end of next week.\n\nAnother problem is that I don't know how to handle the 10 months left on our lease.  I could possibly get family to help me cover two rents for a couple months while Rick finds a roommate to move in.  Our lease doesn't have anything in it about being broken early, and I'm nervous about emailing our landlord about breaking the lease before I told Rick I want to break up.\n\nSo....how do I do this?", "summary": "I need to break up with my BF but I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_1jtis9", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Work at home parenting", "post": "Parents of reddit, I feel like I'm on the edge.\nI apologize for the long post.\nI'm a work at home mom to a 5-year-old and a 2-year-old. I'm an artist and I'm freelance and I make things that have been custom ordered.  I have been doing this for 6 years. I love what I do and I have worked incredibly hard to get to this point.\n\nSomehow, in the past year or so, things in my home have shifted and  I find it unbelievably difficult to get work done. It seems like every time I try to work, it's \"Mom, I need a drink,\" or \"Mom, I want you to read me this book,\" or someone needs help in the bathroom or a fight breaks out or .... Now normally, I would do most of my work after the kids go to bed. Somehow the two-year old has been able to keep herself awake (after not napping) til 10:30 or 11:30 every night-- the last 2 hours of which, she screams and cries uncontrollably about not wanting to go to bed. Last night, she made herself so upset, she actually vomited all over the place.  In the mornings, the 5-year-old is early to rise (6 AM) and requires constant attention and encouragement to go about his day.  Every time I try to work, he hangs all over me, asking me to scratch his back or play toys with him or \"snuggle.\"\n\nI'm in danger of losing my business. I won't be able to make it through this holiday season with things like this. I've asked my husband to help but he works long hours and is never around. I don't know what to do. I've temporarily shut down my business in an attempt to get caught up.  Are there any other work at home parents who can please offer some sort of advice here?", "summary": "Work at home mom, can't get things done because kids are a nightmare. Help me?"}
{"id": "t3_v7dza", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Smooth operators of Reddit! When you have a date over and he/she sits down on the couch first, what do you do?", "post": "Alrighty Reddit, I wanted to lurk moar but I had this problem the other day and it makes me feel like the mayor of Awkwardtown.\nI'd been chatting with this girl I knew IRL but haven't hung out with just the two of us. Witty banter ensues, she's watching something on Netflix, I wanted to start watching it. Me: \"I'll have to start watching it, wanna join me?\" Her: \"Sure!\"\nI pick her up, she sits down on the couch, awkward strikes! Do I sit down right next to her so I can cuddle up and put on 'dem playa moves, do I leave like a slight space between us and not know how to initiate any sort of physical contact, is there a magical third option wherein success is guaranteed?", "summary": "Girl sits on couch. Sit right next to her, leave a space, or other?"}
{"id": "t3_1l6xta", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Just aced an interview and struggling with how and when to give resignation to current boss", "post": "A little background; I have been working for a small environmental consulting company for the past year and a half. They picked me up right after college and have basically taught me a wide range of industry-specific skills and knowledge. The job is great and my boss treats me well. The problem arises with compensation, I was promised a raise at 1 year and still have heard nothing, benefits are terrible, and I'm underpaid as it is due to the small company size. A couple months back our company was presented with a merger option, and my boss was very interested. Fast forward to two weeks ago, and come to find out the merger is more like only buying out the boss. This was a red flag IMO and I began a job search.\n\nYesterday I had a great interview with a national company which offers much better compensation, benefits, etc. They want a second interview to discuss employment options and have asked to contact my references (current boss). My dilemma arises because I am close with my current boss (have gone fishing, drinking, etc. outside work) and have learned many skills from him. He has had several employees do exactly what I'm about to do; use his knowledge and kindness as a stepping stone into the industry to make more $ and benefits.  I'm not sure when I should bring up my resignation/interest in moving on from the company. Ideally I want to wait until I get an offer (although the e-mail I received after the last interview alludes to an offer at the second interview) before I talk to my boss, but I might not get the offer without a reference. Any advice on how I should go about resigning/letting them down easy?", "summary": "my boss is a good guy, how to resign respectfully knowing that prior employees have made the same career move."}
{"id": "t3_3f49td", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] love my BF [29 M] of 4 years, but should we break up?", "post": "My BF found a great job in the south and we have been living down here for 4 months now. I like it okay, but I have been feeling really sad about missing out on being with my family and friends (and dogs!). This job has the potential to be a long running career for him and although the company does have multiple locations in multiple states I'm not sure they will ever be in the state my family is in. Which is a problem for me. \n\nI'm very much in love with him, and can see us getting married someday however I feel as though I'm at a crossroads, where if I commit to him its commiting to a life without my loved ones. And I have a really close relationship with my whole family. I knew I was moving to be with him but I didn't want it to be a long term commitment. I brought it up with him and he agreed that he isn't including me in his future plans but didn't seem to want to alter them. \n\nBefore we moved, it was loosely agreed that we would stay down here for a few years, he would chip away at his student loans while I either went back to school or found a job and saved up. Which sounded fine, but as of late he's been talking a lot about staying for the next 5 or even 10 years. And I'm not sure that's going to change....", "summary": "Should I stick it out with my BF in hopes that he will want to move back to our town someday or cut and run and stop wasting my time??"}
{"id": "t3_4uq0i0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] close friend admitted to me she was getting very close to my ex [25M], and I don't know how to cope.", "post": "Hi Reddit, \nI went through my first break up a little over a year ago, and I am still having a lot of trouble letting go. My ex and I were together for 6 years. He was my first boyfriend.\n\nA few days ago, a close friend of mine (who is also a mutual friend of my ex) told me that she had been seeing him a lot and hanging out with him alone. She admitted that she felt very guilty since I am one of her closest friends. She said she thought I had moved on and was happy, but I told her that I am still not over him. I am very glad she told me, and I told her to not feel bad about it. I want the best for my friends and I want my ex to be happy. I believe that if two people get along really well and really like each other, then there is no reason for them not to spend time with each other. (I don't really believe in \"girl code\" or \"bro code\"). And I don't want to lose a friend over it. \n\nHow do I cope with this? I don't want to discontinue our friendship nor do I want to get in the way of her and my ex.", "summary": "My friend and my ex are beginning to get very close; and I don't know how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_2kg4m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 18 months, keeps treating me like the bad parent", "post": "My boyfriend and I communicate well, I like to think. If something has been bothering us, we will openly discuss it and try to improve the situation. We both don't have issues in backing down or admitting that we are wrong (he struggles slightly as he is Italian). \n\nHowever, since he has been staying at my house regularly it has been getting a little tough. We are both house sitting my parents house, I work full time and he is still at university. Lately, he keeps calling me in front of his friends asking me if they can come over. I have no problem if he wants to socialise outside of the house, or on the weekend. But, I don't particularly want to have boys at my house after a full day of work (sometimes 13 hour days). It puts me in an awkward position because I instantly look like the bad parent if I say no, I am not comfortable. It is lose-lose for me. \n\nI have had this discussion with him, and he agreed to give me more notice and respect the fact that we have conflicting socialising schedules. Unfortunately, it hasn't continued and I am a bit lost. Particularly today, I am unwell and now having to share my relatively small house with very loud boys. I feel guilty, like I am mothering him or am acting like a crazy girlfriend (I have a huge fear of this) - what do you guys reckon I should do?", "summary": "my boyfriend keeps putting me in awkward positions in front of his friends, and making me feel uncomfortable in my own home."}
{"id": "t3_2sebt1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am quickly beginning to lose my patience with my Mother [45F] and Sister [20F]", "post": "First post, sorry for any fuck ups. Ok, I'm a 16 year old kid and I live with my mother and my sister and for the last 3-4 months I've began to enjoy my home life less and less.\n\n Don't get me wrong, there's by no means any abuse or anything like that but my family are constantly talking (to me and behind my back) about how much I'm a failure, and I'm not going to achieve anything in life.\n\nFor example I've wanted to get into a trade (thinking sparky) for about 6 months now, about a month ago she got my report card in the mail (less than good) and absolutely freaked out, stormed into my room at 7 in the morning and told me she was pulling me out of school because I was \"too fucking dumb\" to go anymore, and also told me that I was to much of a lazy prick to get a trade so I'd have to go work a retail job for the rest of my life (No).\n\nBut then, when I began calling some companies about starting an apprenticeship she told me there was no way in hell I was dropping out and I was staying until year 12.\n\nIt's gotten to the point where I don't enjoy talking to them, I recently started dating a girl (first girlfriend) and my sister and mother laughed, told me that I was going to realise sex is nothing like porn and that she would leave me. \n\nAnd so much other shit that would take me hours to write, I love my family, but I don't think I like them and I'm worried that I'm going to say something very stupid very soon.", "summary": "my family doesn't talk to me anymore, they just tell me I'm a shitty person and I'm at the end of my rope."}
{"id": "t3_52c10o", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Looking for screenshots of text break-ups.", "post": "Hi there! I'm the co-creator of something called No Text Weekend (NoTextWeekend.com), which is looking at how texting specifically has changed the way we communicate. There's an online pledge to talk instead of text, and the weekend itself is September 23-25 and is accompanied by an event series in NYC including comedy, storytelling, wellness, music, etc. \n\nMy co-creator and I are creating an hour-long show called \"How To Break Up By Text\" (*not* that we think you should; that's just the title), and we're looking for screenshots of REAL text break-ups. These don't need to be funny or anything; we're just fascinated by how texting has changed society and the fact that people now break up by text. (We've got our own screenshots to share, too...) We're not entirely sure how the show will work yet, but we're hoping it will be both funny and poignant, and get pretty interactive at some point (e.g. break up with the person next to you). \n\nAnyway, if you feel comfortable submitting a screenshot below, please do. We'll keep everything anonymous. Thank you.", "summary": "SEEKING SCREENSHOTS OF TEXT BREAK-UPS!"}
{"id": "t3_4x7005", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am really worried about my sister's [21F] decision to stay with her boyfriend [25M]", "post": "My sister told me a few days ago that her boyfriend lied to her about having herpes. He said he was clean when she asked upfront, and then admitted later that he had herpes but was \"too scared to lose her\" if he told her. \n\nI don't really need to provide more evidence of his manipulative and unbelievable behaviour, but beyond that he's constantly talking about how \"vulnerable\" he's being with her and has said, and I quote, that he would \"lose his life\" if he lost her..??? They've been together for less than a month. He's being a manipulative and insane piece of shit and I'm really scared that she doesn't seem to care. \n\nI've told her exactly what my opinions are, and she respectfully told me to \"stop bashing her boyfriend\". There's no getting through to her and I don't want to distance her or alienate her because I don't know what this guy is going to do and I care about her so much. \n\nWhat should I do? Right now I'm just keeping quiet and staying out of it but if there's anything you guys can suggest that would be really helpful. Or maybe you'll tell me she's an adult who had made her own decisions, which is pretty much what I've been trying to remind myself lately even though that leaves me concerned and with no way to help.", "summary": "my sister's boyfriend is a manipulative creep and I really want to help her see it because it's not healthy and I care about her."}
{"id": "t3_4xt468", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by locking the cat out of the kitchen", "post": "Mandatory happened on Sunday afternoon. \n\nI was cooking pasta, the stove top was hot with the pasta boiling away and the cat we are currently looking after was getting too curious for his own good. \n\nAfter several attempts of jumping onto the stove top to suss out where the food smell was coming from, I picked him up and put him in the room next door, and shut the door. \n\nI guess he wanted back in badly because all I could hear were nails digging into the carpet beneath the door. Eventually the sound ceased, I had finished cooking and after restoring all the culinary supplies I went to open the door to release the cat. \n\nExcept that the door wouldn't open. The cat had pulled the carpet from the edges and jammed the door shut.\nI called my SO and had him come from his classes to unlock me from the kitchen three hours later. \nI've spent the last few hours re-attaching the carpet to the edge tacks. Any tips to get it all smoothed out before our house inspection on Wednesday would be appreciated!", "summary": "Cat rips up carpet, jams the kitchen door, awaited the arrival of SO to free me. Praying that I'll keep my bond."}
{"id": "t3_15460l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my marriage over?", "post": "So my wife (24f) and I (21m) have been married just under 2 years. We have a son who is 11 months old. We had an argument last night because her parents are coming to my house on Christmas morning to watch our son open his gifts. I wasn't even asked if this was ok and I was only told last night. I told my wife that I wanted it just to be us and our son on Christmas morning because I want it too be special as it is his first christmas. She got mad but didn't talk to me she just spoke to her parents saying that I'm a dick. So today her dad phones her and I can hear him shouting and swearing down the phone and I just lost it and I punched a hole in a door. Then my wife freaks out and leaves with our son. So I calmed myself down and kept myself busy by cleaning. The police then arrived at my door and spoke to me and asked me to get my wifes phone and some clothes. They said that she is staying somewhere else tonight (her parents most likely) I have not spoke to her since. What do I do? what's going to happen? What will I do if its all over? Please. I need advice.", "summary": "I got angry over argument and punched a door and my wife freaked out and left with my son"}
{"id": "t3_36xwd9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To pursue my (22M) old highschool crush? (22F)", "post": "So here's my story:\n\nI'm not a very outgoing person, but I was even less so in high school.  I never had a lot of friends, never kissed a girl or went on a date.  I've never even asked.\n\nIn grade 12, I developed the worse crush ever on one of my classmates.  This was someone I hadn't thought about romantically until an errant comment a long time after I met her.   Unfortunately it was almost the end of the school year when this struck.  We had a lot classes together and we were friendly with each other, but I had a special way of alienating people.  On top of that, she was going off to university and I was chilling around without any sort of direction.  I likely could have taken her to prom and a small part of me was telling me that she wanted me to ask, but another part of me knew it would be horribly awkward given my antisocial tendencies.\n\nNow it's been 4 years and I've figured some stuff out.  I have become a bit more social. I'm still yet to have any romantic entanglements.   I'm almost done my degree and doing well.  From what I can tell though, she's doing better. \n\nWe're friends on facebook.  I chatted with her briefly a year ago. We'll say happy birthday to each other.\n\nI've creeped her profile enough to be reasonably sure she doesn't and hasn't had a boyfriend (but there's a vibe that she's not particularly interested in having one).  I think we share some things in common, although I don't know how much chemistry there would be.  Then there's the issue of distance as we'll both likely pursue grad studies.\n\nI still really want her.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Shy guy looking for advice on connecting with a high school crush... or whether this is simply awful idea?"}
{"id": "t3_2onlen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) am embarrassed by my LDR boyfriend (20'sM)", "post": "We don't have the most perfect relationship, because of the issues we had in past and especially this being both of each other's first relationship. But we have overall a good relationship and we love each other very much. \n\nSo we started off as LDR and it will be LDR for some time as it seems. When we meet in real life, he is the most kind, gentle, mature guy ever. Basically the perfect guy. But recent months when we are far away some of his actions has getting on my nerves pretty pretty bad.\n\nWe play video games all the time, competitive Counter-Strike. He is sort of pro player, and is the highest rank available. Me, I don't have much skills, but I love the game because of my competitive nature. So when we play together, all other players are lower rank than him, very lower. This creates a problem. He is shouting at people, at me whenever we make mistakes. He makes people regret playing with us. I regret sometimes too. Then there is \"trolling\", he swears at people, he calls every game we lose \"OMG cheaters\", usually writing very mean stuff to them and very freaking childish. He often argues with people over video games, in the game. I tell him whenever someone writes something offensive \"love please don't respond please if you love me\" but he is like \"OMG come on I love trolling people!\" \n\nWe had group of friends that we played with. We lost two of them, due to his behavior. Then we got a steady three other people. Recently two removed him and me, solely because of his behavior, after he shouted at the whole team specially at me for not telling him where we died. I am so embarrassed but whatever I say he gets so offensive. I don't want to leave him but recently I have lost all the good image of him.", "summary": "boyfriend turns into a 13 year old when we play video games. I am ashamed by him and lost many gaming friends because of his behavior but he doesn't cares about other people."}
{"id": "t3_3ffn67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] have problems with my girlfriend [23 F] (dating for 8 months), getting blackout drunk and passing out at guys house", "post": "My girlfriend went out of state with some family for a wedding. She ended up seeing an old friend of hers. Backtrack a year ago: I've seen this guy try to sleep with her before, even when we were talking. We weren't technically dating yet and she never told him we were talking when we hung out that night. She was on his lap, saying she wanted to get off but didn't want to make him mad. It made me mad. That's another night, but still important.\n\nI know he wants to sleep with her. My gf says he knows we're dating (it's on fb and plus we've been dating for 8 months) and he wouldn't do that. But the thing is, I know he's liked her for awhile and probably thought this was his chance.\n\nShe verbatim got \"blackout drunk\" that night. I got a voicemail from her and in it I can hear how intoxicated she is. She said she went bar hopping with him through the night and ended up not back at her hotel but crashing on his couch. This bothers the everliving shit out of me. She didn't say she was sorry until a couple times laying out how it looks bad. Before saying sorry, she said \"what, you think that he raped me or something?\"\n\nI don't know what to think. I don't want to be the jealous boyfriend, she doesn't want to be the jealous girlfriend. When i layed out the hypothetical of if she would get mad if I got blackout drunk and passed out at a girls house my girlfriend knows wants to sleep with me. She said she woudn't. But yet I've seen my girlfriend get mad at me for being flirty to a waitress once when I was just trying to be nice and remember her name cause. We're still going back and forth about this over messages. We won't be able to talk about it til she gets back in town Monday.", "summary": "Gf got blackout drunk and passed out at guys house who has tried to sleep with her in the past"}
{"id": "t3_2l54sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M], a straight male, am in love with my best friend [22/M]. Now I have no clue where to go from here.", "post": "I met him in college and we quickly became best friends. Pretty cool, right? We do everything together and I think about him always. He makes me feel incredibly happy like no one else can. Not uncommon for best friends. A few months ago,  he found himself a girlfriend and I thought it was great and I was happy for him...until I got home and was incredibly upset by the fact that she has him and I don't. I actually felt jealous of her when they held hands or kissed. \n\nI sincerely started to feel worry around this point because I identify as a straight male, but for some reason I can't stop feeling these emotions towards my best friend.  Eventually he and his girlfriend broke up and I felt...relieved. The next few nights he stayed at my place and drank a lot. While he was passed out on the couch, I silently held his hand and kissed him while he slept. Disgusted by what just happened, I just cut off communication for two weeks hoping to get over myself and him. \n\nBut I didn't.  I just missed him more and more and I almost started crying when I saw him again. At this point I've started to realize that I have romantic feelings towards him and I feel ashamed and sick.\n\nThis is incredibly fucked. For both of us. I don't know how to approach this.\n \n\n.", "summary": "Best friend of four years, and suddenly our bromance has turned into  one way romance that he can't know about"}
{"id": "t3_2jr9ln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my friend [22 F], how do I tell her I think she's in an abusive relationship?", "post": "Two years ago, my friend Trish went to a foreign country to study abroad. There, she met a guy, Frank, and they hit it off. \nNow, she's back in the foreign country for a year-long research program and is seeing the guy again. \n\nI think he's bad news.\n\nLast week my boyfriend sent Trish messages on facebook asking how she's enjoying the foreign country. He also asked her for help editing a short paper, since she's good at it (and he's not). She happily helped him, and everything was fine. \n\nExcept, that it wasn't. Two days later, Trish has deleted her facebook account and created a new one. She won't add any males as friends. \n\nMy boyfriend asked another mutual friend what was up, and the answer came back that Trish's boyfriend saw the facebook messages and became angry--so she deleted the account and made a new one with only girls as friends. \n\nMy boyfriend sent Frank a message explaining that they're only friends--and have been for a long time. He basically said \"chill out. Learn to trust her, but since you don't, you obviously have her fb messages and can read through them to see that I'm telling the truth.\" \nFrank replied saying that he was Trish's boyfriend, and that she shouldn't talk to any guy except him. \n\nHow can I explain this to her? The only way I can contact her is through the new facebook account--which I'm sure Frank monitors. I know Trish lives with Frank and his family in the foreign country--and I don't know that she has enough to move out. Beyond that, she seems happy with him. \n\nI just feel that it's extremely creepy and weird that Frank won't let her talk to her male friends back home.", "summary": "My friend recently moved to a foreign country. Her boyfriend refuses to let her contact her male friends. How do I express my concerns, especially when I'm certain her boyfriend can read the one form of communication I have with her?"}
{"id": "t3_11bndi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I call him out?", "post": "Okay, I'm a 22F about 7 months ago I met this guy (24M) on OKC. We chatted for about a week, exchanged numbers, and then texted for another week. We went on a date and totally hit it off. We hung out a couple more times then on the third date, I spent the night and he had mind blowing, freaky, fun, great sex. The only issue we had was the fact we lived about an hour and 15 minutes away from each other. Well, we sext all the time (I'm talking hot erotic novel type shit) and we've hung out on more occasions and then recently I've gotten super busy with work...Well. Today I was on FB and this picture pops up of him and some other girl. I totally forgot he has a FB cause he was never on it. I go to his profile...turns out he's been dating this girl since February. He never mentioned anything to me about her and he's been hitting me up like crazy to hang out again soon on top of him texting me everyday already...so reddit, what should I do? Call him out or let it ride? Or be the bigger person and end it all...", "summary": "Met a guy who I've been texting, sexting, going on dates with, and banging for 7 months and just found out he's had a GF since February. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1yoddw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M 26) with SO (F 25) for half a year; feels like something missing in life", "post": "Not sure if this is the right subreddit for this but most people seem nice here with some thoughtful responses.\n\nI've been feeling really empty and feels like I am not really living life to the fullest. I am not sure if I am just being un-appreciative of what I have. I guess one of my question to reddit is what makes you happy/fulfilled in life?\n\nSome background: I am a 26M living alone in a metropolitan city. I have a job that keeps me busy for 50-60 hours a week and pays enough to cover my expenses with some savings. I see my SO (F25) once or twice a week and we go out for dinner/movie/gatherings. I am a fairly ordinary guy - play the occasional video games, watch the usual TV shows, get drunk every now and then.\n\nI just don't feel like I am living my life to the fullest. I don't really feel head over heels for my SO. I feel meh about my job. Everythings just kinda meh. Am I just being an ungrateful 20something? \n\nWhat should I be looking for in life to find more fulfillment? Redditors what gives you meaning to your life? What was something you had in your 20s that you wish you appreciated more?", "summary": "Have all the essentials in life but life feels like something is missing."}
{"id": "t3_1xf7jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] am having issues with a college classmate [20M]", "post": "Using a throwaway account because a couple of my classmates are redditors.\n\nWithout going into too much detail about the class, I'll just say that the program I'm in is healthcare related, and class sessions are frequent. Furthermore, the class size is very small, and many of my classmates I already know from the previous semester.\n\nI'm having an issue with a particular classmate. For the most part he [20M] and I get along just fine. However, I've come to the realization that he only calls/text when he need something. The most irritating part is all the things he needs help with are things he should be able to figure out on his own. I, and the rest of my class, are able to do it, but he can't. At one point, he even asked me to help him cheat in another class, but I told him to piss off.\n\nI'm trying to remain civil because we're going to be with each other throughout this program, but it's getting harder not to give him a piece of my mind. I'm definitely OK with helping out a friend, but I don't consider him one, and if we weren't in class together, I wouldn't talk to the guy. I made the mistake of helping him before, and now he thinks he can come to me all the time. He's also the kind of person that asks for help and then argues about your advice. How does Reddit deal with these kinds of people?", "summary": "Classmate I see all the time comes to me asking for help, realized that's the only reason why he talks to me, tired of being used, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_upb7s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What strange rules did your parents/family have growing up?", "post": "I'll start - when I lived about an hour out of town between when I was 8 and 16, we had a few cats and dogs (also birds, guinea pigs, chickens, horses, ponies and ducks) and the jobs for feeding our cats and dogs was rostered around between us three kids. Being a property, our recycling bin was located near the garage, which was no where near the house. It was joined to the house by a pathway maybe 25meters long and I can tell you, as an imaginative 10 year old in the dark, that was the longest walk in the universe. \n\nIt became a habit that when nearing the end of a tin of dog or cat food my brothers and I would 'test' how little we could leave in the can to avoid the walk of doom to the garage and shunting the responsibility (and resulting terror) onto the next sibling.\n\nOur parents quickly caught wind of this when complaints of 'ridiculous amounts' were found in the tin each night and as a result, a strict ban on 'ridiculous amounts left in the tin' (later defined as an inch), which became severely punishable.", "summary": "the once innocent term 'ridiculous amount' quickly became associated with extra chores and grounding from the computer in my household."}
{"id": "t3_25wmie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22 F] make my mom understand why I shouldn't have a graduation party", "post": "Before people start calling me entitled or whatever, just let me explain. I am grateful she wants to do it, but I just don't like parties, especially when they're for me. But that's not even what I told her (that would be a whole other argument).\n\nI told her I don't want a party mainly because it would be weird and awkward. There are basically 3 groups of people I would invite: family friends, high school friends, and college friends. No one really knows anyone in a different group. I have some family friends who would come, it would be mostly adults. I'm still good friends with two people from high school. One would come and so would her family since I'm close with all of them. The other would try to come, but is normally crazy busy. The main issue is with my college friends. Very few live near me (I went to an out of state private school) and of those that do, only one will be in area over the summer. Most will be doing internships or research in so many other places.\n\nWhenever my mom brings this up I ask who I would invite besides family friends and the two people from high school I still talk to. Her response is my college friends. I give her the exact same explanation I gave up. She kind of grunts and drops it until she feels like bringing it up again. She's also started to make not so subtle comments about it. For example, I was saying how my high school teacher (he was my coach and I still visit him at school every few months) said I need to put more stuff on facebook because that's how he keeps track of all of us. My mom's response was \"well when you visit him you can tell him he would be invited to your graduation party if you had one\".\n\nAny advice on how I can get her to just drop this? It would just be awkward and not fun.", "summary": "Mom keeps insisting I have a graduation party even though it would be awkward because most of my friends are all over the place so I don't have many people to invite."}
{"id": "t3_3zr04b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Close friend [19M] having issues with another friend (I don't know them well)", "post": "Less than a year ago, I (27/F) met someone who has quickly become one of my best friends.  He (19/M, who I will refer to as \"Friend A\") and I met online through a common interest.  As such, I have been able to join a wonderful community that I love spending time with.\n\nFriend A is close to another member of the group.  This friend (Friend B, who I am not particularly close to and don't know very well) suffers severe bouts of depression.  I'm not sure if they are seeking professional help for it, but Friend A suffers the same thing and I know for a fact that he IS receiving help every week.\n\nFriend B has a tendency to lash out when people aren't paying attention to them.  To the point of apologizing and saying things like \"I'm going away forever now, goodbye.\"  I've witnessed this on several occasions and frankly, it scares me, though I know there's nothing I can really do for them, I don't even know their name.  Friend A is substantially closer to Friend B, and recognizes a lot of their behavior from things in his own, fairly recent past (shortly before we met).\n\nAs a result, Friend B will directly contact Friend A and INDIRECTLY blame him for their depression, saying things like \"I really need this, why can't you do this for me?\" and expecting him to step up at least several times a day.  This is very emotionally draining for Friend A.\n\nHaving been in manipulative friendships myself, I'm seeing this behavior from Friend B, and all I can see is them trying to control Friend A in some way and I am NOT a fan.  Thing is, I don't know what I can do to help Friend A.  I really don't think they should be friends, and I especially hate seeing Friend A go through emotional turmoil for simply not responding to a post once in a while.\n\nI don't know how to approach my friend without coming off sounding manipulative myself.  I am genuinely concerned for Friend A because he means a lot to me, but at the same time, I understand where he's coming from and know just how touchy the whole situation can be.", "summary": "Very close friend is in (what I think is) a manipulative and emotionally abusive relationship and I don't know what to do.  Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_3omo4d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by printing off my resume", "post": "Work has started laying people off and my sales are not too hot. Had a recruiter reach out so I might as well interview, right? Well, I don't own a printer and printed off a few resumes...here is where the fuck up happened...\n\nI am interviewing with 4 people and printed off 5 resumes. Get back to my desk and realize I only had four copies in hand.  I walk over to the printer and one of the managers is at the printer and says \"hmmm \"dumbassresume\" I think you left this here.\"\n\nHe then takes it and folds it up and puts it inside of his suit jacket. I told him to take good care of it. \n\nHe is not my manager--but my manager and him share the same boss. I think he is either fucking with me or is going to let his boss or my manager know. Either way, I guess honesty is the best policy and will bring up something about scared job security. \n\nCan't believe I did this.", "summary": "Dumbass leaves resumes in printer, company likely will leave me now."}
{"id": "t3_2cuevv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spilling 10,000 pills on the ground", "post": "So I work at a long term care pharmacy.  We package pills and send them to nursing homes which then distribute the drugs to the elderly.  Whenever one of our patients dies, their drugs are sent back to the pharmacy to be destroyed.  My job for the day was to go through all of the sent-back drugs and dump the pills into a bucket for annihilation.  I would then throw away the bottles and that would be that.\n\nSo this is my first time doing the task, and I was really enjoying it.  All of the pills had different shapes and colors, which made for a pretty cool medicinal stew.  Any (legal) drug you can think of was in this bucket.  Fish oil?  Sure.  Aspirin?  Why not.  Once I finished emptying all of the bottles into this bucket, I had to transport said bucket into the shipping room and place the pills into a bin to be shipped for destruction.  The delivery room is a good 200 feet away from my work station, with plenty of blind corners and things to trip on.  After assessing the situation, I picked up the bucket full of pills and started on my way.\n\nThinking back, putting a cover on the tote full of pills would have been a smart move, but I suppose that is why I am assigned the random tasks around the pharmacy.  As I was about halfway to the delivery room, one of the more heavyset pharmacists rounds the corner with a bunch of boxes in her arms.  She can't see me, and I have no catlike reflexes.  We collide, she drops a few boxes, but I drop all of the pills.  Pills on the floor, pills in my hair, pills everywhere.  And so begins the tedious process of picking each pill up (some blend in to the red carpet, will never be found again).", "summary": "I work at a pharmacy, spilled pills everywhere,  floor is now pill potpourri."}
{"id": "t3_3ccvdx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] feel very unwanted by my [20M] boyfriend, resulting in me feeing insecure. Advice needed", "post": "We've been together for over a year now and I feel very insecure and bad about myself from him liking suggestive photos of girls he's had a past with while being in a relationship with me. He has also liked photos of many half naked girls on instagram and followed many. \n\nNone of these girls look like me. It's not like a type thing. I feel like he isn't attracted to me at all. \n\nIt has made me feel really insecure, which was already slightly there. I have recently spoken to him about how this made me feel. He did apologies however it still comes into my head at times. \n\nI've always been really scared he might one day cheat on me and it is my biggest fear. I can't keep bringing it up that it upsets me still. He might get sick of hearing it, and then never listen to things like that again.\n\nI feel really bad about myself, as if I'm really not good enough. I feel like the insecurity is with me, like it's my problem with my outlook on myself. He is a human, he can look at other people. There's not much I can do to stop that.\n\nI'm slightly embarrassed that his friends would have seen him like photos of this girl he has had a past with while with me. All his friends back home know this girl (he's away at university, where I met him). \n\nI don't know if I'm just taking it too personally. There are other factors that slightly impact this. We don't have sex very frequently. Not as much as I would like. The majority of time I am rejected; hes too tired, not in the mood or it's the wrong time. \n\nI feel like hes really unattracted to me and that he doesn't want me, resulting in me feeling bad about myself and the way I look. \n\nI have spoken to him about everything but I still feel like this and I just need a bit of advice as to stop feeling like this or if I am just overreacting and taking it far too personally.", "summary": "I don't think my boyfriend is that attracted to me, but is to other girls, feeling insecure and bad about myself"}
{"id": "t3_4rgd6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [24 M] have been hooking up with my brothers girlfriends sister [20F] off and on for about half a year now and it's causing problems...", "post": "Okay so for about a year now my brother has been dating this girl Shay super cool chick we're pretty good friends, she has a younger sister named Allison also super cool.\n\nAllison and I have always been flirtatious around each other since we met. About six months ago she had broken up with her girlfriend and moved in with my brother, his gf, and I for about two months. \n\nAllison and I got really close within the time she moved in, about two weeks within her staying with us we ended up hooking up. We tried to become an item, her sister Shay really didn't like that idea due to the possibility of it causeing problems within her relationship with my brother. \n\nThings all hit the fan once I had told Shay that her sister And I wanted to be together, her mother, sister, and Allison were all fighting and it caused problems with Allison and I. The entire situation was tearing apart Allison's and Shays relationship, we had a really bad fight about it and stopped talking. The fighting was about the drama things would bring if things didn't work out between Allison and I.\n\nFast forward a couple months Allison and I start talking again and ended up making out a couple of times. We decided to not go further with things because we have been down this road before so we stopped. I had told my brother what happened and he recommended that I told Shay due to the fact that hiding it caused a lot of problems last time. \n\nI Told Shay everything that happened. I had told her that Allison and I are just going to be friends and that we respected them to not persue our relationship.\nYeah that was a mistake same thing all over again.\n\nNow everyone is upset with me because I opened my mouth. I really don't know what to do from here and I really don't want to lose Allison but I know I might...", "summary": "I've been hooking up with my brothers girlfriends sister and things hit the fan and now everyone is upset with me and I need advice on what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_1wrz8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Struggling with my own [f/24] mental paranoia...and it's affecting my relationships. Especially with my boyfriend [m/25]", "post": "Lately, I've been dealing with extreme paranoia. Not just with my relationship with my boyfriend, but with my friends and everyone around me. Someone says something, and there is a trigger that goes off in my brain and makes me think that they are either setting me up, or that they don't like me, or are distancing me from them.\n\nSpecifically using my boyfriend as an example, if we are talking, and I say something that I question how he'll feel about it, and then he suddenly stops talking, I immediately think that I've pissed him off or that he's mad at me. Even if he just stopped responding to use the bathroom or something.\n\nMy best female friend [26] has told me multiple times to stop being so paranoid when I do this with her, but I can't help it. It's like I think that everyone hates me or is going to leave me...this leads me to a realization I came to today.\n\nI noticed that my paranoia about people being mad at me, or setting me up for failure, is directly related to when I have something on the line that I do not want to lose. For example, at work, I am going to be applying for a management position. When I was asked by a co worker  (who is currently a manager) if I was going to apply, I said I was thinking about it. He responded and told me that he thought that I should and that you \"never know what could happen.\" \n\nAt first, I took this as a compliment, and then I remembered the bulliten at work we have posted that specifically said \"do not talk about the applicants or application process with co workers.\" I immediately got paranoid that it was a set up, and that he would tell the head managers that I had said something about it at work, and that this manager had baited me into being nixed from the applicants.\n\nI just don't know what is causing all my paranoia or how to fix it.", "summary": "I always get paranoid that I have upset people, or that people are out to sabotage me when I have something I love/care about. I don't know what's causing it, or how to get rid of it. What do all of you suggest to help me stop being paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_2e1l4p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting water where the oil is supposed to go in a car", "post": "As with many things, this fuckup happened when I assumed too many things. Earlier today I get a call from my sister, and I hear that her car overheated and that she is parked along he side of the road. No biggie, I'll just bring 2 gallons of water along with me, and we can refill the radiator back up and we will be on our way. So I go over to where she is parked, and I remove the cap that I assumed was the cap for the radiator. The text was really faded on the cap and I didn't really see any other caps around the inside hood of the car, so in my mind I was like \"Oh! This must be where the water goes!\" even though there DISTINCTLY is a picture on the top that tells that it is for oil. So I proceed to pour in two gallons of water into the hole, we start up the car up, the car turns on, and go on our merry way. Not two minutes away from her house her car begins to smoke, and in my mind I'm thinking \"Oh fuck it must have overheated.\" Well, I think about it for a little bit and start to put two and two together, and come to find out I poured two whole gallons of water into the oil reserve in her car. *Poof* Just like that, her car was totaled. Engine fried, car turned into a giant useless brick, and forever I will be known in the family as the dumbass who put water into the oil reserve. I'm going to cover the expenses of getting her a new car, but I will forever be known in the family as the dumbass who fucked up the simplest thing possible on a car.", "summary": "Put water in the oil reserve, totaled the car."}
{"id": "t3_4wu3ki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] and my boyfriend [19 M] broke up after a year of long distance because he \"needed new experiences\"", "post": "We were together for a year and six months. We went to different colleges after graduating high school, we made the distance work but we were both miserable at our respective universities. We both chose to transfer to schools in our home state, only an hour from each other. He ended things about a month ago, the night before I was supposed to be his date to a wedding because he still loves me, but \"needs new experiences\" and it's left me feeling inadequate and hurt. Really hurt. I don't know what to do. He is living with my two best friends from high school this fall. I miss him and want him back but I don't know how to go about doing anything anymore. I feel incomplete without him in my life. I love him.", "summary": "He \"needed new experiences\" and I want him back because I miss him. Is he being immature?"}
{"id": "t3_2e0qfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M] Frustrated- what's up with getting/having friends?", "post": "I'm a fairly introverted person. I mean, I really like talking to people and am extremely energetic, positive, somewhat quirky or whatever, but I do like my solitude and need it after being around people for long.\n\nAnyway, I'm just frustrated, because I haven't really had any meaningful friendships in... well, hmm... ever, maybe even. I mean, I just kind of have friends that *drink with me* occasionally, and I don't even like drinking!. None of my friends really seem to care at all whether I exist or not, and most of the time just ignore me when we're out, or at most, \"playfully\" make fun of me etc. There's never any kind of actual conversation where either side gets to really express theirself, which is stupid.\n\nI'm really confident and happy with myself, empathetic and always try to strike conversation that might make the other person feel like they're interested in. I smile a LOT, and am mostly always really enthusiastic (they call me weird though haha) about things, so it's weird. (Wow it sounds self-entitled and egotistic to say these things, but really, I'm not arrogant, I swear ;D People should be allowed to say what they like about themselves haha.)\n\nSo, uh, am I just supposed to assume most friendships are really unfulfilling and nonexistent, and that maybe someday there'll suddenly be interesting people that also somehow get involved in my life? Even all my internet friends are like acquintances. I don't think they like talking to me.\n\nIt's just really frustrating; no matter how I am enthusiastic, friendly, considerate or whatever, no one really seems to give a damn. It's like they don't react at all to my words and personality. I'm more just numb than sad about these things, so I try to ignore it and assume some people will like me, haha.", "summary": "I don't get what I'm supposed to do, wait? I don't really have FRIENDS and don't see myself meeting any new ones anytime soon. How do you, even? (also, sorry, this was more of a rant than a question, but it beats talking to myself instrospectively constantly haha /self-deprecating-laughter)"}
{"id": "t3_2kmsqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F], my roommate is making vicious and rude statements, and is doing things that don't make sense.", "post": "I am going to make this a short as I can. I have been living in a house with one other woman, and my boyfriend, we are all on the lease.\n\nDiane- that's what we'll call her has said weird things, that are kind of rude and out of place such as; \n\n* Your cat has horrible dandriff, you need to give him a bath\n\n* She says my SO doesn't spend enough time with our cat- which is false he absolutely adores our cat\n\n* She is convinced our cat has flees even though he isn't an outdoor cat, and we give him flee meds to make sure he doesn't get them (she says she has flees whenever he gives himself a bath) \n\n* Our roommate will take dishes out of the dishwasher and put them on our side of the sink, and claim we didn't clean the dishes properly, and most the time they are dishes we have never used\n\n* She will listen to t.v super loud until 3-4 in the morning, and I can hear it through our walls. \n\n* She will vacuum at 6 in the morning every other day while we are trying to sleep\n\n* Diane has accused me of breaking things which I didn't\n\n* She accused me of using her laundry soap (I didn't), and bullied me into giving her $20 because she said she \"didn't have change\" and I rarley have bills smaller then $20 bills. \n\nI have only confronted her once about her behavior, and she continues to get worse and say ruder and ruder things. \n\nShe also harassed my SO about the power bill being $30 this month, and said when she lived on her own, her power bill was never over $10.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3ar01h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my Girlfreind [20 F] of 1 year, sexual values difference. Help?!", "post": "Typo in the header: her age is 25.\nMy gf has had 4x the number of intimate partners (that I know of) than mine (2). I feel that she says I love you and moves into those intimate spaces much more quickly and easily than I do. I only sleep with people I am thoroughly committed to, and save the \"love\" word for only the strongest attachments. I feel doing less than that dilutes the value and meaning you bring to the table. \n\nHow can I feel more secure in that we are actually sharing a meaningful and protected space, if the meaning we give it is different? My head is all in spins about this. The modern cliche is, \"it doesn't matter...\" but I think that translates into the diminishing value we give commitment, self-restraint, and vulnerability... I feel we have turned it into a market-product, that is by-in-large, cheap. How do I see this differently and avoid feeling bitter or at least sad that we don't share the same meaning in this?", "summary": "does sexual history and values matter in a committed relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_1jtlra", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't fuck with MY little sister", "post": "**Backstory**\n\nI was just recently at an indoor waterpark with my entire family (mom, dad, little sister, and I). We were all enjoying ourselves, until my parents and I left the park to get food. My sister decided she wanted to stay so she got in line for a single person ride. When I got back, she told me this:\n\nWhen she was in line, some smug little boy about the same age as my sister (11-ish) pushed in front of her and cut the line. She's really shy and a bit awkward, so instead of telling him off she just said \"umm, you're not supposed to uh... cut me...\" You know, stuttering and all. And then this guy SHUSHED her. You don't just cut someone and shush them when they try to tell you otherwise. \n\nMy mom found him later and made him apologize and all, and he said sorry, but I knew he didn't give a shit. So I decided to get my own revenge.\n\n**Revenge**\n\nSo I was in line with my sister for a high thrill two person ride. Then this guy showed up with his two morbidly obese whale parents. He asked me, \"is this the line for the four person family ride\"? I knew it wasn't, but the high thrill ride and the family ride were on the same platform and the line system was confusing, so I told him it was and I let him go in front of me. When he got to the top after a long ass wait and realized he was on the line for the high thrill ride instead of the calm family ride, he looked like he was about to piss himself. He was scaaaaaaaaared. He didn't dare go on the ride, so he silently walked down the stairs with his parents in shame as everyone watched him chicken out. Ha. Plus, he had to wait another ten minutes to get onto the family ride.", "summary": "Kid cuts in front of my little sister at a waterpark and then shushes her when she tries to speak out against him. Later, when he's looking to get onto the family ride I direct him to the line for the high thrill ride. He waits a long time, and when he realizes he's in the wrong line when he gets to the top, he chickens out and everyone watches him walk down in shame. "}
{"id": "t3_37ppcs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [21 M] of one year just admitted that he self harms and has never been able to get help", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going fantastically well for one year now, and for both of us this is our first major relationship. We have both come from fairly difficult upbringings but for both of us the relationship is a big positive.\n\nWe've always been extremely open to each other about everything, and recently he finally worked up the courage to tell me that he has a history of self harm - specifically hitting himself and his head on things (sometimes to the point of concussion). He hasn't told anybody else about this.\n\nI was obviously pretty concerned, and although he has mostly stopped during the time that we have been together, he admitted that sometimes the compulsion can become too strong, especially in stressful times. The conversation we had last week was caused because he relapsed and (I think) gave himself a concussion. \n\nComing from a family that was torn apart by mental illnesses I know that it's so important to get the proper treatment and help. (Not to mention that as a football fan I have heard a lot about how much damage repeated concussion can cause)\n\nI really want to try to convince him to get help but I have no idea how to suggest it. Seeing as it took such a long time for him to work up the courage to finally tell someone about it, it might be really difficult to even consider getting professional therapy\n\nI'm not sure if this is the right subreddit for the question but any help would be much appreciated", "summary": "BF self harms, I need advice on how to suggest getting proper help"}
{"id": "t3_1v7zul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys of Reddit: I [27 F]accidentally broke my live-in bf[30 M]'s (of almost 2 years) car. How to make it up to him?", "post": "My bf's car broke down after I had been driving it for about 6 months (I was in an accident with my car). It needed a new engine and cost him around 5 grand to fix. He knows I dont have that kind of money to pay him back. How can I ever make it up to him?", "summary": "broke bf's car- apology/action advise?"}
{"id": "t3_2sxo7j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] Have an option between two Girls [21 F] and [22 F]", "post": "I've been talking to a friend of a friend for a month or so now and it looks like it's about to progress, but last night i ran into the girl i met on nye who is absolutely perfect apart from the fact i was way too drunk to remember her name. \n\nBoth seem to be interested and i feel like i should go for the first girl because a relationship has somewhat developed yet i haven't really had enough relationship experience to know if i'm really interested in the first girl and if i was, would i even care about the second.", "summary": "Became somewhat close with a girl, ran into another one recently and i'm not sure who to pursue."}
{"id": "t3_v75mh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your most memorable experience of a small deed going a long way?", "post": "I know this is pretty small, but I had a pretty rough day at work today. I work retail, and there were some extra cranky people today. To top it all off, I knew I would be coming home to an empty house because my boyfriend wanted to spend father's day at his dad's (which I do not begrudge him for). My boyfriend knew about my bad day, and left me a cup of water in the fridge so I could have cold water when I came home. My Britta does not fit in the fridge at the moment, and this is the only way to have cold water at my house, but I am usually too thirsty to wait for it to get cold. I was floored by the thought that went into such a small act, and I wanted to know if Reddit has any stories like this!", "summary": "My boyfriend left a cup of water in the fridge so I could have cold water after a long day of work."}
{"id": "t3_1p6gp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] started sleeping with my friend [21 M] last week but I don't know if he's become too attached to me already. I don't want to lead him on?", "post": "About a week ago I had sex with one of my friends when we were drunk after a party. Absolutely nothing had happened between us beforehand, and no one had ever said anything about any feelings, so it was kind of a surprise, but it wasn't weird or anything.\n\nWe've had sex a couple of times after that, but we spend a lot of time together because he's also one of my close friends and central to my group of friends. My best friend has said it looks like he's close to loving me already by the way he acts around me. He says things that I can tell are genuine but it's all seemed to come out of nowhere.\n\nWe haven't spoken much about the relationship but he keeps asking to and asking me on a proper date! \n\nI really don't want to lead him on if I don't want anything, but I just don't know yet. It's hardly been any time so I don't know if I am just developing feelings for him or if I won't. I don't know whether it's wrong to keep like seeing him if I'm unsure and he really likes me - I could end up liking him but it's that he is already so keen on me I don't want to end up hurting him. Especially as above all else, I don't want to lose him as a friend.\n\nIs it wrong to keep sleeping with him and seeing him when I'm not sure I like him like that yet? I don't know what could happen, but I don't want him to become too invested in something I'm not sure of yet.", "summary": "started sleeping with my friend, not sure if I like him romantically yet, he does, don't want to hurt him, is it wrong to carry on when I'm not sure how I feel yet?"}
{"id": "t3_2guj2a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not looking at my top after running.", "post": "I'm typing this just after it happened, this has to be shared. Okay, so I've recently started endurance running, I'm doing 6 mile runs 3 times a week. My nipples normally chafe a lot but nothing to bad, but today was different. I finish the run, I'm walking home and a lot of people are staring at me, looking worried. I'm like, the fuck are you looking at? Whatever, ignore it. I walk into my house, look in the mirror and guess what? My nipples were chafing so badly they started bleeding, and being as I had been running in a sweaty top it just spread dramatically. So here these people are, suddenly seeing what looks like a maniac who knifed his own tits giving them a stare of 'Yeh, and what?' Needless to say I will be buying nipple tape and ignoring the streets for a while.", "summary": "my nipples chafed so much whilst running that they bled and I looked like a lactating vampire on the walk home."}
{"id": "t3_27blab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16 M] My girlfriend [16 F] has given me, an odd and unnecessary punishment... More in text.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend are currently doing our GCSE exams (we're British), and yesterday, I accidentally overslept causing me to miss an english language exam. \n\nShe was really annoyed at me, but later we found out that it's okay that I missed it I had done a lower level english language exam a few weeks ago. So that was a relief. She was still upset for the rest of the day, bless her.\n\n She was annoyed at me because the exam was still obviously important, and she was clearly worried about me because she thought that meant I instantly failed english (which thank god I haven't yet).\n\nAnyway, she told me that she doesn't want to see me outside of school until we finish our exams. We finish our exams at the end of next week, so it's not that long, but the thing that upset me is:\n\n-I feel awfully lonely not seeing her, as I don't any good friends. (She's my best friend as well as my girlfriend, I care about her deeply)\n\n-Seeing her is the only thing I look forward to, I don't really have a hobby or anything else to look forward to besides a good session on reddit. (I'm sad :D)\n\nBut yeah, after next week I'll be leaving school forever. I know seeing her at school every day seems like enough, but at the moment i only have to attend science and math lessons, as they're the only subject left that I have exams for. So I'm at school 1/2 hours at a time, and not even every day.\n\nShe said that not seeing her outside of school was \"my punishment\" but, I don't see the connection, or the point, or any reason at all.\n\nWhat do you guys think? And what should I do?\n\nOh, we are okay now, by the way, happy as usual.", "summary": "GF won't let me see her outside of school until after exams (1.5 weeks) because she got worried about me when I accidentally overslept and missed an exam. ???"}
{"id": "t3_42365y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [23F] bought my little sister [16F] hair products for her birthday; my sister took it as an insult and now hates her", "post": "Okay, so for some background. My sister Katie, unlike anyone in our family, has curly hair. She straightens it with a flat iron almost every day. I think her hair is pretty damaged as a result and often looks fried, with lots of split ends. On off days she just wears it up, because it's easier for her to deal with. \n\nMy girlfriend, Jenn, also has curly hair. She was in a similar situation growing up. She said all her family and a lot of her friends had straight and silky hair. She used to flat iron her hair most days and similarly damaged it. Once she hit college she started experimenting a lot with different hair products until she found the ones she liked. She now wears her hair curly and I think it's really beautiful.\n\nJenn said that she really empathizes with Katie, because curly hair is a really hard thing to figure out, especially when nobody around you can relate. She wishes that she had had someone to teach her how to love and properly treat her hair when she was growing up. So, for Katies birthday, Jenn bought her these really expensive hair products meant for curly hair.\n\nWell, it backfired. Katie took it as a huge insult. Kind of like if somebody buys you deodorant as a present. She won't even talk to my girlfriend anymore and is frankly rude to her when she's around.\n\nI don't really understand this situation, who is in the wrong, or what to do.", "summary": "My sister straightens her curly hair every day. My gf used to do that too when she was younger, until she figured out how to manage curly hair. So my gf gave my sister some curly hair products for her birthday and my sister took it as a huge insult."}
{"id": "t3_l6xcu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Crippling back pain outta nowhere- What should I do?", "post": "6 days ago I was on a gentle bike ride (along a tar road, no hills or anything). We had just reached the point of the ride where we were going to take a 5 minute break, eat some sandwiches and begin the return leg back to our car when I sat down and felt a 'twinge' in my lower back.\n\n I commented to my buddy about the twinge, and then maybe 1 minute later I experienced the most intense pain I have ever felt. It felt like someone had snuck up behind me and thrust a long thin knife into my spine. I collapsed on the ground, with my lower back screaming in pain and my lower body feeling all strange, kinda tingly (more on the right hand side than the left, especially down my right leg). \n\nIt took 2 and a half hours to return to our car (a trip which should have taken 15 minutes). The pain got worse and worse and I could hardly move from it- it felt like a crazy war movie scene with an injured guy begging to be put out of his misery, just trying to push my bike back to the car. My buddy drove me home, where I just managed to unlock my apartment and collapse onto the floor, where I stayed with minor adjustments for the last 5 days. The pain has gradually reduced, but I still feel \"broken\" in my back- If there is weight on my lower back it really hurts. As Im typing this Im holding my weight on my forearms on my desk.\n\nI missed 3 days of work, and am just now back in the office. I scheduled an appointment with a physiotherapist this afternoon, but am not sure what else to do. (This is my first appointment- I could literally not leave the floor for the past 5 days, not even for the toilet, funfun)\n\nIm a relativly heathy guy of 27, have had a history of back problems but *nothing* like what happened to me last week.\n\n Anyone got any ideas of what could have happened, what I should do, or anything else that would help me?", "summary": "I got to experience real, *crippling* pain for the first time! And it was so much better cause it came outta fucking nowhere!"}
{"id": "t3_2vbx5w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "\"TIFU\" - by taking a relaxing nap.", "post": "What an evening iv had, Earlier I thought I would get a nap in, This was when my brain decides to give me the creepiest nightmare it could, im in a strange bedroom in the dark filled with kittens, then all of a sudden an old hag appears and starts swearing at me, \nI awoke 45 minutes later and decided to watch a bit of television on XBMC to settle my nerves a bit, I saw a swedish documentary on Stockholm from the 1970s so decided to watch it,\nTen minutes in a crazy woman jumps into shot and screams \"BORST!!\" it was obviously an advert but the strange thing was the advert was inside the documentary itself, This crazy woman was advertising Borst ice cream, but it was done in such a way that it was like a jump scare, \nAlso she did it every ten minutes in the documentary, who would have thought that a simple documentary could leave you with shaken nerves.\nThis evening cant end soon enough.", "summary": "Nap time and watching TV leaves me with PTSD."}
{"id": "t3_2ktxx9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading the wrong line", "post": "In English class today, we're starting Hamlet. Teacher gave each of us a line and we went around in a circle saying it accompanied by an action. I got \"Alas, poor Yorick! I knew him, Horatio\" and I thought \"Oh this is so easy I don't even have to look at the paper.\"\n\nMy turn to say my line came, and I walked to the middle of the circle, holding my hands up as if I was holding Yorick's skull. I proudly delivered: \"To be or not to be, that is the oh shit I said the wrong line.\" Standing there in front of the class reciting 16th Century literature is embarrassing enough, but I fucked it up even worse.", "summary": "don't try to recite Shakespeare off book on your first day"}
{"id": "t3_1nfqp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my ex-boyfriend [18/M] of a year and a half, he's dating someone else, but he just cheated with me.", "post": "So here is what happened. This guys and I have dated on and off for a long time, but we broke it off a couple of weeks ago. Since then, I've been trying to work on the circumstances that made us break up because I still desperately want to be with him.\n\nEarlier this week, I thought I had everything figured out and told him that I wanted to try to be together again. He seemed a little hesitant and told me he had to think about it for a while, but went right back to flirting with me.\n\nLater that night (we had been talking/flirting all day) we ended up doing some sexual things. During this time he called me baby and told me how sexy I was to him. I thought it was great, we were rekindling our lust and our relationship.\n\nThen he dropped the bomb that he was seeing someone else, and I was heartbroken. He went on to explain how he was confused now and didn't know if it was going to work out with this new girl, and that he still had feelings for me. At this point, I'm angry, sad, and confused.\n\nThen, he says that he felt kind of dirty for basically cheating on this girl, but he liked it. We ended up doing it again.\n\nI don't know what to do. I really want to be with this guy, since I'm really in love with him, but i'm afraid he may be taking advantage of me. I'd rather have this part of him than let him go completely to another girl though. What should I do? How do I get him back?", "summary": "I told my ex-boyfriend I wanted to try again, he said he'd think about it. We did sexual things, then he told me he just started seeing another girl but still would think about being with me. We cheated again. I'm in love with him."}
{"id": "t3_zjzmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long-distance girlfriend's [21/F] parents are too strict and she doesn't do anything about it. Is it okay to tell her to rebel against them ?", "post": "Hi,\n\nSo we've been together for 3 years now and we live in different countries. We've known each other since we were 5 in elementary school, then we lost track of each other when my family and I left my native country. It is important to mention that our mothers were very close friends. So, we got back in touch 5 years ago when she was very good friends with my best friend over there. 3 years ago when I went to my native country to visit friends and family, I met her and we saw each other twice. Ever since that time, I flew to my native country twice to surprise her but she never saw me because her parents are too strict and they don't let her leave the house. I know this to be true for 100%. The problem is she never stands up to her parents, she always listens to them and never defies them when they refuse that she goes out with friends.\n\nNow, she came with her family to my present country, and she still can't go out 5 minutes to see me...when she asked her parents, her mother was okay with the idea but her father refused. She then stormed out and locked herself in the room. Her father came a few hours later to apologize and offered that he takes her shopping... and that was it, she was no longer mad at him. I miss her so very much and I know I won't be able to go to my home country for at least 4 years, and I don't know if I'll be able to handle not seeing her for so long. They are leaving my present country in a few days and I want to see her for at least a few minutes. I want to tell her to not listen to her parents but I feel that it is wrong to tell someone to rebel in my own interest. Any help please ? I really don't know how to handle this.", "summary": "I haven't seen my long-distance girlfriend in 3 years even though we are in the same city right now. Her parents are too strict and she never stands up for what she wants. Should I tell her to rebel against them ?"}
{"id": "t3_2p9205", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] is torn between my passive BF [24M] and aggressive guy [22M]", "post": "I have been in a serious relationship with my best friend for the past 6 years now. Lets call him Mr Deer. Everything about him is great, hes kind, hes supportive, sweet, caring, kinda romantic in his weird way but nonetheless, hes great.\n\nThe thing about him is that hes too passive. Sure, he holds me when we go out, gives me plenty of kisses, gives me sweet loving sex. But he just doesnt seem to hold any sort of aggression. Hold it, i know its a good thing. The thing is, i love rough sex. Spanking, domination, Whips and just all round rough sex. Think 50 Shades of Grey without the bad literature. I did talk to him about it, but he just cant bring himself to do it. Its really sweet, but sex in the bedroom is getting quite boring.\n\nI met a new guy a year back and we have been chatting recently. Well, yeah you guessed it. Hes a kind of a bad boy. Unlike Mr Deer, hes quite the manly man. Muscles, the great hair- just imagine a lion. yeah. hes quite like that. After dating a passive male for the past 6 years, i was drawn to him like a moth to a flame. For the whole year, we have been talking on and off, but the UST (underlying sexual tension for those people who dont know) Has been super intense and one day i did the unthinkable and i slept with Mr Lion. but OH MY GOD. it was the best sex i ever had.\n\nThe thing is, i never really was ready for a serious relationship but somehow Mr Deer and i just kinda escalated way too fast. I honestly dont think things would work out with Mr Lion. So i'm just sitting over here, behind my screen feeling like a slut while two men shower their love over me.\n\nWhat should i do?", "summary": "Should i stick to passive sex ( Mr Deer) for the rest of my life or go for aggressive sex ( Mr Lion) ?"}
{"id": "t3_2k9uzl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my gf [27 F] - I get depressed and give up in the middle of sex", "post": "I don't have ED; in fact I've been considering seeing a doctor because of near constant erections that I've had as long as I can remember. I'd say I masturbate maybe 5 times a week at most, but sometimes I get depressed and give up while doing that too.\n\nEvery now and then I will be completely in the mood to have sex, but once it's happening I don't feel any sort of excitement or elation. I become very aware of the physical aspects of it, which feel pointless without emotion to back it up. I don't always give up in the middle of sex, but I almost always feel the same way.\n\nThis has happened during good times as well as bad times throughout our relationship. My girlfriend and I have been together for around 6 years, and usually we go about 2 weeks to a month between sexual encounters. Every now and then we'll have daily sex for a week or so and sometimes we'll go 3 months without it.\n\nMy friend said I should see what you guys have to say about this, so here I am.", "summary": "I give up during sex, because it feels boring/pointless."}
{"id": "t3_xm40m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What are your most amazing, funny, near unbelievable stories from times you were intoxicated?", "post": "Mine was in my first week of university. I just moved into my hostel and made a few friends and naturally started drinking. I had a bottle of peppermint schnapps, which was not allowed in my hostel. I was sipping away slowly until a RA(residential advisor, guy who enforces rules in the hostel) caught me and asked me to get rid of it, being fairly drunk already, I thought she meant drink it quickly... So I got very, very drunk and got taken to my room to effectively coma out for the night. That's what I remember. I woke up and thought it was it. then realised I was in a bed covered in $20 bills... \n\nAfter a bit of investigating, It turns out I had gone into town, got barred, met some new people and went with them to a bar in a town 20 minutes drive away. I then proceeded to buy rounds and put large sums of money on the horses and I won. I found the slips in my pockets and turns out I won just over $6,000. I than, apparently, ran or well stumbled down the road in celebration and Good Guy Taxi driver saw me and read my arm (got barred from a club, they wrote my hostel on my arm in marker so a taxi could take me home) and took me home, helped me into my room, with every cent and didn't charge me for the drive.\n\nHad a week long hangover... Gag every time I smell peppermint.", "summary": "Got drunk, Woke up with $6000 in cash on my bed and a really bad hangover."}
{"id": "t3_27j118", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My father is making me [24F] have a civil wedding with my fianc\u00e9 [26M] with rules to follow!", "post": "I overheard my father talking stating he is going to make my fianc\u00e9 and I get a civil wedding however rules will have to follow. Due to the fact that my parents are caribbean and catholic living together before marriage is out of the question however my fianc\u00e9 and I are in a long distance relationship. So following this civil wedding we are still not allowed to live together. He is making this VERY difficult and extremely embarrassing for me because this just adds another burden to my relationship with my man and we already have enough issues going on between us. I also fear this will just break us apart. What shall I do? \n\nI am currently fishing up grad school my fianc\u00e9 is working two jobs and we are short in money but we are working towards saving our money together into an account and begin wedding planning and the future together. My mother is supportive of us so is his parents (whom where in a long distance relationship as well) its just my father thats making everything so difficult. Its either I choose him and his rules or I go against him and make way with my fiance and he cuts all ties with me as well as my extended family.", "summary": "My father wants  me to have a civil wedding but still not be with my \"husband\". Till he thinks I am ready"}
{"id": "t3_23lu2o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a 22 year old Male and am in love with Two female girls 20 & 20", "post": "Hello R/relationships,\n  I am a 22 year old male and an having a lot of trouble in my life and depression because of my relationship issues. Trying to keep things short, my now current ex girlfriend whom I dated for 2 years has told me she has forgiven me for cheating on her ( with my now current gf) and says she will give us a chance again. My really torn and it took all the courage I had to tell her that was the definitive reason I broke up with her instead of what I originally told her \" I want you to have room to grow.\" My family really loves her and her family loves me which means slot because I'm a huge family man. But she says I must break up with my current girlfriend if I want to make amends.\n     \n   My current girlfriend is very sweet and kind but not as caring as my last one and she has a lot of family problems which bothers me because I am a big family man. Though we have been through a lot together and she has put up with slot of drama with my past relationship. In the end the real point in trying to make is how do I deal with being in love with two people, should I just move on because I already broke up with my ex, Or should I make amends and be with my ex? I can easily picture her having my children and making me happy forever ( she's very faithful) and I'm worried my current relationship will go sour because of the negative note it came from.\n    I have never cheated prior to this and am not sure how to handle this situation I miss my ex and her family, but the person I'm with right now makes me very happy to and understands me. I apologize for the wall of text, I just really need someone's help on this I have no idea who to turn to. My family will say go with choice 1 my friends will think in ridiculous after everything I've put them through and my sister likes my new one but I think she'll respect my decision no matter what. Should I be single I'm not sure what to do I'm so conflicted please help thank you for your time.", "summary": "I'm in love with two different women my current ex girlfriend has forgiven me for cheating which the person I cheated on her with is my current gf. I miss my ex her family just how we were, but my current gf makes me really happy but has family problems I don't know what to do. I feel really bad don't want to hurt either of them but I have to hurt someone at the end of the day. Please help me with this decision I have no where else to turn beside reddit at this point"}
{"id": "t3_2s2m8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20f having trouble coping with complicated breakup with 19m, please help", "post": "I'm feeling tremendous guilt and I'm someone with a heavy conscience and guilt nearly cripples me.  Long story short, my boyfriend never communicated with me which led to problems I didn't know we were even having.  This led him to lie to me.  I found out, flipped shit, hit him, and broke up with him.  \n\nI feel awful for losing control and hitting him.  I hate that I hurt him.  The relationship damage was done before I ever even touched him.  I was going to break up with him anyway.  I wish I'd stayed calm and just broke up with him instead of acting on my feelings of utter betrayal.  \n\nAs if getting over a betrayal and a breakup isn't bad enough, but now I feel crippling guilt over hitting him.  I feel like I'm not even allowed to be upset with the way he single-handedly ruined our relationship before I made the awful mistake of hitting him.\n\nHow do I get past these complicated feelings? (inb4 therapy, because that's a given)", "summary": "boyfriend lied, hit him, broke up with him. can't get past feelings of guilt to even begin handling the pain of a breakup to begin with"}
{"id": "t3_54huub", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird to give a dog the same name as one of my (25F) coworkers (22F)?", "post": "Short and simple one here, folks. All names, both canine and human, are fake. My fiance (26M) and I are likely adopting a dog who is currently named \"Pearl.\" We're both really into Roman mythology, and would like to rename the dog \"Minerva.\" \n\nIt just so happens that I have a coworker named Minerva. We're not on the same team, nor are we friends, so I really don't talk to her that much, although we are Facebook friends. Given that it's a small office, I do see her often, and I'm kind of worried that it might be awkward when it gets back to her that we named our dog \"after her.\" She'll definitely see our posts on Facebook.", "summary": "Am I being weird and paranoid? My fiance and I both love the name Minerva for our future rescue dog, but I feel like it's awkward because I have a coworker named Minerva."}
{"id": "t3_3f1hve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my co-worker [26 M], apparently has a girl friend in office and I am other woman", "post": "So I am new at a lab and haven't really had the lay of the land. I generally keep my head down and focus on my work.\n\nHowever, I found a real connection with one of my colleagues. We would often stay late and work together on tests. It was easy and flirty, comfortable like I was hanging out with a good friend. It was obvious he was coming on to me - texting me to hang late at night, resting his hand on mine, going for long walks at night and buying me lunch out of the blue- we even went to a concert together as we like the same type of jazz.  I was hesitant to get involved with a colleague, but my girlfriends said to trust my gut and if I felt something, go for it. I finally gave in and asked him to dinner. We kissed and I was over the moon. I felt sparks and like it was right. \n\nCut to the very next day at work and me finding out that he apparently is in a committed relationship with another female in the office. I feel terrible. Idiotic, stupid and guilty. I have never been the \"other woman\" before, even unknowingly. I immediately cut off all ties with him as soon as I heard and have no intentions of ever speaking to him when we aren't wearing our white lab jackets. \n\nI feel terrible, like I was duped. All of the possibility and feelings I had been denying myself due to the work relationship have surfaced. The potential of what could've been hurts, not to mention losing a close friend who deceived me and the guilt and shame I feel everyday coming to the lab. I can't even make eye contact with the receptionist now.", "summary": "How do I get over unknowingly being the \"other woman\"? Am I obligated to tell her? How do I ease guilty conscious?"}
{"id": "t3_1s5kay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I like a girl with a BF", "post": "Ok to start out I'm 17 and going to community college I met this girl in one of my classes. me and her hit it off last class we talked for an hour strait. but I found out she has a BF which I respect completely I would never try to break up a relationship.\n\nBasically I was wondering how I can convey to her that I'm interested, but only after she ends up breaking up with her BF whenever that is. I very much respect relationships and think trying to get with somebody in one is a really shitty thing to do. So one again how can I let her know I'm interested when she's single without coming off a a creepy asshole.", "summary": "I want to tell a girl I'm interested when she's no longer in a relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3ax08p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [21 F] ~4years, At an Impasse, need advice.", "post": "background : I have been dating Sarah for almost 4 years now, since the start of university. We have had some conflicts in the past, but I still have feelings for her.\n\nI met someone(Rose) this past month. Someone who makes me feel happy like I haven't in a long time. I had begun to think that I was alone in how different I was from other people, but the scariest thing happened to first time we actually talked - EVERYTHING that she said just resonated wholeheartedly with me. It was like the world had created a copy of myself, a perfect match for me to find happiness. She makes me want to be social if only to spend time with her, which is a huge thing for me since I am so introverted.\n\nBut do I deserve it? I have been nothing but an asshole to Sarah lately, even though she has done everything to try to make things better or even accept my terrible faults. Do I deserve happiness when it would come at the cost of extreme sadness for her? I know that the answer that is yes, but I just don't know how I can do that to her. She has been with me through everything that I have went through, and made huge sacrifices to make it work between us... We have a real connection and even though it is strained sometimes, there are still some real feelings there,,, aren't there? Fuck I don't even know. I feel like my head is jumbled up and nothing I can do can clear my mind.\n\nI feel like I am at a crossroads and my next decision will impact who I am as a person and what I end up like. On one hand I could pursue happiness with Rose at the cost of Sarah's sadness, with no guarantees that me and Rose would work out anyways; or I can accept my lot in life and live a life that might be good, but never great...\n\nI don't know how next week is going to go... I am going to see Sarah for the first time in a month, and I don't know how I can look at her and not feel terrible for this emotional cheating that I have and still am committing.", "summary": "In a long-term relationship, just met someone new while on a business trip, don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_lgjz0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am still completely in love with my ex. Last night found out she \"loves me but is not in love with me.\" I know this is common on here, but I need some help.", "post": "I went over to her house last night and we hung out, had some wine and good conversation. It's obvious we are both sexually attracted to each other, which came up in conversation once things shifted towards how we feel about each other. She lost her romantic feelings me though, she said. We talked more about the ups and downs in our relationship and ended up cuddling on the couch. We both wanted to kiss but had to fight the urge because we knew where it would lead to. Now I am even more heartbroken than I was when I refused to contact her. How did you handle this? What should I do?", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_33dn9a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing hide and seek", "post": "Hey there, so like every other story, this did not happen today.\nAlso, I read a Fuckup by someone, which was similar  sooo I rememberd this.\n\nSo, it started of by a gymnastic lesson, the guy who was holding the lessons hadn't planned anything, so we got to choose.\nWe chose hide and seek.\nSo me (male) and 2 other guys + 2 girls went into this bathroom to hide..  Or,  it was a booth i guess you could call it. But it was like a small room with toilet and sink pretty much.\nWe all squeezed in there, it was pretty tight.\n\nAnyways, we got this idea to turn of the lights so nobody could see that it was glowing from under the door, this is where the fuck up begin.\nSo we're in this tight pitch black room. I thought it was  ridicolous to  have the lights turned of, so I reached my hand around to find  the light button..Well shit, I  accidently touched someones boob...And then I fucking grabbed it out of reflexes you know ;)..I regret this.. I didn't find the light button, and it was quite for  like 5 sec...And then the girl said  \"who touched my boob?\"..\n\nThey turned on the lights and everybody was just  quite, nobody said anything..\nBeing the gentleman I am, I looked down and said \"sry\", yes,  it was like that..I said it very quiet, which kind of made it worse..\nGood thing is that she just laughed it of.", "summary": "I accidently touched a boob and grabbed it, followed by a gentle \"sorry\"."}
{"id": "t3_20ieoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [23M] together 1 year, jealous of his ex...", "post": "Hello!\n\nI know I have no right to feel the way I feel but I can't help it... I won't to get over it and I need your help.\n\nSo here we go... We have been together for one year and things are going great. He's generous, kind, funny, handsome, etc everything you could possibly want in a man.\n\nI am the problem. He is my first real boyfriend and he has a lot more experience than I do... At first, it did not matter at all. But now, it's starting to hurt... I don't care about his experience per se, I know he had a life before me. When we started dating, he had just broken up with his long-term girlfriend (of over four years) a few months before.\n\nShe left him (silly girl...) and they have not contacted each other since. I am not worried at all about our relationship because he's never given me any reason to doubt him. But for some reason it still hurts... Because had things gone his way they would probably still be dating right now.\nBecause he does not say anything to me he has not already said to her. Because the way he looks at me is just the ways he used to look at her. Because for four years she was the most important personne in his life and now I feel like I can't compete. I feel like a second choice and I know it makes no sense for me to feel that way...\n\nThey have four years of memories together, four years I know nothing about. (Maybe that's what bothers me?)\n\nI think he wants to start talking to her again. Probably because he wants to show he has forgiven her. Nothing to worry about. Except I do... It hurts.\n\nIt's not something I think about everyday, but it hurts every time she is mentionned. \n\nI am aware that it all sounds crazy and I want to get over it, which why I'm asking for help, so please be kind to me...", "summary": "My boyfriend is wonderful but I can't seem to come to terms with the fact he had a serious girlfriend before me. I know this is crazy and I'm here to get advice on how to stop being so stupid."}
{"id": "t3_2m9w1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Realtionship] Is a relationship work?", "post": "I've (27M) had my girlfriend now for almost 6 months now. We were together in the beginning but her being a foreign student she had to go back to her home country eventually. We still decided to stay together and try to make it work through skype and texting. \n\nHowever not the distance is the essential problem. I've had the feeling before but didn't focus on it, because I saw it as temporary but it seems like it is not.\n\nBasically I am the romantic person in the relationship which is actually odd, cause I wouldn't consider myself to be THE romantic. And sometimes I have the feeling she doesn't take the relationship seriously or doesn't loves m, cause she rarely shows it. I've told her how I feel but she takes it as a trust issue. She thinks if I trust her, I should trust her love without her showing proof of it through gestures.\n\nImo romantic gestures aren't show of proof but rather a expression of love. So far I've felt like I've invested way more into the relationship than her (I've picked her up from the airport by surprise, made her a great goodbye present, helped her move out, help her with a lot of her university stuff, cooked and baked for her, visited her in her home country and a lot more...she considers sleeping over and bringing a beer for cooking as the same effort) and am more willing to compromise. She on the other hand sees it as constraint to her freedom. But if she does love me, shouldn't she be willing to do everything to keep it going?\n\nAm I being too selfish here or is it generally wrong to ask someone something like that?\n\nI've considered relationships always as an equality and balance between the two sides. And if this is not the case both side should work on balancing it out, shouldn't they?", "summary": "I invest a lot, imo she doesn't and now I have doubts."}
{"id": "t3_kejtg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I went to go check out a college today, and left pretty bummed.", "post": "It's Kaplin University (Pittsburgh).\n\nBASICALLY, a tech school for electronics, nursing, business, criminal Justice, ect.. \n\nIt gives decent credits for any 4year college, and gives you an associates degree.\n\nI though, \"well, it might be more creditably towards other colleges if in the same field.\"\n\nI wanted to go for criminal justice, and would like to work for a government agency one day...\n\nThen I found out the tuition costs, get ready, $30,000.\n\nI am flabbergasted. Having to work a full-time sales job, I am not sure what route to take. \n\nSo my question for you, fellow people of reddit, is this:\n\nShould I go to look at a community college, or should I try to do this on my own?", "summary": "The crappy school I wanted to go to for criminal justice is $30,000, what should I do next."}
{"id": "t3_uj5ey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In love with my best friend. Not sure if he feels the same.", "post": "Me (F33) Him (M36) best friends for almost 2 years\n\nI think my best friend is sending me mixed signals. He called me back after just getting off the phone with him the other night saying \"I was just thinking about you. I don't know what I would do if I couldn't call you every night and joke/laugh with you. You are my little girl.\" And in a joking way he said \"please don't bring this up again.\" I think he said the last part because he isn't really good with emotions. He doesn't like people to know how he feels. \n\nI am in love with him and have been for a year now. We work together (same companies, different office) so we are in constant communication. We talk outside of work daily as well. I want to make the next step and tell him that I love him but I can't be sure of his feelings. I would love to be more than just his friend but I think distance and the fact that we work together is hindering that (we live 3 hours apart).\n\nIt is killing me not telling him how I really feel. I don't want it to be awkward if he says he doesn't feel the same because we have to work together. I don't want to lose him either. I really need help with this. I don't want to continue to bottle these feelings up and wait for some other girl to come along and get what I want. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!", "summary": "In love with my best friend. Want to tell him I love him but can't be sure of his feelings."}
{"id": "t3_k8ula", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to get the spark back", "post": "My boyfriend and I are in our late twenties. We moved in together over the summer after being together for a year. We were long distance prior to that and saw each other every weekend. \n\nWe work very well as SO's and roommates, better than I could have imagined. We are still lovey dovey toward one another, but one thing has changed: we've just stopped having sex. For a while it happened only when I initiated, and then I stopped because I felt it was rather one-sided. \n\nI don't suspect him of cheating and I don't think he's become less attracted to me (my appearance and weight haven't changed and he compliments me all the time). I have to admit I don't really try to dress up or set the mood anymore because I have tried and failed a few times and I just feel rejected now. \n\nWhen I brought it up to him a few weeks ago, things picked up again, but now we are back to square one. It makes me depressed and bitter although I try not to act spiteful. Not sure how to address this without making it awkward and making things feel forced. Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My otherwise great relationship has lost the sex component and I'm trying to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_241g1j", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Help a victim out who's been scammed by a Redditor...", "post": "Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well.", "summary": "Trusted someone online, even though people say you shouldn't. Now, in the hole for $640. I have learned my lesson, but need help recovering my money from the Credit Union/Amazon."}
{"id": "t3_jsj66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Y U NO JUMP ME??", "post": "Okay, so my boyfriend of 1.5 years (31, American) and I (24, female, Canadian) moved apart a week ago.  I am starting grad school in Canada and he has a new job in the States.  We agreed to try a 'long distance open relationship' as breaking up would be just too hard and neither of us wants to make the other feel trapped indefinitely.  However, we are already really missing each other.\n\nWhile spending time at my mum's place before moving for school, I went out with friends and surprisingly met a man (33, English) who's attractive, intelligent, and very personable.  My boyfriend claimed to be fine with this, so I decided to meet the English guy for drinks.  \n\nWe had a good time and everything felt really natural.  We openly discussed relationships and I talked quite a lot about my boyfriend.   At first I was unsure what I wanted but as the night progressed I thought more and more that I would be comfortable having a fling with this guy.\n\nHe was a real gentleman to the point where he insisted on paying for everything, held doors open, showed me his place, drove me home, and didn't even try to kiss me.  I'm unaccustomed to guys who don't make a move, and I'm not sure whether he's just not interested in casual sex, or is trying to be sensitive to the fact that I'm clearly hung-up on my boyfriend. \n\nDo you guys have insight into his motivations?", "summary": "I've met someone I'm casually interested in but am unsure whether I scared him off with talk of my boyfriend.  I'd also be interested in any general advice on how to make a long distance open relationship as easy as possible."}
{"id": "t3_2wx0lg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(M/19) Still interested in (F/19), need help getting her back!!!", "post": "So, I met this awesome girl in my lab on the first day of my freshman year in college. Long story short, I invited her to one of my fraternity's parties. She brought along her roommate. Her roommate and I hit it off, and I brought her back to my place for the night. She came over to my dorm room a few more times just within the following week. She and I are very similar, and I like that about her. I asked her to an official date, and she was hesitant. She said she'd rather stay friends because of how busy she was with school currently. I haven't really talked to her in a while now, but I am wondering how I can win her back. Even though she didn't want to go on an official date, whenever I asked her to come over, she was always down. That is how I know that she is interested. Anybody have any ideas on how I can get her back? I am thinking of just telling her that I am still really interested, and we have a lot of similarities and a relationship won't take up any of our school time if we are smart about it (ex: studying together daily etc...). Help me out please, guys!!!", "summary": "I want to get back together with a girl I have seen a few times. She said she was too busy with school for a relationship, but I know we would be perfect together, and I am still very interested. Any advice would be appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_1jmpv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26M] and my SO [26F] of 4+ years: We want different things, I may be moving soon, and she has some emotional issues", "post": "I [26M] have been with my SO [26F] for over 4 years, though I broke up with her and we spent a year (mostly) apart about halfway through.  Neither of us had ever been in a serious relationship before and so we waited too long before talking about what we wanted in the long run.  The biggest issue is that she wants kids and I don't.\n\nCompounding this issue are a few things: First, she's had issues with self-esteem and depression her whole life.  She is convinced that there is something inherently wrong with her and that she's not good enough for anyone.  When we got back together (over 2 years ago), she had gotten some counseling through her university and was planning to find a therapist she could keep seeing.  This has not happened and, whenever I bring it up, she takes it as meaning that I think there is something wrong with her.\n\nSecond, I will likely have to move out of state within the next year in order to find a job.  I am doing my best to keep my search close, but there just aren't any jobs in my field nearby.  I have told her that, if I were to move, I would want to stay together.  She has said that she could not handle it emotionally.\n\nI don't know what to do.  I want to do right by her and I want her to be happy, but I'm afraid that, as long as we are together, she will never seek the help that she needs and she will never be happy.  I also don't want to be with someone who is going to spend the rest of our lives together resenting me for not wanting to have children.\n\nSo what do I do?  I could end it.  I could give her an ultimatum and say that, if she doesn't start looking for a therapist, things will be over between us (though this would make me feel like a judgmental asshole).  Or I could try to find some way of boosting her self-esteem so we can try to work things out, but I really don't know how I could do that.", "summary": "She wants kids and I don't.  She is frequently depressed and has very low self-esteem, but refuses to seek help.  I may be moving in the next year for a job.  What should I do about this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_kjpar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best way to win someone back via reddit?", "post": "I got dumped two months ago today.  It was about to be long-distance, and he bailed.  Fall semester has been really rough & I'm having a tough time adjusting.  So, I got on reedit to see what it was all about.  It was my ex's go-to site, and while I disproved of it our whole relationship (I'm sorry!), after the break-up, I have found that it's actually been a good distraction & that it's really not that bad.  So I am on a noble and wonderful quest do get my \"herp derp\" back.  Any help would be appreciated.  How should I go about this?", "summary": "Ex is on reddit; states away; how do I get him back?"}
{"id": "t3_2elz8l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu: by smashing my head into a bed post while trying to facepalm.", "post": "So, Reddit, I stayed the night at a crushes dorm..\nWell, the next morning we wake up, and as were laying in bed, he mentions that he \"lost the game.\" \n\nI, naturally, respond by facepalming.\n\nExcept I missed my hand and smashed my head RIGHT Into his metal bed post. \nTrying to play it cool in front of said crush, I start laughing hysterically. (because, hell, it was pretty funny.)\nUntil a few seconds later I realize that I'm bleeding profusely, and I mean PROFUSELY. We rush into the bathroom half naked, terrified that we'll run into a roommate, and stop the bleeding. \n\nNow, later that day I had to work... \nAll of my co-workers asked what happened to my face \n and I told them the story that I just told you all... Except \n none of them believed me , and figured that the incident was caused by rough sex....\n\nI don't think they will ever believe my story....\n\nSide note: said crush and I have been dating almost a year now :3", "summary": "tried to facepalm, missed, split my face open, co-workers think it's from rough sex."}
{"id": "t3_yih3c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m](me) dating [17/f] who belongs to a youth organisation I used to belong to but now instruct at occasionally", "post": "I'm not sure if this the the right thread or not so giving best shot.\nSo I want to know whether there is any possibility of legal ramifications for dating someone under 18 when you are occasionally in a position of authority over them. \n\nBackground info: We've both been a part of the organisation for a number of years,(me 5 her 3). While I was in it I was again in a senior position to her and pursued nothing at the time, I ran into her after spending about a year and half in another state and we hit it off really well and decided to start dating. \n\nI've since moved back to the area and have wanted to continue volunteering and helping out at the organisation but I'm worried that there may be legal consequences for me if I do so. \nI don't want to leave my SO or anything like that and if it means I just need to wait till she either leaves the organisation or turns 18 then I'm cool with that, but it is worrying me a bit as it can have a lot of ramifications not just within the organisation but also related to my career.", "summary": "dating girl under 18 occasionally in positon of authority over her, worried about legal consequences"}
{"id": "t3_12lkx5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Nothing Ever Changes", "post": "Ever since I was in high school I have just been focused on working hard and getting to a college and my life would be set. Hell I even knew that this delusional way of thinking was wrong and I would constantly remind myself that life should be more of the journey to get the goal rather than fast forwarding to that point.\n\nI couldn't do it though. I never really had any friends worth giving a shit about and I could never stop thinking about getting to a better place. I just became more and more cynical and pessimistic. I continued to push through though. Past through the foggy haze of emotions.\n\nMy family and I are very distant b/c of a language barrier (english is my dominant and spanish is there second so I can't articulate as clearly) and I disagree with a lot of their conservative views. \n\nNow I'm in my second year of college doing relatively well in grades, and great health and fitness. But I just can't help but feel lonlier than ever. I've never had a real relationship with the opposite sex and everytime I've tried talking to a girl I just feel like we never have anything in common or that they're way out of my league. Which consequently makes me feel even more alienated and depressed.\n\nI've tried going to parties to socialize and sure it feels great for that short time but afterwards I realize that there was never really anyone to get intimate with and share my feelings with.", "summary": "I'm a human who is a slave to his emotions and I need to someone to be intimate with. I also lack any confidence to get a girl to be interested in me"}
{"id": "t3_bnwlk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "You know how they say Redditors are all alike? (White male 18-24 etc.) Well how many others share this trait with me?", "post": "My whole life I've been on the internet. I think it's absolutely incredible. But what I realized tonight is that that's where I have adopted my sense of culture and belonging from. I feel at-odds with the actual people around me (Americans) and their culture, whereas I feel as if I can actually express myself and have people listen to me on the internet and have an intellectual conversation. Everyone around me makes subtle sarcastic remarks about certain things that make me slightly \"different\" from them, but I think that they're strange too. I only really feel at home, feel like part of a community, on sites like Reddit (or everything2, or /r9k/ or totse, or the various forums and clans I've joined in the past). I can't be the only one like this.", "summary": "I learned my culture from the internet rather than from those around me. When I hang out with people, both parties get a bit of culture shock."}
{"id": "t3_1j0f2j", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm naturally decent at art but I get frustrated and never finish anything. Help!", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'd like to make painting and drawing one of my hobbies, but I almost always feel frustrated enough to quit after spending X amount of time on a project. I spend a lot of time working on details, and as soon as I realize it's not coming out as well as I imagined it I start getting annoyed.\n\nThis causes me to pretty much not like painting, drawing, starting art projects, and art in general. I'd love to like art because I feel I have potential to improve my natural ability a lot, and I even get excited when I start projects. However, this problem is getting to the point where I'm thinking about just not starting any art projects at all.\n\n(Btw I'm not interested in taking my skills any further than just a free-time hobby)\n\nDoes anyone have any experience overcoming anything like this? Should I learn to love it or just stop starting projects? I'd love to hear your advice!", "summary": "I like the idea of creating art, and I have natural ability, but I get really frustrated in the process and give up, hating art altogether. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_lw5f3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Reddit, I am lost, and keep hitting the same wall. Any help?", "post": "Hey fellas, I've only told all of this to one person (later mentioned) I'm looking for some advice, or for someone to troll me. Whatever.\n\nSummer 2009. I meet this girl on the last 3 days of a 2-week group vacation (nobody knew each other), and then and there I know that I will never settle for anything less. We don't get close enough to actually speak about anything too personal, but everything she said made me only crazier. We part ways with nothing special, and I feel like a part of me has been stolen.\n\nFast forward 2010, I send her a long FB letter explaining my feelings, and her response just made things worse/better. It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me, and still she managed to reject me. Shit.\n\nIt is now almost 2012 and I can't avoid thinking of her once a day at least. She is one of the 2 people in this world I would actually take a sure bullet for. She lives thousands of miles away, not even in the same country. Wat do?", "summary": "I would marry this girl tomorrow, but she lives thousands of miles away and probably has forgotten about me."}
{"id": "t3_3nrlwx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fuck My Life.", "post": "It's so strange how everything can be amazing one year and just absolutely dreadful the next. I started my first year of college last year, got a boyfriend and it was probably the most enjoyable time of my life. That carried on until the summer of this past year, which was when my boyfriend broke up with me. My parents had practically disowned me when they found out I wasn't dating a white guy but rather a Middle Eastern guy. The absolute *horror*.\n\nThey found that out in January, during which they were telling me \"we didn't raise you like this,\" and so on. They cut me off and they don't even talk to me anymore. I'm barely scraping by with what I make. It was easier when I had my boyfriend but after he found about my parents, he left me as fast as he could, and I don't blame him either. He could probably find a normal gal who's got everything going right for her, especially when it comes to family relations. But regardless, fuck my life. Working all day on my off days, attending classes via bus and train every day and barely being able to afford rent while living in a terrible part of town is something I never envisioned around this time last year and look where I am now.", "summary": "My parents are racist pieces of shit and practically disowned me. My boyfriend left me after he found out about my parents. Oh and I'm living pay check to pay check while trying to get a degree which I won't get for another 2 years. And I'm so fucking lonely. "}
{"id": "t3_1qmsx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25M) girlfriend (21F) keeps asking me to go places I don't want to go.", "post": "Alright, this sounds stupid, but my girlfriend keeps asking me to go clubs, and parties, and events I really have no interest in going to. She knows I don't feel comfortable going to clubs and parties, yet she keeps asking me to go, and I feel guilty when I decline. \n\nI do feel bad, because I know she wants me to go with her, so I can meet her friends and whatnot, and I know social gatherings are things you do with your partner, but I really don't like going to clubs, and I really don't like going to parties where I don't know a single person other than my GF. I'm not socially retarded or anything. It just makes me uncomfortable. \n\nAnother thing, is that she is heading home for the Christmas holidays. She wants me to drive roughly 550km (one way) so that her mom's side of the family can meet me, which is fine. But my issue is that I REALLY don't want to drive there and back. I've already driven there about 7 times this year for her, and it has cost me a lot of money to do so. I'm starting school in January and really need to save the money. \n\nI feel like I'm being selfish, and I feel guilty for not wanting to do those things with her. Any advice or insight is appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend keeps asking me to go to places I don't want to go to and I feel guilty about it."}
{"id": "t3_16osc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mid-life crisis? [M35]  How to deal.", "post": "I hope to live past 70, but my wife [34] of 15 years thinks I'm going through such a life-event.\n\nNot long ago, I brought up the idea of divorce and the results were terrible.  There was yelling.  Smashing of dishes.  Now she doesn't even trust me at all.  I really wish I could take it back, and go back to the way things were before.\n\nI've never cheated.  I don't watch pornography.  I don't have female friends because they always seem to get too close.\n\nI've now quit my job and promised to build my own business at home.\n\nI supported her for a decade, but now moved my finances into both names and made myself financially dependent on her.  I hope this will show I have no intention of leaving or cheating.\n\nI work out for 2 hours a day, mostly to make myself too tired to consider other relationships or sex.  My gym wanted me to model for their promotions, but I knew that would make her uncomfortable so I declined.\n\nI do not go anywhere without her.  I even decline when her friends ask me to dance.\n\nShe lost her best friend over me and doesn't know it.  I feel terrible.  We would all three meet together, but she suddenly stopped talking to my wife and started texting me... asking if I would meet her alone.  I cut off all ties before anything happened.\n\nI care for my wife very much and don't want to lose her over a stupid phase.\n\nI suppose I worry too much because I regret never having children or sex.  I have never had a place of my own.  We don't have sex and I have accepted I never will.  She is happy just being held, but she has issues with doing anything more and I have never wanted to coerce her into feeling guilty.", "summary": "I want to be less selfish.  I need practical ways to avoid temptations and to gain my wife's trust."}
{"id": "t3_2nr7ni", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by \"tipping\" the pizza delivery driver", "post": "So just like every other TIFU on here, this didn't happen today, more of about 2 years ago. So I'll set the scene a bit here, me and my best friend were at my house and decided (as we always did) to get as stoned as possible. So I pull out my stash and rolling gear and get to rolling! Thinking to plan ahead I decided to roll two joints there and then instead of smoking and rolling as we go, so I put on a film on Netflix and we spark up the first. We get pretty chonged (a solid 8/10) and subsequently get the munchies, my mate drops the idea to order pizza which sounds absolutely amazing at the time and 5 minutes later we had pizza on its way. A little while later I hear the doorbell and go to get the pizza, I had the money however what I didn't know is that I also had the spliff, and when I grab the precious 'za I also handed over my last joint! This became apparent 10 minutes later when we go to spark up and the zoot is nowhere to be found! We end up searching absolutely everywhere to no avail, leading us to conclude that we just gave the very lucky pizza driver a spliff.", "summary": "Got rather stoned and gave a pizza delivery man a joint."}
{"id": "t3_u7037", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I am destroyed", "post": "I don't mean to mine reddit for sympathy but today my relationship of 4.5 years fell apart out of the blue. \n\nWere both in our early 20s, me (23) and her (22) have been best friends throughout the whole thing. She moved in with me very shortly after we started dating (maybe a month after) and we have lived together ever since, at 3 different places. We've never had any issues at all and are ridiculously compatible. Feeling somewhat pressured by her family, subtle hints from her and my own wants, i asked her to marry me 6 mos ago to which she absolutely responded yes.\n\nLately (about 2 mos. ago) I've started an overnight position to make the money I need to make her happy and since about a month ago, she has become increasingly distant. I always am the first to say \"I love you\" and make the first move. Our sex life has dwindled rapidly and she just doesn't really speak her mind. I didn't think too much of it, given our history, and figured once my schedule changed (which is due within the next 2 weeks) that things would go back to normal.\n\nThis morning I woke up to her crying and knew instantly what was up. Long story short she told me it wasn't going to work and she couldn't in good conscience marry me knowing there's a chance that this could happen later than sooner. When asked if there was any chance of repair she said no. She says she needs time to grow as her own person. She's staying with a friend right now to see if some time apart will change things, but judging by the note she left it's not looking good.\n\nWe share everything, even all our friends. We DONT HAVE different friends. We have so many things amongst us I don't know how we will ever split it up. What about our cat?! What about our home??? I'm so lost as to who I even am without her. Am I done for? Reddit help :'(", "summary": "my soulmate who was attached to my hip up and left me today out of nowhere and I'm totally lost as to how I'm going to handle it. Wondering where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_2qi7en", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have a very intimidating face. What to do?", "post": "Everytime I go out on the streets people give me strange angry looks. When I'm at social events people are afraid to come talk to me or make conversation (and I always need to intiate).\n\nBefore you start saying I'm paranoid, I asked my friends and people i know what their first impressions of me were when they first looked at me. They all said I was intimidating and they don't know why.\n\nI'm a shy and reserved person but very kind once you get to know me. I'm neither ugly or extremely beautiful just average looking. I'm also very skinny.\n\nAny ideas what to do?", "summary": "I have intimidating look about me which makes it jard for people to approach me or they dislike me for no reason. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_35wjvr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F], my BF [26M] 3+ years - Sexual Incompatible - I want sex all the time, he can't keep up.", "post": "About him: I love my boyfriend and I am so lucky to have him. He is thoughtful, loving, smart and driven. He is the perfect man for me in every way except one; we are not sexually compatible.\n\nAbout Us: Happily living together for 1+. We rarely argue and I can imagine us being married. We've even discussed marriage multiple times...but since this no-sex thing, I'm worried that I'll be unhappy. I've heard of sex-less marriages but we're not even married yet!\n\nSex now: When we do have sex it's fine. It's OK sometimes, and occasionally it's great. Sometimes when I don't have an orgasm I become resentful, especially considering how infrequently we have sex. When we first started dating he said I was the best sex he'd ever had. That being said, he has never gone down on me since I told him I wasn't into that when we first started dating, despite my encouragement after the fact. We probably have sex 3-4 times a month.\n\nNo sexy times: We have gone weeks, even a month without engaging in sexual activity. At first I thought it was because he is completing his master's and he's been too stressed or exhausted to get aroused. I have had conversations with him about our sexual incompatibility and have specifically asked if it's because he's just not attracted to me. He assures me that he is in love with every part of my body. I am quite fit and have plenty unwanted admirers. I have various guys tell me that he better \"put a ring\".\n\nPlease help... I really love my boyfriend, I don't want to break up but what do I do? I have tried sexy outfits, I've tried flirty touching, I've tried talking to him about the problem (just 2 months ago), I've tried watching sexually inclined shows/movies.... nothing seems to get to him and I feel like shit about myself.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are not sexually compatible. He never seems to want to have sex and I feel like I need it at least 3/4x a week. What should I do? Has anyone else gone through this? Do we need to break up? Am I just being a stupid bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_2gtt70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my [18 F] of near 3 yrs, no idea what to do anymore.", "post": "I've been with her for going on three years next month, and I'm not sure if I can go much longer with her. I'd break up, but it's just not that simple. We, after two years together, had a kid. \n\nIt was an accident and we took the hardest way out by putting him up for adoption, great family, he's doing just fine. But this put me at a solid halt for the idea of breaking up, half of me says I should stay with her because of the ordeal, but the other half says that I won't go anywhere in life. I feel like she holds me back from college, work, and a life in general.. To make it worse, I'm her first love, and if you know how that feel is to lose your first love.. \n\nHow should I go about it?", "summary": "I want to break of with gf but had kid and had him adopted. Morals say no, but.."}
{"id": "t3_rrbaf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A serious question about what could be in heaven, and how we might make the world better.", "post": "So when I consider the concept of heaven, as described in nearly every religious doctrine, I think of an endless expanse where the human soul of every living person resides in peace and happiness. \nAnd we can say with certainty that the soul is something other than our body, as it's what drives us but supposedly leaves our body upon death. From this we can reason that the soul has no mass and is able to fit inside any space an infinite number of times.\nWith the physical logistics covered, now I ask- what would it be like in heaven? We can speculate a thousand different outcomes but what is the common theme across every religious text? It's Good.\nPersonally when I think of good I think of everyone benefiting each other and no one is hurting and everyone can live and grow in peace. Yet somehow people consider others' actions, that don't directly effect them negatively, are the cause for non-related tragedies. At this point I'm speaking specifically about the extreme Christians' stance on homosexuality. And it's when people consider themselves harmed in any way it's natural that they'll fight back, and so we see blow-back in the middle east and prejudice in the US (unfortunately this is by much more superstitious people that convinced themselves gays hurt others because of personal identification in the same way they can cure cancer through inaction [prayer]). Clearly there are other examples in racial prejudice in the same way and I'm not going to claim expertise in foreign affairs if someone better informed would like to comment. But to me the world would be more like heaven if everyone understood and accepted others' lives for all they're worth, not even that everyone should donate their time and money but at least not force themselves on others in any way.", "summary": "Would it be better to live to get into heaven, or bring heaven onto earth and live there? And how can we do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2tzt52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend of 7 years[30/M]. He refuses to cut back on drinking, am I asking too much?", "post": "So for a long while now my boyfriend (30/m) of 7 years has had a drinking problem. I continue to bring it up to him and yet he refuses to see a problem. His response is always \"am I a dick when I drink?\" To which I can only manage the answer \"no.\" before he blurts out, \"then there's not a problem.\" He can easily down a handle of alcohol in two days and go out for more, and takes shots throughout the day from when he wakes up till when he sleeps. I try to add to my answer of no, but it seems he doesn't listen to anything I say past that point. I tell him that when he drinks it can often be like talking to a brick wall and that I highly prefer his company when he's sober. His response at this point is \"oh, so it's because you say so.\" I have even tried saying, \"yes, you are a dick. Not listening, disregarding my feelings, and lying to me about cutting back and then not, is dickish. If you want me to tell you you're being a dick before you quit then there you go.\" I get the exact same response of \"oh, so it's because you say so\". I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do or what to say. I can't keep going in circles like this. Is asking someone you care about to cut back their obsessive drinking pushing them too far, over reacting, or being cruel? Am I wrong to ask?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 7 years drinks excessively and disregards everything I say on the matter, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_19059c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (17f) is still in deep love with me while I've fallen out of love (17m). (14 months)", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for a long time now and I truely believe that she is an overall bitter person. At this point now I'm trying to figure out if she could be the one for me because I feel like it's a waste of time to continue to date her at this point if she's not right for me. I brought up these things today when I talked to her about it and she begged and begged for a chance to earn my love back and show me that she is someone that I want to continue to be with. My plan going in was to stay firm and not give in no matter what happened. But after seeing her cry and beg and try and work it out for almost an hour I thought to myself, she really must love me a lot if she is literally on her knees apologizing and wanting to make it better. \n\nSo she has a chance. But I don't know how things are going to improve. I feel like at this point she is going to be really nervous when she is around me and that she is going to have the thought \"I hope I can get him to love me again\". Can things ever work out after the conversation that we just had?", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to try and get me to fall in love with her again, can it still workout after this?"}
{"id": "t3_ss8jj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When is one time when you \"cheated\" the system? (Details inside)", "post": "So one day (This was either near the end of my last year in high school or during the summer, cant remember) I get a call from a friend and he asks me if I want free pizza, of course I say yes, I pick him up and go pick up the the pizza from Papa Johns. Next day same thing happens, I ask him how he's getting these pizzas, he told me some techno-mumbo-jumbo, I knew he wasn't very skilled in using computers and had no clue how to hack into anything. This happened for about a month, eventually my other friends found out and we begged him to tell us.  He ending up telling us finally that one day while he was home sick from school he was browsing the internet and came across a free pizza coupon (You can order pizzas online at Papa John's) he entered it in a got a free one, so he decided to change one character at the end and go another, he then realized he could get tons of free pizzas just by changing a letter in a coupon code.  My friends and I ordered over $1000 worth of pizza from Papa John's that summer all for free.\n(P.S. Papa John's moved their location a few months later, not sure if it was related to us)", "summary": "my friends and I got over $1000 worth of pizza for free over one summer due to coupon exploitation."}
{"id": "t3_2osgyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Love interest [21 F] agrees with everything I [21 M] say [3 months] and I've almost completely lost interest for this reason.", "post": "So I have come out of a 2 year relationship with girl of the same age recently. \n\nI have been seeing someone I've known for quite a while shortly after the whole thing ended.\n\nIn previous relationship girlfriend and I didn't see eye to eye on a lot of things. \n\nMaking a lot of fun debates with varied outcomes.\n\nThis girl I've been seeing agrees with EVERYTHING I say. \n\nI even play devils advocate to see if she'll agree with me. Example:\n\n\"X by Kafka is great!\", I'll say.\n\n\"Yes, Kafka is one of the best writers ever\"\n\n\"Oh, I only like this book, I think all his other work is mediocre.\" (Me \nplaying devils advocate fyi)\n\n\"Yeah, I think a lot of his books are quite depressing so I'm not really a fan of that kind of thing myself\".\n\nIt is so dumb, but she agrees with everything. \n\nI like her physically and everything, and she's a very sweet girl, but this kind of submission is the biggest turn-off for me ever. \n\nIt is the same effect as hearing your own voice on camera and cringing where you hear it.\n\nShe even does it to kind of 'impress' me. I'll google the name of some extremely obscure Polish composer or something, and she'll pretend she knows the guy, clearly reading off wikipedia just as I am. \n\nShe really overestimates my intelligence, but pretending to know something is a form of lying and I hate that.\n\nSo I wanna cool the whole thing off. \n\nYou can probably guess, this girl is really submissive and would react badly if I was really cold with her. \n\nShe's kind of in love I think, but must be kidding herself, as given her experience with me, she cannot truly know me.\n\nWhat's the best way to deal with it? \n\nDo I just cool it off right away because she has attachment issues? \n\nDo I tell her, but in effect calling her out on telling lies?", "summary": "Love interest agrees with everything and poses to impress me; I'm not impressed as this is kind of obnoxious; Wanna cool it off because it just implies she's kind of needy."}
{"id": "t3_10dv7v", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm not trying to be dramatic, but I just can't see how you can say you cared...", "post": "You're a lying, manipulative, cheating bitch. I can't tell you any of this because you blocked me. You might still creep this account, but I doubt you have the balls to try and answer anything. You can try to spin it as it's my fault and how I was such a terrible boyfriend. I know I suffocated you. I know I \"tried too hard\". But your reasoning is shit. You are crazy. You're right. But you fucking choose to be. You could easily stop doing all of the dumb shit you do, but that'd be too hard. That means you might actually have to try and grow up and try and think about a future. \n\nI doubted we would work a month into us dating. But I tried to stay positive, I tried to put myself out there. Always available to you, ready at any moment to help you or talk to you and just keep you company. What did I get in return? A fucking knife in the back. I'm not your stupid ass friends, your ex boyfriends, your shit father figures, or Brandon. \n\nWhich brings me to my next point. You obviously fucking love Brandon. Go for him. Or would you rather just continue to use people for your own emotional and physical satisfaction?\n\nYou are literally the worst type of human being. You flip every thing that's ever been said to use at your disposal. I'm pretty sure you were looking for a long time to find something about me that you could use to break up. I love how after everything, you still had to bring up Angel as your last comment to justify what you were doing. Fucking pathetic.\n\nAll I showed for you was love. And I received none in return. You can say what you want about me, but people will know the truth. I can't wait for you to continue to fuck up when you're an adult. The times closing in. \"She's 17.\" won't save you forever, bitch.", "summary": "Shitty girlfriend, fuck you."}
{"id": "t3_uv134", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I'm a little confused on Reddit's upvote system. Maybe it's just my account, but any insight on this would be great. (More info included)", "post": "So I'm a new user, and I had posted my first post just yesterday (wow, doesn't that sound redundant). The picture itself got over 600 upvotes, but in my account it displays I only have 397 total link/post karma.. and I don't understand that. Shouldn't my overall link/post karma equal up to all the things I've posted from this account? So why is my link/post karma significantly lower than the total karma from my picture post? \n\nMy comment karma seems to be accurate (adding up all the karma I've gotten from commenting on things), so why is the post/link karma all out of whack? Anyone who knows anything about this, please clue me in. Or is this actually a folly of Reddit?", "summary": "My total accnt post/link karma is significantly lower than what I think it's supposed to be (due to the fact that I've earned more karma points on a post I recently made), and am curious if this could be a flaw by Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_2kijfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my friend [17 F] Possible FWB relationship advice please.", "post": "Yesterday I went out to eat with one of my female friends( ill call her Andrea)from school(we go out to eat often) we talked about relationships and she said how she thinks highschool relationships are stupid and pointless she said she would much rather prefer a Fuckbuddy and we discussed highschool relationships from a third person perspective amd FWB relationships.\n\n When I took her home she asked,me if I was a virgin and unfortunately I told the truth which was that I was.She disclosed that she wasn't a virgin by this time I was already at her car and we departed. Should I follow up? I like her a little bit but not enough to ruin a FWB relationship? Sorry if this is,the wrong thread.", "summary": "Female friend brings up wanting to be in a FWB relationship and I am,curious as to if her purpose of bringing it up was because we are close or she wants the D."}
{"id": "t3_1qcqke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] possibly dating friend [21F] ...can I ask her if we're exclusive/in a relationship etc.?", "post": "My friend and I have basically started dating ...the other night I took her out for a drive to the beach late at night, we had a bite of food, some wine ..we ending up making out for a while (we have a long complicated history and she liked me for a while even when she was with her ex boyfriend). I took her back home, we continued to make out by her door and then by my car. I've met her parents we get along fine. The next day we meet up for a walk (we go on walks every week cause we live close by) and towards the end we start making out again. Now the next day I invite her over to my place and we hang out for a bit ...play piano for each other (we've never heard each other play). I walk her to the station and we kiss before she leaves. \n\nNow here is my problem, she has an ex boyfriend that she is still friends with who lives in the city and hence has a place that is convenient to stay at overnight. Now I've already asked her to give me a call before she heads over there but I don't know exactly what to say to her? Should I clarify that we're exclusive? Is that rushing things? \n\nI just want to know how to clarify what is going on between us and that she isn't going to do something with him without sounding insulting ...as if she's going to sleep with him just because she's staying over. Advice is welcome.", "summary": "friend and I have started dating (?) and she's staying at her ex's for a night. Should I be worried? How do I bring this up without sounding accusatory? Do I even have a right to be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_yqyoc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your help. I'm moving in with my boyfriend next month and I have weird bathroom phobias. How do you mask that you are \"doing the doo\"?", "post": "This is a throwaway account for several reason. My boyfriend loves to frequent reddit and I'd die of embarrassment if he even knew I cared about this.\n\nI have several weird bathroom rituals and one of the things I absolutely cannot stand is having to use a bathroom in public. Especially if it's number two. To be honest, the idea of another human hearing me use the bathroom or even smelling it would be a worse fate for me than being eaten alive by Vashta Nerada. \n\nI'm supposed to be moving in with him at the beginning of October. We've been planning this quite awhile as I'm over at his house enough to be considered already living there. Sometimes, I even spend the night. But I have never *used* the bathroom at his house. Like, I've used it, but never *used* it. His bathroom is placed adjacent from the living room so I have never tested the theory that you could hear what was going on in there or not. He has room mates with girlfriends, so I can tell you that the walls are very, *very* thin. \n\nAs a child, I grew up in a house where each bedroom (three bedroom house) had its own bathroom and we also had a guest bathroom. I have never experienced having to number two outside my own bathroom. When I got older, I even requested the master bedroom over my room mate to have my own bathroom, so this has never changed for me. Now, I'm about to be sharing a bathroom with a guy I've been dating for almost a year. \n\nMy question is **how do I keep my boyfriend from knowing what I am doing in the bathroom when I'm using it for number two? How can I mask any smells or noises without bringing it to his attention? What if I have to use the bathroom when he has a lot of friends over (he has a ton of friends that frequent on the weekend to play videogames and watch football).", "summary": "Girlfriend moving in with boyfriend. Too scared to let him know I'm shitting. How do I hide the fact I'm shitting in his bathroom?"}
{"id": "t3_2yfz6h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking more acid", "post": "So this happened about 15 yrs ago.  My friend and I had a habit of dropping acid on the regular over the summer since he was a dealer and you know, had to quality check his product before distributing.  Well, we had heard that if you drop acid during your trip, it wouldn't do anything.  Of course, for science, we had to investigate.\n\nSo for our usual routine, we gathered the necessary tools for the trip: OJ (which helps the trip), a copy of MST3K the Movie and various video games to enjoy during our ride.  Down the hatch it went and off went MST3K on the TV.  (A little background about MST3K, it's a funny movie typically but we used it as our barometer for where we were on the trip as when it became funnier than normal, we knew the ride was on.)\n\nWell, the ride was nothing unusual, just some visuals, walls moving, shit being funnier than normal, video games kicking ass, etc. so around 5am when things were slowly winding down, we decided to test science.  2 hrs later, not really feeling anything more or different, I decided to bail and head home.  So it's a beautiful warm morning and this is where I realized I fucked up.  \n\nI'm stuck at a stoplight, enjoying the glorious sun and such and take notice that the trees were waving in a steady breeze that seemed like it'd feel good on my face while driving, so I roll down my windows.  Sadly, there was no breeze.  All was calm and it dawned on me that I'm still tripping (usually I'm down and ready to crash by now).  Not cool.  Light turned green and I was already halfway home by now so I decided that I had to drive back roads home to an empty house and ride the wave out.  Made it home fine but empty houses and tripping suck (especially when nothing good is on TV).", "summary": "Don't double-dip during a trip"}
{"id": "t3_1u2wp0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm infertile...", "post": "27/m/Canada\n\nSo, it seems like I'll never be able to make my own kid. I've suspected this for a while, but it's now confirmed. Outside of a medical miracle, I'm the end of my genetic line. \n\nI also have ED, but can get it up with some medication administered with a syringe. I've come to terms with that, although introducing a new girl to my magical world of weird medicine is always an interesting conversation. \n\nI've been through hell, almost dying a few times. But, I beat the odds and am alive, and healthy. I am a fighter, and when I should have just given up, I didn't. My last LTR ended because she gave up on me. She was my best friend, but in the darkest times, she left. So, I moved on from her. I had to move home for a while, I slept for three months, I did what was needed to survive. And I did. \n\nNow, here I am. I am blessed with a new beginning, and I have the will and means to make a fantastic life.\n\nI am going to find a partner who accepts me for who I am. I am going to build a life with her. We'll have to adopt, I guess. Or she might have a kid already. I'm okay with that. Either way, I'll be a good dad and raise the kid as my own. \n\nIt's exciting, in a way. I've been given the short end of the stick so many times, but I've never been beaten. I'm a fighter and I'm going to keep this shit going.", "summary": "life's tricky"}
{"id": "t3_4k8fvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F25) boyfriend (M26) of 2 years just told me he is manipulative", "post": "I have been with this guy for 2 years. Yesterday, he told me that before we go any further in the relationship, I should know that he is very manipulative. I haven't even thought of him like that before. So obviously, the first thing I did was go on Google to see if anyone else has been in my situation before. I couldn't find anything similar, but I found a lot of articles on how to see if your partner is a manipulator. Most of the things on the manipulator check list aren't in our relationship. However, I spotted 2 that is very obvious: I am almost always wrong in any argument we have and he points out things about myself that I should improve. However, I have never really felt any emotional distress in the time period I was with him. One thing I notice however is that he puts a lot of emphasis on how he looks (grooming, clothing) and yet very little emphasis on appearances of things like car or house. Basically, I am just really confused. I don't understand why he told that he is manipulative and yet, I can't find convincing signs that he is. Maybe he doesn't understand what manipulative means ? Maybe it's some next level manipulation ? Maybe I am just too blind to see it ? He often tells me that I am too naive and that I shouldn't trust people so easily, him included. He is lawyer, I don't know if that helps with anything.", "summary": "My boyfriend told me he is manipulative. However, I can't find any convincing signs that he is.  Am I just too naive to see it? What is he hoping for by telling me this?"}
{"id": "t3_45rcud", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is 1200 calories actually enough?", "post": "I've been using MFP for about a year (pretty steadily, current streak is 45 days) and set my calories at 1200. This is what MFP calculated for me for my height and to lose 2 lbs per week.  I'm typically eating around 1350 calories anyway, but at least shooting to stay under the 1200 most days. I've lost 21 lbs over the past year, which is much less than I should have lost but I've fallen off the wagon a few times. I've been doing it consistently since January 4, and I seem to have hit a plateau. I've lost 4.4 since then, which is a loss of about a pound a week on average, but I saw almost 3 lbs of that in the first week of January and haven't lost in the last 3 weeks but haven't gained either. I also have been on a generally low carb and low sugar diet- no sweets, bread, pasta or alcohol during the week, but sometimes on the weekend. I recently spoke to someone who does keto and they gave me a lot of info which seemed to make sense. They were adamant that I'm cutting my calories way too low and that my body is probably hanging on to fat whenever I am eating over 1200. Basically that my body is in starvation mode, which I previously thought was junk science. She said that calories in/calories out isn't complex enough and what you eat matters more than how many calories it is. She calculates my TDEE and says I should eat at least 1500 calories. This person has lost over 50 lbs and does talks at various venues so I feel like she should know what she's talking about. Later, I was listening to the doctor radio on satellite and an expert there said that Keto is unsafe and that people on Keto are consuming way too much fat (and typically, red meat) than is healthy and even if they see weight loss, they're likely doing harm to other things like their cholesterol level etc.", "summary": "did 1200-1300 calories per day on average, had 21 lbs of success but have hit a plateau. is 1200 too low for someone who is 5'1\" female? Is a Keto diet consuming 1500 calories a better option?"}
{"id": "t3_2u0eu5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling the truth", "post": "This is actually a double fuck up.\n\nFor two weeks I managed to skip school. I took certain precautions but couldn't prevent the inevitable phone call to my parent's cell. I'd been dealing with some stuff and thought it best not to come to school. In the end I found myself talking to my guidance counselor with my parent, the vice principal, and the principal in the same room. I was tired of all the lies so I told them exactly what I was thinking. One word came to mind that caused this fuck up, \"bomb\". But hey they asked me what was wrong, they wanted to know what was going through my head, so I told them. Ended up getting involuntarily institutionalized.\n\nFast forward to my senior year second sem, now actually. Today the school called again. Parents found out I haven't completed any of my four classes I need to graduate. They confronted me and I said, \"Yeah, haven't done any of them.\" Series of questions, some crying, me constantly saying, \"I don't care.\" So yeah fucked up pretty bad, go me. Still don't care though.", "summary": "Lied a lot and now paying for it."}
{"id": "t3_1uiszb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend[21 F] of 6 months fight all the time (every 2 days or so), I can't slip up", "post": "(Sorry, I'm not sure if fight is the correct word)\n\n(My english is not great, sorry)\n\nWe have been dating for 6 months now, and since the first month, I have to think a thousand times before I say anything, because if I slip up in one word or whatever, she will fight with me, and end up not talking with me for 2 or 3 days. And it's been hard for me, I love her, she loves me, but if I say something wrong, if I be rude with her (even just a little. I know it's not correct but it happens), she will fight with me.", "summary": "If I slip up in any way, anything at all, my girlfriend will fight with me and will end up not talking with me for 1-2 days. No matter what I say after my mistake, no matter how many times I apologize."}
{"id": "t3_2tnx9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend of two years [18 F] of a little over two years just broke up with me over the phone. I'm [19 M].", "post": "Everything thing was going well, i was suppose to visit her at her college this weekend for her birthday. She lives about 90 mins away from me and we each other often. This weekend she went over to one her sorority sisters house this weekend for a concert. \n\nShe just randomly called me on the phone and everything seemed normal. Then suddenly she didn't say anything for couple mins and i hear a bit of crying and i kept saying are you ok?. She then says \"you know i love you and i always will\" and went on and at the end saying i don't love you anymore. I couldn't say a word i was caught off guard. It was so random. At this point i was so shocked i just hung up. \n\nI called her back later and talked to her about it asking if this is what she wants. She said yeah. So now I don't know what to do i deactivated all my social medias and i feel so weird.\n\nWhat do I do now? It's just crazy a little over two years", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4edmqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] want to make out with my roommate [25 F]", "post": "I am living with a friend right now who is single and a lesbian. I am Bisexual and really attracted to her.\n\nI have been wanting to make out with her for a long time and I have flirted with her a few times. She usually is receptive to flirting and will flirt back but it has never gone past that.\n\nI am living with her for another month before she moves out of state so I really want to see if something can happen in that time.\n\nLooking for any ideas or advice and I can give more info about the situation if it would help.\n\nThank you :)", "summary": "Living with a roommate I really want to kiss and don't know how to approach it or make it happen."}
{"id": "t3_4hs04c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20M) and my girlfriend (19F) ran into my ex (20F) on campus and now she's acting weird", "post": "My Girlfriend (19F) and I (20M) were walking my dog around campus when we walked past my ex (20F)\n\nWe have no hard feelings for each other since we broke up about a year ago so I wasn't gonna be rude and just ignore her. We exchanged heys, but then she stopped to pet my dog introduce herself to my girlfriend\n\nAfter a very quick conversation she left and we started to walk back to the car. My girlfriend hardly spoke on the way back and left for her place shortly after we made it to mine.\n\nShe came back later that night still hardly speaking and started to cry a little. I tried ask he what was wrong but I couldn't get it out of her. \n\nShe didn't move from the couch until this morning and still isn't speaking. Why do you think she's upset and what should I do about it?", "summary": "My girlfriend (19F) and I (20M) ran into my ex on campus and after we had a quick casual conversation with her my girlfriend is giving me the silent treatment. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_32m2hh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [22 M] just found out this girl [23 F] broke up with her abusive boyfriend, should I go for it?", "post": "Throwaway, because she also lurks around reddit as well. \n\nMet her in class one day and knew of her other sibling. We just started talking and since we both have a relaxed personality, we became friends naturally. Started off with just studying once a week at a coffee shop, then it became studying and food, then at the moment we either study at least once a week and it's a given we go feast after.\n\nI didn't want to think much of it, because she has a boyfriend, so obviously I'm not that \"homewrecking\" kind of type. \n\nFast forward to the other day, I find out she and her boyfriend had broken up. What I know about him is I would say he verbally abuses her. From what she tells me he would yell, cuss at her, have a hot temper, blames her for everything, just the textbook stuff. Some other things to note that, he broke up with her because he didn't feel anything in the relationship anymore and this is the guy that broke up with her last year around the same time for someone else and got back with her a couple months later. \n\nAbout her. I thought there would be some red flags, obviously from the abuse, the fact that she took him back and some other things. However, I've been hanging out with her and I don't see those red flag qualities, maybe because it's too soon? I've only known her for a few months. I talk to her and find to be down-to-earth and cool. She makes me relaxed when I'm around her, and not the type that's too quick to judge. That's the best part too, I feel I'm myself when I'm around her and I can say that she's kind of opening up to me as well. \n\nI've kind of been in this situation, but the girl was crazy after the fact we went out for two weeks, when all the flags did show up and she threatened to run me over on my bike. I noped out of there, but would not like to deal with that again. \n\nAny advice reddit on how to handle this? Repercussions if I do?", "summary": "Girl I like suffers emotional abuse from her new ex, I'm still diggin' her."}
{"id": "t3_3a8wp1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my favorite singer [29/m] bootycalled me [20/f]. can i initiate another hookup with him or do i let him make the moves?", "post": "Ok, fair warning that this may be kind of long.\n\nI'm studying abroad, and back in April I went to a show of my favorite band. After the show, I spoke for a little bit with the lead singer, and at the end he told me to add him on Facebook so he could pass along events going on in our city. At the beginning of May, he finally accepted my friend request and sent me a bunch of information about the events, and I told him to let me know if he was going to any of them. He told me he would or that we would plan something else and that he has a cool terrace at his house. He said he would be in town for the next two weeks, and I told him to let me know when it would be good for him. He never ended up messaging me.\n\nFast forward to a week ago, his band had a show scheduled and I wasn't able to get tickets before they sold out. I message him telling my problem and that I'm leaving Brazil soon and I want to see them before I go. He messages me back saying he can put my name on the list for the show and that he was sorry for never letting me know when it would be good for me to come over to his house and if I wanted, the invitation still stood. I thanked him and said I accepted the invitation. He messages me the next night asking if I was free and tells me to come over to his house. I do. We walk to go buy beer, he shows me a super pretty view of the city and kisses me, and we go back to his house and have sex. The whole time he was super sweet and caring with me, and I had a really nice time with him. A few days later, I go to his show and talk with him a little afterwards again. At the end, he asks when I'm leaving Brazil and tells me see you soon.", "summary": "My favorite singer bootycalled me. I want to hookup with him again, but I don't know if this was just a one night stand kind of thing. Should I initiate anything or let him call the shots?"}
{"id": "t3_4n7ebk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25M] My girlfriend [25F] is still friends and keeps in contact with past crushes and former FWB's. I do not suspect any foul play, but I still feel weird.", "post": "We've been together for 8 months, she has been with 11 guys sexually before me, and me 10, and she'll still keep in contact with former FWB's or crushes. She's very low maintenance, and sometimes I'll actually meet some of these guys. I can put on a good face and be cordial, but afterwards, I feel all weird. Like insecure as if she would run away from me for these guys. I feel I am in the right for feeling this way, but I do not want to be needy with her and tell her she has to stop talking to these guys once in a while. Is she just looking for attention? She'll talk to at least one of them a few times a month, but mostly not more than that.", "summary": "25M] My girlfriend [25F] is still friends and keeps in contact with past crushes and former FWB's. I do not suspect any foul play, but I still feel weird."}
{"id": "t3_3svrdv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm afraid my [25F] trust issues are going to ruin my relationship [26M, 8mo].", "post": "I love my boyfriend so much. He's the nicest, most supportive, most caring person, I've ever dated. We have an awesome connection, both emotionally and sexually. However, I have a really hard time trusting people in relationships. I've been cheated on and have had emotionally and sexually abusive partners. These experiences have left me with the feeling that trust needs to be earned, not just automatically given in a relationship. I also have pretty bad anxiety which doesn't help.\n\nMy boyfriend is the opposite. He trusts me completely, and I can tell it hurts him that I don't trust him fully. We're pretty open with each other, and he's told me he's cheated multiple times in the past. He told me he's older now, he's more mature and doesn't want to do that to me. I'm the one he wants to be with, and if he wanted to be single, he would be single. And when we talk about things like this, I always believe him initially. However, it still nags me. In addition to this, he's close friends with all of his exes, who he would still sleep with up until we started dating. We've talked about boundaries with regards to that, but sometimes it doesn't seem like he understands where I'm coming from.\n\nI'm not sure where to go from here. I don't know how to think more positively about it, and my anxiety causes me to spiral in awful what-ifs. But I do know that I want to be able trust him in the same way he trusts me, and I don't want to hurt him by not trusting him or making him feel like he'll inevitably cheat on me.", "summary": "In a really great relationship with someone wonderful, afraid I'm going to let my past affect it."}
{"id": "t3_2diwdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [21F] of 2 months, thinks that I like the idea of a girlfriend rather than her", "post": "While we've only been in a proper relationship for 2 months we've been romantically involved one way or another for the past 6 months. Yesterday she said there was something she wanted to ask me but felt horrible asking it so never ended up asking me. Today I convinced her that it was best for our interests that she just comes out and says it. She was unable to say it over Skype so she just sent me a text, the text said \"Sometimes I get slightly paranoid that like sometimes I think that you might like the idea of having a girlfriend or just having a girlfriend more than you actually like me as a person\".\n\nFirst and foremost I love this girl so much, I'd do anything for her and it hurt me a little that she thinks this. I tried to explain to her how much I like her and there's no one else in the world I'd want to be with but no matter what I say she says the doubt is still in her mind.\n\nI have a feeling that she might be insecure about our relationship because she told me that someone had told her that I wanted to have sex with her when I first met her (this is from one of my friends crazy ex's and is not true). I really like her and I want to make this work but what ever I say she doesn't seem to listen to me, how can I make her believe that I think she is the most amazing person in the world and I want to be with her, not the idea of a relationship?", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks I just like the idea of a girlfriend rather than her, how can I convince her this is wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_f8g9v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, I fucking love you but you're killing me.", "post": "You've basically become the internet for me, which is fine and all, but sitting here hour upon hour, day upon day frittering away my underemployment clicking on random cartoons and reading weird over-sharing posts that are neither enlightening or even very interesting, is basically like sitting at the breakfast table and reading the Capn' Crunch box. It's an enormous waste of fucking time. Sorry. \nYou're killing me. My attention span has been reduced to 3 nanoseconds and I blame you and your incessant comments and updates. \n\nI'm going to check in the next few days to see if the guy giving away the amp writes me back, but other than that I am fucking DONE. No more. The only time I'm coming back is when I have something to post that will genuinely benefit other humans. \n\nFor those of you anxiously awaiting my cookbook, rest easy papitos. It's in the works. You'll be the first to know. :)", "summary": "Had some great times on here but it's has slowly taken over my life. Need to cut the cord. Only coming back to post."}
{"id": "t3_41bp5p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[US] Declined for a credit card I was pre-approved for. Is it worth calling the bank asking for more information?", "post": "Hello,\n\nBackground info on myself - I'm a fresh college grad looking for a first credit card away from my parents. I have a credit score of 789 (according to Chase, who declined my credit card application, 785 according to my most recent inquiry on creditkarma). I have had a credit card in my name for the last 11 years with a $6500 spending limit that I have been using for gas and small purchases, which is paid off in full every month by my parents, so I don't have any late payments on my credit score. I also have a student loan on my credit report, which has been paid off within the 6-mo no interest grace period. \n\nBackground on the situation - I was pre-approved for the Chase Sapphire Preferred Card about a month ago when I opened a bank account. 2 weeks ago I applied online, and a week ago I was denied for \"Few revolving accounts opened long enough to establish credit history, Not enough accounts opened long enough to establish a credit history.\"     My understanding is that these reasons basically mean I haven't had credit history for long enough. Which is very strange considering I was pre-approved, nothing new has come up in my credit report since then, and I've had a decent sized spending limit credit card opened for 11 years, and a loan which had been opened for a few years.\n\nMy question is - Is it worth it to contact Chase for more information? Is it possible that there was some sort of mistake? Or is normal for someone of my credit record?\n\nSide question - If there's no point in contacting Chase about it, what are some other cards you might recommend? I was looking at the Capital One Venture Rewards card or the CO VentureOne Rewards Card.", "summary": "I was declined for a card I was pre-approved for, and seems to be within my range of cards I should be able to get. Is it worth it to contact the company about it?"}
{"id": "t3_46mllo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [25 f] and I [24 m] are getting an apartment together, but she wants to move into a shitty cheap place, when I want somewhere decent.", "post": "My girlfriend of two years, Anne, has about the same salary as I do, so when we decided to move in together we chose to split the rent 50/50. We're both young professionals with steady jobs.\n\nDespite having similar salaries now, Anne and I are from different backgrounds. I'm from a somewhat wealthy family, and had grown up going to private schools and had help from my family to pay for college. Anne put herself through college for an engineering degree, and her family is getting by but isn't very rich. She's the first one in her family to go to college. Perhaps because of this, she is extremely frugal, still shopping at the cheapest food and clothes stores for sales, such as the \"dented goods\" type groceries and goodwill.\n\nWe sent the last few weeks touring apartments, we each picked a couple places to view together. She picked tiny ones that I honestly think aren't in safe enough areas, and they weren't in good condition. They were around $600 to $700 a month.\n\nI picked ones that she said were \"Too big, what are we going to do with all this space?\" or \"Way too expensive for what we're getting for the price.\" They were around $1000 to $1500 a month.\n\nI tried to tell her that what we were getting for the price wasn't just the apartment, but the fact that it wasn't as likely to have maintenence issues, and that she would be safe walking around the neighborhood at night. And I thought the extra space (larger living room, and kitchen) would be nice for having guests over.\n\nShe said that she was good with fixing stuff (Which she is) and that she'd lived in worse places, and she could take care of herself.\n\nThe issue is that I can't see myself living in one of the old noisy studio apartments she chose, and she does not want to spend enough for a decent place, like the ones I chose to see. I considered paying for more of the rent, but since we have the same income, I would really rather go 50/50.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I disagree on what we should be paying for an apartment"}
{"id": "t3_1ke2y7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] first ever relationship [28F] ended 3 months ago. It was emotionally abusive and draining but I still can't say I'm fine with it.", "post": "Hey there.\n\nI guess there isn't anything new to say other than what I have posted in my previous posts with this account. I had my first ever relationship and it ended 3 months ago mostly due to her moving abroad. It was emotionally abusive and for every \"good\" thing related with it, there were around 50 \"bad\" things associated with it.\n\nThe thing is that whenever I have some \"free time\" or anytime I recollect myself, I find myself thinking about her. I've initiated NC and while she has called 2-3 times (with a time difference of two weeks to a month) I never answered the phone.* I'd like to think that it's for the best but I'm not so sure given the following circumstances:\n\nI'm not delusional. I know now and I've known since the very first days of the breakup that no matter how hard we (I) tried things would never change in this particular relationship. Even in my \"darkest\" moments after the breakup I never thought that if we give it another go at it things might end up differently. No, they will always remain the way they were.\n\nThe scary part is that in my current state I keep thinking that I would be *better* with that relationship rather than having nothing. I do admit I'm insecure and suffering from low self-esteem but... that much?\n\nHow do I move forward fixing this? How do I let go of something that even my brain says that it really isn't worth it? Thanks in advance for reading.\n\n* = I do find it curious that even though she has called 2-3 times, she has me blocked on skype for the past ~3 months (she blocked me around 10 days after leaving the country and without any reason). Even though it serves no practical reason... any thoughts on that?", "summary": "= Three months out of my [25M] first relationship [28F]. It was emotionally abusive and draining. I never thought that by trying again we could achieve better outcome but... I'm still clinging to it apparently."}
{"id": "t3_tq325", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on SO moving away", "post": "My girlfriend and I, having been dating for two years, and I love this girl. We're both in our early 20s, and she just found out that she got in to med school on the other side of the country(Canada). She will be moving in August. I've never lived anywhere else before, my family lives here, and my friends, whom I've been friends with my whole life, are here. The thought of moving to a far off place with just her scares me. But, the thought of her leaving and losing her scares me as well. What sort of thought process should I be using? Or can anyone give me some advice?\n\nOther facts:\n-She is my first girlfriend.\n\n-We currently live together.\n\n-Currently I have a fairly stable job in this city which I enjoy, and have no job prospects in this new area.", "summary": "Girlfriend is moving away for school, I've never moved, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3dugak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my Fiance [35 F] 2.5 years, is sexting with an old friend. Please Help!!", "post": "So, we both started new jobs at the same time. She had to go away for a month to go to training. It was very stressful for her. She came back worn out and exhausted. I was there for her, supported her in everything she needed. One day we got into a fight, and she started talking to an old friend of hers. (he lives out of state, has an unhappy marriage, and a kid) I saw what she wrote. She said she wanted to be with him. That i am an idiot. The you \"gets me\". \n\nI got very suspicious, and started looking at her messages to him. She deleted a lot, but when i could some. A lot of them were about me, and how Im careless, and how now she is rethinking everything. Eventually i saw it start to get sexual. How she likes it in bed. How she thinks about him. How she wants to be with him. I confronted her about how i notice something is wrong. and how i think something is happening between them. She laughed in my face. Told me that there is nothing to worry about and they don't, and will never have a relationship like that, but i know what i saw. \n\nThis led me to investigate further, I found one picture of him naked in the recently deleted folder. I sent the picture to myself. I now have concrete proof something is happening. She keeps telling me there is nothing to worry about. She get annoyed and starts yelling when ever i bring this up. She has been away on business so i texted her, that i know something is up, and she needs to tell me the truth. \n\nI want to prepare myself for this,  she is very manipulative and she can back me into a corner, and turn this around on me in an instant. Im really hurt and i dont know what to do. I would feel stupid trying to salvage this relationship, but i feel stupid throwing it away as well. I dont even know what to do.", "summary": "Fiance is sexting with her old friend of 20 years. I found a picture to prove it. What should i do next?"}
{"id": "t3_35doku", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping a cup at a party.", "post": "Last night there was an impromptu BBQ/Party, I wasn't going to go but my crush appeared just before I was about to go home from school and convinced me to come along.\nWent to the supermarket and bought some drinks and food, etc. Got to the BBQ, there are good vibes and all my friends are there.\n\nMixed up a gin and juice and started socialising.\nSo I'm talking with my crush with my cup in my left hand and for whatever reason it falls out of my hand. I've had a few by this stage so I'm not too surprised or concerned but as it's dropping I decide to bend over to observe its descent. When it finally hits the ground the content of the cup, shoots up like a fucking geiser straight at my face/neck/chest. Meanwhile my crush has made the same noise that a concerned on-looker makes when a child has just fallen over, you know, the oopsy noise.\nI tried to continue the conversation as though it was no big deal, but the damage was already done.", "summary": "Dropped cup, splash juice all over me whilst talking to crush. Dignity shattered."}
{"id": "t3_1b30q5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] am still attracted to my recently single friend [20f].  Should I make a move?", "post": "About a year ago, I met my friend Alice and I found her very attractive from the start. Over the course of the time I knew her, I asked her out on dates, but she would say she was busy and maybe some other time. Eventually she flat out rejected me and we became close friends instead. I found out later that she has some apprehension over relationships in general.\n\nAbout 6 months ago, she entered a relationship with someone. This relationship, though not admitted at the time, bordered on abusive. A rift began to form and about two weeks ago, they broke up. When this happened, Alice came to my room and I held her as she cried into my shoulder. I spent plenty of time from then on with her for comfort.\nI'm realizing now that I really would like to date her still, owing to her availability. Now, clearly, she needs time to heal after the breakup...it wasn't exactly clean or easy. But what can I do if I want to ask her out? She rejected me once...is that a permanent kiss of death? Is there an appropriate time to wait? Should I even bring it up? Will the fact that I was present to comfort her help?", "summary": "my friend who I've always found attractive has been single for two weeks and I kinda want to go for it."}
{"id": "t3_3y1ca5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my bf [21M] for 1.5 year, having troubles and are ldr over christmas break, need some insight.", "post": "First of, excuse my bad language as english is not my original language. \n\n\u00a0\n\nSo I recently found out that my bf have had a secret flirtation with his ex over the last three months. He has been lying about it, and I am feeling really hurt. I no longer trust him. I really do love him, and want to forgive him and move passed it. \n\n\u00a0\n\nAt first he was really apologetic, and wanted to do anything to make it up to me again. I go to school where he lives, but my family is in another city. So I had to leave for christmas break only two days after I found out. With all of my trust issues and me feeling hurt this has taken a toll on our relationship. He now feels exhausted, and don't want to work on making it better. Instead he made me feel guilty for beeing hurt and making a big deal out of it. And now im alone trying to fix things, that he broke, and i feel really alone.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nBefore I left for the holidays he promised we would call each other every day.  And we have done so once in the five days i have been home. I asked him tonight if he wanted to talk to me for a bit, I even gave him a call. But he just turned me down. And said he dont feel like talking.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI don't know what to do. I am sad, lonely, and feeling worthless. It's like he don't even care about me or my feelings anymore. I am afraid to say anything, but i want to talk to him about all of this. But I don't know how, or what to say. I am afraid he'll get more distant if I do.  \n\n\u00a0\n\nI really don't want to break up with this guy. So please reddit, I only need some insight and help in understanding all of this.", "summary": "boyfriend been flirting with his ex and lying about it. wanted to make it better at first, but has grown distant after me leaving town for the holidays."}
{"id": "t3_1qdi3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my gf [19F] of 3 months, found out that she hooked up just before we got serious", "post": "I just found out that my girlfriend of few months hooked up with a guy in a car while we were getting to know each other but not quite in a relationship.\n\nI remember that day well as she said she had to go do something else so I just biked around a lot that day.\n\nAgain, not actually dating but it still makes me feel sick to my stomach. Sometime I wish she didn't told me. Maybe I should go to a therapist or something, idk.\n\nRight after she told me, I told her that we had to take STD tests and it came back clean. \n\nI know this is not logical, but fuck. I also haven't seen her in 2 weeks now.. but I'll see her this Friday, so that should help a lot. LDRs suck, but we are committed to it and love each other.", "summary": "she hooked up with a guy right before we got serious but after we had a couple of dates or so. I immediately forced us to take STD tests but it still bother me when I think about it, biking around having a good time thinking about how well our dates went, while she fucked that guy."}
{"id": "t3_mwtkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18/M] Why does it feel like my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been together since we were 15 and now we are both 18; so we've been together for a little more than 3 years. We started haveing sex after about a year, and then we had it almost everyday. Nowadays, though, I feel like she doesn't want it as much as she used to. It's not that I think that she doesn't love me, because I know she does. It's just that it feels like I'm always the one to initiate, I always want to talk about what I'd like to try and I always tell her how much I want to have sex with her. I talked to her about it and she said it's because she's so stressed (hard time in school) and that she feels that I'm putting pressure on her. But I love her! And I want her to get the same wonderful pleasure as I do when we have sex.\nIs it my fault? Am I just too much into it? Or is it because of her and my age? She told me that she had heard that women usually get hornier later in their life. Or is it because I'm doing something wrong? Isn't she enjoying it as much as I do?", "summary": "Why does it feel like my girlfriend doesn't enjoy sex as much as she used to?"}
{"id": "t3_1bf0gw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I ask my ex, who I work with, to quit?", "post": "Ok so I [25M] work with my ex [21F] and things have gotten pretty bad. She turned 21, said she wanted a little time apart but swore we were going to be fine and get back together. Two weeks later she tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, doesn't want to be tied down, and is enjoying the single life. She also informed me that she had started sleeping with someone else a week after we split. And yesterday I worked with her and found out she has a new boyfriend. Working with her has become extremely difficult and usually results in conversations I'd rather not have, and I'm general is a distraction. This job is something I'm highly invested in while for her it is merely a paycheck that she doesn't need because she doesn't pay bills or rent. Am I totally out of line if I ask her to consider leaving? I feel like it would be best for all parties.", "summary": "I work with my ex at a job she cares very little about and that I'm trying to build a career off of, can I ask her to consider quitting?"}
{"id": "t3_4k2txm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend [22F] says she is dissapointed of me and I believe it's not fair.", "post": "Hi to all this is my first post and english is not my first lenguage so I'm sorry if I made a mistake. To make the history short me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months but we have been best friends for 7 years. We meet in highschool and we were friends from the beggining.\n\n \nYesterday we were talking from things that happen 7 years ago and she ask me if I make out with a girl from back then I say yes because that was the truth I make out with that girl 7 years ago then my girlfriend said that she was dissapointed of me and she couldn't believe that I do that with her then she said that it was too late and she need it to sleep so she just left the conversation. \n\nI believe that maybe I'm lossing something here maybe my gf hate that girl or something else. I have to say that the last time I see that girl was 5 years ago. So I don't understand why my gf react that way I think I need to understand her before getting mad but I realice something else. 3 months ago she told me about a trip she made with her friends 2 years ago I knew of that trip but what I didn't know and the thing she told 3 months ago is that in that trip she had a \"wild springbreak\" she makeout with her friends, with random dudes, she almost had a threesome with one of her friends and a random guy, she even enter a blowjob contest. I told her that it was fine that didn't bother me and it's truth that doesn't bother me. She said that she regret all the things in that trip and she will never do something like that again.\n\nSo now I'm a bit lost and a little dissapointed. \n\nAm I wrong for not feel regret for make out with that girl?\n\nAm I wrong to feel a little bit angry/dissapointed because she do judge me when I don't judge her?\n\nDoes she is right in been mad/dissapointed? \n\nI hope you can help. Thanks", "summary": "I don't know if it's fair that my gf judge me when I don't judge her"}
{"id": "t3_4a5yqx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling for a sex joke at a burger joint. Somewhat NSFW", "post": "So, me and my buddies are walking around town looking for some dinner. We see a nice looking burger joint across the street and decide we want some of that greasy meat. Looking over the menu, I see a burger called The Juicy Lucy; a half pound of 100% beef stuffed with american cheese. I couldn't find any reason why that wouldn't be anything but fucking delicious, so I spend 7 bucks and get myself a Juicy Lucy. The guy at the register tells me it takes a little longer, which was totally fine. As I'm waiting, my friends get their burgers and another guy asks me what I ordered, noticing that my friends were eating and I wasn't. I told him I got a Juicy Lucy, he smiled and said, \"Oh, well that takes longer.\" Right, got it. So finally Lucy comes out and she looks absolutely scrumptious, dripping with grease and bulbous as all hell. I look at this monster and think, 'Wow, thats a lot of cheese and meat in there'. This is where I went wrong, see it wasn't just cheese and meat in there. I raise the burger to my mouth, and as I bite into it the punchline to the greatest pussy joke ever is revealed. Turns out Lucy is a squirter, because as soon as my teeth sunk into the patty, grease exploded out of the burger with ferocious velocity. At least an ounce or two of pure beef grease squirts directly into my eyes, all over my face, onto the table. Not only am I covered in grease but I just spent $8 on this shit. I sit there contemplating life and it hits me. Juicy Lucy takes a little longer to warm up, but when you give it a nibble there's a surprise for you, and it isn't just american cheese.", "summary": "The Juicy Lucy is a burger/pussy joke combo that squirts in your face when you take a bite."}
{"id": "t3_36wivh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] have been courting this girl [F 21] for a couple of months now, not sure if I should still pursue.", "post": "I really like this girl but Im not sure if she still wants me to pursue her. Before, we would chat all night, now she barely responds and wont even open facebook. It really made me feel like she was avoiding me, so I go to her house/work just to see her. She seems happy to see me and we have a good time talking but then she still doesnt chat me up as much. And about 3 days ago, I went to her work and brought her flowers and coffee and she said Im doing too much??? But I asked if we were still okay with this courting thing, she said \"of course yes!\" But I dont really know what to do :(", "summary": "courting a girl, shes sending mixed signals, not sure if I still need to pursue"}
{"id": "t3_3ifen2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having an afternoon nap", "post": "So was up bright and early yesterday to get lots of things done in preparation of moving house next week and going to Leeds festival this weekend. Was feeling a little bit tired around half 4 and decided a power nap was in order (mistake). Woke up at 9 feeling groggy and hungry so ordered a Chinese and got a few more things done. All was going well got all of the things I wanted to get done finished and so decided it was bed time about 2am. \n\nI drift off to never neverland (cue heavy rock riff) and have the weirdest dream about my Nana being a notorious marijuana grower who's dog nearly dies and my dad works for the Ministry of Magic. Now I'm awake unable to get back to sleep and being forced to listen to drunkards stumble about Manchester looking for a fight, sex or drugs.", "summary": "Had an afternoon nap and woke up at 5am and can't get back to sleep."}
{"id": "t3_3ot6tr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] met someone on tinder [31 M] and now I have feelings for them.", "post": "I've been on tinder for a while now but only recently decided to actually start meeting people. I met this guy about a month ago. At first it was small talk but we hit it off. After a while of talking on the app we exchanged numbers. \n\nWe got to know each other way more, we have so many things in common. Both love dogs, video games, anime binges along with many other things. It was nonstop texting after that.\n\nHe lives an hour away, it's been kind of hard to hangout with both our schedules being as crazy as they are. During the manner of this time, he was being super sweet to me, like in a dorky way but I liked it! He has told me a couple of times that he really liked me and I started getting feelings for him as well and honestly, I was/am terrified that I did. \n\nWe've hung out a couple of times and they all were great. I went to his house this past Sunday, we literally just slept, cuddled, played video games and watched anime. It was such a perfect day in my opinion.\n\nAfter I left his house, I feel like everything kinda just went downhill? He doesn't text me as much and doesn't sweet talk to me at all. I understand the texting, he's busy. But even then, he would always say something sweet that would put a smile on my face. \n\nI got on tinder today to see if he's been on recently and of course, he has. Now I'm kind of second guessing if he lost interest or what give it. \n\nI've kinda been in this situation before. I dated a guy that completely led me on for 9 months and in the end it was never mutual. It hurt me a lot. I really don't want to go through it again.  Part of me tells me to ask if he's lost interest but the other part tells me to give it time and see where it goes since it's only been a month. I don't want to come off as pushy, or needy... \nIdk what I should do :\\", "summary": "I have feelings for someone and they may not feel the same."}
{"id": "t3_hcmz8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what is the best thing a company's customer service rep / manager / ceo / etc has ever done for you?", "post": "It doesn't just have to be the *best* thing they did, it could be nicest, most creative or funniest.\n\nFor clarification, a pizza place cutting your pie into a pentagram is awesome but that's what I mean. I'm talking about how they fixed a problem, righted a wrong, or hooked you up in general.\n\nBackstory if you care: I own an online store and want to improve customer service, who better to ask than Reddit? Recently we ran out of an autographed poster that a customer ordered -- it was our mistake completely, so we offered the customer an exchange or a refund. They said they would accept the un-signed poster if we drew a giraffe on the packaging, which we gladly obliged.\nGiraffe Drawings:", "summary": "I want to improve my online store's customer service, share your best CS experience."}
{"id": "t3_rpgyp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i need help with a family \"intervention\" for a hoarder who is also neglecting their children. Where to post?", "post": "this will be too hard to write out all the details but i mostly need help as to where i should post this. \n\nMy family is going to intervene and tell a sibling that they are severely neglecting their children and their life is a mess. The setup for this is already a month and a half in the making. This person is borderline hoarder with depression and anxiety and maybe more. His kids are malnourished and need medical attention (which they get for free) The parents are on the verge of divorce and have been for years. They really need help but at the same time wont admit there is anything wrong. The biggest thing is we are trying to avoid calling cps. We would like to try as a family to intervene and get the kids a better lifestyle. we have a large family and lots of support but the family is getting angry that we are trying to help. My parents have been helping for a month and a half by going in and helping clean and repair things like the furnace, running water, getting food in the cupboards. It's so in depth that I can't explain every detail but I need advice.\n If you can give any advice as to who we might call for assistence with an intervention on a hoarder/child neglect-er. Or resources I could search (google is a little to broad). I can give more details to any interested in helping me. We have scheduled a meeting with the whole family to go confront them, but i am doubting that this is our best option as he may get very mad and irrational. Thank you to anyone who reads this.", "summary": "Need help and resources for staging a family intervention for a hoarder/ child neglect-er"}
{"id": "t3_4duk3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mums ill and bros in care, I'm [21F] worried I'm too dependent on bf [23 M] of 6 yrs to help me cope", "post": "I'm new to this so go easy on me... I'll give some background first. Going back about 4 years to when my parents got a divorce, it was pretty messy my dad was an abusive alcoholic and my mum has pretty much no family other than us (the 'kids'). Looking back now I would say with certainty I was clinically depressed, I weighed about 7 stone and would be constantly anxious about everything. Pretty much the only thing that got me through that phase was my bf, he was somebody to vent to as I'm usually the happy go lucky one of the group and I'm also quite fiercely private so no one really knew what was happening in my home life. \n\nFast forward to the present and my mum has recently been diagnosed with bipolar and some form of delusion disorder, my younger brother is in care as I am at university and can't support him. I was the one who got her sectioned as I feared for my brothers safety and have very much been using all of my energy making sure everybody else is coping but I feel absolutely useless, I'm not sleeping and not eating again. My only outlet is my boyfriend and I'm so scared of being such a burden to him that he feels as though I'm not the fun loving girl he met. I try so hard to keep socialising with other people but atm it feels like everything I do is just like crawling through treacle. I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety (not much of a shock) and it's absolutely killing me being away from him (we're at unis in different cities).\n\n I honestly just feel so needy atm I just wanted to ask if any of you had been in a similar situation and if you have any advice as to how to get through this", "summary": "My mum has bipolar and my younger brother is in care. I'm in uni while trying to organise everything at home and feel like I can only talk to my bf about it."}
{"id": "t3_3a3y7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (F27) with BF (M28) and having trouble with non-romantic related jealousy", "post": "I'll make this short because it is a pretty generic and probably common problem.  I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now.  Everything has been great, no major problems.  In fact one of the problems I am having with this is we are really good.  I really love him, and I think we are very good and really want to keep this relationship.\n\nOkay, the problem.  He is starting to become successful in his job and what he does (I don't really want to give specific jobs, etc, because of friends on Reddit).  And I am feeling a bit left behind/jealous.  I have tried to figure out and rationalize these feelings.  I know that I need to be supportive and all that, and I am!  To his face anyway.  And deep down I really care and want him to be happy.  But there is still this niggling feeling of jealousy, or maybe I am worried that I am no longer good for him?  I'm not sure what the actual cause the feelings are, but I know I am aware of them.  I haven't spoken to him about these feelings because I don't want him to feel guilty about it and also I'm just plain embarrassed.  \n\nI know there probably isn't any help for this beyond \"get over yourself and support your boyfriend\", but maybe just hearing some other people's experience with this might help?", "summary": "Professional related jealousy with boyfriend, not sure how to get over myself."}
{"id": "t3_kjhfs", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need advice, and maybe someone to talk to?", "post": "Hi guys, first post on reddit and also a throwaway account, so hopefully this goes alright.\n\nI've been feeling bummed out recently for seemingly no reason. I am fairly fortunate, but have low self esteem from a childhood as a fat nerdy kid that had troubles socialising.\n\nI've been noticing recently I've been angry a lot easier, and I am feeling less and less empathetic to people's problems. My Dad has been chatting to me about his job and the people he works with (he hates it, the people there put him down) and I try and listen but the more I listen the more I get stressed out, and I try and get out of these conversations (rude I know but I can't take listening to it for too long).\n\nMy friends also complain to me about things I just find trivial, and I get really annoyed at some of them because they are really quite fortunate money wise, or are just lazy and that's basically what's causing their problems. I never really complain about anything in particular to them, or when I do they make a big deal about it and basically make a joke out of what I'm talking about.\n\nAll this is probably not much of a big deal, especially compared to problems I've seen on here, but I'm not sure what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation? I wouldn't mind going to see a psychiatrist but I am saving money at the moment, and I don't earn much (part-time worker) and I hate asking my parents for money. Does anyone know if there are any schemes where I can go see someone to talk about this stuff? I'm a university student if that helps.", "summary": "I am irrationally angry, get frustrated when people confide in me or ask for my help, and also when I confide in people and don't get taken seriously."}
{"id": "t3_1kt78t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am getting attached in an \"open relationship\" to a diffident geek[27M]", "post": "I am seeing this guy, and we entered on the basis of a casual relationship (both unable to commit to anything serious at the moment, but need cuddles). I'm getting very attached to him because he still says all the sweet things, we see each other multiple times a week and IM chats to each other for hours every day. \n\nThe closest way I can describe what we have is a best-friendship with sex, cuddles and companionship. He instigated much of this, as I wasn't sure if this fit into the \"not a relationship\" category, but he still insists he can't be in a relationship and that I can see other guys. I thought I could sleep with him without wanting more or exclusivity, but I just don't find myself able to sexually approach other men while seeing him and I got jealous when he saw another girl and they ended up cuddling, even though he said he's not looking for anything from her and is acceptable in our current arrangement.\n\nI was pretty sure it was just his depression that was holding him back from relationships (trying to protect me/him), but I'm wondering now if I'm a place holder for some girl he actually wants. He's so sweet and genuine, I find it hard to believe this myself, but I've been hurt too much before to think that things will work out.\n\nAny advice on what I should do?", "summary": "Agreed to not get serious. He gives me all the attention of a relationship, but doesn't want to be in one. I want a bit more exclusivity."}
{"id": "t3_1pv5nj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] asked a girl [19] to lunch. Now What?", "post": "So I've asked a girl to lunch (pretty easy huh) in a couple of days, got her number as well just in case something happens and one of us can't make it to Uni.\n\nSince this is pretty much my first time I've ever asked a girl to lunch I have no idea what to do (other then have lunch of course).\n\nI do want to ask her on a date after this but where?\n\nWhat to talk about at lunch?\n\nThere is also a chance of it raining. What should we do if that happens?\n\nAnd anything else I need to know?", "summary": "First time asking girl to lunch, advice would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2g1b93", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by zoning out in class", "post": "So I'm sitting in Spanish class going off of 4 hours of sleep from staying up all night preparing my chemistry lab. We were doing a group activity where we had to go around the room interviewing people in Spanish about their name, home town, phone number, etc. I finished before everyone else so I sit back down and wait for class to get over (about 2 minutes left). My professor gets my attention and asks me to read out loud to the class. Unfortunately in my hungover like state of mind from lack of sleep I failed to recognize what he said to me and sat there looking dumbfounded at my professor. A good 30 seconds to a minute goes by before he asks me again, and again I space out. Not sure of what I should do, I turn around and start reading my interview to a friend of mine behind me. At this point the entire class is silent as I'm whispering my interview to my friend, who finally points me to look at the professor who again says \"READ TO THE CLASS\". I turn around and finally understand what he wanted me to do, right as time runs out for class.", "summary": "Due to my lack of sleep I ignored what my professor told me to do while my Spanish class looked at me waiting for me to read out loud."}
{"id": "t3_1febav", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(22F) show him(22M) that he has nothing to worry about?", "post": "Okay, so it's a little complicated. Here's some backstory:\n\nWe dated about two years ago, but things ended with a lot of hurt on both sides. It was a silly thing, a small argument that got out of hand because we were long distance and too young to know how to cope with that. I never really got over him, and a few months ago took the step of contacting him again. Since then, we've been talking and getting along very well. So here's the issue...\n\nI am still very much in love with him, and want nothing more than to be with him. He tells me he feels the same, but is unsure about taking it to the next level. We are still long distance (opposite ends of the UK), and I believe that he is scared that the same thing will happen again. I understand this, it was incredibly hard to handle, but we are different people now, more able to handle small disagreements like that. Yes, long distance is taxing, but if it's worth it...\n\nHe also seems to have very set ideas about what I will 'expect' from him. This is very frustrating for me, as these are his ideas and have no bearing on what I would actually need/want in a potential relationship. He seems to misread all my well intentioned conversation as me distrusting him, wanting to know where he is and what he's doing 24 7, when in reality I am simply enquiring about his day. I am merely interested in him, naturally so considering my feelings.\n\nIt is a very difficult situation for us both. But I love him dearly, and want nothing more than a chance to show him that. It causes me great pain that he cannot see this, and I am honestly terrified that he will throw this away rather than risk the hurt. I think it could be something beautiful.", "summary": "How do I show a wonderful man that he has nothing to fear from me, and get him to give me a chance to prove it?"}
{"id": "t3_31a9hh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my something [23/M] of a couple months general communication confusion", "post": "Had a few killer dates with this dude I met online over the course of ~2 months. Like serious emotional and physical connections for me right off the bat, and I was sure he felt the same. After the fifth date he got rather distant and kind of moody. Basically he would respond whenever I texted him (2-3 times a week max) but wasn't reaching out at all for a few weeks. 2 weeks ago we were supposed to hang out but I had to cancel and felt super crappy about it since it's tough for us to find time when we're both free, so I rescheduled and he ended up canceling super last minute on that and hasn't texted me since. \n\nHe's super introverted, really dislikes texting, and I don't think he fully realizes how much time passes by in between when we hang out sometimes, but I still can't figure out if he's into me or not. Every time we hang out it's all ~magical~ and wonderful and our dates typically last 8-12 hours at least, (he seems to enjoy them too) but he rarely communicates with me outside of that and when he does, I'm almost always the initiator. I don't mind starting some/most of our contact, but starting all of it makes me feel clingy and annoying (the past month I've been texting him like once or twice a week max). I haven't texted him in about a week since he flaked and I'm not really sure where to go from here. \n\nI feel like I can either continue being the one to facilitate this interaction and ask him to hang out again this weekend, or I can just drop it forever since he never initiates with me anymore.", "summary": "Dude I like hates texting and doesn't reach out to me. We have tons of fun when we hang out, but I still can't tell if he's into me since it's been a month since we last saw each other. Super frustrated and confused."}
{"id": "t3_3qdktu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] wanting relationship advice on being too emotionally invested in early relationship", "post": "I've (29) been chatting with a lady (31) I met online for the past month and we have been seeing each other for 2-3 weeks now.  She has clearly expressed interest in me and vice versa, but I am concerned that I am becoming too emotionally invested early on.  I believe there is good potential and she's expressed the same, so I would like to make sure it runs its own course without me negatively impacting it.\n\nEarly on, we would have long chats over text which I really enjoyed. Now, those are less existent which would lead me to think she's not as interested, but she still expresses interest in including me in her life and making time for me for us to go on dates even though her time is severely limited.\n\nIt leaves me feeling a bit peculiar because the dates are so great that the void in between dates is taxing at times. I enjoy/respect that she is independent, so I don't mind that she is leading her own life and slowly involving me. \n\nI suppose what I'm really asking for is perspective. I've never enjoyed when the person I was dating was clingy and I feel the roles are slightly reversing in this relationship. I do not want to appear as a clingy person. I'm not sure how to express interest and show I care without being too emotionally invested.\n\n   \nWhat do you guys think? Any stories or advice is greatly appreciated! I feel like I'm shooting myself in the foot here and I don't want to cripple myself in this relationship or future ones if this doesn't work out.", "summary": "I feel I might be too emotionally invested early on and want advice/perspective on how to prevent being clingy"}
{"id": "t3_128w40", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A 911 operator accused me of prank calling while 10 gang members invaded my house with weapons, what are your emergency operator horror stories?", "post": "A local gang had issues with some people on my street, they were directed to the wrong house (my house). I was napping when my brother woke me up and told me a bunch of people were breaking in, we hid in the laundry, broke off the handle and called 911. I told the operator exactly what was happening and he basically called me out as a liar, and despite a police station being a block away, our lives were threatened for 45 minutes before the police arrived. By then they had already left and wrecked the house.\n\nThis happened over a year ago, and I still despise that piece of shit.", "summary": "Gang invades wrong house, call 911, get told I'm a liar and police arrive 45 minutes later."}
{"id": "t3_1xdyfu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] LGBT Community - Were my actions offensive? Why or why not?", "post": "Okay, bear with me please.\n\nI was raised in one of those extremely religious/Christian atmospheres where I was taught being gay is a sin and blah blah blah. I'm sure you have all heard all of this already. Back when I was in my early teens (and before I really started formulating my own opinions) I believed that being gay was wrong, but it wasn't my place to judge others for what they do as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.  I was raised in a very small community of Christian people who all believed that same thing. When I first started branching out and went to public school for the first time, I encountered gay/lesbian people, and wasn't really sure how to act around them or how not to offend them. I wanted to be considerate of their feelings and not make them feel bad for how they were. I wasn't sure what terminologies or behaviors were considered offensive. So what did fifteen year old me do? I went running to an online lesbians support group. *headshake*\n\nI posted on there that I felt being gay/lesbian was wrong, but that it wasn't my place to ever tell a gay/lesbian friend that I thought it was wrong unless they specifically asked me. I asked for help on what was considered offensive and how I should behave around my new friends whom were lesbian/gay. The admin of the sight commented on my thread saying this was a support group for lesbians and that they would be watching my thread very closely because of the controversial nature of it. I responded with the fact that I was just honestly lost and didn't know where else to go with these questions other than to the very people they concerned. My thread ended up getting deleted, and I was banned from the site for that thread.\n\nWas I wrong to go there for help? I needed support to. I didn't want to hurt my new friends but I also wanted to stand by my convictions at the time. I didn't know where else to go. Was my thread/request as insensitive/wrong as the admin of the site made me feel it was?", "summary": "Was raised in an anti-gay community, didn't know how to react to new gay friends. Went to an online lesbian support group to ask for help on what was or wasn't considered offensive towards the LGBT community while simultaneously proclaiming being gay was wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1645l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there a silent code with friendships and exes???", "post": "When I was with my previous partner (m26), I (f25) made friends with one of his work friends (m32) (who is friends with my ex too. We worked at the same place). They were friends for 4 years before I met him. My ex and I helped him through some emotional obstacles he was experiencing (he was going through a divorce and a new relationship). We noticed that this friend started messaging me for everything. My ex suggested that he had a crush on me. I didn't think much of this because the communication wasn't suggestive in anyway and to be honest, I didn't care about how this guy felt towards me. I was in love and my ex was enough for me. His new relationship started to bloom and I hardly heard from him after that. Only walking past at work and saying hi. \n\nMy now ex and I broke up (after a 1 year relationship), I moved 2 states away. We're still the best of friends. We talk everyday. It was a very mature break up. \n2 weeks later this friend breaks up with his partner. He started contact with me again. He wanted to catch up because he is doing business in my area (he does this every year). I left it at that. Every so often he messages me and it has been pleasant and I told my ex about every time we spoke, however, lately this friend has messaging me while he is masterbating and saying he will send pictures. He is also saying the he wants to stay longer on his trip and I should stay with him. I don't encourage this and cut  it off instantly. I have told my ex about all of the correspondence because I refuse to be apart of this sneakiness and I am cutting this \"friend\" off. I'm very disappointed in him. Apparently, he hasn't mentioned anything to my ex that he and I have been talking at all. He still acts like my ex's best mate. He even did the deep and meaningful conversations after we broke up. My ex and I feel like our trust has been broken with this \"friend\". \n\nMy point is; is there a silent friend code. What actions should be taken if you were in our (my ex and mine) shoes?", "summary": "my ex's work friend (m32) became friends with me (f25). Took an interest in me. Tries to masterbate & talk to me. I didn't provoke it and I'm not interested. I am cutting him off. My ex (m26) feels hurt by his friend. Is there a silent friend code. What actions should be taken if you were in our (my ex and mine) shoes?"}
{"id": "t3_dzw3g", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Reddit, How do I convince my best friend to stay in college?", "post": "We're both 19, and we've known each other for nearly 7 years at this point.  We both did well in high school, I'm doing fine in college, but he isn't.  He started as an engineer, then realized that that wasn't for him after nearly failing out of college #1 in two semesters.  \n\nOver the summer, he went to summer school and got accepted into a program at a local university (college #2) where he would become a full-time student after attending as a non-matriculated student for the fall semester.  I thought that everything was going to be all right with him; he seemed to do well, and from what I heard he was doing well at the beginning of the fall.\n\nHowever, I found out yesterday that he had decided to drop out and try his luck in a full-time job.  His reasoning behind this is that because he's failing 2 of his 4 classes; he tried an outside tutor who was a complete waste of time, and apparently there's a law that says a non-matriculated student cannot use the university's tutoring resources.  \n\nI can't find this law anywhere online, but even if it does actually exist, one of the classes he's failing is one whose equivalent here I happened to get an A in and I would be perfectly willing to tutor him.  I've tried talking to him and he just won't listen to reason.  He just wants to move in with his girlfriend when she moves close to him to go to school and become an apprentice sword-smith.  Sadly, yes, you read that last line correctly.\n\nThe county he lives in has one of the highest unemployment rates in the state overall, never mind for someone without a college degree; I get the sense he is throwing his life away and I desperately want to help him.  First, is it even possible to get the college to take him back?  From what I've heard, he only dropped out at the end of last week.  Second, how can I convince him to go back- and that I'm willing and able to help him with the classes he's having trouble with?", "summary": "Best friend of 7 years seems to be throwing his life away by giving up on college too early without having tried to get help from every possible source.  How do I convince him to go back to college?"}
{"id": "t3_qkzqy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your funniest college prank?", "post": "Basically, the kids that live next to me in the dorms torment the living shit out of me. They:\n\n - Smoke weed in the room, and set off the fire alarm like 5 times a month.\n\n - Have a $400 subwoofer that shakes things off my roomates wall, through which they play music from 10AM to Midnight\n\n - Told all their friends the room code, so there's like 40 people constantly on the floor that nobody knows\n\n - Piss with the seat down on the one designated \"Shit only\" toilet on the floor. \n\n - Their room smells like shit, so the whole hallway smells like shit. Including the entry to my room. \n\nBoth of them are from south africa, and have never been written up because they claim to be unfamiliar with the culture of the US, and are \"very very sorry for the disturbance\".", "summary": "these two guys I'm pretty sure were designed in a lab somewhere to sabotage US college students. So I'd like to get them back. In funny, semi harmful ways to remind them that they fucking suck and other people live on the floor with them. So tell me reddit, what are your funniest college pranks?"}
{"id": "t3_otubs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is my brother being irrational?", "post": "I need some advice about my brother and her girlfriend's relationship. Let's call his girlfriend \"B\". Basically, my brother can't spend a moment without her. If my mom wants to just hang out with him (eat lunch for example), he claims that if she wants to hang out with him, B has to be there, too. My father currently works overseas, and we see him twice a year, 1-2 weeks each. My mom and I are currently planning a vacation to Hawaii with my dad, and we asked our brother if he can go. He said no because B has summer school. We asked him why he can't go if B can't go. He said that because B isn't going, so he doesn't want to go. We tried to rationalize with him, saying that we don't get to spend time with my dad a lot, so why can't he just come with us for a week? He then started arguing with us saying that B is his family and that if we want him to hang out with my dad, why don't we not go on vacation and spend time at home instead. My brother called us selfish (which I really don't understand). My boyfriend can't go on vacation with us (not enough vacation days), and it didn't even cross my mind to bring him because it's supposed to be a family vacation. My brother said that he's normal, and I'm not. I mean, I hang out with my boyfriend whenever I get the chance, but I still have time allocated to just spending it with my family and my other friends. I really don't understand why he's being like this, and he's constantly getting into huge fights with my mom over this. So please help me out here, is he being completely irrational, or is it just me and my mom?", "summary": "My brother refuses to go on a family vacation because his gf has summer school and can't join us. Is he being irrational?"}
{"id": "t3_4wkk3e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [22 trans F] in love with my best friend [27/F] who now talks about her new gf saying she is in love", "post": "I met this person in April and we 'were complicated' for a month, I've loved her since then although we are now just friends. She admitted to me that the only reason she was dating me was because I was trans and she has a fetish for them. I know my feelings will never be reciprocated, but she is talking about meeting someone she has a genuine connection to and is thinking she may be in love. How do I be a good friend when deep down I want that relationship to fail so I can have her all to my self? I dont want to cause her any pain but every word about her new girl friend tears me apart.", "summary": "In love with best friend but she loves another, how to still be good friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3txbmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What can I [M,18] do with a girl I like [F,18] that I won't see ever? I have only four days remaining.", "post": "I entered college 4 months ago, with totally new friends and a new city. And I meet a girl that is considered \"not pretty\" for most people, but her character is incredible, very friendly, someone intelligent who you can talk about boring topics for hours. I talk with her, but just the normal, nothing extraordinary.\n\nI have been with her group of friends a couple of times, everything good, and then I noticed two things: One of them, she said that she stalked almost everyone in my classroom by Facebook, especially me. By the outside I just was with a WTF face, but inside I was, happy?, I don't know, but something like that. \n\nThen she talked to the group (including me) that she broke with her boyfriend because she cheated her with a Malaysian and later that day all the group were on a car, then the driver make a horrible turn, and the car almost overturns and she hugged me those couple of seconds, we are still alive. \n\nFor my bad, I never flirted with her and that reduces my posibilites of everything, I poorly talk with her and the brawny guys of my classroom now talk a lot with her and her group.\n\nNow I failed the semester, but I should go to school one hour per day the next four days. After that I will return to my original city and nothing that I can do for prevent it.\n\nI really screw up everything, didn't I?", "summary": "Four days remaining for talk with the girl that I like and never see again."}
{"id": "t3_1xf62y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why did my ex boyfriend[M/19] cut me[F/19] out of his life?", "post": "We both are freshmen in college currently. We thought we were going to try the whole long distance thing but he backed out last minute. He cried a lot when he broke up with me... I cried a lot too. It was a painful breakup but not nasty... We broke up for relatively \"normal\" reasons. He emphasized how important our friendship was to him and that he never wants to lose contact with me. Even mentioned how this \"could be temporary\". I told him I couldn't be friends with him, but later reached out to him because I realized we could totally be friends... that I was mature enough to put our past behind us for the sake of preserving the wonderful/beautiful friendship we shared. \n\nBut he cut me off. Hasn't made an attempt to be my friend at all. Heard through the grapevine that he doesn't like/feels very awkward talking about me... changes the subject if my name comes up. \n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "ex bf cut me off although HE was the one who insisted we preserve out friendship, why?"}
{"id": "t3_3qcot9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cooking Mac n Cheese", "post": "This happened over the weekend and I *still* haven't recovered.\n\nSo anyway, I have very irregular sleeping patterns, and since I have online schooling it doesn't really matter.  Now you see, this fateful night, I got hungry after binge watching cheesy horror movies. So I stealthily sneak my way down to the kitchen, avoiding waking my parents up. Little did I know, they would be awoken very soon anyway.\n\nI start scavenging through the cupboards, trying to find something to eat. And bingo! One of those individual Kraft Dinner (the Canadian version of Mac n Cheese) microwaveable things. I quickly pop it into the microwave and go to lay on the couch and browse through some Reddit.\n\nAnd the I woke up to the sound of a smoke detector and thick smoke covering the room. My instincts kick in and I immediately nope the fuck out of there. I burst out the door and I'm greeted by fire trucks and police cars and an ambulance that all have blaring sirens I stumbled out of the house and off the front lawn, only to see my parents stumble out after.\n\nYeah, I almost lit my house on fire because I forgot to add water and I fell asleep...", "summary": "almost lit my house on fire byforgetting to add water to microwaveable Mac n cheese and falling asleep"}
{"id": "t3_1mxewh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is strangest/ funniest break-up you or someone you know experienced?", "post": "I'll get it started. \n\nIt is traditional for my family to travel to Ottawa around Christmas season because most of my family lives there. I was in high school and I was also away from my significant other at the time. Both sides of my family lives in Ottawa so we would usually open gifts with one side on Christmas day and celebrate Christmas with the other side the day after (usually soon after it reached midnight on Boxing Day). \n\nI was hanging out with my cousin on the computer at night on Christmas day. Just when the clock hit 12 (so it was technically the 26th), I received a message and it was a group conversation consisting of my best friend (who was my ex-girlfriend's close friend), my ex and a random mutual friend. To this day, I still don't know why that mutual friend was part of the group conversation.  \n\nAnyway, when my opened the window, my best friend said, \"K, -ex's name- is breaking up with you right now. I'm sorry.\" I initially thought it was some sort of joke because who would break-up with another person on a group chat on MSN as soon as Christmas was over? Not only that, why would my ex get my best friend to dump me instead? Then I slowly realized that it was an actual break-up. What was even more embarrassing was the fact that my cousin was sitting beside me the entire time, reading as the conversation unfolded. He turned to me and asked me if it was a joke. I turned my head, looked into his soul and shook my head. The random friend also wrote something along the lines of \"...why am I even here?\" My older sister and cousins happened to walk by and realized what happened. They then took over and talked shit to the group. After being able to come to terms with what the fuck just happened, I logged off and began opening presents with the rest of the family trying to keep a smile.\n\nStrangely, I'm still good friends with my ex and occasionally bring it up to make fun of her. I found this story hilarious and I usually tell this to other people.", "summary": "Dumped the second Christmas was officially over on MSN, in a group chat consisting of my best friend, ex and a random. The best friend dumped me for my ex and my cousin was sitting through the entire thing. Proceeded to open up my Christmas gifts."}
{"id": "t3_2xp7yp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [21/M] being unreasonable about being upset over my girlfriend's [24/F] partying habits?", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now, we're very happy together, see each other often only a few times a week because she has a very heavy school load. I wish I could spend more time with her but having been in College I understand the stress it can put on a person. So on weekends, every weekend, she goes over to this house and parties. A lot. Like an entire fifth of hard alcohol to herself, every weekend. That doesn't bother me so much, I drink a lot too. It's who she's doing it with, some of her past hookups, and the situation it puts me in. I've gone over there a few times with her to party, and the entire time was basically spent having all the males dissing me, insulting me or otherwise putting me down to the point where I had to leave (she stayed) . A few days ago I told her I'd like to go with her again sometime to see if it could be different but she said I wouldn't be welcomed back, at all. Like they wouldn't let me in the door. She's completely unsympathetic to my situation, ssaying she's just having her fun and I'm being too controlling by wanting her to not go there in the first place. \n\nAm I being unreasonable about being unhappy in this situation? IWhile it does bother me that she would like to hang out with people who won't allow me to even enter the house, I think it bothers me more how she doesn't/won't see my point of view at all.", "summary": "GF spends weekends partying at a house I'm not allowed in, it upsets me and she's completely unsympathetic to the situation and my feelings on the matter"}
{"id": "t3_1p8bl1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the most important books to read in order to improve your education and career?", "post": "Hello everyone, and namaste! \n \nThis post may or may not have been made before with a slight alteration (not from myself) However, a little background information on myself, I'm currently studying Hospitality for my degree. (sophomore) \n\nI feel one of the first books that will be mentioned is \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie and I entirely agree, that book is fantastic.\n\nAlthough, I am interested in other books regarding law, economics, business, and anything else you can think of that could be related towards hospitality essentially (or just career / education building). Of course any opinion is welcomed here.\n\nThank you so much for taking the time to read this and submit. The feedback is greatly appreciated! If possible, take some time to up vote for visibility so we can all share this useful knowledge. Since the unexamined life, is not worth living. (Socrates)", "summary": "(ha irony) well what the title states essentially"}
{"id": "t3_490hjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21F] start a friends with benefits relationship with a virgin [24M]?", "post": "I've known this guy for about a year, we aren't really friends exactly but I see him on campus occasionally and we chat. I've been missing a sexual relationship since my last ex and I broke up, and I thought \"why not\" and asked the guy if he'd be interested.\n\nHe said he would be interested but told me he was a virgin. This worries me. I've had some guys I've messed around with claim to fall in love with me before, and I feel like virgins could especially fall into this trap. \n\nI've made rules and told him we'd try it out once and if it doesn't work out no harm no foul, but I'm thinking I should call it off. \n\nWhen I asked him if he thought he could remain impartial, he said he honestly wasn't sure. I left it up to him if he wanted to still try it, but told him I will break it off if he got interested in anything else. He still wants to try. Should I just call the whole thing off to avoid the issue?", "summary": "Offered fwb with a virgin, worried about the fallout."}
{"id": "t3_2i9mx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[17F] boyfriend[17M] of 2 years gets mad at games/people too often and I hate it", "post": "I used to play online games with my boyfriend, a MOBA ages ago. He got too mad at me/others and his shouting wasn't nice so I stopped playing with him and I told him why. He said he'd try not to shout again.\n\nRecently I've been playing Smite with him, he constantly gets angry/puts me down and rages at other people (calling them retards, swearing, asking if they have downs etc.) He has also been mean to me about it (though less often); he called me retarded and shouted at me asking why I won't listen to him on 2 occasions since we started playing again.\n\nIt's impossible to have fun playing with him. It's also embarrassing as we play with someone from school and he was there when my boyfriend got really mad at both me and the person from school... Then my other friend was concerned about me when he was told what my boyfriend was saying to me in the Skype call.\n\nI tell him he's being mean whenever he does say things to me or other people, but he still goes ahead and does it. A week ago we argued and then he blames it on being ill or stressed. Eventually he said sorry, but he has continued to be mean to other people and thinks I'm dumb when I tell him to stop. (They deserve it, apparently) He also has been shouting at me in frustration on Skype sometimes.\n\nI report him after each game for harassing other players, but his account hasn't been banned yet. He doesn't know that I report him when he's being like this.\n\nWhy does he do this to me and other people. How can I get him to stop?", "summary": "Boyfriend rages too much at me/others when playing games even though he knows I hate it, what can I do?***"}
{"id": "t3_39e35u", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Good news after interview. Now playing a strange waiting game. What to do?", "post": "This story has a timeline of two weeks, starting a week ago on Monday June 1st. I live in Australia, where it is now Thursday 11th. \n\nLast Monday, I got an interview for a non-advertised entry position at my dream company. All of the stars aligned: It was an emergency for them and I responded the fastest thanks to a friend of a friend that works at said company. \n\nAfter presenting them my portfolio, the three people I met with were very enthusiastic, to the point of showing me around the office and introducing me to people. I was told I'd be contacted the following day. \n\nOn Tuesday, I was informed they'd been able to resolve the issue internally but wanted to bring me on board anyway for another project. I was told we would speak very soon. \n\nOn Friday (of what was a long weekend), I was emailed after work hours told that an opportunity had come up for me to come on board and would be contacted on Tuesday. I replied thanking them and saying I hoped to hear from them on Tuesday. \n\nTuesday came and went with no phone call or no email. I let it pass because Tuesday was the starting day of the project I was initially being interviewed for (I imagined they were busy trying to make sure it started out right and hadn't had time to get in touch). \n\nWednesday passed and I wasn't contacted. \n\nIt is Thursday after lunch and I'm thinking of dropping the person who emailed me last just checking in. \n\nShould I email today or wait till tomorrow?", "summary": "I got an email saying the company had an opportunity to bring me on board on Friday last week saying I'd get an email/call on Tuesday. It's Thursday. Should I email today or wait until tomorrow?"}
{"id": "t3_1y91fq", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Reminder: always log out.", "post": "My friend A and I had a falling out with our friend C. One time a while back, C logged into Twitter on A's iPhone and didn't log out. A never touched it, but then A and I did something that pissed C off and that cause our friendship with her to end.\n\nSince she annoyed the hell out of us, A decided to mess with C's Twitter account. First it was just unfollowing her boyfriend, and laughing when she freaks out about it. Then A started deleting random tweets, and clearing her bio. The more A did this, the more C angrily tweeted about it.\n\nIt got to the point where every time she saw C was online, A would delete a tweet. And then she'd delete the tweets complaining about Twitter deleting tweets. \n\nC complains more. A deletes more.", "summary": "If you're a cunt, always remember to log out of your friend's devices."}
{"id": "t3_1qkmtr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23 M] ask her [22 F] out?", "post": "Basically, I met this really nice girl out country dancing (it's Texas y'all) over the weekend and am conflicted on what my next step should be. \n\nWe hit it off pretty well. We went to the same college, didn't know each other at the time but turns out we have a lot of mutual friends. I probably asked her to dance to at least 3 or 4 different songs, but that's not too abnormal. \n\nThrough our brief conversations I found out she's the daughter of a pastor, which I like but yet it honestly intimidates me (from asking her out at least). I didn't get her number at the time (stupid), but ended up guessing right on her email address, and she texted me after that. Since then we've briefly texted a couple times.\n\nI wouldn't mind hanging out again in a group setting, but I'm struggling to come up with ideas that don't seem forced. Any thoughts? We've talked about going to church together, but that seems like a weird way to initially get to know someone (unless we go out for coffee afterwards or something). Should I call her? Should I just play it cool until an opportunity comes up? I don't want to seem too eager, but I also don't want her to think I'm not interested. \n\nI've never been very good at relationships so I'm insecure about that. Thanks y'all.", "summary": "Met a nice girl. Conflicted on what my next steps should be."}
{"id": "t3_2ql9t2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] want to watch a movie alone with my [18F] girlfriend.", "post": "This isn't that huge of an issue, but I thought I'd ask for advice anyway. My girlfriend is coming over to my house in a few days, and she really wants to watch the Interview. I know for a fact that the movie is sort of inappropriate. I feel like it would just be awkward if my parents are sitting in the family room with us watching it. I have it on my laptop and DVD, so maybe I could ask if we could watch it in my room and I could keep the door open? I'm not really sure what else we could do, I know my parents are going to ask why I want to watch it in my room.", "summary": "I want to watch a rated R movie with my girlfriend at my house without my parents watching with us."}
{"id": "t3_10egu7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I (20/f) add a guy (21/m) that I like on Facebook?", "post": "Hi everyone,\nI can't believe I'm even asking this question because it sounds so silly, but I really don't want to give off the wrong vibe to this guy, so I want to hear some opinions on the subject. There's this guy in one of my classes who seems pretty interesting, and we talk in class sometimes (not deep conversations, just small talk). I've known him for about 2 months now. From what I know of him (his interests, his personality), though, I'm attracted to him. I'd like to get to know him a little better, and I thought adding him on Facebook might be a casual way to do so. However, I'm afraid it will come off as desperate since we don't know each other outside of class. What do you guys think? Is it weird to randomly add a guy on Facebook, and will he see it as me being desperate? I know, I know, I'm over thinking this, but I'm curious as to what you all have to say.", "summary": "Like a guy from class, want to get to know him more, should I initiate contact with him by adding him on Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_330ndi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I misread the signs? Pretty sure he (24/m) liked me (24/f)", "post": "So I do bar promotions and I was working one night when I ran into a friend of my ex-boyfriend. He asked me to hang out with him after my shift. We talked, we danced, we drank, and we kissed at the end of the night. Given he said \"it feels wrong,\" but he still kept his hands around me. We exchanged numbers. He texted me two weeks later and we got together with my (not mutual) friends. This time he kept his hands to himself. We talked a lot and the flow of the night felt good. We hung out and talked some more. We've been friends for over a month now. While I was with my ex-boyfriend, we never communicated. Pretty sure I only saw him once or twice. Today, I worked another promotion and he came to see me . He came alone, ordered a drink, and waited for my shift to be over. We took one of the bottles and laid around in the woods. I really like him by now. Im obsessed with when we're hanging out next. I brought up a talk about my feelings. He said I'm a really nice gal, but I'm also the ex-girlfriend of one of his really good friends and that he doesn't want to cause problems and if roles were revered, he wouldn't want his friend with his ex-girlfriend. Which is a totally fair response. I didn't know what to really say. So I just dropped the topic. Did I misread signs? He seemed into me. Or maybe I was too hopeful? Is all hope lost?\n\nBackground: ex-boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. It was a good relationship, but not the best. He cheated on me 3 times. All about a year apart. Ofcourse his friend wouldn't know that. He even girlfriended the last side chick according to facebook. So I'm sure he wouldn't even care.", "summary": "ex-boyfriend's friend seemed really into me, but said he couldn't date me when I confronted him about my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2z9hio", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "UK - Family member disabled, parking fine for not displaying in a private car park.", "post": "A family member is registered blind and therefore disabled, parked in a disabled parking space in a 'Lidls' car park. She did not display her blue badge as she hasn't applied for one yet. Since the incident, she has applied and in the process of getting an official disabled parking badge.\n\nObviously in the time my family member and driver (for anyone thinking she drove herself there!) were shopping, a UKPC parking attendant has seen this and given her a penalty of \u00a350. She then appealed and proved that she was disabled with a certificate of visual impairment, recognised by the UK government as a document proofing you qualify as a disabled person. UKPC are fully aware that she has proven she is disabled but are still saying she must pay the penalty as there were signs on Display that clearly stated you must display an official parking badge to park in a disabled bay.\n\nThey will not accept the visual impairment document (As recognised by UK government) as proof of disability. They have said they want to see a blue badge within 35 days or the penalty will potentially double. As she is in the process of applying, since the incident, she will probably not have this in time. And even been told this by a government telephone advisor. \n\nDoes she stand anywhere in this matter? Can the charges still be applied? If not, then can anyone suggest a route to go down?", "summary": "family member parked in disabled bay in a privatly owned car park, contracted by a parking company called UKPC. She does not have a disabled badge, despite being registered disabled and proof with a government recognised document. UKPC will not accept proof unless blue badge is provided. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3za6kn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Appropriate way to end friendship with a girl [26F] who rejected me [29M] romantically but wants to be remain friends.", "post": "We met at a concert in May 2014. I was all over her (a thing that frequently happens), I asked her out on a date (a thing I rarely do), and was super-happy when she accepted. Unfortunately, I was very nervous at the date and basically managed to blow it completely. On top of that, my communication after the date was seriously out of tone, which eventually lead to her ending our facebook friendship. Well, shit happens, and after some recovery time I got over it. I was ready to move on and forget about her.\n\nMarch 2015, we chanced to meet again while taking the same bus. She seemed surprisingly positive and re-added me at facebook afterwards on her own initiative. She even asked me to join a personal group of hers where we do the occasional chit-chatting. She also tries to start a chat sporadically. \n\nAfter some time, I'm finding myself becoming emotionally overinvested -  a deja-vu of the time where we initially met. I notice I'm still strongly attracted to her in a non-platonic manner. I honestly want to end this, the main reason being that I have now met another girl I really like and who also likes me back. \n\nHowever, there doesn't seem an appropriate way to do it. Just unfriending her would be very rude and disrespectful. Sending her an apology to explain the situation seems well-meaning, but may hurt her as well.", "summary": "She wants to remain friends, I cannot  give her that. How do I end this gracefully?"}
{"id": "t3_3ieh17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my mother [50's F], I don't want to tell her I'm moving across the country.", "post": "I'm a recent graduate with a focus in media development. Something that's very hard to find where I am currently. I have always known that I would have to move to California eventually, in fact I've been excited for it. \n\nI moved back home with my mom and Step-dad while I looked for work, but nothing has really panned out the way I had hoped. The main reasons being that I lack hand-on experience in my field (which, like I said is hard to find here) and I'm far away from where the jobs are that I'm applying for, which makes it harder for them to hire me (according to recruiters). This makes my main issues location and experience, but since I haven't been able to find anything that can resolve my experience issue.. I need to resolve the location issue. \n\nOn to the main event: I informed my mom (about a week ago) that I was thinking about moving to LA using the money I have saved up and I should be able to get a job in retail (2.5 years experience in a nationwide company. I'm looking into contacting the location managers about openings). The first and immediate words out of her mouth were \"that's the stupidest idea I've ever heard.\"\n\nMy mom is very black-and-white. If she doesn't understand something she doesn't like it. In the past she has called my psychological research (which spanned 3 universities) childish and that she never thought I'd graduate my university and it was a mistake for me to go. \n\nOn the other side of things, the rest of my family (that I have told my plans to so far) all seem very supportive. \n\nI still live with my mom for the time being (I plan to move at the end of next month). So I don't want the last weeks before I leave to be a constant shit show about me making a big mistake or something, but I also don't want to be backing my car out with all my stuff and say \"btw I'm leaving to move across the country\". \n\nWhat do I do, oh wise Reddit?", "summary": "Mom often makes critical comments about my life. I don't want to tell her my plans to move far...far... faaaar away."}
{"id": "t3_2iz5ad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to break up", "post": "So my gf (31) and I (26) have been together for 7 months now, and I'm having a hard time breaking up with her. \n\nShe is the sweetest, nicest person I know, so I really want to let her off easy and painlessly. I feel like you guys would know how to handle this. \n\nA little backstory: she's from my hometown, we met through mutual friends as there a lot of people from our hometown here. She's a bit older than me and has her shit together. She's got a steady job, while I'm still mostly unemployed. We have a lot of mutual friends. Eventually we became \"a thing,\" even though throughout the initial stages I knew I didn't want a girlfriend. (I'm still a little bummed about my x-gf cheating on me and sending me through a whirlwind of mistrust and depression). She was persistent though, saying she wouldn't hurt me. Anyways, fast forward to now: we've been dating for 7 months, I'm a lot less physically attracted to her than I was (she's not my ideal body type), our conversations are pretty basic (she's really into fashion, nail polish, and gossip/celebrities and I'm not--everything else we talk about is me introducing her to things and teaching her things), it also bothers me that she craves attention (always posting things online, always texting random people, always making loud statements that glorify/exaggerate her sexuality in front of others) and our work schedules are so different (she works intensely 4 days a week, I work less hours but more like 7 days a week). \n\nWhen I think of the positives of our relationship it makes me feel like an asshole: she's very financially stable and pays for a lot of things for me. I guess I've become the gold digger I've  always resented. But honestly in these hard times a little financial stability is really comforting. Another great thing about her is how responsible she is and how she helps me take care of my shit. \n\nHalp! I don't know what to do. I want us to be friends/friendly. I just don't see a point in being in a committed relationship right now.", "summary": "don't know how to break up with my sweet, motherly, financially stable, yet obnoxiously slutty, and basic/simpleton girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_19oggv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Finally asked my crush out on a date! She said she's busy but would like to have it another day.", "post": "So I have been crushing on a really smart and pretty girl for the past month and wanted to ask her out on a date tomorrow morning before school starts. I treid to ask her at lunch but I chickened out. I kept on saying to myself that I'll regret chickening on this opportunity. So right when I said bye to my friend talking about how I wasn't able to ask my crush coincidentally popped up and I had a convo with her about how her day went. Things were going pretty well and I surprised myself by how I kept eye contact and kept the conversation going.\n\nThis was my chance. So I asked her if she's free tomorrow morning. She said \"no, I have to study for a psych test. Wait, what do you mean?\" Then I told her that I was thinking of having coffee that day. My crush smiled and said \"I may not do it tomorrow but I can some other day.\" We kept eye contact and she smiled too when we talked. I don't think I ever had the guts to ask someone out before in my life. \n\nIt's not a no so I'm happy about that. And I managed to muster up enough courage to ask someone out. xD", "summary": "Crush I've been planning to ask out on a simple coffee date said she couldn't make it to the original date but said she'd like to have it another time when she's less busy."}
{"id": "t3_2zye5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Question is this guy a rebound relationship ? Is there a chance she still loves me ? and we will get back together?", "post": "OK so me and my girlfriend were dating for a 1 and a half i caught her many times cheating on me or flirting so she stopped for a while. after 2 months i check her kik and see she is talking to this guy at her school so i confront her about it she then sends me a long breakup message after a whole bunch of crying on the phone.. turns out a week prior her and this guy kissed.. \n\nSo mind you two hours after she broke up with me she started dating this guy and the next day she was posting picture of him and w eek later they were saying \" I love you \" to each other clearly something isn't right how do you love someone after a week... My heart has been crush but wait theres more.. he gave her his last name. so after about 3 weeks she starts flirting with me we get on oovoo she sends me nudes and even gets out the shower naked on camera she masturbated in front of me and everything... she says to me she still is attracted to me physically and emotionally and she told me she wanted me to still be her first she always have wanted me to be. She told me that if i don't take it then she is going to just quit with sex bc her new boyfriend isn't as \"freaky\" as i am and doesn't know her body like i do.\n\n So during this week she has been calling me baby and has even said she loves me we say it and talk almost like we never even broke up. I ended up taking her virginity on Friday. (March 20,2015).We even planned on doing it again. And her one month anni with this guy is tomorrow 3/23/15. I want to know is this guy a rebound for her ? What do i do Im a male im 16 she is 15", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1a1uig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing that's happened between you and your boss that made you think you would be fired, but ended up okay?", "post": "So I work in a restaurant and today while quartering chickens my boss, operating manager and restaurant owner tried to show me a better way to cut, I slipped, cut his index finger near clean off, and ended up sending him to the hospital for seven stitches... Pretty much thought I'd be getting fired after he stopped cussing, but instead he told me to make sure everything got done and to watch 'the yahoos' (my fellow workers), before driving himself to the hospital.\n\nIf this wasn't enough he came back to work to finish out the day several hours later (and probably to make sure we all hadn't burned the place in his absence.) He isn't the type to congratulate anyone, but he told me I did a great job, even though I pretty much knifed him.\n\nNo photo evidence yet, was pretty freaked by the whole situation as it happened, and when my boss returned he had gauze, double vinyl gloves and then taped it like he was working with Ebola. \n\nSo that's my story of thinking I'd no longer have a job, what's the worst that you've done to your boss reddit?", "summary": "nearly cut my boss' index finger off at work, instead of getting fired I was put in charge, then congratulated on a job well done."}
{"id": "t3_3gpwvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My f/23, boyfriend, m/23, of 2 years constantly ignores my feelings and suggestions on improving our relationship and I don't feel like a priority", "post": "I'm kind of at a loss on what to do about this. I love my boyfriend, a lot and I want him in life. But lately I've been feeling so disappointed.\n\nI'd say the main issue is I've asked him time and time again to do things with me.  And not boring things that only I would like, but stuff like going to a baseball game. He agrees or I guess brushes me off and we never do anything.  All I want is to get out and off the couch on occasion, but he seems content with always doing that.  I couldn't tell you how many times I've talked to him about doing things together.\n\nI guess what really has me pissed at the moment is that he spent all day yesterday helping his new female roommate move in.  I'm not threatened by her and I know nothing would ever happen. What I am mad about though is he hasn't done anything like that for me in a long time.  I moved a couple months ago and he didn't lift a finger or offer to help.  This situation just leads me to thing about other things like how he'll go on trips with his friends but not me even though I always talk about wanting to go certain places and suggest we plan it out.  He'll go out with his friends, but never with me.  \n\nIt just sucks to not feel like a priority after 2 years.  I want to talk to him one last time about it and see if there's any hope at me feeling better.  Any advice on how to get through to him and not cause a major fight?", "summary": "bf ignores requests to get out and be more social/active.  He does stuff with other people and I seem to get the short end of the stick"}
{"id": "t3_43yq3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex?-girlfiend [35F] physically assaulted me [28M] during an argument for the first time, why do I feel guilty?", "post": "My partner woke me up this morning after I muttered a patients name during my sleep (I work as a medical dispatcher) she assumed I was cheating on her and demanded to check my phone, I complied since I had nothing to hide.\n\nShe found a video of me at the clubs last year which I did not tell her, it was a video of just the club and I was with my boys with no girls present.\n\nI refused to speak about this since I was not in the right mind set to talk about this since I was still half asleep, I went into the lounge and tried to ignore the situation until later on.\n\nShe did not agree to this and tried to wake me up and confront me about this, I was upset and I did tell her to \"f*ck off, I'll speak to you when I'm awake\". She demanded to to talk about this and grabbed me by the wrists, I still refused to talk about it as I was furious and did not want to make the situation worse.\n\nShe then got extremely upset and decided to punch me in the arm and slap me in the face numerous of times, I pleaded her to stop and told her it was not the right thing to do, I threaten to call the police and she kept going for 30 mins I called the cops to come and I did not lay a single finger on her.\n\nThe took her away and advised she was not to come back until tomorrow and I refused to press an charges.\n\nShe is an international student from Japan and English isn't her first language, I'm born in Australia so my English is fluent. We have been dating for 1 year, I understand there is some communication problems at times but we enjoy each others company and have not had major arguments in the past.\n\nWe just moved out together 1 month into an apartment and invested a lot of time and money into it.\n\nDo I try and make it work?\nShould I leave?\nWhy do I feel like I was responsible and guilty?", "summary": "moved into apartment with partner after 1 year of dating for 1 month and she assaulted me for the first time after an argument because I refused to communicate, where do I go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_2gnrrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "F(37) M(33)The guy I have been seeing just confessed to cheating on me... How should I handle this?", "post": "Not once but twice within two days then told me the third day. We started out as friends, got drunk, had sex a couple of times then remained at the friend level for the past month. We hangout almost every weekend. Then last night he tells me what happen this weekend. I do care for him deeply. And for him to tell me straight up what happened makes me feel weird. 1st why would he tell me if were just friends? It makes me think he has feelings for me and feels guilty for what he has done. Like asking for forgiveness. Now he is trying to do all this stuff for me. Cut my grass, repair stuff around my house. Walk my dog..", "summary": "I don't know what to do. Someone give me advice.."}
{"id": "t3_ost5l", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Want to start a strength training routine--help me out?", "post": "Some background: I'm 22, f, 5'4\" and currently around 253 lbs. Over the last 3 weeks I've cut out soda and sweet tea completely, started eating more fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and less white bread, reduced my calorie intake (down to 1390) started doing cardio at the gym (3 mph on the treadmill at an incline of 1, for about an hour, every day). Thanks to this, I've lost 15 lbs from my starting weight of 268.\n\nNow, I'd like to start strength training so that I'm not only losing fat but maintaining/building muscle so that when I finally do lose all this weight I won't just be a nasty, wrinkly mass of skin. I plan on strength training 3 times a week. \n\nWhile at the gym earlier today (last night?), I wrote a list of weight machines I should use and I just wanted to get peoples' opinions on my routine and if there are any other machines I should use or any muscle groups I neglected in selecting the machines. \n\nBEFORE anyone says I shouldn't use weight machines, I'd just like to say I'd prefer them because I'm uncomfortable using free weights and that's just that. When I'm more confident in my ability to keep form while lifting, I'll go to free weights, until then, I'd like to know that I'm not going to drop anything on myself or peel my muscles from my bones (I'm quite attached to them, you know!) because I didn't do something right.\n\nAnyways, here's my list of machines:\nLeg press\nHip abduction/adduction\nLower back (that's all the machine said)\nCompound row\nVertical chest press\nPullover\nOverhead", "summary": "I think I should use the above machines to target all of my muscle groups. Please let me know if I left something out and what MACHINE, if any, I can use to target that muscle/group. "}
{"id": "t3_1h8ycu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25/m) don't know when to contact her (24/f) when we met two nights ago.", "post": "Met her Wednesday night. Got her number, already talked about where/when we can meet up (she's out of town for a month, about 1.5 hours away, so we can meet up in the middle). During the conversation I asked when she would be free, she said next week, and then we split. I texted her something silly right after so she had my number, she responded with \" :) :P \" (why, I don't know? I hate smilies). \n\nSo it's now Friday, and I feel like if I wait until SUNDAY to talk to her that'll be awhile and attraction will be lost. Should I send a smell text now?", "summary": "Going to call girl Sunday night for a date, met her this previous Wed. Don't know if I should text her today to keep flow of attraction."}
{"id": "t3_3hq1pr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU exam result day", "post": "I guess it isnt a fuck up today but i fucked up life, everyone has 1 shot at their exams and those results decide your life style, your job, your wage, your decisions and im lucky to be naturally quite clever.\n\nBut i smoked weed throughout my exams with friends and my time was taken up by chilling with friends and i can say that ive not revised more than 10 minutes in my whole life, my parents were pushy on revising but im good at pretending to revise and actually spend my time reading reddit and gaming and when theyre not around im out and about.\n\nSo results day came round today and i didnt think about it untill i got a phonecall from a teacher asking for permission to give my results to my mum (im on holiday so i missed results day) being on holiday made it 10x worse because im not the first person to see my results but tbh i got enough passes to do what i planned to do (2 more years of education to do my a-levels) but it doesnt mean i got good results. 11 years of education in preparation for some papers full of questions which decide your life depending on how many questions you know the answer to, its bs quite frankly but thats life in our day and age so nothing can change that. Now for the rest of my life im going to have the same results before the eyes of every employer and i regret not revising and that is my fuck up. \n\nSo for the love of god do not fucking not revise for your exams or youre going to regret it.", "summary": "i didnt revise for exams and i got what i deserved."}
{"id": "t3_kr8n6", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Reddit, my cat has been eating practically nothing for a few weeks now. What should I do?", "post": "I rescued her about a month ago, and my housemate and I think that she didn't come from a very good home. However, she opened up almost right away, and became a much friendlier cat. The first day she was here we gave her a can of wet food and she tore through it. The problem started when we tried to give her dry food, and she wouldn't touch it. Then when we finally admitted defeat and resolved to buy wet food, she wouldn't eat that either. She only licks the gravy off of the meat and then leaves it. She barely even eats tuna if we give it to her. The bizarre thing is, she's not really losing weight. I took her to a vet, who explained that she's probably just feeling anxious about being in a new place, and she'll start eating eventually.", "summary": "I'm starting to get worried- she hasn't pooped in a week, and she just really won't touch her food beyond licking the gravy off. Has anyone gone through this/does anyone have any advice or explanations?***"}
{"id": "t3_2axgpa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [18 F] of 2 years told me [19 M] she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now.", "post": "She has been distant for a month or so now, save for minimal communication with me (some texting, maybe 3 or 4 encounters in person). Yesterday, we met to talk about our status, and she dropped the fact that she wanted to break up with me. It is my understanding that she is very stressed with summer school and struggling to find work in the area, as well as a few tragedies that have affected us both in different ways.\n\nWe have separated previously, for nearly the same reason. When we were talking, I told her that I wouldn't allow a repeat, and that if she was going to break up with me it would be permanent. She mentioned that she was hesitant, because she (while somewhat lost on them) still may have feelings for me. In the end, she decided that she wanted to wait until she was out of school to make the call.\n\nI love this girl to death. I would do anything for her, and she knows it. The end of the relationship (under any circumstances) would/will break my heart. I know that the pain isn't permanent, but that doesn't make it any more bearable.", "summary": "my gf of 2 years wants to break up, but not because of me. she has expressed recently that she doesn't want a relationship, though she wants me to stick around. I love her, but I can't go through it a second time. "}
{"id": "t3_11r3k4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I quit my job today - boss(es) were supportive and was a very positive experience", "post": "There are sometimes posts here about quitting jobs and how freeing it can be. I just put in notice and I was left with a warm, fuzzy feeling after talking to my bosses. I'm an executive assistant for a large company and mainly serve two VPs. My boyfriend recently accepted a position in another state, so we decided to move there together. I gave them the news today, and after their initial expressions of shock, they told me how much I had supported their roles and their subordinates. One of them talked about how I had helped with his transition to an executive position and how the people he managed had made a point to tell him about their appreciation for my work. I mentioned the possibility of working in a different position in the location I am moving to, and they responded by saying, \"There is no doubt that we can make that happen\". I am so grateful for the opportunity to work with these guys.", "summary": "This post is a shoutout to all the excellent managers out there. We hear a lot about shitty people in leadership positions and incompetent employees being jackasses. I like to think I'm not one of those jackasses (eh, who can say for sure...), but I am confident that my bosses have been great leaders who really do care about their employees. I'm glad they're out there at that there are still excellent people in leadership."}
{"id": "t3_2xky7c", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I was charged with \"Possession of under 1/2 oz., grinder, scale\" at 20 years old in North Carolina......", "post": "I am a 20 year old student who attends a University here in North Carolina(Junior) and I recently got a ticket for (title) and I am EXTREMELY terrified... If you ever saw me in real life, you would never expect me to be a stoner.. Just a college kid, with decent grades(3.0 GPA) and lots of possible internships and jobs related to the major I am studying.\nYesterday four officers came up to my apartment door and questioned me if I had been smoking weed in my apartment(which I had) because apparently we had gotten 3 complaints in the last month about weed smell and I said 'no' because they couldn't come into my apartment without a warrant or whatever(I am not that knowledgeable of police tactics in this scenario...) and they somehow got inside and then asked before they search if I had anything here and I said yes because it was in plain sight. They ended up finding my roommate and I's little weed stash(around 3 grams) the grinder and a scale I never use from my room and then charging both of us with that. No one knows except for my roommates and I definitely don't plan on telling my parents because in the South there is no forgiveness for this type of thing and this can brand you for the rest of your life... I'm not really sure why I am telling you guys this it's just that I need someone to talk to and tell me I will live a normal life because if this doesn't get removed from my record I'm going to explode because my life will be fucking over\nI have never gotten a ticket for anything in my life, I'm just a dumb college kid trying to work to get a career and smoke weed to deal with stress along the way because school is bull shit and alcohol is more dangerous in my opinion in college settings if you're not 21.\nSomeone tell me everything will be o.k because I can't talk to anyone else about this and I feel like I'm slipping into depression because of this bull shit incident.", "summary": "20 yrs. old, weed possession charge, scared as fuck, idk what to do"}
{"id": "t3_ovrqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a girl, had the sex talk. She tells me she has had HPV with warts over 7 years ago and it's cleared up.  Is this a deal breaker?", "post": "My girlfriend (25) and I (28M) had the sex talk to lay everything on the table before having sex.  She mentioned she wants me to get tested, and she will as well before doing the deed.  She mentioned that she has had HPV 7 years ago and she has had genital warts.  They are gone now and she mentioned that her doctor said that after 2 years she should be clean.\n\nThis blew me away, but after doing some research, HPV seems common.  But I'm really worried, as I'm clean and I'm fairly careful about sex in a relationship.  Am I overreacting?  I'm kind of freaked out right now and I'm at a crossroads, I really like this girl, but the thought of getting an STD seems like its not worth the risk.   \n\nWhat would you do in this situation?  A part of me is saying that I should run?  Though I may already have something because I have touched her with my fingers and I didn't wash my hands (HPV is very contagious).", "summary": "New girlfriend had the sex talk, revealed she has HPV (an STD). I'd like to see where this relationship goes but a part of me is worried about this issue and that it might be better to run."}
{"id": "t3_3aohp9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 /M] with my Girlfriend[24 /F] three years,recently moved in together might have been a mistake.", "post": "Me[27/M] Recently (four months ago) moved into a one bedroom apartment with my Girlfriend[24/F] in LA to save costs so  she didn't have to move back to(lets say)Seattle. We had been dating for three years previous and finally took the step to move in together. \n\nAfter four months of living together I can tell we aren't right for each other but she can't afford to stay in LA if we break up and she would have to go back to Seattle and quit her job. \n\nI don't know what to do because I like her as a friend but I can't see the relationship moving any further.", "summary": "Moved in with gf of three years. After four months of living together can tell the relationship isn't going any further. GF can't afford to live in LA by her self if I move out she would have to quit her job and move back to her home state. What do ?"}
{"id": "t3_4vkve3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my Long Distance Lover [30M] seeking insight into LDR from anyone who has fallen in love with someone from a different country", "post": "Over the last couple of months, I have established a blossoming romantic relationship with a wonderful man who lives about 5,000 miles away from me. I feel more strongly about him than anyone I've ever been in any kind of relationship with before. He is a beautiful soul, and I feel like we have an amazing, intense mental connection and physical attraction. We met online and I didn't expect that it would progress to where it is now, but it has grown into something incredible. Without asking for it or even feeling like we \"have to\", we send each other good morning messages and we talk throughout the rest of the day as time allows, and all evening (for him) until he goes to sleep. We do video and voice chats a few times a week and we'll talk for 3+ hours at a time, and it doesn't even feel like we're talking anywhere near that long. We do things to show each other that we care, like send care packages with handwritten letters and personal belongings in them. He has shown me that he really cares for me by being there for me and listening to me when I'm having a bad day, opening up to me about his life, family, past relationships, job, and his feelings for me. And I have reciprocated all of these things. I feel like I've found someone so special and unique who makes me laugh uncontrollably and feel good about myself and life in general every single day. So my question is... has anyone here had any success in falling in love with someone who lives in a different country? How did the relationship progress? How long did it take to say \"I love you\"? Did you eventually move in together, or even get married? Any insight is greatly appreciated as I would like to know if this relationship has the potential to be successful.", "summary": "VeryLongDistanceRelationship;CanItWork"}
{"id": "t3_ugxjb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the last dream you had?", "post": "Not the coolest or the scariest, your most previous one you remember. \n\nHere's mine from two nights ago: \n\nI was in my room and I woke up around 12ish, it was my birthday. There were no indications of it--no balloons or decorations--Dream Me just knew. I looked out the window and it wasn't my street. I was in my room but the neighborhood was not mine. Also, I think my Asian friend was walking down the sidewalk (Dream Me deduced that bitch was leaving my birthday party early). \nAnyway, I pulled on one of my teeth and half of it came off. It was disintegrating like a cement putty almost. Then once I thought I had pulled out all of them, I got really excited because I could finally rub my gums together like a baby or an old person. In addition, I remember being really excited because having no teeth meant I could eat pudding for the rest of my life. But then I realized my bottom teeth were still there and my top teeth still had the cement-like upper half. \nThat's all I remember; holding the remnants of my chalky teeth wondering if I could still eat pudding forever even though I still had 75% of my teeth. \n\nAnyway, I thought this was real life because I couldn't find toothpaste the night before and hadn't brushed my teeth.", "summary": "For my birthday I thought I pulled out all of my teeth, but in the end still had some so that meant no pudding."}
{"id": "t3_2d5erk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 2+ years[20 F] and I [20 M] are no longer on the same page sexually", "post": "As the title says, my girlfriend and I have run into some issues over the past few months.  When we first started dating we had sex nearly every day, but that has dropped precipitously, to MAYBE twice a month now.  Part of this is due to circumstance (we both held time-intensive internships this summer), but part is simply due to her lack of sex drive.  It has gotten to the point where she almost never makes any sexual advances, and seems to have sex only to appease me.  Obviously, this is not a sustainable thing for me.\n\nThis a complicated, sensitive topic for her (and me) though, as she was sexually assaulted a few years ago (before we started dating), so I am hesitant to bring this up to her.  We have had a couple of conversations and she assures me that she is still very much attracted to me, and loves me, but that her body just can't have sex, and she is still affected by what happened to her.  She also added that at the beginning of the relationship she didn't want to say anything, but that the amount of sex we were having \"was just too much for her to handle\".  I do believe she is still attracted to me and loves me, and everything else about our relationship is great, but I can't help feeling like we've simply turned into best friends who occasionally have sex, as opposed to romantic partners.\n\nThe question here is: how do I handle this?  I feel as though speaking to a psychologist might help her a bit.  It's clear that she's still affected by what happened to her.  I just want to go about it in the most gentle, sensitive way possible, without offending her or forcing her to re-visit things she doesn't want to.  I am committed to the relationship and I want to help us, but sex is a part of that, and I feel like this is something which needs to be addressed, for her sake and mine.", "summary": "Rarely have sex, having hard time bringing this up, as it is a sensitive topic for her due to a past sexual assault..."}
{"id": "t3_23c67q", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hello! I'm in the middle of making a difficult life decision.", "post": "I was born and raised in Minnesota, and when I was a freshman in High School, I developed a really weird obsession. I became fascinated with the city of Pittsburgh, PA.\n\nI will not shut up about it. I feel like it is the greatest place in the world, and for years and years I have kept up with everything Pittsburgh. From the news and politics, sports and activities, I am absolutely batshit insane about that place. I'm surprised I haven't lost friends while talking about it.\n\nFast forward to my 5th year in college. After soul-searching and multiple major changes, I decided my state school isn't right for me. Even if I continue to go to it, I would still have two years left until I graduate, in a major that is organized poorly (English Writing majors have to take eight literature courses. Eight). \n\nI'm taking a leave of absence from school to work and figure out what I want to do with life, and I have a wealth of options to me. The most obvious choice is to drop everything and move to Pittsburgh in the fall when I save up enough money. But I wouldn't have a degree, I have no idea how I would get a job or find an apartment, and if I want to continue school, I will have to become a resident first so I don't get slapped with out-of-state tuition.\n\nI could also continue going to school somewhere in Minnesota, preferably back in my neck of the woods (Minneapolis/St. Paul). \n\nAs a career, I'd ideally like to be a writing professor, or a screenwriter. I wouldn't mind working in film as a camera assistant or a production assistant. My last resort degree-required job would be a High School teacher. I'd ideally like to work in a job with a deep communications, film, or English background. \n\nDoes anyone have any advice for me?", "summary": "Move to the city of my dreams with no college degree or set career path in the hopes that I can get a degree and career there later? OR finish a degree in familiar territory and put my life plan on hold until I'm 26?"}
{"id": "t3_1awvck", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[18/M] found a cute girl[17f] but she says she is heartbroken and now wants only a long term relationship.I want short term.Badly need advice.", "post": "Its been a week since i know her. Met her 3 times. She says she wants something long term with somebody loving her FOREVER.\nI told her she should go out there and meet more people instead of  dating only 1 guy for the rest of her life.She says she is scared of being heartbroken again.\ni just want a short term relationship with her but i didn't tell her that.\nShe is really into me and last Friday i bought her a dress at the mall.\nShe called me into the changing room to see how the dress was on her. I was checking her out when she asked what i was looking at and i jokingly said \" Your ass\".\nTo make it more awkward she kissed me on the chin, i took that as a signal and tried to kiss her. She pushed my face away.\nWe then went to the bus station and she let me hold her by the waist on the road and she even squeezed her hands in mine.\nLater that night she sends me a text about her not appreciating the way i was that day and that she was offended by the way i looked at her body and that i was not her boyfriend yet.\nShe is becoming unresponsive and says she needs time to see if she wants to go out with somebody again because of the heartbreaking thing.\nWas i a fool to think she was already my girlfriend?\nDo i go on with this girl and try to end it nicely afterwards? Or do i stop it here?", "summary": "GIRL I LIKE WANTS SOMEBODY TO LOVE HER FOREVER. SCARED TO BE HEARTBROKEN.I JUST WANT A GOOD TIME.SHE LIKED ME TOO.SHE'S COMPLICATED AND MADE ME FEEL LIKE I FUCKED UP."}
{"id": "t3_tx4za", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Panic attacks about him going out", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. (long distance for 2) We're both 20, going into our 3 year of university.\n\nDuring freshmen year when he left for college, I started having a lot of panic attacks. I wasn't hungry for a week, nauseous all the time, couldn't sleep, and I was crying a lot. A lot of it happened when he was going out to parties and drinking. I trust him very much and I know he would never ever cheat on me, and he isn't a crazy drunk. Now that time has passed, these feelings have not gone away. If he tells me he's drunk or texts me while he's at a party, my heart starts racing and I start freaking out. I've tried to talk to him about it, but I don't want him to think I'm a crazy person haha. \n\nWhy does this happen? And how can stop feeling this way and move on with my life?", "summary": "I feel anxious and get panic attacks when my boyfriend goes out. He is very trustworthy. Why does this happen?"}
{"id": "t3_2gxnmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is There A Way I [23m] Can Get My Ex [20f] Back?", "post": "Long story medium-sized: My GF of just under a year and I split three months ago. We hadn't talked since our final argument until I recently suffered a tragedy. She texted me sympathy and that started us talking again and forgiving each other for what happened between us.\n\nNow we're back to being the friends we were before we started dating: daily texting and joking. We haven't seen each other in person yet due to our schedules but I would like to arrange it sometime soon. I clearly still have feelings for her but I think she might think of it in a \"just hasn't gotten over me\" sense, like I'm uninterested in a relationship. I do want her back.\n\nShe hasn't really indicated she still has romantic feelings or is interested in getting back and I don't know how she feels about me, I just know she said she missed me a lot and wanted to text me every night but couldn't while we were apart. Of course that could just be because we've always been close friends.\n\nWhen we were together things were pretty intense: telling each other \"I Love You\" and physical stuff. I can't convince myself that she doesn't still have feelings.\n\nIs there any way to get her back? Can I at least tell if she has feelings for me so I can decide which way I should turn?", "summary": "How can I tell if the ex I've become friends with again still has romantic feelings and how can I convince her to try dating me again?"}
{"id": "t3_2115tb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20F] not sure what to do about him [24M]... [3 Years].", "post": "Where do I begin.. I have been beyond unhappy (in general) lately. This isn't the first time I've felt like this, but it doesn't normally \"last\" this long. So I'm going through stuff..\n\nWe both have feelings for each other, we aren't in a relationship, and we watch TV every night together. I haven't been myself, and I know I'm extremely irritable and pretty much a ticking time bomb, so I tell him I'm sick (I was too, but it was more about my emotions), and we'll watch again in a few days. He keeps checking up on me.. Every day. I tell him I'm fine, but I really just want to be left alone and he won't. We fight (I absolutely started it, but I was trying to stay away). He apologized, but I still haven't talked to him in over a week, but I'm still the exact same so I feel like I still need to be by myself.. And I just can't say what I mean or how I feel. But how long will this feeling last? Forever?\n\nA small part of me never wants to speak to him again, but the rest of me wants to go back to the way things were. Being alone isn't going to make me any happier, but I'm not happy anyway, so.. \n\nI am not a caring/affectionate person in general. I don't even say 'I love you' or hug my mother, and there's nobody I care about more. Do I care about him? It's been 3 years, absolutely, but nothing makes me happy these days - I'm not even sure if I enjoy watching TV with him anymore, but I'm not sure if that's a temporary feeling, and I'm just hurting about everything. But then I feel like I will regret it in the future. We get along great for the most part, but I'm still on the fence. :(\n\nSorry if this a mess. Advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.", "summary": "I haven't been happy lately, took some time away from him but still fight, and I'm not sure what I should do.."}
{"id": "t3_36ieoh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking Google if my girlfriend used to be a man", "post": "My girlfriend and I had a row earlier this week because I declined to show her my browser history... not necessarily because I had anything to hide but rather I value some semblance of privacy.\n\nIn an attempt to be more open with her and make her feel better I conceded a few days later (yesterday) and let her look at my browser history. I forgot that the day prior I had been looking up \"How to tell if your girlfriend has had a sex change\" and \"traces of sex changes\". I will point out now that she does not look anything like a man and is in fact gorgeous, I found her drivers license which had \"Previous Type: M\" on there and that peaked my curiosity.\n\nAnyway, she cried hysterically for around half an hour, became unresponsive, got in her car and left. I haven't been able to get through to her since.", "summary": "My girlfriend thinks I think she used to be a man, so she took off"}
{"id": "t3_1or0cd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I have a chance to fix something I hate about myself, now I'm scared to do it.", "post": "When I was 13, I broke my nose in a major way. We're talking a 90 degree angle. I didn't ever really get it fixed properly... A few days later, a family friend (who was a surgeon) kinda snapped it back into place. My nose was always larger than normal, but now it's pretty crooked and there's a substantial bump. I hate the way it looks. I think people won't think I'm attractive or won't want to talk to me if they initially view me from my \"bad side\". I know it's totally crazy and may be all in my head, but it's a problem that's plagued me for years. The worst part of it is that I have breathing problems. Now, I'm 21 and I met with a surgeon for the first time. He said that by fixing my septum (septoplasty), my breathing problems would be solved. Fixing my nose cosmetically is a totally different procedure (rhinoplasty). I know for sure that I want to fix my breathing, but here's the catch... if I fix my septum, I won't be able to go back later and do the rhinoplasty. Apparently it works the best if it's all done at once... doing any further cosmetic surgery can make it look weird. Costs aside, I have the chance to fix something that's bothered me for years, and now I'm afraid of the consequences. What if I hate the way I look afterwards? I have a feeling that if I pass up the chance, I'll totally regret it. I've come to terms with the fact that I've got a honker for a nose. It gives my face character and I kind of like that. In my mind, getting plastic surgery would be like giving up on myself. But the thought of looking in the mirror each day and not being bothered by it makes me want to get a rhinoplasty. Reddit, I need your help! I understand this may make me seem vapid for wanting something like this, so whatever.", "summary": "I've wanted a nose job all my life, and now the chance is presenting itself and I'm pussying out."}
{"id": "t3_1c6133", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Professionals of Reddit, is it completely inappropriate to send a \"thank you\"/bashing email to my interviewers?", "post": "Hear me out. I had a two hours interview the other day, with three different people. They're all smart professionals, and I highly respect them for their profession. First one to interview me had absolutely no people skills. She may be smart, but definitely should not be dealing with another human being, she practically just read my resume to me. The second guy was very personable, no complaints about him. Final guy was the CEO, and he's an asshole. I really respected that he's a straight forward guy, BUT it's absolutely unnecessary to put down another human being just because you think you're better than them. I know he's smarter, richer, and cut throat, but you know what, we're all humans, if you treat me like that when I'm just interviewing, how will you treat me when I'm your employee? They're waiting for me to email them.", "summary": "Interviewed for a job, and they have no interviewing skills. Should I email a thank you/honest criticism or would that sound bitter?"}
{"id": "t3_2jnp1t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [18 M/F] of 3 years, breakup because of her loss of feelings.", "post": "We have been dating for more than 3 years. Just 3 days ago we broke up. We planned something for today which would have been my birthday. I totally trust her reason cause she is always truthful. She says that over the past months that it has been harder and harder for her to find the love I suppose but it comes and goes. I believe it was partly my fault because I became cocky and ignorant by believing that \"she wouldnt break up with me\". There are some other factors like her being in college 50-ish miles away and wants to experience college life to the fullest.\n\nHowever, both her and I are EXTREMELY sad. We both cry about the same things and she does feel like she wants to go back together. She even says that she still loves me. Her reason for not getting back together is that she doesn't want to hurt me twice. But, I still think we should because I still want to experience more things with her and I believe that this experience could actually STRENGTHEN our relationship. But she is pretty set on not getting back together even though it pains her just as much as me.\n\nI would like to ask what your opinion is on this. I would like to know if this is a common thing that couples go through and overcome. Of course there are more details but I just gave a brief overview.", "summary": "GF breaks up with me because of inconsistent love towards me. After break up we both break down about same things. We still both care and love each other. Is this supposed to be something we could easily overcome and strengthen our relationship by getting back together?"}
{"id": "t3_1uag4j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is he [29M] just playing me [24F]?", "post": "I am so confused by his lack of communication. We have been seeing each other for about two months. We used to see each other about twice a week for dates, and things clicked even on the first date. We have great chemistry and conversation. However, even early on I noticed that he was not much of a texter/caller. And now, it's getting even worse. \n\nWe texted mainly when we want to get together, but he used to at least say hi every two-three days. Now, it seems even less and only when he wants to see me. Recently I have been working crazy hours, so our \"dates\" have been a drink, some food and then a sleepover, about once a week. I can't help but feel a bit like a booty call though I know it is also because of my crazy schedule. When I confronted him about his lack of communication, he genuinely seemed sorry and tried a little harder the next day.\n\nSome examples...\nOver the holidays, a little more than a week of not seeing each other, we texted three times total. Once when he was drunk and texted me that he missed me. Second when I asked him how he was, he said \"ok\". Third time when we said \"Merry Christmas!\" to each other. That's it. \n\nGenerally, his response is \"I'm ok\" or \"It's ok\". I don't really know what else to say to that.\n\nToday he texted that he wanted to see me, and I replied I was working late and asked if he would wait for me. He said maybe and asked when I was getting off. I replied a time, and said that he does not have to wait for me. No reply at all.\n\nAm I reading too much into this? Does he actually just suck at texting or am I becoming a booty call? I would like to date and eventually be in a relationship, not be a friend with benefits. We have not discussed where this was going, but I know he is not sleeping with anyone else. Is it so weird for me to want to know what he's up to and ask for the same in return?", "summary": "He does not talk to me unless we are face to face. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_xdngp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, tell me your stories of being unfairly disciplined. I'll start:", "post": "I used to go camping with my family every summer in S. Ontario in a small campground where most people knew each other, year after year. As the people of my age group grew older we began camping on our own, in separate parts of the campground from our parents (this would typically be from 19 years old and onward). So naturally, as any people of that age do, we drank (legal age in Canada is 19) and smoked weed and held awesome parties way on the other side of the campground to avoid annoying the other campers. Now my last year of camping at this lake we had a nice party one night lots of people some familiar faces, some new. The next day the administrator of the campground informs my site mates and I that we are banned from the campground for 5 years for giving alcohol to minors. What really happened is irresponsible parents lost track of where their kids were, and also track of where their booze were (the 15 and 16 year olds, who were not invited, obviously stole their parents alcohol). I know I didn't give any alcohol to any of the young people, and I'm sure my friends wouldn't have (we worked our asses off at near minimum wage that summer just to save up enough to go camping, we had no extra drinks.) We appealed the decision, but in a closed door meeting, the board of directors upheld the decision. sigh, it was a good time while it lasted.", "summary": "I held a party in a campground for friends who were of age, and  unbeknownst to us, some 15, and 16 year olds showed up and got drunk, I got blamed for it not their parents."}
{"id": "t3_3avaph", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Get a dog now or wait?", "post": "I just graduated college in May and already am working full time (including some benefits). In August I plan to leave my current apartment for a house/duplex in a less busy part of town which would also allow me to have room for a dog. I grew up with dogs (so I'm very familiar with all the work that goes into caring for one), and spending the last four years without one has gotten harder and harder. I'm to the point now where seeing another person's dog (or even cat) makes my stomach drop and just makes me kinda sad. However, there is a chance that I will be moving next year as well, depending on my gf's decision on grad schools.  Additionally I'm also looking at paying off student loans, and occasionally work a second job a couple nights a week (which does offset the financial burden of loans a good bit) though I would definitely make sure to only have one job for the first couple months of having the new dog.\n\nI know it's not a perfect time to get a dog, but I don't think there ever is - and I hate the idea of waiting another year or more. Plus I'm not planning on getting & dealing with a puppy, rather adopting 3-7 year old.\n\nI'm just looking for opinions. Is it a bad or okay idea?", "summary": "College grad. Want dog badly after moving, but may move again within a year. Have full time job (plus some) and student loans. Good or bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3cnf0r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving the reddit tab open.", "post": "So, let's get this over with. I got home from skateboarding today (my mom wasn't home) , I was pretty sweaty so I decided to take a shower. After getting out of the shower I saw my mom doing the dishes in the kitchen. I asked her where she was and then she asked me if I read her note. I then said no and proceeded to go to the note on my laptop. It pretty much said that she is at a church group meeting and to \"explain\" what is on my computer and not to touch my computer until she gets home. I open the computer and all of the 10 tabs I had up as drawing references were closed except for the reddit tab I had open. Apparently she completely went through everything in my computer to see what I have been spending my time on (she has done that before). what was on the reddit tab was my friend and I messaging each other with links and such, with him using a curse word(s) in almost each message, she really dosen't like people using curses even though she does all the time. What my mom really was triggered about was that I messaged him the lyrics to Tyler, the Creator's song \"Tamale\". If you know this song you'll understand what an issue that made, But the WORST part was that since my name is Tyler, she thought I was the creator of those lyrics (with it saying Tyler, THE CREATOR). I Talked to her for an hour about it, explaining it didn't help my case, she knows it was my friend so I can't see him anymore, and now she has to know my password to my Gmail and I mustn't have a password to ANYTHIING else. now I am not able to do anything non-incognito without her knowing.\nSorry for any run-on sentences/bad grammar", "summary": "Mom snoops around my laptop, Thinks I write porn with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_54n5nz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Missing memories and learnt material over the course of the last few years.", "post": "I suffer from depression and anxiety. I have lost my motivation and my ability to concentrate. What's frustrating me the most is that I can remember very little (practically none) of the material I've learned over the past few years (in addition to not being able to remember my life outside of school).\n\nI was struggling so much with these metal issues on top of a physical illness (which has now been resolved) that I took two \"incompletes\" last semester (meaning that the professors have allowed me to finish the course after the end date) and have delayed my return to university until next year. \n\nBasically, is there anyway to get those memories back? Every time I look at the material I just feel like a failure because I do not understand it. What good is a degree if you don't learn anything? I just don't know what to do with myself.", "summary": "I can't remember anything and believe it's tied to my depression. Don't know how to move forward with my education or finish classes I was generously granted extra time to complete."}
{"id": "t3_3nyg9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my dating interest[25 F] only a month, online dating moving way too fast", "post": "I've been chatting to this girl I met online for a couple of weeks. We hit it off straight away and have been in constant contact since then. We have both previously been in long serious relationships.\n\nDespite not having met in person, we are acting as though we are in a relationship. It seems like we both 'tried each other on for size' from day one and went through the motions of starting a relationship.\n\nI am going through a tough period in life and so is she. Things moved really quickly to the extent that she brought up marriage. I am an easy going person and will pretty much give anything a chance. Nothing ventured, nothing gained right?\n\nI saw the two-way emotional dependency coming from a mile off. I realised I was leaning on her for support and stopped. My concern lies more with the fact that I think she thinks a relationship with me will solve all her problems (the super crutch). Obviously if I'm the panacea for her, then super risky things like marriage become ok to talk about.\n\nAt the moment I am struggling to get my life in order and this pseudo-relationship is causing me stress. She is great and we get on really well. At the end of the day we will only know when we meet which won't be anytime soon.\n\nOn the one hand I like her devil may care/let's do it attitude and on the other hand I worried that's it's just a 'marriage of convenience'.\n\nBasically the emotional dependency is there already. My question is is this healthy and can it be overcome? Can people who started off at 200mph still have a normal healthy relationship? It's nice to have a SO to confide in. At what point is it too much? I don't want to throw away a good opportunity but I also feel uneasy on the current course.", "summary": "Is this roller coaster ride salvageable?"}
{"id": "t3_1j0f0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update) How Can I[24M] get this girl [20F], and start dating her?Updates", "post": "Original posts: \nand \n\nSo, after two weeks she finally gave me a yes! \n\nI was super ecstatic about it and everything, but then the thought came to my mind... \"What if this is a pity date?\"\n\nThat of course made me a tad bit bummed out, and I was gonna confront her about it. Then last Monday rolled around and she came up to my office and asked if I wanted to go on a date with her that evening. Sadly, my wallet was left in someones car, which was 5 hours away so a date didn't occur that night. We did a rain-check for next week though so that's good.\n\nBut now since that's happened she just seems distant. Weirdly distant for someone that just asked me out on a date. Like I can't describe it.\n\nCould this be because she's never dated before, and isn't sure how to proceed? Maybe she's scared, anxious, or nervous? I just don't know. It's just super confusing. and because of this standoffness I get really quiet, and nervous around because I'm not sure how she feels and how to react. I really wish i could talk to her, but we're both terrible at confrontation.\n\nOr could this be because she just said yes because the whole staff is mad at her for saying maybe to me at first, and she's trying to make everyone not mad at her. I thought this could have been it with the pity date, but those ideas were silenced when she came and basically asked me out. She could have definitely waited until the end of camp (which is in a week) to let my shyness take over, and let the whole thing die, but she didn't.\n\nI also heard that she might be on the fence about this whole thing, and is curious to see where this thing could go.\n\nSo Reddit why do you think she's acting so distant? or do you have any other thoughts on this whole thing?", "summary": "Girl I asked out before finally said yes, but is now acting distant. I have no idea what to do about it, react to it, or what to even think about it. I'm loss, and was wondering what Reddit thinks about it."}
{"id": "t3_1rzb57", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Pretty much alone and a failure", "post": "Just found out that I've failed intermediate algebra for the 3rd time, well I got a C- twice and you need a C to move on to the next course. I failed it this time. I understand it pretty well, my attendance is the problem.\nI failed philosophy because I never show up. I withdrew from history cause it was early in the morning and I'm a lazy piece of shit. I failed English too because again, I'm a lazy piece of shit. I met a girl a month ago, hung out twice, but she said she had to work the last 3 times ive asked her to hang out and the 3rd time she said shes busy all week, I guess I scared her off, probably with my lack of confidence and brains. I have 8 friends in my life 6 of which are in another state and the other 2 are workmates.. \n\nI feel like I need a near death experience or an enlightening trip,  something to fix me. Its not possible to wake up one day and say your going to do everything right. I try doing it most days and I end up continuing to be the fuck up that I am. Nothing comes natural to me, and its like the motivation part of my brain doesn't work. Im afraid im going to end up living by myself in some shitty apartment. I dont want to be some weird smelly old guy, I want to be a successful astrophysicist with a beautiful wife and a smart kid. Right now im 20 years old and still in intermediate algebra, so there goes the career and everything with it.", "summary": "Alone, lazy, and a failure."}
{"id": "t3_33byen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] can't handle my two friends [18 M and 17 F] that are exes to each other bickering constantly in a group chat.", "post": "So I have a group chat with about 8 of my Internet friends and my boyfriend. Except for my boyfriend, everyone else is scattered around the world and my country. Two of these friends were in a long distance relationship for 3 months until recently (the boy broke it off because of distance). \n\nEver since this happened, they are both relatively friendly until one or the other brings up someone they're interested in. They're constantly arguing and making sly, passive aggressive remarks at each other. Honestly, it's making talking to them both at the same time rather unpleasant.\n\nI do like both of these people, I just want to be able to talk to them without some stupid fight breaking out. I personally think one should leave or both should leave, but they're both wanted by others in the chat. \n\nPlease help Reddit, this situation is like walking around a room full of gas holding a match.", "summary": "Two people in my friendship group are exes and constantly bicker in our group chat and I can't stand it any more."}
{"id": "t3_fs0nt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Debating whether to get an invasive and gruesome surgery.. help reddit!", "post": "So basically I was sucker-punched a month ago and my left zygomatic arch (cheekbone) was shattered and is now concaved into my face.\n\nAesthetically, my face looks the same but it's inside that's the problem: the arch is rubbing against my lower cheekbone and there is now a grinding noise whenever I open or close my mouth. It's also constricting a full jaw extension.\n\n2 surgeries through my mouth have failed and the bones have regrown in the depressed position. There is however, one solution left: **a hemicoronal approach to fix it for good.** The problem for me: the procedure is basicaly peeling my face off my skull. (google image hemicoronal for nsfw/nsfl pics).\n\nLooking at those pics I'm just plain scared of the procedure. The slim risks include no hair growth where the incision was made and a drooping face, but apparently it's a 3% chance of happening.  fyi I'm young and healthy.\n\nI don't know whether to go ahead with the procedure of just skip it and have this grinding noise the rest of my life.", "summary": "should i get a gnarly surgery on my dome to fix a non-life threatening symptom?"}
{"id": "t3_3hmmfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [25F] has doubts after 6 years, I'm [25M].. Advice appreciated", "post": "I'm really struggling with this, I would like some fresh looks on the situation.\n\nWe have been together for almost 6 years now, and after moving in together last july I had the impression all was going great. We both expressed on plenty occasions how much we both loved it and eachother. Recently (to me: out of the blue) my girlfriend expressed some doubts and thoughts she had about us and herself.\n\nWe have been together since leaving high school, and she is wondering if anything better is out there. She still loves me and is still attracted to me. But still, she is left with a 'Is this it then?' feeling. As part of her education, management and marketeering, she travelled quite a bit and met ambitious peope. My education and future on the other hand, being a teacher, aren't ambitious in the same way.\n\nShe acknowledges she loves me and she doesn't know if anything better will ever come along. She also knows living with another ambitious person needs a sacrifice from future potential family or social matters. She wants to live a faster life, but it seems she's trying to find a balance between this (work/travel/fast living/...) and what we have now (slower/cozy couch time/social laidback events/travel /...).\n\nI'm uncertain about my position in all this. I've tried to make her realise why we're together in the first place by doing lots of fun stuff. I'm constantly trying to get a read on our 'status'.. Usually I'm pretty confident, but now even if a kiss isn't 100% I start doubting and I become uncertain..", "summary": "Girlfriend is in doubt if she wants to share her future with me. Not sure how to change her mind or how to act."}
{"id": "t3_2yk9w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (22F) of almost 5 years cheated on me (21M). Where do I go from here?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships. I've never posted here before or even read this subreddit because I've never had *real* relationship problems before this.\n\nMy post's title says the most important part. I've been with the same woman since high school, and now I'm about to graduate college. I thought everything was perfectly fine until recently. Small signs added up until I began to snoop. I found graphic, explicit text messages that made it clear that she had a sexual relationship with someone almost a year ago. I've confronted her and she's extremely remorseful. However, my pride and self-respect won't let me continue a relationship with her, no matter how much I love her.\n\nSo what do I do now? I want to take some time to be single, but I haven't been alone in years. I'm not sure what it's like. And while it's definitely not my top priority, I'm a bit scared of entering the dating scene again. Meeting people and finding a partner isn't like it was in highschool (the last time this was even a thing for me). Frankly, it's all pretty intimidating. \n\nOverall, I'm holding up well. I have supportive family and friends. I'm still going to finish school just fine, and I have a great job lined up for after graduation. It's in a whole different state, so in a few months I'll basically have a brand new life. This may be a blessing or terribly lonely. \n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend after being cheated on. I haven't been single since highschool. How do I be a single 21-year-old guy? Is it as scary as it looks?"}
{"id": "t3_3pnekt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] interested in a girl [23F] but I'm trying now to be a rebound", "post": "So I've been friends with a girl for several months now. At the time we met, she was dating and living with a guy I considered a friend for a while. She told me they were having issues and could end up stuck here (she's from out of the state). I told her that if that ever happened she could stay with me until she figured out what to do. Fast forward a few months and she finds out he was cheating on her, so she packed up and has been staying with me for a few weeks now. Her original intention was to go home but she decided to keep working at her job and live with me a while longer.\n\nWe grew close and developed a physical and somewhat of an emotional relationship. Things were fine, and she's been sleeping next to me every night. So the other day, things were fine, but her ex wanted her to come over and talk, so she did. When she got home, she came home late, and was very distant. She promised they didn't have sex or anything. She started to apologize saying she's a burden to everyone and she's tired of ruining everyone's life. She wouldn't tell me what she talked to him about, just that he seemed like a different person and she feels he is up to something. Since then she won't lay next to me, or hold my hand or anything. She said it's just a \"mood\" and she has them quite often. \n\nI know most people would say, \"Get out now, don't be a rebound\". But I still feel like there's the potential for more. I'm not sure if I should back off some and let her heal, or back off because she's trying to work things out with him. I want to avoid being a rebound, but I also feel like if I distance myself, she'll get lonely and start to see him more. I'm sure he's going to ask to see her again, and I don't know if I should try and stop her or tell her to go. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Girl I like is living with me. She acts like she likes me but still seems hung up on her cheating ex and went to see him. She's been distant towards me since then. How should I act?"}
{"id": "t3_1tr4mp", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Good gift for post-Christmas birthday?", "post": "My stepdaughter's birthday is two weeks after Christmas. Every year no one knows what to get her because she gets everything she wants for Christmas. When we ask what she wants she just shrugs. She's literally the opposite of the stereotypical Christmastime birthday kid. She just doesn't care about her birthday much.\n\nFor Christmas she got a ton of art supplies, a Rainbow Loom and lots of extra rubber bands, another jewelry-making kit, a few Pokemon stuffed toys and some clothes. \n\nThe only thing she asked for and didn't get for Christmas was a lifetime supply of soft pretzels from the Target food court. I think I'll get her a $20 gift card for Target so she can get pretzels for awhile, just because it was such a funny request.\n\nHere are some of her preferences: She hates girly sorts of toys. She's an avid reader, to the point that it's impossible to know what she's already read and we've given up on trying to surprise her with new books because she just gets everything from the library at school. We've done swimming and knitting lessons with lackluster results.\n\nI'm looking for suggestions in the $10-$25 range so when people ask, we can give them realistic ideas. Thank you!", "summary": "What do you get for the 10-year-old who wants nothing? (Not books!)"}
{"id": "t3_38po4x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bonding with mommy", "post": "couple of facts about me:\n\n1.my mom and I don't have the best relationship, and I want to change that\n\n2.my moms always wanted to get a Thai massage, so I said \"what the hell, my treat\"\n\n3.I'm a bit of a horn dog (relevant username)\n\n4.I, like most people, don't think straight when I first wake up\n\n5.I laugh when I'm nervous\n\n___\nToday, I took my mom to get that Thai massage. The thing is, I'm a very stressed man and when she asked me to join her, I thought \"what the hell\" and decided to get a massage of my own, too. I could use a little R&R. My masseuse was this cute Asian lady, who was a gift from the gods at masseusing. Fast forward 20 minutes, I'm out cold\n\nAnyone know that Russel Peters act where he talks about that Thai massage he had? If not, here's the jist: In Thailand, after a massage they \"[finish you off] For whatever reason even before realizing I would be getting a Thai massage today, I was thinking about that act. \n\nI wake up with the Asian rubbing down my inner thighs, and I realize, with every rub she's getting closer to *there*. Obviously she doesn't plan on touching it, but my boner is now about 6 inches farther to my right than she thinks, as my thing was lined in my boxers. Just waking up and all, and being a fucking idiot, I do nothing. I truly think I'm white Russel Peters right now. Well, when in ~~Rome~~ Thailand...\n\n**EEEKK** She got a big handful of something she didn't expect to grab, freaked out and started yelling in **insert language here*. I, now fully awake, start laughing hysterically, 3 feet from my mother, who is now awake and sees this unfold. The manager comes over because I'm a fucking pervert in his eyes and kicks us out on the spot. It's been like 3 hours and I still haven't talked to my mom. Reddit, TIFU", "summary": "Got a massage, fell asleep, woke up with a boner and got kicked out of the place with my mom because sexual assault."}
{"id": "t3_3am6q7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Fighting open container ticket I received as a passenger in court", "post": "Hey guys. This happened in Illinois. I was at a party last night and got a ride home when we were pulled over. I was a passenger in the back seat, there was another passenger in the seat in front of me. The cop (who initially pulled his gun because of an airsoft gun in the car) searched the car and found some open beer bottles, and I received an 11-502B Illegal Transportation of Alcohol ticket, along with the other passenger. Curiously the driver did not receive a ticket of any kind. I did not have any knowledge of the open containers and was just trying to get a ride home, something I communicated to the officer. What are my odds trying to fight this in court? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "got aan open container ticket in Illinois as a passenger who didn't have any knowledge of the containers, can I fight this in court?"}
{"id": "t3_zc06r", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "What breed of dog do I have?", "post": "A little backstory: Saw free dog on craigslist, looked cute, person found it running around the woods and was about to bring it to the pound. When I brought it to the vet they said she was an Aussie/Chow mix. I did some research and didn't see how she was a mix of those two, so I just accepted it. \n\nI was browsing the internets and ran across of photo of dog that looked *exactly* like mine. The description said it was a [Mudi] I did some more research and every description, temperament, body type [matched her exactly](\n\nThe only difference with her is that she has straight hair and Mudi's have curly hair. She also has a little darker tongue and gums (hence why the vet said she was part Chow).\n\nCan anyone confirm that she's part Mudi?", "summary": "Here's my [dog] here's the breed that she [looks like] Is it true?"}
{"id": "t3_m3z1m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I the only one who doesn't find Olivia Munn  attractive, funny, or just a good person?", "post": "I never really liked the girl. I used to watch Attack Of The Show a little bit (inb4 obligatory \"RIP TechTV!!!\" post) and she just annoyed the fuck out of me. She obviously didn't know/care about anything the show focused on. She just wanted to move up in her career. I get that. It's the same way with a lot of female counterparts on shows (like Michelle Beadle on Sportsnation) and I get that. Shows need eye candy but she obviously didn't know anything about the subject matter.\n\nOne day I'm watching The Daily Show and she pops up to ruin that too. I guess they needed their tolken \"hot Asian\" for some bits but she really isn't funny. At all. \n\nNow she's number 2 on Maxim's Hot 100 list. Yeah I know this isn't really a big deal, but number 2?! She's okay but I don't see how she's the 2nd hottest girl in entertainment. Olivia Wilde is ranked below her. My girl Olivia. How dare they!", "summary": "Haters gonna hate."}
{"id": "t3_3bfi87", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] with my friends [same age M] ignoring my texts", "post": "It seems whenever I try to get together all my friends so we can go skateboarding, there's very little participation in texting back when I create a group chat. There's usually not many problems if we just go to a local place to skate but I've suggested we go on a mini road trip like an hour away. Even when I suggest going skating somewhere often times there is very little participation via text\n\nI never thought that this would happen between this group of my friends, but the same thing happened with an old group of friends from early in high school, who would ignore my texts and calls and only sometimes hang out, whom I no longer talk with.", "summary": "Friends ignoring my texts when asking to hang out"}
{"id": "t3_3421dz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my ex [20 M] gave me an STD", "post": "I've been in and out of a relationship with my ex Bob for about 3 years. A couple of month back, we started dating again (August 2014). In November, I had my bi-annual STD check and it turns out I had chlamdia. I obviously told him, and he got mad at me, but we stayed together because neither of us had gotten checked after our previous relationship (I had just broken up with a dude who cheated on me in July). I got treated, and he said that he also got treated. We resumed having sex in 3 weeks.\n\nWe broke up in Febuary of this year, and I have made it final by blocking/ deleting his number and all social media accounts. This week I had my bi-annual STD check, and it turns out that I had chamydia. He was my only sexual partner in that time frame, and he must have either lied about getting checked and treated, or cheated on me with someone who gave it to him. I'm also convinced he's the person who gave it to me the first time. I'm not hurt, but I am pissed that he would risk my health like that. It's possible that I might not be able to have kids one day because of this.\n\n I honestly believes he knows he had it, and didn't get treated, then reinfected me. That also means that he probably still has it. i have no idea why he would do this. Especially since he got so pissed the first time I told him my test results. I always felt like he was manipulating me by making me feel like any bad thing I did was bad enough for him to leave me over. When I realized how much of an ass he was, I left and cut contact, but I never thought he'd be this stupid and crazy. \n My question is, should I confront him? What should I say? If he already knows he has it, is it even worth confronting him? \nI'm so much happier without him in my life, and I don't want to talk to him, or be anywhere around him at all ever.", "summary": "Ex gave me an STD, should I confront him?"}
{"id": "t3_52mina", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] have some problems with some conversations my fiance [29/F] is having with her ex", "post": "So my fiance has to remain amicable with her exes on account of her kids and shes been having a text battle with one ex who is accusing her of \"sleeping with the whole county\".\n\nMy fiance called me saying that ex - we'll call him D - might be texting me later to tell me all about her \"infidelities\". She explained everything she said and warned me about it so I'm like okay, cool, no problem.\n\nD has my number in case of emergencies regarding the kids and decided to actually take full advantage of that and send me screenshots. Everything my fiance said was in the texts except for one small detail she left out. She of course told him to fuck off because she's with me but also got a little TMI telling him that yes she sleeps with me but what I was not expecting was her saying she is sleeping with her other ex who we'll call S. \n\nS and my fiance are really good friends, which I'm okay with and I trust (trusted?} both of them. I know my girl and I feel like she would only say this to piss off her ex who is obsessed with her on account of his abusive nature and his liking of control that he doesn't have.\n\nMy question though is why she would feel the need to even say that. I mean, our sex life is nobody's business but ours so I'm a little upset about her sharing anyway but why would she feel the need to add that little bit about S in there? She knew D would probably tell me or send screenshots so why? Should I be nervous? \n\nI have severe anxiety so even though I feel like she's faithful, there's these little thoughts knocking at the back door of my mind and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Fiance sends texts in fight with ex about how she's sleeping with me and other ex"}
{"id": "t3_4weurm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "An unusual case", "post": "Heyo!\n So I've run into a couple of issues while looking to start my journey into weight loss and getting my weight back on track. But first a bit about myself, as that'll come into play soon, I am a 15 year old Male who is about 5'6 and close to 195 lbs. Fed up with myself I began to search the Internet for help. I've been lurking for a bit but I realized that a lot of what is in this sub can't exactly fit me due to my age. For example, although I really want to try My Fitness Pal I cannot create an account without a date of birth for an 18 year old(or older). I thought about this and decided that may throw off my diet so I decided not to do it. Alas I come to you humbly for any help/advice/apps/diets you may be able to recommend to me. Unfortunately I don't know much about diets/calories and what amount of calories I should be I taking or what to eat etc. So I'd appreciate it if some of you may tell me of any apps you guys know and/or specific food and recipes that I can get started on to loose weight. I may be young but I'm not incompetent! So a lot of recipes I myself will be able to cook, and try, that way I can hopefully get my siblings/mother in on the healthy food as we are all in the same boat.", "summary": "Youngster cannot receive full benefits of apps like My Fitness Pal and thus seeks aid from all who can help him personally."}
{"id": "t3_2ezpyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] really like [19 F], we click on every level, but shes admitted she's really \"screwed from a previous relationship.\" I want to help her.", "post": "So we've been talking/seeing each other for a few weeks now, we click on everything - music, movies, TV shows, opinions etc etc.\n\nShe has admitted to me that she's damaged from a previous relationship where the guy messed her up and its screwed how she deals with people. That she's very \"stand offish\" and that she's not good with people.\n\nShe's like me in so many aspects except that I'm very passive and don't get angered easily, whereas she can get very in your face (figuratively) and offended.\n\nI really really do like her a lot and I know she thinks of me this way and she's willing to take things further then just talking, but I have to know how can I go about helping her heal from that previous relationship? I want to be there for her, I want to be able to talk to her about it and maybe change her personality to that of less of a pessimist and more of an open person (especially with me.)\nI want to know how to make her know that she's not unwanted, that she's awesome person and that people in general aren't horrible. That I'm here for her.\n\nJust to complicate things as well, the guy who did this to her in the first place messaged her last night asking her how she is. She hasn't talked to me much about what it is he did to her only that it \"fucked her up\" and has caused her to be how she is now. I think she's a little stressed about him talking to her though as she's been very aggressive towards me today which is hard for me.", "summary": "She's says she's damaged from a previous relationship but I care enough/like her enough to want to try and help her as best as I can."}
{"id": "t3_3hrzvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23F] stop obsessing over boys!?", "post": "Every time I'm interested in a guy I can't get him out of my mind, it totally consumes me! I find myself thinking about him all day every day. When things are going well with a guy it makes me super happy and impervious to any other depressing stuff going on in my life. But if things aren't going well it totally ruins me. If he doesn't text me back I worry and fret over what I may have done to upset him / make him not like me. I'll think back over all of our interactions and find \"fuckups\" to focus on and worry over. I just can't make my brain shut up no matter how hard I try.\n\nI KNOW that all of these thoughts and feelings are totally irrational and that I need to just calm down and relax. I'm constantly talking myself down from acting crazy over it, it's a constant struggle. For example, if a guy I like doesn't answer my phone calls and I haven't heard from him in a bit I'll be tempted to call him from a different number to see if he picks up to see if he's been avoiding me and ignoring my calls. It's so stupid and I know that behaviour like that just pushes guys away.  Thankfully I'm almost always able to talk myself down from doing these things, but the anxiety and the worry is still always there and I just want it to go away.\n\nI sometimes feel that having a man in my life is my top priority even though I don't want it to be. If my life is in a slump but I have a happy relationship, then I'm happy. If my life is going wonderfully but I'm having boy troubles then I'm miserable. How can I change!? I hate being like this.", "summary": "I'm boy crazy and need to figure out how the fuck to calm down."}
{"id": "t3_2xn7md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19/f) have been feeling pretty conflicted about my (26/m) bf and I becoming long distance.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now. Everything is basically perfect and we spend almost every day together. Unfortunatly, his military career is forcing him to move clear across the country.\n\n I try to support him as much as possible, because I know how passionate he is about his career.  And I try to be understanding, knowing that this is not something he's doing because he wants to. He has expressed to me that our relationship will only be long distance temporarily (until i finish my schooling etc). I'm not concerned about cheating or being replaced. I trust him 100%.\n\nBut it just really sucks feeling like I'm being left behind. I don't know how I'm going to handle being alone all of the time. All of my close friends have their own boyfriends and lives to worry about. My biggest fear is caving and seeking the company/attention of some idiot, ruining my relationship in the process. Seeing him everyday as compared to once a month or so just sounds horrible to me. My parents urge me to just get married and accompany him on the east cost. And although the idea has been discussed, I just think I'm too young. His date is approaching quickly and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to break up at all, but the idea of overwhelming loneliness has been weighing on me. Any advice is welcome.", "summary": "bf is being stationed on the opposite coast, not sure if i can deal with LDR."}
{"id": "t3_r9hvi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your craziest concert stories?", "post": "Mine is nothing too special. I was at an all-day concert that was headlined by Sublime with Rome. Since it was outside, it was reasonably large. I was in the middle of the crowd while Black Label Society was playing. Five feet away from me a circle was forming. I figured it was just a mosh pit but I soon heard cheering. I looked over and there was a severely obese couple drunkenly making out. I'm talking at least 700 combined pounds of loving. The man's hand was in her pants, going to town while dozens of people cheered them on. Meanwhile, Zakk Wylde went into a 6-minute long guitar solo. It was so disgustingly metal. Thankfully security came, pulled them out of the crowd and that was the last I saw of that incredibly overweight twosome.", "summary": "Two whales dry humped while Zakk Wylde was shredding on the guitar."}
{"id": "t3_2wy77m", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Refinance mortgage to get rid of mortgage insurance?", "post": "We have some extra cash from a bonus check, enough we can put as much as 25% equity into our house. Current loan is with Bank of America and finance term started in Jan 2011, FHA loan with only 3.5% down. Current terms state after 5 years, we can drop the mortgage insurance if we have 20% equity in the house.  Current interest rate is 4.5%. \n\nOn Zillow, I find a list of banks offering 3 to 3.9% for a 15 year fixed (720 credit score) with anywhere from zero to $1100ish refi fees. We can afford a larger monthly payment. Is this worth the refi hassle? I'm nervous of just handing over our mortgage to an online bank, that there may be a catch we won't find until after we refi, like extra fees added, or that the mortgage will be sold off to who knows where.", "summary": "is it worth it to refinance mortgage to lower interest by 1% and drop the PMI? Have extra cash to pay 20% equity plus $ leftover for 6 months emergency fund. Current terms we can drop PMI in one year and PMI is $130 per month."}
{"id": "t3_tdll8", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Am I selfish?? Am I wrong??", "post": "I am 22/f, and he was 21/m. We broke up after 6 months, but i'm wondering a few things!\n\n1) should a boyfriend want to be with you, even if you are going to a house party - and he doesn't drink (hint: When I get drunk, I like to make out) He came to 2, then threw it back in my face \"I never wanted to go to those parties, I only went to make you happy\" One of those involved a pretty long make-out sesh\n\n2) Should he want to talk to you? Even if it is over text, and he hates text. Or facebook, and he hates facebook? I would miss him, and want to know what he was up to, but I don't think the reverse was true?\n\n3) Should he want to see you as much as possible, or is that unreasonable? (With school, and homework?) Thing was, I would see him less than any of his individual friends! (Like, he would see his buddy Carl 3 times a week, his buddy Steve 2 times a week, and me once a week) I feel like I should see him often, and even just for little things, like lunch together or whatever! It always had to be a big thing with him, like a sleepover.", "summary": "Am I selfish to think that the girlfriend should be the top priority?"}
{"id": "t3_3d7wfo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my friend [23 M] of about a year, getting my signals mixed...", "post": "So, for a little while now, I've had some pretty serious feelings developing for a friend of mine. When I met him, I was in a serious relationship, but that has since ended. Over the last year or so, we've become slightly closer, and I really thought I was getting signals from him that he might also be interested.\n\nWell, I screwed up and started seeing a different guy a little while after my break up from the serious relationship, even though I was more strongly interested in my friend. My fear of the uncertainty drove me to go with the \"safe bet\" instead of taking a risk on my friend.\n\nAs for the signals I thought I saw, he and I texted quite a bit and shared some favorite music. We shared our interests with each other, and he even remembered something I liked and bought me a gift related to it. We spent more time alone than before, and had a lot of fun.\n\nNow he is seeing someone, and I didn't see it until after I broke things off with the guy I was seeing most recently. Should I just wait it out? Was I wrong in assuming that he might feel the same? Is it possible that he's just taking the \"safe bet\" now too? Should I approach him with my feelings? I don't want to step on anyone's toes, I just want to be happy.", "summary": "I have feelings for a friend and was getting mixed signals from him. I broke up with my boyfriend but now my friend is dating someone. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3uv6pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of roughly two weeks, but I'm afraid she already lost interest. **tl;dr**: I'm inexperienced, what on earth should I do?", "post": "I've met a girl a few months ago at a concert and we started meeting more frequently. We had an amazing time at a live show around two weeks ago that ended in us kissing and generally being very fond of each other.\n\nOur interests are very similar and we enjoyed each other's company, but the last time we've met I felt like she was a bit more distant. She had her friends there, so I thought she maybe didn't want them to know.\n\nIn the end we still parted with a kiss, but I'm not sure that it had the same weight from here perspective. I'm hoping to go out with here sometime but she has tons of schoolwork and I don't know how to figure this out. When we are texting she doesn't seem much different.\n\nWhat should I do? Is this normal? I know nothing about relationships", "summary": "I have been seing a girl for a few weeks but she suddenly acted a bit more distant and I don't know what it means, I have little experience with relationships"}
{"id": "t3_2tzck0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using humans as an example to express the idea of different variants in a species.", "post": "This just happened in my pathogenic microbiology class. \n\nSo I'm sitting there waiting for class to start and I'm making my witty comments with my friends enjoying the pre-class aura and nerding out about vaccinations and how idiotic some people in the anti-vaccine movement is. Class starts. \n\nI am on top of my game. Answering questions right and left. One after the other. The professor is impressed about the depth in which I read one of our scientifically significant articles. So we started talking about pathogenicity and how you can be in the same species but be a different variant. Basically you can have two of the same bacteria's with different factors that cause one to result in a different \"strength\" of disease progression or resistant factors. (An example is VRSA and MRSA). \n\nSo my professor asks \"who can give me an example of what a variant is and explain what they're saying\".... I raise my hand and say \"WE are all HUMAN, but an example of variant in our species would be Asian decent, African decent, European decent and South American decent\". \n\nThere was a pause with a long stare and my professor says \"that is correct but probably one of the most controversial ways of explaining it\". Everyone starts laughing except a few people who shot me looks. Now I look semi-racist for using humans as a way of expressing variants in a species. I completely feel like shit as I realized how bad it came out in class.", "summary": "I got too cocky answering questions in class and used humans as a way of explaining why we are truly different via decent and probably racially offended kids in class. "}
{"id": "t3_2z8bjf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "'What makes you stand out from the crowd for this job?' - Presentation help", "post": "I'm 19F in England and I've been offered a job interview for the position of bar staff at my student's union (I know this isn't a serious job by any means, but I could really really do with getting it!).\n\nAs part of my interview I need to do a 3 minute presentation on what makes me stand out for this job. I'm doing okay for topics - reliability, lots of work experience, giving back to the community etc. but could always do with extra if you can think of any.\n\nMy main question is, what is the best way to open this presentation? Also any tips for presenting in general would be welcome as I haven't had to do many in the past.", "summary": "Best way to open a presentation that answers the question 'What makes you stand out from the crowd for this job?' Thank you in advance."}
{"id": "t3_2xraye", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Discussion] Getting kicked down seems like the only way to get back on track....", "post": "I apologize if this isn't the right subreddit to be posting in, or if I have used the wrong tag. I just really would like to get out of a slump that I am experiencing, and that I know I can get over.\n\nI'm currently a junior in high school, and have seemed to really slumped into having a halfway attitude about performance -  academic and athletic especially - from where I had started at the beginning of the year and my prior high school career. In this way, the results that I produce aren't really better or worse but the difference is that I am not motivated or spurred on by anything to improve this work.\n\nI've realized that the only way to really \"wake-up\" and get back into a aspiring, positive, and more hard working mindset is to see the success of others, which in turn makes me realize how much harder I could have worked towards a goal and how much better the outcome could be. This feeling and mindset lasts only for at the longest a week, and this really seems to be what I am asking for help with.\n\nIn what ways can I get out of this desensitization to failure slump, and maintain motivation to do better, even when things are going fine already?", "summary": "Performance in a limbo state, am fine atm settling for \"ok\" or fine only, how can I get out of this mindset and perform better?"}
{"id": "t3_2uc3fz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a younger man and fertility concerns [31f/25m]", "post": "So, I've been single for a long time. A few months ago, my doctor told me I would have a hard time conceiving children. I wasn't really looking to do that anytime soon, but now that I know it's going to be difficult I made it more of a priority. I fired up profiles on OKCupid/Match/Eharmony and put myself out there.\n\nI met someone. He's 6 years younger than I am (I'm 31/he's 25). We have been dating for four months and I love him, but I am terrified to get further involved with a man so young. He knows about my fertility problems (I told him about 6 dates in) and he knows I want to have children. He's assured me he wants them too, but I'm not convinced of his timeline.\n\nBasically- I need some help. I am afraid of getting more serious with such a young guy, while my uterus sadly ticks down to nothing. I know a lot of women deal with this whole getting-older-not-having-kids thing, but my medical issues further complicate things. I don't know how to bring up to him so early into our relationship that I would like to have children sooner than later, and that if he doesn't want that to kindly let me go. I am also discussing options with my doctor like freezing my eggs, which I am also afraid to talk to BF about because I don't wat to freak him out.\n\nP.S. I know all of this is focused on the babies issue but I just want to point out: I wasn't looking for a guy his age. He wrote me an amazing message so I ignored his age. We went on a date and he blew me away. We went on another date, and another, and another, and next thing I knew I was madly in love with this man who is way younger than what I wanted but exactly what I was looking for. If I didn't have this concern, I would just be going with it.", "summary": "Dating a younger man, don't know how to talk to him about fertility issues/accelerated timeline."}
{"id": "t3_3phq9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [ 24 / M ] think my best friend [ 23 / F ] is using me", "post": "I may be overreacting, but I feel we aren't as close as we use to be and I'm being used now.\n\nWe have been friends for 6 years and close for a lot of those. We both majored in the same thing, and I graduated last year and I'm currently working. She is finishing her last year of her masters.\n\nOur field heavily recruits right now for employment upon graduation. A few weeks ago she called me up looking for help landing a job. I spent hours and hours and hours helping her on the phone with resumes, applications, what to say, etc... She just kept calling asking these questions and I never said no. I even got her an interview at my company.\n\nOnce she started getting interviews though, I never heard from her. She never told me how they went or anything including the one at my company. This kinda rubbed me the wrong way as I spent no joke 40+ hours coaching her over the past 2 weeks. \n\nI asked her to hangout this Friday to catch up and see how things are going. She said maybe she has a lot of homework, but will let me know. Friday came and went and I heard nothing. This morning I called her and found out she has offers of employment from all the companies she applied to including mine.\n\nI was a little bugged she never said if we were hanging out Friday (she said she forgot), but what hurt is she never even told me my company made her an offer. I did so much to help her get to this point and she never once kept me in the loop again.  The only reason I knew she had any offers is another firm where I had an offer from (and still keep in contact with) told me they met her and she told them how I was her best friend and spoke good things about the company. \n   \n\nShould I be upset by this?", "summary": "Helped friend get job offers and never heard from friend again."}
{"id": "t3_4nod42", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "should I break up with my boyfriend who makes me feel amazing but shit at the same time", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years, things are normally great. Outside of our relationship my life gets me down, I have nothing else that makes me want to get up in the morning.\n\nBut the problem is when we do argue properly (happened about 3 times) about something serious that could end the relationship. It's always because he has crossed a quite simple and obviously-not-to-be-crossed boundary. He does things without thinking, that realistically he knows will hurt me. But because other than these times I love our relationship, I'm always sat with the dilemma of carrying on and making it work or cutting my losses in case this is just a foreshadowing of how we're gonna break up in months to come etc. \n\nSometimes I think it's just because I feel depressed in general that when we do fall out, because that's the only one thing I had making me happy, it always influences me quite hard... I feel like I need to find something else to make me happy but I don't have many options. \n\nI need an outsiders opinion on what they think, should I keep making it work with him because he makes me happy, or will it never work with him until I have happiness without him... If that makes sense? I don't know", "summary": "my life and feelings are a damn mess"}
{"id": "t3_4zd0nf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sometimes when my [18M] brother [12M] angers me I hit him, and I want to stop it.", "post": "It used to happen more frequently when we were younger  but its gotten better these last few years. Recently however, it's happened 3 times and I felt bad after every incident. \n\nThe first time was when I repeatedly told him not to play with a lighter, he kept on playing with it, and I pushed him to the ground and lightly kicked him. \n\nThen today I had to pick him up from practice, and he told me the wrong place. I got there, he was nowhere to be found. I then called him, yelling at him and told him I was going to kick his ass when I got there. \n\nSo he tells me the right place and I see him with 3 other friends of his. I get out the car, start yelling at him and then go to hit him. He goes to defend himself but I still manage to land a few light hits. I then turn around and yell at his friends. I felt so fucking bad afterwards. I hit my brother and embarrassed him in front of his friends. \n\n Another time I had to take him to the movies and he said something stupid to me in front of his friends and I gave him one hard slap. I felt like a piece of shit. \n\nThe thing is I'm also frustrated at some other things and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. I still feel horrible though. \n\nHow can I stop this? I've noticed he aggravates me when we've been around each other for too long and thankfully I go back to college in 2 weeks.", "summary": "I've hit my brother on multiple occasions when he hasn't listened to me or did something stupid, I've felt bad afterwards every time, and I want to know how I can stop this."}
{"id": "t3_e6k2a", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "nothing to wake up for", "post": "I feel like I'm getting through the day just so I can go back to sleep again. Its like I'm living just to sleep! i never want to wake up and i prefer to go to bed as early as possible- but I feel like I'm wasting my life. how can I gain some enthusiasm for living ? I feel like I've lived enough already and sleeping is a way to escape from the banality of it all. \u00a0I have friends who I see more than I like- \u00a0I have a job that I enjoy but takes a lot of my time (both keep me from my sleep)", "summary": "there is nothing I really want to do except sleep"}
{"id": "t3_32wb9p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "First semi major car accident. I really don't know what to do.", "post": "So last week, I purchased a 2003 BMW 330xi from my uncle. I loved the thing. Today, some jackass driving daddy's jaguar to school decided to pull out in front of the car that I was behind, those two cars collided and I didn't have time to stop so I hit the jaguar as well (I was paying attention, I had time to slow down but not come to a complete stop, I went from 45 to about 25 in the few seconds I had) After everything was said and done, the 16 year old was deemed at fault for the collision and got a citation.\n\nSo I am insured with USAA and tomorrow they have some one to coming out to look at the damage to my car and figure out how much it's going to cost. I got a loan through USAA foe $7800 to pay for the car, if the car is considered totaled what is my next move? Can I sue the kid and get him (or his dad) to pay off the loan? (Not saying I will, I just want to know my options)\n\nThe air bag did deploy and I have heard from some people that that can justify the car as totaled but also heard that that shouldn't be an issue. \n\nIf the car isn't totaled, I just pay my deductible and get insurance takes care of the rest, which isn't a big deal.\n\nI just want to know my options if the car is deemed totaled.\n\nThis is my first some what major accident, and my first accident being on my own policy so I am sort of new to all of this so please help me. Thank you!", "summary": "got into car accident. 16 year old was deemed at fault, what are my options if car is considered totaled ($7800 loan with USAA)"}
{"id": "t3_2qiha2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [45F] just found out my husband [35M] has been lying to me for over a year. Need advice.", "post": "Caught him trying to cover up a fetish.  I don't even care about the fetish. It's the lying that is killing me.  I've only ever asked for honesty. 2 nd marriage for us both.  I can't go through another divorce.  It's not the first time he has lied.  \n\nHe is acting like everything is fine now.  I can't sleep for 3 days very well.  I want to vomit.  I'm angry and sad and tired.  My options seem to be to live with his dishonesty and do nothing about it or just live my own life behind his back.  Or divorce.  \n\nWhat would you do reddit?", "summary": "Husband is a liar and most likely will never change. Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_1semtb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Developing a relationship between me (23M) and my friend (22F) after years friendship.", "post": "I have been friends with this girl for a few years, but both of us have been in long term relationships for the entire time. We are now both at the same graduate school while our SOs stayed behind leaving us both in long distance relationships (nearly coast to coast).\n\nBoth of our LDRs didn't work out, and I am starting to develop feelings for my friend for the first time. I've always thought she was amazing in virtually every way, but while we were both unavailable it was never anything more than an amazing friendship. Now that there is a chance I am seeing her more completely, and I can't get her out of my head.\n\nI know we just got out of relationships and it may be a while before either of us is ready for another serious relationship, but I don't remember when I last felt so strongly and clearly about someone and I am willing to wait until were both ready for something serious rather than pushing it to early and ruining my chances at both. How long should I wait? Is there a norm, or is it completely personal?\n\nAssuming I wait the right amount, how do I make the transition from relationship where we both describe the other as a best friend to something romantic? I always hear that if a girl isn't interested, then move on; there are plenty of fish in the sea. But that is not what I am asking about. This isn't about getting any girl, it is about getting this girl. How do I make the transition? We have always flirted a bit and I don't feel like we are at a place where either of us would rule out dating. Is there any expectation that we would still be able to be as good of friends if it doesn't work out, or is there no return once my feelings have developed? Should I just be honest and talk to her; if so, when do I have that talk given our fresh breakups?", "summary": "My best friend and I were both in long term relationships for our entire friendship, but we are now both newly single. Since she's become available I have fallen for her. How do I transition our friendship into romance?"}
{"id": "t3_11sugk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my best guy friend of about 4 months (20M ) and my best friend of about 1 year/roommate (20, gender queer female), hooked up last night...", "post": "I (20,F) am confused about how I should feel...\n\nSo after an awkward kickback last night, at which I was the 3rd wheel on the couch, two of my best friends spontaneously hooked up.  My roommate has a reputation for being promiscuous, and my best guy friend hasn't had any in awhile. There had never (that I had noticed) been any flirting between them. Of course, both were drunk, and I was kept up all night as they humped the night away. \n\nStrangely, that was not what bothered me the most. I have been in a relatively happy relationship for the past 8 months, and I love my boyfriend (19,M) very much, but I found myself quite jealous. \n\nThere are a few reasons why it could be..\n\n* When I first met my guy friend, he was the one who flirted with me. And he has been showing many signs of feelings towards me since we met. Now, all of a sudden, he hooks up with my roommate. I could just be caught off guard.\n\n* My boyfriend, while very sweet and loving, has commitment issues and has struggled to accept the fact that he has a girlfriend. He has gotten much better and treats me well, except he shows a lot of reluctance in the bedroom. I feel like I am always the one initiating sex, and he rarely shows any sign of sexual wanting for me. I am just butthurt that they're getting if off and i'm not.\n\n* I am starting to develop feelings for my best guy friend while in a committed relationship and I am legitimately jealous. \n\nI would love some help trying to sort this out. Thanks, Reddit!!", "summary": "Best guy friend and best friend/roommate drunkenly and randomly hooked up. I, while in a committed and happy relationship, feel jealous. Need help figuring out why and what to do next. "}
{"id": "t3_2up9mb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By telling a co-worker she had \"nice melons\"", "post": "So, I work at a grocery store and there was a girl in another department who would always come to grab various fruits and vegetables for platters, sushi. Now on occasion, she would grab Cantaloupe, Honeydey and Watermelon and I would always say she had \"nice melons\". Sometimes when she saw me carrying them, she would say the same thing back to me. It was a nice running joke.\n\nSo one glorious afternoon, were in the produce fridge and I make the joke. No harm right? Wrong. So, apparently a co-worker from the deli was behind a skid fishing out some stuff for the sushi lady that doesnt speak English.\n\nShe's apparently a real hard ass. So she goes and tells her manager that one of the \"kids in produce\" makes sexual comments. Next thing I know I am getting a lecture from my manager about not making sexual comments to co-workers.", "summary": "Made comment \"nice melons\" to a light hearted co-worker, another co-worker overheard and reported me."}
{"id": "t3_2zcq6m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] dont know how I should feel about my gf [F20] twerking at the club.", "post": "We have been together for almost 3 years and she likes to dance at clubs I on the other hand do not like to dance at all we have two very different interpretations of what we consider fun but the idea of what she is doing to other guys at the club makes me feel uncomfortable.\n\nWe are an interracial couple she is black and im latino so i am aware that to some degree it is cultural and to me it is a bit of a culture shock but I would just love some insight as to how other people see this situation from a cultural, racial, and relationship perspective because I try to culturally adapt to this but it is a bit of an obstacle for me as I just find dancing in general as awkward", "summary": "relationship of 3 years, interracial, wondering from an outside pov how I should feel about gf twerking on random guys at the club"}
{"id": "t3_3jjo2z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15 M] GF [14 F] of two months told me how she was blackmailed into having sex a few months back, before we met. She seems to be over it, but it's really bothering me again, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Me [15 M] and my GF [14 F] have been together for a little over two months now. Pretty early on, she told me how she was blackmailed into having sex with a horrible guy who was only interested in her body (this was about a month before we met). GF started crying the first time she told me and thought I wouldn't think of her the same way again. I understand that it wasn't voluntary, but this isn't the whole problem.\n\nI think this information has had some lasting effects on me. When my GF first told me this, I was infuriated (at the guy who did this, not her), but told her that it's ok, and that she can be a virgin again. We're both religious, so I threw some of that in my explaining to her. \n\nI think I was, and still kinda am again, so angry with this guy because I believe he took something very important form her. I don't want to sound selfish or something, but I can't help but think that your virginity should be something shared with someone very important to you, which we both are to each other. I am a virgin, and have no plans on having sex with my GF anytime soon, but I wanted our virginities to be shared with each other, and now that can't really happen. I tell her (and myself) that virginity is just a concept, but I've still made myself nearly sick thinking about all this. For about a week after she first told me, I cried just thinking about it.\n\nEssentially, I am livid about this guy, because he took my GF's virginity, when I believe that i should've been the one to do that. Whether I'm just being selfish, or we're just young and naive, I'm not sure. All I know is that this is keeping me from thinking clearly throughout the day. Maybe just posting about this will help me out, I don't know.", "summary": "I'm furious at a guy who forcibly took my GF's virginity when I believe that it should have been me to do that, and now that fact is keeping me up at night."}
{"id": "t3_334nfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We're [22M] [23F] taking a break, what now?", "post": "Girlfriend of 8 months and I are taking a break.\n\nWe sat down and had to have a talk about our relationship because there was tension between us. It came down to both of us feeling we were caught in a stupid vicious cycle of \"thinking the other person doesn't care, so I won't care either\".\n\nIt got worse and worse until I brought it up and she said she felt the same way. The conversation actually went very smoothly because we were on the same\npage. I said I want to be in a relationship with her, but not if it stays like this. She agreed. \n\nWe were getting to the bottom of it, but then a major issue came up. She said she felt so stressed for so long (2 months) and for the past couple weeks she got past the point of stressing. She said she stopped caring to a certain extent. She even said while we were having this talk that she knows she should be more upset, but she's not.\n\nWe again both agreed that something needs to be done but we didn't know what. She ended up suggesting a break and I agreed. I agreed because it was on my mind and I was hoping for another outcome. But we were running out of ideas.\n\nSo she left and now I'm here. Obviously I'm upset and I do know that this could be the end. But I'm hoping for the \"distance makes the heart grow fonder\" thing to comes into play here. \n\nBut what are the rules for a break? Do I call her in a week to see what's on her mind? Do I wait for her to call me? How long before its a lost cause? I don't know what to expect from her and I don't know what she expects from me. Also, this break is a Rachel break, not a Ross break (meaning we aren't seeing other people. And no, I'm not an idiot. If she was with another guy before the end of the week, then I wouldn't consider going back).\n\nI get the feeling that this relationship can be saved, but the odds are not in my favour.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are taking a break after a long talk and not knowing what to do about the tension we were feeling. She got to the point of frustration where she stopped caring as much anymore, but she said she still wants to try. So we are taking a break. No idea what to do from here."}
{"id": "t3_3vigfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [mid 20s/f] am interested in a co-worker [mid 20s/m].", "post": "For starters, my co-worker and I are in different departments. Our departments do somewhat relate, but I don't need to go to him about certain work questions. I don't see him everyday since he works on the other side of the office. It's in the same building, but we work on completely different ends. He's not in a higher role than I am. I actually am in a higher position than him, but either way he could not get anything out of me as I am not a Manager or Director of some sorts. I just am on salary while he is hourly. It is very clear that he is into me, but my biggest fear is that we date for a bit and break up. I normally wouldn't fear that if we didn't work together, but I don't want to make things awkward.", "summary": "Is it bad that I am interested in a co-worker?"}
{"id": "t3_optaw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I want to try dating an old childhood friend. Could this work?", "post": "Alright, so I'm F25 and he's M27ish.\n\nSo one of my best friends and I met at a summer camp when we were both in primary school. She had a brother a couple years older, and the three of us would go on adventures across the neighborhood and wreak havoc in local playgrounds everywhere. Once high school started, my friend and I started drifting apart. Her family was incredibly religious and mine was becoming increasingly liberal in the changing political climate. Although our families remained friends throughout it all, I can't help but feel her parents seeing us as a bad influence. Although we lived down the street from each other, my friend and her brother were sent to private Christian schools for the rest of their education, giving me fewer reasons to see her or her brother.\n\nYears pass, my friend's brother moves out of state for college, and she follows suite after she's done with high school, and I don't really hear from them until four years later when he moves back home and I decide to solicit his help on a website I wanted to make. I felt like we really bonded over this. He was really cool and incredibly helpful, funny, and smart to boot! Although he went to a private schools, he's very open-minded about civil rights issues, we have similar political affiliations, watch the same TV shows, and he isn't ashamed to like musicals.\n\nMy main problem is that I've had a history of horrible relationships. Not even horrible in the way most people think. I feel like there's a very strong chance I'm asexual. I've been in four big relationships that I felt helped me become the person I am today, and I'm thankful for it, but they all ended with the fact that I was unwilling to have sex with my partner.\n\nI feel a sense of security with him, because I know he would never do anything outside of my comfort zone. However I don't start a lot of relationships because I feel guilty about not being able to satisfy my partners. One of my biggest concerns is that if he does wind up liking me back, and we start dating, and something happens causing us to break up, this could mean bad things for our family's already fragile relationship.\n\nOKSO", "summary": "I have a crush on my friend's brother I've known since we were 8. I'm worried that my sex issues and our family's friendship might be big hindrances. Should I let the feelings slide or go for broke?"}
{"id": "t3_44atnh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M ] with my gf [24 F] of 2 years, GF is much smarter and making me feel insecure", "post": "I started dating my current GF in college, after several years of friendship. We moved in together shortly after college, and now both are working in the same city. \n\nEver since we started living together, the dynamics of the relationship became much more serious compared to the one during college, i.e. she started to plan our finances, living arrangements, even started to talk politics. The problem is, one which I am only starting to realize is, she is far smarter in these than I am. I am kinda an impulsive person who hates planning and thinking through things, and when she ask me to help her with finances or sort out the insurance etc I struggle to be helpful. She doesn't really mind because she is more than capable of doing stuff herself, but the fact that I can't makes me deeply insecure.\n\nWhat's worst is my current relationship reminds me of my parent's, which was really a dysfunctional one. My mom was the smart one, and my dad was at best, average in everything but had a bad case of insecurity mixed with enlarged ego. He had a hard time listening to my mom's advice or opinions and often made bad decisions that he will blame others for. My mom also had an issue, she enjoys belittling my dad and teasing him as dumb or slow, which probably contributed to my dad's insecurity and big ego.\n\nAlthough my GF is really cool now, I am really afraid one day she'll turn into my mom and start treating me like an idiot, because compared to her, I know I am one. Sometimes my fear is so real that it intrude into my thoughts suddenly, for example we are relaxing on the sofa watching TV, this fear comes and makes me think about ending my relationship, out of nowhere.  \n\nHonestly, I don't really know why I am feeling this way, but I certainly feel it and I hate it. I can't bring myself to discuss this insecurity with my GF, so I thought I'd bring it here for advice. Thank you.", "summary": "Starting to realize GF is much smarter than I am, becoming insecure and fearful of future dynamics of our relationship. Thinking of breaking up out of fear I become the idiot husband."}
{"id": "t3_1ue6sb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend and I (25m/25f) live with our friend (27f). Everything would be fine except she never leaves the apartment. What do we do?", "post": "My boyfriend and I live in a large apartment with one of our friends. She's generally a pretty solid roommate. She's a bit messy but usually takes care of her stuff at least once a week and keeps her mess contained in her bedroom. There are a couple problems we keep having, though, and attempts to deal with them haven't worked yet. \n\n1. She's literally always home. My boyfriend and I both work full time. She's on break from school (we both are) and leaves the apartment either for an hour or two during the day to run errands, or not at all for days. I can't tell you the last time I got to be home alone or that my boyfriend and I got to be home alone together. We don't get a lot of time together because of our work schedules so this is annoying. She had promised before to give us some alone time more frequently but she never does. \n\n2. She never stops talking. This is part of the issue with her constantly being around. It's to the point where I avoid watching tv shows and movies around her that I haven't seen because she will talk loudly through the entire thing even after people turn up the volume, stop responding, or shush her. \n\n3. She's constantly high. Like 24/7. I wouldn't really care about this since all of us smoke, except she smokes indoors at like 8am and leaves windows open (it's -10 degrees here lately) or smokes in her bedroom which is 10ft from our front door and our landlord lives upstairs. I'm 24, I'm too old for this shit. We had told her when we moved in to either smoke outside or wait til after 8pm and do it in the bathroom (but close the window after). \n\nNeither my boyfriend or I want to move out and we both care about her but attempts to bring this up to her never work more than for a few days. Some of this is, in my opinion, disrespectful and irresponsible. The other stuff is just annoying. What do we do?", "summary": "Roommate never leaves the house, and is often annoying and irresponsible. Have tried talking to her multiple times and nothing changes. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_3u64gb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] thought I was completely over my [20 F] ex, but since going no contact I have been a mess.", "post": "Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years when we broke up 5 months ago. The breakup was mutual and we decided to try and remain friends. During this period I felt really happy to be single, I felt really good about myself. Over a period of time me and my ex started arguing badly, and I could see that staying friends was not healthy for her as she was starting to become obsessive over me. We decided to go no contact just before I left for university and since then I have been a mess, crying everyday and non stop thinking about her. \n\nI can't sleep, because I just think about her and my mind starts racing about regrets and what I could have done to make the relationship work. I am coming back home for Christmas in a few weeks, and all I can think about is contacting her. I know I shouldn't contact her but it's all I think about and I just don't know what to do to get over her.", "summary": "Broke up with my ex. I was doing really well until we decided to go no contact. Now I can't stop crying and thinking about her."}
{"id": "t3_477fsl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] parents are overprotective. I helped my friend cheat on an assignment in class, and got caught. Now the school want me to tell them what happened", "post": "For a start what I done was wrong. The other kid involved is getting pulled off the subject. I'm allowed to stay on, and basically got a slap on a wrist and told not to do it again, but I was told to get my parents to phone the school so they can talk about it.\n\nI fully understand I deserve some punishment for what I done, but I've been a straight A student for years. My parents are the type to be slightly disappointed if I barely pass a test. Lately my grades have been slipping, mostly cause I don't actually need most of the subjects I'm doing and am not motivated to study at all, but this will be the nail in the coffin. My friend had asked me to let him copy from mine, since he was really struggling with the course, and I let him. The school caught on, and honestly I feel like an idiot.\n\nBut my parents are so overprotective and I honestly think they'll over-react and think I'm some sort of demon child. I made a mistake, a big one, but they're going to hang this over my head for the rest of the time I'm at school. I already argue with them daily over petty bullshit, but this will be a shitstorm. I'm scared to have to deal with it at all. So, I need to tell my mom in the next couple of hours about it so she can phone the school. How do I work up the courage to tell her? And also convince them this was a one off mistake?", "summary": "I think my overprotective parents will over-react to me letting my friend cheat off my assignment. I'm scared of having to deal with how they react to it. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_136e07", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice needed. Iraqi girl marrying a pakistani guy (almost typed girl, lol). Is it really such a bad thing?", "post": "So, as you can see from the title, i am an iraqi 21 year old, living in a western area, who fell in love with a pakistani. I visit iraq regularly (shocking i know) whereas he has only been once. Before his culture didnt affect me because i always felt love matters more but now im starting to feel differently. Are there any interrracial couples out there who have made it work? Does anyone understand why i am finding it such an inner struggle to accept my kids will not be 100% iraqi? I dont want to write too much here as im hoping to explain more if anyone wants to know more. Im not so great at monologues. And im assuming nobody will actually read this too", "summary": "iraqi who loves pakistani but not sure of how to make it work."}
{"id": "t3_1aoiah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (20M) leaving for a semester abroad this fall but I'm (20F) pretty sure he doesn't wants a LDR, how do we discuss it?", "post": "Me (20F) and SO (20M)\n\nWe have been together for 10 months and so far the relationship has been amazing. Definitely not perfect but close.\n\nMy boyfriend recently got accepted into an exchange program at a university in another country (ca 3 hour flight). He will leave sometime in August and most likely return around Christmas. I would be able to visit him once or twice during that time. There's also a slight possibility he might stay for a second semester.\n\nWe've discussed him studying abroad quite a lot, but there's one question I haven't asked him out of fear: Whether or not he wants us to stay together while he's abroad. I want us to try long-distance while he's away but I'm not sure he does. I am absolutely terrified that he'll say he wants us to break up. How do I start that discussion? What do I say?", "summary": "Boyfriend will be studying in another country next semester, I want us to try long-distance, he might not. How do I start that discussion?"}
{"id": "t3_2sz9rs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking a bottle of what-I-thought-to-be coke.", "post": "Let me start off by saying that my dad uses snus. For anyone who doesn't know what snus is. (This is from Wikipedia) Snus is a moist powder tobacco product originating from a variant of dry snuff in early 18th-century Sweden. It is placed under the upper lip for extended periods. Basically, you put it in your mouth, and then you have to spit out sometimes, and it looks like regular spit, just black. Now, my dad is a fisherman, and aboard the ship, he always spits in Coca Cola bottles, because he's obviously not allowed to spit inside the ship. Well, he spits in the bottles, and when he's done with them, he puts them in a plastic-bag and throws them away - but this time it was different. He had taken them home with him by accident, by putting them together with all the other stuff he has with him aboard. \n\nWell, usually I wake up and everything is pretty much faded for me in the first 10-20 minutes I'm up, because I'm on medication (It's personal). But yeah, I wake up, semi half-asleep walking down the stairs, see a coke bottle on the kitchen table, I can see it's half left, and me being me I don't care too much who owns it or who has been drinking out of it, so I start chugging, and I can feel that liquorice taste in my mouth, and I quickly realize what it is I'm drinking, because I know what kind of snus my dad uses.... but oh my God... before I know it I just throw up, I throw up for about 5 minutes, and then I gag for the next 5 hours... this all happened 2 days ago, but I've laid in bed sick now, because of what happened..", "summary": "Dad uses snus, spits in a coke bottle and I drink it and now I'm sick."}
{"id": "t3_izs5p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Not sure if this is the right Sub but I need help and was told to come here.", "post": "I work for a small business amd one of our computers died and we need a new one ASAP. I was looking for advice on which store I should buy a cheap computer from on short notice, I looked at Best Buy and Dell but i don't want to get screwed. It's going to be used in a repair shop so it has to be able to run in a dirty environment though I will be doing monthly cleaning. All it will be used for is looking up parts online and storing information that we have on parts. As fast as possible since customers don't like waiting.", "summary": "Need a new fast computer for a repair shop ASAP!"}
{"id": "t3_1bx9nq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25m] Bored with my gf, not sure what my options are [24f]", "post": "We've been dating a little over a year and the spark is mostly gone. I don't really find her that attractive, but sometimes she is if she tries a bit. She's usually kind of depressed, but I like her when she's happy. She doesn't really have anything she likes doing, but I like doing things with her when there's something to do. She's not very smart so we can't have very interesting discussions. She doesn't remember things very well either. I'm educated and love discussing things and playing challenging games. She's so poor I provide her food. She's so lazy she won't make it herself. The best way I can describe our relationship is extremely **okay**.\n\nI've tried tons of things to give us more things to do, convincing myself why I should like her. There's nothing wrong with her or our relationship, so I feel like an asshole if I just break it off. I'm half-wishing she would give me a reason to do that, though. I've talked to her about how I feel less attracted to her and that she's depressed too often, and we spend limited time together. She shrugged and said it hurt her. Nothing came of it.\n\nI feel like it's sort of a chore that I have to deal with her every single day.", "summary": "Bored with depressing relationship. How can I proceed without being an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_2maf6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my BF [22M] 1 year, query re: lies, ex girlfriends and red flags.", "post": "Will try to keep this short.\nWe have a great relationship *but* he has lied about a few things in the past, which is the only thing causing me worry over this otherwise excellent relationship.\n\nHe is still in touch with his ex; they broke up almost three years ago but were together for about 14 months. In the past when he has contacted her, he kept it a secret from me which upset me greatly, because I didn't understand why he was trying to hide it.\nI wouldn't mind the fact that he was still in contact with her (although it wouldn't make me the happiest girl in the world, I'd be able to deal with it!).\n\nThe fact that he lied to me makes me question a lot. Is it too invasive for me to ask him if I can read their messages from facebook and text? (Not everything obviously but just from the time we have been a couple). If he had nothing to hide would he not be more than happy to show these to me or am I disrespecting his privacy?\n\nHe knows that my trust has been damaged so would this be a way to repair it? Should he not be eager to prove that nothing was going on? Or am I being too demanding?\nI have asked to see their exchange of messages on fb before but he downright refused and said it was none of my business...", "summary": "BF lies broke my trust. Looking for proof that he is no longer lying. Unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_1pd7za", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M27/F24] Roomates with [M24] who has his girlfriend[F18] over nightly, claims she doesnt live here.", "post": "Am I right to be upset about her being at the house but not contributing in anyway?\n\nIt started out very slow, she would spend a night here and there. And it wasnt a problem. Then slowly she starts spending a lot more time here. At one point early on, she ended up staying a week without returning to her home. I asked my roommate about it and he was shocked and claimed he didnt realize she had been at the house that long. I shrugged it off and asked that it didn't happen again. Everything was fine for a while, and then she started letting herself in without knocking. I personally feel this is disrespectful to the rest of the housemates, am I wrong about this? Is this the norm these days?\n\nI asked them to have her please knock when arriving at the house, and she does, but then proceeds to enter the house anyway. I let this go as they are doing as I asked. \n\nThe next issue I have is her here without him, and even more so, her here without ANYONE else. I can understand her arriving before he does if they have plans, or shortly after he leaves. But hours before or after seems to be a bit excessive. And being here when no one else is I feel is defiantly out of line. When these things started happening. I asked my roommate if she is living here. And he said that she does not. I repeated my concerns, but this time they seemed to have fallen flat. Lately she has been here everyday and night it seems. It is rare that her car is not in the driveway. \n\nAm I wrong for feeling that they are past the line with this?", "summary": "Roommates girlfriend is here almost everynight and is at the house when no one else is here. Am I wrong for being upset that they  say she doesnt live here?"}
{"id": "t3_4izzwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my FWB(?) [25 F] of a few months, do I tell her about someone I slept with a while ago, that is coming on the same trip as us?", "post": "Okie dokie! So, pretty simple situation, I just need other peoples opinions. Been seeing this girl for a few months, nothing serious at the start and still nothing too serious as of yet. But as we all know, the more time you spend with someone, the closer you get. So we're certainly getting closer.\n\nAnyways, in a few months time me and quite a few friends have organized a fun little trip away and we have got quite a sizeable group coming along with us. Now the problem is, it was very much a 'invite all your friends along' type situation so we have friends of ours inviting other friends etcetc. Now, one of my friends has unknowingly invited someone whom I have slept with before, which is fine as we still get along just fine and never even mention what happened between us. However, the girl I am seeing is coming on the trip with us.\n\nSo the question is, do I tell her about my history with this other girl or not? There's literally nothing between myself and that other girl anymore, but of course its hard to tell as to whether the girl I'm seeing would rather know, or not know. For you girls out there, would you want me to tell you about this other girl before the trip, or would you prefer I just think nothing of it and hope to God it doesn't come up whilst we're all hanging out?\n\nIts not a big deal to me at all (the history), but it very well could be a big deal for the girl I'm seeing. Options?", "summary": "Going on group trip with the girl I'm seeing and a girl I have previously slept with. Do I tell the girl I'm seeing about my history with this other girl?"}
{"id": "t3_48oywr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(16/m) My girlfriend (15/f) isn't very interesting to text", "post": "So I just got hooked up with a girl a couple weeks ago by my friends, the first relationship of my life (hers too) and we're both pretty shy, introverted, and like the same things. After the first date, she warmed up extremely quickly and made the first advances, and was super affectionate in general. We text every day, for hours upon hours but the conversations are rarely interesting. Over texting, her replies are usually only a few words in length and are only replies to questions I ask about her. She's still super affectionate, and frequently makes reference to how \"I'm the best decision I've ever made\", calls me cute and babe all the time, says she anticipates our next date, will occasionally use some innuendos followed by \";)\" yet never asks questions about me or brings up topics of conversation. Her non-flirting replies only answer my question directly, with no intention of moving forward the discussion. Sometimes, I'll take a 5 minute break from texting (she always replies instantly, so points for eagerness?) to see if she'll come up with anything on her own. She invariably doesn't. \n\nTo be frank, if it weren't for her frequent references to her attraction towards me, and the fact that she always initiates the conversations, it would appear that she has no interest in me at all.\n\nThe way I see it, she's either:\n\n1. Only attracted to me physically and not for my person (interests etc.) which doesn't make much sense considering I'm slightly overweight and not particularly attractive.\n\n2. Doesn't really like me but wants to put in the minimum effort to keep the relationship going, since I'm her first and she likely has no other alternatives, as neither do I\n\n3. Texting just isn't her thing\n\nNone of these bode well, but she's a really nice person and extremely pretty and I don't want to lose this opportunity. What do you guys think?\n\nAlso, if it's relevant I was recently diagnosed with clinical depression and have a tendency to get paranoid, thinking everyone hates me, and generally overrexaggerate things. Is it a possibility that I'm just delusional and everything's fine?", "summary": "my gf isn't interesting to talk to, but not 100% sure it's because of a lack of interest on her part (I'm very socially inexperienced, not very good at picking up cues)"}
{"id": "t3_1025jt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this the end? Is this it?", "post": "My girlfriend [21F] and me [20M] broke up not too long ago almost 2 weeks.\n\nWe went out for 11 months. On our 6 months she paid for my airplane ticket to visit her several thousand miles away. She would write me letters to me and tell me how much I mean to her. \n\nI end up centering my life around her and I grew way too comfortable.\nAnd things started going downhill on my part I slowly stopped celebrating our anniversary. I stopped doing romantic things. Fights started happening more often. I was oblivious to her. I didn't see her side till it was too late. I took things for granted now I am sitting here regretting it.\n\nThis was my first relationship and boy did I fuck things up... During our night of our break up she told me she doesn't feel the same anymore and it cut quite deep.\n\nWe took a week break. We met up and she told she doesn't want to lose me but she doesn't want a relationship. She wants to take things slow.\nWe set up a date to hang out and take it slow. I canceled. \n\nMet up again everything was going well. Once we got to her place everything went downhill. This time she was oblivious to me she was playing with her dog and I actually felt that this is it. \n\nI felt that we are just hanging out solely just as friends and I noticed she doesn't seem to see that. I end up canceling our next date. I don't want to be friendzoned or just split apart over my mistakes.\n\nI don't know what to do right now. Am I supposed to run my game and make her fall in love with me again? What am I suppose to do. I don't want to end it like this. Not like this...", "summary": "Just read it please."}
{"id": "t3_3znglr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Housemate/Tenant [24F] made plans to leave and when they fell through I went ahead with them.", "post": "So late 2014 I was kind enough to provide a house to a friends gf who was struggling to find a place to live. I thought it was great because I'd get to see them both a lot more. I own the house and was looking for a roommate/tenant anyway\n\nShe moved in and sure enough they were around all the time etc, we all got along really well. Over the year she started spending more and more time at his parents house because they cooked for her, did her laundry etc. It annoyed me because I didn't like living by myself, but I never made an issue of it and moved on. Learned to live with it. \n\nIt got to a point where she'd only come back to pick up clothes say hello and leave again. I'd go weeks without seeing her. When she announced that she and her bf were moving in with another mate of ours I was thrilled. So I started making plans for a new housemate, I got a great person and it was full steam ahead.\n\nShe then told me her plans fell through, and I said well the plans I made in reaction to yours are still going ahead, so I'll need you to commit to your departure date as specified by you (6 weeks away) she exploded at me saying it was disrespectful to make plans after her plans were only proposed and not concrete (she never told me that) I explained that I was sticking to my plans for my own personal reasons and that I was sick of living by myself and didn't expect her to live there more and I was getting someone else in with the hope of having company. \n\nNo contact for two days and she sent me this moody passive aggressive message saying she'll have to move in to her bf's parents house and she'll be out in 2 weeks. So I told the next roommate that we could bring the timeline up, she was happy. We are now very rapidly approaching the 2 week deadline and nothing of hers has left the house yet.\n\nAm I being too harsh?", "summary": "Roomate is non-existent, so when she made plans to go, I made plans of my own. Her plans fell through, now I'm the bad guy."}
{"id": "t3_3tw069", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey r/relationships [19]M here, how do you learn to love yourself?", "post": "So I've had a lot of trying times these past few months, and I'm trying to find myself again. Since moving away and starting university I feel like I've changed a lot. Sometimes when I look in the mirror I don't even recognize myself anymore. I'm stressed, tired and confused. \n\nI don't know if I ever have loved myself, or at least haven't thought about it. I suppose my idea of who I was came from my achievements and the work that I have done. I have always taken pride in my work and always put 100% into what I did. Since then university has taken a toll on that feeling. I feel dumb and beaten. My sense of who I was fundamentally as a person was shaken. I have been trying to find myself ever since.\n\nThis year though I met a girl who seems to really like me romantically. This scares the hell out of me since I cannot wrap my head around the idea of someone liking me, when I don't even know if i do. So I guess I'm asking for your help, how does one learn to love themselves?", "summary": "Lost myself, trying to find myself, still figuring out if I like the new me."}
{"id": "t3_js7re", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriends grandma caught us making out on her couch.", "post": "I was at my girlfriends house for the 3rd time this past weekend and her grandma caught us making out on the couch, she was really pissed and yelled at her about us being disrespectful, and that i also quit football so now she thinks I'm lazy i guess, she also said the usual \"that boy only has one thing on his mind\" phrase and now i don't think she'll even let us cuddle on the couch while watching a movie.I'm going to call her around 7:30( so that my girlfriend won't be there) and i was just looking for tips on what i should do or say.", "summary": "Me and my gf got caught making out on her gmas couch, i have to call her and apologize, what should i say, and what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2mwwk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf [24F] keeps talking to guy from work.", "post": "This argument keeps coming up every once in a while but I finally want to kno if I'm in the wrong or not. \n\nSo my gf has a male coworker who likes her and I kno this because I've seen texts that he has sent her. The questions that I can remember r questions like \"do u work and school only?\" Do u live close by?\" Basically getting to kno u questions and I kno these r questions that guys usually use when they r into someone cuz I've done them. And I told her he liked her but she didn't believe me. Eventually I saw questions like \"when u gonna let me take u out?\", \"u should come out with the group tonite or do u need ur bf permission?\" So finally she realized that yes he likes her.\n\nNow I've told her I don't like her socializing with him cuz I kno how guys are. She counters with \"he has a gf so don't worry\" but that still doesn't set my mind at ease. I trust her completely but before he tries anything that will offend me or her I rather just nip it in the bud.\n\nThe other nite I get called from her sister saying that she hasn't come home from work yet eventually an hour passes and she shows up at home. When I question her about it she tells me that she stayed in the parking lot talking to him and someone else. Now I kno she didn't do anything but it's just the thought of her interacting with someone that likes her and doesn't acknowledge that she has a bf. \n\nAm I wrong?", "summary": "Gf talks to guy who likes her but she won't stop talking to him even tho it bothers me immensely. "}
{"id": "t3_230eey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22f with my bf 23m; He has a ring and could propose anytime and the uncertainty is bringing out the worst in me. How do I ve patient and deal?", "post": "I love my boyfriend very much. We decided fairly early in the relationship that we were each other's forever person. We have lived together for a year. I moved far away from home for his job, & I told him that I wouldn't do that without serious commitment from him.\n\nWe picked out a ring together in October, and he paid it off and got it 2 months ago. It is currently sitting in our safe. I knew he wouldn't propose before he finished his Master's thesis, which he just did 2 weeks ago. However, I am anxious.\n\nI have been making comments and teasing him about proposing and I would like to relax and stop doing that and stop thinking about it. However, since he finished his thesis, every little thing we do (hike etc) makes me jumpy that he is going to propose. I have a feeling he will wait a while and come down from the stress of his thesis, but my nervous system can't handle this much longer.\n\nI am so in love with him and marrying him will be one of the most exciting things I've ever done. Its an unbelievable opportunity and I can't wait to do it. My love for him is more intense than ever, and our relationship stronger and better.I'm not at all worried about cold feet in his part, more just overwhelmingly impatient. I feel like a puppy that knows its owner has a treat.\n\nHow can I stop being so anxious and obnoxious and chill out about this?", "summary": "My boyfriend has a ring and could propose at any minute, but could be a while. The uncertainty makes me jumpy and on edge constantly.  I want to chill out and be a better partner and stop teasing/pressuring him."}
{"id": "t3_1zu66o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] with my 22 [F] 6 years, found out a friend has feelings for her, but found out in a bad way.", "post": "Well my SO has a friend that I am uncomfortable with. I told my SO and she said she understands and re-assured me nothing was going on. He has been acting weird, like liking all her pics on FB and commenting that she is pretty on all of them. She re-assured me nothing was happening and she is doing nothing such as responding or liking his comments. His status are also all about loving this girl and feeling sad about it. \n\nAnyways, I did something bad and my friend let me use her fb account and I talked to this friend. He essentially confessed his love of her to me, and even said they have been in a relationship for a few months. I know that some of the details he said aren't true, but it still created some worries for me obviously that she is texting him or at least having an emotional affair. However I obviously cannot tell her what I did. What should I do?", "summary": "Found out my wife's friend is in love with her, but in an un-ethical way."}
{"id": "t3_1xtv5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex (F/24) and I (F/23) broke up a year ago because she cheated after 2.5 years together. Now she's come back into contact and I would appreciate advice.", "post": "I will keep this brief as I can.\n\nWe were together 3^^(ish) years (lived together for 2), but the last 7 months were pretty shitty.\n\nStandard story - she met someone else and was hiding it. Every time I questioned it she would twist it round to be my fault. I was paranoid/clingy/didn't want her to have other friends. I ended up being quite sick because of constant anxiety, but she didn't stop.\n\nEventually of course it all came out and we broke up, but had to live out the rest of our shared lease...which was not fun at all. She didn't show any remorse and continued seeing this other girl, even though she had a gf.\n\nAfter our lease ran out I moved to another country (1000 miles away) to get away and get a fresh start and began cutting her out my life.\n\nIt's been 7 months now since I saw her, and 5 months since we last had contact. But this week she sent an email saying she started counselling 3 months ago and is in a completely different place and realises how she acted like a prick and would like to talk, even if meant travelling to my country to do so.\n\nI agreed. And she's coming next weekend to talk.\n\nBut now I have no idea what to do. Can people really work past this sort of thing?", "summary": "Seeing Ex for the first time in 7 months to talk. Now confused how I feel about the situation. Would like advice/anecdotes on people who have gotten back with cheating exes."}
{"id": "t3_3qidgr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking prune juice and taking a bath", "post": "This happened yesterday evening. \n\nAfter being a bit 'backed up' for an entire week, I picked up a pack of prune juice cans to help smooth things over in the intestine department. To be honest, it's the only thing that's ever worked for my biweekly IBS-C and it works extremely well. Side note - I highly recommend it, any brand. You'll poop, alright.\n\nSo, down the hatch they went. I usually have about T-minus 60 minutes until blastoff after consuming 2 small cans, so I decided to kill some time by taking a bath (keep in mind, I do this pretty much once every two weeks, and nothing remotely bad has ever happened). After lathering up and soaking again, I felt the slightest hint of intestinal contractions and decided to let this supposed 'fart' out of the bag; this was **not** the normal *gurgle, gurgle, you're going to shit NOW* kind of sound, either. This just felt like a regular old fart, and I was only about 10 minutes into having the juice worm its way into my stomach, so there was no way I could have known what was about to happen.\n\nI'm not sure if I noticed the water turning brown or something smelling like a fresh sewer-shit first, but it suddenly dawned on me that I let a pretty sizable amount of shit out of my ass and into the very bathwater I'm laying in. So here I am, bathing in my own excrement, while trying to find out how to get past my wife so I can rinse off in the downstairs shower (my bath doesn't have a shower, and vice versa, so I can't just rinse this off and tell nobody). \n\nAfter toweling off, I ran downstairs to hit the shower and hopefully avoid any human contact, but immediately my wife confronts me and asks me what the hell happened / why I smell like pure shit. I explained quickly what happened, and got the exact response I knew I'd get: \"So now there's shit on my towel?\".\n\nAfter showering fully, I put about two scoops too many of laundry detergent on that single towel. Luckily, it's fine, but my confidence definitely went down a few notches.", "summary": "Took prune juice to try and shit, got into the bath and shit all over myself."}
{"id": "t3_50xb9v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning my stove (maybe NSFW for blood)", "post": "So this didn't happen today, but last Saturday evening. \n\nMy wife was at work, and being the good husband that I am, I decided I would be nice and wash the dishes, wipe the counters, clean the stove, etc. I was doing a pretty thorough job. I took the burners off the stove to clean them as well and without the burners in the stove, there's a large opening where hands are free to enter.\n\nAs I was cleaning the stove, my hand slips, and of course it enters the hole where the burner would usually be. My finger hits the metal part that the burner would usually be sitting in and I get a pretty wicked gash, like dripping blood on the floor. Being a stubborn man, I decide screw it, I'm just gonna wrap it in paper towel and tape it up. (I tried a band-aid but it just bled through.)\n\nI finish cleaning the stove, cook dinner for when my wife gets home, we eat, watch some TV, and by this point I think that it must have slowed down enough to just require a band aid. So I take off my makeshift bandage, and it just flows again. This time she sees it and tells me I need to go to the hospital. \n\nSo I wrap it in gauze, and we go. Nothing really exciting happens at the hospital. It was a pretty slow night, so I get in pretty quick. Nurse takes my vitals, cleans the cut, then back to the waiting room.\n\nDoctor calls me in to the minor injuries room, cleans it again, and it turns out I need stitches, and a tetanus shot since mine was out of date.", "summary": "Tried to be a good husband, ended up at the hospital needing stitches."}
{"id": "t3_xt3f4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've been texting this girl, but I've never met her in person...", "post": "So I'm about to go to college (18/m) in a few weeks. I met this girl (18/f) on the Book of Faces (Facebook, for those of you with no abstract thinking capabilities) and we got talking and eventually she gave me her number and we texted each other. We've been texting for at least a month at this point, and I really like her. I don't know why, because I've never met her in person. I'm thinking of asking her out, but of course I want to hang out with her in person first. And I'm pretty sure she likes me too. Reddit, what do I do when I first meet her to let her know I might be interested? Also what would be some fun things to text her to keep her interested in me?\n\nAdditional info: We both have a mutual friend and this friend said she'd put in a good word for me.", "summary": "Met girl on Facebook, chatted and texted, really like her, going to college, need to know what to do when I meet her there in person. Also fun things to text her."}
{"id": "t3_47n0u9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit Sesame vs Mint (powered by Equifax) for credit score?", "post": "I've been digging but it seems I can mostly only find comparisons between Credit Sesame and Credit Karma, and the general consensus seems to be that they're both FAKO. However, I can't seem to find anything that compares CS to the credit score offered by Mint/Equifax.\n\nI use both and they currently have a 128-point discrepancy. When I tried to use my free annual credit report to figure out which one was the more accurate, TransUnion decided it would be cool beans to redirect me to their website instead of showing me a score, and thus effectively preventing me from seeing a score from ANY of the three companies (since I left the site in process and it has flagged them already viewed, when I haven't actually seen any of them at all). Which is extremely aggravating in its own right. So, now I'm stuck trying to figure out which one has the better chance of being more on the money, pun intended.\n\nAnyway.", "summary": "CS vs Mint/Equifax, who is more accurate/reliable?"}
{"id": "t3_50kgxu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Why can't I find a fitness hobby?", "post": "I have been desperately looking for something that is not running or weight lifting because I just find them boring. I don't get excited about lifting big numbers or running a long distance very quickly.\n\nI tried MMA/Muay Thai/Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for a few months and just can't get into it. I thought it was because I just sucked at it (and yes I still suck at it) but I just don't enjoy it. \n\nI tried Crossfit for a few weeks and realized that I liked it even less than the MMA classes.\n\nOther things I have tried for less amount of time are rock climbing, biking, baseball, flag football, obstacle races...you get the point.\n\nSo once again I am back to picking up that heavy thing and putting it back down for how ever many reps and then running.\n\nThe", "summary": "of this is....what else is out there? Am I doomed to hate every second of trying to be more healthy?"}
{"id": "t3_mmmoa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone help me with my fear.", "post": "I have an intense, awful, pathological, crippling fear of zombies. It's really bad. It's to the point that if I merely THINK of zombies at any point during the day, there will be no sleep that night, panic attacks, etc.\n\nAnyway, ~~today~~ yesterday, in order to get over my fear, I watched the first season of The Walking Dead. By myself. In my lonely apartment. After a while of jumping at the scary parts and trying to communicate to the characters and generally flipping out, I just kind of gave up and watched the show and died a little inside. Immediately afterwards I fell asleep on my bed and had paralyzingly horrific nightmares.\n\nYou see, whenever I happen to watch a zombie film, or something of the sort, I go into survival mode. I close my blinds, check my food supply, and the idea starts creeping into my head that the zombie apocalypse has already started to happen, and I have to scroll through various news sources to make sure it hasn't. I just get really, really bad anxiety, nausea, I curl up under my covers crying, etc. It's AWFUL. \n\nI just (unsuccessfully) tried to sleep by myself. It was raining outside tonight, and I kept waking up, in hot, sticky sweat, panting, heart beating fast, and so scared to look through my blinds. I was dreaming about some of the worst stuff imaginable related to zombies. My cat had left me at some point during the night, and I was so scared of looking at my doorframe to see some sort of abomination shuffling through. Just typing this is starting to really freak me the FUCK out. I went to my roommate on the couch and kind of poked her awake. I politely asked her to sleep with me in my bed (no homo) because I was having really bad nightmares, and the son of a bitch REFUSED. \n\nYou don't understand what kind of state I am in right now. I live right next to an airport, and every plane that passes is a military aircraft that's deploying troops on the homefront or some shit. The apartment building is old, every creak is a zombie. Cat bell jingled? The zombie's got that shit. \n\nI just need help right now.", "summary": "I'm scared of motherfucking zombies, roommates a bitch, I'm freaking out, halp"}
{"id": "t3_45p2ab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my husband [32 M] martied 7 months, found out he lied to me before we got married", "post": "If you check my other post, you'll get the back story. Please read it before you judge me. But long story short, husband recently told me he will cut off a female friend that had been trying to break us from the beginning, explained in the other post.\n\nI didn't fully believe him after reading a comment on my previous post so I snooped his emails with her. I found out that in summer 2014 while I was in a different city, he went on a weekend trip with her and her male friends to a different city. As far as I remember he had told me he was going to visit his family. We had been together for a year at that point.\n\nI'm very hurt and upset. My mom tells me to let it go and move on since he recently told me he'd stop talking to her. I can't help but remember this lie each time I look at him. It's him that lied to me, not her. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of bringing it up because I found out through snooping. What should I do?", "summary": "found out through snooping that husband hid a weekend trip with female friend before marriage.  He recently said he'd cut her off. Should I keep quiet or say something? I'm pretty hurt."}
{"id": "t3_yqmp8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men of Reddit, which is better: sideboob or cleavage?", "post": "For me, depends on my intent.\n\nIf I'm just looking for a picture of something fappable, then I like sideboob. In that mindset, I'm probably viewing women as objects, and therefore am more interested in what women look like naked than what they're like holistically. A sideboob evokes a much stronger sense of a woman's nakedness than does cleavage.\n\nIf I see a woman with sideboob in real life, though, then I'm turned off because I get concerned for her, wondering whether or not she knows that she's hanging out. I see in her a lack of self-awareness -- or if she's clearly aware of the sideboob, I see her as being generally slutty. I don't find either of those attractive.\n\nIf I see a woman with cleavage, though, I imagine she's aware on some level that the cleavage visible, and she hasn't taken measures to really cover it up but has maintained enough control to not be actually exposing herself. This shows that she's aware both of her body and of her sexuality. It shows a tasteful kind of confidence that I find really attractive.", "summary": "Usually cleavage."}
{"id": "t3_eudb5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Security configuration advice is requested regarding interactions of Firefox, Reddit, Greasemonkey, RES, NoScript, MSE, Windows firewall.", "post": "I am running Firefox on Windows 7 :  Mozilla/5.0 (Windows; U; Windows NT 6.1; en-US; rv:1.9.2.13) Gecko/20101203 \n\nI normally run Firefox with Addons Adblock Plus, Java Console, and Greasemonkey/RES\n\nI use Avast! for AV, and semi-regularly scan with Adware and Spybot. Since installation, I've not caught anything more than tracking cookies.\n\nRecently, I was advised, and decided to try out, NoScript and MSE.  Since then, web pages look different (expected, I'm still learning NoScript), but even allowing everything I can't see Reddit's upvote/downvote arrow on comments and articles.\n\nQuestions:\n\n1. Obviously, I want the arrows back. How?  :-)\n2. Is what I am running stepping on each other?\n3. Am I running too much, or anything redundant? MSE vs. Avast! for example.\n4. Windows firewall should still be enabled, correct?\n5. I would appreciate any configuration advice regarding NoScript and MSE that those of you find best for normalized use.  Especially with regards to what should always be white or black listed.\n6. Was AskReddit the right place, or should I cross post this to /r/geek or something?\n\nI extend appreciation in advance for any assistance, and apologize profusely if I have done something stupidly noobish.\n\n.", "summary": "Installed NoScript and MSE on top of Firefox, lost my arrows, and need general configuration advice."}
{"id": "t3_3z2j0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) SO (23M) of 2 years is constantly late or doesn't show up at all. Causing all kinds of trouble.", "post": "I love my SO but this problem has been building up for the past 6 months and often gets in the way of how I feel about him and even how I feel about myself. This being said, it is our only problem and I am otherwise happy in the relationship. \n\nHe is always late. Not 15 minutes here or there, we're talking at least that every time we make plans or he makes plans with other people (including work). My friends have started to notice because he makes me late as well or, as the case has been before, he simply doesn't show up. He has also been in trouble at work in the past because of it. \n\n On more than one occasion he has been more than an hour late for something we have agreed to do. This would be fine if he contacted me to let me know of the change in plans but there is never anything said. It just ends up with me ringing his phone at the time we had originally agreed to meet and listening to his voicemail, repeatedly, him showing up late and me accepting it begrudgingly. It's come to the point that I expect him to be late or flake out rather than not every time. \n\nA lot of the time this is because he has fallen asleep. I feel horrible for being mad at someone for sleeping and correct me if I'm wrong, but I have never experienced this problem myself. If I have plans, say meeting someone at 8, I would make sure I was up and about or set an alarm to make sure. \n\nI have tried talking to him when he isn't late, when he is late, calmly, shouting, sobbing, reminding him of plans, but it doesn't seem to get through to him that leaving me hanging like this makes me feel unappreciated and shitty. \n\nWhat can I do to help him and/or myself here?", "summary": "My boyfriend is consistently late for everything and I need help getting through to him or getting over it."}
{"id": "t3_39fn67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m/20] found out one of my closest mates [m/19] was seeing the girl [f/18] I had a brief thing with and he knew I was in love with, and he had been trying to keep it a secret from me.", "post": "A while ago I had a brief thing with a girl at my university about whom I was head over heels. She called it off giving the usual bullshit about how she didn't want a relationship having recently come out of a three year one, \"it's me not you\", \"I would in different circumstances\"... I was devestated and refused to give it up. \n\nI trust very few people with details about my love life but this friend of mine Jack is one of them. I thought he didn't keep many secrets from me but he mentioned a couple of times about this girl that he was seeing in college. He wouldn't tell me who it was, instead saying that first I had to tell him the name of the girl I slept with that nobody knows about (I don't like telling people about that kind of thing).\n\nLast night I asked another close mate of ours who the girl was and he told me it was this girl I had been so into. Of course Jack can see whoever he wants but I am so angry that he at least didn't have the respect for me to tell me that it was happening. He actively tried to keep it a secret from me whilst everyone else knew. I would follow the rules and state the duration but I have no idea. I was left still trying to chase this girl and embarrassing myself in front of everyone.\n\nI was in such a bad way last night that the police had to come and put me under watch so that I didn't attempt to harm myself or kill myself.\n\nIs my anger justified? Is this just life and I have to move on? I don't feel like I can ever get along with him again, let alone trust him.", "summary": "One of my closest mates kept it a secret from me that he was seeing the girl that he knew I was head over heels with and  had briefly had a thing with. I feel angry and betrayed"}
{"id": "t3_2of21o", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Comcast Account Fraud", "post": "Recently, I began my services with Comcast. They asked for my social security number, which I gave. Everything was fine for a little while, but eventually, my services just turned off. I contacted them to figure out what was going on by going to one of their buildings in person. The employee working there told me that there was two accounts open with my social security number, and that my account was terminated for this reason. They also told me the name of the person who set up the account -- the name happens to be the same name as my father. They offered two options: filing for fraud or paying $1300 for his bill to reactivate my account. While it seemed kind of unfair to me to punish the customer, I dealt with it. They're a company (with pretty awful customer support at that) and they don't like being scammed. I understood this.\n\nI went down to my local police station and filed for fraud. I filled out Comcast's forms and submitted them.\n\nAfter around 2 or 3 weeks (it seriously took them this long to respond) they sent me something in the mail. Apparently I forgot to notorize one affidavit, but more importantly, they said I needed to provide evidence of residancy at the time that the other account was opened. They gave the date the other account was opened (which I'm not sure why they didn't previously provide when they wanted me to submit the forms.)\n\nSo here's the real kicker. I was 16 when the account was opened. Someone with a different name using the social of a minor opened an account.\n\nOkay, okay, maybe from the company's perspective, I'm just an awful person and a skilled scammer or whatever. But this is getting ridiculous. I'm not sure what to do because I don't know how to provide evidence of residancy when I've never recieved any bills at this time because I was a minor.", "summary": "I was 16 at the time that an account was opened with a different name and my social security number. They didn't check to see if a name matched the social security number, if the person was even 18 or not, or if there was another account with the same social when they let me make my account. I refuse to pay $1300 for someone else using my social. What should I do to get my services back (because yes, I still want services with Comcast after all of this, there's nothing else with decent internet in my area) and do you think what Comcast has done is acceptable and totally legal?"}
{"id": "t3_3n17wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] mother [50F] just tried to burn my dog.", "post": "I am still crying and in shock so if I don't make any sense then I'm sorry.\n\nJust a few minutes ago I walk out to the living room and see my mother carrying a steaming pot of hot water out of the house. I watch her through the window. She carried it out to my Shih Tzu mix and throws it on her. My dog starts going crazy and crying and running away. My mother walks inside as if nothing happened. I immediately started crying and screaming at her asking her why she did that.\n\nMy brother [20M] walks out of his rooms and after I explain the situation to him he starts screaming at me. He tells me that the dog hasn't been bathed in two weeks and me not bathing her in that amount of time is much worse than my mother throwing boiling water at her. I am in complete shock. I honestly couldn't believe what he was telling me. I haven't always been the easiest person to get along with and have trouble getting along with my family but my mother just harmed the dog. I didn't understand why he was shouting at me. He goes out to inspect the dog and sees that she's wagging her tail and insists that she's fine even though I just heard her crying out not too long ago. He tells me that she wasn't even wet and that my mom probably missed her so it's not a big deal.\n\nMy mother first tried saying that she didn't do anything but I told her I saw her do it and she changed her story and said that the water wasn't hot. I know for a fact it was. I saw her turn the stove off and carry the pot outside. I don't know what to do. I can't believe my mother did something like that and my brother immediately siding with her left me completely heartbroken. I honestly don't know what to do.", "summary": "Mother threw hot water at my dog. Brother screamed at me."}
{"id": "t3_glnin", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The wise and moral of Reddit, I caught my sister sleeping with another man.  Her boyfriend takes care of me and I live with him, what do I do?", "post": "From the beginning.\n\nI caught my sister cheating on her boyfriend.  I was up in my room playing on the computer when I heard the TV from downstairs.  It was louder than usual so I opened my door, and creeped towards the stairs.  I then began to hear some heavy breathing under the noise of the TV so I walked on the balls of my feet and peeked around the corner of the stairway and lo and behold, my sister is riding this 5 foot 6, fat, Filipino man (not that there is anything wrong being Filipino), who was a friend she had just recently met.  I had to restrain every fiber of my being from charging down those stairs and tearing that man apart, it was honestly very tough Reddit.  But I restrained myself and walked back to my room to mope.\n\nI did not confront her immediately afterward.  \n\nIt wasn't until the guy had knocked on the door about a few days later (her boyfriend just left for a trip out of state for a week) that I could not allow it to continue.  I took my sister upstairs, told her I knew and tried to press it into her mind that her boyfriend loves her very much.  He treats her great and even the house we are currently living in with him, he had bought so he could start a family with her.\n\nShe said she wouldn't do it again but also after our conversation had left to hangout with him.\n\nNow I know this sounds naive because it could be possible she is still cheating on him but she gave me her word that she would not.  I just don't know what I should do because I do have major guilt.  This guy has essentially taken care of me, he has allowed me to live with him for the past year for free and has even fed me (I have been having trouble getting a job).", "summary": "My sister cheated on her boyfriend, I caught her.  I confronted her, she said it won't happen again.  Boyfriend essentially takes care of me, gives me food and a place to stay."}
{"id": "t3_e7dnf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Your opinion on love?", "post": "I'll be honest, I'm a bit of a hopeful romantic, so I've always had the somewhat idealistic image of love \u2013 not necessarily the overly romanticized Disney-created stereotype, but just the idea that there is someone out there that just completes you, and people can live a romantic lifestyle, despite the somewhat depressing/cynical state of the world. I've just come out of a somewhat messy situation with someone that I thought (and to be honest, still think) was \"the one.\" Unfortunately, she doesn't share the same ideas, and as a result didn't think things would work out due to distance issues (colleges). Being young, and somewhat confused/hurt, I just wanted to see what the views of other, hopefully older/more experienced redditors out there felt. Don't get me wrong, this is not meant to be an advice post, I'm merely interested in opinions/experiences.", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_47meco", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my 'friend' [22 F] few weeks in andneed advice on how to be mature", "post": "okay so here we go. Im an overthinker. I know i do it and it drives me mental. The woman in question we met at xmas then spent the next 6 weeks falling crazy for each other. \n\nValentines weekend comes, a nice hotel, meal everything was perfect. the next night she bumped into her ex then told me the day after she still has feelings for him. she has been honest to me and I credit that. \n\nBasically she doesnt know what she wants and cant give me answers. I dont know whether I am coming or going. \n\nWeve spoke and she sees me as immature in a relationship sense which i accept. she has always been with older guys (4+ years above) and ive always had childish relationships with no view of a future. \n\nHow do i become more mature in a relationship sense and how do i stop driving myself mad overthinking everything.\n\nthanks !", "summary": "how to be mature and not overthink"}
{"id": "t3_u4is0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm a little sexually confused. Help?", "post": "So, first off, I'm a 13 year old dude. Yeah, yeah, I know, Reddit hates youngsters, but I'm a lurker, and I came here for help. So, I've always liked woman. But lately I've noticed that I've been getting a little more attracted to men. Like, I'll definitely notice it if a guys attractive. I sometimes go on /r/LadyBoners, and I just recently went on /r/ladybonersgw. What. The. Hell. \n\nI was raised to believe that gay people are disgusting beasts who will always burn in Hell (Christian here, shocker), but I never really took liking to the idea. Gay people are humans too, and they should have the same rights as a normal person, and I just can't stand hating a person for how they live their life. My brother, dad, and mother, however, all hate gay people. Sometimes if they see something on the internet that deals with gay people, they'll just curse them out. Which I hate, because I feel so uncomfortable, because as I said before, I really do not like hating a gay person.\n\nAnd there's the slight chance I might be gay/bi. I honestly do not get grossed out when I think of me being gay. And, also, I don't act like your regular drama queen, and skip around the room, but I act like a normal person, so it's a little hard to believe that I *might* be gay/bi. I am really confused right now, I just don't know what to do. I might be gay, but I really don't want to. Does that make sense?", "summary": "I think some dudes are attractive, and I'm starting to think I'm gay. My family hates gay people. I don't want to be gay. I have nothing against gays, I just don't want to be... I don't know why yet. Is it like, my hormones or something?"}
{"id": "t3_242lkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF of 1.5 years wants to get my name tattooed on her. It's my fault and I don't know how to convince her otherwise now. [21M]].", "post": "It is a very stupid story, but it's real, and you guys have always been awesome when it comes to solving problems in relationships. \n\nFIVE months ago me and my GF (21 and 22 years old - dating for 1.5years) were watching a romantic movie in which the girl got a tattoo of the boy's name. During that scene, I said \"Awww isn't that romantic, you should get a tattoo of my name ;)\". I of course meant it as a joke, I would never ask her or allow her to get a tattoo of my name in her own body, because what if we don't last forever?. \n\nHowever, since that day she became quite \"obsessed/excited\" for it. She always brought it up and I've been able to delay it for months. However, she told me she has gotten an appointment for next month. \n\nVery important - She is not crazy, or very clingy. She is instead a very, very nice, romantic, innocent and naive person, which is one of the things I love the most about her (Not in a bad way, of course). She loves me so much that she would do anything for me (I really don't wanna sound self-entitled :( - I would do anything for her too). \n\nProblem: After seeing her so excited and so happy about it, it breaks my heart to tell her that she shouldn't. I don't know how to tell her to not do it without implying that one day we might break up. I'm her first real boyfriend and she is very traditional. I really don't want to hurt her in anyway and I plan on being together forever, but I am rational, and we never know, so I really worry about her getting a tattoo of my name. \n\nThe situation is like as if you asked your fianc\u00e9 about a prenup. How do you do that without implying you might break up someday and that it is for the better of both?", "summary": "GF wants to get a tattoo of my name because she wants to give me the world (her first serious relationship) and despite I plan on being with her forever. I don't want her to do it as I don't want her to regret it if we break up. I don't know how to tell her not to do it without implying that we might break up some day (Reminds me of asking your fianc\u00e9 about a Pre-nup hehe)."}
{"id": "t3_13sf0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf[19] smokes and I[17] don't like it", "post": "So here's the situation. My now 19 year old girlfriend (birthday was last week) and I (17 and 18 in may) have been dating for almost ten months. I love this girl to bits. She supports me in all of my goals, is always there for me when I'm down, is a romantic, compassionate, funny, kind, beautiful girl. I am seriously in love with this girl. We even plan on moving in together with some friends this June. We've hardly ever fought and we always solve things peacefully, but there's an issue that I now can't even figure out how to solve. So, naturally, I come to reddit. \n\nMy girlfriend smokes cigarettes. I think its been a couple months since she started on a semi regular basis. I do not like this. I think its a destructive and gross habit. (To any smokers here, no disrespect, smoking doesn't make you any different than you are and i don't have any problems with you, i do not mean to offend) She's been having a really tough time lately and she's been extremely stressed so i understand why she does and I've been doing everything I can to help and be there for her, but she still smokes. \n\nShe knows how I feel about it and we've talked about it a few times and I tell her that I just worry because I don't want to see her suffer through an addiction or through any negative health side effects, but she never says anything about quitting or makes any attempt to let me know she plans on quitting. I feel like a terrible boyfriend for being so against it, but I just can't change the way i feel about it. She never does it around me and, and she never smells like it (yet), and that used to be enough but now just knowing she still does is starting to irritate me and sometimes makes me mad. What should I do? I'm at a total loss as to where to go from here, and i am scared of the effects this problem may have on our relationship.", "summary": "I love my grilfriend with all my heart and our relationship is awesome! I wouldn't trade it for a thing in the world. But she smokes cigs and I hate that and she shows no signs of stopping and I am terrified of the potential effects it may have on our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_29169o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (23,F) is mad at me (24,M) for wanting to go to a family event with her?", "post": "So my girlfriend's aunt has this party thing coming up in a couple months she told me about a while ago. She said I could come if I wanted, but stressed I didn't have to. I genuinely wanted to go because I knew it would make her happy to have me there. Since I have a bunch of friends in the city that the event is near, I figured it would be the perfect weekend to go see them as well as attend the party.\n\nThe location recently changed to a city about two hours away from where it was originally thought to be. Since I already told my friends I would see them that weekend, I hatched this new plan of going to see my friends on Friday and then hopping a bus to the city where the party is on Saturday, since my girlfriend won't be there until then anyway. I thought this was a no-brainer great solution, when I told her she seemed mad. She said \"I'm just confused, it seemed like you originally didn't even want to go. All that traveling seems like a waste of money, it makes more sense just to stay with your friends.\" Now she just seems bitter and weird about it. So where did I go wrong? What does she actually want me to do?", "summary": "Trying to juggle seeing my friends and attending girlfriend's aunt's party, she is upset at my decision to do both."}
{"id": "t3_3xedcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/M] with my gf [24/F] she doesn't want to go out anymore due to her fear in ISIS and mass shootings.", "post": "I've been going out with my girlfriend, Paula, for 2 years. It's been a fantastic relationship so far and I do see myself marrying her. She has depression and anxiety, which she is taking meds for. \n\nShe is doing a lot better, but one thing that never went away is her slight paranoia. It's nothing serious but her fear of things has always gotten in the way of her enjoying life to the fullest. Because of what's happening in the world with ISIS and mass shootings, she hasn't been wanting to go anywhere except home. We're supposed to see Star Wars tonight, but now she doesn't want to go since it's in a movie theater. We have a big vacation planned for Europe and now she's expressing hestitations because they could be anywhere. I understand that it's a very scary thing, but I always felt that this is exactly what ISIS wants and you shouldn't live your life inside of a bubble. I keep trying to tell her this, but she bursts into tears everytime saying that she's just looking out for us.\n\nIs there anything I can do to help her see that it's not okay to live like this?", "summary": "GF won't go anywhere or do anything anymore because of her fear of ISIS and mass shootings"}
{"id": "t3_1vvjc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M atheist] and my ex-GF [25 F very religious] were together for 1.5 years but recently broke up.", "post": "My GF is very religious. I am an atheist. So, she can't marry me because of religious reasons although both of us are dying to. I have tried reading religious stuff in hopes that i would see some light or stuff and convert back but it isn't going to happen. She never forced me to convert. \n\nNow her parents have found a guy for her and she has no option but to submit to her parent's will (part of culture) and she is engaged to another guy but won't be married for about 6 months. So, we stopped talking very unwillingly.\n\nI want her to talk to someone about her problems but she won't because that is part of her personality. She used to talk to me only about her problems. I want to be there for her so that she doesn't keep dying inside alone. Plus, i feel guilty that i can talk to people here and around but she won't. \n\nWhat should i do? should i leave her alone and let her cope with it on her own? I really want to lessen her pain. Would me talking to her just hurt her more?", "summary": "don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_d173k", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Running at night?", "post": "I'm a network admin.. ( IT guy ). I vary rarely get home at a decent enough hour to run in the evening as a lot of IT work we do has to be done after hours, which puts me home sometimes as late as 830 ( Start at 6AM ). I find my self wanting to go for a run, but am a little leary at running at night. We don't live in the BEST neighborhood, but the main part of my run is in an older spanish style set neighborhood with lots of BMW's and nice family homes.. that part is a decent part. Any advice for running at night besides the obvious, don't get hit.. its dark and cars dont see you.", "summary": "Kinda live in the ghetto, want to run at night."}
{"id": "t3_2ozudg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/m] going crazy over confused [20/f] for unknown reasons.", "post": "Being a person who likes to think, I find it's difficult for me to get past experiences without knowledge of the whole picture.\n\nThese past few weeks I've been talking to this girl and fallen entirely head over heels for her. Things were going great, we were hanging out all the time and had an awesome time. The last week I noticed she'd been acting strange and when confronted she told me she was scared of liking me more than she already does.\n\nRight when this happened she started avoiding me, to the point where she's refused to talk to me on the phone for a few minutes about it. Last night I sent her a long and well thought out text about how I feel and that I think it's better if she doesn't respond to my text so I can just move on. Naturally, she responded. She seemed to be freaking out a little bit with her confusion and at the end of the conversation agree'd to give me a 5 minute phone call when she got home. I was relieved, but once again I never got a phone call.\n\nThis is driving me crazy because I know she likes me, and I like her more than I should. If I just decide to stop talking to her, she will talk to me after a few days. If I tell her I'm over she will reel me back in. If I try to talk to her about it she'll stop responding. I won't be able to get over this until I get \"closure\" I guess. What do I do to get over this anxiety so that I can either move forward with her or move on and continue with my life?", "summary": "I fell head over heels for a girl who likes me. She is confused and scared of falling any more for me. She is avoiding me and I don't know how to continue without closure (especially since I know she likes me and will reel me back in regardless of what I do)."}
{"id": "t3_3kt9tc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my Ex-GF [20 F] 4 Years together and its finally over - Not handling it very well really need some body to talk to.", "post": "We had been together for 4 years and I was planning on Proposing to her. I have recently moved to another part of the country for placement year at university and between myself and her going to work daily we barely spoke to each other which has caused a divide between us. She then started speaking to another person, they started spending a lot of time together and I am sure hes another part of the reason we have broke up. \n\nI really not taking it well I have nobody here to talk to, I feel incredibly lonely which I have never felt before and its killing me. I just want to be back with her in my home town with my friends and family.", "summary": "Finally broke up and I'm not handling it well at all need advice on how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_oyj7k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever watched a movie and right after you've finished it you felt like a character from the movie?", "post": "Name a movie that has given you this feeling.\nI know when I was younger I always felt like I was Spiderman after watching him zip from building to building and spitting webs from his wrist. Yet, the fact that he was bitten by a spider has never made me want to become him.\nAlso when I watch Fast and the Furious (any of them) I always feel like no matter what car I drive that it is meant to be driven like a Tuner from the movie. There for I always want to race because I know I am driving a \"10 second car.\"", "summary": "Tell me what movies make you feel like that certain character from the movie."}
{"id": "t3_4g5zrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it appropriate to breakup through a letter?", "post": "I apologise in advance if this is in the wrong subreddit.\n\nGirlfriend (18f) of a year broke up with me (22m) through a letter listing the reasons that we were incompatible. I called her, but gained no response, and left a voicemail saying that I understood the grounds for breaking up. She texted back saying she was glad that I was ok with it and I responded accordingly suggesting that this was the right decision.\n\nI was fine after that for two days, but after further processing, I realised that it was quite an impersonal and convenient way to finish something so intimate. Never would've expected something like this from her, so I decided to write a letter back just stating that I understood the reasons for the breakup, but wished to finish things reasonably and respectfully in person, even setting up a date and time. This form of communication (letter) is very one sided and only allowed her to express her view on the relationship, while not hearing my side.\n\nShe responded along the lines of \"I'm sorry you feel like that, but there is nothing more to talk about\". Needless to say, this response, coupled with the manner she broke up, has evaporated any inclination on my part to meet up and settle it on neutral terms. I have not responded to that message and don't plan on contacting, nor pursuing her.\n\nA part of me understands that being emotionally distanced from such an issue can allow you to collect you thoughts and provide a well-thought reason for the breakup, but the other part believes that as the person initiating the breakup, you owe it to the other person to finish it correctly since the breakee hasn't been thinking about breaking up and this appears out of nowhere.\n\nThere is no clause in life that relationships need to finish the 'right' way, so I may be unreasonable. Still, the last memory of this relationship isn't the great times we had, but of the disappointing way it ended.\n\nSo Reddit, can this be justified? Did I overreact with sending a letter back?", "summary": "Girlfriend of a year breaks up with me through a letter. I find this a proper way to resign from a job, not a romantic relationship, so I send a letter asking to meet with me so we can finish it respectfully. Responds with \"Sorry you feel like that, but there is nothing to talk about\". Stopped contacting/pursuing. Breakup letter justifiable? Was it inappropriate to send a letter back?"}
{"id": "t3_jel24", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I the only one who has no problem with others cheating (in school)?", "post": "As long as it doesn't hurt me/others of course.\n\nReading Reddit's reactions to that girl ([you know which one I'm talking about] got me thinking.\n\nFor example homework. If someone asks to see the problems I solved last night of course I'll show them. I won't gain anything by being a dick. I won't get those hours back anyhow either so why would I want to make someone else suffer?\n\ninb4 \"but they won't learn\". Well that's not really my call to make. If someone wants to just copy my answers they've obviously made their choice and who am I to question it. Anyway I doubt he'd start regretting his ways and make a change in life like in pg13 TV movies.\n\noh and \"it's not fair\" Well life's not fair. Besides I'm the only \"victim\" here and I don't even feel like I'm being victimized so why do some people get it in their head that it's their place to start tattling.", "summary": "stop being an asshole, one day someone might return the favor"}
{"id": "t3_sehm5", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "I might have found my ultimate motivation, however I'm not sure it could ever be done on a predictable basis. Maybe the wolves can help me?", "post": "**Basically it comes down to me being a very stubborn person.** \n\nIf someone doesn't believe in me, I'd do everything to be able to say *\"I told you so\"* right in front of them. \n\n I haven't run for about half a year, but yesterday I jokingly said to someone \"I'm gonna start running again tomorrow\" and she just laughed out loud. Now I'm lying here in my robe after showering off all the sweat from the run. Also, my boss believed that I couldn't finish this application within this week. It's Tuesday, and I'm done already. \n\nWhen I think back, this happens all the time. however once I've proved them wrong, I don't go out of my way to keep it up, because I get the sense of accomplishment. \n\nI'm already getting some nice daily habits making a relatively productive person compared to myself a year ago, however this trick really shoots me through the roof. \n\n**The point/", "summary": "Is there any way to get the feeling of someone not believing in me, causing me to do everything to prove them wrong, without making it seem artificial?"}
{"id": "t3_4630pa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] mum [61] is overbearing. I got my nose pierced last week, and she's going to be mad and I'm scared.", "post": "First ever post, meep. Sorry if this may seem more relevant to /r/piercings but the affect on the relationships with my parents concerns me more than the piercing itself!\n\nI've wanted piercings since I was 16 and as my parents wished, I waited until I'd finished high school, university and my masters degree before I got any. I'm now doing a PhD, and in the past year I got a number of piercings on my ears. Last week I got my nose pierced. I'm seeing my parents tonight.\n\nMy mum has always been overbearing and she gets obsessive over things that really don't matter. We don't have the best of relationships at all anyway but she sees piercings as a hindrance to my job prospects, yet I'm in a field at the moment that doesn't care and I'm happy to remove them if needs be. Basically she doesn't like them, so she feels I'm not allowed to either.\n\nI'm going to be bridesmaid at my cousin's wedding in a month and I intend to take it out for the day. My cousin is happy for me to have piercings, multicoloured hair, whatever! But I know my mum and my auntie (cousin's mum) will want it removed for the day so that's what I'm going to do out of respect for them. \n\nI told my dad I was thinking of getting my nose pierced a few weeks ago and he said \"I'm not going to lie, I don't like them, but it's your face, whatever.\"\n\nI'm just terrified right now of what my mum is going to say and would appreciate some rationale if possible.", "summary": "My mum is overbearing about a nose piercing despite me being reasonable and waiting until I'm an adult. How can I help her see this?"}
{"id": "t3_1eqz5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Last night I(22M) let slip to a friend(20F) that I have feelings for her.. How can I repair this?", "post": "For the rules; Me(22/M), her (20/F), length of friendship (~6 months)\n--------------\n\nSo basically last night I(22M) was talking to my friend(20F) and we got on to the topic of who I'm interested in..\n\nWell after a couple of hours of me trying to change the topic and her insisting I tell her, I accidentally slipped up and said something which led to me admitting I had feelings for her.. It didn't quite go the way I had hoped :/\n\nSo it turns out she's seeing someone and she only sees me as a friend, which I'm actually ok with.. It takes boths sides to make something.. The part that's hitting me the hardest is that last time I told a girl I liked her she flat out stopped talking to me and that's the last thing I want to happen here since this girl is a great friend and a lot of fun to hang out with.\n\nSo what I'm trying to ask is, is there anything I can do or say to her to repair this because right now I'm freaking out that I'm about to lose another friend... :(\n\nCan I say something like \"Can we just pretend last nights conversation just didn't happen?\" or is that not recommenced?", "summary": "I'm an idiot and told a friend that I had feelings for her... Help?"}
{"id": "t3_50dpbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Some of my [23 M] friends [23 M] are toxic, but others are not.", "post": "Hi.\n\nI been feeling very bad about my circle of friends of lately. We are a group of seven. Four of them are veeery fond of teasing people, meaning chastising them for every little social faux pas or every mistake. The other three, which includes myself, are not so ready to jump at every opportunity to insult and ridicule others. But, here's my problem, those jokes and taunts seem to affect me much more than the rest of people.\n\nSometimes I feel like they are especially cruel on me, and that I am the butt of all jokes, but I really don't know to which extent is that true. After all I have a relatively strong case of social anxiety, and I feel like virtually everyone takes me for a fool. \n\nBe it true or not it still hurts me to no end. Most times the things they pick on are very menial, but over time they kinda stack up, and I'm fed with them. Even if I am making it up and they behave no differently with me than with anyone else they are still being effectively toxic for me.\n\nI know the healthiest things for me would be to just stop hanging out with them, but they're still my friends. I still have fun with them, and I would also be losing my non-toxic friends. Not to say anything about how hard it is for me to get friends.\n\nWhat can I do to get a thicker skin so that can keep up with them?", "summary": "Friends are toxic, but I may be making it up."}
{"id": "t3_ffew8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best friend's wife is taking advantage of him, ruining his life, and I'm afraid to get involved.  Help.", "post": "My closest friend has been married for a year and a half now to a woman who completely walks all over him and doesn't bring a single good thing to the table.  She has gotten worse and worse over the last year, and currently makes him do all the household work (cleaning, cooking, fixing things, snow removal, dishes, laundry, etc).  I just found out last night that she is now quitting her job with no prospects for a new one.  He works full time, somewhat manual labor, in a high stress position.  The job she left was at a bookstore, and she quit because it was too hard and she \"didn't like it\".  She also has a new (gas guzzling) car that they make payments on, while he drives an old beater because they cannot afford anything more.  She is constantly telling him he can't buy things like a certain grocery item he wants because it's \"too expensive\", while she goes and buys designer clothing at the mall often.  The worst part is that she is a massive \"feminist\" (read: hypocrite) and feels as if she is entitled to an easy life and should be taken care of.  She also treats him like shit on a daily basis and is not afraid to order him around and berate him, even right in front of me.  The final straws for me have been his recent need to start taking anti-depression meds, and her deciding to quit her job.  He is absolutely blind to how bad the situation is (or possibly in denial), and anytime I mention something about it, he gets very defensive and sticks up for everything she does. We spend a ton of time together and have been friends for 15 years, but I'm afraid he will completely close off to me if I sit him down and tell him everything I see and explain how badly he is being treated.  I really do not want to lose his friendship, as it means the world to me, but I feel so horrible letting her treat him like this without trying to change the situation.  Reddit, what do you think I should do?", "summary": "Best friend is completely taken advantage of and having his life ruined by his selfish wife, and I'm afraid he'll side with her and I'll lose his friendship if I try to confront him to help the situation."}
{"id": "t3_3oy86u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What will my [24M] relation be to my mother's [50F] soon to be child be [0 M or F].", "post": "It sounds simple enough but it really isn't. I'll try to be brief. My uncle's girlfriend is going to be having a baby soon, and they aren't sure if it's his or not. Either way they can't afford to having another kid, so they asked my mother if she'd adopt him/her. She and her husband (my step dad not biological father) agreed. Which is great and we're all incredibly happy if it all works out!\n\nNow my question is what exactly will my relation to this kid be? If my uncle is the dad that makes him/her my biological cousin. If not then biologically I'm not related to this kid at all. So then the kid will be adopted by my mother and step dad, making the kid either my half brother or sister, but also my cousin maybe...?\nBut either way he or she will be my adopted half brother or sister but also my cousin? But adopted and potentially biological?  And isn't half brother or sister sharing one biological parent?\n\nI'm fairly confused. I'm just interested in know what exactly this kid's relation to me will be.  Plus I have a fascination with complicated family ties.", "summary": "Mother is adopting my uncle's kid who may or may not be his and I'm confused as to what the official relation to this child I will have."}
{"id": "t3_34gvlf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my GF [17 F] 2.5 years, have been going through a rough spot and feels like the end is near", "post": "So reddit IDK what to do!!! I know we're young but we practically live together we've basically raised a dog together (her dog but I played an essential role) My girlfriend and i have gone through a rough spot, for the past month and a bit\n\nI feel like shes being extremely clingy\n\nwhere as she thinks i'm ignoring her \n\nit started about money, how all the things she wants to do costs money every single day, we are starting to realize we don't have a whole lot in common/ different views (because of things we use to do i don't have the money for because she wouldn't pay).\n\nbut to get to 'the meat' of this post i feel like the end is near because I get so bored when we hangout due to having nothing in common but I don't know if i could break up with her, she would be devastated (especially with finals coming  up for HS and prom following after) and i don't even know if i could lose the companionship, and what my family would think because of the relationships they've built with her! \n\nreddit have you guys/gals been in this situation??\n\nsorry if its a bit rambly", "summary": "different views, but dont know if we're both ready to break up"}
{"id": "t3_2szak7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] girlfriend [21 F] of a few months is graduating from college in May and a breakup seems imminent. Need advice.", "post": "I met my girlfriend in September and we started dating in October. Things have been amazing this far and I can't see them going south in the next few months. I'm graduating next December, so I'll be here for a few extra months after she leaves. \n\nI've been in a couple long-term relationships of over a year and I've never felt this strongly about anyone before. We've both gotten emotional lately when the subject of breaking up in May has come up. She's going into a pretty competitive industry and likely won't stay in the immediate area where we attend University. I don't plan on staying around here after I graduate, either. \n\nShe's kind of randomly brought up long-distance relationship videos when we hang out but then she says that she wouldn't be able to do it (which is understandable). On the other hand, for me, long-distance would suck, but at this point I'm willing to do literally anything to keep this relationship, which scares me a little when I consider we've only known each other a few months. \n\nI guess I'm just looking for some advice, any advice for my situation. I'll do anything to stay with her. At the same time, I have to let her do her own thing and refrain from holding her back. There's still a significant amount of time and I need to figure this out. I'm so conflicted and I know that she is, too.", "summary": "College relationship may have to end in May. I don't want it to. Experiences? Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2lnhzy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by evacuating a psych ward", "post": "Today (a few weeks a go) I was a patient in a small open psych ward. It was Sunday, the one day a week that we were allowed to sleep in past 7:30 am, and I had to get early up to play in a gig. \n\nSo my alarm goes off at 6:50 am, and I get up to make some breakfast. I put my bread in the toaster and put the kettle on, get the milk out and all that, but I realise I forgot to grab my own tea bags an mug I brought with me, so I go back to my room to grab them. I'm walking back to the kitchen when these red lights start flashing, and sirens, and a really weird voiceover saying 'evacuate, evacuate'. \n\nSo staff are pouring out of their hidey holes and making sure everyone is getting out of bed, and all of a sudden there's a small army of very tired, very angry psychologically damaged/frail youths. I rush into the kitchen to discover that my toast hadn't burnt but was smoking a little bit. I eject the toast to find that it isn't even toast yet.\n\nEveryone is rushed outside while staff do mandatory room checks. The fucking fire brigade show up. I'm crying, there's an army of youths whose sleep in I stole, and staff are laughing at me and trying to explain to the fireys that we don't need them. Apparently after the same thing had happened a few months back, they had decided to re-jig the alarm to stop it from happening again and fucking didn't.\n\nI got to the gig, but when I went back, everyone was angry at me, except for the few friends I had made on the inside.", "summary": "I ruined the once a week sleep in from my fellow psych ward inhabitants by trying to make toast and setting off the fire alarm at 7 am."}
{"id": "t3_28ywwd", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I can't believe it took me 23 years to read The Count of Monte Cristo!", "post": "I'm a big fan of classics, so when I found out my wife's favorite book ever was The Count of Monte Cristo, I was intrigued as to why. Of course I had heard of it before back in literature class in high school, but I never had been motivated to pick it up and read it. I guess I thought I'd be missing out on several books by reading this one instead since, unabridged, it clocks in at over 1200 pages. Let me just say, I am so glad I finally worked up the courage to start, because, once I did, I couldn't put it down. I was dead to the rest of the world. The story is absolutely beautiful, and I really feel like Edmond Dantes exemplified a great literary hero we can all appreciate. Also, I have really enjoyed getting to know my wife better by reading and loving her favorite book. I don't mean to ramble, but after finishing The Count, I felt impelled to post to encourage anyone out there to pick it up and read it. It might seem like you aren't getting anywhere at first, and even in the middle, but the plot will unfold beautifully and you will be left extremely satisfied, and probably sad the story is only 1200 pages. You will not be disappointed!\n\nWAIT AND HOPE!", "summary": "The Count of Monte Cristo is one of my new favorite books of all time, and I wish I had read it sooner. Don't ever be intimidated by a book's length. You may be really missing out on something great!"}
{"id": "t3_17csc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (26) moving in with me (20f) for convenience?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost 2 years now, been dating for almost 3 months of that time.\n\nHis truck just broke down and he can't afford a new one, so he's been bicycling to his current job. He was just offered a better job that is only a couple miles from my place, but way too far for him to bike to from his house (25-30 miles).\n\nI told him he could just crash at my place to get to his new job, but he said he might as well just live with me full time because it made no sense to pay rent at his place and only be there a couple days a week. I totally agree with that. He also said he didn't want to invade my personal space or be a nuissance and would only move in if I was 100% sure about it. \n\nI'd love to be able to spend more time with him that living together would allow because right now we both work 60 hour weeks and it's hard to find time to do anything but fall asleep together watching a movie. And I do see myself with him in the long run, although I wouldn't say I love him yet.\n\nMy concern is that it's too much, too soon. I don't want to ruin the mystery, get too comfortable, wear each other out, or rush things in any way that could put a damper on the relationship. \n\nAnybody have advice or personal stories about living with an SO? Too soon or otherwise.\n\nI should mention that we're having a sit down talk about it tomorrow, I just really need to discuss it a little beforehand to get my thoughts straight.", "summary": "Boyfriend (26) and I (20f) have known each other for 2 years, been together for 3 months. Is it a terrible idea to move in together in order for him to take a better job?"}
{"id": "t3_240urg", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "The feel-good petty revenge", "post": "My SO and I were waiting to pull into a parking spot, left turn blinker on to indicate our intent. A car comes from nowhere and pulls straight into the spot as the leaving patron turns to drive away.  What can we do? We drive a few rows over and park. We see a woman, a man, and a small girl-child hurry to get in front of us for seating at the restaurant. My SO  and I wait for a table to open up, a bit livid that not only was this person dishonest about taking our spot, but now her party would be seated before us. \n\nLo and behold, two seats at the bar open. I hope they saw that not only are we going to be enjoying adult beverages, but now we are sitting before them and THEY HAVE TO WATCH. \n\nI got a bit sauced and a delicious petty revenge was hatched. With the help of the bartender, informed of the parking fiasco, we decided to send a small dessert to the girl-child, and ONLY the girl-child, not the table. I like to think of it as a no-win scenario for them: unfairness if the adults partook, but helping her to be a bit of a handful.", "summary": "turn that frown upside down with sugar!"}
{"id": "t3_1admnm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tips/Advice on overcoming emotional eating addiction?", "post": "Hi reddit,\n\nLong time lurker, first time poster.  I'm a 22 yr old female, 5'8\" and 235 lbs.  All of your stories are so inspirational, and because of you all I've begun tracking my food on my fitness pal.  I still need help overcoming emotional eating.  I typical eat out of boredom, not anger or sadness.  I have a hard time motivating myself to work out, but I do enjoy dancing and running on occasion.  I know it sounds like I'm just lazy, but this has been a battle I've been fighting for almost ten years.  \nHave any of you been in a similar situation, and do you have tips on finding better ways to waste time than shoving food in your mouth?  Anything would be much appreciated, I'm feeling a tad hopeless at the moment.", "summary": "I eat out of boredom, and I can't stop.  How did you break this habit?"}
{"id": "t3_2e3ca0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(19m) and my gf(9f) decided to end our 2 year long distance relationship because we were sad. Story below", "post": "Dear reddit, I really need to get this out of my chest.\nWell, in high school I (today 19m) started to see my bestfriend (today 19f) differently, and discovered she was actually a wonderful girl, so we fell in love with each other, dated and had a perfect relationship of 2 years. \n\nAt the end of high school, I decided that I was going to undergraduate in a course that doesnt exist in my city, so I had to move and we decided to keep togheter and start a long distance relationship.\n\nI used to visit her twice a month, she couldnt visit me because she studies in a  very hard university and has classes even on saturday.\n\nAfter 6 months in a long distance relationship, we started to notice that there was too much suffering, and I started to have financial problems and couldn't afford the tickets to go see her.\n\nWe decided to break up and be just friends, I know its very hard, but not impossible. She is a wonderful girl, very supportive and gives the best advices Ive ever heard! I cant let her disappear of my life.\n\nThe problem is, after 2 weeks we broke up, she doesn't respond my texts, she said she likes me very much and dont think will fall in love with anyone as she fell wjth me, and I dont see how we can maintain a friendship with her attitude(not responding texts).\nI am still in love with her!\n\nOther thing is that I am not really liking my course, and really want to do other course back in my town, but that only will be possible in the begining of 2015.\n\nSo, people of reddit, do you think we can stay friends? Do you think we can get back togheter if I go back to my town? Do have any advice or coments to do?\n\nThanks in advance!! :)", "summary": "Me(19m) and my ex- gf(19f) ended our relationship, because long distance wasnt working. We still like each other. Can we be friends or get back togheter in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_1pcczp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24/F) think I need to sever ties with my sister(26/F). Any advice is appreciated.", "post": "I am a 24/F, my sister is 26/F. Here is a small background on our relationship:\nOur entire lives we have fought. When we were younger it was fist fighting and as we got older it became more verbal. My sister is very manipulative, my parent even admit it. They have said, \"We don't know where we went wrong raising your sister.\" Regardless, they love her and deal with her shenanigans; mostly they because they usually aren't directed at them. Things in our relationship came to a head about a year ago and we had what I call a \"come to Jesus meeting.\" We said our issues, spoke our piece and agreed we wanted a relationship with each other and we would try to get to know each other on the adult level and have a clean slate in regards to our relationship. Since then, she hasn't changed. She uses my strong relationship and feelings of obligation towards my parents as leverage to try to manipulate me. She has hacked my email, puts her friends before me, talks trash about my husband and kicks me when I am down. She is constantly trying to find ways to be superior to me. The events that have happened recently are the straws that have broken the camels back. I feel I should sever ties because this relationship is no healthy and I don't deserve to be treated this way. My parents and my sister always expect I will just get over her drama, but I no longer wish to feed into the cycle. Severing ties will alienate me from my niece and nephew and will upset my parents, but I don't know what else to do. I have debated talking to a family counselor for suggestions. Any input or advice, especially from people who have dysfunctional sibling relationships would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My sister is a narcissist and treats me and our relationship like crap. I want to sever ties with her, but it will alienate me from her kids and will upset my parents."}
{"id": "t3_39zx4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have decided to stay and work abroad long term, but am not sure how to break it to my parents [50sM/F]", "post": "Two weeks ago, I flew from north eastern America to southern Australia to spend a month with my boyfriend and his family. Everything here has been going really well and I'm really liking Australia. I want to get a work permit and stay here longer.\n\nHowever, I'm not really sure how to tactfully tell this to my parents. They've always been overprotective. For example, they felt uncomfortable about me walking down my own street when I was 20 years old and I only was able to by basically telling them \"I'm 20 and I'm going to do it\" when I decided to walk home one night. So telling them that I plan to stay abroad on another continent is going to be difficult. I know I could just be blunt, but I'd like to explain it to them in a way that they will feel as least anxious/upset as possible.", "summary": "Planning to stay on a completely different continent long term with my boyfriend and don't know how to best tell my overprotective parents this"}
{"id": "t3_3s0cjs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] In love with my good friend [20 F] of four years, feeling have persisted for 2 years. Want to tell her, not in hopes of a relationship but for my sake of mind. How to Proceed?", "post": "Hey guys! \n\nthis is the age old question, I'm in love with a good friend. Met in high school, had a crush on her but I wasn't confident enough at the time due to personal self-esteem issues and never spilled the beans. \n\n2 years later, feelings still persist and now that I've had a chance to work through my issues some of that confident has been regained and now it's constantly nagging me that I haven't told her how I feel. \n\nI don't expect her to feel the same way about me, at this point I want to tell her just so it's out in the open and I can get some peace of mind. \n\nThe problem is that during the four years we've been friends, we've become pretty close and I'm scared of losing the friendship and of making her feel like the past 3 years of friendship have been me trying to get in a relationship with her, which they haven't. Her friendship has been an honest and delightful one. \n\n She honestly makes me happy, we have similar senses of humor, she's one of the smartest and most beautiful people I know. but I think the friendship is ultimately more important than any other feelings I have for her but I don't know how to convey that without sounding like I'm making excuses for myself and undermining the last three years. \n\nLike I said, I'm not expecting a relationship. Just because my eyes light up because of her doesn't mean hers will do the same because of me. \n\nSorry for such a classic and probably over-asked question.", "summary": "In love with best friend of 4 years, want to preserve the friendship but have the constant nagging sensation that I should tell her I've been crushing on her for a while. Scared, a bit sad and overwhelmed. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2rxwah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18m) with the friend (17f) of my \"ex\" so to speak. We are pretty into each other, I need an opinion from some on that isn't a horny teenage boy. (My friends, 18m)", "post": "First of all, thank you for anyone who takes the time to read this and help me with my life a bit. \n\nThe breakdown: I hung out in a romantic context with a girl (17f) around 5 times, we kissed occasionally, nothing more. I'll call her Clara. Clara just got out of a 3 year relationship and told me she wasn't ready to do it again so she ended things. I found out that the real reason is so she can sext other guys with impunity. That sucks and she shouldn't have lied but still totally her decision. There's a lot of other reasons, but long story short, I'm not going to pursue that relationship any further and it kind of just started out of nowhere to begin with. This was 2 months ago.\n\nHowever, her best friend (17f) and I get along really well. I'll call her Grace. Long story short again, I feel great around Grace and things just seems to work between us. Shes honestly just a wonderful human being in general. It's obvious we both really like each other.\n\nThe issue: I want to have a relationship with Grace, but due to this history between Clara and I it seems like I should get another perspective before moving forward. Is it fair, reasonable and acceptable for Grace or myself to pursue a relationship with one another? I don't want to ruin their friendship but I do really like this girl.\n\nIn a properly functioning society the decision might be obvious. But keep in mind, this is high school, and Clara is a very competitive and jealous person that thrives on attention. The relationship that she fostered between was narcissistic in nature and based purely on the fact that she wanted a handsome and successful trophy in her life. I don't believe she is evil, she definitely has her good qualities, but I felt it was important to not overlook her negative ones, especially in this circumstance.", "summary": "I don't know how women think. I want to date the best friend of a girl I was recently romantic with but don't want to ruin everyone's lives and friendship."}
{"id": "t3_1fq1hr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (M22) never tells me (F27) the whole story.", "post": "We've been going out for 5 months. Everything is great but there's something he continually does that bothers me: he'll start saying something, make me really curious, and never actually finish whatever he was saying and leaves me without an answer. For instance, he'll be telling me about his day and suddenly go \"..and then this bad thing happened, but nvm, so after that I had lunch with...\". If I ask him what happened, he won't tell me. Another example is, he'll say something about him, and when I ask him why he thinks he's like that, he'll say \"I'll tell you later\". When the moment comes, I ask him again but he says he forgot or \"nvm\" or change the subject. He also replies to a lot of \"yes/no\" questions with a \"Maybe...\"\nHe does this at least once a day. It might not seem a big deal, but it's extremely frustrating for me. \nI've told him that it bothers me but he's very evasive, I'm not sure if he even realizes he does this or he actually gets a kick out of it. \nI've tried not going along with it, but it doesn't work. Sometimes some things he says are not really important, and I'll let go. But some others I'd really like to know why he says it or what he's talking about. So last night he did it again, and we had a fight.\nAm I overreacting? This honestly hasn't started *really* bothering until just a few ago. I'm really not going into specifics because I'm pretty sure he's a redditor. How should I deal with this?", "summary": "! Boyfriend is never clear about what he says, replies to a lot of questions with \"maybe\" and I believe he's playing head games. Not sure if he even realizes what he's doing. I finally got mad at him, am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_i0tbz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just Fought with My Parents. Going to LA.", "post": "I just got in a big fight with my parents not 45 min ago. I have been home from college for less than a month now and I can't stand it. It's just constant fucking bickering and arguing around every corner, everyday. I don't even know how I used to live here. Anyway, as I am looking for the cheapest flights to LAX, I start to fill with guilt. Is this not a bit childish, to run away from your problems? I know if I live here any longer, this summer is going to end badly for everyone. Fuck being childish, I'm leaving. If anyone can find me a flight from New York to LAX in the next week for cheap, help a brother out.", "summary": "Fought with my parents. Flying off to LA. *Feeling Guilty*"}
{"id": "t3_2aimyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my BF [21 M] 1.7 years, found out he left me for another girl and was publicaly dating her 2 days after our breakup.", "post": "we had a great relationship and the breakup was out of nowhere. Just before the breakup he took me out  on a nice date and bought me flowers.\n\nFast forward a little bit and he sends me text saying we need to talk and i'm going to hate him. He tells me he doesnt know what he wants in a relationship and wants to figure out what he wants in life blah blah. I was very hurt but decided I could be friends with him in a couple monthes once school starts.\n\nWe have been broken up for about a month when I found out that he had met another girl while we were dating. He claims all they did was talk and hangout but they started dating two days after we broke up. This girl is already hanging with his family and everything makes me feel like it was longer than two weeks and was intense\n\nI was over the breakup but finding out he did this to me really hurts. Inever expected him to do anything like this. All he could say was I didn't mean for it to happen it just did\n\nI feel so lonely and don't even know how to date.", "summary": "Found out boyfriend actually left me for another girl. I feel so hurt and lonely. Help! how do i get over this? how do i date new people?"}
{"id": "t3_hcd5v", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "New to loseit, how do you stay motivated on 'diets'?", "post": "You all are so awesome and I am inspired.  I weigh ~150 lbs right now (5'1\"). I want to get down to 110.\nI LOVE carbohydrates.  I cannot even think of how to eat without them, but I do consume fairly decent ones- quinoa, brown rice, whole wheat bread and pasta always, etc. I just eat way too many carbs and not enough vegetables/protein.\nI am an extremely picky eater though so I find it extremely hard to stick to a meat and vegetables diet when all I want is a big bowl of rice :(\nHow do you all stay so motivated? I want to change my eating habits- not go on a diet. I would like to cut carbs (for quicker weight loss) but then reintegrate them slowly, if that makes any sense.\nI workout already nearly 5 days a week, but it hasn't helped me lose weight, and I know a healthy diet is much more effective.\nThanks everyone! and keep doing what you are doing :)", "summary": "Extremely picky eater, want to eat healthier, Help :( ?"}
{"id": "t3_2cawr6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think my long term boyfriend and I would be better off as best friends...", "post": "I'm 22 (F) and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for almost 2 and a half years, but I feel like he is just with me because it's easy. I really love him, but he makes it such a point to not be romantic. The only time I feel that he is love with me is when we have sex, but besides that I feel like we are better for as friends. Of course, things get more complicated is that we are both from the US and we are moving to the UK for grad school. Our plan was get an apartment together, but I don't think I can continue our relationship as it is. I really love him and I'm not mad at him, but I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I love my boyfriend, but I think he is only with me because it's easy. We're moving out of the country for grad school...."}
{"id": "t3_2cqnxb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unintentionally exposing my boss' 3 year old daughter to the circle of life.", "post": "I work at a horse barn and the sparrows are literally a plague.  We've managed to oust a lot of them once we bought a BB gun, as it's helping rid us of birds and allowing us to take out some stress on the feathered shits.  \n\nSo we've got the horses ridden, and we're (My boss, his daughter, and my co worker) sitting around bullshitting, like the usual.  I see this little sparrow feebly fly towards the wall and cling to the wall for dear life.  So, seeing an opportunity, I jump up from my seat, and go fetch this little thing.  I reach up on the wall and cup it into a hand, and a momma bird tries to dive bomb me but I retrieve the bird, and excited that I caught one I go show the boss' kid.  \n\nShe's a cute girl, and she's aww'ing over the 'baby' bird, and petting it's head and whatnot.  Alright, time to set this bird free so he can go fly up to the rafter with his noisy-ass mother.  Go to the indoor arena with the kid and I open my hands, and the little bird takes off, and struggles to get some height.  And then the fuckup.\n\nCoworkers puppy (8 month old I think)  sees the fluttery thing, and takes off after it, jumps, and catches the bird.  It squeaked as the pup's jaws closed on it.  \n\nThe little girl standing beside me gasped, hands over her mouth.  Boss and coworker started busting a gut, but I felt terrible.", "summary": "Caught a baby bird in the barn, showed it to boss' kid, and set it free again, and coworkers dog catches it in mid flight and kills it."}
{"id": "t3_n16fo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm going through my quarter-life crisis. Help!", "post": "So I'm 24 years old and I've been graduated from college for a few years. I've been working as a paralegal recently and I've slowly gotten into the grind of working regular hours. To put it simply, life has gotten incredibly boring. I love to draw, cook, read, play video games, go out to bars/restaurants, watch movies, play hockey, go camping/snowboarding, etc. but lately, I either do not have the time to do them anymore, or I am just drained by the monotony and can't motivate myself to do anything. \n\nI've decided that I need to try something new, expand my horizons a little. Do something, anything that might break the ennui. My question is this: Has anyone ever experienced this before, and do you guys have any suggestions for wild new experiences I should try that might push me out of my comfort zone?\n\nI should probably specify that I live in Michigan and that I'm not rich.", "summary": "My life is beginning to bore me, need suggestions for new things to try."}
{"id": "t3_1bzpsd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (22m) get over my attraction to my wife's (22f) sisters (19f and 16f)?", "post": "My wife(22f) and I(22m) have been happily married for 2.5 years and together for 2 years before that. We get along great and I will never cheat on her. However, I am sexually attracted to her two younger sisters (19 and 16). What tips or strategies do you know that could help me avoid being attracted to them?\n\nMy wife and I are quite open to each other. We were discussing who we've fantasized about, and even though I've heard that it's a very bad idea, I told her that I have fantasized about her sisters. \n\nThis hasn't caused any problems. I don't become visibly aroused or anything like that. But I do get slightly flirty at times (only in response to them - I don't go out of my way to flirt). For example, the other day my wife told sister 2 that her bra needs to be tightened because the strap keeps falling down her arm. Sister 2 said she doesn't mind. I said I don't mind either. \n\nI don't want to be a creep, but boner can turn my creep-o-meter off.\n\nWe live fairly close to her family and see them at least every Sunday at church. My wife is good friends with them so they're often over at our house too.\n\nRelocating is not an option.", "summary": "I love my wife, but her sisters give me a boner "}
{"id": "t3_2skxqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my ?? 'undefined' [27M] known of him for years, gotten closer and physical last few weeks... really new to dating and need help!", "post": "I was in a really long-term relationship (12yrs), left him over six months ago. Spent the time since enjoying independence, learning about myself and who I am etc. I'm not ready for another relationship. I like the freedom of being on my own...\n\nA guy has entered my life. I've known of him for years, we've chatted a few times at parties etc, but nothing ever happened. We went away for a week for a work conference thing (we work in the same industry). He asked how things were, and I told him I'm single. We caught up a few times for hours chatting and learning about each other. New years eve (at the conference), we hung out in the same group, and flirted a bit, sitting on each others lap etc. \n\nThe group we hung out with really gelled, so as a group we've gotten together almost every 3-4 days over the last few weeks. Each time, the two of us have flirted in front of them, but little to their knowledge, we've also kissed and I've stayed at his house twice (in two weeks) because it was too late to drive home after the group's social events. Nothing happened beyond kissing and heavy rubbing. \n\nHe's made it obvious he would like to have sex, and I would too, but I feel like I would like to know beforehand what it would mean to him - just a f*** buddy, potential relationship etc. To be honest, I don't know what I want from him anyway, so should I need to ask? Should I go with the flow? I haven't really had a lot of experience with dating, so I'm new to all of this. \n\nWe've tentatively discussed going away for the weekend hiking one weekend. So there's future discussions there, but I know that doesn't mean anything. Friends go hiking! Anyway, I'm not trying to read into his behaviour and work out what it means, I'm purely thinking about myself, and should I ask what he's thinking, if he's seeing anyone else, or should I just go with the flow and see what happens?", "summary": "Should I ask what he's thinking, if he's seeing anyone else, or should I just go with the flow, sleep with him and see what happens?"}
{"id": "t3_23ee3a", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Becoming who I need to be one day at a time!", "post": "April ends soon. This week I realized just how far I have come in just the first few months of the year. It is amazing how much I have been able to change as a person, and the ground that I have charted in completely unknown territory. The Reddit community has helped every step of the way. Even though I'm mainly a lurker.\n\n  It has been a power blast of [r/personalfinance] , [r/fitness] , [r/getmotivated] , a dash of [r/howtonotgiveafuck] , and a little [r/malefashionadvice] . The combination of the cool articles, mixed with all of the collective insanity has inspired me to do so much more with my year!\n\nIn these first few months I have:\n\n1.Transferred to the Uni that will allow me to study my intended major and be a part of the programs I've always wanted to be a part of. \n\n2.Ditched the controlling girlfriend. \n\n3.Made plans to travel this summer.\n\n4.I now work two jobs and take courses part time at the community college to save.\n\n5.I am on my way to having money set aside to study, travel, and purchase a car to commute from Uni to home.\n\nIf I saw this list a year ago, I would believe it, but I would have been overwhelmed. A headache would have ensued, and I would have been paralyzed with fear. Now I have the balls to do what I like to do. \n\nEveryone sees it too. I've noticed that women pay me more attention, and my supervisors and classmates consider my opinion.\n\nWe are all on the journey one day at a time! YOU can do this! If such small changes have changed my trajectory this much, I can only imagine how much it will do for you!\n\nMuch love, and know you have someone who believes in you!", "summary": "Reddit changed my life, it'll change yours too!"}
{"id": "t3_24zcb0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21/M) think I am falling for my best friend (20/F)", "post": "For several months I have been growing closer and closer with my best friend. She has helped me through some of my hardest times. She recently helped me get through a difficult breakup. When we first met, we kind of \"friend zoned\" each other because I was in another relationship at the time. \n\nThe semester recently ended and she and I have been spending a lot more time together. I find myself caring for her so much and I want to protect her, however I think this is because we are such good friends. But when I am with her, I feel so happy and I just can't help but smile. \n\nLast night, we were talking, just the two of us and as I stood up to leave, she said, \"Wait. I want to try something. And I think we are good enough friends that we can at least try it\". Then, she kissed me! We talked about it after and neither of us felt weird or awkward...it actually felt very good. We kissed again, longer this time, and felt even better. Then I had to leave, so we didn't talk about it anymore after that.\n\nNow I am kind of confused. I got home and I couldn't sleep because all I could do was think about her and that kiss. I don't know if I should pursue it, because I don't want to lose her as a friend. And I don't know what my next steps should be! Thoughts? Advice?", "summary": "My best friend and I kissed and it felt great, not weird at all, and now I don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_2fghdr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M/16) Need help in staring a relationship", "post": "So, this year my family changed our living place. We now live in a big city, and I go to a big school. My class is quite big, everyone is friendly, but there's one girl (she's 16) I'm very attracted to. I have no previous experience in relationships, so I have no idea what to do. Coming up to her and start talking to her (Hi I like your shirt, it matches your eyes, wanna hang out?) or me, or weather, (or anything, really) seems silly to me, even if that \"shows my confidence in approaching her with nothing to talk about\" according to wiki-how.\n\n I saw her glancing at my direction several times during our lessons together, but I don't know if she was looking at me, someone besides me, or just to know what's going on in class. I also saw a tip online about trying to sit next to her or getting to work on the same project, but I can't think of any way to do so. I do, however sit behind her in one of our lessons.\n\n I don't know if we have anything in common to talk about, so I think I should just wait and find out what she likes (which is hard without talking to her). But even if I do find out, coming up to her and asking her about something I know she likes will make her suspicious, she might even think I'm some sort of stalker. So, I'm asking, what should I do? I want to be friends with this girl, someday maybe even start dating, but as you know, I have no idea where to start.\n\n Info about me:\n Male\n 16 years old\n 186 cm tall\n Rather good looking\n Not really funny\n\n My English is not perfect, so there may be some mistakes. Sorry :/\n Also, if this is not the right place to post, please redirect me to where this post should be.", "summary": "I like a girl, but I have no idea where to start in getting to know her better."}
{"id": "t3_1t6mm1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need some advice on a money situation", "post": "My wife and I were supposed to take a trip overseas with my parents.  The trip was to India, where my parents are originally from, and my parents wanted to show my wife (who is white) some sights and sounds.\n\nUnfortunately, my mom had a heart attack right before we were planning to leave.  She should recover fully, but we had to postpone the trip.  First and foremost, I'm glad that my mom is ok, and there's no price that you can put on that.  I called our airline to see about rescheduling, and they said that it is not an option at all, given the type of ticket we booked, even for a medical emergency.  So, basically, I am out $4k, which is a LOT of money for me (for anyone, really).  \n\nMy parents' ticket is fully changable for up to a year.  Here's my question.  I don't want to tell my parents about the fact that I can't refund the ticket, because I don't want my mom to feel guilty or anything like that.  I don't want them to stress anymore than they have due to this medical issue.  But I also don't want them to expect that I got a full refund and think that we're going to go to India this year, using the funds from the refund.  I simply can't afford another ticket.  What should I do?", "summary": "Can't get a flight refund for trip postponed due to mom's heart attack, don't want to tell parents so they don't stress and feel guilty about it."}
{"id": "t3_3a1kx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My estranged mother [61F] owes me [25M] money. How to get it back? Complicated.", "post": "Me and my mother became estranged a year ago after years and years of abuse from her. My older brother [29M] is also estranged from her because of similar issues, although he is low contact rather than no contact. The NC is mutual. She did send me a Christmas card which I ignored. Nothing else from her.\n\nAbout five years ago, my mother needed to borrow money. Around $10000. She borrowed a similar amount from my brother. When we became estranged, she told me I was dead to her and I'd never see that money again. She also had said my brother would not get his money back. She also said that she would throw out any of my stuff in her house. I resigned myself to losing it. A small price to pay for getting rid of her.\n\nRecently, my brother said that she had found some stuff of mine and boxed it up for me to get. Weird. Then a couple days ago, he told me that he'd got his money back, just a check in the post. He said I should expect to get my money back too. I am not sure whether she will contact me to come pick my stuff up. I want my stuff back and I want the money back. Should I approach her to get it back? Should I keep waiting? How should I act when I see her? I really want my stuff back and I have no problem acting different to manipulate that to happen.", "summary": "Estranged mother has stuff and money of mine. She returned my brother's money and has said she will return my stuff. How to go about getting it all back? Should I approach her or wait?"}
{"id": "t3_2beluj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] have a tendency to put pressure on myself/relationships, leading to confidence issues early on. Help please.", "post": "I've dated several people in the last year and it always seems that when it gets to a certain point, I blow it. I've been seeing this girl lately who I've known for a long time, and she recently moved back to our hometown. I feel like I'm probably putting more pressure on myself than I should because we haven't discussed the bf/gf title at all. I don't think that we should have to necessarily have that talk either, but I just feel like there is a certain uncertainty in this phase that freaks me out. \n\nWhen I start to question how she feels or how I feel, my confidence goes to hell and that's when things bottom out. I feel like it's a predictable cycle and I would like some advice on not rushing anything and just being patient as things grow organically. I feel like I'm beginning to do this where I push her away, and I don't want to lose my opportunity with this person as I have in the past.", "summary": "I put pressure on myself/relationship, instead of letting it progress organically. How can I improve to not push someone away?"}
{"id": "t3_iuzph", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one of the most amazingly hilarious coincidences you have ever witnessed?", "post": "This didn't happen to me but a friend of mine. In high school we had these college age speakers come in from \"City Year\", some sort of anti-discrimination group. We were sitting in the commons during lunch, and my friend, we'll call him Charles, was eating a reindeer sausage he had made. Some sort of conversation was going on that ended with another one of my friends jokingly hitting Charles and running across the room. Charles retaliated by throwing the sausage at him.\n\nThis in itself would not have been a problem except for an amazingly coincidental turn of events. Right as Charles threw the sausage, a Muslim student happened to be walking by. At the same time, one of the City Year anti-discrimination guys was coming from the other direction. From where the City Year guy was standing, he had apparently just seen my friend throw pork at a Muslim. A quite amazing shitstorm ensued. Charles couldn't get a word in edge-wise to plead his case as the City Year guy bitched him out for a full 10 minutes.", "summary": "Friend through a reindeer sausage, a Muslim walked by, anti-descrimination guy thought he was throwing pork at a Muslim."}
{"id": "t3_4pluje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) started having feelings for my best guy friend (22m) but now there's a problem", "post": "I'm on mobile so forgive me if there's typos/formatting errors. \n\nI have been best friends with this guy for about a year and a half now. We spend almost every day together and if we aren't hanging out we for sure talk everyday and tell each other everything. I started catching feelings a few months ago but I haven't done anything about it because I know for a fact he's not into me. Which alright, fine, I should just drop it and move on, and I've been trying to without losing our friendship. So far it's been okay. \n\nRecently he's been a bit more distant and a little shady. He'd lie to me about who he was texting/hanging out with and talk to me less and less. Turns out he has been hanging out with this girl who I have a bad past with (my ex boyfriend cheated on me with her). I'm pretty sure my best friend has a crush on her and is trying to get at her, and I know it's none of my business but it really bugs the hell out of me, especially since this chick hurt me in the past and now she's hanging out with him. I mean it would probably bug me a tiny bit if he was seeing anyone, but the fact that it's her is kind of like a slap to the face. Is there anything I should do? It bugs me but I don't want to lose his friendship.", "summary": "guy best friend (who I have a small crush on) is hanging out with chick who hooked up with my ex, he's been acting shady, sucks but don't want to lose friendship. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_163ezd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to get over a girl who I see every day", "post": "So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help  am miserable", "summary": "slept with roommates best friend and it did not work out, see her everyday , how do i get over it."}
{"id": "t3_3jkcsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) neighbor (33M) has been borrowing lawn equipment over the course of a year. Now my mother wants me to tell him to pay me. We're great friends. How do I talk to him?", "post": "My neighbor and I have established an awesome relationship since summer (around July) of 2014.  He's a great guy, a great father, and we have a lot in common, including lawn care.  Being the guy that I am, if he has asked for help with his lawn, I've always given it, including borrowing the lawn mower, weed eater, and edger.  He often pays for gas for equipment, repairs is if something is wrong or off, and always makes sure that both lawns (mine and my mother's) to great effect.  But my mother feels like he is taking too much of an advantage of her and her equipment, and even me.  She believes that he should pay me for the work I do with him, considering the cost of using the equipment, wear and tear, gas, time, etc.\n\nI'm not sure how to tell him that, and I'm scared that if I do it wrong, I'm going to lose a great friend, and an even better neighbor.  Can anyone offer me some advice?", "summary": "Good neighbor and friend has been borrowing lawn equipment.  Mom wants pay for it.  What can I do without shattering our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4jv0c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [26M] been trying to win my ex-girlfriend [23F] (we dated for a year) back for quite some time. Am I going too far with it?", "post": "First, I'll explain what my ex-girlfriend looks like. She has gorgeous golden hair that she curls each day. She has legs for miles, the brightest green eyes I've ever seen, a tiny little nose, and a whole galaxy of freckles. \n\nShe broke up with me a while back because her family didn't get along with mine (her mother, who I met and who liked me a lot, died of breast cancer, leaving her strict, douchey military father behind). Valid. I told her I would make it a game to win her back, and she told me I could go ahead and try.\n\nIt has become a little game of ours. It started out small: texting her daily, bringing desserts to her house, serenading her, etc. Then it escalated. I showed up to her house on horseback (my uncle owns a farm) and we rode around the countryside. I surprised her with some decently-sized fireworks, which are legal in my state. Her response to the fireworks was, \"you're getting there.\"\n\nI still have NO idea if she has any genuine intention of getting back with me, or if she's just having fun at my expense. She never kisses me on these dates, but she never rebuffs me either. I know she has been talking to another guy because I'm seen him around, but they seem completely platonic and non-romantic. I'm so confused.\n\nTomorrow, I'm going to surprise her. When her mom died, she got a minuscule infinity tattoo on her ankle. I went out and got the same tattoo, but now I'm thinking...does this sound creepy to you guys? Is this whole scenario \"normal?\"", "summary": "My ex and I have had an ongoing game where I try to win her back. How far should I go? Is my next move too far? Should I even bother with this?"}
{"id": "t3_3465sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23/F] foreign GF has told me [25/M] she doesn't want to get committed because she leaves the country in 1 year.", "post": "Hi, looking for advice on how to deal with the situation.\n\nMy GF [23/F] and I [25/M] met online over Christmas and started dating at the very beginning of the year, so 5ish months now. We both knew that the relationship might not last forever because she is a foreign student and when she finishes studying she wants to travel. Until yesterday we hadn't spoken about what that meant for the relationship but we had often discussed her future plans. \n\nShe is a very sunny and loving person so when I couldn't get two words out of her yesterday I knew something was up. It took her about 5 hours to work up to telling me that she didn't want to get 'attached' because she would be leaving in a year. But that she still wanted to keep seeing me without the title BF & GF. \n\nI explained that I couldn't do that, or at least I don't think I can. I'm already attached and not humanly in control enough of my emotions to not get more attached as time passes. So whatever happens I feel like I lose, either we break up (which neither of us want) and deny ourselves present happiness to save future pain or we keep going and I have to constantly monitor my affections. \n\nPerhaps she is only bringing this up because she is getting attached and that scary her because of our possibly difficult future\n\nWe haven't reached a decision yet but I don't know what to do. Is there a third option? Am I wrong? Is she wrong?", "summary": "My GF [23/F] and I [25/M] of 5 months aren't sure what the next step of our otherwise happy relationship should be, because she is leaving the country in a 1 year."}
{"id": "t3_3nvkvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Posted about me [20M] being in love with my best friend [19F] about eight months ago on reddit...", "post": "Previous post:  \n\nI ended up telling her I was in love with her.  I literally opened my mouth five times over a span of an hour to say it, but I couldn't.  Nothing would come out.  She had no idea it was coming and was totally caught off guard.  Of course after I left, I got on the bus an hour later and she was right there -______-.  Anyways, it was awkward for about 2-3 weeks.\n\nWe started to get back to normal at about the start of March, and on St. Patrick's day, with both of us very wasted, she tried to fuck me.  I somehow stopped her (I was nearly blackout but I sobered up for this) and lots of making out/cuddling happened for the next month.  No sex, though.  She was worried it would ruin our friendship.  \n\nThen mid-April we went out to a party and both blacked.  I came to while I was mid-fuck with her, but at that point I decided to just go with it cuz the deed was done.  After about 2 weeks of sneaking around and fucking, she very awkwardly asked to date me while I was mid-stroke inside of her.  We talked and now we have been dating for five months strong.  \n\nThanks reddit :)!\n\nSpecial thanks to Fubar904; his advice helped me the most.", "summary": "Fell in love with my best friend about 8-9 months ago, finally told her I had feelings, after three complicated months, stuff got on a roll and now we have five months strong.  Thanks reddit :)."}
{"id": "t3_2ro3w8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not realizing a perfect 10/10 was into me a few years ago", "post": "So here's the setup. I met this girl once, around 10 years ago. The circumstances were kind of weird that led to us meeting, a mutual friend basically told me that she was coming over my apartment. I was out, so I scrambled to make the first meeting go well, trying to find some snacks and clean up a bit. I should also mention that I was high as all fuck during this whole process, so the snacks I decided on getting were corn chips and brie. So I get back to my apartment and we meet up, and it was super awkward. I was still high as fuck, and instead of talking to this gorgeous girl that was literally in my apartment, I just sat down and started playing Mario like a fucking loser. \n\nFast forward to this week. We met again for the first time since this went down. We were in a painfully public setting, and in front of a fuckload of people, she brought up every detail of my dumb ass when we met. She even let me know that she \"liked\" me at the time, and after that incident, she questioned if I was just gay and that's why I wasn't talking to her. It was the most embarrassed that I've ever been, and as everyone around us was laughing at my pathetic actions, I sat and thought over my entire life past that point, and how it would have been if I was with that girl. The scary part is, I kind of think she's still into me a little bit, but we're both married now, so I don't really know what to do. Needless to say, both my wife and her husband are a little PO'd about the whole thing.", "summary": "I could have been banging Nicole Kidman for the past 10 years."}
{"id": "t3_1dgxsp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Insecurity? Boredom? I just don't know. I'm[23/F] he's[23/m] and the object of my hate is[22/F]", "post": "I don't know why or how but I've become obsessed with my boyfriend's ex girlfriend, I've repeatedly stalked her facebook, wrote her mean anonymous emails and just have a strange hate for her and I'm always comparing myself to her, shes a far more pretty and interesting person than i am. This has been going on for about a year, it started a few months after my boyfriend and i started dating. He left her for me, sort of (he first asked if i liked him and would consider dating him, then he broke up with her). What would be the best course of action here, i know it's not normal behavior and i want it to stop but it's almost like an addiction. Advice?", "summary": "Online stalking my boyfriends ex, I'm crazy help me be normal."}
{"id": "t3_38t28j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 4 months, thinks I cheated, I don't see it that way.", "post": "Recently, my girlfriend decided to break up with me based on a fact that I was with another girl very early on. By that I mean we met online, went on one date, and made a decision to meet up again when we could.\n\nThe next night another girl who had been messaging me asked if I wanted to go out for drinks, that ended in sex but we agreed there wasn't long term interest and went our separate ways.\n\nThe next weekend I saw my GF again, and after our third date we had a conversation about deleting our profiles and being a couple, to which I agreed and have been faithful to ever since.\n\nIn the 4 months since we fell for each other, everything seemed great. Until it came to light that the date (which she knew I went on from the start) ended in sex. It affected our sex life, her trust in me and ultimately her ability to be with me.\n\nAm I crazy for thinking I wasn't unfaithful, is she for thinking I am? Are we both not wrong and it's just a very unfortunate differing of opinion? And more importantly, does anyone think this is a situation that can be salvaged? She has stated since that she still cares deeply (as do I) but that it would be hard for her to get past this mental block in her head of what happened.", "summary": "She thinks I cheated. I don't think I did."}
{"id": "t3_bzl39", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I went to the shrink today and he said...", "post": "(THROWAWAY)\n\nHe can't help me, because there is nothing pyschiatrically wrong with me.... But I have a problem I am a quitter, I also give up. Every job I ever had I just quit after awhile I'm not unhappy or don't enjoy it, some day I just wakeup and don't feel like going anymore.\nI had a 3.5 gpa and quit university with 6 courses left. I'm 23 and now I feel like my easy riding won't work anymore and I am getting nervous as all my friends begin to succeed, I am a smart guy and so capable but I just seem to punish myself for no good reason.\n\nI'm usually so happy, but the realization that Im fucking up is starting to worry me. Im trying to do better but I still make poor decisions about holding a job. I have had ADD my whole life and feel this contributes somewhat but the shrink said that im just not motivated and my life has been to easy for me to hit rockbottom and get motivated. But I don't want to hit rock bottom, I wanna turn it around and stop quitting before I get there...\nBut I can't seem to wrap my head around it... Im sure many people have similar problems but have gotten by, what Im asking is for techniques or excersizes that might help me hold my focus and push through those days when I just wanna say \"meh\" and not go work.", "summary": "I always quit even though I am well positioned in life, how can i train myself to stick with it for the long haul and stop sabotaging myself?"}
{"id": "t3_37azs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (f26) let my visiting in-laws (60s) know that I need my space at home without being rude?", "post": "My father-in-law is staying with me and my husband for two weeks. We have a very small apartment, one bedroom, a tiny bathroom and kitchen. I love my father-in-law, and he's very kind and generous, but staying in such close quarters with anyone except my husband or best friend is trying. He has these tiny habits, like humming the same short melody over and over again, that drive me up the wall.\n\nIn the mornings, I have to have my alone time. My fil gets up early, blasts the radio and asks me all kinds of questions on everything from food to politics as I'm trying to wake up over my breakfast at 7 am. \n\nI know I'm at fault for being easily stressed and needing a lot of alone time, but is there any POLITE, NICE way of saying I need to eat breakfast alone or that I need to go spend time alone in our bedroom in the evening? Thanks guys.", "summary": "I'm easily stressed and irritable, my father-in-law is staying for two weeks in our tiny apartment, I need advice on how to attain alone-time while at home."}
{"id": "t3_49ag79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 M] got broken up with by now ex-girlfriend[14 F] in September. Need help with getting over her, what do I even do?", "post": "I can't get her out of my mind. She isn't my first girlfriend, but my first actual girlfriend. She means everything to me, and I would still die for her, and she seems to hate me. I don't know how I'm going to do this, but it's ruining my life. I don't enjoy anything anymore, I hate myself, getting up at all and it's a challenge to keep myself from never getting up whenever I sit or lay down. My grades have gone down the toilet. I have no idea what to do, but I feel like my life is over, and it might as well be if I don't succeed in High School and miss getting a scholarship. Help.", "summary": "how do I get over someone I would literally die in the most painful way imaginable for"}
{"id": "t3_dd6gg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question about 'fuck-buddies'..", "post": "Hi reddit,\nobviously a throwaway, I don't want to have this linked to my normal account.\n\nI know this girl, she lives rather far away and will be coming to visit me in about a month. I would consider her as a fuckbuddy, since that's what we'll be doing.\n\nI'm socially retarded and this is actually the first time I will be having sex for 2 years. She on the other hand is a really beautiful girl and could have a different guy every day (she doesn't). So, of course she also has other guys flirting with her etc. So, yesterday she told me that she's planning a threesome with two other guys. I then told her quite clearly that I don't exactly want these infos, since I still have to wait 4 weeks. Just to clarify, I can't imagine a relationship with her, of course I like her, but she isn't the person for anything serious (neither am I). But isn't it normal that I don't really wanna know who she's fucking?", "summary": "Fuckbuddy tells me about having sex with some other guys, is it normal that I don't really want to hear this stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_3klwuw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my older boyfriend[35M] aren't having much sex at all because he says I try to turn him on \"wrong.\"", "post": "My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 4ish months and are having sex infrequently at best. When we first started dating he would wake me up in the middle of the night just to have sex. Now it's once a week if I'm lucky. \n\nI have had a few conversations with him about why we aren't having much sex and he's said I'm too available for sex, I am not subtle enough when trying to turn him on, and that I \"do it wrong \" when trying to get him in the mood. \n\nI have tried lingerie, cooking special dinners for him, walking around butt-ass naked, massaging his back, etc but none of these work.  In all this time dating him I have never once convinced him to have sex with me if he wasn't already in the mood. \n\nHe has had lots of excuses in our past conversations like work stress, not being in a relationship for a while and not used to having lots of regular sex, the house being messy since he's a really clean person, and not feeling good. \n\nI'm tired of trying. I feel ugly and unattractive and starting to doubt our whole relationship. I don't think he's cheating on me, and in other ways he is very affectionate - always snuggling me on the couch and kissing me a lot.\n\nLast night he said something about how it takes more than just taking my top off and walking around the house. He said the conversation had to be there and he is different than most guys because he needs more than physical/visual to get turned on. I just feel like I am a failure at being sexy and it's killing my self esteem. \n\nI guess I want to know what I am not doing right -- especially if other people relate to my boyfriend about needing subtle seduction. I feel like an idiot and I miss having sex with my boyfriend!", "summary": "older boyfriend isn't interested in sex, says I don't know how to turn him on"}
{"id": "t3_3g6qav", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Taxes on selling a collection", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nI have a question about the possible tax ramifications on selling a personal collection. I'm hoping someone here can help. I have a large collection of magic cards that I intend to sell to two stores in order to pay down debt and help prepare for the coming of our twins in a few months. I'm wondering how such a sale would be treated tax wise. I don't want to lose a lot of money to taxes, but at the same time I want to make sure I don't do something wrong that gets us into trouble later. \n\nThis sale would be split between two online retailers and would be  somewhere in the $5,000 - $10,000 range. I've tried determining how taxes would work on such a sale, but haven't been able to work it out. I did find some information stating that selling collectibles has different tax effects depending on if they were treated as collectibles or bought as an investment for eventual resale.\n\nAnway, thanks for any and all help.", "summary": "$5-10k collectibles being sold, what do for taxes?"}
{"id": "t3_12p83q", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Every dog has its day.", "post": "There is this jerk in my cul-de-sac who would let his dog shit all over the place without taking responsibility for it. Dog would shit in people's yards, on the side walk, and even sometimes on the street. I lived at the end of the cul-de-sac and for some reason his dog never pooped near or around my house, so it didn't bother me as much as the other people in my area.\n\n... until last week.\n\nThis fucking pooch conveniently shit behind one of the rear tires of my car, I didn't notice it as I was backing out to go to a football game. The shit smears on my driveway and gets pretty fucking deep in the tread of my tires, and there's just no way I'm going to leave a shit stain on my driveway like that. No bueno. \n\nYou would think a quick spray off with the house would get these smeared turds to go away, but noooooo. I don't know what this dog had been eating but apparently it was a very colorful palette of chunks and wonders. Took me almost twenty minutes to clean, resulting in me hitting traffic and missing half of the 1st quarter. Super bummed.\n\nLater that night (about 2am-ish?) I took a shit in a plastic bag and walked gingerly over to his house, about to have a field day with his car and get my Pablo Poocasso on. *with gloves of course*\n\nI began to covertly put shit under all his door handles, on the inside of his gas door, and especially in and all around the inside of his muffler. \n\nMy magnum opus.\n\nThe following morning I see him outside (through my window of course, sneaky sneaky) cleaning the shit out of his car. Literally. He has now learned to pick up after his dog.", "summary": "Neighbor's dog shits all over, so I return the favor on his vehicle. Yay."}
{"id": "t3_1okitx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I overlooking this situation?(23/m) (21/f)", "post": "A little background: About 4 months ago I broke up with my ex of 3 years and started using OKC to find a girl who I could just meet to talk to and get my mind off the last 3 wasted years. \n\nSo here is the situation, I met a girl about 3 weeks ago through OKC. And I honestly think I have completely fallen for her. She is literally my perfect match, and honestly I have never felt this way ever before over a girl. \n\nWe went out on 2 dates (which went extremely well) and the 3rd was supposed to happen last Wednesday but she had a migraine. But this migraine has persisted and I haven't spoke to her since Sunday night. Before I was dating my ex, a couple of girls I was meeting used similar \"I am sick\" excuses and never talked to me again. I don't want this to be true with this girl, but is it a possibility? \n\nI texted her this morning to see how she was feeling and to see if she would want to go out tonight, but I shouldn't expect a reply until 12-2pm est. \n\nSorry for any formatting errors, I am on my phone.", "summary": "Met amazing girl who has canceled last date due to a migraine, but have had girls in the past cut ties with me claiming to be \"sick\" before a date. Is she doing the same?"}
{"id": "t3_35m80c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and a girl [24F] I've been dating for a while, abusive ex [20sM] has come back into her life and now she has conflicting feelings.", "post": "Been going on dates with this girl for about two months now, and it's been pretty great. While we aren't officially together (although it's been briefly spoken about) we spend a lot of time with each other, and it's definitely something I'd be interested in. However on Saturday night she went out with some friends, and was unusually quiet. She didn't reply to any texts until today (earlier this afternoon) and she said that she bumped into an ex in town, and realised that she isn't over him. \n\nFrom the way she described their relationship, it sounds like it was emotionally abusive. Used to argue a lot, he manipulated her, that sort of thing. She spent all of Sunday crying because she still has feelings for him, and said she felt terrible because of how unfair it is on me. She said it would be unfair to keep dating me while she has feelings for him. She has said she's blocked him on all forms of social media, and deleted and blocked his number, in an effort to move on from him. While I'm glad she mentioned it, I have no idea where to go from here. Do I just wait and hope she turns around and says she's ready? What else can I do?", "summary": "Emotionally abusive ex has come back into the life of the girl I've been dating, and she's upset because she still has strong feelings for him. Doesn't know what to do, and we don't know where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_jmtxv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can Reddit help me choose a health care plan for my family? (healthcare newb)", "post": "I'm 20, this is new to me. My parents no longer work for the employer that provided the healthcare we had. My parents are more or less self employed, the healthcare was a perk for exclusively working with said employer. I'm now tasked with finding a health care plan for my family since my family trusts me with the decision (in other words, we don't have a fucking clue, but I'm the one going to college so I have to do it). \n\nInfo on my family: \n5 members . Mom & Pop both 40 yro. 20, 14, 5 yro boys.\n5 yro has asthma.\n20 yro has glasses (14 might need em)\nOther than that there are no other health problems. We really only need checkups (preventive medicine is the best!)\nSo how do I go about this?", "summary": "Lost healthcare. Need new one. Can reddit help? Did someone already answer this? (Sorry if that was the case)Maybe a page on healthcare providers pros/cons plan options etc. What's your plan?"}
{"id": "t3_2ltmn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/F] started hanging out with an old friend [21/M] just about a week ago, he told me that he liked me and I'm not sure where to go from here.", "post": "Thanks in advance for taking time to read this. This is my first post on here and I'm feeling a little weird about it, haha. \n\nSo just recently an old friend of mine contacted me, kind of out of nowhere, and asked me to hang out. I agreed of course, having not seen him in a while. So we hung out for several hours, sat in his car, listened to music and talked. Literally nothing else. We did that for three nights after that as well, except on the third night, he told me that he liked me and we ended up making out in his car. \n\nSo I've developed feelings for him, he's super sweet, funny, weird and quirky, and really into a lot of the same things I am. I could see myself dating him, but, as horrible as it sounds, I'm embarrassed to tell my friends. They all think he's very weird and aren't terribly fond of him, and I'm just not sure what to do. I know I sound like a shallow bitch, and I'm trying really hard to ignore what my friends think, but it's difficult!\nWhat would you guys do in this situation?", "summary": "Reconnected with an old friend, developed feelings for each other, can see myself dating him, but my other friends think he's really weird and don't like him very much. I know I sound like a shallow bitch. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jcgwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] met an amazing person [32 F] two weeks ago, don't know how to proceed", "post": "Some background about me: I've never started a relationship locally as I've dated online my whole life so I'm a bit lost on how to proceed. I've been out of a 4 year relationship for a month and a half and ready to move on, but I feel as if I'm obsessing over this new girl. I don't want to ruin a great friendship by asking her on a date, but I already feel like I'm extremely interested in her. \n\nI met girl [Amanda for throwaway] two weeks ago and we've hung out a few times now. We've also been non-stop texting until two days ago (I accidentally got over-stressed due to other matters and let on about it). We've gone on a few \"hangouts\", not official dates. Truth be told, I can't tell if she's interested in me or is just super friendly. \n\nFirst r/relationship post, sorry for mistakes", "summary": "Want to ask friend of 2 weeks on a date, but not sure if she's interested and don't want to ruin a friendship. "}
{"id": "t3_4fizvz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "No career direction, feeling lost and behind.", "post": "Hi, I am 25 years old, male if that matters, and I have recently come to terms with the fact that yet again I am pursuing a career that I have no interest in. This is nothing new to me as it has happened more than once. I wanted to teach, then I briefly pursued psychology. After that I did a General Arts and Science program at an Ontario college. Following this I became convinced I wanted to be a nurse, more for the money and supposed booming job market and security. Though I have just completed my first year, and the clinical setting has taught me that once again I am pursuing something that will make me unhappy.\n\nI am just looking for some possible career advice, I do not have much of a career as it stands (unless student counts) so it is pretty well a blank slate. Preferably something that pays well as financial stability is important to me as I am understandably in quite a bit of debt.\n\nThe reason I have had a hard time in determining what to do with myself is that I have perhaps an inflated sense of self worth. I am quite intelligent, though I do struggle with organization and often times loose track of what is due when etc. despite this though I have always been able to attain good to great marks at the post secondary level.\n\nAny advice would be welcome, anybody who has been in a similar situation or is in a similar situation and just wishes to post to relate is welcome to do so as well and I will be happy to know I am not alone in my endeavor. \n\nThe one thing I have finally been able to realize about myself over the past summer is that I enjoy being outdoors. I think that maybe that is the most important thing for me, to find a job where I can work outdoors. The second most important thing to me would be financial security as I have pretty massive debt, and feel I owe my parents a substantial amount of money and vacations for the support both financially and emotionally they have provided me.", "summary": "I have a hard time deciding what to do for a career. I have finally figured out it needs to be outdoors as I am happiest outside and despise being cooped up inside from 9-5. Also I have wasted a lot of time and money into post secondary education so something with relatively high salary is very desirable so as to be able to pay off my debt sooner."}
{"id": "t3_15s8qd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/f) invited to a party with boyfriend(21/m) of 2 years and ended up partying with strangers without him.", "post": "Last night my boyfriend (21m together 2 years) and I (23f) went out to a friends house party with his best friend. There were a lot of people there and I knew a few of them but not most. When we got there my boyfriend just walked right on in and started partying with everyone not introducing me to the many other people there. \nI felt a little uncomfortable at first because I can be little bit of a shy gal until I get to know ya. Me and my boyfriends friend sat down and chatted while my boyfriend basically bails on us and parties with everyone else, not talking to us and walking away. I felt left out and a little out of place so I started my own convos with people around me, no big deal. \nIt was just the fact that my boyfriend who brought us to this party just had his own without involving us in his circle of party. I hinted that he sit with us for a minute and chill but he got irritated and said he's having a good time. This morning I asked him about it and told him how it made me feel and he once again got irritated with me like it was my fault I wasn't involved in his side of the party. \nAll i needed was a little coaxin or invitation because I wasn't sure where he was or what he was doing in the other part of the house.\n\nWe have a very good relationship. We understand each other very well and this is why it hurts me and I need a little advice on what to say or do to let him understand without him getting mad.", "summary": "Boyfriend invited us to party and partied with other people and not involving his girlfriend and best friend. Got irritated when asking about it and was insensitive about it, need advice on how to handle that or a better way of talking about it with him"}
{"id": "t3_1nxqnz", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Don't tailgate me", "post": "Background: There is a road in my area where the speed limit drops from 50 to 35 as the road goes from 4 lanes to 2 as it goes through a residential area. This road is kind of a by-pass for a crowded section of Highway 9 (think of Bruce Springstein) in central NJ and also crosses a major east/west state highway so the local police hang out on that road to get speeders who don't bother to slow down. Locals are aware the police are usually there, somewhere on the road, and keep an eye on the speed limit.\n\nSo, one day, I am driving on that road to pick up my son from his karate class and notice the police car hanging out in a parking lot for a park about a half mile from where the speed limit decreases, hidden from the road (I usually look to see if a car is there or not). About 15 minutes later I am coming back with my son and slow down as the speed limit drops to 35. Of course some BENNY from NY (think of the cast of Jersey Shore) starts tailgating me and flashes his lights to go faster and gets increasingly frustrated as I refused to go faster. And then I remember the police officer and wondered if he was still in the park. Well, one way to find out.\n\nJust before the park, the road widens slightly to allow space for a left turn lane into the park. Just before we get to the park entrance I move my car ever so slightly onto the shoulder making the temptation too great for the BENNY. He seizes this opening to fly by me through the left turn lane. As I pass the park I notice that not only is my friend still there but his lights just popped on. He comes out of the park, I pull over like a driver is supposed to when an emergency vehicle has his lights on and watch him quickly close the distance between him and the BENNY.", "summary": "I clicked my oil releasing switch and caused a tailgater to spin out and get thrown from his car as he crashed into some trees."}
{"id": "t3_zfpls", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am desperate to become intelligent. How do I get there?", "post": "Let me start off by saying that posting this question to reddit probably is my first mistake. But I figured at least half of reddit is probably intelligent, so whatevs. Here we go.\n\nFor the last few years since I've lived on my own I've really discovered that I'm, well, not as smart as I once thought I was. I'm smarter than some people, but that's not really enough for me. I'm never really vocal on my opinions on anything, because I *am* smart enough to know that if I don't know facts in an argument, then I essentially know nothing. I hate the person that I am mentally, I just don't know how to improve myself. Or rather, I guess I don't know where the motivation comes from.\n\nSometimes I have conversations with truly intelligent people, usually finding myself depressed and jealous afterward. I *want* to be like them, I feel like I *need* to be like them in order to really achieve happiness in who I am.\n\nI'm tired of listening to stupidity all around me (especially during election season) and not saying a word, because I'm not smart enough (or don't really know the facts) to make a counter argument against them.\n\nHow can my mind defeat my body, and become the intelligent man it wants me to be?", "summary": "I'm a dummy, and I want to be smarter than I am currently."}
{"id": "t3_2zus65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [21f] is hanging out with my friend [26m] without me?", "post": "Okay so me[22m] and my gf[21f] have been together for 3 months now. Over this period of time we have hung out with one of my friends a few times. Let's call him Brandon[26m]. I consider Brandon to be one of my closest friends but I'm not entirely sure the sentiment is returned.\n\nAnyway, the few times we've hung out with Brandon the two of them are getting along really well. They were really engaged in conversation and my gf did things like touching his face or chest and throwing things at him. I've brought it up to her a couple times telling her that it bothers me but she just claims thats how she is with everyone and that we were just drunk. So I get over it.\n\nThe other night we all went out bowling and it was the same thing. I found out the next day she was going to a baseball game with him. She didn't actually tell me about it though, she had accidentally sent a text that was meant for him to me.\n\nI asked her who it was meant for and she told me it was for Brandon. We argued about that for a little while; me saying that it made me uncomfortable and her saying she's just trying to have friends and I should trust her. I don't know if I'm just being unreasonable anymore. Help me Reddit!", "summary": "My flirty Gf made plans without me to go to a baseball game with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_4uj53c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [37m] and my [28f] fiancee wants to leave. Together 6yrs. Need advice", "post": "Ok so a bit of back story, my fiancee have been together 6 years.  We have one 3 year old daughter together. We have had serious problems the last year.  I found out she cheated on me with a coworker (March 2015). I've never been unfaithful to her,  but I'm not perfect by any means. I don't believe I was being a good partner to her.. Not that it's any excuse to cheat. \n\nThe problem is we never went to counseling or anything, never really talked about it other than maybe that first week after I found out about it. She has a lot of depression and anxiety issues. We Co parent great,  our sex life is good,  we don't argue really. She just shuts down sometimes and gives up so  to speak.\n\n Two days ago she tells me she just can't do it anymore. She feels hopeless etc. She is a stay at home mom now and money is tight for us with one income which has also caused issues. She says she loves me with all her heart but isn't in love like she was. \n\nAnd I know this all sounds like she's cheating again but I honestly don't think so. Should I let her leave,  try to get to counseling? Just don't know what to do. Sorry for the long rambling post.", "summary": "[28f] fiancee wants to leave me. 6yrs together. Says she doesn't feel in love anymore. Anyway to salvage relationship or just let her go?"}
{"id": "t3_43i3cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my classmate [27 F] 2-3 months, affair beginnings", "post": "I take an acting class two nights a week and a few months ago this beautiful woman, we'll call her Brooke, starting taking the class. She wore a wedding ring the first time I saw her but after that I didn't see the ring. We flirted a lot but I thought nothing would come of it after she mentioned her husband and kids. Last tuesday she asked for my snapchat and we started talking. She confessed to me in not so few words that she wants to have an affair with me. It all happened so fast that I just went along with it. I'm 20 years old and this beautiful mature woman wants me? It was my teenage dream come true. \n\nHere comes the problem. I want her, really bad but she has three kids and I'm a child of divorce myself so I know how hard that can be. She knows what she is getting herself into and is mature enough to make her own decisions. \n\nWe have kissed a few times and talked about what we would do if we were alone together. I'm conflicted on what to do...I really like her and our chemistry together is very strong but 5 or 10 years from now I don't want to be that guy that she made a mistake with that ended her marriage and caused all kinds of hell for her kids. \n\nI don't know if any of this is making sense but I need help. I'm not religious and I don't really mind but I keep thinking about her kids and what would happen if we were found out. I don't want to be the cause of such a life-changing event for a whole family but at the same time I want to indulge in my carnal desires...", "summary": "Married woman wants to have an affair but I don't want to ruin her and her kid's lives."}
{"id": "t3_ztt31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M21) need advice on how to get my girl(/woman)friend (F35) to understand that I don't hide things from her, I just communicate differently.", "post": "As the title says I'm 21yo male in a 9 month relationship with a 35yo female.\n\nShe has been very upset recently with me recently (to the point of saying she no longer wants to be in a relationship) because I was on the phone with her and texting another person at the same time. Her rationale is not that I was talking to the person whilst texting her (even though I think that is a big issue to her) but that I should have told her that I was texting the person instead of finding out from the person the next day.\n\nShe has always said that she hates hearing things about me from other people. I.e. when someone has told her something about me that I have told them that she did not know.\n\nI've always told her that I don't hide things from her: I'm just the kind of person who isn't very talkative and doesn't always volunteer information and tends to mention something if the topic comes up in a conversation,however if I am asked something I will readily and willingly answer. I have however tried to be more open with her.\n\nI don't want to lose her. \nHow do I phrase a good apology for not informing her about something I knew she would have wanted to know but absentmindedly didn't mention?\nHow do I explain my communication style in a manner that will get her to understand?\n\np.s. I have schizoid personality disorder (SPD), I think that is a contributory factor to how I communicate.", "summary": "I dont volunteer info as much as my gf would like. How do I apologise and make her see that I mean nothing by it?"}
{"id": "t3_31w7qn", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Hi /r/personalfinance. Should and can I move my current Fidelity stocks to a Roth IRA?", "post": "~~I understand that I can not contribute to my 2014 contribution limit since I have not created my Roth IRA account before December 31, 2014.~~ I had read misinformation regarding this. The [IRS site] says nothing about that. I had not considered opening one until I found this subreddit. I will definitely be opening one soon. Currently, I'm working on getting extra cash into my emergency fund. This means my best option would be to transfer my individual stocks in Fidelity to a Roth IRA. All of my stocks are performing well (except Microsoft. Darn you Microsoft). Is this possible? How should I go about this? I would rather save up $5,500 extra by the end of the year than sell any stocks (even MSFT).\n\nWith that said, is Fidelity an okay choice for a Roth IRA? They currently handle my 401k, ESPP, and my individual stock portfolio. I would be willing to sacrifice a small amount of monetary benefit for the benefit of keeping my accounts close toegther. In the future, I will be investing in Vanguard. I will never be doing short term trading. Despite my success in stocks, I have realized how it's really just luck, and I should really be investing in a Vanguard index fund. Any future monetary additions to the Roth IRA would go into this.\n\nThanks for the help and sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Can I move my Fidelity stocks to a (preferably) Fidelity Roth IRA? "}
{"id": "t3_356fsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [m28] broke it off with me [m25] because while I \"checked off every box for her\" she didn't feel a spark. This is the umpteenth time this has happened to me...", "post": "She said she felt there wasn't a spark and she couldn't be herself around me. She said I wasn't boring, but there wasn't that something extra. Even when we had sex, she said there wasn't that spark. I told her I'm emotionally closed off and find it hard to be emotionally intimate with people and that it takes time, hence my reasoning for us to take it slow. \n\nShe said I should see a therapist if I have emotional issues. My mother told me she told me to see a therapist 4-5 years ago. The girl I dated told me she was attracted to me and excitedly told all her friends, but felt that she couldn't connect with me.", "summary": "Yes I'm emotionally hurt and people wonder why I continue to be so. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ys4o4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can a layperson \"open up\" an ant hill, locate  the queen, and transport her to an artificial home  for a long term ant farm?", "post": "This has been a goal of mine ever since I saw my first ant farm as a child. I was fascinated by how they transformed the scenery of plain sand into intricate tunnels, but was extremely sad to learn they would all eventually die out from old age. I because obsessed with the idea of building larger scale ant farms, but using a queen to keep the colony alive over time (and princesses, etc.). \n\nAs I grew older, my scientific curiosity took me towards a different field, but I never lost my interest in the initial idea. I lack the technical information necessary to locate and transport a queen; keeping her alive and happy to breed a new colony. I suspect this will also require the transport of other ants as well. Does anyone know how to successfully transport ant queen/colonies into articial homes? \n\nSome general tips for large scale ant farm care would also be useful.", "summary": "I never grew up and I want a giant ant farm"}
{"id": "t3_2dr1e5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/M] have been with my girlfriend [17/F] for about 4 months and I need advice on how not to be overprotective.", "post": "This won't be too long of a post but it is a severe problem in the least. My girlfriend and I have a very loving relationship and we have dedicated ourselves to each other. I have a tendency of being very protective. I have trouble when she is out with her friends or doing stuff when I am not around. I have told her about this and she thinks it's fine and a tad cute as long as I don't act upon it. I haven't acted upon these feelings but every time I hear she is doing something and we are not together I get this very primal instinct that I need to protect her and be with her at every moment and I want it to stop. I don't want to suffocate our relationship by being too overprotective. Is there anyway that I can stop myself from feeling too overprotective so I can be happy when she is not around me and around me equally?", "summary": "Although I never act upon it I feel super protective of my girlfriend whenever she isn't around. How do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2anlpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20m] met a 20f at a party and not sure what it means", "post": "I was at a party today with my friend for a girl he knows birthday so I get there and we are a bit late and the birthday girl has been drinking but instantly almost she's all over me in that she is hugging and everything and she has her arms around me so this continues for about 20 minutes and she wants to take a selfie so I'm posed with her and she starts making out with me and I'm like oh yea so I don't refuse and then later we make out more but I don't do it too much because I was afraid I was taking advantage of her.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_24sdwy", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Transferring back to my old school?", "post": "Hello I am a college freshmen, and I transferred into the school I am in now after my first semester. I really thought I hated it there. I now believe that what I thought was me hating the college, was actually me just being homesick. Now that I am going to a college near my home, things are even worse. I hate everything here ten times worse than I did at my old school, and I have realized that what I am majoring in here, I am positive would not work out for me: Secondary Education. I am now at a crossroads, and I would love to go back to my old school, and major in Parks and Recreation to become a Park Ranger, but I just got invested in an apartment with my friend here... Needless to say, I am struggling with what I should do. I really want to pursue that major at that school, but I don't know how to get out of my contract with my friend at my new apartment. I don't want to leave my friend in a bad situation, but I don't think that paying for an apartment on top of transferring to a new school that will be two hours away from that apartment is the way to go. I think that I should live with my parents over the summer and save up some money, and then transfer back to my old school, but I am not sure. Please let me know what you think.", "summary": "Unsure if I should stay in an apartment and potentially stay at the school I currently hate for a semester, or drop out of my apartment, and transfer to a school that I hope to succeed at. If I were to leave the apartment, how would I go about doing that?"}
{"id": "t3_2el082", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I [19M] may be acting somewhat possessively about my not-quite girlfriend [19F] due to insecurity related to her feelings for me; seeking advice on how to stop these reactions and be a better partner.", "post": "**Background**: When I met this girl (at college) she had a long-distance, long-term boyfriend with whom she was in an open relationship. We started hooking up exclusively but had many ups and downs due to her not wanting to jeopardize her feelings for her boyfriend. *Her interactions with me and her boyfriend are not the topic of discussion for today.* They broke up this summer and after a long period spent getting over some associated guilt and hurt feelings, she and I agreed that we would try to be together this fall.\n\n**Issue at hand:** She feels that I hold a grudge against every person she's ever hooked up with other than me. This argument popped up because I brought up a one night stand she had this summer after her break up with her ex, me kind of overstating my jealousy of this hookup because I had \"existed\" at that point. I told her I disliked the idea of her kissing him or looking at him in the ways that we shared. It was all a little overstated maybe. She's a little upset over my reaction and I agree that what I said was possessive. \n\n**What I think**: I think that a lot of it may stem from insecurity about her feelings for me, given how we started off (just hooking up while she was in an open relationship), but I am afraid that I am possessive and that this will continue to be an issue for me in this relationship or future ones if I cannot correct it now and would like to hear your thoughts on possessiveness / how I can better avoid this.", "summary": "I'm being a little possessive and would like to fix that for this (and future) relationships. I think it may stem from insecurity over her feelings for me."}
{"id": "t3_3bsezj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU badly", "post": "Before the end of school year me and my english teacher made a deal, that she will give me higher mark, if I write 3 short essays. I wrote her an e-mail that i'm working and it may take a while. Well I log in my e-mail and see this: It is really sad that you have tricked me. She sent this 2 weeks ago. I had written the essays, but due to the laziness did not send, because they needed some corrections. Now I feel like a complete ass and don't know what to do. Don't be stupid - do your fucking job.", "summary": "made a deal with teacher. Didn't do what I was suppose to do. Got an e-mail from her. Feel sad."}
{"id": "t3_vu2j7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Dating a guy who was originally very attentive, then I get blown off. Why? What should I do?", "post": "Hi r/dating_advice,\n\nI apologize if this has come up before, but after some googling I couldn't find any good advice for my situation. I met this guy online and I've been dating him for about 3 weeks. We are casually dating, and I initially didn't want anything serious, but the more I spend time with him the more I like him. Originally, he wanted to set up dates with me no more than 1 or 2 days after we last saw each other and he was very good about texting and sending messages about when he was living from his city (we live about 20 minutes away) and when he would get to my city. \n\nThen this week on Wednesday, he suggests we hang out on Friday. I was invited to happy hour with some friends already, and so I ask if he'd like to join. He says yes. I text him the next day telling him when and where we are meeting, and just to let me know when he gets off work. I get **no reply**. This was the first warning sign. So I arrive at the place for happy hour with my friends and then I finally text him an hour into it to tell him where we are. \n\nHe FINALLY texts me back an hour later saying that he has too much work and can't meet up. I was very annoyed and hurt because I felt like we were really hitting it off, and he didn't seem like the type of guy who would just blow someone off. He also texts \"would I like to meet tomorrow?\" I say that I am actually busy. The good thing is(1 hour later), he does apologize and acknowledge that he should have texted me earlier. I tell him that yes he should have, and that I am busy, but I will be free starting Sunday night. So far no reply.\n\nI don't really no what to think or what to do. Any insight?", "summary": "Guy I'm dating acts very interested in me than cancels a date 2 hours later. Why and what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2kwalv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my ex-boyfriend [27 M] of one year - Should I give up or hold onto some hope?", "post": "My ex and I were a great couple. We worked everything out and had a very healthy relationship.\n\nMy ex had a few issues, depression and ED. They were something we were working on together and everything was going pretty well.\nFast forward a year later - he dumps me, almost out of the blue. We had been fighting a little more than usual but nothing crazy. He says he needs time and space to figure himself out. The breakup itself was not ugly and he cried while doing it. I stayed neutral and said I didnt want to break up but I understood.\n\nHe contacts me a few days later saying how upset he is, I answer nicely again but do not say anything about getting back together. I moved all of my stuff out of his apartment a few weeks later and tried my best to remain completely composed. He starts hysterically crying and asking if Im OK. I said I was and we had a brief chat, but again, he says nothing about us getting back together.\n\nI dont know if Ive been hanging onto hope or what. I want him back but I dont know if thats going to happen. I cant tell if this is all bullshit or what. I miss him but I will not contact him and I will not beg him to take me back. So, here I am.", "summary": "Does anyone think its foolish to hang onto hope here?"}
{"id": "t3_3pbvjr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Unexpected medical emergency... please help!", "post": "First time posting here, and possibly not coherent, please bare with me. \n\nI'll start off by saying that I live with my mother, who works at a good job, and provides the majority of the cash flow for our home. I back her up, making a measly $1200/month or so.\n\nUnfortunately, my mother was rushed to the ER the other night, and after an ambulance ride, a stay in the ER, and being moved to the Trauma ICU, is still not very responsive and they are saying she has a long road of recovery ahead of her. That is all fine and expected, however, I have already had to take 3 days off of emergency, unpaid, family medical leave. I am the only one eligible to make decisions for her while she is unresponsive, being the only family member in the state. That is giving me a major blow to my upcoming paycheck. We also have no idea how long she will be in the hospital, and while she has great insurance, because she works for this hospital, I know the bill is piling up and I will have to handle it. \n\nUpcoming, we are going to have a phone bill to pay, car insurance for 2 vehicles to pay, rent, and any utilities that come through, along with our cable/internet bill. \n\nI have never lived on my own, and have not had to handle this much before. I have no idea how to go about it. I don't want to dip into the money my mother has in the house, because we may need it, and I do not have access to her bank account and have no idea if anything is going to auto-withdraw from those. Being as my mother is currently unconscious due to sedation, I have no idea how to even access this information to find anything out. I have not been able to find a will/power of attorney document in her things. \n\nI can ask family for money if it really comes down to it, I have even thought about starting a fundme page, but I still have no idea how to access accounts and handle paying the bills that are in her name. Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "My mother is in the hospital for an undetermined amount of time, and I have no access to accounts to handle bills that will need to be paid in the upcoming weeks. I know I do not make enough money to pay all of this on my own. What are my options?"}
{"id": "t3_3jfeat", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not meeting a client.", "post": "I got up early this morning, and decided to call the number that he had given. We agreed I was suppose to meet him, the engineer in square one at 7:00pm. 7:00pm is a lot of time I thought, might as well go on reddit. And a redditting I went. \n\nA quick scroll of the front page turned up something quite interesting that read something like, \"freeze peaches are thawed when..something, something shower mods and one user.\" \n\nWhy does this sound familiar, I thought, and a quick click revealed why. Apparently some user had pissed off the Mods over at /r/Showerthoughts and things got blown out of proportion because each Mod who came to respond ended up sounding dumber than the last. Then I got a good look at the conversation and realized oh, that was me. \n\nNot sure why but after that, every neckbearded idiot with a thesaurus was after me. One particular basement dweller decided he was gonna give me a piece of his mind on the Mods behalf, which led to a really long back and forth. *\"10hours later.\"* I suddenly remembered that I was suppose to be somewhere at 7, it was 7:20pm. I ended up having to call and cancel. (Reddit!)", "summary": "Got into an argument on reddit had to cancel potential client."}
{"id": "t3_4p5421", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] am a foreigner and was asked out by a girl. During our \"date,\" I felt subtly downgraded. Would appreciate some context and advice.", "post": "Hi guys, I'm[M28] from India and I was recently asked out by a girl[F21] here in the US. We're at a university, she's an undergrad and I'm a grad, and we kinda saw each other on the regular without much conversation. On fb, she told me \"you're inspiring and beautiful\" and we \"should totally hang.\" We went out on our \"date\" yesterday.\n\nThings went well. What started out as a coffee date became a pub crawl of sorts lasting nearly four hours. Conversation seemed brisk, and she even suggested to plus 1 with me at a party and we made future hiking plans. \n\nHalfway through, she mentioned that some other guys had been vying for her attention. She did this repeatedly. Also, at one point, she subtly mentioned that this was \"hanging out,\" not dating. I felt like I had just been downgraded.\n\nSo my question is, is she trying to get me to compete, or have I been friendzoned? Or maybe I misread her intentions in the beginning, when she said things like \"you're inspiring and beautiful\" and \"we should totally hang.\" In that context, it felt like a dating proposition. Also, is there a point where I should escalate physical contact? \n\nI should clarify, I find her cute, but not desperately so, and should it be the case that I have been friendzoned, I'm thinking I should just hang and leverage her to access interesting people.\n\nI'm unaccustomed to American dating norms and inexperienced in dating, though this isn't my first date. Its possible possible I'm completely missing the point.\n\nSome context from Americans would be appreciated.", "summary": "Indian dude asked out by girl. Felt subtly downgraded. Unsure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3qo2ty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] am insecure of my boyfriend's [21 M] sexual past.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. I was a virgin before we started dating and he has had 4 partners (3 hook ups and 1 serious relationship )before me. I am very jealous and insecure and would LOVE to get over these feelings. It is ruining our relationship. He is such a perfect person and it makes me cry how much this causes me distress. I would really like to get over these feelings and i'm not sure what to do about it. I care for him a lot but these thoughts are affecting me mentally and I think about breaking up at times because I can not handle it. I feel like having been a virgin a prior to him is what is making me insecure. Also, I caught him lying about not having slept with the girl he dated before me so this is also  a strain in our relationship.\n\nReddit: \nIs sex a big deal???? \n\nIs sex with someone you love different from a hookup? Does it feel different?\n\nAm i missing out on anything for not being more sexually experienced?", "summary": "Insecure about my boyfriend's past"}
{"id": "t3_503198", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend (21F) of mine (21M) is coming to town and asked to stay the night at my place? I had a massive crush on her a year ago.", "post": "We're both current university students - she's working for the upcoming term and as a result has her apartment rented out. We're really close, so she reached out to me and asked if she could stay over at my place tomorrow night, due to the fact she has an exam the following day. We first started talking a couple years ago because I had a massive crush on her. \n\nI'm sure I'm overthinking everything here, because to my knowledge she's never had a crush on me. We've joked that if we're both still single by our late 20's we'd start dating. I definitely still have some romantic feelings for her, and wouldn't be opposed to something *more* happening tomorrow. \n\nAs of this moment, I'm going to pick her up tomorrow night from the bus stop, she's going out for a drink with some old friends then she's going to come back and we're going to watch Game of Thrones together. The TV is in my room and the only real sitting space is my bed.... which I also said she could have for the night.\n\nI guess my predicament is should I make a move? I think I want to but I don't know what kind of reaction to expect...", "summary": "Really close friend is coming to stay at my place for the night, I had a crush on her in the past and am considering making a move but I'm not sure if I should..."}
{"id": "t3_1anc25", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm having a lot of trouble concentrating, your thoughts?", "post": "Okay, so when I was younger I used to stay up literally all night reading. My step dad would come in and check on me when he noticed the light still on, and I'd ask him if I could read for just ten more minutes, thinking he was going to yell at me for being up so late. He never did, because he thought it was the greatest thing ever. It would take me MAYBE a week to read a book. That lasted from as far back as I can remember until a few years ago. For some reason, every time I try to sit down and seriously read or even watch a movie, I can't do it. I read the same thing over and over, or I space out and five minutes later have no idea what's going on in the storyline. I also tend to just fall asleep. I can't even pick a movie to watch on netflix, because I know I won't be able to pay attention like I want to or that I'll fall asleep within ten minutes. This isn't necessarily affecting my every day life except for that I don't read as much or watch as many movies as I used to. I really would like to be able to read a book cover to cover in just a few days(rather than finishing months later, if at all). What's wrong with me and how do I fix it?! Thanks reddit!", "summary": "I can't even read a book without getting distracted or falling asleep, why is this and how can I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2i7rf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/23] and overwhelmed with sexual desire for my sister-in-law [F/21]", "post": "I [M/23] have been married for a little over a year and a half. I absolutely love my wife [F/25] and we are very happy together. We have a great sex life. I have no desire to cheat on her and I truly think that she is absolutely gorgeous, inside and out. \n\nThe problem is that whenever I am around her younger sister I am completely overwhelmed with sexual desire for her. It is literally all I can think about. I spend the entire time we are near each other imagining her naked and what it would be like to have sex with her. \n\nFortunately, we live 700 miles apart and I am only around her 2-3 times/year. However, my quality time with my wife's family and my desire for my wife are seriously hindered by this uncontrollable sexual desire for my sister-in-law during family trips, etc.", "summary": "I love my wife and we have a solid relationship, but whenever I am near her younger sister I am overcome with sexual desire for her. What do I do? Who do I tell/not tell? Advise Please!"}
{"id": "t3_50m3ko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I avoid the Friend Zone", "post": "I (23M) met a girl (21F) at my friend's house, they share the flat with a bunch of people and I have a huge crush on her. We met when I was waiting for him and she was all by herself and started talking to me while I waited. She probably told me all of her life story and a told a lot about mine. In the same day we met we end up going out to have a drink and returned to one of her friends house talking and watching movies till morning. \n\nOn that week we had lunch together and are going out this weekend. \n\nThe problem is that I feel I'm getting into a Friend Zone scenario and I'm not sure what to do. \n\nWhat should I do to not fall in the friend zone before it is too late?", "summary": "Friend zone, what to do"}
{"id": "t3_18lm7t", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I [17M] try for a relationship with this girl (17F)?", "post": "We're both in grade 12. I've known her for ~5 months now, crushing for 3, and have been really close to her for 2. I've never been in a relationship before while she's had a slew of relationships (4) that've all ended badly, leaving her emotionally unstable with trust issues. I pursued her, got friendzoned, but decided to be her friend and gained her trust. We formed a relationship of complete honesty and openness, and she was able to open up to me. We grew to be really close friends and were very comfortable with each other, me focusing on trying to get over her. Then, she told me last week that she had a crush on me!\n\nThe problem? She recognizes that she is emotionally unstable & in a transitional state, and doesn't think we'd see each other much post-high-school. She doesn't want to enter a relationship because she doesn't think it would be feasible with her being emotionally unstable. Apart from that, I love spending time with her and we have very similar desires for what we want in a relationship. The honesty aspect of my relationship with her is also just awesome. (Also, I asked her to prom!)\n\nMy question is this: *What are the dangers of being in a relationship with a mentally fragile person, and (how) should I convince her to enter such a relationship?*\n\nI know that I definitely have no problem with supporting her and bearing her burden emotionally. Firstly, I do that for her regardless of my relationship status with her. Secondly, I actually find people and talk to them about things like this actively, trying to help people with similar issues. So I certainly will have no problems in that department.", "summary": "Pursued girl, friendzoned, broke out, but she's emotionally unstable. What are the risks of being in a relationship with her?***"}
{"id": "t3_1tssty", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Almost 2 year relationship [M25] [F24] growing cold?", "post": "Basically, our sex life has grown more and more infrequent. We haven't had sex since September. Now, I know many people have the knee jerk \"dump her\" reaction, but there are few factors that make it less black & white.\n\nShe lives 5 minutes from me, and I am certain there is no one else. I almost wish there was. Her actual problem, whether she knows it or not, is that she is depressed. She is attempting to get a good job and it's wearing her down. Some days she just stays in her apartment and sleeps all the time. So, when she says she doesn't feel like doing it, I believe her.\n\nAdditionally, I'm of the opinion that dumping her during these tough times would only make things worse. I honestly worry about what kind of person she would develop into if I wasn't here encouraging her to keep trying, to get out and go someplace (a challenge in itself). Getting her to see a psychiatrist is out of the question due to the stigma attached to it here (we are not in the US).\n\nBasically, my plan, and I told her this, is to put things on a trial. I will continue to \"endure\" until she gets a good job and things are good again, but if she doesn't cheer up and start acting like she used to, I will have to move on. Is this a bad idea?\n\nI do worry because I have pretty much spoiled her. I try to counteract this by reminding her that my niceness does have its limits. Honestly, my own sex drive isn't what it used to be. We kind of feel like an old married couple at times, and we are just content to roll over and fall asleep.\n\nOne final factor is that next month I am getting checked out for a certain kind of cancer, and the chances of me having it are very real (runs in my family and I have some symptoms). I couldn't imagine going through chemo without her.", "summary": "We don't have sex anymore, but we really don't want to be alone either...."}
{"id": "t3_2i2dt4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] am starting to develop feelings for my friend [20M] who has had feelings for me for a long time, but I need some advice", "post": "There's a few complications though. \n\nThe first being that I've told him about ten times in the past two years that I don't have feelings for him, once in the past few weeks. \n\nThe second, I don't want to start something only to realize I either don't actually feel that way after telling him no so long.  \n\nThird, I'm not physically attracted to him. This one is the one that kills me. I want to be but I'm just not. I feel horrible knowing that if he lost weight and got fit I'd be less hesitant about start something. Even if I could get over it physically it'd really bother me because I don't want people I'm close to keeling over at relatively young ages from heart attacks and whatnot.\n\nOther than that this guy is great. We have a lot in common, we've been friends for a while, he's super nice etc. That's why it kills me that it's three tiny things that are holding me back, and one of them makes me feel petty as hell.", "summary": "I've turned him down relatively recently. I'm not sure of my entirely sure about my feelings. The feelings are pretty much entirely emotional. I really like him as a person, but at the end of the day relationships are physical and mental, and you should like both, right?"}
{"id": "t3_327n3o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How should I [18M] escalate things with this girl [18F] in my university club", "post": "So we are both in a club at my university and so hopefully I'll be seeing a lot of her as time goes on. The delema I am facing is how to take things from just being friends to a more romantic/dating relationship. I haven't talked to her a lot but that's mostly due to my shy nature (I get more comfortable with people as time goes on). I'm almost 19 and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 15, and even then it wasn't anything serious (was a lame month kind of thing). How do I approach getting a girlfriend since I haven't really done it and I have no idea where to go from here.", "summary": "I'm crushing on this girl but I don't know how to get a girlfriend, don't want to just be friends."}
{"id": "t3_178z69", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Going on a third date with a shy guy... should I take the lead or be patient and wait for him to make a move?", "post": "*", "summary": "Want to kiss a shy guy on our third date, but not sure whether I should initiate or wait for him to do so. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3f9490", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Unsure about my (21M) friend's (21F) intentions inviting me to an amusement park this weekend", "post": "Not even sure if this is the best place to post this but here goes:\n\nAbout 3 days ago I got invited by my friend and classmate (let's call her Katie) to spend this Saturday at an amusement park a few towns (let's call it town A) over, and also to maybe watch some movies. The company (X) she interns at is also located in town A and gives them cheap tickets to the amusement park and movies. I said sure, and asked her if I could invite some friends. She said yes so I did but everyone I invited couldn't go due to prior obligations.\n\nSome background: a lot of my classmates are interning for company X, so I assumed it would be a group get together party type of deal for classmates. Katie and I are good friends, we've had some heart-to-heart but I don't want any kind of relationship with her, nor do I find her really *that* attractive. \n\nAbout an hour ago I get a call from Katie saying every other one of my classmates in town A has peaced or has other plans for the weekend. She's a little buzzed but we talked and she made plans for a party Friday night, then amusement park and movies the next day. I didn't want to sound mean over the phone but hearing everyone else has basically peaced makes me wonder if she has ulterior motives for inviting me over (to a party on Friday night, of all things). She even admitted that it'd be basically me and her for all of Friday night and Saturday, and overall sounded super eager to see me. \n\nShould I even go at all? Basically if she makes any sort of move I'll have to turn her down. Then it'd be hella fucking awkward for the rest of the time together. I could always jet because I have my own car but that'd be REALLY shitty and hurtful of me. If there's the potential, I'd like to avoid this situation altogether. It is really easy to come up with some last minute excuse why I can't drive 2 hours over to town A.", "summary": "Female friend who I'm not attracted to invites me a ways over for movies and an amusement park, was supposed to be a group thing but now it's just me and her. Need to decide whether to go through or bail. "}
{"id": "t3_2fznv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(F/22) boyfriend (m/23) Is completely unmotivated to make serious life decisions/changes.", "post": "Hi so Let me preface this problem by saying I love my boyfriend. We've been best friends for 6 years and dating for 2 1/2 years. When we're together it's hard to imagine that anything could ever be wrong. He makes me happy by just smiling at me and our sex life is THE BEST. \n\nRight to it, He's 23 and has admitted to me that he has no idea what he wants to do. Not even a general idea about where he wants to be in the future. He used to want to do something with music, but he's changed his mind about that. (My brother is trying to break through the industry and its taking a toll on his mental well being and his wallet) He doesn't have a degree and doesn't go to school now. He works for a landscaping company. He also has little to no people skills, he hates talking on the phone and he's generally very withdrawn. He says he's making enough money but I don't really believe him. We smoke weed, so maybe 40 bucks a week go to that. We also like to eat out on the weekends. He also lives at home rent free. The only bill he has is his car insurance bill.\n\nWe've looked through trade programs together and talked about different majors but he's indecisiveness, nothings \"grabbed him\" yet. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have a career and I'm saving real adult amounts of money. I wanna go to Europe and eventually move out to Colorado (we're in NJ)\n\nWe've also never fought, which i think is weird, but i'm not gonna start a fight with him. We both don't like confrontation. I just don't know. I love this man, like ALOT. He feels right. I want him to be the one, but I can't put up with his lack of motivation forever.", "summary": "How can I get my Boyfriend to start taking life, and our relationship seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_2vbdqk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: by not learning from others", "post": "So I'm going to keep this post short and to the point. I've ALWAYS wondered how the fuck people could shit their pants in public. Like wtf, can you really not control your asshole? I've even always thought of myself as someone with pretty great ass-control (asstrol) so this was never a legitimate concern for me. I thought it was solely reserved for dinguses and people with horrible asstrol. Well today I figured it out, folks; literally 30 minutes ago. Sometimes it feels like a fart, and by the time your ass opens up for it, liquid shit runs out. Worst experience 10/10 would not recommend.", "summary": "I shit my pants and now believe that it truly can happen to anyone. Even someone with pretty solid butt-control."}
{"id": "t3_f8rqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "An Online Encounter is Ruining Every Relationship I have. What Should I do?", "post": "About a year and a half ago, I flew to California to meet a guy that I met online. (I live in Boston) It was an amazing weekend, we had this incredible connection and we are both having trouble getting over it. We've had a few plans to see each other again, but something always comes in the way and we decide it's not good to see each other. \nHe's a very jealous type guy and I get attention from guys, so we get into these huge fights. About 6 months ago, I had sex with someone else and he freaked out so the week after I went out with a guy and I've been dating him ever since. \nThis new guy is incredible, he's smart, attractive, good in bed, and he encourages me to better myself. But for some reason I can't get my mind off of this guy from California. He emailed me a few nights ago and said that seeing me with someone else is driving him crazy and he's madly in love with me. I emailed him back and said I want to be with him and he agreed. \nNow I'm not sure what to do, should I stay with this guy that I've been dating? Or should I follow my heart and move to california for this guy that I have an incredible connection with. I've broken up with a ton of guys because of my feelings for him. I know that I will be questioning what could have been if I don't pursue him.", "summary": "I met a guy online from across the country and the thought of him is ruining every one of my relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2utahm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [20 M] in an awesome, loving relationship with my girlfriend of 6 months [19 F], but the last few weeks I've been feeling guilty finding other girls attractive.", "post": "As the title says, I'm in a wonderful relationship with a near-perfect girl. This relationship is, in fact, the first time I've ever said \"I love you\" to a S/O.\n\nSchool just started for me again a couple weeks ago. While walking around campus occasionally I'll see a girl that I think is really good looking. I feel some lust, then a lot of guilt. Usually after a while I can shake it off pretty easily by reminding myself how lucky I am to be in a relationship with the girl of my dreams.\n\nEarlier today, an attractive girl in one of my classes came up to me after class and said \"I think you're cute, let me get your phone number and we can study sometime.\" I told her I was flattered but in a relationship, but we can still study together because that class is super fucking hard and I have a hard time making friends to study with anyway (I'm a pretty reserved guy). \n\nThe problem is that when she said that to me I felt the same feeling of butterflies and excitement that I felt when I first met my S/O. I've been feeling a terrible gnawing of guilt since then and I just can't shake it... I can't even start to work on my homework because it occupies my every thought.\n\nWhat am I to do? How do I either stop finding other girls attractive or stop feeling guilty? Am I wrong for taking pleasure in being desired by someone other than my S/O? Or is it OK?", "summary": "In a great relationship, finding other girls attractive, feeling guilty, don't know what to do with these feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1xtohv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22F doesn't know what is happening with 23M", "post": "Hello. I am a 22F and lately I have been going out with 23M weekly. We texted every day, planned outing to the zoo etc, picks me up for supper/ random movie outing etc. He even has a polaroid of us at the back of his phone and his friends tease us a lot. He bought me a Kiel James Patrick bracelet that I have been eyeing for a few months and even got himself the exact one too. \n\nHowever, he left for Australia to study for 1.5 years last week and even though we still text, I don't know if there is anything going on between us. He has never been in a relationship before and I just don't know what is going on... I don't know how to hint to him that I like him because I don't know if he likes me too. What should I do?", "summary": "I don't know what direction are we headed for, and I don't know how to ~hint~ to him that I like him because I'm not sure if he might feel the same."}
{"id": "t3_1kid5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my brother (18) depressed or just being a normal teenager?", "post": "I'm worried about him. He just graduated high school and was not doing well, even though he's incredibly smart. He stopped doing his work and only barely passed after his teachers let him turn in all his work in one shot.\n\nHe also does not talk to my dad anymore (who we live with) and doesn't eat dinner with us anymore. He has relatively poor hygeine and sleeps all day. Is this normal? He might be stressed out to enter adult life. He hardly ever comes out of his room, and he doesn't when my dad is around, but he does have friends who he sees every so often. Is he just enjoying his summer being a lazy teenager before college starts?\n\nSigned, worried sister (23)", "summary": "Brother might be depressed?"}
{"id": "t3_3bfkuy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being confused by where a $ goes.", "post": "So, like many posts in this sub, this didn't happen today. It actually happened last night. I was reading a very interesting article about a redditor who tried to steal a 10 dollar bill from a Starbucks tip jar that he put in and almost got mugged for it. \n\nThis is when the fuck up happened. Me, attempting to find some comedic relief, decided to comment on the fact that 10 dollars could probably get them the used water they cleaned the dishes with. I typed \"10$\" instead of \"$10\" and now my inbox is crying slowly from its onslaught of hate mail.", "summary": "Stay in school kids."}
{"id": "t3_1tmq21", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] have dated for 4.5 years, how do I break up with her in the most painless way possible?", "post": "This relationship should have ended a long time ago, but has been dragged out for so many reasons. I could write a book on the whole situation!\n\nAnyway, the current situation is I completely fed up with the relationship and my emotions checked out of this relationship a while ago. She still says she still loves me (or rather loves what our relationship used to be).\n\nSo how do I end this? Do I simply say to her \"I'm breaking up with you\"? Do I give her reasons why? Should I writer her a short novel on of all the reasons why I'm a terrible boyfriend and why she shouldn't love me? How would you want someone to break up with you?", "summary": "What can I do to make the break up process as painless as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_1q6cc4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is a story that someone told that makes you look bad but you have a completely legitimate side to the story that shows the situation in a better light?", "post": "My current roommate (college) and I have been good friends and living together for a year and a half after being randomly assigned to live together. However, she came into the situation of living with me expecting me to be some terrible person with no regards to others feelings, when in fact I'm very compassionate. Apparently my boyfriends ex-girlfriend and my roommate were friends and the ex-gf said that I was a home wrecking bitch due to the fact that we had been friends and I started dating her ex. In retrospect, after I broke up with my ex she always invited him over to hang out with us even though I told her it made me uncomfortable and I really didn't want him to hang out with us because he was obviously not over me. When I started dating my boyfriend I made sure that her and him never saw eachother because neither liked the other. She then told me we could no longer be friends because knowing that I was with him basically tainted her view of me and it made her violently ill to even look at me...", "summary": "Dating the love of my life, derp, his ex is crazy, tried to get my current roommate to hate me unsuccessfully."}
{"id": "t3_4ytyrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my 25 [F] for 5 months, she has been very flirty - need advice from ladies in particular on how to handle such situation?", "post": "So I am single guy. My co-worker loves to flirt with me. She touches me, puts her head on my shoulders & loves to talk with me whenever there is a chance etc. At first, I thought she was interested in me, and I flirted back as Im pretty interested in her as well But soon I find out through other co-workers that she already has a boyfriend, and they have been in a relationship for many years. For some reason she tries very hard to hide the fact she has a boyfriend. So then its obvious to me that she is just teasing me - and I am seeking advice from the women of reddit on how do I deal with this situation.\nI obviously do not want to be anymore emotionally invested with her since this relationship clearly isnt going anywhere. So I guess the way to do this is to distance myself from her. But at the same time I dont want things to be awkward between us.\nSo my first question: I really need to know how to handle this situation - should I just act cold towards her & ignore her? Would this be too extreme a response?\nSecond question: Out of curiosity - why do women with boyfriends still flirt with others? Not trying to be mean to women, but I find this despicably selfish -- it feels like they love feeling good about themselves at the expense of hurting the poor guy -- that's how i feel anyway.\nThanks", "summary": "Co-worker loves to flirt with me even though she already has a boyfriend for many years. How do I stop myself from being more emotionally invested in the relationship? How should I handle such a girl? Why do girls do such hurtful things?"}
{"id": "t3_1bey12", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been feeling really dumb lately. How do I overcome it?", "post": "I cant hold a conversation with out thinking (nothing is coming natural to me), I get lost in my own thoughts while saying them, I forget what I'm talking about during the conversation, I forget the generic answers of my research papers/homework/independent reading when someone asks me what it(they) is(are) about. I feel stupid. I've been diagnosed with ADHD so that may have something do with it; but I just feel stupid. **I cant really explain it but the best way is that I feel like my brain is numb** \n\nI read a lot (fiction reading and text book) and enjoy it, I love to learn and have often felt myself developing from a fictional character based on his values. But lately I feel like my memory is off. I couldn't explain to you what I learned in the last class I was in unless I looked at my notes. I couldn't explain to you the novel I'm reading right now. I cant stress that enough. My short term memory is literally blank.\n\nI will be in class or reading a book, be completely in the moment (with class I'll be thinking of real life scenarios and with what I'm learning how to put in action/ with fiction novels its the same thing; as I read I feel like the plot is literally happening to me) and yet I can not remember a single thing. This started a couple years ago and has gradually gotten worse and worse. But I literally can not remember anything, studying has become overwhelming because I have to study hours on end to remember stuff and if I don't keep practicing, it will all disappear from my mind within a couple days.\n\nI just need advice on how to overcome this, I literally feel stupid, and I get worried about the placebo affect (I know that's weird) because I recognize the brain as a smart machine and from studying placebo affects I freak myself out. I just think that if i think I'm stupid my brain will make me be stupid, so I try to think I'm smart but the stupid rolls in. \n\nIt's really hard to explain.", "summary": "I feel stoopid! How do I make me like a smart thing again?"}
{"id": "t3_1wbbkk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "CenturyLink ISP Lies", "post": "So just recently moved to Tucson with my SO who was stationed at Davis-Monthan afb. We signed up with centurylink to get the $30 a month plan about a month ago. I'll just list the lies and overcharges as bullet points to make this easy to read.\n\n$100 for modem we did not order. We have our own and informed them of this thought the order process.\n\n$15 shipping for said unwanted modem\n\n$20 for installing said modem (which I installed myself)\n\n$15 for 4 days prorated not at the advertised rate of $30 a month\n\n$30 a month for up to 72 Mbps. Which we are only seeing 12mbps which is covered under a $20 plan\n\nWe did call the company and even asked to speak to a supervisor about these problems. To which there reply was \"it was not lying, we just did not disclose these charges\". The problem being we inquired what our first months charges would be and were told \" only slightly higher than any other month due to the prorate charge\". Obviously they are assuming they will just walk all over us and not care. They didn't even offer to change the monthly plan to reflect the speeds we are getting or take back there modem. While we are not broke we do try to keep a budget and things like this really take a bite out of it and I think if they don't care to fix it others should know.", "summary": "century link is charging us (a lot) for items and services not requested nor delivered."}
{"id": "t3_4213uc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Father wants me to buy his house. How to protect myself?", "post": "Hello reddit. Lurking for about three years, first post(I think).  Advice, comments, opinions welcome.\nHere's some more details to get you started:\nThe situation he has in mind is that I would buy his soon to be ex wife's (not an amicable marriage) half of the house so that he could continue to live there. I would take over the payments and therefore make it possible for him to get refinanced, since his wife is now the primary earner. Although this scenario could possibly work out for me as well, I see some potential red flags. For one, the bank refused to refinance due to his income, and also because the house and yard are in a state of neglect: piles of old tools, yard not maintained, additions to the house unfinished. It's pretty slummy looking, but not quite a health hazard. And he has begun cleaning up and finishing his projects.\nMy dad collects a monthly check, about 660. Plus odd jobs here and there, maybe total monthly income 1500 in summer, 800 in winter; this being a very rough estimate.\nHis expenses include: My brother's tuition (>< 500 a month), mortgage (>< 1000 a month), utilities.  He had an unexpected expense about a year and a half ago, for about 10 grand. Plus he has traveled to Tokyo and to Mexico in the past year. These trips probably cost about 5-6 thousand total, since he had accomodations paid for. It seems to me that his expenses are more than his income. For these and other reasons,   I get the impression he is reckless with money. Before now, I have actually wondered if I would somehow have to deal with some fallout, probably tax related, when he passes.", "summary": "Don't trust my dad with money; need more information before committing myself financially."}
{"id": "t3_2ul1dp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by one uping my friend", "post": "So im typical guy nothing special, but i'm surrounded by friends who are in relationships.  Anyways, i'm not the only one that's single but my friend we'll call him \"Shilliam\" and I always do stupid shit so my other friend was in a relationship, call him \"Anthony\", and he was making out with his GF in a band locker room.  Shilliam and I decided it would be funny to interrupt their make out session by doing stupid shit in front of them.  Shilliam decided to twerk in front of them and he told me to one up him.  So being the stupid fuck i am, i decided to jump on a door knob...which didnt hurt as much as i thought at first due to the adrenaline but then i felt some liquid in my boxers and i found out it was blood...i jumped on a door knob and one upped my friend but in return, the door knob gave me blood for my butthole to enjoy...it still reminds me to not do something as stupid as that because I see that door knob every. day.", "summary": "i one upped my friend by jumping on a door knob because im stupid"}
{"id": "t3_1iv5x1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] seeing a guy [39M] and I don't know what is going on", "post": "I've been seeing a guy for about five weeks now, and I have no idea what's going on.\n\nWe met through a mutual friend, and he asked me out about an hour after I broke up with the last guy I was seeing (we were out with a group, he asked me how things were going with the bf, I said I was going to break up with him in the next few minutes, guy fb messages me a little while later to ask if I wanna grab drinks a few days later).\n\nWe have a great first date: a few drinks and lots of talking followed by a movie at his place and making out.\n\nA few days later, I ask him if he wants to do something the following Saturday, and he says, \"Oh, uh, I'll let you know,\" and he did actually let me know that he was busy that weekend.\n\nA week after that, we out with friends, and he invites me back to his place for sexy-times (which was amazing, btw).\n\nTwo days later, he invites me over again, and I tell him that I'm not okay being just a hookup. He says we should just be friends.\n\nThe following Monday, I decide that I'll be a great friend in a short, tight dress. Sexy-times ensue.\n\nTwo days later, he invites me out on something I think was a date. He paid, so I'm gonna assume it was.\n\nNext Monday's friend-outing leads to sex again.\n\nLast Thursday, we go to a group event, and he invites me over afterwards. I tell him I'm instigating a 1:2 ratio of dates:sex, so I won't go home with him.\n\nFinally, tonight, I was supposed to see him at a thing with friends, but my car was acting up. I told him that, hoping that he would volunteer to give me a ride; he did not, just said sorry about my car.\n\nI really like this guy, but it seems like mixed signals all over the place.", "summary": "Is this guy just stringing me along for sex, or am I just too impatient to let things play out the way they're supposed to?"}
{"id": "t3_2qs69t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17 M] girlfriend [19 F] of two years is extremely bothered that she's not my best friend on Snapchat.", "post": "A couple days ago she mentioned that it bothered her in a text conversation (she's on vacation, so we haven't been able to be together or make phone calls for a week or so). I asked her if it really bothered her and she said \"I can't really explain so can I change my answer?\" I said something along the lines of \"Only if you tell the truth\", after which she said good night and went to bed. I knew it was bothering her and would continue to bother her, so I didn't make a big deal about it because I didn't want to have a blow-up fight over text and while she was on vacation. She's mentioned it a couple times since then, and tonight I just asked her why it bothered her so much. She's not really answering my questions. She just says that it really bothers her that I Snapchat with someone else (a completely platonic female friend) than with her. I think she's being unreasonable, considering we spend an enormous amount of time together, text a lot when we're not together, and I consider myself to be a really good boyfriend, whereas this female friend of mine and I communicate mainly over Snapchat (she's at school and I work a lot). Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Girlfriend is bothered because she's not my best friend on Snapchat."}
{"id": "t3_2mfpxd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23M) ex girlfriend's roommate (22F) who I have always been in love with just chatted me up in a club.", "post": "Three and a half years ago I broke up with a girl, it was a pretty shitty relationship and we are both better off. \n\nHowever, her roommate who I was totally in love with at the time (never acted on it) bumped into me at a club. She was all over me and I was just stunned. We didn't do anything but there was lots of smiles, giggles and playful touching going on. All the feelings came rushing back and I wanted nothing more than to kiss her. \n\nHowever she is still roommates with my ex and they are close friends. I know the kind of drama this will cause and I don't want to hurt anyone. I can't help but feel I'll be hurting myself if I don't though. \n\nI have no idea what to do.", "summary": "My ex's roommate was all over me and I don't know if I should act on it."}
{"id": "t3_lj6rx", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Ran a 12.3 mile half marathon. I feel cheated. Ever happened to anyone else?", "post": "So I've only been running since about May or so. Lost 60 lbs in the process and worked my way up to be able to do the Leavenworth Oktoberfest half Mary this past Saturday. \n\nPerfect weather, sunny, a little chilly to start. I felt great and had what I considered a fairly lofty goal of 1:45 (8 minute mile x 13.1)\n\nSpent the miles chasing this older lady who didn't look like she should've been able to run as fast as she did. Passed her towards the end in a full on sprint to the finish. I felt awesome! Looked at my time and saw 1:37.\n\nMan it felt nice. But I found out a couple days later that someone working the route didn't know what they were doing and didn't direct runners down a little .8 mile dog leg. So I (and apparently a LOT of other people) only ran 12.3! Man I'm bummed. I would've gladly given up making it under my goal time in exchange for actually having run the full course! At least I have my plans for this weekend... I'm running a full 13.1 so I can finally say truthfully that I did it and get over the feeling of being cheated. \n\nEver have something like this happen on other courses? I think some of the full marathon runners missed it too. How would this affect their BQs? So far no answer from the people who ran the show.", "summary": "Missed .8 miles of my half marathon last weekend and feel like my accomplishment was snatched away from me when I found out days later."}
{"id": "t3_493zj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26F) with husband (25M) of 2 years. How inappropriate is this?", "post": "So I'm not sure if this is some kind of addiction but what would you do in this situation? He has multiple dating accounts made while we were married, but no messages on any of them or activity? The only proof I've seen is him messaging girls on gone wild about what he wants to do to them but just comments no conversations. I feel sick to my stomach. He also has a porn tumblr that he updates constantly. Is this an addiction or something worse? No idea what to think. \n\nJust looking for advice on what you would do in this situation. I think he just fantasizes about online people because I'm sure he's never physically cheated.  Does he need a therapist?", "summary": "husband sexting girls on Internet, not anyone he knows in real life. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_3h8280", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Econ grad here. What am I doing wrong?", "post": "So I graduated in may 2014 in the DC area but couldn't start applying to jobs till April of this year due to family circumstances. So far I've applied to nearly 50+ places, 4 recruiters contacted me and added me to their available candidates list after a small interview (one of them got me a small office assignment but that's over) and gotten two interviews by myself (none of which panned out). I have experience in office software and am pretty well versed in excel (i'd say a little less than advanced but a lot more than proficient) and advanced mathematics. I have a GPA higher than 3 but lower than 3.5 which I don't mention in my resume. Could that be it? \n\nI don't understand what I'm doing wrong. So far I've been applying to anything remotely related with data, analysis, finance at entry level but I barely get any response. Data entry and admin assistant positions are no different. I also write cover letters for almost every place. I also don't know many people here since my family isn't really well connected enough for me to have great networking opportunities. I really don't know what to do next. I can't imagine how people applying to over 200-400 places deal with the frustrating and emotionally draining experience. I would really appreciate some advice from recent econ/finance grads or hiring personnel.", "summary": "2014 grad, above 3 gpa, high office and maths skills and cant get any responses let alone interviews. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_2k60r6", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Emotionally and morally freaking out about potentially having to accompany my friend to get an abortion", "post": "Tomorrow, my friend is going to take a pregnancy test. We're both 20 and in college. In my opinion, I believe she might be pregnant. No matter how often I try to educate her, this isn't the first pregnancy scare she's had. This time, however, she forgot to take Plan B, and it's been over a week since she missed her period. We calculated she had unprotected sex twice right when she was ovulating.\n\nI am the only person she confided in about this. I keep telling that I'm here for her, and that we'll figure it out together, and she doesn't have to face this alone. However, I'm internally freaking out. My inner religious upbringing is coming out. The closer this day, the more I'm like \"What is God going to think of me if I accompany this girl to planned parenthood to get an abortion?\"\n\nNow, since coming to college a year ago, I was finally in a safe place where I could admit to myself I was a lesbian, and not freak out about it and try to beat it out of me with religion. So I've been working on trying to figure out my own beliefs about things, and not just what my family thinks.\n\nNow I really don't need any \"God doesn't exist\" type responses because these are my beliefs, and it's actually getting to me. I want to be supportive to my friend, since she decided she could confide in me out of our entire group of friends to help her through this difficult time. \n\nHowever, in supporting her, I don't know how to figure out how to deal with how guilty I feel. I know scientifically, it's not an actual being. This was just so sudden, I haven't had a chance to reflect on what I believe, and how I feel.", "summary": "I'm feeling guilty about being supportive for my friend who could potentially have to get an abortion because of my religious upbringing. What the hell do I do now?!"}
{"id": "t3_3figry", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20F) don't know if I'm just being crazy or if I have a right to be upset.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now, but we were friends for about 2 years beforehand. We have a mutual friend (who I can't really call my friend anymore, let's call her K) and when my girlfriend hangs out with her, I genuinely get upset.\n\nIn the past, she has tried to stop other people who were her friends from dating because it upset her. I feel like she might be trying to do that with me and my girlfriend.\n\nWhenever my girlfriend hangs out with K, it's this huge thing where I feel like I can't even go into the same room as them. My girlfriend won't answer my texts because K says that it's her time. \n\nThe main reason why I'm upset is because K bad mouthed me in front of someone who used to have a crush on my girlfriend. That girl then proceeded to set me aside at a party and have a full blown conversation with me for over 30 minutes that I really didn't want to be a part of. Whenever my girlfriend hangs out with K, it feels like a little stab in the back. Like she doesn't care that K trash talked me to someone. Who knows that other shit K has said about me to other people, or even to my own girlfriend?\n\nI don't know what to do. Everyone coddles K because she'll just start crying or bitch and moan about how everyone is being mean to her, but why doesn't anyone care about the way I feel? One of these occurrences happened last night, where my girlfriend and I were supposed to Facetime because I'm at home for a couple of weeks, but she couldn't because K just took up all of her time.My girlfriend keeps asking me if I'm mad, and I'm not. I'm upset and hurt, and I don't know how to talk to her, or if I should.", "summary": "I get upset when my girlfriend hangs out with a girl named K, who has talked badly about me to other people and tried to sabotage other people's relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1149ym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your biggest dream and what is the biggest hurdle you have to get over to achieve it?", "post": "My biggest dream is to run a half-way house or series of half-way houses for people in their late teens to early 30s. I already do this with my current house (Currently 3 other people live with me and are getting back into school and job hunting) but I'd love to do it on a much bigger scale. I'd love to have connections with local colleges and businesses to actively help these people. The biggest hurdle is that even supporting 3 other people is financially straining and I cannot think of a way to turn something like that into something that could earn me money.", "summary": "Want to run a half-way house for adults, can't think of a way to afford it."}
{"id": "t3_185i22", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some good iPhone apps for a tech-phobic grandma?", "post": "My grandmother is 85 years old.  We bought her a computer in 2002 and after six months she threw a blanket over it because \"it gave her stomach aches.\"  I offered to take a class with her, but she was worried she'd feel stupid.  She's extremely prideful.\n\nThey recently found a tumor in her stomach, and she is undergoing chemo/radiation (as of three weeks in, it shrank by 30%! yay!).  She goes to treatments every day, for four hours.  My parents bought her an iPhone so that she would have something to mess around on while she was there, and so the grandkids could send her pictures/texts (we're all upwards of 1200 miles from home).  My parents are the only ones there to give her much direction on how to use it (yikes), but in spite of that, she still seems pretty excited about it!  I'm visiting home in a couple weeks, and beyond helping her organize it/learn how to use it, I'd like to put some interesting apps on it.  She doesn't have a lot of 'interests' per se.  She grew up on farms in the south, and has only ever really taken to reading and writing as hobbies, so I can't even really narrow down the types of apps I'm looking for.  Anything that might be interesting to an 85 year old woman, that is relatively easy to navigate.  Any ideas?\n\nThanks in advance!  Sorry if this isn't the appropriate place to post this - please point me in the right direction if that's the case.", "summary": "Grandma is undergoing chemo/radiation for several hours a day. Parents bought her an iPhone to kill time, and I'm looking for interesting/easy to use apps that she might enjoy.  Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_2izbea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] kissed a guy at the bar in front of my boyfriend[33M] when I was trashed.", "post": "We've been together for about 5 months and I have a really bad drinking problem. He knew this going into our relationship, we had been friends for a couple months before we started dating. The second time that we had sex he told me that he was in love with me. I was freaked out at first but I felt the same way a couple weeks later. I was surprised at how much I loved him when it was so soon but we got along great.\n\nThe last couple months he's been begging me to stop drinking because he's always worried that I'm going to get too drunk and cheat on him. He knows that when i was single I had sex with a lot of the people that we know. I get promiscuous when i drink and that's every night.\n\nYesterday, I had my sisters birthday dinner and I told my boyfriend I would meet him at the bar because he had a gift card. I got there 4 hours before him because I just got dropped off by someone so I was stuck there.\n\nThe night before that, he came home at 2:30 in the morning and I was fucking pissed because he promised he wouldn't go out. He said he got a text from the bouncer that said the bar was dead and they were giving out gift cards.\n\nWell, the bouncer shows up last night and asks where my boyfriend is. I said he's at work, have you heard from him? He replies \"how would I hear from him, I don't have his number.\" I was like wtf, he lied to me about the night before. So, I was like fuck it, I'm getting hammered.\n\nBoyfriend finally shows up and of course I'm trashed. He gets mad. After that I just don't remember anything. Today my boyfriend tells me that I was kissing the bartender on the neck after his shift.  I couldn't remember any of it. \n\nMy boyfriend says he wants to break up because he can't deal with me anymore but I begged him not to. I think he wants to stay together but how do I help him to forgive me and what should I say to him about everything that happened last night and my drinking?", "summary": "I'm an alcoholic and I kissed some guy in front of my boyfriend last night at the bar. How do I help him forgive me and how do I talk to him about every thing, like my drinking? Also, he seems to think I shouldn't be pissed about him lying to me about the previous night. Am I overreacting by feeling angry?"}
{"id": "t3_fv2fm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "March 1st = 2nd New years", "post": "Hey Loseit. Just thought I'd share with you something kind of funny... (yet somehow based in logic) I have done for most of my life. In the past, when I have started 'dieting' and 'exercising' I don't tend to jump on the 'New Years Bandwagon' with all the other would-be resolutionists.  \n\nInstead, I would tend to wait it out until March the 1st, when the bandwagon seems to be breaking down and the gym appears to be emptying out. I would write down my goals for the following year and get back to it in full force.  Since march of last year I have lost almost 40lbs  (30lbs from March 2010-Jan 2011 just from small changes and sparatic exercise) however I consider my true weight loss journey to have started in Jan of this year (12lbs down, entire changes in eating/life style habits). \n\nThis year since I have made a 'life style change' I won't be doing quite the same thing. However I'm still making a short list of goals I would like to hit through out the year, and working on improving my at times sparatic work out regime. I'd like to be able to actually run a full mile, to get in at least 6 work outs a week (3 cardio, 3 weight) and I would like to give up the always delicious, but never satisfying diet coke. \n\nI figured for those of you who might be in a post New Years resolution slump, or for any one just starting a weight loss journey, hell any one actually... this might be a time for you to lock it up and write down some goals.  I'd love to hear what they are.", "summary": "March 1st is also known as New Year's 2nd Wind.  Time to get inspired again."}
{"id": "t3_u6ri0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weird relationship, maybe I'm just too nice?", "post": "I'm a 26/M with a 26/F.\n\nWe get along ok, and she's been living with me for about 4 months, and we've been together for a year and a half.  She only likes to watch TV, and she's a PhD student.  But we can never seem to find many things in common.  We sometimes almost fight over which movies we watch, her often wanting more pop-style movies, and me wanting more cerebral movies.  \n\nI have complete trust in her and she would never cheat, but when she's around other guys I sometimes think, \"Oh maybe they like each other.\"   Which is a bit weird?  \n\nShe watches porn to get in the mood for sex, which happens pretty frequently, but I often feel a bit sad that I can't seem to turn her on.  She also openly admits to being partially gay, but she's never been with another woman (or man for that matter).  \n\nWe do play, but sometimes I just think she's too cold.  I'm the one often cuddling in bed while she just lies on her back.  But she's the one who was absolutely star-stuck when she saw me.\n\nI dunno, it's just pretty weird.  I've already met her parents, and after being together for a year and a half she's pretty into getting married (not to mention her family's pressure on that matter).  \n\nWe both have pretty big egos, so it's hard to fight over things like 'You don't talk about philosophy as much as I want to.'\n\nOur friends think I give too much into her wants, but I don't think it's entirely true.  She does listen to me when I tell her something makes me unhappy, but it only sometimes gets fixed.", "summary": "GF and I are not best of friends, have vastly different interests, at times just tolerate each other, and are somewhat 'cold' to each other, but it seems like we can work in a (somewhat boring) relationship, though our friends think I concede way too much."}
{"id": "t3_3rlxjh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] had an awful hookup with a guy few months ago before I met my [20M] boyfriend", "post": "I've been dating my very wonderful and gracious boyfriend for about 18 months. Honestly, everything is great and we can talk to each other about anything. \n\nI guess, however, this is something that I've been rather reluctant to talk about. In hindsight, I should have told him earlier. I'm stupid, I know! \n\nAnyway, before I even knew my bf existed, I hooked up with a guy. Basically, it was awful because (I'm really really sorry and I don't know how to not sound so offensive) the guy couldn't get it up and it was so small that I don't even know if he penetrated me.. It was awkward as heck and I left as fast as I could. I never saw him after that ever again.  \n\nI have gone back and forth about telling my boyfriend about it, but I always chicken out.\nI plan on telling him soon, but I would like to do it tactfully. He is leaving on Friday for a programming competition, and I don't think today is the best time to tell him; I don't want him to think about that all weekend. \n\nI'm kind of scared about telling him because there's a small chance he could leave me. BUT enough is enough: I accept my mistake of not telling him sooner.", "summary": "I'm going to man up, but how can I do this tactfully?  "}
{"id": "t3_47oe3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] got a crush on [20F] acquaintance, can't figure out what she's thinking", "post": "Story: Met this girl a couple of weeks ago, through a mutual friend.\nShe's very straightforward, friendly. I've been \"jokingly flirty\" since day 1 - the curse of instant crushes - and we've been texting each other almost everyday. In my opinion we're getting along nicely, but she hasn't exposed herself yet - not acknowledging if she realized I'm hitting on her (she *must* have, I'd say).\n\nRecently I've discovered (she mentioned it in passing) that \"her ex's changed\", \"there might be some rekindling\" (almost her words) - after some initial discomfort I decided to play it like nothing's happened, going by a \"what's the worse that could happen\" mindset - keeping on with the \"friendly flirting\" attitude, like dropping \"wow, you're marriage material! [laugh]\" lines, for the sake of giving you an idea. There have been no negative reactions or any shying away so far, so that makes me doubly confused, having almost no experience in flirting and reading signals. Add to this that any physical contact I've initiated (still keeping a 70% friendly, 30% flirty ratio I'd say) was never \"rejected\" or got her to show signs of discomfort.\n\nWe haven't got a one-on-one meetup yet, while we see each other once per week - so far, we've only met for practice and kept in contact through texting - but I've asked her out, to talk about common interests which we have a lot of, and she's eager to.\n\nI might be overthinking or projecting, but being analytical about everything and unexperienced in dating&relationships, this situation confuses the hell out of me. Especially the stuff she mentioned about her ex, it might have been a \"discouragement tactic\" but I'm not sure at all.\n\nI would be...\"fine\"...with dropping a \"wow I didn't really mean that, sorry\" line if she was uninterested, for the sake of friendship, but still being unable to figure out if I *do* have a chance or not is driving me crazy.", "summary": "met girl, I've been \"jokingly flirty\", she doesn't shy away but doesn't give any \"positive\" signals either. Do I have a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_saijr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't know if U.S.A. is the greatest country in the world, is there any non-American's that think that? Seems very subjective to me, the best way i would describe the U.S. is by it being the most concentration of free thinking citizens in the world. Does that opinion correlate with other people?", "post": "I'm not talking about our government, because governments don't always represent the people in a fair light. I'm just interested in the world thoughts of America. Except like places such as Reddit, us American's don't get a true opinion of what people think of us. At one point in history it was the place with \"streets paved with gold\" and where anyone who worked hard enough could make the American dream with their own home and land and so many people from different countries came (and still come) here. Nowadays i believe the American dream is still true and possible for most people. Although i do wholeheartedly believe many have a lot stacked against them of course, but in one way or another it is available to most. That's where the freethinkers come into play. I'm married to a Japanese woman, and hearing the Japanese proverb \"The nail that sticks out, gets hammered down\" seems to resonate throughout most the culture. It seems like it does through many other non-Japanese or American cultures as well. The U.S. as a culture isn't really a culture, because we don't have any basic rules to follow. It's just a big mix of ideals depending on where you live in the country. Next, that mixes with other cultures and ideas, and in the end we just use all these cultural ideas and ideology as an excuse to get together and party. Of course we still have the religious and racist nuts like many countries, but they are definitely not the majority. At least not the extreme ones. But really what does the world think of us is mostly what i'm interested to know, whether we like the truth or not, we really need the truth.", "summary": "What do you think of America?"}
{"id": "t3_2mtkkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] and my Boyfriend [21M] of 6 months (long distance), ready to break this thing off, but concerned about his mental well-being and family plans for thanksgiving.", "post": "Ultimately, this is a really shitty relationship. I'm quite disgusted with the way he treats me and makes me feel, I don't feel like I need to put up with it any longer. \n\nI've made up my mind about breaking up with him, I'm just concerned about the timing. I've already made plans to go visit him and his family next week for thanksgiving. The ticket price is a sunk cost, the money is spent either way, I just don't know if I should wait to break up with him until after the holiday and just push through pretending everything is okay for the sake of social graces and politeness, or if I should spare everyone the acting and just break it off now and stay home. \n\nIn addition to that, he's had a really rough week at school. I don't hate the kid, and I don't want him to go do anything drastic because of a breakup, but should I take that into consideration and wait to break-up when he's got everything else in his life under control?", "summary": "shitty relationship, concerned about break-up timing because of boyfriend's bad week at school and family plans. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_15nb57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20m] having old feelings for my ex [20f] while i'm with my current gf [20f]", "post": "So I'm 20m and my ex is 20f, we dated for over 2 years in high school. We broke up during the beginning of college, which was over 2 years ago. We've remained in touch through this time, occasionally meeting up and wishing happy birthday and merry christmas to each other. However, for the majority of these 2 years I've been dating another girl, also 20f. I stayed in touch with my ex as friends because she's an interesting person and I guess I tend to hold onto my old friends!\n\nAnyways, within the last 2 weeks I've had strong feelings for my ex. You know how your brain tells you that you can't live without this person, I even was dreaming about getting back together with her. This is where things get really complicated in my head because I'm still with my girlfriend that I met after I broke up with my ex. I don't think I have any problems with my girlfriend but in my mind I end up putting my ex-gf up on a pedestal (she looks better, dances better, the sex was better etc.). I hope this hasn't affected my current relationship, which is why I'm looking for help from you guys.\n\nIn the last month I've been in contact with my ex-gf and wished her merry christmas and what not and even mentioned that we should meet up over the break. She said she would like to but hasn't gotten back to me so I figure the ball is in her court.\n\nMy question is if I meet up with her, should I tell her my feelings to see where she's at? I've been thinking this might complicate things for her because I'm not sure if she's seeing someone right now. I've also considered meeting up with her and telling her my feelings and that I don't think we should continue this friendship we have. Things were fine between me and my ex before but these feelings seem to have popped up from somewhere hidden inside me and I'm not exactly sure how to deal with or ignore them. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks", "summary": "Was with ex for 2 years, broke up and remained in touch for another 2 years, while I was/am dating someone else. Recently feelings for ex have come back and I'm not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_sznrv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the weirdest dream you've ever had, and what do you think it meant? I'll start...", "post": "Being prone to having incredibly odd dreams, I always wondered if other people had equally wtf moments play out while they slept. After this morning, I'm writing all of mine down. My dream last night consisted of: \n\n* Chuck Norris fighting off 300 Spartans in a WWI era trench (and losing)\n* Robert De Niro and Kratos, the God of War firing grenades and throwing molotov cocktails into a police station.\n* The team from Inception having a gun fight with a police chopper (black hawk maybe), providing covering fire for De Niro and Kratos.\n* The Incredible Hulk manning an AA gun, shooting down jet fighters.\n\nAll of this happening at the same time within about 50 feet from each other.", "summary": "I may need to see a therapist."}
{"id": "t3_2nvlz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have noticed a few red flags with my [19F] girlfriend. She may be cheating, but I don't know the best way to get it out in the open.", "post": "I have been dating her for over a year. We moved in together about three months ago. I didn't even see it as a red flag at the time, but a month ago she deleted her Facebook account, which is the only social media I have besides reddit. According to her she was tired of seeing everyone's stupid posts. She still is on instagram all the time.\n\nFast forward two weeks and she confronts me about cheating because she thinks she has an STD. I have never cheated on her, so I told her it must not be an STD. A week later she is at the doctor, he confirms it to be herpes. I still don't suspect a thing. \n\nI didn't even conceive that she could be cheating until last night when I got home from work. It was a slow night so I closed the store a little early. As I pull up to my street I see a car whipping around the corner off my street. The driver looked like a young guy. Still didn't think anything of it. Then I got inside, and I had an instant feeling like that guy was just there. \n\nWe did some chores and decorated for Christmas before we got into bed to watch some Netflix. I try to snuggle up to my SO. She pushes me away. She says she doesn't feel well, so she doesn't want to be touched. Then she goes on to say that she has been on and off nauseous and feeling \"off\" for the past few weeks. \n\nAll that combined with my imagination has caused me a lot of anxiety. I am at work now, and it's been eating me up. Tonight I have to say something, I just want to know how I can approach this situation in the best way.", "summary": "GF might be cheating, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_llve6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Internet setup question/help please.", "post": "Hello. \n\nI moved and tried to sign up for internet. I called and it turns out the former residents have internet service here still. Then it turns out it is a bulk account for the building (so maybe it was that and not the former residents, idk) and I need to contact someone else. I didn't contact \"someone else\" yet. I set up the router and \"receiving\" is blinking. In the connection status I am sending and receiving many bytes.  Everything looks good, except for the \"no internet access\" part (also \"sending\" light is off on the router). During the setup it says my ISP may need my MAC address. I assume this is the problem. But I don't really know. I'm on a different connection, the one I am trying to use won't connect.", "summary": "I already have an internet connection from former residents which is from a bulk account, is there any way I can just set it up without contacting the ISP? "}
{"id": "t3_2pbtol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/m] just ended a relationship of 5 months with my girlfriend [22] who has IED (Intermittent Explosive Disorder). AMA in /r/?", "post": "I come to /r/relationships today to offer my experiences to those who may have found themselves in my shoes or maybe even in the shoes of one with IED. 3 months ago I made an AMA thread (not popular and for whatever reason some great questions got deleted) so you will be able to tell where I was at back then and where I am at now, just 3 months later. It also has links on IED if you'd like to edumacate yourself on it first: \n\nIED can be a dangerous thing when not properly diagnosed and/or treated. It comes in different forms and outbursts vary per person but all follow a pretty similar path. Two days ago I had to finally put an end to the relationship because (and long overdue from what I've heard) I was finally put in a situation where my life was put in danger. As I drove her home two nights ago, she was incredibly salty due to not taking her medications (and neglecting to tell me that she was out, I would have immediately picked them up for her. One missed dose can make a big difference, evidently). As she was spiraling further and further into nonsensical anger I told her that I'm not going to continue the conversation right now and as I should have known, it doesn't matter if I respond or not, she's just going to get more angry - however she gets a lot angrier when I tell her Im out of the conversation. Her response to that was pulling my arm while it was attached to the wheel and we nearly bit the dust on the highway. AMA!", "summary": "Back with an unfortunate and life-threatening update about an ended relationship with girl who has IED, AMA."}
{"id": "t3_3e7i52", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [30M] been a horny mess lately. Never in my 5 year relationship with my girlfriend [27F] have I felt this way.", "post": "I've always been a pretty decent guy. I have never cheated on my beautiful girlfriend, she is an angel. Lately, I've felt like a complete dog. \n\nIt seems like I drool over any woman who is moderately attractive. This may seem like normal guy behaviour, but not for me, not usually. It sometimes feels less overtly sexual, and more of an intense desire to experience a person. It's weird, I don't know if I'm explaining how I'm feeling all that well. \n\nIn any case, for the first time I'm having unfaithful thoughts. Like if the right girl was trying to get with me, there's a small chance that my dwindling will power might break. I LOVE my girlfriend with all my heart, she's the one. But for whatever reason lately, I've had the intense desire to physically experience someone else. \n\nAm I just an asshole? Am I just being a normal dude run on millions of years of evolution, biology, and hormones? I actually anticipate that in the end, this won't actually be a problem, and that I'll remain ever faithful. I guess I just want to see what other people have to say. Thanks for bearing with this pitiful rant.", "summary": "I've been feeling unfaithful."}
{"id": "t3_1a1yeb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Tired of league of legends", "post": "so for the first time ever, my pc crashed. in my entire pc history, i've never had a crash before. it was playing league of legends. i usually wouldn't think much of it, but every time i try to start their client, it blue screens me now. i enjoy league of legends just as much as i enjoy dota, but this is the last straw. riot designed an over-complicated, piece of shit game client, backed by two-bit servers, that don't cut it. they spend more time on splash art and new champs, then they do on proper maintenance and bug fixes. their game is riddled with crashes and bugs, that i've never run into with dota 2. the list goes on and on as to why they suck, but league isn't a bad games, its just run by terrible people. it's a bitter sweet statement, but i guess ill be playing dota allot more now. sorry for the rant, i just feel like i need to get this off my chest.", "summary": "riot games is lazy and useless"}
{"id": "t3_2psre1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] Does Reddit dream of Music?", "post": "I was really confused this morning. I dreamt of a beautiful song, that i was singing in my mind. I was singing it. The lyrics seemed to come from deep within myself. As i was singing the dream turned into the perfect matching music video. it was really vivid. wierdly enough it was black and white. then i woke up. i was really bummed. but i had to go to work. while i was in the shower, the music and fragments of the lyrics came back to me. i got emotional and cried in the shower. it was weird. i thought of writing it down, but it is all gone now.", "summary": "I dreamt of music, woke up and cried."}
{"id": "t3_3i468d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Absolutely LIVID. He (27M) broke up with me (26F), asked to be friends, and then bailed on a mutual friends party because \"he still has feelings for\". What?!", "post": "*\"still has feelings for me\"\n\nMike and I dated for a little over a month. He broke up with me out of the blue, stating he just \"couldn't see himself developing serious feelings for me\". Fine, whatever. \n\nFast forward two months and we're in the process of trying to be friends. I'm treating him like a friend: being friendly, talking to him semi-regularly and just generally moving on with my life. I invite him to a party being thrown by mutual friends (along with about 25 other people). He says he'd love to come and I don't think anything more about it. He never shows. But not only does he not show, he sends me a long text late that evening explaining that he wasn't ready to see me in person, still had feelings for me, had been having second thoughts (about us), how he didn't think he could handle seeing me with someone, and just generally dumping all of his emotions on me without suggesting any course of action whatsoever. \n\nI waited until I was sober (earlier today) and called him to talk. Not only did he not have anything to contribute past what he wrote, but he promised me that he would never do that again/he was sorry. Why does he think he can dump and run like this? What is the point of telling me these things if you have no intention of doing anything about it? I'm furious, and feel like he's being both immature and manipulative, even if it's not on purpose. What do you guys think? I'm absolutely mystified by his behavior.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me, pretended to be my friend, bailed on a party and then sent me a text explaining he still had feelings for me but doesn't seem to want to act on it at all."}
{"id": "t3_dv2ic", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Possible cause of adult suicides: Bureaucracy!", "post": "It is easily the worst invention of man. Scammers still find a way to game the system, but well-intentioned people get taken to the cleaners. I've been unemployed, taking care of my sick grandmother for the past year. When she died, I decided I needed to get away, so I applied for teaching jobs outside of the US. I've spent the past two months and everything I had left in savings acquiring, filling out, and sending bullshit documents to South Korea. I found out today that I need to fly out-of-state to have an interview just to complete my visa process. I have $10 in my wallet. There is no way I can do this. I'll probably have to just accept that I've lost everything I have and work at McDonalds, regardless of the fact that I have a Masters Degree in education, have experience in several other fields, and am a very dedicated and reliable worker.\n\nAlso, my mom has been dealing with lawyers and businesses for the past two months trying to cancel my grandmothers accounts since she died. Every time she needs to pay one of my g'ma's bills, the lawyers have to go to court to get it approved, costing us more money. Every time she cancels an account, the business takes more out of the estate. There were tens of thousands in the account, nothing has been spent on anything unrelated to closing out my grandmother's life, yet now we're about $1000 in the hole. \n\nWe live in a world where common sense is no longer appreciated, a world where trying to even get a job requires capital. I know this particular position I applied for is a bit different from others, but anyone applying for work needs money for resumes, gas in your car, clothes to wear to interviews. This bullshit is what makes me just want to give up. I've been in similar situations several times in my short life. Tell me when and how it gets better, cause I think its bullshit!", "summary": "Bureaucracy makes it impossible to win. Why bother playing the game at all?"}
{"id": "t3_2l9dpg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] and my crush [34F] of about a week have our first date. [Ladies] How have guys reminded you that they are thinking of you without coming off as clingy or creepy?", "post": "Background:\n\nThis is not my first rodeo. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and I have no problem starting conversations with those I'm interested in or even strangers for that matter. In the past I've been accused of not being communicative enough (this isn't limited to intimate relationships). It's not that I'm not excited or anything. I'm actually a great listener. I have a good memory. I go out of my way to help others *when they need it* but I fail at gifting and other subtle things.\n\nSo I'm wondering how I can show this woman that I am genuinely interested and that I've been listening without scaring her off. We've talked daily for the past few days and I've learned a lot about her hobbies and interests and I find her to be fascinating (and of course very attractive) so I would like to know that I've done everything from my end to get things off to a good start.\n\nAny help would be appreciated!", "summary": "head over heels in love. don't want to scare her off. don't want her to think that i'm not interested."}
{"id": "t3_3y0shs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18/m) gf (19/f) farted while we were intimate and I got really grossed out. She's butthurt and won't talk to me now and cancelled our xmas plans.", "post": "Like the title says. Me and my gf (dating for a yearish) were messing around and right while we were getting busy, she let loose a nasty fart. I didn't mean to act so grossed out but I visibly reacted and went into the bathroom right away to get away for a minute. When i got back she was getting dressed and didn't want to talk to me or look at me. She left without talking to me and wouldn't answer my texts or calls even though I told her I was sorry and didn't mean to get grossed out it just happened.\n\nThis morning I got a stupidly long text about how disrespectful I am and how I obviously don't have any respect for her and my apology is fake. I got pissed and told her that it wasn't all my fault and that's when she told me she wasn't coming to christmas at my house like we planned. My parents are expecting her and have gifts. She's kinda overreacting and I'm getting aggravated with her for being melodramatic.\n\nHelp me fix this so I don't have to explain it to my parents?", "summary": "Had a fight with the gf about a fart during sex now she's refused to come to xmas at my house. Help me fix this."}
{"id": "t3_1v7rt0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] and my girlfriend [16 F] of 3 years have had family issues. Need Help!", "post": "First things First.\nWe are Indians. My girlfriend's parents are strict and they do kind of 'not like' me, especially her mom and my parents don't know about my relationship.\n\nWe've had our ups and downs, We've broken up but this matter is worse.\nMy girlfriend's mom read my girlfriend's chat with me. We were sexting the other night..\nIn the morning I'd got 18 missed calls from her phone but since I was giving a test, I didn't pick up. Finally, when the exam got over, I gathered the courage to call her mom back. I did.\nLet [GM] be her mom here and [M] be me:\n\n[M] : Hello, I received missed calls from this number. May I know who is speaking? (Knowingly had I asked this)\n[GM] : This is 'Girlfriend's Mom'. I read your chats and I am damn not pleased with you.\n[M] : Yes, I'm sorry.\n[GM] : What do you even think of yourself? You're still a kid! Chat once more with my daughter and I will come to your fucking home!\n[M] : I'm sorry for everything.\n\nAutomatically, we had broken up.\nWell, after 9 months, I went up to my \"ex\" and asked her out once more. She accepted. Now, I want her parents to know about our relationship  so that they are cool with it. How can I or anyone give them a hint of our relationship without making them angry? BTW, My girlfriend is against telling her parents about our relationship..", "summary": "Indians - Girlfriend's mom doesnt like me - Caught sexting - Broke up - Patched up after 9 months - Want to tell her that I and her daughter are dating - Girlfriend disagrees about the idea of telling her mom."}
{"id": "t3_2ttasa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF wants to marry me, but idk how to fix the relationship first. Any advice?", "post": "We're both early 20's, i'm a guy she's a girl. Dating for 3 years.\n\nShe loves me and i'm glad she wants to marry me. It'd be a civil marriage as we are not religious. I understands she wants to marry to show commitment to me and to make it \"real\".\n\nHowever there are some standing issues in our relationship.\n\n1)We live in different cities. Sometimes it can be months without seeing each other, it's not a big obstacle, but it leads to the next point...\n\n1) Years ago, she has expressed interest in an open relationship, i said no, but she still has that interest. About 5 times, she ended up having sex. She didn't initiate, but she was shit-faced and it felt so good she just let it happen, but afterwards felt terrible and told me about it. However, that stopped once we lived together and i was able to be physically with her.\n\n2) She complains we don't do enough exciting things, mostly stay at home on our laptops. I'd like to do more, true. It don't help she's my only friend and that she don't have friends in my city. I've always been a homebody but i do take her out to the movies.\n\n3) I'm not sure if i'm right for her. A lot of the time i don't understand why she loves me. She smiles big when she sees me, moreso when it was our NRE period. She had many boyfriends before meeting me and they were all worse than me, they were abusive. I'm not. But i have a hard time making her laugh or smile, i'm just not very fun, and i don't like that part of me.\n\n4) I feel guilty about having flirted and cammed online with 2 women online when she was away. Also i am a bit addicted to porn, she doesn't like me watching porn but i still do it when she's not watching. All these things weigh on me too much to hide forever, but they'd also break her heart.", "summary": "GF wants to marry me, i want to too, but i told her we need to fix our relationship first."}
{"id": "t3_31ufr6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20f) and my boyfriend of 5 years (20m) are having issues because I am not ready to settle down yet.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together since 2010, we met in high school, and i lived with his family for a year and a half and now we have had our own place for about 4 months. The issue is that some of the things I am wanting to do he doesn't deem appropriate for someone in a relationship, and I think he might be right. I do love him and want to be with him, but at 20 years old it's hard to imagine not going out and really \"living\" or whatever you want to call it. We are avid gamers and I have several friends that live several states away, and I plan on visiting them and staying with one if the girls. I pretty much was given and ultimatum that if i go we are over because it's not appropriate and it would be obvious where I stand. Am i selfish or what? I feel very upset and confused, but like he says, I can't have my cake and eat it too. I should mention that I mentioned I won't be hanging out with any guys one on one.", "summary": "I have to decide if i want to stay with my boyfriend or break up over meeting internet friends."}
{"id": "t3_24j7vv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] just broke it off with my best friend [25F]. I feel like the worst person on the planet.", "post": "So last June I started dating my best friend. Before we started dating I had told her I was looking for a girlfriend, but nothing long term (3-6 months). We get along great, and I really enjoy her company, but I just don't want to settle down at such a young age, especially in NYC. She also expressed doubts that I was in it for the long haul, and has expressed that she wants to move away from the city, but that I was her anchor. Hopefully now she can make a decision that's not based on whether I go with her or not.\n\nIt sucks because I still love her so much, just not in the way she wants me to. She is the nicest person on the planet and her reaction to me breaking it off was heart-wrenching. I could tell this hit her out of the blue, and all she kept saying was she hoped this was a nightmare that she could just wake up from. All I want to do is make her feel better, but I'm afraid that if I don't give her space she won't move on. Anyone been in a similar circumstance? Any advice would be very helpful", "summary": "Dated my best friend, didn't work out, she's heartbroken. I feel like the worst person on the planet."}
{"id": "t3_4hy0v4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23f] and my partner [31m] often get sick when we eat at his cousin's [28f] house", "post": "My partner's cousin, E, often invites us over for dinner. This is a very nice gesture and we have been many times. I like to spend time with E and her family. The problem is that my boyfriend B and I have gotten explosive diarrhea from E's meals on more than one occasion.\n\nIt has happened at least 3-4 times now and we are starting to see the pattern. E doesn't seem to have a very good understanding of safe food handling. For example, I have seen her serve appetizers to people when they have been sitting out for several hours. Also I once saw her leave some steaks on the counter for almost 4 hours (!!!) before cooking them. I know that it is good to let steak rest at room temperature for a short time before cooking them, but definitely not for 4 hours! Both me and B have had the shits so bad from E's meals that we have had to miss work. It doesn't seem as though E, her husband [29m] or kids [3&5m] ever really get sick like we do, perhaps they are just used to it.\n\nI really don't know how to approach this issue. We do not want to stop hanging out with E and her family because they are good friends (not to mention B is related to them of course). It is really nice of her to always be inviting us for dinner and I don't know how we can tell her about this issue without sounding rude.", "summary": "My boyfriends cousin always invites us over for dinner but she leaves food out for too long. The result is that me & my bf often get violent shits from eating dinner at her house and I don't know how to address the issue"}
{"id": "t3_3iixej", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rescuing a feral kitten", "post": "So I just came back from studying abroad and have been staying at my parents house until I move into my college apartment on Monday. The house is in a quiet town, kind of suburb-ish. The backyard ends with woods and hiking trails. \n\nAnyways, my 80 year old aunt said she had a litter of kittens living underneath her porch. The only human contact they had was her feeding them in the morning, which she couldn't afford to do for much longer. My sister and I went on July 14 and spent an hour luring one into a cat carrier. We surprised our mom and she was not too happy at first. Neither our mom, nor the kitten, would talk to us for 2 days haha. We discussed that the kitten was mine. I would be taking care of him and he'd be coming with me to my new apartment. Things got much better after 3 days. We discovered he was a boy kitty and I named him Caesar (I studied in Rome). He quickly became very sociable with humans and you could never tell he was ever feral. \n\nMy mom has had two male yellow Labradors since 2003 and a female cat since 2005. Caesar was scared of the dogs at first but now they love each other. The cat is another story. Caesar is a tiny energetic fur ball and always wants to play. He charges straight at her and she's just not about that life. They've never physically fought but she does hiss when he's nearby. For 10 years she always liked to go outside during the daytime to hunt smaller animals and chill with the dogs. I let her out yesterday morning and she hasn't been back since. She has a collar on but no phone# tag. \n I now have this looming feeling that she ran away because of Caesar. I hate that I'll never know for sure and he'll be moving with me in a few days.", "summary": "an 8 week old kitten disturbed the pet balance already established for 10 years. Female cat said fuck that noise and peace'd out"}
{"id": "t3_sbso2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How illegal is it to use a cover of the original song, most likely copyrighted, in an amateur interactive game distributed for free.", "post": "I'm not too familiar with in-depth copyright laws so I get nervous when I see a strike or cease and desist on Youtube and such.\n\nRight now, I'm making a free choose-your-own-adventure game and I'm not a music composer.  I find it super hard to ask someone to compose a whole soundtrack for me for free.  So I managed to find a few sites that offer free music, but sometimes it's not enough.  I really like a couple of Youtube users' covers on popular songs, both of English and Japanese language, but I'm aware that cease-and-desist or maybe lawsuit could occur from the companies that hold the rights to the original songs.\n\nFor example, I like [this] to be one of the endings' theme song and would like to ask the cover artist's permission, but I'm afraid of having to take down the entire game because the company holding copyright will order a cease-and-desist.  I mean I could find substitution for those songs targeted as infringement, but it would be less than what I envisioned.", "summary": "Need further clarity as to how risky it is to use Youtube covers of copyrighted songs even if granted permission by the cover artist."}
{"id": "t3_3h8u5c", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I learn to interact with people normally?", "post": "After my closest friend ghosted on me (the latest of many to do so) am trying to pinpoint what I'm doing to drive people away from me. I've had everyone from former high school classmates to cousins start to dislike me and distance themselves from me. I thought that maybe it was because I talked about my problems too much and am too negative, so I stopped talking about negative stuff and adopted a more positive outlook- that didn't seem to make a difference.\n\nI am thinking it could be because I'm socially awkward: I suffer from social anxiety and I sometimes \"freeze\" in social situations and don't know what to say. But I try to overcompensate by cracking jokes & making people laugh and emphasizing my looks (I've been told I'm pretty so I try to keep my appearance on point in hopes it will distract people from the fact I'm an awkward weirdo).\n\nIs it because I'm socially awkward that I drive people away? or could it be something else?", "summary": "how can I learn to be normal and make my friends feel comfortable & keep friendships?"}
{"id": "t3_2xdmno", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching netflix at school", "post": "So today for Spanish class we had a study hall and I decided to watch \"The Following\". Well there was one scene when Ryan told Claire to stay in the house, and well, she didn't. At that point I exclaimed, \"Jesus, are you fucking retarded?\" \n\nEveryone then was appalled and very confused. I was confused what I did wrong. Turns out they were having a conversation on how one of my classmates cant drink milk and everyone thought I called him a fucking retard as he isnt lactose intolerant but just cant. I was wearing earbuds so I didn't hear or pay attention to it.  I then explained and everyone LOLed.", "summary": "Perfect timing\" - Spanish Teacher"}
{"id": "t3_3s6l9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my _boyfriend_ [32 M] of 3 years, I'm feeling a little guilty for not having an honest orgasm", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nUsing a throwaway because he knows my username. So I don't normally fake it, we have a really good sex life and are both happy with it. We have sex about once a week (this fits our libido levels).\n\n He gets really hurt/sad if I don't come, and he is such a gentleman that he will put off his coming if I haven't yet, and then he ends not being able to come (because of anxiety?), so we are both a little dissatisfied. \n\nBefore we have sex I usually masterbate a little while he's in the shower to get myself in the mood, and yesterday I came before he was out of the shower. I didn't want to hurt his feelings or tell him I came already so I just faked it. \n\nHere's my question, is this wrong/deceptive?", "summary": "Faking it, Guys? Gals? What are your thoughts on female's faking an orgasm?"}
{"id": "t3_4pn0hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] & brother [22M] with childhood trauma. Boyfriend said \"he's too damaged and beyond anyone's help\". I kicked him out.", "post": "My brother and I (twins) had a nightmarish childhood. Both our parents were criminals and violent. They were angry at everything and everyone and always unleashed that on me and my brother.\n\nWhen we were 16 we ran away from home. We lived on the streets for a while until we were able to rent a room together. When we were 19 our dad was killed by the police. Our mom killed herself a few months later so we got their stuff. We sold their house and bought a new one and that's where we live right now.\n\nWe focused on getting professional help, trying to heal and moving on. I've been able to do that. Now I have friends, I'm in a relationship for a year with my boyfriend and my life is pretty normal. My brother however has struggled. His progress has been much slower than mine and he still isn't in a great shape. He struggles with making friends and having relationships. Therapy helps and he's getting better but it's a long and slow process for him.\n\nMy boyfriend hasn't really been helpful to be honest. He thinks I shouldn't help my brother since I don't owe him anything and that he's and adult and responsible for his own problems. Last night we woke up because we heard my brother screaming in his sleep (it sometimes happens, though not often anymore) and I went to his room to help him calm down and go back to sleep. He has nightmares about what our parents did to us. This morning boyfriend told me that my brother is a mess and he belongs in a mental institution. I didn't like what he said so I told him that I don't need his \"expert\" psychological opinion. He continued that I should cut him lose since he'll never be a good brother for me as he's too damaged and beyond anyone's help. I became angry and told him that he should leave.\n\nI'm very upset with the things he said. I find his comments not only out of line and insulting but also very wrong. He texted me a \"I'm sorry if I upset you\" apology. I don't know what I should do with him.", "summary": "Boyfriend called my brother \"too damaged and beyond anyone's help\". I got upset and kicked him out. He's giving me a half apology. Should I forgive him?"}
{"id": "t3_2jnyeq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27 M] girlfriend [24 F] of one week already told me she wants to marry me", "post": "Throwaway account and left some details pretty vague. I can expand if necessary.\n\nWe met just over a week ago online and after some texts, we met up and spent the night together because she was moving the next day. The next morning, we agreed to try a long distance relationship (4 hours away) and we began skyping every day since for hours.\n\nDuring this time, she told me she is in love with me and wants to marry me. I was taken aback, and after talking about it some more, she is definitely serious about her feelings and she says she doesn't normally do this with guys she dates. We both come from a background of abusive parents, and we do share a lot in common, as well as common goals in life. I do think there's potential with her and I like her a lot, but it's only been a week. During this time, we've also been very open about pretty much everything, from past relationships, sex, family, goals, etc.", "summary": "Girl wants to marry me after one week of knowing each other and I'm wondering if I should be concerned at all."}
{"id": "t3_1hjdim", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Recent Break Up - 4th of July", "post": "Am I (22M) the only person worried about how hard the 4th of July will be, having broken up with my SO (21F) in the past couple weeks.  Ive done the no contact (although she reached out to me to give me my things back and we talked then) but after I deleted her number and she texted me and called me I unfortunately remembered her number, so now I feel theres no way I dont drunk text her on the 4th.  I blocked her and her friends on facebook and twitter so I wont see any pictures, but just the thought of fireworks and how romantic its supposed to be and the thought she may be spending it with another guy (especially if it may be the guy she emotionally/drunk cheated on me with) kills me.  Dont really have a question just needed to vent/rant.", "summary": "Bracing myself for the sadness of July 4th, hoping I dont break no contact and drunk text my ex."}
{"id": "t3_13lp9b", "subreddit": "self", "title": "(19f) I've been in and out of relationships, paying no attention to the one I should have with myself.", "post": "Reddit, I don't know where to start, but I'll begin by telling you that I have very recently been brutally honest with myself and it made me cry for ten minutes straight. \n\nI love attention, and because I am a very outgoing attractive girl, I garner a lot of it. I'm used to guys watching me walk by on the street,  women looking at me with envy or judgement, and people listening to what I have to say when I talk. *Please, please*, don't see this as a conceited statement, I'm just laying groundwork here.\n\nRegardless of the attention I receive, the knowledge of my beauty and intelligence, there is *still* so much insecurity. So what do I do? I get a boyfriend and things always seem to accelerate super quickly.  We move in together in the first couple of months or the \"L\" word is spoken (I hate to say it but my bf at the time is usually the first to), excessive amounts of time is spent together and when I think everything is going fine, **boom** the relationship dissolves and I'm left with myself.  \n\nI used to write, words were my art. Fashion was something I was so passionate about and I had a stronger sense of self than I do now. I look in the mirror sometimes and don't know who I am (as cliche as it sounds.) I live in a suburban town (though I am close to a city) and I don't have any friends because they have all floated away in the midst of my relationships. When people ask me what I like to do for fun or what my hobbies are, I draw a complete blank. When I pick up a pen to write, I feel uninspired. \n\nI know, in my head and now in my heart, that the only way to figure myself out is to be without a bf, but that safety and comfort of always being wanted by one specific person will be gone, and it scares me to death.", "summary": "I have constantly been in unhealthy relationships that consume all of my thoughts, energy and focus and when they end, I'm left with a feeling of uselessness"}
{"id": "t3_21i2ri", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] am jealous of my girlfriend's [26F] past. How do I overcome this?", "post": "Quick facts. I've had only 1 sexual partner (fwb) and hardly any relationships. She's had 7 sexual partners and numerous relationships. I know that she is devoted to me and I know that she loves me very much. I know she won't cheat on me and I am not jealous of her when she talks to other guys because I trust her. I am not even worried that I don't \"measure up\". \n\nSimply put, I am jealous of her because she's had sex with 7 different guys and I've only had one. I love everything about her, except for that. Every time I think about this, I just want to scream. It makes me acknowledge that she is an experienced woman that has gotten her fair share and gotten it out of her system (it's making my skin crawl as I'm even typing this), and I am just not. It also doesn't help that she is insanely cute and innocent looking. \n\nI know that she wants me, she tells me all the time that I'm better than everyone else. But this is a personal jealousy. If I had around the same number, I don't think this would have been a problem. It just reinforces the fact that I haven't gotten it out of my system, and I am afraid I might break up with her sometime in the future because of this. I don't want to, I really don't. I can't see myself with someone else. She is wonderful, I really do love her. But this is something that is putting strain on my feelings for her. It's sad but I wish we'd gotten together after I've had more experience under my belt.\n\nWhat can I do to get over this? I need to before I make a mistake. (If it helps, we haven't had sex yet but it's looking to be very soon.)", "summary": "Jealous that I've only had 1 partner before my girlfriend and she's been there, done that, with 7 before me. "}
{"id": "t3_33uz9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my ex-bf [22 M] of 6 months, he used to chat with a girl from gonewild and flirt with girl friends, feeling confused", "post": "So I broke up with my boyfriend around a month ago, he is a nice guy but I think it was for the best (due to several things that hurt me and happened in the relationship). I have been able to move on and no longer feel sad without him, but since he was my first relationship there is something in my mind that I cannot stop thinking about.\n\nI recently found out that apart from the things he did that made me want to breakup (long story) he used to regularly chat with a girl that posted on gonewild in skype and that sometimes he just talks flirty with friends. It just overall left me confused, since he just said it's just his personality of wanting to get to know people (gonewild girl) and that he saw that being flirty with friends that knew him was harmless. \n\nI just want to know if I am expecting too much of a boyfriend if I don't want them to talk with girl strangers online (especially those who post on gonewild) or flirt with other girls while in a relationship. I want to date in the future, and I don't mind a guy having girl friends, but it does make me uncomfortable if all of their friends are girls and he chats with them daily flirtatiously. I know it is a silly question, but it is killing me inside to know if it is me who is overreacting or if it is actually possible to find someone who will commit in a relationship in the same level that I do.", "summary": "ex-boyfriend had a lot of girl friends and used to look for girls to talk with online, wondering if that is the norm for every guy or if it is not acceptable."}
{"id": "t3_to1wi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not sure where this is going (first post, please help!)", "post": "So here's some background:\n\nI, a 23F, have been seeing a 24M for a few months now. He's not a very social guy and suffers from depression occasionally, so has to take pills to help him.\n\nHe claims to find it stressful to participate in social situations, but he seems to be fine with me.\n\nAnyway, at the very beginning he was more into me than I was into him, but over time I've warmed to him and I really like this guy. However his behavior is very strange sometimes. We see each other every week (apart from this week) and he usually comes round, hangs out, and sometimes we have sex. He seems to really be into me but he claims to not want to make things official.\n\nThe confusing thing is all his actions prove otherwise, he casually dropped into convo that he was my boyfriend. And generally being intimate and affectionate when ever we're together. And the other week he mumbled \"why have you made me love you\" while we were drinking. But now he says I want more than what he does. I just don't get it because up until now, he's been more into me than I have been into him. He says he enjoys being with me, but doesn't want to be my boyfriend. He says he's still into me though, I just don't get it!\n\nCan someone help me decipher this? I know it probably seems obvious and stupid. Is he scared of making things official or something? Or maybe his anti-depressants are screwing with his emotions. Or is he just testing the waters a bit more.\n\nWhat shall I do? Help would be appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "guy i've been seeing is suddenly becoming flakey in regards to making things official although still suggests he is really into me."}
{"id": "t3_24w6ht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [25M] 8 months, I want to break up with him so I can focus on my career. Is it selfish?", "post": "Okay so Ive been going out with this guy for 8 months and I was a really good student but after I met him I started to get bad grades at university because I used to go out with him everyday instead of doing homework and didnt go to school because I went to bed really late..also I used to sing and run but now all I do is eat and drink beer with this guy (he didnt finish his career and he doesnt have a job) so I gained a lot of weight...and I dont like myself anymore and I feel bad about my grades because I used to be a good student...I feel like a bad person wanting to get away from this guy because he really loves me ( I think?) and I feel bad about him..he has depression and no job he only have me and I want to leave..  how can I break up with him in a really NICE way??", "summary": "Used to be a good student and I was healthy and with this guy my grades are bad and I cant stop drinking beer and I gained weight and I dont like myself anymore. want to break up with him in a really nice way because he has depression."}
{"id": "t3_20su8p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Girlfriend back on drugs.", "post": "Before me and her were together, she did relatively heavy drugs quite regularly, and ended up in some pretty bad states. When we got together, I told her from the beginning that if she started doing drugs again I would probably have to end it, as I am quite hardline when it comes to drugs. Yesterday she told me she was going to party where all of her friends were dropping, and asked if I would be upset if she did too. I said yes, I would be quite upset if she did, and would probably break up. She then texted me while at the party saying she had dropped, was I angry - to which I was. She then called me, saying she only said that to see if I would get angry, and she hadn't actually taken anything.\nShe then texted me this morning saying after she got off the phone she dropped, and I don't know whether to end it, or try and somehow sort it out.\nHelp please.", "summary": "Am very hardline against drugs. GF started drugs again. End it?"}
{"id": "t3_4dshvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [18F] of two years, rarely have sex. (once in 4/5 weeks)", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nWell as the title suggests, I rarely have sex with my girlfriend, what saddens me very much. I will explain it:\n\nI have been together with her for two years now and love her very much. She has never been the skinniest, but she wasn't fat either. She is very insecure about it. I tell her time and time again that she is a very pretty girl and i love her to death. We had sex 4 times a week if not more. Since six months ago, she gained weight because of a couple reasons. Those reasons doesn't really matter that much. She is now chubby. I stil think she is a beautiful girl and she says she will work on her weight to feel better. This is the reason why we have sex once in a month. Now that saddens me a lot because she is now ashamed of her body when she is naked (thus we have little to no sex) and I want her to feel nice when she is with me and she feels loved and trusted. We are together for two years and two weeks now and even when the anniversary was we didnt have sex. She went on vacation later on in that week and not even goodbye sex. I have a pretty high libido. She has a really really low one right now. Even when we have sex, it feels like she is forcing it, just to please me. \n\nWhat should I do? I have said that I want to talk about it, she said okay. But we haven't found time yet. Are there any other tips for me, or things that I could do?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I rarely have sex (once a month), what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_nimd9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "By making r/Atheism an autosubscribe, we've  actually made reddit a religious community.    Debate!  Petition to remove the autosubscribe to r/ atheism?", "post": "Not sure if I'm doing any of this right (first post here), but just wanted to get this conversation going.  I'm sure other 20-something, tech-and-internet-loving, logic-loving,  people-who-don't-care-about God/the-idea-of-relgion feel the same way.  \n\nBy making r/Atheism an autosubscribe, we've actually made reddit a religious community that is constantly, obsessively, discussing relgion.  That annoys me and it makes Reddit a place I don't want to be in my spare time that I want to spend relaxing.  I've enjoyed reddit for years, but recently have just found the atheist postings so obnxious (and repetitive and not-clever) that I felt a need to make a ridiculous (throwaway) username to unsubscribe from r/Atheism and browse.  \n\nI feel like those that are less inclined to make a username will simply stop coming to Reddit when they feel this strongly.  Why not make r/Atheism like every other religious subredditt and simply let users subscribe for themselves. \n\n(", "summary": ") - Agnostic & happy lurker for years - finally made "}
{"id": "t3_2990uy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spilling 20 litres of pop syrup all over my boss and her computer.", "post": "I work at a small family restaurant. We have about 20 employees and we are a very busy joint at all times of the day.\n\nI work as a waiter so normally I don't have to deal with the sort of thing that I had to deal with today.\n\nToday one of our bussers lost it and quit, and the other busser that was working at the same time freaked out and quit as well, so we were at lunch rush with nobody cleaning tables or doing any of the small jobs around the restaurant.\n\nWe ran our of root beer. Shit. The manager asked me to change to pop, so naturally I think this can't be too hard. We keep the 20L boxes of pop syrup in a shelf above the managers desk. The box says don't open with a knife, but I'm feeling pretty highly of myself and I go for it. \n\nFUCK. FUCK FUCK FUCKING FUCK. I pierced the bag sending 20L of root beer syrup all over my managers computer, printer, keyboard, and phone. \n\nI couldn't breathe. I freaked the fuck out. I closed the door turned off the light and went straight to the change room to take off my uniform. I left it right there in the bathroom, went straight home and blocked the work number.", "summary": "I now work at Mcdonalds."}
{"id": "t3_2avd4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my online bf [28 M] for three months wont commit.", "post": "we live half way across the country from one another met online... talked/texted/facetimed for two months on the daily and decided to meet. he drove, yes drove to michigan from colorado. everything was comfortable and fine and went as expected. when he was getting ready to leave he asked to \"reflect\" i didnt have much to say hoping he would start the conversation. nothing was said, he gave me a quick friendly hug and left. he was on the road for two hours called me and said i sshould come out to colorado sometime. after he left i was thinking we could be exclusive maintain the relationship we have had and plan to see eachother again he says hes not ready for a relationship but still calls/facetimes me just about every other day. is it worth holding on or should i just move on?", "summary": "man i like lives far away doesnt want to commit but still tries to talk every day, should i move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4emmaj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Every time I manage to save 3-500$ it's gone within a week to bills or debts. Suggestions on how to break out of this?", "post": "I'm a family of 3. (Me, GF, 2yo)\nI'm the only one employed currently and renting outside of city to try and save (but gas ironically makes up for it). paying minimal, trying to save on groceries and such. \nBut Studentloan debt is around 600 a month (its between 2 groups, Federal and Provincial. I can't bring them down lower. I tried. But riding deferrals isn't helping me)\n\nIncome is basically a race to have 2100 by end of each month at whatever cost just to keep bills paid. (house, heat, internet[jobdependant] car, groceries, etc)\n\nMy work is being affected by out of date equipment, (work in Media) I'm in need of upgraded computer but have tried to save 5 times. But each time I get to around 3-500 dollars saved, it has to go to bills. Food and family are priorities.  \n\nI've took a look at how to save and I'm familiar with the majority of them, but I'm feeling at the end of my rope as I did the unthinkable and had to use credit card for weekend grocery run once or twice. \n\nMostly feeling like I'm going in circles instead of digging out.", "summary": "Was following saving methods, but feeding family of 3 and debts accumulate faster than my 2 job income."}
{"id": "t3_450brb", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Had my gallbladder taken out 4 years ago. Been having problems ever since.", "post": "Alright. This is long so bare with me. I was 22 and I had a gallstone apparently the size of a golf ball in my gallbladder. The doctor said the only way to fix the problem was removing the whole gallbladder. If I would have tried anything else it would have burst and I would have even bigger problems. \n\nSo I go to the surgeon and get the consult. He said we would do the surgery within the next two weeks. To eat very bland food to not upset it. Chicken with only salt and pepper on it. Salads. Jell-O. Stuff like that. \n\nSo I get the surgery. Go back to the surgeon because that's all the doctor and the surgeon told me to do. I asked him if there was any kind of special food I should eat. Stick with bland food for a while or what. He said, \"Nope. You can go back to eating whatever you want.\". I ask, \"So going to grab a steak would be fine?\". \"Sure.\" he replies. \n\nThat night I started having the problems that are still with me to this day. I haven't had a solid bowel movement in 4 years. I don't like going out to eat with anyone because it could upset my stomach. I don't hang out with anyone anymore. It's basically turned me from a social butterfly to a house dwelling slug. \n\nI've tried going on a bland diet for a couple months. Seeing if maybe it helps. It's doesn't. I've gone to the doctor. He's done blood tests, don't know what that would solve, and tests on my excrement. He said everything looks fine. \n\nI'm down to my wits end here. I don't know what could be the problem. I've tried everything I've seen online and, like I said, have gone to the doctor to see if there is anything he knows of that could help. \n\nIf anyone has any advice or knows what could help out with this please comment on here.", "summary": "When you lie down for a siesta and your ass has a fiesta..."}
{"id": "t3_hf4wx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tired of people underestimating the importance of good nutrition - help me prove to my coworkers that I am NOT insane", "post": "Basic story is this - I am a vegetarian, female, 25 years old, 115 pounds, 5 foot 1. I work with a bunch of jock males who eat meat and white bread for lunch every day and pick on my food incessantly. I eat things like large salads with quinoa or brown rice and veggies, greek yogurt, you get the idea. I get plenty of protein, i eat a balanced diet, i don't lecture others on being vegetarian but am a constant victim. I usually just laugh it off but do have a tendency to get annoyed when people lecture me on \"how I don't enjoy life\" and \"how I eat rabbit crap food\".\nMy breaking point is this morning - I was talking to a few coworkers about how I need to do more cardio (I tend to end up doing more yoga/stretching type exercises and i realize the importance of good cardio), and instead I got a talk about how they eat whatever they want but because they work out hard, it doesn't matter.\n\nI KNOW this is not true - you can't just eat shit and then go to the gym for 2.5 hours and justify it. These guys are guys with six packs, great bodies, very athletic - but they eat shit all day and are proud of it too - snickers bars, crappy pastas, the works. I told them that even though they look great, their internal organs and arteries probably aren't doing well and that you can't just \"cancel out\" eating bad with working out right. They both literally laughed in my face and were like \"um, yes you can\".\n\nAnyways i am REALLY effin fed up with this nonsense. If i'm wrong, and you actually can \"cancel\" the effects of eating badly with working out right, well then i'm wrong. But i really think this isn't true - you might be the fittest person ever but because of your eating habits have high blood pressure, etc.", "summary": "Guys annoying me in office and telling me you can cancel effects of eating badly by just working out hard. Help me with some words on why this is NOT true! :)"}
{"id": "t3_18623l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I a bad person for not wanting friends? What good is friendship, anyway?", "post": "It just seems like they're more trouble than they're worth. In the end, no matter how much fun you've had, friends will always turn their backs on you, leave you, or stab you in the back. Human relationships just don't seem worth it to me, but our whole culture seems to revolve around \"OMG YOU MUST HAZ FRIENDS AND LOVERS AND ASDFASGDFGDFG\". \n\nIf I need help moving, I'll hire movers. If I'm depressed, I'll go to a shrink. If I need a ride, I'll call a cab. If I need companionship, I'll cuddle my cat. \n\nThe only person in my life that I actually have any kind of connection to is my mom, and when I posed this question to her (\"Am I a freak for not wanting friends\"), she got this look on her face that reminded me of the scenes in Sherlock where John has to tell the titular sociopathic detective that something he just did was \"a bit not good\" according to societal norms. And it doesn't help that she nearly automatically disapproves of anyone I choose to attempt to befriend, because of her own relationship history and trust issues.\n\nI've tried to make friends. I honestly have. All of them want something from me, and give nothing in return. I'm tired of having \"friendships\" that consist soley of me bending over backwards for these selfish people, then having them ignore me should I ever ask for anything. I don't want to keep trying. There's a couple of people at school I've been talking with, and they keep pushing me to come over or go to lunch or hang out more, and it makes me sick to my stomach every time they bring it up. I don't want to be a bad person and hurt them, but at the same time, I can't take how much it hurts when these people reach out, not realizing I'm an asocial freak who is never going to be able to be the friend they want.", "summary": "Having no friends: Okay, or a bit not okay? Are they even necessary? Is there something seriously wrong with me for not wanting them? Does anyone else feel like this?"}
{"id": "t3_2dgtwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31/F] husband [50/M] didn't tell me he received money from his parents.", "post": "We have been together 6 years, married for 4, two kids, the youngest is 3 months old. Near the end of my maternity leave, we were visiting his family, and his father asked if my husband would stop by his house on the way home to pick up a letter he had written to my husband and his three sisters. I pretty much forgot about it for some weeks.\n\nLast week, I am cleaning our messy-as-hell desk (at his request), and come across the letter. I read it, because I was curious, and I figured if it was something heavy, he would have mentioned it (we are both close to all our extended family). His dad says that he is giving $1,250.00 to each of his kids from a disbursement from his own parents' estate, pretty much as a share-the-wealth.\n\nNow we've been a bit strapped for cash since I've been on maternity leave and on short pay, but we've been fine. And that's not really a huge amount - not insignificant, but not a deal-breaker, either. Also, it's his dad, and his money, and he can do with it what he wants. But even when I asked a few days later about the letter (just asking him what it was about, making sure everything was OK), he just replied \"Oh, my dad just wrote a letter to his kids,\" specifically not mentioning the money.\n\nThis just seems uncool, I guess. If I'd gotten that amount of money unexpectedly, I'd certainly let my husband know, since we both contribute to the financial stability of our own lives. Even if I just said \"Hey, I got this money, but I'm going to use it for [insert whatever here].\" Is it my fault for even reading the letter, and should I be upset about him not mentioning the money?", "summary": "Husband got $1,250 from parents, specifically doesn't tell me, should I be mad?"}
{"id": "t3_3wbl6i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not liking Christian rock", "post": "This TIFU occurred several years ago. I was shopping at Safeway when one of the store personnel, a very cute Asian girl, came over to ask me if i wanted to sign up for exclusive coupons. Of course I was like \"coupons?! Hell yeah I want some coupons!\" \n\nAnyway after fumbling with a store iPad for a few minutes the girl then said \"so i have these two concert tickets if you're interested\". Now being my naive self my thought process went as follows: \"Safeway is giving away concert tickets? That's weird. Oh god what if they're tickets to a crappy local band?! Or worse; Christian rock, this is Idaho after all. Gotta think of a way to get out of this\" So i say to her \"oh I'm busy that day\". mind you she never said what day the concert was. I pay for my groceries, walk home, cook dinner, and it only dawns on me when lay down for the night that I blindly shot down a very cute girl. \n\nI wish I could say I've learned my lesson but this is something that seems to happen a lot and im oblivious to the fact every time.", "summary": "TIFU by cruelly shutting down a cute girl."}
{"id": "t3_30tk2e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by flying to meet a boy and telling him I love him", "post": "So as usual on this thread it didn't happen today, but rather this weekend. \nBit of background info, me and this boy have been chatting for about a year now after meeting on tinder. We talk everyday on the phone and texting and snapchat and shit but have only met up a couple of times cause he didn't realise I liked him. We have since talked about how much we like each other though. \n\nAnyways recently he moved country for a job and I thought it would be a nice surprise for me to come see him. So I booked flights without telling him but I'm bad at keeping secrets so I ended up telling him. So Friday evening I arrive at his, things start off well, we go for dinner and drinks etc. Dutch courage kicks in and I kiss him when drunk, we go back to his and things progress if you know what I mean. So I blurt out I love him, like its the drink talking, I do like him but I'm not in love with him, but I tell him reasons for it (I'm sure drunk me had good intentions.)\n\nSo the next morning we wake up hungover, and he mentions it. I don't know how to tell him I only said it cause I was drunk, so I run with it. He leaves me in bed and goes downstairs, I go back to sleep. I wake up several hours later still alone. This rest of the day is slightly awkward, I try cuddling up to him on the sofa and he shrugs me off. We go out that night and he invites a friend of his along. (I was only over for 2 nights.) Long story short, the rest of the weekend he was cold. Waste of a few hundred pounds.", "summary": "Flew to see a guy I liked, drunk me told him I loved him, rest of the weekend was ruined. Alcohol bad."}
{"id": "t3_3mfh67", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[advice needed] Flatmate didn't tell us about discount he was getting on our food", "post": "We order food on weekends, and he would order it for rest of us. There is a food startup which offers discount on ordering through them. The restaurant gets the full amount, the website pays the difference. They are probably doing it for customer acquisition.\n\nOur flatmate would order our food from that website and get discounts to the tune of 30%. The bill that we got on delivery didn't contain discount offered, but the full amount[ which restaurant was charging]. \n\nHe didn't tell us about the discount thing, and we paid him based on the bill.\n\nWhy would he do that? What should we[rest of flatmate] should do?", "summary": "flatmate pocketed the discount on the food we ordered. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dpdr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF [20F] 3 years, is it time to end the relationship?", "post": "Hi All, I don't really know where to start so I'll just start blurting stuff out.\n\nWe've been having some issues for quite a while in our relationships, she has serious trust issues, insecurity and is emotionally abusive.\n\nI feel like I can't do anything without being in the wrong, if a female co-worker says bye to me or a female friend adds me on Facebook I get the whole \"Who is that? Why you haven't you told me about them before?\" She'll search people I mention and judge whether they're prettier than her... If I do actually add any female friends on social media she just starts talking shit about them or their actions until it's easier to just get delete them to avoid the trouble.\n\nI feel like she also tries to lure me into making statements she can use against me eg. \"Look at my friend in this picture, isn't she so much more pretty than me?\" \n\nIf we're not talking all day long she freaks out, if I only get to see her 2-3 times a week she freaks out.\n\nIf I want to spend time with my friends she starts acting like it's an issue but won't tell me what's wrong even if I ask.\n\nI told her last weekend that I don't feel like we have a connection anymore and she started screaming, crying and saying she was going to kill herself.\n\nI told her about all the issues I have and she promised she'd change but I think it's too late...\n\nI feel like my feelings have already changed for her and maybe I resent her? Like I used to love spending time with her and talking to her but now I don't even want to see her.\n\nI feel like I enjoy myself more talking to other people and being around other people.\n\nNormally after we have a big blow up or I'm angry about something it normally blows over the next day and I just kinda get over it - but this time it feels different.\n\nIs it wrong of me to feel this way? And does this mean it's the end? I've never been in another relationship so I'm not quite sure.", "summary": "How do I know when it's time to leave? Is this just another incident that will blow over and then all be fine?"}
{"id": "t3_2ihozk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [37 M] with my wife [33 F] of 3 years (together 5), she suggested I get a mistress.", "post": "So my wife dropped that bombshell on me on the weekend. Admittedly I have a bit of an insatiable appetite for sex but we have two toddlers, a house etc to take care of and I have a full time job. So sometimes time/exhaustion/kids/chores etc get in the way of play time.\n\nThat said, when we do have time and energy we both REALLY enjoy our sex life. As such, this came as a bit of a surprise.\n\nAfter talking to her more about it it seems this stems from her feeling inadequate at being able to juggle the house, kids and my sexual appetite all to what she would deem satisfactory levels. (For the record, I help out with the kids and home a good deal. So it's not that I'm running her ragged while sitting on the couch with a beer.) \n\nI tried to reassure her that we're both very busy with our family etc and  that we just need to keep helping each other out and make time for each other. That while yes, I would like more sex, we (both) need to have realistic expectations of our time/ability to do so. \n\nI have a lot of conflicting thoughts on the entire subject... I married her, love her dearly and haven't ever considered cheating on her but I do like a LOT of sex and being given permission to get it and sleep with other women is both intriguing but at the same time disappointing/sad to me.\n\nIs there anyone else that's been in a similar situation? Been in an open relationship and can offer advice/information? Help me sort out my conflicting feelings about it?", "summary": "I like a LOT of sex. Wife feels inadequate despite my reassurance and suggests I get a mistress. I'm conflicted about the idea and would love advice."}
{"id": "t3_tdo8v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, give my brother some advice for this police encounter!", "post": "My brother has run into some minor trouble with the law, and I was hoping that Reddit might be able to give him some advice. I asked him to write up a brief synopsis of what happened:****\n\n-----\n\nI was pulled over for driving with my left taillight out. There were three passengers in my car, for a total of four people. There was no weed in the car, no one was high, and no one had smoked in the car since around 4 that afternoon. There was, however, a pipe and a grinder out of sight in the middle console of my car. The officer approached my car, and we had the following conversation.\n\nOFFICER: I pulled you over because you were driving with a taillight out.\n\nMATT: I'm sorry, officer. I know it's out, I'm working on getting it fixed as quickly as possible.\n\nOFFICER: Is there anything in the car that I should know about?\nMATT: No, officer.\n\nOFFICER: Would you mind if I searched, then?\n\nMATT: I'm sorry, officer, but I never consent to searches.\n\nOFFICER: Why?\n\nMATT: It's within my rights as a citizen.\n\nAt this point, the officer says nothing else and walks away. One of my friends overhears him calling in a canine unit. However, he never informed any us that he would do so. He wrote me a citation for the taillight, and I signed/dated the bottom of it. However, he did not give it to me until after the canine unit arrived.\n\nThe officer then instructed me and each of my passengers to leave the car, then proceeded to search each of us \"for weapons\" (even though I said that I refused to consent to a search) before the drug dog began to sniff my car. After he told me that the dog alerted on my car, I told him where the pipe and grinder were. He then confiscated them, searched the rest of my car, wrote a citation for the pipe and grinder, then gave me the citation for the taillight.", "summary": "pulled over for tail light out, did not consent to search, drug dogs called anyway, given paraphernalia charge in TN for grinder and pipe"}
{"id": "t3_550y0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17M] mom [40'SF] told me \"If you're going to be mean to your brother than just get out and go to college\" I don't understand", "post": "So very long story short my brother 13M is taking our sisters 7F & 6F trick or treating this year. They asked him to dress up as a Disney Princess. My sister and Him (13M&15F) went shopping for his costume and he is going to be damn near cross dressing. \n\nMy sister 15F wants to put make up on him in Halloween, so he looks 'pretty' like our sisters. He's dressing up as the princess from beauty and the beast. My sisters [7F&6F] are going to be snow white and Cinderella. \n\nMy brother put on his costume and our sisters were getting a kick out of it. They were telling him he looks like a girl and were laughing at him. I made the joke to him in the kitchen \"You look like the biggest fag on the face of the earth\"\n\nNow this is loosely based off what she said, but I remember most of it but it's not exact. This is a loose quote of what she said \n\nMy mother slammed her first down and said \"Goddammit josh enough. You're little brother is doing something for his sisters that you and Charlotte (15F) don't want to do so you can go to a party. If you're going to be mean to your brother like this I expect you gone and off to college when you graduate next year. This is type of things good brothers do for their sister. In life if they have a problem there going to Silver 13M and not you. You're brother is sucking up his pride and putting on a dress for one night so his sisters are happy\"\"\n\nDid my mother cross a line or did I?", "summary": "mother is pissed at me"}
{"id": "t3_34w2z9", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Traveling Europe While Turning 26: Global Pass or Point-to-Point?", "post": "In deciding between purchasing a Eurail pass to use during my 6 weeks or travel, or buy each ticket individually, I'm weighing these factors:\n1) I will be turning 26 (no longer considered a youth) part way through my adventure.\n2) My tentative itinerary is Wroclaw - Berlin - Prague - Budapest - Vienna - Venice - Rome - Florence - Pisa - Barcelona - Paris - Amsterdam, a few of which are expensive as individual tickets.\n3) I'm willing to pay a small premium for convenience.\n\nFor anyone who has experience with the rail system, would you recommend I get a global pass since I will be able to take advantage of youth pricing, or would it be better to buy each ticket individually?", "summary": "Is the Eurail Global Pass a better deal if I will be considered a youth my whole trip, or is it much cheaper to purchase rail/other transportation individually?"}
{"id": "t3_h6cqf", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Cheer me up, reddit.", "post": "I was dating this guy and he asked another girl to prom. His reasoning? \"We made this promise to each other months before I ever talked to you. Can't you be a little understanding?\" Should I add that he used to practically be in love with her? Yeah. They're just *best friends* now. Well, anyways. He dumped me two nights ago and prom is tonight. I am home alone while all of my friends are out partying. I thought nothing could suck more than being home alone while my boyfriend was at prom with another girl.. but this is a lot worse..\nI need some serious cheering up.", "summary": "my (now ex-)boyfriend asked another girl to prom, I'm home alone, need some distractions."}
{"id": "t3_50rmkz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Hate my first job and I don't have cert.s to do the job I want.", "post": "Hello personal finance, I'm a long time lurker and I wanted to ask for your advice. A little backstory...\nI'm 17 and I got my first job at a sandwich shop. I don't dislikes working here, I hate it. I make around 200ish biweekly pay and I get tips(nobody tips me). I have no bills no debt but I also don't go to highschool (long story) and the only way I can take my GED is by getting an employers request to my local community college. I want to attend college for something in the IT field such as networking or even a CS degree. I love computers with a passion and have been building and taking them apart since I was 12. My programming skills are okay but I do need a little work. Right now I work with things I'm not familiar with and I'm so bad despite throwing 110 percent at it. Honestly it's horribly depressing because my social anxiety makes actually working with people give me chest pains.\nI want to quit so badly, but I throw away my chance to start college early. You have to be 18 to take the GED in my state. Also I do get payed $1.25 over basic wage where I live.", "summary": "hate my job, need job for GED, my actual skills wasted."}
{"id": "t3_34lmhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21F] BF [20 M] of 6 months, is wanting to propose.. Too soon??", "post": "First serious relationship for us both. Our families love each other, everything is literally PERFECT. He's financially stable, I'm still a mess financially and scholastically (still haven't graduated, in debt), but he's always so supportive of me. \n\nWe love each other and I know I want to marry him. But I'm also the kind of person that sets a time to everything. It may not make any sense but I wanted my early twenties to enjoy and date randomly and settle into my late twenties. It just makes me kind of sad that I met my BF too soon in life. I can't imagine ever settling down with anyone else but I also can't imagine settling down right now. \n\nHe was a bit bummed since he was planning on proposing really soon, but I kind of threw shade at those kind of couples without knowing, so he was almost in tears since he was already planning everything. I do love him but how can I get over having a time for everything? Like telling him \"1-2 years is the \"NORM\" to get engaged\" and just get over how it'll look to others?? Is 6-8 months considered sane enough to get engaged? \n\nI don't like the irrational part of love!! Am I supposed to feel vulnerable in a relationship? Is he moving too fast or am I just afraid to admit that I'm afraid? I'm so afraid of hurting him that I would go along with it just to avoid hurting him.", "summary": "BF of 6 months wants to get engaged at what feels like too soon for me!/am I crazy for wanting to put a time to everything?"}
{"id": "t3_17bkvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) just got an amazing job opportunity 8 hrs away, gf (18) of 3 years says she'll dump me if I take it. I need some guidance.", "post": "I just got a summer job as a research assistant at a federal research facility about 8 hours away from my home. If I play my cards right, there is a good chance I will be able to land a full-time job there when I graduate next year. My girlfriend says she doesn't want to move and doesn't want a long ~~term~~ distance relationship. I understand her completely, she's saying what she wants in life and if I don't fit into her plans then there's no point in continuing our relationship. She's my first real relationship, and my best friend. Should I decline this opportunity and stay with her, or take the job and leave?", "summary": "got amazing job opportunity 8 hrs away, gf of 3 yrs says she'll dump me if I take it. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_20gx6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(22f) I need help with suffocatingly attached (25m) boyfriend!", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend since I have been in high school. This past year I have been noticing how incredibly clingy he is... I am unsure if he was this way before and I just didn't notice or it never bothered me, but as of lately I feel like I can't breathe around him. \n\nI go to school and work full time.  When I'm not doing either or,  he is always there with me. It has never really bothered me before but it's starting to get to the point where I feel like I'm starting to dread going home. I want my independence and I have talked to him about giving me some breathing space but he takes it as an insult, saying that he just misses me and wants to spend more time with me. \n\nI do care about him very much but I really need some 'me' time away from him. He can talk forever which is nice at times but my jaw is beginning to get sore from trying to keep up... he gets extremely offended if I don't verbally respond to what he says. \n\nAll I would like is to find a way to let him know that I need some time alone from him for the sake of being alone... not because I don't care for him or anything. I've tried to tell him that and he takes it like I want to leave him which is not the case. \n\nSorry for any spelling or grammar errors... literally typing this very late into the night because he thinks I'm sleeping :/", "summary": "Boyfriend is clingy and won't leave me alone, how do I communicate to him that I need some alone time? "}
{"id": "t3_gmekh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Warning: Outside is fucking dangerous", "post": "So its a really nice day where I'm located. Sunny, a perfect 60 degrees. I opened up the windows of the house I'm sharing at college for some fresh air, lalala, happy day.\n\nI decide to go for a walk. Healthy well-adjusted people go for walks, so why not?\n\nI successfully journey about 15 minutes up the sidewalk and turn back, not wanting to overextend myself on this brief foray into the Other World. I'd already passed a few too many happy looking people having barbeques and playing Frisbee. \n\nShortly thereafter, I pass a pair of blonde chicks walking three or four German Shepherds. They looked really cute so I think I smiled as I passed. I'm referring to the German Shepards. \n\nThe one closest to me, who I'd thought I was safely out of range of, turned and the motherfucker bit me. WTF! It ripped my jeans but I didn't think it was a serious bite. More of a nip. I played it off like it wasn't a big deal, assured them it was fine, and kept walking.\n\nIt started hurting as I went home and when I got inside, I was treated to 3 pleasant puncture wounds on my slightly-bloody leg.\n\nFuck going outside. Never again.", "summary": "I thought I'd be safe taking a short walk on a pretty day-- got bit by a dog. Tried to play it off like it was cool and not a big deal because they were girls so now I don't know if the dog had its shots or if I am going to die of rabies or AIDS or something. Figured I at least deserved some karma. :)"}
{"id": "t3_359g9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to stop feeling lonely? -LDR", "post": "I [21M] am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend [20F] of ~4.5 years. We started dating I'm high school about 3 years ago and have been at colleges 1000+ miles away since graduation. \n \nRelationship background:\nWe have had a rocky relationship, but as of lately we have been more on the positive side. Due to financial limitations, we only see each other several times a year - I know for some ldrs this may be a lot, but it is never enough. I have picked her up on major holidays, and we drive home together For extended breaks, we meet up at family members' houses (both have big families) and have mini \"vacations.\"\n\nThe issue:\n    \nSince being in college, I have had many lonely nights. I will say that I try to do my best at being a good boyfriend. For instance, I don't drink because I wouldn't want to risk doing something stupid - not saying I would, but why risk it. On the extreme end, I also don't hangout with girls, even though I get along with them better due to my feminine preference in pop culture. This is because I am awful at setting boundaries - I don't want to come off to them that I think that they want me or something, but I also want to put boundaries in place without implying the first part though. I have some guy friends, but they are pretty close to each other with me on the outside looking in. I additionally have some \"superfical\" friends (maybe aquaintences is a more accurate word).\n\nMy question:\n    \nWhat should I do to feel less lonely? What can I do differently? What is wrong with me and my inability to make/maintain friendships? \n\nExtra:\n    \nI have asked my girlfriend to Facetime more, and she has agreed to do this. But, she has classes and her own social life. I am hoping more for solutions that are independent of having take more time out of her days. \n\nI am in a club that I enjoy and volunteer when I can. The membership turnover is fairly high, and it hasn't really lead to any lasting frienships.", "summary": "Long distance relationships suck. She is so far away, and I am here lonely and struggling to make friends."}
{"id": "t3_40o2yt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "27 yr old planning on getting an apartment in July with my 20 yr d brother. How do I plan so We don't have to struggle?", "post": "Due to circumstances I have to live on my own, living with parents is out of the question and my little brother wants to get out as well. I am renting a room for $400 dollars a month until July and then I am on my own. I live in NJ and we want to move to Philadelphia as we are very close. I will be able to commute to work but plan on keeping an eye out in the city. My brother makes 8.75 working around 30 hours a week. I make 13 an hour working 40 hours a week and sometimes over time which is time an a half. After taxes I make 804 every other week. I am in debt 11,000 but have been making monthly payments and will be getting a credit card this Friday to build my credit and also have something for emergencies. My question is, is this doable? I will have to pay 80$ for tolls if I move to Philadelphia which will be an added expense. I am not sure if it is worth it. My current bills excluding my rent are as follows.\n75 phone\n91 car insurance \n50 towards debts\n30 misc Netflix ect.\nI am thinking 800 a month is doable, I also know we will have utilities.", "summary": "my 20 year old brother and I(27) plan on getting an apartment in the city, we both are living modestly. Is this realistic? If so I would take any advice."}
{"id": "t3_105oua", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: What are some good romance movies that I can watch with my girlfriend?", "post": "So, my girlfriend likes action movies, sci-fi, and even scary movies. (What more could a guy want?) Well, she also likes romance movies. She doesn't like to watch them with me around though because most guys don't like them, apparently. So, anyway, what are some good romance movies that really **don't** suck?\n\nExamples of movies that suck: Friends with Benefits, Magic Mike, Crazy Stupid Love\n\nExamples of movies that I liked: The Lucky One, The Princess Bride, A Walk to Remember\n\nI'm looking for a movie that isn't just fan service. It annoys me when the guys spend half of the time with their shirts off, or the women spend half of their time flaunting their tits about.", "summary": "I want a good romance movie that isn't completely made of fan service like Magic Mike. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_yu32i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] Was I just rejected from the friendzone?", "post": "I'm friends with a girl I knew for about 4 months. Yesterday I asked her to go hangout with me, since she told me multiple times that she wanted to before I left from the school we went to. She said \"yes\", but didn't leave a specific day. She left a time frame (within the next few days since her summer break ends soon), but the end of the time frame is the day after tomorrow. She told me that she will text me, but I have received nothing yet. \n\nAm I being unreasonable for being a little worried? This is the last time I get to see her for a very long time, since I'm joining the military. Should I just text her or wait until she texts me?\n\n(We're not going out on a date, we are just friends)", "summary": "friend told me she wants to hangout, I offered, she left a time frame, the time frame ends the day after tomorrow, said she will text me, no text has arrived. Wondering if I should text to see what the situation is."}
{"id": "t3_2h6ezj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take out a roach with a broom.", "post": "I live in Florida. It being quite a tropical climate there are a few things down here that become super-sized most of which are pretty cool like snails, slugs and huge moths. Then there are Palmetto Bugs. They are giant fucking cockroaches as big as my finger. Oh and they fly. They are horrible and one of the few insects I am terrified of.\n\nTonight I was sweeping my kitchen floor. Suddenly from under my cabinets one of those 'little' nopes pops his ugly mug out to say \"Howdy\". I start screaming like a schoolgirl at a boy-band concert. I swat at the thing but it dodges me like a disgusting, brown, buggy ninja.\n\nAt that exact same time my puppy, Lelu, was sleeping on the bed. Mommys screams make her jump up barking fully ready to defend Mommy from whatever horrible thing is attacking her. Like the dutiful Terrier/Hound she is she zeros in on the insectoid interloper and leaps...\n\nAt the exact same time I am bringing the broom down again. Instead of hitting the roach I smack Lelu in the head with all my strength. She yelps and runs screaming into her kennel confused as to why Mommy just hit her in the face. She is fine but is getting many many treats tonight.\n\nOh and to top it all off the fucking roach is still in the place. I don't know where it is.", "summary": "I hit a puppy with a broom."}
{"id": "t3_fognq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, please help me TROLL this SOB", "post": "I've only been a Redditor for a couple of months but I've fallen in love with this place and now call it my favorite site. Hell, it's even shown as most visited site on my Chrome browser. This place reminds me of the community in \"Fight Club\", the way people from all over gather as one to share knowledge, creativity, and culture.\n\nHeres the case: About 2 weeks ago i received an sms from the wrong person. Not being a very creative guy i didn't take advantage of it by playing along. In fact, i simply ignored it...fail, i know. A couple of days later i received a second sms from him. This time i took the initiative.....to simply tell him how he got the wrong number (i also advised him on how to prevent it in the future), but i never got an answer.\n\nBut this morning everything changed. Not only did i get a third sms at 07:00 on a Saturday, but he sent it 6 times within the same minute (?). Needless to say, my phone way having a spasm. This makes it evident that the man isn't some phone hip. *He's probably 50 year old dude that can't text properly.*\n\nSo what i'm asking for is for you guys to please tell me what to text him along with a *predicted* response from him, to make this the ultimate trolling. It can be anything from \"my water broke\" to \"the owner of this phone is dead\"\n\nFACTS/CONS\n\n* First thing you should know is: I live in Sweden and the conversation will be in Swedish\n* I will provide screenshots along with a translation by its side\n* He thinks i'm a female called Anette. First text read: Anette you can go home, i'm in the bathtub so theres not much happening here it'll probably just be relaxed.\n\nCommon Reddit, I know I've seen you do this before! I will probably choose the most upvoted one, but i'll post this in r/Sweden as well to see if i can get any better suggestions.", "summary": "Read the Facts along with the two paragraphs above it."}
{"id": "t3_2sgms9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15F] like this guy [16M] in my class, but he might think that I hate him", "post": "I've talked to the guy that I like quite a few times, but for some reason, today when I was going to get a paper, he was in front of me and he turned around and said, \"What, Bianca?\" In a way that he was trying to sound like a tough guy, but I knew he was playing.\n\nI didn't say anything, because I didn't really know what to say and I was in kind of a gloomy mood from something that had happened in my previous class, and my terrible mood probably showed on my face, and his friend (who is a girl and I think that they are possibly together because at every chance they get to be near each other, they do) said, \"She really hates you.\"\n\n'NO I DON'T!!!!!!' I screamed in my mind, but I didn't say anything, because again, I didn't know what to say and I didn't want to make it even more awkward, so I just went and sat down. This put me in even worse of a mood, and I think all future communications with him will be ruined.\n\nI was also trying to talk to him more and try to become his friend, but I always lose my words when it actually comes time to go and talk to him. He goes up to me sometimes, but it's never a long conversation, and I'm afraid he won't even do that anymore because of what his friend said. Please tell me how to fix this and how to start our friendship on the right track!", "summary": "The guy I like's friend told him that I hated him after I didn't respond to a joke he made (I mean, tbh, it was a pretty lame joke)"}
{"id": "t3_31g7r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a 27m, starting to get into another relationship after my divorce and.... I'm afraid to have sex. Help.", "post": "Ok obvious throwaway (epic username though right).\n\nBeen seeing this girl for almost 2 months and I won't beat around the bush here....she has a very high sex drive and I don't.   However it could be that I don't because I'm scared.\n\nI have OCD which is very much under control but I keep a close eye on it and what might set me off.   Sex will set me off guaranteed.  Even with protection of course.  Hell, I'll triple check to make there it didn't rip or break or whatever.   We had sex once and I felt like shit for the next 3 days thinking I got her pregnant somehow even while using a condom.  I don't even like \"grinding\" without layers of clothes between us.\n\nNeedless to say this is all very embarrassing and she knows how I feel.  She's been great about it and willing to take it as slow as possible.   I know she has needs.  It's normal.  I know I can satisfy her in other ways but....I don't know.  I'm waiting for her to move on because I'm not \"up to par\" and it sucks.\n\nWhat do I do.  Do I just have sex with her over and over and hopefully break out of my mind? I'll reiterate, it's insanely embarrassing and takes obviously strong willpower (lol).  In my head though,  I just keep telling myself \"better safe than sorry\".  I don't know what to do.  I feel like this just won't go away so how do I stop thinking like this and essentially enjoy life?\n\nShe has told me she doesn't want anymore kids (she has one and I'm more than fine with it) and would take any necessary steps if she ever got pregnant.   Before I get shit on here, this was all her saying this.  I never and will never pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to.  Anyways, then I start thinking what if she gets pregnant and wants to keep it?  I'm not ready for that. UGH I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Help me have sex without worrying."}
{"id": "t3_2rhgrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] and my girlfriend [17f] just started on a break last night and I don't really know what to do. All I know is that I really miss her.", "post": "We've only been dating a month and a half or so, but whenever we hung out it was super fun, but this past week it felt weird and like I was annoying her.\n\nWe had a bunch of stuff to do that we had planned with friends so we both kind of ignored the awkwardness. Until last night that is, when I finally grew a pair and asked her about it. \n\nHer answers to most of my questions about our relationship was \"I don't know\" or \"I'm just confused.\"\n\nNow I'm really confused (and hurt I guess too). I thought everything was going great. We're seniors in high school and will be going to different colleges in the fall. Neither of us wants a long distance relationship, but still I thought we could have fun with the time we had left together. Now I just feel bummed and led on.\n\nI'm not really sure if I should completely avoid her until she's made up her mind, act like we're still kinda dating, or act like we're just friends. Has anyone else ever go through a similar thing?", "summary": "My girl friend and I are on a break because she's \"confused\" and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. Also I'm looking for support/empathy/discussion I guess."}
{"id": "t3_10cg7x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do about this? (details inside) please and thank you. X-post from /r/advice", "post": "My girlfriend, age 16, was raped by someone she thought was her friend -probably age 16- while hanging out with him at a nearby lake on the first of September. His reason was that he thought they would \"work well together\" and that he only needed to show her. I, age 17, cannot even begin to try to understand that twisted, fucked logic system. She refuses to go to the police, or give me his name because she doesn't want me to get hurt and she thinks cops do more harm than good.\nAs it turns out when he raped her he wrenched her right leg so far that she strained a major muscle. Yesterday as she and one of my friends were horsing around she tore it further. I took her to the emergency room with her mom and she needed three doses of an IV painkiller, two doses of another IV painkiller and two doses of a muscle relaxant (also an IV). Even then she refused to tell her doctor, or her mom, anyone but me, about the rape. And even I was not aware of the leg injury until yesterday when she and one the friend I mentioned before fucked it up further. Whenever the pain medications prescribed to her last night wears off she is in excruciating pain for quite a while before they kick in and she is able to get calmed down.\nIn addition to this, there was a period of about two weeks when we thought she could be pregnant because the rapist later told her his condom \"might have broke\". I am angry whenever I think about it/ him and I'm not convinced that he didn't just say that to try and get her to rely on him somehow. She also has nightmares about it frequently.\nSo I need people to talk to about this and get advice from. What do you think I should do? Who should I tell? How do I convince her to tell me his name?", "summary": "Girlfriend of one year and 5 months was raped three weeks ago on September 1, now in nearly unbearable physical pain and emotional trauma. I would like to know what I can do/ where I need to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_1dunea", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Took a research chemical and 2 years later I'm not back to baseline", "post": "I took a moderate sized dose of the drug 2c-e a while back and had an odd reaction. I was fairly drunk at the time of consumption and about to enter a rave. I had taken it once before but that time it was a much lesser dose. (Looking back on it now, afterwards I had trouble fixing my eyesight on small points, but didn't make the connection)\n\nIt might be important to mention that I'd witnessed my friends snorting this shit like it was weak coke for months at a time with practically no reported ill effects. Which is what makes my experience all the more confusing.\n\nafter ~6 hours I had not noticed any visual hallucinations, and attributed my mental state predominately to the alcohol.\nUpon leaving the rave, and sitting in my friend's car. I begin to see patterns weaving around his dashboard. slowly my vision tunnels and my thoughts feel \"dull\" and \"quiet\".\nMy other friend ends up driving me home in my car and I fall asleep (about 4 hours after leaving the rave) hallucinating intensely (shifting colorful patterns)\n\nthe next day I wake up with the same dull feeling in my head. Normally I'd have a steady stream of thoughts but now there was nothing.\nMy peripheral vision seemed weaker than usual as well.\nI figured it was just a chemical hangover but, here I am, almost 2 years later: failing out of school, rendered socially inept due to the speed of my thoughts, lacking any sort of motivation or ambition, and nearly hopeless.\nevery night I think about eating a bullet in the faggiest melodramatic fashion.\nI feel like I'm trapped in a shitty after school special.", "summary": "took 2-ce, now I'm mildly retarded. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2nc4cm", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "My friend was brainwashed by her super religious grandfather, Help me please!?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, well recently she vanished, her grandfather literally kidnapped her. He went to her house and grabbed her and all of her siblings. a month and some weeks have passed and now she is back with her parents riding home from houston. I am in SA TX. she will be here in 3 hours or so. She is saying that she wants to go back and live with her grandfather who I know and her mother and her father all know is abusive and controlling. How can I convince her that the man she has been living with for the past month or so is lying to her face? She seemed off when I talked to her on the phone a while ago. She hasn't told her parents she plans on running away so he can come pick her up and she can live with him. Just in case you guys are wondering I am 17, and she is 16. \n\n(", "summary": ") My girlfriend got kidnapped by her abusive controlling grandfather and now wants to move back, how can I convince her she is making a major bad move?"}
{"id": "t3_1kafuh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend (26M) and I (25F) are in love with each other but I don't know how to initiate a \"relationship\" (Friends for 21 years, semi-dating for 2 months)", "post": "My best friend and I have been in love with each other for a really long time.  I've known him for the majority of my life.  We've always been somewhat close but we began to become much more intimate in college (we both went to colleges in a similar area).  \n\nAnyways, we've begun a really weird pseudo-relationship.  We haven't had sex yet but we go on dates all the time (they're never referenced as dates) and I spend more than 4 nights a week at his apartment. We cuddle all the time and he holds my hand whenever we go somewhere together.  I know he's a pretty shy guy so I don't expect him to take the first step in this but I don't know how to go about it either. I know he's the 'one' that I'm going to share the rest of my life with.  \n\nAny cute/romantic ideas?  I really want to make this special :)", "summary": "How can I initiate a relationship with my pseudo-boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1nb9g9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "chafing the ladybits", "post": "Going anon for all the obvious reasons. Also, apologies to the men--you may want to shuffle awkwardly away now...\n\nNeeding some advice from the ladies: I have hit a serious chafing issue. I have been increasing mileage, up to 20 mpw at the moment. For the last few weeks, my long run has been KILLING my (admittedly larger than average) inner labia. Like, road rash.\n\nI wear compression shorts and no underpants at the moment--this has been my go-to solution for a really large butt that manages to pull down every pair of running shorts I have ever tried. However, now my ladybits are objecting: anyone have any alternative suggestions? I feel like underpants would be the obvious solution, but then I'm left with pants that won't stay up--the compression shorts pretty much slide down up until I hit the sweaty stage 5 minutes in, then stick to me like glue. With underpants, they always just kept sliding down for the whole damn run.\n\nIn a perfect world, I would like something relatively cheap, since I am dropping weight at the moment. Switching sizes in $90 shorts would be a bitch.", "summary": "ladybits chafing. compression pants with no undies a no-go. (cheap-ish) suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_oqxlk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We always talk about companies screwing up the digital download business model. Are there any that are doing it right?", "post": "I'm mostly curious if there are any companies that will let me pay to download a movie or music that I can watch or listen to on any device I want. I don't want to have a limited number of computers that an account can be activated on(iTunes). I want the product to be mine to use how I want. I can take a DVD to a friends house to watch, why can't I have a high quality digital copy to do what I want with? A one time fee for a single movie, like buying a DVD at Target but a digital copy online.", "summary": "Where would you go to download movies and music legally without dealing with DRM, subscription fees, etc.?"}
{"id": "t3_4djfm8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16F] father [59M] acts creepy towards me. Should I tell my brother [28M] ? He is my guardian.", "post": "My mother died of cancer when I was 7. At that time my father was nowhere to be found, he had left my mother when I was less than one years old. I grew up with my mom and older brother. When my mom died my brother became my guardian. He took good care of me and always made me feel safe and comfortable. He has been mother and father and brother for me at the same time.\n\nTwo years ago my father came back and asked to be a part of our lives again. He said that he's changed and wants to make things right. He initially used to come around once a week for a few hours and it was nice. However recently in the past two months, he is acting creepy which makes me uncomfortable.\n\nHe texts me about my looks all the time. Tells me I look like a complete woman now. It makes me feel weird. Last week he asked me about my sex life which I'm not comfortable talking to him about it. He asked if I watch porn and if I do, what positions I like. I mean this is creepy right? I don't like it. My brother talked to me about sex but it was about safety and consent and things like that. Never these details that my father asks.\n\nI want him to stop these things, and that's all he talks about. Honestly I want him to stay away from me I don't like him, he gives me bad vibes. I know he's my father but I don't see him as family. He's just another person to me, a creepy person that makes me uncomfortable.\n\nShould I tell my brother about these things and ask him to keep my father away? He has a good relationship with my brother, they've become close in recent months.", "summary": "My father is being creepy and I hate it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_r45jr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend says she can't trust me due to my response to exes text.", "post": "[This is the text](\n\nContext: My girlfriend and I have lived together for almost a year. Before we were really \"official\" there were a few times where she got drunk and made out with another guy to make me jealous. I've gotten over it (took me awhile) and she regrets it and everything but last summer I used to get drunk and use it as an excuse to start arguments (my family was falling apart and I was using her as an emotional punching bag) and that snowballed and I was sort of expecting a bad break-up at any moment. I had hung out with this other girl a few times and hadn't told her I had a girlfriend (nothing happened) as to have a sort of plan b/fuck-you in case of a break-up. I know, I'm an asshole, I'm not going to make excuses but I think I've changed since then. I told my girlfriend about it (while drunk) before I stopped talking to the girl.\n\nSo yeah, things have gotten a lot better since then but she's had trust issues since then. The text sort of set her off. For those that don't know closer starts with \"I want to fuck you like an animal\" and I know I should've responded with a \"Yeah, that is wierd, respect my relationship and our friendship\" but a neutral answer just seemed easier.\n\nSo yeah, how do I get my girlfriend to trust me? Do I deserve trust? Is she blowing things out of proportion? I've never cheated on her and never will.\n\nThanks to anyone who takes the time to read through my bullshit and give any advice. I appreciate it.", "summary": "Girlfriend pissed off because of text from ex. Paranoid because I led another girl on last summer."}
{"id": "t3_3kyhv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "how to deal with [30 M] my [24 F]girlfriend her student loans problems", "post": "Thanks for any input...\nmy gf and I have been together for 4 years...we met when she was still in school. she went to one of those for-profit art schools and actually finished her degree. \nnow she is in debt about $150,000 and she is having a very hard time finding work... our relationship has also really suffered a lot. she has anxiety and panic attacks, she's gained 70 pounds in a very short time (2 years). she's very sad and depressed. I also don't know what this type of debt could do to a future with me together....would I ever be on the hook for her debts?\n\nthanks", "summary": "how to deal with my girlfriend's massive school debts and the problems they cause her/us!"}
{"id": "t3_27xpyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18 M] don't really have much in common with my GF [18 F] of 3 years, should it matter?", "post": "Okay, so me and my girlfriend of 3 years, \"Lindsay\", don't really have much in common. Other than the fact that we both play minecraft every once in a while is really the only thing. We're both human, get good grades.\n\nI'm into computers, gaming, cars, and a lot of things that she isn't. She likes a lot of other things, including music that I don't like. It's hard to talk to her because most of the time she isn't interested in what I have to say and I'm not interested in what she wants to hear.\n\nLately I've been wondering if this lack of interests in each others interests is okay. It would really be nice to have a girl who likes what I like so that we can have things to bond over. I'm not sure those girls exist. \n\nWhat should I do?\n\nBTW: She's towards the top of average looking (if it matters)", "summary": "My gf and I don't have much in common. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3m04gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my BFF [28M], should I expect him to keep my secrets?", "post": "I'm using a throwaway just in case. \n\nMy best friend and I have known each other all our lives. He's the boy next door (or down the street if we're being accurate). We have always told each other everything and have kept each other's confidences. Enter his girlfriend Mia. \n\nMia and I get along fine in general although I can tell that she's skittish about him having a female best friend. She does things like touch him in the spot I just touched him like she's trying to erase my touch. But you know, I get it. So I try not to touch him or invite him out without her anymore because I don't want to lose my friend. But I feel like it might happen inspite of my best efforts. \n\nYou see, to me Mia is Eric's girlfriend. She's not my best friend. So when I tell Eric things in confidence, she will pester him to tell her because \"couples don't keep secrets from each other\". I take her point but my feeling is that if I'm telling Eric something that's happening in my life, it's not their secret. It's mine. And unless I choose to involve Mia, it's not her business. Am I wrong in this?", "summary": "I would like my best friend not to share things I tell him with his girlfriend. Am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3lv4vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, single mother [35F] my daughter [15F] just cursed me out over the phone calling me every name in the book.", "post": "I am a single mother of two girls, 15 and 14. I had them very young and had virtually no relationships with either of their fathers. My older girl's father is a complete dead beat, he saw her maybe five times before she turned 5 and after that he has not seen her, talked to her or even acknowledged she exists (he's in the military so I am able to have the government garnish his wages for child support). I know this contributes to a lot of her anger and emotional issues. \n\nShe see's a counselor once a week to deal with her anger and jealousy issues that she has with her sister. Her appointment is at 6 so I just called her letting her know that I would be by to pick her up and take her to her appointment. She unleashed a tirade of cursewords and name calling at me that would make anyone blush. F-you. N-word lover, C-word, Slut, whore, etc... they were all there. \n\nOf course my feelings were really hurt but I have my own anger issues so I followed the advice of my counselor and counted to 10 after she stop talking before I said anything. I said basically \"I will be there in 20 minutes after I finsh up at Starbucks to pick you up.\" \n\nTo which she said \"f-you, c-word you didn't even listen to me\" to which I said \"hita, I did listen but all you did was call me names. I'm not sure what to say.\" \n\nAnd then she hung up. \n\nI am curious how other mother's and fathers have dealt with teenage children who call them names like this. I am so prone to overreacting that I just don't want to do that this time and drive a wedge between us.", "summary": "I was just cursed out by my teenage daughter and looking for advice on how to react to this. "}
{"id": "t3_4s7fyw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have lost all patience with bf [31 M] of over two years", "post": "We started dating over two years ago and he was awesome. We did things together all of the time, there was so much to experience. As time led on he eventually moved in with me and things have been different since. Everything he does is irritating to me. I constantly have to remind him to do shit. When we met he was so organized, everything had a place, but now I have to remind him to pick up after himself.\n\nI feel bad because I know that everyone has something to share and teach others, but he is so dumb with common sense stuff. He could literally explain the most complex theories regarding WWII, but not understand why I got upset with him for not cleaning up a soda that he spilled on the carpet. \n\nI am in school and working on bettering myself and he is stuck at this dead end job. He says he is going to do something all of the time, but he has yet to actually do something like go back to school or get a better job... I know verbal abuse is NEVER okay, but I have been so frustrated I call him an idiot all of the time. I am not sure how to talk to him about this. I have talked to him about being more active around the apartment, but nothing has changed. What can I do? Am I thinking about this incorrectly?\n\nI felt so angry with him the other day after having to pick up his clothes, I wanted to tear our place up. I can just feel myself turning into this ugly monster and I know that communication is a much better route, I am just not sure how to bring it up or present it in a different way that he will understand. Any and all advice is appreciated. I am at my end and it is to the point where we have talked about getting me help (xanax), but I do not feel that my complaints are unreasonable. I would never take xanax. I absolutely do not want to be medicated. I am simply trying to find new routes to reach him.", "summary": "I have no patience with my bf, how can I be more understanding? Is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_1g6j6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm pretty sure my boyfriend [27m] is lying to me [28f]. Could use some advice.", "post": "I recently moved out of the room that my boyfriend of a year and a half and I shared. Our relationship had been deteriorating, and I had completely lost myself and was miserable. The first couple of weeks afterwards was awful and he was incredibly angry at me, but over the past week I felt that we had made great strides towards figuring out what went wrong on both of our parts and making amends. We have an appointment for couples therapy in two days. \n\nTonight however, he suddenly disappeared and his phone has been off all night. Roommates of his (acquaintances of mine) had contacted me telling me that he had been cheating on me, but he convinced me that they were lying as they do not like him and are trying to force us apart (a plausible scenario, they are very immature and would feasibly do something like that to make him miserable). I believed him. But on a hunch tonight, I created a fake login to OKcupid and punched in some of his stats. His profile was the first to pop up, in which he described himself as single, recently out of a long term relationship, and looking for short term dating. His last login was today at 4:30PM (shortly before he leaves work).\n\nI am trying to give him the benefit of a doubt, for the sake of working things out, but I am having a hard time. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Thank you reddit.", "summary": "moved out of room shared with boyfriend, reports of  his behavior have been sketchy and I found his online dating profile. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_2h3gqg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/M] have been hanging out with a girl [23/F] a lot one on one, but I can't get a read on her. Should I just tell her I like her? or try and make a move?", "post": "So for the past few weeks I have been hanging out with this girl I'm very into. We have a lot of mutual friends so when we started hanging out it wasn't really \"dates\" it just seemed to happen, we've only know each other for a couple months so it's not like this is a long term friend or anything.  I think I've made it kind of clear that I'm kind of interested in more than being friends, I've invited her over and made her dinner for example, not something 2 typical friends do. We also text a lot, semi-flirty I guess. \n\nAnyway it's really hard to get a read on her, sometimes it seems like she's interested but she's one of those people who is just friendly to everybody. I'm planning on doing something soon but I don't really know the best way to go about it. I was thinking of just saying something like \"hey, so I really like you, and I was wondering if you felt the same way\" but this seems a bit high school-ish. \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "girl is hard to read, not sure how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_171enn", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Skiing revenge! or why you shouldn't be an asshole.", "post": "(First post here!)\n\nSo I'm in Canada, Whistler for my summer holiday, its my 4th time around so I'm an alright Skiier, not the best, but able to skii down runs intended for the experienced.\n\nIts nearing 3pm (which is the time the mountain closes) so I decide it would be best to wrap it up and head back to the hotel, I start heading down the mountain and onto an area that has a hill that leads down to a run on a slight incline.\n\nThe thing about it though, is that there is a edge leading down to a forest, so its more or less intended that you skii straight so as to not danger others coming up on the side of you, I can't wrap my head around it, but some guy in red decided it was for the best if he would skii left to right, taking up the whole run, this is bad because -\n\nA. This takes up the whole run\n\nB. If you come up the side you will be knocked into the snow, or into the forest\n\nthe small amount of people who do manage to get past him give him dirty looks and one guy even threw up the finger, but he continued to do it, I'd had enough, I wanted to get home, away from the home, but this guy is continuing to be a douchenozzle, so I decide to dish out some petty revenge.\n\nWith much difficulty, I managed to cut infront of him and give him a taste of his own medicine\n\nhe moves to the left\n\nI move to the left\n\nhe moves to the right\n\nI move to the right\n\nat this point, he is agitated, displaying it by shouting \"LEFT! LEFT!\" signalling me that he was attempting to cut infront, I ignored him.\n\nIn the end, a run that takes about 5 minutes took another 15 minutes, but it was all worth it.", "summary": "Guy is blocking everybody on a ski run, dish out some revenge*"}
{"id": "t3_zymgl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Any tips for a girl who has asked a guy out on a first date? I really like this guy and I don't want our outing to go flat!", "post": "I'm 19F, he's early twenties. The date is in about a week. I haven't had much dating experience, so I sort of feel like a retriever in a chem lab here. Most of the first date tips I've found online are for a man taking a woman out on a date, but I feel like the vibes are a bit different in my situation, since I was the initiator. \n\nI want to be able to carry this date smoothly, however the mutual plan right now is to go out to eat and then wing it. I have *no* idea what we should do afterward, and I'm dreading an awkward fizzle early on. I am *really* looking forward to getting to know this guy better, so any advice at all is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Not sure of my ability to carry a first date strongly, looking for advice on that, as well as ideas for what to do after we eat, and tips for keeping the date running smoothly. Thanks for any and all feedback!"}
{"id": "t3_1wsduw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister [14F] sneaks out constantly and I [22F] have no idea what to do in regards to preventing or stopping it.", "post": "We both live with my mother, step father, and three other siblings. \n\nBasically, I've caught her sneaking out on numerous occasions. I've confronted her about it, made her tell me exactly where she's going, who she's with, and actually met these people that she's leaving with. Now she tells me every time she leaves and understands I have a time frame of how long I can comfortably deal with her being gone, but all of this is fucked up. I want nothing more than to tell my mother, and I know I've just become an enabler. The problem is.... no matter what I do, the kid will find another way to do this, which concerns me, because then -I won't know where she is.-\n\nMy mother would flip her lid just like any good parent would, but there is virtually nothing we could do to prevent her from doing this other than chaining her to the wall at night. Our house is incredibly easy to sneak around and out of. She is rebellious and has no respect, which is baffling to me, because I was never like this in any shape or form. \n\nWhat do I do, reddit? I could call the police and give an anonymous tip off that a minor is out and about to scare the day lights out of her, but is that the right course of action? Is this really as helpless as I feel?", "summary": "Sister sneaks out constantly. I have no idea what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1umxrh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending my dad a text that said \"Your mom's a retard!\"", "post": "I was meaning to respond to one of my friends who called me a retard with a classic \"Your mom\" retort.  Unfortunately, my phone has a habit of opening the wrong message thread occasionally, especially when switching between threads.  Like the idiot I am, I clicked on my friend's thread, which opened my dad's, and simply wrote \"Your mom's a retard!\"  Didn't realize it until at least 15 minutes later, at which point I sent an apology text.  He hasn't responded yet.\n\nFor background, my dad is very conservative, and to call anyone a retard is a huge offense to him, but between this friend and I, we have the running inside joke and rapport to use it without either of us being offended.", "summary": "Told my conservative dad his mom is a retard."}
{"id": "t3_4632n8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] have been dating a girl [28 F] for two months, fell for her, but recently found out she is terminal. I need perspective...", "post": "A month into dating she told me she has CF (cystic fibrosis). I read online that the average lifespan of people with CF is 37.\nI really like (love?) this person but this situation is also causing me anxiety...\n\nA part of me is terrified to build a life with her knowing in the back of my mind that she won't be around in the future. If we had kids, I know that she wouldn't be around for them.\n\nI've also never really lost anyone that I've cared about before. I'm scared of the amount of pain I will feel and that I won't be able to handle it. That it will destroy me.\n\nI'm posting this question on /r/relationships because I was hoping people might be able to provide me with some perspective. Would you date someone with a terminal illness? If so, what are some ways I could look at this situation that would allow me to manage my anxiety so that we could have a healthy relationship together?", "summary": "Need perspective on if dating someone who is terminal is a good idea/perspective on how to do it."}
{"id": "t3_43iaca", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flushing my keys down the toilet.", "post": "This literally happened 20 minutes ago. I'm fairly intoxicated, so I don't know how well I can put this into a language you can understand. I went to use the bathroom, and somehow, in my drunken state, I managed to allow the lanyard of my keys to fall into the toilet bowl, and to be sucked into the realm of wherever sewage goes. I've lost the room key to my dorm, as well as other important or otherwise irreplaceable keys in the process. This is by far the dumbest thing I've ever managed to do. \n\nNow I have to go about finding replacements in the morning.", "summary": "I got drunk and flushed my keys down the toilet."}
{"id": "t3_3rb6sy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Im (21m) shes (22f). Shes expressed to me that shes half assing the relationship..", "post": "Hey reddit, so my gf  \"L\" of a little over two years has confided in me that she wants her space from me, she told me that she only feels shes half assing the relationship and she doesnt want to burden me being with someone who only half cares. I absolutely love this and thought she would be the one i married in the future. She said time was all she really needed, i let her have her space. Two days go by and i only recieved two text completely of her checking up on me. On the third day i asked her if we could talk. So we meet up and im trying to figure out what she wants to do. She tells me she just feels suffocated as we spent 90% of our time together. She tells me she feels like she lost herself and doesnt know who she is anymore. She doesnt really have friends and she never mentioned going to hang out with anyone else. We dont technically live under the same roof, but we were sleeping over at each others houses constantly so it felt like we lived together. While we were talking she expressed to me i was someone she sees waking up to everyday and spending her life with. She tells me that she just wants to be friends for now and she told me maybe we could get back together. Its just right now shes not ready to be in a serious relationship. I just dont understand what happened. I treated her exceptional and we even bought a car together because i was sure this is who i wanted to be with. I dont know where to go with this, im trying to be friends with her because thats what she wants. We havent spent time together since and she usualy text me just to check up on me. Im hanging onto that little piece of her that I know wants to be with me. Ive seen it come out and its the greatest feeling ever to see her care like that. I dont want to lose her but i dont know what to do. Help.  Ask for clarification if needed.", "summary": "i dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_49jwfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my LDR boyfriend [19M] of 6 months, i want him to cut out a friend", "post": "Okay so. Been seeing this guy (long distance) for about a year. \"Offically\" for just over 6 months.  Last June when we weren't quite official yet he \"cheated\" on me (for lack of a better word) basically he said we were exclusive when he hadn't broken it off with someone yet.  \n\nSo he dated this girl for about 6 weeks (nothing serious) before I figured out he was being too sketchy and confronted him.  He came clean, after a few weeks we decided to stay together (after much debate and many arguments) and they remained friends.\n\nThey got close and he considers her a best friend and over the past 6 months I've tolerated this but its just a slap in the face to me for what happened and it honestly just hurts me.  I brought this to his attention and he completely understands its not fair to me but he's fighting me on cutting her out.  \n\nAll I can really do at this point is give the ultimatum, right? Me or her.  He says he loves me, he wants to marry me but he's fighting back on this one thing that i easily would have done for him.  Do i just give up and let this go?...\n\nHelp meeeeee :(", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated on me 6 months ago and I want the girl out of our lives"}
{"id": "t3_su6j8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I trust my husband, but I'm uncomfortable with his actions. He doesn't think anything is wrong.", "post": "I'm 21 and my husband is 24. We have been married for 2 years. He's the greatest guy ever and I trust that he won't try to hurt me, but I feel like some of his actions overstep boundaries. \n\nSometimes he'll stay over at a friend's house - sometimes male, sometimes female - without telling me. I really wish he'd let me know beforehand, even just texting me before I go to bed would fix this. A lot of his female friends are really flirty and physical too. They constantly hit on him, even in front of me, and hug a lot. I'm really uncomfortable with this and I asked him to ask his friends to back off a little, but they haven't. Sometimes when I call or text him I won't get a response for 6 hours or more. Sometimes it might be a day or two before I hear back from him.\n\nI talked to one of my friends about this and she thinks he's cheating, but I don't. I know him better than anyone else and I know he wouldn't hurt me.\n\nIs there anything I can do? Like I said, these things all make me uncomfortable even though I know nothing is wrong. I've talked to him about all this and nothing has changed.", "summary": "I'm uncomfortable with some of my husband's actions (hugging friends, not returning texts, etc). What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2tl624", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M,16] how to respond to [F,16]", "post": "Long story short, girl knows i like her, gives slight hints she likes me back, then tells her friend she doesnt want relationship with me but its not because of me its just because she doesnt want a relationship. Girl will be telling me this in person soon. Whats my next move?\nThe way i see it, i can play it 2 ways. no 1 - Just play it cool, be like hey thats ok i understand, give me a shout if you change your mind. And if she asks if we can be friends, ill say no i need some space right now to clear my mind and focus on other things and people. No 2 - Tell her how i feel and ask her to be completely open rather than \"letting me down in a way to not hurt me\" and tell her that i like her a lot and if she wants me in her life, i wont be there as a friend or male girlfriend and even though i really like her, i wont be forever waiting for her like her backup. No 1 seems to be more casual, cool and masculine and relies on her missing me when im not there and actually changing her mind and then even pursuing me AFTER shes changed her mind. This plan seems to be less efficient but it doesn't make me look like a pussy begging for her. Plan 2 seems more honest and open and DMN like but might make me look like a wimp and make it seem as if im begging for her and i need her (which i hate to admit, i sort of do....). This way seems to rely on her actually liking me back so its like a go big or go home situation. What is the best way to respond? I like her a lot and this thing has been going on for ages...", "summary": "girl i like a lot is confusing AF, need a way to respond to what she will be saying to me very soon."}
{"id": "t3_3zxi6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28m] want to see her [28f] again, but I may need surgery, which may make it difficult", "post": "I went on a date with a girl this past Sunday, about 5 days ago, and it went very well. We hung out for a total of 7.5 hours and I could tell she was into me. And I know I'm pretty into her. We've been texting back and forth, and she's actually been initiating conversations quite a bit.  \n\nI'd like to see her again over this coming weekend, but there's a problem. I have what's known as a pilonidal cyst. It's a non-cancerous, non-life threatening cyst that's, well...basically on my buttcheek. In fact, I've had it for about 10 years. Normally, it doesn't hurt much, but every few months, it'll flare up for a day or two and then get better on its own. However, over the last few days, I've been experiencing the worst flare-up ever, to the point where I can't sit down or lie on my back. I saw a doctor and he gave me an antibiotic and a narcotic painkiller and referred me to a surgeon.  \n\nNow, I may need to get surgery on this cyst, which means I may be bedridden or house-ridden for a few days. It may also limit how much...ahem...physical movement I can do and what positions I can be in. I may not be able to see her this weekend.  \n\nWhat should I tell her? I don't want to tell her that I'm basically having ass surgery because, well...that's kind of embarrassing. Should I just tell her I'm having lower back surgery, without going into the details? Should I tell her I may not be able to see her this weekend? My worry is that she'll either get (1) impatient about not being able to see me this weekend or (2) grossed out by my surgery and just end it.\n\nOf course, I'm not sure what the surgeon will recommend. I'll be seeing the surgeon in a few hours and he might just do some minimally invasive procedure that'll ease the pain and swelling now and do something more permanent later on.", "summary": "May need to get an embarrassing surgery, not sure what I should tell this girl I want to see over the weekend."}
{"id": "t3_2w9moq", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Question about saying \"no\" to 18 month old", "post": "When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do.  When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt).  I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father?  I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder.", "summary": "my 18 month old laughs at me when I discipline him, any help on what I can do to make him take me seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_zlaek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/22] I'm leaving my parents for another country and extremely emotional about this - how to overcome this? On top of this, a met a girl a week ago.", "post": "So, I've got enrolled to prestigious masters program in Europe and (I want to stress this) I can't not take this chance. The thing is, I'm massively emotionally attached to my parents and we have a perfect relationship. Graduating this university may lead to finding a good job and staying in that country for good (which was my intention, originally), but the thought of visiting my parents maybe once a year doesn't sit well with me. To make things worse, I met this girl (who I really like, but too soon to call it a relationship) about a week ago and who knows, maybe she's the one? Man, life is never easy.\n\nDear people of reddit, have you gone through something like that? \nPlease, give me some advices.", "summary": "I *have* to leave my parents (possibly for good) and new girlfriend for Europe; extremely attached to them and don't know how to overcome this."}
{"id": "t3_525jy4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] found a few strands of hair in the apartment of the guy [34/M] that I am seeing", "post": "I've been seeing this guy for three months. We're not exclusive, however, we are very intimate with one another and text every single day. I go over to his place about once or twice a week. I, obviously, do have feelings for him.\n\nHe left his place earlier this morning, while I slept in and had the whole apartment to myself. When I woke up and started packing my things, I noticed two long jet black strands of hairs (my hair is brown/black) in his kitchen. I compared my hair and the strands under the sunlight, it was different hues (so I know for a fact its not mine). Then I started looking around his bed room and found another long jet black strand in the corner of the room. I'm concerned that he is sleeping with other women because 1) i do have feelings for him 2) we do have unprotected sex. I don't want to jump into conclusions however strands of hair are usually physical evidence that a man is sleeping with another women. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Found a few strands of hair in the apartment of this guy I've been seeing. Should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_dcg34", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To pursue a Computer Sc. PhD or continue working? Especially if one has no real intention to work in academia even after grad school ...", "post": "Rather self-explanatory post, but just to elaborate a little further...\n\nHas anyone, after working for a period of time, decided for whatever reasons to head back into academia to pursue a PhD in Computer Sc, with no intention to join the world of academia but intend to head back into the industry? If so, what were the reasons. Also, how did it turn out? Was there anything that you regretted? Did it work out?\n\nThe reason I'm asking for advice is because currently I'm employed full-time, and know how fortunate I am to have a job in these hard times. However, being from a foreign country and working in the UK, they are making it difficult for one to extend one's working visa because I do not possess a Masters/PhD and only a Bachelor's. \n\nIt's just a little frustrating because I have been here almost half a decade now, but I have been sitting on a visa that has no count towards residency and soon, I will have to apply for a visa with even more restrictions. \n\nI'm thus considering boosting up my paper qualifications, so as to prevent myself from being in such a situation ever again. I believe the stipend from grad school actually pays almost as much as I am earning now (in terms of spending power, not direct currency conversion), but of course, given if I spent 5 years working as opposed to studying, there might be opportunities for raises/promotions.\n\nObviously, plunging into a PhD solely for that reason is bound to get looks of disapproval. I am, of course, interested in expanding my knowledge and having an opportunity to have time for myself. I have had research experience (published a paper, presented at conferences) so I'm aware of the challenges research presents.\n\nAny advice from people who have gone through similar situations? Would love to hear from you.", "summary": "Software Engineer with a job I'm happy at (for now), deciding whether to pursue a PhD to improve qualifications and explore interests and a new challenge."}
{"id": "t3_167sh7", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[m17] Just went through my first breakup[f17]. Some questions.", "post": "I post here a while back ( about backing off my girlfriend. I did, but that wasn't the source of the problem. The source was how polar opposite we were, and miscommunication. It was fun while it lasted, there was a leeeetle sex, but I certainly don't think I would get back with her. However, as I am still in highschool (a small one at that. I locker directly next to her) and we are in the same friends group, I see her a lot. And frankly getting over her is incredibly hard. We've become more friendly than right after the breakup, but it certainly doesn't mean I'm over her. Is it always this hard? Am I taking it too hard maybe? How do you move along in this situation? How have you moved along in general? How do you stop missing being in a relationship without getting in a new one right away, if there is a way?", "summary": "First breakup. 3 months. Wonders if its always this hard to get over a relationship. Sorry (not sorry) for being in high school."}
{"id": "t3_2pb618", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23) wish I could die. My heart belongs to two brothers (27/24).", "post": "My boyfriend (27)was 25 when he met me after I(23) graduated high school at 19. I fell for him after a couple months and losing my virginity. Despite his excessive pot use and lack of empathy (he has adhd and potentially high functioning autism), he was the best person ever to enter my life. Even when he messed around on me when we'd been together for about six months,  I got over it because he was worth it to me. \n\nThree months after we met, his brother(24) moved home and he and I hit it off with such an undeniable chemistry and understanding that it can be cut with a knife. For three years not even an inappropriate look has been shared because obviously it can't be anything. \nRecently my boyfriend dropped a bomb on me that he hasn't saved any money (in two years) towards our planned move for me to finish my degree.  I had to withdraw my enrollment at the transfer college because he was too late to tell me and now I have severely limited options to continue my education.\n \nFor months even before this his brother and I have been spending less and less time together. Once best friends who hung out and talked daily, I make a point to only spend time together with friends and family present occasionally now because I can't control my emotions anymore and he seems to do the same according to his cousin who shared with me that he's confided feelings to him. \nThe psychologist in me knows I am projecting my feelings of uncertainty and frustration with his brother who spent all his money on pot instead of saving for our future but the feelings have always been here. \nThey are great men and I've loved them both since the beginning. Neither better than the other. Each one possessing things that the other lacks. My heart has belonged to both and still does. As my love dwindles for the one who keeps letting me down more room is made for the other's to grow and for me to die as my heart gets pulled to pieces. They deserve better and I profoundly love and care for them both.", "summary": "I am in love with two brothers and it is killing me."}
{"id": "t3_23y6j1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am confused about the relationship with my friend [22 F] of 13 years.", "post": "So yeah, not really sure what to do at this point.  I've known this girl for most of my life.  We're super close.  When we were younger and first met we \"dated\" for a period of time, but back then it was a long distance internet thing and it didn't really mean anything.  It ended peacefully, and we've been close friends ever since.\n\nThe thing is, I just don't know what to make of the friendship anymore.  I have feelings for the girl, and I try to not let it get in the way, but it's hard sometimes.  It hurts me when I see her pursue a love interest only to get played for a fool in the dudes childish games.\n\nThere's time where I feel like maybe the feelings I have might be mutual, but I'm not 100% sure and I don't want to act on it and then make things awkward.  We openly flirt and joke around, but I've never really thought more of it than just playfulness between friends that just happen to be of opposite gender.\n\nI don't know, maybe I'm just crazy and I should just be thankful for the great friendship I have, but part of me isn't sure.", "summary": "Good friends with a girl for most of my life.  I have feelings for her, but not sure how to find out if they're mutual without making things awkward."}
{"id": "t3_1k0ecw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] can't get over my ex girlfriend [19/F]. I need help.", "post": "Long story short, she broke up with me at the beginning of the summer, after dating for over a year and being in a long distance relationship for ~8 months, and she was the first girl I ever loved. Throughout the school year, even being ~100 miles away, we still made time to see each other at least every other weekend. The breakup came out of nowhere (from my point of view) and it completely crushed me. I was an emotional wreck for about a month.\n\nIt's been somewhere around three months now, and I just can't get over her. I know the relationship is over. I know she isn't going to come back to me. Honestly, I wouldn't even take her back if she did, after the way she hurt me.\n\nThe thing is, I KNOW I'll find someone else. I'm only 19, I have so much time ahead of me. But FUCK. I just miss everything about her, and the way it used to be. Last summer we spent nearly every day together, and it was the best summer of my life. But now, anytime I let my mind wander, it goes back to her. Everything I do still reminds me of her. I miss how happy I was, and wish I didn't think like that, and think about her. I just want to be over her and move on.", "summary": "How do I get over someone who was a huge part of my life for almost a year and a half?"}
{"id": "t3_17i13g", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Small claims situation?", "post": "My previous roommate has owed me a sum of $500.00 since November 14th of 2012. I thought he was a good friend so let me explain a little. We made a verbal agreement that he would not pay his half the final month of rent since he was moving out early, and in return, I would keep his half of the security deposit. Fair enough. I have known him for a few years so whatever; right? Well, since then the move out inspection, the security deposit return we had in our minds the wrong amount. We were expecting to get in return around $800 after usual wear and tear (seeing $800 is what we thought we paid for it) but turns out, the documentation team for our apartment complex only shows us paying $299 for security deposit. Doesn't make sense but I have no paperwork to back up my side so what can I do. I send messages to my previous roommate explaining he still owes me money for his final month of rent as well as the final half of utilities for that month. He acknowledges the fact he owes me money. His father gets involved and has a phone conversation where we make verbal agreement they will submit payment to me by the end of January; 31st at the latest. I have communicated multiple times via facebook chat, gmail messages, and phone calls with them but am getting no response. What can I really do to rectify this situation?", "summary": "old roommate owes me $500. Lives in different state now. Knows he owes me $500 and wont pay up. I have conversation between us to use as evidence. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3so61z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25/F) messed up Thanksgiving plans, and now people are upset.", "post": "About four months ago, I moved out of state to take my first professional job after completing grad school. I'm about a four hour drive away, and until last night, haven't been home since the summer.\n\nI had initially told family this weekend I would be coming home to visit. They started chattering on FB in a group message, and I didn't notice that the wrong date was in the FB message, which said I was coming home next weekend. I can't come home next weekend due to work commitments. Since I cannot be home for Thanksgiving due to my job (something I am not torn up about, because I hate choosing which side of the family to spend the day with, since one side is ultimately hurt they were not chosen. This weekend ended up working out perfectly because I was going to get to have family dinner with both sides of the family on separate days), I planned on coming home early to see family. My next opportunity won't be until Christmas. Plans were made...and unraveled the other day when it was realized that I was home this weekend, half the people were unable to go now, original dinner plans were not possible given that the turkey was frozen, and I absolutely couldn't change my plans, because I have work commitments next weekend.\n\nMy family is obviously upset; my parent/stepparent involved in these plans were relatively understanding, and came up with a backup plan. An extended family member originally took it bad, but came around and was able to rework their schedule to make it over part of the day. Another one (someone I am close to) sent me a horrendously guilt tripping text message this morning about how upset they were, who was going to go and now couldn't, and how disappointed they were. I just drove four hours overnight after a full work day, barely slept, and woke up to that on my first day home. I told them I didn't need the guilt trip because I already felt awful enough as it is. They apologized, but the damage is still there. I know that's how a lot of people are feeling, and an apology doesn't take away what I read. Because now I know how people are feeling, even if they don't tell me to my face.\n\nHow do I navigate this gigantic mess?", "summary": "I can't read and didn't notice the dates of my visit home were messed up. Early Thanksgiving plans were ruined. People upset. Ruined the holidays, destroyed the family, and possibly life as we know it judging from the reaction I got. (/sarcasm)"}
{"id": "t3_4ab7l9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [16/M], feeling split between two people, and also feeling really guilty about it. What do I do, and am I a terrible person?", "post": "So me and this girl have been texting for about 2 months or so, and I've discovered that she's interested and wants me to ask her out. I've thought about it in the past but nothing really serious. A lot of my friends/ her friends/ people I know have found out about this, and now they all expect me to get together with her. Personally, I don't feel like we've gotten close enough and would prefer to get to know her more first.\n\nHowever, a couple months ago there was this another girl that I was pretty close with. We'd talk fairly often in person, and we shared a good amount of friends. I developed a pretty sizable crush on her, but we never moved past the \"friend\" stage. Eventually I figured that I didn't really have a chance, so I (tried to) move on. Flash forward a few months. We now have no classes together at all. I've discovered that one of my other friends now likes her. Unfortunately, I still have feelings for her as well, and am now fairly certain she feels the same way about me. None of my friends know about my feelings towards her, everyone knows that my friend likes her.\n\nIf I'm completely honest with myself, I would prefer to pursue girl no.2, but I'm afraid of losing my friend and that people might think I was leading on girl no.1 (I legitimately thought we were just friends.) \n\nI feel like a pretty terrible person for this whole situation.", "summary": "I had a crush on this girl and I think she feels the same way back, but my friend also likes her. I've also discovered that another girl likes me and everyone wants us to get together. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_17odi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[First Post Here] My girlfriend is upset that I do not get mad at her; I have no idea what is going on. [Both 17]", "post": "So today my girlfriend of 8 months and I had a talk about something minor, but our conversation kept getting deeper.  As we dove deeper into how we truly felt about things, she ended up admitting that she doesn't like that I dont get mad at her.  Let me explain:\n\nI do not get mad, ever.  I've never yelled at her.  I don't know why, and nothing she does really annoys me.  I just cannot get mad at her.  I prefer to talk about any relationship issues in a civil and calm manor with her.  \n\nShe said that she doesn't like feeling like she is the only one who gets mad about things, and she wants us both to be equally mad.  But I cannot get mad!  She even suggested an exercise, where she wanted me to find something she did that annoyed me and yell and curse at her to convey my anger.  I couldn't even think of anything that she did to annoy me, let alone yell and curse at her.  So, r/relationships, please help me.  This literally goes against everything I thought I knew about women (seriously, I thought they wanted a guy who doesnt get mad ever).  Help!", "summary": "Girlfriend doesnt like that I dont get mad.  She wants me to yell at her when we get in arguments, but I am naturally passive.  What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2z6sw6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Can't get this girl [17/F] off my mind ever since I [18/M] was talking to her last summer.", "post": "So real quick backstory: I have friends that introduced me to this girl a few years back (like over 5 years ago) and I really didn't think much of her but then recently last summer she started to talk to me out of the blue, and we would constantly be texting or even skyping (Like I would leave my friends house to go home to skype her, and I've never done that for a girl before, I was infatuated)  , but here is the catch, she has a boyfriend. Now I'm not usually the kind of guy to mess around with a girl thats in a relationship but I really liked this girl, she seemed interested in me too, and I didn't know what her intentions were for talking to me out of the blue while she had a boyfriend. We stopped talking when I suggested she breaks up with her boyfriend, and ever since I can't stop thinking about what could have been. \n\nSo I guess I'm kind of wondering what I should do. Should I wait for her to break up with her boyfriend and be the rebound, or should I start talking to her again and tell her that I like her? Any advice helps! Thanks", "summary": "I talked to a girl in the summer that had a boyfriend ( she initiated it) and we stopped talking, but I cant get her off my mind."}
{"id": "t3_31bo8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I panicked and agreed to a date I don't want to go on.", "post": "So I've  (24F) got this friend (27M) that I've known for a while has had a crush on me, but I'm not interested for a number of reasons - not physically attracted, he sells drugs on the side, etc. He's one of my roommates close friends, and he and some other people were over last night playing board games and drinking. When we went out to smoke, he started saying some very complimentary things and ended up asking me out to dinner tonight. I'm horrible at that. I've got issues when it comes to relationships in the first place (I'm in counseling for them), so I sort of panicked and froze and ended up agreeing to go on this date with a friend that I don't want to date.\n\nSo I need some advice as to what to do. The panic inside me about this wants to cancel the date, but I'm not sure if that's the right move considering he's a friend and someone I see regularly. Would it be worse to go on the date, though? I know I messed up by saying yes, but I don't wanna lead him on anymore than I already have, either.", "summary": "Agreed to a date tonight with a friend I don't want to date. Should I go or cancel?"}
{"id": "t3_1hlurt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M/24) Getting phone number of woman in my apartment building", "post": "I ran into this woman in my apartment building twice in one day last week, did the usual smile, 'have a nice day' routine. I see her again on Friday when we're both on the way home, she recognizes me and talks to me. I actually didn't recognize her with sunglasses on, felt a little rude. We have a fun chat for the 10-15 minute walk home. When we got to the building, we ran into someone else and they joined our conversation. I didn't get a chance to get her phone number.\n\nToday, I see a package with her name (it's fairly unique, so 99% sure it's her) by the mailboxes where the UPS and FedEx guys leave them, it has her apartment number, obviously.\n\nMy question is, would it be creepy/weird to leave her a note on or under her door that I liked talking to her, wish I got to exchange numbers, would love to talk more, etc...? or should I just wait for next time we run into each other?", "summary": "Met girl in my apartment building Didn't get to exchange numbers I see her apt number on a package Creepy to leave her a note?"}
{"id": "t3_1j4v2a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Pregnant [25F] with my crazy ex-bf's [40M] baby. WTF do I do.....", "post": "Crisis mode: engage. \n\n---\n\nWe (25F 40M) have been together for 2.5 years. When things are good, they're GREAT. He is doting, affectionate, thoughtful, admiring, and generally the best boyfriend there could be. \n\n---\n\nHOWEVER, when he gets emotional (and for some reason this tends to be around holidays) he gets BATSHIT crazy. Not physically abusive crazy, but completely unable to think rationally... he attacks and demeans and cannot see how bad his behavior is until I pull the plug on the relationship. \n\n---- \n\nI pulled the plug over 4th of July weekend. I haven't seen him since then. Last time we had sex was July 3. I was still on my depo shot. Yesterday I had such bad stomach cramps I went to the ER with what I thought was an obstructed intestine. Turns out, I'm pregnant. \n\n--- \n\nShould I give him a chance? I haven't told him yet. If I choose medical abortion, should I tell him at all? If I did tell him, he would want me to have it and he would want to try again. I have always wanted a child, and were it not for his outrageous behavior I would have no question of keeping it. He would financially support both of us, and would be unquestionably doting MOST of the time, but what about the rest? \n\n---\n\nI have a week to decide before I can't take the abortion pill anymore. Any alternative answers to what I've heard already would be nice. Thanks everyone", "summary": "I got pregnant the last time I had sex with my now-ex boyfriend. He is kind of crazy at times. He would want it but I don't know what to do. Keep/not? Tell/not?"}
{"id": "t3_25zvv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my [24 M] boyfriend are in a LDR with no end in sight", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and half now and about a year of that has been long distance, about 150 miles apart.  We see each other on most weekends, but for the past 3 months he has been planning on moving to the town I live in.  I start grad school in the Fall and it was the only opportunity I really had.  He had a great opportunity to work from home, making the same amount of money and living in the same city as me.\n\nLiterally a week before he was due to move (already signed a lease and everything), his job offers him a deal that is to good to refuse to stay in town and not move to my city for at least 2 years.\n\nI don't expect him to turn down this offer at all, I mean i know I wouldn't, but I'm feeling really depressed and down. I love him and want to be with him, but long distance is a lot with no end in sight.  So any input would be great!", "summary": "Long-distance relationship that was supposed to end, but is going on indefinitely."}
{"id": "t3_2tmwdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [26M] has asked me [27M] to be his best man with a condition. Am I being selfish?", "post": "So this one is kind of tame in comparison to some of the problems on here but here goes anyway. My friend is getting married and has asked me to be the best man but he said, quite assertively, that he wants me to be clean shaven for the ceremony. At the time I was caught off guard and happy to be asked so I said okay. However having had time to think about it I feel like it's quite unfair for him to ask that. It took me months to grow this beard and I'm very fond of it. A lot of people have told me I suit it and it does actually mean something. My last girlfriend couldn't bear the feeling of my stubble so I had to have a wet shave every day which I hate doing. That relationship ended really badly and growing the beard was (is) part of me trying to move on. My friend doesn't know this and has mainly seen the beard in context of me being a mess as I stopped looking after my appearance when I sank into quite a deep depression. I'm clawing my way out of that now and I've started to make an effort again. The beard is still there but a lot neater and last night was the first time my friend has seen it like this (he works away for stretches at a time and asked me to be his best man on the phone). He appeared to be looking at my beard thoughtfully last night, perhaps realising it is a style and not just a mess. I didn't bring it up last night because I was unsure if I'm being selfish. Am I? I know it will grow back but it will take months to get to the length it is now.", "summary": "Friend wants me to be his best man but on the condition that I shave off my glorious beard. Am I selfish to not want to do that?"}
{"id": "t3_1ipxnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Shy 21M, been working at building where a shy 23ishF also works for 2 months and I think we find each other attractive but we haven't talked for more than 30 seconds or so. How would you handle this? (specific Q's in description)", "post": "1) Would you date someone who works in the same building but you only ever see each other at lunch and are in totally separate departments, and if things get awkward either of you could decide to eat lunch elsewhere?\n\n2) If a guy started talking to you, would you ever get shy/nervous and try to bail yourself out by bringing someone nearby into the conversation, or would you only do this to diffuse the situation intentionally?\n\n3) Say for a second you were this girl I am talking about and we ended up dating. Would you want to eat lunch together every day? Would you want to eat together at work never? Or just sometimes?", "summary": "Please read the actual questions"}
{"id": "t3_2kwn8g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] found out my bf [34/M] is divorced and has a child he has no contact with", "post": "This is pretty bad but I found out my boyfriend of one year is divorced and has a child because I snooped through his phone. There is an application that lets people upload pictures and I looked through his suggested friends list on that app. I saw one of his suggested friend was his own name so I clicked it and saw his pictures. They were baby pics and comments under that saying \"your daughter is cute\" and all that confirming to be his child. \n\nI started to shake and tremble at the thought of how he lied to me for a year. He told me he was divorced maybe two months into our relationship and I told him thats not a big deal. I asked him if he had a child and he said no. \n\nI explained to him its not the fact that he has a child, its the underlying notion; he lied constantly. In fact, he's lied on several other occasions as well but I can't get into those details. He had the chance to tell me the truth about everything when we talked about the divorce.  At first, when we talked about the divorce (without knowing anything about the child) he said this former woman, lied to him that she was pregnant and ran off with all his cash. \n\nNow after I found these pictures of his child he is saying he never actually lived with this woman and she basically just left with the child. He said it was to spare my feelings but I told him he was probably afraid of me leaving him. He also tells me he doesn't have any feelings towards her or the child. I am so lost.", "summary": "dont know what im more torn up about, the fact that he lied or the fact that he has all this history. I come from a pretty conservative family. He is already much older than me and has all this and lied. I'm trying to decide if I can look past this or if I have to let this go. please some feedback or any personal experiences would be helpful and supportive."}
{"id": "t3_10kidn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What's The Coolest Thing You Have Discovered In Your Office Building?", "post": "I work on the 4th floor of a mid sized office building. There is MAJOR work being done on the 2nd and 3rd floors and the doors no longer require key pass entry, so you can just walk in from the main staircase.\n\nWell I needed to go the the bathroom and the one on my floor is GOD AWFUL, so i always go to the lobby as its practically gilded in marble and gold and I feel like a king ;)\n\nAnyhow, i decided that I would check out the 2nd floor on my way down to the 1st and what did i come across?\n\n10,000 SQ FT of completely deserted office space with a deserted clean bathroom.\n\nIts literally large enough where you could comfortably ride a bicycle around and I want to say that few people are aware of this. Ill get some pics later...", "summary": "Found deserted floor in my office where I can loose myself and have exclusive use of an empty bathroom."}
{"id": "t3_2l8cl5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First Date with someone from Tinder", "post": "So tomorow night I (22 y/o male) am planning on meeting up with a girl  I've talked to from tinder for about a week or so (both of us were busy up until now).  I rarely do these types of things, but me and my roomates were using it as a joke one day and I ended up following up on one of the conversations I was having, and we really seem to vibe (as much as one can over the phone).  Thing is, I've never been much of a date person.  I have had girlfriends and we have gone on dates, but never have really had a first date experience, most of the time they were friends and it developed from there.  But I want to make a good first impression on this girl, not to mention I am getting older so it's time my methods matured to match my age.\nWe are meeting at a local bar for drinks and some food (my suggestion).  My goal is to just give her a good feel on my personality, get a good feel on hers, and just don't do anything too over the top to scare her away, while making sure she knows I am interested and enough of a man to make a move.  \n\nSo just a couple questions for you guys who have gone on first dates with people you barely know: how often do you end up kissing them at the end? did you ever not kiss them but she still was interested and you got to the next time?  if she is giving me signals and my dumbass can't interpret them, would she lose too much respect and would I not get a second chance?\n\nI know it sounds like I have no experience with girls, fact of the matter is it is just extremely limited, seeing as how all my relationships developed from friendships and everything else has basically been drunken hookups.", "summary": "first date with someone from the internet. how should I approach it to make sure that while I don't overstep any boundaries, I still make enough of an impression to get the ball rolling."}
{"id": "t3_1j8mfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] checked my GF's [24/F] phone last night and found a suspicious text.", "post": "Link to update \n\n---\n\nCame home early Sat night with the GF after a night out in town. I was just getting strange vibes from her for a good part of the night. Anyway a combination of her actions that night led me to being in a distraught suspicious mood. Anyway I ended up checking her phone when she went to the bathroom. Found 2 texts from another male.\n\nText 1 - Sent last week sunday 3pm\n\"Man so gutted we didnt get to meet up last night, how was your night?\"\n\nText 2 - Sent Friday night just been 11pm\n\"Sup you out tonight?\"\n\nHowever there has been no reply from her at all.\n\nStill has me thinking wtf? Has she been chatting up other guys and givng her number out when drinking/clubbing?\n\nYes I know I broke our trust and it was not good of me to do that, but when theres smoke theres fire.\n\nI'm at a lost on what to do now. I feel like an anxious paranoid creep atm.\n\nwe have been together for 6 months", "summary": "went through gfs phone"}
{"id": "t3_131hod", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Waiting to heal", "post": "I should start at the beginning I guess. When I was sixteen my best friend asked me out. I said no, I wasn't allowed to date (conservative dad). He kept asking for months, and finally I ended up asking him out. We fell in love pretty fast, went off to university together, lived in different rooms in residences, and then he bought a house for us to live in with a roommate in our second year. We had some problems (I had depression issues from bc) but we had fixed everything and were super happy. \nThen we were attacked on the street one night. It was awful, we missed weeks of school and my boyfriend needed reconstructive facial surgery. But I stuck by him and we got through it together. I had PTSD and went on depression pills and anti-anxiety pills. He refused to see anyone and sunk into a depression. But we stayed together, and we loved each other. Unfortunately, after five years of being together the depression took over for him and he ended the relationship because \"he didnt love me\". Turns out he left to work on himself, and when he fixed himself he came back and asked me to marry him (we're 22 and 24 now and almost done school). I was so confused over the breakup and hurting so much still that I said no. Eventually I rebounded with a friend of mine, and moved out of our house to a new place (not with the friend). I regretted it immediately, but I couldn't take him back, I was still too hurt. I wish every single day that I had, and I miss my ex all the time. \nIt's been seven months and I'm still not over my ex. He's fallen in love with another girl, and I'm happy for him, but I can't seem to get over him. Shouldn't I be over him after seven months, especially when I'm seeing someone else? How do I get over him?", "summary": "I screwed up and said no when someone proposed. Now I'm wondering when I'll heal."}
{"id": "t3_vh2y0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was going to move in with my friend, but his crazy, immature girlfriend thinks I want to have sex with him. She's starting fights with me indirectly through other people for really no reason. How can I make her life a living hell without physically touching her?", "post": "A little back story here: She and my would-be future roommate broke up last month for what he said was the final time. He needed a roommate so I volunteered. I was planning on moving in July 1st. That is about a week away. For two weeks, we talked about me moving in and I was under the impression that it was happening. They got back together. She had this crazy idea that I had sex with him. I never did. Instead of talking to me about how she felt, she just gave me mean looks for her bar stool but never talked to me. Today, she sent my current roommate a text saying this:\"You should probably tell your idiot roommate that she's not moving in with my boyfriend. I figured I'd tell you so you could relay the message before I have to and it gets ugly.\" My current roommate just sent crazy girl a message asking her to leave anyone not involved out of this debacle. I text my would-be future roommate kindly asking him to handle this situation his girlfriend has put all of us in. He tells me I can't move in and that he thought I would have already heard the news from someone, instead of telling me directly. Either way, I will be seeing the both of them at a bar I go to on the regular and as much as I'd like to just kick her ass, I don't want to create problems at a bar I actually like to go to. Unfortunately, I probably won't see her anywhere else. I think she deserves a little hell for this and I would appreciate some ideas on how to fuck shit up without having to break her jaw. \n\nIf she had been an adult and just maturely talked to me about how she felt, I would have considered finding a new place to live right then and there. There was no mature discourse, only immature action. \n\nSo I put it to you, Reddit. How do I fuck shit up for her?", "summary": "Bitch acts immature. I want to be immature, as well, and get her back. How?"}
{"id": "t3_2gg9sg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my bestfriend [21F] wants me to come to her to Europe, offering to pay for everything, but I know she wants romantic stuff to happen and I don't want that", "post": "Hey guys.. So i'm going to try to make this short and sweet.. Basically one of my best friends has invited me to accompany her on her graduation trip to Europe. I originally couldn't go because I didnt have the money but she is offering to pay for me and everything, the catch is that I know she has feelings for me but I don't have them for her. \n\nIt all started about 3 or 4 months ago when she came down to my hometown to visit and we ended up hooking up when we were both drunk. I regretted it immediately and ended anything that she thought was starting up, told her I just got out of a 4 year relationship and wanted to just focus on myself for awhile. \n\nWell we didnt talk for a couple weeks, but ended up working everything out and moving back to being best friends. Well she ended up asking me to come with her on her graduate trip to Europe, which is awhile away but it's a big deal so we'd have to start planning for it soon. \n\nThe problem is that I want to go, but I know she's going to want to hook up and kind of be a couple when we go and I don't want to do that. I just want to go to explore a new world and experience new cultures. \n\nI don't want to be an asshole and take advantage of her, but I really do want to go, would it be a dick move to come knowing what I know?", "summary": "Friend who i've hooked up with before but I don't a future with is asking me to go with her on her graduation trip to Europe, but I know she wants romance on it and I don't want that, would it be a dick move to still go?"}
{"id": "t3_22fyhn", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help with new adoptee?", "post": "I have 3 big dogs, 1 male and two females.  When paying the license for one of my dogs, a lady standing right outside the shelter was trying to find a home for a little guy, he looks like a very large chihuahua/corgi mix.  She claimed it was because her son moved away to college, and she couldn't afford to surrender it to the shelter (they wanted almost 175 just to surrender him.)  He was very sweet, so I brought him home.  \nHe has settled in with the other dogs, but he keeps piddling in the house.  I am going to try clicker training him for when he pees outside, but if anyone else can offer some suggestions I would love to hear them.  I have a feeling that the real reason they gave him away is that he was voiding in the home, and they didn't have time to train him right.", "summary": "new adoptee dog keeps piddling in the house-how to train him to go only outside?"}
{"id": "t3_15z417", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do your possessions own you?", "post": "We've all heard that young people of today are spoiled because they have an iPad, $2000 macbook, etc. Usually, expensive electronics are the focus of these attacks. I would surmise that these electronics are required by students today, a decent phone and decent laptop are at least needed, along with high speed internet. Of course, not the $2000 model laptop, but you know where I am coming from.\n\nI would also like to note that these possessions are mobile, unlike a car or a house, which are also much more expensive. Is there a shift towards mobile possessions these days? Or am I wrong, and young people today really are just spoiled?", "summary": "Are young people today replacing durable goods like cars and houses for mobile goods like laptops and smartphones?"}
{"id": "t3_1fpj2q", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Moving: When to tell the kids", "post": "It's very likely that in a year and a half, my children (M6 and F4) and I (27F) will be moving from the UK, where we've lived for 5 years, back to the US where my family lives. Their father (26M) is British and will remain in England, but is supportive of this decision and completely on-board (we've had a very amicable divorce). He will use Skype to keep in touch with the kids on a daily basis and will be able to fly out to visit for 3 weeks at a time during school holidays.\n\nThe kids know my family and have been to the city we're moving to before. My son was born there and we've gone back to visit regularly, so the environment won't be completely alien to them, but it will be a big adjustment nevertheless, as we'll be staying with family for an unknown duration until I can find full-time work that would allow me to get a place of our own. Luckily, my family is extremely supportive as well and there is plenty of room for us. I have qualifications that would allow me to get a good job, so I'm not worried about that, but I know it won't happen immediately.\n\nMy biggest dilemma at this point is figuring out when to tell the kids that we're going to be moving. At this point, I'd say it's a 99% possibility, barring some kind of medical disaster among us that would mean we needed to stay here with access to the NHS. We're visiting my family again at the end of summer and it would be a year from then that we move. \n\nHow long in advance would you bring it up? I've tested the waters a little bit with hypotheticals and I think they'll both be happy about it aside from seeing their dad less. I don't want to spring it on them at the last minute, but I don't know how early is too early. Perhaps telling them when we're there in August would be good, but that would be quite far in advance and I'm not sure if that would be good or bad.\n\nInput is most welcome, especially from anyone who has been in a similar situation!", "summary": "Divorced and moving back to the US from the UK-- when should I tell the kids?"}
{"id": "t3_slbcf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, my boyfriend and I live on different continents; how can he obtain a visa to the United States?", "post": "Some background:\n\nI am a college student. My boyfriend (about the same age) lives in Australia, and so far, our relationship has purely been an online one. He would like to move to the United States at the end of this year so we can be together, but would need to find housing and employment. We have some funds, and my boyfriend is making about 13k a year with a part time job and will be getting another job soon, so while we won't be rolling in money, money isn't the real issue. We are more concerned about him getting a visa.\n\nFrom the State Department website, the three types of immigrant visas are 1) family sponsored, 2) employer sponsored, and 3) special immigrants. \n\n1) He isn't family, but he could get a visa if we became engaged and married. This option looks to be our only choice, but neither of us wants to marry without meeting each other in person. \n\n2) To our understanding, employment visas are awarded only to those who are skilled workers, and we don't see how my boyfriend would be able to be sponsored by an employer.\n\n3) Does not apply.\n\nAdditionally, he cannot apply for a student visa for college because we don't have the funds to pay for the tuition and additional costs, and his family (and mine for that matter) isn't willing to support him.", "summary": "How can he obtain a visa that will allow him to both reside in the U.S. and hold a job?"}
{"id": "t3_3p9llh", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Ladies, how do you react to people you've showed no interest in appearing more often near your regular places?", "post": "I was curious about this question because lately I've regularly stopped at a certain place where I do my activities and hang-ups. However I realized that near that place a former crush/date/ex works near there and I felt a certain feeling that she's willingly avoiding me whenever I am there and it feels awkward. I have no interest in pursuing her but don't want to stop being in that place because I like it for other reasons.\n\nSo from the opposite view, how do you feel and react when seeing someone you've showed no interest in appearing more regularly? Do you feel creeped by it, despite no intentions are made?", "summary": "Been hanging at a place near where a former interest work at. Feels awkward. What is it from your perspective of seeing a former more regularly?"}
{"id": "t3_41sn1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20/F] constantly in the wars with my father [63/M], advice on cohabitation?", "post": "My dad has always been emotionally/verbally/psychologically abusive towards my mother and I. As I've gotten older I've become less submissive and tend to fight back, especially when he's being horrible to my mom. It's never really made any difference, and my psychologist has told me that he's likely to never acknowledge or change his behavior so it would be easier for me to back off. I definitely agree with her and I know he will not change, but when I try to distance myself from the situation or brush him off, he pushes harder. \n\nMy long term plan is to move away but it is a difficult process and there's a lot of shit I have to wade through in the mean time as my age/mental illness (possibly also ASD) make employment nearly impossible and my country's equivalent to social services are hard to deal with (it will likely take months to sort things out with them). \n\nI'm sorry this isn't very detailed, I could write a damn thesis on the entire situation but that's the bare guts of it.", "summary": "I need advice on living with and minimising conflict with my abuser while I have to."}
{"id": "t3_1lavx9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Never talk to girls, always nervous, nothing to say.", "post": "Well, this took a lot Faith to put it in the hands of the internet, but at this point, ill face it, i am desperate. \n\nSo lets start out with a little about me, i am 16, at 6 feet 2 inches tall, chubby at 218 pounds, while i maxed out at 230 3 weeks ago (that number will go down, i assure you. I love you football) i wouldn't say I am attractive, as i have a decently big nose, which is annoyingly the most stand out feature of my face.\n\nNow that being said, i never have had a girlfriend, and that concept to me is something of an foreign language. I would love to say its because I hate people in general, but really I crave friendship and companionship. It mainly has to do with i never really know what to say to anyone. Whenever i hang out with anyone (when that rarely happens) i usually listen, trying to pick up social clues, trying to think of something to say. i almost never can. I Believe it has something to do with that social retardation where everyone has to get their word in, even at points where someone else is speaking.\n\nThis in turn leads me believe I crave attention, but when i get the spotlight, i turn nervous, and it feels scary/weird. Which i believe is why i can never talk to people of the opposite sex, when i can hardly talk to the ones of the same sex, which their doesn't even seem to be that foreign language barrier\n\nI don't even know what the question is, what to ask for help.", "summary": "I weigh a little too much, am a nervous wreck that doesn't ever know what to say to anyone."}
{"id": "t3_v39wx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the fastest you've ever ran and why?", "post": "I'll start.\n\nWhen I was in middle school, I had a friend that lived in a ghetto neighborhood. He invited me and two other friends to sleep over at his house one weekend.\n\nSo here we are hanging out at his place and it's getting late. At about midnight we get bored and decide to explore an abandoned house a few blocks away. As I mentioned, the neighborhood's pretty sketchy so we bring an airsoft pistol with us for \"protection\". Dumb kid mistake.\n\nWe get there and wait to see who has balls big enough to enter the house first. All of a sudden, we notice this little 5 year old kid in the middle of the street crying. One of my friends decides to be a jackass and scare the kid even more. The kid starts screaming. \n\nTwo houses down, a door slams open. What I'm guessing was the 5 year old's drunk dad (visualize stereotypical fat guy wearing a wife beater), stood there with a shotgun. Before he even starts cursing and coming towards us my friend yells, \"OH SHIT, FUCKING RUN!\" \n\nI take off and reach the fastest speed I've ever achieved on foot. There's a fence that leads to a mobile home where we could lose the dad about two hundred feet away. Halfway there and I'm sprinting so fast my right shoe flies off. Then I remember my friend has a \"gun\" on him. Being young and dumb, I thought we would go to prison for having it on us so I start yelling, \"Toss it, TOSS THE GUN!\" I reach the fence first at full speed and just burst through it (lucky it wasn't locked) and we split up through the mobile home complex.\n\nA few minutes later we find each other. The man never did fire his shotgun. I'm not sure it was even loaded, but we were damn happy to have never found out. I never got that shoe back.", "summary": "Went to explore abandoned house, guy with shotgun, lose shoe."}
{"id": "t3_rw4de", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Advice from the unlikely :)", "post": "Me [f,20] and him [m,20] were together for 8 months or so, then another month of on and off until today when I decided I had enough of being pulled around and need to focus on myself for awhile.\n\nAny-whom, we talk over why we are not working etc etc and we stop for  a goodbye hug and kiss. I am feeling pretty sad, but also free at this point. We say goodbye, and part ways. I head to a nearby park and sit down. Feeling a little sorry for myself have a cry on the sly (oh, rhyming!) and this homeless man comes over and sits beside me. \n\nHe introduces himself, and asks me if I am okay. Such kindness from someone who is worse off than me just makes me lose the plot a little bit and I sniffle that my boyfriend and I have just broken up. He asks me how long we were together, I tell him, and he laughs. I was shocked a bit, until he kindly explains that this is a short time, and I am so young. He tells me I am the future, I am the generation that will be in power soon. He tells me I should focus on my goals and get out there and make a difference. He tells me about his experiences of loss and his battles. They make mine feel so small.\n\nAnd then he shares his joint with me. Oh the kindness of a stranger", "summary": "Break-up with boyfriend, homeless man consoles me then shares his joint with me."}
{"id": "t3_2hrcnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(M22) get over my approach anxiety?", "post": "I'm a relatively attractive guy. I'm a senior in college, I'm involved in a lot of organizations(fraternity, Student Government, etc), and I've set myself up for a pretty successful life post-graduation. I have a ton of female friends who I'm close with, but not in a romantic way. \n\nHowever, once I start to think that I'd like to take someone to dinner, I start over thinking. For example, there's a girl I work with(F21) who I'm friendly with, and we flirt all the time at work, but every time I think about asking her to dinner, I freeze up. Another friend who I'm potentially interested in(F20), I have her number and we text on occasion, but I overthink how much to text her, what to text her, and so on. \n\nI never really dated in high school, and in college, I've had 4 \"major\" relationships. They all started pretty differently:\n\n1: We met when we were trashed, she was dating someone, they broke up and we started dating within a month. Never really went on dates except to the dining halls. \n\n2: I was drunk at a football game, we started hanging out, and were together within a week. \n\n3: Met at a social(both sober), but she had a boyfriend. We were close friends, but never went on real dates. They broke up, we started sleeping together. \n\n4: Met sober at a football game, invited her over to watch some more football, started hooking up that night. \n\nSo, obviously, I've yet to have a \"normal\" start to a relationship, where there's a couple months of dating before sexual things and defining the relationship. How do I get around the anxiety?", "summary": "Never really had a real start to a relationship(stereotypical dating before defining a relationship), and I get awful anxiety over how to start talking to someone, or continuing a conversation. I also overthink EVERYTHING."}
{"id": "t3_2laza4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my feonce [21F] for 3+years engaged for 6 months, I have been hiding my pot use..", "post": "A little pretext: I've smoked marijuana habitually since I was 15ish\n\nMy fiancee and I, met in a party environment where both of us smoked and drank regularly\n\nWe both now live together and are getting married next year \n\nI vowed to quit smoking in the beginning of our relationship but never stopped, I hide it from her and she eventually found out, I still didn't stop \n\nShe doesn't like pot, for whatever reason( I think its because her mom is in abusive relationship with a pot smoker) but did it when we were younger \"to fit in\" \n\nI still smoke even though she is under the premise that I ran out of bud months ago\n\nWTF should I do, I really enjoy pot and don't see me really quiting until we have kids-\n\nThough I hate lying to her and don't want to loose her as she is my soul mate\n\nI know it could ruin our marrage but I love smoking pot oh so much, I have quit for 6-moths to a year at a time before but when I get stressed out (finacial strains) I always revert to smoking :/", "summary": "I smoke and she doesn't know, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_e0vma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why Don't I Get A Say?", "post": "I am a 21 year old software engineering student. My fiancee is also 21. She is the best thing that ever happened to me, and the light of my life. We met in high school, and have been together since we were 17. We plan to get married once we graduate next year. I love her with everything in me. We have been sleeping together since we left for college, she is on birth control and we use protection. About a month ago, when she was changing birth controls, we got drunk, and forgot to use a condom. Apparently, when you are changing birth controls, it doesn't work, because she is pregnant. I want her to get an abortion, and she knows my views on the matter. We can't afford a baby now, and need to finish our educations. But she is against it, and has told me that either I want to help raise this baby, or to get out, because there's no way in hell she's getting an abortion. I know the whole \"my body, my choice\" line, but why don't I get a say in her potentially changing my life forever? I want to have kids with her, eventually, but I just cant see it happening now. I know there's a big debate about guys not getting a say if the situation's flipped, but why not in my case? I know I can't make her get an abortion, but I just don't see why she doesn't see my point of view", "summary": "Fiancee, with whom I have been in a relationship for over 3 years is pregnant, I don't want to keep it but she does"}
{"id": "t3_v5u3p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "23M confused about dating. UPDATE", "post": "Hi r/relationships! I came to you guys once before concerning the same girl (22) a few months ago. \n\nWe have been going kinda steady, she has voiced to me that she hasn't dated anyone in quite some time (several years) and that she is very new to the whole relationship thing. She isn't very akin to affection, (It wasn't until date number 4 that I kissed her, and it wasn't until date number 5 that she let me hold her hand.) She isn't really comfortable with kissing, and I took a statement she made the wrong way as an invitation to kiss her, but I was wrong. But she's awesome. Really. We eat lunch everyday together at school, she laughs at my jokes, and she's incredibly gorgeous. I've had her over a few times and she's given me the honor of letting me cook for her.\n\nThe only thing I feel iffy about is the awkwardness of intimacy and I get the feeling that there just isn't any romance on her side. She's voiced to me that she isn't ready yet, (read: kissing) I don't mind waiting, I really don't. But I just don't get any gratitude after complimenting her character or (beautiful) looks. It feels like everything or anything intimate is from me and I feel silly with everything being so one-sided. I've also helped her try to land a job in a few businesses/contacted a few people to help her with networking, and afterward, it just seems like she isn't giving me the time of day to say a genuine thank you. I almost feel stupid for trying to help her with just getting a ham handed \"thanks a bunch\" in a text message. \n\nMy question is, am I not communicating properly? And if so, how do I, as a guy, \"teach\" her about etiquette?", "summary": "Chick I'm dating is kinda new to relationships/dating, not sure how to approach some conflicts."}
{"id": "t3_2o9wig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need your help reddit, be as blunt as you want.", "post": "I'll try my best to keep this short. I love my SO to death. I've had plenty of good and bad relationships and this one is just flat out the best. We are in a mid twenties for those curious. \n\nOne hiccup though and I don't know how to approach it without sounding like a dick. We both work full time. I own my house and she practically lives with me. She's a teacher and I travel for work sometimes and do very physical labor. We are both salary. Sometimes I'm gone for a week or longer and work 80+ hours a week. Sometimes I don't have to travel and work in town. \n\nAlmost every single day when she comes home and I'm in town, she always complains about how tired she is and practically acts like she is the hardest working person in the world (I'm not exaggerating that) . I always ask if she needs anything, offer to make dinner, get her a glass of wine ect. She never shakes off work and let's herself separate from work. This is the part where I sound like a prick... I know she's a teacher and a damn good one and very dedicated but... I work a lot more and much harder than her *shots fired from TwoX*\n\nMy job is a constant go, in fact I'm typing this from an airplane. But whenever I'm home, no matter how hard my day was, how sore I am, I don't let my day ruin my night. I just want to spend time with the woman I love when I'm not at work. \n\nHow do i approach this reddit? I need to be careful with my wording when I talk to her about this. I don't want her to fake a smile but I need some positivity in my home life. I get work is hard and some days are shitty but I am tired of constantly dealing with it. There is nothing wrong with our relationship but this is just a constant battle and her negativity after work needs to stop.", "summary": "SO makes her work life sound like slave labor. I have just of hard of job if not more. Tired of the negativity everyday after work. Don't want to compare myself but want to be an example."}
{"id": "t3_4ejudd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18/M] leave my perfect girlfriend [19/F] because I don't want to be tied down (metaphorically)?", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now, and my fears of commitment have been growing even since we got together. I know we're both young and teenagers feel like they'll be together forever, but we have not had a single fight. Ever. \n\nWhen we first got together, it was just about \"getting some\". As time passed, however, we found that we were perfect together. We share the same interests, personality, and we still have enough difference to make it interesting. Most of you might be asking yourselves \"where's the problem?\". \n\nWell, most people get married when they're older. They go through life, getting experience, learning stuff, meeting new people, and having some good stories to tell when they're at the bar with their friends. Instead of going out and meeting people, me and my girlfriend are happy to stay at home watching movies and eating pizza. If I let myself be happy (short-term) I could be trapped in a long-term relationship (love) that would deny me these experiences. I want to be single again.\n\nThen I look at all the older people, (like some on this Reddit) that are looking for EXACTLY what I have. If I abandon my girlfriend now, I could come crawling back five depressing years from now, only to find her with another guy. That's a horrible thought.\n\nSo, I need help.", "summary": "Found the perfect girl: Too soon. I still want to experience the world. Should I break up? (or is ignorance bliss?)"}
{"id": "t3_1dsqbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Introduced 2 of my friends and now I'm feeling left behind", "post": "First off, I'm a girl. A few weeks ago I introduced two of my friends to each other, one a boy whom I've known for a few years (I'll call him Chris, 21 yrs old), the other a girl whom I met a few months ago (Alice, 19 yrs old). Alice is really awesome, I really like her and I've been trying really hard (a little *too* hard probably) to become friends with her because I've had issues being rejected in the past. Things were going really well for once, and I actually thought I might have finally found someone who could become my best friend. \n\nThen a few weeks ago I introduced Chris and Alice because I thought they would get along. Now I'm wishing I hadn't. They get along *too* well, they spend all their time together now and I never get to hang out with Alice alone like I used to, we haven't done anything together recently that hasn't involved Chris because he's always there now when I text her, he asks her to hang out every day. And they spend tons of time together without me, and it honestly really bothers me because I feel like they don't even care whether I'm there or not. They make plans without me, and I honestly suspect that Chris is not inviting me on purpose because he wants to spend time alone with her. Considering he wouldn't even KNOW her if it wasn't for me, I feel like it's so unfair that he is trying to keep her all to himself. I feel like Alice could have become my best friend given enough time, but now Chris is completely in the way of that. I know I'm being selfish for resenting the fact that they're happy together, but I just feel so left out.", "summary": "Introduced two of my friends, now they like each other more than they like me."}
{"id": "t3_3eu65m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking out a different door", "post": "Today I went and parked in the parking garage where I work and used that as free parking to go do things elsewhere. To exit the garage you go out through a glassed in area. Usually people go out the side that points towards the main entrance. Today I went out the other door that opens up to the perpendicular street\n\nA couple seconds after opening that door, the alarm for the building went off and the whole building had to be evacuated. The door isn't marked as a fire door or anything. It was probably bad timing but then it's impeccably bad timing. I kept walking away, only stopping to look back and see a flood of people walking out the front doors.", "summary": "left a parking garage a little different than usual and may have caused the whole building be evacuated"}
{"id": "t3_2oj2om", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by comforting my terrified kitten", "post": "4 months ago, we got a new Kitten to surprise my mom. Flash forward to 4 hours ago, I bring in our Christmas tree and set it up in the stand. After trimming the low hanging branches, I notice the Cat curled up and hiding under the the dinner table.\n\nI see his tail is puffed up to 4 times it's size, so I go over and pick him up. I go to lay down on the couch to pet him, and realize he is absolutely terrified of the Christmas Tree. I set him on my chest (I was laying flat on the couch), and start to pet and comfort him. He's always pretty warm, so I wasn't too surprised when my chest gets warm. Then it starts to get too warm, and the warmness spreads down my sides. Then the smell hits me, the little bastard PISSED on me! I begin to violently gag (some smells can do this to me)\n\nI toss the cat to the ground and sprint into the bathroom, while stripping off my soaked clothing, and vomit the turkey sandwich and chips I had eaten just prior to setting up the tree. Looks like I am back to being a dog person.", "summary": "Cat pissed on me while I comforted him because of his paralyzing fear of our Christmas Tree"}
{"id": "t3_3d5v59", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 21 and technically homeless. Point me in the right direction?", "post": "In May, my mom passed away unexpectedly. I was evicted from the house we rented for $300/month simply because she was no longer living there- we were renting from my mom's nephew. \nI have no savings and my mom left me nothing- as her only income was social security. I work as a supervisor at a movie theater for $7.90/hr and work anywhere from 20-30 hours a week. I am a student but this upcoming semester all of my classes are online but one studio class. \nMy grandfather has agreed to pay my car payment for me for the foreseeable future. \nI have been crashing with my boyfriend and his roommate but my boyfriend and I would like to get our own apartment but I'm not sure how to go about that on our income. He also works at the movie theater making a similar wage but he is not a student and does not have a car. When he can't get a ride somewhere, he takes the bus. \nShould I take out a student loan to try to get on my feet? I can't stay in my current situation and I don't have any family support other than my grandfather paying my car payment.", "summary": "My mom and I were supporting each other but she passed away in May. I have no savings and make $7.90/hr part time. How do I get on my feet, potentially with my boyfriend's help?"}
{"id": "t3_2wg13i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [29/F] be upset that a girl I don't trust sent my SO [29/M] of 3 years a valentine's message?", "post": "I'm not talking about naked pics or anything overtly sexual, but a friend of my boyfriend's contacted him on Valentine's day. She's single.\n\nShe knows me and that we're in a relationship, but I don't know if she necessarily respects that. While this wouldn't have bothered me if it were one of his long-time friends who sent it, she isn't super close with him. She also has had a history of (in my opinion) acting flirtatious with him and crossing some lines with her behavior, and a couple times, being really disrespectful toward me when I saw her in person. I get the impression that she's sneaky and manipulative - I think she has an agenda - but my boyfriend disagrees and thinks she's innocent and just trying to be friends.\n\nIn any case, a while back, I got pretty uncomfortable with her behavior, so I asked him to set some firmer boundaries with her. He did, and he actually ended up going a step further and distancing himself from her as a friend. They only talk every now and then, and she's not happy about that - she tries to contact him a lot, and posts a lot of passive aggressive posts on social media. I think she blames me for losing her friendship with him - which isn't necessarily untrue, but the reason I intervened was because of the way she was choosing to act in the first place. \n\nBut back to the current situation: to make it worse, he didn't tell me about the message even though we were on a trip together on valentine's day. He usually tells me if he hears from her, so it's weird that he didn't mention it this time. Should i consider this to be a red flag? And either way, how should I approach this? Keeping silent about it is just making me mad.", "summary": "A girl who I don't trust sent a message to my boyfriend on valentine's day, and he didn't mention it to me. Trying to figure out how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_2kxfm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] having difficult time turning acquaintances [18M/F] into friends at college (I'm an out-of-state student)", "post": "I'm a freshman at a very large public university in the south (25,000 undergrad students) and I'm originally from New England. I'm having a really hard time making friends. There are plenty of people who I've met and exchanged numbers with tons of people but I can't seem to bridge the gap between being acquaintances and being friends. Even when I ask to hang out (I'm always the one doing the inviting, trying to be proactive), it's usually with the person I know and three of his friends. I'm then the odd one out of the group and nobody tries to get to know me. I'm really introverted as it is so it's tough for me to make connections with people that are deeper than \"Hey what's your major/what dorm do you live in?\". \n\nThe most common advice I get is to try to be friends with people who live on your floor in your dorm. That would be easier if it wasn't for the fact that most of the people are never around since they are busy with their fraternities (I'm not involved in Greek life as of now) and don't seem to care about hanging out with people outside of their fraternity. I was originally not planning on being in a fraternity for financial/personal reasons and since I thought I could easily make friends without being in one. Now I feel like I'll be miserable if I don't go out to the spring rush events.", "summary": "Having trouble making friends; I need advice."}
{"id": "t3_4jyfkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25/M) experiencing some disturbing thought patterns", "post": "Throwaway.\nI'm having a hard time thinking clearly, so if you're reading this bear with me. So, I've lost a few people in the last couple years, the last person I was extremely close to. At first I was doing ok and keeping it together, even though I was battling some strange thoughts.\n\nLately, I feel something has changed in me, there's a tidal wave of pain crashing over me regularly. I don't feel like anyone understands or would really care, but I know that's just me trying to isolate myself. I'm embarrassed of crying, seeming weak, and I feel fake when hanging out with people I'm close to. Sometimes I'm happy and distracted, but most of the time I feel annoyed or inferior to those around me and it fucking hurts. I think this grief has exacerbated already existing mental issues.\n\nI will have floods of thoughts overwhelming me to pull in various directions and all of them have a similar motive which is to abandon everyone and run away in some form or another. Thoughts like ending my romantic relationship, leaving the country, ending it completely. \n\nI use substances in an attempt to escape my pain. Obviously, it doesn't really work, so then I will try to sober up and that's excruciating. \n\nI'm struggling with memory, concentration, I have this general unease. I'm terrified of what I'm capable of if I continue down this train of thought and I have no idea what the future holds. For the first time in a long time I don't know what I'm going to do with my life and I can't see past the next couple weeks.\n\nI don't know exactly what I'm looking for, there are just certain things I can't really tell anyone especially involving my relationship. I just don't think my friends would be understanding. Would someone share a similar story or talk me down a little bit? Did you sever ties with those close to you after a loss? Any coping skills? I feel like I'm going crazy.", "summary": "Struggling with grief, change, and remaining relationships.  Am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_3vpl7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [29 M] have be together 9 months I pretty sure he's racist", "post": "Me and my bf have have an amazing life together right now. Everything is perfect! Except I think he is racist my mother adopted her friends child when her friend died, hes 2 and Asian. My bf went with me to see my mom to have dinner, and the moment she left the room with with my brother he says \"Never through you had chinks in the family at lest she did not pick her self up a nigger\" He keeps telling me he was joking. I kicked him out of the house.I will never allow someone to talk that way about my brother I love him or say the n word around me. I haven't  spoken to him in 2 weeks he keeps texting me asking me to forgive him, but I just don't think I can. What should I do guys? Am I handing this right?", "summary": "my bf called my adopted brother a chink in my mothers house and I kicked him out and haven't talked to him since"}
{"id": "t3_18qmgf", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Injury Cross Training?", "post": "Hey /r/Running,\nI'm a 15 year old high school sophomore. I just found out I had a stress fracture (left foot, second metatarsal) a little while ago, and am forced to take time off. Hopefully I can start running again in late March/early April, and get in one race (probably not varsity though, as the season ends in late April, early May if our school goes to CIF). \n\nAnyway, when I start running again I don't want to be completely out of shape, especially since I already spent three long months developing cardio. Any advice for that I can to to insure that my cardio (and muscle development) doesn't go away completely? The cardio is especially important, since I primarily do the 1600 and 3200.\n\nMy local gym had a hand bike, but my family isn't doing so well financially, so I'm trying to not have to join. Right now I've flipped the bikes in my garage upside down and am using them as a hand bike, but they don't work my cardio like running or even a real hand bike. I can't bike since I have the boot on, and I'm going to the doctor Tuesday to see if I can do pool workouts (even if I can, I don't have a pool so I would have to get permission to use a friend's pool, and that could only happen probably 3 times a week or so).\n\nIn addition to any ideas for cardio, what weight training should I do? Ad I mentioned above, I do distance in track and cross country in the fall. Our team doesn't do weight training, but everyone says its important. Plus I need to strengthen myself to make sure I don't get injured again when I come back. I was out my freshman year in cross country because of tendinitis and osgood-slatter (spelling?) in my right knee, so I seem to be more prone to injuries that my teammates. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "I have a stress fracture in my left foot. How can I maintain cardio and muscle while I'm recovering from this injury?"}
{"id": "t3_4rpih9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] broke up with my abusive GF (22 F) of 3 years 8 months ago, not sure if I'm ready to move on.", "post": "Some brief backstory, my Ex GF was my 1st relationship ever and we really hit it off, we ended up moving in together after 1 year. After that the mind games started and I ended up having to give up all my friends for her and alot of other bullshit which at the time seemed ok. After we broke up I moved back in with my mom because I couldn't afford to live alone and was in a huge depression. I found the energy to start picking up the pieces 2 months ago. I have a new job now, I've put a lot of work into rebuilding old friendships with some promising results, and it looks like I'll be going to college for the first time this winter. And I met a girl who likes me and I like her. But there are still nights where I cry myself to sleep and I know I'm still kind of a wreck inside. I'm told dating again will help iron out a lot of my problems but I'm not sure I want to do that to someone. Should I go for it or give myself more time to work things out myself?", "summary": "been out of a long abusive relationship for almost a year, should I start dating again?"}
{"id": "t3_24hv3j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "boyfriend [21m] can be inconsiderate concerning our plans, and I'm [19f] getting annoyed", "post": "Ive been with my boyfriend \"Adam\" for over a year. Overall our relationship is really, really good. But he's kind of scatterbrained/spacey, and will ditch our plans last minute without even telling me. \n\n**Notable examples:**\n\n* We had plans for him to stay over at my place, come 9/10 pm I text him asking where he is, I get back \"Oh, I'm staying over at -friend-'s tonight instead, sorry\" response. \n\n* A friend was in town so we made plans to spend the day with her. That morning we were at his apartment, I had to leave early for an engagement and he stayed behind, promising he'd let me know when he's on his way. Hours pass, no word, I finally text to ask where he is and he said he's heading out of town to visit family (his plans for MUCH later in the day), and had left his place over an hour ago, effectively ditching our plans with our friend. \n\n* and today: I texted him while he was at work with interest in hanging out today. He responded letting me know when he expected to get out, so I assumed (dumb, i know) he was also interested. Hours after, I hear from him, and he's going to meet up with his friend, no mention of our previous conversation. \n\nThis feels like something so petty to be getting worked up over, but it's happened repeatedly with no apology on his part. i've definitely told him before why it bothers me, that he can't keep doing it, and solutions so we can avoid the problem, but it just keeps happening (despite all his \"i know, it's something i need to work on\" talk). Otherwise he's unbelievably sweet and attentive. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend of over a year has a bad habit of ditching our plans with no warning or apology."}
{"id": "t3_31oxbf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Addressing favoritism in administration....do it or let it go?", "post": "Okay so I live in the dorms in my school. We have two young dorm  life supervisors (male and female) in my hall. They are both new and fresh out of school.\n\nMy particular hall is very, very small so everyone knows everyone. So all year everyone noticed some preferential treatment going on. Some RA's were allowed into the supervisors apartments, invited to outside events/ holiday parties and were generally  \"cooler\" with the supervisors. Everyone knew it and no one spoke out. The supervisors also did things the old ones would never do, like adding certain residents and RA's on facebook , tagging them in posts, and praising them.\n\nFor instance, we went to a conference because I am in a leadership positions in the dorms, and one of the supervisors went along. It just so happened that one of her favorites was there too. The whole they were buddy and buddy and it was very rude at times. She even snapped a photo with her and posted it on facebook talking about how much a wonderful leader she is and how she is determined to make her go far.\n\nSo hiring time rolls around for next year, and I along with some other people applied for Res Life positions. Long story short who got hired and who didn't basically solidified everything we thought about the favoritism going in. The \"hiring\" process was a joke and it was obvious they knew who they wanted before the applications were sent in.\n\nThe problem is we (me and a few students) want to address it without coming across as bitter because we weren't hired. We want to write a letter addressing some of the lack of  professionalism and then have a meeting with the supervisors. The letter is written but now I am just like \"fuck it\" I won't be in the dorms next year anyway and neither will by friend who is also speaking out. Even if we call them out those who are hired will still be hired. And favoritism is an aspect of any job. \n\nI feel like I will look stupid and bitter if I say something even though everyone knows what is going on, should I let it  go?", "summary": "Obvious favoritism with hiring going on. Everyone knows it. Want to speak out but don't wan to come across as bitter because I wasn't hired*"}
{"id": "t3_2uw8lb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18/m] and I like this girl in class [18/19f], need advice on how to initiate something.", "post": "I currently am going to a community college and am sitting next to this girl who I like. Ive talked to her a few times during class ( a couple of \" how are you's\" and random stuff about the class in general/work). She has exactly the same attitude/sarcasm as me and I love it. I sit next to her in the front row of class and never know how to initiate something funny or interesting to talk about. From time to time she will watch me doodle on my notebook and pretends like she doesn't see me looking at her. We both think the class is really easy and super boring throughout it.  \n\nRecently over the last 2 days we've been walking to the library together and talk about random class related stuff. She goes to the library most days and just watches TV ( she has like a 3 hour gap between classes) , yet everytime we walk together to the library, she just breaks off and goes to a computer and watches TV like I never exist. \n\nI want to talk to her outside of class and want to ask her out to do something but I dont know how to do it or initiate it.  Need help/advice on how to take this further. First time posting here. Please help.", "summary": "I like this girl from class that I sit next to but I dont know how to take it further to becoming friends/ hanging out after class."}
{"id": "t3_16j6rg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help finding an animated TV series for boyfriend's young cousin???", "post": "So, my boyfriend has a 13 year old cousin. She is highly-functioning autistic, and loves to watch cartoons on her computer. She has been talking nonstop about this TV show for about 3 months now, and the best I've come up with is an episode list of what I think she's talking about. \n\nAll she says is that it's called \"Simba goes to the world cup\". I have found a TV show called Simba Junior goes to New York & the World Cup, which definitely looks like what I'm looking for, but I want to find it available to buy on DVD, or a website where she can go through episodes, and I figure reddit is better at this sort of thing than I am. Plus, it would totally make her day if I could find it for her, and her parent's day, too, because she's talked about it for 3 months or so now. \n\n[LINK](", "summary": "Looking for DVD/Website containing episodes of the Kid's show \"Simba Junior goes to New York and the World Cup\""}
{"id": "t3_2co7fu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my large group of friends, I can't get a girl!", "post": "2 years has passed since i was with my ex. Since then my personality changed a lot. Now I'm a lonely \"badass\" only counting on myself to make everything I need. I have lot of friends, but i just don't want to trust somebody too much. \n\nThis situation is almost satisfying, but I would like to meet a girl to taste a less pessimistic and weary life.\n\nI have two problems: \n\nI always go out in a group of friends (in summer from 5 to 12 people).\n\nWhen I'm in this group (or even with an only friend) I can't absolutely talk to girls without getting red, sweaty and feel too much observed. I can't even think something to talk about.\n\nThe other problem is that I almost never go out alone, and I think I will be really scared to approach a girl. \n\nI'm afraid of being considered creepy or simply to fail, destroying my self-esteem.\n\nI'm just stuck. I'm satisfied, but I'm young and I would like some female company, as I think it's normal.", "summary": "I'm in a large group of friend and I can't talk to girls. Should I go out alone?"}
{"id": "t3_2xhc7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (22F) not sure if it is even worth being friends with him? (22M) not sure what to do.", "post": "We are seniors in college. We used to be a thing, but we broke things off because we didn't want any attachments (graduating and all). I know that he's super busy. The past several weeks he has been out of town on the weekends to visit grad schools.\n\nHe went on a trip over winter break, and I know be brought me back something that I asked him to.\n\nHe doesn't really respond to me. It's very sporadic.  I asked him if he wanted to even be friends (given we basically broke up). And he said he did, he just doesn't always have time to respond as much as I message him.\n\nI just don't know what to do. It feels like I'm doing all the effort, but I still want to be friends with him.", "summary": "Guy friend I used to have a thing with doesn't really respond to me. Says he wants to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_1ca4yr", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I feel like my vet is shilling for big pharma... Help?!", "post": "My dog is a one and a half years old mutt. He's been strugling with bad skin problems ever since he was a baby..  He is itchy all the times and sometimes will make himself bleed for scratching too much... I saw the vet many times for that reason and tried many different treatments. I personally believe that my dog might have allergies and I asked a new vet for a scratch test. \n\nShe wasn't enclined to do that and told me she wanted to treat him (and my two cats) for parasites. I explained to her that we already did that less than a year ago and it didn't help. She kept on insisting and since she's a proffessional I kept on nodding and agreeing on her treatment plan. \n\nShe took samples of his skin on many different areas to check for parasites and the results came back negative... I had a 300$ bill and went back home with antihistamines and lots of worries. She still insist we should start the treatment this month even though they didn't find Anything.\n\nThe treatment is \"advantage multi\". I'm wondering why she wasn't inclined to do the scratch test right away and if she's pushing the meds just because she might get a bonus at the end of the year for selling a certain amount... Do vets get that for animal medecine? Should I stand up to her and ask for what I think is the best treatment for my dog?", "summary": "My vet is pushing meds that I don't think my dog needs and I wonder if she would do that just to receive money from the company that produces those meds. Ever heard of vets doing that?"}
{"id": "t3_1e3yqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[f23] boyfriend's[m24] long work hours are killing this relationship.", "post": "We've been together for 2 years now. I want to make it **perfectly clear** that I respect that he has a job, and I respect and admire how hard he works at it. I don't mean that he shouldn't have a job or that I want him to quit. \n\nTrying to keep this anonymous so I won't mention what he does, just that for the most part, it's pretty heavy manual labor. He goes into work at 1PM, and doesn't get off sometimes until 11, 12, or 1AM because he gets more orders that he has to fill. It takes him about an hour to drive home. So, usually, he's gone from 11:30AM-12AM. It fucking SUCKS. He works 5 days a week, usually, but sometimes he gets called in to work on a Saturday. \n\nWhen I first met him, and first became exclusive, he had pretty regular job hours. 9-5, typical. The company he worked for shut down, and he found this job. He started out only working maybe 5 hours a day, and then it jumped up to this shit because he had a few guys quit. \n\nThis has been going on for the past 6 months, and it's taking a serious toll on our relationship. We only see each other at night when he gets into bed (I'm already asleep usually, I have to be at work at 8) and then on weekends, he usually sleeps late Saturdays because he's exhausted. So Sunday is really our only day. \n\nI love him, but it sucks that we never have anything to talk about because he's always at work, or sleeping. I get SO annoyed when we make plans for a Saturday, and then Saturday morning rolls around, and his boss calls wanting him to come in. If he says no, he'll probably get fired.\n\nWhat can we do? I would never expect him to quit a job. So I don't know how to handle this. I feel like we're just existing to each other because we never have time to do anything as a couple.. nothing is moving forward.", "summary": "Boyfriend works all the time, we never do couple things, if he isn't working, he's sleeping. How do we handle this without breaking up?"}
{"id": "t3_3g9h5c", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I enforce my wish to not have my daughter's picture shared on social media??", "post": "Please forgive formatting, on mobile and all that jazz. \n\nI adopted my daughter when she was 2. Her bio mom abandoned her and has not made contact in the last 11 years.", "summary": "Someone is posting pictures of my daughter to social media against my wishes. Can I force them to take them down? What is my best course of action??"}
{"id": "t3_3bryv5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by entering \"my\" hotel room", "post": "This didn't happen today, but two years ago.\n \n It was the second(third?) evening of my two-week stay at a hotel near the sea, and I was planning to go out for a walk as I usually do. Shortly after getting out of the building I realized I had forgotten my wallet in the safe inside my room, so I decided to come back there and bring it out with me: I took the room key and headed to the elevator.\nI reach the room's door, open it with my key, and open it.\n\nTo my surprise there are two women that I don't know there, talking to each other, one of which apparently just got out of a shower. In a few seconds' time they acknowledge me entering the room and yell at me something in German I didn't understand (this hotel was located in an Italian seaside turistic town, where quite a few German-speaking people go to during holidays). In a moment of panic I shut the door and run away to the staircase.\n\nI only then realized that I had accessed room 306... while my one was room 406, e.g. one floor above. I have no idea why my keycard opened it - maybe who installed the room doors recycled keycard IDs for each floor? - but it surely did...\n\nI should probabily have tried room 106 or 206 just to experiment a bit :P", "summary": "Got to the wrong hotel floor, my key opened the wrong room anyways and there was people inside"}
{"id": "t3_132lw5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate after 1 week is horrible. Reddit what do I do?", "post": "Reddit, I have a horrible roommate who has already began to steal and is really wierd/annoying. This is a 5 bedroom place in NYC and we all cant stand him. I don't know what to do at this point and need to get him out. Here is a short list after just 1 week:\n\n1. Uses other peoples things without replacing/contributing even after stating he would\n2. Won't stop smoking in the apt common area after asking him many times not to\n3. Has snuck into our rooms and stolen green from us twice already. \n4. Wakes up early and sits in the family room alone and in the dark waiting for people to wake up. \n5. Overall weird creepy vibe \n\nWe met him on Craigslist and he seemed normal at the time with friends on fb and a linkedin account with a fulltime job. He also signed the lease with us so we are hoping for a way to get him to leave before it ends. I may be setting up a video camera to make sure he isnt stealing from my room when i'm gone. Would there be a legal way to get him out if he is stealing?", "summary": "After 1 week, weird creepy roommate is already stealing from us and we want him gone!"}
{"id": "t3_4yn83p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[18/M] might be the problem in the relationship with my lover.[21/M]", "post": "For some background: I grew up emotionally deprived, and didn't really start to understand that I was that way until my first relationship with a girl that turned abusive on both ends. I have a problem with empathy, and I am not easily emotionally moved by other people's emotions nor do I care autonomously about anyone.\n\nI like to believe I'm a good person. I don't hurt anyone or anything on purpose, I usually at least pretend to be sympathetic when people talk to me about their problems, but I've noticed I can't really do this with my boyfriend.\n\nI can't comfortably get close to him, emotionally, physically, or otherwise without feeling great levels of anxiety. When he was over at my house a few weeks ago and after he went to sleep, I had a good four hours of being awake brooding about how ridiculously bad at this I am, and I came to the conclusion that I just might not be dating material.\n\nI've known him for four years now, and we've been dating for eight months. In this eight months I grew distant pretty fast and I'm nowhere near as open with him as I used to be. My sexuality isn't a problem(I've had two sexual relationships prior to him and know for a fact I do indeed enjoy the male body), I think it's my romantic orientation. I might be aromantic, and I don't know how to approach this topic or even if I should. I don't feel intensely about anyone, not even him. I've been able to be incredibly close with other people who weren't romantically involved with me, even to the point I had a friend with benefits and I could share a bed with someone. I can't do any of that with him.", "summary": "Might be aromantic and in essence, a person who doesn't have a lot of emotion and I feel like my boyfriend would be better off dating someone else. What the fuck do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ctqay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/M] with my GF [25/F], We've been fighting a lot lately, and anniversary is coming up", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been fighting a lot recently.  Well, fighting isn't exactly the best term.  More like healthy arguing, no name calling or anything like that.  \n\nLong story short, she's finishing her last year of college, and I've been graduated and employed for the last 3 years.  I agreed to support us financially so she could focus on school, and we agreed to share household duties.  She's has been doing fine in school, but hasn't held up her end of the bargain on household duties.  Her laundry piles up for weeks at a time, she doesn't cook or do dishes, and always tries starting new projects that I end up having to finish.\n\nIf I say something about it, she gets very defensive and starts making excuses (she's sooo busy, etc).  If I keep pestering her, she will start getting stuff done, but as soon as I ease up she's back to her old ways.  I've felt like more of a parent than a boyfriend the past couple years, and I've been thinking a lot about whether or not I want to continue this relationship.\n\nWith all this going on, our 8 year anniversary is coming up and I'm sort of stuck.  We've talked about some ideas of things we can do to celebrate, but can't seem to agree on anything at the moment.  She can't come up with any ideas, so I suggest some and she shoots them down.  It's been frustrating, but  I do love her, and I'll at least get her a card and flowers or something.  I really don't know what to write in the card though, because I've been feeling really frustrated in our relationship lately, and I don't want to write something lovey-dovey that isn't genuine.\n\nAnyone have any similar experiences?  Suggestions?  Thanks!", "summary": "My GF and I have been at each other's throats lately.  I feel like she isn't contributing as much to the relationship, and I feel like more of a parent than a boyfriend.  8 year anniversary is coming up, and I don't know what to do or get for her."}
{"id": "t3_wlnde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Lack of Sexual Experience is Ruining our Relationship", "post": "I'm 30 and I just started dating for the first time. Within a month of getting into the dating scene I met a 33-year-old man I care for very much and who I believe cares for me as well. We've been going out for 5 months with little problem, and we've also started a sexual relationship which is the first I've ever had.\n\nWhen we were first dating he told me about different sexual conquests he's had, because I guess he was trying to impress me (I found it a bit sad he felt the need to brag). Now that I've grown to care about this guy I feel very inadequate about my own sexual history and I wish he hadn't told me these things. When I think about them I can't help but feel that I've missed so much in life. \n\nIn particular there's another girl in his grad student program (he's getting a PhD) that he told me hit on him and they hooked up a number of times for casual sex. They tried to date and ultimately realized they didn't like each other. When he's around his grad student friends, and possibly her (I don't know her name), I can't help but feel a mixture of jealousy and inadequacy.\n\nI know he doesn't want her, and I expect him to have a sexual history, but it tears me up that he's had this experience I've never had.", "summary": "I'm a 30-year-old woman who's started her first sexual relationship with a 33-year-old man. The man's bragged in the past about his sexual conquests. This is leading me to feel inadequate and depressed because I've missed out on all these experiences."}
{"id": "t3_yysg4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do to in South America from Jan 26th till early 25th of Feb?", "post": "Hey guys, I'm heading to South America at the end of the year for 3 months and I'm looking for things to do. I like to party mostly, although I really enjoy being able  to relaxing beautiful areas as well, as long as they're not too far removed (e.g. Machu Pichu is probably out of the question for this trip). I figure I can get all the touristy/sightseeing stuff off the web and various travel books, but I want to see the party side fo South America. My main countries of interest are Chile (of which I'm a citizen), Argentina, Brasil, and Uruguay, although I'm totally up for exploring the upper countries as well if anyone can provide some suggestions.", "summary": "what festivals, parties, districts, college towns, and clubs should I visit in South America to have an awesome time (between 26th of November and 25th of Feb?"}
{"id": "t3_53almv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I 30F overreacting? Bf 28m goes on vacation and hasn't reached out?", "post": "My bf is Nigerian, he left Nigeria about 3-4 years ago and hasn't seen his mom and sister since. He finally went to visit last Monday for 2 weeks. If you know anything about Nigeria the economy is bad right now, sometimes they barely have electricity and everything is very expensive now. \n\nSo he got there Tuesday 4 pm his time which is about 11 am eastern time. He called me around 4 my time from his friends phone and we spoke for just under a min. I didn't hear from him until Friday. He said he hasn't been able to change his money and he finally got a sim card for his phone that day. I was pissed because for 3 days I heard nothing, I didn't know if he was alive or not. When he finally reaches out on friday I'm giving him one word answers, however he explained himself and we had a decent conversation. Nevertheless he could have used anyone's phone to call me. Anyway I sent him a message on whats app this morning, he reads it and doesn't respond. Later tonight I see he's online and doesn't even care to reach out. I will never degrade myself and keep bothering someone. I know he's excited to see his family and friends but really. Im ready to tell him it's over. I always tend to want to run whenever we fight or have a disagreement. Please speak some sense into me? Should I let him enjoy his vacation? Do you guys agree with me?", "summary": "Bf neglects me when he's on vacation. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_159ikj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I feel weird that there are 0 FB pics in which my ex [24f]and I [27m] are both tagged.  Am I wrong?", "post": "We dated for about 2.5 years, and the break-up, (about 5 months ago) was both mutual and heartbreaking.  Neither of us have been active on Facebook since we started dating, but I decided to log-on tonight and looked at some of my pictures and hers (not my intention, but it happened).\n    As I was going through our respective pictures I noticed that not one time were we both tagged in the same photo, despite the fact that we both appear in at least 12 pictures (there are more pictures of us, but apparently they haven't been uploaded).  \n     I've accepted (still don't like it) that ending the relationship was the right choice for us then and that staying apart is still the right decision, but it feels strange that there are no Facebook tags of the both of us.  \n    Am I wrong in feeling like this?", "summary": "Ex and I broke up 5 months ago, there are 0 pics on FB where we're both tagged.  Am I wrong in thinking that's weird?"}
{"id": "t3_1k5ppg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend[17/F] with her ex (17M). She still can't get over him. What advice should I give to her?", "post": "Just to add some context, she is 17 years old, so consider the level of maturity here. A guy broke up with her 8 months ago that she really liked, and she came out and told me and some friends she's having a hard time forgetting him. I forget the exact reason for the breakup, but it involved emotional issues.\n\nI feel like as a guy, I can't really connect. A lot of women say, \"just listen to her and she'll figure out her problems on her own\". It's been 8 months. She needs advice. She says even when she's with her friends and having fun conversation, she thinks about him. What should I say?", "summary": "Guy breaks up with friend, 8 months later she still can't get over him. What advice do I give?"}
{"id": "t3_16e1ui", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I stop being an asshole?", "post": "Title actually says it. I would like to hear what you'd advise me.\nAlthough I have a lot of friends who constantly tell me they value me for how I am and that I, despite being an asshole, have character traits that\nthey like me for  (e.g. being funny, being the guy that laughs in pretty much every single situation which means that I barely every come off as depressed or sad), I would love to hear what I can do to reduce the jerkiness to a minimum in order to be able to get to know new people without them having to spend a lot of time to get to like me.", "summary": "how do I act to stop pissing people off without deliberately trying to do so?"}
{"id": "t3_2pwoew", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just got the greatest news and have to share it. Its not official yet so I cant tell anyone I know.", "post": "I work for a huge technical company.  I was just promoted to Technical Lead or Engineer III in October.  The excitement was short lived though.  3 weeks later they announced they were closing my facility.  Now I went from elation to depression.  Sure, I could relocate but that really is not an option for me and my family at this point.  There are no other job prospects in this area to make any where near the money I was. What do I do?  I took a huge long shot and applied for a Technical Program Manager position.  No way I get this promotion but whats the worst that can happen?\n\n5 Interviews later I got the call last night they are going to offer me the position.  I get to work from home and travel as necessary to manage technical projects and its another promotion and puts me onto the manager path from the technical path.  \n\nIt is incredible.  I am speechless.  3 promotions in 3 years and all my issues are covered.  It feels amazing and has yet to fully sink in.  \n\nI had to tell someone and this is the digital version of screaming as loud as I could.", "summary": "Its been a roller coaster.  Promotion, building closing staring at losing my job, to another promotion and working from home."}
{"id": "t3_1kn8bt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just started working with this girl I am very attracted to and I would like your advice on how to proceed.", "post": "I am a pretty lonely guy, my last relationship ended when I was 19 and I turn 25 in a month. It took me a while to get my life together, still getting there, but I worked at a sandwich shop for the last 3 years before applying at a coffee shop recently. The sandwich shop was mostly men, the coffee shop is mostly women. One of the girls training with me stands out in particular, she has been what I'd consider to be a little flirtatious (it could just be friendly and I'm dumb) and although I don't even know for sure if she is single I'm starting to lose my cool as the idea of a relationship with her enters my head more often. I've looked up company policy on this sort of thing and it's all good, she's also just training at the store I'm going to work at and moving to another location which I think could be a good thing. What do I say to her to let her know how I feel? How do I say it? I have some ideas but I am terrible at this sort of thing.", "summary": "i like this chick i work with, technically it's ok if i date her but i don't know how to ask her out politely."}
{"id": "t3_1o8kow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m/26) broke up with my girlfriend (f/29) over the summer... Now I want her + a girl in another country!", "post": "So I broke up with my ex girlfriend 3-4 months ago. Main reason was that it was long distance and I now realise it wasn't working because I refused to compromise with her and move half way to live with her. Which I would do now... \n\nAnyway I want to emigrate and so went on vacation (post-breakup*) in my chosen destination. I met a girl (f/25) there that I have known for a long time and we got it on. Had a brilliant time mostly although there were moments we did fall out! I kind of promised her I'd come back for her and we have been talking on Skype / WhatsApp very regularly. \n\nI was missing my ex the other day and sent her a message. She seemed receptive but cautious and we have agreed to meet. I can't stop thinking about her, and what I'm going to say to her. I want her back. \n\nBut I also want the other girl. \n\nI am thinking that I am imagining a 'perfect girl' scenario with the girl abroad when I don't even know her that well. I don't even know if it will ever happen with her. Maybe I have a complex but it's like I don't want to let her down. \n\nBut I want my ex back too.. I mean for all I know my ex has moved on and doesn't want me back. Should I see her? Should I keep my options open? What's your advice reddit?", "summary": "not sure which girl I want. My ex or someone I can't have or even see for at least a year because she's abroad."}
{"id": "t3_3iurlj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (15M) sister (18F) is going to college on the same day I'm hosting an event. Should I ditch the event or go with my sister?", "post": "I'm an events coordinator for this service club called Interact where we find volunteering events for our members to participate in and socialize in. I'm the newest and youngest events coordinator, all of the others are juniors and seniors. I also had a volunteering event earlier that I was hosting, but I had to cancel that too because I was going to San Francisco to meet up with relatives, so I feel really bad if I drop this event as well. The requirement is one event a month. \n\nHowever, my sister is leaving and I would feel terribly guilty about not going. I could write her a letter or something like that. She says she doesn't care, but I want to go to say goodbye to her, as I feel like only giving a letter to someone I've been with for my whole life is inadequate. I don't know what to do. If I cancel the event I'll lose the trust in my co-officers, but if I host the event I'll feel terrible about missing my sister.", "summary": "Either drop the event and lose my co-officers' trust, or feel guilty and sad about leaving my sister"}
{"id": "t3_30xx75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel trapped in my own expectations of myself. And I dont know how to get out. 25F.", "post": "Hi All. \n\nThere is this hole in my heart. The problem is, I have no idea why. I just been suppressing some massive guilt lately, over what appears to be nothing. It is an extremely lonely / isolating feeling, and I dont know how to abate the feeling. \n\nLong story short, I live out of state from friends and family. I have been here about 18 months. I work a commission only job where there is really no ceiling, which means there is really no way of knowing whether I will ever be \"good enough\" or not. \n\nMost recently, my mom AND grandfather are both experiencing some serious health complications. I regret not being there. Not being home. I work 6 days a week. I take one full weekend (saturday and sunday) off once a month. I just had the best quarter (financially) of my life. You would think I would feel happy and proud of myself. Except, I dont. \n\nOn a whim, I booked a flight home yesterday. I want to see my family for easter. But I cant shake the guilt of taking Friday-Tuesday off work. I feel like a slacker. Lazy. But I can't shake the guilt of NOT going home, knowing that something could happen to my mom / grandpa at any moment. \n\nI have been really homesick. I have also been really hard on myself to be responsible, keep working, keep paying down debts (Student loans / IRS debt) and just overall...keep getting my shit together. \n\nI just feel sick to my stomach. I want to go home and be HAPPY to be home. I want to enjoy my time off, not feel like shit about it. I want to love what I do again, not feel like a slave to it. \n\nI feel trapped in my own expectations of myself. And I dont know how to get out.", "summary": "I feel trapped in my own expectations of myself. And I dont know how to get out."}
{"id": "t3_t948k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I have sex with my girlfriend?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over 6 months. I'm a high-school senior, she's a high-school junior. This is her first relationship. It's not mine, but we're both virgins.\n\nI brought up having sex at around the 3 month mark. Her response was that she had always imagined that she would wait until she was married to have sex, but she was reconsidering it because of her relationship with me. I didn't bring it up again for a couple months.\n\nAt around 5 months, she found out I was watching porn regularly. This greatly upset her, as she felt that she wanted to be the one satisfying all of my physical needs, and she felt threatened because she believed I was attracted to the female porn stars. She made me promise to stop watching porn.\n\nI tried, but just the other day I finally realized that it was too difficult. I physically felt bad from the lack of porn (extra angry/horny), and I don't think she has the right to control what I do with my free time, as long as it doesn't affect our relationship (which it doesn't).\n\nI told her that I wanted to start watching porn again; she was upset and started to cry. She calmed down, and in later discussions, she's told me that she is willing to have sex with me to \"meet my physical needs\", although it is not her preference. She physically wants to have sex, but she says that her \"heart\" and her \"brain\" tell her no. The heart because she believes sex will be more special if we wait until we are older, the brain because of the risk of pregnancy.\n\nI want to have sex, and I honestly think it would be the best thing/next step for our relationship. However, I don't want her to resent me in the future for coercing her into having sex with me by threatening to watch porn. I'm really trying not to force her into anything.\n\nShould I have sex with her?", "summary": "My virgin girlfriend offered to have sex with me so that I would stop watching porn because it bothers her. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_3nfbe1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I know you're bored of me", "post": "You had this look on your face when we first starting seeing each other. Like you couldn't get enough of me. Like you had to have me. It was thrilling, I loved it, it made me feel so alive and special. \n\nThen the worst came: I got to know you. Your presence no longer added to my life, I absolutely needed it. You made me smile, laugh, and just be my most enjoyable self. Our time shared together meant the world to me, I was safe and beyond content. \n\nIt seems something has happened though. I have fallen, really fallen for you. I don't know why, or how. Perhaps it's your dumb smile, or the way you hold me. Whatever it is, I'd like you to take the spell back. Because I know you're bored with me. You barely look at me. Or even touch me besides when you're wanting sex. It hurts. It hurts so bad. \n\nWhy don't you just pull the plug on me? Because I'm convenient company? Because I'll cook for you and fuck you whenever you want? Don't bring up other girls to try and push me away. I *really* don't want to go. \n\nI sometimes wonder if and when my self-worth will kick in. Maybe I know I can do better. Maybe I know that the passion you had for me does exist somewhere else. Until then, I'll be here. Clinging onto what's left.", "summary": "Boy liked girl. Girl fell for boy. Boy bored of girl. Girl in turmoil."}
{"id": "t3_2kz6ap", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] on my first date [25 F] met, had dinner, drinks, great time but she wont get back to me", "post": "Met this girl on match. We exchanged messages for a while, texted for a while and then we met up for dinner two days ago. We had a great time, then we went for a few drinks. \n\nI usually dont try to kiss on the first date but after a few drinks it escalated and we kissed.. it was really cold outside and i asked her if we should sit in the car and do this.. but she pushed back right away and said she should leave.\n\nAfter getting home I get this message...\n\n'Hey just got home...I had a great time the whole night but I'm just gonna be honest and tell you that I did not like a single bit how it ended...I really wasn't expecting you to push for more than just kissing and I wish you didn't\"\n\nI told her it was really nothing more than me being cold.. had two messages general how is your day etc kind of messages but since then she didnt respond. I decided to give her a call last night but she didnt respond.  I am confused as to what to do? I really dont think this would be the only reason for her to say that and if she didnt enjoy the company I dont think I would have gotten this message from her.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Met the girl 1st time; had dinner drinks; we kissed for a few mins; was cold so i asked if we can sit in car; she didnt like it; now i'm getting a cold shoulder; what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_44w6ug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18/m] and my girlfriend [18/f] of nearly 4 years, split up recently and I need experienced advice", "post": "Okay, so to begin with, I am very aware that a load of you will immediately point out that we are both very young and this kinda stuff happens etc. \n\nAnyway, I have had a slight crush on a girl I knew from highschool for a while now, nothing huge, just a slight attraction towards her, which I hear is perfectly normal. However, recently I told my S/O and she was perfectly fine with this attraction. We conversed about the issue for a day or two and she eventually came to the conclusion that I wanted to experience sexual relations with another girl, which to some extent was true (as my S/O was the only person I had had sexual interaction with before). Anyway my S/O allowed me to meet up with my crush and allowed us to hit it off, (we ended up making out a load and she gave me head). When I told my S/O this, to my surprise she really didnt seem bothered by it, at all. \n\nWe have since split up, I was impacted by the events that happened with my crush and felt that something must have been wrong in my relationship if my S/O just didn't care. \n\nCan someone try to give me advice on what I shold do? Because I'm still in love with my ex, however I think I'm still crushing on the other girl. My head is a mess!", "summary": "Told my S/O I had a crush on another girl, she allowed me to meet up with her, we made out and she gave me head, told my S/O, she didnt care. We split up, and now I'm hopelessy confused as to whether I should try to re-ignite our spark, or let it go."}
{"id": "t3_30byfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need Advice: I [16M] think I'm in love with my [16F] best friend of 6 years.", "post": "Pretty much the typical story. Only reason why I need advice is because I feel like she might feel the same way, but because of the way we act towards each other, it's really hard to tell. \n\nWe always joke about getting married and how we're dating and stuff and we both think it's funny. If this was any other girl I'd ask her out, but it's so hard to tell with her.\n\n Is there any way to get a better indication without outright asking her? I'm planning on doing so eventually but I'd just like to know for sure.", "summary": "like my best friend, need help figuring out if she feels the same"}
{"id": "t3_1378bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm trying to figure out how I can tell if my unnaturally close best friend [M27] has feelings for me [F24] beyond just friendship.", "post": "As mentioned in the title, we are unnaturally close to be \"just friends.\" Our relationship has stumped everyone that we know. They can't understand it. Our relationship has been a progressive movement since we began hanging out a little over a year ago and it has transpired to this. **Now I pretty much live with him, we do everything together when we aren't working, we sleep together (in a non-sexual way), we go out places together, say \"I love you,\" etc.** Recently, we felt that some time apart would be good for us, so I stayed at my place for a night. We both swore we'd never do that again. Good mood, bad mood, whatever, we hate being apart.\n\nI know that *I've* been suppressing my feelings for him because messing up our friendship scares the hell out of me. Especially since we're about to legitimately move in together. It also scares me that I don't know what's going on his end. I do know that we don't have anything to do with our past loves. Despite that, I still see some of the things that he tweets from love songs and talking about \"ending up together.\" And none of it is about an ex because I asked him, but he would never say who it was directed towards. At the same time, there are times, like in bed for example, that if my leg touches his, he pulls away sometimes. He doesn't hold my hand anymore. He's just been shying away lately. I do wake up to him semi-spooning me now though. Before, he would always put his back to me. \n\nWhen I mention anything along the lines of having feelings for him or him having feelings for me, he acts confused, or drops the subject completely. The only time I have the nerve to attempt anything is when I'm drunk and that has only been twice. Both times he told me that I would regret it the next day, despite my protests. I just can't figure it out. I think I'm over-analyzing everything.", "summary": "Extremely, obnoxiously close to my male best friend, we do everything together, so it's extremely hard to gauge if his feelings have changed or not because we *are* always together; we sleep in the same bed, say \"I love you,\" lovey-dovey tweets, blah, blah, blah, but nothing romantic happens, we've never had sex, never kissed, he acts confused if I mention anything of the sort. I have no idea how to tell because we're already so close."}
{"id": "t3_4wqtpa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my coworker [40sM] of 2 months, should I go out for a drink with him?", "post": "Hello everyone! I've been a long time lurker, but I've never posted anything before. Also using a throwaway because everyone I know is on Reddit. Here it goes...\n\nI recently started a new job (about 2 months ago) and I'm really liking the my new work place. Everyone I've met is super friendly and I like my role in the company. I've gotten along with many of my coworkers and already been out on social events after work with several of them.\n\nThere is one coworker, Paul (40sM), that I've been chatting with recently. We went for a golf lesson this past weekend and it turns out that he was interested in me. He ended up asking me out but I declined, citing that I wasn't really looking for anything right now due to a recent break up. We continued the rest of our lesson, but I could tell that it was definitely more awkward and less friendly than before. \n\nWe decided that we would continue being mates and hang out some. However, it does feel like he doesn't want to be friends anymore. For example, when I see him at work, we just made superficial chitchat, but not like before. I enjoyed being friends with him and would love to continue having a friendship.\n\nIt really is bringing me down because this happens a lot. I meet a guy and we get along, but he gets interested in me (and I decline), suddenly we're not friends anymore. I'm always honest with them because I don't want a relationship right now. I got out of a long one and haven't been single in a while. I just wanted to make friends and hang out, no weirdness.\n\nSorry for the rambling, but should I just go out for a drink with him? Just to see where it goes? It's not like a drink is a gigantic commitment. I have drinks with my mates all the time. What do you think? I just want to see if I can continue this friendship with him and get over this weird hump. \n\nThanks for reading, Reddit!", "summary": "New coworker asked me out for a drink (a date) and I declined. Friendship got super weird... Should I just go out on that drink and try to save our friendship??"}
{"id": "t3_2b2sty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Going through a breakup and having trouble coping with my ex's recent move.", "post": "I (27F) just ended a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend (29M) on good terms. We broke up to reevaluate what we were both looking for and kept the idea of getting back together open. I was doing well for the first few months, but as I've had time to date around and see what else is out there, I'm starting to think that he and I gave up on each other too quickly, and that in fact we were really meant to be together after all. To add to the uncertainty, my ex just made a pretty abrupt move to another city. Although he still lives in the same state, I can't help but think that he abandoned me and gave up on any prospect of us getting back together. \n\nAm I being unreasonable? Should I tell him how I feel or would it ruin a pretty civil relationship?", "summary": "Feeling abandoned by recent ex after his move across the state."}
{"id": "t3_34gpcw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] don't know if i'm being too rough with my [19 M] boyfriend because of his behaviour", "post": "I usually try to be very light with my behaviour, as I know i can be rough with it or over-sensitive.\nHe knows that and I always expect him to have a little bit of touch before saying things, he also knows i don't really like how people have to drink in social gatherings as I find no entertainment on that.\nWe're both going out tonight, i'm going out with a friend i haven't seen in a while and we're going to eat, he's celebrating with co-workers. I asked him if he wanted to meet me after the celebration because I knew he would be jealous of my plans, but instead he told me he didn't know if he would come because he didn't know if he wanted me to see him tipsy.\n\nI disliked that he was going to the meeting already knowing he would get tipsy, and i disliked that he told me he would because he knows that would make me mad.\nThe result is he noticed i didn't like his behaviour but I tried to convince him that he could do anything he wanted as I wasn't going to control him, but I'm still mad that he told me that knowing what my reaction would be.\nAm I right being mad because he didn't had the touch to not tell me that? (I already know I shouldn't get mad if he drinks or goes out)", "summary": "I got mad because my boyfriend told me something he KNOWS I dislike, and I don't know if I should or should not be pissed."}
{"id": "t3_3sp67s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) am a broke college student and my boyfriend's (22m) birthday is a little over a month away. No idea what to do for him!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years and lived together for the past 6 months. Things have been great and I wouldn't change a thing. This year for my birthday he went all out, he got me some clothes and a video game and took me out to dinner. I know he had to have spent a fair amount of money on me. Well, now it's his birthday coming up and it's the end of the year. All my financial aide that I had been living off of went to rent and food and I have 2 dollars in my bank account. He recently got a job since he is not a student and has been providing for us for the past month, but before that I payed for everything. \n\nI'm not quite in a position where I can get a job because of school and sports or make any money, we live in a secluded area with not many options for extra income like donating plasma. I guess I'm looking for options of what I can do for him to make his birthday special and memorable with basically no money. I don't want him to think I don't care about him, I'm just not in a position to spend money on him right now.", "summary": "I have absolutely no money and my boyfriend's birthday is coming up. What are some ideas of ways I can make his day special without spending money!?"}
{"id": "t3_i9y5a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I help my future employees?", "post": "Alrighty guys, so I'm a 21 year-old newbie and starting up a mobile food cart in a downtown-y atmosphere. I've read on a bunch of different posts that have said that in order to become/stay a successful company, employee training is incredibly vital.\n\n The issue is that I really have no idea on what I should cover in terms of training my employees, and was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on topics to cover, any online resources you know of, or if you have any thoughts on how I should go about training my employees to best-equip them for their job, or how you'd wish your manager/owner treated you if you were part of a startup. Thanks a ton for your input! =D", "summary": "Starting a company, looking for management advice"}
{"id": "t3_2fz8ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [19 F] of 1 year, finally broke up.", "post": "So it finally happened, she called me and it took forever to get it out of her but we are no longer together.\n\nThere had been so many problems throughout this relationship that before leaving for University, I knew it wouldn't last the first month. We started long distance the day she left for school, and continued that through her first year of uni for 8 months. After that we spent an amazing summer together, filled with fun, but also fights. This may come off sort of rant-y, but it would be nice having a second look on some of the things that happened. In the first week of us \"dating\", she hooked up with a guy from her old high-school during frosh week, and later admitted it to me (trickle truth) 6-7 months after the incident. I went to visit her before she told me, and what made it worse was how she passed by him with me or conversed with him and I, all while knowing what I didn't. There were numerous other occasions spanning from taking long, close drives with an ex-boyfriend, a reciprocated stalking relationship where she assured me contact was cut, but through snooping I found that she had been texting him every day.\n\nThe part of this whole relationship that got me the most was that throughout it all, she was the one not trusting me, the one constantly asking if I was cheating on her or asking if I would find someone new. I was wondering if there is a name for this where basically one person is doing something, while accusing someone else of it because it is on their conscience. \n\nI've cut all contact as it will probably be easiest to get over, as well as I do not want any association with a person like her.\n\nThanks for listening.", "summary": "GF and I broke up after many faults on \"my\" (her) part."}
{"id": "t3_3fpslw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making noodles", "post": "This probably happened around 5 years ago but oh well.\n\nIt was about 6 AM and I had been up all night on the computer when I decided to cook some noodles. I turn on the stove, pour water into the pot, insert noodles and go back to my room. As I was waiting for my noodles I had the brilliant idea of watching an episode of Dexter from my bed. As I was ridiculously tired I had totally forgot about the noodles on the stove and I inevitably fell asleep.\n\nFast forward ~30 minutes. My mom wakes me up with a phone call and asks me what i'm up to, to which I reply \"HOLY SHIT THERE'S SMOKE EVERYWHERE I BURNED THE NOODLES\". Actually, it probably sounded like a bunch of mumbling since I had just woke up, but my survival instincts had kicked in and I was ready to save both my house and my life.\n\nI had learned when I was very young that if a fire would ensue and smoke would fill a building, you're supposed to crawl on the floor to avoid inhaling the smoke. Since I just woke up and quick thinking isn't always my strong side, I crawled out to the kitchen.\n\nUnfortunately, it did not help much to crawl as the best option was probably to just hold my breath and clear out the mess. However, I managed to fix it and get out of the house to catch my breath after experiencing one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.", "summary": "Fire alarm betrayed me but mom saved me from potential noodle death"}
{"id": "t3_10soar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where is this relationship going?? (M18) (F17)", "post": "So I (M18) have been dating my GF (F17) for a little under 2 years, and to be honest I am confused on where we are taking things.\n\nI am recently out of school and she is still in school, and already I have noticed a decline in both our social, and sexual relationship. A month from now I will be travelling for approx. a month to the other side of the world and then moving a solid 5 hours away from my current location when I return.\n\nWe have talked about going into a LDR, and at the time I was confused but agreed to try it out. and now that I'm getting a feeling for how it will be (without the distance) I'm becoming even more confused and am constantly wondering where our relationship is going for us and if we should try a LDR. is this normal? is it right for me to ponder our relationship like this, or should I leave it be? and what should I do to come to a conclusion about this?", "summary": "I(M18) am moving away soon, and have been confused about the current condition of my relationship, I am constantly wondering where things are going. Is this normal? what should I do about this?"}
{"id": "t3_46l0ue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should my [28F] roommates boyfriend help pay utility bills?", "post": "I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if I have some validity in my feelings so here I am.\n\nMy roommate and her boyfriend have been dating for about four months, maybe five now. Within the first month of their relationship she finds out he was cheating on her. (This is a whole other story itself). Anyway, since then they have never been separate.\n\nI'm not kidding. They somehow have timed it to where when one gets off work, they are both back at our apartment at the same time. I think the only time they aren't together is a) when they are at work or class or b) when she makes it to the gym while he is in class. She even starts to panic if he is not in her sight while at the bar.\n\nLast night I went to a friends, come home and they had went through two rolls of toilet paper, we split this cost, it's my turn now (second time in a row because she flat out never went to go get toilet paper). \n\nSo he is here all the time. I'm sure it's due to the problems they had previously in their relationship. I've even shown her posts on codependency. The cheating was that bad and no she's never been like this while in a relationship with anyone else. \n\nI don't think it's fair that I should have to pay 1/2 of the utilities if he is here ALL THE TIME. Honestly probably more than I am. Am I wrong for thinking he should have to pay bills along with us?", "summary": "Roommates boyfriend is constantly here, confused on whether or not he should have to pay bills."}
{"id": "t3_1lxja9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] just broke up with my boyfriend [23] of 1 year and think I changed my mind", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. For the most part we've had a great relationship, however he is very disorganized which has caused him to sometimes put things before me. For example, he procrastinates so then time that we would have spent together is spent writing that paper that is due. Or he's playing video games until he falls asleep and doesn't text me back or talk to me until the next morning.\n\nHe has not gone to France for a study abroad program and within one week has ditched me twice over FaceTime. Both of these times were because he went drinking. I just don't feel like a priority. We have talked about it and he has said that he doesn't think he's ready to change. (At least he's honest.)\n\nI broke up with him this morning which was hard in itself. When he says things like he isn't ready to change I feel hurt and want to get back together, but then when he says that he wants to make us last, I feel that I made the right choice. \n\nDid I?", "summary": "Broke up with Boyfriend cause I felt like a second class citizen in the relationship, now I'm not sure it was the right call cause I feel bad."}
{"id": "t3_lbix2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roommate's boyfriend is over far too often for my liking.", "post": "I'm 20(F), flatmate is 19(F). She and I met through a mutual friend last year, and have gotten along very well since then. \n\nWhen we decided to live together for university (I couldn't afford to pay for my flat alone), I asked her if she would be having people over a lot, because I get very uncomfortable when guests stay overnight, due to anxiety-related issues. She told me that she didn't have guests over often. \n\nWe've only been living together since the start of the semester, so maybe about five weeks? In that time, her boyfriend has been over nearly every week (usually in the middle of the week, and stays 2-4 days). I confronted her about a couple of weeks back, asking her if she could have him over less often. Since the month of October is very busy for both of us, I asked if she could make sure that we could have a few weeks without his company. She promised that she would cooperate, but then today, he showed up, supposedly unannounced (this happened last week as well).\n\nNow, he's a really nice guy, so I don't want to be a bitch about it, but I really can't deal with him being over all the time. I understand that since they live in different cities, they would want to visit each other often, but I find it terribly inconsiderate that she lets him spend so much time here, when we agreed about this issue before moving in together. What should I do?", "summary": "Roommate's boyfriend has been over far too often for my liking, and even after talking to my roommate, he still continues to come over several days every week."}
{"id": "t3_b3o14", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi REDDIT. Help me find some harder, more extreme free hardcore porn.", "post": "Hi all. I've reached place I think may of you all have already passed... the \"standard\" porn I've been subsisting on, really doesn't work for me any more.  I mean... it gets the job done but it doesn't excite me the way that maybe 6 years back even still photos of pretty boring \"pose shots\" did.  I have a huge collection of movies (mainly group and couple hardcore) that just doesn't do it for me any more.  I went through a brief bukkake phase but I was kind of grossed out by it, and didn't return. So I'm appealing to all you redditers to comment and send me a few links to some sites that feature quality porn that's more hardcore. I'm looking for something exciting, different and just plain more (maybe extreme orgy stuff or something).  I have no interest in SCAT, I've never seen two girls one cup but even the description turns me off.  Anyway, I'm here on reddit, and I think I came to the right place... please prove me right. \n\nAnd yes, this is a temp account. Though also my first reddit account.  I'll get a real account right after this (from a different IP).", "summary": "I need some more hardcore porn, but no scat. Please send me links to free sites that have movies (avi,wmv,mpg)."}
{"id": "t3_k85i5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbor has a dog, in a cage, in his garage, almost all the time. Is that legal?", "post": "These people have lived across from me for over a year. They have a home made wooden cage near the end of the garage. I've seen them take the dog out of the cage literally once. A younger guy walked the dog down the street for about 20 yards, came back to have his mother spray the dog with the hose while he held it back on a leash. To be fair, they sprayed the dog with the cone/mist setting in some attempt to clean the dog, not necessarily to piss it off. We live in Michigan, and the garage faces the west, so everyday this summer, the dog dealt with sun on it from 1pm till sunset, on some very hot days. The dog barks almost constantly, but they close the garage when it gets to be too much, so only they and the neighbors directly next to them can hear it, unless you walk past their house.\n\nAs far as I can see, the dog looks fairly healthy. It's some sort of husky type dog from what I can tell. I sort of know the neighbors directly next door to them, and they just facepalm when I make mention of it. They obviously hate the noise, but apparently they work for the guy who owns the dog, so they can't necessarily call the cops or say anything out right, so they say. They also say that the neighbors reason for keeping it caged up is because it's too vicious around small children.\n\nI like dogs, I like animals in general, I don't go out of my way to call people on their stupid bullshit, but this seems ridiculous to me. I can't find any solid, concrete information saying what they are doing is wrong, only because the dog looks to be in decent health. \n\nShould I do or say something? Or would it just turn me into the neighborhood asshole for prying into other peoples business?", "summary": "Neighbors keep their barking dog locked up almost all the time in the garage in a wooden cage, would I be in the right if I said something or called authorities?"}
{"id": "t3_2kp534", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Caught Boyfriend Admiring Google Images Of Celebrity In My Own Apt When I Was 5ft Away - Should I Not Feel Hurt?", "post": "M(29) F(27)\n\nWe've been together for nearly five years, and the majority of our time together is euphoric. We haven't lost the spark with each other, and we continue to fall more and more in love. This isn't one-sided. \n\nLast night, however, we were watching The Addams Family for a while when he had to leave the living room to work in the kitchen (on the computer). This had already been the plan. I get up to get chips and catch him browsing google images of a grown Christina Ricci, but he quickly Xes out of the page when I come into the kitchen. Now, the actual looking of the photos wouldn't have alerted me. I would have simply thought he was comparing age. But when I asked him why he acted shady about it, he admitted he was gawking over her because he was attracted to her. \n\nI know men look at porn. That's never bothered me. But when you're five feet away from the person you're with, why gawk over a celebrity on the internet? The fact that it wasn't porn -- it was her beautiful face (I look nothing like her) -- and the fact that he was so defensive about it has left a lingering feeling of hurt. \n\nAm I being irrational?", "summary": "He Xed it out and was shady about it, which is why it hurts me more. Am I being irrational over it?"}
{"id": "t3_20xz7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best way to get over a breakup?", "post": "I'm 17 and I was dating this 20 year old guy. I'm almost 18 and he just turned 20 so there really isn't as big of a gap as it may seem. I'm just having a hard time getting over him. We have been dating for 3 months. I know it's not a long time but we pretty much hung out every single day and always texted from the moment both of us woke up to whenever one of us fell asleep. My whole world revolved around him. 3 months may not seem like a long time but in reality it is. \n\nWe go to school together (we're both in college). I have to see him every morning because our classes are right next to each other. We just act like we don't know each other and it sucks because I miss when we would joke around and stuff in the hallway. \n\nLately he has been parking over by where I park. It's weird because he always had his favorite parking spot. He claims he wants nothing to do with me and is just completely rude to me. He texted me the other night and I responded and then he didn't. The next day I asked why he texted me and he just said it was a wrong number. How do you text the wrong number like that? Why is he saying he wants nothing to do with me but still texts me, tries to hangout where I hangout, etc.\n\nHow do you get over someone who is basically everywhere that you normally go. It's not like I can change where my classes are or anything. Even if i only come to the building a minute before class, I still have to see him and it bring up all the memories back.", "summary": "How do you get over someone you have to see everywhere?"}
{"id": "t3_lq7xm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, did any of you change your college or major late in the game (Junior or Senior year)?", "post": "I am a college junior who was pushed into going to a Liberal Arts college by my parents (I am very thankful for their help with paying for college).  I am a biology major, and after every test I take I am reminded about how much I suck at this stuff!  I really wanted to go to art school and pursue a career in fine arts photography (I won many national awards in High School).  \n\nIf I switch schools, that will cost a lot of money (extra years on college) and finding a job with a Bachelor in Fine Arts  will most likely be harder than finding a job with a Bachelors degree in Biology.", "summary": "Did you change your major or school late in the game? Why? And if you didn't did you think about it? "}
{"id": "t3_2uk8o2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By taking my schools IT Guys keys", "post": "Obligatory didn't happen today but two years ago. \n\nSo in my junior year of high school I was in my third year of auto tech classes and this was the year students would start to work on teachers and faculty members cars. It's also when you can take journalism which is really only working on the schools year book.\n\nOn this particular day my journalism class was going on a \"field trip\" about two hours away to meet with a professional designer for our year book cover. We didn't have to leave until 9:30 so I got to spend time in auto tech (which was my favorite class). When I showed up my teacher asked us all if anyone knew how to drive a manual truck because we needed to do work on one today. Including me only one other person spoke up and that kid wasn't the most responsible driver. My teacher chucks me the keys and tells me where the truck is parked (which was the furthest side of campus it could have been). I walked out there and drove it over to the shop with no hiccups, pull it in onto a lift and hoped out. \n\nNormally I would have stuck around and actually done the work on the car, so in that mind set I dropped the keys into my pocket. I was dressed nicely so I was careful about the work I did do until 9:30 when I left that class to join my journalism crew for our great adventure. \n\nAs we're getting off of the bus we took (the class wasn't that big it me (male) and four girls) I get a call from my friend who was in auto tech with me.\nF: \"Hey do you remember where you put the keys for Mr. ITDudes truck?\" \nMe: \"No, did you look on top of the steering wheel in front of the gauges?\"\nF: \"yea we looked everywhere, check your pockets\"\nMe:\" uhh yea I have them, hopefully he doesn't need them because he'll be stuck at school all day.\"\n\nWe eventually made it back to school with like ten minutes left in the day and returned the the keys to the proper pocket.", "summary": "moved my schools IT guys truck, pocketed the keys, and went on a field trip."}
{"id": "t3_3mfgwc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Those of you who struggle with alcoholism or know someone who is. What works or doesn't work?", "post": "My fiance and I are on the verge of being completely independant but one the obstacles that we keep running into are her parents. \nThe dad is the only one that works and just thus week he was in a wreck because he was drinking and driving and was taken to jail.  He lost one of his two jobs and the only car they own is totaled.  \nHe's gotten help before and gone to rehab and AA meetings but he never stays his for long because the mom is just as bad.  The thing is she never leaves the how except to go buy \"cigarettes\" and leaves bottles of alcohol all over the house. She refused to admit she has a problem.  \nThis had been on going for over 8 years now and we don't know what to do.  \nOur plan is to move in with them temporarily until they get back on their feet but only if they let us help them get better.  So how do we help them???", "summary": "fiance's parents are no longer functioning alcoholics and we decided to try and help them. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_53g1qv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my GF [18F] 7 months, wants to go to schoolies without me", "post": "So my GF and I have been together for just over half a year and enjoy a great relationship, we are very understanding and communicate well. The main issue is that my gf is a little bit of a \"follower\" when it comes to her friends. She always tries to please everyone rather than make compromises and has trouble saying no to her friends.\n\nThis is a perfect example of that. In Australia we have this massive event called schoolies after graduating high school where graduates gather, usually along the beach in Queensland to drink, do drugs and just celebrate the end of high school in general. Well My GF's friends basically said that they don't want me to come with her cause they want it to be a \"girl's thing\". And of course my gf agrees and doesn't counter or say why she wants me to come. She's just like \"well I tried but the girls don't want you there.\" And this isn't just for a few nights it's a whole two weeks of her going up there. \n\nShe was raised in a very strict Jewish household so she is definitely going to be drinking, smoking pot and doing drugs as a way of rebelling against her parents. Which is all fine cause I like that stuff too, I just feel like I'm missing out on all the fun, you know?\n\nAlso lastly my gf is incredibly good looking, has a very nice body and her face is very symmetrical (attractive). Whenever we go to clubs or bars together she gets approached by at least 3 or 4 guys a night so is it wrong for me to be worried about that sort of stuff??", "summary": "My GF's friends won't let me go to schoolies with her, how to bring this up with them? Should I be worried??"}
{"id": "t3_1i9db5", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "International student on OPT. Needs some advice", "post": "Hi, I'm a 22 year old, just graduated international student.\nI got approved of Optional Practical Training, and currently looking for a job. I can only work that is related to my major, which is Dramatic arts. I studied acting, scenic designing and costume designing.\n\nI have to pay for rent and groceries and everything, but since I just got out of college, I won't be paid much in the business.  \n\nI cannot work part time in anything but something related to dramatic arts, and I want to survive. \n\nIs there any grants or financial aid international student can do?\n\nI don't know what to do and I don't want to give up on my dream.\n\nIs there any advice out there?\n\nI desperately need some advice. Thanks", "summary": "I am an international student that just graduated. I need to find a way to sustain myself while working in dramatic arts. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3mtzaq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sneezing so hard I have to waddle.", "post": "This is happening now. I'm taking my regular morning poo and checking out reddit. Suddenly, a sneeze. I turn my head. Another sneeze. And another. Here's the thing. I sneezed so hard that it blew the last (nearly empty) roll of toilet paper onto the watery floor of the bathroom. Let me explain. My girlfriend, who is dear to my heart, has some bad habits. She gets out of the shower without drying off first, leaving a big wet mess on the floor. Also, she has a free standing toilet paper holder she likes to use as a balancing device for the tp (because who has time to put it on the roller?! And it's too hard! There's gotta be a better way!). Now the near empty tp roll is soaked, and I have no other option than to sit here and wait for the shit on my hairy bunghole to dry just enough that it won't mush around too much in my ass as I waddle over to the kitchen for some emergency paper towels.", "summary": "Lacked the forethought to buy tp before sneezing the last roll into a wet shower puddle. Now waiting to waddle with wet waste in my white ass to hunt down some substitute to wipe with."}
{"id": "t3_2bitu2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by commenting on someone's browser ads", "post": "I helped a young lady with a computer problem in a coffee shop this morning (couldn't login to school site to upload files); in the process I couldn't help but notice all her google ads (targeted based on her search history) were of jewelry, especially engagement rings. I should have not said anything, but to get her website issue to work I had to delete her cache, history, and cookies. She asked \"will that change anything,\" I said she may have to re-enter login information on some sites and \"you won't be getting all those jewelry ads popping up anymore.\" She says \"What do you mean?\", I explained how targeted ads work and that google just knows she has been ring shopping. She says, with a strange surprised and happy look \"This is my boyfriend's laptop.\" Very awkward after that, as I tried to finish helping her upload files and tried to not think about potentially ruining her boyfriend's engagement plans while she began to daydream in what I can only imagine was the start of wedding planning.", "summary": "Being an over-explaining techie I may have ruined a couple's surprise engagement. I failed my fellow man today."}
{"id": "t3_3be41y", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have no reason to feel this way...", "post": "I'm a somewhat successful, allegedly moderately attractive man, who has currently had too much to drink. My situation is better than many, but all I can think about is how badly I want too carve my face and chest and arms and back and it's fucking killing me. I would give my life to someone else in a heartbeat, because I am a waste of goddamn air. My life is what many would say is above average, but I feel like a fucking waste of space. I'd kill myself if it wasn't for my nephew. The rest of my family and friends would get over my death, but I don't want to make the little dude grow up knowing his uncle was a weak piece of shit. And yet, all I can think about is how badly I want to cut myself right now. I am a selfish piece of shit, and I obviously need to get back to therapy. Fuck, I thought I was past this awful part of my life. Is this all I am? All I get to look forward to? No matter what is going right in my life, all I can think about is the shitty things. I am an awful human being...I wish I could give my time to someone more deserving. This may have started as a drunken rant, but I have never been more sincere; I don't deserve the life I have, and I should not exist. I am taking time and air and life from someone more deserving, and when I finally bite it, life will heave a collective sigh and thank its lucky stars that it doesn't have to deal with my particular brand of pessimistic shit again.", "summary": "People have it worse than me, I make a big deal out of what many would call nothing."}
{"id": "t3_27chbz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally being extremely racist", "post": "This actually happened a few years ago in seventh grade. \n\nAlright, so let me start off by saying this is a very small charter school. There was only one classroom for each grade and it was PreK-7 grade. The 6th and 7th graders had to share a class. You had to wear a uniform at this school and everything, and most the kids you could tell have never been to a public school or anything. They rarely cursed or anything.\n\nAnyway, it's black history month and we are tasked to get in groups of two and make a power point about black history month. The kid I am paired with is known to add goofy or completely random pictures at the ending of a powerpoint. \n\n So this time, without him even paying attention, I decide that since I am in a group with him I will put the goofy pic of my choosing at the end. I think of something completely random, and trust me, I did not even THINK about being racist or putting this picture because of the theme of the powerpoint. \n\nI put a picture of a smiling chimpanzee in a business suit at the end of the powerpoint and start pointing it out to the kids around me. Some of them definitely thought it was racist and were only giving off slight giggles. A kid pointed it out to the teacher to show how funny I am. \nThe teacher gasped and called me over to her desk. She asks what the hell I am thinking and tells me that is racist, but even after here saying that, I still have NOT a clue how that was racist at all. And this is odd, because I grew up in a family where we would quite often make racist jokes. \n\nLater at home I am telling my parents the story and telling them how it's bs that I got in trouble. My brother asks \"so what was the power point about anyway?\" and I answer \"It was just about Black History Mo-FUUUUUUUUCK!\" at that exact moment I realized how much of a complete fucking idiot I am. Seriously, was I just completely retarded that day?", "summary": "put a picture of an ape in a suit in a black history powerpoint, never realized it was racist at all"}
{"id": "t3_27mc5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/m] Did i took these signals wrong from [17/f]? And what should i do next?", "post": "So i am [19/m] and i met this girl. So we have been chatting on facebook for the past 3-4 weeks. At first our topics were pretty casual, asking each other questions getting to know each other more, joking around. I started to think that she might like me, she was constantly sending pictures of herself (some really sexy) while we were chatting and conversations began to be more flirty and we constantly teased each other.\n\nAt that point i kind of knew that she had a boyfriend before which she still loves/can't forget. And lately we stayed up all night chatting, when conversations turned even more sexual, like we played a game in which you are only allowed to say truth and yeah.. topics were pretty dirty. \n\nThe point is that last night she asked me a question if there is a girl/girls at our school that i liked or had erotic fantasies about. So i said that there were two girls before, but lately I've been thinking only about one (and yeah, she is going to the same school). So she added a bonus question to that one, asking to tell her the names of these girls, because she wanted to know if my taste in women is good. So with a little bit of teasing and messing around i tell her two of the girls names, which i liked in the past. And yet she asks me about the last one and even though i let her know that i don't really want to tell her the name, she still convinces me to tell her the name. After i do that she says it's a bad that I do like her and that she is not ready for any new relationships, tells me about this guy who she was dating after the last one (the one who she still loves) and that the memories of that guy ruined the whole relationship and the guy got hurt pretty bad and that she is not going to do the same mistake again. And after this whole conversation, atleast from my perspective, everything got pretty cold.\n\nAnd the thing is that this girl is really awesome and I think that I am starting to like her a lot. What are your opinions on that and what should I do next?", "summary": "Met a girl, with which I chatted a lot on facebook, believed that she likes me. One time when chatting everything turn out that way that I told her that I like her and she tells me that shes not ready for a relationship after a horrible experience before and that she still loves her ex."}
{"id": "t3_3ni9b1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17F] of a year says she is no longer excited by her relationship with me [17M]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have a pretty mature relationship, and the past year has been almost entirely perfect with her- aside from the past two weeks or so.\n\nWithin the past two weeks, she's been rather distant, and we've sat down and talked twice. The first time, she told me that she felt caged in and like I was limiting her, as our relationship (in the past) has been rather hands on- we generally tell each other before making plans, are usually in contact with each other, etc. It has been pretty mutually established that this sort of arrangement is what we're both comfortable with, and if anything, I've had to sacrifice more friendships to please her than she has for me.\n\nThe other chat revealed that she was no longer excited about us- she says she still loves me, but she's no longer as excited about our relationship as she used to be. She and I were both evidently distressed.\n\nSo, how do I handle this situation? Do I just wait it out, and hope that her excitement toward our relationship returns? I've offered her a break, and I told her she shouldn't date me if it doesn't make her happy, but she told me she is unwilling to end things with me.\n\nI very much love her- I suffer from social anxiety, and she is one of the few people who I feel almost entirely comfortable around.", "summary": "girlfriend losing excitement over relationship- how to handle?"}
{"id": "t3_2y5q05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] thinks I just found my soulmate [23/M] and will never meet them .", "post": "Dear Redditors , I resort to you because it seems like I have lost my mind lately. I met a guy online through a  science ( can't go into any more details in case he's a redditor )based forum. Anyway we got talking and something happened. It never happened to me before and believe me I fell in love many times but this time, this time it was like I got out of my world and landed in an universe of spiritual connection which doesn't seem to go away. I don't even know how to explain it. It's destroyingly overwhelming. The thing is we didn't talk THAT much and he said we should meet up but that was it ( surely he can't feel the same?! ) and as fate has it we are probably going to end up working in two different parts of the country , I didn't write to him anymore but I can't shake off this feeling I met my soulmate.\nShould I be institutionalised?\nAdvice Needed", "summary": "'' Met '' possible soulmate online , never going to see them."}
{"id": "t3_wgvya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Going to see (splitupwith) Wife (whowantstogetbacktogether) in an Hour - What to Think About?", "post": "Me 32, she 31, married 4 years, together for 8 - we've been split up since April when I left her due to finding out she'd been lying to me about another guy. Our paperwork's due next week and she's really trying to get back together with me. We're going to a marriage counselor - i don't know why I said yes, but when I see her it's hard to remember how angry I was, but as soon as I'm away from her I remember all over again.\n\nWhat should I be thinking about in my final throes of marriage doubt?  Things were obviously pretty bad which is how we ended up in this bad spot, but now she's all promises of change and affection, counselors, and \"fixing everything wrong with us\".  \n\nReddit, any tips on where my head should be right now going into this?  It's all so confusing. I don't think I can be with her anymore, and it's hard not to see this as just manipulation on her part. But at hte same time - it's the girl I decided to marry, and I still see those great qualities in her.  What to be thinking of to get my head grounded?\n\nThank you!! Sorry, this sort of ended up long...", "summary": "Cheating wife trying extra hard last stage of divorce, what priorities should I have?"}
{"id": "t3_43lbyy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting the humidifier", "post": "The title has to be TIFU, but it was really YDMDFU (Yesterday my dad fucked up)\n\nSo, today I am experiencing the fallout of how my dad fucked up yesterday.  I came home and saw [this](\n\nApparently, he started filling up his humidifier with the shower hose upstairs, and walked away.  He forgot somehow, because he was in a rush, and kinda old.\n\nWhen he did realize what was happening, he quickly tried to clean up water upstairs, but it was too late.  He found water pouring out of the speaker (which was in the ceiling of the ground floor), but was still in a rush to leave.\n\nSo, he left, and heard a loud bang on the way out.  He came home to the image you see above.  (The weight of the water cleanly tore the ceiling panel out). It also ruined some Christmas decorations that were being stored in the basement below.\n\nI came home to the wreckage, and suggested we install a firepole.", "summary": "Dad overflew the humidifier through 3 floors."}
{"id": "t3_2m15il", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A part-time co-worker [28m] thinks we are really close friends. I [23f] don't really enjoy his company but I don't want to be mean. How do I let him down gently?", "post": "I work a seasonal part-time job in sports and trained a new PA guy last season. He's very very sweet (one of those overly nice, doesn't dislike anyone people) but he's not someone I enjoy hanging out with. I do it as part of the job, but I find him somewhat tedious. Over the off-season we chatted online on occasion about our respective job searches and I helped him with his resume and cover letters because they were atrocious and I felt bad for him since he's doing only part-time work after recently getting married. Now he thinks we're BFFs. He's talked about taking me out for a drink as a thank you, double dates with my fianc\u00e9 and me and him and his wife, and just invited us to a \"second Thanksgiving\" dinner party at their house. I want to keep this relationship friendly professional, though, and do not want to do those things or hang out with him outside of work. Luckily we're going to be away the weekend of the dinner party, but I'm worried next time I won't have an honest excuse.\n\nHow do I tell this guy I don't want to be friends with him beyond work and work-related things? Should I keep declining invitations politely until he gets the message? Is there a not super awkward way around this?", "summary": "Guy thinks we're good friends but we're just coworkers. How do I let him down gently?"}
{"id": "t3_pjdzo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most a-hole thing a cop has done/said to you?", "post": "I just recently got pulled over for speeding while I was passing someone on the interstate never even going over 80mph.  \n\nThe cop thought I was trying to race and I explained I was just passing a car and that's when he started yelling at me.  I was driving a 2009 Honda Accord (all stock) and he began yelling near-racist remarks about Fast and Furious-type people and \"Rice Cars\" and when he was all done he spit on my car.  Mind you - I'm a middle class white guy that shops at Target, I'm not impressive by any means.  So I guess driving a \"Chink car\" was enough to be yelled at for.\n\nHe went back to his squad car to write me up and came back and said I can either pay the fine at the court house or give him $70 cash.  That didn't seem right to me at all.  It felt like he would be taking a bribe or something to not give me the ticket.  I ended up paying the court house.", "summary": "Cop yelled racist remarks and spit on my car."}
{"id": "t3_13xz1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What interesting dreams have you recently had?", "post": "I was at a mall with 2 friends and i guy came up and began to start trouble, we got in to an argument that escalated to a fight. While i was charging at him he pulled out a revolver and shot me in the chest, that didn't phase me much so I kept going and he shot me again. We wrestled until he wasted the other 4 bullets he had left in his revolver. I realized since the gun was empty I had no other choice but to strangle him to death. It took me what felt like hours to get the job done i squeezed his neck so hard that it ended up looking like a shoe lace. He attempted to grasp some air so i tied his neck like in a knot and made sure I finally got the job done. Since I was shot i decided to go to the bathroom and clean up, on my way there I noticed my ex-gf that I treated poorly a year ago and regret to this day. I walk up to her with 2 bullet wounds and attempt to get her back by asking her out while she laughs and makes fun of me with her 2 friends. I leave while they laugh behind me and meet up with my 2 friends that are standing beside the guy that i killed and tell me I need to wait 2 days to get the bullets out since its the weekend, unless I want to tell my mother about it. I tell them that no way in hell am I telling my mother. I don't remember what happen after this because I think I woke up.", "summary": "Got shot 2 times, strangled a guy and tied his neck like a shoe lace then got rejected and mocked by my ex gf."}
{"id": "t3_12vh1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my girlfriend still immature, what do I do about this? I'm 20 she's 19.", "post": "So this is my first relationship, but I am a fairly well rounded guy and I feel that my knowledge of relationships without being in one previously is quite good. \n\nAnyways, I have started seeing this girl for about 2 months now, we are quite comfortable together, both physically and mentally. But so far there have been two red flags that I have noticed.\n\n**First**: Lack of common ground, I assume because the relationship is still quite new and I hardly know her as much as I would prefer. But I am a little nervous about this. I am hoping over time it will sort itself out.\n\n**Second**: She is still young in her head! I am in my second year of university currently and to be perfectly honest I feel I have become a lot more mature and smarter over the year and a half since I have started attending school. She however, took a year off after high school, went on a 6 month program for fun and is now working full time still living with her parents. Her \"plan\" is to become a mechanic but so far I have noticed her using an excuse saying she needs to get an apprenticeship before she can apply to a collage mechanics program which I feel is complete BS. On top of that she is still like a high school girl, literally watching tons of drama/soaps everyday like 90210. And her social life is really immature still, always gossiping about whoever, like these people bring significance to her life. \n\nAnyways the second problem annoys me way more and I am not sure what to do about it. I notice when I try and make stimulating conversation she just has no real opinion, or says quite silly things and I am left in an awkward position. I really don't want to be forceful or anything in making her grow up a little but it feels like I am just hanging around with some high school girl.", "summary": "Umm, me and my girlfriend have a kind of gap in how mentally mature we are, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1mjp3g", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I(18f) went on a 4th date to his (32M) house and no moves have been made.", "post": "We met because we have a class together.\n\n1st date: coffee. We discovered each other's ages.\n\n2nd date: supermarket and downtown (with coffee)\n\n3rd date: We watched a movie with a few other people who came and went but we had some alone time. Then they left and we watched a movie on our own and got coffee afterwards. We hugged after this.\n\n4th date: We had dinner and a movie at his place. I thought we would at least progress a bit more but he sat apart from me and we hugged when i left.\n\nMy friend suggested I just come clean and say \"Thanks for dinner, though I was hoping you would kiss me\".\n\nThoughts on all of this?", "summary": "Went on a 4th date and we still haven't progressed past a hug."}
{"id": "t3_whhs7", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Need help with dog (self) biting problem", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the best subreddit for this question, so if there's a better one just point me towards it.\n\nI have a beagle with a biting problem. She bites herself until she bleeds, then bites the wounds. At first we thought this was a flea problem since we have outdoor cats that bring them in from time to time. But we de-flead our house, gave her flea medication, and flea her daily for any survivors. And she still bites.\n\nWe're taking her to the vet soon, but I was wondering if anyone else had encountered a similar problem with their pet. We're wondering if maybe it's some sort of reaction, either physical (e.g. allergies) or mental, or if it really is just leftover from the fleas.", "summary": "Our beagle bites herself until she's raw and we don't know why, any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_kk4mi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst book you've ever read?", "post": "There are plenty of \"What's the best book you've ever read\" threads out there, so let's switch things up a bit. \n\nNow before I reveal my most hated piece of literary garbage, let me just say that I have always loved reading, and always will, but this book almost made me lose faith in writers. I had to read it in sixth grade. It was called Stranded. (Can't remember the author, it's been a while.) \n\nEven though I was in sixth grade, the mere memory of this book makes me angry. The writing was God-awful, the characters were dull, the dialogue was like reading the translation of a Japanese monster movie (but much less entertaining), and the plot had more holes than a Swiss-cheese hooker. Here's my brief summary of the plot:\n\nWhiny girl from Florida complains about her parents splitting up, and the fact that she's bullied at school because she lost her foot in a boating accident long ago. She goes on to spend a ludicrously long amount of time  talking about her prosthetic foot, and eventually finds two whales whilst swimming. Nothing interesting happens for about 50 pages, and then she finds these two whales again, this time they've managed to beach themselves. Instead of doing the logical thing and calling a whale rescue place, girl decides to STAY WITH THE BEACHED WHALES IN THIS SWAMP. (Which somehow keeps them alive?) Climax of the story: girl throws up due to the smell of whale. At daybreak, her father realizes \"Oh shit I haven't seen my daughter all night,\" finds her, does the sane thing, and calls whale rescue people. Whales live, girl is (loosely) a hero. This somehow causes the girl's parents to love each other again, and her classmates continue to make fun of her, though now she thinks they're happy for her. The end.", "summary": "girl saves whales. Story was terrible. Share your terrible reads."}
{"id": "t3_3539bp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by finding my girlfreind in a waxing bar.", "post": "So this happend about 5 minutes ago im cureently sitting in a pub typing this out.\n\nA little backstory im in highschool and me and my girl have been going out for about four months now. We havent really done anything sexual yet because shes aginst it which im fine with because in all honesty I just enjoy spending time with her. And heres the fuck up.\n\nSo im walking back from school, enjoying myself, drinking a bottle of coke and just having a grand old time when I see my SO sitting in a shop. Not knowing which shop I decide to do the surprise Bf thing and pop in. So I do and grab a seat by her and immidiatley strike up a conversation. As I do I notice shes being a little akwerd and just kind of staring around and not talking much. So I turn the coversation to her and ask what shes in here for if its sone kind of salon spa deal and she says \" oh im just in here for some.. Um waxing.\" not getting the hint I look around at my surroundings noticing several boxes labled as \"I love my muff\" so realising what kind of waxing she meant we stared at eachother akwerdly and being the guy that I am I picked myself up said Ill see ya later and gunned it before more akwerdness could ensue.", "summary": "found out my girlfreind had a brazillian in the wrong way."}
{"id": "t3_1utjjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26M) am having a really hard time moving on", "post": "My girlfriend dumped me 3 months ago.  We had only been together for like 6 months, but she was actually my first serious relationship.  We were best friends, and I became very emotionally invested.  When she ended things, it seemed out of the blue for me.  I still don't really know what happened, she just told me that she felt like we were \"incompatible.\" \n\nAt the advice of every single one of my friends, I did the best I could to ignore her and separate myself from her.  I found that I could only do this for so long (2-3 weeks max) before one of us caved and started talking to the other.  \n\nA few days ago she made a vague comment that I (apparently wrongly) interpreted to mean that she still has feelings for me.  We were talking a lot in the days since, and things felt just like old times.  However, I talked to her and found out that she is definitely not interested, so I feel like I'm back at square one.  \n\nI have no idea why it's so difficult for me to move on. I find myself thinking about pointless things like how much she cares about me, how much she ever cared about me, how happy she is without me, etc.  I feel like I'm just torturing myself but I don't know how to stop.\n\nShe also told me that she finds it hurtful / emotionally difficult when I stop talking to her.  I just feel like as long as I still want a relationship with her and she still doesn't, we're just on uneven footing and it's just hurting me more.\n\nI find myself totally unable to just cut her out, and since I keep trying and failing, it's just hurting us both.  I don't really have any idea what to do, I think my friends are all sick of hearing me mope about it.  I can't seem to snap out of it and it's really taking a toll.", "summary": "I can't seem to move on from my first relationship, and I can't seem to cut her out of my life either.  Any help or tips/advice would be appreciated, thanks."}
{"id": "t3_1ukbto", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Boyfriend (28/m) drunkenly proposed to me (27/f) on new years", "post": "My guy (of just over a year) and I went to a concert for NYE. We had a blast. We drank quite a bit and in the middle of the show he screamed \"Marry me!\" I told him he was drunk, and that if he meant it we could talk about it tomorrow. He was persistent in his plight... asking me over and over, telling me I was the woman of his dreams.. he actually shed a tear. \n\nFast forward to the next day... we wake up and clearly we have things to discuss. He explains that he holds back asking me a lot and that he thinks about it quite a bit. He tells me he does want to marry me, but he wants to wait until we are done with school. He tells me he thinks I deserve a better proposal. He also asked at one point, \"do you want to be engaged?\" to which I thought waiting would be smart too. We adore each other, what's the rush? But i'm pretty convinced if I said yes, he would have been down.\n\nWhere I look for advice is just... should I be upset with him? He said sometimes his heart is ahead of his practical brain, and sometimes it takes a bit to catch up. I was initially upset.. but then just felt comforted that he had these feelings as I have them too. I know I want to spend my life with him.", "summary": "Boyfriend drunkenly asked me to marry him on new years and then slightly backpedaled on the timeframe, but stood behind his word. Cause for concern and reason to be upset? Or should I be happy his head is even in that place...?"}
{"id": "t3_3vchol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my [19F] 2 years, At what point does long distance become too much?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for the past 2 years. We met partway through my senior year of high school while she was a junior. I moved away at the end of my senior year because I only lived there to play on a junior hockey team, and took a gap year from college after. for 1.5 years of the 2 we have been long distance. overall we have had a great relationship and love each other very much, but the distance is taking a toll. \n\nWe both started college this year on opposite sides of the country and it has been rough for both of us. We are both college athletes in very tough majors, and finding time to talk to each other has been tough. over the last 1.5 years, we have only gotten to see each other 3 times, two weekends and a few days on her spring break. Due to our athletic schedules leaving to see one another during the year is almost impossible, which leaves maybe a few days over Christmas and a weekend or two over the summer. \n\nI love her very much and we have something extremely special, and we have even talked about getting married. But this is what our relationship will have to look like over the next 4-5 years unless something changes. \n\nSo tell me, is it worth it to try to keep this relationship alive?", "summary": "Long distance relationship through college, is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_4bc4w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents gifted me almost 14.000\u20ac for my 18th birthday", "post": "My family isn't super-rich but it's enough for a great house and several short vacations each year.\n\nI turned 18 a few weeks back and my parents had a special gift they prepared since I was born. They saved 50\u20ac each month and now they have an account with almost 14,000\u20ac for me. \n\nI don't know what to do with that money. I planned my life without that much money. College/University is free in germany and I got hired for \"Duales Studium\" which means I study and work half-half and get paid enough that I can get an apartment, food and everything else I want. I don't need that money. \n\nI feel bad because it's like such a great present and every American kid which wants to go to college would be extremely grateful but I don't need it. I feel like my parents could've just invested that money into 3 one-week vacations to Mallorca spain and we would've had fun. \n\nWhat the heck should I do? Save it for bad times? I don't think I'll end up poor and I feel like it's wasted then. Spend it now? I don't freaking know. That's why I'm here looking for advice.\n\nApparently my brother will get the same gift as well ._. All that money we could've spend for months of vacation in the US or a better car or a damn TV. I don't need it.", "summary": "Got gifted a shitload of money and I don't need it."}
{"id": "t3_2vvoj7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] like my friend's gf", "post": "A little bit about me and my friends first. I'm 23 years old, kissless virgin. Never been in a romantic relationship. I don't have a problem with it, nor dwell or complain about how girls don't like me or whatever. I sometimes find girls pretty/smart/funny/interesting but I leave it that. I would usually comment to myself 'hey, X is interesting' but I wouldn't initiate anything. I do not have social anxiety nor I'm awkward against girls... I just don't care much.\n\nI have the same group of friends (3 guys, same age as me) since I was 12 years old. We have always been pretty close, we went though puberty together, and of course they noticed how I relate with the opposite gender. At first they kind of pushed me thinking I was just shy. Then, when we grew up a little bit (~16) they thought I was gay. Now they don't care much, every now and then they would make a joke about how 'asexual' I am, and that's it.\n\nNow, the thing I noticed is that I have always liked my friends girlfriends. Girls that I wouldn't care about much if I met in different situations I find way more interesting, smart, funny or pretty if I met them as one of my friends girlfriend. It's not a problem, since I know I won't try anything on my crushes, but I find it wierd and sparked my curiosity. Just wanted to know if anyone else go though the same.", "summary": "I crush on girls that I normally wouldn't if they weren't my friends girlfriends. Anyone else goes through the same?"}
{"id": "t3_rx9lj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is it poor etiquette to FB stalk a potential employer?", "post": "Now i'm not talking about finding personal info blackmail type stalking. I was doing a little research on a job opening, reading their website, reading news articles and interviews basically finding out all i could about the small startup i am considering applying for. I also searched on FB to see who listed this place as their current employment just to see the types of people there and whatnot and found not only others who work in the position I'd be applying for but also the recruiter for the company. Would contacting this person through FB be unwise? Being able to do online research and find answers on your own is kinda the job, so I was thinking if i could show how proactive/\"resourceful\" i am it would be positive? or is this just creepy? some employers look at our online lives, we should be doing the same, right?", "summary": "need a job will do anything necessary. have above average internet research skills."}
{"id": "t3_s7ivf", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am fed up with being that nice girl.", "post": "Guys constantly complain about girls leaving them for douche bags, but you know what? Guys apparently only want a bitch. \n\nFor my last SO, I paid for EVERYTHING all the time, from gas to weed. Anything and everything came out of my pocket. For his birthday I spent two paychecks to get him an amazing gift. What did he get me for my birthday? He bought subway, and only because the cashier did not have enough change for a $50. \n\nI never complained when he didn't want sex, I always gave him bjs during shark week, I did everything he wanted in bed, and I never complained at the fact that he never wanted to eat me out or even finger me. He was sleeping with other girls, but whatever, it made him happy. \n\nStarted talking to this redditor, and he seemed so sweet, saying what a nice guy he was and how he would never do anything to hurt me, blah blah blah bullshit. He just lied to me until just now he told me he is just in it for the sex. \n\nAnd almost a year ago I was dating another redditor who also swore he would never hurt me and blah blah blah. I paid a plane ticket to go visit him, everything was great until I found out he cheated on me with another guy. Two days after a huge fight he tells me he fell in love with another woman.", "summary": "It seems like the only relationships that do work out are the ones where the girl is a complete bitch, because when they are too nice, they get walked all over. I'm fed up with being nice and putting other people before me."}
{"id": "t3_10fg9a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your best vacation stories?", "post": "I took one of my good friends to my condo in Rocky Point, Mexico a few years back. We stayed in our own condo, and his mom, my mom, his aunt, and a different family friend had their own condo. My mom was fine, but the other three girls got wasted of their ASSES every single night, in particular my friend's aunt. We walked in to get some dinner because they cook it up there, and sure enough they already drank a bunch. My friend's aunt is a massive and ugly bitch; we liked to call her a demon whale bitch. Right when we walked in, his aunt burped, and his mom said \"ladies, I don't know what hole that came out of\" (joke from bridesmaids). They started laughing like your average drunk bitches. We fucking booked it like cheetahs out of the condo. We ran to the elevator and went straight to our condo.", "summary": "friends drunk ass mom cracks a stupid joke, everybody laughs, we leave"}
{"id": "t3_hsmcx", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Could really use some family kind of advice", "post": "First, a little background: When I was 9, my mom (single parent) lost her job and had to leave me to go to America to work. She paid for my education, clothes, bills, and basically everything except for food. She had no papers so she couldn't go back to where I was because that was the only way I could have a decent living. I never lost contact with her as she would call almost everyday to talk to me and see how I was doing.\n\nSo I went to live with uncle/aunt #1 and stayed there for almost 5 years (from 9 to 14). Then I moved to uncle/aunt #2 house and stayed there for 5 more years (from 14 to 19). This second couple had two kids, my cousins, but I saw them as my little brothers. We all got along well and never really had any relevant problems of any kind. I basically had a good relationship with them, but have never been the cheesy kind of guy that shows his love to their family or calls to ask how a relative or anyone is doing.\n\nLong story short, at 19, I got a student visa and came to America to live with my mom. I'm now almost 21 and never call anyone from back home except for birthdays, Christmas and those kind of dates that most people think are especial. Yesterday I received a message on Facebook from aunt # 2 saying that I was ungrateful and that I never call or email to see how they're doing and all that crap. She brought up that one of my cousins cried the day I left and that I never contact him (though I do know that he doesn't really care because in that way, he is like me).\n\nYes: I might be sort of ungrateful to my relatives but I do love them. I'm simply not the kind of guy interested in having spontaneous conversations whenever I have the chance. I don't like asking how they're doing. And I don't know how to tell this to her without looking like a douche.\n\nAny piece of advice on how to respond to that message would be much appreciated.", "summary": "My aunt thinks I'm ungrateful because I never call but I'm simply not cheesy/corny."}
{"id": "t3_sboh9", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat + Garbage = OTP (one true pairing) - How do I get this to stop?!", "post": "My five year old cat will do anything and everything he can to get into the garbage.\n\nHe has open and constant access to dry food, supplemented with a scoop of can food once a day. He is disallowed human food (except for turkey), and is an indoor/outdoor cat.\n\nMy other two cats don't do this - just Smoke. This is a new behaviour that has just cropped up in the past year. I consulted his vet, who performed a complete exam plus bloodwork and found no abnormalities, and her advice was to try a different brand of food and see if that works, which it has not.\n\nWhat can I do? I've gone so far as to install a garbage cabinet and he's still finding a way to open the door and get into it.", "summary": "My cat is a dumpster diver, he needs to quit."}
{"id": "t3_162s15", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Feeling a bit overwhelmed with life at the moment.", "post": "Well, the title basically sums it up. I've been asked to move to Norway for my job as a flight attendant. But I had no idea it was coming.\n\nTurns out I have about 1.5 months to pack my stuff, get on a plane with everything and start fresh. I don't know nor do I have any idea about living arrangements, I'm moving to a country with different currency (currently living in Europe), and to make it all worse I found out right before going back to work on my last day home for vacation.\n\nAll of this basically culminated into a huge rush of emotions that just from thinking about it gives the feeling to just say screw it and leave the job in the first place and go home. I know this is a terrible idea and I know I'll most likely not do it, the feeling is so overwhelming that I just don't want to deal with it.\n\nMeanwhile I have to continue working my super stressful job, until I move and once I get there I'll restart again and won't have basically any time to adjust. \n\nAnyways that's about it, thanks for reading. I don't really know why I felt like posting but it's always nice to vent. \n\nAnyways, have a happy 2013 everyone!", "summary": "In essence the title..."}
{"id": "t3_2osxbk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Medicredit collections showing up again on Credit report after I paid it off previously.", "post": "I will try to keep this short. \n\nJune, 2013 I noticed a big drop in my Credit Score. I had a collection from a hospital (They had a super old address on record and sent all bills there, I never received them. Eventually the unpaid bill went to Collections.) Since it was sent to collection I was no longer able to work with the hospital on paying it off. Medicredit was the collection agency, they allowed me to pay off half of it. I had to pull some money together, I called back and made the payment over the phone. \n\n7 months later I am pulling a credit report for a Home Mortgage I am applying for, It shows up as still unpaid. I contact the Medicredit, they say I never pay. I provide proof from my bank statement, the contact info was linked to their headquarters. I am told to email someone and they will look at it from the finance department. I do that and send a copy of the transaction info. I keep an eye out on my credit info, and it is removed in June. Fast forward to September, and it showed up again. I am trying to contact them again about this, but just get long wait, and no responses back from my multiple emails I have sent out. I am not sure what to do next. I want it removed from my credit. I paid it, and have proof. What options do I have?", "summary": "paid off collections, still shows up as unpaid, got them to remove it, pops back up on Credit Report a few months after."}
{"id": "t3_3boz2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to get over my insecurities (F24) with my boyfriend (M26)", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for about six months and before that we were friends for a year. He's always been incredibly private while I'm an incredibly open person,  I also found out that he's been manipulating the truth on a number of occassions (information about exes, nothing major). He once told me (back before we dated) about this girl he worked with who everyone thought he should date and the next time I asked about her he said that she wasn't his type so I thought that was case closed but recently I found out that he's been going on lunch dates with this girl and sending her cutesy imgur things.\n\nUp until now I've never even heard of this girl. I don't need to know everything he's up to every moment of the day but I feel like if there was nothing to hide he would have at least mentioned her. He usually goes out to lunch with his two male work mates but now I wonder what the actual truth is. To make matters worse his best friend's wife also had an issue with her anf my boyfriends best friend actually told him to cool off his friendship with her. I'm so worried now, do I have any reason to be or am I just overreacting? Please help me!", "summary": "My boyfriend lied to me about a girl at work. Going out of my mind"}
{"id": "t3_3t1czv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] just physically injured my girlfriend [23F] for the first time, need help.", "post": "We have been together for 3.5 years and this was the first time it happened. The last year has been tough with fights almost every week but we've managed to stay strong. We had a big fight recently and as I was trying to leave she grabbed onto me trying to get me to stay.  I asked her to let go but she wouldn't so I used force to get her off by grabbing her arms and ended up leaving scratches and bruises all over. I never thought it was something I was capable of and dont know what else could happen in the future so I feel like I should end it here. She is still willing to give it a chance and even though I love her for it I feel its not in her best interest and safety. Don't know what to do. I know I have an anger problem but never have taken it out on someone before.", "summary": "Should I end my relationship before things get any worse?"}
{"id": "t3_4ovpo2", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I can't tell if shes into me or not [m20-F19]", "post": "Ok so pretty much I've know this girl for about two years now and I've pretty much loved everything about her. But I was too late as asking her out one time since another guy did. So she hasn't dated anyone for well over a few months since that guy. Now here are \"hints\" that I learned from other girls are actually hints (Ladies plz tell us) and they are;\n\n* light shoving joking around\n\n* Apparently I'm extremely funny.\n\n* Constantly talking or joking around\n\n* That eye contact tho.\n\nI don't know if those other girls lied to me or if they are hints. I'm afraid to lose her as a friend but I still think shes perfect. Also I'm terrible at taking hints so I'm surprised I noticed any of those.", "summary": "apparently shes giving hints but Idk"}
{"id": "t3_1ih0p2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Restarting my Computer", "post": "I'm in Afghanistan, and been here for almost three months. I was happily torrenting old shows and old computer games converted to run on my 2010 Macbook Pro, and up until yesterday it was running like a champ. \n\nNow last night, my computer was running a little slow, with the spinning beachball coming up almost every time I moved the mouse, so I say to myself, \"meh, I need to go to sleep anyway. Maybe a solid restart will do the computer some good.\" Fast forward to today, I try booting up my Mac several times to no avail; it freezes at the apple logo and grey screen. So I boot up in safe mode. I get an error on startup and Google it using my phone.\n\nMy hard drive failed.\n\nFanfuckingtastic. I'm in buttfucknowhere with the nearest Apple store being a sweatshop down some random alley in China, and even if I wanted to send my Mac via postage to some Apple repair shop and wait for a month to get it back, I CAN'T SHIP COMPUTERS DUE TO THE BATTERY being a restricted item for international shipments. \n\nGreat. \n\nBut wait, I'll just reformat or replace my hard drive and reinstall my operating system with my startup disk. NOPE. My copy sf OS 10.7 Lion is back in a storage container in the States, and even if I order one, the data on my hard drive is irreplaceable meaning that I ABSOLUTELY need a new hard drive to avoid reformatting my files into oblivion; all my college files, resumes, projects, fan fiction that I lovingly and thanklessly authored, ALL OF IT COULD BE LOST. Fuck me for being unprepared and not having backups of everything, right?", "summary": "Afghanistan doesn't have Apple Stores or Genius Bars for people having hard drive failures with their expensive-ass Macbook Pros. I should have bought a Dell or Asus netbook to bring over here."}
{"id": "t3_22mbik", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[Update] Need some insight on a predicament. I [25/F] have been dating [28/M] for a little under 3 months. Found out he has a FWB [40/F] for 1.5 years. He said he doesn't see the FWB ever moving past just that because of different wants out of life ie kids etc.", "post": "Original Post [Here](\n\nI talked to him the day after posting the original article and without being absurd or obnoxious calmly and directly stated my discomfort and dislike of him not figuring out his situation with his FWB.  He restated his want to do it and that it has been on his mind to put it to rest but didn't know how to say it.  I told him if you are gonna do it don't leave the FWB with grey area or confusion. if you want to end it end it.  We also both restated that we see the two of us working out long term but he understood that I wouldn't be able to stay with him if the FWB wasn't put to rest soon.  I told him I didn't mind if they stayed friends, honestly. Just drop the WB part of FWB. After finishing the conversation we continued on with our evening.  When I left we said our goodbyes and I said with a nice but no bullshit tone \"Figure it out with her, please.\"   \n\nA week went by we were both extremely busy.  I saw him Monday night,  and he told me he called it off with her completely and utterly and that it was over between them.  He thanked me for saying something to him, because although he had wanted to call it off sooner, he said he just needed a swift kick to finally do it.\n\nI am glad I told him directly my feelings on the matter and then gave him time to take care of it.  And even happier that he didn't dawdle, but moved forward and settled the matter.  Now we can move forward as a couple.\n \nThank you for your feedback from the first post!", "summary": "I was direct with my feelings on the matter, he needed the motivation to finalize it, he called it off with FWB and we are happily moving forward as a couple."}
{"id": "t3_2ud7ve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my friend [18 F] hanging out tomorrow - unsure how to go about it", "post": "So I have liked this girl for the past year or so. We've been nothing but friends so far & only talk online (we met once in passing but at the start of the friendship). She currently is in a long distance relationship of 6 months with a guy a few years older than me. I completely respect that fact & I would not want her (or anyone) to break up their relationship for me. \n\nHowever, she opened up to me the other day about how she's having problems & they argue a lot. I gave her some friendly advice about what to do. She then started to sort things out with the issues they are having. \n\nThis was fine with me, I'm glad she's sorted it out but I get very mixed signals from her. We have pretty deep conversations. The other day we were talking about how well we get along and our preferences in the opposite and we both sorta match each others' criteria. She also complained how nobody has taken her on a proper date before & how she's been messed about in relationships in the past...However, she will suddenly stop replying part way through conversations then either reply the next day or not at all. I'm finding it rather confusing.  \n\nWe decided we would hang out properly for the first time tomorrow. I really don't know how to take this or what I should do. I was thinking of going for a drive & then head back to mine for some dinner but I don't want to act weird around her. The fact this is the first time it's just me and her together, I want to give off the right impression; that I'm interested (or that I'm a desireable person to have a relationship with) but I'm respectful of her situation.\n\nFirstly, do you think I've misread how she's feeling? \nSecondly, how do I stop my feelings getting the better of me?", "summary": "Interested in a friend who is in a relationshipand hanging out with her tomorrow for first time. How do I give off the right impression?"}
{"id": "t3_xxr7g", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "updated: fight or not. This is just too painful", "post": "myself, 23m, her, 25f, relationship over a year. Moved in with each other from one city to another 450 miles away.\n\nThis is an update from this thread: \n\nI'm at a complete loss. I finally got back into town and got to see her face to face. She wasn't cold or mean, but as soon as I stepped in, she wanted to sit down and talk. It's obvious that this decision is hurting her just as much as it is hurting me. We talked and cried, everything. Even held each other for awhile during a powerful lighting/thunderstorm.\n\nlater in the evening, she started to get playful, or cheery. I guess to try and lighten the mood. Then she became angry, wishing the move was already over so we can move on. She asked for a back massage (like I used to always give her)..promptly after, said she could not sleep in the same place with me...so I left and spent the night on the couch.\n\nShe left not too long ago for work, gave me a hug and said sorry. I've already begun packing my things. She has a place on standby to move into. Just this one night back has been incredibly painful. I told her to just move out and move on. She doesn't need to worry about me or the apartment lease we're on. Hell, I'll even pay for her first month if it means it will be emotionally easier for the both of us\n\nI was really hoping to find a solution to all this, that we stayed together, but that hope is now gone. Maybe in the future? I don't think I should keep my hopes up at all. Been through this once before, this is the second time. I don't think I can bear another scar.", "summary": "Updated thread, varying mix of emotions from her, can't bear this pain much longer, and want her to move out and on with her life already."}
{"id": "t3_3lsy20", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21f] become a better communicator?", "post": "I'm in a relationship with Jake [22m] and things are good. We are both coming to the end of our college careers and are starting to need to figure out where the relationship is going and if we are actually compatible or just like to have a good time together. I think this is normal and to be expected. \n\nI have a problem with trying to discuss things when I have a bit of alcohol in me. I know this is a problem and we have discussed it. I feel like I probably initiate serious conversations when tipsy because I am afraid of having a real one when I am sober.\n\nI want to change this and want to know if anyone else overcame being a terrible communicator and if you have any advice.", "summary": "Is a crappy communicator but doesn't want to be anymore"}
{"id": "t3_zkvof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F23] is always using the phrase \"future husband\" but never for me [M21].", "post": "We've been dating for 2 years.  It's starting to bug me.  A lot.  She used to only talk about me when it came to marriage.  Usually in a teasing fashion to try to catch me off guard.  At one point that stopped.  She started using the phrase \"future husband\" pointing out other guys in public or posting pictures online.  It hurt, but I sucked it up, telling myself it was a negligible issue.  It wouldn't be worth the trouble.  It is.  Now I can only think about how she's lost interest in me and is scoping out other guys.  I'm about to talk to her about it, but I want to hear what you have to say.  Is this acceptable?", "summary": "Is it inconsiderate of my girlfriend to comment on other guys and imply that they are dominant to me?"}
{"id": "t3_2mqgek", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by summarizing my thoughts inaccurately", "post": "So this happened a few years ago in grade 12 English class. We were having a discussion about bias, and the teacher asked for an example.\n  \nAbout 50 years ago there was a black community not far from where I lived which was demolished by the government for them to build a big bridge over a harbour. The city said that the residents were compensated by being given homes of the same or  better quality despite the fact that they actually gave them really trashy places, carrying them and their belongings in garbage trucks. When the residents complained, they weren't taken seriously in the media because they were black. We learned a lot about it in Elementary School, and it was the first example of media bias I thought of.\n\nSo people stick up their hands, and several people give a two or three word answer. I didn't want to be that guy who gives a much longer answer than is needed. When I was called on, I tried to express my example in the least amount of words I could, but it ended up something to the effect of:\n\n\"Black people not being as credible as white people.\"\n\nIt did not occur to me that I should have specified that I meant \"Residents of ______ not being considered as credible as white people in the 60's due to prevalent racism\" , especially considering that I was white and roughly half of the class was black. The room got really quiet and the teacher stared at me for a few seconds. I didn't think about what just occurred until my friend sitting next to me whispered, \"Acg, why would you even say that?\" and a \"What the fuck dude?\" from someone sitting behind me. Thankfully, I didn't get beat up.", "summary": "I summarized my thoughts as accurately as a stormtrooper at a rifle range and accidentally implied that black people aren't credible in the company of about 10-15 black people."}
{"id": "t3_mwa5c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "GAHHHH I have mice AGAIN! Ok Reddit - what are your tips for getting rid of the little guys?", "post": "So here is the story....Last winter, my roommate and I struggled with mice in our apartment. We bought various traps (classic snap traps, the \"ortho home defense max\" trap, sticky pads), and eventually even resorted to poison pellets followed by borrowing a friends cat for a week. When one late night we saw a mouse on my bed, it was the final straw. We called our landlord again and convinced him that it was time to bring in an exterminator.\n\nThat was great. The exterminator came out a few times, \"mouse proofed\" our home, and we hadn't seen a mouse since.... until this morning. So this means war. Again. So I'm looking for new, creative, incredible, crazy suggestions for getting rid of mice because I refuse to share my bed with them. Pretty much ANYTHING that may help.", "summary": "I need new ideas for getting rid of mice"}
{"id": "t3_3m3xid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[16 M] with GF [16 F] been together 1 year, long-distance relationship, help needed, cause my heart is breaking", "post": "Okay, so i need some help/advice.. I love my GF more than anything in this world and i would do anything for her, we've been together for a year, long-distance relationship, we've only met 3 times. \n\nWe live 12 hours travel away from each other so if i had the money for it i would visit her on every occasion. But i don't and it makes our relationship a bit hard.\nLately she's been distant, but it turned bad last night when she told me she didn't want to be more than just a really good friend. She said its because \"she doesn't work well with relationships\". \n\nI don't know how to handle this, i've been trying to get her to explain it to me, but she doesn't respond much except for \"..://\". I love her so much.. this is really hurting me.. I can't keep concentrated in my classes because all i think about is her saying those words.. \n\nI dont want to get over her and i really dont want her to leave me.. She said she still loves me but I'm not sure anymore.. I can see 1 and only 1 good side to this, and thats finding someone closer to me, but i dont want to..", "summary": "My long-distance girlfriend is breaking up with me, but im still madly in love with her/I dont know how to handle this, any help/advice? (sorry for poor grammar/explanation, english is not my primary language)"}
{"id": "t3_3h8a9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my GF?/girl I'm dating [27 F] of 4 months, no intimacy.", "post": "I have been dating this girl for about 4 months. I really like her and we have a lot in common.  She's slept over a few times, but other than some kissing, nothing has happened.\n\nI have tried to make several moves but she pushes my hand away and says \"it takes me a long time to get to know someone\".  \n\nI told her my feelings last night. What I said was, \"I feel like we skipped the exciting part of the relationship and acting like we're 50 years old and have been married for 30 years\". She fell asleep in my bed before 10pm.  \n\nOK, fast forward the next day, and I ask about it again.  I ask if she has ever been with a guy before; I thought she was shy because she was a virgin.  She says she has been with only one guy, and he \"tainted\" sex for her.  She also grew up in a religious household which may explain her shyness.  She did not elaborate on either.  Then she asks if \"sex is really that important to me\". I responded by saying it's not that, it's just that I have to initiate everything including kissing.  She then says she does not like kissing either.\n\nI've tried to talk about intimacy, but she seems to have no passion.  To be honest, it just feels like a friendship.  I do really like her, but I'm getting sexually and emotionally frustrated.\n\nI could really use some advice.", "summary": "Dating a girl for 4 months and nothing other than kissing."}
{"id": "t3_3izpwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] on break/breakup with my [19M] boyfriend, slept with my friend [20M]", "post": "My boyfriend of 2 years and I started taking a break due to being at separate colleges. We were inseparable and the best of friends.   We both agreed that we should experience college and meet new people. We pretty much broke up and agreed to still be friends. I still love him and he says the same. We text/snapchat/talk on the phone pretty much everyday or every other day. We both agreed to tell the other person if we met someone we were interested in.\n\nOne of my guy friends and I hung out the other day and one thing led to another and we slept together. I'm not sure how to feel about it...  Do I tell my ex or just pretend like it never happened?", "summary": "broke up with boyfriend because of college, slept with guy friend what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1b1unv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] My girlfriend [19/f] and I  have been dating for 9 months and she does not understand that I need a good amount of personal space.", "post": "We generally see each other 4-5 days a week which for me as a generally introverted person can be hard. In the past I've tried to explain this to her but she never seems to  understand and overtime she's become increasingly more clingy. Today she showed up at my house on a day in which we were not supposed to be seeing each other, asking if because I need my personal space if I'm tired of her. I told her that no, I'm not tired of her, I'm just a person that needs a good amount of alone time. She said that she doesn't understand. This has become a major strain on our relationship and I'm not sure how to proceed, help?", "summary": "My girlfriend does not understand my need for alone time and I don't know how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_343xob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30f) want one more child (we already have two), Husband (30m) doesnt want anymore. Where does this leave us?", "post": "We have been together 10 years, married 3, and have two girls (5yo and 10mo).  We have both always said we would like 2 or 3 children but we both agreed we weren't sure and would see how we felt after our second.\n\nWhen our second was 6mo, I (30f) mentioned I felt like I wasn't done yet and that I thought I wanted one more child, but not for a good few years. He (30m) said he wasn't sure yet. \nLast night the conversation arose again and I said again that I wanted one more baby but not for another 2 years at least. He dropped the bombshell that he didn't want any more kids, and that he was done.  I pressed him about why and he said kids are expensive and we wouldn't be able to afford another (which at this point in our lives would be a stretch but we definitely COULD afford it - we live in a country with free healthcare and both have well paying jobs, with mine having maternity leave available) I told him a lot can change in 2-3 years and that he shouldnt write it off completely for now based on that. He shut me down straight away and said he was finished, didn't want anymore kids, and also said he would never make me have another if I didn't want one so I shouldn't do it to him.\n\nI agree with him wholeheartedly. I would never force him to have another baby if he didnt want it.  Bu that brings me to my question.\n\nWhere does that leave us?\nI know in myself I definitely want another baby. and I can understand him NOT wanting one. But I am terrified I will come to resent him for not giving me another baby, by the same hand, I would never pressure him into because he has said he is done.\n\nHow am I supposed to go about this? do I wait a few years and see if he changes his mind? What if he doesn't but I still want one more?", "summary": "I want one more baby but Hubs is done... What now?"}
{"id": "t3_2ihc7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Age difference problems?", "post": "So, long story short. We've been dating almost 5 months. My boyfriend [25]had a rough upbringing and a very rough first and only relationship that ended in a divorce. \nHe's not my first relationship. I'm[21] actually a little younger and have been in about 4 (depending what you count as a relationship). His ex was super controlling so I really do my best not to be even when I feel he's out of line.\nHe feels the need to have these like little Internet friends flow over into our relationship. Like one of his online friends didn't like me and basically stopped talking to him over me. All of these \"friends\" are female of course. \nHe posts on several reddits that I don't particularly care for because of their content and doesn't understand why it bothers me. He is just complimenting these women and loves doing it. He's not trying to fuck them or anything that I know of but it makes me really insecure. I've never had a need for the attention of multiple people but he does. He basically craves it, whereas I find it childish. \nHe brags about being hit on and some of his past sexual encounters. I'm about 4-5 years younger than him but I am not less experienced and he always seems to throw the age card out when he disagrees with me. \nI'm very grown for my age. I go to college, work full time and still have a family/ social life. I've worked for all I have actually. So when he drops that card it is extremely insulting to me. Is it wrong to tell him to stop or leave? I don't want to be belittled because I'm young. Because honestly, he's definitely the younger of us two mentally", "summary": "my boyfriend treats me like a child sometimes and he's only 4 years older than me. I don't know how to deal with the situation."}
{"id": "t3_33n7w1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M19] told my crush[F18] how i feel and she didnt really gave me an answer.", "post": "I know her almost 2 years now and we have been good friends.\n\nI recently told her how i feel about her, she just smiled and told me that she wanna talk with me about that after her trip to \"summer-splash\".\n\nI havnt seen her ever since then and we havnt chatted either.\n\nIm gonna meet her tomorrow at a birthday-party and i dont rly know how to react.\n\nShould I talk with her or just act like always(friends).\n\nI mean, i got this feeling that she likes me as well cause she just smiled and huged me. i generally thought that she likes me more as well", "summary": "Told my crush how i feel, didnt gave me an answer. Will meet her tomorrow and dont know how to react."}
{"id": "t3_25v9rp", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "So we booked our flights to Ireland... and now we're panicking... help?", "post": "Well story goes like this. Partner and I have been to Dublin several times to see friends and have a few parties, and were always told how theres some fantastic sights to see in Ireland if we ever managed to get across for a break (Blarney castle, Galway, Giants Causeway, etc).\n\nSo when it came around to looking at holidays for this summer, we figured we'd give it a shot, do our own thing instead of a tour, and booked ourselves some flights...\n\n...but we've come to a bit of a block. Pretty much all the car hire companies specify that we need to have had a licence for 8 years, and be over 25 if we want to hire a car. I'm 26, but only have a couple of years, and she's 23, but has 7 years. So unless we're willing to start selling some organs, we cant hire a car. \n\nThat leaves the public transport. But from what we can see, while the major towns are connected, to get to a lot of the best bits, you need a bit more freedom, which buses and coaches don't seem to offer.\n\nWell if we'd known this was going to be such a problem, we could have brought our car over. Problem solved. But the wonderful setup at Ryanair means that if we want to cancel our tickets, we're looking at about a \u00a3160 bill!! (They charge \u00a340 per person, per single trip)", "summary": "We bought tickets to Ireland, realised we screwed up, cant hire a car, but want to get around independently. Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_ucf23", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I found out that during WWII my grandfather ran a black market business in order to cover the cost of hiding jews.  What cool stories have you found out about your family?", "post": "My grandfather was a farmer in the German occupied Netherlands during WWII.  He had two crawlspace sized tunnels underneath his house.  One that led to a hollowed out hay-pile in the barn that he used to hide Jews and another that he used to hide animals. (Apparently there was a restriction of how many farm animals you were allowed) At first he started off by selling meat and crafting bike tires from old car tires. (more than a few of them were stolen off of nazi vehicles)  People didn't always have the money and so he would trade for other things they had and threw his wheeling and dealing started to get a reputation for someone that could find things.\n\nEven tho he ended up making descent money during the war, he only charged people what they could afford and on more than one occasion the poorer families in his village would find packages of food and supplies anonymously dropped off at their home.\n\nMy Grandfather did not like to talk about the war when he was alive, and passed away when I was quite young.  Everything I learned about him was from aunts and uncles who were there, so unfortunately I don't know exactly how many lives he saved, or how families he helped, but between him and my other grandfather who fought the nazi's and then survived a POW camp it makes me pretty proud of my heritage.", "summary": "My grandfather was a baddass blackmarket runner with a heart of gold."}
{"id": "t3_f6007", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please reddit, how can I help my delusional mother?", "post": "Let me start off by saying that this is not a problem which came on suddenly, although it seemed that my part in it was so. As long as I can remember my friends and family have commented on the fact that my mother \"always complains about things\", ESPECIALLY when they pertain to her personal health. I grew up with it so I thought it was pretty normal. I'm 21 now, and since I've gone to college and gotten some distance from the situation I've come to realize that my mother is a hypochondriac. Further, it seems to have gotten MUCH worse in the past couple years. She has convinced herself that she's dying, and she refuses to talk about anything other than this fact. A few years ago she started calling me regularly to diagnose ME with illnesses including ADD and Austism. She believes that she has a rare brain disease and if she doesn't paint every day she will die. She has squandered all our family's money on art supplies to this end. She's lost a high paying career as a corporate attorney, and consequently spends all her time at home. Recently she convinced herself that her husband was going to murder her and she locks herself in her room at night and sleeps under the bed. He called me today to tell me that he's leaving her and I don't blame him. What can I do? A friend mentioned either having her committed or myself taking up power of attorney over her in order to oversee her health care. I'm young and I don't know anything about this stuff. What do I do?", "summary": "My mom has lost her mind, what are my options?"}
{"id": "t3_1gfpmm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] struggling to communicate with my girlfriend [21F] of several years because of her depression", "post": "A little backstory: we have been together since high school, and have been living together for almost a year now. Both of us are enrolled in four-year universities and doing fairly well, and we've generally been a very happy couple with few problems.\n\nIt has been a couple years since she was diagnosed with depression and I've always been fairly good at dealing with it but since moving in together I find myself unable to communicate various things to her such as asking her to do more housework or take on a part-time job to help with the stresses that I take on working 20 hours a week (40+ in the summer) and being a pre-med student. I'd love to be able to completely support her, but I'm just not capable of it right now.\n\nShe knows that she should do these things already, but her depression affects her in a way where she won't do anything about it, and then will turn around and call herself worthless for not doing it, which furthers the cycle and makes her even less motivated to do it. \n\nOur relationship has always been based on honest communication, and has succeeded because of it, but now I'm afraid that if I suggest that she do these things to make the effort in our living situation a more even split that I will be making her feel worthless and damaging her ability to succeed. But I now feel that there is a wall between us as I can't say how I am actually feeling, and it is affecting my passion for the relationship.\n\nHow would you suggest I go about communicating these things to her without hurting her or at least as little as possible?", "summary": "I want to ask my SO to try to do more around the house and try harder to get a job, but her depression makes me fear I might hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_27r2pm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [50 F] and my father [50 M] have both been telling me [20 M] a few things to keep secret/hidden from the other, and I don't know exactly how to handle the everything, and the most recent instant is stressing me out a bit.", "post": "My parents (of five) don't have the healthiest relationship, I guess by any means (aside from the secret sharing laid upon me). Recently, my mother asked me if I could lend her ~$500 to help pay some fees for her one of her jobs (a type of MLM), as she didn't want to ask my father for fear of it spawning an argument due to his (as well as my) disapproval of her job choice. I lent her the money.\n\nMy father has just told me not to inform my mother of some issue being talked about at our city's council, as I was talking to him about it, and like discussing such things with both of my parents. This was because my mother's other job essentially places her in opposition to what my father's city-official friends are pushing for, and he doesn't want her to act out against him or his friends or whatever. I told him that I really don't like that he's asking (quite literally *imploring*) me to do this, simply because she shouldn't be mad at him, and he should allow for her to act in opposition to whatever she feels she should (and other reasons). As of now I haven't told her.\n\nMy general policy, that I've told the both of them during their respective requests of me, is: I won't say anything *unless* if I'm asked, to which I will answer truthfully.\n\nBut I just don't like the idea of assisting either of them in this unhealthy marriage, and the fact that they are telling their child to hide secrets from one another is a bit stressful for me.", "summary": "Parents are telling me things that they want me to keep secret from the other, and it's conflicting with my moral compass and is a bit stressful and bad to experience, but I also don't want to contribute to any more negativity in their relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3sm8rv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] need help with her [20F] intentions", "post": "So I met this girl off of Tinder about 2 weeks ago. We texted all week, seem to have a lot in common and made plans to go out to dinner. Dinner seemed to go pretty well and conversation was steady. So after the date ended and we both went our separate ways for the night, she texted me for a while, then the next day she said that she didn't feel like we clicked and that she was worried about the 30 mile distance. I kinda took this as she just wasn't interested in me and kinda let it go. \n\nFast forward to tonight and she texted me and wanted to know if I wanted to come over to her dorm tomorrow night to watch a movie we had both talked about during the date, but hadn't seen yet. I haven't given her an answer yet, I really don't want to waste a Friday night or spend time with her if she's just trying to be nice or keep me there as a second choice. \n\nI'm okay with moving on and forgetting, I've never been one to get stuck up on a girl before but I want to make sure I'm making the right choice if I cut her off completely.", "summary": "girl doesn't feel \"it\", texts me 5 days later wanting to hang out again."}
{"id": "t3_exkmx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I ask someone who has been messaging me who they are?", "post": "I received a few text messages from someone claiming to be Stephanie. However, I cant remember meeting her or giving out my number (should be noted that alcohol would have been at play). \n\nIve asked my pals no one is sure who she is or at what point I would have met her. There was three times that I could have met her and gave my number out, Christmas eve and twice in pub after going to two games of football.  \n\nI've messaged her back a few times but still don't have a clue who she could be. What is the best way to ask her who she is and how I know her.\n\nWill be going to bed shortly so will respond in the morning. \n\nCheers", "summary": "Received a phone text message, replied to many times now for me to ask where I met her and who she is. What's best way of identifying her?"}
{"id": "t3_3mfhsu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] with my \"friend\" [16F] Have a Strange Relationship and I Need Advice.", "post": "I am a 15 year old male in High School who has a 16 year old female friend. We talk to each other everyday at lunch and are both in the same after school club. We don't have any classes together though, because she is a grade above me. \n\nWe are usually in a group with some other friends when we talk, but we tend to walk together and behind everyone else in the group. She is a beautiful person on both inside and out, and is so nice to everyone, but she seems to be extra nice to me. \n\nI also forgot to mention that she has a boyfriend. He doesn't go to our school and he is a senior (2 grades above me, 1 grade above her). I've never met the guy, but based on his social media profiles he seems like a cool person. On several occasions she has told me that I am like the little brother she never had, but then she will turn around and get kind of touchy (she sometimes grabs my hand when talking or she might get closer when speaking to me.) \n\nI am unaware of if she notices that I have feelings for her. Sometimes during lunch I'll notice that she is looking at me and when I look up at her she flashes a huge smile. We don't talk much out of school (mostly because she has her phone taken away), but sometimes we go out with a group to get coffee and hang out. The last time the group went out we sat next to each other and conversed amongst ourselves primarily. \n\nI am confused about some of the mixed signals she is sending because it seems like she is in to me but at the same time she has a boyfriend and had mentioned that I am like a little brother to her. \n\nI am willing to answer questions to help clarify any information if you have any advice for me please feel free to comment.", "summary": "Girl I am friends with is sending mixed signals and has a boyfriend. Advice would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_49lad6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] am being targeted by my BF's [30M] ex.", "post": "Hi guys.\n\nMy BF's ex is pissed off and mean. She is constantly threatening to ruin his and my life, and lately her ire is focused on me.\n\nI'm not really that concerned with her or her actions - we have never met, she doesn't know where I live, she does not have my phone number, and all attempts at contacting me on FB have been blocked. However, she does know where I work.\n\nMy question to ya'll is should I give a heads up to HR about any phone calls that may be forthcoming if she follows through on her threats to try and get me fired? I'm not afraid of her, I have no problem getting a cease and desist letter if she becomes a nuisance, but I would like to head off any bullshit at the pass. What do ya'll think?\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "BF's crazy ex making stupid threats about getting me fired. Warn HR in advance?"}
{"id": "t3_33h7ll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [20] is offended because I [M-19] wouldn't be attracted to her IF she was overweight... help!", "post": "Ok my girlfriend texted me asking whether I'd be attracted to her **IF** she was fat. [Conversation] I'm not attracted to fat women, she knows this because I've never dated anyone fat, I'm not fat and above all, SHE isn't fat. \n\nI've told her before that I would love her but I wouldn't be sexually or physically attracted to her because I don't like fat women. She got upset, saying I'm shallow. I'm not shallow, there's nothing wrong with not being attracted to fat women, at all. It's just who I am. \n\nShe then went on to say that I should be because she's still the same person and my reply would simply be that it's not always the personality that counts, you have to be attracted to somebody who looks good to you and if you were fat, you wouldn't look good to me.\n\nBut one point you guys have to understand is that my girlfriend is not fat, she is nowhere near. She's absolutely fine in my eyes.\n\nHow can I deal with this?!", "summary": "My girlfriend asks me every 3-4 months or so (pattern) if I'd be attracted to her if she was overweight, how do I deal with her so that I don't sound horrible?"}
{"id": "t3_11p137", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "girlfriend [19f] has a friend [20M] who is putting a major strain on our relationship of 10months", "post": "My girlfriend has a friend that I've hated since I was a kid. He was a bully and really rude and obnoxious and picked on my a lot. Eventually I matured, and stopped caring what he said about me. He's one of my gf's friends (I knew this when I started dating her), and I've always made it clear that I don't like him. He's tried hooking up with her (before we were dating), he's a ass, and he has cheated with and on a couple girls before. He also tries to get her to do things that she promised me wouldn't do, like hookah.\n\nShe knows I don't like him, and she always tries to hide it when she's hanging out with him, or she lies about it. I know I'm being irrational, but whenever it comes to this guy I stress out all the time. Last night, she didn't come see me because she was hanging out with him, and I had to press her before she told me where she was and who she was with. What should I do?", "summary": "gf has an asshole friend that i hate; she lies to me; makes relationship hard"}
{"id": "t3_rjuqw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "BF still talks about his ex.", "post": "So I've been dating this guy for over a month, hasn't introduced me to his friends, and every time we hang out it leads to sex. He says that is just his way of showing his \"like\" for me. Here is where my mind becomes boggled. Whenever I try to do something sweet or caring for him he compares it to his ex. He tells me they don't talk anymore but I know for sure that is a lie. When someone sends him a text he hides it or the expression on his face changes to automatic \"Please don't let her find out.\" I feel like we are fuck buddies with a stupid boyfriend/girlfriend title. What would you do in this situation?", "summary": "BF talks about his ex a lot. Doesn't give the emotional part of the relationship I crave. No introduction to friends. (Am I just a fuckbuddy on the side?)"}
{"id": "t3_2ojtmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I [25M] do with my ex-GF [22F]?", "post": "So, cutting right to the chase, there's this girl I dated for about 3 months, until she left me 4 months ago (we parted in good terms). She was the first girl I really cared for and could be myself with, and the problem is (of course) I still haven't managed to get over her. She's an extrovert and I am a text book introvert, so we were great when we were alone, but in social situations we made for an awkward couple sometimes, and I'm pretty sure that's why she ended it.\n\nI thought I wouldn't see her anymore when we split up, but I keep running into her. Last night she was in the bar I hang out with my friends (to clarify, she was with us, not just in the same bar); we have a common friend -the guy who introduced us- and there were 15+ people there, so it wasn't weird per se for her to be there, but she definitely knew I'd be there too and it was the first time we were on the same place for so much time (4-5 hours) since the breakup. Sadly, I didn't know how to act around her and I felt very awkward the entirely night, barely talking to her and being very quiet altoghether. \n\nNow I feel like asking her out for coffee so we can talk alone and maybe clear out the awkwardness (which seems necessary, if we are to keep seeing each other), but I don't know how to approach it. I still have feelings for her and would love to get back, but I have no idea how she feels. She never cared much for our common friend when we were toghether, and she doesn't usually hang out in the aforementioned bar, which makes me think she wanted to see me. But I could be super wrong and make a fool of myself. \n\nSoo... Can you give me some advice reddit? Anything helps :)", "summary": "I keep seeing my ex-GF and I want to meet her and clear things up with her, but I don't know how to approach it and I'm afraid that, because I still have feelings for her, I'll screw it up even more. "}
{"id": "t3_3nehxg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18/f) with my mom(60/f), she's been giving away things of mine that I highly value", "post": "I'm really upset right now after confronting my mom. Her and I share a walk in closet that is in MY room. It's about 60/40, 40% being my belongings. I mostly keep seasonal items in there, winter jackets, summery clothes, halloween costumes, and one in particular that I worked very hard on. \n\nSince Halloween is coming up I decided to look for it because I wanted to wear it again and see what adjustments I could make (It was for Nightwing if you're curious), because it was more of a cosplay that I handmade and practically slaved over. After looking everywhere, I decided to ask her about it, in which she nonchalantly said she \"probably\" donated it (she couldn't even remember). I was devastated, I AM devastated. I spent so much time on that costume and she knew that, and it's not like it was old/didn't fit, I made it last year and haven't grown much since then. \n\nWe're in the process of moving so I can understand why she'd want to get rid of certain items but I figured she knew how important and how much I worked on it that I didn't have to even tell her \"this is something I'm keeping\". I'm so frustrated. She's donated/thrown away other things of mine but this is the worst of it. Other things like clothing I like and a onesie that I wore every winter. \n\nNow I'm paranoid that if I can't find something that it's gone forever. I'm mad at myself for apparently being naive in thinking my mom wouldn't just sheepishly disregard my feelings and trash my belongings. I told her before we started packing up that i'd deal with all of my things, and I alone would go through what I wanted to keep and not to keep, so for her to do this just pisses me off. I am livid. I'm also upset about the fact that I'm the only one she's doing this to. Both my sister and my dad live in this house and haven't had ANY of their things thrown or given away, but I have an entire repertoire of gone items. Help.", "summary": "Mom is throwing out/donating personal items of mine as we move"}
{"id": "t3_49zb7e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] got invited to my bosses [30 M] wedding, how do I avoid going?", "post": "Have a boss that I cannot stand as a person, as a boss he isn't great either, and I got an invite to his wedding. His personality isn't one that would attract me to any type of a friend. I am civil with him at work and always pass on his invitations to hang out after work but he doesn't get the hint. I feel like I'm obligated to go because he is my boss but I need a way out. The only thing I can think of is that it's about 30-60 minutes out of town but even that seems like a poor reason to tell him I can't go. \n\nHELP!!!", "summary": "I don't like my boss and got invited to his wedding, how do I avoid going?"}
{"id": "t3_2ybosu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] crushing on a good friend [16 F], need some guidance.", "post": "I'll keep this post short. I've known this girl, Sarah, for a long time - over 5 years now. We're in the same classes and we both do extracurricular activities that keep us busy. We talk often about school, work, and personal stuff. Although we're both kind of shy, I feel like I can trust talking to her about a lot of things I keep everyone else shut out from, and she does the same. I like to think that she has a thing for me, because over the past few months I've developed feelings for her. She's just a really outstanding, mature, all-around beatiful person and we have a lot in common. However, I've never been in a romantic relationship (she's single).\n\nMy worry is that I might be getting the wrong signals from her - we've been great friends for a long time and I don't want to do anything to risk that. I really need help with how I can approach telling her how I feel about her without endangering our friendship. Please point me in the right direction!", "summary": "I have a crush on a girl I've known for over 5 years. How can I tell her about my feelings without ruining our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_zz1cc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] I think I'm friend-zoning my best friend. (20/m) What do I do?", "post": "So we've been good friends for almost 9 months and talk A LOT. Mostly online, but we hang out in person when we get the chance and we chatted on the phone a bit over the summer. However, sometimes stuff he has said has made me wonder if he actually likes me, or he's gotten more comfortable with the fact we're friends and isn't afraid of me misunderstanding. And before you ask, yes, we have actually talked about what happened if unreciprocated crushing/love were to occur, and we basically agreed that we can't really predict what may or may not have in the future. However, neither of us want to lose the other's friendship, so if this situation were to occur, I assume no one would confess.\n\nBut now I think this may actually be happening. If it is, what do I do? Do I pull away and give him space so he can get over me (because I do not foresee myself anytime wanting to be with him)? Do I confront him? I really think I'm just going to ignore it and let him do what he wants. If he doesn't want to confess and just go on as everything's normal, then I will too. I don't want to screw up our friendship, and he's strong enough to handle this, I think. But what do you guys think?", "summary": "My best friend may have a crush on me, but he knows I'm not attracted to him nor wish to date him. If he does like me, should I do something about it?"}
{"id": "t3_y01kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(26) discovered F(26) is going to move across country in a year, we're 2 weeks into a 1 year lease.", "post": "Title says most all of it.\n\nWe've been together for about 15 months, just moved in together for the first time 2 weeks ago. We've discussed marriage & kids in the not-too-distant past, but no definite plans. \n\nShe's had trouble finding a career-type job, and in the past has mentione applying to out-of-state jobs (I was not pleased at the notion). I would have no problem considering a move out-of-state myself, but next week I start a 3 year program at school.\n\nShe doesn't know I know about her plans to move - I just discovered them less than an hour ago, & am probably still in shock. I'm not proud of how I found out, & would prefer *not* to admit it to her. I checked her cell phone & saw a text -- a violation of trust? No doubt, but so is making plans like this.\n\nI know her mother & father did the long-distance thing for a while -- her mom is a very driven woman, who seems to put her career first. In fact, I know her mom wasn't around a lot when she was younger, because she was so busy with work. For me, priorities on this front are clear cut: family first, & at this point, I am (was?) considering her family. A long distance relationship would be very hard on me, especially for a year (or two)... I would probably be an emotional wreck.\n\nI'm looking for any advice. I thought this was going to be my last committed relationship, now I don't know what to think. I love her, but for her to make long term plans like this & keep me in the dark... Plus, we have 11 1/2 months left on our lease. Do I play dumb & wait to see when she decides she'll tell me? Do I let sleeping dogs lie (she's pretty flighty with plans sometime, and 11 months is a long time to change your mind).", "summary": "I discovered my girlfriend is planning to move across country in a year, we're 2 weeks into a 1 year lease."}
{"id": "t3_4jozr2", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to tell if a [22/m] shy guy is interested?", "post": "Okay, so I've known this guy for a while - I see him every week or so at an activity we both do. Typically when we do see each other he's sweet, very attentive, remembers details of past conversations, seems nervous and fidgety, etc. However he wouldn't initiate anything outside of where we usually see each other, so eventually I suggested that we study together (which didn't end up happening), which I think really surprised him but after that conversation I at least had him on fb, so I had a way to contact him. Fast forward a bit, I decide I'm tired of this and really want to get to know him better, so I ask if he wants to hang out before the activity one time. He does, it goes really well, but then I don't hear from him at all. Saw him again this week, we didn't really have much of a chance to talk and it was a bit awkward (partially my fault...). So... should I pursue him? Or is it not worth it?", "summary": "Should I bother to pursue a guy who seems shy?"}
{"id": "t3_15iyqf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF[38] goes to bars 4-5 nights a week. What do I[M37] say, if anything?", "post": "My GF ~1 yr is pretty free spirited and likes going out. We live around an hour apart and due to that only see each other about once a week. She is at a bar for most of her free time. She says she loves socializing/hanging with friends but I honestly can't remember a day where she didn't have a drink. I also think it's a case where she loves the attention and validation of occasionally getting hit on/chatted up by a guy. She is flirtatious but doesn't (as far as I know) cross any lines. It's a little annoying. I don't want to be all judgmental- I love going out/drinking too. I just don't do it every single day. When I bring it up, she gets all miffed. I give her a good deal of latitude because I love her, but honestly on this issue, it really lowers her value in my eyes.", "summary": "GF is always at a bar. Its getting on my nerves. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_53h7qk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23F] move for my boyfriend [24M]?", "post": "I am unemployed and recently am trying to get a job in my city, as well as any surrounding cities in the area to increase my job prospects. (So I am willing to move to another city if I were to get a job offer.)\n\nMy boyfriend and I live about 2 and a half hours away from one another. We have only been dating a few months, but I am considering applying for jobs in his city.\n\nMy question is, is this a good idea? While I wouldn't move in with him, I can't decide on whether or not it's a good idea. Both my family and friends have already suggested that I do this, since I am unemployed anyway and don't have a good reason to really stay in my city. And while I am leaning towards applying for jobs in my boyfriend's city, I can't see if there are any cons for this. I would move to my boyfriend's city if I got a job offer.", "summary": "Should unemployed girlfriend try applying for jobs in boyfriend's city so early in the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1ryjdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23/M] message a random girl on Facebook?", "post": "Hi,\n\nA little about me: I'm a 23 year old male medical student living in (insert midwest town here). I am also part of a very specific religious and cultural minority group. I'm content with this, however it makes dating extremely difficult as there are VERY few girls of similar heritage in (insert midwest town here).\n\nThe other day, while perusing Facebook, I ran across the profile page of a very attractive girl who happens to be from the same background as me. She is 21 years old and lives in (insert another midwest town 5 hours away). We happen to have one mutual friend - an older guy (who might be her cousin) who I don't really know that well.\n\nI really want to get to know her, but it seems my options are limited. I already tried getting \"tight\" with our mutual friend (he seems to know the girl pretty well as they have several photos together), however we don't really have much in common, nor do we have much to talk about (I've only met him once).\n\nWhat are my options? I really want to message her, but would this be creepy? If I did...what would I say?\n\nThanks in advance...", "summary": "How do I message a girl on facebook who I have never met?"}
{"id": "t3_21ruf1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with [20 M] - 8 weeks - he seems to be losing interest and not replying to my texts", "post": "I'd just like your opinions on what to do with this one...I'm 20, gay, and probably close to the end of something vaguely resembling my first relationship...which involved lots of things like first ever date, first kiss etc. \n\nMet him on my course at university, things progressed a bit and he seemed quite keen but the last 3 weeks we havent gone on a date or anything - I've asked numerous times if he wants to come round or go somewhere or anything and he's made excuses every time. I've seen him at university in lectures a few times since but even there it seems like he's consciously tried to avoid me. And when I have seem him he's seemed distant and just spent the time looking at his phone. \n\nRecently when I've been texting him he hasnt responded at times for like 2 days and I've had to ask \"did you get my text?\" and things to get a response. I invited him round again yesterday to see if he wanted to spend the night at mine and we'd go into university together the next day and he hasnt responded at all even though it was originally his idea that never ended up happening. It would help if I even knew what I'd done wrong because nothing in particular comes to mind. We had a nice time at the cinema a few weeks ago and since then its felt like he's gradually trying to distance himself.\n\nI dont think it's even anything to do with me being too clingy or anything - which I thought might possibly happen - when I look back at the texts from last month he always replied quickly and we seemed to be getting on well. Can anyone give me any advice with regards as to what to do? I have to go home next week for the holidays and I'll be so depressed if I cant see him before then or sort things out.", "summary": "been seeing a guy who seems to be gradually distancing himself and losing interest in me while I've fallen quite hard for him, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_28riqy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I heard it's taboo to ask Baristas out. But i [20/f] want to ask a female Barista [19-23?/f] to chill sometime. As friends. Is this something i could do?", "post": "Hello! \n\nSo to make this short and sweet, recently i've been going this busy coffee shop every morning, or at least 5 days a week. The same girl always helps me. She is very friendly and remembers my order. She is about my age, as well. She asks me about life and usually talks with me for a while before i leave. \n\nIt seems like more than just regular small talk, she actually seems interested and sometimes even gets yelled at for talking too long with me. \n\nI know it's frowned upon to ask Baristas out because they basically are always really friendly and most people think they're being personable when they aren't. But this girl seems totally chill and we really get along well. I would love to have another friend to hang out with and she obviously lives in my town. \n\nMy question is, should i bring this up to her? Or will i still be laughed at for thinking a Barista actually had any interest in me? Also, if this is something i could actually do, how should i phrase it. Thanks!", "summary": "Friendly female barista that's about my age seems like she'd be fun to hang out with. Always talks to me about life and remembers my order. Is asking her to hang out weird?"}
{"id": "t3_3ep0wy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Advice On Coping With Feeling Like A Failure", "post": "I'm 15 and broke as shit. Mom is disabled. I need cash. Nobody in my small ass town is hiring due to my age and I have tried my hand at babysitting and landscaping work but reality is, bills need to get paid. There is literally no other jobs available till I'm at least 16. I sold one piece of art for $20 from a teacher and that bought dinner for a night. I don't have paper in sketchbook nor cash for a new one. I did random acts of pizza reddit once but some guy pretended to be me and scammed a lady who was generous enough to give a gift card for me. Eventually I feel uncomfortable with raop cause I feel like I'm selling a sob story. I am trying surveys for cash and have $3 now. I need advice on how to cope with being in such poverty and any advice in general is great. Thanks", "summary": "Poor as shit. Jobs i tried didnt work out cause my age. How to cope with feeling like such a loser"}
{"id": "t3_1j7j9e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "One date with an awesome girl, she's now moved a couple of hundred miles away. How to keep up the romance?", "post": "We're both 28. We met at a wedding last weekend, we went on a date on Thursday and really hit it off, but yesterday she moved up north for a new job. \n\nWe've already agreed that while its only been one date, we like each other quite a lot and would like to see each other again despite the distance. I certainly haven't felt this way about a girl in a very long time. \n\nSo this is going to be a long distance thing. I can't say long distance *relationship* because its only been one date. \n\n**How can I keep the romance alive given the distance and the fact it's only been one date?** I mean if we were in a relationship I'd be calling her regularly, but with only one date that doesn't seem quite appropriate yet. \n\nThe other complication is she didn't quite believe I was sincere in wanting to see her again despite the distance. **I need to keep up the flirty behaviour to make sure she knows I'm still into her**. Problem is I suck at flirting - I'm great at being a boyfriend, just bad at getting to that point!\n\nSo here are some of my ideas. I'd love any feedback on these and any other thoughts!\n\n* Lots of compliments over text. Like 'so what are you up to today gorgeous?' I don't know if that's too much too soon given just one date. I fall into the trap of being just friendly with girls by being more of a friend then a romantic interest. I can see it happening already :(\n\n* Send some flowers on Friday to her new workplace, with a note saying something like *'hope your first week has gone well! Thinking of you'* Again, too much too soon?\n\n* Go up and surprise her. I'm 100% sure this is a few dates in thing though. If some at the right time this would be romantic, done too early and it'd be creepy as fuck. \n\n* Be sure to plan dates. It's difficult because she might work weekends", "summary": "how to keep the spark alive over long distance after only one date? Thanks all!"}
{"id": "t3_1prkra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my close friend of 4 years [19 F] I'm gay, but I can't stock thinking about her", "post": "So here's the deal, I'm a 20 year old closeted gay guy. I'm 100% sure I'm gay, and have been with a bunch of guys. I met this girl in high school around 4 years ago, and we've been extremely close friends ever since. Nothing remotely sexual ever happened between us because I honestly was very uninterested. \n\nI was very happy with the way our friendship was going, we talked a lot, texted a lot, hung out almost at least once a week since we met, but nothing sexual at all. Keep in mind she has no idea I'm gay, no one does. Lately, I've been having weird thoughts about her. I've never felt like this towards any other girl in my life ever before, It's not the crazy blinding sexual attraction I feel for guys, but I'm definitely attracted to her, and I'm very much in love. I can easily see myself giving up the idea of being gay (and all of its fun and pleasure) to be with her and to make her happy.\n\n I get very jealous when I sense a guy flirting with her, and I think she's starting to sense it. A lot of our mutual friends know that there's some tension between us, and I've been asked a lot by many people if there's anything going on between us.\n\nI'm relatively attractive, have no problems attracting guys at all, and so is she. It's crazy how much we think alike, and how close we've become without having anything sexual. I'm really confused as to why I'm having all these feelings, and I don't really know what to do. She's the most wonderful person I've ever known, and I have so many conflicting thoughts going on in my head, nothing is clear and I'm completely lost. \n\nWhy do I feel the way I do towards her? Why can't I just learn how to be straight and live my life being happy with her?", "summary": "I'm gay guy who would go straight for my friend whom I'm in love with (I know, I know)"}
{"id": "t3_kg46v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do I let this go?  Or do I call my boss out on her unprofessional behavior?", "post": "So, I'll try to keep this short.   Basically I'm a sales rep that handles media items for several local retailers.  We usually do each store in pairs, and the woman that is at one of my stores with me is simply incompetent.  Not stupid or unwilling, just bad at the job.  So, we have a big assignment today (the store wanted a scanned inventory of our product) and it was going to take all day.  However, when this woman was at this store yesterday (my day off) she did nothing.  We had to spend the first half of the day playing catch-up before we could even get to taking inventory (seriously, one could not start without the other).  So, she leaves at her scheduled time, and I call my boss to ask if I can stay and complete the inventory.  She says of course, as it has to get submitted today.  \n\nCut to 4 hours later (I was in that store for over 12 hours total), and I'm finally finished.  I send a text to let my boss know I'm done, and shit hits the fan.  \n\nShe is literally *screaming* at me over the phone, accusing me of being inexperienced and unprofessional (for the job taking four hours more than it should).  I let her vent and then explain the fact that had yesterday's job been done correctly, I could have finished much sooner.  I also explained that the inventory is, classically a two-person job yet my co-worker refused to help (she had other priorities, apparently).  \n\nEventually I manage to talk my way out of the shit, but I'm still really put off by her unprofessional and accusatory tone, let alone her readiness to jump to conclusions.  \n\nSo, do I let this go?  Do I talk to her about it further?  I really don't know if I can trust her anymore, if only because she seems unwilling to apologize.", "summary": "Boss loses her shit on me for no reason.  Do I call her out on her bad attitude, or let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_rpnux", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Okay reddit, help me deal with my insanely annoying neighbors in a manner that is both legal and effective.", "post": "So, I have some neighbors.  They are not bad people per se, but they have a few habits I'd like to break as they annoy the living shit out of me and everyone else in the vicinity.\n\n-They have an ever-changing array of SUVs parked in the driveway, the grass, and at odd angles in the street.  There are something like 10 adults in the house and there's a car for each of them most of the time.\nParking on the grass is obviously against county code, but a complaint gets a code guy out in oh, say....two months and usually in the middle of the day when they're all at work so whoever is home just pleads innocence and that's the end of that.  \n\n-Apparently, they have some kind of law that each SUV shall be equipped with a sound system capable of producing bass reaching into the infrasonic spectrum.  If they are in one of the vehicles, the music is on and the bass is rattling my windows.  Washing the car?  Turn up the bass.  Sitting on the front porch?  Bass!  Car in the driveway and nobody's even outside?  BASS!  I and others have spoken to them about this on more than one occasion, but they seem to forget these conversations after a month or so and go back to cranking the oompa music.\n\n-They also drive like idiots even though we're in a residential area with no sidewalks and the streets are often full of adults and kids.  They've been talked to about this, but again with the short/selective memory.", "summary": "My neighbors have a shitload of cars, park them all over the place, blast bass-heavy music at all hours, and drive like retards.  They do not respond to polite requests to quit being retards."}
{"id": "t3_fb32i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend came out to me - how do I make him feel more comfortable?", "post": "/\\I don't want to FORCE him to be comfortable, I want to HELP him, not make./\\\n\nMe (18) and my long-distance boyfriend (21) have been together for a couple of years. I've known I was bisexual since I was a kid, whereas he kinda discouraged it until he realised sometime last year that he was too bisexual. At first I wasn't sure if I was okay with it which I guess is a weird reaction, but hey, I still love him, he loves me, so what.\n\nHe feels very insecure about it though, and since he admitted it, has flat out refused to talk about it. I'm confused to whether hes gone back on his discision or just is still mega uncomfortable with accepting it. I'm trying to be open and approachable with it, which I know I am, but I can't help but feel a little frustrated. I know I can't force him to talk about it seeing as it is a personal issue, but what can I do or say to make him feel better? Hes a Redditor.", "summary": "Boyfriend is bi, won't talk about it, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_h2xk0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My choir raised money a while back to help Japan, and now I need to find an org. to send it to.  Ideas?", "post": "A month or so ago, my college a cappella choir raised money to help Japan.  Being the terrible Treasurer that I am (I only got the job because I happened to be holding all the money we had in my dorm when we had \"elections\"), it took me forever to get the funds organized enough to be able to donate the money.  And now school is out for the season, so the choir isn't currently meeting, meaning I have to figure out where this money we raised is going to go.\n\nSo, reddit, I have come to you.  I asked everyone in the choir where they wanted the money to go, but no one responded, and, since I'm not sure I know what I'm doing, I need help finding the right organization.  I don't really know where to start, and, even when I think I've found a good organization, I'm worried I'm going to choose one that is fake, doesn't distribute its funds \"properly,\" discriminates, etc.\n\nSo, does anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "I suck with money-related things and need help finding an organization to donate money to the Japan relief for my choir."}
{"id": "t3_2xr0sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M23) and my friend (F22) have a weird relationship and it's bugging me.", "post": "To elaborate a little bit, we've known each other for a couple years but those years she had a boyfriend. She recently broke up with him and asked if I wanted to come over and hang out. We hung out a few times and one of those times we had sex. So in my head everything is going great! But she wouldn't let me kiss her. \n\nCome to find out she's still hung up on the last boyfriend and she wants to figure herself out, which I understand. I've come to care a lot for this girl and  I don't know if I should wait or not. \n\nI know this is kinda weird, but I need someone out side my circle of friends input on this.", "summary": "is it a good idea to wait for a girl or not."}
{"id": "t3_41fdet", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Need relationship advice Post Abortion", "post": "Hi everyone! I'm a 24(f) and my SO is 31(m). We've only been together for seven months and last week I discovered I'm pregnant (plan b failure). I'm so upset as this is will be my third abortion and while I believe every woman has the right to choose and I'm grateful to have that right, it still feels like a terrible loss for me.\n\nI'm afraid that our otherwise decent relationship, which is still new, will survive the emotional aftermath of this process. How do I cope and help my SO cope without getting angry and hurting each other's feelings? We both want to go through with the pregnancy but are in such a difficult financial situation that I cannot feasibly see how it could work. I have a four year old son from a previous relationship and I want another so badly. How can we get through this? If anyone has and is still happy with their partner any help would be appreciated. Thank you so much for your time.", "summary": "having my 3rd abortion for financial reasons, afraid my relationship will fall apart."}
{"id": "t3_2rdqyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 F] have been living with my SO [29 M] for 3 years and now we're buying a house. I want to get married for financial and practical purposes, but he's ambivalent when it comes to marriage.", "post": "As the title states, we've been living together for 3 years, and we've been together all-in-all for about 4 years now. We get along splendidly in everyday life, and we both see eachother as life long partners. We are in the process of buying a house together, and we're planning on having children some day as well. \n\nWe've lightly discussed getting married. I've told him I think it's a clever move, seeing as you're given certain rights as a married couple that you don't receive when you're only living together, without children. \n\nFirst of all, you basically sign over your inheritance to your partner, and the house you've invested your money in, if one of you should pass away. \n\nSecondly, your rights in the property are better protected when you're married, should something occur in the relationship. \n\nOf course, you can always agree on some sort of contract with the house, and write a will, but paying a visit to city hall will actually be much cheaper, and a marriage is a commitment I am willing to make at this point in our relationship. \n\nI have tried making my views clear with him, but what I've gotten from him is that he'd be willing to marry me if *that's what I want*. Which in turn made me feel like some sort of chump forcing him into marriage. I guess I just want him to **want** to marry me, but he's indifferent as to if we should get married or not. I'm sure he loves me, and I'm sure he wants to spend his life with me. \n\nI'm not even talking about a big expensive gathering with all our friends and family, just a little ceremony, to put our affairs in order, before we buy a house together.", "summary": "We've lived together for about 3 years, and now we're buying a house. I want to get married to put our affairs in order, but he's ambivalent. Should I come to terms with not getting married, or could I possibly try to push for marriage?"}
{"id": "t3_38yjmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [25M] of 1 and a half year, he's emotionally cheating", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. \nI will not say much since someone can find out but my boyfriend is asian. He is currently back to live in his home country. We are in a long distance relationship. We have met about three times already. He is into things like SM and such so we play mistress & slave alot and i try to be hard, but it's kinda difficult through the internet, i guess i'm not so good at it. We have chastity devices and such. He likes to be trampled and humiliated. (Apparently more than he said he did)\n\nI know i did wrong for intruding but he said goodnight and later i saw him online on skype, thats when i felt something was wrong so i went into his account and translated from his language to english what he said to some girl.. turns out he created another account for skype, email and twitter so i wouldn't find out. I am not sure if they had cyber sex but it's a possibility for sure. I found his twitter.. he mentions how our relationship is too vanilla and he wants hardcore things. He wants to be insulted and he says he will reward them. I was in shock. Yeah, i did wrong for hacking his account...but god. I can't believe it. I always try my hardest and i actually want to explore more about SM but he cheated. I don't even know what to do at this point. It's clear i should end it.. but i need help. I'm devastated and even more so 'cause he's too far for me to kick his ass.", "summary": "bf created twitter, gmail and skype accounts for his sm play affairs, im crushed."}
{"id": "t3_srgdj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's that one awkward situation that happened that ended up being pretty cute?", "post": "Around Christmas, my boyfriend and I exchanged gifts at on school on the last day before the  break. I unwrapped his present with him, and he had bought me a pair of matching necklaces. Both of us being the socially awkward individuals we are, I thanked him, but did not want to question why he had bought two (I was debating whether asking him whether he intended to keep one for himself was rude). After, he awkwardly fumbled while putting on the necklace (not being able to undo the clasp and whatnot),and I could feel him missing the chain for my hair. Anyhow, we split up for a bit to check up own our groups of friends. Eventually I get a text that went along the lines of: \"Oh... and by the way... i kind of bought 2 so that I could wear one too.\" Me, feeling pretty stupid (and pretty selfish for taking both xD) at this point, wanders through the halls looking for him to give him back the other necklace. Guess who fumbles putting his necklace on.", "summary": "two awkward people with bad hand-eye attempt to be romantic."}
{"id": "t3_3xdjk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M ] 3.5 years, when is it time to let go? with line breaks. **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "Okay, so I've never really posted anything before, so sorry if this is weird or I'm not doing it right or something. \n\nI started dating my current BF when I was 15 and a sophomore in high school, he was 16 and a junior. Now we are both in college. We are insanely close. Like spend literally ALL our time together. He is incredibly important to me and we do everything together. I love him a lot and I have incredible respect for him as a person. \n\nThe problem is we both don't have friends outside of the relationship. \n\nI mean we both have friends. We have a lot of friends really, but we just don't feel like we connect with anyone other than each other anymore. It's hard to explain. \n\nWe both ditched all of our friends from high school. Some of it was because of our relationship, but a lot of it was high school is shitty. \n\nI've made tons of new friends this year at university but I just don't feel like i connect with any of them. Everything feels really forced and I'm constantly paranoid that they don't really like me even though they all tell me they love hanging out with me all of the time. \n\nI know that my boyfriend and I probably need to break up, for a lot of reasons I won't bother posting here, but I feel like I can't do it because then I will have no friends. (Like friends I actually connect with and enjoying being around.)\n\nI guess what I'm really wondering and trying to get at here is if anyone else has expressed something like this? I love my SO, but we have been together since I was 15 and I know its time to move on, I'm just scared because I don't feel like I'll ever connect with anyone again.", "summary": "College girl knows it's time to move on from high school sweetheart, but doesn't feel like she connects with anyone anymore and is scared to breakup."}
{"id": "t3_1w4n24", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/30] having a hard time dealing jealously issues (F/35) especially when she fabricates her own jealously.", "post": "[M/30] having a hard time dealing jealously issues (F/35) we have been dating for almost 1 year.\n\nIn the past I have had several long, horrible arguments about me checking out other females. When we started out as friends during several small talks we had she would always ask me what kind of girls I like, who I dated, how long, what they looked like etc. \n\nMe being honest I told her what ever she asked, not knowing she was really making an inventory that has been held against me since started dating. \n\nIn my case, anyone Asian, short, dark haired with dark eyes (she is Caucasian, blue eyes, and beautiful) is a direct threat to her.  In the past I have lost hours and even days fighting because of her jealously. \n\nAnyway last night, apparently some, dark haired Asian, came into the coffee shop, stood at the cash register, sat down near us (community long booth and tables) and payed her bill and left. Apparently I could not keep my eyes off of her, following her every movement. In reality, god honest truth I didnt even see the girl. In my mind she fabricated my eye movement and concluded my every breath to be stuck on this girl. \n\nShe said I was staring, and I simply asked her what she was talking about, she proceeded to call me a fucking liar to my face.. her jealously tends to be blind, with a lot of rage, with zero chance of having a rational conversation. \n\nI packed up my stuff, and left the restaurant, knowing this argument would last several days, or even weeks. I then proceeded to walk to my car. The night ended ugly and I dont know how to deal with these situations.", "summary": "Girlfriend is convinced I openly stare at other women (in her mind, she sees this), when in fact I dont, and I have no way to convince her otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_1oj8e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [19m] asking for disaster by perusing this girl [18f] or should I wait it out?", "post": "I'm a sophomore in college and I met this amazing girl about 6 weeks ago. She's a freshman, she seems to like me, acts flirty, and we've hung out a few times as friends and danced (grinded) together on several occasions. My main concern is her ex. I should start by saying that I know so much about the situation because my sister is sorority sisters with this girl and they've talked. The ex is 1,000 miles away for school but they'll both be back in their hometown during breaks. He was her first boyfriend, they dated about a year, were saying \"I love you,\" he took her virginity\u2026the whole 9 yards. \n\nThey broke up the day before she moved out and the only reason they split was because of the distance. According to my sister, she (my sister) asked to see a picture of him and she had a few right on her phone to show her. She's also texted him since the breakup but I'm not sure how many times/who started it/what was said/etc. I really like this girl and we click, but I'm worried about this ex of hers.", "summary": "I like this girl and we get along great but she just broke up with her first love 6 weeks ago and I'm not sure if she's over him. Should I pursue her or leave it alone?"}
{"id": "t3_2wvyxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Any advice on how to approach getting back together after a breakup?", "post": "Almost 6 months ago, I (m/28) broke up with my gf (f/28) of a year, mainly because my generalized anxiety got the better of me. I immediately went into \"I've made a huge mistake\" mode after, and every day I've regretted making the split. She was hurt, and angry, and the one time I suggested we try again, she flipped, so I kept my distance, out of respect.\n\nLast week, out of the blue, she suggested we get coffee, as friends. I missed talking, so I agreed. It was nice; we caught up, and things didn't get weird. I was happy to get to see her, but it left me sad to understand what I'd left behind. But later she called, telling me it was \"stupid\" that we broke up, and that there's a huge part of her that wants to suggest we go on a date. But because I dumped her and because she feels she gave more (it's true; I totally held back, which was part of why I split so brashly), it would be up to me to make a move.\n\nSo the ball's in my court. This is what I've been thinking about every day for six months, and I may have a chance at it. Thing is, I know I've ruined her trust in me, and I'll have to earn it back. Furthermore, her friends are (rightfully) pissed with me. I used to judge the heck out of friends or peers who break up and get back together, so I'm fighting my own biases.\n\nI'm still weighing whether to ask her out at all, but I could use some insight as to how to approach the whole process of \"re-coupling\" if I do?", "summary": "What's the best way to go about taking a second crack at a relationship, when given that opportunity?"}
{"id": "t3_36ezmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[21M] be less attached, and become more independent?", "post": "Girl I've been talking to for the last 3 months said that one of my weaknesses was that I become attached and rush things.\n\nHow/what do I do? I know that this is ONE of the MANY reasons, on why she wants to take things slow. \n\nI guess until I can show her/she sees that I am independent and not super attached to her, and that I still like her just the same if not more. We won't move things forward with our relationship.\n\nShe still likes me a lot, obviously because we hangout all the time, and I just went to her hometown this past weekend, and met her fam, and literally all of her friends.\n\nI even admitting to liking her a lot and rushing things about a month ago by asking to be exclusive. Which she didn't want just yet. Because of her going off on vacation with her family all summer. (ONE of MANY reasons)", "summary": "how do I stop being attached and proving to the girl I like that I am not attached? I want to work more on myself."}
{"id": "t3_3a65z9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "MFP Daily caloric intake question", "post": "Firs time posting here. I've lurked a lot and about a month ago I started using MFP and working out following some guides from /r/fitness, but I digress.  \n  \nThis morning my SO told me to give her a intro to MFP for her to start using it also, I gladly helped her set it up and explained her how to use it, but I noticed that MFP gave her a daily caloric intake of little over 1300 and that shocked me a little. I just want to know if that's alright, or should I tell her to go for ~1500 so she doesn't have health issues?  \n  \nHer stats:  \n26yo  \n5'5''  \n160lb", "summary": "1300 daily calories save for the stats above?"}
{"id": "t3_10o1a3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[18M] and my friend[18M] are interested in the same girl[18], and I don't know how to move forward. Can any of you offer any advice?", "post": "To recap, my friend, the girl, and I hung out in the first few days of college. I've liked the girl since 7th grade, and he met her during their orientation. I met him several weeks ago when I first moved in. I panicked when my friend asked me if I was interested in her and told him no and that he should go for her. I know that I made a major mistake here. The girl and I are very good friends.\n\nI confronted my friend a few weeks later after I learned he was flirting with her. More strikes against me, I know, but he was surprisingly supportive of my situation. He offered me one chance to ask her out, and after that he would pursue her.\n\nSince the confrontation, which was very awkward but calm, I have gone with her to a rally for Herman Cain, and have hung out in her dorm. It was really unclear whether or not the Herman Cain rally was a date. However, another one of my friends was at the rally and said that she seemed interested and was flirting with me.\n\nMy question to you is, is there a correct way to move forward out of the friend zone with the girl? I want to make the most out of my one shot.", "summary": "Told my friend I didn't like a girl, I lied. He gives me a shot to ask her out, and I don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_2b2cfn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Met an amazing girl [20/f] on study abroad who is too good for me, but I don't know how to keep her", "post": "So this summer I spent 5 weeks in a traveling classroom with 23 amazing people. I met this one girl on the trip and we spent all 5 weeks always hanging out. We kissed in our second week in Berlin, but never really went from their. It was mostly looking into each other eyes and making jokes with each other. \n I didn't tell her how much I liked her until the last day in which we spent the closest together after she told me she liked me just as much, which I was shocked by. We ended up drinking and getting drunk and fighting and she was telling me I wouldn't want to date her because she can never love, which I have heard before. \n\nI am usually anti-social wanting alone time, but every time I went to go for a walk alone, I asked her to come with and she did. We spent 2 1/2 hours walking back from the Eiffel tower, to getting lost in a small town in Italy. Every minute was amazing. Now we are back, we go to the same school but she lives 8 hours away, I don't know what I can do to make sure stays with me. She is amazing, and I just love talking to her but I don't know if she enjoys me just as much. We spent almost everyday next to each other. From sitting on a train for 5 hours, to getting stuck in a train station and falling asleep on each other for 4 hours. \n\nThe other problem I run into is her ex. While we were in Europe, she was talking to him and stuff and I think she still likes him.", "summary": "Met an awesome girl who is too good for me, I like her a lot, but now we are back, we are falling apart and I don't know how to keep her while we wait for the fall semester."}
{"id": "t3_2rcx8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/m] hopeless smalltalk crush [17/f]", "post": "I'm [21/m] and I like a [f/17], but I'm hopeless with smalltalk and how to get to know her better. I can't smalltalk.  \n\nI was driving here the other day, and I got 2-3 minutes of alone time with the girl, and she asked how my birthday was and how my day had been, and then silence to the other people come to the car, I had no idea what to ask or say.  \n\nAnyone have any advice on this? And how and when will it be alright to ask her out?  It's worth mention I'm not very comfortable around girls, I've never kissed, never done anything including girl/guy past a hug, and this is \"killing me\". I can't read signs or talk :(", "summary": "How to keep talking to crush and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_1zp0ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A [18 F] really likes me [18 M] but I'm interested in her friend [18 F]", "post": "There's this girl [A] who I was friends with way back and we ended up going to the same college. Long story short, she ended up liking me and we hung out once. She brought her friend [B] who is also her roommate. Through various friends, I found out that A really likes me.\n\nI don't like A but I was really interested in her friend, Girl B. B is really shy around me but pretty fun when she's with her friends. I don't really know B very well but have been trying to use my friendship with A to get closer with B.\n\nI don't know what to do about A. She is my friend so I don't want to hurt her but I don't want to lead her on either. I also want to get to know B better but since A and B are very good friends, would I even have a chance?", "summary": "A girl likes me but I like her friend. How do I let A down easy and do I even have a chance with her friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2yt1pc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Losing too fast?", "post": "Hi there, I recently starting counting calories with MFP and it has been great. It is forcing me to cook more (which I enjoy doing) and I actually like what I eat more than when I was eating whatever I wanted. I am a Male 6'2\" and I started at 255. It has been two weeks and the scale showed 242 this morning. I am worried that I am losing weight too fast. MFP suggested a calorie goal of 1740, and I have never gone over and am typically 2-300 lower than that goal. I also do 20 minutes of stationary bike on even days and weights/body weight exercises on uneven days.", "summary": "I am on the \"don't be fat for my wedding diet\" and I am worried I am losing too much too fast! (Slightly over a pound a day since I started)"}
{"id": "t3_1vo1wl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My partner [26F] of 1 year refuses to come to my[30M] house, says she doesn't like it.", "post": "My partner has a 5 year old daughter, and has essentially told me that if I want a relationship, I have to come to her house, period. She won't even visit it when she doesn't have her child with her, for a bunch of small reasons like my housemates are always in the loungeroom (she has housemates too), she's allergic to my housemate's cats, the kitchen always has dirty dishes etc. \n\nEssentially I just want to know if this is fair or not, because it doesn't seem fair to me but she obviously doesn't agree. I'm spending at least 4 days a week at her house but we don't get along well enough to move in together.", "summary": "Girlfriend with child refuses to visit my house because she \"doesn't like it\", is this fair?"}
{"id": "t3_2vjz2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30M] Just started having sex with my GF [22F] of 2 months (who was a virgin). She is having a lot of anxiety about sex.", "post": "I have been dating my gf for about 2 months. We just started having sex last week and it seems to be giving her a lot of anxiety. \n\nSome background: I am 30 and she is 22. this was the first time she has ever had sex. I have had many sexual partners. Some things she has mentioned is that she was surprised she doesn't have an orgasm every time. Also, that sometimes it hurts her. I tried explaining that both of these things are very normal, but this is the first time I have had sex with a virgin. Every time after we finish she seems like she is stressed out/full of anxiety/nervous and not herself. \n\nI am trying my best to be understanding, go slow, make her feel comfortable, but i feel lost as to what to do. I know losing your virginity can be an emotional thing, especially for a girl, but I don't know how to make this better for her. I have tried talking with her about it, but she doesn't seem to be able to articulate what is going on. \n\nSo reddit please help. Do you have any insight as to what she is going through? Any advice as to what I can do to make her more comfortable?", "summary": "Just started having sex with my GF of two months last week. She is having a lot of anxiety about it. Any insight as to what she is going through or what I can do to help make her more comfortable?"}
{"id": "t3_4i98my", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [29M] girlfriend [25F] got drunk and ruined our date night", "post": "This evening, my girlfriend and I planned to go out on the town and enjoy ourselves. We've both been working hard and needed it. We'd had the plans for about a week, but a couple of days ago, a female coworker invited her to her house for dinner. I encouraged her to go because I'd like to see her make some friends; and I stayed home because I wanted them to have their \"girls night\".\n\nAround dinnertime I texted her to have a good time, she responded with I love you, all that good stuff. Less than 2 hours later she texts me that she's so sorry, she wasn't going to drink and but now she's \"really drunk\" and will get her friend to drive her home. Did I mention that she is a hot mess when she gets drunk? Stumbling, slurring, falling down, embarrassing. And she can't control how drunk she gets.\n\nShe texts me every so often, but as our date is getting pushed farther and farther back, I start to get annoyed. She drunkenly texts me what's wrong, I say let's talk about it later, so on and so forth. Until 1:30 in the morning. I call her and she drunkenly says \"I'm gonna stay at her house and she'll take me back tomorrow I'm sorry I'm so sorry\". That's basically it.\n\nI'm so annoyed that I can't even fall asleep. We were really looking forward to this date. And I have to call her to find out what the deal is. Her cell phone died during the call so if I hadn't, I would have just gone to bed worried about her.\n\nAm I in the wrong to be upset here? How do I deal with her drinking without me in the future? Because it's always like this. It's really stressful to me.", "summary": "girlfriend goes to dinner with girlfriends, gets wasted, can't come on our date. Doesn't even let me know she won't be coming home"}
{"id": "t3_3duz3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (18f) not really sure whether or not to interfere with my sister's relationship (20f)", "post": "Well, last night we were hanging out with these guys we met (they were like 18-24) and we had a good time, except my sister was really wanting to talk to the guy that was 18. (well they did talk I guess, and we're hanging out with them later)\n\nI felt pretty bad because he just got out of a relationship (it was over a year according to his friend), and when he told us about it, he seemed like he was wanting to cry but he held back. So I just felt bad for him. And back home, she has a thing with a guy already? \n\nNormally I would just let her do her thing, but then I realized she doesn't even know what she wants with the relationships she has (she admits to liking her ex (she saw him a few weeks ago), while having a thing with someone right now (from what she tells me it seems like he wants things to get serious: ex. inviting her to meet his family for his birthday last week), and then wanting to start things with this guy? Like I just don't think it's right.\n\nJust so everyone's clear, I'm not jealous, I think its stupid, but I don't want to get flack for being an ass...\n\nShould I talk to her, or let things happen and not say anything.", "summary": "My sister has a thing with someone already and wants to start something again with someone else, should I call her out or nah?"}
{"id": "t3_odn1g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I'm pretty sure the people in the apartment above me are producing low-budget porn...", "post": "Now to start, I live in a fairly low-rent college apartment... And I'm almost positive the people above me are filming porn. Obviously I haven't gone up to the windows and peeked in, but the blinds seem to be drawn but open 24/7, I assume to draw in natural light, and there's nothing in the living room aside from a standing lamp...\n\nFurthermore there's a shockingly consistent pounding (though varied by type and frequency, of course, with the occasional bed-hitting-the-wall sounds) above in the bedroom through terribly odd hours (it normally subsides around 10am until the afternoon or evening, though that could just be because I spend the majority of that time in class.\n\nIs this something that would be forbidden in a rental agreement? I smoke a lot of pot so I can still sleep well enough, so would it be worth it to mention it to our very much absentee apartment manager?", "summary": "I think they're be sexins above me, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_q6j4q", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My Drunk Brother", "post": "Earlier tonight, my older brother was drunk. He was visiting my university for a conference he was on and I was hanging out with him. Because he's unfamiliar with the area, I was walking him somewhere to get some food. On the way there, he's starting random fights. No one is saying anything to him and minding their own business. As I'm trying to calm him down he starts shoving me and smacking me in the face. He starts yelling at everyone in the vicinity and threatens everyone. He then continues to shove me so I punch him and defend myself. At the advice of the bystanders, I just walked away. I was sure that he was going to continue to try to fight me. He later calls me and tells me on the way back to the hotel he was staying at he was jumped three times and goes on to blame me for it and argues that I wasn't there to help protect him. I can honestly say that I don't regret any of the actions I took but that doesn't mean I was right in the way I handled things. Were there any other options I could have taken?", "summary": "my drunk brother started a physical fight with me in public so i leave him and he gets jumped 3 times and blames me for it"}
{"id": "t3_1c99mv", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Caramel sauce help!", "post": "Hey, /r/cooking! I made caramel sauce earlier, and for some reason I had a brainfart and *stirred* it with a wooden spoon, while knowing perfectly well that it wasn't a wise idea. It rapidly became amber with solid clumps of sugar. Not wanting to scrub a pot and redoing stuff, I added more water, covered it, and  set it on a low heat. Took forever, but hey, they melted! Those little buggers disappeared and I was left with my amber sugar-water mixture.\n\nHere's the part where I get stupid again. I waited for the sugar mixture to bubble up again, and with the mix a dark amber already, I had no indicator about the temperature. I got impatient and dumped a cube of butter in it, knowing at the back of my mind that there was still water in it and was not hot enough. No hissing. It should have been a warning sign, especially since my first experience with caramel sauce had me crying over sugar blisters on my hands. I stupidly dumped the rest of the butter, mixed it in, then added the cream.\n\nFast forward to an hour later and it looks like it's separating. There's a tiny bit of a dark liquid at the bottom and lighter liquid in the rest of the jar. I'm assuming the butter did not emulsify properly and that I am screwed. It tastes good, though.\n\nSo my question is, can I do anything to fix it? I've been toying with the idea of making a half or quarter batch of caramel, doing it properly(hissing and all), and adding the already made caramel sauce. Will it help? Or should I just reheat the whole thing on stovetop and pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster that it gets better?", "summary": "I'm an idiot and I need help with emulsifying my caramel sauce."}
{"id": "t3_24sjqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why is this guy giving me mixed signals? Me [20 F] with guy i was/am seeing? [24 M]", "post": "Okay so long story short, I lost my virginity to this guy and he doesn't contact me for like a month, then randomly texts me on a weekday he was \"thinking about me\" and asks me how I've been. I understand that he just wants sex at this point. Honestly I don't even mind just having a sexual relationship with him. \n\nSo I text him a week later (yesterday) how his weekend went...and i hear nothing. I have known him for about 8 months, he is very good at texting me back (in other words he's always texted me back within a couple hours). It's not like I texted him during a time he'd be asleep... so should I take the silence as a \"I never want to talk to you again\" sorta silence? I have great intuition, and right now I am feeling like he is done with me which makes no sense because I haven't talked to him in a week. How can someone just go from interested to uninterested in a matter of a week though? Men, I need to understand why would you do something like this. Act interested, get sex, act uninterested, then act interested weeks later, then just straight up ignore a woman?\n\nWhere do I find a man that won't do this to me? Do they even exist?  This behavior makes me feel extremely undesirable.", "summary": "I am getting mixed signals from the man i lost my virginity to."}
{"id": "t3_2xkvh8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [25M] 8 years, he doesn't know who he is \"without me\"", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, we've had a perfect relationship. We have grown up with each other since the age of 16 and we are both very happy together. \nHe recently told me that he doesn't know who he is without me and wants to explore that independent side of himself, although reluctantly, so there's a chance we might split up in July when he moves to Berlin. \n\nI understand where he is coming from, but for me, I know who I am, I like who I am, and I don't think I'm going to be a better person without him. Do any of you have experience with these feelings? How did you deal with them? I don't want us to go our separate ways.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 8 years doesn't know who he is without me, wants to explore who he might be independent of us. Has anyone else had these feelings before? How did you deal with them?"}
{"id": "t3_1ufow2", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Is it worth moving away from home for college?", "post": "I am a freshmen currently transferring from community college to a 4 year university.  I did very well on my GPA and love what I am planning to study. I am fortunate by having my tuition paid for with scholarships. My only expenses would be room and board, and books. I live at home with my mom and sisters. I would miss them extremely but I feel leaving would help me grow as an individual. \n\nNow there is a local university close to me, I am majoring in physics and the local uni I feel doesn't provide as many options as the big name schools here. UT and Texas AM. That is another big reason for me to move on. I still feel conflicted as I love being home, but community college social life sucks. Most of my friends are 5-8 years older than me and have other priorities than hanging out with a 20 year old. I feel an environment with kids around my age paired with the distance from home would be a good experience. How nervous were you when going to college away from home?", "summary": "Does it matter where you get your bachelors degree? And is the college experience hyped up to what it seems?"}
{"id": "t3_35e5t1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my \"friend\" close the door...of the balcony (NSFW)", "post": "Last week TIFU. Tuesday Night 2am.\n\nSo I was with my new friend with benefits in my apartment and we were wondering what to do. I asked her if she wanted to smoke a joint and maybe have some sexy time while high... She was up for it but she told me she doesn't smoke often and she get a huge feeling and I told her I'm the same.\n\nWe get to the balcony (I live on the 3rd floor) and smoke it and relax while talking... After 15 min or so, I ask her if she want to go inside and have a little bit of fun... She agrees to it and I go back toward the window-door. The thing is hard to pull... so I decide to go ham and try as hard as I can... but it doesn't move... You see, she closed the 3rd \"Window-door\" and this one need to have the little handle inside pushed for it to unlock... So we are trapped !\n\nShe tells me if I have any way to contact somebody... I pull out my phone and say \"yes im going to contact my landlord... hes going to be pissed but he lives in the same building so it should be alright\". At the same time, I realize I reset my phone to default the same day and still didn't put the contacts back into it... I also recently moved to the city so I don't have any friends to contact.\n\nSo we are locked out on my balcony, on the 3rd floor, high as fuck, at 2am in the morning without any way to contact anybody and we are starting to freeze (it was like 5 outside and we didn't bring warm clothes)...", "summary": "Was lock-out on my apartment's balcony high as fuck at 2am in the morning with a hot girl I couldn't fuck."}
{"id": "t3_541p27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Emotional cheating or paranoia? (22F/30M)", "post": "Hi!  Thanks for reading.\n\nSo I (22f) have been dating 30M for about 1.5 years.  I've known about his crush on a coworker (26?F) for a long time, but he assured me that he had picked me and is completely happy in the relationship.\n\nHowever, ever since then, I haven't been able to trust him.  I've snooped in his journal, and found descriptions of crushes on other girls (including one he's known for a long while but is pretty much out of his league, but he talks about how he loves her), and how he craves sex with them.  He's saved notes this coworker has given him, and this behavior has continued for as long as I've known him.\n\nHe tells me he loves me, and when I am with him I have no sense of him wishing to break up with me, or any unhappiness in the relationship.  \n\nAm I being a paranoid bitch and this is normal behavior, or do I have reason for concern?\n\nThanks very much!", "summary": "Partner seems to want other girls.  Am I crazy or justified?"}
{"id": "t3_1w5ir3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] miss [23 F] ex, but only after 8+ months of being broken up and seeing a new girl...why?", "post": "I broke up with my ex of 2.5 years last may (about 8-9 months ago) and although it was difficult I felt I was making the right choice - I needed to date around/experience other women, things we were way too stale (she can be really quiet and sedentary). We completely stopped talking ~3 months ago. \n\nI felt a lot better about myself after this, was really happy and even recently started dating a girl I am really into. However, now that I started dating this new girl, I have started thinking a lot about my ex. I find myself comparing the two and it has me missing my ex/romanticizing my old relationship. I have no idea why these feelings have just surfaced and they're bothering me. How do I get them to stop?", "summary": "Broke up with ex 8 months ago, haven't thought of her in a while until recently starting new girl, think about her/old relationship a lot now. Why? How to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_3u4yzu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sleeping through my one and only midterm....twice", "post": "This happened to me last Monday, and I still feel terrible.\n\nMy first year courses at university luckily landed me only one midterm, while my friends had multiple. Even better, this \"midterm\" was during week 10, so I had lots of time to ~~procrastinate~~ prepare.\n\nFast forward to the night before the midterm, I stayed up really late to study and prepare a page of notes we were allowed to take with us (it was a computing course). Once I was done, I couldn't wait to collapse on my bed so I set my alarm on my phone for 10  real quick and did just that (my midterm was at 11:30).\n\nThe next morning, or a couple hours earlier, I was woken up by voices of the janitors doing their daily cleaning. Groggily, I thought to myself, \"weird how they're so early today\" (they usually come around 11 am), and went to back to bed since my alarm didn't go off yet. This should have been a sign.\n\nA while later, I woke up again and felt my sleep had strangely been going on for too long, since I was only supposed to get around 5 or 6 hours until my alarm was supposed to go off. \n\nWith a dreading feeling, I walked to my phone and opened it: \"12:35 pm\". All the color drained from my face as I realized just how hard I screwed up by setting my alarm for 10 pm instead of 10 am.\n\nAfter thinking for a while about what to do, I decided to email the professor to see if there was anything I could do to make up for it. I then proceeded to take a nap to finish my sleep and escape my anxiety. I wake up around 3:30 pm and check my email and am greeted by [this message](\n\nI was depressed for the rest of that day.", "summary": "Set alarm for 10 pm instead of 10 am, caused me to miss my midterm. E-mailed professor about it, took another nap, woke up to find out I slept through my second chance."}
{"id": "t3_15tajt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19F] can't let go of past Exs causing doubt about new relationship with [23M]", "post": "Hey all, 19 Female here! I've recently gotten into a relationship, about 2 months now, with a sweet and loving guy[M 23]. He really is the best guy I have dated so far. But, honestly, that's the problem. I don't know how to handle having such a nice boyfriend. My previous boyfriends were really hard for me to get and they turned out to be cheap assholes that I could have benefitted if I stayed away from them. I'm on the heavier side so I don't get much wanted attention in that area so it was a nice change when he approached me. I really do love this guy to pieces but I'm having a hard time overcoming my past relationships. I know he's had some rough one's with a failed proposal and multiple girls cheating on him and he's even told me it's hard for him to trust anyone after that. He's told me that he trusts me and feels very strongly for me, feeling something different. I wish I could say the same right now but it takes me a long time to feel like that mainly because I am used to affairs from afar. The point of all of this is I don't know how to overcome my past relationships so I can move on and give myself totally to a new person. Does anyone have any good ideas?", "summary": "I don't know how to overcome my past relationships and therefore can not give myself up totally to my new man"}
{"id": "t3_1tf9ol", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Legal and moral repercussions aside, what does Reddit think about the bachelor party ideas I and the best man came up with?", "post": "So I'm in the wedding party for a guy named Raymond. He's marrying his high school sweetheart next month. The best man and I are tasked with giving him a bachelor party in a few weeks and we're both on the fence for the direction we want to go in. Assuming money isn't an option (my mother died a few months ago and left me a sizeable inheritance), what would be the better bachelor party? 1) We get his soon to be wife (who controls all their assets) to drain his bank accounts and tell him she's leaving him just as we all land in Las Vegas. We decide to have a good time anyway and somehow convince Raymond to come party tonight and we'll head back the next day. We go out to dinner and we have a random woman at dinner near us (read: escort) lay on the charm with Raymond. Raymond doesn't drink so she'd have to be an amazing actress but we somehow convince Raymond to go back to her place to continue the party. We get to her place and boom, the door get's kicked in and her boyfriend and some other thugs pile in. Next thing we know, we're all riding with bags over our heads in the back of an SUV heading out into the desert. Long story short we're all digging our own graves when one of the thugs drops his gun (unloaded) next to Raymond and we all see how things play out as Raymond has little to nothing left to lose. The best man's idea is: 2) Raymond is a short guy and has been all his life. Due to that, he has been bullied his share back when he was in high school. The idea here is the best man and I would have a surprise for Raymond. We take Raymond to the garage connected to a house of a friend way out in the country. We then present Raymond with a high school bully tied to a folding chair (read: random actor with a bag over his head) and then we hand Raymond a gun (again, not loaded) to see how it plays out. Now this is a serious question but in full disclosure, I named the Groom Raymond after Raymond K. Hessel from Fight Club.", "summary": "Should we trick the groom into thinking he's a dead man or should we trick him into murdering his high school bully?"}
{"id": "t3_2ofngj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (19/m) message this girl (20/f) on Instagram?", "post": "Hey guys! SO this is a pretty lame question I bet but I really could use some advice...\n\nSO I was using Tinder a while ago (I know what a loser right?) and I came across this girl who was pretty decent. So I swiped right like any normal human being would, but I noticed she put her instagram in her description asking for people to follow her. SO I did. And she followed me back!\n\nNow I didn't message her immediately or anything, just liked some of her pictures. she liked a few of mine, and I like hers whenever I see them. But I really just feel kinda... stalker-y! SO I want to message her and introduce myself, or say something at least, you know? This is I haven't been able to think of what to message her because I've been busy irl with school and what not so I only ever think about this when I see her on insta. SO, this has been going on for much too long already, and I need to figure out what to do NOW. Honestly, I would be very interested in meeting them! They are a year older than me, and it's not like I'm some weirdo or anything, just a normal college kid.\n\nAny help is appreciated! Thanks!", "summary": "Should I message her and if so, how do I got about it!?"}
{"id": "t3_17xybw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with insecurities and control", "post": "I've (22) been dating my boyfriend (24) for over a year now (15 months) and have struggled for quite some time with jealousy and insecurity of other girls he's dated. Since we officially started dating, he has never cheated on me and hasn't done anything to betray my trust, yet I still feel the need to ask where he is and what he's up to. We get into fights when I want to hang out a lot and don't give him his space. How do I get past this insecurity and be more relaxed about things? I don't want to mess this one up, he's a keeper.", "summary": "I'm insecure about his exgfs and need to stop my controlling behavior"}
{"id": "t3_kedrq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"Haz-Lo tuyo\" Spanish pun for \"Do your part/Make it yours\"", "post": "Reddit. You are aware of Mexico situation, right? crime and violence are part of every day. My wife and other persons are doing their part to make Mexico a better\nplace.\n\"Haz-Lo tuyo\" is an initiative from my wife an 4 other persons in Chihuahua\nthat pretends to recover public spaces like parks, public gardens and \nsqures, working with communities around these places; Listening to \ntheir demands and needs, \"Haz-Lo tuyo\" will train people and provide \ninfrastructure to acomplish those needs. \n\nWhatch the video: \n(I will try to add subtitles after work.) It was made with paper cuts!! (I think they nailed it.)\n\n\"Haz-Lo tuyo\" is part of 84 finalist ideas out of 70,000. The 84 ideas\nare beign voted on facebook and www.iniciativamexico.org to have the\noportunity to win funds from IMx and Federal Goverment.\n\nI'm not asking for a blind vote on this, If you think it is a good idea\nenter to  and click\n\"I Like\" you can also register as a supporter and vote 10 hearts to the idea.\n\nI invite you to read the other ideas too.\n\nMy wife says, \"we are more good guys than bad guys, we can make it happen\" and on the three years I've been on reddit, I know that reddit is on the good guys side.\n\nIf you have your doubts on the project ask anything! I will try to answer you ;)", "summary": "Go to  and click \"I Like\" It's for a good cause."}
{"id": "t3_3bue2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to get my wife to talk to a doctor about lots of new issues?", "post": "My wife has been through a lot lately. She just left teaching (perhaps for good) some time ago after enduring an assault by a student for the third time this year. She taught in high poverty schools for years now but this year was the worst.\n\nShe's physically okay but mentally rattled and I've noticed some distinct changes in her behavior lately. The big one is I found out she decided she didn't want to use the toilet anymore... She's had bedwetting issues for years now so she wore protection for that at night. She always had an overactive bladder, going to the bathroom two or three times as often per day as a normal person but apparently during the school year she started just wearing her protection full time during the day at school too and not even bothering with the bathroom. She is still doing this at home even though she isn't working anymore... and it's starting to get costly.\n\nWhen I ask her about it she just says it's better than going to the bathroom 12 times a day and leaves it at that.\n\nShe also has been isolating herself in the house. She doesn't go out, avoids social situations, and tries to prevent us from having company by telling people she's not feeling well so they won't come over.\n\nWhen I asked her several times if she'd made an appointment to go see a doctor about her medical issues she stalled me. Eventually I told her I would make an appointment for her and she freaked out at me and told me she'd handle it and to stay out of it. Several weeks later more stalling. Eventually I called the doctor and asked to confirm when \"our\" appointments were and got a verbal confirmation from the nurse that she hadn't made any appointments.\n\nI'm really not sure what to do now. The subject of talking to doctors seems to cause her to have panic attacks or something but we can't just go on like this forever with her staying home, doing housework, playing with her arts and crafts, not working, being stuck in diapers, and not doing anything about any of this.\n\nMoney is not really my biggest concern (though it's certainly a factor), mainly this doctor phobia thing is what has me really concerned. That obviously isn't a healthy habit to get into.", "summary": "is doctor phobia a thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3upa7q", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "He (25M) likes me (23F) but wants to stop all contact with me.", "post": "I (23F) met this friend (25M) when we were both in Europe on exchange 7 months ago and since we met we have developed a really good friendship and message each other daily. It was established that we were both really attracted to one another and would be dating if we were in the same country but he thinks a long distance would be too difficult since we're both at uni and haven't got our careers started yet etc., whereas for me while LDR is not my first choice, I could possibly be persuaded.\n\nThe other day, he mentioned that he felt he was getting too attached to me and was developing feelings for me that he can't just switch off, so he wants to stop talking to me altogether so that he can have time to think.\n\nIt has been a couple of days of complete radio silence (after months of frequent communication) and I feel like I have lost a friend. I respect his choice for not being in a LDR but I still want to be friends with him and continue talking to him like we have been.\n\nWhat do you think I can do to try and keep this friendship alive? Should I just message him to see what he has been up to and make some small talk?", "summary": "Might have lost a friend because we have developed feelings but are living on opposite sides of the world and as we are still at uni, it would be very difficult to have a long distance relationship. Not sure how to keep friendship going?"}
{"id": "t3_22wacf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] meeting up with former best-friend [22F] tmr. Public break-up possible?", "post": "Former 'best-friend' texted me out of the blue to meet up.   \n\n  \n\nWe were good friends for our college years but it was a toxic relationship. I didn't have the words to articulate what was so wrong about it so I just slowly let our friendship fade over our last year in undergrad after a big fight.   \n\n  \n\nIts been a total 2 yrs of no talking. I NOW have the words to WHY I can't be friends with her but I'm not sure if its more appropriate to just email them or tell her respectfully in person.  \n\n  \nI am curious also to see if she has changed too-- but if she hasn't I have no interest in continuing any ties with her.\n  \n\nThoughts? I've never conciously broken up with a friend before...", "summary": "How to break up with an formerly strong but toxic friendship in public?"}
{"id": "t3_27u9h7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [26m] is not ready to get engaged to me [20f] and I'm having a very hard time understanding why that is", "post": "I have been in a committed relationship with a kind, patient, and understanding man for 2 years now. We have been living together for about 10 months. We have talked about our future together, such as that we would love to have a child, what that child's name would be, what our wedding would look like, our career goals, etc. It is clear in our hearts that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. The communication is there, the honesty is there and the trust is there. When I bring up wanting to get engaged he says that he wants the same but that he is not ready right now. That is as much as I've gotten out of him.. that he's just not ready. He wants to wait until the time feels right. But what does that mean? How would he know when the time is supposedly, \"right\"? Honestly it's just so confusing to me.", "summary": "SO isn't ready to be engaged yet. I'm hurt because I don't understand why."}
{"id": "t3_3s0mr9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bank sent a check that we put stop payment on. It was cashed and drained our account. Help!", "post": "Our landlord is impossible and has made paying rent to him a hassle. He received checks the day before they were due, but because they took a couple days to clear to his account, he decided they were considered late and threatened us with fees. \n\nBecause of this, my fianc\u00e9 and I have decided to send cashiers checks to him via certified mail. (Cover our own butts and make a paper trail just in case.) However, previously, we had an automatic payment set up through online banking which would mail him a paper check. When we decided to do cashiers checks, I went to a branch personally and asked for a stop payment on all future checks to him and then went online and also stopped the automatic payment. \n\nThe bank still mailed a paper check. And he cashed it. \n\nOur joint account (that we only have for bills and a tiny extra for savings) was completely drained, put in the red AND an nsf fee was charged. \n\nThe bank states there's nothing they can do as the stop payment was done to stop him from pulling money, not from us sending him checks. \n\nWhat can we do?", "summary": "Even after stop payment on check and cancelling an automatic payment, check was cashed. Bank claims no responsibility. Help. "}
{"id": "t3_248s40", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Have a 6mo male GSD living with a 2yo male Labradoodle. Help? (x-post from /r/germanshepherds)", "post": "Hey Everyone first time GSD owner here,\n\nI rescued a 6mo GSD about three weeks ago kinda out of the blue from a citizen in a town that I work in that could no longer take care of him as he was 70 years old. Anyway, I am currently living in a very dog friendly apartment (Plenty of land, Dog park, near forest preserves). My roommate has a 2 year old male Labradoodle that has been at this apartment for the last year. My roommates dog is the chillest dog on earth, seems more like a cat because hes always sleeping and calm.\n\nMy GSD always, ALWAYS has energy which is great for me as it gets me off of the couch. I usually take him on 3 .5mile-1mile walks and one long 2-3 mile walk per day. I take time for command training throughout the day and we crate him when I am at work.\n\nWhen my GSD is off leash inside of my apartment with the labradoodle, my dog does not leave him alone. My GSD gets jumpy and will playfully nip at the labradoodle. I can tell the other dog gets annoyed as eventually he will nip back and start barking. My GSD is playful with the labradoodle and most other dogs at the dog park but he goes wild inside my apartment and will not stop.\n\nMy GSD just got fixed 5 days ago and will be starting a group obedience class in 2 weeks. Is there anything I can do in the mean time to curb this behavior?", "summary": "My 6mo male GSD doesn't leave my roommates 2 year old labradoodle alone. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_gy5aj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know AT&T is the devil, but can they legally do this to me?", "post": "I've had a plan with At&t for over 6 years now with a standard sony w580i.  Being in college, theres a lot of times where I need to jot down a not on the go and having a device with a calendar and that ability is ideal for me.  Now just 2 months ago I had the opportunity to upgrade to an Iphone 3GS from a friend for a pretty good price.  I've been using all of the features on it and am pretty stoked with its usefullness, but today I got a text saying AT&T has signed me up for a data plan without my consent or any contract.  \n\nI called them irate and have since been told I will be getting a call back from a manager with the details.  I feel this is literally stealing from me.  They went into my bank account and took the money without me even knowing.  The supervisor I spoke with on the phones reasoning was, \"well if you have a smartphone you need to pay for a data plan.\"  But I NEVER use it for anything other than music, a calendar, calls, and note taker.  That's like me buying a lawnmower and them saying if I replace the engine, I have to come to them and pay for doing it.\n\nWhat should I do?  I have the name of the supervisor I spoke to and his manager, as well as a summary of our whole conversation.", "summary": "AT&T stole money from me for a data plan without my consent or a written contract.  They are also satan."}
{"id": "t3_4j48sp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Outrageous TimeWarner charge got sent to collections, credit score dropped, about to apply for loans. What do I do?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'll try to keep this short. \n\nIn 2014, TimeWarner tried to charge me $90 (which I genuinely owed them) but was incredibly stupid about how they went about trying to get it from me. I was a continuing customer, paying a monthly bill, but they never bothered to call or email me about the charge, which they ended up sending to a collection agency. After being contacted by the agency, I corrected the issue with TimeWarner. Seemingly issue resolved...\n\nThen, in the summer of 2015, I get more collections calls about the same debt. I investigate with TimeWarner, and apparently it was just an error in their system sending out the same debt. Caught it early, so no damage. \n\nThen today, I discover on CreditKarma that my score was hit (~800 -> ~750) and I had no idea why. Turns out that TW sent that was $90 debt to another agency in February, but that agency never bothered to contact me, so it actually ended up hitting my TransUnion report. Both TW and the agency were WAY less than helpful on the phone today, and I'll have to spend some more time with them tomorrow... but it will be resolved, at least in terms of me not having to pay. \n\nBUT, the real issue is that I'm about to go to Law School this fall, and I'm looking down the pipe of about $50k in private student loans that I need to apply for this summer (to cover the first year). I've still got decent credit, my parents will cosign, and I'm going to a great school with almost sure prospects of landing a BigLaw gig in NY, but still I'm worried that TW's incompetency is going to cost me $$$ down the road in higher interest rates.", "summary": "TimeWarner fucked up and it's completely their fault (I have recorded them admitting to 100% fault on the phone), my credit was hurt, and I'm about to apply for a significant amount of student loans"}
{"id": "t3_33adiw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating too much spaghetti", "post": "This is the first time this is ever happened to me. I woke up in the middle of night to go to the bathroom on the way back I felt kind of nauseous but I got into bed and then I thought I'm gonna going to throw up all the spaghetti I just ate?  1.3 milliseconds later...YES!  I grabbed my bedside wastebasket I had just cleaned out thank God, and started my way to the bathroom still unsure for a moment but then I started projectile vomiting before I even got to the toilet thank God I had my wastebasket in my hand because I filled it a  third of the way up with spaghetti sauce.  Then I dumped it into the toilet and did it two more times.  I've never thrown up so much in my life.  I was fine afterwards.  I had eaten two helpings of spaghetti two hours apart and I think the first round never digested or something.  Weird and yuck.", "summary": "I ate too much sketti and then threw it all up a few hours later, violently."}
{"id": "t3_2iikcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] of two months - am I being irrationally jealous?", "post": "I knew my bf (vaguely) around 2 months before we started dating, so I really only know him based off of our relationship. We see each other 1-2 times a week and I don't really know what he's doing when we're not together. \n\nYesterday when we saw each other for the first time this week, it was great. We had sex, cuddled and just enjoyed each other's company. I realized as we talked though that he would mention this female friend of his pretty regularly, like about how she's found such a great job (i.e. how smart and ambitious she is), is really enjoying her classes, how x y and z remind him of her, etc. I then happened to see that one of the people that he recently called was her, which surprised me because he doesn't ever call me. He said that she's one of his \"good friends\" and I did some Facebook research and found thay she's fairly attractive and single. \n\nI believe that they have a brief history in which he liked her but she didn't like him, or vice versa. I can't exactly remember. My boyfriend is attractive though, so it wouldn't surprise me at all if she had a crush on him right now. \n\nDo I have a legit reason to be jealous/insecure here or am I just overreacting? I don't want to bring this up around him because I know he'll tell me that there's nothing romantic going on between them, and I also don't want to give him any ideas.\n\nSo what should I do? If anything?", "summary": "Barely see my bf, when I saw him yesterday he kept talking about his \"good friend\" who happens to be smart, ambitious and pretty. There may have been a history between them - I'm unsure. Am I overreacting by being jealous?"}
{"id": "t3_2ph4zk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] want to start dating a girl [17 F] who really liked me but we haven't talked in over a year.", "post": "Pretty much as the title said, I had a friend who very clearly liked me and flirted with me but back then I just wasn't attracted to her at all. The last time we talked was by text was during the summer of 2013, as always she started the conversation but it ended about 5 texts later with me just saying \"Hahaha\". I figured she realized I didn't like her and just gave up. \n\nLately I just can't stop thinking about her. At first I thought it was just a temporary thing but I've been thinking about her non-stop for a few months now. Now the problem is that I don't know how she would react to me just start talking to her out of the blue after not talking for so long and never even showing signs of liking her. I don't have facebook either so I can't use that, I was thinking of using Kik (a texting app) and I can just say I saw her there and remembered her but I'd lost her number so I couldn't text her.\nWhat should I do? Is it too late for this to work?", "summary": "Girl liked me, I didn't like her. Now I like her but we haven't talked in over a year and I don't know if I should start talking to her again. Don't have FB."}
{"id": "t3_pr2ud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Planning a honeymoon to London", "post": "Dear Redditors, I have recently gotten engaged and me and my fiance are trying to plan our honeymoon for a trip to London and Oxford. However, we have a pretty strict budget of about $4000. We can possibly get help from family as part of our wedding gifts but we'd like to know if anyone has some tips out there for how to accomplish this in budget. So far airline tickets have been at a minimum of about $1500 a piece. We found a bed and breakfast in Buckinghamshire that will run us about $1000 for a week. We'll probably use public transportation for getting to London and rent a car for Oxford. We'd love for you to poke holes in our plan and offer any advice on how to make this the best honeymoon it can possibly be!\nIf it helps, the biggest driver of us wanting to go to London and Oxford is that we are huge C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien fans and are planning on taking a day for doing C.S. Lewis stuff and then a day for J.R.R. Tolkien stuff and then a day to just explore London so stuff to do in London would be great too!", "summary": "Honeymoon to London for a $4000 budget"}
{"id": "t3_2erxp6", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I don't know what to study!?!? PLEASE HELP ME! IM SO DESPERATE YOU HAVE NO IDEA!", "post": "So I wouldn't be asking a question to random people if I weren't desperate so here I go. I finished one year of civil engineering four months ago. Since then, I've decided it's boring, too hard and \"not for me\" so I decided to apply to music because I've been playing piano since I was 8 and love music. However, I've taught piano for three years and it wasn't my favourite thing. If i didn't like it as a part time job I don't think I'll like it as my full time job when I'm older. Plus, shitty pay. So I decided against that and applied to Interior Design at college because it'd make more money than just a musician. Just one week ago I started going to school for interior design. After going to college for interior design for a week, I find the concepts pretty interesting. However, now I'm missing Engineering and really want to go back. I don't know if it's because of the people that I miss, or the school i miss or just because I haven't adjusted to new college life. But now after making a third choice I feel my first one was the best. I want to go back because I want to use my full potential. I know that Interior Design would be fun, but I also feel like I'm surrounded with really stupid people. I know I have an interest in interior design because I've watched HGTV all the time but being creative 24/7 would get tiring.I really don't know what to do! Should I do civil engineering or interior design? I find interior design more interesting, but I also want to use my full potential and I love when I know really difficult math and can actually do it and understand it.", "summary": "Should I go back into engineering because it makes good money and I love math and physics when i understand it (which isn't that hard for me to accomplish, or should I go into Interior Design because I find the classes more interesting except the pay isn't good and I feel like I'm not using my full potential???"}
{"id": "t3_3fjzxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the best way for me(21F) to ask my boyfriend(22M) for support in my weight loss journey?", "post": "Hey reddit! So before I met my boyfriend, I went to Europe and gained about 10 pounds. I never lost it and now we've been dating for about 6 months. I've gained about 15 more pounds since I started dating him. I know it's a lot blah blah blah. I'm not making any excuses and I am finally committed to lose it! I just stocked my fridge with healthy foods and tomorrow I am starting to see a personal trainer 3 times a week.\n\nI am excited to begin this journey. I am not happy with my body at all and it's making me depressed. I used to love my body and now I don't feel sexy at all. I'm self conscious when we have sex and I'm even avoiding hanging out with his friends because I don't want to be the \"fat\" girlfriend. It's effecting my life and I'm sick of it.\n\nMy boyfriend loves me. When I complain about my body he always tells me he thinks I'm beautiful but if I want to lose weight I can if it will make me happy. The problem is that he's a bad influence. He's not so much in shape himself and eats TERRIBLY. He always wants to go out to eat when we hang out or he brings dessert over. I know if I get back to being confident with my body, things will be a lot better for us. Plus I don't believe that he is completely fine with how my body is now. I want to have a talk with him tonight about it but I don't want anything to come out the wrong way.", "summary": "I want to lose weight and I need my boyfriend on board."}
{"id": "t3_23ajs1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F19) stepbrother of seventeen years (M17) just told me he is sexually attracted to me. What do I do?", "post": "My brother has had a lot of problems lately, and I don't want to hurt him by freaking out or screaming at him. I think it's best that I keep all the personal stuff undisclosed, but all I can tell you is that it largely stems from our narcissistic parents.\n\nMy brother admitted to me that he was bisexual, foremost, and I congratulated him. I am very proud of my brother that he is becoming more confident of his identity, and that he is becoming stronger as a person.\n\nBut then he said, \"I have these feelings for you.\" And he described that they were sexual, and that he used to take \"long showers\" when I was 16 to vent that energy. He says he knows it's wrong but he doesn't know how to deal with it.\n\nI had no idea how to react to that one. Obviously I can't tell my parents because they would keep my brother and I separate, which I don't want. He's my *brother*, and I love him just like that--I could never reciprocate these feelings for him, and he also acknowledges them as inappropriate.\n\nExcept that doesn't dismiss the fact that he is struggling with this, all the same. I told him it was perfectly natural (because we are not biologically related, and I've been around his whole life). I still also feel disturbed, and I don't really know how to cope with it either.\n\nHe's been my brother my whole life, but I don't know how to help him out with this one. Should I let him sort it out on his own? What do I even do? I find it's hard to even look at him now without feeling a little bit standoffish, and I hate that because he is my brother. I know nothing will ever come of it, but it bothers me, and he started crying when he told me--he obviously is tortured by it. I don't know how to make it better.", "summary": "My stepbrother confessed that he has sexual feelings for me, even though we've been siblings for his whole life. I feel like his older sister, and that's it. I also feel a bit weirded out, and it seems like it is tearing him up on the inside. What can I do to make it okay between us?"}
{"id": "t3_vgx42", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving a backpack outside with my wallet and clothes in it.", "post": "I work at a restaurant in a beach town. As a dishwasher, I'm essentially the bitch of the kitchen, so at the end of the night I need to take out the garbage from the kitchen doors to a dumpster across the street. After a long and exhausting shift, I grabbed my backpack from the upstairs change room so I wouldn't have to go up again after I had done the garbage. In my tired state, I shrugged the backpack off my shoulder onto the ground just leaning against the kitchen door, and then took the garbage across the road. It takes about 2-3 minutes only, but when I had gotten back it was gone. Included my wallet, clothes, shoes, and a textbook that will cost me $100+ to replace.", "summary": "I left a backpack on the sidewalk for 2 minutes and some douche took it instantly"}
{"id": "t3_14pt45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22f and 25m with different long term life dreams: one wants to travel and the other wants a career. . . what to do now?", "post": "We have been dating for three years and living together for the last 4 months. My girlfriend wants to travel and see the world; money, at this stage of her life, does not matter. I have just landed a great job that is quite challenging and I have enjoyed it so far.\n\nActually, that is the issue, this \"job\" is a career and my girlfriend is insistent that she only wants to stay in America, in our city, for two years tops. My goals, I believe, are more long term.\n\nI love to travel, but with my work I could never really be able to spend 6 months to a year living in another country (what job could). I am making great money so far, but I love this girl and do not know how to reconcile our long term differences.\n\nShould we break up now? Should we wait it out to see how we feel later? What do you think reddit?", "summary": "gf wants to live abroad, I think I want a career, but also love to travel. How should we figure this out?"}
{"id": "t3_31ss9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my ex-boyfriend [24 M]. Together for a year, still can't accept the breakup. Really just want to write this out...not much help to be given.", "post": "I posted previously about my breakup and how I wasn't okay with it. It's been a week and I still can't find a way to be okay with it. I feel so empty and actually physically hurt. I am devastated to have lost someone so important to me.\n\nI have such a hard time eating and sleeping...and sometimes, it is all I can do to hold the tears in. None of these things are great when you have a full time job that requires you to be presentable and on top of things. I just feel so broken all the time. I feel like this was such a mistake and I didn't want this and I still don't. I've been through a breakup before (after 5 years!) but my outlook last time was much better. I was not anywhere near as sick over it. \n\nThis time, the guy was everything I wanted and we wanted the same things. I spoke to him once after and the things he expressed to me did not put to rest any of my feelings of unease and discomfort with this decision..although I am sure he is fine now, he has his big goals in sight now. But, I personally can't make it make sense in my head or heart that this is right...", "summary": "I know it's only been a week, I know moving on takes time...but I just don't see myself ever being capable of accepting this and just walking away like it's okay."}
{"id": "t3_1l3p5o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is sending my ex a CD with a song in it I wrote for him a terrible idea?", "post": "Just a little background, I am male (26) and my boyfriend (25) broke up with me about a month ago. We had been together for about a year and a half and he has met my entire family and we had been more or less living together, so I thought that it was getting serious. We didn't have any huge fight or anything but it was a bunch of little fights and a lack of sexual compatibility towards the end that did it. Since we broke up we've hung out and had a great time (and really great sex). He tells me that he's thought of getting back together and he misses me, but that he still needs time to figure stuff out, and he has started casually dating someone new. \n\nHe seems like he still wants to see me and have me in his life, but obviously it isn't fair to me to keep me in limbo like this (especially when he's meeting other guys), so I am doing my best to avoid seeing him and see new people myself.\n\nAlthough... I can't deny that I still love him, and if there were a chance that we could work things out I'm sure I would regret not taking it. I know big romantic gestures like in the movies usually don't work, but I was thinking of just mailing him a CD with a single song I recorded for him.\n\nI was planning on attaching a short note only saying \"I know we've talked a lot about us already, but maybe I am better expressing myself with this. I hope you are doing well.\" \n\nThe basic premise of the song stays away from phrases like \"i need you\" and is more about how I am thinking about him and that I'll be there for him in case he decides he misses me too and wants to be in my life again. Just a side note, I'm an amateur singer and he has sad that he really loves my voice in the past.\n\nIs this too desperate!?!?", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend a month ago, debating on whether it comes off as pathetic/needy or sweet to send him a song I wrote for him in an attempt to get him back in my life"}
{"id": "t3_1m8ggw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "fuck I don't know what to do", "post": "I ran away from home about a month ago and am currently living with my boyfriend and his parents. I'm very happy living with them. my parents are not, but they (technically) can't force me to go back home. they say that I'm wasting my life, that I'm a whore, that I'm a shameful and disgusting tumour, that only they and God would truly accept me and that my boyfriend and his family are only trying to manipulate me. I've been witness to such song and dance before, so I did what worked previous times, i.e., ignore them and prove to them that their bullshit doesn't bother me.\n\ntoday my older brother arrived from korea. he gave up his job, home, social life, basically everything, so I would come back. I feel extremely guilty. they've also offered an ultimatum: come back and live with them and all will be forgiven, or continue living with my boyfriend and his parents and basically force me to marry him whilst being simultaneously disowned.\n\nI'm 19, he's 22, and we've only been together about four and a half months, so marriage isn't exactly an option. going back means giving my family the knowledge and satisfaction of being able to control my life, never seeing my boyfriend and his parents again and possibly never feeling free and happy again. staying means I have no financial support for my education, finding a job will be much more difficult, and my dream of getting a car will be further away.\n\nit feels good letting this out. however, I also feel scared that saying all of this means I have to make a decision of what to do. I've talked to counsellors (through a helpline) and close friends about my situation, but I think more advice would be helpful for me.", "summary": "asian christian family vs white atheist boyfriend and parents. alternatively, degree and job and car or freedom and happiness"}
{"id": "t3_1zy1zz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Venting. My dad [54/m] is being a jerk about my engagement [23/f] and it's really awful", "post": "I just got engaged to my awesome boyfriend [24/m] of 2 years. We met in my last semester of college and are so incredibly excited to be taking this step together. My mom is thrilled, his parents are awesome and super supportive, and our friends and family have been nothing but kind.\n\nThen there's my dad. He's always been the type of father who's incredibly loving and supportive as long as I am doing things he approves of or need him in someway (which, growing up, was basically all the time. I was a quiet kid.) He is great with my boyfriend to his face, but when it's just me and him alone he won't call him by his name, asks me why I hang out with him so much, and says that I'm sacrificing my career for my fianc\u00e9 and that I'm going to just become another baby-making heifer (his words). I've asked him to stop several times. I don't even know where this is coming from - I graduated from college two years ago and will start grad school this fall. \n\nTonight he did something that just tore me apart. My fianc\u00e9 is foreign (currently back home for the month) and I skyped him and his folks from my parents' house. My parents have never met or spoken to my fianc\u00e9's parents. When I told my mom to come say hello, she went to get my father and he just LEFT THE HOUSE. Didn't say a word. It was awkward to cover for him. Then, when he came back, I was talking to a girlfriend on the phone and overheard my mom asking him to apologize. He said she couldn't make him do anything and he LEFT AGAIN. He called my mom an hour ago to say he was staying at his mothers for the night (not unusual, he's her caretaker, but still). \n\nI don't know what to do or say or even what kind of advice I'm expecting. I'm just hurt and angry. I don't know. This really sucks. I'm fed up with his crap.", "summary": "Dad says shitty things about my engagement, won't talk to fianc\u00e9 or his parents, and is making me feel awful."}
{"id": "t3_3eax8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] asked a [UKN F] at work to go get drinks with me a week ago and now I feel she is avoiding me.", "post": "I work security at a apartment complex and for about 3 weeks there was this girl who would come outside to read and smoke. Now I got used to seeing her between patrols and she would usually be out for a couple hours. We started talking and it seemed we had a lot in common and would often spend 20-40 minutes talking a night. \n\nFast forward to last week and as she was getting ready to head inside I asked \"hey, can I take you out for drinks sometime?\" To which she said \"yes\". Since than I have seen her in passing 3 times and she has seemed short with me though still nice(like she didn't seem annoyed by my presence).  I also noticed that where she would spend hours outside in the place where we would talk, she now only spends a couple minutes there and than heads back in (one of my patrols has a view of the area) and I'll see here there from time to time. \n\nNow I feel like she's avoiding me, but I am concerned about why she didn't just say \"no\" when I asked her to go get drinks? \n\nThe last girl I asked on a date said yes and than pretty much stopped responding to my texts. (I asked her out face to face)., so I am wondering if my mind is just causing useless worry because of that. \n\nIf I ever see her in her smoking spot part of me wants to jokingly say \"hey, you're here, I thought I may have scared you off\" but I don't think that will be a funny way to address it if I have made her uncomfortable. \n\nAny advise/opinions, especially from female redditors would be great.", "summary": "would usually spend 20-40 minutes a night talking to the girl at my work, asked her to get drinks, she said yes and now I feel she's avoiding me."}
{"id": "t3_q91cp", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Hey r/travel! How difficult is it to find work while in Australia on a Working Holiday Visa?", "post": "I'm in the process of paying off some incurred school debts, and saving a moderate sum of ~$7000 - $10000 in order to travel as cheaply and efficiently as I can. My intended area of the globe is Asia & Australia, I'd like to use the Subclass 417 Working Holiday Visa to supplement my travels (as well as using the country as a home base) and I'm hoping to find work eligible for the 1 year extension. As you can see, I've got a fair plan already mapped out, I'm hoping to start my adventure in early 2013.. But the one variable is I don't know how difficult good, eligible employment is to find! So help me out if you can r/travel!", "summary": "Pretty much the title of the post!"}
{"id": "t3_2xn06y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18M] trying to get into get into a relationship with a [18F] with language and cultural barriers", "post": "So I'm a white american male getting in over my head talking to a girl that just move here from China. Normally she'd be waaaay out of my league, but for some reason she's been giving me signals for a week or two. I'm not unattractive in any way, but she's up there with the top. Anyway we've sort of been talking and giving each other looks. Turns out she speaks less english than I originally thought, but I'm prepared to work through that. Hell I'd learn mandarin to talk to her. I'm just not sure how to approach the topic of dating. \n\nThis is where the cultural stuff comes into play. I don't know what a relationship in china looks like; the pacing, little hints, the landmines I should avoid. (I've had another chinese girl, more american though, throw a 'tantrum' and didnt realize she was trying to be cute) I'm afraid of taking a hint the wrong way again and more importantly making her upset over something that seems little to me. \n\nI'm also not sure on how to get past fact that she doesn't speak english very well, even though it can be funny sometimes. \nI was thinking texting would be easier because I can write in spanish a lot easier than I can speak, but I wouldn't know if it'd be the same for chinese.", "summary": "we're both interested in each other, but I'm not sure how to start the relationship and what one would mean to her."}
{"id": "t3_flf2i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I'm going to break up with my girlfriend today to go fuck an ex.  Talk me out of it.", "post": "The ex is the best sex I've ever had, and I have a fairly large amount of experience in this area.  Just perfectly dirty.  She is the only one (out of many, many, many) that has ever been able to completely satisfy me.  That girl is a total head case, and completely undatable otherwise. She's made it very clear that I could have all I want.\n\nMy girlfriend is a very sweet, thoughtful, beautiful girl, but she doesn't satisfy me sexually.  She trys, but I have a fairly rediculous sex drive as previously stated.  We have only been dating for a short time.  Previous to this, I was casually seeing a handful of girls . This resulted in regular threesomes (once, twice a month) and daily sex.  It was not unusual for me to be with 4 seperate girls in a 24 hour period of time.\n\nI met this girl and she floored me.  Literally everything but this is perfect, which is why I cut everything else off.  Now though, I am starting to feel like maybe I should just admit that I want sex more than substance and go back to sport fucking my way through life.\n\nThrowaway account if that's not obvious.", "summary": "I'm an asshole and I might be addicted to sex."}
{"id": "t3_4hdbp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(19M) girlfriend(19F) broke up with me just recently", "post": "Me (19M) and my girlfriend(19F) are in a relationship for about 4.6 years now. But then recently I haven't been in touch with her because of school work, and maybe she felt ignored that time, she broke up with me saying that she wants for us to grow individually (to become mature perhaps), and she said that I should give her time and space, and MAYBE when she is ready AGAIN, we COULD start all over again with our relationship, she also said that she would entertain guys who want to court her (why tho? I thought she still loves me?). After the break up she said she still loves me.  And when I try to text her or message her on facebook she doesnt reply. She's a really lovely girl, and I know that her guy friends are just waiting for us to break up just to get a chance at her, I don't want her to be with other guys, I'm really afraid for that to happen. What do I need to do in order for that to not happen? What do I need to do so she would realize that the break up is not worth it?\nI still love her so much, that's why I'm really depressed right now, I can't even do my school projects, there are instances when I want to die(well dying because of a break up is perhaps pathetic for some of you but you don't realize how I really love her). Help I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me, what do I need to do in order for her to realize the break up is not worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_25ea1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] don't want my friend's mom[50'sF] watching my puppy but don't want to hurt her feelings. (short)", "post": "This is going to be short because there isn't much to it, I just don't like hurting people's feelings.\n\nSo my boyfriend lived with his twin brother and his twin brother's girlfriend (who is also my friend) at her mother's house for a few months because their parents are crazy and the boys needed to get out ASAP. Well my boyfriend and i got a puppy when he moved in with Mrs. Cindy (my friend's mom) and she's absolutely crazy about him, she loves him so much. \n\nThe problem is that she's soooo irresponsible. So many times she would leave the door open and he'd get out, she always forgets to feed her own cat, and she would never take him or my friend's dog out to go to the bathroom because \"it's too cold\". Well my boyfriend and I finally found our own place and have been living here for a month and next month the four of us are going to a wedding out of town and my boyfriend and I were going to put him in doggy daycare but Mrs. Cindy said she wanted to watch him and is now under the impression that she is, she's even texting me about how excited she is. There is no way I feel safe with her watching him for a couple nights when it's just her, he's still a puppy and doesn't even listen to her. What do I do?", "summary": "friend's mom is irresponsible and I don't want her watching our dog but I feel bad because she really wants to."}
{"id": "t3_k0mt5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what the fuck is wrong with me, help?", "post": "I think I'm sick and I need help, I have the problem of pushing away everyone I love, and I can't stop it. This happens with anyone that I am too close to, or anyone that I really like, I cause myself to push them away, or when I'm getting too close, my body will actually feel sick to my stomach. I sometimes have a hard time even hugging my own mother and telling her I love her. What really pushed me over the edge though, was a beautiful, smart, funny and just amazing girl that I met about a month ago. I started feeling sick to my stomach whenever we would be close, and last weekend, I said the most horrible, untrue, cruelest things I could think of to her, to make her hate me. I could have, and still can see myself marrying this girl, but my pushing worked, and she wouldn't even dream of it anymore. Nor would I ask her to like me again, I am a piece of shit that doesn't deserve her, she reads my real account posts sometimes, so that's why I made a throwaway. This doesn't just happen with women I like though, it happens to anyone I'm close to, friends, family, if they get too close to me I will get physically sick. I am close to my family, and I don't push them away often, but It has been done before. This is the only submission I have ever made on Reddit where I really need help. I am desperate, I don't have the money to see a therapist, and I am at a point in my life where I really need the help of loved ones to get me through it. I really need your help.", "summary": "I get sick when I love people, and I push them away, help me."}
{"id": "t3_2rwiht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my BF [31M], 3+ years, not sure if I need to tell the entire truth about my past relationships", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 3+ years and I have started thinking about the future and marriage. One thing that bothers me sometimes is that I have been purposefully vague about my past relationships and I don't know if I need to open up to him and tell him everything. We are both quiet, introverted people that don't necessarily share every minute detail, so it hasn't been a big deal. \n\nI was in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past, and had a couple of short-term relationships after that where I was still emotionally unstable. I did some things I am not proud of (breaking up by no contact with one guy, dated another controlling man and then kissed someone else so we would break up) when I was younger. However, I've matured and learned about healthy relationships. I've been in 1-2 healthy relationships before I met my current boyfriend. Most people who know me now don't know any of this, and I an genuinely happy and fulfilled in my personal and professional life. It's only when I sometimes think back to the past I sort of freeze up inside.\n\nI have tried to see a couple of therapists (one after I ended the abusive relationship, and one a few years after that). But both of them stopped seeing me after a few sessions because I seemed pretty well-adjusted and was capable of dealing with the issues. I got some good advice about accepting myself and having healthy habits (exercise, eating well, sleeping well, etc.) to cope, but otherwise nothing major. The message I took away was that the past is in the past and I should work on the here and now. \n\nMy question is, do I need to tell my current boyfriend the entire truth? He knows about the abusive relationship (not the details, just that I was in one) and that I was \"wild\" in my youth (but again, not specifically what). I am very happy in my current relationship, we are both supportive of each other, and this never comes up. Do I need to try therapy again even if this isn't really causing me any daily stress?", "summary": "I've been with my boyfriend for 3+ years, was purposefully vague about past relationships. Now that I am considering marriage I don't know if I need to go into much detail or just forget the past."}
{"id": "t3_3e2ahf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] have been with anxiety problems about having to face a guy [24M] whose ex-girlfriend I dated back in December. Need advice.", "post": "Hi reddit. So long story short, I dated a girl for a couple of months back in November/December, and I knew her ex. We were not close friends(or even friends) but had respect for each other, and we used to hang out in the same group of people. \n\nSo few months ago he saw me leave a bar with her ex, and then someone told him we slept together some months later. The guy deleted on facebook around March and I've been feeling a lot of guilt since then.\n\nThing is, I got invited to a birthday this Friday and he's going to be there. I've been facing anxiety problems lately, because I don't even know how to look at the poor dude(he's still pretty hurt, his ex is now dating another dude for 5 months now). I mean, should I say hi? Some of his friends are my friends also and I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to say hello, and I'm sure as well he's going to leave my hand hanging up in the air.\n\nI know this may seem a minor, minor problem by I stress out a lot in this kind of situations. I know I should have tought about this before dating the girl(wasn't even worth it). I'm also having second toughts about going to that party, but this doens't seem like a reason not to go.\n\nCan you guys give some advice on this? \nThanks for your time, cheers.", "summary": "Dated a guy I know ex-girlfriend and going to see him for the first time since then this friday. Having an anxious week."}
{"id": "t3_rjywn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the weirdest thing you've done to a stranger?", "post": "So, back in late 2010/early 2011, I was at this forensics conference. Me and some kids from my high school forensics class went, because why not? It was alright, would have fallen asleep like some people there if I hadn't bought a book during the intermission. My story takes place during the intermission.\n\nSo, one dude, I forget what his topic was exactly, but he gave out these packets. I also forget the exact topic of the packet, but I believe it was about determining the cause of injuries to bone by identifying the marks. Kinda morbid, and weird out of context. This conference was taking place at a college building, on one of the upper levels, if not the top. The room the conference was taking place in had some balconies attached. I went out on one during the intermission, packet in hand. I looked down, and saw two students studying at a table below me. I'm terrible at estimating distances, but I was pretty far above them. They didn't notice me. So, I got an idea. I decided to drop the packet off the balcony towards them. It fluttered around in the wind a bit, but landed almost perfectly on their table. They were a bit taken aback, and then looked up. I quickly ran back inside. \n\nIf they didn't know about the conference, then I imagine that it would be weird as fuck for that to happen. Dropping stuff is one thing, but dropping something like that and not going to retrieve it is another.", "summary": "I dropped a kinda weird paper off a balcony onto unsuspecting college students."}
{"id": "t3_1elv8t", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "M16 never kissed anyone, why does nobody want me?", "post": "I am afraid to open up, If someone gets to know me, I'm a pretty nice guy, the thing is I never open up for a girl to be able to get to know me, what I hope will happen is for a girl to notice me, talk to me and I ask her out. What usually happens is that I find someone I find attractive, try to man up to ask her out,  give up, repeat. I am not overweight, wouldn't say I'm really ugly either. The computer is like my home arena, I was together with a girl for 3 months over skype, was getting quite serious but the distance was too big, so I ended it because it didnt feel right. Why can't I find someone to be with?", "summary": "Too much of a pussy to ask a girl out, never kissed anyone. (hardly even hugged a girl)"}
{"id": "t3_wdh2f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your hypothetical \"Perfect Crime\"? I'll start...", "post": "I was answering the balls thread and it made me think of this. What master heist or murder technique do you think would be your perfect crime?\n\nI work in a coffee shop next to the only police station in a small town. All the police get their coffee from us. ALL of them. On a few days it is only myself and a close friend running the store.\n\nMy Perfect Crime:\n I would dose every cup of coffee with LSD. In the ensuing lawlessness which only my friend and I could predict I would rob every bank in town. Any cops not affected by the LSD would be too busy trying to track down outbreaks of what they'd have to assume was a disease. All the non-cops affected would work as a further distraction as well.", "summary": "Small Town, Cops plus LSD equals the perfect crime"}
{"id": "t3_1xz67n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) close friend (21F) of 8 years and also now ex gf (6 weeks). Can someone tell me what to think?", "post": "We've known each other for a long time and over the last few years became more and more close, She was in a relationship for about 2-3 years and when it ended, after going on a few dates with other people, kissed me and i reciprocated (I'd developed feelings for her before she broke up but kept them to myself). We later talked and agreed to make a go of it.\n\nFive days in and she wants to have sex. Being a virgin I say I'm not ready. I should add that she has known all these years that I viewed sex as something to share with someone when you are in a committed relationship. A few weeks later things were going great, she preferred staying at mine to going out on dates. Her hands went south and after initially saying no, I decided I was willing to commit to it.\n\nAbout two weeks after we got into an argument. (she thought I was angry that she wanted to see her friends without me, I wasn't and she wouldn't believe me). Two days later she ended it by text saying that it was too much too fast and that she needed time to be single and alone. She also said that we were never together and it wasn't a relationship. Of course this hurt.\n\nWe have many mutual friends and even though I was hurt I thought I would play it down and try and get back to being friends. She has never really spoken to me since and almost any attempt I try to make to talk to her she kills the conversation.\n\nSo a month later and a few of us go out, I find out from her friend that she has agreed to going on a date with another guy and that shes been acting out ever since she ended whatever we were. \n\nI honestly don't know what to think of it. She is acting like it has no effect on her but the acting out suggests otherwise. It feels like she doesn't want me in her life even just a friend. What would be your views and maybe thoughts on what I should do?\n\nI'm also having problems wanting to have another relationship because I feel like the process will just repeat and I will be used again and thrown away like a piece of shit.", "summary": "Long term close friend ended whatever we were and is now acting distant, pissed off and acting out since. I don't know what to make of it or what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_46y6cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my BF [20 M] of almost 4 years, He wants to remaim friends with guy that hid his infidelity from me.", "post": "Almost two years ago my boyfriend cheated on me. During this we were both friends with Zag. Zag met the other girl and also failed to let me know about her.\n\nBF and I have moved on and everything has worked out. However, I do not feel like forgiving Zag or want him in my life. BF misses him and feels I am being unfair for not wanting them to be friends. \n\nMy reasoning is that Zag may be a good friend of my BFs but he isn't one to our relationship. BF believes Zag doesn't have to be a friend to our relationship. \n\nWho is right, what do I do?", "summary": "BF wants to be friends with guy that helped hide his infidelity."}
{"id": "t3_3jxt5q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my girlfriend's birthday by writing shitty code", "post": "Every single time I ask my girlfriend what she wants to eat it becomes like this big fucking grand debate. [This scene from the notebook pretty accurately illustrates us every night.] With her birthday rolling around I decided I should kill two birds with one stone...\n\nSo I spent a month building her a glorious app as a present. This thing is my fucking masterpiece. You give it money and it will go out and order you delivery. Thing is, you don't know what you're getting. Some guy just shows up with some food. You could get some pad thai, you could get a rare steak with a side of cat, who knows? No decisions, no problems. It was perfect, or at least I thought so.\n\nThe morning of her birthday arrived (this morning) and after some sexy time I presented her with her gift. She loved it, and after plenty of laughs suggested that we use it at her birthday party tonight. Her birthday party rolled around and a large group of us drunkenly placed the first order ever with the app for ~200$ of food. We were hysterical about the thought of what the hell would show up at the door... But after an hour I started to get a bit worried that no food had arrived. Finally we got a call from Pablo the delivery driver!\n\nTurns out I forgot one minor (major) detail: picking your address. I hard coded in an address I knew would get delivery at any hour while making the app\u2026 So while Pablo the delivery guy was sitting outside of 350 5th Ave, New York aka the fucking Empire State Building, wondering where to drop off $200 worth of Peruvian chicken\u2026 I was sitting inside my apartment in the middle of Kansas wondering how the hell I'm going to feed my 10 drunk hungry friends. Fuck.", "summary": "made a shit delivery app. placed order for gf's bday party. Delivery guy in NY, but i live in Kansas."}
{"id": "t3_1wclro", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] found out my girlfriend [21/F] is on Tinder the dating app.", "post": "She's sitting on my lap and looking at her updates on her smartphone, and then I noticed the Tinder app. She swipes to screen away to hide it. I confront her about the app.\n\nShe says: a) She didn't want me to find out she was on it because she knew I would get mad.\nb) She says it was just for fun and an ego boost.\nc) She did talk to some guys on it and showed me the conversations. The conversations were short (ie. \"Hey, hows it going?\"), she would never reply back or lead anyone on. So she has never met up with anyone from Tinder.\n\nI don't have the app, but I have an idea of what it is. I'm obviously not happy about this and the fact that she tried to hide it from me makes me even more unhappy.\n\nWe talked about this. I told her how I felt, and she explained herself. She deleted the app. She knows she is wrong. I still trust her.", "summary": "Found out GF has the Tinder app. Tries to hide the homescreen so I don't see the app. I confront her. She says it's just for fun."}
{"id": "t3_4rfuec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ex-fiance [21 F] 9 months, do I need to wait to ask someone out?", "post": "My fiance, V, and I got engaged after six months of dating, we were engaged for 3 months. It was a short courtship and we were both young, but that's not really the point of this post. It ended badly a week ago with her cheating emotionally with a couple of guys, lying, gaslighting, etc.\n\nI'm a college student in the western US. Before V and I got engaged, I lived in a very tight-knit apartment complex and I had lots of good friends there. \n\nNot being engaged has been brutal. I feel like I don't know what to do when I'm not at work or studying and sometimes I just cry. I thought that dating some more would help me move on.\n\nThere's a nice lady at my old complex that I'd like to go on a date with. Since she and I are facebook friends, she knows at least the basic outline of what happened. I haven't talked to her since before I was engaged. Is it improper or weird to ask her out so soon after my last relationship ended?", "summary": "was engaged, it ended a week ago. Do I need to wait to ask girls on dates?"}
{"id": "t3_12hum8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit dog owners: I need advice on getting a dog to not bark at passing dogs when in an fenced in area", "post": "I live in an apartment complex that has a dog park. It's in a sunken in little grassy area that they fenced up. Every day, 2 different dog owners walk their dogs past it and get all uppity when my dog barks at them. They have reported us to management for him being 'aggressive'. Here's the kicker - he's barely a year old, barks because he wants to play and is HAPPY! How can I possibly try to correct behavior that isn't aggressive? It's like telling a child not to laugh. I have 11 months left on my lease and he's too full of energy to stop taking him there. Useful suggestions would be so greatly appreciated!", "summary": "dog barks when happy - how do I redirect his happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_423ril", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boss(?) [Older F] of two months, we had evaluations last week and on multiple of mine it said my voice was to high.", "post": "Last week at a place I volunteer we were given our evaluations and my results have been weighing on me. \n\nI got an average score on everything other then one and multiple things saying my voice is to 'high pitch'. \n\nI have no idea what to do about it. I have a naturally high pitch voice and a funny sounding laugh. I can't really change my voice and it is killing me that all my superiors are complaining about my voice. \n\nOther then volunteering here I work full time at a call center and have nothing but outstanding reviews. \n\nI guess I just don't know what to do. I can't help my voice. I can't really quit because I am in a year long commitment along with giving rides to 4 other people.", "summary": "Got my reviews back for a place I volunteer all my superiors said my voice was to high pitch."}
{"id": "t3_4b6hwq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a fucked up belt", "post": "Hello fellow Redditors. Being that this is my very first post, I thought I share a funny but sad story. This story happened this past Thursday. I had 3 belts; one leather, and two that come with cargo pants. I recently found the leather one and decided to wear it, even though it had a small tear in it. Little did I know, this is where I fucked up. The pants I wore were pretty big( I wear a 32 now ; these were like a 38 ), so I put the leather belt on, made sure it was properly fitting, and went on with my day. Fast forward and I go to Kroger's with my mom and sister. I adjust the belt to a firmer grip, and guess what? The fucking belt rips in half.In.Public. Instantly, I'm embarrassed as Hell being that these pants are kinda big and falling off my waist with each movement(My wallet+Cellphone+ plus other stuff in my pockets makes it worse)I decide to place one hand in my pants pocket as holder or something of that nature. We take an unexpected trip to Wal-Mart and here's where Fail #2 happens. As we go through self check-out, I'm desperately trying to not let my pants fall to the floor in public. As I'm helping my mom to place stuff in bags with one hand, I knock over 3 boxes of candy, and like walking into church late, everybody zeroes in on me like no mercy. I quickly pick up the candy, grab the bags, and head to the car. \n\nThank God I got outta there quick enough.", "summary": "I wore a belt that rips and knocked over boxes of candy."}
{"id": "t3_1j4yz9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20F] am having some trouble getting over some stuff my \"bf\" [25M] did when we were going through a rough patch.", "post": "We've been \"together\" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much  back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. \n\nTomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda  icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his?\n\nI really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually.", "summary": "How do I trust that just because the setting is the same, it doesn't mean the events will take place again?"}
{"id": "t3_1s7zha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my BF [19 M] - I think he's being kind of a brat about christmas gifts", "post": "So I'll make this as short as possible: my boyfriend of about 2 years and I were discussing what we wanted for christmas. He asked what I wanted and I said I liked surprises but showed him a few styles of necklaces I liked on etsy (being very careful that they weren't super expensive, all about 20-40$ because we are both college students and can't really be spending a ton)\n\nI asked him what he wanted and he said the only thing he wanted was a mandolin. Well, that's pretty expensive so I asked if there was anything else he wanted (hoping it was something more affordable) He was like well I want (blank very expensive guitar) guitar but that is kind of a lot of $  but I also want a mandolin which would be less expensive.\n\nSo whatever. He links me to the kind of mandolin he wants on musiciansfriend and the cheapest with reasonably good ratings is 150$ wtf. I know its not a TON for a musical instrument but I'm 19 and a college freshman and I have a hard time justifying 150$ on a present for just 1 person. But I really wanted to make him happy and I feel like he'll be disappointed if I got him anything else so I pretty much I decided I'd get it. But when we were talking tonight, he was talking about how he's going to ask his mother for the very expensive guitar. (she will probably get it for him, knowing her) I felt super fucking hurt. I don't know why, I guess its because if I'm spending 150$ to make his christmas, but he's getting a $500-600+ guitar on the same damn christmas--- I'm going to feel pretty insignificant. And it seemed douchey for him to even ask me for something that expensive quite honestly, and not really give me other ideas/options. Usually he is a very sweet guy and I love him.\nBut I don't know if I'm just being touchy and stupid? Am I? Or is he just being greedy?", "summary": "BF asked me for $$$ christmas gift (I'm in college). I feel like he's being greedy."}
{"id": "t3_2zl335", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my best friend [23/F] of 6 years, she smells bad and wears my clothes.", "post": "I've been friends with Lisa since high school. She came from a troubled household and still lives there. Her parents chain smoke, they have birds they don't clean up after, and her house smells like nothing I've ever smelled before. The first time I went inside I actually gagged.\n\nNow here's the problem: We're such close friends that she feels entitled to my closet since I have a lot of nice things and she doesn't. However, even when she returns my clothes washed, they smell like her house. Even if she wears a shirt of mine for a night out, when she gives it back at the end of the night I need to wash it immediately. \n\nShe doesn't know she stinks, because she's so used to the smell. She does wear perfume, but it only amplifies the smell because they're so different. \n\nShe also has a habit of borrowing my things for months at a time and forgetting she has them. When she wears things that need to be dry cleaned only, should I give her the bill? She doesn't have a lot of money. And before you say I shouldn't let her borrow anything again, I've tried, and she gets hurt, saying stuff like \"But I'd let you borrow anything you want, why is it a big deal?\" \"This is what best friends do\" etc. \n\nAnd FWIW, even if she sits in my car for over a half an hour, the seats retain the smell. It's that awful.", "summary": "Should I tell my best friend that she stinks/stop borrowing my stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_2k3kj1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] don't know if I should stay with my ex girlfriend[17], or how I should forget about what she did.", "post": "So I started dating my ex girlfriend almost 2 years ago, December 11th.  Anyways, We started dating and we hit if off pretty well. Everything was going very well and we had a happy healthy relationship, but we ended it during the fall of the new year because I had trust issues with her going to \"get together of friends\" which were just parties. She ended up making out with a dude there, and she said the reason nothing else happened was because she was on her period. \n\nWe were split up for about 9 months until I saw her over the 4th of July weekend and we starting talking again. We said we were both sorry for what happened and we wanted to start fresh. \n\nSo we've been talking for a few months now again and I've found out about multiple partners that she was with right after we broke up... Around 6 to be exact, and also 3 before me. I don't think I want to be with someone that is 17 and had sex with 10 people. I know that may seem ignorant, or whatever... But I just feel sort of cringeworthy when I think about it. What should I do?", "summary": "version"}
{"id": "t3_nbr6l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "ok, so i found a baby bat on the street", "post": "I was walking home and i noticed something small moving in the dark, it was a baby bat, skinny as hell if you ask me, but i think that's only because it's a baby, I hang around for a while watching it, it tried to fly a few times but only got like 5cm high, then it started walking towards the street, I tried to stop it and it crawled up my leg, i awwed and put it in my backpack, I don't know if I made the right choice, maybe its mother was around or something, but I feared it would get killed pretty soon, so yeah, now he's crashing at my guinea pig's house, i left him a little cap with milk, but it wont even notice it, it doesn't move much.\n\nFrom where I'm from (Rosario, Argentina) there's only the bug eating kind of bat, I think he's too young to eat that stuff anyway\n\n[Pic here!](\n\nI'm naming it Batmanuel", "summary": "how do I feed a baby bat?"}
{"id": "t3_317qij", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Booking photographers late in the game?", "post": "My SO and I thought we really lucked out when it came to photography for our 5/22/15 wedding. His uncle is a photographer who has previously shot multiple weddings, including my future in-laws wedding. We asked him if he would be our photographer and we would compensate for travel, lodging, time, etc and he said yes.\n\nThen we find out last night that he can't get time off of work and can't come to the wedding at all. Back to square one :/\n\nSo my question is, have any of you had success booking photographers at the last minute? Any tips? One thing going in our favor is that we're having a short, intimate, Friday morning wedding which might help with availability.", "summary": "Need photographer in less than two months"}
{"id": "t3_ocpm2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most excruciating pain you've ever been in?", "post": "I'll begin, of course.  \n\nWhen I was 15 years old, I went to Ottawa in the summertime to visit an old friend of mine. Everything was going fine, until we went about an hour out of town to visit a mutual friend of ours. After we met with her and made awkward small talk with her parents, we left to get some ice cream.  \n\nOn the way back, my buddy started doing crazy leaps off of things (whether he was trying to impress her or just being insane, I still don't know), and being the impressionable young teen that I was, I decided to emulate him. It worked out fine until we came to this ditch. My buddy, being part orangutan, scaled it perfectly. I made it most of the way across, but landed on my left leg, snapping it. The sound it made was akin to a tree branch snapping, and very audible. I wasn't sure what had happened at first, until I tried to move my leg and couldn't.  \n\nThey called an ambulance and I was embarrassingly lifted onto a board and carried inside. The pain was so intense that I couldn't do anything but scream in agony at the top of my lungs, but not so intense that I could pass out. The next 30 minutes or so were a blur of pure writhing agony as we hit every bump on the way to the hospital.  \n\nBecause I wasn't 18, they decided to take me to a children's hospital first. They wanted to give me some anesthetic while they tried to pop my leg back into place. Let me tell you, children's anesthetic doesn't knock you out when you're a teenager, it just trips you the fuck out. Just imagine a bunch of Alice in Wonderland type imagery before you with the occasional jolt of unimaginable pain.  \n\nEventually they got me to a real hospital, put my leg in a cast, and my condition was upgraded from 'terrible' to 'not great'.", "summary": "I broke my leg being stupid in front of friends, was in complete fiery agony until I got to a children's hospital, where I was in a combination of Alice in Wonderland and immense pain.  "}
{"id": "t3_32wqx7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by possibly having my friend sent to Arabia.", "post": "So, my friends a muslim, though he's not constantly telling us to not eat pig, or disgracing gays or anything. He's a cool dude, anyway, I decided to pull a prank on him with his iPod 5. It started with me having his iPod because he trusted me with it and I was in another class because of electives. Anyway, i'm sure most of you know Kik. His iPod didn't have wifi so if I sent any messages with, it wouldn't get sent until he did connect to wifi. So I decided to pull a prank on him, I messaged quite a few girls saying he had a crush on them and then messaged a few of his muslim friends saying that he was gay. I then changed his iPod's password to lets say 4088. And disabled it for 15mins, after class (this was the last class of the day) I told him two possible passwords, which was 4088, and another random password. I told him if he got the password wrong then it would be disabled for 60mins, and if he got it right, well, yeah. Also if he got it right he would start getting notifications of his kik message not being sent. So i hoped he got it wrong. Anyway. With 5mins of being disabled left we both left school and he went on his way with his iPod. This was monday and now it's 8pm Friday (I'm Aussie) and he hasn't been at school since and none of my friends have gotten any word from him. Hopefully he wasn't sent to Arabia to get hanged ;-;. Riperino Frienderino.", "summary": "Possibly sent my friend to Arabia to get hanged. ;-;"}
{"id": "t3_2oqz7j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mishandling hard drive failure", "post": "About a week ago I noticed my computer suddenly slowed down considerably. A while after that, I got a helpful Windows warning that my hard drive is approaching failure.  \n\nWell, I backed up my most important documents and went to look for a new hard drive. Since I was feeling very lazy that day, I decided to buy my new drive and have my old drive's image copied onto it -- mostly because I didn't feel like reinstalling everything and downloading all of my media files again. I also have a bunch of obscure Japanese games and I didn't know where their save data was located, and recreating some of the save states would have been somewhat time-intensive. So basically, I didn't have to copy over the old image but it seemed convenient.  \n\nUnfortunately the two reputable shops near where I live don't provide image copy services, so I ended up going to a crappier shop who said he'll have it ready by tomorrow. Since he didn't carry the brand of HDD I wanted, I compromised and just bought what he offered (the price wasn't even that good), we agreed on a price for the copying service and I left my drive there.\n\nThat happened a week ago. I got my drive back today, and he copied over everything except for the Media partition (which contained everything I wanted to avoid replacing in the first place) and the Boot partition because who the fuck needs one of those, right?  \n\nSo not only did I end up with a drive that's not as good as what I wanted, but now I'm going to have to take care of the boot partition issue *and* either download half a tera of media files or copy them over from my old drive that is so far gone by now that its transfer speed that is measured in kilobytes half the time. And I paid for that whole operation, too.", "summary": "Was too lazy to buy a blank drive and transfer my old media myself, so I paid some random asshole who did a lousy job and caused me to wait an entire week only to discover I'll have to do it myself anyway. Also ended up with an inferior drive and, for some inexplicable reason, no boot partition."}
{"id": "t3_3kysrl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my polish[21 F] Long distance relationship questions.", "post": "We worked together at a summer camp for three months and were messing around with no expectations of the future. Towards the end, it turns out that we really clicked with each other and decided to try out the LTR thing.\n\nI am a college student in california and she is in university in poland. The distance and time shift makes things difficult.\n\nIt was going really well with frequent communication over the past few weeks as she was traveling around america. I'm not sure how the future is going to end with the school year starting for her. She doesn't seem to be responding as often as she was in america. (I think she just got back home today)\n\nBasically, I just wanted to get some feedback. In this stage, should I be sending her gifts and messaging her frequently? Or rather should I give her some time to decompress and wait for her to message me? I don't want to be desperate and mess things up by being too available and such.", "summary": "Polish girlfriend is in poland and I don't want to be clingy."}
{"id": "t3_olxme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Preemptive End to A Relationship", "post": "So my SO and I have been dating for three years. All was well and good until we graduate University. We almost moved in together but due to finances, I could not. I continued my education while my SO moved into the work force. \n\nNow that I am half way through my secondary degree I am looking at taking a year off to work abroad (I have a job opportunity through my part-time job which will be offered to me upon completion of my education). We have discussed what would happen once I do decide to leave and have come to the conclusion that we would most likely remain friends but see other people. The problem is now there is a relatively real expiration date to our relationship. \n\nHas anyone else dealt with this previously? And if so, how did you work through it to enjoy the time you still had together?", "summary": "My SO and I have come to understand that in a year, we'll probably be breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_180vk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I 20/M date my supposed soulmate's friend 19/F, or should I wait until Supposed Soulmate 19/F while things subside with her current boyfriend 22/M?", "post": "I've been in love with girl X since as long as I can remember.\nDistance with girl X was always a problem. She always seemed to be the ying to my yang.\nGirl X is in a relationship with a guy much older than her, and always takes things way too fast with guys and has come on to me while she has been with these dudes. The dude she's dating- Dude Z, seems like a good dude, but he's about to study abroad in Timbuktue.\nDude Z is a senior about to graduate... so I can tell things might seem rocky soon.\n\nDude Z and her have been dating for about 7 months. \nI recently moves to PennBrook University from SouthernU, and I had always wanted to have her.\nGirl Y is her best friend, she is more like me in a lot of ways. Very self-aware and in touch with her feelings/moral (also like girl X)\nI could best describe both girls as fairly innocent and fragile. I don't want to hurt her if I end up getting together with girl X eventually.\nI really don't know what to do, I like girl Y a lot, but I don't want to \"Use her\" by making girl X Jealous...\nWhat to do reddit?", "summary": "I am a 19 y/o Male in love with a 19 y/o F who has had a  22 y/o boyfriend for 7 months and things will most likely break off. Could I date her 19 y/o Female friend without hurting her feelings, or should I wait around for her relationship to end."}
{"id": "t3_2uoyhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my S/O? [19 F] just started seeing each other (1week) and i need your help.", "post": "So i met this girl a week back and got her number, it was all good, we had this \"first date\" where we ate together and did those questions rounds and all.\n\nMy worst weakness is that i overthink stuff and i care too much.\n\nMy friend told me to act like i'm busy or such and just wait for her to come to me in this early stages of a relationship.\n\nMy friend knows a good deal about relationships that way, and also cuz she's a girl..well yea.\n\nbottom line is that i don't want that kind of relationship, i wanna be honest that i like this girl and i wanna do more than knock around the bend *do they even say that?* and show her who i really am.", "summary": "I'm too caring for this girl, should i tell her that or just act \"busy?\" "}
{"id": "t3_1kgoru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F] 24 make my boyfriend [24] feel wanted?", "post": "It accidentally came out that I had to force myself to have sex with him. Clearly he was upset. So how can I make him feel wanted? Or desired? We have been together 5 years. I can keep up with the forced sex but he tells me he doesn't want it if its forced. But I don't know what else to do.\n\nBasically the other night we were attempting to have sex and I wasn't really into it at all. So I told him to stop touching me. But then I felt bad and so tried to initiate sex with him. And then just pulled away from him. Saying that it wasn't working tonight. In the end I just told him how I basically have to force myself to have sex with him. \n\nNormally I just have to force myself when we first start doing anything and then after a while I start to not hate it. \n\nAnyway I don't know how to make him feel better about this. \nI also posted this on askmen earlier and someone said to ask on here.\n\nAlso can anyone please try to explain why you want/need/like sex. People on askmen were saying that it is very important in a relationship. But I just cant understand this. All I can see is that people do it for pleasure and that just makes me feel sick. \n\nSorry for so many questions, but i'll appreciate any advice.", "summary": "Told bf that I have to force myself to have sex with him. He was hurt by what I said. How do I make him feel better."}
{"id": "t3_i2n21", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with Homework? Need someone with HR experience", "post": "Hey guys I have a group assignment and having a really hard time finishing it. I basically had to contact two companies in the same industry with 50+ employees and ask them two questions. If any of you have any experience that would help you answer these two interview questions that would really help a lot. Please find it in your hearts to lend a hand to a fellow redditor in need. \n\nQuestion 1:\nHow does your company analyze jobs and develop job descriptions. What approaches(methods) are used to gather information needed to create a job description?)\n\nQuestion 2: How is the job data collected help your company make HRM decisions? (in other words, how do companies use their job descriptions)? \n\nThank you guys so much and let me know if theirs anything I can help you with if you live in the Buffalo area.", "summary": "Need help with homework, Someone in HR or knowledge of HR, 2 questions"}
{"id": "t3_s4710", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My father wrote me a letter about how much of a failure I am: what should I do?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nI recieved [this letter] from my father today, who wrote it a year ago, and decided to give it to me today.\n\nMy question is: what the hell do I do with that.\n\nPlease note: my wife (of 7 years) is not disabled. We have a healthy relationship. I have some old friends I no longer associate with for various reasons. I have a good job, make plenty of money, am a volunteer firefighter, foster carer and I'm generally fulfilled.", "summary": "my dad thinks I fail at life."}
{"id": "t3_1azov5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am getting sick of my mom's shit regarding my boyfriend [19M].", "post": "I didn't want to post this anywhere else. I'm devastated. I'm absolutely frazzled over why she does not wrap her head around me being capable of making good decisions. I'm 17. I get it. But I'm not an indignant teenager. \n\nI'm in my 7th month of a relationship with someone wonderful. He is absolutely fantastic to me, treats me perfectly, and I love him with everything in me. I have a boyish demeanor and personality. I'm one of the guys. I could refer to multiple instances in which my status was confirmed, but that's not the point here.", "summary": "Is it in any way a \"red flag\" if my SO agrees that gender-swapping is fucking hot? Before answering, go back and read the damn post."}
{"id": "t3_hxkhu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Freshman 15= Bad body image.", "post": "Hey r/loseit! \n\nI'll start off with a little background. I'm 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I'm 5' 8' and around 180 pounds. I just finished my freshman year and couldn't escape the dreaded freshman 15, and it's really effecting my self image. I've got love handles and a gut now, which looks really awkward, because I've always been kind of a little guy. At the beginning of freshman year I was down to around 150 pounds, but I wasn't eating very well because of a bad break up. \n\nI'd like to lose the weight, but I'm not really sure how. I work 40+ hours a week, and Im on my feet all day, so it's not like I'm leading a very sedentary lifestyle. When it comes to exercise, I can't really run because of nagging ankle problems. And as for diet, I'm a former high school wrestler, so the only way I know how to lose weight is to crash diet, and I'm never do that again. \n\nSo, can anyone offer some tips to get my weight down? Or atleast shave off some of this unwanted girth?", "summary": "Gained the freshman 15, would like to make it go away."}
{"id": "t3_42ynpa", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My confession: I [26M] have been a catfish and a real fish for the past 2 years while in a relationship [28F]", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my GF for 5 years. For the past 2 years or so, I have maintained fake and real profiles on various dating sites. \n\nMy initial reason was sexual - I got off on receiving lewd photos of women. After a while it became more personal. I got lonely and being a catfish allowed me to talk to people, feel appreciated and valued.  \n\nFor the past year it's been nothing more than friendly chats. I have never once met any of the women I messaged, nor have ever sent lewd photos back. I often stated my true relationship status in profiles so as not to deceive anyone at the outset.\n\nStill, I have broken many women's hearts and angered even more. Most people don't want to be pen pals indefinitely and want to meet, and that's when I have to bow out. I have also helped some women through difficult times in their lives.\n\nMy GF has been unaware of my doings. Over the course of our relationship we have gone from great to horrible to just mildly bad, and we've stayed mildly bad for the better part of a year. Just little to no sexual intimacy and decreasingly less emotional intimacy. We're essentially just roommates at this point. We're not happy but we're comfortable sometimes.\n\nWe stay together because I'm afraid to be alone, and I'm not very desirable. I would likely be totally alone without her. I'm a scumbag and I know it. It's impossible for an outsider to believe, but we still do care about each other. \n\nOur outlook is not positive. This is a train crashing at glacial speeds. The reason I confess all this is so I'll feel bad about myself. If I receive enough abuse I might have the courage to end the relationship and myself if necessary.", "summary": "relationship for 5 years, used dating profiles for 2"}
{"id": "t3_1lue1l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are your experiences with breaking up with an SO you still loved because you thought it was best for them?", "post": "I met my girlfriend during the first day of high school around this time four years ago. We became best friends and eventually started dating. We've been a couple for a little bit more than a year now.\n\nI'm a really shy guy. I don't have a really outgoing personality and I can enjoy my time alone. My girlfriend is very outgoing and she's already gone to a ton of parties and she's only been in college for 2 weeks. She plans on joining a sorority and everything.\n\nOver the course of her first two weeks in college, she's told me that she's turned away 3 guys already and has gotten drunk several times. But last night, she told that she accidentally kissed a guy while she was drunk on Sunday night.\n\nI try not to think too much about it since she said it was an accident, but the thought that I'm not the best for her keeps coming to mind. She has guys coming to her and she's always out and about while I don't really like crowds or flirt much. I've been thinking that maybe I'm holding her back from finding someone that's more like her and has more in common with her. I still love her, but maybe I'm not the best guy for her.", "summary": "I guess what I'm looking for in this thread are experiences and advice from anyone who broke up with someone they still loved because they wanted what they think is best for their now ex."}
{"id": "t3_3ov26y", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Binge Eating Disorder??", "post": "My weight has fluctuated significantly for the majority of my life. I've always contributed it to my love of food. I recently talked to my sister who recommended a book about mindful meditation for binge eating. As I started reading the book (within the first three paragraphs) I realized that my poor relationship with food has more to do with binge eating disorder than just enjoying food. I go through weight cycling (periods of excessive binging followed by periods of restrictive dieting). I've been in \"binge mode\" now for a couple of weeks and today I feel myself coming out of it. I'm trying to be more mindful about why/when I binge. \n\nI eat when I'm not hungry, eat quickly until I'm sick, eat alone, feel like I can't stop eating once I've started, and ultimately hide the evidence so no one will know. My frequent binges have caused me to leave the house infrequently, become depressed, guilty and anxious after a binge. Honestly this book that I have started reading has made me realize that this disorder is significant; it actually has a medical diagnosis and is considered a mental health disorder. I learned there is a major difference between overeating and binging uncontrollably.", "summary": "I think I have binge eating disorder and am looking for suggestions/support from people in the same situation."}
{"id": "t3_1wzjja", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "23, graduating in may, question about amazon card and what i should be doing with my finances now", "post": "I have $2,363.74 on my Amazon card and have been making about $200/month payments. According to my latest statement, making $99/month payments it will take 3 years to pay off. I didn't know what I was doing when I got this card, and I definitely over-spent (my ignorance, they approved me for $2500). The reasoning for why I spent that much is irrelevant for this discussion. I'm wondering if there's a better option for me to pay this off, like transfer the balance to a different credit card with a lower interest rate than 26%.\n\nI've done a lot of reading on this sub and it's triggered me to get my finances into shape. I don't want to live paycheck to paycheck any more and the feeling of debt looming over me isn't a good one. I setup Mint last month and began tracking my expenses. At the end of last month I set some reasonable budgets and this month is my test run to stay in it. Before I was just flying blind, spending if I had money and cutting back if I didn't. What should I be looking into to make sure I'm financially organized? I've read a lot about roth ira's here and I'm really curious if I should look into that yet.\n\nI'm 23, 5th year in college. I have about $33k of student loan debt so before I leave school (graduate) this May the last thing I want is to have interest piling up from an Amazon card while I'm making payments on my student loans. I bring in about $600/month working an on-campus job while I take classes. I'm completely maxed out for work hours (25hrs/week due to the new Obamacare rules) so that's the most I can work / make a month.", "summary": "should I (can I?) transfer amazon store card balance to a lower-interest card, and what else should I be educated on at this point of my life financially?"}
{"id": "t3_2whex6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] with my Fiance [31 F] for 5 years, Thinks I work too much in school in order to have a job to support our future", "post": "We have been running a business together while I have been in school which has been great.  We make around 48k a year, but in Southern California that isn't a lot.  I am in school for a Bachelors degree which could get me a job out of college around 35-45k a year while she runs the business getting about 35-50K a year.  70-95K a year sounds good to me.\n\nThe problem is between school, my internship, and running our business I do not have a lot of time to devote to our relationship or I do not make good enough use of the time we have.  \n\nMy theory is when I graduate(in three months), I won't have my internship or school and can devote more time to my work, our business, and the relationship which has been great all along till now.\n\nIt is just now she is hating how much work I have to put into to something I am striving for (for the last ten years) where she already has a thriving business and graduated college.  \n\nMy goal now is for a corporate position making 300K a year(long term).  She doesn't think the work/time is worth it(seeing how we already make a living wage). \n\nWhat do I do before we get married to clear this up.", "summary": "I guess I work too much between school, my internship, and running our business and have goals that require time to build. How do I explain my goals to her or how can I use my time better?!"}
{"id": "t3_3lc17x", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Kent county, Michigan) - Some questions regarding security deposit and court fees/dates", "post": "So I posted [this] about security deposit a few days ago.\n\nToday, my old landlord got back to me and said that renting a dumpster and moving things is considered a damage. Is that true?\n\nAlso, when a landlord sends the list of deductions to the tenant, those are projected costs, correct? Because I know the landlord has already rented the dumpster and spent the money to move items out. It was my understanding that they get quotes for all repairs and damages, then have the work done after the security deposit is all settled. Am I incorrect?\n\nBefore we moved out, but after they had given us 30 days to move out, they came and charged us $150 for lawn maintenance. That's something they had never done in 2 years living there. When I called to dispute it, they said, \"We'll just take it out of your security deposit.\" Is that legal?\n\nLastly, if this goes to a small claims court case, what are some typical fees that I as the tenant would be responsible for?\n\nThanks so much, /r/legaladvice. I really like this sub.", "summary": "Can a landlord charge lawn care (from before we moved out), dumpster rental and moving costs to clean out a house to the security deposit? Also, what are some fees associated with a security deposit case?"}
{"id": "t3_1b122n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are my parents being reasonable here, or completely unreasonable?", "post": "My girlfriend (17) is coming to a city 3 hours away from mine all the way from another country, just to visit me for the first time in ages. Shes coming with her mother, and has 2 rooms, one for her mother, one for her and myself, which in turn means I dont have to pay for the visit at all (hotels expensive, low on money due to dumb stuff). Im 17 myself, and I told my parents about my girlfriend coming and how I must go etc. \n\nThe deal is my parents never met my girlfriend when she last came (we became a couple after she had left) and they dont know her mom, therefore theyre not letting me go on the grounds that they dont know what could happen if I go, they think her mom can potentially be a killer or something, and this has upset me to no end, as thats the only thing ive asked for in ages, to be happy with my girl.", "summary": "Girlfriend (17) coming with her mom to tourist place (3 hours away from my city) from another country, parents wont let me go on the grounds they dont know her family and that it could be very dangerous for me, as well as not approving me sleeping in her room alone."}
{"id": "t3_2pp5ye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend won't propose", "post": "My boyfriend (27m) and I (29f) have been together for over a year. We live together and are very much in love. We talk about marriage and babies constantly. But he's reluctant to propose.\n\nHe isn't a commitment-phobe or a player or anything negative. His issue isn't me or marriage. His issue is his family and the wedding.\n\nHe would happily march me down to city hall today and make me his wife. But he is terrified of having a wedding with guests. He hasn't met any of my family due to geography (my immediate family lives on a different continent) and he just isn't close with his family at all. The sad truth of the matter is that he probably won't meet most of my family until our wedding (if that ever happens) just because of where everyone lives. This makes him nervous...understandably so.\n\nI am extremely close with my family. I can't get married without having them there. They'd be devastated. And not just my parents and sister. I have aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins who would all want and expect be there. He, on the other hand, wants only his parents and sister there. He doesn't want his extended family or my extended family to attend. He doesn't even really understand why my stepmother needs be invited. \n\nI don't know what to do. I love him tremendously. He's amazing in every way so I have no desire to break up with him. But I want to take the next step in our relationship. I want to move forward. How am I suppose to handle this? \n\nAbd before anyone says it, staying unmarried isn't an option because he won't agree to have kids until we're married and not having babies isn't an option. I definitely want kids.", "summary": "boyfriend won't propose because he doesn't wasn't a wedding with extended family as guests."}
{"id": "t3_4ahuha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] told my friend [22 M] to not date a girl [22 F] who is a single mom to 3 kids.", "post": "my friend is kind of impressionable and sort of looks up to me. I honestly think I convinced him to break it off with this girl. The way I see it is that there are plenty of other great girls out there that don't come with kids. Each kid is a Lamborghini's cost spread over 20+ years I told him.\n\nNow I'm wondering if I was wrong to tell him to break it off...she seems like a lovely person. And they were not dating or anything, just exchanged numbers, dinner once or twice, and a couple get togethers. \n\nI advised him to break it off with her as a \"rational\" choice. I told him he would never love those kids as much as his own kids...but I do now see that that is **my** reaction not his. Am I a horrible person? Would any of you date a girl with 3 kids at the age of 22?", "summary": "told my friend he should end a relationship with a girl for one reason: she had 3 kids."}
{"id": "t3_3ccivt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She (20f) thinks that sleeping with two other women is not cheating on me (20m).", "post": "Reddit I'm lost, she told me she got drunk and had sex with two other women. I told her i wasn't OK with that since it's cheating. She then snidely added, \"if you slept with two other guys I wouldn't care\" and I tried to explain that that wasn't the point, the point was she made a commitment to me and she broke that commitment by cheating in me. She still says it's not cheating because she was with other girls. Am I right in saying it's cheating or am I just going crazy? Also what should I tell her to knock some sense into her head?", "summary": "she slept with two women and is trying to say she didn't cheat on me because they were women. Am I right or is she? And good argument to get some sense into her head?"}
{"id": "t3_n0s19", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My brother his having brain surgery.  What would you do in my situation?", "post": "About 6 years ago my brother herniated his brain when weight lifting.  It was a long recovery, but eventually he got through it.  A few weeks ago, he started having horrible headaches.  At first it didn't seem like much, but they started occurring every day and he couldn't carry out any of his normal activities.  He has had a MRI and a CT-scan and it has pointed to a something called Chiari.  This means that part of his brain is pressing up against his scull and causing horrible pressure.  Right now, the only way for him to relieve this pain is to have brain surgery.  They will remove part of his scull, a small portion on the back of the head.  They also say that they have to remove the first vertebrae and possibly the second.  He is going into surgery Tuesday, December 6.  I know about the surgery and have watched some videos, it doesn't look too bad.  The biggest problem that I am having with this is the rest of his life.  I know that the first two vertebrae are important for head movement.  Plus the only thing protecting the back of his scull is skin.  I am really worried about his future.  I don't know how everything will turn out for him and I really don't want anymore problems for him.  I guess that I am just really scared.  Although, who wouldn't be?  Brain surgery is scary.  What would you do in my situation?  Thanks for any and all who read this!", "summary": "My brother is having brain surgery and will have part of his scull removed.  I am afraid about his future and any complications with the surgery."}
{"id": "t3_359uqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Quasi-FWB between me [25/F] and friend [25/M] is doomed, right?", "post": "2 years ago a friend of 3 yrs started hitting on me, proposing a FWB situation and being very clear on the boundaries. At first I declined because I'm not very experienced so I felt like he could find someone else. I gradually became more accustomed to the idea so basically in the last 2 years I've been in a quasi-FWB situation. We fooled around several times but he was always the one to get off. He never pressured me into sex or expected it, which was nice.\n\nBut when I wanted to start fooling around more and was ready to have sex with him he was never in the mood or wouldn't respond. He's said that his arousal comes and goes for him, I think partially because of emotional baggage from his last relationship. It just made me feel used. Being sexually and emotionally frustrated sucks, but we've talked a lot about the issue without any formal resolution. Some things got resolved, but not everything. I felt less used because he was really open and honest and vulnerable with me.\n\nSomething that has somewhat complicated things is that I started to develop a crush on him. It lasted about a month and we talked about it. I am over it now because a relationship with him is unrealistic and not what I'm looking for but I do get a little jealous when I see other girls flirting with him (I usually just walk away in that situation). But as far as I know he hasn't hooked up with anyone since we've been fooling around.\n\nThis is just a mess of a situation I should just walk away from, right? Our friendship seems to be fine. But the next time he's in the mood, I'm just not going to engage. Because our relationship is really unbalanced and it's kind of not fair to me in my opinion.", "summary": "Friend has lower libido than I do and our FWB situation isn't benefiting me so it's not worth it, y/n?"}
{"id": "t3_3o5kd9", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Worried about my friend from a neighboring uni flunking out", "post": "Last year I got myself and my friend into the game, League of Legends. That entire year we both did terribly, and while neither of us flunked out, we were both put on a sort of warning. While we are studying the same major ( he switched over from bio engineering to software engineering last year) we go to different universities. Even though our unis are only about 30 minutes apart, it's a stretch to take a bus to study together. \n\nI have completely dumped league ( and all of the other games i used to play ) but my friend seems to be playing it a whole lot. He told me he's been really sick lately, and though i for the most part believe him, i can't help but wonder how he can still work at hist job, assignments, and still have time to binge on league like he does while being sick on top of it.\n\nI've always seen him as an extremely intelligent individual, and it's not that i don't think he's capable of managing all of that, he got out of our high school as top of our class and is amazing at math, and really anything he puts his mind to. It is that he only talks about league and whatever fighting game he happens to be obsessed about at the time.\n\nI used to be able to talk to him a lot because we were both interested in video games, but now that i've decided to devote myself entirely to my passion for computer science i feel there is nothing to talk to him about, despite us being in the same major. \n\nI've brought it up by asking him how he's doing and he just says im doing ok in my classes. It's a very automatic reply, and i know he's not telling me what's going on.\n\nI know it's none of my business in the first place, but i don't see how i can let my childhood friend, and sometimes the person i look up to, flunk out of college, especially knowing it was from a game i got him into.", "summary": "Nosey college student fretting about getting a friend irreversibly hooked on league"}
{"id": "t3_qcx7s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "On misunderstandings", "post": "Hello World!\n\nI have been around reddit for a while now (I lurked for a time, judge if you must), so I feel that I have a general understanding of how the hive-mind of reddit works.  I was checking the front page this morning before heading to work when my friend checks the page over my shoulder to see the post about Rush Limbaugh calling Ms. Fike (Women's health advocate) a \"slut\".  He is not a complete imbecile and rightfully finds this to be disturbing, as I do.  He then looked to the left and found that, at the time, the post had gotten 1919 upvotes.  Now I know that upvotes help good posts to the front page so that others may find them and join in the rabble, but it came off to my friend that reddit really liked the Limbaugh sentiment.  Any thoughts on this issue?  Install a \"rabble\" button?", "summary": "Upvotes on posts whose content is disagreeable makes it appear that redditors agree with or \"like\" the content."}
{"id": "t3_5109hy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is Boy X screwed?", "post": "Boy x (me) and girl x are dating, going on 4 years. We had an \"off and back on\" time abkut a year ago (relevant later). Boy and girl x are now happy, boy x got a job transfer to move to the same city after this weekend (labor day) as girl x while she finishes a master's. Girl x is super excited and picking out apartments.\n\nBoy y lives 4-5hours from girl x. They are friends. boy y is visiting girl x for labor day to go hiking, etc, while sleeping on girl X's couch. Boy y and girl x dated once during the \"off and on time\" but nothing came of it. Communication between girl x and boy y is roughly equivalent to boy x, maybe a little less (I mean, they are like 52 days in a row on Snapchat last I saw). Communication with boy x has dropped to almost nothing since (when I assume he got there, idk cus she never told me) boy y arrived. \n\nIs  Boy X screwed?", "summary": "Boy x and girl x are dating. Boy y drove 4-5 hours to spend labor day weekend with girl x while sleeping on her couch. Is Boy X screwed?"}
{"id": "t3_23f6h9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I saw my crush today, and I talked to her. Now I need advice.", "post": "I'm 25. I've had a crush on this girl since junior high and i've always been too terrified to talk to her. I did however manage to talk to her twice senior year of high school but it was completely awkward. I suffer from social anxiety. Anyway I hadn't seen her since then (7 years ago!) because  I didn't attend college after high school. I saw her today and I decided to approach her because the regret I had for not expressing my feelings to her that I've been living with was killing me. So I said fuck and said hi. It was a casual short talk. She was on her way out and her mom was waiting for her so we couldn't chat much. It wasn't that bad. It was the most alive I've felt in years. I didn't want to creep her out by asking for her number though. I've been thinking that maybe if messaging her on Facebook or sending her a friend request is the next move. My mind is made up, I want to tell her how I feel about her. All I know is that I've got to follow my heart. Any suggestions?", "summary": "I saw my crush, talked to her and want to pursue a relationship. Just unsure on how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_4io9ot", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend was raped and it's affecting our relationship.", "post": "I'm gonna make this somewhat vague in the event she sees this so bear with me. \n\nI love my girlfriend very much. And 90 percent of the time, things between us are great. But we have a reoccurring issue of her bringing up me breaking up with her. Essentially, I broke up with her, we remained friends,  and we got back together because I never really stopped loving her.  During the time the we were apart she was raped in a situation she would not have been in had we still been together.  Despite the fact that the breakup was some time ago,  she still brings up how alone and hurt she felt every now and then. \n\nRecently she brought up the point that if I had never broken up with her she wouldn't have gotten raped and she feels this is the reason she can't get over our initial break up. She says she doesn't blame me but I can't help but blame myself for what happened.  I try to be there for her as much as possible and I realize rape isn't something you can just forget, but the fact that it manifests itself in her occasionally guilting me for our break up hurts. And I know she's right that the rape would not have happened if I didnt break up with her. I'm losing sleep over it and even though things are normally good, I just want to know if there's anything i/we can do.", "summary": "girlfriend was raped before we got back together,  I blame myself and she can't stop trying to hurt me about the break up because of it."}
{"id": "t3_33crro", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice getting approved for a student loan with a default?", "post": "Hi everyone. I'm utterly lost and scared shitless.\n\nTo start off:\n\nWhen I was 18, I left an abusive home to go to college in another state. I was told that I could get financial aid if I could submit my fafsa - but after multiple attempts I couldn't get it to go through because my father was blocking me in one way or another. I wasn't aware at the time that I could apply as an independent. In short, I accrued $18,000 in debt from that college which went into collection.\n\nI then returned to my hometown and I've since been attending another institution and received federal student aid - but I took dual-credit classes in high school which didn't contribute to my degree, but ended up counting against my federal credit hours cap so I was denied further federal aid and my appeal wasn't accepted.\n\nNow I'm in my last stretch of my career. I'm in 2 classes right now and I will take 2 classes over the summer and then I'll be able to graduate. But I need to get a loan to pay for this semester and the next and I can't seem to get approved because of the default. \n\nMy plan thus far was to finish college and then start paying off that 18k. There's no way I could pay that loan right now and still afford my living expenses.\n\nIt's been 5 years since the date of the default and I don't know if I should somehow get a loan and let that default reach its 7 year limit (because I don't think it counts as a student loan...) or if I should try to go through a debt repayment agency to get that 18k out of default.", "summary": "Made some bad, poorly-informed decisions when I was 18. Got an 18k default. Not eligible for federal aid. I'm set to graduate in July, but not if I can't get a student loan."}
{"id": "t3_4xaweb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [25f] being judgy?", "post": "Slightly fudged for anonymity.\n\nI'm pretty liberal, except when it comes to a few things. \n\nI pretty much keep to myself about them. They are just opinions that I've formulated after researching both sides for years, and what feels right to me. In other words, it is my personal choice to believe what I believe.\n\nI was in a situation this past year where my friends wanted to do something as a group. I said to count me out, because it goes against one of my beliefs, but that it's cool if they want to. \n\nWhen I said it goes against my personal beliefs, some people got defensive and got into debate mode about why it's OK to do it and so forth. Which is fine. I get it if other people want to do it, I just didn't want to participate in it. I know I could've just gone with the flow, but I didn't feel comfortable being a party to it and I feel like I'm allowed to make that personal choice not to be involved, if I don't want to.\n\nAnyways, since then, I've been told that this is being \"judgy.\" This bothers me, because I hate the feeling of other people judging me, and I wouldn't want others to feel I was being judgy towards them. I think that the people calling me \"judgy\" are just upset that I don't share their same opinions?\n\nAt the same time, I do want to take some time to reflect and see if I'm being judgy or not. Is there a better way to handle situations like this, other than saying you don't want to be part of it?", "summary": "Is it considered being judgy if I don't want to participate in something that goes against my beliefs? How do you handle situations like this?"}
{"id": "t3_2halz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Mom [F/4x] and Step dad [M/5x]. He's a widower and she feels constantly reminded of the past.", "post": "My mom [F/48] got remarried last month to my step dad [M/54]? that she's been with for about two years. He's a widower. His wife passed 6-7 years ago and he has been seemingly comfortable with moving on. The problem stems from the fact that he has teenage children. After their marriage my mother moved into his house with him and his teenage daughter. \n\nFrom what I understand, the daughter likes my mom enough but can't stop talking about her deceased mother. Everything in the house \"reminds her of her mother\" and she constantly brings it up. Because of this, my mom finds herself dreading heading back to the house every night and feels as if the home is not where she belongs. \n\nI talked to her briefly about the subject, but she seems very distraught and I honestly have no idea how to respond to that when she asked what I thought. Any advice? Thanks.", "summary": "Mom moved in with her new husband. His teenage daughter constantly brings up deceased mother making my mom feel unwelcome. (Seemingly unknowingly)"}
{"id": "t3_15nn7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) need help understanding some of the cultural expectations of relationships my (f21) girlfriend has.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now and everything has been going smoothly. She is an international student from China and also the first Asian I have ever dated. She has had some issues in the past with western culture but nothing I have not been able to handle and help her through.\n\nAbout a month back she told me that she find my text message conversations boring. Now these were just general text message conversations. I was not ranting and raving about random topics or anything. I took this as a sign that she may want me to be more flirtatious through texting, but I did not get a response from that. She found it embarrassing more than anything.\n\nI would just like to point out for the record that there is no issue with the sex life as far as I can tell. We are both pretty open about it and if she has an issue she will let me know.\n\nAnyway, when I probed her more about this texting thing she started going on about how I do not give her enough affection. She gave an example \"Like when you wanted us to be on the couch and watch films when you should be with me\" and sort of brings up how it is different to how a Chinese boyfriend would do things.\nNow this is where I start getting confused. In my experience, two people snuggled up on the couch is classed as \"being with\" someone and may lead on to other things if the mood is right. She would not give me a straight answer as to what exactly she wanted me to do with her.\n\nI would greatly appreciate if someone could give me some insight here. If it is a cultural issue, what am I doing wrong. It is sort of frustrating me because I have never had these issues in the past and her lack of explanation leaves me with little to work with. She wants me to take the lead and figure it out alone.", "summary": "Asian gf claims that I don't spend enough time/give enough affection to her even though in my mind I have. Is there some major cultural differences I should know about regarding this?"}
{"id": "t3_2zbbvs", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I think my cousin is selling a bunch of weed...", "post": "throwaway since some family members know my account\n\nSo I'm pretty sure that my cousin is selling weed. By pretty sure I mean that he is almost undoubtedly selling. On his Instagram, he almost only posts pictures of big ass stacks of bills and huge jars of weed.  And buys super expensive stuff in cash.  He lives on campus at school in VT, but his permanent address is in NY. He also doesn't have a job.\n\nWhat should I say to him consequences if he gets caught selling? I feel like I should say something to him as his older cousin but I'm at a loss of what to say other than about what it would do to our grandparents and family.  I also don't know if i should talk to him or his parents since going directly to him would eliminate me being able to go to his parents. I'm at a loss.  I love this kid and don't want to see him end up fucking himself over.\n\nAny advice would be fantastic. Thank you r/legaladvice", "summary": "cousin goes to school in VT, lives in NY, post pictures of his huge jars of weed and fat stacks of bills on his instagram. at a loss of what to say to him/his parents"}
{"id": "t3_1kdbvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[35M] with my _wife__ [32M/F] 7years Caught wife sextexting with collage friend, with strong evidence that they plan to meet up/ have met up in the past. She doesn't know that I know. Sea of emotions what do i do now? XPOST r/askreddit.", "post": "Udate: \n\nThrowaway account. So wife forgot to sign out of her email. Sighs have been there that she is seeing someone else on the side. Trying like mad to lose weight, taking more then usual time to run errands, and a picture of her friend on the bookcase with the America flag next to it, serving in the coast guard, and getting coast guard apparel, like shirts and key chains. So I start to snoop, \n\nWife is taking racy pictures and sending vids of her self stripping and fingering her self to this man. He has sent her one text that implies that maybe breaks one of my arms out while waring a hoodie than maybe I would respect my wife more. She didnt seems to mind that idea. Pure macho shit on his part but the fact my wife is going along with the idea is devastating. \n\nMy wife and I haven't been on the best terms in a while she has had woman issue that according to her hurts her when we have sex. But acrading to him he would never hurst her like i have. I work long hours and it puts a strain on us. We have three kids together. \n\nShe is the only woman i have ever had sex with and has been a awesome mom to at this point can only hope are my kids. I am hurt and completely confused. I know i will get some troll comments, I am hoping that I get at least a few good ones that will lead me down a logical path. Thanks all", "summary": "Wife is sexting a friend with possible past meet ups."}
{"id": "t3_30toa2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28m) watching the love die with my ex (26f)", "post": "I've been on and off with my now ex-gf for a little over a year. She's done everything she can to end the relationship, like traveling around the world for months and now moving out of the country. However, she always comes back. I always come back as well. We're drawn to each other like magnets, even though we fight constantly and are really, really not good for each other.\n\nI guess she'll be gone in a few days and this will all be moot, but its sad to see the love die. I've accepted it, and believe I'll be ok. I believe she'll be the same. We both love each other. But this has been going on for months, the love is dying and its sad.\n\nWe don't know how to not see each other. We constantly hurt each other. And she doesn't deserve me, but since she's moving, I want to see her and enjoy her while she's still here. It's getting harder and harder.\n\nAll I'm wondering, is if anyone has been through this before and knows how to handle it. In my life, I'm extremely good at doing things that are good for me, and avoiding things that aren't. This is the glaring exception. I have a weakness for her and for love and can't shake it. I feel ultimately powerless.", "summary": "Ex is moving, we've broken up, but can't stop seeing each other and hurting each other. Want to know how to be stronger with her and in love in the future."}
{"id": "t3_4g9dvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my friend [25 M], friends for 9 years, rejected him based on lack of physical attraction", "post": "He confessed that he developed feelings for me over time and asked to date him. Basically I love everything about him (we really click in everytihing), but I don't find him physically attractive, (he doesn't turn me off no). Some people say that physical attraction can develop over time if you really love someone emotionally, and he actually kinda said that he didn't find me physically attractive at first but now he really is attracted to me physically too. He took it well, told me that it's not my fault, then asked me if I think this could change over time to which I honestly replied that I don't know for sure, but doubt it. After some time he clearly stated that he's not going to give up on me for now (maybe later when he'll be able to get over me), and told me that he'd like to stay friends for now if I'm fine with it. He also promised that he'll try not to suffer to much, but yeah, I feel him suffering a lot. \n\nHe also told that if physical attraction is really a deal-breaker for me then I shouldn't date him ignoring this fact (only if it would miracliously appeared). Now, I'm really confused, I really want him in my life, I actually started considering the idea of dating him, but I now feel like it will be unfair from me to date him like that. Also staying friends really hurts him, he doesn't show it at all, but I just feel it.", "summary": "Rejected friend based on lack of physical attraction, now started doubting whether it is really that important(for me)"}
{"id": "t3_3iy88v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25] broke up with my girlfriend [25] of 8 months and now feel horrible", "post": "I think I just need to get this off my chest and any comments would be appreciated. I broke up with my girlfriend of 8 months who is a single mother to a 9 year old. I feel absolutely terrible for a few reasons. The main one being I was a coward and never told her that I was starting to not feel the same way about her as she did me, or discuss things about the relationship I wanted to change with her. So the break up came out of the blue for her but for me I had been going over it in my head for about a month.  Now I feel sad, upset and miss her which I hadn't felt for a month. Is it just me being to nice and not wanting to have caused someone grief? I guess since I made the decision I have to live with it and let her go.", "summary": "Broke up with my gf but never discussed why before hand, now I feel sad and upset. Is this normal ?."}
{"id": "t3_24y49e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is there any non-hurtful way to say this? me [24/m] and her [21/m]", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about a month and a week or so.  Since meeting her, things have progressed rather quickly.  I was feeling the buzz that a blossoming relationship brings but as of late, I feel drained.  I do like her, but I see her all the time now.  I promised myself I wouldn't neglect my friends (since that is what typically happens to me when I get into a relationship) but I really haven't seen much of them since dating her.  I still want to date her and see where this leads, but I want to see my friends too.  Basically, I want to be able to tell her that \"I want to see my friends\" without her translating that and hearing \"I want to see less of you\".", "summary": "Is there any way I can tell my girlfriend that I want to see a little less of her WITHOUT hurting her?  I want to see her... but not every day.  Maybe even the majority of my week!  But not every day."}
{"id": "t3_10u6c3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'[m] (21) breaking up with my girlfriend (22). Should I let her believe I'm a bad guy?", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 weeks. She has been through so much heartache and bad times in her life. This girl is in love with me because of how well I treat her, but unfortunately I just don't feel the same way, and there are many reasons that we just can't work out.\n\nShould I let her believe I don't care about her? Will it make getting over me easier? This is the second time I've ever had to do this.\n\nI do really care about her, and I would love to remain friends with her, but I just want her to be happy, and I don't know whether or not if she knows I truly care about her, whether she will be in more pain after the break up.\n\nPlease help me.", "summary": "need breakup advice."}
{"id": "t3_ud54y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do invisible people take invisible shits?", "post": "Firstly I don't know much about invisibility so excuse me for any incorrect facts I state, please correct me if so. However this is a question that has been bothering me for like\u2026 15 seconds. \n\nI have seen some films where people turn invisible and conveniently their clothes are able to do the same. Additionally there are other instances of invisibility concerning inanimate objects using 'cloaking' methods. There are many different ideas which amazingly include the idea to reflect/bend light around a transparent object. Also you cannot forget Bond's invisible Aston Martin utilizing tiny cameras on all sides of the car to project data on LED's which cover the vehicle. \n\nHowever, I am most interested in where invisibility can occur naturally due to the biology of change resulting in the being having to disrobe to attain their full potential of being completely invisible. This is my favourite invisible concept.\n\nThough it got me thinking...\n\nNow, I am aware that DNA is present in faecal matter as during excretion, cells from the lining of the rectum tend to slough off which contain DNA. Furthermore, faecal matter has a large amount of bacteria in it also containing DNA. \n\nSo if we assume that the invisibility trait is found IN one's DNA, can we also deduce that faecal matter be produced in an invisible state?\n\n______", "summary": "if invisible people have invisibility in their DNA do they take invisible shits?"}
{"id": "t3_u3qks", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a career path. At a loss for what field to enter into. Advice greatly appreciated.", "post": "So here's the low down. I'm 27 years old and a resident of Chicago-land area. Right now I am working for a major retailer, which I won't mention by name but I'm guessing once this is read it will be easy to guess. For four years I've been employed at said company. This was my first retail/sales job.\n\nAt first I started out as a seasonal hire, but was retained as a part time hire for hourly pay. As I proved myself and did well, I was eventually hired full time. Once more as time passed, I was given the position of specialist for my department. Shortly afterwards I was given the opportunity to venture into a commission department in the company. Just as I've done in the other department, I've proven to shine.\n\nWhile at the company, I've been given a lot of praise. All of my managers have looked at me as an example of a good sales person, and associate. I've even gotten praise, and a letter from the district manager. Beside inside praise, I've also gotten compliments from customers. The company I work for bought out and replaced a long time staple of Chicago. Customers and Chicago residents felt alienated when my current employer took over. I've had many of these alienated customers say I've given them reason to shop at this company. Letters have been written, calls have been made by customers to give praise of how I treat them.\n\nFor awhile I wanted to move into management at my company; now I'm not sure. I feel I might be wanting to go into management for the wrong reasons. I love working with people, but I'm not really sure if I even want to remain in sales. I do enjoy sales, but I'm not 100% sold on this being my career. Before this job I only went to college for a year with a Premed major. Originally I wanted to go into psychiatry, but felt the weight might be too heavy on my shoulders with the stories I'd have to hear. I had also considered law enforcement, but going back to college is not in my cards now to pursue that. (as far as I know you need college for law enforcement)\n\nLost and confused, I come here looking for advice.", "summary": "I've worked my way up through a sale job (first time at a sales job) and gotten praise from all avenues (customers, fellow associates, and management). Considered a management job at my company, but really don't think its what I want to venture into. I like working with people."}
{"id": "t3_w3bfk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My phone number is VERY similar to a Pay-Per-View Sports channel number, any suggestions on what I should do?", "post": "My mobile phone number is almost identical to the number for a Pay-per-view Sports TV channel. Mine is a regular mobile phone number (10 digits) while the sports channel has an extra digit but many people get this wrong, I guess because they are used to 10 digit numbers.\n\nOn an average day I get 10 to 15 calls from people trying to pay for their subscription. They offer account details, email addresses, credit card numbers, phone numbers, basically everything. Even when I tell them it's not the right number many insist it is and continue to give me their personal details!\n\nWhen there's a big sporting event (boxing, football, rugby, etc.) the calls are insane. Last Saturday, I got about 6 calls and 4 messages per minute for the whole day.\n\nI also get lots of calls from irate subscribers and get some really nasty voice messages. On a number of occasions I'll be hassled over and over by the same person and threatened. One guy said he'd find me and beat me up! I'm sure he wasn't going to but it's still not a nice situation.\n\nI've had this number for about 15 years and all my work contacts know it so I can't easily change it. I'm constantly on call for my job and this really is a major inconvenience. \n\nI've tried resolving the situation with the TV channel but they weren't very helpful. When I explained the situation, the guy pretty much laughed in my face and hung up. I rang back a couple of days later and asked to speak to the manager, I eventually got to speak with one and he offered to pay for a new sim card(sim cards are free here). when I said that wasn't acceptable he hung up and they have ignored me ever since.\n\nAny suggestions on what I can/should do?", "summary": "My number is nearly the same as a PPV Sports channel and I get lots of calls from their customers."}
{"id": "t3_2s55tv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does my [27F] boyfriend [26M] watch too much porn?", "post": "I'm sure this has been asked before, but i'm new here. I have been with my SO just over 6 years, and we've been living together for 1. We have a great relationship, loving, honest, etc. I recently went through his history while he was out of town, honestly because I wanted to get an idea of what he was looking at so I could maybe spice things up a bit. I expected to see porn in his history every once in awhile, but not every single day (or close to every day). It just grossed me out, and it made me want to have sex less now that I know he is looking at naked girls on a computer screen every day. Guys of reddit in relationships, how much porn do you look at? As a side note, we have sex about 2 times a week on average, so I wouldn't say he's deprived. \n\nI'd just love some advice and thoughts from others.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend looks at too much porn."}
{"id": "t3_48qcv1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[25/m] am going to be moving in with a long time friend [27/f]. Starting to develop feelings.", "post": "So a situation came up a couple of months ago where my friend told me she was in a shitty situation and had to move in to a new place. She asked me if I would be able to get a place with her. I've known her for about 10 years and I trust her completely so I told her it would be no problem. I have always had a blast hanging out with her but never felt any feelings towards her since she has always been in a relationship.  However, she is now single and some feelings are starting to emerge. \n\nI know these feelings are probably simple infatuation but I can't shake them. Every day I wake up and I think of her. Every night I go to bed I think of her. We haven't moved in yet or set a specific date to move in but I feel that I should bring my feelings up to her before we move in. We will begin looking for places in the next couple of months and I don't want to make the living situation awkward by bringing it up while we are living together and screwing everything up. \n\nI just don't know what to do in this situation. I feel that it wouldn't be fair to her to wait until after we move in to tell her. But I also don't want to lose her as a friend by telling her about my feelings. I know she wants to move out with me because I probably feel like a safe person to move out with but I also don't want to drive myself crazy by keeping these feelings in.", "summary": "Do I tell my friend, who I am about to move out with, that I have feelings for her or do I just keep quiet about this?"}
{"id": "t3_3e35c9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/F] don't know if he [18/M] wants to commit or not, should I just let him go?", "post": "Met a guy online about a month ago and we decided to meet in person early this month. Everything was perfect- he was attractive and we got along amazingly. We went out for lunch and decided to come back to my house and watched netflix on my floor. One thing lead to another and we started making out and by third base I wanted to stop because I thought it was way too soon to be going that far. He was fine with it, and then we cuddled for a while until he had to go home. Before he left he let me know he had fun and he'd wanna meet up again whenever he could (he's got car problems and lives about 30 minutes away). He gave me a little peck and hug goodbye.\n\nSince then, he's texted me goodmorning and goodnight nearly every single day. He snapchats me all the time and we're each other's number one best friends on the app. The conversation gets sexual once in a while but we also talk normally. Yesterday he started opening up to me about his family problems and he let me deeper into his life. I feel like I'm becoming closer to him but...\n\nI do remember after we met up he told me that he still felt \"broken\" from his last relationship. He told me he really liked me and he could see a relationship in the future but he just wasn't sure about that then. I'm fine with that, I know what it's like dealing with a breakup (it was about half a year ago). But I'm just afraid this is going nowhere. I know he's opening up to me and all but I feel a little weird about it not knowing where he wants to go from here. I don't want to seem needy or pushy towards him either, should I just give it up? Also, he's going off to college in September which is about an hour and 30 minutes away. He mentioned that we'll always be friends no matter if we date or not.", "summary": "Met a guy online and met up with him in early July. He told me he wanted to wait for a relationship if we ever got to that point, but now that we're getting closer I'm starting to feel weird about not actually dating him. I feel like we may be going nowhere, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_16ixax", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "20k in my checking account, I'd like to split this money up into new checking and savings accounts.  What are some good banks?", "post": "So over the past two years I've been lucky enough to save about 20k.  I've got it all in my checking account right now. I'd like to move most of that money into a savings account to be sort of an emergency fund and move about 4-5k into a checking account for my bills and everyday expenses.  Then, once I have the two accounts I can tailor my direct deposit paycheck to put the amount I'd like to save each month into my savings account and the rest will go into my checking.  Does this sound like a good idea?\n\nI'd like this new checking account to be somewhere that doesn't charge me any fees.  Right now I get docked 2 bucks at most ATM's and get a 5 dollar monthly fee...\n\n**Some other questions and facts about my self:**\n\nI've got 825 shares in MTW stock that I'd like to sell and put that money else where, but that's a whole other question and thread.  This is worth about 13k right now.  I'm also going to need to buy a new car here pretty soon.\n\nI'm young and have been lucky enough to save quite a bit of money.  I don't know a lot about personal fiance so far though.  Would it be a good idea to go to some sort of financial adviser to help me better plan out how to save my money?", "summary": "What are the best no fee checking accounts?  Where is a good place to store my savings/emergency fund? Are there any drawbacks to closing a bank account, like there are with closing a credit card?"}
{"id": "t3_1fh2mm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [37M] marriage with my wife [35F] is suffering due to a growing core value difference around her occupation.", "post": "We have no children, relationship about 5 years old and married for only 8 months now. I won't go into details about what she does as I don't want the focus to be a debate about her work.\n\nEssentially, the more I learned about it the less I approve. I feel what she does has little benefit, is misleading people and unethical. Slowly over time it has started to eat away at me and has now grown to the point where I have no interest sexually and would just rather spend time alone than with her. Of course, this is causing problems in the relationship. It would be so much easier if there were other issues we could point to but there are none. She's a loving, friendly, super enthusiastic person and in most ways we make a great couple, as everyone is always telling me. \n\nSadly, this core difference has been eating me up and now I'm really getting worried. Both of us are getting older and really want a family. I saw both my parents go through multiple partners after divorcing and don't want that type of life. I'm afraid if we push forward to have kids everything will just explode somewhere down the line.\nI don't even know how to bring this up? How do you tell your partner that you disagree with their chosen life's profession and it's causing great stress?", "summary": "\u2013 Core value difference slowly destroying relationship/respect for my wife. Possible to resolve?"}
{"id": "t3_3dlbja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend picked up female hitchhiker", "post": "30's M/F couple months\n\nSo my boyfriend was driving home one night and ran across a female hitchhiker.  He picked her up, thinking that if he didn't, she could end up in trouble.  Gave her a ride home, they had a conversation where she revealed some personal things about herself (being assaulted, etc), and he gave her his number by texting her a link or two related to the conversation to help her out with random things.  He also mentioned he had a girlfriend.  He told me about it, and I told him I wasn't comfortable with him picking up random people because who knows who you're picking up, and thought that was it.   4 days later, she texted him saying she was stuck somewhere without a ride and asked him to pick her up, it happened to be on route to where he was heading so he did it.  He told me about it on the way to get her, I told him I didn't like it and was upset, and he did it anyways because he had already said he would do it.  I trust my boyfriend 100%, but the whole thing makes me uncomfortable and upset and he doesn't understand why.  He thinks he did a good thing for someone twice, and it should be a non-issue.  I see it as him not taking my feelings into account for a stranger who got herself into the same situation days later and looked to him for help.  \n\nI'm looking for other opinions on it to sort myself out and get some outside viewpoints.", "summary": "Boyfriend picked up female hitchhiker and gave her a ride again later, should I be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_2xove2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 F] with my BF [31 M] one year, told me in ONE SITTING he doesn't want kids, marriage and that my career choice is wrong. I consider myself strong, but seriously, wtf?", "post": "Just celebrated 1st year together. Based on the milestones we made and conversations we've had things seemed like they were headed toward a committed life together. \n\nWhile out Saturday night my BF told me he doesn't want to get married and have children because it will end in divorce, him giving up half of what he has and he'll only see the kid one weekend a month\n\nI was shocked! He, despite the stereotypes, is the one to make comments about our future children (for example: when we have children we're not going to put those annoying stickers on a minivan). I told him that was a sad outlook and feel badly that in this fictitious scenario he's ended up with such a great person who'd take his money and not let him see his kids. \n\nThen not more than 15 minutes later he tells me I shouldn't have left my first career to return to school. His argument was \"nobody's happy with what they have to do for work\" and basically how dare I be so bold. He also doesn't think the investment in time will be worth what I'll make after I'm done with school. FYI we don't live together and I pay for plenty of dates, gifts, etc. So despite not making a lot I am very generous and don't take advantage. \n\nThe next morning I said, \"wow, you were really honest about a lot last night,\" and he said, \"did you ever think I just like to push your buttons?\" I'm not sure he's being honest about that and why would anyone want to joke like that? Do I want to spend anymore time with someone so juvenile? Opinions please.", "summary": "my bf dropped some bombs on em cloaked as humor"}
{"id": "t3_o3c7k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are most employers hesitant to hire males with long hair?", "post": "So I've been out of college for about a year and a half and was able to get a quick, well-paying job doing environmental monitoring for a certain ginormous oil spill in which I was basically interviewed and hired over the phone without ever meeting anyone face-to-face.  Since then the work has become less frequent and I grew out my hair (not super long but enough to put it in a ponytail).  Now, after job hunting for quite some time, I have my first major interview coming up and I'm being told by my peers that I need to cut my hair if I want a good chance of landing a job.  So....why?  There is absolutely no empirical evidence to suggest that people with long hair perform better or worse then people with short or no hair.  So is it just because of a long-standing societal norm?  Are there any employers out there that hire solely based on past experience and achievements and disregard physical apperance?  I know that this does not apply to all jobs but I'm curious about large private/public companies.  Help me out here, reddit.   I've really come to love my flowing locks...", "summary": "I have long hair and want a solid answer as to why I should cut it off just to make a good impression on my interviewer."}
{"id": "t3_3bwv8n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me(22f) with him (30M), he has problems with my friends?", "post": "Some background:\nI slept around before we started dating, before he even *knew* me. Some of those that I slept with I remained friends with, even though I no longer had any romantic/physical attraction to them and they, me.\nMy boyfriend basically has the mindset of, \"the past should stay in the past. I don't make you deal with me hanging out with people that I have previously slept with.\" And I understand that. I just feel like it's unfair to make me cut of my *friends*. It's not like I talk to **everyone** I've previously slept with. Only two or three, and I don't ask to hang out with them very often, or at all. We wouldn't go back to their place, we would stay in a public place. \nI really only have a few close friends, (let's say, 5) with only one of them being someone that I have previously slept with. I would have my boyfriend meet him (let's call him Charles), I'm not trying to *hide* hanging out with him, I'm being completely open and honest.\n\nMore information: It's been four years since I slept with Charles. He goes to college out of state, I haven't seen him for almost a year now.", "summary": "Have one close friend who I used to sleep with, boyfriend doesn't want me hanging out with people I used to sleep with, but this is a very close friend whom I've known for years. I understand why he doesn't but how can I make him understand my perspective?"}
{"id": "t3_jbwr6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need advice reddit, i think my cousin wants me.", "post": "ok so i am a 22yo male and my cousin is a 19yo female. i liked her for a long time. while i was working up the nerve to ask her out my mother started dating her uncle. they got married and she became my cousin. one day we somehow started talking about stuff and i told her about how i felt about her and such. she stopped talking to me for awhile saying it was wierd and we shouldnt hangout. my mother later divorces the uncle, so technically i guess not cousins anymore. fast forward one year. she randomly calls me up out of the blue and suggests we hangout. so since then we hangout all the time like three times a week. she has no problem changing in front of me, down to the thong at least, she always rubs up on me, while we are walking in public she tends to stand so close to me that we are practically spooning and always rubs her body on mine whenever she gets the chance. now as you can imagine i am at a loss to the solution. i liked her, i told her my feelings, she made it abunduntly clear she did not feel the same and didnt want to be around me, one year later she is showing many signs of wanting to be with me, however i am unsure of what to do because she has made her feelings known previously and yet acts the opposite. any ideas/insights/suggestions?\n\njust to clarify, we ARE NOT BLOODRELATED\nARE NOT RELATED AT ALL ANYMORE\nhowever im still confused :p", "summary": "like girl, girl becomes cousin, girl says doesnt like me, girl is no longer cousin, girl is all over me."}
{"id": "t3_4iqype", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "At a loss with how to deal with my [30 M] brother's [27 M] odd behaviour", "post": "Several months ago my brother started acting strange. He quit his job bussing tables, gave away all his possessions and moved back in with my parents. He claimed he realized a fundamental truth about human nature, and when he properly reveals it to the world, we will all live in a utopia without need of money, jobs, etc. \n\nFor more than a year he has been furiously writing essays to prove his idea.  My brother keeps insisting on us reading his works. Problem is, its total nonsense. Its as if someone used a random academic word generator. Its messed up nature makes it virtually impossible to properly analyze, and even when it is possible it takes considerably time to painfully construe any meaning. He gets very upset and prone to argumentative, tearful, emotional outbursts and tantrums if we don't read his work and affirm what it says.  \n\nMy parents are afraid his mental state is fragile, so they humour his requests as much as possible. But this has gone on for nearly two years, and I'm tired of playing this game and don't have the time for it. \n\nThe whole family is at a loss at what to do. They can't throw him out because of concern he may be mentally fragile, but he refuses to do anything except write his nonsense and throw tantrums when we don't read it/agree with it. I convinced them to have him visit a psychologist, and according to my brother, the psychologist cleared him of anything that required intervention.\n\n  Little bit extra info that may or may not be relevant: My father and I both have our PhDs, while my brother, although smart, barely finished highschool, does not read (actually has disdain for reading ''the ideas of others'') and floated around doing menial jobs. I'm wondering if his behaviour is a reaction in some sense to our accomplishments, but really that's a side issue...my main concern is how my family can best help him.", "summary": "Brother started acting strange in ways that vex and tax my family, at a loss what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1xft4f", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "19yr old. Looking to move out, need advice.", "post": "Hello, /r/personalfinance. I need some advice as I'm TERRIBLE with my finances. \n\nI'm 19 years old and attending college. I live with my parents but am looking to move out in the next month.\n\nI make ~$1000 a month (at $10/hour).\n\nCurrently the only bills I have are my cell phone and car insurance ($80/$100 respecticely). Well just recently I wrecked my Jeep into a tree so I have to buy a \"new\" one. I currently have $1600 and been browsing Craigslist waiting for a good deal. \n\nNow the apartment my friend and I are looking at it $500/month plus utilities (~$200/month according to a friend already living in the complex). My college is paid for by financial aid so I don't have to worry about that. So split two ways roughly $350 a month. Plus my bills brings total expenses up to $550 a month leaving me around $450. Now this has to go to gas, food, and other expenses.\n\nHow can I make the rest of my money go it's furthest? What initial expenses am I overlooking when moving into an apartment? Any advice on saving and making my money last would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Moving out, making ~$1000 a month, $200 in bills, ~$350 for rent and utilities. How can I make the rest last me for gas, food, etc. Any other advice is welcomed."}
{"id": "t3_ym4eg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit.. I just found out that this guy I really liked asked a girl out, what are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up?", "post": "[I'm 17 so please bear with the teenage drama/immature hormone infused decisions]\n\nTo begin with, I liked 'James' ever since the beginning of my junior year, we have always been good friends but I just started to like him (because of hormones? I don't know? Seriously... he is like the sweetest guy ever). I thought everything was going fine and dandy since he asked me to prom. Keep in mind that my stupid introvert self refuses to tell him my true feelings, so I think he was confused on whether I had feelings for him or not. \nA few days after prom he texts my friend asking her if I would say yes if he asked me out; she then shows me the text, replies yes, and at this point I'm exuding happiness. Then..... a few days following the texts, at a typical underaged binge-drinking occasion he gets wasted and gets blowed by a whore; he is now incredibly ashamed and tries to keep this chapter of his life away from me, but of course I find out when my friend sends me pictures of it. By this point he texts my friends that he has no chance with me. I am, at this point confused too...\n\nFast forward a few months, we have just been hanging out as friends but I still have feelings for him, which I cannot subdue. \n\nI just got a call from a girl him and I just met at the fireworks that he has just asked her out. I don't know what to do/feel... I am completely confused... I am too new to this whole romance/love thing\nAny help Reddit from your experiences?", "summary": "Due to my introvert nature, I did not tell this guy I like that I like him, now he's asked another girl out... help a teen out?"}
{"id": "t3_shak8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why isn't there ala carte cable?", "post": "I would be willing to pay more per channel to be able to pick out exactly what channels I get. I don't want to spend the current $80/month for basic cable. At the moment, we stream our tv off the internet, which works well enough. But i'd like to see things at the time of airing and get exposure to new programming through something other than word-of-mouth and Netflix suggestions. Given the current market penetration of streaming programs like Hulu, it seems would be in the interest of networks and cable tv to offer an ala carte system. Some googling indicates that the reason cable doesn't do so now is because networks want to promote their less popular chanels by contractually bundling them with the popular ones. But, it seems they could still promote the less popular ones in an ala carte system by charging less for them.", "summary": "I want my goddamn Comedy Central without paying for the Hallmark Chanel."}
{"id": "t3_4s8pg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [19M] family is wealthy. His family is putting so much pressure on him to take over the company one day that I think he is broken. I found him crying in the bathroom last night going on about how he does not think he can do it.", "post": "So Hi Reddit, I have dated my boyfriend for 2 years now and I will be honest I don't like his parents. His mother has openly refereed to me as not good enough for her son because I want to be an elementary school teacher. His father only ever addresses him and it's always about how his studies are going. \n\nHe is an only child and his father puts alot of pressure on him. Everything is a competition, everything needs to taken so seriously all the time, his father demanded he study business at college to take over the business and when he graduates he will have an \" top position\" whatever that means. He puts up with this because he thinks he needs his dad and moms money. \n\nLast night I found him crying in the bathroom and he was acting so bizarre. He was hyperventilating and dry heaving, crying and kept telling me he has to man up, he has to take over the empire, he has to become the man his father is. He does not think he can do it \n\nI really don't know what to do in this situation", "summary": "Boyfriend had a breakdown last night, one of the worst I have ever seen and I don't know what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_2zriy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] dating my crush [24 F]. Injured my self she has not visited me.", "post": "Hey guys I am 24 years old my crush is 24 we both work together. I have had a crush on he for the last 5 months or so we began going out on dates a month ago. We have not kissed or anything, anyways I broke my leg and I am out of work for 2-3 months. I am still able to walk on crutches and am able to do normal limited activities. \n\nThis happened 2 weeks ago, she has not yet to visit me and has totally brushes it off when I suggest it? Honestly I F$&($&% miss her I want to see her so bad. It just seems to me its not a two way street if it were her in this situation I would have visited a long time ago.  Texting and calling gets old and stale and I see our spark going out if it continues this way.\n\nShould I approach her about it or just back off and do my thing? If she wants me she knows my number and where I am at.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_21pmsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] and this girl [20 F] are into each other and about to date , but I suspect she's been lying to me about sex.", "post": "I've been talking with this girl for a few weeks now (I'll call her Sarah) at school and we've already established that we like each other, we've hung out a couple of times and we've kissed before, but something's been bothering me. She claims that she hasn't had sex since last year and she has told me that she doesn't talk to any of her exes, but two of my friends have told me on separate occasions that she talks about how she regularly has sex with her ex. I confronted her about this, and she adamantly denied, saying that she doesn't talk with her exes and that she definitely hasn't had sex with anyone in over a year. She went the whole nine yards with \"you should trust me over other people\" and all that. I chose to believe her and was happy for a week or two, until one of my friends told me that Sarah told her that she straight up lied to my face about the sex issue.\n\nI confronted her once again about it and she  again denied everything and said that I need to trust her over listening to other people and was pretty upset about it all. She is asking me how she can prove that she hasn't had sex.\n\nNow I know my two friends who told me she said these things have no reason to lie to me, but I also feel that she doesn't (or shouldn't at least) have a reason to lie to me. We've been pretty open about our sex life before.\n\n I'm torn between who I should listen to, because there's no way to actually prove if she's been having sex or not. Talking with any of her exes is out of the question.\n\nI desperately want to believe her but it seems fishy that two separate people would give me the same story on her. If she has been having sex with her exes while admitting her feelings for me, then that's obviously not someone I want to be involved in a relationship with. \nNow she is asking me how she can prove she is telling the truth, and I have no answer for her.", "summary": "Girl I like says she hasn't been sexing her exes, friends tell me otherwise. Who do I listen to/ how can I prove she is telling the truth?"}
{"id": "t3_1ypecc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "SV - went to the gym this morning instead of out to breakfast!", "post": "My parents are health conscious, but eat bad food sometimes. They are very disciplined in their diet 80% of the time  and work out several times a week, so neither of them have weight problems. They invite me & my SO out to eat multiple times and week, and free food is quite a temptation (especially because I'm a poor 20 something) but I know the food isn't good for me, and that my parents are judgmental about what I order, etc. \n\nmy parents have always wanted me to lose weight, and haven't been shy in saying so, but still encourage me to eat unhealthily from time to time. \n\nThis morning, my mom called me to see if I wanted to join them for breakfast at a very unhealthy restaurant. I decided I'd avoid the calories and the judgment this morning & head to the gym instead! I'm just starting out on my weight loss journey and this is an extremely small hurdle, but it makes me feel like I'm on the right track. \n\nBig thank you to everyone who posts on here- you are a huge encouragement to me & I can't wait to share progress and successes with you all!", "summary": "said no to breakfast with judgey parents and went to the gym!!! Thanks guys!"}
{"id": "t3_3e8erx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my gf [26 F] of 2 years, having loads of problems with her ex", "post": "Hi all,\n\nWill try to keep this short as possible! Really could do with some advice.\n\nBasically, ever since I got with my gf, she was back in touch pretty much same time I got with her with her ex. After few weeks it begun to really bother me as they were pretty much texting 24/7 to each other although it eventually died down. He begun to flirt with her then as months went on more flirting and basically tried meeting up behind my back even though girlfriend always said she wouldn't!!\n\nI dumped her but got back with her eventually after she promised to cut contact with him, this was about a year ago. During this time, she has gone behind my back 3/4 times I know off and carried on talking to him.\n\nI had it out with her today about it said how's it's making me feel and she said she was only talking about our holiday with him not as if she is flirting with him although I don't know that as she deleted all the messages! Anyway she thinks what she has done is ok but again promised she wouldn't talk to him anymore.\n\nReally not sure what to do? Am I overreacting? \n\nThanks for any feedback!", "summary": "lost trust in my gf"}
{"id": "t3_1gujpf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I can't help but judge", "post": "My job has steadily been making me more and more racist. I work for a tuxedo company so I work with wedding groups daily and I judge every single person that comes in. I can pretty much expect most of them to follow the standard norm of what other customers of the same ethnic background have been like or done. As soon as I begin to ask \"Hi how can I help you guys?\" I begin judging and automatically expecting them to follow the same trend as the others I've worked with of the same race. Apparently two of my coworkers feel the same. They almost always are the same as the last (insert same race here) group.\n\nExpectations listed below:\n\n - black groups: pay minimum, complain often, always running behind schedule\n\n - middle eastern: haggle for lower prices, leave payment up to someone else, huge group (15+)\n\n - Lower class white: redneck, rowdy, heavyset, minimum payment or the persons parents pay\n\n - middle class white: decent to work with, mothers complain and try to domineer the wedding\n\n - upper class white: assholes, pay full or leave it to parents to pay, need to be waited on hand and foot, complains about the fit or sizes because the suit they got 4 years ago is a different size\n\n - hispanic: Pay less then minimum, half of them speak nothing but spanish while there, large group that waits till last minute", "summary": "My job has made me judgmental and kinda racist."}
{"id": "t3_4vkig1", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need to do something about my life", "post": "I'm 16 year old male and I barley get out of the house, I only go to school or somewhere with my family. I'm very lazy unless I put my mind to something. I don't exercise and have no hobbies, or friends. My family moved to a different state last year and I lost all contact with my friends in the previous state. I go to a really small school and everybody there is nice to me but will not let me into thier little cliques I'm really shy and inverted, so it's hard for me to make friends but I did put in some effort into trying to make at least one friend. I'm an interesting person but whenever somebody talks to me my brain enters potato mode and become very awkward and could barely talk. I'm the type guy who has no problem doing an interview or public speaking but struggles with normal interactions. For example if there was a party I'm that guy all alone in the corner. I'm also kind of ugly so people kind of avoid me. I know if I have friends a lot my problems will be solved, but where can I find like minded people? Agian I'm really shy and inverted so how do I go about meeting them? I can't just join a club and start talking to people, my shyness and my fear of rejection won't allow me. Any useful advice?", "summary": "I'm lonely and shy and I need help making friends."}
{"id": "t3_3iz5zw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 F] have drifted from two supposed best friends [18/20 F] but I feel trapped by expectations", "post": "So I've grown up with these two girls and we know everything about each other's lives. Every family trauma, every heartbreak, every period of depression we have been there for each other. I moved away to university two years ago and when I visit home or am back for the holidays I find them increasingly annoying to spend long periods of time with. A meal or a day with them I can have a good time, but I'm currently on day two of a three day stay at one's new house and today I've just wanted to scream.\n\nIt's hard to tell whether it's growing apart since I still appreciate their support and want to be there to support them, it's just that I find some of their behaviours and views very childish now. That's fine in small doses and we can have a great time when meeting up for a little while. One of them especially [20 F] is extremely possessive about friends and jokes about me not being allowed to have other friends or is upset when I meet with others when I could've travelled 2 hours to see her. The reason I'm here is that she recalled me mentioning in passing that I'd visit her when she got her new house and her mum (family friend) told me how upset she was that I hadn't arranged to visit. Equally if I spend time with the other girl [18 F] without her she expresses how sad she is to be left out.\n\nI just feel very locked in to this friendship and under a lot of pressure to want to see them often. I still like them and we still get on mostly, it's just I know the possessive one will get incredibly upset if I tell her upfront that I want to see her less often and not have her guilt tripping me into visits. She used to not have many friends but is now pretty popular, I just feel I can't choose to spend time with them the way I want or I'll be judged for it. Ugh. Any help appreciated!", "summary": "Feel I may have grown away from lifelong friends but one is very possessive, feeling trapped and need advice."}
{"id": "t3_e55s7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone explain why I had SEVERE temporary schizophrenia?", "post": "Dear reddit,\nI once had severe temporary schizophrenia, and here's the shortest way to tell my story I can think of. I need to know how, or why this happened.\n\nI was starting to have problems with my neighbors when they called the cops on me for crying too loud and fighting (loooots of anxiety at that time of my life, over and done now). Afterwards I thought I heard him shoot off a silenced gun in my closet, and saw him stalking me, so for some reason I thought he was out to kill me. I flipped out, my husband brought me to the hospital (I thought I was shot) and they put me on haldol. During this sleepy period I thought I heard my husband saying mean horrible things about me and our relationship, which he later told me was false. I ended up at the mental hospital. While I was there I heard voices from the television telling me my husband was cheating on me and that him and my family were in trouble, and saw subtitles according to this theory that looked like they were manipulated by someone in the hospital. I yelled at a girl I thought cheated with him who didn't deny it, but she mightve been crazy. I thought this guy was the killer, and he said scary things to me. When I first got there, I couldve sworn I saw people getting hurt by him, and I thought the nurse who let me in had a gun and went after someone. I thought I saw my cats and chopped up bodies and people tied up at night.\n\nThe important things are, the whole time I was there I was on zyprexa, and still when I left, and that as soon as I left, outside of the expected paranoia that was temporary, I never again had any symptoms of schizophrenia.", "summary": "What happened to me reddit??? Why did I have schizophrenia for about a week, and then stop completely and utterly quickly? This haunts my life every day. Thanks for listening."}
{"id": "t3_1ns23q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Hey guys. My girlfriend of almost 2 years is doing something I really am not in favor of, but I'm wondering if I'm acting ridiculous or not.", "post": "So we're both 19 years old and, as the post says, been dating for almost 2 years. A while back her \"manager\" at work (he's not like a real manager, but like a sub-manager. Still an hourly employee) at the restaurant she works at broke up with his super long term girlfriend. Well he got really drunk one night when a bunch of them all went out and she went as well. No big deal, group outing. Then he walked her to her car and he plopped down in the driver's seat and spilled his guts to her. Saying things like, \n\n\"I wish you would have moved away to go to schools. Since you've stayed here I emotionally pulled away from (his girlfriend) because of you\" and\n\"So do you love (her boyfriend, me)? Do you think you guys might get married one day?\" And when she said that if we did stay together she could see herself marrying me he looked crushed and defeated. Then when she finally left he asked her to not say anything at all to me. Which, of course she did. Right afterwards.\n\nNow the next morning he texted her and said he remembered everything and felt like an idiot, but didn't apologize for it.'' Now they're running buddies, he lives right behind zaxby's and him, my girlfriend, and 1 or 2 other people go running and train together. He has texted her things like \"Thank you for helping me. I wouldn't be motivated without  you.\" And that kinda bothers me and she doesn't get it. It sounds to ME like he's running for her, but that's probably me reading too much into it. Now I understand that running takes some time, but they'll finish running and then she'll stay at his house til 1 or 2 in the morning and that's where it REALLY bothers me. He always pressures her to drink with them and come party and I don't like that whole situation. \n\nSo what do I do? Do I say something to her or just ignore it because I'm in the wrong?", "summary": "my girlfriend is hanging out with a guy that likes her and it bugs me but read the reasons why."}
{"id": "t3_523ch8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I dont think my [19 F] SO [26 M/F] trusts me, and is pushing me towards something I dont want to do", "post": "To give you a brief explanation; my SO was for a very long time just my best friend. Eventually, after 2 years of friendship, I agreed for him to take me on a couple of dates, and after 2 months I let him let me move into his apartment rent free so I could focus on my art. Its very important, but until now we've never really had sex, we just did hand stuff and he gave me oral a few times.\n\nThe thing is, we always really expected this relationship to be open. A year ago I didnt mind when he went to a prostitute to lose his virginity. However, to his credit, he did tell me about it before and got my agreement.\n\nAnyways, a few days ago I was volunteering at this local marathon for charity our I met a pretty fit guy there [Age unknown, M] who had a lot of common interests with me (gaming, the gym, game of thrones) and things sorta took off and we had sex a few times. One day I agreed to let him come to our place, and we had sex there, but my open boyfriend caught us. And this is a red flag to me for abusiveness and racism (the guy is half black), but he threw my friend out.\n\nAt this point my boyfriend is saying that if I wont have sex with him but keep bringing in random guys (It was only one guy ok) he will break up with me and make me move out of our apartment, which I find disgusting. How do I proceed with this relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend takes advantage of open relationship but threatens to kick me out of our apartment when I do the same"}
{"id": "t3_xha6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's really hard to help myself from not snooping....", "post": "I'm 20(f) my boyfriend is 23(m). We've been dating for about 10 months. We left our significant others (his of 5 years, mine of 2) to be together. We openly have given eachother our passwords to everything, and for some reason I can't get the urge to snoop out of my head! I'm just so curious.\n\nI'm not looking for anything in particular. I just want to read how his ex and him talked. I'm not looking for anything good or bad, just curious. I know it would be an invasion of privacy (not so sure since we do have access to it, and he can read mine). I'm this way with everything! I don't know why I'm so curious. I know it's wrong, but I enjoy observing people, especially in their interactions with others. I trust him. I know that his ex and him have no relationship now, or desire to, so I don't know why I want to snoop. Mere curiosity\n\nhow do i get out of this habit? I know I will receive some harsh answers.", "summary": "Always curious about other people. Trying to not snoop through my boyfriends things."}
{"id": "t3_3njb18", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 F] miss my ex [33 M] of 7 years, it ended horribly and was maybe my fault", "post": "I left my ex of six years a year and a half ago. We were sort of a dead bedroom, but he's also the love of my life -- something I'm still sure of. To combat our dead bedroom, we had an open relationship, where I was allowed to date women (though I'm pretty straight, I was so starved for affection I went for it). I met a girl [28F] who changed things for me, and I left him for her. \n\nFast forward a year and a half. Things with her are okay, but I can't get him out of my head. During the first year after we broke up, he did nothing but try harder and harder to win me back. He did everything right, and I didn't even give him a solid no (because I really wasn't sure how I felt). But I feel terrible for making him feel so uncertain and cut off.\n\nI want to get back in touch. I have no idea what to say... I think he thinks I'm an awful person. I think I need to try or I'll regret it for years to come. I've peeked at his online dating accounts, enough to know he's not, like, married with kids now or anything. So I might be the crazy ex, but I'm not the crazy ex who disturbs a family that's moved on.", "summary": "I left my dead-bedroom ex for a woman after an open relationship, and I miss him and regret it. What should I do/say to him?"}
{"id": "t3_207myq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [23 F] 2 months, on and off for a year. I'm having trust issues.", "post": "Hey guys, I've never posted here but it's becoming more and more of an issue. I'm having serious trust issues and it's making me an immature, jealous boyfriend.\n\nBackstory: First, never been in a serious relationship. I met this girl a year ago when I moved out here, started seeing her as she was in the process of moving out of her abusive boyfriend's place. We work together at a bar, in a hookup-heavy environment. I left for the military after being exclusive with her for about two months, and I told her she was free to do as she pleased. Despite this, she insisted that she would stay exclusive and would wait for me. She gave me her word. Four months later I found out she was seeing other guys. I got back, and began dating her. This girl is really great, and I'm definitely in love with her.\n\nBut the more I learn about her, the less I trust her. She's a girl that has always had a boyfriend. She's got old pictures with them all over her facebook with the sappy \"im so in love\" comments and captions. Even typing this, I feel petty and jealous. Immature. But she's telling me the same things. Am I out of line for feeling like this? I feel like a chump.\n\nHow do I learn to trust her? I'm terrified of being cheated on.", "summary": "I've never been in a serious relationship, need to find trust in a girl"}
{"id": "t3_38m2ga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "in 2 days i'm [23 m] gonna meet the woman [42 or 43 f] who gave me up for adoption", "post": "in 2 days i'm gonna meet the woman who gave me up for adoption and the only thing i wanna do is fucking spit on her face. i mean i wasn't good enough for her 23 years ago and since now she got some money and no one else all the suddenly i've become good enough for her. we actually met one time before at the construction site i work but there weren't that much of a talk [at least from me]. the family that adopted me had a baby when i was like 7 or 8 and all went downhill after that. that woman didn't care about me after that and that guy was just bad so i ran away when i was 16 and been doing a little this and little that ever since. i don't want to hate this woman but deep down i feel that every single bad thing happened to me happened because of her. [please don't say go to therapy cause i don't make that much money]", "summary": "woman who gave me up for adoption want to meet me but i got nothing but hate toward her"}
{"id": "t3_2wecnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my GF [30F] 2 years, I just want to be single", "post": "Over the last couple weeks I have been thinking of ending things with my gf. Problem is that she lives with me also our relationship is somewhat good , we never fight and she is head over heels in love with me.  I want to break up because my reason is simple. I want to be single , but i dont feel that would be a good enough explanation for her and could leave her worse off because there is no closure. I want to know , is the reason of wanting to be single a good enough explanation?  I do not blame her or have any ill will toward her, and if we could somehow be friends in future I would welcome that because she is a great girl but I just want to be single. Easy as that\n\nAlso there is no warning signs at all so this would totaly blind side my gf if I told her I wanted to end things", "summary": "I want to be single , is that a good enough reason to break up or do i need to think of some deep meaningful bs excuse"}
{"id": "t3_dzd1r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just bought some kids on the street candy for Halloween, why am I a sucker? (Read for context)", "post": "So we're going to this Halloween party downtown, and I see two little kids with no costume and nada. Mother was looking disinterested and the two boys were looking around at everyone's costumes like it was a museum. I felt sorry for 'em, being 10PM and they had no candy in their hands. Mom had some groceries.\n\nSo while everyone was waiting for the streetcar at the bus depot I walked over to the convenience stand and bought a fuck-handfuls of candies and chocolates, I was right beside them anyway and was gonna speak to 'em in Spanish and just hand that shit out to make it inconspicuous.\n\nAs a child I've lived through many misfortunes and a victim of circumstance. I hated missing Halloween as a kid, so I thought I'd make a few kids happy at least with some candies right? So as the street car was running I decided to stop being a pussy and start handing out candies, as I got up I noticed it...\n\nTurns out, those weren't groceries, the two boys' bags were filled with fucking candies and shit. They went trick or treatin' somewhere I guess. I had a kangaroo pouch full of overpriced candies and such. I felt like crap. So I just started giving them to random people.\n\nHow do I stop caring so much? Especially about kids. I can't stand seeing sad kids. I've been through some shit, and it sucks.", "summary": "bought some candies to give to some kids I thought didn't go trick or treating, turns out they had tons of candy."}
{"id": "t3_18yyep", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you help someone after being held at gun point?", "post": "Yesterday I received the phone call from my boy friend, while walking the a local park no more then four blocks from our home just trying to get some fresh air and some energy out because he hasn't been sleeping well a man had walked up behind him pointed a gun into his back and said \"give me everything you've got.\" Scared he turns out his pockets and with luck on his side had left his wallet at home along with all of his other personal belongings. After being patted down and asked to get to his knees then man turns around and runs away. \n\nThis experience has left him with nightmares and insecurities (which have always been there just more of an issue after this experience). I want to be supportive and help him become more confident in himself but unsure of psychological exercises we could try and suggestions/stories to help him get through this traumatizing experience. \n\nI know he is not alone.", "summary": "Boy friend was been robbed at gun point less then 4 blocks away from our home, what did you or someone you know do to get back on your feet?"}
{"id": "t3_ft9ry", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "[Hiring] Native Portuguese speaker", "post": "Hey everyone.  I was wondering if there is anyone here that is a native Portuguese speaker who would be interested in working with me doing Portuguese to English and English to Portuguese translations.  I have a full time job, but lately I have been looking for ways to make a little extra money.  I can speak and translate OK, I have studied Portuguese, and lived in Brazil for two years (different parts of Cear\u00e1)  I am not confident enough to translate without having it looked over by a native though.  Mostly it would work like this: For translations into Portuguese from English, I would do an initial translation, and then you would read it over to make sure it sounds good.  Then for any translations in the other direction I could read over your translations.  I have a technical (Electrical Engineering) background, which could allow us to do some technical translation.  If you have a technical background too that would be a plus.   If you are interested let me know and we can work out details.", "summary": "Looking for someone who wants to partner up and make a little extra money translating between Portuguese and English"}
{"id": "t3_e63r0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need an opinion on my situation from a non-clouded mind.", "post": "Background: Dated multiple girls in highschool, nothing too serious, i was the one broken up with every time with most of them not being able to give me any solid reason. (It might have to do with my ability to forget about all negative emotions after I sleep). Last one broke up with me right before I went to college using the \"Let's take a break\" method, and then leading me on, and then dumping me anyways.\n\nThis made me more bitter towards relationships than ever, and I spent my entire freshman year pursuing non relationship based sexual relations with women. In retrospect, I let some very good dating material slip by because I didn't want to be more than friends in fear of getting dumped again.\n\nIt is now sophomore year, and I have been looking to find a serious relationship, but I have had zero luck finding anyone that wants to even go on a date with me. Meanwhile, three of my ex's have started showing interest in me again. One goes to a college 2.5 hours away, and the other two ended up going to the same school 4.5 hours away.\n\nI am to a point of desperation now that I am almost considering getting back together with one of them, but am only held back by my pessimistic views on long distance relationships.", "summary": "I dated in high school, was dumped each time, became bitter towards relationships, fooled around with some highly date-able females, but let them slip away intentionally. Now my ex's want back together, but are 2.5 or 4.5 hours away."}
{"id": "t3_wm5gv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the nicest thing that another redditor has done for you?", "post": "Reddit is frequently known fir its good deeds done for its fellow redditors. Whether it has to do with retouching old pictures, giving advice, fundraising, or donating Reddit Gold, Redditors are known for their kindness to others. What is the nicest thing a Redditor has done for you?\n\nThree things come to mind for myself. The first was that someone gifted me the Frozenbyte Indie Bundle on Steam when I did not have a credit card to purchase it. The second being that a couple Canadian Redditors had an extra Flyers playoff ticket and allowed me to purchase it from them. I spent the whole day showing them Philly, drinking, and gave them a place to crash. Before they left, other than being extremely grateful, they left me a Flyers pennant, paid for my breakfast, and gave me an open invitation to come to Toronto and visit them.\n\nHowever, the nicest thing that any Redditor did for me happened anonymously a few days ago. In an AskReddit thread about 'the one who got away', I posted a longwinded, hastily written description of the girl that got away. It was a wall of text and not that interesting at all. Typing it my phone, it was probably compromised of lots of spelling and grammar errors. I don't talk to anybody about the girl because it hurts to talk about. I wrote out the passage mainly for my own therapy. Sure enough, the next day I checked back on my submission to see that it had 2 points and I smiled. Just knowing that one other Redditor took time out of his/her day to read my tale of heartache and went out of his way to upvote me was such a great feeling. Receiving an upvote never meant that much to me as in that moment. It completely validated me typing up the story and has reinforced my decision to move on in my life. I know it was a very minor action by someone, but it really meant a lot to me.\n\nSo Reddit, what is the nicest thing a fellow redditor has done for you?", "summary": "I got an upvote once"}
{"id": "t3_19tk91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend[22] still thinking about ex", "post": "I have been in a relationship with my current SO for a little over three months. About a year ago, he and his girlfriend of five years broke up. I know this girl was his first love. Recently, I used his phone to google something and when I clicked on the search bar his history popped. He was searching his ex girlfriend's tumblr. I didn't bring it up at the time, but I was very unsettled by it. I realize that they were together for a long time, but why would he feel the urge to look up his ex girlfriends blog? Does this mean that he's still not over her? She has since moved many states away, but I know she still occasionally calls and texts him. What should I do? Should I be angry about it? Is this something that I should even be worried about? I feel a little hurt that he's still thinking about this girl, even though he's in a relationship with me now.\n Note: I am 18 and a female.", "summary": "Boyfriend still thinking about ex, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2shjan", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I have a wife and 2 kids. I'm about to lose my job. I feel like I have no one I can truly talk to....", "post": "Hello. Early 30's, Asian male here. I started and cancelled my post 3 times already. I am just not articulate or eloquent enough. I have so much I want to get off my chest, but I don't even know where to begin, or make everything sound coherent. It's midnight, and I have tears steaming down my eyes. I feel like I'm on the verge of breaking... again.\n\n\u00a0\n\nBut my wife has low empathy, and she's a firm believer that staying quiet and letting me sleep through will solve everything. I can't call my parents (who aren't in US), because they still view me as a little teenager that moved away from them far too young, and would lecture me rather than listen to me. \n\n\u00a0\n\nI don't have any friends. I literally, truly have no one that I would consider a friend in my life right now. You know, the type of friend that would just listen to your problems. Be there when you really need him/her. Try to drag me out of the house/apartment, have a beer, go to places that's out of my comfort zone so my mind would be off all the troubles? There's none out there for me right now.", "summary": "can anyone around **Cincinnati** area recommend me a good, attentive listener (psychologists/etc), preferably those who understand, to a certain degree, psychology behind cultural barrier? I really, simply want to find a person that would listen to me."}
{"id": "t3_22xa2q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself (M23) am really liking my ex girlfriends best friend(F24). Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?", "post": "Back story: dated my best girl pal after years of friend-zonage. Things were great for a year then just went down hill. \n\nI ended up breaking up with her. It was a clean break with no real trouble. She didn't see it coming and didn't take it too well. Anyway fast forward 3 months and I run into her friend at a brewery and we start talking and we just click. \n\nWe started hanging out and we really like each other. We've done nothing sexual yet (a month now) due to the complicity of this situation.  She told my ex that we were hanging out but not that we want to date. \n\nSo I have no idea what to do and figured I'd turn to reddit. What should we do? When is a decent time period lapse between break ups? Is there code of conduct between women and this sort of thing?", "summary": "Broke up with girl. Girls best friend interested in me and I in her. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3pg14y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my Girlfriend -This is a weird one. Random Phone number.", "post": "Hey there so ,Basically i guess i technically didnt need to be in \n\nrelationships but since it has to do with ours I thought id post it \n\nhere. This is very weird So Basically a little while back me and my \n\nGirlfriend decided to take a break we ended okay not bad or \n\nanything . Well now were are trying things out again and things \n\nare going great, but about 2 weeks into our \"break\" she started \n\ngetting a random text early in the morning around 1 am along the\n\n lines of \"Hey i Heard Throwaway18151815 is single ;)\". At first i \n\nthought it was possible one of my friends girlfriends starting \n\nsomething because the girls of our circle didnt always get along. \n\nSo low key i texted two friends who i know , know alot of people \n\nsimply asking if they knew this number. They did not so i was \n\nstuck the number is from my area code not hers so it had to be on\n\n my end per-say . So im at work and its bugging me why or who\n\n so what i decide to do is google the number. What comes up is \n\nshocking , creepy, i have no explanation , Its a Girl on a escort site \n\n, multiple sites with the same number same pics. So im here \n\nstunned on why or how so now im backed into a corner i feel like.\n\n At one point i know she will say she believes me and its 100% \n\ntrue I have never nore do I ever have the intention of hitting up a \n\nescort.But I guess I dont know what to do on A. What should I do \n\nabout the number do I report it , ignore it, I have no idea. Or B. \n\nAgain I know she will say she believes me but in the back of my \n\nmind I feel like she will still be worried how do we move forward?\n\nLong rant horrible grammar I know im sorry. Any feed back would\n\n be much appreciated. Thank you", "summary": "Basically on our break between me and my girlfriend she started to get texts from a number we had no idea who, upon further looking into it shows up on mutiple sites for the same girl that is a escort. What do i do and what do we do to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_38h4mz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [18M] new girlfriend [18F] wont talk to me suddenly...", "post": "So i recently got into a new relationship with a great girl, we went to high school together and we were kindof friends but one thing lead to another and i asked her out, \n\nIt has been a few weeks now and all i can say is, its been pretty fun, our first date we went to the beach and it rained and we ended up trapped in a gazeebo just talking and laughing. Afterwards we went back to my place and made out for a while, it was a good time.\n\nWe have hung out a couple other times going here and there; at her place where we just chilled and caught some netflix and basically it was the same ending as the first date, some good clean family fun, pretty often we could be facetiming at night betting against who would fall asleep first, talking about just stuff you know?\n\nNow fast forward to today...\n(I am not extremely experienced when it comes to relationships and i am positive i am just overreacting but...)\n...we agreed that since the weather was kindof bad we should just lay low at my place just watching netflix again or whatever, \n\nI noticed pretty early on that something was different about today, she wasnt really talking or smiling as much as other days, there was basically no contact as well, usually we would like cuddle up or whatever and it would be nice but again, today was different, \n\nShe was only over for about an hour, i asked her if anything was wrong and she just said that she was tired, (it was 3 o'clock in the afternoon) and she ducked out without so much as a hug goodbye.\n\nThis just didnt seem like her at all, and ive been sitting here all day wondering what i might have said or done wrong, every time my phone beeps its like a mini-heart attack because i want it to be her, i just texted once her saying \"hey i hope youre feeling better\" and she hasnt even responded, i wont say anything else cause i want to give her her space but im still worried\n\nSo i have no idea what to say or do next, would you guys happen to have any insight as to what might be up?", "summary": "new relationship, sudden drop to zero contact"}
{"id": "t3_2ofsq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my FWB [19M] of 3 months, am I taking advantage of him?", "post": "I have a history of abusive relationships, the most recent and most abusive (which was several years long) ended this summer. Since then I've been enjoying my freedom to see who I like.\n\nHe and I met online in September with the intention to hook up. Since then, we have gotten really close, and emotionally closer as well. We ended up dating exclusively for a little bit, but I felt it was too soon to be in a relationship after all, so I told him I couldn't commit and would understand if he didn't want to see me anymore. He still wanted to see me though, and we hang out really often.\n\nI sometimes see other people, but I suspect he doesn't. However, when we go out to eat he'll pay for my food (the first time this happened I mentioned how I could pay for it myself but he said he didn't mind), bring me food and sweets when we hook up, offer me rides, send me cute things online, and lots of other kind things that he goes out of his way to do. \n\nI genuinely enjoy spending time with him, and I think he's really great. I'm just not sure if accepting his favors is taking advantage. He is an adult and can do what he likes, I'm just not really used to all this and I don't know what to think. Is he doing all this with the expectation or hope that I will change my mind about being ready for a relationship?\n\nI also feel like he deserves somebody without so much baggage. After my the abuse in my last relationship I've been in therapy, which is helping. But I still feel sort of \"broken\" which adds to the guilt I feel about how good he is to me.", "summary": "Younger FWB treats me really well and I feel guilty. Am I taking advantage of him?"}
{"id": "t3_2txw8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F23] am infuriated by the fact that I fall victim to my bf's[M23] constant manipulation.", "post": "Recently, I walked out on my bf of almost 4 yrs due to the fact that when I asked him to check his newly locked piece of shit Note 4 for his FB relationship status in front of me, he disappeared to the bathroom for 10 minutes only to come back upstairs and answer \"idk\" to every question I asked.\n\nAnd it wasn't just FB reddit, it was the fact that I found fucking texts between him and a chick regarding having sex when they met, even after she asked about me twice...and he dismissed me, TWICE. This was after a year of being together,  and if he hadn't broken down in tears and begged me to forgive him, I would've easily walked away.\n\nAnd it wasn't just THAT reddit, it was the fact that I randomly got a message from some guy telling me to tell my bf to stop talking to his girlfriend. \nOr the constant late night buzzing of his phone.\nOr whenever I asked to look through his phone with him, he'd dissappear to the bathroom, then come back and hand it to me.\nOr when my younger cousin asked to play with his phone and she found naked pictures of a random chick off of what looked like, snapchat.\nOr when a long time friend of mine came to me with news that he was flirting with someone we both attended high school with.\n\nAnd yet, EVERY SINGLE FUCKING TIME, he had an excuse. Something to make perfect sense in the dumbest way that at the same time would make me sound like a bitchy, jealous, asshat. And for some fucking reason, I played along. Slowly getting more and more miserable that he could just sit there and still be affectionate, still tell me he loved me, and still convince me that I was the only one he wanted. I never knew I would become one of those girls I always wanted to shake sense into but here I am, the same as them.  \nAnd still, I can never convince myself to be 100% sure if he's fucking me over.", "summary": "Bf of 4 years manipulates me into thinking I'm wrong about him being sketchy and I'm sick of losing my common sense to him."}
{"id": "t3_3lnquw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my [19 M] childhood friends, don't have anything in common anymore.", "post": "I have two friends who I've known for over 10 years, but recently I haven't been enjoying the time I've been spending with them.\n\nFor a few months when I've gone over to hang out with them, they have been doing the same thing every time; they are playing video games and vaping.  I have nothing against what they do, but it isn't interesting to me.  I just end up sitting on a couch watching them play games for 2-3 hours before I make up some excuse to go home.  We also talk and joke around while they play which I enjoy.  I've tried suggesting alternate things to do, however they usually turn them down.\n\nWhat makes this such a dilemma is the history we have together.  They were friends who helped me through depression.  There was a time when I wasn't going to school and started being homeschooled because I was too anxious and depressed, but they visited me at least once a week.  I feel indebted to what they did for me.  We've gone on trips together and have a ton of memories that are priceless to me.  I feel obligated to remain their friend.\n\nI also feel like our relationship between the three of us is askew.  They both live together and this has changed how we interact together.  Both of them consider each other brothers, and I am just their friend.  They have so much more in common that I feel isolated.  One of the friends has also been a bit hostile towards me lately.  I used to tease him more than my other friends, but have stopped and made it clear that I am trying to be kinder.  It seems like he is trying to assert dominance or something...I don't know.  I'm leaning more towards not hanging out with them.  What do you think?", "summary": "I don't like spending time with my best friends, but we have so much history that it makes it hard to end our friendship."}
{"id": "t3_kqlos", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How possible is it to steal a girl from her boyfriend?", "post": "I'm 19/M, and she's 19 as well. We've been pretty close and going to the same college for a over a year, so we're good friends. I've pretty much liked her the whole time, but she's had a boyfriend for a while, and he goes to a different college. \n\nRecently, we were at this big reunion dinner party for a group we're in a school, and there was a dance floor after it was over for the undergrads and younger adults, we were standing around talking to each other and a couple of friends, and she tells me twice that \"she doesn't know how long she's going to stay.\" So the second time, I think about it, and get her to go dance.\n\nI say let's go dance, and she agrees, then gets more of our friends to join us, so it's more of a group dance. No slow dances were played, so I didn't get to ask her. \n\nWhen she left, we hugged, and I walked her to the door.", "summary": "I like a girl, and we're friends, but she has a boyfriend. Can I steal her away?"}
{"id": "t3_4e9zmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [44M], divorced from ex-wife [41F], and my daughter [15F] is bullying my step children, also resents me.", "post": "First I want to apologize because English is not the first language.\n\nSo, some background. My ex-wife and I divorced around 10 years ago. After our divorce, she said she never wants to see me again and did not let me see my daughter. She moved away after a few months. I did not know where she went then.\n\nI married another woman while I was living in different places because of my job (they make me change workplaces a lot) Now my wife was also divorced and has two children (15F and 12M) so they became my step children.\n\nNow I have not made contact with my ex nor have I spoken to my daughter in the past 10 years. This is strange but then I saw her and my daughter walking together on the street the other day. My ex-wife looked at me, then took her away. I tried to talk to her but she ignored me and threatened to call the police if I didn't leave her alone.\n\nNow I find out that my step children actually go to the same school as my daughter. It is making me very frustrated and confused, because my ex-wife had actually told her that I was dead, and now I think she is feeding her lies about me cheating and leaving. She is now bullying my step children.\n\nShe calls them names in school, hits them and hides their things. Calling them her \"replacements\" and also hating me for \"left her\" and \"replaced her.\" I am asking the teachers for help and they have not done anything. \n\nMy ex-wife texted me for the first time in 10 years, telling me to leave them alone and will not let me see my daughter. \n\nHow do I go about this?", "summary": "My daughter is angry at me for \"replaced\" her and my ex-wife because ex-wife lied to her about me. We moved to the same town and ex-wife will not let me see my daughter. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4qr374", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Fiance (31f) and I (29m) relationship slipping less than a month from wedding", "post": "Over the last several weeks (maybe months)  the two of us have been growing a bit distant. We have had our ups and downs before and have had issues at times. Basically we havent been enjoying time together. I find myself on my phone a lot and we spend most nights just sitting and watching TV. Our sex life has gone to complete shit and she is saying she doesn't want to get married with things how they are. She was away for a few days last month and when she came back we were on fire. But just that first day. After that she went to work and started stressing about crap there and things went right downhill. I've been ridiculously timid with her and it's not a turnon. Then I tried to make a mental note of being more confident and went the total opposite direction and was way too aggressive. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I haven't hit that middle ground. For years we have had a good sex life with a few hit or miss days/weeks sprinkled in but lately it just seems to never end. I need to make things right, but I need to find something substantial and tangible to help me steer things back on track and get her to see how much I love her and have some further insight on how to move forward.", "summary": "we have been distant and sex life has gone to shit. Need perspective to help get things back on track."}
{"id": "t3_2ab7bx", "subreddit": "books", "title": "What exactly separates fiction from literary fiction/literature?", "post": "I remember there being a famous case in the American judicial system regarding pornography, and I think it was the judge that, when asked what constituted pornography/obscenity, he said something along the lines of, *I don't know how to describe it, but I know it when I see it.*\n\nThis is honestly how I feel about fiction/literature, etc. When I walk into a Barnes & Noble and go to the fiction section, I find one book and think, *definitely literature,* and yet I find another, like \"A Visit From the Goon Squad\" for instance, and the word literature just does not come to mind.  \n\nNow, \"A Visit From The Goon Squad\" was pretty highly regarded in many literary critic circles, but I read it and just did not feel that it had anywhere near the depth I was expecting, and so I'm prompted with this question, of what defines literature from just fiction? Because objectively, I think \"A Visit From the Goon Squad\" is considered literature, so I need to understand what makes it so.", "summary": "Sorry if this is confusing, if nothing else, I'm just curious, what separates fiction from literature. If you worked at a book store and had to place a book in either a fiction or literature section, what sorts of criteria would merit the book's placement in the respective sections?"}
{"id": "t3_1gtm8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Will making myself (24m) scarce make my girlfriend (24f) of 3 years & on/off LDR, who I think is about to leave me, decide she wants me after all?", "post": "Both Canadians here, we're both in Canada for summer but were planning to move to Europe together this fall. 2 years dating in same city & now our 1 year LDR is so close to ending, but all of a sudden, she seems to be losing interest (way less texts/calls, emotion). \n\nThe question is simple: If I stop texting/calling her, will my scarcity make her realize she doesn't want to leave me? Someone said this would increase her attraction to me on another post & it got me thinking that maybe being the same old me & letting her walk all over me won't increase my chances of keeping her.", "summary": "what kind of reaction will I get if I stop talking to her? Or, say, greatly decrease the amount we talk"}
{"id": "t3_2e08zb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by \"dropping the kids off\" at my girlfriend's disconnected \"pool\".", "post": "Obviously using a throwaway for this fuck up. As with most posts here, this did not happen today (if it did I'd probably still be washing my hands) \n\nA little context:\nLast summer I went to Bulgaria on holiday, met the hottest girl you could imagine who turned out to live half a mile away from me in a reaaally nice house. She and I got really close and eventually I asked her out and she said yes. All was good. Happy days. Then one time at her house, after a particularly vigorous make out session, I really needed a shit. I should add that they were having building work done and were having a new toilet installed. She had previously told me it was all ready to be used (some kind of sick joke?) so I went downstairs to make some room and did the gnarliest shit ever, one of those day-after-indian-food type shits.\n\n Only to find out that the new toilet was not actually plumbed into the system at all. (SHE LIED) So I had just taken a killer shit in a shiny new toilet which would not flush... Fuck.\n\nWhat happened afterwards was pretty fucking disgusting. Obviously I didn't want to gross out my then girlfriend by leaving a seven pound shit in her new loo, so I had to get elbow deep in my creation, and scoop it out in all its glory with my hands after wrapping them in near enough a whole roll of paper. I then had to scurry back to another toilet and drop the kids off there... Literally, it was the size of a baby. \n\nAt one point I contemplated taking a photo of my newly birthed tree trunk. Decided against it.", "summary": "shat in super hot girlfriend's un-plumbed toilet. What fun."}
{"id": "t3_30zeic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] asked to prom by my friend [17 F] because she needed a date, don't want it to be just as friends", "post": "Hello, so I am thoroughly confused as to how to act here. I was considering asking her myself, but was a bit taken aback when she did it herself, but I think it was just because she needed a date. That's what I have heard at least, but it isn't exactly what I had hoped. We dated for a few weeks in Middle School, but nothing serious of course, but now I am starting to have feelings for her again. In a way it seems a bit weird that she asked me in the first place as we haven't talked too much recently. I am currently debating between making a big deal of actually asking as a date or just getting her flowers and telling her how excited I am.\n\nThe main problem I have boils down to a few simple questions: Is there a way I can find out whether she meant it as a date or just friends? Is there a way for me to get that idea in her head? Is it a good idea to try and take her out on an individual date before-hand, and should I make a big deal of asking her?", "summary": "Crazy nerdy clueless high schooler is way out of his league. Is there anything I can do to make this more than just two friends?"}
{"id": "t3_21o3qo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] interested in her [17F] duration, personal issue", "post": "Hello /r/relationships,\nI'm kind of in the same situation I was in a year ago. I was seeing that girl from the US more frequently from week to week and started to get more interested in her. As time passed by, I lost 28 pounds in almost 4 months (mid march to end june) just because of her. I was weighing 117 pounds in march last year and got my weight down to 89 pounds which felt very good and I didn't even have any issues with my health and even now I don't.\n\nThe thing is that I didn't really have to lose so much weight in such a short time but I still did it because I just wanted to talk to her which -in the end- I couldn't do because she had moved from Germany over to England. I gained like 15 pounds back in the time from july to february this year. I then started to do sports again and lost 5 pounds already which is good but now the problem is that -like last time- I feel very empty inside because of all the hope I had back then and I also have now.\n\nWhy now? Because I'm chatting with a girl for a few days now and she seems to be very interested in me I guess. I have to mention that I felt quiete normal until yesterday. At the beginning, when I asked her for a picture of her face, she did not want to send me one because I was just an usual stranger to her. We were chatting for quiete some time and then, yesterday, she sent me a picture of her face and I was just stunned of how beautiful she is. Now that I know I really want to meet her, I have that big problem of losing weight again. My body doesn't force me to do it but my mind does. Normally, I'd be hungry, especially after eating one slice of bread but like last year, I can't help it and only drink water.\n\nI really hope I can get a little help from you guys and I'm sorry if some things don't sound well expressed but thank you.", "summary": "Met a girl over the internet, she sent me a picture of her and I just felt like I was in love and now I have my personal issue of not eating much again."}
{"id": "t3_50i7gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17M] need some relationship advice", "post": "I have been in love with this girl[16F] since 2 years right.\nAt first, she did not love me , said she only liked me as a friend.This year, She's changed and is saying that she wants to build a future with me and is texting me all cute and sweet love.\nThe thing is she doesn't wants to be in a relationship just yet.\nI've asked her if we can be in relationship after we finish school and she doesn't tells me a solid yes.\nAlso, she's really moody and her feelings keep changing quite frequently.\nI don't know if i should wait for her or get myself moving on. \nAny advice would be much appreciated . Thank you :).", "summary": "Should I wait for a girl who is probably confused about what she feels for me?"}
{"id": "t3_12is3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Distraught at the moment and need urgent advice. Huge fight between me (f26) and my boyfriend (m26)", "post": "Me and my boyfriend just had a huge fight and it got quite physical. To give a bit of background, I recently became pregnant even though I have been on the pill since I was 17 years old. I honestly don't know how it happened. I struggled with the decision as to whether or not to have the baby but I decided against it, considering my new career post university and all the student debt I have accumulated. It just wasn't the right time for us at all (boyfriend is in much the same boat). I had the abortion yesterday and I have been quite moody and snappy the last week in general. Tonight, I don't quite understand why, I simply cracked and instigated a fight with my boyfriend over something very simple. I've been under so much pressure to keep this pregnancy a secret, I went to work today even though I probably should not, and had people riding me all day - I just had enough! \n\nDuring our fight he started choking me and he would not stop. He kept doing it every time I would speak in any way and I honestly thought he was going to kill me. I have bruises all over my neck even now. \n\nHe has driven off with our car, my wallet, my phone and everything I need to get out of this house. I don't know what to do. I literally cannot get in contact with anyone else. \n\nHelp me please. I am crying and distraught at the moment. I need to calm down so I can think straight...", "summary": "huge fight with my boyfriend, it got very physical and I need advice about what to do"}
{"id": "t3_jro4c", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Any suggestions on modern authors &/ a place to defend/develop your thoughts and other's?", "post": "Hiya, guys. I've recently been swallowing books by the likes of Margaret Fuller, Emerson,  Thoreau, & Rousseau. I feel like I am being fairly biased to the minds of the past. I am especially concerned that my vision is very narrow as those authors, in general, are fairly similar in their beliefs.\n  I would really love some MODERN authors who challenge these new tendencies. I feel as if I'm simply going through a phase.. but why not get all I can out of it?\n\nOr even.. Can anyone point me in the direction of a place for just thinking and debating with others? I have a couple papers I've written for school that have allowed me to develop and solidify some potentially controversial thoughts I would love to discuss. I know there are things I have missed.", "summary": "Modern philosophical-ish authors? Online forums or something to develop & challenge my beliefs?"}
{"id": "t3_2sokic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my (23F) coworker (40M) flirting with me? We've worked together for 8 months.", "post": "One of my coworkers is so handsome. We chat and banter a fair bit but there are some things he does which make it seem like he's flirting with me (which I would be totally ok with), but Im not sure. Just to be clear, in no way am I looking to 'get with' this guy because of the obvious age difference. I'm just curious whether he's flirting with me or if I'm reading too much into it. \n\nFirst off, half the time he calls me by name, the other half he calls me things like 'love', 'sweetie', 'babe' etc. On a few occasions, there has been a group of people talking, and he'll look at me with a smile and wink at me. Also, he throws in statements every now and then about my appearance - for example, once I asked him for help with something and he said \"I've got it, all you have to do is sit there and look beautiful\" (aw!) \n\nThere are only 2 other girls at my work (both very close to me in age) but I've never really seen him interact with them, so I don't know if he's just like that with everyone.", "summary": "Coworker does some things that come off to me as flirting, but I'm not sure if that's the case or if I'm just reading too much into it because I find him attractive."}
{"id": "t3_1qrz1c", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M23] seeking opinions on my relationship status.", "post": "I'm currently in a open relationship with a good [F20] that I met like 1 month ago. We have been seeing eachother quite frequently and I've started to grow more and more interested in her.\n\nThe problem still is that she is satisfied with the current situation with us hanging out and that we occasionally end up having sex. Mostly because she doesn't want to (in her words) end up being very annoying and controling, which she has stated that she gets in relationships. Mostly since she had this experience with a previous boyfriend of hers. This ended up with them drifting apart i think (haven't really researched those events due to it not being my business)\n\nMy problem with the current situation is that the relationship is open and that both of us can see other people if we end up partying etc. I myself isn't much for going out and doing this though since I dislike the clubs for several reasons. She has been with other dudes twice during parties though, which makes me kinda sad since I haven't really got anything to say due to the relationship status. Well I have told her that I don't like it but I can't really say anything else because: we had previously discussed the actual relationship terms when we started seeing eachother. \n\nNow Im not sure if I want to go on with it. She is a good friend and all and I would like to be with her. But not on these terms, since it just ends up being weird.", "summary": "[M23] and [F20] having problems in an open relationship, wants to make it work, not sure if should try to make it work or just end it."}
{"id": "t3_elgds", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My roommate is whiney, clingy, messy, annoying, and clueless that she drives me insane. Advice?", "post": "I know this is mostly for romantic relationships, but I am hoping to get some help.\n\nI have been living with \"Jen\" all semester. At first things were great, but then she got messy and clingy and whiney. She leaves half eaten pudding cups around and her dirty clothes are everywhere. She's single and bitter about it while I'm in a happy LTR (We never hang out in our room while she's there and she has never seen us do more than a quick kiss.). When I try to leave to get alone time or to see my boyfriend she complains and practically begs me to take her along, even if I have tried to make it clear that it's a date. She cannot stand to be alone--ever. She's only taking 7 units and just got a job last week, so basically she just sits in our room playing iPod games always.\n\nI NEED alone time, I love my boyfriend and like to spend time with him alone sometimes, and I'm really struggling to feel compassion for her. I know she's under a lot of financial stress, so I don't want to dump on her by giving her a list of everything I hate about her. But she's the kind of person that if I told her I need to be just roommates--not best friends--she'd fly off the handle. And our friends are the same people, so she's not just a random person. She thinks everything is peachy and we're living together for the rest of college (I have made NO promises to that affect, she assumes.). \n\nJen is a difficult person that holds grudges. I am happy to be her friend, but as long as she is my roommate I need my alone time and guilt-free boyfriend time without feeling like I am personally causing her loneliness. She's taken to bashing me to our friends about how, as her roommate, I ought not leave her alone this much. How can I talk to her without causing her to freak out, stress even more, and hate me?", "summary": "Once happy roommate is messy even when I ask her to clean, guilt trips me for spending time with my boyfriend, and whines when I leave her alone. She's also a grudge-holder. Advice on how to deal?"}
{"id": "t3_1hg16k", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [22/M] asked out a girl [20/F] and am confused by her behaviour. Has somebody an explanation?", "post": "I'm (22/M) interested in an explanation for behaviour like this.\nStory goes like this: A girl [20/F] met me at a music festival. I can't remember because it was a short encounter and I was a bit tipsy. This girl somehow finds me on facebook. She was very cute, hot and single so I thought why not give it a try.\n\nSo I asked her out for having a drink. It went like this:\n\n*Me: \"Let's have a drink next week! When are you free?\"*\n\n*She: \"Hey (: Sorry I'm on vaction...*\n\nAt this point I was sure that she isn't interested so:\n\n*Me: Easy. Have a good vacation!*\n\n3 hours later she gets back with\n\n*She: Wait I'm not gone yet... when have you in mind? (:\nHave you been yesterday in XXX?*\n\n*Me: Next Tuesday or Thursday?\nUhm yeah I'm working in XXX. Have you spotted me there? ;)*\n\n*She: Yes ((: I'm working in this city too (:*\n\nShe hasn't responded the first question and hasn't made any effort to find a time/date so:\n\n*Me: Cool what a coincidence! :D So when are you heading to vacation?*\n\nAbout a day later:\n\n*She: Tuesday ;)*\n\n*Me: Well then we see us after your vacation maybe ;)*\n\nHaven't heard anything from her after that and don't expect it either.\nFor me it's obvious that she isn't interesed, is she? But that's not my question.\nMy question is: **Why are some girls doing this? What's the point?", "summary": "A girl met me at music festival, I forgot her, she finds me on facebook, I ask her out, she declines, I take it easy, she suddenly pretends to wanna find a time/date, I make a suggestion, she ignores it, I'm confused"}
{"id": "t3_42is4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] and my girlfriend [F17] seem to enter awkward silences where we have no ides what to talk about", "post": "We have been together for almost a year now and I am afraid that we may have ran out of things to talk about. We go through the same \"how was your day\" routine whenever we talk and then our minds just seem to go blank. We don't speak for 5-20 minutes at a time and then we will just say something random that starts a two minutes discussion then starts all over again. This all happened on Skype calls we frequently have and we just talk for hours, but now its seems that half of that time is complete silence. We are very close and open with each other, and i just cant help thinking that its going downhill, any pointers or advise?", "summary": "me and my girl have frequent awkward silences, that's basically the gist."}
{"id": "t3_289jmy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Clearly, someone thinks they're too good to be like everyone else.", "post": "So I'm in my first year of university, and I applied to different exchange programs, because I can only handle so much Frenchies and Qu\u00e8bec (I'm just kidding I love it here), and one that I applied to is really close to home, my dad wants me to go, and so on, but this school is quite stuck up when it comes to applications (Doing it later than everyone else, not emailing you, etc.).  \n\nAnyways, there's two campuses and I applied to both as an exchange, and the one that wasn't near my home accepted me but I'm like meh, I guess I'll just stay here. (Keep in mind this was back in January.)  \n\nThen of course today I get an email from the campus that I *really* wanted to get into and they're all, \"Hey, registration is open, quick! Get your courses!\" and I'm just going \"lol wut you didn't want me.\"  I check the website and WOULD YOU LOOK AT THAT THEY ACCEPTED ME A MONTH, AND DIDN'T SEND A DAMN EMAIL OR A LETTER OR *ANYTHING", "summary": "\u2014my university of choice screwed me over."}
{"id": "t3_tjyix", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do in this situation?", "post": "I am about to finish my junior year in high school. I currently live in the rural South. I'm not very happy here at all. Life is very slow, most of the kids are really Southern, and I just don't really like it. I have lived in other places, such as England and Indiana and I was very little but from what I can remember I liked in those two places alot better. I spend 8 months in England in sixth grade and consider it one of the happiest times of my life.\n\nI do however have an option to leave the South. My mother basically told me since we can't afford out of state tuition, I'm stuck going to the local state college, or we could move to a state where I want to apply. She went to UW Madison, and told me she would be happy to move up there. I have made decent grades, never made a C, all A's and B's so I think I could get in.", "summary": ">"}
{"id": "t3_3i9riq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "3 UPDATE: I (18M) don't feel comfortable with my girlfriend's bestfriend (20M) being presistant with my girlfriend. (18F)", "post": "Last post: \n\nSo I heard what you guys said... Again. I talked to her about it but she was pretty set about doing it over 1-2 months. I argued with her a bit saying that it will create drama since she'd be replying to him less and less over a course of time. This did happen before as she ignored him because she wanted to indirectly say that she didn't like him. Anyways, I told her I could tolerate her doing it over a course of time but just last night, she told me that she cut him off. \n\nNow, she's pretty sad. Her main reason for being sad is because she had lots of memories with him and now, she doesn't have anyone other than me to talk to everyday. She says she feels lonely and I don't know what to do. (Her dad is very controlling and rarely lets her go out to see her friends) \n\nI feel extremely bad about telling her to cut him off. For me, I was in a band in my senior year and we have an active Facebook group chat and when I was showing her some funny messages today to try and cheer her up, she got all quiet and got sad. She no longer has her best friend to talk to her everyday about nothing and I feel like I can't fill the void for some reason...\n\nDo you guys have any suggestions on what I can do to cheer her up?", "summary": "Girlfriend cut off best friend and is now lonely since she doesn't have anyone else to talk to everyday other than me. I don't know what to do to make her feel better."}
{"id": "t3_3d584j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking 10x the amount of morphine I thought I was", "post": "I deal with a lot of chronic pain issues and for many many years I took 10mg morphine sulfate as needed. As we found other ways to manage the pain, I ended up moving and didn't form a new relationship with a pain clinic, so when my morphine ran out, I just let it go. \n\nHowever, from time to time, I have a flair up that is particularly bad. A friend of mine who is extremely ill had a bottle of morphine from when his docs tried him on it, but it hadn't worked well and they switched him back to dilauded, so he gave it to me. \n\nLast night was pretty damn bad, so after almost a year of having it sit on my shelf, I decided to take one. \n\nLast night was... odd, and I woke up this morning dizzy and miserable. I was supposed to drive to a doctor's appointment, but realized that was a bad plan. Eventually it occurred to me that my friend is *very* sick and maybe they wouldn't have him on 10mg morphine. Which is when I realized that it was **100mg** not 10. \n\nSo I'm just going to lie here for the day I think.", "summary": "this is why you don't take other people's meds kids. I took a 100mg morphine when I thought I was taking a 10"}
{"id": "t3_2nhgry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my mom [70F] who has type 2 diabetes and doesn't want to watch her diet.", "post": "My mom and I live far apart but talk on the phone often. She has type 2 diabetes, is overweight and taking medication. She recently went to see her doctor and he told her that her blood sugar is way too high and that she needs to switch meds. He wanted to put her on insulin and she said no, but agreed to try another type of medicine.\n\nWhen I asked if she's watching her diet, she said no. I asked what she's been eating and it's basically everything a diabetic shouldn't eat: lots of white bread, pasta, sweets. She said that she sometimes eats multiple slices of white bread just as an after dinner snack! This scares me. I'm not there to cook for her or to help her make better choices, and she won't take my advice to even switch to whole wheat bread because she doesn't like the way it tastes. \n\nThe way she sees it, she's a grown woman and should be able to eat whatever she wants. I think there's truth to that, but I don't want her to get sicker, or worse. She told her doctor that she feels fine, and he told her that although she may feel fine on the outside, she's damaging her insides pretty bad. She expects the new medication to fix everything.\n\nWhat am I within my right to say to her? I want to be considerate and to treat her like the intelligent adult woman she is, and hopefully lead her to better her diet because she WANTS to be healthy. What should I say? How would you handle this situation?", "summary": "Mom is diabetic and not eating right. How can I convince her to watch her diet from far away?"}
{"id": "t3_3ukz69", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by super glueing my feet to my shoes", "post": "This actually happened a few months ago but it was definitely a fuck up.\n\nI had bought myself a expensive pair of shoes, \u00a360 Etnies, usually I stick with really cheap \u00a310-20 pound shoes and have no problems. Within two weeks both the soles have begun to rip off from the rest of the shoe, teaches me to waste money on shoes aye. But I decide it would be a good idea to super glue them back together, so I go buy some super glue, and one morning before college I have a go. I'd done it before with other shoes and not had a problem. But when I think I'm finished and they've dried (I'm in a rush to catch the  bus), I place both feet in the shoes at the same time... And suddenly feel a strong burning sensation... \n\nI quickly get one off with just a few bits of sock stuck to my foot. But the other refuses to come off, so I end up lying on the bathroom floor (shared accommodation, I had a flatmate) with the shower on maximum heat trying to pull the shoe and the sock off my foot. It hurt alot, and I screamed that much to wake up my flatmate. I managed in the end, but my foot was bleeding like mad, skin had come off... I then missed my bus", "summary": "I superglued both feet to my shoes, woke up my flatmate screaming and missed the bus"}
{"id": "t3_vcq81", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever made yourself cry as an emotional release?", "post": "As a result of having to put up a front with my family and friends, I have become somewhat emotionally numb. I went through a really upsetting incident at home, where I tried to talk to my parents about how I was on the fence with my sexuality.  Their distraught caused me to feel disgusted with myself and upset at how much pain it caused my parents. \n\nThat event was swept under the rug and so I've become conditioned to not react to other people's bad reactions or events that are upsetting as much but now all of my natural process of feeling upset is pent up and the only way I know how to release this is by listening to a really moving song whilst looking at pictures of my dog that died 6 years ago. But I do feel a bit better afterwards, however I feel like I'm not the only one that may practice this form of 'therapy'.", "summary": "Have become a difficult person to upset, force myself to cry as holding it in is causing internal turmoil."}
{"id": "t3_1zcu45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] girlfriend [19 F] doesn't want to be with me because of her career and I think she's being ridiculous.", "post": "I'm a student in college, and I have my future planned out and contracted out for the next ~10 years of my life. My girlfriend of 1 year doesn't know exactly what she wants after college. She has a couple ideas of going to grad school, being a teacher, or going straight into her field, geology. In about a year, I will be told where to live and work after my graduation by my employer, but for now I don't know. \n\nShe says if she moves with me after college, that she will be sacrificing her career and will not ever get to be an independent person. It really has been bothering her and depressing her because she recently realised she doesn't know what to do after college. It seems like this idea just popped up out of nowhere, we have been happy together. So she says we shouldn't be together anymore. I don't think her logic makes sense. If she doesn't know what she wants, and she still claims to love me, then why is she so concerned about her independence? Am I somehow preventing her from being independent? Is it an excuse to breakup with me? Is there something I don't understand?", "summary": "My girlfriend wants to break up because she thinks living with me after college will mean she is not independent and will limit her career options and I think she is wrong."}
{"id": "t3_dsbbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please Help Reddit question for medical/doctor people", "post": "Hey reddit about a 2 weeks ago my doctor hsd some sort of complaint file against him and until it gets taken care of he cant write any rxs. long store short if been out of meds that without i can work or really function a normal person. every office ive called has just given me  run around and told e if i get bad i cloud go to th ER witch i dont want to i want to me i want to work but with out my meds i cant is there any one out there that can please give me some advice on what i can do to get my meds asap and help would be greatly appreciated", "summary": "cant get my meds everyone i call basically tells my piss off and good luck. meanwhile im slowing loosing the person ive worked so hard to be come."}
{"id": "t3_1jzvfp", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need help with my distracted dog.", "post": "I have a one year old pitt/terrier mix. He is a shy dog (we adopted him) but is very friendly with other animals and people. He has been very easy to train so far. For example, I have been able to teach him simple tricks such as crawl and turn around in two days or less. \n\nHe is also very playful and loves tennis balls. When he is in the apartment and we are around he is very energetic. Part of this is that he is still a pup and that he is inside for much of the day. Therefore, when I pull out the ball he gets super excited.  However, when I take him outside to the park, he is IMMEDIATELY distracted by grass. All he wants to do is smell it and eat it with a stick mixed in here or there. I know, this doesn't sound like a big deal. But we go outside to play and it is almost impossible to redirect his attention back to the ball and playing. Then, of course, he is still crazy when we go back inside. How can I get him to focus more on playing and fetching?", "summary": "Need help training my easily distracted dog to stop smelling/eating grass instead of fetching and playing."}
{"id": "t3_yth1t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Relationships based on chemical attractions or is this more?", "post": "So I fell in love with my bestfriend on accident a few years ago. Sometimes I honestly believe we are soulmates as cheesy as that sounds. We finish each other sentences and I still feel my heart skip a beat whenever I think about him. Even just holding him sends electricity through my body. I just don't know if this is residual sexual attraction based on the chemical component or if its more. The only problem though is that in terms of a relationship we both wanted completely different things and were not on the same continuum. I got frustrated and begin almost hating him and pushed him away and actually ended up marrying someone else without him ever knowing. [I got married because that's what you do at my age. I wanted something solid] At this point I am overcome with guilt as neither my husband nor this man know the extent to my relationship with each of them.[My husband and I have a great relationship and all my needs are being met] however, I cannot stop seeing, thinking, or lying to my bestfriend. I imagine having a full fledged affair with him if you can even call it that as he has no idea that it'd be an affair. So reddit, what do I do? My heart, soul, and body want one guy and my head says youre a moron for even thinking about divorce as my bestfriend is not ready for that sort of commitment either way and my husband is a wonderful guy. Do i just lose both of them and blame myself for being selfish bitch and come clean? Do I have the affair and hope that my feelings are just pent up sexual tension? Or do I just cut all ties and go on with my marriage?", "summary": "Do you believe love is just a bunch of chemicals? How can I stop being a stupid whore who's the cause of two amazing men suffering?"}
{"id": "t3_20y7q8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving kids behind", "post": "I help run a kids' theatre troupe. Usually there is another adult and myself running rehearsals. Today I called rehearsal early due to parent teacher conferences. \n\nI let a few of the kids use my phone to call their parents to get rides home. One set of kids said they'd be alright. I offered a ride to a kid who normally doesn't have one, and took her home.\n\nI was on my way back when the mother of the kids still at the school called me, asking where her kids were. I said they were still at school when I had gone to take the other girl home, and was on my way back to the school. \n\nHer kids weren't there.\n\nI should have stayed until the mother got there. Now the police are involved, and I feel like shit. I apologized profusely, and I took responsibility for my fuck-up, but I wish I could do more. I wish I could go back and think clearly, not leave those girls until their mother picked them up.", "summary": "Should've listened to GWB, and left no child behind."}
{"id": "t3_31rslf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [29 M] of 1.5 years. I have trip abroad for 8 months, he wants to end it.", "post": "Hey all. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We live together. I love him. I'm pretty damned sure he's it for me. \n\nOne small problem. I will be traveling abroad for 8 months starting soon. Though nothing else is wrong with our relationship, he says that this is too long and that he wants to break up. He \"can't do the distance.\" He wants to stay friends and chat a little while I'm gone. He wants to hear how I'm doing, etc. He is open to the idea of getting back together when I come back if that's what happens. \n\nThis trip has basically forced the \"are we meant to be together\" conversation. While I'm at that point, he's not. It's not that he never sees himself there, but just needs more time to figure it out. But this trip is right in the middle of that time where we would be doing that.\n\nWe are currently living together and are going to be doing so for the three months I'm still here for. \n\nShould I consider canceling my trip? Honestly, I am really thinking about this. I don't want to miss out on the opportunity to travel, but I also don't want to miss out on what could be the best opportunity of my life.", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't want long distance, I'll be coming back, nothing else wrong. what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4ju977", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hi! I'm John(Fake) [18 M] and I have a crush on someone[18 F] I meet every week in college but only talk to online.", "post": "She's really cool and likes a lot of stuff I also like but somehow when we meet up at hallways both of us(at least I think so) get nervous and sort of dodge each other. We're both kind of introverted so that really makes my situation worse. I always see her walking alone too, I really want to approach her then but I didn't want to seem weird or creepy. When she talks online she's more spontaneous and active. She appreciates jokes and posts I make up to the point that we make sarcastic remarks and we even have some jokes that only the both of us will share. Even after all that we still can't approach each other so I'm really at a loss. I don't even want a relationship right away. (since I've still go to finish my studies plus I don't want to bother hers) I just want to get to know her better.", "summary": "How do I approach a shy and conservative girl?"}
{"id": "t3_355jhs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by producing a biological weapon", "post": "Hello, Hi, I said Hello! -It's a TIFU for me.\nSo after 8 straight days of not getting anything out of my back,\nthe day came - and I will tell you, I WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN.\nThe stuff that came out of my back was like a biological weapon\n- I almost died, literally.\nAnd the best of it was, that everybody knows, that such smell doesn't disappear after just leaving the bathroom, it stays there for a baaad long while.\nAtleast I guess that I now know that I'm kinda dangerous, also if I find a blackmarket, I just could try to earn some money by selling biological-weapon material.", "summary": "Produced a biological weapon that should not see earth."}
{"id": "t3_2s7x4s", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Very frustrated. Is it me? I could use some insight from other middle school parents", "post": "I am severely frustrated with my daughter's school. She is a seventh grader in an advanced academic program that she had to go through a process to get into. Her teachers are marking her down because I refuse to sign a daily assignment log. \n\nThe part that really gets me is that I talked to all of these teachers, personally, about how I think it is ridiculous and I had no intention of doing that. They were all fine with it, until it came to grading time. \n\nI just wrote a letter to the teacher and the principal giving my signature and stating my disgust with this system. She should be responsible for her own homework, and she is. There is no reason that my lack of signature should result in her getting a lower grade. No reason at all.\n\nPlease tell me that this isn't just me. Do any others on this subreddit deal with this nonsense? What have you done to solve it?", "summary": "7th grade daughter's teacher is marking her grades down because I don't sign her daily assignment log. "}
{"id": "t3_1hlot3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update #1: My boyfriend [17m] is too insecure and controlling. Should I [17f] break it off?", "post": "Original thread: \n\nFirst of all, I'd like to thank you all for caring about me and helping me. I could reply for a while but I went to the fair today to keep my mind off of things. There I saw couples that seemed happy, and instead of resenting them I just had hope that someday I'd be with someone I really 'belonged' with. \n\nMost importantly, I broke it off with him before I went to the fair. I messaged him on Facebook. He hasn't reacted strongly and I don't expect him to. He just said it was alright and he understood, although he did ask me not to make him seem like a bad person to our friend group. I told him I would try my best. So far I'm pretty happy with my decision and I haven't cried or anything. He hasn't tried to contact me but he probably will soon, somehow.", "summary": "Thank you guys again for the help. I hope I can get therapy and help in the long run."}
{"id": "t3_1cvh1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (21) and I (19) have trouble seeing eye to eye on how to handle exes/outside feelings", "post": "We've been dating for about 8 months, go to the same school and are pretty happy together. However, we clash at times when instances of outside affection appear. She believes that its best for her to maintain those relationships and let the feelings subside ontheir own, while I prefer to let them know that i'm very much in love and if they proceed to cross that boundary that they'll be cut off from my life. I personally believe that her methods are problematic, as we've been together for some time now and she still receives \"I love you\" texts and \"I've been drinking more because of you\" ones from her exes. Since she believes im this method, i've aired my complaints but havent explicitly told her to stop. Am I wrong for shutting people out and not believing in her process?", "summary": "I cut them off, she keeps them on. Are either of these wrong/more effective?"}
{"id": "t3_3dh85c", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My fianc\u00e9 is in the U.S. illegally, and I've pressed domestic violence assault with child abuse charges (case pending). Will he get deported?", "post": "[CO] Finally left my increasingly abusive fianc\u00e9 of 2 1/2 years (by getting him arrested on 3rd degree domestic violence assault and child abuse charges, along with getting him served a permanent protection order, which is now pending the domestic violence case's resolution). Fianc\u00e9 and I have a child, and after he's convicted and serves his sentence, I fear he will try to file to see her. He has out of control anger issues (destroyed a bunch of stuff and bruised me up on several occasions) and has control issues (isolated me from friends and family stopped me from going to a self help group because he said I was turning into a bitch). This is his second domestic violence offense (the former was 9-10 years ago with a previous significant other).\n\nI thought ICE would put a hold on him when he was initially in custody, but he has bailed out and is out working. I've heard every answer possible from victim advocates, DA, Guardian ad litem. No one has any idea. I called the local immigration detention office more than once, no one ever returned my call. He tells friends that we'll get back together when this is all said and done, I never want to hear from him again, nor do I want him to have any contact with our daughter. Does anyone know (at least) the chances of him getting deported, or even to help him get deported?", "summary": "I have a pending domestic violence case and a pending permanent protection order against my fianc\u00e9 (who's in the U.S. illegally). What are the chances of him getting deported?"}
{"id": "t3_11ahhl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(15/m) I'm young, but I'm having a terrible problem, and would like Reddit's assistance. Any advice is helpful. Please. (warning, long)", "post": "Reddit, I'm having a terrible problem. Right now, I'm seeing (not dating) this girl, we'll call Amanda (15/f). There's this other girl, who we'll call... Libby (15/f). \n\nBackground information: I met Amanda in a class, and we liked each other. I asked her to a school formal, and she agreed. We've been going to group things like BBQ's and bowling for about a year. We're not *dating*, but I planned on it once we get older (my personal opinion is that most dating relationships started young end badly). Anyways, about halfway through my seeing Amanda, Libby came into my life. We started out as friends, nothing more, but gradually grew into best friends. Like, super close friends. Anyways, we've talked and just grown closer. Now, back to the present. I'm still seeing Amanda, but I really like Libby, and she really likes me. Now, don't get me wrong, Amanda's a great girl, and I would love to keep our relationship going, but Libby.... I just really like Libby, and I think we would just be better in the long run. But I don't want to hurt Amanda by breaking up with her! Sometimes, I wish something happened in me and Amanda's relationship where she just didn't like me anymore, or something, just so I can be with Libby. But... I just don't know what to do, at all. I'm so confused. I need help. Please help! \n\nNote, we are in a small, private school. If anything happened, everyone would know about it.", "summary": "In a \"relationship\" with Amanda, really like Libby, but don't want to hurt Amanda by breaking up with her. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3i7ti5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Notice of tax deficiency, post divorce", "post": "Hello fellow PF redditors, I received a notice of tax deficiency from 2012 in the amount of $2,074.  That year my ex-wife and I each had one 1099 to our names that were not properly filed.  The notice includes the 1099 amounts and corresponding social security #s.  \n\nWe divorced in 2014 and our divorce decree states \"each party shall be solely and separately responsible for paying any and all debts heretofore contracted or incurred by either in their own name.\"  So, it appears that we are each individually responsible for these debts, and now I need to get the IRS to break this down and pursue her separately from me.  I will appreciate any advice on how to get a hold of the IRS so this can be broken down and they can pursue each of us individually.  I always feared that an issue like this would arise and force my ex and I to reconnect, and I do not want that.  Thank you!", "summary": "IRS says my ex wife and I owe back taxes, I want to know how I can get the IRS to break this down and treat us as separate individuals. "}
{"id": "t3_2jjxj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21M confused about my friends (20F) actions last night and whether they meant more than I initially thought?", "post": "I live in a shared house with 4 other friends. I got a call last night while playing Xbox with one of my buddies at around 3am from a (20F) friend asking to come round. She had been drinking but headed back early and said she was lonely (her exact words). She asked to come round and i said she could. I've known this girl a couple of years and she used to be FWB with one of the guys I live with. \n\nTurns out she was only walking from her house which is pretty close by and got to mine like 5 minutes after the phone call. I was downstairs with the buddy I was up with and we let her in. I don' think she was expecting me to be up with anyone else (can't be 100% sure on that though). One of the first things she commented on was about my new haircut and appearance (both positive) which she has never done in the past.\n\nI made her tea and soon after another housemate came down to see what was happening (her previous FWB). A lot of the conversation was directly between me and her and we really did have a laugh the whole time she was there. \n\nAfter about an hour she decided to head back and me and my buddies went back to my room. They immediately suggested she was hitting on me and that I should have walked her back but up to that point I'd assumed she genuinely was bored/lonely as I know that she lives with people that she doesn't know/like very well. Thing is they never allowed to both to be alone in the room so I wasn't sure if they were just joking around.\n\nJust to clarify she's never done anything like this before and is only a friend i see perhaps a couple of times a month. I messaged her soon after she left asking if she got back ok and she said she did.\n\nDo you guys think she was being flirty? I certainly didn't feel at the time she was giving enough signals that she was interested and even now looking back I think its unlikely.", "summary": "A friend (21F) asked to come over to my house last night and possibly wanted more than tea and giggles."}
{"id": "t3_253ru0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Help Wanted: Working Out and Sex Drive", "post": "On Sunday, I ran my first 10-mile race. While this is a great accomplishment I have noticed a significant spike in my sex drive during the week leading up to the race and in the days since I ran; about 10 days in total.\nI workout 2-3 times per week for about 45 minutes each time and have average eating habits. During the week leading up to the race, I ate mostly a plant-based diet - salad for lunch and dinner, fish for protein, etc. - and worked out 3 times and ran only twice (Not great prep, I know.) This helped me lose about 2 or 3 pounds.\nNow, I cannot stop thinking about sex! This morning (Thursday) I spent about 3 hours watching porn and \"distracted\" myself by going to a midday fitness class. Now I want to jerk off again or have find someone to sex.\nI don't know what to do. This is both embarrassing and confusing. I want to continue working out but am honestly afraid being fit will turn me into a sex addict.\nBackground: I played soccer in college and recall a similar correlation during my off season workouts. I am now in my late 20s and no longer train 5-6 days a week as was the norm in college. This is the most physically active I have been since my early 20s.\nQuestion: Is there research that has connected a higher sex drive (thinking more about sex) with a increased physical activity (working out)? Also, share your experiences because I feel like an outlier here.", "summary": "I ran my first long race and have not been able to stop thinking about sex over the last 10 days. Does working out more turn you into a horn dog?"}
{"id": "t3_gjokk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"Casual\" Relationship Headed serious... or is it?", "post": "So Reddit, I am 20 years old and she is 19. We met at school, we are in a few classes together. We've been casually dating now for about 2 1/2 months. At first it was strictly casual. We would do things together, mainly going out to clubs or shows and then head back to her place for a roll in the sack. Lately its gotten a little deeper though. We talk about serious things, share secrets, she does things I would only expect a girlfriend to do like kissing my cheek and cuddles a lot and even texts me randomly to tell me I am cute, or that she wants to hang out to watch a movie or something. Here is my issue: When we first got together she made it clear that she didn't want a relationship, so is she just getting closer to me and still doesn't want anything? Or is there a possibility of this getting serious?", "summary": "Relationship started out casual is now looking potentially serious, how can i know for sure?"}
{"id": "t3_qyppd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it creepy if...?", "post": "19F nerdy as half hell interested in this nerdy as all hell 22M\n\nIs it creepy if I message him on facebook to hang out?\n\nWe know each other so it's not like getting a message from a random anon or something. We are in a club together at school and almost always talk about our nerdy interests...D&D, favorite video games, pokemon...and things of that nature. He's socially awesome penguin, and I'm totally socially awkward penguin. I suspect that he may be a bit awkward in the way of girls though...\n\nI don't have his phone number, so it's not like I could text him or something. Every time we've been about to exchange numbers something totally interrupts the exchange, and ultimately, it doesn't happen.\n\nSo reddit...help me out here. Please.", "summary": "Nerdy girl interested in this nerdy guy. We know each other and such, but don't have phone numbers. Creepy if I facebook message him to hang out?"}
{"id": "t3_1l2ts3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18f] caught my [18m] boyfriend posting naked selfies on a gay male subreddit!", "post": "I'm not really sure where to begin, I found the picture earlier today and confronted him about it. He said it was only a one time thing and that he was 'curious' to see what men thought of him but for me this is a huge red flag. \n\nWe've been together on-off for under a year now, don't get me wrong I have absolutely nothing wrong with LGBT individuals, I've got quite a number of gay friends, my best friend is gay... it's just, it's really weird that he was actively seeking approval from gay men. It's not the first time he's done this apparently, there was an incident a year and a half ago (before we met) that he traded pictures with a guy not too far away and it made me feel uncomfortable. \n\nHe posted the picture during one of our 'off' periods, about two weeks before we got back together. He said he never wanted to hide it from me which is why he didn't use a throwaway account but he also expected me to not react well to it. His personality as well is rather 'camp' (sorry if I offend anybody) and girls thinking he's gay has been an issue in the past, but he assures me he's straight, I don't think I believe him anymore. I'm a mixture of confused, angry and somewhat disgusted right now and I really need advice. I've proposed we take a short 'break' so I can get my thoughts around it so we're not really talking atm.", "summary": "Caught boyfriend uploading a naked picture on a gay subreddit, found it (he didn't use a throwaway) and am not sure how to feel/react."}
{"id": "t3_3xbga2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know how to and if I should tell her.. It's making me crazy. (20m to 19f)", "post": "Hi,\n\nPlease allow me to provide a brief summary of our friendship before I describe the current situation.\n\nThere's a girl I've known for about 2.5 years now. Met her at a dance event and we've been cool ever since. Barely had contact though, up until this summer. I went to visit one of the plays she starred in and then we picked up contact again.\n\nWe decided upon attending the same dance event as back then, which lasts a week, and during that time I discovered that I had developed a huge crush on her without even knowing it.\n\nSchool started and we're both really busy with it, so up until about three weeks ago we kept contact, but not as actively as before.\n\nNow we basically talk on a daily basis, sometimes with small flirty things. When we meet up, there's a lot of laughter and just plain up good times. Last time I saw her she got me a small, yet personally related, present.\n\nThis weekend we will be having lunch for two at a good restaurant and afterwards attend a roller disco. We've been doing these kinds of things every now and then. She agreed to join me on some sort of romantic boat trip in 2 weeks, to which she's really looking forward.\n\nI don't know how to bring the news to her without sounding like I organized a lot of these fun and 'date-ish' things just to impress her. I've known her for quite a while, but don't want to ruin that. On the other side I should make clear that I have developed feelings for her, as they're getting stronger by the day. A lot of friends tell me there's big odds of she being into me as well as she loves being around me as well, but I'm a shy guy at this and signals haven't been too abundant.", "summary": "liking a girl I've known for quite a while. Been doing a lot of fun stuff with her, but developed serious feelings. Might be mutual, but unsure of that. Friendship and trust level are good. Don't know if and how I should tell her, as I feel I can't keep this to myself any longer."}
{"id": "t3_3968oy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on a bro date.", "post": "This actually happened about a week and a half ago. So, I recently moved to NYC from Miami to go to school. I decided to come up here a few months early to get acclimated, and I got a job at a Verizon retail store pretty quickly (had some experience).\n\nWe were kind of slow one day at work a couple weeks ago, and I don't know that many people yet because I just arrived a few months ago. This guy comes in for a phone charger, and I'm showing him options while making small talk. I asked him where he works, if he's from NY originally, etc. He gives me a business card and tells me to feel free to text him on his personal cell.\n\nI shoot him a text a few days later, and we agree to meet up for drinks at this bar he knows. I show up, we go inside, it's kind of a dive bar, which I'm cool with. We grab some bar food and a couple beers, and we're chatting away.\n\nBased on some comments, I start to get this vibe that he doesn't like women, which is fine, but then I start to get this vibe that he likes ME. We're a few drinks in, and he starts giving me the stare. I made this excuse to get out, and I agree to walk him to the subway before calling a cab. We get to the station, and he admits that he likes me a lot and wants to meet up again. I mustered something like \"Thanks, let's hang out again sometime,\" and then texted him later that I'm only interested in women but had a good time.\n\nEver since, I've been questioning the vibe that I'm putting out for him to have thought that I liked him romantically...", "summary": "Grabbing drinks with a bro, turns out I was actually on a date, now questioning if I'm putting out the right vibe."}
{"id": "t3_4erlq9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M23] reboot a stale connection with [23F]?", "post": "Two weeks ago I chatted up this girl on Tinder. She'd text back short responses, always punctuated with a period, no emojis, the very occasional haha.\n\nI pursued and ended up meeting up with her at a bar on the weekend. We had drinks and then I invited her to my friends birthday party.\n\nIt was a good night. We were both pretty touchy the entire night and she even made the first move in kissing me. 1am rolls around and she says she's got to go home. I act disappointed but I tell her I understand. We kiss again and she says \"don't disappear on me\" as she heads out the door.\n\nThe day after the date I text her first, and we have a conversation going throughout the day. I vaguely suggest we meet up later in the week to which she agrees. Over the course of the day it feels like the text's are getting shorter from both sides. The following day a couple texts back and forth. The day after that a snap chat here and there.\n\nHer texting style made it really hard to gauge whether she was still interested and as a result I feel like I didn't put as much effort into texting after the date so not to seem overly needy. Maybe she felt it and tried to further balance her responses with equal effort.\n\nToday we didn't talk at all, I didn't message her... yet I'm here thinking about it. Maybe she's thinking the same.\nI don't know if I should just forget about it or try one last thing. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow saying \"Seems like we've disappeared on each other\".\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Great first date, second date was possible... but connection went stale over text."}
{"id": "t3_2geohz", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Story] I got motivated today.", "post": "So basically, I've had a rough few months. I finished university and got a good degree. \n\nIt's been like 3 months now, I've been applying for jobs and I recently got a good job. But now it's a struggle to get into work cos I'm trying to move to a new city.\n\nMy normally very positive mindset has taken a real kick in. I feel like I'm never gonna be able to move into my own place which is my current goal. I've been broke for so long that it feels permanent. but tonight I've had a breakthrough.\n\nI'm broke, and basically have no home. But tonight I realised that I have a degree, I have a smashing girlfriend, I have a supportive (albeit poor) family. But more than any of that, I've got a mentality to not give up. \n\nThis whole sub has the common theme of 'the only real loser is the one who gives up' going through it and that really resonates with me now. \n\nThe job I got is good money so I've got three weeks of struggle then I'm golden. But my mindset has been so bad lately that I've only been seeing negatives. That's not me at all, I've always been positive and hate how I've been thinking lately.\n\nBut anyway, the point, done with being negative. I've done so much and come so far, only a short distance to go now. Let's do it.\n\nSorry for the rant, I just needed to get this stuff out.\n\nAnd I have a quick request, any pictures that quote about \"how far you've come\" or stuff like that. Preferably ones that would make a good iPhone 5s wallpaper.", "summary": "I've done so much and come so far, I'm not giving up yet, now that I'm so close. Also, picture request."}
{"id": "t3_1t7rn7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend said something that makes me think we're not going to last much longer now.", "post": "My boyfriend (19) and I (19) have been together for a year. We've had major fights a couple of times but we've resolved them. We both love each other a lot. He constantly keeps telling me how I'm the love of his life and how I'm better than the girl in his dreams. \n\nYesterday, we were just talking and he said that he can't imagine being with anyone else and as much as he like that he found the love of his life, he is kind of sad because then he can't get to experience other shitty girlfriends before appreciating and deserving a good one. When he said that, I was taken aback. I freaked out and it hurt me a lot. He apologized for saying that and said he's sorry and he loves me a lot but after he said that, I don't know how to feel about him anymore. I try my best to be whatever he wants me to be. I'm nice, caring, loving, serious about school, my future, and about us. I thought he was too until he dropped that on me. What should I feel about that? Should I keep holding on to him or let him have his \"shitty girlfriend\" experience (this means letting him go forever)?", "summary": "Boyfriend said I'm the love of his life but is sad that he found me so early since he can't experience shitty slutty girlfriends first."}
{"id": "t3_u5a2x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I need some advice.", "post": "My grandma passed away on monday and I want to make people aware without straight up telling them. I originally wasn't supposed to tell anyone because my brother is on a trip to Germany for college and we didn't want him to find out. After some long thought and some advice from a priest who had been a good friend of my dad for a long time we decided to call my brother yesterday and tell him what happened. The only reason I wasn't supposed to tell anyone was because if possibly someone were to write something on facebook about it, it would have been really bad for him to find out that way. Now that he already knows, I want people to be aware because I have already had a few jack-asses from school say stuff to me about not being at practice or missing a sport banquet and I am really upset because my grandma was EXTREMELY close with me and my brother. Personally I find it annoying when people post things on facebook like \"RIP grandma you will be missed\" because I feel like if someone really wants to say something to a late family member then they should pray (or because I know how you  guys get pissed about religion) just talk to them. I am not the kind of person who likes to draw attention to myself and i know none of you on here know me so I felt like this would be a better option. But I want to let people know about my grandma without making myself seem like an attention whore. Just something subtle because i really don't feel like making someone feel like shit after they have said something bad about me then I tell them I just lost my 88 year old grandmother from a failed kidney who i didn't even get to say goodbye to. \n\n**bold", "summary": "My grandma passed away and I want a way to make people aware of it without drawing a lot of attention to myself. Thanks Reddit"}
{"id": "t3_watme", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think we need to break up, but she believes in the relationship too much to see it.", "post": "I'm a 26 yo male, she's 28. We've been dating for nearly a year. Our relationship's had its ups and downs, and I've been feeling more downs as of late. I feel like two out of three times we are together, there's a conflict or emotional escalation.\n\nMost recently, she came home from a day of running errands with my car, frustrated and tense. I'd made dinner for her, and we'd planned on going to the movies together. She was really short with me and impatient as I tried to get her to come unwind over the meal. As we were eating, I said it appeared we wouldn't have time to get to the movie. It'd been my idea to go, but she suddenly got super invested in going, and started trying to get me to rush, and got upset when she felt I wasn't moving fast enough. This escalated, and I ended up detaching from the situation and trying to just be there for her.\n\nI'm feeling like more of these situations happen, and the one I explain above, though minor, struck me as particularly chaotic. It felt like the situation escalated when there was no need for it. It's chaos that I can't use in my life. Other times, she's judgy of others, quick to find fault in her and my friends, will openly alienate people if she deems them unethical, and is often frustratingly needy/demanding of my time (I often feel like I can't say no to hanging out unless I have something specific and important scheduled).\n\nTalking to her today, I realize she doesn't see how these things stress me out. I try to express my misgivings, but she chalks them up to being due to us being very close, sensitive people who are attuned to one another's moods, that I'm focusing on the bad moments over the good ones. Trouble is, I can't think of a good moment in the last month or so, but I can name a dozen bad ones. \n\nI've never dumped someone, so I don't know when you know you should, and I don't know what to do when your s.o. will be fighting to keep you.", "summary": "I find myself stressed, sad, and worn thin in this relationship, but she loves me and refuses to believe I might be unhappy. Am I focusing on the bad, or should I break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_272pex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "My girlfriend caught me with porn on my computer. She was understandably pissed. Not so much that I was looking at it but that I was keeping it from her. We talk work things out. She says it's fine if I look as long as I don't hide it. Great we make up and continue on with our lives.\n\nLater she's on my computer helping me with my resume and finds the file with screenshots of pics I'd taken. I had (wrongly) assumed she'd seen those. She gets pissed all over again. I feel like an asshole again. She is on there looking for something else and finds the download file piled high with stuff I didn't even know was on there including videos. I don't download videos because I don't really find them terribly sexy at all. I don't even know how they got there (I'm not very computer savvy to these things). Some of the sites I was on maybe a bit sketchy?\n\nI feel like a total jerk now and she is understandably upset. I want the relationship to continue and she still tells me she wants me to feel comfortable looking at that stuff if I want. I don't know if I can do that anymore. All that will happen now is that I'll end up feeling guilty about hurting her if I look at it and I won't enjoy it.\n\nI would appreciate your thoughts on the matter.", "summary": "I hid porn on my computer. Partner is upset that I hid it rather than looked at it.  I'm sorry that I hurt her.  What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_4i5a6j", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[27/m] Bare with me, but last night at the movies...", "post": "I found myself kind of making small talk with the manager. Normally when I try to do that, it's met with \"ha yeah\" or some short equivalent but she asked me questions in return before I made a foolish joke(ie enjoy your show, you too...) but she retorted. Then she wandered over the concession stand after ringing me out, whether she was bored or for me, I dunno. But, as I was just chatting about whatever, she asked another question. Kind of smiley. The questions are irrelevant but I honestly, can not stop thinking about her-- and I tried to spot her again before the movie ended and after but she wasn't around.\n\nI could hardly sleep last night due for the thought of her. But, I don't know how I am going to have another interaction with her. Part of me wants to just walk in, ask for her, and tell her the truth, asking her out from there. But, I don't know if that would be weird...then I'm considering just buying a gift card but I don't know if she'll be there. I understand it wasn't much to go off of but after the insufferable amount of rejection from online dating, it was a rare treat to have someone I found attractive seem semi-interested. Any suggestions on what I could do? Or if I'm even barking up the right tree?", "summary": "Made small talk with a cute girl, she asked questions back, might be something there, wondering how I might find a chance to approach her again"}
{"id": "t3_1ntpjr", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Lost my job and relationship on the same day. Ready for a new start. What would you do if you were me?", "post": "I graduated college last August and got a job working in Charlotte. I moved up there with my girlfriend of 2 years, who had also recently graduated and gotten a job there. Fast forward to a month ago. The COO of my company calls me in on a Friday and tells me that they were going to move me to a different department. I didnt really want to leave my current position, so I told him I would take the weekend to think it over.\n\nLater that night, i was exhausted and fell asleep early. I woke up to loud noises in the kitchen. So i walked in there and found my gf packing her shit up in a bag. She had gone through my phone and saw a text convo to a friend of mine about how I had been having doubts as we moved toward marriage (due to religious differences). Blah blah blah...we broke up. 100% over.\n\nWith me and her being over and me \"losing\" my job, there was nothing for me in Charlotte. So i went in on Monday and put in my two weeks at my job. I got out of my apartment in Charlotte and moved back to my mom's house. \n\nI have $7,000 in savings. 2 credit cards with no balances. ~$11500 in student loans (payments currently deferred). I dont really have any expenses besides gas right now. \n\n**I want to start a new life.**\n\nI have considered getting certified to teach english abroad for a year or two (i would probably wind up in asia). After that, I would apply to the peace corps. This has always been a dream of mine. But i dont know if its realistic.\n\nIf not that, I would like to at least move to a new city and find a new line of work. Preferably somewhere out west or in colorado. Im tired of the south.\n\nIf you were me, what would you do?", "summary": "In one day I went from comfortably employed and in a healthy relationship, to single and unemployed. What the **FUCK** should I do with my life now?"}
{"id": "t3_4vbl36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My jealousy/insecurity is killing me (22M) and I feel bad for my girlfriend (20F)", "post": "I have always struggled with insecurity throughout high school and have gone to some low level therapy. Throughout college my insecurity faded away as I received alot of attention from girls, but during my sophomore year I got into a relationship with my current girlfriend and from there on my insecurity has resurfaced.\n\nI have every reason to trust my girlfriend, but I'm just scared she will find another guy more attractive or more fun. We will both be going to different colleges for our masters (30 minutes apart) but she doesn't want to move in together yet for the next few years as she feels she is too young. She also wants to go abroad for half a year as she says it's a good life experience, but I'm just scared she will meet someone else.\n\nI know it's terrible of me to not trust my gf to love me, but I just can't help it. I do not want to go to therapy again as she will feel her existence restarted my insecurity, but I'm unsure what my other options are.", "summary": "I'm afraid my gf will grow tired of me and will find someone else, is therapy my only option?"}
{"id": "t3_3nj8yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] trying to get back with my [23 F] after breakup.", "post": "So before everyone thinks I'm being a sap, I spent a while thinking about this and trying to build myself back up emotionally and have made the decision to try and get back with an ex.\n\nSo onto the background.\n\nMy ex and I were together for about a year and a half and in the latter 2 months or so things started going south. We never fought but she was always shy and clammed up when something was bothering her. She clammed up a lot towards the end.\n\nThe sex was the first to go. Then we 'switched' to dating then took a break. Dated some more and finally broke up. This was probably my first mistake.\n\nLong story short, were broken up now and as someone who was destroyed by the person I loved leaving me, I agreed to be friends and stayed in contact for the first few days. I never asked about our relationship or tried to get back together. I acted like I was fine while suffering in silence.\n\nAfter the first few days I decided to drop all contact. I didn't want to become a doormat or be a pest. After about a month she texts me to see how I'm doing.\n\nAs of now I text her maybe once a week. Most of the time she's texting me.\n\nI understand that the reason we broke up the first time was cause she was probably bored or just not attracted to me anymore.\n\nIs there a chance of restarting it?", "summary": "want to get back with ex, am I being a shmuck?"}
{"id": "t3_1hmsys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25M) girlfriend (26F) is always later for everything", "post": "Let me first admit the the crises level is quite a bit lower on this thread most things in this sub...\n\nWe've been together 6 years and live together. She is late for just about everything (except her own job, for which I don't think she has ever been late).\n\nAny time she says she'll meet me somewhere, she's routinely 15-20 minutes late for everything. And we can never get out of the house the time I want to. If it's something she has to dress up for, we're talking a 20-30 minute delay. Even if we're just going for a walk or something, we're talking about 15-20 minutes later than what we agreed on.\n\nIt's frustrating to me because we're constantly late for things and disappointing other people. We've recently been late to several important family functions on both sides.\n\nThe problem seems to be three-fold: she's indecisive about how to go out (changing outfits at the last second, changing what to bring, et c); second, she's - I would say she has obsessive-compulsive **disorder** - but definitely on the spectrum and has to make all kinds of \"corrections\" to the house and the dishes and the bed being made and shoes being lined up and such before we leave; third, she does regular tasks extremely slowly. Like just putting on shoes and her jacket is about an 8 minute activity.\n\nIt's gotten to the point where I lie to her about the start time of things, which I feel bad about because I hate lying to her.\n\nI love her and we're not splitting or anything like that over this (or anything else). I just wish she would hurry the fuck up.", "summary": "She's always late."}
{"id": "t3_49im33", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21/F] is having problems with her mom. I [21/M] don't know how I can help out.", "post": "So some background. My friend grew up in a single mother family. She's never had a good relationship with her mom since her mom keeps trying to impose very traditional ideals from her home country (we're in the United States).\n\nShe texted me last night saying how she just got into another fight with her mom and it was really bad this time. Her mom threw a brick at the wall trying to get into her room. I don't think my friend is in any physical danger considering she knows martial arts and plays lacrosse and is much bigger than her frail mom. She's just afraid that if she lets her mom into her room, she's going to destroy everything she owns.\n\nI'm not really sure what I can do. I'm in college about 2 hours away and my parents home is already crowded. I don't think my friend wants to leave her mom's home because she can't afford to live on her own and she also works for her mom.", "summary": "Friend got into argument with mom"}
{"id": "t3_jzllp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Help Asking For a Pay Raise", "post": "So the situation is 90 days ago I accepted a promotion into a second level management position. At the same time I asked for a bigger raise and was told that we could discuss it after the initial 90 day period. \n\nI hired someone to take over my previous position as a supervisor (reporting directly to me) but was not privy to the financial aspect to begin with as it was handled by my manager. My replacement never received their pay raise, and had escalated to me so I've been working to try to push it through, and today found that she was making almost as much as I am (within 4% of my annual wage). \n\nSince I was asked by my manager to gather this info he knows I know about it, and while it's exactly 90 days since I'm hired how long should I wait to ask for a raise? \n\nSecondly should I be making around 25% more than my direct reports or is there any general rule I can use to base my request for a raise on?\n\nI am definitely less than happy after hearing the news, but have made sure to tell no one in the office, and want to take it up with my Manager directly.", "summary": "Got a promotion, my replacement makes as much as I do now, how do I correct this?"}
{"id": "t3_4ua561", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "$15k Home equity loan: Ballpark increase in mortgage?", "post": "We're interested in a relatively small remodel that we've been told would cost us about $15k. I'm wondering if someone could give a ballpark on what a HELOC of that size would add back to our monthly loan payment. I can wait until Monday to ask our credit union, but I figured some of you folks might be able to hazard a guess. \n\nBackground: We're in the process of refinancing (no-cost) our home of three years in Los Angeles. We paid about $550k for it and it looks like it's going to appraise for about $650k. We initially put 10% down and have made only regular payments, no additional ones. By removing PMI and decreasing our rate by 5/8 (from 4.5 to 3.875), we'll save roughly $300/month in mortgage (relative to our current $2500 mortgage payment).", "summary": "How much does a $15k HELOC \"cost\" monthly, given a 3.875 interest rate and a $650k appraised home (and very good credit)."}
{"id": "t3_f9fg6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, So last night my GF of 3 years brought into question my sexuality...", "post": "Hey reddit, \n\nSo last night my girlfriend of nearly 3 years asked me\u2014in so many words\u2014if I was gay, which I'm definitely not.  Anyways I have a really good friend who everyone thinks is gay (myself included) and my girlfriend always jokes around that he has a crush on me.  I personally think she's being ridiculous and honestly never took her comments seriously, but last night she asked me if I had \"a thing\" for him. She was dead serious.  She said she thought it was odd/suspicious that I would continue to hang out with a gay guy who likes me.  According to her she never actually thought I was gay but she just wanted to give me the opportunity to come out just in case.  Weird I know. Apparently she was doing me a favor.  \n\nNeedless to say things have been somewhat awkward since.  The thing is I'm completely comfortable with my sexuality (definitely) it's more just odd to think that after 3 years there might be a shred of doubt in her mind. This question has never popped up before with any of the girls I've been with so I'm not really sure how to react.  Any advice?", "summary": "My gf of 3 years gave me the opportunity to come out of the closet\u2026."}
{"id": "t3_1z3moz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] just got dumped via text message by my girlfriend [18F] of almost two years. Not even two days later, she has already been on a date with someone else. How do I move on?", "post": "I've been dating her since high school, and now I'm halfway through college. Basically, revolved around each other. This breakup was a MASSIVE surprise to me and everyone else. We had never had any problems in the past, and the only reason she could give for why she was ending it was \"I feel like I'm dating my best friend, not my boyfriend.\" I have no idea how to read into this, or if I should even try.\n\nI know I need to move on, because the way she did this shows she has some major character issues that I should probably avoid, even though it really hurts.\n\nThe problem is, I don't even know where to start. After spending 10% of my entire life with her, I am completely lost. Everything I enjoyed doing was because of her, and now I'm alone. \n\nTo top it off, she's making it very clear that she's already moved on, and it's really hurting my feelings. It's like the past two years meant nothing to her. \n\nIn short, I don't really know what I'm asking. I guess I'm just venting, asking for advice, and asking for support.", "summary": "Got dumped by surprise, She's already moved on, leaving me hurt and alone, I have no idea how to start moving on."}
{"id": "t3_3fwizj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to pick up underwear with my foot.", "post": "So this just happend 10 minutes ago.\nBackground: I am a pretty lazy guy so I have a lot of dirty clothes and such lying on the floor. So to make this life style a little bit more doable I taught myself how to pick up things from the floor with my foot.    \n\nI was sitting behind my computer and thought it was time for a pizza burger. So I got up from my chair. When i got up I noticed some dirty underwear chilling on the floor. Out of habit I  used my right foot to pick up this smelly smelling underpants thinking I got this shit!\nAnd then it happend. \nI was walking, my right foot a little behind me and picking up the smelly and my left foot in front of me. When the smelly was in my foot I made my right lower leg flex behind me so i could gracefully toss the smelly in my hand. But I was still in motion so I lost balance and had to adjust. I needed to put my right foot back on the ground. So with sonic speed my lower leg extends forward and it just so happens that there are some wooden lego boxes using the space where my little to should be. So I slam my precious into this goddamn evil thing and it hurt like hell and started bleeding. So now I probable have a torn nail :(", "summary": "picked up smelly with foot got owned by lego box.  "}
{"id": "t3_2icttk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/F] just broke up with my BF [26/M] of a year and half. Why do I feel like I broke my own heart?", "post": "My (now) ex and I have been through a lot in the past year and a half. We broke up for a bit but then got back together to see if maybe we had made a mistake. After about a month I realized that nothing had changed and we were back into the same bad groove we were in before.\n\nHe was ready to start getting serious (house, ring, kids) and I wasn't sure I wanted any of those with him so I decided to break up with him. I knew I wasn't going to marry him and I didn't want to just \"be in a relationship\" to make him happy (which is what I felt like I was doing.)\n\nI broke up with him face-to-face and told him honestly how I felt and I could just see the heartbreak in his eyes. He called me every name in the book as I walked to my car, and though that should have been a sign that it wasn't a good relationship, I still ended up crying later that night because I felt so terrible.\n\nThis was our second attempt at this relationship so I know breaking it off was the right thing to do but why do I feel so fucking terrible? Will this go away? My friends tried to set me up on a date the day after the break up and I felt like it was WAY too soon to even start thinking about another relationship but they don't understand why since I was the one who broke up with him. \n\nHave any of you gone through this? How long did it take you to start feeling normal again and not like a complete asshole?", "summary": "Made the correct decision to dump my boyfriend but why do I feel like shit now? Will it get better? What are your experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_2h48ra", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying my mothers medical bills and my brothers legal bills at the age of 21. Need advice", "post": "Hey guys! I'm starting to get in a bit of a pickle here now. It's a long story but i'll try to shorten it.\n\nI'm a 21 year old male from Norway. A year ago my brother got in some trouble for submitting wrong details about his financial situation when he was applying for financial aid. needless to say, he got caught and was facing jail-time. he got fined 100k NOK (about 15k USD) and had no means to pay it. Now, I have worked since I was 15, so I had some money, plus I also took up a student loan (not sure what the english word is). So I paid the whole bill, to strenghten his case. He didn't go to jail and the charges were dropped as soon as \"he\" paid his debt that quickly. He didn't even thank me. Imagine that. \n\nAbout 6 months ago my mother was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. Now my mother hasn't worked any job in my whole life, because of a cronic infection which causes her to have alot of back pain.   \nSo she doesn't have alot of money. So que new loan for me, and alot of extra hours at work. Recently my job had to let me go because of financial reasons, so i landed a shit job at grocery story, which i only work one day a week (saturday). Soon after my mother started chemo, they found even more cancer, so she had to have two surgeries. Now i'm in so much debt, I have no reliable job and I feel like I really need some help. I already have a strict budget, obviously. But is there anywhere I can go to help me manage the situation? Maybe some sort of support programme?", "summary": "I have alot of debt because of money i have lent to family, need help."}
{"id": "t3_1ni7ye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and teacher[24 F], I want to be in a relationship with her", "post": "My first time posting here, so yeah! well I noticed my feelings for her since mid december last year at first I thought to myself nah thats not possible because the first time was when I saw out of school and my heart was racing, my chest felt tight. yeah its starting to sound like a drama or anime now but im serious thats how I felt and as the months go by my feelings became more bold. We do talk outside of school occasionally. This was when I was still in school. At the start of this year she got me a gift just for me. Not sure if she had a thing for me or not but thats how I felt and since then my feelings have kept growing. Flash forward 9 months to here. I graduated high school and still have exams left before I officially finish. Since I have graduated we have been talking daily non-stop. She spent at least over $200 for my birthday. Yeah wow... I was surprised too. Talking to her everyday makes me want to be in a relationship with her. I don't even know what shes like outside of school. Shes kind and gentle and I hope shes like that outside of school. My last exam is in early november, should I confess my feelings to her?", "summary": "! - i want to be in a relationship with my teacher"}
{"id": "t3_3hjmme", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My mom told me that if i were not her son, she would fire me.", "post": "A little background. I'm working at my family's restaurant and I'm not really enjoying it but I figured I would do it and not complain since my parents are paying for the tuition. I have a pretty good attitude.\n\nHowever, apparently I lack motivation and aggressiveness according to my mom. This cuts me deep because I figured I was doing fine and I'm not really doing this job because I want to and I have LITERALLY no motivation to do anything better. I'm already studying to be an Electrical engineer and I'm about to graduate this following semester. \n\nShe says my work attitude and my willingness to learn or be aggressive is lacking but I donno if its because I'm working a shitty customer service job attending to people.", "summary": "I don't care working at my family's restaraunt but I don't give too much of a bad attitude. I'm just apparently seemingly don't care enough about getting better, mostly cuz I donno what to do better and whether I care enough about the little things to continue."}
{"id": "t3_36w7c3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] girlfriend[25 F] of 5 months is most likely going to end things tonight (though both of us deep down don't want it to end). Can I save this?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months, previously we had a fling a year prior, but it never developed into what we wanted until recently.  We care for each other deeply.  She is stunning, one-of-a-kind in both looks and personality, and I am deeply afraid I will never find someone like her again.  Things have been very great between us, and we do love each other. \n\nHere's the problem.  She doesn't feel I share the same feelings as she does with me.  She knows I love her, but she doesn't believe I reciprocate the same affection, attention, and overall \"caringness\" that she does.  Admittedly, it's some-what true, but it's not because I actually don't.  I just feel distracted with work, and other personal-things outside our relationship.  One particular thing is that I promised a few months back that I would buy her a new phone (hers sucks), I have yet to do so, and it upset her that I promised her something and excited her only for her to have to ask if I still planned (she's not materialistic, it's the principle of the promise.)\n\nI don't know if I've shared enough info to understand the situation, but I'm really looking for advice in what to say to her tonight.  We really don't fight ever, but this is not the first time she's felt I haven't been as committed as her.  I want to keep her.  I don't want to lose what we have, but I'm torn at how I can remedy this without sounding like I'm BS'ing/just trying to say whatever to make her happy.\n\nAny advice would be so greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't think I reciprocate the same feelings, slightly true, she's considering ending things, still salvageable."}
{"id": "t3_rbovk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your worst being cock-blocked story?", "post": "Last night I was at the bar with a bunch of friends (mostly female) when a woman walks over to one of the people in our group and I see them looking at me and smiling and all. My friend winks at me and the woman approaches. We talk for a bit and she tells me she is headed back to her table with her family but she gave my friend her number for me and tells me to call her so we could get out of there. My friend asks me if I wanted the number (duh!) and then proceeds to delete it from her phone. By this point the woman has already headed out and I'm stuck without her number.", "summary": "One of my lady friends cock blocked me by deleting the woman's number. "}
{"id": "t3_27evcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] and [20 F] recently ended. Thought she could be the one. Now what", "post": "I'll try to be short.  I met this girl and had instant connection with her. \n\n We talked about everything with each other and talked a lot about \n\nour future together.  She was always the one to bring up stuff like \n\nthat.  I've never felt so strongly for someone.  I ended\n\nup losing my virginity to her.  It was a very special moment in my life \n\nand we were so glad we shared it together.  A few weeks later I felt\n\nher distancing herself.  She ended up telling me that there was \n\nsomeone else and that she would be leaving the state to be with him\n\nfor the summer.  She said it was completely out of the blue.  He came\n\ndown and surprised her and asked her to come with him.  I was sad \n\nbut not mad.  She made it clear it clear that she did have feelings for\n\nme and had no idea that this past guy would come surprise her like \n\nthat.  She was everything I wanted.  She had my ideal personality and \n\nlooks, I really thought we had something special.  I\n\ndon't know what to do with myself now.  I've had to deal with\n\nbreakups in the past but this one just feels different.", "summary": "She left me for someone else.  How do I get over this girl."}
{"id": "t3_1c9pdv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've accidentally spilt ~1mg of Elemental mercury. In terms of exposure, how much trouble am I in?", "post": "*", "summary": "1mL of Mercury splattered onto a tile floor. Exposed to fumes for two hours in a small room before realising. 0.5mL of Mercury was recovered. How bad is it?"}
{"id": "t3_11i6jc", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "12 year old fox terrier with nagging cough.", "post": "This is a wall of text, so I apologise in advance. \n\nMy 12 year old fox terrier (standard size) has had a nagging cough since March of this year. At first it seemed a random cough and we chalked it up to old age. \n\nRecently it has become more persistant.  We can't seem to find a pattern, except it does seem to happen more often after he poops. It doesn't seem to matter if his motions are soft or hard.  He has always strained when pooping, mainly in his neck and back legs.  \n\nRarely, he will cough up a thick white phlegm.  This is not common, but its disturbing when he does. \n\nWe have taken him to our Vet, and they did X-rays, blood tests and a urine sample. Confirmed he does not have kennel cough, cancer, a collapsed airway or any tumors or growths in his throat.  We are given a course of antibiotics (7 day) that slightly lessened the cough. $900 later we are told he is perfectly healthy and sent home.  This was in June, and ever since it is clear he is not perfectly healthy.  \n\nHe is an indoor and outdoor dog.  He sleeps, and eats mainly in the house. He spends some of the day and does his business outside. We have one other dog (field spaniel) and two cats (one short hair, one long hair).  The other animals are 10, 6 and 4 years old respectively. They have been around since before the cough so we dont believe it is their fur or dander he is reacting too, especially as the cough is not as common when he is indoors. \n\nBasically, I would like to know if anyone else has experienced this with a pet? What was the outcome? What should I be asking Vet's to check for? I am considering taking him to the Veterinary School at SydUni, simply because I cant afford another $900 only to be sent away being told he is fine.  Still, I hate seeing him this way. \n\nThank you for any help or suggestions you can offer. Also, I do apologise for any spelling or grammar mistakes, its been a long day.", "summary": "Dog has nagging cough since March. Vet does multiple tests, gives dog an antibiotic with clear bill of health.  Dog is obviously not O.K."}
{"id": "t3_1ucycs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [24 M] break up with my girlfriend [22F] of 1 year, for a better job", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 year now and I feel like we have come to a fork in our relationship. I work abroad in Europe and she is an European citizen, we met at work while she was doing an internship, finishing her bachelor. When her internship finished we still visited each other, when she told me that she wants to do an masters program in Sweden( which is really far for me). We had made an agreement to compromise that if I waited for her for 2 years to finish the master she would come back with me to America.\n\nAfter her coming to visit my family, my parents told me that the feeling they received from her is that she wouldn't come to America after school, and would make excuses to try and keep me in Europe.\n\nI currently am working at a dead end job in Europe and know that I can come back to America and make much more money and be much happier with my life, but it feel so guilty about leaving her since I made a promise that I wouldn't give her up for a job.\n\nWe recently had a big fight and it put a big strain on our relationship, but she apologized and things have been getting to how they were. I'm just confused. My parents and friends tell me I should just do what's right for me, go for the job that I really want.\n\nI still love her, and I know she really loves me.. I just feel leaving her would devastate \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Stay with my girlfriend and take the risk she won't come with me after school, or get a job I love, close to my family and have a better career"}
{"id": "t3_11z3iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[m] having relationship concerns with my g[f]. Both 20", "post": "We've been close friends since sophomore year of high school, I was madly in love with her (or so I thought) and she just thought of me as a guy friend. Classic friend-zone\n\nI'd talk to her on the phone every night for hours and was head over heels, but she would never give me a chance romantically. She would go party while I would stay home and worry. I was devastated when I heard how she had drunkenly lost her virginity to a trashy older guy junior year. \n\nLike an idiot I still kept basically obsessing over. Even after she had sex with another guy I was still crazy for her.\n\nTowards the end of senior year we started hanging out a lot and one thing led to another and we became FWB. She was my first. After a while we started dating for a few weeks before she called it off because \"she didnt want anything serious\"\n\nOnce we broke up I started going out with other girls and she got jealous and finally saw me as boyfriend material. We started dating a few weeks later.\n\nWe have now been together for 3 years and she is madly in love with me. I know it sounds shitty to say but she loves me way than I love her. I have thought several times about breaking up with her. Whenever I go to break up with her she becomes devastated and I change my mind. \n\nI know I love her but I have a really hard time with the fact that she has been with  2 other guys and she is my first and only. I knew about it before we started dating and never thought it would bother me as much as it does. We have other issues, but this is my biggest.", "summary": "Got out of friend zone now having issues with her past"}
{"id": "t3_1yvhyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my exWife [35 ] 4 year marriage, scared how I will provide for my kids", "post": "I live in Calgary Alberta and last year made 75k (best year for me ever) but this year will only be making 65k. (last company had to close and that was the closest salary I could get).\n\nMy soon to be ex-wife was a stay at home mom who had a spa out of the basement on evenings and weekends (cash only).\n\nNow that we are starting a separation I am realizing that there is really no way I am going to be able to properly afford raising my 2 daughters. One is bio the other is a step. The step father pays child support but my ex collects it. I think I could try to get half of it but it would make her situation worse and wouldn't make mine all that much better.\n\nWhat is crazy is if I made less money there are so many programs and such out there and would give me government money to help pay for day care and GST credits and Family Child Tax Credits etc. But because of my payroll I am not able to collect any of it.\n\nI ran the most moderate budget I could cutting back all living expenses and just going for the barebones and it looks like WITHOUT spousal support I will be lucky to break even.\n\nSome part of me expects her to try to get spousal support so that will only make it worse.\n\nDoes anyone know of any resources that are available for a single dad to help out with costs when I have the income I do? I would have thought I would have been fine but the child support and the government money we got as a couple really did make all of the difference, and so did the extra 10k I made last year. \n\nI am freaking out.", "summary": "Separating with my wife makes me unable to collect any government subsidy/money to help raise my kids because of my income. But I will be lucky to break even WITHOUT paying spousal support and I feel like she will go after that... Does anyone have any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2mx84r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush of 3 years [17 F] is dating someone and doesn't know I like her", "post": "I'm gonna try and keep this short for you guys.\n\nThere is the girl,(for the posts sake I am going to call Anna), that I have been crushing on for 3 almost 4 years now. I have only really had small talk, if any, with Anna. I am a senior in high school and she is a junior, and I share a class with her during the day. Sadly, this is the only time I get to see Anna. \n\nIn class, we are always catching glances. I don't know if it means anything or not, but I can kinda feel that has some sort of attraction to me. But the worst part about this is that she has a boyfriend, and she has no idea that I have feelings for her. She isn't one of those girls who get a lot of attention from guys but is popular, and is kinda shy. \n\nI really want a chance with her and I want to tell her how I feel, but I am afraid of the whiplash from it because she is dating someone already. This will probably be the very last year I will ever see her again. How would I go about telling her this? Would it be a bad idea? I am so clueless on what to do.", "summary": "Crushing on girl for years, doesn't know, has boyfriend and last year I will ever have the chance again"}
{"id": "t3_2e06tn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm the one in the relationship that gets upset when my girlfriend doesn't return calls or texts. Me(33/M), GF(27/F)", "post": "My girlfriend is visiting her home in a different city and we are in a long distance relationship. I spoke to her last night and she told me she would call me back once she was done with her family. We always facetime before we go to bed, but she didn't call last night. I wake up this morning and haven't heard anything from her since. I've sent her texts and she's still not responding.\n\nI know I should be more patient and have the benefit of the doubt that something important could have happened to her or her phone. But after something similar that happened last week, she's testing my patience. She tells me she can't multitask. So when she is busy with people or errands, she can't take a second break to reply to my text. I'll never be able to relate to her position but I have to because I love her.\n\nI wasn't like this before though, I used to keep my cool in the beginning of the relationship and I felt like I was being respected because I wasn't chasing for her attention. But I'm going through some tough times here alone and she is someone I can open up to and talk to. I'm having to turn to other people for prayers. I know the society labels men as who are not sensitive but that is who I am and I realized I can't change core personality.\n\nI am afraid that she is losing respect for me. If she still respected me, I feel like she would try to get back to me after we had a serious talk about this. How can I get her to try harder without coming off needy? Which is not good right?", "summary": "I'm upset that GF is not trying in returning calls or texts when I'm going through hard times and want her to try harder while I am respected in her eyes."}
{"id": "t3_2nybhh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing catch", "post": "I'm walking in to a college football game this weekend, when I notice a brand new football in the trash bin.  I grab it and throw it to some kids running around nearby.  Meanwhile a cop and event staff start motioning at me and walk over to ask what my problem is. I look down to realize the \"trash bin\" was a Toys for Tots (a U.S. Charity to give toys to underprivileged kids) donation bin. I was trying to explain that I wasn't drunk, just an idiot, so they would still let me in the game. The kids were long gone, so the ball was donated to some more \"fortunate\" kids.", "summary": "stole toy from poor kids"}
{"id": "t3_2a8p2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] of 2 years just flipped out at me for seemingly nothing", "post": "So last night I was on the phone to her after work and I mentioned that the world cup was on and that I'd like to watch it. We usually talk at some point in the evening for an hour or two. She said it would be fine so long as I call her afterwards, I gave her a time when I would ring.\n\nIf anyone didn't catch the match, it was pretty much over after half an hour. But i was enjoying watching it with my dad, so I waited until the second half to call it a night and give my GF a call. I went to my room, posted a quick status on facebook about the match, and then called her, a good half an hour earlier than I said I would.\n\nThis morning we were talking whilst I was on the way to work, and then chatting via facebook when I got to work, and she sends me a message;\n\n*err wtf, you posted a status right before you rang me?*\n\n*...yeah? so what?*\n\nCue huge argument, with the crux of her argument being how I put something before talking to her. Although I can understand the principle, I failed to see in anyway how  taking less than a minute to post the status impacted on anything, especially when I was calling her sooner than I was planning on anyway.", "summary": "Post a facebook status, then called GF, she takes issue with me delaying talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_ckogb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to lose weight, where do I start?", "post": "It's summer and I've got a lot of time on my hands, I've also got some fat accumulating on my body that I really wouldn't like to be there and have a new appearance when I return to school in August. I'm a gamer so my diet is poor and I tend to sit around a lot. I've already got my diet on the way to a greener future so that is covered but thoughts are still welcome on that. I'd like to stay away from going to the gym if possible, my ultimate goal is to be thinner and look like I'm in good shape but I don't want to build a lot of muscle, so mostly cardio work I was thinking. I thought a morning jog that would go progressively further everyday would be a start but I'm unsure as I've never tried to lose weight before, doing this in the morning to me would also rid me of my laziness by forcing me to be active first thing in the morning. So anybody else that has advice or tips it'd be appreciated.", "summary": "I want to lose weight, don't want to go to a gym, I don't need muscles just to be in good shape, please help."}
{"id": "t3_2tp537", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not stopping on a long drive to pee.", "post": "I made a 3 and a half hour long drive tonight that I just finished about half an hour ago. I drank a redbull and half a bottle of water, and did not stop to pee at any point because I loathe stopping and then having to re-pass the same cars again. When I got home, I staggered on stiff legs out of the car and took my dog straight into the backyard because furry friends come first. At this point my bladder is really letting me know that it's not happy so to relieve some pressure I unbuttoned and unzipped my pants (it's night time here, so I wasn't expecting anybody around). My dog finished her business and then I went to let us into our basement suite. While I was screwing around with the keys, the neighbors' door opened and out comes the dad. Tired and not thinking, I turned and greeted him, and then went inside. As I walked in I reflexively pulled up my pants and realized that not only did I face my neighbor with a wide open fly, I also gave him an eyefull of my bright red thong. I made it to the toilet without my bladder rupturing though, so I have that going for me.", "summary": "showed my neighbor the front and back of my underwear because I had to pee"}
{"id": "t3_4k0snh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I (17M) refuse to follow a custody order?", "post": "Last year, my parents went through a pretty ugly divorce. My mother had been tired of my father for a long time, only putting up with him for the sake of me and my siblings, but recently decided that she'd had enough.\n\nMy father was never quite what I would call abusive to me in particular, but he was never exactly kind to any of us. He was, however, quite terrible at handling my sister's problems. My oldest sister (15 y/o) suffers from depression (largely due to the behaviour of my father) and so he decided that the best way to deal with that was to refuse to let her close her bedroom door under any circumstances, constantly follow her around the house, and generally worsen her situation in every way possible.\n\nHe was always very emotionally detached, and seemed to think that because he brought in money he had no reason to try to be a real father. Now that my parents have split up, he's realized that I've picked a favorite parent, and has been trying to make me feel guilty about it. On several occasions he has implied, but not directly stated, that he would consider taking away my college funds if I left him or didn't listen to him. Every time I talk to my mother about these situations, she talks to my father and then he yells at me for talking to my mom about my problems with him, even though he knows full well that he is not approachable.\n\nI will turn 18 in July and will be able to choose where to stay then, but I can't put up with him any longer, and I do not trust him around my sister. Currently, there is a court ordered custody ruling that requires us to spend every other week with our father. Is there any way to contest this ruling, or to refuse to follow it?\n\nI live in Pennsylvania, I can give more specific location information if it is required but I don't want to be too specific in case my father somehow finds this.", "summary": "My father is a terrible person but has a court ordered custody ruling requiring me to stay with him every other week, can I get away from him?"}
{"id": "t3_rc0nq", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Anyone moved cross-country with a cat? Advice greatly appreciated!", "post": "My husband and I are moving across the US in about a month (about a 12-13 hour drive, not including stops for food and gas). I'm a moving pro, but I've never had to move with a cat. I'm starting to get anxious about getting her there safely and without traumatizing her.\n\nA little background on Miss Kitty - she's a 6-year-old shelter kitty. We got her when she was 4 (she'd been a stray for a while but was microchipped so was clearly previously someone's cat), and she's been very healthy and normal weight ever since. She's the most attached cat I've ever had though... she loves to be near me all the time and trails me around the house like a dog. She does have an anxious streak, but it's not extreme. She does NOT like cars... I've tried to acclimate her to the car in anticipation of this move, and she just howls and cries when it's turned on. After about 30 minutes I stopped wasting gas and brought her back inside. It made me sad, so I didn't try again... but I'm willing to stick with it if people have ideas how to make it work.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions for making this as pain free for both of us as possible? I was thinking of getting her a cage made for medium sized dogs with a litter box and her bed inside, but leaving it open so she could come out and sit with me in the back seat (my husband driving). I've also considered drugging her, as I'm worried she might really stress out and 12 hours is a long time. Any and all thoughts and experiences appreciated!\n\nHere is the little Miss warming her paws this winter: [Oh Hai] She says thank you!", "summary": "Help me drive my cat across the country without traumatizing her for life."}
{"id": "t3_4xvm2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my wife [27 F] 4 years, i screwed up really bad and don't know how to fix it.", "post": "i did something really stupid.\n\ni have an assistant she is a very nice person, she knows some personal stuff about me. i have told her some embarrassing insecurities that i have never told my wife and she is very understanding.\n\nyesterday was her birthday and i wanted to do something for her since she has helped me a lot. she was with her friends but left because she wanted to do something with me.\n\nwe ate dinner i took her to a restaurant and we we drank a little and she really enjoyed it. i drove her home and she thanked me and that was it my wife doesn't see it that way.\n\nshe got really upset (crying and getting angry) she said i cheated on her though. but i don't know in what way could i have possibly cheated there was no physical contact or anything.\n\nshe hasn't really said much and has cried a lot more since last night (she slept in our guest room).\n\ni don't know what to do but i didn't cheat, how doni fix this?", "summary": "My wife says i cheated but i didn't do anything physical happened i just went to dinner with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_fz6ap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best job for a versatile geek?", "post": "Job+profession sucks - now what? What's the best profession for a geek?\n\nI'm a male teacher in my mid thirties. I've long been speculating that my job isn't the right one. As I've found that reddit is a place with a lot of people a lot like me (YAY!) I've come to the hive mind for answers... Some of you must be in a profession where I could be of good use :D\n\nI have the gift of being very versatile. This means that I'm above average in almost everything. No matter the sucjebt I feel pretty up-to-date. It has the downside that I'm an expert in nothing at all :(  The only thing I can do better than most people is learning. If I set my mind to it, I can pick up new stuff very fast. I have some experience in electronics and computers (web + programming + hardware support). I have a lot of experience (8 years) in teaching physics, biology and math to kids (13-16 yo.). I have life long experience in outdoor activities (scouting and hiking etc.).\n\nI love teaching when there is flow - when it clicks between myself and the students. Trouble is that it's not always like this. A lot of times it's just a set curriculum with tests and documentation etc. The fun part of teaching is not the biggest part unfortunately. When I sit hour after hour putting check marks next to questions on tests I feel stupid because a trained monkey could do the same job. I am good at problem solving and abstract thinking, but I almost never use this ability. And this is what it really comes down to: I want to use my mind in a better way :)\n\nI have thought about teaching older kids - maybe at a technical college or something - trouble is that most of these places require a candidate degree or something like that - and I don't have it. Going back to school to get a degree is out of the question due to house+kids and the need of a steady income. \n\nSo - any bright ideas or warnings? Long time redditor here - just using a throwaway in case of colleagues on reddit :)", "summary": "I want a new profession. I'm your typical geek who's really really good at a lot of things, but an expert in nothing at all. What's the best ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_51hg7r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] am feeling financially inadequate compared to my long distance boyfriend [24M] of 9ish months.", "post": "Super quick background: we got together spring of our senior year of undergrad, knowing full well we weren't sure where either of us would end up after graduation. So we planned to break up mutually and amicably at the end of the summer. And we did. I moved away for grad school, but we still remained best friends and talked every day. Almost a year later, we decided to get back together despite the hardship of distance.\n\nIt's going fantastically. But I'm feeling a lot of guilt about how unequal our relationship is due to finances. Being in grad school, I have barely enough income for basic needs. He's making very decent money at his full time job. When we first got together, it was important to me to split costs evenly, alternating who pays for dates, going Dutch, etc. But now he pays for most things and I feel so guilty. (Spoiled and well taken care of, too! but not comfortably.) Most recently, he flew out to see me, and when we discussed the next time we'd see each other, he immediately bought tickets to fly me out to his city. It makes me feel like I owe him. I think it's important to note that these feelings are only on my end. He does this completely willingly, and he does not mind at all paying for things. He considers it an investment in our time spent together, and not just for my benefit.\n\nI'm looking for advice on how I can deal with feeling inadequate until I graduate (one more year!) and can contribute financially to our relationship. Do I just try to find peace with it? Do you try to make up for it?", "summary": "long distance boyfriend bought me plane tickets without a second thought and I feel guilty. How do you deal with inequality in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_34f52o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) with my fiance (28m) considering calling it quits over lack of sex.", "post": "Throw away because he's a frequent redditor. \n\nI knew when we began dating that my libido was much higher than his. Now, 3 years later, I'm already afraid I'm gonna end up spending my nights lurking r/deadbedrooms. I've been sexually curious since a young age. I masturbate often. I enjoy watching porn. I like my fair share of kink. Him? Not so much.\n\nAbout a year ago I started on a new medicine that's lowered my libido. I don't find myself browsing erotic stories or enjoying my afternoons alone with my internet browser.\nThis is fine. If anything it's nice to not have sex on the brain nearly 24/7. \nHowever, now that I'm not always dressing up, initiating, or sending dirty texts throughout the day to get him excited, our sex life has nearly come to a halt. Generally, once a week or so is all I get. The last spectacular week that comes to mind we had sex 4 times, but this was after a long discussion about me feeling sexually unsatisfied; wanting more sex in general and for it to be less vanilla. \n\nWhen we do have sex it's usually good, but he never wants it unless it's night time and we're in the bedroom. Even then he has trouble with getting/keeping an erection and sometimes won't even reach orgasm. Not to mention no midnight nookie, no morning sex, and minimal affection outside the bedroom. \n\nWhenever I bring up my issues with this he always says he just has a low sex drive and not to make him feel bad for it. I understand the low libido, but short of vigorous masurbation I'm not sure how to stay satisfied and faithful. (Having an open relationship is out of the question for him.)\n\nThe other aspects of our relationship are fine. I love him to pieces. There's no bullshit drama, we share most of the same values, and despite our differences we tend to compliment each other's personalities rather well. There's really not many complaints to have about him, other than our lack of intamacy. However, the lack of sex and general desire are leaving me extrodinarily unsatisfied...", "summary": "I feel shallow and sad for considering leaving the man I love, and ending an otherwise great relationship, over a lack of sex."}
{"id": "t3_c031n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex-friends are badmouthing my relationship, they like my GF more, and constantly tell her she deserves better.", "post": "Some history I guess, we met in High School, and I graduated last year, while she graduated a year before.  During the time I was still in school, she was working, but had quite a few days off, so she spent those days visiting me and the ex-friends(before they were Ex) at school.\n\n  \n         \n  Fast forward, we're out of school, doing some upgrading at a place called Center High, which is like outreach for highschool, and those friends are now ex-friends, mainly because they, for some reason I'm unaware of, don't like ME anymore, but have no issue with my GF.  I don't speak to them anymore, but they speak to my GF.  Not saying I have an issue with that, it's nice to know that she has a group of people to back her up if we ever break up.\n        \n  \n  Lately, they've been telling her things like she deserves better, or I'm always a jerk to her(ok, this one is completely untrue, and she knows it.)  One of them(a girl) has even asked her out to dinner this Thursday, to give her some \"advice\" about the relationship.  I'm worried that this \"advice\" will lead to our breakup which neither of us want, but if things go wrong, it'll happen.  What do I do about us, and is it wrong to ask her not to go to that dinner?", "summary": "Ex-friends are telling my GF of 3 years that I'm not worth it.  One of said ex-friends giving her \"advice\" which may lead to our breakup."}
{"id": "t3_vzgt4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men and women of Reddit: What are the best/worst pick-up lines you have ever used/heard?", "post": "I'm a 22 and just recently graduated college- while out this weekend I heard a slew of terrible pick-up lines that made me curious about what is considered to be the best or the worst! Here are a few that I remember:\n\n\"Are you a thief? Because you stole my heart..\"\n\"Nice legs.. what time do they open?\"\n\"So what modeling agency do you work for?\"\n\"You wear the Hell out of that dress!\" <-- that one was kind of funny\n\nHonestly, I like if a guy just says \"Hi, my name is ___. I think you're beautiful\" or something to that effect. What girl doesn't like to hear that? (Even if she isn't interested)", "summary": "Let's start hearing those pick-up lines!"}
{"id": "t3_2rduyl", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My autistic brother friend requests and messages strangers on Facebook, thinking they're his \"friends\". What should my family and I do?", "post": "My 30 year old brother has mild austism. He is physically healthy, works a minimum wage job, and can even drive a car. He can communicate with people, but only to an extent. He has the intelligence level of perhaps an 8th grader so a lot of the dynamics of social interaction go over his head. As such, he doesn't understand social cues in real life and especially on the internet, so it can lead to many awkward and potentially dangerous situations. (Nothing terrible has happened as of yet, thankfully!) \n\nWe have a big family and a lots of family friends, so Facebook is a normal part of staying connected and socializing with one another. Unfortunately, my brother doesn't have any friends or a social life aside from the family, so his only means of social interaction is through social media, primarily, Facebook. However, he doesn't understand the boundaries of Facebook, and he is under the impression that once someone adds him as a friend, they are truly his **friend**. \n\nWe visit a psychologist every month, and one time, my brother vented that there was an instance when a guy blocked him and it left him genuinely heartbroken. He has added so many random people that he has over 2,000 friends. He messages high school classmates that he didn't even know back then, and asks them how they're doing. If a stranger doesn't add him, he'll go as far as to message a friend of the stranger whom he is trying to add, asking them if they can tell their friend to accept his friend request. \n\nMe, my family, and his psychologist have explained to my brother that it is not right to friend request and message random people. We have discussed the possible dangers it could lead to. We have even attempted to delete some of the 2,000 people he requested, but he still continues requesting others. For now, we just monitor his activity as much as we can. My family and I are unaware of any good compromise that will still allow him to have a Facebook. For many reasons, deleting and preventing him from having Facebook is just not viable. He deserves some type of social life. Any suggestions for my family and I?", "summary": "My autistic brother relentlessly friend requests and messages people he doesn't know personally on Facebook, genuinely trying to be their friend. He means well and has no other kind of social life, but this is obviously a potentially dangerous habit. What can my family and I do to about my brother's behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_3x73sy", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Cheating On Online Aptitude Tests?", "post": "Hi, I was hoping for some advice about whether I should cheat on some job application tests I am doing. I've taken a practice test and did okay but not that well. I'm pretty sure I could get better if I practiced, particularly on the numerical reasoning. But I'm really busy at the moment with my current job and I'm not going to have time to practice before taking the tests - I've already made the job applications and I will need to start taking tests in a couple of days. A friend of mine told me about a service where you pay someone to do the tests for you. It seems like a good solution but I'm not sure. I know sometimes they ask you to redo the test again at the interview but I've checked and I'm pretty sure that won't be the case, at least for most of the jobs I applied for. Is it wrong to do this? I know that I could pass them if I had some time to practice, and I know that I have the ability to do the job.", "summary": "Should I cheat my online test?"}
{"id": "t3_4gebe0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20m] broke NC with [19f] now hurt again", "post": "Backstory: I dated this abusive girl for 2 and a half years. She would hit me, verbally abused me, and stabbed me twice. She dumped me one morning because I asked her to cut back on her video game time [12 hours a day]. She instantly started dating a guy she met on the game. \n\nSo last night I broke and I emailed her. She emailed back. This morning she called me and I was asleep. She called me an hour ago and I picked up. We talked normally for like 10 minutes then she hits me with the I love you and I miss you. She then tells me she wants to be happy single for a while. She doesn't want to talk to me. But when she's done being single she will see if she wants to be with me. She hangs up on me when I don't take that nicely. I proceed to email her and tell her about the party we had at my house Friday night and how I could have slept with this girl but I didn't because of her. I then said I might do it tonight because fuck my ex. I feel so fucked up again guys. Why do I keep doing this to myself?", "summary": "Abusive ex dumps me 2 months ago. I broke and contacted her last night. Talk on the phone today. Tells me she loves and misses me but enjoys being single and when she's done enjoying it she will see if she wants to fix it with me. I respond by telling her I might go sleep with this girl I met at a party Friday night that really likes me. Now I'm very hurt over my ex and what she said"}
{"id": "t3_uelqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I unintentionally cheated on my GF, was going to tell her. But someone else beat me to the punch. help?", "post": "me (M 21) and my GF (F 21) have been going strong for a couple months now, but she recently went abroad which I have no problem waiting for her to come back because I really like this girl a lot! But last week I did the worst thing known to mankind and I got a little bit too drunk, to the point where I only remember bits and pieces of the night. The original plan was just to stay home and drink, but my best friend wanted to check out a nearby bar/club. Which I had no issues with because I was already starting to feel the effects of the alcohol, so it just seemed like a good time to go out and have fun with my friend especially since we haven't been able to do that in a couple weeks. \n\nSo he drove us out to the club, where I continued to drink, and drink, and drink. To the point where I was way past shitty, long story short (from what I was told) I found a chick and told her where I lived and invited her back. She came over with her wingwomens, we did the dirty, and they all left. \n\nI have 2 issues with this: my friend probably pressured me into doing the dirty, because he's done this type of thing to other people before to try and break them up with their girlfriends. AND I was only able to talk to my GF 2 times within a week because of our schedules. the first time was the day after and I didn't have the courage to tell her then, but I was going to tell her the next time we spoke, but one of the wonderful wingwomens from the club beat me to the punch and sent her a message on facebook about it 10 minutes before we talked the second time.\n\nNow this is where I thought it got complicated though. I have never before cheated on a GF and hate those who do. She knows that I was to blackout drunk, through me telling her and the message (I don't even remember having sex with the chick) and what my friend has done in the past. Is there anyway I can get her trust back for this horrible accident that I don't even remember happening?", "summary": "I cheated on my girlfriend, but I was way past drunk and don't remember doing it and the my wingman who was supposed to help his drunk friend pressured me into doing it. help? ilikethisgirlalot!"}
{"id": "t3_sqdtb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend can't be trusted and now I'm nervous. What shall I do?", "post": "I had a note in my pocket, it was sort of a love note, but not. I placed it on my desk, so I could clean my pockets out. My friend tried to read it, so I picked it back up. Then, she snatched it back out of my hands and read it.\n\nShe laughed all the way through reading, she then showed it to the girl sat next to me. I told her not to tell anyone, especially the person who the letter was for.\n\nThe girl say next to me told another girl. They lightly teased me, but I didn't mind. They were nice to me about it and told no one.\n\nAt lunchtime, the boy who I wrote the letter for (not really intending to give), came up to me and said \"I know something\" with a straight face. He then walked away. I panicked, but tried to remain calm. I carried on with the conversation and he smiled at me, which is a good sign that he isn't too bothered, but I can never be sure with him.\n\nI asked my friend if she told. At first, she said no, but was laughing. Then, she told me that she told him about the letter and teased him about it. I told her that I was upset and that I told her not to. She simply said to get over it, that he doesn't like me and he always insults me. She continued to laugh and tease me the entire lesson.\n\nI feel horrible about this. So stupid. What should I do?", "summary": "I wrote a letter to someone I love, not intending to give it. My \"friend\" took it off me and told the person about it. Then, she teased me. I don't know what to do and I'm scared that friendships are ruined."}
{"id": "t3_2dprv7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[f16] pretty sure my friends hate me.", "post": "I'm one of those \"I like to hang out with guys more because it's less drama\" hipstery type people that tend to exclude joining petty high school drama, until recently.\n\nMy friend \"Arabella\" went to a camp for 3 weeks this summer and just got back a couple days ago. My other friend \"TeddyPicker\" and I thought Arabella would change over the duration of the camp and she did. She became friends with her ex-bff \"Balaclava\" and generally seemed a bit different after returning. TeddyPicker and I expressed the mutual feelings of this via kik (oh god) and basically bitched to each other about Arabella changing and how we lost a good friend, basically shitdrama and over exaggeration...\n\nSo this morning (August 15th around 1pm) TeddyPicker invites me over and I say I cant sleepover because I want to spend time with my brother before he leaves for college (on Tuesday, unneccessary detail but who gives a fuck). She said it's chill and we kik some more and then my cousin comes over and the three of us (brother) just MarioKart into the wee hours of the morning.\n\nAround 3am I head into my room for a bit and check snapchat. I see Arabella and TeddyPicker sleeping over at Teddy's and I instantly feel like shit. First off all I was a bitch to gossip about Arabella but I'm also under the impression they both hate me because of this so I group kik them a random message about a backstage pass for a band I got tickets for, some random shit and they respond with \"WHAT. FOR US?!\" so I assume all's well and kik them back. I don't hear anything for a couple hours so i just type \"sorry\" and leave it at that. I feel like such a drama queen and am just overthinking and venting but I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "Pointless but I am nervous about my friendships and that i acted like a bitch"}
{"id": "t3_1neqml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my Girlfriend [26F] of 1 year. She has just gotten her entire right butcheek tattoo'd and I hate it. What do I do?", "post": "I usually have all the answers but right now I am completely lost. I've had a relatively conservative upbringing but I am super open-minded and accept tattoos. But this crossed the line...\n\nShe already had other tattoos (an entire back-piece which is absolutely stunning, a tramp stamp which was an 18yo mistake, and 4 different pieces around her hips. One day she came home with a leg piece that I thought was great(even though I had no idea she was getting it) She expressed that she wanted to make it a leg sleeve starting under her butt-fold and going down to her lower thigh, just above the knee. I thought it was a great idea. \n\nShe shows me the tattoo when she gets back from her tatt session and there it is... a dragon and some lotus covering her entire right butt cheek, into the crack and around the back. All I could do was stare with a blank look on my face.\n\n*Side note: My girlfriend has an absolutely gorgeous body and her butt, imo, is unrivaled.*\n\nThe worst part about it is she made this decision on a whim... her and her tattoo artist talked about covering her lower-back tramp stamp with the body of a dragon and 5 minutes later she decided to get her entire right butt blasted.\n\nHow the hell should I feel about this? What does this say about her judgement? Is it wrong to be turned off now because I think her new tattoo is trashy? \n\n*She comes from a very strict/Taiwanese upbringing. She had an overbearing/protective/neglecting/controlling father, left the house at 16, worked her way through college, and is living a successful life.. Part of me thinks that this was a display of her rebellious side. I don't like it at all.*", "summary": "GF made, what is in my opinion, a terrible life choice."}
{"id": "t3_4tbvrm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20F] am afraid my 2 year relationship with my boyfriend [27M] is at it ends.", "post": "We always had a pretty strong relationship, normal bumps here and there but nothing to serious. That being said, I am familiar with what a strain in the relationship feels like, and this is something worse. \n\nAt the beginning we would spend what I would call a healthy amount of time together. We would go out to eat, pump each other about new movies we would go see, take long walks, make each other dinners, and just genuinely enjoyed each others company. Now, we barely spend any sort of time together besides running a quick errand. I understand over time relationships slow down, and things get more relaxed, but we can no longer even comfortably share a silence. \n\nHe used to make an effort to do little things for me when we hadn't done a lot in a while (I would always make a point to show my agitation and concern when he seemed like he did not want to spend time with me or he needed a break) to show he still cared, so I wouldn't have to worry. Now, he just does whatever he feels like doing, which 99.9% of the time is video games, and makes it clear that this will not change. Video games are something I have an interest in, but is not something we do together (he plays with his friends online), so playing together is not an option. \n\nAt times through this I have been overly concerned he is seeing someone else, and have questioned him on several occasion if anything is going on (odd phone calls in the middle of the night, staying out later than promised, not wanting me to go certain places he usually invited me along to). The constant accusations make him very mad, and I can tell this is a big part of the problem. I've done what I can to fix it and nothing has changed. \n\nThis is me quickly going through concerns I've had for a while now, so sorry I kind of rambled on. To sum this up, is this relationship salvageable? The last we talked he seemed like he wanted to work it out. And I do, too, but nothing has been done. What can I do/ ask him to do/ talk to him about to save things?", "summary": "My constant worrying and his constant gaming are dividing our relationship. Is there still a chance for us?"}
{"id": "t3_44de93", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[OH] Roomate from hell", "post": "So with out going into detail to much here is the low down. My roomate and I live in a 3 person house and we paid the difference in the summer. Come fall semester we decided to get a 3rd. This person was added to the lease, no sub leasing. Now during his short stay they refused to pay utilities and neglected to pay much of the rent. **Due** to the lease agreement the late fees this person incurred were adding up. In December this person moved out (I guess? They just never came home from thanksgiving) leaving all of his late fees and unpaid rent on us. This person also left a majority of what ever pathetic life they had in the room, as far as I am concerned they are still occupying the room. We are planning on going to small claims court now. The problem arises when we find out this person had joined the military and has already deployed. Our landlord has mentioned that this may be problematic as far as the terms of the lease and holding him responsible, which I find is bullshit. This person incurred these debts before they joined the service therefore the military has nothing to do with this. If you owe chase bank $2000 and join the army that debt does not disappear so what makes this any different?", "summary": "old roomate left debts unpaid and fled to the military."}
{"id": "t3_13wbd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (25) career/life up in air for the foreseeable future, how can I (24f) navigate this?", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years.  We have a great, easy going relationship, good communication, lots of respect and love for each other.  We are very different people and I believe that we have helped each other grow and learn new things about ourselves.  \n\nMy boyfriend is a big traveller, that is how he has built up his life and work - he is a consultant and works in international relations.  This means he is never in the same place for a long time.  I am a teacher and before I had met him I hadn't travelled in 6 years!  I have had the wonderful opportunity to travel with him and have had many great experiences abroad.  I was getting tired of my work at home and followed him to live and work in China for 4 months, I wasn't sure that I would like it but I loved it and even started to learn Chinese!\n\nHowever, things are changing quickly for my boyfriend.  He has been working hard and many new wonderful opportunities are now opening for him that mean he isn't able to know exactly what or where he is going to be in a few months.  Plus, he is hoping to start PhD soon - but not sure where in the world he will be accepted.  \n\nThis is very difficult for me.  I'm not sure it's practical for me to keep following him around.  Firstly, I need to be able to find a job where I arrive and then stay there for a few months so that I could save enough money to up sticks again.  That also brings up the issue of my own career and whether it is a good thing for me to be starting again where ever I have to land my feet to sacrifice for his own.  On one hand, I am in no hurry to settle down, I am young, no commitments and this is an excellent opportunity to travel, on the other hand, I worry for myself and what I am sacrificing in return for love and excitement.\n\nI am not sure how we are going to navigate this.  We both love each other, but at times it just feels like our lifestyles are too different to practically fit together.", "summary": "travelling boyfriend, never in the same spot for long, how can relationship survive."}
{"id": "t3_364j3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19f) messed up with my boyfriend (21)f", "post": "My boy of 2 years went to bmt for the airforce. I was depressed for the first month, I couldn't eat sleep do anything. I was empty with out him. I sought comfort in a couple of friends who are guys. We had a few game nights where I stayed the night, and I slept In the same bed as one. We didn't touch we had different blankets and everything. This happened while he was gone and he's in school now and I didn't tell him until ah few days ago. I didn't want to distract him from anything. I told him and shit hit the fan. I know it was wrong to sleep next to another guy, but we literally didn't do a thing. They were just good friends who got my kind off of being sad. My boyfriend lost all trust in me, but is giving me another chance. How can I help make this okay? What can I do to fix the trust I ruined.", "summary": "I slept next to another guy while bf was in bmt. Need advice"}
{"id": "t3_2y8gjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "My SO (27f) and I (29m) make drastically different paychecks, and I don't know how best to balance 'our' money. My monthly income is 45K, and my SO's monthly income is 7k.\n\nWe pay about 8,500 a month for rent and utilities. I know this is an exorbitant rent, and so I don't mind paying for it myself. But everything else? Food, dinners, clothes, coffee, vacations? I sort of feel obligated to pay for EVERYTHING because I make so much more, but I don't know if it's right or for the best. I give my SO 1k a week for food and trifles, but she usually only spends about 600, and we roll the rest over for vacation money.\n\nAm I crazy?", "summary": "Am I obligated to pay for everything for my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_hejov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Volunteer options for biologists - any advice/experience?", "post": "I just finished my undergrad degree in Biology - specifically ecology and evolution - and want to take some time off to get some experience while at the same time just trying something totally new. I'm looking for something that I can spend somewhere in the neighbourhood of a few months to a year in a place completely different and far away (I'm in Montreal).\n\nI've been looking for good volunteer spots for a while, but most of the ones I've been finding seems to require a couple thousand dollars just to volunteer (on top of airfare), something I can't exactly afford at this point in time. Anything that has room and board paid for is perfect for me, and I'm willing to work extremely hard and give up a lot of my time helping.\n\nI am only fluent in English unfortunately, though I can manage in French if required. I am willing to go anywhere in the world, and would like things in the realm of behavioural ecology or conservation biology.\n\nEx: [Kalahari Meerkat Project] - something like this is what I'm looking for more or less.", "summary": "Want to volunteer not *volunteer vacation*, any advice on where to look and any experience doing anything likes this is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_sd2q9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, please, help me find a way to not e terrified of loans!", "post": "I'm a 22 year old student, about to graduate with a bachelors in Criminology. \n\nI absolutely LOVED what I studied. I learned my school's department of Criminology is amazing and I have learned so much from the faculty. The only problem is I know I'll have to go to grad school to get the career I strive for.. which is working with bomb/food/drug dogs.\n\nThe thing is, I was incredibly blessed with parents who helped me pay for my college degree without taking out loans. Hearing about my friends and their loans makes me cringe. I don't understand how college grads are okay with going to school, graduating with the difficulty of finding a job, and paying off their loans.. all in turn with paying their living expenses. I know you can defer these loans but I still find it incredibly terrifying. \n\nI have friends entering programs for their doctorates, and I don't understand how they aren't panicking. Most of all, its for my friends who are working towards entering vet schools. Entering a veterinary program was my original goal, but I switched to criminology in hopes I could work with food/bomb/drug dogs. I would LOVE to be a vet, and have worked in various animal hospitals throughout my lifetime. So I'm a bit stuck as to whether I should start over or continue in my Criminology degree.", "summary": "How can I chill out about thinking about potential loans in my future life? What can make me believe I need to take out loans and do so for my education, without being so scared?"}
{"id": "t3_4jfa86", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27M) ruined my relationship.", "post": "Over the course of 5 years, I've proven I can't be trusted with money, I'm not a great parent, I have control issues, and a short temper. \n\nMyself and my now ex-SO (23F) have 2 children 4M and 2F. \n\nI desperately need to unfuck myself. \n\nI'm moving out at the end of the month: I have joined Gamblers Anon with the true desire to kick this once and for all, and I'm now providing her with my monthly financial history so she can see how I'm spending while on my own: I'm having the kids, on my own, on opposite weekend's as well as collecting them from preschool twice a week. I'm also going to be going through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help with both my anger and control issues, my doctor has prescribed a 6 month course of Citalopram alongside the therapy to help stabilise me in the mean time. \n\nShe still loves me, I still desperately love her. \n\nAm I doing enough? What else can I do?", "summary": "I'm an asshole, help."}
{"id": "t3_54j88g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [M 19] girlfriend [F 23] and i have been in a long distance relationship and need more to talk about.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for a year and three months now. We talk almost every day and love to spend time with each other. We plan little dates like watch movies or we play a game or cuddle. The thing is, after so long of not actually seeing each other we don't have so much to talk about ourselves anymore and it's really hard to make conversations. We need some good conversation topics. I wanna keep her engaged and happy until she comes back to me in may or june of next year. What are some ways to fix this? Or any topics from you guys. Or are any of you in  a long distance relationship? :)", "summary": "we are in a long distance relationship and have talked about nearly everything and we need to strengthen our conversation skills."}
{"id": "t3_1uamb0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f25) dont know if im overanalyzing or if my bf (m25) really means what he says", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 ish months now. We love each other and I guess im more vocal about it than he is. I am the one that says I love you or I miss you first, and he responds with I miss you more or love you more, or ditto.\n\nIt just really bothers me, because I feel like i know he feels that way, but then I feel like he doesnt feel that way. Ive brought it up with him and he says it stresses him out but he only says it a few times to make it more special. It just bothers me cause he just....never says it until I do.\n\nIm also pretty insecure and my last boyfriend just kind of treated me like a piece of meat, and broke up with me cause he never loved me, so i feel sort of hurt and I feel like this is one sided when I always initiate my feelings and he rarely doesnt.\n\nAm I reading too much into this? How should I approach this?", "summary": "boyfriend rarely says I love you, and normally says it after I do. Not sure if its an insecurity thing with myself or an actual problem"}
{"id": "t3_2478q5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "27M Fiancee dumped me 2 years ago after 9 years. Creeping my Linkedin?", "post": "My ex fiancee, 25F at the time, dumped me after 9 years. We had everything booked to get married and stuff. The week i was getting jaw surgery she asked to go on a break.  Of course I agreed but really she was too big of a coward to dump me in person. She string this break along for a few months amd then ended the engagement vis text. Classy girl I know. \n\nI cut her off a year ago after she asked that I not talk to her anymore. She got a new bf and moved into an apt in the town where my job was. Ive since left thst job for the big city.\n\nA few days ago I get a linked in alert and low and behold she creeped on my profile. What goes through a dumpers mind to do such a thing? The girl thst told me I was holding her back in life and she didnt love anymore of for the last three years. Now shes creeping me online?? I blocked her every where else and honestly im passed the point of ever wanting to communicate with her again. She betrayed my trust. I grew up with her and dated her for HS, College and three years post college. \n\nCan I block on Linked In? Why do dumpers do that shit? If you use linkedin you know damn well people know youve viewed their profile. I guess im frustrated because of all the shit she said and how meaningless a third of the relationship was - but she wants to satsify her curiousity by keeping tabs?\n\nI have no experience here. She was my first gf so ive never dumped anyone or been dumped before. /rant", "summary": "why do dumpers creep on you years later. Wtf?"}
{"id": "t3_3ftx82", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [28/m] dumped my 9 month GF [27/f] after she already broke up with me 2 months prior, but we have been trying really hard to make it work. Now I'm feeling regret.", "post": "I need to know if I made the right decision here Redditors. The short story is I met this girl, we each weren't looking for anything serious, yet we both fell in love with eachother. 7 months in she breaks up with me stating that \"it shouldn't be this hard.\" We continue hooking up immediately after the breakup, and talking everyday like nothing happened, as she wants to keep seeing me.\n\nShe has some drinking issues, and during the time we broke up (as well as in the past) got blacked out drunk on multiple occasions, throwing up, having little girl tantrums, wanting to get tattoos where I would have to stop her, etc. I finally got some clarity and realized that I am not going to put up with all that BS, especially since were already broken up. \n\nI sat her down and said that we need to stop seeing eachother, as we are different, and shes got the alcohol issue that she needs to solve on her own. She wants no part of the breakup, says that she wants to be together, get married, have kids, and that I am the one. \n\nWhat do I say to that? I love this girl, but I'm not sure she is the one for me, as demonstrated by her behavior. She swears she's changed and will be better from now on, but this was only 2 weeks ago. I have dug my heels in and said that its not going to work out between us, and that I need my space right now as this has been an emotional roller coaster. \n\nMy fears are that I may never have that special connection with another woman, that we both had with eachother. Its taken me 28 years to find this one alone. How do you give up someone who you thought was \"the one?\" These thoughts are tearing me up inside and I need your advice. \n\nAm I in the right here?\n\nIs she just crazy?\n\nThanks for the help.", "summary": "Broke up with crazy GF after she already broke up with me, now I'm regretting it."}
{"id": "t3_3aqm9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I(24F) attend my boyfriend's grandmother's last birthday celebration?", "post": "My boyfriend (24M) and I have been dating for a few years now and talk about getting married several years down the line. I am on good terms with his family and he with mine. His mother is throwing a big birthday celebration for her mother (my boyfriend's maternal grandmother) at the end of the summer, and his mom invited me. My boyfriend's grandmother is in poor health, and this is likely to be her last birthday, so this is also kind of an opportunity for everyone to say their goodbyes. My boyfriend hasn't seen his grandmother in 10 years, since she lives far away, and I've never met her before.\n        \nI was fine with attending before I found out that it's being held on the other side of the country and airfare will run $500+ (that was the price when we checked a couple of weeks ago so it's likely higher now). I'll be paying for my own airplane ticket. I'm currently in med school right now living off student loans, and money is tight. In order to go, I will have to take time off my summer job, and I'll be digging into my loans. \n         \nI feel like I should go, since my boyfriend's whole family (including his brother's fiancee) is going to be there, and I'll presumably be a part of that family in the future. I'm worried his mother will be upset if I don't go and will forever hold that against me. My parents don't think it's a big deal, and say I shouldn't be obligated to go since I'm not married or in the process of marrying into the family at this time. My boyfriend doesn't think it's a huge deal either. What do you guys think? I just want to make sure I don't alienate the people who are my future in-laws.", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother is having a last birthday party for her mother across the country, and I can't really afford the airfare. Can I bow out without pissing off potential-future-MIL?"}
{"id": "t3_hjcko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know what the right course of action is regarding my GF's male friend. Where to I draw the line?", "post": "Male 22, dating a 20 year old female, and we've been together for almost 9 months.\n\nThis is a pretty sensitive issue between us, so I've been very careful not to react in any extreme fashion so far in our relationship. \n\n**but here is the background about this friend:**\n\nLast summer, before I dated her, she pretty much became best friend with this guy. Of course, after awhile it was a friends with benefits relationship. But knowing that it wasn't going to go anywhere, my girlfriend said she prevented herself from developing romantic feelings toward this guy. She flew back here to my state for college, and that's when I started dating her. \n\n**Fast forward to the present:**\n\nShe is back in her home state for summer, and he wants to hang out with with her. He wants to her go see pirates with him. The reason this is an issue is because it makes me jealous, plain and simple. I don't think it is appropriate for her to go see a movie with this guy. Because I am worried about overreacting, all I have told her is it makes me uncomfortable. I haven't been completely blunt about it. She has tried to reassure me by telling me she'll bring her little sister, but it hasn't helped change my feelings about the situation.\n\n**This is what I want third party input about:**\n\n*Where is a fair point to draw the line?* I am very much scared to say or do anything that would be taken as a command. I also don't want to accuse her of disrespecting me; clearly we have conflicting views of what appropriate behavior is around people we've been previously involved with. *What is appropriate in this situation?", "summary": "My GF wants to hang out with her friend (who she also hooked up) from last summer, and it makes me feel jealous and very uncomfortable. I don't know what is appropriate, and what is overreacting. Where to I draw the line?"}
{"id": "t3_1mf6zd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke up[28M] with girlfriend[26F] of 2 years. How to be sure it's the right decision?", "post": "I still love her so much, but we have some fundamental issues that I've questioned if I can live with the rest of my life. She's messy, not very intellectually stimulating, and I'm just not physically attracted to her anymore. We've discussed some of these things - she even dragged the lack of attraction out of me when asking why we weren't having sex, something I wish I didn't have to say. \n\nA few months after mentioning these things, she's been working on her appearance (sort of) and attempting to clean up after herself (sort of). But I feel like it may just be a bandaid or too little, too late. I think we may be who we are, and changing habits or lifestyles in such a drastic way may not be possible for everyone. She also has so much on her plate as it is, I may be asking too much of her right now. While it's been a problem the whole time, is a few months even long enough to expect change? Maybe I'm not giving her a fair chance? I have my faults that I struggle with, yet she has looked passed them at the person deep down that she loves and has decided that it is worth it to stick it out. Isn't that what love is all about?\n\nI hate to admit that I've pretty much checked out emotionally, and I may be suffering from a bit of \"grass is greener\" syndrome. I don't enjoy showing affection anymore and often dread coming home in the evenings and look to my schoolwork as an escape. She deserves so much more, because she is such a wonderful person. She has been so supportive of everything I've ever done, and I feel like a horrible person for not providing the same to her. For not really trying these past 6 months or so.\n\nI've never broken up with anyone before. I thought this would be easier for the dumper, but I think I cried more than she did tonight. The thought of being without her is so devastating as is the thought of breaking her heart and having her endure this pain. But I worry that jumping back into it would only make it worse in the future when things might not change, and we go through the same thing again.", "summary": "Not attracted to/intimate with gf anymore. Don't enjoy living with her because of her habits. Broke up with her after communicating these things to her and not much progress after a few months. I'm not putting effort into the relationship anymore. Constant arguments because we're unhappy. How do I know this was the right thing to do, and it's not just me?"}
{"id": "t3_lyaj9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Something to keep my mom busy?", "post": "Long Backstory:\n\nMy mom's best friend died about six months ago, our 12 year old Sheltie. About a month ago, she decided she was ready to get a new dog, so we adopted a beagle/pug mix puppy. Between getting up at 5a.m. to go to school, studying/doing homework, working out, and having a social life, I didn't have much time to help take care of it. My mother and second eldest sister are both disabled, so they can't work, and were suppose to take care of the dog that *they* wanted. Between them two, and my eldest sister, who is a home-health-aid for my mom and lives with us, she apparently was too much to handle, and I was harrased by them to help more, even though I didn't have too much time. They also didn't consider the fact that I'm alergic to dogs, and could hardly touch her. Anyway, the dog was always biting my hands, but no one cared... until she bit my eldest sister. They just returned her because of this, and my mom is upset... because, even how much she complained about it, she loved the dog. My eldest sister's cat absolutely loves my mom, and is always cuddling with her and not my sister, which also causes problems, but that is apparently not good enough. She is now mad at *me* for not helping out, even though I'm alergic to dogs and break out whenever one scratches/bites me, something the dog was notorious/returned for. I know I went on a tangent there, but I'm trying to ask, what are some things that will keep my mom busy?", "summary": "My mom gets lonely during the day, so is there anything I can get her/do for her to help her be less lonely and keep her busy?"}
{"id": "t3_2ad1mt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not putting my apartment number in my shipping info.", "post": "This happened two weeks ago and I've been doing damage control since. \n\nI was looking to buy some hobby stuff and found something good and inexpensive on eBay. I didn't have an eBay account and created one that day and bought the item using my card -- processed by Paypal. \n\nA few days pass and I constantly check the tracking information as my package gets closer and closer to my city. Finally, it's out for delivery. I leave the apartment to go to work and decide to check the mail once I get home.\n\nSo there I am, 1:30 AM, and no package. \n\nI was upset. I was so sure that the tracking said it was out for delivery before I went to work at 4:00 PM so it should be there, but it wasn't. I checked for a claim slip in case the package didn't fit in my box at the complex and I had to pick it up at the post office, but no, nothing.\n\nI went home and checked tracking again to see what happened, and there it was, \"Undeliverable as Address\".\n\nI grew even more upset because they were here. They had to have been here while I was out for them to know that it was undeliverable here. \n\nThen, as I'm cursing the seller and the shipper, I notice something wrong with my shipping address on eBay. I didn't add my apartment number. Why... why did I do that? It was in my billing address, but for some reason I didn't put it in my shipping address. Just... dammit.\n\nI've messaged the seller, created a case on eBay, and even messaged the post office, but nothing. No one seems to have any idea where my package went. It should have returned to the seller, but he hasn't said anything except sent me the tracking information.\n\nIt's now been two weeks, and nothing. Still.", "summary": "Ordered something off of eBay, realized too late that I didn't include my shipping address, my package is now in some sort of limbo."}
{"id": "t3_3fvm6k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are my [21 F] feelings for my boyfriend [22 M] of 3 years normal?", "post": "A bit of background -\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together since we graduated from high school. What attracted me the most was his incredible sense of humor and how charming he was. He made me feel very special.\n\nFast forward 3 years and I feel suffocated 90% of the time. He hates my friends.. I can't catch up with them without being constantly questioned or called 2 times (in the space of up to an hour). He expects me to update him on my every movement (I'm on the bus. I'm getting off the bus. I'm walking to college. I'm in my classroom) and if I don't he'll get very cold and short. I can't connect with male college friends on social media accounts because \"I shouldn't have to\" etc.\n\nI am at the end of my college degree and am desperate for work experience interstate or overseas. I want to experience the world and different workplaces and set up a steady career. He was not interested in college and, while he does work currently, he has no set goals or ambitions for what he wants to do in the future.\n\nHe has recently started making friends with horrible people (violent bikies, ex-cons, drug dealers). His mood can switch in an instant - from something as small as me walking too fast or not holding his hand in public. The jokes he makes are no longer funny but offensive and rude. \n\nI can't help but feel stuck, unsure and maybe even deserving of something better and more fulfilling. I feel horrible writing that because I should love him no matter what. I'm just very confused.\n\nHas anyone been in this position? Is this a phase? Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "The dynamics of my relationship have changed and we have grown in different ways. Is this a phase or is it the end of the road?"}
{"id": "t3_f9bty", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Pulled over because I looked, \"Too young to be driving such a nice car.\" Are police allowed to do that?", "post": "Hey Reddit.\n\nA couple of days ago, I was at a red light, minding my own business when a cop car pulls up beside me into the left turning lane. I turn to look at the cop, and both her and her partner are staring at me. I just ignore it as the lights turn green and they turn left as I go straight. A couple of seconds later, I see in my rear view mirror that they pull a 360 in the middle of the intersection and their lights turn on. I assume they got a distress call until they start tailing me. I know I did nothing wrong because I went when the light was green and I was only doing about 55 - 60KM in a 50KM zone (Yes, I am in Canada).\n\nI pull over into the nearest parking lot and turn off my car. One of the police officers starts to walk up to my window, so I open it up just about an inch. The officer asks for my licence and registration, which I proceed to get for him. I ask him, \"What seems to be the problem officer?\" to which he responds, no problem, just doing a checkup.\" \"A checkup for what,\" I ask. He sais, \"Well, you look a little young to be driving such a nice car.\" I am 18 and I drive my parents 04 [Acura TL](\n\nI was floored, because this is not the first time this has happened to me, more like my third.\n\nHere is my question to you Reddit. Are the police allowed to pull me over to do a \"check up\" because I look too young to be driving a nice car? The car was not reported stolen or anything like that.", "summary": "Got pulled over because I am 18 years old and drive a luxury sedan. Are the 5-0 allowed to pull me over for basically no reason?"}
{"id": "t3_3qpkjg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] new girlfriend [22 F] is a squirter, what can I do to make her feel more comfortable in the bedroom?", "post": "As it says in the title, my girlfriend squirts quite a bit when she has an orgasm. I wouldn't say I'm turned on by it but I'm also not grossed out by it either. However, she is so embarrassed by it that she will sometimes make me stop having sex with her when she's getting close to cumming and the only time she really does it is when we have sex in the shower. The other night  I finally got her to do it by licking her out, but pretty much mid orgasm she pushed me away and I can tell that she wasn't really enjoying it. I've talked to her about it and she says she really does enjoy the orgasm itself, she just feels horribly self conscious.\n\nSo basically what I'm asking is, what can I do to ensure she feels like she is in a comfortable environment and that I don't care about a little bit of extra laundry? I acknowledge it probably won't happen overnight, just looking for some tips to set the mood.", "summary": "What it says in the title!"}
{"id": "t3_2ce8dv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22F] bring my boyfriend [25M] of 3 months out of his shell around my family.", "post": "Im crazy about this guy! He's everything I could ever want in a parter, plus he has an amazing sense of humor and constantly has me laughing. While he's funny and relaxed around me, he seems to close off a bit and become more reserved around larger groups of people, my family included. We are a chatty, loud, sarcastic group, but we are full of love. They say they really think he's a great match for me, but wish he would initiate conversation with them and relax. \n\nHow do I encourage him to do so? He does suffer from anxiety so I don't want to push him out of his comfort zone, but I really wish he could communicate with them like he does with me.", "summary": "What can I do or say to encourage my shy, but funny boyfriend to initiate conversation and relax around my family?"}
{"id": "t3_3rs0rh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [Intern, 21 M] with my boss [41 M], I forgot to cancel a software subscription on his credit card and he's asking for reimbursement", "post": "Basically, I was in charge of using X software, which is a paid monthly service on his credit card. I forgot to cancel it last week, which resulted in a $600 charge on his card. \n\nNow the software company is refusing to refund the card, and is instead offering a $600 credit on the account. I let my boss know, and his response said \"So it cannot be refunded? I'd like to stress getting this refunded. Otherwise I'll need to be reimbursed and this is an absolute waste of money.\"\n\nHow do I go about this situation? I'm a college student so the $600 will obviously hit me way harder than it'll hit him. Do I offer to pay the bill? The other complication is that I may end up working for my boss next year (I've been working for him for 3 summers now, I'm currently a Senior), so I don't want to create any hostility or tension.", "summary": "got my boss charged for a software renewal, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hsuwt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "In need of advice for college finances", "post": "Im going to try to keep this short but please let me know if I left out any important information. I am a high school senior and am considering going to the university of Alabama for a STEM to MBA program. I would have a full tuition scholarship with only about 8k/year expenses for room and board. I would prefer to get a degree in software engineering with the MBA. I was wondering if it would be worth it to go to a top-tier university for the same credentials or if saving the money is a better option in the long run. \n-Alabama~32k total for education\n-Prestigious university- 80-200k+ depending on scholarships available.\n-I have 34 ACT/ 2250 SAT and 3.9 unweighted GPA if it matters \n-I will have $70k at my disposal to use for college", "summary": "Is getting certification from a more \"prestigious\" university worth the insane amount of debt I would be getting myself into?"}
{"id": "t3_2ub57j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Well this sucks.", "post": "So I have no idea what to do and I figured you guys could give a few ideas before I can contact the IRS on Monday. I filed my taxes and someone else has already claimed me. I am not hurting for the return but it sucks that another person has used my information and I may not receive a refund. Also I need my tax information for my sons FASFA and I can't even imagine how this would hold him up during his first year of college. What am I supposed to do? I don't even know how it is possible for someone else to use my SSN since I have worked at the same job, lived at the same address and claimed the same dependent for my whole adult life. I also have my SSN on file with my job and these people filed before I even received my W-2's how is that possible?  Some general advice on how to approach this in the most timely manner would be nice and if there is a better sub to post in please show me the way.", "summary": "I got claimed on someone's taxes and I don't know how to prove I am me."}
{"id": "t3_1whxt4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "6 Months and I'm just not happy. How do I [M20] break up with her, without her [f20] or her friends hating me?", "post": "I'm a sophomore in college, and I started dating a girl (Let's call her Jenny) this past August, and we rushed into things.\nNow, I don't know what I really want or need out of a relationship, so I don't want to be in a relationship in general right now until I figure things out in my life. She's also not really who I thought she was, not as confident or independent as she first seemed. And I simply don't enjoy being with her anymore.\n\nWhy it's complicated: I was her first boyfriend, took her virginity (she'd only ever kissed like 3 guys before me), and we told each other we loved each other. She says it a lot. She's sort of dependent, and doesn't know how a relationship should work. I don't either, I've never been in healthy/happy ones. Only time I \"broke up\" with someone, I'd been seeing her for 2 months and just stopped responding to calls and texts and defriended her on Facebook (awful I know, we've reconciled since then (it was 3 years ago)) and I've been moving from relationship to romantic interest to relationship since like junior year of highschool.\n\n I want to be able to focus on my own life. \n\nAnyway, all of my friends who are girls are in her sorority, so I don't want all of them to hate me for breaking up with Jenny. There's also an extracurricular club, that Jenny is in with me, and we're going on a 5 day trip for that club in two weeks (Jenny, Me, and 4 other members of club were selected). Our 6 month anniversary will be in a week AND valentine's day is the day before the trip so I don't want Jenny to be alone, hating me right before the trip. \n\nHow do I break up with her, without all our mutual friends (her sorority sisters) hating me, and without it being super awkward in committee meetings or when we see each other?", "summary": "How do I break up with her without it being super awkward after, and without losing friends +should I wait until after 6 month anniversary (1 week away) & Valentine's day  (2 weeks away)?"}
{"id": "t3_270u3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's my next move?", "post": "So I (32m) went on a date with a guy (30m) Thursday night. It just started off as impromptu beers, which turned into dinner, and more beers. We just chilled out and talked for like 4 hours; it was a lot of fun! So the next day I texted him and said I had fun and he texted back that he had too. I waited a few hours and texted him again asking if he wanted to have dinner again that night. He said he had plans but \"lets do something next week :)\"    That was Friday afternoon and now it's Sunday. I haven't texted him since Friday because I don't want to come off as being pushy or stalkerish; trying very hard to play it cool and close to the chest so I'm showing him that I'm interested but not desperate or nuts. \n\nWhat should my first few text messages consist of? How do I lead up to making plans this week?", "summary": "been three days since first date, what should I text the guy today?"}
{"id": "t3_3mgk3n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wanting to look at stars", "post": "I'll keep it short and sweet: \n\nAlcohol and marijuana in heavy use one night\n\nSome genius thought it would be a great idea to sleep outside \n\nEveryone pumped because clear sky+ drugs=awesome\n\nPut blankets on grass in front yard\n\nGo to sleep\n\nForget about potential for mosquitos\n\nWake up with about 30 bug bites all over my face and hands \n\nLooked like I had smallpox\n\nWent to class the next day with red lumps all over my body\n\nGot sent home and to doctor because they thought I had measles or something\n\nMom found out I was out partying, grounded for a month", "summary": "Space fucked me"}
{"id": "t3_18k9js", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is Pepsi's new slogan (\"LIVE FOR NOW\") the epitome of exactly what's wrong with our culture?", "post": "[Image of one of the ads](\n\nFirst off, I love Pepsi. I love Coke. So let's leave those rivalry discussions right there. After watching the Super Bowl, all of the ads were immediately on repeat for the coming days/weeks. After seeing a handful of Pepsi commercials it finally dawned on me. \"Live for now\". \"Live for now\"? Not only do I feel like those three simple words when aligned together like this are a perfect representation with what's wrong with our society today, I have to say I also feel like this is the most half-assed slogan of all time.\n\nI mean honestly, think about it. We, as humans, by design have it embedded in our neurological code to want to live for now. That's what we do best. It's not something hard to do. In fact, most people find it extremely hard to do anything but \"live for now\". To strive ahead in life, and to set a solid foundation for the rest of your life, we know that living for now is the last thing you want to do, regardless of how easy the temptation to do so is.\n\nI understand it's all about marketing, and gearing product to a certain audience. But come on. What sort of messages are we sending nowadays? Live your life with complete disregard for the future! It just sounds ignorant and tasteless to me.\n\nMaybe next time Pepsi shouldn't wait until the last second to get an intern to throw out the first thought that comes to their head for a new slogan idea, and really shoot for something that will sink in deep.\n\nWhat are your thoughts Reddit?", "summary": "Pepsi's new slogan is pathetically simpleminded and ignorant"}
{"id": "t3_2hq08y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to a highschool friend", "post": "First off I am a horrible story teller so bear with me.\n\nSo this happened a couple hours ago, I'm still not sure what to think. I attended highschool in a rather small town, so everyone there knew each other, and after I graduated I went to a local university. Now being young and wanting to get out of the house I decided to live on campus for the first year (or four).\n\nSmall town kid at an okay sized university I get pretty excited when I see someone I know from my town, so naturally I was pretty happy to bump into a girl, let's call her kat, in my building working on the janitorial staff, that I went to school with. She was about to go on break and I had a bit of time while I waited for my laundry so we sat in the longue and talked for a few minutes, right before she left her coworkers walked into the building (there are large glass windows so we can see who comes in/out).\n\nKat decides to cut her break short and go back to work, and I go upstairs to swap out my laundry. When I come back down the stairs as soon as I open the door I am confronted by a group of the cleaning staff and who I am assuming is security. They start asking me where Kat is and get upset when I don't know (why would I know where the cleaning staff is...) and then tell me I have to leave the premise because employees can't bring guests on campus. After explaining to them that I live here I was told that I should respect the fact that cleaning staff are here to work and not bother them. \n\nA few minutes later I decided to go up to join a group going for lazer tag and as I walked towards the staircase I hear screaming and crying \"I can't lose my job no no no!\" and I'm pretty sure it was Kat. I have no idea but I think I got her fired by talking to her for 10 minutes on her break.", "summary": "The broom and mop mob wasn't impressed that on of their own had friends that go to the univeristy."}
{"id": "t3_2pia4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really need some advice", "post": "Stay with me guys, I'll try not to make this too long.   Yesterday I (31M) found out that my girlfriend (29F) of four years has been texting another guy...all day every day.  I am not the kind of guy that snoops on her, but she has been acting different lately.  I noticed when paying the phone bill that she had sent a ton of text messages, but never really thought about it.  She said something yesterday morning that made me want to check it out, and I'm glad I did.  \n\nThere was one number that she had been texting in particular, from the second she got up until she went to bed (100+ a day, and a few calls).  This had been going on for the past three months.  I *67'd the number, and a guy answered.  That's all I needed to hear, so I confronted her about it.  She claims that they are just friends, and that she had no idea how much they had been talking.  My thoughts are that you don't text your friend good morning and good night every day, seven days a week, for three months without something more going on.  This morning I asked to read the texts, and she deleted them saying it was for my own good, because I would try to look for implications and she didn't want me to do that.\n\nWhat do you guys think?  I am such a headcase right now that I can't really figure out what to do.  She is acting like she didn't do anything wrong.  I love her and want to continue this relationship, but I don't know what to make of this.", "summary": "My girlfriend has been texting another guy non-stop for three months and claims they are friends."}
{"id": "t3_2o4z3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Scared to have a daughter for irrational reason..", "post": "Figured relationships would be a better sub than sex even though it's kind of centered around sex..\n\nI [20M] have a [15F] sister who I've always seen as innocent. Today I realized that even though I gladly know nothing of her sex life(existent or not) she isn't a 9 year old girl who doesn't know what sex is. I then started browsing Reddit and saw a post about how a dad had discovered his daughter pretty much riding her boyfriend. I thought about how not only our dad but a ton of dads are probably devastated that their \"little girl\" is having sex. At this point I was for some reason really angry and didn't know why. It then dawned on me that I was thinking about my future and if I were to catch my daughter in the act of sex I would probably punch a hole in the wall as to not make a scene...(Obviously kidding but would be really upset non the-less) \n\nNow I'm feeling guilty because if I had a son and I caught him having sex I'd be fine with it, maybe even a little proud. I'm feeling guilty because this is a huge double standard and at my current age, heck even when I was in high school I knew of plenty of girls who were sexually active and didn't see it as a big deal. I know I'm being completely irrational about this seeing as how I don't even have any kids, but I was wondering if anyone had any input on why I was getting so worked up over something that could be 25 years down the line? \n\nI think I'd be fine if I was kind of oblivious to it.. i.e. NOT walking in on my daughter doing cowgirl in my own home.. I'm not a violent person nor would I do anything to this theoretical kid having sexy times with my theoretical daughter, but if I were to see it happen I would just flip.. Any insight or experience dealing with the realization that your daughter is sexually active for when the future comes around?", "summary": "Thought about catching my future theoretical daughter having sex, proceed to get upset out of thin air, now wondering if this is something that happens to all dads/ what are ways to deal with the realization?"}
{"id": "t3_1k3rmo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M19] sending a hand-written letter to my EX [F19] - is that a good idea?", "post": "This post can be considered an update to my previous post: [My [19M] girlfriend of 6 months [19F] told me that she wants a \"break\". (...)] Hello Reddit. To provide you with a short back-story: \n\nMy girlfriend of 7 months demanded a \"break\" about 1.5 months ago. I agreed. After more than a month of no contact, she sent me a link to the song which could be interpreted as a will to end a break. One day after that, she sent me a text message and asked for a couple of days of \"break\" more. I didn't respond, I just turned a deaf ear to that.\n\nAnd here comes August, 1st. She asked for a meeting and we met in her car, in public place. She told me that she values me for a person I am but she's no longer in love with me. And she also told me about her message which meant to end a break. In fact, she was drunk while sending. WTF. I told her that I wish her good luck in her future life and I slammed the door. I haven't had enough strength to tell her what I feel. She literally made me laugh, how people don't see themselves and cannot look at themselves from the perspective of third person...\n\nAnd here comes the question: should I send her a hand-written letter to tell her what she's done wrong? I would do that only for myself, my well-being, this letter wouldn't be intended to make her be guilty. What do you think?", "summary": "My EX dumped me more than a week ago. She asked for a break, after a month she sent me a msg to end it. In fact, she didn't intend to do that, she was drunk while posting. I would like to send her a letter (because I blocked her everywhere on the Net) to tell her that she behaved a bit wrong by not apolosing to me. Is that a good idea or should I totally forget about her?"}
{"id": "t3_exxka", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best Car Insurance For New Driver?", "post": "I am a 21 year old South American male moving to Charlotte for an internship opportunity. While I haven't really needed to drive back home (I relied on public transportation almost exclusively and cars are too expensive!) I now have to get a car.\n\nIve managed to actually get a cheap car (96 Civic) to move around, but now the next step is to get it insured when I get there. I am not the kind of person to ask before googling, but Ive got nothing from my searches. A few websites providing quotes, but nothing too helpful.\n\nThe problem? 21, Never insured, no US Driving experience. Ergo, the 200 p/month numbers Im getting. I understand I might not get something much cheaper, but that would be ideal. If not, maybe share your insights on why go for company A or B?", "summary": "21 year old first time driver looking for insurance. Cheap (under 200 a month) would be ideal, if not recommend your favorite company or share your experiences about the subject."}
{"id": "t3_3lrjnt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and ate a piece of poo for breakfast.", "post": "So I'll get right to it. Two days ago, I'm sitting at the island in my kitchen, chatting with a friend on my right, and my 2 year old daughter on my left. My wife has made us all breakfast - toast with peanut butter and jelly. \n\nThe thing about 2 year olds, especially my daughter, is that her motor skills are sub par, so instead of a fork, she's always using her fingers. Early in the breakfast, I notice my daughter needs a diaper change, and announce to my wife that its her turn.\n\nFifteen minutes or so pass, and with my body positioned to the right to speak with my friend, and while also holding up a piece of peanut butter and jelly toast in my right hand, IT happens.  My daughter waves her hand in front of me saying, 'yucky' and I see, that once again my daughter has gotten her fingers in her food, so, being a dad I lick the peanut butter off the tip of her finger. My tongue recoils like an earth worm under attack by salt. Not peanut butter. It's poop. It's horrific. I spring up, with a deep moan and run for the bathroom. I clean, scrub, wash, rinse and scrape my tongue. I can still taste it.", "summary": "Your loss - it was a good tifu."}
{"id": "t3_jp7lc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do about boyfriend's overuse of weed and alcohol?", "post": "Me: 21 Him: 23 Relationship: 1 and a half years old. He lives away from home with his brother, I live with my parents.\n\nLet me preface this by saying my boyfriend and I have an otherwise awesome relationship, are super compatible in terms of goals and interests, he is a super awesome dude and we generally get along really well, so I have no intention of ending it.\n\nThere is just one thing that really bothers me and that's that unless he is doing assignments for his course or going to his course he is either high or drinking. He doesn't work but gets government money to support his degree as he is considered independant. This money is mostly spent on alcohol and food. His courseload varies but usually he'd have around 4 days a week where he's just getting high or drunk or both regardless of whether he is hanging out with me or alone playing video games with his online buddies. He's a fairly introverted dude and sometimes when I want to hang out he will say he just feels like being alone and just games and gets drunk with his online buddies. Note: I am not a teetotaller and get drunk with him about once or twice a week. \n\nI've discussed it with him on occassion and he says something about it not being anything personal and it helping him relax and socialise or whatever and is aware that it can't be good for his health. He is also a stubborn dude and tends to get all angsty if I try and tell him to control what he is doing. I assume he's been abusing alcohol since he moved from home, so about five years and weed for about 8 months. It doesn't really seem to have caused any major physical issues or mental issues, although he does seem to be reliant on these activities to be happy to a degree, but it definitely can't be good in the long term.  \n\nI don't know if I'm overthinking it and these activities are normal and I just come from a conservative background or if I should be worried.", "summary": "unless he has course commitments boyfriend is either high or inhebriated and I'm worried that this is going to be detrimental to his health. I've talked to him about it a few times and he hasn't changed his behaviour at all."}
{"id": "t3_te5qj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found out something that would definitely end my friend's relationship with his girlfriend, possibly his brother. What the hell to do?", "post": "Throwaway, just in case someone sees this. A friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend a few months ago. A few days later, said friend's brother and ex had sex. It was apparently a one-time thing, and they were both drunk (not an excuse in my book). Normally, I would mind my own damn business, except that my friend recently got back together with this girl. If it was me, and my brother did this, I would want to know. Now, I know his brother, we're not close, but I know him well enough to know that he will never fess up; I highly doubt the girl will, either, but I feel like my friend needs to know about this.  \n\n  It gets messier. My friend and his brother live together with a few other people, and also work at the same place of business, so somebody will have to move out and get a new job. I just don't see any of it ending well for anybody. The source I heard this from is as reliable as it gets, there is no doubt that it happened. I wish I never would have heard, but I feel as though I now have a responsibility to my friend to let him know. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around this incredibly fucked-up situation, and thought I'd ask Reddit for advice. Should I tell him anonymously? I fear he wouldn't believe it from an anonymous source. I'm also worried that the ensuing meltdown could be blamed on me for sticking my nose where it doesn't belong. Thoughts, suggestions?", "summary": "Friend's brother had his three-day old table scraps. Now the lucky couple are back together and my friend is none the wiser. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_21seja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22]f just ended my relationship of 4 years. What do I do now?", "post": "Changed some details because he[21]m reddits. We've been going out since we were 16 and I ended it two hours ago. I'm not going to go into why but there were big issues I couldn't ignore, and we were no longer good for each other.    \n    \nSo how do I cope? The love is still there, we live together with roommates and will remain so until July. I've been crying and he was my best friend so I don't know what to do. We were together so long and made so many plans for the future that I don't know where to start.    \n      \nSorry for any formatting or spelling errors I'm posting from my phone. Any help would be great.", "summary": "broke up with SO of 4+years and I don't know what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_rxrfn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Police flash drive prank?", "post": "My father's a cop and gives me loads of things that have my countries police force marks on them. About a week ago my dad gave me this usb flash drive that he didn't need and it just hit me that I have the exact same usb flash drive that the police use and that I probably could freak some people out with it. Like, make some fake documents or something and just accidentally leave it somewhere for someone to find. The only problem right now is that I lack creativety so could reddit perhaps come up with some ideas for things I could fill the usb flash drive with?", "summary": "Police usb memory thingy, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_3l4bsw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smacking people with my bag wherever I go.", "post": "So this happened between yesterday and today. First I'm in highschool and I wear a pretty large backpack wherever I go and I'm relatively skinny.\n\nSo school just started and I am getting used to having a backpack on my back once again, I was used to walking through crowds without my bag throughout the summer so what I would do if people were in the way would turn to my side so I wouldn't knock into them and I could get through just fine.\n\nNow I have this backpack that is usually stuffed with laptops, binders, books and a water bottle on the side. So when I tried to dodge people I would end up instead smacking them with my bag. I did this accidentally a few time yesterday, said sorry every time. Then today happened, I'm with my friend E and hes standing in a doorway and I want to get through the doorway so I slide through by my side with my backpack facing him, turns out my backpack smacked him in the balls because afterwards he was in a lot of pain.", "summary": "My backpack is a savage killer"}
{"id": "t3_27x824", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22F) ex (22M), together 4 years, apart 5 months. I sent a olive branch but was ignored by him, now I feel like a fool.", "post": "Me and my ex have been apart for 5 months now. We have officially been in no contact for about a month now due to him going back home over summer and he has blocked me on fb/phone too. \n\nBefore he left we got into a disagreement but we sorta apologized to each other before he left. A few days ago I was feeling bad about everything so I sent him a email. Basically this was my olive branch to him saying that although we had a messy break up that I was hoping we could still be friends and that I cared about his friendship and that when school starts I would like it if we could catch up.\n\nHe never responded back which I knew was probably want would happen, but I am feeling disappointed that he didn't. \n\nI realize that we are ex's and he doesn't want to talk to me obviously. But idk it's just really sad to me cause we spent so long together and there are still plenty of things that remind me of him. I was really trying to like be mature with my message and I was hoping that he would see that. But now I feel like I made a fool of myself.", "summary": "sent a olive branch but was ignored by him, now I feel like a fool for wanting to be friends"}
{"id": "t3_12mmqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28/m] My best friend [28/f] will be going through a divorce and I am basically her support system.", "post": "My best friend of 14+ years has been married to her husband for 5+ years, they have children together and a house. They, as of a couple days ago have decided to get divorced. I am, for the most part her only semblance of a support system as she doesn't have many other close friends (maybe just one other one) and her family is not what I would call reliable or compassionate. I've helped her through a lot of difficult situations in the past, but have mostly avoided topics that relate to her marriage unless they have been things that upset her greatly, as I don't like her to be upset.\n\nMy parents are still together and have been for almost 40 years, I have been mostly shielded from divorce and the process/it's effect my entire life, so I am way outside of anything I know right now. I was hoping that I could get some sort of advice on what to expect, or what to say, or how to be there for her through this. It's hard to watch someone you love be hurting and have no idea what to say or what to do to make them okay, and I realize that it is probably going to happen quite a bit throughout this process, but any advice on what to say or do, or how to help would be much appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "Best friend getting divorced, what can I say or do to help her through this?"}
{"id": "t3_1dd03h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to make your own App?", "post": "Hey Reddit, I am a 20 year old who is interested in making a App on the app store. I have no idea on what I want to make yet but I have a great imagination. So my question is has anyone here made a App? How did you do it? What programs did you use? Where did you find the programs? How did you submit it to apple or another app store? At the moment I am broke and all I have for a computer is a 2008 HP with windows vista so I am hoping it doesn't require a super computer and a ton of money. My birthday is in May so if I need something and its cheap enough I can probably buy it as long as its under 100 dollars. So can anyone point me in the right direction and link me to some programs that can be helpful?", "summary": "Need steps on how to build a app on little to know cash and oldish computer."}
{"id": "t3_1rqr3m", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18/m] at university and confused about whether or not I should pursue my crush, who is [18/f]", "post": "First time posting here. Sorry if I mess up on formatting, and thanks in advance!\n\nSo, like it says in the title, I'm a nineteen year old male in his second year of university. I volunteer with an eighteen year old girl in her first year. Recently, in the past couple of months, I've developed a pretty big crush on her. Normally, I would ask her out and see how it goes. If she says yes, great! If she says no, it's no big deal.\n\nThe problem is, we're in the same program, and it's one of the smallest programs in the country. Even though we're in different years, everyone knows everyone and gossip gets around fast. It would be embarrassing if she did happen to say \"no,\" and everyone knew about it. I know that might sound like a stupid thing to worry about, but I can't help it.\n\nI also don't know if she feels the same way about me. We haven't really hung out alone, but I think we generally enjoy each other's company (as friends), although that doesn't really say much. I had drunk talks with my female housemates about her, because they're semi-good friends with her, and they both told me to go for it. We were all intoxicated, though, so it might not be the best advice. One of my friends in first year also talked to her, and he told me that he wasn't sure about what I should do. I don't know if that means that he thinks she's not interested but he's too nice to say so, or something else.\n\nI know this sounds really stupid and very high-school-y, but I was in a terrible relationship for most of first year, and this is my first crush since we broke up. I haven't really been exposed to university dating life, so I'm pretty nervous. So, sorry again if this seems silly or childish, and thanks for the advice!", "summary": "Crushing on girl, but we have many mutual friends and I'm worried about the embarrassment if she rejects me, because word would get around."}
{"id": "t3_1znhxz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21/M) am nerdy and uncool . Last night I lost my virginity to a hot party girl (21/F)...who doesn't like virgins or nerds.", "post": "So I've always been sorta the stereotypically uncool type- the loner/loser/geeky type. I have aspergers so I've never been great at socializing.\n\nThing is though, I've always felt like that's not really the \"real me\", like I should be cooler, like the image if myself in my mind is completely different to how I am in the real world.\n\nI've never understand the whole mainstream bro bar culture or pop culture at all, but I can fake it when I'm very drunk.\n\nSo lately I've been going out as a different character, someone cool that reflects my mental self projection.\n\nI picked up this really hot sorority girl, and long story short, we did everything.\nHoly shit are the orgasms from intercourse so much more intense.\n\nThing is, she was only with me because who she THOUGHT I was. She was saying how she doesn't really like guys who lack experience and are \"nerdy\", and would never hook up with a virgin. She was saying how weird the \"losers\" are, totally unaware that she was sitting next to one.\n\nWe've been texting this morning, and she wants to see me again.\n\nIt's a weird feeling, I'm not really sure what to make of it- I'm almost tempted to tell her everything, just to see how she reacts.", "summary": "met girl who wouldn't like me if she knew the truth."}
{"id": "t3_19v77p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[16m] Don't know how to make a contact", "post": "Background story: I am [16m]. I've never had a girlfriend nor a real date - I am way too shy and anxious to walk there and ask her. The last love story was 9 months ago and now I feel better and more confident again. \nI fell in love with this girl [15f] probably like 2 weeks ago and I am trying to catch an eye on her as often as I can. Finally I want to date her and all that stuff, but I am thinking about nearly everything way too much; I always imagine all kinds of scenarios -  this can come in handy but I think I can't do it this time.\nI am not quite sure if I can walk to her and stand in front of her friends and make myself look totally stupid nor if I should drop her a message on i.e. Facebook, which would look kinda weird.", "summary": "Anxious guy asking about: How should I get in touch with her?*"}
{"id": "t3_4wfosj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New to the US in deep need of guidance", "post": "Hello personal finance saviors \n\nMy story is:\n\nMe and my fianc\u00e9e decided to move to the United States[Kansas] (she's a US citizen while I am from Egypt) the system of finance in my country is totally different I have been always relying on debit cards and saving account hence spending only what I have and managing to save as much as I can. \n\nThe situation is that I managed to save around 5k USD (not that much but that's around 50k of my national currency). \nMy fianc\u00e9e in contrary is spending a lot on lots of unnecessary stuff for example buys new clothes every month or so and she is in big debt (university loans and whatnot) but since we are marrying soon after I come to the US (next month) I am totally in the dark side of the financial stuff like what do I do with my savings? Just open a normal savings account? Which bank do I use[Kansas state]? and what are the investment opportunities? Is joint account going to be risky for me giving the inputs above ? Taking into consideration that I won't have work until I get my permission. I am not asking for specific tailored responses I am willing to put as much research as I need I just need some guidance on where I can search for options to choose from. Some responses that could familiarize me with the financial sector would be great. \n(I apologize if there are any mistakes in my post)", "summary": "moving to the US with my future wife having small savings of 5k USD but know absolutely nothing about financial life in the US "}
{"id": "t3_36p8hx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV] -100 lbs since Dr apt in Feb 2014", "post": "Disclaimer - Posted this in keto but thought to post here cause both subreddits helped me with my journey\n\nHad to do a physical for work Feb 2014 and I weighed in at 397. This floored me. I knew I was big, but not pushing 400.\nSince then I have tried to change my life style. First thing I tried was juicing. That lasted 2-3 months and lost probably around 40lbs. After that I gained some back and was probably 370 when I decided to change my eating habits with portion control. That is where the last 4-5 month journey started.\nI began losing a couple pounds here and there and finally decided to try out keto (been lurking for a while). The last 3 months have been pretty great. Felt the best I have in a very long time. Being more active (biking,kayaking,etc).\nRecently had another DR apt and weighed in at 309. My DR was amazed and I told him what I have been doing. He was not against it but said when I did reach a weight to maintain, to add a few carbs in.\nEver since my journey I've been weighing myself every Sunday morning. This past Sunday I had forgot. So tonight after I ate supper (cheese steaks with romaine lettuce for bun) I weighed myself and to my amazement my scale said 297.\nIn 1.25 years I have lost 100lbs. I don't know how to do the flair and what not but just wanted to share my story in hopes it gives anyone else the urge to move on and change their life style like I have.", "summary": "lost alot of weight. Last 3-4 months on keto."}
{"id": "t3_2doros", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28M] getting abused by my 2 yr wife [25F]", "post": "I don't even know where to start.\nMy wife verbally abuses me (calls me useless, uneducated, good for nothing, and pretty much every worse thing you can possibly say to someone), she tells me what to wear and what to do and if I don't do it she throws a tantrum and starts crying or saying I don't do anything for her.\n\nShe has also tried to get me to go against my best friend and my family. She claims they say bad things about her when really it doesn't mean anything.\n\nToday when I wouldn't what she asked me to do she grabbed something sharp and threatened to stab herself with it. When I finally got it out of her hands she started hitting her face and pulling out her hair.\nShe hit me before and she hit me again.\n\nWe live at my parents house because I am currently unemployed and have been diagnosed with PTSD\nWe have been together for 2 years.\n\nI don't know what to do and I don't know where to turn for help. I am an ex military guy and she is 5 feet 120lbs.\nThe only way I see out of this is to kill myself.\nI would appreciate any advice.\nThank you", "summary": "Getting abused by my wife, too embarrassed to go anywhere for help"}
{"id": "t3_352uvt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Student Loan Tip: don't think that the loans on offer through your university are always the best by default", "post": "Don't think that the loans on offer through your university are always the best. I just got a lower rate and no disbursement fee from a private loan with Sallie Mae. The unsubsidized Stafford loans available to me as a grad student at my university were more expensive and had a disbursement fee, and they didn't even cover all of my tuition and fees. The Graduate Plus loans they had to supplement the stafford ones on offer were even worse.\n\nFilling out the application on Sallie Mae was all online and easy (way easier than the FAFSA). It was definitely worth the ten minutes it took to get a cheaper rate (by about .5%) and no disbursement fee (about 1%).", "summary": "I'm sure for most full-time undergraduates or those that otherwise qualify for subsidized loans that the Stafford ones are likely cheaper, but for a graduate degree seeker still working full time, Sallie Mae was cheaper for me than the loans available through my university."}
{"id": "t3_s7hp7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused about a sudden broken 2-year friendship, could you guys help me understand?", "post": "To start things off, I am a 21 year old college undergrad that has very little experience in relationships in general. But I met this fantastic woman (she's 20) in one of my courses about 2 years ago (same major) and got to be friends with her until about 5 months ago.\n\nWe did everything together: studied together, hanged out, played video-games, you name it. But everything came crashing down when I decided that I wanted to let her know how much I fell in love with her. I knew I had little chance with this woman (she's very attractive), but it was worth a shot asking her out for a few dates.\n\nNevertheless, I gathered all the courage in the world, and told her how I felt and if she would give me a chance to go out with her. Her face had the most soul-crushing expression I have ever witnessed. She blankly stared at me, and went away without any explanation at all. I tried contacting her afterwards to apologize if I did something wrong, but she never answered my calls, texts, messages, etc. And everytime I see her (again, we study the same major) she avoids me like the plague.\n\nSo I've been a depressed and confused since that day, wishing never to have said that, among other things. I do miss our friendship a lot. And I thought by trying to forget everything about her and move on would help, but I still see her now and then, wondering why did our friendship end all of a sudden. What do you guys think that happened to her? Why does she have feelings of resentment on me now?", "summary": "met awesome girl, best of friends for about 2 years, told her if she wanted to go out with me, never responded, broken friendship, help me understand what could've happened to her?"}
{"id": "t3_2m71eh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19M) girlfriend (21F) of 1 year's lack of intimacy is getting to me.", "post": "We've had a good relationship in most aspects and I'm pretty happy with it in the most part. I enjoy having her around and we've been living together for around 4 months now. When she moved in she also started a new job and so I guess some of the lack of intimacy comes from that.  \nSince she has moved in and possibly a little before that she has seemed less and less interested in me. We went from having good sex around 4 times a week suddenly to possibly 1 a week (Although we fairly regularly go 2 or 3 weeks without any sexual contact, no matter how hard I try) and now she only seems to care about getting herself off. I have been given one blowjob which she gave up on before I finished in the past 6 months but expects me to go down on her regularly. I know that this isn't just her libido because she has told me she gets herself off once or twice a week. Its not only sex but in general she sits away from me and won't talk to me in bed at night. She gets annoyed by little things I do or do not do such as not buying milk or something or vacuuming the bedroom. She will not do any of this either, nor does she do anything.  \nI want our relationship to be how it was early on. I have talked to her about all of it and she starts to cry every time. I'm getting upset by all of this and starting to think she doesn't care about me any more.", "summary": "She takes and never gives and expects me to do everything."}
{"id": "t3_1c2561", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He [25m] needs more space from me [24f]. [6mos]", "post": "Not using a throwaway: he knows this is a thing. We've discussed it several times.\n\nIn the past couple of weeks, my boyfriend has made it increasingly clear that he needs more space. He doesn't want to talk on the phone every day in addition to hanging out 2-3 days a week.\n\nI find having to hold back from contacting him daily is incredibly difficult. It's true we've only been together a few months, but I really want to share my life with him. I want his company, and often. I want to know all the little things he's thinking about, serious or otherwise. And he doesn't seem to want that right now.\n\nHe insists it's nothing to do with me, and that he just really hates being on the phone if there's nothing \"important\" or \"amazing\" to say. He says he's just not \"used to\" talking to someone every single day. \n\nTo make matters worse, I'm bipolar with borderline tendencies, and as such am really having trouble trusting my own feelings about this. I've been woefully wrong about similar things before. I could be blowing this all way out of proportion.\n\nOr maybe he's just getting sick of being sucked into my personal drama? I can't stop beating myself up for something I *must* be doing wrong, that he doesn't want to have me around. Or some innate flaw that makes me unpalatable to be near. I just can't seem to grasp that in this point in our relationship he really still needs entire days without contact.", "summary": "My boyfriend needs space and I'm not taking it well. How should I feel and what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_32dsq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am wondering if my parents should be covering my healthcare.", "post": "Don't want to sound like an entitled brat or anything as I've pretty much been financially supporting myself for the past 3 years. \n\nHowever, I have been uninsured for the past 5-6 years. \n\nMy parents and I have a pretty good relationship. I live in NYC and they are in the midwest. When healthcare signup came through 2 years ago they signed up themselves and my younger sister but not me. They told me that it's going to be \"too expensive\" to have me on their plan (seems like it's almost $200 a month extra) and they said to apply through the government program or through my work. Both of these cost me more than $200 a month. I can afford it but I won't be able to put in over $100 in my savings account every month anymore.\n\nShould I be mad? I don't know really how to feel because I don't *expect* them to do anything for me, but it seems like everyone was very happy when the new government healthcare plans allowed people to keep their kids on until they were like 26.", "summary": "Should parents help their young adult children out with insurance if they're capable of it? What if the child can afford it but it's more expensive than their plan?"}
{"id": "t3_218vkp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You two are useless most of the times.", "post": "I hate the idea of having a day off. If I could I would open and close the restaurant myself everyday of the week. I honestly wish there was a way to clone myself just so things can get done properly instead of having to deal with both of you. Most days neither of you know your asshole from a hole in the ground. One of you pouts and bitches the whole time while glued to your precious phone and the other is so wrapped into sports he doesn't notice the restaurant falling apart on his shift. \n\nThen there's my boss. He's a good man at heart but his favoritism shows alot even though he claims to be impartial. Promoted 2 of his friends to GMs over people who have been with the company and have shown their dedication for one manager who has quit 3 times and the other who could drink most people under a table. The man carries a flask with him for fucks sake. But they screw up and give you horrible numbers and it's fine. If the rest of the area submits anything remotely close to them then it's a write up with a termination form not far behind. I went to my boss with the issues I was having with my 2 assistants and he just turned a blind eye to it. After 8 write ups for one manager ranging from improper cash handling to excessive tardiness and an email from HR still nothing is done. I'm at my wits end with all this. \n\n12 years I have given this company and dedicated my time to. There have been countless times I was told to leave by friends and family and job offers I have turned downed because of blind loyalty to the company. Then the company had an email accidentally leaked saying anyone who either quits or is terminated will not be provided a reference regardless of time or reason for leaving. Are you fucking kidding me? You know you have driven the restaurant chain to the ground and are now holding people's tenure as hostage so they don't leave?", "summary": "restaurant manager looking for new job in Tallahassee. "}
{"id": "t3_g53r3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Student teaching in a school with a very strict website filter.  Making it impossible to teach well.  Any advice?", "post": "I am currently student teaching in a school with a very strict website filter.  This filter extends to teachers as well as students.\n\nThings which I cannot access:\n\n* Any website that plays videos (I was hoping to show historical videos.)\n\n* Google (Including: the search engine, Google Video, GMail, etc.)\n\n* Anything with the word \"sex\" in the url (e.g. a CNN article about sexual assault)\n\n* Anything with the word \"discriminate\" in the url\n\n* Anything with the word \"aids\" in the url (I tried to search for \"hearing aids\" yesterday, and it would not let me.  It did, however, let me search \"hearing aid.\")\n\n* Any e-mail server (GMail, my school's e-mail system [@psu.edu], Yahoo Mail, etc. - I cannot send or receive e-mails while at school, which seriously impedes my work)\n\n* Most educational websites (Discovery channel website, History channel website, PBS website, etc.)\n\n**FOR SOME REASON THAT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND**, Reddit is accessible.  Likely because the IT guy in charge of the school's internet is a Redditor.  Given Reddit's collective intelligence, I was hoping that someone could help me get around this filter somehow so that I can actually teach lessons that I believe will interest my students.\n\nWhen I was in high school, there was a filter on our internet, but it was NOT this bad.  Because I cannot access Google, I cannot just use the cache function.  However, I do remember using certain websites that would allow you to get around the filter.", "summary": "School's web filter blocks almost every website in existence, making it impossible to teach.  Does anyone know of a website to get around this?"}
{"id": "t3_1zsgzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [17F], her parents, and I [17M]", "post": "We have been together since December of 2013, so we are in the fourth month of our relationship. I had been \"in love\" before in the past but with her it is completely different, it feels real because I know what I'm looking for now. Our relationship is great but it is her parents that are placing restrictions on us that make it very hard to be functional.\n\nFor example, in January she came over to my house, we live 1mile apart with our highschool sitting dead center, after school and she said she had to be leave at 4:30. She left at 4:30 and it took her about 15 minutes to get to the school and she was so late her dad literally drove to go pick her at the school. He then told her she had to break up with me, but she stood up to him and said he cannot control her relationships. This is the only time she has ever stood up for herself. As a compromise her father said we are not allowed to see each other outside of school, even going as far as to warn her if she saw me at a concert we were both going to and bought tickets before we even met that she would be grounded.\n\nHer mother on the other hand is less strict on me. She has invited me over, when her husband isn't home, so I can see her. But, today I went over to go comfort her because she has been sick with mono for about two weeks now. The one rule her mom has is that I am not allowed to go inside of her room, well, she is so sick she can't comfortably relax anywhere else besides her bed. So I went into her room and about 30 minutes later her mom told me I need to leave immediately. So I guess now neither of her parents like me and I don't know what to do because I just want to be a normal couple.", "summary": "Neither of her parents approve of me and go to great lengths to show it."}
{"id": "t3_2papfh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26M) afraid my closest friend [27M] is developing an addiction to cocaine. How can I help?", "post": "I've know my closest friend Daniel since high school.\nBack then he started smoking cigarettes and marihuana. He developed an addiction for both. \n\nNowadays he smokes two packs a day of cigarettes and needs to smoke weed everyday. \n\nHe dropped out from college and has been stuck in the same job for years since no one will offer him more money in exchange of so little responsibility and being high all times. \n\nThe last year, he started trying cocaine and his consumption is getting more and more frequent. \n\nIn addition, he is surrounded by very abusive acquaintances who are always free loading weed and cocaine from him. \n\nIt's painful for me since he was once, one of the brightest minds I've met and now is just... I don't know. \n\nHow can I help him?\n\nUnfortunately, we don't leave close from each other and we meet now two or three times a year because of the distance.", "summary": "I'm afraid my best friend is developing a cocaine habit. What can I do to help him?"}
{"id": "t3_244qoz", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I caved to reality. I joined MFP.", "post": "I was so adamant about not joining another social network. I really don't like having so much to keep up with, but after looking at all it has to offer, I had to join MyFitnessPal. It's just impractical NOT to if you're on the go and don't have a lot of people on the same mission as you. I think the Blog that you can write was my deal-finisher, I love to write and don't like word press's setup. So, if you're on mission: fitness, you can add me at slevy89. I think it'll be nice to have friends to follow up on and cheer them along. If you're not on it, get on it. It's free!", "summary": "MyFitnessPal is a must-have. I want to meet people on the same mission as me."}
{"id": "t3_3ei3k8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching dirty videos, and becoming scarred for life", "post": "TIFU (well, about a month ago i fucked up)  I was in a skype call with my friend, and he invited some of his friends, then one of them thought to himself \"i know what'll be funny! I'll just leave some morbid videos in here, its not like anyone will actually watch them!\" then one of the other guys says, \"to anyone that watches ALL of these, ill give them $15.\" and i think to myself, \"There is no way that this videos are too much for me to handle, this will be the easiest money ive made in my life!\" well... i was wrong. these videos were NASTY, like one guy put a bottle in his anal opening, and it shattered in there! any way, i watch them all and im shuddering, but the deed was done. the guy offering the money asked what happened in each video, and had my descriptions conformed, then he said, \"wow, you're crazy! alright, well, i only have $5, but ill get you your $15 later.\" the next day my friend came up to me and handed me the passed down five dollar bill, and we did another skype call later that day, the guy who owed me money was being VERY irrational, saying i stole his money, and he wasn't going to pay up the rest at all... I feel light headed just thinking of the whole thing", "summary": "don't click the sketchy link"}
{"id": "t3_1lpjrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22F) met a guy (23M) online and are now carrying on an intense long distance relationship. Is it worth it?", "post": "Several months ago I met a guy online. It wasn't a dating website or anything just an online community. We clicked and got along well and after a while began chatting via instant message. Our relationship has progressed in this time to Skype voice calls and then video calls.\n\nTo be honest the rest of the story almost seems ridiculous to me even though I'm involved in it..\n\nFirst of all and the biggest issue I can see is that he is a muslim. He lives in the UK and was born there but is from a strict muslim family. We have discussed what this would mean considering I am white and not religious at all and live halfway across the world. I understand the difficulties we would face and that if we wanted to marry I would probably have to convert to Islam. \n\nHe has told me if I were to go to the UK to visit him or to live there we would still be able to be together (as in boyfriend and girlfriend) but that his family would not be able to know about me until we were ready to be engaged.\n\nIm not really sure if this is a terrible idea. We literally talk for hours every day and get along so well. He is funny and kind and sweet and very open minded about my different lifestyle (alcohol, sex outside of marriage) considering his faith. He doesn't judge me. It seems like we have so many obstacles ahead of us and I'm wondering if its even fair to continue it. I'm sure my existence would cause his family grief and misery. I want to know what other people who have had long distance relationships were thinking. We're you dedicated to making it work or did you just see what happened?", "summary": "met my long distance muslim boyfriend online and don't know if I'm wasting my time."}
{"id": "t3_175jo8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M26] am going to break up with my girlfriend [F26] of 3 years. How should I do it?", "post": "There are a few things that make this a complicated situation:\n\n- She is in love with me\n- We have a dog that we adopted together\n- We have lots of stuff we've bought together (large furniture and appliances)\n- We currently live in a city far away from her family and friends. She moved here for me. Since then her closest friends have moved to various other cities, so she doesn't really have a home base except for her parents who live across the country.\n\nI'd like to leave her better off than I found her. Advice about what to say when I break up with her, how to react to her sadness / anger, and other general tips would be appreciated.\n\nI really don't know what to do or expect about the logistical stuff. I will likely keep the dog as getting her was my idea and the GF is not quite as attached as I am. As for the other stuff, I imagine it's going to take her some time to sort out her life. I don't expect her to stay here because she doesn't like this city. If she moves, she'll have to find a way to move her stuff, find a new job......\n\nAny tips about how to approach this and what to expect would be appreciated.", "summary": "Messy breakup on the horizon, sage wisdom sought."}
{"id": "t3_uzlai", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been deleted/deleted someone on FaceBook? For either party, how did it feel? What's the story?", "post": "I've been deleted twice(as far as I know).\n\nThe first time, a girl was ticked off at me because she thought I was lying about leaving for the military. It was two days after we hooked up for the first and only time. After I got back from basic, realized she deleted me. Didn't feel too bad about it though, life easily went on.\n\nSecond time, one of my best friends of almost 4 years that I had many ups and downs with deleted me without warning. Guess she was just \"done\" knowing me. About 5 or so months later while I was home on leave, I texted her to say what's up, she informed me she was \"not interested in staying in touch. I was erased from my friends life and there's no fixing that.", "summary": "I'm an asshole that got deleted twice and only one of those times did it really bother me emotionally."}
{"id": "t3_2e5371", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] girlfriend [26 F]. All she does is talk about her job every time we're in the same room...its driving me absolutely crazy.", "post": "So my girlfriend accepted a job a first grade teacher and starts her new position in a few days. \n\nFor the past few months, all our conversations have devolved to her talking about her job; what she's going to put on the walls of her classroom, asking me input on stupid little details of what she should do to decorate, workplace drama, even talking about about her co-workers lives and what's going on in them.  I am honestly running out of fucks to give anymore.  I try to be a loving and caring boyfriend but I get bored out of my skull listening to her drone on and on about pointless stuff.  I understand that she wants to share her day with me, but honestly i REALLY REALLY don't care about your co-workers marital issues, a conversation you had with the guidance counselor or the other guy at work who texts her(dude clearly has some sort of infatuation with my girlfriend and she entertains it, but that's an issue for another time). \n\nI work in IT and when i talk to her about my job, i can see the lights just shut off and she doesn't listen (i get one word answers and \"uh-huh\"'s), so I stopped bringing up my work stuff to her.  I try and use the same tactic to her and she gets all moody and says that \"i don't care about her\" blah blah blah.  \n\nAnyone else had a similar situation? How did you deal with it? Any suggestions are welcome.", "summary": "Girlfriend talks non stop about her job and wants my input on stupid little things like how to decorate her classroom(do you like this color? how bout this picture? where should i place this table, etc.) I don't know how much more i can take of this, and i don't want to be insensitive."}
{"id": "t3_4qfoy4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [25/M] with my GF [26/F] almost 5-years, What little things do you do to surprise or show affection to your SO?", "post": "Recently my GF and I went through a really rough patch, but have decided to rededicate ourselves to the relationship. We really just hit a rut and I am looking for ways to show her I appreciate her and make her feel special.\n\nWe took the five languages quiz and she tested high on the word of affirmation and gifts section (I think it's something like that it may have been called material something). Any advice on something I could do would be useful. I've already been sending her little I love you texts in the morning just to let her know that she's on my mind and she seems to really like getting the. Any ideas or advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Looking for ways to show my gf how much I appreciate and love her that she wouldn't expect."}
{"id": "t3_1lihaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [18M] tell my boyfriend [18M] to lose weight? It's affecting our sex life.", "post": "Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He has in the past year put on a lot of weight (about 25kg) and it is affecting my sex life with him. \n\nI am not attracted to him because of his weight and it is creating a serious rift in our relationship. \nWe would never end the relationship because of it however, so I need a way to help him lose weight.\n\nI have tried multiple times to be his \"gym buddy\". I'd watch what he eats and make sure he gets enough exercise, as he will NOT do this by himself. \n\nBut every time I attempt to regulate his eating and exercise habits, he forcibly pushes me away and refuses my help, stating that he is fine.\n\nI have told him before that his weight is a threat to his own health and self-esteem, but nothing I can possibly say or do is changing his mind and making him reconsider his habits. The only thing that would convince him is telling him that I'm not attracted to him anymore because of his weight.\n\nOf course, I can't do that as it would break his heart. What do I do? He refuses to exercise or eat healthily, and pushes me away and gives up every single time I attempt to help him lose weight.\n\nI am only 18 and sex is still very important to me, but I'm finding it very hard to be with him (sexually) because of this problem.", "summary": "BF has put on weight, i'm not attracted to him anymore. He's refusing help of any sort."}
{"id": "t3_21xmge", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by frying my 2000 dollar computer from my parents", "post": "Guys, I fucked up bad.\nSo about 3 years ago I graduated the 9th grade with honors. So my parents being proud of me, brought me out to buy me a very high end gaming laptop. They bought it for me around march in 10th grade, because they needed to save some money up for the computer, the wait was worthwhile though. I was extremely happy, my 10th grade summer was complete. When i'm not enjoying the weather, i'm inside playing games or whatever. It was the best summer of my life. \n\nJump ahead to present day. I got the computer on the 30th of March '11, the warranty we bought for it was 3 years. So on Sunday, it was my computers 3rd birthday. I for some reason saw this as a milestone for my beautiful machine, which still worked fine. So today is a snow day where I live, so I decided it was a perfect time for the \"party\". I grabbed a beer from my dad's fridge and turned music up really loud. \n\nIt was a party, I think my computer enjoyed most of it. I finished my beer, but wanted another. So I stole a second beer. As I was opening the beer, it slipped out of my hands and landed on the computer. I didn't know what the hell was happening, so I started freaking out. By the time I picked up the beer, it was empty.\n\nThe damage dealt was horrific. There was a huge crack in the screen from where the beer had landed. Then the liquor itself seeped inside the keyboard. It also got inside the screen and fan, it even got in some of the usb ports. Even the charger port was fried. \n\nWorst of all, the 3 year warranty ran out on Sunday. It took me two days to break my computer when I had 3 years to do it any other day.\n\nSo i'm sitting here on my mothers netbook, typing this. I'm terrified for when my parents come home. They will find my destroyed computer from beer. I'm under aged if that adds to the fuck up.", "summary": "I celebrated my computers birthday with an under aged beer, I then destroyed my computer with said beer"}
{"id": "t3_3uy4iz", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I know it's creepy if a guy blows up your phone, but is it creepy if a guy suddenly drops his frequency of contact?", "post": "So I have this friend who happens to be a woman. She's 24, I'm 26. We've been friends for  a little under 2 years now. The friendship is mutual, seeing that she's initiated  plans with me quite a bit. So I want to clear that out of the way, so everyone knows that I'm not some NiceGuy that follows this girl around. \n\nThe last time we hung out was when we met at a party last Saturday. Before that she hung out at my place 3 weeks ago for a movie and to match weed bowls (matching is where I smoke my weed with you, and you smoke your weed with me). We usually talk twice a week or so. If we aren't in person, we talk via text. It's been over a week and I haven't said anything. Not because I don't want to talk to her, but I haven't had time to really make plans, and I don't really have a whole lot to say. I'm also socially anxious and a tad insecure, so another reason why I haven't reached out is due to fear of annoying her. \n\nI would like to go ahead and reach out sometime soon, to keep the friendship afloat, but I don't want to be annoying/creepy. Again, maybe it's my own social anxiety making me over think things. But I am coming here to reddit to get a second opinion on whether it's just my own anxiety, or if I have a point. \n\nSo women, is it creepy if a dude doesn't text you at all, especially if you expect the guy likes you? Would you assume he's playing some game, or that he's just living his life?", "summary": "Is it off-putting if a guy you normally talk to doesn't text you at all for longer than normal?"}
{"id": "t3_548x7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with this girl [23 F] few months, don't know where we stand. How to talk about it?", "post": "I met this wonderful girl (Anna) a few months ago and we started texting daily and hanging out. \n\nWe go on dates, have sex etc - all the good things of a relationship without any of the negatives.\n\nWe both haven't established a label and never speak about feelings. I feel it is unnecessary as things are great. \n\nProblem being, this chick is going away to study abroad next year and I don't know where I stand or if there is any point discussing it with her. I do like her. I don't know though if it's even a possibility that things in the slightest would work out. Don't even know how she feels about me.", "summary": "Been seeing a girl. She's studying abroad next year. Do I bother keeping it going?"}
{"id": "t3_51dx8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] cheated on my girlfriend [18 F] ,1 year 9 mo. old relationship, and want to know how to fix it.", "post": "Like many incoming 18 year olds, I just entered college, while also leaving my girlfriend, a senior in high school, behind. Since we didn't want to lose a relationship that's almost 2 years old, we decided that we still wanted to try to stay together, and try to see each other often (1 hr. long drive)\n\nAfter being here two weeks, one of my new friends, who happened to be a girl, got dumped and wanted to talk to someone. Being me, I offered, and we went back to her dorm to talk. After a few hours of comforting, she started getting touchy, and unfortunately, so did I. We ended up doing everything but intercourse.\n\nImmediately after, and even now, a few days later, I feel absolutely terrible and wracked with guilt, as I still love my girlfriend with all of my being. I know I made a terrible, terrible mistake, one that neither of us will ever forget. No amount of excuses explains my behavior, and I deserve anything she'll potentially tell me.\n\nWhat I'm here for, is for advice on how to salvage the relationship, if that's even possible. She's coming up to visit me this weekend, and I would rather not do it via text, as I feel that doesn't exactly convey emotion well. I plan on telling her as soon as she's up here, as I feel waiting is going to make it worse.\n\nIf you have any advice at all, please share it with me. I don't want to lose her.", "summary": "Cheated on high-school girlfriend while at college, regrets it immensely, any advice on how to fix relationship is welcome."}
{"id": "t3_54i25m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18F) friend from high school (18F) is keeping me from befriending new people at college.", "post": "So I just started my freshman year at college. I go to a local university so many of my high school classmates go to the same college. \n\nI've been trying to branch out and meet new friends but it's been difficult. I met some awesome people in my morning class and we hang out a couple of times a week after class but every time, my friend manages to find me and awkwardly lingers until they have no other choice but to leave me behind with her.\n\nI tried to get them to converse, but I feel like my worlds are colliding. I'm afraid that my new friends eventually won't want to even try hang out anymore. \n\nMy high school friend is the type who would get pissed if I nicely explained to her how I feel. Then, she would continue hunting me down to spite me. Please help. \n\nI've tried to be a little closed off so she gets the hint, but it hasn't worked. I also know she's only talking to me because she has no one else.", "summary": "my friend is being very clingy and keeping me from making new friends."}
{"id": "t3_1ahpzv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I like a girl (F/16), she likes me (M/15)", "post": "It's quite long soo.. I was with this girl in my bed on Friday night, we were having a wonderful night, we started getting really close, she gave me a kiss on the cheek so I gave her one back, we then started making out she pulls away and says \"I like you\", I reply with \"I like you too, do you wanna go out with me?\" She replied with \"I can't\" so I'm confused but I leave it for the morning, next day she leaves I'm texting her and I say \"is there gonna be anything between us\" she replies with \"I want there to be\" so I ask her out again but she still says she can't, I'm reallyyyy confused...", "summary": "hit it off with a girl, she said she liked me, I said I liked her back, ask her out but says she can't, ask her next morning if there's gonna be anything between us, she say she wants there to be, I ask her out again but replies with she can't"}
{"id": "t3_18gw4f", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "What was your \"Wake up call\"?", "post": "A little background story first :)\nI Have been always a little fat but not so much. Once i got to college everything went wrong, I got really fat and after college it was even worst. Even with all that, my T-shirt size had always been medium (i am not that big XD). So last chrsitmas a coupke of family member decided to gift me t-shirts (a really easy gift since i didnt want anything). To my surprise the sizes were large and x-large (huuuugeee). In that instant was \"my wake up call\" I realized that i was really fat and needed to do smthing about it.\nI was 220 bieng only 5'6\" now im 170 and counting!\nbtw thx for the tips in this reddit !!", "summary": "My wake up call was just a t-shirt... a really huge t-shirt"}
{"id": "t3_3i1diu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using my hands when talking on a first date.", "post": "TIFU but recovered. Ok, So there I am......on a first date. This was a date that was essentially set up for us, so we had never talked to each other before other than text. Generally, I suck at talking to girls and I'm a pretty shy person in general. \n\nSo I pick her up, and everything is turning out pretty well. I'm actually on fire. I'm talking really well, coming up with subjects where I normally draw blanks, and making her laugh. We're drinking the first round of beers and getting pretty comfortable. The bar is pretty packed and so the whole time we were kind of leaning against the wall. So we go to get the second round and afterwards a table has opened up. \n\nAt this point I'm feeling great and I'm really opening up and using my hands to talk a lot. I tend to get animated when I do talk. So here we are with totally fresh beers having a great conversation. I can't even remember what we're talking about and mid-sentence I'm waving my arms around and knock my entire beer over. The table is totally dry. The glass perfectly tips towards me and spills entirely all over my body. YES, some got on her, but for the most part I'm soaked. \n\nI'm speechless and my body is tingling from the embarrassment I'm feeling. So then she pulls the most suave move I've seen a girl do in a while. She picks up the glass, pours half her beer in, and says, \"let's drink this quick and go for a walk so you can dry off.\" Anyways, we end up staying out way late, drinking more, and making out.", "summary": "I got a little buzzed and really animated when talking and spilled a fresh beer all over myself. Thought I was doomed, girl ended up being awesome about the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_1rs74c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] really need help with ways to get over my ex [21F] of 2 years", "post": "Hi everyone, I haven't posted on this subreddit for a while now, the reason being that I thought I was completely over what had been a really difficult 6 months.\n\nThe basic summary of my past relationship: we dated over the second year of university, it was great, fell in love (etc.). She moved away to do a year abroad, halfway through she cheated on me, we tried to give it another go, 4 (pretty traumatic) months later, we broke up.\n\nAnyway, this and other things going on in my life had just really got me down, but with my friends and positive thinking I slowly got better and better. That is, it *was* better until two days ago.\n\nI get that this is totally my own fault, I did some really stupid facebook stalking and saw something that just made my heart drop; she's now seeing the guy she cheated on me with. I don't know how to explain how I feel to be honest, it's not just feeling like I did before, there's something else; something really frustrating and depressing about continuously winding back at square one with this you know?\n\nAnyway, I can't keep emotionally ranting on this thread otherwise I'll freak people out. It would be really great if anyone has any tips on how to get past this kind of situation; to be honest, anyone who's at least willing to chat to me either on here or over PM would seriously be appreciated, just feeling pretty lonely at the moment.", "summary": "massive setback in getting over ex; found pictures of her now seeing the guy who broke us up"}
{"id": "t3_3b89o3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU - by saying \"your mum\" to a kid", "post": "I am a teacher and my students are currently revising for their final exam. I have always dressed casual for work but today I had a meeting after school so I wore a suit. \n\nMy students were puzzled when they saw me in a suit, so they starting guessing what I was planning to do afterschool. Some thought I was getting married, some thought I was meeting a girl. \n\nOne student says \"Sir, who are you going out with? it must be someone special\" and I reply with \"I am going out with your mum\". The boy bursts into tears and gets very aggressive with me so I tell him to step outside.\n\n I find out from him that his mum died on the weekend and he only came into school to revise for his final year exam so that who could make his mum proud. He has not reported me yet and I do not think he will as we always banter with each other in class. This time, I just went toooo far.\n\nI am still thinking about it and feel sooo crap.", "summary": "Taking a dead mum out on a date"}
{"id": "t3_320apd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (23f) tell my fwb(24m) that I want something more. Without scaring him off.", "post": "So he's \"getting his life together\" and doesn't want anything serious. We've been talking and fooling around for 4months.\n\n Initially I didn't think I'd ever like this man as anything more than someone to hang out with. Lately, those feels are getting in the way and he's definitely great in bed which is another reason I don't want to tell him I've developed feelings. \n\nI may have hinted at it after which I noticed some hesitation. Perhaps it was just a simple crush but he's a great person and the feelings have gotten stronger. Should I just accept his unavalabilty and move on?", "summary": "Do fwb ever develop into something else ?"}
{"id": "t3_41bq9b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting in the bathtub", "post": "First, a little context for the story.  I am a 22 year old male and I just finished working that [Pennsylvania Farm Show] with 14-hour-days on my feet, 9 days straight.  I won't mention exactly what my job was because it would be obvious who I was IRL, but it involved making food and picking up heavy things fairly regularly.  \n\nNow, on to the Fuck Up.  Due to the strenuous nature of my job, I had developed a sore, knotty back, so I decided that a nice long soak in the tub would probably do wonders for me.  I hadn't taken a bath in probably 8 years, I just prefer showers.  So I get all set up; the perfect temperature, Epsom salts, bubble bath, a nice bowl of weed\u2026 the whole nine yards.  Anyways, as I'm sitting there, I need to reach out of the tub to grab the shampoo.  At this point, I was pretty high.  I reach forward at kind of an odd angle, and suddenly feel water shoot up my ass, catching me totally by surprise.  After the initial shock wears off, I think, \"huh, I can probably clean my butthole like that\".  Did I mention that I was high?\n\nSo I start shifting back and forth and, at first, it is working/feeling kinda good.  I guess I must have moved too forcefully, because all of a sudden, I shit myself.  I am so caught off-guard that I drop my bowl right into the tub.  So now have shit on me, shit floating in the bathwater, and my weed is gone.\n  \nI open the drain, turn the shower on and rinse myself off.  Once the tub is empty, I see there is still some left in the tub, so I now have to clean that shit up.", "summary": "tried to clean my butthole, ended up cleaning up my own shit"}
{"id": "t3_3cczjx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a NFL Quarterback at school", "post": "So like many other TIFUs here, this happened a few years ago.\n\nMy classroom is located in the 2nd floor of the school. A classmate had broke his leg, so we had to move downstairs, into a warehouse-esque room that also happened to sport a projector which we sometimes used for presentations.\n\nThe desks were set in a way that mine was kind of in the middle of everything, and it was too clustered to move around easily, i had just finished an assignment and i was going to deliver it to the teacher, this is where things get good.\n\nSince it was too hard to reach the teacher's desk, and back then I was a lazy idiot, I decided that instead of just dealing with it and make an effort, I would throw the notebook at her and see if she catches it! Yeah I'm stupid!\n\nSo i prepared for a few seconds, said \"Hey teacher, catch it!\" and made a throw that would make John Madden proud...If she managed to catch it, instead it hit her right in the shoulder, needless to say she wasn't exactly happy, so she took me to the principal's office and i got suspended for a couple of days. Reason: \"Attacking a teacher\", not exactly my purpose but I can't really argue that.\n\nLuckily, we now look back at it laughing, also she said It's hard to make her angry, guess at least I accomplished something there...", "summary": "Threw a notebook at a teacher, got suspended."}
{"id": "t3_2m4jjn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] husband recently told me [24 F] that he wants to join the Air Force. He also wants me to make the decision of yes or no...", "post": "To start, my husband and I have only been married about 6 months. Before we got married, he was planning for a while to go into the Marines and then halfway through our engagement changed his mind. He decided he was going to go into law enforcement as a career instead. He tried to get into the police department in Colorado Springs, where we recently moved to, and didn't get in. We started making plans on moving back to Michigan where his family is and he could try there.\n\nWe got talking the other night about our future plans and he told me he wants to join the Air Force and has been thinking about it the past few months. He wants me to think about it and make a decision on if he can do so or not. He said he would wait to join until we moved back so I could be close to my family and friends when he goes to boot camp. \n\nAfter he said no about going into the Marines, I kind of \"washed my hands\" of any idea with the armed forces. I really don't want him to, but he said that he fears if I say no, then years down the line, he may start to resent me.  I want to have kids in about 3 years, which he knows, and I don't want him to miss out on important occasions in our marriage like my pregnancy/ the first year of our child's life. I also have a big fear of being alone. We have been together for about 5.5-6 years, and any extended period of time we have been apart, I have a rough time being alone, especially if there is nothing to occupy my time.\n\nI've had a few people agree with me, that it is a big decision and sort of an extreme one, and I have had others say that the benefits are great and it would help us to become financially stable. \n\nI just really want some opinions and things to think about! Thanks!", "summary": "Husband wants to join Air Force and wants me to decide if he can or not, but I don't want us to miss out on big experiences in our marriage together."}
{"id": "t3_351x1e", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Roommate tensions have grown violent. (US. Michigan)", "post": "The conflict between three of us in the house and our craigslist roommate resulted in a police call Monday night. \n\nOur roommate (now referred to as Craig) has been shirking every responsibility in taking care of our house. Craig himself is a weird guy, mumbles to himself, isolates himself in his room, occasionally records our female roommate with his phone, and refuses to do anything involving cleaning or house work.\n\nWe've tried to settle things peacefully and buy him out of the lease, but every time he says \"I don't think that would be the best choice for me.\" He occasionally mentions that if he moves out, we would \"fail to learn our lesson\". \n\nOn Monday night, I approached him about his failure to do any chores in the house, and after some shouting back and forth he pushed me in the chest with a detergent bottle he was holding, we tussled and both I and the female roommate told him to back off. I grabbed a knife off the counter and told him to leave us alone, threatening to hurt him if he didn't go into his room.\n\nHe called the police. After speaking with them (apparently he told them I had started everything and had attempted to swing at him with the knife) and clarifying with the help of the female roommate, they decided to diffuse the situation by escorting Craig out of the house and having him sleep somewhere else that night.\n\nI haven't received the police report yet, but I was wondering if there was anything I could do to get him out of the house? At this point we are worried he'll snap and try to hurt us. The Landlord has made it clear that she doesn't want to be involved, but I am trying to convince her that if she doesn't, we will be in danger.", "summary": "Roommate scares the snot out of the rest of us, police report filed, Landlord doesn't want to do anything. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_24sld4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] 1 year, Wants to get married and move in with", "post": "I am madly in love with my girlfriend of a year and a half and I would be happy living the rest of my with her. I helped her escape a previous terrible relationship and she has helped me restore focus to my life and bring me out of a funk I found myself in.\n\nWe always talked about getting married as it was the obvious next step and I never had an issue with it. She lives with her parents and I on my own as she has conservative christian parents who frown on living together before marriage.\n\nThe situation I am having now is that her sister and her husband live in the same house with her and her parents so it's a very crowded home. Recently, her sister was diagnosed with a debilitating condition that is making her home life very stressful and it has been noticeable her normally cheery attitude. She is very tired and stressed out with this combined with her 2 jobs and college course load.\n\nShe asked me today If I would marry her and get an apartment together while we save up for a home together. I don't think this is a bad idea but I need to know what I need to do for this to work, My father is absent from my life so I never really had those growing up moments when it comes to relationships.\n\nI'm a little nervous about it mostly on financial reasons, I have about 15k in debt between my car and school but I have a good job. My Credit was ruined at a young age by my father so that's also an issue.\n\nShe supports herself with two jobs and has average credit for someone her age and not much debt to speak of.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants me to propose to her and get an apartment what do I need to do/confirm before I do it, to make sure it works."}
{"id": "t3_1rdqv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] cheated on my girlfriend [18 F] of four months last night", "post": "My current girlfriend (let's call her M) and I met completely by accident. I was going to visit my friend at her college in New Jersey where I really hit it off with one of her roommates, M. I started visiting pretty occasionally, and every time that I visited M and I would sleep in the same bed and usually hook up. We eventually started dating, it has been four months as of last week. We go to different colleges but we've really been making it work and we love visiting one another.\n\nLast night I got blackout drunk off Admiral Nelson and quite a few beers. I ended up going back to my room with some girl that I met, and we slept together. I don't remember if it was good or not, I just remember that it happened (I also called the girl by M's name at one point during it). Bottom line is I woke up next to this girl and was immediately bit by the reality bug. I had cheated on a girl who I legitimately think that I am falling in love with.\n\nI've been going through my day with more guilt than I know what to do with. I have never felt like a bigger piece of shit in my life. I hate one night stands and I love relationships. I wish I could take back what I did last night. I spoke to M on the phone earlier and I wanted to tell her everything that I'm putting down here but I couldn't. I'm afraid that if I tell her she'll want to end the relationship.\n\nWhat I did was inexcusable. I've done something that I absolutely cannot forgive myself for and something that I have always, and continue to, look down on. I know that M has the right to know, but I don't know how to tell her. I am so beyond scared of telling her. Having her in my life has made my attending a college where I fit in with no people and have very few friends (if I could even call them that) bearable. Bottom line is, and I realize how selfish this is, I am terrified of losing M.\n\nHow can I tell M? Should I? I'm just at a loss.", "summary": "I got drunk and cheated on my girlfriend. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yzrln", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tickling a baby.", "post": "Okay this happened when I was 9 years old. \n\nA friend of my mom's had come over with her baby of 6 months. They were just playing around with him making the usual baby sounds and he was just lapping it up. So I decide to join in on the fun. As I start to make those sounds as well, my parents are delighted, saying how good I am with the baby and how well we get along. Me, being the attention whore that I am, am loving this. \n\nNow fast forward an hour or so and the baby poops his diaper. So the mom puts him on the table and removes his diaper. She goes to get rid of the diaper and get a clean one. Now, my bright mind says, let's entertain the baby. So I gently hold his legs and cycle them while tickling his soles. \n\nHe seems to love it and loses his shit. Literally. A stream of poop jets through the air and hits me square in the face. I recoil in shock and the smell suddenly hits me. I, in turn vomit all over the baby. \n\nThe mother was NOT pleased.", "summary": "Tickled naked baby. Said baby shoots stream of poo at face. I puke all over said baby."}
{"id": "t3_33q5cp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long before I [M, 24] should consider myself single from my gf [F, 20] if she stopped replying to my texts mid-conversation days ago but still posts to social media", "post": "Been dating off and on for almost 11 months, recently went through a rough patch of past drama. We were working through something through texting and she'd sent a bunch of \"it'll get better I just want to be sweet to you\" messages, then replied with \"never mind\" after I didn't reply for 2 hours (I was on a plane and she knew that). If she's posting to social media but still ignoring my texts for the past 2 days, what's the cutoff before I consider myself single? I have a lot of anxiety and stress with this lack of communication and no closure so I'm prepared to mentally give myself closure but not sure how long I should wait... Neither of us are super needy with communication but we always reply to each other within a day at most.", "summary": "On/off girlfriend of 11 months stopped replying to my texts 2 days ago and hasn't responded to anything since but still posts to social media so I know she's not in the hospital or anything. How long do I give her? This anxiety is really stressing me out big time..."}
{"id": "t3_30qx51", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Wondering what's wrong with my stomach", "post": "Hello everyone! So I have been dealing with stomach issues since sophomore year of high school (18 year old female college freshman here). First, it was just general abdominal cramping and nausea, but I wouldn't actually throw up. This would come and go every few days for about a month, eventually prompting my parents to take me to the ER. I was officially diagnosed with acid reflux in March of 2012. \n\nFast forward a few years and multiple doctors visits (barium swallow, x-rays, bloodwork) later, I still have stomach problems in college. However, they have gotten so much worse. Before college, I would rarely vomit. However, it seems I cannot go a week without vomiting, whether only a little bit a time or multiple times in an hour. Every day, I wake up with a disgusting acid filled mouth and throat, and intense nausea like clockwork every morning. Sometimes I have to force myself to vomit just to relieve myself of pain, since it won't come out on its own. I have gone to the hospital three times this school year, with no treatments or different diagnoses and just excessive bills. The only thing that I have consistently found to help me is marijuana: smoking instantly takes my nausea away. However, unfortunately I cannot spend my whole college career stoned. \n\nI have also been diagnosed with asthma this past December after having some breathing difficulties. Currently, the symptoms I experience almost daily are nausea, bloating, pain right after eating, headaches, lightheadedness, anxiety, random tingling in my hands and feet and a mental fog that makes me feel stupid for lack of a better term. I am also about 50 pounds overweight. I believe that I may be suffering from gastroparesis; these symptoms have affected both my schoolwork and my social life immensely. Often, I am too sick to go to class or hang out with friends. The only relief I have found is marijuana and I do smoke regularly, but I cannot apply for a medical card because I'm going to school out of state and my parents would not approve. Any advice?", "summary": "constant nausea for years, cannot find much relief and the quality of my life is diminishing"}
{"id": "t3_30z7ck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] recieved a message from my brother [24 M] which puts me at a loss for words.", "post": "I don't know how to feel or what to say at the moment.\n\nMy brother sent a FB message including myself, our father, and our uncle. In this message he opens up and confronts our uncle for molesting him when he was younger for about a year, and even introducing him to child pornogrophy. In this lengthy message he explains how it messed with him as a child, and how it stil messes with him today. He says it is the first time he has ever told anybody about it.\n\nThe shocker is that in this message he tells our uncle that he forgives him because he doesn't want to take him away from his 4 kids.\n\nI am having a harder time finding the strength to forgive my uncle for his despicable actions, and am afraid to find out if he has done this to anyone else. \n\nI don't know what to do. Want to honor my brothers wishes of not getting our uncle in trouble, but I can't fathom him getting off scott free, I and just hope so badly he isnt doing this to anyone else, or even his kids.\n\nI'm getting chills just thinking about the next family gathering where I have to talk to, or even just look at my uncle", "summary": "Brother confesses that our uncle molested him as a child, but forgives him and doesn't want him to face any consequences."}
{"id": "t3_4inoaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My FWB (20 M) has been dishonest with me (20 F). How do I confront him?", "post": "I'll start by saying I'm not good with confrontations, so this is going to be difficult no matter what. Looking for tips on how to best approach this. If you have any tips on how to not chicken out, that'd be appreciated.\n\nMy FWB + I say plus (+) because even though we weren't dating it was understood we were exclusive/on our way to a more committed relationship.\n\nHe recently hooked up with his ex and didn't tell me about it. I heard from mutual friends. I'm seeing him tomorrow at a friend's BBQ/picnic. Not sure how to tell him things are over (not that he'll care) and try to get across to him that even if he technically didn't cheat/do anything wrong, he did behave very poorly and has been unfair to me recently. \n\nI'm hurt, and I think I have a right to call him out, even if he doesn't react apologetically. I'm ending things but would prefer to end them not sour but at least sort of neutrally...after expressing my upset.", "summary": "My FWB+ has been treating me unfairly\u2014how do I call him out?"}
{"id": "t3_1caric", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28/M] The path ahead is clouded...", "post": "Welp.  I feel pretty stupid right now and am at a bit of a loss.  Met a girl a few weeks ago through a mutual friend, she made it pretty clear that she's interested in me, we spent a couple weeks texting and FB messaging as I was working out of town.  I was all excited, arranged a date last week, it went good so went on another one last night, which also went really well.  She's nice, pretty, and intelligent, and I do enjoy spending time with her.  We laugh and have great conversation... but as soon as we part, I feel like I'm not attracted to her, and her (perceived) flaws come rushing to the forefront of my mind:  she has a negative attitude, she has poor posture, she's too short for me, she interrupts.  To make matters worse, I realised that I'm still hung up on another girl - pretty much my dream girl - who's already told me she'll only ever see me as a friend.  Stupid, right?  I thought I'd come to terms with that and moved on months ago.  Nope.  I'm mentally comparing her to the current girl.\n\nI like this girl and really want to give her a shot, but the only time I feel attraction is when we're together and I think that's due to my own insecurity and need for physical contact.  The rest of the time, responding to her feels like a nuisance, thinking about her conjures only her negative traits, and I worry that if I follow this through I'll be settling just for the sake of having a relationship.", "summary": "I *want* to like this girl, but I don't feel attracted to her, in part because I'm hung up on someone else."}
{"id": "t3_1objfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25 m] One night drunkenness turns up a winner, oh wait...", "post": "So, I just moved to london a few weeks ago so don't know that many people. I went out last night and met an italian girl (ridiculously pretty) who I seemed to get on with instantly, and in our drunken state we ended up back at my house. The next morning to my surprise I still like this girl (shock horror), we talk about random stuff and even watch Anchorman, pretty glorious. I instantly felt a spark with this girl, more so than any other of my previous long time girlfriends... However there's a little twist.\n\nI text her this afternoon asking when she'd like to do something, no reply, so I asked would she like me to not contact her?\n\nShe goes on to suddenly explain that a guy friend she had known around 2 months had just ask her to be their boyfriend this afternoon, goes on a say sorry etc. She also says she still likes me. It's quite strange since this morning she was mentioning her worry I wouldn't be interested in her after her leaving.\n\nSo now I'm unsure what to do, I've explained I'm upset and mentioned Id still like to be friends but my overall feeling is 'urgh'. It's pretty unusual I get on a with a girl this well so don't really fancy never seeing this person again.\n\nAlso I realise I haven't known this person very long at all and this might all sound ridiculous, advice anyway?", "summary": "Went out, found an epic girl, we like each other, she finds something out"}
{"id": "t3_1hd8so", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "College plans for my boyfriend (m/18) and I (f/18)", "post": "We've been together for close to two years and in a few months we're going to colleges pretty far away from each other.  He's my best friend and I'm in love with him, but we both think we're going to hold the other back in college and end up with a bad break up if we try to stay together.  \nSo our plan is to part ways peacefully when it's time to leave and remain close.  We have both agreed to do our own things when we're at school and when we are home together to be with each other.  \nDoes this sound like a good plan?  We'd so much rather have to say goodbye before we're ready to split than try to stick it out and hate each other.  Is this going to work?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are breaking up peacefully when its time to leave for college but are going to remain close and be with each other when we are both home.  Will this work?"}
{"id": "t3_2awzyr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24 F] am anxious about my BF [36 M] of 1.5 years, because he is still good friends with his cheating ex who I have never met.", "post": "My bf(36) is still good friends with his ex who he dated for 3 years about 7 years ago. She cheated on him, so they broke up. She lives in another state so I have never met her.  They talk on the phone fairly often, I think at least monthly. \n\nWhen we moved in together 6 months ago I asked him not talk to her on the phone while I was at home with him because it made me feel bad (ignored), but that I still wanted them to be friends if that's what they wanted. \n\nRecently I discovered she was living in our city again and that my bf had seen her twice without telling me. It made me feel betrayed and I didn't understand it. \n\nMy instinct is to find out more about this girl so I can understand their past and present relationship better and feel more comfortable about it. Should I ask for more info about her or will knowing make it worse?\n\nI saw a message from her a few months ago that said xoxo and while it didn't bother me then, it now makes me wonder what kind of communication they have and what the relationship is about. Should I ask about it and the text specifically even though I didn't mention it when it happened? \n\nHow can we communicate about this without me sounding jealous?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Bf still friends with cheating ex who I have never met. Should I ask more about what kind of relationship/communication they have or just accept the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2zssgc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My mom may have screwed me out of my settlement money.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm a 22 year old and when I was about 15 I received a lawsuit settlement for roughly 100k after lawyer and insurance fees.  \n\nI've never spent any of it with plans on paying for my school then investing it for my future. But I had plans on receiving it this past December. \n\nBut my mom, who managed everything for me since I was 15 at the time, said it was sent to the wrong address and has been deposited/cashed already by someone at the wrong address. And now she says a claim is open and they're investigating it.\n\nThe reason I don't believe my mom is my aunt was scammed by an online dating scam and then lied to my mom to get more money to send to him, but my mom claims she didn't touch my settlement fund. \n\nShe said she invested it through tiaacref. Should I believe it was sent to the wrong address and then deposited by the wrong people?", "summary": "my mom was previously duped by a family member, claims she didn't touch my settlement, now my settlement is gone."}
{"id": "t3_fu53x", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Starting over again and seeking guidance", "post": "Hello!\n\nSo, here's the deal -- I've already lost quite a bit of weight.  I'm 25, female, and 5'6\".  In August of 2008, I had just quit grad school, hated my life, and was really exceptionally depressed.  I was renting a tiny bedroom in a house in the middle of nowhere, and I had no job.  [I weighed 245 pounds]  I got a job waiting tables, and my weight slowly began to drop.  Starting in November of 2009, I liked what had been happening and decided to actively try losing weight.  By September 2010, [I was down to about 190] had a great job, great friends, and was really, really stoked.\n\nHere's where things get tricky.  Around this time, I started dating a super-excellent guy.  Our social circles have meshed effortlessly, and we spend a lot of time together.  He's a really picky eater, though, and doesn't like most of the stuff that I do (which is, coincidentally, the food that's helped me lose weight), so we end up eating out a lot.  Not only has my wallet taken a solid hit, I've gained about 15 pounds since we started dating.  Not enough to really *see*, but I'm definitely more sluggish, and it bothers me a lot.  On top of all this, I've become much more busy, now that I have a \"real\" job and I have an active group of friends.\n\nWhat do I do, folks?  I really don't know where to go from here.  I honestly don't know what a good goal weight for me is, and while I can work more activity into my life pretty easily, I don't know how to deal with the \"I'm always out, what on earth do I eat?\" problem.\n\nI'm sorry if this was weirdly-phrased and rambly -- I'll clarify if y'all have questions, but I really would love some help on how to get myself together again.", "summary": "Lost ~55 pounds, have gained about 15 back, need help on getting myself back on track.  Can I do that if I'm stuck eating out a lot?"}
{"id": "t3_1x4w7o", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Facebook refuses to take down photos of me being attacked", "post": "A few years ago, 2009 so I think I am past being able to report to the police, I was out and got attacked by a bunch of guys. I am a short woman and this was a physical attack - hitting (not rape).\n\nI recently found through a very convoluted \"friend\" chain on facebook found some pictures one of the guys took of that night. I do not know the person whose picture it is, nor do I really want to contact the person as I don't want to remind them of what they did and them all to get a good laugh out of it, nor do I think I can talk to them.\n\nI have tried reporting these photos to facebook and they refuse to remove them. It is just an automated system so I can never tell my story to them, just click report. And because you have to report photos on an individual basis, some of them do not show them actually attacking me, just them near me, so if you are reviewing that photo on its own, it may not seem that bad as it is just a girl surrounded by a bunch of guys laughing at her. There is no way to report as a whole. Also the comments that go with these photos are horrible, talking about and joking about what they did.\n\nI don't know what to do. It is upsetting me and I feel so helpless. I just don't understand how facebook can allow such things and have no way to report a group of photos, because even if they took down some of them, but left the rest because they aren't showing anything \"bad\" like I said above, it is still a reminder of what happened, and something on that guys facebook where he can go back and laugh at with his mates.", "summary": "There are some photos of me being attacked on facebook and facebook refuses to take them down, and I don't know what else I can do."}
{"id": "t3_2c5ldy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] had a party at a hotel and got billed $250 additional charge for \"damage\", my friends [20F][26F][28M][27M][21M][19F] do not want to help.", "post": "So I recently wanted to throw a party at a hotel with a pool for my 19th birthday. NUMEROUS random people ended up coming without my permission. Hookah was smoked, the hotel had no damage it was just a fucking mess and we actually ended up getting kicked out.\n\nThis place would have been cake to clean up, it was just messy but the hotel was insistent on me paying an additional $250. Ok fine I'm not gonna argue with that because we created a commotion, COMPLETELY reasonable for them to do that. It was agreed by the original crew that was expected to be there that I would pay for the room ($140) and everyone else would get alcohol. \n\nOkay that being said, I did NOT expect to have an extra $250 to be added on to that tab. It was a shit show of a night and I COMPLETELY understand I'm at an incredible amount of fault HOWEVER, nobody has mentioned helping pitch a tiny bit of money to help pay for the cleaning fee. Every time I bring it up, I see sour faces and awkward change of subjects. I get that the room was under my name and the room was up to me but still...come on we all contributed to the mess.\n\nAm I really being a penny pincher here? Am I crazy? What should I do/say.", "summary": "Threw a hotel party, got charged extra and nobody is willing to help pay for damage even though we all partied in there."}
{"id": "t3_256pda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] did something kinda stupid and want to know if I should try to correct it with this girl [19/F] further or leave it be.", "post": "This is kinda non-romantic, I suppose. I recently made several new friends on twitter. All of them are girls. They're all fairly cute but I've been burned once by internet relationships and I wasn't really looking for another\n\nWell... I got drunk and told one of the girls that I thought she was really cute but that I \"didn't mean anything serious about it.\"\n\nI woke up in the morning and realized what I'd done and apologized and her exact words were \"no no, it's always nice to know somebody thinks you look nice :)\"\n\nI feel awful about it and I feel like a creep but I feel like apologizing further would just make it weirder. We haven't spoken since and I don't have many friends (even very casual ones like this one) and it just makes me feel worse that I think I accidentally fucked one up I think.\n\nI can include the exact messages exchanged if need be.", "summary": "Lonely, drunk, met new friends, accidentally drunkenly told one that I thought she was cute and feel like a creep about it. Want to know if I should pursue it further."}
{"id": "t3_18rxgi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some of your \"karma justice\" stories do you have of terrible roommates?", "post": "I had my wifes sister and boyfriend living with us as roomates. They were always stealing my beer food and cigarettes. My wife had been trying to get me to stop smoking for for a couple of years. She had some weird ways in going about it. \n \n So one night right after sex She grabs my pack of cigarettes Takes her hand and wipes all of our love juices on all the filters. I dont know why but i just set them up on the nightstand and went back to sleep, i figured id trash them in the morning. Well i get up in the morning already late for work so cleaning off my nightstand was not exactly a priority. \n \n Later that day i get home from work have a snack and go into our bedroom to do a little tidying up. I notice my pack of cigarettes was missing but didnt think anything of it i just figured my wife had thrown them away. The wife was gone so i decided id try to head to the store and sneak another pack of cigarettes. On my way out i notice my sister in law and her boyfriend smoking a pack of camel turkish royals which is the brand i smoke and i have never seen them buy them. They offered me a cigarette, I politely declined and immediately burst out in an uncontrollable laughter, they must have thought i was crazy. Needless to say I havent had a cigarette since. Oh and I never said a damn word about it to them", "summary": "My roommates smoked cum drenched cigarettes."}
{"id": "t3_2tcxot", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking my bank balance", "post": "Tifu by not checking my bank account. \n\nSo the game insurgency has been on sale on steam for $5 for a couple days now and I've been meaning to buy it cause my library is mostly empty. \n\nSo today I go to a men's clothing store to pick up a gift certificate for my dad and go to pay with debit and my card is rejected. Weird. But this has happened before even when I have enough in my account. Whatever ill just pay with cash. \n\nLater I get home and finally go to buy insurgency (I've been waiting) and steam for $5 and I get rejected again. WTF! So I go to check my bank balance and boom! 99 cents for a balance. I shit a brick...well I missed that steal of a sale. I hope it gets marked down again...", "summary": "remember kids to check your account balance cause you may miss out on steam sales"}
{"id": "t3_27n631", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing breakaway shorts.", "post": "7th grade, gym class. This year they started making us 'dress out' in shorts and t-shirts. Right around this time, I've become a fan of the freedom offered by not wearing underwear, and it is grand. \nOne day, without thinking it through, I bring breakaway shorts (i.e. with buttons on the sides) to change into for class. Naturally, flag football is that day's activity. \n\nSo we head out onto the field for our game. It is a beautiful day. The sun is shining; I distinctively remember a cool breeze. The girl's gym class walks the track around field while we play. \n\nI deliberately avoid the ball most of the game. We have about 10 minutes left to play and our QB sends me a pass. I *tried* to drop it but the pass was too perfect to play it off. So I bolt for the endzone, with (I'll call him) Nick's bitch ass chasing me. So I run it in and we all cheer, but fucking Nick is compelled to complete his defensive duty and take my flag.\n\nYou know what fucking happened. Goddamn Nick grabbed a fistful of flag and shorts, and with a seriously unnecessary flourish ripped it all away. \n\nSo everyone is laughing. Girls on the track are bumping into other girls who stopped to laugh. I'm struggling to cover up and get my shorts back at the same time, but *fucking Nick* plays keep-away. The coach eventually makes him give me my shorts, but the damage was done. My entire underworld had been illuminated. \n\nFucking Nick gets everyone to call me Commando for weeks. The story spreads and I try to say that I was wearing underwear and that he ripped those off too, but who am I fucking kidding.\n\nIt isn't so bad now, but super embarrasing at the time. As with many fuck-ups, there was a silver lining. Debra, the goth girl with inexplicable and intimidating sexual maturity, was apparently super turned on when she heard I didn't wear underwear. A couple years later we met at a party. I wore underwear by then, which disappointed her a bit, but she still rocked my world.", "summary": "De-pantsed in gym while commando. Ended up getting a story and a blowjob out of it. 8/10, would be humiliated again."}
{"id": "t3_yqtqj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Are we friends or more? And can guys and girls be best friends and not have feelings for each other?", "post": "So I've known this guy [20M] for about 2 months now and we text a lot and when we hang out it's really fun. Our humor is the same, conversation always flows and is fun, we never run out of things to talk about. I'm even going to make him dinner when he helps me move out of my apartment. \n\nThing is, I can't tell if he likes me or not or if he's just really comfortable with me as a friend. He's asked me about my dating history and was shocked to hear I've never been committed and was a virgin which is he says is a good thing since it's so rare that girls are these days and says I should really save it.\n\n**BUT** In one instance where I thought he was flirting with a girl, he made it clear that she was just a friend and nothing more. But yet his best friend is a girl and they hang out and go on hikes and to the zoo and stuff one on one.", "summary": "How to tell if he likes me or just as a friend?*"}
{"id": "t3_139adg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (27M) learn to take things slow with a new love interest?", "post": "I'll try to keep this brief so my question will be specific.\n\nI am 6 months out of a live in LTR that lasted 2 years. I was broken up with rather suddenly, which I feel is a pertinent detail. \n\nI feel great most days and I am happier and healthier than I was in our time together. All in all it was for the best. \n\nI've moved on and have met a very nice, very lovely (23F) about 3 weeks ago who is in my industry and shares many similar interests. I like her. I like her a lot. \n\nMy dilemma is this. I've always been one to rush into feelings for someone. I see something I want and I go for it. \n\nI'm afraid that this inclination has been exacerbated by my semi-recent  breakup. I feel a longing to share my love with another.\n\nI have handled myself with grace so far but I feel my grip beginning to slip. It takes all of my patience and reserve not to breakdown and tell her how I'm feeling. \n\nI know this is foolish and immature, but I simply can't shut off my heart. \n\nSo tell me guys, how can I relax and just take things slowly? I know this girl likes me, she told me so. So what am I so worried about?", "summary": "How can I stop myself from scaring off a girl who likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_fqoj9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I have hemorrhoids and I'm only 23...HELP", "post": "So I was hooking up with this girl the other night and in the morning I noticed my corn-hole felt alittle funny, but I didn't think much of it at the time. Later that day I hopped in the shower and, following a pro-tip I learned from Reddit, used my old loofah to scrub out any extra ...residue that might have gotten caught up in my butt fro. At the exact instant the loofah came in contact with my hole, I nearly passed out from the pain. It felt as if someone had sodomized me with an industrial cheese grader. My vision started to blur and I had to brace myself against the side of the shower so I wouldn't fall down. After about 5 minutes of recovering in this position, I finally regained enough courage to examine myself. I positioned a finger to where I thought my butt hole would be and discovered a shockingly large swollen abscess that was painful to touch and very tender.\n\nSo now I'm left wondering, is this a hemorrhoid or some crazy STD? How did I get it in the first place, how do I not get it in the future and how do I make it go away? Is this normal for 23 year old guys? Thanks in advance Reddit.\n\nNote: It's been three days now and my butt hole still hurts. I haven't dared to touch it again, but I don't think the abscess has gotten any smaller. Sitting down is slightly uncomfortable, but not especially painful. \n\nAdditional Note: I was pretty drunk when I hooked up with said girl, but to the best of my knowledge, she didn't touch or interfere with my poop spout.", "summary": "I think I have a hemorrhoid, how do I prevent myself from getting them again and how do I make it go away?"}
{"id": "t3_419w0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 3 years, not sure I can handle his chronic pain", "post": "I feel like a shitty boyfriend for even thinking about it, but it feels like I get nothing out of our relationship anymore. We got together for a common hobby, one that he almost can't participate in anymore because of chronic pain issues in hands, shoulders and feet. I'm as supportive as I can be, goes with him to doctors appointments, helps with calls, deals with his anxiety when it gets out of hand, it feels like I'm more of a caretaker than partner at this point. He has been out of school and job for a year at this point because of pain.\n\nI have 5 hours of school Monday to Friday while he's out 2 hours, I'm still the one who starts cleaning when I get home. 5/7 days a week I fix dinner, I wash our clothes and do most of the dishes. When I bring it up he says it just seems like I do most of the work because I'm away more than him, but I remember what state I left the rooms in. I can absolutely tell when he hasn't done anything all day.\nI don't feel like I can ask more of him, because there's always an issue with pain, or suddenly the anxiety flares up.\n\nHe will usually tell me about his pain every day. Some days he will tell me it's especially bad, it just feels like I lack the empathy at this point, and I feel bad for not being caring enough. It's not because the pain isn't real, and he is in the middle of new medication for it, but it might very well be forever.\n\nI recently got the option to go to another country for my education. He can't go with me, if I choose to do so, and I would basically drop him on the floor because he's dependant on me, and I would feel like the world's biggest asshole. He has done so much for me, and getting chronic pain put of no where isn't his fault. I still love him, but I'm not sure I can live with him when he's like this. I feel drained and stuck at this point. Who the hell leaves someone for being unable to keep up with housework or common hobby.", "summary": "Boyfriend got chronic pain in limps a year ago, don't know whether I can handle taking care of everything."}
{"id": "t3_2ebct2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife (31/f) told me (32/m) 5 years married, that I am not jealous enough. I am confused.", "post": "In one conversation, wife told me she was a bit upset because she feels I am not jealous at all, and the last time I felt some bit of jealousy that I expressed was a couple of years ago.\n\nI am not a jealous person by nature, never have been. I trust her, but i am a bit confused now.\n\nShe has some self esteem issues, and i try to work with them, trying to reinforce her image. I tell her i love her, give her compliments, I tell her when I like an outfit she has or if I would like her to wear something particular. However, I feel that my words get lost and she do not believe me when she dismisses some of my comments as looking at her with love eyes.\n\nAn ex friend contacted her back on Facebook. He started writing some messages. Nothing... Strong, just a little flirty. Like you would talk to an old friend. She showed me the messages and told me she thought he wasn't over her yet. (they haven't seen each other in more than 10 years, and he lives in another state). She asked me what I thought. I told her I felt a bit uncomfortable as those cute things were the things I say to her, and if she felt comfortable giving him ideas, I knew he is a friend and I wouldn't forbid her from talking to him, as i knew he is a friend. When she probed deeper, I told her that maybe she would believe the compliments if they come from somebody else.\n\nDue to this, she says she doesn't feel valued as and dont believe me as I do not act jealous, as if she couldn't get attention. That my brain is not worried as she cannot attract somebody else, so she do not feel pretty, or maybe I feel i have secured her, and she won't go anywhere.\n\nShe doesn't understand why i get angry when she asks me why im not jealous. I am just not wired that way!. I dont want to be that controlling husband who forbids her from talking to somebody (she already has problems making friends as it is). \n\nMy dad wasn't jealous either, so i just dont get it.", "summary": "Wife want me to be jealous. I am not. She feels underappreciated as i am not jealous."}
{"id": "t3_381vsf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shaving in the shower when I've only gotten 2 hours of sleep.", "post": "So I woke up at 8:30 today after spending the night out and returning home at 6:30, resulting in me only getting 2 hours of sleep. After I woke up, I felt a sense of grime on my body so I decided to take an early morning shower before heading out. After I finished shampooing, brushing my teeth, and masturbating, I decided to shave as I haven't done so in awhile resulting in a thin veil of stubble. At this point the warm water and steam was making me drowsy and I vaguely recall having second thoughts on shaving.\nBut I shaved\nAfter I shaved, the next thing to do on my list was cleansing the razor, so I began to do what I felt came naturally at the time whilst running on the fumes of 2 hours of sleep. I began running my index finger up and down the razor blades in an attempt to get the hair out of it.\nI finished showering and stepped out to dry myself. And on the towel, Blood.", "summary": "Don't shave when you've only had 2 hours of sleep the previous night, and don't wash your razor by running your finger up and down the razor blade."}
{"id": "t3_2jtu53", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by unknowingly bribing a police officer.", "post": "Today on lunch I was pulled over for speeding. I was going 60 in a 45. When the police officer came up to my door he asked for my license, insurance, and registration like always. After he checked everything he came back up to my door and said \"I'm running your name in the computer right now its going a little slow and might take a minute\". I said okay, then he said \"Our police department is having a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society if you would like to donate\". I had $15 left in change from lunch so I handed it to the cop and he said thanks and went back to his car. Immediately after he came back and brought my ID, Registration and insurance and let me off with a warning. I told my co-worker about the interaction and he said he was pulled over by the same cop last week however they were raising money for something entirely different. So I called the police department and questioned them about the fundraising and they know nothing about it. Few hour later 4-5 cops come into my work and take a report. They said nobody ran my name through the computers or issued me a warning for speeding.", "summary": "I bribed a cop out of a speeding ticket."}
{"id": "t3_rq7ir", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I deal with this without breaking down any friendships and not being a complete pushover?", "post": "Me and said girl wen't to same first school and we'd known each other for a long time. In the last few months or so we'd been hanging out more in the awkward: not sure if friends or dating way. More recently we were talking and I asked her out properly - to clarify things as she always would say that she loved me :/ - she said yes. Well, for a while. \nShe phoned me a few hours later clearly having had some distress over the whole thing and said that she didn't want to lose our friendship and that she \"loved me like a brother\" ( that one hurt.) I had been friend-zoned. \n\nMore recently we'd been okay but I haven't seen her much or really talked deeply to be honest. It was at this time that my supposed best friend - with whom I am in a band, short-film company and a school - \nstarted to talk with her and as of today asked her out. \n\nI'm feeling betrayed by me best friend and annoyed at me ex. of a few hours for the way she has / is handling it.\n\nHow do I deal with this without breaking down any friendships and not being a complete pushover?", "summary": "Girl who rejected me now going out with \"best-friend\". Can't avoid as we have to meet a lot. (Girl and Friend)"}
{"id": "t3_xd7va", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I help someone become 'successful' or 'discovered' on Youtube?", "post": "I hit some hard times lately (failed a quarter of school, broke up with my bf, best friend moved across the world, and lost my step mom to cancer) but I discovered something on Youtube that helps me feel better when I'm at my very lowest. \n\nI've fallen in love with [Diablo Pablo] he is a video game commentator on Youtube.  His videos are just extremely entertaining, his voice is intoxicating and I honestly believe he has some of the best and funniest material out there (and I don't even play very many video games).  You can tell he has a real passion for video production and comedy and I've become obsessed with his stuff.  \n\nI even messaged him and he wrote me back and we've been having some deep conversations about life, he's just a really nice guy!  Turns out he got laid off and has a family him and his wife are trying to support and after months and months of not being able to find a job he started a Youtube account to try to bring in some income.\n\nThe problem is he barely has any subscribers or views but he keeps at it, almost has 100 videos now.  I don't know this guy personally IRL or anything, I just discovered him a month ago and his videos keep getting better and better and have really helped me through some tough stuff.  \n\nHere are some of his videos that always make me smile when I'm feeling extremely down.  [Smooches of Death] [Bath Salts Simulator 3] [RIP Jenkins] [GW2 Ranger Pets Showcase] [Let's Play Slender On Drugs] [First time playing minecraft](\n\nI like to do kind things for strangers, helping people out really helps me out when things are going bad.  Is there something I can do to help him become one of those Youtube stars?", "summary": "How can I help someone get seen on Youtube?"}
{"id": "t3_1pchq3", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Our rescue dog is scared of sticks, can anyone help?", "post": "We've recently re-homed a rescue dog, who is absolutely adorable. The poor thing however is scared of sticks. By sticks i mean walking sticks, crutches and even branches if you pick them up. This obviously leads me to believe he has been beaten in the past, and has learnt that a human holding a stick may mean imminent pain.\n\nMy girlfriend uses crutches to walk and whenever she stands up with them he barks and runs away scared and traumatised. Are there any experts out there who know how we can teach him he doesn't need to be scared of sticks with us? It is unpleasant for her because she feels like he is scared of her, which of course he isn't.\n\nIs there anything we can do?", "summary": "Rescue dog is scared of sticks from previous abuse, is there a way we can teach him not to be?"}
{"id": "t3_3a3x9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When my [20 F] long distance boyfriend (21 M] text, he usually responds with short, one or two words answers. It feels like I'm talking to a brick wall, how do I politely talk to him about this?", "post": "An average conversation between us is very one sided. I feel like I'm the only one asking questions/responding more than a couple words. His most recent text would be something like \"I see\" or \"gotchya\" or \"nice\" or something and wonder why I wouldn't respond sometimes. The conversation is going no where and his responses give me the impression he's busy or doesn't want to talk. I want to have a real conversation with him, not an echo chamber of \"yea's\". \n\nI want to talk to him about this, but I'm not sure the best way to bring it up/get results.", "summary": "Boyfriend often does one word responses to texts which leaves us in a dead end conversation and makes me feel like he doesn't want to talk; what's the best way to talk to him about this?"}
{"id": "t3_nvaa6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've been up for ~55 hours and worried that I won't be able to get sleep tonight. Help?", "post": "Tuesday night, I was unable to fall asleep..at all. I've had a lot of 2 hour nights, but this is the first time I didn't fall asleep at all in 10 years. I was awake from the 4 day weekend I had (being able to sleep late) and then when it was 2:00 AM and I wasn't asleep still I started getting anxious which prevented me from falling asleep.\n\nI was exhausted last night, went to bed at 9:45 PM and still couldn't fall asleep. I was so nervous about not being able to fall asleep again (as neurotic as that sounds) that it didn't happen. Once 11:00 PM hit, I took Nyquil and it did nothing (in the past it has knocked me out when i had colds).\n\nI'm approaching the end of the work day today and somehow managed to get by even though I'm very cranky and overly emotional about everything. I'm concerned about not being able to fall asleep again. I know the \"cure\" is to just relax and not worry about it and my body will do the rest, but I don't think it's that easy. I'm looking for advice on what I can do to help me fall asleep tonight. Anything would be appreciated..I'm getting desperate. No \"get drunk\" recommendations since I will only feel worse in the morning. Thanks!", "summary": "My nervousness about not being able to fall asleep has kept me up for two nights in a row and am worried about it doing the same tonight. Looking for help on how to fall asleep tonight!"}
{"id": "t3_gcfz4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how do you tell if someone is a hooker?", "post": "I stayed in a suite this week on vacation with 6 of my friends. One night around 1, a woman knocked on our door and started flirting with everyone, including the girls. She appeared to be about 30 (which would make her about 9 years older than us). She had tattoos, and wore a decent amount of makeup. She claimed to be on a business trip with an early presentation to give in the morning.\n\nI was pretty drunk and flirted with her, smoked her out, and we drank brandy. She invited me back to hers.\n\nIn her room, we listened to a band called passivefire and fooled around till 5 am. She gave great head. That's when I looked at her hand and noticed she was wearing two rings on her left ring finger that looked like a wedding ring though the stone was low quality and possibly fake.", "summary": "I do not know what to think about this sexual encounter"}
{"id": "t3_1ifq69", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(37M) Suddenly having real trouble finding love... But it's not what you think.", "post": "Hi, RA folks,\n\nI spent my twenties in a series of long-term relationships. When the last ended painfully, I had a ton of healing to do. She had been my great love and seemed so out of my league, I'd never be able to truly replace her. I felt a huge amount of painful pressure to settle down and prove my worth to the world, and it felt like I'd lost my big chance (BS, I know).\n\nI spent my early 30s trying to date seriously, but mostly just having shortish relationships, freaking out in some way (clearly unhealed from my big breakup), and respectfully ending things. The last one of those ended about two years ago. I then took some single time to get therapy and work on that reticence to bond with people, and it's worked. I ended up moving to a new city for a fresh start. Since then, I have had a couple of very short flings, but nothing serious.\n\nMost of my loves have been friends first. I've tried internet dating but never had a good coupling come from that. Back in the day, I always seemed to be meeting someone and having magic occur. Now, it doesn't.\n\nA lot of people would say \"Your 30s are different; you're not as social, you've got all these extra responsibilities, your friends group is smaller...\" but given my lifestyle (as a creative professional in a big city with a big group of similar friends), none of those statements ring true. What's more, in my 20s, I was damaged goods\u2014dealing with a litany of undiagnosed and untreated mental issues, often out of shape, unmotivated, and overdoing the partying. \n\nThese days, I'm a changed man... I'm much happier, I'm fit, healthy, and decently attractive (in my own strange nerdy way). I run my own business which supports me fine, and I'm no longer tied to the need to settle down to prove myself. So, if I'm a better catch (beyond my being \"old\") and in an active, wacky creative social scene, where's the magic? I miss love a lot.", "summary": "I found love pretty easily in my 20s. It's much harder to find now, even though I'm a better man in a more ideal situation than I used to be. What am I doing wrong (besides being old)?"}
{"id": "t3_34fg2z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Restraining orders on College Campus between students", "post": "Long story short, a guy has been periodically posting my girlfriends number on craigslist casual encounters for the span of over a year. She had her number changed twice now, and they just found out who the guy is that's been doing this today. This guy has also been following and unfollowing her on Instagram whenever he sees her around campus. She's transferring to another college for unrelated reasons but it appears he may be transferring to the same college. \n\nShe's planning on getting a restraining order on him, but it made me question what will happen if they run into each other on campus? I doubt the restraining order would keep him from attending the same college. But it seems unrealistic for a minimum distance to be in effect as they may pass each other.\n\nAlso a side question, I'm already at the college she's transferring to. If he breaks the restraining order by talking to her, would I legally be allowed to detain him myself until proper authorities arrive? Or would she just have to report it with no real evidence of it happening?", "summary": "One student has a restraining order on another. How does this affect their campus interactions?"}
{"id": "t3_nncx9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit,what is your best \"be careful what you wish for\" moment?", "post": "Mine- I was really good friends with this one girl, who ended up dating one of my best friends. I guess I had always kind of liked her, but never admitted it to myself. A few months into their relationship I had to tell her, and she told me she like me too, she had just never said anything. At that time, I really wished things were different and I could be with her. A few months later, they broke up. I gave about a 6 month grace period, and thinking my friend wouldn't care, started seeing her more often. We got to the point where we were in a relationship without the title of bf/gf.  Never told my friend, my mistake. (I was planning on telling him once we actually started dating). He found out from another friend before I planned on telling him, he flipped out, was way more possessive and upset than I thought he would be, especially since they never had a super serious relationship. So I got the girl, but lost my friend.", "summary": "Liked my one of best friend's ex(also a good friend of mine), got with her, lost my friend."}
{"id": "t3_b3ud8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ok Reddit, I'm essentially getting scammed here and need your help please!", "post": "A little background: So back in 2008 I went to WeFest and signed up for one of those \"Win a free vacation!\" things. Anyway a couple days later I get a call saying I won. (Here comes the stupid part) One thing leads to another I give my credit card info. Please don't just say I shouldn't have done that etc., I know I shouldn't have, lesson learned/ in progess. I agreed to $175 +$43/month over 6 months. About an hour later I realized, holy hell I'm dumb called and cancelled the 6 months but they still got me for the $175. Now, 18 months later I get a call saying I have a substantial balance of $898 due, asked what would happen if I refused to pay it and they said they would just debit the credit card they have on file. Can they do this? I never actually signed anything and know I never agreed to that much. Are they just trying to get me to agree for more money now?", "summary": "Gave credit card over the phone. Now company calls me again 18 months later saying I still owe $898 or they will just charge me anyway with the account they still have on record."}
{"id": "t3_1v7sm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] told her [19 F] that I love her, but she isn't in to me", "post": "So, I am actually dating a girl. I know her for several years now and I just can't do anything about it, but I think I fell in love with her years ago. I just get this feeling when I see her... It's incredible, well...  We dated several times - but I was often too lazy to get more into it and to fight for her. In the last few weeks I saw her more often, because I now really want to try it. Last time I had dinner with her, we joked and had fun and after that, we went to her and watched a classic comedy-love-thingy-film, well, we cuddled a bit but then it was over and ... I went home. Don't know, I am pretty shy, I think.\n\nAnyway, I had a pretty good feeling. She said, she was enyoing it, too and that she wanted to see me again, which is difficult sometimes, because I live about 1 1/2 hours away from here. And now there's her ex-boyfriend, and they seem to date, too.\n\nI made a point about that and told her, that I don't like her messing around with me and then I couldn't bear it anymore and  I told her told her, that I really like her and she said, she didn't know about that. I need to say, that I am possibly hard to read and am very shy and was very anxious about telling her. \n\nSo ... I didn't want to talk too much with her about this topic through what's app, and now we're meeting on saturday to talk this through.\n\nI am very relieved, that I finally stood up and told her, but she doesn't seem to share my feelings. She's not in to me and likes me to be her friend. \n\nI am not sure, how I should deal with that - I think, I could live with it - but I don't want her to have me in the friendzone all the time, because that will be going to hurt somewhen. \n\nAny advices or good words, to tell me?", "summary": "Fell in love years ago, told her, she doesn't share my feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_2t9gkv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] girlfriend broke up with me [18M] through text today.", "post": "We were together for a month and a half and just yesterday she hadn't been reponding to my calls or messages and when she finally messaged me today she said she was breaking up with me. She said that she jumped into a relationship too fast and it had nothing to do to with me only that she had made a rookie mistake. I pleaded to her that I didn't want to lose her and that she wasn't making a mistake. She told me that I wasn't the mistake just that she got into a relationship too quickly and that her last ex shook her up a lot. (Back story, she was with him for 11 months and during this time she decided to move in with him and after a few months he began to abuse her physically and mentally, she broke up with him and met me 2 weeks later and a week later we started dating). \n\nSo back to it, after a bit of messages back and forth she told me that she needs me to understand. So I told her that I love her and that I understand and I'd be here for her (I myself had recently gotten out of a year long relationship 2 months prior to meeting her, but I got over it). Well here I am, I don't know what to do. I want her to be comfortable and happy, but I fell in love with her from the moment I first met her and life without her just sucks. I think I'm just gonna have to wait it out and let her gather her thoughts and hopefully she comes back.", "summary": "She broke up with me because she believes that she got into a relationship too fast after being with an abusive ex."}
{"id": "t3_3hhohx", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Barking at Strangers at Night", "post": "Hi all, I'll try and make this quick! \n\nSo my dog is laid up with a ligament tear, and has been for about 10 weeks.  She's obviously sick of being cooped up, but for the most part has been entirely chill about the whole process, but I was expecting a bit of a backslide in her training. \n\nRecently (last two weeks) she's been barking at people she doesn't recognize when I'm walking her to the bathroom at night.  To be fair, this is a relatively new apartment/ area for her, and she's been laid up and hasn't been able to explore/ meet the neighbors.\n\n  It usually goes down like so: Milly sees a person in the distance and goes on alert (ears up, tail up, eyes focused). I usually at this point try to distract her with a, \"Hey, Milly, it's just our neighbor.  thanks for letting me know they are there!\" If they keep walking toward us, or we keep walking toward them, she usually breaks into the crazy greeting dance of her people (total wiggle butt, hoping side to side, ears up but relaxed).  We're working on a more relaxed greeting.  At this point I usually make her sit and stay by my side until she calms down.  \nWell, if they don't move toward us (fair enough when she's clearly on alert), or she isn't allowed to get closer/ investigate she will bark.  Not a low bark, but a higher \"hey, you! Friend?\" kind of bark.  At this point I say, \"enough\" sternly and work with her until she will heel beside me and then we sit calmly once she's away from the stimulus. Once she completely calms down and has listened she gets a \"thank you\" and a treat.  I have a feeling this will go away once she has a chance to run/ play/ explore/ say hi to the neighbors and get some energy out, but maybe not, and I would like to curb the habit of barking at people, especially because she is rather large (in comparison to most dogs in the building) and sometimes she barks at people that already seem afraid of her.", "summary": "Dog barks at strangers usually just at night. Am I doing this right? Should I be more focused on removing her from the situation or getting her to focus on me?"}
{"id": "t3_h2hv7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How much does it cost to live as a college student?", "post": "My friend and I are seniors in high school. He's being offered a house from a family member to rent for college. The rent we'll pay is estimated to be $200 per month, without us having to pay for utilities. (This is a very generous family member.) My question is: How much is it going to cost to feed us and cover other miscellaneous costs? \n\nWhat I'm asking for answers for:\n\n* How much will food cost per person?\n* What are other minor cost-of-living things we need to consider?\n\nWhat I'm not asking for answers for:\n\n* Money for beer, internet, gas, and other things that need to be otherwise considered.", "summary": "How much does it cost to eat?"}
{"id": "t3_54ltvo", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Need to tell someone they're not invited to our wedding - how do I go about doing this?", "post": "So my parents divorced 9 years ago, my mom remarried a guy 5 years ago. My parents had been together for 20+ years and are still very close but it has been hard on my dad to see my mom remarried. We still consider the original four of us (my mom, dad, brother, myself) a family unit.\n\nWhen my mom remarried, I became close with her new husband's sister (I guess my step aunt?). FH and I would go to her house, have bbq's/pool time and just hang out. She was super cool. About a year later, I moved across the country and have kept in little contact with her but would sometimes catch up via text or Facebook. It has been around 2.5 years since I last saw her.\n\nInitially, I had her on my wedding guest list but my dad threw a fit this week and asked me *not* to invite her because.... A) she was never involved in my upbringing, B) I haven't truly talked to her/hung out with her in years.... *and probably the most important reason*... C) it would make him uncomfortable because she is a part of my mom's new husband's family. My dad and I are extremely close, he's paying for our wedding, so I'm respecting his wishes and not inviting her. \n\nSo, how do I go about telling her she isn't invited? I didn't send her a STD but she did ask me for our registry info. Do I just say that we have budget constraints? To be fair, I'm not inviting a lot of my own blood relatives (I have a massive extended family) because of this. I feel bad because I know she is likely expecting an invite.", "summary": "I used to be close to someone, she is assuming that she's going to get a wedding invite but due to family drama, she's not. She has asked for our registry info - how do I go about telling her she's not invited when the time comes?"}
{"id": "t3_1o1mml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Australian_GF_ [21F] Just over a year, Long Distance Relationship Holiday Travels", "post": "I met my girlfriend while studying abroad in England. She is Australian and I am American (Ameristralia Union YAY).\n\nSo both her and I are repaying our debts to those who helped us out on our study abroad adventure so we are strapped for cash. \n\nKeeping up the relationship has been hard but we make sure we talk everyday and skype. However the holidays are coming up and she wants me to come over but I don't think I can afford it. I dont know what to do and looking for some advice. \n\nAny super cheap airline tickets you guys know of or any good relationship advice would be awesome.", "summary": "My girlfriend lives 7000 miles away and all I can afford is a rowboat"}
{"id": "t3_1sef8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24 F) best friend of ten years (23 F) seems to have completely chosen her boyfriend and friends over me. Unsure of what to do about Christmas gifts.", "post": "My best friend and I have been friends since freshman year of high school. Ever since then, we've been inseparable. We never hadfights or really disagreed on everything. She was really one of my only friends since I was going through deep depression and no one wanted to be around me so I cherish her deeply. However, for around six months, she got a new boyfriend and a new group friends from her work. And I'm really happy for her especially because I went college and she stayed around home and didn't really hang out with anyone else. \n\nHowever, I noticed that she is getting especially distant around me, even when she is with me. When I attempt to ask her to hang out, she'll ignore my texts or say that she is hanging with her new friends or boyfriend. \n\nOnce we had plans and she said she was too sick to hang out but then she has the nerve to come into my work while I'm working with her boyfriend not looking sick at all. If that didn't make me mad enough, for my birthday shortly after, we usually exchange really awesome and thoughtful gifts since our birthdays are around the same time. I got her concert tickets to my favorite band and she got me 20 dollars and a card. I felt extremely embarrassed and sad that she seemed to not put any thought at all. And then shortly after, I was present when she spent over 300 dollars on her boyfriend and new friends when we hung out one day. \n\nSo now that brings up Christmas. After that embarrassing birthday encounter, I don't feel  I should get her anything extravagant because despite her ignoring me, she still reminds me about our Xmas tradition which makes me think she might be using me.  I'm paranoid at this point, mind me. \n\nAnyway, I don't know what to do at this point about making plans. I'm really sick of getting ignored and lied to.", "summary": "friend has a new boyfriend. Ignores my attempts to hang out but still reminds me of our Xmas gift giving tradition."}
{"id": "t3_15x04r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) screw things up every time I'm nice... how can I not with him(27)?", "post": "The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. \n\nSo now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt.\n\nThe big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. \n\nSo how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest?", "summary": "I think my allure is in being a bit challenging - I'm opinionated and have a backbone. As soon as I mellow, guys run. What gives and how can I overcome this?"}
{"id": "t3_s3s6e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hiring mangers of reddit, is calling more people to interview after conducting some interviews a necessary sign you aren't happy with those you've already interviewed?", "post": "Sorry this will be long.\n\nI am about to graduate from law school and applied for a job where they are seeking someone with a J.D. to work as a contract manager.  I sent my resume and cover letter and was called within 1-2 hours after emailing it to come in and interview.\n\nAs it turns out, the job posting (I am pretty sure at least) only went out to my classmates.  I know several people who have applied.\n\nThe interview was yesterday and I feel very positive about it.  I tend to interview well, and all the signs from the three different people I interviewed with really made me think I have a good shot at this job.  My interview concluded at 2:45pm or so.\n\nI was told by HR that they have \"a couple more interviews this week\" and \"one pushed back to next wee\" but she will contact me either way with an offer or just to let me know they are going a different direction \"soon\" and that the contact should happen \"pretty quickly\" likely within 1 week, and probably not more than 2.\n\nI found out today that a classmate/friend of mine who applied the same day as me (a week ago yesterday) was called yesterday to come in for an interview this week.\n\nI know for sure they conducted at least two interviews yesterday before the call to my friend to ask him to interview.  He and I applied the same day, and I was called within 2 hours of applying the same day, but he was called a full week later to interview.  And he was called at 3:45pm so definitely after my interview had concluded.\n\nMy question is, does calling more people to interview mean that they probably didn't love me and are trying to get a bigger interview pool?\n\nI don't know what to make of it, and I am stressing royally because not only is it my dream job, but the pay is simply amazing.  However, the pay was not advertised in the job posting and I only found out from the HR Manager at the end of my interview what the salary is.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Thought I rocked an interview for a job that is hiring quickly from a limited pool only to find out they called at least one other person to interview after my interview had concluded."}
{"id": "t3_17hgpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [21] are seemingly at wits end with me [21].    [9 months]", "post": "Please don't mind the username, it was a throwaway for reasons obvious.\n\nI am 21, and I am largely an introvert. I am often thinking and I am truely caring for this girl I have dated for just about nine months. The problem is, I would anything for her, but all the little hints she drops, I am seemingly stupid and somehow let it fly past me. She lives by the absolute actions speak louder then words adage, but yet I just cannot manage to pick up the hints and move them to fruition. \n\nThis probably sounds repetitive, but after an hour conversation to how I have wronged her, I don't know what else I can say. I swear she deserves better, and I swear that I hold nothing but the highest regard for her and I would be devastated if I lose her, but just my mentality and my actions are very brief, calculated and very unemotional. I am also far from spontaneous. Hell, I cannot even choose dinner because I only care to get her what she wants. She always wishes I would take her out on a date or dinner, but it just never crosses my mind, not because of how much I care, but just because I am not any type of person who can actively make plans...\n\n Anyone else in this situation can give me a hand before I lose one of the best things I have had due to my stubborn and seemingly callous nature?", "summary": "I love my girlfriend, but I am a very reserved and non emotional type person. That seems to be what she wants, what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_387qsq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] duration, Mutual break up but still feel bad", "post": "hey guys\n\nI have looked at some other posts but not really found the answer i was looking for. Me and my ex (we just broke up yesterday) have decided that it will be best if we break up. We had been together just over 2 years but for the past year we have been living about 2 hours apart (we got together at uni).\n\nThe main problem is that we only see each other once a month for about 3 days due to our work schedules and the distance. We talk every day and we are each others best friends and have been for the 2 years. I cant imagine my life without her so i dont think a no contact rule would work here.\n\nThe worst thing is that when we see each other its fucking great, we have a really good time but then we have to go back to being apart for another month. I would be fine carrying on as it was until we eventually worked out a better system, found a way to see each other, but it is really hurting her and i can tell she is unhappy and that hurts me too.\n\nIf we were closer i honestly believe that this would have been the girl i was going to spend the rest of my life with, but the distance has killed the relationship and i dont want to see her unhappy anymore. It would be quite a while until we could find a way to live together/closer to each other.\n\nI guess im just looking for advice or if anyone has been in this situation before.", "summary": "Had long distance relationship, and its hurting both of us so we decided to break up but we both feel awful."}
{"id": "t3_2z88q2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tips on how to stick with it when SO is a bad influence...", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI have been trudging along in the journey of weight loss since December 2014 and I've been doing great so far. Binge sober for 3 months, tracked everything I put in my mouth for 20 days (before I was not very good at counting everything) I went from 260 to 236 as my current weight hoping to get to 150 someday.\n\nMy SO is a sweet, hardworking man who has a full time job, full time school, and an unpaid internship. He comes home at the end of the night with pizza and beer and mozzarella sticks. I can skip Pizza and beer but my god do I want those fucking mozzarella sticks. I told him its really hard for me when he brings this stuff in the house, I even cook a full healthy meal when I get home from my two jobs but he insists he needs this food to relieve stress. He is what I like to call \"skinny-fat\" he weighs less than me but he eats horrible food in copious amounts. The first few weeks he was doing this I just went in the bedroom and pretended there was no food but last night I ate 2 sticks... I tracked them but they put me over for the day. I'm angry with myself but I'll get over it.\n\nMy question is how do other people handle it when this happens. Should I just go for a walk until he's finished? Should I just distract myself? What else can I do?", "summary": "My willpower is no match for mozzarella sticks, need help with SO"}
{"id": "t3_3fkqeb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my cat sleep in my room", "post": "So I usually don't let my cat (here's a few pictures of my \"innocent cat\": [Evil Cat] sleep in my room because he keeps keeping me up all night. But last night he was really annoying me since he was scratching on my door all night. I finally gave in and thought \"Screw it, this is the only time I'm letting him sleep here.\". Then I went back to sleep and my cat snuggled up against me acting all innocent. A few hours later my alarm finally went off at 8am. So I went and took a shower etc. After that I decided to play some games on my", "summary": "My evil cat ate the power cables of my TV and"}
{"id": "t3_27vt70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] thinks I should divorce my wife [32 F] of 2 years. We're gonna have to do long distance for work and I don't think I can be faithful.", "post": "I have never cheated on her but I think I may make a big mistake when I leave.  We have other issues too.  She really wants kids and talks about it daily.  I can't see myself having kids with her because I don't think she would be a good mom.  She is a really good person but I'm not in love with her.  \n\nI also have the fear that I'm being too picky and no one out there is going to be perfect.  My wife is pretty great all around but I'm just not in love with her.  I'm not physically attracted to her anymore.   I know she would be happy if we stayed together, I would be much better off financially if I didn't have to go through a divorce.  Is there some way to trick my brain into thinking I'm in love with her for eternity?", "summary": "I feel like a scumbag person with integrity. I want to divorce my wife because I don't think I can stay faithful to her.   How do I approach this subject with her?  "}
{"id": "t3_4bglx6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (35f) am talking to my boyfriend (36m) about moving in, but it will cause drama with ex-husband (38m).", "post": "I am 2 years out of a divorce. It was not amicable. My kids are doing much better and are happy without my alcoholic and emotionally abusive ex. I was given full custody of our 2 kids, the house, child support and alimony for 2 years. I haven't filed to get those however, as I know my ex is on a tight budget. I myself am on disability because of chronic health condition. My monthly disability is enough for me to pay the mortgage, my car, and support my kids. I'm not rich but with budgeting we can live comfortably.    \nThe problem: My ex is very dramatic. He didn't want the divorce and hasn't moved on emotionally. I have been dating a great man, he really is good to my kids and we are planning on getting married in a small ceremony next year. We would like to start living together now. The thing is, that although I was awarded the marital home and the deed is in my name, the mortgage still has my exhusband's name on it. I haven't been able to refinance yet because of some credit issues. The house is my \"sole property\" according to the decree, but my ex still sees it as \"our\" home. I know he will cause drama when and if my new guy moves in. It seems unfair, as I am not asking him to pay child support or alimony. I just want to live in this home that I can afford with my kids and get on with life. What can I do to minimize drama on the ex's part?", "summary": "need advice on how to live with my new boyfriend in my home with minimal drama from ex husband."}
{"id": "t3_3b3nbd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making fun of a mute", "post": "This actually happened a little while ago. It was closing time for the bars downtown. I ended up running over to the local pizzeria near one of my favorite clubs for a couple slices before going home. While I was there, I recognized a girl I went to high school with, sitting with a group of people at a table.\n\nGirl is with a guy I presume to be her boyfriend. So me and her get to talking - keep in mind I was half in the bag at this point - and her \"boyfriend\" is standing there just smiling and nodding. So my drunk self - wanting to include him into the conversation - says \"What's the matter!? Cat got your tongue!?\". At this point, the whole table stopped doing what they were doing and just looked at me like I was a ghost. \n\nAfter a couple awkward, confusing seconds the girl told me he was a mute and she was his assistant. She helps kids with disabilities have fun. I immediately apologized, got my pizza and walked out in shame. The pizza was still delicious if anyone was wondering.", "summary": "Tried to include girl's boyfriend into convo. Turns out he was a mute."}
{"id": "t3_54k4c5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me (27M) with my best friend (30M) and his potentially emotionally abusive wife(30's)", "post": "Hi, I'm not much of a writer so sorry for my ramblings, but I really need advice. I want to help my friend but I have no idea how to.\n\nMy friend 'X' has been married for about 5 years to his wife. He is such a devoted dad to their 2 kids, he spends all his free time with them, taking them to activities like swimming, drama etc. In the last year or so he and his wife have started having problems. They stopped being intimate because she told him 'that part of her life was over now' that they had kids. She encouraged him to have an affair to satisfy his needs, but he couldn't do it.\n\nLately he has been really down, and he was recently diagnosed with depression. Since the diagnosis his wife has been picking fights with him, telling him that the reason the relationship isn't working is solely because of his mental illness. She has been bringing this up almost every night and he usually calls me in a really depressed state afterwards. He honestly thinks that every issue in his families' life is because of him having depression.\n\nLately she has been pushing him to move out. He has literally done nothing wrong other than be diagnosed with depression, and every night after he comes home from work it seems like all she does is pick fights and tell him he should move out. His kids are his world so I know moving out would kill him. Not to mention he probably couldn't afford it.\n\nHe is actually considering moving into a shitty flat, away from his kids just appease her. He is so depressed that he is believing every awful thing she tells him. \n\nHow can I help him to realise that this situation is not his fault and he needs to 'man up'? I am so worried about him.", "summary": "I am worried my best friends wife is emotionally abusing/manipulating him since he was diagnosed with a mental illness"}
{"id": "t3_2aq3m0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Got told by my casual sex partner Mary [25F] (a few months), that I'm [32M] going to be a father", "post": "A girl I knew was looking for an NSA fuckbuddy, I suggested trying out whether that would work out for us and it sort of did, we met and had great sex once or twice a week, later less (mostly always her initiative). \n\nMary had a vacation trip and some other issues, so we hadn't met for quite a while. Met her a few times after that and later received an email that she really had another good reason for seeing me - that she just could not tell me in person that she's having my kid and she knew about it for 3 months.\n\nObviously I was quite surprised. We didn't really have anything close to a romantic relationship and didn't know each other that well. \n\nI asked a few questions and MAry explained that it's really mine (she's ok to do a paternity test), she haven't been having sex with anyone else at the exact time and that she's ok with me having absolutely zero involvement and just forgetting about it all, but she just felt that I had to know.\n\nAt first I felt trapped and tricked, and really angry about that I got to know so late, so that I wasn't there to make any decisions on whether to keep the baby. \n\nNow I feel that it's still my kid and I'm getting all emotional about it. So forgetting is out of question, but I have really no idea how to raise a kid when the parents are completely separate already from the baby stage. \n\nDoes anyone here has some relevant experience to share?", "summary": "I'm going to be a father in 5 months, gotta figure out the level of my involvement."}
{"id": "t3_133zap", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to handle family death and broken relationship with my girlfriends father.", "post": "Hey /r/relationships! I'm new here but desperately need your help, so we'll start with the first thing.\n\nWell, my girlfriend (Alana) and I (Ryan) are both 21 years old, and we've been dating for 2 years and 3 months!\n\nAnyway, this past Sunday, she's experienced her first family death, being her Uncle who has passed away from Lung Cancer.  Now I've had relatives pass away before but the latest one was 5 years ago, and I wasn't that close with them.  However, her family is *super* close, so it's impacting everyone so much.\n\nNow, I have never helped a partner get through the death of a relative, so I'm not sure how I should act/behave or what I should say...Do I treat this like anyone else?\n\nSecondly, there is the matter with her father.  Her mom and dad have been divorced all her life, and she grew up with her mom seeing her dad occasionally.  They weren't exactly close until about 4 years ago, but now they are severing their relationship and I have **NO** idea how to deal with this.\n\nI've never dealt with something like this...I have no idea where to start or what to say.  Her dad and I got along quite well but I'm obviously going to support her with every decision she makes, unless it's absolutely ludicrous.\n\nSo there you have it, and any help is greatly appreciated! If I've submitted this to the wrong subreddit I do apologise and you can kindly point me in the correct direction.", "summary": "I don't know how to guide my girlfriend through her first family death as well as her severing her relationship with her Dad."}
{"id": "t3_oux00", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Worried my girl might be too spoiled?", "post": "If you've read my other questions, you know some facts about the relationship, but here's all the background context:\n\nHer last exes spent a lot of money on her.  They took her out on dinner dates very often, took her shopping, paid for her clothes and her gas, bought her necessities and luxury items, and even paid to have her car repaired (300-400 dollars).\n\nI, however, am not as loose with my money.  I like the idea of equal and fair effort/spending for both parties.\n\nShe is a nearly broke college student and I am a not at all broke graduate.  \n\nI have told her that if she needed help paying for gas to get to my place and back, then I can help her out.  This arrangement was fine.  She only asked every month or two.  Now she seems to be asking every time she drives down.  This last time, I gave her the money and not 20 minutes later went out and bought herself 10 dollars worth of non-essential stuff.\n\nWe argued over it and she said my money was not used for it and I said I enabled her to buy that item because I would not have given her the total gas money, just the amount she needed in addition to her own spending money for gas.  She expected I'd pay her gas to allow her spending money, not give her gas because she has no spending money.\n\nIn our argument over this, she brought up her ex claiming that HE would have bought her the luxury item AND paid for her gas.  She also claimed that she has never been treated so badly by a boyfriend, and one of her boyfriends was physically abusive.\n\nMy question is this:  Is she too spoiled rotten to save, is it salvageable, or am I way off base and should be more giving with my own money?", "summary": "Poor girlfriend expects me to pay her gas to come see me, enabling her to spend her own money on other things.  Is she spoiled?"}
{"id": "t3_loqtt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "i'm 26 and will probably have sex for the first time soon and need advice! What one thing you wish you knew/did the first time you had sex? (potentiall NSFW)", "post": "I'm 26 and he's 28, we've been together for almost 2 years and have been friends fore over 12 years - seriously in love and trust eachother completley.\nBefore you start making fun, here's some background info: we are both muslim and middle easterners so the culture doesn't really allow us to do it and we both decided we want to wait till marriage. \nWe are both relatively sexual in the sense that we masturbate regularly and make out heavily when possible but never had intercourse.\n \n\nI'm slightly worried it will hurt the first time (I've never been fingered) and he's worried he will hurt me, but we both know that eventually it will be major fun.\n\nSo although we technically know how it goes, we would like to hear real advice from people who actually have sex regularly.", "summary": "never had sex and looking for advice to make it as pleasurable as possible"}
{"id": "t3_28f1i7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure how to meet girls in this city.", "post": "If this is the wrong sub for this, I'm sorry.\n\nI'm a 23 yo guy. I just started a full time job along with online classes until I graduate in December, I'll probably remain here for a few months after graduation. I just moved back in with my parents, who live in a very upscale area where very few other people my age live (it's mostly families and older people). My daily routine of work all day and living situation simply doesn't allow me to meet new girls ever. I only have a few friends in town, all guys. None of us hang out with girls for the most part, at least not when I'm around. I already had a hard enough time meeting girls when I lived in a college town (been single for years), but now I'm just clueless and have no idea what to do. I expect I'll just continue to remain single/asexual for the next several months-year. What would you do in this situation?", "summary": "I'm bad at meeting/dating girls, and my new living situation has made that much harder. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2nirmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] lied to [20F] about where I was from. How to tell her truth on first date and not make a big deal out of it?", "post": "For some stupid reason I told this girl I met that I was form a different country (you see I come from a country that doesn't have the best cred in america and I was abit ashamed). When I met her I didnt think it was going to lead to anywhere so I wasn't that bothered about the white lie.\n\nHowever to my surprise I asked her out on a first date and she said yes. we are going out for the first time but I want to tell her the truth.\n\n How can I tell her without making myself look untrusting? I really am not that kind of perosn hence why I'm being upfront about it in first date before we start. \n\nShould I just say that I was just teasing her when I first met or it was just a joke? How can I not make it a big deal?", "summary": "Met girl, told lie about where I was form, going on first date, want to tell her truth, afraid she will think I'm untrusting - how to tell her truth without making big deal out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1ngh4j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when your partner has a higher sex drive than you do? (Potentially NSFW)", "post": "I've been with my partner for about three years now and we were both each other's \"firsts.\"  Because I was so new to it I was much more active with her then than I am now.  There are times when I just don't think about it for days at a time (sometimes up to a week) or when I do she's at work and can't do anything about it.  In those situations a lot of times I'll be asleep when she gets home and nothing happens (she works evenings/nights).\n\nThe problem (as you've probably already guessed) is that she wants to be much more active than we are now but won't really say it.  There have been times when we've had sex three days in a row and she loves it every time.  \n\nIf we go longer than three or four days she'll bring up how she'll want to get to business but, due to her schedule, a lot of times when I'm right about to go to sleep so that I can wake up for my job (morning shifts).\n\nI love her dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with her (we are engaged) but I also want to establish a good for both of us sexual \"schedule\".  I don't want it to turn into \"every Wed. night at 10 PM\" or anything because that ruins the mood, but I feel like I'm not doing enough for her in that regard.", "summary": "what concessions/decisions do you make when your partner wants to have more sex than you do?"}
{"id": "t3_1snpna", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Wife May Be Baby Crazy", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, \n\nMy wife and I were just married at the end of July (5 months ago). And for the last few months I've noticed a big change in my wife. She has put on 20 lbs. and has become baby crazy. Now, I feel bad criticizing her for the weight gain because I'm certainly not the picture of health, but i would prefer she not tell me what she's gained because I probably wouldn't have noticed, but now I notice it a lot. But the bigger issue is that She wanted to be pregnant yesterday. \n\nThe thing is, pre-wedding we were on the same page about waiting a few years, traveling, allowing my career to develop, and just being us before having kids. Now, apparently that's gone out the window. \n\nWe're both 28. I understand her biological clock is ticking and it's normal for her to want kids, but it's consuming her. We can't have a day where she doesn't want to talk about when she can get pregnant. The fact of the matter is we live in 400 sq ft apt in a major city, and we're about to live off my 70k salary and incur debt because she wants to go back to school to become a nurse. I don't feel ready. I believe in the sentiment that you're never really ready, but we're really not ready and I feel like there is an enormous amount of pressure on me to provide a bigger home and more money quickly to support us, her education and what seems like an impending baby. I don't like it.\n\nI think this compounded by the fact that she has two older sisters who have 5 kids under 4 years old between the two of them and they are both full time moms. She wants to be in that club.\n\nWomen of reddit, please offer some guidance through these conversations.", "summary": "wife of 5 months wants kids now. I want to wait"}
{"id": "t3_1ged9j", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat got suddenly violent and attacks", "post": "Hi, long time owner of cats, parents got cats and I am really used to them, I own now a castrated male 4 year old persian. My daugther is almost one year old and she usually tries to catch him removing some of his hair and sometimes the cat answers and has made her some tiny scratches, nothing that would worry me up since the cat is always inside the house and I don't fear it would give her some kind of illness.\n\nThe problem came today, my daughter was softly caressing him (sometimes she does) and the cat started hissing at her, I came just quick and took the cat apart, that was this morning and not (afternoon here in Spain) the cat hasn\u00b4t stopped hissing at any of us, my wife and my daughter just got to have lunch with some friends and I'm staying with the cat.\n\nIf I stay still seated on one place the cat will calm down and relax where he can watches me, as soon as I walk he runs by me starts hissing at me, even scratched me on the ankle and won't stay too far away from me.\n\nNow I have him locked in a room with its food, water and sand and he keeps meowing. Called the vet and he told me to keep the cat locked and checked from time to time until monday when he'll make a full check on the cat to see what's wrong.\n\nI guess he is in pain, that's why he's violent and obviously he tried first with my daughter since she is the weakest, now that she is gone he has only me to attack.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Cat got suddenly violent and attacks me and my family, vet told to keep it apart until monday when he will go and check him. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1391o5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When I was 22, I picked up a 15 year old girl on the side of the road and took her to a hotel. What's your best TL;DR that's misunderstood, yet accurate?", "post": "I was 22 and driving home at roughly midnight, maybe a bit later. As I pulled into my neighborhood, which was your average middle class neighborhood, I saw a teenage girl sitting on the curb with her head in her hands, obviously crying.\n\nI circled back around, turned my dome light on so she could at least see me, and stopped next to her to ask if she needed anything. Sobbing, she asked to borrow my cell phone, which I handed to her. \n\nBefore she could use it, I asked her if she needed a ride anywhere. She gleamed and immediately jumped in my car.\n\nTurns out she had been over at the house of a guy down the street. Apparently he tried to force himself on her, and when she kept refusing he got angry and kicked her out of the house. She had ridden there with him, so had no car, and no cell phone.\n\nI asked her where she needed to go and she told me her mom worked at a hotel across town, so I took her there and dropped her off.", "summary": "When I was 22, I picked up a 15 year old girl on the side of the road and took her to a hotel."}
{"id": "t3_3k2x0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my coworkers [various], Boss's father died, I don't want to go to the funeral or chip in for a condolence gift.", "post": "So my boss's father died. I work the overnight shift and only see my boss once a year when he does yearly reviews. I have no personal connection with him, and I don't consider him a \"friend\". \n\nI was asked if I was going to the funeral and after I said no, I was demonized, \"Why not? Wouldn't you go to a friends funeral?\" \nAnd I replied that he wasn't my friend, I didn't know his father, and it would be disrespectful of me to go when I had no real connection to the deceased. Not to mention that I worked this weekend and had to sleep during the time of the funeral. \n\nThen I was asked to chip in for his condolence gift, which is usually a gift card to some local place when it's from my team. I don't feel like someone who makes a lot more than me would benefit from my contribution as much as I need it. I'm living check to check (and /r/borrow) and starting a second job soon. \n\nNow I'm getting shit for not going and not throwing in $20 or going to the funeral. \n\nAm I in the wrong?", "summary": "Boss's father died, I didn't know him and I barely know my boss. Didn't go to the funeral and don't want to chip in for a condolence gift."}
{"id": "t3_1di39a", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Update: Just broke up with my wife of 9 years..", "post": "Here's the original post: \n\nSo, today was the day my wife actually moved out and is moving across the country. Over the last week and a half or so, I'd been dealing with a ton of emotions but I confided a great deal into a good friend of mine who helped me.\n\nToday, I'm in a better place than I was 10 days ago. Heck, even better than I was just 4 days ago. Honestly, I was nearly at a point where I was going to try and convince my wife to actually stay instead, but my friend helped me right that train of thought and I think it was for the best.\n\nSo now, I'm about to get used to being alone for the first time ever. Not a big deal so far, just got a lot of cleaning up to do around the place and sorting of some of the things she left behind. \n\nI will say that our separation went smoother than I expected and we left on good terms, so I think. Our separation agreement was fair and left both of us content with the situation, so I'm grateful for that. \n\nToday, when she left, there were some tears. Not from me, though, but that isn't to say that I'm not sad. I cried already, but I'm starting to work my way back up from that low point. I also found a note while cleaning up that just said \"I love you\" on it, obviously written and stuck in a place that wasn't TOO obvious for me to find it. I do still love her, and I'm sure I will for a long time. Maybe, down the line, we can work out things and make the kind of changes it would take to get back together, but that isn't something I want to bother myself with right now. \n\nAll in all, I'm in a content place and I'm excited for what the future holds. I've got some big plans on things I want to do for me that I haven't had the chance to do in the last 9 years, so I'm looking forward to diving headlong into that.\n\nThanks to everyone who left a comment on the first post and for all the well wishes. Things are looking up now, and hopefully they stay that way.", "summary": "Wife officially left today, had a good split, still sad but feeling better thanks to a good friend's help. Having pizza for dinner, so there."}
{"id": "t3_2pxga3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I had a miscarriage and I felt relieved. Now I think my best friend is mad at me.", "post": "I [26f] recently found out I was pregnant by a one night stand. We used a condom, it broke, I took Plan B but ended up pregnant anyway. (I do not use the pill because I am unable to take hormonal BC as it severely impacts my mood.)\n\nI told my best friend about this, as I was very stressed out. We have been friends for the last 8 years. I don't want children. She was supportive when I said I was thinking about an abortion and was there for me during this time.\n\nWell, before I could actually obtain said abortion, I miscarried. I wasn't even aware it had happened until my doctor visit. To be frank, I was so happy. I didn't need to go through the cost or trouble of an abortion.\n\nNaturally I told my friend, and said I was quite relieved that this was all over and I could go back to my life. She was very quiet when I told her and has barely spoken with her since. She's obviously avoiding me but when I asked her about it she said she was fine. But it's so obvious. Any advice on what I should do? Does being happy about a miscarriage make me a bad person?\n\nBTW The only other person I told, my male cousin who I am very close with, was happy for me.", "summary": "Miscarried on an unwanted pregnancy, think my friend is weirded out I was happy about it."}
{"id": "t3_vwj0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I do not want my fiance to invite her \"best friend\" of seventeen years to our wedding. Am I wrong Reddit? (More info inside)", "post": "I was not invited to my fiance's best friend's wedding after dating my girlfriend (at the time we were not engaged) for ten years. I have met her best friend multiple times and always got along, never fought or disagreed on anything. Her friend lives in another state and when she got engaged I assumed my fiance and I would both be invited. Not only was I not invited but her friend also expected my fiance to be the maid of honor and take on all the responsibility of such an important job, all without acknowledging her relationship with me. My fiance protested and let her friend know this was wrong. After the fact her friend invited me, but I felt like damage was already done. I did not end up going. We are now planning our wedding and I refuse to add her to the invite list. Am I wrong for not inviting someone that clearly didn't want me at their wedding?\n\n**bold", "summary": "I was not invited to my fiance's best friend's wedding after dating my fiance for ten years. Should we invite her best friend to our wedding?"}
{"id": "t3_3dsp5z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sitting on my boyfriend's lap", "post": "Obligatory \"happened two years ago\" forward.\n\nI had the bright idea to sit on my then-boyfriend's lap while he was sitting in a poorly constructed chair. I leaned backward to pick something up from the floor, and as he shifted so I could reach it, the seat of the chair fell out from under us. I fell off his lap, landing on my back. I tried to grab onto him, so my spine was bent right where I landed. It knocked the air out of me, and I was in so much pain that I thought about going to the hospital. Weeks later it still ached, and I had to go to the chiropractor and explain how I soberly fell out of a chair. My chiropractor couldn't even do the adjustment without applying electrodes and heat to my back because the muscles were so jammed up. Now my spine dips in where I landed (or maybe I just have scoliosis, idk) and can crack just by moving my shoulder blades back. It still aches a fair amount for a few weeks at a time every so often.", "summary": "sat on boyfriend's lap in a shitty chair; both of us fell when it broke, and my back is still messed up two years later."}
{"id": "t3_dpsu1", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "So Multiple Sclerosis...", "post": "I'm sitting in the waiting room of an imaging center inside a certain medical facility whose name shall not be mentioned and it turns out they have free internet so I thought I'd get on reddit (go figure).  So I'm getting my comparison M.R.I. today and then consulting my neurologist right after.  The possible diagnosis is M.S. (my first M.R.I. indicated an 85% chance of developing it) and I'm not really sure what I'm asking advice for.\nThere has been a fallout between me and the parent that is paying for my medical treatment.  Also, she's paying for my college, but those are the only things.  And she's coming to see the neurologist with me and ask questions.", "summary": "Any advice for how to navigate having M.S., possible HUGE medical bills, possibly paying my own way through college, and coping with having a confrontational close relative (either normally or just when they go to see your neurologist with you)?"}
{"id": "t3_162wef", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is google+ allowed to give out your name publicly and forcing you to sign up to just delete/remove for privacy?", "post": "I have two google acounts, one for work and one for games, and it bothers me to no end how I make sure not to apply or sign up for google plus because it sucks, but for some reason it keeps trying to force me to sign up JUST to protect my fucking privacy with a simple search of my name into google. This work e-mail is supposed to be private/work only and yet I got a creeper who e-mailed me and they found me thru google, when I DIDN'T WANT my fucking name linked publicly to my account. Should I just switch e-mail carriers? All I see when I google it is posts complaining about names not accepted, I just want google+ to die and leave me the hell alone after revealing my information to a creeper.\n\nI deleted it on my work account, and my games account, AND MY NAME STILL APPEARS IN GOOGLE PLUS AS IF I'M AVAILABLE, how can I remove it?", "summary": "FUCK YOU GOOGLE PLUS FOR GIVING A CREEPER MY EMAIL WITH GOOGLE SEARCH BY LISTING MY NAME PUBLICLY. After deleting google+ from both accounts it STILL lists my unique name publicly. How can I get google+ to leave me the fuck alone?"}
{"id": "t3_555pqp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18F] and my boyfriend [18 M] of 7 months, relationship story and question. Advice please!", "post": "Alright, so my boyfriend has done this a couple times now with different things, but for now, Im just going to mention what he said today...\n\nalright, so my mom got me flowers and I put a picture of it on my story that said \"I have the Sweetest mom.\" My boyfriend called me up from his work and asked me what I meant when I called my mom the sweetest mom. He asked if I meant just mom in general, or like the sweetest person that I know. I told him I just meant that she was the sweetest mom, but she truly probably is the sweetest person I know. anyway, so he asked who I thought was the sweetest person ever, and I told him that I couldn't just pick one person, because I know a lot of sweet people and he got offended that I didn't say it was him. Then he was like, why cant you just say its me, It'll make me feel good, so I went ahead and told him he was the sweetest person after him getting a bit upset...\n\nI felt him pressure me into saying that. He pressures me into saying a lot of things, and I say them because i want to avoid the conflict I know he will create...\n\nTruthfully, he can be very sweet at times, but he also knows how to annoy the crap out of me and doesnt stop doing things to annoy me when ive asked him to stop doing them over and over again...", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_14gzfq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Etiquette at the dog park", "post": "Using my throwaway account. \n\nI have a big puppy (60lbs) and I've never had a real problem with her at the dog park until today. She likes to jump on people. I realize its a problem but I figured in the dog park, people know what they're signing up for. \n\nWell today we she was particularly jumpy and kept jumping on a older woman with a fur scarf and trying to play with it. I tried to keep her away but then the woman and some of her friends began yelling at me and one of them took my dog, without my permission, and pushed it out of the dog park unleashed. When I asked his name, he said it was fuck you. \n\nI said that my dog hasnt bitten anyone. Shes a puppy and her breed does that. They disagreed. I said its a dog park and they're dogs. Shes not attacking anyone, just too playful. I acknowledged her jumping is a problem but yada yada. After 10 minutes of back and forth while my dog is god knows where, this guy came around and tried to chill everyone out. He said that he understands how dogs are like that and you really just need to knee them in the chest when they do that so they learn. Ive been trying to teach her in a non-violent way but obviously not working. Meanwhile someone let my dog back into the park and she was gallivanting around again. I was very upset at this point, trying to hide it, and came home with the dog. \n\nI read over the official dog park rules and although there are no rules against jumping, owners must ensure no one is injured by the dog regardless of what the person does. So if someone were to bring a little kid and the dog hurt the kid accidentally, owner still liable. I don't think that entirely fair because I think if you enter an area where dogs are unleashed, you should expect normal behavior like big dogs running and jumping. But I feel embarrassed about the whole thing. :-( I probably won't be going back there for a bit and trying to knee my dog in the chest hard enough so that she learns to associate that with jumping. :-/", "summary": "Dog jumped on old lady. Her friends and she ganged up on me n my dog. One friend tossed my dog out of the park without a leash or my permission. I learned that dogs not being violent and being vaccinated is not the only rules re pet behavior at the dog park. Embarrassed about the scene. Disappointed that semi-normal dog behavior is not allowed at an off leash dog park."}
{"id": "t3_3mqsp1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [26M] met her [27F] in a hostel a little more than a week ago. I'm completely smitten, but finding her difficult to read. [xpost from /r/relationships]", "post": "I met a woman whilst on vacation in Europe, and I'm crazy about her. We met at the hostel that I was staying at. I was the one to introduce myself and we hit it off almost immediately. We went out for dinner and drinks that night and the conversation just flowed beautifully. We share so many interests and I felt an enormous amount of chemistry with her. I paid for dinner and drinks that night, for which she was very grateful. She later insisted on taking me out for dinner and drinks so that she could reciprocate.\n  \nWe both went our separate ways for a while, but she returned to the hostel after about a week. She bought me dinner and drinks and we continued to go bar hopping until early in the morning. Again, the conversation just flowed and the chemistry was unreal. I had an early flight to catch, so we said goodbye in the hostel and gave each other a big hug. That was the extent of physical contact for the evening. I'd have loved to have held her hand or even kissed her, but I was having difficulty reading her and did not want to come across too aggressively. Every time we'd make eye contact during the night, she'd throw me a somewhat awkward, but very cute smile.\n  \nWe've been in conversation ever since we got home. We're trying to make plans to see each other (we live a few states away from each other). There's even been talk about going to Europe together next summer.", "summary": "I met a woman in a hostel and I'm head over heels for her. I'm not sure how to read her behavior, so I'd appreciate some help!"}
{"id": "t3_2l3yzb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my Don't-Know-What [18 M], thought he wanted a relationship, was I wrong?", "post": "This boy seemed pretty serious about getting to know me.  He talked to my good friend for advice about getting to know me, which colleges I was looking at, and seemed to want something long term.  This pleased me because I was looking for a relationship too.  We hung out once and made out a couple times with heavy patting, and he hasn't contacted me since.  I think if a guy is truly interested in me, he'd do anything to reach out to me, and I know he's not busy.  I'm not too upset, but my pride is wounded.  I'm also really disappointed because he seemed like a genuinely good guy who prefers commitment over mindless hookups.  What could have made him change his mind?  Or was his agenda never to date me?", "summary": "confused as to where I stand with boy"}
{"id": "t3_438vnf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By shaving my balls", "post": "This happened last night. \n\nIt has been a hairy situation down there for quite some time since I've been too lazy to shave it, finally I decide alright enough is enough with this hair nonsense and decide to shave it, I go into the shower, start doing my normal stuff, put shampoo on my head, soap myself up, then start shaving, everything's going normally, until at one point I look at my ballsack and notice this white stuff on it. Naturally I wipe it away but it appears again. This is where I start freaking the fuck out. I start thinking \"Shit I've punctured the sack. Do I have to go to the hospital? Do I put a bandaid on it?  Shit all the fluids in me are going to leak out. Fuck fuck fuck\" then I soon realize it was some of the shampoo from my head that dropped down while I was shaving. I'm an idiot", "summary": "thought I punctured balls, was just shampoo"}
{"id": "t3_2c8y02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my gf [18 F] of 8 months, she refuses to report being sexually harassed by an uncle a few years ago?", "post": "I love this girl and we've never had any fights about anything up until now. However, she recently told me that she had been molested by an uncle a few years ago, and she and her parents had decided not to report to the police in order to preserve family relations. No matter what I tell her (she's hurting the people who love her, the molester is a risk to his own children, Etc) she refuses to report him. She justifies it by saying \"it was a long time ago,\" \"it didn't last a long time,\" \"he was probably drunk,\" and \"I don't want his kids to suffer.\" I'm amazed her (divorced) parents valued family relations over their own daughter. What do I do?", "summary": "gf got molested as a kid by an uncle, she and family insists on keeping quiet, I'm angry at her and her family for staying quiet, as well as the molester for doing what he did. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dgsj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] boyfriend's [33M] behavior in one of his past relationships bothers me. Am I wrong?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. \n\n He's told me about his past relationships and it never really bothered me. I met the woman he dated before he met me really early in our relationship, and the truth is that she's smart and funny and I get why he dated her. I know that he had a life before me, and that part doesn't really bother me. \n\nBut we were in his hometown last week and we ran into this other girl that he \"dated.\" She's one of those girls who is trying too hard and comes off kind of desperate/sad/pathetic. She kind of made a play for him, which he obviously rejected. But when I asked him about it later, he said that she had a crush on him when they were in high school/college, and that she used to give him the occasional blowjob and whatnot when he was home from college. He said he slept with her once as well.\n\nThe actual fact that she slept with him doesn't bother me as much as the fact that he slept with her despite knowing he didn't really feel romantically toward her. He was kind of surprised by my reaction.\n\nI flat out told him it was kind of a douche move and he was like she knew it wasn't serious and I was young/stupid and that was before I met you and you are the center of my universe and blah blah blah. \n\nAnd he says she knows it wasn't serious. He's not the kind of person who would pull a bait-and-switch, but the way he described it made me feel like he had sent the \"this is not serious\" message loud and clear but that in the back of his mind he knew it hadn't been received. In his defense, this was 10-15 years ago.\n\nI'm not angry at him or anything, but I'm wondering if I'm right to feel like that was kind of shitty on his part or whether I'm totally misguided.", "summary": "Boyfriend let a girl who had a crush on him give him BJs despite not having any feelings for her. Am I wrong to think it's a bit douchey?"}
{"id": "t3_32r73o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] am having trust issues with my boyfriend [21/M] of 3 years.", "post": "Okay, so I've been with my SO for about 3 years now, and in October, 6 months ago, he cheated on me because he didn't want to be in a serious relationship and deal with a 'imperfect relationship' where we fought here and there. He was choosing his friends that were talking a lot of false words about me over me for a good while there, and that made us fight because he took it out on me and I took it out on them for attempting several times to make us break up. In the end, his friends were pushing his buttons on not being with me and pushing another girl onto him which made the perfect set up for him to break up with me because he kissed her one night. I refused to let him get out of the relationship for a few pecks with a girl and let him suffer through consequences, which he understood and was very sorry for his actions right after, because that's when he came to my house in tears apologetically saying how much he fucked up. Those friends now for the most part hate him, but there's one guy In particular he was closest with that likes to occasionally, like every once in a blue moon hang out with him. This makes me uncomfortable to the fullest level possible. Is that normal? Is it okay for me to feel this way? He says I'm over reacting for the most part and gets pissed that I don't trust him, but I trust him a lot more than I did 5, or even 2 months before now, which I don't think he realizes.", "summary": "boyfriend cheated because he didn't want to break up with me but wanted me to be the one who broke up with him for kissing someone else because he was scared of being in a serious relationship for a long time. I'm having trouble trusting him after 6 months and he doesn't get how hard it is for me to trust him. "}
{"id": "t3_q21nf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got a summons but the cop said he screwed up when writing it and I can get it dismissed. I'll find out tomorrow morning but I'm suspicious...", "post": "I was walking through the cars on the subway in NYC, which people do all the damn time and if the cop feels like doing something about it he can but I got lucky I guess. Anyway, he wrote me a summons but paused while he was writing it and then told me himself that he fucked up by putting my last name first and my first name last so I can call the number on the back and have it dismissed. I'd like to take his word for it but I'm afraid I'm going to call tomorrow morning and they'll be like \"so what, it's still your name just backwards order who cares?\"", "summary": "name backwards on summons is grounds for dismissal or is cop jerkin my chain?"}
{"id": "t3_1w26ma", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would you get in contact with a parent you haven't spoken to for a number of years?", "post": "It's not a unique story, parents got divorced when I was about 6, stopped seeing my father about a year or two later and haven't seen him or spoken to him since.\n\nIt wasn't a situation where my mother stopped me from seeing him, it seems he was fairly disinterested in being a parent.\n\nI'm now in my late 20s and thinking about reaching out to see if he's interested in having some sort of relationship. I'm not looking for a father (I think the time for that has long past), but we are related and both adults. \n\nI'm just not sure how to reach out to him.", "summary": "interested in getting in touch with a father who I haven't spoken to in 20 years"}
{"id": "t3_jpoi3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need suggestions for my freshmen mission!", "post": "Hello fellow Reddit users!\nI'm a student at Chalmers University were i study Automation and Mechatronics.\nToday me and four other dudes got our freshmen mission.\n\nOur mission is to select a escalator and have people in the start giving, the folks using it, a ticket and have people in the end taking the tickets back. Now for your part Reddit! You guys have any suggestions to make this the funniest shit on whole Chalmers? the best freshmen video (we are filming it and i will ofc upload it here after) will win a price!\n\nMy ideas atm is to have bouncer like people in beginning with tuxes etc. and with a sign next to them to tell them that they need a ticket to ride and that we ofc sell it for free. But i have no idea how to do it in the end. Do the same or something else? Or do you think the bouncer idea seams shitty as well?", "summary": "Need ideas for my freshmen mission (give tickets to people riding the escalator and then taking them back in the end"}
{"id": "t3_1p157c", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I cope?", "post": "So here I am, a nice guy who's nice to a woman who I have great feelings for. She's great and I love everything about her. She has an infatuation with a friend of mine, and I'm just taking the beating. Every night when we chat the topic always gets to how great this guy is and it is really killing me. She has no idea how I feel (If she does, she's really mean) and I doubt telling her my feeling would change anything. I'm taking a good long time to give her advice on this relationship with Mr. Perfect and it's just killing me on the inside. I feel hollow. I want her to know how I feel, but I can't let her because she would get mad. All she tells me about is how she's arranged dates with this guy and how she'll always choose him over me. I really don't understand it, I'm nice to her, I try to take interest in what she does, we share many common interests, on the other hand, this guy just acts plain stupid around her. She never gave me a chance... The first time she sat next to him, she announced \"[Anon] is now my perma-buddy\". I feel like a shell. What do I do?", "summary": "The woman I like continues to tell me about how much she likes another man..."}
{"id": "t3_3q9unn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [16 M] friendzoned with [16 F]?", "post": "There is a girl who I have knew for 6 months. We never really dated but it was kind of unoficial since we hung out a lot, flirted a lot, and went to dances together. She liked me and I liked her but I messed up and never made a move. \n\nWe got into an argument one day over stupid things and she was like she didn't know if she can handle it as we should just be friends. A couple days later, she wanted to hang out , just the two of us but as friends and she was pretty serious about the friends part and nothing more so I told her I was busy. Btw her parents are strict and would kill her if they found out she was even talking to me. \n\nWhatever but then we still call each other wierd nicknames, text each other a lot everyday and she calls me mean and evil and asshole so its none of that nice guy stuff. I would just be friends with her but the same thing happened to a girl last year where she said we should just be friends but we ended up in a relationship like two weeks later. Also we still do joke around a lot and everything. You guys think there is hope and what should I do?", "summary": "Girl said we should just be friends. Is that it?"}
{"id": "t3_32zcsk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by tripping over a blind person", "post": "Let me Just get straight to the point here.\n\n  I had just gotten out of my second period and usually my friends and I would take our sweet time walking to our class not really caring because \"hey schools almost over anyways!\"\n\n  But today my third period teacher was going to give out a test and if any one was late we would be locked out and given a zero. For some reason stupid me had forgotten about this and decided to take my sweet time walking, as a usually do. As the tardy bell rang my stupid brain finally decided to remind me that I had a test and couldn't be late.\n\nHERE COME THE FUCK UP.\n\n  As I was running to my class obviously not thinking about anything but getting to class and taking that stupid test. I suddenly found myself trying to regain my footing. Once I was steady I turned around saying \" Sorry I didn't see you there.\" not realizing at first that she was blind, until I saw her stick out in front of her. As soon as the realization set in I immediatly tried to choke out an apology. I have never felt so fucked up in my life!\n\n  Her only response to me was. \"It's okay, I didn't see you either.\" As she continued to walk away from me, looking like she was going to cry.", "summary": "Tripped over a blind girl at my school, said something really stupid to her and made her cry."}
{"id": "t3_37xij9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU my perfect grade", "post": "The fuck up actually happened last week when I made the decision, but only now do I realize the terrible mistake I had made.\n\nI'll keep this short and concise. I've been getting straight A's on all my speeches for my Public Communication class, and the last speech we need to do is a Debate Speech with another partner. Me being the older person in a freshman level class, I didn't really have friends to pick as a partner. So, I send out an email. In a couple of hours I get two emails from two different classmates. One was from a strong and smart classmate that's been doing well in the class, and has made some pretty good speeches. The other was from a hot girl in the class. I chose the hot girl. \n\n1 week later, our debate speech is coming up in 2 days. In order for us to have a successful speech, we are supposed to send each other our 3 main arguments so that we can formulate 3 counter arguments against each other. She hasn't gotten anything done, and has not sent me her part of the debate speech.", "summary": "Decided to pick my debate speech partner with my dick instead of my brain."}
{"id": "t3_27lo8r", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Vet says our 3 month old puppy shouldn't be allowed out until he gets the rest of his vaccinations - which he can't get for 3 weeks", "post": "We've owned our puppy for 3 weeks and had finally trained him to go to the door when he needed to go out, but when we took him to the vet today to get some of his vaccinations, they told us he shouldn't go outside, because the Bordetella virus is going around. \n\nHe's only 3.5 months old, and we have to wait 3 weeks before we can give him a vaccine for Bordetella.\n\nSince we can't take him out for walks anymore, he's been peeing all over the house all day, and without being able to go outside, he's been misbehaving a very large amount since he can't expend any of his energy.  We've tried to set up a small area on our patio for him to pee on, but he's not getting the point.\n\nIs this something we should actively be worried about?  We're thinking about continuing to take him on walks, even though the vet advised against it, considering we're in an area without many stray dogs, and the dogs that are around, have owners who live near us, and therefore must be vaccinated.", "summary": "We just trained our dog scratch at the door to take him out, but now the vet says he has to stay inside for 3 weeks - not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3tffsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] Strongly suspect a woman [F20s] I barely know is an abusive relationship", "post": "A couple months ago I exchanged numbers with a woman who works in my building. We tried to set up a date but couldn't work out a time that worked for both of us, so other than grabbing breakfast together once and seeing each other in the lobby/elevator often we haven't spent any time together. \n\nWe had still been texting until a month ago. I had asked if she wanted to grab breakfast again and she texted back saying \"my boyfriend doesn't want me to talk to you anymore,\" which is fair, I didn't know she was in a relationship and my intention wasn't to be just friends, so I just said ok and left it at that. \n\nI don't want this to be too long so here are the things I've seen that worry me:\n\n1. Boyfriend waits for her at elevators at lunch time every day, heard him go off on her for being late once\n\n2. We've only been in the same elevator twice before today since all of this but both times she had obviously just been crying\n\n3. She used to take breaks to hang out with coworkers and friends, never see her with them anymore\n\n4. Most importantly, when I saw her this morning, she had what looked like a bruise from being choked around her neck. \n\nI realize that this probably doesn't seem like much, and the bruise could be explained by kinky sex some people have, but together it raises some red flags. I know someone who was in an abusive relationship before and this seems really similar to what she went through. \n\nPart of me thinks I should say something to her, but I'm not sure it's my place to and I feel I should respect her no contact request. I don't know her very well. Also if I'm wrong I'll come off as a huge jackass. But I also worry that if she doesn't have any friends anymore, she has no one to talk to about it.", "summary": "I suspect a girl I barely know might be in an abusive relationship. Not sure if I should say something to her, she doesn't seem to have friends anymore."}
{"id": "t3_ufp3e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the strangest way somebody has intruded on a private moment of yours? I'll start.", "post": "About a week ago, my SO and I were watching a movie in his bedroom and doing a little less-than-innocent cuddling, when out of nowhere, one of our acquaintances walks in and sits down on the couch across from us. She then proceeds to stare at the both of us unblinkingly, and then say, \"You couldn't hear me knocking, so I just came in. Your house is really easy to break into.\"\n\nShe continued to stare at us for another five minutes, sometimes asking us questions about what we were watching and why we weren't talking to her. Then she started reading (what I assumed was) fanfiction on her phone and laughing obnoxiously every few minutes. After that, she fell asleep and stayed there for a good ten minutes before waking up, checking her watch and leaving.\n\nI felt uncomfortable about kicking her out since it wasn't my house, and my SO is too non-confrontational to even protest. We both agreed later that we should have thrown her out, though. We've had some trouble with her before, but this was the weirdest things have ever been.", "summary": "A girl broke into my SO's house for the sole purpose of interrupting sexytimes with awkward staring"}
{"id": "t3_3txm0k", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "What do I [f39] do about my abusive sister in law [f60] over Christmas?", "post": "The sister of my partner is an abusive bully towards her mother an my partner.  At *every* (and I mean every) family gathering that I've attended over the past 13 years (roughly 2 a year, so 26 in total), she has arrived in a foul mood, verbally and publically harassed and humiliated her mother, and done the same to my partner.  After every encounter, my partner shrugs and says, \"I know, she's awful, but she's always been like this and we can't change her now\".\n\nChristmas is usually fraught, and this year, she's insisted on hosting it at her place.  In the past, I've declined going because I'd rather avoid feeling livid post-celebration. But this year, my partner tells me that if I miss the day, his mother will be heartbroken (she's 80) and I'm pretty sure he'll be upset as well. \n\nWhat have you done in the past to help the situation?", "summary": "My sister-in-law is verbally abusive towards her mother and it drives me nuts.  I can't stand watching it happen over xmas. What have you done in a similar situation?"}
{"id": "t3_qgeap", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, urgently need your help.", "post": "Okay so my friend got her phone stolen, Iphone 4s, to be specific. that shit is obviously expensive as fuck so you can imagine her anger right now. We've got an idea as to who it is who stole it. You know, those gangster-wannabes-who-nobody-in-the-school-has-respect-for type? Yeah so, this isn't the first time they've stolen a phone, and they plan on selling it, like the other phones they've stolen. \nSo these guys are two years older than us, but we've got a friend -let's name her Laura- whose boyfriend is in that group. She keeps feeding my friend all this bullshit that her boyfriend fed her about supposedly not ever having it. Also stuff about how they \"picked it up but then put it back down because it was too heaty\"\n But as another of my friends passed by -let's call this one Caroline- they told her to tell Laura that they don't have it anymore. \nShe left her phone on the bench in the gym for *less*  5 minutes before realizing that she didn't have it, and when coming back, it wasn't there. There's no way that they picked it up, put it back down and some other people came and stole it in those few minutes. There were plenty of people in her P.E. class scattered in that whole area and there must have been *someone* who saw them take it.\nSo I really shortened the story because I've forgotten a lot of the details, but that's the main idea. She keeps trying to call it but it always seems to be turned off so she can't use that tracking app either. \nIt's also possible that they've already sold it, but we're hoping they haven't. \nShe's gone to the vice-principle but he says he can't do anything unless she has evidence, but clearly she can't prove much.  \nSo I'm asking you how to handle this situation?", "summary": "friend got phone stolen, we've got an idea of who has it but don't know how to get it back. "}
{"id": "t3_y135b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a final for my summer class tomorrow and I thought I'd ask everyone:  What are/were you're pre- college final routines?", "post": "Some story.  My freshman year of college first semester I took this extremely difficult linear algebra class.  I was between an F-D all semester but arrogant me would just say after every bad test \"Ah I'll figure it out, I don't need to drop.\"  Well it came to the night before the final (a Friday and my first college final) and I still didn't fucking get it.  So I said fuck it and went out and got shit faced with my friends.  I woke up the next morning hung over as all hell and went to take my test.  Low and behold I aced the fucking thing and got a B+ in a class I thought I might fail. I now go drinking the night before every final.  And it keeps working.", "summary": "Was bombing freshman math class.  Got messed up night before final.  Aced it.  Now I do it the night before every final."}
{"id": "t3_41l2rw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I was over a stomach bug", "post": "This was about half a year ago now and I was on holiday for the first time in a foreign country with my relatively new boyfriend. We were away for 5 days, and on the second day I had caught a horrendous stomach bug. I had to spend 3 days in our hotel room because I was constantly throwing up. \n\nOn the first day my boyfriend went out to buy me something to make me feel better and due to a misunderstanding nearly got arrested with no way to contact me, but that's another story. \n\nAfter spending most of the holiday inside, on the second to last day I was insistent that I was feeling better and wanted to go out and go to the beach. We went out, and when we were about a ten minute walk away from the hotel I suddenly had the horribly nauseous feeling appear in my belly again. My boyfriend tried to help me back to the hotel ASAP but before we could get there I collapsed on the floor in the middle of this busy street and threw up everywhere. And I mean everywhere. It was all down my clothes, in my hair and covering the floor. Everyone was staring at us and even police officers came over and started questioning me because they thought I was drunk while my boyfriend was just standing behind this vomit-covered, crying girl lying on the floor.", "summary": "Thought I was over a stomach bug. Ended up collapsed in a busy street puking everywhere while police questioned me"}
{"id": "t3_41tnf9", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "My Favorite", "post": "Throwaway just in case...\n\nBackstory: I teach at a very uppity, private primary school that gets to boast about being one of the top in the country (*not America*). Despite the little snotty shits here and there, it's not that bad. I love the students. The other teachers and admin drive me up a wall, however. They are very pedantic when correcting the student's speech. This is fine by me for the most part because it is a school, after all. Some things that they correct, however, are not really Grammar rules but more stylistic choices. (Yes, language allows for these.)\n\nThe revenge: Last week Wednesday the school was being particularly insufferable and made the students sing a song over and over in morning assembly because they kept pronouncing a certain word \"wrong\". This kept us in the courtyard for around 20 minutes extra. Making me lose out on precious teaching time. I was livid and decided to exact my revenge. I did the only thing I could think of...I gave my class **favorite** as one of their spelling words for next week. HA!", "summary": "Made my students learn *favorite* instead of *favourite* to stick it to the school."}
{"id": "t3_2ftcvu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by describing Raiders jerseys", "post": "So this happened a couple of weeks ago.\n\nSo I'm from Seattle, but I go to college in the Bay Area. I've been a fan of the Seattle Seahawks for my entire life, and they were coming down to Oakland for a preseason game against the Raiders! I found tickets online for around $10, and three of my friends and I decide to go. \n\nI'm super excited to see my team, obviously. And as we get on the train, I notice that not everyone is excited to see the same team I was. McFadden, Carr, and Ray Guy jerseys (among others), fill the train car.\n\nAs we approach the Coliseum (the Raiders' ugly-ass stadium) we're shooting the shit, talking about classes, and so on. All of a sudden, one of my friends, Thomas (name changed) turns around and points at the skybridge, saying \"I wonder how many Seahawks fans are out there?\" I looked at the skybridge and the huge number of Raiders jerseys, and dropped this gem:\n\n>**They must be Raiders fans, they're all black**\n\nI didn't quite realize what I had said for a moment. Then, it clicked.\n\n> WEARING BLACK. WEARING BLACK! LIKE THE JERSEYS!\n\nA couple of Seahawks fans in front of me started laughing, while this massive, 6'7 (i'm 6'4\") black guy in a raiders jersey slowly turned around and raided an eyebrow. I thought I was going to get stabbed right there. \n\nOn top of all that, the Hawks lost that meaningless preseason game.", "summary": "They must be Raiders fans, they're all black*"}
{"id": "t3_3evqzq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's wrong with me, or with her?", "post": "We are both 18. We've been online friends for some years.\n\nIn the past we talked like daily, but recently she just don't want to talk sometimes. It's like one week she wants to talk and then next week she doesn't.\n\nIn the past it didn't happen, this is a recent thing, it started some months ago.\n\nWhen I ask her, she says she is okay and she isn't angry with me. But she is more rude in this days when she doesn't want to talk.\n\nNow I know she doesn't have many things to do, so I'd say being busy isn't a reason to not talk with me. She might have to do some things, but in the days she want to talk those things aren't a impediment.\n\nThis isn't also because she just wants to make me go away, somebody told me that here in the past and my friend started talking with me some days after no contact.\n\nI know this sounds needy, but I just can't understand it. If she always did it, okay that would be normal, but it started now. And we had arguments before this started so that makes me think she still feels bad but she doesn't want to tell.", "summary": "my friend doenst want to talk sometimes, what happens?"}
{"id": "t3_1op1mn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 3yrs, taking a break", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been in a great relationship for over 6 years. A few months ago he had to go away for work, and so we figured we'd do the long distance thing (chat, phone, etc). I can't really visit him often because of the distance. Things were ok at first, i mean it sucked to have him so far away, but we talked and chatted a lot. Now more recently, he seemed to get distant emotionally. Today he calls me up and seems sad, once we start talking about us.. he basically says let's take a break from each other, I don't understand whats going on with us. This was really hard for me to take, and I want to call him right now, but am trying to do the break thing, really not sure how to handle this. My girlfriends are trying to help, but most of them have never been in a long relationship.", "summary": "Boyfriend is away for awhile, called me to tell me he wants to take a break."}
{"id": "t3_hkbuc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are parents afraid to punish their children these days?  Where did this fear come from?", "post": "Let me begin with a short anecdote: This evening, at my place of work, I was taking orders at the cash register when a woman approached with two small children.  The one child seemed discontented and kept shrieking his order at me after his mother originally said it, then he noticed the bakery items that we sell and began screaming about those.  She made no effort to silence him.  As he yelled about wanting \"treats,\" he started to punch his mother in the breast.  Yes.  He fucking punched her in the boob, multiple times, and she didn't react.  At all.  It was like she barely registered the pain.  It was like she was so used to giving in to her child's requests that she had no nerve endings.  Oh yeah, and she bought him a brownie and a cinnamon roll.  After he punched her.\n\nSeriously.  Why don't parents these days punish their kids, or at least teach them common courtesy and respect?  When I was young, my parents would have told me to stop acting up, and that would be that.", "summary": "A woman let her kid punch her in the boob and then bought him sweets.  Are parents really that afraid to deny or punish children?"}
{"id": "t3_41rrda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M/F] with my friend [20 F] 5 years. We used to text everyday and suddenly she stopped texting me back.", "post": "A little background: I am not very social and she is.  Never dated each other and did not want to.  We were almost immediately great friends.  I have always been nice to her and supported her in the things she has done.  \n\nMy friend, let's call her Blake, and I used to text everyday from the beginning of freshmen year of high school until our first semester in college.  When I say everyday I honestly mean everyday.  We would talk about a large range of topics (class to very personal stuff).  Then, on some random day, she stopped replying to me and has never contacted me again.  I have wished her happy holidays, birthday, etc and nothing.  Really I just want opinions on why this may be.  I guess I just miss having that really close friend that I could talk to about anything.", "summary": "My closest and best friend initiated radio silence and has cut all contact with me and I just want to why or what I can do to get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1dcix8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Sublet and deposit issues. Boston.", "post": "Hello /r/legaladvice!\n\nI posted before asking about my landlord.\n \n\nSituation's done and I've moved out, however, now, the person I'm subletting from is refusing to give me back my deposit until he gets his deposit back.  I don't know about his situation and his deposit, but I gave him a few notices saying that I've returned my keys, and it's been 30 days, and I expect a check.  His response is that since he has not received his check, he will not give me my deposit until he receives his.\n\nWhat are my options here?  Do I wait?  What's also troubling is that he is from out of the country, and he is going back home (the middle east, I think) for the summer, so this part slightly worries me.", "summary": "rented a sublet illegally without knowing, moved out after the landlord told me to leave, returned my keys, and original renter is not returning my deposit as he supposedly didn't get his deposit."}
{"id": "t3_3oj6fg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [26M] of a few months has suspcious cuts on his legs", "post": "Hi r/relationships,\n\nI recently started dating a GREAT guy. He is thoughtful, interesting, intelligent, and has the biggest heart of anyone that I know. I am so happy and lucky to say that I genuinely mean that. I do not consider this a flaw per se but It's very clear to me that he has pretty severe anxiety. He can get very tense and stressed at times and I feel like there is often no way that I can help. I lay with him and rub his back while he vents but I'm not sure if there's more that I should be doing. \n\nA few nights ago I noticed some cuts on his upper thighs. They weren't exactly fresh wounds but they definitely weren't old enough to have been there since before we started dating. I didn't say anything (because I didn't want to kill the moment or make him uncomfortable) but I'm not sure if it's my place to say anything. Should I wait until he comes to me? Or should I speak up? He is open with me about his anxiety, so it wouldn't be completely out of left field to talk about this with him. I care about him so unbelievably much and I don't want to make him any more stressed or uncomfortable than he already is. I'm not sure how to handle this.", "summary": "I noticed cuts on my boyfriends legs. They are clean lines and do not at all look like an accident. Not sure how to address it."}
{"id": "t3_1ttf94", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making my very first paper crane.", "post": "This was years ago when I was in high school. I always liked origami, but it took me a while to come up with the idea of finally making the famous paper crane. So during a useless computer class (that was sooo easy, and we could do other stuff if we're done with our work), I looked up the instructions and memorized them.\n\nWhen I had access to paper during the next class (I think this was a boring math class I read books in and still aced), I decided to make it. It took about half the class to figure it out and remember all the instructions. (It turns out that I forgot one of the last steps for years, so my crane's wings were triangles, and the head/neck and tail were larger.)\n\nI took it with me for the rest of the day; I admired the little guy.\n\nThen came a class near the end of the day with an interesting reading teacher. I usually liked him...until this day. While we were writing something in our notebooks or journals or whatever, he walks by our desks nonchalantly. When he got to mine, he grabbed and crumbled my poor little creation--my first crane. He had a scowl on his face as he repeatedly crumbled it and threw it away.\n\nSince we were supposed to be quiet, I decided to say nothing. My only guess as to why he did such a thing was that he lacked the common knowledge that origami does not mean \"paper plane.\" At the end of that school year, most of my nice teachers got a paper crane from me (and also a little piece of coal during Christmastime =P). But not him. I even gave one to the student teacher that substituted for him in the last half of the year.", "summary": "A reading teacher destroyed my poor paper crane."}
{"id": "t3_3d6s25", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get out of the train", "post": "A little back story?\nI live in Singapore, a small Asian country with very heavy crowds in the train station in the morning. \nI'm a Indian student with mild social anxiety. \n\nThe story: \nAs usual, I was going to school via the train. A lady was blocking my path as I was alighting the train. Said \"excuse me\" and the lady didn't budge. Said it a bit louder and she started to scold me in Chinese. Knowing most of the vulgarities in Chinese(another TIFU), I heard the most severe on come out of her mouth. By then, people were starting to look at me as if I was Satan and had decided to kill their family. To worsen the problem, the doors had closed and had to bear with the stares for another 5 minutes. \n\nInternally dying right now", "summary": "asked lady who was blocking the path to give way, got called a pushy and the spawn of Satan"}
{"id": "t3_332wqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Boyfriend [25 M] 6 months, feel like I'm trapping him by being too busy.", "post": "Let me preface this by saying that this is our first relationship, for both of us.\n\nI'm a collegiate student-athelte engineering major with aspirations for med school. I've been scraping by with a lack-luster GPA for a while but have been doing much more work to up my grades this last quarter, but I'm absolutely exhausted by the end of the week (I slept 11 hours yesterday, because TGIF). I tried having a nice night out with him, but I crashed at around 6:00 pm when we planned to be out for at least an hour more. \n\nThe BF and I recently had a conversation that he feels like he's not \"growing\" in the relationship, and that the relationship has stagnated. He has requested that we spice things up more in the relationship, but I feel like I just don't have the energy to commit more. I was loving the relationship prior to this discussion. We have lovely conversations and click very well emotionally and physically. However, now I have serious doubts about whether it will last or not. \n\nMy question to you, Reddit, is what to do? Do I ask him to level with me? Find some simple way to spice it up? I don't want to just keep going as it is because I feel like he won't be happy.", "summary": "Busy Schedule, Boyfriend wants more, but too exhausted to commit to it. What do I say??"}
{"id": "t3_3nna5f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I had an abusive girlfriend 17/f who recently cheated on me 19/m, why do I still love her?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, which is my longest relationship. Over the course of those two years I fell in love, things seemed great but gradually over time my girlfriend started to become cold and abusive. There were times she would smack me across the face or tell me she hates me and I would still be there for her. She would isolate me from my friends and completely manipulate me. I tried and tried to win her affection which she would oblige for a week or so and then go back to her dastardly ways, leaving me to try to earn back her love. Whenever I would come to my senses and I would tell her it's over she would say that if I ever left her that she would kill herself. So I stayed and continued trying so hard to just make her happy. Then last month I got let go from my job and couldn't afford my school tuition any more. I told my girlfriend that we had to take a break, just to get my mind together, so we could make our relationship better. Over the next week she left me for some other guy, blocked me from everything and acts like I did something wrong to her. I don't know what to think or how to feel and I'm experiencing this weird cocktail of anger, frustration, and sadness. The sad thing, I still love her. How do I move on from this, guys? And even though she's taken me for granted and treated me so poorly, why do I still love her so damn much?", "summary": "I was in an abusive relationship, girlfriend cheated on me, I still love the girl. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_34hyae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My little brother [16M] and I [18M] are going to talk to our step dad about his destructive drinking. Advice?", "post": "*Clarification on the use of \"step dad\". He's my mother's ex-boyfriend who is a longstanding father figure for my little brother and I since our biological father died. For the purposes of this I will say \"step dad\"*\n\nMy brother called me tonight to tell me that he and my mom went to bring my step dad some cake from dinner out and found him nearly drunk to death. He is usually not super drunk because of work in the morning but for some reason tonight he was really far gone. \nWhen my brother called it sounded like he almost watched him die tonight. \n\nMy brother and I have decided that we need to talk to him about this. Our mom (25 years sober recovering alcoholic) often has talked to him about it to the point that the words, \"your mom's pissed at me again\" becoming commonplace when he's had anything to drink. \n\nNormally, it's not too bad. He drinks occasionally, but not too much. He's not fun to be around drunk but hey, who is? Tonight is the first time I've been scared (to tears) for his health on my own accord, without the bias of my mother and her alcoholism lectures.\n\nMy brother and I's thought is that if **we** talk to him he might listen and take our concern as valid as opposed to our mom's constant \"nagging\".\n\n*SO*. What tips do you guys have for talking to my step dad so that he will take or concerns to heart? Any tips? Do's and don'ts? Any advice or personal examples are appreciated. Thanks so much!", "summary": "My brother and I are staging an intervention for our step dad. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_36osdw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting the wrong person", "post": "So as usual this did not happen today but rather a few months ago and still renders me cringey every time I think of it.\n\nSo basically here's me, introvert, don't talk much, texting my mate and this fairly good looking girl, let's call her T and my mate IFU. \n\nIFU likes T, but I'm kinda sorta getting into T too. So me and IFU are talking about how hot T is and (from the assumption that T and IFU chat regularly) I send IFU a text asking whether T has any bikini pictures on Instagram or whatnot. Unknowingly I send this to T herself. \n\n*Enter full cringe mode*\n\nI instantaneously apologize to T and told her I meant to send it to IFU, meanwhile I spam IFU to help me out here (because T and IFU are pretty tight at this point) and he comes to save the day. He makes up some kind of story that I can't remember due to post dramatic stress disorder kicking in right after the experience.\n\nI seldom chat to women on social media. Since the experience this has become an even rarer phenomenon, so rare in fact it should be guarded by heavily armed men as it's an endangered species of happenings.", "summary": "wanted some T but had to disappoint my British side."}
{"id": "t3_4v1boc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a job interview", "post": "So today began my search for a new job to follow my years University placement. I'd applied to a few local shops for part time work and got a call back from a WHSmith in an airport inviting me to an interview. I cleared the time off with my placement manager and emailed the guy saying I'd be there at 4pm\n\nDo my research, get suited and booted and drive out to the airport that the store is in, even arriving extra early to avoid rush hour traffic. I walks up to the till full of confidence and ask the cashier if I can speak to Stephen the manager as I've an interview with him. I'm met with a worrying blank stare, she calls over someone else who proceeds to inform me that the manager I had the interview with worked in a store almost 40 miles away in another Airport....", "summary": "always read the job description or else your interview might be in another Castle! (or in my case airport)"}
{"id": "t3_3clvmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my Dad [43 M], he bought a gun but I feel like he is not being safe with it.", "post": "There were a few break-ins into cars and stuff in our neighborhood. My Dad decided that he wanted to buy a gun to protect the family in case of emergency. So he went out and bought a handgun. As far as I can tell, it's registered and legal. But the gun is making me very nervous and from what I looked up he isn't treating it like he should.\n\n1. He doesn't know how to shoot and doesn't want to learn \u2013 he says in case of emergency that his aim will be automatic and \"the adrenaline will get him through it\".\n2. He keeps it fully loaded all the time. I am the oldest in our house, my brother is 12 and my sister is 14, I'm worried they could just pick it up and accidentally shoot. \n3. He doesn't have a case for it and keeps it wherever he wants. He likes to keep in clean and loaded in case of emergency or whatever and leaves it lying on his nightstand, coffee tables, etc. \n\nAm I wrong to feel like this is unsafe? I tried to talk to him about it and he twisted it into me being an anti gun person and accused me of being brainwashed by Obama. He doesn't want to shoulder the extra expense of buying a case or a safe for it either, and he is very absentminded about where he leaves stuff anyway. I just want him to take proper safety precautions. Our Mom isn't in the picture so I have to figure this out. What do I do? How do I make him understand my feelings? Am I being overdramatic?", "summary": "My Dad bought a gun. I feel like he's not being safe about it and I'm worried about an accident. What should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_4923p4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my wife [30F] of 3 years, she has confidence and self-esteem issues, I really want to help her.", "post": "So my wife is a really happy, genuine outgoing person, always the life of the party, but secretly has terrible self-confidence and self-esteem issues that I feel really get her down.  She is really hard on herself for her appearance, she is a normal height and weight, and honestly is just beautiful IMO.\n\nDespite this she always puts herself down,  saying that she is fat and unattractive, that she wishes she was beautiful for me and stuff like that.  It really hurts me when I hear her say these things,  so I decided that maybe I could help her in some different ways other than trying to positively compliment her whenever I can.\n\nNow for me, exercising has improved my confidence greatly over the last year, so I thought I could try to encourage her in some way to start doing something similar, whether it be boot camp classes or yoga or something similar.  Would it come off rude if I just bought lessons for her?  She could possibly take it wrong?\n\nWhat would you guys and gals do?  Or if you've been in my situation what have you done?\n\nShould I consider even talking to her about attending therapy?  I could go with her if she's ok with it?\n\nI just want to help her,  I battled years of similar feelings myself and used a mixture of things to help myself, I just don't know how to translate that experience for her if that makes sense?", "summary": "Wife has self-esteem and self-confidence issues, need help to help her."}
{"id": "t3_wg4g1", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Pet of the Year Contest! (Please help!)(w/ Pics!)", "post": "Hi r/Dogs!\n\nHere is the deal.\n\nThrough a series of unusual events, my friend Rene has inherited a Great Dane named Goofball. The dog is absolutely wonderful, but he is also HUGE and eats a TON. Rene loves Goofball with all of his heart, he is his best friend, but Goofball's eating needs are breaking the bank for Rene.\n\nIf Rene can win this Pet of the Year contest (follow the link), he will get free dog food for Goofball for an entire year. He has been trying to increase his votes organically with his Facebook network, but he still has not been able to get in the running for first place.\n\nIf we can get r/Dogs to cast a few 100 to a few thousand votes, Rene should get far enough into the lead that no one will be able to catch up.\n\nI know r/Dogs isn't our \"personal army\", but it would mean so much to me and be an absolute life/pocket-book saver for Rene and Goofball.\n\nHere is a pic of Rene with Goofball: \n\nHere is a pic of just Goofball: \n\nTo vote, click on the link, you will have to \"like\" the facebook page, then scroll down to about 3rd-5th place and find Goofball (w/ Rene) and cast your vote. You can vote once a day.\n\nHere is the link also: \n\nHelp us r/Dogs, you are our only hope.", "summary": "my friend needs vote to help him win Pet of the Year!"}
{"id": "t3_15479u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do I [28M] follow up with the pretty lady[28f], or have I been rejected?", "post": "So I bumped into someone I grew up with (we were never close, but our social circles intersected) a few weeks ago.  There has always been a connection between the two of us, but nothing ever happened because one or both of us had always been in another relationship.\n\nAnyway, I haven't seen here in like 6 or 7 years.  She is fucking gorgeous, and super successful.  \n\nI had heard from mutual friends that she had been asking about me a few months ago.  When we bumped into each other, she took down my email address and sent me her number. She was extremely forward about me following up with her.\n\nI replied to her email a day or 2 later trying to setup dinner plans for later in the week.  She had to leave town for a wedding, so we needed to reschedule for the following week.  Her email back was super effusive and positive.\n\nA week or so later I email her again to nail down dinner plans.  That was over a week ago, and I haven't heard back from her. I know she is busy, so there is an EXTREMELY slight chance she missed the email, but I wouldn't bet on it.\n\nShould I send her a text, or just drop it?", "summary": "Pretty lady was extremely forward/positive about us reconnecting, didn't respond to my dinner date request."}
{"id": "t3_1pn3sn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does true forgiveness actually exist?", "post": "So i'll try to be as brief as I can. The long and short of it is that I dated a girl for six years, we had a baby (beautiful little girl), made my best friend the godfather. She and I were having problems in our relationship and my \"best friend\" of 20 years was spending more time with her, claiming he was trying to help us figure things out for the good of our daughter. Well, as I'm sure you've guessed by now, they're dating. He lives there, with my daughter, and he and I no longer speak.He lied to me all along and at one point had me apologizing for accusing him of doing something I never could've imagined he'd do. It's been almost a year and it still haunts me. Her and him, him spending more time with my daughter, his enabling my ex to hurt me immensely and his betrayal of our friendship. I know I need to focus on my daughter, and I do. I spend time and never speak ill of either of them to her. My question is not so much how to forgive him, like any mourning situation i know it takes time. My question, is it even possible? What is ACTUAL forgiveness? I will never be able to sit and talk with him or call him for advice again. I often see mothers of murder victims say they've forgiven the person who did it, I don't believe them. Maybe in a religious sense they have , whatever the hell that means, but you cant tell me that the majority of those people would sit with the killer and spend meaningful friendly conversation. Venting right now because she is trying to shorten my time with her on Halloween so she can take her trick or treating with him and his friends, its sickening.", "summary": "Can a person truly forgive someone who has hurt them deeply? What does forgiveness \"look\" like in that situation?"}
{"id": "t3_54fotg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my Wife's[28F] friend[27F] cheating on her husband[30M]", "post": "I have to use a throwaway for this. My wife's(Angela) good friend(Stacey) is cheating on her husband(Adam) with mutual friend.\n\nStacey calls my wife up and to tell her about a threesome she engaged in with another married couple. She asked not to tell anyone, including me. Adam and Stacey are close friends with another married couple, Amanda and Brad. Well Amanda and Brad asked Stacey if she would be willing to have a threesome with them. She agreed and when through with it without Adam knowing.\n\nNow Stacey is having an affair with Brad without Amanda and Adam knowing. It's been going on for some time now and I really want to let Adam know but can't because Angela is supposedly the only person that knows about this.", "summary": "Wife's friend cheating on her husband and I want to let him know but don't know how to tell him covertly."}
{"id": "t3_fcpax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible to still retrieve my email from a pdf after using a stamping tool?", "post": "I recently purchased a text book for one of my classes online. To my dismay the book was in .spdf format. After some trial and error i was finally able to convert all of it to regular pdf files. Quite frankly I was pissed at the fact that in its original format, I was not even able to view the book on school computers as I did not have the permissions to install the needed software.\n\nOkay great, so its in pdf format, but having my email address on the top of every single page discouraged me possibly sharing with classmates who would also like to have a digital copy in addition to their already purchased hard copy.\n\nMy email address was in the upper-left corner of every page. Can any redditor please help me verify my email address cannot be extracted from the file? (I can still use the mouse to select the text behind the stamp but it shows as random characters when copy/pasted).\n\n\\*Link Removed\\", "summary": "I'd like to avoid any possible legal troubles if this fell into the wrong hands. Help ease my worries?"}
{"id": "t3_2e7s1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am very much in love with my girlfriend [21 F] of 3 years but she is unhappy, and it is making me miserable.", "post": "I really love my girlfriend, but she is unhappy with our situation. We have lived together for about a year now.. I make roughly 30,000 do contract labor so I'm gone during the day. She lost her job 3 months ago so money is pretty tight and she has grown tired of staying at home. She never talks to me anymore except when she is angry or upset. She is tired of our financial situation and tired of living in Seattle. She wants to move to Denver, but I simply can't afford to. I have brought up the idea of us breaking it off for the time being and getting back together in the future, but she said that was a terrible idea, and now if we broke it off It would never work. \n\nI am so miserable but I don't know what to do. I don't make enough to put either of us through therapy and things just keep getting worse.\n\nWhen is enough, enough?", "summary": "I can't live with my girlfriend, but I can't live without her."}
{"id": "t3_4vh68h", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Odometer inconsistent on carfax", "post": "Ok. So long story short. Went to trade in a 2013 CRV I bought in Ohio last year on a new vehicle. It had been acting up and the transmission shuddered, battery died, actually and heating was going out. Basically just thought it was a shit luck car. \n\nDealer comes back with the carfax and shows me that on two occasions the dealer I had purchased the car from had shown the milage well above what it was stated at purchased the car, and what the odometer now reads. \n\nThese errors were not fat finger number swaps but wholly different numbers that increased milage by 30k a month for two months. \n\nNeedless to say the dealer didn't want to take the trade on the car with the discrepancies and said this significantly devalued the trade in to a point he wouldn't be able to sell it.", "summary": "My question is if I can show the dealer who sold me the car knew that they themselves had entered in the two higher mileage reports to carfax as they pulled a car fax for all of their vehicles but willfully did not show me the page with the discrepancy. Then sold me the the car without disclosing that they knew that they created a mileage discrepancy on the odometer disclosure sheet is there any legal recourse?"}
{"id": "t3_yykk0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need some advice on a long distance relationship", "post": "I was mostly miserable throughout high school. No girlfriend, friends that drifted away eventually and some other things. I am very introverted and shy and it is hard for me to meet people. But this past summer, I started dating one of my longtime friends, somewhat spontaneously. This was the happiest period of my life. We just work for each other. When we talk, no subject is ever off the table and we are always able to work things out without getting mad at each other.\n\nNeither of us live in the town where we went to high school (south texas). I go to a large in state public university. I am an engineering student and I will have good prospects if I graduate on my current plan. However, I don't know that this is what I want with my life. I don't want to waste four years doing something for which I have no passion. She goes to an Ivy league school in the northeast. If anything, her prospects are even better than mine. I could never transfer there, I don't have the money and I don't want to ruin my life with student loan debt.\n\nI will see her at Thanksgiving, Christmas break and during the summer. We Skype almost every night and are doing everything we can to make this work. Before we moved away, we talked and decided that staying together was the only option that was acceptable to both of us. The thing is, being away is unbearable. My motivation has gone to shit and all of my unoccupied time is spent thinking about her. I really need some help on this. What can I do to make this work?", "summary": "With a girl who makes me very happy, trying to make it work long distance"}
{"id": "t3_29j5v2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help for sister in law[F20], true loves first real heartbreak.", "post": "My sister in law just got dumped by her boyfriend of 2 years almost 3. They had plans of marriage (promise ring/engagement ring ) and a life together according to her. They were having problems and took a 3 days break from contacting each other. After 3 days,they got back together and everything seemed fine for a week. Then out of the blue he said he no longer loved her and ended the relationship. (Don't know any more details than this) \n\nAnyways I need help telling her how to cope, how to not spiral into a depression (she is already showing strong signs of not eating, lack of ability to do much of anything, lack of interest etc ) any and all serious advice please. I've never been through a heart break to this extent, i don't know what to say to help. I know being there for her yada yada i get that, something more substantial to say other than I'm sorry and it will get better would be nice.", "summary": "sister in law's first true love heartbreak, need help comforting her "}
{"id": "t3_2r6ytu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tripping a blind kid, and then accidentally kicking him in the face", "post": "This happened a few years ago ago. I'm 19 now, I was 17 then and I was at a charity walk for the blind, because my mom's boyfriend's mother has macular degeneration.\n\nAnyway, I was walking, and I was playing with a white cane because I'm a juvenile. i was swinging it around recklessly while walking through a sort-of-dense crowd, when I felt it hit something and I felt a thud (we were walking on the docks of a beach, so I could feel it) a poor kid, could not have been more than 7 or 8 years old, was on the ground and had broken his glasses. I felt bad, and I quickly ran over, but I slipped on the wet dock and I could not stop myself from sliding into him, with my shoes meeting his face. His mother, whose hand he was holding, was yelling at me and I deserved it.", "summary": "Played with a cane because I wanted to be cool. Was called \"worse than Hitler\" by a woman wearing a Star of David necklace."}
{"id": "t3_12i1c6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Redditors have experience with chronic pain or chronic fatigue? I'm trying to come up with a way to \"force\" myself out of bed in the morning and back into a normal life.", "post": "I am so tired of being exhausted and in pain every single day. Are there any chronic pain or chronic fatigue Redditors out there that have found a way to get a \"normal\" life back? Or does anyone have tips on how I can \"force\" myself to get out of bed every morning, despite hurting and feeling dead tired all of the time?\n\nI won't go into my long medical history or specifics, but I have had a chronic nerve damage condition called vulvodyndia for the last six years. It's an affliction of the pudendal nerve, and I am in constant pain 24/7.  I've tried countless therapies and medications. The system I'm using right now, and has been the best so far; it is lots of physical therapy, lots of meditation, and I manage the rest of the pain with opioids prescribed by my doctor. On one hand, I am happy because this is the best I have been in six years, but on the other hand I am miserable because I am still hurting a lot all of the time and it is completely exhausting. Equally annoying, is the fact that I am insurmountably tired every single day! I have been known to sleep for 48 hours straight when I get really worn out. I don't really have someone that can come into my room every day keep nagging me until I actually get up. Plus, I need to learn how to do this on my own. \n\nI was so vibrant and full of energy before this illness. I felt like I was unstoppable and had my whole life ahead of me. I just want my normal life back. I am scared that I will never be able to have a real career, kids, or achieve any of my major life goals. Is there anybody out there with a chronic illness, chronic pain condition, or chronic fatigue that has figured out how to move on and live a happy, normal adult life?", "summary": "I have nerve damage and I'm hurting and dead tired ALL of the time. Any tips on how I can try to get a normal life back? Any tips on how to force myself to get out of bed even though I am still completely exhausted after a full night of sleep?"}
{"id": "t3_jl5co", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Following girlfriend to graduate school.", "post": "Well, here's the long version. We're both 21, met freshman year of college, first serious relationship for both of us. Dating over two and a half years now. I have no desire to be with someone else, and while we have our share of issues (I tend to get jealous more than I should but I just about always internalize it, for instance), I can't imagine being with anyone else, and I think she feels the same way. Whenever I think \"college\" or \"bay area\" (where we go to school), I instantly think of her. The ideas are one in the same in my mind.\n\nWell, we're both on track to go to grad school, but she's much brighter than I am. She tests better, studies more, works harder. She'll undoubtedly (at least, in my mind) get into her top choice, Columbia, while my chances are likely to be quite a bit lower than hers. My question comes to: should I follow her to NYC? It's a tough choice. I really want to, and I think I'd love it there, but sometimes I feel as if I'm too young to tie myself down like that, if only because that's what people in their 30s and beyond tend to advise.\n\nI'm also starting to question what I'd like to do after college, and have been thinking about foregoing graduate school for some work experience, and then maybe even law or business school instead of normal PhD school (we're both science majors - chemistry/biochemistry and the like). It's hard to be straight with myself with what I really, really want to do, because it might just happen that might be damaging for our relationship. Long distance is definitely out of the question, since PhDs tend to last five years or more. Just not possible for us.\n\nThis whole thing is leading to a massive anxiety that I fear won't even begin to be alleviated until after admissions results come in, which is at least 6 months away. Wat do?", "summary": "follow GF to grad school to a location I'd be totally happy to go to?"}
{"id": "t3_22o91s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] with [25M] of 2 weeks. It's just been intense intimate love making. How do I get to know him now?", "post": "I've started sleeping with this amazing guy and our sexual chemistry is out of this world, mind blowing good. For reasons unbeknownst to me we are incredibly comfortable and intimate and loving in the bedroom. We both recognise that it's like we've skipped 6 months ahead sexually though we've only been seeing each other 2 weeks. \n\nIm concerned about the massive imbalance now that we've agreed to date and be exclusive. We know each other so intimately in one way, but out of the bedroom we are essentially still acquaintances. The chemistry doesn't really match up so I feel a little awkward working backwards and getting to know him on a personal level, it's a little hard to look him in the eye outside the bedroom.\n\nWe have yet to go on a date or see a movie/tv show the whole way through. It's essentially been a 2 week bang fest. I know a solution would be to force these getting-to-know-you dates, but now it feels stupid and awkward to try and force conversation after things have been so effortless otherwise.\n\nWe get a long and laugh a lot, but always in the bedroom alone. It got really weird and uncertain when we were out together socialising with mutual friends once. I hated it. Now avoiding those scenarios massively, but it's self defeating to what I want. \n\nWill it even out? How can I get to know him quickly and comfortably? I'm so damn awkward I can't stand it. Help", "summary": "new boy and I are great at sex but haven't attempted a date after 2 weeks of solid bedroom time/ salvageable?"}
{"id": "t3_3d2swr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20M] take care of my GF[18F]'s Online BF?", "post": "Yesterday right after we had sex, I saw an alarm on her computer that her online boyfriend sent! It was like 'heyy honey arn't we skyping today?'\n\n I said like 'heyy N(her name) who is this guy? are u cheating on me?'\n\n And then she said 'come on D! He's only like my online friend, u don't even spend much time with me. I feel lonely on weekdays'\n and told me that he also lives in the same city with us.\n\n As Im not a born English speaker, I really need to study way harder. I barely got no time to spend with her on weekdays. But I feel so fucking embarrassed and upset about her online BF though. What would and what did u do in this kinda situations!", "summary": "my GF has an online BF!"}
{"id": "t3_egkfi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! I need advice!", "post": "Yesterday I was told to get my mandolin and play at a friends house by my mother. I played a classical piece witch they all enjoyed, ( BRAG BRAG) and was then told to play a piece which I had written.\n\nBackground:\nIt is well known by my family that I do not enjoy playing this piece, especially in public . I am often obliged ( unwillingly ) to play this song in public, and I usually cooperate with a medium to little resistance.\n\nThe event:\nI began to warm up and noticed my mother pointing her iphone at me, obviously using it as a camera. I then asked her to please not take video and added that pictures were okay.\n\nShe continued to point the camera at me assuring me that she was only taking pictures. She continued to \"take pictures\" during the duration of the song. I made many mistakes and people were talking during the song but that was not a big deal because I thought people were only taking pictures.\n\nAfterwords I discovered that she had taken a video ( and lied to me about it ) I promptly deleted the video off of her phone.\n\nShe is now REALLY pissed at me. What do I do?\n\nI realize that deleting something off her phone is a invasion of privacy but the video was not supposed to exist and she lied about it.\n\nHELP", "summary": "My mother lied about taking video ( when she wan't supposed to) so I deleted it off her phone."}
{"id": "t3_2ikdu0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[27/f] with [26/m] husband. I get the impression that my husband doesn't care what just happened to me. Am I overreacting?", "post": "I was on the train on the way home from work, and a drunk guy tried talking to me.  I found it to be creepy, and it felt like an invasion of my personal space.  I just want to go home in peace and not be bothered by any guys whatsoever.  The guy asked me a bunch of questions including, \"Where are you getting off?\"  I gave him short, one word answers, and he eventually left me alone when he realized I wasn't going to talk.\n\nI texted my husband, \"A drunk guy tried to talk to me on the train.  But he's leaving me alone now.\"  My husband texted back, \"Shit.  Better to stay away from drunk guys.\"  Then he asked where I was and said to hurry home.\n\nIf I were in his position, I would have asked a lot more about the situation.  I would have wanted to know what the guy said to me exactly, whether the guy followed me, and how I felt after the guy bothered me.  I told my husband that I got the impression that he didn't care because of his lack of response.  But my husband said he was planning to ask me about it once I got home.  To me, this is more of an urgent situation where I would think he would want to know the details right away to assess my safety and well-being.  I also thought he should have asked me how I was feeling right away instead of waiting.\n\nAm I overreacting, or does my husband's response show that he doesn't understand how scary it is as a woman to be approached by a strange drunk man?", "summary": "I was approached by a drunk guy and found my husband's lack of concern troublesome."}
{"id": "t3_24q08h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Tough Decision", "post": "Okay here's the dealeo, I've been texting this girl since November and we've gotten pretty close. I know she likes me and would definitely say yes if I asked her out.\n\nThis is where it gets complicated, there's another girl. I've known her since kindergarten and just this year I have developed \"feelings\" for her. I have no idea if she likes me at all like that, she acts all flirty and stuff, but that's also how she treats her girlfriends.\n\nSo now I have no clue if I should go for a girl I'm not sure I really like and definitely have a chance with, or a girl I might really like and may have no choice with.", "summary": "Cute girl likes me but I'm not sure. Girl I like but I'm not sure if she likes me. Blarg."}
{"id": "t3_2kfeas", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Bf [m/21] gets overly mad at me [f/20] with little reason (together 2 yrs)", "post": "The other night my boyfriend was looking through my pictures on my phone.  He came across a picture of one of my guy friends with my friends dog at a party from about a year ago.  Ive known this friend since I was 3, it is very clear that there is nothing and has ever been anything between us, and my boyfriend has met this friend.  \nI wasnt trying to hide this photo or anything, it was a funny picture from a party a year ago.  My boyfriend got mad at me for having this picture on my phone and said if it had been my dog in the picture, he wouldve broken up with me on the spot.  \nIs this a reason for someone to get mad?  I dont know why he would get so mad about it because I cant even see whats wrong with the picture.  \nWe've never had any cheating/jealousy issues before and we rarely fight.\nAny advice on how to approach the situation? It seems like he doesnt want to talk to me at all.", "summary": "Boyfriend gets mad, I dont know why"}
{"id": "t3_2pyiaw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] text with a guy [24 M] giving mixed signals?", "post": "So, I'm a bit confused in my situation right now. I'm a college student and I am not looking for a long term relationship and I'm just having a bit of fun right now meeting new people. \n\nAbout a month ago I met this guy and we hit it off pretty well. We had a bunch of the same interests and he was really into me and we started flirting a bit. I give him my number and we text on and off for the next few weeks, and it went very well. \n\nThen suddenly, he stopped texting me and after a few days he said he apologized since he was busy. I told him it wasn't a big deal and to just reply to my texts whenever he wanted. During the next two weeks were dead week and finals week for both him and me in college so I understand why we didn't talk as much.\n\nI was busy studying and he was busy so we barely talked but we would sent random snapchats once in awhile. However, now we have finished finals and now he never texts me or replies to my snapchats, he only replies to me if I message him on snapchat. However our conversations are short but it seems he still enjoys talking to me. He is almost always the first one to see my snapchat stories as well, I'm unsure if that makes a difference.\n\nI would text him once every few days, just to talk about whats going on and I wouldn't get any replies, then I messaged him on snapchat and I asked why he only snapchats instead of texting and he replies almost immediately and says he's been ignoring everyone and all his messages, not just me personally. He reassured me by saying he still wants to hangout and that he wouldn't ditch me but I'm wondering what is up and I'm wondering if I did something wrong? \n\nMaybe he actually isn't that interested, should I just wait for him to talk to me and get on with my life? I know I shouldn't worry about it too much but I'm curious about his attitude. What advice do you have or what would you do? I'm not too committed I would just like a guy's POV for this sort of situation.", "summary": "Met a guy and things were going well. However he stops texting me and only messages through snapchat. Did I do something wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_21m7fi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hovering", "post": "So I am in a resturant and really have to take a dump. I walk into the one stall and the toilet is midly dirty. I figured I would position my hands on the clean parts of the toilet seat to leverage my ass over the toilet hole.\n\nEverything was going fine but felt odd at the end. I stand up to wipe and there it is... a perfect pile of shit on the toilet seat. I panic as the stench of shit starts filling the bathroom. At that moment I see the paper toilet seat covers I wish I used earlier. I grab a wad of the paper toilet seat covers and try and push the shit into the toilet. In my mind it would have fallen in like a domino. In reality it just smeared shit everywhere.\n\nMy mind alerted me to the fact I have too many paper toilet seat covers with shit in my hand to flush. The panic increased as I start picturing the stench making it out the door where nice people are eating breakfast. \n\nI took stock of the situation. There was no way the bathroom is going to be clean when I leave and a flooded toilet is worse then a non-flooded toilet. I drop everything. Wash my hands. Eat quickly. Pay. Run like hell.", "summary": "I am the guy that shit on the toilet seat and then threw shit against the wall like a god damn monkey."}
{"id": "t3_33v9at", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my SO [29 F] for 1 year impossible situation. Need advice!", "post": "Long story short. I moved in with my girlfriend after dating her in total only a month. (Month is the time we spend together psychically -  we had LDR for 6 months).\n\nWe know each other even longer actually, but where just friends at start (we both had partners at the time). Then we met in real life and the rest is history - so to say. It was so intense all and mindblowing. I had no ties in my home country so I moved all the way to her. The culture and the people are not much different from where I used to live and I can speak the language. I have no problem living in my new home.\n\nMy problem is my home situation. Our problems started a few months after we moved in together (it's been a year now) and it seems impossible to continue like this. My situation is thought because I invested a lot of time here (started a new job and a carrier) which i really like, but the money is really low (learning position), but still I don't wanna give it up. Also I can't afford a flat on my own anyways here even if I wanted. I thought about moving in with friends but a) don't have many of my own (mostly her friends or our friends) b) don't really like the idea of moving in with random people.\n\nWe have talked about it and we think we moved in together too soon. We love each-other but we fight way to much (once a week on avg. results also in that we don't have sex for 2 weeks to a month because of all this fighting). \n\nSo the feelings are not the same as they were. At start we where so in love and I really love this girl but it is becoming more and more impossible to live together. \n\nSo should I move back and start all over? Should I try to continue and try to fix stuff with her? Should I try somehow and move into a shared flat?  (really not a big fan of living with strangers).\n\nAll suggestions are welcome!", "summary": "Moved in with my GF and can't move out, but can't also stay."}
{"id": "t3_1hsb94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[24/F] just found out that my [24/F] SO used to date a guy that I hated", "post": "Backstory: I knew they were friends and he was an asshole. And she always claimed to have never dated him. But last night when I was going through her phone I found an old conversation which was suggestive. I confronted her, she confessed. Obviously this conversation was from before we dated. We've been dating for close to 14 months now and everything is going well.\n\nI don't know how to feel about this. I am mad and she is profusely sorry. But I just can't wrap my head around the fact that she dated that asshole. And that he's been with her. She says there is nothing left to hide and the only reason she kept it from me was because I'd never go out with her had I known, which is probably true. Never the less, it stings to be lied to.\n\nAm I overreacting in being overtly angry? How do you'll think I should progress? \n\nHelp, r/relationships.", "summary": "GF told me about dating a guy I hated before us. I don't know how to react as she claimed to have never dated him."}
{"id": "t3_3zz9cn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] Did she leave because nothing concrete was forming?", "post": "So basically I was seeing this great girl for a little over 2 months. I always asked her out on dates, we eventually got to the point of sleepovers and having sex, met each others friends, etc. We both seemed to be moving at a really good pace and having a good time. After about 2 months or so she started going cold on me......and basically ended back up with her ex (Who I didnt even know was in the picture). When I finally confronted her about it, I was surprised to say that she said I \"Treated her like a friend\" and that \"we were in limbo and she didn't know where my head was at\", \"we weren't exclusive, and other guys treated me differently that Ive seen before' . I thought things were going super well.....did I let this hang for too long? Girls, should I have advanced things or solidified exclusivity sooner? We never talked about feelings or anything.....who knows", "summary": "Didnt move quick enough with this girl?"}
{"id": "t3_288ndc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F]and a new friend [20 M] : He likes me but I definitely don't like him? How do I set boundaries nicely?", "post": "I have a guy friend who I made recently and he asks to hang out a lot and whenever we go grab a bite he offers to pay. I always say no but sometimes he is very persistent. He also tries to hug me a lot and texts me rather often. I've just recently met him at work so I find his behaviour a bit odd because even though we're friends, I'm still getting to know him and I don't feel close enough to him to be so touchy feely. Also, I think he may be interested in me, which if he is, I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want him to think I don't appreciate his friendship. I do enjoy hanging out with him but just as a friend.\nHow do I know if he likes me or is just being friendly? How do I set boundaries without being rude? He is fun to hangout with but I'm not a sentimental person and I don't like being touched. I am also not attracted to him at all.\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts?"}
{"id": "t3_1wxgp8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] Suddenly attracted to a close friend (22/M)?", "post": "The guy and I have been close friends for 3 years ago and I've never been attracted to him whatsoever. In fact, the mere thought of it used to repulse me. As of about 48 hours ago I am finding myself extremely attracted to him and it's really throwing me off. I'm suddenly finding myself thinking about him a lot in a sexual way and worrying about what I sound like when I talk to him. I have no idea what prompted it or how it's even possible to feel so extremely different in a matter of days. What's worse is that I feel like I gave off \"I would totally fuck you vibes\" at his Super Bowl party yesterday because he ended up talking about sex to me a lot (things like discussing how he hasn't gotten laid in so long etc etc) which is a topic we never really discuss. Granted it was after a few beers. \n\nQuestion is: How can I nip this in the bud? This whole situation just seems like way more trouble than it's worth and we're both second semester seniors in college. I feel like my hormones have been totally out of whack lately and hope that's what is causing this.", "summary": "Sudden attraction to close friend of years. Want it to go away. How do I make that happen/what can I do in the meantime?"}
{"id": "t3_swwo9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just had the weirdest dream I think I've ever had. What about you? What's the weirdest dream that you can remember having?", "post": "I lived with my mother and my brother and idk why but Vince Neil, the lead singer of Motley Crue lived across the street from us. He was a pretty cool neighbor. Wasn't home much been when he was he was a pretty laid back guy who you always heard music coming from his house. \n\nWell, my mother once day comes into the house crying with Vince following behind her. She ushers my brother and I out the door and across the street to Vince's house where he presents my brother and I with the shittiest looking guitar and bass. They looked like some kiddy inspired instruments that The Wiggles would play.(My brother and I are musicians) He hands my brother the guitar and me the bass and says with a shit eating grin \"Welcome home kids.\" \n\nMy brother and I look at each other like WTF. Well we rush over to our mother who says that we aren't her children anymore and tells us to \"go back home.\" So we go back to Vince's and ask him wtf is going on. He tells us that he bought us from our mother for $6000 a person. I take my bass and hold it up in front of him saying \"Dude, these instruments are shit. We're gonna go back to our mom's and get our old ones. They're way fucking better than these.\" He just shrugged and said \"Sure. That's fine, son. I love you.\" I put my hand on his shoulder and said \"Vince, I love you too. But not as a father, more like that neighbor who's really awesome and let's you use his swimming pool a lot.\"", "summary": "Had a dream that my mother sold my brother and I to Vince Neil to be his kids. Told him the instruments he got my brother and I were shit."}
{"id": "t3_sg6de", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Actionscript 3 button question", "post": "I am writing a small Flash game using air for android and have encountered a slight issue.\n\nThe game has 3 screens (excluding the game screen) which are main menu, load game & create new game. On the load game and create new game screens I want to add a button which take the user back to the main menu.\n\nI know how to add event listeners to buttons but I am wondering where do I bind the event listener for back to main menu, binding in the constructor of my main class produces an error at run time and binding after going to the frame is knocking out the other buttons when back at the main screen.", "summary": "what is the best way to organise my even listeners for buttons in a flash app."}
{"id": "t3_1vp8v5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] roommates [26F and 30ishF] hate each other and passive aggressively fight all the time. I just moved in, what do I do?", "post": "I just moved in to the perfect apartment, but my roommates are either fighting, not speaking to each other, doing passive aggressive things. The apartment is tiny, so it doesn't help that we are already cramped for space, but it's pretty uncomfortable to live like this. However, I've been moving around for months, so I am not really willing to leave (in case any of you were thinking that).\n\nTheir conflict precedes my tenancy so I definitely don't know the whole story, but from what I've gathered so far, they both have valid points. They have both been really friendly towards me, but they are pretty awful towards each other. I get that roommates don't have to be friends, but it would be nice if they could coexist peacefully instead of waiting for the other one to move out.\n\nReddit, what (if anything) should I do? I don't want to get involved in the conflict and make things worse, but I also don't want to live in such a passive aggressive, negative environment. I was thinking about asking a therapist to have a session with them to sort of mediate the conflict, but that's my only idea.", "summary": "Post-college roommate conflict involving 2 out of 3 roommates. What if anything should I (the third non-involved person) do to resolve it?"}
{"id": "t3_2fn2dd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice for a Long Distance Relationship", "post": "I've(f) been with my bf for a year and a half. We're both 18 and we started college. I stayed in the city while he moved upstate for college. When we were on our last date before he moved away I broke down crying on his shoulder for about half an hour. He said he didn't want me to be sad, he wanted me to have fun and meet new people. He also said he never wanted to see me cry like that unless it was at our wedding. He tried calming me down and I stopped crying after a while and I went home.\n\n But I broke down in the train ride home. I never told him that. And last night I wore his sweater and I broke down crying again. I'm crying right now writing this post. It's only been about two weeks since school started and I'm miserable. I want him next to me but I'm not sure what to do. I don't just want to tell him this because he can't change much about the situation.\n\n He wants to go to school and pursue his dreams as do I. I don't want to distract him with this or make him feel guilty for leaving. Neither of us want to be away from each other. I'm trying to stay happy for him but it's not working. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Me and my Bf of a year and half are separated for college and I don't know how to deal. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3icfmm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (18m)had girlfriend (18f) cheat on me, concerned as what to do", "post": "Hey all, thought I would share as I needed to speak to someone about this. \n\nMy gf (F18) rung me today and said she had 'hooked up' with someone at a party two weeks ago. As I later find out it was a party that I was invited to but I declined due to exams week. I originally laughed it off and tell her not to worry, thinking it was literally just making out. Text her again, turns out is was full blown drunken sex of which 5 friends knew about before, during and after, of which none told me. The guy, lets call him 'Peter' supposedly had no idea I existed, which is feasible considering him and my gf were 'supposedly' drunk and high.\n\n It is only once she tells me about this that my male friends (that knew) decided to start supporting me of which they did, and only hesitated in telling me 2 weeks later due to the situation most likely effecting my performance in exams. My gf starts texting me with copious amounts of text messages saying that she had f***ed up, etc, etc. and that she hopes I can forgive her. \n\nWhat concerns me is that this was 1 occasion that I am aware of, and that I cant attend every party/event/gathering that she goes to, which makes me worried thinking that this incident may occur again due to her liking to drink and smoke (as most of everyone I know). I now have to decline going to one of my good friends 18th due to Peter being there, and a vast majority of his peers and that of the probability of a fight breaking out due to my sheer aggression i have towards 'peter' now. \n\nAlthough I may not sound sad through my wording I really, really am and caused me to cry for the first time since I can remember. I feel another contributing factor is my inability stay hard once a condom is on and that of my gf frequently asking for sex, which also depresses me a fair bit knowing I can get and stay hard for everything asides a mere fucking condom.\n\nIm sorry if this is to long/explicit, I just would really like some advice as im really am unsure as to what to do", "summary": "gf of 4 months of whom I really, really like cheated on me and i feel as if it may occur again when she is intoxicated"}
{"id": "t3_35mmrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my GF [20 F] 6 MO, I have a very troubled past, and I don't feel I'm emotionally there for her, even though she says I am.", "post": "So... I'm adopted, 12 families from 2-3/8, drug addicted bio mom. Years of physical, emotional, and some secure abuse. I've had 3 concussions as well, been hospitalized from being hit by several cars while walking. \n\nI feel like I am emotionally lacking, and I've always been a very factual person in confronting issues. I'm a straightforward INTJ personality type, and I want to know how I can improve myself become more in tune with her. \n\nShe is scatter brained, intelligent, and very understanding most times. We've had a couple arguments, and I've had to work hard to understand where her side comes from, and even if I don't agree, it gets settled. \n\nI can see it causing issues in the future, so any tips on how I can start solving it now? I've always had this problem, but I love her, and her family loves and vice versa. We have no problems at all in our relation at the moment, just want to nip a huge flaw before it starts causing issues.", "summary": "I feel emotionally lacking due to my personality and abuse, I don't want it to strain a good thing. How can I work it out for our relationship long term?"}
{"id": "t3_3dx0rk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not washing this dish, because I was mad", "post": "So, there's this person (30-40F) who lives with me and my dad. I guess she and my father are really close, so I don't think my father will ever stand up for me, even if I am in the right. (My father and I aren't that close) But here's the story. Note: I am 18 \n\nI came home late at night, around 1-2 am. I was on the computer for like 2 hours. My dad and her came home at like 4am in the morning. Obviously, I ask them where they went, and my father's friend said to eat. Then she mutters \"you weren't home\" as the reason why I wasn't invited. They'd always call me to eat out but this time they didn't. Right after that, she starts complaining ( it turns into yelling) about how I didn't wash her dish after I had done eating it. (I had left only that dish because it was nasty and was hoping someone else would clean it #guilty) I told her that I was too lazy, but in reality it was because they didn't invite me so I ignored her. I probably would've washed it if she asked nicely instead of yelling. After that, I kept playing on my computer and went to sleep without washing the dish.\n\nLater on today, I was woken at around 3pm by her bitching, and she starts blabbing about her thoughts about how I was lazy, how she buys the food, and even makes the food. (She isn't family, but she stays at our house for no rent because my dad likes her) After that she goes and freezes all the meat so I can't eat it and asks my dad \"lets eat out today.\" I knew at that moment that I wasn't going to be invited to that and she froze the food on purpose. Now I have no food in the fridge. (my dad is poor financially and will probably go eat out with her) \n\nWHAT SHOULD I DO? My ego thinks I should stand my ground but my stomach says otherwise.", "summary": "Didn't wash dish after eating, wasn't invited to dine out, was yelled at by fathers friend, salty so didn't wash it. Fathers friend pulls scum move, I am hungry and doesn't want to go out and spend own money on food"}
{"id": "t3_1hw2vu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi Reddit! I'm 19 and have until the end of the month to move out, do you have any tips for me?", "post": "As mentioned before, I'm 19 years old. My mom has given me a deadline of a month to move out. I have no credit score yet, and working on finding an apartment. Right now I work about 25 hours a week, and since I've working fairly long at my job, I'm hoping to work with my scheduling manager to get more hours. I also have a car insurance payment coming up at the same time, and am pretty broke.\n\nMy checking and savings accounts are student accounts under her account. I'm going to see about moving to my own account if possible. I'm under 5/3 bank. I also have a savings account that my grandma left me for emergencies after she passed away. However, even though I am of age, they won't let me access it without my mom being there.  I'm not sure if my mom would be malicious enough to use that account. It's technically with my other two accounts, also under hers. Is there anything I can do? \n\nAlso, I'm still fairly uncertain of the process of getting an apartment, and am having a hard time finding any listings. I want to stay fairly low budget, but am willing to pay more to stay in my nicer area for a sense of security. Any tips on apartment searching, apartment life, etc would be much appreciated. \n\nI won't be on too much for a couple of hours as i'm going to take my boyfriend job-hunting, but I'll be back soon to see if anyone has replied. Thanks for your time!", "summary": "Young, kicked out, no credit score, bank accounts are under mom's main account, she may end up malicious with money my gma left me, + how do apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_rbak9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Too scared for a relationship.", "post": "I am 20 years old, female and most definately straight. Before people suggest I may be asexual or maybe gay, I will say I actually am sexually attracted to males. My problem comes from me not being to get romantically involved with anyone. When I look at couples, I just feel creeped out. I really don't want to be in a relationship. I don't want something getting that intimate with me at all. I have only ever kissed three people. Whilst the first two were my two best friends on the same drunken night, the third was someone I liked very much. On our third date, he asked me if he could kiss me and I said yes, however after it I was incredibly turned off, grossed out and wanted to get as far away as possible. I ended it after that and hated myself for it. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me, people say i'm attractive and I get asked out all the time, but I have no desire to get close to anyone like that. Last night I went to a club with some friends and this guy who i've been attracted to for a few months now kept trying to hold my hands and hug me. I felt physically sick (before drinking) and wanted to just shrink away.\n\nI would seriously like to know what is wrong with me, but mostly I was just hoping to hear from people that maybe went through the same thing and just grew out of it, as I realise 20 is young. (Although I don't know any teenagers that didn't want a relationship...)\n\nThanks for reading, I know this is long.", "summary": "Relationships make me feel all icky."}
{"id": "t3_31jeak", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I feel my neighbor is being unreasonable and inconsiderate with his parking. What can I do?", "post": "I live in a suburbs where my neighbor's house is attached to mine. As such, we have regular street parking in front of the house as well as a small space in the back of the house, connected by an alleyway. The street parking is crowded so my neighbor parks his car at the back of the house. \n\nThe problem is that his car is parked with the exhaust facing the house and I leave my back door open much of the time, so the fumes go straight into my house. He leaves the car running for about 5 minutes every time he uses his car, so it's not a brief thing.\n\nI've asked him 2 or 3 times if he could park the other way but he says he can't because if he does, he can't see incoming cars or people while backing out. I get that it may be a little inconvenient but I don't think it's something that should cause me to choose between breathing fumes or running around my house to close my windows and doors every time he uses his car.\n\nSo, I have two questions. There used to be a fence between our properties when I bought the house 15 years ago. A few months after I moved in, he took the fence down under his own volition when he renovated his area. The fence was actually on my side of the property and I didn't quite understand why he did that but the deed was done so I let it slide.\n\nNow, because of the exhaust issue, I'm wondering it is possible to get him to replace the fence (to route the fumes upwards and away from my house), or if there is any way to force him to park his car the other way.", "summary": "Neighbor's car exhaust fumes are coming into my house."}
{"id": "t3_2bm4k4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [20/f] having constant problems/arguments with 'bf' [21/m] while he's away in a different state. What do I do?", "post": "So firstly sorry for how long this may be and thank you to anyone taking their time to read this.\n\nSo my 'boyfriend' has moved back home for some time after college finished, technically leaving me here and saying he hopes everything will be as good as when he left when he is back, and that he is sorry for leaving and not sorting out anything for us to see each other during summertime or to make the time we don't see each other any less.\n\nNow my issues are that I am obviously not happy that he is gone away, and I think that it's making me subconsciously a grumpy bitch, having a go at him every time there's potential to do so. He was constantly pissing me off, even with the littlest things he said, making me unhappy about where I am what I am doing and so on. I know this was unintentional, and it was just the way I was receiving the messages, but I could stop and hence suggested we don't talk. He didn't take it well at first but later on said we can try. Yes, yes I know that not talking in a LDRS is not good, but I thought not talking and him not pissing me off would be better than constant arguments.\n\nNext came the 'out of no where' thought that I should end it or go on a break as this may be less painful for both of us. And if I had to be honest I have been contemplating this thought ever since it entered my mind, also as a way to not have to constantly hear that the sex will be amazing when he's back, because I don't want it when he's back, I want it now. We got on so well when we were together and now it is slowly going all down the drain. I don't want this to happen, but I always had to wait in my life, for friends, for boyfriends(due to intercontinental family life) and I think I'm done waiting, especially if he's not willing to do something so that we last through the summertime.", "summary": "'boyfriend' gone back home for summertime and we keep on having constant arguments for mostly no reason(a.k.a me being a grumpy bitch because he's left me here) feels like I'm wasting my summer being sad over it while we're drifting apart"}
{"id": "t3_46mdqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [48 M] get my partner [46 F] together for 4 years, to manage money and finances better?", "post": "** upate, the money was spent on reasonable things, its just that life costs a lot. She has issues with money. What can I say, that is not hard to understand, really. But I want to change it. The suggestion of the book to read in the thread was helpful.\n\nI learned last night that my partner spent close to $1000 reserved for home renos for her disabled son on groceries, gas, and stuff for Christmas since she has not worked for close to 2 months. \n\nWhen I asked her about it last night, she made up some kind of excuse about how she didn't want to be embarrassed at Christmas time with nothing to give. I told her I wouldn't have cared. \n\nI have gone through hell and back with money issues and I want to be on the right track in my life where money is concerned. \n\nShe has told me before that she hates money, because of what it does. Me I am more philosophical about it and I believe you must have knowledge and understanding of money to have power over it. \n\nThe money can probably be replaced in time without too much of an impact on the overall renovation project. But it is a bad thing. \n\nHow do I educate her and myself about this. I dont want to be hugely in debt ever again in my life. I dont want to be with someone who cant figure these things out with me. Its a deal-breaker.", "summary": "She spent some money over Christmas till now that was reserved for home renos for her disabled son. How can I educate her and myself to be more disciplined and responsible with money?"}
{"id": "t3_qn3p5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't want to seem clingy/crazy.", "post": "Ok, so here's the current situation: \n\nJust met new guy, P (24), we have hung out (and hooked up) a few times and every time we do it's been awesome and fun. We also have been texting back and forth a bit. He says kinda cutesy stuff like I miss you or whatever.\n\nTHE PROBLEM IS: \nHe kinda flakes out and doesn't text me back sometimes, and has flaked on some semi-solid plans (\"hey you should come by\" \"sure that sounds great!\"). And today, he just flaked on a solid hang out (\"see you at 9!\") plan because he fell asleep. I woke him up, he said \"oh sorry I fell asleep....nooo I still wanna come\" then 20 minutes later.... \"oh sorry I fell asleep...lets do something tomorrow?\" \nNow, I'm not looking for anything serious, really just want to have some fun and see where it goes. But how do you call someone out on this stuff? We've only hung out like 5 times and I don't wanna seem like some crazy bitch or something like \"OMG WHERE WERE YOU?\" but I also don't want it to just be ok... I worry that he will think I'm being clingy or something....but its just....don't say you'll be there and then not show up!", "summary": "How do you not seem clingy when someone isn't giving you clear responses?"}
{"id": "t3_540x4g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Moving away from home and girlfriend [21/f]", "post": "Hey all,\n\nNext month I will be looking to move in with my friend that works at the same location as me. I graduated last semester and this moving situation has been a long time coming. When I originally told my girlfriend about me potentially moving away  (only an hour north from where I currently live) she was very angry that I did not ask her to live together first. She is still in University (which is an hour south of where I currently live) and plans on moving away to Graduate School afterwards as well (to another state). She also dorms at Uni, so I guess I assumed too much when thinking about this decision. When she was originally angry about it I looked up what the middleground would be for us to move in together instead. Both of us would have over an hour commute to school or work if we met exactly in the middle. She is also trying to save for graduate school because she will be paying for graduate school herself. Also her dorm is paid for by her scholarship. I understand that moving in together is the next step, and it would be amazing to live together and have that experience, but to me it made little sense economically. We can still see each other on the weekends, and she can even live there on the weekends rent free if she wanted. How do I come up with a solution to this issue with her? I am willing to compromise and come up with a solution (and my friend doesn't really care if we live together it just made sense to us because we will be working at the same place so we wanted to save some money). \n\nWe have been dating for approximately 1 year.", "summary": "Moving away from home and girlfriend is mad that we did not come up with a living situation before I discussed it with my friend."}
{"id": "t3_1jbvr0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being early", "post": "*Spoiler:  There's no shit in this story*\n\nSo for a bit of context here.  I live in Missouri, in the US.  I'm a guy in my late 20s and I work 3rd shift.\n\nI was meeting my friend so we could watch a movie at her place.  She was just getting off work, and I was about 10 min early to her place.  But I didn't want to just wait in my car, so I kept driving down the road.  Got to a point when I needed to turn around, so I went down a side street to do a u-turn.  My turn radius on my car sucks a bit, so I had to stop and and put it in reverse.  I stopped a couple feet from a lightpost and some combination of my brain or body fucked up and didn't put my car and reverse, smashed the gas pedal and dented up my front bumper and hood.  And maybe the radiator. \n\nOn the plus side, I didn't get any tickets from the police that ended up showing up randomly.  No asking if I was drunk, or if I could walk a straight line.\n\nIf I remember, I'll try to post a pic.", "summary": "I hit a stationary object and fucked up my car, because I was 10 min early to a friend's house"}
{"id": "t3_3bxms8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [27 F] doesn't take criticism well. What can I [26 M] do to fix this?", "post": "There are a few things that she does very well, and I praise her for it. But she assumes/thinks she's excellent at everything she does, and that isn't true. \n\nFor example, the other day she wrote a song, and there was a line that it didn't make sense. I told her:\n\n \"Hey, I don't really get X line. It doesn't make much sense because it implies Y when I know you're actually trying to say Z\"\n\nSo instead of her taking the feedback, think about it for a second, or argue why she wrote that way. She freaked out, and said that I was wrong. How is it even possible that I understood that line like that, etc... \n\nAt another time, she cooked something and she put too much salt on the food. She asked \"How is it?\" and I told her \"I really liked X and Y, but I think Z is a bit salty for my taste\"\n\nShe freaked out again. She told me that's how the dish is and that I don't have an 'educated' palate.\n\nI could keep going and going, but I think you get the point. Every single time I give her feedback, and I tell her that she can do something better. She freaks out because she think she has a gift to be great at everything she does. She has quite literally said that.\n\nWhat is an effective way to give her honest feedback without her freaking out?", "summary": "If I provide constructive feedback to my wife, she freaks out. What is an efficient way to give constructive feedback without getting on her nerves?"}
{"id": "t3_2n1bz4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/M] My Girlfriend [20/F] Thinks I'm Inexperienced and Thinks I Deserve More.", "post": "Throwaway because I have a few friends that know my account and I don't want the wrong idea getting out.\n\nI've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years and she is my first serious girlfriend, I've had a lot of my romantic firsts with her. Her on the other hand, she has been with about 5 guys before me.\n\nThroughout our relationship she has told me that she's afraid she's holding me back from experiencing college and a life I'll wish I had when I'm out of college. She says that she already had the experiences she wanted and that she would wait for me if I wanted to get everything out of my system, but I've told her on multiple occasions that she's all I want and need.\n\nRecently (about two weeks ago) the conversation came up again and I brushed it off like I normally do. The problem is that since bringing it up again I have had it stuck in my head and am starting to understand what she means and there's been this girl that has been texting me and I can't say she's the only one flirting in the conversations (you know those times when you flirt without realizing you're doing it?).\n\nI know it's not fair of me to expect her to wait for me so if I did take her up on her offer I would want her to carry on with her life and if it was meant to be we'd come back together.\nBut 2.5 years is a lot of time and effort put into a relationship and other than this our relationship has been pretty successful, besides the few college relationship challenges, other guys, alcohol, drugs.\n\nSo should I take her up on her offer with the caveat that she doesn't wait for me like she says she will?\nOr is this just a perfect storm of the conversation sparking the idea and a girl talking to me at the same time?", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks she's holding me back from experiencing life because she was my first."}
{"id": "t3_2c9ixr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] almost lost a 3y relationship with [32F] due to my being possessive and controlling. I've gotten a second chance and don't want to make the same mistakes.", "post": "29M Almost recently lost a 3 year relationship (w/ 32F) due to my being possessive and at times controlling. When I asked her to marry me this fall, when I was honestly unaware I was doing this, she was extremely happy, but within the next few weeks, she realised she could not be with a person who made her feel this way. She always felt like she was walking on eggshells, and was, deep down, not happy. \n\nThings feel appart in a bad way (emotional affaire on her part).  But, after a long, hard period of working things out and realising that we truely want to make it work, we're giving it a very positive second chance. She is very enthusiastic about it, and wants it to work as much as I do.  I don't want to make the same mistakes again. I was her to be free to be herself, and not feel untrusting towards her. \n\nI've become very introspective, and have spend much time reading about possessive relationships, dating \"losers\" and whatnot. Though I most definitaly do to match most categories of what these \"Are you dating a loser\" articles point out, there are a few that unfortunately are dead on to how she felt.", "summary": "Could I have advice as to how to ensure I do not make the same errors of being possessive and controlling? I really want to be a better person and change. Thanks : )"}
{"id": "t3_4hzky3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] am angry at her [27F] for lying, don't know if overreacting", "post": "So the other night she wen't out with one of her gf's, the next morning she decided to tell me she stayed at her girl friend's because when they realized the time it was too late at night and she lived nearby.\n\nThat same afternoon we are talking again and she tells me a different story, she tells me she left her friend to attend a late class she's been taking, then she came back with her and some other bunch of male friends then they all decided to stay in one of these male friends house. \n\nThis bothered me quite a lot, i don't know if i'm overreacting, you have to know i have trust issues, and this kind of things just makes it worse. When i asked her why she changed the story she just said she didn't want to bore me with details.\n\nIt is worth to tell you i have seen hear lie the shit out of her family and friends before, usually because she tells them she is going to be someplace or doing something and she actually is with me. \n\nYou think i'm overreacting? Because i'm hurt, i don't feel i can have a relationship with someone i can't trust and that i can't tell how many times have lied to me.", "summary": "first she told me she stayed at a girl friend's then she told me later she stayed at a male friend's with a different group of people. I have trust issues."}
{"id": "t3_53y1rp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm thinking about starting a youtube channel to track my progress. Would anyone watch?", "post": "Good Morning /r/loseit, Hope everyone is healthy and super motivated.\n\nAs the title suggests, I am think of doing a youtube channel.\n\nIt would be a vlog style channel, Similar to Dannygetsfit. If you haven't seen his channel I would recommend it he is pretty inspiring.\n\n I work out every weekday with a friend who's getting me motivated and creating routines for me. I am calorie counting on MFP.\n\nI am in no way strong, fit or athletic as my stats will reflect. But if I start vlogging my progress it would help me get to that.\n\nApart from going to the gym, I am a father to my 8 month old daughter, I have a house that is in need of improvement so that could feature.\n\nIf you have any suggestions to what I could include that would help motivate others, i'd be open to suggestions.\n\nI live in Newcastle upon Tyne in the North East of England, So if you're curious what this place looks like I can show you. Might try and convince the girlfriend to let me get a drone to show you.\n\nI will probably start with a video a week until I get better at editing.\n\nIf", "summary": "I'm thinkg of making a progress youtube channel, would you watch?"}
{"id": "t3_339x9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my best friend [23 M] 8 years , I messed up and broke his trust, he said we're done. Help", "post": "I'm writing on my phone so I apologize for any mistakes in advance. We recently started a friend with benefits relationship after being close friends for 8 years and he made it clear it was not exclusive at the beginning but that he would tell me if he slept with anyone else. He hinted that he did things with another girl and I acted emotionally and looked through his messages. I was completely in the wrong for this and I know that. I found that he got a blowjob /went down on her, and confronted him about it and he said he did but that he didn't sleep with anyone else because he didn't want to betray my trust. I believe him 100% on this. He said that this was a huge fucking betrayal of trust to him and that we're done and he wants to cut contact. He believes in second chances but apparently I used it when I hurt him by accidentally calling him by my Ex's name in bed one time. He said emotionally he still cares for me and it makes him happy to make me happy, but logically it's better to cut it off as the trust is gone.\n\nHe means a lot to me and I really can't just watch what we've had go down the drain from this one mistake I made. I'm thinking of asking him for a second chance by saying the name incident didn't impact our friendship, and that this incident is the first time I've betrayed his trust and damaged our friendship. \n\nHe's a very logical person, this is likely the only email I'll send, I'll let it go if he doesn't agree after this. So the email is very important. How do I go about telling him that I want us to be friends again and to give me a chance in as logically a way as possible? And actions speak louder than words, so is there anything I can do at this point to show my sincerity in wanting to stay friends?", "summary": "broke my best friends trust and he wants to cut contact, how do I show him through actions and words to give me a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_uwvid", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Zero enthusiasm despite meeting as close to \"perfect\" as I could hope.", "post": "(Moved from /r/relationships) \n\nMe 31M, her 26F. Backstory: A few years back I had a life altering break-up. Slowly picked myself and got back out there, had some fun with a few women on a strictly casual basis. I've been single (and near celibate) for roughly a year as I've been trying to find someone more girlfriend material than one night stand types, and due to my job I rarely run into anybody looking for more than an easy hook-up. \n\nRecently, I met a girl through work who stopped me dead in my tracks. She's as close to physically perfect as I could think of, with a sweet personality too (if a little spacy).\n\nAfter gauging our interactions I asked for her number which she seemed surprised but happy with. Knowing there would be at least one more work event where we would be together, I hesitated initiating anything as I would hate to make things uncomfortable professionally. \n\nOn our second meeting at work she was showing signs of interest.  At a separate event, colleagues in other departments mentioned how she wouldn't stop talking about me. If I left the building she would ask where I was, apparently as if she was worried I'd bailed on her without asking her out. \n\nShe went out of her way to find me as she was leaving, and while she was in my office, I told her I would love to take her out sometime. She smiled, got a little shy again but said to text her and let her know.\n\nFor some reason, I'm not really that bothered. I don't get the buzz from messaging her, and I really can't find the motivation to actually do anything more than the run of the mill first date, despite how attractive I find her. \n\nHow can I pick myself up a bit and try to make a go of this? It seems really strange how little effort I feel like expending and I think I might be missing out of I don't.", "summary": "Off the dating grid for a while. Met a sweetheart of girl, but I can't get any enthusiasm towards dating her."}
{"id": "t3_152p5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [28] man who is a few days away from asking my [30] girlfriend to marry me.  However, she is having family issues...should I delay my plans?", "post": "We've been dating for 2 years and we're both read to take the next step. We have a very happy and loving relationship. I've been planning dinner at the best restaurant in town for 2 months now as we always have a tradition to go out the Friday before the Christmas holiday (mainly to celebrate a break from work). The ring is in my hand, the reservations are made, the plan is laid out with help from the restaurant manager. I am obviously incredibly excited, nervous and anxious. But...\n\nShe comes from a very dysfunctional family. Without going into the specifics, she has a lot of problems with her immediate family and has turned out to be an amazing, successful young woman despite her childhood circumstances. She has always struggled with this situation but we all have our baggage. Recently, the family situation has boiled over and she's spent the past week terribly upset over events that have transpired. \n\nShould I proceed as planned and propose, hoping it brings some brightness to her holiday season and makes her excited and happy to look forward? Or should I delay my original plan, fall back into a support role, and let the water settle before asking? My instinct tells me to wait for happier times because there's no rush and I want the night to be perfect.", "summary": "Should I wait for happier times to propose or should I proceed as planned?"}
{"id": "t3_3u5hoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [37F] with my Co-worker [62F] calls me kid all the time.", "post": "My co-worker62 calls me and my other co-worker (f42) \"Kid\".  For example she'll say \"Kids when you get a minute can we get together and go over XYZ\"  She does this a few times a month.  It's really starting to get on my nerves.  My co-worker and I are no where near \"kid\" age.  \n\nAlso, co-worker62 has never been married or had children.  So it's not like it's some kind of habit from being a mom.   She's the program manager and my and co-worker42 are her alternates.  I feel it's a way to \"put us in our place\".   We work in a professional environment and all have higher education.  (actually me and co-worker42 are more educated)  \n\nHas anyone else dealt with this behavior from a co-worker?", "summary": "Co-worker62 call me and my other co-worker42 \"kids\".  Has anyone else dealt with this?"}
{"id": "t3_w4p45", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how can I get back at my neighbors?", "post": "So my family and I have a set of older neighbors that live behind and are constantly giving us a hard time.  Every time we do something in our backyard they are over complaining about it, checking if we have permits, making sure it is our property etc etc.  We one time trimmed the branches on a tree in our yard and they freaked out about it.  Additionally, when my sister and I were in middle school and highschool(prior to being able to drive), we would cut through the very edge of their yard and another neighbors yard.  One day they flipped out on us that we were killing their lawn(which we weren't).  This summer I recently caught the older gentlemen who lives cutting through our yard after his morning walks.  They also just cut down bushes and piled them right on the border of our yard behind their fence(still their property so we can't do anything).  What can I do to annoy these people in a legal and funny manner?", "summary": "I have neighbors that give my family and I a hard time a lot, and are looking to get back at them in legal and funny manner."}
{"id": "t3_ys73o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF[23] Just destroyed every bit of my[26] self-esteem. I need advice.", "post": "We're together for 5 years. Just this weekend we went to the beach together, we've taken a bunch of pictures, some together and some I took photos of her solo. She looked great on a bikini and me, well... 5'6\" and 194 lbs so I'm not good looking. Today she posted on fb her pictures but non of ours together, she got around a hundred likes in a couple of hours. I then ask her if she plans on putting any of our pics up. She then asks: \"Is this a mandatory thing?\" of course I said no then she just replied. \"Ok good.\" and from that I get that she has absolutely no plans to put those up.\n\n5 years together, I know her very well. And she doesn't let people know we're together. She still wants people to think she's single. As for love, well I can safely say we do love each other very much, but I feel she's not proud of me. After this I'm afraid I have no confidence in myself anymore, like she's ashamed to be seen with me.\nI know I should start improving myself and this would be all the motivation I need. But in this relationship, should I still stay with someone I love but is not proud of me despite how I appear?\n\nI also have to note that when we eat, she almost always feeds me some of her food, saying I don't eat enough. I try to cut down on food so I won't get fatter but she says it doesn't matter cause it makes me look 'cute'. Is she bullshiting me or do I have this all wrong? I can't get a straight answer from her when I ask if she's not proud to be seen with me.", "summary": "GF posts pic of self on facebook, didn't want to include me cause I don't look good."}
{"id": "t3_2xtgxe", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I think I might have an internet stalker?", "post": "First of all, I'm not sure where to post this so if I'm completely off here let me know!\n\nWhen I was a dumb 13 year old I had a MySpace and like a dumb 13 year old added almost everyone that added me. One guy added me and we talked for a couple of months. I think he said he was in his mid twenties. I thought it was cool that a 20 year old would want to talk to me. I don't remember everything I told him but we stopped talking after he said something creepy to me (can't remember the details, sorry). I unfriended him and blocked him and I didn't worry about him for quite a while.\n\nBut after a couple of years, this same guy has started adding me on every social media site I've made. He's always used the same name and same photo even though it's been ~10 years. He always only has 3 or 4 friends. I never add him and actually block him now. I have blocked him on Twitter, Facebook, Google +, LinkenIn, Myspace, etc.\n\nHe's always the first person to add me when I start a new account and I can't figure out how he knows right away when I'm on a new site. I've used a different email since I was younger and it's not viewable on any of my social media.\n\nHe hasn't spoken to me or messaged me since I was 13, but I'm creeped out and don't know how to distance myself from him since he knows my real name and god knows what else. An irrational part of me thinks he's just waiting for the perfect opportunity for me to post my new address or something online. Also, he's found me on Tumblr where I've used a different name and email address so that was where I drew the line and had to ask for advice.\n\nI guess I want to know is if there is any way for me to find out more about this guy and block his IP address or something.", "summary": "Someone is instantly finding me everywhere I go on the internet. Don't know how to protect myself."}
{"id": "t3_17vfox", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "My girlfriend has had Lyme Disease since before we met. She wants pancakes when she gets better because she can't have them now. How do I make the best pancakes ever?", "post": "My girlfriend and I met last year at the orientation for our doctoral Biochemistry program. She's from northern Virginia, where the deer tick-borne Borrelia bacterium causative in Lyme Disease is a real problem. She told me her stupid neighbors were seen feeding deer. Dumb. That's another story, though.\n\nThe treatment so far has involved several 9-week regimens of antibiotic cocktails, supplements, and probiotics. I remember one antibiotic she was taking that looked like yellow paint she had to squirt 10 mL of into her mouth twice a day. She said it tasted godawful, too. She's been miserable every day and makes me look like a total baby, because I stay home if I have a tummy-ache and she constantly works about 40 hours a week in lab.\n\nAlong with Lyme Disease, she has Gastroparesis, which severely limits what she can eat. In addition, the doctor told her that she shouldn't eat food with gluten because she may become allergic to it as a result of this treatment. Usually, she just eats rice products and yogurt.\n\nShe told me that when she gets better, the thing she's looking forward to the most is eating pancakes. \n\nI can't cook. Like, at all.\n\nHow do I make the best pancakes ever? I want to get the right cooking equipment, the best batter possible, etc. I'm willing to pay a lot of money to make them wonderful.", "summary": "Girlfriend has Lyme Disease, isn't allowed to eat gluten because of the treatment, and wants pancakes when it's done. How do I make the best pancakes in existence?"}
{"id": "t3_2ut4bc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26,F) am falling for my (21,M) housemate with girlfriend - shall I move out of my house?", "post": "I have realised I have feelings for my housemate and don't know what to do. When I spend time with him in his room listening to music, I like him even more and some nights when I leave will be in my room crying. He has started seeing a girl and seems to like her, but the way that he is with me I think he does like me. Its really hard to spend time with him but even harder to not because when we dont speak it stresses me out so much I start smoking which I never do, or overeating massively and dont want to do anything. Some nights I can't sleep because I will just be stressing about it. My boss at work is even commenting that I look half asleep and the people I work with are saying I look miserable and they can tell somethings up because I'm not my normal self. It has massively knocked my confidence, partly because of putting on so much weight and now I cant really talk to other guys confidently and sometimes just feel like crying. \n\nI have been looking at other places to move to because it feels like a really toxic situation that I need to leave but now it has come to it I feel like I cant make myself go. I dont want to leave and I worry I will feel even worse if I cant see him anymore, I don't want us to stop being freinds. I know as well it will hurt him and I really dont want to do that.", "summary": "Shall I move out of my house because I have feelings for my housemate?"}
{"id": "t3_1zgi4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23m) am ambitious and studious, while my 'gf' (25f) is lazy and never studies.", "post": "Long story short, I've known my 'gf' for 5 months and we've never had the talk about exclusivity, but we're only seeing eachother.  \n\nI study a lot, go to the gym a lot, I'm athletic and I have set career and academic goals that I'm sweating my balls off to make sure I achieve. Meanwhile, my gf goes to the gym maybe once a month (more like a social thing with her bestie than workout) and doesn't put much work into her career and future (my gpa is 3.6, hers is 2.4). She'll be starting university within an year and while she got through community college without studying much at all, she'll struggle a lot in university.\n\nWe both had rough pasts, but it seems like I've bounced back better than her. She has made a lot of progress in getting her shit together but I want to motivate her to achieve even more.", "summary": "I'm very career driven, gf is very party driven. We're at a point of our lives where partying all the time won't be sustainable soon so I'm trying to motivate my gf into being more career driven."}
{"id": "t3_2ok1js", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a few hours I (M23) am going to tell my best friend(F20) of 8 years about my feelings for her", "post": "*", "summary": "I'm breaking out of the Friendzone today, wish me luck!"}
{"id": "t3_4szgbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[13 M] need advice on when to approach the girl i like [13 F].", "post": "I am thirteen and as some will know next weekend is the last week of UK secondary ( high) school. The girl i like is in my steam and we have been friends for about a year.\n\nAs its so close to the end of school and we'll be away from each other for 7 weeks is it worth asking her out. I literaly should only be in London for a week so it seems a long time.\n\nOn the other hand i feel that if i wait to long she'll enter into another relationship. This would be my first proper relationship .she's bisexual and has dated couple of my friends. And there in lies another problem - her family is allegedly a nightmare to deal with and she has small mental health things which make it even more awkward.", "summary": "I want to ask a girl out but have probably left it far to late."}
{"id": "t3_4uqne0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF (27 F) used my (27 M) car to try to catch a rare Pokemon in Pokemon Go. I asked her not to do it again - am I in the wrong?", "post": "My girlfriend came into our home office this afternoon and told me she had 7-8 minutes to catch a rare pokemon in Pokemon Go. She said she could not get there in time walking and that she needed my car. I was reluctant to let her use it but could see that this battle wasn't worth fighting so I let her go.\n\nShe came back and told me she couldn't get there in time. I told her sorry and asked her to please not use my car again. She didn't understand why I would tell her not to use my car, so I tried to explain my thoughts. I told her I felt like she'd be rushing and could end up in an accident. I also told her that I think there's a point where you have to draw the line between a reasonable way to play the game and when you're getting a little 'too deep', so to speak.\n\nShe said that I was being controlling and that I was being irrational. She said that I just didn't want her to play the game anymore. I told her that she can play the game as much as she wants and can run off to catch Pokemon if that's what she wants to do, I just didn't want her to use my car to do it. \n\nI don't play the game so maybe I can't necessarily relate to what this particular event meant to her. But I wanted to draw the line somewhere and to my uninitiated brain, this seemed like a reasonable request.\n\nAm I being irrational? Is th\nere another way I can explain this to her? \n\nWe've been together 8 years.", "summary": "GF wants the option to use my car to catch Pokemon in Pokemon Go but I said no. She's mad, am I controlling?"}
{"id": "t3_4kuxff", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] going to a concert with [22M] in a month; is it a date?", "post": "So me (21F) and this guy (22M) have been talking for a couple months now and things have been going really well. We get along really well and basically love all of the same music. He's really cool. We initiate conversation pretty equally, either texting or snapchat... lame still but whatever.\n\n\u00a0\n \nA while ago I mentioned to him that a band I loved was playing a show in the summer and he was like \"Well maybe we need to make a trip:)\" \n\n\u00a0\n \nFlash forward to a couple weeks ago and we finally bought our tickets. I'm so nervous now. It's going to be an all day kind of thing. He's picking me up, we're going to make an hour long drive, have dinner, go to the show, and then he's staying at my place when we get back to my hometown because it'll be so late and he'd have a long drive home.\n\n\u00a0\n\nIt hasn't been said if this is a date or not. I don't even want to ask, I'm so nervous. I really like him. He sent me a snap a couple days ago of something and said he \"found a little something for me.\" So he got me a little gift... Which I thought was so sweet.\n\n\u00a0\n \nHere's the thing, he's either really shy, bad a flirting, or doesn't like me how I like him. He's never really complimented me, not in a flirtatious way. We do joke around and stuff over text. I'm just so unsure if he even likes me. He has been slowly acting more flirtatious, it's subtle.\n\n\u00a0\n\nAlso, I did meet this guy when I was going to a college that I transferred from. He's almost done now though. We hung out quite a bit, and he actually had a crush on me back then so my old roommate told me... But I was fixated on this other guy at the time:/ Could this be the possible the cause for lack of (obvious) flirtation?", "summary": "Going to a concert with this guy and not sure if he likes me. Worried about awkwardness. Unsure if it's even a date or not because it hasn't been said. Is he awkward/shy or does he not like me?"}
{"id": "t3_2lpprg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Where do I [22M] begin?", "post": "When I (now 22) was 17, I decided that I no longer wanted to attend high school. I found a way that I could go to university, while getting college *and* high school credit - so I did that. Fast forward a year, I graduated high school and went to a (much larger) university in another part of the state. Having disconnected with my high school friends and leaving everyone at my original university behind, naturally I knew nobody at my new school for that summer. It was fine because I pretended to make it work with my roommates and suite-mates.\n\nMoving into the next semester, one of my friends from freshman year of college decides to come to the university in the fall. It was very nice to meet someone I knew, even if just *kinda*. I hung out with her and her roommate and through them, I met my boyfriend. We just hit four years. \n\nI was a social person for many years, accumulating several \"friends\" and very few enemies. Since then, a lot of things have happened. I moved out of the dorms (lessening my interaction with people), moved four times (with different roommates who I didn't care to keep in contact with), and most importantly, graduated a year ago (no longer taking classes, so nobody there either). I'm very proud of where I've gotten myself professionally and academically but the only part of my life that doesn't meet my specifications is my social life. \n\nA lot of people have come and gone (mostly gone) in my life. As a full-time employee, full-time (online) graduate student, and a generally lazy individual I don't even know where to begin to keep my social life in check. It was fine to just have my one roommate and my boyfriend for friends despite our lack of common hobbies other than dick but now my boyfriend is leaving. He's moving several states away from the town where we live and there is no way I can see him regularly. Along with that, my roommate is antisocial and we generally don't get along like that.", "summary": "I was once a social guy with a boatload of acquaintances and friends and one by one they've been picked off. They've graduated, transferred, moved, or just moved on and I don't know where to begin to make friends again. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4uwncr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just found out boyfriend (23 m) cheated on me (22 f). My heart's broken and I'm not sure how to deal with it", "post": "Just found out boyfriend (23 m) cheated on me (22 f). My heart's broken and I'm not sure how to deal with it\n\nIf I told you everything, you'd have to read about 30 pages about how I feel, but I'm making this short to be considerate.\n\nI've remained faithful to him since we got together. I gave him my heart and everything. He always told me that he'd never cheat on me and I've never had a reason to be suspicious of him cheating on me. Now I feel so hurt and I can't stop crying. I've never felt so much heartache before and I really need some advice. Thanks for reading", "summary": "boyfriend of 9 months cheated on me and I'm heartbroken"}
{"id": "t3_4x87sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25M) gf (25F) are struggling to compromise in our vacation plans. Any advice?", "post": "Basically, I am for option 1 (Cali road trip), she is for option 2 (teton-yellowstone-glacier road trip). There is no reasonable way to make any of the destinations overlap. I've been to some of the option 1 places once before, and most of the option 2 places twice before. She hasn't been to any of them. Option 1 is ending up being a little bit cheaper as well. I make a lot more money than her and we are splitting costs accordingly, mostly meaning that most of the cost is going to be my financial burden. So far, we have been pretty even in determining our vacation destinations. Basically, we can't get each other to convince the other about the plan. I feel like someone is going to be left disappointed.", "summary": "gf and I can't decide in vacation plans. I don't want either myself (who is paying) or her to be disappointed."}
{"id": "t3_ugflb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most fucked up thing that happened during your childhood? I'll start.", "post": "This happened about 12 years ago, I was 16 at the time. My group of friends and a whole bunch of like minded kids all gathered in a public cricket/soccer field one Saturday night to drink beer and smoke weed.\n\nThere were about 20 kids spread out on the field, some sitting in circles, others riding their motorcycles or bikes and generally having a good time. There were about 6 in my group. We were sitting on the grass in a close circle passing around a spliff. This is when one the members in our group decided to beg one of my friends to let him drive their car for a few laps around the sports field. The owner of the car(my friend) initially and rightly denied his requests, but after a while and a lot of persistent begging, he finally gave in. \n\nThe deal was that the owner of the car would sit shotgun and they would drive slowly around the field for a few laps. The two of them got in the car and off they went. The rest of the group just carried on chilling in our little circle as normal for the next 10 mins until we heard the revving engine approaching at a speed. \n\nSuddenly, the drunk and inexperienced driver froze while showing off, and was heading straight at our group. There was no time to think or even know what was about to happen next. The car ploughed through our group who were all sitting down at the time, just missing me and a girl next to me by inches. I saw 4 of my friends get run over at 80kph while sitting at ground level. I heard bones crunch and saw body's twist and fly like rag dolls after the moment of impact. \n\nMost of the other kids on the field split when they saw what happened and left only a few of us to deal with the police and medics that arrived. Lucky nobody died. One was in a coma for a few months and one of the girls suffered brain damage and is blind in one eye to this day.", "summary": "stupid kids almost killed their friends with a car on a sports field."}
{"id": "t3_1suxva", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24F] Trying to plan a trip overseas with my boyfriend [25M] but he won't help. What should I do?", "post": "A few months ago my boyfriend [25M] and I [24F] booked flights for an overseas holiday that would take place early next year (Jan 2014). We have been living together for 4 years and have always wanted to travel together. Initially the plan was to travel around Europe for 3 months. However recently my boyfriend refuses to participate in organising the holiday - he won't even discuss what countries he would like to see! There is always an excuse for not getting involved (e.g. He is tired, wants to watch the game, etc) and he says that I am \"nagging\" when I try to bring it up. \n\nSince booking the flights my boyfriend lost his job and it was understood that I would be primarily responsible for funding the holiday. Is it really worth organising, taking time off work and spending so much money on something that he doesn't even seem to be interested in?", "summary": "Trying to organise a holiday to Europe (which I am paying for) with my boyfriend but he won't talk about it. Is it actually feasible for the holiday to go ahead?"}
{"id": "t3_2wckgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my husband [30 M] 2.5 years living together 7mo married, How to curb his spending habits without fighting", "post": "When we started living together my income was low and he managed the bills. As time went on i started seeing late payment notices and to avoid fights when i found them I decided to take over the money management. He was given $200 a month as a free spending allowance. I knew he had some money issues in the past, credit card dept and a defaulted loan, all paid off before we met. So i should have realized he has some spending issues.\n\nLast year he received two large raises and a job change and i received a substantial pay raise as well. Our household income went from 50k to 100k. After a year of agressively paying down his student loans we now have between the house and his loans we have 97k in debt. Because out monthly bills haven't increased I want to pay off debts and work on saving for an emergency fund.\n\nThe issues started when my husband realized how much we now made. He has always been a generous man, but now he buys people food when he is out with his friends. He feels that because we make more we can spend more. He also has been buying alot of video games, eating out, splurging on groceries. \n\ni want him to cut down on his spending but when i bring up when he goes over on stuff it always ends up like im the bad guy. I need a better way to get it into his head that we cant just spend all the new money. To make maters worse one of our cars got totaled and we cleared out our savings (not the emergency fund) to buy a used one. I told him we have to live tight for a while and the next day he is asking if we can go out to sushi!", "summary": "Our income went up and My husband wants to spend not pay down debts. How do i clamp down on his spending without being the badguy."}
{"id": "t3_1ankno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] cheated on my boyfriend [24M], it meant nothing to me, I was totally honest with him about it and he didn't mind.", "post": "I don't quite know how to feel about it. I feel like shit about what I did. I got drunk and just ended up fooling around with a guy I barely know because he was interested and cute and nice.\n\nI don't have the perfect relationship with my boyfriend, I often feel inadequate and unattractive because of how he treats me and how he still is infatuated with his ex. I don know if I was just trying to feel wanted by hooking up with this guy, but it is no excuse. I got a ride home from a friend and told my boyfriend as soon as I got home- before I even kissed him or hugged him because I didn't want to deceive him as he has done to me when he cheated on me (he lied about it for over a week about what actually happened- it just got worse and worse when the truth came out. I forgave him, obviously) but maybe subconsciously I did this to \"get back at him\". I don't think I did, but I can't imagine why I'd do this to him otherwise.\n\nWhen I told my boyfriend he said \"it's okay\" and I asked \"are you sure?\" and he said \"of course, baby, I love you, it's fine\". \n\nI'm both relived and even more guilty because of his reaction. I would be so mad if it was him (even knowing that in my slip up it meant nothing) and I feel like I don't deserve his forgiveness. I was SO hurt when he cheated on me, it almost feels off that he isn't hurt... As in- does he not care as much about the relationship as I do?\n\nAm I over thinking this? Should I just let this incident fade into obscurity and move on, or should I try to talk more in depth about this? \n\nThanks in advance. It is really complicated and awful and I feel like the shittiest person alive despite his forgiveness. I think maybe it is because I still haven't forgiven him 100%?", "summary": "cheated on bf who cheated on me, he forgave me, but I'm not sure how I feel about his forgiveness and now I'm questioning if I've forgiven him as completely as I thought."}
{"id": "t3_ljy8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We just realized my boyfriend's mother was my mother's high school bully! What to do?", "post": "So over the course of our relationship, my boyfriend and my mom had talked some about his mom, and they realized that his mom lived in the same town growing up that my mom did. Which we all thought was very ironic, etc seeing as how neither mom lives anywhere near that town now, and my mom and his mom live 2 hours apart now. \n\nThe last time I was over to his mom's house, she was looking at me a lot and then said \"I think I remember your mom. And if I'm right, she wouldn't be too happy to realize who I am\". I thought that was odd (but his mom is a little \"off\" anyway) and I let it drop without comment.\n\nWhen I saw my mom next I told her what his mom said and then said that his mom's maiden name was \"Jones\", so her name is \"Jane Jones\"... my mom's face dropped, her eyes filled with tears and she didn't say anything for a minute.\n\nMy whole life, my mom has told me about this girl in high school that used to torment her relentlessly - that she was afraid to even use the bathroom at school because of what this girl put her through. Now it turns out.. that girl is my boyfriend's mom.\n\nMy mom is dealing with it fairly well I would say. It was 40 years ago, but it really left a mark on her.\n\nHow do we (me and my guy) deal with this information? His mom isn't the type that would say \"I'm sorry\" to my mom for what she did. We are talking about getting married... how is this going to work in the future with holidays, etc? Advice would be welcome.\n\nSome relevant info is that our mothers are now 56.", "summary": "My boyfriend's mom seriously tormented my mom in high school, how do we handle family functions?"}
{"id": "t3_1082b8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's something that you tried to tell people that was true, but no one believed you?", "post": "For me, it was when I was 2 or 3. I had this terrible daycare provider. She would force me to eat when I wasn't hungry, scream at me, and even make me change my own diaper. I was 2 for Christ sakes. She once made me clean up my own throw up with my sweatshirt. I'd always tell my parents/grandparents that I didnt want to go because she was a \"mean lady\". No one believed me.\n\nOne day, a friend of my mom sent her daughter there, and she saw what that witch did to me. She probably said something not too descriptive being that we were 2, but it was enough to get people to believe me. \n\nAfter that my dad came, cussed her out, and then she demanded the months pay. My dad spit at her and then left.", "summary": "crazy daycare lady makes me clean up my own throw up/shit. Noone believes me being I am 2. Parents find out and shit goes down."}
{"id": "t3_482i9d", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Maximizing company rebate for new car. To good to be true?", "post": "Hello, first of all thank you to r/personalfinance, I have been lurking this sub and reddit for almost 2 years and this is my first post. I have went from living check to check to having an emergency fund, contributing up to the company match in my 401k and on track to have the $12,000 in student loans I still have paid off by november. \n\nMy company offers a $2250 rebate off of the purchase of a brand new Subaru year round, also raising the rebate another $1000 during the month of September last year. There is no limit to the number of rebates I can get for myself or immediate family members. The price I would get at the dealership without any haggling is the \"dealer invoice\". \n\nHow I see it is I could buy a brand new car this year, trade it in next year on another new vehicle, have the rebate essentially offset the depreciation of the vehicle. This would put me in a brand new car every year, constantly remaining under the warranty, at no to very minimal cost. Obviously it would be better to buy the vehicle with cash in the first place and do this, but seeing as how I don't have the cash right now it would be on a loan, that I would roll over every year.", "summary": "Company offers rebate of $2250 off new car with no limits on how often I do it. "}
{"id": "t3_1kfr09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my GF[20F] we've been dating for about 7 months, are we like... compatible?", "post": "So I've been dating this truly beautiful, intelligent, sexy woman for about 7 months. I meet with her several times a week, sometimes we stay together for nights and so on, we talk everyday with each other through internet if we can't meet that day. I'm almost sure that I love her to death, she gives me clues and says that I'm a first guy she truly\nlove and she does everything she can for me to feel secure in that relationship and I do as well. We both have some issues with self-esteem (but for different reasons), and probably we both feel a little bit insecure in this relationship, for many reasons.\n\nWe spend time talking, traveling, walking or simply staying at home, watching tv, doing stupid things, usually doing very spontaneous things.\n\nI feel great whenever I'm with her, she told me several times that she feels very happy thanks to me, but once she said something that got me thinking. She said that she wonders if we aren't to different. Then she said that she thinks we in fact like opposites.\n\nI'm almost sure that we are very similar in fact, but maybe I'm just try to convince myself that everything is going to be alright.\n\nI have to admit, that for today my studies, work and her is all my life. I have no longer any hobbies, I'm hardly meet new people when I'm not with her. I have to admit that I'm struggling with some problems in my family and I have to work, and focus on my studies and earning money. I love her talking about anything, but I'm just scared to death that one day we can just like have nothing more to say, or anything.\n\nIt's time to man up and ask though questions. Do partners in relationship have to be like same? Have same minds, have so much in common?", "summary": "Wondering if people with different minds might have a successful relationship."}
{"id": "t3_35srz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23F) mother (49) thinks she is going above and beyond the role of a parent by letting me live with her and my dad while I complete college. Is she correct to pat herself on the back for letting me live at home when I would otherwise be homeless, or am I entitled by disagreeing?", "post": "My mother and I have huge differences of opinion when it comes to me living at home. I don't have to pay rent to them so I am grateful for that much. However, I have been working 20-30 hours a week depending on the semester throughout my entire college career. I pay some of my own bills and would pay them a lump of money for bills we shared as a family (car insurance, phone). And I graduated on May 9.\n\nIt has always been a point of conflict with my mother and I about how grateful I ought to be for them allowing me to live at home. My mom seems to think it is going above and beyond the role of a parent to allow me to stay at home while I complete my studies. I disagree because I think any parent who loves their child should have no problem allowing this as long as the child is working towards independence. She thinks I am entitled and selfish for having this opinion and I would like to know what strangers think because outside perspectives can be very insightful.", "summary": "My mom thinks she is going above and beyond by allowing me to stay at home while I finish college, while I think that's what any loving parent would do and she thinks I'm selfish for thinking this. I'm just curious to others' opinion on the matter."}
{"id": "t3_242n8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 F) feel like my boyfriend (24 M) of 7 months has no time for me anymore.", "post": "When my so and I started dating, we talked constantly every day and saw each other 3-4 days per week. Within these past two weeks, I feel like I have to start conversations with him or else he won't even text or call me. And I see him once a week now. Granted, he doesn't have a car so he can't visit me right now, and I understand that aspect, it just doesn't seem like he wants me around. He tells me he is thinking about us moving in together, but how are we supposed to do that when we don't really communicate at all anymore? I have talked to him before about the distance I feel from us not talking but ask he says is sorry and doesn't really change. Should I be worried? Should I even stay if he can't give me the time of day anymore? Blaghughughughagh. I need advice as to how to handle this.", "summary": "boyfriend doesn't really give me the time of day anymore, but still wants to move in together. How should I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_w9ed9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm scared to have sex and girlfriend may leave me because of it - what to do?", "post": "My GF (19) and I (19M) have been going out for about a year. She is my first girlfriend and we both love each other. Other than a few small fights, we get along great and have no real problems, other than one. I won't have sex. It's not a physiological thing, as we do everything else, but I am absolutely terrified of pregnancy. I know that she would never consider abortion and the idea of her getting pregnant, even if it's a tiny chance, fills me with dread. I would never have unprotected sex, and if I did have sex, I'd wear a condom (she's on the pill). I know that given both those methods the chances of pregnancy are incredibly slim, but to my paranoid mind, it's not good enough and I choose not to have sex (even though many times I really want to). I will have sex one day, but I think I should be ready to be a father, should that happen, when I do have sex. My GF knew about how I felt about sex from basically the beginning of our relationship and said it wasn't a huge problem and that we could work around it. She now says it's a problem and that we need to talk about it and 'work towards it'. I know it's a completely reasonable idea, but deep down I know I'm not gonna change my mind, and I'm scared she's gonna leave me because of that. What should I do? Do I tell her outright that I just won't change my mind? Or do I say \"we can work towards it\" even though I know it probably won't change? I love her and don't want to lose her. Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated :). Thanks in advance!", "summary": "I'm scared to have sex, GF knew from the outset and said it was fine. Now, she says it's a problem but I know my mind isn't going to change."}
{"id": "t3_exvne", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend is being really cold to me, what do I do?", "post": "My girlfriend was at work yesterday, so I texted her asking if she wanted to come round when her shift was over. She declined, saying she had a headache.\n\nSo I thought it'd be nice if I could get a cleaning lady to come round and tidy up my place while she was at home, so when she next came over my place would be all sparkling clean and she'd be really impressed! What nicer treat than that?\n\nUnfortunately, while she was cleaning my sink, she spilled a bottle of bleach all over her clothes. Not wanting her to get bleach all over the place, I suggested she wash her clothes. So while her clothes were in the washer, she wanted to get on cleaning the living room, so I left her to it while I went to play games on the PC upstairs for a while.\n\nA short while later, the cleaner screams from downstairs, runs out of the living room saying something about a strange person staring at her from the garden. I ran outside with a bat, fearing a burglar, but nothing to be seen, no burglar, no person hiding in the garden. I did hear a car screeching off from my driveway in a hurry though, so I figure the cleaner may have scared them off.\n\nFeeling a bit creeped out, I texted my girlfriend to ask how her headache was and if she wanted to come over, but no reply at all. Hours later she replies with just the word \"Fine.\" Now I know \"Fine\" is woman-code for \"Definately not fine. I'm upset about something but won't tell you what\"\n\nSince then, she won't answer my calls, she hasn't replied to my texts, she wasn't at home when I knocked on her door, and hasn't replied to the voicemails I left her asking what's up.\n\nWhat up with my crazy girlfriend reddit?", "summary": "This guy has a girlfriend! HEY EVERYONE!"}
{"id": "t3_155p76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26F needs help dealing with her Heroin addict 47m father", "post": "***Let me start off by saying I am a horrible speller and bad at grammar do to learning disables.\n***\n I**(26f)** need help dealing with my **(46)** homeless Heroin addict **father**. I really have no help at all with my other family members my**(26)** twin sister is a meth addict who is now 7 months clean. My**(23)** little sister is a meth, heroin, whore in a gang. My mother OD on Meth and died 8 years ago. I spent my whole life in special ed classes. Due to my family drug problems I was able to over come a lot of limits the doctors placed me on. \nBut my father is a homeless heroin addict. I set up interviews for rehabs and shelters I cannot do all the paperwork for him due to my disables and his age. I fear meeting my father alone due to that fact he is around my little sister a lot. She is in a gang. All this keeps me up at night I want to help my father but I do not know how. I want to be safe. I know bring my father into my**(27)** boyfriend and mine house will put us in danger and end our relationship. I do not want this whoever all this keeps me awake at night. \nMy twin sister who is clean will not deal or help me deal with this she is to far into her own recovery to care or want to care. I do not know what to do anymore. It is clear my family is no longer anything due to drugs. I have smoked pot a few times I do not like it, I have nothing to due with drugs. I have so much in my life to deal with and his is not helping. Please give me good ideas who to deal with this.", "summary": "I need help finding away so I can sleep at night without meds. To find peace with myself. And away to help my dad before he ODs or does something stupid."}
{"id": "t3_4yakfd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Full-Time student/SAH Dad, Wife having a terrible time finding a job-- and broke as crap. LF: advice.", "post": "Hopefully this is the right sub for this...\nI am currently going to school trying to get through as quickly as possible (with good grade) so that I can graduate and get a job that pays >$15 per hour. I have all of my classes either online, first thing in the morning or in the evening so that I can be daycare for our 1.5 year old daughter. \n\nMeanwhile, my wife currently has a part time job, getting 8-15 hours per week paying minimum wage. She has been trying to find a full time job for the past 2-3 months, getting an occasional interview but nothing comes through or she gets a sketchy vibe from the interview. She has experience working various industries but nothing seems to be clicking. \n\nWe are currently living with my parents, paying rent when we can. We are currently maxing out our credit cards to pay for textbooks/stupid-online-access-codes. I feel completely lost and hopeless. I have had the thought of dropping a class or two to try and pick up some work but that would incur childcare expenses that would likely nullify any work that I got, not to mention I feel that it would only perpetuate the situation rather than fix it.", "summary": "I'm a broke college student, married with a kid. How on earth can my family make a living?"}
{"id": "t3_4kieep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (22m) being played like an idiot by (22f)?", "post": "Ive been seeing this girl for a few weeks. Weve gone on some really nice dates and seem to get along great. We text every day and both have jobs so we stay busy. \n\nHere's what i dont get though...on a few seperate occasions we were both free from work. We had loosely agreed on plans (because we were unsure of work) but instead she chose to go out with her friends and didnt invite me along. \n\nWhat i really dont get is that she then texts me and complains about her friends after choosing them over me. \n\nShe knows i just moved here so i dont know anybody. So why would she not only not go out with me, but not invite me out and then complain about it all night? \n\nIve stopped texting her because it annoys me. Am I crazy for being bothered?", "summary": "girl regularly chooses friends over me and keeps us seperate. Complains about her friends like im her therapist after."}
{"id": "t3_1po459", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "A little Halloween revenge...", "post": "I am a 17 year old male, who with two of my 16 year old male friends, all in costume, went trick-or-treating tonight. Even though we got 15-20 lbs each by the end, we still got a lot of shit for being too old.\n\nOne guy was a particular dick about it. He gave me and my friends one tiny piece each, and said, \"It's too bad your'e not little kids in costumes, otherwise I would have given you more.\" \n\nI was pissed, so I snarked, \"Thanks for the treat. But now here's the trick.\"\n\nAfter my comment, I turned my back to the man, belted out the loudest and nastiest fart my bowels could muster. The man then looked disgusted and shut the door, and my friends and I ran away laughing our asses off.", "summary": "I'm not too fucking old to trick-or-treat, asshole."}
{"id": "t3_4fji47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30F] mother's [59F] financial irresponsibility is becoming untenable", "post": "Way, way back when I was in high school, my mother was the unfortunate victim of a workplace accident.  She's been disabled since then, but she got pretty screwed over in the courts and sees very little money for it.  As such, after college I moved back home to help care for her financially and to help with what physical tasks she just can't handle any more (lifting, groceries, stairs, etc.).  I do okay for myself, but nowhere near well enough that I could support her without living together, which is quite trying at this age...\n\nWe split the bills as best we can.  She handles the food (since I don't drive) and two of her own, personal bills, which leaves her with a bit of spending money, while I handle basically everything else, including her credit cards.  This last one is where the issue lies.  We have had *countless* discussions about these credit cards and promises are made about curtailing spending and putting them away, but *nothing* ever changes.  In the past four months, she's charged over $3,500!  If I were to bring this up, she'd just tell me how it's because of the car ($600) or how she's returned a lot of things ($1,000), but it still doesn't make up for her spending.\n\nI'm at my wits' end here.  I've got student loans out of the *ass* that I'm almost never going to get paid off, while $250 of *my* money gets siphoned off into her spending habits every month.  The idea of moving out and letting her figure out her own life becomes more and more appealing as time goes on, but in her financial situation I don't see how she could survive...", "summary": "My mother's spending is out of control and no amount of talking changes things.  I want to gtfo out of this situation, but I'd be leaving her high and dry"}
{"id": "t3_18b6lg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why Domino's?", "post": "Domino's Pizza will not deliver to my apartment anymore. I live squeezed between downtown El Paso and the University of Texas El Paso. So it's a major urban area. The closest Domino's stops delivery five blocks north of me. If i want pizza i have to time the delivery guy, and walk to a church i meet them at and wait. On the internet i have seen elaborate pizza art, box art, origami, and inspirational box lid speeches that had to have taken far more time to do than driving the extra five blocks would. It seems Domino's is losing hundreds of customers for no reason. So my question to you reddit is would you eat your pizza cut normally so i could too?", "summary": "So my question to you reddit is would you eat your pizza cut normally so i can too?"}
{"id": "t3_14wsab", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is there any profession for someone like me?", "post": "25 yo, currently working in British Coastguard as a watchkeeper. Basically, we keep the watch on the radio, plan and coordinate operations (search and rescue, counter pollution). I love it but... Well, I'm bullied at work, I work very long hours doing mostly nothing at all, our future as an organisation doesn't look bright, minimum wage - I have many reasons to get out. But I don't know where and what to do. Its a safe governmental job but i will have to look for other options. However, there's few things that may make it more difficult:\n\n- I'm hard-working, up to the point where my managers would tell me to slow down. I love putting 100% effort in what I do. In my current job it's seen as a negative trait. \n\n- I'm quite abrupt and prefer to go straight to the point - in no way you can describe as a smooth-talker (at work). I don't like to waste anybody's time. Some people love it and respect me for it. But usually the people I work with don't like me that much, cause I don't mix my personal life and work, and I don't like to be paid for doing fuck all.\n\nBasically, I want a job where it's okay to be a workaholic. I love helping people and this is why I've joined the coastguard. But I need to move on. I don't have any specific skills I could sell as a freelancer now, but I learn quickly. I have a degree but its nothing related with anything i would like to do. What direction could I choose now, considering I'm getting a bit old?", "summary": "I tend to be obsessed with work and tasks, I learn quickly, I would love to work independently (time/place). That indicates I should start my own business. But what can I learn quickly and sell, where do I begin?"}
{"id": "t3_33qcfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] was invited to the same event by my friend [20 F] and the guy I'm seeing [21 M]", "post": "So yeah. My friend (let's call her Casey) has been having a rough time with some personal stuff and I thought I'd invite her to hang out this weekend. She invited me to a play that's happening tonight and I agreed. Well, I started casually seeing this guy (let's call him Jake) about a month ago. We've had a couple dates but we don't talk much and I haven't gotten to hang out with him much lately because I'm busy with finals and projects. So he texted me and asked if I wanted to go to the play with him. \n\nI'm not sure what to do. I technically agreed to go with Casey first, but if I show up with her and we run into each other, it'll be awkward. I don't know if I should invite him to tag along. Casey's recently been having some trouble with a couple of our friends who are dating and keep treating her like a third wheel, so I don't want to do that to her. Not to mention this is supposed to be a \"you're having a rough time so let's have a girls night\" kind of thing. But if I try to explain that to Jake I don't think he'll understand. I'm worried he'll get the impression that I'm not willing to make time for him. He's leaving in about a week and a half and we won't see each other all summer, and I really don't have any free time this weekend at all, so yeah. What should I do?", "summary": "Friend invited me to play, guy I'm casually dating invited me to the same play, but I'm not sure who to go with or what to tell the guy"}
{"id": "t3_4zhb92", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is my mother being riled up over something trivial? (renting an apartment)", "post": "Hey, I wasn't sure where to post this - it's a small question, but it's my first time renting an apartment for college, and my landlord was in Switzerland the day my mom wanted to move some items in (not entirely move in). But, you know, landlord being in another country kind of makes that impossible. So basically we couldn't move in the day my mom wanted to drop by and move in some stuff.\n\nBut is it reasonable for my mom to demand for August's rent to be fully refunded just because of that? I'm pretty sure if this incident didn't happen where our schedules didn't meet my mom wouldn't even have thought of this. But she's just getting extremely angry over the fact that my landowner said \"You can move in any time during August\" and yet we were denied that a few days ago since she happened to be in Switzerland.\n\nFYI classes for me don't start until the 29th of August, so I pretty much haven't lived there. But my mom is saying I should only have to pay for the days AFTER I move into the apartment, whereas my landowner's lease clearly said the lease was from August 1, 2016 to July 31, 2016. It also said I am allowed to move in any time during August, since I technically paid my rent for that month, but since we couldn't, my mom is throwing a hissy fit and is even suggesting I terminate our contract and just commute (1-2 hours) because she's being a \"difficult landlord\" and \"won't give our money back.\"", "summary": "landlord can't let me move in because she's in another country even though the lease said I could move in any day of August, and my mom is either getting unnecessarily angry about this or she actually has a reason and I should do something about it."}
{"id": "t3_4xnyxd", "subreddit": "running", "title": "[RACE REPORT] Louisbourg Race Through Time", "post": "**RACE DESCRIPTION:** A race 8 miles in length between two towns 272 years apart. Go from the year 2016 and run to the year 1744 and back again.\n\n**BACKGROUND:** Typical story. Dropped weight and started the /r/c25k program in april 2015. Never ran before that. I transitioned through b210k and a half-marathon training plan. Did my first half. Ran a bunch since then and completed a 27.5k trail race this past June.\n\n**TRAINING:** I have a marathon in September so my training has been focused towards that. This race was a \"training run\".\n\n**COURSE:** An easy peasy loop. You run on asphalt for most of it before transitioning to dirt roads and paths. \n\n**BREAKDOWN:** Ran at a good pace, no real complaints. \n\n**FOOTWEAR:** Hoka One One Challenger ATRs. Loved 'em.", "summary": "I finished an 8 mile race (1:06:32/8:18), set some new PRs, and just really enjoyed the experience. Will be back next year for sure."}
{"id": "t3_qqrcc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you know what \"vibe\" you're giving off?", "post": "I'm a generally friendly person and I get bored at school, so I like to have conversations with people. However, more often than not, I don't want to date the person or even hang out with them in \"real life\". I am very particular about the people I want to be friends with or date and I'm very observent of people's behavior and know fairly quickly what sort of relationship I'd want with the person. I can have a great conversation and have a lot in common with the person but feel no burning desire to hang out with them outside of a school setting. My problem is that a lot of the time people seem to misunderstand my intentions and mistake my friendly behavior as being interested in them (guys) or wanting to hang out with them. Personally, I get **really** irked if a person I talk to assumes that I'm interested in them and tries to pursue me, as a result of their pursuit, I usually end up avoiding them or ignoring them. Am I just being weird? If so, how do I fix it? and how do I know what \"vibe\" I'm giving off? So I can be more careful in the future.", "summary": "I can have a great conversation and lots in common with no intention of ever talking to that person again and get annoyed when they misconstrue my behavior."}
{"id": "t3_1638zi", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Feeling bored with college", "post": "Isn't university supposed to be the one of the best few years of a person's life? I've heard so many stories, seen movies about college, about people becoming close friends, getting into shenanigans, and just having fun. Hell, my parents met in college and still have a great relationship almost 30 years later; in addition, they have friends from college they visit from time to time.\n\nMe? I'm a third-year student of a fairly prestigious school. I play in our band and was elected officer of a club. I have a female roommate (my apartment has two rooms) whom I became friends with my first year here. We've done some fun stuff and had a couple of classes together, and she's pretty cool. This year, however, I've only hung out with her twice (differing schedules and a necessity to study a lot).\n\nI feel like I have only two other friends:\n\nOne of them is in the same, small major as I; as a result, we often have classes together; however, we have only studied together, and he spends a majority of his time doing stuff with others. \n\nMy best friend, the love of my life, attends another university 250 miles away. We try to visit each other once a month, which becomes highlight in my life. I attend a fairly prestigious school, but have found myself counting how long till I get out and can live with my best friend. She keeps telling me to have fun, make friends, and go out. She would support me if I stayed a several years attending a graduate school away from her.\n\nI have social anxiety, for which I attended a program to conquer my fear of people. It's helped immensely, but it's still difficult to keep friends.", "summary": "College student who whines about stuff they take for granted.*"}
{"id": "t3_gyb3f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think somebody is generously \"borrowing\" from a field guide I wrote on my blog.  Should I be upset about this?", "post": "I'm a Folklore and Arts Admin student, and I frequently takes classes where I have to use my Wordpress blog for assignments.  Last year I put together a fairly comprehensive ['field guide' about lolcats]  About two months ago, I started noticing a bunch of hits on the lolcat guide.  I got bored one afternoon and decided to see how quickly I could find my guide using Google, and I came across [this guide]  Some of the language and topic pages seemed similar to mine, but I figured that there's only so much to be said about lolcats, so some overlap was natural.  That was about a week ago.\n\nJust now, I checked my blog stats again, and I've had another spike in activity on the lolcat page.  I went back to the guide on the other site, and they've added new pages to their guide, which have even more similarities to mine.  I wouldn't mind if it was just the images (obviously I found the lolcats I used through Google and whatnot), but I feel like this person is using my words as well.\n\nSome of the pages on their guide appear to have been up long before mine, but they've been making a lot of changes and additions recently.  All I really want is that, if they are using my guide to supplement theirs, they at least include a link to my guide or a reference somewhere.  I worked on it for months, and it was the foundation for a paper about lolcats that I presented at a folklore conference this Fall.\n\nAt the same time, I can't help thinking maybe I'm just over-analyzing this and I should just be glad people are enjoying my field guide?  Some of the places where they've 'borrowed' are pretty minor, but there's a lot of them.", "summary": "after lots of hits on a lolcat field guide I wrote, another lolcat guide has similarities.  Can't decide if it's plagiarism, or how much I should care."}
{"id": "t3_3h7ggl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] asking out Fs of similar age range platonically. What's the best way to do it?", "post": "Alright so this has been lingering in the back of my mind lately. I'm your typical university student and naturally there's a lot of girls around. Most of them are classmates that I'm \"hallway/Facebook friends\" with and some I have close platonic relationships.\n\nSince the new semester started I've noticed a couple girls around that I would like to hangout and be friends with, but I have absolutely no romantic interest in them.\n\nSo now my question is, how do I ask them out in like a platonic way? I know asking them out to group activities would be one, but I find that I cultivate better friendships when it's 1-on-1 or small groups.", "summary": "How to ask girls out platonically? Indicating no romantic interest."}
{"id": "t3_4o8stl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Friend [25F], not sure if im being lead on.", "post": "Firstly, I knew this girl from college and high school but we never hung out directly, I actually had a bit of a crush on one of her flatmates when we met. I only started hanging out with her about a year or so ago when she was coming to the end of a messy break up. \n\nWe became good friends, we hung out and smoked up together. We went on road trips, out for meals and really got on really well. I stupidly moved too soon and within a few months of intense texting and hanging out, I told her that I liked her. She said her head was still in a mess and we put aside our amazing friendship for a while to \"cool down\".  The problem, is that nothing really cooled down, she picked right back from where we left off the following week as if the conversation the week prior had never happened.\n\nLots of texting, lots of flirting, still going out on \"dates that are not actually dates\" and alike. This has been going on a few months and I really really like this chick, but I dont want to move in too quickly again. I get great vibes 99% of the time, and sometimes it can really feel like we are a couple. (Despite not being a couple) Just recently she has started mentioning other guys to me, despite her still being quite cute and affectionate towards me & wanting to make future plans with me (this week, next week, next month, next year) . She even mentioned that she was texting a guy who \"doesnt really suit her\" and that she doesnt really have any interest in him, despite my amazing ability of changing the subject, she still doesnt seem to get the hint that I dont really want to hear about him.\n\nIt feels like ive waited in limbo forever and now my chance has just wizzed by. Or maybe it hasnt? I just dont understand why she would want to spend so much time with me, do cool things with me, be cute and make future plans with me & then kicks me in the balls by telling me about other guys who hit on her?", "summary": "Hot and cold signals on a daily basis & feels like we are a couple but we are not a couple. I moved too fast last time, now im scared to move at all."}
{"id": "t3_oum51", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "how to get out of the friendzone i have put myself in", "post": "So redditors, I need your advice. I am 27, f. So I got to know a guy (32) over the internet (no dating site, but he's a local DJ). He's not my usual type of guy. We had a few conversations on fb and he was very eager to get to know me. I thought he was very nice and we had a good conversation when we randomly ran into each other at a party. At some point we were standing outside, I was freezing and he then put his arm around me but I refused. Well, basically I friendzoned him, cause he was not my type at al.   \nWe met a couple times and at first I was like: Never, not in a thousand years would I go out with him. He did not make a move, but i think the way he looked and smiled at me tells me there was more (I think). But then I got to know him. And I got to like him more. We had things in common, important things, values. He seems like a very nice guy with high moral standards and a good heart.  And I fell for him. This dawned on me the last time we saw each other and the situation was a bit awkward because I was so surprised by my feelings, that I barely knew what to say and was very nervous. That was around Christmas.   \nI'm very much busy with thesis writing at the moment, so we did not really have the time to meet up. He was a bit distant lately, well he's still talking and wants to meet, but he lost the eagerness he had in the beginning. Now I believe/hope he still likes me but has no clue I like him back. I am such a chicken and not sure whether I should make a move and how or if I should just let it go because if he really really wanted me he would have let me know that.", "summary": "Friendzoned a guy but then  realized I fell for him, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1agj09", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Shy or uninterested?", "post": "I [20s F] met a guy on a night out [20s M] and after making out, we exchanged numbers, etc. I noticed when I met them they were fairly shy. Since then I have been talking to this person fairly frequently and have been asking a lot of questions to get to know them, but they never seem to reciprocate the questions I ask. This has happened multiple times, they answer the question I have asked and that's about it. I am finding it very difficult to hold a conversation with them. I am not sure whether they are just really shy or uninterested. I don't want to keep on trying to talk to them if they don't want me to and are just being polite by answering, but equally I don't want to just stop talking to them if it turns out they are shy. I know I could just ask them straight out, but I think I would find that way too embarrassing.", "summary": "Does poor conversation where the other person never reciprocates questions asked mean someone is shy or uninterested?"}
{"id": "t3_28utbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 23(m) loves attention but mostly from women that aren't my girlfriend 22(f). One year relationship.", "post": "Mg girlfriend is loving and supportive. I encourage her to express her self sexually since she is so much more conservative than I am and she has, she feels comfortable around me eyeing other guys and just expressing who she finds attractive which is a big step for her. I don't have a problem with it and I'm happy we're becoming more comfortable with each other. What I wanted to know is that even though we mess around and I enjoy where we are sexually, is it unfair of me to desire more attention? She tells me she loves me and when we mess around she expresses how sexy I am, but I went out tonight and some women hit on me and told me I'm handsome and had a beautiful smile etc. Am I an asshole for loving this attention? Is this normal?", "summary": "My girlfriend is amazing but I enjoy the compliments other women give me more than the ones given by her. Am I fucked up? Help!!!"}
{"id": "t3_1cdy6y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm having a bit of a problem. I tracked my stolen phone online but I don't know how to get it back.", "post": "On Saturday night I was out on the town, after running away from everyone I knew in a drunken attempt at a joke I ended up at home without my phone.\nSo I used icloud the next morning (which is pretty cool by the way) and tracked my phone to an apartment building a few neighbourhoods over. Set a message on the screen saying \"call my roommates number and i'll even give you a reward\" ... But got no call.\nThen I called the non-emergency police to see if they could swing by and get it all serious style, but that was a no go.\nI can see that it's still there but it's now on 5% battery and might soon be lost forever.\nWhat do I do? Knock down every door in this apartment complex hoping some good person will give it back but potentially get shanked in the process? Or just consider it a write off and move on?", "summary": "lost my phone, tracked it, it's in an apartment complex across town, police couldn't help... WHAT DO I DO"}
{"id": "t3_39rzuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Might be in love with my best friend", "post": "I [17,M] Just finished junior year of high school, and I have really strong feelings for my best friend of the last few years. She's everything and more than I've ever wanted. We have the same interests, goals, plans, and sense of humor, besides her being the prettiest thing in all creation. \nI don't want to make the friendship (remember: best friend)  awkward with unrequited feelings, but also don't want to miss my opportunity. From a distance of seems like I should go for it, but she is much better looking than me, and seems to lose interest in guys really quickly sometimes. She has basically her pick of anyone she wants to date, being who she is. \nOn top of all this I'm so vastly inexperienced with relationships I have no idea what to do and what will happen.", "summary": "have feelings for a close friend, but don't know if the feelings are mutual. Don't want to rush things or complicate a friendship with unrequited feelings."}
{"id": "t3_27ptxy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my bf [28M] have been together for almost 2 years. He does cocaine and I am not okay with it.", "post": "My boyfriend has an addictive personality. He used to be addicted to meth but has been clean now for a few years. He is also a heavy drinker. I found out he did coke a couple of months into our relationship. I've tried being cool about it but then he started lying to me about his use. I've asked him to stop and he has said he will but still doesn't stop.\n\nIt doesn't seem like he uses it a lot but I am worried about his health. Whenever certain friends come around, he can't help but give in and do coke with them. I love him and we have talked about kids and getting married and I am worried he will never be able to stop. He tells me he can stop whenever he likes, but I feel if he doesn't stop now, how will he be able to stop 5 years down the line. His friends are telling him to be a man and don't let her \"cut of your balls\". All I am asking is he stops doing cocaine. I'm not asking anything else of him.", "summary": "I am really worried about my bf's health and wish he would stop doing cocaine before it gets worse. Am I the crazy one here?"}
{"id": "t3_31jde9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (21F) best comfort my friend (24F) when I visit her in the hospital?", "post": "Hi reddit. My childhood friend (for 17 years) has had chronic issues with her brain her whole life due to a congenital condition. Her health has always been fragile and she's gone through serious health scares. In the last year, it's gotten worse and she's been in and out of the hospital because of fluid build-up in her brain. \n\nI used to live in the same city as her, but moved to a different city 2 hours away a few months ago. Today her husband (24M) told me that my friend has been in the hospital for a week because of uncontrollable nausea, and is going to have 3 procedures done on her brain next week. He said she's pretty doped up on medication, as well as lonely and depressed because he can't be there with her 24/7 because of work and university. He said she would really appreciate if I visited.\n\nTomorrow is the only day where I can visit because of school and work, so I'm going to take the bus over to her city just to see her in the hospital. I'd like to think I'm a caring friend, but I'm also socially awkward, especially when it comes to comforting people who are in pain.  I feel like I'm terrible at cheering people up.\n\nMy question is: what can I do to make her feel better and take her mind off her pain and upcoming surgeries/procedures? What can I bring her to keep us occupied (e.g. games, books?) since she's probably not feeling up to having a long conversation? Any advice would be appreciated.\n\nThank you so much!", "summary": "My childhood friend is in the hospital because of serious brain issues. I'm going to go to her city tomorrow to visit her. I'm socially awkward and would like advice on how to best cheer her up and spend time with her, since in the past I haven't been great at comforting people."}
{"id": "t3_3yu85r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cursing out my phone", "post": "So this was a few weeks ago, and I'm applying for a job at a local restaurant. My phone has been pretty slow recently, and occasionally freezes under intense use. \n\nAnyway, I call the boss of the place and start talking to him. He seemed pretty cool, and was Asian so he was a bit hard to understand. We talk for 5 minutes or so and I'm about halfway into a pre-interview (basically he was just getting my info and stuff) when suddenly I stop hearing his voice. \n\nShit.\n\nI look down at my phone, no display. Shake it, tap the power button, nothing. Balls, it froze.\n\nI look at my phone and yell \"YOU STUPID PIECE OF FUCKING SHIT GOD DAMMIT\" and proceed to be pissed at my phone for a solid 30 seconds before calming down and restarting my ~~shitbrick~~phone. \n\nI call him back and he seems much more softspoken. We hang up without scheduling an official interview. Damn\n\nSo around a week later I decide to listen to the phonecall, because I was curious what went wrong. I apologised for my phone cutting out and everything, so I had no idea why he was so different after my phone dropped.\n\nSo I listen to my recorded calls. Apparently my phone has a freezing order or some shit, because it cut out my speaker and screen before the apps running in the background- like my phone, recorder, and **my microphone.**\n\nSo at the end of my phonecall, my would-be employer got the entirety of my vulgar vocabulary while I thought my phone was off.", "summary": "On the phone with my would-be boss, phone froze, cursed out my phone and didnt realize he heard all of it till a week later"}
{"id": "t3_3mpzfy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kicking a woman's coffee as she tried to get it on the bus", "post": "As lurking has taught me: mandatory \"This actually just happened!\"\n\nThis happened barely 10minutes ago and the shame is ever soo fresh..\n\nSoo here I was sitting on the bus listening to music and watching the peasents walking on the curb as I drove by, when I suddenly felt something tapping my shoe.\nWatching the lady infront of me bending down I naturally assumed she dropped something and bent down to help her pick it up.\n\nWhat I saw was a cardboard coffee-cup with the plastic mouthcover toward me, spilling out the juices. I didnt want to touch her plastic thingy, but I wanted to help her, soo my brain, smart as it is started telling my foot to gently tap it towards her. Again I didnt want to touch the plastic cause that would only make it moore dirty.\n\nIn an instant flurry off emotions and the \"F***ING NOW OR NEVER!!\" sensation deer get when they want to cross the road, my foot went for it!\n\nI turned this presumably nice lady's cardboard cup into a missile and launched it through her feet, into the midway and 6-ish seets down the line. The lady sit's up straight, looks at me with the \"dude, the f*ck..\" kinda look, sighs and goes for her coffee. Wich now is surrounded by a wall shaming eyes.\n\nIm sry presumably nice lady!!", "summary": "Lady dropped her coffee, I kicked it, she got blamed for spilling coffee all along the midsection off the bus."}
{"id": "t3_2zb98y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cooking a dinner for me and my future self", "post": "Ok, this is a fresh story, and I'm still suffering my big mistake.\n\nAbout 20 minutes ago I started to get hungry after I got home from work and cleaned the cat crapper and my room (finally), after all that shit that I cleaned all that mess, I decided that it was time to eat and attempted to make a nice dinner for me.\n\nI looked on the fridge and saw some egg's and said to myself \" scrambled eggs seems like a good idea\", and it was, everything was going fine with cooking (I mix eggs on the frying pan because I'm lazy) and an idea crossed my mind \" what if I make some more and take the leftovers as lunch tomorrow, save some time and play some monster hunter on my break\"  and took other 3 eggs to add to the recipe.\n\nAdded one, fine.\nAdded another, ok.\nAdded the last  one, OH GOD! WHAT DID I DO?!?!\nThat shit was rotten, black and disgusting, and the smell, oh the smell, it changed from a delicious lunch to as if one of my cat had taken a dump on my frying pan as I cook.\n\nI wanted to puke and throw that food away but of course it was hot as hell and just can't throw it on plastic bag or the sink because of the hot dogs I added.\nAnd here I am in my living room waiting for the smell to decrease a little and throw it away.", "summary": "always check if the eggs float on water before starting to cook them."}
{"id": "t3_3bd58t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using the phrase guerilla tactics", "post": "Hm well I was playing Risk with some teenagers at my cousin's house .  One of them was a black kid named J-.  They didn't have a lot of experience with the game, and so they weren't massing their forces at their borders, they kind of scattered their troops willy nilly all over the board.  This kid J- makes some newbie moves during his turn that didn't work out well-- he was attacking my large armies with smaller armies, and he couldn't use all the attack di, so it would be for instance his two attack di versus my two defence di, giving me a significant advantage.  The other kids were teasing him about this, so I said 'He's just using guerilla tactics'.  Everything became quiet.  Someone to my right said 'What?!' The boy looked at me incredulously with some pain in his eyes.  It dawned on me that they had probably understood it as 'gorilla tactics', and thought I was making a racial slur.  I mumbled something about 'yea, guerilla tactics, you know like in Vietnam'... I don't think that clarified the situation at all for these kids.   \n\nSome time later during a church soccer game this boy did a sliding tackle on me that left me sprawled in the dirt.  I think I understand the glint of satisfaction in his eyes that I observed.  Perhaps my biggest FU of all was not simply explaining myself at the time but it was super awkward.", "summary": "Black kid heard me say 'gorilla tactics' when what I meant was 'guerilla tactics'.  And I didn't clarify the statement to stop them thinking I'm racist."}
{"id": "t3_14jljy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] I'm afraid that I've ruined my relationship with the only girl I've ever loved [17/F] because of my best friend and Reddit.", "post": "Let's wind the clock back to late May. I'm staying in the Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island with my high school's Forensics team (that's competitive acting and public speaking, mind you). On the last night of my stay, we have a big dance in the hotel's small ballroom. I met a girl there that lives eight hours away from me, but we hit it off pretty easily. We part ways later that evening but keep in touch over Facebook.\n\nFast forward to early November. Things are getting pretty serious right now. We've officially entered a long-distance relationship and all is well.\n\nFast forward to yesterday, December 8th, 2012. She's incredibly pissed at me and I don't understand why. I got a message on Facebook that said she was going to kill me. I asked what was wrong and was told to check my Reddit account. I looked at my submitted links and found ***multiple nude pictures*** of her posted on /r/gonewild. I flipped out since she's underage and started to look for answers, but I had a hunch.\n\nMy best friend (Let's call him Sheldon) shares my Reddit account. I know that I didn't post those picture of her to Gonewild, so it must have been him since he's the only other person with access to my account. He must have been on my computer, somehow found my pictures of her, and posted them to Gonewild.\n\nNow my girlfriend refuses to believe that I wasn't the one to post the pictures. I've deleted them off of my hard drive and my Reddit account, but I still haven't been able to get a hold of my \"friend.\"\n\nMy girlfriend is demanding proof that it wasn't me who posted the pictures, but if I can't contact Sheldon to get him to confess to the uploads, what can I do to convince her that it wasn't me? I seriously do not know what to do at this point.", "summary": "My 17 year-old girlfriend had pictures of herself posted to /r/gonewild from my Reddit account. I didn't do it and highly suspect it was my friend , but can't contact him for a confession and my girlfriend wants proof that it wasn't me. Help."}
{"id": "t3_iahj9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst thing you have done to a significant other?", "post": "In High School, I had a lady friend over late at my house on a school night. We were up chatting and having sexytimes, until about 6 in da monin. I didn't realize it was so late, until I heard my parents door open down the hall. Freaking the fuck out, I told her to get in the closet, and hide for a bit until they left for work. I laid back down to act like I was sleeping, knowing my dad came in my room to check his email every morning. This is where it all went horribly wrong.. 3 hours later, I was awoken by an utterly horrified girl, crying an screaming at me. When I laid down, apparently, I had immediately passed out. Once she calmed down, she told me that my dad came in, and she stopped breathing for about 10 mins. My closet was also pretty damn dirty, so if she moved, it would have knocked something over.\n\nLater that night, my mom came home and asked me what my girlfriends shoes were doing at the front door when they left. Like a boss, I replied, she accidentally left them here. She has inside and outside shoes. My mom bought it, never underestimate the power of denial.\n\nI have more, that was the best one though.. Tell me yours..", "summary": "In High School, I made my girlfriend hide in the closet, so my parents wouldn't catch us having sexytimes."}
{"id": "t3_4nwra4", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Be very careful if you let your cats out on the deck at night!!!!!", "post": "My moms cat is in surgery now for a number of issues due to a fall from a second story deck.\n\nNo one was there to witness the incident, but sometime in the night/early morning she fell or jumped from the second story deck on the front of the house down to the parked cars below.\nWe found her at the back door with her face swollen up and blood dripping from her mouth. After a trip to the emergency vet ( this happened on early Sunday morning) we found out she broke a tooth, fractured part of her jaw, and tore her hard pallet?(the roof of your mouth) so that her mouth was leaking into her nose.\n\nMy parents have her at a surgery specialist center now to get a CT scan and hopefully fix her all up because the surgery was to extensive for the normal vet. Who knows what the cost is going to be but she will be worth it all.\n\nSo again if you have deck that you let your cats use at night when you aren't watching be very careful and make sure it is safe for them!", "summary": "Cat fell from second story deck, now needs surgery to fix broken mouth."}
{"id": "t3_vudm8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Couples of Reddit!! After over 2 months of barley showing affection to me because of working 70+ hours a week, and being overly stressed, my husband woke me up, unexpectedly, with much needed kisses and sexy times. What things does your SO do to re-spark your relationship flame?", "post": "Basiclly, he started a new job a few months ago and has been working anywhere from 13 to 18 hour days, 6 to 7 days a week. He is a first (and 2nd) shifter, and I am a 3rd shifter. We rarely see each other but an hour or so a day, and needless to say, caused a bit of a kink in our relationship. Half of the time the most affection I get from him all day is the initial kiss goodbye/goodnight, let alone any sexy times. I have been feeling neglected and down about the whole thing because I am used to having him around alot more and it is not an easy thing to get used to. But, he has a new job, so I (somewhat) understand. \n\nHe surprised me today by curling up in bed with me after I had just gotten home from work and gave me some much needed affection. Totally cannot wipe the stupid, goofy, I-am-so-in-love grin off my face. \n\nNot sure if this has been asked before, but fuck it, I am on cloud 9 and want to hear about other couples similiar ventures. So couples of reddit, what has your SO done to re-light your candle of love?", "summary": "Read the title, lazy-ass."}
{"id": "t3_1xxfgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BF [32 M] duration 7 months. He said Valentine's Day isn't a \"big deal\", and doesn't see the point. Is it unreasonable to be put off by this?", "post": "I am, by no means, an overly romantic person. We are both very down to earth, and have a lot of things going on in our lives. We see each other about twice a week, but we have exchanged \"I love you's\" and it's looking really good. We spoke about Valentine's Day over the last few weeks, and I mentioned how excited I was for our first one.\n\nToday I found out he thinks Valentine's Day is stupid. He doesn't plan on doing anything at all. When he saw that it hurt my feelings, he said, \"well if you care about it, then I'll take you to do whatever you want\". \n\nThis is our first Valentine's Day and I guess I expected *something* from him, even if it was just dinner. My feelings are really hurt, to the point where I almost don't want to see him at all tonight. I'm now worried that we may not be compatible. Is this something that I'm over thinking?\n\nI guess I just feel that even he *doesn't* see the validity of the holiday, that he'd still go out of his way a little bit since it's important to me.", "summary": "My boyfriend thinks Valentine's Day is stupid, and has no intention of celebrating, even though I mentioned that it was important to me. Do I have a right to be upset about this? Is this a sign that we might not be compatible?"}
{"id": "t3_4ujqa0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A story as old as time: my [26F] boyfriend [32M] of seven months cheated on me in Vegas. What now?", "post": "I never really thought the phrase \"when you know, you know\" had any validity when it came to relationships before I met my current SO. If you would have asked me a week ago, I would have been confident in saying that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him--a tall thing for someone to say who never placed much stock in relationships, like myself.\n\nSo, needless to say, when my boyfriend told me that he kissed another girl twice in Vegas at a pool party, I was blindsided. I don't even know how to write this post or what even to ask because I'm in shock.\n\nDetails I can think of:\n\n-he waited over a week to tell me\n\n-he kissed her more than once\n\n-while he was at that pool party, he was drunkenly texting me how he wished i were there and that he loved me\n\nWhile he seems truly remorseful, I don't even know how to begin to process this. I was convinced he was someone who would NEVER cheat on me. I never, ever in my life thought this would happen. \n\nHow do I move past this? How do I make a decision regarding continuing this relationship or not?", "summary": "Boyfriend kissed another girl in Vegas. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_3hgwd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my exgf [26 f] 18months together. I think I have PTSD because of watching her hook up with friend whilst we developed feelings for eachother", "post": "Everyone was drunk, she thought I was miles out of her league. We kissed very briefly but a girl kept texting me which made her feel rejected. A mate made a move then and they fooled around as I passed out and then they left the room.\n\nAfter she found out I did like her, she broke down, cried for weeks until the care I developed took over. We got together and she was brill. As time went on i couldn't get that shit out of my head though and eventually it led to our demise. Caused an awful lot of pain for both of us.\n\nWe had a bad break months and months ago now but it's still all i think about day and night. This girl was the perfect woman, just huge self-esteem issues. and a stupid mistake cost us. \n\nTherapy hasn't helped and i still can't let it go. We were so amazing otherwise. I don't know what to do or even what this post will achieve. I just needed to tell someone.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_13p6ii", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "how do I [f22] deal with an SO [m21]'s disabled parent over a Christmas visit?", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and I have agreed to do Christmas With Boyfriend's Family. However, his mother has advanced MS and has recently been through a few surgeries, and obviously has ongoing serious medical issues. She is also very depressed and difficult to be around--this summer I visited for a week, and by the end I was going crazy. She's a very strong woman, and has compensated for not being able to do a lot of things by telling other people what they should do, which gets trying very quickly. This is made worse by the fact that I'm in med school, and so she wants to confide in me all the problems she's having with all her doctors and complain about the care she's received. (This is a trait which has already alienated many friends and family members who live near her.) We're staying in the house with them and there is really no space for me to get away from the situation or have time to myself. Last christmas, she and the bf got into a fight about the very same \"telling people what to do\" issue, which ended up giving her a severe flare-up that put her in the hospital for four days during and after Christmas. Boyfriend feels guilty about this and really wants this Christmas to be better, and I'm just feeling a lot of dread.\n\nReddit, I want to be a good person and be kind, but I also don't want my christmas (the only break I get in the middle of a really killer med school year year) to be totally filled with medical problems and family drama in a family that isn't mine.", "summary": "How do I treat an SO's disabled, depressed mother with compassion, but also not hate this Christmas or end my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2duo5f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(25f) boyfriend(26m) of two years kissed another girl", "post": "My(25f) boyfriend(26m) of two years kissed another girl\n\nHe made out with an old friend while i was at a work function (apparently they hooked up at a party once back in the day). He told me as soon as I was out of work the next day, saying he didn't want to keep anything from me. (When he saw how devastated I was he became physically ill).\n\nI guess they made out in his car while driving around and talking.\nHe stopped things as she was about to go further.\n\nI honestly would have had no idea this happened if he hadn't told me.\n\nIve known him for almost 10 years, and while I've known he hasn't had the best past, I do really love him.\n\nI want to forgive him, but Im crushed. Advice?", "summary": "boyfriend cheated; didn't lie; still broken hearted"}
{"id": "t3_3ps6kb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my GF [22F] of 11 months, just ended things.", "post": "It was a rocky relationship but at least we love each other. We overcame every obstacle, but i guess with each passing problem, she got more and more worn down. \n\nWe're both young, not yet done living early 20's life, but we talked plenty of settling down, even started living together. We broke up last night, but i dont know if there's still room for reconciliation. I just dont know if i should still be chasing her. I still love her, and i dont really plan on moving on--if it happens, it happens, if it doesnt i'll just deal with it? I just seem to have forgotten what life was like before having someone there.", "summary": "Sorry for the rambling, What are some things that newly single people do, what should i do, i'm just kinda lost."}
{"id": "t3_thhto", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, I think my boyfriend is involved with someone else, please help =[", "post": "My boyfriend and I are 21 and we've been dating for about a year and a half. We've had a few problems in the past but we've always worked through them. A few months ago, he started working at his new job. He was making new friends and I was super happy for him because it seemed to help him feel better about himself. \n\nIn early March, I started noticing this one girl was always texting him or hanging around him at parties. It didn't really bother me at first, I thought it was more odd. Then he started lying to me about doing things with her, he would stay out super late with her and ditch me to hang out with his \"friends\" but it turns out it was only her he was hanging out with. \n\nNow, she acts as if they are dating and he refuses to do anything about it, saying she's \"just a girl from work\" and he tells me he loves me and only me all the time. However, he tells my co-workers and friends that we are together and working out our problems but his co-workers think we are only friends. \n\n I love him and I want it to work I just don't know what I should do or if I'm over-reacting. I feel as if there is something going on because I don't believe she would be doing everything if there wasn't. \n\nPlease help =[", "summary": "I can't decide if my boyfriend wants me or his female \"friend\" and I need help =["}
{"id": "t3_1m5d6s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Contact or not to contact", "post": "I haven't seen this guy in a month. He's been very difficult to catch even though he says he wants to see me again and that I'm important. Last Wednesday I invites him to go to this historical park with me he said he would like that and that a Sunday would be good. I told him I was free every Sunday as far as I knew and to tell me what works for him is good. Heard nothing. A little odd but I didn't think anything of it. Saturday I got my haircut and I was excited about it and I wanted to send him a picture. So I said hi with a smiley face.\nHeard nothing all day or night. I texted him later when I got off work telling him he's not giving me what I need and we're going nowhere and something has to give. Heard nothing. Still haven't and I don't know what to do. I feel like a fish being catches and released over and over. I want to confront him but I feel like at this point I should've heard something.", "summary": "3rd times the charm or should he come to me?"}
{"id": "t3_2e7tad", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] A really good friend (17/f) made a move on me...", "post": "Ok, so I am a bit younger, I hope you don't mind.\n\nI am currently 20 and will start Uni in Germany this fall and I have the first time a real problem with a relationship. I always had a really good friend and she helped me all the time with everything, we know each others since early childhood. She is 2 and a bit years younger than I am and she is really important for me, I can talk with her about anything. I am currently single and now she made a move on me and I am crashing. \n\nHer life is currently horrible, and while we both have it not easy, she is really breaking at the moment. This is hurting me, so I started to become sort of like a brother, whenever I see her I just want to protect her from everything bad in life, no matter what happens. I think she saw that as me approaching and just took the chance (she kissed me, nothing so serious). Now I panicked and friend zoned her. I told her I will think about it until Uni starts, but I don't want to friend zone her, because I know friend zone, it sucks! But whenever I see her, I think of the small child that I still remember, not the girl she is right now (she is 17, it is not like I am committing a crime, am I?) What should I do now? I mean I like her, and we understand each other well, and we know everything about the other one, it would be so relaxed with her...", "summary": "A girl made a move on me and I still see her as a very good childhood friend. Should I let her go or is there a way in which it will change?"}
{"id": "t3_1crumo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(13) Having issues with crush (12-13 lol)", "post": "Hello reddit, this is my first post so sorry if I'm doing anything wrong. As in the title, me and my crush are teenagers, though I think I am older. (I don't know her exact age, I didn't bother to ask) The only people I have told were two of my closest-ish friends, whom we'll call Harry and Jerry. They both thought of plans to introduce me too her. (Harry knew my crush) One day, she dropped her books and I picked them up, to which Harry told me he quote,\"Strategically went behind you because I knew she was going to drop.\" She said thanks, though you could barely hear it. Some background on her, she is quiet, but she is sort of in the \"popular group.\" Then, when my class was walking to gym, this kid I somewhat know, whom we'll call Michael Jordan, asks me if I like my crush. Said yes, now after math I go back to homeroom, there he is telling my crush, her friends, and some other from her class and DIRECTLY POINTING AT ME. I'm that geek who sits in the corner, so yeah. She seemed like idc, and also wouldn't look at me. Her friend (two) teased her that she had a boyfriend. My friend Harry, told me to not directly interact with her, and make it obvious that I don't like her. \"You can't let her know you like her.\" Great advice. So reddit, what do you think I should do? I want to have a relationship with her, but I don't know if she feels the same way and I'll be the idiot of the school.", "summary": "I like this girl, other kid tells people, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_282b2l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my training notebook at home", "post": "I work in a large grocery store of 150+ employees, have been there as a cashier for eight years.  Been wanting additional training for years, but my punctuality sucked, so the bosses didn't want to train me in a supervisory position.\n\nEarlier this year, I finally got out of my rut, started showing up early, and my department manager fought for me to get training.  And I did.  Got a supervisor position and was trained how to close the store a few months ago.  I took to the training really well.\n\nTwo weeks ago, my department head and store manager took me aside, told me I was doing \"remarkably well, better than people who have been doing it for years\" and asked if I felt I'd be up for more training.  I'd be opening the store, reconciling the previous day's sales and payrolls, and more.  Just a step below management level.\n\nMy department head really stuck her neck out for me to even get the supervisor training, and doubly so for this training.\n\nI had my first training shift on Wednesday and things went well enough.  But I was really exhausted, so not everything stuck.  Particularly how to start the day.\n\nThen to make matters worse, today for my second training shift, I forgot the notebook I was given.  My trainer, who was the department manager that stuck her neck out for me, was pretty pissed and told me to just go home, since we didn't have time to redo everything we did on Wednesday.\n\nSo not only am I out my training today, I'm out a day's pay.  But that's not the worse of it.  I like my department head, she fought for me to get this training and I let her down.", "summary": "Disappointed my boss by forgetting the notebook I needed at home.  Without notebook, couldn't continue training."}
{"id": "t3_360o1z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a truck out of a loading dock with the truck's door open", "post": "So this happened about 4 years ago, still cringe thinking about it. \n\nI was working with a sound and lighting company through college, looking to make it a career upon graduation. In our busy season, late July, we were routinely working 70+ hours a week. As a small company, we did our own trucking by leasing 26' box trucks, the largest you can drive without a CDL. \n\nAt the time of the fuck up, we had ~7 trucks at the shop, all in different states of being loaded. Without going into too much detail, logistics required us to partially load one, swap out another, load up, and swap again. \n\nI was asked to pull the current truck out of the dock, but we all decided to take lunch right then. Fast forward a half hour later, I run out to check another truck in the lot, then remember that I still had not pulled out the original truck. So I hopped in, fired her up, threw her in drive, and hit the gas. In my exhaustion, I didn't give it a second thought. \n\nAbout 5 seconds later, I hear 3 loud crashes. I look in the side mirror to see the rest of my crew running out to 3 road cases laying in the parking lot- the door was open and these 3 were not secured. The contents of each included a $10,000 follow-spot, a cable trunk with about $2,000 of cables, and our FOH work box containing microphones, wireless transmitters and more valued at around $5,000. This also does not even figure in the cost of the custom built cases. \n\nWe rolled everything back into the shop, only minor damage to the cases themselves, but I could feel my nuts retreating into my stomach as we prepped to test the follow spot. Fortunately it turned on, though my nuts stayed firmly put in my stomach for hours later. \n\nI was subsequently torn to shreds by the owner, though I wasn't fired as we were already short handed in our busiest season. Ultimately left the company and the industry after graduating, but still feel like the assiest of ass-hats to this day.", "summary": "pulled out, dropped a $20,000 load in the parking lot"}
{"id": "t3_544mul", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm officially overweight...", "post": "For the first time since college!!!!!  Got on the scale this morning and dropped three more pounds which puts my BMI at 29.8.  No longer obese!!!  \n\nFeels really good to be overweight...", "summary": "CICO is working for me."}
{"id": "t3_4qb5te", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with a guy [25M] I've been talking to less than a month, is it bad to \"ghost\"?", "post": "Hi everyone. Thanks for reading!\n\nI've been on one date with this guy and he was fun to hang out with. Previous to the date, I told him I wanted to take anything physical very slowly. He seemed understanding, and I reiterated this again after the date. A few days later, he tried sexting with me, which made me uncomfortable especially since I had just told him I really wasn't interested in anything physical yet, and I find it presumptuous of him to assume that I will have sex with him at all, given we have only hung out once. I also found it kind of disrespectful, since I hadn't been unclear about my opinions on that.\n\nMy question is, can I just like...stop talking to him completely? I haven't answered his texts since that conversation. Can I just keep doing that, or should I explain myself.", "summary": "can I just completely stop talking to a guy who I've only been talking to for less than a month or is that rude?"}
{"id": "t3_3bnclp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU detailing a combine (NSFW?)", "post": "Actually just happens moments ago!\nWith Fourth of July weekend fast approaching, the agricultural dealership I work for likes to have their brand represented with as much shine and luster as possible. I take as much pride in my work as possible, and was nearing the end of waxing a large combine. I step on to the feeder house to get the lights and mirrors when I notice a few twigs and some straw back by the wiper motor. This is some awesome spot for birds to try and nest, but it usually does not amount to much, with the equipment moving around. Tchaikovsky in my ears, I reach up to clear the tangled mess. As I begin to pull the loose grass and such, I am met with a strange odor. There are a lot of bad fragrances in the shop, from decaying grain to burned oil etc., so I think nothing of it. Handfull after handful is removed, and I silently respected the avian that stuck with his endeavor. \nThen I find a nest. \nI remove it, and notice a lot of feathers, and an abundance of some scent I can't quite identify. \nThere in the nest, I spy four poor little birds, mouths open, and caught in the humid grip of the grim reaper.\n\nDismounted combine, washed hands, and liberally applied hand sanitizer.", "summary": "bird makes nest in obscure location, I find out how hidden it was to all parties involved."}
{"id": "t3_q9izn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Agonising back pain, could use some advice. Have you had a herniated disc? know anything about it? I'm at the end of my tether.", "post": "There's something wrong with my back. Very very very wrong. I had an MRI about four years agothat showed the first signs of a herniated disc. Every few months or so i get a flare up of pain that puts me on my arse for two or three days. About a month ago i had one of these flare ups and it hasn't gone away. for a whole month. Pain doesn't describe it properly. Finger curling, screaming agony comes close.\n\nI can't stand up, i can barely walk. Sitting down hurts, standing up hurts, lying down hurts. I went to a doctor yesterday who flipped and said I need to get an MRI immediately. She wouldn't even let me walk out of the surgery and called a taxi. She faxed a referral to a neurosurgeon and said to wait for his call. I waited 24 hours. Today i found out he may not be able to think about when i can get an appointment for another four days. \n\nSo now i'm waiting in limbo and i don't know what to do. Should i be resting? stretching? walking? what makes it worse? what makes it better? I'm starting to get depressed. I cry at the drop of a hat, i feel lost and powerless. I normally work full time, study part time and take every chance i can to get outdoors in the garden or do something active. I feel like i'm becoming paralysed in body and mind and i don't know what to do. \n\nThe Doctor mentioned that there's a possibility this could be a condition where the nerves in the spinal column get strangled somehow. I can't remember the name for it because i was a bit in shock. Has anyone out there heard of this? Has anyone out there been through something similar to this? have any advice for me?", "summary": "herniated disk or some sort of spinal column strangulation is causing me to lose my mind. Don't know what to do. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1u3uot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/F) haven't spoken to my mother (50) in several years. Today she was diagnosed with lung cancer. Should I talk to her?", "post": "I live several states away. My aunt and brother are pressuring me to call my mother after she went to the hospital to have surgery for a callapsed lung and finds out she has lung cancer. \n\nBackground: My mother abandoned my brother and me repeatedly beginning when I was eight. We both have different fathers, neither of which were there to take care of us. We also had to deal with several of my mother's abusive boyfriends. We were very poor. Once my mother and I lived in a womens' shelter. I haven't lived with my her since I was 13. At this time she was in and out of jail and abusive men. My brother could barely pay rent for himself so my aunt reluctantly took care of me until I was 18 when she kicked me out. (I believe she blames me for her divorce as her husband did NOT want me to live with them.)\n\nI haven't really spoken to my aunt or my brother since moving from the state. I am friendly on Facebook, and I call my brother maybe two or three times a year. I even accepted my mother's FB request. I thought letting her view my pictures and such was a nice gesture, but she messages me often to talk although I have never replied. I'm beginning to think this was a mistake, because ever since my  brother won't stop telling me to call her.\n\nI am disturbed about the cancer as I would be disturbed by any person having cancer, but I'd rather not call. I fully expected to never talk to my mother again, but I'm afraid that if I don't my family won't forgive me. Even if I did call, what would I say? I have nothing to say.. I've invested years into not caring, and I feel there is no going back. My family won't understand this. \n\nSo do I call my mother to satisfy my family? Or is my refusal justified?", "summary": "My mother was a shitty mom, so I stopped talking to her years ago. Now she was cancer and I'm not sure what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_ijtgl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "What to do about a potential girlfriend?", "post": "Hey Reddit, INFO ON ME: I am a sixteen year old male. I am a virgin but have gotten to blowjobs and stuff. Never had a real long term relationship.\n\nSo there's this girl I have known for 4 years now and we have gotten to become sort of best friends. We hang out a lot and really enjoy each others company. Throughout most of the time I have known her she has had a boyfriend. A month ago her boyfriend broke up with her, and about two weeks ago she started changing the way she talks to me to sort of make it seem like she wants to maybe start something. So tonight she invites me to go to the movies together. I end up with her laying on me making out in the movie. After the movie we day goodbye and went home. The issue is the text I got from her, to which I assume she meant to send to someone else, \"So what should I do about (my name here)???\" Thanks for the help reddit, sorry for the long post. I will answer all of the questions in the comments.", "summary": "girl makes out a movies, sends weird text after."}
{"id": "t3_3mlp32", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26 mwith my 26m friend of nearly 20 years. I can't make his bachelor party. Help.", "post": "So I feel obligated to put some context to this. I suffered chronic homesickness as a teenager. It meant I wouldn't stay at folks houses, I wouldn't visit friends at college and a whole host of other things. It took me a long time to get over it and every now and then I still have the odd lapse.\n\nThis means I developed a reputation as being a no-show. It was only recently I tried to explain it to some of my friends but I still have the reputation as not being reliable to show up. \n\nWith that said. I legitimately can't make my friends bachelor party. I work in sports and so weekends are my Monday-Friday. That weekend is a big derby, and I also have commitments to a column I write that needs me to watch games on the Saturday/Sunday. \n\nSo I need to tell him I can't do it and I'm trying to do it in a way that doesn't make it look like I'm just bailing out of not wanting to go. Truth is I'd actually love to go and every time I try to put the words together they sound cliche. I think in the bigger picture I'm also wrestling with some conflicted feelings. We've known each other 20 years. He hasn't always been present and there's months gone by where I don't hear from him or I reach out and he's busy. Some of those months I really needed him but I feel like that could be me just reaching for an excuse to justify a decision I know will upset him.", "summary": "History of 'bailing' due to homesickness and other issues. Now legitimately can't attend an important event and trying to work out how to tell a very old friend."}
{"id": "t3_38fqn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (23m) fianc\u00e9e (23f) wears same clothes regardless of the event", "post": "My fianc\u00e9e and I have been engaged for a few months and dating for the past 3 years.  We graduated college in December (a semester early).  She's in grad school and I'm working at a bank.\n\nShe has always dressed casually, loose T-shirts and jeans for every occasion.  She has one very worn button down shirt for occasions.  She's worn it to weddings, company parties, and other events where she is very underdressed.  It's a bit embarrassing at times, especially since I've seen my coworkers and relatives snickering about her.\n\nI've offered to buy her clothes and take her shopping, but she says no.  I don't know the slightest thing about women's clothes or I would've surprised her with a dress or something.  I'm not asking her to be a fashionista, just to dress appropriately.\n\nShe's joked about getting married in the button down and I'm half afraid she isn't joking.  When I talk to her about it, she insists its not a problem and that people are superficial.  She also says that no one would look at her either way.\n\nAnything I can do?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9e is always underdressed and wears the same shirt to any 'formal' occasion.  I've never seen her in a skirt or blouse, let alone a nice dress."}
{"id": "t3_4sbd8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [15 F] handle having my girlfriend of 7 months [17 F] read my messages and not text me back without going insane and having a severe anxious breakdown?", "post": "It sounds stupid, but I've been very keen and neurotic on when she responds to my messages. Sometimes she just reads my messages and doesn't reply for hours, and it makes me worry that she either forgot about me or is mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me. \n\nI want to stop breaking down in tears whenever she reads my messages and doesn't text back because I also know how busy she can be sometimes, but I just can't help myself. I love her very much and once she did actually forget about me until I sent her another text message hours later. And ever since I've been worried and afraid. I'm a very insecure person, by the way.", "summary": "How do I stop myself from crying and thinking so much?"}
{"id": "t3_1xih01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] wanting to get back together with my [16 F] ex, were together for 2 months, have been broken up for 2 months", "post": "My (m/17) ex (f/16) broke up with me 2 months after we got together. I want to pursue a relationship with her, be it friendship, full on romance or something casual. I just don't know how to go about doing it.\n\nI tried to take things too fast. When we broke up she told me that she doesn't love me, that she never loved me. Recently I fucked up and said something in conversation that she had told me in confidence, so she is mad at me right now. I feel like there is something more here. She is the reason we broke up. But talking to her afterwards about she is more apologetic more than anything, like she is this terrible terrible person and that I need to move on. She said that everything between us was physical and that she only used me to make herself feel good. But I mean if it was all physical then why did we watch so much doctor who together and why did we do activity x, y and z and spent so much time together talking if all she wanted was to get off?\n\n1) People that have gotten back with exes, did it make things better?\n\n2) Is it worth it to wait weeks, months, years if it means that I can come back and maybe have a better shot at making things work out? (Alternatively come back with for a fresh start?)", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, I want to get back together with her. No clue how to begin."}
{"id": "t3_30oc2d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23m] met and developed intense (obsessive) feelings for a woman [26f] but she lives far away...", "post": "I spent a full week with this woman, she is a family friend who came along on a vacation. She is somewhat aware of my interest, but not how intense it is. I know such absurdly intense feelings are irrational, but I also know what I felt for her is real. I have felt crazy since I said goodbye to her - trouble eating, sleeping, unable to focus on anything else, obsessive thoughts etc. \n\nAttempting to deal with this, I rekindled a relationship with an old close friend [23f] in my city. I really like her and a relationship seems to be attainable - she is now expecting me to pursue one - but I'm still thinking of the other woman who is completely perfect in every way. \n\nI don't want to be alone. I don't want to hurt my friend. I don't want to regret not acting on my feelings. I don't know how to pursue a woman who lives far away, and I'm seemingly unable to gauge her interest.", "summary": "I'm all mixed up, any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_2t6gf4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with [25M] 1 year; He has crazy parents who caused me to break up with him, and now I want him back. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Basically to make a long story short: My boyfriend lives with his parents in order to pay off his student loans. His parents are very strict and very overprotective/controlling (ie he still has a curfew of 10pm).\n\nI have a young child from a previous marriage where I was cheated on. I am divorced and have been for two years.\n\nMy boyfriend's parents *never* warmed up to me, or our relationship. They always made it clear I wasn't good enough for their son, and that they didn't approve of the relationship. They did not like the fact I have a child and was previously married due to their religious beliefs. They actually verbally told me multiple times that I was not what they wanted for their son. \n\nOver the Christmas season, my boyfriend informed them he was going to propose and all heck broke loose. They basically ostracized him, wouldn't speak to him or have anything to do with him, and called in a pastor to try to talk him out of it. \n\nThe pastor sided with my boyfriend and I since his parent's really don't have a valid reason to dislike me - I've always been very nice and polite to them, I have a good full time job, I'm in school... basically I'm a successful young mom. \n\nHowever this whole event has caused a *lot* of strain in my relationship as I constantly feel like I'm competing with my boyfriend's parents, and I'm just always feeling down on myself since they dislike me so much. \n\nI fear that if this relationship is to continue, my life will be miserable because of them. \n\nI broke up with him yesterday because I was just sick of feeling sad and troubled by his parents. But now part of me is just saying \"forget his parents!\" even though I know they will play a big role in our lives should this relationship continue.", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents hate me for no valid reason - broke up with boyfriend to avoid a future of stress caused by his parents - now I'm regretting it and I want him back, but I don't know if it's just because I'm adjusting to being single and losing him. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1b400p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I(23) keep pursuing her(21)?", "post": "Okay so, me and two other girls are in a study group. We all known each other for about 1 month and a half now. So girl A and I studied by ourselves the previous week without girl B. I thought we had some good conversations when we were alone, making each other laugh and stuff. So i was gonna ask girl A out the next time we study together.\n\nSo two days ago, Girl A said we should all meet up to study. Then yesterday when we were suppose to meet, Girl B started a group text and said she couldn't make it. Then all of a sudden Girl A said she had a doctors appointment later in the afternoon at 4:30 and couldn't make it. Our original study time was at 12 and she doesnt live that far away. We usually study for like an hour and a half so i didnt see why girl A couldnt make it, besides thinking maybe she wants to avoid being alone with me.\n\nSo should i keep pursuing or is this a sign saying she is not interested?", "summary": "girl sets up study group time, after one girl says she can't make it, she says she has a doctors appointment and can't make it as well."}
{"id": "t3_31yh5e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by working out", "post": "Well let me start by saying I've kind of let myself go. I used to live in Papua New Guinea (little island off the north coast if Australia for those who don't know) and when I lived over there I had a workout routine. I'd go with my buddies and we'd work out every day after school and usually on Saturdays, although those were always optional. In any case, I came back to the USA recently, and, not knowing anyone here and not being able to afford a gym membership, I decided I'd just try to eat healthy. Big mistake. I've gone from 160 and a 6 pack to 180 and being able to run about 400 meters. My asthma really doesn't help but that's not really a good enough excuse. Anyway. To the fuck up. It was winter and since I'm used to the tropics my body doesn't handle winter well. But I decided I'd work out anyway. For the first time in 7 months. Since I don't like machines I decided I'd just hop on the treadmill and walk/run as long as I could. Well I fucked up. I put on music and I'm not sure how it happened but my fat ass ran for a solid hour and I thought nothing of it. Next day I woke up at 4 in the morning and couldn't breathe. I thought it was asthma so I eventually managed to find my inhaler but that wasn't helping and I was freaking out. So I got my parents and they called the doctor and I had to be taken to the ER. They said it was a combination of dehydration, my body coping with winter, excessive exercise, asthma, and general stupidity. Yes, my doctor called me an idiot.", "summary": "ran for an hour, woke up the next morning to a surprise ER visit."}
{"id": "t3_1ua5kk", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Should I find my father after 18 years?", "post": "Hey Reddit. I had to create a throwaway for this as my mother knows my reddit username.\n\nI am 25 years old and always told my self I would look for my father when I am 25. I don't know why but ever since I was ten that was what I told my self. \n\nNow my mother left my father with me and moved to another country when I was 7 as she could no longer deal with his gambling and alcohol addiction. I have heard from my aunt that he has quit alcohol and gambling and has started a new family. My aunt (my mothers sister) however has not talked to my father in over 10 years. My aunt is also the last person to contact my father.\n\nI do not know if it is a good idea, but I really do want to find him and meet him for some reason. I don't know exactly why but I do. But one part of me is afraid of the consequences. I married my dream girl and she recently gave birth to my son. I am working my dream job working as a structural engineer and recently put down a big deposit for a mortgage. I do not want my life to change as I am very happy but I do not want that to be an excuse for not finding out about a person who helped raise me for seven years and also I do not want to break a promise I made to myself for so many years. I have lots of fond memories of my father but also do have some bad memories as well. \n\nI know his name, D.O.B and his approximate whereabouts and finding him will not be too difficult. The main things I am worried about is stressing out my mother who I have an excellent relationship with and worried about any dramatic changes that this may cause in my life.\n\nIf anyone has a similar experience or some advise please help =)", "summary": "25 year old wants to find his father after 18 years."}
{"id": "t3_u6706", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[As a lady]Why are men allowed to walk around in public with no shirt on, yet it is considered public nudity when a woman doesn't have a shirt on?", "post": "This topic has probably been discussed before, but it's somethin' I've been thinking about lately.\nJust the other day I was riding home back from work and I saw an elderly man with no shirt on.  He was super hairy, liver spots everywhere, and his little old man boobs hung down lower than mine.  It's not that the sight of this man that bothered me, but that man that DOES look like this is able to wear no shirt.  Sure, us girls can wear a bathing suit top and walk around in that, but the guys don't have to.  I feel like it's sexist; a man doesn't have to wear a shirt, but the ladies do.  Maybe I'm wrong, but I just feel like there should be somethin' done about it...  I'm a twenty-year-old, straight female with a boyfriend, which I live with, who as well agrees with my statement.  From my personal opinion, I don't see the problem why this should be a problem. [I've always thought about becomin' a nudist, js.]", "summary": "I find it sexist that girls are required to wear shirts, and men don't have to [in public]."}
{"id": "t3_2pk5mp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my exGF [23 F] about a small mail conversation which I have no idea about what to do or understand", "post": "Ok guys, I need your help about a situation.\n\nI had a girlfriend for 2 years (last 1 year was long distance and it was not bright) and when I came back she broke up with me and she blocked me everywhere possible (just to make me sad I guess -facebook, whatsapp, twitter, instagram all of it)..\n\nIts been around 4 months since we broke up, then 3 days ago at around 8:00pm she sent me an e-mail.\n\n-X? (lets say my name)\n\n+?\n\n-How are you?\n\n+mm fine! you?\n\n-Good, what are you doing?\n\n+Out with some friends, why did you write?\n\n-I dont know\n\n+Should I consider this message enough?\n\n-consider what?\n\n+So you wrote me, because you dont know?\n\n-I dont know, maybe I know but I dont know.\n\n+Ok.\n\nand then she asked me an address and how she can go there, and I explained her, then the conversation is over. Thats it! Nothing else, and then when I check, she unblocked me on facebook.\n\nAs a person who has no idea about these stuff, what should I do? What was she doing? Is it really only a random stuff or what?\n\nI asked one of my closest friend and he was like *\"easy, she had been with someone else, and he dumbed her then she was confused, and she know that you love her, so she just tried to get some attention, but thats it, do not expect anything more than this stupid mail. Chill bro\"* This made me even sadder :(", "summary": "Are girls that random?"}
{"id": "t3_v9z9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend broke up with me to work on herself.", "post": "M(27) was dating F(24) for just about 5 months.  We never fought and rarely even had any issues at all.  It really was good times.\n\nAlthough throughout our time together she was battling demons, and I guess they finally got to her.\n\nShe told me that she still cared about me and thought of me as the best boyfriend she'd had or will have.  She just needs a lot of space right now.\n\nSo I am hurting a lot, but I care about her and love her so much that I want to see her get through what she is trying to get through.", "summary": "I love my girlfriend, she needed to be single to have the space and time she needed to get better."}
{"id": "t3_1tv8v6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F/18] family dislikes my boyfriend [18] of a year for no reason, pressure I can't control is bothering me", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend, who also happens to be my best friend since highschool for a year now, and honestly he is one of the best guys I've liked. Going through the highschool phase of liking attractive guys or douchebags was tough, but I honestly have found someone who is smart, puts his family first, and has good life goals ahead of him. I am Asian, with decent grades, and average looks. I am an only child, and when my parents look at me, they see a world of possibilities. I am very family orientated, my family always comes first along with my faith. However, my parents expect my boyfriend to be stellar and amazing. \n\nHe's either not good looking enough, not smart enough (which I disagree with), not out going enough, and as you can guess the list goes on. My boyfriend has been nothing but supportive, kind hearted to everyone, he grew up in similar conditions which led to similar values, and he can read me like a book, which most to all of my friends cannot. We started university this year, and it was hard for everyone-not just us. Grades was something he could always count on, and this semester it just wasn't there, for me as well it was a tough semester. Then for Christmas, he gave me a rather bad present, and to my parents it seemed like an insult. This was the last straw for them, and all hell broke loose. \n\nI know we're young, and this may not last but he has been a driving force in getting me through everything. Our relationship gives me hope, but my parents are telling me he's not someone I can end up with later in life. I'm not ready to talk about ending up with someone, but they never gave him a chance. Only had dinner with him once, and judged him solely based on his looks, and him being nervous for dinner. \n\nSo tonight I stood up for my boyfriend, and fought with my parents. Am I in the wrong, or should I keep fighting for him, or I mean should I altogether give up on convincing my parents?", "summary": "Family dislikes boyfriend for minor reasons that should not matter, should I keep fighting for him or should I stop letting my family dominate my life."}
{"id": "t3_gl72n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddettes: Reverse Friend Zoning?", "post": "Question for Female (and possibly Male) redditors who have been in this situation.\n\nAbout a month ago, i expressed interest in a girl, who for a few days, expressed some what mixed feelings back to me. in the end, she friend-zoned me; and i have grown to be really close friends with her. \n\nup until recently, i have been making small advances on her. nothing that fully stepped out of the friend zone, but close enough to the line that i was hoping it would've made her think. \n\nwithin the past few days, i cam to two realizations.\n1) small advances were getting me no where \nand\n2) if i tried to be more forward, i would complicate and possibly diminish a friendship that means a lot to me.\n\nso i have decided, that in lieu of pushing a relationship and possibly losing a great friend, i will listen to some solid advice\n\n\"do unto others as you would have had done unto yourself\"\n\nI have started to put her in the friend zone, which is completely fine by me if all we are is friends, but how will she feel about this change in our friendship? will it cause her to rethink her initial choice of putting me here, or will we be no more then friends forever.", "summary": "what happens when you've been friend zoned, and stop trying to break out of it. how does a girl reacted to being friend-zoned back?"}
{"id": "t3_36sr2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Approaching cute cashier/barista (no relationship but potential crush)", "post": "So I frequent the Dunkin Donuts near my house and recently have been being served by a particular employee. Had a brief chat today with her about brain farts and the really chilly weather outside. Ordered my coffee and another one for a family member. When I headed over to the pickup side of the counter she asked if the iced coffee was for me (it was). When I said yes she immediately got a size larger and remarked that she was giving it to me for free. Then she stopped me before I walked out and gave me a free coupon for next time. \n\nShe's always been super friendly when I order but never to this extent. How do I non-creepily go about testing the waters. I've always had this mental \"block\" towards hitting on cashiers. It just doesn't seem like good practice and could easily come across as being on the weird/stalker side of things. \n\nI realize that she may in fact have just been trying to keep up customer loyalty but there was definitely a flirty hint in the manner that she did all of this. \n\nHave you folks had situations like this? If so how did you approach it and what was the result?", "summary": "Dunkin Donuts employee going out of her way to give me free products/be flirty. Not sure how to proceed!"}
{"id": "t3_p3z0v", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Advice for overcoming a few last vices?", "post": "r/loseit buddies,\n\nLast May I started working on losing weight. At the time I was 350lb 5'11\" dude. After starting a simple diet and exercise regiment I was a 290lb 5'11\" dude by September. Unfortunately, that September I also started a second job that, in addition to school, significantly cut into my leisure and exercise time and added significantly to my stress levels. \n\nAt this point I stopped losing weight and my diet began to slip. I developed, on the worst days, a two pint a day Rocky Road habit and a fondness for Kit-Kat bars. Since September I've made multiple attempts at restarting weight loss but have never made it more than a couple weeks without a Blue Bell and Kit-Kat relapse, sometimes even a Kit-Kat in Blue Bell relapse. These go on until I start to gross myself out and try to restart losing. So my question for other loseiters is this: if you ever hit a roadblock like this how did you overcome it and get back on track? Cold turkey seems to end in relapse, gradually stepping down ends in relapse, incorporating reasonable portions into calorie counting ends in unreasonable portions. I want to recapture the magic of my serious losing months but am stymied at every turn. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Oh God how can I escape the wafery, almondy, marshmallowy hellhole  of rocky road addiction and get back on the righteous path?"}
{"id": "t3_51h0q4", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] How to evaluate a rescue/rehoming/adoption organization", "post": "I want to avoid enabling bad breeders or those profiting from the mistreatment of dogs,  and while I know it may be best to visit a kill shelter or to adopt a senior/disabled dog, we are very interested in a dog that is (mostly but likely not entirely) a specific breed. For those reasons we have been gravitating towards the use of local organizations that advertises their dogs online but as if they are local listings, appearing in Petfinder etc. In all the cases I've seen thus far, they have a local way-station and the dogs come in from all over the country, usually the south. They claim they are rescues, and that absolutely may be the case, but how do I know it's not just a middle-men or even well-meaning middle-men. People I know have even adopted from them and bragged about how they rescued a dog. Maybe, but it seems more like some of them paid for a picture-perfect puppy that was shipped to them from somewhere in the south (i.e. too good to be true). There was supposed to be an application and home visit, but it was insta-approved and no visit was made.    \n\nSo when most guidelines for avoiding mills talk about how to examine the breeder (example  how does one evaluate a *rehoming organization*? Or am I just paranoid and they are all legit? All bad? I don't really know. Here is an example of a local org that funnels dogs in  and they may be fantastic and responsible (saints for all I know), but it's hard to say. The group my friend went through was very similar and the dog arrived in sad shape from long distance transport, shipped sight-unseen to them.", "summary": "Our awesome pup is getting older now (well, almost middle age) and needs a sidekick. I'd prefer to adopt than to go through a breed-specific breeder, but I want to find exactly the right dog and do so without fueling any corrupt org."}
{"id": "t3_f6z2y", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Unintended positive consequence: When counting calories, I actually eat more than \"blind dieting\" but still lose weight", "post": "In the past, I have easily lost 10-20 pounds for a while, but it seemed overly difficult to restrict my consumption. It's like a month of constant trial.\n\nSo a couple weeks ago, I put myself on a plan that involved 2000 calories per day. I track food with one of the dozens of iPhone apps out there. \n\nThe awesome thing is, 2000 calories per day is actually a satisfying amount of food! I think when I did the \"just eat less\" thing, it turned into something like \"eat 1200 calories a day, feel starving.\" So of course every 2 hours was challenging, because I'd feel like I was overly hungry and have to fight some urge to eat. And this sort of caloric deficit didn't leave enough juice for my brain to run on. I program for a living. Lightheadedness is a death knell to my productivity.\n\nThese past couple of weeks, by the time dinner comes around, I usually have 800+ calories of eating-budget left to burn. This means I can have a satisfying dinner and be fine for the rest of the night.", "summary": "Count calories, and find out that you can actually eat more and be more satisfied than blindly eating less. You have to measure something in order to have the data to improve it."}
{"id": "t3_45wil7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my GF [29 F] of 10 months, why would she be looking up her ex on FB every few days?", "post": "Hey Ladies of /r/Relationships\n\nSo I used my girlfriends laptop to search for a person on Facebook the other day but before I could type the persons name, I noticed her search history mentioned her ex-boyfriend. Curiosity got the better of me and I clicked for more history and noticed that she searches for that particular boyfriend every week or so. I didn't go so far as to read her messages or whatever but I'm just curious what you ladies think would be the reason for that? Like I myself haven't searched for an ex-girlfriend in like, I don't know, the entire history of my new relationship (which is 10 months old now).\n\nAlso, she claimed to have never loved him and to be the one that broke it off because \"they were just not compatible at all\".\n\nSoooo... I don't get it. Why does she look him up if she isn't missing him? AFAIK she hasn't seen him in like a year (since we met). I also couldn't see that she searched any of her other exes...\n\nLater I casually asked \"do you still think about any of your exes?\"\nShe said \"no at all\".\n\"Do you ever stalk them on social media?\", I asked.\n\"No, never\".\n\nGuesses?", "summary": "what are possible (hopefully good) reasons you would search for your ex boyfriend every couple of days on Facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_4r61xn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] think I'm a bad, egocentric, narcissistic, person, but my friends and family think I'm a great person. I feel angry towards them", "post": "Throwaway because some people know my account. I'm nice and loyal to others and I really enjoy the company of others but my thoughts are completely different than what I do, say and what people think of me. People think I'm loyal to everyone (based on that I've helped friends out through tough times and that I've been a good person to them), but believe me I'd ditch my friends if I got 'better'. People think I'd be nice and friendly to everyone (based on selfless things that I've done), but in my mind I wouldnt mind stepping on others to get higher up, and in my mind I help others to egoistically feel better about myself. People think I'm a very strong guy mentally because I've faced - long story short - addictions, bullies, my illness and deaths of others close to me, and even though I'm over it all I still think I'm weak and I want to give into my addictions every day. The compliments I get from the people who know me, sometimes better than I know myself, are - objectively seen - extremely nice... but I feel like I don't deserve it and I'm angry at them for not seeing the thoughts behind it and seeing how I feel. Most of the times I want to shout at them for it, but I don't. I know objectively I'm a great guy. But I feel all alone in the thoughts I have, and I've talked to others about it and then I only get compliments on how 'humble' I am. Fuck that. I feel like I want someone to hate me at those parts where I hate myself, because that feels more valid.", "summary": "I'm angry and alone when people say I'm a good guy, because in my thoughts behind my good actions I'm a bad guy."}
{"id": "t3_mmf45", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Ho Chi Minh city and surrounds? accommo, things to do?", "post": "OK, so I'll be in Phuket at the end of January with the girl, but have 2 friends that are going to Vietnam at the exact same time I was due to leave Thailand. I've decided to extend the trip an extra week, work approval permitting, and go with them for little while.\n\nWe'll be flying in to Ho Chi Minh city and the only thing we really know is that we want to check out the tunnels.\n\nCan anyone else give us some ideas as far as accommodation or things to check out? should we be venturing further or is there too much around HCM to keep us busy? I am also quite partial to vietnamese food... I expect to eat a great deal of Pho.", "summary": "HELP!"}
{"id": "t3_3hdyv9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mother [62/f] wants to relocate out-of-state with her half-brother [55?/m] who she recently learned has a mean streak on Facebook", "post": "My mother has been getting to know her half-brother (HB) for a couple years. I've met him a few times and he seems like a nice guy. She's looking to retire (HB's already retired) and they've talked about getting a place together out-of-state where cost of living is more affordable. It even sounds like HB is offering to be more than fair with how he's willing to divide expenses. Seemed consistent with my impression of him.\n\nThe issue is that my mom recently discovered another side to HB on Facebook. HB is from rural PA and we know he's conservative (not an issue for her; she avoids talking politics), but on Facebook he frequently comments on posts from right-wing clickbait sites (Conservative Tribune seems to be his favorite). HB's comments are typical \"bitter-angry-oppressed-white-guy\" stuff, but he's expressed some pretty ugly opinions about different groups (mainly blacks, illegal immigrants, gays and sometimes muslims).\n\nMy mom's distressed to see HB has this mean streak, and thinks this way about ANY of these groups, but especially because we have a gay family member (whom HB knows about and seems fine with?!). Not only does she feel it may not be possible to live with HB because of this, she also feels a need to confront HB about his attitudes towards gays because she doesn't want to betray our gay family member.\n\nMy advice to her at the moment is to talk to him about the gay issue, instead of confronting his entire worldview. HB's opposition to marriage equality seems to be the zero-sum fallacy that gay marriage devalues \"traditional\" marriage / reduces others' religious freedom. Thankfully, he doesn't seem to quote Leviticus or hurl epithets, so I hope there is the possibility to reach an understanding.", "summary": "Mom isn't sure she can live with her half-brother who opposes (among other things) marriage equality/gay rights, without betraying our gay family member."}
{"id": "t3_2w539w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my wife she is disgusting.", "post": "Short and to the point...\n\nWife is 6 months pregnant and very emotional. \nFor Valentines Day I bought her chocolate covered strawberries. \nI absolutely hate the sound of people masticating, it is a big pet peev of mine, she's knows this. \nShe was eating the strawberries in bed the other night and I didn't say anything to her then, because it didn't really bother me, but I could hear the chomping of the berry. \nSo today, we were just chatting on the couch when she said she really enjoyed the strawberries from the other night. I replied with, while laughing, \"I am glad that you enjoyed them, you sounded disgusting eating them though.\" \nShe laughed and shrugged it off, so I thought. \nShe goes to take a nap in the bedroom, I come a few minutes later and she crying really hard and I have no idea why. \nShe then said that I called her \"disgusting\". I apologized profusely. She said she knows i didn't mean to hurt her feelings. \n\nI am not a smart man.", "summary": "don't call your pregnant wife \"disgusting\" for masticating in bed with you."}
{"id": "t3_1zx0nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] recently had a breakdown and am now questioning if I really want to be with boyfriend[20 M]. We've been dating a year and 3 months.", "post": "My boyfriend and I started dating a year and three months ago. The relationship was really rocky. I'm borderline and just recently started receiving treatment for it. When we first started dating my depression caused major fights and problems between us.\n\nAbout three months ago I finally agreed I needed to see a counselor and have since then. Since I've been going our relationship has definitely improved. There have been less fights, my depression has been very minimal, and overall we've been pretty happy. \n\nLast Saturday I had a panic attack and basically all my emotions for him shut down. I couldn't feel love for him our anything. Then over the last week I started to feel a little better only to decide that I think I'm ready to end the relationship. \n\nThe thing is I don't want to just end the relationship if this is just me shutting down because I'm scared to be close to someone. There is a good chance I may just be pushing him away now that we're finally doing better. He is a great guy and has been supportive through my depression and what I'm going through now.\n\nI've been having breakdowns all this week too where I just start crying and can't stop. It's like I want to feel love for him again but can't and it's tearing me apart.\n\nThen we're also supposed to go to Chicago Monday for two days and so now I'm worried about that too. \n\nI just don't know what to do. I still enjoy being around him I just feel sad all the time since last Saturday. It's like I'm driving myself insane trying to figure out what I really feel. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Bad relationship gets better overtime, had panic attack now unsure if I want to continue"}
{"id": "t3_4aomvs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [18/m] and I have gone out on 5 dates with a girl the same age as me. Should I keep seeing her even though I don't love her?", "post": "I'm a 18 year old man and I've been seeing this one girl (18 y.o.) for about two months now and I've gone on 5 dates with her. We've had a lot of fun and I've enjoyed my time with her. We have kissed quite a bit too, which is awesome considering I'm a virgin. \n\nThe thing I'm having trouble is whether or not its \"right\" to keep seeing her even though I'm not in love with her? Soon, in about 4 months or so, both of us will leave for college and I'm 90 percent sure that we will not go to the same university. I'm attracted to her physically (I would very much like to have sex with her) but I don't think I \"LOVE\" her, if you know what I mean. Sure, she is pretty and she makes me horny af, but I don't think I will end up marrying her or anything. \n\nIs it right to keep seeing this girl for hopefully a couple more months before we both leave for college? It would be fucking awesome to have a girlfriend during the summer because we could just fool around every day while our parents are at work. That would be fucking awesome; however, would this be the right thing to do? \n\nI don't want to be mean to her or anything. I know how much it sucks getting dumped when you get your hopes up for someone... :/ \n\nPlease help me out. I'm so fucking confused.", "summary": "I'm young and horny. Should I keep dating a girl in hopes of getting laid even though I dontt \"love\" her?"}
{"id": "t3_4uyzzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25f] BF [25m] of 2 months is way less flirty with me than he was when we first met", "post": "I've been in a relationship with this new guy for 2 months and at first things were spectacular--we were hanging out constantly, sending each other cute texts all day, and all over each other when we were together.\n\nAfter about 3 weeks, I noticed a sharp decline. He now takes hours to text me back, is quite a lot less flirty with me, and isn't as motivated to hang out with me. All the cute kissy face emojis are gone. It's kind of a huge red flag for me, as it just dropped off so fast!\n\nTo make matters worse, he accidentally showed me some pictures on his phone of his ex. There were so many of them! But he ended up breaking up with her within 3 months and from the way he explained it, she got mad at him for not wanting to spend as much time with him. Makes me wonder if he and I are going down the exact same road--him getting super excited and all over me, then dropping off, until eventually things are no longer working. \n\nWhat do you guys think? Is this normal behavior or should I be concerned?", "summary": "boyfriend of two months is significantly less flirty / all over me as he was when we first started dating and it really bugs me."}
{"id": "t3_v25dt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Finance degree vs Nursing?? Please weigh in, thanks!", "post": "Not really sure where else to post this (reddit is massive).. is there a college degree subreddit?\n\nI've always been the guy who was good at everything in school. B+ average.... A's in both English and Math (people think that's difficult, I don't get why...), Bs in History.... etc/not important. The main point of that is I've never had a specialized skill (when it comes to school)... so choosing a degree in college is particularly difficult/nerve racking when I am not passionate about any schooling subjects. I'm particularly decent at Math so I chose a Finance degree thinking I could get hired anywhere really... but I'm wondering what kind of pay I can expect (entry-level and long-term max) when I graduate. I have 4-5 years experience in a professional work environment, but none in a Finance/Accounting department. I'm 25 and starting to think about my future pretty hard core (job, wife, kids, etc). My alternative is to ditch the finance degree and go for a RN or Healthcare Tech degree (which you work 3 days/week and earn 50-65k a year, depeneding). I'm not particularly passionate about that eitehr, but the free-time/pay associated with it is very appealing... even those guys who take your x-rays (x-ray techs) make 50k a year where I live.... I could do that easy.... just wondering how much I'd be passing up on if I bitched out on my Finance degree.", "summary": "Finance degree worth it? Starting salary vs long-term reasonable max salary? Weighing this against RN/Healthcare Tech (3 days (12 hr shifts)/week - starting 50k, reasonable max 65-70k im guessing)"}
{"id": "t3_11fvr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I wrong to get mad?", "post": "I (17/f) have been dating my SO (19/m) since the last 3 years. He's a great guy, always there for me and very supportive. Things were going extremely well in our relationship and we esteemed ourselves because we were better off than the rest of the couples around us. Our relationship was perfect! Until his best friend walked in. Let's call her Amy. So Amy and my SO used to hate each other back in high school. One day she accidentally sent him a message, and the both of them started talking and wouldnt stop! They would talk till 4 am, go out for movies blah blah blah. I was fine with it, really. I was indifferent to Amy. \nAlso I should mention that I really hate threesomes because they make me insecure like hell and I made that very clear to my boyfriend. Yet he \"joked\" that he'd want to have a threesome with Amy. I obviously had a problem with this and I lashed out at him, and he knew this made me upset and begged for forgiveness and promised that he'd never say anything like that ever again. I should probably mention that Amy is really hot. \nThere was a time when he became all dismissive me, and became closer to Amy. He realized it was wrong though. \nOne day my boyfriend told me that he digs OAG's. He also told me that making me jealous is a huge turn on for him. I jokingly asked him to make me jealous and he said that Amy called him sexy and said she'd love to have a threesome with him and her crush. I felt nauseated and decided to shut up because I didn't want another fight. And also because he calls me over-sensitive. Our relationship has been going downhill ever since Amy entered his life but he refuses to acknowledge it. Am I being a clingy or am I right to be mad?", "summary": "relationship's going downhill ever since female friend walked into SO's life. He refuses to acknowledge it. Should I tell him it's wrong or am I just insecure?"}
{"id": "t3_1s2u9f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Can you trick someone to be attracted to you?", "post": "I [33M] am deeply in love with a girl [32F] and I am quite sure she loves me as well.  However, she doesn't seem to be attracted to me.\n\nI've come to realize if this does not change, I will never be intimate with anyone.  Ever.  I've been in love with her for a long time, so I've grown to accept this may be the most likely outcome.  There are worse things in the world than a life without sex.\n\nKnowing the actors / models she finds attractive, I believe it may mostly be a racial thing.  I am blond and fair, while she seems to prefer the dark and rugged guys.\n\nI am hygienic, clean-shaven, and exercise daily.  My doctor tells me I am in perfect health.  I have a post-graduate education and significant savings.  My clothes are custom-tailored.  I brush and whiten my teeth regularly.  I don't feel it is a fashion / appearance issue.  I think it might be genetic - I just don't have the facial features of guys she likes.\n\nOther girls seem attracted to me, but that is really not an option.  If possible, I'd like to find a way to become attractive specifically to this girl.  I have tried coloring and styling my hair, but that did not seem to be enough.\n\nShe enjoys being with me.  And really, that's all I really need.", "summary": "As the Title implies, I'd like to make myself attractive to someone."}
{"id": "t3_4uq5ql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 29M now looking for a serious relationship but I keep getting dumped. Whats going on?!", "post": "Hi All,\n\nOver the past few years I've established myself in my career and in a new city and live completely alone.\n\nWhen I was younger I was always able to keep and maintain relationships with SO's that I've dated and most of the time was the one that had to end the relationship. Before I was 28 years old I was never dumped. I had broken a few hearts because the woman I was with wanted more and I had to let them go knowing I wasn't ready for a serious relationship.\n\nThe problem is now that I'm 28 and living alone in a new city I become way too attached and expect way too much from woman I start dating and the relationships kind of implode because I'm pursuing too heavily.\n\nBut its honestly because I'm now ready for something serious. I want to live with someone, I want to develop a schedule with someone, see them constantly, work on bigger plans for the future.\n\nThe irony is that the tables have turned on me and It's sent me into deep levels of self-reflection.\n\nMy question is: am I totally screwing the pooch, so to speak - by expecting my partner to be wanting the same thing in the dating phase? Is it unhealthy to expect someone to follow through with agreed upon times to seeing each other, or to be honest and forthright about things as early as 2-4 months in?\n\nMy expectations are leaving me alone and lonely - it fucking sucks.\n\nI'd love to hear from others who have a strong opinion on this phase of your life, when you know you're ready for something serious - and how to handle that.", "summary": "Everything has changed for me now that im 29 years old. I'm the one looking to be more serious and committed and I'm now getting dumped for it. It was always the other way around when I was younger and I've broken many hearts. How do I remain patient with this and what am I supposed to do now that I'm looking for something serious? I can't afford continually getting hurt and needing 1-2 months to fully recover every single time."}
{"id": "t3_1ak536", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some services that aren't offered that you wish were?", "post": "I have kind of a unique dilemma that a service, in my opinion, a lot of people would use, would solve. I wish I could buy subscriptions to specific television channels and stream them on my smart television via an application or stream on a computer or mobile device. This is why...I live on Indiana University's property. They have the most shit standard definition cable ever and it blows. It only has very basic channels. When I asked if I was allowed a cable box, I was told that in the rules and regulations that it clearly states that anything of the sort would be considered a violation of the other tenants' rights to health and safety. Consequently I have to buy each episode of The Walking Dead on Amazon Instant when it becomes available the next day and will have to soon for Game of Thrones. Some say we should pirate them. That would work if their internet security system wasn't so thorough. It tells me when my Java is out of date...I'm pretty sure they could catch me stealing and do something irritating to us school-wise.", "summary": "I go to a university and would like to be able to just subscribe to AMC and HBO since I'm not allowed to have a cable box or any television service besides their's."}
{"id": "t3_b7w5i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Advice on this girl I met. I think she's stringing me along w/ update. Please upvote!", "post": "Hi everyone. So there is this girl I've been in communication with for awhile. 2 years or so. We're both out of college. Lets call her Jelena. Things were going great and I really felt drawn in to some of her beliefs and ideas. Then she calls me with 90% certainty a \"poo\" head. I understand that people get emotional and I can take a little verbal abuse, but now it turns out she was a full time promoter and I think the only reason we ever talked was so she could get me to buy stuff or to use my insight for her gain.\nI guess my question is, how do I know if this person is for real or was just stringing me along?", "summary": "not sure if I'm being stringed along or if Jelena is sincere."}
{"id": "t3_20b9m5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24F) not happy in this town, SO (28M) is. Been together for 6 years, have 2 young children.", "post": "Basically, I hate the town we live in for many reasons. Some I know are petty but some I feel are legitimate. I can't seem to make friends here as hard as I try, I can't find work and I feel very isolated a lot of the time.\n\n Jacob (my SO) has good work here and very recently got a promotion. He has a steady job he loves and he loves it here. He is from this town and I'm from another town a few states away. We met in my town, fell in love and lived there for a while. Work wasn't as easily available for him and the cost of living there is much more expensive than it is here so we left after 2 years. We've now lived here for 2 years and I'm just not happy. I had friends, a steady job and family in my old town. Here I can't find work because its mainly hospitality and Jacob works days and nights so its not feasible to work around his hours. We have 2 children that I can't get into daycare because they're all full, so even regular Mon-Fri work is out. I've tried play groups, local parks, clubs, local events and markets in an attempt to make some friends but this is a very big retirement town and any other mothers here are in their 30's and people closer to my age don't have kids and I can't seem to connect with anyone. \n\nHis family live here and none of us really get along. Were both polite to them and will always help out of we can or are needed, but we don't see them often. My family live 2 hours away and they have accepted Jacob as part of the family completely but that's not really relevant, just trying to demonstrate that my closest support system is 2 hours away. \n\nI had friends in my old town who I maintain contact with, I feel like I had more of a life. I wasn't just a mother or a partner. I was a person.", "summary": "Essentially he's happier here, he has a steady job he loves. I'm very unhappy here and miss my old town. We can't seem to find a compromise that either of us are happy with."}
{"id": "t3_466u0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with housemate [26F]. Wanted me to mope with her on V-Day, I want to avoid that in the future.", "post": "I have a great partner who is working in another country for a few months. \n\nI do not give a hoot about Valentine's Day whatsoever. I genuinely do not care at all. I never celebrate it and prefer not to. On Valentine's Day it also happened that I had a lot to get done (work, many projects, also fun stuff with friends etc.).\n\nSo my housemate asks me what I'm doing for Valentine's Day. I was surprised because I hadn't even thought of it and though I knew it was coming up I wasn't even sure what day it would be.\n\nShe said she was thinking we could do something special together to \"treat ourselves\" and \"make ourselves happy\" since we'll both be \"alone.\"\n\nI treat myself whenever I want to and I'm already super happy.\n\nI feel like going out and doing something \"special\" for Valentine's Day because we're \"alone\" would actually MAKE me depressed.\n\nAs it happened I was really busy that day and had already planned a lot to do, so I avoided it. \n\nBut, I don't want to be roped into something like this in the future, being asked to go out and do \"special\" things together since we're the poor women who are \"alone.\"\n\nDifficulty: we live together so she knows when I'm actually busy and not. Some days I'm super duper busy and others, I just want to chill around the house.", "summary": "How to avoid being asked to be the single mope-party friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3w4xaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me bisexual [17M] looking for dating/hook up advice [dating romantic and non-romantanic]", "post": "I only know how to ask people out and all I get is no!\nI know am not ulgy, dumb, or unattractive in general, but no one wants to go out with me! \n\nI can hold a conversion and in my opinion am very good in the sack!!!!\nI've only had three girlfriend's all ending because I eventually lose contact with them (relationship ending on a good note in way!)!\n\nI've never been with a guy. I know that am emotionally attracted to them but I don't know if am sexually. That is a huge problem not knowing because if I get into a relationship and I am not sexually attracted to my partner then what's the point of being in that romantic relationship? If there was a just to sleep with a guy without starting a relationship?", "summary": "I THINK I AM BISEXUAL AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO CONFIRM IT WITHOUT STARTING A RELATIONSHIP! AS WELL HOW DO I HOOK UP WITHOUT ASKING PEOPLE OUT STEP?"}
{"id": "t3_2wunez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my exgirlfriend [25F] 10months finished with me because I was verbally abusive to her in depression.", "post": "A lot of things happened with us. Both have bad pasts but mostly I was dealing with a big illness (bad Gerd) that made me bitter about a million things. She was the kindest most giving person ever but so much that I though she'd always be there despite my outbursts. Would give anything to have her back, but I do just want her happy.\n\nI've started working on myself, fitness, quit drinking and smoking and started my own business.\n\nI made her feel worthless in the relationship and i spent 2-3 weeks after the breakup letting her know how much she was worth to me. We broke up before after my grandads funeral, instantly regretted it and then chased her for a week and we were back together. We never properly reconciled though because we missed eachother so much.\n\nShe won't get into any talks but we run a charity together. The one day we had to.meet at an event, and we we acted like we used to at the beginning, it was amazing. After we left eachother she was texting me jokingly and that was great too. Times gone on and as i try to sort things out she she just keeps saying she wasn't good enough, how she was no good for me and I need to change for me etc. I say how great she was and she tells me.I'm doing so well (because of what I'm doing with my life now). I ask if she's okay and she says she's getting there. I ask her if she's sure and she says \"I'm Ok.. Just Concentrate on being you.\" we then both said good night. When I've suggested we can't be friends because I'm only interested in her romantically she's kicked off in aggression so surely some feelings are still playing about?\n\nIs there any, any chance at all to get this back? She really is amazing and I can't see myself ever getting over how badly i treated her, especially as we run a charity committee together.", "summary": "Exgf broke up with me because I treated her vadly. Want her back And need to know if there's a chance."}
{"id": "t3_2akzci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my now ex-BF [18 M], broke up because of misgivings about LDRs", "post": "Throwaway account due to intense activity on original one, and the title is misleading - I'm the 18 year old (girl), he's the 23 year old guy.\n\nEx-BF went to the same college I am going to this fall; we met at an alumni event last November. Cue the strong feelings and falling for each other bit, but with a catch: ex already had a long distance relationship. Deciding it was unfair to the other girl, he broke it off, and we had a couple of great months.\n\nA bit of background: ex had a two-year long relationship with said girl. He was- and still is, to a certain extent - depressed at the fact that the relationship didn't work out simply because of distance, which led him to stop having feelings for the girl entirely. \n\nWe were happy, but ex decided to break it off yesterday. He pointed out how although he liked me, we would be thousands of miles away from each other for four years. Job prospects in his field in the area I would be in would be dismal at best in the foreseeable future, and I had no interest in ever coming back to our city. He was also emotionally unprepared for another long distance relationship, pointing out how we had extremely different political views, and that it would get harder and harder for us to even coexist with such radically different lines of thought.\n\nI asked him then why he initiated anything in the first place, and he replied something along the lines about how he was \"too youthful\" about the whole thing. I asked if I was just an easy lay, or a rebound. He said no.\n\n*Then what am I?* I asked.\n\nHe didn't reply, only asking for me to give him space.\n\nReddit, I am still reeling from all this. I too had misgivings about the relationship in the first place, and I only decided to commit because he told me that it was worth it, that we would make it. He is not replying to any of my texts. I am completely devastated.", "summary": "18 year old girl has strong feelings for 23 year old guy. 23 year old guy dumps girl because he can't deal with an LDR. Girl is heartbroken, and is seeking advice."}
{"id": "t3_3pjf2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] partner [30m] of 6 years might be going our separate ways, and the thing I'm worried about most are our animals.", "post": "In two weeks time I will be leaving town and we are going to take a break from each other to figure out if we want to stay together or separate. Me leaving is going to be a bit of a trial run.\n\nWe have aquatic animals and a rabbit, and the rabbit is my biggest concern. The aquarium will be staying with him since it is difficult to move, but I'm not so eager to leave our rabbit. The rabbit lives indoors with us, free range like a cat, so we have a very close relationship with him.\n\nI love the rabbit so much, and he's helped me through a lot. I've spent so long building his trust and repairing damage his previous owner did. I wouldn't be able to take him immediately until I'm settled somewhere else, but long term I can't imagine my life without him.\n\nThe problem is, my SO is just as close to the rabbit as I am, and he needs him just as much. Since I'm the one making the break happen, I feel horrible for wanting to take away his companion at a time when he will need him. \n\nAnother issue is that the rabbit is extremely happy in our current house. He's been unhappy in previous homes, but something about this house makes him happy and relaxed. I don't want to uproot him and cause him stress.", "summary": "breaking up with SO, conflicted about how to deal with custody of our rabbit."}
{"id": "t3_3qee5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my GF [30 F] of 2 months, what's your impression?", "post": "I'm a well-educated, relatively attractive albeit short and poorly endowed male, age 40 (but younger-looking), who has little experience with hetero-romantic/sexual relationships. \n\nThink of me as the 40 y/o virgin (not actually a virgin, but inexperienced). The girls I meet have interest in sex. I want supportive intimacy without the pressure of sex. I have been wavering between total celibacy and trying a \"normal\" relationship. \n\nI feel too much pressure to change my ingrained habits with women I meet. My friends and \"society\" says I need a woman to complete my life. Interacting (flirting) with women feels like a charade, and I don't want to lead them on. \n\nOff the top of your head, what do you think hearing me? Tell me things others who know me would not tell me. My constitution is strong and I can handle criticism, but I am sort of at a midlife crisis in terms of romance. I probably answered my own question, but do you have any input. \n\nI just stopped talking to a girl who liked me because I felt annoyed at her hinting at marriage and children and being needy. What do you make of my type. I am trying to gain insight into myself, and people who know me tell me what I want to hear. Thank you.", "summary": "What class of guy am I? and what would you recommend my approach to relationships me?"}
{"id": "t3_3tzxtb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Update][TX] Lube shop forgot to put my oil cap back on and I didn't find out until it was too late.", "post": "Link to the original, I took the advice of the comment that said to try and resolve through the insurance companies.\n\nI'm standing here in the parking lot of the repair shop who's been housing my Vitara while I had the insurance situation sorted...\n\nMy insurance said to contact the insurance of the establishment, turns out they didn't have insurance. My insurance instructed is to sit tight and a claims adjuster would contact us... Turns out that was not supposed to be the case. \n\nSo, since they told us there was nothing we could do, we'd try to put some oil in and start it with a new cap.\n\nIt was at this point, the guy at the repair shop noticed that oil was coming from the filter, and that the lube shop who originally did the oil change, used the incorrect filter.\n\nSo,", "summary": "Lube shop forgets my oil cap, and uses incorrect filter during oil change, And I drive the car until it suddenly dies."}
{"id": "t3_15sbw7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(19M) Went on couple of dates with friend's (20M) ex, (21F). No longer friends.. Story inside. Did I mess up? What should I do next?", "post": "This is a bit of a long story, so I'll try and make it as short as possible.\n\nI went on a couple dates with a close friend of mine's ex, C (21F) these past couple of weeks. I had an amazing time with her and felt a bit of a connection. That being said, I manned up and confronted my close friend, S (20M), he wasn't happy about it and we are no longer friends. I could tell that S was really hurt, but he had his chance and I didn't want to lose out on my opportunity with C. I felt guilty prior to telling him and have been a mess since confronting him about it. I felt like this held me back from really being myself with C.\n\nFast forward New Year's day, I called her and told her how I was a mess and wasn't really myself and how my close friend wasn't happy about the two of us spending time together. She seemed understanding, but didn't offer much input. Fast forward New Year's night I get a text from her saying \"Happy New Year, Darling!\". I responded by calling her.\n\nThis is where I feel I messed up, but I felt it was best for me to be honest with her. I tell her how I realized that I don't really care what S thought. (Inside thing) I reminded her how everyone had the choice to rid of unpleasant people from their lives and surround themselves with people who made them happy. I began to say how I would rather spend my time with her over S and how she made me more happy the two nights I spent with her over the three years I've been friends with S. She tells me how she wish that I didn't have to choose and I tell her things happen for reason. I wish her a Happy New Year and goodnight.\n\nI want to go on third date with her, but I'm afraid my honesty may have put her off. So, how would you feel after someone told you all of that? Would you appreciate that they were honest with you? Did I mess up? What should I do next?", "summary": "Went on couple of dates with friend's ex, C. No longer talking to my friend, S. Felt guilty. Haven't been myself. Called C New Year's day and night. Told C everything. Not sure what to do next. Did I mess up with C? What should I do next? How would you feel after someone told you all of that? Would you appreciate that they were honest?"}
{"id": "t3_4omscx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my close friend [20F] of 6 years, she is majorly overweight and I want to help her.", "post": "Hey lovely people here. I have a long-standing predicament. \n\nMy friend and I are in college together and have known each other for several years. My friend also has a BMI of 40.\n\nI honestly give no shits about the way she looks, but it is obviously wearing on her that she is morbidly obese. She is in some type of crazy denial over it- she says stuff like \"it's just the way it is\" and \"oh, but everyone in my family is like this!\". We are almost the same height but she easily has 120 pounds on me- and we are only in the 5'-5' 3\" range. I am at the higher end of the regular weight spectrum.\n\nI guess I am a bit sick of her being in this denial land where she magically gains weight. She has a few medical conditions and they are all made worse by her weight. I have been thinking about mentioning free nutrition counseling at our school, but I am just looking for a tactful way to help her. It is hard because at this point she is ruining her health and she is only 20. Have any of you had experience like this?", "summary": "My friend is extremely overweight and needs help. Is there anything I can say or do?"}
{"id": "t3_1vvx1r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 M] with my girlfriend [14 F] 6 days, she doesn't want alot of people to know we're dating", "post": "Me and this girl used to date earlier this school year, but I cheated on her and we broke up.\n\nShe went out with another guy and they just recently broke up.\n\nI decided to go back out with her and asked her out 6 days ago. She said yes.\n\nWhen my friend asked her if we were dating she said yes, but stay quiet about it.\n\nLast time we dated she posted photos of us kissing in Instagram.\n\nNow she won't post anything on Instagram or tell anybody about us. \n\nBefore I ask her about this I would like an opinion.\n\nIs it because she doesn't want to seem 'slutty'", "summary": "Why does my girlfriend not want to have many people find out about our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_15enjc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the craziest thing anyone in your family has said or confessed at dinner/a meal?", "post": "After coming home from a family-oriented weekend in Dallas visiting my Parkinson's stricken Grandfather, we started talking about one of the ideas my Grandfather had for a garbage collecting service. While not really important to the story, it basically had to do with compacting waste to make collection more efficient. Anyway, at Dinner tonight (Christmas eve) my father told us that he HAD actually had the idea when he was beginning a start-up and was confronted by the mob in Dallas. He was told that the mob controls all of the trash business in Dallas and any further interference would result in his and his family's death.", "summary": "Dad was threatened by the mob at age 10 for father's trash business idea."}
{"id": "t3_lnq7r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sprint Tethering Options", "post": "I'm going on a long driving trip (10 hours) with a friend in the next few weeks and I'm trying to find a way for me to use the 3G connection on my phone to get internet access on my laptop. (and any internet is good internet when your stuck in a car for 10 hours)\n\nPreviously I had a Palm Pre+ with Verizon and with that came a free wireless hotspot service that was pretty sweet. Sadly I don't have that on my Motorol Photon from Sprint. \n\nAfter doing some digging I realized that the closest option I have is to pay the $40s for a hotspot plan from sprint. I honestly remember that plan only being $5 too, which is the weird thing. Obviously when I called the customer support people about it they didn't have any idea what I was talking about. \n\nNow I know that I could root my phone and probably get an app that will do exactly what I'm looking for, but I'm trying to avoid rooting my phone at all costs.", "summary": "I can haz internets via my phone? What are my options? Am I crazy, or did Sprint have a $5 internet option at some point?"}
{"id": "t3_21b3vd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend[20 M] 4 months, just broke up", "post": "Now I know it isn't a long time, but I really though we had something special. We spent almost everyday together, which although perhaps not healthy meant we knew each other pretty well early on.\n\nIt happened yesterday. He'd been acting strange for about a month. Pretty distant, hardly looked at me, didn't really compliment me or anything anymore. I thought it was something we could have worked through and in a way I still believe that. \n\nI visited his house and I just couldn't take his nonchalance anymore and stormed home. Kinda felt worried about the fact he didn't call me or text me, so I called him. \n\nA plethora of cheesy cliche lines \"we want to do different things in life, I don't care about you like I once did, you're not the one\" fell from him and I just feel absolutely awful. \n\nI know it wasn't a long time, I've been in a 3 year relationship and a 6 month relationship prior to this and the feelings I felt for him were the same. \n\nI'm just in so much pain and I keep crying and I just miss him tremendously. I can't concentrate on Uni work and it just feels like my lifes been falling apart for a good while now. I'm depressed, as well as him, so unfortunately at this stage I'm kinda living in hope he might change his mind so we can work through it, but deep down I know that probably isn't going to happen.", "summary": "Just got dumped, feel like utter shit and don't know how to get on with my life. What do I do? Do I move on or hold out hope for us? And if I have to move on, I don't know how to?"}
{"id": "t3_16tpwf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Post-first date, when do I follow up? [18M]", "post": "So on Wednesday I went on a first date with a girl [18F] from one of my lectures last semester who I've known for about 4 months. This was also the first date I've ever been on so I was quite nervous.\n\nWe went to get lunch and we had a great time. We went to get sushi because she loves it and I had never tried it. I wasn't a huge fan of the sushi but she did say at the end of the date, and I quote \"next time we can go somewhere else\". To my ears this sounds like she is open for a second date.\n\nMy question to you guys is how long do you think I should wait before asking her out on a second date? (Its been 2 days since the date as of writing this post).", "summary": "Went on a first date with a girl and wondering how long I should wait before asking her out again."}
{"id": "t3_v738z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Screwed up with boss... what should I do?", "post": "I'm 20 f, my boss is around 50 years old, also f.\n\nSo I have two jobs, and the schedules for both jobs are made on a\nweekly basis. One of my jobs I have had for three years, the other one I have had for a month and a bit. I forgot to give my schedule from one job to my boss at my other job, and so I was not scheduled for this week. I didn't realize why I had not been put on the schedule until now.\n\nMy question is, since I royally screwed up, what can I do to redeem myself? I don't want to call my boss today because it is a Sunday and she has the day off. Mistakes aren't easily forgiven where I work, as far as I can tell, and the boss often makes comments about how the employees should be scared of her. I have screwed up at previous jobs (little things) but my boss was less intimidating than my current one, so I am not sure how to handle this situation.", "summary": "screwed up at work by not giving the boss my schedule from my other job, am not scheduled this week, what should I say in order to apologize to my (scary/intimidating) boss?"}
{"id": "t3_33j8sc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] ex bestfriend [26M] of 9 years is outside my work. Help!", "post": "We had a fallen out and I haven't seen him in 2 months. Basically he had a problem with meth use, he became pyschotic and I've had enough of it. He also didn't like that I became great friends with his ex (they're gay). Long story short, now he wants to patch things up. I still think he's using but he wont admit. He thinks we can go back to normal right away.. That's why he's outside my work place and asking me to come out to say hi. I want a formal sit down and talk first. What do I say to him that won't hurt his feelings, but get the point straight that I'm fucking serious and I still don't believe him?", "summary": "Ex-friend is outside my work, we had a fallen out... I don't want to see him without hurting his feelings."}
{"id": "t3_51m12q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30/f) husband (30/m) of 10 years and super scary movies", "post": "We haven't been married for 10 years but we've been together that long, if that makes sense.  \n\nI love watching scary movies under the right circumstances:  under a blanket, on my couch, with my husband by my side.  If I watch scary movies alone I get really bad nightmares but if someone is there it makes it less real.  There are a handful of movies that still scare the shit out of me:  Paranormal Activity.  I don't know what it is - I think it's that you can't see it?  but even with someone around, I still think about them for a long time and they give me nightmares.  I should also add that I get sleep paralysis so this isn't just like oooh scary nightmare, I wake up fully paralyzed, hallucinate, have basically a panic attack - still fully paralyzed.  \n\nMy husband knows this but still every time anything happens in the house, like our AC sucks a door closed, or a frame falls off the wall, he'll turn to me and say it was Toby.  I've told him to stop.  He still does it.  He just did it last night when a friend's front door randomly popped open.  The worst part?  He tends to do it RIGHT before he's scheduled to work overnight.", "summary": "How do I get my husband to stop trying to scare me?"}
{"id": "t3_2it88d", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Medical bill was in collections for two years, found out about it last month and paid half off, now my parents are telling me not to pay anymore until they contact the insurance company we had because it should have been covered.", "post": "Okay so, in January 2012, I ended up in the ER two days in a row while my entire family was at Disney World. Fast forward a few months, I recall the bill coming to my parents' house, and receiving it when I came home from college at some point. My parents have never been very good with money. Countless months with our water, power, phones shut off. Last year, the bank took our house. It wouldn't be far fetched to imagine a situation in which my parents conveniently misplaced this bill.\n\nBeing the naive 19 year old that I was at the time, I assumed my parents would take care of it. As I've come to learn being a much more responsible and **slightly** less naive 22 year old, my parents let the two medical bills (totaling $1700) go to collections. I found this out when I checked my credit for the first time (suggested by a finance professor) around the beginning of last month.\n\nI talked to the collection agency, which is based in the city that I live in, and as suggested by my own mother I set up a payment plan. I have already paid ~$700 of this debt. As of yesterday, I get a call from my mother who urges me not to pay any more money because I had insurance at the time and it should have been covered. Now, my father is attempting to contact his former employer to process an old bill.\n\nMy question is: If by some miracle this does happen to work out, what is the likelihood that I would be able to get the money back that I have already paid?\n\nOh and, like an idiot, I was intimidated when they already had all of my information, and gave them authorization to withdraw the money from my account.", "summary": "If the insurance company processes a two year old claim, is there a chance that I could get the money back that I paid to a collection company for the debt?"}
{"id": "t3_cmgp9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I drunkenly made out with a girl, and now she wants to go on a date - how do i decline politely?", "post": "A week ago, I was at a giant(think >100,000 people) festival, and I was drunk. I met a chick, who actually didn't seem very in to me, but I was kinda horny, and proceeded to make out with her - bear in mind we are both drunk at this point. \n\nAt some point we are separated, and I didn't think much about it until today, where she out of the blue messages me on facebook. I have no idea how she got my info, i gave her only my first name, but whatever - I've facebook-stalked people before, too.\n\nIn her message, she basically says that she is really embarassed that she's doing this, but i've been stuck in her head since we met, and she really wants to see me again. She is very apologetic, and her message sounds kinda insecure. \n\nThe thing is.. I don't really want a date with this girl. Two days after we kissed, I met a super awesome chick, that I could see leading somewhere. And besides that, she's not really my type. I think it is really awesome that she worked up the courage to message me, and I really want to leave her with something more than \"Sorry I don't want to see you, have a nice life\". \n\nSo Reddit - how do i decline her, without her feeling like an ass for messaging me?", "summary": "Kissed a girl, she sounds insecure when she messages me, how do I decline without her feeling like a fool."}
{"id": "t3_37zj7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] Bi polar girlfriend broke up with me over text, not together long, getting serious. [22 F] duration, short-description", "post": "Met her through mutual friends, unfortunately long distance (around 2 1/2 hours coach journey). She suffers with Bi polar disorder so it was always a struggle coping with the distance. After about 2 months things were going great, we already were planning long term (i'm at uni so had 2 years before i could commit away from my location). Woke up to a text the other morning saying it was over and that she needed to be alone. I'm still not sure why she has broken it off, haven't got a real answer from her since (only text, hasnt wanted to talk over the phone/facetime). \n\nI'm worried that the bi polar has made her feel this way and has caused her to do something she'll regret later, or whether it's just myself being naive. Struggling to focus on anything right now and constantly being reminded of her by small things like walking past places we ate etc.\n\nIs there any advice that you can give me in either things i should say to make her really think long and hard about this, or just ways I can get over it all easier.\n\nSorry if this is babble, i'm a bit of a mess currently so trying to get this all down is a little hard. Thanks.", "summary": "Bi polar girlfriend broken up with me, not sure if it's what she really wants or the disorder itself."}
{"id": "t3_z4dsq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend is lonely in college, how can I help?", "post": "My girlfriend (18 F) and I (18 M) have been in a relationship for ~2 months now. Though it is still relatively new, I care deeply for her, and we are very much in love with each other. Unfortunately, she went off to college (only about an hour away, though), and I stayed in our home town. She hasn't been making friends, and it seems difficult for her to force herself out of her dorm to meet people. She has only met one person whom she likes. But, he is a guy (which I have no problem with), and he constantly tells her that he wants to be more than friends with her (which I'm not okay with). I want her to be happy, and hang out with the friends which she chooses, but she feels like she is betraying me every time she hangs out with him. I'm not trying to be a jealous dick, but she is obviously unhappy, and she feels like this guy is the only friend she can make. I hate seeing her constantly unhappy with herself, and her surroundings. What can I do to help her?", "summary": "girlfriend go to college, no make friends, she feel lonely, me helpless"}
{"id": "t3_rl9dn", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Looking for suggestions: Neighborhood dog left out constantly, seems lethargic/unwell, possible abrasions", "post": "Hope I'm posting in the right place. There's a yard on my street I walk by every day on my way to class. Inside there's a pitbull-mix looking dog. It's a small yard, all cement. The dog is outside every day on my way to/from class and to/from the gym, and most of the rest of the time it seems. I live in North Philadelphia, not the nicest place, so I don't hang around the fence but every day as I pass, the dog is laying either on the pavement (Next to about 10 piles of it's droppings) or in this wooden shack looking dog house. Today the dog was sitting right along the fence. It's face was just droopy and miserable, it's eyes were blood red, and it seemed to have an abrasion/patch of fur missing on it's side/front leg. The last time I was this close to the dog, it barked at me. Today, it just stared blankly. I've been wondering what I can/should do all semester. Is there someone I can/should call? Should I mind my own business? In any other situation I'd have ZERO problem confronting someone about a case such as this (I'm a pretty decent sized guy) but as I said, I don't live in a great area and many of the locals here don't take kindly to students as it is. I've volunteered with PAWS (Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society) before so I imagine I might wanna start there.", "summary": "pitbull left outside constantly. Looks weak, unhealthy, and possibly injured. Need suggestions, but don't want to get shot."}
{"id": "t3_jd9ju", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I think I just popped my shoulder out, fuck", "post": "So while I was trying to go to sleep, I was resting on my left shoulder, and in the process of trying to stretch it, I think I popped it out. Im also really high right now, so I,dont know if what I feel is pain but I definately feel something. it is extremely uncomfortable right now, and that is what has me worried and guessing I fucked my shit. I cant go to doctor because im only 17 years old, and theres no chance in hell im telling my mom right now to take me to the hospital. I dont know what else to do, so I came here; I cant fall asleep.\n\n(sorry for typos, im on my phone)", "summary": "I popped out my shoulder, fuck me"}
{"id": "t3_37c0dd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M/F] considering breaking up with my Girlfriend [21 M/F] of 4 years", "post": "A couple years ago, my girlfriend broke up with me twice in once year.  At the time I was madly in love with her and was not confident enough to think I would be able to be with anyone who was as attractive or compatible.  During that period of the two break ups she cheated on me and told me about it years later because of guilt.  \n\nFast forward to now, I have definitely evolved as a person.  I am more confident and it has captured the attention of a lot of attractive girls.  Every time I go out with my friends and get the attention of a girl, I think to myself, \"maybe I'm entitled to this.\"  Of course, I respect my girlfriend too much to act on those desires.  \n\nYesterday I tried breaking up with her by bringing up some excuse about a potential possibility of a long distance relationship.  The conversation we had made me think about how long we've been together, how much I really like her, how committed she's been since then and how special what we have is.  \n\nEvery time I think about her cheating on me I get upset, every time a girl asks if I want to walk her home after a night of drinking I have second thoughts.  I wish there was some way to say, \"hey you had your fun, I want mine and then we can get back together,\" but I know that is not realistic. \n\nI really do care about this girl and can see myself with her in the long run, but also wish I could have my time to do me.  Maybe its selfish, but that is honestly how I feel.  Advice or thoughts?", "summary": "My gf cheated on me years ago, I wish I had that opportunity.  Want to have my cake and eat it too."}
{"id": "t3_1l6g14", "subreddit": "running", "title": "A realistic training programme?", "post": "Hi guys. I have a question for you but first, some background.\n\nI have a chronic pain condition so sometimes my ability to train can be affected. However, I'm fed up of being what I consider 'slow' as I know if I knew how to train, I could take a lot off my times.\n\nSo, as my club's season ends soon (end of October) I've set targets for next year:\n\n**5k** - Target: 00:20:00 - Current race PB: 00:24:28\n\n**5 mile** - Target: 00:33:06 - Not raced before\n\n**10k** - Target: 00:41:41 - Current race PB: 00:51:13\n\n**10 mile** - Target: 01:09:02 - Not raced before\n\n**Half** - Target: 01:32:00 - Current Race PB: 02:02:47\n\n**Marathon** - Target: 03:11:49 - Not raced before\n\nAre these targets realistic for 12 months time? Also, does anyone have recommendations for a training plan that I could follow that has a lot of focus on flexibility but could still achieve these times?", "summary": "Guy needs to set targets - are they realistic and, if so, can you recommend a flexible plan to achieve them?"}
{"id": "t3_1k4ieb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiancee (23F) is pissing me (23M) the f*ck off and I don't know what to think.", "post": "Things are going great in our lives. She just graduated college and is in the process of starting a promising career at w hospital. I'm still in school and have a great job in an IT role. Things are peachy. Except for her.\n\nLately she's been complaining and complaining about everything. She's still in the interview process for her job so she gets upset, supposedly, because she doesn't like that she can't contribute to our finances.\n\nThen. Then. Then. Today she gives me all this shit about not being able to stand my family (that lives about 5 hours away) and she's all pissy at me that they're visiting today for the one time they do every few months. Then when they get here, she's all nice and cool with them and talking about boys and shit with my sister (19F) and I'm just so mad that I have to take her shit then she's cool with everyone else. She made a joke about me thinking I'm afraid she'd leave me for someone else. Which is totally out of left field and untrue. I've been so annoyed with her lately that I said in front of everyone that I would be elated if she left so I could pursue my career without the bullshit.\n\nObviously I was an idiot in that sense. But we've been together years and living together a year. This new attitude she has where she has this unfounded anxiety I'm supposed to take care of then she's fine when others are around and she treats me like shit. What do I do?", "summary": "fiancee is being a bitch. what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3sz00t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) girlfriend (19F) has a past with 3 of my friends", "post": "My girlfriend dated three of my friends before she met me one of which is my best friend since 6th grade. At first things were great she made me happier than anyone ever has. However recently my friends have decided its funny to make rude comments about how they made her happier than I ever will or that she still cares for them. It makes me feel terrible and I always take it out on her and that makes me feel even worse. I've made it clear to my friends that those kind of \"jokes\" are off limits and they say they understand but they just start making them again a week or two later. \n\nMy girlfriend doesn't even seem like she's happy to be with me anymore because she'll get mean comments lobbed her way by her \"friends\" too. It's not like we can just cut everyone that we hold dear out of our lives but we can't just break up over what they say. We both agree that we make each other happier than anyone else can as long as nobody is making comments just to make us feel bad about dating. \n\nWe're about to reach 1 year in December but right now we're really sad just because we're realizing that nobody wants to see us happy. I'll take any suggestions you people have.", "summary": "girlfriend has a past with 3 of my friends and our friends are always hassling us about it."}
{"id": "t3_3w8s2h", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Swollen Lymph Node/Lump", "post": "Hello /r/AskDocs!\n\n**Information:**\n\n25 years old\n\nMale\n\n5\"11\n\n~160 lbs.\n\nCaucasian\n\nAbout 3.5 weeks now (as of writing this post).\n\nTrying to quit smoking. Other than that, no existing medical issues at the moment. \n\nNo current medications.\n\n[Photos of visible symptoms](\n\n**Backstory:**\n\n3 and a half weeks ago (around the beginning of the week of Thanksgiving), I began to exhibit symptoms of a cold/flu. I was feverish, nauseous, although no mucus or drainage. I did however have something of a sinus headache when those symptoms began to appear. Bending over or standing up would worsen the headache. \n\nBy the end of the week I began to notice a swollen Lymph Node at the inner right-side of my groin (where the inner thigh meets my pelvis). This week it appears to have become a bit more reddish than normal.\n\nIt was not, and is still not painful. I have very minor discomfort when sitting but no major pain. I have taken ibuprofen every now and then, and waited 3 weeks for swelling to go down but to no avail. I wouldn't call the lump/bump/node soft\u2014it's kind of hard and stiff and doesn't really move around if try to massage it around with my fingers.\n\nI haven't had health insurance in 5 years and I recently enrolled in a plan that begins coverage on January 1st. I'm kind of freaking out and have no idea what to do, where to go, or what's happening down south. I'm going to a clinic later this afternoon to have a doctor examine it, but until then I wanted to get reddit's opinion on this lump and if any others may have had similar symptoms.", "summary": "I have had a lump/bump on my upper inner thigh for 3.5 weeks, and no infection."}
{"id": "t3_3vd3jf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By underestimating a woman", "post": "This happened a few days ago. I fight recreationally with the local american pit fighters in town i was scheduled to have an exhibition with a fellow fighter in the gym i train at to test if i am ready to have my first real matches we get in the cage and are circling each other for a bit and \"feeling\" each other for weak spots. After a bit he attempted to give me a right hook that i saw coming so i grabbed his arm spun behind and put in an elbow leading to a submission. Heres where it gets hairy...we shake hands and he steps out quickly. After being congratulated a bit more i step out too immediately i am approached by a super-hot blond chick who seemed really excited. I said hi (my 19 y/o hormones raging) and she starts babbling on about the fight. I just keep on smiling and nodding as she leaned in and put her hands on my waist. Then she whispers in my ear \"you embarrased my boyfriend in there\" and scorpion kicks me in the face knocking me out for in front of everyone.", "summary": "i fought a local guy in the gym i train in and won then got kicked in the face by his gf afterwards knocking me out"}
{"id": "t3_vt3mf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Couples of Reddit: How do you handle money?", "post": "A little background info: My husband and I have been together for four and a half years, married for six months. We have our own bank accounts, credit cards, and cars. Up to this point we have always split everything 50/50: rent, utilities, groceries. We even alternate who pays for dates.\n\nWe both graduated college two years ago and have been working dead-end, part-time jobs while looking for careers. This week my husband accepted an excellent job offer. He'll be making almost give times as much as I do, and has offered to pay my half of the bills. While this would make things much easier for me financially, give me a little breathing room, I'm a bit reluctant to accept. My hesitance doesn't stem fro many feminazi tendencies or fear of becoming a kept woman, but rather a concern for fairness. I don't want to be a burden to him, or have him feel like I'm taking advantage of him. So, Reddit, what would you do?", "summary": "Hubby wants to be my sugar daddy. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3polw3", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Thinking of changing from an IT support to technical pre-sales, looking for experiences/advice", "post": "The back story is that I got laid off last October after 5 years at a large communications company doing IT support work (which I really enjoyed) and took a job doing professional services support for a software company. Mostly I have grown to hate my new job because the projects I work all suffer from the same leadership problems, namely: over-promising and then just expecting everyone to work miracles. We've been in a constant state of emergency on my largest project for my entire time at the company, which is now going on a year, and I'm fed up with the constant expectation of overtime (which I don't get paid for because I'm salaried)\n\nSo I've got two potential job opportunities I'm pursuing, I feel pretty confident about both of them, and I've been weighing the pros and cons. One is employment by a US federal government department and is a 9-5 internal IT support job with a 1-hour commute. The other is a technical pre-sales position for a large company which would involve travelling about 30% time visiting clients.\n\nI've never worked in sales before and was hoping to get some experiences from other redditors who have made the switch. I am a family man, I have a wife and two children and I want to spend as much time with them as I can.\n\nHow did it affect your family life as a whole?\nHow did it affect your relationship with your spouse?\nHow did it affect your relationship with your children?\nWhat can I do to make the adjustment easier for all?", "summary": "What's it like to move from internal support to outside sales?"}
{"id": "t3_17o10w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (26m) engaged to be married this summer, but I have a huge crush on someone else", "post": "I've been with my fiancee (25f) for about 6 years, and we became engaged last summer. I am a TA at a university, and have developed a major (and I mean MAJOR) crush on a senior student in the class that I TA for. It's gotten to the point where I try to avoid referencing my fiancee in her presence, because I don't want her thinking that I'm unavailable (yikes). I think she is absolutely stunning. In fact she's one of the most beautiful people I've ever laid eyes on, and on top of that she's awesome. I don't know if it's my imagination, but I think I've noticed her noticing me too. What do I do? What does this say about the marriage I'm due to commence?", "summary": "Engaged to be married but have a huge crush on someone else"}
{"id": "t3_4zyyjq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a bj", "post": "Hi guys. I'm a first time poster so I apologize if my formatting is off and must also state that this fuck up was from over a year ago but will be telling it as if it happened today. (Since it's just easier that way.)\n\nI'm a young girl that wear's braces. I also have to mention that I have a missing tooth on the top row of my teeth in back kinda, so the wire isn't like held down to anything since my tooth isn't there. Well I had popped my top wire on my braces and had to wait go see my orthodontist on Tuesday since it was the only day they would let me go see them and it was a Friday.\n\nWell my dickbag boyfriend at the time was very demanding/abusive, etc. and had demanded that I give him a blowjob. I was not comfortable with this since the wire of my braces had popped out and everything. Even though I had told him I would rather not he still insisted and I had ended up giving him a bj.\n\nFor some reason he had wanted me to change my pace. He then grabbed my head and made me speed up a bit. That's when it happened. The wire that had popped out of my braces had stabbed him through the dick. I felt the wire from my braces go through his dick. I had pulled it out of his dick and felt it as I pulled out. I realized I had stabbed his dick through like a veiny looking area. \n\nWe were panicking, and I was crying. I went to go get ice and towels and shit to help relieve him of his pain. I had suggested going to a hospital or something (because I mean like I stabbed his fucking dick.) but he decided against it (because I was a minor at the time and my parents, etc.) After a few hours he was fine.", "summary": "I accidentally stabbed my boyfriend, at the time, through the dick with my braces because he really wanted a blowjob. "}
{"id": "t3_hefz9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I turn off the commentary that plays constantly in my head?", "post": "I have recently become self aware to the fact that I have been commentating everything in my head. For example, if I have a conversation with someone, instead of listening to what they are saying, I analyze the social iteration. In my head will be nonstop questions that play louder than the actual discussion. \"Does she think I am an idiot?\"  \"Is he uncomfortable?\"  \"Does she think I am creepy for making eye contact?\" \"Does he know I am not really paying full attention?\" There are a million other questions like that.\n\nEven as I have become self-aware of this, I still can't stop it and focus. Its been a problem mostly when communicating with people, but has effected other areas of my life such as concentrating on a project at work.  Even now as I type this I can't really turn it off.\n\nI think its most troubling when having sex. Instead of getting into the zone, I am constantly thinking about all this other bullshit.  How she perceives me, how animalistic it feels, etc.  The best sex (and perhaps social interactions in general), have always been drunk.  Being drunk is the only time I can really get into the zone and turn of the internal dialogue.\n\nIs there anyone else experiencing this?  I'm sure everyone does to some extent but I feel other people have better control over it. I'm not sure if its just social anxiety disorder or what but\u2026.I'd really like to try to get a better handle over it.  What are some techniques I can practice to turn off the voice inside my head?", "summary": "I am looking for ways to turn the voice off inside my head so I can focus on the moment instead of analyzing it."}
{"id": "t3_3779rt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] desperately miss my ex [20 M]", "post": "I was with my ex for two years (on and off for the last six months) he had family issues, he was a drug addict, abusive and had borderline personality disorder and severe depression. We broke up for good about a year ago and 6 months later I started dating an amazing guy, but now 8 or so months later I really miss my ex, even though I shouldn't. I love my boyfriend dearly but I find myself thinking about my ex a lot and I don't know what to do. \n\nThis all happened after I found out he had a gf (she randomly inboxed me on Facebook abusing me even though I didn't know her - he must talk about me). I don't want to be with him, but I thought the pain would've been gone by now, it only came back a month or so ago. \n\nI know he hasn't changed and having him recently inbox me after he broke up with his gf (they got back together after our chat) saying that I was the only good person in his life and the only one who cared then a few days later him flipping out on me saying he's over me and he hates me.", "summary": "Have a wonderful boyfriend, think I love my abusive ex."}
{"id": "t3_imd6u", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit: Thank you", "post": "Many people say reddit has changed their lives for the worse, or weakened their marriage, but I say the exact opposite. \n\nReddit had given me the courage to turn away from a bad relationship, and had introduced me to someone very special. I was never interested in online dating, and it never occurred to me that I could actually find someone on Reddit, but it happened. \n\nThank you, Reddit for being there for me during my darkest days, and for giving me the greatest memories. I would have never imagined myself dating someone from a different state, or impulsively buying plane tickets to go visit a redditor *(who could have ended up being a serial killer)*, but I did it anyways. I do not regret any of it, and I am very grateful for how everything has turned out. \n\nI felt like I had to make this post, just so I can say **THANK YOU!", "summary": "Met someone on Reddit, now in a loving relationship :D"}
{"id": "t3_42hy2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 F] with my bf [17 M] of 3-4 months having a rough patch and my moms not helping", "post": "Hey everyone, I would post this to /r/girltalk but it's a dead subreddit. \n\nSo, I've been going out with my bf for about 3-4 months, and it's been pretty good until we hit a road bump. He's really busy with work, school (grad year for him), and sports. Sometimes we don't get to hang during the week, but we see each other at school. \n\nHere's the main problem, his parents don't know about me and they can't for cultural reasons. So every time he hangs out with me he's lying to his parents, and has even lied to his friends (saying he has work) to bail on them and hang out with me. My mom's really getting into my ear about this saying he's \"made a career of lying\" and is lying to me too. I never saw him in this light until she brought it up, but a few instances have occurred where I questioned it. \n\nI remember once over the winter break, I asked if he had gone to the hockey game he bought tickets for his sister and him to go see. (I had no previous info about this, all I knew was he bought tickets). He said yes, but had very little info about it when I asked. He claimed to have had too much to drink and didn't remember much.\n\nI'm scared my mom is right, but I'm looking for advice on this, and I'm hoping someone else has been in the same shoes? (parents not knowing about you dating their son/daughter)", "summary": "Bf's parents don't know about me, causing him to lie and I'm scared he's lying to me too."}
{"id": "t3_35mrrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my friend [26 F], she's in a LT relationship and developing a close friendship with someone she has crush on at work, should I do/say something?", "post": "I've been friends with P [26f] for about 5 years, she's been with her boyfriend J [27M] for 7 years. \n\nRecently she told me she's developed a crush on a guy she works with, G [31m]. At first I thought it was harmless, she just talked about how she thought he was cute and got nervous around him, I understand what that's like so I didn't think anything of it. However recently she's become better friends with him and they talk quite frequently, chatting at work, texting outside of work, and when we get drunk she will text him. Always something innocuous as far as she's told me, just asking what he's up to and joking about things they talk about at work. She revealed to me that they each lied to their coworkers so that they could have lunch together alone recently.\n\nI'm good friends with P and J, they are also good friends of my boyfriend of 6 years, M [25M]. I understand develop a physical attraction to someone else in a LT relationship, and I certainly don't fault her for that. I just think having secret lunches and drunk texting is starting to get into a grey area, I told her that I don't like where it's headed and she should cut down on the time she spends with him and how much they talk. \n\nShould I bring this up with her to again to emphasize how I feel? Do I owe it to J to say anything if she won't stop? I haven't told my boyfriend either since at first it was just girl talk about how there's a cute guy at her office, but now I feel like I'm keeping a big secret from him that affects our friend group. I know that I am loyal to a fault with my friends and she is one of my dearest friends so I'm torn. M is very good at being logical and unbiased, should I confide in him so he can help me decide what's the right thing to do?", "summary": "best friend is becoming close with a guy she has a crush on while she is in a LT relationship of 7 years, should I emphasize to her how I feel that this inappropriate?"}
{"id": "t3_4kp0o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 F] boyfriend [27 M] of 3 years best friend made a pass at me and I don't know where to go to from here.", "post": "We were on a break for about a month to focus on ourselves. Anyway, his friend (Mark) I were talking (I consider him a friend as well). During this break Mark got in contact with me and said we should definitely fuck. I asked him why and he said I was pretty.\nI got PISSED, both because he was betraying my boyfriend and because I felt objectified (he said at one point during the conversation that if it wasn't me it was prostitutes). When I said to Mark I would have to tell my boyfriend he guilt-tripped me and said that they were releasing their EP next month and that my relationship meant nothing compared to their EP release and essentially I was fucking him over.\n\nWhen I told my boyfriend about it he asked if I'd dealt with it, and I said yes I had. I was told later on that my boyfriend had a serious conversation with Mark and that they were no longer friends, just band mates. \n\nThen, last night I see a picture on Facebook of them with their arms around each other. Boyfriend claimed that they were advertising band merchandise but he wasn't wearing this shirt. I asked if they were still friends and he said he didn't know, and that I had no right to be upset about it because this was a betrayal to HIM and HIS band.\n\nI feel pretty disgusted by the entire thing because it looks like he's fine with this stuff. Should I just burry the hatchet? My boyfriend isn't very forgiving and he's shut me down when I try to talk abut it. I'm starting to wonder what this says about his character but I don't know exactly what I'm upset about.", "summary": "boyfriends friend/band mate hit on me. Boyfriend tells me to leave it alone because it was a greater betrayal to him than me. Should I drop the issue?"}
{"id": "t3_29u8z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have stumbled across a video of what appears to be my girlfriend [18 F] of two years, masturbating alone on a porn site.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are both aware that the other watches porn to some extent, although it has never been discussed in detail, only casually mentioned. \n\nAs I was, browsing recently, I stumbled (randomly) across a video of a girl masturbating alone in a mirror, with her face and body clearly visible. \nAt first I was unsure, but after watching the entire video, and replaying it, I am almost convinced that said girl is my girlfriend, although I am still not completely sure. \n\nThis has made me feel somewhat uncomfortable, as I have no prior knowledge of her doing anything like this, and I have no context for why such a video would exist, or would be on-line. Do I confront her about the possibility of it being her? Do I wait to see if I myself can confirm the girl in the video is her? (some moles on the girl's back are visible, and the pattern could be easily compared). Or do I simply try and ignore it?\n\nI am slightly confused as to what to do, as although we have dated for over two years, I have never seen her completely nude, and in confronting her about it, I would feel almost like I was violating her privacy and trust, with her knowing I would have watched the video.", "summary": "Possibly my girlfriend on a porn site, don't know how to approach the issue"}
{"id": "t3_4hzgqn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19M) need advice on what to do with a girl (18F) I like", "post": "So I've been talking to this girl for about a month maybe a little more. We have a ridiculous amount of things in common and we both think the other is very attractive, sweet ect.. she tells me in the most kind-hearted, respectable person shes ever met. anyway she wasn't really dating this guy but they were seriously talking a while before we were. It was getting too real and he panicked and told her they couldn't talk anymore and it really broke her heart. Recently he started messaging her and saying how stupid he was and a bunch of stuff. Playing mind games and all that. Now she \"picked\" him and she said how sorry she is and she's genuine about that. she said it was hands down the hardest decision she's ever had to make aside from college and she wouldn't be able to forgive herself if she just told him to fuck off. But now I'm not really sure what to do. Give her space and if they don't work out see if she wants to talk again? I don't really want to just say \"fuck ya then\" cause she is truly the most incredible girl I have ever talked to and we definitely have a great connection. And I'm not really looking for anyone she just kind of happened. Let me know what ya think and please no hate. Thanks.", "summary": "need help with a girl that isn't mine now but I'm crazy out her"}
{"id": "t3_awm49", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can anyone be for the death penalty when trials (based on a jury) are never going to be fair and bring real justice?", "post": "I watch lots of crime dramas and read lots of the news, so maybe my understanding is skewed, but as far as I know: A jury is selected, these are people from the public called forward to do jury duty. A lot of these people don't want to be there, they want to go back to doing their jobs or looking after their family, so that would bring me to the conclusion they don't necessarily care that much (of course some people take it seriously, but it only takes 1 not to...).\n\nSo how can this be fair? How can a jury of \"normal\" people who don't necessarily have any interested in being there and people who could be easily swayed by charisma be given the responsibility of deciding if someone is guilty?\n\nLet's not forget how lawyers are different, a poor person could get a really shit lawyer who knows very little of what they do and represent the person poorly, or a rich person could get the best lawyer around. If both were charged with the same crime and the evidence was flaky, you can be pretty sure the rich guy will get off and the poor guy will be convicted, because representation matters a great deal. \n\nHow can people who agree with the Death Penalty think this is right? I would never really agree that the death penalty is *good* or *right*, but I could understand it **if** it was possible to be 100% sure of someone's guilt.", "summary": "How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the people relied on to form a decision aren't necessarily in the position to do so properly? How can anyone agree with the death penalty when the representation of the accused matters a huge deal?"}
{"id": "t3_3jvm90", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by suggesting how my mother could get a massage.", "post": "So about a month ago I was hit by a car while bicycling, coming out of it with a broken bike, leg, ankle, and hand, in order of severity. The carbon frame could not be resuscitated. My mother flew in from the west (US) coast to take care of me as I live by myself and am now unable to drive to work, cook, carry things, etc. I went through rehab for the leg and hand and now I've less than a month before the leg is supposed to be healed.\n\nDuring this downtime I've been eating great home-cooked meals daily and playing more GTA5 multiplayer than a gainfully-employed 28 year-old male should be. Actually, you would be surprised how many employed people are much higher level than me, considering the PC version has only been out a few months. My mother has been telecommuting using my laptop while I game on my desktop (swanky projector setup etc).\n\nSo a few days ago she complains that her back is sore and she needs someone to rub it (nothing creepy here, folks.), and not being particularly keen on taking that on myself, I suggested she use my back massager. So she searches around my bedroom for it and then brings it to me on the couch, meekly asking \"How do I get this off?\" It takes a moment to sink in that my mother is holding my Hitachi magic wand with the blue plasticol g-spot attachment and a feeling of panic and embarrassment hits me. I quickly tear it off and hand it back to her. My mother's a bit naive and technologically-impaired, so I may be in the clear here. On the other hand, I kept it next to the condoms, rope, and lube, so she may have put two and two (and three and four) together and figured it out. We'll never know.\n\nIt didn't do it for her anyways, so I rubbed her shoulders later while she was working and that was that.", "summary": "I suggested my mother use my Magic Wand for a back massage, forgetting its prior use(s)."}
{"id": "t3_3irlst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my ex [28 F] of 3 days, she wants one more week before I leave town.", "post": "I am going to be leaving my current city in 9 days.  In preparation for the move, I decided I would break up with my girlfriend of 8 months.  I told her that I didn't see an end to the distance in sight and that I wasn't going to start a long distance relationship when we both don't know how long it would last.  She was reluctant to understand my decision and told me she sees me as \"the one for her\".  She told me all the long term plans she saw for us and challenged me to reconsider.  \n\nAfter breaking up with her on Tuesday, we had to meet yesterday (Thursday) to return belongings.  We ended up hooking up and she spent the night.  It was very passionate but also fun.  In the morning we made jokes about being broken up which made me think she understood I was still leaving.  I very seriously reaffirmed to her that I was still leaving and she replied saying she has accepted the breakup but still wanted to enjoy one last week with me.  She proposed that we date until I leave, enjoying each other until my departure.  Now I'm hesitant to enter this 'one week relationship' because of how emotionally invested she told me she was when we first broke up.\n\nOn one hand, it would be amazing to spend another week with her; however, I don't know if this is her last attempt at trying to get me to change my mind and make something work.  The question is, do you believe a girl could process a break up in 2 days and be okay with just wanting to spend more time with me before I go or am I being selfish taking advantage of the situation she's presented me?", "summary": "Ex GF told me she has accepted I want to break up but wants to keep dating for one more week until I leave town ending the relationship for good.   I see it as a fun opportunity with a girl I've enjoyed a lot of time with but I'm afraid she has more feelings invested.  Is it possible she isn't ready for the opportunity she's giving me?"}
{"id": "t3_3689gt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing my pants in my friend's car", "post": "Okay, so we're visiting Tallahassee to see the LoL Mid season invitational. It ended yesterday and our 6 hour drive begins. 40 minutes in I have to piss and I ask my friend \"Is it too early to have to pee?\" \"Yup.\" he says. Welp... better grab a bottle because he isn't pulling over. I grab a bottle, unzip, and try my hardest. My seating position is too awkward to piss, so I unbuckle and crouch over the bottle. Still nothing. This situation was more stressful than defusing a bomb while being strip searched by the TSA. After a minute of effort, I'm still dryer than California, so I admit defeat and start to put my little u/Ebyros away. As I lean back into my seat a steady stream of piss shot up like old faithful, and landed straight on my lap.\n\n\"OH SHIT. I JUST FUCKING PISSED ALL OVER MY PANTS.\"\n\nMy friends in the front seats lost their shit, but agreed to pull over.\n\nWith some brief felatio from a blow dryer and a trip to the urinal, my problems are solved.", "summary": "Tried to piss in a bottle but pissed on my lap like a fountain, and had to face fuck a blow dryer at a gas station to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_4vbb6q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (29m) won't let me (26f) drive his car but lets a coworker (28f)", "post": "Jack and I have been together for about 18 months. Throwaway as he uses reddit. \n\nWe both have an interest in cars, and Jack has a really nice sports car. He has never let me drive it, which I've always been sort of ok with because I know it's his baby, although I have asked if I can drive it.\n\n I recently found out that he has let his coworker (28f) drive it on a couple of occasions. As far as I know she has no particular interest in cars and I can't think of any reason she would need to drive it as I know she has her own car. She is a very attractive, outgoing person and I'm worried what it means that Jack let her drive his car. \n\nI asked him about it, and all he said is that she asked if she could drive it, so he let her. He thinks I'm overreacting and I don't really know where to go from here.", "summary": "boyfriend lets his attractive female coworker drive his car that I'm not allowed to drive"}
{"id": "t3_2w62kf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f], my boyfriend [21/m] asked for a break but we still talk", "post": "my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and 10 days ago we said he needed a break because recently we were arguing more and moved in with some friends for a bit. \n\n5 days ago he said we should talk, so he came over and we talked. he says he's very hurt and doesn't know how he feels about me and that he needs time and space and to not be pressured into doing something. I gave him space, we decided it's okay to hang out together once a week, to hang out with mutual friends, to text each other. he also said he was surprised of how well I was handling the break, he was expecting I would be more upset and sad. \nI haven't seen him since, we exchanged a few texts afterwards and this morning he messaged saying he was going to ask me to hang out today but that he was sick and it was contagious. i didn't expect him to want to see me so soon.\n\nwe're going to be hanging out in a few days. what should i expect? could it be a sign that he's approaching the end of the break? could it mean he misses me or still loves me?", "summary": "boyfriend said he needed some space, is unsure whether he loves me, but wants to hang out. what does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2qizkh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my paycheck at work.", "post": "I work at a restaurant and I get paid in cash on a fortnightly basis.  I was working on Christmas Eve and we closed early in the afternoon (3PM) and I received my pay but I forgot to put it in my bag because I needed to get changed so I left it on the kitchen counter. The restaurant was closed for Christmas and Boxing Day and turns out we had cleaners in the store on the night of Christmas Eve and someone stole my pay. I told my supervisor when I was working today and we went over the security footage but we couldn't find any evidence because the benchtop I left it on isn't visible from the camera.", "summary": "cleaner stole my  Christmas pay :("}
{"id": "t3_15cuka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] is about to have my world crash down around me", "post": "ok so im a 26 year old male, with a 24 year old girl friend. or so I think she still is. I don't even know where to start. got told today that she pretty much loves me but doesn't want to be with me anymore. 3 year relationship is being thrown away. big communication breakdown between both of us and with this talk we just had I am finally seeing that a change needs to be made on my part with the way im living and she is giving up. we have lived together for the last 2 1/2 years. I don't really have anywhere to go and at the risk of sounding like a pussy I have been on and off crying all day. this woman is my dream girl. 5'1\" 110 lbs loves sports, and the outdoors. I don't even have to take the fish off the hook for her when we go fishing. I wanted to propose to her and now I feel like my world is crashing down around me with nothing to grab on to. I have good friends around me for support and a great family but this one really hurts. been through breakups before but for some reason this one is different. idk now im rambling. guess I just wanted to get this off my chest. Just looking for some advice and guidance", "summary": "I pretty much am looking for advice and the light at the end of the tunnel"}
{"id": "t3_47wmw9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23F] with my fiance [24M] of 8+ years. Don't know how to break up.", "post": "I've been with my fiance since high school. We went to college together and started living together a few months after graduation. So we've been living together for a little less than 3 years.\n\nI could detail the issues of our relationship, but really I want some logistical advice. We've had a few conversations in which I've told him I don't want to get married and I'm not attracted to him anymore. Each conversation turns to him yelling, both of us crying, and then him begging me to keep trying. As you can tell, I've given in each time.\n\nWe've tried a lot of things in terms of sex, going on dates, doing nice things for each other, etc. We've also been going to couples therapy for about 3 months now. I don't really see things getting better, and I think I might be happier if I can be on my own. But I don't know how to break up since we live together.\n\nWe share a bank account and a phone plan. Most of our items are joint-owned. Our laundry is all mixed together. Also, I have a few friends that I can lean on for support, and he has just one friend in our city. He's very depressed, so I worry about how he will cope if I leave. Should I tell his family or another friend?\n\nAlso, I just don't know how to react in the day-to-day stuff before I initiate the breakup. He keeps asking me if things are getting better and if I feel better about our relationship (usually asking at night as we're trying to fall asleep). If I say no, we fight for hours until I give in and say we'll keep trying. This is usually on a week night when we both have to wake up at 5am for work the next day. If I say yes, it's a lie and I'm giving him false hope. Either way, I'm an asshole.\n\nCan anyone give me any logistical advice about what steps I should take, how to avoid the trap of \"ok I'll keep trying,\" how to disentangle our lives, how to make it even a tiny bit easier for him?", "summary": "Want to break up with my live-in fiance but have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1jmula", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Rush me and You'll Just Wait Longer", "post": "As a bit of backstory, I work as a security guard and it's my duty to watch a main gate where transport trucks flow in and out of- there are large, medium and small trucks- large and small trucks don't need to be searched because of their design, but medium trucks can be opened up with little effort, so we're required to search them upon entry.\n\n**The Transgression:**\n\nIt's a long and busy night- my feet, head and eyes hurt, I'm sunburnt and I'm going half-deaf from all the honking these drivers do to joke around with one another. No big thing- a medium truck comes through and he knows the drill, but a small truck behind him is just not having it.\n\nSmall driver starts honking his horn and re-opening the gate over and over despite having no room to pass and the policy requiring us to process inbound trucks one-at-a-time. The entire process for medium trucks takes maybe 2 minutes, and small driver is just screaming his head off at me for having the audacity to follow procedure. Little does he know that I'm security- my team decides who can enter and who can't.\n\n**The Revenge:**\n\nWhen it's his turn to coast in, I stop him and radio for help. In comes a second security officer who relieves me of my duties while I instruct small driver to pull forward and I proceed to tell him that because of randomized searches, he'll need to pull his ENTIRE LOAD off of his truck so the vehicle can be searched.\n\nImmediately the man is furious and demands to speak to my supervisor, threatens to phone his supervisor, etc. So in comes my supervisor who essentially tells the man \"do what he asks you to, or you won't be allowed access to the facilities.\"\n\nI laughed and smirked as the old bastard cursed, screamed and made rude gestures at me, all while the clock ticked away and he ended up spending no less than twenty minutes just miserable from following our orders.", "summary": "Truck driver wants to bypass security protocol like an ass, gets a full truck search."}
{"id": "t3_lzpxj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi reddit, new user! Please, I need some inspiration. What kind of observational/field studies pertain to internet censorship?", "post": "Hi reddit. Newcomer, here! I've been lurking for ages. Too long, in fact. So this was an excuse to change that because Reddit is the best place for this. My name was originally just to be quick, but now I'm going to continue with it!\n\nHere's the fuckin' deal. I am a college freshman currently taking English 102. My research topic is Internet Censorship. I'm supposed to do an observational study. I am allowed to use the internet itself, for example, a forum or, hell, even Reddit. Somebody viewed Occupy Wall Street for a paper about a person's voice in the world. Another person attended a lecture about Transcendentalism for her chosen topic of Thoreau. \n\nMy problem, what the fuck can I do? I am at a complete loss for this. \nThe stance I will be taking is AGAINST censorship of the internet. I've thought about pushing the envelope on a forum to see how much I can get away with before I begin getting censored\nAlso, if internet censorship has affected you, whether financially, emotionally, or in ANY form, I would enjoy an email interview with you. \nI need interviews as well...\n\nSORRY for the wall of text. Be like Good Guy Greg and help me out, please! I will be in your debt forever. \n\nThank you!", "summary": "Internet Censorship. What can I observe that is involved with Internet Censorship. Also, if internet censorship of any kind has affected you, would you be willing to do an email interview with me?"}
{"id": "t3_2fxaea", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How is index fund investment Compounded interest?", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am a 23 year old Canadian investor who recently started investing in Index-Fund.\nIn case you were wondering, I'm investing in an all-in-one equity fund provided by my bank which includes 50% Cdn Stock, 25% US Stock, and 25% Cdn gov't bonds, and aim to max out my TFSA contribution limit each year. I also plan to invest for the long term.\nI have researched a lot about Indexing and I like the benefits to it. However, I cannot understand how this method of investing is compound interest.\nI don't understand the compound part; If I have already bought 50 units of the indexed fund for x amount of dollar, and by the time I sell it in 15 years it is x+10 dollars, I make $10 * 5 from the initial investment I made 15 years ago (I understand I will be making/losing the difference of buying/selling price for all of the purchased amounts in between that 15 year window). However, this is definitely not compounded interest earned in my head.", "summary": "can someone explain how index fund investment over long-term is earning compound interest?"}
{"id": "t3_x04al", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Odd hypothetical: Would you rather live in a world where all men had wings, or where all women had wings? Which world do you think would be better off?", "post": "This would be a world designed from the get go to have been built around the fact that one gender has wings and they all deal with it. When I say \"all\" there are always exceptions. In either world there would of course be small cases of people not having wings or sprouting wings they shouldn't have. And that would just be another issue they dealt with in diversity training. And of course movies would come out about it...you know, the dude with no wings that still was the best football player on the team (imagine??), and his girlfriend, the head cheerleader's dad is like \"YOU CAN'T SEE HIM ANYMORE.... HE AIN'T GOT NO WINGS.\" \"BUT I LOVE HIM DADDY...HE LIFTED MY SPIRIT BY GIVING WINGS TO MY HEART!!!\"\n\nAlso, what type of wings would be better? Angelic, feathery ones? Or kinda fleshy, batlike but more concealable and less gross? Also, would they be censored in certain areas of the world? What things in our current lives would be different if one whole gender had wings? I just started working in insurance so I feel like we'd see a whole industry of medical-collision insurance conglomerates. Also, I'd prefer that women had wings cause the rape problem would be pretty much finally solved. Then again, same for the other world...if men had wings I'm sure women would be legally *encouraged* to own a gun. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Wings, Basil, Wings.\" Don't say wings too much it sounds really weird after awhile."}
{"id": "t3_1zmmud", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Not Hungry", "post": "I started dieting around New Years, cliche I know, and exercising in February. So far I'm down about 13 lbs, most came off last month. \n\nI've been cycling lower calorie days and higher calorie days, generally 1000-2200 with one \"fast\"/week under 500. Also avoiding bad carbohydrates. \n\nLast Thursday was my fast day and the day before I ate about 2200 calories. I woke up wasn't hungry, felt full all day, had a protein shake at 5pm and some cooked spinach. Went jog-walking for an hour and a 1/2, got home thinking i would be famished, but felt fine. Forced myself to eat more protein and some veggies. \n\nI woke up on the next day, again expecting to feel starved, but feeling fine. I didn't eat again. I went to work, lunch time came and I felt full so I ate nothing. I made myself have some chicken and veggies about an hour before the end of the day, because I was going to the gym. I worked really Hard for 1.5 hours again and again felt full after. Forced myself to eat again. \n\nI did the exact same thing Saturday-Tuesday, taking a day off of working out, and feel fine this morning, full even. I am wondering how long I should continue this? Has anyone else ever gone through this? \n\nMy sedentary BMR is around 2000 calories and I'm using about 900 working out so I'm operating at a 2400 deficit. Is this dangerous? I think it's ok to fast a few days,  but should I quit working out / do I need to force myself to eat more. I'm M:25:248lbs. Advice please!", "summary": "version: I cycle calories and after a fasting day I didn't get hungry so I kept fasting while working out; safe or unsafe? Any advice or experiences? Why am I not hungry?"}
{"id": "t3_2ryjac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18 M] helped a girl go up a hill, now my gf [18 F] is really angry", "post": "So there was a party last night and me [18M] and my friends were a bit drunk and decided to climb up a hill next to the place the party was held at. The hill was really snowy and quite steep. There was maybe 5 of us, including a girl who at one point stated that her legs are quite tired and she has trouble going on. So I felt like a real gentleman as I told her I could piggyback her up for the last 30 or so meters. So I did. \nIn my opinion, it's not a big deal at all, but having told this story to my girlfriend [18F], thinking it was no big deal (we've been together for over a year now and she wasn't at the party), she became really angry and at one point even told me she was going to leave me unless I stop justifying what I had done.\n\n/r/relationships, what do you think about this situation? Do you think it is justified for my girlfriend to be that angry at me for a piggyback ride? I really love her and I couldn't imagine that she'd ever get so mad for a little thing like that.", "summary": "I helped a girl go up a hill by offering her a piggyback ride, now my gf is really angry."}
{"id": "t3_19g081", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I [f/26] don't know what to do about a confusing ex [m/26] [X-Post relationship_advice]", "post": "I am looking for advice regarding my exboyfriend. We dated for 5 and a half years before he drunkenly broke up with me one night after we had been looking at apartments to move into. We taught in Korea for a year and traveled SE Asia for a year and a half of our relationship. There was no warning for the breakup. I suspect that he got scared about long term commitment and moving out, but he stated that it was because he did not see a future with me. \n\nAfter about 2 months of being broken up, we decided to become friends... which quickly turned into friends with benefits. This has been happening for the past six months. Last month he told me that he didn't know if he wanted to try to be with me or if he should wait to see if he would find someone else... that being with me would be \"easy\" because he knows me so well. He refuses to say what we are and I want input about whether or not I should just give up and believe that we will never be together in that way again. \n\nHe is my best friend, so of course this hurts, but I don't know if I am wasting my time hoping that he will come around. Thanks", "summary": "Basically I have been seeing an ex and want to know if I should wait for him to make a decision about dating me"}
{"id": "t3_12o2xr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO [f21], likes sex, doesn't ever seem to want it [m21].", "post": "So here's some background. \nWe met in college, started dating freshman year of college. Dated throughout sophomore year of college, had a pretty significant break in which we both pursued other sexual partners, got back together midway through junior year, and now as seniors in college. Which, with the exception of the break, we have been together for 3 years. I love her with all of my heart and soul. \n\nSo basically, we used to be super sexually active, we broke up (during this 6 month time period that we were broken up we still were sexually active, EXTREMELY SEXUALLY ACTIVE), well now were back together and our relationship seems to be better than ever. Except for the fact that we've more or less stopped having sex/doing anything sexual. \n\nI mean I understand that sex isn't the most important part of a relationship but it is definitely important. It seems as if after having sex with other people, we were each others first, she has seemingly lost interest in having sex with me at all... I guess I just want to know if there is anything that I can do to revive what was once a beautifully healthy sexual relationship.", "summary": "SO doesn't seem to enjoy sex anymore, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2x6f3s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost killing my girlfriend", "post": "Now this did actually happen today.\n\n**Background:** Me and my girlfriend have been together for four years. We live together and I'm just waiting on my financial state to get better before I propose. My commute to and from work is about 45 minutes to an hour because of traffic.\n\nSo heres where it begins. Im getting gas on my way home and, since im starving, decide to get a snack. I go in the convenience store and decide to get a snack. They had the packs of hummus and pretzels, so I just grabbed that. Fast forward, I get home and we kissed. Then it started to get a little heated and we started making out. Then she said she could feel her throat closing up. I completely forgot she was deathly allergic to chick peas (main ingredient in hummus) and she must've accidentally gotten some of it from me. I frantically searched the house but couldn't find her epipen anywhere. So, we had to rush to the ER. It's okay though, she ended up living.", "summary": "Made out with girlfriend, she had major allergic reaction"}
{"id": "t3_50u0bw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I [23M] would prefer to be more of an assistant to my GF [22F] than I am right now...", "post": "Basically, I'm in the cutthroat field of real estate. And I absolutely hate it, insofaras some of the practices are concerned. My gf is a very romantic person and I love her dearly. But it pains me that having to work, essentially \"on call\", almost every single day is starting to severely encroach on the time I have for her.\n\nShe is in her last year of a graduate degree in a very lucrative field. And it's highly unlikely that I'd be able to come close financially to her income. She's said before that she doesn't even mind paying for everything.\n\nBut right now, I'm in a sort of conflicting situation. Truth be told, I'm not a very career oriented person. And my current job is entirely sales and commission based. Where, I do not like the cutthroat corporate culture, in which I'm basically trying to swallow my pride and sell shit to people that they might not even want or probably would not be best for them.\n\nIn a career or job, I want to do something that makes a good difference on society and not something where I just rake in a ton of money. I'd rather make 25K in a job like that, perhaps nonprofit or government, than a million dollars in a field or industry that is built around shady corporate or profit-maximizing practices.\n\nAdditionally, I want to be able to provide something different for my girlfriend... I want to be a shoulder to lean on for her. I want to be there for her (she's prone to panic attacks), and I want to support her emotionally. But it's very difficult to juggle that and this type of work. And when I work that often, we wind up fading into something more akin to mere aquaintances because I just wind up so absorbed in it.", "summary": "I want to be either a low stressed worker in a socially active job or to be a stay at home husband that does everything around the house- handyman, cleaner, laundry, cooking, care, etc."}
{"id": "t3_3ec2cj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help in determining route of friendship", "post": "I've known my best friend for over 10 years now and we always had a fantastic relationship with minimal differences and problems until university life separated us and we ended up only meeting in vacations one or twice a year for about 10-20 days. We still kept going strong and we talked a lot when I was out of the country for school and when we met up we always picked up from where we left. \n\nThen, my friend started getting involved with a \"douchebag\" party people scene and I didn't show opposition since she is a responsible adult with choices, then came the booze and smoking up (nothing obscene, wouldn't say she was a heavy drinking/smoker). Me and my friend, we would indulge in a couple of beers or a joint every now and then when we're chilling but I never offered/pushed her to do anything. Suddenly my friend disappears for about 2 months now and I just recently know from her that she was caught intoxicated - drunk (in a Muslim law-strict country) so she has been put under probation and then was forced to complete a rehab program. \n\nShe seems to be really enjoying the rehab program, the NA and AA meeting and the whole vibe that she actually chooses to stay at the rehab house rather than going back home. \n\nWhat was intense was when she told me we wouldn't probably hangout anymore since she only wants to interact with \"clean\" people and she fears to relapse (back to drinking beers, smoking weed) \nI don't understand how could the past 10 years simply vanish after two months in rehab, she's not even an addict in anyway, our friendship was never based on getting high/ intoxicated by any means and I don't consider myself a bad influence. I really wouldn't want to throw this relationship down the trash but I also don't want to force myself onto any of her newly made choices.\nAny advice?", "summary": "10 year old friendship about to end after friend is forced to go to rehab for being drunk in a Muslim country. Friend fears relapse if she hangs out with me again (I only smoke cigarettes when I'm in that country, otherwise I may have a couple of beers or a joint) . I'm worried about the friendship"}
{"id": "t3_w31hp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just Being Nice?", "post": "So my girlfriend and i, M(20) F(21), have been dating for about six months or so. We do love eachother, get a long great, have a lot in common, and hardly ever fight. However there is one thing that bothers me. A guy she knows from her high school constantly sends her inappropriate text messages and wanting to \"see her\". When i initially asked her about  him, she just said he was a douchebag who always was trying to get in her pants, and she doesn't like talking to him, and doesn't hang out with him. Fine. Done. Or so i thought. She every so often talks to him via text messages which doesnt really bother me, because their conversations are boring and short (due to her), however, while drunk at a party at my house,  earlier this week she texted him inviting him to the party. When he showed up unexpectedly, she swore to me she did not invite him, and a few hours later i finally got the truth out of her that she did. \n\nNow, im not worried about her cheating on me with him, just the fact that he obviously has a blatant disrespect for our relationship, and my girlfriend doesn't really seem to care, and lies to me about him. And when i asked her why she even talks to him, her only response is \" i'm just being nice, i don't like to be mean  to people\". Now i'm not going to tell her she cant talk to him, i don't want to be controlling, but i have let her know it bothers me. Also, i don't really believe her excuse either. How do i handle this? Because if she really thinks he is that much of a douchebag, then there's no reason to talk to him, lie about him or invite him to my house.", "summary": "Girlfriend invited a guy i have a problem with to my party, then lied about it."}
{"id": "t3_egle4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I find someone's address from the mid 50's?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nMy grandfather recently passed away in June, leaving my dad with access to a lot of his old papers from the Marines. My dad has been going through a lot of old family pictures and those documents, trying to place where his family lived at different times (it was quite a few being a military brat). I started dating a guy from near South Bend, Indiana which is consequently where my dad was born in 1954. When looking for the address where he lived there, it seems to be the only one missing from all the documents. He knows it was in the area surrounding Notre Dame, but hasn't had much luck finding an address.\n\nBasically, I wanted to know if anyone else out there has found any resources for locating OLD addresses that people lived at, or where might be a good place to start. I'm thinking of maybe contacting any schools he attended or seeing if I can get access to census data.", "summary": "Dad was born in South Bend, IN in 1954. We can't find any addresses that his family lived at there. Where can I look?"}
{"id": "t3_18qxor", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] and my girlfriend [18f] does not get along with my gaming habids.", "post": "The title pretty much says it all.\nI, as a gamer, like to play computer games and generally browsing the internet. Because i live in a house with my parents quite far from the nearest city, so i have grown up with games. \nBut now after 2.5 years with my girlfriend, She have started getting bothered and start bitching as soon i mention gaming. I really dont se why She get bothered by it because i live a healthy life, and as soon i get a text from Her i pause my game and writer back. And i never play when shes around. and now after a half year with alot of fights just about what i do on my freetime, we are almost over with eachother. \nI know changing someones opinion is almost wrong, but i cant stand it. I really love this one. :(", "summary": "i like to play games, girlfriend doesnt like i do it at all and we are almost over. "}
{"id": "t3_4rb09k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex-girlfriend [21F] of seven months, I may have feelings for her again?", "post": "So, backstory: I dated this girl for seven months. Nicest girl i've ever met, my parents loved her, just overall great. But I was an asshole: flirted with others at the beginning, stopped, and I broke up with her at the end because in our last month together I was talking to someone else and went on a date and generally cheated and was a bigger asshole. I found out she loved me, but I didn't love her, and I didn't want to continue this act and pretend like nothing happened, so I just cut things off, never telling her I cheated. \n\n\"You're an asshole fuck you die OP\"--I get it, but if I wanted to hear that i'd post in a different subreddit. \n\nFast forward a while after we break up, we start talking again, as friends. We talk every day. One day I invite her over for conversation, next time i invite her for the same thing, we end up having sex. We do this a couple more times (with sex, or at least passionate making out). We flirt, but i usually initiate. \n\nSometimes, I reflect on what I've done and realize I really fucked up. This girl was truly the best, and she regarded me as the same when I secretly was an asshole. But I'm afraid of commitment, and I don't think I'm ready for a serious relationship just yet. But I don't want to lose her, either.", "summary": "Broke up with a girl cause I was a selfish asshole, ended up with regret, wondering what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_1wi0nr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with her [23F] dating for 3 weeks. She says she has no expectations but I'm not getting that impression", "post": "We've been out a handful of times and this past week we had sex after our date. Afterward she - nearly immediately - asks what I want out of this: FWB, relationship, what? I say very truthfully that I'm not sure and would like to continue to see her and find out. I do mention that I'm not seeing anyone else right now and neither is she. Basically as I understood it we're on the same page.\n\nThe last few days (she travels for work) there's been some texting, sexting, and plans were made for Thursday. But as time goes by I'm starting to realize that I've developed expectations and they're for nothing serious. She is nice, her company is good, but I don't want something deeper than a FWB with her.\n\nMeanwhile she is texting me more. Asking about my day, and mentioning that she is missing me... What would be the thing to say here? Would it offend her if I presumed she's feeling more than me and told her I'd like to keep it casual?", "summary": "Dating girl for a few weeks: I don't want to get serious but getting the impression she does."}
{"id": "t3_gjsup", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with an epic facebook failure?", "post": "I broke more than a few cardinal internet and social rules. A high school acquaintance posts a status about Christianity being contradictory and how a higher power or \"God\" would disapprove of these contradictions in his opinion. After that a man asked for some examples so I brought up adam and eve's story of the fall of man. We both civilly post our positions and points.\n\nI forgot that this high school acquaintance shortens his last name on facebook. The guy I'm arguing with is his dad. I barely know this guy in the first place let alone his dad. So I posted an argument that wasn't directly involving me, that's unprovable both ways, that steps on social boundaries, on facebook. Should I just agree to disagree? Say, oh that's a good idea I'll read more on the subject, thanks for debate? Delete my facebook, again? I don't think there's hope to save face. Admittedly, I don't have much of a good reputation anyways, I simply replied to something that interested me and realized all too soon what I had done.", "summary": "I debated religion with a high school acquaintance's dad on facebook based off of a rhetorical question and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_36ewv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] found \"creep shots\" on my SO's [31M] computer.", "post": "I think this belongs here but I'm not sure. Not really sure where else to ask for advice or how to proceed. I'm not even sure if \"creep shot\" is the correct term. Either way, there are photos on my SO's computer of him taking covert pics of girls in public. Legs, boobs, girls wearing really short skirts, etc. yes, one that I saw may classify as an up skirt but only because the girl had on a really short skirt and it was from a slightly downward angle. \n\nEither way, I don't know what to do. We're married, I love him. Do I trust him? Not really, but we were working on that. And I wasn't snooping for no reason. I was getting on his computer to borrow it and I asked him first. Went into a folder with a pic of our kid and those pictures were scattered throughout the folder.\n\nI don't really have anyone I can confide in because I don't want my friends to think bad of him. He's actually a really good dude.", "summary": "Husband taking creep shots. Wtf do I do. I literally have no one else to talk to about this."}
{"id": "t3_egqpm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ugh, Christmas present dilemma. Please help!!!", "post": "So I'm in a pretty difficult situation Reddit. One of my best friends happens to be a girl. (I'm a guy). I adore her more than anything and may have feelings for her past just being friends. I found out that she's already picked out a Christmas present for me and is fairly excited about giving it to me. I was pretty touched at this but also very uncomfortable. You see, she already has a boyfriend who I'm pretty sure she loves. Should I return the favor and get her a present? I really don't want to come off as trying to hit on her at all seeing as how she's in a relationship. But then again, I don't want to come off as rude or uncaring because I didn't give her a present myself. Fuck, or am I just retardedly paranoid?? Help.", "summary": "I'm a guy who's really good friends with a girl who's already in a relationship. She decided to get me a present and I'm unsure as to whether I should get her a present or don't in the fear that I come off as trying to interfere with their relationship."}
{"id": "t3_lnsvo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I write my college essay in Java...", "post": "I am currently a Freshman in HighSchool in Pennsylvania, and I am applying to the relatively prestigious University of Pennsylvania (NOT Pennsylvania University, which is Penn State) and I really want to major in Computer Science (like a large portion of Reddit).\n\nAnyways, my grades are not horrible, they are actually rather good, but I still don't think they are up to UPenn's stuff.\n\nSo the Essay...\nI am asked to write about \"what do you hope to learn from and contribute to the Penn community?\" which I kinda interpret as \"What are you gonna learn and how is gonna help people!\"\n\nAnyways, I don't think they are gonna let me in unless I am awesome in this essay, which I could honestly do a fine job at, but I'm concerned it won't be enough.\n\nI saw a counselor talk about some essay strategies and she pretty much said \"Hey, no one's gonna kill you if you take a chance, if you are risking it just applying, at least leave an impression on the reader, make yourself stand out! I had people write poems and songs and ....\"\n\nSo having a rough understanding of Java from AP CompSci (pretty much the \"How-Do-I-Java course) I am thinking that it might be the risk im looking for to make a really easy to read code, write about myself using a boatload of strings and basic if stuff to make it funny, and submit that...\n\nPretty much Im wondering if you guys think the average college admissions reader will give a crap, or at least enough crap...", "summary": "Some Highschooler is procrastinating his admissions essay, give him really bad advice."}
{"id": "t3_13if34", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Union will be getting retroactive raise just after I quit, am I entitled to the raise too since it impacts the time I worked there?", "post": "Sorry if this is long winded.\n\nI worked at a utility company in Florida and am apart of a small union.  A union contract got delayed while I was working there and about 3 months before I put in my notice, an agreement had been announced which would give everyone retroactive raises back to the start date of the contract.  They announced a date for payout finally and when I put in my notice I made sure it was 1.5 pay periods after said date in case of a delay.  Go figure, it gets delayed by \"up to 6 months\" and I'm not withdrawing my notice.\n\nI briefly probed my union reps and HR department and initial responses are No, but feel like that's bullshit.  \n\nWith that in mind, do I have a good argument for getting the back pay even though I wont be working there when it pays out, but was when it was announced?\n\nAny information/advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Union contract approved 2 years late, retro pay announced, I put in notice, retro payout delayed, told I wouldnt get my retro pay if I wasnt working at the company at payout time."}
{"id": "t3_2zyp8q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not procrastinating", "post": "Alright, rewind to 3 and a half weeks ago. It's trash day. The spring thaw has yet to come at this point, and the previous evening we had some freezing rain and then later a blanket of snow to cover everything up. Normally I am one of those people who usually waits a little bit longer than they should to do household chores. Today I decide I'm going to have the trash out to the curb well before the garbage man rolls up instead of 5 minutes beforehand like I usually do. As I'm rolling along to the curb I hit a nice smooth patch of ice right on the street and fall straight on my ass.  I lay there for several moments takeing in the scene around me. On my shirt and pants are now what I can only assume is soiled cat litter. Used newspapers are now blowing into the neighbor's yard, and I can just barely begin to smell the rotting food from the day before when I cleaned out the refrigerator. I slowly get up and limp back into the house, with any thought of cleaning up the mess I have just made as far off as the glass bottles that are now rolling down the hill. I quickly realized this is not going to be just a simple bruise but that I in fact broke my wrist and arm. Now here is the kicker. As my brother pulled up to my house to drive me to the ER,  who else but the salt truck decides to roll up my street and plow at that very moment. If I had just waited 30 minutes like I usually do to take out the garbage I never would have  fell and broke my arm. Now I'm stuck in a cast for at least 3 more weeks.", "summary": "fell on the ice and broke my arm. wouldn't have if I had waited and procrastinated like I usually do with the garbage."}
{"id": "t3_30hi9o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to break into a car", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today, but it came up in conversation and I thought I'd share. \n\nI had just bought my first car, a lovely black Subaru Forester, and I was driving around an apartment complex looking for my friend's house. I was extremely lost and had gotten out to walk around/look for their place in this complex, and I called my friend as I made my way back to my car for directions. \n\nIt was an old car and I could only use my key to unlock it, to make it worse sometimes the lock was a bit of a stickler. So I'm at my car, trying to force my key into this lock while I'm on the phone, and the door won't budge. Im getting frustrated, and start hearing some guy yelling from an apartment balcony. It was a drunk college kid town so I didn't really pay attention until he says \"IM CALLING THE FUCKING COPS\" \n\nAt this point I look up, and this guy is giving me the death glare. I look in front of me, low and behold, it's not my car... It just looks a lot like it, oops! Guy must have thought I was inebriated or something as I tried to loudly mumble \"my bad...\" and stumble to my car, two cars away. I've never driven out of a parking lot so fast.", "summary": "Mistook a strangers car for mine, they watched on as I failed to unlock it and thought I was breaking in."}
{"id": "t3_1tn00x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(f25) boyfriend(24) of over a year, we say \"I love you\" but should I let him know how I really feel?", "post": "I'm head over heels for my boyfriend.  We've been together for almost two years but I feel like I've known him my whole life.  I wish I would have known him long ago...  I'm in constant *awe* of how much I love, care for and adore this man.  I am stupidly in love with him; I'm confident when saying *I have never felt this way before.*  After being with him, I'm sure I've never really been in love before.\nSometimes I look at him and think \"how the... wha... how... who am I to have this phenominal person here with me?\"  \nThe short time I've spent with him is enough to last me a lifetime of happiness.  BUT, I'm afraid to tell him.  1-2 yrs isn't really that long to be with a person, and although I tell him I love him, I care for him... those feelings are merely service.  I don't want to scare him off.  I don't want him to think I'm a psycho.  Then again, I don't want him to think I'm a heartless bitch either.  I know I'm young but I am a bit slow to pace when it comes to the whole \"I love you forever\" thing.\nTonight, he and I are having our Christmas; I'm making dinner, I've baked cookies and wrapped presents... I also wrote him a letter of how wonderful he makes me feel - is it too soon to tell him?  Should I wait a few months longer?", "summary": "My bo of almost 2yrs and I exchange *I love yous* but I've not really told him how I feel.  Is it too soon?"}
{"id": "t3_2t1lng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] My aunt [64F] is foreclosing on my Dad's [52M] home. I'm [25F] not sure how to handle this.", "post": "Hi again, I know months later is not the norm for an update, but I thought I would anyway. Plus, it did take awhile for things to sort out.\n\n[Original post] (\n\nEverything with the house worked out. To make a looooOOoOong story short, my Dad was given a period to sell the house. All of the previous threats were just a scare tactic, I suppose. Now my Dad is working on the house before putting it on the market. I honestly think this is the best route, and he's very lucky that it didn't turn into a horrible legal battle. I'm happy my Dad will finally be able to sever ties with his ex-ILs and move somewhere with more opportunity.\n\nI did become my mom's legal representative. I didn't do this as a favor to my aunt, but because nobody else could for my mom. I still harbor some bitterness about it, but this isn't the right post to discuss it. As for the loan, I'm paying it back totally at the beginning of March to the estate. \n\nMy aunts still contact me with family gossip, but I've been ignoring all communications. I've noticed a dangerous pattern of \"denialism\" - shitty things happen, but they never resolve them. They move on and act like everything is fine. I've been debating how to handle this for awhile. I drafted an email stating I didn't want to be contacted, but it remains unsent. The truth is I have no patience for their bad communication skills/\"Southern honor\" anymore. I hope one day we can all forgive each other, but I'm not optimistic.\n\nThanks for the advice Reddit, you're all saints.", "summary": "My Dad was given time to sell the house, my aunts are fucking weird."}
{"id": "t3_sq2g8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "This morning I woke up to do a diaper changing and found a baby sock in the diaper! What  baby blooper(s) have you or your partner done?", "post": "Let me clarify the events that processed this. 4am, baby starts fussing \" honey, can you go change him? I'm just to tired to get up.\" My loving husband gets up and changes my son's diaper and then hands him to me to feed. Baby falls back to sleep, then my husband and I fall back to sleep. This morning at 8am baby wakes up again to be changed and feed. I up do his onesie and see something dark coming out of the side of the diaper. My first thought was \"o my god you pooped, and its coming down your leg!\" So I quickly open up the diaper to start cleaning this up and see my son's little brown monkey sock. Sure enough when I looked to the left bare foot, it confirmed it all. So what baby bloopers are you guys guilty of?", "summary": "Husband does middle of the night changing. woke up with little monkey sock in the diaper. Thought it was poop."}
{"id": "t3_2udia9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing my virginity to a random guy on reddit! NSFW", "post": "**person on reddit who I did the do with, if you see this.. it was still pretty great and you're lovely and this is my way of dealing with my own. Life. Stuff. Yes.**\n\nSo, this happened a few hours ago... I'm still wondering if it's a fuck up or not. \n\nAnyways, I've always been pretty... quiet. I study, I get my shit done and don't talk to many people. However, I'm pretty bad with emotional connections. I'm empathetic, sympathetic, all that. I cry like a bitch when I watch the Lion King, emotional movie. I decided a few days ago to be more outgoing, I posted some thing on r4r (not the normal one, haha) and asked a guy to help me out, I wanted to... experience more? Sooner or later (I've been thinking of it for a while) I realized he was someone I wanted to have sex with for the first time. I wasn't emotionally connected to him so there was no huge emotional risk, he was older than me (much) which I *really liked* and he was into bdsm (again, really liked). \n\nSo, we plan to meet. Not necessarily have sex (though we were going over to his empty apartment, so..), but just to meet. We drove back to his apartment where I proceeded to be very awkward and stand in various places of his bedroom being awkward and not wanting to sit anywhere because everything I was doing was just so.. awkward? Finally we cuddled, things progressed. We spent the day cuddling and cumming, it was pretty great. \n\nThen I went home. \n\nNow, this was my ideal... way of losing my virginity. And it went great, but I feel pretty *empty* now. I was raped when I was younger, maybe this wasn't such a good idea?", "summary": "Wow me, maybe it's *not* a good idea to try filling emotional holes with penises. Silly girl, emotional holes aren't the same thing as vaginas!\""}
{"id": "t3_4j8pug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35F] with my step-daughter [15 F] and husband [37 M] (married 9 years, together 13). I'm not allowed to make any parenting decisions.", "post": "I started dating my husband Matt when his daughter Anna was 2. It's been 13 years, we'be been married for 9, living together for 11 years. I knew from the beginning that he had a daughter and we took it slow with getting to know each other. He always told me he wasn't looking for a new mom and that he wanted to take it slowly for the sake of his child. I was fine with this and I understood. He told me that I would take the role his daughter wanted and that he didn't want to impose a mother on her, so if she chose to call me mom or auntie or whatever else, she got to choose. I had some reservations about it being feasible in the event of a long-term relationship and we discussed it, but I didn't want to push the issue and scare him away by seeming like I sought to be a \"replacement mommy\". \n\nYears down the road, this has been more and more difficult. I have to admit I am very hurt that I still am not considered a parent. I've imagined that Anna would call me her mom and respect my authority. I admit it's my fault because I knew what the deal was when I entered it. Anna has always known I am not her biological mother and she doesn't respect my authority as that of a parent. My husband is the only one allowed to make decisions about her in any way, shape or form. \n\n \nI've always wanted to have kids one day and Matt assured me he wanted to have more kids as well, but it never happened. I feel like I'm a live-in nanny. In the beginning I took it better because our relationship was only developing and I didn't want to overstep. Now I'm really beginning to resent it. I've tried talking to Matt about it but he only says that it's Anna's choice whether I am her parent or not. I raised this kid but I'm not even allowed to adopt her until she says the word, if ever. \n\nAm I being unreasonable? How can I reframe this to understand his position or for him to understand mine?", "summary": "I've had a step-child for years but I'm not allowed to contribute to parenting decisions or be called anything than what she calls me, which is my name. How can I talk about this with my husband in a new way?"}
{"id": "t3_10qwkn", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Slightly complicated, feels bad. Details inside", "post": "So, one of my really good friends, is pretty much the closest thing to my dream girl I know. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, we get along well, she's funny, nice, and incredibly brilliant. \n      But, she liked/ likes my best friend. They were half-dating for a while, more of a thing than a relationship. This happened twice, after my friend cheated on her in sorts. My best friend, let's call him kyle, liked this girl just as I did, and we came to an agreement that whoever this girl liked, the thee guy would step back and let it happen. \n        She liked kyle, so I let them alone. Various problems arose between them, and I, a mutual close friend, helped sort things out between them. This was tearing me apart, helping my best friend stay with the girl of my dreams. He just liked her because of her looks. \n        Now, we're not best friends for no reason. Recently, as he and this girl haven't been in any sort of relationship in a while, I talked to him and he said there'd be no hard feelings and I should go for her. The only problem is, I'm pretty sure she still likes Kyle. \n      I have no problem asking a girl out on a date, or telling someone I have feelings for them. But I want to make sure that the answer  will be a definite yes before I ask.", "summary": "classic love triangle with a considerate(albeit late) best friend. "}
{"id": "t3_2ul2hr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lighting my arm on fire.", "post": "Came home from a long days work and all I wanted was to smoke a bowl to melt the stress away (Hey, its legal! OR). My ladyfriend was cleaning our pieces and I decided to join on in for the resiny fun!\n\nOne of my bowls got stuck to the down stem and we were trying everything we could to unstick them. Water, pressure, heat, nothing was working. So i decide to grab the 99% rubbing alcohol to try to see if i can get this bastard free. I begin to pour drops all over and in to the bowl and the down stem. Unknowingly to myself, the excess was dripping down my hand onto my arm.\n\nThis is where the fuck up begins...\n\nI decide to go back to using the heat method. So I grab the lighter (you can see where this is going) and try to heat it up.\n\nWHOOF! Like a flash all the still un-evaporated alcohol lights up and my whole arm is a fireball. I throw the down stem into the sink and run out of the kitchen flailing my arms like a little girl. I get the fire put out and all that is left is the smell of burnt hair, and shame. My girl will never let me live this one down!", "summary": "Lit my rubbing alcohol soaked hand and arm on fire trying to unstick a glass bowl and down stem."}
{"id": "t3_3abib5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20f) know this sounds silly, but how do you be happy and single?", "post": "I just ended a serious 3 year relationship with my boyfriend (23m). He was with me from the beginning of my college career until now. I see him as a part of my identity. My life and schedule revolved around him and my dog. Because of that, I alienated myself from all social groups. \nI don't know how to make friends or spend my days when I'm alone. I regret making the poor decision to lead such an unbalanced lifestyle, but I want to change right away. Do you have any suggestions about living, socializing, or dating? Honestly, any advice that will help me be happy and single us greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I need a \"how to be single\" pep talk"}
{"id": "t3_10hqnv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most ridiculous thing your teacher/professor has ever been mad at you for?", "post": "In 3rd grade Art class, we were all making some random shit out of clay. My coffee cup came out absolutely horrendous with a huge hole in the bottom, so it was pretty fucked. The girl's next to me made an insanely awesome plate with all these cool designs and colors. So, when I saw her art I immediately gasped and said \"Oh my God, that's amazing!\". My Art teacher heard from a few feet away and turned around and yelled out of, what seemed like, horror. She quickly came to me and asked what I said. I was confused, and told her I said the girl's plate was cool. And she said, \"No, the thing you said before it! Using the Lord's name in vain! How dare you?! Apologize right now, jgabz\". As a smart-ass kid I looked in the sky and said \"oh my god, i'm sorry god\" \n\nAnyways, she sent me to the office, the principle pretty much brushed it off after calling my parents and getting to the bottom of it, and my Art teacher was still a bitch.\n\nWhat are some absolutely ridiculous things a teacher has told you before?", "summary": "Said \"oh my God\" as a little kid in school, got screamed at and demanded to apologize"}
{"id": "t3_1vxx9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23m] been in this new relationship with this girl [21f] for 3 mo ths now. She says we have to wait untill marriage for intimacy.", "post": "To start off, I'd like to say im semi ok with this. But I have some worries. lets call her C. Over the course of three months I've come to the logical (or illogical,  however you want to look at it) conclusion that I am head over heels in love.\n\nI personally dont belive in marriage. I have my own personal beliefs that stray from normal Christianity. For me, I dont think god would give a shit for a signed piece of paper and some shiny metals. All he would care about is if shes my wife in my heart (shes not yet). \n\nRegardless of that.\nBut she insists that we would have to be married first. My first worry is, however much I love this women, what if we were not physically compatible? Say we get married and find this out. I can't go the rest of my life without sex. Nor want either of us to be pushed into someone else's arms for it. Has anyone on reddit had this problem? \n\nSecondly,  im her first boyfriend. And I have this little voice in the back of my head constantly telling me \"you never stay with your first\". She has feelings for me. But what if she decided to move on... just because? Anyone here ever stayed with your first bf or gf?", "summary": "I'm her first boyfriend, can I expect her to stay with me? What would happen if I waited for marriage and we find out we were not really physically compatible?"}
{"id": "t3_3kvn2a", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Orphaned at 23, is leaving a loving boyfriend acceptable to go travel for an undetermined amount of time and develop some self-love or am I just running away?", "post": "I'm going to try to sum this up with as little detail as I can. My mom died when I was fourteen then I moved in with guardians until seventeen. At that point, I've moved homes at least every six months while being one of the caregivers for my father who was dying of Alzheimer's. Starting in August of 2013, my friend and I went to California to travel around for what ended up being five months and see some new shit and it was great. Then we came back to our home state, Oklahoma, but ended up doing it again in August of 2014. One month after leaving, the car we were living in got totaled, then a month after that my dad died. Right before leaving I had met a fantastic guy in Oklahoma that I'd stayed in contact with daily while I was gone. I came back and stayed with him for a while. I ended up getting my own place and lived there for four months then we moved in together. We've been in this place for three months when it hit me like a ton of fucking bricks; I had to leave again. I have fought it for a while but it's completely overwhelming me. We had the break up talk tonight and he's understanding but very sad. Hands down the best guy I've ever been with but I'm just not happy. I need even more soul searching, especially being orphaned at twenty-three, and don't think it's appropriate for him to tag along or wait for me to figure it out. I'm scared I'll regret it and am pretty sure this is a full blown quarter life crisis where travel seems like the only semi healing answer. I mean, what the hell? Given the details you've got, is leaving the most loving guy I've come across the stupidest thing I can do to go figure out how to love myself by myself? I'm worried that this is just a terrible pattern that I'm accustomed to that results in me cutting someone off before I'm left one way or another.", "summary": "Orphaned at 23, is leaving a loving boyfriend acceptable to go travel for an undetermined amount of time and develop some self-love?"}
{"id": "t3_2co4q7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing my man card because i got high", "post": "Sunday night I get a call from my friend and his girl inviting me to go get high at their friends house. I agree, got the address and showed up to their friends place. I get there and there's my friend with his girl and their really attractive friend. We get introduced and get along really well right away. We have some tequila and spark up. The night was going along great and you could tell where things were going so we grabbed covers and put on a movie. The sofa wasn't big enough for both of us to lay down together so she got into fetal like position and I placed my feet on her butt. Now what I would have done had I not been high would have differed greatly but shit happens. As soon as we get comfortable something about the position made me feel really anxious and vulnerable, so I retreat into my thoughts and start over analyzing everything. After a bit she starts moving her butt and manages to get one of my feet right on her poon and continues to fool around. Now instead of getting the message, I get even more anxious and just freeze up. When she notices that am not responding she gets up, walks to her room and gives me the come get me look. I just stay in the sofa curled up telling myself to go but I just couldn't move. Spent the rest of the night staring at the ceiling trying to figure out wtf just happened to me.", "summary": "got high, got anxious, didnt get laid."}
{"id": "t3_2qo34f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my BF [23 M] 2 years, I feel like I have lost attraction.", "post": "Sorry for the long story, but I felt some detail might be appropriate:\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 2 years now. I have also been been dealing with depression/anxiety since I was a teenager. Last year I lost someone very close to me and I went into a depression for the better part of last winter. While I worked through my grief, he was always there for me. He was my knight, my nurse, my shoulder to cry on. He was unwavering in his support. I feel like he is one of the reasons I made it through last winter.\n\nAfter I started to heal, I noticed things changing. By this summer, he became mean. He was controlling and belligerent. He told me he wasn't attracted to me anymore (I gained 10-15lbs over the last year, or possibly the depression, or both). I felt worthless, and I hated that I was letting him make me feel that way.\n\nI told him I was done and he begged me to stay. He promised me he would change. So far he has. I love him more than I probably should, and I can't picture my life without him. I just cannot bring myself to be intimate with him. There is no spark when he kisses me. I feel nothing.\n\nIs this something I can get back? Are we too damaged to work?", "summary": "Lost attraction to BF of 2 years after rough patch. Is this something you can get back?"}
{"id": "t3_j3ito", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "People of Reddit: How can I show affection and not be seen as a cold person?", "post": "So I grew up with a distant father and a cold mother. They never loved each other and I grew up without ever seeing any type of affection/love between them. In high school/college, this upbringing caused me to have trouble telling girls how I felt and expressing my emotions and I basically became one of those assholes who only looked for sex. Now I'm older, just recently graduated from college, trying to start my career and I'd like something more serious. I've been spending a lot of time with college friends. One in particular is a girl I like. I think she is into me and I'm not simply looking for sex from her. We've been doing more relationship type activities and I'm starting to sense problems.\n\nThere keep being circumstances where we're hanging out and she'll do something like tell me about something bad that happened during the day that made her cry and I guess I'm supposed to comfort her but I'm at a lost for what that entails. If she tells me about her bad day, I've read enough to know she doesn't want me to solve her problems, just to listen but then what? Do I give her a hug? Is a hug enough? In what context do you use a forehead kiss (never made sense to me)? These questions cause me to freeze and not do anything which doesn't help. I feel like I may have already ruined my chances because of this. I want to be able to be affectionate and show this girl I care about her.", "summary": "Want to show affection."}
{"id": "t3_4gzfbc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] Girlfriend [21F] sent me a suicide goodbye message and is now treating it like nothing happened today. (More detail inside.)", "post": "My girlfriend went out with friends last-night and kept sending me some odd messages. At about midnight she sent me a message that said \"she really wasn't good\" and that \"she has no other option now\" and \"it's not fair to go without saying goodbye\".\n\nI tried to call and message her loads, then got a message saying \"she literally couldn't answer me\" and that \"she loves me\". Then one saying that she was \"trying to me the 10 to\".\n\nI then get a call from her and she's sobbing and doesn't know where she is, but that she was trying to find a train.\n\nI tell her to go to the station where I'll pick her up. I pick her up and she's sobbing and she tells me that she was looking for the 11:50 train to throw herself in front of it, and that the only reason she couldn't do it was that google maps on her phone wasn't working so she couldn't find a crossing. I messaged her Dad on Facebook because I don't have his number asking him to contact me as soon as he could.\n\nThis morning she's sobered up and I ask her how I can help and what's wrong. She agreed to go and see someone and to speak to her Dad (apparently her Mum doesn't know about her depression) but every-time I've asked her to call her dad, or tried to call a GP to book her an appointment she adamantly against it, saying I'm treating her like she needs to be fixed. She keeps joking around like nothing's happened, and getting annoyed that I'm not joking around as well.\n\nI can't handle this alone, I've taken the day off work today to try and help her but I'm way out of my depth. I don't know what to do if she won't let me help her?\n\nThanks in advance for any help.", "summary": "Girlfriend almost committed suicide. Trying to help but getting nowhere. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hob2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18/M] GF[17/F] She wants to break it off because she would rather be alone than in a relationship at all and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Me and my gf have been dating for about 6 months now, and she told me recently that she would rather be friends than be in a relationship because a relationship is too much effort. \n\nShe has her reasons for thinking it's too much because she is used to being alone all the time, and because of that is always doing something to keep herself busy, whether it's schoolwork or just having fun by herself, and having me in the equation doesn't seem to compute. Also she tends to worry about me because I have a very dysfunctional family, and struggled with a bout of depression recently. \n\nI finally told her that she doesn't need to worry about me, and should focus on herself. This however caused her to absolutely treat me as if I'm not her boyfriend, and I always have to remind her by putting my arm around her or kissing her that I'm even around.\n\n I just feel really sad about this and I'm sorry about this meaningless post, but I needed to get this out somehow.", "summary": "My girlfriend agreed to stay in a relationship after stating that she doesn't think we need to be in one, and now it feels like we are just friends even though we still are dating."}
{"id": "t3_3pom7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/f] boyfriend [22/m] just got fired.. How do I tread lightly?", "post": "I met my boyfriend at work about 5 months ago. He had been there a couple months longer than me,  but he just recently got fired. I know he has rent and bills coming up and probably won't be able to pay them until he gets a new job. I have no doubt that he will be able to find a new job,  but it's just kinda awkward right now because I still work there. What should I say/do to motivate/encourage him?  What shouldn't I say/do? \n\nBonus: Part of me really wants to give him money to cover his bills for the month, but my gut is telling me not to because I feel like it would ruin us because we haven't known each other that long. Please tell me I'm right.", "summary": "Boyfriend got fired from the job we both work at. It's awkward because I don't want to say/do anything stupid. I've also thought about giving him money to cover bills but I don't think this would be a very good idea."}
{"id": "t3_vm04s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, mind helping me decide on a new TV?", "post": "I've been researching and researching TVs, compared many TVs and finally semi-decided on this TV.\n\nThe thing is, I feel like I'm paying for things I do not necessarily need on all of these TVs now. For example, with that TV I could careless about the Smart TV aspect. It's unimportant to me.\n\nI'm looking for these features:\n32+ Inches(if it's great and super cheap but I would prefer 40+)\nAt least 2 HDMI ports. 3 would be great, but I only NEED 2. 3 would just future proof for me.\n120 Hz. Definitely preferred, no other.\nLED Preferred.\n\nMy price range is up to about 800, I'd pay.\n\nAny recommendations outside of these features are accepted I suppose, if you have plenty of good reasons why you are recommending it.", "summary": "I want a TV with pretty much the same shit as  but without wasting money on the Smart TV portion"}
{"id": "t3_fugwu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My run-ins with Christianity and Atheism", "post": "In light of a post on AskReddit that asks whether self-righteous Christians are more annoying than self-righteous atheists [here] I thought I'd give two examples from my life. \n\nIn eighth grade or so, I'm coming to the realization that the rest of my high-school career is going to suck. I'm at the bottom of the social totem pole, and I pretty much only get noticed when someone is singling me out for abuse. I've had a couple years of this now, and it's starting to get to me. Our churches' former pastor, who had been a mentor to me, has moved out, and I go to the new pastor to see if he has any words of wisdom. He informs me in so many words that God is punishing me because I'm not doing right by him, and if I change my ways, including not reading comics, not playing RPGs or listening to rock 'n' roll, God will stop punishing me. Needless to say, this hurts a lot. \n\nCut to two years ago. Atheism has become kind of big, especially on liberal websites, and I've become pretty liberal. I've also been trying to understand different religions and points of view. So I try to strike up a conversation with two people I know are atheists and whom I consider friends. About half an hour later I take off, having been insulted pretty thoroughly. At best, I'm mentally retarded. At worst I'm a psychopath and a failure. The insult that sticks out most in my mind (and has been reposted elsewhere) is that I'm basically Hitler, only Hitler was more competent. \n\nSo, yeah. I've been insulted by both ends of the spectrum, so to speak, and you know what? Being told you're worthless feels about the same regardless of the theology the person belongs to. I think both groups were self-righteous and arrogant, and neither group actually persuaded me they were right. \n\nIn the \"Peanuts\" comic strip, Snoopy writes a book on theology, titled, \"Did You Ever Think You Might be Wrong?\" It's a motto a lot of people could stand to follow.", "summary": "Been insulted by hardcore Christians and hardcore atheists. Feels about the same."}
{"id": "t3_31csk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/M] recently got the Disney internship, and my girlfriend [23\\F] is heartbroken.", "post": "The background behind our relationship is pretty straightforward. We both go to our local university, but attend different campuses and only really get to see each other once a week due to my transportation situation. We met on OkC and pretty much hit it off instantly, and have been dating for about three months around January-February. Now back in February I applied for the Disney College Internship. I didn't hear anything from them for months after my phone interview and just assumed I didn't get it, which I now realize was a dangerous assumption. \n\nA few weeks ago I received an email from Disney congratulating me on a position in Florida, and that I had been selected for the Fall Advantage program, which is six months. Now for context, we live in Arizona. Initially when I told her about my acceptance into the internship she seemed to be fine with it, relieved that I didn't leave immediately. However just last night after spending the evening together, sure started talking about some concerns she had and started talking about how I should have broken up with her the second I found out about the internship. \n\nImmediately after that the simply said I should leave, which I did. I'm crushed here. What the hell am I supposed to do you guys? I really care about this girl and hoped to enjoy our time together before I left, and I thought she had been okay with that too. She hasn't said anything to me since last night and the idea of leaving gonna like this is horrible.", "summary": "I got an internship with the Disney Corp, and my girlfriend wants to end things immediately rather than work it out."}
{"id": "t3_1bsq65", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "28m freaked that 25f got wasted with strangers", "post": "We've been together for a year. She's pretty responsible usually and I value that greatly in her. She enjoys having one drink usually when she's out, but rarely gets drunk I'd say. We had separate plans last night so we planned on getting together later. She was going to a dessert place. \n\nMuch to my surprise when I get to her place, she's wasted. She tells me that afterward they went to a bar and a group of strangers invited them into their back room for drinks. She could hardly stand or talk and her breath  reeked of alcohol. She had this cute tipsy girl demeanor about her that made me feel a little sick. She told me about how guys were asking her number and she told them she was taken. I appreciated her honesty but I'm also really shocked by the radical lapse in behavior. I feel really uneasy about this. Am I right to feel a little bit deceived and a little bit worried?", "summary": "gf got more wasted with a group of strangers than I've ever seen her and I'm worried about the out-of-character behavior."}
{"id": "t3_4i7g2e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28M) with my GF (22F) of 11 months. First time spending mother's day with her. Her mother died a few years ago, how can I help her honor her mother this weekend?", "post": "So as the title explains, my girlfriend and I have been dating for just short of a year. This is the first time I have gone through mother's day with her. Normally, this wouldn't be a big deal, but she lost her mother about 7 years ago to a battle with Lymphoma. I know she misses her mother greatly and I want to do what I can to make Sunday as easy as possible for her. I know that I will spend this weekend comforting her whenever she needs it, but can y'all think of anything I could do to help her honor her mother? Because I am sure someone will ask, I have a very good feeling she would appreciate and love something like that.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "First mother's day with my girlfriend who lost her mother 7 years ago. What can I do to help honor her mother?"}
{"id": "t3_3zlxrq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21 M] girlfriend[19 F] of about half a year broke up with me about a month ago. She gave me hints about dating me again. Should I stick with it?", "post": "I've had a rough year last year. I was getting over my big ex and now I found myself with someone else. Luckily this was a huge step in letting go of the past. I finally stopped thinking about anyone else other than my current girlfriend. However she forgot my birthday. I became upset and told her I was not ok with her just leaving me alone like that. She claimed she was tired and didn't want to do anything with me that day. I didn't speak to her for a few days I was so upset she completely ignored me. I confronted her about it. She said she doesn't want to fight and said this relationship is no longer what she wants. I was angry. \nI don't like it when someone to constantly say \"i love you\" then the next day throw you away like trash. I felt like trash. So for a while I didn't talk to her but we ended up hanging out together as friends. While we were friends we went on dates kissed and even had sex. I thought she was really into me again. Last night I asked her to be my girlfriend she said no. Then I asked her to leave. Her reason was that she loved me but not as much as she used to. Before she left she said she wanted to continue going on dates but would like more time to think about things. A mutual friend asked her if she would date me again and she said yes however she wasn't ready for a relationship yet. I'm not sure if I should continue seeing her. I feel like my heart was ripped apart when she said no to me last night. For now I want to be alone for a week without seeing her. after that week I have no idea if I should continue our relationship. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend dumps me after a confrontation. Continue being a couple without the title just to get denied a month later. Asks to have more time to think about things. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3m1f12", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a few sodas", "post": "So a little background first, this happened last week and I'm posting it now. I have a condition called GERD and it makes my stomach really gassy. I thought I was home alone, so I took a soda from my dads refrigerator, which I'm not allowed to drink because of my condition.\n\nIt was a coca cola and it was so delicious. I love the sensation of bubbles bursting in my tongue and in my throat. Because nobody was home to limit me, I decided to chug it and have another one. If you've ever had a coca cola, you would know that's it's really good and hard to stop drinking. Eventually, it got to the point where I had six cokes and I had an awful stomachache. I went to take a nap in my bed.\n\nWhen I woke up, my stomach hurt like hell and I wanted to explode. Both of my parents were home at that time and my relatives visiting from Texas came to visit, so I had to go and meet them. Despite my protests, my parents made me stay and chat with them.\n\nAt this point, letting it out would be rude, so I try my best to hold it in for my family. Unfortunately, that didn't last long and I let out a huge, ear splitting, 7 second belch! I was so shocked at the sheer sound quality and apparently my family was too. Then, my youngest cousin from Texas (4years old) started to cry).\n\nMy dad wasted no time and scolded me immediately. He took me to a room and game me this stupid lecture about being rude and how they came all the way from Texas and all I can do is burp. I tried to tell him it was an accident and it was amplified because of my GERD, but he didn't believe me. He said that nobody burps that loudly, even with GERD, and that I obviously forced it out, which I didn't.\n\nThe baby was still crying downstairs and was horrified. I apologized and went to by room to sulk. I legitimately felt bad and my dads lecture made me feel worse.", "summary": "I have GERD which is a condition that amplifies belches by like 100 times. I drank 6 cokes and had to burp in front of family. Burped so loud it scared the young kid. Scolded by dad for burping and apologized. Now I feel like shit."}
{"id": "t3_kyrts", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, what is the fastest way to get over anesthesia?", "post": "Hey Reddit! I have to get surgery on my hand Tuesday. I tore the muscle   completely off my thumb, and while I enjoy bending my thumb almost to my wrist, it needs to be fixed. I'm in college and have some classes I don't want to miss as they are graded via attendance. I also have a quiz I would rather not miss later in the day. What are some ways you have found to quickly get over the anesthesia? I am completely OK with going to class while not being all there mentally, anything is better than a zero.", "summary": "Need a quick way to get over anesthesia."}
{"id": "t3_30m2u1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] want a future with my bipolar gf [18 f], but a breakup seems inevitable and I am torn about it.", "post": "We have dating for about 4 months now, but we're fwb for about a year prior to me asking her out. I have immense feelings for this girl and can honestly see myself having a future with her. The problem is her bipolar disorder and I feel it is tearing our relationship apart. The good times are great, but obviously the bad times are bad. I know she does not mean it, but we have been getting into fights a lot recently and it's pushing my tolerance and patience to the limits. I am not usually an emotional guy, but she has brought out emotions in me I didn't think we're possible. I have she'd tears in front if this girl just because of how open and honest I've been with her. Currently she is on no medication, but is on a list to receive some in the next few months. My plan was to stick around to see how the medicine would effect her mood swings and possibly make her more stable. I am scared of the future, how is she going to act as an adult?  Are we going to fight for the rest of our lives? Is she going to cheat on my during a mania stage? She always says I'm to good for her and to just leave so I don't have to deal with her bullshit, but I talked to her about it and she agrees that it is nonsense. Just the thought of breaking up with her brings tears to my eyes and I don't know what to do. I need advice, has anyone else been in a ltr with someone with bipolar? Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend has bipolar, has caused me to turn into an emotional wreck, and scared of what will happen if I do decide to have a future with her. Should I end it before I get even more attached?"}
{"id": "t3_234qov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [14F] Girlfriend broke up with me [15M] and didn't really give an explanation", "post": "This girl I was dating for about 3 weeks broke up with me 3 days ago, she was saying that her mom wanted her to because of her grades and whatnot.\n\n so I asked her if her mom actually wanted her to break up with me, or if she was just trying to breakup in a nice way and she said \"Yeah she does. Plus I've never been good at relationships anyway.\" And I said \"So you don't want to date me anymore?\" And she said \"Yeah .-. But ughh its hard to explain\". \n\nThen right after this conversation she started texting me like we were still dating (ex. \"hey whats up?') Except there wasn't any flirting like there was before. I talked to her sister about it and she said \"Btw dude she still like you but doesn't wanna be in a relationship so you guys are still buddies\". \n\nIs it friendzone? Or is there a chance I can get her back when shes ready for a relationship? It really confused me because the day before we broke up she was talking about how much she liked me and holding hands/cuddling and all that stuff. (She said \"So when I was holding your hand I was thinking of this Pierce the Veil song that says 'I wanna hold your hand so tight, Im gonna break my wrist'\"). \n\nLmao that made me smile, but anyway yeah so I honestly dont know what happened here :|", "summary": "My gf broke up with me suddenly and I have no idea if she \"friendzoned\" me or if she just doesn't want a relationship in general."}
{"id": "t3_t3c4m", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate my girlfriends sister", "post": "My girlfriend an I have been going out for some time now, and it's really impressive because its a successful relationship and it's also my first ever relationship.\n\nWe have a lot of similarities and differences, which is good because if we agreed on everything then it would get boring.\n\nIn the beginning of our relationship, her and I spent most time at her house because her parents weren't comfortable with her going over to my place (I respected that). \nHaving spent much time at her house, I got to know her family a lot and have grown to like a lot about them. But her sister was a lot different from everyone else. Her sister is a very nosey, snoopy, annoying person. She would come into the room where my girlfriend and I were spending time and go on the computer and kind of be the elephant in the room (awkward that she was there). \n\nShe would use my ladies things without asking, expecting that she wouldn't freak out since they were sisters. And this especially angered me when I bought clothes for my girl and then her sister would wear them and, being a larger size than her, stretch them. Which made them unwearable for my girlfriend. The things I bought for my girlfriend eventually ended up in her sisters closet. My mother even gave a gift to my girlfriend (pants) and her sister stretched them which showed absolutely no respect towards my mum.\n\nI even bought her a laptop and her sister would take it at night without her permission and this would give her all the more reason as to why she shouldn't fix her OWN laptop or at least ask me. Then when I confronted my girlfriend about this, she told her sister to stop because it was unfair and her sister called me obsessive. The only reason I felt really uncomfortable is because everything she fucking touches breaks in some way. Now I draw the line at the laptop.", "summary": "My girlfriends sister takes her things without her permission and somehow breaks them."}
{"id": "t3_uyfh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Argument with my girlfriend gets too heated, she thinks I shoved her.", "post": "Me (19) and my girlfriend (20) of two years got into a very serious argument, I've never seen her that angry before and I'm really not sure why she was so angry. It was at her apartment and it started over something like I didn't pick something up. Anyway, I just decided to leave because I didn't feel like I deserved all of the verbal abuse I was taking for apparently no reason. As I was leaving she blocked the door and tried to stop me from leaving, while still yelling at me. I gently as I could, tried to move her out of the way and she tripped over a pair of boots and fell.\n\n I didn't mean to do anything like that, but now I feel like I'm abusive. I don't know how to feel, she seems alright now, but I think she thinks I meant for that to happen. I didn't leave afterward and we talked because I really didn't mean for her to fall down I just wanted to escape the situation. Please [1] /r/relationships am I in the wrong here, I feel like a horrible person and that I may have done permanent damage to my relationship.", "summary": "Got into an argument with my girlfriend, she wouldn't let me leave, I moved her out of the way and she tripped over some boots, now she thinks I shoved her."}
{"id": "t3_3wme4r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice for me (29F) working with bf (27M) Asperger's, dating 9 months", "post": "I love my boyfriend very much and we plan on getting married within the next year. We met about 9 months ago and hit it off right away. We spent hours bantering back and forth, and talk about everything. He says he never been able to talk with someone as easily as he can with me, which is why I was surprised at first to find out he has Asperger's.  We are pretty active and find lots of small activities to do together, and do silly things like play fight and wrestle. We're semi long distance, so we spend the majority of the week video chatting between our weekend visits. \n\nWe lately have been fighting about how the other emotes. I'm overly emotional a bit and cry easily. He is nonplussed by everything and lacks empathy. Not in a serial killer sort of way, but more like he can't understand how I feel because he just doesn't experience those types of feelings nor would emotionally react in situations where I do. I end up getting my feelings hurt over something he's said, and it then compounds because I want to talk it out but he doesn't even understand why my feelings would be hurt and struggles with translating his thoughts into words. What starts as a small hurt feeling can balloon out of proportion into a bigger fight where I feel like my feelings are just disregarded.  I'm trying really hard to remove any blame from this because neither of us are perfect and we've talked at length about how his Asperger's affects his social skills. \n\nI know he loves and cares about me very much. He's shown me in his actions, and done his best to tell me in words.  We just really have a large disconnect when it comes to emotional things.\n\nWhat I'm seeking from anyone with experience with Asperger's is advice on how to keep our relationship as healthy as possible. I want to be supportive of him and I know he feels frustration because he can't express himself very well. At the same time, I want to be able to tell him how I'm feeling without it being ignored or argued with because he doesn't understand why I'd feel that way.", "summary": "Boyfriend with Asperger's disregards my feelings because he can't understand them nor can really explain what's going on in his head. Looking for advice on relationship with someone with Asperger's so I can support him while we both can understand the other."}
{"id": "t3_hfpc6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Brother's Ex-girlfriend of 2 years broke up with him because she was seeing another guy when he was in a different college. What should I or He do?", "post": "Basically what happened was that my brother went off to college in a different state. His girlfriend went to college in our home state. Things were going pretty well considering they video chatted almost everyday. during winter break he came back to visit and everything was fine. He then left for college again and this is when things started going downhill. I noticed on my brother's girlfriend facebook page a lot of posts from this one guy [lets call him jake]. All of these posts look like it was part of a conversation so I assumed that she was replying by posting on his wall opposed to just replying in the comments. I tried to look at his wall but he set it to private. This got me a little worried and it did concern my brother as well. He didn't want to look jealous so he didn't make a big deal out of it. He did, however, talk to her about it and she just said that he's just a friend from class.\n\nFast forward 3 months and now my brother is back. My brother then gets his wisdom teeth pulled out and has to stay at home. While my parents are at work and I'm at school, my brother's girlfriend got dropped off from her college (her college still has school) from her friend. She tells him that she has to leave in about 30 minutes to go back to college and that she will get picked up from her friend at a near by park. My brother tells her that he will walk her to the park but she refuses profusely. He didn't want to push the issue so he complies. He later finds out that her \"friend\" that came to pick her up was indeed Jake. He then talks to her about it and she just said they're just friends once more. He tells her that he doesn't want her to talk to him that much in a flirty way.", "summary": "Skip forward 2 weeks and his girlfriend tells him \"I'm confused whether I like you or if I like Jake [a guy from her college], and I need space\" Tell me reddit, what should he or I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4k63mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/M] don't know how to deal with a girl [22/F] who has been hurt in the past.", "post": "I [24/M] have been seeing this girl [22/F] I met in college. We share a lot of interests, seem to get along well and even went out once (nothing happened though). When I told her I was interested in her, she said she liked me too but didn't want to get into a relationship because she has had several bad experiences in the past, I don't know what went on.\n\nI assured her I didn't want to push her into something she felt unconfortable with so we remained friends and kept talking. I'm not happy with this situation though, so I would like to know if there's something I could do to make her open to the possibility of a relationship\n\nThanks in advance.\n\nAlex", "summary": "How to convince a girl to give me a chance when she had bad experiences in the past?"}
{"id": "t3_3c7xb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my EX [29F], Saw her last night and now acting like she's my GF.", "post": "Long story short, I broke up with my ex 5 months ago. Had no contact for almost 5 months until a few weeks ago. We had a bad break up but we're both over that now. She had called me last night because she didn't have plans for the 4th of July and neither did I. She asked if I wanted to meet up with her. I told sure, why not, you're about to leave next saturday forever to grad-school, why not. She told me to bring a bottle of wine, some grapes and bottles of water while we sit by the Hudson River and watch 5 different fireworks from where we were sitting. One thing led to another, we end up making out and 2 hours later, we end back at her apartment having sex a few times last night and once this morning. It was great, we both had a great time and a lot of fun. Only thing is I'm now confused by her behavior. She's starting to act like my girlfriend again. She kept wanting to hold my hands, she kept hugging me, kissing me, cuddling and now she pretty much wants to hang out almost everyday until she leaves. I told her also, I was like, you're starting to act like as if you're my girlfriend again, and she just smirks and kinda looks down away with no answer. She wants to hang out tonight but I told her I'm busy. She wants to go to the beach on Tuesday or at least hiking. I don't know, she won't give me an answer on why she's acting like this, thought maybe you guys could help give me an answer or if someone went through the same thing and what they did. Don't get me wrong, I like her and sometimes I wish the relationship never ended. I told her maybe 10 years down the road we could rekindle things and whatnot. I don't know, I'm confused. Help.", "summary": "Had no contact with my Ex GF for almost 5 months until recently. Hung out last night for 4th of july, Had sex and now she's acting like my girlfriend again and pretty much wants to hang out everyday until she leaves next week for grad-school. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_izjkl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone please help me understand the logic behind this.", "post": "Homosexuality and bisexuality are no longer considered by most to be health disorders, yet as I read about sexual motivation in one of my college textbooks, a thought occurred to me, detailed below. All the following behaviors have some research that attributes some of a behavior to genetics.\n\nAnorexia and bulimia are universally considered health disorders because they are dangerous, stem from a mistaken view of themselves, and sometimes fatal. They typically have lower self-esteem and are more prone to depression. From an evolutionary perspective, these people are less likely to survive because they don't receive enough energy from not properly eating food to run away from a survival risk, such as a lion.\n\nObesity (not just being overweight) is dangerous because of an abnormally large amount of fats that drastically increases the risk for heart attacks and strokes. Again, from an evolutionary perspective, these people are less likely to survive because they are unable to run very quickly.\n\nHomosexuality and bisexuality, on the other, are acceptable social behaviors nowadays, even though they have higher rates of depression than heterosexual persons and are frequently ridiculed and assaulted for their sexual deviance. From an evolutionary perspective, homosexuality is a self-destructive behavior in the sense that none of the genetic material of the homosexual gets passed on to the next generation. In simpler words, heterosexuality is considered \"normal\" sexuality because it will always (barring infertility) pass on genetic material to the next generation.\n\nDon't make this topic about love or genetic inheritance causing the behavior, as for this discussion these are cop-out arguments.", "summary": "What makes some behaviors and characteristics, like eating disorders, abnormal and others, like homosexuality, seen as no different from normal?"}
{"id": "t3_3r9ff0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure if I [27 M] should continue with my SO [25 F] of 3 months", "post": "Initially met her from tinder. She's very attractive, fairly intelligent, and athletic. She communicates well and even has a healthy dose of common sense. She's ambitious, yet down to earth. She really has no undesirable qualities, however, for some reason I haven't become enamored with her. \n\nBecause of this, I'm having a hard time finding the energy and enthusiasm to date her properly and to perform romantic gestures. Normally, when I've been \"in like\" with someone, I'm energized by them and I will do anything for them, but with her, I haven't gone out of my way as much.\n\nHas anyone felt similarly, only to grow in love later? Any thoughts as to whether this is significant enough that I should break up with her? I'm not motivated to date someone I don't want to spend my life with long term, and if there's an appropriate time to end things it would be now, especially before the Holiday season.", "summary": "Dating someone incredible, but haven't felt strongly about them. Normally when I like someone, I'm energized by them but it hasn't been that way with her."}
{"id": "t3_4w6ut0", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My girlfriend [18] of five months says that it can be \"draining\" to be around me [19]? Should I be worried for the future?", "post": "Hey there everyone, thanks for reading and any advice you can give here, I'll try and make it brief. At this point, I'll mention we are long distance, and that we've spent an exceptional amount of time together this summer as we're both off college for now. We both spend time with our friends, but lately she's been spending less and less with me, and more with her friends. When I asked her about it, she said that it was draining for her to be around someone for too long, and that she needed some time to breathe.\n\nI'm not so much worried about that, I'm fine with giving her more breathing room, but I guess I'm just concerned that this is going to become a repeat thing, and was wondering if anyone could chime in and give me some advice.", "summary": "Should I be worried about my girlfriend progressively spending less time with me and saying it can be draining, or do I just need to back off a bit?"}
{"id": "t3_1xeeml", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is it technically over/Is she not interested?", "post": "(Quick thing This is highschool level) So I've only been texting this girl for 5 days-ish straight and I personally thought it was going good because I got her number 1st day of ever talking to her/She would even text me first/She genuinely seemed interested. Till one day she said shes gotta go real quick and i replied with okay and that day she never texted back. so i gave it some time till the day after that and i texted her \"hey\" no response. so now its like 5 days later of no talking. Is it over? did i shoot and miss? or am i just over thinking things? If you want more info just comment?", "summary": "Does anyone randomly stop replying to someone after they look interested in that person?"}
{"id": "t3_1o5f0h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at fat people memes", "post": "I'll try and keep this as short as possible. I work for a digital agency and I write a lot of online content, blog posts etc. I like to add a bit of humour to some of my posts and earlier today I'd written something about the most popular dishes in the UK.\n\nAnyway, time came to submit the post and to to keep in with the humour I thought \"I know what, I'll bung a meme into the post.\" Not just any old meme, a fat person meme.\n\nAs I've got the search page open on Google with fat people memes galore, the really fat guy in the office walked past my desk, scowled at me and carried on his merry way. I thought \"Phew, that was a close call.\" Just went about my day, happy as Larry until ten minutes ago when I got an email from the guy who sits near the chap I offended saying \"Expect a nice little chat with HR tomorrow.\" I'm currently cacking my pants.", "summary": "I pissed a rather large colleague off trying to be humorous in my work. Now I'm in trouble."}
{"id": "t3_epjiz", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cattit, meet Rory, Feline Benefactor of Humanity", "post": "[Photo](\n\nThis is Rory, perched on one of his favorite places to be. The person is irrelevant, as long as the placement is sufficient.\n\nI wanted to share the story of how I met this wonderful shelter cat.\n\n2 years ago, I decided I wanted to bring a cat into my life. Naturally, I went to the shelter to go see who was there.\n\nWhen I first entered the room, I noticed Rory (named by the shelter). He made direct eye contact with me, and meowed. So, I went to pet him and spent some time interacting from the other side of the bars. While I really enjoyed the time, I figured I should at least look at the other cats.\n\nRory disagreed strongly. As I went to look at a different cage (his cage being high and above my head), he reached out with his paw and pulled me back to his cage. The way I saw it, he had decided that he was going home with me, and I've done my best to make sure he didn't regret it.\n\nSince I was on my lunch at the time, I decided to come back later with my partner so he could also meet the cat. I'm so glad that I had gone earlier because, by the time we arrived, Rory was starting to suffer the effects of kennel cough, and was not nearly as outgoing. Despite that, he responded to his name when we visited with him, so we decided we liked him and that he liked his name.\n\nWe paid the fee to the shelter and brought him home. He immediately got out of his kennel and, rather than hiding, explored the entire house. He was immediately at ease, something I've come to realize is almost always the case with him.\n\nNow, he loves meeting new people, playing with cat toys (fetch is his favorite game), and trying to figure out technology. He's almost learned how CD drives work, which may prove to be a challenge in the future.\n\nAnyway, I figured it's the holidays. We're stressed, some people have lost loved pets and people, and it was time for a happy story about a happy kitty, with an appropriately cute picture.", "summary": "meet my awesome cat, who literally picked me when I went to the shelter to adopt a pet."}
{"id": "t3_2scf3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29F] keep sleeping with women in heterosexual relationships and getting hurt", "post": "I've been pretty much single for the past 4 years (with the exception of very short term relationships) For the past few years, I've been almost exclusively going after girls with boyfriends... once as an affair and more recently people in open relationships. \n\nEvery. Single. Time. It blows up in my face (obviously, I guess). I either like the girl too much / get jealous or sort resent her and just use her for sex. Either way, it's not healthy. I've never dated a woman before, I've only been in \"real\" relationships with men, so I have no clue how to do this in a healthy way. \n \n\nI'm also legitimately worried that there is something wrong with me, like I'm a masochist and it's almost a preference at this point to be without someone who cannot really be with me back. \n\nSeriously reddit, I'm at a total loss.", "summary": "How do I have a healthy relationship with a girl instead of ending up as someone's side piece?"}
{"id": "t3_1byn0l", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "\"Resigned\" from my current job today...how should I talk to future employers about this?", "post": "So, long story short, about three weeks ago I was written a misdemeanor citation for possession of marijuana and possession of paraphernalia. This was after work and was not on property or anything. Anyways, fast forward three weeks to today and I am called into the office. My boss found out about it and I was given the option to either be fired or to resign. I obviously went with the latter.\n\nMy question is, how should I approach this if asked about it in the future? My supervisor (not the same person as the boss that \"fired\" me) said that he'd still be willing to let me continue to use him as a reference. Him and I got along well and I was never a problem at work (in fact, I was quite the opposite) so I still think he will give me a good review if questioned. \n\nAnyways, I have a phone interview this Friday (thank god) and am just wondering how I should approach this problem. There's no way that they know about it and I'm sure they just think I'm still working there. Obviously I'm not going to bring it up but if they ask me about my work there, should I just tell them that I don't work there anymore? Should I be honest and say I resigned? I guess another thing I have going for me is that I never *technically* was fired...I resigned. Anyways, what do you guys think?", "summary": "I was given the option to resign from my job instead of being fired. I did. If asked, how should I tell prospective employers about this during interviews?"}
{"id": "t3_l8kp3", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Have trouble getting started in the morning?", "post": "I do. But there's a root cause of my getting motivated in the morning. Obviously, it's the internet.\n\nThe internet has a huge snowball effect. It's easier to stay away completely than it is to do it in moderation, especially in the morning when everything seems like a better idea than going to class or going into lab or work or whatever. The key is to do NO INTERNETTING in the morning. None. Don't sleep with your smartphone next to your bed--you'll just load up reddit the moment you open your eyes. Bad!\n\nChange your morning routine. Instead of blindly opening up your sleeping laptop, go straight into the bathroom to piss and wash your face or shower, then grab breakfast--NOT AT YOUR COMPUTER--eat in the kitchen or something. Brush your teeth, grab your shit, and roll out. \n\nI always tell myself \"Oh I'll just check reddit for a minute and then go into lab\" (I'm a grad student), but end up internetting for like 3 hours straight, and by then, I tell myself it's a wasted day and just internet the whole day and never go in. It sucks.", "summary": "The internet is fine, but DON'T MAKE IT PART OF YOUR MORNING ROUTINE if your goal is to have even a semblance of a productive day."}
{"id": "t3_2silrd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my Fiance [30M] 4 years, he's stopped being hygienic at all.", "post": "I don't know what to even think or how to approach this one without being rude, but I'm at the point that maybe I NEED to be.\n\nMy fiance and I have had a rough road financially but otherwise we've been great together. We're finally on our feet and about to move into a new apartment Feb 1st.\n\nThings are looking up for both of us, we're making more money and work is plenty.\n\nBut I noticed over the last few MONTHS he's been forgetting to brush his teeth, or if he saw me doing it he would. Now he just flat out does not, and I've bought him 2 toothbrushes and tooth paste in the last 2 months as a hint hint. Mouth wash and a tongue scraper too!\n\nIt has been over a week since he last showered and this man works outside all day under filthy cars.\n\nIt's gotten so bad that I'm repulsed by him, he has horrific athlete's foot and won't do anything about it. It smells so fucking bad the instant he takes his shoes off. He has terrible eczema and every day I come home to see him itching and scratching like a crazy person and just shedding skin all over the fucking place. Like in my bed and in the kitchen.\n\nNot that I blame him for the eczema, but I know it's a million times better with bathing and lotion.\n\nI'm at my wits end, I really do not understand this. Has anyone else gone through this? He's not even depressed, we have GREAT things to look forward to. \n\nEven his clothes are filthy! Crunchy dirty athletes feet socks reused and I can smell his jeans.\n\nThen he wonders why I don't want to have sex and he's coming at me with those black fingernails. No please.\n\nWhat makes a man who used to shower and lotion up and wear cologne and get frequent hair cuts just stop and say, nah?! I don't understand it.", "summary": "Fiance won't bathe or brush his teeth. Any insight? What should I do? Considering the direct approach!"}
{"id": "t3_1xvk83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Please help me figure out If I can salvage my relationship. (25f) 2 year long relationship", "post": "My boyfriend and I decided to move to San Francisco together. We were really close and minorly in love. Then stuff got stressful financially and I was unable to do the things I love to do, I became depressed and insecure. He tried to support me mentally and in the process lost himself and didn't take care of the things he needed. Meanwhile I began doing stupid things like sleeping away from him and lying about going on a date I didn't actually go on along with a lot of other hurtful things. \n\nEventually I ended up moving out and then moving back home for a bit to get on my feet. He moved back shortly after as well and I've fully recovered from the place I was in emotionally. Or at least I know the cause and am now aware of how to deal with it. I want to try again. I want to fix things. Neither of us have resentment for each other and I really think he's the love of my life. He wants time and be doesn't want a relationship because he can't trust me anymore and he's afraid I'll hurt him in the same ways the moment it gets hard again.\n\n I know I was stupid. I have to fix things though. I just don't know how to get started. He wants to be with me too. He loves me. He just feels like he can't. Any advice would be great. I'm leaving details out for now just because I'm on my phone and it's a pain to type on. I can be more specific if need be.", "summary": "So to make a super long story short and concise I moved to California with my boyfriend, became super depressed and did a great deal of stupid things that greatly hurt him. Now I'm more in love with him than ever. I've never really felt for anyone like this before let alone felt at all. He doesn't want to be together because he's scared to trust me. He still loves me and wants to be with me but everything's such a mess I don't even know where to begin. Should I give up? Despite actually being in love? Or should I try to find a way to mend it? It's hard because every time we try to start as friends again we both do stupid things that make it impossible."}
{"id": "t3_tlrp5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My nieces in another state have a bipolar, physically abusive mother. What can I do to help?", "post": "Their mom divorced my brother over a decade ago and he only gets to see his three girls on the weekends. I presume the divorce was because he couldn't handle her outbreaks anymore but the courts granted her custody because she's the mother. Also, it didn't help that a neighbor called the cops during one of their domestic disputes and my brother agreed to spend the night in jail (it's been a long time but I believe the reason was because one of them had to go, and although the cop was siding with my brother, their youngest daughter was still breastfeeding, my brother \"took one for the family\"). Anyhow, fast forward to now and I just find out from my parents that this woman has been abusing the oldest (yanking hair and hitting, plus verbal intimidation) since my niece was 14 (she's 17 now). She (ex sister-in-law) also just kicked her (my niece) out of the house after a recent argument over something that seemed superficial to me. AND, I was told that she is starting to get abusive towards the middle niece who is 15, but has so far spared the youngest. My family is afraid that if they call the cops or social services that this woman might find a way to turn the situation to her favor. She has in the past.  She has a lawyer and has managed to get a court order -- for absolutely no reason -- to keep my new sister-in-law from watching the kids when my brother isn't around. I've heard about this woman's antics before, but this is the first time I have  heard about the abuse. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "my chemically imbalanced ex-sister-in-law is abusing my nieces but she has custody and my family is afraid that if they call the police or social services, it will backfire on them."}
{"id": "t3_19pvjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Deploying to Afghanistan, not sure what I should do with my relationship of almost 2 years.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I am 20M and she is 20F and we have been dating for about 2 years now. I am a soldier in the army and I am currently looking at a deployment in less than a year for 9 months. I joined the army while I was with her and she waited for me while I was gone for 4 months during OSUT. While I was gone she said it was the hardest thing she has ever had to deal with and she was completely miserable, but she managed to stick through it. I've mentioned my pending deployment recently and she doesn't even want to talk about it and ends up crying, she says she doesn't know if she can last that long without me. I am the kind of person where I need to bring things up and communicate issues in order to resolve them and she is the type of person that prefers to ignore it until you can't really ignore it anymore. Although she is like this it doesn't prevent us from being good at communication, we are usually pretty honest with each other. I feel like if we keep pushing off this subject that it wont be good when it comes time for me to leave for 9 months. At the moment our relationship isn't completely stable and I am not sure if withholding this will help when it comes time to depart.", "summary": "Supposed to deploy soon, gf refuses to discuss the topic, relationship isn't completely stable at the moment what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2d3ngm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ever since my boyfriend [24M] broke off our 4 year relationship with me [22F], my self esteem has completely plummeted and I can't stand attractive people.", "post": "I don't know what went wrong with us. We were fine. I was more in love than ever until he dropped the bomb on me and told me that he needed time to explore other options and while he was happy with me, he thinks he could be 'ecstatic' somewhere else. Too shocked for words, I retreated into bed and left the very next morning. Before I left, I looked at him and told him that if he wanted to make it easier, I'll contact him when I'm ready. \n\nIt's been two weeks, and I haven't stopped crying for one second. Tbh I don't want to hear anymore explainations...hearing that he wants to be happier with someone else hurts enough. I honestly don't think I could have done more for him. It's really possible my best wasn't enough for him. \n\nThat being said, I've stopped going to the gym. I've started skipping showers and I don't even wear jeans anymore. I feel so unattractive all the fucking time and it makes me cry. I can't explain why I feel this way but all I know is that I do. Every time I see a girl in public that I think is 'his type' or he'd find hot, I literally want to crawl into a ball and curse her for being hot. Every time an attractive guy walks past me, I want him to get away from me as fast as possible because seeing him makes me feel uncomfortable.\n\nIs this normal? I don't know why I feel like this.", "summary": "attractive people make me sick because my self esteem is gone and I hate myself"}
{"id": "t3_4ycf13", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Vent] I just want FMIL to see us married.", "post": "My FH and I already have a beautiful little three year old girl, but we've been putting off actually getting married until we could afford a decent wedding. \n\nMy FMIL had a heart attack back in May, and her health is deteriorating (she wasn't strong enough for stint surgery, and now they're talking transplant).\n\n FH's step father passed in early 2014. We were their two witnesses/only attendees at their courthouse wedding. FH's siblings will probably never marry (he says; there are four of them so you never know).\n\nI'm scared that if we wait until any longer we'll have to have a wedding without either of FH's parents there. I love my FMIL so much. I want her to know that her son is happy and taken care of before...well, you know.\n\nI have zero problem with buying a nice dress and just going to the bar after, but FH disagrees. He thinks we'll (I'll) regret not doing something more special. I think denial has a little bit to do with it, too.\n\nWe talked about it in late June, and I had him convinced for a couple weeks that we should just get it over with this November. Then he decided we should push it off until next fall instead. \n\nI just want to get this over with and stop thinking about it.", "summary": "FMIL is not well, I don't want her to die before we finally get married."}
{"id": "t3_1bzruk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Another customer service FAIL from Cocks Communications. Reddit: does anyone out there work for a cable company? Why do they all seem to suck at customer service?", "post": "After clicking around on the website for Cocks Communications and reaching multiple 404 errors for the gazillionth time (the \"pay your bill\" links always work flawlessly, of course), I sent this brief communique:\n\n*Why do so many of your links go to 404's? It's been like this forever. \nIt's as if you don't know about the problem or don't care. If you don't \nknow about the problem, maybe it's the TWELVE required fields a customer\nhas to fill out just to send you an email (like this). You should make \nit easier to contact your company... if you care about feedback. What \nthe hell am I saying? You're Cox. You don't care at all. It shows in \neverything you do. Why am I bothering to write this?*\n\nThe crack customer service team over at Cocks Communications sent me this remarkably unhelpful response (text wall ahead): \n\n*Thank you for your e-mail. I understand you are currently experiencing \nconnectivity difficulties. I am sincerely sorry for this inconvenience.*\n\n*Under these circumstances, it is somewhat effortful to determine the \ncause of your connectivity issue, since we are not able to troubleshoot \nyour computer directly. You might encounter isolated hardware \ndifficulties on your end, not visible from our side. I suggest you \nperform cable modem troubleshooting, by accessing the link below:*\n\n*<snip 3 pages of utterly useless advice>", "summary": "I send Cocks Communications a complaint about broken links on their site, and they send me a pre-fabbed text wall about checking my modem's connectivity. Why are cable companies like this?"}
{"id": "t3_320h2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my GF [18F] of 2 years, am worried that she is snapchatting someone else nudes.", "post": "She hasn't really given me a reason to believe she would do this before. However we've been together for X amount of time (longer than 2 years) and she has always hidden her phone from me. Whenever i would go to lie down on the bed next to her, or sit next to her, she instantly clicks off whatever she was doing on her phone and starts swiping around on the menu. She is also very defensive of her phone, she doesn't let me on it without her keeping a hawk eye on what i'm doing. Well this is fine, maybe she's just a little defensive of it...\n\nUntil the otherday. She had some nudes on her phone, that she didn't send me (this is extremely wierd, every nude she has taken since we've been together has gone to me, i've not seen any others at all) - 10+ or so. Then i noticed one of them... It had the bar thing that you put text on in snapchat, and it was blacked out like scribbled over. The other thing is that she was in bed, this is a face shot with slightly above her boobs covered with a sheets.. Not her bed however. I'm not sure if it's my bed or not from the image. When i asked her why she took them, she went extremely from happy and laid back to alot more panicky, an extremely worried expression on her face. It actually made me nervous when i saw her face... she just said she felt like taking them...\n\nNot only this but in the past, there has been this issue with snapchat, we'd be done in bed, i'm getting dressed and i see her taking a selfie, i ask her who that's for...... long long long pause.... avoid eye contact.... \"you\"...\nI'm not sure if i'm overreating about this or not. I had trust issues in the past that all originated from her texting a friend ALL the time, i nearly lost both the friend and the gf because i couldn't deal with that. Thankfully that got resolved.\n\nBut anyway, to get to the point and the facts:", "summary": "Gf is suspicious with phone. She always hides it from me. Found nudes, which she sent to me AFTER i found them, and she panicked when i asked why she took them. History of trust issues originating from the phone."}
{"id": "t3_1fqkyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F16] am not sure if I cheated or not on my boyfriend [M17]...", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together about a year. In the past, I cheated but we talked it out and moved forward. This time is different though.\n\nThe last couple of nights I've been going into anonymous chatrooms and having cybersex with strangers. For me, it's just like porn or erotic fiction and doesn't mean anything, but I feel like it's wrong somehow...\n\nLast night I also went into a voice call with someone at the same time. I still didn't know anything about them, but I think that's what really got me thinking. Is that cheating? I'm never looking for a relationship or anything but a little something to help me get off. Should I talk about this with him?", "summary": "I'm not sure if cybersex is considered cheating and would like some insight, please and thank you."}
{"id": "t3_15i5hr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Progress Pics - 50 lbs down", "post": "I've struggled with weight loss for most of my life.  I've always liked running and biking and swimming and a few years ago I actually did some triathlons.  I love to tri but after a rather trying divorce a few years back I just stopped moving and fell into the depression.  My lowest weight since high school was 250 and I was racing (not fast, mind you) at that point.  I even rode my bike across the state of New Mexico before my divorce sucked the bit of ambition I had.\n\nFlash foreword to late September 2012, I am above 300 (by how much I don't know) and I got my Fianc\u00e9 pregnant and decided that I was done being fat.  I started keto and before you know it I was down 20 lbs.  Then 40.  Now I'm over 50 lbs down and as thin as I can remember ever being.  \n\nThe before pictures were taken in Long Beach for a Dodger game in front of a chocolate store.  The afters were taken tonight in beautiful snowy Colorado in front of my bedroom wall.  I'm stormageddondad on myfitnesspal.  Feel free to add me.  I've been dieting for exactly 3 Months.  50 lbs in 3 months - not too shabby.", "summary": "woo 50 lbs, progress pics."}
{"id": "t3_1bah9i", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Lady needs guy advice", "post": "I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between.  I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). \n\nSo, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me.  So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. \n\nAfter the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone.\n\nWhy would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me?", "summary": "A guy gave me his number, we had good text chats, then he fell off the face of the earth when I ask to get a drink. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_3nik1s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing the fluffy bunny challenge, and ending up with twelve jizz soaked, tissue covered, toilet marshmallows.(NSFW)", "post": "This fuck up happened about 20 minutes ago.\n\nI was bored at home and watching TV and saw someone doing the fluffy bunny challenge and i thought to my self \"Challenge accepted.\" i go to the kitchen grab a bag of marshmallows and started.\n\nI got to twelve before the bag ran out so i decided to try eating them. i tried to swallow one and i started to gag, so i sprinted to the toilet and basically threw up 12 marshmallows. i flushed the toilet and walked away and tried to find something else to occupy my time so i started jerking off in the lounge as I'm home alone. Once i finished i went to clean up so i chucked the tissues in the toilet only to find that there were still marshmallows. i frantically flushed the toilet only to find the marshmallows wouldn't flush, and they were covered in jizz and tissues. I frantically started searching for something to get them out. I ended up trying a bowl but it wouldn't fit then i had an idea, \"tongs!\" (i literally yelled this idea out loud). i grabbed them and started to try to grab the marshmallows out of the toilet and chuck them in the bin outside. on about the 4th marshmallow i realized the neighbor was outside and could see over the fence. So i decided i would ninja my way around the house with jizz soaked, tissue covered, toilet marshmallows. i got to about the 8th before i realized I'm going to have to thoroughly clean these tongs but i thought i could just boil the jug and sterilize them. Now i had successfully ninjed?!? 12 jizz soaked, tissue covered, toilet marshmallows to the bin, now all that's left is too clean the tongs. This would have been fine if we didn't have a storm yesterday... WHICH BROKE THE FUCKING JUG! now i have to think quick cause i got no clue when my mum will be back so i fulled the bath a little with hot water chucked the tongs in there and will probably take them out soon.\n\nNow I'm feeling lucky I'm having pancakes for tea.", "summary": "tried fluffy bunny challenge, fucked up numerous times. ended up with jizz covered tongs in a bath."}
{"id": "t3_3qoczv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl(24F) I (25M) have been seeing for about a month just lost a good friend of hers and I don't know how to console her and she's becoming distant.", "post": "I met a girl a little over a month ago and I really like her. We have been seeing each other often and text during most days quite a bit. It seems like we were getting pretty close and she invited me on a trip with her that's in a week.\n\nA few days ago she found out that one of her good friends had passed away and I don't know how to be there for her better. I think that it's causing her to become distant from me and even though it hasn't been very long, I don't want to lose her.\n\nIn the past 4 years I have lost my father and my grandmother, so I understand what it feels like to lose, but don't know how to help someone else in that situation. When I think about it, I feel like there is nothing I can do but give her space, but feel that will only increase the distance I've been feeling.\n\nI don't want to mention the way I feel because it's selfish, and really I just want to be able to support her emotionally in a time like now.\n\nAny advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "A girl I have been seeing for a short time just lost a good friend and I don't know how to be emotionally supportive for her, but want to be and need advice on how to be."}
{"id": "t3_2191s3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my Boyfirend of 6 years [21M/] relationship is a disaster and i get let go...", "post": "We have been together for so long and i have been so madly in love with him the whole time. So much has happened now that everyone knows we should just end it but i cant find the ourage to do so. i dont want it to end evern though hes cheated twice that i know of ad is unwilling to help regain the trust. im just seen as a paranoid cow!!\nIt really worries me that i can't just walk away. i really dont know if ill ever be able to! i dont even now if he wants to be in this relationship. whenever i try to bring it up, hes not interested and doesnt want to talk about it.\n\nHas anyone who has been in this situation got any advice on how i can get the courage to just leave?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2kd1ou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my [21m ] 4 years together, he is lying and doing weird things behind my back", "post": "ive always told him id always forgive him if he did something that he thought was unforgivable, ive always told him if he told me the truth before i caught him in the act that id listen to him,,\n\nbasically he lies about everything from stealing a few dollars from me to fucking another girl behind my back\n\nhes also abusive and has been for a long time, obviously the advice will be to leave but i want to know if maybe im over exaggerating when i get upset that he lies about everything and will delete everything and wont 'touch' me for weeks at a time and then hes jerking off in my bathroom and saying he isnt and im basically begging him to fuck me instead of doing that and he isnt even intersted anymore it seems like\n\nI feel as though he has lost his feelings for me but cant admit it, or maybe im just overthnking", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1c9fub", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Without being too harsh, I [18M] need to cut things off with a married woman [29M].", "post": "We met each other in a guild a few months back [January], and started talking. This went on for two months before anything got sexual. Before anything happened, I knew she was married.\n\nIt spiraled out of control, to a point of no return. We started out sexting, talking dirty, sending pictures. I made it clear that I was just looking for someone to fool around with. Another month in and she's telling me she wants to be more than friends. I'm hesitant at first, but feel the same way. Things get more romantic, she wants me to move to her state.\n\nMy heart hurts to even think about shutting things down, but I need too. She's married, and it hurts more to think about what her husband would go through if he found out. What she would go through if she got caught. I'm the only one that would get out consequence free.\nSo I need to end things, for better. I really fucking love this woman, she's amazing, but she's married.\n\nAfter the initial fog of the situation faded, the realization came to me that I'm making a horrible decision. I feel like I need to cut things off completely. I can't stand just being her friend, because of the feelings I have for her.\n\nHelp me. How do I disappear out of her life, for the better, without being too hurtful?", "summary": "Met a married woman, things went too far, I need to completely cut things off."}
{"id": "t3_2jzljg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my mother [62F]: dispute over new employee (22?F)", "post": "My mother owns a small apparel boutique and I work there as manager. We also employ four shop girls. Recently one of the women who works for us asked for two weeks off because her daughter was having a baby and she wanted to be there to support her. Unfortunately, this time coincided with my mother being out of town for a week. I expected to pick up the extra hours myself.\n\nWithout consulting me AT ALL (which I think is out of line because I'm the manager), my mother hires New Girl as a temp employee. By all accounts, New Girl is a great employee. She had no previous experience in retail, but she learned quickly and her first week I had a handful of customers seek me out specifically to compliment her. That's great, we love to hear that sort of thing.\n\nThe end of her temp employment is coming up, when my mother mentions she wants to bring New Girl on permanently. I tell her we don't have room in the schedule (because we don't, we'd have to cut everyone's hours severely to accommodate her). My mother says we can fire another shop girl, a high schooler who has been with us about six months. She says that from purely a numbers standpoint, New Girl makes more sales.\n\nI am against this. I can't believe she's being this disloyal to her own staff. I also take issue with New Girl's appearance. She simply does not look the level of polished as the other women we employ. I asked her once if she wore make up and she told me she was wearing make up then, but in my opinion it is not enough. I also learned that she does not use heat products in her hair. This has never been a problem with our other employees, and I have no idea how to address this, because how do you tell a woman she needs to wear more make up? My mother doesn't mind, but she's always been more bohemian, which is fine but not the look I care to have represented at our boutique.\n\nFrankly, I think my mother is allowing personal feelings to get in the way of professionalism. She seems dead set on this, though. I need a new way to approach her on this subject.", "summary": "Mother wants to fire employee to make room for new employee. I'm against this and we have come to an impasse. How do I smooth over the situation and solve the dispute?"}
{"id": "t3_2juynj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(Gf/19) attempted to harm herself in dorm bathroom. I (M/20) live three hours away what can I do?", "post": "If this is not the right place to post them please let me know I'll take it   \n   \n  We've been together about 3 1/2 years and we've had our fair share of tough times.\n  She recently went back to college about three hours away from where I work. She's always been a little \"clingy\" I guess would be the word to describe it , however I never minded it. Recently though she's been getting upset for not calling her fast enough or texting fast enough back. \n  Now I work in the hospitality business which requires my full attention most of the time. Whenever I get a chance to text her or call her I do. But today...today was different I didn't  respond for a while , the fact that I didn't respond for a while isn't what was different. \n   She texted me saying she attempted to cut herself in her dorms bathroom but couldn't get the razor out. It took her everything she had in her to not go back with scissors. I want to help I want to be there physically she says she's lonely and can't find happiness I need some insight on what to do .", "summary": "gf attempted to cut herself in college dorm feels lonely and unhappy. Need insight. "}
{"id": "t3_2kwia3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my friend [17 F], dilemma", "post": "Hey /relationships, just a question about where to go with my situation.\n\nI'm a senior in high school, and single after a rough breakup with someone I was very attached to. \n\nMy friend, (S), helped me through the breakup, was supportive and listened to my unhappiness. \n\nI heard through a mutual friend that S was interested in 'hooking up' (vague high school terms) with me. \n\nI'm conflicted. S is an attractive, funny and smart person and under normal circumstances I wouldn't hesitate to engage in 'activities' with her, but since there's an emotional/very friendly connection between us I'm worried about ruining a friendship. \n\nI was assured by the mutual friend that S doesn't want to mess up the friendship either, but she is still very into hooking up.\n\nWhat do? I don't want to offend S by denying any advances she might make, but I'm a horny and lonesome teenaged boy.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this, I'm sure you could be spending it doing something more productive.", "summary": "my friend is interested in a sexual relationship with me, some emotional baggage exists and I don't want to upset a friendship"}
{"id": "t3_hwipw", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Too Old For Another", "post": "Obviously a throwaway account...\n\nIt's my 40th birthday and my wife just came in to tell me she's pregnant again.  We already have two great kids, and we were not planning to have any more.  We've been using birth control (condoms) and haven't noticed any mishaps, but the little blue line on the stick doesn't seem to lie.\n\nWe are both in shock and unsure what to think or do.  Our second son was a surprise, but a welcome one.  This is not the same.  We are 6 years older and really enjoy having kids who have grown to some level of independence.  This feels like \"starting over\" and not in a good way.  \n\nWe remember the many sleepless nights as both of our children had stomach problems and \"caulic\".  I would have to stay up hours and hours swinging them in their carrier, or patting them on the back to sooth them.  Our children are joys, but as babies they were nightmares.\n\nMy wife had preeclampsia both times.  The nurses told her last time she was lucky and should not have any more children.  We agreed.  Now I find myself hoping the doctor will tell us it is too dangerous to keep this one.  I feel terrible for having such thoughts.\n\nEven if the risk is minimal, we have to question if going through with this is the right thing.  Would we be using health concerns as an excuse?  I do not want to have another child.  Is it wrong to have another child?\n\nI think the worst part of it is not being able to discuss it with anyone else.  Part of you wants to scream to the world that you are going through such thoughts and questions, but until we know for sure if we will be going through with it we cannot confide in our friends.  At least I have an anonymous means to vent.  For that I am thankful.", "summary": "Unexpected third pregnancy.  I'm too old and tired for this."}
{"id": "t3_4bt9hs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24F][Conversation] Can needy men be healthy?", "post": "So... I have read, heard, and also experienced countless times just about everywhere (online, IRL) that a needy person of any gender is typically a red flag. They're just gonna be clingy, the relationship will be unequal, it will feel one sided, one person will eventually feel sapped and fatigued. Etc. \n\nHowever, I find that I do find slightly emotionally vulnerable men very attractive. The problem is, I'm very vulnerable and emotional myself. Why do I crave this if that's exactly who I am? I've tried relationships where the person is very needy, but it always gets way too clingy and weird. Like if neither of us know how to make a decision, then no decision is made - we both just awkwardly stress about it.\n\nYes, I do feel \"still in development\", and I can see becoming a LITTLE more dominant in future years, but I can in fact see being mostly submissive *is* my actual nature.\n\nStill, when I see someone saying \"omg I'm so lost\", \"help me\" I feel this huge feeling of love come over me, it makes me want to hug them and take care of them (I mean, if they're seemingly a safe/healthy person).\n\nBut again, I metaphorically imagine us both fetally positioned in 2 corners of a room, not knowing what to do. I am definitely not a decision maker. In short, I want to take the reins but don't know how. Whenever I'm given a huge task in life, I fumble a LOT and go through it very terrified. I always succeed, but I'm the dorky, bumbly nervous type who needs a lot of moral support to feel confident. However, being with truly parentlike/nurturing types is comforting, but sometimes I feel strangely belittled by those. When people constantly take the reins, I feel a bit offended. I know I can do shit myself. \n\nBut I'm not dominant. \n\nYet I do find a huge compulsion to protect and take care of people that I have a crush on. \n\nWhat gives?", "summary": "I'm a submissive person who prefers others to take the reigns. "}
{"id": "t3_2v6iun", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make Mac and Cheese...", "post": "That's right. Mac and Cheese. How you ask? Well... \n\nI was sick that day with tonsillitis and a fever and felt sorta hungry. So, I managed to find a Mac and Cheese packet and decided, \"Why not, it's simple, easy and delicious.\"\n\n Getting the necessary cooking ware (a pan and a strainer) I, without thinking, placed the pan on one of the cook tops. I turned on the stove and thought to myself, \"Alright, just throw in the ingredients and etc and wait the usual 8 minutes.\" \n\nSo I did just that and left. My god, what a mistake. As I quickly go back into the kitchen and check on my easy to prepare meal, I smell burning and rubber burning at the same time. Oh god. As I inspect, there is NO WATER in the pan aswell as our rice cooker is on another cook top with it on. The Mac and Cheese had burned and stuck itself to the bottom of the pan. Not have I only managed to BURN Mac and Cheese but I have also just melted the rice cookers bottom. It had literally cooked itself.", "summary": "Managed to burn an easy to prepare meal whilst cooking our rice cooker in the process."}
{"id": "t3_1yuwx8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24f] with bf [26m] of 8 months, uncomfortable with him going to a strip club (see more info inside)", "post": "Hi Reddit, \n\nWell the title says it all: I am uncomfortable with my man going to a strip club. While I have no issues with him watching porn, it makes me uncomfortable at the thought of him going to a strip club. I have gone to a SC a few times, and each time I was danced upon and so were the men in my group. This makes me uncomfortable. \n\nMy bf is going for a bachelor party, and he hasn't seen this friend for a couple years. I told him that I was uncomfortable with him going but that I was not going to stop him if he wanted to go. \n\nThe party is this Friday. \n\nTo complicate things further (in my mind), is the fact that we have been having an issue in the bedroom lately. Mainly, my libido is higher than his, and he has turned down sex twice in the last two weeks. We have sex a decent amount, but he initiates less and less and it makes me feel unattractive. Last night I initiated sex, and when I went down on him he went completely \"dead fish\" on me. When I asked him what was wrong he said he was \"hoping to get into it, but that he wasn't into it yet.\" This was after I had been rubbing and teasing him for almost 15 minutes and been sucking him off for a couple of minutes. \n\nWe have talked about our difference in sex drives a couple of times, and he swears to me that he is \"insanely attracted\" to me and that he just \"doesn't want sex all the time.\" (He has had two LTR, and in both sex dwindled to about once a month by the end of it.) \n\nSo, I guess I am just trying to reconcile him wanting to go to a strip club and see other naked women when he doesn't want to pay attention to the one he has at home. It's bothering me a lot.", "summary": "My boyfriend is going to a strip club at the same time our sex life is dwindling. I feel unattractive due to the changes in our sex life."}
{"id": "t3_24zds9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Fianc\u00e9 [22 M] of 1.5 years, I am really jealous of him graduating", "post": "First off, my fianc\u00e9 and I are getting married in 2 weeks, and I am really excited about it. \n\nWe are both seniors and college and he is graduating on Saturday. Two weeks ago, I found out I have to take a summer class to graduate and I don't get to walk for graduation (we go to different schools). I am really proud and happy for him and I want to be there to see him graduate, but I feel AWFUL when I think about graduations in general because I don't get to have mine. Basically a bureaucratic school thing is forcing me to delay my graduation and I have to pay for one more class to meet the hour requirement. I am taking the class now, and I am feeling so burnt out and upset that I don't get to enjoy graduation or have a bit of a break from four years of intense science study (luckily the class is an easy one, so it is a bit of a break in itself).\n\nI am trying to be positive and supportive, and obviously I am proud of him, but I am DREADING going to his graduation. I am so jealous of him that he is done and he gets to enjoy the end of college and celebrate his graduation with his family, while I am stuck in summer school and don't have the opportunity to walk until next summer. I feel like I am withdrawing from him quite a bit, which is scary because we're getting married so soon. I know this is a personal problem of mine, and I don't him to suffer because I can't get over myself.\n\nI know that being a good partner means celebrating your partners successes as if they were your own, but I am having such a hard time doing this. And I feel awful thinking about going to his graduation and watching him walk. I am so afraid I will still have these selfish jealous feelings and I don't want to have them then. PLEASE give me some advice here; I am going crazy!", "summary": "I won't get to finish school until the end of May and I won't get to walk for graduation until next year, and I am incredibly jealous of my soon-to-be husband who is graduating on Saturday"}
{"id": "t3_t5duo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have just seen something extremely messed up, how can I do something about it?", "post": "So I have no experience with this type of thing, and feel completely helpless at the moment. I was on Omegle, being bombarded by the normal bullshit, when all of a sudden my I saw one of the most disturbing things I have ever seen.\n\nthere was an old, hairy, bearded man, sitting with a baby on his lap. The child cannot have been older than 1 or 2, and still had a pacifier in its mouth. He was FINGERING the baby. I couldn't believe this. All I could do was tell him fe was fucking sick and to leave the child alone before I had to disconnect, he stopped to type, changed his mind and carried on. I couldn't keep watching what was going on I had to disconnect. \n\nMy roommates have told me to contact somebody, or report this but I dont know where to start. I know it could have just been a video, but it seemed very...un-video like. \n\nReddit, can you help me? This guy needs to go down.", "summary": "I saw a pedophile fingering a baby on Omegle, what can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_12jr8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feminism is causing relationship issues that I'm not sure I can be okay with", "post": "My boyfriend (m20) and I (f16, 17 this month) have been dating for 10 months now and recently I have fallen hard into the idea of feminism. I believe in feminism being along chivalry. If a guy wants to open the door for a girl, then he should but it should be because he WANTS to and not because he feels required to. Recently in Debate Club we have started talking about feminism (I am the only female in the club and the topic was suggested by me). Yesterday I was with my boyfriend and I pointed out the pay difference between men and women. Women who do the exact same jobs as men still make 5% less than they do.\nHis response was, \"It's JUST 5% babe. It's not that much.\" I really do care for him and I enjoy being around him but I'm not sure that I can be with someone that doesn't respect the idea of equality enough to do anything more than brush it off. My question is; How do I handle this situation? I'm not a radical, I believe that my opinions are rather tame even. But to quote Iron Jawed Angels, \"Women like you are worse than anti-suffragists. You perpetuate the lie every morning at breakfast.\" I don't want to be with someone that makes me feel like I am going against my own cause. But I do really like this guy.", "summary": "I consider myself a feminist of sorts and my boyfriend doesn't care that men make 5% more than women for doing the same job. I don't know if I can be with someone that makes me feel like I am betraying my cause but I care about him. What does Reddit think I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_502uyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M/] with girl [24/F] What are we?", "post": "Long time contributor but in a jam here guys! So I've been talking to this girl all summer on snapchat. Day in and out she was super cool. We really hit it off. Communication was a 10/10, she is beautiful, has hobbies and it seemed like our friendship was progressing in addition to attending the same college + living super close to each other.\nProblem is we've only hung out twice this summer and been talking since end of June. Mostly my fault having plans with friends / not really having confidence. etc.\nA week after our last date she tried asking me to join her and her friend for a drink with my friends but I already had plans.\nWe still talked everyday. I left florida 2 weeks ago and recently came back to the city. Its been a month since I last saw her. Anyways, Our conversations have completely died. It's like she is killing them on purpose. This weekend I complimented her on social media and she replied with \"oh yaa\" ? Then proceeded to ghost. It's really weird going from talking 24/7 to not at all. She's been online 24/7 which is worse....\nHow did she lose interest so quickly?\nWhat went wrong.....", "summary": "Really hit it off with this girl now she is suddenly acting aloof?"}
{"id": "t3_3g0wfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] relationship isn't healthy. I'm happy with it, and I think my partner [M21] is too. But I worry about the future and other outcomes.", "post": "Let be start off by saying that I'm a positive person. I'm pretty much always in a good mood, always positive, but I worry a lot. It's not healthy I know, but it keeps me on my toes.\n\nMy boyfriend has issues, a lot of mental problems, depression mostly, and the fact that he cannot believe a single compliment. Even from me. He deserves compliments, I compliment on his uni work (he's doing physics), and other general things.\n\nOnto myself. I don't like being alone, I hate it. A relationship for me is something rewarding, but it's also my safety net. I rely on whoever my partner is to make me feel safe. Just being in a relationship makes be feel safer.\n\nAnd my partner helps me with a lot. I'm forgetful; so he helps me remember, I have terrible work ethic when it comes to study; so he encourages me.\n\nIn return I work (sneakily) on his mental health and encourage him a lot. His happiness is paramount to me, and so is his well-being.\n\nRecently he's been talking about how he might be better alone, and letting me know that he hopes that we will be friends no matter what happens in the future.\n\nHe says that he doesn't want this to end, and I believe him, I truly do. But if it does I am terrified beyond all other. I don't know how he's going to do if we aren't us. I know I'll fall to pieces and such. Everything is going so good right now I'm terrified about the future.\n\nI don't want this to end, I want to help him, and I want us to grow together. But I don't know if that will happen, and I'm just full of uncertainty.", "summary": "I'm worried about my relationships future. I want to do what's right and I think I am. But now I'm not sure what's best."}
{"id": "t3_4ulyw9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "sanitizing web searches on property from previous court cases (New York)", "post": "Looking into selling my home. When searching on the popular search engines, unfortunately, some less than appealing documents regarding an ex's court cases show up in the search. They are court transcripts obtained by local paper, uploaded to a semi-popular document sharing website. I am not named in the documents, only the ex. I have gone to great lengths to keep myself out of the picture regarding the legal troubles. \n\nI am a reasonably well known person in my area, and I'm afraid (with good reason) that all of my work to keep distance from this will come crashing down around me if someone I know looks up my address and finds this document. Since I'm looking at selling the property, the likelihood of someone looking it up will go way up.\n\nNow, I don't think the document is eligible for a DMCA takedown notice, since I am not the creator, nor am I named. What legal recourse do I have to get the document taken down? Should I request it be removed by the news outlet? Should I have a lawyer send such a request?", "summary": "internet search for my property address brings up bad results. I want to make it gone. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_1161s9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "IT Band Injury:  What exercises can I still do or just rest?", "post": "I'm still a fairly new runner (started C25K in March) and this is the first injury i've gotten that has prevented me from running.  I was training to do a half marathon in two weeks buts off the table now.  I looked online and am doing all the IT band stretches I found daily since this occurred last week.  I am still doing my Starting Strength weight-lifting program 3 times a week, but wanted to replacement my normal 3 days of running with something else.  Would an hour long walk/slow jog or cycling prevent me from recovering sooner?  What about doing 6 days of strength training / weightlifting instead?  I just feel the need to keep exercising since I've also lost a lot of weight in the past year (-130lb).", "summary": "Got ITBS. Can I still do walks/slow jogs on my run days or will it impede my recover?  Should I just replace all my run days with all strength/weightlifting until my knee is better or just do the unbearable and rest? =("}
{"id": "t3_3b1i7p", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CO] Vehicle registration question", "post": "So I bought a new (used) car a couple months ago here in Colorado; my girlfriend got a job in Connecticut so I decided to get a more reliable car that will actually be able to make the journey. \nAnyway, my temporary license plate expired on the 15th of June and we are moving on June 26th. I would really rather not register the car here in Colorado for only a couple of days, only to get to Connecticut and have to register it again. So I went to the DMV on the 15th and explained my situation and they told me they could only extend the temporary plate for 10 days. Unfortunately that 10 days is up tomorrow and we leave on Friday. I plan on going back to the DMV tomorrow to see if I can get another extension because another 10 days would get us there in time. If they can't do the temp extension, is my only option to register it in both states? Is it a stupid idea to drive on an expired plate all the way to Connecticut? I'm just wondering if paying a ticket for having an expired plate would ultimately be cheaper than registering the car in two states within two weeks. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Is it cheaper to pay a ticket for an expired plate or to register the car in two states."}
{"id": "t3_527c4y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep on the toilet", "post": "Hello, I am your average 20yo male college student, and TIFU rather hilariously. This happened last Monday. I was at In-N-Out hopping on one foot to a seat with my gf as my human crutch. There was a toddler girl sitting near me and she noticed that I was missing a shoe on my right foot, so she asked me why. I answered that I had injured myself. Curiously, she asked how, and I simply replied that I ran on the sidewalk and tripped. \n\nThat is not what happened. I was too embarrassed to tell this little girl the truth. Here is what really happened. Earlier in the day I had gone to use the bathroom to pee. I decided to pee sitting down (which I do sometimes when I am tired and want to relax). Somehow, I fell asleep on the toilet. I woke up suddenly and panicked by the fact that I had fallen asleep sitting on the toilet. So I rushed to stand up, but you know how your legs fall asleep from sitting on a toilet for too long, right? Yea, so I fell with a loud thud and screamed in pain as I sprained my ankle. So this is me struggling all while my pants were down and I was on the floor writhing in pain.\n\nThe next day, I got my X-ray and saw a doctor. Really nice people there, at Kaiser. Anyways, to my surprise I actually have a fracture. I will be in a cast and crutches for the next 3 or 4 weeks. Thank you all for listening!", "summary": "I fell asleep on the toilet, woke up and in panic tried to stand but broke my foot."}
{"id": "t3_3zu7zo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] I have been together for a little over a year, i still get compared against her ex", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for over a year now. It never fails that when a deep topic comes up and I try to support her and help her the best way I can it isn't good enough and I feel like she compares me to her ex at these times.\n\nJust so you have a idea her past relationship lasted for 4 years, they broke up because she didn't trust him after he smoked weed once and she held it against him for the duration of the relationship & they fought a lot supposedly. As a idea to why I say she compares us is we had a conversation recently about her parents because they might be getting a divorce.\n\nI tried to comfort her by saying positive things and reassuring her. But she said I wasn't being sympathetic enough compared to someone that has dealt with this like her ex. Because I guess her ex's parents had a divorce also while they were together in that past relationship.\n\nI just need some help as in what should I do, I have told her many times when I feel like she is comparing me against him. I tell her I do not like to be compared but it hasnt stopped. I Feel like because I don't have certain experiences I had to deal with in life she thinks I don't know what I am saying.\n\nWhat should I do to get this stop or is this just a lost cause at this point?", "summary": "I have been together for a little over a year, i still get compared against her ex - What should I do to get this stop or is this just a lost cause at this point?!"}
{"id": "t3_2twxat", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waiting outside of McDonalds for a ride", "post": "I stepped outside cause my phone died, assuming my ride is coming soon. This married couple pull up in the parking lot in two different cars, one after another with a baby inside its stroller(in the dad's car). They both get out and immediately start yelling at each other. I assume they are arguing about the baby, suddenly, the mom hops out the car like she's in a hurry, slaps the fuck out the guy(it's so loud that me and the only other witness turn to look) and then rants and points fingers at him. He doesn't hit back, calls cops and waits.They grab the baby and the baby's stuff, put him in wife's car. The wife then approaches me asking what I see since the only other witness left before I could, I tell her what I'm telling you. She tells me that's her husband, I can safely assume redheaded lady who slapped him is her mother. My ride comes and I ask if they want me to stay. They say no unless I want to, so we leave because that's personal stuff I'm not involved in and the husband is pretty sure McDonalds has cameras that caught it all.", "summary": "I witnessed a woman slap the taste out of a man's mouth in a McDonalds parking lot"}
{"id": "t3_1glz5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26M] with my girlfriend [32F] of over 5 years-I can't get over the trivial age difference...", "post": "I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I could honestly say that I am deeply in love with her. I've never felt so loved and happy before, and I believe that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Our sex life is out of this world, and I can't keep up with her, and we also have a really deep emotional connection. I'm about to ask her to marry me, however, I'm suddenly feeling really hesitant and I think it's because she's 6 years older than me...\n\nMy girlfriend has always been a lot less mature than me, and I think that stems from the fact that she lived a very sheltered life. I was also her first real boyfriend, and she lost her virginity to me. She also looks about 10 years younger than she is, and people are always amazed that she's older than me. In essence, I've always felt like the older, and more mature person in our relationship. We are also in the same place career wise, and we both discussed wanting to have kids in about 3-4 years from now. \n\nDespite this, though, I can't help but worry about our age difference...It feels nonexistent now, but I worry that It'll be evident in the future...At times I think that 6 years is such a small age gap and that my worries are incredibly immature and nonsensical. But at times I feel that our 6 year age difference is something to worry about, maybe not now, but in the future...\n\nI am deeply in love with this girl, and I've never been so physically and emotionally attracted to someone before. I'm about to ask her for marriage, but I can't get rid of the nagging thought that she's older than me.\n\nAm I crazy? Is a 6 year age difference really that big of a deal among adults?", "summary": "I'm about to ask my beautiful girlfriend to marry me, but lately I can't get over the fact that she's 6 years older than me. Are my concerns unjustified?"}
{"id": "t3_50iknr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23/m) think I fell for my best friend (24/f) of 7 years, and I think she has too", "post": "I'm going to try to make this quick. I met \"becca\" in high school when we had a few classes together. We instantly had a connection and became really good friends. We were never both single at the same time, but our friends always said we'd make a good couple, and I'd thought about it before too. \n\nLast weekend we went on a day trip together and she came back to my house that night. All day i felt something pulling me towards her. I had to stop myself from holding her hand and kissing her because it felt like we were already dating. Im not sure if that makes sense, but it just felt right. \n\nThat night we were laying in bed talking about relationships we've had and she told me i need help finding the right kind of girl. I said \"what kind of girl is that\". she responded \"a girl like me\".\n\nThen she said I needed a pros and cons list. We were bouncing pros and cons off of each other and i realized we were just describing our relationship with each other. \n\nI also feel like she's looking at me differently, like deeper, and making excuses to touch me. Like that morning I was laying on my stomach in bed and she laid down on me. I also noticed her giving me some extra compliments and thanking me for small things more than normal.\n\nI cant stop fucking thinking about her now. I cant concentrate at work, i just keep thinking about seeing her again this weekend. Were texting more than normal too. I feel overwhelmed with feelings\n\nBut I'm worried I'm just reading into her actions too much and I'm completely off base. What should I do?", "summary": "(i think) flirting between best friends. Not sure how to handle my feelings"}
{"id": "t3_4wdkmh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I made plans without his consent", "post": "I have been seeing this guy for about 6-7 months now and I feel things are going well between us considering we both have busy lives. We probably see each other at least once a week because I have two jobs that require a lot of my time. \nWhen we do have time together, its usually just watch a movie / make love. \nWe are both adults in our late 20's. \nRecently I have received 2 free tickets to SeaWorld and I asked him if he would be interested in going with me and we can schedule a day off together and go for a change of pace. \nMind you I asked him in a text because its the easiest way for us to communicate. \nHis reply was \"Yeah sure possibly,  but I don't know.\"\nOn that note he told me he used to work there a long time ago, which I did not know being that it was the first time for me to hear that from him. \nWhen I was claiming the free tickets online, it asked for 2 names to claim the tickets. I didn't want to leave it sitting on my phone and knew that it would probably clock it out for being idle so I went ahead and put my name and his on both tickets.\nWhen I told him I did this in a text, his reply was \"Omfg.\"\n\nShould I have not put this kind of pressure on him? I feel bad now :l", "summary": "I goofed and made plans for my boyfriend and myself to go to Seaworld when he didn't completely know if he wanted to. Now I think he's mad at me. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1ywupz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] getting mixed signals from girl I met on POF [20F]", "post": "I've been talking to his girl I met on POF for about a month now. After a week of talking to her she gave me her number, things started off slow for the first couple of days but ever since we've been talking everyday for at least 7 hours. she has a hectic work schedule so getting her to hangout hasn't been easy. She had a couple days off and I asked her if she wanted to hangout but she said she had dinner with her mom but when we spoke that day she didn't bring it up so I thought he might have given me the run around, maybe I'm over thinking the situation. When I ask her to hangout I try and use the word date but she doesn't give it much acknowledgement. We were talking about working out and the gym etc, I mention I had a six pack and she told me she has a \"thing\" for abs and asked me to send her a picture but I did not oblige. So my worry is that I'm in the friendzone and I'm wasting my time. Any advice on how I can figure out if we're on the same page without being too forward.\n\nOne thing of note, when we talk about hanging out she seems very down to notion of hanging out and says she wants too. Also her being a catfish seems very unlikely because we've added each other on facebook, we have mutual friends and it all seems legit.", "summary": "Met a girl on POF talking everyday for hours but when it comes to hanging out things don't work out."}
{"id": "t3_150kp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[M24] am dating an woman[F19] and friend's with an an ex's family.", "post": "I have seen a lot of posts on here about being the ex-gf in these situations, and none of them are too positive on the bf.  \n\nWhat are your thoughts on not only having both of these relationships, but the fact that they will likely meet each other? I do not see/associate with the ex-gf at all, but am very close to everyone else (brothers[8,14,22], father[42], mother[41]). It is probable we'll hang out and do things together in the future, without the ex[f25]. \n\nIs this a receipt for disaster and I'm just not seeing it? People around me haven't been able to properly describe why this would or wouldn't end well. Just that \"it's...\" with no follow-up. Am I worried about nothing?", "summary": "Friend's with an ex's family, especially mother, and they've all shown interest in wanting to meet my new gf. I have no contact with the ex."}
{"id": "t3_33sqmr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25M) worried about my (19F) girlfriend who seems to be putting in no effort anymore.", "post": "Been with my 19 girlfriend officially for 3 months tomorrow. Had a bit of a rough patch the last month and we've both acknowledged things have flatlined a bit. I've been going through a bit of depression and she's been stressed with school.\n\nTwo weeks ago we went on holiday and things didn't go amazing. Basically we didn't talk for almost the week after because we both kinda needed a break from each other.\n\nAfter that week, we started talking things out and I opened up about my depression and explained to her about it and she seemed to be understanding. But ever since our conversations have been very one sided, as if she has stopped putting effort in. She asked to catch up a few days ago which gave me hope but bailed last minute because she didn't want to get caught in traffic.\n\nWe've talked since but once again has been one sided. As it's our 3 month anniversary, I suggested a date for tomorrow. Nothing major, for only an hour or two (figured she has study), but she's kinda blown me off so she can do assignments. Which is fair enough but surely an hour couldn't hurt.\n\nSo basically I'm at a point of confusion. I'm putting in effort to try and fix things and do right by her but seeing no results. So I'm wondering if I should keep at it or just let her go?\n\nAlso, I'm confused by her actions. If she doesn't want to be with me, why not just tell me? Like, why ask to catch up and keep talking to me? Is there a way I can connect with her or should I just be up front?", "summary": "Relationship flatlined, we had a few disagreements - nothing major. Didn't talk and had a break for a week. Tried putting effort in to reconnect but she's not putting any effort in and giving mixed signals. Now I'm confused and looking for advice?"}
{"id": "t3_217444", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and a girl [20F], been talking for a few months. Just found out she has a boyfriend??? Help.", "post": "A very quick backstory..\n\nI met a girl about 10 months ago and we talked for about an hour but never got any contact info. I never saw her again until a few months ago, where she remembered me somehow and we exchanged numbers.\n\nWe've been friendly/flirtacious, and feel very comfortable and connected to each other.\n\nWe hung out the other week and I kissed her. She started crying and saying \"you're going to hate me\" and admitted she had been seeing someone for about 6 months. She says she felt so shocked when I came back into her life and basically has been falling for me and didn't know what to do. \n\nShe says she feels like shit because the guy she's with is a \"nice guy\", but she feels strongly for me. I told her she needs to choose and she says she knows.\n\nShe still hasn't broken up with him, nor stopped talking to me. \n\nI'm confused and a little hurt. I was hoping you could answer some questions for me.\n\nIs it possible that she really likes me and this is some rare case? She told me she never cheated before and now she feels horrible and doesn't know what to do because he's nice and all, but she really wants to be with me too? \n\nShould I just keep stressing that she has to make a choice? \nIt's painful because she and I honestly get along so well and feel like we've known each other forever/etc... literally perfect situation other than the other guy. \n\nShould I just say \"if you want to be with me, then break up with him first\"? And then how do I know she won't cheat on me? She doesn't seem like that kind of person and is brutally honest with me about her past and stuff.. so I think it's really a one time thing, but I'm cautious. \n\nHas anyone had an experience where they fell for someone else while in a relationship and it turned out alright?", "summary": "Girl and I want to be together, she has a BF, scared to break up with him because \"he's nice\". What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_272yjb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[16M] bestfriend's[16F] boyfriend[16M] just answered her phone when I called...", "post": "So skip past how much she means to me and how I think I might love her. Shes my world.. etc. I called her after work last monday. He answeres. As in he took her phone and said hello. First off like what the fuck man who does that. Anyway he called me a string of names. Accused me of abuse and hurting her Mentally. Told me I had no heart and to just leave her alone forever. Ive known her forever. She is my reason to live. I do nothing but listen and confort her. We have so much fun hanging out. We have fun going out to see movies and kicking it at the park and stuff. We watch movies. \n\nWe do everything. We talk about everything. She hasnt texted or called in a week. I think he might have convinced her Im not a good guy. Im confused and Im so depressed. I can barely get thru work. Im sitting in my room writing poetry for her like a maniac. I dont want to be around my family. I just want to be alone and think and write.", "summary": "Called my best friend. Her boyfriend answered andtold me to fuck off."}
{"id": "t3_2eqos8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What is good sex etiquette around my [27/m] conservative christian housemates [28/m] and [20/m]?", "post": "I've been living with one of my housemates for about 4 years now and we have a pretty good relationship. We met when I was big into evangelical Christianity and had a lot of mutual friends through conservative christian circles. Over the past couple years I have grown and distanced myself from those ideologies, but still have a lot of the same friends.\n\nAnyways, last year my friend bought a house and I moved in with him and his brother. I know that he understands that I've changed but I don't think he knows the full extent. I want to have sex (should the opportunity arise) with women that I'm interested in, but I know that he would not approve and would see it as wrong/sinful. But I'm not sure if he would outright ban it from his house.\n\nWhat should I do? \n\nTalk to him about it and see what he thinks with him probably saying he doesn't approve and/or won't allow it in his house? Either way I think this would create a lot of (potentially unnecessary) tension. \n\nOr should I just be discreet? Do it when he is not home or so he can't hear? And beg for forgiveness later if he finds out?\n\nI don't really want to move out, but I guess I might consider it more seriously if it got in the way of what I would consider part of a healthy relationship.", "summary": "Have two christian housemates (one owns the house). We each have our own rooms. If I have a lady friend over what should we do about sexy times? I know at the very least my housemates wouldn't approve of my behavior. Should I talk to housemates ahead of time? Stay in my room and be discreet?"}
{"id": "t3_3y9fqv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Our holidays we never had together, even when we are just an hour away now after being far, far apart all our lives...", "post": "I moved here early thinking I was going to spend Halloween with a friend of mine who had always wanted to hang out with me our entire lives, but because we were always too far away, we never got to really happen and now that we are an hour away..did that happen?  NOPE!\n\nToday is Christmas and I imagined giving and opening presents having our first holiday together after we have been far apart all these years...did that happen? NOPE!\n\nNew Years is in a few days...and I'm not going to expect a so-called \"friend\" to be my New Year's kiss, either.\n\nYou know what, it's totally okay...because these dudes at my work, if I play my cards right with some of them are much better looking than my so-called \"friend.\"  They're younger, nearby, and would want to hang out after they get to know me a little bit -- not just hanging out with me in person a few times, but actually hanging out with me.\n\nI don't get someone who says he had a fun time with me every time we hung out the handful of times we hung out -- over all it was a fun time when he wasn't giving me shit, either, but then he doesn't ask me more to hang out.  An hour away isn't anything, especially when we ride the transit and no one drives.\n\nI'm hoping something works out with K or A at work -- either one who are both more relaxing and not as tense to be around as my so-called \"friend.\"", "summary": "I have no reason to spend my holidays alone now that my so-called \"friend\" who I thought always wanted each other is an hour away.  Oh well.  Some lucky guy who knows what he has when he has it will be lucky to have me.  And yet, I'm still spending my holidays without a bae."}
{"id": "t3_3gbib8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do girls that say they \"just want to play around/the field\" etc, really mean it?", "post": "There's this girl [26] who is out of a 2 year relationship where her ex was cheating on her. It's been about 5 months.  \n  \nI've [27/m] had a few nights with her, we chatted a bit about what she wants etc, and I've not said I want a relationship (though she might have interpreted this) and she's basically said she just wants to \"kiss all the boys\" or flirt with everyone now that's she's single.  \n  \nShe's still flirting with me, and definitely conflicted as to what she wants as we may have a plan to have a night together but then all of a sudden it's called off (not in a beating round the bush way, just \"I think this may complicate things so it may not be a good idea\" way.)  \n  \n\nI'm at wits end with what to do - tell her I really like her and would like to keep hanging out, with no expectations of a relationship or anything more serious than being friends who've shared a few nights together... or walk away and close the door on anything happening, i.e. stop flirting and just be friends.    \n  \nWe had planned to talk about this since the last time it was called off, but neither of us have raised a time or place to discuss it.  \n  \nI feel like bringing the issue up etc puts me in a bad position and may make her want to avoid me.  I'd really appropriate any insight or thoughts on the matter.", "summary": "Hooked up with a friend who continues to flirt with me but says she doesn't want a relationship but wants to \"kiss all the boys\". what do?"}
{"id": "t3_4py79w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] had sex with my gf[22f] for the first time. Scared of getting her pregnant", "post": "Hey, 2 days ago I had sex for the first time in my life. My partner and I did use protection namely condoms. I put it accordingly to instructions and from what I've seen it didn't break and nothing has leaked from it, so after sex I felt confident that nothing happened. The next day I asked her whether she is during her \"fertile window\", and she said no, which further reassured me.\n\nNow I know that it's hard to actually get a girl pregnant and I shouldn't worry about this when we used protection but now, one day after, I'm still super nervous whenever I think about this. We most likely will be having more regular sex from now on, but I'm scared of pregnancy (I'm not exactly ready to be a father yet and I don't even know whether I will want to have a child at all in the future) and I don't think I can have piv sex when she doesn't use any additional birth control (I asked her once before sex whether she uses any). I'm sure she is not going out with other guys (otherwise she would have told me, in our culture we usually date only one person at a time).  I don't want to feel this terrible fear and anxiety any time we have sex and I'd rather not have sex at all than to be a father now.\n\nI thought about asking her the next time we meet face to face about going to a doctor and getting 2nd birth control. Do you guys think that it's a good idea and how to approach it? I would happily share the cost of any birth control method. Or are condoms enough and I'm just overreacting? I know that when used properly then there is only a very small chance of getting a woman pregnant, but it still scares me.\n\nThanks for the answers!", "summary": "Had sex for the first time, we used condoms properly, still have anxiety about pregnancy"}
{"id": "t3_zubta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20/f, 21/f. Friends, Known each other 10 years. I cannot stand her but I feel like I'm stuck with her", "post": "We always had an amiable relationship. She's like that family member you love because you have to. I have to be her friend. I've tried many times in the past 2 years to cut all contact with her. She is a victimizing manipulator. She has a degenerative brain disease but it's going to take 2 decades to impair her. But she's always using it as her excuse. She's never been very bright, but now she uses the disease as an excuse to say/do things that are inexcusable. She is rude, mean, jealous, and irrational. She calls me her best friend because I am the only person who pretends to like her because i feel bad for her. Her boyfriend feels the same way. Our \"group\" was getting high the other day and when she walked away he asked me, \"do you ever feel like you're stuck with her?\" I ignored him because I wasn't about to slander her name, I do care for her. But yes, I feel stuck. And ever since he said that, I feel this responsibility to stay in her life because I know the only other consistent person in her life feels the way I do. I can pretend to be her friend, but I'm slowly beginning to hate her. What should I do? I know deep down she's good, but most of the time I can only see the bad. I feel like she's bringing me down. She is so fucking dumb and bigoted. When Im around her, I feel like there's a brain cell genocide occurring. What should I do, if anything at all? Sorry if I sound like an asshole.", "summary": "I'm labeled her best friend, but I don't feel that I am. I don't like her but her bf showed a dislike for her and now I feel responsible for her happiness and I feel that I need to stay friends with her."}
{"id": "t3_25neoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex bf 30/m confusing me 31/f please give advice", "post": "Please help decipher my ex bfs actions? So my ex bf came over my house the other day to give me a gift he got me when he was in Spain.\n\nThe whole time he was sorta flirty & then sat super close to me on the couch. He stayed and watched tv for a while then before leaving he held my hand and kissed me! We kissed a lot! To the point where I thought we may have sex.\nThen he said \" we don't have meaningless sex\" then he said I looked really good. He really almost stayed. (we didn't talk for almost a year after the breakup.)\nHe's been going to school full time but I'm just confused as to what the hell is going on. Then after he left since that day he texts me daily. I do still love him and he knows this. What do I do? We have only been speaking again for a few months. We dated for 81/2 years.", "summary": "Please help decipher ex bfs behavior"}
{"id": "t3_juw5g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone please help me fix my micro SD card?", "post": "Ok so here's the situation. I got a nook color and I liked it. Then I got the SanDisk SD card for it, an 8gig card.\n\nThen I experimented with Nook honey or whatever it was called, and it worked fine, put in the card and the nook boots into nook honey. Then I took the card out and put it away so I could boot the nook up normally. \n\nSo the nook gets full and I decide I want to wipe the card and just use it as normal for now. And.. I pop it in and it says \"boot\" and it's only 117mb. I tried to reformat it and it still says it's only 113mb usable. This is an 8 gig card.", "summary": "I turned an 8gig microSD card into a 113mb card, how can I fix the card back to new?"}
{"id": "t3_3ubpz2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) had sex, conservative family may want to end relationship with me", "post": "Okay so using a throwaway here for privacy reasons, will try to keep it short. I come from a super conservative family. I (21F) never really bought into it and really decided I want no part in it when I left for University. Was taught that sex was for marriage and procreation purposes my entire life. \nI had sex with my boyfriend. I really do love my family. Parents completely support me and pay for my very expensive university. I respect them, cutting them off is not an option. Now that I am an adult my family semi-supports me taking my own path. They think I will come around to their way of thinking eventually, but are okay with me exploring in the meantime. I thought this meant I could tell my mom that BF and I had sex. BIG BIG mistake. She absolutely freaks out and starts bawling. Can't even look at me and just keeps saying she is disgusted and sickened by me. Calls my dad and sisters home and tell them, they all react the same. They are now calling the pastor and family and asking everyone to fast and pray for me. \nI am not sorry for having sex with my boyfriend. It is something beautiful that we share and to degrade it and me pisses me off to no end. I do not want to apologize. I want us to just agree to disagree, but now I am tainted in their eyes. No longer pure and worthy of God to bless me. They are too disgusted with me to want me around. Waiting for me to confess wrongdoing and beg for forgiveness.\nSo, WTF am I supposed to do now? Do I bite my tongue and apologize for my sin? Stand my ground and cause unknown amounts of damage to our relationship?", "summary": "I had sex; conservative family sees me as tainted and evil. Unsure whether to apologize to preserve relationship."}
{"id": "t3_yvr4w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone have a copy of Sylvia Plath's Letters Home?", "post": "This is a long shot, but I'm pretty desperate. I was given the book list for this class a week before classes started but my loans (which I needed in order to afford my $600 worth of books for classes) didn't come in until the end of the first week of classes, this past Friday. When I went to pick up my books, they told me at the store that it was a book I needed to pre-order. I have class this Tuesday again, which I need to read pages 334-347 for. \n\nIt's a stupid and frustrating story about an average college student struggle, but my professor was unsympathetic. The book is checked out of the library and I can't find it online. \n\nSo I'm wondering Reddit: can anyone summarize those pages/scan them for me/point me to a website where I can read them? Thanks!!", "summary": "I need pages 334-347 of Plath's Letter's Home, edited by Aurelia Plath!"}
{"id": "t3_3jkq29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[17F] and I[18M] are having relationship troubles stemming from insecurity.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months now, but have been almost best friends for a year now. We instantly clicked romantically and emotionally. We also have a lot of the same interests. We're currently in an LDR situation, but will most likely be over once I transfer schools (unrelated topic, just hate the school I am at) in about 3 months.\n\nI've always been a very reserved and insecure person. Crazy mother who left me and my family high and dry is the likely culprit. I just never let anyone close enough to see that. My girlfriend and I had been fine while we were together, but now that we are away I keep questioning if she really loves me still and if she still wants to be together. I don't even know why. She tells me everyday that she does and that she loves me and calms my fears, but I can see it starting to wear thin on her. I am visiting her over Labor Day and I hope that it will get better. Any tips to stop me from destroying my own relationship?", "summary": "I am an insecure man who is destroying his relationship singlehandedly."}
{"id": "t3_348tm2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She ended it", "post": "So my girlfriend (17f) of about 10 months ended it tonight. It was the best relationship I(18m) could ever ask for. She has been dealing with issues regarding her sexuality and with a therapist ultimately decided she needed to be alone for a while. And I understand and support her. I want to remain good friends with her and she says the same. How do we go about this and how do I feel better? I'm not mad at her. I'm just very upset that it had to end. She was one of my best friends during the relationship and I don't want that to change.", "summary": "best girlfriend i could ever ask for dumps me on good terms for self discovery. We both really wanna be friends still. What's the nest course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_4p8xqe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 /F] interested on my surf instructor [22] was he interested or not?", "post": "So let's just say that I ended up catching feelings for my surfing instructor. We aren't even far in age he is only 2 years younger than me- in a way,  it's a little of a little set back for me because i feel like a cougar. But anyways, our time spent together during our surf session is ALWAYS AMAZING! I really felt the connection with him, I could totally see him being both my best friend and a boyfriend. \n\nHe's very encouraging and even went out of his way to make sure I got it all in my camera since i'm so into photography and stuff. This Sunday our session is done and so I texted him 2 days later. \n\nAt first it was about surfing. I sent him a copy of our surfing that he recorded.I was flirting  a bit too with my texting while keeping the surf aspect of it (if you guys know what I mean) He was going along with it so I then tried to geared it away from the surf topic and I finally said, \"Curious, what are you doing right now?\"\n\nHis response: I'm just hanging about to hit the hay soon, got surfing class tomorrow! \nHe didn't even asked about what I was up to, or initiated anything else", "summary": "what do you guys think? I mean if you were a guy wouldn't that be a chance to keep the convo with the girl going?"}
{"id": "t3_1hen3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [20F] wants to buy a pricey bit of jewelry and it's affecting me [21M] more than it should.", "post": "We both have vacations coming up in the next few months. I'm going to India, she's going to America. She doesn't have much money saved up and I know her holiday is going to be a splurge and shopping spree at best, and I'm fine with that. However, she recently received a large bonus from her work, to the sum of about $3,000. I told her it'd be smart to pay off her debt and use the rest as savings for her trip, but I know she's already spent a few hundred on clothing and has bought me a gift as well. Now she keeps mentioning this ring she's interested in, it's about $400 and to me it looks just like any other ring but I guess that's just because I'm a guy.\n\nThis is affecting me way more then it should, I know I have a right to be mad in that she's being financially irresponsible. But it feels like the tip of the iceberg in a line of things that have being happening in our relationship. I think with me psyching myself up for India and knowing what it's like over there, it's got me thinking how much $400 could do, but instead it's just going towards a small round piece of metal?\n\nIt's got me thinking about the future quite a bit, will it always be like this? Shes always known about my plans of extensive travel and volunteering in the future and wants to be apart of them with me, but she's showing no signs of it. Her eyes light up when she sees the next best thing in the shop or on tv, and I could not care less about anything like that. Surely I'm overreacting right?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants $400 ring but has more important things to spend the money on, has got me really worried about our financial future together."}
{"id": "t3_105aw8", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Just bought my first puppy and I'm completely clueless as to why she is acting the way she is.", "post": "I've always owned cats but in the last week I have bought an 8 week yorkshire terrier. She really didn't seem to suffer separation anxiety from being taken away from her litter mates and has settled into the household lovely\n\nThe thing that's confusing me is I don't work and am in the house with her all day. Playing with her, looking after her and spoiling her rotten. Yet she seems to be much more interested in visitors and my son when he comes in from school. Ok, so i imagine that could be because she sees me all day. The thing I find extremely upsetting is that when I let her out of her crate in the morning and say hello to her she crawls towards me on her tummy and seems scared. Shes not shaking but the crawling seems a bit strange. I've definitely never ever hurt her neither deliberately or accidentally and I would love some insight as to why shes behaving this way.", "summary": "8 week old puppy crawls on her belly army style to greet me but doesn't do it to anyone else. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_3d9xcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] and my cousin [23F] have the same due date. She just lost her baby today at 36 weeks. How do I comfort her?", "post": "My cousin and I (both 23 F) have been very close most of our lives. We grew up together and have a good relationship. Well we both got pregnant at the same time. We have the exact same due date (August 7th). This is my second pregnancy (I have a 2 year old son) and it's her first. We were excited that our kids were going to grow up together and always compared bellies. \n\nShe texted me yesterday saying that she was worried because the baby wasn't moving. She went in and they found a heart beat and decided to send her in for a stress test. I just got a phone call from our grandmother saying that she had lost the baby. \n\nMy heart is completely broken for her. I want so badly to be there for her and grieve with her but I'm not sure how. I don't want to make her uncomfortable. How can I show my support without upsetting her?", "summary": "My cousin and I have the same due date and are set to give birth August 7th. She lost her baby today. How do I comfort her?"}
{"id": "t3_y6907", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to make things less awkward and being more  approachable?", "post": "23M here, I went out with an 18F at work on a successful first date and after a few times of no replies, I knew she wasn't interested anymore so I played it cool and went about my day whenever I saw her.\n\nHere's the thing though, its been 3-4 weeks and it gradually went to the point where I'm not moping around anymore, but things sort of gets awkward when co-workers are around. She doesn't ignore me at all when others are present and we both talk from time to time. But it just feels like having conversations with her around feels tense and bringing up small talk feels weird. I've always felt during those times for sure she sees me differently now and perhaps been talking about it to her close friend at work too (that could be over thinking it too much?)\n\nI'm really lost here and been bothering one too many people about this issue, just need some advice on making it through the month.(She's leaving for school.)\nI do know the rules of not dating someone from work(yet, I did...), wasn't needy but I was clear where I was going with her(asking her out without misdirection).", "summary": "making awkward conversations with girl and co-workers, need advice on reducing the awkwardness."}
{"id": "t3_mejh0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever saved someone's life or had an otherwise heroic moment? Brag here.", "post": "I'll start. \n\nOne particularly hot Florida summer day (105+ F) my mom had picked me up from day camp and we set out to do some errands when we saw a red pickup weaving in and out of traffic. The driver was swerving all over the place, half in the other lane (2 lane highway), generally being reckless. It made its way a good bit ahead of us, angering basically every surrounding driver in the process, and then pulled over onto the shoulder of the road. My mom and I glared as we drove by only to see the driver crouched over, clutching his head in agony. We quickly pulled off the road, along with another driver, and tried to talk to the man but he just mumbled incoherently and was largely disoriented. He then got out of his truck and began to stumble into traffic, ignoring the other person offering him some water. He managed to cross the road, but by the time we could get across and follow him, he was nowhere to be found. We called the cops anyway, and waited for them to arrive and gave a statement and our contact information. Then we went about our errands, as we thought they had it under control. About 45 minutes later, we drive by the same spot on the way home and see the fire truck still there. We stopped to speak to them and they told us they couldn't find the guy and were about to leave, so my mom, being super thorough at everything she does, decided we should just drive through the surrounding neighborhoods and give it one more look, just in case and lo and behold, there he is passed out under a tree in someone's front yard. We let the cops know and they came and got him. Fast forward a few hours and one of the initial responders called to tell us that the man was a diabetic and his blood sugar had been dangerously low and he was slipping into a coma when we found him. Had we not spotted him, it's likely he would have died in the heat and then he thanked us for helping out. Made 11 year old me glow with pride all day.", "summary": "Asshole driver turned out to be having major health problem, after he wandered off, I found him when the cops couldn't and he got medical treatment and lived. "}
{"id": "t3_22cgeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've put myself in a corner and don't know what to do", "post": "There's this guy (m18) who I've (f17) been chasing for 5 years. I've had a few boyfriends over that timespan who I've left because I just can't get over this one guy. Over the last year, we've become best friends and hang out all the time. The thing is, he has a girlfriend now. His girlfriend absolutely hates me because he would rather hang out with me than her. He has talked about breaking up with her with me, but I don't know if I should take the chance to try and make something more of our friendship. \n\nBut here's where the tricky part is. I feel like I've sent off the wrong signals to him, as in the friend zone. I'm scared that when I tell him how I feel, he'll be very shocked and tell me that he hasn't ever felt the same way. Another thing, I've recently dated his best friend. I'm not sure if his group of friends have a \"guy code,\" but it's a possible assumption. \n\nI just don't know what to do at all. I've been stuck for so long now and I feel like I need to finally figure out what's going on between us. I have no idea how to approach the issue or if I ever even should. Please and thank you for the help, Reddit!", "summary": "I've been in love with my best friend for 5 years but don't know how to tell him how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_azdny", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Please help reddit! Someone is trying to take my identity.", "post": "Recently, I have been getting random Facebook messages from people whom I've never spoken to before. It started off with someone messaging me and saying that they've spoken to me before and have viewed a craigslist ad that \"I\" have put up. So after doing some more investigating, it seems that someone has made a Photobucket using my information, and getting pictures off my Facebook and MySpace. They have also made a craigslist ad, posting these pictures up, and telling them to contact \"me\" via AIM with the screen name \"ravergirl1991\".\n\nThe craigslist ad has been flagged for removal, so before I was able to see anything that was posted, it was flagged. All the information I know is based off of what the person who messaged me via Facebook had told me. \n\nNow, people I do not know are messaging me nonstop, and some of the messages have been threatening, and now I fear for my safety, even out in public. I have no idea who would do this to me, nor why.\n\nSo all I have now is the Photobucket account whomever made to take my identity and to put me out there. Given the photobucket account, would anyone be able to do anything?\n\nSo please reddit! Is there anything that anyone can do, such as find an IP address or trace it somehow? Every little thing, no matter how small, would be much obliged", "summary": "someone is trying to be \"me\", taking my pictures and posting them on a website, speaking to other people pretending to be me, I feel like I'm in danger."}
{"id": "t3_4lvzvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my flatmate [31 F]. I think I've been getting cowed by her anger issues.", "post": "This is kinda complicated so bear with me.\nI got home from a two week vacation to the house being a huge mess. It was kind of a bummer as I do a lot to maintain the house while I'm here. My flatmate woke up, I asked how she was doing, and she said fine. I told her it was kind of a shitty to come home to the house a huge mess. It was around 8 am and she got a little frazzled, so I said we should just talk about it later. Also, I was kinda upset and wanted to cool down a bit. Apparently, this was the exact worst thing to do. When I talked to her later (Like 30 minutes, perhaps?) she was furious - tears, shaking voice, really mad. She said how frustrating it was to have the conversation shut down.\n\nI don't feel like I was adding fuel to the angry fire. It seems more to me that it was her doing. This isn't the first time this has happened. I've heard her getting really mad at her boyfriend in the morning for not making coffee right. Like, I can hear panic in her voice. One time, earlier on in our tenancy, I heard them fighting about making breakfast and I - thinking they were play-fighting - told them to shut up. She promptly yelled at me to \"Shut the fuck up\".\n\nThis is also something that I've noticed in conversations with her where she will suddenly get angry if someone disagrees with her on a point.\n\nThe thing is, she's very sweet when she's not mad so when she gets angry it's quite surprising so I usually apologize for whatever happened just to get past it. Does anybody have any advice for how to call out this behavior?", "summary": "I think my flatmate might have anger problems."}
{"id": "t3_2q5qoj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [25 M] being too clingy towards [19 F] after first date?", "post": "I went out with this girl a week ago and we seemed to really hit it off.  We talked for a long time and she even agreed to meet up again.  I texted her a few hours after the date and she replied in about 20 minutes saying she had a great time.  I've been texting her everyday after that, just random messages checking in with her and seeing how she's doing because we won't be able to see each other in person for a few weeks and I don't want it to die down.  It's taking her longer and longer to respond, but I really like this girl.  \nBe honest, am I coming off too strong?\n\nAlso, how often do you like to be contacted after a first date??", "summary": "I've been texting this girl everyday after the first date, she seemed to be really into it but now her responses are taking a lot longer.  Am I being too clingy, or am I overthinking this?  How often do you like to be contacted after a first date??"}
{"id": "t3_4k27ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] found a naked picture of my husband [27M] that someone else took", "post": "My husband and I have been together since college. I was going through old pictures on our computer and I found this one naked picture of him from years ago. It's a picture of him standing there, dick in one hand, trying to grab the camera with the other, in the middle of saying something. It was obviously taken by someone. I can't figure out where it is because the flash was on the the room behind him in the pictures is dark. I know that we were together when the photo was taken because he wasn't that muscular before we started dating. \n\nI asked him about it and he swears that I took the picture and it was taken in our old apartment. I know it was a long time ago but I am certain that I didn't take the picture. There's no metadata for me to see what kind of camera it was taken on or anything so it's just his word against mine. From the size of the photo I can assume it was taken on his old digital camera because it matches up with other pictures he has from then. I also barely ever used his camera because I liked mine more. \n\nIt's been bothering me a lot and I can't stop thinking about it. I asked him last night if it's possible anyone saw him naked and took a picture and he said no at first but later said that maybe his old college friend (who is a woman) took it when he was changing, but he doesn't remember if he was ever naked around her. It seems very clear to me that he wasn't changing in that photo, he has a huge boner and is holding it. And even if he was just changing, why would he be doing that in front of her? \n\nI used to be so insecure about their friendship because she seemed like she was really into him but he swore nothing ever happened between them so I eventually learned to live with it. They don't talk anymore because we moved away. \n\nEverything is telling me that something is off here but I have no way of finding out so I'm really upset. Does this seem off to anyone else?", "summary": "I found a naked picture of my husband on our computer that I didn't take, he swears I did and said its possible that his \"friend\" took it when he was changing."}
{"id": "t3_2ycy6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My (16/f) friends dad (50s?/m) has been coming onto me really aggressively and I'm very very uncomfortable around him.", "post": "Original:\n\nYesterday morning, I talked to one of my sisters and told her about everything and showed her texts.  Luckily she believed me and I asked her not to tell our parents because I wanted to just tell my mom but hadn't had a moment alone with her enough to tell her.\n\nLater that day my friend, his dad and his dads wife came over to our house and I had to walk past him for something and he put his arm around my shoulder in a \"joking\" way and when I pushed him off he acted really hurt and pretended he had no idea why I would react that way. My sister saw and heard what he was saying and confronted him about everything in front of everyone. \n\nOf course he denied it and said that I was the one who started flirting with him and hitting on him. Then my dad came into it and things escalated really really quickly. He and my dad were arguing and he made a comment to my dad about how it was my parents fault overall for raising a slut who thought it was okay to lead older men on and my dad hit him and they started fighting (why I didn't want to tell my dad). They threatened to press charges against my dad for it, but I'm not sure if they actually did or actually will since nothing has happened yet. \n\nLater last night after things had calmed down some,  my parents and I talked and I told them what all had happened and showed them the texts and they said that they would see what they could do about it. \n\nUltimately I'm happy that it came out and that I won't have to deal with it anymore, but I really wished that it had t happened like that because now my dad may get arrested/go to jail and that's specifically what I was trying to avoid.", "summary": "I told my sister who told everyone and my dad got into a fight after I was called a slut, but hasn't been arrested yet."}
{"id": "t3_23fm7c", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My girlfriends dog was housebroken and now keeps pooping in the house.", "post": "My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. \n\nThis is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please.", "summary": "girlfriends dog used to be housebroken and now isn't and doesn't seem to know it's wrong to do that anymore"}
{"id": "t3_2kauk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my...idk [19 F] Just not sure what to do.", "post": "Went on vacation 1 1/2 years ago\n\nMet an amazing girl\n\nSpent a lot of time together\n\nHad to leave\n\nWe had agreed it would be ok to see other people\n\nBut we keep in contact and talk about how much we miss each other all the time\n\nStill have feelings for her\n\nShe just entered a relationship recently\n\nIt bothers me\n\nIdk if I should tell her how I feel or if I am just idealizing something we had and should move on.", "summary": "Still have feelings for someone, never really had closure, they're with someone else, should I tell them how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_50phn0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by melting an Irish Guy's teapot and destroying his stove.", "post": "So, this TIFU happened about an hour ago. But first, a little background. My mom, brother and I are on a trip to Ireland for a week, and so we're currently staying in an AirBnB in Belfast. We got lost around Craigavon and got there around 45 minutes late, so I'm sure we weren't exactly on his good side already. Anyway, he shows us around his house, and he leaves. I go and take a nap, while my mom hangs out down stairs. I wake up a few hours later and come down, groggily stumbling down the stairs. My mom asks me to boil some water for tea, and here's where the f*** up happens. I put the pot on the stove, not realizing that it was a speed-boiler thing that heats up on it's own little platform. So, after a little while, my mom goes to pour the water in the tea cups. As she picks up the pot, a sticky black goop begins to ooze off of the bottom of the pot. Imagine a black goop the consistency of laffytaffy, emitting smoke and fumes. Not a good idea. Anyway, the melted plastic is now all over the stove.", "summary": "stupid American accidentally puts a speed-boiler on the stove, melts the pot and ruins the stove."}
{"id": "t3_462prs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a nap", "post": "So like all other TIFU this didnt happen today. I did have one last night about me ripping my pants at work and exposing my junk but thats a story for another time. \n\nThis story goes back about 2 years ago while I was still in High School. I loved the movie Ted.\n\nThe summer before starting my senior year I travel to go stay with my sister and her family. My sister has three kids between the ages of 3-7. \n\nOne day I am tired as hell while the kids are playing so I tell my sister Im going to go lay down for a few (the kids playroom is across from my room I was staying in), and if they needed anything to just wake me up.\n\nI turn on my playstation and start up my Ted UNRATED edition, and fall asleep. I was woken up about 45 minutes late from my nieces sitting on the bed with the youngest trying to do makeup on me (which she succeeded in doing). I then ask them to leave the room that this is a bad movie, turns out their mom thought instead of sleeping, I decided to play and watch a movie with them.\n\nFast forward about 2 weeks, we all travel to my house in two different cars in a downpour. Im in the car ahead of them just passing through Richmond when my phone goes off, I answer the call from my sister screaming at me saying what the fuck did I let them watch? I asked what she was talking about and it turns out the middle child during the thunder storm starting singing the fucking Thunder buddies song with yes you guessed it \"FUCK YOU THUNDER YOU CAN SUCK MY DICK\".\n\n My nieces now all claim we are thunder buddies though", "summary": "fell asleep watching Ted, nieces watched it, sang the thunder buddies song and told the thunder to suck a dick."}
{"id": "t3_1c8o5f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors who have lost weight, I am in need of some advice.", "post": "Hey guys thanks in advance for stopping by and reading this, to get started I am a 24yr old Male about to hit 25 and I'm 5'10\" and 300lbs. I have been attempting to reduce my weight for quite sometime now but I can't seem to get anywhere, I have been trying since December of last year till now but nothing has changed. I've gone to the gym from time to time but my motivation to go keeps leaving and coming back...more leaving than coming back. I have tried to eat right but it doesn't stick, I tend to over eat A LOT and by that I mean I know I should stop but I keep going back for more. I'm just wondering what are some advises that you can give me to portion my intake and help me get rid of this hill I call my stomach.", "summary": "I be fat and I need help."}
{"id": "t3_r4six", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm feel like I'm losing my best friend...", "post": "So my best friend started hanging out with this girl who is in two of her classes. They hang out at each others house at least 2 times a week and they seem to get along so well. I'm happy she has other good friends, but it gets worse. The girl she became friends with is a terrible influence. She got my best friend into drugs (ie. 2ce,Acid,Weed,Ecstasy), Alcohol, And stealing. The isn't an every once in a while thing either, it's all of the time, every time they're together. My friend wants me to do these things to, but I resist knowing that drugs mostly lead to nowhere, if not somewhere bad, and I have plans to go to college. I feel like she thinks the other girl understand her more, but we've been friends since elementary school, and I don't want to lose her.", "summary": "I feel like I'm losing my best friend of 5 years to a druggie."}
{"id": "t3_2ufn7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F] of 2.3 years. She slept in the bed with a guy friend", "post": "Hi /r/relationships I need some help. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. She lives in a dorm at a Uni and I live off campus at the same Uni. \n\nAnyways she has some guy friends that I don't like. One guy in particular, but I don't let it bother me too much. Anyway, he came up for the weekend to hangout with her and do some other stuff, and at the end of the night, they slept in the same bed together.\n\nI feel uncomfortable about this. Is it something I should feel uncomfortable about? She is just friends with him, but I know if he got the chance, he would probably sleep with her.", "summary": "Girlfriend slept in the same bed with a guy friend. I feel uncomfortable. Should I be feeling this? Am I being a pansy or what?"}
{"id": "t3_1obsr3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "To the healthy SO, in a relationship where the other person is terminally/chronically ill. Have you ever felt that your partner keeping their condition quiet when you first started dating was a setup, or like you were tricked?", "post": "I'm a little stumped as to how I should go about this. I am 23(f) and I have Cystic Fibrosis. CF is a genetic condition that causes progressive, chronic lung, and digestive disease, and is often fatal. I am very healthy right now, but for me, healthy involves hours of daily treatments, and a TON of medications. My life expectancy is about 40. \n\nThe thing is, I don't look sick. So when going out on dates, I don't bring it up. There is a big part of me that feels like it is my business, but another that also feels like keeping this detail a secret is sneaky. \n\nSo, to the healthy partner in a relationship with a chronically/terminally ill SO, did you ever feel like you were tricked into loving this person? Do you resent them for keeping it a secret at first?", "summary": "Is it wrong of me to keep that I have Cystic Fibrosis from people I am dating?"}
{"id": "t3_3om9kr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[21M] missing the baseball game tomorrow to impress an old friend[21F] I ran into who I might be interested in", "post": "So there's this girl I've liked for a long time back in elementary to high school. She moved away and it took me a while to 'get over her'. I recently ran into her in college and found out she's in a club and told me I should come out. I started thinking, this might be my chance to introduce her to the 'new me' and get to know who she's become. (I've changed significantly from high school, due to advice she gave upon moving). Also, I'm not going just because of her, I've been looking into similar debate styled clubs for a bit and had started joining a few. I probably wouldn't know about this club club if it weren't for her though.\n\nThe problem is that my dad and I have been following the Jays quiet alot recently, and watching Jays games has been bringing my family together. The volunteer training meeting is tomorrow during game 5 of the ALDS, which is an elimination game for both teams. I REALLY want to watch this game but doing so won't let me volunteer with this club for the year( this is their only volunteer training)\n\nOh and she personally told me to attend when I didn't RSVP yet.\n\nI think I already know that I should sacrifice this game to go to this meeting, just guess I wanted an unbiased confirmation from Reddit.", "summary": "Skipping baseball game that I would watch with family to impress girl who I might still have feelings for."}
{"id": "t3_11ccwf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I working too hard? I keep hoping life will get better as I'm digging myself into a bigger hole.", "post": "Sorry if this is not the right subreddit for this, i never submit posts and don't know where this should go. Please direct me if needed.\n\nI'm 16 years old and I'm in 4 AP classes for my Junior year in High School. I took 2 AP classes my sophomore year. I plan on having a career in the medical field, although I'm not sure about it. \n\nMy actual question is; am i working too hard? Because of my classes, i have **absolutely** no free time. Once I come home from school with two backpacks filled with a 3 inch binder, 5 notebooks, and two textbooks; I sit at my desk and begin homework until the cushion of my desk seat is compressed so much it begins to hurt like a wooden chair. I work on homework from 3:00pm to 10:00pm (I do eat dinner in between these times though), and then fall asleep. \n\nI don't really have a social life, and most of my AP classes are incredibly difficult. While I may be in 4 AP classes this year, my 2 classes last year (AP Environmental Science, AP Physics) had an average grade of A and C, respectively. My Acc PreCalc class last year passed by with a C as well. I'm not good with numbers. Now I have AP Bio, AP Calc AB, AP English, and AP Stats, of which my current grades are A, C, C, A, respectively. And it's only October. I need help. :[\n\nShould I talk to my counselor and switch some classes to non AP's? Should I trudge on through? To be honest, I've been dragging myself for 2 years, always *just* passing. I keep going into harder classes because I think colleges like that, even if my own development of the subject isn't fully developed yet, i keep believing it'll get easier.\n\nWhat should I do? Thanks for any and all help on this!", "summary": "4 AP classes with grades of A, C, C, A, and I keep digging a bigger hole over the years, forcing myself to get into harder classes when my own perspective of the subjects aren't even developed yet. I need help on how to get out of the hole."}
{"id": "t3_12g8fu", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "I'm so happy! (Success Story)", "post": "I just wanted to share my dog, Loki's success story from yesterday. I know it may not be much but we've been clicker training pretty much every day, even on walks these past few days and he seems to have taken to it really well. So, for the past two days I've been training \"Come\" on our walks. What I would do is I have a retractable leash and I would let him walk ahead of me a few steps. I stop, say \"Loki, come\" and if he came I'd click and treat.\n\nI now carry a bag with a compartment just for treats, so it's easy to treat him fast. So, he was very good with that and I took him to the park where we (dog owners) let our dogs play. A couple new dogs had come and he was about 50 meters away from him. I got kinda worried, so I said, loudly, \"Loki, come\". And he turned around and came right to me. I clicked, treated and petted him. I was so happy! Small victory but very important for me.", "summary": "My almost 6 month old puppy came back when I called him from a distance."}
{"id": "t3_36kxlj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21f) boyfriend (27m) is still living with his ex girlfriend(28ish?) but says there are no issues... am I crazy?", "post": "I really connect with this guy and I have been in a few relationships before where I have been cheated on. But I honnestly just don't think that is what's going on. He has 2 roommates his ex, and my old boss(28m) ironically.\nShe acts like a cool person when he is in the room and all but when he is gone for a bit she always has some smart ass comment, like a joke about how much he Jacks off, or how \"gay\" he is and it just pisses me the fuck off. He wants us to get along because he has known her for 14 years and she is like a best friend.\nAnytime I try to talk about where he is going to live when the lease is up he gets upset. I just don't know how I'm always wrong in this. He defends her if I say something bad about her, he only hangs out with me on weekends, he takes her out to eat with us sometimes, she knocks on his door late at night asking him to smoke with her. There are just lots of things about their friendship that makes me uncomfortable.", "summary": "I do really care for this man and the last thing I want to do is end things. But am I an idiot for letting this continue?"}
{"id": "t3_2zqqjx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[15/m] don't know if a girl [15/f] likes me or not and when I should call/text her.", "post": "So we were both counselors in the same camp group during March Break. At the end of the week I was kind of friends with her and her friend. I got her number at the end but she seemed a little bit reluctant. During the week when we talked it seemed like we were just being polite and doing all the normal camp stuff. I also did this one magic trick to her including a proposal but she seemed to take it differently then all the other girls I've done this to (really calm). I also asked her and her friend to Tim Hortons but she seemed like she didn't really want to go and found some excuses. Even though I've only known her for five days I really like her, and I've never felt this way about a girl before. First post here so any help would be much appreciated.", "summary": "If I really really like a girl but I don't know if she likes me or not how and when should I call or text her."}
{"id": "t3_133uel", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Which to tackle first, Potty Training or Sleeping Alone?", "post": "A little bit about us and our situation: the little guy is nearly 3, my husband and I both work full time, him at home, and me out of the house. We have in-home child-care (hubby locks himself in the office during the day, only coming out for bathroom and food). \n\nSleeping: We have very recently moved, we were in a basement suite where his room was right across from ours, so if he woke he could just come to us. We now have a full house, with our room being the loft upstairs, and his room on the main floor. He hasn't slept alone for awhile (even before we moved). We had done the CIO method when he was about a year, but we grew lax and he hasn't successfully slept in his own bed for about 6 months for more than a night or two every now and then.\n\nPotty Training: He refuses the potty. We've tried giving him a smarty every time he sits on the potty, sticker charts, we ask him if he has to go, asking him to sit on the potty, buying him special underwear that he only gets if he actually goes to the bathroom in the potty. He simply doesn't want to. He sees mommy and daddy going to the bathroom, he likes to flush the toilet, he knows what it's for. When we ask him if he would like to be a big boy, and wear big boy underwear he says no. \n\nSo parenting, any tips and tricks on how to get him to sleep alone and/or go on the potty? Which one would you tackle first? I feel like doing both at the same time would be too much for him.", "summary": "Son doesn't sleep alone or go on the potty. Which would you tackle first, and how would go about these things?"}
{"id": "t3_1ojg5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just got into a relationship with a quiet M23, suggestions ? [F24]", "post": "I just got into a relationship with a quiet guy [~1 month, been talking 2-3 months]. We've been friends for a couple years, but we've both always been in relationships (but not with each other). Over the summer, a relationship blossomed between the two of us. \n\nI really enjoy his company, he can be silly, fun, and is intelligent in areas that I am not. We both love outdoors and enjoy the same music. \n\nMy biggest issue with our relationship is that I'm a very open and honest person and he is in turn just quiet. I'm a little nervous about asking too many questions ( I don't want to pry). He seems to be okay with telling me things from his past, but they're usually random memories and stories.  With previous relationships, we would just lie awake and talk about random things while with this one, we relish in silence. I'm not sure if that's normal and I should just enjoy the physical part of being together OR there's something else going on. \n\njust to clarify, he seems to enjoy my company. we play fight and wrestle and laugh a lot. It's just this lack of communication is new to me.", "summary": "new relationship with a quiet dude, suggestions on how to get him to open up?"}
{"id": "t3_3uzo2l", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is this traineeship a waste of my time?", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI entered university (college for Australia) at the start of this year. Coming out of high school, I was accepted for a traineeship in a finance business which focuses on business valuations; my job consists mostly of data entry / fact checking reports, and other miscellaneous tasks. \n\nThis seemed quite appealing at first, as I was drawn to the fact that I would have the equivalent of 3 years of \"real world\" experience by the time I finished the degree. **The downside being, I make minimum wage, and it is soul crushing.**\n\n Some background: this is a small business with approximately ~10 employees in total. The managers are the boss' kids, and the rest of us perform mostly the same functions; for example, the job I do is also done by everyone else in my team. Currently we were having a slow year, and I literally spend ~6 out of my 8 working hours browsing reddit or staring into space because there isn't work available for me to do. Its soul crushing whenever i work because I just sit there on reddit all day, waiting for work, while also making minimum wage (my friends are all making double what I am). \n\nWhat I want to know is, am I wasting my time? After 3 years, will this \"real world experience\" on my resume help me to get a bangin' job when I graduate? Or would it be better to search for a job with much better pay, and one that can actually keep me busy?", "summary": "Traineeship might be traineeshit, should I cut my losses and look for a better job?"}
{"id": "t3_oybf5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am the constituent of seven Members of the European Parliament. I am going to write to each of them urging them to vote against ACTA. But I don't know what to say. Can Reddit help?", "post": "I have done my research, and I know what ACTA is about, and why I object to it, but I'm having trouble putting it into words. I'm not very savvy with the ins and outs of political legislation, nor am I skilled in persuasive writing. I want my argument to sound intelligent, knowledgeable and thoughtful so that I won't be dismissed out of hand. I also have a tendency to waffle, and I feel that the more concise my letter is (about a paragraph or two would probably be ideal), the better received it will be.\n\nIs there a standard template that us in the EU are already sending out to their MEPs? Have you already written to yours? If so, what did you say? Are there any US redditors who have contacted their politicians in objection to ACTA who can provide ideas or assistance?\n\nI hope not only to get some good information on how to present my argument to my MEPs, but also, if this thread gets popular, to give others the desire and means to contact their MEPs if they want them to vote 'No' on ACTA. \n\nWith that in mind, [here] is an easy way for Europeans from the United Kingdom to identify and contact their MEPs. I hope this helps anyone intending to contact their MEPs.", "summary": "What do I say to convince my MEPs to vote 'No' on ACTA?"}
{"id": "t3_3g0rqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I Feel This Way About Our Ruined Plans?", "post": "A guy (30) who I'm(F, 26) looking to have a steady relationship with (we've been friends for a year and a half, looking about a relationship for close to 8 months) made plans with me to go to a theme park we have locally. He took off of work and we had plans in place for today.\n\nLast night he told me that his manager asked him to work today (our day at the park) and that he has to get a project done. So last night he worked late but had to come in today, so I'm here at the theme park alone cause I couldn't find someone so last minute.\n\nOn one hand I get that this is his job and that he wants to do good and it's not like we're together and going steady now, but on the other hand, I feel really hurt and very betrayed and we're trying to see if we could work out a relationship and cause we made these plans 2 weeks in advance, and since we live kind of far and are both busy we don't get to see each other much. \n\nI like him a lot and can certainly see a relationship but right now in this moment I feel angry and very sad cause he's not here and we planned and knew what we were doing. Is it justified for me to feel this way even though we're not a couple? \n\nAlso this is a throwaway.", "summary": "Made plans, guy is asked to work and does, I'm here alone feeling hurt."}
{"id": "t3_437wsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my husband [25 M] of one year, bedtime routine tearing us apart.", "post": "My wonderful husband and I have completely different needs when it comes to falling asleep. He needs the tv on, and I need a dark quiet room. We've tried staggering our times of going to bed, but he always ends up turning on the tv in the middle of the night, waking me up. He refuses to wear headphones or try white noise.\n\nFor almost four years now I've been letting him have the tv on, and the quality of sleep I was getting was incredibly shitty. Recently (a couple weeks ago) I told him that I couldn't handle the tv being on at night anymore. So he stopped turning it on at night. I've never had such a high quality of sleep as I've had in the last couple weeks, and he's never had such a poor quality of sleep as he's had in the last couple of weeks.\n\nI don't want to resort to sleeping in separate rooms, but I'm running out of compromises we can try. Advice?", "summary": "Husband needs tv on, I need a dark and quiet room. He won't wear headphones or try white noise. No idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_15hrc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [23F] tactfully bring up my boyfriend's [23M] terrible taste in jewelry?", "post": "Hello r/relationships,\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now after dating for a year when we were both in high school. He's a lovely man, and we're quite happy together and have discussed marriage. He is generally thoughtful and conscientious in most aspects of his life, with one notable exception. He loves getting me jewelry for all gift-giving occasions. This is a problem for two reasons:\n\n1. I am not much of a jewelry wearer (I wear a men's watch and a silver Tiffany's diamond pendant daily, with no variation 360/365 days a year)\n2. He has abysmal taste and buys me things I would never choose - e.g., I wear silver/white gold/platinum only due to my skin tone and this year he bought me this huge (2\") faux gold and rose gold heart pendant on a thick gold chain.\n\nI have tried suggesting other things I'd like for presents; records, experiences we can share, clothes, kitchen gadgets, sports tickets or hockey gear, any myriad of things - but every birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day or anniversary there is an appalling (and often cheap) piece of jewelry waiting for me. Last year I got a gold elephant bracelet with huge (2 ct ea) cubic zirconia eyes. He constantly asks why I don't wear such-and-such a piece, and I've tried to be kind and considerate of his feelings (after all, he means very well) and said, \"Oh, I wasn't sure it was a right fit for this occasion - what do you think of this piece I'm wearing?\" or something similar, and he gets very, very upset. We didn't speak for two days over the elephant bracelet.\n\nAny advice from men or women on either side of a similar battle would be most welcome; I love him dearly but I can't stand it anymore and I'm dreading my birthday gift later this week.", "summary": "My boyfriend is a bad gift-giver and I don't know how to bring it up with him."}
{"id": "t3_cxsov", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Mantastic: book suggestions on feeling like a man?", "post": "R/books, hello!\n\nCan you all give me some good suggestions on fiction books that express the condition of being a guy or a man? \n\nNot books *for* men, there are plenty of lists I could go to Google for. I mean books that subtly and empathetically draw you into relating to the psyche of a man, seeing the world through a man's eyes and understanding the motivation for seeing the world and oneself this way.\n\nI want to understand the emotional repertoire and drive that lies behind 'respect', 'brotherhood', 'solidarity', 'fortitude' etc etc. Particularly, so much guy culture seems to be just that - about 'guys', a fixation on facile things with a slightly self-mocking tone.\n\n(I was brought up by my mum and inadvertently taught to find my masculinity a joke and to be ridiculed and repressed. I have long berated myself for my masculinity as 'stupid' and dangerous. I would like to change this. I have long gone to philosophy to address this but there is no feeling involved.)", "summary": "Any suggestions for truly great literature on what it *feels* like to be a man, to understand, not just books that are good for men."}
{"id": "t3_ioexq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone ever had any good experiences teaching themselves a new language?", "post": "I'm talking about the \"learn [some language]\" CD/Tape sets you can get. \n\nI'm currently going into my second year of uni and i was hoping to pick up a side project, and learning a new language seemed to be a good idea, I was just wondering what are some of the best ways people have gone about this without spending lots of time in a country speaking the language for a prolonged time.\nI have a large budget for the kit, and i plan on either teaching myself Italian, Dutch or German, and then spending a month or two in the a country speaking that language next summer. I was just looking to see if anyone has had any luck with these kinds of methods.", "summary": "Without living in the country, what're some good ways you've learned other languages?"}
{"id": "t3_4luyo7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my ex [32M] relationship of one year, uncivil to not want to be friends", "post": "My ex and I ended things in late March, and I cut things off for good in mid-May. I don't contact him but he still reaches out from time to time.\n\nI wanted to be with him and work on our relationship. There were many things that he was unable and/or unwilling to give so I ultimately made the decision to end the relationship. He was comfortable living in a quasi-relationship state where after being together a year he was 'open to seeing other people'. This was a complete slap in the face to me and was not something that I was willing to tolerate.\n\nI've told him that I am not interested in friendship. He has friends, I have friends. We don't share but one or two mutual friends, my best friend and his best friend. While my best friend likes him, she has no interest in remaining friends with him because she does t like how he's treated me.\n\nHe's recently accused me of being uncivil because I don't care to maintain a friendship. I'm not seeing anyone else, in fact, I'm devastated at the prospect of dating again, but I still don't want to torture myself with friendship. In my mind, I know that I am respectful and civil. I am putting myself first by not desiring a friendship with someone who only wants to offer me scraps. Why do his accusations of me being uncivil bother me so much?", "summary": "Ex of one year says that I am uncivil for not wanting to maintain a friendship after breakup. Don't know why I let that get to me so much..."}
{"id": "t3_ujl6q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Caught neighbor in a bold faced lie. What to do?", "post": "So my wife and I spotted the neighbor loading up a busted up trampoline into his truck that had been in his yard since we moved in. We figured he was taking it to the landfill. I'm not concerned that he had a broken trampoline in his yard for so long. It's his backyard, live and let live.\nThe problem is that this morning on my way to get some breakfast, I spotted a very familiar trampoline on the side of the road. I realize that there are only two, maybe three, different kinds of trampolines. However the timing was what made me suspicious. That and the fact that my wife and I use this road regularly and neither of us had spotted it until today.\nSo I thought it over for most of the afternoon until finally I had to say something to him about it. He swore it wasn't his and went on and on about how he had taken it to a local landfill. Never did he seem to take offense that I had pretty much called him a litter-bugger.\nHe gave me so much info on the landfill that I decided to look it up. Oddly enough the landfill he mentioned closes at noon on Saturdays. He was loading it up no earlier than 3:00PM. I'm not a confrontational kind of guy but this kind of thing just sucks and I can't help but think that I'm going to call him out on it.\nAnyone ever gone through this before? How did you handle it? Wish you would have done anything different?", "summary": "just reread the title"}
{"id": "t3_1j1b43", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm inexperienced and am going to hang out with the girl I have a crush on in less than 2 hours!", "post": "Okay so I (16m) am trying to make something happen with this girl (17f) who I really like.\n\nI met her through my friends who is best friends with her, and after telling her how I felt about her friend she decided she would help me on this. We've been hanging out recently with our friends included and have also messaged on Facebook a little bit, so now we are somewhat more comfortable hanging out with each other.\n\nIn an hour and a half I'm going to pick her up and take her back to my place so we can hang out, and we're going to be alone until my other two guy friends come over at an unknown time.\n\nShe's pretty outgoing for the most part and kill you with laughter with the unexpected things she does or says. In front of me she seems the same way but I can't actually tell if her behavior is different at all.\n\nCan someone please help me on what I should take about with her and how to approach the situation? Any advice would be helpful.\n\nPlease ASK ME QUESTIONS IF YOU HAVE ANY and I will be more than happy to answer them as best as I can.", "summary": "I like this girl and we're going to hang out alone for the first time at my house in just over an hour from now. Need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_1gi82v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should you break up once the high of love fades away? Gf [21F] near 2 years, tells Me [22M] I should.", "post": "My Gf tells me that she knows that I'm not in love with her because I don't show it to her, and that we should break up because it's hurting her. She is right, I've barely done a thing to show her I am.\n\nNow, the thing is that I'm sure that I began the relationship loving her, I still think that she is perfect in every way, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but she says that I'm only fooling myself saying all that? we've been fighting a lot lately, she's not happy in the relationship and I think it's my fault for not paying much attention to her. \n\nWe fought tonight, now I ask myself, Do I love her? if I need to ask does that means I'm not? then what? why do I like her so much then? why do I want to spend the rest of my life with her? why is this happening, and how can I fix this? \n\nHow can I make her feel so loved that this won't ever happen again?", "summary": "If the initial feeling of love you get when you really like someone fades away, does that mean you should break up?"}
{"id": "t3_53nows", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F], with my mother [50F]. I just turned 21, got out of a horrible relationship and made new friends, finally doing really well and now my mother seems to be smothering me.", "post": "So I recently turned 21, its my senior year of college, broke up with abusive boyfriend, made a ton of new friends through clubs at school and am doing better than I have been in (literally) years. However, while I was going through being depressed and sad and scared in my relationship, changing roomates etc. my mom didnt come to my college to see me once, didnt offer for me to come home (I cant afford gas so parents pay for it when i come home). But since the school year has started ive already been home on three different weekends for at least one night/day per her request (because she makes me feel horrible for not coming). Now she wants to come visit me on our colleges homecoming weekend, which is the hugest weekend for alumni to come back, there football games among other sports, and its a really fun big party weekend. being a senior, and 21 finally, i would really like to experience what I havent yet and even mentioning to her that its homecoming and its going to be crazy and busy here she made me feel horrible for putting drinking and friends over seeing her. How do I handle this?", "summary": "mom is frustrating me by being way too needy while im trying to be independent and have fun."}
{"id": "t3_2ewsu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After she [F23] broke up with me [M23] she started to go high", "post": "When she broke up with me, she said that I wasn't the same with her and a lot of bulshit, she blamed me for all. First at all she was needing to move away to another city and she was interested in another guy.\n\nWe had one year three months of relationship. She broke up with me one month ago.\n\nSo i only said her: \"it's ok by me, get out of here, go straight home or wherever you want, don't call me more, talk or come back. And don't cry, you are only hurt yourself and nothing is going to change with that\". Of course, days later I can realize that I wasn't wrong and that made me feel better.\n\nDays after she broke up with me I got into the fact that she was interested on that guy since three months ago. But she blamed me for all when she broke up with me.\n\nOne day after she broke up with me, she started to talk more with this guy for go out with him. She made a tatto on her arm, started to smoke cigarettes, and get drunk and go high with weed at the guy's apartment. She wasn't that kind of woman. I'm not sure about sex but i can guess that they are making.\n\nShe text me on Facebook but I don't write back since she broke up with me. Of course, i don't think that she is a lamb but i can't understand, she changed a lot since broke up with me. Should I try to help her? Of course she has problems.", "summary": "After she broke up with me she started to go high."}
{"id": "t3_2985gx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me (19/f) Sending Nude Pictures to Another Man (24/m) While my Boyfriend (19/m) is Away.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for seven months, we met in high school. We used to see each other every other day but recently I moved to the other side of the state. I hadn't seen him in two months (we barely talked at that point too) and I received a text from an old friend, from there on we continuously sent pictures until I called it off for it being completely wrong and unfaithful. \nI am guilty, but I don't know how to go about this. My boyfriend and I just recently had a fight that almost resulted in him leaving me for talking to my ex, which I lied about saying he contacted me first.\nHere's the icing on the cake, friends: He's leaving in a month to go to Parris Island.", "summary": "I'm a scummy person who sent nude pictures to another man,"}
{"id": "t3_3gklsj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why would he (18 M) mirror my (19 M) body language if we've been ignoring each other?", "post": "Long story very short, we've been ignoring each other for about a month now. No argument happened; I started ignoring him, he tried getting my attention for a few weeks, I texted him why I'm ignoring him, no text back, and then he started being incredibly awkward around me every time we see each other, and now we have both been ignoring each other. \n\nHowever, yesterday was interesting. He knew I was going to go to an event in an organization we're both in with relatively few others that will show up. He came anyways, and the entire time we ignored and barely looked at each other even though we sat right across from each other. However, I noticed that he would copy a decent amount of my actions. If I looked at my phone, he would either immediately look at his as well, or look at it a few seconds later. If I crossed my arms, he would too. If I had my hands resting under my chin, he would do the same thing or at least be touching his chin. But again we barely looked at each other.\n\nI've noticed other moments of mirroring the past month too, but what exactly does this mean? I've been researching online and it just says that mirroring implies that you're having a great convo or building a great bond... But we're ignoring each other.", "summary": "we've been ignoring each other for a month, but yesterday kept mirroring my actions, mirroring means having a great convo or building a great bond but we're ignoring each other, what does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_igri2", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Tight hamstring issues", "post": "I'm 22 and a former XC / track runner. Since I can remember, i've always had abnormally tight hamstrings. I remember being asked if I had lower back pain when I went in for a physical several years ago. Anyway, I've been out of high school for 4 years and have just recently gotten back into running. My back has never bothered me, but I feel that this will change as I get older. I stretch my hamstrings more-so than other muscles before I run but they are still extremely tight. To give you an idea, I can't lift my leg past my knee cap while standing up straight.\n\nI've looked into different stretches but I would love to hear if anyone else has this problem and if it affects their running performance or if you have a specific stretch that helps stretch the muscle better.", "summary": "My hamstrings are extremely tight and I need help finding new stretches."}
{"id": "t3_1g99ly", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Stopping calorie counting.", "post": "Le me: 6'0 tall [19/M], 210lbs, heavy lifter, 1.75yrs lifting experience, ~2yrs of weekly binging now.\n\nMy weight loss journey has been a crazy ride for the past couple years; not knowing anything about nutrition, I went from being a fat 250lbs to a skinny-fat 190lbs on a fad starvation diet (was consistently losing 6-7lbs/week). After I got off of that, I decided to try and continue losing weight but my whole conception of healthy and proper eating was completely skewed and my body didn't like what I was doing to it. Because of that I started binging at least once a week and it got really bad, many times past 10,000cals/day (counted cals all the time). I began learning more and more about nutrition and lifting and and really got into that but I could never stop the binging. I have tried a million ways to stop it but nothing seemed to work for more than a week to a week and a half. I am sitting at 210lbs (6'0) now (fluctuates between 205-220 all the time) and a lot more strong and muscular than I was but still fairly fat at ~20%bf (by my own estimation). \nI went and seen an eating disorder psychologist at one time and even read a book about binge eating and the consensus there was to stop counting calories and worrying about the food I eat. I have tried that and had decent success with it, but I always seem to subconsciously count calories and always revert to MFP after a week or two. I just don't know what 'normal' eating is, since I've only ever stuffed my face with whatever food was in front of me, or starved myself. Also, whenever I see weight gain I tend to count calories again and try and keep them low (which always fails).\nSo, this is where you guys come in, any tips for a [19/M] to stop counting calories, eat 'normally', ingest a good amount of protein, and maybe lose some weight on the way too?", "summary": "Gotta stop counting calories because I've been told it's the answer to my binging problem and try to eat normally, but I don't know what normal eating is since I've only ever stuffed my face or starved myself. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_30t4yp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Text/Calling etiquette... am I [36m] being overly needy with gf [31f]?", "post": "So I'm in a new(ish) relationship that has gone amazing so far.  Yesterday my grandmother passed, and since I was at the gym, I texted my gf to let her know.  She called right away to offer sympathy, but she was driving and I was working out so we agreed that I would call her when I was done.  I did that, she didn't answer (no big deal), then texted a little later to let me know she would call in an hour.  Fast forward to this morning, and she hadn't contacted me at all.  No text, no call, nothing.  I did see her when I got to work (we actually work together), and at this point I was a little upset.  I don't think she knows that, in addition to still being a little sad about my grandmother passing, I'm also upset because I think not making any effort to contact me last evening was inconsiderate.\n\nI found out that she basically got busy with errands/chores, which is fine.  Honestly, I don't even care that she didn't call.  However, I'm thinking of asking her, in the future, to at least text to let me know that she got busy with things.  The thing is, when I don't hear from her at all, all kinds of things run through my head including wondering if something happened to her.  It made it difficult for me to get to sleep.  Is a request like that overly needy? I'm trying to be \"manly\" about it, but this kind of thing does hurt my feelings and I do feel at times that she is inconsiderate toward me.", "summary": "GF didn't text or call when I was having a tough day, is it overly needy to ask for at least a text in a situation like this (or even just your average day)?"}
{"id": "t3_2u7v30", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did she become interested?", "post": "Okay so I met this girl in my class and we talked once after class and then again before class yesterday. It felt like there was some connection because the conversation had a great back and forth. But today I came say hi to her and she was being silent and gave me one word responses then walked into class almost immediately after I got there. I have another class with her later today too so I'm worried if I keep talking I'm going to push her away even more. What's going on?? Does she not want me or just having a bad day and doesn't want to talk?", "summary": "I met a girl and we talked twice with what I thought was a good connection and now she is being silent. Is she uninterested or just having a bad day and doesn't want to talk?"}
{"id": "t3_3ryaur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] just don't know what to do anymore. Can't breakup with my grieving GF [26] of 2 years, in love with someone else, haven't told anyone and can't even talk to anyone", "post": "Ok, there's a lot going on here.\n\nI'm starting to wonder if I ever really loved my girlfriend. We just started hooking up and we're both \"nice\" people so it just grew from that. It is an \"ok\" relationship, functional and mature but there's never been much chemistry. I just feel like it's run it's course and we're not a good long term fit for living together/marriage/kids etc..\n\nI'm only really thinking about this because we've actually been quite close for the last year because her father was ill. Being supportive was the right thing to do and it's actually an easy role to do for someone you care about. He died recently and we can once again focus on each other but I find myself not really reentering the relationship or being particularly happy in the relationship. \n\nAt the same time, I've fallen in love with a new friend of a friend. We spend a lot of time together and I just click with her. She's amazing. I know she's not perfect and no one is but I can't help feeling this way (I'm not one to easily fall in love). I find myself smiling when I just think of her and she's always on my mind. I don't know how she feels at all (she's single but it's complicated) and I would never cheat on my girlfriend.\n\nMy girlfriend is still sort of recovering from her grieving process and with the holidays coming I feel like I'm trapped. I want to break up with her and I don't feel like I can as it would be so much more painful to her now. On the other hand, I feel awful that every minute I'm with her I'd rather be with this other girl or even alone.\n\nWhat should I do? I feel like I can't tell anyone because all my friends know at least one of the people. I don't want to break up with my girlfriend so soon after her father dying but I feel horrible that I love someone else and I'm not interested anymore.", "summary": "In a stale relationship but don't want to breakup with girlfriend while she's grieving for her recently deceased pop. Matters complicated by falling for someone else."}
{"id": "t3_10q9rw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Loving, balanced relationship, we're grown-ups [40 & 44] & talking living together...but we differ in values toward drug use - how can this work?", "post": "Me:  44, no gills, no pills, no voices in my head. Single parent of grown boys.  Him:  40, mostly mature, makes me laugh and has my back, NO  exceptions. We know who we are separately and, truly, love each other very much. Supportively, even where we're diffferent... We've known each other nearly 2 years and that's not \"teenager two years,\" that's 40-year-old two years.\nStill there's this big value clash:  he uses marijuana, I do not. I don't even judge that and, strongly, think it OUGHT to be legal.  But it isn't here. And, value-wise, I don't personally think drug use is a good way to go. There's all the science about stopping your emotional growth from the level you're at when you start using, tons of other things - but it's all jackshit to me. He's a full grown man who can and should make all his own decisions. In fact I admire him greatly because he does.\nBut moving in together would mean living with it in my house. Endorsing it in a way, but being legally vulnerable for it too. But most of all, even if no one else ever knows--especially my children, for whom i believe i set an example by saying what i mean and meaning what i say, and who i do not want using marijuana--i will know. \nI  believe there are far more disparate conflicts that people have overcome, learned to live with respectfully, way greater compromises made for the bigger pay off of the love we have for each other.  But I simply don't know what that looks like.  HOW is it done?  HOW does it feel?", "summary": "BF uses & likes marijuana; I do neither.  we think we want to live together and BOTH our preferences are equally important.  how do you compromise when the difference is a value like that?"}
{"id": "t3_2pl16e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my BF [23 M] 2 yrs, feeling unappreciated", "post": "First off, I love my boyfriend.   I would do anything for him without complaint, which I admit may be part of the problem.   We have been together almost 2 years and moved in together about 6 months ago.  \n\nHe has never been the mushy, overly romantic type, but recently I've been feeling that he does not appreciate or reciprocate the things I do for him.  I cook dinner, clean the house, pack his lunch every day, do laundry (mine and his), and take care of our dog.  I have no problem doing these things and the only thing I ask him to do to help out is wash the dishes and let the dog out sometimes if I can't.  \n\nI wish he would put some effort into showing he appreciates me.  I would love for him to do little things like help out without being asked, maybe bring me flowers or something every once in a while just to show he was thinking of me.  I do things like this often- for example,  pick up a six pack for him or give him a massage just because.  I have tried verbalizing this to him but  think it comes off as selfish and it hasn't made a difference. I just feel that he is taking me for granted. \n\nPlease help, I don't want this to turn into me being bitter towards him.  Thank you!!", "summary": "After 6 months of living together,  I feel my boyfriend has become complacent and doesn't show me attention."}
{"id": "t3_15st3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on my recently botched relationship [m/20].", "post": "I've been of and on with this girl [f/21] for a few months. Things seemed to be going pretty well, went on a few dates and really enjoyed spending time with her. \n\nShe lives with one of my good friends [m/20], I've know this guy for 10+ years. In the summer he dated her for about a month and then broke it off, claiming she was becoming too attached. Despite this, they continue to hook up and my friend would sometimes even brag about this to me.\n\nA few months pass and then things start up between me and her. She claimed that things were finished between her and my friend. Although, one night we are all out at a bar and she kept kissing and making out with my friend, even right in front of me. At the time this made me pretty angry and all I wanted to do was to cut all ties with her and find someone new. Which is basically what I did, until she contacted me again asking to hang out. I agreed and we went out for drinks, and a few more dates after that. I forgave her for what happened in the past and things pretty much return to the way they were before.\n\nDuring New Years last night we were at the same party and things became a little complicated. The whole time I felt as if she was ignoring me, not talking to me, ect. which made me feel really confused. The night ended with me hooking up with another girl at the party. I'm not sure if she knows about it or not, I feel terrible about the whole thing. Should I even try to fix things between us? Is it time to move on indefinitely? Thanks r/relationships :)", "summary": "On and off will a girl who continued to hook up with her roommate, I end things between us. We start to see each other again, I hook up with another girl possibly right in front of her. Is it worth it to fix things between us?"}
{"id": "t3_f4wvh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you send something valuable to a museum for evaluation?", "post": "A friend of mine found this silver thing (looks to be a handle to something, 19th century) on the beach in Florida 40 years ago, and it's been migrating with him... It's now with him across the country and he decided to pull it out of his safe and ask around a bit.\n\nHe finally sent pictures of it to some museum folk out in Florida, and they're VERY interested it.  One of the guys said something like \"This definitely looks like it belongs in a museum\"  (Of course, my friend is spooked and is worried they're just going to keep it if he sends it to them)\n\nHe doesn't think it's going to wind up being worth millions, but he could probably sell the silver content alone for a few hundred $$.\n\nHe really wants to send it and find out what it is and how it's significant, etc...  But he doesn't want Florida to decide it's somehow state property and seize it without any options or recompense.  (The beach he found it on became a state park a year later, and you can't take stuff from a state park)\n\nHe's going to talk to some insurance folks tomorrow to see if they have any ideas, but I'm curious...\n\nWould you guys send it in, trusting that you won't get screwed?  Is there some magic document you'd get them to sign first?  Would you squirrel the thing away and play the \"what if\" game longer?\n\n-\n\nPersonally, I'd probably talk to the museum folks and try to explain my concerns, and see what they have to say, and trust that they won't screw me.  If I don't send it in, I never learn about it, and it's worthless, since it never had a value assigned to it.  If I get screwed, I'd get screwed anyway so I might as well learn something out of it.  And there's a good chance everybody ends up happy anyway.", "summary": "Would you send a potentially valuable item to a museum?  If you did, what would you do to protect your interest?  Anyone done anything like this before?"}
{"id": "t3_3ufde2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/24), find myself looking at other women whilst in a relationship", "post": "I'm M/24 and have been in a relationship with my SO for ~ 2years now. We've lived together for 1 year. I love her and she cares for me/makes me smile. She is very pretty \u2013 The kind of person I could defiantly spend the rest of my life with. She was my first serious GF and my 1 and only sexual partner.\n\nRecently, I find myself looking more and more at other women when out and about. Not so much from a sex perspective, but rather \"her butt looks nice in those jeans\" or \"she has a sexy face\" etc. I don't have any desire to flirt with them/take them to bed. Part of me feels this behavior is wrong (but not cheating), and another part of me thinks that it's just part of being a young, hot blooded male.\n\nI think part of the reason is; me and my GF have sexual encounters ~3 times a week. It's more of a bonding perspective than pure sex. And whilst she is pretty, she doesn't often wear \"sexy, revealing clothes\" that other girls do (i.e tight jeans/tops etc) \u2013 Which is why I guess I look.\n\t\nHas any other man been in this situation? Or do women have any advice to offer?", "summary": "Keep looking at other women"}
{"id": "t3_3bfddx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a drug test", "post": "This happened last week. \n\nI'm starting a new job soon, so I had to do a pre-employment physical, which includes a drug test. In case you didn't know, these drug tests are urine-based. I don't do drugs, and never have, so I wasn't worried about it. \n\nWhat I didn't know is that apparently this medical office also tests for glucose in the urine since the test strips are really cheap or something. Well, mine came up positive. The nurse said there was \"only a little bit\" of urine, but that it was definitely above the threshold for a positive test. Urine contains glucose when your blood glucose is elevated, which is most commonly caused by diabetes.\n\nWell lo and behold this poor nurse spent the next half hour trying to figure out what was going on, given that I have no diabetic history and my blood sugar level (a much more reliable indicator of diabetes) was normal. Eventually she decided to just pass me for the pre-employment physical and make me see another doctor to treat my possible pre-diabetes. This entire time, I was completely mortified. I think the nurse thought I was digesting the ramifications of a possible diabetes diagnosis but I was actually quite embarrassed because I knew exactly how the sugar got into my pee.\n\nIn case you haven't figured it out yet, I don't have diabetes. The night before I had some \"intimate\" time with a girl. We rather enjoyed whipped cream as a prop... And I fell asleep right afterwards without any kind of clean up. Definitely the last time I do this right before a urine test. I thought I was going to die of embarrassment in that damn clinic.", "summary": "getting a whipped cream blow job and then taking a drug test may trick people into thinking you have diabetes."}
{"id": "t3_3ujpny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24/F) Dealing safely with mother's (60/F) mental illness", "post": "My mom suffers from borderline personality disorder. She is unpredictable, high-maintenance, and sometimes violent, but has improved immensely as I have aged (and become more independent). She relies on me to provide clear boundaries and lots of reassurance. I don't love my mother, but I do care about her deeply (if that makes sense).\n\nUnfortunately, my sister (24/F/Autistic) has been ill and I've recently moved home to help care for her. My mother has had a hard time adjusting to my new role and we initially had a few confrontations over curfews (she would insist that I call in from work to \"spend time with [her]\"). Things have mostly evened out, but I am preparing to move out again.\n\nWhen I moved out for college, my mother forbade my sister and father to have any contact with me, emptied my bank account, and said some very hateful, hurtful things to me when we eventually \"made up.\" If it weren't for my sister and father I would have long ago cut ties, but unfortunately I love them more than anything and am not willing to lose them.\n\nI need to slowly introduce her to the idea and turn it so that my moving out isn't \"her fault\" or about her at all. Help?", "summary": "Need to move out, how to do so without risking complete meltdown."}
{"id": "t3_1y89gs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 6 years, told me to mess around with other girls", "post": "Hi /r/relationships,\n\n(I cross posted this from /r/sex because I wasn't sure which sub this was better for. I don't think I'm breaking the rule about cross posts, but if I am, please let me know.)  \n\nMy girlfriend of 6 years (who I intend to marry once we're both through college) has told me numerous times over the past 6 or 8 months that she would be perfectly okay with me sleeping around with other women so long as she could experiment with other women as well. We've talked about it in detail a few times, but I'm a little hesitant to act on it. She said she wouldn't want to have sex with another man, but would be perfectly okay with me having sex with another woman any time I want so long as I told her and I allowed her to be with a woman. She said she'd even want to watch, or not, whichever I decide. I'm 100% behind her finding another girl to have fun with, and I'd even be alright with her being with another guy, so long as I know about it.\n \nI just want to know if this is something that can be done without messing up a relationship. Neither of us are religious, so there's no issue there, but before I go exploring, I just want to know if this is even something we can even do. I love her and I love having sex with her, but she's the only person I've ever been with and I'll admit I want to know what it's like to be with someone else, though I wouldn't act on that if I weren't 100% sure she was okay with it. To be honest, I feel like this never happens without consequences in real life and I want to hear stories about people who have had good and/or bad experiences with this type of situation. I'm ready to be adventurous, but at the same time I don't want to introduce bad experiences in what I feel is a really strong and healthy relationship. I've gotten reassurance from her a couple times, but I'm still hesitant despite my desire to be with someone else (if just one time). Is this normal or am I just not cut out for it?", "summary": "She wants me to mess around with other girls and in return wants to mess around with other girls as well. We've discussed it a few times, but I still have some reservations with messing around with other girls myself, though I don't have any problems with her doing the same."}
{"id": "t3_3ydamv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Bowling Incorrectly My Entire Life", "post": "3 days ago a group of friends and I went to this new bowling/arcade place that opened up nearby not too long ago. After screwing around with the arcade section, a couple lanes opened up for the 12 of us, so we could have 6 of us on each lane. Now, every time I have bowled, my fingers have sort of had this throbbing pain in them as a result. I'd always had this type of pain since I was little, but I took it as being ordinary for the sport. After our games concluded an hour later, we left the bowling/arcade place and all dropped by somewhere for ice cream. \n\nToday, some friends and I were hanging out at my girlfriend's house - some from the bowling night and some not. We were having a conversation aside a movie and a friend mentioned how his fingers still hurt from the bowling. I turned to my girlfriend and said, \"Yeah, bowling hurts my fingers too.\" I wiggled my index and middle finger while sticking out my thumb. My gf looked confused. \"Don't you mean these?\" she said and wiggled her middle and ring fingers instead. The gears in my head started to turn as my friend insisted that those were the ones that hurt for him. I had been bowling wrong my entire life. I've been using my index and middle finger instead of my middle and ring. As a 17 year old, this was life changing. I will never bowl the same way again.", "summary": "I've been bowling using my index and middle finger instead of my middle and ring."}
{"id": "t3_11jl4u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just turned a sleazy salesman into a guilty, hopefully honest person in five minutes. What have you done that you've felt good about because you've helped others even if it cost you something?", "post": "I was filling gas watching this young, sleazy little salesman kid try to persuade other car owners to buy his car cleaning spray put out by a famous racing league. I have a bit of a flashy car so I knew it was just a matter of time before he came to me as I had a lot of gas to fill. When he came up to me, he started with the usual sleaze about how we must be cousins because we both drive BMWs. He had terrible, unprofessional skills and I'm surprised he's ever sold anything in his life if his current behavior was any indication as to how he approaches people.\n\nHe proceeded to test it on my car and, yes, it did seem to work but I just wasn't interested. Well, not until he said, \"Okay, you know what bro? I'm just gonna give you one. A can for free, on the house.\" Surprised, I walked over to the table where his setup was and also where a female coworker of his was standing and he then handed me a can and said, \"Okay, so it's only $10.\" Again, I was surprised, and instead of disputing his offer, I went ahead and pulled out my credit card and paid for it. Oh, and there was a $2 tax on the damn thing so it actually came out to $12.\n\nHe ran my card, handed me a receipt, and the transaction was over. I'm sure he felt good about having basically hustled me into walking over there under the impression that I'd get a free can and then actually making a sale. I handed him the can back and said, \"I want you to give this to the next person you promise a free can to. Now you can actually keep your word,\" and got back in my car and drove off.\n\nIt felt good doing this and I'd love to hear some stories of similar things that you may have done to help others at your cost, perhaps to prove a point or just to flat out pay it forward.", "summary": "Was promised something for free, bought it anyway and gave it back so the next person told what I was told will actually get something for free."}
{"id": "t3_1b51f3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is something that you have an emotional attachment to, and somebody tried to destroy? What have you done to try and save it?", "post": "Well basically my story begins with my grandfather raising 2 trees,  one in the front yard, and another in the backyard, next to my window. I was the  only person in my family who enjoyed these trees other than my grandfather. In January my grandfather passed away in a horrible manner. About a week after he passed, everyone in my family jumped straight onto tree #1 to cut it down because it was sick.  I tried to propose treating the tree instead of cutting it down, and told them why I wanted to keep the tree. Instead of listening to me, I arrived home from school one day to find the tree massacred in my front yard. It was in such a condition that it will NEVER grow back. This has left me with an incredibly large amount of guilt . I often times feel as if I am worth nothing because I did not do enough to protect the thing I love. Now it is happening again, because the second tree needs to be cut down to redo the roof. My dad tried to cut it down, so i ran outside and began yelling, then crying. It has been left alone for about an hour, but i have no idea as to what will happen when I go back to school.", "summary": "My grandpa left two trees that we both loved for me to take care of when he died, my family hated tree #1 and cut it down, I feel guilt and now my family has attempted to cut down tree #2."}
{"id": "t3_3lu6s6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Want to hang out with girlfriend more over the winter but cant due to parents.", "post": "so me and my girlfriend who are both same age, (20) have been in a relationship for the last two months and everything has been great. We hang out pretty often since neither of us are allowed over because of both our parents religious backgrounds. they would not condone dating unless we were serious about it.\nSo winters right around the corner and we would like to spend time indoors and watch netflix blah blah blah. how can I do this since we cant go over to each others place? i dont want to spend money all the time rent a nice hotel stay there for the weekend. nothing beats home so yeah.", "summary": "want to go over to gfs place/bring her over to mine but cant due to our parents. plus winters around the corner so hanging out outside is not an option. plus both of us are students so we're kinda broke."}
{"id": "t3_2deue5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving fashion advice to my girlfriend.", "post": "Probably not the worst offense on TIFU, but probably the worst offense I could do in my relationship thus far.\n\nToday I went with my girlfriend to a store to get some bras with my girlfriend, and typically she takes my fashion advice pretty well. Along with buying a few bras, she also bought jeans and these weird cottony-spandexy fabric pants where the legs are tight but the crotch is like loose and low and just really weird to me.\n\nI had been ribbing her about the pants all night and just making offhanded remarks about how ridiculous they looked. When she was about to leave my apartment in them I stopped her at the door to ask her if she was really going out like that and that it was in her best interest to maybe change. It hadn't dawned on me that maybe that was too far, until she took my advice on changing and had started crying.\n\nI admit I've been in a pretty upset mood lately from going to a party her roommate threw and some things her parents said, and I shouldn't have taken it out on her. She is the light of my life, the stability I need in rough waters. It's my duty as a boyfriend to build her up; make her feel like she's the most beautiful person I've ever met, whether she wears cool pants, hot pants, weird pants, or no pants. I did the complete opposite. She forgave me, and I know she loves me, but the fact is that I hurt her and that hurts me more than anything in this world.\n\nShe says she's going to take them back and as much as I wanted that, I don't want her feeling like she can't have what she wants just because some douchebag says he doesn't like something she has. Does anybody have advice on what I should do to make it up to her?\n\nI think this would have been easier if she would have just gotten mad at me... not sad at me.", "summary": "I probably should have put this on /r/offmychest"}
{"id": "t3_1v2m5a", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I Have Achieved My Reddit 69 Goal", "post": "I have been on Reddit for a little over 2 and a half years now. My life has always revolved around the number 69 for as long as I can remember; I think that I first discovered what it was in middle school and since that point I have always had what can be described as a mild obsession with the number. What the number 23 is to Jim Carrey, the number 69 is to me. In high school, I cared more about the first time that I 69ed with a girl than the first time I had sex. And whenever I scored a 69 on an assignment or an exam throughout my academic career, you can bet your ass that it was going on the fridge. I was actually a good student, too, so seeing a 69 (generally a D in an unweighted class) should have been devastating. But I digress. This post is meant to be a boast of some sorts, because I finally have achieved one of my proudest 69 accomplishments. On my 969th day on reddit (a 69 both forward AND backward? One of my favorite 69 palindromes!) I have finally achieved both 69 link karma and 6969 comment karma. I have done it. This account will be retired for as long as I live, and the accomplishment will stand cemented in eternity. I am finally a Reddit 69 god.", "summary": "69"}
{"id": "t3_2a7vhd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] 7 years; I feel disconnected from the relationship.", "post": "I have dated the same girl for almost 7 years now since my senior year of high school. She and I are both the only people that each other have ever really been involved in a serious relationship with. For the most part things have always been pretty good (we have had our share of fighting and problems but nothing serious).\n\nLately however, I've been feeling very disconnected from her. People have kept asking us when I'm going to propose and I would laugh it off. But really I did start to think about it and realized that I don't want to marry this girl. We have talked about it in the past and agreed that we would talk again when we were ready for that step. I feel stuck in a rutt and even though I've talked to her about it nothing has really changed. I know I'm not ready for marriage and even though she says she isn't either, several friends of hers have told me that she is just waiting for me to pop the question.\n\nI've thought about it a lot and am leaning towards ending the relationship. I do care about this girl and don't want to hurt her. But I feel like I am missing something. Problem is I have no idea how to even bring this up. She has pretty bad anxiety problems so I don't think she will take it very well at all and I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Dated girl for a long time, only girl I've been with. Really thinking about ending the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2i5tgi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should i tell my friend (17 f) her boyfriend (19 m) made out with another girl when they were briefly broken up? They have been together for less than a year.", "post": "So my friend, and ex friend, were dating. She is the sweetest, most caring and genuine person i know. He is a selfish alcoholic asshole. He broke up with her because she got mad that he went to the bar with two of his ex girlfriends then came home drunk. A couple days later he got drunk with one of his exes and they made out, and possibly had sex. They were only broken up for 2 weeks and now they are back together.  She doesn't know they did anything. It seems obvious to tell her but she became so depressed and down when they were broken up i dont know if i want to do that to her. Should i tell her?", "summary": "friend got back together with alcoholic ex after he possibly slept with another girl after brief breakup."}
{"id": "t3_264t5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] and my girlfriend[23F] have been dating (officially) for 3 months, but she doesn't love me.", "post": "So, I have been officially dating my girlfriend about 3 months, but we've known each other for like 2 years before that, and we have always liked each other, it just took a long while to start a relationship.\n\nLast night, she told me that she likes me very much, and doesn't regret being in a relationship, but also said that she doesn't know if she loves me or even knows what love is. I believe that given the time we've known each other, all the time we spent together, and that she knows my qualities and flaws, that she should know what she feels for me. She claims she doesn't want to lose me. I love her but she doesn't feel the same... yet.\n\nAm I selfish for expecting to be loved in a relationship? Should I wait or am I wasting my time?", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't know if she loves me yet, though I think she should know by now. Is it worth waiting for it to happen or not?"}
{"id": "t3_43ryuj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When things get competitive , I do not like it and I try to avoid a potential relationship. Is this the right thing to do? [24 M]", "post": "I am a college student that goes to university. I am usually quite social and quite flirty when I am in my classes (although I focus on my classes more to get the best grade I can). I have met this girl in one of my classes and she is really awesome. I got her phone number, we text here and there, and we get along. I have a good feeling about her. However, one of the reasons why I do not like dating classmates is that it gets VERY competitive. I went to one of my classes today and this other guy is chatting it up with the girl I have been talking to and I did not have a chance to talk to her that much today. When things get competitive, it really turns me off and I seem to avoid a potential relationship altogether. Is this the right thing to do? I feel like I can not control these things and I do not want to make the environment feel like the \"animal kingdom\" and \"edgy\" if you know what I mean. Anyone else feel this way? What should I do?\n\n*An important note, I get turned off when a lot of guys talk to one girl (For example: A girl is texting 5 guys at a time and there is a rotation where you wait your turn)", "summary": "Another guy has been chatting it up with the girl I have been talking to, should I just abandon the potential relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3k9igs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21m) ruined my relationship with my mom, I know I was right but I feel like shit", "post": "Mom has always been an amazing loving mother to me, we've had a great relationship and we're really close. I'm good with my dad but nowhere near as I am with my mom.\n\nShe was having an affair, I freaked out and told dad, dad freaked out and lost his shit. Dad and I are still on good terms but my mom has cut me off entirely. It feels like fucking shit. \n\nI'm just really confused about all this. My dad even told me not to hate my mom and I don't but I know she probably hates me. I knew they were going through a rough patch of sorts and feel like maybe they would have worked it out or some shit.\n\nThey're gonna get a divorce.", "summary": "mom had an affair, I told my dad, she hates and has cut me out"}
{"id": "t3_snni0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hey Reddit, how do I help my 17-year-old brother get back on track?", "post": "Reddit, I need advice, either for my brother, or for my family.  My 17-year-old brother has given up on school simply because it doesn't interest him.  He was caught with marijuana on school property last year (not a huge deal, except that his pot habit was preceded by excessive drinking and proceeded by excessive tobacco use). Despite all of my family's attempts at problem-solving, ranging from transferring him into one of the state's best schools (his choice) to screaming matches to compassion to strict rules to tears, he seems only to lose his sense of self-worth more and more every day.  A few years ago he was diagnosed with mild depression, and it is clearly having a bigger effect on his life than he would care to admit.  He is a hard worker at every job he has ever had, and he is so smart - he is simply choosing not to apply himself and just finish high school.  He's already been held back a grade, and now risks expulsion because he chooses to skip school at least 3 days a week.  My parents, my sister and I want to do everything we can to get him back on track but we have run out of ideas and don't know what to do next.  Reddit, how do we help re-motivate him?", "summary": "Brother is trying to evade real life, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gsgwd", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "I had a concussion back in High School and ever since them nothing has really been the same for me. (21M)", "post": "I played football in High School and my senior year I suffered a concussion during a practice and tried to keep playing. One of the coaches made me sit out the rest of practice and I thought I would be fine.\n\nOver the next few months I had a few bouts of sleep paralysis (I would wake up and barely be able to move while my eyes would be darting back and forth uncontrollably.) This hasn't really happened the past few years, but occasionally in my sleep I will faintly remember clenching down with my teeth very hard or stretching one of my calves to the point where I pull a muscle. This too has happened less and less frequently over time, though.\n\nThe other side to this is that I know for a fact that I have been a more moody (for lack of a better word) person since it happened. I get angry/depressed way more than what I used to. I actually used to be really laid back, patient, and level. My grades/ability to learn has also taken a noticeable dip. I used to learn with ease and understand everything that I was taught in school. Now I struggle learning new materials and/or applying older concepts from high school/earlier in college (for example, remember something as simple as common denominators and using it for Calculus).\n\nBut the main reason I came here is because I never really told anyone much about this, and I am afraid that this is something that will plague me for the rest of my life. My biggest concern is that I lost some of my intellectual ability that I used to have, and am afraid this will affect my career prospects once I graduate.", "summary": "I never went to the doctors/told anyone about my concussion and the problems resulting from it, and would like advice on what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_j5lct", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So It Begins...", "post": "I thought that seen as I got up at a super early time today. I would make this a week of change. The first of this is I am going to start being healthier. \n\nI come on Reddit all the time and see these amazing sucess stories about people losing weight. It always hits me that much harder on here, cause I know that the people of Reddit are like me, they love to sit on the internet and do nothing much else.\n\nBut I thought that if I were to put my post on here, say my piece and then that way, I only have myself to blame for my failures but also, I have this here to remind me that more people are gonna know. This helps.Just knowing that geeks, nerds, gamers or just internet dwellers in general are shedding pounds makes all the difference to me.", "summary": "Losing weight publicly, so I don't feel like a fatass. ;)"}
{"id": "t3_387u7o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/F] with my friend [27/M] and Fiance [27/M] please help sort my mind", "post": "I want to try to keep this short.\n\nI've been quite good friends with this guy for over 10 years, we are in the same circle of friends and have always had a good relationship with each other. Nothing has ever happened between us, however I do think he's an attractive guy.\n\nI have been with my Fiance for 9 years and our relationship is good, but sometimes I do wonder if we're right together, but I think I'm not the only one to get that now and again when they've been in relationships for a long time with someone they met so young - right? \n\nThis weekend I was out with this friend and some others, got really drunk and we almost kissed on the way home. \nI will be honest and say I am a very forgetful drunk, but from what I can piece together we hugged, almost kissed and said we loved each other. (we do say this at other times, to each other and other friends, so this wasn't weird - just the context) I can't remember what else was said, but he texted me when he was home to say 'now you know how I feel'.\n\nI texted the next day to apologize and he said that we were just drunk, let's forget about it. Should I? Not really sure what I'm asking here, but I wanted to get this off my chest.\n\nThanks for listening.", "summary": "I have a Fiance but almost kissed a good male friend"}
{"id": "t3_2a3fjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my Boyfriend [20M] of 1 year, he is still VERY close (too close!) with ex", "post": "Hi guys!\nSo my boyfriend and I have been together since the summer before I started college (we go to the same school). Before he went to college, he ended things with his high school girlfriend, whom he had dated for less than six months. I found his yearbook, and her note to him in it that was all about how she wishes they met sooner, she's going to miss him terribly, and signed love at the end. He told me he wasn't serious about her - in fact, one night he told me he only dated her as a way to get laid his senior year of high school. \nOver Christmas Break, she was \"in his neighborhood\" (super far from where she lives) and asked him to get coffee...but he didn't tell me until long after, insisted nothing happened and said he never told me because he didn't think it was important. \nShe talks to him all the time (I accidentally grabbed his phone instead of mine one morning last semester and there was a facebook message from her about \"vajazzling\"...not exactly 9am ex-girlfriend talk) and it makes me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. This being said, his ex girlfriend has had a pretty terrible home life and I know he feels bad about that, but I still don't know if I can trust him. He says its definitely possible that she still has feelings for him - but I don't know if he feels that way about her still, even though he's now with me. Help me out? \nBefore anyone asks, I haven't gone through their conversations!", "summary": "Boyfriend's ex is, I believe, still into him, talks to him all the time, and I don't know if I can trust him to not fall for her"}
{"id": "t3_fzlfl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need advice on first date.", "post": "I need some advice on a first date, I've never had a girlfriend or a date before and I'm a pretty lousy conversationalist. I'm a high school senior and tomorrow is one of our school-sponsored banquets, and last week I finally got the courage to ask this really amazing girl who I've known since 2nd grade to the banquet. She said yes and so far things have been looking great, and this may turn into a relationship if I don't screw things up. So my problem is this, I'm a really lousy conversationalist and struggle to keep a decent conversation going with anyone except my closest friends. I'm scared because I am going to have a lot of alone time with her tomorrow, and I'm afraid of the awkward silence that may result. I know just enough about her, so I can't ask the basic questions that someone just meeting someone asks, however, at the same time I don't know her well enough to really strike up a conversation easily like I do with my close friends. What are some things that I could talk about to keep a conversation going and not create the dreaded awkward silence? I really don't want to screw this up because she is such an amazing girl who is probably the nicest in my class, and doesn't fuck around and cause drama. Any other tips for a first date?", "summary": "My first first date tomorrow and I suck at making conversation, advice on how to change that? Any other tips?"}
{"id": "t3_514dpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my guy? [31 M] 2 months, can anyone give me tips of initiating the DTR conversation?", "post": "Been seeing this guy for 2 months, met organically at a friend's event. \n\nHe's been absolutely wonderful, but I know he went through a really tough break up a year ago and I'm the first person he's dated since. While he texts me all the time and is always asking me to go on dates/go do things/plus now we have sex, he's never said anything that actually implies that he likes me. He told me I looked pretty once. He almost always pays despite my protests, and has invited me to meet some friends, and to events where his coworkers are. He did not introduce me to said coworkers. I hate that I am overthinking this. I need to just ask. Also, I am aware that I qualify as a emotionally higher maintenance person who likes compliments and confirmation that someone is into me.  \n\nBasically what I am wanting to ask him is if he's even looking for a relationship, not necessarily if he knows whether or not he wants one with me now. But for whatever reason I can't figure out how to ask. Like, do I do it when we're just watching Wheel of Fortune? or in the middle of a date? on the phone? I'm afraid of coming across as clingy or jumping the gun. But I am looking for a LTR with someone and if that's not even on his radar at all at this point in his life then I'm going to cut bait and keep looking. \n\nSo any tips for me? How did you guys do this yourselves? Sometimes I feel like his lack of certain types of attention clue that he is not, but in other ways clue that he is. I need to ask.", "summary": "what is the best way/time to bring up the DTR conversation? I don't want to come across as clingy or rushing the \"relationship\""}
{"id": "t3_2irp4h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Wanting to fix things with my queen [18/f]", "post": "Started talking to this girl when school started and have been infatuated ever since. I literally love everything about her besides her attitude when she's mad. Anyways, everything was going good met her at the gym one time we hit it off and then she came over at like 2 am just to chill til 5 am (No smash, heated makeout, maybe period).  Then I saw her with another guy and completely cut contact with her for two days, but i realized i was being stupid and went back. Sees me in a pic with another girl and ignores 10 of my texts over 4 days. \n\nBut.. I'm stupid and kept starting fights over little shit ( thought she was talking to somebody else and turns out she wasnt). \nLong story short she said she's done and lost interest in all of \"this\".\n\nI usually don't do this. I've smashed 8 girls already in my first semester of college but Goddamn. This one got me.\n\nThinking about sending her flowers after a week of no contact. Feel like I already gave her too much.", "summary": "(extras)"}
{"id": "t3_1bk9z1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] My girlfriend [22/f] is super pissed!", "post": "Been together for four months. My ex commented on my FB post stressing about graduation. She wrote \"have faith in yourself dude.\" Now my gf texted me, saying \"I don't know if I want you to stay over tonight.\" and \"I'm just really angry right now. You have no reason to have any communication with her whatsoever.\" \n\nI texted I'm sorry, and I really feel bad that she's mad about this because there must be something I could have done, i.e., perma-ban the ex from any of my networks. I thought I completed the no contact phase, and moved on into a better relationship, but what do I do?\n\nI haven't been talking with the ex, this is the first communication we've had in months, and I've spent all but a single digit number of nights with my girlfriend since we made it facebook official. We talked and hung out together for a few months prior to that.", "summary": "Ex commented on FB post, GF flips shit."}
{"id": "t3_4s72v4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26 M] fianc\u00e9e [27 F] has no sex drive. What can I/we do?", "post": "I [26 M] need some help. I've been with my fianc\u00e9e for 3 years and engaged for 1 year and the sex either isn't there or isn't satisfying. We got an apartment together 2.5 months ago and I can count on 1 hand how many times we've had sex since then. I ask and she normally says yes, but then it's me doing all the work. She just lays there while I paw at her and outside of the rare exaggerated inhale, there's no response to anything I do. I try to go down on her and she refuses. I've asked if it's my body or something else under my control and she tells me that it's just a low sex drive.\n\nAt this point I'm convinced that she considers sex to be a chore or a burden, so then I ask less because I don't want to impose. \n\nIs there anything recommended that might help in this situation? I don't know what other information to put but if there's a relevant question, ask away.\n\n**Question Answers/Edits**: She's agreed to go to a sex counselor with me. No complaints, even agreement that it's something we need. Our schedule is really tight but we found someone that we can see. She's on the pill. I don't know which one off-hand.", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9e has no sex drive and it's messing with my head."}
{"id": "t3_ohez3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would Reddit be interested in a Reddit Trading Card Game?", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nMe and my friends have way too much time on our hands, and have started a little project. We're planning on making a Reddit Trading Card Game!\n\n[If you don't know what a TCG is, here is the wikipedia page on the subject.](\n\n**Ideas so far**\n\n*Please note that this idea is really new, and therefore also really raw.*\n\nThe cards would be memes, timeless ones or just the ones that are popular for some time and then disappear. It will all be there.\n\nThe \"Life\" of the cards will be karma. If you have something that gives you *upvotes*, you gain karma, and therefore have more life. If you have something that *downvotes*, you lose karma, and therefore have less life.\n\nThe \"Energy\" or \"Mana\" will be called *Power* (not settled). Red Power will for example be called Rage Power.\n\nThe area where you play out your memes, will be called the \"Front Page\". Your deck is called \"Links\" (open for suggestions on this one), when your meme's die or you have used a one-use card, they get \"Deleted\".\n\n**We need YOUR help!**\n\nIf you're interested in this project, please visit [/r/rtcg](/r/rtcg) and leave your suggestions there! We need help with game rules, we need artists, and we need creative minds for ideas! If you want to help us with this project in any way, be it drawing, coming up with ideas and rules, or anything else that might be useful, send me a message, we would love getting your help!", "summary": "We're making a Reddit TCG. Visit [/r/rtcg](/r/rtcg) and leave your suggestions there!"}
{"id": "t3_388j11", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "High-ish income but huge student loans. How to go about lowering interest rate?", "post": "My better half is a dentist that is making around 110 - 120k a year. However, she had 176k remaining on an original amount of ~250k in student loans. 166K of that is at a interest rate of 6.5% (she was smart and targeted the higher interest rate loans first). She's paying roughly $2100 a month on a minimum payment of $1100.\n\nThe problem she has, aside from not being able to deduct the student loan interest, is that once she pays for her fixed costs (medical insurance, liability insurance, licensing, rent, loans etc.) she's left with $750 a month to split between food, gas, any classes she needs to take, and any incidentals.\n\nShe has $60k in savings that she believes she needs when receiving a loan to start a practice at some point in the coming years. My question is this, how does she go about lowering her interest rate on these loans? We've checked out the major players--sofi, common bond, etc., but even if she becomes approved the interest rate is at beast .25% lower.", "summary": "What's the best way to go about refinancing student loans?"}
{"id": "t3_22xdij", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] broke up with my girlfriend [18/F] of one year last night, and we are both heartbroken, is it appropriate to text her the morning after?", "post": "My loving girlfriend of one year and I cut it off last night. I had to call her (I know, bad move, I didn't have any other options,) and tell her it wasn't working. To sum up the reason why, we just aren't compatible and we are two different people. I loved being with her but it just wasn't meant to be.\n\nShe was such a loving girlfriend, she gave her all for both of us and she has the biggest heart, but it just wasn't working. I called her and she started sobbing for about a half hour begging me not to do it but I eventually had to hang up and text her mom asking to go console her.\n\nI wanted to shoot her a text telling her that I appreciate everything she had ever done for the both of us and how I don't regret anything that we've ever done (we lost our virginities to each other a couple  weeks ago as well.) Just to give her a bit of closure, she's incredibly emotional and I want to do anything to make the process a little less shitty.\n\nAnd yes, I realize it will take a long time before we can become friends again. This is really hard for both of us.", "summary": "broke up with girlfriend last night, can I text her today and give her a bit of closure?"}
{"id": "t3_n529d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What happened when you were a teenager the first time you saw the opposite sex nude, right in front of you, and not in a porn?", "post": "15 or 16 years old at the time, first girlfriend I ever had\n\nI lived near a beach and me and my girlfriend at the time went on a picnic. We spent a few hours in the sun fooling around, and as you know on the beach you get sand everywhere on your body. So we decided it was time to head back to her place \n\nWhen we got home there was nobody there. I think her elders had to go out and get groceries or something. So there we were, home alone. She says, \"LineCookGuy, lets go take a shower together before they get home.\"\n\nI nervous as hell at this point reluctantly agree, but I put my poker face on as we walk to her bathroom. When inside we undress awkwardly.\n\nThere she is naked and her body wasn't what I expected it to be, I felt my body turn white as ghost. She started the shower water and I went up to her not sure what to do, so I kissed her very badly (I was a horrible kisser) We just stood there eyes trying not to look at each other. I then said fuck it and acted like I heard her parents come home. I reached for my swim suit and put it on.\n\nShe asked \"LineCookGuy, what are you doing\"\n\nI told her \"I heard your parents when need to get out of here\". She had this awkward look on her face and got in the shower.\n\nI left the bathroom still scared white. Embarrassed. But glad I was that much closer to becoming a man.. I think.\n\n(", "summary": ") We tried to shower together, and I got scared"}
{"id": "t3_1bs6dm", "subreddit": "college", "title": "My professor did something kinda shady....", "post": "So we are doing presentations in one of my classes. We are to grade each presentation with a number between 1 and 100. My teacher has a google spreadsheet set up for us to enter all these ratings. But we are to enter these in on our computers while the presentation is happening, and you can see who is giving you what grades. You have to give everyone a unique score so if you think someone should have gotten a score you already have to someone else you have to lower the first persons score. So you see who's giving you what rating, everyone else's ratings, and you can see someone else lower your score to raise some else's.\n\nI feel like this maybe isn't a super cool thing to do.  Is this something I should take to University management?  What are your thoughts?", "summary": "My teacher had us evaluate our peers in a manor that was public and not anonymous.  Is this okay?"}
{"id": "t3_la60v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was helped by a stranger. What is a good way i can pass on the kindness?", "post": "i was recntly coming home from a trip from new york city were i found out my credit card had been canceld even though i specificly told them i would be going to ny (i dident bring any cash with me). luckily i was with my brother who was willing to pay for my food at the time and even gave me $15 for my trip back to by some food as the journey back home would take about 13 hours with a bus then a train. after getting half way through my journey i was about to get on my next transfer when i found out that i had booked the wrong day to get back home so i had to pay $15 as a penilty. once i eventually got to the last leg of my journey i had to pay for a train ticket and with no money i was hoping my credit card would work, it did not, so with that i felt tired and defeated from the journey and i realised i would have to wait for a few more hours till the sun rose to call my father who lived relativly near by (i dident feel like walking 50 miles) to get some money from him. lucky for me though a stranger from behinde me in the ticket line decided in a amazing act of kindness that he would pay for my ticket. this of course was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me, and i thanked him profusly but i never saw him again. so what can i do to pass on this act of kindness?", "summary": "i ran out of money coming back from ny, and a stranger payed for my ticket home."}
{"id": "t3_2qeo0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] don't know how to deal with a girl's [18/f] emotional baggage.", "post": "So about 2 weeks ago, I met a really nice girl at a friend of mine's party. We started talking and eventually got off (No Sex). The next morning, we promised to see each other again at some point in the future and to organise something. Ever since then, we've been texting to each veeery flirtatiously. She asks about sex, fantasies, etc etc. Stuff on that sort of lines. However, about a couple days ago, I recently found out through a friend that her parents had gone through a very tumultuous divorce, alongside with having a previous relationship go horribly wrong. She told me the details and I thought \"Ok, maybe she's not too worried about it.\" Wrong. She texts me pretty much everyday about how something in her life is wrong, whether she's think about her ex-boyfriend or her parent's divorce. \n\nI'm completely torn in half with this matter. Part of me wants to be there for her, assist her in her time of need. Yet the other half is saying \"Abort, abort.\" I don't know if I can deal with a girl's emotional baggage, yet I want to be for this girl when she needs help.\n\nWhat should I do? Stick or move on?", "summary": "Girl I like has emotional problems/baggage and i'm not sure whether to abort or stick with her."}
{"id": "t3_1l8912", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] want to convince my girlfriend [22f] to go to college", "post": "About eight months ago I met a girl (named Alyssa) that I hired to clean my apartment. For reference she is 22 from Costa Rica and I am 26 and white. I started talking to her while she was working and some casual flirting and soon enough we were dating. \nUnlike majority of the women I have dated, Alyssa was different in the sense she was a simple quiet girl. She never wore flashy clothing or cared for high end purses and was an overall a really humble person. And for me she was the ideal wifey material.\n However there is one problem in our relationship. Alyssa hasn't had any education past high school and I come from a family where most people have a master's degree. Alyssa and I talked about post marriage plans and that most likely she would become a housewife. However, that being said I would still like her to have a degree. One, so she can be a more refined individual. Second and most importantly, so my family will approve of her.  \nI know many of you are going to say just ignore your family, that their opinions don't matter but, it is never as simple as that. First of all I have a very positive relationship with my family and if it wasn't for their advice and guidance I wouldn't be at the position where I am at now. Second, I partly agree with their stance.\nThe problem is when I talked to Alyssa about going back to school she says that she isn't cut out for college. I tried talking to her about but she says she is too old now and that she isn't smart enough. I would really like her to get a college degree but I don't want her to think that I am trying to make her qualify for my acceptance. She is very submissive in general and I don't want her to do it just because I told her so but actually want her to wholeheartedly enjoy going to school. \n I really want to be careful with my choice of wording mainly because no one in her family has graduated with a degree so I don't want to come off condescending; there is a large enough cultural barrier between me and her, and I don't want to make it any worse.", "summary": "I date Hispanic girl I want to marry but I want her to get a college degree, she says she isn't cut out for school"}
{"id": "t3_4yqv29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[M/21] tell my gf[20/f] of 7 months that I'm going to see a doctor about getting a vasectomy?", "post": "For the longest time I've known that I'll never want to have any children. (I've heard it all, that I'll change my mind when I'm older and all that other jazz) Anyways the issue I have is that I'm in this semi-new relationship with my gf and I was wondering if I should tell her that I want to pursue this course of action. I know that I would have to tell her when the day comes. My concern is that if I start talking about our future lives together, would she be kind of turned away by the fact that I'm already talking about a future together, since we have only be dating 7 months. I'm I making a bid deal about nothing and just tell her?? Or should I wait and get one much later in the relationship? \n\nAlso before anyone says, just wear a condom or have her get on birth control. I just get to scared about the slim possibility of her getting pregnant.  So thats why I want a vasectomy so it would ease my mind and wouldn't have to worry about her getting pregnant.", "summary": "should I tell my gf that I want to get a vasectomy?"}
{"id": "t3_cl941", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Question", "post": "A few days I was reading an article called [Beware the 30 year\nold Virgin](\n(I'm in that category). Ever since I've been thinking about the\nimplications of #2\n(I'll repost the relevant bit here, no need to read the whole\narticle; the emphasis is mine):\n\n> 2) Any geek can get laid if he wants to. [...] sex is not\n> limited to the beautiful or intelligent minority.  In fact, I\n> am bombarded with enough Ugly People PDA that I am more than\n> convinced of this theory. Our minds have a way of playing\n> tricks on us when we fall in love, and then **there's always**\n> **cheap booze or the cheap hooker on the corner.** So, in the end,\n> if this guy is crying that he's never gotten some nooky just\n> because he is still waiting for the one - the lucky you - then\n> most likely something is truly wrong with him. [...]\n> Men have plenty of sperm to spread around with random women on\n> random park benches, so what makes you so special that he's\n> been waiting his whole life to save it for you?  Most likely\n> it is some fantastical lie to cover up his anti-socialness\n> that is so freaky (\u00e0 la \"serial murderer\" freaky) that would\n> make him a less than cuddly companion.\n\nI've never considered it ethical to try to \"hook up\" with\ndrunks. I have occasionally considered hookers, but I would\nrather be with a girlfriend, someone I had real feelings for.\nI'm not even sure I could enjoy it much in either case, without\na fully willing partner, who genuinely wanted me. It's clear\nhere that some women do think differently, that any sexual\nexperience is more appealing than none.\n\n(", "summary": "start here) So I ask my fellow RA readers, which of the following are the most and least creepy/unappealing:"}
{"id": "t3_4ftca2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "American living outside the US: how best to invest my USD?", "post": "Most of my wealth is in a non-US bank account, and I have a good plan for how to invest that. But I'm only just beginning to examine what I should be doing with my USD. \n\nMy question is what should I do about the money I do have in my US bank accounts? I'm not resident or working in the US, and don't intend to retire there. I'm still in my twenties, and won't need the money any time soon. \n\nAt the moment I've got about $10k to play with, so not a large sum, but I also don't want it languishing about. I've been vaguely considering taking it out as my 'risk' money and using it for stock trading. But does anyone have any other ideas?", "summary": "Is anyone else here non-resident and worked out a good plan for what to do with their US dollars?"}
{"id": "t3_1hb1sm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] slept with another guy [20M] after breaking up with my BF [19M], but now want to get back with my ex. How to bring this up?", "post": "My ex and I were together for a year before I broke it off. My reasons were fairly immature; I was bored by the monotony of our relationship, wanted to date around and enjoy my youth, etc. Part of this sudden change might have been due to medication-induced hypomania, as I had recently started a new antidepressant (I have been in treatment for bipolar disorder for several years now). Regardless, it seems like a kind of stupid decision now.  \n\nI met another guy a few weeks after the breakup who seemed fun, light-hearted, and interested in me. We hit it off and almost immediately began dating and sleeping together. However, it didn't take long for me to realize that he was not right for me (for reasons I can explain if necessary, but I don't want to make this post too long).  \n\nA month has passed and my ex of a year and I have begun talking again. I'm feeling a bit more stable on my meds now and I think we're both considering getting back together. While I know this would usually be easy (we had an extraordinarily close bond and good chemistry), I don't know how to approach the topic of the other guy. My ex and I lost our virginities to each other, and I know that the idea of me having sex with another guy would absolutely tear him apart. However, I could never hide that from him with a clear conscience.  \n\nSo, how should I go about that discussion? Or am I just not cut out for a healthy relationship right now? I just feel like a despicable person and don't know where to go from here.", "summary": "Broke up with BF, slept with another guy, now considering getting together with the first ex but don't know how to break the news that I dated/slept with another guy while we were broken up."}
{"id": "t3_31xgus", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you think my parents are irrational (14F)?", "post": "I understand I am young, but I am asking you to bear with me. I also would like to try to keep this short and sweet.\n\nI am a 14 year old girl who has a close circle of friends and rarely is there someone that we met that clicks with us. However, this exact thing happened back in January. This guy, who was a friend of a friend, started sitting with us at lunch. Eventually, him and I ended up exchanging numbers and started talking. One thing led to another and we found out about our mutual crushes on each other. He asked me out and I was forced to reject him due to my parents rule of no dating. We're still friends and tend to flirt a bit and joke around (short hugs, calling each other \"baby\", ect) but nothing past that as he knows that I don't want to go behind my parents back.\n\nSo here is my question: Do you think my parents are irrational? I'm not allowed to hang out with guys outside of school and my parents are barely okay with me hanging out with guys during school. Should I just say something about it and possibly get them to think it over?\n\n***Just to clarify, if this guy and I got into a relationship we would not be having sex. We both know we are WAY too young.", "summary": "Are my parents irrational for not allowing me to date? What about for not letting me hang out with guy friends?"}
{"id": "t3_33nwp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] need tips on easing thru a break up. Him [28m]", "post": "My issue isnt as big as others on this subreddit but as someone who usually has my guard up and rarely let my walls down I was wondering what are some tips for easing through a break up especially when it is something that noone did wrong just a slight misalignment in lifestyle and putting career first.\n\nWe had amazing emotional and physical chemistry, same sense of crude humour and alignment in what we want in a family and hobbies but bottom line was he wanted to pursue a career in the police force and he couldnt have associations with people who do recreational drugs (which I understand). I find it easier to  on when something is obviously wrong but with this I am having a hard time coming to terms with. Advice?\n\nAnd lemme hear the cold hard truth.", "summary": "Advice on moving on cause I mean it was only 4 months!"}
{"id": "t3_2qolyr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm Doing Better", "post": "I was in a dark place exactly 22 days ago. What's interesting is that I know this because I posted on this subreddit. I actually just noticed that I posted it, because honestly, I forgot. I re read what I said, and I can say that I understand exactly what I was saying at the time, and even agree with it. I understand that what I did was fucked up, and that it wasn't what I wanted, but you know what? I'm who I am right this fucking instant because of it, and dammit, I fucking love me. It feels good. It feels good to actually like yourself, rather than hing on what others say. Deduce your worth based on your interpretation of others appraisal of you.\n\nSHIT, you know what? I just fucked up with like two girls in the past two days, and that's soooo shitty. I just broke a nofap streak of like 2 weeks! But the funny thing is, I'm still me, and I'm still the shit. I'm learning from the stupid mistakes I make, and that's the only way I'd ever have it.", "summary": "I fuck up, you fuck up, he shit it fucks up, just know that you fuck up in your own unique ways, and that's what makes you awesome. "}
{"id": "t3_1zgedx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22 M]move to Portugal or stay with my GF in Sweden?", "post": "Background:\nI met my girlfriend (19) last summer, long story short, we both fell in love. She was starting her final year of high school and I was going to go abroad and work/travel. Instead, I decided to stay in Sweden and wait for her to graduate high school. We have a great relationship and we both love each other very much. She will graduate in 3 months and we are planning to move abroad to work/travel after her graduation.\n\nProblem: I was offered a job in Portugal. The job is ok, not a good salary and pretty long hours. However, it's an opportunity to move abroad(which is a dream of mine) and at the moment I'm unemployed.\nI have accepted the job, but i'm thinking of backing out. Both my gf and I feel that it will be very hard for us to be apart for 3 months, in two different countries.\nI'm completely torn, I feel that it would be a good opportunity for me, but at the same time i feel that I can't live without my girlfriend for 3 months. She feels exactly the same. \nAt the same time she doesn't wanna stand in the way of my career and encourages me to go, even though I know she's sad about it.\n\nQuestion: What should I do? Should I say no to the job, wait 3 more months and then move with my GF or should I take the job and be separated from the love of my life for 3 months? What would you do?\nI will appreciate any helpful advice.", "summary": "wondering whether i should move alone and do long distance for a while or stay and move later together with my gf"}
{"id": "t3_47ab1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and her [17 F] starting to get together. I asked her out, and when the time came around she forgot we had plans. Not sure how to continue", "post": "Me and this girl have been chatting for awhile, and we recently made plans to go out for dinner. \n\nThis morning when I asked her where I should pick her up she was confused. The conversation went like this\n\nme: So where should I pick you up tonight\n\nher: ?\n\nme: For dinner?\n\nher: Sorry, did we make plans?\n\nme: Yeah\n\nher: Oh, I forgot :(\n\nI wound up never replying because well, what could I have said really. It's been about 12 hours and I've thought about just texting her to ask if she's actually interested because our conversations don't seem to go on for very long, but I enjoy talking to her. \n\nAnd the times that we've been together (at our mutual friends house) we've cuddled constantly. And she seemed interested at the time. \n\nI just don't know how to proceed from here, she seems like a really cool person, and it'd be awesome to go out with her because she doesn't seem turned off by my nerdy lifestyle. But at the same time it felt pretty shitty knowing she just forgot about our plans.", "summary": "Me and girl started getting together after talking for awhile. Had date set up, she completely forgot we had plans. Not sure what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_fv8r7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, was is your worst 'out of toilet paper' story?", "post": "Mine happened last year, during a Foundations Engineering test. As with most of the tests at my school, the professors aren't ever too thrilled when someone gets up to leave the room during an exam (usually asking a TA suffices). In my case, I was sitting towards the back of the room, squeezing my butt cheeks with all my might, and walked out the back before it was too late. The bathroom was about a 20 second 'sprint with straight legs' away, with only one stall. I sat down, and fucking exploded shit into the toilet as I felt my bowels contract and relax, like a balloon letting out all its air. About 4 or 5 more of these bursts of shitwater happened before I felt good again.    \nAt last, it was over. I looked at the toilet paper dispenser, only to see it empty (obviously, the thread is about not having shit tickets). Since it was a small bathroom, and I didn't hear anyone enter, I knew I had a few seconds to check if there was paper towels. None. I sped back to the stall, panicking, \"what the FUCK do I do\"?! I did what any resourceful man would do: wore my sock like a puppet, covered both sides with shit, flipped it inside out, covered that with shit, and tossed it in the toilet. Life would have been fine at this point, but it was one of those everlasting clay shit ass smears that takes 50 normal toilet paper wipes. The next sock barely put a dent in the work to be done. I thought I was screwed, until I surrendered my boxers to the shit.    \nI finished my test free balling it in jeans without socks.", "summary": "I used socks and boxers to wipe my ass during a test."}
{"id": "t3_1jv82t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Pointers for a 'semi' LDR? 23M+F", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now. But we have known each other as friends for almost 7 years. We've spent the better part of these past few months seeing each other, and I feel like our relationship is progressing wonderfully. Because of the fact we knew each other before we started dating, we didn't have the awkward 'trying to decide if you're a homicidal maniac' phase that a new relationship may have. We have a large level of trust and we care for each other very much. \n\nNow, here's where things get complicated... She just graduated university and jobs relative to her degree are few and far between in my city. So we kind of knew that things may be different when she eventually did get a job. She didn't want to move too far from home, but couldn't get a job in the city. She ended up landing a job where she is away for 3 weeks at a time. \n\nThe catch is, that during those 3 weeks communication is going to be very difficult (she is working on boats in the open ocean). So talking to her daily, potentially even weekly is an issue.\n\nWe've talked about it before she left, and we are both interested in making this work. We know it will be hard, and very trying, but we care for each other and truly enjoy the time we spend together. \n\nHave any of you had a situation like this? Do you have any pointers about how to make things work?", "summary": "Girlfriend will be away for 3 weeks at a time where communication will be very difficult. How to work around this?"}
{"id": "t3_43gebm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] just saw my ex[20 F] of four months at a party my band was hosting and I can't shake this nasty feeling.", "post": "So my band threw this party and put a flyer on instagram and all that jazz so everyone was invited.  And it was obvious that I along with everyone in my band was gonna be there.\n\nSo my ex who I was with for 2 years but broke up with 4 months ago showed up with her friends (knowing I would be there).  I broke up with her but it was on \"good terms\" for the most part, so I thought.  \n\nAt this party she didn't even look at me when she came in as I was letting people through the door even though I said hi to her.  And her best friend very rudely threw her entry money at my hands instead of handing it to me.  So I'm assuming they don't like me very much.\n\nAnyway, during this party I was at the door most of the time letting people in and out and she would come outside and talk to random people right in front of me.  This bothered me SOOO much.  I know she wasn't doing anything \"wrong\" but did she really have to talk to people right in front of me? One of the times she came out she was holding onto this guys arm as she walked out right in front of me.  These were obvious ploys to make me jealous and uncomfortable and although I wouldn't say I was jealous God was I uncomfortable. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her standing right in front of me and being annoyed about it.  I feel so bothered. I have absolutely nothing against her and wish her the best but how can I shake these nasty feelings? I was fine prior to seeing her and even though I don't want to get back with her I feel like I'm going through the break up all over again.  I would appreciate any advice.  Thank you!", "summary": "Saw exgf at a party.  She tried to make me jealous.  It kinda worked now I feel annoyed/bothered and can't stop thinking about it. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1iyrqj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (25/M) don't know if I've already been rejected by her (30/F)", "post": "I met this woman at the place where we volunteer. After that, I noticed her on the bus home (for reference, it is a 30-45 minute ride) fairly often. I've seen her 2-3 times a week for the past month or so. \n\nA few weeks ago, I gave her my phone number after we got off the bus, then she said she called me to give me hers. I didn't check, just said it was nice talking to you, etc... and we parted ways. However, I didn't have any missed calls when I checked a couple minutes later. She was very friendly, so I don't know if I was rejected, or if she simply misheard my number, or didn't let it ring long enough, or some other tech issue.\n\nThe thing is, she is incredibly friendly with me. She laughs at my 'jokes', touches my shoulder sometimes, she's even offered to take care of my dog when I travel for work. She asks me how work was, what I'm doing that night or for the weekend, etc... shows interest in what I do. I've talked to her for maybe 4 or 5 hours total, no mention of a boyfriend.\n\nI'm also wondering if she's just not interested in dating a younger guy (25 vs 30).\n\nI want to invite her to get a couple drinks or something after work, but worried I've already been rejected and I'd just make it super awkward.", "summary": "Gave girl my number, but I did not get hers potentially due to communication or tech issue"}
{"id": "t3_3cnzxj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing Highway to Hell in a church", "post": "Okay, this didn't happen today.\n\nI've been messing around with a guitar for a little time, and decided I wanted to play in my church, it would be a good practice to play along with other people, and singers, not just playing along with mp3 files.\n\nAnyway, it took me quite a while in order to convince the church band to let me join. Everytime, before and after a Mass, the band keeps rehearsing stuff while people are still getting to the church, taking their seats, etc. So, it's the first Mass I was going to play, one of the dudes in the band goes \"Hey Lichewitz, play something, let's get our voices warmed up.\"\n\nSo I look to them.. look to the crowd.. and without thinking too much, I start the riff to Highway to Hell by AC DC. The drummer smiles widely and start following me. It was so fun, playing with another guy, that I didn't stop at the riff. I kept going, the whole church looking at us, the drummer laughing his ass off (that guy is the shit), but when I sing the chorus \"I'm on a hiiiiiighway to hell\", I realize what I'm doing. Singing highway to hell in a church. I stopped singing and playing and gave the drummer a \" *dude..* \" look so he would stop too.\n\nThe look the priest gave me is one I'll never forget. I played through the Mass, the way I was supposed to, but after this single one, I've been politely invited to not play again here, ever.", "summary": "played Highway to Hell in a church rehearsal and got kicked out of the band"}
{"id": "t3_2unfpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19M) drunkenly messed around with my friend (19M) and regret it. Should I tell my girlfriend (19F)", "post": "Last night I went over to my best friend's place and we were drinking and I eventually got fairly drunk and my gay friend was being a bit suggestive. In my less than ideal state of mind decided well here's my chance to try doing stuff with a guy. \n\nThere was nothing intimate about it at all and he just did oral on me for a few minutes before I tried doing it on him. I stopped after 2 minutes because I kinda realized what I had done.\n\nImmediately I recognized it had been a terrible idea because I have a girlfriend. All I saw it as, was a chance to experiment with a guy in case I don't get the chance in the future if my girlfriend and I who have been together for nearly 3 years now was to be a forever kind of thing.\n\nThough now I am seriously regretting it and he has said that he wouldn't ever tell anyone about it. I don't know if I should tell my girlfriend or not because it was just a one off thing that I don't have any interest in doing again.\n\nI don't think she would take it well at all even though it meant absolutely nothing to me.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks", "summary": "got drunk with gay friend and 5 minutes of oral happened, I regret it and don't know what to do about my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4pliji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) have feelings for a friend (18F). I think the feelings are mutual, but I'm going out of state for grad school for 2 years and she's starting at university in the fall.", "post": "We've been good friends for around 5 years, and I'm good friends with her siblings and parents. Recently we've been hanging out a lot and it feels like our relationship is getting a lot deeper. My worry is that if I tell her I have feelings for her and its mutual, that she wouldn't able to pursue a relationship she felt was better for her. Also, starting a relationship long distance is not my idea of ideal. But if I don't tell her now, I'm afraid I won't ever have the chance. Also, I will be able to come home a few times over the next 2 years, but not for long visits and not over summer. Thanks all in advance for any advice you might have.", "summary": "apprehension about potentially starting a long distance relationship before we both start school."}
{"id": "t3_43apgr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] feel like my gf [20 F] (dating for ~3months since meeting on tinder) doesn't respect my boundaries", "post": "I met a girl on tinder and we've been dating for the past few months. For a week or two though she's acted a little different around me--arguing with boundaries I set and trying to talk me out of stuff. It happened twice recently, where I asked that she not stay over my place because I have a 9-5 job and she is a college student. The first time, she took over an hour longer to leave my apartment than she promised the night before, and I was nearly late for work. \n\nIt happened again the other night, and even though I brought up the last time this happened, she got emotional and said \"fine I'm never staying over again.\" All I want is a full night of sleep most week nights, but like a complete wimp I caved and let her sleep over. Although she left on time and I made it to work, she snored so loudly that I got about 4 hours of sleep, and spent all day yesterday feeling like shit. Since then I've gotten no apology, no regret, no expressed desire to stop fucking over my workdays, just a text along the lines of \"I had a great time last night [kissy emogee],\" and frankly I'm pissed. \n\nI know that it's partly my fault for not arguing more up front or not expressing my resentment in the morning, but to be honest I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to do those things. Is it too much to ask that people respect my requests for personal space the first or second time I ask, or do most people need reasons and an explanation when I tell them to go the fuck home? Is it because she's in college and doesn't understand what it's like to have a career, and if so, should I try to be understanding of that lack of life experience? Or, is she just selfish? Am I overreacting if I let this one go?", "summary": "new gf not respecting clearly expressed boundaries, should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_3bk23m", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "No drinks for you sweetheart.", "post": "**Backstory:**\nI was at a club, where I could drink all I wanted for free. The prices are pretty expensive, so I was thrilled with the free service. *(20 USD a drink for example)*\n\n**The Revenge:**\nAnyways, I'm standing outside with my friend, when a girl walks up and chats with him a bit. He introduces me to her, and she responds *\"I'm not into redheads.\"*.\n\nFair enough, total bitch. Whatever, didn't really care I was hammered anyways.\n\nSome time later she realizes I had free acces to the bar, so she and her friends come rolling at me. Trying to sweettalk me.\n\nI respond with *\"Yes, I do have free bar acces tonight. To bad you weren't into red heads.\"* and promptly walked off to my friends.", "summary": "See ya bitch."}
{"id": "t3_3n5k5v", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Was I put back into the Zone?", "post": "So this girl and I are finally dating after being really good friends for about 5 years. The first week, we were all over each other. It happened to be my birthday weekend. We kissed each other, called each other babe. Well after another week it started to slow down, to the point where it was extremely noticeable. I asked her if I was smothering her, she said a little. So I pulled back a little too. Now it's like we hardly talk on the phone, and she doesn't show any affection when we see each other. At first she says she's not the affectionate type, but I have to doubt that as the first week was awesome. She keeps blaming the stress in her life as to why she tried to keep her distance from me. She said she didn't want to take it out on me. Although she considers me her boyfriend. I asked her again as to what's wrong and if there's anything I can do. She says she feels trapped and overlooked / judged by her mother (her mom is visiting and originally from AZ). But she stopped showing affection a week before her mom even got here, and doesn't even call me babe anymore. Hardly ever texts back, she'd rather be on Facebook. I even have to ask for a kiss when we first see each other for the first day.", "summary": "girlfriend stopped showing affection, blaming it on stress in her life."}
{"id": "t3_jazd6", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Looking for advice- preparations for upcoming custody modifications (My stepdaughters father filing against us) [Ontario, Canada]", "post": "Hoping someone here might have some good advice for my SO and I...\nWe are expecting to be served papers any day now as my step daughter's bio-dad is attempting to get full custody. I'm not all that worried about the outcome, as my SO has always had full custody of her daughter and he's pretty much just doing this to try and alienate us from their daughter.\n\nI'm interested if anyone has advice on a checklist of things we should be recording and bringing to attention of the courts. It's not that he's a bad guy, he's always just under the impression that we're trying to screw him over, so he's withheld his last two support payments and thus has been denied his visitation rights as per the original agreement.\n\nI would still like my step daughter to see her father...our intent has never been to withhold them from having a relationship, however there are many changes that need to be made and more details need to be added to the agreement to stop this miscommunication.\n\nHe doesn't have any case to argue for full custody (which he's trying to do) so I'm not worried about losing her completely, but would rather keep full custody with my SO and have his access at her discretion.", "summary": "my (5yo) step daughter's bio-dad is trying to get full custody after denying her existence for the first three years of her life and having visitations (every second weekend) for the last two years. Looking for advice to prepare for mediation or court. Also looking for any stories from those of you who have been through this before."}
{"id": "t3_rg49y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm kind of in a sticky situation...Any assistance would be appreciated.....", "post": "So our subdivision is consisted of a bunch of racist assholes....It's a pretty well off upper-middle class area. My \"situation\" begins from the community facilities area (where the pool, basketball, tennis courts are). They implemented a really retarded security gate feature, that requires an electronic keycard. Now the entering process with the card is really annoying to me as the gate never opens, and it just beeps.. So I just jump over it...There's 2 gates, one gate for sidewalk opening and another for cars to pass through....It has security cameras (god forbid someone trespasses to play tennis or what have you)...So apparently they caught \"me\" and \"a companion\" opening the car part of the gate on camera.. Pictures were taken and distributed to all residents, but *someone* out of honesty replied saying it was \"us.\" Now the board of directory is claiming that the gate was tampered with and all this exaggerated bullshit, even though many people pass through the same way, but we have no proof...they are denying access and claiming to bill \"us\" of damages....Judging by videos/pictures they can't necessarily \"convict\" it to be us... because \"I\" haven't confessed to be any part of it... Now bear in mind there has been many robberies in our neighborhood, I've been robbed for at least a grand of things in my garage including mail...yet they chose to add security to an unnecessary area.. Now what can I do in my defense? They are not buying that we didn't do anything in terms of damage, it's pretty evident that nothing was necessarily damaged, just the gate was yanked open....It is a huge metal gate that's magnet retracted....So in my defense what can I say/do?", "summary": "Opened a gate the incorrect way, apparently \"damaged\", Home owners Ass. refusing us access and billing us damages..."}
{"id": "t3_mau4v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Males of Reddit, would you donate your sperm to your friend if she asked you?", "post": "My friend recently asked me to donate my sperm to her. I found it confusing, to say the least, because she's a young 24, perfectly capable of having kids naturally, and perfectly capable of finding guys (she's still legally married to her ex-boyfriend).\n\nWhen I asked her why she asked me, she said because I seem to have good genes, and that I'm \"not a dick.\" Although flattered to some degree, I am still confused about this whole situation. Here's my take on it:\nI'm young. I have my whole life ahead of me, and I would like to start a family of my own, one where I can be close to my kid(s) and be by their side as they grow up. I feel no emotional attachment to this girl whatsoever. I know I'd feel uncomfortable having a child of my own running around, and me not being able to be the potential father I want to be. If I'm going to have a kid, I'm going to be the best damn father I can be, and by donating my sperm to my friend, I feel like that certain level of attachment/intimacy will be absent. My friend and I lead two completely different lives, and to be honest, we don't even really have a super-close friendship; I don't treat her like every other guy has before, so she considers me a close friend.\n\nI'm fairly set on declining her offer, but I wanted to see what Reddit has to say. So, if you were in my position, how would you go about handling it?", "summary": "Friend wants me to donate my sperm to her. What would you do?"}
{"id": "t3_2jxahz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18F] of 2 years can't handle me [19M] because she's all I have.", "post": "So..  \nOver the past three days my gf has been having a bit of a breakdown.  \nIt started off because of too much negativity which I will admit to, I've frankly been an asshole quite frequently. Complaining, calling her things. And I've just been blind to it, mostly due to stress and financial troubles.  But the second day it wasn't about that at all, she brings up how she wants more friends. This is important because she didn't use to, but now she's found some people she feels comfortable around. At first this rubbed me the wrong way because I thought \"why does she need this now when before I've brought all the happiness she ever needed\" but of course I admit that she can have friends, I'm just taken off guard.  \n  \nToday it was that because I have little to no life or reason to live without her, it's a problem. She feels that she can't be who she wants to be because I'd sit at home wishing we could've had that time together instead, even though I tell her that I'd be fine with it, wouldn't take it out on her and find things to do.  \n  \nBut it's not good enough. I'm willing to change anything and everything to make her happy and make her stay with me, but all I get is that it's too late, not enough..  \n  \nShe's always known that I was at the lowest of the low, and on the brink of ending it when we met. She's known that without her, I can't be happy, and I wouldn't be able to function, so essentially being forced to off myself.  \nAnd I don't use this to try and guilt trip her, but she knows that's how pathetic I am.. because I truly cannot be happy without her.  \nBut at one point we both felt that way for each other, and she adored that she was everything to me.\n  \nThe situation now is that she has stated it's over.  \nBut I keep hoping she'll reconsider, at least give me a chance to see if it can work.", "summary": "Past three days my girlfriend has listed reasons why it's not working. I've admitted to faults and promised change, but to no avail."}
{"id": "t3_4wfo4y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being very easily influenced by a stripper.", "post": "I read [this fuck up] by u/Ineedtogetalife4real and remembered a similar story of my own. This happened a few years ago when I started college. \n\nMy newly acquired friends and I did what any college students would do on a Friday night. We drank ourselves half to death. There were three of us and someone, I don't remember who but it might have been me, has the bright idea to go to a stripclub. We somehow stumble into a stripclub, armed with nothing but our wits and about $50 each, and ask some kind strippers for a lapdance. As I am sitting there happily with a stripper on my lap, she starts talking dirty to me, observing that I am hard as a rock and that she would like me to visit her interiors. Being as drunk as I was, I became enchanted by her apparent beauty and wanted to spend more time with her. I tell her this and she says, \"No problem.\" I pull out my wallet and pay another few bucks. She obviously sees me as an easy target and manipulates me to go to an ATM to get more cash. I happily oblige, stumble to the ATM and withdraw $250 because drunk me thought that was a reasonable amount of money to spend in one night. I promptly spend about $150 on more lapdances until the kind stripper convinces me that we should find a room and do something more than just lapdances. I agree, pay my remaining $100 and we head to a room. She tells me to pass her my condom. I tell her I don't have one. She says, \"Shit.\" She then proceeds to tell me to buy a condom, and that they cost about $20 in this particular establishment. I say, \"Fuck no, I'm not paying for that\" which is stupid because I already spent $300, so what's $20 more? I ask her to return my $100 because I didn't actually get anything, and she refuses. I insist and she threatens to call security. I nope out of there, find me friends waiting outside because they weren't stupid/ drunk enough to spend more than $50, and head home for more shots. I got fucked over but I guess it was kind of fun.", "summary": "Spent $200 on strippers. Paid another $100 to get fucked but got fucked over instead."}
{"id": "t3_1udsh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 4month, my first relationship and just want to talk to someone.", "post": "This is the first real relationship I have ever been in. I met my current gf at the university I attend. Things are going good so far, at college we spend almost everyday together because she lives right above me in the dorms. The problem is, our homes are 6 hours away from each other. So, that means if we don't visit each other during breaks, we spend about 4 and half months away from each other. I am in love with her but the fact that we have to spend so much time away from each other kinda gets to me. She is also strongly considering the study abroad program for all of the spring semester. So in 2015, I would only get to see her for maybe 4 months.\n\nThe thing is, this is the first girl I've really fell for. She actually makes my life enjoyable and this is the first time I think I can say I'm truly happy with how my life is. I just can't stand to think about all the time we have to spend away and it's almost making me second guess having this relationship. I want a relationship where I can have a consistent amount of time around my partner, but I also really want her. I guess I'm just looking for advice or someone to talk to if anyone is even interested.", "summary": "My first relationship is going to have some trouble and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4dy7bk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] bf [19M] relies on me when he is struggling but never takes my advice. It drives me crazy and I want it to stop.", "post": "I'm a college freshman, and my bf is currently completing high school. We've been dating a year. He's a great boyfriend and treats me better than I ever thought a person would. \n\nHis family life is difficult, and he relies on me almost exclusively to help him deal with the stress and anxiety associated. This is really stressful. On some occasions, I've had to abandon plans for a day/evening to look after him, because he has no one else to call.\n\nHowever, I try and help him minimise these stresses by suggesting solutions. He always agrees with me at the time but then does nothing. His family is struggling financially, but he still hasn't sorted out a small administrative issue stopping him from receiving government support. He has access to counselling but doesn't bother organising it. Even small things like getting him to change his bed or tidy his room require weeks/months of nagging. \n\nSome people have told me to break up with him because he needs to learn to look after himself. I don't want to give up because I figure everyone has to compromise somewhere, and apart from this, he's amazing. But I worry what will happen in the future, and if this behaviour will continue. I've given ultimatums in the past and he hasn't changed until the very last second, and only for a limited period of time.", "summary": "My bf relies on me so much when things are hard and then doesn't take my advice or look after himself to help himself. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1dfiof", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What advice would you give to someone who is moving to a large city from a small town for university?", "post": "I am from a small, very agricultural area. On my commute to work I spend about 30 minuts driving down country roads surrounded by various dairys and farms. Now I am moving away (for the first time) and its too a very large city for school. I'm transferring in as a junior and am already looking for apartments that are close to campus for me and my SO. \n\nWhat I am really after is any advice for living in such a large place. You must understand that I have never lived in an apartment. I've always had a yard and had nice neighbors (for the most part) and so I'm just a bit nervouse about it. In all honesty I picked this school because it would be such a culture shock, and now I'm just hopping my fellow redditers can give me a inside scoop on things I should do to help my transition.", "summary": "help this small town man understand what living in a large city will be like and what to prepare for."}
{"id": "t3_30d21l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [26/f] am stressed out about my relationship with my boyfriend [26/m] of a year and a half. Break ups/potential moving long distance/stressed out!", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. Overall, we have had a great relationship. Not much fighting. Get along well. Until recently. We've been fighting a lot. Almost every weekend. We broke up, and got back together the next day. So, it's been up and down, but we decided we loved each other and wanted to make it work.\n\n So...it's been about two weeks since then, and we were doing well. Yesterday while I was at work, he texts me to tell me he wants to talk to me, because his parents stated they want to move to the beach ( states away most likely) as we don't live near year warm weather, within the next 6 months or so. He currently lives with them and his younger brothers because his roommate moved and he wanted to save up some money. \n\nNow I may be facing a situation where my boyfriend may decide to move away. He hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am so stressed out and drained emotionally from this and everything that has happened, that I just want to shut down. I don't know what to do...I'm not even sure what I'm posting this for, maybe just to vent...any tips or advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have been dating a year and a half. Have been fighting, broke up, got back together the next day because we love each other and wanted to try, now he may be moving hours away. Don't know what to do. I'm so stressed out I want to shut down."}
{"id": "t3_zwgjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for combating acute procrastination?", "post": "Hello,\nI'd like to pick up some tactics that will aid me in pushing past the barriers in my mind that are stopping me from accomplishing things.  Recently I have discovered that despite having a very strong and deeply seated desire to tackle daily tasks such as doing my homework and cleaning my apartment I am unable to actuate my intentions.  What seems to be stopping me is a bewildering feeling akin to fear that forces me into escapist tactics.  To use a metaphor I feel as though I am at the top of a very high diving board.  I know that I want to dive into the water at the bottom to get down to safety and I know that if I follow simple rules that I will be alright when I land.  Despite all this I cannot willfully take the leap and fall.  \nI would really appreciate any ideas that you may have.", "summary": "I'm afraid of doing homework and I want to jolt myself back to reality."}
{"id": "t3_y8lee", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should you do if your roommate is preparing to not pay for utilities, etc", "post": "I'm pretty sure my roommate has no intention of paying the final bills we move out. I have no direct evidence of this, but I'm in a situation where my roommate and I have had a serious falling out and he seems to do his best to screw me over on hundreds of little things. In addition, he has described himself more than once as \"vindictive\" without apology. Now that our lease is up and we're moving out, I fear that he won't pay his share of the utilities or internet bills, etc for the last month (these are in my name). Is there anything I can do to protect myself or should I just prepare to suck it up accept it. Also, we will have no reason to see each other and live in different cities afterwards.", "summary": "All the utilities etc are in my name. Is there anything I can do to make sure my roommate pays his fair share after we move out next month?"}
{"id": "t3_24yenn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [19F] with a hookup [21M], he knowingly gave her an STI, is doing it to other women", "post": "A friend of mine went on a date with a guy from OK Cupid. Eventually they got back to his place and had unprotected sex, at his request. Later, she told him that she wasn't interested in dating, and he flipped out and sent her a ton of messages calling her a slut. One of the messages said something along the lines of \"oh, lucky you I guess, because I'm not exactly healthy ;) \" \n\nThis obviously freaked her out, so she went to get tested and found out he gave her chlamydia. A week or so later we find out that another girl we know was dating him at the SAME TIME he hooked up with my friend. This girl thought her relationship with him was exclusive. She also said he insisted on unprotected sex with her. \n\nNow we are all afraid he is going around and intentionally giving women STI's. Is there anything we can do?", "summary": "Guy knowingly gives my friend an STI. She finds out he had a girlfriend. He might be doing it to other women."}
{"id": "t3_plvnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend won't stop praising me and it's a complete turn-off", "post": "Let me start off with a disclaimer: I am not an egotist by any means. In fact, I despise haughtiness to the point of psychosis. I know this probably doesn't seem like a \"real problem\" but hear me out. When we first started dating I thought it was cute how \"into me\" she was. Not to mention the fact that I'd never really experienced being so gratuitously complimented by a member of the opposite sex. We've been dating for nearly a year and she hasn't slowed down in telling me how \"hot\" and \"perfect\" I am, and how she can't find a single flaw with me (these are her words mind you; I'm a pretty humble guy, probably a hard 7 in terms of looks, and am not perfect by any means). The more I hear it, the more cringe-worthy it becomes. The worst part is that she uses it as a metric for her own self-deprecation, saying how she needs to \"work out twice a day just to be hot enough for me\" when I persistently tell her that I am perfectly happy with the way she looks. She confesses her adulation for me on a daily basis pretty much, saying things like \"I worship pretty much everything about you\" and \"I don't know what I'd do if you left me.\" I love pretty much everything else about her, but this one tiny problem is quite maddening and I feel like I'm becoming less attracted to her the more she says these things. Is this what you girls mean when you chastise men for \"putting the pussy on a pedestal?\" It's weird seeing it from the other side. But yea, any thoughts? What can I say to her that will get the point across but won't hurt her feelings in the process?", "summary": "Constant praise from the girlfriend is turning me off, how do I tell her to knock it off without hurting her feelings or our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_32bllw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22m) fiance (21f) keeps disappearing on the weekends.", "post": "So my finance and I have been together for 4 years, and engaged for 1 year. Long story short,  I've lived on my own since I was 17, she moved in shortly after turning 18 herself because she was kicked out of her house. So we've lived together for 3 years or so. We've been in a pretty open and trusting relationship, we usually talk most things over,  and express our opinions with each other. \n\nSo the past couple months, about every other weekend, she'll go out with friends, and then not come home. The offer is always on the table for me to come out, but I work at early hours(3am), so even on the weekend I like to be in bed before midnight. She doesn't call or text, and it leaves me worried sick. It's usually noon or later the following day that she'll call me, apologizing, and then act as if nothing happened. \n\nIt's been going on for almost half a year, and each time it happens I feel belittled, and slightly betrayed. Is it wrong of me to feel that way?", "summary": "fiance gets drunk, leaves me behind, doesn't come home till well into the next day."}
{"id": "t3_530ziv", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "9 days at Chengdu/Jiuzhaigou (China) at end of October, need advice on itinerary", "post": "I am in a rut. My family decided to go Chengdu recently but threw all the planning matters to me, and I am in a lost of what is Chengdu like other than hotter than sin hotpots and an other worldly location in Jiuzhaigou.\n\nHere's the plan:\n3 days Chengdu. No idea what locations to visit. I browse thru sites at Tripadvisor. Personally I think I will choose Jinli, Hakka Village. Somewhere unique but not too \"fake\". My parents unfortunately has a rather bad experience in Kyoto and they would like it if its not full of \"UNESCO\" heritage stuff but scenery is way too manufactured (I know, quite a controversial opinion but it makes my dad refuses to go to Tokyo this year even if he never been there). And some nice food. My dad's quite picky and quite unpredictable with food taste but he does like non-oily food. He is quite contradictory when it comes to oily food.\n\nThere is a talk of going Hailuogou. We have never been in a glacier and in short term are not likely to go to anything similar but our aunt recommend us to go there. Personally it sounds great to me.\n\n3 days JiuZhaiGou - We are not going to Huanglong or WenChuan (we really dont want to), but straight away to JiuzhaiGou by flight. Will it be feasible to go in 3 days? What are the things I should take care of? By the way Jiuzhaigu is a compulsory for the trip.\n\n2 days Chengdu.If we are going Hailuogou then we will go to the places mentioned above.\n\nAll of my family speak Chinese so languages shouldn't be a concern. Should we get a guide in Chengdu/hailuogou or Jiuzhaigou? My dad is disabled so he's our primary concern. He is perfectly willing to shell out money for transport/stay in hotel if the place is too dangerous, but we will like it if he can participate with us if not all of the time.", "summary": "Want some authentic places to visit Chengdu. Also whether we can make it to Hailuogou in 2/3 days.And also how do we make it in Jiuzhaigou in 3 days."}
{"id": "t3_e6xzr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need someone/thing to keep me accountable", "post": "Okay reddit, I need to lose some weight, I am guessing around 30 lbs.  I am a medical student with a special interest in weight loss counseling, so it is especially important to me to have credibility with my patients rather than a bulging gut.  I know exactly how to do it (in a healthy way) but I just can't quite get myself too.  I finally freaked out when I had to drive to wal mart before going to the hospital for clinic to buy some pants because I couldnt squeeze into them after a fatty weekend.  I have a good deal of muscle on my frame which helps to obscure the weight with clothes on, which is why I think I put this off for so long (and being really busy).  The worst part about this, is I think my girlfriend is a bit of a chubby chaser, seriously.  She is very fit, but keeps baking/bringing me really fatty things, like pizza and ice cream nights.  I talked to her about this and she was agreeable then the NEXT DAY she brought a half fucking gallon of cookie dough over and left it in my fridge.  There are innumerable other things that she has done like this, but I cannot blame her entirely because if my portions were reasonable I wouldn't be wearing emergency fat pants right now.   I love her like crazy, and this is just kind of who she is.  As busy as I am, I forget to eat sometimes and she wants to make sure I am \"nourished\".  She is theoretically on board with my weight loss, and I think I have made as much headway as I can without really hurting her feelings.  So, if there are redditors out there who would be willing to do weekly check ins or so I would love to have some encouragement/harassment via PMs or something in the relative anonymity of the internet.", "summary": "I need accountability to battle the bulge and girlfriends temptations."}
{"id": "t3_3hmgzb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I |26, F| handle/address that my best friend |26, F| of three years is ditching our relationship for her boyfriend |26, M|", "post": "Background: Best friend and I have been very close for 3 years. Constantly would talk and make plans to hang out 4ish days a week on average. We both went through a couple relationships but in the beginning we both were single and dating others. Always talked about our dates/life/situations and attend events around the city.    \nFast forward to now, I am newly single and she's been in a relationship for 3 months. This relationship has gone from 0-60 in seconds. They've already talked about moving in together and spend all their time together. He doesn't have a job at the moment but will be starting school next month and her schedule is sporadic, so it's very easy for them to spend all her free time together. My schedule is a set m-f job. I aim for 1 minimum hang out a week with my friends but it seems as though she can't manage that. I leave for a trip overseas in 2 weeks and when I brought up that it didn't seem like I would see her before I left; she agreed and didn't offer to try and fit something small like grabbing a coffee in. She doesn't tell me much of what's going on with her and no longer seems interested in my life. I always initiate conversation/ask how she's doing and she doesn't inquire about my life. At this point, I'm expecting her to forget about my birthday (which she usually makes a big deal out of).", "summary": "Best friend is spending all time with her boyfriend and doesn't seem to care about me being in her life anymore. How do I approach her and ask for more of her time (to take from her boyfriend) or that I feel like she's casting me to the side and isn't interested in having me around anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_1g7ay9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (25f) show him (24m) my list of pros and cons regarding the relationship?", "post": "My boyfriend and I, dating one year, are going through a rough patch, a lot having to do with unmet hopes and expectations as well as lack of communication.\n\nI made a list of pros and cons regarding him, our relationship, how he is to me and how I feel about him. I'm wondering what your opinions are on my showing it to him. I'm thinking it may help show him why I feel the way I do (basically I feel unimportant to him) and maybe clear up some issues. However, it could also open the door to a flood of new problems. \n\nAny advice or opinions would be very helpful.", "summary": "Female 25, Male 24, dating one year. Having issues with expectations and communication."}
{"id": "t3_1d25mz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm a poor kid who single-handedly put herself through college and I'm freaking out...", "post": "I'm graduating in May and I just found out my total student loan debt...\n\nover $48,000 and I'm freaking out.\n\nMy parents decided to be selfish my whole life and indulge in drugs and alcohol instead of helping me achieve my goals. I got myself into college and paid my way through (with student loans and working all the way through, as many do) without any support from my parents.\n\nI wouldn't be so stressed out, but I majored in English/Sociology. I started as a Secondary Ed. student, but couldn't afford to do a 5th year as required by the college, so now my plan is to work 2 shitty jobs in order to pay for my certification. Obviously, I'm having a hell of a time finding a half-decent job (as I expected).\n\nNow (being a chronically depressed/anxious young woman) I'm freaking out about the amount of debt. I can't move in with my parents (because of the addictions and abuse), and I've been paying my own rent since I was 18. I've beaten a lot of odds at this point, but I'm afraid of ending up homeless because I will never be able to achieve my ultimate goals.\n\nSo I'm reaching out to my fellow poor-kid Redditors (I know you're out there) for advice, but mostly for assurance that I'll be okay. I work hard, and I never let myself be defeated, but I feel like this is the last straw. If any of you could share your stories to help me be who I know I can be, I would appreciate it more than you'll ever know.\n\nSIDENOTE: Luckily, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 4, so I know I'll have someone to split bills with. I'm just nervous he'll shoot forward without me, being from a wealthy, well-connected family and having less debt than me and much more support. I know he is there for moral and emotional support, but I never want to be a financial burden to him.\n\nI know this isn't the perfect subreddit for this kind of thing, but I hope you can still help me.", "summary": "I'm a recent graduate from an impoverished family who just found out I have more debt than I thought. I want to know that I'll be okay if I don't let these setback distract me. Please help. I'm so upset."}
{"id": "t3_47gncp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "It's been a year out of college and I STILL don't have a \"career\" job yet.", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nFirst time poster in this subreddit. It's been a about 14 months since I've graduated undergraduate, and I've been having trouble finding an entry level, full time position in either marketing or sales. When I first graduated, I had a fair share of interviews and recruiters contacting me, but I had received no formal offer or I ended up through the process realizing the company might not be a good fit.\n\nI'm underemployed at the moment working a job paying $13/hr that doesn't require a Bachelor's degree, so I'm keeping my head above water in paying my student loans and other bills, but just barely. I live at home and I am saving money, but I can't help but feel discouraged that I \"SHOULD\" have a salaried position at this point, but I don't.\n\nI tweak my resume to the job description with keywords, I actively use LinkedIn, reach out for networking, and nothing seems to materialize other than the automated rejection email sent by computers. \n\nI apply to at the very least, 2 jobs per week, and I feel like my resume doesn't even get glanced upon by human eyes at this point, even when I include a personalized cover letter with my application. I'm wondering if there are any other redditers on here with similar experiences struggling to find their \"career\" jobs as well within their recent years of post undergraduate life, because sometimes I feel like I might be the only one. If anyone can share their experiences, I would LOVE to hear them.", "summary": "Graduated college a year ago, underemployed at the moment but still don't have career job after constantly applying. Advice? Similar stories? Would love to hear feedback, it's greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_3ra5vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] OF 6 months, paranoia and insecurity about cheating especially after reading r/relationships. How do I get rid of this?", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for a couple months, and am currently in a long distance relationship. He is amazing- always initiates skype calls, sends me random loving emails, initiates sexts, sends me gifts through Amazon, etc etc. All signs point towards a great, faithful guy.\n\nHowever, what scares me is the possibility of him cheating on me emotionally. There are some examples on this sub where OP's were totally blindsided by their spouses/SO's cheating on them. Since I never touch his phone/laptop and only visit him a couple hours a week, even if he was texting/calling other girls I would have no idea.\n\nThere was also an incident in the first month of our relationship (after we confirmed exclusivity and relationship status). I caught him striking up a conversation with a girl he met on Tinder, which is also how we met. It was an innocuous text exchange, but he wanted to call her, which she refused. He told me it was because we had an argument and he just wanted to talk to a friend to take his mind off of it. I decided to accept this.\n\nIt's been a couple months since that incident, and I don't feel it's fair for me to bring that up in discussion with him. I decided to forgive him so I should stick with it. Most of the time, I know I am being paranoid- he is really a great boyfriend, very loving and spends basically all his free time with me. However, a couple days ago when I visited him, I looked over his shoulder while he was on Facebook and saw that he recently messaged a pretty girl at his school, just saying hi and how are you. I know it's ridiculous- they're classmates after all, and he can obviously talk to anyone. But that whole day I was in a bit of a funk.\n\nHow do I get rid of these insecurities? If a boyfriend is loving and caring, should I just let it go?", "summary": "If a boyfriend is loving, caring, and obviously very into me should I rest assured that he will not emotionally/physically cheat on me?"}
{"id": "t3_45gwry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] and my girlfriend [18F] broke up a couple of days ago and it lasted 4 months. We were forced to but we want to get back together. We don't know what do to.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend dated for 4 months and we're in our last year of high school. We were forced to break up because of her low grades. The counselor kept bugging her even though she's always had low grades. The counselor told her mom that she had a bf and her mom got mad. She told her to break up with me.\n\nNow her parents have her on check and so does the counselor. The counselor has people watching her to make sure she doesn't have a bf. We're still friends but I can only talk to her in 1 class and I can only message her. \n\nWe want to get back together but we don't know what to do. I told her that I'd ask her out again later on but she said the she couldn't promise if we would get back together or not. The only good thing is that she still likes me and not someone one else but that could change. Should I wait until we graduate or until she has better grades?", "summary": "We were forced to break up but her parents have her on check. We want to get back together but we're not sure about what to do. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_2l7v8e", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Freshly single - Looking to get fit and coupled.", "post": "The title might be a little difficult to understand, sorry. I'm a bigger guy (256 lbs) and, unfortunately, as brief as my first relationship was, I had to end it due to her complete lack of communication. So, now I want to get fit, to the point where I could be considered remotely sexy for a guy. I'm currently 22 and I'm going to a community college.\n\nThe problem comes in where I also want to have a girlfriend at the same time that I'm getting fit. I've gotten slightly addicted! So, any previously heavy guys who have dated/tried to date while they were slimming down have any tips for me? I know it sounds douchey of me, but I'm not sure I can wait for months up to a year before I can get a skinnier girlfriend.\n\nAny tips or comments are appreciated.", "summary": "I'm fat, trying to get skinny. Currently in community college. Want to date girls. Halp, plz?"}
{"id": "t3_ur1ql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me hanging out with is group of friends, what gives?", "post": "I am F (22) and he is 24, dating a year and seven months. \n\nI'm not the best at making friends and most of my close friends don't live nearby anymore. I'm not planning on moving back to my hometown when I graduate college this December. I want to stay in the area I'm in. I would like to hang out with my bf and his friends more often so that I am not so lonely. I have communicated this to him on numerous occasions. He does not react to it.\n\nTo be clear:  Yes, I do have friends. But I like the social situation he's in better than mine. Where numerous people are involved. I could make friends, but it's difficult for me. I don't want our social circles separate. Whenever I have friends over my place I invite him as well. I am not asking him to include me EVERY time he hangs out with them. A couple times per week - maybe even once per week - would suffice!\n\nHe hangs out at this one couple's apartment (and their one roommate who has been my bf's friend since high school) almost as much as he hangs out at my apartment. They are social butterflies so to speak, and they often have numerous different people over. They live ten minutes from me. He sees them after he gets off work, and then comes to my place.  Sometimes he gets so caught up in hanging with them, that he doesn't even come to my place. I can probably count on my hand the number of times I have been to their apartment with him.\n\nHoly fucking shit would I love for him to just start including me in his social life. I don't understand why it goes in one ear and out the other. Does he seriously not want me around his friends? I am getting angry typing this.\n\nI don't know how to confront him about the situation. I already have and he won't listen. To be honest it almost makes me want to break up with him, even though we have a great relationship otherwise!", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me hanging out with his group of friends, what can I do to change that?"}
{"id": "t3_2ynk3f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [29 F] of 1 year, depression, stress - What broke you?", "post": "Background [here] and [here](\n\nI need to ask this question, and I realise that by asking it some people may condemn me to the worst part of a garbage bin, but I have to ask.\n\nIf you have been in a relationship with someone who has had depression and/or anxiety (as well as eating disorder in the case of my girlfriend), and you loved them so much and cared for them, what broke your back? What was it that finally drove you to say goodbye? \n\nI don't want to end our relationship, I love her and I care for her so much and try my absolute best, but is there an 'outsider' threshold that most people have?", "summary": "If you've been in a relationship with someone who had severe depression, what was it that 'broke the back' of the relationship leading you to end the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1ow3xs", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "College graudate: what do i do?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nLong time lurker and first time poster. I recently graduated from a well-known university with a management science degree (a lot of economic classes with emphasis in math, microeconomics, econometrics, etc.).\n\nIt has been about 5-6 months since I graduated and I really don't know what to do with my life. I realized that I don't know anything of the real world and that I don't have the business personality and mindset that so many people in my major seem to have. Along with that, I have no experience with internships or anything of the sort. I was just that college student that took classes and did nothing else but do general club activities, drink and game.\n\nI feel like I made a wrong choice in my major and that I should go back to school (looking into a computer science degree as I am interested in the subject and the job opportunities that are open with it). Even though I have no idea on how to do such a thing.\nWhat I'm wondering about is this. Is it smart to go back to school to get another bachelor's or should I just try to keep finding jobs in my major? Also, to those that say I should go back to school, should I go back to my old university (where I would have to pay an arm and a leg for) or is an associates good enough for this field?\n\nSorry if this seems like a \"I need help, please give me all the answers with no work on my part\" type of question. I have just been extremely depressed for the past month as I took an extra year to graduate with this major after switching from a science and all of my friends seem to have moved on to the next stage of their lives.\n\nP.S: If neither of the questions seem like a good idea, any answer would be great. I just feel like my glass was shattered when I finally left school. Finding out I don't really like my major, and with no classes to take, I feel like I can do anything; however, I just don't want to make the another mistake (such as switching from science to management science without really thinking about it).", "summary": "Depressed college graduate with a BS in Management Science wondering if to go back to school for a Bachelor's in Computer science. yay or nay?"}
{"id": "t3_2ad50x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(21/f) Just yelled at my boyfriend (22/m) because he doesn't want to take me to a concert because \"it's not an environment for a female\". I feel bad for yelling, but I'm still very upset.", "post": "This might not be the usual question and I feel childish that this is such an issue for me, but here goes.\n\nOur favorite band is a heavy metal band that will be touring next year. I was thrilled at the possibility of getting to go to my first real concert, until he dropped this bomb on me. Heavy metal concerts are \"not a safe environment for a female\". He is just concerned about my safety, but I think naively so. This band had been around for decades and their concerts are not dangerous like they were in the past. He thinks that we would get separated and I get raped and/or assaulted. Like that could even happen right in front of him. I feel like I'm more likely to get assaulted going about my every day life, which is why this just seems so ridiculous to me. \n\nI screamed \"IF IT'S NOT A SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR ME, IT'S NOT A SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR YOU\" and hung up. I feel *really* bad for yelling, but I was so disappointed that after I hung up I just started crying. In my years of dating and relationships gone wrong I have never reacted this way before. I had a feeling what was coming, and I thought that I could control myself, but apparently not. My behavior was awful, but I just wanted to go to that concert so badly. And who the fuck wants to go to something like that by themselves, which is what he will be doing if I don't go? Sharing that experience would be absolutely amazing. I don't even want to picture him doing it alone, and the fact that he wants to kinda hurts.\n\nHow do I talk to him about this without flying off the handle again?  How do I express how badly I want this and how much it means to me? How should I apologize without making him think I'm okay with his decision?", "summary": "I was insulted and upset by my boyfriend telling me I couldn't go to a concert with him just because I'm a female. I yelled at him, I regret it, and I don't know what the fuck to say to him because even though he doesn't want me to go, I still want to."}
{"id": "t3_rcugk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Somebody reblogged a picture of our baby on a tumblr porn page?!", "post": "Dear redditors, \nI opened my first Tumblr account about a week ago for sharing pictures of my newborn daughter with family and friends.  We disabled google search so that nobody could find us. \n\nToday, I saw something that turned my stomach. A Tumblr user had reblogged a picture of our daughter onto their own page. When I looked at their page it was full of explicit porn. (a la 4chan)  \n\nI'm not sure why they reblogged it to their Tumbr and frankly I don't care. I attempted to delete the photos from my page hoping that the link would be dead... but they stayed on the other person's page. I e-mailed Tumblr for help but they have not responded yet.\n\nI'm creeped out by a photo of my newborn daughter being reblogged on a pervy pr0n Tumblr site. Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Somebody reblogged a family photo of my newborn daughter on their own tumblr.  Now my daughter's photo appears on their Tumblr between lemon-party-ish photos.  I want it removed. How do I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_3b4qev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24f) with my boyfriend (25m) upset that I don't want to buy a car", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together a yearish, and recently tossed around the idea of possibly moving in together sometime in the next 6 months or so. He started asking when I would buy a car. I have my license, but we live in a very public transit and bike friendly town. I live 2 miles from him (easy bike ride) and about 5 miles from my work. I don't have any issues getting around town. \n\nWhen I told him I had no immediate plans to get a car (I've been saving money, I'd like to travel, buy a house, a car just isn't important to me right now)  and, in my view, he sort of threw a fit. He threw out a bunch of hypothetical situations in which I would NEED a car, he complained about always being the only one to drive (I drive us places in his car, particularly if he wants to drink I have been DD) and he told me I had to \"grow up\" and just get a car. It turned into a fight, I pointed out that usually he only picks me up if I am on the way to wherever he is going, and otherwise I always come to his house before we drive somewhere. he doesn't ever give me rides, nor do I ask- I get around on my own. He is trying to claim that me not owning a car is a burden on him, and specifically cited our camping trips. We did use his car for those trips, but I bought all the food to offset his gas costs and I drove part of the way. I get that this means more wear and tear on his car, but he would do many of these things anyway (camping, driving to concerts, going out of town on the weekend) without me.\n\nOur conversation pretty much ended in a standstill, with him demanding I buy a car, and me repeating I had absolutely no desire to do so. I don't know how to move forward with him, if its really that huge of a deal to him it seems we're both just shit out of luck", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to buy a car but I don't want one. I don't believe that me not owning a car is a large inconvenience for me or him, but he is insisting I buy one and getting upset that I do not want to."}
{"id": "t3_41wkpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26M] broke up with my gf[24F] because of her sexual history, now she's telling people all kinds of lies about me.", "post": "GF and I were together for 8 months. One day we were talking and somehow it came out that she had slept with like 15 people and that 2 of them were one night stands. I told her I wasn't really cool with that and that I wanted to break up. I didn't freak out or get upset or anything, I just told her it wasn't my thing and that we should split. I'll admit that it was pretty terrible timing for this to all go down because she told me she loved me for the first time a week earlier. Given that, I understand why she got so upset. She basically cried, and begged me not to, but I left, got her stuff from my place, dropped it back, and figured that was the end of it.\nWell, for like 3 days she proceeded to blow up my phone and social media basically freaking out, going from crying to angry, so I ended up just blocking her on everything and moving forward with my life.\nI thought everything was cool and fine until earlier today. I ended up meeting a friend I haven't seen in a few weeks for lunch. She told me that my ex told her, and other people, all sorts of fucked up lies about me. For example, she's heard that we broke up because I cheated with 3 different girls, that I hate black people and visit sites like Stormfront, and that I'm secretly addicted to painkillers. WTF. Literally none of those things are even remotely true, I have no idea where the fuck she even pulled those from.\nNow heres the thing, my friend, and I'm sure other close friends of mine, know that its all bullshit and lies and thought it was funny, but I'm genuinely worried that people that only kind of know me will hear this stuff and thing I'm an awful person and overall fuck up my reputation. What should I do to stop her from spreading this bullshit about me?!?!", "summary": "broke up with gf, tried to be nice about it, she freaked out and now shes telilng lies about me"}
{"id": "t3_vfzuy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why did Memes become SO mainstream?", "post": "Just wanted to hear your explanation why memes become so popular - mainstream. \n\nIts simply annoying when ppl talk 'bout them and they dont even know the history of them.\n\nI saw a short clip about memes in the german tv 30 minutes ago.. It was completley bullshit what they told about memes.\n\nSo as i said before whats ur explanation?\nI simply think that one guy posted a meme on facebook and everyone shared it and so on..\n\nI'm also sure most of the people in my class dont even know reddit.. But they are some badass 'bitch pls' or 'over 9000' users in normal phrases.", "summary": "hate post."}
{"id": "t3_4sjvyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] fianc\u00e9 [21F] opened to me, and might be depressed", "post": "I met my fianc\u00e9 when were both 13. Ever since, we had strong feelings for each other, but never really got together until we were 19. A year later we become engaged with the date set next year. \nEverything seemed cool with zero problems until she told me she had to talk and admitted some things to me. Made a new account because I don't my friends to know about her feelings right now.\n\nShe told me she was scared she's going to make a mistake and hurt me, and eventually break my heart.  In addition, she also said she feels like she doesn't have any room to be free, and make mistakes on her own without having to worry about ruining anyone's life(?) and feels pressured because she's not able to be alone without anyone watching her actions. She also mentioned something about not wanting to become a married couple who resent each other no reason, but if we get married, she doesn't ever want to consider a divorce. \n\nHonestly, this came out of nowhere, and all of just seems to be a lot of jumbled up feelings she never really disclosed until now. I just told her that she can do whatever she wants, as long as she thinks it's best for her. I just want us to be amicable and OK in the end. We're not even married yet, and I told her these fears are normal and we just have to work things out and communicate properly. \n\nAll she keeps telling me is that she feels pressured about not making a mistake, with me and with all her other life problems (she's going to school 2 hours away and drives up there for class, she's donating a kidney next month, her job, etc..) and it's really messing her up. Not only that, be she said she doesn't care anymore or about her \"existence\" and doesn't know what to do. I think she's depressed and it's making me feel awful. I have noticed that she's been very distant lately. \nI don't want to leave or abandon her, I just want what's best for us.  Is there any way I can make her feel better? I feel like she needs some space to figure things out. But I want to be there for her.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 feels pressured about making mistakes in life, it's messing her up. "}
{"id": "t3_4lo2w8", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "{26/M} I've been told I look young for my age. Does this help or hurt me with dating women?", "post": "So for the most part, I've been told I look about 19/20 and that I have a baby face. While I know it's a great trait to have when I get older, I feel like it's a turnoff or doesn't make me masculine enough to have women take me seriously when it comes to dating. I've been told plenty by female friends, colleagues, and the like that I'm a super nice, high-energy guy, but when it comes to asking women on dates, I tend to get the runaround, or dare I say it, get put in the \"freind zone\" as they go off and date more masculine guys.  What advice do female redditors have for someone in my situation?", "summary": "Look very young for my age, but I'm in my mid-late twenties. How can I go about getting women to take me seriously when it comes to dating?"}
{"id": "t3_e9bqy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need ideas for inexpensive holiday gift baskets!  What are your suggestions?", "post": "These gift baskets will not be for friends or family, I'm going to make some up for people who are homeless and I want to have a LOT of them.  When I was a kid I was in this fantastic youth group and we used to meet up every week, and go out and do 'random acts of kindness' which often included giving out gift baskets with food to those less fortunate.\n\nNow that the holidays are coming up it got me thinking about it, and this is something I'd really like to do with my boyfriend.\n\nPlease respond with serious answers.  If you have specific brands that are cheaper, or know of a place where I can obtain these items for free please let me know!\n\nHere's what I've got:\n-Sandwiches\n-Bottles of water and a reusable water bottle (in my state it's illegal to refuse someone water, so this way they can go into a business and get some when they need it)\n-Notebook, stamps, envelopes, pens, and possibly a phone card\n-Blankets, depending on cost\n-gloves/mittens\n-Toothbrush/tooth paste\n-Jackets?  I'm not so sure on this one, because again it depends on cost.\n-A map of the area with the closest homeless shelters highlighted.\n\nI will also be buying a large bag of dog food and filling up ziploc storage bags with it, that way those can just be given out as needed.", "summary": "I'm handing out gift baskets to the homeless for the holidays.  What would be something good to get them that's considered a life essential?"}
{"id": "t3_2o8plk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [20 F] 1 year, I torment myself with my imagination of my girlfriend's past relationships even though she has made it clear I'm the only one for her.", "post": "Basically, she herself says she doesn't even think of them and I know absolutely I'm the only guy who can satisfy her and she only has eyes for me. However, sometimes when we talk about something relationship related, she will use her past as anecdotal evidence, however only using it to help exemplify the reason for a feeling or such.\n\nShe gave me her virginity(as I gave her mine) and I'm the first boyfriend she's really opened up to and fought her distancing. Time and time again she's proved her love and that I can trust her. Hell, even when she was with every single one of those guys, she only talked about me and had suppressed feelings for me. \n\nShe constantly tells me I'm the one thinking about it and if anything she only thinks of it when I bring it up. Anyways, needless to say I don't bring it up because I don't want her thinking about it even if she isn't attracted or whatever by it...\n\nHowever, I downright TORTURE myself for hours. I didn't really get serious before her at all and she gets jealous/apprehensive anyways, so she certainly understands, but I want to change. It destroys me when I start thinking of the acts they did, very vividly... I want her all to myself, I don't want her to imagine those guys or remember those acts. (which she says she doesn't)\n\nIt just sucks and I don't want to make her feel like she isn't good enough/clean enough or that her virginity meant nothing, I just want to stop this thinking! I just want to focus on the present, where she shows me such love. It's easy when we're in person, but we're not at the moment. I don't want to hurt her because I can't get passed the past.", "summary": "Can't get over my girlfriend's past, it's not bad and I have no reason to distrust her love for me. However I torture myself with scenes of her with her ex's so vividly for hours that I feel like I'll break. Yet I don't want to make her feel like she's \"used goods\" because she is in no way such that to me, I'm just overly sensitive."}
{"id": "t3_16p8cb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Feels like me(20) being pregnant is guilting my BF(23)  to stay with me.", "post": "Hello, fellow redditors!\n\nI'm 20 years old and 23 weeks pregnant. I'm in a relationship with my BF (23) for a year now. Let's just say that my BF and I couldn't keep it in our pants and I got pregnant. It was to late for an abortion when we found out. I have been having some kidney problems and the pregnancy tests where negative. So we just assumed my period is late because of my kidneys. We could have applied for an abortion because of the \"special\" circumstances but we decided to keep the baby. My kidneys are fine now and I'm carrying a healthy little kicker.\n\nWell because of the circumstances, I feel like I'm ruining my BF's life. We decided to keep the baby together. And I told him that anytime he changes his mind he can get out. He says that it's his responsibility as well and that he loves me. But he just, well seems sad and stressed. I on the other hand am happy for the baby. Wasn't at first but I just got used to the idea. I guess it's all these pregnancy hormones at work, but I'm enjoying every kick I feel and the thought of holding my baby just blows my mind. In a good way. :)\n\nIt's not exactly what I planned but I don't feel like the baby is gonna ruin my life. Should I feel like that? If I feel a kick, or read something new about pregnancy/baby development I'm afraid to tell my BF. I'm afraid how he would feel if I reminded him that I'm pregnant. I know that I should just talk to him, but I'm afraid he will just say what I want to hear instead of being completaly honest. I just wish he was happy. With the idea of being with me and the baby, or if he would decide to leave. It would brake my heart but I love him and just wish he was happy one way or the other. \n\nWhat do you suggest? How can I ask him subtly how he feels and convince him if needed that he doesn't have to stay just out of guilt?", "summary": "I feel like my BF isn't happy for our pregnancy and that he's only staying out of guilt even tho he says he loves me. Need advice on how to subtly talk to him without offending him."}
{"id": "t3_342iad", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Did I push it with this girl ? Any chances she likes me ?", "post": "I had a date with a girl from college I like last Tuesday. We went to see a play then she proposed to have drinks. I think it went very well, she laughed a lot, we talked about some personal subjects that I never heard her mention (like past romantic lives). At some point strangers that wanted a smoke mistook us for a couple and she said we were \"just buddies\". I wasn't too satisfied with that but I didn't let it show any of it and we kept drinking and laughing. There were playful and flirtatious talk, even though I probably failed at making enough of them.\nAnyway on my way home, I texted her that I've been approached by a prostitute in her street (we were having fun about the street she lives in since it's famous for it). She answered \"Hahaha ! Should have been me seeing you home then...\" which I took as a sign of interest, I guess ?\nAnyway, two days later I texted her a joke about something we said the other night. She answered \"Hahaha !\" like 3 hours after, killing the momentum for any conversation. I still asked her out again since it was what I was planning to do anyway. She took some time to answer this : \"I have a birthday party tonight ! But it would have been a pleasure\". Because she didn't outright said she wasn't interested (\"it would have been a pleasure\" doesn't sound as someone being polite but I may be wrong), I just let her know that even though I was working (same as her) next week, I was available on Tuesday or Wednesday if she wanted to have drinks again. This way she can be the one to give me the heads up.\nDo you think I've made mistakes ? Maybe asked too much times ? I wasn't so sure about the last one. I did it very casually though. And do you think she's into me ?", "summary": "Was I too persistent with this girl I asked out ? Any chance she likes me ?"}
{"id": "t3_3lz3ex", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Roommate's dog continually peeing on my mattress", "post": "A few weeks ago, my roommates dog (husky/golden retriever mix a little over a year old) peed on my bed and then later pooped on it while the mattress was drying out. I was upset obviously but cleaned it, flipped the mattress and life went on.\n\nThis week, she has peed on my mattress five times and pooped on it once. Mind you, this mattress WAS completely brand new to me prior to this apartment and I can't afford to replace it. Again also, not my dog but I do take her out regularly because she is crated when my roommate and I are at work and every little walk helps.\n\nShe always uses the restroom when I take her out. Often when my roommate takes her out she won't go and then will use the bathroom in her bedroom once neither of us are looking and inside again. She is crated every single time we're out of the apartment even for a second because she digs in the trash or defecates.\n\nAs far as life changes, she could be missing me as I have been spending less nights at home and more at my boyfriends. My roommate has also begun seeing someone as well but they are always here.\n\nDesperately need some suggestions to STOP this problem once and for all. I can't completely block my door off to her (no lock, can push her way in) and I've ordered a tarp to drape over my bed but are there any other solutions to actually curb her behavior??", "summary": "need help getting my roommates dog to quit using mattress as #1 poop/pee spot"}
{"id": "t3_1i36ow", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (23M) got back with my Ex (21F), Need some advice.", "post": "**Back story:** We met online in a MMO and we dated for 8 months, her aunt went to the hospital and was in critical condition. I was a twat about it and my friend swooped in and played 'boyfriend'. We broke up a month after her aunt was hospitalized and my friend was courting her, he bailed out leaving her more broken. \n\n**Reason for the break-up**: I changed into a total ass, Her words, I also found an old cell phone and I did change and I'm working on getting back to a better place of not being an twat.\n\n**Currently:** Three months after my break up with her we agree to date causally but we are exclusive. We have been having daily skype dates, playing our MMO, watching videos together, and sharing ourselves. \n\nSoon I'll be driving to visit her this summer, once I get the funds. \n\nAnyway, what I am asking is how and what could I do to strengthen the relationship in ways that would not make her feel like I am manipulating her affections, buying her affections, or anything on those grounds.", "summary": "Got back with my ex after three months, how can I strengthen the relationship with out making her feel 'bought'"}
{"id": "t3_5261dy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my crush [19 M] 3 weeks. Should I pursue my interest?", "post": "I just started college and there is this guy I'm very interested in. We've been talking and have hung out a few times, and we both enjoy photography so we take pictures along with another guy and he's invited me to his dorm to play xbox. \n\nI was really thinking that he likes me, but recently he was talking about his ex-gf and how she's constantly texting him and acting crazy. He explained they broke up bc she didn't want to do long distance and they still had the same feelings but now he's not really into her because of her behavior.\n\nWe went to the beach last night taking pics with his friend, and when we came back, they stopped by a dorm with 2 girls in there that I didn't know. I felt awkward so I left because they all knew each other, they are in the same class. If he liked me wouldn't he have tried to include me?\n\nHe is still texting his ex though, so I am confused.\nHe's really nice and has invited me to do other stuff, although it is always with other people.", "summary": "Guy I like talked about his ex gf. I'm wondering If there is anyway he likes me too, or would he not mention any of this if he liked me? Should I try to pursue my interest and flirt with him?"}
{"id": "t3_2vcnsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my mother [53 F] unsure how to bring up hearing her laughing about abuse", "post": "When I was a teenager, I was subject to various casual, emotional abuses by my parents. Gaslighting, mockery, minimisation etc. It rarely became physical, but when it did it was by my mother.\n\nOne evening I apparently didn't say goodnight to her properly when I was 16. She tried to kiss me on the cheek and I leant away from her and said goodnight. I didn't want to be kissed.\n\nShe seemed ok with it at the time and just went to bed, but ten minutes later she called me up to her room and told me I had bent her glasses. I'm not sure how. She started getting hysterical and I told her I would talk to her about it when she had calmed down in the morning.\n\nI turn to leave her room and she told me she wasn't done with me, and dragged me back into the room by my hair. I cried out and managed to wrench myself free. I ran downstairs and because my friend was visiting she didn't chase after me.\n\nThe next day after coming home from trying to find a part time job, I heard her talking on the phone to someone, describing the incident. She admitted to pulling my hair, and said that I made, \"The strangest noise.\" then she let me go.\n\nShe then said, \"Oh well.\" and laughed. I didn't say anything about it at the time because I was too scared of being alone with her, but after so much time it still bothers me.\n\nI can let go of everything else, because it's pointless to pretend that she cares about my feelings, but I wanted to know who she would admit that kind of thing to?", "summary": "Mother dragged me by the hair during an argument, admitted it on the phone and laughed. I don't know if/how to confront her about it."}
{"id": "t3_4tglgq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Visa/criminal record question", "post": "I am applying for a spouse visa to move to the U.K. one of the questions is as follows:\n\n\"Have you received any other penalty in relation to a criminal offence; for example a caution, reprimand. Warning, or similar penalties in the UK or any other country?\"\n\n3 years ago I was in a traffic accident and, not realising I needed to attend court, did not attend court and my license was suspended and a warrant issued for me. However I rectified the situation promptly and sorted everything out. How do I find out if this is still on my record and whether or not to include this information in my application? Do I just need to get a copy of my driving record to see? Will that show me everything I need to know?", "summary": "do traffic violations count as penalty for criminal offence, and what documents do I need to acquire to see if I have in fact been penalized for such?"}
{"id": "t3_12kj4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27F) have a BF (24) that likes to chat with girls online and via texts- Any justification?", "post": "I have been with my bf for 5 years now. We have had a somewhat rocky relationship because of distressing situations outside of the relationship (loss of loved ones, job relocation, etc.). However, we are deeply committed to each other. I have no issues with him looking at porn/masturbating. Several times he has confessed to talking to women online, but usually not longer than a week and has no intentions of meeting them in real life. Is this just considered an extension of male fantasies? Like maybe getting turned on because someone else desires him?\n\nI should also mention that he is beyond social awkward. He has almost no friends in reality (and has lost contact with most of the ones he had) and spends a lot of time playing online and console games. It took him half a year to make friends with the people he works with, and he still hasn't socialized with them outside of work.\n\nOh, and the ladies he chats with are not necessarily the most attractive women. They are average to even plain-looking. Part of me thinks he chooses these women because he knows he stands a better chance of them replying to his messages.\n\nWe have discussed most of this before. He knows my feelings and beliefs about it. His reasoning is that \"It makes him feel good.\" I just can't figure out if I am trying to justify his actions too much, or if it is cause for concern.", "summary": "Boyfriend of 5 years chats with females online. Is this akin to porn, or is it something more serious like cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_llijy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I work at a liquor store and need some new craft beers to bring in", "post": "I work at a liquor store in NJ and we are trying to get some new and different beers. Preferably domestic craft beers because imports aren't as easy for us to get. We carry smuttynose, magic hat, weyerbacher, fegley's brewworks, tr\u00f6egs, shiner, flying dog, riverhorse, long trail, blue point brewing company, abita beer, flying fish, stone, rogue, dogfish head, lagunitas, victory, new holland brewing, terrapin, and red bridge. I know that's a long list, but I am trying to expand our inventory because many of our customers are always looking for something new. Getting them in would just be a matter of running it by our beer manager who usually will do whatever it takes to get something new in, just to see how it does. If it succeeds he will get more.", "summary": "need new beers to stock at liquor store."}
{"id": "t3_gp86r", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Having a really crappy day...", "post": "So I'm not having a good day. \nLast night I when I got home from the gym I my computer started Blue Screen of Deathing me every 5 - 10 minutes. I tried to do some Google searches to figure out what was wrong, when I noticed that I have a search engine hijacking virus that routes every link I click on to an IP that tries to get me to download crap and pay for it. I discover today while researching at work that my best bet is to format and start over. Not fun - for a computer nerd who built my own system, it is really bothering me that my baby is hurting and I just want to go fix it ASAP, but won't have time until tomorrow night.\n\nNot only that, I have a stubborn co-worker who started a project that I ok'ed with caveat that we add on a project that I need finished...now he says we won't do what I need done now that we're finished with his project.\n\nThrough all of this all I can think is, \"Dammit, I just want to get to the gym and hit the elliptical and lift.\"  Once I realized I was thinking this...my day got a little better.", "summary": "bad day, realized what I wanted was to get to the gym. Shift in thinking makes day a little bit better."}
{"id": "t3_4tsmsf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "\"Homeless\", but not dire, questions regarding insurance and license", "post": "Hello, this isn't a budgetting question rather, an insurance one related to no longer having work/home. I could not find it addressed in a post before and I believe the PF community would know best what to do.\n\nThree months ago, my apartment burned down in Massachusetts where I'd been living and working for past 5 years. I had already wanted to move and change jobs in September so the fire was a bit of an omen for me to quit work and devote all my time to searching for a new job during the summer.\n\nI have enough money saved up in my account for 7 months worth of bills and expenses and I have been very fortunate to have many friends and family that allow me stay at their places for days at a time. I should note though, that most of these friends and family are in Rhode Island and my old life is financially connected to the Massachusetts address. Also, without work, I do not have insurance. So my questions are:\n\n-How/from whom should I proceed getting insurance? Between private and Healthconnector, is one better than the other for this situation?\n-I do not have a permanent address and the temporary ones I'm at are in multiple states. How should I set up a base of residence?\n-What happens since I intend to change addresses, and most likely insurance, again in the near future based on where I find work (hopefully by September)?\n\nAlso, I can't quite figure out COBRA, though I think I lost my window of opportunity on that.\n\nI'm very confused and have had found little help by calling healthconnector and other insurance. Any suggestions and guidance would be very helpful. Thank you for your time.", "summary": "Do not have a permanent residence since apartment fire 3 months ago. Quit job to find new work elsewhere. Have 7 months worth of bills saved up so am not in dire financial crisis. Currently staying at multiple addresses, in 2 different states, of friends and family for the summer. How do I get temporary insurance while looking for new work?"}
{"id": "t3_1aajy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] just found something REALLY disgusting this morning that my boyfriend [26m] left in the living room.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we've been living together for the past few months. Now, generally I've come to accept him for being a 'guy' and not cleaning up after himself. He has got a lot better at it though so I'll give him that. Anyway, this morning I went downstairs as usual to clean up a bit and when I went to pick up the remote off the floor I noticed a white mcdonalds cup sitting next to the chair. Thinking it was just a left over drink I went to go dump it in the sink only to realize that there was piss in the cup. I'm not sure how long it was sitting behind the chair but it smelled REALLY bad. It was pretty much full with ashes at the bottom of it [he smokes]. I don't really know how to go about talking to him about this or how to even bring it up. Advice anyone?", "summary": "Found boyfriends piss cup behind a chair in the living room. Not sure how to ask him about it? REALLY grossed out."}
{"id": "t3_3coi4l", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I found/adopted a stray kitten, and I need some advice", "post": "Two days ago, there was a storm in Oklahoma City where I live. On the back porch of my friends house, they found a little tiny grey cat.  They left for Nashville, and the shelter around their parts was too full to take another kitten.  So I did.\n\nShe's really little, too tiny to jump on the couch, but she can climb. She makes a lot of cute squeaking noises, likes to wander around. She's still not used to my apartment and is very curious.\n\nYesterday, I took the cat to the vet to get an idea of the age, and the overall wellness of her. This cat is about 4 weeks old, according to the vet visit. She had some fleas, but since she's too little to currently start her vaccinations, I simply used dawn to wash her and get rid of the fleas.  The vet noticed she had a lot of flea dirt and a few fleas on her, and suggested this as the best thing we could do currently.\n\n So we got home and did it, and dried her about halfway and left her to lick/groom the rest.  this morning however, when I came in, the cat was noticeably lethargic compared to the last two days. She wasn't mewing at all, and still felt a little damp.  She was like a ragdoll. Her gums are still the same pale color they were at the vet visit. I saw a few fleas on her tiny little forehead. \n\nIs it possible the fleas that are still on her are making her this lethargic due to slight anemia?", "summary": "I got a new cat, took her to the vet and was told she had fleas. I gave her a flea bath and this morning when I woke up she was much more sluggish and noticeably less vocal.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1i3h7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20m] girlfriend [18f] texts a guy late at night.", "post": "Hell guys, I am unsure how to deal with these emotions I'm having. \n\nShe's told me about her friend before and that she met him last semester. They speak the same native language so that have that in common. Before we started dating they used to hang out, go to the beach, go to downtown and stuff. She says he was interested in her but she made it clear she wasn't. \n\nThrough looking at her social media site (which tells you what time the person was last online and if they are online), I see that he only uses it when he talks to her. When she goes online he is online too, so they talk often late at night from like 12-2 a.m. From looking at it this morning they both were online at around the same time. I am now worrying I feel like they are meeting up and she will hide it from me or something. :/\n\nMy gf has not given me reason to distrust her but one time I texted her and she said she was asleep but clearly they both were online and texting each other. She likes to tell white lies though sometimes, it's just the way she is. I don't know how to bring it up because there's no way I should know of them talking without her feeling like I've been snooping.", "summary": "I've found online statistic that this guy is usually online to talk to my gf. They text late at night, she's told me he is a friend but he used to be uncomfortable. I am now over analyzing and worrying."}
{"id": "t3_12ed4f", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "So.. my dog is in heat for the first time- knew it was coming.. but still have some questions...", "post": "Honest to god, I 100% agree that dogs are like children as of right now..\n\nMy pup is in heat for the first time... And of course it happens the one day a friend is looking after her..and my friend is a guy... he probably already wont take this so kindly...\n\n so im just wondering...\n\n* How long can these puppy pads be on for? If possible.. I'm sure my friend would appreciate not having to change them\n\n* I assume these things need to be taken off when going out for a squirt?\n\n* Any other words of wisdom?\n\nI think thats it. Of course I will ask all these questions when I go and by these diaper things..but I like the opinions of Reddit, too..\n\n**I just reeeeally want to make this as painfree as possible for my friend who is watching her....", "summary": "Dog in heat, help."}
{"id": "t3_38m2hm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18/M] have an issue with my girlfriend [18/F] and I dont know what to do", "post": "Its a little bit of a long story, but I'll do my best to make this as short as possible. We have been dating for 10 months, almost a year. She has a lot of guy friends, and whenever she hamgs with them I get extremely mad and bothered. We have talked about this before and she doesnt hang with them as much, but still does every so often.\n\nIt urks me to no end when she does, i know the guys she hangs out with they have girlfriends and are trustworthy guys but no matter who it is, it bothers the shit out of me. \n\nOf course there is a lot more to this, but this is just the jist of it. Idk what to do about it. Do i just deal with it and let it be? Its hard for me to that at all anymore :/ i dont want to fight about it either, we have had a lot in the past already. So what should I do...any advice?", "summary": "My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends, and it bothers me no matter how much we talk about it and such. Idk what to do about it"}
{"id": "t3_53ahvs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with ex [18F] she's with someone else", "post": "Ex broke up with me four months ago, I'm struggling really bad to try and move on and I just can't. I've been struggling with depression and anxiety attacks since then, now I can't sleep.\n\nFound out today that she's meeting someone else and it's literally killing me, I don't know what to do.\nI ended up having an argument with her over text today, which I admit I shouldn't really have started anything but I've done it now.\n\nShe wanted us to remain civil but I don't even think j can do that knowing that she's with another man, I'm still madly in love with her but there's nothing I can do.\n\nI want to show her ive changed but she wouldn't give me the time of day to do that, I have to see her once every week because she trains basketball at the same time as me.\n\nI have an appointment to see a therapist at the start of next month but I feel like I'm spiralling down worse and worse and it'll be too late at that point to help me.\n\nIs there some way I can get her to give me a chance? What can I do to stop myself going insane?", "summary": "ex has found someone else and I can't get over it, mental state is spiralling out of control."}
{"id": "t3_3nfibt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[25F] is in untold love with my boss[35M] for 5 months. need advice.", "post": "He is not working for anybody. so there won't be any legal issues dating me. but as far as i know, he is not interested in dating coworkers :(\n\nI don't know if he likes me. He is super-nice to me. He is tough with others, if he have to. I am good looking, i guess. I have seen him checking me out,not in a creepy way or anything. I am really confused\n\nI don't know what to do. He care about me, like i am his little sister.That's scary, i guess he think i am a stupid young girl.i guess i talk too much. I don't want to hookup with him for one night.I feel in love with him on my first day with him. I never felt like this before.\n\nHe is a genius, outgoing, he dated a few girls since i met him. nothing serious. i heard that he was in a five year relationship before!\n\nI always compliment him. maybe too much.maybe He knows that i am flirting with him. I don't know if it's flirting, i feel very secure and comfortable around him, at the same time i get nervous around him for having these thought in my mind, all the time. \n\nThis one time, i had to meet him for a coffee to hand him some files. I asked him as a joke \"is this a date?\". he smiled.\n   \nI like my job too. it would be great to have both. :)", "summary": "i am his assistant for 5 months. He is not interested in dating coworkers. I haven't told him anything. any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1eeyzy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What Is Your Worst Experience Of Someone Flipping Out At You When You Didn't Deserve It?", "post": "Mine happened about 8 years ago when i was around 14 or so. I was visiting my mom for a week in the summer with my brother, and the three of us decided to do a bit of shopping with my aunt. My aunt had just had knee surgery a few weeks before so she had a handicap parking pass and used a walker. \n\nSo my aunt drove us all to Walmart and of course we parked in one of the handicap spots by the door and my aunt placed the handicap parking hanger on the mirror.\n\nWe then went in and did a bit of shopping but my brother and i soon got very bored because of the slow pace of my aunt walking, and the fact that her an my mom would stop every 5 seconds to look at something. Being a guy and a no nonsense shopper this drove me absolutely bonkers. So I got the keys from my aunt and my brother and I went to her vehicle to listen to a couple of cd's we had just bought while waiting for my mom and aunt. \n\nWe sit in the front so we can controll the stero of course. Not two minutes later we hear some screaming over the music. We press pause and right beside our window this woman is just losing her shit screaming at us. Just absolutely going to town telling us we are horrible pieces of shit and how people like us are what is wrong with society and how we will be going to hell for parking in a handicaped spot with a \"fake\" handicap sign. She was just screaming as loud as she could.\n\nMy brother and I were so damned confused, then we deciphered what her yelling was about. I just rolled down the window a bit and was like we didn't drive here because we don't have licenses and this isn't our car. She just said \"oh\" then walked away. Pissed me right the hell off though.", "summary": "Went shopping with my aunt who is handicaped. Got bored and went to sit in the car and listen to a new cd i bought. Woman went batshit insane yelling at me and swearing at me for parking in a handicaped spot. I was 14 and couldn't drive. (Kitchen Nightmares just brought that memory back)"}
{"id": "t3_3q40pr", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Motivation, there you are! (Mostly, thanks random internet strangers)", "post": "I think I made an introductory post here a few months back, then promptly decided that I'd learn to be happy with things (my body) the way it was, and fell back into old habits.\n\nNow, I'm starting again.  It's only been two weeks, but the novelty is almost starting to wear off.  I've been using MFP and trying tougher cardio workouts at the gym, and generally obsessing about food a little too much.\n\nToday I went out for lunch, and although I made better choices than I would have a month ago - no fries with lunch, a fruit smoothie instead of a soda, and frozen yoghurt for dessert - I'm still out of calories for the day, with no room for a quick walk to earn any back.\n\nInstead of deciding that it was brave effort but never mind, I've been poking around the posts here, and found that I'm not actually failing at all, and more importantly, I'm not the only one who struggles.\n\nThe support here is quite awesome, and I've already topped up my water bottle and started planning the healthy lunches I'll be making for the coming week.  So thanks, everyone who offers their hints and suggestions and encouragement.  Some of us lurkers are definitely taking notice!", "summary": "You people are so encouraging that I'm stealing some of your motivation to get back on track.  Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_rj866", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Help me? Ex-girlfriend keeps talking to me after dumping me.", "post": "Heya first of all. i apologize for using a throwaway account. quite a few people who know me in real life know my regular reddit username.\nBasic details. Male 20 female 20. i do apologize if i'm missing details here.\n\nMay aswell start from the begining.\n\nBreak up in early december. my gut tells me she dumped me to be for another guy. who she coincidentally started dating a week later. i'd rather not beleive the worst but i have my own suspicions.\n\nrelationship was 4 years long.\n\nMy main problem with all this is the texting every few days. whenever she texts me. i can't help but reply. i still care about her.\n\nroughly 6 weeks ago i finally asked her to stop contacting me.\nshe took it well and just said \"fair enough i'll leave you alone then\".\n\nwell, about a week ago there was odd FB status updates. (very unusual for her normally does it once a year Maybe).\n\nthings along the lines of. \"i made a mistake\" \"i miss you\" etc.\nconsidering roughly 8 weeks ago she broke up with the new boyfriend i hadn't thought much of it. until i noticed her comments beneath it. quoting lyrics from my favorite bands and the like.\ni know her new boy does not listen to anywhere near the same music as me. (rock/raver vs country and rap).\n\nthe facebook status's were obvious enough that even my mother clued on exactly what they were about and gave me a heads up on it.\n\nand we get to last couple of days. she's been texting me again i still can't help myself i either reply as soon as i see the new message or obsess about it until i reply.\n\nit still hurts me every time i hear from her. and i don't know what to do. so please help.\n\noh just to add something. i do not want to get back with her. i do not beleive i have the ability to trust her again as she cheated on me once before. and then the above happened not long after.\nThat combined with quite a few deep seated sensitive issues to both of us. it just won't work.", "summary": "ex Girlfriend keeps texting me after me asking her not to. hurts like hell. what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_4g76zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/F] arrange all of our [19/F] dates with my gf of 7 months", "post": "We've been going out for 6 months and we see each other around 1-2 days a week. I always feel the need to propose a time/ place to hangout or else we'll just wont see each other at all. The one time she suggested something is when the place we were suppose to go to was close. She's always happy to see me and when ever shes not free the day I suggest we should go out she'll ask if im free a different day. We've talked about she doesnt arrange dates in month 3 and she did say that she wants to make the plans but since then she never has. Should I refrain from asking her out or talk to her about it again? I so tired of being the one to make plans LIKE im not asking to see her everyday, I just want her to want to see me. I should add that shes super crazy into me. Also, I do have a life outside of her like hanging out with friends, work, sports, uni etc", "summary": "Gf of 6 months has not once suggested to hangout either as a date or as a catch up or anything."}
{"id": "t3_369ulg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [18 F] of 2 months, am I being weird about this?", "post": "I should probably start off by saying i've never been in any kind of relationship before, so it's all still quite shiny new to me, but i'd just like an objective opinion on my situation.\n\nI've seeing a girl for around about 2 months now, started out as a FwB kinda deal but moved pretty fast since then. Just for context, she's just finishing her 1st year but has slept with 15 guys over the course of these 2 semesters. I only slept with 1 girl over the entire of my 1st year (not for lack of trying).\n\nMy main concern is that when we first hooked up she was just in the early stages of dating another guy, not official or anything, but since then she hasn't told him that we have now agreed to be exclusive. And furthermore, she still hangs out with him. She said she didn't break to him before because she was scared of things moving too fast between us, which is completely understandable.\n\nShe tried recently and came back with- his dog just died so she didn't want to make his mood any worse. Now she says she wants to wait till after his exams are finished so that it doesn't effect his results.\n\nI don't know if i'm just being naive or paranoid, just struggling with her hanging out with guys she has previously slept with, not having told them she is now unavailable.", "summary": "Am I being silly about the whole situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3fnnfw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Wife[29/F] discovered I [29/M] looked at online porn and now wants a divorce.", "post": "So I'm at a total loss as for how to handle my current situation. My wife [29] of two years discovered that I looked at online porn. She discovered this about a year ago. To help compound the problem, she was pregnant with our first child at the time she found out. Our child has just turned 4 mo old, so this problem has been ongoing for some time now. When she first found out, I got scared and lied about the whole thing. I was caught, and knew it, but couldn't own up to it completely. About a month ago I came completely clean over the situation. Our marriage has gone to complete shit. One minute, we seem to be alright, the next minute a commercial comes on tv that is over sexualizing a woman and my wife and I are in a fight. I've been doing what I can to try and cope with my screw up and trying to fix it but nothing is working. I've been seeing a therapist for several months now trying to work through some of this but I can't help but feel that it's a waste of effort. My wife is a licensed therapist (LCSW) so she feels as though she doesn't need therapy to help cope with any of this. \nBottom line, she feels betrayed and that I'm not the person she married. I can understand that. I fucked up. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want a divorce. I love my wife and my child but she doesn't see it that way. According to my wife, I'm a pathetic pervert who will not change. I'm desperate for help.", "summary": "Wife found out I look at porn and wants a divorce."}
{"id": "t3_31nm8j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being oblivious", "post": "So this happened Friday, but I'm just now getting around to posting this. \n\nMy Friend and I went to see F&F7 Friday night. We had to get tickets to the last showing because all others were sold out. So we get in and find some seats at 10:00 PM. At this point, we both had a long day and were exhausted. The movie didn't start til 11, so we just chilled. About half an hour after we sat down, these two really cute girls walk in. We both notice them and start checking them out. Didn't take long for them to spot us checking them out; jokingly, my friend patted the seat next to him. To our surprise, they came and sat down two seats down. Let me reiterate that this is the newest The Fast and The Furious movie. And these two really cute girls just walked in of their own free will, no guys were bringing them to watch it. The movie plays, it is an incredible movie if you grew up watching them like we have. Throughout the entire movie whenever I glanced over at my friend I could see one of them looking over at us. After we get out, it was almost 2 AM. Between talking about the movie and fighting sleep, we completely forgot about the girls who sat down by us and obviously wanted us to talk to them. Went back to my house and he crashed on my couch. When we woke up the next morning, we knew we blew it.", "summary": "Went to see F&F7, two cute girls sat down near us and wanted us to talk to them. We didn't."}
{"id": "t3_29jb4f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my GF [17 F] for 6 months, Left me 9 months ago but a few months ago she contacted me again.", "post": "My first girlfriend of 6 months left me 9 months ago, 7 months into the break up she contacted me again talking to me about what has happened in her life and what not after she left. She then brought up the possibility of her coming back to me. \n\nUnfortunately, we talked a bit more and she said she really wasn't sure so we just stopped talking for a bit. I contacted her again a few weeks later, then she just stopped talking to me. She wont even tell me if she wants me back or not. She just declines my requests on Skype (it was long distance), and wont tell me anything. I am having a hard time moving on with all the thoughts of her being with someone else and I cant get any solace because she wont tell me anything. What should I do? Has this happened to anyone else?", "summary": "GF left me, contacted me a few months later telling me we might get back together, wont answer me even when I really need an answer (depression, emotional distress ect.) what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_51e21t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my boyfriend doesn't believe in happy ever after", "post": "Basically I've [22, f] been going out with this guy [28, m] a month, thought he was pretty awesome etc. Was starting to really feel something. \nLast night we got into some deep talking. He said that he had a cynical view on a lot of things, especially love and relationships. Said there was a very high statistical chance that people don't find \"the one\" and don't spend the rest of their lives with someone. I know that this is true, but as someone who grew up with two parents who love each other, and with no divorce in my family at all, I have a very positive outlook on love (his parents had a nasty divorce). \n\nHe also said that, even though he's never had a 6 year relationship, he believes that this is the maximum time you could realistically spend with another person, he said that around the 6 year mark you'd have found out all you need to know about the other person, and there's no real reason to continue a relationship at that point. As someone whos had a 4 and a half year relationship in the past, I feel the opposite and think that at 6 years you would only love the person more and want to spend even longer with them. \n\nI want to just put this down to the age difference. Am I just naive about relationships? Is it okay for him to feel this way? Should I take it to heart or no?", "summary": "bf doesn't believe in long term relationships or marriage, has cynical outlook, I'm the opposite but I feel naive about the subject"}
{"id": "t3_4j14u2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my BF29M] 1.5 years, he is going to start traveling for work. how to stay close", "post": "So me and my BF have been dating for a year and a half and so far everything has been good. We have been working on our communication because we realized we both have issues in communicating effectively.\n\nBut now he is going to start having to travel for work for about 2 weeks a month and it's making me worry about us. I trust him 100%, this is more about communication and staying close. We don't talk on the phone or text all day now because I know I will eventually see him in the evening or the next day. But with him being gone for chunks of time it has me worried.\n\nBasically I'm just hoping for some sort of tips with staying in contact. feeling close, while a SO is traveling and with a 2 hour time difference. I feel close with him and connected in person but don't know what to do about him being states away. Anything is appreciated", "summary": "BF is going to start having to travel frequently for work. worried about staying close"}
{"id": "t3_23nokn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [16m] finally told [16f] how I feel about her. What now?", "post": "We'll things are definitely looking up! I finally worked up the courage (although barely) to tell my friend how I feel about her! I honestly couldn't be happier! \n\nFrom the our most recent text messages she made it pretty clear it made her day. (Or so I hope) she seems pretty good about it. \n\nI wish I could of told her earlier but she's been going through some things with some guy and I didn't quite want to tell her when she was upset. (Which was almost every chance I got).\nSo that's what I told her and she was shocked to know I was apparently \"the only one to care enough to pay attention and make sure she was ok.\" \n\nWe'll anyways she's just said, \nI hope you understand I can't quite tell you how I feel as I'm still crushed over this whole thing with the other guy.\nSo I'm not so sure what to think about that. Any thoughts?\n\nBut anyways onto my real problem. This is (maybe, not even for sure yet) my first relationship really.. I'm not quite sure what to do. We live in a small town that gets roughly 2500mm of rainfall annually so there's not a lot to do.", "summary": "finally told friend how I feel about her. Her response was a bit iffy but things are good. Not sure what to do when we finally go out."}
{"id": "t3_2kjj5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21/M] send my ex-GF's [21/F] family a small gift?", "post": "The relationship:\n\nI moved from India to New Zealand three months ago to study and broke up with my GF of 1.3 years just before moving. We were really happy together but my insecurities of her sexual past got the better of me. It led to a LOT of fights between the two of us from the first day of being together and by the end of it, the both of us had had enough. We were truly, deeply, madly in love when we were together and she made me feel complete. One of the biggest things she did was that she made me a part of her family. I became unbelievably close to all her family members. I used to call her mom, my mom and literally spend more time at her place with her family than mine. We had a very bad end and every attempt at clearing the air has been unsuccessful so far. TBT, I don't know how I feel about her. I miss her insanely but don't know if it's my lack of friends in this new country and my recent onset of loneliness and depression playing a key in it. \n\nI need advice with two questions:\n1. I don't want to end ties with her family since they accepted me as a part of theirs and made me feel so loved and looked after. Coming from a dysfunctional extended family, they made me feel absolutely content. Do you think I should send them a small gift (a postcard?) as a way of telling them i still remember them? \n\n2. Do you think it's worth contacting my ex again to attempt at clearing the air or is it not worth it anymore? I am not over her completely and definitely want to meet her again when i go back home (in a year or two)\n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "Bad ending with awesome ex-GF due to my insecurities. Moved from India to NZ to study. Depressed. Lonely. Miss her like crazy. I had become very close with her family during our relationship and don't want to cut ties with them because of not being together anymore. Is it a good idea to send them a small gift?"}
{"id": "t3_24u192", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Any advice please? First job in retail", "post": "So I recently started a new job in retail. My first job in retail ever, so I'm new:/. So far I've had 2 shifts in 2 weeks. In my second shift, which I did yesterday, the manager asked me to work on Friday morning, however when I first applied and got hired, I told her I would not be able to work Fridays because I've already committed to other things.\n\nBut when she asked, I thought, 'why not' and told her I could work for a bit in the morning. Now when I got home, I remembered what I had on Friday, a volunteering shift... I totally forgot when talking to her. I messaged the supervisor asking him to give them message to the manager, or if he could give her my number and I could give her a call and tell her. I'm going to call the store tomorrow and ask for her, and tell her then too.\n\nBut I'm kind of freaking out:(. I feel like I seriously messed up:/. Any advice?", "summary": "I told my manager I could work on friday morning, but just remembered I have a volunteer shift then, so I cannot work:/. Texted my supervisor, he hasnt replied. I'm gonna call the store and tell the manager tomorrow. But worried sick, any advice?:("}
{"id": "t3_3u188p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(26/f) SO (29/m) doesn't understand financial responsibility. How do I get through to him?", "post": "We both are considered middle-class by our individual salaries. Recently he moved in with me and I resigned to go to school. Even without him in the household, going to school full time was something I was pursuing with thorough back up plans. Debt free and all. One thing I didn't account for was his spending habits. I use my take home money to go into bills and living expenses while he burns through his with having nights out with friends and buying me things. I've explained that I'd rather him spend money on me by spending money on the home. He agrees then weeks later spends money on more events and gifts. This is incredibly frustrating. With him now being the breadwinner and older than I  it's very difficult to break through his ego. I'd tell him to get his own place but now after I've calculated he has thrown me into small debt. I'm wondering if I should just kick him out anyway and figure it out. I was much better living alone. I would like to live together financially happily ever after.", "summary": "Individually financially stable. Now living together he's breadwinner I'm unemployed putting me in debt by exclusively spending irresponsibly."}
{"id": "t3_i7abg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Websites Displaying Personal Information and how can we stop it.", "post": "I googled my cell number and have discovered it listed at a variety of \"business listing\" related websites.  The websites are listing a business I set up when I was a freelancer, me name as the proprietor, my address (from over 5 years ago) and my current cell phone number.  One website even has an estimated yearly salary that I wish was accurate.    I have no idea how they can legally display this information.  Other freelancers should google their own information to find out if you too are on these sites.  \n\nwebsites -\nhotfrog.com\npowerprofiles.com\nmanta.com\n\nI've tried emailing them but they request that I provide proof that I'm authorized to act on behalf of the company that lists my cell phone.\n\nWhat can I do to have them remove my information without jumping through their corporation's loops.  \n\nIn spite of them listing my phone number they don't even display there own company's phone number.", "summary": "websites displaying my contact information and how I can contact them or get them to remove it."}
{"id": "t3_1r4m48", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it possible to develop ADD or ADHD during puberty or the middle of your teens?", "post": "When I was in high school, I was a straight A student and able to understand concepts and think critically about how they apply to the real world but since my Sr year of high school I haven't been able to perform academically in comparison. I often times found myself forgetting my keys or wallet with no recollection of where I had left them and locked my keys in the car more times than anyone I know (it's quite embarrassing when you have to call your ex girlfriend for help to unlock your car because everyone else is busy). \n\n I haven't had health insurance since I was nineteen because that's when Medicaid expired and have been unable to see a doctor about it since it wasn't too much of a concern. As time has gone by, I'm now in my Jr year of college and have found myself unable to pay attention in class for more than probably 7 minutes. It's really become a problem. Forgetfulness has plagued me over the past 3-4 years, as I will frequently be in the middle of doing something and forget why or even what I'm doing. \n\nAnyways, today I asked my friend if I could take one of his ADHD pills because I had a major paper due in a class that would make up for my my poor grade on the only other major assignment in the class. I wound up for the first time in years actually being able to focus on my task without any distraction at all and when I had found myself working on a task that didn't directly pertain to my paper, I was able to easily shift my focus back onto my paper picking up exactly where my thoughts had left off. I think I may have taken too much because of my friend that had ADHD's recommendation and my own impatience but once I had felt the pill take effect, I was able to think and read more clearly than I have been able to in years.  \n In a related question, what effect does television and video gaming have on ADD or ADHD?", "summary": "I took my friends Adderall today and was able to focus and think clearly for the first time since I can remember. Are these normal effects of the study drug or is it possible I might have developed ADD or ADHD in puberty."}
{"id": "t3_4sh67i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] need some basic texting and tinder advice for an [18f]", "post": "I'm pretty sure I'm over thinking all of this. Basics are that I've only had one girlfriend before and now that we are broken up I am trying tinder out. I met a really nice and cute girl on there and we seemed to hit it off. She texted me telling me she would get back to me when she finds out if she has a car so that we can meet. That was a day and a half ago. Should I still be texting her or should I wait for her to get back to me? I know these are kinda stupid pedantic questions, but I need some help :)", "summary": "New to tinder and texting girls in general"}
{"id": "t3_3eav0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] met an awesome girl [28 F] online. There were sparks but now nothing. I want to stay friends. Please Help.", "post": "I'm a gamer and I met a girl through an FB group dedicated to a game we both played. She was really cute and a group of us including her hit it off so we all added each other. Over time me and get private messaged each other and hit it off. We have the same quirky humor and weirdness. Both shy people but we use the internet to let go. I started liking her. .. But she is a very flirtatious person as am I and I reassured her that I wasn't going to take it seriously. She mentioned her bf to the group like once or twice but I thought she was just saying it to keep any potentially creepy gamer dudes away (turns out only me and some other guy were straight and the other guy eventually left because he was getting creepy with her and we weren't comfortable with this). So we chatted, flirted and talked about things like our family, traveling, anime, and other things. Turns out one night she was drunk and told me if circumstances were different (her career and the fact that we live in different states) she would have called me over that night or whatever. I confessed the same and we still went on business as usual. Oddly enough we traded selfies and she thought I was beautiful which is very strong language and well I complimented her on hers.  Well turns out recently we haven't been talking m as much. Granted she works and started helping to lead a guild in the MMO we both play and I found out tonight she actually did have a bf though the relationship is strange and they are very independent. I've come to terms that we can't be together now and maybe never so I'll just go on being friends (friend zoning her in a sense) and if something comes out of it great if not it was fun while it lasted... But I can't help but think I did something wrong to get her to not talk to me as much. \n\nShould I nonchalantly mention my concern or should I just let it slide? It would hurt to not have a cool person like this as a friend at least. How could I approach the topic without sounding clingy?", "summary": "Met an awesome girl online. She was taken but we had some sparks and we connected well but now about six months in we don't talk as much. She may be busy with IRL stuff and her new guild but I want to make sure it's not me. I don't expect anything to come out of this and I've accepted this reality but she's a really cool girl and I want to be friends at least.  How do i approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_3mxtee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Gf [26 F] 2 months, she keeps mentioning her Ex-BF in conversation", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI recently got into a relationship with a girl. It's only been 2 months long. I have a concern regarding our conversations. For instance lets say I biked 20 miles today. She would respond with \"oh my ex-bf used to do 30 miles a day\".\n\nTo me that seems a little concerning she does it at least 3 -4 times a week.\n\nSince it is an early relationship, I kind of want to ask you folks on reddit, is this a sign that I should pack up and leave due to this being a scary indicator that she might having feelings for the ex-bf still or could this just blow over?\n\nShe tends to be very competitive about almost everything. One of the main reasons we are dating. I really like competitive girls haha. But the comparison to the old boyfriend is making me feel very uneasy whenever it is brought up.", "summary": "New GF brings up Ex-BF when comparing things to activities I have done that day and what not. Makes me feel uneasy. Should I get up and go ? or just go to the pub and wait for it all to blow over."}
{"id": "t3_4w72l0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] mom [47F] found out that I am an Athiest. She is devastated.", "post": "The other day, I was helping my parents move their stuff to their new house, and I brought my laundry over so I could do it there instead of going to the laundromat. The washer and dryer units had been disconnected already, but Mom said she could take my laundry to the rental house and put it in the washer over there. \n\nI forgot that I had my Athiest t-shirt in there which I bought earlier this year to support one of my favorite Youtubers. I've been very careful not to let my Mom see it, but today, I screwed up. \n\nSure enough, she had already washed and folded the clothes before I got there, and she was almost in tears. At first, I tried dodging by telling her that \"Athiesm is Unstoppable\" (which is the phrase printed on the back of the shirt) is just the guy's YouTube username (which it is), and that I don't necessarily associate with Athiesm.\n\n\"Necessarily?!\" she shrieked.\n\nFuck. I shouldn't have worded it like that. I explained to her that I do tend to lean towards \"some\" Athiest ideas after being exposed to them throughout the years. It didn't do much to calm her down. She begged me to not tell my grandmother, and she advised me to get rid of the shirt as soon as possible. \"I didn't raise you this way, catjack, and I'm not going to take credit for any of the ideas you've got in your head. Your grandmother would be mortified.\"\n\nI'm honestly not sure what to do at this point. Mom is extremely sad and disappointed, and I can't really change my beliefs. I could put on an act and pretend that I'm still loyal to God and I still pray at night, but it wouldn't be nearly as convincing now.", "summary": "Mom found out that I am an Athiest due to a t-shirt she came across, and she is urging me to get rid of it to save both of us from the scorn of my grandmother and extended family."}
{"id": "t3_1lk7g9", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My ex-boyfriend will not leave me alone.", "post": "I dated this guy since I was 17, and all the way up until I was 21. I fell out of love during the last two years of our relationship, I guess at the time, I didn't really realize it. He is a bi-polar alcoholic, and he picked up and left a year ago and moved to another state without telling me. After coming home to an empty apartment, I was pissed, but eventually learned it was for the best. But now, he won't stop contacting me.\n\nHe's made 5 different facebooks to contact me. I tell him to leave me alone, and then block him. He just makes a new Facebook with a different or same name. He then threatens to come to my house (he came back to my state for a month of two after he left) to \"talk\". He sends me letters in the mail. He's now gotten a new phone number and has decided that is the new way to contact me.\n\nI JUST WANT HIM TO LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!\n\nYou had your chance, and now I'm in love with my new amazing boyfriend. When I say that I don't want to talk to you ever again, I MEAN IT! I don't want to have to waste my time with going to the courts for an electronical restraining order. Just leave me and my life alone!", "summary": "Ex continues to contact me after a year of telling him to leave me alone."}
{"id": "t3_2xxu0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF [20M] of 2 and a half years. I want him to sometimes be more \"manly\" with me. Sort of...", "post": "My [21F] BF [20M] is the sweetest guy I have ever met. He is a very big guy as well which is what attracted me to him before he opened his mouth (He's 6'6\" and 300+ lbs). I love him so dearly and I'm so grateful that I do have someone so wonderful in my life.\n\nI have been very seriously abused by men so my boyfriend (let's call him John) has always been very supportive and is always careful of what and how he says things and now its second nature to him. I have never told John, however, that I am very attracted to the manly man as well as the sweet guy. I would like, when we're alone, for him to carefully man-handle me. I want him to take control sometimes and basically let out his inner Neanderthal a little.\n\nI don't want him think that I like the abuse. It's more the \"chest-beating\" and the \"I'm the man, you're the woman\" attitude that I enjoy once in a while. It's also only in the bedroom/getting to the bedroom when I do enjoy it. Not if we were to be at the grocery store and he says \"So what are you making me for dinner?\" kind of crap.\n\nSorry of that's confusing but I don't really know how to explain it...\n\nWhat I'm asking for is a) how can I better describe this to him? and b) is this something that's okay to ask of him?", "summary": "I want my bf to gently mad-handle me when its just us once in a while... can I ask that and how do I do so without it sounding weird?"}
{"id": "t3_3sdfle", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [20F] of 2 years, starting to second-guess relationship.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for just about 2 years\u2014she was my first real girlfriend, and the girl I lost my virginity to. I met her online, and we instantly hit it off and could tell that we wanted to meet each other in real life. Our first date confirmed that we had a very strong connection, and from there we became exclusive. From the start, things were going perfect: we'd never ever get into fights, we'd always have a good time, the sex was amazing, etc.\n\nI met her after I graduated high school (right when I went from a very shy overweight kid, to a more confident good looking guy), so she was my first real experience with a girl. At the time, I really wanted to find a relationship with someone I could connect with before losing my viriginity, and she was the right girl. To be honest, at the time I didn't think I'd be here, 2 years in\u2014 still dating her.\n\nRecentley, I've been feeling a little depressed (just lost my job after graduating college, not being able to move out, family problems, etc.) and also a bit \"trapped\" in the relationship. I still love her, and enjoy spending time with her. However, a part of me really wants to end it and experience the single life, spend more time focussing on my career, and just not be in a relationship. The reason I'm here, is because I have never had experience with a scenario like this, and wanted an outside opinion. If I broke things off, I feel like I would be regretting it very soon for making the wrong decision. We've also talked about moving in together, and she always talks about wanting to spend the rest of her life with me.", "summary": "\u2014 Been dating my GF for 2 years, recently feeling 'trapped, want to experience being single, not sure if it'e the right decision."}
{"id": "t3_g5j9g", "subreddit": "self", "title": "If you are a teacher/instructor...", "post": "and a student e-mails/approaches you with literature, a video, a news article, etc. that they thought was interesting because it pertains to something you covered/are covering in class, don't respond with \"That's nice,\" or \"How interesting.\" At least show a little enthusiasm. An exclamation point takes no extra time to type in an e-mail and if a student comes to you during their own free time to show you something they thought was interesting and relevant, chances are they have taken a liking to you. When you show an obvious disinterest in your student, not only are you probably hurting their feelings, you're also chipping away at their interest in education. It wouldn't kill you to take a couple minutes to listen to why they thought their piece was so absorbing. I don't mean to be accusatory, as there are plenty of instructors that do not act like this and show students the respect they need to excel in school (obviously if they deserve it). But if you do act like this, change your attitude. Or go do something else with your life. Or go suck a railroad spike.", "summary": "If you're a teacher and a student brings you something they found interesting/relevant to class, don't be a dickhole about it; show interest in it even if its the most boring piece of shit you've ever seen."}
{"id": "t3_1r8f4t", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Can't seem to lose weight. What am I doing wrong?", "post": "Ok, so I've lurked on this sub long enough to know people are probably tired of this question but everyone on here seems to have really good information/ideas that I'm hoping someone can help.\n\nI'm 29, female, 5'6 and about 127 pounds. \nI've been running for fun and fitness since I was young and recently decided I would like to train for a marathon. I really love running and have been enjoying the process of training but I am noticing that I have already gained a little weight (about 3 pounds) and while I know it's probably muscle I also notice my measurements haven't gotten smaller. If anything I swear I look bigger.\n\nWhile I know I don't really need to lose weight (though it would be nice) I would like to get leaner and tighter and I don't think that is happening. What am I doing wrong?\nShould I be lifting weights as well? And how do you fit that in to a busy running schedule?\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "What is the best combination of running and strength training to lose body fat?"}
{"id": "t3_u505x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex-girlfriend get \"excited\" with \"romantic feelings\" when I reach out to her, then the feelings quickly fizzle.  Has anyone else experienced a similar situation?", "post": "I just wanted to bounce this scenario off of the wise folks of r/relationships.\n\nM and F both 24.  I broke up with her about a year ago after dating for a year.  We go through the same cycle every few months.  I reach out because I still like her, we start talking, feelings are there and we both admit it, eventually she decides she really only has friendship feelings that are at first misunderstood as romantic ones.  We stop talking, repeat cycle several months later.\n\nI realize how messed up this is, how she doesn't genuinely like me, all that.  I just wanted to see if anyone else has been through this with an ex, or if anyone has any insight/experience to share.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend has hot and cold feelings, asking for similar experiences."}
{"id": "t3_13iy1v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just saved my sister from financial turmoil caused by their insurance company. What good deeds have you done recently?", "post": "Two months ago my sister and her partner got two kittens for their kids. At the same time they called a pet insurance company, and since their economy is not the best, they asked to receive an automatic monthly payment plan.\n\nTo cut that story short, they screwed up and sent an invoice for the entire yearly fee, and forgot to send papers for the monthly plan.\n\nFast forward to last week. They got the kittens neutered at a vet, but one of them had some complications afterwards and they ended up having to perform surgery on it last night.\n\nBut before they went to have that done, they called the insurance company to make sure that everything was alright, and they confirmed that it indeed was.\nHowever, after the procedure was over, the company called and told them that the insurance was not in fact valid. It appears that here was still one day left of the 20 waiting days before it kicks in, which they apparently started counting **after** all their screw-ups.\n\nMy sister was completely devastated by this, as they had to pay the full $2100 medical bill. The only way they had any chance of paying it was to take a loan, which on top of everything had no option of paying back over more than a year, which meant their economy would still be in chaos.\n\nAll of this happened after they had just managed to pay off a ton of other loans and started to their economy sorted.\n\nAfter I came home from work today and heard all of this, I immediately called my sister and told her \"don't worry, I'll foot the entire medical bill\". After hearing this, she just broke down in tears. When she could speak again she started thanking me because of how much it means for them and their economy.\n\nI also said that they should immediately complain to the insurance company to try and get them to pay, since it was their screw-ups that mean the insurance was not valid. But now my sister won't have to worry about how they are going to survive each month while that is going on.", "summary": "I paid a $2100 vet bill for my sister and her family because their insurance was still one day from being valid due to multiple screw-ups by the insurance company."}
{"id": "t3_2ojzqm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [27M] of a year, am I being paranoid?", "post": "I'm afraid this might be a little long. I'll change the name, but unfortunately the details will probably give it away. Regardless, it'll make for some pillow talk either way, right?\n\nAnyway, I've been dating Ahmed (international student from Saudi Arabia) for about a year now. Honestly, we don't really have a solid relationship. Communication is basically absent. I don't think I'd be able to classify it as a \"healthy relationship.\" Still, I enjoy his company.\n\nHe has a lot of friends so naturally, some of them are girls. This doesn't bother me. It's the littlest things that bother me, though. I'll admit that I'm kind of jealous (though, I don't think, overly so). I haven't gone through his phone; but I do oversee him texting occasionally. He has my full name in his phone. The girl he's texting all the time (I don't think a guy would send a kissy face to my boyfriend) is listed as 'Lil mind reader.' Which is kind of weird. He was helping out a friend (also female, judging by her voice) from his undergrad get a plane ticket. I asked him where she was flying to (mostly curiosity) and he deflected. I'm fully willing to admit that I might be paranoid, but he's not all that affectionate toward me (at all) and it seems like he's more committed to these girls than to me.\n\nI hate asking him about this shit because again, I might be paranoid, I'm bad at communication and he's very good at avoiding the question. Reddit, am I paranoid (and please please *please*  tell me if I am)? Should I talk to him? Is there an issue?", "summary": "Boyfriend seems to pay attention to a few other girls than to me, but I'm afraid that I might be paranoid."}
{"id": "t3_1aiu3u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I (21F) convinced a \"damaged\" guy (21) I'll be faithful?", "post": "I've always been a bit of a shy girl, so excuse any stupidities. :(\n\nI'm currently attending college and met a cute guy (queue all the additional typical things) in one of my classes. Nothing really special for most girls, but I've never really dated anyone, or had these sort of strong feelings. Had a few crushes here and there, but never like this. I feel stupid, but I literally doll myself up for this guy hoping he will notice, and find myself constantly thinking about him. \n\nAfter raving and raving about this guy to my friend, she told me that I either needed to ask him out or shut up. Read up on proper flirting etiquette, gave myself a pep talk, and walked out of class with him...\n\n...and promptly blew it. First words out of my mouth were to ask him if he had a girlfriend. I appreciate subtlety, clearly. We continued:\n\nHim: \"No, why?\"\nMe: \"Well, you are just so cu... uh, cool.\" (I can't believe I called a grown man cool)\nHim: \"Yeah, girls traditionally find guys who play video games and paint models cool. I can see how you would be confused.\"\nMe: \"I find those things cool! Are you looking for a girlfriend?\"\nHim: \"Not really...\"\n\nI didn't want to give up, so I pressed him for why. It took a lot of awkward begging, but he finally revealed that after his past two girlfriends, his mother, all his aunts, all his cousins, and all his female friends cheated on their SO's, he was done with women. With that sort of experience, it was kind of hard to say that I wouldn't, you know? Asked around, and from all accounts, he isn't lying, sadly...\n\nMy friend says he is damaged goods and to leave him alone, but I'm still obsessing over him... is there anyway to change a guy's mind about this sort of stuff? Any advice from someone who went through a similar situation?", "summary": "Guy I'm crushing on has never known a faithful woman. How do I convince him I am?"}
{"id": "t3_25oaf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] ex-boyfriend [21M] are reconciling after a year apart. I had sex with someone else during this time. He has not. I don't know if we can move past this.", "post": "So, my ex-boyfriend and I dated for about a year and we broke up. I moved away. A year later, I'm planning to move back in a couple weeks and since then we've begun discussing getting back together (to be clear, I'm still roughly 1000 miles away from him). I wanted to start on a clean slate so I told him that I had sex with someone else in the time we were apart and apologized. He told me it was upsetting but that he wasn't mad and that I didn't need to apologize. He said he would speak to me later. It's been nearly three days with zero contact and I'm getting pretty anxious. I'm trying to respect his wishes and leave him to process everything on his own, but it's hard.\n\nI'm scared because we were each other's firsts and I'm still the only girl he's ever slept with. I worry that he's going to feel like he's missed out on experiencing someone else and that this will result in jealousy as well as resentment towards me. \n\nI don't know what to do. Although I know I didn't (technically) do anything wrong, I feel very, very, very guilty. I regret it a lot and I wish I could take it back. I'm upset with myself for hurting him, even though I know that if he had the opportunity to sleep with someone in the past year, he would have. \n\nI was thinking of \"letting\" him even out the playing field by having sex with someone. I know it sounds like a terrible idea, but hear me out. I'm incredibly worried about him resenting me. We both agreed that we want to be in relationship 2.0 for the long haul, so I don't want him hung up on \"what ifs\", especially since I already experienced someone other than him. I feel like it's fair considering the circumstances. I don't know. Please help.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "I had sex once during year-long breakup. Boyfriend didn't but said he \"would have if the opportunity presented itself\". I still feel guilty. I want to fix it and I don't know how, thinking of having him even out the playing field."}
{"id": "t3_19ucrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m24) want to break up with my gf (f22) for her sister (f21)", "post": "I've (m24) been dating my gf (f22) for about 14 months and we've had our ups and downs but about 5 months ago I started secretly having sex with her sister (f21). I'm not sure if it's because of the fact that she's the \"forbidden fruit\" that I'm attracted to her, but I've almost decided that I'm going to leave my gf and stay with her sister. Her sister is much nicer to me and is much more adventurous than her sister in many ways. While I know my present gf loves and cares for me deeply, over the past six months or so I found her to become particularly boring (Reading books instead of going out with me and my friends, not wanting to go see movies or concerts, etc.).\nHas anyone else struggled with this? I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "started having sex with my gf's sister, is it ok to leave my gf and go with her sister?"}
{"id": "t3_2i6ee2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] stupidly decided to go through my gf's [30] phone and have found out that she slept with her ex.", "post": "I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.", "summary": "Girlfriend got too drunk and slept with her ex. I find out by snooping. Now I just want to self destruct. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4juygj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] feel like I'm an adult by now but many people I know insist otherwise", "post": "I like to think I'm a grown up at this point. I've aced 7 APs in 3 years of high school, hold down a job, and built my own social circle from the ground up. Furthermore, while I don't do 100% of the housekeeping, I contribute greatly. I don't drive, but I'm working on it and hope to stay behind the wheel tons by the end of the year. I look after my disabled brother often and have loaned out a good portion of my checking account to my folks when times were tight. I was suffering from depression and wanted to try tennis, I've paid for a therapist and coach all on my own.\n\nThe point is, between the college-level classes and self-reliance, almost everyone around me insists I'm a child. With my friends and classmates, it's a sort of running joke because of my baby face and my crass sense of humor. They insist I have the maturity of a twelve year old boy despite me having gone through more messed stuff and being more emotionally stable than many of them. While I act silly, I like to think maturity isn't strictly tied to acting solemn 24/7 and because my childhood was hell in a lot of ways (why I grew up in the first place) I can't take a lot of high school drama seriously and don't stress out over academics. Random people I'm loosely acquainted with or talk to at work often think I'm early 20's and talk to me like an actual adult, but people who get to know me better insist I've got the mind of a child.\n\nIs there something I'm missing on? Did I miss out on some unspoken milestone as a child? If I'm indeed just a kid, what does being an adult mean?", "summary": "Despite many \"adult\" traits (looking older, tough classes, a job, emotional stability, etc.) a lot of folks are relatively adamant on me still being a kid."}
{"id": "t3_2lz3yr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am unexpectedly crushing on my friend[21 F] a few weeks after she got out of a long relationship.", "post": "So I have known my friend for about a year now, but only started hanging out with her a few months ago. She had a boyfriend for about 2 years, and we saw each other for only a few hours a week mostly during classes so I never really got to know her. \n\nRecently, she broke up with her boyfriend and since then we have started texting and hanging out a lot more than usual. Now that we are getting to know each other, I of course am starting to crush on her. Now I am unsure how to proceed. I am not sure if she feels the same way, and either way she probably doesn't want to think about it right now. \n\nShe doesn't talk about her previous relationship a lot, but from the little she said I am pretty sure she was in love with him, but still looking to the future without him a little. I can relate to her situation, having ended a 3 year relationship before, I haven't really had any interests or desires to find someone else until just now.\n\nHow do you think I should proceed? Should I tell her I'm developing feelings for her but put no pressure on her? Should I just keep it to myself? Wait?", "summary": "I am starting to (unexpectedly) crush on a friend I have had for a few months, who I have gotten to really know only recently after she broke up with her boyfriend. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_4bip4o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] have just been called selfish for working late thanks to an overrun meeting by fianc\u00e9e [26F] of 3years. Am I being selfish?", "post": "I recently got a new job in an IT firm providing basic first line support. By recently I mean within the last 6 weeks. So I'm still in that probationary period that everyone kinda gets. \n\nWas working on a really difficult case that still isn't totally sorted, meaning instead of working till 5 and going home, I didn't leave the office till 6. Called my fianc\u00e9e to apologise, and she blew up at me about how I should have walked out of the meeting at 5 and come home and that the CEO can do something rather unnatural to himself with himself. \n\nReddit, am I really in the wrong for valuing my job and not just waking out at my regular finish time when it was mid meeting?\n\nFTR: There were no special plans made for tonight.", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9e doesn't like that sometimes I work late."}
{"id": "t3_luq8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The Internet", "post": "Hello there! My name is Cameron and I just want to tell you something. Welcome to the Internet, a vast network of interconnected computers and information. Yes, that's what you would think wouldn't you. It's more though, much, much more. The Internet isn't just a collection of information. It is a collection of people, ideas, and dreams. There is no place on this earth that can reach the level of diversity on the internet. The Internet is home to communities that reach every type of conceivable person. One gigantic melting pot of people. People say that America is a melting pot. That is true but only on the smallest of scales. If you were to look at the internet with the standard view, all you would see is information. But think about it as more than just some simple place and you might just find something simply amazing; a place where no matter who you are, there is someone else out there on the internet who is like you. To restate, the internet is more than just information, it is a community, a refuge, and a melting pot. \n\nThank you for reading this, but if you didn't:", "summary": "The Internet is more than a collection of information, it is a melting pot of ideas, people, and dreams."}
{"id": "t3_33f220", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by going grocery shopping", "post": "I went grocery shopping for my mom. Usually she's the one who goes but she sent me out instead. I was walking through the aisles looking for everything when my mom called me. She was telling me to get her pads. I'm a 16 year old male and I had no idea what kind to get her. I was arguing back and forth with her as I was looking at all these different kinds of pads. How many kinds do we really need wtf? Anyways she's yelling at me and I end up yelling at her. I hang up the phone and look over to see that a lot of people are staring at me. I grab the nearest kind and quickly rush home. When I got home my mom looked at it and asked if she looked like a teenage girl. I got her ultra thin ones. Currently standing in the pad aisle with a look of shame.", "summary": "Mom sent me on quest to control her monthly bringing. I have failed."}
{"id": "t3_3h17xm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27M] doesn't want me [22F] to have guy friends that I text. Who is being unreasonable here?", "post": "Relationship for over a year.\n\nBoyfriend was previously married for almost six years. She was cheating on him for a few months, and she did a lot of awful stuff to him. He's never gone to therapy, but I've proposed the idea and he is open to it.\n\nWe both agreed to not hang out with the opposite sex alone, whether in private or in public, and I can hang with that. It seems reasonable. However, I have a few guy friends that I text and it really bothers him.\n\nSometimes I will text one or two of them every day, but I will also text female friends and family members. I love the companionship from my boyfriend but I also need friends to feel fulfilled. I don't care if they're girls or guys, I just like friends that I click with.\n\nI have never cheated in the past and I do not ever want to.\n\nIs it reasonable for him to be upset that I will text a guy friend or two about simple things like working out or school? Is he being restrictive?", "summary": "My boyfriend was cheated on in his past marriage, and he has a lot of hurt from that relationship. I want to have guy friends in addition to girl friends, just over text (never in person one on one) but boyfriend thinks that it's inappropriate. To me, it seems like his insecurities are constricting me. Am I being reasonable to want to text STRICTLY platonic male friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2j8fdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] 6 months, broke up yesterday and I know that it's for the best. How do I start over?", "post": "I met a girl at a show back in December, we flirted a lot and eventually got together in April. We fell for each other very hard, and we fell very fast. Within just a few months, we incorporated each other in to our daily lives so much, that the thought of us splitting up never crossed my mind and then it happened. Yesterday, we broke up and I know that it's for the best for both of us, but I'm just not sure how to start getting over it. Six months is not that long of a time, but this relationship was totally new territory in how we approached things personally and it made it easy to escalate how it did and now that it's done, I'm not sure what to do with myself. Everything just breathes her from it, and it's hard to handle.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, not sure how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_e9pod", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I was ripped off by Hotwire.com", "post": "This past September, I decided to spend some time hiking in the Smokey Mountains. While I was there, I would either stay at one of the shelters or I would get a hotel by way of Priceline. On one night, I couldn't get a winning bid on Priceline so I tried on Hotwire.com. I had previously purchased a room through them when I was there in August -- a 3 star that ended up being a nice Holiday Inn with a restaurant. This time, I selected what was presented as a 3-star hotel for the price of $82. When I got there, this is what I found:\n\n3 Star Hotels (according to Hotwire) have pools and restaurants. This was a roadside motel with neither of these. I immediately called Hotwire and informed them this place was not a 3 star hotel. They were no help. \"You agreed to stay in whatever hotel we put you in.\" \"And I agreed to do so under the premise that it was a 3 star hotel. This is not a 3 star hotel. This is fraud.\" I stayed somewhere else to emphasize that I wasn't interested in the ripoff. I tried disputing the charge through Visa and I found out a couple of days that apparently Visa doesn't understand the idea of fraud. As a result, I am going to do a couple of things and that is why I am writing this post. First, I'm spreading my story every place on the internet I know of. I want to make Hotwire lose more than the $94 (after taxes) that I lost as a result of their fraud. Second, I plan to take them to court, but I'm deciding if I'm going to go to small claims or if I am going to go talk to an attorney and seek a class action suit. Thats the reason behind the post. Has anyone else been screwed over by Hotwire?\n\nBTW: I have been using Priceline since 2003. I am currently working a contract out of town and use them every week to book a hotel room. I have never been disappointed with Priceline -- they're great!", "summary": "Hotwire sold me what they offered as a 3-star hotel room and put me at a 1-star hotel."}
{"id": "t3_3u1484", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 M] is having issues with my crush [14 F]", "post": "Hey So as the title says, I need some advice and help with this girl I have a crush on. Let me tell you some backstory.\n\nWe're both freshmen in high school. I've liked her since 8th grade. Nobody knew I liked her until 1 week before homecoming. (homecoming was about a month ago). I told my friends I liked her 1 week before homecoming and I guess some others overheard and it somehow spread. Homecoming came, she went out with this other guy who I am somewhat friends with but not close friends. Lets call this guy John. And lets call my crush Sam.\n\nSo yeah, basically I'm pretty sure Sam knows I like her, I'm not sure who she likes, not sure if she likes John, but they are pretty close friends. They've been friends since middle school and are speech and debate partners but John said he is only friends with her.\n\nI have no idea what to do, my mind is boggling. Sam recently texted me asking for some help on homework and I'm not sure why she would text ME but yeah I helped her with that(This was the second and only time we texted other than once before). I'm currently on thanksgiving break and the Dance unit is coming up right after break. My friends were telling me to ask her to be dance partners but I have no idea what to do. I don't want to ask her because of John and with John in the way I can't really talk to her at all, specially now that I am 99% sure she knows I like her. I recently went to the movies with friends and John was there and he was texting her so they are close enough to be texting out of school life. There was also a rumor around homecoming time that John was the one that told her and spread the rumor that I like her.\n\nI have no idea what to do with John in the way. I'm not sure if he is interested in her and I should just leave it or if I should keep trying. I'm not even sure if he is my friend or foe. I heard he told her that I like her so maybe he has some hard feelings?", "summary": "like this girl but this other guy is blocking my path in doing anything with her. Other guy is close friends with her and kinda friends with me. He said he is only friends with her and no love or anything but he went to homecoming with her and recently he was texting her too. Not sure what to do, just give up and let other guy do his thing and move on with life or keep trying?"}
{"id": "t3_4qbj31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [18 F] past 3 months. She came on to me but wasn't looking for a relationship, just playing games. I wasn't having any of it but we stayed friends and got closer.", "post": "So I (20 M) met this girl (18 F) who's my buddy's younger sister, at a party around 3 months ago. She got really friendly and touchy right off the bat and we wound up spooning while watching a movie very soon after we met. This sort of thing was not a one time thing and we've spent a lot of time together since then. While this was going on she basically said she wasn't looking for a relationship because she wasn't over her last boyfriend so I decided to put an end to the spooning and touching and stuff because I was starting to feel like a rebound boy toy. Also the lack of commitment and the insecurity I felt concerning the lack of committed exclusivity bothered me quite a bit. And so I pretty much said that if we were going to be friends we should just do just friends stuff. She took it well enough and the touching went down. We were already becoming pretty close and closer since then and now I actually care about her enough that I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with her and I spend so much time with her that I can't help but have affection for her. Mmm. I guess I think I kinda like her now and I would like to have more then I currently do. I've gotten more comfortable and trust her more now. I don't know if she'd want to. We've talked about it some but it's been a while now since the last time. If I want more, what's the best course of action?", "summary": "Met a girl. She was playing games initially, I wasn't having it, then we got closer as friends and now I think she's really cool and I want to have more with her. What's the best way to approach this in you guys' opinions?"}
{"id": "t3_wzl29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being completely unreasonable?", "post": "Hey everyone! My g/f (25) of **two years** has upset me(27), and I'm not sure how I should be behaving in this situation. \n\nI have bought her lots of gifts throughout our relationship, which I have worked very hard to pay for. I bough her a necklace, lost it, bought her a Tiffany bracelet, broke it twice, and finally to put the icing on the cake, she's lost the iPhone I bought her for Christmas.\n\nAm I being unreasonable by being quite mad and saying things like \"easy come, easy go\" to her? I really love her, and I know she loves me, but really, I have spent months putting that kind of cash together to spend on her over the couple of years.", "summary": "gf loses or breaks expensive gifts. What to do."}
{"id": "t3_38clfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] have been asked to be a bridesmaid for my sister's [25F] wedding. Only problem is ex boyfriend's [28M] current girlfriend [25F] has been asked as well.", "post": "So about 5 years ago I ended a 4 year long relationship with ex due to him having feeling for my younger sister. \nHis behavior was sleazy/flirty with my sister and he admitted he had feelings for sister to a mutual friend.\n\nI ended it after I found out that he was a compulsive liar, verbally abusive, physically destructive and after hearing about this infatuation with my sister.\n\nI met a guy a few years later and eventually we got married. \nSister stayed at my mum's house and would have my ex over to play games with her and her boyfriend. \nWhich made it awkward for my partner and I to visit my mum as he was almost always there. \nMum refused to put her foot down so we stopped visiting her.\n\nFast forward a couple years my sister has a new boyfriend now and they are planning to get married. \nShe has told me she is not sure if she will invite the ex and his gf or not. \nMind you they all hang out every weekend and are very close. \nI do not see her excluding them and feel that most people out there would not have to be put in an awkward situation such as this because a breakup is final.\nAm I being stupid?", "summary": "sister is super retarded. Befriended my abusive ex boyfriend and wants everyone to play happy families at her wedding."}
{"id": "t3_3et50u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18/F) boyfriend (20/M) of three months wants me to pay him back all the money he has spent on me.", "post": "Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for...lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back... I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list).", "summary": "bf suddenly wants money back for all the dinner's/movies which were \"on him\" where he insisted I do not pay even though I offered to pay for myself. Am I suppose to pay him back?"}
{"id": "t3_4nfddp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my brother 32 M and mother 58 F] duration whole life. brother uses crystal meth and my mother manipulates me into taking care of him.", "post": "Background:\nMy brother is slow he has an iq of 69 and a normal iq is 70. he receives social security around 900 dollars a month. He rents a house next door to mine. The houses are located on the same property. He actively does crystal meth with my drug dealing neighbors down the block. My mother is an enabler giving my brother groceries and money. From a young age she instilled into me that family takes care of family. She continues to enable my brother by trying to manipulate me into believing that i need to take care of him.\n\nThe problem:\nSo my brother has been using again. His dealer/friend came up to me and decided to tell me he was using again. Not much he said but you know just a little. The drug use has changed him into a person i dont want to be around. i want to distance myself from him because of the drug use and his overall personality from it. I'm thinking of just staying away from both my mother and my brother. so how do i do it? how did you do distance yourself from negative family members? i don't want to just block and ignore more like a slow distancing process.", "summary": "Brother uses drugs and mother enables his behavior by buying him shit and guilting me into helping him. How do i distance myself?"}
{"id": "t3_3d6f91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) cheated on and lied to my girlfriend (18F) of 2 years badly and dont know what to do anymore", "post": "I am gonna be very blunt. Please dont tell me in the comments what an asshole I am or how badly i treated her i know this very much.\n\nOur relationship started well and we were pretty happy together. About six months in the relationshipi cheated on her two times with one of her friends (not very close). I texted with this girl throuought the 2 years a few times mostly sexual things. I didnt tell my GF and 3 month ago about 2 years in the relationship it all came out. I continued to lie to her and only told her bits and bits and wasnt ever honest to her.\n\n When she found out she broke up immedieatly but couldnt let go so we \"came back together\" more or less after 3 or 4 days. But at that point she still didnt know everything e.g. the writing things and one of the major things, that i texted the girl she should come over on the day of the first breakup. So she broke up with me again. Only at this point i told her everything. After a little bit silence (one week or something) we came back together again, this time for 2 months. We even had a vacation at the sea. But then on the day she finished school she broke up with me again because she said she cant forgive me and she cant forget it.\n\n She isnt angry anymore but just cant do it anymore. Now two weeks ago, about one week after the 2nd breakup we spend the whole week together, e.g. at the lake or in the park or at home and texting all the time but at Sunday last week she suddenly stopped texting for three days and tells me on Wednesday its over again. Fort he 2 years weve been together the only thing she is talking about is that she wants to move away for university as soon as possible. This is in approx 2 months. I am just afraid to lose her ( i know that shit sounds stupid) and i dont know what to do or how to act anymore.", "summary": "I cheated and lied to my gf badly. We came back together two times and i am asking myself if i should hope/act on a third time or what to do to cope."}
{"id": "t3_24x50e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) mother (50ish) is digging herself a deep hole financially..", "post": "In the past year my mom has been evicted three times, had two cars repoed and went through a divorce. She has borrowed money from many people, but not me my husband would lose his shit. She has never been one to stress over bills or lack of money. She continuously buys crap that she doesn't need. Oh it's on sale, $1 off, she's got to have it. She really only has a few bills- rent, electric, cell phone. No car, insurance is done pretax. \n\nRight now she is on long-term disability at work due to a broken foot. It's about 40% of her normal income. She has been out of work since February and it doesn't look like she will be back until June.  \n\nMy problem is- she was just evicted, she has until tomorrow to get her stuff out. She has yet to tell me this, my sister told me today thinking our mother had. I made her a spreadsheet to try to help her in the past but obviously that is useless. Now, I want to take over her finances because I'm tired of this crap but I don't know how to bring it up to her.", "summary": "how do I tell my mother I think it'd be best if I handle her finances?"}
{"id": "t3_36cweg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex GF [23 F] of 5 years sent me [25 M] a birthday card. How do I respond? Currently No Contact.", "post": "Hey All!,\n\nI'm using a throw away as my ex reads Reddit.\n\n-\n\nI was in a wonderful long distance relationship with my ex for just over 5 years. It was one of those high school sweet heart types, we had been best friends for 3+ years before the relationship. Strong relationship with a lot of balance and effort from both sides. She broke up with me 2 months ago to work in a place far away. When she told me it seemed her mind had already been made up and there was very little negotiation about us staying together. Hit me pretty hard, been having a hard time getting over her since.\n\n-\n\nIt's my birthday today (wooo cake) and **I received a birthday card in the mail from my ex.** The card was very generic and came across friendly, yet a bit dry, almost as if she didn't know what to say. Just the general \"Happy Birthday, have a good day. I'm proud of you etc\". Obviously very different from her previous lovey wall of text cards when we were together.\n\n-\n\nHow do I respond? We are currently in no contact and have been since we split. I'm still in love with her but there is no logical reason for us to be together as she does not plan on returning to where I live (ever) and I cannot relocate due to a work contract. \n**I want to remain in no contact** because at the moment it's best for my healing process. It hurts too much to talk to her, but at the same time **I don't want to be rude** by not saying thanks. If I text her saying thanks and then she responds with a question, is it rude for me to not reply?\n\n-\n\nThanks", "summary": "Ex GF of 5 years left me to work in a different timezone. Sent me a birthday card after a few months of no contact. Card was a bit dry, like it was written by an old school friend. I want to stay in no contact but at the same time not be rude by not saying thanks. Want to avoid future convo if she replies to my 'thanks' because I need to move on/avoid pain.*"}
{"id": "t3_2v0l45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] know [25 M] is good to me yet I can't commit.", "post": "Background: We work together. I met Shane in Dec 13, when I started my new job. Not particularly my type, but incredibly sweet to me from the start. Few weeks later, at our Christmas party, we kissed and it was passionate but my heart wasn't in it, I'd my mind on someone else. \n\n9 months later, the other guy and I got together and ended after 8 months and I was heartbroken even though I finished with him, it was mainly down to work consuming my life and I found myself staying behind a lot to... I don't know? Chat with Shane? Get to know him better? I'm very unsure. Because even now, 5 months later I still think of the other guy a lot. I fell madly in love with him and he with me. But with both having very challenging and time consuming jobs, we drifted.\n\nShane has really been there for me though, over the last 5 month's and I know I'd still be incredibly depressed over the other guy if it wasn't for him. Shane is so good to me, he protects me, minds me and is a gentleman around me. Extremely lovely guy with a big heart and it's all mine, if I want it. He asks me on dates, offers to bring me anywhere, promises he'll always take care of me. We also have talked about sex and we sexually fit each other's needs but what if we have sex and it's not good, I'd feel like I was breaking his heart.\n\nWhy amen't I jumping at this opportunity?", "summary": "Help. I need answers."}
{"id": "t3_10mwf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [25F] bought a rabbit.  How can I [26M] deal with her wanting to spend time with it at her apt and me wanting her to spend time with me at my apt?", "post": "Hi everyone.  I know, it's such a silly thing to worry about a bunny, ha, but here goes.  My girlfriend just bought an adorable little bunny, and I like the little guy as well.  We usually sleep at each others' places since we only live a few miles away from each other.  Short story is that I like my place, a nice clean studio, and she likes her place, a house full of people with a lot of character.  We manage by spending time at each others' places pretty evenly.  Anyway, in the past she's had a habit of planning gatherings at her house with her friends/roommates that ends up meaning she's going to sleep at her place, which is fine, except that a few times she's planned these things several days in a row.  She's gotten upset at me in the past for wanting to hang out at my place.  I've called her out on it, basically telling her that if she wanted to hang out with her roommates and sleep with at her place, that it was fine, but that didn't change the fact that I wanted to hang out at my place, and maybe we needed to sleep separately sometimes.  We have been dating for about a year, and are in love with each other.\n\nAnyway, she has admitted that she can be selfish at times, but has done pretty well at understanding what I want recently.  However, I'm worried that she's going to use her new bunny as an \"excuse\" to spend more time at her place.  What is a good way to manage my worries and express my concern/wants to her if a similar situation of her always wanting to spend time at her place and expecting me to come over arises?", "summary": "GF just bought a bunny, and has been selfish about spending nights at her place in the past.  I'm worried that this new animal will cause a similar situation and want to know the best way to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_fmznx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "They say Ask Reddit is for thought provoking questions.. well here's one that would help me immensely. Should I quit my job?", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short as possible. \n\nI work as a Help Desk analyst contracted out to a health care provider. I make a decent wage (21/hr), and for a while I thought that I'd be at the company for years. I pushed myself and was given praise several times by the managers and users that I helped. \n\nIn October I asked to meet with the Director of IT and said that I wanted to eventually be hired on by them. He more or less said that my position would never again be a direct-hire and my only bet was to learn linux and be possibly transferred to Germany, or to learn SQL and be transferred to California. I was a bit dejected but still kept on. \n\nGoing into this year we were preparing for a Windows 7 deployment. Then three weeks ago, the managers went away to a meeting out of state. When they came back, they decided to 'rotate' positions sort of and mix up the whole department. \n\nMy new manager upon meeting me told me that he's received \"negative feedback\" (even though I hadn't heard of it prior) and that I was starting on a clean slate and being given a month to work hard and earn a spot on the deployment team. \n\nTo put it lightly, every day since has been harder than the last. I'm literally being loaded on with tickets and being given little support. There's a new complaint thrown at me every day and this is after I have been busting my ass. Whats worse is that since I am a contract employee, they know (and flatly state it) that I can be asked to leave at any time. I feel like there's an axe over my head thats just itching for the moment to fall. \n\nI'm not happy there, and I feel like no matter what I do, the end result will be the same. So I'm coming here for advice because I know a lot of Redditor's are IT professionals. I can't sleep and I am thinking about this every waking moment.", "summary": "help. "}
{"id": "t3_svfhl", "subreddit": "books", "title": "I hate that I am doing this but I need help.", "post": "So, I do not like the fact that I am asking someone else for advice on what to read, but I would actually appreciate the input now.  I work for a summer camp and I like to use these summers as opportunities to work through larger books that would otherwise seem daunting.  For example The Count of Monte Cristo was super enjoyable as I had a lot of small blocks of time to read it slowly, same with Moby Dick and actually enjoyed Moby Dick a lot the second time.  Anyhow I like big epic stories and would love some suggestions. I am open to anything.  I was a Lit Major so I find most things pretty accessible, also I have found rereading my old required reading can be fun.", "summary": "I need an big epic story to read this summer. I like anything as long as it is awesome."}
{"id": "t3_3qx2vg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[31 M] Just out of a long term relationship (3yr), should I stay single for a while?", "post": "Just finished up a relationship that ended fairly well (3-4 yrs), it was a mutual agreement.\n\nI don't hold any ill feelings towards them, or any grudges. I do have worries that I entered the relationship too soon after my last one and that it tainted the whole thing.\n\nI was involved with someone who repeatedly cheated on me, and for one reason or another I lied to myself that it wasn't happening. A month after the breakup from that relationship I started a new one, the one that just ended. \n\nI have always had a feeling that I didn't give myself time to process the previous relationship.  I wonder if I should stay single now for some time to see what else comes out of the woodwork in terms of the feels.", "summary": "Fresh outta a ltr that started (?)too soon(?) after a previous bad one."}
{"id": "t3_2lmvmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [36 F] don't think it is going to work with my BF [34 M] of 1 year but I have no clue how to move on. So stuck.", "post": "I love him. At least I think I do...I'm seriously infatuated at the very least. I think about him all the time and want to be with him. I feel almost a high when we are together.\n\nBut it isn't going to work. He treats me like a doormat and I'm far more into him than he is into me. He wants to get married, but because I seriously doubt his feelings for me (he claims to be in love but his actions don't match his words), I think marriage would be a mistake. I'd feel lonely and resentful, I'm sure of it. We don't yet live together (even though he wants to), and even now I am competing with his games and phone for his attention. He doesn't treat me very well to be honest -- it's his show and I'm just along for the ride. I could be anyone -- he just doesn't want to be alone.\n\nI am a convenience for him and that's it I believe. I'm sure he cares for me, but in love? No way, I don't believe it. Just way too many things show me he is not \"in love\" with me.\n\nSo obviously I have to move on. He's had many relationships that have not worked out (I now can see why!), and I have only had 1 other serious relationship. He's a pro at moving on when relationships end. I on the other hand have no idea what to do. I'm depressed and scared. He has been the focus of my life for over a year (we were friends before we got together). I feel lost when I think about leaving.\n\nWhat can I do to move on without falling into a dark depression? I know I should start working out and seeing friends more. I'm just sick to my stomach at the thought of not seeing him. And thinking of him moving on and dating within weeks of us breaking up makes me despondent. :(", "summary": "Any tips on how to move on from a relationship that isn't right for you?"}
{"id": "t3_1enbwm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I (f18) tell my best friend (m19) that I love him?", "post": "Background info:\nWe've known each other since the beginning of this school year (9 months) and we automatically hit it off when we first met. We're extremely close in the best friend sense but we do flirt a lot and I do tell him nearly everyday that I love him in the romantic sense. He doesn't take me seriously though and thinks I'm joking.. I'm not. We're going to the same college this fall so it's not like we're getting split up at the end of the summer. As cheesy as this sounds he means so much to me and I really do believe he's perfect for me in so many ways. Our personalities are extremely similar and it's so great because he's like the male counterpart of me. But, he's trying to get with a mutual friend of ours and he talks to me about her sometimes if I ask. He's had feelings for me before and he's admitted that they've always been kind of lingering.", "summary": "I love my best friend of 9 months but don't know how/if I should tell him."}
{"id": "t3_15yj3w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you think the consequences of the irreparable and reparable damage that humans are doing?  Which future do you think will happen due to this: Total destruction of the planet or a massive reset?", "post": "To explain:\n\nWe all know that not everything that dies will turn into a fossil fuel or fossil or anything like that.  However some things do.  We also know that the Earth goes to transitions that are normal, some destructive, but through the destruction new branches of evolution come and in some cases go.  \n\nMy husband and I were talking about this yesterday after a debate on a Justice Files case (lol).  If the Earth was to have another huge 'change' would the damage we're doing to it prevent it from doing what needs to be done to ensure the future of the planet?  Have we damaged the Earth to the point where it wont be able to make it to the next level of evolution?\n\nAt any rate, the question simple is:", "summary": "What do you think the consequences of the irreparable and reparable damage that humans are doing?  Which future do you think will happen due to this: Total destruction of the planet or a massive reset?"}
{"id": "t3_1julcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/M] girlfriend [18/F] has withdrawn. What do I do?", "post": "We weren't good friends before we started dating, but we've known each other for a long time. Dating started a little over a year ago and I really enjoy the time we spend together. Communicating about our issues is something we've never had a problem with. I've been in a few relationships before and this is her first one. \n\nTwo weeks ago we both brought our issues to the table and had a long talk about what about the other person bothers us. Since then she's withdrawn from me almost entirely. Communication has been sparse and short. We had our first date since then yesterday and it went well. There was laughing and fun and she invited me to stay for dinner, but I could tell that she was still bothered.\n\nIn case you're wondering: My problem with her is that she is very inexpressive and hard to read, never asks me out, and almost never initiates any intimacy, but is willing to reciprocate when I ask her out or start intimacy. Her problem with me is that I focus more on the physical aspect of our relationship and haven't really gotten to know her. \n\nI've spent the past two weeks evaluating myself and our relationship and realize that I do need to change--not just for her but for myself as well. We've done a lot of bonding activities together, but I see how those can be overshadowed by the physicality. \n\nWe're going to have another talk tomorrow. Rather, I'm going to talk a lot and I hope she listens. I want to know how to approach this problem. How do I show her I am willing to change? How do I let her know that her behavior bothers me?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I had a talk two weeks ago and since then she's become withdrawn. Another talk is happening tomorrow and I want to show her I am willing to change, but I also have an unresolved issue that I want to bring up. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_306kv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help with unique breakup, (M/25) (F/22)", "post": "So just about a month ago my GF and I went on a break that has turned into a break up. It was about a 14 month relationship. It wasn't mutual at first, I went through all the stages, begging, denial, depression etc. I'm still back and forth between all the stages. \n\nHowever, I've been reading tons of advice from r/breakups. One thing clear to me is that we both love each other, care for each other, and hate that this happened. But after some long thoughts it had to be done. She made the right decision.\n\nI was(still am) unhappy with my job, was in sort of a depressive state, she was applying to grad schools and in a funk. The main point being though, is that we both turned into people we didn't know. We didn't even know ourselves. Our own stress had overtaken us and we dragged each other down. So far I've been trying to take this time to find a new position, take up new hobbies I didn't do before and just focus on myself.\n\nHas anyone experienced this? Is no contact advised? I want to stay on good terms, we dont hate each other. What do you do other than focusing on making yourself better?", "summary": "break was mutual, whats the etiquette for going forward?"}
{"id": "t3_50uygo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you casually ask if you're dating or not?", "post": "On mobile, sorry for formatting.\n\nSo me and this guy have been \"seeing each other\" for the past couple of weeks. Nothing sexual really has happened yet. But we talk all the time about how happy we are with each other. Only problem is, I'm not entirely sure if we are technically dating in his eyes or not. We agreed in the beginning to take it slow and I pretty much said to him that I didn't need a status between us because it's not gonna change how I feel about him. But last night shit went down and he said he was ready. So I'm not sure exactly what that meant. \n\nIs there a \"proper\" way of asking or is it something I should just let go for now until he says something?", "summary": "I'm not sure if I'm dating this guy or not and I'm wondering if and how I should find out."}
{"id": "t3_167rct", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, will you help me make a March Madness Tournament for charity?", "post": "For years, my dad would run the office pool for March Madness. Though it was a casual office activity with a low $5 or $10 buy-in, he would wake up every morning to listen to the radio to record the results and score each bracket by hand. There are websites that do all the work for you now, but he was a purist. This past tournament was his last bracket, as he passed away from cancer in April. I'd love to remember him by having a bracket tournament in his honor.\n\nMy idea is to have a $5 entry fee and have half the money go towards the prize pool and the other half go towards a cancer research charity (suggestions for which one is best would be appreciated, I was thinking JimmyV.org since he was a basketball coach). I wanted to host it with his at least former coworkers, but they work for a newspaper in Germany, so the number of potential participants is dwindling. It would be more lucrative if more people from around the world were involved. Where should I start? What should I do to host the brackets? Am I allowed to do this, or is it considered gambling? I'm sure I can find out a lot of this through research, but I trust the results of Reddit collaboration better. Please help me. Thanks Reddit!", "summary": "I want to host a massive public March Madness fundraiser with half the money going to cancer research and the other half up for grabs. Any suggestions/help would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_41sshh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Phentermine to counteract another bad drug?", "post": "In the past 2 years, I've slowly lost at least 25 pounds. This is due mostly to casual exercise at my own pace, with fits of serious exercising. I also ate less due to my positive mental state. However, I have a history of depression and tend to eat when it's upon me. I felt my old friend coming on for the first time in a while and decided to consult a doctor about medical help. I was prescribed the anti-d citalopram and assumed that because I eat less when happy, I would continue to lose weight on this medicine. Opposite! I gained 20 pounds in a month, and stopped taking it immediately after seeing the scale. I had two weeks of horrible anxiety and self loathing because of it and felt some nasty binge eating habits starting. I went back to the doctor with the intentions of getting diet pills to fix it- she tried to tell me diet and exercise but I'd been doing the long road and got fucked when I was over half way to the finish line. I cried and she prescribed me phentermine. I know the stories about brutal side effects, but I'm willing to take it. I'm already planning on how to keep it off after I'm done taking the pill. But I'd really appreciate advice on this. I've got metamucil to ward off hunger, and plenty of very low calorie canned food to eat sparingly. I'm going to do myself pretty rough for at least a couple of months after quitting the drug to prevent the backslide everyone seems to have. But at what point can I chill out and not count every calorie and try to keep it around 1000 a day? I'd been slowly losing weight almost naturally before, when can I relax and not be afraid of gaining it all back like lightening? Also, ANY mental tactics to beat cravings during that time would be awesome.. and just advice in general. Thanks!!", "summary": "was losing good weight slowly, took anti-d, gained 20 back, freaked out and got phentermine. Following phentermine with hardcore diet and constant observation. Need help getting through after phen period and when I am able to return to a more stable eating habit."}
{"id": "t3_2g3v0k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a beet salad before going partying", "post": "I live in Latvia, and we've got an amazing salad made from beets, sour cream, garlic and I have no idea what kind of amazing addition, that just makes it really tasty. However the combination does work as a real fart multiplier, as the more of this salad I eat the more (exponentially, of course) smellier my farts become. \n\nI was enjoying a nice dinner of pasta with meat balls along with this delicious fucker salad one day before going to the Old City to show around the Erasmus students the best bars and clubs. Little did I know (ok i kinda did but I don't give a fuck) alcohol in conjugation with this salad makes my stomach into the meanest gas maniac since a moustached man ruled Germany. And did I drink! 3 liters of beer later we all moved out to the nearest club. \n\nInside, shaking my butt with three ladies from France I soon felt a familiar feeling - a bull rushing through my insides. But the alcohol in my veins said - fuck it, Paravin, no one will feel a thing, keep strutting! So strut I did. \n\nAND FEEL THEY DID. \n\nImmediately the prim and proper Western Europeans whiffed a full nose of Northern European processed cuisine. Shock and terror filled their eyes. I knew what was up, immediately starting to grimace. After a few minutes they gave up acting and just continued dancing, not like lightning can strike the same place twice, can it?\n\nYes it can. After I went to the toilet and took a major shit, I soon felt another cowboy try his luck in my bowels. It slipped out just as quick like as my dick does from a condom when the girls says \"you can take that off\". And the girls dancing were soon fucked more than they could imagine. And they knew the culprit. They stared into my eyes and exclaimed:\" Paravin, que qous c'est !? (Pardon my french)\". \n\nI dropped all acting,  stared at them for a moment and then just smiled. \n\nAt the end of the night I went alone and had a burger. Shit was tasty.", "summary": "France came to Latvia, got Anne-Frankd"}
{"id": "t3_4rgvba", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I want to kill my roommate.", "post": "I know this may sound incredibly trivial since it's only a month, but I've been sharing a 3-person room with two other people (second week now) and I've been hating on this one roommate. I have genuinely thought to kill and I really don't want this. I've already tried to electrocute them by wetting her hairdryer so that when she uses it, it'd hopefully cause some damage (though this hasn't worked since I don't know how to do it properly). On the first day we got along mostly but the day after and onwards was horrible. It's been degrading and every encounter we have it's just left with harboured feelings of anger and hatred. What should I do? I try to ignore her but we literally share a room. She won't deal with her responsibilities and ignores me (she's a very exclusive person). I really don't want to be this way, and I hate the fact that I attempted to kill her (at least, to my knowledge at the time) without second thought. I really want out. What can I do other than telling my RA, parents, and friends? It's just been getting worse and worse and I really don't want to seem like a negative person by complaining to my RA every time I see her (as I have on multiple occasions). Please help me.", "summary": "I need advice on dealing with a very shitty roommate."}
{"id": "t3_3mpe2j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [22 F] of one year, I don't feel sexually attracted to.", "post": "I really like this girl. We were both virgins entering the relationship and I had never dated before. I didn't really know whether or not I was an attractive guy because I had not put myself out there, but I did have a vague feeling I was \"settling\" when entering the relationship. It didn't bother me, and I pushed that feeling away because I don't believe in \"leagues\" and that nonsense.\n\nAgain, I think I love this girl, she completes me in every way possible. Socially, academically, intellectually, and spiritually I'm a much happier and more complete person than I was before the relationship started.\n\nShe wanted to wait until marriage to have PIV sex but in the meantime we tried just about everything else imaginable: oral, anal, etc. I never had much trouble finishing, although for the most part I could only finish when she used her hands and went super fast. (Side note: sometimes but not always, in order to finish I would have to close my eyes and imagine I was with someone else. Fucked up I know, but it's probably a necessary detail.) Recently she decided we were close enough that she no longer needs to wait until marriage. Neither of us had used a condom in previous activities, and we struggled with that for a while. When I was finally able to stay hard long enough to get in her, I went soft almost immediately. This has happened numerous times by now.\n\nI'm not sure what's causing me to not be able to perform but it's really bothering me (she's been very supportive and says it's not a big deal - I should believe her but as a man it's hard to). Is it possible that I'm just too desensitized to use a condom? Or is the fact that I'm not too attracted to her going to prevent this from working forever...?\n\nThe thing is I don't have incredibly high standards by any means. I walk around and the vast majority of girls my age I see I'm physically attracted to. When I look at my girl I'm full of love and positive emotions, but none of that primal \"I wanna get in there\" that I feel with other women.", "summary": "love my girlfriend in every way except physically. can't fuck her. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2kxrz1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I Know You're Supposed to Ask Her Out Face to Face, But...", "post": "Sorry if this is in the wrong place.\n\nIts a pretty standard story. Guy likes girl, guy is pretty sure girl likes him they talk a little bit, neither makes any overt statements, guy fails to ask girl out for a while.\n\nLogically I know that I want to ask this girl out. I've looked up all sorts of things to help with social anxiety and they help a little, but not enough. I can start conversations with her sometimes and that's nice and all but the pressure always stops me from asking her out.\n\nThe caveat: I have her phone number, she has mine, and I could ask her out over text no problem. I probably would eventually work up the [whatever you think it takes to overcome social anxiety] to ask her out in person, but I'm afraid it will take a while, and for a variety of reasons I don't want to wait long.", "summary": "is it better to risk waiting a while to work up the courage to ask her out in person, or to just ask her out over text now? I'm in high school if that makes a difference."}
{"id": "t3_1hacms", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is asking someone out via text message acceptable? If so how should I do it?", "post": "I [17/M] want to ask out one of my coworkers [18/F], but I am having some trouble finding a time to talk to her privately. She lives pretty far away from me (about 25 minutes) and I don't want to do it in front of other employees, because if she says no I don't want everyone to know about it. Also, whenever we do hang out, her sister's always there. \n\nSo my question is... would it be okay for me to ask her out through a text message? If it is okay, how should I go about doing it? We already text each other pretty often, and I've known her for over a year.", "summary": "Can't find a time to ask a girl out, would texting be okay?"}
{"id": "t3_1w6793", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I haaaate feminism. I'm female.", "post": "I'm utterly in a throw-my-keyboard tear-my-hair moment about feminism/feminists. And, while I'm at it, I'll include the whoooole shebang of social justice and the lot of it. I used to consider myself a feminist. I used to be totally up in arms with all the causes. But really, I cannot stand that shit anymore. These people do not think. They're just ideological. That's ALL. In my opinion. That's it, and that's all. They are so self-righteous about wanting to change the world into their vision. But honestly?? I value free thinking and speech just as much as I value regarding myself as equal to men. I don't think that feminism is that good for men either, by the way. I feel like they lose out in it. I feel like that should be a subject for debate. Yeah, yeah, I know, men's rights--that's my next stop for my cool down time. \n\nBut yeah, you know, I just feel like, feminists are nothing but a team of lawyers on retention for their clients, and feminism is just the courtroom charade. It's long past being something of a struggle for equality and a noble cause that I'd participate in. Nope, it is way to weak and unethical for me to participate in as a human being with dignity, I don't care if I'm a woman. I'm responsible for my actions when I'm drinking just like a dude is, and if I do something I regret, then yep I bet I sure do regret it. But I'm not gonna pull some weak ankle moral pedestal trick about it. \n\nI really would have never known women were so weak and characterless before encountering the evidence enough in feminism. So, thanks feminism. I have been taught a lot actually. Not about being a strong person though and asserting my equality with males. Criticizing males? Yeah, and I'm keeping a lot of that in my pocket. But viewing females as strong and responsible public participants? No I actually didn't find that. I hate feminism.", "summary": "I hate feminism and needed to rant"}
{"id": "t3_czmrm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what should I do about my lazy land lord?", "post": "Basically, my refrigerator broke\u2026 more than a month ago. I told my landlord immediately after it happened and he said he would send a repairman to look at it. I had to leave for 2 weeks but my roommate (who is can be pretty lazy himself) was home the entire time. Nobody came to look at during that period and my roommate never followed up with the landlord (which was his fault). I got back and talked to the landlord again and he was surprised that the repairman didn't come and said he would take care of it. Finally, after another week and another discussion with the landlord, the repairman came said the refrigerator was broken and we would need a new one. Long story short, our landlord has now told us he is going to buy a new fridge as soon as possible, but it has been a week and half since then and still no fridge. I'm going to talk to talk to him today (in angry tone \"grrrr\") but I want to know what contractual rights I have as per our lease or some renters legislation, so I can light a fire under his ass. It has been a month since I have had a cold beer...what has the world come to?", "summary": "My fridge broke in my apartment a month ago and the landlord hasn't repaired it after numerous discussions\u2026.I JUST WANT A COLD BEER! What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_kego4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[xpost from r/legaladvice] Canadian Legal Advice concerning my landlord and the house I acquired 13 days ago", "post": "So we moved into the house, 4 of us, and the place was not cleaned at all. The landlord said he was going to hire a maid to come clean it. The fridge was in terrible condition, and I didn't open it until the day the maids came (the 11th), and it was head to toe filled with black mould. The maids cleaned most of it but said it was probably going to come back. I am now suffering from toxic black mould sickness and taking medication and want to know where can I go from here. Is the landlord liable? Should I bother meeting with a lawyer before/after talking to the landlord? Can I possibly get out of the lease?\n\nAny information would be helpful, thank you to anyone who attempts to help, I just don't want to waste my time with a lawyer if there is no point. I am also quite the pushover and the landlord is a pretty sleezy big guy, so I want to make sure I have the law on my side.", "summary": "Diagnosed with toxic black mould sickness after moving into new house, wondering if I can get out of the lease."}
{"id": "t3_19z3dk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Recently laid off and unsure about the future.", "post": "I'm going to write this mostly to get it off my chest but some advice would be truly appreciated.\n\nI was laid off from my job a month ago and I'm excited/nervous about what my next step will be. I currently have a small online t-shirt company which I donate $5 to charity from each shirt I sell. I've had a little bit of success so far but I'm not sure if it can grow into something that can be my main source of income.\n\nI have a bachelors degree in Business Management with a minor in Psychology. I've always been interested in psychology, specifically helping people through counseling. The problem with this is the cost of getting my masters or Phd in psychology is very expensive and the pay for a social worker or psychologist is not very good at all.\n\nI'm also certified to teach yoga, a passion that I've discovered within the past year.\n\nI'm just at a point where I'm quickly getting more and more anxious about being home and not working. I work on my t-shirts but still feel this anxious feeling. I think it's mostly because\nI'm alone all day and I like having people around.", "summary": "Laid off and anxious/confused about the future."}
{"id": "t3_133bdb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How long/What can I say to friend after drunk hook up?  I'm a bit confused (21m/21f)", "post": "Hi everyone, I just ended up making out and cuddling with a friend at a party the other night.  Things got rather kinky.  The next day though, we hung out with some friends and everything seemed different.  She was acting a little more friendly/touchy and playful than she has before around me.  \n\nI know we both remembered what happened, but we never brought it up.\n\nI really enjoyed our time together, and would love to hang again- but I have no idea how long I should wait to text her or what to say at this point apart from something like \"hey, looking back I actually really had a nice time the other night, hope everything's been well and you did too\"", "summary": "Friend and I made out and cuddled drunk.  I liked spending time with her and want to ask her out, but I've never been in this situation before and I'm lost :("}
{"id": "t3_1ywoaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my partner [24 F] of 2 years - still never had full sex due to medical issues. NSFW language maybe", "post": "I really love the girl so I don't want to ruin anything but sometimes the situation frustrates me - it's been two years and we still haven't had full sex (me coming in her).\n\nMost of it is due to her recently diagnosed medical conditions: We can't use condoms because if they break she can't get the morning after pill due to the drugs she's on, she can't have the implant or the pill for the same reason nor the IUS because it releases progestrogen and she has a family history of breast cancer, nor the IUD because she is worried about increasing frequency/intensity of periods. She has a lower libido because of the drugs and she can't always go for very long because she gets out of breath/dizzy.. \n\nOh and she can't give head because of a sore neck!  \n\nI feel like a horrible person for complaining because it isn't her fault and some of it can't be helped but if anyone has any advise or know anything else we can do I'd be v grateful.", "summary": "most contraceptive methods won't work so I can't come in my gf when we have sex what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2wy6xf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [33 M] 3 years, I need to have a serious talk that may end in me breaking up with him", "post": "I do love him. He's a great person. He does a lot of good things for me. But I'm really starting to think about the future and whether he has a place in it.\n\nI need to have a talk about marriage and kids with him. In our first year, he talked about marriage all the time. He very seriously pursued me. He even talked about eloping at one point (though never technically asked me to marry him). \n\nWe've lived together for the past two years. Our lease is up at the end of May and I don't want to sign another if this isn't going anywhere.\n\n1. Kids - we were, at first, indifferent. Not saying no, necessarily, but it wasn't a big motivation. I have since changed my vote to \"yes\". We've discussed this and he went from yes, to indifferent again, to no. I just don't know his real opinion since he's changed his mind every time.\n\n2. Marriage - he still hasn't proposed and, frankly, I'm running out of patience. I want a proposal to happen naturally and don't want to pressure something important. But it's getting ridiculous. He talked about it all the time at first and now not a peep in almost a year. Piss or get off the pot, dude.\n\n3. Money - I'm a saver. He's a spender. I've been working very hard to repair my credit and meanwhile he doesn't make any effort to repair his. He says he needs to make more money but he still satisfies his video game habit without fail.\n\nI need advice because I really don't know how to have this talk. Since we live together, I don't know if I want to do it soon since we'll have to figure out where to live and what to do, and I don't want to wait too late either. Has anyone been in this situation? If he doesn't give me the answers I need I will break up with him at that time. I don't want to prolong it once I have the information I want.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "Need to have the big talk with the BF that will determine if I stay with him or not. Advice encouraged!"}
{"id": "t3_szw76", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My longtime cat is now a nightmare, she has peed on everything and my family has left it to me to take care of this problem. How should I go about this?", "post": "I rescued this cat off the street seven years ago and begged my parents to save her. Which is why I'm responsible for my cat and will have to decide what to do about her excessive peeing problem. The thing is, she's an outdoor-indoor cat so she has never before peed in our house until recently. She has always done her business somewhere down the street from us. \n\nYesterday she peed in my sister's purse, in her bed, and on a bunch of her clothes. She jumped on the kitchen counter and peed on my nephew's baby bottles. She peed on all the towels my parents use and in their shower. She peed in all of our showers. ***That's not the worst part!*** My sister didn't realize the cat peed on her shirts (it had dried by then) and wore one of them to work. And my mother didn't know the cat peed on the towel she had used to dry herself after taking a shower - that was until she saw the kitchen and figured out the strange smell of her towel was, in fact, pee. Everyone in the house wants that cat put down.\n\nI would be the one to have to put her down and I don't want to do it. My cat is mean, she is annoying, and has ruined every couch and dining room chair we have had. Yet I don't want to put her down because in the past two months I've had four of my dogs pass away (from old age) and another one is on the way. \n\nI set up a cat litter box for now but what else can I do? Should I have her checked by the vet? (it's about $160..and $400 if they run blood tests) I've never had to euthanize a pet before but it seems so..wrong I guess to do it because of a peeing situation.", "summary": "My childhood cat is now a nightmare, she has peed on everything. How should I go about fixing this? Is it even possible to train an old outdoor cat to now use a litter box?"}
{"id": "t3_17w4t0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/F] my SO [22/M] says he doesn't think he will ever fall in love with me. Help?", "post": "My SO and I have been dating for four months. I've been emotionally invested in our relationship for seven months, so needless to say, I'm on a deeper level than he is. He is a fantastic guy - very caring, very sweet, always fun for me to be around. I care about him deeply (although I'm not sure if I would call it love. It's probably something very, very close). Anyway, after a round of awesome sex last night, we had a discussion on whether or not we would get past the \"I like you,\" level to the \"I love you,\" level. His response was \"Probably not.\" He admits that I'm a good girlfriend, the best he's ever had, but that he doesn't feel those romantic feelings.\n\nWhile I'm sure those feelings could or could not develop, I don't want to get my hopes up about a miracle happening.\n\nWhat I've decided is that I care about my SO, we have fun together, and he says that he still has intense feelings for me, just not that intense. I'm moving to a big city in August, and I had planned on staying with my SO until that time and THEN deciding what to do. Since that decision has pretty much been made for me (if he can't fall for me, we won't stay together) I need some advice on how to make my relationship more casual.\n\nI don't mean sleeping around or being in an open relationship, I mean, are any of you in a casual relationship that you don't necessarily see going anywhere? How do you maintain the feeling of being in a relationship without falling any further emotionally? I just need a way to scale back my girlfriendly duties so that I can save my heart a little bit of trouble by not getting any deeper.", "summary": "my boyfriend doesn't think he'll ever fall in love with me, but we still have mutual feelings for each other. How do I have a casual relationship with him that won't let me fall any deeper than I already am?"}
{"id": "t3_1a3yt2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] need some advice on dealing with a [17/f].", "post": "So I just closed with a girl on facebook. We talked for like 2 hours and it was fun, and I just forgot to ask her how old she is (since her FB doesn't show that). After this long time i finally remembered I had to ask this question and she said shes 17. The so called \"legal\" age here is 18. She didn't sound like a childish annoying teenage girl during the conversation at all(probably thats why I forgot to ask her). Now the question I'm asking myself is: Is she too young for me? Am I too old for her?", "summary": "I'm 21, she's 17. Don't know if I should go out with her."}
{"id": "t3_2zr7nn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being crunk for my sisters birthday at Six Flags", "post": "Well I'm actually the sister telling the story but anyways. For my birthday, I decided to go to Six Flags. My brother inclined that I should take some drugs before we go. I declined due to the fact that my older sister would be there and she would fuck my shit up if she found out. So my brother takes shrooms, smokes weed, acid, and drinks booze before we go. My brother either has a high tolerance or is just weird for acting pretty normal in public, so that wasn't the issue. The problem was he had his pipe in his pocket and we were on superman when it fell out. I heard something fall but thought nothing of it till he gave me that fuuuuuuuuuuuuck look. That is when an employee picked up the piece and I knew instantly it was his but they hadn't said anything so the ride continued on. After the ride finished, nothing happened. We had to wait for my sister but right as she was coming so did security which then escorted my brother out. My brother is an idiot but he apologized profusely and felt bad he ruined my day. He didn't ruin it, he made my day better with his dumb actions. And no they did not give back the pipe. I wish they did.. I loved that pipe :(", "summary": "Family went to Six Flags. Brother brought beautiful, marijuana pipe which fell on to the dirty ground of superman. He got kicked out. My sister flipped her shit at him."}
{"id": "t3_2cgcr5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making coffee.", "post": "It's 2:38PM as I type this. This event took place 3 minutes ago.\n\nSo, I slept in. I've been sleeping at 6AM and waking up at around 2PM every day now for the last couple of weeks. Can't seem to get out of it. I got up and did my morning routine which includes getting out of bed, turning on my computer, and making my coffee.\n\nI get my cup ready- I grab a total of 5 Equal packets of sugar and throw them into the cup first, then the coffee. Right after that, I'm supposed to pour some half&half to complete the process. You can also consider this my coffee recipe.\n\nAs I pour my cup of coffee, I hear something. \"Is that?\" \"No WAY\".\nI hear loud moaning come from my parents' bedroom.\n\nMy reaction was to get the hell outta there. I grab my cup, \"fuck the half&half\", and I run to my room like it never happened.\n\nAs I type this, I look at my incomplete coffee and hope to complete it some time.", "summary": "I wanted coffee but I just couldn't have it. I just couldn't!"}
{"id": "t3_4rkjke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to end a toxic friendship between me (25/F) and former best friend (24/F)", "post": "My former best friend I'll call her Jenny used to hang out with me all the time. We always got dinner together at least once a week and she was really close to my parents as well. Lately I've noticed since she got another new bf (she's had a string) that she's stopped responding to any texts I've sent her or trying to hang out. It seems her only focus is on said boy. \n\n[break] However, she will come back into my life if the boy breaks up with her for comfort and then will go away again as soon as she finds someone else. She's done this before and admittedly it was my fault for letting her do it, but I'm just sick of being used whenever she needs comfort from being dumped. Do you guys have any suggestions how to end this toxic friendship?", "summary": "My friend only wants to hang out when she's dumped and not when she has a bf and I'm sick of it."}
{"id": "t3_k6c16", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need advice: I want to be in a relationship, but she wants to be single after getting out of last relationship", "post": "Hey Reddit, would really appreciate some advice on my situation.\n \nThe facts: \n-I (M21) have known a girl (20) for just over a year and liked her the whole time.\n\n-She was in a relationship from when I met her until just recently.\n\n-We have started talking more this semester (we attend the same college and are in the same major) and she has been pretty flirty as far as I can tell.\n\n-She would casually mention she was single, that her roommate was never there and she was lonely and I should hang out with her.\n\n-Eventually worked up the courage to ask her out (I'm very shy) and we went on a lunch date over the weekend.\n\n-We talked after, and she mentioned that she had only been single a week (I thought she had been for about a month), which raised some red flags (I was the rebound guy in my only other significant relationship).\n\n-Then told her how I felt and that I didn't want to be her rebound guy, and asked how she felt etc.\n\n-She replied that she wanted to be single after being in LTRs several times and that she wanted to be just friends. Also said she wanted \"just fun\". I'm not sure what that means.\n\nSo, Reddit, what should my mindset be and what should I expect going into the next few weeks? On one hand, this girl and I have a somewhat ridiculous amount of things in common and I think we could be great together, but on the other hand I don't want to be a rebound guy for her or be led around until she finds someone else as has happened to me in the past.\n\nAny advice would be great!", "summary": "Girl I've liked for a year got out of a relationship a week ago and acted pretty flirty, but when confronted said she wants to be single and have fun and just be friends."}
{"id": "t3_21kshy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19f) girlfriend (18f) is depressed and I feel neglected", "post": "So I'm in a long distance relationship, although if the gods are good she'll be moving in with me in June. She has depression and anxiety. As a result, she doesn't really do anything nice for me. I write her love letters, send her pictures, send her care packages, ask her on skype dates, that sort of stuff. She never does any of that stuff for me. And she's almost never horny, and when she is she doesn't want to do anything with me because its too much work for her and she just wants to enjoy herself while it lasts. I'm a really sensitive person, and I need love and affection. I try to be tough but lately I've been feel too neglected to keep my tongue, so I brought it up with her. She got upset and said she thought of our relationship as more of a \"really tight friendship\" but she would try and be more affectionate and stuff for me. Then she said she was getting overwhelmed, which basically ended the conversation. Nothing's changed (it was about a week ago), and I feel like I need to bring it up again, but I'm worried about upsetting her again. We both love each other and we want to make this work. I just don't know what to do. I'm worried we'll still have this problem when we're together. Any advice?", "summary": "my gf is depressed and I feel neglected and I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1yafac", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Working in the service industry, what's the funniest or most awkward thing a customer has said to you?", "post": "Working in the beauty industry, there are a lot of products that are difficult to pronounce, either because of ingredients or it's in a foreign language. In this instance, the customer was looking for Juicy Couture fragrances.\n\nSo this guy comes strolling in, probably in his 40's, rugged looking with long, stringy, blonde hair under a cowboy hat. Cut off metal shirt, tucked into his dirty jeans that looked like he'd been working outdoors all day. He looks up at my coworker under his hat, and speaks with a heavy redneck accent, \"Ya'll got any a that juicy cooter?\" \n\nThis crosses my mind now every time someone comes in looking for Juicy couture.", "summary": "Redneck fellow looking for some juicy cooter in the beauty department."}
{"id": "t3_2izopo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving like a teenage idiot", "post": "So, this happened over ten years ago, but I remember it from time to time and still cringe at the thought.  I was in high school drama club and we had just done our last performance of whatever obscure play we did. As was tradition, we tore down the set and went to someone's house for the cast party.  It was pretty uneventful.  \n\nI was one of the few with a car, (a badass '97 Mercury Sable with a \"Choose Life\" plate) so I was the ride for a few people afterwards.  One of them happened to be my ex, who I was desperately trying to get back. I felt bad for her for most of the night since earlier that day she had to have her cat put down, so I thought the best remedy would be to be exciting and risky to take her mind off of it.  \n\nMy car had four passengers in it, I think she was in the front seat.  We were almost to the first person's house and I decided to speed up.  I was flying, 70mph on an unlit residential street.  Suddenly I saw something in the middle of the road and heard a gasp.  Two little reflective dots inches above the ground.  For a split second, I silently prayed it was a possum or raccoon.  I realized it was a cat.  There was no chance to swerve or stop, as it would have endangered (even more so than 70 in a residential) my passengers.  My mind raced and decided that the best chance was to go straight over the crouched animal and hope it didn't stand up.  \n\nI'll never forget the sound, feeling, or shame of that \"thunk.\"   \n\nThe rest of the night I drove the speed limit.  I tried to comfort my ex, but given that I just became a cat murderer, it was a fruitless effort.  After I dropped everyone off, I went back to the scene of the crime to dispose of the body so its owner wouldn't have to see it.", "summary": "Drove like an ass and ran over a cat while my crush was a passenger."}
{"id": "t3_3udo92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend[29f] and I[30m] have different political views, I love her but I see her fucking up our children if we have any, and destroying my family's business", "post": "I know reddit has its political biases so for the sake of it I don't want to mention our views to introduce that bias into it. \n\nTo sum up the basic things my girlfriend and I have been together for 2 \u00bd years. Our relationship in a lot of ways is great, we are a happy couple. Politics has always been a point of contention, in our relationship. However for the most part we made a rule that we would avoid the argument, if anyone brought it up the other person would ignore it. \n\nHowever, now I don't think those differences can really last any longer, if we were to become one familial unit. My girlfriend grew up in an upper middle class environment, while I grew up in a poor area.My parents were immigrants and made their fortune here. My dad worked as a RN, while working on small businesses, for a lot of it things were really tough, my parents got burned plenty of times. My dad was shot twice in the chest. However, things are good now, and we have a good family business that he plans on passing down to me, right now I manage the online sales while working my own job. \n\nThe thing is, my girlfriend has no respect for my family's business. To her she thinks of my dad as a stingy business man. She doesn't think he earned it that it is \"the community's business\" and that he should give more to his employees, and that we should hire more people because we have the money to, as in hiring people for no reason. \n\n In general if she was to run it I truly think she would destroy it. And there are a ton of other things that I just don't agree with. Such as, if we were to have a son for example, she wants to get him dresses so we aren't enforcing gender roles on him. Another big one is that she wants to send our kids to a city school, she thinks that it will be good since they can experience diversity. I completely disagree with this, as a guy that went to city schools it was a shitty experience and I would not want my children to go through that.", "summary": "girlfriend and I have different political views worried about how that will lead to raising a family later down the road."}
{"id": "t3_2gusbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my bf [30 M] 1yr, he doesn't know what he wants", "post": "He doesn't know if I'm the one. Not the issue. He doesn't know if his ex is the one. An issue. He says I'm perfect, but he doesn't know if we fit based on previous space issues. I'm hesitant to divulge the dramatic details yet. \n\nIs there a point of no return, when someone should know they want to be serious? When they know they don't want anyone else? Not marriage but commitment. Is there a period of time it's no longer reasonable to not be in love? Has anyone heard \"I don't know\" when it came to their relationship future, and how did it then out?", "summary": "he has doubts, I don't, not ready to give details, please share your experiences"}
{"id": "t3_2dfq5q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending my sister an SOS text", "post": "Some background, I recently upgraded from the Galaxy S4 to the S5, which has this cool emergency feature when you press the lock button three times. You set up who you want the texts to go out to, it gives out your coordinates, a front facing picture, a rear facing picture, and sound of what was going on when you pressed the button. I decided it was a good idea to add my boyfriend and sister, just in case! \n\nSo, for our anniversary, my boyfriend rented us a room on the beach. We were about to start some sexy time when I decided I wanted some background music. I pull up spotify, lock the phone, and put it on the nightstand. The music stops and there's a new notification. \"EMERGENCY DECLARED\". *ooohhh no....*. Knowing that it takes pictures, I quickly try to get it away from my boyfriends junk, and away from me. I saved his dignity, but it was too late for me. A picture of my nipples in fishnet lingerie was sent to my sister, along with whatever sound was going on. I called her, and no answer, I texted her to ignore that SOS. \n\nNeedless to say, the moment was ruined. Everytime we tried to get back into it, we would laugh, so we just sat back and watched shark week. All in all, it was a good trip!", "summary": "put music for sexy time, sent SOS text to my sister that included picture of my nips. Night ended with watching Shark Week."}
{"id": "t3_3g0ayc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am in love with the feeling of someone falling in love with me and it's shitty", "post": "Cutting straight to the point, I am probably the worst person because what I do damages both me and is a lie to the girl. In the past I've had a series of girlfriends that I haven't particularly loved. I always thought that my problem was that being a nerdy guy, I just liked having someone show interest in me. But I realise now that it's somehow worse -- I court that feeling, when you realise that the person is drawing down their barriers, letting you in, and really falling in love with you. You never know someone until they fall in love with you.\n\nWhere does this leave me? I can label myself as an asshole, or at the very least as someone who really shouldn't be going out with people until I can sort this out now that I'm aware of it. So I'm not interested in hearing how I'm an asshole. Where else does it leave me? It leaves me in long term relationships with lovely girls, but I have no idea what it's like to properly love someone of my own accord. Or perhaps I should say to love someone on their own accord. So it doesn't exactly leave me in a good spot either.\n\nDoes anyone have any insight? Why I might be like this, what I can do. Every girl I've been with has absolutely loved me, and I have been a very good boyfriend because that's what I love to do, so it's not like the relationships are any different for this. I just don't always get the person that I'm looking for, because I 'settle' when there is a girl falling in love with me? I don't know. Any thoughts?", "summary": "I go through life trying to make girls love me because that makes me feel incredible. What I want to do is find someone that I love, and then try to make them love me back. Any thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_k19ig", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I can feel magnetic north, anyone out there that can do the same? And how/why do you think?", "post": "Hey reddit, so this may sound weird to some people, but I can feel magnetic pull, like magnetic north. It's like this: if I stop and relax, I can feel tension in my neck pointing me strongly in a direction until I can 'dowse' for an orientation where the tension is gone. For a short time, I thought it was just how I slept causing tension in my neck muscles (and a couple times it has been) but it's regardless of the orientation of my body. Once I find that sweet spot, I can turn my body left or right and my head still wants to point the one direction. As I mentioned it generally points me to magnetic north (tested with a compass). However, if anything large and metallic is nearby, like say my car, my 'sense' will point me toward that instead. Once I move say not even fifteen feet away from the car it will point back towards north. \nI've been testing around with it lately, and it works with my hand when I wave it in front of my face I can track it (\"duh\" you might say, it's my own hand). Also while testing this out I found a spot in my driveway where I can follow it down to a point. Now I imagine it's just a pipe underground, not all too anxious to dig up my driveway to find out. Wilson, from Home Improvement once told Tim that men have a greater sense of direction because they have a lot more iron in their nose that acts as a compass or some such like that. I wonder if it's something like that?", "summary": "I can feel where magnetic north and/or nearby metal just by feeling."}
{"id": "t3_3apfuq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 F] Broke up with me [25 M] after approx 1.5years, doesn't love me anymore", "post": "Hi I'll try and keep this short.\n\nShe had some doubts setting in a couple a months ago but instead of talking with me buried her feelings because she didn't want to hurt or nag me - she then grew distant which caused me to be a bit needy (I know, I know!).\n\nI want it to work but she has said \"If I really loved you I shouldn't need to think about it\" - but she's also said that she was in love with me before. I want us to go no contact for a while and slowly build back to what we had if possible. The difficulty is we are going to a festival together for 5 days now and can't really do anything about that!\n\nI gave her a letter describing my feelings yesterday and now we have to kind of set this aside and try and enjoy ourselves and each others company.\n\nAny advice? I guess I want to try and act normal / friend-ish and not be asking her about her feelings or smothering her.", "summary": "GF broke up with me, doesn't love me anymore not sure exactly why, can't go no contact yet. Help me not make it worse while we are around each other!"}
{"id": "t3_euejy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, am I depressed?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI've been going through some weird stuff lately and I'm not really sure what to do. So here I am on reddit!\n\n####Backstory####\n\nA few years ago I moved to another country for work. I packed up all my things, uprooted my life and left. 8 months later, my father died. I don't really want to discuss the details, but it was extremely shocking and unexpected for myself and the family. I've got a small family, and we're not close at all. I returned home to bury him, and soon resumed working. In time, I discovered the job I left for wasn't really a great job after all, everything looked great on paper but it slowly turned into a nightmare. I don't enjoy the work any more, my peers are fantastic but management is ridiculous. I feel physically ill as I approach the building to start my day.\n\n####Presently####\n\nI do not feel motivated to socialize, improve myself, or seek out fun things to do. The things I used to love, I don't love any more. I don't feel excitement, desire, or passion like I used to. Everything is a chore, from brushing my teeth to picking receipts off the floor. And as much as I love women, companionship, and being in a relationship, I have zero drive to pursue or engage in anything of that sort. Most of my time is spent alone, on reddit (but it's awesome!), reading books, or netflixing the night away. \n\n####Considerations####\n\nI know a lot of other people have far worse problems. I read a lot, and juxtaposed with the insane stuff coming out of wikileaks, my problems seem excessively trivial, in many regards they are. But I can't use that, I can't put my problems on a gradient chart and plot exactly why I shouldn't pity myself. The relative misery mechanism is broken. \n\n####Thusly, and", "summary": "####"}
{"id": "t3_3puf88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [23M] are spending Thanksgiving with his parents and I'm meeting them for the first time! What are the do's and don'ts?", "post": "Hi r/relationships! \n\nSo for the first time ever I will be spending a holiday with a boyfriends family! This is the first boyfriend where I will actually meet his parents and be around them for quite awhile, five days to be exact. My ex's parents I met in a more relaxed setting; we talked for a bit but I never really got to see them much. \n\nCan I get some advice for some things I should/shouldn't do while staying at their house? (I know this sounds kind of dumb considering most 'advice' is probably common sense but I really want to make an impression on his family as I believe this guy and I are gonna be together for quite a while!)", "summary": "Spending thanksgiving with bf's parents, how do I adult!?"}
{"id": "t3_26b3qg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by squirting expired fish oil all over my face.", "post": "So I found a bottle of fish oil supplements...\n\nI was curious as to what they were because I had never seen them in the form they came in.  They were in little oil filled pearls that are incredibly fun to try and fuck with.  I'm a sucker for anything that is squishy like Laundry detergent packs.\n\nSo naturally, I tried to pop it.  BAD. FUCKING. IDEA.\n\nI finally get it to pop and a little jet of oil shoots out.  On my face.\n\nThe smell hits me like a truck.  This overwhelming fishy odor, like someone left a halibut out to dry in the sun and forgot about it.  Immediately, I can feel the smell bringing on nausea.  I run to the toilet, but to no avail.  I throw up right outside the bathroom doorway.  \n\nI had just come back home from dinner so there was quite a lot to vomit.  I tried to inch closer to the porcelain refuge of the toilet, but the force with which my body is spewing vomit makes it hard for me to make it.  \n\nI slump over on my bathroom floor covered in vomit and fish oil.  By this point, the smell has triggered an extremely painful migraine.  \n\nMy only course of action was to clean myself and then the house.  \n\nI hop in the shower and desperately try to wash the stink off my face, but it is no use.  It's seeped in.  I literally cannot rid the fish smell with any amount of soap and water.  It's like I was sprayed by a skunk.  A really fishy skunk.\n\nSo I re-dressed myself and cleaned the trail of vomit off the floor.  The spray pattern of my spew spread across the floor like a freshly wet crime scene.  Slippery.  Noxious.  Ugh.  It still makes me sick to remember the smell.", "summary": "I popped a fish oil pearl on my face.  It made me vomit like that chick from The Exorcist."}
{"id": "t3_25ssya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend 28M is making me 20F between work or him.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We met at work and have been together ever since. Up until recently things were fantastic  for the first while. We had lots of fun, enjoyed our time together and were a very loving couple.\n\n The past month things have been falling apart. Sex is almost nonexistent. In the whole time we've been together he's never said I love you and never implied it. We almost never see each other outside of work. He never communicates. Yet when I've asked him if he wants to be together he looks at me like I'm crazy for even asking and tells me of course he wants to be with me. It's been so frustrating. \n\nThen two days ago at work he barely acknowledged my presence there. No talking, no eye contact. After work I went up to him before he left and asked him if I did something wrong. He said no but blew me off and left. I was hurt. Then last night he texted me saying that he's done with the work relationship and this it's up to me to decide between either fixing our relationship and moving to a different company or breaking up. I love my job and would never dream of leaving it but I love him too. \n\nI must sound like an idiot, but I hurt and am not thinking clearly right now. I know what I should probably do, but I just need some advice and perspective.", "summary": "My boyfriend wants me to chose between him or the job I love."}
{"id": "t3_tncst", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone here work with a phone company?", "post": "My phone recently stopped working, so I took it down to the shop, and they tried to fix it, but they couldn't, so they just said they'd mail me a replacement of the same model. I received it in a bout a week, and booted it up. I had that phone for about a week, and the graphics stated messing up big time, and the screen would freeze often. When I took it back to the store, they said they thought they could fix it, and told me to come back an hour later. I did, and they handed me my phone. I turned it on, and within ten seconds, it was obvious that it was still doing the same thing. (Also, do the stores not test the phones when they \"fix\" them?) They again said they would send me one. I got it in two days. I was pretty impressed. Until I opened it. My model has a slide out keyboard. But this one wouldn't open at all (again, do they not test them? It literally took ten seconds for me to realize that both phones were broken) When I took it into the store, I asked if I could just have it replaced for a new model. It costed me 7 dollars for my two replacements, so I figured that they wouldn't care. They said no. Why can't companies do this if they aren't losing money?", "summary": "When phones break, why can't the company replace the phone with a different model?"}
{"id": "t3_4rmlun", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my girlfriend [23F] of 4+ years have slowly been having less open communication. Who is being unreasonable? Other opinions?", "post": "We began dating right after 1st year Uni, dated 1 year then broke up for 6 months over differences in expectations for how long our dating would continue before marriage.\nI lean toward a shorter dating preference (1.5-3yrs) by which point I feel I would have decided on way or the other. She feels more that every other aspect of her life (career, school, family, financials...) must be perfectly in place to accommodate marriage regardless of how long that takes. \n\nAfter getting back together and being more clear that I would be willing to date happily until she felt her life was in order if she was considerate of me not wanting to date just to hold off marriage. and things have been going relatively well since then (3+ years since). We have travelled together, spent family holidays together and always been in open communication about our motivations, opinions, aspirations and disagreements. We have not lived together.\n\nSince 1-2 months ago we have been slowly having more and more difficulty with our depth/frequency of conversation and it is making her very uncertain about our relationships future and how much I care for her.\nI am someone who is very easygoing, patient, I feel loved by just spending quality time (out of the house especially) together a few times per week and doing random acts of kindness. I would only expect to have a thought provoking and deep conversation with my closest friends and family perhaps 1 time per month, and somewhat more with my SO.\nShe is someone who is very critical thinking, loves hugs and being complimented, and is always excited to just sit and talk about anything that comes to mind for a long time as long as the conversation is stimulating.\n\nIt does not, to me, feel like we've been having fewer conversations but she tells me I have been less ready to participate actively and less giving of my time for such conversations. I feel that such an intense level of conversation just isn't sustainable, she feels it's necessary. We plan to attend couples counselling this month for the first time.\n\nIs this normal? Is it a real problem or is one of us being unreasonable? Can anyone relate? I really do love her and want this to work.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have developed different ideas about what a healthy amount of conversation is and what a deep conversation involves. "}
{"id": "t3_esdsp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have court date in a couple weeks to determine if I am going to be found in contempt of court for failure to pay a debt.  What should I do?", "post": "So about 4 years ago I got a credit card when I was a sophomore in college.  I was an idiot, as many 19 year olds are and went over my $500 limit, incurred a ton of fees and charges and did not pay.  They called me every day for a few months.  The sound of my ringtone eventually drove me insane because Capital One was the only one who ever called me...\n\nAnyhow, a year or so after that and I hadn't heard anything when I get a call in the late evening out of the blue.  It was a debt collector and I sort of brush them off.  Another year or so goes by and I eventually get a letter in the mail, telling me to go to court.  I do, and get a judgement against me and a follow up hearing, which I miss.  A few months ago, I got another letter offering me a reduced rate on my debt, and I ignored it.  One month ago I get mail from the sheriff about this contempt hearing.  \n\nI'm pretty nervous, to the point of panic attacks.  I've never even gotten a speeding ticket.  Unfortunately I just can't do anything right when it comes to money.  I'm ashamed that I have been totally unable to pay this debt for the past few years.  I don't spend money on things I don't need, but I have very little income as it is.", "summary": "I am retarded with money and being taken to court over a debt."}
{"id": "t3_3qbg31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my Girlfriend [23F] She kissed another girl drunk Saturday night.", "post": "Saturday night my girlfriend and i went out to a college bar with my sister and her roommates/friends from college. we got very...very drunk before heading out to this bar. when we got there everyone was having a good time drinking and dancing. im dancing with my girlfriend and my sisters friend from school was dancing next to us (weve met my sisters friend a few times and my girlfriend gets along well with all of them). all of a sudden i look up and my girlfriend gave here a quick kiss and started dancing and then she came back to me and we started kissing and dancing again. \n\nWeve been dating for over a year, and theres no indication that shes bi or anything. Im kind of viewing it as a quick fun thing she did because of the amount of alcohol everyone consumed. I really dont think it bugs me but then when i think about it, it kind of makes me wonder, because she goes out a lot with her friends.\n\nIm not even sure if my girlfriend remembers doing it. Should i bring it up to her saying like \"ummm do you remember kissing (sisters friend) saturday night?\" or if i should just kind of let it go and chop it up to the alcohol? any suggestions?", "summary": "went out to my sisters college to party with her friends and roommates. everyone had a little to much to drink. my girlfriend ends up kissing my sisters friend (peck) in front of me. not sure if i should  bring it up to her."}
{"id": "t3_150p0p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is it a good idea to approach a girl while she's working?", "post": "[23] Male. Basically I've had a crush on this girl in one of my college lectures and have had very few confrontations with her. I'm sure the lot of you can look through my past posts about this but this is a semi follow-up to all that. Through those posts - my master plan - if you will, I've missed my opportunity in asking her for a cup of coffee or even a number and now that the semester is over, I'm a defeated man. But after all, I have acquired information about where she works at and I've even visited her once. Well, I made it a \"coincidence\" that I was there but I honestly needed to purchase things for some school project, so why not?! My question now, Ladies and Men of Reddit, would it be weird, straight out creepy, or flattering if I came back and told her that I regret not asking her out during the semester and if she would like to.", "summary": "How would you feel if you got asked out while you were working?"}
{"id": "t3_3ha6e9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 m] with my girlfriend [17 f] 3 weeks plus, her best friend ending our relationship", "post": "Alright, so my girlfriend and I met at a workshop a few weeks ago. We hit it off pretty well, and then camp ended. We ended up in a long distance relationship, and it worked fine for a week.\n\nLater, her 'best friend' (or at least so he claims) messages me through her account, telling me that we won't work out, that she doesn't really love me, that I don't deserve her, that I might end up killing her (yeah what), and that she almost died because of a previous relationship (no proof or explanation?) etc.\n\nSo this goes on for a week or so, with me trying to reason with this person (we'll refer to them as Unknown.) His messages sound overly possessive, and he's extremely rude, expecting me to beg. He completely ignores all of my points and says that I'm trolling.\n\nLater Unknown allows my girlfriend and I to talk over the phone, but he only lets her answer yes or no questions and has some 'restrictions' on what questions she can answer.\n\nDuring this call, she sounds really sad :C\nAt the end, she says that Unknown has a lot of threats, and is cut off by Unknown. He later says that she broke the rules of the restrictions and I won't be seeing her again.\n\nUnknown has no details known about him except for the fact that he is male and has threats. He contacted me through girlfriend's account.\n\nAny help? Thoughts, ideas? Thanks.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_vw77l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Visiting Clearwater Beach, Florida and having a kickass time at the beach. What are some beach stories you have?", "post": "This one comes from the beach down in Corpus Cristi, TX: We were there on a band trip during my freshman year. We decided to have a game of beach ultimate and split up basically seniors versus freshmen.\n\nLate into the game, one senior guy is streaking up the beach toward the endzone and the disc gets hucked to him. It flies out over the water, where my friend Charlie proceeds to lay out parallel to the ground, and make a spectacular flying swat to save the point.\n\nSorry if that had a little too much Ultimate jargon in it.", "summary": "Playing Ultimate on the beach when the disc gets thrown long, and Charlie saves the day, puts his body on the line, and prevents seniors from scoring"}
{"id": "t3_pkjb6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, tell me what to do.", "post": "Let me first say that I am losing my reddit submission vcard on this.  I am currently in a predicament with being in-between jobs and am turning to you guys/gals for advice.  For the last couple months I have been strung out by a (going to be unnamed) company.  In this time, I've been assured of my qualifications, but been told that my background check is taking a long time (my record is clean, no worries).  However, as much as I am assured, I feel like they have been taking their sweet precious.  In the mean time I applied for other jobs, and this week one came up with Red Lobster.\n\nI started training with RL on Thursday thinking that I wasn't going to hear from the other employer.  Of course they call me the next day saying the background check is almost done, and they would be calling me early next week. Still, no definitive offer/set date of employment.\n\nMy question is: should I still stick with RL or go ahead and let them know I'm turing down the job?  Honestly, I don't want to waste their time, but also dont want to be left in the situation where I may get strung out again. \nI really want the job with the unnamed company because it pays more/better benefits.", "summary": "Prospective job taking long time, another one comes along that I'm just starting. Prospective job calls back, but not set in stone."}
{"id": "t3_3xnm45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (26F) unsure how to proceed with new interest (25M) once I found out who his roommate is", "post": "Let me begin by saying I think I may be making this situation a bigger deal than it is.  I met a guy (25M) a while ago and we've starting hanging out romantically. We have several mutual friends. Turns out, his roommate (28M) is someone I had a sexual encounter with a little over a year ago.  The situation was: I gave him (the roommate) a ride home after being out at the bars.  He invited me in to hang out.  We ended up making out for several hours, some clothing came off. Sex didn't occur.  Afterwards he tried to hit me up a few times, but I wasn't interested.  We still see each other out and about often, and it's always been friendly between us.  Anyways, I guess my question is, do I need to tell the guy I'm currently interested in that that situation occurred?  I'm not sure what their relationship is, although I think they're pretty close in terms of roommates.  I don't think it would cause a problem in their relationship.  And I don't want it to cause a problem between him and I as we're just starting to get to know each other. But just thinking what if his roommate says something or already has said something, since he knows we've been hanging out? Just wondering what the appropriate thing to do is.", "summary": "Made out/took clothes off with a guy over a year ago. Wasn't interested.  Year later, meet another guy. Start hanging out. Learn that these two are roommates. Do I need to tell new guy I almost hooked up with his roommate a long time ago?"}
{"id": "t3_qfqbu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Beginning to lose hope, need advice!", "post": "Hey there Redditt. It is very soon going to be two years since I graduated college with a degree in Chemical Engineering. Throughout this whole time I have unfortunately been unable to get a job. I have applied to just about every job posting I can find, even ones I don't qualify for just in the hopes that they see my resume and contact me for something else. I have continued to try and improve my credentials, obtaining my EIT certification last year. I have even started looking at non-engineering jobs elsewhere, but none of them seem to want to hire me on the assumption that they believe I will only be there a couple months. Redditt, if you have any advice, please help!", "summary": "Have an engineering degree and still haven't been able to get a job for 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_1p8ucq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Orange County, California] Battery and attempted car theft?", "post": "So tonight I (18) went with my buddy(17), we will call him A, to go pick up some money from another minor(16), we will call him M . He owed my buddy $20 and was completely glad to give him the money. Here's where things changed:\n\nI went across the street to go take a leak against a large wall in a greenbelt between houses, no big deal, when a woman comes out asking what I was doing. I assumed that she was going to call the cops on me for public urination, however, she actually thought I was hiding a bag of marijuana for M (I don't even involve myself with what the law considers drugs). She immediately grabbed me and attempted to take my car keys from my pock, but I pushed her off. She then approached A and tried to get into his car because he had a brown bag that he was taking out of his car, which, again, did not contain anything illegal. \n\nI already understand that I could have filled battery charges against her, but what would the attempt at taking my keys be considered attempted auto theft? There were multiple witnesses that saw her attack me.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Woman mistook my actions for something they weren't, assaulted me and then tried to steal my car keys. What charges could I possibly file?"}
{"id": "t3_d9dpd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Want to do a fundraiser for friend with cancer - need help!", "post": "I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with cancer. Previously, she had worked two jobs to try to eliminate all debt since she and her husband had their first child two years ago. Now she works two jobs to try to keep medical debt down, but it's climbing (and fast). We live in a small town, with limited access to internet and corporations (so no possible PR boost for donations) and my coworkers and I want to help. What could we do? Her type of cancer is not well publicized, so charitable organizations are at a minimum. The only thing we can come up with is rather typical, bake sales and raffles for things donated by the few local businesses we have. Does anyone have any ideas?", "summary": "friend has cancer, we live in the sticks, we want to help her not drown in medical debt"}
{"id": "t3_wb3gw", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "2-3 year old dog is growing very attached, jealous. Tips or tricks to help her overcome this?", "post": "My boyfriend and I rescued a dog from a local animal shelter a few months ago. She was listed as a stray German Shepherd mix, and we think she is likely a GS/lab/pit mix. They estimated that she was around 2-3 years old, but since she was a stray, they didn't know for sure. They found her just wandering around the city we live in. \n\nAnyway, she has been doing GREAT since we brought her home. She was timid for awhile, but has grown to love and trust us and our friends, and has overall become a pretty awesome dog (no accidents, is trying to get along with our cat, etc.). As I was working a lot and my boyfriend was home more often, he wound up feeding her more frequently, although we both take her out and play with her.\n\nThe thing is, she has grown incredibly attached to my boyfriend. She is normally excited to see him, which is fine, but she follows him around all of the time and cannot take her eyes off of him. Even if I am playing with her or petting her or engaging her, if he is there, she is staring at him. Earlier today, when he leaned in to kiss me, she started making noises to try to get his attention. Whenever he leaves, she whines a little.   \n\nHe is starting a new job soon and will not be home as often. We want to help her become less attached to my boyfriend so that she knows he will always come back, and so that she doesn't have to feel so anxious (it's like she is constantly looking to my boyfriend for approval) when we're home. Does anyone have any suggestions, tips, or tricks to help her become more comfortable with my boyfriend's absence and less attached to him?", "summary": "Shelter dog, very attached to bf, bf's starting a new job and not going to be around as much. How do we help our dog be less attached to my boyfriend? "}
{"id": "t3_2wsvvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my 24 [F] of 4 years keeps putting off moving in together.", "post": "Almighty Reddit, lend me your ears..\n\nThrowaway on the off chance she goes to reddit, goes to this particular sub and see this specific post...\n\nThe Turn:\n\nSo we've been together for almost four years now. Awesome relationship, insanely close all those good things. A couple of  rough patches but we persevere. Girlfriend, who was living with her friends, had to move home because of a teaching internship she received, no pay only stipends towards her grad school.  \n\nThe Pledge:\n\nSo last June my lease was up and I wanted to move out of into a better area without my college friends. My girlfriend is ecstatic, we talk about moving in together.\n\n Awesome possum, we find a nice place close central to both of our jobs.  She lets me know she won't be able to pay her full share of the rent due to aforementioned internship. Ain't no thang. I can front the bills and she can chip in what she can. We both sign the lease.\n\nLease starts in September, due to school and shit, her move in date is December, I'm cool with it cause well I am. Well December turned into a January move in...which turned into a February move in...which turned into a beginning of March...which turned into end of March.\n\nThe Prestige:\n\nSo I just got off the phone with her about an hour ago and the topic of her move in came up because I need to request time off from work to help (retail manager :0 ). Well she doesn't think she can do March now. What the actual hell. \n\nI want to get on with our lives but she keeps coming up with excuses. I am not getting married until I know I can live all the time with her. I'm frustrated about what I should do. I don't want to give her an ultimatum  because I do love her but at some point I need to know if this relationship can bump up to the next level i.e. marriage. At this point I'm trying to figure out if there's something wrong with me, our relationship, or her. Any input?", "summary": "Girlfriend adopted a platypus and doesn't think my Siberian Husky and it will get along. She doesn't want to move in until we figure it out."}
{"id": "t3_35mrj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO[18, F] talked to me [19, M] about my porn use and masturbation habits. She has become upset and I need help on how to talk to her about it.", "post": "Porn and masturbation just came up in conversation, and she asked me about how often I use porn and masturbate. I am completely honest with her about everything, so I told her: At least once a day.\n\nI don't think I'm over doing it in any way. I'm a college student with a lot of pent up sexual tension during the week, especially because my girlfriend lives 2 hours away and I can only see her on weekends. I have a high sex drive, and I think of and use masturbation as a stress relief. Among my male friends, my masturbation frequency is very normal. It doesn't get in the way of school or personal relationships, nor does it get priority over anything I get to do with my girlfriend.\n\nSince she has learned this new information, she has been upset and wants to talk with me about it tonight.\n\nShe is a very emotional thinker, which can sometimes make explaining things a little more difficult.\n\nSo I turn to all of you. I could use some help in how I talk to her about my habits to leave her in a peace of mind about us and our future.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Girlfriend is upset about my frequency of masturbation and porn use. She isn't completely understanding the role it plays in my life, and I need assistance on how to talk to her about it."}
{"id": "t3_1uqc6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my BF 40 M 2 months, political differences, deal breaker?", "post": "While we were talking about different things last night, the topic came on politics and he told me Sarah Palin has some good ideas and that if stopped watching Jon Stewart or Tina Fey making fun of her that I would be able to see that. Took me by surprise as I think she is dumber than a box of rocks and I really don't like her and some of things that she has said. I didn't make a big deal out of it because it was last and I was tired. This morning I sent him a text saying that I still couldn't believe he was a Sarah Palin supporter. We went back and forth quite a bit with him not really giving anything solid about why he supports her and me giving examples of why she is bat shit crazy and quoting some of the stupid things that she has said. The last few text where it seemed we weren't getting anywhere:\nHim: It's your opinion, I don't agree with it.\n\nMe: And that's fine we are entitled to our opinions your opinion seems baseless and I thought I would hear something that I may have overlooked or not seen before on this subject but it just shows how some people accept things blindly without really knowing.\n\nHim: I'm fine with that\n\nMe: Yeah that's fine whatever\n\nThat last one was sent an hr ago and no reply back from him. \nI think this may be the end of it but I just think it's silly and wanted to see what others thought.\nThe weird thing is, I don't care about politics and normally don't even get into it with people, I don't really identify with republican or democrat. He has said the same thing that he is neither republican nor democrat but uses the word the \"left\" in a way that he views them as differently than to himself. So I think his views are more to the right. He is the first person that I have ever come across that has defended her. \nSo anyways, is something like this a deal breaker for people?\nI don't think he is going to reply to my text, should I say something to him even though I feel kinda strongly about this?", "summary": "Different political views specifically on Sarah Palin, I hate her, he \"respects\" her. Heated argument via text and now he is not speaking to me. "}
{"id": "t3_1ypnca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24 F] unsure what to do about [33 M] off and on for over a year, he's been acting weird and I came across confession of love for his ex.", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend off and on for over a year. We were friends for a while before we started dating. We've had a lot of problems because of his drinking and when I felt under-appreciated after exhausting myself taking care of him when he was having medical problems, and once when some girl kept sending him naked pics and he didn't discourage it. So we've broken up a couple times. \n\n   I keep getting back together with him because I do love him very much. He's the first person I've been willing to pursue a future with. He asked me if i'd be willing to follow him wherever he got a job (He's getting his doctorate and will need to go wherever he can find teaching positions). I agreed to it. He's told me he wants to marry me and have kids and the whole future bundle. I've never wanted that before, but with him, I do.\n\n  Recently he's been acting strange he said he wanted to move in together, but when I brought up some places I'd found he seemed uncomfortable and weird, he hasn't talked about the future at all the past month and seems distant.\n  This morning his phone was making noises and I went to go look at it (we don't have issues with phones, he plays with mine all the time.) His text menu was open and I saw that he'd recently sent a text to his ex from 5 years ago who he was pseudo engaged with but they broke up after some of her infidelity during long distance. He told her that he \"Still thought about her every second of every day\" and that he missed her so much and begged her to call him.I know they aren't interacting physically because she lives in another state, but I don't know how to handle finding this out. He was asleep when I saw it and I just got my things, left him a note about how I saw the texts and how his behavior is cruel and I left. I'm at my house now and I'm a total wreck. I still love him and believed he wanted a future with me. I don't know what to do and I feel like an idiot.", "summary": "Boyfriend initiated a serious relationship, life plans, etc. Has been acting weird in the past month. Found a text to his ex confessing his continued love."}
{"id": "t3_1p6c5h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i [M] cheated on my girlfriend last night, dont know where to go from here", "post": "i would like to start by saying i have never cheated before. i was extremely intoxicated and a sober girl practically took advantage of me to get revenge on one of her ex boyfriends.\n\nafter saying no about 4 times we were eventually naked but after about 10 seconds of sex i told her i couldnt do it. it was the worst possible way to cheat, i got absolutely nothing out of it and im scared im going to lose someone amazing.\n\ni have told her (my girlfriend) that i went back to a girls place and she came onto me but not that we got naked and had sex for 10 seconds. this has already sent her to the edge\n\ndo i have to tell her? im worried it will eat me up inside anyway. this is already one of the worst feelings iv ever had.", "summary": "is it okay not to tell the full truth to soften the blow?"}
{"id": "t3_3kvxis", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help with a probable love triangle. I don't know what I want.", "post": "(Note: Age 15, been with my boyfriend for only 1 month, I'm female.)\nOkay, so, I have a boyfriend that I love but don't love. He is nice but not so nice at the same time. I love the way he acts around me, but whenever I'm not around, he acts like a jerk to people and I hate it. \n\nSkipping lots of details, there is another guy. He is soo much better to me than my boyfriend. Compliments me appropriately, very sweet, offers to give gifts, etc. And.. I've been flirting with him behind my boyfriend's back. I feel terrible about doing it, but I know my boyfriend wouldn't flirt with me like the other guy does. This guy makes me feel so much happier than my bf. I want to stay with my bf, but at the same time I don't because he's not good to me. And I'm not 100% sure this guy wants to create a relationship with me quite yet, even though he likes me just as much as I like him. \n\nTo me this feels like a bipolar relationship between my bf and I. I think so bad about him behind his back, but once he's near me again, everything just washes away and I suddenly fall in love again. I hate that feeling so much because I know he doesn't love me nearly as much as I love him.", "summary": "So should I stay with my boyfriend for a while longer or completely drop him and go to the other guy ?"}
{"id": "t3_1avdtz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just told my conservative parents that I'm moving in to my boyfriend's house, and I would really appreciate an outside view of the situation.", "post": "I (21 f) have been living on my own for the last year in an apartment with some roommates. I am currently enrolled at a prestigious private college, and am maintaining a 3.7 GPA while I've been living out of a drawer at my boyfriend's place. He provides little distraction from my dream of graduating with my two bachelor degrees in a year and a half. I have been dating my boyfriend (22) for two years, and we have been discussing our future and the possibility of moving in together since November. He has asked me to pick out a ring, and I anticipate him asking me at any time.\nI come from an extremely conservative family (think \"Southern Belle\" mentality), and I knew I wouldn't be met with a hug and cheers. But while I was alone with my father for a four hour car ride yesterday, and he starting saying the most hurtful things to me. Like I said, I anticipated this.. but now the pain I'm feeling is more so than I imagined :/ he said:\n- you learned nothing from the lessons I taught you as a child.\n- you don't know right from wrong.\n- you're being incredibly selfish (mom wants to help me decorate, but won't because she morally opposes the move).\n- he's just going to take advantage of you.\n- any man who is good enough for you will protect your reputation.\n- think of your grandparents.\n- you made a promise and now you're breaking it (he claims I promised that I wouldn't get engaged or married until I graduated, and he considers this the same thing. I don't remember that conversation in the least bit..\n\nAnyway Reddit.. I just want an outside view of his comments. I'm very hurt and depressed that he's taken it so hard and is trying to give me a guilt trip. What do you guys think?", "summary": "told conservative parents I'm moving out with boyfriend, and dad is trying to guilt trip me. Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_1k8vir", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [17M] with a girl [17F] (1.5 Months) that isn't verbally expressive. I like her and want to overcome this.", "post": "I find that in my relationship with this girl, conversation doesn't flow too well and there are often gaps and long silences. This is fine for both of us as we enjoy each others company.\n\nHowever, since we haven't seen each other much over the summer we have resorted to texting, and I've been getting a lot of short, if not, one worded responses. I know this is a sign of disinterest but I'm fairly certain that she likes me and doesn't want to get rid of me, because by now -- she would have. I often get tired of trying to think up an engaging response to short and to the point texts, and give up most of the time. Probably not the best thing to do but otherwise the conversation drags and becomes forced.\n\nThis can sometimes lead to making me feel like she isn't interested in me since I feel I'm neglected from attention, although occasionally there are times when she shows emotions in a very subtle way -- reassuring me she likes me.\n\nI believe this is to do with her past relationship issues, as I know she has been hurt by other guys and even cheated on. I understand that it takes time for someone to warm up to you, but for the majority of the time we have been together I feel like I'm just another guy to her. Her feelings being reciprocated back is very important for me in any relationship as I take them seriously and stride to work things out.\n\nHence the reason I came here to seek words of wisdom and advice. What is the best possible course of action when dealing with someone who isn't as expressive as you, or someone who is afraid to show feelings?\n\nAny help would be of assistance to me, and thanks for taking the time to read this.", "summary": "With a girl that has been hurt before and is less expressive towards me. How can I resolve this issue, and help her show her feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_54c2y6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (24 f) with guy (25 m) I'm frustrated and assuming it's over", "post": "I met a guy online around July 4th and we dated for about two months. I was unsure about him in the beginning but he seemed really interested. We went on nice dinners and I got to meet his friends. We slept together after the fifth date and he said the sex was fantastic. He seemed excited about our potential saying he hadn't gone on more than two days with a girl in awhile and he really liked me. \n\nHe asked me to come visit him when he was on a business trip (I didn't bc I felt it was too soon). But we talked about a trip we'd go on in a couple weeks. At about the two month mark and with talk of goig on vacation I asked where this was going. He said his last relationship was six years and I'm more than just a hook up but he's not ready for a relationship and he can't give me the answer now that he would be in the future. He wants to wait for a relationship when he's dating someone and it's very serious and he's not seeing anyone else. I was bummed but thanked him for beig honest and said I'd think about if I could still see him without the label. He said he still wanted to be friends w me if I didn't want anything and to take my time figuring out what I want. \n\nI texted him about three weeks later (he was abroad for two of those weeks so I waited till he got back). I had thought about it and decided I wanted to continue to see him even if there was no label. I texted him and asked about his trip and we had a cute conversation with our usual banter and he was sending me pics of his trip. He said it was late and he was going to bed so I said let me know if he wanted to hang out soon bc I want to hear more about his trip. That was four days ago and I haven't heard anything. Should I expect to hear nothing? I kinda want to confront him bc I feel we dated long enough that it's shitty to ignore me.", "summary": "this guy is over it correct?"}
{"id": "t3_2p42nk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] FWB [23 F] made romantic overtures then became unreachable", "post": "I met a young woman in a college extra-curricular club. She expressed an interest in having sex with me, and I booty texted her. I learned that she had been in an abusive relationship with her ex-boyfriend and I opened up to her about my past abuse. We had sex a few times. We wanted a relationship without romantic feelings. \n\nWe didn't talk much in between when I ran in to her at events at school, because she doesn't return texts, calls, emails, facebook messages, or twitter messages. We spoke about it, and she wants to write back, but can't for personal reasons. I told her this makes me feel insecure and creepy, but she won't send a response or call back. If a text was about actionable school or extra-curricular activities she was available, but finding her on other occasions has been difficult, and I haven't heard from her after a number of months.\n\nLater, I broke my silence that my feelings for her had grown and that I wanted to have a romantic relationship with her. She reciprocated and asked me to move in with family to be closer to her over the summer and stay home from a trip to Europe I had been planning for after graduation. I said that I would go on the trip because the tickets were already paid for, and we made a plan for me to move to my aunt and uncles when I got back. \n\nI told her I would visit her in a number of months to check on her and confirm our plans. She agreed and told me to just knock on her door.\n\nNow the day we planned is next week and I'm concerned that I haven't spoken to her since the spring. I wrote her over the summer and autumn using an address I found on whitepages.com with her permission without a response, sent texts, and called. Meanwhile, she deleted her facebook. I reached out to a mutual friend who lives near her to get in touch with her, but I haven't gotten a response, and mutual friend maybe hasn't spoken to her, either. So, I guess my question is, should I just go and knock on her door?", "summary": "We had sex and agreed to stay FWB. Then I told her my feelings for her had grown and she made a serious bid for me to move in with my aunt and uncle. I sent her letters without a response. Now, it's coming time to visit her as we discussed and I can't confirm my plans with her to tell her I'm coming. Should I just go?"}
{"id": "t3_r55zj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, if I can get enough votes I can win a trip to space, and, because of where I live there is very little competition. Can you help me out by clicking vote?", "post": "A newspaper (Metro News) is having a contest and effectively whoever gets the most votes can win a chance at a sub-orbital flight into space. Judges will be polling the applications with the most votes, so you really can help me win a trip to space! Because of what region I'm applying in, there is very little competition.\n\nMy entire life I've been working towards a career in space science. I spent years working at one of Canada's only dedicated Space Science and Human Space Flight museums teaching about the wonders of the cosmos. I do research in astrophysics now: I work on the VERITAS experiment, a gamma-ray observatory near Tucson, Arizona. I am participating in Mars simulations (I am the Chief Engineer for the Mars Desert Research Station's Crew 116) and in my free time I like reading and learning about the history of human space flight. My passion for this field allows me to do public outreach with the Astrophysics group at McGill University. I love being able to share my passion with others and get them interested and motivated in such a fantastic field. Being able to go on this adventure would be achieving a life goal.\n\nThe current post with the most votes has ~25,000 votes. This is nothing compared to some of the other regions (which have 60,000+). So, really, support from even a small part of Reddit can really help me out. I'm in second place with just under 2800 votes.\n\nAll you need to do is go to  and click 'voter' (French for 'vote'). **No signup, nothing. Just vote.** Use your phone, your laptop, your tablet, anything!\n\nAnything you do will *really* increase my chances of going on this adventure. The contest runs until the end of the month. It's one vote per computer, per day.\n\nThis would be a life accomplishment for me. Reddit, please help me! (If anything, please upvote this so that it gets more visibility! This is a self post so karma wouldn't be an issue).\n\nIf selected, I promise to do an AMA.", "summary": "If you go to  and click 'voter' (French for vote), you can help send me to space."}
{"id": "t3_359rdt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am not getting enough attention from my [29M] of 6 months.", "post": "I'm in the best relationship I've had so far, and I can really see it going far. The only problem is that I feel like he doesn't pay enough attention to me. I'm not sure if I'm being selfish or what.\n\nThe only real alone time we get is in the shower. All other times there's tv, games, phone, things like that. If we're with other people, it's like I'm not even there. His focus is on the other people, or his phone. I've tried suggesting to him that we haven't had an \"alone\" day in a while, and he was shocked that I felt that way.\n\nHe tells me I'm perfect for him and wants to get a place together, so I'm not sure if I'm overreacting.", "summary": "unsure if I'm too needy or bf doesn't actually pay attention"}
{"id": "t3_4egl6n", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I'm (29M) pretty sure a co-worker (Early 30-ish F) was just let go for being pregnant. Is there anything I could or should do?", "post": "I have a co-worker that has been a pretty good friend that works in the shipping department at my workplace.  She's always been a super reliable person in the office, really knows her stuff, and is really helpful and kind.\n\nAt the office Christmas party a few months ago, she announced that she was pregnant and was due in July.  Everyone was of course thrilled, it's her first and she and her husband are really excited.  She hasn't really started showing and everything until the past month or so.\n\nAt first everything was cool, people would go out of their way to help her out and carry typically big or heavy things for her in the shipping department.  But as she's come along, it's become more difficult for her to do the regular physical stuff in her department and she's been taking care of everything at her desk.\n\nI learned this past week that she was let go this past Friday.  I know for a fact that there is nothing she could have done to have had it coming.  I do know for a fact that some of our managers and higher ups have had an issue with things being received or shipped slower than usual because she's not able to be as physically active as she once was. \n\nLong story short, I'm pretty sure she was fired for being pregnant.\n\nI'm not happy about it.  She was super loyal to everyone around here and I'm not cool with the obvious discrimination in what's happened.  I'm sure the higher-ups can come up with some bullshit explanation that has nothing to do with her pregnancy, but it's more than obvious what's really going on.\n\nIs there anything I could or should do?  Is there any organization or government branch that I can anonymously report this to without jeopardizing my own job?  I'm not sure at all what to do here.", "summary": "Super loyal and reliably co-worker was fairly clearly fired just for being pregnant and not being able to keep up with the physical demands of her job.  I feel like I owe it to her to say something or do something but I'm not sure what. (I'm in Georgia in the US.)"}
{"id": "t3_2ke0qs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27/m] could use advice regarding dating a single mom [26/f]", "post": "This weekend, I went on a first date with a woman who has a young child. This was the first time I've gone out with someone who has a kid. The evening went pretty well and we have tentative plans to grab dinner toward the end of this week.\n\nNormally when I start dating someone, we'll text back and forth between dates, but I'm reticent to do that this time around because in addition to having a child at home, she is currently working two jobs and pursuing a third.\n\nSo my question: How can I convey interest without coming across as burdensome? I feel like she probably has enough on her plate right now that she doesn't need to get random, \"Hey, how's your day going?\" texts from me.\n\nThanks /r/relationships!", "summary": "How to keep interest between first and second dates with busy single mom?"}
{"id": "t3_3zowgv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by driving in the rain for the first time", "post": "It rained!!! (Guess where I'm from) I got my drivers permit about 2 months ago, bought a car two weeks later with my hard earned money from the summer. The car was shitty to others but a full blown race car to me. Looked like crap but ran like a champ. Anyways, I have never driven in the rain so I knew I'll run into trouble on my way back home from work. Hydro planing sounded familiar to me but never knew it's real consequences. Coming up to my turn where for a good mile (in Dominic torretto voice) I'm free. On the turn there was a huge size puddle of water. I tried to avoid it completly but knew and figured that the front right tire will hit the water. Remember that word \"hydroplane\", yeah I fucked up. The left front tire went over then sunk, causing me the turn into the side of the road. Closer to the edge, the water is deeper. My engine choked, I'm really fucked. Knew trying to keep turning the key will only make things worst. I got out, in ankle deep water, had the bitch in neutral and pushed to the corner of the turn. On the bright side of this whole predicament, a trucker got out of his rig and helped me push the water logged car to the edge. Once out of the water, I tried to give life to my racecar. Once she turned back on I booked it home. Ran the same as before except for a knocking noise. The noise just hurts thinking about it. From the advice from other gearheads, it can't be easy to fix or safe to use without causing more damage. Already made a craigslist ad to at least get some money for another one. F you \"EL NINO\"", "summary": "Drove into a puddle of water, went sideways and engine tried to swim. And a trucker that I hope keeps on Truckin'"}
{"id": "t3_dpekv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I please turn off my anti-virus now?", "post": "I'm a pretty careful surfer, emailer and installer. I back up once a week. I haven't had a virus in 10 years. I haven't even had a blip on the security logs of any kind in 5 years. I will continue to run periodic scans but can I please turn off this endless resource hogging AV resident evil? I run a pretty tight system tray and it just bugs me to see this thing staring at me day in and day out doing bugger all. Reddit is pretty knowledgeable about sysadmin stuff. Can I please get the OK from 66% of the hive?\nNB: Please don't turn this into a whose-dick-is-bigger shouting match about different AV programs. I'm not even telling you which one I use, (but it's the best, of course).", "summary": "I want to drive through Paris with the warm wind in my hair."}
{"id": "t3_2qhvzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Yo I [17m] seriously need help with girls and relationships", "post": "I need help so let me start from the beginning of my problems my grandpa died, I was so sad I needed someone to talk to so I rushed into a relationship with a crazy women who would beg me to give her a baby and I'm like 17 so Wtf is wrong with you. I was drunk one night and she almost convinced me thank God for my friends. So I broke up with her and I met this girl through one of my lady friends and omg this girl was amazing, but I rushed into it too and we did things and within 6 days we broke up. Which is good because my best friend use to date her.\n\n  So I'm really sad though and I was just talking and meeting people and eventually this girl walked over to me and said hey I love your smile it's adorable... Here I am think Jesus she's 6 footish and really hot, I'm really short so I was confused, but my wing was like yo wanna get something to eat with us. She said yes and while we were eating we talked for 3 hours and I found out she's model, but as great as that is I really liked her personality and I fell in love and she moved for a job so we broke up.\n\n I was crushed and ever since then I've had to get drink to even kiss a girl who's not her, but the weird thing is I'm over the model. I just can't find anyone I mean I use to have game now I can barely talk to a girl let alone get her to like me. Plus I already know I should just be myself but lately that seems harder and harder to do. I find myself a victim to my desire of wanting to be myself again. But even then I feel like I'm always going to be like this, this man who everyone says hi to and girls think is cute, but never can actually get a girl and actually have a meaningful relationship instead of this let's have sex and say we're dating bull shit I usually get.", "summary": "I don't know what to do or how to fix this problem of 1. Not being myself 2.  Not having meaningful relationships and 3. Being to scared to tell a girl she's beautiful"}
{"id": "t3_2vix7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26m] have been with my fiance[24f] for a couple years now and I need some serious help!", "post": "So my fiance is donating her eggs and is really fertile from all the hormone shots and me being a guy get really horny still. So she said it was fine if I look at porn and take caren of my own business.  Porn does not do much for me and seemed out a different method and landed on tinder to just flip through the pictures and send a few messages but never planned on meeting up with the girls just the few messages and be done with it. I guess its a self conscious kinda thing and it makes me feel good being seen as attractive to someone.  She found out and got mad and wanted time alone to think about things.  She goes out and doesn't return till 1:30am and stays up on her phone for a little before going to sleep. Me being the nosey idiot looks at her phone and sees she saw another guy.  What do I do?!? I love her more than anything is the world and dont want to lose her.", "summary": "Coukdnt have sex so I watched porn and crossed the line with talking to real people.  She got mad and went out with another guy. She says she still loves me."}
{"id": "t3_2hhmnz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend[25 M] of more than a month. Am I being too petty and unreasonable?", "post": "Although we've only been together for a month, we've known each other for 2 years and dated for almost a year before making things official. Before when we \"dated\" he used to ask me to hang out with him alone and do things with him, now he rarely asks me. I just want to hang out with him even if that's watch Netflix or just do homework together. I don't expect this everyday, but once in a while would be nice. \n\nWe have the same group of friend and when he wants to get dinner he'll ask the whole group and not just me. I go with the group because they're my friends too but I think it would be nice if we went to dinner by ourselves or did something together. \n\nI guess I was wondering if I'm being too unreasonable to want to hang out with him alone more. If we do hang out I'm always the one who's asking him to come over or asking him to do stuff. I'm always the one to bring up ideas that we should do like go to art galleries, visit a brewery, or go to the park this weekend and he'll say \"I'm down\" but whenever I ask him again he's busy or he just never brings it up again. I guess I just want him to take more initiative and want to spend time with me alone. I told him that I want him to take more initiative and he said he would but he hasn't really done anything about it and I feel petty for bringing it up again. \n\nWhat can I do? Is he just one of those people that won't do anything unless you ask him to do the exact thing I ask and I should just suck it up? Or am I being to needy or clingy?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't really do anything with me and I feel shitty for constantly asking him."}
{"id": "t3_1q8uk9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my nobody [00 M] , being single/alone feels unbareable, how do you deal with being alone and feeling unattractive?", "post": "*sigh* it's 2am and im alone in my tiny room, i have to be up for work at 7am, i cant sleep because i got rejected AGAIN by someone i like. \ni feel like most people i like dont like me.\ni wish so much that i was comfortable with being alone and being single and not feeling so fucking insecure about it all the time.\ni feel super unattractive and like there's something wrong with me for being single so long.\ni also feel really used and slutty and gross because i sleep with people because im lonely.\ni want to stop that. \nbeen dating since i was 15yr old  to now 22yrs old. 7yrs.\nany tips?", "summary": "asking for tips for how to be ok with being single and/or alone"}
{"id": "t3_3le9mp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By calling my dad's boss fat, unintentionally twice.", "post": "So this actually happened a few minutes ago. Im hiding in my room, scared to death waiting for my impending doom to come \n\nBackstory (Just read it. It's important) New house, bathrooms upstairs and downstairs. However, while the upstairs bathrooms are spacious and luxurious, the downstairs bathroom is small, cramped, and poorely disigned due to the 3 foot width of the bathroom. The way it's set up, you go through an already small hallway into a door, that when opened almost hits the sink, and hits the toilet if opened too far. \n\nMain story- Still having a house warming party with my friends, cooworkers, Father and Step-mother, and most important to the story, my Dad's boss (Who is a bigger man mind you, not neccesarely fat). Everyone is downstairs having a good time, I'm upstairs probably about to get chewed out by my dad who is furious after his boss told him I called him fat. So the way it happened was i was cooking for everyone in the kitchen, when my dad's boss comes up to me and asks where the restroom is. I respond \"Through the hall, first door on your left.\" But like an idiot I added in \"If you can even fit.\" Afterwards. Realized what I said and tried to make it better by saying the restroom was really small and hard to fit inside. Ended up actually saying \"Its so small you couldn't fit inside.\" After that i told step-mom to watch kitchen for me (ironic i know) and went upstairs in shame and horror of m lack of english skills, though it is my native language.", "summary": "Forgot how to english, called my dad's boss fat twice, went upstairs in shame. "}
{"id": "t3_30vrui", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by gossiping in public and possibly breaking people up", "post": "Okay. So this happened yesterday, as TIFU's rarely happen onthe day.\n\nIt was late at night and I was waiting for my train home at one of the inner city train stations. My pervious train had been cancelled, and if it hadn't been, this would not have happened.\n\nI was talking to a friend on the phone, both my headphones in so my voice was probably rather loud. We'll call this friend... Larry.\n\nI was telling Larry about Monster Hunter 4, and How myself and other friends name all the monsters after another friend, Jimmy's sexual encounters due to the new mounting mechanic.\n\nAnyway, you should know that Jimmy and Iare really close and we rarely hide stuff from each other. Jimmy told me about another guy, Richy, who is a complete scumbag that has been cheating on his girlfriend for over a year now and she doesn't know. \n\nSo back to Larry. I don't know how we got to the topic of Richy, but I was telling Larry all about how Richard is scum and cheating on his girlfriend, Katie, and she doesn't know. \n\nThis is where the fuck up happened.  \nLarry searches their facebook profiles.\n\n\"Oh Knight. They went to the concert tonight, talk about lucky\" \n\nAt this point I realize I've been shit talking someone in public and I turn around.\n\nRICHY AND KATIE ARE SITTING ABOUT 10 CENTIMETRES BEHIND ME AND HEARD EVERYTHING I SAID.\n\nKATIE IS CRYING, RICHY IS GIVING ME DIRTY LOOKS.\n\nI get up and walk to the other end of the platform hoping to avoid an awkward situation. \n\nI call Jimmy to tell him what happened. He pisses himself and tells me that most of the repercussions are going to fall on him and he's going to get shit on.", "summary": "I was gossiping about people cheating on others and the people in question were sitting behind me and heard everything . Started a huge fight between a couple"}
{"id": "t3_3y9o7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my BF [30M] aren't moving forward, but if we do I'm afraid it is because everyone else is getting engaged.", "post": "I have always cringed at my girlfriends who awkwardly pressured their boyfriends into proposing. I never wanted that - I wanted someone who was excited enough about being with me to take a chance and pop the question. However, I am afraid I have given mixed signals. I wanted my BF to think for himself, so I put zero pressure on him. \n\nI never wanted to live with a BF unless we were engaged, but the expense of living in our area was insane, so it was either live together or have 3 roommates each (that we have to clean up after). When we moved in together I made it clear that with that situation I would like to see progress in a year. We are now at almost two years. \n\nI wanted him to *want* to propose to me. I think that is something romantic that comes from a shorter courtship - it can mean that a person \"knows\". However, we have been together for three years and nothing - except almost all of our friends are engaged or married now. I am afraid if he actually asks me it will be because of outside pressure, which is exactly the opposite of what i wanted.\n\nI sound like a brat, but I don't think it should have taken this long. At this point maybe I shouldn't be with him if he hasn't been sure enough to ask me for three years (two of those with shared home and finances with no issues).", "summary": "BF and I together for three years and have lived together for two. Afraid if he proposes now it is just because everyone else is and not because he likes me."}
{"id": "t3_44an1b", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Suggestions for a Valentine's day dessert for a girlfriend with a finicky stomach?", "post": "Sorry if this isn't the right place to post something like this. If anybody has a better place for me to post this, I would really appreciate the suggestion.\n\nAnyway, my girlfriend and I have a pretty nice Valentine's day dinner planned out that we're gonna make together. The only problem is we can't figure out a good dessert that she can eat. Something chocolate based seems like the obvious way to go, but dairy (among other things) upsets her stomach pretty badly, and it seems like most chocolate recipes include a lot of dairy. We've settled on this vegan strawberry ice cream for now, but that just seems so boring to me, and we don't get to see each other very often, so I would appreciate some suggestions on what we can make that would at least be a little more interesting. Something chocolate would be great, as long as it doesn't have any milk or cream added to it.", "summary": "Looking for a dairy free, possibly chocolate based, dessert to make with my girlfriend on valentines day."}
{"id": "t3_rd4ty", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to friendzone when you know it ain't going right?", "post": "I've been seeing/dating this really sweet guy for a few weeks now, but I know I'm just not that into him, and my attention is wandering. He's super nice and I'd really prefer not to make him feel bad, but I need to make the dating end, and I'd like to keep him as a friend. I have already tried, but he's set on taking me out for dinner tonight and says there are honestly no expectations, but I know what a date is, and this is one. I'd hate for him to take me out and spend money on me when I'm not even all that into him like that. It seems insincere. So what can I say to make it clear I want to move on and away without making it weird?", "summary": "Really nice guy, I want to end it but feel awkward, what can I do or say?"}
{"id": "t3_4j98w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F/25] bf [M/27] of 4 years is going to spend some time with one of his friends [M/later 20s] who I do not trust for a couple of reasons. I'm very uncomfortable with them going out to the bars together, but I don't want to be a paranoid control freak gf either. What to do?", "post": "So there have been a couple events with my bf's longtime friend \"A\" (who I am also friendly with even though I don't really like him) that have caused me to distrust him quite a bit.\n\n One time a while ago we were all drinking and chilling at our house. My bf was outside and A and I were inside, and all the sudden A started talking about how my bf wasn't right for me, how he wasn't mature enough(?), and ultimately how our relationship would fail because of my bf.\n\nAlso, A has always been flirtatious even when in relationships and is definitely the womanizer type. He tried to get with a girl over text while his current gf was out of town. He's been inappropriate with me as well, as he's asked me two times to flash him.\n\nA note- all of these things have happened while he's been pretty drunk/on drugs.  Pretty much whenever we're together (or if A and my bf are together) heavy drinking and often drugs are involved. And A is almost always trying to get everyone f-cked up.\n\nAnyway, because of these events, I really don't trust him to be drunk and out with my bf. He wouldn't hesitate to talk shit on me, which I don't care too much about, but I'm really worried he'd be trying to get with other girls and encouraging my bf to do the same.\n\n I generally trust my bf, but he's been known to do some shitty stuff if he gets too drunk, and when he and A are drinking together it's almost always blackout drunk level. I've told my bf why I don't trust A, and he understands, but I don't know if it's reasonable for me to ask him not to go out drinking with A. And if it's unreasonable, what's a good compromise?", "summary": "My bf is gonna hang out with his friend for a few days. My bf's friend has given me a couple of good reasons to distrust him when alcohol is involved and I know they'll be drinking together. I don't want them going out to the bars together but I don't know if that's a reasonable request."}
{"id": "t3_1di0ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (34/M) wants to pay for me (27/F) to go back to school.", "post": "BF (34/M) knows it's been hard for me (27/F) to find a good paying job.  He's from a European country where his university education was free and he now works as an engineer in the USA.  He makes about $160,000 USD (before taxes) whereas I make about $20,000 (two part time jobs that have nothing to do with my educational background).  I'm afraid of incurring more debt (I took out my own loans and worked while in college to soften that interest blow).  SO offered to pay for me to go back to university so I can get training/a degree in something more useful (i.e. engineering).\n\nRelationship Background:  SO and I have been seeing each other for about 2 years, we don't live together but I do sleep over about 3-4 nights a week (we live about 45 minutes away from each other).  For the first year I was confused because he acted like a BF, yet didn't recognize me as his GF.  He said he wasn't sure if what he felt for me was just attachment or friendship, but he wasn't passionate about me.  This year he's different.  He introduced me to friends and coworkers as his GF, I have a key to his house, I have dedicated closet space at his place, he's a lot more affectionate in public and private, etc.\n\nThe Real Question: I'm not sure if I should take him up on his offer.  I hate being in debt, and I would hate being in debt to someone I know personally.  Given our relationship past, not sure if he means this as a step in the relationship or just help in general.", "summary": "SO wants me to get a degree in a field that will pay more, not sure if I should do it."}
{"id": "t3_2t4dbd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by working in the chemistry lab afterhours", "post": "*obligatory \"this was actually a few years ago\"*\n\nI was an undergraduate chemistry major, and one that was too smart for my own good. I was doing chemistry research with a focus on synthesis.\n\nI had lab access after hours and would frequently fool around in the lab, looking at what chemicals were available and trying out reactions so as to gain insight on the things I was learning in Organic I & II.\n\nOne day I decided I wanted to perform a simple synthesis at home, so I decided to gather up the reagents. Problem is, I needed bottles to put them in.\n\nNow there were multiple lab benches belonging to various graduate students and shared by a few undergraduate students, and there were also 3-4 lab areas among the 15 or so that were once occupied but had long been vacant after the graduation of some students.\n\nWhenever this happens, the former student cleans up the area, organizes all their materials and apparatus, and the supplies now and then get scavenged by other students still working in the labs.\n\nSo I decided to scavenge. I look in the bottom drawer of a counter. I found a brown bottle with little white beads in it and it was covered in aluminum foil for whatever reason. I decided to empty the beads out.\n\nWhat I didn't know was that they were molecular sieves used to \"dry\" solvent of water, and that the bottle was still full! I had emptied nearly 100 mL of deuterated chloroform onto the drawer and floor on accident and had to clean it up.\n\nI frantically wiped up as much of the chloroform as possible and threw the paper towels in the fume hood. After spending a good 3 minutes trying to absorb all the chloroform the fumes got to me and I had to stumble out of the chemistry lab.\n\nI nearly tripped and almost got caught by the custodian.\n\nI also sweated bullets the next day when a graduate student asked what all the paper towels in the fume hood were doing, and their curious response as to why it smelled like \"dichloromethane or chloroform or something.\"", "summary": "Almost got caught high on chloroform"}
{"id": "t3_3b8ur5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to talk to a girl", "post": "So i had to go to a sixth form open day and i'm sat at a table bored as hell, and i see this girl staring at me and at first I'm really confused but then i see her wink at me. And as a horny 16 yr old i think this is my chance, so when everyone leaves the hall I catch up to her and as I'm about to talk to her it hits me.\n\nThe other eye is either remarkably lazy or glass *I didn't stick around long enough to check* so she wasn't winking, she was blinking and me being the awkward person that I am just slowly back away from her, the worst part is I have no idea if she saw me back away as she was looking two different ways.", "summary": "tried talking to a girl, only had one working eye, backed away like a real idiot"}
{"id": "t3_2vii6t", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "fellow redditors would you seek out a lost relative?", "post": "My aunt recently passed away from cancer and was an amazing mother. She (and my uncle) sacrificed everything for her three boys. My mother and her were always close and I view her as a second mom and consider my cousins brothers.\n\nAbout a week before she passed she told her youngest two boy (the oldest lives out of state working on his fellowship) something that she has kept from them their whole lives. When she was a young teenager she got pregnant and gave up her child (my grandmother was a single mom raising 6 kids in a small trailer) in hopes of it having a better life.\n\nIn retrospect it explains a lot about my aunt... She made the boys promise not to search for their sibling and I would never pressure my cousin to go against her last request but one of them told that he was completely fine if I wanted to.\nI'm torn and I really wouldn't know where to start (I know the yr of birth, hospital and her maiden name) and I would never reach out to the person if I found them (I would leave that up to my family) but it would be amazing to see a picture of them on social media and see a little piece of my aunt.", "summary": "My dying aunt reveled to her children that a young age got preggos and gave the kid up, asked them to to search for them but didn't ask me not to. Cousin is fine with me looking. "}
{"id": "t3_3p9qgp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Killing a bunch of guys in the Two Towers.", "post": "So this didn't happen today but thought it was about time to share on this sub and I got bored at work so here we go.\n\nSo back in either 3rd or 4th grade I had got a present from my mom who was a fanatic of the Lord of The Rings series and knew I was getting into it as well and that I liked video games. So she bought the LOTR two towers game for Xbox and we played it all day and it was great. The FU happened the next day when I was in class and talking about my time in the two towers and how I was unstoppable, saying things like \"I killed hundreds of bad guys\" and got the secret level that allowed me to climb one of the towers killing people as I went on fought on the top. Well unfortunately one of my classmates had overheard the conversation and started crying and then went to the teacher. Then I got sent down to the office and had to wait for my mom to have a chat with the principle. Apparently the student thought I was talking about the September 11th attacks and that I was crazy saying that I killed a bunch of people. When I explained to the principle what the Two Towers was a game about the Lord of The Rings movie that I had played a lot with my mom yesterday.He seemed confused but my mom was much better explaining then a 10 year old but apparently the student who I offended had been affected by the September 11th attacks in some way. I apologized to the student and explained my FU but I never really got back onto talking terms ever with them and it was kind of weird in class for me for the next week or so.", "summary": "Played the LOTR Two Towers game and was mistakenly overheard that I assaulted the twin towers in September 11th and killed a bunch of people."}
{"id": "t3_20b0j7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] and my bf [23/M] of almost a year broke up tonight. I thought this was it guys. Please help me.", "post": "Tonight my bf comes home in the middle of his rehearsal crying telling me his heart isn't in it anymore. I'm completely blindsided by the whole thing and he offered no explanation. He just kept telling me how much he cared and how much he hated hurting me and that he was \"so sorry\". He kept telling me that I did nothing to warrant it and that I'm one of the most genuine and caring people he's ever met. I can't even begin to understand why. \n\nI honestly hate being this \"please take me back\" and heartbroken over it because I just feel so pathetic. But that's how I honestly feel. I really thought this was it. I have never felt so attached to someone. Never loved someone this much. I've never even imagined a future with anyone realistically until him, and I've dated people much longer than this. \n\nI just want him back so bad you guys. I honestly never felt so myself and connected with anyone. I literally cannot imagine my life without him. We never had a disagreement. Ever. We held the same stance on everything. He was perfect for me and everyone else told me. Even now no one will trash talk him because there's nothing to trash talk. I just feel like I lost the one. \n\nA big thing is that I also work with him. Same department. Yeah, yeah. Don't date where you work. I can avoid him. But still. [EDIT] He's probably leaving our work sometime mid June. It was planned months ago.\n\nHow do I even begin to pick up all of these pieces?", "summary": "I really thought this was my \"one\". Now he's claiming he doesn't love me anymore and that I did nothing to warrant his feelings. I have no closure. How can I begin to try and recover?"}
{"id": "t3_2jlxs2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30f] is starting to get upset of my wife [36f] talking and getting attention from men on reddit.", "post": "My wife and I have been together for two years.  Just got married this past April. \nMy wife is constantly getting pm's on here from random men.  Some is just friendly banter.  Others are stating they will dream of her.  We have problems with intimacy and boredom like any marriage has right now.  I have to fight with her phone just to get any sort of attention. We love each other more than words can express.  Or I think we do.  I just feel second best to all the attention she is searching for on here and other social media. \nWhat am I to do? I guess it's just nice to talk to others and vent without it causing a fighting or crying.", "summary": "wife gets searches for attention on social media, but doesn't focus on marriage."}
{"id": "t3_33z3iq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to hard in a moshpit.", "post": "So it's Rockville weekend here in JacksonVille, Florida and me and some friends(more accurately my brothers friends) travelled all the way from Pennsylvania to see our favorite bands. Took lots of pictures, wonderful weather, sights, and having a blast. So now here's where my fuck up begins. It was 90\u00b0 Fahrenheit today. We were at hatebreed's set getting the hell down to it. Now I'm a 6\"1in 160lb male. 20yrs old. I consider myself what some know as skinny fat. And ya see I'm one of those guys who displaces fat in not so masculine areas...aka my lower body/man booty. So after we do our best to tear it up in a hatebreed moshpit, we sit down to rest and to my shame and horror I have a huge sweat puddle on the ass of my shorts. I panick and realize I NEED to fix this so I tell my big bro I don't feel good and am going to the porta potty. I half run there praying no-one looks at my sweaty, fat rear. Cue me in the hot stall desperately trying to soak the sweat in cardboard toilet paper for like 15 minutes, my confidence all the while quickly sinking. I've given up and realize I should just take my retarded, fat, sweaty ass back to the hotel where my \"friends\" will probably have more fun without me. It was a mistake me even coming.", "summary": "It was unsurprisingly hot in Florida and my skinny fat man ass got soaked in sweat during a hatebreed concert So I left and now I want to die."}
{"id": "t3_125qq0", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Accidentally stepped on one of two cats, and now they won't stop fighting. Help!", "post": "We've had one Sphynx cat for about 4 months now, and noticed he seemed to get lonely alone, so a week and a half ago we got a second Sphynx cat (about 20% larger, and a year older).  They were fine, socializing since the day we got them, with a decent amount of play fighting that would occasionally get a bit rough, which we would break up.\n\nEarlier today, I was in the kitchen feeding them and as they swirled around my feet, I accidentally stepped on the smaller cat (which we've had longer).  He let out a squeal, and the two cats started going at it.  We separated them into different rooms, and tried to \"re-integrate\" them after about an hour, and they were both still hostile.  We tried again after about 2 more hours, and the same thing happened again.  This time we isolated the newer cat in the bedroom and gave our first cat run of the apartment.  They stood at other sides of the same door and meowed (loudly, and sounding angrily) back and forth, which got progressively louder until we took one cat away.\n\nIs there something we should be doing to remedy this?  I don't want to let them both out in the apartment overnight in case they get into it when we're too groggy to effectively stop them.  Any advice is helpful!", "summary": "Stepped on a cat, now my two cats won't stop fighting.  We've had to isolate them, and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_d7kzn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there any good icebreakers/subtle flirts when a girl gets nervous around you?", "post": "I have ran into this a few times this summer with cashiers and whatnot.  I am very laid back and calm so I can only assume that the nervousness is not because of my demeanor, but rather they find me attractive? Call it narcissistic to think this, but I have lost a good amount of weight, bought new clothes, tanned from working outside recently, and have never experienced such interactions before. I have come across some females who become flustered when I start interacting with them and all it does is make me nervous lol.  It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't only on occasions where I have limited time to talk to them otherwise I would be able to break the ice, but for a short interaction such as a cashier is there any good ways to quickly break the ice and get a date or such?  I kind of feel awkward just asking \"would you like to go out some time?\", but then again my old fat self wasn't granted these opportunities so maybe that is what I should do?", "summary": "Lost weight, got tan from work, got clothes that fit, girls now seem nervous in a good way, want a good icebreaker."}
{"id": "t3_227wvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] broken up with by [21F] Not sure how to get over first break up.", "post": "We were together for about two and a half years and broke up two weeks ago. This was our first real relationship. Most of it was great but the last few months was filled with fighting and discontent. She ended up making out with one of my friends when she was drunk but we worked things out for a few months more. We ended it mutually on okay terms. We both realized things weren't working out, we don't hate each other but we're just not compatible. \n\nMy overall concern is that I don't know when to start trying to see other people or how because I'm used to being with somebody. I feel lonely a lot which I'm sure is normal. Most of the time I feel okay but the lonely, sad feelings come every now and again. Any tips would be great. Thanks a lot.", "summary": "My first girlfriend and I broke up and I'm not sure how to start meeting people or if I'm ready."}
{"id": "t3_4zvoo3", "subreddit": "running", "title": "[Update] Should I give up on high school cross country? -- Yesterday was the first meet!", "post": "[Previous post](\n\nIn my post a couple months ago no one was begging me to update but I want to anyways!\n\nI did join my cross country team, and I don't suck!!! In our first week of practice (started second week of August) we did a mile time trial.  I was anxious.  At the beginning of summer, my fast miles were 10:00, and my fastest ever was 8:34.  To my utter shock, I ran 7:17!  I know I can get better, as I'm still losing weight and I haven't yet found a good race pace to really push myself at.\n\nAlthough I'm a senior, I ran JV.  First meet was a short one, so varsity ran a 4K while JV ran 2 miles.  I knew I could handle the distance, but my speed is still shit, and I couldn't keep up with the fastest JV girls on my team.  \n\nThere were 62 girls total competing.  I placed 41 with a time of 17:07.  My goal was under 18 min so this feels great!  Everyone I raced against was so encouraging and supportive.  Cross country really is a fun sport.\n\nI still struggle with some things internally.  I don't think at 5'3 and 137 pounds that I'm the largest girl on my team, but even without the extra 30some i used to have, Phantom Fat still seems to be there and I have to remind myself I don't look like a chubby manatee in our tank/spandex uniforms.  Boyfriend is on the team with me and there's a lot of nice looking girls, and that's hard.  I haven't been that good at making friends either (but really some of the girls are snobby) but there are a couple I talk to.  \n\nThank you to everyone that offered their support for me to join!", "summary": "joined and I love it! Way faster than I thought!!"}
{"id": "t3_wjso6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Deciding how to propose a LTR breakup. Help!", "post": "So my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year and seven months now. I'm a 21y (white) M and shes a 18y (puerto rican) F, and we live together, but only I pay rent and only I am on the lease. I go to college, have a great job, she doesnt. We argue alot, often about how suspicious her private life is. Multiple times I've caught her texting dirty conversations to guys, 3 different guys multiple times, all which she afterwards says she is over. As well as texting, she'll send dirty pictures and has even Facetimed naked with a guy. Yet, for some reason, the idiot in me decides to take her back, or grudgingly admit that somehow it was my fault, and somehow I'm the one who ends up on my knees. \n\nThe other night she went out with her gay friends to an after hours club. she didnt text me to come back home until 8pm the next night. This morning, as I was searching for an umbrella, I found a cardboard sign in her bag that read \"See pierced and tatted tittayz. 3$!!\"\nYeah. Obviously I'm going to break up with her. I just dont know how to firmly word this.", "summary": "I need to break up with my girlfriend, who continually takes advantage of my trust."}
{"id": "t3_2yzxbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32 M] gf_ [00 M/F] 3 years, am I overreacting to my gf snap chatting a guy that likes her?", "post": "So my GF and I have been dating for just about 3 years now and we talk about how we are pretty much married. We have lived together for 2 of those years and we talk about how we want to marry each other.\n\nI have an issue with something that is bothering me. My GF got hit on by this guy about a year ago. He is friends with a lot of our friends. He made it pretty damn clear that he liked my GF. He asks my GF in front of me that they should do lunch. They never did but they did coffee later. Once I found out they did coffee I got really upset because my GF was the one that asked him for coffee. She claims she just wants to be his friend and that she doesn't want to do coffee with him again because it felt awkward because she kept talking about me at coffee and it was clear to him that we are very serious.\n\nNow fast forward to today. My GF has become snapshat friends with him. She watches his snapshat stories and she texts him through snapchat once and a while. She does this in front of me but it's only been a couple of times so far.\n\nI confronted her today about how I didn't like her texting a guy that likes her. She got upset and claims they are just friends because he hangs around with some of our friends. I said well I guess we will see how you feel when I am texting a girl that you know likes me. I'll put you in my shoes. She got pretty upset at that and I just laid off the subject.\n\nAnyways is this a non mormon thing? Is it my mormon upbringing thats making me think that this isn't appropriate? What do you guys think?", "summary": "gf has been snap chatting this guy that likes her. She refuses to stop doing it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3pb68j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] need help with possible first relationship", "post": "I'm in my freshman year of college and I met a girl in my computer engineering class. She's an international student from China, but shes fluent in English. We've mainly been talking about schoolwork, but she always makes it a point to sit next to me and talk. We then exchanged numbers and have been texting but it has primarily been about school, although we do have some conversations about other things. We have studied together twice and I could tell that shes probably in to me. I asked her out to a sandwich shop for lunch and she said yes. We had a good time and she asked me if I had a girlfriend and I asked if she had a boyfriend and we both said no. When we were walking back, she said she had to go to the market and that she would be leaving, I told her to wait and said that I wanted to go out again and that I liked her, although I was kind of awkward when I said it. She seemed to get really embarrassed and said yes really fast and walked away. Later, she texts me that she's sorry she reacted weird and that she likes me, but we've only known each other for a couple weeks and she doesn't know why I would like her. She says she wants to go out more and see what happens. I then proceed to text her the reasons why I like her.\n\nDid I do anything wrong? Any tips for the future? I'm not good with girls or with people in general, so I don't know if it was the right thing to tell her that I liked her the first time we went out.", "summary": "Bad with girls need advice on first date"}
{"id": "t3_3a46w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28/f) want to be friends with someone (30ish/m) at work", "post": "So there's a guy at my work that I've talked to occasionally. He seems really cool and he just moved here from another state.\n\nI've had a hard time making friends with other people at work since most in my department are a lot older and have kids and families.\n\nI'm also considering a move to another department eventually and I'd like to have some allies at work for when that happens. How to I make friends with him without it seeming like in interested in more than that?", "summary": "trying to make friends with specific people at work, not sure how to approach it without seeming creepy. Guy also has a girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4it16f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] Boyfriend [22M] [2 years] drinks way too much Coca-Cola and wont stop. Its becoming a problem", "post": "Throwaway because the boyfriend knows my account\n\nMy boyfriend is just amazing in every single way, like I cannot express my love for this boy enough. His a Law student, his gorgeous, we just click in every way. \n\nBut he has a problem. He drinks COPIOUS amounts of Coca Cola. He has a 6 shelf Fridge, the bottom 2 are dedicated to Coke. He even got Can Organisers so he can fit double the amount in there. He goes through 2 30 packs A WEEK, He has 30 packs stacked in his wardrobe. This has been going on for \n\nRemarkably his teeth are still white as pearls and he hasnt had any browning of the teeth or any stomach problems. How can I make him stop? He is so wired from the caffeine he doesnt go to bed until at least 2am. He has borrowed money when broke to buy CocaCola. I'm worried and dont know what to do", "summary": "Boyfriend drinks enough Cola to fill an ocean. How can I make him stop?"}
{"id": "t3_g1dwz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get our neighbors to stop *making* their dogs poop in our yard.", "post": "First post :)\n\nI am in college and live in a house literally bordering university property. Next door to us is a stand-alone apartment building with about 8 units inside (unaffiliated with the school).  \n\nRecently, a middle-aged (white trash) couple moved in with their 3 dogs.  Their apartment building has a small yard about the size of ours, however they always walk their dog over to our yard for them to poop, and then they leave it there.  Most of the time I see it through the window, and just as I get up enough courage to go confront them, they're gone.  Today, I came home while they were in the yard, gave her a \u0ca0_\u0ca0 and asked her politely \"if you're going to let them go here, please at least pick it up\" to which she said \"okay\" and yanked them all on their leashes back to their building.\n\n3 hours later, they're back at it, and not picking it up.  What can I do?  I thought about some sort of pet repellant, but I figured that I don't want to hurt the dogs or make their owners even more abusive to them for not pooping, but they seem to not care that it's property.", "summary": "Neighbors are having their dogs poop in our yard and not clean it up, how do I get back at them?"}
{"id": "t3_1pizul", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/M] am unsure how to resolve my insecurities with my girlfriend [22/F].", "post": "A little back story about me, I'm in the Army, have deployed to Afghanistan. So, I'm pretty mature for my age, I've seen a lot and been through quite a bit. I've had only a handful of girlfriends, all which ended pretty violently (verbally). All of them being unfaithful, which is where I'm sure my insecurities stem from. Anywho, onto my girlfriend, we've been together for about a year. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, she's sweet, caring, knows what to say when to say it, doesn't matter what time of day. The sex is great, we don't violently argue like any of the other girls. She helped me kick my ptsd to the curb, I still have some relapse nightmares. But over all she's amazing, hands down the best girl I've ever been with. However I'm having insecurities with her talking to other guys,I don't bring it up, I don't feel like she should have to deal with something that I'm having an issue with. I would help her through the same thing if the roles were switched but I'd like to try and figure this out by myself first before talking to her about it. She'll bring up that she talked to so and so, and instantly I'll jump to conclusions no matter who it is. One of her crossfit coaches hooked her up with a job interview and I got jealous. No idea why. She's a bit of a social butterfly, always happy, always helping others making them laugh and smile. Which attracts everyone, she sends out a good vibe. She's never done anything wrong, has never shown a sign of being unfaithful. So I'm not really sure why I'm having these feelings. How do you suppose I fix this insecurity of mine?", "summary": "Amazing girlfriend, I get jealous when she mentions talking to other guys. She's never shown any signs of unfaithfulness. We're perfectly happy, except for my personal insecurity."}
{"id": "t3_1lyeh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with my Girlfriend [18M/F] of 1 Month are having issues and I need help dealing with her past.", "post": "My past is relatively normal and I don't have alot of intense drama(other than losing 8 of my friends in 1 year but that's a story for another time). \n\nMy SO was born when her mother was 16, her dad was physically abusive and bother were intensive druggies. Her raising was aided by her grandparents that look down on her and see her as nothing more than a burden. She just started her first year at college and doesn't have any friends other than her ex who was her best friend before they started dating(They dated for 2 1/2 months). He has told me that he 100% plans to win her back from me. Oh here's the kicker, I'm going to school 100 miles away, her ex is not and she sees no problem hanging out with him, having him spend the night in her dorm...share her toothbrush. I trust her and I actually don't see anything happening but there's that pressure in the back of my head that's driving me insane. \n\nTomorrow is her Birthday and right now, shes at a party with her mom, aunt, and her ex.(she actually doesn't have any friends). She has serious self-worth issues and I don't want to tear her only friend away from her...but he drives me insane because he's kind of an asshole.\n\nThis might just be my way of venting so I don't blow up at her and drive her away because I actually really care for her and she takes drama very personal and blames herself. Oh and there are probably things that I'm just not remembering", "summary": "Girlfriend has self-worth issues that I don't completely understand and she feels completely alone so she hangs out with her ex bf(for almost 3months)/best friend(for about 2 years)"}
{"id": "t3_4cnqgh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my SO [17 F] of 6 months, can't decide if I should go to college or stay a year with her.", "post": "Me and my SO have been dating for about six months, but have known each other for a long time. Everything's going perfectly, have never met a better girl and could not be any happier. We plan on moving in together next year when she turns 18 because I'll be moving out and she's a junior in high school (dual enrolled at the community college), plus her parents aren't going to support her after high school anyways. (her parents are super strict and don't let her do much of anything. i.e. go on dates alone or have sleepovers).\n\nHowever, I recently got accepted into my number one choice for a university that is 8 hours away and I'm not sure if I should go and move away or stay back. There's definite pros of sticking around, such as not having to spend as much money to get my AA and being able to stay with my SO, but I don't want to regret my decision in the future. Is the college experience worth moving away and not saving money and being with my SO? On the other hand, will I regret going away and not saving money and being with my SO???", "summary": "Dating girl and everything's going perfect. Should I go to college and leave her, or stay here and live with her next year and save money?"}
{"id": "t3_v7li9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF cheated a month ago, found out last week, need help forgiving her.", "post": "First off i would like to say that I want to forgive her, but it's a lot tougher than I thought and I need your help.\n\nI have been dating my girlfriend for about 18 months now. We both go to the same school. She is around 20 and I'm 21.\n\nA little over 2 months ago, she started texting some guy she met a little more than I was comfortable with, I told her about it but she said it was nothing. But fast forward a week or so, she decided she was going to Vegas, which happens to be where the other guy was. Now up til then I had completely faith in her and I would never expect her to cheat on me. But 1 month ago, she went to vegas and she ended up drinking a bit too much and they ended up kissing at the club. As far as I know, thats all that happened. But they continued to talk after and she even referred him as a \"bf\" ( I saw her text messages with him). But after a week or two, they stopped talking and that is when i found out about what happened. When I confronted her, she was crying and I could tell that she was filled with regret. \n\nMost of my friends told me not to trust her, and not to forgive her. I guess i'm a fool to forgive her, but I believe everyone deserves a second chance.\n\nWe have talked almost everyday about it for the past 9 days, mostly just me unconsciously guilt tripping her and her apologizing. I realized that's not going anywhere, and it certainly doesn't help that I just pity myself all the time over it. She wants us to work out just as much as I do...\n\nso how did you forgive your cheating/lying significant others?", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me, I want to forgive her but its harder than I thought."}
{"id": "t3_3qvrx0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] Mom [52 F] thinks she caught me having sex with my boyfriend [24 M] and is angry", "post": "I'm not sure what to do here. I was giving my boyfriend a massage with oil. When I do, I take my clothes off except my underwear so I don't get oil on them. \n\n     My mom came home early, and I closed the door to my room and ran into another room to put on clothes. \n\n     She is very angry and doesn't want to talk. Just keeps calling me disrespectful, flat out says she doesn't believe me because she saw me putting my underwear on (they were never off). \n\n     She has known my boyfriend for a year, and knows he has been over every day for about 6 months ad not expressed any issue. Just asked he not come over at least one day a week so she can have privacy on a weekend.\n\n     I'm not sure how to deal with it, especially since she won't talk to me. I don't know how to convince her we weren't having sex (though she is aware that we do have sex, and has only said she wants me to be safe, nothing more), and I don't know if it even matters. Even if we were, we are both adults in a long term relationship (well over a year). \n\n     How do you deal with this as an adult? The only other time she has called me disrespectful was when she saw us cross legs when watching a movie. For some reason she has become very conservative about this relationship (my first with a man) but claims it has nothing to do with the homosexuality.\n\n     I don't understand what she is thinking or how to handle this. Obviously if I wasn't living with her this wouldn't be an issue, but my financial situation prevents this. So, what do I do besides \"not do it again?\"", "summary": "Mom thinks she caught me having sex and is upset. Refuses to talk about it."}
{"id": "t3_1891cw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asked out my dream girl - How do I keep it going if she's taking a trip?", "post": "So I (27/m) have worked with this girl (22/f) for 6 months, both of us are part time, always found her attractive, but I've never asked her out, just kind of went with the flow, jokes, small talk, all good.\n\nSo we worked a 6 hour shift last night and had a lot of great conversation and some back and forth flirting / playful teasing. \n\nAt the end of it all I asked her 'would you like to hang out sometime?' She said Maybe (while smiling) and that she was really busy the next few weeks, and going on a trip soon, but gave me her number anyway. I sent her a text an hour later to give her my number.\n\nMy question is: How can I get things going? Talk before her trip (which is in two weeks)? Wait until after? Text only? Call?\n\nThis is a one shot deal the way I see it, and if I didn't ask her out last night I may not even see her at work for another month.  If it doesn't go anywhere I'll be somewhat disappointed, but I'd like to see if I can keep things going and am willing to ask for whatever help I can get.\n\nAlso if I can get to a first date I'll be fine - no worries there!", "summary": "Asked out my dream girl, she said maybe, gave me her number, what do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_3exmrc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by licking too hard", "post": "Hello fellow Redditans and Redditettes, my fuck up came on a casual day. A day that almost every teenager or young adult goes through at some point in their lives. The day that I had my wisdom teeth removed. The procedure went pretty standard, they removed my teeth with no problem, and I was sitting in the operation chair higher than the Empire State building, when suddenly my tongue finds a long strand of one of my stitches. Of course they had explained to me prior to the procedure that messing with the stitches in any way can damage my gums and force me to return, but in my barely-conscious and narcotized state, I had no care for what I was told. So as they explained to my mother about how I should be eating and drinking the next few days, I sat there fiddling with the inside of my mouth like I had just eaten a mega-tub of popcorn. Now this is the real fuck up. As we were starting to leave, I decided to change the gauze in my mouth. Unluckily for me, pulling on my mouth tampon also *ripped* the stitch I had been messing with right out of my mouth (I have gingivitis so my gums were weak enough to begin with). As I screamed in the parking lot, my mother quickly rushed me back inside so my oral surgeon could fix my FU. Now I'm laying in bed drugged silly on a large dosage of pain killers and consciously stopping my tongue from wandering to that side of my mouth.", "summary": "I licked some, now I have no gum."}
{"id": "t3_3ng7us", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my wife [25 F] Cheated on me after 2 months of marriage", "post": "Reddit this is very hard for me to talk about, but I need to get it out there and get some advice. Im often to embarrassed to talk about it with anyone. Well in June I got married, we had been together for 3.5 years at that point. Well I found our she cheated on from photos I found. When I confronted her about it she told me one story, but that turned out to be a lie. She had been talking to this guy for way longer then she originally told me. I suspect it was going on even before the wedding. There were other guys too, but she says she was \"just talking to them\" I don't believe that. \n\nThis all happened maybe a month ago and I'm still here not knowing what to do. I know I should go get a lawyer and move on with my life, but part of me feels bad leaving her on her own. Though I know I shouldn't feel that way. I am not happy living with her still, we are both on the lease and she can't afford it on her own. I don't know how to deal with that, or any of this. I left the military not to long ago and am in college, and cause of this I know my grades are suffering. Its not good.", "summary": "Wife cheated after two months, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1a7o5h", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Petty Pitcher Putdown", "post": "This just happened about an hour ago during lunch. I'm an American studying in France and my friend and I went to the nearest cafeteria to eat.\n\nAs usual, the cafeteria is so crowded we go downstairs to a small cafe to find places to sit and eat. Luckily we spot a table of 4 get up and zoom over, right behind another girl. She sets her tray down and walks off to get a coffee, so we put our stuff down too and get on to eating. She returns:\n\n(in French) \"Uh, excuse me. I'm sitting here, this table is taken.\"\n\nThinking she's saving the spaces for her friends, we get up without a fuss and manage to squeeze up to a small end table that is just now available.\n\nThroughout the meal we notice she rebuffs more people that come over and realize she wants a 4-place table in a fully-packed cafeteria to herself!\n\nTowards the end of our meal she comes over to our table, asking if she can take our water pitcher. \n\nI smile, take the handle from her grasping hand and say:\n\n\"Uh, excuse me. I'm drinking from this, this pitcher is taken.\"", "summary": "enjoy your thirst, asshole."}
{"id": "t3_1qqwqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22/F] broke up with me [22/M] and i can feel the grief setting in. How can i move on?", "post": "I haven't had many relationships. I don't know why, i just haven't had a lot of girls. This one was incredible, she was everything you can ask for. Loved sex, played video games, hell even smoked pot. She was amazing to me and i didn't show her the appreciation she deserved. \n\nAbout two months ago, she got fed up and dumped me after nearly 3 years, which she called going on a break. We still hung out and even had sex a week ago. It seemed she was getting close. Until she called me a few nights ago and told me she wants me to be ok if she decides to not get back with me. I took that as the sign she wasn't going to give me another chance and i prepared for the worst. Tonight, i spoke from my heart. I told her i can't be her friend and she should feel free to drop me completely because i don't want to be her burden. She told me goodbye and we got closure. \n\nI feel happy because i at least recognize my mistake. I know this was my fault, as much as it hurts to think about. I just don't know what to do next. I didn't see myself with anyone else. I planned on being with her forever. Now, i don't know what to do. How do i move on? Food is disgusting to me, i can't enjoy being alone. All i do is think of her and wish for a miracle. Am i just sensitive? Has anyone felt like i do? How do i move on?", "summary": "I didn't appreciate my girlfriend so she dumped me. How do i move on?"}
{"id": "t3_48crwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [21 F] 3 years. Exotic trip planned by my parents. She purchased her own flight and still hasn't cancelled.", "post": "So my ex finished our relationship 2 months ago, we were together for three years.   \n\nSo the \"issue\" is as follows:   \n\nMy family plans a large exotic, expensive trip every summer and this year my family wanted her to join. (Paid by my family) She and I were excited to finally experience it together.  Fast forward a few months and she broke up with me.  The trip is still happening but she is not coming; my parents cancelled her room, obviously. \n\n   I happened to be looking at out flight info today. She bought her flight on her own and it seem she has not cancelled her flight.   Should I say something to her? or just let her deal with financial hit of not doing anything?", "summary": "Ex bought flight ticket for my family's trip on her own. She hasn't cancelled it for the trip in June. We broke up 2 months ago, should I say something to her?"}
{"id": "t3_2idgyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23m) having a hard time moving on from my 3 year relationship, been broken up with her (24f) for 2 months.", "post": "I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I had been dating my ex for 3 years. We had a very good relationship but in the end it came down to a difference in religion. I am agnostic she is Christian. \n\nWhen she broke up with me she said that even though she wanted to marry me and have kids with me that we couldn't because of our different beliefs. But she also said she is still completely on love with me. \n\nSince then we have had some contact still, I've done some begging and trying to convince her to change her mind but that obviously doesn't work. I went NC for about 17 days until I asked her to meet me for a drink. \n\nWe went out and had a lot of fun, basically pretended we were still dating. Holding hands, kissing, we ended up having sex and she said that she is still in love with me but we need to be apart for awhile. She kept saying we have a chance at being together again. Just now now. \n\nThen I went NC again for another 14 days until this weekend when I broke it again. The conversation was pretty much the same, that she is still in love with me but is enjoying being alone, and reconnecting with her old friends. And that she needs more time. \n\nI'm doing everything I can to let go and move on but it's so difficult to do when I know that we are both in love with each other. I'm trying to give her the space she is asking for but my mind is so overcome with emotion that I can't go too long without contacting her. \n\nI guess I just don't know what to do. Do I need to completely move on and forget about her? I obviously want to be with her still so I don't know how what to do when she tells me all of these things about us being together again after we \"find ourselves\"", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me because of religious differences but continues to tell me she is still in love with me and sees us having a chance together. What do I do moving forward?"}
{"id": "t3_3drqvz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Girlfriend treats me like 2nd best", "post": "I (16M) have been dating a girl, (16F) for about two months. We had been friends for about a year before dating and our relationship is going really well, with the exception of one issue. She is still very close to one of her ex-boyfriends (He has a new girlfriend who lives about an hour away). Although they didn't date for too long, they still see each other frequently, him almost never visiting his girlfriend but hanging out with mine almost as much or more than I do. I told her this made me uncomfortable and she got very upset, telling me she doesn't have feelings for him and was insulted that I thought she would \"jump ship\" so easily. So, for the past few weeks I've tried to come to terms with it, and support their friendship (For example, if I'm out of the house, I'll bring her lunch on my way home. If I know shes with her ex, I'll bring enough for the both of them and just avoided making waves about it), but recently I've been feeling like an obvious second best to her ex and it bothers me immensely. For example, I had asked if she wanted to see each other one afternoon as I would be away for a week doing volunteer work, but she chose instead to go to the beach with her ex. Another would be today; We had made plans about a week ago to see fireworks in one of the towns local parks, but they were cancelled last minute. I told her that I'd be happy to still hang out but she tells me she had already filled the time with her ex. I understand that it's a high school relationship and in the grand scheme of things means very little, and I don't want jealousy to end an otherwise fun and healthy relationship. But, the sting of 2nd best is starting to become too much for me handle and I'm seriously considering ending it", "summary": "Otherwise fun girlfriend prioritizes ex over me"}
{"id": "t3_kenzn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A guy who lives across the street called the cops on my family today after voices in his head told him to. What should I do?", "post": "I wasn't home when it happened, but my dad was. The police came to the house after this guy told them that there was a thin, young, brunette woman here who was going to kill herself. No one in my family fits that description, but the police were very concerned and told my dad that this guy who lives across the street went to them and described our house and told them that he heard from the voices in his head that this aforementioned imaginary person was going to kill themselves. \n\nNow, here's the deal, both my parents are worried and upset and now want this guy out of the neighbourhood, with my dad looking for an excuse to do something about it myself. I'm more worried and upset about this guy, since he obviously has some issues and needs help, but I don't know how I can get it for him and I don't know whether it's a good idea to try and talk to him.", "summary": "Crazy guy calls cops on my family, I want to help, not hurt. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ai6x7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(20) of one year wants to take a break from me m (22). What should I do in the meantime?", "post": "Let me begin by saying I would absolutely marry this girl. I know that life happens and nothing is written in stone, and we've got a lot to work through before we get to that point. But I still feel that we work incredibly well together. Now for some backstory: for the last few weeks she's been getting more and more depressed. We go to the same school for theatre and are in all the same classes so I know exactly what she's going through. Its a lot of emotionally taxing and time consuming work and I think she feels like she doesn't have any independance or time to herself. This last week was our one year anniversary, and since then she has cried every day because we have been fighting. I think that taking a break is a good idea. But my biggest fear is that she'll realize that she is happier without me. I know she loves me so much, and she has also expressed interest in marrying me one day. Here's the kicker in all of this: like I mentioned before, we have almost all of our classes together, every day. How can I give her space, and how should I act? How should I cope for myself?", "summary": "Depressed girlfriend(20) wants to take a few weeks off the relationship, but I'm m(22) going to see her every day and we will probably have to work with each other. How should I cope?"}
{"id": "t3_pp2v1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Mom is suddenly desperate for us to spare my judgey, homophobic grandparents from any emotional discomfort. Why does this make me so mad?", "post": "For my entire life my maternal grandparents have been openly disappointed in everything their offspring, son-in-law and grandchildren have done. To boil our situation down to a few basic examples: My Mom married a blue-collar worker (my grandfather treats my Dad like he is a moron because he fixes cars for a living), my uncle is gay, I have lots of tattoos am an opinionated liberal and make my money working in retail while my brother quit college to make money hand over fist tending bar for a living. (We are all very happy with our choices BTW.)\n\nOver the years they have said countless cruel things such as telling my uncle that it would have been better if he had just kept his being gay to himself. However, as of late I've been having these huge arguments with my mother because she suddenly wants us all to stop sharing with them any details of our lives that they might find upsetting. (Her thought process being that they are getting older and our sharing said information would just cause them un-necessary discomfort.) SUDDENLY I HAVE TO WALK ON EGG SHELLS TO PROTECT THEIR DELICATE FEELINGS?!? \n\nReddit, am I wrong to be so pissed with her or should I just play along.?", "summary": "My hater grandparents are getting old; my Mom is now demanding that we be respectful of their age and not upset them."}
{"id": "t3_ovn0o", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Ex has started to post pictures online of her new hickeys...", "post": "We broke up on Valentine's Day last year, were FWB until she left for college, and had sex/dinner/hanging out when she was home on break. She(18) is under the impression I(20) don't read her stupid Tumblr, but she posted two pictures gloating about how awesome it is to have hickeys all over her neck. I know it's immature, but it just stings and makes me sick to my stomach. I'd been there for this girl for 2.5 years, especially her social woes at her new school, and I feel betrayed at how silly she looks and is making me look (old and current friends are acquaintances, have been bringing this up sort of). I deleted her number from my phone (as if I'd forget it) and plan to ignore all of the incoming texts. She lives 1,000 miles away, so at least I can pretend she doesn't exist here.", "summary": "Ex-gf is showing off what she's doing with the new guy, I want to kill everyone."}
{"id": "t3_1xoxtq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] lied to girl [18/F] I went out with about my age. Didn't think I'd like her, but I sort of do now and can't stop thinking about the lie.", "post": "She is a freshman in college and I am a junior. I got her number a the cafe and we went out during the weekends. At first, I didn't think much of it, but now I think she's actually really cool and someone I would want to have around. However, during our date, I lied to her about my age and year. I told her I was 19 y/o and a sophomore when I'm actually 20 y/o and a junior. I didn't think she'd want to go out with me if she thought I was that old. We're gonna go out this weekend and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Met 18 y/o freshman at cafe. We go out. Tell her I'm a 19 y/o sophomore when I'm a 20 y/o junior. Like her now and don't know what to do. We're going out this weekend."}
{"id": "t3_3wg53n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Nothing to complain about....but [23M]", "post": "I've recently graduated art school (BA Hons) as a photographer and fine artist. Last month I quit my restaurant job, that I'd worked at since beginning university and began working as a product photographer for a local independent clothing company. The pay isn't amazing (20k net) but I certainly can't complain. I can pay my rent, put food on the table and still have money to treat myself and my SO [21F].\n\nMe and my girlfriend now live together in a shared house with 5 other people. Essentially I moved into her student let, pay half the rent and it's all plain sailing. \n\nWe have been together for just over a year, and our relationship is seemingly healthy, yet I can't help but feel like everything is a little beige. Magnolia. Blank. \n\nSure, we see each other every night after work and spend most of the weekend together. Our sex-life has declined, on my part, seemingly due to a lack of libido. Maybe once a week, it used to be daily for sure in the first 6 months or so. \n\nLike I say, I have nothing to complain about - but I feel a little empty and a little trapped. I say I love her, and I care for her so much. When we have a good relaxing time at the weekend everything is great. \n\nI feel like a jerk for having the desire to escape it all and be with other women and try new things. \n\nAny advice, as much as that's worth, would be appreciated and interesting to read.", "summary": "one year relationship seems to lack excitement and spark - but there's no real apparent 'problem' - advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2qp253", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my two front teeth for Christmas.", "post": "Okay so I didn't really get both my front teeth but I couldn't pass up the title and as most TIFU post begin, mine too starts with a little backstory. I'll try to be quick.\n\nSo in the 6th grade I was on my way to school on my bike just as I would do any other day. Suddenly, and I shit you not, some jackass I had never met decided to kick me off of my bike. I wasn't expecting this and so when he kicked the peg of my bike I swerved too hard and as my front tire went perpendicular I flew off the bike, and onto the pavement, teeth first. Luckily my teeth only had some cracks in them and they really weren't noticeable. My lip on the other hand was split wide open but that part isn't important to the post.\n\nSo here I am about a week ago at my friends house having a few beers and taking shots while playing a Mario kart drinking game when some more people show up so we're gonna go to Gamestop to get more controllers. (Sober driver drove, obviously) While walking out of his room my friend looks up and blows on the plastic piece of those pull strings that you use to let down the foldable attic stairs, you know what I mean. (I added a photo of the one in my house but it doesn't have the plastic piece) In any case it shoots up the string and makes it quite high and so I, in my infinite tipsy wisdom decided to beat his \"record\". Now I'm shorter than my friend by a few inches and I know there's no way I'll beat his \"record\" if my breath dissipates before it reaches the plastic handle thing. Naturally this prompts me to jump a bit off the ground so as to compensate for the height difference. I hop, I push with my breath, I only get the plastic piece a few inches up the string. This is followed by me closing my mouth on the way down from the hop and the plastic piece hooking on the back of my tooth and shattering it. The next day I went to the dentist and had my tooth bonded. My mother said it was a Christmas gift.", "summary": "TIFU by getting tipsy, \"competing\" with my friend, shattering part of my tooth, and getting it for Christmas."}
{"id": "t3_2qiw4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [24M] always seems to be on his cellphone whenever we [22F] spend time together.", "post": "Just a little info, we've been together for about 6 months.\n\nMy bf tends to always be on his cellphone when we're spending time together- be it hanging out, in the car or going for dinner. Quite often we'd be out having a meal and he'd be reading reddit or browsing the internet on his cellphone. Unfortunately, this means that most of the time, he would be on his cellphone while we engage in conversation; sometimes he would look up at me while we talk but at other times his eyes would still be glued to the screen. At first I didn't mind it much, but as it continued it has slowly begun to annoy me just a bit...\n\n I'm pretty sure that its just a benign habit of his but is it wrong of me to feel slightly pushed aside and annoyed with him being on his cellphone a lot of the time during our times spent together? I have no issue with the occasional texts but he just seems to always be browsing..the internet on his cellphone while I'm trying to get him to focus and engage more in the activities we're doing :(", "summary": "BF is always on his cellphone browsing internet/reddit during our dates. What exactly is proper cellphone etiquette?"}
{"id": "t3_1hi75m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27/F] fiance [30/M] is moving in with me in 3 weeks. I am terrified. Help!", "post": "I have been with my fiance for 5 years. We met while I was an undergrad and we lived near each other. Then he moved pretty far away for a job. We maintained a LDR for the last two years, and now he is finally coming back. He is moving in with me in three weeks.\n\nThe thing is, I've lived alone for all of my adult life. I am used to having my own space and I am an extremely private person. I'm getting more and more anxious as the date gets closer. As he moves things in, I just see MY space being taken up. I know it's not my space, it's our space. But I can't help but see it as an invasion. I am dreading the mismatched furniture and the mismatched dishes. His books intermingling with mine on the bookshelves. He wants me to get rid of cable. He wants me to rearrange things. He doesn't want my cats in the bedroom anymore. I guess I feel like I am going to be pushed out of my own space.\n\nI love him. I want to be with him, and I want to have a healthy attitude about living with one another. I am just so anxious about it. Does anyone have any tips on how to make this transition go a little more smoothly?", "summary": "I am very nervous about moving in with my fiance. Need tips to make it go smoothly."}
{"id": "t3_36u79m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] who is obsessed with reddit and its driving me crazy.", "post": "I would like to note that reddit is great and an amazing resource. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months and he's great and I love him. Except for the fact that he is on reddit for the majority of the time he is awake. I get he loves it and I get he finds stuff interesting but its non stop. We go to college together but live an hour away in the summer so we skype a lot. And every time we skype he goes on reddit while we are talking and I often have to repeat stuff. I've told him that I don't care if he browses reddit but I find it rude when he does it while we are talking. I wouldn't care that much if it was just during casual conversation but he does it even if we are fighting or I'm upset about something.  This weekend we were out with our friends and he sat on his phone the entire time on reddit. I know that he loves it and I think reddit is great too but he would rather sit in his room than go out on dates with me or see his friends. I guess I just wanted to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and could give me some advice on how to handle it. \n\nI would also like to note the irony of me asking reddit for help :)", "summary": "Love reddit and my boyfriend but he is obsessed with being on reddit 24/7"}
{"id": "t3_yhbof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] slept with my friend's [20F] crush [20M]", "post": "I [20F] slept with [20M] whom my [20F] friend of 1 year has a small crush on. To make this situation worse, I tried to set my friend and her crush up. It wasn't a one night stand sort of deal and consequently I am seeing him this afternoon. I don't know what to say/do. I'm afraid of losing my friend and the friends I have with her. Should I avoid the details and just tell her he's not interested, keeping the rest a secret until it dies out? Do I do the right thing and tell her what happened, accepting that I made a mistake and will lose a friend?\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Afraid of losing friends after sleeping with a girl's crush. Need advice"}
{"id": "t3_29al17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [21M] have only been together 2 years, and I really really want to get married! Is this far too early to contemplate?", "post": "I just can't stop thinking about it. I know I want to marry him in the future but it's not just that, I just love the idea of getting married and I just feel like I'm ready for this. \n\nAm I throwing myself into this far too fast? \n\nWhen I think about it, I knew him for a year before we got together where we were close friends, 3 years doesn't seem that long in all honesty it just feels so right. \n\nAnd yes I know I'm only 20, but seriously, I haven't wanted anything more.\n\nI'm not contemplating asking him. I'm just wondering if this is far too early to even be thinking about? \n\nI mean we have talked about it before, it's not like the conversation scares him away cause he's pretty into the whole idea of marriage, I feel ready and I feel I've known him all my life, we have lived together since we have started going out cause we were still at University, but is 3 years too early to make such a massive decision?", "summary": "Wondering if marrying after 3 years is too soon."}
{"id": "t3_52wvw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] starting to feel like a booty call with my boyfriend of 3 months [36 M]", "post": "So I started dating my boyfriend then 3 months ago we made it official that we didnt want to see anyone else apart from each other. \n\nRecently though it's been getting on my nerves he would go an entire day without even a message to ask how I am or anything. He just seems to show no interest anymore. \n\nHe is a busy guy with a busy job which I understand but it takes 2 seconds...and he never texts until nearly 10 at night when he asks do I want to \"come around to his house\"\n\nIt's actually starting to hurt my feelings. Am I being a booty call to my own boyfriend? Or am I being too demanding with wanting a simple bit of interest and effort from his part. \n\nPlease please be honest! \n  \n\nAll advice is much appreciated", "summary": "Boyfriend only wants to see me late at night, am I a bootycall?"}
{"id": "t3_218bt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 1.5y, I cheated, she found out, we're stuck in a loop.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMe (21M) and my girlfriend (26F) have been together for about a year and a half.\n\nI kissed another girl about 2 months ago, she found out about a month and a half ago and we've been on a break ever since.\n\nShe's trying to get over it, but seems unable to. Every time we set up a time to see each other, she bails out at the last minute.\n\nI understand she needs time and space - she told me that, I tried giving her space and time, but everytime she starts talking to me again, I am so happy to talk to her that I end up being intense and a little too dependant.\n\nI keep fucking up. I am unable to go slow. I feel as though she isn't trying, she's walking away. \nI don't want to lose her - I love her so very much.\nI won't leave her - and she says she won't leave me either, that she's unable to. She doesn't know why.\n\nWe're in a weird state, where we both want, but I keep screwing up and she can't show me she wants to.\nShe says she needs time to work on herself, but I have a lot of trouble giving her the time she needs.\nI feel played, I feel toyed, I don't know what to do.\nI want to help, but she doesn't want my help.\nIt's affecting my job, it's affecting my mind. I have panic attacks at night.\n\nI guess I don't really have a question, just needed to vent it out a little.\n\nThanks for reading, reddit.", "summary": "Kissed another girl. Girlfriend found out. On a break since. We both want to stay together, but she needs time and space, which I am having a hard time giving her."}
{"id": "t3_kvoaq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend of two years just recently started ignoring me. Am I being paranoid?", "post": "I don't get this at all.\nWe've been friends for two years. Simply put by being his friend I was in the cool crowd without having to be a total doucheface or anything. But that wasn't the reason I was his friend, it was cause we both played minecraft and toribash and both knew what a trollface was and shit, and we just tried to make eachother laugh. Lately though I've felt like he's ignoring me. We got put in seperate homerooms but we still see eachother in half the rotations. In math we were goofing around across the room with the whiteboards and markers that were supplied. We laughed a bit. And typically after school we'll talk on skype and play shit, and pause when we want to watch youtube or do something else. For the past few days we haven't been using skype. And just today when he was bringing a mutual friend over to his house, he decided to take another path, even though I could've walked with him as our houses are on the same path.\nSorry if I'm sounding like a girl with all the complaining. I just want to be friends again.", "summary": "best friendz omgomgomg yayaya talk on skype after school, lately been not friends. not sure if paranoid or he hates me or what."}
{"id": "t3_370a7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F with my 37M coworker 1+ year; He has been infatuated with me for the past year and I'm thinking about giving him a shot. However, there's some issues including race and him being separated.", "post": "I have been working with Steve* for a little over a year. He has always been obviously fond of me and has brought me coffee/breakfast etc. in the past. He asked me for my number about 7-8 months ago and I kind of blew him off.\n\nHere lately he has been trying again to get me to talk to him, so I caved and gave him my number. Turns out, we actually have a lot in common and we have been having great conversation the past few days. He is being pretty obvious about the fact that he really likes me and is looking for something serious.\n\nHowever.... he is still technically married. He is separated to be exact. And he's a coworker. He's a manager in his department and I'm an assistant manager in a different department. Our company doesn't necessarily frown on interoffice relationships though and he's not in a position of authority over me. \n\nI just don't know what to do. I don't know if this is a can of worms I should open, or if I should just go with my gut - I feel like this could be a really good thing.\n\nAnother facet of this is that I'm white and I've never dated a black man (he's black). I have dated outside my race, but just not a black guy. *Please read on, this becomes relevant.* It definitely wasn't due to lack of attraction - it just happened that way. \n\nHe asked me if I had ever dated a black guy before (he's black) and I said that I hadn't. I asked him if he'd ever dated a white girl before and he said he actually prefers white women. Is this a fetish thing? That's another concern I'm having. \n\nWhat do you think, reddit?", "summary": "Coworker has been infatuated with me the past year, I finally gave him my number, now I'm conflicted about if I should pursue anything."}
{"id": "t3_33tedr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lost both of my [21M] Grandparents this week. A little lost.", "post": "My grandma passed a couple of days ago. Today is the day of her funeral & I got the news that my grandpa died this morning. I have no idea how to react. I love both of my grandparents dearly & would do anything in the world to have them back. It's almost as if I don't believe it because I've never experienced anything like this before. These are the first family deaths I have ever experienced. The worst part is I feel so horrible for my dad and I have no idea what to do to make him feel better after just losing both of his parents. I've literally been hugging him non-stop this morning. I want to cry with him but I can't & idk why. I feel like a horrible person because everyone around me is so upset and crying and I'm sitting here in shock and disbelief.", "summary": "Lost both of my grandparents and have no idea how to react to it."}
{"id": "t3_2ij0gv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] was introduced to my roommate's [25 M] crush [23 F] and she's more interested in me.", "post": "Had a party two weeks ago. Roommate brings over girl he's been crushing on since summer. I wasn't really hitting on her, but the girl and I connected pretty well. Roommate gets drunk and tells me she's fair game when her and her friends leave.\n\nSince then we've gone on two dates, and he discovered this last weekend. He gets blackout drunk to the point of belligerence, calls me selfish, self-absorbed, and ultimately victimizes himself.\n\nI realize I'm in the wrong for not telling him about the dates, and I plan to apologize for that. But if he was never was in an intimate relationship with her, should I really feel that bad?", "summary": "Roommate introduces me to crush, her and I hit it off, he's now pissed. Did I fuck up?"}
{"id": "t3_1gm3eq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I 21F cannot tell if the guy 20M I am interested in is actually interested in me.", "post": "Heeeeeres the summary:\n\nWe go to the same university - he is 1 year below me.  At the end of fall semester before I left for study abroad during one of the uni wide parties I drunk FB chat him from my phone and get him to come \"hang out\" in my room at around 2 am.  I was booty calling him since I was leaving, he thought were were hanging out and we just chatted in my room for an hour or so. [Made this meme about it.](\n\nDuring my study abroad we chat on occasion, I think he is quite funny but he is very shy.  I am back in the US now interning in NYC and I find out that he is also interning in NYC.  We have hung out twice in the city, walking around and talking for a a couple hours each time, each of which have ended with a brief hug.  \n\nSo, I really can't tell what is up, its frustrating to me since I could be dating in the city if I wanted to but I'm focusing on this.", "summary": "The guy I'm into is shy, we hang out alone (just the two of us) occasionally, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xyhnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "FWB suddenly lost interest?", "post": "So, I [20 f] had plans to hang out with my fwb [19 m] of about a month last night, which he blew off. When I asked him about it he said we could hang out today instead which I was fine with. He was ignoring me for a while and then just said he didn't want to see me anymore, totally out of the blue, because we \"never had much in common.\" (???) I kind of pressed him a little bit because I was confused and he gave me the whole it's not you thing, saying he just had no desire to hang out anymore but didn't know why. I really don't understand, as I saw him just a few days ago and we had sex and hung out for a long time it seemed fine. When I asked him about that he said he felt similarly then as well, which was pretty upsetting, and made me feel used and just generally pretty shitty. I just don't understand what's going on here and my efforts to talk about it have been ignored. My own insecurities make me feel like it's something I did or maybe he's not attracted to me. Is he being honest with me?", "summary": "fwb says he's suddenly lost interest but doesn't know why; is he being honest and is there anything I can do to salvage this?"}
{"id": "t3_pblwb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What do I do? I need life advice.", "post": "Hello,\n\nReddit, what do I do?\n\nMy girlfriend left me. I am lost. \n\nBackground: I am a full time office worker and full time student (mba). I was in a long distance, 8 month relationship and we broke up because of the distance. I am having trouble moving on. We broke up a few weeks back and we tried to be friends but it failed. I still have feelings for her but I blocked her on Facebook and I am working on moving on. However, I have this constant stress, often with dull chest ache and random pangs of sadness and pain.\n\nI cant stop thinking about her. I am fairly new here so I don't have very many friends or family, and no car. \n\nWhat do I do? How do I distract myself and move on? I feel very alone. I might be depressed, I don't know.\n\nPlease give me some advice Reddit, my last couple weeks have been the worst in my life.", "summary": "feeling lost in life"}
{"id": "t3_p5td6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear AskReddit what is your weirdest/worst childhood memory?", "post": "Mine was when I was a young tacker at the age of six, I was at the bus stop waiting after school with a young lass I was attempting to court. She said \"Can we kiss?\" overjoyed I went straight for it, whilst this was going on, a seagull pooed and it actually landed on our mouths just as we were leaning in...she ran away.\n\nAnother time in pre-school, during nap time, our teacher yelped \"who did a poo?\" The smell was quite strong and no one had owned up. So due to this, the teacher said she would check each and every one of us so she could clean them up. The thought of this actually made me shit myself and I was really nervous, lucky for me, a little boy with a crusty nose was the culprit so afterwards I quickly ran and cleaned myself up.", "summary": "A bird crapped on my face and the poo dilemma."}
{"id": "t3_2x4ctn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] asked out a [21 F], can I let you know response", "post": "So recently I have been texting back and forth with a girl I meet over the internet. Things have been going great, we have a lot in common and have been texting almost everyday for over a week. She is a very busy student in her last year of a nursing program and seems to always be very busy but does make time to text me back. \n\nYesterday I got up the courage to ask her out for a coffee this weekend. She told me that she has work placement and couldn't do this weekend. I suggested we do some other time in the next week or two. She responded with \"My schedule is really hectic now, can I let you know?\" I said sure.\n\nNow i'm trying to decide if something like this is worth pursuing further. I feel I might just stop texting her and put the ball in her court. I guess my question is haas anyone here ever had a girl tell them they will let them know and actually get back to them?\n\nAny responses would be greatly appretiated\n\nThanks", "summary": "Asked out a girl I have been texting with for over a week, got an \"can I let you know?\" response. Not sure if worth pursuing further"}
{"id": "t3_1s4qok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [28/F] feeling used by long time friend [29/F]", "post": "I've been friends with \"Liz\" for several years now, but we've grown apart over the last few years and have only hung out about 2 or 3 times a year within the past couple of years. It seems that whenever I want to get together with her for drinks or shopping, she is never available. Within the last year, she has invited me to events like her birthday, housewarming party, and as of recently her baby shower which will be next month. I find it kinda funny how all these events seem to require me to bring her some sort of gift...\n\nAnyway, I'm debating about whether or not to go to her baby shower next month. Just this last weekend she told me that she wanted to hang out with me, but then \"something came up\" and she couldn't. The same thing happened last month. She always tells me that she wants to get together and when I invite her out, she \"can't\" make it. So I'm really fed up with it and I don't even want to go to her baby shower now.\n\nAnyway, do you think I'm in the wrong if I decide not to go? I would have no problem going if she treated me like a friend again, but I'm starting to feel used or something... Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Friend who always blows me off wants me to go to her babyshower and IDK if I should go"}
{"id": "t3_jhu6i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF's Mother coming to visit and we hate each other (x-post from /relationships)", "post": "I am M22 dating a F20, and we moved to a new city together about a year ago.\n\nThe GF's mother will be coming out to stay for about a week, which has me in a pure panic state. This woman is severely bi-polar (though doesn't believe it, she comes from the old psych is evil way of thinking) and has a tendency to hate me.\n\nShe controlled my girlfriend for her entire young life using such kindly methods of telling her she never loved her, and packing all of her things up and saying she has to leave if she wasn't outright just beating her. Keep in mind, in these situations it was usually because she couldn't find the proper pan for cooking stir fry or such. Unfortunately soon after I began this current relationship, the GF had a way out and therefore her mother lost all power over the GF, and all of a sudden it was all flowers and giggles. And for those of you who have been in this situation before, you know exactly what else comes with this scenario; she began to make light of everything that happened prior between the GF and her, saying it was all \"just how families work.\" and unfortunately, the GF now takes everything she says as gospel because this is the first time they have ever been so friendly to each other. At the same time she was trying to hide the past, all of her now undirected anger came down on me, saying I am controlling, stupid, lower than dirt etc.\n\nSo now we arrive to the current situation, she will be here in a few days, sharing a small apt with us, and judging and building up her arsenal. Are there any methods I should be using here to help either diffuse situations are hell if possible to turn the tides on her other than just being extremely nice.", "summary": "The spiteful mother is coming to town and we will be sharing a 400 sq/ft apt."}
{"id": "t3_3q87cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17 M) am thinking about getting back together with my ex gf (17 F). Is this wise? I've heard mixed things..", "post": "HEAR ME OUT FIRST BEFORE DISMISSING ME AS SOME IDIOT TEENAGER PLEASE.\nAnyway, hello! As the title says, i am thinking about getting back together with my ex gf. We dated a little while my freshman/sophomore year (if that even really counts) and broke up because a past boyfriend of hers came over to her house to hang out, and he ended up kissing her, and she kissed him back. She was open with me about it and told me straight up. I told her no hard feelings, but we werent going to be a thing anymore. Anyways, fast forward through all that freshman BS to this year. \n\nWe have been talking a lot this past year (we see each other almost every day in marching band) We have both matured in many ways. We have talked out our differences in the relationship because she felt AWFUL and never forgave herself for giving me up in the way she did. Anyways, we hung out on band contest days and have spent a reasonable amount of time with each other, and eventually we both told each other recently that we still have strong feelings for each other. I have heard mixed things from dating an ex, so does anyone have insight on dating an ex you can share with a fellow homie? Thanks in advance", "summary": "Thinking about getting back together with my ex after a long break between last relationship. Should i do it or no?"}
{"id": "t3_wxsqa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Classic Scenario- Fiance and I have plans to attend a party, I'm sick, want him to stay home with me, but he wants to go to the party. Am I wrong in thinking he's being a douche?", "post": "So, there's a party almost two hours away, we're both meant to attend. It's just an outdoor party with our friends, it's held every year. Outdoors, hot sun beating down, pigs roasting, ice cold beer. Awesome.\n\nHowever, I get migraines a lot of the time, and today happens to be a horrible migraine day. My migraines can make me so sick that I'll throw up. Being out in the hot sun, around cigarette smoke and loud party people isn't really ideal for me today.\n\nI don't want to miss out, and I haven't seen my fiance in three days due to a business trip, and want to just lay on the couch and cuddle, watch a movie.\nHe wants to go to the party. I can't ask him to stay home with me, or else he'll think I'm guilting him into staying and consider me controlling.\n\nI really want him to have a good time, but damn, it'd be nice if he could at least offer to stay home with me. He doesn't even have to take care of me, I just wanted to be around him.\n\nSo, instead, I'm getting dressed and ready to go drive two hours to a party, to sit out in the sun, so I can be with him.\n\nAm I being a total baby, and wrong in thinking he's being a bit of a dickhead?\nI don't want to bring it up to him if I'm just actually being a bitch. Give it to me straight, Reddit.", "summary": "I'm sick, my fiance will either go to the party without me and leave me at home sick, or I can go with him and be sick at the party. He won't even leave with me, but says I can take the car home so he can stay the night there.***"}
{"id": "t3_5349hx", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Stuck in a college I hate that doesn't have the major that I want to pursue. Low GPA preventing me from transferring anywhere else. Feeling hopeless and trapped.", "post": "Going to keep it as short and simple as I can. \n\nI got accepted to my safety school, and immediately wanted to transfer out to a better school after freshman year. Bit off more than I could chew and took too many challenging courses and ended up going under academic probation. Having a low GPA, lacking a social life, and commuting from home took it's toll on me. 2 years of pursuing majors and taking classes solely on making money and impressing my parents has left me with a piss poor GPA, and only this year did I get diagnosed with severe depression and ADHD. Did some soul searching, realized I want to major in interior design. Unfortunately for me, my school doesn't offer interior design and the programs in my state that do are very competitive to get into. \n\nEven if I ace this fall and spring semester, my GPA will barely be above a 3. I am currently in my junior standing pursuing some business degree bullshit, but I really don't want to do this. I'm miserable right now, feeling like I wasted 2 years of my life. So many people from my high school graduating class who came to this school transferred out after the first year or semester because of how boring and terrible the school is and are living it up at my state's flagship school pursuing what they love, I just feel so left out. My school doesn't have much to offer in terms of campus life, school spirit, and everyone just goes home on the weekends. I just feel like I'm still going to high school. I feel trapped, alone, severely depressed, and can't deal with all these people telling me to suck it up and pursue a real major. \n\nWhat are my options?", "summary": "I found out what I wanted to do in life, but 2 years worth of terrible GPA is preventing me from transferring to a college that offers my major. I'm miserable at my school, and feel stuck. Can't fathom pursuing a degree I hate for 2-3 more years. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2e1k5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure I'm strong enough", "post": "[Relationship] My husband and I have been married for 2 years together for longer. I'm 23f and he is 22m. We have two beautiful daughters together. He is military and that's hard sometimes. I work full time and go to school, plus we have the kiddos and two pups. So i do stay busy when hes gone or deployed. Originally when we had gotten together, he had said he was going to get out after his first enlistment. After we got married, it slowly started turning into him wanting to stay in until retirement. I will stand by him in whatever he chooses. I knew what I was getting into when I married him, so please don't say it. I love my husband and family more than anything. I have no desire to cheat. There are days though when getting up and going on seems like more than I can take. He once told me maybe I just wasn't cut out to be a military wife. At the time, that broke my heart but now I can't shake the thought what if he was right? When we have to be separated due to military and can't even talk, it feels like it puts a huge distance in our relationship.  I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this other than advice maybe. Advice on how to be strong and stay connected even when we can't be together or communicate.", "summary": "I love my husband but maybe he was right and I'm not cut out for being a military wife."}
{"id": "t3_1esoat", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[26] cheated on my girlfriend[26] and got busted, is there hope for a future between us?", "post": "I was using drugs and drinking a lot(not an excuse, I'm quite aware of that) and made some terrible decisions.  I cheated on my longtime girlfriend [7 years] and she found out one night when I was passed out.  She went through my texts and saw one I had received from the _other woman_.  \n\nI've recently admitted to myself, and her, that I have a problem with substance abuse.  I regret cheating on my girlfriend more than anything I've ever done in my entire life.  I have been sober for a month, but every day that goes by the guilt and strain on our relationship seems to build.  I'm just looking for any advice possible, thanks for reading.", "summary": "I cheated on my GF, we're still together, but we're hanging on by a thread."}
{"id": "t3_4nhgjp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking it was Thursday", "post": "This actually happened today.\nI'm in my first semester at uni and currently have a part time job. We're in student vacation right now because it's exam period, so I've been really caught up in my study. \nBasically the fuck up is I somehow managed to go a whole day thinking it was Wednesday when it was really Thursday. I spent the day in the uni library, got home late and went to sleep. Yes I know, I'm an idiot. I have work on Fridays and Sundays so I get woken up by a phone call from my manager asking me where I was. Queue confused me, who's still new to this job stuttering my way around a legitimate reason as to why I wasn't at work. I end up spitting out that I could get there in the next hour and she says \"dont come\" and hangs up. \nI'm going to have to see her on Sunday, and I have no idea what I'm going to say (any advice would be nice friends).", "summary": "I thought it was Thursday when it was actually Friday and I didn't go to work. Manager called and was unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_vhg18", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sudden increase of ants in bathroom, where do they come from and how do I get rid of them?", "post": "Okay, this just happened recently and I should've took a picture but I was freaking out too much and washed all of them off. If you don't believe me, fine, but for those who have any idea about this please answer. \n\nSo I just got back yesterday from a holiday (12 days trip). I took a bath directly after I got back but there were no signs of ants, only a little bit. Anyway, I just got out of the shower but this was what happened: \n\nI was washing my hair when I felt something crawling on my legs. I thought they were just water droplets that were on my legs and were just hanging around then suddenly, I felt the crawling sensation going up not down and found it strange cause the last time I checked, gravity was still in place. So I looked down and I saw 2 ants crawling on me. Wtf? I know right anyway, I didn't find it that strange as there have been a few ants in my bathroom before the trip (like i see 3 a day). Okay after I washed them off I saw 5 ants in front of me and they were all running towards the left and that's when I saw it. **LIKE OVER 200+** (not exaggerating) **ants running away up the wall to a hole** (where their home are I guess.) AND I WAS PANICKING/TERRIFIED IDK I WAS JUST SO SCARED and I know I should've taken a picture but I was so freaked out and I washed all of them off. Jesus! Despite telling my parents, they were all like \"You washed them off didn't you? That's fine then\" and \"You're a guy, act more manly\". BUT THAT'S NOT THE POINT REDDIT D; I was so shocked. I never eat in my room or the bathroom so I'm really confused plus scared as I have seen some ants coming into my bedroom. So if you guys have any advice or whatever, please help. I don't feel safe in this place anymore knowing that a shitload of ants are nearby.  \n\nFYI, I live on the 3rd floor of my house.", "summary": "Came back from a holiday to find my bathroom with shitload of ants crawling ~~everywhere~~ in the shower area"}
{"id": "t3_3w0jq3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend(18/M) wants to buy me(16/F) a bunch of stuff but I feel bad about that.", "post": "He's my first real official boyfriend. I like him alot. We haven't been able to see each other because of distance and lack of licenses. But almost every time we talk he ask me if I want him to buy me stuff like clothes. On one had yes I want the stuff on the other hand I like him and he's worth more to me than just stuff. I'm not sure if I should just let him buy me stuff or if I should keep rejecting the offers. I feel guilty anytime anyone buys me stuff so he's no different maybe even more. I don't have a job so I can't give back. I wouldn't feel as guilty if I could buy him stuff too. Advice?", "summary": "my boyfriend keeps offering to buy me stuff and I feel guilty accepting the offer so I keep regecting the offer."}
{"id": "t3_4srr9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] need help committing to separation..", "post": "Hey guys.\n\nSo I've been in a relationship for about a year and a half, and I can honestly say that this relationship is toxic. When we're together everything is perfect, we get along perfectly. However, when we're apart for more than a day we seem to bump heads about everything! We can literally go from having a decent conversation, to screaming at each other in minutes! What's worse is that she and I both know that we are stuck in this relationship because she and I have grown together a lot. Ive tried to leave before, but after a week of separation, I find myself wanting her back. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is.. What exactly is holding me back? Why can't I stay away from her? Is there any way to overcome this? :( \n\nThanks!!", "summary": "Can't stay separated from my girlfriend, but am sick of the constant arguing."}
{"id": "t3_xbpst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend, but I feel utterly lost, and am unsure what I should do.", "post": "I'm a 17 year old male, and she's 16. We've been dating for 4 months, and recently I've been torn on whether or not I should end the relationship. I love her, but I don't think we've ever been able to really connect. On reflection, we don't have a whole lot in common; I don't think I've ever been able to have a meaningful conversation about anything during the whole 4 months we've been dating. To add to this, she's always busy with baby-sitting, and even uses that as an excuse to neither text, call, or instant message me.\n\nWhen she doesn't have to baby-sit, all she wants to do is sit at home and watch television and play video games; I haven't been able to get her to come over since May. While we're on the subject, I've only been able to spend time with her maybe half a dozen times in the past 40 or so days. I did manage to hang out with her at her house today, and quite honestly, I felt good being with her at the time, but nothing has changed. Well, nothing has changed for the better anyway. While I was there, I could not help but feel distant and a little unhappy with the relationship, and left on an emotional low-note.\n\nI feel bad; I don't want to hurt her. I do love her; she's really sweet, and I can tell she's into the relationship, despite her lazy disregard for communication. However, I feel awfully unhappy, and I don't know what to do. I think I only got into a relationship with her because she was available, and we were both horribly lonely (I've never had a significant other before; she's never done well with her past relationships). I really don't know what I'm doing, and I'm not close to my family, and I have no close friends to talk about this with (especially since most of my friends know and like my girlfriend). Everyone I talk to thinks we're perfect for each other, and I feel stressed out and alone in the world. Reddit, I could really use some advice; I have nowhere else to turn, and no one else to talk to.", "summary": "I'm not sure my girlfriend is right for me, but I'm having trouble with the thought of breaking up with her."}
{"id": "t3_39c9iy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "His [22M] phone is broke and I [21F] don't know if I should unblock him from FB to keep in touch.", "post": "This guy and I dated for 7months and he broke up with me 4 months ago because \"it wasn't fair for me to be with someone who is very insecure\". But he said that he wanted to stay as friends as he didn't wanted to end this badly and he really appreciates me. \n\nA lot of things happened since we broke up (you can skip this paragraph): \nEarly-Feb: I blocked him from all social media.\nMid-Feb: I tried to contact him several times but he ignored me.\nEarly-April: He contacted me for my Bday, and a week later I told him I didn't wanted to talk to him anymore. A week after that, I texted him, saying that I wanted to keep in touch. A week after that (yes, hate me) I blocked him out of the blue because I was going through a lot of personal stuff and I needed to concentrate in my finals, so I literally blocked a lot of people (he wasn't the only one) because I just didn't wanted to talk with anyone. \n\nAfter a month and a half, I found that I never unblocked him, so a week ago I unblocked him, and I explained what happened and apologized for that. We keep texting about random stuff and hours later, he broke his phone. I know this because of his last seen online (WhatsApp), because he has been complaining on Twitter, and because a mutual friend told me. \n\nIt's not that I miss him, but recently I found a lot of hilarious stuff that I want to share with him, and also because I want to see him. But I have no private communication with him, unless I unblock him from Facebook. \n\nI have the feeling that he kind of feels the same, because the other day he commented on a tweet a posted, and we aren't following each other anymore. Which means, he was thinking about me at 2am, he checked my Twitter, and decided to comment a random tweet.", "summary": "We dated for 7months, broke up 4months ago, but decided to stay as good friends. We recently started to text again, but he broke off his phone, so we have no communication. So I'm not sure if I should wait a couple of days or weeks for him to have his phone back, or should I unblock him from FB to keep in touch."}
{"id": "t3_1k899m", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Pup snapping at me when i try to take something away.", "post": "this has probably been asked before.\n\nI have two 3 month old pomchi puppies. I'm in the process of teaching them everything, and of course because i have two litter mates it's double the effort.  I'm also teaching them (boys) \"leave it\" and \"drop it\" One gets drop it, the other doesnt.\n\nThe one that doesn't get it got a hold of my Nintendo DS charger and chewed the plug (not the socket part but the part that goes into the DS) off of the wire.  I didn't want him chewing it because the bare wires were showing now and it was still plugged in and i also didn't want him chewing on plastic he could swallow so i gave the command drop it tempted him with some delicious treats but he was content on keeping the charger with him.  \n\nbecause of the exposed wire part i decided to grab it out of his reach (90% of the time he doesnt growl or care)\n\nthis time he did.  he snapped and tried to bit me. got me in the hand but it didn't hurt because hes so small.\n\nafter i got it away i felt around the blanket he was sittin on to see if i missed any pieces and he tried two more times to bite and snap at my hand.\n\nIt was aggression.\n\nWhat do you recommend I do if the drop it or leave it or tempting with treats thing doesn't work (or they haven't learned it yet) \n\nor if hes chewing something dangerous or valuable to me that i accidentally drop and tries to bite me violently... how do i discipline him after this.  \n\nsure i can try to avoid it, but what happens when it DOES happen.\n\nyes i AM n the process of teaching them the commands but i need to know what to do RIGHT after he bites me not how to avoid it .\n\nsorry. long", "summary": "puppy possessive sometimes over things tries to bite me. how to discipline him as i try to teach the drop it or leave it command."}
{"id": "t3_3nhb9e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22/F] of one month drunk episode", "post": "Went with my gf to her schools homecoming yesterday. Everything went really well except one incident. \n\nThere was a lot of drinking going on and we left for a frat house. My gf became very drunk. At the house there was a guy there she mentioned she had a thing with last year. No Big deal. \n\nAn hour later they run into each other while I'm with my gf. They start talking (I'm fine with that) and for some reason my gf decided to kiss him on the cheek in front of me.\n\nToday, I confronted her about it and she said the she was so drunk she didn't remember anything and was extremely apologetic. She said she was probably trying to make me jealous and that she always pushes the good things in life away from her.\n\nI'm still upset and have trust issues from previous girls. What do I do? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "gf sees old flame while very drunk"}
{"id": "t3_tn18s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "help me reddit! losing the spark...", "post": "So, I'm currently a junior, soon to be senior, in high school. I met a girl that goes to my school on a field trip, and from that very first moment I really started liking her. Time passed and we started talking, which went on for maybe a month or two, texting every night. We went on a few dates, we kissed. I took her to prom and asked her to be my gf that night, and she said yes.\n\nMy problem now is, there seems to be little to no romance between us at all. I recently took her to a movie and we literally made no physical contact. The conversations aren't awkward, because we make small talk, but it's almost so much small talk that we feel like just friends. She used to give obvious signs that she liked me, such as mimicking, laughing, etc, which she doesn't do as much now, just 3 weeks later.", "summary": "My gf and I are starting to feel like friends instead of lovers, and there's no romance. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_11t5ud", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Suggest chocolate substitutes!", "post": "Hi *\n\nI've removed butter, ice cream and almost all bread, cereals and pasta successfully from my diet, while increasing my consumption of vegetables and whole foods. I have not yet found a good substitute for chocolate. I have decent self control and I've tried removing it from my diet, but, when I do this, I continue to crave it (even after not taking it for multiple weeks). I don't want to continue craving it, so do you have any suggestions for addressing this problem? I am more interested in substitutes than in eating less chocolate, because I still get the cravings if I simply eat less of it, so is there some healthy substitute that is compatible with getting thinner that you could recommend?", "summary": "I can remove chocolate from my diet, but I continue to crave it. I want a healthy substitute, compatible with getting thinner."}
{"id": "t3_1l93tm", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Tips and advices about getting into Yale/Columbia?", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nMy name's Guillaume (don't even try to pronounce it you english-speakers), I'm an 18 french homeschooled student from Lyon, France.\nAnd I'd need some advice about how to get into Ivy League schools.\n\nI have kind of an impetuous background: I was an excellent student, however I dropped school at 15, and then lived for one year in a host family. Now I'm getting back to studies, taking three college-level classes in english (Economics, Maths and PoliSci), studying on my own, practicing billard, looking for a half-time job, doing theatre and soon\u2122 music... Anyway.\n\nEven if my preparation is a total over-kill for a simple high-school diploma, I'd really like to get into Yale or Columbia after I graduate, mostly because of the college life and experience I'm looking for, as well as the high-quality education. However, I only have a vague idea about what is expected to get in - I know that 4.0 GPA and triple 800s at the SAT is pretty kewl to have, also having a nice extracurricular background, but that's pretty much all I know about the admission process right now.\n\nSo, we get to the", "summary": "I'm an 18yo french student with an uncommon background who will graduate from high school at 20, do I have any hope of getting into Yale, and what are some useful tips to make it happen?"}
{"id": "t3_10dol6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M27] Met [F23] Online, live close together, clicked pretty well via chat, how can I start this?", "post": "Should I start under the date assumption, despite the fact we've never met in person? Should I ask to join me in hanging out and tell her as friends so as not to spook her?\n\nShould I ask her if she has a boyfriend?\n\nI mean...we met online. She could have messaged ANYONE. It's probable she messaged me because I'm in the area and our interests were similar. Even with similar interests, she wouldn't go out of her way to message every reddit gamer guy across the country. Am I wrong to actually assume that, if comfortable, she would want to meetup at some point?\n\nKind of a weird situation, not sure how I should go about this. Thanks for the help.", "summary": "Met a girl online, we click real well via chatting, she lives close by, should I ask her on a date not having met her? Should we hang out as friends first? Do I ask her if she even has a boyfriend right now? "}
{"id": "t3_40w5yv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sticking to my new year's resolution", "post": "YEP IT HAPPENED TODAY BOYS BREAK OUT THE PINATA!\n\nSo, I have to start gym at a new school, and haven't had gym in about 1.5 years, so I had a bit of Paula Dean Roll action going on if you know what I'm saying. In my area it's hilly as balls so I just started running in my room in place for ~10 minutes and then some leg lifts and shit. So, day 2, I was going at it watching some videos to distract me when my calf actually broke out from under me, one of those really dull pains you get when you flex it too hard, and I fell, slammed the desk, and broke the front end of my desk.", "summary": "Was told to break a leg, broke my desk."}
{"id": "t3_24q6bu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] 1.6 years, Is a slob and I don't know how much longer I can take it", "post": "Hi, I have a serious problem and I have no idea how to address the issue without having a war and causing serve drama. My girlfriend is beyond a slob. I myself am clean and neat like an average human being. I'm not super neat but I'm not messy. My girlfriend is beyond a slob and doesnt take care of herself. I and her leased an apartment in December and ever since we moved into together the house is always disgusting. Its sometimes so nasty, I'm embarrassed to be living here. I always clean up the house. She never does. She always says she does but doesnt. I've picked up stuff that is SO NASTY I cannot describe it. I actually almost threw up, and I'm not being funny, thats serious. I had to clean up stuff that was just beyond repairing to my brain. I love my girlfriend, I do.. But I don't think I can live with her anymore if she keeps up like this. I don't know why she thinks its okay to sleep next to filth. Her bathroom is filled with so much stuff. I had to clean up Tampon papers that were left on the floor. I had to empty out her garbage in her bathroom and found a USED Pad.. it was so old the blooded turned to BLACK. It smelled so bad, I can taste it in my mouth.\n\nI have serve allergies that I have to take medication for to keep my nose from not running and sneezing... 70% of the time of that day. There is so much dust from her stuff lying around that it eats at me.\n\nI have no idea how to bring up this issue without hurting her feelings and to actually get results. \n\nI don't mind cleaning, but its every week. And after I'm done cleaning, it only takes a day for it go back to the way it was.\n\nI don't know what to do, sometimes inside I wonder if I just never signed the papers and never left to live with her. \n\nI love this woman but I don't know how much more I can take.", "summary": "My girlfriend is a slob, its so bad that its sometimes effects my health and the stuff that I pick up after her is just terrible. She says she cleans but doesn't. I don't know how to address this."}
{"id": "t3_eauv5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone else accidentally snuck something through TSA's new improved security?  It really is a joke..", "post": "A few weeks back I was flying through Las Vegas to San Francisco.  My connection switched airlines so I had to go through security again.  I was in a hurry because my flight was about to leave and in my rush I completely forgot that I left a giant (32oz) water bottle about 3/4 full in my backpack.  I even saw them yell at someone a few people ahead of me for having a much smaller bottle of water, but didn't realize what happened until afterwards.  No one said anything and when I looked back at the lady watching the scanner she seemed very disinterested, talking to other TSA employees as the images flew by on her screen. \n\nWhat is the point of this ridiculous level of \"security\" if such common problems as a single lazy employee can allow people to easily sneak shit through?", "summary": "Snuck a huge bottle of water through Vegas airport security, TSA sucks."}
{"id": "t3_4c4qxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [17 F] of 1.5 years who suffers from depression/anxiety. How/should I end it?", "post": "Became really close friends with a mutual friend of many of my friends. We fell in love and have been dating semi-long distance for 1.5 years (75 miles; college). She was diagnosed with anxiety and depression around month 8. \n\nEver since this school year started, she has been cancelling plans left and right. Sometimes it's \"I need to clean up the house before relatives get here next week\", sometimes she just never contacts me/responds until it's 11PM and there's absolutely no way we'd spend time together. She always says she's really upset that we couldn't spend time together and that she misses me and loves me more than she could ever express. I haven't seen her in about a month, and because we're so busy in school we rarely talk for more than 10 minutes every other day. I used to FaceTime her, but it just makes me feel awful when I do. I don't want to leave her because she's perfect for me on paper. Also, I don't want to make her even more depressed because I still care about her very deeply.", "summary": "Depressed girlfriend becoming increasingly distant over past months, not sure what to do. Should I wait the extra month for summer break and see if it's just the distance creating tension, or should I end it now?"}
{"id": "t3_2pvc3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my ex-girlfriend [21F] what can I do to rebuild a relationship with her?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nRecently went through a split with my girlfriend. We've been living together for the last 8 or so months. I absolutely love this girl, she's super supportive no matter how aloof I am. Well recently, I think I finally broke her and she called the relationship off. She says things like she wants to make herself happy and so forth. As she told me all these things I realized what a turd I've been and I've been busting my balls to change it. Her biggest complaint was that she felt like she hasn't been in a relationship for the past few months. I'm always so busy with school and work that I guess I subconsciously put her on the back burner because I knew she'd always be there for me. I clean constantly, tell her how hard she works, listen to her speak, everything. But no matter what, I can't convince her to give the relationship another shot and I think she may be falling for someone else now. She still lives with me. We still sleep in the same bed. It breaks my heart to look at her and know we aren't together.\n\nMy question to you all is how do I approach this? I would fight tooth and nail for a second chance, but how can I convince her to do so? I don't want her to do something she's not 100% behind, so I don't want to just beg her and make her feel sorry for me.. That's just highly immature. I want her to see what she loved in our relationship before the last few months in which I stopped giving it attention. Should I continue to show her how much I love her? Make her little snack bags for work, come visit her when she's working, take care of her mundane tasks (laundry, dogs, etc. she's busy ALL the time, she works two jobs). Or should I cut contact and hope she wishes to try again after some time apart? I feel like either are legitimate approaches, but I have no idea what to do and I absolutely love her so I don't want to mess anything up more than I already have.", "summary": "how can I rekindle a relationship with my ex girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_34m32r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (18F) act on a crush on a friend (18M)?", "post": "So first and foremost, I rarely act on crushes. Last time I actually told someone I liked them was with a homemade Valentine's card when I was 8. I usually just suppress my feelings because I convince myself that they will never be reciprocated. I'm not ugly or overweight or anything but I've struggled with social anxiety and self-loathing. I got therapy, not as bad now but still not great, I digress.\n\nI have a crush on one of my male friends. We sit together in some classes and he's lovely to me... but he's nice to most people. Where I'm from at least, teenage courtship revolves around texting. I occasionally shoot him a message about school work and they turn into hour long conversations about everything.\n\nI don't think he's out out of my league or anything but as recently as March he was pining over a mutual friend (also 18F) who is admittedly prettier than me. After she found out (in December) she said she wasn't interested in him romantically. \n\nBasically, what do I do? I am intensely green when it comes to relationships and my social anxiety means I'm terrified of being rejected/being made fun of/him being disgusted if I tell him.", "summary": "I (18F) like a friend (18M) and am scared to tell him. He potentially likes someone else who probably doesn't like him back. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_od65o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Don't know if this is credit card fraud....help?", "post": "Alright so here is the situation, and it is very strange.\n\nThis girl my roommate works with came over to the house a few weeks ago drunk and hysterical after she broke up with her boyfriend and gave him 180 dollars, her bridge card, and a credit card she said was \"paid for\".  She also gave another friend at the house 200.\n\nShe said she was dying and that she wanted them to spend everything as she wasn't going to need it.\n\nNow after this happened she promptly left and me and my roommate went and filled up my gas tank with the credit card and went to the super market and bought food and stuff for the house.\n\nWe ended up using about 130 dollars on the card and it was maxed out, now my roommate came up to me about a half hour ago and told me money was back on the card and he wants to go to the store and max it out again....the first time I thought wasn't the greatest idea and I told him I didn't really think it was a good idea to use it again.\n\nHe told me it was fine since she gave him permission but that her dad had been calling him and trying to get a hold of him and he hasn't responded. \n\nNow I DEFINITELY do not want to be involved in anything with this credit card.\n\nSo my question is, the card is in the girls name...my roommate is going to stupidly keep maxing it out every month even though I told him it might be credit card fraud...and I think her dad might be footing the bill for everything.  \n\nShe gave him permission....I don't think hes talked to her since, so my question is would you guys see what hes doing as credit card fraud? How dangerous is this?  Should I stop him, or just not get involved?\n\nAlso, am I guilty of anything even though when I was participating in use it was directly after this girl had given us permission?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Dying girl gave roommate credit card, he wants to use it forever, think her dads footing the bill and pissed.  Is this credit card fraud?"}
{"id": "t3_2tpzj6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why must I always see the end in the beginning?", "post": "Hey everyone, I have never posted before, but am in deep need of advice because I am scared that all of my relationships will fail if I don't grasp how to manage this issue of mine.\n\nSo, I (25F) really, really love my boyfriend (25M). We have been together for just 6 months. Frankly, I have never been treated so well in my entire life... He is caring, we both look up to each other intellectually, we are both very physically attracted to one another, we genuinely love each other's company, our sex life is amazing and everything else is gold. He tells me that he has never loved someone as much as he loves me and that he sees no end to this relationship. And that should be great! But it's not. Now that I am so deeply in love with this man, I feel nothing but terror at the thought of losing him. When I am not with him, I start dealing with a huge amount of insecurities. In all of my relationships, I have always felt like I love my S/O more than they love me. I have tried to meditate, I have tried to get down to why I feel this way, but I just haven't been able to grasp it yet. \n\nI have this outlook on love: 'If you get too attached to something, it's going to hurt like hell when you lose it.' I don't want to think this way but am not sure how to turn it around. This has always been an issue of mine but it has exploded in my face even more so since my last relationship where I had been cheated on. \n\nWhy does this keep happening to me? \nDoes anyone else deal with this too? The constant and everlasting paranoia that your S/O isn't as invested as you are. \nDoes anyone else feel like they see an end to all amazing relationships? \nHow can I turn it around reddit. Please help. I don't want to fuck this up.", "summary": "I feel terrified by how much I love my boyfriend and I just want to be able to sit and enjoy the ride without withdrawing from this relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3zaeiq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by renting a house with 3 other guys", "post": "This started in september, but the consequences are really being felt now. \nThe rent was charge by the house, so we all had to had to have a level of trust that each of us would pay it. Fast forward a month and a half, one of the roommates, lets called him N, decides he's scared of the area and doesn't like his job. Sends us a facebook message a moves out, paying rent up until november. Sure, no problem, we have a month and a half to find someone for december. \nDecember rolls around, and I'm the only roommate constantly posting on kijiji, talking to friends, facebook, showing the house...etc. I'm doing all the work and no one is grabbing the room. We negotiate with the landlord, and he agrees to use N's last month to pay for december. \nI finally find a guy for January, and he has money for first month. Great! No problem. BUT \nLandlord visits me yesterday, lets me know he needs first and last month from the new guy or we get an eviction notice. New guy doesn't have last month. I've been saving up for a trip to Thailand for month and months and months, so I pull my money from there, because I don't like getting evicted. \n\nNow the landlord and the new guy are pressuring me to pay rent, but I can't pay until tomorrow due to online banking, I've lent my own money out to a complete stranger from a trip thats starting tomorrow, and I have no idea where the money is coming from. This has been a hellish experience.", "summary": "Roommate bails, uncommunicative landlord, lazy roommates and I'm left scrambling to cover rent. "}
{"id": "t3_4586it", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [20F] is hiding out at mine [21M] because of her flatmates", "post": "Long story so here goes. My ex of a month, I told her when she broke it off because her depression was effecting our relationship that if she needs/requires support I will try to help out.\nThe other day she called asking for help I was hesitant at first but when I found out she had called the ambulance (hospital is next door to me) I thought I'd check on her to make sure she is okay. She is already receiving help and for depression. But obviously sometimes it's a little worse. \nYesterday she ended up in hospital gave us a slight scare when the hospital told us that they had lost her. But as it turned out she was in another section of the hospital. But for what happened yesterday all of her housemates have essentially just given up on and told her she was being unfair on them and that she should just fuck off else where (in one message they actually said that to her)... So I said she can hide out here till the week break that's just a few days away.\n\nI don't know what to do. Obviously we have broken up its recent and I really don't think it's a good idea for her to be hiding out at the same time. I think her so called friends and housemates are being too harsh and unfair on her... :/\nI have images of what's happening available at request. In caught in the middle and I'm being contacted by them as well, almost like they are trying to get a reaction and assess where I am with all this so far I've just ignored them. But honestly I think they are going a bit far. Seeing as they won't stop. I told them yesterday to leave it, because she feels like she is being personally attacked but instead they carried on and tried to laugh it off over Facebook.", "summary": "Ex hiding at mine because I feel her flatmates are making a mockery of her depression and telling her to fuck off etc."}
{"id": "t3_3inn3d", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by turning off the lights", "post": "So this happened about a month ago.\n\nTo start, I'll give a little of background information. I am in my mid-teens and spent a week this summer instructing at a curling camp. That is where the fuck-up happened.\n\nSo the kids had just come off the ice and gone upstairs for snack time. One of the other instructors and I stayed downstairs to take a break and get away from the little ones while the others helped feed them upstairs. Now, there was a storm going on outside and we were hearing the odd blast of thunder. My friend and I love to play tricks on the rest of the camp so we thought it would be funny to make the other instructors believe the power flickered. The lights for the rink are on the main floor and the rink itself is visible from upstairs so we took a pencil to make sure all the lights went off at the same time then turned them off. We only left them off for a few seconds before turning them back on.\n\nThe next thing we know, one of the campers comes running down the stairs and tells us that the instructors upstairs decided to send everyone home because the power was unreliable. They had already started phoning parents, so it was way too late to tell them it was just a joke. So basically we ruined the day for all of the little campers and caused a huge annoyance to all the parents that had to come pick them up. The worst part is, one of the coaches that made that decision was my dad so if he ever found out I'd be dead.", "summary": "Turned off the lights and ruined the day for 50 kids."}
{"id": "t3_zfhwl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have an older neighbour who I think is being neglected by her daughter and son-in-law, what would you do to help?", "post": "I don't know if she has dementia, but what I do know for sure is her memory isn't fully there anymore. She lives with her daughter (who looks to be in her 50's) and her son-in-law, and they leave her there all day every day by herself. She takes her walker and goes on about an hour to walk to the end of our street (a 2 minute walk at most) and back, but more often than not she doesn't remember which house is hers, so she comes to ours. More than once we've come home and she's sitting by our front door on her walker, or we'll look out our window and she'll be walking towards our house. Our houses look nothing alike. We've always done our best to help her out, she tried to get into my car thinking it was her daughters car, and we've had to convince her that she didn't have to feed the cattle (we live in a neighbourhood by a school). But today, we found out that she was sitting in a car parked way back in their driveway with all of the windows up and a winter sweater and hat on for a few hours and it was sweltering hot. We had to convince her to go inside, all the while she was telling us she was waiting for her daughter. It's now almost 8pm and no one has been home since early this morning. If we hadn't been there, she would probably still be sitting in the car waiting for them. What is also scary, is that we knew she was there because we heard the dinging of the door, because the keys were in the ignition. What do we do? We're afraid for her safety, what if she tries to make food and turns on the oven and forgets? Our other neighbour tried to tell her daughter once, but she doesn't seem to listen/care.", "summary": "Very old neighbour who barely even remembers where she lives sat in a boiling hot car for hours until we told her to go inside, and no one has been home to see her since early this morning."}
{"id": "t3_suwfe", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone ever try to help someone or something and instead make it far worse?", "post": "In my case me and my friend found this injured bird in the garden. I showed it to my mother and she said it would not survive and needed to be put out of its misery. \n\nSo me and my friend bring the bird outside and grab a hurley (Like a big stick us Irish use to hit a ball like thing around a pitch). So we are both pretty freaked and I am really nervous but I knew I needed to do it for the birds sake. Keep in mind we were between 11 and 13 when this happened.\n\nWe could not do it. So I said we would put the bird in a plastic bag and let it die that way! Not my finest moment. So we put it in a bag, tie it off and wait for about 10 mintues. When I open the bag I look in and see this deranged bird covered in moisture and foaming from the mouth. It looked up at me and I freaked. I bashed the back against the wall and it ripped and the bird fell to the ground. \n\nNot over yet. The little bastard it still alive. Trust me to get the Rocky of the bird world. I grabbed the Hurley and hammered down on the bird in a fit of panic. Of course I did not hit its head but its legs and end up crippling the bird. Still alive.\n\nIt is at this point my friend runs away crying. I then hit it again this time delivering the final blow. I just sat on the grass in silence for ages.\n\nTo this day I still cringe thinking about the poor little guy.", "summary": "I tried to put a bird out of its misery by killing it. I inadvertently tortured it before killing it."}
{"id": "t3_1dcfe2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I failed a class and the final is Saturday. I don't know what to do.", "post": "Basically, I was told I can't do makeups or reach a compromise. I screwed up despite being a good student.\n\nI forgot to write and bring in a rough draft of a research paper that is due Wednesday, and forgetting it automatically fails me. I have no chance of passing the class now.\nthe kicker of the situation is that the draft was 8-10 pages and some people brought in 5-7 pages, and they still got partial credit/points....\n\nHowever I still have the final draft due on Wednesday and the actual final on Saturday. I don't know if I should just do what's left.  If anything, I'm just blown away that I failed a class the week of finals. I'm usually a good student. In short...", "summary": "please help me. I've screwed up hard with no way to compromise with my professor. I don't know what I can do, and what would be right/better for my GPA. I'm pretty much begging you guys because I just feel completely floored about the whole situation."}
{"id": "t3_kxqn8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice - Possible finding out girlfriend's blow job past", "post": "I have been dating my gf (28) for 6 months. Obviously we both had partners before. Relationship has been going well and our sex life is good. \nI am sometimes immature and make dirty jokes. She usually just laughs or thinks I'm silly. Sometimes I make blow job jokes. For example if she uses the word 'sucks', I may say something like \"I got something for you to suck...\" Just silliness. \nRecently in the car I was driving and made a road head joke and the same response. She called me an idiot. \nI texted her something along the same lines later and she said \"stop with the bjs.\" I asked if it bothered her and she said \"yes and I ll tell you why later.\" \n\nThis brings me to my current dilemma. I won't see her till tomorrow, and I am sure if I don't make any more bj jokes or bring it up she'll probably forget and not tell me the reason. \n\nA part of me wants to know why, but another part really doesn't want to know if it involves her past relationships or anything along those lines. I am daily certain that I am thinking about this too much and perservering. Now, I am thinking all these graphic stupid thoughts about her giving bjs to her past bfs. argh. \n\nReddit, \n- Can you think of legit reasons why it would bother her and doesn't involve another guy in the past?\n- Should I ask her or just forget about it and stop making the jokes?\n- What would you do? \n\nThanks for the advice,", "summary": "Girlfriend may soon tell me about giving blow jobs to other guys in the past."}
{"id": "t3_36eh7d", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Asian Parents- Believing job statistics in Chinese newspapers", "post": "For those of you who have read my post: \n\nThis morning, my dad told me he was reading the Chinese newspaper and was telling me how EASY it was to get a full-time job this year and how great the job prospect was. He told me average applicant number was 1.5 people per job. I told him this was COMPLETELY false. I've applied to jobs on LinkedIn, and it'll say '500' people have applied but that's only through LinkedIn; a lot of people go through the company site, staffing agency, emailing recruiter directly, etc. \n\nThe other issue is, they don't know I'm applying for jobs. They're also insanely judgmental. I told them once back in October when I had an interview, and they proceeded to asking about location, salary (which I didn't even know) and benefits. They didn't care what the position was or what the company was. What they cared about was me being close-by (They don't know I plan on moving out) and how much money I will be making to provide for them. I want to be happy going into my job 40 hours a week. Of course, salary is important but I'd rather take a job with a lower salary that I would love than a job with a higher salary that I would hate.\n\nI also can't convince my parents that Chinese newspapers and news stations are wrong. I have no idea where they get their statistics and facts. They've basically been listening to/ reading them since they moved to America. There's been insane things the radio has told them that they've believed and told me. Jut as an example, the radio was warning parents not to let their kids go to the beach because they might get pregnant since sperm might be in the water. What the actual heck... Sigh.\n\nAny advice would be much appreciate!", "summary": "parents think I'll make 80k right after I graduate, now they think it's really easy to get a job"}
{"id": "t3_2vvox2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not being able to suppress my laughter", "post": "So I'm a teacher in China. I had a coworker that wanted me to come observe his class; OK, no problem.    \nNow, here is something you might not know. Chinese students with native English speaking teachers traditionally choose an English name. There are lots of normal ones (Tom, Sara, John, Ann, etc). There are some funny/odd/outdated ones (Matilda, Garnett, Frella, etc), and there are some bizarre ones (Icy, SaLucifer, Second Boat, Banana, etc).     \nSo, my friend is handing back papers. The way we often had students write their names was English first name, Chinese family name--like Mike Li, or Sara Peng. So, he's handing back papers for the first time with this particular group, and calling off names, when he calls out one. This girl had one of the bizarre names: Drippy. Her Chinese family name was Wang. So, he shouted out \"Drippy Wang\", and I lost it. I couldn't stop myself from laughing, so I got up and left the room. My co-worker also laughed, but refused to explain to the university freshmen (all Chinese) why we were laughing. For the rest of the year, we had students trying to get us to tell them what was so funny... Never did.", "summary": "confused the hell out of a group of Chinese students by laughing at a drippy wang."}
{"id": "t3_2yt26a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Suggesting My Uncle A Phone", "post": "English isn't my native language so plss if their are any grammatical errors pls forgive me for em. \n\nThis happened a week ago. My uncle wanted a new phone so he asked me abt wat good phones are in the market today, I actually am an asus zenphone 5  user and i liked that phone alot and i had not a single isssue wid it for almost 6 months now. \n\nI checked out some phones and i found that zenphone 450 was in his budget and was actually was the best amongst the mobiles in that price range, so I called him and suggested him that phone. \nHe wasn't and online shopper so he didn't have any account on amazon so i suggested him I will buy it and on shipping address I will type his address. \n\nHe agreed. After 2 days the phone arrives and heres wher the fuck up starts, the phone's speaker was defective and the phone became stocked out. I got a huge scolding frm my mom (I m 23) and I am a guy who doesn't get hurt by anyones scolding but if its my mom scolding I literally have tears in my eyes as she scolds me cause I actually love my mom alot.Tears wer coming out of my eyes this time as well. \nAfter I did all the formalities and returned the phone to amazon back and I got my money back in amazon wallet. \n\nAfter that FU, I bought a samsung galaxy core 2 for him which fortunately was not defective and is working fine now.", "summary": "\u2014 Suggested a phone to my uncle"}
{"id": "t3_4zik27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my gf [23 F] of about 4 months, she is uncomfortable with me going on vacation with one of my female friends. Not sure how to proceed", "post": "Backstory: I moved to a new city about 6 months ago for a job where i met my friend Jane. During our training we became good friends, have some shared interests etc, but after training finished we haven't seen each other that much because of the type of work that we do (different shifts and etc).\n\nAbout the same time i met my gf, Sophie, who is just the sweetest and who i really care about. We dont share that many friends, she has hers and i have mine.\n\nProblem: Jane and I spoke a lot about how we love going to music festival etc, and how we should get together with the rest of the friends we made during our training and take some time off at the same time. We planned this quite early on (before i was serious with my gf), and we both applied for leave quite early for september (hoping that our friends would hop on once they saw we had booked our days off). They did, but applied later on, and just this week got rejected their application. I knew this could happen when we first planned the trip, but at that time i wasn't that serious with my girlfriend, so I thought going just with Jane would not be a problem.\n\nNow that I am more serious with Sophie though I wanted to talk with her before we booked any tickets, and she just said frankly that it would bother her if i left with only Jane. Now, me and jane can both rearrange our plans and do other things for the days off we have, but we have planned this trip for a long time, and we would both be very disappointed if we didn't go. I don't want friends or girlfriends hinder me for doing things that I really want to do, but at the same time I realise that it would be very selfish for me to got on this trip, and of course I don't want Sophie to be uncomfortable. My thoughts are really clashing here, and I need some outside perspective from you all; should I stay or should I go?", "summary": "My gf if uncomfortable with me going on vacation with a female friend, and I don't know if should go or not."}
{"id": "t3_3euvpw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating a brownie", "post": "So, I am a very small (under 5 feet tall) college aged girl. I work part time at McDonald's so that I can afford gas to and from dance rehearsals and class. When I walked into work, I saw some of my coworkers eating brownies. Since I love anything chocolate, I asked if I could try a bite. Upon taking a bite, I could tell (by taste) that this brownie was not a normal brownie. \"These are pot brownies aren't they?\" I asked. \"Hell Yeah they are!\" one of my coworkers responded. so fastforward an hour and I am trying to do my job while stoned out of my ever loving mind, while people made fun of me for not being able to handle much pot before getting to stoned to function. Thankfully McDonald's doesnt care about what employees do, so i didn't get in trouble for accidentally getting stoned.", "summary": "Ate coworkers brownie without asking what was in it, accidentally got stoned at work."}
{"id": "t3_1q7qs9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "People everywhere are ignoring me.", "post": "For around a year now I've started realising that more and more people are ignoring me or being un neccesarily harsh. I am in secondary school and am often bullied by a majority of people. Around six months ago I made friends with some people who I play video games with (mostly league of legends).\n\nI used to play with these people daily and talk on Skype a lot, I really appreciated their company. A while ago I asked people if they wanted to go to town and do something, everyone said no, this was extremely strange as they always go. From that point on I have realised that no one has started a conversation with me, infested this out over a school holiday, not messaging anyone, I got messages from one person.\n\nThis one person happens to be a girl that I like at the moment and so a small bit of conversation was welcome. But this didn't last long, for a while now not even she will start a conversation. I've essentially given up on people. I often message said person but replies seem half hearted etc. and I know I don't have a chance anyway. Today I asked why she still bothered talking to me, her words: \"why do I bother talking to you? Because I care, and I care because I do care and I can care if I want to.\"\n\nNow this pushes the line because I'm pretty damn sure that its a lie, looking at conversations and other aspects. \n\nI came here because I'm really not sure what to do next... Do I try to talk to people? Or what? I just needed somewhere to vent really, thanks for any words of advice :)", "summary": "lots of people ignoring and bullying me, found some friends, they started ignoring me, continued talking to one girl who I like, unconvinced by her attempt to tell me that she cares, any advice?, thanks for reading."}
{"id": "t3_43jmck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF (21 M) has borrowed money from me (21 F) and I haven't seen him put much effort to get a second job", "post": "We've been dating for 2 years and I moved in with him two months ago\n\nMy boyfriend has one job where the hours are limited but he makes about $14 an hour. He had a second job but but that was a seasonal job so it ended in early January. At his primary job they shut down during the winter break and he gets his paycheck monthly on the 15th so things have been tight for him for the January paycheck because he only worked about a 1/2-3/4 the hours he normally does.\n\nSince his January paycheck he has borrowed $300 from me and we're still two weeks away from the next paycheck.\n\nI work full time (40 hours weekly) at a minimum wage (8.5 hourly) job that I really like as I'm waiting for certification from passing an occupational test. So I don't have a lot of money to spare. Ideally I'd like to keep my money to build my savings and take another certification test for more job prospects.\n\nMy boyfriend said that he would put the money he borrowed towards my $60 monthly car insurance and $100 rent for the next two months. I'm worried because I see him borrowing more money from me this month. Also it's his turn to buy groceries.\n\nHe applied for a job that would be above minimum wage and similar to his first job. He had an interview but no second interview. I told him to follow up with them, call asking for the next person he was supposed to interview with to set up a time or go in person and try to talk to the interviewer but I haven't seen him put in any effort for follow up\n\nHow can I talk to him to show him that he needs to work more even if it's just a minimum wage job for a month or two to supplement his income?", "summary": "my boyfriend works one well paying job but doesn't get much hours there. I think he needs to pick up a second job for the time being but he doesn't show that much imitative"}
{"id": "t3_eno94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "hanging breasts", "post": "I'm a 21 year old male university student and now I'm dating a 16 year old girl. \nBefore you start shouting \"pedophelia!\" I need to say that intercourse from the age of 16 (even if we don't have it yet) is legal where I live. \n\nNow: before we had a relationship we talked a lot when we saw each other, but also when we didn't see each other through text messages. I fell in love. The most in love I had been for the past year (hadn't had a gf for a year). Now we've been together for a month. And I have to say: she's the best personality I've ever dated. She's sweet, kind, nice and gentle. At the same time she has lust, she really wants me. So that's all really nice. But as the title suggests: her body isn't exactly a temple. She has a nice face, and her legs and her ass are more than OK. But she has a bit of a belly and the most gigantic breasts I've ever dated (all her fat is on her torso). (Normally I had relationships with skinny girls with hardly any breasts). And the problem is: they hang. They are flat and shapeless and you would hardly be able to distinguish between her and a fat guy with man-tits (only slightly exaggerated).\nNow, the problem is: I like her, I really do. And when I started this relationship I tought I was able to ignore the exterior and just love the fact that she's a great person. But the more sexual (read: naked) we become, the more I have difficulty loving her. \nI am just really disappointed in myself. I tought I had grown and I was able to look at the important things in life. I've had the most sucky relationship with the most beautiful girl ever for more than a year. And it would disappoint me if I'd be unable to do at least the same for this girl I have now. For she deserves it many times more...\n\nI really don't know how to cope with this Reddit. Should I tell her? Or should I ask her to work out? Or should I break it up?", "summary": "I love my girlfriends personality, but the fact that she's chubby greatly diminishes my love for her.."}
{"id": "t3_2vw360", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/M] don't know how to show my love to my girlfriend [28/F] anymore", "post": "For the past few months I have been decreasingly able to show my love and appreciation to my girlfriend. We've been together for two years, and we have lived together for 7 months. Both of us work full-time.\n\nWe have both known that this has been an issue, and today (Valentine's day) would've been the perfect opportunity for me to show her my love and start to make a change... But I didn't get her anything. Not even a card. It's not because I didn't feel like it - I simply didn't think to do so for some reason.\n\nHowever, it's not just today. It's every day. I want to show her how much I love her. How special she is. I just can't figure out *how*. I don't know what to do. Any gestures, big or small, I just can't seem to make it up/think about something.\n\nThis has led to her feeling unwanted by me, which in turn led me to feel unwanted by her, which obviously only makes things worse. I want to turn the course of this circle the other way. \n\n.", "summary": "\u2013 I want to show my girlfriend how much I love her in everyday life, but I don't know how. Reddit, please help me (us)!"}
{"id": "t3_3zbtl6", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Litter Box issues with disabled cat", "post": "My cat is about 1 year old, neutered male. No history of spraying. We potty trained him at a young age and he did really well until he broke his arm. We restricted him to one room with lots of padding, etc. but he has issues getting into the box due to the large cast. We did all we could and used a lot of patience with him, as this wasn't his fault. After he was better however, the accidents continued. He will almost always urinate in the box, with the exception of a handful of accidents, the most recent being two days ago. He has been diagnosed with a neurological disorder that impairs his ability to regulate his bowels, and so we are using all of the meds recommended by our vet. He will sometimes poop in the box, but usually poops in areas he likes to lay. We have tried increasing the number of boxes, making sure there is one on each floor, and finding the litter he seems to like. Still, multiple accidents. The only thing I can think of next is getting bigger boxes and possibly retraining him like we did when he was little. \nHe has been taken to the vet and they don't seem to have any answers.", "summary": "1 year old cat wig neurological issues having accidents frequently. Need ideas."}
{"id": "t3_4fewvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was my (26 F) boyfriend (32 M) a white supremacist?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. We have a respectful and loving relationship. I'm Black, he's White. My boyfriend has some tattoos, that are typically associated with White Power groups. The thing is, he isn't. He listens respectfully to my/other non-white people's perspectives on racial issues, and is generally a socially conscious person, who takes racial missteps as a learning experience. He has a vast knowledge of history, philosophy, and racial issues.\n\nThe tattoo's aren't explicitly White Power, such as a swastika, but they are norse signs that are sometimes used by White Power groups. He claims that he got them because of an interest in mythology, and he does have some other tattoos that support this--a fox and rabbit, a raven, a conch shell, and an yggdrasil (norse world tree). \n\nIt's the last one (and the fact that he's a good person) that makes me believe him, but sometimes I find it unlikely that a person so knowledgeable about racial issues and mythology could unknowingly get those tattoos. He has by his own telling been in some very racist environments. I'm wondering if he's actually not just an unwitting history buff, but a reformed White supremacist, and doesn't want to tell me. \n\nAm I stupid for believing him? I need some outside perspective here.", "summary": "Socially conscious boyfriend with extensive knowledge of history and racial issues has 2 tattoos of norse symbols sometimes used by racists. He says they're part of the running mythology theme of his tattoos, but was also in some very racist environments for most of his life. Was he a White Supremacist?"}
{"id": "t3_47lc96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [29F] beginning to get burnt out, and my Husband [30M] of 1.5 years, isn't the greatest at picking up the slack... how do I get through to him?", "post": "So let me preface this by saying hubs is a great guy. \n\nA little background: We've been together 5 years, living together for 4, married for a year and a half. We are both professionals in our fields and it's completely normal for him to work 55+ hours a week. My job is a little more manageable at 40 hours a week, but I also take on clients privately (would like to work for myself someday) and serve on a Board for a Not-for-Profit, which brings me more than on par with the hours he works. \n\nSo I get it, we're both busy, we're both stressed out a lot of the time, and the last thing anyone wants to do after work is housework, but I can't stand a mess, and Hubs is super stingy (hates ordering in, a maid would be out of the question), so I end up cooking 6 nights a week and taking on the bulk of the chores.\n\nMy problem is that we've HAD this conversation before. He's come home and seen me crying from exhaustion on the couch and we've talked about him pitching in more. He'll cook one or two meals, and then do a few chores, and things will be great for a few days/weeks but then the novelty wears off and he's back to expecting me to do all the cooking/cleaning.\n\nI've made a chore list for him in the past, but he won't exactly do things up to the standard I'm used to (his mother would not approve either, her house is immaculate), and when I try to show him a different way of doing it, it always ends up a tiff (I'm partially to blame, my patience lately has been non-existent). Ultimately I end up taking the chore on again in the end. \n\nWe plan on trying for children later in the year and I can't even imagine what kind of stresses that will bring if this isn't sorted out.", "summary": "How can I get Hubs to pitch in more without seeming like a nagging wife? I would love to hear what's worked in your households :)"}
{"id": "t3_3i1rl4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Why is this so damn difficult?", "post": "I just want to finish school. I really think it should be easier than this. Lets disregard that I had to take a year off because I couldn't afford to keep going. Lets disregard that I still dont have the money to pay for it but im making myself do it even if it makes shit rougher on me. I just think its bullshit that the two classes that im taking cost over 3 thousand dollars. I also think its complete bullshit that when I  signed up for the payment plan as soon as it was available and exchanging multiple emails with the student service center that I couldn't make the first payment on time that they felt it needed to charge me an extra 200 dollars. This shit isn't cheap as it is. This isn't a fucking game where you get to screw with people. I just want to better my life. I want to graduate and move on from the shit hole im living in and be able to buy the things I need and god forbid that I buy something for pleasure or a date. I have one semester left after this one and im just trying to put my head down and make it through. Im so close but so far away it seems. Im already living with my parents to save money and I just keep coming up short. I just needed to vent and thanks to anyone for listening.", "summary": "University in the US is to fucking expensive."}
{"id": "t3_365o5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [22M] has gained about 30-40 pounds in the last 3 years and now I am having trouble being sexually attracted to him. It's ruining our relationship. Help?", "post": "I don't know what to do. He is a very sexual person and I used to be, but I'm having so much trouble. \n\nI've told him that if we both exercise and diet I'd probably feel like having sex more, and even discussed weight as a last resort, but he says that he feels so unmotivated without sex more than once or twice a week that it would be impossible for him to get the motivation to workout or diet.\n\nWhat should I do? He guilts me SO badly about it that I honestly barely have a sex drive at all now just because of that. I'm at a breaking point and I think he's getting there.", "summary": "Lack of sex is ruining us"}
{"id": "t3_34z2zw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using my 18 y/o son's razor", "post": "Ok so this was actually my mom that f'd up.  Some preface: I am on the swim team, and I wear a speedo (don't like jammers).  If you are a person that has hit puberty and you wear a swimsuit like that, you need to make sure there isn't any, you know, visible.  We were at dinner today, and we got talking about razors because my younger brother is starting to grow enough facial hair to need to shave.  I have a super cheap electric razor that is pretty rough, and so I have to be really careful so as to not get any razerburn on my face, and super uber careful so as to not get any in \"other places\", for which I mainly use the flip out trimmer on the back of it because it doesn't need to be perfect, just good enough.  Well, my mom was saying that since I had such a cheap razor, and there was a costco coupon for a nicer one, I could get a nicer one along with my brother.  I was pretty happy about this, because it would be nicer to not feel like I am scratching my face when I shave, and that it would be nice for other places too because, as a swimmer, I need to keep things under control.  As I said this, her eyes grew wide and she metaphorically sh!t her pants.  I was confused, and then she uttered \"I.. uh.. used that razor\".  I was startled, and asked why and where.  She said she used it to shave her face on occasion (because women get some fuzz too, just much more slowly) and that it was because I left it out on the counter and it was the first one she saw.  I laughed pretty hard, and she was not that enthused.  After making it clear that she should use my dad's razor, she promised she would never use it again.", "summary": "Parents, never borrow your teenage children's razors, especially if they are swimmers, because it has probably been places that would make you avoid it like the plague."}
{"id": "t3_1xr175", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Dear Public Secret Diary,", "post": "I feel unwanted, unnoticed, and not welcomed where I am. I'm begging to hate hearing people say \"I love you.\" It shows weakness and leaves people vulnerable for betrayal. I rather see people show their love to one another, or feel the love towards me and show my  love towards the people that love me. I've became emotionless I feel like since today. I had over $1k stolen from me and I hardly smirked. I lost everything I need for my most favorite past time until insurance is able to recover everything, and I hardly smirked...\n\tI know I'm smart but I have been wanting to show my love. I use to think I was great at doing it but now I'm just a \"drunk\" and my choice of poison are video games. I think, or convincing myself that I'm just a emotionless robot just going through the motions. There is no one game in particular I turn to. I just pick something up and give it a go. \n\tWith Valentines day approaching I was wanting to take my g/f out for a weekend with just us. No distractions, no bad environments, just us being happy because we love sharing our lives together. I have been so far away from myself that I did something that I knew she'd get upset over, but I just did it anyways. Why? I have no clue, maybe I wanted to see if I was capable of displaying an emotion of some kind. For some reason, I remember my chemistry teacher form HS yelling at me to feel something. He said I was too blank and need to be angry or happy or bummed out, just something. I think I just did something to get out of the daily motions. Either way I really pissed us both off, and now I think this weekend will just be the last weekend. It makes my bank account happy but not me. I'm not really sure what I'm even typing about anymore. I'm tired of the way I feel and tired of hearing words, and am going to go do something.", "summary": "word vomit no need to up/downvote"}
{"id": "t3_1da3hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (20F) keeps Skyping with this guy she recently met on chatroulette. Am I (23M) alone to think it's anormal?", "post": "I'm with my girlfriend for over 2 years now, but she recently met a guy on chatroulette. Before him, she was never on Skype so I had a little hint when I saw her connected from time to time. \n\nI dont really know the subjects of their conversations but I know she can talk to him maybe 3-10 hours a week (Camera on). She met him 2 months ago, and I pushed her to tell me what she was suddenly dooing on Skype. So about 2 weeks ago she told me the truth.\n\n2 things are bothering me. \n\nFirst, she's not a big talker. Even though I try to make her talk (about pretty much anything) she has shorts answers, or \"she doesn't know\". She ask about my day to, but, you know, basic stuff! Question is...how can she talk to a guy she barely know, for sometimes up to 4 hours..\n\nSecond thing, and in my opinion this is the worst... He doesn't know she has a boyfriend. In 2 months of talking, she never told him. And she hid him from me. \n\nAm I the only paranoid here..Or was she hiding him from me, and me from him for a reason...\n\nThank You Reddit!", "summary": "Girlfriend is not a big talker, but she keeps chatting 3-10hrs a week with a guy she met on chatroulette. She hid it from me for about 2 months... and he doesn't know she has a boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2w18is", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Thinking I Was Dreaming", "post": "Have you ever dreamed about going to the bathroom? Or dream that you needed to go to the bathroom and woke up with the same feeling? I'm pretty confident in saying that these occurrences happen for a reason.\n\nYou gotta fucking pee.\n\nI never try to analyze my dreams too deeply. They don't make sense and I can live without knowing whatever secret meaning exists behind me operating a kazoo powered canoe down a river in the middle of the street with Gary Busey. Though my pee dreams especially have been really weird. I always had to use the bathroom in the most inconvenient of spots. Like last night, for some reason I had a dream that I got up from my bed, sat down in my laundry basket, and took a piss.\n\nThis was a fairly lucid dream. I even had cognitive thought despite no control over my body (which has happened before). As I sat in my laundry basket, relieving myself I thought, \"Why the fuck am I peeing here? I can't even stop.\"\n\nNext thing I knew I was in the bathroom. Bladder was full, so pee dream must have been because of that. So I took my piss and went to bed. The next morning I woke up, more aware and remembered everything from last night. I realized I couldn't remember when I got up or how I even got to the bathroom. I cautiously went to my laundry basket and picked up the top article of clothing.\n\nIt was fucking damp.\n\nThat's right. I actually pissed in my laundry basket. I wanted to be embarrassed but I was more confused than anything. Because I wasn't drunk last night. Completely sober. I've never had any history of sleepwalking (to my knowledge). Sure, I was a little more tired than usual. But it's not like I haven't been that tired before--never so tired that I would sleepwalk and piss in my basket.\n\nSo you know, one load of laundry and new basket later, I'm a little more wary about lucid dreaming.", "summary": "Lucid dreaming + Sleepwalking = Pissing in My Laundry Basket"}
{"id": "t3_2l972f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [23 M] with my ex-girlfriend [23 F] dated for 8 months after a 3 year break, and 3 years before, broke up after revelation that I had lied about my past", "post": "[Original link\n](\n\nSo it's been a month since my last post and we decided to take a little break, which was nice. She then contacted me about a couple ago and told me that she was ready to forgive me and we met up and had dinner which was great. It was nice being able to laugh and talk without the resentment on either side. Throughout the dinner, though, she made comments about how \"I'm getting what I want\" and that no matter what I do, \"she's still here.\" I obviously told her this isn't what I want, and that she hasn't been there, which I completely understand why she wasn't.\n\nWe hung out the next night and she spent the night. A few days later she says that though she isn't angry at me, she doesn't think she can be with me and get over it. I say I understand, but that means that we shouldn't talk. Surprise, surprise, that doesn't last long and we start talking again. I'm being the guy I want to be with her, doing nice things and actually being thoughtful in hopes that she'll realize I'm not the piece of shit that she thinks I am.\n\nAt this point, I plan on letting her make the moves. Letting her suggest hanging out and talking, and hopefully let that transition into something. I know I want to be with this girl, but I just don't know at what expense? She never wants to hang out with me because she claims that anytime she does, she knows how right it feels and doesn't have the courage to stay broken up and that if we consistently see each other she knows it would turn into a relationship. One thing, though, is that I don't want to jump into a relationship. Our old relationship is dead, and for good reason, and I want to court her again. Take her out on dates, not have it end up with us at each others place for the night, etc.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend (at the time girlfriend), found out I lied about something in our past and ends the relationship. She is having trouble deciding and I am not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_534yu9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "What's the best plan of attack for making up the 4 years I wasn't able to make money? (Age:19/Location:US/SC)", "post": "Like with all of my threads, if there is any info you would like to know, just feel free to comment, I love answering questions.\n\nBasic info:Live in South Carolina, out in the country, and make 8 dollars an hour doing clean-up work.\n\nThis might just be me overthinking things, and possibly making it sound worse than it is, but do you guys have any advice for someone who wasn't able to save any cash/work until he was 19?\n\ni'm trying to put as much away as I can, taking as many side jobs/yards as I can handle, but I feel like it might not be enough. I do plan on doing some self investing (i.e. college) but not sure if I should start looking to do some actual investing (for example, mutual funds and the like)\n\nIn any case, I don't have any small/medium purchases, and some people and friends suggested a money market account for the time being, since i don't plan on doing anything too crazy.\n\nI know a lot of people will say, Look at the sidebar! And you would be right, but I just like asking around for more personalized advice.\n\nFor anyone who'se curious, the reason I wasn't able to work/save money involves a parent who I no talk to, and their annoying tendency to raid my bank account for stuff she didn't need. Which is why I just gave up, and decided to focus all of my spare time into schoolwork.\n\nNow that this is over, I currently make 8 or so dollars an hour, have about 350-360 USD in the bank, and not sure what to do with it. I've taken on extra hours, and hopefully plan on getting the max part time hours allowed.", "summary": "19 year old male worried about losing 4 years of earning potential, and wondering if I should just take it easy for the college years, or try and put a tiny bit away for intrest/ investing."}
{"id": "t3_pp8dp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need help with a friend gone wrong.", "post": "So this post is about a friend I've had for about 4 years or so and he will be called Tyler for the remainder of this post. Tyler has been going through some rough shit; he broke up with his first (and only) girlfriend during the summer that he'd been dating for 2 years and hasn't really gotten over it, he's convinced his parents hate him, and he's feeling very guilty over other breakups that have happened in our circle of friends. \n\nSo he's kind of turned into a dick.\n\nSince the summer, about 2 months after I started dating my current girlfriend, he told me she's not good enough for me and I should dump her. Since he was drunk off his ass I didn't really pay it any mind, however recently it's gotten worse; whenever he's drunk he constantly wants to fight me and telling me I should break up with my girlfriend since she \"isn't good enough.\" And I'm getting really fucking sick of it. \n\nSo I need help. The last thing I want to do is be yet another bad event in his life, but at the same time it's gotten to the point where I'm not really comfortable around him anymore. Worse still is that he acts like he's never said any of the stuff he's said while drunk and expects me to act like I don't care.", "summary": "Friend turned into a dick, tells me to break up with gf constantly, want to tell him to stop being a dick without jeopardizing friendship."}
{"id": "t3_fsqug", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think I may fail out of college and am not sure what to do.", "post": "Let me give you a little background Im 23 and currently a math major. I started out as computer science and did the undergrad for about 2 years before I decided I didn't really like it, and switched to math to keep some of the credits I took and thought I would be alright with it.\n\nNow its a year later I planned on graduating next year, but now don't know if I will be able.  Im talking calculus 3, Liner algebra and probability and statistics. Up until this point I have been alright in math classes but this semester seems like its going to be a bad one.\n\nI took my first test for all these classes and failed them. I studied for my calc test for 6 hours doing example problems (and getting them right) and going over the material, felt grate about the answers I put down thought I would get a decent grade, get it back and got a 51/100. I got a 9/20 on my stats test and 45 on my liner algebra test. \n\nI dont know what I can do to pass. I study to the point where I think I am prepared for the tests but, still fail. I thougfht about changing my habits for example I smoke  weed alot but its always after I do my homework or If I have to study I don't, so I don't even feel like it will make a difference.\n\nI feel like at this point I should have graduated and I fail these classes I should just dropout otherwise I'm just be wasting more time and money on a degree I wont be getting, or if I stay and do get the degree it. I feel like I wont be able to find a job due to poor or non-outstanding grades so the whole thing is a waste.\n\nIDK who to talk to about this but I'm just looking for advice.", "summary": "I think I'mgoing to fail all my classes this semester and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_ixdp1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are women more likely than men to go for someone already in a relationship?", "post": "If you're looking for a source and don't mind reading a biased article instead, hit up the final edit at the bottom of the page. Not exactly hard and fast data, I understand, but, then again, I don't appear to be the only person who has ever had this thought, as some Redditors apparently believe.\n___________________________________________________________________________________________\n\nI understand that it makes the person appear more trustworthy and worthwhile, but it has to be deeper than that.\n\nDISCLAIMER: Yes, I asked several of my (female) friends this question. None could give me a good answer, but 4 out of 5 agreed that this is the case, which I consider semi-validation that this is a thing. No, I am not the embodiment of Reddit misogyny and bitterness. I swear. I like girls, I really do. I'm just curious.", "summary": "for the"}
{"id": "t3_2uvih7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22m] confused with [19f] after first kiss.", "post": "Last week we meet for a coffee, ended up hanging out for pretty much the entire day, both had a great time. Before dropping her off we made plans to see each other again. I messed up by not calling it a date.\n\nLast night I picked her up and we went ice skating, both had a great time.  At one point she said \"laughing is my favorite thing to do, laughing and kissing. I like kissing a lot.\"  I took this as a hint.\n\nI drop her off back at her dorm. Before she gets out I go for the kiss.  She holds it for a few seconds before pulling away and gets a huge smile, so I'm thinking it went well.  But then she says \"oh\" and gets out of my car very quickly and paces off with her head down.  \n\nIt's driving my nuts wondering if she approved of the kiss or not.  I'm guessing texting and asking her isn't the best idea, so some opinions would be great!", "summary": "kissed girl, not sure how it went."}
{"id": "t3_2qnhbc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] Still in love with my ex [22/f] , but all my friends think I'm crazy. What should I do?", "post": "Hello, quick background my ex and I were together for 2 years and then I went to college. We made the long distance work, but it took its toll and by the end the year we were struggling to cope with not having the freedom to see each other. I broke up with him, hoping that doing so I was salvaging any possible friendship/relationship that might be in the future. But If i'm being completely honest I was young and scared that when he too went to college he would cheat on me or meet someone else. Its been a year or so, and I've got on with my life but I still think about him constantly, just wondering if on a day to day he's okay.\n\nWe still chat but very rarely, which I think has been good for us to get some space. Since we broke up he's become more involved in drugs and slept around. But I don't blame him for it we're not together. But all my friends thinks he has hit rock bottom since we broke up, and the majority try laughing with me about how I dodged a bullet.\n\nI don't know what to do, I still love him. I can see what he's become and he's not the same man but I can't change how I feel. The way I see it telling him how I feel is a lose-lose, he still loves me but we're different people now and it won't work or he doesn't feel the same and I'm heartbroken all over again.", "summary": "in love with my ex, but scared telling him how I feel will end badly either way and the alternative is biting my tongue which is hard enough"}
{"id": "t3_2c0hs4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I wish I didn't feel this", "post": "I have a friend, I'll call her C. She was someone who I loved in high school but moved at the end of the 10th grade year. Since we tried to stay friends for awhile but years took their toll and we fell out of touch. \n\nTill this year. She called me randomly one night a few months and we talked for hours and hours. It was like no time has passed. Since then we have talked every week or two and it is always the same. I usually end up getting almost no sleep because of the distraction alone. \n\nThis weekend was a wedding for a mutual friend and C's sister, M. While in she was in town, we had a 'bro night' on Wednesday. We got extremely drunk and then started kissing which lead to sex. The sex was rather horrid mostly due to the fact that I had whiskey dick hardcore. It felt like I had destroyed something I had. The friendship became complicated and borderline awkward. It is significantly made worse by the fact that she has a boyfriend back home. One that all of her friends and family here do not think she should date due to him not being nice to her and making her feel like everything is her fault. \n\nThen Saturday night after the wedding there was a party for all of the friends where quite a few of us took mdma. This night was really fun, but lead to me and her cuddling and me comforting her. Another one of her sisters, D, offered for her free room and board if she just stayed in Seattle to get her away from Iowa and their parents because they are alcoholics who never really took care of any of them. I was comforting her because the offer was something she really had to consider and she didn't know what to do about her boyfriend. \n\nI said goodbye to her a little bit ago. Because of all of this I managed to develop feelings for her and have no idea what to do. I already miss her and want it to stop. I regretted sleeping with her the next morning. I already knew things changed for me. I really wish I knew what to do with myself...", "summary": "slept with a friend and it changed my feelings for her."}
{"id": "t3_2jdll4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] don't know how to react to my boyfriends [18M] online lady friend.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been in an exclusive relationship for about 5 months or so, but have been together for a good part of 2 years. He has this friend who lives in England. She's a little bit younger, I think maybe 15 or 16? And I knew she had feelings for him because she used to send him provacative pictures all the time before we were together. (Before he was 18, and he also deleted them afer receiving them.) She now has a boyfriend, I think. \n\nAnyways, I went through his phone to find a skype message with this girl. He always said he'd never respond to her and that she was annoying and clingy. The messages I found would actually show him initating conversations. Whatever, no big deal.\n\nThen, I saw a message where he mentioned me. She had said something asking about me or something. He said to her that I was \"kinda his girl thing but not really because he is afraid of commitment.\" Um, what?\n\nI confront him about this, he gets mad and says that was from a really long time ago. He says some rude things. It would have made since maybe 8 or 9 months ago, because that's what he would tell me. But it wasn't. It was from not even two months ago. He told me he loved me then, and told everyone I was girlfriend then. There was no confusion in our relationship then. We had even planned to move in together.\n\nI called him out on this and he said that \"unlike me\" he doesn't get hit on all the time and it feels good to talk to someone who gives him attention and who isn't always mad at him all the time. I felt a little bad after this, but I always try to talk to him and he's the one who never talks back.\n\nIt's been a week or two and I have since let it go with him, but it still upsets me. Every time I bring it up he gets mad that I go through his phone. He tells me I need to trust him, though every time I've went through his phone has given me a reason NOT to trust him. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend told a girl who had feelings for him that I wasn't really his girlfriend so she would continue to give him attention. I'm pissed."}
{"id": "t3_1valp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anyone got any tips for moving in together for the first time? (M21, F21)", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years now. We moved in together about three months ago and I'm struggling to cope with things such as getting my work done, gaming and going to the gym. \n\nWe used to see each other once every five or six days before moving in and where are very \"honey moon period\" kind of couple. So every day now she expects me to be cuddling or doing things that only really relate to her which was fine when I was travelling up to see here and we had that night dedicated to each other but when we're spending every day together it's starting to get a little bit too much.\n\nShe's also pressing for sex 1 to 2 times per day which again was fine when we were living together that now starting to get a bit too much also.\n\nI have tried talking to her about this time she just gets really passive aggressive I won't really talk to me for the rest of the night, only responding with blood answers. \n\nI think a lot of it is due to the fact that she is home alone all day as she is looking for a job while I'm out working 9-to-5 \n\nIf anyone has any experience in this or being weather housewife I would love to hear your side on this. Failing that, any life cheats for moving in would be appreciated!!", "summary": "moved in with girlfriend and because she's a house wife, I don't get any time to myself"}
{"id": "t3_3y8wfu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] feeling like I'm competing with my girlfriend's [22F] family", "post": "I bought my girlfriend a sterling silver necklace with a Sapphire for Christmas. I got it on sale, regular $175, I paid $50. Today she goes to her parents house (we don't get along at all). They bought her a necklace too (they probably spent $1000 on her this year). Her parents gave her 3 large gifts prior to Christmas. She walks in today and the first thing she says, while carrying two huge bags, is \"I have too much stuff\". Then she proceeds to tell me about how the necklace they bought her costed 6x as much as the one I bought her. She can't understand why I'm annoyed. Am I wrong for feeling annoyed? I feel like it was just rude of her to go on about how expensive the gifts she received from her family were.", "summary": "Bought GF necklace for Christmas, her family also bought her one. She throws it in my face that theirs costed way more. I'm annoyed. She doesn't understand why."}
{"id": "t3_f11dn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Somebody witnessed a truck hit my car and left me a note, now what.", "post": "So last night I go out to my car which is parked on the corner of my street and discover my side mirror is totally busted and hanging halfway down to the ground. There was a note on my windshield saying it a was Bloomingdale's delivery truck, with the license plate number and the area in which it made a delivery. The person who wrote the note also left their phone number on there which I haven't called yet. At most it's about $300 worth of damage. So should I call the cops to file a complaint or try talking to Bloomingdale's directly?", "summary": "Delivery truck hit my car, somebody witnessed it and got License plate, what do I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_4rijzh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] am not a desirable romantic partner. I would like to know how to improve myself.", "post": "I [31 M] have been in one relationship. We met on Twitter. I dated her [30 F] (This was 4 years ago, I was 27), long-distance, relationship lasted a few months. She broke up with me over Facebook without given a reason; does not talk to me.\n\nI have a fairly small circle of IRL friends [20s/30s M/F], mostly women, and a larger circle of online friends [20s/30s M/F]. I've been increasingly lonely, especially as so many of my friends are getting married/pregnant. I've been trying \"everything\" to meet someone: Internet dating, speed-dating, asking friends to fix me up, etc. for quite some time now. This isn't working. Nobody is interested in me.\n\nI've decided to quit looking for a relationship for now while I any attempt to find someone to date for now and instead try to work on myself, but I'm not sure what's wrong with me and what I should be focusing on improving or how to set realistic goals so I know I'm actually achieving any change.\n\nI have chronic depression, and anxiety, low self-esteem, and Asperger syndrome (AS).\n\nI hope my post makes sense. Thank you.", "summary": "I [31 M] have given up looking for a relationship for now. I need to know how to improve myself but I'm not sure how."}
{"id": "t3_1p07q4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16F) want to disobey parents (48M/F) for the first time.", "post": "Ok long story short. My parents are the very overprotective \"tiger\" type parents. They 100% forbid me playing video games, and I've complied with them since I was 12. I really want to get the new 3DS with Pokemon. I talked to them recently about it and they still 100% forbid me playing games.\n\nI am an overachiever, I maintain a 95% average and will be entering university next year. I work very hard, and I have saved up $10.4k from summer jobs ($4.3k this year) and I really want to treat myself to something I have wanted for a long time.\n\nMy parents both work all day, so i would be able to conceal the 3DS from them, and they would never know I got it. This would be the first time in my life that I ever \"rebelled\" against my parents. Should I? I can go and purchase it tomorrow if I want to. But the question is... SHOULD I? I feel like I would be betraying my parents' trust, but I have been under their control for my whole life and I've had enough. But if I get it, and make sure they don't know about it, it won't hurt, will it? Please help, have any of you been in this sort of situation?", "summary": "16 year old girl has very controlling overprotective parents who forbids video games, but wants to disobey them and purchase a 3DS."}
{"id": "t3_tyokz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear redditor-graduates: how do I pay for college without drowning in student loans? Any tips/money/life hacks for paying for school?", "post": "I am a white male from a middle class family, thus, scholarships and financial aid are a bit more slim.  My parents are divorced and it looks like only my Mom will be contributing - she has enough saved for one year's tuition at my UC, but the rest of my schooling is upon me.  I was wondering if any of you out there had any tips on:\n\n* where to apply for scholarships (I've been through the obvious websites)\n* getting and balancing jobs\n*  getting loans that I will pay off before I retire\n*  any advice at all on how to afford this", "summary": "Any advice on how to pay for college - any experience is helpful, thanks."}
{"id": "t3_1f9qyv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "It's been two years and I [m26] just cannot get over her [f21] no matter what I do.", "post": "We dated for two years and I just loved the fuck out of her, had never met anyone like her.  She went to school 3 hours away and broke up with me not long after because she said she wasn't happy.\n\nFor the next two years, every break from school she would come home, initiate contact and I would cave and hang out with her.  We fucked, went on dates, everything, and starting last year she started to talk about getting back together, put lyrics about me in her facebook that she still wasn't over me.\n\nAnd yet, in person she still mistreated me, acted like she didn't care, embarrassed me in front of her friends, told me at one point that it was over and we were both hooking up with new people (I had been to try to get over her).  3 separate times I tried to cut her out of my life and she kept coming back.  Complete mindfuck every time.\n\nThis last time I said goodbye was the day after we had sex and she immediately whipped out her phone while laying in bed to go through her online dating profile.  I asked why the hell she had one and she said she was lonely, and well.. I had had enough.  She was freaking pissed that I was trying to cut her out of my life, but I knew I had to.  That was 5 months ago and I haven't heard from her since.\n\nToday I was flipping through fb and happened across a pic she tagged me in, and saw her profile pic had another guy in it, and my heart dropped through the floor.  I am miserable. \n\nHow THE FUCK do I get over her?!  I have dated a bunch of different girls over the last two years and broken up with all of them because I haven't connected with any of them like I did with her.  Please, please help.", "summary": "I have tried everything to get over my ex, and I just can't.  I think she's with someone new now and it makes me want to die. please tell me how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_2lzjy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [27M], who I dated for one year, he broke up with me last week and now wants to talk about getting back together", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nLong time lurker here. Need some advice on how to approach my situation.\n\nBasically, last week, my boyfriend (27M) of one year broke up with me because he doesn't feel satisfied about where he is in life and he wants to focus on school/work/life/whatever in order to make a positive change. In light of all this, he felt like he couldn't give me the attention that I wanted/deserved in a relationship. But I suggested having a serious talk about how I could support him through this transition. He was saying things like \"pushing me to hang out every weekend isn't really supporting me\" and \"I need to focus on myself.\" Fair enough. I couldn't really say anything to change his mind after that and we broke up. For good. Or so I thought.\n\nRecently, he's been texting me and saying that he loves and misses me. He said that he wants to meet up and try to work something out because, in his words, \"I miss having you in my life\" and \"I realized that you mean a lot to me and what we have is hard to find and build.\"\n\nAs much as I would love to immediately take him back, I'm worried that he would just break up with me again for the same reasons. It seems like he freaks out when things in his life start to get stressful. I feel like the reason we broke up in the first place was because our relationship was becoming a source of stress for him (I recently had to move a couple of hours away from him, which certainly made things harder for us). \n\nHe wants to meet up this weekend to talk about getting back together. He's going to see a therapist soon, so that might offer some perspective too. \n\nI realize that staying broken up is a viable option. But I also want to give him a fair chance to explain himself this weekend. What kind of questions should I be asking him? How will I know that he truly wants to take the necessary steps to make our relationship work? What should I be doing?", "summary": "My ex had broken up with me last week because he needed to focus on himself. He's now having second thoughts and wants to meet up to talk about getting back together. I'm wondering how I should be approaching such a conversation."}
{"id": "t3_1095hx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the craziest thing you've done without warning?", "post": "Last night I made a snap decision to quit my job in the middle of a project and fly to another country to be with my wife.\n\nBackstory: I've been working at a small company for a little more than a year. Like many startups, it doesn't have a lot of money, so I've been earning precious little during that time relative to comparable positions in the industry (avg. starting salary ~$35K/year). A few months after starting with this company, I married a wonderful woman I met while at college (outside the US), and things were good. Unfortunately, our particular immigration situation (trying to get her into the US) is tricky, and we've had to spend most of our time apart. This has taken a pretty harsh toll on our relationship. Recently, much of our time has been spent fighting and yelling b/c of the stress of being apart. It reached a breaking point last night, and I felt that I had two choices: my job or my marriage. Being raised in a family where spousal relationships take priority, it was an easy choice. I found a next-day flight for pretty cheap, packed my stuff, and am now Redditing in the airport waiting for my flight.", "summary": "Did you read the first sentence?"}
{"id": "t3_33o83v", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My sister in law is really sick", "post": "She has cancer and just had another surgery. I fear that she might die and my brother might have to care for my nephew. He's a good guy, but has been super angry lately. I can't talk to him. Damn, I can't even hug him. (ever) He's kind of angry, all the time, and this isn't because of her, he was angry because of our parents before she even was in the picture. I made my own life as a teen, left, and NEVER looked back. I was the \"bad\" person because of it, but screw them, I found myself and made my life great. My brother, he just did his thing, did the \"right\" thing, and became a very angry and unhappy adult because of it. \n\nI like her better. She's friggin awesome, WICKED smart, fun, just a GOOD person. Her family is awesome. They are normal, happy people. They like my brother, but i'm afraid in the future, what will happen?? I'm terrified, that if she dies from this, he's just going to turn into I don't know what. I feel bad for her family, because my \"phew\" is their life.  He's golden boy, kind of spoiled, but not really, told how to live life the correct way. They have an overwhelmingly POSITIVE influence on this kids life. I'm afraid my brother does not have the same.\n\nUnfortunately, they live a few states away, but that's OK. You know what my sister in law said? \"I want him to know YOU as his aunt\" and her and her family have done everything right, to include me in what they do!", "summary": "cancer absolutely sucks."}
{"id": "t3_323xww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19F) and my exclusive hook-up buddy (19F), I'm so confused.", "post": "Me and this guy, who we'll call Alex, have been hooking up for about 3 weeks but decided to go exclusive 2 weeks ago after many hints and a lot of insisting from his side. \nWe knew each other in high school and have kept in regular contact since finishing so he isn't a new person. \n\nHe kept insisting we go exclusive because he wasn't interested in being with someone else and wasn't interested in playing the field. I wasn't too keen on going exclusive so soon because I've only been single for a few months after a long term relationship. I wanted space and time to just be myself but I fell for him and we get along great so I thought \"why not?\". At the moment we are borderline dating but without the fancy title and we are no where near as serious but rather take it as it comes so to say. \n\nLast night I slept over his and we had just finished watching a movie when he left the room, I rolled over to check my phone but picked his up accidentally and saw multiple texts from a girl called Jane (fake name) who was saying things like \"love you\" and \"babe, I don't want you to be mad\". I put the phone down straight away and bought it up when he came back in the room and was assured she's just a friend but he didn't really answer my questions about why she was saying that. I didn't push and we went to sleep. \n\nToday we didn't talk much because he was at work and went out with his friends tonight, when he text me I asked again about Jane and got told that they had a thing when she was in our country but when she went back home, which is 23 hours away by flight, they agreed long distance wouldn't work and stayed friends but they are going to we each other when he has enough money to go over there. \n\nI have no idea what to do, I've caught feelings and just want a straight answer but he keeps avoiding it. I don't want to be that girl and I don't want to get involved and waste my time if he is just going to play games. What do I say? How do I approach him with this being so new?", "summary": "my new exclusive hookup buddy is being shady, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wcb0n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by tearing a mans hand off.", "post": "So I'm at a certain beer brewery again doing some automation work and I was going to go check if the new machine was all wired up so I could start working on it. I was walking there with my boss and there was some new technician I haven't seen here before. My boss starts talking to him and does the usual handshake, but grabs his wrist instead of his hand, which I thought was weird. Since we were there together the guy extends his hand and I grab it for a shake. Moments later my brain realized the hand I was holding wasn't shaking back. Instead of apologizing instantly I started laughing instead like an idiot, holding his hand and getting odd looks from both of them. Luckily I haven't seen him again today. I always thought prosthetic hands were better attached so they wouldn't just slip off like that. It did look amazingly life-like.", "summary": "pulled off mans prosthetic hand and laughed like an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_1j1kdy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24M] have one last night with [24F], how should i leave it?", "post": "I'm leaving this weekend to spend time with family before i start graduate school. Im in love with her. We have never talked about it, but im sure she at least feels similarly (this is coming from the way we interact plus 3rd party talks with friends who also hang out with us). We were always in relationships with diffrent people at diffrent times. As the great ted mosby said \"all you need is chemistry and timing.\" We sure as shit had chemistry, like crazy awesome chemistry, but no timing.\n\nSo here it is, last day ill get to see her and shes coming over tonight to hang out one last time. She currently has a bf (<2 months), im leaving for graduate school that i worked really hard for but i could potentially put on hold. Should i just leave it the way it is? tell her how much i care about her but dont reveal my feelings? That way i could look back on things with a romantic 'what if' but im so afraid im making a huge mistake. If i tell her how i feel and she rejects me im not sure how i would feel about being completely wrong about interpreting her signals plus it would be a shitty way to leave our friendship. If she yes then im putting off my career which i worked hard for, for a chance on love that i don't even know will work out. Im so lost....", "summary": "It's a pretty hard decision to make between a career you love and a girl that has you feeling you may be leaving a soul mate behind, whats sad is i can't say for sure she feels the same."}
{"id": "t3_2oe7te", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "3D modeling - Avoiding the use of editorial licenses while providing real world / analogous 3D models?", "post": "So selling 3d models with an editorial license is a drag, because using 3d models that have an editorial license is a drag... (you have to get permission from original rights owners before you can use it in games).\n\nI'm trying to find a way to rationalize the process selling 3d analogues of real world items without invoking anything. Obviously, some cars in Grand Theft Auto have real world analogs, like Ferrari... beyond simply removing trademarked and copyrighted symbols, you can't argue that a 96% accurate 3d model somehow represents a knockoff or counterfeit, can you?\n\nOr a real world case, this doesn't translate well should still be applicable to 3d models. You list a Zippo lighter on ebay, Zippo sents you a C&D and ebay removes the listing automatically (happened to me). Am I allowed to re-list that item under a generic name? Or is my only resort to simply destroy the item since it's irrefutably a knockoff or counterfeit. Or can I just re-list it titled \"Generic Lighter\".", "summary": "Is there some \"generic - for purposes of real world analog\" rationale for using and selling 3d models depicting real world products (without having to limit it to editorial license, but full-use instead)."}
{"id": "t3_xrcbm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "To snoop or not to Snoop?", "post": "me (26) her (25) in a relationship for 2 months or 2 weeks, who knows... and just for the background: i was cheated multiple times in my last relationship\n\nSo, we were friends for about 6 years and became fwb 5 months ago. 2 months ago we had a huge fight about her hitting on every guy she meets on the streets, even when she\u00b4s with me. In the end we decided that it would be a good idea to transform our fwb into a \"real\" relationship.\n\nOne month later: I noticed that she was not really open with me. I always had the feeling that there is something she is hiding from me.\n\nI\u00b4m not proud what i did in the next step: i snooped around, and i found some disturbing mails on her cellphone. She was still flirting like hell and even wrote her ex-bf that she misses him and want to visit him soon.\n\nAnd there it was, the next huge fight. She said she would be sorry and that she just not felt like being in a relationship. She broke off the contact with her ex-bf and some of the other guys and it was ok for me.\n\nHere and now, she really seems like she is into this whole relationship thing and we have a great time together, but then there are these moments when she gets mails at 3 or 4 am and tells me its her female coworker, or when she gets a mail, smiles and black out the screen as fast as possible.\n\nIn my opinion is trust one of the most important things in an relationship, and i\u00b4m not interested in snooping on her again... but what would have happened if i had not snooped in the first place. There were just this small evidence, and now, there are these small evidence again.\n\nI just don\u00b4t know what to do anymore. Just end the relationship? Read through her mails again? Talk to her and risk that she ends the relationship because of my jealousy?", "summary": "snooped around and found something, now feel the urge to snoop again"}
{"id": "t3_3h61zi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/M] with my GF [21/F] making me suspicious about friend online", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a bit. We've had our fair share of bad moments, but on the whole it has been good. My girlfriend is a frequent user of Instagram and often gets a lot of male attention. She often assures me that she never flirts with guys on Instagram, but we had an issue a few months ago where she became Facebook friends with a guy on Instagram who was asking for breast pictures and constantly hitting on her. I told her by adding him i felt disrespected and a boundary had been crossed, she apologized, said she understood and wouldn't do something like that again.\n\nFast forward to now, i know that she has made a new friend on Instagram who is from Canada and we live half way around the world. She again told me that they were simply friends who had similar interests. I have told her during one of our arguments about social media that i want her to be honest with me about her interactions online. I do have some jealousy and insecurity issues but im learning to control them. She has previously said to me that because of my jealousy and insecurities that she sometimes feels that she in being constrained and she doesnt always tell me about her interactions because she is worried that i will overreact. I told her that i dont care about her talking online to people, just as long as she was honest and open about it to me. \n\nLast night i was at her place and i saw her on Gmail. There were 20 long messages to the guy from Canada. I havent told her that i saw that she was messaging him, but what is making me uncomfortable is the fact that she hasn't mentioned to me how much she has been messaging him. This also comes back to when i asked her to be open and honest with me about her interactions online and she agreed to do so.\n\nI dont know what to currently do, a part of me feels like talking to her about it and sorting it out but another part of me just feels like calling it quits.", "summary": "Girlfriend not being honest about interactions with guy online"}
{"id": "t3_404wex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] do not want to marry my girlfriend [19f] is there a point to continue?", "post": "Weve been dating a year and a half. Weve been in a long distance relationship for about 10 months. She is not my opinion of an ideal wife, but i figure we are young and being in a relationship doesnt mea you are in it for marriage.  \n\nShe wants to get married one day and when she used to try to talk to me about it id tell her something along the lines of \"were so young and i dont plan on getting married till im in my mid 20s, I dont really want to make promises or tell you no.\" The talks made me uncomfortable and we both took it as an uncertainty but talked it out and never argued about it.  \n\nBut damn, the amount of love this girl has for me is insane. And thats what i love about her, but i know that marriage isnt solely based on love, but logic as well. Love isnt always the sole deciding factor. I feel like if i break up with her shed make bad mistakes. I feel like she would hurt herself. She is so depressed when im not home and it scares me how easily she puts me before her, but its consoling at the same time. I might never meet a girl that puts so much effort into me as her. I appreciate her for eveything she does, but i cant shake the feeling that shes just not my ideal spouse.  \n\nReddit, what do i do? Is it counter-productive for me to continue? Is it morally wrong for me to continue? What should the final intentions be when in a relationship with someone?", "summary": "long distance relationship. GF is not my ideal opinion of potential wife. Im her perfect man. She loves me to death right now and the amount of love she has for me is truly beautiful. Is it wrong for me to continue the relationship if i dont have intentions to marry her?"}
{"id": "t3_2nro93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25/F] boyfriend [26/M] of 5 months doesn't comfort me when I'm upset", "post": "We've been together for almost five months now. Some things that may make the problem clearer. We live about 30 minutes away from each other. He has a car but I don't. I go over to see him by taking two buses and it takes me more than an hour to reach his place.\n\nI was really upset yesterday. I was telling him about it by texting him occasionally during the day. Around 5, I decided to ask him if I could come over to his place. He told me his friends were coming over to his place. I told him I didn't want to be alone and moping in bed the rest of the night. He responded by saying he was really sorry I was having a really bad day. That was all I heard from him last night.\n\nI always tend to support him when he is upset. I went over to his place and waited for over two hours outside his apartment (I didn't have a key) just to be with him when he was upset.\n\nIt's 10 am on a Saturday here and I'm waiting for him to text me. I am going to tell him I don't want to see him tomorrow (we had plans) and that he chose to spend last night hanging out with his friends instead of comforting his girlfriend tells me what his priorities are. \n\nAm I doing the right thing? Feel free to ask me questions as I may have left things out.", "summary": "Boyfriend didn't let me go over to his place when I was upset; opted to spend time with his friends and hasn't texted me since 6 last night."}
{"id": "t3_1bzy14", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I not completely screw up moving out?", "post": "I'm going to be moving out of my parents apartment soon and moving very far away (from New York to South Carolina) and I'm trying to figure out what the best way to not get screwed.  I've searched reddit and it seems most of the people moving are wealthy enough to where things are going to be tough but manageable they're just looking for tips.  They have a job lined up or they have a SO they're moving in with so it makes things easier.\n\nRight now I only have a GED and some coursework in college.  I'm staying with a friend for a bit so housing immediately isn't a concern (though I am looking before I move) and I don't have a job for right when I get down there (the ones that I've received asking for interviews want to do it in person so I have to wait until I get down there).\n\nI'm moving as the parent I'm living with has screwed me over an insane amount of times (brining my credit score down because I was dumb and trusted her to pay for things I sign on and stealing money from me), and I'm moving out of New York just because it's too expensive to live here and the job market doesn't exist, at least for people with no degrees.\n\nI'm looking to go back to college once I get settled down there and don't have to pay out of state tuition but I'm just insanely nervous about the move and am looking for any advice I can get.  Hoping that someone in a similar situation can throw me advice.", "summary": "Moving to a different state alone, no degree, no job lined up, temporary housing at a buddies, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3byiea", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [18 F], 5 months, are arguing over her friend always being around her.", "post": "A few months ago, my girlfriend had this friend who was crazy over her. Always asking her out and wanting to date her while we were together. She shut him down a few times but he kept trying. She told him that she needed him to stop talking to him after consulting me and another of her friend. He completely ignored her request and kept trying to push himself in her life until she completely forgets about it.\n\nNowadays, they are still talking. He's always stalking her, texting her, joining her when she plays online games, being on Skype calls with her. \n\nI keep asking to Skype call her but she says she's in one with her sister already. 30 minutes later I find out she's in a Skype call with the guy as well. Tells me it's actually a group call and that friend and her sister are both in it.\n\nI'm getting annoyed by his stalker behavior and asked her that she should sometimes tell him to give her space so I can have some privacy with my girlfriend but instead she gets upset over this and won't talk to me. I didn't think that was unreasonable seeing the circumstances, right?\n\nWhat do you guys think? Am I being an asshole? What should I do?", "summary": "Guy has crush on girlfriend, she tells him to leave her alone. Guy ignores it and they are now together all the time. I want her to distance herself from him but she doesn't want to."}
{"id": "t3_2grltz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Asking ex roomate [19/f] out on a date, she said yes but hasn't replied to anything more.", "post": "I lived with this girl for about a year at university and we became quite good friends, over the summer break I began to realise that I missed her a lot and I actually really liked her.\n\nFastforward to the new term, we have been talking a lot and I've met up a few times with her and been complimenting her. Finally yesterday i pulled up the courage to ask her out and she said yes and that she was free anytime. I asked her if she wanted to go out that night or tomorrow night (today now) and she said she will text me in half an hour because she had already made plans to go out to a club with her friends but she didnt seem that interested in going. About 2 hours later still no reply so I asked her what was she doing to which she replied 'opps sorry yeah we are going to (insert generic club here). I was fine with this, i then asked if she was still up for going out tomorrow night to which ive still got no reply.\n\nI really do like her but obviously im not going to blurt out all my feelings to her in an attempt to get her to come out. Shes also done this before to me (taking a long time to reply to me). So im really stuck as what to do right now, i dont want to seem pushy and I know this is probably a sign that shes not really interested but i guess im kinda hung up on the fact she said she would go out with me.\n\nSo i guess im asking you guys how i should play this? (also should be noted today i think her sister who she is close with is moving away and I think shes upset about it) Do you guys think I should leave it? text her? call her? I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "Girl ive know for a year says yes to go out with me but then doesnt reply to me if shes still up for going out, we are close friends and shes taken a while to reply to me before now. We were supposed to be going out tonight but she still hasnt replied to my previous text. Shes also going through some emotional stuff today i think so she might be busy."}
{"id": "t3_2utyyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [24/M] and his sister [32/F] and i hate her two year old son", "post": "So about a year ago I moved into my boyfriends mums house. (He and his whole family are mexican, so this sort of thing isn't a problem, in fact she likes having me around) but his older sister is fairly annoying and either comes around all the time or asks us to babysit. Seeing as I live with his grandmother, there's no escape.\n\nI fucking hate kids. For a while I kind of got used to him and almost liked him, but I was also drinking a lot lol. I recently kicked the habit, which has been fantastic. But holy fuck, every time b I see his stupid little face I'm just filled with rage. I've even had brief thoughts of hitting him. :( he's turning three in June and he's still in diapers and can't put together a sentence yet because his mother never stays at home. They're either at our house or running around. He screams and throw tantrums all the time, eats junk food because like I said, they're never at home and hits his parents and my boyfriend when he doesn't get exactly what he wants. \n\nNot only this, but I just lost my food stamps after going back to school and I eat very specific foods. Yogurt, smoothies, lots of fruit, and tons of juice. Every time they come b over the little shot screams for juice and apples and trail mix and they eat it, so now I'm fucking broke and hungry. I'm so pissed at these horrible fucking people and their idiot brat that it's started making me feel hostile towards other mexican children I see in the supermarket. :( \n\nI'm so happy and healthy ninety percent of the time, but every time I'm around my boyfriends family it makes me want to drink again. :/ every time I even try to mention my dislike of children in general, not even his nephew, he gets super pissy. He's very defensive of his family. But I'm scared I'm going to have to move out next term if he continues to stay here. \n\nAny advice is appreciated, but mostly thank b you for letting me get this off my chest, it feels so good to type these words out.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_36qimd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my date [21F] for a month, doubting over giving her a gift", "post": "Hi guys! I hope this is by the rules and my english is proper (not my mother tongue).\n\nSo I've been dating a girl for a month now. I've met her at a bar and we exchanged numbers. We've been on 5 dates now and tomorrow is our 6th. We really get along, share some rare background and have a lot of fun together. We go to the park, have drinks, watch movies on the couch and spend nights together. \n\nSince she heard at the hospital that she is healthy (not going into details about this), I want to give her a small gift next date. In her college-room she has several stuffed animals and we had a funny talk about them that one of them was really lonely. I also know she loves a particular animal a lot. So I bought her a small stuffed animal (the kind of animal she likes) to give her and the other stuffed animal some company. But I doubt a little bit about giving it to her, it might be a bit immature? Or should I tell her while giving the gift that I'm happy that she's healthy and the other stuffed animal has some company as well from now (with a wink)? Funny I worry about giving her a stuffed animal and not the usual questions you see over here...", "summary": "Date went to hospital, declared healthy. Want to give her a stuffed animal, might be immature?"}
{"id": "t3_3h43uu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [21F] relationship going through a \"rough patch\" or is it over?", "post": "For about two months I've felt like my relationship of almost two years is over. I no longer (usually) look forward to seeing my SO when I come home. Intimacy with him is very bland. I'm easily annoyed with the things he does. He is a very loving and kind man, and I feel terrible for feeling so negative towards our relationship. Some people have told me \"love is a choice. you just have to learn to love someone past the infatuation stage\"....but shouldn't you still be excited about your relationship past the infatuation stage? It doesn't seem right to drag someone along that loves you more than you love them.", "summary": "Always feeling meh about my relationship, is that normal?"}
{"id": "t3_1ecgbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] feel extremely hurt over husbands [24M] lack of affection, and well...appreciation.", "post": "He works 3rd shift and works long hours to provide for us. This I understand because before we moved, I was the provider working 3rd shift as well. So, I understand when he is tired and think I do a damn good job at showing him the upmost respect and appreciation. He gets dinner in bed (his breakfast) everyday before work, I bring him his uniforms and even start his showers. I baby him really. His days off work used to be so much fun. He would spend time with the kids and I, we would do little fun things together. Park, fishing, bike rides...yadayada. This past week was our anniversary and Mothers Day, packed into one weekend. I really didn't expect much....but I got nothing. Literally nothing. He thanked me for the gifts I gave him, one being something I spent almost 6 months saving for, and the other just some sentiments about how I loved him. A deck of cards with 52 reasons why I love him and some candies with corny sayings on them. Anything would have been wonderful! Anything. It seems like I am being picky and all, but I really don't think I am. Just hurts to feel so forgotten. No clue how to bring it up without sounding like a stuck up bitch. Any advice?", "summary": "spent 6 months saving and planning anniversary gift for husband and he didn't do shit for me. NOTHING!"}
{"id": "t3_3lrk3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my roommate [18 M] for the past week, Thought we were just chilling", "post": "For the past week my roommate has been constantly asking if I wanted to \"Netflix and Chill\", however I am not sure if he understands the meaning of the phrase. In the past he has shown interest in me, but I always dismissed them as him being weird. \n\nLast night we watched \"The Longest Yard\" together and during the scene where the \"girls\" flirt with adam sandler, my roommate made a move around my shoulders. I immediately backed away from him and he immediately made a grab for my crotch region. He seems to have only grazed the head but it was still uncomfortable for me. \n\nHe still doesn't have a bed in our room and has been sleeping on the floor, however he recently requested to join me in bed because of \"back problems\" he's been having. I told him I can sleep on the couch for a night and he immediately dismissed the idea. What should I do, like I wanna stay friends but I feel like there's only one part of me that he wants.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_30jsjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] wondering how to set boundaries with potential boyfriends and my child[3]", "post": "Throwaway;\n\nI am a single mom with no attachment to the childs biological father. He has never been involved and it is unlikely he ever will be. In a way this is nice because assuming some day I get married it will be simpler to integrate someone into our little family.\n\nI recently started dating and although I am enjoying just being casual and meeting new people I am realizing that eventually I will probably meet someone I want to be more serious with. I am wondering when is an appropriate time to start introducing a boyfriend to a child? \n\nI would make sure that my child saw the relationship as platonic (ie no kissing or being too intimate), and that he was not an immediate father figure, but eventually I will want my child to meet my future SO and I don't want to make the mistake of introducing them too soon or too late. I don't have a lot of family or friends and I don't know anyone who has experience with this type of situation so I was wondering if anyone else that does could maybe offer some words of advice or personal experience stories. Anything is appreciated! thanks", "summary": "Single mom started dating, not sure when to introduce future SO's to child."}
{"id": "t3_1w5ec2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my Friends and family.", "post": "I started talking to my now husband, Aaron when I was 17 years old, he was 30. We talked for almost a year, ever day as much as we could for almost a year before we officially started dating. I hadn't told any one about this because I knew the age difference would be a problem. We both decided on my 18th birthday we would come pick me up and I would move in with him.\nWhen I decided it was time to tell my parents and my life long friends they all where very shocked but seemed to be accepting of the fact they couldn't change my mind.\nFast forward to almost 3 amazingly happy, flawless, love-filled years with him, my whole family, friends absolutely hates him, and hates me for being with him. They no nothing about him because they refuse to have anything to do with us at all anymore. They have all come to me at some point and have said horrible, hurtful things about us both. To top it off, last year I had found my new religion which makes my very happy and spiritually pleased... All of them are very close minded Christians and shun me for that as well.\nMy husband works long hours during the day, and I work nights, this is a fairly new thing for us. The crushing feeling of loneliness has caused me to be more depressed than I have ever been. He is the only person I have left now in my life and I'm so thankful I have him but it also hurts so badly being so alone.", "summary": "My lifelong friends and family hate me because of my choice in marriage and religion. I'm lonely and depressed."}
{"id": "t3_2h3zjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't get him fully out of my head.", "post": "We dated for 7 years I am 27 he is 29. We lived together, were engaged. We broke up 6 months ago. I threw out all his stuff. Or thungs he gave me. I still live in the same apartment. I removed him from Facebook,  cut off contact. But i still went and looked to see if he started back in dating sites. He did.  I dunno why this bothers me. I moved on, i am in a new relationship. He was abusive, a dead beat, lived almost completely off my money,  barely contributed to our household,  he dodnt even clean when all he did was work a part tome jib, and i was working at least 10 houra a day or more on my schooling. Why do i keep having to look. Please any advice woukd be helpful.", "summary": "we broke up, and keep looking at his stuff. How do i stop?"}
{"id": "t3_2pnp4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] cant get over my ex [20 F], eventhough she has became everything I hate in a girl", "post": "(First of all, sorry in advance for my poor English i'm not a native english speaker.)\n\n4 months ago she ask me what do I think about something she was planning to do, I told her that i did not like the idea, but if she was sure about it i would support her. Probably she was very stressed, because she got very upset and ended fighting.\nAfter 3 years of relationship she decide to breakup with me for that.\nShe breakup with me using the most destructive words she could find, eventhough the day after we spend a great afternoon, there was no indication that this would happen. \nMultiple times she told me that our relationship was beautiful, that she had improved a lot as a person thanks to me, she wrote me letters, I did too, i always support her, i always try to be a good boyfriend ... but in the end she said that everything was horrible for her. \n\nShe always told me that she hated the parties, and hated people who had many false friends ... we were both a bit antisocial in that aspect. I make the mistake to leave many friends to be with her, she became my only friend. Meanwhile she continued to make many friends and going out with them like a normal person. So when the relationship ended, it left me with nothing. While I spent the night thinking what I did wrong, she went out to parties and make many new friends.\n\nShe quickly became a shallow person, and we stopped talking. The fact of not having anyone to talk to about it has made me spend much time thinking about it, I learned a lot about our relationship. But for some reason, despite the fact that she hurt me so much, eventhough she became the type of person we both hated, I can not stop thinking about her. \nI feel that I'm hoping that magically becomes the girl of 3 years ago, but I know that will not happen.\n\nI decided to write this because I need to express what I feel and I have no one to do it, hopefully someone could give me some advice. I deleted what I can about her,photos, facebook, phone number, letters, gifts, etc...  but her ghost dont leave", "summary": "My ex breakup with me after 3 years of a great relationship saying that everything was awful for her. Now she became the type of person we both hated, but i cant get her out of my mind eventhough that was 4 months ago"}
{"id": "t3_2c2fk5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a 31 year old man, I just started dating a 37 year old woman I've known for about 2 years, my question is this: is the romantic, twitterpated feeling at the beginning of a relationship neccisary for the relationship to be good/last?", "post": "I'm 31 and not experienced dating, she is 37 and much more experienced than I.  My past attempts at dating have been squashed by my own in securities, but with her, I have not struggled much with the same problems.  In the first two weeks I did but I was able to work through the feelings and get past them. I genuinely feel I'm falling in love with her but I have only felt a small bit of the exciting dopamine fueled romantic feelings that I had in the past failed attempts.  She struggles with bipolar disorder, and we had a long discussion the other night when she was feeling particularly low.and one point she confessed that she did not feel romantically towards me either, and was not sure she ever would.  There was no hint that this meant she wanted to change our relationship in any way, but I have been thinking a lot about the conversation. Things I know: I feel safe when with her, and she feels the same, we love each others company, and while we don't get to see each other all the time I have never doubted her care for me, but I alsonknow that this is not what I had initially expected when asking her to date.", "summary": "my partner and I don't feel the romantic twitterpated feeling that is common at the start of a relationship. Have any of you experienced this, and is it a bad thing?"}
{"id": "t3_4vm8lf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [26/M] thinking of asking [26/F] Out (Clueless)", "post": "Hi, I am a 26 y/o working as an engineer. I am thinking of asking my 26 y/o female friend out. We been in the same primary school and same secondary schools, but we drifted apart in secondary school. I always liked her but never had enough courage/will to do anything about it.\n\nSo far, I am rather normal on the outside but in reality rather awkward and introvert person. Most of the time I do things logically which sometimes isn't always the best way. I have never been in a relationship. Most of my friends are guys, I don't really know how women think.\n\nWe meet maybe once every 6 months in school gatherings. I have tried asking her out once to a theme park since we both have annual passes but she said she was busy. I took it as a no and moved on. That was maybe 2.5 years ago. Still wondering if I should give this a try.\n\nI am thinking of asking her out for dinner or movie maybe once a week and if she says no I will keep trying for a month. Any way I should approach this?, would be helpful to hear from you all.", "summary": "Never dated before, looking to date an ex-classmate."}
{"id": "t3_eklia", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does Reddit use downvotes?", "post": "Just wondering.\n\nIt seems to me, personally, that using a system with only upvotes would be sufficient. People often downvote just because of personal opinion or other similar reasons. And sometimes, just seeing your post getting downvoted into oblivion kinda sucks, right?\n\nWhat if the system only used upvotes? Things that are upvoted most are at the top, but things that don't get upvoted at least won't be downvoted into the back of cyberspace. And isn't it better to see 0 upvotes instead of 267 downvotes?\n\nThe only reason that I came up with (while typing this) is: It would be difficult to distinguish between the quality of things that are all at 0 upvotes.", "summary": "What if Reddit only used upvotes and never downvoted anything?"}
{"id": "t3_3cgt39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [24M] of 2 years, not sure how to feel", "post": "We've been through thick and thin, with him mostly going through the hard stuff since I have a plethora of mental issues (BPD and OCPD), lash out constantly, am mentally immature, etc. and generally haven't been there for his emotional needs.\n\nHowever, he said something in all seriousness that has me, quite frankly, feeling like shit. I guess he's at the end of his rope, but he said something essentially along the lines of, \"yes, you are attractive enough to get guys to hook up with you, but they probably won't have the patience to stick around and love you like I do.\"\n\nSomething about that statement didn't sit right with me, but he's usually super super loving and patient with me. I do somewhat agree with his statement, as I am more than a handful to deal with (I self harm and deal with serious depression) but it was just a bit shocking to hear directly from him. Am I just too sensitive, or what? I appreciate everyone's feedback.", "summary": "Boyfriend said something hurtful but I'm not sure if I'm too sensitive or it's just the plain truth."}
{"id": "t3_pdli9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he having an emotional affair?", "post": "I am a 22yo female and have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now with the same man. Recently he has made friends with a new co-worker (he just changed jobs) and they talk and text all the time. She is often the first person he texts when he sees something funny, then he will text me. They have inside jokes and secrets and he has lied to me about her feelings on me. She has sad that she thinks I want to kill her and that I need to trust her. She said this after openely flirting with him in front of me. I do NOT want to kill her, but I found that to be tacky. She told me that she doesn't care if he can flirt well because it is not important yet. I tried telling him about it, but he just brushes it off like it is nothing. What should I do, is it even anything to be worried about?", "summary": "Boyfriend made friends with a new girl who doesn't like me and tells him but he doesn't think it is a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_2c49az", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not putting two and two together", "post": "This is a fuck up that has haunted me for years even though this happened about ten years ago in high school. Names have been changed. I lived in a fairly small town; however the high school was pretty big, about 2,500 students. Whenever something major happened in school, people would know about it. Lots of stupid stuff happened such as a kid swallowing the glowing part of a glow stick and having to get his stomach pumped. However, one incident sticks in my mind. There was a girl in my science class named Christa. She was shy, but friendly. She was always with her friend, Jason. I thought they were dating since they were together a lot, but I later found out she was a lesbian. She was closeted, but as high school rumors go, everyone knew about her. \n\nFor quite a few days, Christa was absent. I never thought anything of it, but for that week, Jason was not his talkative self. During that week, another rumor spread the school that a girl got pushed into the guys' bathroom and beat up for being a lesbian. I was shocked about such action taking place. Several days later, Christa returns to class. She looked tired so I don't converse with her. The next day, Jason, Christa, and I are chatting during our break during class. When the conversation seems to get a little dull, I fuck up. I ask the question: \"So, did you guys hear about the girl who got beat up in the classroom?\" They look at each other, and then look at me. Jason has a sad look on his face, while Christa looks at me with raised eyebrows. Then, it hit me. I have never felt so terrible before. I slink back to my chair. I later apologized and she forgave me but I still felt horrible. The three of us still talked during class after that day. However, I never heard from her or Jason again after that school year.", "summary": "Inquired about a rumor to a victim without even knowing she was involved."}
{"id": "t3_4acaan", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is now a bad time to quit my job without another lined up? Oil and Gas experience", "post": "So I am a young 20s F, been working at the same job for 3 years out of college as a field / manager position for an oil and gas company. We have laid off 80% of our work force in my state in the last year and a half, so as you can imagine the work atmosphere right now is terrible. They have decreased out time off to reduce necessary employee count, resulting in me now working 2 weeks on call 24/7, followed by a few days off, then repeat (I see this as a salary cut). My bonus has also been reduced by 20% while my responsibilities increased. \n\nSo, I am ready to quit. I don't have another job lined up and it is really hard to apply to jobs when you are constantly working and your days off don't necessarily line up with good times to interview. A lot of people are telling me if I get through this downturn, it will look really good for me to be one of the \"survivors\". I am due for a promotion soon. But I am worried if Oil comes back up, we will be understaffed and my life will be even worse. Does the fact that I've already made it past 80% reduction mean employers will understand the toxic environment I am leaving? For the record, I am looking to get out of Oil and Gas completely, however I am highly specialized for my current job besides my management experience, which I am hoping to try to sell for a new position.", "summary": "I hate my life and my job is making me miserable, I work all day and night, want to quit without another job lined up but I am afraid I am giving up a good opportunity."}
{"id": "t3_1n779c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 5 years are in a LDR for the first time. How do I manage this? What works?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years (like 15 days shy) and living together for 2 and he recently left to go overseas for a graduate program. We are both in MA programs but he is in England and I'm still in the States. We have a very strong relationship and have openly discussed getting engaged in December (we are both pro that idea). The LDR would end in 2 years when we both graduate and then we agreed to go to PhD programs together.\n\nI am uncertain how to handle the stress and loneliness of a LDR. He has never cheated but with him being so far away with a close female friend I cannot help but worry. The time difference (8 hours) makes it very difficult to talk with him and feel like we are still part of each other's lives. \n\nI don't know if there are any tips for LDR or how to keep the fire alive sorts of things. I guess, my main issue is that I'm a terrified that since I can't be there to meet his needs he'll find someone else who can.\n\nI have already initiated a plan to lose about 15 pounds before I see him again as a kind of \"Surprise baby, I'm sexy now!\" thing. I am busy with my own program so I'm working towards that to keep me busy. I have a few friends here but since I'm late to graduate many of them have moved away. My family is also fragmented since the death of my mom so family support is minimal. \n\nIf there is anything else you need to know, I'll try and check regularly to answer anything I should have included. \n\nI'd mostly like opinions on what I should do to try and make the LDR successful and what helpful hints might be out there. Or hey, just your opinion on the matter too. Like, how do you shake this fear of infidelity even without evidence there is one?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Will be apart for 2 years (on and off) and need to know what works and how to handle the stress of being alone and fear of him cheating."}
{"id": "t3_20ojcq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I (25/m) too jealous with my (19/f) girlfriend?", "post": "So we've had ups and downs throughout our relationship, been together for 2 years. She got a job as a gas station clerk about 6 months ago. She is very, i mean Very attractive, and guys feel the need to buy her snacks, lottery tickets, and straight up give her money as a \"tip\" Its always a different man, never gives me names when i ask, theyre just her friends. I asked her to stop excepting all of these gestures, but its still happening. id say about half the time i stop by to take her lunch some guy is just finishing up talking to her from behind the counter. I went in today and shes sitting there drawing on some new guys hand and arm with a sharpie. i mean this guy is smiling from ear to ear while shes hunched over him just doodling... then she sees me and Says \"dont start\" and quickly gets between us and starts blocking me and walks me out towards the door. I leave angry and dont even let her explain a word. She then proceeds to call me 46 times in half hour. Am i wrong for being pissed off?", "summary": "my girlfriend constantly keeps random male company and excepts gifts from them at her place of work."}
{"id": "t3_3cbelm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't think me [23F] and my boyfriend [24M] of a year and a half are long-term compatible. Am I thinking too far ahead?", "post": "Things are good, we have a good relationship. We have fun together and have never had an out-and-out fight, just minor disagreements we get over. Neither of us are even close to being ready to get married but it comes up in casual conversation. And there are problems. \n\n1) He wants a dog one day. I do not like dogs and do not ever want to live in a house with a dog and I do not like taking care of them. \n2) He wants bio kids. I truly feel from the bottom of my soul I  do not want to be preggers or give birth or hold a baby. Even IF we had a hypothetical child, I can tell from our talks we would want to raise it totally differently. \n3) He wants to live in some big city living the high life in some penthouse, I like small, community oriented neighborhoods. \n4) He wants whoever he marries to sign a prenup. Reddit, do not even bother considering telling me the benefits of a prenup because I promise that no matter what you say I will not sign one, and I want to be married one day WITHOUT one. \n\nHe knows my opposing feelings. I know they say opposites attract, but I thought that meant personalities. We are in school and are again not close to any of this. Am I worried about this too soon? Should I let it go and continue dating until we hit a problem? I also wouldn't move in with him if he still held these opposite beliefs. Should I bring all of this up to him or let it be for now?\n\nThanks for sticking around, and sorry I am bad at articulating my thoughts.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I have opposite views on our distant futures; Should I even e worrying about them now?"}
{"id": "t3_3vn452", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not meeting Kobe Bryant", "post": "So finals week is happening at my uni next week and I've been killing my hours cramming my head in books and revisiting notes. One of my study partners planned to go to the library this morning at 9AM and stay all day, to which I responded, \"I'll swing by around 10 and study with you\", and I was totally going to do that, but I decided to stay in bed until 2 because I was tired. I show up at the library with my Lakers shirt on since they played in my city the previous evening and I forgot to rep the shirt then, and my partner smiles and says,\"Oh you're a lakers fan? I have something to tell you. Guess who I met about 2 hours ago\". Turns out the Lakers practiced at my Uni's gym today before they headed off to the next stop on their road trip. So fuck. I missed my last chance to meet Swaggy P and the Black Mamba before he retires. He is literally 1% of the world that has met Kobe Bryant in person and held a conversation with him. Fuck me. Fuck me being lazy.", "summary": "Supposed to study with friend at 9AM. Stay in bed until 2PM. Friend meets Kobe Bryant and the Lakers at 12PM. FML"}
{"id": "t3_1vix0k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] confused about sudden break up with girlfriend [22/F] (X-post)", "post": "I'll attempt and keep this short...\n\nBeen with my gf for 6 years, lived with her (200 odd miles away from our hometown) for 3. She attends university and I work a crappy job to pay the bills.\n\nPast week or so she's not been feeling good so I didn't expect much affection. Yesterday morning I texted her from work after dreaming she dumped me, realised something was up. She said she loved me and she wants to find a solution as she feels unsure about us. I stupidly forced her to admit we were breaking up. Got let off work, met her at uni briefly, seemed very upset but final. Went home, my friends came over, she brought a friend when she finished uni a few hours later for a group chat (bad idea). She wants to sort out issues with our apartment instantly so we can move on.\n\nI'm astonished this has come out of nowhere but she says she's been feeling a bit unsure for a little while. Says she never told me because she didn't know how to talk to anyone about this. Didn't even tell any of her friends. She says she's still not sure what the problem is.\nOur friends left the room and we had a goodbye, she held me tight, cried a lot, and then kissed me three times (everyone I've told has been amazed at that part). She left to stay with her friend. I spent the night alone in our apartment.\n\nI took a walk this morning and bought her a rose. She's coming back here for a few hours this afternoon so we can talk.\n\nSo basically, from talking with my parents and friends, I believe I've been lax on doing stuff she wants to do (taking walks, eating out etc) but she wouldn't tell me, instead we've just been going to the movies/watching GoT/playing Xbox together though she seemed happy with that. She said she thought she might be stressed with her university stuff and wine tasting so I think that has amplified her worries.\n\nI'm not even sure what I want to ask. I just can't get my head around this weird situation. I hope you can help me.", "summary": "girlfriend breaks up with me with no warning, doesn't even seem sure, wants us to sort out moving out instantly."}
{"id": "t3_414wjn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Thought I was getting an easy job, almost got scammed.", "post": "I'm a broke person. So, I go on craigslist to find one. I see this one advertisement, that says you will be paid by Red Bull $400 a week for having an advertisement on your car or bike. Broke me didn't think to be suspicious, especially since it said to \"Text number for details\". I talk to this guy, his name is \"James\".\n\nHe says to give him my name, age, and address. He will send a $2300 check to me, and for me to give the rest to the guy that will put the decal on.  \n\nBroke me still hasn't caught on.  \n\nAnd so excited. I tell a family member. Said family member says that it's a scam. I look it up online, and sure enough, same story. \n\nBroke me finally catches on. And so, here I am in the car. Oh well, I gave no fucks and moved on. It's a good thing he didn't ask for anything else.", "summary": "Thought Redbull would pay me $400 a week for advertisement, found out it was a scam."}
{"id": "t3_hn3mp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm picking up a Macbook Pro this week, and I've got a few questions.  Anyone mine helping me out?", "post": "I need a laptop for college next semester, and since I got quite a bit of money for graduation I decided to finally get a Macbook. However, I'm completely new to OSX and to Apple products that aren't called iPods. \n\nFirst off, I know I'm getting one of the 13 inch models.  That seems to be the perfect form factor for me, but I can decide if it's worth it to spend the extra 300 dollars on the i7 model, or save a few bucks and go with the i5.  I've been an AMD guy for years, and honestly can't figure out what the hell the difference between the i5 and i7 is other than clock speed and hyperthreading.  I plan on using whichever model I choose for web browsing, email, FL Studio, and word processing.  \n\nSecondly, are there any accessories that I just have to have?\n\nAnd finally, are there any cool OSX only programs I should look into?", "summary": "i5 or i7, what accessories and programs do I waste my money on?"}
{"id": "t3_1sy0ai", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] and my [18 M] boyfriend of 9 months just broke up, and I don't know how to handle it", "post": "We had such a good relationship it was perfect. Then he went to college and obviously it was hard but I think we were doing a good job, we would fight somewhat frequently but I thought it was just a little rough patch in our relationship. The other day, he went from saying \"you're beautiful and sexy and I want you\" to \"I think about other girls.\"\nIt blew my mind. I understand he's in college and all, and that he wants is freedom, thats part of the reason I was okay with letting our relationship go, i didn't want to hold him back from being happy. But i thought he was happy with me. \n\nHe keeps saying we're just on a break, and I don't know how I feel about all of this. I want to stay with him and continue our relationship but I also don't want him to be unhappy. Obviously I'm going to want to hook up/ be with him when he gets back, but I don't want to be the girl he just hooks up with while he's home.\n\nI could try getting with other guys, but I don't feel comfortable doing that. I love him and i want him, but he thinks differently. He's made it clear that he loves me and all but if he truly did why would this be happening? I don't understand. Help?", "summary": "boyfriend and I break up because he wants to experience other things such as girls while at college, and I don't know how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_1pgigs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [19M] of 2 years, I feel unattractive and not his type and the insecurity sucks :(", "post": "Basically I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and i just don't feel like I'm attractive to him. He likes redheads and I'm a brunette, the other girls he's slept with are all skinny and I'm more on the curvy side. I have issues with self esteem anyway and have never felt 'pretty' as such, and I just feel like this is tearing us apart, as I find myself constantly thinking he would be happier with someone else. This isn't helped by the fact he talks about his preferences quite a lot, which adds to my insecurities and yeah, this sucks.", "summary": "not ginger, not attractive, and it makes things not very fun."}
{"id": "t3_4g89eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [20 F] broken up with my 5-year bf [22 M] on good terms, but he doesn't seem to be over it.", "post": "I was in a relationship with a guy for 5 years: 3 years in high school and 2 years semi-long distance at university.\n\nI ended this relationship last Christmas because there was no more romance and I wanted a different kind of relationship. He didn't take it too well but in the end he understood that it was my decision and that it couldn't be helped. \n\nWe currently still talk online, but whenever we skype he still acts as if we're still in a relationship (sans lovey-dovey language) and is really interested and involved in what I'm doing now. \n\nI hoped that by breaking it off I'd be able to talk to him in a more friendly and less personal way, but he hasn't really changed that much. I want to say something to him about it but I've been hesitant so far because I don't want to hurt his feelings. Any thoughts on what I should say or do at this point?", "summary": "I broke up with my 5 year bf but he shows signs that he's not over it when we talk."}
{"id": "t3_4vy16y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] fear that my boyfriend [34M] of one year doesn't want to live with me....", "post": "I asked him the other day where he see's us in a year and he said 'living somewhere different' and then I asked 'together?' and he reacted like 'whoa slow down' (in a jokey but kind of non-jokey way) then he went on to say he doesn't see us having bought a place and living together but asked if i'd want to live with him when he gets the new place he's looking at... not in a 'i want you to live with me' kind of way but in a 'would you realllllyy want to' kind of way (don't know if that makes ANY sense but more like he wasn't suggesting we do but asking if that's what i want) and then dropped the conversation...\n\nI am struggling with anxiety issues at the moment which he knows of and I am working on. What I am struggling with the most is understanding if I am rationally thinking or not, so sometimes it helps to ask the internet...\n\nDo I mention this again and make sure he wants to live with me at some point within the next couple of years or drop it and wait until it comes up in conversation again?\n\nI've been being very insecure to my boyfriend and asking lots of questions or how he feels blah blah blah... so I'm trying to stop this as it's making our relationship difficult. But I'm struggling to drop this and I don't know what to do...\n\nSO i'm more asking not what I should do about the him and the living together situation but more should I mention it again or not?", "summary": "Going crazy over-thinking everything - is this rational thinking and should I mention something to my boyfriend who I don't think wants to live with me?"}
{"id": "t3_45owm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34F] feel my cousin [38F] is putting her children in danger but its complicated and I really need advice.", "post": "My cousin is \"living off-the-grid\" with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. The way she spoke about it it sounded like an actual homestead which I think would be awesome but I finally got a look at it and I am really concerned.\n\nTheir house is about 15x15 for all four of them and one room. Its made of vertical tree logs, a pallet floor and a tarp for a roof. Generator for power. A cooler for food. Water from a creek which is down a hill and the children have access to it. Guns hung on a wall. They use a bucket for a potty and compost it. The bucket is tucked behind a curtain in their shelter. Goats and chickens free roaming. \n\nThey are \"earthers\" which means they never wear shoes and they are including the children in this. The children look fed and relatively healthy. She says their wood stove keeps them warm but this is east of the Mississippi and there is snow on the ground. The 1 year old has a runny nose and fever and she is using homeopathic medicine on him. They were both dirtier than I feel toddlers should be.\n\nI brought it up and she and her husband got really defensive and said this is their right to live like this which I agree but these are small children.\n\nNow my cousin has always been kind of a hippy and into natural living and I support that, even commend her for her views but this was a shock. I want to be clear this is not an issue of poverty or any type of physical abuse. Just their living environment but she and her husband made it clear this is their choice and they are not changing.\n\nMy family is divided between live and let live and serious concern for the boys. Since they have dug in their heels my gut reaction is to involve CPS. Am I over reacting?", "summary": "Cousin and family living off grid. Seems dangerous for toddlers. Should CPS be called?"}
{"id": "t3_299dbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could the way my father treated my mother affect my [30F] self esteem?", "post": "I have self esteem that varies between extremely low/non-existent, to average (logically I know I'm an attractive, relatively intelligent, successful individual, but I don't always feel that way).\n\nIn an earlier post ( I talked about how a man has never said he loves me, and I discussed my most recent failure with a friend of 8 years who immediately started avoiding/ignoring me after we slept together.\n\nI've been doing a lot of soul searching to figure out what I'm doing wrong, but one thing that I'm doing right is personal appearance.\n\nI never have chipped nails (always manicured and pedicured), I pluck and shave daily. I groom my ladybits appropriately. I self tan lightly, always wear a bit of make-up (and will re-do make-up if going out after work). I work out and have a nice toned body. Floss and brush daily, dye my grays, clean out my ears, dress appropriately for the occassion, invest in good shoes, coordinate my outfits, etc...\n\nI wouldn't call myself high maintanance (I don't look like a Playmate or a perfectly-coiffed celebrity -- and I'm not drop-dead gorgeous), but I know I put in much more care than many of my friends do.\n\nAnd I sometimes wonder if the reason I do all this but still feel (and am treated) as though I'm \"not enough\" is because of little comments I heard my father give to my mother...\n\nI remember once we were going out on our boat, and my mom (who has always had a bit of trouble with her weight) was in a bathingsuit. She's not the most stylish lady, but she tries. Anyway, I heard my dad criticize her bikini line, and saw her react shamefully.\n\nI also used to hear him critique her outfits in slightly condescending ways, or the way she would talk to people (my mom isn't the most socially adept).\n\nAnd every rejection I receive, I assume it's some sort of disgusting personality or physical trait that I have yet to address.", "summary": "I'm always worried there is something repulsive about me. Could it be because of the way my father treats my mom? And will I ever overcome this.... if at all?"}
{"id": "t3_1in6u3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32M] revealed too much of my wife's [30F] personal issues on the internet, and she's upset.", "post": "Two weeks ago my wife was extremely upset about something related to her career. I helped calm her down but was feeling pretty upset myself the next day. I wrote an entry on a my blog, which no one knows is connected to me, in order to vent and maybe get some feedback.\n\nThe next day I had gotten one or two comments that I felt my be helpful to my wife. I showed her, but she exploded when she saw what I had posted on the blog. I kept it fairly vague, but she thought that there were enough details to figure out if it was her. I deleted it right away, but she's worried it's cached somewhere and that it could still be found, and that if anyone that knows her found it that it might harm her career.\n\nShe's said she feels betrayed and that she doesn't feel like she's going to be able to trust me for awhile. I feel sick just knowing that I hurt her in some way, when my intentions were just the opposite. She's said it's okay as long as I never do anything like that again, and seems to be trying to put it behind us, but I'm having trouble forgetting the things that were said...things like \"I've never felt so hurt and betrayed\" and \"I just don't trust you\" and things like that. I keep thinking of the hurt I saw on her face and I just feel so sick and I can barely eat. \n\nI know that things seem like they should be fine since she is moving past it, but I feel like crying at the thought that she might not trust me anymore. When she's being affectionate I just feel a big knot of worry in my stomach. I don't know how to feel better again knowing that I hurt her.", "summary": "Upset my wife. She seems to be moving past it, but I still feel sick and upset her reaction."}
{"id": "t3_4dlosk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my crush [19 F], (who happens to be my roommate's sister) am I wrong to avoid her?", "post": "I have a crush on my roommate (also best friend)'s sister. I consider it to be a childish crush, since I don't even know her that well (that being said, I do think she is lovely, easily one of the nicest and kindest people I've ever met), and because she is my best friend's sister, I feel guilty for liking her. \n\nIt's gotten to the point to where I'm starting to avoid my best friend because his sister and I talk everyday as we have a class together and I feel like a piece of shi*t when I'm with him. A lot of the time all of our friends will plan a night together and I will make up an excuse not to go purely because she will be there too. \n\nMy crush has caught onto this behavior. She even called me out for never hanging out with her. I almost told her it was because I had a crush on her but I stopped myself. What should I do? Should I tell her that I have a crush on her so she doesn't feel like I hate her? Should I tell my best friend? Is it childish of me to avoid someone simply because I have a little crush on them?", "summary": "I like my best friend's sister. I avoid her because I have a crush and I avoid him because I feel guilty. Is this childish? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3pn94f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] got an e-mail from my ex [28 F], is she over reacting?", "post": "So 3 months ago my now ex broke up with me because she cheated on me (she came clean). It was hard at the beginning, we lived together for 2 weeks before she found another place to live in and we sas each other a couple of times after that.\n\n2 months after the break up I started to have casual sex with 3 different girls. My ex and I did decided to be distant so it would be easier to get over the separation.\n\nI had an awful week last week, came home each night to an empty appartment. 2 days ago my ex and I started to talk again through sms and one thing leading to another, she came to my place and we slept together.\n\nThe following day I ran into one of our mutual friend, I talked to her for a bit and told her that I met a couple of girls with whom I had casual sex. Today I got a mail from my ex literally insulting me because I should have known that our friend would tell her everything and that it was my revenge. That she suffered those last 3 months. She regrets seeing 2 days ago. \n\nI tried to explain to her that if I wanted to hurt her I have had plenty of time to do it prior to that day, that I did not know that this so called friend would tell her what I told her. She said she does not believe me and blocked me from whatsapp.\n\nNow I do not want to get back into that relationship but she was and she is someone very important to me, in fact, she is the only women I ever loved. I want to try and fix things up but I can't help to have the feeling that she is trying to blame me for the end of our relationship.\n\nSo here is my question, is she over reacting to this, is there a way I can fix things up?", "summary": "My cheating ex learned through a mutual friend that I have had some casual sex, thinks I told our friend on purpose so I can have my revenge. Is she over reacting and is it fixable?"}
{"id": "t3_2vlqbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it tacky to plan something for my (F23) boyfriend (M23) the day after Valentine's day?", "post": "My boyfriend is so good to me and for me and I was going to try to take him out to dinner for Valentine's, but it turns out he had already made plans for us before I could... I really don't want Valentine's to feel like a day for me but for us, but I can also tell he is excited about whatever he has planned. \n\nI wanted to take him out to dinner for steak (rare thing for us, pun intended), but instead of trying to just take him to dinner the next day I was thinking of getting reservations for a brunch place with steak and eggs. \n\nDoes it seem like I'd just be \"evening out\" everything he just did? I don't want it to feel like that. \n\nI'm not anti-Valentine's day like many people are, I just wish it wasn't so imposed on the man to DO something; it would be sweet to plan something together! \n\nI got him a gift and I have to drive ~1.5 hrs to get to his house so I'll be there from either Friday night or Saturday morning through the weekend. I was thinking maybe I could just bake something to bring instead if it seems too weird to do something for him right after", "summary": "I shouldn't be complaining."}
{"id": "t3_zarqr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "\"Ha ha I'm so OCD lol!\" Who else gets pissed off when hearing this, and who doesn't see the problem? More inside.", "post": "Although there are always exceptions, people misuse the shit out of the term OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This is NOT the same as being anal, and NOT something most people laugh about having. Yes there are some similar traits in each, but to be brief, having OCD is associated with doing rituals or yes, like being anal, organizing things \"just right,\" ect; BUT the difference between the two is HUGE. When someone has OCD, they are doing these things because if they don't do it just right, they fear that something awful is going to happen to them or their loved ones. Even if we know that what we're doing is ridiculous.\nFor example, I draw the number 7 in the air throughout the day with my hands or head, or objects I'm holding. One example of me doing this is when I'm in the shower. I have to clean off my shampoo and conditioner bottle thoroughly before I use each and lift them above the shower curtain in just the right light and draw a perfect 7. I will do this until it's \"just right.\" Do you want to know why I do this? The shampoo represents me and the conditioner represents my wife, and if I don't do this and do it perfectly, I think that something awful is going to happen to my wife like her dying or us getting a divorce. I'm sure you understand how ridiculous this sounds, and trust me, I know! But at the same time, I believe it, and I can't take that risk of stopping it. I know other people are much worse than I am and can't even leave their homes because their OCD is so crippling.\nWhat I'm trying to say is this is not something anyone with OCD enjoys, or typically laughs about and announces to everyone. As I said, there are exceptions and I'm sure someone here can and will give a much more specific explanation of the disorder. All I'm asking you is if you do this, please stop misusing the term because it is infuriating to people that actually have it.", "summary": "OCD is not the same as being anal. The organization and rituals performed by people with OCD are not done because they enjoy it, but because a fear of something awful happening, often far fetched, to them or their loved ones if they don't do it. Please don't misuse it, it's offensive!"}
{"id": "t3_2jmqgu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] broke up with me and I am devastated.", "post": "2 days ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me. It. was completely unexpected, I didnt see it coming at all.\nShe told me she is unhappy und no longer wants to bei in a relationship.\n\nWe live 3 hours apart, so the whole thing happened over skype, but i am actually glad that she wasnt there to see me break down afterwards.\nSince then we texted once, because she asked whether she could keep some useless stuff of mine. \n\nThen today i called her because i wanted to find out how she feels now and to tell her how i enjoyed our time together.\n\nWhen i am alone now im just so lost, of course i think of her all the time and i really want her back.\nI just want to know if i have a chance of getting her back, but i dont think i should ask her that.\n\nIts not that i am just sitting at home and feeling sorry for myself, i am still really busy with university and soccer, but i just cant stop thinking about the time we had and the time we could have in the future.", "summary": "My girlfriend ended my first serious relationship and i cant handle it. at all and want her back"}
{"id": "t3_31fwib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 1 year, compatibility test results.", "post": "My girlfriend and I recently took a compatibility test and found ourselves in the bottom 1% of all couples. This is not an exaggeration, we were actually in the bottom 1%. I'm just curious what other couples from here get. I find it odd that we've both been happy together for over a year and we somehow score incredibly low on the test. \n\nOur religious scores were very different and the test seems to take that into account the most, so I wonder if that might be the cause? Also is similarity that important for compatibility in a relationship?\n\nThe test is on similarminds and is their compatibility 2 user test. Both you and your partner would have to take it.", "summary": "Weird personality test results?"}
{"id": "t3_2etv1h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing my phone", "post": "Party last night, plan was for my boyfriend to join us after work, party hard then walk friends home before going back to mine. Everything's going well, boyfriend missed the bus so had to grab a taxi which sucked but oh well. It's nearly 12 and we find out the curfew is midnight. Great, that means we could have time to walk to the bus stop, catch the last bus and go to my boyfriend's instead of mine. Why did we do that?\n\nWe're speed walking to the bus stop (completely forgetting about the friends we were meant to walk home, they're safe though) and I'm checking my phone and getting frustrated because I'm too drunk to read the display. I go back into my pocket to get it out again and fuck it's not there. Can't go back now though, can we? we have a bus to catch! So my phone is left for me to find it in the morning when I get back to my town. \n\nGet back this morning and obviously I can't find it, make a post on our Spotted: [our town]'s fb page, ask some shops, check the library (it doubles as police inquiries) but no sign. So now I don't have a phone.\n\nThis wouldn't be too bad but I'm up for psychiatric review (doctor thinks I could have drug induced schizophrenia, fckn fab) and the only way they have of contacting me is with that phone since they can't phone my home phone because my parents don't know about it and I don't want to/can't tell them.\n\nThe phone also had naughty pictures/videos on it which I'm now terrified will end up online, even though the phone is locked. \n\nThis is also just after I got my AS level results which were well under what was expected (predicted aaab, got abcc), I failed my theory test, and my parents are telling me that I'm not motivated/don't care about my future/am not a happy person/should leave my boyfriend so it just kinda feels like everything I try is fucking up atm", "summary": "lost my (locked phone) containing naughty pics that was the only way the NHS have of contacting me, which they need to do because I'm up for psychiatric referral (dr thinks I could have drug induced schizophrenia) and they can't phone my home because I haven't told my parents. I've also fucked up a lot recently and this is just another to add to the list."}
{"id": "t3_1lm1hv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "On self confidence", "post": "[Basic human interaction question]\n\nI hear people talk about confidence, and see people walk with a certain swagger, and I've even been advised on gaining confidence, but the more I read and think about it there isn't anything one can be confident in life except your own inevitable death.\n\nMy problem is that society seems to value this confidence, and my question is how do you (atheist)redditors deal with having confidence in a world of absurdity, and lack of truth(truth is actually in the definition of confidence, btw)?\n\nOr is confidence merely a DGAF attitude, or maybe even being egotistical? Clearly it has nothing to to with actual truth...", "summary": "How do you deal with having confidence when there's no truth - whatcha think?"}
{"id": "t3_26z1ak", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] met this girl [18F], she says she had to be kept entertained for relationship to work", "post": "I met this girl online, we planned a date but by talking with her I saw some traits I'm not really sure I like.\n\nBasically what she's saying is that she get bored of things (and people) pretty soon and that she needs to be constantly kept wanting me.\n\nQuoting her: \"if you want me to like you, you have to constantly maintain my attention. I get tired of thing easily\"\n\nHaven't met her yet, but doesn't sound good.\n\nI'm not really sure how to handle this sort of situation/girl. \n\nI am what I am and I'm not going to try to be a different guy every night just to entertain her.\n\nAdvices ?", "summary": "I met this girl which looks nice, but she says she gets rited of things and people easily and I am not sure on how to handle this situation."}
{"id": "t3_c9a74", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get my parents to treat me more like an adult and less like a 9 year old?", "post": "My parents are overprotective like no other. Most people probably say this but it's getting to the point where I can't stand being home during the summer and I still have 3 months till I head back to school. In high school, I might as well have had to hand in a resume of each person I was hanging out with because they wanted to know every single detail. A few days ago, I got a small package in the mail and my mother was literally breathing down my neck watching me open it even though I told her several times that it was a memory card for my", "summary": "Parents are overprotective to the point of watching me open my mail. What can I do to make them respect personal privacy and treat me more like an adult?"}
{"id": "t3_25i96t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "17M Needs Dating Help", "post": "So I am 17 and the girl i have been talking to is also 17. We are perfect together and after only three dates cannot be without each other. Literally have never felt this way before in my life.\n\nYesterday she asked me if i was ready to ask her out for official reasons so she could say i was her boyfriend. The problem is i know i have to do something cute but i have no time to prepare anything.\n\nHer favorite thing to do is color and draw so i was thinking about getting a very cute printoff of a couple and we could draw it? I'm just not sure...\nWhat do you think reddit?", "summary": "Need a way to ask her out"}
{"id": "t3_3t3f8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/M] girlfriend [23/F] wants to break up because she doesn't want to have regrets", "post": "Hi,\n\nI apologize in advance for the formatting. I am on mobile. \n\nMy girlfriend of 4 1/2 years wants to break up because she is worried that we've been together too long and that we're too young. She says that she doesn't want to have regrets like her parents and end up like her mother (cheated on her dad because she was unhappy). \n\nShe said she is worried that she hasnt experienced enough in life to be tied down but she still loves me and I love her. \n\nShe says she is worried about life together because she doesn't know what to expect. She said she wants to focus on herself as well. \n\nI really don't know what to do in this situation. She is literally the most important person in my life and I can't see myself with a future without her. We have been through so much together. \n\nWould someone be able to help me? For such a long time I felt like life was a tunnel that I was walking through with her and now I feel like I'm alone in that tunnel and I have no idea what to do. \n\nShe has never done anything wrong to me and I haven't done anything wrong to her and all of this just feels so sudden. I was literally with her last night and slept over and everything was fine. \n\nAfter our talk she said she wants to think about us. \n\nHow can I keep her? Obviously I'm not going to force her to stay in something she doesn't want to be in but I know we have a chance together. The only thing I've texted her since our talk is asking if she got home okay cause she was crying while we talked.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4.5 years wants to break up because she's afraid she'll have life regrets about not trying things and ending up like her parents relationship (divorced)"}
{"id": "t3_1wras3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't want to come off as desperate, but was I used? [F 20] [M 25]", "post": "So I'm a 20 year old lady who went to an all girls catholic boarding school and finally got away from home to an out of state college. You see where this is going. Met this guy at a coffee shop, he's older, grad student, tall and smart. *Hello.* I give him my number and we start texting and set up a time to meet again.\n\nWe meet for a date, and end up back at my place. Because it's been almost 6 months, I'm lonely, he's hot, not going to slut shame myself, ect, we have fun. Throughout it all he's saying all the plans he's got with me for next time, it's going well, he leaves.\n\nIt's been four days, no contact. Do I contact him? I was the one who asked for his number, and invited him back to mine, and so I've already been the aggressor in all of this and frankly I'm confused. I don't want to be too desperate, I'm just confused as all get out. I don't have much experience with relationships or even hookups (though this story might suggest otherwise, it took me a long time to get up my courage to jump into the dating scene and well, I sort of floored it with him.) So I have no clue.\n\nIt just seems odd that he wouldn't text at all especially when he seemed happy leaving and was talking about next time. And before, when I was talking with him, he would text pretty frequently with me.", "summary": "Sexy man and I have sexy times, and he doesn't text after. Confused and hoping he hasn't been hit by a bus."}
{"id": "t3_wfc87", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dudes of Reddit: When you get an erection in public, what is your go-to bonerkill? Possibly NSFW", "post": "Specifically: Be it morning wood, a fearection, a half-chub, or a full-blowner, what are your (potentially intricate) strategies for either getting rid of or hiding your ill-timed excitement?\n\nI'll start:\n\nBack in high school, my friends and I played a lot of World of Warcraft PvP. I enjoyed the game, but playing it or even thinking about it was very much the opposite of a turn-on. Whenever I needed an emergency erection eraser, I would just imagine my orc shaman swinging axes and raining thunderbolts down on unsuspecting baddies. Since video games and sex have always been mutually exclusive in my life, this method has a pretty high success rate.", "summary": "Mind goes from boobs to owning noobs. Instant bonerkill"}
{"id": "t3_3vqyso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has anyone been in this situation? Im a 22 f and want a divorce but dont trust my husbands parenting skills and cant stand the thought of our almost two year old having extended time alone with him that i cant supervise.", "post": "The Past\n\nAfter dating for almost 2 years, we got married when we found out i was pregnant. I was a stupid kid (19) and had never lived on my own or with loads of responsibility and didnt notice all his red flags. I did know i wouldnt be marrying him if i wasnt pregnant but a two parent home is important to me and i thought i could make it work so my kid could have his mom and dad together everyday. I realized during the engagement that things were more serious (he's incensitive, extremely self absorbed, not responsible or motivated etc etc) and that i didnt want to marry him but i was scared to call it off because i thought maybe it was my pregnancy hormones. \n\nThe Present\n\nWell now we are 2 years in and ive been miserable the whole time. He's obsessive, selfish, controlling, rude, lies, doesnt engage with our son or help around the house enough. And he doesnt see himself that way at all, which might be the most frustrating part. For the record though he does work, he is not physically abusive, he does love our son and thinks he loves me. \n\nThe Problem\n\nThe thought of divorce is beyond stresfull to me. How will we function without our incomes combined? We cant afford to each have an apartment on our own incomes. I nanny and have my son with me all day. I know he'll want weekends with our son but i cant handle the thought of sharing him. My husband will probably move in with his mom and dad and brother who would end up watching our son the most and they are not good role models at all. In fact thats where he developed his short temper and laziness from. His dad has multiple duis and has been arrested for stalking. My husband has not even watched our son for a whole day and our son is almost two. I dont know what to do.", "summary": "Im miserable in my marriage but cant stand the thought of sharing custody of our son."}
{"id": "t3_1lqomi", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Deposit Refund Issue - more in the post, please help!", "post": "Hey Guys,\n\nMy wife and I just moved out of a townhome in GA and our previous landlord is refusing to refund our full deposit due to carpet damage from our cats and a routine visit from an electrician. Our initial security deposit included first month's rent and a pet deposit. The contract states they can keep 50% of the pet deposit for cleaning, but the language does explicitly allow for additional withholding. \n\nThe landlord stated that they will keep an amount equal to the full pet deposit as well as the total cost of the electrician's visit. I have asked for receipts to provide proof of the electrician's visit and the carpet repair but they are not responding to our requests (it's been just over 30 days since we moved out). \n\nDo we have any rights to the receipts (and can we argue the costs), or should we accept the current refund and move on?", "summary": "Live in GA; landlord kept full pet deposit and additional money for repairs, won't provide receipts of repair - do we have a right to the receipts for proof?"}
{"id": "t3_29d00o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M] Best Friend [17F] I don't know what to do.", "post": "I made a throwaway because she goes on here from time to time.\n\nLast year, me and this girl became really close in a short span of time. To make a long story short, we both developed feelings for each other, and now she doesn't feel the same anymore, and it's really screwing with me. Sometimes, it seems like she does, and other times, it seems like she doesn't want me there.\n\nOur friendship is really transparent, we talk about everything as soon as it bugs one of us, and solve it.\n\nRecently i've been feeling really down about the whole situation, because, I love her, and she seems to not care about my feelings towards her. \n\nFor my own sanity, i'm wondering if I should just call it quits, and distance myself.", "summary": "Should I just tell her that I need time/distance to help myself? or would that make her upset?"}
{"id": "t3_475kzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Overzealous \"friend\"/suitor [19m] in my [18f] martial arts class won't leave me alone", "post": "I'm in a martial arts class and for the past year, this boy in my class, let's call him Ahmed, has not stopped bothering me. At first, I wanted to make friends with everyone and so we became Facebook friends and added each other on snapchat. \nAfter I started dating another boy in class [18m], he messaged me everyday, eventually admitting a crush on me. I try to be nice and to talk to him a little bit, but it grew to be obnoxious and overbearing. I rejected him and yet he still messages me every single day. Even when I stopped replying, he still leaves messages and funny pictures he finds on 9gag.\n\n\"Hey, sexually_pickle, you there?\"\n\n*no response from me*\n\n\"What's up?\"\n\n*still no response*\n\n\"So this happened and blablabla...\"\n\nEverytime I post something on my story or on Facebook, he will message me. I know I could just block him, but that would make it awkward in class, plus I have to spar with him and wrestle. Occasionally, I message him saying I'm sorry not to have replied because I'm so busy/sick/depressed/grandma died. Grandma has died like 5 times now.\nI hadn't been going to classes in a while and so I didn't have to deal with him, but I'm going back this week and I REALLY don't want to see him or encourage him with my being polite. He's a nice guy, but Ahmed is honestly a bit strange and overbearing and I don't want to stress myself with having to talk to him. What do?", "summary": "overbearing dude in my martial arts class won't stop messaging me."}
{"id": "t3_49046o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [27M] decode how exactly she [27F] feels", "post": "Though not an update, this is a change in situation from a post I made previously, that I thought was open and shut. The other post has more background.\n\nPreviously: \n\n**Recap**\n\n\"Zoe\" [27F] is smart, successful, and kind. I should've confessed feelings for her long ago. I'm simultaneously more confident around her because she's a trusted friend, and less confident because she inspires me so much personally and professionally that I'd consider it a huge loss to lose her. But I missed my chance and then distanced myself from her for two months because we both have extremely busy careers I didn't want to get in the way of.\n\nLast week after reconnecting with her, I asked her out, but she wanted to bring another guy. At Reddit's encouragement, I asked her directly if she was single. Her response was that she is, and that the guy is just an acquaintance, but she stopped responding after that so I thought she wasn't interested, and that I had lost a valued friend.\n\nToday she reconnected, and is asking me out. Tonight. No mention of some other guy. I'm very confused. How to approach this with minimal awkwardness?", "summary": "Walled off a girl because I was indecisive. Reconnected to ask her out but thought I lost her. Now she's asking me out and I'm not sure what's going on."}
{"id": "t3_wafjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats something that severely disappointed you, but in reality wasn't that bad?", "post": "I got a 2 on my English Language/Composition AP Exam Score. Making me only possibly qualified to test out of a class. Which translated into me having to take the class anyway, because I didn't score a 3. I'm already way ahead in academics; a sophomore in high-school taking college classes. \n\nIt still sucks that I didn't make it. And I would be lying if I said I wasn't confining myself to my room for the rest of the day. \n\nIt's really not that bad, but to me it is. \nI don't expect much traction, but do any of you ever feel like this?", "summary": "I'm a failure, but only slightly."}
{"id": "t3_1v9mis", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Sleep", "post": "I'm so sick of my screwed up sleep patterns. I have to stay ahead awake all night if I want to be up in the morning for something like a doctor appointment.  Otherwise, it's too difficult to wake up.\n\nI sleep through multiple alarms, my daughter screaming and crying (don't worry, I'm never home alone with her while sleeping), and phone calls.   I've even had people at work ready to call 911 because I couldn't be woken when I'd fall asleep in the breakroom. \n\nThat's my other problem.  I fall asleep almost instantly...  I can have vivid dreams in less than ten minutes.  I sometimes get so sleepy I can barely stay up, oftentimes I fall asleep.   I've fallen asleep on the kitchen floor (bunch of times), bathroom floor,  the toilet, on buses, at the library, at work, at school... \n\nI just want to go to sleep and wake up like a normal person.", "summary": "I have a messed up sleep pattern."}
{"id": "t3_3fd3vo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [27 F] 3.5Y, she can't seem to get her finances in hand and she just lost her job.", "post": "I met my girlfriend 3 years ago online. We've had a fairly tumultuous relationship - we both struggle with anger, and it leads predictably to a lot of fights. We've both been in counselling, and that's calmed down a lot. We've both been guilty of some nasty shit, and we've tried to forgive and leave it in the past.\n\nHowever, there is one thing we've never been able to settle down on. I am decent with money, and she spends it like it grows on trees. I grew up in a lower middle-class household, and she grew up in a wealthy one. The issue is, although I hold down a good job as an engineer, I still expect her to contribute. We've struggled a lot with getting her to be responsible with money, and she's repeatedly admitted to spending all of her savings on useless shit - including junk food, when I pay for a personal trainer. \n\nI know, it's her money. It's not my business. However, she's promised me repeatedly that she's saving her money, and that became important recently when she lost her job. After that, it all came out of the woodwork - most of her savings are gone, some spent on her student loans, plenty spent on more useless shit and cheating on her diet. She has enough savings for maybe two months paying her necessary bills, which don't include paying me for room and board. I have counseled her repeatedly to make sure she has enough in savings for room and board for several months. Apparently she ignored it. \n\nThis has happened before. She's never consistently paid me rent out of her own paychecks. When I've gotten rent, it's been from student loans for room and board. I love her to death, but at some point I need to cut her loose, because she's incapable of being a grownup. Reddit, how many more shots do I give the woman I love to turn into a grownup?", "summary": "My GF lost her job and it came out that in spite of what she'd been hinting at (never explicitly saying) she has very little in savings. Not the first time she's been irresponsible with money at my expense."}
{"id": "t3_20dewk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I [26 M] might be being incredibly shallow towards my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months.", "post": "**Background**: I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. Things were going pretty well. We got along well, sex was pretty good, we met each other's families, and we get along with each others friends pretty well.\n\n**Issue**: We have openly talked about how we are not super attracted to each other. Neither of us has the impulse to just tear the clothes off the other. Despite that, our sex is usually pretty good. Lately, I have noticed myself \"just going through the motions\" when being intimate with her. I should mention that my girlfriend is overweight and I am not. She is not super obese or anything, but she is overweight by the BMI definition. I am not overweight. She tore her ACL playing softball a year ago. I thought maybe she would lose the extra pounds after her knee healed, but this has not happened. She has mentioned that she wants to shed the extra pounds. However, her actions don't follow through on this. She skips workouts, doesn't seem to have a lot of portion control (she doesnt eat giant portions, but I've never heard her say 'no thanks. I'm on a diet'), and I she recently laughed about eating a can of pringles. So I think this is contributing to my lack of attraction to her. Also, I think I have some issues about thinking of other women. I haven't slept with a lot of girls in my life (like 3) and I constantly wonder if I could maybe have a few flings and then settle down. I know that sounds bad but its true...\n\n**Current Status**: I felt strongly about talking to her today about how I have been feeling. I asked her how she felt things were going. She didn't say a whole lot. I told her I haven't felt too romantic towards her lately and that I know I like her, but maybe not in a romantic sense. I didn't come out and say the weight thing is an issue. That's hard for me to do because I know she's had a previous eating disorder. Anyways, we're on a break now. I feel lonely, but I don't think that's a great reason to go back to her.", "summary": "GF and I are on a break. We get along great, but she has some weight issues that bother me. I kind of want to be single and fool around, but I also miss her. Am I a piece of shit?"}
{"id": "t3_3qkrug", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by baking pancakes", "post": "Dear Reddit, this actually happened today.\n\nI was hungry at home when I realized I had enough pancake mix to make one more pancake. I baked that pancake on my electronic cooking thing, and when I was done I turned it from heat level 4 to 0, or so I thought.\n\nImmediately, at the exact same moment, my power went off, and I realized I turned it a bit too far. I called my housing company (student studio) and they said they had another person on the line from the same postal code, same building. I began being suspicious, but thought it must have been coincidence.\n\nLike ten minutes later a girl stood at my door asking if we had electricity, which we didn't. She said none of the apartments she went to had electricity. I put like 100 students out of electricity, and because it's becoming winter it is getting dark fast. I hope the engineer is here soon...\n\nPancake was delicious though, put some Canadian maple syrup on there.", "summary": "Baked pancake, building with around 100 students without electricity now."}
{"id": "t3_1qjdv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26m] with my girlfriend [25F] of 1 month, she still has lingering feelings for a guy", "post": "Hello. I've been dating this woman for a few months, and we're exclusive now. I'm very happy in our relationship, but I won't bore y'all with the details. \n\nOur language barrier makes it a little difficult, but she seems to have some lingering romantic feelings (that are \"almost gone\") for a man she dated before we started dating. She said that she loves me, and that if she had the choice she would pick me, and I don't doubt it. \n\nI guess I just feel so insecure about this, and I feel childish and immature for feeling that way. Of course I know this happens and I'm not trying to change her past, and I know I'm not competing with him. But I just don't feel like I'm fully her man, like I'm only 95% of her heart and I have to share it with someone else regardless of what she says.\n\nI'm trying to find a mature and rational way of dealing with this. Because there's an immature side of me and I don't want to make her feel bad or guilty about this, or lose her.", "summary": "Girlfriend still has some \"feelings\" for another guy, how do I overcome this like an adult?"}
{"id": "t3_3dc33p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Broke up with gf 10 Months ago- Fearful that she may be the one that \"(I made\") got away", "post": "Hey First time poster here so be gentle. Or not. Do whatever you want- who the hell am I to tell you what to do\n\nLong story short dated someone for over a year and had a great time. I am 30 M and she is 29F. When I turned 30 I kind of freaked out (is this the girl I am going to marry? Everyone else is getting married? Is she expecting that I get married? Is this the last girl I will ever kiss? Sleep with?) The advice I got from everyone was things like \"well you would know if you loved her/ If you loved her you wouldn't even think of these things and you would know.\"\n\n I don't think I'm that kind of guy- I have a hard time making decisions and I must admit that I am not in touch with my feels a lot of the time. Breakup was in September and it is now July.\n\nI work in finance and the hours suck and Im always tired and thats one of the reasons I broke it off but I have thought about her basically every day- but i am afraid that (1) Maybe she won't take me back  and(2) Maybe we aren't going to work out and i will break her heart again, and i really really do not want to hurt her.\n\nLong story short I think about her when I hear  romantic music (F&^& you Michael Buble!) and I have recently started to look at old pics of us when times were good. I feel like because my life kind of sucks right now for other reasons I am romanticizing our past relationship and I am searching for the last thing that made me happy. I have slept/kissed others and I still think about her. I really don't have an interest in getting to know another girl/woman as I just don't\u2026..care\n\nI fear that if I keep waiting and she may find someone and I will have missed my chance and I am not trying to be an a**hole and deny her being happy but I feel like I could be happy and she could be happy with me if I just get my f**king thoughts and shit together\n\nHelp me Obi Wan Reddit", "summary": "Long Story Short: I broke up with girl 10 months ago. I miss her. Afraid if we get back together I will hurt her again. Not sure what I want."}
{"id": "t3_51jtei", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I be offended or am I overreacting?", "post": "So this girl I am \"work friends\" with sent me a weird text today. We're supposed to hang out tomorrow but now I'm not sure I want to...\n\nLast week she got a second job at a restaurant that my boyfriend used to work at a few years ago. I told her beforehand that the owner is crazy, constantly screaming and even throws things such as garbage cans at his employees. I've heard this from other people who have worked there, not just my boyfriend. \nWell the other night someone shot the owner and stole his money. The next day my boyfriend's dad saw it on the news, and my boyfriend told me about it. Well I texted her saying \"Omg I heard from my boyfriend about *owner's name* getting shot in the arm and being robbed.\" \n\nI just wanted to see what she had to say about it, but weirdly she never responded. I just assumed she was busy, but over 24 hours later she texts me this:\n\n\"What was your bf's name again? And I never asked but how did he find out about the shooting?\"\n\nMaybe I am reading too much into this... but it sounds like she's implying that my boyfriend is involved in this!? The fact that she never even texted me back and then a day later asks me what my boyfriend's name is....??\n\nI was really taken aback, this girl has never even met my boyfriend, but he is a very nice guy and would clearly not shoot or rob anyone.\nIs this girl trouble or am I being dramatic?", "summary": "I think a coworker is implying my boyfriend was involved in a shooting"}
{"id": "t3_1pvfew", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] recently admitted strong feelings for a coworker [24F] of 2 months, she's hung up on some other dude [?M]", "post": "Her and I have been friends for around two months, and for the first part I was cool just being friends. We would hang out a lot at work and after work, generally have good times together, and I was happy. During all this she would occasionally be pining after this other dude she knows, so I would give her advice on the subject. Honestly speaking, I wasn't sure he was interested, he would blow her off for plans and only invite her to his own shows, at the last minute. But I figured she at least had a chance. Anyway, then things changed...\n\nShe was starting to get over this dude after a while of no-contact, and at the same time we started spending more time together and I developed feelings. I made plans to ask her out on a date, but before I nutted up and did anything he texts her, raising her hopes up once again. \n\nThen I done fucked up.\n\n---\n She notices that I'm acting different, because now I don't want to hear that the girl I'm crazy about is after some douchebag who doesn't care about her. She presses me on the issue and I tell her how I feel. The next day we get together for coffee to talk about it. I'm surprised when she doesn't give me the standard \"You're a great friend, but I don't see you that way\", instead it's more about how she's hung up on this other guy. She says she's not ready. She says that this complicates her love-life and she has a lot to figure out. I still don't think the talk went well.\n\nSo now I'm here. I imagine we won't hang out so much anymore, but we work in relatively close proximity and I don't see that changing for either of us anytime soon. So we'll be seeing each other, probably every day. Is there anything I can do but wait ? How should I be acting around her now? Is this a totally lost cause or do I have a chance?", "summary": "I like her, she likes him, now I'd like to hire someone to murder me."}
{"id": "t3_2b5akv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 4 years, tells me I'm only attractive when I'm happy.", "post": "I've been struggling with depression and body image issues for years, before we even started seeing each other. A little over a year ago I caught him emailing a girl from high school. The emails included pictures of her in a sexual nature. We fought and he told me his reason for doing it was that we hadn't had sex yet and he was horny. \n\nThe reason we hadn't had sex yet was because I was not on birth control and he had never said anything about wanting to so I thought it wasn't that big of a deal. He was always shutting down my advances because \"he was tired.\" He never initiates and hasn't initiated in over two years. He then tells me he doesn't find me attractive when I'm anything but happy. \n\nGreat. It's been over a year since all that happened. I'm starting to get feelings of paranoia and mistrust towards him. I never got any help for my depression. I just stopped caring about it honestly. I tried to fake it till I was actually happy. We started having sex, but he still never initiates and is always \"too tired.\" I constantly feel like he's not attracted to me. I feel so unloved and ugly right now. He gets defensive if I try to talk to him about it, or he tells me he'll try more and nothing happens.\n\nI know this is a mixture of my faults and his. I just want him to understand that I'm really hurt by what he said. I don't know how to get over it.", "summary": "Told me the reason he's not attracted to me is because I always seem sad. I feel gross and ugly and even more sad."}
{"id": "t3_302qdc", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Hearing \"Let us know if you receive any offers\" after the first interview?", "post": "Hi r/jobs,\n\nI have been unemployed for about 1 month, and in different stages of the interview process for 4 different jobs. Out of the four potential jobs, there is one in particular that I really want. I'm closely tied to the company's mission, the position sounds promising, it's a good move for my career, etc. \n\nThe first interview was a phone interview, and it went very well. At the end of the first interview, one of the hiring managers asked me if I was pursuing other opportunities, and to let them know if I receive an offer. They also said that I would hear from them in a week if I made it on to the second round. I told them I was pursuing other opportunities (because I am) and would let them know of a job offer. \n\nThat same day, I received an invitation for a second round interview that's going to be happening two days from now. Is it unusual to get the \"let us know if you receive any offers\" question during a first round interview?\n\nAlso, is it a completely terrible and stupid idea to bluff and say that I received a job offer when I haven't officially? While I don't think I would realistically do this, I'm curious if others have bluffed and had this work in the past. Overall, I'm confident in my candidacy for this position.", "summary": "Is it stupid or possibly beneficial to lie to a potential employer about receiving a job offer?"}
{"id": "t3_bk5ih", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am a \"functioning alcoholic.\"  I tried AA, but can't get over the overwhelming religiousness.  Help?", "post": "I don't mean to talk down on AA.  It saved my alcoholic mom, who I love.  But the other thing about my mom is that she's very, very right-wing.  It makes me sad because she's a caring person, just really set in her conservative ways.  Moving on, I'm a 26 year old alcoholic.  I pay the bills, but I'm drinking 10-12 drinks, 5 nights a week; my life is a blur.  Most of the people in my life don't know that I have a problem.  I quit drinking once for almost a year, and then had my heart ripped out by my ex-girlfriend, and went right back to drinking.  I've been to plenty of AA meetings and liked some aspects of them, but most of the people there seemed like they were in a cult.  You're supposed to admit that you're powerless and the that only a \"Higher Power\" can help you.  I know myself, and I will never be able to deal with all that hand holding and praying.  I'm planning on quitting again.  I know I can do this, but I would really appreciate any advice.", "summary": "I'm a reasonably intelligent, agnostic guy, looking for non-religious advice about how to stop being a drunkard."}
{"id": "t3_3q87u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30M] How do I help her?[30F]", "post": "So this girl I have been talking to for a while, working towards starting a relationship with, called me tonight. She was sobbing and crying so hard she could barely talk. She wouldn't come right out and tell me what was wrong, but from the way she was avoiding saying what was wrong, I knew what was up.\n\nShe told me that she had just slept with a married man. She was feeling terribly guilty, and kept telling me that she wasn't worthy of my time anymore. I tried to comfort her as best as I could.\n\nShe got out of her last relationship last December, but hasn't gotten over him. He cheated on her multiple times, and didn't find out about any of it until the very end. She is the type to want to maintain friendships, so she didn't cut him out of her life.\n\nOn the phone, I told her that what she did was wrong, and that by feeling guilty, it shows that she knows it was wrong. She kept calling herself a slut, and every time I told her that that is not true. Even the best of people make mistakes.\n\nShe and I are not in a relationship, but I want to be with her. I have no issues with what she did. I think the fact that she called me of all people proves that she cares about me.\n\nSo my question is, is there anything I can do to help her heal her heart, and show her that I do very deeply care for her?", "summary": "girl I am talking to had a one night stand because of her broken heart, how do I help her get over this and her heart break?"}
{"id": "t3_j7h3d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know this is a long shot but could someone help me identify what kind of cat this is?", "post": "Back story: My little sister absolutely loves cats but is extremely allergic   to them. The other day we were at our cousin's house and they had taken in a cat off the street recently. For some reason the cat did not bother her allergies at all and she was ecstatic. My family would really like to get her a cat for her 7th birthday coming up this month so if anyone could identify the breed of this cat, I'd really appreciate it. (I know the picture is kind of blurry but the cat is a heather gray color with white paws and extremely soft, bunny-like fur.)\n\nimage 1: \nimage 2:", "summary": "Cousin took stray off the street. Would really like to know the breed if recognizable. Thanks in advance!"}
{"id": "t3_30smc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25M] of a year said something hurtful to me [22F] last night. He said he is not willing to apologize or make an effort to not do it again. This is a deal breaker for me. How do I explain that to him?", "post": "What he said wasn't really all that awful.  He was working on the bathroom he is renovating, and I was standing behind him to see how it was going.  I had been there all of maybe 10 seconds to ask if he needed anything, and he said \"Do you have to stand so fucking close to me?\".  I realize that there are far worse things that could have happened, but this really hurt me.  I told him that I understood that sometimes he needs space, but that it wasn't okay to be mean to me about it.  He replied that that is who he is, and I can't expect him to change it.  All I want is for him to make an effort to not be so hurtful.  I said, \"All I'm asking is for you to take 2 seconds before you snap at me to think about what you're about to say\".  He says that's not how he was raised, and I can't expect him to change.  We argued for awhile, and he grudgingly said he'd try in the future.\n\nI didn't sleep well at all last night, and woke up this morning having decided that this is a deal breaker for me.  I am not interested in spending my life with someone who thinks it is acceptable to treat people the way he treated me last night.  I need to explain this to him, but I'm not great with words or explaining myself, especially when it comes to him.\n\nI love him very much, and I do really want to continue this relationship.  How do I explain that even though I want to be with him, this behaviour is not something I will tolerate.\n\nWe are both at work now for the day, but I want to talk to him when I get home tonight.", "summary": "Boyfriend said something hurtful to me last night, but doesn't think it is a problem.  It's a deal breaker for me if he thinks it's okay to treat me like this.  Not sure how to explain this to him constructively, as **I do want to continue the relationship**."}
{"id": "t3_22i3qi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing a fight with a cockroach.", "post": "A little backstory: I'm from and I live in South Africa in a small town surrounded by farms so bugs, snakes and creepy crawlies don't phase me that much. I just CANNOT handle being around cockroaches for some reason. It's the only irrational fear I have. \n\nOkay so, last night I was in my room getting ready for bed, everything was fine and my lovely 32\" LED TV was playing some shitty time travel movie. I get into bed and turn off all the lights and close my eyes(TV is still on). I start to hear a buzzing but I ignore it and try to go to sleep until I feel it land on my shoulder. I open my eyes. And staring at me was the biggest, ugliest, loudest fucking cockroach I have ever seen. \n\nI like to think myself as person who can keep his cool when under pressure but not this time. I fucking flailed like a fish out of water sending anything near me flying into the air only for it to come crashing down. \n\nA stillness takes my room and I gather my bearings. I turn on my lights and see that my lovely new TV is smashed, completely wrecked. The culprit was an xbox controller that was on my bed and went hurtling through the TV during the whole commotion. I've since found the ugly bastard and he's currently trapped under a glass by my front door to be made an example of to any other cockroaches that try to fuck me.", "summary": "I need a new TV ):"}
{"id": "t3_1hu9j6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best going away gift you've ever given or received?", "post": "Reference: I'm leaving my hometown of 27 years for a career change and life in the city. I've grown up here in this small town in the country with my father, who has raised me selflessly, after my mother broke his heart and left 20 years ago. He worked tirelessly at the local factory and every dime he earned went towards my happiness and well-being. In the few hours he had between jobs he'd teach me baseball or build a sandbox out of out lumber we'd find walking the railroad tracks. I honestly don't know how that man worked so hard on almost no sleep, for years. He is the most selfless man I've ever known. He's worn the same clothes since I can remember, still uses our shoddy lawn mower that makes the job nearly impossible, but simply states, \"Well, It still runs.\" He's just that kind guy. Anyway, it's breaking my heart to leave him & I just need something.. something to give him, something to show him.. everything he means to me. I'm not talking about a new lawn mower or stuff he needs. There has to be way to sum up how much I acknowledge that, appreciate him, and will miss him or so dearly. I'm writing him a letter, but that's as far as I've gotten.\n\nBut I don't mean to stray away from the title itself, it doesn't have to be simply suggestions for him. I have two friends that are like sisters that I also won't see for a long, long time once I move.. and I'd like to do something nice for them as well!\n\nI appreciate any suggestions or going away stories & gifts of your own, thanks Reddit!", "summary": "I'm moving far away from the probably the most amazing & selfless father on the planet & I need help with a going away gift."}
{"id": "t3_zioqb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most memorable story a stranger has ever told you?", "post": "Last night I was at the bar around when all the older guys start rolling in after work. I sat next to an interesting guy and turned out he liked to talk (As most older guys do to us strapping young lads.) Let's call him Greg\n\nGreg eventually told me a story about when he lived in Nashville on some river or other body of water that had a power plant of some sort also located on it. Apparently there was a tugboat that was used to lug coal by water to the power plant. \nOne night he was drunk with his friends and as they saw the tugboat approaching he grabbed his golf clubs and a large number of balls. It was about 1 am on a weekday so they couldn't have been spotted by the boat. They all start whacking balls out towards the boat with no avail but eventually he said that he layed one out with a 3 wood and knew that he had hit the boat. Seconds after he hit the ball the tugboat layed on it's horn for a good five seconds as he described.\n\nNow at 1 am this is obviously ridiculous and there wouldn't have been any other reason to do so unless it was the ball that hit the boat...\n\nFast forward a year and Gregs in a new bar that his friends just opened and had been open for about 2 weeks. After work one day Greg described that some random guy sat next to him and it turned out to be none other than the tugboat driver and owner... After describing where he lived the owner told the story about the golf ball coming from the area where Greg had described and how he had \"got the bastards back by laying on his horn for a good 5 seconds.\" Apparantly Greg had told this story at the bar recently and all the other regulars who hadn't believed him had all eyes on Greg and about to crack up. Greg described that he remembered that night and how the horn had woken him up and it was a bitch considering he had to wake up at 4:30 to go to work the next day. Feeling a little guilty the owner bought Greg a beer and merrily went on his way.", "summary": "Guy hits tugboat with golf ball, meets tugboat driver in bar a year later and somehow manages to get the owner to buy him a beer"}
{"id": "t3_4kmdht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my friend [26 F] of 8 years, who rejected me recently. My best friend [25 M] tells me to stop contacting her completely. Does he have the point?", "post": "So I was romantically rejected recently by my female friend whom I developed feelings for during our friendship. But we continued our friendship almost immediately. My thoughts are that while the rejection is painful it's not gonna change if I stop contacting her. And though I have feelings for her, I don't want to be with a person who doesn't want to be with me. And as we were friends first and for a long time I have no reasons to reduce or stop contacting her. \n\nMeanwhile my best friend (and some others) insists on going no contact with her asap. He says that I am depressed now and it's only going to get worse. \n\nA lot of people here on reddit says that keeping in contact will feed my hope of reciprocation which isn't going to happen and while I agree that I still hope for something unconsciously I'm not going to act on it.", "summary": "Rejected by female friend, keep in touch with her. Male friends insist on going no contact with her."}
{"id": "t3_4spzso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [18 M] Been talking to this girl for a while [18 F] but I don't think she's interested.", "post": "So me and this girl from my high school have been talking for about 2 months and during the first month and a half, things were going great. We were planning to see each other for coffee during exams, but I didn't have time because I was more focused on studying. She understood that I needed this time, so we went to the library and studied together instead. A few days after we studied, I told her that I liked her and that I enjoyed talking to her. She felt the same way, and said that when she goes to university, she would want to keep talking.\n\n Ever since that day, our conversations have started to gradually decline to the point where she no longer responds to my texts. I've sent her 2 texts asking her if everything was alright and asking her how her day was. I haven't said anything to her that would make her act this way, and I have made the effort of to trying to talk to her about it. At this point, the amount of time I have put into getting to know this girl is insane, and I've gotten to the point where I just want to cut things off with her and move on. She's going to a university outside of my city, while I will be staying here. I need some advice on how I could stop talking to her, without coming off as a jerk. I think of her more as a close friend now, and I want to leave our relationship on a high note if we stop talking. Thanks in advanced and any advice is greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Talking to a girl from my high school, she doesn't seem interested, What is the nicest way of moving on/refrain from talking to her?"}
{"id": "t3_1pbpw0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [23 F] broke up, I have been so out of my mind lately, I also accidentally burned my apartment.", "post": "So she broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I have been not able to focus on anything other than her. I always catch myself thinking about her even though I know that will hurt me more. But my brain just does it. I have friends visit me, I made new friends and I am trying to do what I love,  volunteering in teaching high school kids. So those have been things I do to try to steer my mind away from her. But every time I'm back from it, my brain instantly think about her, as soon as I am alone by myself basically. \n\nToday, I was cooking. and then I walked away and basically forgot about it. It caused alot of smokes and fortunately no fire. Whenever I am alone, I have been like mindless robot like this for a while now. I don't know why I like her so much. She's been so cold to me. I even wanted to tell her I love her, which is the hardest thing for me due to my trust issues created from past relationships. \n\nI don't know if I am asking any advice. I just want to let it out of my chest.", "summary": "I was thinking about my ex and forgot I was cooking. I almost burned down my apartment. Love sucks."}
{"id": "t3_2gchtg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend *most likely* cheated on me. I need some advice. [Infidelity]", "post": "Me (M/16) and my girlfriend (F/16) have been dating for a little over a month now. She and I have liked each other for quite some time but only recently made moves so this was something we both were very happy about. But you didn't click on this link to hear about that did you? Nah. Here's the important part. \n\nAbout a week before school started she went over to a friends house. One thing led to another and they went to a party at the friend's request. Now I feel like I should add that she *had* a bad drinking problem. She'd been trying to get it under control but I guess fate decided she was going to drink that night. \n\nIn the course of that night she hooked up with four different guys, multiple people have confirmed that this is true. I don't know how reliable these people are but when multiple people say something strikingly similar it is probably true. However, with all things there are doubts. I don't know if these sources were drunk and just *think* they saw it. Also I don't know if she even remembers anything and will be able to admit to anything if I confront her. \n\nOne of the girls at the party saw it and immediately told one of my friends because she knew he was friends with me - her boyfriend. And the girl went to him with this, not the other way around. Tonight me and a bunch of friends were hanging out and they sat me down and told me. Apparently they've known for a while but were gathering evidence and fact checking so they could tell me with confidence. \n\nThe dilemma here is this. I don't know what to do.\n\n1. Do I hold her accountable for her actions even though she was probably drunk? \n\n2. Do I confront her over text or in person? (She is away at the moment)\n\n3. Do I throw away a good relationship over one (four?) mistake(s)? \n\nI have never felt so lost in my life, I care about this girl more than I thought I could and to learn that she did something like this is the worst pain I've ever felt. Help.", "summary": "My girlfriend probably cheated on me at a party. I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1uvvyh", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Home inspector didn't notify us about the extremely vulnurable/shoddy plumbing system which has now burst", "post": "Hi all, I live in Georgia, and unfortunately with this weeks cold snap, it resulted in several water pipes bursting in my attic and water damage across several ceilings in our house.  Fortunately I was able to cut off the water before any further damage could happen.  When I had a plumber come out to fix the pipes, he basically laughed when he went up to the attic and saw the plumbing system that had been installed by the previous home owner.  In the attic, there was a maze of exposed CPVC (no insulation jackets) pipes all through out the attic.  They were also raised about 2-3 feet in the air with NO hangers.  The plumber said it was basically a disaster waiting to happen and that the only real solution would be to have the entire attic re-piped correctly.  He said he could replaced the broken pipes, but it would just result in another break during the next deep freeze so we went ahead and replaced the entire attic and we are setup with a good PEX system, with a fiberglass insulation sleeve, and the pipes now run low enough to where insulation can be placed on top of it also so we should be good for the future.\n\nSorry, long lead up, but my question is:  Before we purchased our house in 2012, we had it inspected by a home inspector for $400 or so.  He provided us a pretty detailed report about some issues, but NOTHING was mentioned about the shoddy plumbing system that was just waiting to fail.  I went back and looked at the report again to confirm, but I also noticed that apparently \"Private Water systems\" are out of the scope of their inspection/report which I think is RIDICULOUS...  We were first time home buyers and needed an true professional inspection to let us know of any potential problems before purchasing the house.  Do I have any recourse with our inspector?  The plumbers and the insurance adjustor that have come out have both stated that they are amazed the house passed inspection with a water system like that in the attic.  Any help/advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Home inspector mentioned nothing about the disaster of a plumbing system in attic, which burst during the latest cold snap.  Any recourse?"}
{"id": "t3_330t8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Foreign exchange student [22F] can\u00b4t decide between Me [21M] and her boyfriend[27M]", "post": "Hey Guys,\nI have a crush on this foreign exchange student girl and we have been meeting eachother for some time now and things are going well. Two days ago a friend of mine told me she has a bf of 3 years in her homecountry and it\u00b4s apparently not going too well between them anymore. \nYesterday while taking a trip with her we came to talk about our relationship. Apparently she is in the situation that she can\u00b4t really decide between me and her boyfriend. He was originally the reason why she started studying my language and came to my country/university to practice it. She now wanted me to set her a deadline for her to decide between us because she thinks it might be better for all of us.\n\nMore information:\n> He has relatives in a nearby town here and intents to visit her sometime (she doesen\u00b4t want that)\n> Apparently her bf is very jealous\n> She wanted to break up with him before coming to my country but didn\u00b4t have the courage\n> Know her for 2 months now and we haven\u00b4t done anything sexual (yet)\n> She might wants me to change (my looks and a little bit of my lifestyle)\n> She kept on saying what a \"terrible and egoistic person\" she is for having this triangle relationship and telling me moreover to fix some of my flaws\n> She wants to see how i \"develope\" (under her influence) because i used to be depressive and have a inferiority complex but am now outgoing and focusing strongly on character growth\n> Says i am the (good) opposite of her bf\n> I will be going to her country for one year when she leaves mine next year\n\nIt feels like im a little bit of her playtoy of some sorts which i already called her out on. I realize this whole situation is stupid and there are so many red flags but i really like her and think i might can grow as a person through her beeing a \"terrible person\". What do you think about this whole thing and do you have any advise on how to win her for me?\nSorry for the ramble and if you want more informations please go ahead and ask.\nCheers", "summary": "Have crush on a  foreign exchange student who has a boyfriend of 3 years in her homecountry. She wanted to break up with him before coming to my country but now she is reconsidering their relationship and can\u00b4t decide between me and him. What can i do to make her choose me?"}
{"id": "t3_3myxpg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting a friend", "post": "So today my class had a really important essay to write in history. Of course, we were all bored out of our minds so tried to find ways to entertain ourselves. Beth, who was sat across from me, had a spring-like pen. It stretched, bent and had coils. She was trying to stick it to her face by stetching it and putting it between her upper lip and nose. She of course failed, so suggested I did the same. So, I took the pen (now dubbed pen of death) and put it between my upper lip and nose. I stretched it, clamped it onto my skin and pulled, rather dramatically I must add, expecting nothing to happen. To my complete describe and to my demise, I felt 1000 needles stabbing into my face as it was pulled back with the pen. My eyes watered a little and I tried very hard to not cry out in the silent room. To my horror as I looked down at the pen, I saw many many hairs stuck in between the coils. In the moment I had forgotten that I haven't been bothered to shave for almost 4 days now and had a nasty pube stache growing. I now have half a nasty pube stache.", "summary": "put my stache in a spring pen and ripped it out in the middle of my exam"}
{"id": "t3_3vwi43", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] broken hearted because my [28 F] ex is engaged", "post": "We dated for three years and we broke up three and a half years ago, and i've always had feelings for her still. We broke up as she was going through a rough time with her family, and we were fighting a lot, but I think we still loved each other deeply.\n\nWe met one night after she sent me a message telling me she missed me, and I replied say that I did too. When we met up, for some reason, she told me she wasn't ready to get back into a relationship which obviously upset me a lot.\n\nI remember telling her that she needs to commit, because eventually I would move on and land up loving someone else or even getting married.\n\nEventually I did meet someone else, who I have been dating now for 2.5 years. She is perfect in every way, literally ticks every box of something I am looking for in another person, but I just can't stop missing my ex, I never have.\n\nI know it's unfair of me to stay with someone if I had feelings for someone else, but honestly speaking I feel I would die alone if I had to go about it that way, I don't think i'll ever not miss my ex and want to be with her.\n\nIt sucks, because I always thought we would work things out, and now that door is shut. I am heartbroken.\n\nMy advice is if you can't stop thinking about someone, pursue them until it's too late.", "summary": "ex I have had feelings for, for 3 years, is engaged and I regret not pursuing her :("}
{"id": "t3_333mqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my 20 [20F] of 3 years, not sure if I want to continue or date someone else", "post": "I've been with my current girlfriend for 3 years, and I've gotten to know her really well; we lost our virginity to each other, and we ) have come to understand each other fairly well (Though I think I understand her better than she understands me). \n\nAdditionally, we know each other's family fairly intimately. She is the primary catalyst for my conversion to Christianity, which I value, and her family knows mine, but the other girl I feel more of a connection to. Unfortunately, I feel like my girlfriend is more into me than I am into her, and for a while now I've been attracted (emotionally and physically) to the other girl, with whom I am good friends. \n\nHowever, I feel like what my girlfriend and I have is pretty good, though I sometimes think what I could have with this other person might be better; but I'm hesitant to make that leap given all the investment in the current relationship. I care for both women deeply as friends... what should I do? I am commissioning in the Army soon so I will lose the opportunity to be with either of them soon unless we are married...  at times I feel certain, at times lost. Help?", "summary": "Invested in a longtime GF, care for her a lot but not sure if I love her. Another woman seems better for me, but more of an unknown as we have not dated, just friends."}
{"id": "t3_4pdv98", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Just picked up my dress and nearly had a heart attack...", "post": "Figured you guys would appreciate this more than my FH, so I'm unloading here instead of on him...haha. So a little backstory here - I ordered my dress back in March, and have since been put on a medication that's caused my appetite to skyrocket. I've always been petite, so gaining 10-12lbs in a few months has been a bit of a blow to my self-esteem (I know, it could be a lot worse and I'm still at a healthy weight, but I'm totally being a baby about it.) Monday night I got the exciting news that my dress was in, so I went tonight to go pick it up! Yayyyy/pleasegodihopeitstillfits. The lady had me try to put it on over my head...and it won't budge over my hips. Like, at all. Cue major panic and me silently dying on the inside. After a few minutes of trying she decided to have me step into it, and thankfully that worked! Phewwwww. Still a bit snug in my hips, but totally doable. Bonus sigh of relief: found out they're actually discontinuing my dress, so if I had waited much longer to shop I would have missed out!", "summary": "thought my dress didn't fit and came closer to a meltdown than I'd like to admit. Learned the hard way that legs first is the way to go with a mermaid dress! Also, [dress pic!]("}
{"id": "t3_1e0uud", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Worker's Compensation", "post": "Hi there, looking for a little advice on what to expect and how to best handle my worker's comp case. I work as a bartender for a restaurant chain in Massachusetts. This past Valentine's Day, I injured my knee on the job. While squatting down to grab a beer bottle from the bottom shelf of a cooler, I felt a tear in my knee. I reported the incident, filed all the appropriate paperwork, and saw a doctor. At the time, it was diagnosed as a pinched meniscus, which the doctor believed would take care of itself in a matter of time. For the most part, all was well since then, minus the occasional soreness and tightness in the knee. Over the past couple days, however, it had become very tight and had a burning pain, and as of yesterday, I am incapable of walking on my own. I saw another doctor who put my leg through some stress tests and confirmed that my meniscus is in fact torn and will require surgery. I am meeting with an orthopedic surgeon on Tuesday for an MRI and to schedule surgery. My question here is that my boss is telling me I do not need to file an separate claim since my original one is still on file. Is this true? She does have a history of looking out for the company over its employees. If this is in fact the case, what steps should I take to document my case in order to be able to collect worker's comp for my injury until I can return to work? Any particular areas I could expect the company to fight me on? Any and all help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Injured my knee in February, opened worker's comp claim, knee was misdiagnosed. Injury worsened over time and I am now unable to walk and will require surgery. Do I need to file a new claim and what steps should I take to document my case?"}
{"id": "t3_2wy7wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17F] with my Ex Bf [19M] 1 year 1/2, Left me for his best friend and walked out of my life. Finding it hard to deal with.", "post": "Hi,\nI apologize if this story is too confusing but here goes:\n\nSo I[17F] dated a guy[19M] for a year and a half and our relationship was awesome until the last month when he stopped complimenting me and stuff and revealed he had feelings for his best friend. He told me he wasn't ready for a relationship and didn't love me anymore so he broke up with me in Dec 2014. I was pretty crushed.\n\nAfter the break up the friend (who was friends with me first btw) and her bff stopped talking to me and hung out with him a lot. It really hurt me that they abandoned me- one day I decided to confront them about it and they told me they stopped talking to me because they thought talking about the break-up would upset me too much. I forgave them and moved on.\n\nA month ago my ex told me he still had feelings for me and started treating me like he used to. One day he said he was gonna stop because he didn't want to get back together because he didn't want to end up like couples who break up and get back together a lot.\n\nFast forward to this week, out of the blue he told me he was gonna ask out his friend, and was pretty mean about it. I decided to tell the \"friends\" because I was really mad tbh, and they told me that 2 weeks after we broke up he told them he had feelings for the friend. She also told me I needed to grow up, get over it, and thats how life is. That really hurt /: She knew how much I liked him and still went after him.\n\nThey are now dating and both seem pretty serious. I just feel so hurt I don't know what to do ;(\nMy ex also sent me a goodbye forever text. He was like my best friend so it hurts that he walked out on me like this. Why did he hurt me like this? /:", "summary": "My ex left me for his best friend who was my friend first, and sent me a goodbye forever text. I really miss the friendship a lot. I'm finding it really hard to get over feeling betrayed."}
{"id": "t3_u51nd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the filthiest thing you've ever seen someone do?", "post": "I just got home from a Greyhound Bus station. For those of you who have been to a Greyhound, you probably know just how filthy they can be. There was a puddle of urine which I had to step in, all around the urinal (could not be avoided) and the whole restroom smelled of defecation and suffering. \n\nAnyway, I finished my business and as I'm walking to the sink to wash my hands I noticed a man standing by the hand dryers, fixing his hair from a distance, looking in the mirror. I saw there were some wet papers and personal items sitting on the ground and didn't think much of them. I washed my hands and turned to dry them; the man blocking the dryers moved to the side and apologize. I told him, \"no problem.\" As I put my hands under the dryer, he moved his bag, and grabbed the wet papers (one piece of which was a ticket I saw) which were on the ground and... and put the papers in his mouth... *and put the papers in his mouth...* I was completely stunned. He held the papers, including his ticket, in his mouth and moved forward to be closer to the mirror. I stood there and just watched him. I was revolted and in awe at the same time. It was like watching a car accident happen. I have never witnessed anything so filthy in my life.", "summary": "Man in Greyhound restroom puts paper from the floor in his mouth."}
{"id": "t3_en01f", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Any mobile app developers or device specialists want to be friends?", "post": "No, this isn't a mispost meant for /r/r4r. =P\n\nYes, I'm a recruiter, but I try to be one of the good ones, please don't hate me for my industry.\n\nI'm trying to move into / be more effective in what business types like to call 'the mobile space'. I admittedly don't know as much about the inner workings of each OS, why a developer might prefer Gingerbread over iOS for a specific app, and a whole bunch more. Not just app development, either, but product development, OS engineering, testing, even mobility sales and sales support, anything. I don't know much, but I'd like to learn. Not because I'll ever be even close to as knowledgeable as you folks, but because I'd like to be knowledgeable enough to speak intelligently to companies - on my behalf, and on yours.\n\nAttending conferences and meetups is in my future, but just chatting with some intelligent folks is a good place to start, and a great way to network. In theory, if this works out, I'll turn into a good resource with lots of connections into the hiring managers looking for mobility folks.\n\nSo, anyone want to be friends? Or have a friend who might consider chatting with me?", "summary": "I'm an ignorant recruiter trying to break into mobility. Want to help?"}
{"id": "t3_1s3k64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [22 M] with a year-long confusing relationship with my friend [19 F]. Is she really even my \"friend\"?", "post": "I'm a college male [22] and I work with a college girl [19] from my school, who has become one of my best friends since January. We took a summer class together, and she flirted with me. When I finally reciprocated, she said she didn't want to ruin our friendship.\n\nFast forward to this semester. She starts overtly flirting with me and calling me \"babe\" or \"boo\" constantly. Remembering what happened, I didn't reciprocate. \n\nYesterday, she told me she thinks I'm \"perfect.\" I started really liking her recently, so I basically told her I feel the same, and she again used the friend excuse. She even told me she started hooking up with a different friend a month ago and regrets it.\n\nMy question is this: Is she just keeping me there as a plan B? \n\nMore importantly, is she even really my friend, if she's wiling to play with my emotions like that?", "summary": "Girl from school that I work with hits on me and calls me babe. When I reciprocate, she says we should just stay friends."}
{"id": "t3_4wbhsy", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat still peeing on bed", "post": "Let me start at the beginning. My boyfriend and I adopted our cat Spike in January of this year from the shelter, he will be a year old in October. The shelter spayed him before we took him home and he had no problems when we took him home. He can be a little asshole at times, but thats all cats. We moved from Indiana to Texas this May to a home with 1 cat and her litter of 5 kittens. Roomies got rid of 4 kittens but had to foster another pregnant cat, whose kittens are currently up for adoption (other momma cat was about to get fixed but ended up preggers again, waiting for that litter currently). He started peeing on roommates daughter's bed in June but we figured it was him marking his territory. A few weeks later, he peed on the roommates bed. Again, we thought it was just him marking. Until he started doing it on our bed. Every day. Took him to the vet to check everything out and he has a UTI. Started him on antibiotics about a week ago. For a few days he was going back in the box (we uncovered it and clean it everyday). A couple days ago, he peed on the pillows so they got thrown in the washer. Then last night, right in front of me, he peed on the sheets. Depending on if he stops or not, he's scheduled for another UA on Tuesday. Money is a factor right now. Me and boyfriend were wondering if there was anything we could use to discourage him from peeing on the bed again. We were going to look into Feliaway but have read mixed reviews and dont want to spend money we dont have on something that may or may not work. Hes fine with the kittens, he loves playing with them. So anything that wont cost an arm and a leg would be greatly appreciated. We are at our wits' end as to what to do.", "summary": "Cat with UTI on meds still peeing on bed, need him to use the litterbox again, but on a budget."}
{"id": "t3_v19cv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is The Most Cinematic Moment You've Had in a Video Game?", "post": "Personally, mine comes from Battlefield: Bad Company 2.\n\nWe were on Valaparasio (The map with the wooded area followed by a couple huts and a beachfront behind those).  I began by piloting a black-hawk, which was quickly fully loaded by various other players.  We were in the air for quite a while, dodging missile after missile, till finally someone got us and the helicopter started going down above the beach front.\n\nWe bail out and began parachuting down with a hail of bullet fire wiz past us, and end up all landing next to each other at the bottom of the beachfront.\n\nIt got quite for a second as we all reloaded and waited, when suddenly rockets started flying and waves of people flooded out of the buildings.  We fought for a good 3 minutes while endless waves of enemies came at us.  It wasn't until we began running out of ammo and switching to pistols that we finally started one by one going down, until finally they overpowered us.  Needless to say it was an incredibly badass moment that felt like something straight out of The Wild Bunch.", "summary": "BF: BC2, Black-Hawk Down/The Wild Bunch style."}
{"id": "t3_4tv3fd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19m] Roommate's [20m] laziness is driving me mad.", "post": "About 1.5 years ago I bought myself a house and lived there mostly alone. About 6 months ago one of my good friends left his job in his town about 6 hours away and expressed interest in renting one of my rooms. Although he had no work he had quite a lot of savings and planned on getting a new job down in my city within the first month.\n\nThat was in January, it's now July and he very barely looks for work anymore and even worse does little to no house work. He doesn't cook or clean and I am starting to get fed up with cooking and cleaning for a fully grown adult. \n\nThe problem is that after 6 months of bills and rent his savings have run to a very minuscule amount, so much so that he can't afford to pay for bills or rent anymore. Being as he is still my best friend I have let him stay for free with the condition that he looks harder for work and cleans up a bit more around the house. That was a week ago now and I have still had too cook every night and spend my days off from my full time job cleaning.\n\nI don't want too have to kick him out. What can I do?", "summary": "= Roommate can't afford to pay rent anymore and does no housework, how can I kick him into gear?"}
{"id": "t3_2ytb9s", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Mortgages - Understanding an Ad I heard on the radio", "post": "Traditionally I have understood that you don't want to be upside down on a mortgage so you normally have a larger downpayment and opt for a shorter term to get less interest accrued on your loan.  However on my way into work today I heard something and I want to try to understand what/how their premise works.  The ad stated that going for a long term and a minimal down payment and basically paying interest on the house is actually the way to build wealth.   The ad is from a \"financial adviser\" agency but the does talks in my area, but I want to understand why/how this could work out to be beneficial.  Does it simply have to do with them claiming that they can get a better RoR on investments (stocks, etc) off a down payment that would nullify the interest?  I don't have much more information on the ad, but I thought it would be interesting to understand why/how this could work out.", "summary": "How can a long term 30 year with minimal down payment that you never intend to pay off be better than a large down payment and shorter term loan 15 year for a persons future?"}
{"id": "t3_skwfu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, is it a bad sign that no guy wants to have sex as often as I do?  Help!", "post": "Ok, Reddit, I really need your help clearing some things up here.  \n\nI'm a 22 year old, relatively attractive female.  My guy friends are always telling me that they wish they could find a girl who wants to have sex all of the time, and that any guy would be lucky to have me because I'm that kind of girl.  BUT whenever I'm in a sexual relationship (be it a romantic relationship or just a friends with benefits situation) the guy NEVER wants to have sex as often as I do. I'm not sure if guys are just saying that they want sex all of the time and they just don't mean it, or they just don't want it with me all of the time.\n\nEvery guy I've had a sexual relationship has said that I'm the best they've had, and the vast majority of them have tried to get me to help their now girlfriends to become better in bed.  If I had it my way I would get to have sex with the same one or two people AT LEAST 3 times a day, preferably 5, every day.  And if I don't get to have sex, I would love to at least get to give them head because that can get me off too.  I can easily have 6 or 7 orgasms per sex period, so it's not like I'm asking for a lot of effort from them.\n\nBasically what I'm asking is this: are men lying when they say they want sex constantly, or is there something wrong with me? I know I'm not a sex addict (although I have attended meetings) because I don't sleep around and I'm not willing to do *anything* for sex - I go on 4-6 month dry spells all of the time when I can't find someone I'm attracted to enough to sleep with.", "summary": "I love sex, but it seems like no guys want it as much as I do.  Are men lying about wanting it constantly, or is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_1q70sj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Which stocks would you buy if you had fore-knowledge of climate changing volcanic event?", "post": "While perusing random reddits, I learned that the extended winter of 1600-1602 (and subsequent famine) was likely caused by the eruption of a volcano in Peru.  So what if you somehow knew in advance that a large volcanic eruption was about to happen in the present time?  \n\nThis eruption would not be so big as to send the world economies into collapse or cause region-wide wars, but big enough that climate is affected for a year or two and we see similar events like those of 1600-1602.  The grain producing regions of the U.S. have a perpetual winter and grain output is cut by 50% or more; the wine regions of Europe also have no summer and all wine production ceases that year; early frost comes to mainland China and aggravates the already bad smog problem in cities, etc. etc.\n\nSo, in this unpleasant but not world-ending scenario, your knowledge of impending events allows you to plan in advance. The stock markets will not collapse, but stock prices will be fluctuate wildly.  What stocks would you purchase before the eruption and why?", "summary": "What stocks would you buy if you knew a volcano was about to explode."}
{"id": "t3_2a9lqm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Learned the hard way that the saying \"Never buy a car from a friend\" should be followed", "post": "My best friend knows everything about cars. He's done motor swaps, transmission rebuilds, fuel pump replacement on every make and model car possible, etc. You get the point: he's a gearhead (sorry if that's offensive)  \nSo with his background, coupled with the fact that he's my best friend, I thought it would be a great idea to buy his wife's car because she wanted a new one and mine was covered in rust (but still running perfectly).  \nI asked him if there were any problems with the car and he said that it was good as new and that everything was good to go.  \nA month goes by and I have to replace the oil valve gasket and spark plugs. No big deal, it's a used car and things like this can be missed.  \nAnother month goes by and I have to replace the fuel pump and fuel filter. Okay, now I'm getting a little bit annoyed that I've put over $1,000 of parts and labor into this $3,500 car.  \nToday I took it to the shop to run diagnostics tests on it and it needs new coil packs and fuel injectors. Parts and labor run $1,700 ($1,100 parts and $600 labor). I'm putting more money into this car than what it is worth! It's frustrating and my bank account **was** looking good until I bought this car and these problems kept arising. The old saying is true: \"Never buy a car from a friend\"", "summary": "Don't buy a car from a friend unless you have bottomless pockets"}
{"id": "t3_2pv378", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31F] am receiving unwanted texts from my ex [43 M]. Is this considered harassment and should I file a report?", "post": "So I dated my neighbor in May for just a couple of weeks.  There were a bunch of red flags early in and I cut things off.  He did not handle it well, but he was my neighbor and we had mutual friends in common, so I tried repeatedly to smooth things over.  It became clear though this wasn't going to work - he would make weird requests like asking me to go on vacation with him, and get nasty and passive-aggressive when I'd decline.\n\nI hadn't had any voluntary contact with him since mid-August, but the texts haven't stopped.  He'd send me a bunch of messages, first apologizing for his behavior, then becoming abusive when I didn't respond.  I never responded to any of his texts in this time period.  I'd get a series of these messages about once a month.  He sent me a text today, again apologizing, at this point I let him know I appreciated his apology but I didn't want to be friends, and it needs to be left at that.  Sure enough, the angry texts followed.  At this point I've had enough, and let him know explicitly that I did not want to be contacted again and would consider any further contact to be harassment and a blatant disregard of my wishes.  I've received three texts since then.\n\nNothing has been overtly physically threatening, but he is my neighbor, knows where I live and has a lot of guns.  I'm getting nervous here.  I don't want to block his number because I want documentation of the texts as evidence in case something happens.  Is this something I can/should report?", "summary": "Ex won't leave me alone, how do I get this to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1ois1a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "If I [26M] dont hear back from women, theyre not interested, right?", "post": "Over the course of a few months, I have let some lines out and I got a few bites.  Never from online, always meeting through friends or out on the town.  I will try to start talking to them, but if I dont receive the same enthusiasm to talk back, theyre not interested right?  Lately, I just stop bothering them altogether.  An example is, I start talking to Girl A and ill have the last text, maybe a question, and ill get nothing back for some time.  I just dont get the same excitement on the way back with these individuals.  So ill just stop, and albeit sucks, prolly the right thing to do.", "summary": "If I dont get the same enthusiasm back in texts or talking, theyre not interested, yea?"}
{"id": "t3_2gws8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] have been together for 4 and a half years, almost exclusively long distance. Recently I moved near her for college and she seems to want all of my free time.", "post": "We've been together since middle school, and through hell and back during our 4 long distance years, but now that I moved back to where she lives I don't feel like I can do things on my own without her being mad at me. \n\nShe works most week nights, so we have 3 or 4 days a week where we can see each other, so on nights where we aren't together we'll talk on the phone. This is usually awesome. I'll go outside and walk around and talk to her or just chill in my room. Lately she's become increasingly upset when I have to hang up and go to bed, or shower, really any reason I need to stop our phone conversation. I've started making up things I need to do just so I can relax before going to bed. \n\nOccasionally she'll call back later and I'll talk for 5 minutes and say goodnight, but if I don't answer she'll call like 15 times. It's starting to cut into my sleep and any other social interactions I have. If there's ever a day she's free and I have something scheduled I end up just feeling guilty. \n\nI love her to death, and I really do have a great time whenever I'm with her, but when I don't want to talk or I'm busy I don't feel like I can tell her that I'm being smothered or that I just need some alone time without really hurting her feelings.", "summary": "Basically, if she could spend every waking hour with me, she would love to. I have school and other friends I like to spend time with."}
{"id": "t3_hmpx3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it right for a coach to pull someone out of a championship?", "post": "Hi folks! So here's the situation: My brother was going to participate in a championship meet in his high school for a 4-man relay team, but had the coach replace him for someone else. Now the thing is, the other kid was late an hour from when he was supposed to meet the team. My brother inquired about why he got pulled from the race, and the coach said it's because the other kid has a faster time.\n\nNow does that really send the right message for a team? \"I can show up anytime I want because I have a faster time then all of you.\"? Shouldn't discipline and team respect be precedented over time?\n\nMy brother is really upset about this and I wanna know Reddit's opinion on this.", "summary": "Brother got pulled out of a championship just because the other kid who was faster showed up--though was late. Is that right or fucked up?"}
{"id": "t3_3029mq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lying to both of my bosses", "post": "So I hated the job I had and I found a new really great one and didn't want to give two weeks notice even though that's the polite thing to do, but I also didn't want to grow some balls and just say I wasn't giving two weeks notice. So I decided why not blame it on someone who my boss will never talk to or meet anyway. So I told my old boss that I had to start my new job right away or I would lose the opportunity so I couldn't give any kind of notice. Little did I know my old boss was going to call my new place of employment to ask them to extend professional courtesy and allow me to give notice. Well of course the new boss had no idea what the old boss was talking about he explained it to her and long story short she fired me for lying before I could even start the job and the old boss said bye good riddance. So now I have no job at all", "summary": "I lied to both old and new boss and lost both jobs at once."}
{"id": "t3_14cl3b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and got shit on while trying to get laid.", "post": "I was on Grindr, looking for some fun (I know, but still). This really hot guy messaged me and told me that he was alone on his birthday (that day). I said I'd come to join him and watch TV or whatever. When I noticed that none of the pictures had his legs in them, I didn't think too much of it. I walk into his dorm complex, knock on his door, and he answers. He had huge leg braces on, was using a cane, and was talking kind of funny. I didn't think too much of it - I have a friend who is disabled and still efficiently sexually active. We lay down on the futon, talk a little bit, watch some South Park, and things get really heated. Clothes are flying everywhere and things are going swimmingly. I lift his legs above my head and rest them on my shoulders, lean in, and kiss his lips. (I had to clarify.) Suddenly, I hear this \"foop\" kinda sound and feel something warm on my legs.\nI look down.\n\nIt's shit.\nA lot of shit.\nNot just like a little slimy thing, but like a fucking volcano erupted out of his ass and onto my thighs and dick. \n\nI shrieked and flipped out. I jumped off of the futon, sending shit in every direction possible, although none got on my clothing. Luckily, the room had a personal bathroom. I ran in and locked the door. I gathered up as much toilet paper as humanly possible and tried to wipe as much of it off as I could. I hopped in the shower, scrubbed the goddamn shit out of my legs and genital area, and left promptly.\n\nHe texted me later that night to apologize, telling me that this isn't the first time something similar had happened.\nI would have loved a forewarning.", "summary": "I hooked up with a disabled guy who took a massive dump on my dick and upper thighs and now I kinda feel like a douche for handling it the way I did."}
{"id": "t3_2uq8mm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my cousin [28 F], is it appropriate for me to ask her if I can shave my head before her wedding?", "post": "I would like to participate in St. Baldrick's, a cancer charity for which people shave their heads to raise money, this March. I am on the planning committee at my school, I would be very happy to shave my head for a good cause, and according to my committee members anyway it raises more attention if someone with long hair shaves it off. \n\nHowever, my cousin is getting married in May and her bachelorette party is one week after the event. I am in her wedding party, I am the church reader. \n\nIs it appropriate to ask her if she's okay with this? Or should I let go of the idea of shaving my head this year?", "summary": "Can I ask my cousin if I can shave my head before her wedding?"}
{"id": "t3_1nooyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] broke up with my girlfriend [18 F] of almost 4 years. I don't think I will know what to do with my time.", "post": "So I just broke up with my girlfriend of almost 4 years,  \nand to be honest I'm scared.  \nThis is the first time in so long I wont have any one to rely on  \nunfortunately I think I made the mistake of allocating almost  \nall of my time to my relationship, and less to everything else in my life.  \nSo I guess I'm wondering how do ye deal with free time after a break up? I don't want to text or call her to meet up, because that wouldn't be good. I feel like this breakup is needed.  \nI just feel like if I don't have anything to keep my mind pre-occupied, I will end up trying to crawl back to her.  \nAny suggestions?", "summary": "Just broke up, now have loads of time. Need to stay occupied. Any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_3y1gvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46 F] with my MIL [73F] planned to stay over the holidays but her house is SO filthy I want to leave", "post": "My husbands mother is in her early 70's, severely obese and has been babied by her parents and friends her whole life. She is extremely spoiled and self centred.\n\nHer personal hygiene is so bad, she can't wipe her own ass nor bath properly because she is too overweight to reach her own bottom and other body parts that need washing.\n\nWe flew in yesterday to stay for the holidays and when she opened the door we were all overwhelmed with a mix of the odour from her body, excessive dust and other horrible smells that I was shocked and didn't know what to say, so I said nothing.\n\nI opened the window of the bedroom we are staying in so I could breath, but woke up with a headache and my nose was full of grey and black bits of dust or whatever is in the air.\n\nMy youngest daughter said she was having trouble breathing, and I assume this was due to the amount of dust in the air.\n\nIt is very clear that my MIL never cleans her apartment.  The toilet had a black in it below the water line, and shit all over the seat on both sides.  \n\nThe floors are so dirty I don't want to take my shoes off.  There are cobwebs everywhere and dust all over her books and trinkets (she is a hoarder although not overly extreme compared to those hoarding shows on television).\n\nAbout an hour after waking I told my husband we had to find an alternate place to stay because I wasn't spending my vacation time cleaning someone else's filth, and clearly it wasn't healthy for us to stay with his mom.\n\nAlternately, I suggested he ask his mom if she is prepared to split the cost of a cleaning company to come in if they can asap (may be difficult so close to Christmas).\n\nI am pissed anyone could expect a family member to live in this filth.  Had I known she was so filthy dirty I would never have bothered to travel here. After paying for flights over the holidays I'm afraid of the cost of a hotel for two weeks :(", "summary": "Staying at MIL's with young kids, house is filthy dirty, we are getting sick, wondering what the best solution is."}
{"id": "t3_4eyayf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my bf [22M/F] 1 year, won't like my facebook pictures", "post": "Hi everyone, **I know that this is immature and petty** but I've been getting upset at my BF for never liking my facebook/instagram posts or photos while he does for other girls. \n\nI wouldn't mind at all if he didn't like or comment on anyone else's stuff, or even just his close friends. \n\nI've talked to him about it and all he said that he wouldn't and called me immature :(\n\nAny advice? What should I do to get over these negative feelings?! I feel dumb getting upset about these stupid social media things but I do feel jelous and upset :(", "summary": "I feel dumb getting upset about these stupid social media things but I do feel jelous and upset when my BF likes other girls' posts but not mine"}
{"id": "t3_18q11z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flashing a morbidly obese man.", "post": "I was at subway, as I usually go to on a Sunday night, and there was a line of about 5 people, me included. First in line was this man who had to have weighed at least 600 lbs. I'm talking BIG, like one of the biggest people I have ever seen in my entire life.\n\nSuitably, he was ordering 2 foot long subs, 3 cookies, and a 32 oz drink, which I assume was all for him, to support his jabba-the-hut-esque physique. I was astounded by this man, and the fact that he could walk. \n\nSince I was on my way to a friends house, I figured I would take a picture to show, which I now realize was a pretty dick move. So I snuck my phone to make it look like I was texting, and got the camera ready. I got him perfectly lined up with a nice view from the side, and I am about to hit the camera button on the iPhone screen. And then, light. A bright light, given the dim setting of the crappy subway. Everyone in the place looked at me, as I was standing there taking a picture of a man paying for his order. He looked at me, close to tears, and just continued paying for his order normally, while everyone else looking at me like I was the biggest asshole to walk the planet. He left sniffling, and I felt awful. Luckily the shitty sandwich made up for all the hard feelings I felt.\n\nSorry for the misleading title.", "summary": "flashed a guy in a subway, who then left almost crying."}
{"id": "t3_4fnlux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 1.5 years; I love her, yet I'm extremely attracted to other women.", "post": "I love my girlfriend, she's great. Highly attractive, loving, very affectionate, heart-in-the-right-place - all of that stuff. \n\nI'm thinking about asking her to move in with me because we spend most of our time together and she's pretty much all the time at my place anyway.\n\nI should also mention I'm very well off while she is sort of still struggling (yet independent). So that may play a part in her being so attached to me. Although she never said or indicated that.\n\nFor some reason, I feel *extremely* sexually attracted to other women. Different women, particularly older (40-50), or just simply different in looks. It's not that I would want to have a relationship with them, I just have a strong urge to plow them.\n\nHow normal is this? And how should I handle it? I don't want to break up with my GF for meaningless sex with other women, who I will forget after a couple of days. Netiher do I like the idea of cheating. I have strong feelings for her. But it's just these strong urges...\n\nCould I be addicted to sex? What do you think? I don't think this urges are going away anytime soon.", "summary": "I (28/M) have strong feelings for my [24/F] GF, yet I'm ridiculosly sexually attacted to other women. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_10n0j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [18M] wrong to be kinda pissed about hearing about my SO's [18F] past?", "post": "We've been dating for about 2 months now and during a little idle chat over text she explained to me that she almost had a threesome with a guy last year... Almost meaning she watched two of them screw and then made out with the guy and then stopped. The whole story made me really uncomfortable reading it and a little peeved that she told me. I don't really have a problem with her telling me about past experiences, I think it just had to do with the casualness of it all. It left me kinda angry/weirded-out and I still haven't responded. Am I being a dick?", "summary": "didn't like hearing about this past experience... is that bad?"}
{"id": "t3_2n7d7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [25 F] of 3 weeks, when is an appropriate time to tell her I love her?", "post": "I know it's been a very short amount of time we've been in a relationship but in that time, we have hung out 4-5 times a week and been in more or less constant txt communication. We have pretty much everything in common, have similar goals, both want to settle down and start a family and just seem to be perfect for each other. \n\nWe slept together for the first time on Saturday night which was amazing, and I feel like I am in love with her. I don't want to say it too early though and scare her away incase she doesn't yet feel the same or wants to wait a little while (which would be understandable). \n\nWhen is an appropriate time to declare this?", "summary": "Been in a relationship with pretty much the female version of myself for 3 weeks and wondering when I can tell her I love her."}
{"id": "t3_1x32i9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (F 19) boyfriend of a little over a month (M 19) has issues...", "post": "Background: My ex (M18) and I were together for two years. However, he left me because he was afraid I would find someone else when I went to college. However, he didn't leave until he found out that I thought a coworker (M 20) was attractive. \n  I recently started dating this great guy (M19), however he has an \"issue\". According to him, he had an ex that he thought made him happy but didn't and was a little bit overweight. She ended up leaving him because he was \"immature\". \n Now, we live about an hour apart and he keeps telling me that he has negative thoughts when we aren't together (that he's afraid I don't make him happy, or that I'm overweight \"even though he's seen me and knows I'm not\", and even afraid he's  making a mistake). And can't get them to go away. He claims that he had the same issue with the girl he dated before me and that \"I'm what he's ways wanted\" and he doesn't want to break up because \"he knows he will be hurt and want me back\". I told him that if it's happened before and happening now, it'll happen again. \n\n On the other hand, my ex told me recently he still loves me (but doesn't want a relationship right now) and I miss him terribly. But I'm afraid if I go back it won't be the same.", "summary": "Ex still loves me, I miss him. At the same time, my current bf had an issue with his ex/relationships and thinks it's a reason to break up because he doesn't know how to fix it. And it's all leaving me lost."}
{"id": "t3_1wa3je", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Wife has no credit (not bad credit). Just made her an authorized user on one credit card--next steps?", "post": "We'd like to buy a house sometime in the future, and since both of our credit histories will be pulled up, I'm trying to get her on track to a good credit score.  (FWIW, my transunion score was graded a \"B\" and in the 78th %ile and out of 990 is something like 800.)  We just got a credit card where she's an authorized user.\n\nIs it possible to make her an authorized \"user\" (for lack of a better word) on my student loans?  I've never missed a payment, and I'm assuming it's what's largely helped my own score, so I'm thinking it could be a good way to increase her's as well.", "summary": "what are some other ways for my wife to get a better credit score?"}
{"id": "t3_2dhw30", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Someone just died in the house we're purchasing", "post": "Sorry in advance for any bad grammar or typos, using my phone.\n\nMy wife and I are in the process of buying a house (and are currently under contract). The house was rebuilt brand new within the past few years, and we knew we just had to have it when we saw it. The process has been relatively painless up to this point, including the resolution of several things from the home inspection process.\n\nFast forward to yesterday: law office sends over a correspondence letting us know that one of the sellers has died, but the remaining spouse still intends to move forward with the sale. Instant remorse and sorrow set in; despite hardly knowing the person. Then my wife brings up a valid point: what if the person died in the house? Will we still be comfortable to move forward ourselves, given that knowledge? I dismissed this, figuring hey the sellers are young, it probably was an accident of some sort (not trying to sound insensitive here, just trying to get my point across).\n\nI spoke to our lawyer last night, and basically was told that we are in a binding contract, and (barring a homicide or wrongful death in the house of sorts) would need to move forward so long as the seller wishes to move forward. Outside of this, we would need to involve a litigator, and that will create a huge headache I an sure.\n\nNow, we just found out that the seller did indeed die in the house (suddenly).\n\nI don't know how to feel or what to think. Maybe we're overreacting? My wife is more disturbed over the situation then I am, but I still feel unrest. Any and all advice or constructive criticism is welcome. Are we right to feel this way? Or should we just try to brush it under the rug, so to speak?", "summary": "OP is buying a house, one of the sellers suddenly dies in said house, now OP is hesitant in completing the house purchase."}
{"id": "t3_kqltb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do I have no personality?", "post": "Im a 21 year old what I would concider good looking, College guy, Ive always had a bunch of friends, but no best friends, I have hooked up with alot of girls, who the consensus considered hot, and yet I have never had a real girlfriend or someone who i truly considered a best friend. Since college I've had an overwhelming self dobut that I just am not a fun person to be around, because I was from a HS of about 120 kids and there was never any need to try and meet people, and now in college its not hard for me to meet people, but I feel like its just a superficial connection because even when  I try and go outta my way to keep in touch there is no real link.", "summary": "I feel like that shitty AIM bot smarterchild has a better personality then I..."}
{"id": "t3_32l0zf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Today I f'd up by dressing nice.", "post": "So I wasn't making really good money at my last job.  My wife and I decide to survive on her salary and I could go back to school for my masters degree.  This was two years ago.  \n\nThe other day I was feeling sluggish and unmotivated.  So I take a break from my work and go jump in the shower.  I trim the beard, and take care of my nails.  Put on some decent clothes so I feel like a human again.  I decide to take a walk to the corner and buy a gatorade to get some fresh air.  Then I head back home to get back to work.  \n\nA few hours of homework later my wife comes home.  The usual exchange, hello honey, how was your day.\n\nShe stops and looks at me.  \"What's going on?  I thought you said you were working today?\"\n\nThis turned into the most confused almost argument ever.  Finally she says, \"Why aren't you in your pajamas?\"\n\nSo after 2 years of Grad school, I guess my wife assumes I'll be in my pajamas when she comes home from work.", "summary": "After 2 years of Grad school, my wife assumes that I will look like a mess when she gets home from work.  I got dressed up one day and freaked her out."}
{"id": "t3_1s95pb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my very close friend [22 F] 3 months, secretive texting when we're together", "post": "Ive been talking to this girl for about 3 months now, recently we've gotten closer and we're pretty much dating but she doesn't want to commit to a relationship yet as she just got out of a long bad one and has a lot going on in her life at the moment\n\nWe hang out and talk quite often and we always have a good time and she usually gives me a hug or a kiss when we go our ways at the end of the night. \n\nThe other night we were at a theater and before the show started her mother was texting her a lot about christmas presents and our mutual friend was also texting her. She had her phone in plain sight and was even telling me a little about the conversations. She then snapchated a picture of the show and showed me it before she sent it off. She then got one back of a guy with no shirt on and she instantly hid her phone and started texting a lot.\n\nMind you this is in a dark theater so it was pretty easy to see whenever she got a message and against my better judgement I glanced at her phone and saw it was guys name she was texting. She was also sending him massive walls of text as well.\n\nAfter that she just seemed disinterested in everything except for her phone, and barely spoke to me. I asked if that was her mom still texting her and she said \"yeah and (our friends name)\" On the way back she barely said a word and kept texting and I asked her if everything was alright she said yeah, she just has a lot going on right now, but its all good things.\n\nShould I be worried about this? Shes usually very straight forward and very talkative. I think part of my problem is that its been a while since Ive been in a relationship and I had a bit of jealousy creep up on me. I also realize we're not technically together, Ive just never seen her do this before", "summary": "Girl I am kind of dating received a snapchat from a shirtless guy and proceeded to text him the whole night when we were together, not sure if I should be worried about it or not"}
{"id": "t3_39umvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] snooped. I am not sure what to think of his [25M] messages.", "post": "I looked at my boyfriend's messages on his phone. They were up already when I went to turn off a loud notification for him. I started seeing messages between him and several female friends, \"If I was single, would you suck me?\", flirting messages, talking to women who are thirsty for him, craving the attention. I confronted him without telling him where I saw this information. I am about to have a conversation with him about all of this. I really need help. My head is spinning. He swears he would never cheat on me. I love him so much. I know I shouldn't have looked, but the messages were open. I do think what I saw is flat out sexual and flirtatious messages. Is he cheating? What do I do now?", "summary": "I snooped. Is he cheating? What to do now?"}
{"id": "t3_3i2b7x", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[documentary] \"The Retirement Gamble\" and some takeaways", "post": "It's free AFAIK and this was an interesting watch: \n\nRecently I found out about my 401k mutual funds and it contained a really pricy T-Rowe fund which has an expense ratio of about 1.26%. There is an alternative Vanguard fund which has an expense ratio of 0.18%. Turns out this makes a bit difference\n\nAssuming you start with a $40,000 and max out your 401k contributions (assuming this because probably inflation will drive up costs and hopefully my salary) for 35 years, it makes a difference of having a nest egg of $3.1 million versus $2.4 million.   [source:  ]\n\nAsk your employer to use Vanguard. Vanguard also has a VBO option (for $50 a year fee) which lets you purchase any stock / ETF. So most likely you can create your own composite target fund which will be cheaper than alternatives. \n\nI don't have an IRA but I'm assuming similar things apply.", "summary": "your 401k plan can be screwing you, go check which funds you own."}
{"id": "t3_emquc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reddit, I have a sleep disorder that keeps me from falling asleep before dawn/ waking up before 2 PM.  Any advice?  Otherwise, where can I get a decent night shift job?", "post": "It's called Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome (DSPS).  It's like permanent jet lag, and I hate it sooo much.  I've tried everything to fix it: sleeping pills at midnight (don't work, just fall into a weird pseudo-sleep state where I have all kinds of random daydreams), try waking up early (literally run at about 40-60% of full functionality, have trouble with abstract concepts and basic math, functionally retarded), I've even stayed up for the entire night, next day and STILL had trouble falling asleep the next night.  I've managed to maintain decent grades in all my classes (senior year at WVU currently), but I always get B's or C's in any class before 2 PM.  I doubt my drinking habit helps things.", "summary": "I have a sleep schedule that doesn't fit the 9-5 prototype, I am gonna either need a quick fix, or a night shift job in May."}
{"id": "t3_268omm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (24M) becoming virgin again", "post": "Sooo yeah... background.\n\nEver since I'm 14 I flirt a lot with girls. Dated tons of 'en, but didn't had actual sex til I was 20. \n\nShe became my girl for a year, maybe a lil more. We broke up  and that was the last time I even kissed a woman.\n\nI still flirt a lot but I'm not phisically atracted to any of the girls that are attracted to me. So I just blow them away.\n\nI don't think I'm ugly, not gorgous doe. Just avarage, a lil skinnier than I should and a lil taller than avarage.\n\nI can't flirt with the girls I like anyome... don't want to get rejected\n\nTook me a while to finally get laid, mainly because I dont like the girls that would fuck me.\n\nNow I'm almost for sure I'll become virgin again. . . blowed two girls this year already, and doesn't look like I'm about to have a chance anytime sooner.\n\nWhat.the.fuck.is.wrong.with.me\n\nI loved to have sex. . . why am I not banging anything I can ?", "summary": "Why I can't have sex with the girls I can ?"}
{"id": "t3_28uhvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] have developed a crush on my friend's wife's sister [17F] and don't know what to do.", "post": "My best friend that I've known for most of my life got married yesterday and I was his best man. His wife's sister was the maid of honor. Just to give you an idea of the age range of everyone, the bride and groom are both 24.\n\nAnyway, I live a state over from all of them so I visited for all of last week. Since most of the time was spent doing last minute wedding prep, I ended up spending a lot of time with the maid of honor. I had met her a few times before this past week, but this was the first time we spent any substantial time together. \n\nLong story short, some innocent flirting took place and now I can't stop thinking about her. It's been 3 years since my last relationship and I haven't even had feelings for anyone since then. A few things weird me out about this situation/tell me this isn't and shouldn't be going anywhere:\n\n1. The age difference. I've graduated from college and she hasn't even started her senior year of high school.\n\n2. She has a semi-serious boyfriend (as serious as you can be in high school, I guess). I've never met him.\n\n3. This all hits to close to home. I've started considering the long-term when it comes to relationships because a lot of my friends are starting to get engaged or married, and dating my best friend's wife's sister just seems weird to me.\n\nDespite all that, I can't deny that I like her. It could partially be because I'm lonely or haven't had romantic interaction in 3 years, but regardless, the feelings are there. Cutting off contact won't really work either since she'll likely be around some or most of the time when I go visit my friend. Also, I've gotten pretty friendly with their family as a whole and I wouldn't want to get on their bad side.\n\nAfter writing this, I'm not really sure what advice I'm looking for. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to stop thinking about her in a romantic context. Or maybe I just needed to get this off my chest.", "summary": "I have a crush on my friend's wife's sister who is much younger than me and I'm not sure how to get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1i5p16", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(32/f) Frustrated with husband's (32/m) job and lack of motivation.", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 2.  I love him, he's a good person, he treats me well, but I hate his line of work.  He works in sales (retail essentially) and constantly works nights, every weekend, and basically has no potential to move up.\n\nHe started working this job right before he went to school, finished school, and then went right back to exactly the same job as before, taking the whole time about how great his future jobs would be and how he was going to start looking for something else right away, ect, ect, ect. It's been 5 years.  He still talks about getting a different job and moving into a career where he can move up and have a good future, and actually use his education he paid so much for.  \n\nBut he does nothing to make this happen.  \n\nIt's getting really frustrating.  I've started going on weekend trips without him, planning things without him because I know he can't take holidays, and I don't even believe he's going to try and find something better. The economy can not be blamed for this, we live in a place with tons of very good high paying jobs, even for people without formal eduation.\n\nI've been supportive, I've offered to help, I've given him endless suggestions, introduced him to contacts, but he does nothing.  I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Husband has been working dead end job for years, despite constantly talking about looking for something better, and despite having an education, and despite the fact that we live in a place that has many many jobs and a great economy."}
{"id": "t3_3ssick", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] want to look into Welding/Other Trade Jobs but I know my parents [54F and 56M] will not approve.", "post": "All my life I have wanted a \"hands on job\". I hate the idea of a desk job, I hate going to university looking at a career I am only vaguely interested in. However jobs like welding and auto repair are becoming fields that need younger blood. I am almost done with my first semester at University and my current major is Social Work. I'm not too excited and I'm unmotivated to put the effort in. University is over priced and I'm not happy. That being said it's free to me. My scholarship covers tuition and all my folks have to pay is for books and car maintenance. My job: is student who will have a BS in Social Work by 2020. Sigh. There are local trade schools near me. Much closer than the University I attend. I want to search around maybe during winter break for Welding programs but I know my parents will not approve at all. They are hell bent on the idea that the only living is one with a college degree. But I'm not happy. Should I look around and not tell them or should I be upfront and risk them actively trying to stop me?", "summary": "I, a tomboy, wants to look into Trade Schools but am currently at Uni on my parents dime and I'm unhappy with my future outlook."}
{"id": "t3_2wqy54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] have feelings for a guy [30M] after a friends with benefits relationship ended", "post": "I [27F] was friends with a very close coworker [30M] and things evolved into an intimate relationship. Things were going well for awhile since we both liked each other and enjoyed spending time together. We were never anything official but eventually the relationship ended and the friendship dissolved because he moved away and started working from home (he decided to move back to California to be with family and I stayed on the east coast at our main office). \n\nDue to the move the physical relationship obviously ended but we also grew apart because the distance resulted in us losing everyday contact (we were never into texting or phone calls, we depended on in person contact). I attempted reaching out to him but received very distant responses. \n\nI understood what was going to happen when he moved but the sucky part is that I still care about him and think about him and wish there were some sort of relationship. I often find that I blame myself for not being good enough for him since I wasn't worth him wanting to stay on the east coast and I ended up not being someone he wanted to continue a long distance relationship with. \n\nAll of this made me feel like a used loser. We were friends before anything intimate happened and I feel awful for letting myself become the \"friend with benefits\" gal and now there's no relationship between us. How do I get past this and move on?", "summary": "how do I get over a friends with benefits relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_33bk4e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (27/F) ask if he (34/M) thinks our relationship should progress?", "post": "We've been on 7 dates and we slept together on the 6th date. I've never made it this far into a relationship. Normally it devolves into a FWB type thing. I know it is very early, and I am not prepared for the \"are we exclusive\" talk because I do not want it to feel like I am pressuring him into anything.  However, I do want to know if he at least thinks of our relationship in terms of something that may progress into something more than us just seeing each other once a week and texting casually as we have been doing. Do you think it is fair to ask this question, or am I being clingy?", "summary": "7 dates. Can I ask him if he thinks we will progress as a couple without sounding needy?"}
{"id": "t3_y3wyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I help my teenage boyfriend when he is depressed?", "post": "Some background: My boyfriend and I grew up together and he has liked me for pretty much his whole life. I am sixteen and he is fifteen. We were best friends before I moved away and then we realized we liked each other. We've been dating long distance for the past seven months and have been getting along great. We don't argue and we resolve things logically.  I just got back from visiting him for the first time in the whole relationship and it was great (though very difficult to say goodbye). \n\nSituation: My boyfriend is constantly depressed nd I don't know how to help him. I try to cheer him up and talking to him usually helps him, but when I am not around, he falls into deep funks. Sometimes he can even get into one in the middle of a conversation. I really care about him and I know he feels the same way. I know it's nothing I'm doing. I'm about to start a very hard year at school this year, so he anticipates that our relationship won't be the same as it used to be. I think this may be the reason he has been so depressed lately.\nWhat are some ways I can cheer him up and remind him, even though we may not be talking all the time, that I care about him?", "summary": "How do you let your depressed boyfriend know you care when you're in a long distance relationship and can't talk all the time?"}
{"id": "t3_2fov5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(f30) was giving my bf(34) a blowjob, while he was looking at porn.", "post": "Exactly what the title says, but I was under the covers and when I came up he was on his phone. I asked him what he was looking at and he said it was his flipboard app. Well, I saw the reflection of red tube porn in his glasses. I felt a little hurt that he lied and the fact that I wasn't enough to get him going with my blowjob alone. I don't know, maybe I'm overly sensitive, but I feel a bit bummed. I don't care if he looks at porn, but while I'm going down on him and he's trying to look at porn on the side? It kind of hurts my feelings. Am I being too sensitive? I don't even know what to say.", "summary": "boyfriend was looking at porn on the sly while I was going down on him. I feel like I'm not enough to get him going."}
{"id": "t3_39yfgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] and girl [17F] have had good connection for awhile but now it looks like she dates another guy", "post": "It started with us two meeting at a party a couple of weeks ago and getting to know each others. We have been talking on facebook and snapping ever since. \n\nShe asked a week after we met if we could go out partying together, but I didn't have time atm. I've asked her twice after this (short notice and one time drunk) if she was going out later. Excuses both times (thinking that she might not want to). \n\nTwo hours ago I got some snaps from her hanging out with a guy and it looked like they had something going on. \n\nI have never connected with any girl before, and this girl is the only girl I've had feelings for ever. I do make out and have sex when partying though, but I never get any feelings for anyone. I don't know if she tries to make me jealous or something, but if she does it fails and makes me feel like shit. \n\nRight now I'm thinking about giving her up, I don't feel like fighting over her with some other guy who actually gets to hang out with her.", "summary": "Met this girl, good vibes, got snaps from her and another guy two hours ago"}
{"id": "t3_3eqjh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 8 months, has been putting off communication.", "post": "We usually talk every night through text and every week or so through Skype.  Recently she has been \"falling asleep\" earlier than usual or her phone will die.  \n\nShe said this morning that we would try to Skype again tonight and I asked her when she wanted to.  She just said she didn't know, I texted back and haven't heard back since.  \n\nI have been worried like this in the past but nothing ever came of it.  Although I think this is the longest stretch we have been apart and the least amount of communication combined.  \n\nAny advice or thoughts are welcome.  Thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems to not want to talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_4kgnfk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am questioning if my best/only friend [18M] is actually my friend at all.", "post": "I have know him for ~11 years. We used to hang out all the time. Video games, metal etc. We shared a lot of interests. But then he found more friends.\n\nWe spent less and less time together. Nowadays we only see each other in school. Every now and then we skype and vidya, and it's fun.\n\nHe doesn't care about my things though. Anytime i am not just listening to him in a conversation, and try to talk about something i'd like to, he goes \"k\", and keeps going like i never said anything. I also seem to be the second choice whenever someone else is available.\n\nI don't fucking know anymore. He is the only person outside of my family that wants to spend any time with me, but i don't know if he is a friend at all.", "summary": "Friend doesn't care to talk about my interests, and only ever spends time with me when nobody else is available. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3rp15w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most hilarious tattoo you have ever seen?", "post": "I saw a women at the beach a few weeks ago where she had a tattoo that was partially visible  above her bikini bottoms when facing her. On one side of her lower abdomen she had a fork and on the other she had a knife. It took me a minute but I thought to myself... \"but wheres the plate?\".... then it hit me like a rock (if you don't know where the plate it is you are too young for this post).\n\nI thought it was hilarious until I realized that why the hell would you want a knife down there. Anyway I'm just wondering what other people have seen people tattoo on their bodies :P I'm sure there are some pretty interesting ones out there.", "summary": "Girl had a tattoo of a fork and knife on her lower abdomen and it was hilarious."}
{"id": "t3_1oj31m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] been together for a year now and it seems like she's lost interest in me.", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and things have been going smoothly up until this past week or so where i've been receiving mixed signals from her and I feel like she uses me to not feel lonely. \n\nA few days ago her and I were getting down to business and we both were in the mood (from what I could tell anyway) Anyways things were getting heated and I decided to go down on her when she tells me she's on her period; no problem, we can still make out e.t.c. So she decided to jerk me off but out of no where she just stops and says she's no longer in the mood.\n\nI am not sure why she said this and this hasn't been the first time. I honestly feel like she's just with me so she isn't alone. \n\nAny suggestions or advice on how to approach this would help tremendously as I still love her to death and want to be with her but the past weeks have made me rethink this.", "summary": "Girlfriend seems to use me as a way of not feeling alone."}
{"id": "t3_53mair", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Trouble with my little brother", "post": "I'm 16 and I'm 100% pissed off with my younger brother. Anytime he fucks up with something, I'm the one that gets the shit end of the stick every single time. For example, I was just in the bathroom and my brother hops on my computer without asking me like I keep telling him , over and over (at this point I'm just like whatever, he won't listen to me ever), then my mom comes and sees him playing overwatch talking to other players (he's too young to be doing something like that), he just gets yelled at and let off the hook, basically. Then there comes my end of the punishment, my computer is taken away. This has happened multiples times. What else? He gets some wrong answers on his homework that I wasn't the one helping with, but I'm the one that gets punished with my phone taken away since I'm the one expected to help him with his homework, regardless of my own homework (especially now, with 2 AP classes with pretty big homework loads). He's done a lot of shit like this, with similar consequences that are unjustly put on me, but the worst thing he's done was pretty recent. I'm walking with him through walmart and we're going walking to the food section to meet up with my parents, only for him to get lost, or so I thought. I am freaking out looking up and down the back of the store looking for him since that was the only place where we really went. I'm looking for him for 10 minutes, only to be called by dad asking where I am. Only  then i find out he's with them waiting in the front of walmart for me. I get to them all pissed off at him. I tell them he was walking right behind me, but because he was so quiet at that time, I didn't notice him walking away and somehow catching up with my parents. He gets yelled at for like 5 seconds, then they act like everything's fine, but I'm still extremely angry at him for doing that and scaring me like that. There's seriously not a single day that goes by where I don't think about punching him right in the face. Violent, I know...", "summary": "My brother keeps getting in trouble, only for me to be the one getting the punishments."}
{"id": "t3_2t2ss6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] got a little freaky with my friend [22 F] and don't know what to do now.", "post": "I have a friend I met in a hobby group, and I've known her for the past 5 months. We weren't super close or anything, but our hobby group became a bit tight knit near the end of the fall semester and we started hanging out more, like going for drinks and dancing. Sometimes when we danced she would get very close to me, but I was very recently broken up so I wasn't in the mood to be pursuing another relationship so quick. \n\nOn the weekend I held a small party at my place, and people got very drunk. By the end most people left, and she lived far so she crashed at my place. We were cuddling outside while people were indoors, and after they left we started to dance, which then lead to making out, and she got topless, but it didn't progress past that. We also slept in the same bed that night. Basically, I don't know what happens now since I've always been pretty quiet and awkward and never in this situation. She's attractive, but she's not my type, plus my last relationship was great but ended due to long distance and it still stings. Do I contact my friend to talk about it, or do we ignore and pretend it never happened? Haven't talked except me asking one text if she was going to this event on campus.", "summary": "Made out with a friend, both drunk, and haven't had any contact with her since, unsure of what to do."}
{"id": "t3_17vbi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After 10 years of marriage,my(37M) Wife(33F) changes mind on Children. No idea what to do next.", "post": "First off, I'd love to hear from people that have already been through this as I'm sure it isn't too uncommon.\n\nMy wife (33F) and I (37M) have been married for 10 years and together for 12.  From the night we met I expressed that I wanted children and had since the time I was about 6.  \n\nWe have been hoping to get pregnant over the last few years and trying hard with the help of Clomid the past year (although the clomid was only the last 3 months). \n\nOver the past month she has been very vocal about how much having kids will ruin her life, body, etc.  Trying to get pregnant is stressful and I, mistakenly wrote it off as frustration.\n\nAfter this last round of medication, we did not get pregnant.  Afterward she finally admitted that she did not want kids and was only doing it for me.  Our original plan was to try for our own and if that failed pursue adoption.\n\nNow, she wants adoption off the table as she has accepted the fact she does not want to be a mother at all.\n\nI'm not sure what to do.  I love my wife, but not having kids at all is devastating to me.\n\nSo, divorce came up in conversation, but here are my thoughts on that.  One, I love her and see not other reason for divorce.  How could I live with myself for leaving her just because of something I want?  Two, I'm 37...Really what are the odds of finding another woman that would want to get with me and have children sometime before I'm 45?  And three, arrrg what the hell...really??\n\nAnd, before anyone says it...Yes, I know kids can be tough.  They turn into teenagers and are a giant money sink.  They may become horrible people that end up in prison and escape to try and blow up Gotham.  But, the opposite is also a possibility... I work with kids and interact with dozens or more per day.  I know what they're like...", "summary": "Wife no longer wants anything to do with children so adoption off the table and I don't know how to deal with it"}
{"id": "t3_eqvl4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lawyers of Reddit or anyone who has experience with the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) I would like some input.", "post": "I have a quick question regarding my new apartment that I moved into about 7 months ago but I'll give a quick back story first.  The apartment in which I currently am living in is ADA accessible.  For those unfamiliar it is meant for people who are physically disabled having a larger bedroom, a larger bathroom with a support bar along with wall, lowered shelves, light switches, sinks, and cupboards with doors removed for easier access to those in wheelchairs.  It is the ground floor apartment, however it still has a half-flight of stairs in order to get to the front door from the parking lot/walkway.  There is a back door, but it is a sliding glass door leading to a concrete patio and a small concrete ramp for wheelchair access.  And here is lies the problem, the sliding glass door cannot be locked from the outside.\n\nThis is what got me thinking, is something like this legal where a person who is physically disabled is unable to secure their home?  I am not in any way disabled and is probably why I have not thought about it until recently, but it still makes me wonder if something like this is illegal.  And to my knowledge this apartment complex has several other ADA accessible apartments for rent along with another complex built the same as mine.  I have talked to a friend of mine who is a private contractor and he told me that it is illegal, however he is not much of a legal authority so I thought I would ask as help for my own research.", "summary": "Front door to apartment is the only way to secure the apartment but has a flight of stairs, back door has a ramp but no lock on the outside.  Is this legal?"}
{"id": "t3_1zxek9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [17 M] of 3 years, broke up with me until he thinks I can make him happy", "post": "My boyfriend (we'll call him T) and I have always both struggled a lot with depression, me probably more than him. Lately, it has been even worse for me and it was taking a huge toll on him and our relationship, because I would always talk about how depressed I was (I know, I know, I was awful), and I was pretty mean. \n\nSo, T has been miserable for a while because of it so he broke up with me yesterday. But, he said he would definitely want to get back together if he felt I could make him happy. He wants me to do that by acting happy and showing that I've changed I guess. Obviously it's difficult because I'm pretty pained from the break up. \n\nSo far, I've put in my two weeks for a job that made me extremely depressed and very complainy to focus on making myself happy along with the relationship. And since we're currently \"friends\" I've been doing my best to be very nice to him, but since the break up WAS only yesterday I've sort of broken down a couple of times, but I'm getting better at staying strong. \n\nI am going to see T on Monday, what should I do to show him I'm really willing to put in an effort, and that things will be different? I'm willing to do anything tbh.", "summary": "Bf dumped me because I'm too depressing but said we could get back together if I show him I can be happier and more pleasant- how do I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_v8s7d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend is in an abusive relationship, how can I help her?", "post": "My best friend is a 27 year old girl, just like me. She met a guy at work in december, he seemed ok.\n\nNow I can't even go out with her anymore without him sending 50 text messages, calling 10 times and making her feel bad. She's aware of everything, says she's really tired and all, but she always does what he wants in the end. He' jealous, grumpy, does a lot of crying when he knows it's his last resort etc... \n\nI guess if she didn't realize I could just tell her what I think, but she knows and still doesn't do anything. I know it's pretty common so I thought I'd ask if there's anything I can do or if she just has to figure it out by herself...", "summary": "how can I help a friend who is in an abusive relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3qbx5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [28 F] of 2.5 years, sex life is dying...", "post": "My wife and I may or may not have been meant to be. Perhaps we'll never know. We dated for 2 years in college and shortly after graduating, found out we had a bun in the oven. Pregnancy was rough on both of us, and she had some depression issues during and after. We got married about 6 months before our son was born. And that was when our sex life died.\n\nFast forward 2 years, I still have the same libido I had in college. If there's an opportunity to get some, I take it (only with the wife). My wife on the other hand is either too busy, too tired, or just doesn't feel like it. And when she does feel like it, its never for me, it just what is good for her, with no concession for my wants and preferences. It's sex, so I don't turn it down. \n\nI take good care of myself as she does, I'm not ugly and neither is she, and I've been faithful since we started dating. I've recently given up on the whole surprise flowers, spontaneous dates, small gifts, etc. as they very rarely produce anything other than a \"thank you\". \n\nWhat can I do to better our sex life, both in frequency and variety?", "summary": "How can a loyal, good-lookin horndog get his wife to spice it up a bit without being put in the doghouse?"}
{"id": "t3_r0mkv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need help with eating habits.", "post": "So I'm 23, married, no kids and fresh out of college. For years I've had no idea how to eat right/healthy let alone shop for the right foods without spending out the ass or wasting a ton of it. I've been surviving mostly on frozen foods and take out/dining out. I also rarely have anything to necessarily cook with since, like I said, I don't really know what to shop for when it comes to groceries. I seem to always just end up in the frozen section for my weekly/bi-weekly store visits. I want to get out of this habit and start eating healthier so I'm asking my favorite source of information: You Guys!", "summary": "Get me out of the habit of frozen food and dining out as my only meal options, please and thank you!"}
{"id": "t3_2y6mh0", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A colossal NSV", "post": "Some background information - I am a 25 year old woman. I currently weigh around 235lbs. My previous high weight was 306lbs, and this time last year I had gotten down to 184lbs. I had a surgery last spring, fell into a depression, ate literally nothing but junk food for a year, and gained half of my lost weight back. \n\n30 days ago, I got fed up with myself and decided to get my shit together. I dusted off my MFP account and my kitchen scale, started logging everything I ate, and haven't touched fast food or soda since. \n\nNow, one thing I haven't mentioned yet is that I am a dialysis patient. I got a rare autoimmune disease when I was 19 and almost died. I had to drop out of university and move back across the country to live with my parents. Lots of crazy shit has happened since then, and I will be on dialysis for the rest of my life. Part of managing this is going to doctor appointments in the local peritoneal dialysis clinic every three months. They do bloodwork, you meet with a dietician, you meet with a pharmacist, they check blood pressures and things, and you meet with a doctor. Takes about three hours. \n\nMy bloodwork has traditionally been shitty. My phosphorus, calcium, potassium levels have been all over the place. I was on 10 pills a day to manage my calcium alone. \n\nNow, on to the actual point of this post. \n\nAt my clinic appointment yesterday, I was informed that ALL of my bloodwork fell in the normal range. \n\nALL of it. \n\nI've been taken off more than 50% of my medications because I don't need them anymore. \n\nThe dietician/nutritionist (is there a difference? i don't know) was astonished. She said she was proud of me for making such a significant change through my diet alone. The doctor was impressed too, which really meant a lot to me because she's a very strict, no-nonsense type. She isn't the type to say something just to make someone feel better. \n\nAnyway,", "summary": "I went from 10 different kinds of pills + one weekly injection to manage my health, down to two kinds of pills + one weekly injection. plus my dialysis itself, of course, but that's never going to go away."}
{"id": "t3_iwyza", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm an alcoholic atheist and can't find any non-religious AA meetings in my area. What to do?", "post": "Let's provide some context.\nI've been drinking heavily for about 5 months, drinking daily since I was 15. In the past 5 months, I have been unable to go a day without getting completely drunk. I start within an hour of waking and continue throughout the day. I used to work from home but quit the job. Now I'm running out of money to drink on and I am seeking help. I figured quitting may calm my drinking but it's only made it much, much worse. I am looking for a support group in my area but can't find any that are non-religious (zip code: 32837). I do not believe in god and the programs that are near me are based in churches and provide a 'spiritual healing' approach. \n\nThis is an obvious throwaway account. I'm scared where this may lead as I'm still quite young and can see this habit taking over my future if I don't find some likeminded people to enjoy sobriety with. Very few of my friends know my drinking habits, but some are aware. The few that are aware rarely drink so they offer advice but it's impossible to take. They don't know the importance of drinking daily. Basically, I'm looking for a support group in or near 32837 or any redditors that would be willing to offer support in the area. I know this is going in a general subreddit instead of the area's subreddit, but I figure many can offer advice that have been in similar situations. Plus, my judgment is impaired and I am having a hard time giving a fuck. I'm ready to cut this shit out of my life but as long as I'm alone, I'll continue drinking.", "summary": "Looking for AA meeting or redditors in similiar situation around 32837."}
{"id": "t3_2t1bg9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waiting til the last minute to farm glimmer for iron banner", "post": "/r/destinythegame\n\nI hit crucible hard all week and decided I really wanted to reach level five in ion banner to get timirs lash... So tonight around 12:30", "summary": "I failed to cash in my level 5 iron banner"}
{"id": "t3_145rw4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey :) 22 (f) here, wants to lose 80 pounds :(", "post": "I am a twenty two years old who has tried all sort of ways to lose weight, going from starving myself , or eating 6 meals a day but nothing changed. \nI've been overweight like since ever.\n\nI tried aerobics recently but stopped quickly because i was too ashamed of my size. I am around 110kilo, 168cm and i dont have my menses regularly. I have symtoms of pcos, facial hair and the shit but none of the tests that i did turned out positive. \n\nI recently got into a LDR., (after like 4-5 years) (i dont date because i am ashamed of how i look like ) and my SO mentioned that we should both lose weight before he gets back to the country, so that we could have more fun together and i do agree with him. I feel tired and so lazy most of the time. \nI want to try anything that would make me feel comfortable and healthier. \n\nPls , post your before/after pics, anything that you give me motivation. How much do you think it's possible for me to lose in 6 months, realistically? For women mostly, what are the things that worked for you?", "summary": "obese girl wants to get back in shape, and feel beautiful for the first time of her life. pls help."}
{"id": "t3_3f9ivw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30M) would have already asked my GF (27F) of 3 years to marry me if I found her more attractive. What do I do?", "post": "I am satisfied with my girlfriend's personality and intelligence nearly all the time, and with her physical appearance almost none of the time. I don't want this to become a bigger problem for both of us as time goes on. It just makes me feel shallow and guilty all the time now.", "summary": "Not happy with girlfriend's looks. Worried about our future."}
{"id": "t3_31tp0l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by almost losing my balls and my life.", "post": "I'm fairly new to reddit and this happened over 10 years ago, I just don't know where else to post it. \n\nMy family lived in a nice cul de sac with a couple families with kids our age.  We would always play sports at the end of the cul de sac. We would play football, baseball, tag, and street hockey. Well it was a beautiful day and I had recently turned 13. We were playing roller hockey and I thought I was a bad ass on my new roller blades. Any ways my brother passes the ball to me and it's a bad pass and out of my range. I see the ball roll up against the curb and stop. I start hauling ass over there to beat my friend to it. I have the butt of my hockey stick pressed against the joint of my leg. As I reach the ball my stick hits a small rock and bounces over the ball and into the curb..... I slam full force into the stick. It lifts me up into the air and tosses me back on my ass. I was in a ton of pain right in the joint of my leg. I get up screaming in pain and head to my house. As I get in the house I'm thinking I'm going to have a huge frickin bruise. I open my pants to see the damage. That's when I see my whitey tighty's are starting to turn crimson. I open my undies and see that the joint of my leg where leg meets groin is open. I can see the gash is huge and I can see muscle and the yellow of fat. My mom rushes me to the emergency room. Two female nurses take me back and ask me to take my pants and undies off and lay on the table. They leave and a couple seconds later as I'm laying butt naked in all my hairless 13 year old glory, in come 3 female nurses and two female doctors. They stitched me up 72 stitches in all. They joked around and tried to keep me calm and one of them completely inappropriately told me if I ever became a stripper I would have a story to tell. I was told I miss my femural artery by about an inch or so and my junk by about 2.", "summary": "sliced my leg open deeply on a hockey stick had a full female crew see my balls"}
{"id": "t3_2ejuam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26m) GF (22F) family is slut shaming her or something", "post": "So my gf is a super awesome person but the problem is everyone is polar with her. People either fall in love with her or just treat her like shit. Her family treats her like shit. Her dad is an asshole who is always yelling and saying rude ass shit. Her mom is semi decent but lately my gf has been spending more time with me and her step dad made some dumbass comment like \"I don't approve\". I thought that was really weird because his opinion doesn't matter at all and she's 22.\n\nLast night my gf had to stop by and grab some stuff from her house before she came over to my house and her mom was making a huge deal out of it and said some dumbshit like \"this isn't a flophouse\" and started to insinuate she was a slut. Now my girl is super hot and awesome but I'm only her 3rd dude. They are giving her a lot of shit for spending time with me even though she does a lot of stuff around her house and even drives her little brother to school. Her mom even made a weird ass comment about how she doesn't know me even though I've made a big effort to get to know her family and they've kind of blown it off. I'm an awesome, in shape dude, with a good career in the works so they have no right to rip on me. What should I do? Or should I say what should I have her do? I feel like she needs to talk to them face to face and be blunt about why they are talking to her like this.", "summary": "How do I help my gf with her family treating her like shit for no reason?"}
{"id": "t3_2w1pf0", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "A girl (21F) and I (22M) have been online friends for 5 years. We've had feelings for each other in the past, and it's happening again. She has been distant recently, but maybe not for reasons I'm thinking?", "post": "I'm hoping the women (or possibly men) of Reddit can help me with my situation. \n\nSo I met a girl on facebook roughly 5 years ago. We'll call her D. We lived about a 20-30 minute drive from each other at the time. I moved 600 miles away about 2 months later. We still talked often, and became really good friends relatively quickly. However, we have never met in person, even to this day.\n\nAbout a year and a half later (mid 2011), we started to develop feelings for each other, even admitting that we loved each other. We brought up the idea of meeting in person, and chickened out. Eventually our feelings for each other fizzled out, but we are still good friends.\n\nFast forward to this past December. I was going through a tough situation involving an ex that I had broken up with the August prior. D had just finished school for the semester, so we were able to talk very often. We went from talking about the issues I was having to just about everything else. \n\nTime goes on, and I've fallen for D. I admit my feelings for her again, and she says she likes me back as well. As we get into the middle of January, she starts school and work again. I bring up the possibility of us meeting while I'm visiting with family where I used to live. Suddenly we talking a lot less, which I get. She has responsibilities that must be taken care of, and I shouldn't get in the way. \n\nBut I can't help but feel, well, ignored. I know it sounds weird, like I'm desperate, but there's no other way I can really describe it. Does it seem like she's not interested, or am I just really over-thinking this?", "summary": "I (22M) have been online friends with girl (21F) for 5 years, never met in person. We've had feelings for each other in the past. Recently reconnected, I start having feelings for her again and she says she feels the same. School started again for her, I bring up meeting again, and now we're barely talking. Is she not interested, or am I over-thinking?"}
{"id": "t3_53enq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(27F) make peace with having a toxic, fucked up family? (Brother, 29M / his gf, 33, parents)", "post": "I know this sounds a lot like \"whoa, if everyone else is the problem, maybe its you\" situation, but I can assure its not quite like that. \n\nWorse than that, is I actually live 2500 miles away from everyone (partially because of this reason) yet I still find myself full of anger, resentment and just am overall enraged at everything that has happened over the years, and even now. \n\nI can cite some examples, but it doesn't really matter. He makes a ton of excuses for all of his bullshit behavior, can't seem to support himself so him and his gf moved back in with my parents \"just for a year\" (which has passed this month). If you expect him to be an adult (Oh, Idk, like go get fucking fitted for a tux for my wedding in 3 weeks, even though you've known about this for 10 months) then we \"Don't understand what he's going through / his busy work schedule\" (which, actually, yes I do... bc I used to work for the same company a few years ago and I know exactly what goes on there, but thats beside the point). \n\nReddit, I borderline hate him. In fact, I think I do. He's literally a piece of shit, and I dont say that to be demeaning... I say it because he only takes from everyone, drinks too much, smokes too much weed, and just sucks the life out of everyone he comes in contact with. He takes advantage of people, has a huge entitlement problem and yeah. He's a piece of shit. \n\nBut why does it effect me so much??? Why am I blood boiling angry when these little nuances occur? And furthermore, maybe the real question here, how do I progress on with my new husband (well, new in 3 weeks) in our life, so that we are not full of anger, resentment and just....bitterness for the pain he has caused all of us in our family? \n\nI need an emotional intervention :-/", "summary": "Brother is a piece of shit. Not sure how to detach and not be unaffected by it anymore."}
{"id": "t3_36fx5a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By working on something productive at school.", "post": "I am working on an outside-of-school group coding project with a group of people I've gotten to know over the years. We have taken the shitty, broken ass code from an old, dead Minecraft server known as Savage Realms (famous circa 2013) and are re-writing it.\n\nI was falling behind on the project after being sick for the previous week so what better time than to catch myself up than at school? A new project had been completed and pushed; I took interest in it since it was the chat plugin. It's looking quite impressive compared to the old one-class system and I find myself amazed by the quality of work we've put together.\n\nAs the teacher is walking around (it's the end of the year, they don't care anymore either) I open up the class called \"PrefixManager\". Little did I know what was inside.\n\nIn order to keep the server somewhat professional, apparently a list of words were to be banned from prefixes. Instead of being kept on a separate database, there they were - hardcoded into it.\n\nMr. TeacherMan was not impressed, on the bright side I get to spend a week continuing my work in private during lunch.\n\nImage:", "summary": "Don't try to get work done (or don't hardcode crucial information)"}
{"id": "t3_1g857z", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (22 F) have no idea how to read this guy (23 M) who I started talking to recently. Help!", "post": "Long-time lurker here.\n\nOkay, so I'm 22 (F) and just started talking to this guy who is 23. While I'm not particularly interested in him, I'm rather confused about his behaviors. Most days, he texts me so much that I turn off my phone from irritation and other days he sends me one or two texts. We've been talking for about three weeks and I have no idea how to react to him.\n\n The day after I met him, he told me about his hometown and suggested I go visit it to see some local parade and basically told me his life story, insecurities and dreams for his future. I told him next to nothing about myself, but I didn't lead on that he was creeping me out a little. \n\nLately, I haven't been really responding because I've been busy, so he's stopped texting me as much (thank god). Well, today, out of nowhere, he tells me this elaborate (a little unbelievable) story about how he met some awesome girl and got her number. \n\n Does this mean he's lost interest and I can tell him that I'm not interested too without seeming cruel or is he trying to make me jealous? I've never had someone do this to me before.\n\nFYI, I'm not sure if he knows I'm wary of him.", "summary": "This guy is confusing as hell and I want to know he is (hopefully) interested in some other girl or if I have to be the villain and tell him that I don't feel the same way."}
{"id": "t3_1arbha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My youngest sister is being horribly bullied. She's only 12. I never believed her until I found proof. I don't know how to help her. Can anyone give me advice before it's too late?", "post": "A little background: My dad met her mom when he was vacationing in the Philippines about 7 years ago. He eventually married her and they moved to the States. I have four siblings and a new step sister was not very welcomed because we didnt know her. Admittedly, it took a while before my siblings and I got used to her. \n\nA year or so ago she started showing incredible signs of depression and even tried to kill herself. She was 12. I thought she was being over dramatic and teenage / middle school angst. \n\nAfter trying multiple things, the family decided that she would go back to the Philippines to be with her old friends and family. We never knew why she was so depressed. \n\nAnd then I found this: \n\nShe's been out of the country for almost a year and kids from the States are still bullying her online. I can only image what they were doing at school. I'm 13 years older than her her, and we've never really connected, but she's still my sister and I want to help her. I know of projects like It Gets Better but I dont know how to route that so she doesn't feel like it's a stock.\n\nI'm not sure what type of advice I am expecting but I just need help.", "summary": "my 12 year old sister is being horribly bullied in school and online. I need help."}
{"id": "t3_3c0m6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my unofficial gf [20 F] 3 months, transferring to another college 1 hour away, we both have a heavy work load. Really want this, but she's thinking logically for the both of us? idk what to do?", "post": "She's super smart and transferring to one of the best schools in the world.\n\nI'm not stupid but she's on another level. This girl is everything I could ever want. Dated a lot but never had a real relationship.\nShe wants me to focus on transferring, which I am. I'll have to take two of the highest Math Classes, entire physics, and advanced programming in c++ & java.\n\nSeeing her won't be much of an issue. Probably we get to see her 3 weekends a month at the most. Maybe one weekend at the least.\nI don't know how to tell her what she means. She said she'll decide towards the end of august. I want an answer now, so I can get over her sooner.", "summary": "Unofficial Gf, only girl I've ever truly liked. She's thinking logically for the both of us. Both of us have lots of school work. idk how to convince her to?"}
{"id": "t3_28c6m1", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Buying a house vs Renting indefinitely?(In Canada)", "post": "So I was crunching some numbers as part of a highschool mathclass a few years ago and it seems renting an apartment is cheaper in the long run for my situation. I'd like some advice from people who actually own homes if it's not too much trouble. A little backround: I was thinking a bachelor pad WITH utility included in my area is something like 800-1000 dollars a month(for a nice one). On top of that, I figure I also wouldn't have to do much upkeep on the building which would also save me a lot. For example, yardwork, roofing, plumbing, flooring, lighting/wiring. Not to mention ridiculous mortage rates and an inflated housing market, house insurance and property taxes. So theoretically, the money i save could just be invested on a yearly basis. I'd like to consider myself relatively intelligent so I think I could manage a decent return on my money. The reason I'm asking for advice is that I'm worried about not having that house as collateral maybe? Also, before anyone makes the point of having room for kids an a family, I have no intention of ever getting married let alone having kids. I'm just weird like that, I love being alone.", "summary": "Why wouldn't it be a good idea to permanently rent instead of buying a house."}
{"id": "t3_3w67qa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my friend [17 F] of 1 tear are thinking of becoming friends with benefits. But I am having some doubts.", "post": "My friend (female), who is a 17 year old and not a virgin, and I, a 17 year old male who is a virgin decided to be friends with benefits. But my female friend is not good looking and doesn't have a very good body. But I wasn't too sure of what to do. I indirectly then asked my friends by creating scenarios with some different girls of 'would you rather' to get their opinions, and they said they would, but when i asked them about the girl I was going to be friends with benefits with they hesitated and/or said no.  It is worth noting that I think I can do better. But I don't see any options becoming available anytime soon. However, if I be friends with benefits with the girl, no one will find out. I am currently in high school and will be graduating in May of 2016. I also REALLY dont want to go to college as a virgin so I will be ready (both physically and mentally) to anything (sexually) thrown at me.", "summary": "Should I (a 17 year old virgin) be friends with benefits with someone that isn't very good looking and doesn't have good body and I know I can do better?"}
{"id": "t3_arce4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I mange this Job", "post": "I Work at this small Polish restaurant, when I was first employed i was a dish washer, then I got promoted to bus boy and then almost waiter but then that failed. Our dishwasher recently quit to go to college and I am not stuck with doing the dishes 3~4 times a week. This is not your normal dishes. I have to do dishes, easy,Prep food, and that's all I did when I first started to work there but now I clean the grease hood, wipe down every surface and do all the busboy jobs as well every night. I'm only 15 and it I end up leaving work around 1:00 a.m. in the morning every school night. How can I help myself get through all the work?", "summary": "Job sucks and I work for very long hours for a high schooler, need method to make job easier, or less of a pain."}
{"id": "t3_4ptvw2", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How do you deal with rude co-workers?", "post": "Hello, I have just started a waiting job and a few of my co-workers have been really rude to me due to not knowing what I'm doing. I would like to iterate that this is my third day working there and everyone knows it. I don't think it's my fault that I don't know. I've been asking questions and trying my best but some stuff I won't get right away. I feel like that's normal and I don't know how to respond to their hostility. Is it worth getting into a colorful exchange of words or should I just deal with the abuse?", "summary": "don't work as waitstaff"}
{"id": "t3_1gr5e4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Having trust issues with [22/f] gf", "post": "Bit of background... \n\nI have been with my gf coming on for a year and a half and we get on very well, have a lot of the same taste's and everything seems to be going very well.In fact it is by far the best of the four relationships I have had. \n\nBut obviously I would not be posting here if that was everything. When she drinks she can act rather flirty towards other men, in front of me. This doesn't bother me so much as I appreciate that she is just having fun and I am confident enough in our relationship to not feel threatened by a bit of friendliness at a bar. \n\nHowever this changes at music festivals, which she goes to a lot of, starting last year at a Download (a UK metal festival). Here she woke up drunk and went straight outside our tent to some creepy looking bloke and asked if he would give her a drink if she flashed him, he obviously agreed and proceeded to motorboat her as i sat in my tent dumbfounded. Taking this as a drunk one off I swallowed my dignity and continued with life. \n\nNow go forward to the same festival this year, and she's drunk again. I come back to our camp site, after being separate that day to see different bands, and she's telling everyone that she flashed one of the singers and that another guy had grabbed her as she did. Her drunken antics that followed was basically getting grabby with everyone and once getting her tits out in my mates face when someone jokingly said to do it. \n\nI trust her completely when she is sober and when she is out drinking with me its nothing to worry about to much. However when at festivals with her mates she does not know when to stop drinking and it concerns me as I don't see her when she's out with her friends which is when she gets out of control.", "summary": "I know my gf would not cheat on me sober but she can't handle her drink and gets ridiculously wild when she does. "}
{"id": "t3_41bdpo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(28/F) with my Bf(26/M) of seven years. Had an idea for his birthday and it turned into a party the excludes me.", "post": "My boyfriend LARPs. Which is Live Action Roleplay. For his party I had the idea to ask the girl who runs it if she could make a personal quest for him and at the end would be a chest with new Larp gear I plan on buying for him.\n\nWell the idea turned into a small larp event in her backyard for his birthday party. The problem is I don't larp. So I would have to most likely sit the party out. I really wanted to go since I haven't been to one of his parties in a few years. Last year I was recovering from back surgery and the other years I had work.\n\nShould I just ait this one out now and not go or is there a way to cancel the idea without coming acrossed as a jerk?", "summary": "Boyfriend larps. His birthday became a larp based party. I don't larp but want to be there on his birthday."}
{"id": "t3_22pt9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31M] with my wife [20F] 5 years. How do you love someone if you cannot stand some fundamental things about them?", "post": "EDIT: Typo:  Me:31, Wife 30\n\nShe is an introvert, does not open up, eg. If I ask how her day was, the answer is just a few words, or a few lines at the most. \n\nDoes not express any \"loud\" emotions, not anger, not horniness, not frustration. Bottles up everything and only expresses a Vulcan like behavior. Claims thats what she feels, but clear evidence to the contrary. (our therapist agrees)\n\nWhile she claims that she wants to change, isn't really trying. \n\nIn general is someone with low initiative. \n\nAlso, should I not love her the way she is, instead of asking her to change into something I want? How do I do this? \n\nWe're considering a trial separation, talking to a therapist etc. \n\nI do not want to give up before trying everything I can. \n\nIn all our therapy sessions, her only complaint about me was that I don't think highly of her. This is true, I find it difficult to think highly of people who suppress their emotions with their partners. how do I change? \n\nT", "summary": "Do I change my expectations about her, my behavior, or can I expect her to change?"}
{"id": "t3_2zzg5x", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm [M24] dating [F25] for a few weeks. I think I'm the rebound.", "post": "I met this girl at a mutual friend's party around a month back, hooked up and have been dating her for a few weeks now. She's probably the most down to earth, kind, shy and very soft-spoken girl I ever dated.\n\nEvery date that we've been on, I've initiated and made the decision on what to do next. She reciprocates nicely and agrees to always do something that I wanted to do. I've been dating for a while and this is definitely a different experience for me. We hit it off very well and I never feel like I have to play any \"games\" with her. There was no chase and I never had that \"should I text her?\" thought like I usually do with the other girls I've dated. This one feels natural.\n\nNow, I know I should be going with the flow with this. Nothing seems wrong, but I'm that over thinking type. I can't help but think that something like this is too good to be true. On our last date she told me something that I wish I didn't hear. She told me that she got out of a 5 year relationship and got a rebound that ended a few months ago.\n\nProblem now is definitely with myself. I'm thinking I'm the next rebound here. She's out of a long term relationship and probably just wants to date around. Did she tell me this as a hint of what she wanted out of this? If so, I'm probably going to keep my distance because I'm looking for something more out of this.", "summary": "Dating a girl that I met a month ago. Having a great time with her on dates, but she got out of a 5 year relationship (not sure how long ago). I think I'm the rebound. Should I cut ties prematurely and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_exxy3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me find a long skinny microphone like the one used in the dating game for <$200 or so.", "post": "I am hosting a student event for an interactive marketing association. We are setting up a few lucky students with internships in a dating game style (a company rep will be on stage and three intern candidates on the other side of a screen being asked funny questions). We are making a big set with flashing lights, a cheesy host--the whole nine yards. One major thing that is missing is a long-skinny microphone.\nLike this one \n\nI can't find one anywhere and I was hoping you guys could help. The best I could find was a long, flexible podium mic.", "summary": "I need help finding a bob barker/dating game style microphone to purchase"}
{"id": "t3_29xvgx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [30 F] are constantly arguing, is it time to call it quits?", "post": "My gf and I have been in a relationship for 2 years now (in love, thinking about a future together). The past 4 months we've been continuously arguing. Here's an example of her arguments:\n\n1. Started a fight because I interrupted her while talking (I don't often interrupt her)\n2. Told her I won't be able to make it an event at her work because of my work (she gets very upset and tells me that makes her not want to share her life with me)\n3. One time shell called me in the morning chatting, she said she just finished breakfast, so I joked by saying \"I'm proud of you! :)\"...She took it as an offense and sarcastic comments, even though I said I was joking\n4. If I don't text her during my 8am-5pm work hours, she gets upset saying that I wasn't thinking about here\n5. The other day she lied to me that she lost her phone, then the other day said that she was joking (to get my \"caring\" attention), so I got upset at her lying...then she gets upset at me for \"making a big deal out of it\"...\n....and many more...This is just a fraction of all the stuff that happens, all of the same calibre. It happens at least once every 72 hours. \n\nNot to mention:\n* she went through my phone 3 times before as well as my e-mail. \n\n* She created a fake OkCupid account to see if I'm still on that site (I'm not, since we met on it). \n\n* She occasionally looks at my exes facebook pages (one time I was using her laptop to check my facebook, and as I was typing facebook.com the Chrome auto-complete showed facebook URLs of my exes that she's not even friends with)", "summary": "When you girlfriend is constantly busting your balls for the tiniest problems, is it worth staying in the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1gzwig", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I need help writing an appeal for Financial Aid.", "post": "Or advice on a better subreddit to submit this to.\n\nI want to go back to school this fall to study for a Graphic Design Certificate, but in order to get any financial aid, I have to write a letter of appeal to the committee for the following reason. When I was 17-19 I attended this community college off and on, and got student loans to do so. My last semester I stopped going to quite a few classes past the point of withdrawal, and therefore flunked. So my GPA and credits attempted/gained took a huge dive.\n\nI was told to write a letter of appeal, but not to use the excuse of \"young and stupid\" as the committee hates that. That's essentially what happened, although I also had to work increased hours to afford my rent and bills, and missed multiple classes. At a certain point, I had just given up. \n\nNow I'm 26 and have a solid idea of what I want to do with my life, and I'm not sure how to convey that in a letter. Can anyone help me?", "summary": "Messed up college a few years ago, want to go back now, but need to appeal for Financial Aid."}
{"id": "t3_53vf2m", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Officiant question?", "post": "I figure this is the best place to ask a question that in my mind sounds a little silly.\n\nHow would you go about getting a religious officiant if you do not go to a church regularly?  My fiance and I are not super religious and do not attend church regularly, but I have always had it in my mind that I want to be married 'before god' by an ordained minister/priest/etc.  The church we go to during Christmas/Easter/special events has rotating priests and my fiance's family is not close with any of them.  We also do not want someone to just show up and marry us, we want to do the pre-wedding counseling with them as well.\n\nAlso, I grew up Episcopal, my parents switched to Anglican a few years ago and my Fiance's family is Catholic and the aforementioned special occasions church is a catholic church.  I am not planning on converting to Catholicism.", "summary": "How do I ask an ordained priest/minister to officiate our ceremony?"}
{"id": "t3_12v6yz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was brought to tears of anger because my boss wanted me to take photos at our Holiday Party. Reddit, what seemingly small things makes you instantly irrational?", "post": "I've been in love with photography since I was 12, went to school for it, and was a professional for a number of years before I decided to quit to better my quality of life (stopped taking photos for myself + only took photos for money = was miserable). I've been working as a creative director, specializing in video, for a corporation the past 8 months. \n\nOur company invites several hundred employees from across the country to our corporate headquarters for a yearly meeting and holiday party, at which time every employee get's a new bio photo. There's also a massive amount of photos taken at the party, and they usually hire a photographer for this. \n\nI had heard that a photographer hadn't been hired yet and asked my boss if the higher ups were expecting me to do the photos. I also mentioned that I really did not want to be responsible for this. \n\nToday I received an email chain where my boss basically suggested that I take the photos and that I could enjoy the party AND take hundreds of portraits and event photos. I was instantly furious and had to leave for an hour. \n\nI know my boss isn't aware of the amount of work something like this involves and probably thought it would just be easier to use me instead of hiring a photographer. Normally I'm a very balanced and understanding person, but anything involving a misunderstanding of photography sends me into a blind rage and all I can do is leave and cool down for a while.", "summary": "Boss requested I, an ex-photographer, spend our holiday party taking hundred of professional portraits and as well as the party's photos"}
{"id": "t3_2vb8zn", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need some advice", "post": "Hey all, I am just looking for some advice on a situation I am in.\n\nI just moved back to my hometown after being away at University for several years. When I got back my sister approached me about adopting her dog. She just started a nursing position and is having a difficult time giving the dog the attention it needs. I really want to take the dog, he is a great dog with very few behavioral issues. \n\nThe problem is, I already have a dog. It's a dog I have had since my freshman year of highschool. She is known to be rather territorial and jealous of attention directed at other dogs. Most of the time this amounts to nothing more than baring of her teeth before she is scolded and removed from the situation. It doesn't seem to be related to food, toys, or bedding, but rather more towards attention and proximity to her hoomans. Other than these issues she is an amazing dog. Very smart and well trained, as well as the most obedient dog I've ever had. \n\nI am not too worried about the dogs interacting while we are around, because I think we can stifle it before it escalates too far. My main concern is leaving them alone together at my house while my SO and I are at work. Also, worried about the long-term. Would they ever get past the tension, or would this be something we had to worry about as long as we have both dogs?\n\n**My dog is a female border collie, 8 years old.**\n\n**Sister's dog is a male pit/lab mix (we think), ~4 years old.**\n\nWhat can we do to help the dogs become comfortable with each other, and to help insure there won't be any fighting? Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Need advice on introducing a new dog into a home with a jealous dog. Worried about keeping the peace."}
{"id": "t3_39wc5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my crush/ex [28F] 3 months on-off, she broke it off because of being scared?", "post": "So..A while a go me and the girl i was dating broke up, went NC, because she wasn't over ex and all that stuff.\nWe kept NC for six weeks till she contacted me again.\n\nA week ago she contacted me to hang out, and we did. Initially it was just friendly but we ended up sleeping together again, and the day after she confesses to me she's into me and she's falling for me all over again.\n\nWith that said, she mentions she's not sure if she's ready for a relationship so we decide to take things easy.\n\nFast forward a week, and she wants to call things off again because \"things are moving too fast and it feels like things are getting to close, and \"we don't really fit together\" while she repeatedly has been telling me how much she is into me. \n\nI feel like she's shitting bricks again and is getting out before things get to a point where they get serious for her ( she mentioned she can't help but think of a future with me, and that scares her)\n\nPeople of reddit, i don't believe she's cutting me out because she \"thinks we don't really fit together\" but because she's scared of things becoming too real, which is basically what she said.\n\nHow do i deal with this and how do i show her that there is nothing to be scared of?", "summary": "girl i dated twice now is scared of commitment and feels like things are getting too serious, doesn't want to take a step back but instead just want to stop things all together."}
{"id": "t3_2dwp0u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best Friend is Friends with Boyfriend's Ex", "post": "I am a 30F dating a 31M for almost 6 months (which, let's face it, at our age is a long time). One of my closest friends is a 28F who happened to go to law school with my current boyfriend's ex (and they even lived together as roommates). \nThis was unknown information when he and I started dating.\n\nI find myself caught between a rock and a hard place as my close friend has joked (more than once) about updating her old roommate about my current relationship. And telling me about the old roommate's current life.\nI do not want to know what his ex is up to these days, but I also do not want to block my friend from being able to talk about her friends.\n\nI also do not want my friend to discuss her ex-roommate in front of my boyfriend as it brings up a part of his life that has passed.\n\nHow should I handle this weird twisted knot of knowing each other without being rude?", "summary": "It may come off that I seem jealous, and please note that I am not. I am very secure with my relationship and the ex-roommate/ex-girlfriend has moved overseas. But leaving the past in the past has seemed to be a bit difficult with this situation."}
{"id": "t3_3dp7d3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm lonely but afraid to contact my friends.", "post": "This spring, I finished my first semester of college. I technically have friends on campus, and some of them are new friends I met after starting college. When I see these friends around campus, we'll chat for like 3 minutes at the most. I never actually hang out with anyone, except my roommate (since we live together). She and I hung out around town a lot during the fall semester, but during the spring semester she found new friends to hang out with and then I had no one to hang out with. I try to talk to people, but they never invite me to do anything with them. But, during the school year it's not so bad because I at least have schoolwork to distract me. \n\nNow that it's summer, I'm even lonelier. I rarely leave my house because it's too hot for me to walk outside, I can't drive, and my friends in my hometown seem to want nothing to do with me. I would try inviting my friends to do something, but I have no idea what teens/young adults do for fun that's free/cheap and improved by my presence. \n\nI went 26 days without anyone but my family contacting me. Then finally, one of my friends took me out to eat a couple days ago for my birthday. I was happy at first, but after I got home I felt worse for some reason. Maybe it was because my friend made casual comments about all the things she's been doing with her other friends this summer. \n\nHanging out with anyone again this summer (or maybe even during the school year) seems like a pipe dream, so I wish there was something I could do to feel better. At the beginning of the summer I tried jogging, and that made me feel happier and less jittery, but I had surgery in June and I had to quit jogging for a while. Now after I jog I feel sluggish and sad.", "summary": "I'm mopey because no one wants to hang out with me."}
{"id": "t3_3fb8b3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when my friend's g/f saw a downloaded picture of herself on my phone.", "post": "Disclaimer: this happened last night, not today technically (LNIFU)\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe backstory is my good friend has a new girlfriend that he wanted me and my fianc\u00e9e to meet. He's only been dating her for a little over a week and they haven't made it \"Facebook official\" yet. Being the creeper that I am, I went through his friend's list on FB since I knew her first name. I checked out her profile to see what she looked like, what kind of hobbies she had, etc. to get a feel for her and to know what to expect. Like I said, I'm kind of a creeper on FB. Anyways, I downloaded her current profile picture on my phone (did not have access to a computer at the time) and sent it to my fianc\u00e9e through a text to say \"hey, she kind of looks like Gwen Stacy (from Spider-Man)!\" which we thought was cool.\n\n\u00a0\n \nFast forward to a couple of days later (last night) and it's me, my fianc\u00e9e, my friend, and his girlfriend all hanging out at a bar. The conversation is flowing well, especially after we all have a few drinks in us. At one point we all decide to take a selfie group pic and we use my phone to do it. Everyone wants to see the pic so I open up the picture gallery on my phone (had already went back to my phone's home screen out of habit by this point). The gallery is typical Android style with picture thumbnails for each album: camera, downloads, screenshot, etc.\n\n\u00a0\n \nHere is where IFU. Apparently my friend's girlfriend's FB profile picture is the thumbnail for my \"downloads\" album since it was the last thing I downloaded and I had completely forgot. And she noticed. She said \"is that me...?\" and our table went completely silent. Without thinking I said, \"oh, yeah, I don't know how that got there.\" My friend glared at me and of course things quickly became REALLY awkward. We pretty much ended the night after that. My friend called me after he had dropped her off and I explained the whole situation to him. He was not happy.", "summary": "downloaded picture of my friend's girlfriend on my phone and she saw it."}
{"id": "t3_3t1zyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Friend [26 M] caught feelings, and now need to stay friends", "post": "I made friends with a guy. I have always been straight, he was gay. We have become very close, and probably unfortunately, had messed around. Now he has found someone and we are in an awkward spot.\nIt took him a week to be able to tell me. I feel like I was just broken up with, but I don't want to lose the friend. It was always my joke that he couldn't fall in love with me. We never talked about it, but we both started to get there.\n\nI just don't know how to proceed. I still can't say I'm attracted to other men. It was just him, and who he was. Now I'm struggling to find that balance of how to still be his friend and be supportive of him trying to be with someone that makes him happy.", "summary": "How do I keep going?"}
{"id": "t3_dt80h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, I just watched Red (the new-ish generic action flick with Bruce Willis) and I thought I recognized some sets...", "post": "So, I checked IMDB's trivia section, but, while I know that's a pretty lame finish line, I really don't know where else to look. Can anyone tell me either where to look, or if the following are just coincidences?\n\nThe ones that stood out were: \n \n1)  The swampland cabin where John Malkovic's character 'lived' (house was a decoy) looked a LOT like what I remember from 'Anaconda' (an awful movie I haven't seen in years but... it rung a bell) This one might quite well be simply a product of a standard design for a house/dock in the middle of the swamp, but I'm not familiar...\n \n2) The house where Hellen Mirren's character lived looked a whole lot to me like the safe house from A Clear and Present Danger (I think... some flick... I remember that there was an IRA/Sinn Fein deal, haven't seen the movie in yonks, but the place looks familiar...)", "summary": "Some sets from the movie Red looked rather familiar; the questions are a) how SHOULD I be checking this, b) are they reused, and I guess c) Is this a standard thing? It would make sense that studios own certain properties, and film on them regularly, I'm just not used to recognizing them. Then again, I may just be inebriated."}
{"id": "t3_3lvq2q", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How can I eat healthily in college?", "post": "So long story short, I was mildly overweight before I began college, and although I don't have a scale to weigh myself on, I know that I have gained even more weight since I've been here (jeans are too tight, I went up a tshirt size, etc.) I want/need to lose roughly 15-30 pounds.\n\nI've been trying to eat healthy and exercise regularly, but it's so difficult in college. I have to eat lunch and dinner every day in our cafeteria, which is buffet style. They have lots of options like burgers, ice cream, and Chickfila, but very limited healthy foods (plus it's not helpful that I really, really hate salad). \n\nI have a minifridge and can go to the store to buy food, but of course I don't have much money. I buy fruits and veggies to snack on, but I can't afford to be buying lots of meals for myself to eat. Plus, I'm limited in my options since I can only cook things in a microwave.", "summary": "There are limited healthy options in my school's cafeteria, and I can't afford/can't cook many healthy options at \"home\" in my dorm. How can I eat healthy?"}
{"id": "t3_1kukjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24f) just broke up with him (24m) and I'm hurting.", "post": "We have been dating long distance for over 2 years. For the past 6 months, he's been suffering from severe depression that completely changed his entire personality. He became emotionally abusive. Wouldn't talk to me sometimes, made everything about him. He couldn't think of anyone but himself and felt numb most of the time.\n\nI was crushed. I kept trying but it wasn't healthy anymore. So I broke things off. He understood and agreed it was the best thing. But I literally feel sick. I know he's going to get better. Meet someone in school or something and completely forget about me. And she's going to get the person I fell in love with. Not the emotionally void person that he turned into. I just want to cry. I feel like running back. I regret it. But I know I can't go back.\n\nPlease some support.", "summary": "broke things off due to bfs depression and sad thinking I'm missing out"}
{"id": "t3_2l50d3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Boyfriend [25 M] Together for 9 months, are having sexuality issues.", "post": "Hey all. My boyfriend and I have been together for about nine months. We are both gay males, he is 25, I'm 22. He comes from the south, Georgia to be exact and has been raised very religious from birth. He has been struggling with his acceptance of being gay and giving himself to God the right way his whole life by going to therapy and etc.\n\nAbout 10 months ago he wasn't going to pursue the gay lifestyle anymore, but met me and saw himself finally being happy and being able to pursue a future with a man. About a month and a half ago, recent events took place and has accepted it as a sign from God that he shouldn't be pursuing the lifestyle that he has been pursuing. \n\nWe have been struggling ever since. I am very much religious as well, but I have been raised to love one another and that God puts us all on a path that he desired to put us on. Nothing I do or say will help him in his thoughts and he is just confused on what is right and wrong, as the Bible has taught him that he is an abomination. Does anyone have any similar stories or advice to shed some light on this issue?", "summary": "Any advice for a guy struggling with his sexuality and faith with Christ?"}
{"id": "t3_2y9e5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22f] and I [24m] have had a rocky sex life and I feel like it's all my fault and need help.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now, and outside of the bedroom, we're a perfect match for each other, and we love each other very much. However in the bedroom,  things don't feel like such. (I also like to point out that this is my first relstionship). Minus a FEW good (and even great) moments in the past in regards to sex, there's been a lot of \"okay\"  to disappointing feelings that made sex a total guilt trip and frustrating experience. \n\nI feel as this is all my fault because I have a tendency to think/fall into this selfish bastard mindset that goes straight for the immediate sex and release, and then feel like a dick and horrible for doing so...which in turn, does get her to climax. Sex ends quickly too with my lack of self control in regards to cumming first. It's gotten to the point were she not only expects it to be a disappointment, but that she has felt less if not completely not sexy anymore in bed, and feels used. I keep on beating myself up for it and it's been a repeat issue for most of the relationship and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "This being my first relationship, I feel like my lack of experience and my selfishness in bed is ruining my girlfriend and I's sex life and possibly our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_qm8qy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. Last year I licensed an old backyard wrestling video to TruTv. After that, MTV took the clip from YouTube and has been airing it ever since. Why would one company need my permission, while the other one doesn't bother?", "post": "In high school, I was a backyard wrestler.  I posted a blooper video to Youtube.  TruTV contacted me to use it in a segment.  I signed a release, licensing the footage for the show. Then a few months ago, I wake up text messages from people who saw me on MTV's Ridiculousness. I was as surpised as they were.  It's on quite a lot.  I'm  just wondering - why would one network ask me for permission, while the other does not?  What's the legally of using footage from youtube on network TV etc? I'd assume it was under Fair Use.", "summary": "TruTV paid me to use my youtube video.  Then MTV used it without my consent. How can they do that? Why would TruTV ask me and MTV not? "}
{"id": "t3_195w7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 F] confused about how I feel towards my [18 M] boyfriend", "post": "We've been dating for about a year now, and I'm just really confused on how I feel lately. This is my first boyfriend. When I'm with him, he treats me like a princess, does sweet things for me and acts like he loves me endlessly. But, sometimes when we're texting, he'll say stupid things that would make any person want to pick a fight. He won't apologize after, and expects me to apologize since \"i'm the one who's overreacting\".\n\nI'm working right now, and he has no money to do anything. We're usually at each others houses for dates or when we go out on a date, I always pay for him. He's failing school, and whatever money he receives from his parents is automatically put towards weed. We've been having stupid fights all the time lately, and i'm the one always apologizing. I feel like I can't leave him or I'll be missing out on something that I can't get back. \n\nI just started birth control recently and he sent me a text saying \"don't go batshit crazy girlfriend on me and purposely try to get yourself pregnant.\" Naturally, I was offended, and upset because I hadn't said anything or done anything mean. I told him off by saying \"I wouldn't want any guy to impregnate me at this age, especially if he's failing college, spending all his money on weed and is too lazy to go out and find himself a job.\" He told me \"I was being ignorantly angry, and a number of guys have to fear for their girlfriends going crazy and doing something like that.\" He made it seem like what he said was no big deal, and I was just overreacting again. \n\nLately I feel like every time he gets angry with me, it's always my fault no matter what. We haven't talked for a few days after what he last said to me. \n\n>", "summary": "My boyfriend who is 18 years old randomly gets mad at me or says stupid things that would naturally make anyone angry and then blames me for overreacting. I don't know what to do, and I feel like if I leave him, I won't find anyone else. My question is, what do I do? How do I talk to him about this? Am I overreacting and being a bitch?"}
{"id": "t3_1utprd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm losing weight really fast, but I'm also very scared.", "post": "I've managed to lose 8 lbs. in under TWO WEEKS which I am very proud of, but I fear that my weight loss streak will come to a stop very soon. So far I've been really good with diet, no cravings, no junk, no sugary foods, but I am afraid that I will get a sudden urge to pig out at a fast food place or some greasy buffet. I have not yet encountered an urge like this but since it has been a while I am scared that some stress will hit me in my life and an old habit that I had would come back and causing me to go out and eat junk. If I ever encounter craving what should I do?", "summary": "I haven't binged yet but I fear that I will have cravings very soon, how do I prevent from bingeing?"}
{"id": "t3_wetsm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone else here ever been completely pwnd by a girl? Lemme tell you what happened today...", "post": "So Im at work (service industry) and its a pretty slow part of the day and I'm chatting it up with my friend/enemy coworker. (A little back story: She's very funny and fun to be around but she is one of those girls who is perfectly aware of how attractive she is and tends to use this fact to her advantage. She turned me down some months ago, tbh she's way outta my league but whtvr, and she *knows* i think shes attractive and so she'll say things that could be taken sexually or just casually scratch her boob or something in front of me. Shes a shameless tease, and it drives me up the wall sometimes) So she's talking to me and she starts slowly leaning over the service counter 'reaching for a pen' while facing away from me. the effect of it was, once she managed to reach the pen,most of her torso was on the desk while her feet were on tip-toe and her ass pointed right at me, which of course was the point. So I say, \"That looks like a position you're used to assuming.\" And she gets off the counter and I expect her to be all mad, but she just looks at me with this hard-done-by expression and says \"Are you kidding? I haven't had a raise in years.\" It was such a perfect comeback I was just stunned. I'm terrible a comebacks, and I had nothin after that.", "summary": "I try to put down my co-worker for being a shameless tease and she comes back with a perfect quip causing me to go completely blank while she smirked victoriously."}
{"id": "t3_2exbnf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be a good cat-mommy", "post": "This week I started back at college for the fall semester; I also work full-time as soon as I'm out of class. This is my first time doing both and I couldn't help but feel as if I had been neglectful of my 2 year old cat. So last night I decided to stay in and play with him and get some chores done. I thought that maybe the cat would appreciate having his litter cleaned a little sooner than usual so I changed out the liner and everything and closed up. \n\n----> This morning, my kitty would not shut up!! He does this every morning until he gets fed and then I roll over and go back to sleep until my alarm goes off. Well, he wouldn't stop meowing even after I fed him and I just wanted to sleep, so hunkered down and refused to give in to him. Next thing I know, my cat is hunched over me taking a dump on my cheek (I'm a side sleeper). My natural reaction is to scream and sit up quickly, throwing him across the bed in process with a rope of defecation still coming out of him and all over my bedspread and sheets. Apparently, I changed out the liner of the litter box but forgot to put new litter in. It's been a great morning.", "summary": "I forgot to put in new litter in my cat's box and he shat on my face in protest."}
{"id": "t3_emt0b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I thought we were together, but guess we're not.", "post": "Can't believe I'm here again asking for advice..\n\nSo to make a (very) long story short: been v. good friends with a guy for 6 years, always a bit flirty. Both early 30s. Few months ago he admitted to having liked me all along, we didn't get together then, but after thinking about him more and more, and me realizing a few things, we got together last month. Background story is actually [here] for anyone interested.\n\nWe never had a talk about what was happening, or where this was going, I just assumed we were going to start getting closer, and things would naturally move forward. Unfortunately, I don't live in the same city as him right now, and the distance situation wasn't clarified at all, so we naturally went back to the normal way and amount of communicating from when we were just friends. Which means we talk about 4 times a week, sometimes every day, but there's never any \"i miss you\" or any conversation that wouldn't take place if we were just friends. It's 100% exactly as it was before we ever got together.\n\nNow cue to today. For years we have always spent new years' eve with these friends who live abroad, and this year the plan was the same. I didn't even think much about it, I just booked my flight as usual, assuming he was too and we were just going to meet there. Well he just told me he's not going, he's been promoted in work and is stressed out and traveling was \"just going to be more stress\"... Wtf? \n\nI said I was looking forward to spending time with him, and he just replied \"you're sweet\". And that was that.\n\nNow, I know we don't have an actual relationship and that means I can't really push and ask him about it without sounding crazy. But I'm sad, does this mean there's nothing going on? We were only together a couple of weekends in the last month, so in normal circumstances that would be totally too soon to be asking where I stand, which is why I'd really feel silly if I had to be forcing that conversation.\n\nSo, RA: thoughts?", "summary": "Guy friend says he likes me. I like him. We get together and now he acts as we're only just friends again."}
{"id": "t3_gyb9q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just been kicked out of my house, need to devise game plan.", "post": "So I have lived in this share house for about a year.  It's a month to month kind of arrangement.  This morning my housemate texts and emails me giving me notice to move out.  It's enough notice, but I am feeling dumb because I have been quiet as a mouse to live with and this guy is a loud stinking jerk.  I feel insulted and used.  What can I do to avenge my family's honour.  Options are:\n\n1.  Maturely reply \"that's fine / whatever\" move out and never think about this again.  \n2.  Torch the house to the ground.\n3.  The bossest thing I can think of to do is simply empty my room in the next couple of hours, leave an envelope with the pro rata rent in it.  This would require skipping work.  \n4.  Post on Reddit, whining.", "summary": "Just got given notice to leave my house, should I feel insulted by this?"}
{"id": "t3_1xoyqq", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "What am I? Need a correct title for what I'm doing.", "post": "I'm working at a private university. While hiring, I was told my job would be creating/designing slides for lectures and similar stuff with the title \"Course Material Support Specialist\".\n\nWhen I look back I can say that I'm doing now the work of 3/4 employees and when I asked for a raise, all I got was \"we work with a company which makes market researches on salaries. You get the average what the market is paying for your title\".\n\nThis lighted up bulb. The problem is not what I'm doing - I love my job. My title is the problem. It doesn't describe what I'm doing. I need to know what title would be describing the tasks listed below which I do all the time.\n\n- designing flyers, brochures, posters for events and book covers (indesign, photoshop, illustrator)\n- creating animations (after effects)\n- timeline editing videos and promotional music clips (premiere)\n- website development and design (dreamweaver / drupal)\n- producing content for social media \n- shooting pictures and videos", "summary": "What title would be the best describing for all the tasks listed above?"}
{"id": "t3_2fdmkg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] haven't heard from guy I'm dating [26 M] in over a day, we usually text every day and I'm concerned?", "post": "I'm a little concerned that the guy I've been seeing for about a month now hasn't gotten in touch with me since Monday evening. We've been on six dates now and things seemed to be progressing quite well. We had our sixth date Sunday evening, I spent the night at his and we had a lot of fun (though not sex yet, though i did oral on him for the first time), then the next day he basically wanted me to stay and hang out with him until 4 o clock in the afternoon. That was all on his part - he kind of wanted to just hang and cuddle and watch TV with me all day. And he made me brunch which was sweet. He walked me to the subway and asked me to text him when I got home. I did and we chatted for a bit, I sent the last text and he didn't respond. Cut to now Wednesday afternoon and I haven't heard from him at all. I would initiate but as I sent the last text Monday night and initiated last time I don't want to come off as pushy. We normally talk every day, with one of us usually taking the lead when the other one hasn't the day before. Things have gotten pretty comfortable, he calls me babe now, he is comfortable showing affection to me in front of his buddies, it just seems he has dropped off the radar completely since Monday. Also, we normally make plans for our next date by now and there's been no follow up. Since I picked the last date I feel like I should give this responsibility to him and don't want to be pushy or over eager. When should I be worried if I don't hear from him?", "summary": "Regularly have daily texting contact with guy I'm seeing but haven't heard anything from him in nearly 48 hours - I'm worried he has lost interest, is this a bad sign?"}
{"id": "t3_4wfgy4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing a Nazi salute at my cousin's wedding.", "post": "This was about an hour ago. \n\nThe first wedding I've ever been to, my cousin's, and it was pretty good. The ceremony itself roused some tears, and then after the certificate signing, the two hired photographers asked for every guest to get together and take a group photo. \n\nSo we all grouped up, all 50+ of us. I was at the front of the group, closest to the camera, as I was family of the bride.\n\nThe male photographer asked all of us for a normal photo, with smiles and all. Went off without a hitch. And then, he asked for the bride and groom to kiss, while the rest of us threw our arms up and laughed. \n\nNow, you see, for my age (17), I have very broad shoulders. And because my family can't exactly afford the thousands of dollars that come with a tailored suit, we bought what fit me the most comfortably. \n\nThat being said, \"comfortably\" meant still very tight around the shoulders. This restricted my arm movement quite a bit. \n\nOne of my arms was being held down by my mum, and so I settled with moving my right arm. As I went to throw it up, the fabric around my shoulder tightened. \n\nNot wanting to rip the still expensive suit, I settled with just having an arm raised slightly above shoulder height. It took me about five seconds to realise two things. \n\nMy dumb, anti-Semitic mistake, and the fact that not only the photographers, but about 15-20 people from the crowd, were just staring at me in differentiating levels of horror. \n\nI quickly brought my hand down again, but not until the damage had already been done. We had to retake the photo and this time, I kept my hands firmly by my side.", "summary": "Got asked to take a silly group wedding photo, hailed Hitler instead."}
{"id": "t3_1iwhcv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [29f] bring it up that my boyfriend [33m] of three months wants to spend evenings alone?", "post": "Okay, so I've been with my bf for three months, and most of the time, it's great. We get along together splendidly, really enjoy each other's company, and the sex is just great.\n\nThe thing is, I'm getting really self-conscious about suggesting spending evenings alone when we're both really tired because he usually reclines. Today is a great example. We both had a long day at work, plus we didn't really sleep well last night because of the heat... So we were just IMing about what we would do tonight, he said he wanted to stay home so I suggested I'd come over. Just to watch a movie or something. The last time we did this, he said two or three times \"Why don't we do this every night?\" But, he said he just wanted to relax, plan his holiday and pursue his hobby (Sorry if that's not the right expression, English is my second language).\n\nThis would be fine if this was the first time it happened, but it's not. Usually, when I say \"let's just spend the night at home\" because we both don't want to go out, he declines it in like 75%. Which made me kind of stop wanting to suggest this. Rejection sucks. \n\nThe thing is, I don't know if I should bring it up. He's normally an amazing boyfriend, treats me way better than the guys I dated before him, constantly says he loves me and I feel I'd be unfair to make this allegation when he's so great in every other way. Plus, I'm afraid he'd beat himself up about it, which is something I don't want him to.\n\n(I should probably add that it's not that we don't spend time alone together, it's just when he's tired he can't seem to get himself to see me, I guess)\n\nSo, any advice would be appreciated, thanks!", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't want to see me when he's tired, makes me feel self-conscious, should I bring it up or let it slip because he treats me great in every other way?"}
{"id": "t3_1669pn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I snooped, help me", "post": "I snooped. I shouldn't have. I know I shouldn't have, it was wrong. \n\nI (22) was in the middle of a text conversation with my boyfriend (26) of almost a year, and he stopped responding. I figured he'd fallen asleep, and I started watching tv. I was looking on okcupid (I keep a profile for quizzes and creeping, never actually talk to people) and noticed he was online. Assumed he'd fallen asleep with it on but tried texting him again and watched tv a bit more. Over an hour later, and he was still online.\n\nThen I did it. I tried logging into his account to see what he was up to. First password guess was it, and there he was talking to some girl. Praising her figure, her beauty, her intelligence, her (apparently) heaving breasts. Saying he wished he could see her in a low-cut shirt for his fantasies. Asking her to send him pictures. While SHE was reminding him that he was seeing someone and that his behavior was disrespectful towards me.\n\nHe's always been respectful to me, he never checks out other girls, something I don't even mind. I feel ugly, and sick to my stomach. I've gotten sick twice. I know what I did was wrong, I know I invaded his privacy. I fucking love him, and I've never felt so betrayed in my life.", "summary": "I need help"}
{"id": "t3_3ioqq5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21f] thinking about asking him [26M] to make it official.", "post": "In June I met a guy on OkCupid. We're 10 hours apart but we seemed to hit it off so we kept texting. Since then he's drove up here once for a 4 day weekend and we met half way another weekend. Both times things just feel comfortable, like we've known each other for a long time. \n\nA couple weeks ago I mentioned I was going to a party and he jokingly mentioned me not sleeping with other guys. I was taken aback since we'd never talked about being exclusive and I asked him about it. We talked for about four hours about a bad experience with his high school sweetheart (she cheated a couple times and dragged him along for a while). I told him I wouldn't sleep with anyone else if he didn't want me to. He said over and over again how he didn't want to make me do something, but I told him I cared about his opinion. He said he wasn't used to someone saying that (he's only had a couple short lived relationships since his hs ex). Over all the conversation ended great and he's been a lot sweeter to me.\n\nSo I'm going to see him for another long weekend at the end of September I think I want to ask him to make it official. We're already exclusive so I don't really see a reason not to. But if he chooses not to be official I feel it would be a good time to end the relationship. I really enjoy seeing him and talking to him, but I'm not sure I want to commit to him if he's not ready to commit to me. But I get that I'm young and can be a little over emotional, so I just want your guys' opinion on this.", "summary": "been in an unofficial LDR for a few months, thinking about asking him to shit or get off the pot next time we see each other."}
{"id": "t3_1if9pg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "401(k) versus investing in stocks?", "post": "From what I understand the 401(k) allows you to select a portion of your income to be put aside while being tax exempt and sometimes an employer may offer to \"match up\" the amount you put in.\n\nHow does the 401(k) money grow? Can you invest the money in the fund? Does the employer offer a rate or is the \"match up\" amount the only amount you get?\n\nIf this being the case wouldn't it be much better in the long term to invest in stocks as historically the stock market is said to have a 10-11% growth on average (so no doubt there would be ridiculous downs and ups in between a few decades).\n\nI am going to basic training in a few weeks and is the first time i ever had money. So I want to make a wise decision.\n\nOne of the things i have to think about is college. If i decide to put aside a large chunk of the money I receive into the 401(k) then that money shouldn't be used for college as it would be deducted. I understand that the military will pay for some college through the GI Bill, however perhaps I decide to become a doctor and require additional schooling. Then instead of having invested money into the 401(k) wouldn't it have been wiser to have saved the money for schooling instead of investing it?\n\nUnfortunately my parents and friends are hopeless resources for this kind of information. I also don't know anyone who can help me with this kind of information so here I am.", "summary": "How do 401(k)s earn money and do stocks outperform 401(k)s in the long run? (I'd prefer you having read it )"}
{"id": "t3_35yzmt", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Use the bus while I pay off my debt, or get a super cheap used car first and then pay off my debt?", "post": "So I am finally doing it, I'm starting the process of selling my car that I can't afford. This has freed up my intake by $390-$430 a month, and I'm ready to live without a car and begin paying my debts. I've read Dave Ramsay's [Total Money Makeover] and I know there's some debate about his tactics on this sub, but I really like his snowball method of taking care of debt (and I saw that method here in the FAQ as well). I also am moving into a new apartment tomorrow and starting a brand new job making a bit more money on Monday (yay, go me!), so I am excited about all of this; the only thing I'm not sure about is my car situation. Luckily I live in a city where there is a *great* bus transportation system, so I'll be using this method of travel until I can get another (much cheaper, and preferably paid in cash) car.\n\nHowever, I still have debt, and I heard on the Dave Ramsay show that transportation, along with utilities, housing, health bills, and food, so I'm wondering if that means I should save up and buy a cheap car (that's only a few grand), or if I should just start working on my debt first. I have a variety of debt, including;\n\n- $500 for a hospital visit\n- $500 for my shrink visits\n- $1000 for a credit card\n- $5000 for another credit card\n...etc. If I do the snowball method, I would work on the smallest debts first, but it could take me months, maybe even years to pay off these debts, in that time I would be using the bus. The bus costs $1.75 for two transits, so I'm going to be spending at least $3.50 a day on transportation X 5 days a week X 52 weeks a year = $910. Not to mention it will incur a whole lot of time spent riding the bus... it takes about two hours to get to work with all the stops on my route and an hour and a half to get home from work.", "summary": "Should I start working on my debts and use the bus until my debts are paid off, or should I save for a cheap car first and *then* pay off my debts so that I don't have to rely on the bus all the time/waste money on the bus?"}
{"id": "t3_34arxo", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "A friend of mine imposed themselves into my birthday plans and I'm not sure if I want them around. What should I do?", "post": "So a friend of mine kind of just invited herself to my birthday festivities. I find this to be kind of annoying. I'm not sure if I exactly want to see her because last time we spoke she said some things that upset me and I'm still a little mad about that. She also invited another mutual friend to drive her down. I know this other friend has a crush on me and she gets kind of clingy and weird. I could see this being a problem because I kind of invited this other girl I'm interested in. \n\nHow do I get out of this situation without hurting anyone's feelings? I'm planning on going barhopping in the town surrounding my school and I'm worried about lying then having pictures on social media do me in.\n\nEdit", "summary": "friend invited her and another friend to my birthday party. Not sure if I want to see them, but I also don't want to hurt anyone's feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1tarsf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting hydrogen peroxide in my eye. Shameful burn and burning shame.", "post": "It was actually last night. But anyways, I had just completed a 9 hour drive from Montana to Washington for the holidays so i smoked a celebratory bowl. After a while, my mom wanted to take some family pictures but since my eyes were red i wanted to put in eye drops first. I'd forgotten mine, and my parents only had saline solution so i figured that was better than nothing. My mom said to look in her bathroom. After rooting around in her cabinets and finding nothing, i saw a big white bottle on the counter and laughed at how dumb i was for missing it earlier. Without looking at the label I grabbed it, tilted my head back, and squirted a good stream into my right eye. As SOON as the first drop hit it immediately started burning. You know that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when you know instantly that you just fucked up bad? I grabbed the bottle and that's when i noticed the warning signs all over it. My eye hurt worse than getting stood up on senior prom by your long time crush, I thought i'd permanently blinded my right eye. Asked my mom to find the saline solution so i could flush my eye with that and she grabbed it from the first cabinet I had looked in. She laughed and said \"I guess we aren't taking pictures tonight\".", "summary": "Stoned -> Dry eyes -> No eyedrops -> Saline solution flush? -> Oops, not saline solution -> Hydrogen peroxide contact cleaner Pain -> Self-pity"}
{"id": "t3_4h8h5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex cheated. I have her stuff.", "post": "Hey guys. My (29m) now ex-gf (26f) - together 2 years - left a few month ago to join the Navy. While she was at basic, I find out she cheated on me - likely with multiple dudes. I was presented with solid evidence from reliable sources. I watch SVU, so I know my shit. \n\nBut me being the stand up gem of a fucking human being that I am, I try to be a good guy, & I drive 10 hours to attend her boot camp graduation. Her fam couldn't go, & I felt after 2 years, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. Only to get there & see her get in a car with another future chlamydia carrier. So I leave, effectively ending shit.\n\nI then find out a multitude of lies this psycho came up with while we were together. Just to give you guys an idea of the quality of shit we're dealing with here, she actually told me she was in a car accident with some friends, & 1 of them died, so she got their initials tattooed on her back...Truth - the initials were simply her ex-boyfriend's name. She was never even in an accident (according to her mom.) \n\nAnyhoo, fast forward 3 months & she's fucking married to some guy she just met in the Navy - & not the same guy driving the 98 Honda either. This is apparently some true love, The Notebook kinda shit here.\n\nNow she & Sailor Steve plan on coming to my place in a couple weeks to get her shit. Here's where you fuckers come in. Do I... \n\na) have a bon voyage bonfire & burn her shit \nb) be a nice guy & box it up, but then leave it in the rain the next 6 weeks\nc) make sweet love to her best friend, then piss on her shit \nd) do something immature & regrettable only Reddit can think of. \n\nThanks my friends.", "summary": "ex cheated. I have her stuff."}
{"id": "t3_47bfj1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "A weird self thing.", "post": "So, I moved to a new place to be with my friend of 16 years.  We stayed friends while we were always far apart, and started \"dating\" when we were closer.  We were always ten hours apart and now we're an hour away.  Well, finally getting to know the real him, he turned out to be a real jerk.  Luckily, I had other reasons to be in this new state besides trying to be with my friend of 16 years.\n\nOnce I found a job and hobbies, I started meeting more people.  Took a while to be into someone new again but I found someone new to love.  \n\nThis situation was special to me because we already had a lot against us, but we still decided to hook up and at least see what each other was about.  I'm not sure if that was a good idea with us both knowing our circumstances would never work but now all I can think about is hooking up more with my ex of three months.\n\nYou know the saying, \"It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.\"  Still not sure if that's true or not because I'm dying inside over my ex of three months and I don't get why we only hooked up once...but it felt special to me knowing our circumstances.\n\nI'm not into anyone new after my ex of 3 months, and yet I was able to talk to new guys when I met them after it ended with my friend of 16 years.", "summary": "I don't get it. Why am I more hung up on my ex of 3 months and I don't give a crap about my friend of 16 years hurting me any longer?  I've met new people after my ex of 3 months the way I did my ex friend of 16 years but I'm just not into the new people after my ex of 3 months and so I don't date and remain friends with people."}
{"id": "t3_3qwzpa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [20/M] dont know if i should ask my freind [19/F] to be my girlfreind because of our past?", "post": "So ive known this girl for a very long time like since we were very young. A couple years back we found ourselves alone at her house so we started flirting and one thing led to another and ended up making out and touching. After this, she would let me know when her parents werent home so that we can have our alone time. But one time while we were making out she told me that she loved me. I didnt know how to respond so i told her nothing. So as time went on she would tell me stuff about how much she loved me and if i would give her a chance. But i didnt want to be her boyfreind, all i wanted was to have fun, i know i might sound like a d*** but it was the truth. So one time, she told me that she would stop chasing after me and that we couldnt have those secret encounters becuase that would only hurt her more emotionally and she wanted to forget about me, so we decided to just stay freinds and then had one last makeout session afterward. But now i think im starting to fall for her. \nwe still see eachother very often because her brother is my bestfreind. I tried to make a move to have sex but she shrugged me off and closed the door on me and told me she didnt like me anymore. So now if i ask her to be my official girlfreind im afraid she'll say no. But also i dont want to ruin our freindship because we are very close despite everything that has happened. So reddit any advice?", "summary": "Should i ask my very good freind to be my girlfriend despite everything ive done to her?"}
{"id": "t3_1e2vnl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help with removing erroneous item on credit report", "post": "Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not.\n\nI was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that \"1 account has gone into collections\". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called \"Enhanced Recovery Company\". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. \n\nI didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number.\n\nAbout two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. \n\nThanks for any help you can give me!", "summary": "Noticed an account in collections that I believed to be in error, sent a debt validation letter and haven't heard from the collection agency since they received it two months ago."}
{"id": "t3_20lhww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to explain to my boyfriend (m23) exactly how/why he hurt my (f22) feelings", "post": "I have really really curly hair that my boyfriend is a big fan of. He's expressed in the past how he prefers it curly to straight. I don't straighten it very often at all. I actually haven't straightened it in over a year, which spans the length of our relationship. I don't hate it straight, it's just time consuming and not very healthy for my hair to be applying that much heat too often.\n\nToday we were talking and I mentioned that I was planning on straightening my hair next weekend. His reaction was really hurtful. He pretty much was like \"WHAT no don't\", I responded with \"...I'm going to\". To which he responded \"well if you do, I don't want to see it AT ALL so don't send me any pictures or anything- I don't want to look at it\" (we live in different cities right now, so we snapchat and stuff quite a bit).\n\nThis really hurt me-- the idea that he would say he literally doesn't want to look at me because of a hairstyle? I tried to explain to him how rude what he said was but he just doesn't seem to get it. He kept saying he just likes my hair better curly, and eventually \"apologized\" and said he didn't want to fight about it anymore. I don't know how to put into words, and explain to him exactly why what he said is really horrible... I was hoping some of you could help me with this?", "summary": "my bf said he doesn't want to look at me at all with straight hair"}
{"id": "t3_37dwdf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I (kind of) saved my older brother's life", "post": "Okay so I know this isn't like the most major thing, but I just feel good about listening to my gut and stuff, and doing a good thing. So we're both in our early 20s. Me and my older brother haven't had the best relationship for most of our lives, and though it has been getting better lately we still are kind of figuring out how to be open with each other and stuff, and he hasn't said anything about it. Not that I would really expect him to, as it really wasn't that big of a deal.\n\nAnyways, I just feel good and want to tell someone without being all high-and-mighty and whatnot.\n\nWe were just on vacation, and we were swimming in the ocean. We had rented out a paddle board, but the winds were kind of strong so we only got one good run in a small bay, then decided to go to a different beach. This beach had bigger waves, and just as much wind. \n\nWe get there and he just gets right in on the paddle board and was out there for just a minute or so before I decided to go swimming. After a few minutes I noticed that he wasn't up on the board anymore so I looked around and saw some flailing arms with a paddle and figured it was him. He steadied up though and began swimming back to shore. I had a thought that he might be struggling but I figured he would be fine.\n\nAfter a minute or two I realize that he's still trying to get back to shore but hasn't made any real progress, so I decide to swim over and see if he needed any help. I get over there and ask if he needed help, but he was too winded to say anything. I asked if he was okay and he still didn't respond. So I just grabbed the board and swam him to the shore while he just hung on and dragged behind. He was tired out of his mind. \n\nHe was totally fine, just tired. Although with the wind that day, who knows what would have happened otherwise. I didn't do anything that crazy, but I helped my brother out, and that feels pretty good.", "summary": "Big bro went out with paddle board in the windy wavy ocean, got really tired and couldn't make it back to shore, I went out and swam him back"}
{"id": "t3_2cgykl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my GF [18F] of 1 year need help rebuilding trust after she cheated during an extremely hard time in her life and our relationship.", "post": "Basically I am looking for any exercises or ideas that people have had success with that helped them regain trust in each other after something happened like cheating or repeated lies. I've already decided to try and work this out, and if something similar happens again I know to leave the relationship and move on, but I want to give it a real 110% chance and I have no idea where to start with something like this.\n\nWe have already talked about her completely cutting all contact and writing a message to the person in question about why it was wrong and to never talk to her again and all that, I am more looking for advice on how me and her can work together in order to rebuild that trust. We understand it will take time but we have no idea where to begin.\n\nBackstory on what happened - Basically she deals with severe depression and due to issues in our relationship and a lot of stressors that were out of either of our hands she was intimate with 2 other people in order to get through that time period. I was very much in the wrong during this time period and was hostile and I know that I caused a lot of it so while that may sound bad I have made the decision to move past it and try and work things out. Recently she was caught in a lie about one of the people where she wasn't honest about what happened between them, and I feel like there is another person involved that she is not telling me the whole truth about either, but that could just be me over-thinking things.\n\nI need some advice and please try and refrain from the \"leave her and find someone better\" stuff, because that is really not what I want for better or for worse and I already know everything I am ever going to learn about the reasons to make that decision, so please try and be constructive.", "summary": "What are some exercises that I can do with my GF that will rebuild trust in her after she cheated on me and lied about it afterwards."}
{"id": "t3_1pbrda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) just told my LDR girlfriend (17) that I love her but want an open relationship, she didn't take it well.", "post": "Title says it all, we've been together on and off for about 9 months. Within these 9 months she has slept with me and one other person, her ex boyfriend before me. (Might not matter but, she has been sexual with 4 boys, excluding me.) Where as I have only been intimate with her (she is also the only girl I have ever had sex with)\n\nEarlier today I told her that I love her and want to be with her, but I also want to experience different people.\n\nWe live 2 hours away by plane in different countries so it's really difficult for us to see eachother often. The last time I saw her was the beginning of this month. \n\nShe has told me she never wants to speak to me again and to leave her alone, she told me to \"FUCK OFF\" and that she doesn't want anything to do with me. \n\nI was wondering how I could make this easier for her. I don't want her to be upset. I guess I don't really know what I'm asking, just advice and how I can keep being friends with her (most importantly, stay with her and still be able to explore different people)\n\nLittle", "summary": "told LDR girlfriend that I want an open relationship, she doesn't want anything to do with me. I want to be with her still."}
{"id": "t3_2lxz1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22f] developing feelings for an introvert [24m] and don't know how to handle it", "post": "I've [22f] always been a very outgoing and confident person and have never had any issues with guys or dating. I've always thought I had men figured out and knew how to get their attention. \n\nIn September I transferred to a different university where I met this guy [24m]. He is extremely attractive, funny, smart, ambitious and masculine. Everything I look for in a guy. However, he is totally a closed book. He is not shy by any stretch, but we have been constantly around each other for 3 months now and I know next to nothing about him on a personal level. He doesn't even have a facebook.\n\nWe are in the same group of friends at school and spend a lot of time around each other. We often carpool, study together and get drinks after class etc. We have also have spent quite some time alone, but thats only when we study and the rest of our friends leave or when I give him a ride home.\n\nThere are some days where he will start to open up to me a bit and flirt, and I can really feel the chemistry between us. But there will be other days where he will go the entire day without saying hi or talking to me (or anyone for that matter) even though we are in all of each others lectures.\n\nEveryone in our group of friends agrees that he is strangely private, but they've accepted it and say that it's because he's an introvert. However, I don't want to accept it because I really want to get to know him better because I can't remember the last time I've felt this way about a guy.\n\nI've tried to show my interest by inviting him to events and I always help him out with assignments and invite him to have lunch with me. He almost always accepts but has never done the same for me. \n\nI can't read him at all. He's always in his own little world and I just want to know if he has any interest in me at all. The mixed signals are frustrating.", "summary": "I'm falling for a guy who is very introverted and I don't know how to tell if he's interested in me or how to further get his attention. I feel like maybe I intimidate him because we are such different personalities."}
{"id": "t3_12jt9g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what major life changing decision do you hide from friends/family in order to \"keep the peace\"?", "post": "Hi Reddit! I am newly Deist, on the border of atheism, and only my husband knows about it. Have finally had enough with Christianity and quit trying to force it. This is a major thing for me and I want to share it with my loved ones and let them know how free and happy I feel now. \n\nSadly, I cannot talk to my friends or family about it because they are all very much religious and I don't want the \"you are going to hell\" speech that I know is inevitable. So I pretend I still believe, I still give the \"Thank goodness/god\"s and the \"Bless you\"s and I even told someone I would pray for them (I did think positive thoughts but praying is pointless)! I am lying to keep the peace and I am not digging it at all but I don't want my mother crying over my poor damned soul.\n\nSo Reddit, what major life changing event/decision do you hide from your loved ones in order to keep the peace?", "summary": "I denounced my Christian faith but pretend I still love Jebus."}
{"id": "t3_2ej7yh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32M] with my GF [27F]. She's jealous of my photos with ex, and doesn't believe I deleted the porn videos.", "post": "I'm with my girlfriend for 10 months and we are very happy together. I love her and can't imagine myself with another person.  \n\nA while ago, she saw some old pictures of me and my ex-girlfriend and became super jealous and very mean to me the whole afternoon. She said she was not jealous. She claimed that she was disappointed that I took my ex-girlfriend's out kayaking, zip-lining, and do all the stuff that she wants to do, but I never took her out, even though I'm from this area, and she has never been here before until we met. But I think she's clearly just jealous. We always go out and do things on the weekends. She complains about me never making any arrangement, and she always takes the initiative to reserve things, book things, plan things.   \n\nRecently she brought up the topic of my ex-girlfriends almost every day, because I have some homemade sex videos and photos with them. They are just good memories, and it's not like I look at them everyday, but I think it'll be fun to watch them and laugh about it when I'm 90. Anyway, she was very upset, so I deleted all the porn videos, and then I put the other photos with my ex-girlfriends in an encrypted disk image on my laptop.    \n\nThis weekend she came across the encrypted disk image while doing some work on my laptop and again became super mad at me. I just hid the pictures so that she wouldn't see them and gets super jealous. I already deleted all the porn videos, but she wouldn't believe me. What can I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend was super jealous about my photos with ex. I deleted my sex videos with my ex, and hide the photos to make her feel better, but she doesn't believe me."}
{"id": "t3_4y00e1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What to do After High School", "post": "This is my first time using Reddit for something like this. I'm a rising Senior in (U.S.) High School and I'm not sure what to do after I graduate. I have very good standardized test scores, grades, extracurriculars etc. so I'm not worried about being accepted into college. My concern is with the financial side of education, I come from an upper class family (130k annual income) and my parents are essentially not paying for my tuition. I don't expect them to and I don't believe I'm entitled to it either. Although from what I've heard it is difficult to get scholarships and student aid when you come from a high income family.  I haven't looked much into student aid or getting loans because I'd prefer not to have debt. To combat this I've been looking into the military, specifically doing ROTC or going to a service academy (completely free). I'd love to go there because the experience looks amazing but I'm not sure if I want to pursue a military career over an academic one. I quite enjoy mathematics/chemistry and if I join the military there is a slim chance I would get the opportunity to have a career in either. So I'm stuck at a crossroads between student loans with an unsure career or a guaranteed job I potentially hate.", "summary": "High School senior looking for financial advice for college"}
{"id": "t3_1qb6yx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [32M] of 6 months, I just want to feel beautiful", "post": "I got pregnant and lost the baby a couple of months ago. I hit rock bottom for a while :(. The experience made me depressed and my bf was upset because I wasn't up for sex after losing the pregnancy. I mean, I didn't feel like having sex because my doctor told me to not have sex for a couple weeks until I heal. He ended up cheating on me with his student after she finished his class (he teaches at uni). I walked in on it and I am having a hard time moving on. He stopped sleeping with her, but he seems to give every woman attention but me. He tells me all about his \"very pretty\" friends and stares at women with hungry eyes in front of me. Last night, we got into an argument because he was telling me about his friend and i didn't stress how beautiful she was. He told me i am demeaning her but not mentioning that she is very very pretty. He pushed me off the bed. Then he went into the other room and looked at pictures of naked girls.Am I being out of line here? I am very hurt and I want him to make me feel good. I am in great shape, i think i am attractive,I have a great job, I think I am a good catch... my bf makes me feel like garbage lately, though. I try to talk to him about how I feel but all he does is say, \"I am sorry you feel that way\". We have sex daily and I am doing my best to keep him satisfied... I don't know what to do, help me :(", "summary": "bf not making me feel good about myself"}
{"id": "t3_ua0go", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Help needed: Books for young man with little interest in reading", "post": "I'm trying to invoke an interest in reading in my younger brother but I'm struggling to find novels that would suit him. \n\nHe's an electrician by trade, has interests in motorbikes, cars and sports and has historically shown an aversion to reading but I believe it's only because a) I don't think he can read at an advanced level and b) he hasn't found a genre that interests him. He is 21 and has no interest in fantasy, sci-fi or anything that seems unrealistic or unconventional. \n\nI can tell that he would enjoy bios, crime fiction, military fiction and associated genres but as I don't get into these very much I'm struggling to find stuff that might interest him. \n\nSo, r/books, can you help me out with your suggestions please?\n\nThe more enthralling the better because I think he needs to develop his attention span. Also, it has to be pretty easy reading for reasons aforementioned. \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Book suggestions to garner interest in half-literate younger brother. Genres: bio, crime and military fiction, survivalist, coming of age etc."}
{"id": "t3_2zt8im", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Girlfriend [18F] of 3 months, she didn't ask me if it was ok.", "post": "My girlfriend's best friend is a another guy which is no problem. I told her that he was a bit too touchy with her for my liking and he toned it down and we (her friend and I) talked it out, he saw where i was coming from. \n\nMy girlfriend told me that her best friend and someone else were talking about grad dates and she offered herself with one of her (girl)friends. She didnt even consider telling me anything until the next day.\n\nWhen me and her friends went out the next day she brought it up saying, \"so what are we wearing to this guys grad\". I was suprised and i couldnt believe she didnt tell me.\n\nShe then told me that he asked her (which he didnt), i dont understand why she would lie we've always been honest. I told her in the end that its her decision if she wants to go, but im not happy with it.", "summary": "My girlfriend told me that her male best friend asked her to his grad, she lied she offered herself to go. I told her its her decision but im not happy with it."}
{"id": "t3_4ls4l9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [19/F] of 8 months said she isn't attracted to me.", "post": "We have been together for 8 months in a long term relationship where I'm able to visit every month or so. She told me she isn't getting pleasure when we have sex and at first she said it was because she stopped finding me sexually attractive a few months ago. She told me I was cute and she loved my personality but I wasn't stimulating her sexually. \n\nI am a skinny guy, kinda short 5\"7 with average/below average looks. \n\nI was really hurt from this and we tried talking it out but I stopped the conversation and went to bed. The morning after she told me it wasn't that she found me unattractive but she wasn't getting pleasure from having sex because of the anxiety of trying to please me and the pain from sex. She also thinks that her birth control medication is affecting her sex drive. I feel all of those explanations may be backtracking to protect me from being hurt, but they very well could be the reason. \n\nWe were both virgins before the relationship and sex has been really painful for her in the past. Right now its hard for me to believe her explanation and I feel like the romantic/sex side of our relationship isnt based on truth or mutual feelings. She says she wants to keep working to improve our sex life.", "summary": "Gf said she doesnt find me attractive, later says its hard for her to enjoy sex because of several reasons. What do I believe?"}
{"id": "t3_1l67gw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24f] wife asked me [23m] if I want an open relationship", "post": "We've been together 3 years, she's my first everything, she's had many guys before. We've had lots of arguments (unrelated to sex) but I've resented her for not wanting to experiment as much with me sexually.\n\nA few months ago she asked if I wanted an open relationship so I can find other girls (she would not want others). At the time I thought and told her no way, but now I find myself staring at other women. Last weekend we went camping and a friend-of-a-friend came, and we flirted hardcore and it felt really great.\n\nThe problems are 3fold:\n* I'm worried she might want another guy (selfish, I know)\n* I'm worried this is some kind of test\n* I'm worried I will hurt her if I do this, even though she asked.\n\nShe has been cheated on a lot and had lots of bad relationships, so I'm her first \"nice\" man. I now have strong sexual desires for other girls but don't want to hurt her. I'm not sure how I can tell her what I did with the girl (just flirting, no touching) without feeling awful.", "summary": "Wife has been cheated on a lot in the past, asked me if I want to fuck other girls, I now do but I feel guilty because I'm her first nice/caring partner."}
{"id": "t3_31a0oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [24M]; dislike and am unattracted to his style evolving into a more 'alternative' style", "post": "Boyfriend, A, and I have been dating a little over a year. Recently he's been expressing interest in getting tattoos and piercings (of which he currently has none), and has just dyed his hair bright pink. I'm all for self-expression or whatever, but my attraction to him absolutely plummeted from a 110% to 30 upon seeing pink hair. I know if he keeps doing this alternative stuff, especially tattoos, it will make him increasingly unattractive to me. I don't want to outright tell him he looks ugly to me and that I find it very, very hard to take him seriously , but I also don't want to feel like I'm pressuring him into doing something. Advice on how to approach this problem?", "summary": "Me [22F] with SO [24M], looking for advice on how to approach my dwindling attraction due to his style choices."}
{"id": "t3_1452ab", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[21] had dinner with her ex despite my[21] objections", "post": "So tonight my girlfriend of a few months (we've been 'together' for a while but it hasn't been official until quite recently) had dinner with her ex-boyfriend of about 8 months (they were together for ~3 years), who is still very much in love with her. She said it was because she wanted \"closure\" for that chapter of her life and she wanted to end things on a good note; and I don't doubt her. \n\nMy problem is that I had expressed my very clear objections and she went on with the dinner anyways. She knew how against it I was and still chose to hurt me for the sake of \"ending things on a good note\" with someone who shouldn't matter anymore. I have also been going through a lot of stress lately between school and family, and she did it anyways. \n\nI've already decided to forgive her, so I don't really have a question on what to do or anything. But I'd like to know what are your thoughts? Am I being irrational for being upset and hurt? etc.", "summary": "Girlfriend had dinner with her ex-boyfriend despite my objections."}
{"id": "t3_2q20z5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18F) am depressed severely, affecting my LDR", "post": "Hello all. I will be attending a psych this afternoon but wanted to ask a few stuff here before if I should mention my problems.\n\nI started a birth control for the first time, Yaz/Yasmin, a pill, late September because my LDR boyfriend would be visiting me on October. A few days after bcp, I turned into a psychopath, severely depressed and severely annoying monster. I would always pick up fights. A day before he would fly out here, I made the biggest mess in our relationship ever. When he was here we had zero problems. Zero. The day he left I couldn't even move from my bed. Afterwards is just worse, break ups everyday. I kept using the pill until we found out it made me a monster. I stopped it right away and the fights stopped the same week. But now it left me emotionless and depressed for life. I feel so numb, sometimes no emotions for my boyfriend even though I know I love him. I don't feel happiness, I don't feel jealous of him, I don't feel any emotions besides pain, if it is considered and emotion. This makes a huge problem because when I am angry I started saying whatever is in my mind. \n\nThis morning when I woke up, I saw that he still was playing video games. I wrote a few hurtful things, one of which \"How do you expect me to plan a future with someone who obsessively plays video games?\" and we are on the verge of breaking up, he is sleeping now so I don't know really. \n\nMy question is, should I mention this to my psych today? That I am feeling numb, and how it is destroying my relationship?", "summary": "Ex-psycho and crazy bitch turned into an emotionless evil ice cube. Relationship will be damaged beyond repairable level if I don't stop being a stupid moron."}
{"id": "t3_2roqm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28] after not going through with something I really wanted to because of a personal secret, I am thinking about telling my friends [28 M/F] or at least 1 of them [28F] that I am a bisexual. Not sure if a good idea", "post": "Long story short, my best friends, who we have all been friends for many years, and I almost got into a MFM threesome on a drugged-out NYE, but I chickened out because I didn't want to reveal to my friends my sexual preferences. I am a bisexual. After having many years to think about, I am 100% sure this is the case. I now feel like my friends are looking at me like 'why would makefunnotother not want to get in on this? is there something wrong with him?' tbh it was all my idea and now that I chickended out I feel like a have some explaining to do. \n\nThe only person I have ever told this to would be therapists and I really never wanted to share this particular part of myself. I personally don't think it's anybody's business. But now I think it might be time to reveal this about myself but i have serious trepidation. I don't want to be called out in public, I don't want it to be a topic of conversation among my friends, I don't want anyone to try and hook me up with some guy, I don't want any of my friends to think I'm in love with them, and I don't want to go through any generally embarrassing discussions with friends and other people I'd generally like to not share this information with. But i do feel like I have to say something to my best friends so we can all look each other the eye again.\n\nShould I just limit it to my best female friend, who may or may not become a gossip queen about it, my other best friend who may get drunk and try mention it slyly in public to be funny or get a rise, or just keep it to myself and not risk a public conversation.", "summary": "Skipped out on MFM threesome with my friends because I didn't want to reveal that I was a bisexual, but now I regret it and maybe would like to share, but nervous about effects and consequences."}
{"id": "t3_3jny88", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making hot sauce", "post": "Well technically last night, I made some kick ass, eye-watering habanero hot sauce (from homegrown peppers I might add!) and it's really good. Normally I wear plastic gloves when cutting up hot peppers because while I have a tolerance to capsaicin (the spicy chemical) in my mouth, (being a big pepperhead) I don't have one in my hands. Thinking it wouldn't be a big deal (FUCK UP ALERT!!!) I chopped up 20 or so habaneros. As of right now my right hand still fucking burns like hell.\n\nI've tried dish detergent, vegetable oil, vaseline, naphtha, rubbing alcohol, poison ivy rub, gasoline, menthol gel, and several other substances to relieve the burning to no avail.", "summary": "Didn't wear gloves chopping up 20 hell embers for hot sauce"}
{"id": "t3_ztm6o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Today is my 25th birthday!  Big whoop, right?  Instead of GETTING, I would like everyone to join me in GIVING on Kiva!", "post": "Today is my 25th birthday and I think it would be awesome if I could get at least a few people to join Kiva.org.  Kiva is a non-profit where people can lend money to others all around the world!  Most of the borrowers are those in third world countries and lack access to banks, so Kiva helps to fill that gap so the borrowers can improve their business and their lives.  Also, by providing these loans, the borrowers can avoid loan sharks which is a rampant problem in third world countries.  Just to reiterate, these are loans, not donations.  The borrowers pay Kiva back the loans according to the agreed upon terms. Also, Kiva boasts a 98.9% repayment rate, which is a higher rate than bank loans given in the US!  \n\nIf you're still not sure about this, Kiva is currently offering a promotion so you can try it out for free and they'll give you a $25 credit to loan.  If you want to take advantage of that, you'll have to use my invite link, but please note, I couldn't care less how you sign up to Kiva, just simply put, my code lets you try Kiva out with a free $25 credit.  Http://www.Kiva.org/invitedby/AustinOehlerking", "summary": "It's my birthday, give other people money."}
{"id": "t3_exq4v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What should I do to get a job?", "post": "Hi reddit,\nThis is a new account I made in order to ask for your help.\n\nI'm currently an undergraduate student majoring in biomedical engineering. My current gpa is little above a 2.0 (I'm scared to even check) and I know with the state the economy is currently in I'm pretty much screwed. I'm a junior right now so I'm just struggling to even pass the classes right now. Changing majors wouldn't be an option either because I can't afford to pay more money to stay longer in college.\n\nI feel like I'll struggle to barely graduate from college and my effort won't amount to anything other than an enormous college debt and no job.\n\nWhat do I do??", "summary": "OP is failing college and needs advice to somehow get a job once he graduates."}
{"id": "t3_2ukg63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] have a pretty low key question about something I want to do for gf [26F].", "post": "Recently my girlfriend's best friend has done some really disrespectful things to there friendship. Due to this she is hurt really badly. This was her best friend and now she's upset as she deserves to be. She's saying that shes been crying all day, shes hurt, and she has no friends.\n\nThis couldnt be farther from the truth. She has plenty of friends and I have to say most of them are genuinely good standup people. \n\nMy question is would it be wrong of me to get in touch with the ones I'm also friends with and give them a similar breakdown to what I gave you guys and just ask them to remind her of their friendship?", "summary": "Gf's best friend did some fucked up stuff to her. She feels like she has no friends which is not true in the slightest. My question, is it okay to reach out to her friends and ask them to just text her or ask her to chill soon?"}
{"id": "t3_12uf44", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As a sixteen-year-old, I feel no interest in any school subject, but now is when everybody is gearing up to go to college.  What can I do to get going and eventually get a career that I would enjoy?", "post": "Up until this year, I was interested in going to the Naval Academy, and I wasn't sure about my major.  Maybe surgery or such.  I realized I didn't want to enlist in the military, and that medicine wasn't that appealing anymore.\n\nThis year, I'm finding that physics is really a cake-walk, and that I'm just acing my AP physics tests.  I've always been pretty good with science and math.  Despite all this, I don't think if I want to go into any of those fields, whether it be in a lab or behind a desk.  Especially if it is behind a desk.  I've always liked animals, so I'm thinking maybe biology, but even that doesn't seem that enticing.\n\nI don't know what to look for in colleges and I don't know what to do in terms of trying to think for the future.\n\nIf anyone else has been in this position, what have you done?", "summary": "I'm good at things, but I don't want to go on in those things for real life."}
{"id": "t3_euwkc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend of 3 years tells me she was raped, but also cheated on me with a guy. Kind of confused....", "post": "So here's the deal. My girlfriend tells me one night she has a confession. She let a guy feel her up whilst she was high with her friend. I get pretty pissed about it but we work it out eventually and move on.\n\nAround a month later things came to a head and she tells me that after she let the guy feel her up, he proceeded to rape her. Now that sounds really serious I know, but directly after she tells me this, she also mentions that she fucked a guy in a broom closet at her work Christmas party (a good few weeks after the 'feeling up').\n\nNow keep in mind she didn't tell me about the 'rape' part until a month after it happened, and conveniently slipped in the fact that she had fucked another guy at the end of the conversation. She doesn't want to do anything about the 'rape' because she says she is too embarrassed and we wouldn't be able to do anything at this point.\n\nI know it makes me sound like a horrible human being, but I am inclined to not believe her about the 'rape' as I feel she is making it up so I can't get angry at her about her cheating on me. Is this just me?", "summary": "My girlfriend tells me she was raped, but in the same sentence tells me she cheated on me. I don't believe the rape part."}
{"id": "t3_11ef1m", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Financial aides.", "post": "So /r/college here is my situation. My senior year in HS everyone is freaking out over college me not so much. I knew I was wanted to do two years JC and transfer, because holy shit money. So everyone is like FASFA FASFA FASFA WOOHOO FUCKING FASFA. Free money yippie (I'm from the states).  And of course since I lived with my parents I needed their info. Well my stepmum is a succubus and gets my dad to do whatever she says so when I come to him about the FASFA they refuse to give me the info, because \"we won't get any money\" \"I don't want them having this information\" \"I won't put my SSN on the internet\" bla blah blah. This battle rages for a while. So end of senior year I move out. I now live with my sister about 8hrs from where I used to live and I haven't talk to my parents in a couple of months. I am not in school since I couldn't get any money to go, cause who would have guess you can't get any fucking scholarships without FASFA info. I could have gotten tuition at the JC free had my parents not totally fucked me over. \n\n**Anyways Here I am now** I go to financial aide and I still can't fill out the FASFA because my parents weren't raping and beating me so I can't be declared independent till I am 24. I think I could write an essay strong enough saying emotional abuse, but still I would rather get my Dad to just fill out the forms.", "summary": "parents won't fill out FASFA moved out, still need their info"}
{"id": "t3_3d3yoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [27 M] let my [24F] use me financially for two years, don't know how to get out.", "post": "I've been in LDR with the girl I love for five years, we lived together 6 months at a time for the first three years, and I now haven't seen her in two, years despite speaking for hours every single day.\n\nI proposed to her she said yes, but bailed out of seeing me in year three after I bought her wedding dress and plane ticket.\n\nSince then she has sold my engagement ring and probably manipulated me into sending her maybe 3 or 4 thousand  dollars.\n\nShe says she loves me and wants to work things out but from the above this can't be true can it? This girl was the love of my life and we lost a child together, we've been through a lot.\n\nThings I already know for trolls.\n1. Yes I'm a sap/beta/loser for letting this girl walk all over me.\n2. Yes shes probably had or been with other guys etc.\n3. Yes shes using me.\n\nI'm really looking for some female perspective on this honestly, I just can't put myself into the shoes of a woman to understand this. Would you ever respect a man that has let you do this to him? Or why would you do this to someone you say you love and want to marry/have kids with?\n\nReally grateful for any advice, thanks.", "summary": "Fiance treats/treated me like crap, but says she loves me and wants to fix things."}
{"id": "t3_fkdrp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Kids say the Darnedest things..", "post": "Hello Redditors! I know this has probably been recycled a fair few times, but some comments by a little kid on the bus ride home tonight made me smile very much, so I'd love to hear what sort of crazy things you've heard from kids in the past.\n\nHere's what happened, a little girl, maybe 5-6(?) years old was sitting next to her mother and rifling through her bags, looking at all the purchases that had been bought. She pulled out some hair colour and the ensuing conversation went down. \n\nGirl: Mommy you always buy the nicest stuff for your hair! Can I put this in my hair too? \n\nMom: No! This is for me! Your hair's blond, mine is brown, you can't use that!\n\nGirl: Okay well when I become a teenager can I colour my hair then?!\n\nMom: Noo!\n\nGirl: I want to put green, red, blue, purple, and YELLOW in my hair when I'm a teenager, can I do that mommy? Please?\n\nMom: *Slightly flabbergasted* No! Well, tell you what, we'll see what happens when you're a teenager.\n\n*After maybe 2-3 minutes..*\n\nGirl: WHAT ABOUT WHEN I'M 9 YEARS OLD MOMMY, CAN I DO IT THEN??\n\nMom: No!", "summary": "Cute little girl going crazy over hair colouring her mom had bought on the bus."}
{"id": "t3_37atlx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wearing my jacket", "post": "This happened about 10 hours ago and I am still so mad at myself. \n\nI have to live in another city for work right now and drive there every 2 weeks. Since I yet have to get in touch with some locals, I have not given the second key to my flat to somebody else and you can guess it: I locked myself out. Keys in the jacket and went out to grab something to eat without said jacket.\n\nSo I had to get a lock and key service who replaced my lock for 250\u20ac on spot. I will pay about another 200\u20ac for re-replacing the temporary lock with the one from the owners.", "summary": "got 3 new keys for about 450\u20ac."}
{"id": "t3_2v9bu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [31 M] let myself into the apartment next to my girlfriends [34 F] to prevent a fire. She is mad I filed a police report about it.", "post": "Original Post: \n\nSince we broke up we haven't talked much but agreed to talk about how we are going to handle the Caribbean vacation tomorrow.  That wont be happening it looks like.  Tonight I get an email that she cancelled my flight.  I started doing some digging and was able to find out that she is now going on the vacation with her ex fiance.\n\nYou guys called it there was more going on.  I am cutting all contact with her so I can have a clean break and move on to the next part of my life.\n\nBy the way anyone know of a fun place to travel with my flight voucher from the cancelled ticket? lol (I'm in the US)", "summary": "Saved girlfriends apartment from burning down, she breaks up with me over something petty, and is now going on what was supposed to be our Caribbean vacation with her ex fiance."}
{"id": "t3_3js8d5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's with all the pressure of relationships? (17M-Yes I am very young but there is still immense pressure)", "post": "Okay so, this question really hit me after an experience I went through a few days ago and it left me wondering why I am even chasing someone, is it the fact others seem to get in to relationships very well? Or the fact I have never been in one myself.\n\nSo the story here is that this girl(17F) that I am best friends with turned the offer down back in June. So fast forward two months of laughs, smiles, helping each other with our problems I thought to myself \"Hey, it's all going pretty good why not give it a shot since we're even closer?\" \n\nOne of the biggest mistakes ever. So by the time I explain to her how I still felt she then started to say she had very recently started a long distance relationship with a friend she met online over 8 months ago, this person who lives halfway across the world took the liberty of going on a holiday to where we live for 10 days and having her absolutely love it all because they got on so well. I knew of it but not what it could amount to.\n\nOkay so I sound like an asshole here but, in my defence any day we were out I would always help her with anything that bothered her, she talked about how I always meant so much and there was times we'd just hug, or she would lie against me for hours. It felt *great*. This is the closest I have ever been to a proper relationship so I cast my confidence issues aside to ask. And well that was explained before.\n\nAfter having a couple days to think about it and really wrack my head for an explanation, I simply question, \"Why do I even need to feel bothered about finding a SO?\"\n\nSorry if it is too much a general question but I feel like some people here might understand what I mean.", "summary": "Best friends with girl I met at college, rejects me first time asking her out. Wait a couple months and push it again after getting very close over the summer. Get a very unexpected answer about her deciding to be in a long distance with some guy she knew online and decided to come here for just over a week. Now question why I have a feeling of 'want' to be in a relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3ordwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my crush, [18 F] and my fear of failure", "post": "I'm twenty, I go to college at a community college. Basically, theres a girl in two of my classes, and in my art club. Shes hella cute, hella single, and never had a relationship in her life. I know these things from over hearing her talk to her female friends.\n\nOur interactions consist of her laughing at my smartass comments in art class and small banter back and forth. I just need advice on how to take the next step into befriending her or flirting. I fear failure because I tried with a girl a few semesters back and failed absolutely horribly. Im not unnattractive, I can just be incredibly awkward. anyway, shes awkward too so its cool.", "summary": "Im an alpha turned beta for fear of failure, need flirting advice."}
{"id": "t3_13uofo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Trying to clean up my back yard.", "post": "So, thanks to a recent interest in Environmental Science (a prerequisite class that turned out to be pretty informative), I've recently undertaken a project to [Naturescape] my backyard. I live in a small townhouse with a small patio-centered backyard, with a small pond, a dog run and a hardy little grapevine, so this didn't seem like a complex process.\n\nIt's been a fairly dry fall, and we've got an abundance of leaves that I've been rotating into a natural compost-bed at the base of the grapevines (in the hopes of enriching the soil for the spring over the winter). Noticing that things were getting a little ragged, I took some time to reassemble the leaves into a neater pile across the soil, and that's when I picked up on a pungent odor.\n\nI had *thought* my dogs - my loving dogs, my normally well-mannered dogs, the creatures whose well-being is one of my primary concerns - were using the dry earth near the pond and/or the dog run for their evacuation-type needs. They were certainly leaving their droppings there.\n\nNot so much with the liquid waste. It turns out that the reason my composting was looking so ragged was because my dogs - my hateful, spiteful little bastard dogs - have been urinating directly into the leaves and raking out tiny puppy-sized piles of foliage in the process. Which have accumulated on the stone patio. Which now *reeks* of urine-soaked decaying plant matter ( a lovely bouquet, to be sure). I'm going to have to scrap the entire project now, and until I can get a spray-washer full of vinegar and water and go over the stones, that smell is going to hover over my yard, as a grim, yellow spectre of disappointment.", "summary": "Got pissed at my disorderly backyard. Wound up with piss all over my patio."}
{"id": "t3_20sf12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my friend's sister [17 F] wondering if she likes me?", "post": "Hey so recently, I was at my friend's house with a couple other kids. He has a fairly attractive sister, and she and I have always been fairly friendly with each other.\n\nAt about two in the morning everyone except her, her brother and myself was asleep. I suggested we put on a movie, which everyone was glad to do.\n\nWe put on the movie, and I get on a tiny chair/couch, it can fit two people sitting, barely one lying down. There are plenty of places to lie down throughout the room, beanbags, chairs, another couch, whatever. So my friend's sister, (let's call her Sally) comes and sits with me.\n\nI don't mind, and we are a little cramped, no big deal. About ten minutes in, she rests her head on me and says she's not comfortable. I ask her how she could get more comfy, and she says she wants to lie down. So she rests her legs on my legs, and I keep sitting normally. Maybe five minutes later, I tell Sally this isn't comfy for me.\n\nMore or less, after twenty minutes, we are spooning on this tiny couch with her brother (my good friend) ten feet away. We stay like that until the movie is over. Sally says \"I should go to bed, but it's so far away.\" (It's downstairs, not far at all.) I tell her \"stay if you're comfy,\" and pull her in closer, and we fall asleep like that.\n\nMy question is, do you think she likes me?\n I'm fairly young (freshman in high school) and I haven't had much (any) experience dating. She's a junior. If that changes anything?\n\nI don't have any classes with her. I snapchat her every couple days, and I see her every once in a while when I go to her house on weekends.", "summary": "I spooned with my friend's sister, and I wasn't sure if she liked me?"}
{"id": "t3_354xay", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I stop renting and look at a mortgage?", "post": "Currently, my SO and I are looking for a place to live next year. We are considering renting, but there doesn't seem to be very many options in our area. As I've searched rental and real estate websites, I've found quite a few REO/Bank-owned properties for more than fair prices (low double digits) and great condition. I have researched FHA loans and it doesn't seem like a bad idea, especially when some of these loans come down to less than $200/month (not including taxes, insurance, unexpected repairs, etc) and a 3% downpayment option. These mortgage payments seem far more reasonable than the $700-800 we'll be paying a month in rent.\n\nOur current situation: One of us is employed (dropped out of college) and the other has just graduated and is searching for a job. I have a little bit of credit card debt (manageable) and student loans coming into repayment soon. Altogether, less than $400 a month goes to credit cards and student loans. Having a low mortgage payment will (hopefully) allow me to pay off my other debt faster. I feel like financially, we will definitely be able to make the payments. Also, I have the type of parents who would never \"let me sink\". If I couldn't make a mortgage payment or needed a new hot water heater, they would help me out one way or another.\n\nAnother thing to note is that we will have another person living with us, so three people splitting a $200-300 mortgage and utilities etc. \n\nWhat are some things I may be overlooking? Does anybody have any experience with an FHA loan and could offer some insight? Is this option really actually better than spending $700-800 a month on rent and not be able to own anything as a result? How long of a process would something like this be?", "summary": "Should I get a super cheap bank owned property on a FHA loan instead of paying higher rent payments?"}
{"id": "t3_31wsip", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by trying to scare my friend", "post": "This FU actually happened today (surprise surprise). So in my class there's this one girl who I'm really good friends with (let's call her Sandra). Now Sandra is absolutely terrified of spiders. Like I mean absolutely terrified beyond belief. So smartass me thought it would be a great idea to show her a picture of my pet tarantula (he is really cute I swear). What I didn't have really in mind is how she'd react to it... She smacked the phone with all her might like some Bruce Lee style stuff as I stood there in terror watching my phone slowly float through the air and land face first on the concrete floor. My heart broke in half as I heard the glass shatter and get thrown about. RIP Oneplue one 7.6.2014-8.4.2015 you shall never be forgotten.", "summary": "Showed picture of a tarantula to my arachnophobic friend and watched as my phone got riven apart by physics"}
{"id": "t3_rhxwk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New Yorkers or those who know New York well, I need your help!", "post": "Recently I have moved from Miami, FL where I grew up to go to college in Manhattan. I've done all the usual tourist sight seeing, Statue of Liberty, Empire State, Times Square...etc..etc. Usually I'm more of a lurker here on Reddit (been one for years before I even opened an account) and have only commented on a few things. However I figure that it won't hurt trying to ask for you for some help. I would love it if you guys can tell me about the obscure or \"underground\" spots in NYC that are cool to hang out. I'm up for anything bars, clubs, smoke shops, or even off the grid stuff like raves or something of the sort. It doesn't have to be places just for partying I'm down for galleries, art events, or sports. It would be amazing to go to places that only the locals know about, I find those places the most fun and culturally alive.", "summary": "Post \"hidden\" places that you know about in New York."}
{"id": "t3_2o0c01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] Need some help with a girl [15F]", "post": "Alright, to start of i'm going to say that i've always been a pretty awkward guy, this is really the first year that i've gotten away from that.\n\nSo there's a girl that I like, and I *think* that she likes me as well. I have a couple of reasons to think this, and I'll list them out here.\n\nThe first one is that we did go to homecoming together, my second is that when we were watching a movie with some friends, she was kind of like leaning against me basically for the entire thing (I think this was more as a friendly thing, but again I don't know). The last one is that pretty much all of our mutual friends want me to ask her out, but I just don't know.\n\nAny questions that anyone wants to ask i'll be happy to answer, i'm just looking for some help here, thanks!", "summary": "Want to ask out girl i've known for about ~1 year, only started developing feelings after about 6 months, need some help."}
{"id": "t3_2do771", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am no longer friends with 26F, how to explain to mutual friends without sounding dramatic or like I want them to take sides?", "post": "Not too long ago I had a bit of a falling out with a friend, let's call her 'Jane,' after realizing that I was putting more in to the friendship than I was getting out and I was tired of her negativity and moodiness. We had been very close friends for about 2 years and acquaintances for about 2 years before that.\n\nWe have plenty of mutual friends - some who are closer with her, and some who are closer with me. Because of this, I am in no way expecting her to be out of my life, and that's fine. At this point, I don't plan to speak to her unless I need to for some reason, or if she speaks to me first I would respond. I have every intention of being polite in that event.\n\nBut going forward I feel that people are going to ask me \"where's Jane?\" or something along those lines - as we have been known in the past to spend a lot of time together. Sure I can just say \"haven't heard from her\" or \"I don't know\" and leave it at that but if I am pressed I may have to say in some way that we aren't friends anymore/aren't speaking. And that will almost certainly result in a \"why?\"\n\nHow do I answer that? I don't want to talk behind her back or say anything rude. But these people are also my friends so I don't want to say \"it's none of your buisness\" or anything.\n\nThe details of the falling out aren't that important it's just that she hurt me and I realized that she's not the kind of person I want to be close with. I don't want it to sound to others like I am implying that she is not a good person to be friends with or that they need to choose sides or even that if she's somewhere I won't be there (and vice versa).\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading!", "summary": "Pretty much the title."}
{"id": "t3_31mbva", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[22/m] haven't talked to my ex[18/f] for a while and I miss her deeply. Will she talk to me again?", "post": "So I dated this girl for 2 1/2 years and it was a very serious relationship. I know this sounds like normal teen drama but trust me when I say that we both explicitly had feelings for each other and maintained a long distance relationship. We talked everyday for 8+ hours playing games and watching everything together.\n\nWe broke up on New Year's Eve in the middle of my trip halfway across the country. It was awkward at first but it was obvious we still had feelings for each other after a couple days. We hugged and kissed like we use to and sort of got to know why she broke up with me, even though I thought we had it good.\n\nShe still felt like a child and wanted to be alone because she feels pressured to always having to care and worry about me. She is a loner by nature that finally had friends. She explained that the \"love\" died down around August when I brought up her past and she never let it go no matter how much I apologized. We both decided to be friends and I always reiterated that I would always be there for her and would wait for her.\n\nAfter I get home we still talked and kept in contact until we both got fed up with arguing with each other. We deleted each other from most contact(i.e. Steam,", "summary": "She broke up with me because of wanting to be alone and wasn't ready for a relationship. Everything was fine until I hassled her too much and got blocked. I just want to move past this and talk to my bestfriend again ;("}
{"id": "t3_31hzen", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] interested in [20 f] who seems somewhat interested in me. not sure how to proceed.", "post": "I met a girl at my youth group art class. Shes very cute. I am in a mental health youth group (anxiety disorder and psychosis, though very manageable now). i'm not sure which youth group in my area she belonged too. \n\nThe reason i think she may be semi-interested in me is because she always greets me very warmly when i enter the building, and seems to not give such a warm welcome to others when they come. She also seems very responsive to my (gentle) critiques and suggestions for her artwork. just generally more friendly and responsive to me then the other people that go. \n\nMaybe i am reading into it way to much, and shes not interested, but its worth a shot, right?\n\nI really don't know much about her besides her name, but she seems very friendly and open, and gives off a vibe of interest. the problem is that I've never been in a real relationship and have absolutely no idea how to approach her. I would not say that i am intimidated (she seems very approachable) as much as i am simply ignorant of how or when, if at all, i bring up the idea of going on a date whilst talking to her. hell, i'm not even sure if i know how to strike up a conversation with her.", "summary": "Cute girl at art group, seems to me to be semi interested, how do i approach asking her out?"}
{"id": "t3_1bs7zz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19m] My girlfriend (also 19) keeps love notes/letters from her exes. Do you think this is weird?", "post": "I was helping my girlfriend clean/organize her room today (we both still live with our parents) and I noticed she still kept some love notes/letters from her exes. She refused to throw them away saying they were \"sweet\". We've been in a committed relationship for two years and we both love each other very much. She is the only girl I've been in a relationship with, so I'm not exactly sure if it's weird to keep these things or not. Do you think I'm overreacting/being overly jealous or do you think these notes should be gone? It doesn't make me feel very good knowing she still keeps them, and I think if I had anything from an ex I would get rid of it, but again, I'm going off no experience here. What do you think?", "summary": "My girlfriend keeps love notes from exes, am I right in thinking she should get rid of them?"}
{"id": "t3_wj9r7", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I am tired of the ups and downs mostly.. .(F26)", "post": "The day we were going to pay for our reception venue for our wedding my fiance (m26) came home and said he didn't see our relationship working out. This was a week ago.\n\nI moved 800 miles away. Began \"no contact\" yesterday, (we have only talked twice in the last week) got my appetite back, haven't cried... I'm not even angry. The only thing I guess I am having a hard time with is thinking about him. I miss him, even though our relationship was terrible toward the end. I am tired of waiting for him to call me back and change his mind. I know logically, he wont. I don't think I want him to. It just keeps popping up in my head and I'd really like to be over it. I know everyone says it takes time, but I just want to move on. I don't want to be the \"girl that just got dumped\" . Its mostly really annoying and I'd like it stop.", "summary": "How can I stop feeling like I was just dumped and get on with my life??"}
{"id": "t3_15odtf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Questionable DUI?", "post": "My girlfriend was pulled over on her way home from the bar last night for crossing the fog line (white line on the side of the road) and was booked into jail on a dui.  \nThe police officer pulled her over and gave her a field sobriety test, claimed that she didn't keep her hands next to her when making a turn at the end.  When he made her blow into the meter in his car, he was covering up his readings.  \nMy girlfriend insisted on knowing what she blew and he showed her the meter said .057, which is below the .08 limit in Kansas. The guy insisted his machine was broke and an hour later booked her in jail. At that point she was at .106. \nI know there is an intoxication period for alcohol, and she had her stiffest drink as the bar was closing. She drank normal drinks all night and had a double as she left. \nAm I wrong thinking the \"broken DUI machine\" seems fishy?", "summary": "Girlfriend was below limit and still was arrested."}
{"id": "t3_1e16io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (20f) doesn't want anything for her birthday (M25.)", "post": "Been together a year, living together the past 6 months.\n\nShe's not exactly materialistic, and she's also frugal as hell.\n\nThis her first birthday I've really been on the scene for. And she doesn't want anything. She doesn't even want to go out. Even worse, it's her 21st. A big birthday. She doesn't drink much at all.\n\nMy birthday is in September, and she was obviously around for then. She gave me an amazing present; \n\n She had bought a wallet for me - very good quality, deer hide (I'm a deer hunter) and engraved it with my name very tastefully. Under this, she had bought me a leather bullet wallet, same hide/make, and filled it with the rounds I use. Also engraved.\n\nAll this in a plain, neat black box with a card she's hand-drawn (fulltime graphic designer) the two deer species I stalk.\n\nIt was a pretty amazing present.\n\nChristmas I didn't get her anything, at her request, and she slipped a favourite bottle of aged scotch into my cupboard. \n\nNothing between us for Valentines day.\n\nNow it's her birthday in 5 days and she hasn't mentioned it. But, as per every big occasion, she doesn't want anything. I'm taking her out for a few beers but that's probably going to be a struggle.\n\nI feel pretty bad about this.", "summary": "girlfriend never wants presents, doesn't like me wasting money on her."}
{"id": "t3_1a62ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [26m] leave my Unemployed SO [25f]?", "post": "My SO has been out of work for about 4 months after quitting their job to pursue other opportunities. I didn't know this at the time, but they didn't have anything lined up when they quit. It's kind of troubling because I feel like they aren't trying as hard as they should be to find a new job, and the jobs they're looking for are few, and require more education/experience than they have. Every time I ask them what they did today job searching is never the focus and if they do mention applying, it's for a job they know they aren't qualified for. They also don't seem to have an prospects for the next month. Jobs that they have interviewed for are extremely low paying, and would be step backward career wise (IMO).\n\nI guess it doesn't really affect me that much because we aren't married and don't like together, but since they don't have a job they have to live at home with their family (8 other people). Even when we go out they tend to want to eat at nice restaurants and have nice things, but I'm the one who has the pay the lion share of our outings because they are on unemployment. They even told me that since they have unemployment for a year they will be very picky with their next job.\n\nIt's not even like they worked for years before they quit. They graduated from school and worked one year, then decided they wanted to work somewhere else.\n\nMy first instinct is that they are lazy and I should them, but I think that's too hasty. I know they have have certain goals and plans, and they don't want to compromise. I've tried to give some advice and help them in their search, but they aren't very accepting of help. I was thinking about if they didn't get serious or get a job by the 6 month mark, then that would be it. I really don't think it should be taking this long. There are tons of job out there.\n\nShould I leave my SO after a certain period?\n\nShould I continue to try to help?", "summary": "Should I leave my employed SO? If so, how long should I wait?"}
{"id": "t3_4rdx96", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Sudden, Un-Warned-Of Tuition Increase by nearly 50% in Senior Year [US-PA]", "post": "I recently received my financial aid package and bill for my senior year at my University, and I see that my tuition has increased by approximately 50% without prior warning.  I have already sunk an immense amount of time and money into this degree at a seemingly-respected university (I'll avoid naming - I'll drag them through the dirt only if this tuition spike holds and forces me into the desperate circumstances it may), and this cost increase was never outlined or hinted to in prior billing plans or any documentation I have received from the school.  This seems like a fairly dishonest business practice, and I'd like to know if something like this, given the somewhat-coercive nature of finishing one's senior year at a university, is legal.\n\nI'm in a 5-year BA program (there's a co-op system that extends it), and here's what my tuition has looked like throughout:\n\n2012-2013: $33,800 \n\n2013-2014: $35,135 \n\n2014-2015: $35,460 \n\n2015-2016: $34,084 \n\n2016-2017: **$51,030** \n\nThese are the actual tuition & fees costs year-to-year, so this jump has nothing to do with any changes to financial aid.  Are they allowed to do this?  Do I have any legal recourse?", "summary": "My tuition suddenly increased, without prior warning, by about 50% in my last year of college.  Would I plausibly have any legal recourse, short of simply not enrolling for my senior year (thereby undoing these years of hard work and debt)?"}
{"id": "t3_344ht3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] don't get along with my BF [30M] friends.", "post": "Debating on whether to post here or on r/offmychest because I know the bottom line answer is, \"Screw it and be yourself\", but it still bothers me.\n\nWe've only been going out 6mos and anytime we hang out with his friends they ignore me. They're polite and say the usual greetings, but they also politely keep me out of the conversations. These are my BFs best friends, of course I want them to like me. I think I'm self conscious because I grew up not having much and all they discuss is what huge music festival they're going to or what exotic destination they're vacationing at next week. \n\nMaybe I'm jealous? I've never had that financial liberty to just pick up and go. My parents didn't pay for my college or first house. I worked for everything on my own and continue to do so; and, I'm very proud of that. I go on fun vacations very rarely and live a humble life style because I earned it. Im sorry you can't appreciate or understand that.\n\nI've told my SO and he says it's all in my head and they want to get to know me, but it really doesn't feel that way... What do I do? Just keep quiet and smile politely at their conversations? I don't want them to avoid my SO because of me and I wish they'd give me a chance.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_35j11j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling at a protester", "post": "So this was last week not today. This guy was on the corner yelling and protesting god knows what. He was waving the french flag, and in my drunken state i decided to yell at him. My friend  was driving and I am riding shotgun. As we got close i rolled down the window and yelled \"go back to Africa you fucking jew!\"\n\nWe were cracking up because it made no sense. Then we heard a CLUNK. The asshole threw his water bottle at the car and it hit the trunk. Now my buddy has a small dent on his car.", "summary": "yelled dumb shit when drunk at protester and car got dented"}
{"id": "t3_1n55o0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does Signal Loss from Coaxial Splitters, Cable Length, etc, affect internet speed/quality?", "post": "So recently I had an issue where my modem wouldn't connect because I was getting too much signal loss due to a 6-way splitter meant for different frequencies than comcast cable (it must have been used by previous homeowner and first comcast guy just used it instead of replacing it). The down and upstream lights were on, but not the 'online' one (dpc3000).\n\nComcast guy replaced the splitter, as it was pushing my signal loss to too much. \n\nSo I was wondering, if I reduced the signal loss further (as it now is within spec), would it improve internet speed/quality? I could just remove the splitter since I'm only using a single line (connection to modem). I could probably cut and reduce the line length too.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "does reducing signal loss thats already within spec improve my internet (comcast xfinity, genereally 10-20ms 25/5 - which is what I pay for)."}
{"id": "t3_yxqyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "High school lunchroom problem between my 16 yr. old girlfriend and I (17 years old male) and my circle of friends.", "post": "Put as simply as possible: is it wrong of me to choose to sit with my group of 7 friends (who are all guys) at lunch and not wanting my girlfriend of 2.5 months sitting with me? \nTypical high school relationship problems, yes I get it. But I can't shake this feeling that I was a dick. I love my friends, I've known them since I was like 7 and they helped me through a lot, and we hang out more as a closed kinda group. So I asked one of them privately and he said it would be awkward for all of us, us being the other 6 guys. \nThen I looked at how she would feel; I never introduced her to them before, and what if we broke up during the semester? Awkward as hell right? I always try to put my best friends first, but at the same time I hate making people upset, especially her. (And I wanna stress that I **hate** making people upset. Deeper problem that doesn't belong in this subreddit.)", "summary": "Am I a bad guy for not wanting my girlfriend to sit with my close group of friends at lunch? And is there anyway I could sorta find a medium so no one gets that awkward situation I'm dreading?"}
{"id": "t3_38xgov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my GF [16 F] of 7 months are madly in love and I don't know if we will end up lasting.", "post": "Well I want to start from the beginning of our relationship.  We were in the same math class and one day we both came for tutoring and immediately  hit it off. I got her number the same day and from that day on she was the only thing on my mind. \n\nI really do think this girl was made for me. We began talking October 24th 2014  and began going out October 31st. This seemed rushed to me and everyone else but I felt like I knew her for years.  The second day we knew each other we were already discussing our deepest secrets.  I told her things that I no one besides my family knows... after 2 days of knowing her. \n\nWe are the couple that our school friends come to for advice because we are always together and happy. I have some concerns though. We absolutely never stop talking on the phone or skype... ever. The only times we aren't talking is when I'm at church on Sundays or at school and even then we are texting. I walk her home from school everyday and when I'm walking home I call her. When I get home we are still talking until we fall asleep then go to school and repeat. On weekends or break we wake up on Skype play games all day talking on Skype then sleep still on Skype and repeat. I don't know if this is a healthy relationship because of the fact that we both are never apart. We don't mind it, we love each others company but I wonder if it a bad thing not having any space. \n\nWe also plan on going to the same colleges and we both want to become computer science majors. Is it bad that we have sour much in common like this? The only thing I can think of that we are different about are music and certain video games. \n\nFinally, I want to know will we last? Everyone says highs cool couples never last but we really want it to last forever. Are we just dreaming and need to see the reality that this will end sooner or later? Ask questions if more info is needed but I need answers I hate worrying if we will work out or not. Thanks.", "summary": "GF and I have a nearly perfect relationship but is it healthy and will it last?"}
{"id": "t3_lrq42", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To guys who had to go to church as a child. Did you get erections during the Eucharist? [not a priest joke, please read]", "post": "I am pretty sure I got my first erection in church. Was speaking to a friend who went to the same primary school as me and supposedly he had a similar problem. I thought I was a minority. Also, because at that stage of my life I didn't know what it really meant, I used to poke it and let it sit on top of the ledge where people put there purses etc. I also used to walk up to the alter pitching a full (8 yo sized) tent, and get blessed. I don't go to church any more, so was just wondering if this phenomenon happened to others?", "summary": "Cracked boners in church, did you do it as well?"}
{"id": "t3_2i9cry", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making weed brownies", "post": "So it all starts last night when I decided to make weed brownies with a couple friends.  \nWe made them, ate one each, and tripped balls for the night. We went to sleep until the next day. \nThe next day, today, my friend wakes me up telling me that my mum and aunt were here, and that they had eaten 3 brownies.   \nWhat.  \nI currently live with my dad who is out of town for the weekend, so I did NOT expect anyone to be here.  \nI went upstairs and asked them if they ate any brownies, to which they said they did. Aaaaaaaaaand queue freakout.  \n\"MUM THOSE HAD WEED IN THEM WHAT ARE YOU DOING\"  \n\"what whAT WHAT WHAT???\"  \nSo she stood up, started pacing, and called my grandma. My grandma was pissed and called my step dad, my step dad came over with my step brother and they were VERY pissed. They took my Mum and aunt(who is my step dad's cousin) home.  \nMy aunt's sons are very well known kick boxers in my region, they are very pissed.  \nMy mum proceeded to throw up constantly for a couple of hours, peed herself, and then fell asleep on the couch.  \nI'm currently sitting in my room fearing for my safety.", "summary": "Mum and aunt ate weed brownies. People are pissed."}
{"id": "t3_2d4sh5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did my ex [20/F] cheat on me [19/M]?", "post": "So my ex and I began dating 4 years ago and have recently broken up on mutual terms, it just wasn't working. There were no hard feelings and we're trying to remain good friends.\n\nHowever at working yesterday the topic of cheating was brought up where everyone was saying whether they've cheated or been cheated on. I didn't think I had such a story but I told what I thought was just a dick move on her part. \n\nA year into the relationship she told me she was starting to develop feelings for one of my best friends at the time. I comforted her and she told me how she only loved me and wanted theses feelings to go away so I understood and didn't think much of it. Three months later she invites me over, crying her eyes out and tells me that she's been dirty talking to him over skype. She then shows me the messages and apologises and says it will never happen again, which it didn't. No pictures were sent, it was only text based.\n\nWhen I told this story everyone at work said that it was cheating and even though I naively denied it was cheating at the time I don't know if it was or how to deal with the news as we're still friends. Do I tell her that it was cheating? Do I keep quiet as it was in the past? Or am I just being an idiot and just forget the whole thing?", "summary": "My ex messed up when dating, not sure if she cheated, if she did I don't know how I should react"}
{"id": "t3_rrdoy", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Graves Disease Pregnancy", "post": "Concerned Husband and soon to be father here. \n\n**Background**: My wife has a pre-existing condition called Graves Disease (Hyperthyroidism). She has been treated for this disease before getting pregnant and her thyroid levels were normal. \n\n**Currently**: has been taking propylthiouracil (PTU) throughout the pregnancy to control thyroid levels in both herself and the baby. She is currently 30 weeks. Yesterday we just got a call from our doctor saying that her TSH receptor antibody's were higher than normal (2.5) and that she is recommending going to a high risk OBGYN. \n\nKinda worried that they baby will come out with goiters, deformities and general abnormalities. We have scheduled an appointment later on this week. \n\n**Parents of Reddit** have any of you had Graves Disease and been pregnant? Did the baby turn out fine? Looking for someone with experience in the matter.", "summary": "Anyone give birth to a normal child while having Graves Disease?"}
{"id": "t3_2y36pi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] am wondering if I should friendzone myself with new girl [24f].", "post": "Yes, I hate the the word friendzone too because it implies that either girls are stringing along guys for attention or alternatively that guys are just pretending to be friendly in order to get sex. That said, it got your attention, so meh.\n\nSo I have had a rough go of things lately. Got dumped by my first girlfriend and not long after serious health issues arose. In between seizure like episodes and a whole bunch of other symptoms I havent had much time for dating. \n\nAt the same time it is something I have always wanted, and was something that meant so much to me when I started dating this ex (S) at the late age of 22. So while I have sort of been out of commission I have been feeling... lonely... I guess is the word for it. I kept messaging my ex, nothing aggressive or mean just a \"hey\" and some needy follow up once every 2 months until she threatened to call friends and family to get me to stop. Since then I have felt... I dunno... crazy. That was a little while.\n\nThe past couple months health has improved. I have been making more friends and have started getting back into interests outside of work and doctors visits. I messaged this one girl I used to hang out with and we met up to go to perform at a comedy show. Other friends were there, so it wasn't like a date, but I really liked spending time with her. We made plans to do it again.\n\nI guess my worry is... all my other friends are completely coupled with a SO. Add to the fact that I want to do more comedy and would like someone to do it with. I am very eager to date someone but am not sure with my condition and just the way I have been that it is a good idea or even fair for her. Some of my symptoms might make things a little tricky. Id be fine with a friend to do shows with... but I dont know where my health could go and this could be my last chance for all I know. I am not super experienced so I am also worried that I reading into something that's not there.", "summary": "AFTER MANY HEALTH ISSUES I MIGHT HAVE A CHANCE WITH A GIRL BUT AM NOT SURE IF IT IS WORTH PURSUING BECAUSE I NEED THE FRIENDSHIP"}
{"id": "t3_1g699g", "subreddit": "running", "title": "hello r/running, to be straight up, i took an arrow to the knee...", "post": "okay, not really. bit of background before i start. 16/m and I just joined my high school's cross country team. since our summer practices are not that often, our coach insists that we go for a long run on the days that we do not practice. one day, I went on a long run as usual, and when I hit the uphill, my knee started to hurt. I could still walk, but running was uncomfortable so I had to walk the remaining 5 miles home. after I came home, my knee hurt when I bent it. I don't know if that makes sense or not. like when I sit down, my knee doesent hurt when I sit, but hurts when I get up. I told my friend about my knee pain, he says it was because I ran a downhill slope with my legs straight. when I talked to my coach about it, and he said that I used my knee to absorb shock instead of using my quads. what do the runbros think about my situation?", "summary": "noob at cross country has knee pain. wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_4zeddd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] seeing a guy [35/M] I met online a few weeks ago. How much of an age gap is too much?", "post": "I know Reddit (and most of my friends) are pretty weirded out by the idea of large age gaps in relationships, but I'm curious how much is too much, so to speak. \n\nFor a bit of background- I met this guy online and have been on four dates so far. I like his personality, we have a lot in common (religious/political views, hobbies, etc.), and he's attractive (I would have guessed his age as 26-28). However, he's a good bit older than me and I'm not sure how concerned I should be by that. He claims that he has only dated women within a year or two of his own age in the past and doesn't make a habit of chasing younger girls or something.\n\nI've only ever dated guys who were within about two years of my own age and my experiences with that have convinced me that dating someone a little older might not be a bad thing. I think I have my stuff pretty much together and it can be very hard for me to relate to guys that are still living in a frat house with six other dudes or refuse to cook/do laundry until mom comes over to do it for them. Obviously, I'm not saying that mature, grounded, emotionally stable guys don't exist in the 22-25 age bracket, but they're much harder to find there than in a slightly older set.\n\nI am not looking for someone to marry and have children with (and neither is the guy-- he has never married or had kids and doesn't want to), nor am I necessarily even looking for a long, long-term relationship (relocation is a possibility for me in the fairly near future), though I wouldn't be totally opposed if it turned into that, but I don't want to get involved with a creep that thinks he can take advantage of a younger, less experienced woman or something. What do you think? Does an age gap always have to significantly complicate a relationship? Would you just keep getting to know him and see how it goes? Thanks in advance!", "summary": "I've been dating a guy who is 12 years older than me and feel like it is going great-- we are at similar places in life (even though I'm younger) and have lots in common. But, are relationships with a biggish age gap always a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_3c3a1q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I spent a lot of time and effort...", "post": "I've spent a lot of time and effort blaming everyone else for my 10+ years of depression. My parents didn't take me on vacations, they took me away from my home, they favored my sister, everyone was always yelling at me, my childhood was bad etc etc.\n\nI thought I wanted to go back because it was a better place, i was happier there. While that was true it wasn't the entire truth. I was happier there because i knew who I was and I loved and accepted myself for that.\n\nafter getting beat up a few too many times for something i couldn't understand I did something drastic and somehow convinced myself that I was absolutely normal and just like everyone else. But that wasn't true and it never will be.\n\nI pulled myself out of my delusions and denial. I know who i am, what I am, and I accept that, and above all I longer hate myself for things beyond my control. I love myself now.\n\nMy name is One-oh-one, and for the first time to the public I proudly admit the truth.\n\nEveryone, I'm gay.", "summary": "Now I just have to figure out how to tell my folks =/"}
{"id": "t3_33z99y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 4 months, starting to think I'm just another number", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI've been dating this girl for 4 months now, and long story short it's been great. I shouldn't complain, but yet I keep feeling as if I'm just another number. \n\nLet me elaborate. I'm a virgin and haven't been in many relationships (2) before this. On the other hand, she's been with a few guys and isn't a virgin. (She had some self esteem issues, which may be why she wanted to have sex soon.) \n\nSo now we're getting to the point where we're thinking about having sex. As much as I'd like to, I feel like I'd be just another number. Like it would just be meaningless.", "summary": "I feel like I'd be just another number if I have sex with my girlfriend. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Any advice would be great."}
{"id": "t3_3cs0sz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by turning the radio on.", "post": "Was not today but about a month ago. So one of my close friend's dad dies it was tragic and unexpected, I wasn't at his father's wake because I couldn't go for a reason. So I felt like a dick for not going so I gave him a call the day after the wake and I told him \"If there is any I could do to help just tell me\" And my friend (let's call him Kevin) told me to come over his family's apartment next week because they are moving to a new one. Fast forward a week later, our other friend, Kevin and I are in his SUV to move his stuff to the new apartment, it was getting quite so I asked Kevin if I could turn on the radio, the song that came up was \"See you again\" by Wiz Khalifa. If you guys don't know that song, that's the song that played at the end of Furious 7. ITS A SAD FUCKING SONG ABOUT SOMEONE WHO DIED. I didn't know why my dumbass didn't turn the radio off, my other friend told me to turn it off and I tried to but Kevin said its ok he wants to hear it. So since its his car it's his rule. We get to the new apartment, me and my other friend quickly went out of the car and carried one big box that had something heavy inside, while Kevin stayed in the car and started crying his eyes out. It was the most saddest thing I've accidentally done. All of a sudden he started cracking up when I started crying with him (that shit sad bruh) because he was fucking around with me and said \"its cool dude, I'm just fucking with you\". I didn't know how to respond to that.", "summary": "Made someone accidentally cry, but instead he made me cry."}
{"id": "t3_2fm3fr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [20] of 4 years, has started to hangout with another guy who she started talking to when we were having some issues. Should i be bothered?", "post": "Basically my girlfriend started talking with another guy through facebook and they are hanging out tonight. We live together and he picked her up, she asked me if i wanted to meet him but i told her no cause the situation makes me uncomfortable and here's why.\n\n I have had no reason to have trust issues with my girlfriend until Wednesday, we have been going through a rough patch and we have always been good with communicating out feelings, so we were having a talk about our relationship and things we can work on basically, she says i have been distant with her and she started messaging this guy from high school (im not sure who reached out to who first) pretty much to spite me.\n\n I have no problems with her hanging out with friends even those who are guys, but she is hanging out with a guy who she has been messaging while we were having issues. She says he knows i am her boyfriend but i have never met him and i declined the chance too when he picked her up. Should i have anything to worry about?", "summary": "GF is hanging out with a guy who she started talking to while she and i were having issues of our own."}
{"id": "t3_3datix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28m) am wondering if I can trust my (36f) pregnant girlfriend of 6 months after she wound up pregnant right before I left for a short military deployment or towards the beginning while I was gone...", "post": "My trust is already pretty ruined with her, ever since I saw she was talking to other intrested men and even mentioned meeting with one all while I was work. Of course she said she would never cheat and I choose to believe her, since I love her and couldn't stand the thought of breaking up with her. Now I find out she is a approximately a month pregnant and I was on military leave for the past month. We only had sex once before I left last month, so it is possible it is mine. She is very seceretive about her Facebook and phone which only adds to the suspicion. I'm scared to death I'll find out it's not mine when it's born, but I can't just break it off with her now with no proof of infidelity and the possibility it really is mine. i have no clue what to do, I want to be with her but do not want to be hurt if it turns out she is a cheater.", "summary": "Gf pregnant worried it's not mine if I have a test done when it's born."}
{"id": "t3_ere5p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Redditors,I want your help to create a digital time capsule for the year 2010 that we can look back on in 5 years, your predictions on where we'll be in 2015!", "post": "This doesn't have to be formal. I'd just love to get a ton of people to share their opinions on a ton of subjects relevant to 2010 (e.g. Assange/Wikileaks, President Obama's first 2 years as President of the U.S., thoughts on the wars Iraq and Iran (approx. 8yrs into 'em), the state of our economy. \n\nActually, since so many redditors claim to be financial experts one area or another, so I think would be great to get predictions for the markets, specific stocks, funds, commodities, housing, etc.\n\nWill we be less reliant on fossil fuels? Will more cars in the US be powered by electricity? Do you predict any major natural disasters by 2015? Will another country become a \"superpower?\" Do you foresee in any major wars (hopefully not, though!)?\n\nYou can also write about personal things that only you''ll know about when you re-read them (e.g. did you and S.O. finally get married, did a major decision in the near future turn out the way you expected it,\" and/or did the career change wnd up being the best decision?\n\nThe list goes on...I'd love to see a lot of opinions from Reddit's diverse crowd from around the world. Oh if you think adding certain identifying traits will be relevant to how we interpret these predictions in 5 years, then please include them (e.g. age, country, etc.).", "summary": "I'm making a digital time capsule other redditors should re-read in 5 years (I'll re-post it). Write about anything: politics, opinions, personal, predictions, stocks, etc.*"}
{"id": "t3_21hoxx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know how to talk to my [20/f] boyfriend [24] about our relationship", "post": "I don't know how to talk to my boyfriend about our relationship. Actually, I don't know how to talk to him about anything involving him, because whenever I do, however gently, he gets defensive and says things like \"I don't know why we're dating if you find me that awful\" etc. Whenever I bring something up he makes it seem like I never cut him slack or just look for flaws in him, and I feel bad.\nHe genuinely thinks relationships don't need ANY work at all, and that it's basically a case of \"I'm going to do and act what I feel like most of the time and you're going to have to accept it.\" And when I mention that we have to work on better communication and compromise better, he says \"I don't think a relationship should be like a job, it should be our safe place in the world\" and I suddenly feel like a crappy gf.\n\nI often tell him how I feel about him, what I love about him, compliment him, care about his opinions on things, call him just to hear his voice, etc. Even when I'm crazy busy with school, I'm always available and just try really hard for him to know he's prio 1 and loved, basically.\n\nIt feels like he did all this back in the beginning of the relationship, but now it's just like...gone. He doesn't have a job yet he's too lazy to come meet me after classes are over and hang for a couple of hours, because it feels like too much work for so little time. We hang out every weekend, but things keep coming up on his part so now it feels like we do that every other weekend. I know he loves me for sure, he rejected a job offer that would relocate him just so he could stay here and be with me, but as it is now it feels like it wouldn't have made any difference because 80 % of our relationship is through text anyway. He never initiates anything, because \"I'm the one with a schedule\". \n\nHow do I talk to him about this without him getting offended, and am I overreacting?", "summary": "boyfriend isn't putting much effort into the relationship, thinks theres nothing wrong"}
{"id": "t3_2kd8wk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Customer Crush; What do?", "post": "Okay /r/dating_advice here it goes:\n  I work at a health food store in a pretty large American city.   I'm usually a cashier and so have to stand there and ring people out for my shift.  One of our regular customers is a really cute girl.  She talks to me whenever she comes through me line and the other week when it was slow she stayed at my register after checking out and talked for me  for like 5 minutes or so.  She came in the other night as I was not on register for the night and as she was leaving gave me a big smile and waved and we exchanged pleasantries.  Then as she was walking away she went to look back and dropped something and we made eye contact and smiled again.  I'm pretty bad at picking up stuff like this but my coworker who I was talking to said that \"she was eyefucking the shit out of you dude\" and even as oblivious as I am I still got that vibe too.  Is there a way I can ask her out to a coffee shop or to go grab a beer without seeming creepy?  I've been developing a crush on her and it seems likes she might be developing one on me too.  I realize I'm the cashier in this situation which makes me feel awkward about giving her my number or asking for hers because I don't want to put her in an awkward spot.  So is there a best way to go about this or am I making a mistake?", "summary": "Customer and I might be crushing on each other. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_48g3lf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [50/F] constantly tells me [22/F] that I don't care about my family, bc I won't share my sister's [19/F] secrets.", "post": "My sister has a history of depression and anxiety. She is doing a lot better, we talk a lot and we're pretty close. Tonight, my sister had a little breakdown and my mom went to go talk to her. Afterwards, I talked to my sister about how she was doing, etc.\n\nAfter that, my mom asked me I thought my sister's best friend is a bad influence. I said that I didn't know. I've met her several times and I think she's a great person and takes care of my sister. But she is bipolar and my mom thinks she is the worst.\n\nMy sister tells me stuff that she doesn't want to tell my mom. I wouldn't break my sister's trust by telling my mom these things. Obviously, if they were very serious, dangerous or life threatening, I would. \n\nMy mom asked me what my sister and I talked about. I told her that I didn't want to tell her, because that's what my sister wants. My mom was PISSED. She started saying stuff like, \"do you even care about your family? why don't you care about anyone but yourself? try caring about your family sometimes!!!!!\"\n\nI'm so mad right now I want to vomit. I love my sister very much, and I care about her. My mom constantly pulls stuff like this. Everything has to go her way. And I am an awful, shitty daughter because I don't care about my family, or my sister. I just want my mom to STOP.", "summary": "My mom tells me I don't care about my family because I wouldn't tell her my sister's secrets."}
{"id": "t3_1omq7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some ethical ways to earn money for a class project?", "post": "My roommate is stressing. She and her group members have this huge project in their Entrepreneurship in Engineering class (or whatever it's called). Essentially, they have to raise a crapton of money in order to get a good grade. The group who earns the most money in their class will get an A, the next group an A-...you get the picture.\n\nOriginally, they were going to sell bracelets with our college's popular slogan. Due to time and money constraints, they ended up selling homemade friendship bracelets and small trinkets to tailgaters at our last home football game. Granted, they ran out of goods to sell, but the revenue gained is not nearly enough to compete with other groups.\n\nI suggested a wide range of possible fund-raisers, and was even going to set up a kickstart thing for them, but I don't think this project qualifies for that based on their rules. \n\n**One more thing:** the group *cannot* collect money on behalf of an organization or charity. This has to be an \"original\" idea.\n\nSo, Reddit, any ideas?", "summary": "My roommate needs an ethical way to earn a crapton of money to get a decent grade. We need ideas!"}
{"id": "t3_2kb8ol", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m] My girlfriend (23/f) is clashing with my longtime friends/roommates.", "post": "Hey guys!\n\nI have been dating this girl for 5 months and things are going great! Like really great! I'm in love with her and I see us having a real future together.\n\nI have been living with my childhood buddy and his SO for over 2 years now in a house. When I first introduced them to my gf, things went fine, everyone was cordial. As we began to get more serious, she began staying over with me 3-4 nights a week. (we live nearly an hour away from eachother, so driving back and forth is a hassle). It has been going on like this for a few months now, with no issues. I have taken great care to not infringe upon anyone's space or comfort. Recently, I noticed there was some tension coming from my roommates, less talkative, short one word answers when I tried to talk to them, etc. I tried to ignore it mostly, thought they might have been stressing about something else. It did make me uncomfortable, and my gf felt uncomfortable being around them saying that they were giving her dirty looks so we kept to ourselves even more. Then, a few days ago, I was confronted about her staying over so much and told that she should contribute to bills. I disagreed initially citing that she doesn't take up any of their space and wasn't trying to move in. I did agree to pay for a half of the electricity bill because she takes quick showers when she is here and it takes power to heat the water, but other than that it doesn't affect them at all. (although my female roommate takes hour long showers everyday and surely uses more electricity than both my gf and I combined) Fast forward to today and I've recieved a few texts from my roomies saying that they don't like my gf, they think she is unfriendly, arrogant, and glares at them angrily when she sees them. \n\nI have been friends with these people for a long time, but I don't know what to do to diffuse the situation with them and my gf. Any advice?", "summary": "My gf and friends/roomies don't get along...need help"}
{"id": "t3_3zebug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 /F] with my __date_ [31 M] 3 months, unsure of exclusivity etiquette", "post": "been dating a dude for 3 months. To be honest, it seems more like a FWB type deal. Some days he texts me a lot, some days I barely hear from him. We hang out at least twice a week. Sometimes we go on dates, sometimes we cuddle and watch TV. He has not asked me to be his girlfriend, and told me from day 1 that it takes a while for him to ask someone that.\n\nI posted on Facebook about someone asking me out in a creative way, and he messaged me basically saying \"not that we are exclusive but I see you posting about dates on Facebook, just curious if we should be using condoms during sex?\"\n\nWe never explicitly said we were or weren't exclusive, so I sort of assumed we were. \n\nI'm confused at his angle. If we're not exclusive, if you're seeing other people wouldn't that mean we should be using condoms? Why is it only if *i'm* seeing other people would that be necessary?\nOr is this implying that he isn't actually seeing anyone else?\n\nOh Reddit. How do I proceed?", "summary": "3 months in it is confirmed we aren't exclusive, but guy told me \"if you're seeing someone else we should use condoms.\" Can't tell if he's seeing someone else, not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3aza2k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] unsure of what to say to [25 M] friend who I think likes me. Not mutual", "post": "This is a guy that went to the same college as I did. We have mutual friends. I've seen him at a few parties. Up until a few months ago, we had spoken maybe 4 times. He reached out a few months ago and because I was abroad, asked if we could catch up when I got back. I didn't think anything of it at the time, so I said yes.\n\nWell, that's when he starts ending all of his texts with smiley faces and winks. Always says things like \"I'm just a goofy guy ;)\", \"I'm full of compliments. That's the benefit of me :)\" Like he is trying to sell himself to me. \n\nBegrudgingly, I went to coffee with him. He is honestly a great conversationalist. I would love to just be friends with the guy. I could talk to him for hours but I am not attracted to him and not remotely interested in a relationship. He recently asked me to hang out with him again.\n\nI understand that I need to let him down gently. But he hasn't outrightly said that he likes me. I don't want to come across as the girl who thinks so highly of herself that she has to stop something even if there might not be anything there. I don't want to say to him \"sorry, I'd love to go but I want to make it clear that I'm not looking for a relationship\" and have him say \"dude, I just asked you for coffee. relax\"", "summary": "Super nice guy likes me, I want to JUST be friends but don't know how to make that distinction to him without sounding like a bitch."}
{"id": "t3_18kctt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(27/f) meets awesome (25/m) on a plane two months ago, can't stop thinking about him. Maybe because of how we met was movie like, Don't want to think about him anymore, help.", "post": "During a stop over in Dubai going to London, I see this cute guy at the waiting area. I sit next to him, I made an excuse to talk to him so I asked if our flight got delayed. He immediately introduces himself and we hit off right away. Close to boarding time I ask him where he was seated, coincidentally his seat was next to mine. Hopeless romantic me took it as a sign. The flight was about 8 hours but it only seemed like an hour. We talked most of the way and we just clicked. He drank his whiskey as I drank my wine. I asked him \"when does the narwhal bacon?\", he answered at midnight m'lady\" He had a redditors sense of humor, I just knew he was. I haven't liked or was interested in anyone in such a long time. I felt like I was meant to meet this guy. I felt like I could be myself around him. I felt like I was in the movies. \n\nBefore we landed we exchanged information, we just kept texting each other, we also spoke on the phone, and I just knew I was in love. It seemed like he felt the same. I lived in a different town just an hour away but I didn't have time to see him yet. We kept in touch. As the weeks go by I confessed that I liked him.(I was already in love) \nHe wrote back that he liked me too but jut got out of a relationship and was not ready yet. I was sad. After the month and a half he just got really busy with Uni and just slowly did not contact me anymore.  \n\nI have met other guys here and there, but it's him I can only think of..he has my heart, I feel like I was supposed to meet him. I just don't understand why it couldn't work out. He doesn't even text me anymore. How do I get over this? It's silly because I only met him once about two months ago and I just know that I love him.", "summary": "Meet guy at the airport coincidentally seated next to him on plane, fell in love with him, confessed that I liked him, he wasn't ready for a relationship, just got out of one, now barely contacts me anymore, I can't get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1k5qal", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I (20/F) break it off now or wait for his (22(M) for his response", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and the first four were spectacular. It was the best relationship I ever had. However, he started to get very distant. While he was extremely affectionate and sexually active, now it's completely gone. I've asked him what's wrong and he said nothing's wrong. He's not stressed or depressed. Everything was just fine.\nA couple nights ago, I had a breakdown over a personal incident and he just looked me and eventually left the room without saying anything. He just didn't do anything and just went to bed like it didn't even happen.\n\nThe next morning, I was already stressed about that personal incident and stressed about his atitude that I full on sat him and down and told him that I felt that he is very uninterested in our relationship as of late and I'm wondering why he was still in it if he didn't feel the same way. He finally said that he doesn't know what he wants anymore and that he's sorry that he hasn't treated me well lately but he doesn't know what to do. And then he said I have to think about the reasons why I'm still in this relationship. I nodded and left and have made the decision to give him space until he decides to contact me with whatever he says.\n\nBut I'm no idiot. That response looks like a huge hint to breaking up but should I give him space and wait for his response or should I just break it off now?\nHas anyone had any good experiences like this?", "summary": "Boyfriend says he needs time to figure out reasons on why he's in the relationship and why he feels so uninterested and I'm debating whether to wait or break it off myself."}
{"id": "t3_2e28ty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] falling for my fwb [22 M]", "post": "I've been seeing this guy for maybe 4 months now and I'm starting to have feelings for him. At first it was just hooking up, now we actually go out and have dinner or watch movies. But it always ends with me going his house. When it comes to going out, I offer to pay for myself but he insists on paying for me. We've talked about our past relationships and have gotten to know each other. We have a lot in common. I didn't think it would go as long as it has so far. \n\nI've been considering telling him that I like him, but I'm scared that I'll lose what we have. Need your input on what I should do. Please help!!!!", "summary": "Falling for my fwb, considering telling him but scared to."}
{"id": "t3_1t0t55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F, 21] fiance's [M,24] brother in law [30's?] has been texting me. I'm getting a weird feeling..", "post": "I'm gunna try to keep this short. I've been dating my boyfriend sense I was 15 in high school and all through college. I've know his brother in law. We'll call him M for the entire time. I was there through the pregnancy and the birth of his child who is now 3. He's always been very sweet. Giving me hugs and complimenting me from time to time. We've always had each other's numbers. \n\nHe's been texting me more, he used to text me just if he needed something. The other day, he kissed me on the cheek twice (which is normal in Hispanic cultures) but something just felt weird about it. He wants help in buying a Chirtmas present, but he won't tell me who. I just get a weird feeling, but at the same time I feel like I'm jumping to conclusions, so I want to continue texting him to see if his intentions are purely friendly.\n\nMy fiance doesn't like his brother in law because he feels like he's an \"ass hole\", though he's never been mean to me and I've never seen he act rude. So he would be bothered by me texting M, but I want to find out the truth. Is this wrong?", "summary": "I've been texting my fiance's brother in law (M). I get a weird feeling from him, but I want to find out if his intentions are purely friendly before I jump to conclusions. My fiance and M don't exactly get along, but I want to find out the true. Is this wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_30iaky", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Probably going to get laid off in May", "post": "Wall of Text incoming,\n\nThe company I have worked at for 6 years is, how to phrase this...\"is moving in a different direction.\" My position I was just put into 3 months ago is being eliminated. Some promotion...\nI am not unaccustomed to this however, it happens a lot where I work (although this was a bit quick). You lose your spot they move you to a different spot.\n\nThis time is different though. Instead, it is being replaced with a position that has a fancier title and pay increase. Job duties do not really change from what I am currently doing other than you get some keys to the building.\n\nSound great, I am in role already and I have doubled department performance since coming on board. The unfortunate thing here is that the job I was hired to do 3 months ago, the job that is just getting a title change and some keys, is some how so vastly different I possibly couldn't do it according to my General Manager. \n\nHe said to apply but feels there are \"better candidates\" available...yes the ones who you didn't hire in the first place... For the most part am utterly dumbfounded. I know who upper management is eyeing and this candidate has the gall to try and give me advice on how to get a different lower position I had 2 years ago which frankly I am just not interested in doing again at another location so I can stay on with the company.\n\nWondering if I should stick it out with said company or probably look else where. I have a BA in History (no teaching cred) and this job was nice but feel like it has made me complacent. It doesn't require a degree and pays less that $18/hr. I have worked there since being in college and at this point I am just tired of it all, I am supposed to get a severance (something minuscule I think like $5k-$6k) if I don't find a suitable spot by end of May. I am worried that will dry up with unemployment in approx. 6 months if I don't find another job fast enough. Catch is no severance unless I finish my job until the deadline in May. My managers seem like they'd hate to see me go but at the same time are encouraging me to look externally.", "summary": "Losing my position in company for 2nd time in a year due to restructure. Hoping for Success Baby scenario (Lose job, find another better paying job, and leave with golden parachute) Could get severance but have to work until deadline possibly cost me other jobs. Wondering if I should bite the bullet and take a lesser position if I am not accepted for the new one (no severance, less pay), walk away and hope to find a job elsewhere (severance and possibly a better job but might extinguish funds before I find one). "}
{"id": "t3_4mawb4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16/M] ex-girlfriend [16/F] broke up with me a while ago and I'm now just realizing how shitty it was.", "post": "My ex-girlfriend dumped me a while ago and I'm having some trouble processing it...\n\nI was on vacation in Hawaii in late March and during that time we were texting/snapchatting all the time and everything seemed like it was going great (we had been dating for about four months at this point). Out of the blue she said that she wasn't comfortable being together anymore and was having a lot of trouble with her anxiety and dumped me over text. Keep in mind we were 5,000 miles away from each other and she texted me on April Fools Day, so obviously I was tossing and turning deciding whether it was a prank or not.\n\nSoon after she texted me (I wrote a short reply), I saw she posted on her snapchat story a photo of she and her friends smoking weed, meaning she *got stoned immediately after texting me*.\n\nShe texted me back and after ignoring her she explained to me that she specifically texted me because she had trouble breaking up with me in person before and she was being purposefully insensitive so it would be easier for her.\n\n**Here's where I have a problem with everything she did.**\n\n * I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety, so her being insensitive wrecked me. The fact that she expected me to understand her anxiety and didn't think about my problems at all was extremely selfish.\n\n * She said that she wasn't in a comfortable place to be in a relationship, yet a few weeks later she would *not* stop talking about how she really wanted to be in a relationship and how she needed to be with someone.\n\n * She offered to become fwb almost immediately after breaking up, leading me to believe she was only interested in my body.\n\n * Most of the time we texted I was talking dirty to her so she could get off, yet when I asked for her to do the same thing she did a couple lines and said she \"wasn't my bootycall\".\n\nAny advice? Not really sure whether to approach her or to do anything. Sorry for the rant.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend broke up with me in an extremely shitty way and I'm having trouble processing it."}
{"id": "t3_30us0x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying 'hello' to a little girl", "post": "This happened several months ago. Me and some friends had just gotten out of a chinese restaurant, and were walking to the spot we were to get picked up at. We pass by a guy and his little girl, so I say to the girl \"Hello little child!\". I'm 14, so I probably didn't look like a pedophile, but I take 3 steps, and the guy grabs the back of my shirt. This brick of a man-bear spins me around and yells \"Did you just call my daughter a slut child?!\". I stammer an explanation, and he eventually lets me go. We're walking away, and I hear him tell his daughter \"Don't be like that guy, he's a bad person!\".", "summary": "Sasquatch thought I called his daughter a slut-child."}
{"id": "t3_yxywe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit: Can you reconcile philosophical differences and conflicting aspirations with your SO?  How?", "post": "My girlfriend, who I've been dating for almost two years, is adamantly against having children at any point.  While I do not want to have kids at this very moment (we are both 21 y/o seniors in college) it has always been a very important relationship goal of mine.  I have always been a father figure, and I love kids.  From watching over my sister during my parents divorce to several summers spent as a camp counselor for kids ages 8-10 I have always enjoyed acting as a surrogate parent.  It never occurred to me that someone could not want children.  We have been putting off this serious talk for some time.   Last night we had a large fight and this point came back to the surface.  I don't know if we can have a future together, which breaks my heart.  Is this the kind of thing most people can find a solution for or at least come to terms with?  If you can, then how should I approach this problem?", "summary": "Gf doesn't think she will ever want kids.  Is this something people can work through?"}
{"id": "t3_3kcbu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 3 months, barely eats or drinks water and frequently gets headaches.", "post": "Today she ate an apple and some spinach. It's now almost 10pm and for the last hour (I've been studying all day so I've been with her for an hour) she's been complaining about a migraine. I keep telling her she needs to eat and drink and she won't say anything but that she needs advil or excedrin, even after I gave her one of my hydrocodone pills (right when I got to her place) because she seemed so miserable when I walked in the door. Only after telling her over and over to eat and being inattentive when she brought anything else up did she decide to heat up some chicken and eat it with a piece of bread. My worry is that she does this all the time, eating what I would guess is around 400 calories a day, except on days when I nag her she probably eats up to 1500 calories max, with days on exception where she will just eat a whole lot. Those days are about once or twice a week, when she's either really high or fucked up. What do I do? I don't get why she doesn't realize she's hurting herself :( Also, for a long time I didn't nag her or say anything because I didn't want to offend her but now I care too much", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't eat or drink, has side effects, doesn't understand the connection, stubbornly refuses to help herself despite my clear, consistent, calm, and thoroughly logical protests."}
{"id": "t3_1mki09", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Never felt this sad before", "post": "My ex (25m) and i (21f) have been broken up for 1 1/2mth after a relationship of 3 yrs. We have seen eachother three times during the break up and always end up having sex, mostly because he initiated all the time,  always saying he misses me and all that crap. We saw each other on sunday. Drank a couple of beers wich lead to sex, wich i regreted next morning.  And that same day he told me how he would. Never get back with me. It broke my heart to know this after knowing that i never did anything so wrong like for him to say such thing; i always loved him dearly and eventhough i did commit mistaks, never to such degree. He ended up the relationship because he felt he needed.  space after a month. of finding out i lost the baby we were all waiting for. We also lived together for about 4 months onlu.    But now he is saying and asking what i would do if he got with someone else,  i would be devastated and i would ask why didnt he tried with me again. But he only Said that he wouldnt get back with me for no certain reason. He also. said he would rather start fresh with someone else. He did cheated on me. weeks before breaking up. But trust me this hurts me way more than that.  If he ever comes back i dont think i could forgive this, i dod aslked if he would of liked to start over and take things slow since i have never preassured him to marry me or anything like that but he said no. \nI know i need to keep NC with this person, wich i will now, but how do i get through such sadness ive never felt before?  I just want to wish him the worst but i cant wish that to anybody.", "summary": "feeling depress after ex saying he is never coming back"}
{"id": "t3_jpjt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Massive regret in my past might make me lose her.", "post": "Hi guys, throwaway account, need some advice.\n\nI'm 20, I've been seeing this girl for 3 months. A couple of weeks ago she went away and isn't back for another 2 weeks. We aren't 'official' because she wanted to wait until she was back for that.\n\nI told her I love her a little while ago, she told me she loves me the last time we were together before she went. It was possibly the best moment of my life. Certainly the happiest I've been for years.\n\nI have fallen for her completely, and she feels strongly about me as well. BUT. A few years ago I was depressed and confused about my sexuality. I thought I might be gay so I went out with a guy for a while. It turned out to last for nearly 2 years. But now I can see that it was just for the comfort of being wanted by someone. I now regret that more than anything, it was a huge mistake and I'm just not gay. I wish it hadn't happened and I wish that nobody knew, but they do. And I suspect that someone will let it slip to her.\n\nShe deserves to know, but I am terrified that I will lose her if I tell her. I love her, and I can't stand the thought of not having her. To the point that I've not been sleeping and have been worrying to the point that I've been sick. If I tell her now I could lose her, if I keep it secret and she finds out later then I get her for a while but then she'll leave.\n\nBut it's an act of extreme trust to tell her this, right? So if she thinks about it for a bit, she'll see that I know I've made a mistake but that she is the one I want, right?\n\nHow the hell am I supposed to keep her?", "summary": "I messed up in my past and am terrified that she will leave when I tell her."}
{"id": "t3_16q7pe", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Boyfriend [25/m] of 1.5 yrs wants to break up, then decides to take a break instead. I'm so confused...", "post": "My boyfriend [25/m] of 1.5 years and I [23/f] have been up and down for quite a while now. I'm much more of the needy and attached one, but I came into this with a lot of trust issue baggage from a previous relationship. He also assumes that I'm just going to go back to my party girl ways that I was living like before I met him.  Our trust issues, my depression problems, and that fact that we are complete opposites have all been sources of conflict. Both of us are stubborn and each have our controlling sides in some ways, but I am much more willing to give in than he is.\n\nOur last fight we got in to was particularly nasty. He gave us some space and came over finally to break up with me. He's too nice and I'm his first true relationship so whenever he gets to this point, we convince ourselves it can be sorted out. This time we're taking a month long break, not to date anyone else or have any physical relationships, but to figure out both our own heads and see if we both truly want this. We'll occasionally talk, but nothing too extravagant. When he left, he couldn't tell me he loved me and I think thats the part that is killing me the most. Do you think this is even worth it anymore, or are we both trying to not be the bad guy and hold onto something that just isnt there?", "summary": "My boyfriend of 1.5 yrs and I are taking a break, not to see other people but to figure out our own heads. He couldnt even tell me that he loved me anymore when he left. Are we just buying time before the end?"}
{"id": "t3_xqnam", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "A question for all of you winners who have reached your goal weight.", "post": "I'm currently on my way down from my all-time high weight of 175.8. I'm 5'6 so I know that doesn't sound all that high, but I felt like crap and I was eating terribly and not working out. I've been running 3-4 times a week for about 30 minutes and just finished my first 5K today! \n\nI'm down ten pounds since the end of May with 10-15 more to go, and I'm motivated and confident now, eating about 1600 calories a day and tracking all of my food, but I'm really concerned about what will happen when I hit my goal weight. I've lost a little weight in the past but as soon as I got stressed, I gained it all right back. How have you managed to keep the weight off once you've reached your goal?\n\nAlso, I've been researching how many calories I'd need a day to maintain my weight and finding that that number falls around 2100 calories per day. Wouldn't eating that many calories make me regain all of the weight I'd have lost? It seems like a lot to me! How many calories do you eat a day to maintain your weight, and has eating your so-called \"maintenance number\" caused you to regain?\n\nAny wisdom would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Lost weight, more to go, concerned that \"maintenance calorie level\" will cause me to regain when I reach my goal"}
{"id": "t3_v6joo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] Fling with LD girl faded but always thinking about her", "post": "Okay, I don't really need advice per se, but I find myself thinking about this at least every other day. I met a girl out of town and it was great. We had a little fling, I went back to see her a couple times, she came to see me. We had a great time. She's awesome etc. We live far away (5 hour drive) and it would never work out. We used to text back and forth but eventually she faded out texting me back. Didn't want a relationship etc. I understood this and knew I was being a little silly but I was just running with it. No fallout, no bad times, just fade away. This was a little over a year ago now. The problem is I've never been happier with anyone else in my life. I find myself thinking about her almost everyday, and the urge to just let her know how I feel, and that I wish her the best (I never say anything.)  I usually just try to write it off as missing the special feeling of that fling. I've had other girls since, and I've got active prospects and a booty call... so it's not that I'm lonely/obsessed. However, these aren't fulfilling any emotional holes (maybe I am lonely.) I say this because I keep telling myself that's all it is -- missing that good feeling that she gave me.\n\nMy only problem is I feel it so strongly I want her to know. I know she won't care -- actually I'm afraid she will and react negatively. I'm sure she's totally moved on and it wasn't that significant to her, but I feel it so strongly I just want to let her know someone out there cares for her, but I don't want her to think I'm some kind of creepy stalker for coming out with this a year later.\n\nI probably still won't say anything and will let this post satisfy me for now. I just needed to get this out somewhere, but what do you think? Will it brighten her day or freak her out?\n\nI told myself I could marry her the day after I met her and I still feel that way even though I think marriage is ridiculous... I got it bad", "summary": "Probably in love with someone far away that doesn't reciprocate the feeling but want to let her know without weirding her out"}
{"id": "t3_1do8ts", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Losing innocence.", "post": "Hey Reddit\n\nLately I've been really stressed out, I'm seventeen and and it feels like I forgot the whole childhood thing. It's just kinda passing me by, I can see it pass by, but i find it really hard to capture it. \n\nSome background info, my mom suffers from multiple mental disorders, ranging from bipolar to schizophrenia. This has been extremely hard on me and my family, we've done our best to help her for years, but she just doesn't want to cooperate. At first, at the beginning of the development of her disorders my dad thought he could take care of it himself. He didn't want to bring anyone in in to it because he felt it was his fault that my mother got this illness. The reason for this is because, he brought her here to Sweden, and that was when she started to get sick. Skip forward a few years and my mom and dad divorce. Dad just couldn't handle it. Dad bought and paid for a new apartment for her and her parents, my grandparents help with money too.\n\nAs time goes by my sisters (both older than me) make the decision to stop seeing her. Leaving me the only one left to visit her on weekends and so on. Its hard to explain how it is to be a child to this mom, her bipolar disorder sometimes makes her very \"liberal\" with money, meaning that she thinks its a good idea to spend a lot. So naturally my reaction is to hinder her, because she doesn't have the economy. She can never hold a job for more than two months, even though she has a impressive degree and so on, shes just to... wild i guess. I just can't enjoy spending time with her, It feels like i always need to lookout for her.\n\nAfter a while I just couldn't take it anymore, i gave up on her too. I feel horrible. She has no one, and i left. Its like nobody cares anymore, and i was the last straw.", "summary": "Parenting your parent, kills innocence."}
{"id": "t3_cf9jf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why the number 12?", "post": "I have a theory about where the idea of a \"dozen\" came from and I'm wondering if anyone knows if it's correct.  A search just brings up lots of information about bakers dozens, but I can't find anything on my theory.\n\nMy parents grew up in India and I always see them counting on their knuckle segments.  If you use your thumb as a marker, you can count 12 knuckle segments on that hand.  I always assumed that this is where we got a dozen from.\n\nThe number 60 also comes up a lot (60 minutes, etc.).  I always assumed that that was because the other hand was used to count five cycles of 12, giving us 60.\n\nAnyone know if that's correct?", "summary": "12 knuckle segments on the fingers of one hand (excluding thumb), other hand has 5 fingers and 5x12 = 60 (another prominent number)"}
{"id": "t3_13085n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[m16] am confused where to go with gf [f16] of a year", "post": "Just wanted to ask a question that's been drifting on my mind recently and get some other opinions to look at. Just some background so you get the picture, I've been with this girl for about a year now. She's my first what I would consider \"serious\" girlfriend, seeing as I was incredibly shy and never really approached girls in any way other then a friend. Soon after I met this girl, I quickly fell in love, as she was the complete package to me. Fit, funny, caring, you name it she had. I liked her a lot, and she stuck with me when things got bumpy. Even to this day, I can't say I don't love her. \n\nEver since meeting this girl, I've shot up in confidence and broken out of my shell. I'm much  more outspoken and I feel like I can approach people I'm interested in talking to and hold a conversation. And this is were the problem comes in.\n\nI feel as with this new found confidence, I need to go out and talk to more girls. I want to get to know other girls better. In a way, this sort of ties in to what our relationship is at this point, me and my gf, which feels as if it has lost that \"it\" factor. Things don't feel the same as they once did. I still love her, but it feels kind of meh. This coupled with the fact that I want to go meet other girls and talk makes me wonder whether I should stay with this girl and continue what we have for easily a long time (I'm very confident in our relationship) or end it, and try to meet other girls?", "summary": "Should I stay with extremely stable relationship which as gotten to some degree stale, or move on and try to meet other girls?"}
{"id": "t3_3uajls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [m23] girlfriend [f23] is going to walk out on me if I don't cut off my other friend", "post": "Halp. I am so conflicted. My girlfriend is long distance a couple of states away.\n\nSome background: I became friends with my girlfriend's old room mate and her friend recently. We have been hanging out, going to bars, grocery shopping every few weeks. I stayed over at their apartment this past weekend after drinking and needing to get up early. Nothing sexual going between me and the other girls at all, they are way too nice and know and respect my relationship with my girlfriend. \n\nMy girlfriend is in town for the holidays and wants to break up with me (and leave early) if I don't completely cut off these two other girls who are just friends. She gave me this choice about 20min ago. What do I do?\n\nMy thoughts are that I shouldn't have to make a decision like this at age 23, but I'm 23 and what do I know?", "summary": "girlfriend wants to break up if I don't completely cut off my other friendship with two really nice people"}
{"id": "t3_16470g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors of the UK and the rest of the EU, a question about cars sold there.", "post": "I'm an avid viewer of TopGear (uk of course), and other british shows. Ive noticed that are I have never seen a single pickup truck on the road. Full sized, medium sized nor compact size. Here in the states, trucks are very popular as you can probably tell. Especially with the blue collar worker and general contractors, the working man. Everyone from the exterminator to the plumber, the contraction worker to the civil engineer use a pick up truck for work. Watching British shows I've noticed that the blue collar worker like the construction worker use vans instead of trucks. Are there no trucks sold in the UK? Also we get some pretty big SUVs here, what are the biggest cars sold in the UK?", "summary": "UK Why you no have pick up trucks? what's the biggest car sold in the UK?"}
{"id": "t3_q5bf9", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I had a little issue with my girlfriend on disciplining our kitten.", "post": "(background) I have a just about year old kitten, no known breed affiliation. We got her free off craigslist from a woman who found a litter of kittens in her garage that needed homes. We the last kitty. Her name is Boop as in the kitten and dog meme \"I boop your nose.\"\n\nShe is obsessed with curtain shade strings. No other string or wire. We have been disciplining her with a spray bottle which has been working well. \n\nSo one night I leave the room to the bathroom for a few minutes and I come back to boop chewing on my girlfriend's headphone strings. These weren't usual wires. They had a fibre coating that felt exactly like curtain strings. So I grabbed her off them by her scruff and sprayed her. I think that was my first mistake, as I should've sprayed her when she was chewing on them, but I quickly grabbed her without really thinking to try to spare the headphones quickly.\n\nHere's the part you're looking for. My girlfriend gets angry understandably. But she thought spraying her wouldn't be enough. She took the wire and dangled it in front of her, inducing her to play and grab it. When boop did, She whipped her with the wire thinking she would correlate the wire with pain. I immediately objected to this and yelled at her. I told her that it was too late to discipline her and that she wouldn't know what she was being physically hit for and that she might correlate the pain to play or to my girlfriend herself. She automatically got defensive and we got in a fight. I scolded her hard and researched on the internet on every reliable resource I could find on cat discipline and all of them said to never physically punish your cat, I knew this beforehand.\n\nSigh.. What do you think of the situation Reddit? What would you have done?", "summary": "girlfriend physically punished our cat after I sprayed her with water."}
{"id": "t3_370wc4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going down on my girlfriend", "post": "Hey guys. Would like to start this one off with an obligatory \"This happened a few days ago, not yesterday\". \n\nSo my girlfriend and I were in the bedroom doing adult things with each other. Unfortunately, my boys decided to arrive a bit early, before my girlfriend had finished, so as I always do, I went down on her so she could come too. After we were done, I laid down beside her and noticed that the condom I was wearing had broke during sex. Panicked, we quickly dressed and ran to the store to grab some emergency contraception. On the way there my girlfriend turns and looks at me and says: \"Yabbadabbadooooo, there was no semen in that condom was there?\"\n\"Well no, it had broke.\"\n\"Didn't you go down on me afterwards?\"\n\nThinking about it still makes me feel sick. That wasn't salvia I noticed. Not. Fucking. Saliva.", "summary": "Inadvertently ate my own creampie."}
{"id": "t3_3k8xfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] live with my long term friend/roommate/coworker [M 20] for 6 years, I'm succeeding at work and now hes jealous.", "post": "I have recently had some major confrontations with my roommate/friend/coworker. Il give you some context.\n\nAfter referring me to his boss, I was given a trial at his job. I got the job and we worked together well until recently.\nWe were both bartenders and now he has been moved to floor staff by management. He obviously hates this and thinks ive been undermining him and that he deserves to be in the bar more than me. Thing is, ive done nothing but work my ass off to make him look good since i was hired on his word. He now resents me. \n\nIve also recently started seeing someone. She makes me want to be a better person and ive started to make changes to reflect that. I no longer smoke cigarettes or weed, I dont drink habitually now and i am taking steps to be more productive, motivated and a generally happier person.\nUpon noticing this, my friend confronted me about it and claims ive become arrogant and walk around like King shit, selfish, and that i would be nothing without him, that i would have gone nowhere without him. That our plans to move together are now gone because he thinks im a piece of shit. He thought i was humble now says everyone at work thinks im an arrogant asshole as well. Basically that ive changed and everyone notices it.\n\nIm sorry, this is part vent and i need to know what to do.\nIve never thought myself above or better than others, i never look down upon people. I do however walk with my head high because i am happier, i have more self respect and confidence and because i am trying to change for the better.\n\nWe still work together, we still live together and things are getting really icy. I ve never had a problem with him and ive always respected him and what he has done for me. Why is he doing this? I dont want things to be this way and i tried to resolve these issues peacefully and calmly but i get nothing but his vitriol and malice in return.", "summary": "Friend now resents me for trying to change for the better."}
{"id": "t3_1nc6aj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] don't understand my ex's [28F] behaviour after she dumped me last week after 5 months.", "post": "About a week or two ago, my ex dumped me because she said she's been depressed and can't be in a relationship. I recently have reason to believe that she is seeing her ex, Even as soon as the day after we broke up, and she's been acting really weird around me (refusing to go to the same parties as me, when at the same party avoids me like crazy, jealous if our mutual friends talk or text me).  I don't really understand the extreme reactions, but I'm also trying not to care much.\n\nIn contrast, I started rebounding a bit (just make outs with girls) but I can't help but feel a little guiltylike I'm doing something wrong to my ex. I realize how illogical that is since she broke up with me and I owe her nothing, but the guilt still creeps in. Help?", "summary": "my ex of 5 months dumped me a week ago and may be hooking up with her ex, but has acting very dramatic/extreme about everything. I also just started rebounding but feel like I'm doing something wrong to my ex."}
{"id": "t3_4tqgk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30M] with my Father [61M] no contact for 6 years, he wants to get back in contact", "post": "This is a tough decision. My Father stopped speaking to me 6 years ago after I looked after my Mother during their divorce.\n\nHe had been emotionally abusive and manipulative towards her for as long as I can remember. It eventually escalated into physical abuse, at which point I lived in my own place and had her stay with me for a while.\n\nShe decided she wanted a divorce. Ever since then my Father stopped speaking to me, I haven't spoken or had contact with anyone on his side of the family since (his side of the family are all very judgmental).\n\nMy siblings, 20s F & 20s M still live with him and he still manipulates them.\n\nI have tried to contact him over the last few years but he didn't want to know. Now all of a sudden my sister told me he wants to get back in contact, I'm not sure whether I want this or not, it's a difficult decision.", "summary": "Father was abusive to Mother, I looked after her during their divorce. Father didn't speak to me for 6 years, now wants contact. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1pdzne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am breaking up with my SO [23M] of 2 years this afternoon and I keep losing my nerve, need some encouragement", "post": "So we have been dating for two years now and all the fire in our relationship is just gone. I don't think I am attracted to him anymore and I would like to start dating other people. Yesterday we had a huge break down because we haven't been having sex lately and he was justifiably upset about it. He basically made me feel bad for not wanting to sleep with him so we did and it was the worst thing ever. I have never felt so gross before, but I hated every second of it and afterwards I just wanted to cry because I could see how exactly opposite he felt about it. \n\nI do not know how to handle this. I think he sees us with a future ahead of us and I just don't. But I keep losing my nerve, and I am terrified of what the future will be like without him. Just because I don't see him in a romantic sense doesn't mean I don't care for him anymore and he is such a huge part of my life that many, many things will change when we break up, such as our group of friends and our living situation. He is my friend but I know there is no way we can be friends after this because I will probably forget all the reasons why we need to break up and we will get back together again.\n\nHe moved to my town to be closer to me about 8 months ago and he really doesn't have anyone here for him besides me. I am afraid to leave him alone. I am terrified to be alone. He is the only person I have ever slept with and he is my best friend. I don't know where to go to do it and I don't know what to say and I don't know how I will get through the next couple of days.", "summary": "I am the worst girlfriend ever and I want to break up with my boyfriend but I am too chickenshit to do it"}
{"id": "t3_gn45f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone from Dallas or has previously lived in Dallas within the past two years please help (details inside)", "post": "Redditors,\n\nA large group of college students (21+) are going to downtown Dallas this weekend for a formal event, and we are looking for something to do during the day on Saturday to keep us occupied. We are looking for something fun to do that would be entertaining to both sexes. The major restraint is that we are unable to drive, so we are forced to use alternative means of transportation (DART, cabs, etc.). If you have any suggestions of places within the downtown area or easily accessible areas through the aforementioned modes of transportation, please let me know. Also, for the likeminded trolls on reddit, please do not suggest Jaguars or Purgatory. Thanks for your help.", "summary": "What the hell is there to do in downtown Dallas during the day besides looking at fish or bumping shoulders with grandparents in museums?"}
{"id": "t3_10d2sx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I cut my scrotum shaving, and had to have my dad look at my balls to see if I needed stitches. What are some stories where you thought it was necessary to forgo pride and dignity but in the end it wasn't necessary at all?", "post": "Basically, I was manscaping around my testicles with an electric razor. I rushed the job and cut myself deep. It bled pretty heavily, so I had to spend my day walking around with toilet paper and gauze wrapped around my wiener. The next day, I woke up and found the bandages soaked, and my underwear was ruined. I decided it was necessary to talk to my dad, who is a doctor, and have him see if I might need stitches or something. It turned out that it was negligible, and he told me I just needed to keep it wrapped and change the bandages frequently, but otherwise the damage wasn't too serious. However, despite my trying to be discreet, pretty much my whole family heard about it. Now my siblings have all the material they need to bring my pride down a notch whenever they so choose.", "summary": "I cut my balls, asked my dad to look at them. Everyone knows."}
{"id": "t3_2cv7xn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23 M] gf [22 F] has become distant and I think I might break up with her. Need advice before Thursday afternoon please!", "post": "This is both our first relationship ever (I know, kind of a late start).\n\nWe first met about a year ago at work. We didn't really talk and she got another job somewhere else before I got the chance to ask her out. I found her on Facebook 6 months later and friended her. I asked her to hang out and we instantly hit it off. I decided to take a risk and a couple of days after we first hung out, I told her that I liked her and that I wanted to get to know her romantically. She said yes and we hung out some more. \n\nA month after our first hangout, I ask her to be my girlfriend and she says yes. 4 months into the relationship we first said \"I love you\" (I said it first). We also have sex for the first time during our 4th month together (both virgins up until this point).\n\nEvery thing seemed to be going great up until about a month ago. She had driven over to my house (we both still live with our parents) and were watching a movie. We had a little misunderstanding and I got upset but I didn't say anything. She could tell though and she ended up getting upset too. She asked me to take her home before we could eat. We talked on the phone that same night, cleared things up, and I drove over to her house to apologize.\n\nSince then, I've felt her becoming a little distant. Her texts aren't as sweet as before, she just kind of responds. I compliment her all the time and she kind of just dismisses them. She used to give me a few compliments but that has pretty much stopped. I know it doesn't sound much but it just doesn't feel the same. I also know couples are supposed to get over the \"honeymoon phase\" but this just felt way too sudden.\n\nLike I said before, this is my first relationship ever. I love her but I know it isn't healthy to be in a one sided relationship. I haven't told her yet but I'm going to drive over to her house tomorrow afternoon so we can talk and figure this out. Please help me, Reddit.", "summary": "Gf seems distant might break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_12fidr", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do I [f/21] learn to nurture and develop my relationship with myself?", "post": "I have not been \"single,\" for more than a month or two, since I was 15 years old. I put single in quotation marks because even in those times of not dating someone, I was developing feelings for someone new. Just to be clear, I don't want this to sound like I went from boyfriend to boyfriend.  I have been in 1.5, 3.5, and 1 year relationships within those 6 years. This is the first month of my adult life, where I am single and have no interest in anyone/have no interest in BEING interested in anyone.\n\nI really want to take this time to focus on myself. In my adult life, I have always had a SO. This has led me to strongly identify with being someone's girlfriend. Now that I'm single, I feel like a part of me is missing (not necessarily the SO that I lost, but more the idea that I don't have SOMEONE). I know that this is an unhealthy mindset to have, and I also know that I have a wonderful opportunity in front of me, to nurture and develop my relationship with myself.\n\nRecently, I have been doing myself the discourtesy of wallowing in self-pity, instead of getting out of bed, leaving my apartment, and learning how to grow on my own. I'm not sleeping well/waking up easily, I'm not focused on my studies, and I'm not taking advantage of great opportunities in front of me. I know the usual advice is \"find a hobby,\" and I'm not rejecting that point -- I have a list of tons of things I want to try/experience/learn, but my problem is that I am literally stuck in my own head and don't know how to start living for myself. I have big aspirations and I'm a very driven woman! Why do I suddenly feel so frozen, when the only thing that's changed is my relationship status?", "summary": "Single for the first time in my adult life.  I want to learn how to be okay with being alone."}
{"id": "t3_51qy68", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Indiana] Someone has sales and withholding tax warrants. Questions about liability and possible fraud.", "post": "Someone I know has tens of thousands of dollars due in Indiana sales and withholding taxes from a small business he owned and ran.  He closed the store a couple of years ago, but the tax warrants are still coming in because he didn't close the accounts properly.  \n\nHe claims that since he has no property, the state can't do anything about it, but I know for a fact that he still has equipment from the store, a vehicle he owns (no loan), and that his wife (married after the store closed) has money.\n\nI'm unsure of the liability of his wife as everything I can find is about spouses married at the time the taxes are incurred.  \n\nI'm also unsure if he put his car in someone else's name so it wouldn't be taken or if that is not considered property.", "summary": "I think someone is committing tax fraud. Is his new wife liable for his old tax warrants?  Should the store property be sold to pay off the taxes or can he keep it?  Is a vehicle paid off considered property? What if he put it in someone else's name to hide it even though it was his for years and he is still using it?"}
{"id": "t3_3t49om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20 M] and a [21 F] that I've been seeing for the last couple months ran into her ex and made everything complicated", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for the last couple months and everything was going smoothly. She is simply amazing and I can't think of anyone else i'd rather be with. I've had a crush on her since I meet her freshmen year and two years later (now) I meet her on tinder and we got off to a great start. We've gone on many dates and things were starting to get more serious between us. I was about to ask her if she wanted to be official last Saturday during a play she asked me to attend with her. But I never ended up going to the play.\n\nApparently Friday night, the night before I was going to ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, she ran into her ex. If I would of just asked her sooner to be my gf or to hang out that night none of this would of happened. So she texted me the next day saying she didn't want to go to the play with me and that she wanted to spend time with her family to think things over. Apparently she said she feels like she might have feelings left for her ex. \n\nSo today was the first time I've talked to her in person and it was definitely heartbreaking to hear this, especially since I was less than 24 hours away from asking her the question. She said that she still likes me a lot and that she needs time to think this over. I know she likes me, but it hurts me that she also has feelings for another guy. What should I do? I feel like if I text her about it that it will only make things worse. She said that maybe by the end of the week she will have decided.", "summary": "A girl I've been seeing ran into her ex and now she is confused about her feelings. She said she still likes me a lot but she also feels like she might still have feelings for her ex. What should I do? (I know I should give her space, but should I still text her about small talk such as asking her how her day has been going?)"}
{"id": "t3_48uoqd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to taste Mace", "post": "So I know what you all may be thinking, no I didn't miss my mouth and hit my eyes with the spray. Now to what actually happened:\n\nSo I live in Harlem, NYC definitely not the safest place in the world. My friend just got a thing of Mace and was showing it to me in a study room at my school. I really wanted to taste it and see how much it would burn. Before spraying it I attempted to take some sort of precaution ie. spray it onto my finger under a desk, and then I would lick the spray.\n\nI now found out Mace does a great job at filling up the container its sprayed in.\n\nAt first I brought the Mace from my finger up to my nose and sniffed, it got all in my eyes and nose and I was on fire. \n\nMy friends were all laughing at me but it soon became a problem for everyone in the room as the room started to fill with Mace. EVERYONE in the room started coughing uncontrollably and tearing like crazy. It is safe to say I will not be allowed in the study room anymore...", "summary": "Found out the power of Mace by spraying it in a small study room; everyone felt the pain."}
{"id": "t3_11m90c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Coworker pooped but didn't wash hands.  Now I can't stop noticing what he touches.  What do I do!?", "post": "While I was on the can today at work someone took the stall next to me.  The guy was making weird poop/fart noises so I looked around his shoe area to see if a badge was sticking out.  Instead I noticed his shoes.  The guy finishes pooping and grabs toilet paper to wipe his ass.  I thought he was finally done and was happy to get back to my pooping, but no luck.  My coworker forces out a couple more poop/fart noises and decides nothing more is coming out and pulls his pants up without wiping.  He leaves the bathroom without wiping...  Towards the end of the day, I also notice him pick up candy from the candy jar and put it back.  I am grossed out.  I do work in a pretty large office.  What is the best way to let him know he needs to wash his hands?!", "summary": "Coworker pooped, didn't wash his hands after wiping."}
{"id": "t3_2v1t64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22, M] wish my girlfriend [21, F] would chip in more for her expensive tastes", "post": "My girlfriend and I (dating 2 years) have very different expectations for what is a reasonable lifestyle. She thinks it's reasonable to go out to eat every weekend (for about $125 for 2), go on expensive trips, and generally live pretty freely. However, neither of us make a ton of money (I make 45K, and she makes 28K + a few hundred/month from her Dad). At first I was the sole contributor, for the past year or so it's probably been a 65/35 split (we split most bills, but I end up with the big ones).\n\nNow, left to my own devices, I will spend ~$1500/month. With her, I end up spending nearly everything I earn. Lately my fixed expenses have gone up a little (night classes, car maintenance, electric bill rising, etc...), and I need to cut the luxury spending, but it's nearly impossible to tell her I'm not going out without some sort of uncomfortable conversation. She generally points to the fact that I make more money than her, but she still gets money from her Dad, and she doesn't have many of the expenses I have (car payments, car/medical insurance, night classes, etc...). \n\nOn top of this, I generally drive her nearly everywhere (work, grocery store, etc...) and she hasn't once offered to pay for gas, nor does she offer to pay for food she eats at my house, or heat when she blasts the heater. She's otherwise a wonderful person, but it makes me uncomfortable that she's so unwilling to take on expenses or downgrade her lifestyle. The odd thing is, she wasn't spoiled when she was younger. She never had to lift a finger (didn't even know how to do laundry until college), but her Dad is incredibly frugal, so maybe this is her making up for lost time.\n\nAnyway, how do I bring this up in a reasonable way? With Valentine's day coming up, I feel like I'm expected to drop a few hundred easy, but I'm starting to dip into savings as it is with the new big expenses. Anyone been through anything similar?", "summary": "My gf has expensive taste, but doesn't contribute her piece of the pie. With new expenses looming, I can't afford her shenanigans. How do I bring this up in a way she'd understand?"}
{"id": "t3_urxnh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, if a company promises to show up on a date and doesn't, what should I do?", "post": "So, I contracted with a company to install hardwood flooring in my house.  They were supposed to come a week ago, but the day before I called to confirm and they moved the date to today. I took off work for last week, and again for today so I'd be present for the installation.  Today, they said they were going to show up at 9:30 in the morning, and they haven't shown up yet.  I've been calling the company over and over again, getting voicemail. When they do call me back, they just promise me that they're on the way, and that the truck broke down.  I highly doubt this as it's been five hours since that very first phone call, and if the truck really did break down, couldn't they get a new one?\n\nI'm reluctant to call and cancel because the company made me put down a 50% deposit.  I was stupid enough not to include a date on the contract, and I know that if I record all the promises the company makes over the phone, the recordings might not be admissible.  \n\nReddit, help me please!", "summary": "Carpeting company tells me they'll show up today, turns out to be a no-show.  What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2tgira", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] plan on asking out a close friend [18F]. How should I go about it without looking like just another jerk?", "post": "I met this girl from my college back in November. We text very often and have conversations about our common interests late into the night. It's safe to say we are close friends. She seems to trust me a lot too, and has told me some rather personal things. \n\nI want to ask her out but it's a little difficult. It's hard to get alone time with her because some friend or two always shows up. I'm not very fond of a person in her group of friends so that complicates things too. She seems to like someone else, but that other person is in a relationship and doesn't treat her very well (she knows this). \n\nShe also doesn't take compliments very well in the sense that she doesn't believe she's attractive, intelligent, or whatever good trait you can think of. I guess she might be fishing for compliments, but at the same time she doesn't like how other guys are always trying to get with her. \n\nI'm worried that if I ask her out she'll just dismiss me as another jerk who only wants to sleep with her. How should I ask her out? \n\nAlso, I don't want to wait too long in case I miss my opportunity. I feel sometime in less than a week or two would be the optimal time since it's early in the semester (less work) and there aren't other people that could be potential competition.", "summary": "Want to ask a friend out but it's hard to get alone time with her, she has a low self esteem, and she's always trying to fend off other guys. How should I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1oh7mk", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "New kitten acting oddly. Does anyone have experience with teething kittens, orphaned kittens in particular?", "post": "Hello /r/pets;\n\nI have a little lady named [Franklyn Weatherbee] We rescued her very young after she was found under my friends truck. We think she was about 2-3 weeks old, she barely had teeth, bright blue eyes and was about a 1/2lb. Now she is almost three months, and has been wonderful. Super sweet, mostly a good little thing, and I've grown to think she is fantastic. \n\nEarlier tonight, she went to chew on something and meeped a little. She then spent some time walking around, sad meowing, pawing a little at her mouth and licking like something was stuck in her teeth. It freaked me out, but she stopped after a few and seemed fine, until she tried to eat some dinner (wet food). Same thing again, sad mews, weird licking, seemingly in pain. She wouldn't let me look in her mouth, which is weird because she usually doesn't care. \n\nMy boyfriend thinks she is teething, and that it is worse because she was orphaned at such a young age. Does anyone have any knowledge on this? We're taking her to the vet first thing in the morning, but I'm quite worried and am curious as to what you all think, since you've been so great in the past. Thank you!", "summary": "Kitten making sad sounds, pawing at her mouth, now is hiding under the couch. We suspect teething, but I'm still worried. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_2ogok8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking at my boyfriend's phone", "post": "This just happened 20 minutes ago...  \n\nBackground: I've been dating my boyfriend for a year, on and off. I am 12 weeks pregnant this coming Monday. I thought my boyfriend was my best friend.  \n\nAnyway, prior to this fuck up I was having a good night with my boyfriend and some friends. We took a selfie. I asked him to send it to me, but he was intoxicated and forgot. Fast forward to him passing out at my house I grab his phone and go to his messages. I forward the selfie, but... I let curiosity get the best of me. Ended up reading a bunch of messages. Boy, I wish I hadn't...  \n\nNot only is he cheating on me, he flirts with multiple girls and he wishes a girl named \"Starr\" was his and in my place. His gallery is full of nudes he's been sent or saved from girls profiles on Facebook...  \n\nSo, I'm pregnant with his child and I'm fucking hurting. I'm back to questioning my insecurities when I was just getting over them. Yeah. I'd say I fucked up hard, guys.", "summary": "My eggo is preggo and I found out my so called \"bestfriend\" of 2 years and my boyfriend of a year is diddling multiple pooters and wish another girl was me instead"}
{"id": "t3_3s1m25", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "The most amazing feeling in the entire world.", "post": "From my own experience, the most amazing feeling in the entire world is kissing someone a person has always been dreaming about one's entire life and it wasn't a dream!  All my life, I have never gotten a chance with anyone I have had a really huge crush on.\n\nAnd when I finally met my long time far away childhood friend from the Internet, it was amazing.  I just wish it wasn't short-lived.  I guess I'm one of the few people in the entire world who still thinks how many years you have known someone is still important.\n\nI don't know what is wrong with my friend and why he is acting the way he is when we have waited our entire lives just to meet each other in person.  \n\nI know we both have our quirks, but who doesn't have quirks?", "summary": "Hoping I would get to kiss my long time Internet friend I've always longed for more than just five times, but for now I don't know what's going on with him.  I work so hard for what I want and it never works out...I never got married because I was always thinking about him."}
{"id": "t3_2v1fe6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by getting thrown up on by a 10 year old boy", "post": "Tifu, and unlike many on here this actually happened today, about 2 hours ago. \n\nSo first a little background info: I'm a 17 year old boy with the large ambition of becoming an orthodontist. Lucky for me, I got a job as an orthodontic assistant; a job that I truly enjoy. However today, I experienced a 1st. \n\nWe were cementing in a palate expander on this young boy. We've had a bad experience with him gagging before while we were in his mouth, so we always tell his mother to avoid feeding him before appointments. So we get through the entire procedure without a hiccup, everything went extremely smooth. We start to sit him up in the chair. Now I don't know if it was the high speed that those dentist chairs incline at or what, but this boy began to vomit. He threw up on the floor, on the chair, in his lap.. All over the place. So, my first reaction is to go get a garbage bucket. I run and get it and hold it under him. Phew, at least it's all going in here.. But wait.. Projectile vomit! Before I had time to react both my forearms were covered in warm, chunky, what looked like vegetable stew. I froze. He froze. The Dr. froze. The little boy made eye contact with me, said he was sorry, and spit out a last little bit on my hand (for good measure). \n \nI got cleaned up, helped the Dr. clean up, and then went home took an hour long shower.\n\nIn the end, it was bad but I don't get too bothered by this kind of stuff so it could have been worse. And hey, I still wanna be an orthodontist. \n2/10, would not get thrown up on again.", "summary": "Tried being a good ortho assistant by holding the garbage for a puking patient. Ended up getting covered in puke."}
{"id": "t3_40xu0g", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "TIFU By depositing cash for my moms bank account", "post": "So I went to deposit cash at her bank branch, but the bank machine does not count the money for you, you give it a number of how much you deposit and it accepts the amount. At first I was confused because my bank branch's machine counts the money right away when you deposit. So my dumbass made a deposit 3 times thinking that the cash I put in would be corrected if I enter a different amount from the deposited cash. But the machine accepts the amount you type in. I deposit 100$ cash, but I type in 200$ it accepts 200$. Balance was 200, deposited 600$ cash but i typed in the wrong amount and the machine accepted the wrong amount and didnt correct this by counting the cash. So now we told the branch about this, and they pretty much said can't help you, and adjusted the balance prior to the deposit and basically took the deposited cash and flagged the account.", "summary": "went to deposit cash. machine doesn't count cash, it takes the amount you  type, even if the cash amount is different. Bank took the cash, and returned the balance to the amount prior to the deposit and didn't return our cash."}
{"id": "t3_4ep19p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Forogt today was that date", "post": "so, our school has these late starts every once in a while. Instead of classes starting at the regular 8:20 they will start 2 hours later at 10:20. When i woke up this morning to go to school I completely forgot we had a late start. I got ready and left for the transit bus stop. When the bus arrived i got on and imediatly noticed that there were no students on the bus other than my one friend at the back. When i asked him where everybody is he told me there was a late start and he forgot abput it as well. So we had to ride till the next terminal get off and go back the other way back home, then repeat going to school an hour later", "summary": "forogt late start, ended up repeating comute twice"}
{"id": "t3_2zpfnj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M22] just got told by my FWB [F21] that I should check myself for Chlamydia, and she swears she hasn't slept with anyone besides me, should I believe her?", "post": "So I just got out of 5+ year relationship and began sleeping with a FWB I had from a previous break up. From my understanding she's a good girl and her only partner has been me in years. She swore to me that I'm the only partner she's had and then asked me if I've been sleeping with multiple partners, which I haven't. She also said she got checked 4 months ago (wonder why?) and was good. I've only slept with her and my ex gf. My ex gf previously got a doctors check up and Pap smear around January when we were together so I know she didn't pass it to me if I were to have it. The FWB also has anemia, idk if that might affect the way she fights off infection or not, but the FWB is telling me if she didn't mess around and that if I didn't then maybe she's contracted it from a toilet seat or drink or something and her body couldn't fight it off. I want to believe that that is the case but I have my doubts. She's a really good girl and I'd never expect her to sleep around with multiple guys and put me at risk but I'm sick to my stomach with that fear.", "summary": "FWB tested positive for Chlamydia and is swearing on her life that I'm her only partner. And is saying that maybe I'm sleeping around (which I'm not), should I believe her or should I cut her off?? I'm sick to my stomach at the thought of the situation."}
{"id": "t3_37iu1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F17] colleague [F40~] and I have had the same guy [now M69] come on to us. Should I do something about him?", "post": "Small world!\n\nI saw a physio a while back, long story short I stopped seeing him due to extreme uncomfortableness; he was very verbally and to a point physically inappropriate with me, flirty, offered my free sessions and come-back-when-the-store-is-closed sessions. He is 69 right now, married, but he also doesn't look like an old man, he could look 50.\n\nAnyways he's been at his physio job for literally a life time, he sees so many people, in and out, everyday, of all ages.\n\nSo it turns out my colleague is his ex, of a 2.5 year long affair (he wasn't 69 when with her). She says they met at his studio, he was very flirty etc, just like with me, so the only difference is she said yes and I said no.\n\nNow, taking into account my experience, the entire situation of his and Mrs poor wifey, should I do something? \n\nI almost want to do something, I'm 17 and I've seen what he did to me, how many other people is he doing this to, of what age and how far does he go? What if he over steps, and could have been stopped but no one reported him? Poor wife being cheated on more than once I assume too :( \n\nWhat do you think reddit?", "summary": "Male physiotherapist came onto me, made me extremely uncomfortable. He's had affairs with a colleague of mine, and apparently him being so flirty is expected of him. He sees people of all ages, what if he's doing this to anyone and everyone? What happens if I don't report, and so many other people get put in my position? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_29092z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [22/M] ruin my chances with her [21/F]? Could also use advice for a potential date with her.", "post": "I'm on my phone so sorry for any potential formating issues. \n\nI've been into a girl on my MA course for some time now. However, although my friends point out that she is into me and flirting, I never seem to notice it, and simply pass it off as her being friendly. \n\nEvery couple of weeks we go to a new restraunt together, and we have no problem filling our time together with laughs and conversation, but I'm concerned that they are just viewed as a friendship thing. Very little touching, for example, goes on. \n\nTonight we met up with some friends at another person's house to hang out. At the end of the night, as it was pouring down with rain, she said I could stay at hers. I've done this before and it's been pretty innocent. Although I was planning to, I realise I couldn't afford a ticket (she did say I could pay her back) back home so I said no. I'm worried she might take this as an out right rejection for any potential relationship. Did I fuck up by turning down the offer? \n\nShe is going home for a week tomorrow, and when she gets back, I've agreed to pick her up and we're going to a local city together. Does anyone have any tips on how to make this... Explicitly a date?", "summary": "Worried by turning down offer to stay over I ruined my chances. Need advice on how to make meet up like a date/maximise flirting."}
{"id": "t3_l4mtw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My grandfather went though my internet history, what should I do?", "post": "I live with my grandparents and my grandpa is especially intrusive in my life, like at work and who I date. But he has gone too far.\nHe took the laptop, opened Chrome (Its what I use) and went through ALL my history.\n\nHe went though facebook.\n\nHe went though Tumblr.\n\nHe went though Reddit.\n\nOh, he even went though my pay pal!\n\nWhat the fuck? \n\nDo I have no privacy?\n\nHe knows everything I have posted, what I have looked at, and what I do online. \n\nI open chrome and all the \"Top Pages\" are pages I have not been to in a few day (because I am so busy.) \n\nHe has seen all the crazy IAmAs and AskReddits I read. He more than likely went though my facebook messages. \n\nWhat should I do? Should I talk to him? Talk to my grandma? \n\nI already deleted my history and I have cleared out my computer files of \"questionable things\" (no, not porn, memes, I have memes.)\n\nI think he wanted to see if I deleted all the pictures of my ex boyfriend ~~***if you see this, go fuck yourself ;D***~~ and I did but I am kinda pissed.", "summary": "? My grandpa went though my internet shit and I am pissed. What to do? I am afraid he is now tracking me.***"}
{"id": "t3_40yzxm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my girlfriend [28F] Can't figure out what she sees in this guy", "post": "We have  been dating for 10 months. Everything has been just wonderful, we even moved in together last month. Last two month has be weird. Her \"ex aka good friend\" at lest that what she calls him. Have been spending alot of time together. I have not said anything yet, I don't want her to think I cant trust her. I have not seen or meet him. Not to long ago, she left her labtop open with facebook on. I looked at her messages and I see they are meeting at a coffee shop. Even weird hes black. I have never seen my gf show any interest in black guys, We don't even have any black friends ! Anyway Should I just straight up ask to hang or meet him ? like I really wanna know who this guy is and what hes up to with my gf. Like who the fuck stays friends with there ex?!", "summary": "My gf has been hanging out with her ex who she call her best friend and I have not meet him yet I don't wanna ask because I don't wanna look like I have trust issues"}
{"id": "t3_49wbf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with this girl [21 F] I've been dating for 2 months. Can't seem to stay hard during sex. HELP! NSFW", "post": "Throwaway because it is kind of embarrassing. A little background first. I met this girl about 2 months ago at the bar. Got her number, hit it off, and have been talking everyday nonstop since. We both live in he same hometown but she goes to school somewhat far away form me so we dont see each other nearly as often as I would like. We make it work though. I really ended up liking this girl a lot more than I originally though. I think shes the most beautiful girl ive ever seen and I'm super attracted to her in every aspect.\n\nNow, heres the problem. I've had sex plenty of times so I'm pretty experienced. But about 2 weeks ago, I visited her and I tried having sex with her after a drunken night out . It was going great at first, but when it came time for the penetration, I just went soft. I wrote it off as being drunk and went to bed. The next day, I tried again when sober and again, I could not stay hard. She was understanding and says it happens. I'm already embarrassed at this point, but I dont really think about it too much. Later that night, i tried again (kinda drunk again) and I STILL COULDNT DO IT. Again, I wrote it off as being drunk, but now I just feel so nervous about it happening again. I've NEVER had this problem before. I just felt so nervous about it this time over any other time and I can't understand why I would feel that way, especially knowing that I've had great sex before. An important thing to note: she is the most beautiful girl ive ever been involved with and not to get into specifics, but her body is absolutely amazing. Maybe it has something to do with that? I don't really know. So what I really wanted to know is what I could do in order to make sure i stay hard during sex. Any pieces of advice? Ways to mentally prepare yourself? And i already know alcohol wont be used again, but still, maybe theres other things that can help out? Thanks!", "summary": "Couldn't stay hard after years of experience with sex. Is there any thing i can do to help calm my nerves and stay hard?"}
{"id": "t3_4z1cvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [30M] is chipping away at my savings and my sanity.", "post": "I am 23 and my boyfriend (30) and I have been dating for a year, living together for most of the time. We get along wonderfully and he is so loving and nice to me. \n\nThe problem is that he is not very ambitious/career oriented and has had 4 jobs since we've been together (restaurants and construction) and many weeks of unemployment. I end up paying for more than my fair share out of my savings. This sometimes includes cigarettes, beer, weed. I pay for the car, car insurance, gas, cell phones, internet, etc. He seems to have the best intentions and hates that I do that, says he will make it up to me but it's been going on since the beginning.\n\nHe also has some issues mentally and it's getting hard for me to handle emotionally. He is depressed a lot and paranoid that people are against him. I want to help but don't want to put the burden on myself and he is very against medication/therapy.\n\nI don't know what to do. I am not sure I can handle much more but I would feel so bad if we broke up. He has nowhere to go (no car and lives with me and my mom) and no money. I also do really love him and he really loves me. I really just don't know whether I should keep trying?", "summary": "My boyfriend is great - but mentally and financially unstable. I don't know if I should try to deal with it anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_1mbgvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I'm watching a train wreck about to happen.", "post": "One of my (27f) good friends (21f) of over a year is engaged to be married, trying to buy a house, and has a 4 year old son with her (23m) fiance. Once they are married next May they want to start having more kids immediately- their goal is to have 6 total. I have always had concerns about their future due to a number of factors- for example,  they only identified the fiance as the father of the kid a year or so ago,  they have been together off and on since she was 14 and he had been previously engaged,  so I feel they are moving too fast to try to be a legit family. The poor guy is having to learn how to be a dad and soon a husband and they're both living with their parents,  separately,  and it just feels like a disaster waiting to happen. \n\nRecently my friend started expressing worries and doubts about the situation,  namely his maturity,  and I don't know how to handle it. As a friend I feel I should speak up if I think my friend is going to get hurt and make some terrible decisions, but at the same time I worry it's not my place. Depending on the conversation and her reaction,  I could potentially ruin this relationship and that is a big deal.  Up until now I've told myself that she'll have to learn this for herself and I'll be there for her when it ends, but is it not better to have the chance to prevent that in the first place? \n\nWhat is the right thing to do here?  She has not straight up asked for my opinion,  but it may have been implied she wants it. We typically have a pretty honest and upfront relationship with one another. Do I need to keep my mouth shut unless she clearly asks for my opinion?  Even if she asks do I downplay my thoughts?  Should I be proactive and let her know what I think? Advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Is it okay to give your friend your honest opinion if it could potentially ruin all their plans??"}
{"id": "t3_3dv8cm", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Me [M26] recently got a reasonably well paid job and would like some advice on how to save effectively", "post": "OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa \u00a3120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. \u00a320,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared \u00a31975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around \u00a3500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Awful with money, now earning money and would like advice on how to maximise savings for the next 18 months."}
{"id": "t3_17cprm", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Considering leaving my job after ~6 months. Input, please?", "post": "I've got a bit of a dilemma on my hands and I'm not sure where to go with it.\n\nI graduated about a year ago with a bachelor's degree in Communication and I live in the Midwest. While that's typically not a great degree in this economy or this area, I've been employed by a very well-known and respected ad agency for a little over six months now. My internship in college was in NYC with one of the big TV news outlets. Not trying to be cocky, but I have a good resume for being a year out of school and I'm really, really trying to preserve it. \n\nI'm extremely thankful for being employed. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate where I'm at when I see so many on this subreddit suffering in unemployment. But I'm genuinely unhappy. I find advertising to be wholly unrewarding, soul-crushing and morally bankrupt. I sell unhappiness and consumerism for a living in a high-stress, low-pay environment and it's starting to affect who I am outside of work.\n\nWhen I first graduated I was trying to get back to NYC where I'd done my internship and now I'm really considering giving it a try once again. \n\nHowever, I've only been at this job for a little over 6 months and I'm worried that 1) it's going to make me look like a job jumper and 2) nobody will take me seriously. Maybe this shows my age and immaturity, but I know that if I got hit by a bus tomorrow I'd regret sitting in a cubicle for 50 hours a week and not going after a dream.\n\nHas anyone else had this experience? Any advice? Tough love?", "summary": "Trying to preserve a decent resume but leave a job after only 7 months and move to NYC. WTF do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4z8eo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Mom [50/F]. She was recently diagnosed with cancer. Feeling guilty for feeling annoyed.", "post": "I am 23 years old and currently doing an MA in a foreign country and am close to completion. I have an apartment lined up for after I finish my dissertation and would love to stay in the country for at least a few years. My mom [50] was recently diagnosed with cancer after having some pains in the months prior. She had an operation that went well and will be undergoing chemo soon. I am already planning a flight home to spend some time with her. \n\nThe problem is that I feel guilty for not really feeling that sad about it and sometimes being annoyed by the fact that she has it. She's been a great mom and brought me and my sibling up fantastically and so I am not really sure where this is coming from. \n\nToday we talked an I skirted around the issue of me coming back and staying rather than just for a brief time. It is as if I resent her for getting sick, which then makes me think I am incredibly selfish. My sibling will be going away to college in a year so if it does get worse they might not be around to help, and my parents are divorced.\n\nI would be a continent away and part of me becomes resentful of the possibility of having to move back home. \n    \nThis is a weird feeling to articulate and I am still grappling with it. Am I a selfish bastard?", "summary": "Mom has cancer, I feel feelings of annoyance and almost resentment. Don't know what to make of them."}
{"id": "t3_4xbm26", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M/22] don't know how to proceed with her [F/19]", "post": "So I had a good time the other night bonding with a friend I had a crush on. I knew that she was newly single and she had come over to hang out with me and some friends. We ended up alone together on the balcony talking about shared experiences until late at night. We had just finished a bottle between the both of us and I was feeling confident, so I went in for the kiss. We made out and I asked if she wanted to take this to my room once we broke for air. We proceeded to have sex and during the whole fiasco my condom had fallen off without me noticing and so I accidentally came inside her. We got plan B and everything and I apologized profusely. She said she didn't hate me or anything for it and that it was just a bad situation. I haven't talked to her for a few days after it. Should I just shoot her a text and start up casual conversation? Wait till she contacts me?", "summary": "Had drunken sex with a crush condom slipped off and I came inside her. Plan B was swiftly used, she said she doesn't hate me and now haven't talked to her in a few days"}
{"id": "t3_4v4wem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex of my (19F) boyfriend (19M) is still trying to make herself relevant", "post": "My boyfriend had a year long somewhat meaningful relationship before me. They were in love and were actually still a little flirty while him and I started seeing each other. He cut it off (it being their \"friendship\") with her as soon as he realized I was deeply hurt by this and now we've been together for 5 months so she's been irrelevant for a while now. At least for me.  \n\nRecently I started noticing that she's still liking and commenting on his friends posts (some posts include my boyfriend and me)  on both Instagram and Twitter. None of his friends talk to her anymore because she's out of the picture. I've blocked her and so did my boyfriend but his friends haven't. So I'm still able to see whether she's liked posts or not. \n\nI've also noticed that she took her Instagram off private mode just to get under my boyfriends skin with posts of her with another guy whom my boyfriend and her have had problems with in the past. \nIt's been something that is irritating me because she's purposefully trying to get under our skin and it's working. Shes tweeted that she was over him but clearly she isn't. \n\nI don't know how to get over her bothering us and how to help my boyfriend also not be upset about her since she's irrelevant to our relationship. \n\nI'm not the type that's overly insecure but his ex has always made me feel like I'm in a competition to prove who's the best. For some reason I feel like I'm always in second place. Any thoughts?", "summary": "Ex of my boyfriend is still trying to make herself relevant by liking and commenting on his friend's Instagram and Twitter posts who don't talk to her anymore"}
{"id": "t3_x4k90", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I want to share her this badly?", "post": "Married for seventeen years M:42, F:39\n\nBeen waiting for Wife to loosen up a bit sexually and get more adventurous over that time....had one or two MMF with her that were, in short, the highlights of my entire life - but these were exceptions rather than the rule, despite her really enjoying them. That was five or six years ago now, and these days she has no interest in this sort of thing, which has left me pining more and more so that it has become something I brood on every day.\n\nNot interested in other women outside of the novelty factor, or doing this sort of thing more than once or twice a year - and I don't want a threesome so badly that I'd go elsewhere (if it doesn't involve her, what's the point? It's all about spoiling her and so on), and most importantly I still love her more than anything else in the world - so what can I do? I'm slowly becoming ill with the stress, something that makes me feel ridiculous when there are other people in the world who have *real* problems....but at the same time, I can't believe I've fallen into the 'if only my Wife was this dirty' trap that I swore I'd avoid as a youngster. We have one life, and mine is disappering in a cloud of wishing things were different...and I don't want to grow bitter and twisted to the point that she (and our kids) suffer....I''m worried that this has started to happen already.\n\nSorry if this is all a bit rambly, never done anything like this before and haven't discussed it with anyone. Not sure what'll come out in my replies!", "summary": "My life is fantastic, my family is great, so why am I hung up on having more MMF's with the wife?"}
{"id": "t3_2uy98p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of eight months has a very awkward problem that's creating undue tension.", "post": "This is utterly bizarre, so the internet's the only place I can really discuss something like this. The only other person to discuss this with has a *conflict-of-interest* (you'll see why).\n\nMy first 2 relationships were very vanilla. In my third, I met a guy who was insanely attractive and this made me more confident in sex in general. He was interested in anal, I was not. Eventually, he convinced me to overcome my hangups. Just a couple of weeks after we started exploring, he broke up with me.\n\nCue my current bf. Been dating for six months, but technically know him for longer. Comfortable enough to share my history and bring up this fact. Tell him I'm interested. I thought he would be *delighted!* To my shock, he dismisses it. Calls it unnecessary and a \"little too erotic\" in his words. WTF?!!\n\nThen there's the prankster of a friend I know. He's male. NBD. He's gay, so my exes haven't gotten jealous. He buys me this nice metal plug. Partly as a fun prank, partly because he knows I might enjoy it. Again, NBD. I bought him a pair of leather cuffs because I know his major fetish is being handcuffed. We buy each other sexual gifts.\n\nCue my bf again. Hears this. Is absolutely livid. Refuses to talk to me for 24 hrs. Then, remains cold. Says he loves me for everything I've done so far but I'm pushing his limits and apparently making him uncomfortable.\n\nSays he doesn't want anything to do with this and if I respect him I would have nothing to do with it to. Now, I'm pissed. I sorta enjoyed the new sensations and the adrenaline rush of doing something naughty. I started to fantasize sneaking around with it. Surprising my bf. It's not going to fly. I am kinda pissed of. And sad. I also now am starting to think of other instances where he isn't comfortable with how comfortable I am. Me overthinking? Help.", "summary": "I am a little more sexually open than he is and he is not allowing me to explore *my own* body. Find this incredibly unfair. How do we resolve this?"}
{"id": "t3_3943bt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23] wants me [25] to move in with her, but I don't feel ready..", "post": "Hey everyone, so as the title states, my girlfriend and I have been dating for only 5 months and she has been talking about moving in together. It has gotten so serious that she has inquired on seeing apartments. I'll smile and agree as to not hurt her feelings, but I definitely don't feel ready.\n\n Not only that, I also feel as if this relationship is going way too fast and that her and I are on completely different levels. Don't get me wrong, I love the girl, she's awesome; I just think she's invested in this relationship a bit more than I am. \n\nShe had a boyfriend of 6 years before me, where as my longest relationship has been a year, the rest of the time I just did casual dating. AKA this serious relationship is out of the ordinary for me. I still find my self interested in other people (obviously not acting on my impulses) which is making this \"taking things to the next step\" quite hard.\n\nAny advice as how I can approach this situation? I don't want to lose her, but I also don't want her to be wasting her time with me, if in fact I am not ready for a serious girlfriend right now.\n\nI might also mention that we live around an hour apart. Which makes seeing each other not as simple as it could be. \n\nI just feel as if I'm at a crosswords, I'd definitely appreciate another perspective on the matter. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to move in together, I'm not quite ready..feel as if were on different levels in this relationship, not sure what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_3ba0ug", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pooping", "post": "Holy brownies guys i just realized i have the honor of posting on here. So here goes nothing.\nSo about a month ago my grandma passed away. Everything is going right and dandy, she was in a lot of pain and and put a ton of stress on my mom. So the day of the service comes up and we go from the funeral home to the church.\nNow here lies the problem. If I eat breakfast too early in the morning i get wicked sick to my stomach. So we get to the church, lo' and behold my tummy is acting up. So I turn to my mother since people are still arriving and ask if I can go to the bathroom since I know I won't make it through the service.\nWe check devices and see we got about 8 minutes. Perfect! Plenty of time to poop. Well will i was emptying my bowels everyone magically arrived and the casket was rolled into the sanctuary about 5 minutes early.\nThe service was to start, but the family seemed to be a member short. Thanks to my mom, i was late to my own grandmothers funeral and held it up because i was pooping. I am greeted by everyone laughing at me as we walk down the aisle with the casket. Never gonna live this one down.", "summary": "took a poop, was late to my grandmothers funeral."}
{"id": "t3_2whpgg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not thinking before I spoke", "post": "Not a major fuck up but it was pretty embarrassing \n\nRecently, I've discovered these really good (and pretty healthy) pancakes. It's just eggs and bananas mixed together.  I was really excited about sharing my healthy discovery this morning when my teacher was telling my class about how no day is a bad day when it starts off with blueberry pancakes. Everyone was only half listening so I spoke up and told him about my healthy pancakes. I told him the ingredients and all he said was: \"gross, that sounds more like a fretata\". Unfortunately, I never think before I speak so at the top of my lungs I instinctively screamed: \"YOU'RE A FRETATA\".  I've never seen my teacher so shocked. \n\nNeedless to say, that got my class's attention.", "summary": "I told my teacher that he was a fretata"}
{"id": "t3_4uipim", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [25M] got fired from his job and won't tell me [23F] why", "post": "My boyfriend of 3 years worked at a job that everyone pretty much stays in for their entire life once they start. It's nearly impossible to get fired from there, they will move you around to different departments until they find somewhere that works from you or put you on an improvement plan. \n\nFriday he told me he needed to leave work early and I needed to find my own way home since we drive in together since we work close. When I get home he told me he got fired. I'm surprised because he loves his job, he's known to be really good at it, and I thought it was pretty much impossible to get fired. I asked him what he did and he said nothing, his new boss didn't like him so he fired him. I got super pissed off because I knew it didn't work that way so I texted my friend who works in HR there (not the same department but same rules) and she said that's absolutely not allowed and he needs to fight it and contact his union. She said the only time she's ever heard of anyone getting fired has been for criminal activity. I kept pushing and he eventually snapped and yelled at me and said something like \"trust me, I can't go back, they didn't even let me get my things. You don't know the whole story.\" And then of course he refused to tell me the whole story, he went out for a walk and came home at like 2AM completely wasted, like falling asleep standing up while I was trying to talk to him wasted. \n\nAnd that's pretty much how our whole weekend went. He insists there's a full story for why he got fired but won't tell me what it is. I guess I don't NEED to know but I'm so confused. What do you guys think? Is this sketchy? Anything I can do?", "summary": "My boyfriend got fired from a job that's basically impossible to get fired from and he won't tell me why."}
{"id": "t3_13j7t1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is love enough to make a relationship work?", "post": "My boyfriend and I love each other very much, but love is pretty much all we've got that works.  Well, we also get along very well.  But other than that it feels like it is all obstacles between us.  \n\nWe are long distance now because we are both academics and living the \"two-body problem.*\"  We not only live far from each other, but far from our families that rely on us both for a lot of help -- and they will only become more reliant on us over time.  (For me, the responsibility is taking care of my ailing and elderly parents (I'm an only child), for him it is his impoverished widowed mother and very sick brother).  Top that with the fact that we have to work like maniacs around our numerous visits to each other and to our families to stay afloat in our very competitive careers.  \n\nI could give up my work, but I am so close to a breakthrough in my research and it is on a treatment for a disease that is such a terrible scourge, I feel I can't leave it.  Plus, being a scientist is not just what I do, it is what I am. This isn't like being a carpenter and I can just built a workshop in the basement and keep going with it.  I would be miserable without my research, and not the woman he fell in love with anymore.\n\nCan this possibly ever work out?", "summary": "BF and GF (me) love each other and get along well, but the rest of life looks like love might not be enough to keep us together."}
{"id": "t3_h1m9h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ask Reddit: Young Man Applying for Disability.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I need some help. I'm 20 years old and ever since I was born I've had a brain defect that causes me to have terrible migraines and occasionally black out. Lately it's been getting really bad; and even though it's illegal for them to do this, I've lost almost 5 jobs due to my health. I've now had to move back in with my parents, and it's a completely embarrassing situation that I can't stand. I can't work, can't go to school, and I'm having almost daily migraines now.\nI want/need money, but I have no income, and I was considering applying for disability. The thing is, I don't even know where to start, and I need some help. Has anyone been through a similar situation and can help me? Please?", "summary": "I'm a 20 year old male from Florida trying to apply for disability and I don't know where to begin."}
{"id": "t3_33yjqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/25] have been dating a co worker [F/27] for 6 months and our boss [M/48?] made a pass at her.", "post": "Like I said we have been dating each other for about 6 months. We have kept our relationship a secret so it doesn't effect our work life. We also have an amazimg relationship and it only gets complicated when she has to tell me what to do at work which is very rare since we work in different areas of the store. \n\n3 weeks ago we got a new boss. He is a 48 year old who is extremely overweight, is a little sexist, he is bald and has long nose hair and ear hair etc. But overall he gets things done even though we all agree he is a bit to full on. \n\nOver the weekend both my SO and our boss had to work. We work in retail so weekends are normal for us. The boss was complaining about the safe over text to my SO and jokingly she said its the big gray square thing. His reply was \"i think its time for a spanking\" we both sat up in bed in shock. I mean we both knew he stared at my SOs ass but we didn't think it would go this far. My SO was very shocked. She didnt know what to say, so I told her to tell him how inappropriate it was so he didn't do it again. She told me she didn't want to say anything because he is so full on at work that she is scared he will try to get rid of her. I was upset that she didn't say anything.  To me her silence was telling him that what he said was ok. But i understood why she said nothing. We ended up arguing about it, we made up etc. But its still weird being around this guy. I already wanted to hit him before this all went down. I won't hit him just fyi. She told me if he keeps doing it she will say something.  \n\nSo what would you do in this situation? Being in my situation and being in my SOs situation.", "summary": "My boss told my SO who is also a co worker that he wants to spank her over text. What would you do if you were in our situations?"}
{"id": "t3_doovr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Idea's for an extremely un-orthodox/non-traditional wedding?", "post": "Nothing so crazy we couldn't invite our grammas, but we definitely want to do something different.  We both hate damn near everything about traditional American weddings (except the cake, cake is always good). But neither of us is religious, we don't want kids and we've been living together as a couple for several years, so the wedding doesn't really mean much to us. \n\nWe've already made the commitment to each other, we don't really care about the symbolism of a ceremony.\n\n The only reason we're even *having* a wedding is because the families have said they'd be crushed if they couldn't see us get married. But they claim they don't care what we do as long as they get to attend. So we've been trying to come up with the weirdest/craziest/funniest way to get married. But CHEAP. We're not rich, we're paying for everything ourselves and we'd rather put money towards a house.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "Families making fiancee and me have a wedding, we don't want one. Need ideas for something non-traditional and fun."}
{"id": "t3_w39j4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Argument with new girlfriend :L", "post": "So, as a backstory, me and this girl have a very long history. I've known her since I was 13 (currently 17) and we have always been very close. She is outstanding. Extravagantly intelligent, marvelously mature, etc., etc. I could go on for pages, but that's not the point of this post.\n\nBefore we started officially going out we had madeout several times and spent a loooot of time together. She told me she had been in love with me for over a year, and it never changed - even when I was dating other girls. So I told I had felt the same way for quite some time. Cut to us being gf/bf.\n\nNow, cut to today. We've been \"official\" for a very short time, and today we got into an argument. I was upset last night because of a lot of fucked up family drama, Mom going back to rehab and Dad filing for custody of my little brother and shit. We ended up talking about it for about an hour today, and continued texting after our phone call. Our conversation ended when she accused be of not handling the situation properly, I need to start caring about shit and deal with it, things won't change with a snap of my fingers, and to \"talk to her when I start giving a damn\". \n\nWe've argued before, but I can't think of anything to resolve this because to me it seems like she's way out of fucking line, giving me condescending lectures about how to live my goddamn life like she knows everything. I'm normally obnoxiously independent - to a fault, even. But I need some outside advice here.\n\nIs she right to criticize me? Should I be upset? Should I apologize?\n\nThanks in advance, guys.", "summary": "GF criticizing my life choices, I'm pissed about it. wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_2vb291", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38F], husband [39M] using tranquilizers, doesn't want sex, help understanding why.", "post": "OK, bear with me. Not great at explaining this but I'll give it a shot.\n\nIn the past 2 weeks, my husband has changed behavior suddenly, he's started becoming obsessed with everywhere being tranquil, quit his job because \"it wasn't tranquil enough for me, and I was stressed, and the boss stunk.\", and now refuses to let me call him John, insists on the name \"Brother Tranquility\".\n\nWe have a 15-year-old daughter and she finds the whole thing odd, is embarrassed by her dad.\n\nHe's also started to eat little, except for ramen noodles and a glass of wine for breakfast, and for dinner more ramen noodles, with wine, and for tea, he eats a big bowl of Doritos washed down with wine.\n\nHe has relaxing music on 24-7, including classical music.\n\nGone is the smart appearance; he's unshaven, lays around in an undershirt and tighty-whities, says everywhere has to be tranquil and refuses to do anything else. He has the music playing loud, and sits looking at calming images on YouTube and Flickr, of vistas and beaches.\n\nHe refuses to touch me sexually, told me to get a gigolo instead, said he loves me like a sister.\n\nThis is odd. I don't understand this newfound behavior, the sudden use of tranquilizers and things.\n\nI'm concerned about him, he won't see a doctor, said \"They're pill-pushers. They ain't good for me.\"\n\nNow he's insistent on finding a job where he can be tranquil pretty much all of the time, and has actually started looking for work, but with no success. He wants a job where the aim is stress-free, calm, peaceful environment with tranquility.\n\nWhat should me and my daughter do?\nIf I'm being honest here, I can't cope and need some advice on this.", "summary": "Husband insists on tranquility everywhere and has taken to using tranquilizers."}
{"id": "t3_1lhbe2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me, [20/f] need advice on whether or not to give up on this boy I've been interested in [21/m] for a few months.", "post": "About five months ago, I was invited to a friends house for beer pong and when I showed up I instantly noticed this adorable boy who was just smiling at me. I literally knew right then that I was interested, and throughout the night we would pick on each other/flirt and the same thing occurred every time we ran into eachother. He's a virgin, and has had only one girlfriend before, in high school. \n\nA few months after meeting, I tweeted \"I need a Pisces\" and he responded saying \"I'm a Pisces, js\". I was so excited about it and we've texted a few times and hangout with his best friend and girlfriend, who happens to be one of my best friends. One night we were messing around and playing and we ended up holding hands kind of and he fell asleep. \n\nHowever, he's pretty awkward and seems like he doesn't know how to make a move. I've made it pretty obvious I'm interested and nothing really has happened. But I know if we ever got past this awkward stage we would have something great, help!", "summary": "I have a crush on a virgin who doesn't know how to make moves on a girl and I don't know how to move forward."}
{"id": "t3_4brqtd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Medical Bill Help", "post": "So I'm new to reddit so please be kind! My boyfriend suggested I ask for help here.\n\nBackground - about a year ago I was in a bad car accident (rear ended a semi on the freeway doing 60mph because he cut me off). Well I'm paying monthly to multiple places, hospitals & doctors, for the exams and tests I had done.\n\nI went to the dentist for my checkup and was told that I need a root canal and crown but my insurance covers almost nothing - I would still need to pay $1200+ out of pocket. I cannot afford this on my income currently.\n\nI have a credit card that I use for small purchases and pay off every month, would it be a smart idea to get another credit card with lower interest rate put my dental work on it and then pay it off monthly?\n\nOr is there a better solution I'm missing? I have tried care credit and they won't approve me :(", "summary": "i need $1200+ dental work. Is putting it on a credit card and paying monthly a good idea or is there another solution?"}
{"id": "t3_11yjii", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What does 'Cloud' actually mean?", "post": "Last year(s) there's been a lot of talk about services and media in the cloud. I'd like to know if this actually means anything or if it's just marketing.\n\nContext:\n\nI make websites for a living and i have a bachelor in computer science and lately I've been having discussions with colleagues about this 'Cloud' but no one seems to have an answer about what it really is/describes.\n\nMost people just seem to be using it as a term for webhosting, webservices/webapplications, virtualisation/load balancing servers, gdn's or the internet as a whole. All these different definitions are leading me to believe it's just a marketing term... but then there are books written about 'the cloud' (", "summary": ") so there must be something to it right?"}
{"id": "t3_2vhv01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] Need help with my Dad [55 M], I can't stand being near him when he eats", "post": "I need advice about dealing with my dad. For my whole life, I have had to try and ignore the way he eats. I know it's extremely rude to criticize the way someone eats, but I really can't stand it anymore. Especially since he is getting older and he is starting to chew louder and louder. When he chews it I can hear it from across the room and it forces me to leave the room. It's really hard to describe the noise, but its very disgusting. I guess you could say it sounds like he has way too much saliva in his mouth or possibly he's eating something sticky. Whatever, the point is the way he eats is disgusting. Is there even a polite way to bring this issue up? The sound of him eating infuriates me to my very core. My mother deserves a Nobel Prize for not divorcing him, based solely on the fact that he chews like a jack-ass. I've asked her about it and she says she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. He's pretty sensitive, so I really feel like he'd get offended by me asking him to chew quieter", "summary": "Dad's eating habits make me want to punch a baby, but I don't want give him anxiety"}
{"id": "t3_2hh80j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [21 F] of little over a month broke up with child on the way", "post": "I met a girl back in may and we clicked pretty well together and started dating right away... we were together for about a month and we found out she was pregnant. Went through a few issues and ended up breaking it off and have been consistently arguing pretty intensely ever since up until early this month where she filed a vpo against me and somehow miraculously had it approved. Keep in mind we had absolutely no contact physically for months and all our communication was via Email. It was absolute nonsense and pretty much a ploy to have an upper hand in court once it came to custody of the child.\n\nI'm not really looking to get back together with her but I would like to raise my child and unfortunately I don't think that is really possible given the circumstances. If I ignored her completely would I regret this? I doubt I would be able to see my child much if anything either way and I know even if I get standard visitation (every other weekend) if she has a boyfriend --- he will see the child more than me. Is it even worth it? I don't like this girl as she has done so much wrong to me, I don't even want to be friends. I would be on neutral terms with her for the childs sake but she has to drop this nonsense. I think its completely selfish for her to try and keep this child away from me just because we have our disagreements with eachother. I could use some advice!", "summary": "ex is pregnant and trying to keep the child away from me, not sure if I should ignore her for good and maybe have regret not seeing my child or if I should get what rights I can via visitation and try to work my way to seeing the baby more."}
{"id": "t3_q72er", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Not sure if this is the right place, but I need advice on how to confess something bad to my parents.", "post": "So I had bought and smoked some weed. I gave my friend some. He smoked it last night out of a can, which I guess gave him a really bad trip. Being paranoid and high, he called his mom and and when she asked where he got it from, he said me. She won't tell my parents if I do first, and I know she won't make it sound pretty. I need advice on how to break it to them gently and honestly. I'm prepared for trouble, but I just can't find the words or courage to tell them. Help?", "summary": "Got caught with weed, have to tell parents, don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_3b8r8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20m] My girlfriend [21f] of two months has told me that she has hooked up with guys in the past. This puts some strain on my otherwise strong feelings for her. How should I deal with this?", "post": "We have been friends for a couple years, and this information came up a while before we started dating, simply in conversation as friends.  She is an amazing girl and I am completely head over heels for her.  She makes me smile all the time, accepts my weirdness while owning hers, is fine being bored with me - the list goes on.  Despite all this, sometimes the thought of her hooking up with someone really bothers me, and I hate that something from her past would get to me so much when there are no other issues in our relationship.\n \nI know that she has had long term relationships ( > 1 year) in the past, and I have no issue at all with any aspect of that part of her life.  To me anything that happens in a relationship is fine, but I  have a hard time coming to terms with sexual relations happening before being in a relationship, or before feeling certain that a relationship will soon form.  \n\nI'm worried that if I bring up that it's bothering me, I'll mar our otherwise pristine relationship.  Preferably, I'd like input to help me learn how to accept her past and be happy with what we have now.  However, I'd also welcome suggestions on how to have a healthy conversation about it if the thought continues to bother me.", "summary": "I am bothered that my gf has had hook-ups in the past.  How can I accept this or talk to her about this to maintain our otherwise great relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3afsgx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [21M] am upset that my 4 year GF [21F] is going out to bars with other guys.", "post": "So basically what happened was that she told me she was getting dinner with some friends from her grade school last night, but ended up going out to bars and drinking. She was out with two guys and a girl, one of the guys is a friend, but I wouldn't ever trust him to hang out with my girl like that. I'm not particularly upset about them going out last night, untill she tells me she wants to go out with them again tonight. She basically told me that she didnt want me to go because it was a reunion between old friends, although she barely knows them, and hadnt talked to them for over 5 years. The series of texts that she sent just added more fuel to the fire, where the first thing she suggests when I say that im not ok with this is \"do something about it\". It's not the first time that she defaults to suggesting that we break up, so it really got me angry. Am i being an overly jealous boyfriend? Is it normal for you to not want your girl going out and drinking with other guys? Any advice is welcome.", "summary": "GF wants to go out tonight to bars with a friend from gradeschool, doesnt want me to come."}
{"id": "t3_1jk37z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "FWB relationship got too serious and we will be in the same class in a few weeks. How to deal?", "post": "A little background: I (M 31) met up with a woman my age a few months ago in a class we were taking in preparation for going to the university (yes, a bit late for both of us, different topic). We got along *really* well and she ended up confessing to me and we became a couple. There was a catch: She is married and they have a kid, but her husband is abusive and she has been planning on leaving him. Because I didn't want to be a \"pulling factor\" on her relationship more than I already was, we agreed on keeping it FWB.\n\nObviously we fell head over heels for eachother, though her moreso than I, I think. Yesterday she started fishing for what I would do if I could choose and if it was up to me, and I suspect she wanted me to say she should leave her husband. I said that ideally, I wish she managed to get things working with her husband and for their kid's sake, and maybe I could find someone who could measure up to her. Perharps not the most elegant way of putting it, but it's what I said in the moment as I still thought we were keeping it casual FWB. It was then it became more apparent how attached to me she was as she was absolutely devastated.\n\nA second catch: We have both signed up for a year-long class this year, related to the one we met in. It's too late for any of us to change or go to a different place.\n\nHonestly I would be fine just distantiating myself while being around her. I care for her a lot but have managed to keep it FWB and would be fine degrading it to just friends again. It's different for her though. She's still in tears every time she calls me, says it's best if she never sees me again, how nobody wants her, and gets upset at the notion of staying friends since it's no cure for her broken heart.", "summary": "FWB with a married woman turned too serious and she doesn't want to see me, we have a one year long class lined up together."}
{"id": "t3_1duj4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop being insensible?", "post": "I've recently been told that I [18M] am insensible. I don't really know what that means, because I always think that I show that I care or something. This girl [18F] I have been dating for around 4 months just told me that I am insensible, and that I don't even know her or try to know her, that I don't even know how to make her laugh. I am so lost. I don't know what to do. help me? I know that this isn't enough information but there are lots of other things/factors. I just don't know what the important or more notable ones are.", "summary": "What does being insensible really mean? it just doesn't make sense to me. I feel like i'm doing everything i can to make her feel special but it turns out i'm doing the opposite."}
{"id": "t3_jsmzf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I looked at the past comments of this girl who follows the subreddit for my small town. We have a lot in common and I want to ask her out. Am I a creep???", "post": "male/22\n\nI was on the subreddit for my town (it has 16 followers :/ ) and this person made a relevant comment and had a feminine name. She goes to my university since the OP referenced it in the title. I just got out of two long relationships that started from friends setting me up, and I think it would be nice to change it up and try and date a redditor.\n\nI looked at her past comments and found out we have a lot in common. I feel like a creep, but from how she describes herself on reddit... she seems like one of those girls that only come by once in a blue moon. Do you have any advice on how I could search her out in RL non-creepily? I feel like PM'ing her on reddit and asking her to get a drink would be weird. Or should I forget it and try the bar scene?", "summary": "I noticed a female from my school commented on my post, searched her past comments and have an e-crush on her. Am I a creep for wanting to ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_1cxq5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I F[18] feel disrespected sexually by my boyfriend M[21]", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months now. Things are going great except recently every time we have sex he pressures me to do anal. I have tried it before with him and in the first few seconds the pain is excruciating so I made him stop. He keeps bothering me to do it and says \"I know you want it in the ass\"... etc. And I'm just like no I really don't. It's really getting on my nerves to keep having to say no all the time and I really just don't want to be asked anymore. It's not for me and I don't want to do it. How can I get it into his thick head that it's just NEVER going to happen? I feel like it's such a turn off during sex to be pestered and bothered about it.", "summary": "Boyfriend keeps bothering me about doing anal DURING sex and it's really annoying and a turn off."}
{"id": "t3_3e94fs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My ex (F/21) is confusing me (M/22).", "post": "About 4 years ago at the end of High School i had a wonderful (~year) relationship with a wonderful person (we'll call her D). Easily the best relationship ive ever had, i still have never been able to enjoy someone as much as i enjoyed D, i believe that feeling was genuinely mutual throughout the relationship. Towards the end of our fantastic relationship things began to just sort of fizzle out, which ended up with a lot of accusations and arguments, but ultimately no residual issues, Here we are 4 years later, ive only had a single serious relationship since D, i would definitely say ive moved on, but i dont think i will be ever able to forget the happiness i had when i was with her.\n\nHere is the confusing part, every so often we get in contact with each other again. Only once have we actually ended up hanging out and that was a business transaction a few years back. Somehow one of us about once a year will message the other one in attempts to say something yet nothing really gets conveyed. id almost call our conversations just 2 nervous people forcing themselves to communicate\n\nAgain, yesterday she messages me, im not sure if this was a fueled conversation or what but as bad as i am with women, i even thought she might be attempting to... reconnect? I also know that i hyper-analyze everything and im just trying to think nothing of it\n\nScreenshot of the conversation\n\na sidenote: when it comes to women and identifying emotional/sexual/physical ques i am positively horrific at it. i constantly confuse being flirty with being nice.", "summary": "my ex and i converse randomly every so often, i have a hunch we both want to reconnect but idk, she messaged me yesterday"}
{"id": "t3_hji1u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst way you've been misunderstood?", "post": "Here's mine: Last summer Starcraft 2 came out; I had been waiting for over half a decade to play it. Early in the afternoon I biked as fast as I could to Bestbuy, grabbed a copy and began the two mile bike ride home. I'm the kind of person who only owns long sleeve shirts and long pants, so I was getting pretty hot at this point, but I knew it didn't matter because I was about to experience a game I'd waited years for...\n\nAs soon as I got home I rushed inside, sweaty and panting, and ripped open the box. As I was reading through the manuals I thought to myself \"No one's home, might as well take off my clothes to cool down.\" I quickly got comfortable on the couch, pants around my ankles, and was reading through the various booklets from the packaging with nerdy glee. \n\nAs it turned out, a friend of mine had gotten the game too (collector's edition) and had brought it over to show me. He knocked on the door directly across from the couch. This door has a stained glass pane in it.\n\nTo this day he makes fun of me for fapping to the Starcraft 2 manual.", "summary": "I took off my clothes to cool off after a bike ride and my friend thought I was fapping to Starcraft 2."}
{"id": "t3_1b3p4q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How the *Hell* do I (23M) tell if I'm in love with her? (19F)", "post": "We've been dating since early December. She loves me. A lot. It's the giddy, clear light in her eyes when she looks into mine that let's me know.  When she says those three words, she *means it.*  I'm older than her, and more than just chronologically.  She was a virgin, I wasn't by a long shot.  Neither of us are terribly experienced in the relationship game, though I've had my fair share of utter disasters.  One real long-term relationship, and a couple of spectacular failures.  She's had a good life, and I, well, it's been weird.  She's definitely known pain, but she's been *happy* in a way that I've never experienced.  Blah blah mental illness, pills, therapy, hospitalization, etc.\n\nWhen I look at her, I feel content in a way that is completely alien to me.  The ever-present anger and fear and twisted up sadness kind of melt away when she nuzzles my neck, and it's fucking terrifying.  I'm so, so scared to be in love with her, and if I am, it's the most *bizarre* thing I've ever experienced.  It's like being high.  I hate being high.  Gah.\n\nSo, my questions:  How do you know if you're in love?  And what do you do if that's the most frightening thing you can think of?  Do I stick it out, or do I run away?  I don't want to hurt her.  I could use some advice.", "summary": "I have no idea what I'm doing in a relationship, scared of myself, scared of her, scared I'm going to fuck her up, but she's the first thing to make me happy in as long as I can remember."}
{"id": "t3_2mn06s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my BF [20 M] of two days, how do I help him learn to be affectionate?", "post": "A few days ago I started dating my best friend, a guy for whom I've had requited feelings for some time, but was crippled by fear of messing it up and caught up in serial purely sexual hookups that led nowhere. \n\nHe's wanted to date me for a long time but I always had an excuse not to. I liked him too but was caught up on other things. I finally came to my senses and realized everything I was doing was making me very unhappy and let him know how I felt about him. We started dating and have been very happy. He's my best friend.\n\nhowever, it is his first relationship and has admitted he doesn't always know how to express his emotions well. We have been close for some time but our relationship was always pretty intellectual. Now we are dating and I can tell he is struggling with how to be affectionate....seems eager but nervous about kissing, etc\n \nI'm not inexperienced and very affectionate, but i don't wat him to feel pressured or like he has to be this perfect lover. At the same time, i want to help him learn to give and frankly take compliments, affectionate physical contact, etc. How do I do this without being overwhelming or insensitive?", "summary": "old friend becomes new bf, how do I help him grow into his first relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2161tw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] and my SO [23F] are currently breaking up.", "post": "I've been a terrible boyfriend. I know that I have been.\nOver the past 2 years, I've called her names when drunk, I've generally been quite an angry person and a few incidents have occurred due to me being paranoid about her leaving me. (For the sake of clarity, I'm not an arsehole to her all the time. I'm in the love with the girl and I try my best to make her happy)\nThe latest incident, which involved myself drunkenly thinking it would be a good idea to go down her phone, has kicked off a series of conversations that seems to be coming to it's conclusion this evening. We're discussing breaking up.\n\nLike I said, I know I've been a terrible boyfriend and I'm trying to rectify that. I'm working out and going to the doctors to try address the issue of anger, and I'm trying to be more positive and generally decent to try keep her but I think it's too little too late.\n\nI fucking hate myself right now because this is all my fault and I don't know how to make her stay with me. But she's unhappy, and it's not fair of me to keep her in a relationship where she isn't happy. She's just told me she loves me and stuff and we don't want to break up but I think it's what's about to happen.\n\nI don't know what to do. What do I do? I love her and I don't want this to end. Being fair I don't know why I'm offloading it all here, I just need any kind of advice please?", "summary": "I've destroyed my own relationship and now it's come back around."}
{"id": "t3_3yoxoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19 M] convince my disability to someone [18 F] before asking them out", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nSo this has been a struggle for me in life and I never know how to inform a girl about my disability before going on a date with them over online dating applications. \n\nBasically, I've been talking to this girl lately on tinder, and she seems really nice and charming to me. And I'm starting to like her, but I'm willing to ask her out, however so doesn't even know I have a disability.\n\nMy disability is that I am completely deaf in both ears and I have to wear one hearing aid on my left ear to be able to hear again. I had a Meni\u00e8re's disease when I was 2 years old, and ever since then I've never heard the world ever again without a electronic device. \n\nSo like, how can I explain this to someone before fully asking them on a date, and hopefully they wouldn't mind. I mind it's not that bad, I'm still a perfectly normal/healthy person, but a human that wears a little plastic device on his ear.", "summary": "How to I inform my problems to someone before dating them."}
{"id": "t3_svivn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unmotivated stepson: How do I deal with this?", "post": "Bear with me. My soon-to-be stepson is 23 years old and stuck in my basement. He did well in school until his mother mentioned that she would soon give him her car so he would have transportation for the job he would have when he finished his four-year college program.\n\nAfter 2.5 years of getting A's with doing nothing but handing in assignments and showing up, his marks suddenly tanked. He flunked his last year before the end if the second semester, and dropped out, saying he would get a job after Christmas - something that didn't happen.\n\nHe says now that if we would let him live the rest of his life in the basement with nothing but video games, that he would be happy.\n\nIt didn't take long talking to him to see he's smart. I managed to get him to a counsellor, and she says he shows no signs of depression or schizophrenia, but rather displays a very high degree of social anxiety. He sabotages himself regularly. Sleeping to late so he \"can't go out\" and so forth.\n\nHe sleeps all day, plays video games all night (I've blocked him from the router, but one of my neighbours does not have a password on theirs). He does nothing more than I ask him to, and even them it generally takes him being told more than once to do anything.\n\nI'm tired of being his babysitter: waking him for appointments, pushing him to get out. And my fianceeand I are tired of putting or lives on hold trying to help him when he will do nothing for himself. He says he's not worth anything to anyone.\n\nCounseling is ongoing but appears to be making no progress. We're thinking of making him leave the house for the daytime -he'd have no access to his game console or laptop- hoping he'd get bored and do something for himself.\n\nWhat do you think of this situation, or  our half-assed solution? Any other thoughts on where we might take this? We'd like to see him succeed on his own and would rather give him a hand up than a simple boot to the curb.", "summary": "23 year old stepson won't leave our live his own life. How do we fix this? "}
{"id": "t3_50dp4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Old elementary school friend [24/m] wants to reconnect [24/m] after 10 year hiatus?", "post": "I knew this friend since 3rd grade up until I left for high school (friends for 5 years). We reconnected about 3 years ago, but I been going through a hard time ever since he has known me (rough childhood) and the 10 years apart have changed me immensely.  I had a good time catching up and partying with him again, but my personal problems got the better of me and I dropped off the radar a few months after us reconnecting.\n\n I am not nearly as sociable as I once was, and tend to keep to myself, my job, and those who I am currently close to. New friends are very difficult for me to maintain. Also, we have conflicting work schedules and grew up in different social circles, so even if I wasn't a hermit i'd have a difficult time meeting up with him or sharing common interest. \n\nI am trying to change though, and he was one of the few good friends I have known in my past. Even now, after ignoring most of his texts messages and flaking out on plans we made together, he still puts an effort to meet up with me again. I am not sure what to do, or say? I feel like its pretty normal to grow apart from old friends, but I don't see any reason for me to ignore him like I do. He is still a really cool person. Anyone have advice for me?", "summary": "Old friend keeps trying to meet up, despite me ignoring or flaking out on him. He is a good guy, but work and common interests are conflicting with me putting the effort in rekindling an old friendship. Not sure if I should put more effort, or what?"}
{"id": "t3_509ny2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21f with my 21m bf, how do I know this is love", "post": "so I don't know where to start.this is on mobile so pardon any spelling errors.\n\nBackground: me and tom have been dating for a little over a year.i come from a traditional family where dating is usually frowned upon within the culture. Me and Tom have been friends for 4 years but I finally gave in and went on a date because frankly I liked him a lot. This December tom will have to move across country because he has gotten an amazing job after his graduation. I'm stuck here because I will be continuing my grad school on this state(got accepted in my dream school!!)  so the issue is we don't know what to do\n\nWhen talking about our future I suddenly began to feel panicked. I mean when I think about Tom I can see an amazing,loving future in which I will be genuinely happy. Yet,one part of me is freaking out.how do I know this is love?ive never been in a relationship before so I've never experienced anything in comparison! Will a LDR ruin us? The busy schedules will make it difficult for us to talk in addition to the little to no in person interaction.what if we become resentful of each other?what if he would rather want someone else?what if he doesn't actually love me?how can I be sure he is \"the one\"?i believe he is but...\n\nMy idea of love is very warped. I have this funny paradigm of love(I can explain further if you'd like) .my ideas of love were adopted from an early age where my only examples came from the movies. The sheltered part of me is ignoring my happiness and kind of freakin out because there's no way to be sure he's the main love interest of my life like in the movies", "summary": "me and bf are happy but will have to enter a ldr soon. Should we pursue long distance or take a break?how do I know how to make the right decision"}
{"id": "t3_1hmirt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/20] dont know how to bring up my personal problems with my aunt [F/50] and need some guidance.", "post": "Well, im having problems with my horrendously hyperactive sex drive, insecurities, and emotions. Dealing with all 3 really leaves me in a mess, and sometimes I quietly cry my eyes out into my pillow as a result.\n\nBeing sexually gifted in lots of ways and having no outlet for it creates an insane amount of sexual frustration and jealousy, to the point that im bawling like tonight. It makes me feel extremely jaded towards others and resentful towards those closest to me, and I know its not how I should feel.\n\nI can only trust my aunt because my mom has schizophrenia and my grandma is a hateful, abusive person. How should I bring this up? Should I bring this up? How can I solve my problem?", "summary": "SEX DRIVE, SEXUAL JEALOUSY, AND SEXUAL FRUSTRATION IS KILLING ME. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO."}
{"id": "t3_1eo6tw", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Obese asthmatic male going back to working out after 4 years.. I need some advice.", "post": "I am 31 years old, 6'0\" and 362 lbs. My weight throughout my adult life has hovered around 330. I used to weigh 374 at my heaviest and that went down to 319 when I was working out. That was four years ago, and for a variety of reasons/excuses, I stopped working out. \n\nI was just diagnosed with sleep apnea, as I long suspected, which accounted for my frequent fatigue. I'm getting that taken care of right now and I expect a huge change in my life and as such, I consider it an excellent opportunity for me to resume making proactive changes in my life.\n\nHowever, one of the things that holds me back is my severe exercise-induced asthma. This was one of the factors that made me heavy - starting at age 9. I keep it controlled via preventive medication (Advair) and have inhalers if need be. But still, sometimes, I guess, I overdo it and then I'm out of commission for several days. It's such a huge, discouraging obstacle in my life because I don't want to miss work and school.\n\nSo I am hitting the gym starting next week. I need help planning on the routine I should start out with. I don't know how much cardio and weightlifting I should do for a man of my size and life circumstances. If I recall my previous routine - I did cardio 5 days a week with weights twice a week every other day. Is this a good routine?? It's been so long.", "summary": "Obese guy with severe, but more or less controlled exercise-induced asthma. Needs advice on a workout routine."}
{"id": "t3_21nwb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] think my friend[18F] has an eating disorder and I'm not really sure what to do.", "post": "I've known her for a little over three years now. When I met her, she was a little overweight. We fell out of contact for a year or so, and when we started talking again, she was *much* thinner. I figured that she just started eating better, exercising, etc. We've been talking a lot lately, and the more I get to know her, the more it sounds like she has a pretty serious problem. \n\nShe'll go a day or more without eating sometimes because she feels like she's fat. She tells me she doesn't eat because her parents only get really unhealthy food that makes her sick, but more and more I've been thinking it's a lot more complicated than that. Of course, I'm not a psychologist, so I've been trying to hold off on jumping to conclusions, but I'm starting to get really worried for her health. I have absolutely no experience with people and eating disorders, so any insight helps.", "summary": "I think my friend has been starving herself to lose weight and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3q4yq3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my fingers dirty.", "post": "Only moments ago, I opened the door to go inside my house from the backyard, where I'd just finished smoking a cig. The lights are all off.\n  \n As I walk past the kitchen table towards my room, I see my cat trying to get onto it from one of it's chairs. I scratch her once behind the ears, and gently start pushing her off. She quickly ducks beneath my hand, and keeps peering over the surface of the table at something. \n  \nI see what looks like a single piece of popcorn in the darkness. I pick it up, and what I grab is crunchy, but much softer than popcorn. I flip on a light and saw that I had just squashed the biggest moth i'd ever seen in person right between my thumb and forefinger. Not a huge fuck up, but still. Gross.", "summary": "Poor lighting led me to killing a huge moth with my bare fingers. Alternatively, TIFU by stealing a kill from my cat."}
{"id": "t3_4ijrnw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] is my ex [21F] playing with me or is there a chance?", "post": "So after a few years together we broke up almost two weeks ago. I'm very heartbroken about it, while she doesn't seem to be but insists that she's just better at hiding her feelings.\n\nShe still lives with me lease-wise, at least until the end of this month, so she has been sleeping with me a few nights a week (others either at her parents' or friend's places). We've even had sex once or twice since. \n\nI kind of get emotionally clingy when she's around because I miss her so much. Last night, I kind of asked her if there was any chance of patching things up, and she said that she didn't know, and probably not, but it might help my chances if I drop the cling and play hard to get (maybe in a grasp back to when we were initially dating).", "summary": "Ex live in gf still sleeps with me a few nights a week since she's on the lease for now. She says she wants me to play hard to get. Is there a chance or is she just getting her own thrills?"}
{"id": "t3_2xhw62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Two guys [22/M] [20/M] like me [21/F]. What do I do?", "post": "I'm used to being ignored by the opposite gender. Suddenly it has come to my attention that two of my guy friends like me.\n\nOne, Jake [20/M], is actually my ex. He and I tried to be in a relationship twice before, it ended on semi-bad terms, but we've rebuilt our friendship greatly to the point we have discussed getting back together.\n\nThe other, Matt [22/M], was there for me when the last relationship ended, and is an overall great guy. I can actually tell that a couple of our mutual friends are implying that we should get together.\n\nA mutual friend of Jake and I is also implying that we should get back together.\n\nI like both of these guys in their own way. I don't want to be leading them on.\n\nDo I choose one or the other? Or do I just cut them both off? What types of things should I be taking into consideration?\n\nI'll answer any questions you may have to give insight into the situation.", "summary": "Two of my friends like me. One I've dated, the other I haven't. What do I do/what should I consider in this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3b6man", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [19M] confront her [19F]?", "post": "So my best girlfriend stopped talking to me a couple of months ago. Because I apparently \"lied\" to her about something which is not true. However, recently she just appeared out of nowhere wanting us to be friends again. \n\nI told her that I wanted to talk with her first, and so we did. I agreed that we could be friends again, or at least work towards rebuilding our friendship. She was quite enthusiastic about it, so I thought it was worth giving it a shot. \n\nA week later I asked her to hang out at some place we used to hangout a lot. And now even though she does appear really friendly via text she doesn't make the effort to hangout. Using an excuse that she is busy, while college is over for the semester so she has plenty of time. \n\nWell, now I feel like she just wanted to be friends again so she doesn't have to feel \"awkward\" around me. We have also many mutual friends so we see each other occasionally, and I invite those friends to my place to hangout. I think she wants to be a part of that as well, so I guess it's like using my friendship to gain those advantages without having to anything for it.\n\nNow I feel like confronting her. Should I or shouldn't I? I want to tell her that I don't want to hangout at that place anymore, because she doesn't make the effort to set a date. And that she was the one who wanted to be friends again, so that it is her that should make the effort of strengthening our relationship. Right now I feel like this friendship is going nowhere if she doesn't put any effort in it. \n\nShould I confront her? Or just see where this is going?", "summary": "Best girl friend appears out of the blue after disappearing for a few months. Wants to be friends again, but doesn't put any effort in it. Should I confront her?"}
{"id": "t3_2t5wzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 16 months, found me on Instagram following amateur glamour models", "post": "Hi all!\n\nBasically, last week I signed up to Instagram and I followed some amateur models from zoo and nuts magazines, 3 of them to be exact! My girlfriend found out last week and dumped me over it, said she obviously doesn't do it for me, why would I need to follow other women and I've got no respect for her. Also said she thinks I'm on other sites which I'm not and talking to other women. Said that she doesn't trust me at all anymore etc.\n\nCouple days later we got back together, she said she would give me one more chance, I come off Instagram and said I wouldn't go on it again and promised her i wasn't on anything else. Said if I upset her again we would be over. We have had a bad few months so know that comes into play as why she also dumped me.\n\nAnyway since she has said she has giving me one last chance, she has been proper shitty with me, come round mine and giving me silent treatment pretty much, word one or no replies to my messages and like I spoke to her on phone last night and again she just gave me one word replies to everything I said to her.\n\nJust before I left to go away for couple days we were alright but her mood just keeps changing towards me!\n\nAlthough I can understand she is upset, I just kinda think if she is going to give me one last chance then why are u making things so hard!\nAny advice on how to approach situation please?\n\nCheers", "summary": "Girlfriend gave me another chance but making it seem like she doesn't want to be with me"}
{"id": "t3_471832", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my Ex [19F] 6/7 months, How do i let go ? How do i move on ?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI met this Girl once on a NCS (National Citizen Service) basically a camp for teen-agers. 1st two weeks are holiday the other 2 its community service.So i ended up getting something nice on my CV.\n\nHowever this isn't about NCS , this is about a girl I met there. Before NCS I was super shy,lacked confidence and just the usual teen issues.\n\nI met a girl, i managed to fight of my fears and spoke to her, we seemed to hit it off quite well. 1 and a half weeks into knowing her I asked her out , knowing that i'm probably not the only one attracted to her.\n\nWe ended up having a pretty healthy relationship but we did rush into a lot of the couple stuff. \n\nAfter 6 months something happened and she didn't want to be with me anymore. We did live about 45 minutes / an hour from each other , and we were attending college at the time so we didn't see each other as much as we would've liked.\n\nAfter multiple attempts to reach out to her and convince her that we made a mistake I kind of gave up. So here we are today still talking to each other, as friends.\n\nIt has been over a year and a half since we have broken up , but I still cannot get over her.\n\nHave any of you gone through a bad break up and had a bad time letting go ?\n\nIf you would like to know more about my situation feel free to pm me.", "summary": "Met a girl, thought/think i fell in love , we broke up, cant get over her, she doesn't want to be any more than friends."}
{"id": "t3_2g5382", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hey reddit, so i have a little problem", "post": "Hey reddit, so i have a little problem. I'm not sure if this is the right sub but I'm just going to leave it here. I was driving home from school today and this car in front of me stopped short and I had to slam on my breaks. So what did my Idiot self decide to do tail gate this car for the next 15-20 seconds. I eventually back off after I cool down and everything is ok for the next couple of minutes. However, as we both approach a red light with the other car making a left and myself making right, as I passed her she honked her horn at me a couple times. Now this normally would not be an issue for me as I like to consider myself a level headed person. But once again in the heat of the moment I honked back a couple times and proceeded to give the middle finger out of the window. As I look back to see if the driver of the car get gotten the message, the car drives up next to me and rolls down the window. As I begin to ponder the possible things that I am going to say after the window is rolled down I suddenly realize that it is a teacher at the school that I attend. She says to me and my friend who is sitting besides me, \"DO YOU WANNA SAY SOMETHING TO ME?!?!?!\" I then look at my friend who is scared beyond belief. The cars in front of us began to move at this point and all i said was \"No were good\" and drove off. Now I am pretty sure she does not know who I am, but my friend has her as a teacher for one of his classes. I am trying to figure out what I am going to do sort this all out tomorrow. I am leaning to going up to her and apologizing but I just wanted to get some input from a site that I have seen so many others before me. Sorry for the long post.", "summary": "Tail gate and Flip off car on drive back from school. Turns out to be teacher from my school. PLZ HELP!!"}
{"id": "t3_42bw02", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mistaking a funeral for a government convoy", "post": "I was walking to work today when I noticed a convoy of shiny black escalade limousines with two on either side of what looked like an important vehicle of some kind. I noticed a small green and yellow flag flying from the back window of the front car which from a distance looked strikingly similar to the Brazilian flag. 'It must be the Brazilian president' I thought. I was so excited for some reason, I had no time to question what the president of Brazil was doing here in my small Canadian city. All I had time to do was start smiling in awe like a dummy and bring out my phone to take a photo of the President's convoy as they drove past. I held up my phone to take a picture, and as the convoy approached it came to my attention that the green and yellow flag was in fact not the Brazilian flag, but one that had 'Funeral' written on it. Before I realized that the middle car was a hearse, I noticed the person in the back seat of one of the cars staring blankly at my smiling face. I tried pointing my phone upwards as if I was taking a photo of the sky, but they knew the truth. All the excitement and wonder I had just felt turned swiftly into regret. I've spent the rest of my day so far thinking about how many people driving by must've seen it and wondering if they too thought it was the president of Brazil.", "summary": "Smiled while photographing a funeral convoy thinking it was Dilma Rousseff."}
{"id": "t3_3q2nl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] have met this perfect [21F] exchange student at my unieversity and my head is a mess.", "post": "Hi, I have started University [UK] about a month ago and met this amazing exchange student who is also my neighbour.\n\nI have been enjoying my time with her a lot recently, we have been going out to clubs and parties together which made me even more attached to her. She recently lost her cousin due to an accident involving alcohol, which caused a metal breakdown in a club we were with our friends. The club was about 20 minutes from our accommodation, I wanted to call a taxi for her to get her home but she insisted on walking, it took us nearly 2 hours to walk back due to her crying etc. I had to comfort her and carry her in my arms all the time because she \"wanted to join her cousin\". I made sure she got home safely. Because we spent those 2 hours discussing various things she is the only thing on my mind because we got so close in a matter of hours.\nShe is an exchange student from Belgium and she will be going back to Belgium in 2 months, should I try to seek a relationship with her or just be the good friend that will always be there for her, to not complicate things between us because of the distance involved and the short amount of time we have left.\n\nThank You", "summary": "Should I try to seek a relationship with an exchange student which will be going back to Belgium in 2 months?"}
{"id": "t3_2bek61", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/25] am unsure of when to give up on trying to get the attention I want out of the woman [F21] I like", "post": "I have a dillema I haven't been in while an adult yet. \n\nI have a coworker that I am interested in, who I have previous history with. We had hooked up a few times in the past, and then it ended when she got back together with her boyfriend at the time. \nIt was a crappy relationship, he treated her like crap, and I found myself becoming more attracted to bher and developing feelings. But I respected her relationship and only  did some mild playful flirting.\nShe recently broke up with said boyfriend, and I thought that she was going to be mine. \nTUrns out she met another dude we work with, who is admittedly more attractive than I am (I am not unnatractive, but he does outclass me in looks)\nSince the breakup I have been trying to flirt with her and try to make something happen. She seems kind of uncertain with her replies, and I've come to find out it's because of this other dude.\nI sit close to her and see her emailing him. Basically the same flirting that we do. \n\nSo it looks like I am battling this other dude for this chicks attention, and honestly I'm getting a little jealous. \nI find that she is probably hanging out with him and not me, but I have nothing to confirm that. It feels like I'm on the loosing end of the \"Battle\"\n\nBut she isn't denying my advances or giving me any intention of not wanting to hang out with me. \nI feel like I am on the losing end of the battle, and I'm unsure of how to proceed. \nI like her, but I feel like she is not mature enough to realize that stringing me along like this and not giving me a black and white feeling of what her feelings for me are.\n\nI have talked to her and told her I liked her, but I don't like to be strung along. \nShe agreed she would not lead me on. But here we are.\n\nShould I just move on to a girl who isn't obviously already pining after this one guy and stop this battle for her attention?", "summary": "Fighting for a girls attention with another guy. Unsure on how to proceed from here"}
{"id": "t3_du8qb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does urine output vary, even though glomerular filtration rate remains constant?", "post": "We know that drinking a lot of fluids results in increased urine output, and that not drinking enough results in decreased output.\n\nSince the glomerular filtration rate (GFR) should remain relatively constant, why is the above true if the same amount of fluid is always filtered?\n\nI understand the roles of ADH and aldosterone in increasing the kidneys' permeability to water, resulting in fluid retention. Does this have something to do with it? Thanks!", "summary": "GFR doesn't directly affect water absorption or retention by the nephron tubule."}
{"id": "t3_2pzoju", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with ex [22 M] - reconnecting for about 1 month, feeling an imbalance in our dynamic", "post": "Apologies for any formatting issues as I'm on mobile.  I've recently reconnected with an old ex of mine from back in high school. We've both changed significantly over the last 7 years, to the point where we have a very different kind of relationship now than before. I would say that I've become a lot more open minded and less critical of things he's interested in, and he's become less self centered and more considerate of others, which makes us more compatible than before.\n\nHowever - we are both well aware that I am further along on my \"life path\" (aka I am already almost 2 years into my career while he's still finishing his degree) and this adds a strange dynamic to our relations.  In addition, he is constantly complimenting me and telling me how awesome and beautiful I am, etc.  I would say this ends up being about 50% of our conversations.  \n\nDon't get me wrong, I like being appreciated - but for some reason I haven't been able to fully describe, I feel uncomfortable, like there's an imbalance.  I expressed this to him and he basically just said that he's so impressed and infatuated and \"wants to treat me like the angel I am.\"  \n\nThis is such a weird thing for me to be feeling off about and I'm wondering if someone can help me put into words what's making me feel uncomfortable so I can express it to him and hopefully figure this out.  Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Reconnecting in the last month with an ex from high school, he is putting me on a pedestal and is always complimenting me, I'm feeling uncomfortable for reasons I can't quite formulate into words."}
{"id": "t3_215dyu", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Specific tips/workouts to improve the middle of my races? (1600 and 3200)", "post": "So, yesterday was my first track meet this year. Last year, as a freshman, I PR'd in the 1600 at a 4:57 and in the 3200 at a 10:51. My goal yesterday was to start about where I left off; I wanted a 5:00 flat 1600, and an 11:00 3200. \n\nI finished my mile in 5:08, with lap times of 75, 79, 79, and 75. In my 3200, I ran 11:10. My first 4 laps were perfect 82/83s, and I finished the first four laps in exactly 5:30. Laps 5, 6, and 7 were a bit slower, In the 85-88 range. I kicked like a madman the last lap and ran a final lap of 75. \n\nAs you may be able to tell, the middle of my race is what causes my times to suffer. In both races, the first and last parts were on or under pace, leading me to believe I need to work on only the middle part of my races. (Of course I'll keep working on the race as a whole, but the middle is what demands the most focus.) But as a young high school runner, I have no idea what I need to do to improve those middle laps, so I decided to come to you guys with help! I know it's a pretty specific race, but any advice or workout suggestions would much appreciated! :) Thanks!", "summary": "I need tips and workouts to help me drop time during the middle laps of 1600 and 3200 meter track races!"}
{"id": "t3_2atdfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M/F] with my wife [30 M/F] of 4 years, Am I being too jealous?", "post": "Recently my wife has been hanging out with a new guy friend and it seems as though she has been spending a lot more time with him than me. \n\nShe tends to work a lot so I rarely see her until around 10 at night and on Saturday. However spends 4 -  5 days out with her friend till past midnight and sometimes in the weekend when we have time to spend with each other. \n\nI have attempted to discuss that I am a bit uncomfortable with the situation and that we should be spending more time together, however she doesn't seem to understand. \n\nWhat I'm asking is whether I'm being overly jealous / controlling about the whole situation and should just ignore it?", "summary": "wife seems to spend time with her new friend than me. Am I being too jealous / controlling?"}
{"id": "t3_2g96oq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure what to do next.", "post": "I dated this girl for a couple of months and we got really close. I'm a 16 year old guy btw. \n\nThe couple months went great until around May. Her parents found out and read some somewhat suggestive texts and won't let us talk. I've tried talking to her in any way I can. Through friends, an attempted letter that never made it to her, even using other friends accounts for things. Sadly I can't just go see her because she lives decently far away.  After 4 months or so most would be over it but we clicked like no other of my relationships. \n\nI still think about her everyday but don't know what to do. Hopefully Reddit can help me. That's if there is anything I can do", "summary": "Dated girl, parents found out, cant talk to her, I would love some advice"}
{"id": "t3_3zrh0n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by practicing American Football", "post": "**Please tell me if this is a fun to read TIFU. I don't really know the style of these yet.**\n\nWhen I say football, I mean the American version, not the association version.\n\nThis didn't happen today, it happened eight months ago.\n\nI'm inexperienced in football, and when all my friends were playing it, I wanted to learn how to. I asked my friend to help out, and what he first taught me was how to tackle and how to resist tackles. I was shit at the tackling, so I practiced resisting tackles. So there is was, my huge friend which probably weighed 60kg (132lb) tackled me. I myself weighed 70kg (154lb) at the time. I got tackled, and wasn't able to stay standing it. I fell, and the combination of two bull-like guys falling broke my humerus bone. The teachers thought it was bullying, my friend got held up by the vice principal who nobody liked, and my mom came to school to deliver me to the hospital. In the end, I became the first child of the house to break a bone, and even better, I got what is considered Stage 1 Scoliosis, which I got because I kept leaning to make my bone feel comfortable.. But hey, I did get an extra week to work on an assignment which was due the day after I broke my bone, so that was partially a win.", "summary": "Practiced resistance to tackling, broke humerus bone, got scoliosis."}
{"id": "t3_xq3d2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Questions about credit cards, loan consolidation and changing financial institutions", "post": "Hey /r/personalfinance, \n\nYou guys have been very helpful to me in the past and I'm back with some new questions. \n\nI have about 69K in student loans. Approximately 49K of these loans are between four private loans with ridiculous interest rates (7.25% at the low end and 13.25% at the high end). I had previously posted [here] with all of my details asking for advice on these loans. \n\nRecently, I've seen some people posting about private loan consolidation through custudentloans.org. The interest rates that they advertise are much better than what I'm receiving, but I need to be a member of a credit union it appears. I have been wanting to join a CU for some time, I just have not taken the plunge so to say. \n\nI have my choices for the CU narrowed down to two places: Desert Schools FCU and Arizona State FCU. I have decided that I'm going to go to each location and request information in person before making my decision. Is there anything that /r/personalfinance would suggest that I ask during my visits?\n\nAlso, I will be applying for my first credit card in the near future to help build my credit further (My FICO in June was 683). Is there any advantage to having your credit card through the same financial institution that you bank with? Or would it be better to keep the credit card with a different institution? I have been wanting to apply for a Chase Freedom cash rewards card, but if there is a specific reason to have a credit card with the CU that I join, then I will probably go that route instead. \n\nFinally, if you have any experience working with custudentloans.org, I was hoping that you would share how your experience was. Is this a good deal or is this going to end up screwing me over in the long run? Additionally, should I start working to consolidate now, or wait until my credit score is higher? If I need to wait, how high should my credit score be? \n\nThanks in advance for any information or advice you can offer me!", "summary": "What questions should I ask a CU before deciding to join?"}
{"id": "t3_2navio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24/f) refuse to give in to my aunt's (60's/f) drama. How should I handle this?", "post": "This is going to be quick.\n\nMy aunt said some really nasty things about me because I didn't invite her over lately. I'm talking vile, hateful things. We were never close. She never expected this of me before. This is coming from no where. She dragged my mom (40's/f) into it saying how she raised me terribly and she's a horrible parent. She said horrible things about her as well.\n\nMy mom decided to confront her directly (as my aunt was saying these things behind our backs). My aunt said she refused to apologize and that she's depressed but meant everything she said. At the end of their little meetup, they \"made amends\" which really means nothing. My mom decided to just put it behind her even though my aunt stands by her statements and refuses to apologize.\n\nThat's fine. It's their business. However, my mom told me today that she's going to go over their for Thanksgiving and hopes I can go. I REFUSE. I see this as a toddler screaming in the middle of the grocery store for ice cream and giving it to them because they're screaming. These things aren't forgivable. It's not like she was just ranting and then apologized for it. She didn't.\n\nMy question is should I ignore all of this and her or should I confront her myself? I don't want a forced apology but I am not putting this behind me without one, if that. She's a real piece of crap for what she said.", "summary": "Aunt created drama. Mom decided to give in and make up. I refuse. Don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_43a4fr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Everything is good with my [25 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of 3 months, except we both keep getting anxiety about being in a relationship!", "post": "My boyfriend and I were seeing each other casually (not exclusive) for about 3 months, have been officially together for 3. We love each other very much, get along great, have wonderful conversations, great sex, all the right stuff. But occasionally I will be overcome with anxiety as to whether this is going to get in the way of my career, is it the right thing, will it last, does he really love me, etc.\n\nHe also gets anxious about the same things, and because he is very communicative, we will talk about our feelings. I know constant communication is good, but then I get in a tailspin about feeling anxious and what that means, and it gets so hard to ignore. I find myself unable to enjoy the relationship aspects of our relationship because I'm anxious about our relationship - if that makes sense.\n\nIs there any tip or trick to avoid this? Is this a sign we should just break up? Has anyone encountered this? Please let me know - thank you!!", "summary": "In a great relationship, but anxiety about being in a relationship is threatening to ruin the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_547xsi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [26M] of 5 years, is it worth it to tell him now?", "post": "Background Info: I've been with my boyfriend for 5+ years. We met in college and were best friends for two years before we decided we wanted to kiss. Since then, we've had the most amazing relationship. We've tackled long distance summers, interracial challenges, and finally landing jobs post grad. We have been living together for the past year -- everything about our relationship is perfect. We are both crazy in love and looking forward to a long future together.\n\nBUT. I messed up. Like 3 years ago...\n\nWe graduated college. I moved to NYC to start a new job right away. He traveled to volunteer for a few months, then lived at home while looking for a job in NYC. We were long distance for about 13 months (seeing each other 1-2x a month). We handled the distance really well. I became really good friends with my new female co workers and we would hit the town from time to time. On one evening, I got a little more tipsy than usual and when out at a club, ended up dancing with some random guy. My boyfriend is ok with my dancing with other guys at clubs as long as things don't cross a \"flirty party girl\" line. Well, on this one occasion it did. I ended up drunk dance floor making out with this guy. This lasted all of 10 seconds until I realized what was happening and quickly ran away to find my friends. The night went on as usual...and I've never told a soul.\n\nI realize I could keep this secret forever, but I've always wondered if I should say something -- even though this was like 2 years ago. This occurrence was totally out of character for me and nothing even close to this has ever happened before or since. As we move towards getting married and serious proposal talks, is this something I can just let slide. Or do you guys think its a good idea to just get it out of the way and move forward with a clean slate?", "summary": "5 yr relationship, drunk dance floor kissed some random guy out at a bar/club 3 years ago -- is it worth bringing up just to clear the air prior to engagement/marriage? Or is it not worth the drama at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_2r9ofd", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Very Watery Diarrhea (going on 6 days)", "post": "Male 26\n\nOn christmas my niece was sick with diarrhea and vomiting. I stayed the night with my parents and went home the next day. Come that Sunday I felt tired went to sleep and this Monday I started having very loose and watery diarrhea. \n\nNo nausea, no vomiting(except once when I choked on water and it got triggered. Very little body aching if any. I had a fever get up to 101 but it has been normal for 3 days.\n\nI have stayed hydrated with gatorade, and water. Yesterday I had more solid diarrhea but today it went back to its more liquid like state.\n\nI have eaten a lot of bananas, rice, toast, but it does not seem to be improving.\n\nI feel perfectly find otherwise, even went to the movies today, but I am very gassy as well. \n\nI know it could be a number of things, my family has no history of any intestinal problems or allergies to Gluten etc. \n\nJust curious when I should go see a doctor.\n\nMy brother in law said it is probably norovirus and to let it run its course. Same with my nurse friends.", "summary": "6 days of gas and very liquidy diarrhea. Had a fever that has since subsided."}
{"id": "t3_4ailga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my ex of two years [20F], everyone thinks I cheated and is sullying my name.", "post": "Tired and so low in energy so I'm going to keep this post fairly short. \nSo my ex of 2 years broke up with me a month ago because of rumours that an (now ex) friend of mine was spreading that I cheated on her with that friend. \nHer \"proof\" mostly consists of flirty conversations and me telling my friend (whom I've been friends for since pre-school) that I loved her, which I did as I'd had feelings for her back then, but this was before I'd gotten into an official relationship with my current ex. \nFor whatever reason, all our mutual friends decided to believe her instead, and have ostracised me, to the point where I can't go anywhere where they are without feeling like I'm unwelcome. They've also started spreading the rumour to new people, making it really hard for me to make new friends. \n Ex is now furious, and won't even talk to me, has blocked me off everywhere. What do I do?", "summary": "ex thinks i cheated, didn't actually. what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2fk42r", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Am I losing weight too quickly?", "post": "Hey everyone! I recently posted on this sub because I knew I had to do something to lose weight. A few things I picked up on included how much weight to lose safely per week (1-2lbs) and that water weight can make your weigh-ins fluctuate. That said, I think I'm losing too quickly.\n\nPlease bear in mind, I KNOW weighing yourself every day may not be the best thing to do. But it's a personal choice and I like to see how my body is changing, whether I'm gaining or losing. (I weigh myself naked, first thing in the morning after using the bathroom. Is this not a good time?) That said, I have been counting calories for 5 days exactly and I am down 4.6 lbs. I did have very horrible eating habits and was very easily eating over the calorie amount I'm recommended now. So, by counting calories, I am definitely eating way less than before. I am also drinking a lot more water. Could anybody provide some insight as to why my weight is dropping so quickly?", "summary": "Lost 4.6 lbs in 5 days. Not sure why."}
{"id": "t3_25kev5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my S/O[26M] have been together for 10 months,living together for 6. We are now both moving in with our parents.", "post": "So due to many factors,mostly financial,my bf and I are deciding to move in with our parents for a month,so that we can both save money to put a down payment for a **RENT HOUSE.**\n\nWe have our problems,but mostly I am just very insecure and having to work on it. He is an incredibly handsome man,very sweet,the works,and he has never cheated on me,but this new distance between us is really bothering me. I have control issues,and because we won't be living together,I won't be able to see everything he does all the time,etc. \n\nHe says that he doesn't want to break up,and that he loves me,but a part of me feels that this \"moving out\" idea is just an excuse to toss me to the curb. I just honestly don't know what to think.", "summary": "My bf and I will be living with our parents for a month,due to financial issues,but I think he is just trying to use this to break up with me,even though he says he would like to stay together. Do you think he is just trying to break up with me? Or do you think he wants to stay?"}
{"id": "t3_2uu0ke", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Where should I go in my Career", "post": "I am 19 currently in the USAF for a year and a half now in the water and fuels maintenance career field (which is plumbing, water/waste plant operator, and pipeline technician) I will be getting a bachelors in this field while I am in and plan to use my GI Bill with accelerated learning to earn 2 masters Degrees.\n\nMy dilemma is I have no Idea where I should go career wise.  My plan is to work pipeline technician while I am going to school for 4 or so years which will give me 9+ years experience in that field (5 in the Airforce).  Every job I've looked at even all the up to director and supervisor positions only require a bachelors I hope to be able to move back to the New England area (preferably NH) and make at least 120k-150k range.  \n\nWhat sort of career titles should I look for? \nShould I stay where I am or would I just be over qualified?\nShould I just try and go to school for something completely different?", "summary": "Is 9 years experience a bachelors and two masters over qualify me for a pipeline director/supervisor career"}
{"id": "t3_29a3a1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] want to tell this girl [20 F] I've been dating for 5 months that I like her without getting friendzoned. How do I do this?", "post": "So I met this girl online and we've been talking to each other ever since. We've only been on 3 dates but we've started to see each other more often in the last month. On last 2 dates, she came to my town cause she likes it here and we've been to restaurants and stuff. Overall we have a great relationship but I'm not sure if she views me as a friend or as someone who she wants to start a relationship with. I like her a lot and I want to tell her that but, I don't want to ruin this current relationship that I have and I definitely don't wanna get friendzoned. We are gonna go out next week too and I'm planning to say something about this, I just hate this feeling of uncertainty. I don't care much about labels but I wanna know if we can be \"boyfriend and girlfriend\". What do you guys think I should do? Should I just tell her how I feel?", "summary": "I like this girl, I wanna know if she likes me back as a potential boyfriend or not. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_14g72t", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do I ask a girl to be my girlfriend?", "post": "So me and this girl have been talking and hanging out for a long time now, maybe 3 - 4 months. I've been scared to make a move and we traded phones and read eachothers texts and she says she doesn't like how i'm such a virgin (I am a virgin and i'm scared to make a move). Anyways she told one of my friends she wanted me to ask her out. So what is a good clever way to ask her out. Also should I say \"will you go out with me\" or \"will you be my girlfriend\" or something else? P.s. I'm 18 (m) shes 17 (f)", "summary": "I'm scared to make any moves even though she wants it and she wants a relationship. How do i ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_3gr3pm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU a long time ago and learned about it today", "post": "Of course this FU didn't happen today but about 30 years ago.\n\nI had a friend in high school who I had a mad crush on. She knew all about it, we tried to get together once or twice but it never worked out so we just stayed friends. I kept that crush alive all through school though. \n\nA few years after high school I'm hanging out in front of my house with my girlfriend when my friend from high school stops by. She was in the neighborhood, saw us outside and decided to pop in to say high. I introduced her to my girlfriend, we talked for a bit and she kept hinting that she wanted to hang out with us for a while but we had plans (I don't remember what, maybe a movie or something). High school friend drops stronger and stronger hints,  at one point she was standing next to me and touching my arm and shoulder saying that we all should spend some time together. She reached over to my girlfriend to get her attention and stroked her hair a bit. \n\nMe, being paranoid, thinks that she's hitting on me in front of my girlfriend and was just being weird with my girl, panicked and made her leave. My girlfriend didn't really pay much mind to what was going on and we went about our business.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, I run into high school friend and after catching up she asks me why I made her leave that day. I told her that I thought she was hitting on me in front of my girlfriend. She told me that she was not hitting on me, she was hitting on both of us... she thought my girlfriend was super hot and wanted to \"get busy\" with both of us.", "summary": "coulda had a threesome with my highschool crush and my girlfriend but read the signals wrong."}
{"id": "t3_21qrhl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M]want to chase a girlfriend [23 F] of six weeks halfway across the world", "post": "Back story: I am a 25 year old guy, I got romantically involved with a girl (who I knew reasonably well before hand) for about 6 weeks before she left to travel to the UK, I have had plenty of girlfriends before and all that but I have never ever felt this way about a girl before, it is something that I just can't describe.. It all just happened so incredibly quickly.\n\nShe left about a month ago and is living in London (she is planning on living there for around 2 years), her feelings are very mutual and she would love for me to come live with her. The thing is is that I am just about to finish my first year of university, I was loving uni until she turned up in my life and I really feel the need to be with her and see where it takes us, like I said even in my past longterm (2-3 year) relationships I have not felt feelings like this, it is just different.\n\nDo you believe that chasing a girl is worth putting university on hold for a while or should I just get on with my degree and have faith that one day everything will work out the way it is supposed to?", "summary": "In love, want to chase girl to the otherside of the world"}
{"id": "t3_19s7c5", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "2 dogs, 1 human - help and advice appreciated", "post": "I have two dogs that are generally well behaved but have been getting increasingly reactive on walks (barking/snarling at other dogs and sometimes people).  I believe it would be best to train (both walking behaviors and some other basics we've gotten lax on) better walking behaviors separately because they feed off each other's energy, making the problem worse.  However, I am currently unable to do anything with each dog separately because the one I'm not working with will bark/be destructive while being \"ignored.\"\n\nI was wondering if any had advice on how to get dogs over this problem so that I can train them up separately.  I live in an apartment and so don't feel comfortable leaving one to just bark until extinction because it would bother my neighbors.\n\nI really appreciate any feedback and suggestions and can provide more information if you need it!\n\nBonus question: Does anyone have suggestions for making a dog that is frightened of strangers more comfortable around people if I don't really know anyone that can help me out in person?\n\nObligatory pictures for the interested:", "summary": "How can I train my dogs separately without the one left alone freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_2yxx63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am currently a SAHM and my husband [30/m] seems to expect me to do all the housework -is this fair?", "post": "I am a stay at home mom right now (not a permanent thing) with two kids not in school yet.  I breastfeed and am up 2 -3 times during the night with the children.  I never get a full night sleep.  My husband works long shifts five days a week, and leaves for work early so he has 20-30 minutes of personal time before work.  By the time he gets home, they are both asleep.\n\nHe has recently stopped doing chores and seems to expect me to do them all.  For chores, I had asked him to take out the garbage (I get it together and leave it near the door) and to wash/dry the laundry.  I said I would fold.  We don't have laundry in our unit and the garbage is a short walk, and it's a huge inconvenience trying to carry the kids and a laundry pail or garbage bags -especially given the ice, snow and cold.  He usually cooks once or twice a week but makes a mess and doesn't wipe down the stove or clean the pots. I have talked to him before, and he says he just forgets sometimes.   \n\nI know as a stay at home mom I should take on most of the housework, and have decided to start using a cleaning schedule so it doesn't seem so overwhelming, but I really feel like he needs to help more.  I just don't know what is fair to ask.  I need to sit down and talk to him since he isn't doing anything, and am wondering if it's okay to ask him to help out with more than those two things.  For now, with two at home, breastfeeding, and taking care of feeding/diapers at night, what do you think is an appropriate split?  I feel clueless.", "summary": "Husband not helping with housework.  Going to talk to him about it and am wondering what is fair to ask of him since he works full time?"}
{"id": "t3_2h98gc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my [21F] GF, trying to decipher a situation and whether it's cheating.", "post": "Hey all. So, my girlfriend of a little over a year and I have been going fairly well throughout the last few months at University. However, the past few weekends I've been out of town so she hasn't had too much to do for fun. She has been hanging out with one of her new friends from one of her classes, let's call him Ted. \n\nTed and my GF have been texting, snapchatting, everything, which I don't have a problem with because as long as nobody gets the wrong idea about a friendship I'm not going to tell her how to live her life. \n\nHowever, when I was coming home one Sunday evening, she had been sporadically texting me all evening. I get a text around 8:30 (I'd gotten home around 7) saying that she's hanging out with her roommates and that she'll come over to my place soon so we can hang out. \n\nI then don't hear from her until 8:30 the following morning, and I had been calling and texting her throughout the night trying to get some sense of what she was doing. She doesn't mention anything of it, and apologizes. \n\nWell previously, after a discussion, I pried out of her that she wasn't with her roommates and she invited Ted back to her room after they got dinner together, all of which was taking place while I was already home. \n\nAfter more discussion, it turns out that they were on her bed together, while he was playing her guitar, and they ended up holding hands before she drove him home around 1:30.\n\nAll of this she would have never told me had I not insisted on having all the accurate information. She insists that nothing other than hand holding happened. \n\nIs this considered cheating? I feel as if I've been cheated on, at least emotionally, in that I feel completely disrespected and betrayed. Any thoughts or comments would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "GF of a year invites friend from class into her room alone without my knowledge and holds hands with him before driving him home late at night. Is this cheating/how do I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_1syobv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [22F] broke up with me [24M] out of nowhere, could she be cheating on me?", "post": "She and I have been going out for three months. She has a lot of friends, whereas I'm very introverted and a loner. From the beginning, she's always hung out with a lot of guy friends and even told me that they kept trying to have sex with her. I'm not a jealous person, so I wasn't disturbed by it. After a month of dating, she admitted that she fooled around with one of her old friends (neck kissing, fondling, first base stuff) and told me she'd never do it again. I wasn't overly upset about it because I was glad she was honest. Since then, there haven't been any other issues.\n\nThis morning, she broke up with me out of the blue. No explanation, except that she wanted to keep things *exactly* the way they were but just drop the title of a relationship. I thought things were going really well for us and I really like this girl. I kept asking her why she wanted us to break up and she wouldn't tell me. I asked if it was because she wanted to see other people but she insisted I was the only guy she liked and wanted to be intimate with. So what gives? Why break up then?\n\nIs it possible that she was cheating on me/planned to? I'm so fucking confused right now and she won't offer me any sort of explanation. I don't know what to do. I mean, if she did sleep with another dude she could just tell me like she told me last time.. I wouldn't have flipped out on her. I don't understand why she wouldn't tell me, so she probably wasn't cheating on me right? But why the mixed signals and everything? Jesus Christ.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to break up but keep everything the same between us. Insisted she's not trying to explore her options and only wants to be with me. What should I do right now? I feel stuck."}
{"id": "t3_2kira8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with my wife [28F] of 1yr, have issues delegating tasks to her.", "post": "I have issues delegating (what I consider) pretty simple tasks to my wife. My schedule is pretty busy with work and I find myself asking her to do things like 1) go down to the HOA to talk about an issue that we both understand, 2) get ink cartridges refilled at Costco the next time she makes a trip, 3) get herself enrolled in a local junior college to take classes that she wants to take (she asked me for help getting started and I guided her to the online application, class schedule, etc), 4) fill out (or at least do the parts she can) her immigration paperwork, 5) make doctor's appointments and follow-ups.\n\nA lot of my impatience comes from me feeling like she's not putting in her best effort. I feel like I'm working with an uncooperative co-worker that doesn't know how to make a clean hand-off when they need help, and do it themselves when they don't need help. Everything I ask her to help out in doing, I end up spending more time in scattered (trivial) questions or helping with things out she can easily figure out by using Google. It's also personally very frustrating dealing with ineffectual people, and especially frustrating when there is a failure to complete necessary tasks to live.\n\nI know that she never paid a bill in her life before we got together, i.e., she didn't have much of the procedural skill set needed to survive. It seems like it could just be an avoidance/lack of confidence in doing these things. How can I help with this?\n\nI don't get what the problem is, because she puts in a lot of effort to take care of the domestic needs of our home and does a great job at it. It also doesn't seem like it'd be asking too much as she doesn't work and doesn't seem overloaded with what she does at home. She definitely isn't lazy.", "summary": "Can't seem to get my wife to help out with anything other than home-tasks and don't know what the problem is. What's wrong and how can I help fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_43zu5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my ex-GF [24F] of 4-years, finally feeling pure love for her after our relationship ended, should I share?", "post": "My ex-girlfriend and I had a beautiful relationship for four-years, and after lots of introspection after our break-up (a couple weeks ago), I have no more bitter thoughts about it, and I'm thankful to have been so strongly loved. I came to the realization that what I'm finally experiencing is pure love for her, that I'm fine with letting her go, this unconscious feeling of possessiveness is no longer on my mind, and I'm happy with whatever will happen for us in the future as individuals. I'm very happy that I found  this silver lining. \n\nAs for her, she's in a lost place, and I want her to find out what is best for herself (we were in an international relationship, and big decisions regarding our futures are soon needed to be made, and it is better to make these decisions without each other's influences), even if that means I won't be in the picture. I want to give each other our space now, but I also want to share my realizations with her in a letter.\n\nOf course I would welcome her with open arms in the future if I'm not seriously seeing someone else, but I won't be waiting for her. \n\nBut I feel these thoughts are important to share to her, but maybe I should just leave it to rest and keep these pure feelings to myself for the rest of my life.", "summary": "Feeling of pure love for my ex, should I share?"}
{"id": "t3_11v8sr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need to make money and fast. Reddit what are your best fast money making schemes?", "post": "I'm a newly single mother of 3. I am behind in rent, my vehicle isn't insured right now due to lack of money, our cable and Internet will be canceled within the next few days, and every other bill is now behind due to lack of money. I'm doing what I can with what I can but quickly realizing that I'm drowning. I have been looking for a new and higher paying job for months, with no success (though I have a lot of experience to provide). Reddit, what can I do to help keep my family afloat? I need to make more money and fast!", "summary": "single mom of 3 is drowning in bills and needs to make money now. I will not whore myself out so don't suggest!"}
{"id": "t3_225yef", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a spare bank baby, anybody else out here like me? How do you feel about it", "post": "I have a mom a dad and two brothers, my dad IS my dad, he raised me and both my brothers, but he is not our biological father. Because he is infertile he and my mom decided to find sperm donor's as close to a match as him and have my mom artificially inseminated. They used a different donor for the each of us, and it was all anonymous, so we will never have the chance of knowing who our bio dad's are, jjust that they are about 5\"8' Irish heritage, and dark hair. I don't want anything from my bio dad, I'd just like to meet him find out if we're alike, get important info like family health history etc, but sadly there doesn't seem to be a possibility of that. But instill love my dad, and he has always been there for me, so it's not like I'm bitter about not knowing my dad, because I do. Anybody else in a similar situation? Have you heard of any way to maybe find out more info on your bio dad?  are you angry at all?", "summary": "my dad isn't my biological dad and I'll probably never meet him because he was an anonymous sperm donor, anybody else like me?"}
{"id": "t3_1dwp1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19m] and my girlfriend [19f] recently broke up, I dont want it to end.", "post": "Me and this girl were dating for around 3 weeks and things were going really well until I had a crazy as hell week at work that put me over the ringer. I had also just received some bad news from my doctor aswell about my health, so needless to say, my mind was in shambles. During the 4th week of our relationship, I had been texting her a bit asking her schedule and wanting to hang out really bad, to take my mind off of work. I came off a bit creepy/desperate/came on too strong, and I could kinda tell something was going wrong. Her mood towards me that week seemed to change from interested, to putting up with our conversations. Anyway, I made plans for us to go hiking by our local lake, there I had planned to sort of clear the air and explain my recent behaviour a little, but I also felt she would flake on me. The day comes and she ends up flaking. I sent her a text just to see if she still thought we were doin something because I was on my way somewhere else at the time. [She waited 5 hours to text me this text message. ](\nSo me being tired from work and shopping/trying to disregard her flake, sort of just agreed to her texts without starting any conflicts. [I say this, and i know this is soooo beta, but I was not really thinking at the time.] There were a couple more back and fourths with her saying she was sorry/etc and I told her not to be because it was only a month long. Well its been a week and a half, and I really dont want it to be completely over. We have not contacted eacother since the breakup, and I have no plans to contact her, as that would show great weakness on my part. I was figuring though, her birthday is in 2 months, and I was thinking that might be a good way to sort of \"catch up\" with her and grab a quick lunch and relaunch things. Idk what to do, im so shit at relationships.", "summary": "Me and this girl were dating for a month, I fucked up and made myself look super desperate and scared her off. She didnt seem unpleasant in her \"break up\" text, and I think I might still have  a shot."}
{"id": "t3_115svb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "EX-FWB[27/f] Wishes to get back in contact and be  friends. I'm [25/m] not so sure....", "post": "I was seeing a girl for around 4 months, and we were essentially FWB. We had a lot of problems, we have very different personalities and we literally broke up and got back together every other week it seemed. Well last time we broke up it was a really bad argument, and she basically laid into me. \n\nEarlier today she sends me a long email message basically saying that although we had our issues we got on okay as friends, which is sort of true. She apologised for having a go at me, but still I'm not sure I've forgiven her. She is now offering the opportunity to just be friends, which is what I had suggested several times before and she shot me down. Now I could essentially get what I always wanted, but I don't want it anymore. I've moved on and I just feel like whatever situation  we are in we will just keep arguing.\n\nIs it bad to just kind of reject her offer of friendship? How do I go about doing that without her being angry or being pissed off?", "summary": "Ex-FWB Wishes to \"just be friends\" I feel as though it's a bad idea. How do I let her down easily?"}
{"id": "t3_4cjmu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] broke up with my boyfriend [25 M] of 1 year. He is getting scary and I don't know how to handle it.", "post": "Found out my boyfriend was chatting and sending nude pics with men in a hookup app. He lied about the whole thing.\n\nWe've since broken up because of this. It felt like cheating to me, even if there wasn't physical contact involved (he says). I had been rather clear about what counts as cheating in my book... just for the sake of clarity I suppose. We had agreed this was not acceptable.\n\nProblem is now he's becoming scary. He keeps telling me how guilty and miserable he feels about hurting and betraying me. He's been getting drunk and messaging me, stalking me online (after we unfriended each other). The other day he said he was considering quitting his job because of how bad he felt, and a couple of days ago he mentioned he felt he might self-harm.\n\nHow should I react to this? Should I just not engage or should I worry that this may be something serious? I don't want to be with him anymore, but I definitely don't want him to hurt himself. Part of me thinks it may be just misdirection... I obviously will focus less on what he did that made me break up with him if I am worried about him. Am I selfish for thinking this?", "summary": "Broke up with my boyfriend after he betrayed my trust and lied. He's stalking me and talking about self-harming."}
{"id": "t3_43sd1e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17M] deal with my GF [17F] not really understanding things and being a bit slow?", "post": "We've been dating for 5 months now and while I love her dearly I can't help but feel I am babying her when we talk about things that she clearly has little grasp on. I really feel bad because she has a delayed processing disorder so things take a while to get through her, but I desperately want to converse with her without her just shutting down and kinda nodding and saying yah instead Of contributing to the discussion. She is a really deep feeling person I can tell, but seriously every time I try to talk politics for example she says she is going to vote whoever wins the democratic primaries because they will help poor people and she cries and donates to the poor every time we go downtown. I definitely enjoy learning from her in the ways she shows me, but honestly I consider myself a fairly intellectual person and am fucking dying to actually discuss something of academic importance with her. Please any help at all would be great!!", "summary": "Girlfriend has a blonde streak"}
{"id": "t3_3fgr87", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 ftM] with my Boyfriend [21 M] 2 weeks, are things moving too fast?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two weeks. He asked if it was okay to introduce me to his friends and family as his boyfriend on day two, which I said was fine. He updated his relationship status on Facebook the morning after our first 'date.'\n\nI have never had a 'traditional' dating experience- ya know, the one you see in movies? He asked me out to coffee, and a few days later we ended up at ihop at 11pm and then spent the entire night at the beach in a Gazebo- dancing, singing, snuggling. I have been spending the night at his house 2 or 3 nights a week. It feels like we have been together much longer than we have. We have cried together, laughed, and shared our secrets. \n\nI do not think I know him all of the way, just yet, and I most certainly have not given him the whole life-story. We are already best friends, inseparable. My heart races thinking about him. We have talked about just about everything under the sun. I really do love him.\n\nI am not in love with him, just yet. I do not want to give my emotions up so easily. I do not want to end up falling for someone who I may not end up being compatible with. I felt romantically attracted to one person, before, and it took quite some time to get over that. I am cautious about this guy, and I know he feels romantically attracted to me so I feel a bit guilty that I haven't gotten there yet. He is already invested in the relationship, and I have half a mind to jump ship before it gets too serious. I take it one day at a time, though.", "summary": "Is it too soon in the relationship for my boyfriend to be in love with me? We have been dating for two weeks. Is it truly love or is it something else? I don't feel that way for him, yet."}
{"id": "t3_14suz6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Retail Worker of Reddit, What is the craziest thing you  have seen a customer do in your store?", "post": "I know we all a have seen some crazy things happen in our store and I thought it would fun to share some stories. So here is mine:\nI once had a customer come into my store wife her young daughter (maybe 4 or 5). While we were helping the mother pick out the products she was looking for the little girl started running in circles around our store. This actually happened happen frequently because my store was located in an area with a lot of young families. A minute or two went by and the little girl continued to run faster and faster as well as widening the circle she was running in. Well the circle widened so much that the girl hit an off shoot wall we had in the store at full speed while looking at her mother and fell to the floor completely knocked out and then wet herself. The mother rushed over to the girl picked her up and said \"I am so sorry. This happens to her sometimes.\" and then rushed out of the store.", "summary": "Girl, Run, Wall, Knocked out, Pissed herself"}
{"id": "t3_3bb9ru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17 M] ask my best friend [17 F] out if I like her, but she hasn't given me any positive signs besides friendly flirts?Relationships", "post": "Our mutual friend told me she thinks it will definitely work out and we'll start dating, just not as soon as I'd like it to. Is there an truth to this? I don't want to wait if I don't have to and I don't know if there's really a benefit to waiting. The friend told me she won't go out with me if I ask her out and it'll be really awkward. She said she asked this girl if she'd ever date me and she said she did't know because she doesn't think people can take me seriously because I'm immature and she wouldn't be taken seriously if she dated me. The flirting my best friend has done include- asking me to touch her legs because she just shaved saying it was cute when i tried this dance move in her room at this restaurant we were with a bunch of friends and we were switching spots and she ended up grinding between my groin and the table. I honestly feel like I'm friend zoned and she doesn't know what she's doing. A few months before I knew her as well, I asked her out (sorta), but she liked someone else. despite her flirts. I got so much closer to her and we hang out alone frequently. I call her almost everyday I don't see her and we talk for about an hour. Basically we'd be doing everything we'd do as a couple minus the romance. :( We go watch movies together, chill at her house until midnight, go on walks, get coffee, etc. She also asked me to teach her to dance in her kitchen the other day. What do I say to her? I really like her because we get along so well and I have so much fun with her, but I'd be able to get over it if she didn't want to date. I'd just love for it to happen. I know when another guy comes around there is no way we'll still be as close as we are.", "summary": "Should I wait to ask this girl out?"}
{"id": "t3_31noo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [20 F]. I have feelings for her even after a failed attempt at a relationship in the past.", "post": "I have a friend that I met in my freshman year of high school. We got along very well and attempted to start a relationship for about a month. It never really got further than just hanging out together and we decided to just be friends. When I later asked her about why it didn't work out she said it was because she had just gotten out of a different relationship and it seemed to soon for her.\n\nA few years later we went to prom together as friends and had a nice time. Weve kept in contact the whole time but rarely see eachother. I still have feelings for her and I don't know what she thinks about me beyond being a friend. Should I attempt to restart a relationship and risk driving her away from me, or should we just remain friends?", "summary": "Should I attempt to restart a relationship with a friend after it didn't work out the first time?"}
{"id": "t3_cryg8", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Aliens are taking over my computer!", "post": "So, one day, I was surfing the web as usual, when I noticed that my bandwidth monitor was suddenly showing a huge spike in download activity. I was perplexed. This kept going and going, reaching over 250MB.\n\nThe thing is, I didn't start any downloads before this happened. I have no idea where this huge chunk of data was downloaded to, and I didn't have any programs open that were shown to be downloading updates. \n\nI closed Firefox, and it actually stopped. I don't know if it was coincidence, but it really seemed like closing my web browser stopped the download. \n\nIs it possible for data to be made to be downloaded surreptitiously by your browser?", "summary": "mysterious chunk of data downloaded with no visible source, ending when browser is closed. Does not restart when browser is reopened."}
{"id": "t3_4r70dk", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "PSA: your passport expires before the expiration date [rant]", "post": "Just wanted to pass this info along to anyone else who, like me, wouldn't have known otherwise. \n\nI have a US passport. I planned a 3 week trip through Europe, scheduled all my flights and stays in between, researched places to see and things to eat, read blogs and watched videos, packed my bags and double checked to make sure I had everything, showed up at the airport yesterday, and was promptly denied because my return date was 2.5 months before my passport expired. \n\nTo travel to Europe, my return date has to be 3 months before expiration. My passport expired before the stated expiration date.\n\nI was disappointed and so sad. Thankfully my friends who were seeing me off came back to pick me up, I made an appointment with the passport agency (earliest one is for Thursday) and rescheduled my trip to Friday. I'm hoping and praying that passport turn around is same day as some people have told me, otherwise my entire trip is doomed. \n\nSo because I thought my passport expired on the day of expiration, my three weeks got cut to 2 weeks. I've rescheduled, dropped 2 countries from my travel list, and am sitting at home with nothing to do, a cleaned out fridge, and moping for an entire week... \n\nI wish I had checked and known about this passport thing, and I'm disappointed in myself and in the system in general for such a maddening rule. \n\nI hope you wonderful Travellers out there learn from my mistake. And if you already knew about this, are actively letting others know :( I sincerely wish that international airlines would automatically ask about passports for these kinds of things: I honestly had no idea about these rules and I'm sad my long vacation got cut by 33%.\n\nBest of luck to everyone out there", "summary": "your passport technically expires before the stated expiration date, based on when and where you are traveling to... Check to make sure if your passport expires in less than 6 months to a year!! "}
{"id": "t3_4kw1xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Used to be best friends with a couple, after their break-up everything went fine with the guy[25M], but not with the girl [20F], why?", "post": "So I used to be the only common friend of a couple for over a year. Think about Ted, Marshall and Lily from HIMYM.\n\nThey used to have friends for each other, but not really other common friends. So after their break-up two months ago, I still remained a good friend of the guy. But the girl, we have been really friends before, seems to be a lot more distanced with me. We used to talk about the break-up and the crisis at first, but after a while it all seemed to cool down. \n\nSo we are seeing each other still a lot, because all of us are playing sports in our university. But the girl and me are just not really good friends anymore. So my question would be, why could this have happened and what can I do?", "summary": "Why is it working with the guy bot not with the girl?"}
{"id": "t3_3otgkv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to sell a bag of grass to an ex-cop", "post": "I was just doing one of those regular pranks, saw one on youtube and was like alright, let's try it.  Went along with 3 of my friends and we started pranking some of the ghetto people, wasn't sure if we'd make it out alive.  Apparently cops were watching that location though, and they came out to join in and question us.  Thing was though, we didn't know they were cops because they were just wearing regular casual clothing.  They asked what we were selling.  We turned over to the ghetto people and they nodded.  And we showed them what we had.  Immediately they told us to give them the stuff and we were like ??? no and apparently it looked like we did something suspicious because they pulled out their guns and started saying get on the ground and stuff and put down the drugs.", "summary": "prank fail, shoulda notified cops beforehand or something maybe dunno ;-; sedface"}
{"id": "t3_4f8iez", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl [F18] and I [M18] like each other but I'm not sure what to do in our situation", "post": "So this girl and I like each other. I confessed my feelings and she shared them except she said she doesn't want to date for two reasons. \n\n 1. School is almost over. After that, we have to spend the summer back in our hometowns on the opposite sides of our state which is like a 7 hour drive nonstop from each other.\n\n 2. She wants to get her stuff together before getting into a relationship. She can never say no and ends up \"carrying too much on her plate.\" She does a lot of volunteering. So I'm assuming she wants to organize herself before dating.\n\nIn the end she said, \"we'll see in August about dating.\"\n\nWe have like a month left here. What do I do now? I'm not going to push her into it or anything but I don't know if I should possibly be more flirty or touchy with her when we hang out.", "summary": "Girl and I like each other. Won't date until August because we have to go home and she wants to organize her life. Should I be more touchy or flirty with her over the next month before school ends?"}
{"id": "t3_10ic79", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is she still into me?", "post": "I started dating this girl and there were ups and downs as usual. Unfortunately, the downs outweighed the ups and I broke up with her. I told her that I really enjoy hanging out with her but I'm not interested in her romantically. She said she was fine with it. Now we hang out on a daily basis and you could consider us best friends.\n\nWe still do things that some people would consider \"dating\", like walking in the park and going for meals, sharing drinks, going shopping, hanging out at each other's place, vacationing together, etc, but I consider it platonic. This sort of behavior is normal in a guy to guy relationship, so can't read into that too much. However, she will make references to our previous sexual relationship and tell me about how she rejects people who come onto her, and she plans trips with me as we used to and offers to pay for the entire trip if I go (we used to split it 50/50). \n\nShe still buys me meals like she used to when we were dating and she flirts with me a bit. I think she is still into me. If so, am I leading her on by hanging out with her all the time as her best friend? I know that I explained to her that I am not interested in dating her, but if she really is still interested, is that leading her on? Do you think she is interested or is that normal behavior for after-relationship friendship?", "summary": "= My ex-girlfriend and current bestie is showing signs of interest even though I'm not interested. Am I leading her on by hanging out with her even if I already told her I'm not interested?"}
{"id": "t3_2w4mym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am still living with my ex [31M]. Can I bring dates to our apartment?", "post": "We have been living together for about 18 months. Our relationship started out casually and developed romantically overtime. We decided to live together with friends because rent in NYC is expensive. \n\nHe broke up with me 4 weeks ago and moved into our office. His reason for breaking up with me was that he wants to focus on his Master's degree studies and my relationship with him was too distracting. \n\nOur current living situation is a 6 bedroom duplex with a total of 6 people living here. His room is down the hall from mine. \n\nWe still have 6 months to go on our current lease. Moving is not an option for either of us. \n\nI want to move on and see other people. How do I talk to my ex about bringing dates to the apartment?", "summary": "I'm still living with my ex (separate bedrooms) and have 6 more months on the lease. How do I talk to him about me bringing my dates to our apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_13wllt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Went on a few dates then she instantly seemed disinterested. What's my next move? 27M", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nJust want some advice/opinions. I'm 27M and she's 24F.\n\nI've known this girl for about a year through mutual friends. A few months ago she started showing interest in me, so we ended up going on 2-3 dates and things seemed to be going really well, after every date she would message me saying she had a lot of fun and wants to do it again. She told our mutual friend she really likes me, but  immediteatley  after saying (2 days later) that she started acting distant and disinterested, so I kinda thought she lost interest for whatever reason and I stopped making efforts.\n\nShe messaged me 1.5 weeks ago apologizing for cancelling last time and said she has a few personal things going on at the moment, I replied and it literally took her 2 days to reply to my message (She always takes ages to reply), and ended the message with a \"Well have a good night then\", pretty much killing off any further conversation. Looks like this might be the case as I saw a few mutual friends over the weekend and they all mentioned they haven't really seen or heard from her over the last 3-4 weeks because they think she's having some personal problems and same thing with people saying it to her on Facebook.\n\nI kinda get the feeling she's not over her ex (ended about a year ago) due to a few comments she's made to friends before and she makes Facebook status' from time to time like \"If you can't get someone out of your mind maybe they're meant to be there\". I know she still has some ties with her ex, like both half owning a car together that she is currently using.\n\nShould I try and contact her again, give her a bit more time to sort her personal stuff out or should I just leave it as her not being interested anymore even though she seemed pretty interested to begin with? As it stands I haven't seen her in about 1.5 months and hardly been speaking at all over that time, apart from a few messages here and there.", "summary": "Confused with mixed signals. Went on a few dates, admitted she liked me then instantly seemed distant /  disinterested, found out she is going through a few personal things at the moment. What's my move here? If there is one."}
{"id": "t3_2sqhus", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Feels like no one can do much (overseas legal system issues)", "post": "This may sound more like a rant, but I am posting this here in hopes someone knowledgeable on foreign law can provide avenues to deal with my issues.\n\nI am US military living in Germany (stationed in Germany), and have already gone through the provided military law office/system, they were not able to help with my situation other than providing me with a list of local lawyers in the area.\nWithout going into too much detail (would like to keep this anonymous) here are the basic facts: I was involved in a vehicle accident with my privately owned vehicle and a local national's privately owned vehicle while driving off-post in Germany, no physical injuries. The authorities concluded that the causes for the accident could not be clearly determined, therefore here in Germany both parties are supposed to pay each other 50% of damages, so I am told is German law. Problem is this, I was not in any way the cause of the accident and the only proof of that I have is the, what seems pretty obvious, circumstances that led to the event. I feel like the whole situation is being made out to be my fault for being at the wrong place at the wrong time, and everyone in Germany is ok with that because I am a 'guest' in their country. There is a lot of shady stuff going on surrounding the incident as well, for example signs that showed restrictions on the road where the accident happened have since been changed and appear to cater more toward wider load vehicles, the lawyer I hired here stated that it is \"unrealistic\" to try to get full damages from the other insurance company, and the local national's insurance company does not want to pay their share of the 50% either, and I will have to appear in German court to defend my case, which btw I had to pay for that as well... Several thousands of euro and months later, I stand here with uncertainty of whether I will get any reparations whatsoever for something I honestly did not have fault in.", "summary": "Involved in traffic accident against local national in Germany, I did not cause the accident but there is no good way of proving it, feel like I am being taken advantage of by their legal system... what else can be done about this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2461qf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate her and I miss you", "post": "I married you at 18. We were too young, and we broke up because I was so confused on when you picked up drugs. I miss you. I have yet to meet another person I can trust as much as you. I wish I still had the impression I had of you when we broke up, because then I'd still think you were a dipshit with no future. I absolutley hate your new girlfriend btw. She's dragging you down further into the pit you stuck yourself in. I wish I could tell you I loved you, because I know you'd drop her and be back with me. I can't do that to you though, I can't fuck with your feelings like that. I wish you'd pick a better girl than her, I know I taught you better. I just want to see you happy, instead of following in your family's footsteps and being miserable with themselves because they're stuck in crappy situations.", "summary": "I love you, I wish you the best, I want you to be happy."}
{"id": "t3_22brvi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my long distance girlfriend [19 F] for a year and a half. How do I play video games without her getting mad?", "post": "We are both in college. I'm pre-med and she intends to be a lawyer. As you can imagine, we have a ridiculous amount of work pretty much all the time. It's hard to be together but somehow we make it work. We spend most of our time talking and studying together through skype .The problem is sometimes I would like to play video games. She says we barely get enough time together anyways so using it for videos would be a waste of the few bits of free time we have together. I 100% understand her point and I don't think she is unreasonable. Is there anyway I can get the best of both worlds. If it came down to it, I would gladly give  up video games for her.\n\nAny advice? Also she does not want to play with me.", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend doesn't like me playing video games."}
{"id": "t3_2a8tc0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New job, no debt: buy or rent?", "post": "I just accepted my first \"big\" job offer with a solid salary ($45k), full health benefits, and all the good stuff. This job is going to take me to a new state, to a small college town. The houses are affordable (I'm looking at the $50k-120k range) and I have no debt, with about $10,000 in savings and an old but operable and paid off car. I've been pre-qualified for up to ~$150k for a home loan. It'll probably have to be an FHA loan because I don't have much for a down payment. \n\nIn my head, buying a small house seems like a great idea. I would be investing my money into property instead of \"giving it away\" to another landlord like the past 5 years. But all my family members seem to think it's a bad idea. \"It's a lot of work,\" or \"maybe you won't like the town you're moving to\" is their advice. \n\nAm I overlooking some big issues? What should I consider in making the decision to buy a home early in my life? Would it be better to invest my new income stream into something else? Other than the savings, I have about $200 worth of mediocre stocks. No other investments.", "summary": "How would you set up your ideal investment and living plan if you had to \"start over fresh\" with a good paying job in a new town with no debt?"}
{"id": "t3_18qg05", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Children of alcoholics; what were your first experiences with drinking?", "post": "I was thinking about this earlier: I hated my dad for being an alcoholic, not because of the drinking, but because his mindset and personality mixed with it made him a complete prick. My first experience with drinking was when I was 16, and some guy at a party showed up with a big box of stuff, I was scared of being the same as my dad so started smoking cigarettes and weed at 15 to try to brace myself for any possible addictions. Stupid, I know, but in my mind it made sense. Where you scared of immediately becoming an alcoholic the first time you drank?", "summary": "Was terrified of ending up like alcoholic parent, did other drugs to temper myself to alcohol."}
{"id": "t3_15nlgw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(22) starting to get cold feet about gf (23)", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for two years, and I love her with all my heart. We talk about getting married and spending our lives together, and this has always seemed wonderful to me. However, lately i have been having some worries. Mainly, I'm worried that eventually we might not work out or we might get bored with each other. She is my first serious girlfriend, so I am concerned that fact could affect how I view things.\n\nI'm also worried that I'm going to want to go after other girls. But I would absolutely never cheat on her, as the though of that alone makes me feel sick. I love my girlfriend, that I know. I'm just scared that I'm over thinking everything and letting those unjustified negative thoughts get into my head. I feel like I'm in a really tough place here, where I love her completely and never want to live without her but am also scared I will grow up to regret marrying the first girl who I ever became seriously involved with.", "summary": "Very much in love with girlfriend, but having negative thoughts for no reason"}
{"id": "t3_ql9q5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My past jealousy is preventing my boyfriend from enjoying his life.", "post": "We've been together for about 3 years, and I have been a crazy person in the past. I'm pretty insecure, but I've been slowly working toward eliminating jealousy for the past year or so. My wonderful, accommodating boyfriend got entirely too accustomed to stopping himself from saying things (specifically about other girls) that might hurt my feelings. Oh, and not hanging out with people. That's another big one.\n\nHe doesn't seem to believe that I've changed, and I just need a chance to actually SHOW him, so he can start being himself and not letting my past craziness get in the way of his happiness. I've been trying to convince him to go have lunch with this girl he liked in high school (which was about 3 years ago, by the way) because he mentioned wanting to hang out with her about three days ago. He thinks it's going to upset me; the idea alone would've upset me a year ago, but I'm actually kind of excited for him to have a \"date.\" I think it's cute. He hasn't spent time with any other girls in a while, and I think it will be good for him to get out there and socialize.\n\nIs there anything I can say to make him realize it's cool? He keeps changing his mind back and forth between wanting to go to lunch with her this weekend and not wanting to go.", "summary": "How can I convince my boyfriend to go on a date with his high school crush?"}
{"id": "t3_256jfx", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I thought of something I'd like to do with my life, but I'm not sure if the position exists.", "post": "So, I'm reaching the end of my freshman year of college and I've realized that what I'm going to college for is not what I want to do with my life. I'm gunna try and summarize a lot of my thoughts, and what I think I'd like doing.\n\nSo right now I'm going to university to learn how to program and I wanted to use that knowledge to make video games for a living. One of my classes had an end of the year project that was a personal project of whatever you wanted as long as it was a Python program. A friend and I decided we wanted to make a simple platforming game for it. It went well and we were able to create a functional game, but it was not even close to as enjoyable as I thought it'd be. It was really a very frustrating experience and I've come to realize I don't want to study computer science anymore.\n\nNow not much in life ever really seemed fulfilling and/or useful to be something that I would want to do for the rest of my life other than helping other people. And for whatever reason being an electrician always seemed like a back up plan I'd enjoy because I like technology and I could still be kinda working with it as an electrician.\n\nI was wondering if there exists a job where I am a professional disaster relief type of person. I'd like to just go around the world (or even just the US, where I live) and just help get electricity back online for people in disaster situations. Does this job exist or would I have to be a full time regular electrician who only occasionally goes to help diaster relief? Is there a full time disaster relief agency that I could go work for?", "summary": "I want to be a professional disaster relief electrician, does that job exist?"}
{"id": "t3_4fq176", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just Needed a Place To Vent", "post": "Hi everyone! As the title says I just needed somewhere to talk. Before starting I would like to apologize for any formatting errors because I am on mobile. \n\nNow carrying on, I'm a Senior in high school and there is this girl I met a couple of months ago that ill call kate. About a month ago I finally became official with her and I was very excited because she is my first girlfriend! Now here's the thing she is a junior where as I'm a senior who is already on my way out the door. Before meeting her she had never been in a relationship before so I feel silly to admit sometimes I get jealous if I see other boys Messing around with her.\n\nI feel like that because her sister on the other hand is controlling to her boyfriend and would never want to get like that with kate. Now anyhow I'm just rambling lol, point being I've been feeling kind of sad if I wasn't around her, I really really like this girl but I have this little fear In the back of my head that she'll find someone else next year when I'm not there. I know she loves me and tells me she'll never be able to live with herself if she did ever cheat on me but I can't shake this fear for some reason. I'm sorry if I sound dumb, I just needed a place to talk about how I felt. I'm open for discussion as well! Anything you can do to help me I would deeply appreciate :)", "summary": "I'm letting stupid jealously slightly get to me and I fear my girlfriend will find someone else next year"}
{"id": "t3_n5qfw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Random eBay seller is threatening my mom with \"criminal charges\" and mail fraud for a completed transaction, and we have no idea why.  Reddit, what are our options?", "post": "I went to post this question and I saw that another eBay problem is on the front page.  So here's the story: my mom bought a roughly $300 item from a seller on eBay a few weeks ago.  Part of it was damaged, so she asked if she could send it back and get a refund.  He agreed.  She sent it back, he refunded her money, and he left her positive feedback.  End of story, right?  Well, tonight he emails her and says (wording slightly altered): \"I knew you were a scumbag, but this is worse than I knew.  Watch out for criminal charges and mail fraud.\"\n\nShe sent back everything that he sent her.  He can have no possible grievance against her; as I said, he even left her positive feedback for the transaction.  Is it even worthwhile to file a complaint with eBay, or should we just ignore him?", "summary": "eBay seller accuses my mom of mail fraud after he agreed to refund her money *and* left her positive feedback. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_knux8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some advice for dealing with my crappy retail job.", "post": "Hello Reddit!\n\nI just graduated from college in may, and have been living with my parents and managing a retail store in town for about a month now.  The job has been horrible so far. Aside from having to perform tasks daily that make me fear for my safety, I also have a staff member who has been giving me a hard time due to personal issues with my younger brother, and my boss daily delivers a speech about how in this economy we're completely expendable. In one of these speeches she told us we \"better come in ready to work like dogs because that's what [we're] worth to this company.\" in this particular speech she included a tidbit about how you're particularly worthless if you're not working in the field you got your degree in. As I'm the only one in the entire store with a college degree, that little jab was clearly all for me.  There's a music festival this weekend that I wanted to go to whenever I had free time. When I went to check my work schedule, I realized that I was scheduled for 40 hours in a 4 day time span, from thur-sun. I'm only a part-time employee, so this means I'm working two weeks of my payroll in the span of 4 days. I'm thinking this job is literally not worth missing the concert, but I don't think I have the balls to just walk out. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "this dog is thinking wednesday evenings might be better than tuesday mornings."}
{"id": "t3_1l3r7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not sure where our [F18/M25] friends with benefits situation is heading right now", "post": "We started our friends with benefits a few months back, after meeting and getting to know each other by playing baseball. We got together in secret, as he lives with his older sister who I work with and it would be a messy situation if she were to find out. \n\nI am heading off to university next week, and we've been talking about how we'll keep seeing each other (or not) since the drive is nearly 7 hours long. We've decided that we'll still continue the secret relationship and Skype and whatnot unless I find a new relationship at school.\n\nHe's completely open to me dropping this relationship while I'm at school and move on to \"bigger and better things,\" but says I cannot tell him because he'll feel upset. I feel like we've really grown attached to each other in the last while and really want the best for each other, but we both have a hard time letting go of it. I told him I'm happy with what we've got going on and I have no intentions to change it at the moment, and he's rather conflicted with it. He cannot have a real relationship with me due to the older sister and my age, and we're both stuck on what to do. He's even offered to come visit me every couple weeks, but I've told him that's way too much of a hassle for him and I can't let him go such a long way just to have a couple rounds in bed and drive back home. I'd love to hear any advice you guys might have. Thank you.", "summary": "My fwb and I really enjoy each other's company but are unsure what to do about the long distance and how we can keep our relationship going."}
{"id": "t3_2mhrwi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M], Asian, completely loses self confidence whenever thinking about girl (non-Asian)", "post": "This is my first term in college and first time being away from home so that probably contributes to things. There's this girl who I think is really cute and I want to get to get to know her, but I'm not in any of her classes or anything like that. The thing is, my self esteem gets completely shot whenever I think about relationships and such. Maybe it's because I've never actually been in a relationship and have been rejected by the people I have asked out before. Part of it is the stigma associated with Asian guys dating non-asian girls. Also, my personality completely changes around people who I like so that part is kind of hard; although I do do well on dates.\n\nI don't know if I should pursue this knowing that it probably won't work out or just forget it and probably feel better about things. Don't know if I could ever go through with it because the \"what if\" would bother me for a long time.", "summary": "Lacks confidence when thinking about girls, don't know how to approach this one cute girl."}
{"id": "t3_2b7z1e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not playing along with a 4 year old.", "post": "I work backstage at a theatre and one of the other employees has a 4 year old that is frequently in and around the theatre. The kid was pretty much born and raised in the place and sits in the booth for every performance quietly and dutifully coloring in her \"prompt book.\" I like this child a lot because she's very low-bullshit for her age and can always be relied upon for some Silent Bob type wisdom. She is also the only child I have ever met who is unimpressed by my bright blue mohawk. I call her Yoda Baby.\n\nLast week, she is being walked around backstage by an actor just prior to the show. I didn't notice anything unusual and I let out with my normal, \"Hey there, Yoda Baby!\" Her eyes got very big and she looked up to the actor who was holding her had with a very clear \"Help me\" look. The actor then informed me, \"We're invisible.\"\n\nWell crap. How to redeem this situation and keep her beautiful imagination intact? I got down on one knee, looked her dead in the eye and said the only thing that made sense, \"That's ok. [I'm a Wizard.] Her reaction was [not as expected] Poor kid hasn't been the same around me since.", "summary": "Told a 4 year old I was a wizard. She believes me and is now terrified."}
{"id": "t3_3ehkq1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Scaring Away a Girl I Liked", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today, it was a couple years ago when I was still in school. This FU continues to haunt me to this day, but I feel it's finally time to get it off my chest. I was actually inspired by a recent post about this kind of situation that made me realize how badly I screwed up.\n\nAnyway, I was crushing badly on this girl who I had a few classes with. Not only was she stunning, but she possessed some of qualities that I desired (outspoken, assertive, self-confident). I, on the other hand, struggle every day to come out of my shell. It took me a few weeks to even work up the courage to say anything and when i finally did, all I could manage was \"you look beautiful\". \n\nWhat I didn't anticipate was that she would take it so well. For the next few months she would smile and wave whenever she saw me, and it gave me butterflies in my stomach. Every. Single. Time. And each time, I would just nervously wave back. This went on for a few months until, eventually, I couldn't take it anymore. I wanted to say more to her, dammit I HAD to say more. This is where my oversized shell got in the way. I could occasionally get in a few words with her, but they were never anything more than overbearing compliments. Not only that, but I always waited until she was alone before trying to say anything. \n\nThe boiling point occurred one day when she was sitting alone, minding her own business. This was my chance, I was sure. I approached the table and sat down a couple seats away. Nothing. My shell wouldn't allow me to say anything, and it was only during this interaction that I began to realize I had creeped her out. She made it plain as day she no longer wished to interact in any way. To this day, she still won't talk to me. She was the girl of my dreams, and I blew it big time.", "summary": "Was crushing on and admiring someone, came across as creepy in my attempts to leave my shell"}
{"id": "t3_k21si", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what memories do you have that no matter how much time passes by still enrage you as much as it did when it first happened?  I'll start...", "post": "My husband and I are from NC, and my entire family still lives in eastern NC.  We were living in SC when hurricane Floyd hit NC in September 1999 causing massive and destructive flooding to most of the eastern part of the state.  \n\nMy husband was in grad school at the University of South Carolina (USC) and we went to a football game against East Carolina University (ECU) which is located in Greenville, NC.  The guys who were on their football team were staying in dorms at USC because many of them had nothing to go back to at the time due to the flooding.  \n\nWell, we went to this game and as was (and I'm sure still is) normal there were huge 'spirit' posters hanging around the inside of the field below the seats.  One of these posters had a picture of a huge hurricane on it with the words \"Hurricane Holtz Destroys ECU\" (Lou Holtz was the coach at the time).  \n\nTo this day I am hard pressed to think of something that was in worse taste, and honestly since this was obviously OK'd by the school this is probably one of the top reasons why I hated that school.", "summary": "USC taunted ECU football players with a poor taste joke about their misfortune from the massive hurricane Floyd flooding."}
{"id": "t3_2m91wh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend with weird background [20 F] 3 years, Stopped pursuing her after rejection, now getting signals that she's interested, but not too sure.", "post": "This girl and i go pretty far back. Back when we were in high school i always considered her a friend and liked her a lot, but strictly as a friend, she had boyfriends and stuff throughout high school so there wasn't really a chance even if i wanted to. \n\nWe end up going to the same university and had a class together. I started talking to her again. She's now single and been out of her last relationship for about 2 months. We end up hanging out every weekend for a few weeks, hiking, bowling, sitting down and watching movies, whatever, it seemed to be going well. \n\nHalloween roles around and we are going to a party together. I find a good moment where we are alone to ask her if she wanted to go steady. She told me that she wasn't really looking for a relationship at the moment, (she stressed that she had definitely thought about a relationship with mw and that i wasn't in her friend zone). Im obviously upset and decide to sleep it off in my car that night. She texts me in the middle of that night saying she was really sorry and stuff like that. i ignore it and hit the hay.\n\nI stop actively pursuing her. I text less often. and started hanging with other people for a couple of weeks. All of a sudden she starts all out texting me, in the mornings to when we go to bed. It is like never before. \n\nAnd now she's giving me what i consider 'signals', by asking me how she looks, fishing for compliments, saying i look nice, complimenting my hair style and stuff like, she even described to me what kind of panties she wears, and offering me rides. She brushes my shoulder a lot and has gotten a lot more touchy feely. \n\nSo i think she trying to say something but I'm not really sure. I wanted to do a reddit post to see what anyone else's take on it was. Does anyone have any ideas about this? or maybe any some suggestions about my actions in the future?", "summary": "Girl rejects me, stop talking to her as much, she starts giving signals again like crazy, anyone have suggestions on my future actions?"}
{"id": "t3_3lo2kn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By being a good host", "post": "So earlier this weekend i reunited with my best friend who I hadn't seen for three years. He is staying over at my place and we decide to go out to the bars and in the process I invite a bunch of people including the girl I am interested in. At the first two bars my friends keep telling me about how they were going to wing man for me and it all worked out great up until the third bar. We are touching and dancing and things are going great till I feel the need to step outside for some air. By the time I come back the two friends who were wing manning for me, were wing manning each other. A few friends and the girl i like decide to come back home to my place and have some drinks and chill. As a gesture I lay out a bed roll for my friends to lean on and this is where it all goes down hill. Keep in mind that i sleep on a Japanese style floor mattress. A mix of tired and drunk kicks in to where I am just drained from the amount of social interaction to the point where I'm barely in the conversations at all. I can't say anything without being completely shut down by everyone in the room. Including jokes about my virginity and about any rebuttal I make to dispute the fact. I remain quiet for the rest of the night leading to right now. The girl I like and my friend are spooning on the bedroll I laid out for them while I am stuck in a 50 degree room with no pillow, mattress, or blanket.", "summary": "Tried to be a nice guy and get with a girl I'm interested in. Instead ended up bedless with my friend spooning with said girl on what I sleep on every night."}
{"id": "t3_3gyypb", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "My Grandmother and I were discussing salmon. . .", "post": "The story goes that back in the early 1990s she decided to cook a whole salmon for a dinner party. She went and got the wild beast, already cleaned, from an excellent fish mongress near her house in NE Ohio. The fish mongress asked if my grandmother was going to prepare it in the DISHWASHER.\nMy Grandmother, looking very confused said \"I've never heard of that!\" The woman went on to describe the process:\n\n-Season the fish with a little salt and pepper inside and out.\n-Wrap it tightly in two layers of heavy duty foil.\n-Place the fish in the top rack of your dishwasher and run it with no other dishes or soap present.\n-Serve immediately.\n\nNeedless to say, it was the best salmon she and her guests ever had, and I wanted to share it with all of you.", "summary": "My grandma cooked salmon in the dishwasher like the fish mongress said, and it was perfectly done. The recipe is written above."}
{"id": "t3_2guw21", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by speeding up to see a bunny", "post": "When my alarm went off this morning at 6:20am for my morning jog, I considered going back to sleep. We had an impromptu hangout session with our neighborhood friends the night before and I had one two many beers.  However, I really needed to jog off the Hooters I had for lunch the day before, so I begrudgingly slapped on my running shoes and left.\n\nAs I'm rounding the half way point of my run, I am dripping with sweat and the beer demons are exiting my body.  In my hangover haze I look a ways up the path and see a bunny crossing.  I speed up a little to see the cute creature, and realize it's tail is straight up in the air and his ass is aimed for me.  This is no bunny, it is a skunk.\n\nI freak the fuck out and start sprinting at a pace that my heart is about to explode.  I don't smell the skunk, but I've never been sprayed by a skunk, so I'm not sure how fast the stink permeates. I can only imagine at this point I smell like the backstage area back in the day at a Cypress Hill concert.  As I make it back to my home I run into my teenage son's room and yell out \"WAKE UP, DO I SMELL LIKE SKUNK?\"  He half sits up and replies \"No Mom\" lays down and mutters \"you're so weird.\"", "summary": "Sped up on my jog to see a bunny, sprayed by skunk (at least thought I had), found out what my son truly thinks of me."}
{"id": "t3_38n3xw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by lending my phone to my sister", "post": "Okay so this didn't exactly happen today, but on Tuesday. So my apologies. \n\nAnyways, on monday my little sister was going to go to the cinema with some friends and since she does not have her own phone I graciously let her borrow mine. After coming home she gave it back to me and I saw that she spammed it with selfies, but I thought oh well, deleted them and went on with my life. What I did not notice though was that she fucked with my settings as well and the clock was 1 hour behind.  \n\nOblivious to this information, I set my alarm to ring at 7 and went to bed. I am a heavy sleeper so my alarm is the scene from pulp fiction when the lady screams, \"Any of you pricks move and Ill have to shoot every last motherfucking one of you\". As I was tired from life in general I fell asleep immediately. In the morning I woke up and listened... no alarm clock. At first I thought I just woke up earlier but I checked my wristwatch and it was already 7:15. I quickly hopped out of bed at an ungodly speed, cursed repeatedly, grabbed my phone, my bag, and went on my way to school.\n\nLuckily I arrived just before the bell rang at 7:29. I took my seat, plumped my bag with my phone in it on the floor, and pretended to pay attention. All was going well, until 8:00 when disaster struck. The alarm went off, everyone turned towards me, I fumbled trying to shut it off so instead I just took the whole battery out, blushed period blood red, asked to go to the bathroom and spent the rest of the day there.\n\nOn the bright side this was the last day of school, so hopefully nobody will remember after summer! Or I can always move or go into hiding...", "summary": "Alarm messed up, embarrassment ensued"}
{"id": "t3_3id913", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) feel like I'll never meet someone because I dont post racy selfies", "post": "This is a very embarassing problem which I never admitted to anyone. But here goes..\n\nI live through social media, I can't feel good about myself unless I post selfies, I can't feel pretty in my new clothes unless I post selfies, I feel like shit about my body, until I post selfies and someone tells me I look great.\n\nI hate it. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in my life. i've quit cold turkey 25 days ago (no facebook/insta) I feel happy and relieved without them to be honest, I feel better about myself in general too.. and I haven't even had the impulse to use facbook or post photos.. but  now I just feel left out of everything..\n\nI feel that if I don't constantly post selfies and photos of myself, I'll never find a boyfriend, I see tons of girls like jen selter for example, who post photos of their bodies and oviously guys go crazy for that, but I just feel if I don't post photos showing off my body, guys will never know what I look like and will just go for the girls who show it off..\n\nI tried to convince myself that this is not the case and if someone really wants to be with me, they will.. but I feel like nobody will want to get to know me cause I dont show off my boobs/ass in pictures and they will just go for the girls who do and I'll always be alone..\n\nDo you have any tips on how I can stop this? I feel like I can't get over it no matter what I tell myself..", "summary": "I feel like Im never going to meet a guy who likes me cause I rarley post racy selfies and guys will only go for the girls who do."}
{"id": "t3_y28bt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship feels more like mentorship [m26/f26/3yr]", "post": "I feel like my relationship is based largely on teaching and giving advice to my partner, and it doesn't quite feel right. It probably happened because that's an easy way to start dating. You take a girl somewhere, show her something new and it's romantic. But eventually a partnership of somewhat equals is what you want right? \n\nNow I've become therapist, life coach, outdoors guide, cooking instructor, bicycle mechanic, all around expert on everything in the fucking world. I'm not, but it's the dynamic that we have. It seems like most of our interactions are me teaching her some skill or solving her problems. But I think if I just say, \"go learn it on your own\", maybe I will find out that I'm not actually needed that much.\n\nIs this kind of relationship sustainable? Anyone make it work?", "summary": "Can a long term relationship be based on mentorship?"}
{"id": "t3_2733a1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] Girl (16/f) I like leaving for 8 weeks, longer than I've known her.", "post": "I've recently gone on a couple dates with a girl I met this spring. Things have gone well, but I've only known her about a month. I haven't told her my exact feelings for her, but I'm pretty sure she thinks we like each other. Sounds simple enough, right?\n\nWrong. This summer, she is going to a drama camp three hours away from me. This camp is 8 weeks long, and there are a lot of hookups that happen during the duration of the camp (I know this because I went last year, I ended up dumping my girlfriend of one and a half years for a girl I met at the camp, but that's another story). Anyway, I'm really thinking she's going to find a guy there. She'll be at the camp way longer than she's ever known me. \n\nWhat should I do? I don't want to text her too much and sound clingy, but I don't want her to forget about me either. Help, reddit.", "summary": "Girl I like is leaving for 8 weeks, longer than I've known her."}
{"id": "t3_143atx", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Devil kid gets what's coming", "post": "A few years ago, I went to a neighborhood party. It was partly for the sheer fact that my family was moving out of the state, but that's beside the point. My neighbor(who hosted the party) invited her sister and her devil child that we'll call \"F.\"\n\nAt the time, I was 15. I decided to hang out with the other kids who's ages ranged from about 3-16. F was one of those kids. She was mean and annoying to everyone, being loud, acting violent, and begging to play with other people's videogames. She took a liking to hitting me the most. She would flip me off, claw my legs, and generally be annoying. About 3 hours into the party, I was fed up.\n\nConsidering that F was 3, she still had a sippy cup. At the moment, she was crying to her mother about other people telling her to leave them alone. Perfect. I snatched her sippy cup and rushed to the bathroom. I took a plastic cup, too. I poured all of the grape juice into the plastic cup. I dipped the sippy cup into the toilet. Not enough toilet water to make it obvious that it was tampered with, but enough to make a difference in what she was drinking. I poured the grape juice back in, and returned the sippy cup to its place.\n\nSeeing her drink toilet water was the most satisfying thing I've seen in my life.", "summary": "Devil child annoys me at party. I fill her sippy cup with toilet water."}
{"id": "t3_3dfg3x", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my parents, if I had to have a child it would be a girl.", "post": "So she asks why I don't want a boy, I look at her and just want to laugh, with the way men are treated in this damned country, like Kings while the women are servants?, no, I don't want to raise a boy, but instead I tell her;\n\n\"the real reason why I want a girl, it's because I am desperate  for a mother daughter relationship, the type I always dreamt and cried for.the type of relationship where my daughter can ask me anything  and I'll answer her, the type where she'll hug and kiss and me and I'll tell her I  love her till death, and  I'll let her know that men are not more important than her but everyone is equal. And things won't be awkward most of the time, when I pick her from school she will run up to me and hug me with a huge smile on her face, I'll  joke and laugh with her, I would teach her about periods, sex etc, not tell her what YOU told me, go through the good and bad with her, never tell her when she does some bad things it's because of her gender. And I'll love her unconditionally and let her know that\".\n\nMy parents looked at me and said, \" you're really stupid, why would you want only one child and a girl at that, who will continue your husband's line, besides no such relationship exists?\".\n\nI give up.\n\nBut in all honesty, do those types of mother daughter relationships exist or am I just tripping", "summary": "am not as important as most of my family because I am a girl."}
{"id": "t3_3r6oek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] found out that my gf [21F]. Hung out with a guy [22M] who's interested in her at his wrk place.", "post": "I found out after asking my gf. (In a probing kinda way) She was in the mall going to pass by a mutual friend at his wrk and it so happens he wasn't there. There was someone else at the time working.\n\nShe said she spoke to him once before a while back andtold me that he was interested on her based on the kind of questions he was asking like \"what do you look for in a man?\" I asked how long did that go on for? An hour. I asked if she told him she had a bf? No. But she said he knew. Hw? based on the way she talked to him. \n\nI told her I didnt like her hanging out with persons she just met whose interested in her and making it known for so long. I wudnt of mind if he was her friend and I asked if she was looking 4 friendship, she said no.\n\nAt first she didnt feel it was so wrong but afterwards she admitted it was and said she wont do it again. \nMy question did I overreact? Was I wrong to even bring it up?", "summary": "Gf hangs out with guy she barely knows whose interested in her for about an hour at his work place."}
{"id": "t3_30eg6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hey r/relationships, my girlfriend [19F] has been ignoring me for no apparent reason. I would really like your advice on this.", "post": "First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. \n\nOkay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like  a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. \nShould I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice.", "summary": "Girl I met abroad is my gf now, but she is making it really difficult to maintain the relationship. Advice please."}
{"id": "t3_v3j77", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditers in a relationship. What arguments have you gotten into over something that didn't warrant an argument to begin with?", "post": "After having a pile of dry clean only clothes build up, I decided that I'd finally take it to the dry cleaners. Most of it is my wife's clothes but I did have some work shirts in there as well (total of about 19 pieces combined). So after the attendant separates the piles of clothes, counts them, enters them into the system and after I respond to his question of when do I want to pick them up, the total bill came out to $102.50. \n\nNow, I'll admit, I cringed hard but paid up and moved on so that these things wouldn't be sitting around any longer. When I tell the wife how much it cost, she immediately says that it was too much money and she doesn't wear half of that stuff anyway. Well excuse me! How the hell was I supposed to know you didn't want those clothes anymore? Anyway, we had it back and forth for a minute until she said she had to go back to work, said bye and hung up.", "summary": "I thought I did the husbandly thing by taking her things to get dry cleaned but I get put out to dry instead."}
{"id": "t3_32b4bt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing a handstand next to a glass desk", "post": "Let me start this off by saying I've never done a handstand before.\n\nThis whole thing happened about 3 hours ago. I was skyping my long-distance girlfriend, having a fun conversation, when I decided in doing a handstand so I could show her my alpha status. That's when things went pretty badly. To give you guys some info, my desk is(was) a really long L shaped tempered glass desk, where my two monitors and peripherals where placed. \n\nI was about to create the nicest 90 degrees angle with the ground mankind had ever seen when I lost control of my legs and crashed right into the desk, breaking it in about one million tiny, razor sharp pieces of evil. As I stood up my right foot gave up on me, I took a look at it and holy Mary, a pool of blood right below it. So I started looking for other places gushing blood, well, my right arm and my knees  also had pretty bad cuts. Took a shower to get those little awful glass pieces out of my wounds and drove to ER.\n\nNow, to not look completely retarded infront of the doctor I told him I was dancing with my girlfriend over Skype, tripped and hit the glass desk, thus breaking it. He started laughing pretty hard, called a nurse and told her \"He was 'dancing' to his girlfriend over Skype and tripped\". I like to imagine that the ER team right now is laughing over the idea of my nude self tripping and getting fucked by a glass desk.\n\nAs off right now I have stitches in my right food and lots of band-aids.", "summary": "Nude man \"dancing\" to his girlfriend trips and gets fucked by glass desk."}
{"id": "t3_2pmxfr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "tax lien removal/withdrawal", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nMy wife and I recently had our first son and we are getting our finances inline in order to get a mortgage and a new home (probably 1 year away).  She has great credit, unfortunately i have ok credit but have 3 tax liens on my report (I had a small boat and stored it on my property, in California they charge you a property tax for that and i'd always just cast it aside during the holidays then forget to pay it...idiot)   \n\nAnyways,  i've read and watched videos from the irs about getting them removed.  The problem for me is that I dont have the tax lien confirmation mail anymore and I'm having serious issues finding it.   Is there a service i can pay to have them look into this and do all the leg work for me with resolving the issue?   I have no problem doing it myself, but with a newborn and no real help from family (out of state), i find it hard to even find time to brush my teeth, let alone deal with the govt and per-recorded message systems.", "summary": "any services out there that will do the leg work to get a tax lien removed on my credit report?"}
{"id": "t3_3y8dk2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So two days ago Me (24M) hooked up with my straight-ish roommate (21M) of 5 months. Things are crazy awkward ever since, is there any way I can help this blow over?", "post": "I really do think he's straight, but was just trying it out.  We were drinking.  We have kind of a flirty friendship, but I think he just likes the attention.  I've told him before that I thought he was hot and he plays up to it a lot.\n\nWe were drinking and watching Game of Thrones and it was after a Dany sex scene and we started talking about who we like on the show and he grabbed my hand and put it on his crotch to show me how hard he was.  I went with it and started stuff.  \n\nI don't really remember the actual sex part, I blacked out, but I know we had it.  I remember some things.  I woke up the next day in my bed with him, we were both naked.  I got in the shower and when I got out he was gone.\n\nHe's been really weird with me ever since.  I'm not surprised, it was a mistake, but I hate that he doesn't even talk to or look at me.  I'm willing to pretend it never happened if that'd make it easier for him, but he seriously is just giving me one word answers and not even looking at me.", "summary": "fooled around with my straight roommate and now he's being weird around me.  Any way we can move past this?"}
{"id": "t3_d1bn1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, please help me help others.", "post": "Hey reddit, I'm having a bit of a quarter-life crisis, and I figure some people could probably give some advice that would be helpful.\n\nHere's the situation for me: I'm 22, living in WA, one quarter away from finishing my AA, and wanting to transfer to the local university here so I can be a teacher. Problem is, my grades are very terrible. \n\nI did poorly in high school and just barely graduated (by failing a class, no less), and while my grades at the community college have improved, they're by no means good (around ~2.6). I've been rejected from the university about three times now, and I've lost faith in myself to keep going. I've done my practicum at a high school and had my talent/eagerness complimented on, but I'm worried that I'll never get to be a teacher, and I honestly don't know what to do now. I want to work with high schoolers and I love doing it, but I'm not sure if that'll happen if I don't get my act together.\n\nThat aside, I'm also a fucking mess myself. I'm not going to measure my amount of self-worth by whether or not I have a girlfriend, or if I've got a car, but I'm a person that lacks motivation in life (although my interests make me motivated). I'm not a total slob, but I could definitely improve myself by working out and other healthy things too.\n\nSo reddit, what the fuck do I do?", "summary": "want to be teacher but shitty grades and low confidence stop me from trying to apply for the fourth time to local U. also a bit of a slob and mess in life."}
{"id": "t3_332qp4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my LDR GF[19 F] - Jealous Feelings Are Stirrin'", "post": "I am currently in a Long Distance Relationship with my girlfriend. We're both in the US going to college on opposite sides of the country. We were high school sweethearts and have made it through almost 2 full years of college. We have a very loving relationship and I'm very happy to be in a relationship with her. \n\nMy girlfriend (let's call her Sue) is in a sorority and is very active in it. She recently went to a dance they call Formal, and had a blast. It's custom to take a date to these things, and since I wasn't there she took someone whose friends were going but otherwise wasn't technically allowed into the dance. I didn't have a problem with it because I figured they would just hang out with their separate friend groups once in the dance. \n\nSue told me that's exactly what happened and how she even got stood up by the guy - he kind of just showed up with his friends at the dance instead of meeting up beforehand. I was glad she had a good time despite that.\n\nI just checked Facebook and Sue has a new profile picture. It's her and the guy from last night. She is laughing and having a good time, with her hands on his back, and he's doing a somewhat funny face. It's a cute picture, but for some reason her having another guy in her Facebook profile picture makes me uncomfortable. \n\nI scrolled through some of her other pictures and this guy turns up on more than one occasion, even before the dance. I want to ask her if it's the same guy, but she is currently in a dance *performance* (not the same as the Formal she went to last night) so she is unreachable. \n\nNormally I'm not very jealous at all, but seeing that picture just made me sad and feel like I was being replaced for some reason. \n\nMy question is, is there any reason for me to be jealous? If not, please talk some sense into me! We've also been getting in a bunch of small arguments lately so I'd rather handle this in the easiest, most un-confrontational manner. I don't want to fight over this if it's nothing.", "summary": "My LDR GF set her profile picture as her with another guy. I'm getting jealous feelings, how should I handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_rehvc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "two redditors meet on plenty of fish and...", "post": "one wants to bestow the other with a rather extravagant gift.\n\nin attempt to get rid of their FA cards, two stray redditors decide to meet up irl after a several day exchange of witty messages on POF.  he does science all day and builds 3d printers for fun, she serves food to wise guys and studies foreign languages and the acquisition of language in children for fun.\n\ni'm the lady in this equation.  i rid myself of my android in october in an attempt to save money (at&t has raped my wallet long enough) to move across country.  i made the mistake of taking up a month to month on virgin mobile, and moved to the 2 block radius on the east coast that doesn't have reception.  in an unsolicited manner, he offers to purchase a smart phone for me and a year of service.  i hesitate because i'd feel obligated to get my swerve on with him, and that's just a shitty feeling.  i want to do it when/if the time comes and it's sincere bla bla bla feelings and emotions, i'm a woman.  he says it's NSA gift, please take.", "summary": "wants to buy me a phone.  i don't want to see it as a way to feel obligated to give sexy times.  he says it's a NSA gift.  i said i'd consult reddit.  do i take it?"}
{"id": "t3_4gpmt5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] feel like I'm dating a child [25/f]", "post": "First time posting here, so please let me know if this is out of lines with the rules.\n\nVery briefly, I've dealt with 3 major deaths in my family (Dad, Mom, Uncle) in the span of 1 1/2 years. I moved from East coast usa to mid west to the south because of these deaths. I'm now well established in my career and have been excelling in it as well. (I mention this because I keep thinking that I'm with her because I'm afraid to lose another person I care about.)\n\nHowever, my girlfriend, not so much. The relationship started off bad, at the time I was living with friends and my gf and I had a \"one night stand\" and it turned into more. Without going into too much detail she slept with my one roommates (We broke up) and this lead into an argument and I took her side in it and left. Now we live together. \n\nI work about 90+ hours a week. She will at most work 25 hours a week, but yet, I have to do all the cleaning in the house (dishes, vacuuming, laundry) and there was a point where she had a semi-good job and she quit because \"The managers were being mean.\" This caused her to be unemployed for 6 months....\n\nI've tried talking to her about this and asking her to do it. At one point I refused to do it and dishes piled up and laundry went almost a month before I couldn't take it anymore.\n\nI honestly don't know what to do about it. I love her to death and I want to be with her, but her constant excuse after excuse on why she refuses to do basic tasks around the house is to the point I feel like a parent.", "summary": "My gf is acting like a child and I'm not sure how to \"make\" her grow up."}
{"id": "t3_4ud1zq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19 M just broke up with girlfriend, together from 15-19, she's 18", "post": "I really need advice on what to do, i will take the blame completely just to get her back, all these petty arguments could've been avoided which led to the break up even though she has really bad mood swings and I'm not a punch bag, i can't let someone walk all over me. I'm absolutely devastated, I've cried every day, but she appears to be quite happy. I was her first everything, we have so many memories so many cute things that none else would find funny. I have been with her for all of my serious teenage years, we had been through everything, she knows everything about me. so many pictures, love notes ect. she said we are on a break but i know its not a break. i rang her earlier to see if we could meet and she seemed so blunt which came across really hurtful. i really need some help, please.", "summary": "This is my first real breakup with \"the perfect girl\" where do i go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_1kgw3q", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Went to Marshall's, fit into size 6 Michael Kors skinny jeans ... Promptly did a happy dance. (progress pics)", "post": "F/23/5'2\" SW: 190lbs GW: 135lbs CW: 140lbs -- -50lbs since January\n\nI've been lurking on here and commenting on other peoples' amazing success stories since January, and after today's little NSV, I decided it might be time to share some pictures. \n\nIn January, after seeing a picture of myself from Christmas (in album), I decided it was time for a change. For as long as I can remember, I had been overweight (obese, to be honest). I was unhappy and hopeless and pretty much had resigned myself to being that way forever. Fat and alone forever, if you will. Then, as I said, I saw that picture and I decided enough was enough. Something inside me just clicked and I got up off my ass, called the gym and bought a membership. It still took me a week after buying said membership to actually step foot in the gym, but I did it. I downloaded a C25K app, started logging EVERYTHING I consumed into MyFitnessPal, and bought a Fitbit. Those three things together had the pounds just falling off of me. \n\nIt's now 8 months later and I am 50 lbs lighter. I can run 4 miles without stopping, and I consistently eat between 1200-1400 calories a day. I'm still 5lbs from my original goal, and those last 5lbs aren't coming off easily -- but I'm happy with myself. Not just happy, I friggin love myself, you guys. I think I look damn good and I finally have the confidence to just be myself. \n\nAnyway, thanks for reading this far. And thanks to all of you inspiring people out there. You all are THE BEST motivation a girl could ask for. Keep on keeping on, friends.", "summary": "Girl sees photo of herself, snaps, starts running and counting calories, loses 50 lbs and is ecstatic with herself. Yippee!"}
{"id": "t3_20be9f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] think my 2 month relationship with my girlfriend [18 F] is not going to work. What do I do.", "post": "I like my girlfriend, as in have feelings for her, but I know for sure she definitely feels stronger towards me than I do to her [texts me constantly, told me she loved me etc.].   \nShe's a great girl, , it's just that we're too different. Way too different for a decent relationship to work. It feels like we've been going out for ages in that the initial spark is gone (we were seeing each other for about 2 months before I asked her out).   \nThe only thing that is holding me back from breaking up with her is that her best friend is one of my good friends (how we met) and I sense more than one relationship is going to end if I call it quits.", "summary": "The spark (for me) is gone in our relationship very early on. Should I stick it out to see how it goes or end it."}
{"id": "t3_36f9eu", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Be rude to your teen, see how much you really rely on him", "post": "My mother has a really bad habit for forming circle arguments where she restarts the conversation after its long dead and I don't care anymore.\n\nLast week: \n\nI come home from work after school, it is 10:30 on a Tuesday night, I am beat I put my half eaten pizza in the fridge and head for bed. Not before she catches me in the doorway of my room and yells about how I haven't fed my dog or vacuumed in a week.\n\nMe: I have been leaving at 6:00 am and only come home for 30 minutes after school to shower. I don't have time during the week but do everything I am asked on weekends. \n\nHer: well maybe you should quit your job so you can help out with the horses, goats, chickens, and your brothers.\n\nNote: none of those are mine, I pay for my phone, gas, insurance, clothes and food. Gas is very expensive as I have a diesel car and drive 70 miles a day. \n\nI decided to show her just how expensive it is. She has had to pay for everything this month via my stepdad who is tried of her nagging me for the 1-2 hrs I am awake at home. The total thus far \n$234 a week\n\n$65 in fuel\n$84 in insurance\n$25 in food\n$60 for a pair of pants her goat ripped \n\nAnd this is a cheap week. Next week my car needs glow plugs and a coolant flush before summer....", "summary": "if your teenage son costs you less than $10 a month, hasn't gotten in trouble, and has a job. Don't nag him or tell him to quit his job."}
{"id": "t3_4s58no", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mine(M17) sociophobic girlfriend (f16) willingly goes to party while she always refuses to go to my house", "post": "Well,my girlfriend(f16) have sociophobia,everytime when we are not outside,we MUST be at her home,she never come to my home,\nshe tell me that she is afraid of that something will happen (stomach ache,fear,etc. - her symptoms),so i am okay with\nthat we go to her home.\n\nUntil yesterday,at morning she texted me that we wont be together that day because she going to sleep to her friend (f23) and she come today,it first,i was like \"Okay honey,take care of yourself),but inside of me,i am \"mad\" and feel decieved.\n\nWhy decieved? Because at my home,when i want to ho to my home with her,we are everytime alone which shoud help her about \nthat symptoms,but she always refuses,thanks to that she doesnt even know my parents (i know almost all her family because we are always at her home..) after 8 months of being tohether in relationship.\nAnd also, when she went sleep to that friend,there was also a party,maybe 10 people (5f/5m) and one of guys that were there was..well...her earlyer crush (?)..she said that if she was older she would already be with him...and it look like she didnt had any symptoms at that party at all,she even told me how they both had a little perverted talk(if i would do that,a wrangle would be already here...)\n\nP.S.: non-native english here,please dont blame me :)", "summary": "My sociophobic GF who always refuses to go to my home willingly goes to party and sleep here at night,how should i feel about it or what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3129p3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP by playing a game of hide and seek with my friends", "post": "So today, like many others, I have decided to pull a prank on six of my friends. At some point yesterday, I entered every single one of their rooms for at least 2 minutes. I took things (as stealthy as I could) from three of them and nothing from the other three. I made sure to take something that wasn't too important, their roommate's, and would be fairly easy to notice went missing. Then at 3 o'clock this morning I slipped a letter (written in comic sans) under each of their doors saying I took something and they would have to figure it out before they can get it back. The prank wasn't really intended for those that had stuff taken, but rather for those that didn't. \n\nNow, in this story, there are two fuck-ups. First, I hid the stuff I took in my room but I have no idea where. I know someone didn't take them back because I always lock the door when I leave and enter and my roommate was asleep since like seven pm yesterday. Now, one of my friends has figured out the object that went missing from him and wants it back. Which I can't exactly find right now. The second fuck-up is that because I started so early, they are gonna be super suspicious whenever I am around and therefore can no longer pull my follow-up pranks that were specialized for each person.", "summary": "I told my friends that I hid some of their stuff and can no longer find what I took because I hid it too well. On top of that, because I did this at 3am they are gonna be weary of me for the rest of the day so I can't really pull any other pranks."}
{"id": "t3_2ob5jq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's (22/M) friend (22/M) isn't able to keep up with rent. How do we deal with this?", "post": "So since the summer, me and my boyfriend have been renting a house with his best friend and another guy. The other guy moved in around September and has been awesome so far. \n\nThe best friend has been habitually late on rent and is a full month behind right now. Unfortunately, we can't afford to cover for him, but we have a shared lease. My boyfriend doesn't want to ruin the friendship, and the friend is diagnosed as severely depressed. He won't get a job and relies on his allowance. He's on the lease until May.\n\nA few days ago, I told him that we're running out of funds and can't cover him. He just started complaining that I received financial aid (much of it merit-based) and his parents are too rich for him to get financial aid, even though he forgot to sign up for classes. I don't think he processed at all that we literally can't cover for him this time. \n\nIt's hard to legitimately feel sorry for him because he'd been pretty insufferable since we started planning, and it was the worst over the summer. At the same time, my boyfriend has been best friends with him since kindergarten. We know he's depressed, and he has acted better towards us the past few months. My boyfriend does not want to lose him as a friend. \n\nHow do we deal with this without legal force?", "summary": "Friend not paying rent, has been jerk, but do not want to lose friend."}
{"id": "t3_3796ao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Girlfriend [25 F] 1.5years, Tells me I am not romantic but makes me feel like she does not care about my needs.", "post": "My pregnant girlfriend says I do not care about her and all this other stuff. Yet I do everything possible that I can. Right now I am inbetween jobs, So I am putting in effort into learning things for my career because I have enough money saved up until I go back to college and work.\n\nEverything I do does not seem to be good enough. I do not want to have sex with her because she refuses to talk to me about things that matter to me. Will not and I mean absolutely will not talk to me about things that bother me. Yet she wants me to listen to her gossip about co workers and things of that nature. I absolutely do not care about gossip.\n\nI told her she does not make me feel romantic and she says fine then. I told her what she has to do to make me want to have sex more and does not want to put forth the effort into making me feel sexual. I can't have sex unless I feel appreciated. (not common for a guy) She just expects me to be sexual 100% of the time and I am not.\n\nShe yells at me for not doing things with her kids, Yet She has not once taken them out by herself since we have been together. I have around 1-3 times a week taken them to do something. The kids are her sisters and not biologically hers. Their mother is a junkie.\n\nI am about to have a child with this women. Should I back out and just try to do my part as much as I can from the sidelines, Try to get custody and raise the kid. Help please.", "summary": "Pregnant girlfriend wont listen to me when I tell her what I need in a relationship, Expects me to change my actions without her putting in her half. What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_4nnu34", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] This girl I am interested in smokes and I'm worried about my health, also she is vegan", "post": "I don't know anything about second hand smoke. I never did drugs in my life. This girl I'm talking to smokes ALL the time. When we are walking together, she smokes. I told her I didn't mind. And I really don't care.\n\nHOWEVER, I'm starting to wonder how bad this secondhand smoke is. Is it OKAY to just be beside it a little bit? Is this going to shorten my life in any way?\n\nCan a relationship still work if she smokes and I don't? Or am I going to have to walk away from her when she smokes from now on?\n\nThere is one more thing that is bothering me that I feel I should mention. She is Vegan. I am not. She told me directly that it would BOTHER her if I ate meat in front of her! Like, I can't get a burger or anything because of this! I'm wondering if this is a deal breaker. \n\nIts not fair! I don't complain about her smoking, yet here she is saying that it would bother her if I ate meat saying its rude knowing she is vegan. I feel like she is asking too much. I mean, if we go out to dinner sometime, I'm wondering if she will force me to eat vegan. Heck, I wonder if I even have to become a vegan just to be with her..", "summary": "Girl I like smokes and I'm worried about the second hand smoke, also the fact that she doesn't approve of me eating meat because she is vegan, wondering what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2c70nv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I go about fixing my (20f) relationship with my boyfriend (20m)?", "post": "I've been with him for a year and a half and we live with his mother in his family home. \n\nLately he hasn't been putting much effort into us. I'm always the one making plans, only little things, like dinner or a picnic, ect. We don't have sex regularly and that's a common argument starter and that's been going on since last July. I've talked to him about it a few times, just to let him know how it makes me feel. He tries to assure me that it has nothing to do with me, and that he finds me attractive (which I think he does, I get a quick frisking now and again :P)\n\n It was my birthday a few days ago and we started making out and he just turned away. He said he didn't want it to 'lead anywhere'. I almost left him that day because that rejected feeling is just unbearable. I don't want to pressure the guy because it would just scare me the other way round, but on the other hand it's just been pecks and cuddles for a year.  \n\nHe mentioned that if I dumped him I'd lose my job, which I would, I work for his father. For him to bring that up when I was upset scared me a little. \n\nI just feel lonely. I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I've asked, he says he's just being 'spacey' or he's in a bad mood.  Obviously I love him, I've never loved anyone like I do him. He's a kind guy, and he's very protective of me. What do you suggest I do to try and help this relationship out?", "summary": "Relationship is lacking any form of romance, I'm constantly making the plans and trying to do things, we don't have sex and I'm just feeling lonely. I love him and I want him to want me more."}
{"id": "t3_1e2wp6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV] (24, f, 5'4\") Down 25 lbs overall... 10 of it through LARPing and calorie-counting. (Seriously!)", "post": "I'm 24, and have been big all my life. Today, I hit a major milestone.\n\nFor some, 25 pounds doesn't seem like a lot. But, I started at 298 when I got married two years ago this month. I swore I'd never get over 300, and I've kept that promise. Through all sorts of diets, including SlimFast when I was about to get married and Weight Watchers per a doctor's recommendation, I was able to get down to 275, but I kept gaining and losing the 5 pounds between 275 and 280.\n\nToday, I stepped onto the scale and it read 273. What's different this time?\n\nTo start, after a stint in a mental hospital for major depression, I was looking to regain control of myself. So, I looked at my weight. Something I could get control of and would make me feel good. I tried counting calories on my own, adding a workout here or there, and that didn't work. Then, the LARP season started. I lost five pounds (probably in water weight) in one weekend (lots of uphill and downhill and running and very little eating, but lots of water drinking). Unfortunately, I gained it back.\n\nShortly thereafter, I realized that I enjoyed trail running (more like trail walking for now) and  that the social part of using MyFitnessPal works for my calorie counting habits. A friend and I also want to get better with certain types of LARP fighting, so, we've been heading to a nearby state park, finding a picnic spot that's somewhat private, and practicing for 1-2 hours a week.\n\nFour weeks ago, I weighed in at 282. Today, 273.\n\nSo, here I am, calorie counting my butt off and hiking and LARPing and I've lost 25 pounds overall, nearly 10 of it in the last four weeks.", "summary": "Lost 25 pounds, 10 in the last four weeks through counting calories, larping, and hiking."}
{"id": "t3_41lu4l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to a party that my crush was going to be at", "post": "So this happened a while back and I didn't know what to do about it.\n\nThis girl that I have a crush on (we'll call her Z) is roommates with a friend of mine. My friend told me about a party that she was going to throw with her whole house and she invited me. I was going to go the party with another one of my friends. I was really excited to see Z because I had been crushing on her really hard for a while (maybe 3 months). The thing is, we never really talked because I was too shy and because I couldn't bring myself to say something to her. \n\nHowever, a couple days before the party I finally had mustered up enough courage to talk to her. I was chatting her up, telling her things like 'How I was excited to see her and how I was looking forward to partying with her' and she told me that she was excited to see me there too. \n\nMy buddy and I went to the party and in the beginning of the night, Z wasn't at the party so I was chilling by myself because my buddy met up with Z's roommate and they hung out, drank and smoked weed with the other people at the party (I didn't drink that night and I don't smoke weed). I was by myself for a couple of hours while everyone partied but I didn't leave because I was still excited to finally meet and hang out with Z for the first time.\n\nA couple hours after we got to the party, Z finally showed up. She apparently went to some show and got drunk there and came home\u2026with another guy. She didn't even acknowledge me as she walked past me. She was all over him and all I could do was watch as he took her into her bedroom. I finally decided to leave when I heard her moaning from outside.", "summary": "Went to a party to hang out with my crush, she wasn't there but she showed up hours later with some random and banged him"}
{"id": "t3_3kcjx5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being afraid of bugs", "post": "At around 11:40pm I couldnt fall asleep so I decided to go down into my basement to play some video games. \n\nNow in my basement from time to time I find spiders on the wall and I absolutly hate bugs but if they are small enough I will kill them without any problems but tonight as I walked into the room and did my usual inspection I found nothing on the walls untill I sat down on my chair and looked up at the ceiling to discover a centipede probably the size of my hand. \nI immidiatly jumped out of my seat, ran and closed the lights in fear and ran up the stairs only to trip on the way up, fall on my arm and scream in pain and wake up the whole house.", "summary": "Centipede the size of my hand appeared. Going to torch my basement now."}
{"id": "t3_4kqia7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Why is my former employer demanding a letter of resignation? (NH)", "post": "So I regret to say that I recently walked out of my former place of employment. It's not the way I wanted to do things but it was necessary. The franchise owner was extremely disrespectful and was the sole reason I left. I did not give a notice nor did I finish my shift. (Again, not proud of it but it was necessary.) \n\nBut now over a week later my former GM is requesting I email a letter of resignation. For what reason do they need this on record? I don't believe I broke any rules/laws. Anytime it was brought up I was not allowed to sign my employment contract. Personally, I don't think it was even drafted as I was never allowed to see it.", "summary": "Why does my former employer require a letter of resignation after already having left?"}
{"id": "t3_3w1ksi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want snip OH can't make mind up", "post": "Hi girls, looking for bit of advice in sight in to my gf. Right me (m32) and my girl (f31) been together for 7 years we have 2 kids together (plus I have 1 from previous) be our kids we said always wanted 2 no more Before our recent son I set to have the snip before he was born, but she wanted me to pull out which I did. 5 months on after we had our son she was saying she Deffo don't want any more as when we have my other kid its like having 3 while is hard work. now I booked the snip for the 11 if Jan and she now saying she don't want me to have it, is this just a woman/motherly feeling that trying hold on or something. Thing is I WANT this snip and she knows this but I don't her hating me for having this or me hating her, and it ending the relationship.", "summary": "gf can't make up her mind up on snip, why?"}
{"id": "t3_ognyr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hi Reddit, I need some help or advice (Medical/Law maybe)", "post": "Hi Reddit, My mum had an operation 2 years ago, a Prolapse Repair. After the operation she swears she felt something while in the bath and is worried that something got left inside her. Not so long after her belly has been swelling and painful, in turn leaving her unable to leave the house, cutting her off from her job and leaving her depressed. The Doctor that done the operation said \"Everything i have done is fine.\" Actual Words. She went to the doctors for a second opinion last year, I wasn't there but apparently the doctor was very abrupt and cold on the matter. Saying the operation was a total success and the problems with her are unrelated, even though these symptoms appeared directly after the operation. So anyway she goes back to her depressed state and continues seeing the doctor as everyone she sees says they don't know whats wrong. So last night she rings me and tells me to visit a website and standing side by side is the guy that done the operation and the guy that gave the second opinion. Turns out they have a very close professional relationship. My question is Reddit, is it right that guy should give the second opinion? also, does anyone recognize the symptoms of a swollen belly? We googled the symptoms and the closest thing we could find was, I.C. Belly, Cant remember the medical term for it. Any help would be great, thank you.", "summary": "mum had bad operation doctor said wasnt him, second opinion was doctors friend."}
{"id": "t3_205jyc", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Slipped on an icy sidewalk and broke my fibula.", "post": "Was leaving a bar, turned to tell my friends (who were up ahead) to wait for a friend who was just coming out of the bar. Sidewalk had about 2 inches of ice on it with no salt or sand. As I turned, I slipped and landed spread eagle on my back. Used a friend as a human crutch to get to the car and went home thinking it wasn't that bad. I tried to walk when I woke up the next day and could not. Went to the hospital and got X-rays and found out I had a broken fibula. Soft cast and crutches for two weeks, and a walking boot for an additional four. \n\nWith that being said;\n1. What are my chances of winning a lawsuit without having any proof besides eye witness statements?\n2. Who would I even pursue with said lawsuit? \n\nAny advice would be helpful.", "summary": "broken fibula on icy sidewalk. Didn't take pics. Do I have a winnable lawsuit? "}
{"id": "t3_qcwfk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "An ex-coworker is suing the company I work for and wants me as a witness. What should I do?", "post": "Background: This guy was fired a couple months ago. The company told him it was because of his attitude and because he had been \"threatening\" toward his coworkers, particularly his female coworkers, of which I am one. He wasn't everyone's favorite coworker - he was very quiet and kind of awkward - but I think it was because we as a team are a bit cliquey and he was a latecomer. He never quite fit into the big weird family we all made up.\n\nHe and the company have been fighting over the unemployment compensation he feels he is entitled to and the company feels he is not. Several of his former coworkers, including me, wrote character statements for him asserting that we never felt threatened by him and that, essentially, the company had lost a valuable employee in him. Now the company is fighting him again, demanding that he pay back the unemployment benefits he has received, and he is taking it to court. \n\nThe company listed two specific incidents in which this guy was supposedly threatening, and I happen to have been present for both of them. I never felt threatened in the least, and so he wants to call me as a witness when he sues the company. He has already submitted many, many documents as evidence in his case and says he would like me and one other person as witnesses.\n\nThe thing is, I'm scared. I don't exactly love my job, but I don't exactly want to lose it either. I have gotten conflicting answers as to what the company can do to me if I serve as a witness; the most likely answer seems to be that they can't technically fire me, but as employers often do, they can probably find other reasons to fire me even though this might be the real reason, so that they look good on paper. In a way I would be honored to get fired for this, because I believe it is right, and the truth, but I also can't really afford it. Can you help me figure out what to do?", "summary": "Coworker got fired, is suing the company I still work for, wants me as a witness, I'm having a moral dilemma over it and would appreciate any advice."}
{"id": "t3_1s32oy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We stopped seeing each other, now she [F22] is messaging me [M23] that she misses me. Don't know how to reply.", "post": "A few weeks ago I started seeing this girl. We had a great time. Some things were strange, because she would text me 24/7 and get mad if I didn't respond within 1 min. She was also very indecisive with everything. Overall things were going well. I work 50+ hours a week as process engineer and she is still in undergrad for business. She constantly demanded things from me like hanging out all the time, lots of texting. When I asked for it to be toned down a bit, since I only have so much time in a day she would get mad.  \n\n  Things moved fast, she said I was pushy about sex and maybe I was, but I was confused because we were both naked in her bed, she undressed first,  after 3 weeks of seeing each other and I thought that was coming that night. So she kind of got mad after I asked her if we were doing it that night. Anyways we made up the next day and things went the same. Another night we are in the same situation. We had just talked about waiting then all of the sudden she gets on me and we are do it. I was confused. We do it again the next day and then she says she feels bad about it and I have had enough confusion at this point so I get mad because she is making a big deal about it. So I try to patch things up but she isn't saying anything so I leave and a week later I get these messages about how she found a better guy and that I hurt her feelings.\n       Now she is sending me messages that she misses me and she keeps thinking about us. Her last messages were \"I really miss you\" and \"Idk why I've been thinking about this so much\". I did like her and I still kind of do but I don't want to deal with the same thing all over again. What should I say? I want to say that I do miss the good times we had, but I don't want to a repeat of last time.", "summary": "We ended a short relationship now she is texting me that she misses me. I do not want things to go back the way they were and I do not know how to respond the right way."}
{"id": "t3_390ve5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wiping my keyboard too quickly", "post": "Happened sometime last year.\n\nSo I have this Logitech keyboard that lights up. I've always loved it since it looks very cool and IS very nice to type on. It was a bit expensive but worth it (about $70).\n\nFU happens when I decide to wipe the keyboard and since I'm in a rush, I wipe it quickly and roughly (with a cloth) when I hear a snap.\n\nWhat happened was that the \"T\" key got stuck under the cloth and came off. Even worse, the white clips that hold the key in place are broken in half. Even the key is damaged since the part where the clips attach are broken.\n\nLuckily I have a spare keyboard (which is crappy but works) BUT I live in Nepal and I can't find a replacement anywhere. I end up getting a replacement key and clip from a friend who visited from Australia... 4 months later.", "summary": "Wiped keyboard too roughly, key broke off, got a replacement only after 4 months."}
{"id": "t3_di4jz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, who donates to the sperm bank as an extra way to make cash?", "post": "As a recent college graduate, I had difficulty finding a start up job and today I finally just took one that is way underpaid for what I do but I just need it to build up a resume. It's graphic design work that I'm getting $14 an hour for to make websites and such.\n\nAs a joke, my friend and I thought we should just donate sperm and rank in some extra cash cause ..... well, that's just super easy. I looked it up just to see and I could easily make an extra ~$720 a month just for jerkin it into a cup 3 times a week. \nI just feel *EXTREMELY ODD* because then I know some genetic clones of me will be running around, but then I think of how it helped someone start a family and that is also a good thing. Since it's not like adoption, I doubt they would ever look for their 'birth father' (if you're even considered to be called that) so there's no way I would worry about that. I just have to think about it as passing on genetic material to help people out. So what do you say reddit? Are most people fine with donating their sperm, either with concerns morally or logically?", "summary": "What do you guys think about donating sperm? Would you do it? Pros - Cons."}
{"id": "t3_4gw231", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [18 M] 1 year, would it be awful of me to suggest I'd find him more attractive if he gained weight?", "post": "I know this is kind of a shallow question but here goes, my boyfriend and I have been dating for around a year now and I love him a lot - we're young, I have no misconceptions that we'll be \"together forever\" because shit happens but as it stands I'm very happy with him. My only problem, really, is that he is very, very skinny.\n\nI know he struggles with his weight, he doesn't have an eating disorder but just struggles to eat enough to put on weight. He's nearing severely underweight for his height and age, and honestly I'm worried about him. His face is always really gaunt and angular, he has constant dark circles under his eyes (which are always red anyway, idk what that's about) and honestly, I think his waist thickness is around the same size as my leg, which can't be all that good. So part of this does come from a health standpoint.\n\nHowever some of it is also, admittedly, my own preferences. I like thicker guys over thinner ones - I'm not expecting him to get ripped or anything, hell I'd prefer a little chub on him over that. I'm kinda fat myself, not grossly overweight but still pretty tubby, and when I want to do anything intimate - like sitting on his lap or something - I feel like I'm going to break him, or that I'm crushing him - which I get is my own insecurity, but I don't think its helped by his weight. He's really bony too - sometimes it genuinely hurts to hug him properly or have sex because his hipbones jut out a lot and hit my thighs.\n\nI just don't know how to approach this topic without coming off like an ass, because I know how shitty it is when people comment on your weight. And especially because its fifty percent me being worried about his health and fifty percent about my actual attraction towards him. So I'm just looking for suggestions on how to bring this up and discuss it in a more \"I'm worried about your health and improving your health/weight would also increase my attraction towards you\" sort of way", "summary": "Boyfriend is skinny, I'm fat, I'm both concerned about him being underweight and about how much more attracted to him I would be if he was a more normal weight. How to talk to him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_fzl89", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Mainly looking for some tips to get through the first couple dates until we're completely comfortable together. I REALLY like this girl.", "post": "Hey guys, thanks for even just reading this. First let me say i'm not the best writer, so some of this may seem jumbled together. Here I go:\nI'm 17, 18 in 3 months, senior (male) in high school. Not being arrogant, but I'm a decent looking guy. I've hooked up with a fair ammount of girls, but haven't even bothered having any type of relationship with them, was just in it for pleasure.\nBut i'm changing...chilling out more if yuo will. I'm the pickiest guy I know when it comes to girls, it takes alot to impress me. But oh my god, i've met this girl, and she's amazing. She's beautiful, and I NEVER say that about girls. We have so much in common, it's crazy. I can definately see myself being with her. Don't get me wrong, i'm not getting my hopes up or anything, but we may be perfect for each other.\nBut the problem is, we haven't been close for LONG, and we are not even talking about dating, just hanging out for now. But the only thing I have to get past for now is the first couple times we hangout, or \"date\". I know it will get more comfortable after time, but what can I do now to help? What are some special/memorable things I could do or say during a first date? On the first date am I supposed to go in for a kiss, maybe on a cheek? All i'm asking for is some advice, please. Thanks so much in advanced...I really like this girl.", "summary": "i really like this girl, she also likes me. what are some things i can do to keep her around. I need advice in every field."}
{"id": "t3_3cd5qo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I (21F) just found out my boyfriend (27M) of a year got his last gf pregnant and then left her", "post": "So my bf and I have been together for about a year, I met his ex briefly when they were dating (bf and I were sort-of friends before dating) and she was really nice. Anyway I just found out that she got pregnant while they were dating, he wanted her to have an abortion but she chose to keep the baby. So he left her and hasn't had any contact with her or the child. \n\n2 questions:\n1)\tShould he have told me that he got her pregnant and what does it say that he didn't tell me himself (instead I had to find out through gossip)\n2)\tShould I try and get him to meet his child? He doesn't want to discuss it whenever I try and bring it up, he just gets annoyed and says I'm not supporting him.\n3)\tShould I reach out to the mother and see what she wants (i.e. if she wants me to try and get him to see his child or whether she's happy alone). We're not friends but I've stalked her FB page and could message her there??", "summary": "I really really love my boyfriend but I'm scared of what this whole thing says about his judgement and morals. Thoughts please!"}
{"id": "t3_whpb2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My SO is out of town for work with his crush and is now questioning our relationship. What should I do?", "post": "I trust him implicitly. I know this man. He's not going to cheat on me. He is however presented with an opportunity to see 'what if'.  I love him. So much so that I could subscribe to that old adage of 'If you love them let them go, if they love you they'll come back.\" For his own edification I want to break up with him so that he can pursue this. But I do not want to lose him. Reddit, I've been in abusive relationship after abusive relationship. This is the first good one and it's fucking great. I know how amazing what he and I have is, but I'm his first serious / actual girlfriend (He's 33). It's not unreasonable for him to be curious and want to explore what's out there. I'm not mad at him, but obviously I don't want to lose him. I just don't know what I should do. Do I fight for the man that I love or do I let him go?", "summary": "Do I fight for the man that I love or do I let him go?"}
{"id": "t3_426yxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my bf [23M] of 2 weeks, feeling like a trophy-girlfriend", "post": "Dok so met this guy a while ago in passing through our many mutual friends. We are now a couple after only dating for a couple of weeks (which seems very very quick to me, but I just went with it whatever).\n\nThing is, I feel like he has been forcing/rushing this whole thing because I'm 'a catch' and our mutual friends (he has not been hanging out with them for long) who I suspect he is trying to impress all like me ...sorry if this sounds conceited.\n\nHe is constantly broadcasting about us to people, I mean I do have qualities that could make someone fall in love with me through time, but  dude is going overboard and has been since day one.\n Not trying to be falsely modest, but I just honestly am not that charming. \n\nI think he just likes the IDEA of me and doesn't seem to pay much attention to me when I talk nor does he ever ask for my opinion on anything. \n\nhow will I know if this is true? Any red flags to look out for? does he even know he doesn't *really* like me?", "summary": "suspicious about the motives of my new beau, maybe just paranoid"}
{"id": "t3_4eixg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my Girlfriend [27 F] of about 10 months, is expecting me to lock up my dog or she's leaving.", "post": "So I adopted my 2 year old pitbull, Spot, back in February 2015. I met my girlfriend in June 2015. She has two little girls and I've fallen in love with them all. So far everything has been pretty good with the exception of the babydaddy drama. Spot has been an active family member since he was adopted. He's great with the kids and other dogs. He sleeps inside on his own bed and spends most of his day sleeping. When the girls are over he likes to lay near them and watch them color or do school work. \n\nRecently, babydaddy voiced his opinion that Spot is a dangerous dog and cannot be around the children. Now my girlfriend is voicing all these opinions about how she doesn't think Spot should be around the girls either. She says she's been talking to her coworkers and reading up on the breed and feels that Spot is a threat to the girls, if not now, then later. None of these concerns have been brought to my attention prior to her babydaddy's opinion. \n\nI'm not willing to lock Spot up in a cage or leave him outdoors all day. I don't think he deserves that as he's done absolutely nothing wrong. When I told my girlfriend this, she replies with saying she understands where I rank her and the girls as compared to Spot. We were just in the talks of getting a house together with the kids. Now she's going to take her kids and leave me because I'm not willing to punish my dog. \n\nI don't know what to do. I love my girlfriend and her kids. We've become our own little family. However I don't think Spot should be punished based on her kids father's uneducated opinion of him. What do I do?", "summary": "My dog has become the crux of whether my relationship continues because of babydaddy."}
{"id": "t3_4gnz3s", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog don't poop anywhere but in her kennel.", "post": "As the title states, my 8 month old GSD will not poop anywhere but in her kennel. My girlfriend, who is a breeder, says that she has never encountered this behavior before, even before her breeding days. \nShe has a bell on the door handle that she runs when she wants to go out, and she will pee outside with no problem. We've tried walking her with her mother, by herself.. Hell... I walked her for roughly an hour last night trying to get her to use the bathroom.. Then this morning, after her morning walk and goes straight to her kennel, poops, and then lays down in it.", "summary": "my dog poolside her kennel and only in her kennel.."}
{"id": "t3_103hsy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I (19/f) talk to my boyfriend (20/m) about my crush?", "post": "I've been dating this guy since the beginning of June (about 3 months now) and things have been going great. Two weeks ago though I learned my mother is moving to another town (we'll call it Town X) about 1.5hours away and has said I can come live with her. Now, I'm absolutely going because I've wanted to live in Town X for a long time and I'm not going to give up this opportunity. I talked with my boyfriend and he said he understands and still wants to try making the relationship work and so do I. However in Town X I have a friend (let's call him John) who I have a slight crush on. I met John while he was visiting in my town shortly after becoming official with my bf. Physically  John is exactly my type, and he's very intelligent with a great sense of humor (we bonded over Reddit funny enough). Because I'm attracted to John I made sure the few times we've hung out it's been in a group and I haven't put myself in any situations that could lead to something (like drinking with him). My attitude about it up until now has been \"Oh well. Crushes happen, but I have a boyfriend.\" Since I told John I'll be moving up to Town X, we've been talking a lot more though. I also learned where I'm moving to will be 10-15minutes away from where he lives. He's also the only person I know up in Town X, and we'll probably be going to the same school in the Spring, so I feel like we're going to spend a lot of time together. A mutual friend told me John has a crush on me as well and would honestly prefer us to be a couple instead of the guy I'm with now. I like my boyfriend very much and I think he's the nicest guy I've ever been with, but I feel like the world's building up circumstances to push me and John into something in a weird sort of way. I'm going to try my best to keep things going with my bf, and I believe communication is key, so should I try to talk to my bf about John? If so, what should I say?", "summary": "Have a BF but am moving to a city where a guy I like who I'm pretty sure likes me too lives. Should I talk to my BF about this? What should I say? How?"}
{"id": "t3_10rz2c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Animation major isn't working for me, what should I do?", "post": "I'm currently in a 4 year program in digital animation, when I was younger I wanted to work with 3D modeling and hopefully work with video games as a career choice. However, I'm starting to realize this might not be something I want to do, it's not the workload that's making me question it but I'm not really too skilled with using the programs the school gave us and I have what my professors said \"average\" drawing talent and I went though heavy depression during the first year of college. I had a backup plan to major into History (a subject I've very good at) and become a teacher if this didn't work out but I'm afraid of talking to my parents and uncle (who are helping me pay for college) about making such a drastic change two years into college. Is there anyone in the same boat as me or anyone who could help me out?", "summary": "Animation school isn't for me, should I switch schools and become a history major and how do I talk to my family about this."}
{"id": "t3_4bd5pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are conversations over Facebook looked down on?", "post": "Let me preface this by saying I am very shy individual. I have fairly bad social anxiety. I am getting more comfortable being social but really slowly.\n\nI[22M] have worked with this person[20F] for a few years. I have developed a massive crush on her. It is driving me absolutely crazy. We never have conversation outside of work related things. She has been in some relationships and goes on dates. I havn't. I want to get to know her better but I can't bring myself to ask those types of questions while working. I also can't straight up ask her on a date. I recently added her on Facebook. Would starting a conversation on Facebook be an easier way to start getting to know her without having to dive straight into a date? Would it make things weird at work? My friends seem to think it is a good idea but I just don't know(Mostly because I have never been in this type of predicament before). Just looking for guidance from more experienced people.", "summary": "Is it looked down upon to have a conversation over Facebook? Will it make interactions at work weird?"}
{"id": "t3_ms4xi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question from a full time student", "post": "I am a freshman in college. I've never really had an easy home life. And I find it in my best interest if I move out and dorm at my public university. The only problem is, my parents believe that if I am mature enough to live by myself, I am mature enough to to pay for my  own education. So basically, I'd be cut off. Which Is kind of fair. \n\nThe thing is, there is really no way I can pay for college by myself at the moment. I was wondering how likely it would be for me to be able to get myself a student loan without anybody to co-sign with me. I have never been financially knowledgeable, but It is something I'm working really hard on changing. I could really use this help.", "summary": "How easy is it to get a student loan without anybody to co-sign with?"}
{"id": "t3_2qcg55", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally telling some children that Santa wasn't real.", "post": "This tifu happened earlier this evening, so I'm still feeling terrible about the whole thing.\n\nSo earlier today, my family met up with some of their friends went to a local restaurant after a Christmas Eve ceremony at Church. The group happened to include several young children that were ever so excited for Christmas day to come. In the restaurant some small talk and simple conversation was going on while my brother and I started to joke about the little ones. Due to my joking mindset at the time, I wasn't thinking about who I was really talking to, and when one of the kids started to say,\"I want santa to get me a new Xbox One\", I spurted out the first thing on my mind and loudly commented, \"**Well its a damn shame that Santa Claus is just mommy and daddy!**\". Instantly after that, the table was filled with silence and loud tears as the faces with ajar mouths stared at me in disgust. When i tried to divert my attention to the daggers being shot at me from around the table, I looked around the restaurant to find that many of the other patrons where giving me rude looks as well as the family and friends. Instantly my father grabbed me by the shirt and dragged me to the parking lot and talked to me about the how the three little lives that i had just ruined had been so distraught the friends of ours had to leave the restaurant. Later when we went home, we received a call saying that the kids were still crying, and that one started to destroy all of the boxes under the Christmas tree because of his loss of faith. After that I realized that all of the apologizing in the world would not fix the three little, wonderful broken hearts that i had done. So now, the rest of my Christmas break contains hard, long hours of labor at my family's friends house, and now my dad is making me find a Santa look-alike on craigslist to help stoke their belief again. Hopefully I can replenish their belief in good ol' Saint Nick before any further damage can be done", "summary": "I accidentally told some kids that santa was their parents, and now I'm slaved away at their house working like one of santa's little elves."}
{"id": "t3_1qnn0c", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My friend was sexually assaulted and I witnessed it", "post": "My questions is: My friend filed charges against a guy who sexually assaulted her. However, she was very drunk. How solid is her case, and what are the odds he'll be put away?\n\nStory:\n\nMy roommates and I (3 girls) were drinking with friends. One of them at the end of the night took us to his house to eat something and sober up. He offered the bed to us girls and said he'd take the couch. \n\nIn the middle of the night, I woke up abruptly because the bed was shaking. I opened my eyes and saw the form of a man with his hand under the covers, clearly feeling up my friend. I was annoyed, thinking that they were fooling around, thinking we were asleep. This went on for 10 minutes.\n\nThen, she's shaking me awake, crying and saying that she woke up to find him fingering her. We leave in a hurry, and he's very defensive and denying everything.\n\nFriend called the police, got a rape kit, and determined that she was forcibly penetrated without lubrication. They got my testimony, and by then I was sober. I provided as much detail as possible, and emphasized that I had seen what happened.", "summary": "Friend got sexually assaulted. She was drunk. I saw everything. How difficult will this legal process be for her?"}
{"id": "t3_41vbnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [26 M] been dating a girl [26 F] for a couple months, and last night I failed to get an erection and she took it personal..", "post": "I feel like it's pretty normal for someone to take that personal but I I had a long day and was falling asleep when she decided to get frisky and I had a feeling my body wouldn't want to cooperate but instead of declining I tried to force myself into it and and then I got into my own head of why I couldn't get my body and body to fall in line...the results are obvious.. \n\nShe took it pretty personal and I couldn't convince her it wasn't HER who couldn't get me up.. It was just a weird occurrence. I said it twice and at this point I think trying to convince her otherwise is stereotypical and kind of sounds pathetic. What should I say to or do to clear the slate or should I just move on and pretend like it never happened?", "summary": "didn't get a hard with a girl I'm dating because I was exhausted and she doesn't believe it wasn't her who didn't \"get me up\" "}
{"id": "t3_1k532q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27F] recently cut off all communication with my dad[56M]. How do I move on from this?", "post": "I found out a couple weeks ago that my dad hacked my email password, and has been reading all my emails and chats for the past five months. Needless to say, I was very upset but when I got pissed at him over the phone (we live 400 miles apart), he started yelling back at me, stating that I wasn't respecting his role as a parent. \n\nWhen I brought up certain issues such as him never allowing myself or my mom to have access to his phone, or him sending various family members money behind mine and my mom's back, he screamed at me on the phone about being disrespectful and hung up on me. \n\nHow do you move on from cutting off all communication with a parent and not let it eat you up inside? My parents have a tendency to emotionally manipulate and guilt trip me into talking to them again and I would really like to take this chance to move on.", "summary": "Dad violated my privacy, then got mad at me for getting mad at him. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1byn47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23f) am in a serious relationship w/ a 23m, and a 25m at work keeps calling me beautiful.", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for six years. I love him, but that doesn't mean we have a fair share of issues. I recently gained some weight and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and its the cause of my weight gain. My boyfriend told me recently it's affecting our relationship and sex life. At the same time, I just started a new job and a guy I work with recently came out and told me he finds me beautiful and reminds me every day how pretty he thinks I am. My current boyfriend gives me enough emotional support but does not appreciate me physically. This new guy gives no emotional support but is desperate to have me. I don't know how to approach either one of them at this point. I have no plans on ever breaking up with my guy but I am desperate for some loving. What should I do?", "summary": "My boyfriend of six years loves me. The guy at work appreciates me. Don't know how to approach it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1edh9q", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I don't want to feel like a stalker... but I kinda am (m21/F mid30's)", "post": "First some backstory. In November 2011 I got out of an abusive relationship and traveled to Stockholm with a friend to roadie for a band that was visiting. While at the bar after the gig I meet this woman. She's cute and appears to be really into me. She really liked my top hat.\n\nWe hit it off but get split up before the night is over (did get her number though!). We start talking over SMS and Skype and I visit her the next weekend. We have crazy amounts of sex and we get a bit emotional at times, but it's all fine. I'm there again 2 weeks later and it's pretty much the same thing. Only problem is, it just hits me that I'm single after a long relationship, and I have a minor breakdown. That seemed to put her off completely. I stay the weekend and when I get to talk to her again after christmas (she had gone back to GB to be with her parents) she tells me she found a boyfriend over there and want to break off the FWB relationship with me. I'm fine with that but feel like she's the one that got away.\n\nI recently got the urge to look up what she's doing, so I googled her name + where she worked (she worked for the government, so it was pretty easy to find) and found out that she's still in Sweden as of September 2012. I feel a strong urge to talk to her again so I find her profile on LinkedIn. Sadly, you need to pay to send people PMs there, so I havent done that yet.\nNow, to my question. Is it in any way a good idea to try to contact her again? I feel kinda bad for what happened last time I saw her but she at the same time didnt seem to want to see me anymore.\nThe way I would contact her would be through her work email. It found it while googling her name, but I doub't she'd like personal Emails on her Work mail.\n\nSo... what do?", "summary": "Had fwb relationship years ago. Lost contact. Want to see her again"}
{"id": "t3_29t897", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [20 F] said to me [24 M] \"(...) if there's going to be another time\" How should I respond to that?", "post": "I met this one girl and asked her out. We didn't know each other, only had like 5min. conversation before.\nNow, yesterday was our 3rd date. She initiated it, but at the scene suddenly seemed distant. She even said a few things that baffled me:\n\n1) She mentioned going abroad in two years to finish her degree.\n(it's like she wanted me to lose interest in her)\n\n2) She told me that her mother tried to match her with some of her colleagues over the last few years, but she found them boring or selfish. It's like she wanted to show me that she was not in a commited relationship for a long time.\n\n3) Later we got some ice cream and she offered to pay for everything. I said OK, because I would have to change my money first. So she paid, and I told her I'll change it on the way back.\nBut there was no such possibility so I said (while getting out of a tram): \"I'll return it another time\" and she responded:\n\"If there is going to be another time\". I was so baffled by this that I didn't respond. I just kissed her and had to leave.\n\nNow, as you can see, she's less interested in me than I am in her. I suppose I have three options now:\n\na) try to schedule a next date and make it really special\n\nb) give her some space and time to rethink (?)\n\nc) she's not undecided - I already lost her and should let her go and move on already\n\nWhat would you do and how would you respond in that situation?", "summary": "At 3rd date girl seems undecided. What are my options and how would you respond to \"(...) if there's going to be another time\" ?"}
{"id": "t3_44hxgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21f] don't like to take my sister [14f] to the dog park with me. How can I explain this to my parents [45f, 47m]?", "post": "I [21f] don't like to take my sister [14f] to the dog park with me. How can I explain this to my parents [45f, 47m]? \n\nI do not live with my parents, but I see them on the regular. They live near my apartment and there is a dog park near them. It is one of the few good ones and I have been going there for a few years. \n\nI have a special needs sister who loves dogs. They are her favorite thing in the world. Dogs hate my sister and want nothing to do with her. She is loud, makes sudden movements, and throws herself at any strange dog she sees. \n\nI don't want to bring her anymore. I have friends I meet there, she is bad with dogs, and it is not fun when she is around. I don't want to be a caregiver and it turns time spent with my sister into a super unpleasant experience. \n\nI am not sure how to explain this to my parents. I have stopped bringing my dogs by because my sister is unable to handle pets. They had to rehome a cat she accidentally hurt. \n\nThere are some other issues, but this is the main one. How can I explain to them that I am no longer taking my sister to the dog park? And how can I put up boundaries that are healthy?", "summary": "I [21f] don't like to take my sister [14f] to the dog park with me. How can I explain this to my parents [45f, 47m]?"}
{"id": "t3_238a3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has anyone ever been in a trial relationship? LDR [22F] and [22M]", "post": "I'm the 22F and we've been 'together' for 5 months now. \n\nWe're in an LDR and we're around 3k miles apart. We've never met, but we will in one month and will be spending a month together for the first time. \n\nWe're in a trial phase right now, the plan is to wait until we meet before deciding to commit or not. My 'SO' is making a very big exception for me, when we originally met I learned that he wasn't interested in LDR's, thought they could never work and were a waste of time.\n\nHe is considering doing it for me and during or after summer its either going to work out or not. My question is.. Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before and how did it work out?\n\nOh, I think its worth noting that neither of us are looking for anyone else. We are committed to meeting each other, its that part that comes after which is a bit shaky.", "summary": "LDR in a 'trial' relationship. Decision to commit won't be made until after we've met. Has anyone had previous experience?"}
{"id": "t3_ktpex", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I start taking ADD meds again to get my life back together?", "post": "I am a 21 yr old male who was diagnosed with ADHD around the age of 8 and took prescribed medication for it until I opted out at 18. I really hated it, as it made me feel 'deflated', as if I had no personality. a zombie so to speak. but now I'm a college drop out, moderate pot user, and still live at home. to get the medication prescribed to me again I will have to take counselling which I'm beginning to think would be worth it. \n\nthere are also some other factors that include a girl and a car.", "summary": "loser who still lives at home weighing the pros and cons of being a zombie on meds."}
{"id": "t3_2ui6ov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend 8 months, cheated on me while I am away at work.", "post": "So my job sent me to Canada for shift work. 2 weeks on and then I get 1 week off. I gave my girlfriend the keys to my apartment to check my mail and house sit. I told her she could have her best friend over to watch Netflix or what not while I was gone but that was it. Well 5 days into my assignment she has her friend and they invite a guy friend over. They all start drinking. She skyped me about an hour early hiding the fact that she had anyone else over but her best friend. Well her best friend calls her ex boyfriend over and they start arguing. This leaves their guy friend and my girl friend in my room together. The guy tells her that he has a lot of emotions for her and they start making out, he then takes off her pants and they have sex for about a minute before my girlfriend said she couldn't do it. Then she gets up to go to the bathroom and he follows her and says yes she can. He put it back in her, but she stopped it again after about a minute. He then asked if she could blow him then, and she said she felt bad so she did for about 30 seconds before she stopped again. She called me right after and told me how sorry she was, and she didn't know it was going to happen. She told me alcohol was definitely a factor, and the whole ordeal has made her realize how much she loved me. She said she told him to stop because she knew it was so wrong, but it was hard to get him off of her. What do I do? This was in my house while I was gone in Canada! How do I look past this?", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me in my bed while I was in Canada. She asked the guy to stop, but it still hurts. What do I do to look past this?"}
{"id": "t3_thbv3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have 90 days until my downstairs neighbour, who I've had to get a restraining order against is evicted. If you were me, what would you do?", "post": "Basically, I've had to get an AVO (Apprehended Violence Order) against my downstairs neighbour. We live in a really old building with little to no insulation, so noise travels *really* easily. \n\nBut he takes offense to the smallest things at really random times (11am, Sunday morning, being on the phone with my Dad and wandering around the apartment was cause for a 7 minute tirade in the stairwell about how I'm a dumb white cunt who's always walking around. I don't know if he expects me to teleport or hover between rooms, but unfortunately, I can't do either.\n\nHe's threatened me a couple of times (raised fist, prevented me from exiting the building, tried to kick down my apartment door the other day) the last time he did it, I'd been watching TV with a few friends (normal volume) - no-one else has ever witnessed these events before and they encouraged me to call the police. Police suggested I get an AVO, and so I did.\n\nNext day, I call the real estate and say basically, okay, look. I need to leave or this guy does, because I am terrified of him, and this seems to be escalating. They decide to evict him (he's being served papers today) but with 90 days notice, I'm basically going to have to live with an enraged junkie for three months.\n\nSo, I'm not sure what I can do to either protect myself, should I just move out and bear the cost of breaking lease five months early.. Do I get a new giant bro housemate, because my current one has basically fucked off to her friends house and left me to deal with the whole mess... or do you guys have another idea?", "summary": "Girl vs Junkie - asked to be released from my lease, they decided to evict him instead. But not for 90 days. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ycxc2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my grandma's aspirin", "post": "Before heading off to church this morning, I had a mild headache. So I went downstairs to look for some ibuprofen in my grandma's medicine cabinet. I couldn't find any, but my sister found some Bayer Aspirin and so I decided to take three of those instead (it was a \"Low dose\" kind... only 81 mg). About 40 minutes later, right before leaving my house, I started getting really dizzy, but I was just like \"Oh, whatever, it'll get better soon\". About 10 minutes into my drive to church, I started getting REALLY nauseous and I soon had to pull over to throw up. I threw up my breakfast on to some grass by the random side street I was on. Then I pulled it together and drove to church where I threw up again in the parking lot. I went in the church and laid down for three hours before my sister had to drive me home where I threw up again (I don't even know where this stuff was coming from anymore). I laid in bed all day long just continuing to be dizzy and I had no idea what was wrong with me. In the evening, I went down to look at the pills that I had taken. It had the imprint \"M365\" on the pills. I googled what it was, and it turns out it's my grandma's Vicodin that she got after her knee surgery. She had put it into the Bayer bottle because it was easier to open. You're normally supposed to take one every 4-6 hours and I had taken three at once. I learned my lesson the hard way: Do not trust your grandparents' drug stash. I'm still a bit dizzy still and it's been more than 24 hours haha.", "summary": "I got high off Vicodin and it's taking me more than two days to recover."}
{"id": "t3_1x3vpf", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Oh you won't turn the TV off? IS THIS LOUD ENOUGH FOR YOU!", "post": "The other day my brother was watching ESPN on the TV in our living room. He decided to set up his little TV off to the side so he could play on his Xbox One. As he was setting up the TV and the Xbox I kept asking him if he could turn it off.\n\nWe went back and forth saying \"You shut it off\" \"No you shut it off\" \"I'm not shutting it off\" \"Neither am I\" I got fed up of going back and forth so I walked up to the TV and maxed out the volume so ESPN could be heard through out the house.\n\nMy mom then yells \"What's going on in their\" from the other room. I of course yell \"[Brother's name] is watching ESPN. She walks in, turns the volume down and shuts it off. She call me immature but it doesn't matter. Point: Me", "summary": "If you won't turn it off, I'll turn it up."}
{"id": "t3_2a2lyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] I've been seeing a girl who lives a fair distance from me for around 3 weeks and need some help with long distance and general relationship anxiety, please.", "post": "So firstly, apologies for the lack of flair; I'm on mobile and couldn't find how to do it.\n\nI've been seeing a girl who lives in another part of the country to me; anywhere from 3-5 hours, depending on the form of transport. She is 19, I'm 30, and she's going travelling for a year in September. \n\nI've always had trouble with needing fairly consistent affirmation that I'm wanted, I can be pretty needy at times. I'm working hard on it but it's a difficult trait to break.\n\nWhat I need help with is:\n\n- The age gap is the biggest I've ever had. It doesn't seem to bother her, but I sometimes feel I'm robbing her of her youth.\n\n- The distance we live from each other is difficult for me. We keep in regular contact through phone and text, but it's not enough for me. Add to this that she'll be moving away soon.\n\n- I really need to find a way of dealing with my insecurity issues. I feel like I could be driving her away with my need for attention and reassurance.\n\nI'm hugely inexperienced in relationships. The longest I've ever had was around a month, so all of these feelings and situations are very new and very scary.\n\nI'm starting to feel very deeply for her, but I don't fully know how she feels. I'll be asking her when we're next together.\n\nI don't know if I've made this clear enough, so feel free to ask me anything for clarification.\n\nThanks in advance for any advice offered, I truly appreciate it.", "summary": "I have a few issues with distance and reassurance and I'm very inexperienced."}
{"id": "t3_2h4bx1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by squeezing a nipple", "post": "This has happened today, do I receive any points? *shakes his tail*. So, today was a normal day at school. Almost. Me (male highschooler) and my friends were playing harshly, squeezing our nipples. No homo. So after a bit, my friends were behind me, I was talking with the teacher. Someone poked my back, I turned over and blindly squeezed the first pair of nipples my hands found. The nipples were from the hot chick in my class. I stood there trying to understand what I did. The teacher didn't understand either. Just some 3 seconds of awkward  silence. My face reddens as I think of what happened.", "summary": "Squeezed a hot chick's nipples. "}
{"id": "t3_3o6gg3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] have a crush on [22F] who is currently dating a friend of mine [22M]", "post": "Throwaway because she knows my username.\n\nSo I met this girl about a year and a half ago, and we were acquaintances. We didn't really talk to each other much, but we knew each other since we worked at the same place but different departments.\n\nAbout 10 months ago, a good friend of mine begins dating this girl. I don't really care at the time since I don't know her.\n\nAbout 3 months ago, I get switched departments at work and we are working very closely together. We immediately click and become best friends overnight. About a month in I start developing feelings towards this girl and I have to tell myself that I should ignore them.\n\nNow its been 2 more months, and when I hang out with both of them together or when I just hang out with her it slowly begins to tear me apart because I want to tell her how I feel. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to risk either relationship and its really beginning to get to me. What should I do?", "summary": "I like a girl who is currently dating a good friend of mine. I don't want to lose either one of the relationships or put myself through the emotional pain anymore. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_mqium", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In love with someone that I shouldn't be. I need advice post haste", "post": "Throwaway account, only want advice from internet strangers as i would never tell anyone IRL. okaly dokaly here it goes - im insanely in love with a co-worker. We work together everyday and it kills me he will never feel the same way. We're friends but he seems more comfortable around everyone else, he defiantly does not go out of his way to talk to me. Im super awkward unless I have some liquid courage, so i'm probably pretty difficult to talk to. There's no way I could ever tell him, I would completely fuck up the working environment. I feel like Jim Halpert except Pam does not give any fucks about me. You guys have no idea how much I love this guy, he is so perfect for me. I would kill to have one night alone with him and to have the balls to tell him how I feel. I don't think this feeling will ever go away and I'm stuck at my job for another 2 years. I have no clue what to do, I wish I could move on.", "summary": "Im in love with a guy I work with, he doesn't know and I can't tell him"}
{"id": "t3_24616w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am on a break with my gf [20F] after ~3 years, until I figure out a couple of things, and I could really use some help", "post": "I really loved my girlfriend. I did. We were best friends.\n\nBut I'm having a ton of trouble reconciling that I met her so early on in life. She's my first serious relationship, and we talked about getting married etc. She's on-board with the idea, and I just couldn't continue the relationship because I wasn't sure.\n\nWhat I'm trying to figure out is whether or not I'm ok with settling down so early. I already feel like maybe I'm missing something. All my friends have gone on streaks of dating a lot, nothing serious, and a lot of flings. I've never had that in life. I always was looking for a relationship. But now that I have one, I feel trapped. I feel that if I commit to this now, I'm giving up the chance to ever be able to have that fun freedom in my 20s. Part of me wants to experience that, but on the other hand what if I'm letting the best one go just to go experience shitty relationships?\n\nI always thought that I'd end up with a physically fit, active girl. My girlfriend simply isn't. She's never done any real physical activity, and doesn't have much urge to do so. I still find her attractive, but I'm worried that she'll gain weight the older she gets. I know that beauty fades with age... but I still want to be crazy attracted to her. I am attracted to her now more just because of our relationship than her physical appearance. If she did lose a bit of weight and was active, I know she would be that crazy hot girl I've always wanted... but I can't force her to become active, and I also don't want to bank on that happening.\n\nI'm just really caught up in \"what-if\"s right now, and it's killing me inside. Am I missing out on something if I stay with her?", "summary": "Will I resent not having dated more people later in life, and/or am I potentially letting the right one go just to see what else is out there?"}
{"id": "t3_n1wse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm embarrassed to be with my GF in public because of her appearance and how we met. What should I do?", "post": "Throwaway account. I'm a male, 23 yrs old. She's 26 yrs old. We've been dating for over a year.\n\nMy GF is everything I've ever wanted but I find myself hung up on her physical appearance and how we met. She's overweight. It bothers me a little bit, but the main problem is I'm embarrassed to be with her in front of my peers. It's a horrible feeling and I feel like the worst person on earth because of it. I want to be able to proudly display her as my girlfriend, but I just can't help but feel embarrassed to be dating someone people consider to be a \"fatty.\" I'm also embarrassed that I met her online. This combination makes me embarrassed to even talk about her to my friends. Most people can't stop talking about the people they love, I'm the opposite. How can I address these feelings?", "summary": "My GF is awesome, but fat. I'm embarrassed by it. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_xycos", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Manners Man, or Captain Manners? Does anyone recall a super hero character from the 90s that was used to teach elementary school kids about manners?", "post": "When I was a lad in the Florida public school system in the early 90s, my teacher used a lesson plan based a super hero to teach us manners.  \n\nWe had a poster of the hero and each week the teacher would read a story about manners to us and how the hero used his manners powers to save the day.  Each story would result in adding a price of superhero equipment to a poster depicting the hero.  I can remember that one piece of equipment was a lariat (rope) and another were his boots, but there were other items.\n\nThe hero had a name along the lines of \"Manners Man\" or \"Captain Manners\" or something, but I have googled these names without any luck.\n\nThis has been driving me crazy, my nostalgia gland is fully engorged.  Does anyone on reddit remember this?", "summary": "who was the superhero used to teach elementary school kids about the benefits of good manners?"}
{"id": "t3_gf0g8", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Should I give my father money for rent?", "post": "Need some help, reddit.\n\nMy father, pushing 60, just asked my brother and I for money to pay for 3 months worth of back due rent. Total: $1,350.\n\nA little backstory: he used to work for a large multinational but got canned about 8 years ago. He got severance and he decided to start his own business with it, which failed in about a year. He spent all of his severance on it. He now has another business which is obviously not yielding enough cash. He's also currently looking for a job.\n\nHe's re-married, to someone about 5 years my senior... She doesn't really work, but does some free-lance stuff, so \"she's been paying the bills\", according to my Dad. She recently took $30,000 from an older family member of hers to buy a car. She also frequently travels by invitation from this family member. (e.g. this family member pays for it...)\n\nI know that I will not *loan* my father any money, but just give it to him if my wife and I decide to do so. However, I don't see an end to this unless he makes some drastic changes. It seems he believes he will get different results by doing the same thing over and over, and frankly I don't see that he's *killing himself* to improve his situation.\n\nHowever, if I don't help him out, he will probably not pay rent and get kicked out. He also won't have money for a new place...\n\nWhat's also interesting to note is that my father , when he was doing well, gave his father (my grandfather) money every month to help *him* out. I don't want to do the same: I have my own family and life to take care of.\n\nSo, reddit, what to do? Anyone else been in a similar situation? Your thoughts, please?", "summary": "My dad asked my brother and I for money to pay for due rent, what's the best way for me to help in the long term so this does not continue?"}
{"id": "t3_h4gaq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, how many of you are religious?", "post": "According to recent surveys, 83 percent of Americans claim to belong to a religious denomination, 40 percent claim to attend services nearly every week or more, and 58 percent claim to pray at least weekly.  \n\nI, myself, am agnostic.  I grew up with a mother that taught me to search for my own spirituality and visit whatever churches I wanted to.  Through my teen years I went to various churches, and none of them made any sense to me, so I just decided to roll with the world that was around me.\n\nMost people I encounter don't *seem* religious, (whatever that means) so those statistics seem a bit off to me.", "summary": "Who gives big ups to their main man God? (or Goddess.  or Gods.  or Buddah.  ..or you know...you get it.)"}
{"id": "t3_1bplxb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My friend is homeless and currently living on my couch... How do I kick him out?", "post": "I live with my girlfriend in a 3 room apartment. Technically its two bedroom and one dining-room/kitchen, but we had it set up where one of the bedrooms was a TV/hangout room.\n\nMy buddy just came back from a semester abroad and basically made no living plans for his return. He called me up, told me he literally had nowhere to stay, and I told him he could crash at my place. But the past few days have been awful, as he basically takes up the whole TV room as his temporary bedroom. I don't want him to pay me any rent, because I don't want it to seem like a permanent kind of fixture, but the guy has full time classes and a job, so he hasn't spent any time looking for a new place yet.\n\nBeing the beginning of the month I'm worried that he won't be able to leave until May 1st as I've never heard of a lease starting mid month (although I am no lease expert, maybe this is common?).\n\nAlthough he is a good friend of mine, I'm also worried that he is using me. Like I said, I don't want to ask him for money because I don't want it to seem like its an invitation to stay, but he uses my water, my electricity bill, etc. He's been good about buying his own meals, but he has eaten some of my snacks and milk and stuff (he asked, but I'm no good at saying no). He's asked if I can help him find an apartment, which I agreed to, but I'm worried that will turn into more of me finding an apartment for him while he lives in mine.\n\nAm I being too selfish? I mean, the guy doesn't have anywhere else to go, and its not like I live in a studio or anything, we technically have a spare room. And he is gone a lot. I just like my space, and the girlfriend isn't a huge fan of suddenly acquiring a new roommate either.\n\nSorry, this is really more of a rant than actually asking for help. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "My friend doesn't have an apartment, so I let him stay at my place because I'm a pushover. He hasn't gone out looking for one yet and I'm worried he's going to take advantage of me until I end up finding a place for him."}
{"id": "t3_1t7fka", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being laughably absent minded after work", "post": "I just started a new job and have been a little stressed about work. So last Friday I left work at the end of the day and needed gas. I stopped at a gas station, pre paid inside and began pumping gas.  My windshield wiper fluid box has a leak so my windshield is constantly dirty. While my gas was pumping I used the scrub thing to clean my windshield. Finished, got in my car, drove away...  with the gas hose still in my car.  It ripped the hose out. After 20 minutes of the gas station attendent calling me an idiot, taking my information, and telling me they just had that pump fixed the day before, I was on my way. So on my way home from work today I was running low on gas.  You guessed it; I did the same exact fucking thing.  In a matter of 6 days, I managed the same dumbass move, twice.", "summary": "I'm an idiot"}
{"id": "t3_j1b4f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sold my laptop on ebay - am I being scammed?", "post": "Hey, Reddit:\n\nI recently sold my laptop on ebay for a large sum of money. The transaction is currently pending. I am using paypal for the transaction.\n\nAccording to the buyer, there were problems with paying through ebay - I gave her my email address through paypal. The email received through paypal recognizes ebay as the medium for the transaction.\n\nI wasn't surprised when the buyer was from Hawaii. I offered free 2 day shipping, so $100 out of my pocket for over $1800 seemed reasonable.\n\nThe shipping address given to me by email through paypal asks to ship to a Nigerian address. After doing some research, I've learned two things - Nigerian addresses tend to be scammers, and Nigeria doesn't even have paypal - so how can someone in Nigeria use paypal for the transaction?\n\nKnowing all of this, I don't want to ship the item until the money has been turned into a new computer. I can't receive any payment until I provide a tracking number - but how can I do that if I don't send the package in-store? I know I can have a scheduled pickup from UPS come to my house, but I'm unsure of the procedure involved, if they'll send me a tracking number before pickup, or what - I feel my best option is to wait until I have money in my account before I go on with the transaction.\n\nBoth the address from Hawaii and the Address from Nigeria are real places - I've even found the number to the Hawaii address, and am calling them as soon as I can.\n\nI've only traded few words with them. They don't seem to speak english proficiently.\n\nWhat do I do, reddit? Wait to cancel the transaction? The item sold out in one short hour, which was really suprising.", "summary": "selling an item on ebay, worried about it. Can you give me some advice, Reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_2hj1tw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Someone stole a knife from our car [xpost /r/Advice]", "post": "So my husband and I forgot to lock our car yesterday evening (around 6 pm) and, lo and behold, this morning we went to the car and saw our spare change all over the floor of the car and outside the car. We then frantically went through the rest of the car and realized that my husband's folding pocket knife was taken from the center console (knife was probably 3 inches long). Thankfully, this was probably the most valuable thing we had in the car. My husband did have his savings account book in the car as well, but it wasn't taken. But for all we know, they may have written down his savings account #.\n\nThe suspicious thing is that some teenagers have been coming to our house lately, asking if we've gotten any mail from them. The \"main\" one (a ~15 year old boy) has \"accidentally\" sent three or four packages to our house, addressed to OUR address with HIS name. His excuse is that he \"forgets\" his address. After this happened three or four times, we got sick of it (also we were worried that he may be doing sketchy business using our address) and put \"return to sender\" on the box to send it back to China. This was a week ago. So, we're wondering if possibly the kid(s) got mad about this and raided our car as a way of seeking revenge on us? We know the kid's name and his address.\n\nIt was also strange how the \"crime scene\" looked. Our spare change was strewn all over the ground outside of the driver's side door and also spilled on the floor of the car. It was almost like they had meant for us to notice? Either that, or they started to go through our stuff and then for some reason panicked and spilled our change everywhere.\n\nThe police say they can't really do anything. Should we go question the kids? We do live near a \"sketchy\" area of town, so it's possible that it wasn't the kids but a random incident. I guess I'm just looking for any advice on this type of situation - we've never forgotten to lock our car before, and now this happens?", "summary": "Someone got in our car, stole 3 in. pocket knife and some spare coins. They may have my husband's savings account #. They spilled coins all over the place, like either they panicked or meant for us to see that they'd been in there. We suspect it may be some teenagers down the street. What do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_26nysb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Weight Lifting", "post": "So, I recently bought a new weight system for my basement, and one of the forty-fives has a notch where you slide it onto the bar. After scratching the bar into oblivion by trying to ware it down via spinning, I thought it was safe to put it back on. I put it on with a little bit of trouble, but nothing like before. Fast forward ten minutes when I'm done squatting and I'm ready to take the weight off. First comes the thirty-five and all the smaller weights, leaving the forty-five for last. I gave it a tug but it wouldn't budge. Then I pushed upwards and pulled, thinking the notch would be raised and it could slide freely, but no. Nothing would help it, not even the oil conveniently laying in the windowsill from installing the system. Well, I thought I might as well unload the other side and then go back, so I did. Then it happened-\n\nWhile holding a thirty-five and forty-five in my hand, the bar began to tip because there was no weight on my side and still weight on the pushed out, other side. Well, I tried a fancy maneuver to grab the bar with the weighs, but ended up dropping both of the weights onto my foot and the bar still tipped over and created a deafening, metallic thud. Now there's a crack in my concrete floor and my foot is broken. The swelling has begun and my toes are all turning purple from the lack of blood. Just what I needed. Shortly after, my dad ran downstairs wondering what had happened and I told him, with some colorful vocabulary, that the weight was a piece of crap and it wouldn't come off... He walked over, put the bar back up, and slid the weight off with ease. Ahh, yes, thank you dad.", "summary": "Dropped weights on foot, Dad is hulk."}
{"id": "t3_rf7we", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If the record industry makes huge profits by taking advantage of the insecurities of teenagers/young adults, is it then in their best interest to keep these groups insecure?", "post": "Couldn't help but have the thought cross my mind while hearing a One Direction song on the radio. There seems to be three main messages prevalent on top 40 pop stations these days: The sexualization of women, the urge to party away your problems, and you are beautiful and perfect in every way. \n\nI would argue two of these messages are marketed towards a specific audience: Insecure teenagers/young adults. The urge to party away your problems provides an escape from insecurity. The message of \"You are beautiful!\" would never work on an audience, unless that audience needed reinsurance of their self worth.\n\nThe third message works to generate the insecurities that make the other two messages effective. I think that the sexualization of women helps to instill insecurity, as obviously not all women fit that model. If I were to be told that a square jaw and blue eyes were the epitome of beauty and I did not have either, I would obviously feel worse about myself. And a song that suggested a way to forget this, or told me otherwise would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "The music industry is both generating and feeding off of the insecurity of it's audience, from what I have seen. Is this planned? Or is it just happy circumstance?"}
{"id": "t3_4svhjf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] grew up closely with these friends but they never invite me out anymore. I think I'm losing them.", "post": "I'm from a smallish town in the midwest so if you made friends in elementary school, you were with them pretty much until high school.  This was the case for my friend group.  I have a lot of good memories of birthday parties, gaming sessions, movie nights, and lunchroom conversations, stuff that spans almost twelve years, but recently I've started to recognize a pattern.  I honestly can't remember the last time I was ever invited by one of them to hang out.  It was always me doing the inviting.  I can recall us talking and they'd mention fun stuff they'd do together and I'd make a joke like \"Wow, why didn't you guys invite me xD ;)\".  Now that I mention it, that happened quite often.  \n\nSo, I was the only of us to go out of state for college, but for the last couple years, whenever I came home, I was sure to let them know when and I'd invite them to catch up.  I'd even organize dinners with all us consisting of me asking everyone to meet and figuring out times and restaurants.  Lately, I've tried a different approach by letting them know I was home and seeing if they'd contact me.  They never do.  Maybe it's that they're all busy, but my academic breaks align with theirs and no one travels that much in my hometown.  It'd be a shame to, but if I were to cut them out of my life, I don't really think it'd make that big of a difference seeing how things are now.  Is there actually a chance this could be fixed?  I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "My friends from back home don't call me.  Maybe we're not friends anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_2w5dof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just \"broke up\" with a friend because I had feelings for him. Not sure if I did the right thing.", "post": "I (24F) met this guy (26m) just over a year ago through an online dating site. We went on a few dates and started sleeping together, and I had feelings for him. Unfortunately, he didn't have romantic feelings for me, so he asked if we could continue to hang out and be friends. In retrospect, I should have said no to that, but I was delusional and I liked hanging out with him.\n\nSo for the last year, we've been hanging out as friends, but with some weirdness thrown in. For a few months we had a friends with benefits situation going on, but I cut that off because I wasn't doing great with it emotionally (big shock). We texted almost constantly every day throughout the year and he became one of my best friends. There were a lot of confusing conversations about the nature of our relationship that gave me mixed messages, but mostly I got the impression that he didn't have romantic feelings for me.  \n\nAbout a month ago I realized I still have feelings for him.  I think I probably have for a while but I was ignoring it.  I told him as much, and I also told him I needed to not see/talk to him for a long time because it was too hard for me. I'm so tired of the confusion and as much as I'm going to miss him I think it's what's best for me long term. I told him that and made myself very clear, but he was really upset about it - he desperately wants to stay friends but he seemed to understand why I needed to do it.   He's been one of my best friends and I feel like a jackass for ending things in this way (and so suddenly), but I don't know that I have another option. It's been 2 weeks and I don't feel better about it yet.  Am I crazy? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Lost a really close friend because I had feelings.  Don't know if I feel great about it."}
{"id": "t3_2zhdyd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am in love with someone I hardly know.", "post": "I knew this person in high school and we were both interested in each other. It never worked out although I have had dreams about this person ever since (8 years of dreams). They aren't sexual dreams, but this is really, really wearing on me. In the dreams I am very happy to be with her and when I wake up I am devastated. The worst part is that I am currently in a relationship and know that this other girl is single. I went for lunch with her a little over a year ago to see how she was doing and we seemed to both enjoy ourselves. I have not pursued this relationship because I am in a fairly good relationship and feel delusional thinking this \"dream\" relationship could work out.", "summary": "I am currently in a relationship of three years and I am secretly in love with a girl I knew 8 years ago. I literally dream about her."}
{"id": "t3_toufm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would it be unethical to invade and democratize a relatively stable, but tyrannical dictatorship if there were no chance of pain or casualties on either side, purely for the purpose of freeing the population?", "post": "Basically, imagine 50 years from now, we have flawless and painless non-lethal warfare technologies that are all remotely controlled, like warm flying blobs that gently, politely, and safely scoop up any resisting combatants and deliver them to a resort-like minimum security prison with comfortable, dorm-like amenities. There they would be rehabilitated for the most part, and soon after released. No interrogations or intelligence gathering unless someone volunteers... although some regime leadership members might face war-crimes/crimes against humanity charges, etc., but with no chance of death penalty. \n\nAlso, the entire purpose of the invasion would be to establish democracy. \n\nEach robot fighter on our side would be controlled by a human, so no robot automated decisions, and every action of every US robot is recorded live from a hundred little cameras and released live to the public on a million streaming channels, with no chance to censor anything. \n\nAfter a decade of infrastructure improvements, education, and constitution writing in cooperation with local elected representatives we'd leave.  \n\nOne last point - to those that say this prevents their self-determination as a people, I just want to clarify that in this scenario, they aren't self-determined to begin with, as they are controlled by a single hereditary dictator. The idea would be to make self-determination possible through democracy.", "summary": "100% humane execution of the operation by combining remote controlled robots and super-safe and zero-pain-generating non-lethal warfare technology, nation building, and departure after ten years."}
{"id": "t3_twsne", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Some problems with caffeine", "post": "So, I am absolutely a caffeine abuser.  For about 7 months I was drinking at least 1 gram of caffeine a day.  I decided to stop drinking caffeine and stop drinking alcohol cold turkey.  It has worked for the last 2 weeks.  Though it is starting to bug me again.  Alcohol I am indifferent about, there have been times when I wanted a good brew, but it is easy to ignore.\n\nFor me, caffeine is not easy to ignore.  I have serious headaches still that have not subsided.  While I have no evidence other than experience, I believe caffeine makes me perform better.  More focused.  More energy.  Work longer hours.  Work harder.  I can't see why I wouldn't want to drink caffeine.  On the flip side, I realize, I was drinking a ton of caffeine and that isn't healthy.\n\nA bit of a history lesson, I have been drinking caffeine heavily for about 10 plus years.  It has gotten me through so much.  I am a little confused.  \n\nShould I go back to drinking caffeine or should I stay away?  I think part of this issue is I am not sure if I can keep my intake in moderation.", "summary": "Abused caffeine (over 1 gram a day).  Stopped for two weeks.  Want to go back as I think I perform better, but not sure if I should"}
{"id": "t3_zsi9d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is something making people smaller/mature later?", "post": "Preface: Let me know if this fits better in r/askscience, I feel like it's too speculative for the subreddit and didn't want to get e-lynched.  \n  \nI'm now a senior in high school and I feel like my class and the classes below me look prepubescent still compared to those of my parents and even siblings. I'm not sure if it's just that when I was younger I thought that seniors in high school looked older than they actually did and that my class looks just the same as the other class but I'm wondering. I know that a class of 500 students is not a huge sample size, but when my brother was a senior five years ago he was probably the fifth to tenth tallest person in his class at 6'6\". In my class, there is one kid who is over 6'6\"- he's 6'8\". Yes 6'8\" is tall but I've gone to school with him for many years and know that both of his grandfathers are over 7'0 tall, his father is over 7'0 tall, and his mother is 6'8\". He suspects that he is done growing since he's been the same height since freshman year- so this 6'8\" seems short for his genetics (note that I know nothing about genetics past punnet squares). I also realize that five years is not nearly long enough time for such a drastic change to be taking effect, and that this may just be all coincidental. Now, I look back at my parents' yearbooks and see kids with full beards, at my school it is common to sport a beard if you're able to grow one (ie my hideous chinstrap). There are only a few kids with more than peach fuzz it seems. I'm not trying to be \"lol I'm so manly and everyone else is prepubescent\" (my noodle arms would like to disagree)- I feel like if I were placed in high school ten years ago that I would look like a completely average senior, and yet people tell me I look like I'm 25.", "summary": "Are people getting smaller and maturing at a later age or is it the same as it has always been and I just feel that way because of how I perceived older kids while I was a younger kid?    "}
{"id": "t3_3qcumh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/m] with my ex [26/F], how do I ask her out again without coming off as desperate?", "post": "I (25/M) dated a girl I went to high school with (26/F) for about two months last year after bumping into her on OKCupid. It was going really well for about a month or two before it kind of fizzled out and we both amicably went our separate ways. I feel like I've grown a lot in the last year (new job, my own apartment, a bunch of other good stuff.) and have been thinking of seeing her again. \n\nI haven't seen her or talked to her in about a year, aside from a few Facebook comments and stuff like that. I still have her number, but don't want to ask her out of the blue, because that seems desperate to me. What would be a good way to reach out to her, with the intention of dating her again, without being desperate or creepy?", "summary": "what's a good way to ask out an ex without seeming desperate?"}
{"id": "t3_ybxwx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Good day Reddit. What strange or unusual things  have made your day?", "post": "So yesterday I was on my way back to home in pretty empty train, I was prepared for this boring ride so I started solving my Rubik`s cube and putted my headphones. Out of curiosity I took a glimpse around and there were plenty of seats left and so I continued solving my puzzle.\n \nAfter second time I solved that cube and started a new run suddenly a pretty quite girl sits in front of me, I didnt stared or anything just saw a nice girl in front of me (usually everybody is so scared of me and doesnt even sit near to me). At first it didnt bothered me but when I had another look over her I just continued my puzzle.\n\nIt wasnt very warm day something about 19 degrees Celsius (66\u00b0F) but it didnt stopped me from wearing a shirt and shorts when most of the people around weared jeans and hoodies. The girl in front of me weared nice brown leather jacked and after a while she started to take it off, I didnt mind and while she was searching for her thin, brown with white stripes sweater, I took one long stealthy glimpse of her and immediately turned back to my cube.(pretty weird huh? yep it shore is).\n\nRest of the ride was relatively boring until I took big yawn like [this] and our eyes met where suddenly me and her just turned our heads like it didnt happen. I felt pretty embarrassed at that moment but I didnt care much about it after all. At the end I could ask her something but I didnt had courage and something inside me was saying that there is her boyfriend waiting at the end so I just sited there and listened to music. \n\nWhen I got of the train she was still walking alone and after a while our our ways parted. Only after a while I realized that that one girl which I saw for the first time and didnt even know made my day by just siting in front of me on a train. Probably I`m just a weirdo and still Reddit share your stories of how someone and/or something has made your day.", "summary": "Nice girl on pretty empty train sited in front of me made my day just siting in front of me (weird? i know). Share your stories of how someone or something has made your day."}
{"id": "t3_2u7jkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18M) with GF (18) at a loss", "post": "My GF and I have been together for a little over 3 years now and are both freshman in college at different universities hours away. \n\nEverything was good for the most part during our first semesters away from each other, but as this second semester has started things have been different. We recently nearly broke up, over a number of things (without sounding like a jerk, they were all problems that she caused). I explained that I needed time to think about things and think about the relationship and eventually decided that I would be ok with seeing how things went in the next couple of weeks., and here we are.\n\nShe said she is depressed being so far away and jealous that she has to live at home while I am away and enjoying my time here. \n\nAlthough I really love this girl and have always been willing to do anything and everything to make her happy, recently I have been having thoughts about ending it for a couple reasons: I have always been a near-perfect boyfriend (something she has also expressed) while she has always brought problems into the relationship as a cause of her own insecurities etc., I have questioned whether or not I would just be happier without her and without a LDR so I can enjoy my time her in college without the stress of an LDR, and finally, I do not want to eventually resent her and resent the fact that I never got the 'full college experience'. \n\nI care about this girl but I do recognize that I need to do what is best for me and for my own happiness as well as hers. The LDR can be a lot to deal with, especially on top of school and work. I hope I haven't sounded like an insensitive person.\n\nI should also add the 'problems' I spoke of: First she was talking to her ex to try and make me jealous, then told me to have a nice life without her when I told her I was going somewhere for spring break with my friends, but then apologized for this. And finally, gave another guy that is probably interested in her her phone number (which may seem like nothing but on top of the other two previously mentioned, and considering these all happened within 2 months, it got to me).\n\nThank you", "summary": "Confused as to what to do with my LDR of three years as our relationship gets more strenuous in college."}
{"id": "t3_34dl09", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When should I (20/F) start revealing my crazy side to my boyfriend (19/M) of a week?", "post": "He's a classmate. He's never had a girlfriend before.\nHe is the sweetest guy I've ever met, he compliments me a lot, he is handsome, but shy in a cute way, and very smart. \nI'm into him. \n\nI have been with 10+ guys, usually above 27 year old. I have been in abusive relationships, I have let them treat me very bad, because I was messed up and I believed that it is what I deserve. \nI used to cut myself and I have very visible scars on my thighs, from time to time I still cut. \nI'm on an emotional roller coaster, and when I'm in a depressive episode, I want to be able to rely on him, but at the same time I dont want to overwhelm him or push him away. \nPlus I hate myself from time to time and I have no idea how he can be attracted to me.\n\nI have never felt so happy with someone so right. \nIf I show him what I'm really like, I'm afraid he'll run, but if I don't, I will push him away, because I won't feel understood.", "summary": "I'm with a very nice guy, I'm his first girlfriend, but I have been with many guys, I cut myself and I go depressive and/or crazy sometimes. Wondering what I should do to not push him away."}
{"id": "t3_3lts1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to break up with my [22 M] girlfriend [19 F] when she is sort of living with me", "post": "Hello everybody. I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and since kind of all of 2015, I have just been constantly unhappy all of the time. I have wanted to break up for a very long time though, but I simply don't know how to do it. I'm living in my parents house and they both work far away for 9 months of the year, so I mostly have a place to myself. After this past christmas, I told her she could stay here because she didn't have anywhere else to go.\n\nI kind of hinted that she should really get her own place, since when my parents do come home, she wouldn't be able to stay here. So she now does officially have a place, she's renting a room off of her friend but is not going to use the room at all until my parents come home.\n\nSo how do I go about this? I want to break up with her, but I don't know how to do it or what to say, and I don't know how to deal with the logistics of it because she lives with me and all of her stuff is here. I know when I break the news to her it's absolutely going to devastate her, so I just want to do this in the best possible way where I don't hurt her anymore than I have to", "summary": "want to break up with girlfriend but she lives with me and I don't know how to go about it"}
{"id": "t3_3v9gom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] wondering whether what my ex [17 M] did constitutes as cheating.", "post": "Clarification : My ex confessed to me around September 2 years ago and the feelings were mutual. This led to us standing somewhere between platonic and romantic and we never truly defined what we were but it was implied that we were together. \n\nHowever, a few months later I find out that he had participated in a game of truth or dare and kissed his ex. (Note : those in relationships were excused from such dares) His ex, who is also a good friend of mine consented at first as he didn't tell her that something was going on between us. The game spiralled out of control and he ends up forcing himself on her (forcing her to make out with him) she pushes him off. \n\nThey all keep the game a secret but I find all of this out from another one of his exs. Which led me to feeling sick to my stomach. I approached my friend about it and she came clean, apologised and said that she did not know as he never told her. \n\nHowever, when I approached him about it, he denied everything and stated an alibi. He began accusing his ex, saying that they were only trying to break us up. He even asked me if I wanted to cut them off (both of them were my best friends at the time). \n\nI went a few days, believing his story until I realised that it did not add up. The girl who he forced himself onto / made out with - actually despises him, hence, wouldn't lie about kissing him.\n\nI chose to keep my knowledge to myself and proceed with the relationship. \n\nWhen we broke up, I asked him why he had lied to me. He responded by saying he wasn't aware that he lied until I clarified the matter. He then proceeded to say that it was simply easier to lie about it.\n\nI never really thought about it as infidelity ( due to worse cases) though it made me very uneasy. But now I am beginning to feel that his actions and the way he attempted to cover his lies up lies in that area. Seeing how he even tried to get me to cut off connection with my close friend at that time.", "summary": "Ex forced himself onto a friend of mine during truth or dare, unsure if under circumstances if it's considered cheating."}
{"id": "t3_33j9hl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am not interested in straight friend crushing on me. [both 25F] Not interested in virgins/ helping someone figure that stuff out. I am probably an asshole.", "post": "I am gay. Recently found out a straight friend (Sara) is crushing on me. A lesbian friend (Sally) was asking me why I wasn't go for it. (Sara is my type, attractive, we are friends already-type shit) I said that Sara was straight, and I don't feel like helping someone discover their sexuality, especially if she's not interested in any other girl. If she figured out she was bi or gay through a crush on me that's great.\n\nSally something like I was holding Saras sexual past against her. Asked me if I would go with Sara if she was a virgin.\n\n'I don't want to be anyone's first or maybe even second. I get crazy distracted, and it can take forever to get me off.' Sometimes you have to drag me up that mountain, and that's not going to happen if I have to tell someone where to step and to not do the stupid shit you see in in the flashy climbing movies. And this particular someone had been just doing marathon running before, never thought about mountains and was on this mountain solely because of me? That's a lot of pressure.\n\nShe said that sounded selfish. I told her I was done talking about this. \n\nAfter the call I also thought: Sara also hasn't acted loverly to another woman in public. She won't notice some of the disapproving southern churchies, then some asshole will say something and she won't be prepared for it. It will probably be someone she thought was a friend.", "summary": "I'm gay,not interested in straight/bi-for-me friend."}
{"id": "t3_4bo9iv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] and my recent Ex [26 M] shared a deep and intimate experience together before breaking up..", "post": "My ex (we've been separated for about a month and a half now) and I shared a very meaningful last time of being together, where we were both very connected, very in the moment, telling each other how much we love the other.  We were breaking up for dumb (read: responsible) adult reasons, not because we didn't care about the other.  That was the last time we were together.\n\nTwo and a half weeks later, I find out (he told me) that he texted some girl he was interested in dating and he has subsequently started dating her.\n\nI feel completely hurt and betrayed, because it makes everything (especially that last time together) seem fake and meaningless, because how can you have such intense feelings for someone, and then little to no time later start seeing someone else?...  (it doesn't seem like it's a rebound, so that's not it.)\n\nI wish he would have waited longer out of respect for me and our time together.  It makes it very hard for me to believe that he meant what he said and did right before we broke up (though logically I'm sure he meant it at the time).  I am angry that he would care more about himself, than about hurting me by doing something so insensitive.\n\nHe says he cares about our friendship, but I have a hard time believing that someone who cares about me (even if it's only as a friend), seems to have such little regard for my feelings, or for hurting me.\n\nI don't know how I'm supposed to forgive him, or get over how angry and hurt I am by his actions.\n\nI know that this can read as me being jealous or bitter..I don't have anything against the girl, I ultimately want him to be happy, and I'm trying my hardest to meet new people myself, but I'm just so incredibly hurt by and angry at what he did...\n\nNote: We work together and have the same group of friends, so unfortunately I have to exist with him still being a part of my life.", "summary": "My ex and I shared a deep intimate time together before breaking up, and two weeks after that he started seeing someone else.  I don't know how to deal with how hurt and I angry I am from his actions, never mind how to forgive him as well."}
{"id": "t3_266zp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my ex [18F] She completely flipped and broke up with me after I snooped on her profile. Was it really that bad?", "post": "Long story short she and I would always get in arguments over her guy friends because she would constantly hang out with them 1 on 1 late at night without inviting me or allowing me to meet them. Though we were in only a 2 month relationship I felt she still could have introduced them to me. But I was finally at the point of dumping her or just checking her messages to make sure she was honest. So I snooped on her Facebook for 2 minutes in the message tab. She completely flipped after I had lied to her about it, but she caught me redhanded through the history. She later tells me what I did was an 11/10 on a scale of badness. So reddit is she really overacting to this or did I do somethinghorrible by invading her privacy?  Or was she mad because she might have been hiding something?", "summary": "If your partner snooped on your Facebook. Is it worth the entire relationship being over?"}
{"id": "t3_2orkul", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going off-piste whilst skiing", "post": "So, I'm currently in Finland with my parents on a skiing trip - first time here, can't speak a single word of finnish, let alone understand when it's being spoken.\n\nThe resort where I'm skiing is pretty boring tbh, maybe 1/3 of slopes are actually open and the ones that are, take maybe 5-10 minutes to reach the bottom (if you're going slowly). As a result of a lack of things to do, I decide it would be great to go off-piste (against my parents, insurers and slope signage's advice).\n\nThe deep snow is not a problem for me, I can handle most conditions pretty well, **BUT** I often make the rookie error of 'leaping before you look', and found myself stopping just short of a small cliff. In most cases I probably would've tried to land on the snow below the cliffy part, but fallen trees gave me the middle branch and started laughing. So with a cliff on one side and fuck all on the other I try my best to turn around, and go the other way.\n\nThat went good, I got pointed in the direction I wanted to go and carried on my merry way. I got to a point where I could make it to one of the closed off runs, and nearly got there without any mishaps... *Nearly*\n\nI misjudged where the new cliff ended, and went arse over tit into the snow below, with my back stopping just short of one of those, evil fallen trees.\n\nNever in my life have I ever been so glad to be on a marked ski run.", "summary": "I got bored skiing, went off piste, got stuck and almost back flopped onto a tree, and prayed to all the gods to not kill me"}
{"id": "t3_37kuqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] is bad at social norms and hence bad at dating.", "post": "To be fair, the people around me aren't the best, there have been people who use to make fun of me ALOT when I was a kid and still do and it scarred me.  It pisses me off everytime they do it because they haven't changed.  The thing is that they are respected and everyone respect them.  When I don't respect them, everyone else gives me dirty looks etc.  Honestly, what can I do?  \n\nThen I don't fit the social norm because of my physical appearance, I have a basic clothes, phone, hairstyle and I am short.  I don't really see why anyone of this matters.  Although I actually know how to dress really well and I could at any time.  I plan to work out and I am clean.  Although I do admit that I watch porn, so that may add to not conforming to social norms.  But to be fair its not like any women wanted me anyways.   \n\nTo be honest, its the people that disrespect me/treat me is the real problem.  I don't get any real respect, where I am.  I am so disrespected that the teachers start to hate me.  I don't get why this keeps happening.  I mean I am NICE to everyone and try to help people whenever possible I DON't smell (I asked people)  just my clothes is bland.  Sometimes people treat me like crap by accident but, instead of owning up to it or making up for it they just continue to treat me like crap and expect that I won't get mad?", "summary": "Being disrespect, do I have to conform to social norms?"}
{"id": "t3_nz8hp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever seen or heard something so beautiful that it made you cry?", "post": "Today was the first day I ever heard something so beautiful it made me cry.  I was in my car on my way to Chicago listening to [The District Sleeps Alone Tonight by The Postal Service]    when the line \"You seem so out of context in this gaudy apartment complex\nA stranger with your door key explaining that I am just visiting\nAnd I am finally seeing \nWhy I was the one worth leaving\" made me shed a single tear.  I had heard the song before but I guess I had never really *listened* to it before.  I think it was a combination of the appreciation I have for the amazing lyricism and they way he sang it that got me all emotional.  It was really an amazing little experience and I hope to experience it again sometime.  So, Reddit, have you ever seen or heard something so beautiful that it made you cry?", "summary": "The Postal Service made me cry."}
{"id": "t3_31vsfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(23) and bf (20) together 1 year. In an abusive mentally and emotionally relationship. I want to leave, but not sure the best way.", "post": "In summary things have always been up and down and I've been in an abusive relationship before and by contrast this was much better. I didn't realize it until I showed my therapist this list of things he's done over the past year:\n\nBeing offended at the number of people I've slept with and making judgements of my character\n\nPicking on my hobbies on multiple occasions and telling me they are stupid\n\nCalling all girls in an organization I'm involved with untrustworthy and slutty.\n\nGetting mad I wouldn't have sex with him while his whole family was home \n\nDisplaying displeasure that I dye my hair and making mean comments when I would\n\nNot standing up to his friends jokes about me and joining in.\n\nPicking on my major.\n\nIgnoring me unless I message first\n\nRefuses to make plans and relies on me and if I don't gets mad we haven't hung out\n\nBlamed my sexual assault on me and made me promise it would never happen again or he'd break up with me. (I should have left after that)\n\nGetting jealous on my birthday that guys were offering me drinks even though he refused to socialize, leading to a fight where he yelled at me. (I should have ended it then too)\n\nLack of communication/affection even after gentle reminders\n\nYelling every time we fight\n\nraising his voice anytime I voice disagreement \n\nRarely admitting he's wrong unless I'm crying.\n\nI honestly didn't think it was abusive because I've been in worse. But now I know because my therapist told me and explained why it's not normal. She thinks the safest way would be to ignore him because a week where I was busy with school and didn't see him he wanted to break up with me. So that way it be on his terms and I can agree that it's for the best. Is there any other way to do this other than just ignore him? We both live on campus.", "summary": "in abusive relationship. Not sure how to leave and scared because of attachment issues I'm working on in therapy."}
{"id": "t3_3riris", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is it okay to move on? [21F]", "post": "My boyfriend  [22M] broke up with me at the beginning of the school year. So.. Three months-ish ago? It sucked,  especially since I had planned my semester heavy with classes,  thinking I would be able to escape/relax on weekends. Things ended amicably. He didn't feel the same way, wasn't in a point he could date. Again..  Seven months, it stung.  But I'd rather have a friend than an unhappy boyfriend. You know? \n\nWe hang out every once in a while,  once or twice a month for a few hours.  And game together a bit more often.  But,  obviously, it's not the same.  I'm lonely.  He was my first serious relationship,  and I miss that type of connection. Is it appropriate to start looking, using dating sites again? I don't think I have romantic feelings about him anymore and I can see the, now obvious, flaws we had. \n\nI'm just worried I'll start to compare the people I'm meeting to my ex.  I know it wouldn't be fair to them if I do that,  and I don't want to use someone as a rebound.  Would it be fair to my ex?  Should I mention something? Plus,  I have someone back home in my state who I know is interested [22?M], but I haven't talked to him verbally, just text,  for two years.  I don't feel a connection to him,  though he was a high school (mutual) crush. Maybe it'll chance when I go home for Christmas?", "summary": "broke up three months ago.  I'm lonely. Should I start looking again even though I have someone interested in me back home? Would it be a rebound relationship if I did start dating/looking for someone? Am I ready? "}
{"id": "t3_4rxdh1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my SO [26M]: found facebook photos (non-sexy) of exgirlfriends saved on his computer", "post": "I found a folder of around 8 pictures, all one of each of his gfs on his computer. They were totally not the sexiest ones. When I lurked them on FB, they definitely had \"better\" photos but he had saved all of it, one of each ex gf, straight from FB on one day. To be clear, they were not photos of when they were together etc. they were all basically old profile pics of the gfs. \n\nI spoke to my friends about this and they think this is extremely weird and I should bring it up. Do men generally do this? What about you?? I would like to get as many opinions as possible.", "summary": "Found non-sexy photos of ex girlfriends on my SO's computer--all downloaded from facebook. Is this creepy?"}
{"id": "t3_32t1ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long did it take you to get over your first boyfriend/girlfriend?", "post": "My boyfriend broke up with me before Christmas and I was literally TORN to pieces, and as much as I keep telling myself I'm over him, I'm not. He was my first boyfriend and maybe that's the reason I keep trying to stay in contact, but he wants nothing to do with me any more. And it breaks my heart.   \n\n We were best friends from 15 years old and then we went out for 2 years until I was 18, he was 19. Shit happens and he moved away and didn't want the bother of a long distance relationship. He wouldn't answer my phone calls, he didn't reply to my letters, he just didn't give a shit. So I thought going to his new city would fix everything. Spent money on flights and trains and we were reunited and it felt like normal again, I met his new friends and loved them all!! Had the most amazing few days and cried when I had to leave. He texted my mum to tell her he thought I was wonderful and that all his friends liked me a lot and that he missed me every day. Life was back on track.   \nThe weeks went by and things dragged again, the same stuff happened until one night, he texted me that he'd cheated on me and if that wasn't bad enough, he 'told his mum we weren't a thing anymore'. \n\nIt's now April and I can't stop thinking about him. I keep trying to stay in contact and he says we can be friends but he's being so dry when i talk to him, probably for my own good. I've kissed a few boys since and had cuddles with a long time 'crush' after a night out but nothing gives me even nearly the same feeling as seeing him even just smile does.\n\nHow much longer do I have to go of this?! And how can I speed up the process because by the looks of his social media he is definitely over me and has been for a long time. I hate that I must've been so much more emotionally invested than him for 2 whole years!!!", "summary": "boyfriend dumped me when he went to another country for university, I'm ripped to pieces and don't know how to get over him."}
{"id": "t3_37op73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25m) Inadvertently invited my cousin to move in. Girlfriend (25f) says I lied about it. What does reddit think?", "post": "So this may be long winded. I live in very remote a northern city with my partner of three and a half years. We moved here together for work 2 years ago and have been happy living here.\n\n We have always said we would be open to anyone from either of our families moving up here and we would help them out. Now this past week I jokingly ask my cousin if he needs a job because he is texting me incessantly while im at work (implying he should be at work too) . Then he starts asking me details about the work, which I can definitely get him and where he would stay etc.\n\nSo that night I tell my gf and she seems ok with it provided it doesn't interfere with her family visit coming up. We then talk with the cousin the next night and he makes it sound like I asked him to come and I already had it all planned out. Despite me telling him I would have to talk with my gf. \n\nNow she thinks I lied about how it came up and that I didn't consider her at all in making plans. Today my cousin quit his current job and is now committed to moving but I have to make everything good with my gf. Im not sure how to make her feel better without compromising my own integrity.", "summary": "cousin wants to move in for work, gf doesn't think I considered her in the (ongoing) planning"}
{"id": "t3_3ia9p6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20f) and the guy I've been seeing ( 28m) seem to have different ideas on dating. I'm not sure how to work with it.", "post": "So I met this new guy on okcupid. Been seeing him for a little over a month.  He's clearly quite a bit older than I and far more experienced than i. He says he wants something serious and to settle down, thing is, he has this very odd view on dating that I just can't sync up with. \n\nHere it is: He refuses to consider it a relationship until 3 months in, not so bad, BUT during that first three months, it's okay to see other people amd go on dates with other people and who knows what. He still considers this monogamy. \n\nThing is, I can't tell if I'm comfortable with that. I don't casually date. And because of that, I can't really get myself to want to meet anyone much otherwise. I mean he has caught my interest and I really like getting to know him. \n\nIs this just a dude trying to be a player? How do i tell him this whole ordeal makes me uncomfortable without seeming like I want this new guy to be my boyfriend? \n\nIt's really killing my self esteem. He's made comments about how he doesn't know about dating me because i'm too young and I'm \"not nerdy enough\" which I think is absolute bullshit and i have no idea what to do with it. \n\nAlso, I feel like after seeing someone for a month you at least decide if they have your attention by then, right?", "summary": "I'm not interested in being in a non- monogamy relationship, and I can't tell if the guy I'm seeing is just trying to get away with sleeping around and just seeing me as nothing with potential"}
{"id": "t3_43jo85", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Would this be a bold move?", "post": "I found out from one of my friends that a girl I know has a minor crush on me, she thinks I'm \"smart and cute.\" But to say I know her is a stretch, as I don't know much about her and we've barely talked. That being said, from what I've seen of her interactions with others, I've always thought that she could be an 'ideal' girlfriend. She has a lot of the characteristics I am looking for (an interest in music, computer programming, etc). Now, we're scheduled to meet at some point in the next week; I'm going to show her (one-on-one) some software since she expressed an interest in learning how it works. I don't feel like that is the right context to try any of the usual things and up until this point our texting has been strictly professional. Here is where my question begins, I found her OKCupid profile (according to their match things we're a solid 87%), would it be too bold to send her a 'fancy seeing a girl like you in a place like this'", "summary": "Is it too bold to message a girl you barely know through their OKCupid profile if you feel like texting has become 'boring?'*"}
{"id": "t3_1twdbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33 M] think I want to leave my wife [33F]. But, I'm pretty sure it's just a \"grass is always greener\" situation.", "post": "First off, let me say, there is not someone else in the picture.  I wouldn't be leaving my wife to be with another women.  At least, not anyone specific.  Really, the issue is, I don't want to be in a monogamous relationship anymore.  I feel like I've missed out on so much in life, and I want to have these fun, sexual adventures that I can't have with my wife.\n\nWe dated since we were both 19.  Before that, in high school, I didn't do much dating.  I didn't really come into my own until my 20s.  But, of course, I was in a   committed relationship.  I wasn't going out and meeting random girls.  I wasn't experimenting.  I wasn't fulfilling any sexual fantasies.\n\nIn fact, my wife and I both saved ourselves for marriage (religious reasons).  Now, I realize that was a mistake.  I feel like I missed out on my prime sexual years.  For crying out loud, I went to a huge party school in college.  Never took advantage of it.\n\nNow, all I can think about is all of the stuff I want to do.  All of the sexual adventures I want to have with a variety of women.  Not to be cocky, but I'm still good-looking enough that these fantasies could become reality...if I weren't in a relationship.\n\nThese thoughts are on my mind nearly every moment I am awake.  At night, I often dream about them.\n\nBut, another big part of me is afraid that it is a \"grass is always greener\" situation.  I'm afraid that if I do leave my wife, I'll soon discover that these sexual adventures are not all I thought they could be, and I will have thrown away a good relationship that I have invested so much in for years.\n\nTherapy isn't an option, since my wife has refused to go in the past.  An open relationship isn't an option because of her opposition to it.\n  \nI don't know what to do.", "summary": "should I leave my wife?  Or, are my fantasies just a case of \"grass is always greener\"?"}
{"id": "t3_1342tk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate invited a 17 y/o girl to live with us without my permission. They have very loud sex very frequently. What kind of trouble can this immature total bitch get me in?", "post": "Adding some details. I pay rent and bills and have a stable income while he relies on donating plasma and has been unemployed since he quit his job 2 weeks after we got the place. (6 months ago). She has permission from her parents to stay here. \n\nShe dropped out of school. She made a claim on fb that the reason she doesnt like me is because I tell her to give me naked pictures all the time. This is completely untrue.\n\nI live in michigan and my roommate and I are 24 years old. She is ridiculously immature and says \"meow\" instead of \"now\". As well as \"i likies\" in stead of \"i like\". Also wears lots of hello kitty clothing.", "summary": "What kind of hell is this bitch going to put me through? Legally, i mean."}
{"id": "t3_28ym5h", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is she [F20] a bad life choice for me [M21]?", "post": "Thanks for reading!\n\nBackground:\nI met this girl a few weeks ago and got her number, texted her etc.\nThen less than 2 days after she asks me out to coffee (still pretty much a stranger at this point and very forward of her, but ok) so I go to coffee with her.\nIt was a great date, things go well - I kiss her at the end. On this date she informs me she has chronic fatigue and fainting, I take this in my stride because she's a lovely person.\n\nThere's a week between this date and our next because of my exams. In the middle of this week she tells me she also has depression and anxiety. I've noticed the anxiety/neediness at this point from the non-stop texting from her, but again she's a lovely person so I proceed.\nDate 2 goes well.\n\nDate 3...not so well\n\nShe picks me up, roughly 40mins out of her way because I my car had issues and I would've been late otherwise. So we go to her friends place before dinner and she gets really chummy around them (all guys) and talking really slutty around them and I was really, really weirded out. The night was nothing amazing, but ok. I was just really put off by her comments earlier. \n\nCurrent standings:\nI broke it off with her, but I can't stop thinking about her. I want to keep dating her but at the same time my head keeps telling me she's lovely, but too many red flags.", "summary": "She's lovely, but maybe a bit crazy"}
{"id": "t3_1f1akr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF is looking at my email and FB. Should I confront him?", "post": "A few days ago I had to check my history on my computer to find a site I visited earlier. I noticed that my BF, who uses my laptop when I'm not home had been looking at my email. I usually leave my email and FB accounts logged in. He had looked in my email folders, sent messages, deleted messages and looked at my exes on FB. I really don't have anything to hide so I'm not worried. But I've been checking the history on my computer more often now and he's doing it almost daily.\nI want to confront him but I don't want to piss him off. I really don't have anything to hide anyway but it makes me feel terrible thinking he doesn't trust me.\nShould I bring it up or just hope he'll eventually figure out that I have nothing to hide?\nWe've been dating for about 6 months by the way. I'm 28, he's 27.", "summary": "BF is creepin my email and on my FB friends and exes."}
{"id": "t3_1s9i2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] got used a rebound. It's been 2 months and I still think about her[ 21f] every freaking day. Need some advice getting over her.", "post": "I met her at my work and I knew she she had a past relationship with this guy who she had a kid with. He broke up with her a little after they had the kid and she was depressed for a while.\n\n  Well she met me and at first, I never had any feelings for her and then night we were drinking together and one thing led to another we both ended up sleeping together. After that night she talked to me about how she had felt this happy since her ex broke up with her.\n\n I developed feelings for her. I just wanted to show her a good time to get over her ex and we saw each other for about another 2 months during which I also had to go to college. I don't know if it was the long distance or what but slowly she started to act different. And one day all of a sudden she stopped responding to my messages.\n\n I am sorry I am kind of buzzed while I am writing this(please dont judge).  I just need some good advice so I can get over her.  Please don't up vote this.", "summary": "I got used as rebound. "}
{"id": "t3_2wddf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and girlfriend [18 F] reached the lowest point regarding moving in together issues and don't know what to do.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. We met in a trip to Barcelona, she is East European and I am South American. We have been serious about me moving in there because that's the best option for us. My country has an absolutely bad economy, and it has gone utterly downhill since that trip to the point of not being able to travel anymore. The problem isn't residence permits, language barries, plane tics (I have been learning her language and I am very advanced now) or anything else, no, it's money. Filthy money. I have taken double shifts and I am working hard to save money, and I saved what would be considered a lot in my country, but it's not nearly enough to last a month in hers. My country has an exchange system and I l can't use debit cards outside of my country, I literally have to buy foreign money for a HUGE price, that's why the money isn't nearly enough. I did some maths with my salaries and I could only save enough in 4 years, implying the foreign money prices dont keep going up. I don't think I can hold that much without her company. My parents aren't supportive of this and yeah, we are on our own. I am worried about my sanity if this doesn't work. And yeah, I know you guys will say something like \"LDR's relationship never work\" but I just wanted to voice how I'm feeling.", "summary": "Me and GF are in a long distance relationship, I want to move there, the only issue is money due to shitty country exchange policies and I wouldn't save enough in at least 4 years even with two jobs (implying my country doesn't get shittier in that time). Desperate and don't know what to do. Tears in my face as I am about to click send."}
{"id": "t3_3gjp2n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my dad I thought I had a bladder infection", "post": "I was hanging out with my girlfriend today, and we were cuddling, making out, the works. About an hour before she went home the area around my bladder started to feel sore, and my balls seemed really tender. In my head this matched up with symptoms of bladder infection somehow, so I decided I'd wait for my girlfriend to go home, and then I'd ask my dad about it and if I needed treatment. Well the soreness kept getting worse up to the point when she left. Now that she was gone, I went up to my dad and confidently said \"I think I have a bladder infection or something\". To which he responded (giving me the weirdest look) \"Guys don't really get those...\" He kind of trailed off, but then suddenly with a disgusted look on his face he said \" Oh please tell me you don't have blue balls!\" At that moment it all made sense, and I had pretty much just inadvertantly confessed to my dad that I did in fact, have blue balls. It's been pretty awkward since.", "summary": "I inadvertently told my dad I had blue balls."}
{"id": "t3_kq8t4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do i bought PC? (in the UK)", "post": "(first time poster here, be gentle)\nI have no experience with buying computer by components, and have no idea on how to judge what is good and what is bad, and is made even more foreboding when considering I have to orchestrate all these decisions... \nAll I've been given is that constructing your own computer from components is the most cost efficient.\n\nI'm looking to build a mid(ish) range gaming rig, with my budget of \u00a3500-550 (about $800). I don't need to buy a monitor, speakers, mouse keyboard etc.\n\nIs my best bet just following [the falcon guide] to the letter along the \"Excellent\" bar? and manually price check around aria, scan and ebuyer?\n\nor is the falcon guide a load of bollax?\nor can someone come up with something better for a similar price?\n\nI've always felt to self-conscious to admit my ignorance to this vital matter. and I feel I'm not the only one with this problem, so general advice about computer component buying and comparing is most welcome ^^", "summary": "can reddit help me (a hardware ret) with buying a new midrange gaming pc for \u00a3500?"}
{"id": "t3_4rr48g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "38/m only had one long-term relationship, should I just marry her?", "post": "I've been dating a woman off and on for about 10 years.  I met her from work.  \n\nI've also gone out with about 100 women off the internet.  None of them wanted to go out more than twice.  \n\nI'm awkward and not sociable and women are absolutely not into this.  I didn't start dating until I was 27.  \n\nThis woman I met from work is nice, we get along, she's reasonably attractive, but I'm just not that into her.  That's why I tried to end the relationship eight years ago.  \n\nI moved 200 miles away about a year ago.  I thought that would be it with her but she's invited herself over a few times.  She obviously likes me.\n\nI like spending time with her but something just seems to be missing.  Don't have a strong connection.  \n\nOn the other hand, I say this realistically, not out of pity, no other woman is interested in having a relationship with me and I'm not getting any younger.  I think that I've given myself enough time to find somebody else and nobody is interested.\n   \nI'm not necessarily looking to marry her.  That's a bit old-fashioned, I guess.  But I was considering asking her to move in with me.  \n\nI see it as a choice between her or a lifetime of solitude.  She's also increasingly mentioned having children.  Just dropping hints.  She's about five years younger than me.\n\nDoes this seem like a bad idea?  Nobody finds somebody perfect for them.  Indeed, you see terrible people in relationships.  And I think that I've really tried to find somebody and such a person just doesn't exist.", "summary": "Should I marry the only woman who will ever want to marry me?"}
{"id": "t3_358fn0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(33/f) My boyfriend (44/m)'s ex-wife has asked that we don't kiss in front of their young kids.", "post": "My partner and I have been together 15 months. He has his daughters (4 & 7) every weekend and I have been a part of these visits for a year now. The relationship with the ex-wife has been pretty darn good. She's supportive of the whole family being able to do things together so I have been invited to family birthdays and even thanksgiving dinner. She's always been polite to me and clearly has her kids' best interest in mind. The kids have been accepting of me in my role in their lives too and we get along well. When BF and I kiss (just a peck on the lips) in front of them, they squeal and laugh and say \"groooossss\". We're not making out or anything, but it's become pretty funny to try to kiss in front of them a bunch of times while we have them for the weekend. BF and I have discussed the importance of the girls having a good example of a healthy loving relationship in their lives. Apparently there was no physical affection and lots of fighting before the divorce. We think there is nothing shameful about displaying affection, especially in front of family. Recently the ex approached BF and said that the girls have been complaining to her and to their grandparents that we have been kissing too much in front of them and it's bothering them (because they think its groooosssss). And now apparently her parents seem to also think its a problem. She said \"I'm not bringing this up because I'm jealous, but maybe you should consider keeping your affection more private\".  We're about to move in together, and we talk about the 4 of us as being \"family\" already,  and I am not about to curtail my expressions of my feelings every weekend. I want the girls to see kissing as a normal thing that people who love each other do. But they're also not my kids and I want to respect her wishes for the most part. I think this is a totally ridiculous request, am I off base?", "summary": "should ex-wife have a say in how much physical affection we show in front of their kids?"}
{"id": "t3_40a4sd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] am struggling with having a crush on my coworker [17m]", "post": "So, I have a major crush on this kid that I have been working with for maybe three months now, for pretty much all the normal reasons that people get crushes.  But it's wrong, for more reasons than one.  \n\nFirst off, he's underage. it's not that big of a deal legally and whatnot, because of romeo and juliet laws and such, but he's still in highschool.  I didn't even want to waste time on highschoolers when I was in highschool. Two, he's a total stoner, and right now, I just need someone who has their life together.  I don't understand why these two reasons alone aren't major turn offs for me right now?  But these aren't even the main issue. \n\nThe biggest problem is that I have a boyfriend  [20m] of nearly two years, whom I really, *really* love. I would never do anything to hurt him or betray his trust.  I totally understand that dumb crushes happen while in a relationship, it's just human nature, whatever.  The real heart of the issue is this - my boyfriend and I are in a sexual rut right now. We're never in the mood at the same time, and we aren't really digging the stuff we normally do to turn each other on.  We are working on figuring this out. however, in the meantime I am so sexually attracted to this kid I work with that it's causing intense guilt. I've honestly caught myself fantasizing once and I just...it feels terrible. I don't know what else to say. In another situation, I would avoid the person. But with him being my coworker, it's pretty impossible to do that.", "summary": "I have feelings for a coworker that I really shouldn't be having. Other than the (for now) impossible option of avoiding him, how do I get rid of this crush so I'm able to work on fixing what I know i really care about."}
{"id": "t3_ruu2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "re: Charismatic Guy and the sorry state of Reddit in general. What do you people find appealing about \"meme culture?\"", "post": "Reddit has the potential to be a highly organized wealth of information and discussion. A few short years ago, it was. I love humor, jokes, comedy, etc. don't get me wrong. But what the FUCK are you guys doing? What do you find appealing about reposting some guy's face thousands of times? What is funny about it? You're breaking down communication into bits that are so small and so stupid, that the way you're going, you soon won't have anything original to say. Advice animals are stupid. Rage comics are stupid. It's all incredibly stupid and lazy. Think about it. While this community is freakin' huge now, is there any way we can fix this problem before it gets worse? Please, be funny. If you want to tell a story about a funny thing that happened to you, or an observation you made, it doesn't have to be expressed through established symbols and bits that are becoming more and more meaningless. Back to charisma guy. I suspect that people don't really derive satisfaction from photoshopping dude's head into situations. The satisfaction comes from meaningless karma doled out from bandwagoning groupthinkers. This is bad. Create content that's good, and doesn't fit this terrible mold.", "summary": "Fuck you. You are also the problem."}
{"id": "t3_3epclq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (23f) is bisexual. For some reason I (23m) cannot deal with it and I don't know what to do. I have nothing against gay people at all but for some reason her being bi endlessly bothers me", "post": "I don't even know how to explain it. Gay people are cool, no problems with them, I'm glad they can all marry now. But, my girlfriend is bisexual and for months now it's just been bothering me. She has girls nights sometimes with her friends and they're all lesbian and it's scary but she promises me nothing happens. Thinking of her kissing or having sex with another girl bothers me for some reason, but, like I said, gay people are cool and I don't have any issues with them other than her. I'll answer any questions anyone has about me or my relationship. I just need help of some kind like how to deal with it", "summary": "For some reason it endlessly bothers me that my girlfriend is bisexual and I need help in accepting that she loves me like she says and our relationship has nothing to do with it."}
{"id": "t3_295iet", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Feeling like I have wobbly knees?", "post": "Hey guys, I'm not a pro runner, but I wouldn't say I'm a beginner either. I've been running on and off for a couple years, more seriously though lately...I've had my fair share of shin splints and other aches but lately I've been dealing with a different pain, not quite sure what it is, wondering if you guys could help\n\nAfter using this dumbass calf machine at my gym (totally must've used it wrong or something) my legs were really sore all the way up to my knees, my leg knee in particular. As the soreness faded I started to run again in which I realized the pain in my knee was still there. On my left knee it began to feel as if there was like a hole? at the bottom of the cap and while running it makes it feel as if my knee won't be able to support my lower leg to land in place. \n\nThe only thing I can think of is that I messed up my meniscus, but my knee isn't swollen, I can walk and work out completely fine. I gave it about a week of rest from all exercise and went on my first run today. I felt completely fine for 2.75 miles and around there slowly started to feel that wobblyness come back so I just stopped running there and walked. \n\nAnyone have any ideas? I know, I really know I need to see a doctor, but are there any tips or ideas with what's going on?", "summary": "feels like theres a hole on the lower edge of my knee cap/ lack of support in my lower leg causing achey knees?"}
{"id": "t3_eb1gb", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What is the most intimate thing you have done with your best friend/s?", "post": "After posting in a comment the most intimate/strange thing I have done with my best friends. I was wondering if some of the community would share some of their most intimate/strange/weird exeperiences they have shared with their closest friends.\n\nMine was this, I was up in Silverthorne, CO, with my best friends. We were staying there and skiing at Keystone. We had been drinking and flirting with some underage girls (some what unknowingly, we were only 20 and they were 17 they seemed older until they told us their age). Anyways afterwards I needed to take a shit. I went to the bathroom. I had a duce half way out and all of sudden my two best friends barge in with three shots. It was one of the weirdest, but most bonding experiences I have had. We proceeded to take the shots very quickly, and then they left. I finished up my business, and re-joined them as if nothing weird had happened.\n\nOne of the oddest but most bonding experiences I have had to this day.", "summary": "I took a shot on the shitter with my best friends."}
{"id": "t3_1aktkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21M] girlfriend[20F] won't stop talking about previous sexual encounters", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. I'm a little hung up about her past. She has slept with 13 other guys and that is a bit overwhelming for me. I lurk in this subreddit a lot, and I've seen all the posts that deal with this issue. I know that this is my problem and not hers. I try my hardest not to let it effect our relationship, and I've done a really good job so far, but its getting really hard to do when she brings up her past sex experiences.\n\nI have told her on 3 different occasions that I'd prefer not to know those things. I express this each time she mentions something. Last night she told me a story about a time she had anal sex with another guy and that she didn't enjoy it. I got a little mad that she brought it up. She apologized, and i said that its okay. I'm still pretty pissed though.\n\nWe have never had a real discussion on my feelings about her past. Its hard for me to explain why these things bother me. I guess I feel jealous that she has tried stuff with other guys that she won't try with me. I know I'm not the best shes ever had. I know she has done way kinkier stuff with other guys. I know I'm not the cutest or the biggest guy shes been with. I feel like I'm just number 14. It just hurts. She has even admitted that I'm not her best lover. It was my fault for asking though. It kills my ego. I have been with a few other people too but she has had a much more colorful sex life than me. I know its not logical to think this way but its hard to beat out this gut feeling.\n\nI don't know what to do. She can't seem to stop talking about her past sex life. I know i need to have a larger discussion with her about this but I don't know how to bring it up or what to say.", "summary": "My[21M] girlfriend[20F] won't stop talking about her past sexual encounters. I'm just looking for advice or comments from people who have been in the same boat."}
{"id": "t3_3jiypr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hitting a car", "post": "DISCLAMER : OP main language is french!\n\nThis happened a couple years ago (omg 20 years).\n\nI was working for a landscaping company in Quebec, Canada. I was 17 and I did not have my full driver's license, I could only drive while someone with a valid license was with me. My boss knew that and he was always putting me on driver's shift.\n\nI was driving a F350 with a fuelling tank in the back for the machinery and it was very big, block my rear window. I arrived at an intersection where the road I wanted to go, at my left was blocked, so I decided to go right, but\u2026 instead of just going right, I look at the back of the truck with the rear view mirror, hit reverse to replace myself in the right lane. BAM! Hit a car, an old car (in the 70's), really clean and shiny with the old driver really angry. We tried to separate the two cars but the towing ball was really stuck. So I tried to jump in the back of the truck making a lot of noise and destroying a bit more his car, while my coworker pushed the old man's car. We decided that we should at least pull the cars in in the parking lot just at our right to exchange assurance information and all.\n\nAs soon as I was in the truck, I explain the situation with my coworker and asked him to get his driver's license too, but he did not have a driver's license. I called my boss, he was 20 minutes away and knew that fact. I decided to play dumb with the old man to gain some time while my boss arrived. \n\nFinally I was not able to delay that part, I did gave him my license for him to fill the papers (the apprentice license was paper only, no photo, while the regular license have the conductor's photo, plastic and all).\n\nMy boss arrived, talk to the guy, and ask me to just leave and go work, the guy gave my license back and I leaved.\n\nJust as I exit the parking lot, I saw a big sign on the building \"POLICE STATION\".", "summary": "OP drive like shit, the car behind him was too small and too close to see. Boss FU by letting a stupid kid illegally driving his truck while he hit a car in front of a police station. Fortunately for both, in 30 minutes, no policeman show up."}
{"id": "t3_4u9afj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my BF [39 M] 2 and half years, I want to leave my partner - I am having severe anxiety on the thought of him being happy with someone else", "post": "I realized that my partner and I of two years are just not compatiable long term. I am vry much still in love with him. We just have different values that I am willing to compromise but he isn't. \n\nHe isn't a bad partner overall (he suffers from a mild form of bi-polar which has been hard sometimes) which means I know he will have no problem finding someone else (and based on his previous relationships he basically finds someone else pretty fast after they end - he is definitely a serial monogamous)\n\nIt is going to be the hardest thing I will have to do (my last previous two serious relationships we both ended really nicely - the love wasn't there anymore - easy to walk away)\n\nAnd so knowing this and that I will most likely have to face the fact that he has found a new girlfriend within weeks of us splitting up I am getting very very anxious. It will so hard because I am still in love with him. I feel sick just thinking about him being happy with someone else.\n\nAny advice? Stories to compare? Anything will help. I don't want to stay in the relationship basically because I don't want him to be with anyone else. It would be silly and bad for me long term plus plain just selfish of me.\n\nI will also add - he is very confident and has a lot friends/female friends who are just waiting for him to be single. I on the other hand, introverted, quiet. Socially awkward. I try but I suck at it sometimes. Thank-you for reading", "summary": "Very scared about my partner being with someone else when we break up. Has a history of jumping from relationship to relationship and I am worried I will just stay with him out of fear of not finding someone else that is more suited to me."}
{"id": "t3_196bnn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing my favourite jeans when I went bowling", "post": "I was meeting a bunch of my boyfriend's friends for the first time, and bowling was the activity decided upon. I wore my favourite jeans that I've had for years. We show up to the bowling lanes, and it happens to be glow in the dark night. There's black lights everywhere. I didn't think anything of it, until I looked down. Years of wiping my hands on my thighs was now glowing in the lights, which wasn't visible before. It looked like my boyfriend came about 7 times on my jeans. Mortified, I finished up my game, all while pathetically trying to cover the giant glowing stains. After it finished we left very quickly.", "summary": "My jeans gave a glowing first impression."}
{"id": "t3_1fsmfv", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Get your pet's microchip checked periodically", "post": "I asked the vet about updating my cats' microchip information at their checkup a couple days ago (it's a long story, but I'm locked out of the account online). Anyway, she scanned cat #1: no reading. Tried cat #2: no reading. She went and got a different scanner (apparently there was a competing technology a few years back), but still no reading on either cat, on any part of their bodies. I have no idea what happened. Both cats were chipped about four years ago, but this is the first time I've ever had them scanned, so I don't know if the damn things ever worked, or were actually ever implanted (I was not present during the procedure). Needless to say, they got new chips right then and there!", "summary": "Ask your vet to check your pet's microchip from time to time to ensure it is working properly."}
{"id": "t3_1k64rw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30M) am having second thoughts about my GF (27F) of 1.5 years because my desire for children has diminished.", "post": "I've been dating my GF for 1.5 years. It's been amazing. She moved in with me 2 months ago after 13 months of living an hour apart and although we initially fought a lot, we're starting to get the hang of sharing the same space. \n\nShe gets worried about things easily and always thinks about the worst case scenario. I'm working a great job right now as a pharmacist. She is finishing her last year of a Doctorate in Psychology and probably has 3 years before actually starting her career. She would prefer not to have kids until that point, but I absolutely DO NOT want kids until she has finished. It's very important to me that she has a career.\n\nShe is not on birth control so I use condoms. She always wants to have sex without them (so do I), but I insist. I feel like she interprets this as I don't want kids ever. When we met I was a 1-2 kids guy and she was a 2-5 kids girl. However, now I'm completely open to not having kids and am really soul searching about whether or not I want them or not.\n\nI enjoy the life I currently live and don't know if I want that to change. I love my GF, but I want her all to myself. I want to be able to have fun and be spontaneous. She loves to travel and so do I. Most of my buddies have kids and I never get to hangout with them any more. It just seems like so much work that I'm not interested in.\n\nI have no idea how/when to talk to her about this and know it will break her heart. She's an independent woman who knows what she wants. We've worked hard to keep this relationship together, but I worry that this would be a dividing point between us.\n\nThanks for any input.", "summary": "Love my GF, may be changing my mind on whether I want kids, don't know how/when to broach the subject."}
{"id": "t3_2sdgww", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Will applying for numerous credit cards in a short period of time hurt me if I have no credit history?", "post": "Hi, I have no credit history and I want to start earning credit so I plan on applying for some credit card companies. However I'm not sure if it's wise to apply for numerous credit card companies in a short amount of time or wait a few months before applying for a new company. I've heard that it could be damaging to your history if you apply for many cards in a short amount of time. Since I have no history at all, would this hurt me chances at getting a card or have no impact at my chances and history?", "summary": "Will applying for numerous credit cards in a short period of time hurt me if I have no credit history?"}
{"id": "t3_3h7oe3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35/F] with my __BF_ [38/M] of 7 months, I lied and it's hurting him.", "post": "First please forgive me for my poor grammar and spelling. English is my second language. So he and I met online after weeks of talking. We have been together now for 7 months. He is everything that I have ever wanted and more.  He asked me to be his girlfriend and that's when I confessed to him that I have been lying to him about not having any kids. I can't explain the reasons for my lied. I know he would have been ok with it because he has a son. \n\nEver since then we have been struggling with either moving forward or to end it. He cannot forgive the fact that I lied and have been trying very hard to let it go, while he seen happy to see me and spending time with me, I know at the end of the day he just can't love me the same anymore. \n\nI am having such a hard time right now because I am falling in love with him but I know our beautiful relationship has been tainted by lies and my own insecurity.", "summary": "I lied about not having any kids/time to break up?"}
{"id": "t3_395xux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Started \"talking\" with a girl, but after some time has passed in not sure if she is still interested in me. Please help!", "post": "Trying one more time I already posted on relationship_advice, but I got no responses. :/ Hopefully everyone over here is a little more helpful.\n\nI [21/M] started a relationship with a girl (21/F) at my college. We had our \"talk\" where we discussed our feelings for one another, which lucky was mutual, but we decided isn't wasn't a good idea to start dating because we would have to be apart for 3 months during the summer.\n\nFast forward a month now and thing have gone downhill. We used to have lengthy meaningful conversations now we hardly ever talk and when we do its only for short amounts of time. This is probably partly my fault, because I'm questioning if she is still interested in me.\n\nWhat I was wanting help with is finding a way to tell if she is still interested in me. I was also thinking about just asking her if she wants to keep talking with me or something like that, but I'm not sure if that's a wise thing to do. If you could help me with either of those things or if you have any advice on getting through the summer with a relatively new relationship I would really appreciate the help.", "summary": "I need help figuring out whether a girl that I had been getting close to is still interested in me."}
{"id": "t3_3houy7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Need to verify if a housing law in Portland, OR is correct or has been turned into a \"law\" when it's really a guideline.", "post": "So I'm on Facebook asking if there's a place to rent in the Portland, OR housing classifieds.  We have a few kids, enough that people think that you cannot put more than 2 kids per room for, say, a two bedroom house.  There seems to be a section in the housing code that they should follow the \"2+1\" rule for renting.  However, when reading the code, this seems to be even more of a guideline than a rule, and is even mentioned as such by the mayor in a PDF I found dated a few years ago.\n\nWith housing so tight and people failing to find housing for one reason or another (and I plan to move my family up in a couple of months.  I work in Portland right now), it would be nice to be able to come at this problem to show landlords that this isn't a law but a guideline, and should be treated as such.", "summary": "Trying to show that the \"2+1\" \"law\" for renting in Portland, OR is a guideline and not law."}
{"id": "t3_3tlgya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] want to date my neighbor [21 F], how should I go about making a move?", "post": "I have lived in the same house for about 7 years with my parents and my neighbors have lived next to us for about the same amount of time. I always said hi to them outside but never really talked to them much. It wasn't until a few weeks ago that they threw a party and invited me that I got to know their daughter.\n\nWe started talking and hit it off almost immediately, and I invited her out to a party on that same night on the spot and she accepted. We left right away and enjoyed the party, but it was a friendly vibe, no advances from either of us. We had a lot of fun so I made plans to see her again the week after and she accepted. \n\nWe went bar hopping and met up with some of my friends at the bar and we danced a little and had fun. Her body language was kinda not all there so I didn't make much of an attempt to keep pulling her to dance or anything. On the way back home the conversation never stopped and we talked for the whole ride home.\n\nI invited her out again this week and she accepted, this time will most likely be just the two of us. This is gonna be our third time hanging out and I feel like I should pull a move before I friendzone myself by being too much of a pussy. I am a little scared because we're neighbors and if she rejected me I'll have to keep seeing her occasionally. I kinda don't want to lose her because I've liked hanging out with her and she's super fun, but I don't wanna lose my chance because I find her very attractive. How should I go about pulling my move? Should I pull a move at all?", "summary": "I like my neighbor and want to pull a move, but I am scared to make things awkward. How should I go about making my move?"}
{"id": "t3_2rrgom", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Using untouched childhood \"investment\" account funds for other purposes. Is this a terrible plan?", "post": "Let me preface this by stating that I know virtually nothing about investing/the stock market, and I have unfortunately not been faced with \"real life\" yet, therefore I am not too great with money management--but I'm trying.\n\nI am a recent college graduate (graduated with zero student debt) who is currently unemployed. I have an unpaid internship lined up with very good prospects that it will turn into a paid position after I complete it, and am actively searching for other part-time work to supplement income in the mean time. I am currently living off of a monthly allowance that my parents send me until I secure a job (covers rent and utilities, but barely any left over). I have about ~$800 in credit card debt due to me being financially stupid.\n\nRecently I remembered that as a child my parents set aside about 2k in (I think) a Charles Schwab account for me to \"invest,\" but really didn't offer much guidance and it's never actively been invested. I know it existed in my name, but the last time I spoke to my parents about it I was probably ~15 years old (my dad gave me some papers about it, but I don't know where they are).\n\nAnyways, my goal this year is to become fully self-sufficient and pay off my credit card debt in full, as well as building savings and being overall more financially intelligent. \n\nMy question is, should I seek out this 2k and use it to pay off my credit debt? I considered withdrawing it all (I've inquired to my dad regarding getting more information about it), paying off my debt, taking care of some car repairs I've been putting off, and then starting a savings/emergency fund. Is this a good idea?", "summary": "I have some money, which has been untouched since childhood, in an investment account. Should I find and withdraw it to pay off some debt and build savings?"}
{"id": "t3_4tk6ed", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [31M] 2 months, he wants me to dress more \"maturely\"", "post": "I'm 23, graduated college and have been working full time ever since. Despite my age, a lot of people tell me that I look like a high schooler. I guess it doesn't help that I'm petite and 5'2\". In terms of dress, if I had to describe it, I guess it would be a mix of H&M and Urban Outfitters.\n\nMy boyfriend is 31 and he looks it. His style is more Uniqlo and Banana Republic. I don't have a problem with anything about him or us, but our age difference seems to bother him a lot, especially since I look so much younger.\n\nLast week we went to a beach concert and he said some of his friends might meet up with us. I had my hair up in two buns (think Baby Spice) and wore a loose top and maxi skirt. In the end, we didn't end up meeting most of his friends because it was so crowded and couldn't find them.\n\nTonight he mentioned how he wasn't digging my hair last week, nor my outfit, and he said that I looked \"so young.\" He mentioned that he was a bit hesitant for me to meet his friends because of all of this. He said he is afraid of what they might think of him dating someone so much younger than him, that they will judge him negatively. He asked me to \"doll up\" more whenever we do something with his friends and dress more \"maturely\" (not his exact word, but that's the best I can think of).\n\nI told him I would see what I could do, but I'm just not sure what to make of this. Of course I want to make a good impression on his friends, but I also feel like the way he wants me to dress isn't my style, and I don't want to feel like I'm not being \"me.\"\n\nIs there any way to compromise? What would you do/how would you react?", "summary": "I look younger than I am, my boyfriend looks 31. He wants me to dress up more whenever I we spend time with him and his friends because he thinks that our obvious age difference appearance will cause judgement."}
{"id": "t3_3beul0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Final Update)How difficult is a relationship supposed to be? It's almost like my GF is trying to make me feel bad. [24m 21f 1 year dating]", "post": "Previous:\n\nWell, I broke it off. \n\nI haven't slept in the past few days since the breakup and I keep questioning my decision, but in the end, she really wasn't committed to changing. She again said a really nasty hurtful comment to me, I rationalized it away, and then realized a few days later that nothing was going to change while I was in her life.\n\nThis is the first real time I've dumped someone, and it hurts like hell, but standing up for myself really, *really* felt good. My backbone just got a lot stronger, and to quote a friend, \"I've learned how to stand up for myself to people that I love.\" It's a valuable lesson that I needed to learn.\n\nWe're going no contact for a month or two (she wants time to grow as a person and I need space to heal), and then we are going to re-evaluate things. I hope that she has a dramatic change (for me and for her sake), but to be honest, I am really just trying to move on.\n\nAs for me, well, I'm off to Japan.", "summary": "it's over."}
{"id": "t3_2s3lyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] need some help meeting some new people after my breakup from [22M].", "post": "I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I'm having a difficult time, not because of being single per say, but because my two best friends go to college 2 hours away, and most of my other friends are better friends with my ex so they are kind of tipping me out.\n\nI've done grindr and tinder, and none of them have really led anywhere. I don't like to have sex with random people, I'd rather just get drunk or make out or whatever. \n\nNow that I'm back in school, what would you guys suggest for finding new friends, and maybe on down the road, a new boyfriend? Any advice?", "summary": "been single for 4 months in junior year of college. Need help finding new friends and maybe a new boyfriend down the road."}
{"id": "t3_286hsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20F) girlfriend and I (20m) split up 2 months ago. Saw her by chance today and she wants to hang out before she moves.", "post": "I'll keep this short as possible, anyways, I went to a restaurant tonight with my brother and when we got inside I saw my ex sitting at a table, to try and make it as less awkward as possible, I asked to be seated on there other side, so I wouldn't have to be \"around\" her.\n\nI order my food and step outside for a cigarette and as soon as I do that, she comes outside to talk to me. We chat for a little and she explains that she didn't want things to be weird and that she thought the reason o switched tables was because she assumed I hated her, which isn't true. So we talk for a little and she then tells me That's she is moving soon because mom got a new job. She then says that she would like to hang out one last time before she leaves. I am uneasy about this, so my question is, should I do it or not?", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, we saw each other and she wants to hang out. Don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_wlgi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a conundrum, I am a bi male, 24 years old and I want to have sex with the boyfriend of my girlfriends sister.", "post": "My girlfriend knows I am bi. She is happy with me the way I am. My problem is her sisters boyfriend. Everyone thinks he is gay, I think he is just bi. I mean he has been with a girl for over two years now and they do have sex. We never hang out unless our girlfriends are with us, but when we do its like we can't stop ogling each other. I am more attracted to girls, but I have had sex with a guy before. I never thought a guy looked \"cute\" before I met him. He is what I would look for if I was looking for a relationship with a guy. I am pretty sure he see's something in me as well, but I don't know. Now I told my girlfriend this, I tell her everything. She says she would be fine if I got it out of my system and had sex with him. She said hr sister would be hurt but would get over it as this would be a one time thing. Or he may even leave her since that is the rumor going around now that they aren't going to last much longer anyways. So I have him coming over to my house while my wife goes to a tastefully simple party at her sisters. This is my only chance to do anything with him, so I need advice. How can I tell if he is into me? I mean I don't even know if he knows I am bi, I don't know what my girlfriend has told her sister. Should I lay everything down on the table and admit I am bi, I have an urge to take his clothes off?", "summary": "I need help finding out if the boyfriend of my girlfriends sister is into me and willing to do anything sexual. All the signs say he is bi and he shows signs of interest already. Once I get him alone, I don't know how to approach him with an offer and I need help/suggestions. My girlfriend says go for it, she will still love me."}
{"id": "t3_4rbai7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Cancer diagnosis", "post": "One week ago I was diagnosed with colon cancer.  Again.  I had it 14 years ago.  14 years!  I was supposed to be safe.  Now I have to face surgery.  And chemo.  Again.  I am so scared.  I'm scared of the surgery, and the recovery pain, even though it makes me sound like a wimp.  I know the pain I am in right now will be over.  It doesn't seem to matter. I'm scared that  I have to have a colostomy this time.  How will I ever adjust to that?  I'll never be able to let my husband see me naked again.  He says he loves me no matter what. I'm scared of the chemo.  I remember too clearly what that was like.  I'm scared people will not understand how scared I am.  I'm scared of dying.", "summary": "cancer diagnosis brings paralyzing fear."}
{"id": "t3_4me31c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [25m] had a startling dream last night about my wife [24f] and her best friend [25f]", "post": "Last night I had a dream just hanging out with my wife and her best friend like we used to.\n\n I haven't had any contact with her friend in about two months because my wife hot jealous that I took interest as to what was going on in her friends life more so than she did. Thinking it meant I was into her, now I had never thought of let's call her Erika in any way other than a friend. So I just stopped talking to her and don't every bring her up or go hang out with them my relationship with my wife is far more valuable than that.\n\nLast night in this dream we were just hanging out as normal, and then it got weird. My wife hot up randomly to take a shower, and all of a sudden I am all over her friend. I was actively trying to stop In my head I did not want this happening. I couldn't control my body. I will leave out the details but in short I went down on my wife's best friend and that's when I woke up, terrified that had actually happened... \n\nIt was just a dream but now I'm all confused and turned around inside. I do not like that I had this dream.", "summary": "had a sexual dream about my wife's best friend that I've never seen in that way. Confused now."}
{"id": "t3_2vgm27", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my brother [26 M] Her (24F) life duration, I just found out that my wife's friend that he had a one night stand with is pregnant with his kid.", "post": "Well, about 2 months ago now around dec 17-20th. My wife and I threw a party at our house and my brother ended up sleeping with her friend. This is the first time this woman has had sex in nearly 8+ months and we kinda helped her out a bit.(she wanted to, but with out drinks would never ask)Well today she told my wife that she thinks she pregnant and that she has now met a guy that she has been having sex with for 3 or 4 weeks. She thinks it's this guys kid. My wife told her that it couldn't be his because she would be feeling pregnant already. They(wife and her) are going Thursday to confirm her suppositions. If she is, she dose not want to tell my brother and just let this guy she's been seeing think it's his.", "summary": "brother had a one night stand and she's not going to tell him it's his."}
{"id": "t3_1cwtfj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(23F) (22M) I feel numb in my long distance relationship and taken advantage of.", "post": "My long distance relationship of 3 years is making me feel numb. We usually see each other every 2 weeks. We're both students, and in the home stretch of finals. I've been done mine for a while, so I've had time to dwell on my thoughts while he has been studying. We've been dating for over 3 years now. I haven't seen him in a while, due to our long distance relationship. Lately I've been feeling taken advantage of and taken for granted when we do see each other. \n\nEmotionally I am checked out of the relationship and feeling numb. I tend to do this a bit when it's over 3 weeks of not seeing him, but it won't go away. Sexually I feel neglected, a little used and uncomfortable at the thought of being with him. He is increasingly selfish, to the point where the thought of sex makes me feel used and unappreciated. I've told him about it, and how I feel, he agrees it is unacceptable, but nothing has actually changed. \n\nMy question is this: Are these feelings due to the stress of exams, the LDR finally taking its toll, or are we nearing our end due to his failure to respond to my needs?", "summary": "LDR student and I feel sexually taken advantage of and emotionally numb after exams."}
{"id": "t3_3hva33", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Winter Clothes for a Chihuahua", "post": "Hi everyone. So I know its August and it seems like I'm jumping the gun, but I'm in a place where it has been known to snow in early September so I'm trying to prepare. I need help finding high quality winter gear for my chi, especially booties. This winter I am taking her up with me to a cabin when I go skiing. I want to make sure that she will be comfortable when she has to go potty as I've tried indoor potty patches and the like and she simply will not use them. While her booties and clothes will mostly be used for going potty, she does like to play in the snow so I'd like her to be able to prance at least once or twice before coming back in.  Does anyone have suggestions as to which brands would be good for a small dog. Most things I've found tend to be for larger dogs.", "summary": "Need suggestions for good winter gear for a toy breed."}
{"id": "t3_37ure5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] may be developing feelings for my dead friend's girlfriend [22 F]", "post": "I'm in university and last term I made friends with a Japanese exchange student [21 M]. We kicked it off well and he introduced me to his girlfriend A [22 F, same as title], a girl he had gotten to know on exchange here. Things were going well and I was supposed to visit him in Japan in early May. A wasn't going back to Japan until today. My friend told me to take her out to see more things while she still had time in my country.\n\nHowever, A texted me early this month to tell me that he had gotten into an accident and passed away. I immediately spoke to her and took her out to make sure she was okay. On the whole she had begun to make plans for the future, as painful as that might have been for her. \n\nMy concern for A has escalated into a daily pining for her; a sort of need to speak to her and know that she's getting better. \n\nWhat's tricky is that I'm going on exchange to Japan soon and she will most likely be my go-to friend for any help. I'm afraid the proximity to her may strengthen any feelings I may have.\n\nI have a girlfriend [19 F] whom I've been together for a year, who only knows vaguely that I am friends with A and that I'm helping her through the grieving stages. But I feel terrible that I'm keeping her in the dark about all this.\n\nI also feel like I'm dishonouring my friend's memory with these feelings. He's barely been gone for about a month, and I'm supposed to be looking out for his girlfriend, not going after her.", "summary": "Friend died and I'm developing feelings for his girlfriend while comforting her."}
{"id": "t3_2mrsnp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "lies after lies.", "post": "Growing up with a typical traditional asian family, they were expected for myself to get into university. Getting my score on my graduation day was the worst thing in my life, I didn't know how to tell them, i see my friends and their parents all happy with their child.\nI just didn't want to disappoint them, so i lied telling them that i'm currently in university and doing well. it was a stupid thing to do, i know. Now it's been going on for 2 years now and i'm scared to break it to them and my friends. I'm afraid that i will lose everyone and they will think of me badly. Right now, i'm currently working on my way around to get into uni without telling them.", "summary": "lied to my parents i'm in uni when i didn't get a good enough score to get into one."}
{"id": "t3_37ol8g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] told my bf [17 M] last week that I couldn't stand a relationship without sex", "post": "This is my first post here, so bear with me. \n\nLast week my boyfriend and I were talking about prom, and somehow conversation got around to sex. He asked what I would do if he said he wanted to be abstinent until marriage, and I told him that I'd have to think about it, but that it probably wouldn't work out between us. I never thought of it as a serious question, but then he got concerned that sex meant more to me than a relationship with him, and I spent 30 minutes convincing him that I loved him a lot and that I would want to make it work.\n\nI already knew that he has a lower sex drive than I do, which made me feel even worse after the conversation when he tried to turn me on. It felt forced, and I told him that he shouldn't be doing anything that he didn't want to do because of me, and he stopped but he still seemed sad and disappointed. Now I'm just worried that he'll be faking it when we have sex next. I don't want him to do anything he isn't comfortable with, but when I tell him that, he doesn't really talk to me or reassure me that he won't.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? What should I do to help him?", "summary": "told my bf I couldn't have a relationship without sex, now worried he might fake it just to stay with me."}
{"id": "t3_3g8f73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] and my girlfriend [15F] have been in a long distance relationship for 3 months now and exactly two weeks from now I'm going to meet her for the first time! Advice please!", "post": "So exactly two weeks from now I will be physically meeting my girlfriend who lives in a different state about 13 hours away from me for the first time!\n\nI first met her in a Skype call that I was in with some of my friends. I added her and we started talking and then eight months later progressed to flirting and having witty conversations with each other and now here we are!\n\nWords cannot express how excited and nervous I am at the same time. I have had physical relationships before but I have never been able to connect on the same level with anyone before as I feel like I can with her! Even though we have only been together for 3 months and there is quite a large physical distance that separates us I care for her very deeply and since I met her I have felt the happiest I've ever been!  \n\nI was wondering if anyone would have any advice for me before I meet with her in person whether it be things that I should discuss with her before meeting her or anything else that you guys can come up with. I am incredibly excited and cannot wait to meet her! \n\nAny responses will be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I will be physically meeting my long distance girlfriend of three months in two weeks and would like to hear any advice that you can give me before I meet her!"}
{"id": "t3_1hji19", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Been looking for a summer job for the past 2 months but my local area is not hiring!", "post": "I've been busting my hump sending out CVs everywhere in my local town and I've genuinely received no feedback from any of the stores I've applied to. I check e-mails daily and always have my phone handy but I've received 0 callbacks. I have had 2 previous summer jobs when I was younger and my CV is all in order and is very presentable. I'm friendly when approaching the manager and everything goes as well as anyone can hope it does. I even have friends looking out for positions in their own work places for me. However, there's literally 0 jobs going in my local area.", "summary": "Million dollar question;"}
{"id": "t3_xg7b8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you or someone you know say/do that was  \"too soon\"?", "post": "My boyfriend (22yo) just lost his father not even four months ago. We were chilling watching TV. His mother was standing at the table with her laptop. His mom is nice but a *very* selfish woman. She kept making random comments about people on Facebook but there was no conversations going. Then out of the blue she said \"Wanna see a picture of my next husband?\" \n\nWe were totally shocked. I couldn't even say anything. I just stared at her. My bf was furious! He JUST lost his father!\n\nHim- \"WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?!!\"  And then she continued... \"He just doesn't know it yet\". He tried taking her laptop away but we just went into the other room.", "summary": "BF's mother made comment about new husband she wanted after her real husband recently died."}
{"id": "t3_3mnz29", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] am unsure of how to interpret this situation with [19f].", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nI know these questions are asked often, but like everyone else it seems I am unable to decipher this for myself.\n\nTo add a background: I have known this girl for 4/5 years (family friends) and we always got along. \n\nShe got out of a 2 year relationship about 4~months ago, she was broken up with, and I think isnt quite over it yet. Still not too sure about that.\n\nAnyways, we recently have hung about a fair amount and alot of people we know are pairing us up together in their minds and letting us know individually, never when we are together, and we have mentioned it briefly to each other.\n\nGenerally I feel like she is acting flirty, although I could be misinterpreting it. However, the thing I have an issue with is that occasionally she still mentions that she loves her ex, this could be her overselling/wanting some level of attention or deflecting from 'us', or she may still be getting over her ex. Additionally she mentions that she doesn't think she will date for a while.\n\nKnow, I know this seems like I'm reading too much into her 'flirtatious' actions and she may in fact just be acting friendly. But I wouldn't ask this if I thought that was all there was to it.\n\nSo my question is, am I completely off the track? Should I just leave her be? Or should I pay closer attention to the situation?\n\nGenerally cliche I know, but any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Girl is flirtatious, but ended a long term relationship 4 months ago and may just be friendly and not at all interested"}
{"id": "t3_opqqb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can anyone help with with an apartment/subleasing issue?", "post": "I live in an apartment with 3 other girls, 1 of whom wants to move out in April, because she is graduating early. Our lease ends August 31 so she wants to find a sublet to take over her rent for the months that she isn't here, so that she doesn't have to pay while she isn't living here. She has put up some ads, and the only replies she has gotten back are by people that the other 2 girls and I do not really approve of. She is getting frustrated, because we said no to the 2 people she has found, and she is also pressuring us to choose the people we would rather not live with by making us feel guilty. She told us today that she tried to buy her way out of the lease. Didn't work. **Can anyone tell me if there is a way she could completely screw us over (meaning she leaves and doesn't pay and we end up having to pay her rent)?** All four of our names are on the lease. She cannot sublet to anyone without our knowledge because she requires our signatures to do so. She basically threatened us today by stating some random thing about small claims court which was fairly unclear to me, so I just want to have my bases covered with possible crap she could pull. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Roommate wants to sublet, can't find a subleaser, is there any way she could screw the other roommates and me over?"}
{"id": "t3_gsqpu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "That boat stole my money!", "post": "Okay, so a boat didn't actually steal my money...\n\nThe other day I was on the Marine Atlantic ferry crossing from NS to NL and tried to use the bank machine. I requested the money, it took forever just saying that it was connecting. After so long I asked the workers if it was out of order, they said it must be. The machine then displayed, \"$xx Requested, $0 Dispensed\" The receipt came and said the same thing. Then I pulled a real bonehead move, not thinking about it, and tossed the receipt. Now I'm going back over my banking records and realizing the bank actually subtracted the money from my account.\n\nReddit, is there anyway I can get this money back, or is this one a write-off?", "summary": "Bank machine didn't give me money, money was still subtracted from account and I have no receipt. Can I get it back?"}
{"id": "t3_j2jpi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people make such a huge deal out of going through someone's e-mail? Who really cares?", "post": "The people who get caught up, that's who. If you're not getting caught doing something you're not supposed to, what's to be mad at?\n\nWhy do people decide to give each other their passwords for things like that to begin with? Because the people in question are trying to prove to one another that they can be trusted, and that they trust the other person.\n\n\"I've got nothing to hide from you, go ahead and check,\" is pretty standard nowadays it seems. The only people who seem to be getting mad about it are the people who are too DUMB to use that same e-mail account to do something deceitful!\n\nIt's not an invasion of privacy if you GAVE SOMEONE YOUR PASSWORD, strictly for the purpose of them entering it on-line, to log in to your e-mail account. Unless you made specific stipulations that they would only access your e-mail \"IF/WHEN....\" then you've got nothing to complain about. And, IF anyone feels like their SO is trying to impose such restrictions in the relationship.. it's not a good relationship.\n\nIf somebody reads your shit and you get caught up, OH WELL, should've covered your tracks better. So, before you begin whining about how so and so is to blame for this and that, remember that you were the one who did the bad thing, and while now you have all this anger because you feel your life is fucked, it's nobody's fault but your own.", "summary": "If you don't want someone to read your e-mail, don't give them your password. If you do give them your password, don't throw a fit about them when YOU were dumb enough to get caught up."}
{"id": "t3_2mqfkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be wrong for me[19F] to continue fucking my fuck buddy while im dating my crush?", "post": "Im starting to really like this guy that im dating and could see myself getting into a relationship with him. We're taking it nice and slow which I prefer when it comes to getting into a relationship. The only thing is that im constantly horny and masterbaiting does not do me justice. That is why i have this urge to have sex current fuck buddy just to get it out of my system. Although i cant help feel guilty because i really care for this guy that im dating. At the same time though, it's not like we're committed yet and i just need a way to satisfy my sexual needs lol. Idk...Im curious to hear what you guys have to say.", "summary": "currently dating a guy i really like and taking it slowly but has sexual needs and still wants to have sex with my fuck buddy"}
{"id": "t3_2yi52g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My teacher at Parsons basically called me stupid for asking a question in class.", "post": "So I am in Parsons for Fashion Design and our professor is a hard-ass. He's old, italian and every week it's a toss up on whether he is in a good mood or a bad one. \n\nSo today first thing in the morning he said \"Class I will say this one last time. If you have a question, ask me. I will explain it to you etc...\"\n\nSo later he was doing a demonstration and I asked him if he did the overcast stitch on both sides together or individually. and he said this to me \" I will not answer that question....\" so my friend next to me said \"it's individually\" and I said \" o ok\" and here is where he said\n\n**\"..... You should cut your bangs up your roots so more oxygen will go into your brain\"** \n\nI was like what?! he just called me stupid but he said I could ask any questions I want!!\n\nThe part that is really upsetting to me is construction is the only class that I have trouble with because I'm not a very accurate sewer but I try really hard! and I do the homework every week! And it seems like every week I ask a question he is very condesending to me and only me! (one time he said he would fire me if I worked for him because I was sitting down!) \n\nI told this story to my friends but it wasn't until I went home and told my boyfriend that I started crying because I feel really helpless. My friends said I should have fought back but I wouldn't win! He's old, he's set in his ways, nothing I say will work in my favor.", "summary": "I'm very upset because I struggle so much in that class and need all the help I can get and I'm always afraid to show him my progress and work because he's always so horrible to me. I don't know what to do, but I know my work is going to suffer because I do need feedback and I'm too afraid to ask for it because he's seems to have some sort of vendetta against me."}
{"id": "t3_27e4vf", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Recruitment dilemma", "post": "I got contacted by a recruiter this past Sunday about an opening she was trying to fill for one of her clients. She sent me the job description and it sounds exactly like what I am doing now.  I am in a decently specialized field so I feel like a pretty strong candidate.  I had a really good conversation with the recruiter and she presented my resume and interest to the COO of the company last Weds morning.  Last Weds evening, the recruiter got back to me and said that she expects the COO to contact me sometime early next week (which is this week). So it is Thursday afternoon and I haven't heard anything from the company.  My recruiter is on vacation from last Friday until the 10th.  So I am already anxious enough about waiting to hear something because it sounds like a reallly really great opportunity and then an hour or so ago I got contacted by a former co-worker (and reference I put on my resume) trying to recruit me to their place.\n\nI am much more excited about the first opportunity. Would it be bad to call the company directly and initiate contact?  Or do I just need to chill?  Being in my decently specialized field, these are the first recruitment calls I have gotten in 3.5 years... now just a few days apart.", "summary": "Got a call about a really exciting opportunity from recruiter.  Recruiter told me company would be in touch and then went on vacation.  Haven't heard anything from company and now getting recruited elsewhere but much more excited about first opportunity.  Tempted to directly contact first company.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_16xp62", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl I was dating very suddenly stopped being interested, what might I have done and is there anything I can do?", "post": "I met a girl about a month ago at a gig and she made it clear to my friend that she liked me a lot. \n\nI got it together and sorted it out to meet with her to get to know her, met with her a couple of times and it went really well both time and she showed the usual good signs that she was into me. After the second time I think I made the mistake of not texting her after which in hindsight I should have (I was seeing if she would text me first which wa s probably a stupid thing to do). Since then it seems like she's now suddenly uninterested, I don't know. \n\nI think its probably best that I move on to someone else but for the future can anyone say what I might have done?", "summary": "Girl who I was interested in said to my friend she really liked me, went on a couple of dates which seemed to go really well, suddenly seemed not interested, what might I have done?"}
{"id": "t3_524f97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "32 Male who used to have many friends, they all seem to have disappeared, did I screw up or does this just happen?", "post": "I'm at home this morning realising that for the 3rd weekend in a row, I have no plans other than go for a run and then watch some football, at home, by myself.  Someone who I used to be close with is getting married today, the pictures are starting to pop up on Facebook, and I probably would have been invited if it happened 3-4 years ago.  I also have one of my best friends from college who still lives just a block from me also getting married this fall.  We still see each other once in a while, but I have a feeling I won't see an invitation to that one either.\n\nI've taken stock of my other close friends (most of whom are at the wedding today) and come to realize that none of them are really \"close\" anymore.  I may see them once a month or less, still go on the annual camping trip (which is all we have left, we used to go on a ski trip every year, and spend a ton of time having themed parties etc).  People who I used to see weekly have now become barely acquaintances.\n\nMy GF is pretty nice, but works often, and doesn't have a ton of friends out here because she moved here from the other side of the country last year.  She has been great, but due to work schedules I find that I'm still pretty much flying solo most Saturday nights - and I have nowhere to go.  I do enjoy my \"me\" time, and have always been more of an introvert that a party animal, but right now, I don't have a single person I could call to even go for lunch with, and it kind of sucks.  I'm scared that if I get married in the future I won't have a wedding party as I'll have no one to make my \"best man\" or even friends.\n\nOther people in yours 30s, does this just happen?  How do you fix it?", "summary": "32 and don't have any close friends left.  Starting to feel a little alone."}
{"id": "t3_rqxb2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I may have just gotten duped into sending someone nude pictures of myself. Reddit, is there anything that can be done to preserve my anonymity?", "post": "Long story short, ended up exchanging pictures with someone who was sending back pictures of a girl pulled off of Google Images. I only sent about 4 their way, none showing my face. I found out by doing a Google Image search of the images I was sent. Even though the pictures don't have my face I'm still kind of worried about these getting out there. I know I was naive and didn't use my brain and as such should probably use this as a learning experience, but is there anything that can be done to try and keep these off the internet? (or at least limit their spread as much as possible?)", "summary": "I'm an idiot, sent some dirty pictures, am tripping balls"}
{"id": "t3_e9mox", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Lesser known destinations in/around South East Asia.", "post": "Hello /r/travel. This is my first post here, so sorry if I'm submitting a common question. I'm looking for destinations/sites which may not be well known and, ideally, not 'touristy'. Here's a map I put together for the rough path I was going to take: .After the 'up' arrow, I was planning on making my way over to Japan. This is going to be my first big trip and I want to ensure I see everything that could possibly be of interesting. I'm an amateur photographer and would love to find some generally unknown locations where I could capture the undisturbed views.", "summary": "Planning on going to South East Asia. Advice on lesser known sites to visit please!"}
{"id": "t3_2vv5t7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Did a great job at work, backfired, what should I do?", "post": "I work as an IT project manager with fellow project managers for a client.\n\nWhen I started my job here, we had a lot of budgetary issues, mainly overrun budgets without knowing on which feature or issues was the money spent on. This mainly led to regular angry client mails to our managers throughout 2014, and stressed pre-reporting meetings and time-consuming investigations.\n\nI worked hard to rebuild trust between our client and my team. One way is by improving visibility and reporting. It was hectic but I managed to put in place a process whereas each task is logged by the team, gained the trust of the team that on the long term the client's trust will make their job much less stressful, created a system where each technical task is affected to a business demand understandable by the client. This wasn't easy as we work on long term features, do support and fix urgent demands at the same time. On my second 2015 budget reporting the client was ecstatic as it was the first time he was able to get visibility on his budget.\n\nAnd then, he asked my other coworkers to do the same. Well you guess the reaction. My colleagues are extremely competent, but I decided to prioritise the trust issue even if that meant over sweating. My coworkers may face more unstable projects and may not have the good relations that I enjoy with my team. One of them described this new task as doing laundry\n\nI should'nt feel ashamed that I did a great job. But my coworkers are understandably feeling that it's more work put on their shoulders. I value great trust and ethics between my clients, team and colleagues. How should I handle this?\n\nI'll emphasize that my colleague are very cool, hard working and competent people, and I love them. How should I handle this backfire that smoothest way possible?\n\nI don't know if this is even a problem, but I felt I got to ask somebody. Any advice?", "summary": "Did a great job, backfired, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4zey1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is a tactful way for me (22f) to communicate with my college roommate (20f) about various small issues.", "post": "I'm not gonna say I have a problem with conflict,  but I'm hesitant to bring these issues up with her due to the small nature and just..  Personally being uncomfortable. What would be a nice way to talk about a compromise so she doesn't feel attacked? I have to live with this person for four months. \n\nShe stays out late and comes home early, waking me up with shuffling around and slamming doors . \n\nEvery morning I don't have space to do my personal routine.  Brush teeth, shower, put in contacts, etc..  Because she pulls out this massive makeup kit that basically takes up the entire counter. Or takes 30+ minute showers that leave me with less than 20 minutes to shower and get to class. My class is at 8 and I already get up at 7 to get ready,  I don't exactly want to get up at Six just because she wants a relaxing shower. \n\nI'm a small person with a disorder where I'm always cold and this isn't helped with her continuously turning the ac to below 50. My room was at 51 when I left this morning.  That's ridiculous, right?\n\nFirst of all,  am I being ridiculous? Are these issues too small to bring up and I should just suck it up and buy blankets and get up at 6am?", "summary": "how to tactfully bring up small issues with college roommate such as long showers and freezing room. Are these valid concerns?"}
{"id": "t3_1oumo5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m]My girlfriend[18/f] dumped me after 2 months and a half.", "post": "So, here it goes.\nI met one girl on facebook( 18 years she had ), we started by having a normal conersation, we had fun everyday, shared funny youtube videos...blabla.\nAfter 8 days, we met, and it was instant attraction...\nThings went well after, each time when we met we jumped on each other, started kissing, getting horny, etc...\nEveryday for 1 month we had kinky conversations like \" i want you now in my bed, i want you naked, ohh my god i am so horny, take me noww \"\nAnd i proposed to her one day, come at my place...and she started to make excuses each time like i don't have time, etcc.\nAnd after that i said to her, why are you always making up excuses ? we see each other only in school, 20 minutes a day and we can't kiss, we can't do nothing, are you satisfied with that ?\nAnd she told me\n- I know what you want from me, but it won't happen, i won't sleep with you, sorry about that.\nI was like wtfff ???? you told me everyday kinky stuff, pervert stuff, you showed me tumblr links with fucking etccc...wtff is wrong with you ?\nNo answer....\nAnd she said it's better to break up...because i had enough with these fights.", "summary": "Girlfriend made me horny everyday, didn't wanted to have sex. "}
{"id": "t3_zmjwv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "To block the ex on Facebook or not?", "post": "It's almost been a month since the breakup now. She's 28, I'm 26. I broke it off with her because of various personality problems that aren't relevant to this story.\n\nSince the breakup, she's posted Facebook updates every few days that are barbed, backhanded insults. We were poly (well, she was; I never dated outside of the relationship), and she'll post updates about how great her current partner is, especially compared to \"some of her exes,\" and referring to details of our relationship that I'm sure to get. I'm sure you've seen this sort of behavior, someone talking about how great things are now compared to *before,* how great it is to be finally understood, etc.\n\nSo I know it would be trouble to engage with this; it's probably what she wants. I've unsubscribed, so I can only see her updates when I look for them, which I do out of morbid curiosity every three or four days. Most of the time, they just cement my convictions about making the right choice in leaving her. Others, it makes me feel crappy, because sometimes the things she says have a grain of truth. There's a part of me that thinks not blocking her is a point of pride; I'm showing that I don't care. Another part of me thinks it might make me feel better to block her. And another, more vindictive, side hopes she'll see that she's been blocked and realize how crappy she is.", "summary": "When an ex is being crappy on Facebook, do you block them, or do you consider it the \"high road\" to leave them be?"}
{"id": "t3_forg3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I fall for a guy and he ends up asking me if I can get him a date with my best friend, 6th time this has happened....Self esteem is at a all time low and I feel awful?", "post": "Throwaway...\n\nI am in college and the most I have ever have done is hug guys in a friendly manner, I am not desperate for a relationship but I am just at my wits end of having my feelings hurt over and over by the same occurrence. I will find a guy I  like which is rare as I am a wow playing, mine craft busting,  comic book loving person and finding someone who I can share interests is difficult. We will get talking and get close and then when I get the confidence to attempt to ask them to even hang out I always end up being asked if they think my best friend is into them.\nMy best friend is never interested in these guys and she just laughs and brushes it off. I never even tell her I like these guys so I know it is nothing foul play but it genuinely sucks to see every guy I like fall for her. She is one of these adorable girls who every guy instantly falls for and she is only had one relationship who she still misses after 6 months of braking up with him (Oh yes he is the one exception of her dating one of the guys I liked, shit hurt man).  I must add by like I mean I have taken a shine to these guys longer than two months and this has happened over the course of five years that it has happen six times with diffrent guys. \n\nI just feel like the chubby side kick, I do not know what to do. I try to meet guys away from my friend but I just never find them, I am polite and not a crazy psychopath. I just feel so hung up lately that nothing seems to want to go right for me, all I want is a guy I can hug and play my old consoles with even if it is just a friend but they always get so hung up on her so when she tells them she isn't interested they always stop talking to me.", "summary": "I am the girl who you set your wingman on while you go for the hot one."}
{"id": "t3_3haq8e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [22 F] broke up 2 months ago and now I've realized I'm depressed", "post": "We both knew there were issues that we couldn't come to a compromise over. She lived and went to a school about 200 miles away from me. At first we made it work for 2 years. The 3rd year was tough because we would fight more often about my availability to see her. She also graduated from school a year before me so there was also uncertainty about our future together. Eventually we called it quits, and that's it. I haven't felt any emotions for the nearly 2 months we've broken up mainly due to being busy with school.\n\nI've got all sorts of feelings as of now though and have officially acknowledged that I'm depressed about. I know it is a natural part of it. For 2 months I've had no problem thinking of her or our relationship, but all of sudden this happens. \n\nI've been thinking deeply about our relationship. I'm so mad because I've been thinking of all the things she did to and said to me, including things she's lied to me about that I just realized. I just caught onto these lies and have alot of anger towards her now and feel like I should let her know how I feel.\n\nHow do I handle these feelings emotions? Should I confront her on all of her lies?", "summary": "Having depression after breakup and not sure how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_34rcyr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Hysterically Laughing At A Middle Eastern Man's Name Thinking It Was My Friend", "post": "This FU happened on a college trip to London a couple years back. I went on a week college trip to London during winter break to see what our sister school in London looked like. Truthfully I went because I was 18 and wanted to party in a foreign area. \nIt was our last day in London and we were at Heathrow airport waiting to get on our flight back to the states. About 20 of us who went on the trip were all lined up to use those machines where you scan your passport to get your ticket. I was in the front of the group and a few of my friends were directly behind me in line. \nI go up to the machine and am figuring out how it works. Out of the corner of my eye I see the person next to me leave his machine so naturally I think my friend, who was behind me, is going to use the empty machine. After I get my passport I look over to the machine next to me and on the screen under \"name\" it says Tariq followed by a very unpronounceable last name. Me being oblivious and thinking my friend Shane was the one using the machine, I start pointing and laughing yelling out \"Dude, look at your name! The machine fucked up your name!\" After about 20 seconds of laughing and pointing I realize that no one is responding. I then slowly turn my head and see a middle eastern grown man staring through my soul. I immediately grab my ticket and run back to my group of friends without saying a word due to pure embarrassment. My friends, who had witnessed the entire thing going on, were literally on the floor of the airport laughing. One of my friends even went over to the man to explain to him the situation. \nFast forward an hour later: I'm sitting in my seat on the plane and lone behold, Tariq walks down the aisle. We make eye contact and he comfortably takes his seat across the aisle from me.", "summary": "I made fun of middle eastern man's name at the airport thinking it was my friend, He ended up having the seat across the aisle from me."}
{"id": "t3_1czjf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO(32/m) and I(26/f) are having differences in parenting. Please help.", "post": "Veggies are ruining my life. I've been with my SO for about 5 years. I have a 7 year old child from a past relationship, and we have a 4 year old together. Our 7 year old (he is just as much my SO's as he is mine) is VERY picky when it comes to veggies. What it boils down to is that my SO and I have very different opinions on how to handle uneaten veggies. We have had at least 10 VERY serious conversations/arguments about veggies....such a petty subject, yet I feel like it is putting a BIG strain on our relationship because neither one of us is willing to settle on the issue as this same problem keeps on resurfacing. How do I deal with these parenting differences?", "summary": "SO and I have different parenting styles, and disagreements over petty things are starting to put a strain on our relationship. HELP."}
{"id": "t3_3appyb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17 M] dont know how to get over my anxiety and start talking with [17 F]", "post": "So I have known this girl for about since September last year. I would really like to start talking to her and maybe one day ask her out but my anxiety gives me big problems and I dont know what to do about it.\n\nI know a decent ammount of things about her as I've managed to speak with her but it was a group type of thing which made it easier. I dont know what I should do. \n\nThanks to previous experiences with people I have a bad case of anxiety and dont really trust many people with what they say to me and I always think that they are thinking the worst thing possible about me. How do I get the courage to talk to her more and what should I say?", "summary": "Have bad anxiety know girl for a while talked to her before but only in a big group. How do I get over my anxiety so i can talk to her more and what should I say to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3l1p4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] girlfriend constantly accuses me [23 M] of cheating, what should I do?", "post": "If your girlfriend constantly accuses you of cheating what do you do? It's been like this since a month after we began going out 8 months ago. I always reaffirmed to her that i'm not and that I love her. I can't go out anywhere with friends or not respond to a text for a while without her thinking that I'm cheating. She has been cheated on before by her ex but i'm not her ex and I told her that. Is there a way to make this work? I hear time does the trick but it has been 8 months now.", "summary": "What do I do with a girlfriend that is insecure?"}
{"id": "t3_1dc5di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22M] deal with my GF's [21F] jealous best friend?", "post": "We have been together for a year and a half. My girlfriend has a guy friend [21M] she is very close to; they met this past august and have been friends for the past 8 months.  I have always been unsure of what to think about him.  I met him this weekend for the first time, and it was obvious he didn't like me.  My GF said that her friend did not know how to act around me as he is usually flirty and joking around, yet when I was with them he was quiet, reserved, and borderline afraid to talk to her. She had to tell him a couple of days ago to be less handsy.  She always made it seem like I was crazy for thinking that something might be up with him and that he might be a sketchy figure, yet she never told me any of these things about him (that he probably likes her, is usually flirty, was recently overly handsy, and dislikes me even though we have never met) until it was very apparent in the way he treated me that he did not like me. How do I deal with my girlfriend's best friend, who wants to get with my girlfriend, dislikes me, and who's apartment my girlfriend goes to on weekends to party (college woo!) without seeming like a jealous, overcontrolling boyfriend?", "summary": "My girlfriend's best friend who's house she goes to on weekends, likes her, dislikes me, and is jealous of our relationship, and she never told me any of this until I met and it was apparent he did not like me. How do I deal without seeming jealous, concerned, worried?"}
{"id": "t3_1i9l40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M]27 just learned my boyfriend[M] 23 of 6 months has been trying to get back with his ex while I've been away on a work project for 10 weeks.", "post": "I work for a Political Consulting Firm, we run campaigns all over the country for various clients.  My job keeps me away from home for a few weeks here and there.\n\nI moved to Florida 1 1/2 years ago.  I met a boy in january of this year and we have been boyfriends for the last 6 months.  He had recently moved to florida as well and we hit it off.  We took things slow, did it right.  In may I was assigned to a 10 week project in SLC.  He supported me and my work, the night I left for this project he told me out of the blue that he loved me.\n\nThe first few weeks were fine. We talked once a day and texted here and there.  After week six or so it began to get a little shaky.  We hashed things out and seemed to get back on an even keel, its now week 9 out of 10, Im wrapping up a very successful campaign and ready to head home and see my boy.  Or so I thought.  Tonight on facebook he made a post about heartbreak mew mew it hurts mew mew.  I was like oh no what did I do!!!, I start reading the comments like oh shit this doesn't make sense.. low and behold he was drunk facebooking about how his ex (who lives in NJ 1000 miles away) broke his heart again, and how much he still loved his ex, how this ex broke his heart again by sleeping with another man.  Me, his boyfriend of the last 6 months no where in the picture.\n\nI understand distance, outta sight outta mind, and I have a tough job for relationships.  But HE told me he loved me, not the other way around, I was head over heels for this kid.  Now I'm broken and angry.  What's the adult thing to do here? Confront him for closure or just delete friend, cut contact and start healing?", "summary": "just learned my boyfriend of 6/7 months is still in love with his ex and has been talking with him while I have been away on work stuff for a few weeks"}
{"id": "t3_1ef1wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Starting to have trust issues with my [19f] boyfriend [19m] regarding him smoking.", "post": "Our relationship is otherwise good, we've been together for about 2 and a half years. My boyfriend recently started smoking which I don't have a problem with, we talked about this and initially agreed upon him being open with what is going on. The problem that I have is that he isn't being open about it. I don't trust the people he smokes with and sometimes when I ask about it he doesn't tell the whole truth despite the fact that I already know who he is smoking with. He also said that he would limit whenever he goes to smoke with them but lately it has been almost everyday. I don't have a problem with him actually smoking but I do have a problem with the fact that he won't be open about it like we agreed upon. I don't really know how to go about talking to him about it, but it is making me have issues trusting him that I would like to resolve.", "summary": "boyfriend won't be open about smoking like we agreed to, causing me to not trust him"}
{"id": "t3_2wqx26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/M] with newly single her [26/F]... what do I do now?", "post": "I have been secretly seeing a girl who was engaged. Her situation was basically that she was very unhappy with her fianc\u00e9e but stayed with him due to them having a child together. \n\nNow I don't normally get involved with people in relationships and I felt like an asshole for doing it but I really adore this women so I stuck it out to see if anything would happen. \n\nRecently we have been talking about a future together. Little things like who would do the dishes and who would do the drying. What side of the bed she would have and also bigger things like the fact that I would love to have her son in my life. She also tells me that her son mimics me and he knows how to say my name better then hers. (I have met him before and talked to him over the phone a few times)\n\nWe have been sleeping together for a few months now and other then a few stupid fights we get along really well. Recently she said I love you and I also said it back and it was cute. She also wants to be a big part in my plan to get my own place so I can live by myself. \n\nLess then 24 hours ago her and her fianc\u00e9e had a talk and they decided to break up, they have a holiday planned together in a few weeks which they still plan to take. \n\nNow comes the hardest part. I know I have to be patient, I know I have to be supportive but I am also unsure what I do and say. How do I act and how long do I wait/ how do I know when she will be ready to commit again?", "summary": "A female who was in an unhappy relationship who I was also seeing is now single. How do I act and how long do I wait/ how do I know when she will be ready to commit again?"}
{"id": "t3_1t1euc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom[43] kicked my dad[39] out of the house but let him come back home.", "post": "Last night my mom got tired of my dads crap so she kicked him out of the house and my little sister[8] started asking where's he going and my mom just told her she doesn't know. \nAfter an hour passed my mom allowed my dad to comeback home and stay so my little sister could stop worrying. But I fear that the arguing is going to continue and get worse.\nI know it's not my fault and to stay out of it since it's between my parents but I want to know what I can do to make it easier on my family.", "summary": "Mom kicked dad out of the house but allowed him back in so my little sister would stop worrying."}
{"id": "t3_4nzi2h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [25M/] 16months- I \"picked work over my boyfriend\" and he's upset with me. Am I wrong?", "post": "I work a regular 9-5 M-F job. I had a networking opportunity come up unexpectedly during the workday. I let him know. We didn't have set plans but we hang out every day together (we don't live together).  He was upset I went to the function because \"I picked work over him\". This is a relatively new job (past 2 years) and I would have the opportunity to network with higher ups in the company. He hasn't had the easiest few month with a few personal set backs but I thought one night wouldn't be a big deal. I do my best to be supportive towards him and be there for anything he needs. I'm not the most empathetic or sensitive person towards others so I'm not sure if I'm just being insensitive or if he is being unreasonable.  Am I in the wrong? This isn't the first time I've \"picked something over him\" in his mind but this is the most recent. I'm a smart, ambitious person who has always imagine a successful career for herself. I thought networking would be great opportunity to get my name out there.", "summary": "Did I pick work over my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_1chguo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hoping to start a Masters in Cancer Pharmacology this September. Is anyone aware of post-graduate funding opportunities in the UK?", "post": "Hi Reddit, first time poster here, I am currently don't know where to turn to ask for advice but this looks perfect!\n\nBasically I am hoping to start a masters course in September of this year. My research would be in cancer pharmacology, investigating the effects of the skin cancer drug, vemurafenib, in an attempt to better understand how melanoma quickly gains such a strong resistance to it, hopefully finding a way to combat this resistance, increasing the drugs effectiveness and prolonging the lives of those suffering with melanoma.\n\nThe Masters costs \u00a36,900, \u00a33,900 for the tuition fee and a research support fee of \u00a33000 (For lab materials, damn pipette tips). Basically, I was wondering if anyone is aware of any funding opportunities available for such courses in the UK that I can apply for? I have currently received a \u00a32000 bursary off the University, taking my total costs down to \u00a34,900. I already have a part time job on weekends which I would keep throughout the course to help with travel expenses etc. But I really need to get the cost down for the course as much as I can, my last resort would be a bank loan, which I fear would cripple my finances completely. Alternatives ideas to a bank loan would be greatly appreciated as well.\n\nIf anyone has any additional questions please don't hesitate to ask.", "summary": "Does anyone know any funding opportunities for post-graduate research courses in the UK? Particularly for cancer research."}
{"id": "t3_25mymd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22 M] of over a year wants an open relationship with me [22 F] because he needs multiple sexual partners. What do I do?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have a wonderful sex life. I am extremely content and happy with remaining loyal to just him. He has mentioned to me while we have been together that he has a \"girlfriend sharing\" fetish. A lot of his sexual fantasies involve me and another man. He constantly wants to hear if I have any sexual desires for another person. It doesn't bother me, but I honestly have no immediate desire to seek out another sexual partner at the moment. \n\nRecently, I found several emails on his account responding to casual encounters ads on Craigslist and also some concerning Facebook messages. \n\nWhen I confronted him about it, he told him that he is addicted to the \"hunt\" and the \"rush\" of seeking out a woman to have sex with. He admitted to me that he needs multiple sexual partners. He suggested a healthy way to fulfill this drive is for us to have an open relationship. \n\nI have attempted to bring myself to doing a couples swap or swinging type thing, but I just couldn't bring myself to it. For whatever reason, I am just not completely comfortable with the notion of an open relationship. I will admit I experience an immense amount of sexual jealousy and pain...My boyfriend on the other hand, does not. Sex and love are two separate things to him. It's hard for me to come to this viewpoint.\n\nI really want us both to be satisfied with each other. I'm not sure what to do exactly? There is a part of me that wants to be open to the idea of an open relationship, but then there is the other part of me that experiences great pleasure from being loyal and loving to one person...\n\nShould I try to eliminate my sexual jealousy and attempt an open relationship in the future? Or would it be healthier for me to remain monogamous?", "summary": "My boyfriend really wants an open relationship and thinks it is healthy for our relationship. I am on the fence if I should try it or not."}
{"id": "t3_39k3k0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [50F] caught my husband [40M] discussing our marriage to another woman online", "post": "[UPDATE]\n\nHe got violent with me and assaulted me and threatened my kids. I was talking to my daughter and he screamed at me and told me I was never to speak to my children again ever again or I would be sorry. I got my keys and purse and ran out and am staying in a motel.\n\nMy husband and I have been having some issues which I would like to resolve.\n\nHe had been spending hours and hours on facebook and today I walked past and he quickly closed the screen\n\nI went over and sat down and brought up the screen and saw he was chatting with some woman on facebook. I have no idea who she is. He said she was a friend from a group he belongs to.\n\nI open up the chat and see he is discussing our marriage in detail and she was consoling him. He was really painting himself as some huge downtrodden victim.\n\nI asked who she was and she asked why I was on his facebook. I said umm why are YOU chatting to my husband? \n\nThen I asked her again who she was and she got an attitude.\n\nI told her to stay out of our marriage and she told me she would talk to him any time she wanted and I said no you won't and unfriended her and blocked her.\n\nMy husband watched me do this and he had the nerve to say I was being rude to her. I said no, I don't think so. I am your wife and you have no business discussing our marriage to some strange woman in chat on facebook.\n\nHe doesn't seem to understand why this is wrong.\n\nSo then he gets my laptop and looks at my chat and clicks on a guys name and it was just the guy who mows our grass saying he was on his way lol! Then he looked at my sister and daughter chat and scrolled and he said, ugh just gossip.\n\nI said that's right because I'm not chatting with men on facebook.\n\nNot sure how to handle this.", "summary": "caught husband chatting with a woman about our marriage"}
{"id": "t3_xdh2s", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to ask a girl out via Facebook?", "post": "Hello, I (M, 23) want to ask out a girl (don't know her age, must be 20something). The only contact I have is via FB. \n\nI know it's not the best way, but I have to stick to it. Now my question is, is it better, to just text her and ask right away or should I start a conversation first and ask then?\n\nA little more background: I know her from university, had a course together. Hadn't a lot of time to talk there, because she was always late and left quickly afterwards. After the last session of the course she added me on FB, I think she didn't know my full name until then. \nI think she must have searched me, because we only have two friends in common (one is a fellow student from the course, the other one happens two be my ex... I don't know how close they are, but I assume they are only college mates).\nDuring the course we exchanged some smiles.\nAfter she added me, she wrote me in the chat and we had a brief small talk, mostly about uni stuff until she left. She isn't online often, so I wrote her a message some days ago, again small talk. She responded quickly, despites being offline, but didn't respond then, when I wrote again.\nSo, should I text her again, when she's online and try to start a conversation or ask her out of the blue, if she wants to meet?\nFB is the only way of contact, because the course is over, it's summer break and it's a big uni, where you don't run into people often.\n\nThanks in advance for your tips!", "summary": "Want to date a girl, only contact is via FB. Don't know, what's the best way, to ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_38yraj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25 M] together for over 4 years...want my boyfriend to propose", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years.  We have talked about marriage for a long time now; we have both expressed a desire to get married.  We moved in together in the last year and we are in a really good place.  I am trying to be patient, but I am starting to feel disappointed with the fact that he has yet to propose.  He tends to be more logical than I am (I lean towards being more of an emotional person than logical), and he has told me that he wants to make sure we are both settled in our careers before moving forward with a proposal and marriage.  I am settled in my career, though he is still working on moving up to where he wants to be with his career.  While I understand his reasons in theory, I still don't feel good about it.  We love each other a lot, are in a great place in our relationship, and because of that simple fact, I feel like now would be better than ever.", "summary": "So basically I am wondering...am I being irrational about wanting him to propose after 4 years?"}
{"id": "t3_2t0gd2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a pun", "post": "Ok, so a little bit of back story, I make puns all the fucking time to the point that my friends usually pause after saying something because they think I'm going to make a pun; anyways, my friend has asthma really bad and there's a running joke among my friends and I about spaghetti. Turning into spaghetti, accidentally spaghettiing, etc., its hilarious to us for some reason, so we were talking about what we would do if I became spaghetti, actually not even spaghetti, just a singular noodle. The pun was say that I was sitting in a hospital bed (because I'm a spaghetti, I can't move and shit) and i have an IV in my body pumping tomato sauce or whatever noodles need to survive into me to keep me alive, well my family is there all sad and whatnot and the doctor goes, \"He may make it through, but only if he is stroganoff.\" This makes him erupt with laughter for a solid ten minutes straight and my other friend and I don't know what to do, he's saying it hurts and we know how bad his asthma is so we are a little scared. So, after about 11 or 12 excruciating minutes he finally stops and tells me he hates me.", "summary": "Made a pun a spaghetti, friend was spaghetting close to death."}
{"id": "t3_2n2cjo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend [18 F] has been neglecting me [18 F] for her boyfriend", "post": "My best friend and I have been friends for around 5 years now? She and her boyfriend has been together for a few years alr too. She is the kind of person who always put relationship over friendship, and because she's my best friend, I understand her and never said anything. \n\nI understand when she stop replying me for days when she stays over at her boyfriend's house. I understand when she ask me to leave early because she wanted to spend time with her boyfriend. I understand when she said I'm not allowed to be in contact with her boyfriend.(One time she got angry and ignored me for a month because I called her boyfriend to come over when they had a fight) \n\nI'm really okay with her being like this. Her boyfriend is an important part of her life and I can accept that. But recently, I can't even get a reply from her. Her text replies are always short and cold. We go to different schools so I don't get to talk/see her everyday. I'm always the one looking for a topic to talk about with her. She only comes looking for me if she and her boyfriend has a fight and she needed somebody to talk to or when her boyfriend is too busy to talk or go out with her. \n\nI had confronted her about it, but she said that it's not like that, she didn't mean to make me feel this way. But after that it's always back to the same situation and I always end up feeling used and neglected.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Need advice because best friend makes me feel used and neglect because she's too in love with her boyfriend to care about other things."}
{"id": "t3_2qp2r7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it odd that I [26M] usually always hit up my girlfriend [24F] to hang out while she almost never hits me up?", "post": "I'm 26 and have been dating my girlfriend (24) for about 1 1/2 years and for the past few months she has only hit me up once wanting to hang out.\n\nI'm usually always the one asking her to hang out. Most of the time she always wants to hang out when I ask her too and I know she makes time for me since she does work a lot. It's not a question of her dodging me, it just that she rarely asks me first.\n\nIf it could make a difference, I'm also her first serious boyfriend. She had a few before me that lasted only a couple months and I'm also the only person she has had sex with so I'm wondering if she thinks she might be annoying me by asking me to hang out.\n\nIn regards to her seeing someone else, I really don't think that's likely as she really isn't the type of girl to do that (every guys famous last words right?). We still get along great and other than a few minor issues throughout all of our time together, we really haven't had any problems. She has even been getting me more involved with her family lately as well.", "summary": "Is it odd for the guy to (almost) always ask her to hang out or should she be trying to initiate it more?"}
{"id": "t3_2620na", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Where should I go?", "post": "My husband (33) and me (38) bought a house last year in a questionable neighborhood. We liked it until some questionable people started moving in and our house was robbed (no damage).\nI want to move out, here are the stats:\n-We paid $90,000 for the house we live in, (mortgage is $500/mo. owe $62,000)\n-I have another house in a better neighborhood that I am renting out for $1,100 per month (mortgage is $750/mo., owe $72,000)\n-My husband owns a house in another neighborhood that his mom lives in for free, (mortgage is $450/mo., owes $33,000)\n\nMy question is, should I sell the house we are in now, we could probably sell if for what we paid for last year, $90,000 and get $28,000 out of it, or rent it for $1,200/mo. and move to one of our other houses?\n\nWould it make more sense to buy another house altogether? the value will continue to go down in our current house, specially seeing that crime has gone up in the last few months.\n\nOr would it make sense to move in with his mom since we are paying everything in that house anyway?\n\nHusband and I live paycheck to paycheck (self-employed)\n\nAny advice is appreciated.", "summary": "need to move, should I rent or sell the house? where should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_3jf9i0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "TX Disorderly conduct", "post": "So I live in a college town in Texas and a couple nights ago my buddies and I had been drinking and were sitting on the 2nd story porch of our apartment complex. We had seen cops walking around all night giving out tickets for MIP/MIC/Noise complaints and patrolling but thought nothing of it. A couple of my buddies broke 2 bottles by knocking them off the railing and into the street l so I went down to clean it up. I saw a cop walking my way so I went back inside and closed the door. The cop starts shouting at us to come down and that he wont leave until we do. When we go down he writes us a ticket for disorderly conduct and says it was because we were cursing on our balcony. He said he did not see us break any bottles but on the ticket he wrote \"Was throwing bottles\". Now we have a $500 ticket. The whole incident is on video. Also he said he was called out for the incident but we had not been on the balcony for more than 5 min. Guessing he was filling a quota?", "summary": "Cop walking around gave us $500 ticket for cursing on balcony"}
{"id": "t3_32zlpg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] wondering if I should move on [17F]", "post": "Me and this girl have been seeing each other for this past month. Every visit we usually cuddle and stuff but If I make moves other than kiss she is hesitant and moves her face away. During the time we have seen each other she drops boyfriend hints but I played the asshole and just blow them off jokingly. She usually texts me everyday and I thought things were going well\n\nThe 6th time we cuddle and made out a little more. But I was still frustrated with it all. So on the way home I gave her the ultimatum I said I want to know if you want a relationship because I don't want to just be a cuddle buddy/friend. So I said 4 days decide so I am not wasting my time. She hugged me and kissed me goodbye. \n\nThen the texts die off in frequency and after the 4 days I asked her did you think about things. Here is what she said paraphrased, since I deleted it out of anger\n\nI know you know I like you but I don't know if I want a relationship right now because I don't want someone who will leave on me because you have goals in life and shit. And I want to better my life too.\n\nI just told her I understand and she told me she cares about me and likes me. and tells me the only guys that talk to her that like her is me and another the others she blocks. I just replied that I don't like getting played and she said I know then that's been it.\n\nNow no texts or anything from her, I haven't wanted to text first because I feel like that is a just a nice way of saying that I don't want you anymore. I feel like I should move on. I believe I saw her today at work and she didn't even look which my overthinking mind went in anger.", "summary": "Should I ignore and move on with a chick that told me she doesn't want a relationship to avoid being a cuddle buddy?"}
{"id": "t3_52chlx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] and [24/F] having some serious issues. Please help.", "post": "My girlfriend of a little over a year and I have been getting into such tiny arguements lately, but they turn into such war between us. Today, we had a great day, went to the sports bar to watch the games, held hands downtown, and then I made a comment of how her breasts needed to be put away and she gets extremely offended, saying it isn't my place to comment on her body. There is a lot of stress surrounding us both but she keeps making a big deal out of little things and it makes her want to break up with me. I really love her with all of my heart but I think I'm losing her with all these petty arguements. I'm tired of feeling like shit for making her cry, I'm tired of making her curse at me but I really don't know what I can and can't say to her at this point. She always wants me to be myself with her and never change, but she acts like I am making her life a living hell.", "summary": "GF and I keep having petty arguements and I can't stop them from happening. Feel like I'm losing her. Arguements continue to get worse. Always feel as if the next one could be our last."}
{"id": "t3_kbwbf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is there anyway to convince a friend not to waste her life pining for a boy?", "post": "My friend (F21) is has been in love with her best male friend for over a year, despite the fact that he has had three different relationships over the time period and avoided any talk about the (possible) chemistry between the two of them, jealous fits, and the fact that they rarely keep out of contact (via texting, iming, phonecalls) for half an hour despite living three hours away from each other during the school year.\n\nRecently, he had been thinking about seeing this other girl, but when drunk, kissed F21, prompting her to confess her feelings, which he admitted he might reciprocate, but he wanted to be with Other Girl more.  F21 is heartbroken but masochistic and will NOT STOP TALKING TO HIM OR ABOUT HIM.\n\nGranted, it's her life, and I would gladly stay out of it except for the fact that F21 constantly asks my opinion and my advice regarding The Boy.  Apparently, her sister says to cut him out of her life permanently, and I agree (and have, indeed, been telling her to do it for at least 6 months now).  But when we say that, she insists that she cannot live without his presence in her life.", "summary": "My friend asks my advice about how to get over a boy; I've been telling her to cut all communication with him for months, but she refuses to do that.  Is there any advice I could give her that falls short of excommunicating him that may help her get over him anyway?"}
{"id": "t3_1lnhpv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/f] Has anyone divorced/separated and continued to live with your ex [m33]? (xpost-divorce)", "post": "I am telling my husband tonight that I want a divorce. We have two children together (8 & 6). He knows this is coming, so I don't think this will be ugly, just upsetting.\n\nUnfortunately, we can not afford two separate apartments, so we will continue to live together for a while. He's already moved into a separate bedroom. I plan to continue to share all the finances/bills until we work out two separate budgets. I know he won't have a problem with this.\n\nHopefully, it will continue to be amicable, and he will agree with what I want in regards to our living arrangement/relationship/family. Here are the things I want to discuss with him in regards to all that:\n\nLive together, but in separate rooms\n\nPay bills together, as we always have done, until we get a separate budget put together.\n\nKeep things as normal as possible for the boys for as long as possible (obviously, we will discuss our separation with them, but I mean to keep them in the same school/neighborhood/etc)\n\nNo sex (or seeing each other naked). Also, I doubt this will happen any time soon, but if one of us starts to date, no bringing anyone home.\n\nMake childcare decision together\n\nNo blaming each other. What's done is done, and we need to move forward for the sake of our children.\n\nWhen all our debt is payed off (should be by February), we will sell our house and look for separate homes/apartments and legally divorce.\n\nI know this isn't the best option out there, but we simply can't afford two separate places right now. Has anyone been in this situation before? Any tips or advice for making this work?", "summary": "Husband and I separating, but will have to live together for 6 months. Need some \"rules\" for us to live by. And advice. And maybe internet hugs."}
{"id": "t3_41xzox", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/19] Is it bad to never have been in a relationship at 19?", "post": "A little about myself: I am currently at 250 lbs. Yes I am fat, but I am currently exercising and dropping pounds like the stock market. I am currently going to college and it is only my second semester, with about 2 or more years to go.\n\nMy situation is recently I have felt depressed because I am alone, but my problem is I have never gone and looked for anything nor was i interested in looking. The feeling is just now hitting me that I don't want to do this anymore by myself, I don't have too many friends anymore as most went off to drown themselves in student loans at some big name college. I have only had one good friend along the way, and these last few years have been VERY HARD but he helped me through. Now... its not enough for me, I need a GF and was just wondering when I get where I want to be with myself, is it awkward that I have never been with anyone?", "summary": "is it awkward to be my age and not have been in a romantic relationship? I will be happy with myself before I get into one."}
{"id": "t3_1stu31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] dating with a [29M] for now one month. Is the age gap really a bad thing ? Please be honest !", "post": "So hi !\n\nSorry in advance for any grammar mistakes, english is not my native language !\n\nSo, yes, I'm 20 and the guy I'm dating is 29 years old. \nI've seen so much post about how much age gap is a bad thing.. Is it ? Like really, really ??\n\nHe really interested me (I don't want to describe our relationship or his personnality because I feel like I will just look like every other girl who want to justify her relationship with an older man) and I really want to continue to date him to see where all of this goes, and if the age gap will really become an issue in the future (which I don't feel for the moment). However, when I read the posts in this subreddit, it's like I should just stop all of this right now instead of losing my time... but how can I know that if I don't give it a try ? \n\nWill the age gap be certainly a problem in the future ? \nI don't feel it when we are together.. We have similar interests, sens of humour, personality... \n\nJust give your opinions about this please ! Thank you and ask all the questions you want if you need more informations !", "summary": "Are all relationship with an age gap a \"no-no\" ?"}
{"id": "t3_hb3w4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The man I'm falling in love with is engaged. Should I tell him how I'm feeling?", "post": "I'm 23 (f). He's 22 and recently got engaged to his gf  (23) of 2 years in November. \n\nWe've known each other for a little over 4 years (since freshmen in college) and have always had chemistry, but until last year I was in a committed relationship. \n\nI found out through the course of time that he used to have feelings for me before he met his fiance. Up until 5 or 6 months ago we've flirted as friends, but it's never escalated to anything I would note. \n\nYet since that point, we've become incredibly close- We did undergrad research, gamed together, went on road trips, etc.\n\nI've never felt this way about anyone, even my ex of 5 years. I feel like we're on equal levels/wavelengths and he makes me so incredibly happy. However, I always thought it would be too selfish of me to tell him how I feel.\n\nEither way I'm almost certain, even if he did share my feelings, he'd never leave his fiance. Yet, lately I've felt this urge to tell him I'm falling for him. He's going to be moving about 4 hours away for graduate school (moving in with fiance) in two weeks and I'm afraid I won't see him again. \n\nThe most confusing thing is that these past few weeks he's been going along with my flirting: offering me his sweatshirt when I'm cold, holding my hand on silly occasions, giving me back rubs, and showing some reservations about his fiance in regards to differences in lifestyles. \n\nI'm seriously conflicted over my next course of action. I'm very tempted to tell him the night before he leaves, but is it worth his possible (and my inevitable) heartache?", "summary": "Best friend, the guy I'm falling in love with, is engaged and moving away in the next two weeks- Should I tell him how I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_3o9011", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking I was the turtle whisperer", "post": "This happened when I was around 12.  I found a turtle in my back yard, put it in a box, and brought it inside. From experience and from TV I had developed an understanding  that I couldn't *force* an animal to be friends with me. I felt a sense of pride in my maturity for realizing it might take time for this turtle to like me. I covered my floor in newspaper, took him out of the box. Then I went and sat on the floor across the room. I had the fanciful idea that if I was patient enough, the turtle would warm up to me even though I removed it from its natural habitat, family, friends, etc. \n\nI sat there and waited. Sure enough, the turtle began slowly crawling over to me. I was ecstatic but I sat there playing it cool for almost 45 minutes. The turtle made his way across my room inch-by-inch as I daydreamed that he actually wanted to sit in my lap, play with me, etc. \"All it took was a little patience,\" I smugly thought as the turtle finally arrived. As soon as he was close enough to reach me, he stuck out\nhis neck and bit me really hard. Dejected, I put him in the box and took him back outside. So his (defensive) attack, while painfully slow, was effective.", "summary": "I took a wild turtle indoors and patiently waited for 45 minutes while it crawled across the room to me, thinking it wanted to be friends. all it wanted that whole time was to bite me."}
{"id": "t3_2e0svk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [23 F] of 9 months, have been having some problems of late and I said something stupid and hurtful today.", "post": "So today we were in class working on an assignment and she was continuously exclaiming that she didn't understand what was going on. She seemed to be ignoring me when I asked if she needed help. She turned to our classmate and asked her. The other classmate didn't know and pointed to me for clarification, so I stated why she (GF) didn't ask a teacher. She said she didn't want to. So I mistakenly said that she should stop bitching about it. \n\nNow she is enraged with me and won't speak to me at all.\n\nI believe that my statement stemmed from both exhaustion and overall confusion and annoyance that I've had with her the past 6 months. \n\nWe just got back from summer break and I hadn't seen her for about 3 months. Upon reuniting she seemed pretty uncaring and not very excited about the whole situation. \n\nThe first two months of the situation were great, but now she doesn't seem to care or ignores me at times. We see each other in class but that's about it besides the occasional day where we get together. I've been down emotionally and almost borderline depressed about how the relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere even though I deeply care for her. For the most part it is just me consoling her since she has had some family issues the past few months. She says that she loves me but I don't know if she really means it anymore.", "summary": "I've been having issues getting closer to GF past few months and said something stupid and hurtful. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2co018", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help and I don't know were to turn. Please help me. Not sure who to ask for help.", "post": "I (M30) never thought that me of all people would be writing this. In the last 6 months my fiance cheated on me, left me to be a stripper, tried to take our daughter from me, accused me of DV, and I feel destroyed. This girl is someone I have been in love with for over 7 years. I know I need to work on myself and I was not perfect but I'm not sure I can do this anymore. We have really tried to be peaceful for the sake of our daughter and I feel like I am collapsing. \n\nMost of my friends from before the relationship have stopped talking to me since the break up and now that I am out of work I have almost no interaction with other people. I feel like I am depressed and not sure what to do. Tonight I started hyperventilating out of nowhere. I am not sure what a panic attack feels like but I am guessing that very fast breathing and crying is the beginning. This lasted for about an hour. I have never asked for help as I always thought that men should not be the one to break down. All of this is on top of I lost my job a little over a month ago, the company closed down, and all of my potential jobs have not panned out. If you actually read all of this than thank you. I am at the end of my rope. My beautiful daughter is the only thing keeping me together at this point. She is also having a really difficult time understanding what is going on as she is only three.\n\nIm not sure if this is the correct place to put this but I dont know where to turn. Thank you.", "summary": "GF cheated and left me and I am really struggling to keep it together."}
{"id": "t3_4px1em", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] need advice on dating my coworker [25M]", "post": "Reddit! A bit of background information, I just reached my 6th week at my new job and since 2 weeks ago I have been 'kind of' dating my colleague. The reason I say 'kind of' is because we've been on 2 dates and I don't really know what I want to do. We get along super well, and I don't feel like I need to try very hard to keep a conversation flowing. He is very charming, funny, full of compliments and for some bizarre reason he likes me (has told me numerous times). I on the other hand, have been told that I'm talkative and very easy to get along with... But I don't know how to respond to compliments. Also, I am from a very conservative Chinese family and he comes from an unconventional Indian family.\n\nHere is my dilemma: Every date we've had has been very awesome, except when it comes to the end of the night... And we both don't know if we want to kiss or just hug it out. It's funny.. We are both super talkative and confident but when it comes to the kiss/ hug game we both shy out and end up hugging. Ok back to the dilemma, I'm still uncertain if I like him in that way or if we would be better as besties. I've always only dated Chinese/ Malaysian guys, and have never had Indian guys on my radar.. But I do find him attractive. I know for a fact my family would be completely against it - but it's not my main issue right now as I'm known to do opposite of what my parents say. Also, we work together (different teams), a lot of my friends are against me dating a colleague but I genuinely don't think there could be any implications... Then again I've never dated a colleague. I'm in this really confused stage where I don't know if I like him in that way or not. I know a relationship is suppose to be between 2 people and no one else matters, but I'm not sure if I can date someone who is from an Indian background - just because I know they would cop a lot of shit from my friends and family.\n\nI don't know what I'm doing...", "summary": "I am kind of seeing a coworker, he's an absolute gentleman but due to his ethnicity, pressure from friends and family I don't know what I want to do."}
{"id": "t3_2ff57w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend [17F] Broke up with me [17 M] after being in a long distance relationship for 6 months 19 days before I was going to see her again and I dont know what to do.", "post": "She's been really distant with me lately, rarely replying to texts and ending calls quickly. She suffers from severe depression and she doesn't think she is mentally stable to be in a relationship currently let alone look after herself. \n\nShe is my first girlfriend and \"first love\" we both love each other ridiculously we even spoke all the time about our future together and we both genuinely wanted to marry each other. I messaged her this morning because I had a job interview and she was a reference on my resume and I asked her if she'd still give me a reference and everything. She told me that of course she would and that she still loves me with all her heart and that she broke up with me because of the state she is in at the moment and she doesnt want to grow more distant and hurt me even more. \n\nI spend literally every waking minute thinking of her and I do nothing but count down the days until I see her next and now its gone and I have nothing and I don't know how to get through this.", "summary": "I don't know how I can possible do this and I really need advice thanks."}
{"id": "t3_l16jz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What am I supposed to do about this? It's driving me INSANE.", "post": "Here's the deal. I'm 16 (m) she's 17 (f, obviously).\nWe've been real close friends for about a year. We have our ups and downs. \n\nMy parents are kind of weird when it comes to me and girls, and they found out that we made out/fooled around a little, and kind of didn't like that...then they found out she offered to take my virginity. They love her to death, and we're crazy about each other, but this whole sneaking around thing sucks. They just don't trust her. Oh, and they're pretty conservative Christians. So am I, but I'm a little more...lenient when it comes to females...\n\nSo, what should I do? I feel horrible lying to my parents about this, and I DO NOT want them to find out that we've been sneaking around for some late night...stuff pretty regularly. Should I just tell them, and try to convince them to approve, or what?", "summary": "In high school. Like this girl. Parents like her, but don't trust her. Me and girl sneak around. Parents can't find out. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sdoqc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So me [22 M] just got told from my girlfriend [21 F] this....", "post": "Basically i'm hanging out with her this weekend and she is already looking up stuff for us to do... I have kind of been lacking on that end because had work + tons of errands to do today. I basically told her that I felt bad  for not looking for things to do this weekend, because she hopped on it before i could.\n\nShe THEN replies to me with this: \"i just wanna make an effort in this relationship, so you see it <3\"\n\nWhat is she thinking? Does she think i don't see her love and affection??? Should I feel bad about this??? What should I be telling her back right now???? I want to make her feel like I care about her...", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks i don't see that she cares about me after a recent talk she kind of had with my mom a few nights ago when i visited."}
{"id": "t3_1c2tje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28m) just moved in with my gf (27f) of 14 months and have second thoughts daily. Is this a sign of issues to come or just my commitment adversion?", "post": "For almost all my post-high school life, I've been single or at the most simply dated. There were a myriad if reasons for this, but for the most part, it never bothered me. \n\nI started dating my current gf 14 months ago, although we worked together and had been acquaintances for approx 3 years before we started dating. She knew who I was and seems to accept my habits like the fact that I smoke pot each night, dedicate alot of time to my new profession as a brewer, watch sports all the time, etc. \n\nNow that we're living together, I can't help but think I may have made a mistake. We get along great and aren't constantly fighting. But part of me still can't shake this feeling of, \"what the hell have I gotten myself into?\".\n\nFor example, my gf is very picky about certain things around the house and for the most part I'm not, but when I do assert myself she gets pretty bent out of shape very easily. She'll get over it quickly when I explain why it's not a big deal, but the fact that she gets all pissy for 10-15 minutes about me wanting to add more pasta sauce to MY raviolis concerns me as it seems like the kind of thing that doesn't warrant a second thought. \n\nThis kind of stuff doesn't happen all the time, but I'm noticing that she sweats the small stuff too much in general, gets stressed out easily it seems and kinda shuts down (quiet, not very responsive, seems sad). Is this something to be worried about or am I just making excuses since I'm not use to such commitment?", "summary": "Been single most my adult life, just moved in with gf and can't help but wonder if I made the right decision due to gf not letting small stuff slide off her back."}
{"id": "t3_2ggb1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [17/f] wanted us to stay friends, i [17/m] promised, she left", "post": "Me and my ex just became strangers. \n\nWe had been in relationship for 7 months, then we broke up. Its a long ass story i dont have time nor the will to feel again. I love her, i truly do, i know though that i am not in love with her, i hope it makes some sense.\n\nWhen we broke up she said some hurtful things, really hurtful, she also hurt me quite a lot while we were together, i know i hurt her too. But i realized it and i promised myself to try to make things better.\n\nAbout a month ago, she apologized for what she said and asked if we could be friends at least, she asked if we could try not to be strangers. I accepted her apology and i wanted to try to make her happy in any way i could, even if we were just friends.\n\nThings were great between us, but last Thursday, she began to ignore me, i texted her to see how she is doing, i asked around if i had done anything, i apologized to her if i had done anything to hurt her. Nobody tells me what happened or why.\n\nMost people told me to ignore her, to forget her. I cant though, i care about her, i promised her that i'd do my best for us not to become strangers. It's really painful. Its much more painful than when we broke up.", "summary": "Broke up with gf months ago, we decided to stay friends, things were great, all of a sudden she forgot i exist."}
{"id": "t3_2wfupt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19F] Worried about future relationships due to past issues.", "post": "So, growing up I had a lot of issues with my childhood. My parents are drug addicts. My mother is a prostitute. My dad is a pimp. I was involved an underground child pornography/prostitution (though no penetration happened) ring. I grew up very severely abused emotionally, mentally, sexually, and physically. \n\nI was really lucky and got out of the ring at around 10 and cut my parents out of my life at 12 (mother) and 15 (father). I went through a couple periods of psychotic depression and anxiety but I've been \"clean\" for the last 2 years. I went through intensive therapy and still go to therapy occasionally. I'm very normal now. I'm a mostly happy person, I have a great support group of friends, I go to university, have a job, and many hobbies. \n\nIn short, I've become a really well adjusted and healthy person and worked really hard to get where I am. \n\nBut after dating for a while I've noticed when these things come to light people don't want to see me any longer. I don't really bring them up but they usually come up by the 4-6 month mark. I make a point of not going into detail. mostly saying that I had a bad childhood; maybe a mention of drug use and not speaking to my parents anymore. Twice now, I've been dumped for the sole reason that my past makes them feel uncomfortable. \n\nI'm still dating now and very happy with my relationships but I'm worried about the next time I get serious with someone and how they'll react but I don't think it's fair to keep things from them if they ask. \n\nSo, my questions are: \n\n* How do I handle these questions?\n* Does my past make me extremely undesirable even though I'm a healthy person now?", "summary": "Had a lot of childhood trauma but am healthy now. Worried about how that reflects on me now. How do I go about bringing this up with people I'm serious with and does my past make me very undesirable?"}
{"id": "t3_1jipj6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a toaster explode", "post": "OK I know yall hate this but its a great story that happened to me 8ish years ago.  Enter a very hungry Korinthia into the kitchen. Ohshit.jpg leftover toasted raviolis! (for anyone not from the midwest, more specifically St Louis, these are breaded and fried meat ravioli, fucking delicious) So I'm like no way I'm ruining these by tossing them in the microwave, no sir these are going to be reheated properly in the toaster oven. Now this wasn't any toaster oven, this was a great cook-your-food-perfect-every-time toaster oven, this was a my parents wedding gift toaster oven. So I pop those suckers in and commence heating my delicious taste sensation. 13 year old me is like hey do you know what would be a great idea? Fuckin around on the computer for 6 minutes thats what! *45 minutes later* *sniff sniff* What the fuck is bur..OH SHIT. As i sprint towards my kitchen its clear my whole house is full of smoke. I approach the toaster oven to discover that my precious ravioli have turned into several flaming charcoal briquettes. So i grab the door to open it and immediatly burn my hand. I grab a towel and open the door. SHIT SHIT wtf am i gonna do. So genius 13 yo me throws a glass of water at the flaming ravioli. For those of you that arent aware hot glass+cold water=explosion. The glass door on the toaster exploded sending glass everywhere. The glass lands on my kitchens hardwood floors leaving numerous large scorch marks (that are still there to this day). Needless to say my parents werent pleased. My whole family still bitches about the shitty toasters weve had ever since and my mother still teases me about ruining her floors.", "summary": "Threw water on flaming food in toaster glass door explodes leaves scorch marks on hardwood floors and ruins toaster. whoops"}
{"id": "t3_hjad8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, today I had the shittiest day of my existence. What happened today that made you smile?", "post": "The girl of my dreams just ripped out my heart and crushed it into microscopic dust. (Through Tumblr...) I also almost got killed today due to my motorcycle malfunctioning and spilling gas all over the road. (And that will cost an arm and a leg to repair, I found out) Then I came home to seeing half my book collection ripped to shreds by my dog. (My fault actually, I left them in boxes on the floor while I painted my room.) I take joy at seeing other people happy or smiling. So raise my spirits up and tell me what made you smile today.", "summary": "Had a depressing and shitty day. O take joy in the happiness of others. Tell me something that happened to you that made you smile."}
{"id": "t3_47hqn2", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Finding out your passion/major", "post": "I'm a senior in high school now and I'm nearing the end of my final year.  Picking out colleges, what major to go into all that fun stuff.  For my major I'll be going into Computer Engineering due to the fact that I've spent all of my life so far on the computer, so why not make it my job?\n\nI've listened to numerous college students who were incredibly passionate during their presentation and it made me wonder if me going into Computer Engineering is a good idea after all and if I'd enjoy it. It's pretty much all I've got going for me so, I'm guessing I should stick with it?", "summary": "I know work isn't supposed to be fun, but was there a moment in your life you just knew what major you wanted to go into?"}
{"id": "t3_8ytwo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "University-educated Redditors: If someone tells you they have a Bachelor of Arts Degree, do you automatically assume they are your intellectual inferior, regardless of what they majored in?", "post": "Background: I always thought that because of the way different faculties are structured at Universities -- or \"College\" if you will -- that the \"Arts\" faculty covers a broad range of legitimate areas of study. \n  \nI myself work full time in a sales job and have been thinking about doing a dual degree with Education and a Foreign language, but whenever I mention to anyone that it's an Arts degree, I have people ask me why I am \"wasting my time\", and saying things like \"Why don't you do Law or Medicine instead? You're smart enough\".  \n  \nAt my office job today, a fellow employee was going through r\u00e9sum\u00e9s for a position and rejected an application out of hand because the candidate had a Bachelors Degree in Arts. They said it was a \"nothing\" degree; I find this humerous because the position in question does not call for a tertiary education.  \n  \nI'm ranting so I'll rap this up.", "summary": "Anyone on Reddit have an Arts degree? If not, what's your take on the subject?"}
{"id": "t3_4dx1sf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] found a great place to live, with a small catch. The house is owned by a 80 year old woman who lives downstairs and sublets two big bedrooms upstairs.", "post": "Hello folks,\n\nI relocated to Boston and have been searching for a place to live in Greater Boston for the last few weeks. Last night, I found a place through a friend. It is an old colonial house in a very upscale neighborhood.\n\nThe house is owned by an 80 year old woman whose husband just passed away. She is spending most of the pension going to Rabbinical school and is renting out two bedrooms on the second floor of the house. Not overtly religious, former English teacher and a very very nice person with good neighbors.\n\nShe is offering me one of the bedrooms upstairs (they are both pretty big) and full access to every amenity in the house for a competitive rate.\n\nMy question mostly comes down to:\n\n1. Should I, as a single 29 year old male live in a house that is owned by an 80 year old woman? \n\n2. Living with someone and having a nice friendly conversation are two completely different things. This lady hasn't lived with roommates in her life and I am not sure if she would be up to it. Also, I don't want to end up being bossed around by the \"owner\" regarding rules, guests, etc. She says that she has no problems with any of those things, but I am not sure she understands that there might be some adjustment required on her end too.\n\n3. Finally, if something were to happen to her (she's pretty old), what would be my responsibility as a tenant? Would I be expected to take care of her to some extent? That is a dealbreaker, I can't do that for various reasons.\n\nAny advice is appreciated. If someone has lived with an older adult with a huge age gap, personal experiences would be invaluable here!", "summary": "29 M found a place to life with 80 F for competitive rate, but not sure if it is a good idea."}
{"id": "t3_1hrmtq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I reading way more into this than I should?", "post": "Me(26f) and my ex(24m) split up about 2 months ago after being together for just over a year. He went full NC and maintained it. I am the weaker one out of the relationship and couldn't maintain NC for the life of me. \n\nHe went away with the military the middle of June. Before he left he asked me to not send him any letters. He pretty much said he still cared about me but it wouldn't work out. Fast forward two weeks and I was making a grocery list and found a hidden note that me must have wrote a long time ago. The note said \"I love you with all of my heart. I always will. Love, MrX\" I was really upset and put it in an envelope with a note saying \"I found this today and it almost killed me\" and mailed it to him. I wasn't expecting a response and then I checked the mail today and he wrote to me. He mailed it back to me with a note that said, \"You clearly haven't been grocery shopping lately\"\n\nI smiled at first but then I started thinking. Is he joking with me? Or is he saying that this happened a long time ago and not anymore? I am really confused. I am surprised he contacted me but why would he mail it back knowing how upset I was the first time? Do you think he is saying he still feels this way, or maybe he just doesn't want it back?\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "Ex wrote to me and now I am confused what it means."}
{"id": "t3_31h4p1", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "HELP! Sores on my dog's feet", "post": "Our female pitbull has been getting these swollen sores on her feet.  About four months ago they started with blisters on the webbing between the toes.  We took her to the vet and the vet pulled out a cactus needle and said that needles had probably caused the blisters.  He gave her a week of antibiotics and the blisters shrunk a little.  As soon as she went off the antibiotics, the blisters swelled up with a vengeance.  We took her to the vet again and he prescribed us a liquid antibiotic along with the previous antibiotic pills.  He also gave us an iodine foot wash.  During this time we tried soaking her feet in epsom salt baths and using anti-bacterial/anti-fungal sprays on them.  We also gave her little dog booties so she couldn't keep licking them.  Again, the sores kind of calmed down.  Off the medicine a day, BOOM, sores flare back up.  This time around the sores are all over her feet and starting to make her back feet misshapen.  We took her to the vet a third time and he prescribed steroids.  These worked like a miracle for the length of the prescription.  She was jumping and running around and looked great.  As soon as the steroids ran out, her feet exploded in sores.  We just went through a longer and stronger dose of the steroids this week.  The paws in the front aren't as bad but again when we ran out of the steroids a few days ago, her back feet have turned into these malformed, balding, seeping pads of doom.  We've tried changing her diet to a complete grain free organic sort of deal, and her coat has gotten a remarkable shine, but the feet are still awful.  I'm at my wits end with this.  She's so miserable, and the vet said long term it could cause organ failure and death.  Has anyone else experience this?  Any suggestions?", "summary": "my dog has sores all over her feet that are resistant to all treatment so far, need suggestions"}
{"id": "t3_34l5pw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making it look like I was laughing at a girls mom in the er", "post": "This happened today and I still feel pretty bad about it..oh boy. \n     I was in class, done with my work, and bored. It's important to the story to tell you that I have an extremely glitchy iPhone 4. Well..I opened Facebook. I saw that this girl I hardly know posted a picture of her mom in the emergency room and that she wasn't doing good. I tried opening the picture to see the comments, because why not. \nThat's when my phone froze, it does this often. \n     I started randomly clicking the screen because I was frustrated. At this point I was hardly paying attention, but I started accidentally typing a comment. You know how you can add stickers to comments on Facebook? Yeah, I did that. \n     It was a sticker of this fish/man saying \"HAHA\". And then I accidentally posted it. \nAnd then the bell rang for lunch, so I didn't realize it for about a half an hour. Plenty of time for people to see what I posted.\nAnd then the comments started flooding in.\n\"What's wrong with you?\" \"What's your problem\"", "summary": "girls mom was in er, she posted it to Facebook, made it look like I was laughing about it, people got pissed"}
{"id": "t3_2qyqd7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [19F] friend [19M] wants to hang out with me tonight, but I already have plans...", "post": "I've made plans with a group of friends yesterday for New Year's Eve. Today, my close friend, let's call him Josh, wants to hang out. Josh and I have only started being close for about half a year - but during that time we've gotten really close. If I tell him that I'm hanging out with my friends, he'll probably want to join in, because I sometimes include him with my other friends, but this hangout was supposed to be a bit more intimate. Josh has hung out with them before - only once - so he's not as involved in this group. I don't want to purposely exclude him, but I'm not quite sure how to handle this situation. Am I being unreasonable?", "summary": "Friend wants to hang out with my friend group, which I was supposed to be having a more intimate get together with. Don't want to exclude him, but don't know how to let him down."}
{"id": "t3_21t50q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (30m) found out fiancee (36f) was lying by omission about something we both agree is important. I feel lost.", "post": "We started dating 8 years ago, were together for about a year,  broke up for a few, and got back together about two years ago. I asked her to marry me two months ago and she said yes.  Two days ago  one of our mutual close friends told me that he slept with my fiancee while we were broken up. He said that it was once, they were both drunk and the next day she said to never speak of it to anyone. The two of them were friends before i met them both but i have since become great friends with him. \n\nTo give some short background on me, i am an insecure person with trust issues. I try to work on my trust issues, but i don't think I'll ever be able to trust anyone fully without reservations.  On top of this, i have a tendency to overreact. I believe this has made my fiancee not fully trust me and therefore  if she thinks something will upset me she won't tell me. \n\nAfter my friend told me about them sleeping together i confronted my girlfriend about why she never told me. She said she didn't want to upset me and apologized.  She was very upset during the conversation and wants us to stay together. I love her very much  and can't envision my life without her but all the trust i was building with her seems gone. I think right now i am trying to reconcile how much of this is attributed to my lack of trust in the first place. i feel like i should make her feel comfortable to tell me anything, but clearly she doesn't feel comfortable telling me everything. She said she was probably going to tell me at some point but didn't have a plan for when.  She also didn't come forward with any other secrets (I didn't ask either, but i think i almost would have felt better if she had something else to tell me). \n\nI think my next course of action will be some type of counseling for my issues, which is long overdue anyway.   My point of this post is to get some other viewpoints.", "summary": "Fiancee lied by omission. I love her and want to trust her but don't know if i can."}
{"id": "t3_4a5htz", "subreddit": "books", "title": "12 Books In 12 Months Post 6: Dubliners by James Joyce", "post": "Book 6 was an important point for me, as it's half-way into my challenge. As it's only mid-March I think I'll have to increase my quota and try for 25 books, which is just under one every two weeks, or just over two per month.  \nDubliners was a good read. I went into it completely blind other than where it was set (well duh), and so I was surprised when it turned out to be a collection of short stories with no ultimate pay off to tie them all together.  \nBut surprise, at least this one, can be good, and I really enjoyed this. It is, in fact, my second favourite book written before WWI, second to A Doll's House by Henrik Ibsen, which is really a play. I haven't read many books, mind, as I've only had 3-5 years of sufficient literacy to read classics.  \nIt paints a lovely picture (perhaps the wrong word?) of the town, and I think there *is* a pay-off at the end in the form of 'The Dead', which is my favourite of all the stories.  \nI have, in the past, complained about individual versions of books ruining the experience, and while this one wasn't that bad, I found the notes quite intrusive. Most of the cultural allusions seemed pretty obvious to me, but I can see that it was perhaps for a US target market instead of a British one. Did I really need it explaining to me that the Isle of Man is a quasi-republic island between Ireland and Britain, popular with holiday-makers? No. Nor did I need telling that a chalice is 'the cup in which [communion] wine is offered up'. Even worse, is the fact that some things were missed. The phrase 'Deravaun Seraun' which has so many interpretations and re-interpretations that could be mentioned, is explained with, 'This phrase still baffles scholars'.", "summary": "? Read it, but dodge the Wordsworth Classics edition."}
{"id": "t3_3mrzj9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] [1yr], do I tell him my ex will be at a mutual friends wedding?", "post": "Hi relationships,\n\nThis is sort of silly but something I have been going back and forth on for a few weeks now. I have been dating my amazing boyfriend for just over a year and in a month or so we are traveling to my home country for my best uni friends wedding. He has visited once before to meet a different group of college friends and had a great time and everyone loved him. I am so very excited for my best friends wedding in a few weeks except for one overshadowing issue. \n\nMy ex-boyfriend who I dated for 1.5yrs in university will also be in the wedding party, we ended on really rocky terms. He hurt me badly and I didn't react well, it's not something I'm proud of. I ended up losing several friends in the process which is something I still feel a lot of guilt and shame about but have chalked it up as a learning experience and think I am more mature for the experience. My ex and I are more or less cordial but I have yet to tell my boyfriend that this guy will be at the wedding. I usually am the first to advocate for open communication and honesty, but this feels like a potentially double edged sword. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend by telling him therefore making him think there is still something there and this guys presence is something he should be worried about, but on the flip side I also don't want him to think I am intentionally hiding something from him.\n\nMy boyfriend already knows that I am anxious about the wedding and seeing people who I have not seen in 4+ years. Do you think it is okay to leave it at that high level, knowing that he has no interest to hear about past relationships, or should I give him a heads up about my ex? I have discussed with my therapist who thinks high level would be fine but I am leaning toward telling him just in case someone says something at the event.  I truly do not want to cause smoke where there is no fire if that makes sense, since I have no feelings toward my ex and absolutely do not want to hurt or worry my boyfriend unnecessarily.", "summary": "my boyfriend and I will see my ex at a big event with a lot of my old college friends, should I tell my bf my ex will be there or let sleeping dogs lie?"}
{"id": "t3_2ir9py", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years, Confused and probably shouldn't be.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are long distance. We have had ups and downs but we love each other and I'm feeling a little confused. We don't have a lot of opportunities to see each other because we both work and go to school. We see each other around once a month. \n\nAfter not seeing her for a while, she begins to get more distant and cold through text or phone and it is very boring talking to her. She assures me she is acting completely normal but I can tell there's a difference. \n\nA few days ago, I saw her and since then, she's been very flirty in text and will try to talk to me several times a day. Before, it was usually once a day or two, now she sends me multiple messages if I don't respond immediately. I was in her position before I saw her. I was trying to talk to her and she was being distant. So now, I feel uncomfortable and I don't know if I should just let it go, or if I feel justified in being frustrated with this.", "summary": "Girlfriend gets really friendly after seeing me, then it dies down."}
{"id": "t3_23m8am", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] and My ex [20 F] broke up after [6 months] a few weeks ago. She kissed my roomate last week.", "post": "I dated a girl for a little over 6 months. She broke up with me because I wasn't able to open up and be normal. I have always found it hard to express my feelings to people (friends, family, etc). We have to see eachother a lot becasue she is still friends with my friends and me I suppose.\n\nA week ago I had a suspicion that her and my roomate did something. I wasn't sure what though. I asked them about the night in question but didn't explicately ask them if they did anything. Neither of them said anything. Yesterday my friend told me that he heard something about it. I aske my roomate and he told me no he didn't. I then asked my ex she said they kissed when they were drunk at a party. My roomate finally came up to me and wants to talk tonignt.\n\nThis entire time I have been feeling like asking any of these questions to her would ruin her day, which it sounds like it did. My roomate want's to talk to me tonight over a beer to fully explain how it happened. And the fucked up thing is this entire time I still love my ex and still want to be with her. Sorry this has become a wall of text I guess.", "summary": "Ex and roomate kissed, I'm pissed and want to know If i still should try with her and any other advice about the subject would be helpful."}
{"id": "t3_45t59o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (19/F) is afraid to do go against her parents wishes. Thoughts?", "post": "My girlfriend and I (22/M) have been dating for about 2 months. I just graduated and she is still in school, staying on campus. I am going on a overnight trip to the beach next weekend and really wanted her to come with me. \n\nShe asked her parents and they said no. This then became a much bigger issue of independence and I really encouraged her (or pressured) to tell her parents instead of ask, as she is an adult and I would like an adult relationship. \n\nThe conversation finished by me saying that I viewed her independence as a threat to our relationship, and that because I really care about her and don't want to get hurt, I would like to get this straightened out. \n\nAm I being unreasonable and any other ideas on how I should approach it?", "summary": "Girlfriend (19/F) has parents that won't allow her to stay over anywhere with me. I am concerned about how independence plays a role in our future relationship. Am I being unreasonable and any other approaches I could take?"}
{"id": "t3_30ke96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This situation is tearing me up?", "post": "(M/17 about F/17)\n\nThis girl I really like has a boyfriend. They've been dating for a couple years. I ain't gonna try nothing unless they break up, but its unlikely. Anyway I feel like she's teasing the HELL OUT OF ME! Every time I see her in the halls or wherever, there's almost ALWAYS physical contact. (She always bumps into me and stuff.) And if they do break up and I do pursue, I feel like I'd be a downgrade compared to her \"Ex\". Anyway to get over this or anything? \n\nSorry. Seemed more of a rant. I just don't know what to do. Its taking a toll.", "summary": "I really like this girl who teases the hell out of me but I know I can't ever get her. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_mu12b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Crush from 6 Yrs Ago Turns into Passionate Night and Leaves Both Confused.", "post": "While on holiday leave, I decided to make dinner plans with a friend from college, whom I haven't seen in 6 years.  We decided on dinner and then meeting friends at a bar.  We both really liked each other back in the day, but were never single at the same time.  I repressed my feelings for her since then and it wasn't until dinner that they came back in full swing.  We confessed we liked each other and then everything turned romantic from there.  The sparks flew when we had our first kiss, 6 yrs after liking each other.  We then made out in all of the most inappropriate places downtown that night.  We went to a friend's house afterward and things got very passionate and heated.  Neither of us got any sleep.  We parted ways with an intense hug and kiss.  I made my 8.5 hour drive back to my base and she went back to the city she lives in now (an hour away, as we both met in our college town).  She said she didn't want anything, but that our intense feelings confused her.  I'm a Marine and she has a good job back home that she doesn't want to leave.  Was this just a fling?  It was feelings from 6 years ago and they seemed to be stronger, however we just recently got back in touch.  I need advice on how to interpret the situation.", "summary": "version:  girl and I (friends from 6 yrs ago, both had feelings for one another) met up one night and had intensely passionate night.  My job is 8.5 hrs away from her job. I'm military and she's has a specialized job. Was it a fling?"}
{"id": "t3_3tnarx", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Discussion] Should I get a dog if I live on my own?", "post": "Hi all, not sure if I selected the right tag or not but I wanted to get your opinions and advice on a predicament I have.\n\nNext year my wife and child are going to move out as we are going to get divorced. As horrible as this will be, I need to focus on the future and for myself to be happy.\n\nOne thing I have always wanted to do and couldn't when my wife was here was to get a dog. I grew up with dogs and love them.  I have really wanted a dog for years but my wife didn't want them. \n\nAnyway, as I would be divorced, it would mean I would be living on my own (in an apartment). I am concerned that it wouldn't really be fair on the dog to work a full time job and only spend time with it in the evenings and have it stay at home all day on its on.\n\nWhat are your thoughts and opinions on this sort of case? Particularly dog owners who live on their own - what do you do? \n\nAnother important matter is that I live in this country on my own, so I couldn't have family come over and see it etc (they are all back in England, whilst I'm in the USA).\n\nAnyway, sorry for the long post, but I wanted to see what you all thought on this? What advice you may have or if you can think of any tips? As much as I would love to get a dog, I want to get it in the right circumstances so I can be sure it is happy", "summary": "Want to get a dog but live on my own. Is it fair on the dog or what tips could single dog owners give?"}
{"id": "t3_vtejt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cat has started humping my feet in my sleep. How can I make his stop.", "post": "Okay cat experts of Reddit. He has never done this before we moved about 2 months ago and separated him from his two other cat friends. At first, I thought he was just being weird and kneading this soft blanket I keep on the bottom half of the bed (because my feet get cold). I thought he just wanted some extra attention. So one night I pulled him up off my feet and into my arms when I saw, with overwhelming horror, his little kitty lipstick. Okay, I almost never see his cat boner, but there it was. So it started getting really weird each time I woke up to him essentially rubbing his junk on my feet, underneath this fluffy blanket. I kinda feel sexually objectified by my cat. He does this multiple times nightly, and its still just as horrifying each time to wake up in the middle of the night to this. Now I just kind of kick him off the bed, but he keeps coming back. He's not getting the message. My friend's cat does the same thing (in different circumstances) so I know im not alone, but she can't figure out how to make him stop either. Please help, Reddit!", "summary": "my cat is a perve and I can't get him to stop."}
{"id": "t3_1q06le", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my ex [19 M] of 2 1/2 years have split for good. Need help letting go.", "post": "We were involved in an awful, toxic relationship that we are both better off without. We are children who have absolutely no idea how to maintain a healthy relationship so we decided to call it off. Problem is, he's moving on like nothing happened, adding a bunch of new girls on Facebook (some he doesn't know) and is extremely happy without me. It's his right seeing as we're broken up. I, on the other hand, get devastated at the thought of him with someone else and hate thinking about it. I keep wondering if he's going to reconnect with the girl he cheated on me with since I am no longer around and the only reason he dropped her was because she destroyed our relationship. I can't bring myself to flirt or date yet, I'd rather get my emotional/mental state secured and get a start on my own independence. My question is, how do I stop thinking about what he's doing? How do I stop wondering who he's with? How do I stop fearing that he's dating the same girl he cheated on me with? How can I pick up with my life and stop worrying about what is no longer my business?", "summary": "I need to know how to move on with my l life and not care what he does with his."}
{"id": "t3_3r42d8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Rx seized without permission by security", "post": "So my girlfriend and I went to a deftones show at the ventura majestic theater last night in Ventura, CA. When entering we consented to a search, we had nothing to hide. The girl going through my girlfriends purse spotted two containers with pills. One was an unmarked container with advil, the other was a rx for Bactrim. She immediately gave the rx bottle to her \"medic\" who locked it up. She started protesting and another guy said he was the medic and that he locked it up because the label was \"scuffed and said something about a phenyl\". He told is we could get it back after the show. Fast forward to close to the end of the show, and we come back. The second guy told us to call on Tuesday to get our drugs back. When we asked why he said because he had been trying to help us all night and my girlfriend had been a \"pain in the ass\" We called the cops and right before they showed up he gave us the pills back and kicked us out for no reason. When my girlfriend inspected her pills he said her molly was no longer in there (neither of us have ever even seen molly) We asked for his license number, to store rx meds it's our understanding you need a D.E.A. license? He refused. Anyway, we got the pills back and we got a incident number. Do we have any rights, is there a police report we can file or ???? Thanks y'all!", "summary": "Rx seized without permission, do we have legal rights, is it worth talking to a lawyer? Can we file grievances with someone?"}
{"id": "t3_oyf8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wondering if anyone could help me with medication?", "post": "Some background first: I'm a 17 year old girl, senior in high school, diagnosed with ADHD in the 3rd grade. Started taking a generic Ritalin when I was diagnosed, and a couple of years ago I was switched to generic Adderall.\n\nFlash forward to now: I saw a link about nicotine helping with ADHD, and i did a bit more research on it. Getting 4mg nicotine gum seems like it would be less expensive and easier to take, since I could find it or get it shipped to me while in college. Has anyone ever tried or knows someone who has taken nicotine to help their ADHD? Any information is appreciated.", "summary": "Does nicotine work for ADHD?"}
{"id": "t3_267fbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] ex-girlfreind [28F] of 1 year (NC that entire year, dated for 2 years) randomly texted me the other day.", "post": "We've been broken up and absolutely no contact for a year when suddenly she texts me out of the blue that:\n\n\" This guy at the fair I am at looks so much like you that it is crazy. The only difference is that he has a goatee. I am really glad you decided against growing it while we were together. This is why I told you it wouldn't look good on you.\"\n\nThen she attached a photo of the guy. He looks vaguely like me and the photo shows her posing with him at the fair.\n \nI texted her back immediately with \" LOL. I am good at with not having  grown it. You had a valid point.\" I attached a picture of me and then I asked her how she was with a simple \" How are you doing? I hope you are well. It has been forever. \"\n\nAnd she never responded. We both have iphones and I got a read receipt but she never responded back. \n\nWe had a pretty emotional break up after she miscarried. I blamed her getting pregnant on purpose in the heat of the moment but later apologized. She attributed the miscarriage to the stress I caused her by throwing accusations at her but she later apologized for blaming me.  \n\nIt was a pretty mutual split and we both asked for quiet time to get over it.\n\nI'd like to know how she is but I don't want to push her to responding and it is so weird to hear from her after a year. \n\nHow do I proceed?   Can I ask her to catch up?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend contacted me after a year of no contract randomly. I need help not looking like a fool for wanting to catch up and know how she is."}
{"id": "t3_48uzqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] She recently became a stripper.", "post": "Alt account for the usual reasons. I don't necessarily need advice, but if you want to give some, it will be appreciated. Otherwise, general discussion is fine with me.\n\nSo, my girlfriend (soon to be fiance) recently landed a job as an dancer at a strip club. This has been a dream of hers for a very long time. I am very proud of her for **FINALLY** getting over her fears and going for it and living her dream out. And she's making a TON of easy money.\n\nI'm not the jealous type, within reason. I'm also all for sexual liberation for everyone. I thought I would be 100% fine with her stripping. But when she got home last night and she told me about her first night, I felt a few pangs of jealousy. I felt like this the most when she told me about the lap dances she did.\n\nFor a second I considered asking her to not go back. \n\nEven thought I knew she would immediately drop the job if I asked her to, for several reasons, I didn't. The main one being that she's wanted this for so long, I can't ask her to give up her dream just as she embarking. I also trust her 100%. Some other reasons are she can't even interact with clientele outside of the club because of my city's strict vice laws and the same laws prevent strippers from being fully nude. The clubs here are called 'bikini bars' for this reason.\n\nThe club has a ban on boyfriends, which I am fine with. Honestly, I think the more distance between me and that side of her life, the better. Though I do plan on making a clandestine trip to club. I want to make sure its a safe environment for her. Not that I don't think she's capable of determining that on her own, it would just make me feel better to know its not full of dangerous types.\n\nHas anyone had their SO start stripping? Any current/former strippers? How do your SO's feel about it?", "summary": "GF became a stripper, I would like to discuss being a stripper's boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_22ex7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my best friend(?)[25 F] of 5 years, I was excluded from the group we were both in", "post": "So, the title pretty much says it. Me and my (former?) best friend Annie were in a group together with two other girls (Jayden and Erica). I knew J way before we started hanging out with the other two, but she was always a bit hot/cold to me. Long story short we start hanging out with the four of us, things are going great. All of the sudden, I'm being excluded from the group, without being informed by anyone. (This is not the issue here, it's their loss, I'm over that).  \n\nBut since we started meeting as a group, I've become best friends with Annie. So when I asked her what's up with the excluding, she said she didn't know what I was talking about, that she didn't know, that it wasn't her a fault because she wasn't the hostess at those evenings, and in the end: 'I don't want to stand in between the two of you.' So obviously, sth has happened, the other two are being all high-schooly about it, and she feels she has no other choice but lying to me, because she doesn't want to lose either of us.   \n\nOver the next few weeks they continue to meet each other, without me, and Annie and I meet separately. But things are off and awkward, I feel like I can't tell her things, she's always on her phone and becoming more and more distant, still acting like nothing has happened.   \n\nSo here's the thing: I don't know how to be friends with someone who is holding things from me, and has agreed with other people to exclude me from a group. I really understood where she was coming from, not wanting to choose, but it's driving us apart. And I think the whole thing is just so damn childish and immature, I don't know if I even want to be friends with her anymore.", "summary": "Was excluded from a group involving my best friend, don't know whether or how to be friends with her."}
{"id": "t3_scynx", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Disgruntled, nearly finished PhD candidate considering 'academic suicide'", "post": "Four years ago I started a PhD project, which is now nearly complete. I will most likely submit my dissertation in a matter of weeks. As much as I enjoy doing research in my field (philosophy and sociology), I have become increasingly dissatisfied with academia: the lousy work-life balance, the never ending quest for funding and platforms to publish one's work - not to mention the 'publish or perish' atmosphere. More importantly, I strongly lament the lack of creativity in academic research and the lack of connections between research and life outside of academia.\n\nI understand that some of these issues may depend on the institution where I worked, but I fear that any academic job will be suffocating in terms of other interests I consider to be worthwhile (Chinese medicine and music).. and why dedicate yourself to an intense line of work when you don't really believe in it?\n\nI've considered following an altogether different path. I have studied various courses at a school for Chinese medicine, which could very well open up interesting prospects in the future (e.g. becoming an acupuncturist). I have some experience with ICT, so I can probably make ends meet before I reach that point. This is a path accompanied by many uncertainties, but it would allow me to take a proactive stance towards my career and could lead to something fulfilling, engaging, and helpful to the outside world.\n\nCalling all (former) academics or other people who might feel strongly about career shifts: why did you decide to leave academia and take a rigorous turn in your career? How did it turn out?", "summary": "fed up with academic research, looking for something more fulfilling. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_o5c1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear straight females of Reddit: Have you ever thought you might be bi?", "post": "Ok. So you might think if a woman is straight, its obvious she's not interested in another female. I beg to differ\nAccording to my newest theory, most women have sexual desire toward each other. but some/most (it really depends on the country and the society they are living in), choose consciously or unconsciously to ignore those feelings. it could be because of their religious belief, fear of being rejected by the society or any other factor.\n\nThe idea behind the theory is pretty simple. If most men enjoy watching some girls on girls action, then most women should enjoy participating in one.\n\nIt's actually based on one of my other theories i had couple of years back, that if most lions enjoy eating zebras, then most zebras should enjoy being eaten by lions. turned out they don't.\n\nBut i guess in my defense, my recent theory is also based on some observations. women do indeed seem to be attracted to each other and checking each other out. they are not afraid of physical contact or talking about very intimate things with each other.(the very same thing that if spotted on any two men, 'gay' label would be inevitable)\n\nSo, the question is, could this attraction be also sexual, even though some of them might not be aware of it? there would be some exceptions of course, but i have a feeling that this theory, is finally the one that I'll be remembered for.\n\nTo the guys of Reddit, if we actually get any response from women, please don't upvote/downvote them. let only women vote their own comments. so we could get a more accurate result.", "summary": "most women are bi, period. give us your thought."}
{"id": "t3_22nk7b", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hi, I'm new here", "post": "So, I found my way over to this sub because I had a discussion with my mom and felt like kind of a hypocrite.  \n\nMy mom is a life-long smoker who despite having cardiovascular issues refuses to give up cigarettes and tonight we had an argument about it.  Her stubbornness is going to lead to an early death or leave her incapacitated in some way, shape, or form.\n\nAnd after I got off the phone with her I felt like a hypocritical prick because even though I am giving her the correct advice and she is absolutely being a dumbass w/r/t her continued smoking....I kinda do the same thing with my weight.  Oh man do I eat like shit.  Can't do that anymore, I'm almost 33.  I'm going to have a heart attack.\n\nSo, I figure if I'm going to lecture my mom about needing to take better care of herself, I am going to set an example and take better care of myself, too.\n\nI'm currently 5'6 and 175 pounds.  My goal weight is 135 lbs.  Holy crap I can't believe I am going to try to drop 40 lbs. at my age.  Is it possible?  We'll see.  Gonna try, at least.\n\nThe plan is to start C25k and Stronglifts for exercise (which, of course I don't get ANY of) and clean up the diet.  My BP is at the very low end of pre-hypertension and my cholesterol is borderline high and my triglycerides are high.  As such, I'm going to try to stick to a DASH-style diet as best I can over the next 3 months (hence the 90 days SN thing) and then get a new blood panel done.\n\nThank you for reading my brief novella. I did not intend for this to be so long, but sometimes when you write after taking NyQuil the words just flow.", "summary": "Fatass hypocrite wants to drop 40 lbs. so that he's no longer a fatass, just a hypocrite."}
{"id": "t3_1s61t0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] In person my girlfriend [18/F] is amazing. When texting I feel like there is no relationship.", "post": "Hi /r/relationship, so I live around 50 miles away from my girlfriend (we go to different universities), I drive up twice or more a week. We have known each other for around 40 days and we've not been in a relationship for long. \n\nIn my past relationships communication has been fantastic, we have messaged for hours without ever getting bored. But my current gf can't keep up a conversation by text. So because we don't see each other that often I think it is important that we talk a lot. It makes me feel like she isn't that interested, yet she tells me she loves me and in person, it is the best relationship I have ever had. I'll quote the last texts we sent:\n\nMe:\n>Hi sweetie, how's it going? Still lying around watching Breaking Bad?\n>I just realised that now that we have deleted our profiles then we need a new place for sending our stuff \n>Can't believe how much I just want Friday and Saturday to fly by for Sunday :3\n>How's the weather with you? It's terrible here, so I'm worried about you :c\n>xxxxxxxxxxxxxx\n\nHer reply:\n>We'll use email instead! ;) hehe\n>The weather is okay :) Still windy and rainy\n>xxxxxxxxxx\n\nI really like her, an I don't want to lose her.. I just don't know what to do, I feel like she doesn't even like me, yet she says that she does. Or is it normal to not talk much on days where you don't see each other? Am I being a bit clingy?\n\nThanks for any help you give me guys.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't seem interested by text, am I too clingy trying to message to often or is she just disinterested..."}
{"id": "t3_2yefdd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Flatmate (22M) won't leave me (20M) alone. Blew up last night.", "post": "Not even sure where to begin, I have been getting harassed by my flatmate Mike ever since him and his girlfriend (20F) broke up. He thought she ran off with me because we are such good friends and Mike has not let this imaginary vendetta go. I am stuck here for another month or two and need advice on what to do. I have a meeting with my landlord this week and will try to move out earlier.\n\nSo even 3 months after they broke up he still won't stop messing with me and my stuff. Mike has told people of his great plans which involve messing with my food and shampoo. As we no longer talk to each other, he got a mutual friend Gary (20M) to tell me he wants me to pay him money so he wouldn't want to see me harmed. \n\nAfter the latest incident of seeing Mike, he started antagonising me and I punched him in the face. Never been in a fight before or anything but he wouldn't leave me alone and I lost my temper. This was quickly broken up by a few friends and Mike started yelling that he would stab me. \nSo I have been informed that he now wants me to pay him money and buy him beer or he will go to the police and charge me for assault. Not sure how serious this is as I have no experience with the police, fights or crazy crazy people.\n\nJust writing a short version of what happened. Feel free to ask any questions or give any advice on how to proceed...", "summary": "Punched flatmate who was seriously harassing me, made things worse and he still won't leave me alone..."}
{"id": "t3_238ljo", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Cat Diagnosed with FLUTD...diet questions", "post": "So Tuesday I noticed that my 5yr old neutered cat kept trying to urinate but couldn't so I immediately took him to the vet. His bladder was full and plugged. He was put under and cathed and has been at the vet on antibiotics and fluids for the past 36 hours. In short, he was diagnosed with FLUTD and had crystals.   I get to pick him up tomorrow and was told that he will be put of Royal Canin S/O. I am planning on buying the food but after looking up the ingredients I'm not sure if I want him to be eating that long term. He previously was eating Wellness (grainfree) and although the vet suspects that the food could of caused the issue I was wondering if anyone had any experience with a cat with crystals on a healthier food than the vet's prescription. I am going to get a second opinion about his diet from another vet; I'm currently researching what type of questions to ask.", "summary": "Cat has crystals, vet wants to put him on Royal Canin S/O. I looked at ingredient list and not impressed. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1i9bpu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does it seem that the people/governments focus on the issues that usually aren't the most pressing matters?", "post": "First of all, full respect to everything that you have stood behind, or voted on, or had your voice heard on, or believe in. \n\nI'm not here to disrespect that, I just want to be heard on this.\n\nYou look in the last few years on what people have wanted or what the government has promised us. A few of these things including same-sex marriage equality, marijuana legalization, abortion, war on terror, (then there's the stuff we don't want, PRISM etc)... I think you can get the picture.\n\nYou look at the millions of billions of trillions of taxpayers dollars spent on this stuff, and meanwhile, the cost of living is steadily going up, gas prices have steadily been going up, and minimum wage has been frozen for the last few years. \n\nAll of these issues (whether you agree with them or not) are important to someone. So I respect that, but do you think if we focused more on the cost of living/minimum wage, that something could be done about it?", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_zyoa7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M18] seeking advice for a relationship.", "post": "Hey, so I've been dating my girlfriend for one and a half years. I'm a sophomore and she's a freshmen. It's long distance thing, and I was really sceptical at first. We're 13 hour drive long distance, and I just didn't have faith because my last girlfriend broke me pretty bad. But she's... amazing. Really, she's more than I deserve. She's sweet to me every night, she's just the best I could ever ask for. More than that. She's wayyy too good for me.\n\nAnd I know this.\n\nBut... despite it, almost everyday I want to end our relationship. I'm in college as a sophomore and I feel like I'm losing out on some of the best years of my life. I feel like I've been in long distance relationships too long. I feel like I want to be able to go out and get a girl, you know, give it the good ole college try. \n\nBut she's too good for me. And I don't want to lose it. And she doesn't deserve that treatment. She's been nothing but wonderful to me. But I can't help like feeling I need to be out. \n\nI don't know. What should I do? Is this normal? Do I persevere?", "summary": "Girlfriend is too good for me, still want freedom. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_31dwr3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Immediately after sex, my [23M] girlfriend [24F] of 3 months compared my come to her ex's, and doesn't understand why that upset me.", "post": "This is a little awkward for me to share because I don't like to kiss and tell, but it's been bothering me and I can't get it out of my head. I want to know if this is as messed up as I think it is, or if I'm overreacting. \n\nMy girlfriend uses birth control, so we have sex without condoms, but as an extra precaution when I come, I pull out and come on her. The last time we had sex, right after I came, she commented about how much nicer it was that it all sort of pooled into one place (I pull her close to me and it has nowhere to go), unlike her ex, who I guess splattered all over her. \n\nI fully understand that I'm not the only guy she's had sex with. I may even have been open to talking about it in some other context. But to me, when I literally just pulled out and came on you, the last thing I want to hear is anything about your ex, and especially nothing comparing sex with me to sex with him. It threw me off my game for a minute and I got cold/distant. She complained that my reaction hurt her feelings and I could tell she wanted me to apologize or something. It was very late and I was tired, so I did. \n\nThe more I think about it, though, the more it bothers me. I feel like I was right. She's going to think whatever she's going to think, but to vocalize about sex and ex in the same sentence when I was just inside you seems like the height of rudeness. \n\nAm I wrong to feel this way? I'm curious how many of you would find it offensive, or if you think I'm being an idiot.", "summary": "I came on my girlfriend and she compared it to her ex's come. I got upset and she doesn't get why. Am I really the jerk here?"}
{"id": "t3_3dgv7y", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] My [21/m] friend has a gf. Flirtationship or Friendzone?", "post": "Me and a co-worker flirt. There is intimate non-sexual contact and he calls me pet names. I don't really reciprocate the cute pet names because he has a gf whom he says he's slowly distancing himself. He even was hit on by another co-worker and completely ignored her and never mentioned it to me. Additionally, being jealous when I we go out to group events together and I talk (platonically) with other male friends.\n\nI really like him, but a man you take from another girl you'll always have to worry won't be loyal. So I'm unwilling to move forward till he breaks up with her. I understand that I'll be moving away in not too long, so if he doesn't want to leave her I get that.", "summary": "I'm asking reddit do I try to show more signs of interest or do I back off because I made it clear in my mind he has a gf, irrelevant of how his disinterest in her. I'd rather be friends than ruin something over nothing."}
{"id": "t3_2mk5y9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [27] of two years, I saw a text, asked him about it, text is now gone.", "post": "Maybe five or six weeks ago, I was sitting with my boyfriend as he was on his phone. I can't remember why, but at one point he went to his texts and gave it a big scroll back (I didn't see how far). As it came to a stop, a text from \"Diane\" saying \"Fo sho\" caught my eye. I don't know that name, but I didn't really think anything of it, as my boyfriend works freelance and talks to a lot of people, most of whose names I don't know.\n\nOver the next few weeks, I found myself occasionally wondering who Diane was. I didn't want to make my boyfriend feel accused, and I trust him, but after a while I figured what's the harm in asking. I'll ask, he'll tell me she's one of his students' moms or something, and all will be fine.\n\nSo last night after dinner, we were hanging out and I said as casually and not accusing a way as possible, \"hey, I know this is silly and I'm sorry for worrying about something so meaningless, but can you tell me who Diane is? I saw a text from someone by that name while you were on your phone a few weeks ago.\"\n\nHe had no idea what I was talking about. Doesn't know any Diane. He pulled out his phone, went to his texts, and searched for \"Diane\" and the words \"fo sho.\" Zero results. He scrolled back to almost a year, no Diane. He said he was sorry he didn't have an answer but that he hasn't deleted any of his texts. He took me in his arms and promised me he has never lied to me.\n\nSo I guess either he's lying, or I didn't see that text, right? I'm sort of desperate for a third possibility. We've had a wonderful relationship, I have no reason to suspect him of anything. At the same time, I really value my sanity. The idea that I so firmly grasped onto something that wasn't even there is almost more alarming that the thought of him lying to me. How should I handle this??", "summary": "Saw a text from a girl on bf's phone, asked him about it a month later, it's no longer in his phone and he says he didn't delete anything. Need advise."}
{"id": "t3_uubos", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most up to date theory on how the universe was created?", "post": "I was watching a show on the Discovery Chanel and it was all about the origins of life and the universe (it was a Stephen Hawking show) and although I found it very intriguing, I found parts of it hard to follow. To anyone who watched it as well and has a better understanding, or anyone who can explain this theory to me in an easier to comprehend manner, I would very much appreciate your responses. \n\nWhat I was able to pick up from the show and understood is that \n1. Time did not exist before the big bang, and it is within the laws of nature for the big bang to have started from nothing, and the two things needed to create a universe are space and matter/energy\n2. That's about it. \n\nHow is it within the laws of nature for this to happen? how was the universe once crammed into an infinitesimally small and dense space? \n\nPlease help me understand these things better reddit! I had a hard time even wording my questions because in some aspects I don't even understand what I don't understand D:", "summary": "Big Bang Theories? (not the show)"}
{"id": "t3_11d9vf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Crush of 7 years becomes my GF a week ago, middle of this past week I found out she is Pregnant. What should I do?", "post": "Hi Reddit, Throw away for obvious reasons.\n\nSo we dated a little over a year ago and things didn't work out for a multitude of reasons, nothing bad, just weren't working out. so we went our separate ways. About two months ago we started talking again, just as friends. Last week we decided to give things another try and things were great. Shortly after she started saying that she wasn't feeling well, and decided she was going to get a pregnancy test. She had broken up with her ex shortly after we started talking again as he was an Alcoholic. She got the test the middle of this past week and it came out positive. Now I know its not mine for obvious reasons (haven't had sex) but I'm not sure what to do.\n\nShe doesn't want to involve the father as he's been harassing her since they broke up and due to the fact that he's an Alcoholic. She's against abortion (just personally not oppressively). She did give me the option to bail with no hard feelings seeing as its not mine.\n\nHowever Reddit I present you with this problem. I don't believe I can have Children myself, Never officially tested it out, however I have a few reasons why I think that way. So for me this could be a chance to sudo have a child. On the flip side, It is not my child, I'm working on getting a house that I'm not sure I can afford with mother+baby in tow, and I do believe my parents would likely not approve, as well as quite a few friends.\n\nI guess I just need additional opinions on this. What do you think Reddit? I will answer as many questions as humanly possible and I will accept any answers given.", "summary": "Got together with crush of 7 years and we just found out she's pregnant with Ex's child, What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ogftw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not attending the lessons", "post": "I'm a freshman (civil engineering). I started off by going to the lessons, but soon enough I convinced myself I could study all this stuff by myself  and I didn't need all these lessons. I do want to pass my exams ofcourse, and since they are coming up in exactly a month from now, I started checking the contents of my courses, also I have heard the last lessons each semester are the most important ones for several reasons.\n\nSo this one day - yesterday - I attended a whole day of school. The theory lesson of chemistry was over, I nearly understood it completely (feelsgoodman), next lesson is in 15 minutes. At this point, a cute girl randomly takes place next to me, I have nothing to do and nothing to lose, so I go for it.\n\nStart the chat with a casual \"hi\", seems she is hesitant about talking at first (shy or so idk), her name is Ellen, tell her mine, small talk about school and think about asking her out. Conversation goes way better than expected, she has humour and she's pretty smart too, we come at the point of talking about chemistry (next lesson is an exercise session). Tell her I skip lessons \"now and then\", but I like chemistry and I ask her if she likes it too and maybe we can go out one night to continue what we were talking about.\n\nAt the point where I asked if she liked chemistry, she started looking weird at me. Chat was done, she stood up and said: \"Lesson is going to start. Raise your hand if you need help, Martin. It was Martin, right?\"... \n\n>Mfw she is a PhD student in Chemical Technology and Material Science\u00ad\n\n>Leave the auditorium, will check the exercises at home", "summary": "I asked a PhD if she's interested in her research domain, she corrects exams and knows my first name and what I look like"}
{"id": "t3_1dw540", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Is it time to say goodbye to my best friend ?", "post": "I need advice on the situation and I figured people in this sub reddit may have already had to make a similar choice or can help me with mine.\n\nI have a long hair Persian cat and he is 13 years old, I've had him all these 13 years he was my 4th birthday present. The past week he's been doing nothing but sleep for nearly the whole day, he'll only get up for water every 8hours and he is no longer eating. \n\nI took him to the Vet and they ran some blood tests and scans and it turns out he has kidney failure, the final stages of it so theres no 'cure'. The vet said she was amazed at my cats attitude as he is still purring happily but with his current state of kidneys he must be in a lot of pain. \n\nObviously I don't want him to suffer but I don't want to say goodbye too early, advice please?", "summary": "13 year old cat has kidney failure, little child in me doesn't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_l8xdr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does learning change your brain?", "post": "I don't want to get into a major philosopical/scientific debate. What I want to know is your personal opinion and experience.\n\nOne of my lecturer says that our brain changes the more we study. If we keep on studying, we will be able to learn new things faster and be able to absorb more information. For example if someone is bad at biology and they put the time and effort in. Eventually they will master it and learn new topics quicker then they did at the start.\n\nI'm hoping that is true. I just started college and I am finding it difficult. I can change my study techniques and I am willing to put in effort and the time. However what worries me is that I am in my first year. If I am struggling at this level what will happen in my 2nd,3rd or 4th year? I fear the years of not doing anything but be lazy and watch tv might have taken its toll on my brain. My brain after a while stops absorbing new information and I get a headache. \n\nEither way I'm going to spend the next 8 months treating my class like a full time job.", "summary": "Is the brain like a muscle? Does \"exercising\" by studying change it so that it develops the ability to learn faster and take in more information?"}
{"id": "t3_1hntcp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m] regrets not fighting for relationship with [24/f], doesn't want to make things worse", "post": "So, /r/relationship_advice, me and this girl met up through OKCupid, and initially we hit it off *really* well. That was 2.5 months ago. It was a bit of a whirlwind, and we did tons of stuff together. We had our own interests, which we tried sharing, to mixed results - she was a brewer and a runner, I was a comedy/music geek and a cooking enthusiast.\n\nFast-forward two months, and while the physical side of the relationship is going well, the emotional is floundering a bit, and it's at least in part down to me. I'm really inexperienced with proper relationships, and I got it in my head that the scarcity of shared activities means the relationship is doomed from the off. I really don't know if that's true though - any thoughts?\n\n I started half-assing stuff, because [this'll sound weird] I thought she could never be happy with me and she should seek something better. Well, matters came to a head last week, as she was talking over coffee and I was only half listening, she broke off what she was saying and said we might not have a future because of the very same issue, and I took it as a cue to say I felt the same. Literally 2 minutes later, there was a thunderstorm and we parted without even a hug to escape the deluge.\n\nLooking back, I feel I was sabotaging the relationship [which might not have worked in any case], and ideally, I'd like a do-over. Since we don't live in an ideal world, it seems I've lost the most emotionally mature, thoughtful girl I've ever known. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that, but I just can't stop the hurt and the urge to contact her again [which is probably a super-bad idea]. \n\nWhat should I do? Where to go from here? We introduced eachother to all of our friends, and we run in the same circles anyway, so it'll be super-awkward anyway. Should I let it go? How?\n\nCheers :(", "summary": "I'm tellin y'all it's sabotage."}
{"id": "t3_k1d5j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something, that by looking at you, others would not guess would be true?", "post": "I will try not to inflate my ego, but I am an attractive, popular, athletic man who enjoys sports and is socially healthy. Okay, and now to the point. I've always found it interesting that most people are surprised--based on my appearance and personality--that I am a huge geek. I love talking about technology, science, history, fantasy, sci-fi, gaming... and not just the mainstream topics either. I especially love the look on peoples faces when I go up to an obvious nerd and geek out for an hour or two on various sub-culture topics.\n\nI guess what I am trying to say is that most people are wrong when they judge me by my outward appearance. What others also don't know is that when I was younger, I had few friends, a weight problem, and spent most of my days as a hermit. This is probably how I relate--and in fact am more comfortable--with these activities and interests.\n\nWhat are things that people would not assume by looking at you all?", "summary": "I am what most would consider a 'cool cat' but am a mega-nerd at heart."}
{"id": "t3_3su43w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my partner [32 M] 8 year relationship (first loves) have different goals. Is it time to end it?", "post": "I've been with my partner for 8 years. Live together and are each other's \"first loves\". We were always opposites, and we liked that about each other, but now that we're older, the differences are starting to really get to me.\n\nWe have different goals and ambition in life. The pressure is on me in terms of credit since he has no credit card and pays his bills late. All of our home bills are under my name including rent. I have paid off all of my student loans, built an emergency fund, and now want to start saving for a home. He does not save any money. He also does not drive, even though I've asked him to get his license repeatedly. I'd like him to drive, if we were to ever move to the step of having children. He also does not have a career. Yes, he has a job, but I'd like to see him feel good about himself in a career he's good at. He's been losing hours at work and now wants to work retail for extra hours instead of something where he could make more money.\n\nWhat do I do? I feel like I can't pressure him anymore to get his act together and focus on building a better future as a couple.", "summary": "8 year relationship; different goals; is it time to end it?"}
{"id": "t3_1k6yys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M/19) think that my SO (F/19) is having an emotional affair with me. Am I overreacting and being unreasonable, or should I be worried?", "post": "We're both in college and during the school year, we hang out all the time. However, we live in different cities and during the summer, the amount of time we spend together gets cut down significantly. \n\nShe has guy friends which I don't mind, but she recently met someone from her co-ed sports team and after knowing him for less than two months, I'm a bit worried of how their friendship has progressed. For example, they talk and text to each other every day, talk about their sex lives and other explicit information, their emotions, and other things as well. They make plans to always meet up and work out together, but after they work out, they usually go and get something to eat and they've even seen a movie together at one point. \n\nI've already addressed this to my SO once before that it was making me uncomfortable, but despite that, she continued to talk to this guy and hung out with him one-on-one still. At one point when I was with her, I caught a glimpse of one of her texts saying to him how she was \"disappointed\" that she couldn't work out with him and see him that day when I was supposed to be hanging out with her that day. The second time I talked to her about this, she admitted to liking him a little bit, but would stop talking to him if I wanted her to. Not wanting to be overbearing and possessive, I'm not going to force her to stop talking to him, but it still irks me a lot. But she did seem to realize that what she did was wrong and she would try to fix it. \n\nAnd I mean, the guy is moving halfway across the country to go back to school next week, so they're not going to be hanging out anymore. That's not the point though, the fact that she still showed interest in him by the way she talks to him and how they always hung out makes me want to end the relationship, but I'm not sure if that's the emotional side of me saying it.", "summary": "My SO has been talking to a guy a lot, am I being unreasonable in being annoyed at that? Should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_2qockp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [26F] of 6 months, she got pregnant and wants an abortion", "post": "English is not my native language so I apologize for any mistakes.\n\nWell, how do I start, I fell in love so crazy with this girl, let's call her Sara, I tried and tried for about a year until she gave me an oportunity and things went so fast.\n\nFirst I want to clarify some things about her, she has not intention of having childs in a near future, I do but I wasn't planning too soon.\n\nOne week ago she took a test and it came positive and Sara was devastated, I hug her all night while she was crying and crying, it broke my soul.\n\nShe wants to get an abortion but I don't, there's the thing, it is kind of difficult, in my country it's legal just before 12 weeks, she has 5-6 weeks, and it's just legal in a city 12 hours far away on bus. And it's expensive. \n\nDays ago she accept to have it and we were going to tell her parents, but now she told me that she stills wants to abort, even if she has to take a risky alternative way. I will not let that happen, if she's going to abort, I will let her just by the secure way even if I need to get a loan for pay it.\n\nI have been in financial problems but not so \"big\", and with this, I can ask for a loan to my bank for pay the abortion but that means I have to stay away from university (I have 1 year left to finish...)  I tried to get help with my family but they don't have the money.\n\nThe other thing is that she will not mention it to her family, because they will definitely not let her get an abortion.\n\nAnd even with the money, is going to be difficult get permission from her parents (they're very strict with her staying outside of her house) because it can take to one week the entire process.\n\nI don't know what to do. I love this girl, I want to get marry some day with her, I want so badly to have this child (I can support it even with my debts) but I want to respect her opinion.", "summary": "My girlfriend got pregnant and she wants to have an abortion but there issues with money and her parents not knowing about it"}
{"id": "t3_3wx3bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25m) gf (22f) has made plans to go winter bathing with her friend (22m), and I'm really uncomfortable about it", "post": "I have been together with my gf for about two years now, and living together for one. \n\nThis last week she has been making these plans to go winter bathing and drinking with a male friend of hers. \n\nEven though she tells me that I am supposed to be there too, I can't help but feel that I actually wasn't supposed to join, as the plans had been made completely without input on day and time from me. Because of this, the set date (next Monday) is at a very bad time for me, and I am most likely not able to join. \n\nOn the same note, in thing that make me feel like I wasn't supposed to join, is the fact that I didn't even know about the idea before the day was already set, and I had to find out about it myself when it was written into her calender. \n\nThis whole situation is making me really uncomfortable because I don't find what's gonna happen appropriate without me and I don't know what to do. \n\nJust to clarify. I don't have any problems with her hanging out with her friends. It's the getting drunk and undressed that's bothering me.", "summary": "gf is making plans to winter bathe with male friend. I don't like it and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_378apx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my friend/romantic interest [18F]. Should I ask or should I wait?", "post": "A couple weeks ago, I finally mustered up the courage to talk to a girl in one of my classes and we basically immediately hit it off. We were so alike that it was too good to be true. We haven't stopped talking / texting and usually after class I walk her back to her dorm. Last Thursday I spent like 7 hours in her dorm just talking with her and going on Tumblr and stuff and that was that. Yesterday, I invited her to hang out with my friends and we went ice skating and the whole shabam. She knows I like her because I guess I'm very obvious with my feelings?? (\u25d5\u203f\u25d5\u273f) She told me she had fun even though it was kind of stressful (she's very timid and shy and my friends are very loud/outspoken). She's very comfortable around me so I was just talking to her the entire time. There are approximately three weeks of school left and she goes back home after finals week (she's not from here). And there is a small chance I'll be able to see her during the summer. Question is, should I ask her what she thinks we are, or should I just continue talking to her as friends throughout the summer and ask when school resumes? Thanks for any help.", "summary": "met girl, really like her, spent some time with her, she goes back home in 3 weeks, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_1ixktq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M/F] with my ___ [18M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Problem: I live with two douchebags (and a cat) who are friends of my crush. Whenever my best friend comes over to hang out, they are always thrown into our solo outings, making anything we do an instant group activity. \n\nThe times we are alone are sparse, low-key, and on her agenda. She's expressed interest in me, so inviting my housemates isn't a cockblock, it's just her being too nice.\n\nHer house is a no-go since her parents are bat shit crazy, my house is a no-go because of the people living there; so where do I go? I would prefer somewhere where we can go, have a few drinks, and then make out.\nI can't go to the bar b/c she'll invite her friends, I can't just go to the woods and make out since she'd think it too forward, and I can't use the car because that means one of us would be sober; I'm at a loss.\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "Want a good make out spot that's not too forward"}
{"id": "t3_qapkp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got a problem, what's your advice?", "post": "I have a best friend who has been \"in love\" with a guy several times. First, my friends parents denounced their approval for the guy and my friend to be together. Thus the guy said \"I think I'll move on.\" This tore my friend apart. I comforted her and wiped her tears, gave her my support and she got better. Said guy then wanted my friend back about a month later. She was willing to get back together with him. While they were in \"Pre-relationship\" status (kissing, hugging, movies) he had sex (it was his first time, perhaps that makes a difference?) with an ex and told my friend the day after. Heart broken for the second time she comes over and I comfort her. Same process as before. She breaks it off with him and refuses to see him ever again.\n\nMonth later.....she sees him and forgives him, they have an innocent hug. Week later he goes to her job and kisses her. She does nothing to stop it. They break up over an argument a week later.\n\nShe AGAIN swears not to be with him ever again, but proceeds to \"warm up\" to him once more and tell me.\n\nI have given much of my comfort to my best friend, been supportive for the whole time I've been around her.\n\nWhat should I do? Give my love and comfort indefinitely, while she disregards any advice her other friends give her? Should I refuse to help with this problem any longer?\n\nI need some more insight.", "summary": "My friend is unresponsive to my advice (as well as others) about relationship that has failed 4 times."}
{"id": "t3_3hyl2n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 9 months, she said that if we want to continue this relationship, I need to change, but she didn't tell me why...", "post": "So me [17M] and my girlfriend [17F] have a relationship for 9 months now, and everything looked really good, until two weeks ago. My girlfriend went to Turkey for vacation, with her parents. During her stay she didn't text me much (which I understand) and the times we talked she was not very romantic (normally she says things like: \"I miss you\" or \"I want to lay next to you tonight\") and very distracted.\n\nWhen I picked her up at the airport, she was very tired and didn't want to talk. It's now three days since, and she told me that if we want to continue this relationship I need to change things. I don't know what happened in Turkey with her, and why I need to change myself out of nowhere.\n\nWhat should I do about this? I am very confused and afraid that I might lose her soon. I already feel like shit, and there is little I can do to try to save this relationship. I know she didn't cheat on me with someone else, she is very honest about that. Yet, she doens't love me anymore, and I need to prove myself again to her. I have always been good and sweet to her. What can I do to reconquer her heart?\n\nI know we are young, but she means the world to me. We took eachothers virginity and she's the first girl I kissed, I can't let her go so easliy", "summary": "I need to change without a good reason, otherwise I will lose my girlfriend. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5dso", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [17M] confused with what my friend [17F] is doing.", "post": "Alright, so off and on for awhile we hangout and get close, enjoy each other's company, and then it eventually leads to sexual encounters.\n\nEvery time this has happened, it ends with her abruptly telling me that she has to leave, and I offer to talk to her so I can understand what's going on, but she refuses to talk.\n\nThe sexual encounters that occur are me feeling her up and she pushes against me in a sexual way, reciprocating that she wants it too. I continue to fool around for a bit, enjoying what's going on, then proceed to pull her pants down, Ieaving her underwear between us, and I leave my pants on as this goes on.\n\nNow this is the part that keeps happening. She looks at me with lust in her eyes and bites her lips so I proceed to finger her. This goes on for a bit, but then she abruptly just ups and leaves.\n\n I'm so confused because I'm pretty sure I like her and everything, and I just want to know how to fix this. There's more to this story, but I'll answer the questions as they're asked, such as what kind of person she is, and what her personality is like. Please, someone help.", "summary": "my friend is pushing me away every time we start something sexual. I need to know how to fix it, even if it doesn't involve me getting sex. I just want us to move past this and for us to become something more."}
{"id": "t3_1uuxpg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My dad might be engaged, don't know how to approach it", "post": "First off, my dad is a really strange guy.  He's like that weird moldy stuff in the back of your fridge that you have no idea what it is.  \n\nHe started dating a woman maybe 5 years ago.  I don't really know, since he didn't tell any of us.  He actually never formally told us, we kind of found out through seeing open emails and texts.  But anyway.  My family (minus me) & dads girlfriend went away on vacation for a week to visit my dads grandparents, and apparently it didn't go so well.  My sibling overhead the two talking, and thought it sounded like they were arguing about why they shouldn't tell his parents about something and she shouldn't wear something.  Vague, yeah.  But he's been secretive about what he has gotten her for Christmas and has said somethings that seem to hint he's proposed to her.\n\nI want to approach this situation in a calm manner, but I'm not sure how.  I know I'll be quite annoyed and offended if he doesn't tell us soon (one of his weird things is to keep important information from people, like not telling his parents that my sibling is having a baby), and so I don't want it to get to the point where he eventually tells us and I'll have trouble forgiving him for not even talking to us about it until he's planning the wedding or some shit.", "summary": "Dad could possibly be engaged, my siblings are pretty sure he is, how do I approach this situation in a calm manner before it could get past the point of forgiving him from keeping it from us?"}
{"id": "t3_of8zo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to, and how long does it take to get over someone?", "post": "My ex and I broke up roughly 6 months ago. We were in a relationship for almost two years and we ended on bad terms because he had found someone else and I gave him shit. It wasn't a healthy relationship for either, but I don't think the details really matter, I have no seen or contacted him since then. I still can't fucking get over him, or at least the shadows of the relationship. I've kept myself busy over the past quarter and just kept on piling work so that I had no time to think about anything else besides work. It worked for a while, but lately not so much even though I somehow managed to find even more things to do. I found myself reminiscing to a familiar song, passing by something trivial, seeing the fucking Zesty sauce he used collect from Burger King. I'm afraid to talk to people, especially guys; I get nervous when someone sits too close to me on the bus;  I find myself withdrawing from conversations because I don't want to get close to anyone new; I convince myself otherwise when I begin to feel slightly interested in someone; besides some close friends, I want to be left alone 99% of the time. Why is this happening now when I've been doing fine for the past couple of months? So what the hell do I do before I drive myself crazy?", "summary": "Can't get over past relationship, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_4kuxgm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking my school's camera", "post": "This happened last year, like most submissions in this subreddit. I just got reminded of it by all of the recent spider posts.\n\nFirst of all, let me tell you. Spiders are not all that scary and I don't necessarily have a phobia of them.\n\nIt was last year in my Photography class in high school. I was outside taking pictures of some trees and there was this amazing view for one of my projects. I had to take a picture of something and turn it into an aged photo with Photoshop.\n\nAnyway, I found this awesome looking scene where if I stood between two sheds that are pretty much right next to eachother, I could get a beautiful view of a lone tree in a field. My camera didn't zoom enough so i decided that I would crawl in between them farther. I did so and the picture looked fantastic.\n\nBut then I saw a spider on one of the shed walls. I thought nothing of it as spiders aren't scary, and I just casually lean on the other wall. Mistake-- there was a huge spiderweb on that side and I just leaned right into it. It wouldn't have been much of a problem, but there were about four spiders in it (never seen so many in one web in my life).\n\nI freak out from the bugs I just leaned i to and dropped the camera onto the ground, where the screen cracked and possibly the shutter too. I had to pay a fine of 3/4 of the price, so $300 about.\n\nHonestly I don't know why they couldn't just repair it but whatever.", "summary": "Fell into web of spiders, freaked out, dropped and broke school camera."}
{"id": "t3_35j4qq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(22m) Grandma's (79f) neighbor (30ish m) yelled at her and made her cry. Very angry and not sure what to do.", "post": "So my grandparents recently moved into a new neighborhood and love it. They are getting along with all their neighbors except one. \n\nSo the other day my grandma approached him to ask if they had offended him. He began by saying \"where do I begin\"... Then proceeded to yell at her for being in their yard occasionally, coming over to talk to his wife and new baby and for my grandfather talking to his wife in public. His wife has been very nice, which is what makes this weird.\n\nIt continued with him complaining and yelling at her. She called me crying and idk what to do. I obviously want to beat the shit out of him but realize that is not the best course of action. Is there anything I can do?\n\nMy grandma is the sweetest woman ever, as most would say about theirs but she is also suffering from dementia and is in a very fragile state. So it really just adds to all of this.\n\nSorry for briefness just happened and very emotional right now for obvious reasons.", "summary": "neighbor yelled at my grandma for no reason and made her cry."}
{"id": "t3_31q227", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my gf [23 F] of a few months, she doesn't shave and I'm fine with it. But she pretends it doesn't bother her in public when it obviously does.", "post": "I really like this girl and Im not going to get into the reasons why, but she doesnt shave anything. Which is cool I dont care. \n\nShe is fine wearing climate appropriate clothes around her friends and me, but when we go to the beach or out on a hot day she hides herself.  The problem is the way this makes her feel creates an uncomfortable situation which makes going out awkward.\n\nShe is very strong and knowing her I wouldnt think this would be a problem, but it is.  \n\nWhat can I do to make her comfortable walking down the beach in shorts and a tshirt?", "summary": "gf doesnt shave, says shes cool with it, shes obvi not"}
{"id": "t3_22uqg8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am not sure how to show her [17 F] that I like her too", "post": "A little background... This girl went to the same elementary school as me and is currently attending the same high school as me. I honestly had no idea she even existed until my sister, who also went to the same elementary school, told me about her. She is two grade levels below me so it has been hard to even talk or approach her. The only \"class\" we have together in high school is lunch, and we sit with our own group of friends.\n\nA month back when I was walking home alone, she was also walking home with a group of her friends on the opposite side of the street. Halfway home, I hear someone yelling at me from across the street. I turn my head and it's her, jumping and screaming saying \"I love you!!!!\"  like multiple times with hand gestures and everything. She even screamed \"bye!!\" when I made a turn onto my street. I initially was surprised since I had no clue who that was and just gave her a funny/confused look. I think my lack of expression/action on that day really threw her off, but I think she would be the type of person I would want to date. \n\nFast forward to today, she hasn't done anything crazy like that before and I've just been going through my daily routine of school and everything. I want to tell her that I like her too but I am confused on how to do so (since I know so little about her, besides her name) and she is always with her group of friends. Since I waited so long since the last time we encountered, does she still like me or was that whole thing just a joke?\n\nAny advice or input would be appreciated!", "summary": "Supposedly someone had a secret crush on me since elementary school, now attending same high school, admits her \"love\" to me when I'm walking home, I didn't make any moves to show her I \"love\" her too, am confused what to do after so much time has passed already."}
{"id": "t3_2txx2m", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Starting to work out, need some food help/advice.", "post": "So for about 15 years I haven't been eating regularly, and by regularly I mean I generally would eat maybe 2 meals, mostly 1 meal a day. I am just starting to slowly work into eating 3 meals a day, and then go on to adding snacks and eating small portions. But I always see everyone posting about cutting calories, and not eating as much as they used to, and I am wondering what I should be eating and if I need to also cut calories. \n\nI used to use myfitnesspal, but I was eating half of the recommended calorie intake, or less, depending on the day.\nI'm 5'1\", I weighed myself today I weigh, 237.6 pounds and I would like to be 160 pounds. \nI am worried if I start counting calories I wont eat, that it will make me stressed and not use my smart brain and use my self-hate brain. \n\nFor my three meals I try to eat things I like, and I don't eat at fast food places, or eat out much for that matter. I also don't drink soda but I drink coffee, a lot of coffee (with a lot of creamer/sugar). \nI'm also trying to get to a gym at least 3 times a week (to start), I really would like to get to a point where I can run for more than a few seconds. \nAnyways, I am just wondering if what I am doing is okay now, or I should try to count calories, or what I could do to make sure I'm not fucking myself over.\n\nIf you have any questions I'll answer as best I can. Thank you in advance! :)", "summary": "Shits wack yo, food is wack too; need help un-wacking it."}
{"id": "t3_in3vx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boss passed away after my first day of work...do I still get paid?", "post": "Background: I am a paralegal, just moved to a new city/state, and was searching for firm(s) I could work for from home, potentially on a contract basis. An attorney ~2 hours north of here found *me* and after phone and in-person interviews, I got the job. \n\nHis first e-mail to me mentioned that my work as his contract paralegal would begin on July 5, and that I could expect to work around 25-30 hours a week. Although I was going to be working from home, on the 5th, I again made the 2-hour trip to his office to meet with him for the first time as an employee. For several hours, I navigated their software program, had my firm e-mail address set up, and met with him to review pending cases. He also gave me a significant amount of cases/documents to begin reviewing, as well as a \"To Do\" list. I left around 5:30 and drove home with all this new information. Midday on the 6th, I got a call that he had passed away in the middle of the night. \n\nI don't mean to be callous, but from a professional standpoint, **what do I do in this situation?** Can I submit a bill for the time I spent traveling and working there? Do I just chalk it up to a bizarre experience and move on? Do I hang tight and see if they'll still have work for me once they get a grasp on things?\n\nHe was the only attorney at the firm, so it's not like I can just be re-assigned. I've been in (brief) contact with the rest of the staff, but they are all devastated and I don't get the sense that *anyone* knows what the fate of the firm will be.", "summary": "The attorney who hired me as a paralegal died the evening after I started working for his firm. Without being a total dick, should I submit a bill for the time I worked that day? "}
{"id": "t3_2i1p6c", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[California] Renter not honoring written temporary lease agreement", "post": "My landlord and I share a house, and we welcomed a lady and her dog on 9/13. This dog has been a nuisance from day one, and we communicated it to her on 9/14. Then, on 9/16 we told her that this situation was unmanageable and she needed to move out. She asked for a grace period and promised several times she was getting a shock collar to have it fixed in 24 hours.\n\nWe told her we would need a written agreement stating that, if the issue was not fixed by 9/23, she would have to move out by 10/1. The agreement stated that her time here was probationary. She did not get the collar that day as she promised, she even took the day off but did nothing to fix the issue. On 9/20 she signed the agreement, which was a week from her moving in. Only then she bought the collar, which did not work at all. She started then drugging the dog so he would be quiet. Then 10/1 comes, and she states that she needs a 30-day notice by law and will not move out.\n\nAnother issue is the fact that she still has not paid the full amount that she owes, and that was agreed upon before she moved in. We have text messages and emails stating that the fees would be as follows:\n\n1st month rent + last month rent + deposit + pet fee + utilities.\n\nShe initially paid only 1st + last month. When we talked to her about how things were not working out, it was agreed that the last month would be used towards her deposit and utilities. However she still has not paid both the pet fee and the deposit. Reddit, can anyone tell us what our boundaries and our rights are in this matter? We're unsure if the written agreement was legally binding, and if the fact that it was signed a week upon she moving in means she's established residence, forcing my landlord to go through the 30-day eviction process. the Any help helps. Thank you!", "summary": "New tenant is breaking a written agreement, but landlord is unsure of where we stand. "}
{"id": "t3_2bx1dn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [22/M] seeking advice about the [22/F] I've been dating.", "post": "I met this wonderful woman online about a month ago and we have be dating ever since, until tonight potentially.\n\nThis is the story in a nutshell. We were both on OKCupid, talked for a bit, and decided to meet up. The first date went well and scheduled another and then another, etc. (We've gone on double digit dates since meeting). Fast forward to this weekend, we spend a great night together and most of the next day as well. Lots of cuddling, kissing, and having a great time. We say all the cute things and eventually get on the topic of becoming exclusive. I know she doesn't want to jump into a relationship, especially since I will be going off to finish my last semester of college and will be gone for a few months, and that she has been on dates with guys while seeing me (although not a single one of them has gotten past a first date). Despite this, she plainly says that she feels we will get together when I come back and it will be great. This doesn't bother me, even though I know she will be going out with guys during this time (there is a bit of anxiousness when thinking about that, but I know we aren't together and she is able to see others if she wishes). \n\nMeat and potatoes - Today started off as usual, we said some cute things to each other in the morning and then she disappeared for a bit. I figured she was out with her friends or had a date, so I just went about my day (although I was feeling a bit apprehensive about the situation). Eventually she texts me back tonight saying \"I know this is out of left field but some shit happened today that I need to wrap my head around and I won't be able to see you tomorrow.\" I asked if I could call her up, got the \"I don't think that's a good idea.\" text in return, said that I would give her some space to think and to have a good day at work tomorrow.\n\nI had some suspicions about the whole scenario, as this was pretty out of character for her. I reactivated my OKCupid profile and found out that she deleted it prior to texting me.", "summary": "Met a woman I would love to be in a relationship with. Dated for about a month, get a text tonight saying that something happened and she needs to think about it, and now I'm worried that it is going to all come crashing down. My mind is telling me that she may have made up with an ex or found a guy she likes better."}
{"id": "t3_1af1vs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [30m] and I [35F] keep inching closer to ending it after 5 years, but are hesitating.", "post": "Things have been strained for a long time.  We never quite found our relationship footing again after my dad was in an accident and I was a wreck, but the problems we have are long standing ones.  He has a lot of anxiety and depression issues that are at the core of a lot of our problems, and we're both extremely stubborn.\n\nI don't feel like I can ask him for things, whether it's money for groceries or shared household goods or for an ear to hear about my day.  We get frustrated with each others' foibles and it's eclipsed the good we used to see in each other.  Overall, we had a really solid relationship, but over time a million little things seem to have undermined it.  I'm happy being content, but he wants the spark we used to have at the beginning, which I think is unreasonable to expect to continue after years.  I want to grow and change and develop a life together, but I don't trust him to make changes.\n\nAll that being said, I love him very much, and it hurts me to see him hurting, but I don't know that we can keep going the way we are.  We are both hesitant to end things, but I feel like it's the right thing to do.  I want to save it, but I also want to end it, and I'm so lost and torn.  Maybe if we took a break and reconvened?  I don't know what to do.  \n\nHow do you know when it's really over?", "summary": "Fights are becoming exhausting but we both still care about each other and don't really want to end it.  How do you know when enough is enough?"}
{"id": "t3_2qly3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) don't want my insecurities and anxieties to come between my boyfriend (20M) of 4 months and I.", "post": "Different account from my main because my boyfriend is a reddit lurker.\n\nI have many insecurities about myself, and I'm afraid that this may come between my boyfriend and I. Being overly self-conscious is something that I have struggled with for years. He knows about this, and tries to reassure me, but at times I let my insecurities get the better of me and I lash out. \n\nHe tells me that he likes me the way that I am, but I'm very self conscious about my appearance. He's naturally very thin, and I weigh about 35 more pounds than he does, so this makes me feel pretty self-conscious around him. I have talked to him about my insecurities before, and he said that if he has seen any downsides, or anything that I should feel insecure about, that he has decided that these things don't matter. So is this a good thing, or might this mean that he is trying to look past a \"downside\" to dating me that may become a breaking point for him later on? I have a habit of worrying about little things, so I can have a difficult time differentiating between something that may actually be worrisome, or just me worrying too much. \n\nHow can I come to terms with my insecurities and be more accepting of myself so that I may keep it from becoming a problem? I don't want my self-consciousness to come between us.", "summary": "I get anxious and insecure about myself, and I don't want it to become a big issue between my boyfriend and I."}
{"id": "t3_3r18sq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [27 F] has depression and has isolated herself and I'm not sure what to do to help her.", "post": "We've only recently been together, about 2 months now, but this past week her depression has been creeping up on her.  It's a sensitive subject and I tried to bring it up but she doesn't want to talk about it.\n\nFrom what little we do talk about it, she's said that all the therapy and meds she's tried doesn't seem to help her.\n\nI really care about her, but I'm completely in the dark.  I can't possibly fathom what she's going through.  All I know is I want to help the best I can but am not sure how to approach such a delicate topic.\n\nI've tried inviting her out to do things with me but she says no.  I don't want to seem pushy nor forceful, so I try not to be negative about it and tell her it's, ok.  \n\nI've never met anyone with depression before, or that i've noticed I guess.  I'm at a lost about what I can do for her since she's isolated herself from the world.\n\nI love her and she's not doing well.  It hurts me that anything I try doesn't seem to have any effect.  I'm hoping in the long run, she'll let me in and I can help carry the burden for her.", "summary": "my gf has depression.  This time she's isolated herself from the world.  What can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_zjaee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend suffers from anxiety; after a crazy series of events, she's a bit cold with me", "post": "So me and my girlfriend (both 22) have been together for around 3 months, we have gotten along so well that we never fight. The reason that me and her started talking is her cousin that USED to be her bestfriend since they were babies, and I say used to because from out of nowhere she started to make my gf's life a living hell, she became bestfriends with my ex-gf and started talking bad about her for no reason. My gf has anxiety but handled it pretty well, but then her ex-bf called her and told her that he and her cousin had sex twice and that he had to come clean to her. After that, her anxiety went through the roof, and even her attitude towards me has changed. I guess my question is, what should I do?", "summary": "gf has anxiety, and her cousin/bestfriend fucked her ex-bf to stab her in the back, now I'm left wondering \"wtf\""}
{"id": "t3_2hi71x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my 'girlfriend' [18 F] of two weeks, i think im the subject of some cruel joke", "post": "OK, so i have been 'dating' this girl for about two weeks, and i honestly dont know what the fuck is going on. Im a below average looking dude who has never in my entire life had a girlfriend, and yet a couple weeks ago, i just happen to strike up a conversation with this amazingly hot girl and within the first 10 minutes shes got her hands all over me. She was calling me sexy and complimenting everything i do. I was so nervous i just started insulting her - and she fucking ate it up with a spoon. \n  \nMy issue is we dont really have anything in common, we are pretty much polar opposites in almost every regard, but for some reason she has been obsessed with me. She is just out of high school and started college and i heard from a friend who went to high school with her that she was completly normal then, and was actually a bit anti social (or whatever the right term is for people who arent social) when it came to talking to boys. I just have zero idea what is going on and i suspect this is some kind of cruel joke at my expense, like maybe she is some kind of psychopath that takes pleasure in breaking peoples hearts or something. I can think of literally no other possible reason for this unprecedented series of events. \n\nThere is no reason i can possibly imagine for a boring unattractive loser like myself to attract a gorgeous girl like her and be doing so well (at least so far.) Its just such a sudden 180 in my life, and i dont really know how to proceed from here. I kind of want to talk to her about it, but if somehow i am attracting her, i dont want to destroy the allure i somehow managed to build around myself by making myself seem like a self pitying loser.", "summary": "Ridiculously hot girl is 'interested' in me, a boring unattractive loser who has never dated before in his life. If i try and find out why, im pretty sure ill wreck whatever we have going. Not sure how i should proceed"}
{"id": "t3_2mbna0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone recommend an online relationship counseling program, or some relationship-building exercises? [29M, 26F, married 6 years]", "post": "My wife and I have been having some particularly rough spots for a while now. We've agreed to see a couples therapist once I start a new job in a few months (and when we hopefully will have insurance), but right now we're unemployed and uninsured. The fights certainly aren't going to wait until we have the money to see a counselor, and so far searching for a low-cost (or preferably free) therapist is not going so well.\n\nCan anyone out there recommend a site or online resource where we can find some good counseling advice, or something that can help us work on our relationship on our own in the time until we're able to afford counseling? The main issues we both need help working on are anger management, stress management, and communication. If anyone could help we'd be most appreciative.", "summary": "Need some free online guides to help us build a stronger relationship and stop fighting."}
{"id": "t3_s3vjc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Most scariest/shocking/creepiest moment of your life? REPOST!", "post": "i know this is a repost, but i really want this to take off, im very interested in your stories and have one of my own...\n\nWhen i was 15(?) about 3-4 years ago, the annual 'show' came to our town, you know, rides, showbags, shit like that. Most people that go at night are aged 14-22 id say and i was just walking around with my friends, seeing whats happening and this guy came up to me and asked me if i seen 'a guy in a red jumper and a little bag?' i said nah man sorry. (there's thousands of people there) anyway, bout an hour later i see a crowd of people gathered around, thinking it was a fight (The Show is known for drunken violence) we quickly go check it out, only to realise there is a guy lying on the ground with blood absolutely pouring out of the top of his head. Paramedics bandaged his head up and put him in the back of the ambulance and took him to hospital. The police told us to move on like usual. We did so and never thought twice about that guy. until about 4 days later, on the news it said he died at the scene. He was the guy with the red jumper and little bag and the guy that asked me had i seen him, was the one who killed him. kind of. He punched said guy in red jumper because he stole that bag he had or some shit, red jumper guy fell to the ground and hit his head on a sharp rock. it happened out the front of the toilets and there is rocks outlining a garden and yeah, he fell and hit his head on a sharp one. he was only 15. the guy who hit him was 17. he got like 3 years jail time, and only recently got out about 2-3 months ago.", "summary": "seen a guy lying on the ground, blood pouring out of his head, i witnessed him dying there and then."}
{"id": "t3_32yzxl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend's sister [18 F] feeling awkward", "post": "My friend and I have been friends since high school (I'm in my third year of college now). I always found his sister attractive but it didn't develop into a full blown crush until last year. She had just graduated high school, and I'm blown away. Not only is she attractive, but she's also extremely smart. So I asked my friend to help me out with her. He said he didn't care, but it seems like out of all our friends, he'd be most comfortable with me dating her. However, all he did was just tell his family and her what I say on a daily basis. Most of it is me busting his chops, like \"I'm going to be your brother-in-law\" or \"Your sister is the most beautiful person in the world\".\nEventually, she found out, and it seemed like she's cool with it. She always says hi and smile whenever we see each other, but lately it's been awkward. Whenever I visit her house, her aunt (who lives there) would whistle whenever I'm around. (Not to be arrogant, but I am pretty fit... and seeing as how I live in California, I'm mostly wearing tank tops and short shorts lol) The mom and sisters would also do that \"wooing\" sound like the kids would do in elementary school. I admit it's nice to know that everyone finds me attractive and they like the idea of me dating her, but she gets embarrassed whenever I'm around and sometimes she ends up going to her room. I have no opportunity to actually talk to her. To make matters worse, she's only there on the weekends because she goes to a college that's an hour away.\nOverall, her entire family is clearly supportive. Her mother and step-father both love me. Her aunt might even have a crush on me tbh (she's in her late twenties). And most importantly, her brother is either pretending to not care, or he is ok with the idea of it. I just have no clue how to ask her out, or even sneak in a conversation with her. To make matters worse (or better?), she's never had a boyfriend. What should I do in this situation? Is this even a good situation?", "summary": "I have a crush on my friend's sister but her family makes it awkward. I'm 20 and she's 18."}
{"id": "t3_4z139z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Minnesota] My sister's workman's comp was denied due in part to her employer's late-claim filing.", "post": "My sister lives and works in MN. She worked/works at a well-known hair salon as a cosmetologist. She's been working in the industry for a number of years with the bulk of her time spent at her current place of employment.\n\nIn April, she began experiencing pain and numbness in her right hand and wrist (severe carpal tunnel). Concerned, she called her primary care provider. Her PCP told her she will need to are an occupational health doctor because it appeared to be a work-related injury. She went to the new doctor and informed her employer. Additionally, she took all the right steps in filing a workman's comp claim as she was told her injury is a direct result of her occupation. \n\nHere's where it gets messy... My sister filed her claims right away and asked her boss/manager to submit the claims on their end. Her boss did not submit any claims to the insurance provider nor did she comply with state law. Her boss told her she had submitted the paper work many times but my sister called the companies to check and her boss had done no such thing.\n\nAfter many calls, emails, and legal advice... her boss finally submitted the claim. This was MONTHS after my sister initially submitted all her paperwork. Meanwhile, she has been waiting and not working. She has no income currently as she is unable to use to her dominant hand. She's continued her prescribed therapy and has been working closely with her doctor and now has obtained a lawyer.\n\nThe claim her employer finally filed was denied. The denial claims her injuries were not from work. Her lawyer has told her this denial most likely happened because her boss was so late on the claim. She has a deposition scheduled, but until then, she can't work. She's been told her appeal will most likely be denied and the insurance will claim it's a \"woman's issue\".\n\nShe will not get her back-pay. She will not have her medical bills covered. She cannot work until this is resolved.\n\nI am here asking if others have encountered this? Is there some else she can do? What are her options? Is she able to seek damages due to employer's negligence?", "summary": "sister's workman's comp denied due to employers negligence.  Claim was submitted months later. Insurance is now claiming injury is not from working. What are her options if appeal is denied?"}
{"id": "t3_yobug", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] My ex [19/m] is making things rather complicated right now.", "post": "I'll try not to focus so much on our past relationship because it's irrelevant to the issue. Basically, we were pretty serious, he grew distant and told me he didn't love me anymore. I later found out he cheated. We spoke on and off (mostly off) for a few months, but stopped talking once I moved to Orlando for an internship. About a month prior to my internship being completed (keep in mind 10 months have gone by), he randomly texts me out of the blue. \n\nMy better judgment told me to not say anything, but I texted back. We've been texting on an every other day basis since then. Now that I'm back home and going to school, he's been acting really nice to me and invited me to his house because he allegedly \"values my opinion\". \n\nMy first initial thought was: he wants the P. I'm not going to let him have it, but there's a part of me that wants him to want me just because I've been waiting for so long for him to come crawling back. I guess my first question is am I wrong for wanting this and the next question is how do I go about letting him know that I'm more than a pre-meditated booty call?", "summary": "After 10 months of being away, my ex has all of a sudden started talking to me again. I'm quite certain he just wants sex, so I'm trying to use this opportunity to get some fulfillment from him wanting me again. Is this wrong and why? How can I express that I'm not a booty call even if he set himself up a whole month in advance?"}
{"id": "t3_1xjdzt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What constitutes \"moving too fast\"?", "post": "I (19/m) have been crazy about this girl (19) on my college campus for 6 months now, but she was in a relationship, so I waited patiently for my chance (having a feeling that this long distance relationship with her high school sweetheart wouldn't work out).\n\nNow after about a month of her being single and the both of us ready to start something, I'm worried about getting too serious too fast, because I've had similar problems in the past, and we are both very interested in each other. No sex has been had, but we've spent a lot of time getting to know each other, shared the occasional kiss, and talked about being together as a couple.\n\nWhat is the \"standard\" or an appropriate time to make things official and is a month enough time to get over her ex (of 6 months)?", "summary": "Is a month of seeing each other enough time to not be considered a rebound? And is it time to make things official?"}
{"id": "t3_47zn4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush [16 F], having trouble telling if she likes me?", "post": "Hi all,\nDon't know if this is really appropriate for this subreddit considering some of you may consider it to be petty high school shit. Anyways, this girl I noticed had been staring at me across the room in my school's library a few times, never really talked to her before. Eventually I sit with her as she is sitting with a group of underclassmen I am friends with, and we talk a bit. Next day she tells me she missed me during our free period(period where students can walk around the school and choose to do whatever they like). I talk to my friends about it, and get her snapchat from one of them. I begin snapchatting her that weekend and noticed she takes forever to respond, and sometimes doesn't bother to, really depends on the day. One night we stayed up talking over Snapchat about our pets or whatever.  I try to initiate conversation once a day, most of the time she will open it a long time afterwards and respond or not. \n\nRecently I've went to her locker once or twice and talked with her and she was all smiles and laughter and walked all the way to class with her. Another time after free period we did the same. Last night I attended an event at school and we exchanged random snapchats afterwards. Today I sent a picture talking about my run to which she did not respond to and read 4 hours later. \n\nI feel as if she's putting me off or ignoring me sometimes, am I being too clingy? I say hi all the time in person and try to talk to her in real life as much as I can but we don't have same classes. I'm really confused as to what I should do, ask her out? or should I get to know her better?\n\nAny help would be appreciated.", "summary": "I might be clingy as hell and may be trying to read things too closely."}
{"id": "t3_131ci0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Anxiety/paranoia about my friends.", "post": "So to start off, I recently came back to the city i've lived in all my life after living abroad. I had very close friends, some of who still live here. Many of them are animators, writers and artists or some such who have become incredibly immersed in their fields and are really going places with them. After coming back and seeing my friends getting real gigs and working for studios and such, I've fallen into something of an anxiety-ridden depression. I want to be a comedy writer, and I used to write every day. Now I feel like i've been deluding myself by thinking that I had any sort of promise to begin with and that all of my friends want nothing to do with me because unlike them I'm not succeeding in what I want to do with my life. They don't even respond to calls/texts half the time. I hate all of my ideas and stopped writing. The future seems bleak and I don't have the will to do what I need to. I used to be the funny guy at parties, now I can't even talk to people and just stay home. It seems that I was in some way dependent on the encouragement I got from my friends, and now that that's gone I feel worthless and constantly comparing myself to people. My anxiety has gotten so bad that it makes it impossible to actually work on things, which in turn makes me more anxious.", "summary": "losing friends, debilitating anxiety prevents me from doing what I want to do."}
{"id": "t3_53u6t3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help from medical school students and doctors", "post": "In Canada and am wanting to apply for medical school. Have volunteer hours, great references, good GPA, and good MCAT score. My problem is not that im worried about being accepted or not, my problem is that im so close that i feel this route might not be for me or that i will lose too much by going to medical school. I've done some thinking and i am seriously beginning to doubt this path, feels like a lot of time will be gone and not sure if the rewards will outweigh the costs (money is not my concern). Pretty much im having a serious quarter life crisis. If anyone has advice please let me know.", "summary": "cannot decide whether to go to medical school or not, need advice"}
{"id": "t3_3gmam9", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Dark envelopes - need a plan B for address labeling", "post": "So - when I ordered 'smoke grey' envelopes they sounded like a really sexy idea. They have arrived and are GORGEOUS but present me with 2 issues.\n1) I only have black ink for my return address stamp (everyone get one, they are life savers) and all light ink I've found is pigment ink meant for embossing which I do not have the patience or tools to do.\n2) We were going to print the addresses on clear labels (my mother insists they are neater) but unless we print the addresses in some bright color, nothing will be legible on these dark envelopes.\n\nBought some cheap silver pigment ink that claims to be 'quick drying' for the stamp & could do white address stickers if necessary, but thought I'd see what others have done...shy of handwriting every name and address in white or silver.", "summary": "What to do with dark envelopes?"}
{"id": "t3_45sk4w", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Trying to help my widowed mother set up an IRA, but I'm completely clueless.", "post": "I'm a fairly clueless guy regarding financial education, but I've been doing my best to learn and read up on it ever since my Father passed away 2 years ago leaving quite a mess, so I'll just focus on the problem I have in front of me now.\n\nMy father had a Traditional retirement fund through work set up with TIAA-CREF, I'm just learning about this after my Mother received a letter letting her now that if she doesn't claim it within 60 days it will be transferred to the government. I happened to see it when I was getting her mail for her, otherwise I'm pretty sure we would've never known.\n\nShe and my father were both immigrants, and my father was completely in charge of most of the finances. He never really told us anything about where he had his money and never left behind a fully fleshed out will. He also had pretty severe bipolar disorder and was prone to starting numerous \"secret\" accounts or taking out ridiculous loans to fund outrageous projects during his manic phases.\n\nSorry, I already got distracted with this mess.", "summary": "I need to transfer ownership of my fathers retirement fund to my mother. To do so we were told to open a new IRA account for her. My mom **lives in Texas** and works retail and **makes about 19k annually**, she is **53 years old**. Me and my younger brother are her only dependents, and both of us are still full time students. What sort of account would be best for her? Inherited-Traditional? Traditional? Roth? Are there other investors we should look at instead of TIAA CREF, like Fidelity?"}
{"id": "t3_125g87", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Found out my girlfriend was raped. She blames herself. What should I do?", "post": "(x-post from askreddit)\n\nOk so here is the story from what I've gathered, this happened about a year before I started dating her.\nShe attended a party near the end of her junior year in High School. She never really did alcohol or any drugs before this to much of any extent but this time she went way farther than she intended and ended up getting very crossfaded. Basically at some point during the night she started getting hit on by her boyfriend at the time's best friend who was sober. She was still a virgin and hadn't even slept with her boyfriend before but this guy convinced her to have sex with him.\nIn the morning she woke up in his shirt and barely remembered anything from the night before, but the fact that she had slept with the guy was fairly apparent. She asked him what had happened and if they even used protection but he wouldn't admit to anything. He wouldn't even say that they had sex. Soon after rumors circulated as they do in high school. She was always known as being incredibly innocent, hell she is a pastor's daughter, but now guys started asking her out of the blue if she would have sex with them if she was drunk. Also rumors got out that she was pregnant (she wasn't).\nAll this had a devastating impact on her self esteem and ego, meanwhile her boyfriend had gotten seriously depressed and was absolutely intolerable to deal with. The guy from the party started talking to her again. They met a few times under different circumstances, he would get her drunk, and have sex with her.\nShe left her boyfriend and soon after stopped seeing the other guy too. By the time that I met her she was obviously very scared to be in a relationship again. She also wouldn't sleep with me for the first few months because she was so scarred by her last experience. She still blames herself for the entire event even though the guy was obviously manipulating her.", "summary": "My girlfriend had her virginity taken while crossfaded by her ex-boyfriend's best friend. Now i'm dealing with baggage."}
{"id": "t3_hu8gk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would you introduce someone to rage comics?", "post": "I just found out a friend of mine has never heard of rage comics. She has a good sense of humor and I think she would like them.\n\nBut before I send her some examples, I've realized a lot of the funniest ones are just weird or confusing if you don't know all of the inside jokes (forever alone guy comes to mind). Also, I don't want to send a bunch of nsfw ones since that's not for everyone. So, I ask you: which are the funniest, most approachable comics in f7u12 history?", "summary": "What are the best rage comics that anyone could like?"}
{"id": "t3_3f43is", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking an ice bath", "post": "This just happened and I am currently facing the consequences. \n\nThis fuck-up starts with me going running around town around 8:30 pm as I usually do for some cardio. I went much harder than usual and did not want to be sore so I decided to try taking an ice bath for the first time. I filled the tub up with cold water, added a bunch of ice and got naked. Seemed pretty standard. I got a little apprehensive about it and decided to try just dipping my foot in to see how cold it felt. That was there I fucked up. I lost my balance and slipped into the tub, hitting my head and getting knocked out. I woke up about 25-30 minutes later dazed, confused, and freezing cold.", "summary": "got knocked out, fell in ice, woke up cold"}
{"id": "t3_23hefh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] should have broken up with him [25M] when I had the chance, Now i'm stuck. help?", "post": "My partner and I have been dating for three years and we have a baby together. Before my daughter was born we talked over our work arrangement and came to an agreement (I worked, while he stayed home and took care of our daughter, unless we got financially tight then we would both work). When the moment arrived I returned to work and he stayed home watching my daughter. At first things were perfect but then everything went to hell. He was barely taking care of our daughter and playing video games the entire time. We fought but I continued to put up with it  even though we were very tight on money and I was extremely stressed. \n\nI had a trip planned to visit back home (Across the country) with our daughter planned and paid for months in advance. I finally was so stressed that I threatened to not come back unless he got his act together. We spoke while I was away and he convinced me to return, so I did.\nWhen I got back everything was entirely different. He had found a job and worked around my schedule so during the day we took shifts in taking care of our daughter while the other one worked. He started being very attentive and we even managed to sneak in a couple of dates.\n\nThe problem is that I don't feel like I love him anymore. It takes so much effort just to be intimate and do things like cuddle, hug or even kiss. I feel like i'm secretly dying on the inside. He's a fantastic dad and would make any girl lucky. I don't have friends or family in the state we are currently living in and I don't have any money left over after bills so if I were to break up with him I would have to continue living with him until at least the end of the year.  Should I go to therapy and try to rekindle our relationship or save-up and move out?", "summary": "Bf and me had rough patch. Don't love him anymore but I can't just leave due to situation. I need advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2x6iqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "My buddy had a Tifu day today because he tried to secretly get a blessing from his girlfriends parents", "post": "So my buddy has been dating his girl for almost 3 years, and I guess he's finally decided he wants to propose. We work at a mill and this week we are working night shifts. My friend Morgan was at home sick on monday, and we assumed he was sick on Tuesday as well.  As we are on night shifts, the time line was this:\n\n-Monday night, morgan stays home sick\n\n-Tuesday morning, gf goes to work\n\n-Tuesday night, morgan left for their home town, about 4 hours away,  to ask for permission to marry her\n\n-later Tuesday night, gf gets home thinking morgan has left for night shift and all is well\n\n-Wednesday morning, morgan gets home at 9am. Normally, we get off night shift at 4am and he'd be home by 4:30am\n\n-unfortunately, gf has stayed home sick so she notices he isn't home on time\n\nSo when the gf realizes he isn't home on time she messages me and another guy we work with asking if we've heard anything,  which we hadn't at the time.  She assumes he's cheating and parks her car around the corner so that when he eventually comes home, he will think she's at work and will incriminate himself. \n\nMorgan gets home and she flips the fuck out and now she demands a written letter from Morgan's supervisor stating he was in fact at work.", "summary": "my friend went to his gf's hometown to get her parents blessing, she thinks he is cheating and is livid with him"}
{"id": "t3_1wbk3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriends (25m) parents are making me miserable (23f)", "post": "Hi /r/relationships.  I've been with my boyfriend (D) for about a year.  We get along great, have no major problems except for his family.\n\nA little background, I am white and he is Indian.  I have worked for the same company for over a year, and up until a few days ago lived on my own with him visiting.\n\nHe just got a job about an hour and twenty minutes away, so we decided we would move in together at the half way point.  We'd been talking about it for a few months and finally settled on the place.\n\nThe lease was signed, everything was good to go.\n\nFast forward to yesterday when we got a call that his family was wanting to see the new apartment.  We left the gathering we were at early (my family get together) and drove over there.  Turns out, they had no desire to see the place, instead they told him they needed to talk to him so they took him in their car and went for a drive.\n\nThe talk basically consisted of them trying to talk him out of living with me, offering to pay off his lease, telling him he's made a mistake and basically making him doubt that he can even afford the apartment (which I pay half of, and he makes twice my salary).\n\nI'm livid.  I left a family event (my family loves him) to get my night ruined.  My boyfriend is feeling super anxious and stressed and I don't know what to do to make him or myself feel better.\n\nHis family is so rude and awful to me.  They invited themselves to our trip to Vegas, paid for everyone's ticket but mine (making me sit in the back by myself).  They shamed me for not being able to afford the things they do.  They made me feel bad for not wanting to go to fancy events I can't afford with them.  They've called me fat (discreetly by recommending diet pills), told him I was using him.  They've even bought his portion out of something we purchased together so his name wouldn't be associated with mine.", "summary": "boyfriends Indian parents hate me, doing everything in their power to make me miserable"}
{"id": "t3_2l1iqg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Heartbreak is killing me very slowly please help.....", "post": "[SOLVED\ud83d\ude04]\n\nI guess I should start of by saying that no real names will be used.\nAnyway a few months ago my friend Sarah started being really nice to me. \"she normally does not talk to me much\" at fisrst I did not pick up the obvious signs it continued for a few days until another friend says Sarah really likes you she has for a long time \"I should say we've known each other for five academic years.\" So I begin talking to Sarah and we decide to go on a double date with Sarah, her friend and SO. On the day I meet up with them we walk about talking go to the friends house for a few hours then I go home a few days later at school people are saying Sarah is leaving me because I didn't kiss her on the first date \"I should say I don't try anything funny on the first date I'm not a creep like that\"\nSo as you would imagine this stressed me out very much, Sarah and the friend starts noticing this they ask me what's wrong I explain the rumours they decline this saying it's not true. This makes me feel better. When a few days later Sarah sends me a message saying I'm sorry I like you as a friend so let's just be best friends this makes my heart stop for a few seconds I just typed a pathetic \"ok\" but inside my heart feels like it has been used as a treadmill. I let my emotions out I talk to my best friend he is patient and is emphatic. I start feeling better until it hits me... I'll never have anyone as beautiful as caring, like her again she is unique. Fast forward to today I am listening to heart break songs still feeling like crap. I want to have her back but don't have the guts or the words to say it. Please people of reddit help a heartbroken student.", "summary": "student is heartbroken, needs words of advice."}
{"id": "t3_3zsnhc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm not in a relationship but I'd like to hear people's opinions on a question that has been on my mind.", "post": "Hi! I'm 19 years old and I am not in a relationship, but lately I've had this question on my mind that I'd like to hear your opinion about! Is it uncommon for 2 people to date, when they've known each other closely for a couple of years and when she's had a serious relationship but the guy (me lol) hasn't ever had one?\nI got to know this girl (19) when she was in the middle of her relationship and we've always been close (although I would definitely not call it a friendzone, as there has always been flirting going on).", "summary": "Known a girl close for a couple of years, she had a serious relationship, I've never had one, is it possible to date her (I can't seem to find a better word than 'possible')."}
{"id": "t3_h3sic", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Watched Monday Night's Colbert Report, and it hit me with a thought about Islam...", "post": "Background: Like Colbert said, \"Instead of fear, we ignored Muslims, like God intended\". But WHY!?! Christianity and Islam has butt heads plenty, it's a HUGE religion, and is not only is it vast, but it incorporates numerous ethnic groups all over the place that seem completely distinct. I remember going on wikipedia and finding a bunch of ethnic groups in Europe being Muslim. And then I remember going on to another link through reddit (surprise, surprise) and found this photo journal of a man going through the world, and he photographed a people that lived on boats off of the Philippines (I think) that refused to live on land, and they happened to be Muslims also. Turks, Bosnians, Arabs, Somali's, Filipinos, to random converts. All Muslims. Please Reddit, if you're going to downvote, give me some damn reasons that matter in this situation.", "summary": "Why don't we acknowledge that Islam affected the world so much in the West, even though a lot of things I read up to connects to Muslims somehow, some way."}
{"id": "t3_46ks95", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at me_irl", "post": "So just 15 minutes I was sitting in the library at my school and I decided to go enjoy some content on me_irl. This is where I fucked up, as I was looking at picture after pictures I started laughing to myself. Quietly at first but as I looked at more and more links I started laughing a little more. Now my library don't really mind if you make a little noise and I was being quite quiet, however if anyone was to look at me it would be very clear I was hysterical. Now here is the problem, at some point when I was on my phone a special needs student had come into the library and was rocking himself in his chair and being silly while he was doing something on a computer. Well apparently a number of people had complained that I was sitting in a corner laughing at a special needs child. I am not allowed in the library for the rest of the year now.", "summary": "Laughed at dank meme not a special needs kid other people didn't get that."}
{"id": "t3_3gebpr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (22M) cheated on me (19F) through text since day 1", "post": "My boyfriend and I been dating for 7 months and I moved our for uni in may. He pays all his parents bills by working full-time downtown while he lives in the suburbs so the commute was treacherous. He was going through a lot and I told him just move in with me. Mind you, my parents pay for my apartment with their hard earned money and he didn't pay rent. \n\nI honestly love him so much. He's my first love. He was always very shady. I never met his friends or family but he met my mom and brother. So I knew something was shady. \n\nI never check my partners phone but it came to the point where my friends forced me to. I did and I found out he had been texting a girl for 2 years now. He never met her but the whole time we were dating he has been sexting and texting her. \n\nHe was suppose to meet her the next day but I squashed his plans with out letting him know I found out. Then I threw all his shit in the hallway and when he came back from work he went apeshit crying and upset. \n\nIts been three days of apologizing and me trying to take revenge but idk what to do. He planned on having sex with the girl in my apartment when I was going to leave to go see my parents a week later. But when he got caught he cried to the point where his tears and snot were together. \n\nHe said he is a pathological liar and had self esteem issues and it just helped him feel better about himself. He also said if I gave him a second chance he would not screw it up because not everyone gets a second chance.\n\nHe wants to get back together and im leaning towards that too. I can't imagine my life without him... And it's so hard to cut him off. And he never acted on the cheating. He just texted the girl. So I don't know I'm just being naive or if forgiving him and giving him a second chance is a good idea or not.", "summary": "manz cheated on me through text and was going to sleep with the girl in my own bed but I want to get back together with him because I can't see my life with out him and I think its something he will forever regret. He technically also didn't act on the cheating and I'm pretty sure he never would have because he's a fairly shy guy. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_sv1of", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If it were your wife, what would you do?", "post": "So, my wife and I have been together for 6 years, 1 married. a year and a half of our premarital life she was seeing another guy behind my back. She put herself in a position where she was 'in love' with both of us. I found out, shit hit the fan, she decided to stay with me, other guy moved away. (Should mention that other guy and I had been friends up until I found out) We recovered well, or so I thought. She told me she was going out of state with a relative to pick up another relative. It just so happened to be near where 'other guy' moved to. she assured me she wasn't going to see him. A few days go by, and allude to us making a baby. She breaks down, tells me that she had recently contacted 'other guy' because she had \"given up on us\". I am dismayed. We talk, she decides she needs time to think about things, and leaves to go to a relative's house. she left 40 minutes ago. I feel lost, and alone for the first time as an adult. (I'm 26 she is a couple years younger) Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Wife's old flame still sparking, husband is afraid of fire"}
{"id": "t3_lrrue", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As an Usher at a cinema. I would like to know when it became socially acceptable for you, the 'customer' to make such a mess?", "post": "I work as an Usher in Cineworld a cinema chain located in England. I happen to work in the 4th busiest cinema in the company. My jobs include selling tickets, food and drink, cleaning toilets, and cleaning screens. I am also a trained projectionist. \nI enjoy my job for the most part.\n\nI am confused though. When did it become okay to make a mess? I don't mean the odd dropped popcorn here and there, or the spilt drink. These are definitely expected. I mean the the type of litter you'd expect in a bin, bottles deliberately thrown on the floor, bags torn to shreds, chocolate smeared onto the floor. These are clearly deliberate, I don't care about the extra effort this causes, I care about the abuse I receive for 'taking too long' from the customers. If you didn't make the mess in the first place. There would be no problem.\n\nWhy is this acceptable?", "summary": "If you drop your litter in a cinema. Don't abuse me for taking time cleaning for you. Don't want to wait. Don't litter."}
{"id": "t3_313vso", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need help getting over someone.", "post": "So here's the deal, I met a woman at a bar while we were there to see a mutual friends band. We kept seeing each other at shows and she got real flirty with me ( she was drinking most of the time) she'd say how cute and adorable i am and hold me hand, ask me to dance, kiss, tell me she loves me etc. etc. etc. \nwe started talking more and more and it got to the point where i needed to know what the deal was between us. She said it was just a friend thing and she can come off aS flirty and she's sorry for leading me on. \nso im not gonna lie, i was hurt, stayed a bit distant, didnt text her at much. last weekend she came out to 2 more show's, I knew she'd be at one but wasnt sure about both. Friday she showed up and she sat with me, we talked and she even asked why she hadnt heard from me in a bit, i said school and work have kept me busy. she left early, gave me a kiss. but then saturday was a mess. She would do all the stuff like before, grabbing and holding my hand etc. etc. etc\nSaturday night i had  a bit of a meltdown driving home, still thinking there might be something even though i know she's not interested. Her flirting makes me feel awesome and so euphoric, but then i come crashing down knowing it will never lead to anything.", "summary": "I like her, she doesn't feel the same way as i do, but is a flirt and is messing with my head. "}
{"id": "t3_mnmvo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where, when and how do you shave your balls? [NSFW]", "post": "Obvious throway here. \nI'm 24, living with my parents. Decided today to shave my balls, because girls dig it etc. \n\n**Where:** The first time is gonna be a mess (much and long hair), so in the shower is not a good place, the shower drain will get really nasty that way. Same goes for bath tub. Outside my balls will freeze off, so nah.\n\n**When:** I'm almost never home alone, since my school schedule is almost the same as my parents work schedule, plus they often don't work together, meaning there's almost always one of them home. \nAt night maybe? Don't know...\n\n**How:** And most importantly, how the f*** do you do this? I have a shaver+trimmer, use that to trim my beard. But the skin on the balls is very sensitive and loose. I'm not really looking forward to use razor blades either, for the same reasons. Do you trim? Do you shave? With what? How?\n\nHope Reddit can help me out here, tried 4chan but they weren't really that helpful....", "summary": "want to shave my balls, don't know where, when and how."}
{"id": "t3_1v3zsz", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Old perv feels me up at a party, gets a serious headache.", "post": "Every year a family member of mine throws a lavish New Year's party at their old converted farmhouse out in the country. It's a lovely do, and I usually go along to make cocktails and generally help out. \n\nOne of the guys who comes along is an old perv, the kind of guy who talks directly to your chest rather than your face, and I always try and avoid him without being overtly rude. This year he got me early, by giving me a 'hug' when he arrived and taking the opportunity to slip his hand under my jacket to take a quick tour of my back and arse. I did not appreciate this. I also didn't appreciate it when he turned to my (male) best friend, asked if we were together, and when my friend said we weren't, told him to 'get in there, don't put up with that mate!'\n\nSo by now I'm fuming, my friend is fuming, my mother is fuming because she also hates this guy and she's not one to be left out of a good fume. Much as I would have loved to kick the old bastard in the balls, I didn't want to cause a scene at a fancy party.\n\nMy revenge was simple. After ascertaining that his wife was driving, every few minutes I'd go around with a bottle of wine to top everyone up. Every time I passed him, I refillled his glass of red wine to the brim from a different bottle. Being an idiot, he kept drinking. I reckon I filled him up almost a dozen times, with a variety of vintages. By the end of the party he could barely stand up, couldn't hold a conversation, his wife was furious with him and it was obvious that he was going to have a monster hangover the next day. I did so enjoy watching him stumbling around the muddy grounds when it was time for fireworks!", "summary": "feel me up and I'll extend my hostess duties to giving you alcohol poisoning!"}
{"id": "t3_31l3qp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] broke up with 21 F for two years after she cheated, and I still can't get over her.", "post": "She cheated on me while back and I let her back into my life which is probably the biggest mistake of my life because she made me so paranoid and stressed. I know it's good that she is out of my life now because in the end I know I could probably never marry her but it definitely still hurts. She was an ingratiated part of my life and now I have nothing to fill the void and well online dating doesn't really favor males. Putting on a mask everyday of some happiness so that others don't see how I truly feel is getting to be too much. Understandably, when I can't even get over a girl who cheated on me and made my life miserable. It was my first major relationship and this ending makes me not want to try too hard again.", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me and made life too hellish but I still can't get over all this stupid emotion."}
{"id": "t3_33saq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/M] supporting a friend [26/M] through rehab and recovery", "post": "Greetings, people of r/relationships,\n\nA few days ago, one of my friends invited me and his best friend out to a sporting event.  We'd been friends in college in another state since we started about seven years ago and rekindled our relationship after he moved to my city about two years ago.  It turned out to mostly be an event for him to confess to us that he was an alcoholic and that he was going to inpatient rehab the next morning.  I don't feel like I need to go into any sordid details, but it contextualizes some of his behavior over the past few months, and them's the facts.  \n\nI'm not an alcoholic (though I do drink and God knows I have my own demons), no one in my family is, and up to now none of my friends have been.  So people with experience of such, I want to know what your friend/family member has really appreciated as they begin recovery.  And I'd be especially interested in hearing from recovering alcoholics/addicts about what they wished their friends had known what and what not to do and say in the early parts of their recovery.", "summary": "Friend is trying to get sober, no idea how to proceed, halp plz thnx."}
{"id": "t3_4lt2jy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Playing Laser Tag", "post": "This happened a while ago now, I was out with friends at a shopping mall. \n\nI wanted to buy Steam credit, and I'm not really sure why, honestly. After all, I do have a debit card. I think it was for GTA V or someting like that. It was $70 (AUD), or at least that's how much I wanted. I was informed that they would have to give me a 20$ and a 50$ credit, and I said okay. Then, my friends decided to play laser tag (A game I tend to take quite seriously, too seriously) \n\nIt's really hot in there, and all you do is run around, plus I'm not physically fit, at all. But I'll be damned if I don't give laser tag my all. So, after our 2 sessions, I go home, and take out a faded, code-less 50$ steam credit it had become a casualty of laser tag, and a 20$ one which was audible. I called them and there was nothing they could do about it. I had no proof. So I was out 50$ because of laser tag and my incredible competitiveness of the sport.", "summary": "Bought a 50$ and a 20$ Steam credit, Played laser tag, gave it my all, went home to a soggy and unusable 50$ credit. "}
{"id": "t3_17vhz9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I am a college student [21f] with a [19f] roommate. Is there any way I can help her be less of a hermit?", "post": "I have had said roommate for about a year now. I recently acquired a boyfriend and have been out with him more than anyone else. I've been at his dorm hanging out with him and his roommate, and a couple of our mutual friends will come over from time to time to hang out. We'll go into a dorm lounge and sit around on our computers, watch a movie, play video games together, or even sometimes just have homework parties. But we're actively conversing. \n\nThe problem is is whenever I try to invite my roommate over as well, or even out, she will not come. Even when we are not in my boyfriend's dorm but my dorm, she will come occasionally, but usually she stays in the room. \n\nWe will all go to dinner and invite her, and she'll come, but there are some times where me and my SO get food by ourselves, and I'll tell my roommate, who usually just responds with an \"Oh.\"\n\nSome of my friends do not like my roommate, so sometimes I have to choose between the two. But when me and my roommate hang out in the room, I feel closeted and bored, since we will just sit there and stare at our computer screens, barely a word between us.\n\nI know she has some friends at our college, but I do not know who, nor have I ever seen her go out to enjoy herself with them. \n\nThe only other problem is the silent treatment and/or sass I get when I get back to the room sometimes, as it seems she's angry with me for not being in the room as much.\n\nWhat do I do about this?", "summary": "Friend/roommate doesn't get out as much as me (I guess I have more friends), and that's a problem because I want to make her feel involved, though it's her choice not to come anyway. Getting sass or silence from her more often."}
{"id": "t3_y46g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long-distance issues. Plus, she likes me too much? [26M/21F]", "post": "I (26M) have been dating this girl (21F) for somewhere over a month now. I recently told her that we should be exclusive, but I am starting to regret that. There are a couple issues: first, the physical distance between us and, second, her disproportionate feelings toward me. \n\nHer parents live about 20 minutes away from me so the distance wasn't a big deal for our first couple of dates. However, she is an undergraduate in a college that is 2.5 hours away from the city that I live/grad school that I attend. I've gone up and spent the weekend at her place, and she recently came down and split time with her family and me. \n\nThat's when we had a conversation, and we agreed to be exclusive. We agreed to take turns seeing each other every 2 weeks or so. We text and skype quite often to compensate for the lack of personal interaction. \n\nIt's obvious to me that she has intense feelings toward me, but I just don't feel such mad \"love.\" Example: I barely use facebook except for the chat function, but she just litters my wall with stuff. At the end of our recent meetup where she came to see me, she actually cried when it was time to say goodbye for 2 weeks. \n\nDon't get me wrong. We get along great. We have a similar sense of humor and similar nerdy interests and similar political views. Our sexual compatibility is ridiculous. I just don't feel this young adoration that she seems to feel for me. \n\nI really don't know what to do; I'm a total relationship noob. I'm worried that the distance is too inconvenient. I'm worried that I'm going to break her little heart. I indirectly tossed out the idea of an open relationship to her, but she did not go for it at all. We get along great, but part of me thinks I should break it off. I've tentatively agreed to visit her in a couple of weeks. Help?", "summary": "Recently agreed to be exclusive with girl who lives 2.5 hours away and likes me more than I like her. I have no experience with relationships and have no idea how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_1tctbb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my [23F] A little over a year cheated on me a few months ago now claims it was rape.", "post": "Like the title says a few months ago my girlfriend cheated on me and slept with a guy on her birthday. Up until two days ago she has claimed full responsibility in her actions. She even told me right from the get go it wasn't rape and she knew what she was doing , and accepted the consequences.\n\nWell after an argument I had with her a couple of days ago she is now claiming that it wasn't actually consensual and he raped her. I told her i'm not quite sure if i believe her and she started calling me a complete asshole and a rape sympathizer. Also blaming me saying I should have realized from the start it was rape and i'm an asshole for not realizing it and making her feel bad for sleeping with him.\n\nNow what makes me question it so much is the fact that she had actually kept talking to this guy after it happened behind my back and I later found out she had considered dating him while we were trying to rebuild after she cheated on me.\n\nI honestly don't know if I should believe her this is a very serious claim and I love her immensly, but I just don't know what to think about this.", "summary": "Said she takes responsibility for her actions now says she was a victim."}
{"id": "t3_316zvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "30m] with my mother [60F] my depressed mother is tearing my family apart.", "post": "This really involves my family and my brothers wife and kids. My parents grand kids are the entire focus of their lives. They used to see the kids at least one full day a week often times 3 or 4 days a week. \n\nRecently my mother has been starting huge arguements every week about how my brother and his wife are raising their kids. It's honestly not a good situatuon. My parents still watch the kids one day a week. \n\nMy brother called the house to ask my parents out to dinner for my dads birthday and my mom lost it on the phone and went on a 45 minute tirade about my brothers wife and her side of the family badsically reveling that she's always hated them. (They have always been good to us) My brothers wife has cut off all contact with my mother. Basically refuses to aknowledge she's even alive at this point.\n\nMy mother has been depressed for years. She would never seek help and often talks bad about people who do and people are on medication. She's told me she doesn't beleive in bipolor disorder etc. I tried nicely to smooth things out with my mother last night and she lost it again. Calling my brothers wife a cunt etc. \n\nI think she is literally losing control she will say things then later when called out on it will refuse to acknowledge that she said it. I think she literally steps out side of her mind sometimes her reality is very skewed. Its destroying my family.", "summary": "How can I find help for my difficult mother. Therapy? I don't know what to do. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_3hzp8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF(20) cheated on me(21) and now our relationship is over. What the fuck do I do?", "post": "Me and my GF have been going out for a little over 3 years. She very recently cheated on me, lied about being drunk off her ass while doing it, and is continuing to see the other guy behind my back. In fact, as I write this I know she's with the him at a coffee shop right now.\n\nAbout the same time I found all this out, I also found out she wants to break up with me and hasn't felt anything for me for months. I've been completely blindsided because she's been too afraid to talk to me about anything, so I didn't even know something was wrong.\n\nMy whole life has been built around her. We even had a surprise kid that we've given up for adoption. I don't have anywhere to go, no one to talk to. What the fuck do I do? How do I cope?", "summary": "Girlfriend cheated on me, and relationship is over. What do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_4dfooh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to handle my boyfriend's unaccepting and downright unwelcoming mother for the rest of my life?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together.\n\nMy boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the \"respect your elders\" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy.", "summary": "What to do about a hypocritical future mother in law who refuses to give me (19 f) and my boyfriend (19) a chance without ALWAYS comparing us to her?"}
{"id": "t3_3ut31p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M], my brother [24M] and his emotionally abusive, unstable girlfriend [21F] of 4 years - I am begging for help!!", "post": "I'm 21 and live with my brother and my parents. My brother has been seeing this girl for four years. She has lived with us on and off in my parents house for about two years.\n\n They seemed to have a relatively healthy relationship until about six months after she moved in. They started fighting on a near constant basis. They still do. Their fights always seem to center around some minor misunderstanding or some other trivial, semantic bullshit.\n\nShe calls him stupid and forgetful constantly and acts out, doing childish bullshit, like pouring wine into his food when he misunderstands something that she says. She used to throw shit at him and hit him too. There were a few times last year where I threatened to call the police on her for being violent toward me and my brother. \nShe's had a bad childhood and family life and my brother uses that fact to rationalize the crazy shit she does. I've heard them have several conversations about breaking up, but they always seem to be acting like nothing happened within hours. Nobody in my family, nor do any of his friends, like her. \n\nOne of his friends once told me that my brother had said that the first year or so that she lived at our house was \"the worst year of his life.\" It shows in his own mental and physical health too. He's started drinking a lot more since he's been with her and has gained about 20-30 lbs.\n\nShe is completely manipulative, and I have tried to tell my brother how awful she is for what feels like an eternity now. I've all but given up, and I've lost an incredible amount of respect for my brother. I'm nowhere near as close to him as I used to be before he met her. Seeing him so debased has made me shut off emotionally to him. I can't act normally around him anymore because all I want to do is scream at him, and tell him to break up with his girlfriend. \n\nI've tried to get my parents to kick her out. They did once, after one particularly terrible fight her and my brother had. My brother was on her side, even though she was slapping and throwing things at him. He left with her that night.", "summary": "Please, help me. I need advice. My brother is completely in denial about how abusive and manipulative his girlfriend is. I can't really call the police because she's learned not to be physically abusive in my own home after the first time she was kicked out. My parents don't want to get involved because they're worried my brother will hate them if they tell her to leave. I've tried talking to him about her for a long time, but he insists that I don't understand their relationship, and therefore, will not listen to me. It feels like nothing works... Please help!!"}
{"id": "t3_3pgmjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [19 M] LDR 16 months, I feel like we're growing apart", "post": "To start off, I absolutely love my SO. I consider the relationship to be a very serious one, and we discuss our future quite often.\n\nLately there just seem to be a lot of things that he's been keeping from me/is being very private about regarding some of his personal issues. \n\nI've been trying to help him understand that I'm here for him 100%, but he refuses to discuss the issues with me. I'm aware that he has insecurities (what human doesn't?) but it hurts me that he doesn't feel we are close enough to share them with me. \n\nIt seems to be creating a gap in our relationship, and I can feel how distant we are becoming with each other. With this being a LDR most of the time, this lack of communication is putting a strain on our relationship. \n\nIf anyone has any insight to how I might be able to fix this/what's going on, I'd be greatly appreciative.", "summary": "my SO and I are drifting apart"}
{"id": "t3_2npix3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help me become more interesting", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI would like to set myself some specific goals to achieve over the next year. I would love a mix of physical, mental, skill based, random, fun, short term, mid term, long term goals to focus on but I'm having some trouble coming up with things.\n\nI guess a little background about me is relevant but fell free to give any ideas at all:\nMale\n37\nreasonable fitness and financial position\n\nPlease suggest a very specific goal and if you happen to have experience with it a general timeframe. For example - Learn to code is not quite what I'm after but design a game in HTML is a bit more what I am after - an example from the top of my head).\n\nI actually already have one in mind - don't laugh. Do a backflip. It has always been a dream of mine to do a backflip but have never got round to that one. Now is the time. \n\nThanks for your help. I will thank people with suggestions that I take on, in a Reddit appropriate way. Everything will be read and considered!", "summary": "Please help me be more interesting by setting me some goals. Thanks. Also posted to selfimprovement"}
{"id": "t3_25i72x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20m) broke up with my gf (20) yesterday and I need help.", "post": "So I originally posted my problem before and had some good feedback on what to do. Ultimately I did what I was suggested. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and it really has taken a lot out of me. We weren't connecting like we used to and I was getting annoyed with her all the time. It was going down hill fast and I had to make the call. I'm super depressed and lonely and I keep wanting to see her and get back with her but I know it's not going to work. What do I do? How do I deal with getting over her and move on? HELP!", "summary": "I broke up with my gf yesterday and can't get her out of my mind. I'm regretting breaking up. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ywp0e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by accidentaly playing the whip sound on the cemetary...3 times.", "post": "As usual, this didnt happen today but a few weeks ago. So, in Croatia, in november there is a day when all people go to cemetary to visit their dead and put new flowers and such. There is a small mass type of thing where all people are grouped and in one place.\n\nSo, few days before that i thought it would be a funny thing to download a whip application as a funny addition to roasting my friends. \n\nThe tifu comes when i recieved a message in the middle of 400 people and somehow managed to turn on the app in my pocket becouse the god damn screen was unlocked and there i am, whipping around and i mindlessly try to stop the sound and everyone is just looking me with such disappointment in their eyes. Yeah.", "summary": "Embarresed myself in front of 400 people by playing the whip sound on a cemetary."}
{"id": "t3_4phvzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my ex-gf [24 F] - broke up about 6 months ago, feeling guilty about how it played out", "post": "Hey folks,\n\nMy ex (we dated for just shy of 3 years) and I broke up about 6 months ago, and I was immature about it. Neither of us were happy in the relationship, but I told her I didn't want to be friendly going forward and basically never wanted to see or hear from her again. This is complicated by the fact that we live in the same neighborhood, went to college together and share some common acquaintances.\n\nEven though breaking up was very hard on me, I also stupidly followed through on a macho impulse to act as though it didn't particularly bother me at the time and, when she asked me how I was so calm, told her that it just felt better now that we had made a decision.\n\nSo, I think this adds up to me having been a jackass. And I really regret it because I have no end of respect for this woman. I've thought on and off about reaching out to apologize because it seems like the right thing to do, but I don't want to weird her out now 6 months out from breaking up.\n\n I have no desire to get back together with her, nor do I think she'd be interested in dating me again. However, I'd love for us to be on decent terms and feel like I probably messed that up. \n\nWhat do you all think? Better late than never or better never than late for this kind of thing?", "summary": "Feel guilty about how I treated my ex when we broke up, wondering if I should reach out to apologize and, if so, how."}
{"id": "t3_2at1jj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a co-worker to slow down", "post": "Last week my boss sent over 2 people to help me on a special project that was getting behind schedule. One of them I know well and the other not so much. The one I don't know very well is a white man from South Africa that left right after apartheid was abolished. Infer from that whatever you will. I had them feeding me data while I was entering it. The weird African dude wasn't doing his part right, causing me to double-check everything he was doing, completely negating any \"help\" he was supposedly providing. Instead of correcting him professionally, I jokingly told him to go back and slow way down because he's making me look bad. What I really meant was slow down and do that shit right ya moron! I just received my corrective counseling for \"unprofessional attitude and behavior which resulted in lost time and resources.\" He went back and told them I was sandbagging the whole operation apparently and \"asked not to be assigned to work under you again.\"", "summary": "Jokingly tell a coworker to slow down cuz he's making me look bad, get written up for wasting time and resources and being unprofessional"}
{"id": "t3_2q3tgw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Self-consciousness rant", "post": "So I'm 18, male and live in Melbourne Australia. I weigh about 85kg and am always at that weight or +/- 1kg. I've got a bit of fat around and I'm fine with that, makes me more hugable. I know I'm not fat or obese at all, just straight up chubby. Some days I don't even think of how I look and can often go days, even weeks at a time without being self concious. \nThen I'll have a change in mood caused by someone or something annoying me then I'll stare in the mirror and thinking of the excess a fat around the belly button and my man boobs. Some days I change my t-shirt just so it's not as revealing but others I couldn't care less. \nI eat a pretty balanced diet, veggies almost every day, same with fruit, do quite a bit of walking which is incidental but helps to prevent extra kilos staying on. \nLook reddit, I'm one of the lucky ones, I know that, I can not recognise this shit for days at a time but then I lash out on my self and think of how fat I am and blah blah blah.", "summary": "I'm chubby and every now and then I become self concious of it and I'm now ranting on the internet to people who will have this worse than I do."}
{"id": "t3_1nfpy6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "28[m] and 28[f] married couple dealing with Dad's cancer.", "post": "My wife and I have been together for about 7 years, married for 3. We have a nearly two year old daughter together. Our marriage has become more of a domestic partnership where we both do our chores, manage the baby, and pay the bills. Our intimacy has dropped significantly to the point where a peck of a kiss or a short hug is the height of our passion. Our financial situation is stable. We own our home, and have a very small amount of consumer debt that we are paying down. \n\nHer father has been quite sick with cancer, and has been through a few rounds of chemotherapy. The outlook had been good up to now, but we have reached the point where survival rates of 30-50% are being discussed. It is not likely that he will ever work again. Her mother has never worked, and is spending all her time now caring for him.\n\nWe will be financially supporting my wife's family for the time being. We have delayed a few purchases and cancelled a vacation. We can keep our heads above water, but will be scraping by.\n\nThe financial stress on top of the family stress has really hurt our relationship. We have begun bickering over the smallest items. We rarely, if ever, leave the house without the baby as a babysitter is $20 we don't have (we have no family in our town). Even the smallest affections I described above have disappeared.\n\nI'm very worried that our relationship will not survive this sickness and/or death. I'm also very worried that raising our daughter in such a stressful and negative environment will hurt her in the long term. I believe strongly that divorce should only be considered as a last-resort nuclear option, but a loveless-sexless marriage is not what I had in mind when we got hitched. \n\nHas anyone else been down this road?", "summary": "Marriage under stress from family sickness and financial problems, can it be saved?"}
{"id": "t3_2hqusm", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dream of Doggie Death", "post": "I am really jet lagged being day two in Budapest traveling from California. I woke up about 2am CET shaken and crying from a really disturbing dream. My childhood dog, Tammy, golden retriever/dacshund mix, lived until 15yrs old and was put down about 2 years ago. The dream's memorable part was Tammy having a small neck injury, I was taking care of her and cleaning a wound around her neck. Eventually it was like her whole neck had a cut all the way around and I desperately held her head on her body trying to prevent her bleeding out. I had this feeling of absolute dread that my dog was going to die, bleeding out in my arms. I was screaming for help, I couldn't move her as it would expedite her death. She looked at me so dependent, longing, trusting, and fearful of her own mortality. Blood pooled on the ground, and I knew she didn't have long. I woke up crying and confused, and I'm balling as I write this. \n\nI got a new wonderful amazing papijack dog in April. I usually travel with my dog, domestically, but can't internationally due to quarantine laws. I have my boyfriend looking after him and he sends me pictures of their walks and gives me updates. He is taking great care of him and I'll see my boy in about a week when I return. I'm probably just grieving my old dog and probably preparing for the inevitable loss with new dog. He is only 2 years old, so we have a lot of time to look forward to. It is just so sad to outlive your doggie and dreams are too real sometimes. I've had other dreams about BBQing the new dog, performing surgery to save him, ultimately butchering him, and putting him on the BBQ. By the time I realize what I've done it is too late, and I'm sad/appalled I murdered my beloved dog... Dreams are weird, I do love BBQ steaks though.", "summary": "Dreamed gory death of my first childhood dog. Traveling right now and not with new beloved dog right now, missing him. Dreams are crazy."}
{"id": "t3_388qgg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm having (24F) second thoughts about being a bridesmaid to my not-so-best friends (23F) sister (27F).", "post": "This is my first Reddit post so I apologize for any mistakes! \n\nHave you ever had a one sided friendship? Where one person has more benefit than the other? Well I've only had one of these and it so happens to be with my \"best friend\". I've always been there for her, when she got pregnant and aborted, when she got pregnant again and delivered her baby, every time she has had issues with her baby daddy, you get the point. She's been there for me too but for some reason every time we hang out we always talk about her and her problems. She asks general questions about what goes on in my life but nothing too deep. I love her because we've been friends since we were 13 years old. But I'm tired of being a GREAT friend to her when she is barely a friend to me. We've both talked about this (because I brought it up) and even cried about it. We decided we'd try to be more involved in each other's lives but nothing has changed. I'm pretty tired of it because I feel used and I really don't benefit much from this friendship. \n\nSo now getting to my question. Her family loves me. I've never been a bad influence on her, I've been a great friend to her and they see that I love her and her baby.  That's what her sister told me when she asked me to be her bridesmaid last year. Her sister and I get along well and knowing that her list of friends is short I felt bad and told her yes.  Now that we are getting ready to buy bridesmaid dresses and my relationship with my \"best friend\" hasn't gotten better I'm kind of thinking of backing out of this. I know her sister is not at fault here but I don't know if I'd feel comfortable being a bridesmaid anymore. Should I talk to the sister/bride? Should I have another talk with my \"best friend\"? Any advice/help is appreciated.", "summary": "My best friend isn't really a best friend anymore and I don't know if I should still be a bridesmaid for her sisters wedding."}
{"id": "t3_4chzcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [31/F] bf [31/M] of 3.5 years has developed a severe garlic and onion allergy... how do I support him and figure out what to eat?", "post": "My bf and I have a great relationship, minus a major food issue.\n\nHe's always been intolerant of garlic and onion, but when we met it was far more mild. I never even knew he allergic for the first year we dated. We ate garlic fries once and he got pretty sick, and that was the first time he admitted it to me.\n\nIt's become extremely bad in the past 5 months. He gets sick even from cooked garlic and onion. His worst episode happened recently (he was shivering and having full body spasms with severe abdominal pain, followed by an entire night of running to the toilet). I put my foot down after that. No more cooking with garlic or onion (which is devastating for me, because I ABSOLUTELY ADORE THE SHIT OUT OF THOSE INGREDIENTS). We've tried to be super careful at restaurants, but it's almost impossible to avoid them. This has lead to him pushing for us to just go ahead and do it, and him winding up sick.\n\nI need some ideas about how best to support him so he doesn't feel like he's letting me down, or repressed and stuck eating bland food. Trying out the endless restaurants in our/nearby cities (we live in a foodie paradise land) was one of our favorite things to do together. It's been tough to find an evening activity to replace that. (We still do a lot of stuff that doesn't involve food, like hiking and drinking craft beer, but now we have to go back home after the bar and cook sanitized meals that neither of us are thrilled about, when both of us are in the mood to still be out). \n\nI don't want to struggle with him because he gets frustrated with the impacts this is having on our lifestyle. I know he feels like a burden. But I would rather eat bland food then see him hurt.", "summary": "bf became a vampire, delicious food was something we both shared a passion for, need coping strategies to support him and ideas for things that are still good to eat"}
{"id": "t3_p91t0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I deal with a clingy boyfriend?", "post": "I'm 17 (female) and my boyfriend's 17 too. We've been together for 4 months.\n\nA few weeks ago I really started to miss my friends and I realized how much my relationship took me away from them. I feel like I'm obligated to spend every waking moment I have to him - and I don't like this. We've somewhat talked about this, but he just seemed so hurt when I told him I didn't want to be with him all the time.\n\nIt just feels so suffocating. I'm not an avid texter, but he is. When I go 5 minutes without replying, he starts asking \"hello?\", \"where are you?\", \"you there?\", etc. I feel like I can't get a break from him.\n\nSo recently I started to be really immature. I ignore most of his texts and I'll just respond to a few a day. I'm just so frustrated at this. I know this is not how I should be handling this, but when I try talking to him, he's unresponsive and sad. For example, when I told him I wanted to limit our time together, he started to ask \"why\" over and over. He doesn't believe that I simply don't want to do X, Y, and Z every day. No matter what I do, I feel so damn guilty.\n\nWe're together during most of school and hang out 2-4 times a week after school/during weekends. Between this relationship, all my homework, and personal hobbies, I'm starting to loose sleep. \n\nI'm thinking of breaking up because honestly, I don't think I have the time or maturity for a relationship. Am I overreacting?\n\nSorry if this all seems scattered, my head's a mess right now.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants to spend more time with me than I want/can. Thinking about breaking up."}
{"id": "t3_rit8q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do to stop my mind wandering with other girls?", "post": "Okay for the longer version of this I've been in a relationship with my current GF for about 3 and a half years now and we have been and are still happy together. However whenever I meet a new girl that I think might be slightly into me I can't stop myself from sort of popping a few flirty smiles and looks at them until their interest in me grows. I can do this with multiple girls at a time and I always spend a whole lot of time wondering what things would be like if I left my current GF for one of these girls. Like right now for example there's this girl called 'C' who I only just met in one of my classes, I only found out her name through some serious FB stalking and we always have these moments in lectures and labs, I can tell she's into me and I'm giving a clear vibe that I'm into her. All I can think about is her right now, I don't know anything about her but it just seems like I want to date her..? I don't know what I should do about this because if I get over this girl I generally find a new girl, help?", "summary": "In a relationship for 3 years but always find myself seemingly falling for any girl who's slightly into me and I try to develop it into them seriously liking me, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2t2xmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] - when/how do I ask a date about deal breakers?", "post": "Sorry for the awkward title! I've always dated friends before, so I've always leapt into the \"relationship\" phase. The last couple months have been my first time actually dating around, and I've met some great people - but they're still basically strangers.\n\nMy standards are low, but I do have some requirements and don't want to waste my time or choose a guy who doesn't fit my tastes over a guy who does. For example, I don't want to date guys who smoke or do drugs even recreationally (but I do want drinkers) and I want guys who want kids in the future. There's also more specific ones; for example, I've been on two dates with a guy who lives over an hour away from me and while I'm starting to really like him, but I don't want to keep seeing him if I can't sleep over at his place in the future (he rents from an older woman who knows his parents and lives in the other bedroom, so there's a chance I won't be able to). \n\nI'm having trouble figuring out how and when to phrase these questions. Smoking/drugs feel awkward to bring up without context and I don't want to make guys think I'm crazy or trying to get pregnant asap by talking about kids when we're unexclusively dating. Same sort of thing with the guy with the roommate - he's really cute and sweet but we've only kissed once and haven't even mentioned sex. I don't want to scare him off by asking if he can host, be rude by inviting myself over, or make myself sound like a thief.\n\nThese are just examples, but I figure if I can get some advice on these I can extrapolate it to other issues. I do make it clear that I'm looking for long term relationships and I move pretty slowly with everyone.", "summary": "First time dating around, when do I discuss requirements like not smoking, wanting kids, and being able to host sleep overs with dates I barely know?"}
{"id": "t3_1mqkwb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[25F] Multiple dates that go nowhere!", "post": "Hi, so some background, I'm a twenty five year old female and extremely inexperienced when it comes to relationships - as in never been in one. I've dated here and there and had a couple of hook ups, nothing serious. Recently I decided to try online dating in earnest, not sure where to go from here. \n\nMy issue is that I will go out with guys...we have a really good time (as far as I can tell anyway)...we keep texting and go out on more dates - and yet nothing romantic or physical actually happens. I am confused. \n\nAt the moment I'm sort of seeing/talking to three guys (which in itself is already confusing); one I've been out with like 4 times about once a month due to him being busy a lot, another I've been on three dates with, the third is recent and we have a second date for this weekend. There's been no kiss from anyone, not even so much as a hand-holding. \n\nIs it that none of them are interested (but why keep asking me out?)? Are they enjoying my company as a friend but not romantically (leave it to me to meet a bunch of new FRIENDS on a dating site!)? The dates have been low in awkward silences, high in laughter, and tend to go on longer than intended as we keep finding things to do - the shortest was four hours, the longest ten; we really do seem to have fun. Ive thought about making a move myself, but I'm kind of shy/reserved, add in lack of experience with the physical stuff and that they don't seem to be that interested and I freeze. \n\nSo...what is happening here? What should I do?", "summary": "I go out with guys repeatedly and they don't make a move; what's up with that?"}
{"id": "t3_4f0yl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl (18F) tore my heart out (18M)", "post": "I met this girl afew months back. We both had leg injures and were in braces for awhile so we had to sit at the same table in class because our legs would no longer fit under our desks. We hit it off pretty quickly and found out we liked the same things and had alot in common.\n\n I got her snapchat and talked to her for about a week or two and asked her to hang out. I picked her up from her house and we smoked on the top of a hill with a beautiful view. On the way down we were walking to my car and she said she felt dizzy and fell back into my arms. We layed down on our backs and just looked up at the sky while I held her. Then we went to get ice cream and went to the park after. At the park we sat in my car and just talked for while and then things got hot and heavy.  We ended up in the back seat of my car making out for a while. After that I took her home. \n\nAfew weeks later she meets another guy and slowly begins to ignore me. I snapchatted her twice and got no reply. After this I no longer contacted her because I'm not going to act desperate. We have two classes together and we no longer talk at all anymore. All she ever talks about is him. \n\nToday in anatomy I overheard her talking about how she was going clubbing with him tonight. I couldn't take it. I got up, left class, got in my car and left. I ended up with a referral for ditching class. She hurt me and I can't get over her. I feel like my whole world is crashing down on me and I don't know what to do. I can't forget about her no matter what I do. Can anyone give me any advice to get over her?", "summary": "me and girl hit it off. She meets another guy. Begins to ignore me. I'm left heartbroken."}
{"id": "t3_1u6rg5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Question about non-compete clauses...", "post": "So I just received an offer from a company I am thrilled to have the chance to work for. The position is right, the pay is right, and the work/life balance looks to be promising. They sent over a formal offer for me to look at, in addition to an additional agreement that needs signed with a non-compete agreement. I completely understand the need for such an agreement, as the company will be extensively investing their time and resources in training me for the job. They are also one of the few companies that hire in individuals with no experience, so any and all skills I will develop that ae industry specific over the next few months will be thanks to them. While I definitely have no plans to leave the company any time in the near future, the language of the agreement concerns me. The list of jobs that the agreement states will be in breach of the non-compete is way more broad than I feel it should be. It basically limits me from doing any type of research position at any level, regardless of its relation to my actual position I will be taking on. As someone with a science degree, basically all jobs I would be qualified in pursuing in the event of my leaving/termination would be off limits for a year after my last day of employment. The language used in the agreement is very open-ended and broad, and I hesitate to put myself in that position in case something doesn't work. Has anyone else had to sign such a broad non-compete, or has anyone successfully negotiated the terms of a similar agreement? I really want to accept this job, and again I reiterate I have no intentions in leaving the company any time soon. I just don't want to put myself in an impossible situation should I be forced to leave somewhere down the road.`", "summary": "I just got a job offer, but the non-compete clause is a bit too open-ended and broad for my liking. Has anyone else ran into this situation before? How did you handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_48x9qe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [25 F] 5 ish years, I may have to move to another city.", "post": "I [25 M] am self employed in a family owned business. Together with my GF [25 F] we live around 300km from my company's production plant/offices. I work from home, she works in the city.\n\nDue to some restructuring we are doing at work, my parents claim (relatively reasonably) that I should move closer to our offices and oversee the transition. Most likely also stay there for good since traveling to the office for one or two days every week costs us a lot of money (hotels, petrol and so on) and being there less frequently is not really an option.\n\nDue to the nature of my GFs work (model), she can only really work in a big city and she would struggle to find a similar job where we're supposed to be moving. She does not want to (nor is particularly qualified) to do something completely different in this 'potential new home' of ours.\n\nShe hates the idea of moving. She claims 'my parents always come first' and that she does not have a say in any decision I make. To be fair I hate the idea of moving too, but kind of accept the fact that the business requires me to move. I have no idea what to do.\n\nIf I insist that we move, I'm showing that my job is more important than my GFs, which will piss her off and am not sure how she'll react. If I insist on not moving, I will one hundred percent seriously piss off my parents and risk looking unprofessional to a.) them, b.) our employees who don't see me in the office as often as they probably should in order for them to feel supervised and work effectively. I briefly considered that we carry on renting our current place alongside the new place but then we are not really solving the problem of being more cost-efficient and I would still have to travel back and forth.\n\nHow would you compromise? (in case this matters, my business is definitely our main source of income)", "summary": "Have to move, my GF doesn't want to, how to compromise?"}
{"id": "t3_3yxzgv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Realistic Budget-Setting Help", "post": "My wife and I are both college educated. Neither of us are idiots, and we've been casually browsing the 'self-help' budgets around these parts and nothing really seems to hit home. I think this is partially because I have avoidance issues, and am a bit embarrassed by how illiterate I've allowed myself to be (financially) as an adult. \n\nFull disclosure: I've taken a hands-off approach to our personal finances, and I think this has placed an unfair burden on my wife. I fully intend to change this. \n\nIt's time for me to help wrangle our monthly finances and start making our money work for us. \n\nAs a baseline: we have roughly $750 left over from my paychecks after taking care of all of our set bills (Student Loans, Car Payment, etc.). We still need to eat, pay for gas, and prepare for general living expenses. \n\nMy question is - how should I go about building a realistic budget? We both come from bad families, and didn't have any early-life financial literacy...I'm just feeling overwhelmed with the learning curve to financial success. \n\nI understand the general tenets of being financially sound: define a budget, don't spend more than you earn, don't max out credit cards, etc. But what I'm really hoping to get is someone to say: \"You have $750, this is what I would do with it\" while keeping in mind that I still need to eat, etc.", "summary": "I have $750 every month after monthly bills to feed/clothe myself and my wife. How should we go about maximizing that money?"}
{"id": "t3_10i9m8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I need recommendations for a weight training plan to recover from weight loss from running.", "post": "Back story: I am a 26 year old male who has fallen in love with running. In September of last year my house was flooded. It was obviously a stressful time for my wife and me. We had to stay with her parents while we sorted out our mess of a house. Long story short between gutting our old house, selling it, buying a new one, and living with her parents and eating her mom's cooking and tons of restaurant meals I packed on some extra gut weight.\n\nThose pictures show where I was when we moved into the new house and where I am now. I started running seriously around May. I have been gradually increasing my mileage since then to about 80 miles a month with an average of 20 a week. I would like to keep bumping that up but it seems like the weight loss I am experiencing is taking from places I would rather not lose. My chest, shoulders and arms are getting to be a little skeletorish for my liking and when I run into people I haven't seen for a while they ask if I have been sick.\n\nSo if you are still reading the question I have for you all is if you have any recommendations for a good weight training plan to complement my running that would help add back a little bulk? Also as far as diet goes should I be increasing my caloric intake? I get around 2000 a day from nuts, lunch meat, pastas, and chicken or pork for supper. Obviously I also eat other things but those are my normal everyday foods. As far as supplements go I have a protein shake after any run over 6 miles for recovery. \n\nI have an Olympic sized weight bench and pull up bar along with various weight dumbbells. So any recommendations?", "summary": "I run and have lost weight in the wrong spots, I need recommendations for a good weight training plan that doesn't interfere with running too much."}
{"id": "t3_21ng4r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Putting My Dog Down...What are your experiences with this?", "post": "My little Sammy is 11 years old. He was always the runt of the litter, born with a heart murmur and bad back hips. He got really sick about 7-8 months ago. He's been on a bunch of meds since. It seemed like he was making a decent recovery, but the past month he has been in serious decline. He has no appetite, hardly any energy, and is so skinny he's lost a ton of weight. I can tell he is in pain. It makes me so sad but euthanasia might be the only thing I can do for him. Surgery is out of the question because his heart is too weak for the anaesthetics.", "summary": "I don't know what to do, but what are your experiences with putting down your beloved animal brothers and sisters?"}
{"id": "t3_2alnld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] ex-girlfriend [23 F] that I dated for 12 months, called me up a couple of days ago", "post": "She's an aspiring film-maker, and she needed a bassist to lay down some tracks with her for music she could use for her short film. It was a shock because I hadn't spoken to her since April, but I agreed to do it and met her at the studio today, and I had so much fun with her. We just jammed and talked about everything for the better part of 4 hours and it was great, and she looked so beautiful. Afterwards, we went back to her place and listened to some music and smoked some grass like we used too, and For the first time in a long time, I felt really happy. We ended it with a hug, and then she kissed me and told me to call her.\n\nI know this sounds obvious what I should do now, but the reason we split up was she is so unpredictable. I suffer from manic depression, and I opened up to her more than any other gf I have ever dated. Somedays, she encouraged me, comforted me and listened to me. And other days, She did the complete opposite, her reaction to me telling her that I didn't feel like I could get out of bed one morning was to pull the covers off and slap the back of my head a couple of times, I remember her taking it personally when I told her I felt lonely and she isolated me from my friends when we dated to the point that after we broke up, I had only one friend left. This wasn't all her own fault, she suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder and somedays she is aggressive, that is just something she can't control.\n\nIf it wasn't for her BPD, we'd be a perfect match, and catching up with her again today made me realise how much I missed her. But the last time I put all my trust in her, she hurt me. But, I can't help but feel like I still love her, and have no idea what to do now. I want to be with her, I want her as a partner and friend, I want us to be able to help each other through our problems, but I don't want the unpredictability that comes with it.", "summary": "Depressed guy meets up his with his BPD ex girlfriend who he is still in love with, for the first time in 3 months. Have a great non-sexual time together, and she tells him to call her soon. But she has a history of abusing him and isolating him from his friends."}
{"id": "t3_33izxq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (39/m) discovered my daughter (15/f) sent pictures of herself in a bra to a boy. The whole school found out.", "post": "My wife and I found out yesterday after a call from her schools guidance counselor about what happened. Back in December she sent a boy a picture of herself in a bra. Before too long it went around to everyone and now all the girls are calling her a whore and slut. I am not mad at her but feel bad for her and a mistake she made that will follow her around for a long time. What can we do to help her and keep her from being so gullible with boys she likes? I don't even know how I should even handle all of this.", "summary": "Daughter sent picture to boy in a bra, now everyone knows."}
{"id": "t3_36f8hk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling someone fat", "post": "This TIFU actually happened today. Where's my gold?\n\nAs a preface, Weis is a regular supermarket here where I live. Not actually sure how expansive it is but I would bet that it ain't anywhere outside of the U.S.\n\nI was in Weis today looking for whale crackers and I couldn't find them. (Apparently they're a walmart thing)\n\nAnyway I searched for awhile and I had trouble so I started looking for an employee instead. At this time I was bored and just wanted some whales and thought I was funny so I was thinking of some entertaining (probably only to myself) ways to ask. Generally that just means putting on some kind of really bad fake accent to ask.\n\n\"Oi laddy, could ye help me in findin' some whales in these parts?\"\nI figured that'd be funny enough. It would entertain me and at the very least they wouldn't care at all.\n\nSo I approach a dude wearing what I presumed to be a weis uniform (it was, mind you, this ain't the fuck up. Be patient). He was slightly large, but nothing too crazy. I wave him over, yelling;\n\n\"Oi, whale--\"\n\nI guess something went wrong in my mind.\n\nLike this guy probably wasn't self conscious at all until today.", "summary": "at least he's a mammal"}
{"id": "t3_2z4je8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU clicking on \"restore closed windows\" on Firefox.", "post": "Today I fucked up reddit, big time.\n\nI was at my sister's house, and was using her laptop when I decided to google something. Fired up Mozilla and clicked on \"restore closed windows\" out of habit then got up to close a door. My sister's husband then said something along the lines of \"WTF?!?!\" seeing as the window which was restored on the laptop was an article which indicated the 8 signs your marriage is failing. My sister and her husband have been in a bit of a fight the last few days and this discovery only made thing worse.", "summary": "I fucked up by possibly fucking up what's left of my sister's marriage."}
{"id": "t3_21kpwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (male, 21) broke up with my girlfriend (21) after 3 and a half years and am deeply regretting it.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for a little over 3 and a half years. We've known each other for 6. When I see her I always have a great time and am happy. But, we have been seeing less of each other because of work and other responsibilities. (I'm beginning to think this may be a reason that I made such a stupid decision) Recently she has been talking about marriage, apartments, KIDS, and our future. I don't want kids. She has always said she is okay with this, but I know her well. I could tell she was partially saying that because she loves me. \n\nThe future scares me. I don't know what it holds, and I don't want to try and control it. She on the other hand, has a plan for her future. She is always looking at potential housing, wedding plans, etc. We're different in this way. \n\nAll of those aspects of her desired future puts extreme pressure on my shoulders. I love her, and I want her to have everything she wants in life. However, I feel like I can't be the guy that gives that to her. She has grand plans for her future and it's terrifying thinking about how I could fail her so I ended it 2 days ago. \n\nI now am beginning to think I'm an absolute moron. I can't believe how stupid I am! I let my love slip through my fingers because I was scared of rejection and failure. \n\nAm I as stupid as I think I am? What am I to do with this situation? I have never felt worse. I constantly have a pit in my stomach and it's killing me.", "summary": "I broke up with my long-time love and am deeply regretting it."}
{"id": "t3_cr2d1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How is daddy formed?", "post": "I'm 24 and I just married my fiance this summer (dated since high school). We both want children and she's ready to start popping them out. Prior to getting married I had said I'd like to have them sooner rather than later, but now I'm getting cold feet...\n\nWe're financially stable with steady jobs, we have a good relationship and we are in good health. We're pretty much in agreement on all of the major parenting issues (discipline, education, values, etc.). I'm not aware of any red flags that would indicate that we should wait.\n\nI know I'll never feel *completely* ready, but I'm finding it difficult to make that final leap of faith.", "summary": "How did you decide you were ready to conceive a child?"}
{"id": "t3_2cejkf", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Not a night goes by that the world doesn't rest it's burdens on my shoulders.", "post": "Animal abuse, war, poverty, starvation, sex trafficking, genital mutilation, theft, corruption, ignorance, bigotry, inevitable death, the list could go on for hours. And it does. \n\nNot a night goes by in which I am able to sit quietly without at least briefly being horrified at the gruesome realities that occur in this world. So much unnecessary pain and suffering - and a planet mostly full of uncaring, self involved people incapable of truly understanding the world that exists on outside of their little boxes.  \n\nI try to look at the beauty in the world too. It just doesn't seem to balance out well. For every rescue story I see in /r/aww, I end up coming across a story of an animal being killed or tortured.\n\nI hoard so much guilt that I am not in a position in my life to where I am better able to help people or other causes. I sometimes think about starting a type of charity to help people out of homelessness, sex trafficking, or abusive situations - but I honestly have no idea where to start on something like that. If any of you could point me in the right direction, it would certainly be appreciated. \n\nTragedy happens, we are not guaranteed any tomorrows. We take so much for granted. I just want to give my own life a better meaning and purpose before I die. There is so much hurt and suffering in the world - I know I can't fix all the things, but I would really like to establish myself in something that can help the world be a slightly better place before my own time runs out. \n\nI'm 28 and enrolling in college soon, a late start I know. I hear it doesn't pay very well, but I think social work might be a good start towards accomplishing some of these things I want to do in life.", "summary": "Optimistic by day, pessimistic by night whilst reflecting on all of the constant pain and suffering in the world. Want to start causes to help others, but not really sure where to start. I've spent until my late 20's trying to find my calling in life, only to realize that my long term guilt over not being able to help others is probably it."}
{"id": "t3_1lnanp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20F] had a conversation with my boyfriend [22M] of a year and a half about me being more confident", "post": "Last night my boyfriend and I had a conversation. He was very upset and had been acting funny all weekend. I finally got it out of him yesterday that he is upset because I am not confident enough. He says that it wears on him and makes him feel bad when I compare myself to other girls or for instance I deleted him off instagram (I told him before I did it) becasue it made me feel insecure having him \"like\" girls pictures. \n\nThat being said, I have recently been disagnosed with general anxiety disorder and have frequent panic attacks. One of my triggers is feeling abandoned and when I feel threatened by other girls or compare myself I get really anxious. There is nothing that he does to make me feel this way but my anxiety takes over. I am currently in counselling to work on my anxiety.\n\nI agreed to work on my confidence because it is something that I would like to improve for myself not just for him. As I work on myself how can I show him that I am working on it so that he can feel more at ease. Also how can I be more confident and not feel threatened.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to be more confident, how can I show him i'm working on it and how can I be more confident within the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2fxv4x", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Fourth Grade Slump", "post": "So my new fourth grader has gone from mostly A's with the occasional b/c in grades 1-3 to starting off fourth grade with mostly B/C with the occasional (20%) F's.  \n\nI googled \"transition from third to fourth grade\" and found a lot of interesting reading on the \"fourth grade slump\".  I haven't read a whole lot yet, but I thought I would get some thoughts here first (possibly from people who have recovered from it, assuming it exists).  \n\nHe has always had a very high reading ability, but his comprehension was low.  We worked really hard on it last year and by the end of the year he was doing very well.  This year, its almost like he doesn't understand anything he reads.  His grades in math have been \"ok\" and most of his problems there are from not reading the complete instructions or just skipping problems accidentally.  \n\nHis reading scores, though, are just horrible.  Should we consider a tutor or extra work for him?  We have done our best to motivate and help and eliminate distractions but they do not seem to have any effect.", "summary": "son having rough transition into fourth grade"}
{"id": "t3_l128j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your most terrible wish that has come true?", "post": "Here's mine, it doesn't actually affect other people, just me, but still sucks.\n\nI remember sitting in health class, learning about genetic diseases and wishing that I had one, because that would be a cool thing to talk about. (Shallow? Yes. I was in 7th grade, who wasn't shallow)\nCome 8th grade, my mom tells me over the phone that I carry Tay-Sachs disease, which if I produce kids with another carrier, my child will die by age 2.  Also, a rare form of the disease manifests itself in the 20's, so that could be a fun surprise.\nAlso I have congenital cataracts in my right eye.", "summary": "I wished for a disease and found out I carry Tay-Sachs disease and have congenital cataracts."}
{"id": "t3_1woj4q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M19] with ex [F18]. we have hooked up and plan to do it again, generally just confused about it all.", "post": "So I dated this girl for 9 months and we broke up in September. We started to talk recently and became friends. We have talked and I admitted I still like her and would be with her if I had the chance but I know I don't so I don't worry about it and live my life.\n\nProblem is, whenever I see her she is seducing me. She convinced me to get a hotel room with her, when I see her she makes out with me or grabs my hair and pulling my head down and kissing my neck. She claims she has no feelings for me but calls and texts me every day and we talk about everything from if she is sad to just casual stuff  and every time I see her she can't seem to keep her hands off me. She also talks about how she wants to be the best I have had.\n\nNow I am fine with this casual hookup because we are great friends and we are just having fun, but her behavior is really starting to confuse me.", "summary": "ex i still have feelings for claims she doesn't have feelings for me but tries to get with me all the time and calls constantly."}
{"id": "t3_34vxc5", "subreddit": "self", "title": "[24M] Are my standards for women too high?", "post": "I'm an educated early twenties guy and I've never had a girlfriend, never had a kiss, a handful of dates that never went anywhere, and never had sex (no sex till marriage). Girls never seem to be interested in me.\n\n\u00a0\n\nMy physical standards aren't all that high most girls my age meet them since I'm not really into particulars like height, race, etc. I'm just not attracted to obese women, deformed women, or very masculine looking women.\n\nMy personality standards can be argued to be kind of high since I'm looking for a girl that is mentally stable, interested in my nerdy hobbies (gaming, various sciences like programming, anime, scifi/fantasy), friendly/caring, highly intelligent, devoted Christian, and possibly with a sense of humor. This probably narrows things down quite a bit, but I'm not hardcore about my personality standards I just prefer they fit at least one or two criteria.\n\n\u00a0\n\nNow after doing some thinking I've realized while I'm always rejected by every girl I realize that there have been a few girls who have showed interest in me but I just never pursued it.\n\nUnfortunately those girls were either morbidly obese or just highly unattractive looking so there was no interest but this was super rare.\n\nMore commonly the girls actually looked good physically but had obvious possible mental health issues so I may have been friends with them but never took it further than that even though I probably could have. I'm not a doctor but I can see some people are just way out there to the point you feel uncomfortable just being around them. Then again people with issues seem to be comfortable around me for some reason.", "summary": "Are my standards too high? I'm a guy that can't get dates, girls I like aren't attracted to me but I have had interest from girls that were either not sane and good-looking or sane and extremely unattractive, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_398uer", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 4.5 years, realizing we may be incompatible?", "post": "we moved in together almost a year ago. We currently live in a college town for his job. I moved here under the impression that we'd just be here a few weeks before relocating for a job somewhere else. He found a position here and now has applied for a tenured job at the same university.\n\nI've always dreamed of living in a city but over the last several months he's made that clear that he won't come with me even if it's just for a year or two.\n\nHe also wants to live out in the country with at least 5 acres and refuses to compromise on this. I'd prefer to be a bit closer to the city. I've dreamed of living in Chicago for several years and turned down an offer because I wanted to be with my boyfriend.\n\nBut since living together I'm not even sure if we could get married and both be happy since we want such different things. In some ways I just want to go for it and follow my dream of living in a big city, but at the same time I'm scared how much I'll miss him and what we have.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? What did you decide to do?", "summary": "City girl/country guy, dream of living in Chicago, together 4+ years, unsure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_3g2scp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15] has had my birthday money stolen from my Mum so she can go on a trip.", "post": "So I value birthday money quite alot since it's about the only time I can get new stuff for myself. I had gotten about \u00a3350 in birthday money from all the people in my family and was waiting to get a new monitor/gpu and was really ecstatic about it. This very day I wake up and my wallet only has \u00a330 left in it and suddenly my Mum announces she's going across the country for a few days. It's quite obvious she's took it but I have no idea what to do. I even doubt I'm gonna get it back :/", "summary": "Mum stole birthday money to go on a trip and didn't tell me."}
{"id": "t3_100k13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I sense my gf of 5 years doeesn't love me anymore. How do I deal with this?", "post": "I'm sure some of you know what I'm talking about: she acts the same, yet different. In all this time we've been together, this is the first time I feel as if she doesn't love me anymore. Thing is, she's the kind of person who does not want to hurt other people. Chances are that if I'm right about her feelings towards we, she wouldn't even say it or break up with me lest I be hurt (I would be) - unless it becomes unbearable.\n\nSo as it stands, I'm currently in a relationship where everything seems normal, but nothing is, and for me it feels like a countdown to the day she finally drops the bomb. What do I do with this? Do I have an open discussion about what I think/feel? Do I ignore it and be more attentive? Do I ignore it and remain the same?\n\nRelevant: we are both 23 years old and matured together, an open discussion is definitely an option, I just don't know if it's the right move in this scenario.", "summary": "Think my girlfriend doesn't love me anymore, wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_fwkz2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do next?", "post": "I moved out of an apartment at the end of November and by December 30, I'd received an itemized list of charges and $150 check that was left of my $750 deposit. My roommate and I had 30 days to respond to them in writing if we disagreed with the charges. I sent the letter January 3rd highlighting the charges that weren't legit. The company informed me they would get back to me 30 days after they received my letter. It's now been 2 months and I haven't heard anything. I've called several times leaving messages each time. I called them today and said they had to get back to me by next week or I was going to take the next step. What is the next step?", "summary": "my former landlord is screwing me over and i need help with what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4ujih4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My now ex-girlfriend [18] broke up with me[20] almost 3 months ago, after trying to get back, she is getting married", "post": "Hello, so yeah she's getting married. At the beginning of may she left me over some stupid argument. After some days we talked about our feelings and such, but nothing happened. We told each other that we still miss each other and so on, but I was having difficult time, so I had to think a lot. \n\nA month passes by and I see on her facebook wall a photo with another dude [23] and caption said \"We're happy\" and I immediately got angry and wrote her. She told me he was just a friend, I believed her. The next evening we met up at her place, talked casually and then sex happened. While we were having sex, she told me that she loves me, I told her that I love her too. Sweet, maybe this will work out.\n\nAfter that for a few days we chatted, then met up again, had sex, usual couple things.. Then she started ignoring me. Then suddenly that \"friend\" became a boyfriend. So then our relationship was like a roller-coaster. One day she loves me, other she doesn't. We would hang out together, kiss and stuff, and then nothing again.\n\nWell, last week I get a message, that she is getting married with that \"friend\" (few days before that, she told me that she still likes me, and kissed a bunch). I couldn't believe it. I was trying to talk her out of that for the past week, but nothing came of it. She told me that she understands that she rushed it, that it can be a mistake and such, even told me that she doesn't love me. Yesterday she met up with a mutual friend, and she told that friend that she is happy, that she doesn't want to see me, and will call cops if I come near her. Now that I confronted her about how she cheated with me on her future husband she got angry.\n\nSo their wedding date is on August 13th, only over 3 months will be passed after our breakup. Which I still can't believe.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke off with me, found a new guy, cheated on him with me (while I was hoping to get back together) and now they're getting married."}
{"id": "t3_3bsyr4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [26 F] 1.5 years, does she like me?", "post": "Me and my GF have been dating for 1.5 years, she's temporarily living with me (got a new job, only a few months, she's moving into an apartment soon). \n\nAnyways, have been dating for 1.5 years, we took it slow (didn't kiss her until like 3 months in) and the furthest I've gotten with her is 1st base aka we made out some for about a month or two then she stopped. She gives me kisses on the lips but no tongue/anything passionate. \n\nI asked her about it when it first occurred and she said everything was fine and she was going to kiss me how she liked, then I brought it up on our 1 year anniversary and she said she was worried about her breath then she said she was worried about 1 thing leading to another and getting pregnant. \n\nSo, I haven't made out with my girlfriend in literally over a year. What bugs me more is that she was a sexual deviant with her ex yet she won't even give me a good kiss. You think she's actually worried about getting knocked up or have I been put in the friend zone and she's afraid of being alone?", "summary": "GF of 1.5 years doesn't kiss kiss me but she was a freak with her ex. Am I in the friend zone?"}
{"id": "t3_kioqa", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Is it ok for men to run topless or women to run in a sports bra?", "post": "I hope everyone had a nice long run today. After my long run I was sitting around catching up on some internet and came across an interesting article about topless running. The article mentioned that running topless or in a sports bra for woman is a debate in the running community saying some folks believe it to be inappropriate and considered to be showing too much skin.\n\nI've been running for a year a half and I still consider myself new to the running community and not heard this...then again I'm forever alone runner. I run without shirt and I have never been approached or even heard this issue brought up. Has anyone else heard this or have an opinion about this?", "summary": "Is running topless or in a sports bra inappropriate and considered to be showing too much skin?"}
{"id": "t3_2capq1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiancee [25F] would like me [25M] to contribute 50% to her mortgage without putting me on the deed. Is this reasonable?", "post": "My fiancee and I have been engaged for 2 months and together for 6 years. We have no issues living with each other and are very happy with each other.\n\nWe are currently living in her house and I am paying her rent equal to half her mortgage. We split all other expenses. I'm okay with this arrangement but I had hoped after we get married, that all property would be owned mutually. She does not.\n\nShe would like to keep her house in her name only as well as have me continue to contribute 50% to her mortgage. It feels like I'd be putting money into her backup plan instead of our lives but she was adamant that the house remain hers entirely. She would also like to get a prenup that says in the event of a divorce she gets to keep the house, but assures me that I would get 50% of the equity gained during the marriage.\n\nI understand wanting some protection against divorce but this seems unfair to me. I am looking for some perspective here. Is this a reasonable request of hers to have me contribute 50% to the mortgage once married and not own it mutually?", "summary": "Fiancee would like me to contribute 50% to her mortgage but not own any part of it. Is this reasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_fr0g3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My psycho ex left a message last night saying to watch my children and those I hold dear to me, any advice?", "post": "Back story: We have two kids together, he last saw the oldest when she was 2 (she's 6) and has never met the youngest, who is 3 now. When we broke up, he said if he couldn't have me, he didn't want any of us. We broke up because he was a violent alcoholic and I asked him to quit drinking or leave.\n\nHe has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and told me once that he had been diagnosed with schizophrenia. I don't know the difference between the truth and lies, as I believe him to be a pathological liar as well. \n\nThe obvious answer is go to the police. At this point, I don't have his address. I believe I know what state he is in, but that is about it. Also, if I do manage to get a restraining order, and have him served, it will give him my address. This terrifies me. \n\nThings said in the message: I love you, I hate you, it is your fault my mother killed herself, watch your children and those you hold dear, blatant threats to my mother, my father, and my \"little husband\" (my fiance,) \"I'm closer than you think,\" \"I will kill you\" and some babble that makes little sense. \n\nAs I type this, I become more and more scared that he's on reddit and will see it. He has gotten me that paranoid.", "summary": "My ex may kill me and our children, but if I go to the police he will get my address, making it easier for him to kill us."}
{"id": "t3_3e7fst", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Am I being a huge baby?", "post": "To start off, I'm 27. A year ago I had an intense fear of the highway but since then I've driven on it and for the most part overcame it; this is important later on in why I feel so shitty. \n\nAnyway, a few days ago while watching a friend's house I was bitten by a house spider but I didn't know this yet until later. I woke up one morning to find a red and angry looking pimple thing on my tailbone, technically my upper ass cheek. I had a bad case of folliculitis so I thought it was an abscess and tried to pop it (didn't work and only a clear liquid oozed out)which made it extremely angry and swelled up to the size of a tennis ball and it was so damn painful to sit or have anything touch it. \n\nI promptly made a doctor appointment and that day it stopped hurting and was just only painful if it pressed up against something with a decent amount of pressure. Doctor prescribes antibiotics and says it's def not mrsa, staph or an abscess then I remember when I was in the bathroom I killed a house spider that had hidden under some towels near the toilet and the bite is exactly where you'd press your skin when you sit...fml.\n\nSo anyway, I need to drive 30-40 min out to get some stuff taken care of and asked my mother for help since the seat presses against the cyst and the cyst presses against a nerve making it really painful. The antibiotics also make me feel dizzy and tired. She tells me when she was my age she had a family and house by now and that it's \"so convenient\" that this is happening when I have to drive on the highway. \n\nI feel like shit and my self-esteem is terrible because of how I feel about myself and this isn't helping.", "summary": "Spider bite on my ass swelled up to the size of a tennis ball and antibiotics making me dizzy make it harder for me to drive; asked mother if she would oblige since it's 40 min out and she makes me feel like shit and I'm wondering if she's right."}
{"id": "t3_20gl98", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Does your roommate have to agree if you want to sublease your half of the lease?", "post": "As I have entered previous posts about dealing with a roommate in the past. When recently she came on vacation with my family (and damn do I regret ever inviting her) I realize that I am really being abused in this relationship. She got drunk and admits she never takes me seriously when I ask her anything- (something I TRY to do everytime) she steals all my stuff- yes roommate I printed 10 pages this year but the ink I bought in the fall is empty?! And she admits to letting people use my bathroom, lets me buy her Chinese food for her saying she will pay me back- or\nMaybe finally do the dishes (OKAY ENOUGH RAGGING)\n\nSo my problem these problems weren't as blaring in October when we had to resign our lease. She does everything with her mom- and is not at all easy to with. So would I be able to go around that and sublease my part of the lease for next year or am I totally fucked? \n\nI graduate in December so I would only need a semesters housing anyways- and if worse comes to worse ill commute. I just need out of this abusive \"friendship\".", "summary": "roommates a crazy bitch, help me escape."}
{"id": "t3_158ks5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In light of the NRA press conference, Would/How would change gun laws, and/or the right to bear arms?", "post": "I find this particular subject to debate very thought provoking; Would gun laws change the amount of violence on U.S. soil? I mean isn't it fair to think that a criminal who wants to break a law would also break the law to carry a gun as well?\n\nHow would changing the law allow Law Enforcement/Military the verbage to bear arms, wear they can bear arms and so forth?\n\nAs a Law Enforcement officer I never owned a gun before I became a cop, and I rarely carry it while off-duty, however knowing I have one when I do carry it does present a sense of security. Changing the laws to be tighter over civilians would also make the job to police somewhat easier as well.", "summary": "I see both sides of the gun law coin, and I'm not smart enough to figure out a change for the best."}
{"id": "t3_11qksn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Too young?", "post": "I'm a nineteen year old female. Attending school four days of the week. I work five days of the week.\n\nAm I too young to be in a relationship? \n\nJust got out of one but still holding onto what's gone. Not really sure what to do... I been told by everyone I know, that I'm too young to be \"tied down\" that I should go and make memories.. \n\nI feel like I should.. The man I fell in love with is leaving anyway to join the marines. \n\nIs it better to let go now, as opposed to waiting it out? We aren't even together.\n\nI want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to waste my time messing around with guys who will end up leaving my life.\nI know that's how it is. You get into a relationship, it starts and ends.\n Rinse and repeat. \nI want to skip that cycle..", "summary": "Should I just remain single or rinse and repeat with future \"lovers\" till Mr. Right comes along.."}
{"id": "t3_2ioxh7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Epiphany about xenophobia", "post": "I didn't watch that \"Ben Affleck vs. Maher and Harris\" video when it was in r/videos because I don't really care for Maher. Just now another article about it floated by, so I finally went ahead and watched it. I am so glad I did.\n\nAffleck was probably there to promote a movie or something. He could have easily leaned back and waited for Maher and Harris to be done with their bit. But instead he spoke up for people who weren't represented at that panel and was visibly upset about it. That was unexpected and refreshing.\n\nAnd this contrast finally made it obvious what kind of xenophobia Maher and Harris, who I used to hold in somewhat higher regard, are spouting there. Up until now I hadn't seen the blatant and ugly fear mongering about \"the muslim world\" by these self proclaim intellectuals for what it is.\n\nIt's hard to imagine what it must be like to be a muslim and see this stuff on TV on a daily basis. I feel for you and Ben Affleck is a small hero for doing what he did.\n\nI had to try and put this into words because this felt like one of those personal growth moments, where you suddenly see the world in a slightly different light.", "summary": "Watching \"Maher vs Affleck\" made me empathise with muslims."}
{"id": "t3_o7agt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "First Date Question - Need Opinions!", "post": "Hey, looking for some opinions.  I'm M 23, she's F 22.\n\nI met a girl on OkCupid and took her out last night (Jan 6).  We met up at a bar and had a great time.  We went through 3 rounds of drinks, sharing the last two rounds.  I really had a great time and felt very comfortable talking to her.  We agreed that the date was going really well and that we would see each other again.  The date lasted just around 2 hours.\n\nNow, I would have gone in for a kiss, or developed some kino, but I got the impression from her that she would want to move slower.  She had brought up an ex boyfriend (red flag, but the discussion was more about what we had learned from our past relationships).  We also discussed casual sex, and how we weren't interested in it. Again, I was very comfortable talking to her about these issues, which is uncommon for me. These topics suggested to me that moving slower would be best.\n\nSo, today, I text her for a second date.  But she replies that she got a \"friend vibe\" from the date.  So, now I'm kicking myself in the foot for not going for that kiss or developing some kino.\n\nI'm very tempted to email/text her and explain my outlook and how I feel.  I very much enjoyed the date and felt that we could have had something.  I feel like I screwed up. =/  Is this a good idea??  If not, I just need to rant...", "summary": "Had a great date. No kiss/kino because discussion led me to believe she wanted to move slower.  Got friend zoned, no second date.  Kicking self in foot, want to win her back"}
{"id": "t3_11zs61", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, thinking about portraying PFC Bradley Manning for Halloween, good idea or bad idea?", "post": "For Halloween this year, I am considering going as Private First Class Bradley Manning (if you don't know who he is, Google the name). It's certainly not your typical Halloween costume by any means, but I usually don't do the typical thing.\n\nI want to represent Bradley in good taste while offering information to my friends and co-workers about the history of what lead up to the charges against him, the current state of the trial, info about Wikileaks and what we have learned from the various leaks, Julian Assange and the allegations against him, etc. I only intend on dressing up at work and at home on Halloween so as to not be viewed as impersonating a soldier or breaking the uniform law in any way. I'm not going to force my opinion onto anyone, just offer only the facts if asked.\n\nThere has been some controversial costumes worn in the past, so I don't have any reason to believe that it would be taken the wrong way, but I also don't want to tread on taboo or anything that might offend or upset anyone at my work place.", "summary": "So Reddit, am I off my rocker in wanting to be Bradley Manning for Halloween or shall I go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_4aa0p1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] recently broke up with my girlfriend [21 F] of 1 year over \"not giving enough effort\"", "post": "So to start off, this is my first post here. \n\nThe relationship was great for roughly 7/8 months. We hit a rough patch towards the end of December. The reason that we broke up was because she didn't think I was giving enough (though I thought I was). I had ever intention of trying to make it work and changing myself for her, and she wanted that. This past week, however, we both went on spring break, me on a cruise and her to California to see family. On her trip, she went with some family friend (not of her's, I think her aunt's) and now she \"realizes\" that he is better than me.. \n\nI think I loved her (she loved me a lot). When I say I \"think I loved her\" it's more because I have an issue with loneliness, and settle when someone I \"think\" I like comes by. Now I'm jealous, feeling very alone, and unsure if I can ever give enough.\n\nDoes anyone have an issue not giving enough in a relationship or try to appease the person so they are not lonely?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I went on a rough patch, she found someone better than me, now its over. Anyone not give enough in a relationship/settle to avoid loneliness?"}
{"id": "t3_3kztlv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Helping me out with massive self-esteem problems", "post": "Prepare for a rant!\n\nAll my life I've been just a wreck when it comes to my self esteem issues and now they're bothering me more than ever. \n\nRight now I'm dating a girl, a very beautiful girl with an amazing personality and body and just everything about her is perfect. Then there's me; a somewhat socially awkward 17 year old guy who is overweight, covered with acne, has no real talents, not good at really any sports, and really just not much to offer.\n\nHere I am wondering what to do with myself. I know it's not her fault, but my girlfriend is a huge Nick Jonas fan, and even I know how talented and attractive he is. All she does is talk about him (which of course is normal for a girl) which to be honest just makes me feel worse every passing day because I'm not something a girl really *wants*.\n\nI've been working out every day and I see little progress and have been on a diet for a few months (4?) now. I honestly don't know what to do to make myself anywhere near as good looking as some other guys are. I have a condition called gynocomastia which makes my nipples look puffy and that's been something I've been made fun of for my whole life. I can't wear something without it looking like I have two pencils sticking out from my shirt. I can't remember the last time I took my shirt off at the beach or pool. When I first started having sex I never took my shirt off (still probably won't) purley because I felt embarrassed of myself. \n\nI really want to be able to sing or play the guitar or something at least but I'm god-awful at both.\n\nI honestly don't know what to do with myself anymore. I'm trying everything possible to change myself and nothing is working. Help me reddit?", "summary": "Massive self-esteem issues regarding my body, looks, and talents (lack of)"}
{"id": "t3_hjd0y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Might break it off with a girl I'm seeing because I dont feel ready, am I crazy?", "post": "I am a 25/m and shes the same age. We have only been seing eachother for a week and met online. Had two fun dates and then this last weekend went to her place and cooked her dinner. Ended up having sex and staying to the next afternoon playing around and flirting-it was awesome.\n\nI am pretty much a relationship noob as i was in a VERY ltr up until a few months ago. So i sort of hinted that i was interested in her being my gf this weekend(way too soon i know) and she said that we should keep things as they are for now.\n\nNow i am pretty sure i am entirely over my ex, i broke it off and it had been a bad relationship for a long time. But i feel like i am way way too interested in this girl for having only known her a week. To be fair, asked before hand my ideal girl would sort of be a close approximation of her, but still it is a bit lopsided. I am sort of worried about the whole rebound thing, but then again this is the sort of girl i could see a future with.\n\nAnyway, it is sort of tearing me up emotionally at the moment because i don't think i can play the \"dating game\" with her.After ending my other relationship and other things that happened to me this year if she wasnt able to reciprocate i think it would be a bit much for me emotionally at the moment. And i also don't know if i can reconcile having sex with someone who is not my \"girlfriend.\"\n\nSo should i be honest and tell her? Keep it wrapped and try to play it cool like i dont feel this way? I mean of course part of me wants her to respond by essentially throwing her at me and us being together but it seems unliklely.", "summary": "ima little bitch."}
{"id": "t3_334kv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "Link to original post: \n\nSo we ended up talking about everything last night. I told him all of my worries, and how I felt about the situation. He seemed to have something to say about everything I said. He was very comforting, and I felt like he really cared about me feels towards it all.\n\nAbout her coming down and everything, he basically just said he wants to close the door on that part of his life for good. She wanted to come and see his brother as well, hang out and catch up since it's been so long. He also reassured me that nothing would happen between them, that he is with me and she understands and respects that.\n\nI also asked if he felt that we have a future together, and he said for now he sees that, so long as nothing changes. I still feel kind of off about everything, but as I said I am a very anxious person. So I am just hoping that these are just irrational feelings that I have. Either way, i'll just say that I am just wanting this whole ordeal to be over, and for things to get back to normal.\n\nI would also like to give a big thank you to everyone who commented, it means a lot, and i'm sorry if I didn't have a chance to reply to all of them.", "summary": "Talked with him last night, he reassured me that he just wants to close that chapter in his life, I feel better, but still worried about the visit."}
{"id": "t3_3qym7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my mother [41F]: Mom is freaking out because I don't want pillows on my bed.", "post": "This is kind of insane behavior. \n\nI moved out six weeks ago. I was paying rent, but I couldn't live with someone who went through my shit like I was 14. \n\nI saved enough to get a studio apartment. I am fully employed, go to school part time, and am single. So I am pretty focused on my own stuff at the moment. I got a kitten, but that isn't the point of contention. \n\nMy mom insisted my room be decorated to her standards, which included making the bed every day with 20 pillows arranged like the magazine picture. It drove me insane. \n\nI am a really minimalistic person. I like color, funky prints, but I don't want a clutter of knick-nacks. \n\nSo when I moved out, I took my sheets and the pillow I slept on, but left the rest of it. I got a comforter, and just have two pillows on there. I sleep on those. The bed doesn't look \"magazine perfect\" but its easy. I make my bed every day. \n\nI am like my dad [60m] and want things to be nice, neat, and clutter free. I don't keep tons of things I don't need or use. I am just very simple in that regard. Even my fashion sense is pretty straight forward. \n\nHowever, my mom keeps coming to visit me and bringing pillows and other things for my home that I don't want. Some of the stuff was cute (there was a pillow with a bull dog on it I kept.) But I don't want frilly floral things all over the house. \n\nI paid for the furniture myself and I can afford everything. But she is literally trying to fill my house with things I don't need. I told her to take it back or I would donate what I didn't want. I ended up taking a huge amount (5 large garbage bags full) of shit she brought me. And she still continues to do it. \n\nIDK what the fuck is going on, but she keeps thinking the space is her space. I am not sure what to do?", "summary": "My mother keeps trying to clutter my space with pillows and knick nacks, which I have told her I don't want in my new apartment. I want her to stop. How can I get her to stop!?"}
{"id": "t3_v9s1x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/m] My gf (21/f) is deeply angry at me after a fight and she also studying for her exams, how can i save this?", "post": "We had a big fight last week because she had problems studying and i asked her to take a break and have a walk to clear up her mind to go on better. She is now deeply angry at me because she says i don't understand her and support her the way she wants to, she is also threatening me with a break up. I can barely speak to her (we are rarely talking via txt in these days) and she has a very stressful exam at school tomorrow. I know this, and in my last txt i said that i am sorry for what happened, that i DO care about her study and that she should focus on her exam instead of thinking about all this situation. I really don't know how to fix things up and i am afraid of losing her just because of some exams stress -_", "summary": "my gf is threatening to break up with me because i can't support her the way she wants when she is stressed for her exams"}
{"id": "t3_1odite", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "flair:'Dating' Me[18M] confused with signs from [19F] I met. How important is age?", "post": "For the purpose of this post I will call her T and me H.\nFirst of all: I had almost no friends in high school, didn't like most people there and have just a slight Idea how socializing works.\n\nBasically no Idea how to judge the relationship between me and other people unless they straight up tell me.\n\nSo last week college started and we were put in groups with 25-40 people of the same course to get to know each other and learn stuff about the university, but mainly party as it was our first week.\n\nI got to know T and had some amazing, flowing conversations (I usually have a really hard time talking to people). Furthermore she seemed to like me: Long eye contact, her leaning on my shoulder in bars/during walks, saying she doesn't care how boring tomorrows group activities were going to be as long as we both were there. Although I liked her aswell and enjoyed her company more than the one of any other human I met in the last years, I was too afraid to return the more physical signs. \n\nBut the worst thing was that she thought I was 20 until she asked me, since the average age is around 20 and she will turn 20 in Januar. On the next few days we still chatted every now and then but not as before.\n \n\nThought it was over but T started texting me again, saying she was sad that no one was around, asking me for pictures of my room and 'I would really like to go out something with friends...' . I wasn't able to responde in time as I had to do quite a lot of stuff around the house, which I explained to her. The next day there was just some small texting, which I initiated but mainly talked about lecture related stuff.\n\nAm I over-thinking everything? Was she just bored? Just the alcohol level of last week that made the positive moments possible? Did I fuck up hard and let it seem like I'm not interested at all? And how important is age difference for girls? Still a chance to actually date her and how do people usually initiate that?", "summary": "Did I fail at showing interest or was the age question really such a turning point"}
{"id": "t3_2gcm1a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Just turned 18 and want to build my credit", "post": "I have been working since 16 and make around $12,000 annually with a small amount of expenses (gas, car insurance). I literally just turned 18 and felt that it would be a good idea to get a credit card. I honestly don't need it to \"make purchases I can't afford\" but I really just want one to start building my credit.\n\nI talked with my Dad about it and he said that applying for a store card like Best Buy (where I work actually) would be a good idea or that getting a secured credit card would also be a good idea. I prefer the secured credit card route due to being able to use it anywhere and I can't see myself actually using a store card consistently as I do not shop at one place consistently.\n\nWhat are some of the best secured Credit Cards to get? I'm not worried about a high credit limit, I just want my credit to go up and be good, for a lack of better words. My current debit card is with a Credit Union and I read that those and Capital One are usually the best route to go with.\n\nI also wanted to know if it is better to with Visa, Mastercard, Discover, AMEX ETC.", "summary": "Just turned 18 and have had steady income for two year and want to build credit through secured credit card, what is best route for me to take."}
{"id": "t3_ty4fb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the prescription drug sentencing standards in Maryland?", "post": "My friend's brother was just arrested after he was found sleeping in his car in a parking lot.  They smelled mary-jane and searched his car.  They found some pot and a lot of prescription drugs which were not prescribed to him.  From what I've been told he had Oxycontin, Xanax, Percocet and over 70 Klonopins.  He was already on a diversion program for violating his DUI probation with a pot charge.  As of right now, the charges are only for possession of CDS (several) and paraphernalia.  I can't seem to find anything online about what the guidelines for sentencing are for prescription drugs.  Any help and/or advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Friends bro locked up for a lot of script drugs.  Want to know what kind of time he's facing."}
{"id": "t3_1hety7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm really frustrated in my relationship but I feel really guilty because I'm trans and he provides.", "post": "I'm married to a really chill and understanding guy. He's been there for me through my transition from female to male (which occurred within our marriage) and currently brings in the only income while I go through graduate school through a fellowship thing.\n\nHe's not a bad guy and I feel like shit for even feeling frustrated in the first place.\n\nHe's rather overweight and has less than ideal hygiene. As I've become more and more okay with my own body through hrt and exercise, I'm realizing that the only thing I'm sexually attracted to about him is that he has a dick. Sex is really awkward for me because I have this enormous sex drive but at the same time, I don't have much sexual interest in him and his performance is less than ideal (mostly due to his weight). I wank a lot but that doesn't solve everything for me. \n\nHe doesn't like to leave our home much and I want to spend time with him, but I'm feeling more and more trapped as time goes on. It turns out that another part of feeling better in my own skin means I want to go outside more and be active rather than live in video games and films.\n\nShowing affection and romance have never been his strong suits and  I feel like I need this in order to gauge whether he's even that into me or values me.\n\nTo make things worse, he's told me he's really content. After all he's gone through with me he pretty much has zero complaints. What is wrong with me?", "summary": "Partner has stood by me and supported my transition and brings home all the bacon. I feel like shit for being frustrated with things in bed, his disinterest in leaving the house and lack of affection/romance and can't talk about it. I am a bad person."}
{"id": "t3_3ifcum", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a guy with cancer", "post": "I was staying after school for about two and a half hours for Chemistry and the teacher said one of her old students is coming by to visit. She gets a call from the office saying he's on his way and I walk out to the hallway and I see him. I started to burst out laughing. And by laughing i mean hysterically laughing even though it really wasn't funny at all. In the hallway the old student is in a wheelchair and he had just puked. I for some reason thought he was a mannequin and wasn't real and thought it was a weird prank?? And did i forget to mention. The guy I'm laughing at is my brother's close friend and visits my house frequently. I have met him several times after this incident chilling in my house. I hope he never remembers me and doesn't go on reddit.", "summary": "I laughed at a guy with cancer puking in a hallway and he is super close friend of my brother ."}
{"id": "t3_ihtc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have you ever found yourself emotionally withdrawn from a relationship for a period of time?", "post": "My GF and I have been long distance for the last 2 months, and will continue to be so for the next 26 days.\n\nAfter a turbulent emotional period that happened a few weeks ago, which I won't go into, I've found myself feeling drained and very close to numb about the relationship. We were fighting a lot, and things felt very close to the breaking point.\n\nIs it normal to feel this way after a very turbulent period in a relationship, especially one that is long distance for a few months? Things are stable now, so I'm hoping it will recover and I just need time to heal.", "summary": "emotionally drained and feeling sort of numb, will I recover?"}
{"id": "t3_2pc0z1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] boyfriend [24M] of 1.5 years will fail out of college, should we break up?", "post": "I go to a very prestigious college, and \"have so much potential\" as many people say. I hope to become a doctor one day. My boyfriend however, was kicked out of his college at the age of 22. We met as he was working to save money for college and I had just graduated from highschool. He now goes to another college, but recently failed a class. This will put him off from graduating a whole year again. So that by the time he graduates, if he even does, he will be 26.\n\nIt concerns me that this is the second time he has messed up. He lacks motivation to do his work. I love him so much. He tells me we need to end this because I deserve better. But I can't imagine my life without him. He will not be able to take classes this spring semester, and we don't really know what he is going to do. He might go and frack for a bit.", "summary": "so does anyone have experience with being with someone you fear may become a deadbeat? I am in love with him and can't be without him; but everyone, including him, tells me I need to move on."}
{"id": "t3_4xuzsg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend (21M) doesn't trust me anymore", "post": "I (21F) am an assistant manager of a pizza place where all of the employees are really friendly with each other. A lot of us hang out outside of work so it's not unusual for us to make jokes and stuff at work.\nWe got a new guy (28M) \"Andrew\" a few weeks ago who has even taking things a little too far. Flirting with some of the girls, making comments about my boyfriend, and things started to get physical (touching my arm or sides)\n\nI told my boyfriend (21M) all about this because I tell him everything and wouldn't want to lie by omission. I also shared with him that I was seriously sexually harassed at another job before this one. He was my boss and would unhook my bra and try to kiss me. I never said anything to anyone about it. My boyfriend told me me I needed to confront \"Andrew\". I agreed because I knew he was right but I am very bad at confrontation and was nervous.\n\nThe next day instead of clearly telling \"Andrew\" the behavior needed to stop I just ignored him all day when he tried to talk to me because I thought that would make it stop. When my boyfriend asked about how it went I told him and he was upset. He said I didn't do enough. I later went back and firmly told Andrew to stop. And he apologized. But to my boyfriend it was a little too late.\n\nWe went almost a whole day and a half without talking because of our work schedules and he wanted to talk face to face about it. When we met up he said it broke his trust that I didn't handle this and that maybe I'm not ready for a relationship. He said he loves me but doesn't know how to get past this. He doesn't want me to even work with Andrew anymore. I'm leaving to join the Air Force in a month. Me and my boyfriend we're going to try and make it work with long distance for a little while and then hopefully he would move to be with me but now my boyfriend is reconsidering the whole thing.\n\nI don't know what to do. We are trying to make it work but I don't know how to rebuild his trust in me.", "summary": "My coworker has been flirting with me and when I told my boyfriend he told me to put a stop to it. I'm such a pushover I didn't make I as clear as I should have and now my boyfriend doesn't trust me and is considering breaking up. We agreed to try and work on the relationship but idk what to do to rebuild his trust"}
{"id": "t3_319klg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [16F], she has some emotional issues that are tough to describe", "post": "Hi /r/relationships[1] ! I love this subreddit and lurk on my main account. However, I try to keep my main account rather professional, as I mod a couple subs and don't wanna hurt my own reputation when a throwaway is this simple to make. But anyway! More about the problem at hand.\n\nI have a close friend, who we will call \"Joann.\" She's one of my closet friends who I really have an intellectual bond with and I want to help her. She's insanely smart and pretty, but she has a problem that's restricting part of her life.\n\nOver freshman and sophomore year, she had a romantic relationship with a guy who we will call Kenyan, because that's his name and it's a little less unique than Joann's real name. Anyway, they were never really official but they flirted a lot and he acted committed and Joann got really attached to him. She is a Mormon so she was adamant about not being anything official until she was 16. He was super excited to be her first kiss but in the meantime dated his rotation of girls. Joann finally realized how bad he was for her on her 16th birthday. He was dating another girl, and when he leaned in to kiss her, she simply said \"save it for your girlfriend,\" and that was all the closure they had. No contact after.\n\nThis is a problem because she's still super attached to him. See, I'm posting because we've been talking tonight and like usual, we got into a deep talk. What she told me was bone chilling. She saw a video with him in it and she almost puked. She says it's a \"combination of adrenaline and a flood of emotions from seeing him,\" that quote was pulled directly from our texts. \n\nI guess my point is not to make a point of her emotional issues, but to see if there's a solution or a process that I can take to help her heal? I hate seeing her like this and I'm not really an emotional intelligence aficionado so I was wondering if you could help, /r/relationships[2] . What advice do you have for me?", "summary": "Girlfriend has some personal issues that I would like to help with, can you guys help or even point in the right direction?"}
{"id": "t3_1421la", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am worried that my SO [26M] is taking advantage of me.", "post": "I [19F] am worried that my SO [25M] is taking advantage of me. We both have a lot going for us, but he comes with some old, hurtful relationship baggage. He's gone after a lot of floozy's before, but I'm certainly not one of them. Also, he's always highly critical of me, and doesn't think of my opinions as often as he should. I'm younger, and I'm very nice and get taken advantage of easily. I'm not ready to settle down yet, but I keep getting pressure from both of our families. We have been together for a year and a half now.", "summary": "How do I know he's serious about me, and doesn't just think I'm a good choice for his future?"}
{"id": "t3_2d1q2u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my Father [52 M] I'm worried the he's about to snap.", "post": "Before I say anything, I'd just like to make it clear that ordinarily my father is a wonderful person. He's usually very calm and friendly. But he has bipolar disorder, until very recently he's been on a dose of medication that keeps it in check.\n\nA few months ago, his doctor decreased his dosage to decrease the weight gaining caused by the drug. Ever since then, he's gone from his usual self to a radical fundamentalist who goes ballistic at the slightest provocation. Lately it's gotten even worse escalating to a point were he menacingly held a guitar like a baseball bat sorta like an unspoken threat. \n\nThe main problem is, he's convinced that he doesn't need the meds. Please, help me convince him otherwise.", "summary": "Bipolar dad decreased medication dose, now he seems on the verge of homicidal and refuses treatment."}
{"id": "t3_10ohf1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it normal for M(21) and F(20) to approach future plans hesitantly?", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI've M(21) been with my GF F(20) for about 3 months now (dating for another 2 before hand) and we're perfectly happy together. No fights, arguments, ect. The issue is this, whenever either of us bring up an event that would be in the distant future we both make the concious effort to first say, \"assuming we're still together...\" before saying the event.... \n\nFor example: My girlfriends birthday is next year, she wants to go to Vegas (totally down), but before she started to bring up the idea she said, \"So for my 21st birthday, I think it would be awesome to go to Vegas! *insert momentary pause* Not saying we're going to break up, but assuming we're still together it would be so much fun if we went with a bunch of people... (and so on)\" \n\nI tend to do the same thing, when bringing up a future event, ill kind of throw in the fact that \"We'll cross that bridge when we get there but it would be awesome if next year we... (blah blah blah).\" \n\nIs that normal? Or does the fact we consciously entertain the idea that we COULD eventually break up mean that there's something inherently wrong in the relationship? I feel like normally people dont even have the thought of \"possible break up in the future\" in their heads. \n\nI realize the relationship is also young in its maturity, but never the less the question still stands. Thanks in advance reddit.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I make it a point to mention that we may or may not still be together in the future before making plans for a future event... is that normal?"}
{"id": "t3_38k7xi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Trainer offered to introduce me [23M]to one of his other female [23F] clients. Should I take him up on it?", "post": "Been going to the gym and seeing a trainer for a while now, between sets he likes to people watch and loves to point out any nice looking girls. We talk and go through my routine and there has always been this one girl who has caught my eye when she is there. \n\nMy trainer noticed this and asked who it was that has been catching my attention, when I told him he said that he trained her and would be happy to introduce us. Which sounds great, but I don't know anything about this girl outside of really liking the way she looks.\n\nI'm not socially awkward but unless I have some background information or a mutual interest I'm not good at talking to strangers, especially this really attractive girl. \n\nThe one rule I know about the gym is that people are there to workout, not socialize, I'm pretty sure that having a random guy approach this girl mid workout would be the last thing she'd want in her life so I'd rather not have that be my first impression.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions?\nI'm completely content with not pursuing this, because I like this gym a lot and would rather have things stay as they are then introduce a new worry of whether or not I'd have to hide from a failed attempt at hitting on this girl", "summary": "Trainer at the gym offered to introduce me to a cute girl that has been catching my attention but I have no idea what her interests are, also don't want to have a first impression be me interrupting her workout."}
{"id": "t3_2nwbzo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22M] What should you do if your girlfriend says \"I love you\" and you're not ready to say it back?", "post": "I've been dating an 18 year old gal for like 4 months now, and I feel like she is going to end up saying it before I do. I know I have to be honest but I'm not sure how to word that I'm not ready.\n\nI've had two girlfriends before my current one- with the first, I told her I loved her back but didn't mean it (in hopes that I would over time) which was stupid as hell. With my second girlfriend, I said it too early (within a few months), she didn't reciprocate and that really fucked things for me. Basically, I've have some bad experiences stemming from those words (haven't we all) and I think I'm subconsciously trying to stop myself from getting hurt, as well as me from hurting my girlfriend.\n\nMaybe I'm wrong, but once you say I love you, I feel like it just escalates things to a point which will result in a lot of hurt for both parties if you break up (which is probably redundant to say). I felt really guilty after I broke up with my 1st girlfriend and I really don't want to have hurt someone that much, again.\n\nPart of the reason why I'm not ready could be that I am graduating in April and may have to move away for a job. I definitely wouldn't want to talk about that issue unless I have to move though.", "summary": "I think my girlfriend is gonna say \"I love you\" first, and I want to know how to tell her I'm not ready. In the past saying those words has went horribly for me so this probably makes it harder for me to say"}
{"id": "t3_gcevy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the strangest prank call you've gotten?", "post": "So i'm sitting here at work when suddenly a strange call comes in from a 3rd line. Usually i don't pick up unless it rings more then once, but this did, so i answered.\n\nA strange british person was talking rather gaily on the other line to where i couldve sworn it was a sound bored. I was confused and even asked but the responses were odd and i found myself confused.... i have to say they succeeded.  At the same time the alarm that monitors the patients i deal with go off and all hell breaks loose as the alarm goes off, the prank caller panics and hangs up, and the monitor for the patients heart pump (work with pumps) goes blank.\n\n... Weirdest prank call and series of events yet.", "summary": "weird British prank caller, then all hell breaks loose.  "}
{"id": "t3_51v5dj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Will a muscle relaxer and/or pain killer change blood work results?", "post": "Respond ASAP please! I'm on a time crunch.\n\nI have a physical tomorrow at 2PM, with routine blood work that's long overdue. I want it to be accurate, as I'm in the process of finding a diagnosis for a potential autoimmune disease. \n\nHowever, today I ripped/strained/whatever my trapezius muscle, and I can't move my neck or arm without a lot of pain. Is it okay to take a muscle relaxer and/or painkiller tonight, the night before my blood test? Or could it change my results somehow? \n\nI've got some work to do tonight (mandatory, since I have to leave early work tomorrow for my appointment), and it hurts so much to lift my arm and use the computer that I can't focus. Otherwise, I wouldn't even ask, and suck it up.  \n\nAs is, I've got ice and a makeshift neck brace (towel) on the area, and of course I'll ask my doc about treatment tomorrow. I only have one of each of the pills (generic soma and an oxycodone/hydrocodone/one of the odones), and I believe they're both the lowest dose.\n\nIf anyone has any info that could be of use, I would appreciate it immensely; thank you!", "summary": "Can I take a muscle relaxer or/or painkiller the night before a blood test?"}
{"id": "t3_24z48y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I know when it's over? (F19/M19, LRD 5 months)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months, 4 of those month being long distance. This is my first relationship as well as his, and we try to see each other once a month. He's coming to visit me this weekend but I don't feel the usual excitement. We've barely been talking for the past two weeks and things just seem off. We used to text all day every day, now he can barely hold a conversation with me. I used to hate going too long without texting him, now it doesn't seem to bother me if I don't hear from him very much throughout the day because it seems like we don't have anything to talk about anymore, no matter how hard I try. I used to be so dependent on him, but now I feel like maybe I'm strong enough on my own. The hard part is that I can't tell if my feelings for him have changed or not. I'm afraid that my relationship is becoming a chore, but I can't tell if it's coming to an end or if we've just hit a dry spell. I've never doubted our relationship until now, and I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "LDR feels like it's becoming a chore, not sure how I feel or if I should end it."}
{"id": "t3_f2382", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I made a mistake.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for close to five years. I am 19, she is 20. I realize we are young, but I feel like we have been in the relationship long enough to tie the knot. What's more is that I feel like I am obligated to marry her for all of the promises and love I have given to her over the years. \n     However, in the first year of our relationship she cheated on me. Again, I realize we were both very young and young people make mistakes. I took her back thinking that it would get better from there. Now I feel like that was my chance to experience more than just the affection of just one woman. Now as we are approaching the end of our college careers it seems like something needs to happen. It has gotten better, I feel like she truly loves me, but I feel like I have missed out on a crucial part of my young life (dating many people and having the experiences that comes with that). \n     Anyway, the fact is, I feel obligated to stay in this relationship for the long haul, and that I missed my chance to experience the intimacy of others. More so, I am afraid that I cannot create a relationship with anyone else. The more I type this, the more things I think to add... sorry.\n     I feel like I didn't get the opportunity to flirt and have fun through high school, and will not get the opportunity to in college. The thing is, we share many of the same interests and she seems so perfect when I think about it, but I feel as if the experiences of having relationships with others would outweigh this... I'm not sure... I'm so confused about what I should do..", "summary": "I feel trapped (or perhaps bored) in my relationship with my high school sweetheart. I had the chance to end it, but now I feel like I would break her heart if I were to break it off. I also feel like we work very well together, but I feel like I regret not having more relationships before getting into the one that will last the rest of my life.. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, just some advice or help or something."}
{"id": "t3_18gu7e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19M] In a relationship for ~10 mos., where we can't see each other much, and it's depressing us both. (More details in text)", "post": "I'm an aid for a student at a college about 35 miles away from her, and she can make it up about... once a week, plus occasional weekends. When we started dating, we were together nearly every day, and when we're together, we're perfectly fine.\n\nThe aid job requires 24/7 living in the dorm room with him, giving me little free time to go outside the college. We text every day, and talk every night, occasionally throughout the day.\n\nI've mostly been trying to keep myself busy with menial tasks (drawing, gaming, ... reddit), while she is attending Senior year at High School. Lately, depression has been setting in for her, while I cope, and she's been missing a majority of school. When we're not texting or talking, all she feels like doing is sleeping.\n\nWe both don't really know what we can do, as I can't get time off to resolve it, or spend any real amount of time together, until May, when the job ends, and I'll be back down state.", "summary": "I'm in a relationship where we're sad because we can never see each other, due to certain circumstances."}
{"id": "t3_1enc7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if I (23f) should give it another shot with him (28m) ?", "post": "I'll try to make this as short as possible. \n\nWe had been seeing each other for about a month when I impulsively decided that we should stop (I had my reasons, there were a few red flags but instead of talking to him about them I just assumed I was right and so I broke it off). When he agreed with me and told me he saw signs of jealousy with me, I got ticked and blew up on him. Blew up meaning, I went absolutely nuts. For no reason! I am still trying to figure out why I can't hold onto my emotions when it comes to stuff like this.\n\nAnyways, we got into a fight and it ended badly. This was about a month ago. He called me the other night, tipsy. I eventually answered after the third call, and we talked for about thirty minutes. I told him I was sorry for the way I acted and that I do realize that it was absolutely crazy and irrational. He said he wants to give it another shot, and I told him I would think about it and get back to him. I did a few days later and told him I'm willing to talk to him face to face and see what happens. Alls he said was \"okay.\" \n\nI had feelings for him and we get along really well. If I had communicated my feelings properly, none of this would have happened. I am still learning to express my emotions in a healthy manner. My question is, should I give it another shot with him?", "summary": "Guy wants to give it another shot after I pulled out the 'crazy' on him and didn't speak for a month."}
{"id": "t3_4m2m0y", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[MO] Landlord misled us, now forcing us to stick to lease", "post": "SO is starting medical school in Missouri in July.  Early this year she decided it would be good to find an apartment before they were all gone since the town is small and has lots of college students coming/going.  I didn't argue and we browsed around the web to find a variety of good options.  Ranked them based a few different factors and she ultimately chose one that looked nice and had laundry on site.  This is the key.  I'll admit we should have investigated further but in all my experience, on site laundry means in the same building.  So a couple months later we opted to make a trip to visit the town, scout things out, see the apartment, etc.  When we got to the apartment we were shocked to find that not only was laundry not in the same building, but it was something like buildings away and the woman doing the showing opted to drive there.  At this point we were pretty upset.   We had already paid the security deposit ($550) and the lease stated that if she opted out of the lease by 5/31 she would only be on the hook for security and one month rent (additional $550).  We've been actively trying to find somebody to take over the apartment since this happened but have had no luck.  5/31 was yesterday and we told them we had no people lined up but that we would continue to try if it was an option.  They said no, send a check for $550 and this is over.  Now, I can handle the $550 but as a matter of principle and the fact that is still a significant amount of money I'd rather not pay it.  Do we have any sort of recourse we can take.  Something tells me they aren't will to go to court over $550 bucks but I don't really want to either.", "summary": "SO rented an apartment based on pictures and landlord description, told laundry was on site when it's actually a long walk/short drive away, now we're on the hook for $1100 bucks (already paid half, and don't want to pay the other half)"}
{"id": "t3_34r65t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18 M] thinking about ending a friendship with someone [20F] really important to me.", "post": "Some days ago, me and a friend (not just a random friend, she means a lot to me) got in an argument because she kept making weird excuses when meeting up. She did this even when she was the one that wanted to do something.\n\nAfter a couple times, this got really tiring and I told her that it's really rude and it hurts my feelings. She really didn't seem to grasp the fact that doing it, repeatedly, is just mean. After the amount of times this has happened, it feels like she is just trying to drive me crazy on purpose.\n\nHaving mentioned that, It's important to know that, apart from this, she is a really nice person and has grown to become one of the special people (not in a romantic way) in my life.\n\nI told some other friends about this and they all told me to just end the friendship. To be honest I was thinking the same, because it's been driving me beyond crazy, but I don't want to lose her either.\n   \nI understand that things can come up unexpectedly, and that would mean she has to cancel whatever we were planning, but this happening so often, combined with her letting me know either AFTER we were supposed to meet or like 10 minutes before, just makes me feel like I should just say 'fuck it' and leave her.", "summary": "Thinking about ending a friendship with a very good friend because she keeps cancelling things when we agreed to meet somewhere."}
{"id": "t3_2pk733", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27M) GF (26F) is only loving and empathetic when it's convenient to her", "post": "We've lived together for a month now and we are usually very happy together but we've also survived a lot of shit already. Bad friendships, new dog, kicking a housemate out for her. After every tense situation, I am the one apologizing and I understand I haven't handled things exactly as she wanted, but it worries me how few mistakes she has admitted and how empathetic she is not. I read recently that people who love you are by your side even when you suck. I feel that is the only time when we are not close. Like the success of this relationship depends on my ability to make x number of mistakes or fewer. Shouldn't it be more about understanding each others' intentions and avoiding offending each other, while forgiving mistakes? I feel that she has never really forgiven me. Each time I apologize she accepts it as if I said \"it won't happen again\" instead of accepting it because it was an honest miscommunication or mistake. Similarly, she rarely apologizes because she is who she is. I'll admit that she makes very few mistakes but the ones she makes are very personal like not paying attention to me when I am sad or not acknowledging the legitimacy of my feelings. She is an affectionate person but only on her own time. There are very specific occasions that people need a hug or a shoulder and she does not look for ways to console me in those times, despite my requests that she be more attentive. I do not want to leave her but I will if need be. We are very compatible, save for this caveat (but it feels like a big one). What can I do to let her know that I generally feel disrespected and unappreciated? I have told her many times and she says \"oh sure I can be nicer\" but doesn't acknowledge the severity of it and then she doesn't change, which is particularly frustrating because I have changed a lot of things in my life for her.", "summary": "my gf is self-centered, which I don't mind except when I need attention or sympathy and she doesn't try to support me"}
{"id": "t3_23dyuk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [23 F] of one year, having issues with intelligence", "post": "I'm pretty sure there isn't a way in which I can present this without being douchey, so I'm just going to be douchey.\n\nSo I've been with my current girlfriend for a little over a year. I'm very attracted to her, she's super funny, and one of the nicest persons I've ever met. Yet the issue is that there is a significant intelligence gap between us. It is beginning, at least for me, to put a strain on our relationship.\n\nSo I went to very good four year college, graduated with a degree in biochemical engineering, and currently work in that field. My job is very demanding and requires me to constantly be studying new technology and medical research.\n\nMy girlfriend is an assistant teacher at a preschool. She attended a community college but didn't receive any type of degree. She is bright and can understand things fairly quickly, but simply lacks any formal education beyond a basic level. I've tried to convince her to go back to school, but she does not want to.\n\nBasically, I feel like our minds are on different levels. The other day she didn't know who Issac Newton was (I made a joke about him when she dropped an apple). I don't like watching Netflix with her because the shows she likes are frankly dumb. She doesn't like shows such as Sherlock because 'they're too smart'. I read all the time and she doesn't, and she can't understand why I read so much and gives me crap about it. \n\nI don't need her to have a degree in particle physics from MIT. I just want us to be on the same page. What can I do?", "summary": "The intelligence difference between me and my girlfriend is straining our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1reeb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] and my EX [18 F] 1 year 3 months, Just broke up, I'm at a stand still.", "post": "I meet my ex when she was in a relationship.\nHer relation did not go well and after that we got together and it was pretty good.\n\nDown the line we did more and more with each other.\nThen things kinda got, hard.\n\nI tend to be to kind and generous with people and sometimes It feels I'm being used. Down the line it felt like that. She could never really return the favor.\n\nAround our year mark, another guy came into the picture and treated her like crap. She would hate him and not be his friend, but than turn around and be his friend again, rinse and repeat.\n\nSo one day at their school, She wanted to try to kiss him, once they did she left school and came to see me. She told me she was sorry and said to forgive her. I did.\n\nSo fast forward a few months and I'm 3 hours away in college, she loses her feelings and I said I would come down during a weekend, I never did. We broke up and had a week break. She said come back down and we will work it out.\n\nSo 2 weeks ago, I came down, We got back together had a lot of fun, had sex a few times and when i got home she said \"I lost my feelings for you they never came back this weekend, i wish they did\" She only did the things she did because it wouldn't be fair to me.\nShe said she enjoyed our time but it was time to give up.\n\nNot even a week later, she is hanging out with the guy she cheated with on me.\nShe has shown no emotion to losing me.\n\nSo I'm just stuck at wondering what do I do next?\nWhat could I have done to had this not happen and What can I do in the future to make sure I dont make the same mistakes.\n\n---\nSorry for sloppy writing, its really late.", "summary": "How do I move on from here,I've just been over thinking whats I should do next."}
{"id": "t3_34s61u", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Mom injured in police custody, smashed her head on pavement, broke her front tooth, and not taken for medical treatment. Advice?", "post": "My mother was at a friends house watching the Mayweather fight when a friend of hers got rowdy. The friend wanted a ride home and my mother had been drinking and refused to drive. The argument got heated and mom got hit by her friend and they started fighting. Small town, loud fight, police came. My mom was upset for hitting her friend and in distress she told the police that she had been drinking and to arrest her 3 times. They did. \n\nWhen the officer handcuffed her he tightened the handcuffs very hard and it jerked her arm upward. Because of this, she lost her balance and, not having her hands free to brace herself, she hit her face off the pavement, got a gash on her face and on her forehead and broke her front tooth in half. She hit the ground so hard it knocked her out. Instead of being taken for medical treatment, they transported her, unconscious, directly to a holding cell where she awoke several hours later. She is charged with disorderly conduct. \n\nShe told the officers that she needed her medication for high blood-pressure and was denied, however, they did release her a few hours later on $40 bail.\nMy concern is whether or not the police are responsible for my mother's injuries. And what action, if any, should be filed against them if they are liable.  (Massachusetts)", "summary": "Mom got injured in police custody, denied treatment and medication. Who is responsible?"}
{"id": "t3_1qk1n2", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My personal life is getting in the way of my education.", "post": "I'm not sure how this will go, so please bare with me.\n\nMy parents are separating after 20something years. They have always had issues, never got married and haven't slept in the same room/bed for 16 years. \n\nThey have said a couple times over the past 15ish years that they were going to separate, but never did. Just empty words. But now my mom has a date to move and is asking me and my sister to \"pick sides.\" \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been having issues since he got kicked out of his house 3 weeks ago and has been living with my family since then. However, he should be moving back home this week. But that extra strain has been exhausting.\n\nBesides all of this, I have severe anxiety and depression. I receive \"disability support\" through my university, but all it really does is allow me to take my tests in a separate room. I also have concentration issues and just passed a screening for ADD. \n\nOn top of all this my piece of shit laptop has broken down for the 4th time in less than 2 years. I have a 5 page paper due tomorrow that I haven't started due to all of the above factors. I feel like school isn't for me, and I'm not going to pass this semester, putting me on academic probation.\n\nI just feel like everything around me is crumbling with little control over it all.\nI just needed to talk to somebody because I'm currently in my car in my school's parking lot crying like a little bitch.", "summary": "My parents are separating after 20+ years, my boyfriend has been living with my family for 3 weeks since he got kicked out which is causing issues between us, and it's very hard to do my schoolwork."}
{"id": "t3_1j4bvb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is this \"growing up\"?", "post": "I am 25 years old and happily married with a child. Lately I have noticed, however, that the passions of my youth (i.e. music and other various forms of art) have either faded or are nonexistent after the daily grinds of a career and domestic duties have taken their toll. I recently purchased a  ticket to see a favorite band of mine, but just ended up not going due to feeling mentally exhausted. I rarely strum that good ole' six string because time, it seems, is a merciless wench leaving nothing left for my artistic inclinations at the end of the day. \n\nParents of reddit, young and old, how do you balance the things you adore with the people you love?", "summary": "I don't know how to balance life with my little family and time for necessary artistic outlets."}
{"id": "t3_oh2w7", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Found a site that places you in pubs across England, thoughts and opinions?", "post": "The site is [www.londonpub.com.au]  \n\nI am a Canadian living and working in a small town that is...quite frankly, really boring.  There's just not much going on!  When I finished high school, I went and worked at a bed and breakfast in PEI.  That was nice, but still really quiet.  When the season ended, I went to Scotland and then went around the UK for 2 months.  It was awesome!  I loved the whole experience, but I especially liked London.  The hustle and bustle of the city, the sheer numbers of people, the transport, the pubs, everything.  There always something to see or do!  I ended up going back to Europe a few months later (for 2.5 months).  Thing is...I still haven't got it out of my system!  I'd love to go over there and work for the summer (or longer) but I'm not sure how to go about it.\n\nThis site seems almost too good to be true, it's exactly what I want.  The application fee is a bit steep though.  Does anyone have experience with this company or something similar?  Is there better ways to get my foot in the door?  Is there scams and such that I should look out for?\n\nI'm very lucky in the fact that I have a have full time job that will still be available should I choose to go abroad for a few months.  Also, I work in a trade (of sorts) that is pretty much universal.  I was thinking of taking up some part time work doing what I'm doing here, but in England.", "summary": "[www.londonpub.com.au] This site seems to be perfect for what I'm after...what's the catch?  Also, thoughts/opinions/experiences working in the England?"}
{"id": "t3_14gr4w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm so pissed off at Lenovo right now", "post": "November 20th I order a laptop from Lenovo.  ~$1000 laptop.  Two days later, it goes on sale for $100 cheaper.  I contact Lenovo and to see if I can get the $100 discount on my order since it didn't ship yet.  Worst case scenario I though was that I would cancel my original order and re-buy the laptop.\n\nI contact Lenovo, and they say they have no record of my order at all. I can't even cancel my order since it's not even in their system.  I'm like \"WTF\".  The customer service rep said she would get back to me later that day and she didn't.\n\nI wait 2 days and contact them again.  I tell the new customer service rep (his name is Smee in this story) my scenario and show him my confirmation email.  He doesn't have any record of my order and says he will get back to me later in the day to give me an update.  He says he can't find anything relating to my order so he tells me I should order it again.\n\nI order it again...\n\nNext day I receive an email from him \"Hello Mr.teleporterdown, sorry for the inconvenience but we found your original order.  I will cancel your order now.\"\n\nApparantly there was some \"error\" or something.  I asked what it was but he never told me.\n\n2 days later my order status still says \"ready for shipping\".  I contact the customer service rep and ask him if he canceled it (and what was the status of my original order since I received no contact from Lenovo after I talked to Smee.  He told me that he put in the request to cancel the order and my package will be sent out sometime that week.\n\nI wait a day, and contact Lenovo again.... \n\nTo make a long story short: They never canceled my order and I'm getting charged for 2 laptops.  They tell me it's simple to return items, but just from what I've been through with them, I don't know how long until I get my $1000 back.\n\n...Not to mention I never got the $100 discount.", "summary": "Lenovo lost my order, told me to order again, never canceled new order like they said they did, I'm out $1100 atm."}
{"id": "t3_s0cl6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most silly injury you've ever gotten?", "post": "One time, I was going through my drawers, and I found these glasses. They were paper, like the kind you get with 3D movies, except they were clear, instead of red and blue. I decide to put them on, and lo and behold, they make everything split colors and look like some sort of drug induced rainbow. So naturally I start spinning around the room staring at lights. I trip over my laundry basket, and faceplant on the lightswitch. It hurt very bad. Then an hour or two later, I glance in the mirror to admire my dashing looks, and notice that there's a lightswitch shaped imprint on my cheek. I look closer, and I can even see where it says on. It was there for about 4 days before going away.", "summary": "Lightswitch portrait on my cheek after trippy light glasses."}
{"id": "t3_nun9q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Difference between HDD (Hard Drive Disk) and SSD (Solid State Drive)?", "post": "I recently got a laptop for christmas. While looking over the options I noticed I had the choice of a HDD or SSD. I have a few questions. 1. Why is it that SSD seem to not be able to have the same capacity of HDD? I see HDD that can hold 2TB, while I see SSD that can usually only store 500-750GB. 2. Is there a difference in how the memory is stored on the drive? For instance: Is file \"X\" going to take up less space on a SSD because of the way it is stored? I understand that RAM takes segments of your HDD and breaks it down to send it to the processor (I know it's more complex than that, but for the sake of time). Since a SSD is flash memory, is it faster at doing this?", "summary": "Pros and Cons of HDD and SDD. Is there a difference in the way data is saved? Why do most SSD have less capacity than HDD?"}
{"id": "t3_10d20l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My mom is a hoarder! Have any of you had to deal with someone who was a hoarder? What can be done to stop this?", "post": "For a while now we have known my mom is a pack rat. We really didn't think much of it at the time as she would get rid of things here and there. Lately my mom has gotten out of control. She has 3 closet full of clothing, 4 dresser, and about 15 containers stacked up to the ceiling in the basement. She never wears ANY of these clothing items. She keeps broken pots and pans, expired food, empty boxes, old children books (hundred of them) old toys (hundreds of those as well) when we have no children around. I cannot even tell you the condition of the cupboards. There is clutter everywhere, all over the house. Of course it's not as bad as the t.v show but there is 17 packs of toilet paper in the basement. The excuse is \"it was on sale\" same reasons why we have no room for the food she buys. We have gossip mags from 2002. Every month my dad and I have been pulling out bags of garbage and junk while she is away or at work. She fills it all back up by the time we can take more out. I am talking about 5-10 garbage bags full. You can't even tell there is a difference! When she finds out we have done this she get's beyond pissed. She even threatened divorce over GARBAGE. She didn't even know what was missing. Today I drew the line when I found some old coats of mine from when I was a toddler. They were in the back of the coat closet covered in dust. It was so thick I had to cover my nose. There was bugs on the fur and the material looked like it was rotting on its own. We have tried talking to her many many many times. She won't go to therapy she won't even talk to her friends. She is also becoming a nasty person.\n\nHas anyone has personal experience with hoarding or known someone who was a hoarder?  Help, advice, suggestions, stories, anything!?", "summary": "Mom is a hoarder. She won't listen when we talk to her about it. She's becoming a nasty person. Clutter everywhere."}
{"id": "t3_2zbl7v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my parents how I really feel", "post": "So, I'm growing up in a very religious family, but in my religion I've always been taught that it's very important to make choices for myself. My parents have affirmed that to me many times. And about two years ago I started to think and realize that I don't really want to be in the church, but I didn't want to tell anyone because I didn't want to disrespect anyone. Then a few months ago, I finally couldn't take it anymore, I started to get annoyed by what many people were telling me in my three hour long meetings. I just overall wasn't very happy.\n\nSo naturally I faked being sick the next Sunday, didn't go to church and had no association to religion for the next two weeks (you can't be sick just one week). It was the happiest I'd been in a long time, no worries about a god that I didn't believe in watching my every move. \n\nThen another Sunday came, I knew my parents would start to get on me after three weeks of \"sickness\" so I decided to come out and tell them that I didn't want to be a part of their church anymore. It was one of the hardest things I've had to do, My dad was not pleased with this. He just assumed that society broke me and I had been spending too much time out in the world, so he grounded me, but not only that he restricted my every move. So this has led me into depression and It's soo hard to leave the house now, but it's also the only way I can come close to being happy.", "summary": "I told my parents that I can't stand being a mormon, and my raged me into a depression (fun times *sarcastic smile*)"}
{"id": "t3_4exwxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] just failed a test for a college class and once my mom [~40F] find out, she will kick me out of the house", "post": "About 5 minutes ago I went in and took a test that I didn't study for at all and failed it. I know this is entirely my fault. However, my mom is extremely concerned about how good my grades are (rightly so, since she pays for half of my tuition) and once she finds out I failed, she might kick me out of the house.\n\n I've been meaning to tell her that I don't care about school as much as she wants me to and that I would just save up enough money to pay for it all for myself so she doesn't have to worry anymore. How can I tell her this without making her furious? She gets very emotional about things like this to the point where she loses her common sense.", "summary": "My mom pays for half my college tuition. I most likely failed one of my classes. When she finds out, she might kick me out of the house. Help"}
{"id": "t3_3brf1n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by smoking legally", "post": "Well reddit, today I messed up big. Two pieces of background information: I work for a construction company where weed is definitely not allowed and I live in the state of Oregon, where weed became legal at midnight. \n\nBeing the avid stoner that I am, I texted my stoner friends saying we should smoke our first legal joint (well, mine at least. They're probably already a few deep)  when I get off work. No one responded which was pretty unusual as SOMEONE always replies. I went to check my texts, only to discover that I just asked my boss if she wants to get high with me. \n\nAt least if I get fired I can just get high.", "summary": "asked my boss if she wanted to smoke a joint. She's not down."}
{"id": "t3_3whkn9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I recently quit my first job out of college and feel like a loser. How can I land on my feet? [F23]", "post": "I was a workaholic in college and, accordingly, attained a high-paying management position at a Fortune 50 company. Unfortunately, it was not as amazing of an opportunity as I hoped it would be. It never paid me on time and I was forced to take out loans from my parents in order to pay for groceries and bills. It relocated me 80 plus miles away from my fiance, family, and friends a week before I was supposed to report to my permanent location. It gradually increased the hours I was supposed to work, until I was working 60+ hours a week and being forced to work on holidays. To top it all off, it had an extremely hostile work environment where people frequently yelled, cried, and tore each other down.\n\nFor all of these reasons, and many more, I abandoned the position after four months. When I took the job, I thought I had the next several years of my life perfectly planned out, and feel like a total loser for bailing. My finace told me that I seem a lot happier after quitting the job and reassured me that it was the right decision. Nevertheless, after three weeks of job hunting with no \"perfect\" replacement job, I can't help but feel discouraged.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for me moving forward?", "summary": "I quit my first job after college after four months and feel like a loser. How do I land on my feet?"}
{"id": "t3_36ahlh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] trying to understand if second chances exist?", "post": "Assume you truly liked someone but something happened that kinda turned you off to them.  Nothing ridiculously bad such as abuse or being cheated on, but something along of the lines of not being emotionally available to someone and/or briefly losing that connection/spark you had with them.  Basically something that causes you to question if they actually like you or not.  Like you have doubts as to whether or not the other person likes you when originally you thought they really liked you.\n\nWould you take them back and give them a second chance?\n\nI think this happened to me - a girl doesn't know if I actually like her.  I know the typical advice for me is to move on, but in my past, I've had this happen before in which the vibe changes and actually coming on strong and apologizing ends up working.  (In fact for some reason it seems to happen a lot to me - I've had to apologize twice in my past and got second chances).  The only issue is having her believe that you are being genuine...and that's hard.  And that's something I can't do unless I see her in person but obviously her being closed prevents us from meeting in person (unless its a chance encounter).  But in the past, I've written a letter and e-mail and it worked, so maybe there is a way to not do it in person...", "summary": "Would you take someone back if suddenly the vibe changed for the worst?  As if suddenly you don't know if they like you are not, and have huge doubts about how genuine the other guy is."}
{"id": "t3_3a5v92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] feel more like a best friend with my girlfriend [27F] of 9 years", "post": "I feel like my girlfriend treats me more like a best friend than a boyfriend. When we go to bed at nights she just sits on her phone and I generally fall asleep wait on her to get off it. \n\nWe have only had sex once in the past 8 weeks dispite me opening up to her about my needs. We even went on a two week vacation in these 8 weeks and she never once touched me. When I go to bed a night I just lye there sexually frustrated and if I were to try make a move she would nearly get cross with me.\n\nShe had me thinking for a while that this was normal and I had some sort of sex problem for wanting it but now I realize the problem isn't with me, if anything I'm guilty of wanting my girlfriend.\n\nWhat hurts me is how I've opened up to her over it and even though she made promises nothing has came off it. She regularly admits she needs to do more but won't back it up, and to he honest I feel like I have to fight just to get sex once every month or two which can't be normally.\n\nEvery time I bring it up it causes big fights between us even though I try to be as adult about it as possible. I even offered her the chance to bring other guys into our bedroom in case she was feeling trapped with me but this was turned against me that I want to sleep with other people.\n\nIf I bring up sex one more time I know she is going to flip, life is easier if I don't bring it up but I'm getting to the end of the road. How can I make her see that this is something that is important to me and is harming our relationship. At the minute it feels like an open relationship is the only way I'll get sex but I'll lost my confidence and couldn't go out there and find girls.", "summary": "Girlfriend neglects my needs in the bedroom"}
{"id": "t3_26ecgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (25F) at a fork in the road with my SO (27M) of about 7 months. Feeling stonewalled and muted connection. Tried bringing it up, he doesn't seem to get it.", "post": "So, nothing actually \"happened\". I just feel like we both have been inattentive to the relationship. \n\nI am working too much\n\nHe is traveling for work too much\n\nWhen we see each other it is routine, nothing exciting, nothing new. So, naturally, I feel like our connection is at a stand still. I tried bringing it up this morning that I want to spend more quality time with him but he got defensive and didn't seem to understand what I was actually trying to say. \n\nIf thats a communication issue, fine. \n\nBut I am sensing that its something more. \n\nNo, I doubt he is cheating on me. I'm not sticking my head in the sand. Maybe he is. But I seriously doubt it. \n\nI feel like this is more of an issue of the fact that he never opens up to me and never allows himself to feel vulnerable...and its hard for me to connect with him. I get the sense that he is very afraid of being hurt again. \n\nWhenever I try to talk to him about something serious or connect, he just gets all jokey jokey and laughs it off. \n\nThis is a real issue for me. If we can't find a way to connect the same way we have in the past again, I don't know where to go from here. \n\nI don't want to nag him...thinking of just giving him some space to come to it on his own? Or see if he even feels anything different? I am not trying to play games, but I also don't want to struggle to have a conversation with someone. \n\nIt feels like such a struggle. out of nowhere.\n\nIs this a normal phase when you are growing in a relationship with someone? There are so many qualities that are important to me that we both share. \n\nBut this lack of emotional intimacy...I don't know what to do about it.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4unaqy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] hate physically touching my family members and I don't know why.", "post": "So I think the first thing I should say is that I was never physically abused by any of my family members and I do not think of them sexually in any way. And also for the most part, my family are pretty nice and decent people.\n\nAlright well, for as long as I can remember I have never really felt comfortable touching or being too close to any of my family members. whenever I am near them, their smell and their skin or clothes touching me begins to become bothersome. They don't have a bad odor or anything like that, but it slowly starts bothering me when they begin to get to close to me. For example whenever we have a family dinner and everyone starts talking and joking and start laughing and jutting from side to side and start rubbing up on me I get really uncomfortable and feel the need to move further away from them. \n\nAlso whenever a family member touches me by surprise like tapping me in the back, hugging me, or patting me on the head I get angry and upset. It isn't to the point where I begin to lash out at them but in the inside I feel really uncomfortable and have a hard time showing affection back at them whenever they ask for it, such as a hug, or kiss in the cheek, or any sort of touching.\n\nWhenever I come down home from my university my mom always asks me for a hug and I always avoid it with any excuse I can think of. I think she believes I am still going through a phase which I guess I could still be but highly doubt it since I have always hated touching any of my family members. And this feeling of uneasiness is exclusively with my family members. Whenever I am with my girlfriend or friends I don't have this problem at all. I am comfortable hugging and being in close proximity with them.\n\nI always only had this problem with my family and I have no idea why I do. Is it normal to be experiencing a feeling of uneasiness whenever a family member touches me? is it a phobia, or a phase I am going through or just a personal problem?", "summary": "I don't like touching my family members and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_2gpotw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] need help building my wife's [26F] attraction for me.", "post": "31year old male here. Married for 3 years, together for 5.  I am the typical \"safe\" male. Stable, good father, considerate, non-threatening, and a reasonable job with a bright future. Not classically handsome; no defining features or attributes to set me apart from the crowd.  Never described as \"hot\" or \"cute\", perhaps a \"handsome\" once or twice before. Very few relationships prior to wife. \n\nWife isn't all that attracted to me. Little affection, no postive comments, and does not initiate sexually.  I've tried to engage but her she doesnt seem enthusiastic.  \n\nWhat can i do to improve my level of attractiveness, both inside and out?  \n\nBooks, references, hell even coaching of some sort would be appreciated.", "summary": "31m, safe good guy wants to be more attractive. Needs help."}
{"id": "t3_25cwip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] boyfriend [26M] got an e-mail from a waitress at a restaurant - should I be uncomfortable with this?", "post": "My boyfriend [26M] and I [26F] have been together for approx. 6 months. Last night, he went out to dinner with his family. I had other commitments, so I couldn't go, but I met up with them after the meal for a couple of drinks and to say hi. When I got there, his family was laughing about how his waitress is an old \"friend\" of his from high school, and told an embarrassing story about how my boyfriend got his mom to buy this girl a thong for him to give her as a gift once. It was a really awkward story.\n\n \nWhen the girl came out, I ordered a drink and she didn't even bring it to me. It peeved me a little, and when we ended up leaving, she apologized to me then pulled my boyfriend aside to give him her e-mail address so they could catch up. This girl is very attractive and the situation is making me a bit uncomfortable. They're such distant friends, he didn't even have her on Facebook. When we got home, he promptly added her and proceeded to creep her profile. \n\nI'm not sure if I should be uncomfortable with this or not. Any advice on how to handle this would be really appreciated. Thanks.", "summary": "Boyfriend got an e-mail from a waitress whose an old fling from several years ago. He fully intends on rebuilding contact with this woman - should I be uncomfortable with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2jz6wz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Serious] How do I rid my self of my insecurities?", "post": "I'm a male, 21, having troubles with myself. I am not sure when I became conscious of my insecurities, but when I did, I realized that most of my current actions and past actions were influenced by my insecurities. Ever since then, I've been conscious about my actions and constantly reason the things I do and things I should/not do. But in the 2 years since I became aware of my condition, I haven't improved much. I'm kind of a loner, don't have much friends. I had a girlfriend 3 years ago, and her breaking up with me was the event that made me aware of my problems. Sometimes I feel this might be because of my background, because I've seen my family show the same anti-social and insecure behavior that I do. But I wish to change that. I wanna be the best version of my self. Not a version that is a manifestation of my insecurities. . . Following are the Insecure behavior that I've identified about myself: 1) jealous 2) lonely( a thing i constantly feel, even in company of people ) 3) self-destructive( at rare times ) 4) cowardly 5) desprate 6) weak self control 7) emotionally fickle 8) tend to over do things A few good things about me: 1) Creative 2) Passionate( but this maybe because of my need to impress) 3) Good problem solving abilities . .", "summary": "I'm highly insecure and its ruining my relationships and my life as a whole. I want to rid my self of them and become the best possible version of me."}
{"id": "t3_1q8yvc", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need dog-lover tricks to deal with stray dogs", "post": "Hello /r/dogs! I'd like to pick your collective brains on an issue I'm facing recently.\n\nI live in Thailand, and there are a *lot* of stray dogs around here. For the most part they're quiet and mind their own business. They get fed by people, as well as Buddhist monks on temple grounds. But sometimes they'll get aggressive and bark at me.\n\n**I'd really like a dog lover's opinion on how best to handle them.** I'm not a dog person, but I love animals and I don't want to scare them or, goodness forbid, hurt them. I know that they are being territorial or scared, and I'd just like to know how to deal with the situation without resorting to aggression.\n\nRelated question: I've had a few dogs who barked at me, and when I tried to walk away, they'd silently approach me from behind. Are they trying to attack me somehow? Sniff me? I keep turning to face them and stand my ground, which makes them bark some more. I keep thinking maybe they just want to sniff me and then leave me alone, but I'm too worried they'd pull a fast one.", "summary": "Would really appreciate tips on how to peacefully deal with barking stray dogs."}
{"id": "t3_2ut4qo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[f22] caught my boyfriend[m28] responding to hookups on craigslist", "post": "My boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship for a few months while he lived in another province and I was getting ready to move out there, and just last night I found old emails from a month just before I moved out there. \n\nHe was responding to the hookup posts on craigslist. I confronted him about it and he said he did it out of boredom and hornyness and didn't actually go meet anyone. I think I believe that he didn't go. At least I truly hope he didn't. My trust has definitely been dwindling for a while. \n\nThere was one incident on halloween where his ex-girlfriend sent a photo of her ass to him and instead of replying \"don't send that to me\" or just simply ignoring it, he replied \"Oh my. ;)\". Then on top of that, I found out that when he first moved, it was before we were official but we both quite fancied each other, he would tell me that he missed me and we'd talk all hours of the night and he slept with someone in that time. I know it's not cheating but I just feel really fucking betrayed, y'know?\n\nSorry for the rant. I just needed to get it off my chest. I have no clue what to do now. We've been together for over a year now. I moved across the country and left my friends and family to make it work with him. I wouldn't mind moving back home if only I hadn't just gotten my dream job here now. So I'm stuck living with him, and feeling trapped. I love him and want to make it work but I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him. I don't want to be that crazy paranoid girlfriend and that's what he's making me into.", "summary": "my boyfriend is a scumbag"}
{"id": "t3_hapdy", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My dog and his case of intussusception", "post": "Not long ago we got a great dane puppy who just recently turned 4 months. Beginning of last week we started noticing that he seemed to be having issues defecating. Was just getting a slight runny crap. Figured he had an upset stomache and waited a day. Next day he was having that issue as well as puking up a meal. After puking the next day we took him in. The vet initially thought it was a GI tract infection and sent us home with some antibiotics and a few others. Told us to come back if he continued to puke. That night.. he puked again.\nTook him back to the vet who ran xrays. Other than being able to tell that his intestines were bloated it didn't show anything actually stuck. We were at a point where they quoted me at $1200 - $1900 to do an exploratory surgery to see what the issue is. We're no rich couple and thats a LOT of money for us but we couldn't let him die. They cut into him at noon yesterday. Ended up being [intussusception] Apparently the intestines fold in on itself like a pirates telescope causing blockage and soon followed by death.\n\nHe seems to be doing well today considering and so far everything seems to be healing fine. Fingers crossed. \n\nI'm now looking at dog insurance and wondering if anyone else has any experience with it? \n\n[Our Baby before](\n\n[Our Baby after](\n\n[Xray 1](\n\n[Xray 2](", "summary": "If your dog starts puking and can't seem to poop anything but a watery crap sludge; get him to the hospital asap."}
{"id": "t3_3vvgkm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not giving my dad a birthday gift.", "post": "While growing up he would always go away at his birthday and since I lived with my mom and not him, I never really gained a sense for his birthday. Now that I'm older, I still don't really know how important it is to him and we've never been super close, so there's very little that's sentimental between us. \n\nLately, things have been busy (awful excuse) and I couldn't think of anything to get him, so I got him nothing. I hoped we would go out for dinner so I could pay for that, but he invited me over and picked up Chinese food. My step mom and brother both got him small things and then there was nothing from me. Now I just feel riddled with guilt and don't know if I should apologize for not getting him anything or if he even cared at all.", "summary": "Didn't get my dad a birthday gift and feel rightfully guilty about it."}
{"id": "t3_2la1ky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my co-worker [24F], does she want to sleep with me or something?", "post": "This girl I work with always calls me cute and shit, flirts with me a lot. We were having lunch and she told me that she had a couple of hours before her second job and wanted to study at the library, but was too afraid to be there alone (it was a weekend night, so pretty empty) and wanted me to come with her. I was feeling tired so I told her I didn't really want to spend my afternoon at the library. She then said \"we can go back to your place\". I declined because like I said, I was tired and obviously not in the mood to host guests.\n\nI may be jumping to conclusions, but from my experience, when a girl asks to go back to your place, there's usually some level of romantic interest.", "summary": "Girl says I'm cute, wants to come back to my place. Does she want the D"}
{"id": "t3_3gt3ow", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M], severe health problems, starting to feel like I'm running out of time.", "post": "I just turned 28, and I've had a really hard life. As a child, I was sexually, physically and mentally tortured by my mom. As a result, I was diagnosed with severe depression, OCD, PTSD and pretty much the works, which I've been dealing with my whole life. Also have lupus.\n\nI live with my dad who is extremely supportive, and is frankly keeping me alive. I see a therapist, and take 5 different medications. I honestly feel like I haven't made much progress. I don't have a job (therapist says it's not a good idea for me to be working at the moment) and don't have a car (too afraid to drive, and I don't think that'll change ever). I weigh 250 pounds (was 300 at one point), so I'm obese as well. I do get SSI, so I'm covered on health insurance / and some allowance.\n\nI've been playing catch up my entire life, and lately, I've been wanting a relationship with someone. I do have friends (online only), but I also want to date. As far as experience, I haven't held a girl's hand or even had a kiss. I've tried okcupid, and even had a date which I thought went well, until she messaged me later saying I was too fat to find anyone.\n\nWith my situation, how do I get out there and meet people? I know this is a therapist question, but she's been at a loss at what I should do as well. \n\nMy dad insists I'm charming, and have a great personality, but I seriously doubt he'd tell me otherwise.", "summary": "28, horrible health problems, wondering how I can break free and find a relationship. Virgin, no car, no job, live at home, lupus. Need some support and suggestions on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4m88sa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/F] been dating my bf [27/M] for almost 5 years. Everything is perfect but he still hasn't proposed. What gives?", "post": "So here's the classic \"He won't propose!\" post, but he's my situation in particular:\n\nEverything is great for the most part. We rarely fight, living together has been a breeze, still love each other very much, and financially we are well off. If everything is going so well why hasn't he proposed? We've talked about marriage and he wants to marry me. He's just doesn't take much initiative with it and I feel like I need to push him a little every step of the way or else it will never happen. I guess his stance is like \"everything's good. If it ain't broke don't fix it.\"\n\nI'm getting to that point where I feel we've been together for a long time and I'm not being crazy for wanting this. I KNOW I shouldn't compare myself to other people, but when I see someone get engaged on FB and they've been dating for 2 years, it just bums me out a little.", "summary": "I've been dating my boyfriend for a while and everything is perfect so why isn't he proposing even though he knows that's what I want? Also, am I being too pushy for gently nudging him?"}
{"id": "t3_2yrc72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my ex [26F]. I found out my ex's new husband raped a woman...what should I do?", "post": "I signed up a throwaway for this. I went out with a woman for 2 years and we broke up just after college. It wasn't a bad break up but lets just  say we are not friends. This was about 3 years ago. A while back I created a website for my ex gf to showcase some of her music and it had a contact number on for bookings, my number. About 4 weeks ago I received a very strange voice mail from a very upset woman. In this recording she recounted a story of when my  exgf's soon to be husband forcibly raped her over a period of two weeks. The voice mail goes into detail about the whole situation (it lasts over 38 minutes). She obviously found my number from the site and says my ex's name repeatedly and her husbands name. I knew they were getting married on valentines day and this voice mail came a few days before.\n\nI thought I would ignore it as the woman may have been a jealous ex and this would have been non of my business but she then proceeded to forward texts and a audio recording of him threatening her via whatsapp to my phone. (my whatsapp has a generic name). In the audio file it her clearly states \"she loved it and if she ever says anything about what they did everyone will know shes a lying slut\".\nI decided to ring the number and the victim didn't pick up but her full name is on the voice mail. I checked her out on facebook and sure enough shes a reputable person (a elementary school teacher) and she is a family friend of my ex's husband. \n\nI really don't know what to do with this information. Should I tell someone? The police? My ex? should I post all the evidence to my ex's work and leave it at that?", "summary": "My ex's new husband raped a woman repeatedly and I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_pck8d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I tend to get really fixated on topics for days or weeks at a time. Is that weird?", "post": "Hi, Reddit.\nI notice that I frequently (and especially if I'm procrastinating on studying) become fixated on random topics that have nothing to do with any of the classes I'm taking or anything going on in my life at the time.\n\nFor instance, last weekend I read all of North Korea's wikipedia page, tons of opinion articles regarding foreign policy towards it, its similarities to the book Nineteen Eighty-Four, and four different documentaries about it. A month before that, I became obsessed with the It Gets Better Project and spent four hours reading about its history and watching dozens of submitted videos. This morning, Benito Mussolini was the topic of choice.\n\nJust wondering: is this normal or weird? On another one of my information binges, I recall reading that intense but changing interests is supposedly a mark of a gifted child, but I'm not four years old so I don't think that quite applies here. Could it just be a natural offshoot of procrastination, like I'm trying to convince myself I'm learning even if it won't help me pass my classes?\n\nThanks for any answers! Helpful ones, anyway. And funny ones.", "summary": "I frequently and obsessively learn about random topics for kicks and giggles. Occurrences of this have a high correlation with procrastination."}
{"id": "t3_2njcyk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend [26F] split with me [23M][1 Year]. I'm alone, with no friends, 11,000 miles from home.", "post": "I've been with her for just over a year. We met whilst travelling and decided to make a go of things. \n\nAfter a couple of months together, I decided to fly back to her country and see how things went. It was great and we decided to try settle somewhere new together. \n\nAfter flying to New Zealand, we settled here and have been here for 8-9 months. Up until recently, I thought everything was going right. But something seemed \"off\" for two weeks. \n\nI confronted her and asked what's up? She said everything is fine. Our sex was bad for a month or two before this. \n\nFast forward 24 hours and we're no longer together. She still loves me, but is not \"in love\" with me and she doesn't want to try and fix things. \n\nWe have to live together for the next couple of weeks until our apartment notice period is up. I constantly feel sick, I don't know what to do. \n\nAll of her friends are my friends, so I'm stuck there too...", "summary": "I feel sick, I don't know what to do after this split."}
{"id": "t3_2jkcgj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Confused about how to get from skinnyfat to toned", "post": "Ok I'm probably going to come across as really ignorant but I'm new to fitness and I've read a lot of conflicting information. \n\nBasically, most of my life I've been skinny fat, usually staying around 130ish at 5'7\" but I've never looked toned or lean and have always felt as though I've needed to lose 10-15 pounds. \n\nIn hs I played tennis a lot and I suppose my legs were toned then but in college I didn't work out at all. Fortunately I also ate less in college so I never really gained weight until recently (that's another story).\n\nMy goal is to finally get a toned beach body but I've heard conflicting advice on how to do this. Basically people are telling me that I shouldn't try to lose anymore weight, but should just gain muscle and this will help me reach my desired goal. \n\nHowever, I think that I should lean up first and lose 10-15 pounds because I definitely have a thick layer of fat covering everything. I doubt I could have visible abs at this point. My goal is basically to get down to 117 pounds (I'm 140.5 now) through cardio and calorie counting (MFP) and then gain 2-3 pounds of muscle to get to 119-120. I'm wondering if this strategy will give me what I want.", "summary": "am skinnyfat and am not sure if I should lose a lot of body fat first and then hit the weight room or just start toning up now"}
{"id": "t3_13n1bj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Our oven broke this morning, right after putting the turkey in.  A friend down the road offered to lend us a large roaster and saved our Thanksgiving dinner!  What small acts of kindness has someone showed you/you've shown someone else that meant more than you could express in words?", "post": "This year, my family is thankful for a friend that did something nice, something we should all do more often.\n\nMy wife & I set our alarms early this morning so we could get the turkey done around Noon.  About 5:30, I heard a pop & I knew exactly what happened; The heating element blew.  We went into MacGyver mode, instantly, thinking of ways to cook this 20 lb monster & save Thanksgiving dinner for our family. I even contemplated the grill outside (its a big grill)!  \n\nMy wife took to Facebook, asking for solutions.  Enter our friend (we'll call her Jane), who lives down the road from us.  Jane asked if we wanted to use her oven, but I didn't want to impose.  Then Jane remembered having a large roaster that she didn't need, since they were going to her In-Law's for dinner.  \n\nI jumped in the car & went down the road, she met me outside her house, roaster in hand.   I couldn't say anything but \"Thanks\" over & over again.  It seemed like such an empty word when I think that without her kindness, our dinner wouldn't be possible.\n\nI know, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but Jane really saved the day for us and I have no way to put into words what it meant for us.", "summary": "Heater element blew in the oven, good neighbor saves Thanksgiving with a simple gesture."}
{"id": "t3_168lio", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've already lost interest, what should I do? [x-post from DeadBedrooms]", "post": "I (19/m) was asked out by my current SO (18/f) a little over a month ago and we have been together ever since. I hadn't thought of her as anything other than a friend but she was super cool so I agreed and we hit it off. I was on the fence about how I felt still but we got along so well that I was sure I liked her as more than a friend. We had sex about two weeks into the relationship which we neither of us really expected to happen but we just seemed to click. After a 2 week bedroom haitus because of going home for winter break, we got back together and did our thing. I had high hopes for the encounter since we had talked over the phone about it and were anticipating being together again but afterwards I realized I hadn't been very much into it. Then she came over this past weekend and I had literally no desire to do anything sexual with her. Granted, I was sick so I had an excuse. I was and am fine getting her off, I like to make her happy, but I think that I might not be sexually attracted to her. I'd never thought that this could be an issue in a relationship so I'm not sure what to do. I like her in virtually every other way possible...just not as much sexually. I'm not sure how to approach this since I enjoy all of the other aspects of our relationship. Being friends actually sounds nice now, but...I'm worried she'll just become depressed about it and not be able to handle just being friends. Also, we're in the exact same classes in college, so that doesn't allow for much wiggle room. Also, I just came to this conclusion today, so I'm still hoping that I'm wrong and that I'll become attracted to her again (I was for a few weeks there), any chance of that? Maybe?", "summary": "Had sex a few times, realizing now that I may not be sexually attracted to SO, but still care about her. I don't want things to end badly. Any way out of this? Should I keep trying?"}
{"id": "t3_1yh809", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] When does wanting a relationship mean you aren't ready for one?", "post": "Here's the sitch. \n\nI'm a 19y/o guy, freshman in college, and I want to go on a date with this girl in my class. I have a crush on her, and she seems like a pretty cool person. \n\n**Thing is, I'm a bit cautious of asking this girl out;** **the idea of going out with her excites me too much!** I'm three months out from my first (three month long) relationship, and when I think about asking this girl out, I feel excited. I remember how fantastically awesome my first relationship was, and potentially having those awesome feelings again would be *wonderful*.\n\n**Do I have an unhealthy number of expectations?** I'm worried that I do! I've seen enough of this girl's personality every class to end up liking her, but I've barely interacted with her at all! I'm getting excited over something that doesn't even exist yet! \n\n**Also, I'm pretty certain that I've moved on from my old relationship.** I'm comfortable with who I am. I'm comfortable with being alone. It took a while, but I've finally started genuinely enjoying the single life. I've met new friends, and done new things. I'm enjoying myself! \n\nThis doesn't mean that I've completely forgotten about my last relationship. I remember the feelings I felt everyday. That being said, I mostly just miss being able to make someone I have feelings for happy, and cuddling with someone I have feelings for. It would be great to be able to do those things again, but they aren't something that I need to be happy. \n\nWhat do you guys think? Is it healthy for me to go into a relationship right now? For those of you who went into relationships when you weren't ready-- were you in my shoes? Or, is all of this stuff just normal, and totally fine?", "summary": "I want to go on a date with a girl in my class, but I'm not sure if my excitement over the idea means that I'm not ready for a relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_b4i3o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I love my mentor (just not the way you're thinking) and it's killing me.", "post": "If I had been posting this a week ago I would've said that I really did love him (in that way). He's been my mentor for over a year now, and he's been helping me through a lot of personal issues. I used to have dreams about him that I thought were \"sexual\", but I've recently been piecing things together and that sexual desire was nothing more than a desire for a hug. He's grown into the father figure I haven't had since I moved out 5 years ago. The only problem is he has his own wife and kids. Taking on a 20 year old \"daughter\" probably isn't going to work for him.\n\nOnce a month we meet up for dinner and go over how things have been going. This month we talked a lot about my self confidence and how willing one should be to do things for others (two years ago I was raped and it's bee fucking up my self confidence ever since). I noticed how happy he was to succeed and how much it hurt him to witness my self destructive behavior. We were talking about a recent success when I told him that the only reason I've been working my ass off lately is for his approval. I also alluded to the fact that there are very few people I trust anymore, and he's probably the only person in the world I'd do anything for.\n\nIt's the truth, but I feel like I'm fucking our mentor/mentee relationship by telling him that. Part of the reason I need his approval so badly/would do anything for him is because I was in love with him, however incorrectly directed, for over a year which is something that should be left out of our relationship at this point. I feel guilty for bringing it up, and part of me thinks I should end our relationship before I cross the line again. I don't even feel like my current love for him is appropriate given his family situation. I'm only complicating his life now.\n\n;", "summary": "I was in love with my mentor, but now I just love him. I accidentally told him about emotions that started when I was in love with him, and now I feel like I've compromised our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1alnnl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why can't he act like a decent human being?", "post": "BF dumped me in January, our lease expires June. We agreed to civily co-exist until the end of the lease.   He went FB public with a new relationship really fast, which contradicted the reasons he gave for breaking up.\n\nIt's spiraled down to the point that he ignores me - I mean straight up acting as though I don't exist when he passes me in the hallway.\n\nI've begged him to move out. I've been civil. I've been reasonable.  Since the new relationship he entered into, I've said 2 words to him - Hello and goodbye when I see him. He says I'm being a bitch, yet I barely see him and don't talk -I don't have an opportunity to be a bitch even if I wanted to.\n\nhe's finally agreed to move out, but I have no idea if he really will. I have a friend from out of town staying this week - he talks to her and ignores me. I'm sitting 4 feet from him and won't even acknowledge my presence. \n\nCAN YOU JUST ACT LIKE A DECENT PERSON? CAN YOU NOT BE A COMPLETE DICK EVERY TIME YOU SEE ME?  You decided to break this off after lying to me for years about loving me.   You decided to lie about the reasons to break up. You chose to not deal with your issues with alcohol.  You chose to start a new relationship in a shorter time period then you ever have in your life. \n\nI've moved on. I'm dating. I don't care about your new relationship. Its doomed to fail just like the others because you can't be honest with yourself, much less someone else.  I can't even have a date pick me up at home because I feel that is disrespectful and contrary to the agreement we made, even though you aren't returning the respect.\n\nJUST ACT LIKE A DECENT HUMAN BEING!!", "summary": "Ex BF is being a dick and refuses to move out of house after he broke up"}
{"id": "t3_1yizvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (18F) Girlfriend has been hitting me and smashed a tablet I bought her... she then tells friends I am abusing her... help? (18M) (3 YRS)", "post": "I don't know how to say this but recently my girlfriend of three years has been hitting me... She has never been like this before. Whenever she gets mad at me she slaps or punches me. I live away from her and very rarely get to see her and when she was here she basically took full on swings at me for little things, and then told me it was my fault.. I don't know why but I tried to not annoy her so she wouldn't get mad and hit me.\n\nThen, since we live away I went out and spent $400 dollars on a tablet... three weeks later she smashed it because I mad her 'angry'.... and when I confronted her about it she said it was my fault. \n\nShe often gets very mad and starts screaming at me.. I work and study every day so I can see her, and I don't get a day off, and she studies but she doesn't understand sometimes when I'm just tired and stressed and she gets mad at me.\n\nI have alopecia and my hair falls out, and I have lost 50% of my hair.. I don't know what to do I just need to vent. I haven't made any friends where I am because I don't get any time off.. but she has told her friends and family I am trying to manipulate her.. because I asked one personal thing of her and she point blank refused me. I have too much respect for her to disclose this online... but it was one simple request. \nAm I in the wrong..?? Or am I a 'shitty boyfriend' and she is right.. I don't know anymore.", "summary": "Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2j6z2v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I,m [27 M/] Dating with herpes advice needed.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nThrowaway for obvious reasons.\n\nSo I am 27 years old, been single for 8-9 months now and I haven't seen anyone since I broke up with my girlfriend, who gave me type 2 genital herpes. \n\nI have been on two dates with a 24 female which have both gone really well, we have a lot in common and I get that butterfly feeling every time I think about her. \n\nAnyway! We have our third date coming up this weekend 'cooking for her' and I wanted to ask if anyone has any advice on 'having the talk'? \n\nI'm pretty nervous about it all and I'm not sure how to go about it, obviously I need to tell her before even initiating any kind of physical contact but I am scared shitless.", "summary": "how do you tell some one your dating that I have type 2 herpes?"}
{"id": "t3_3jp9ah", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (25/f) irrationally scared. How far into a relationship do you tend to fall in love?", "post": "My romantic history is pretty stupid and frustrating.\n\nI'm in a new relationship with an amazing guy.  We met and started dating about 3 months ago.  He's really perfect. Sexy, thoughtful, smart, responsible, fun.  Everything I'm looking for.\n\nI have romantic feelings for him.  I think about him a lot.  I get rushes of affection and excitement for him.  But I don't think I'm in love yet.\n\nI get that that's normal, but what if I never fall in love with him? What if I end up hurting him?  Or settling?  If I can't fall in love with such a great person, where the fuck do I go from there?", "summary": "Being crazy. Please tell me how long it usually takes you to fall in love."}
{"id": "t3_54kvsd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] am thinking of making a mixtape for a guy I have a crush on [16M]? Is this a good idea, and if so, how should I go about it?", "post": "So currently, I am very good friends with this dude, even though I've only known him for a year or so. Since i am very awkward and I know he likes music, I was thinking of making him a mixtape for his birthday, which is coming up in a few weeks. \n\nWould it be weird to do this, or do you think he would appreciate it?\nAlso, what kind of songs should I include, if I do decide to make it?\nIf it helps, I know he listens a lot to rap and frank Ocean and stuff.\n\n(also, sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language)", "summary": "want to make a mixtape for my crush, should I do it, if I do, how?"}
{"id": "t3_1groph", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Please help. Something has changed and I don't know how to handle it...", "post": "I can't go into too many personal details because he is a Redditor and I don't want to chance that he'll see this. (I doubt he'd go on this subreddit, but I'd rather be safe than sorry).\n\nBasically, we're both in our mid 20's. We've been together for 4.5 years. He has been all I've ever wanted pretty much since we first met about 7 years ago. We have had our fair share of arguments, but we always work them out. However, this past April it was, honest to god, like a light switch went off, and I just don't feel that \"connection\" that I used to. I don't \"care\" enough to try to work out any of the little arguments we have. He hasn't done anything different...I can't explain it at all and it really scares me that one day it's fine, and the next day my feelings are just gone. Since then I've been trying to give it time to see if maybe I'm just going through a sort of \"depression\" phase and maybe this will go away, but it is not getting any better. I don't feel like cuddling or being close any more, and he definitely knows something is up because he's been asking \"why don't you want to cuddle anymore...why don't you love me anymore\" (he's not saying it seriously, almost jokingly, but I can tell he knows something is off). And it kills me because even just the thought of hurting him makes me cry, and part of me doesn't want to leave him because I really do still care about him just as much as I always have.\n\nI wouldn't know where to even start with bringing all of this up to him...(what to say, what my reasoning would be). Does anyone have any suggestions or advice to give? I'm just desperately lost and confused.", "summary": "I feel like I suddenly lost the connection with my boyfriend of 4.5 years. I don't know what to do...if I should wait and see if I can still get it back, or end things now."}
{"id": "t3_1ifc38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25F] with my fling [31M] of three years, I want more!", "post": "I am a 25/f and well established. I have been hooking up with 31/m for three years. What originally started as a date turned into amazing sex and just continued that way.\n\nWe have been hooking up now for three years and have become really good friends. He is amazing and truly adore him. We originally started hooking up without a relationship because he claimed he couldnt commit and was too busy (which he is). I have learned that I would rather have him in my life than not. As I have tried several times to end things knowing that in the end I was the one going to get hurt. \n\nRecently he has made several comments about other guys and me (in a jealous manner) and he consistently brings up that he is only seeing me. \n\nHow can I bring up that I want more?", "summary": "25/f been hooking up with 31/m for three years I want more."}
{"id": "t3_fnsi8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are good ways to meet like-minded people?", "post": "I'm of a rather liberal outlook on morals/life/the universe/everything.  If you want to snort cocaine, have a polygamous marriage, get totally smashed on Pabst Blue Ribbon, have sex with your (consenting) sibling, or whatever, I honestly think it's awesome that you're living your life in whatever way makes you the happiest during your relatively short stay here on planet Earth.  I think drugs should be legalized and regulated like tobacco, I support a womans' right to choose abortion, I think the drinking age should be lowered to 18, and other various things that typically make Republicans very angry.\n\nHowever, there's a big difference between what I find acceptable in general, and what I want for my own life.  I pretty much live my life like a non-religious conservative.  I don't drink, I've never smoked, I've never used drugs, sex is much more of an emotional thing for me than a physical thing, and so on.  Basically, I have the \"morals\" of a Christian, except that I'm an atheist and, thus, desire this lifestyle simply because it makes me happy, rather than because it's what God wants of me.\n\nMy problem is that nearly everyone I associate myself with, generally being quite liberal themselves, enjoys drinking and drug use and having lots of sex and whatnot, all of which is fine, except that when it comes to finding romantic interests, I'm left feeling a bit lonely.  I'd very much like to date people who share my liberal outlook on life in general, but are still a bit more old-fashioned in their own lives.\n\nHow might a person of my disposition go about finding like-minded people?", "summary": "I'm a liberal atheist who lives a conservative lifestyle and I'm lonely.  Halp."}
{"id": "t3_urgzv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I didn't shower everyday as a child; What is something you are embarrassed about that you did as a child?", "post": "When I was a baby and little kid, I had very bad eczema all over my body. If you don't know eczema is basically a really bad rash. My skin was so sensitive that giving me a bath irritated it even more. Up until I was about 7 years old, I only had a bath once a week, unless I got dirty and *had* to have a bath. Then, I started to take showers. I would only shower every 3 or 4 days until I was about 11 or 12. I don't remember ever feeling dirty , but I would always lie to my friends and say that I showered everyday. I am still slightly embarrassed by this and it is something that only my close family know about.", "summary": "Had a bad rash when little that made my skin sensitive to taking baths. Didn't shower every day until I was 11/12."}
{"id": "t3_27cfcd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[20 M] having a hard time coping with my ex-gf [20 F] breaking up with me. Need advice on what to do", "post": "It has been a short relationship.. only 4 months. But we had gotten very close over the 4 months before. We broke up only a week ago.\n\nI'm having a hard time dealing with this because I dont really know why this happened. She says that things had gotten to serious and that she just had a feeling things weren't going to work. I want to try and work things out and at least make an attempt at staying together, but it doesn't seem like she wants any part of that.\n\nTo make things worse she has just moved an hour away to work and neither of us have a car to make a trip to see each other. (poor college students)\n\nWe talked for a long time that night before she actually ended it and she told me that she thinks she will regret it but couldn't keep me wondering while she tried to figure things out.  \n\nNot having a real reason for the break up is making me feel worthless and I'm starting to think that she might be getting back with her ex (who cheated) whom she dated for 4 years before me, as I've seen that they have been messaging each other. (she swears that if she wanted a relationship it would be with me)\n\nOh and one more thing.. I'm going to have to see her everyday once september comes around as we are in a close nit paramedic program together.\n\nSorry for the randomness my thoughts are all over the place.", "summary": "Looking for advice on how to get over my ex or reconcile."}
{"id": "t3_2fxh5o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking an iced coffee", "post": "Well let me start off by saying I'm an aspiring Music Producer that's addicted to iced coffee (Iced because I live in Florida, the capital of broken A/C's when it's 100 degrees fahrenheit out). Needless to say the desk I work at is covered in old moldy starbucks cups. I went out on a coffee run this morning before getting in the zone and I picked up my normal (Caramel Iced Coffee with cream and sugar) and went back home to work. About 30 minutes in while working on a track that had me stumped, I went to take a huge gulp out of what I thought was my fresh coffee but ended up being a warm chunky soup of mold and whatever bacteria was living inside it, following that was my entire stomach of dollar menu items being emptied out all over my keyboard, reference monitors, and computer.", "summary": "I drank a 2 week+ old Coffee leading to my puking all over my equipment."}
{"id": "t3_3h664n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an idiot and killing a baby rabbit :(", "post": "Unlike most fuck ups this happened about 30 minutes ago. \n\nSo, for the past few months I enjoyed taking my dog on runs at night because not only can I get my dog exercise without her getting heat stoke, but its very relaxing and soothing after a long day. Fortunately its a very short walk to reach some nature trails were I live which is were the fuck up happened. Just for context my dog is a good girl. A very very good girl. I can leave food out on the table and she won't even lift a paw off the floor. Recently, I have let her go off leash once we reach a trail because otherwise she will push and hug my leg the entire time, which I guess is adorable. Whenever I do this she doesn't go more than ten yards away from me and in the case another dog passes by, she keeps her distance from the dog making me feel very comfortable in letting her do this. This time however, a demon from the exorcist came to posses her and all of a sudden she started running after something faster than a jihad can say Allah Akbar at a shopping mall. I had no idea what the fuck was happening until I heard some screeches. Like high pitch screeches. She had a baby rabbit cornered up against a tree. I grabbed her and I checked out the rabbit. Luckly the baby rabbit didn't have a single bite or scratch marks after some examination, just appeared to be frightened. I let the little bunny go and he went back to his little family out in the woods only if my fucking dog didn't sporadically bolt off faster than  Donald trump going bankrupt to chase the bunny again. This time my dog managed to chew half the bunny's leg off leaving the bunny to bleed very quickly. There was only one thing to do. I had to put it out of its misery. I still remember it, the legs still flailing after the first stomp. Now, I have been a hunter since I was old enough to carry a gun, but this was something else. ~~I might have cried a bit.~~ I did.", "summary": "Don't be a stupid dog owner."}
{"id": "t3_3k6kdx", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Six more weeks of winter", "post": "Hey Runnit. I'm having some trouble and I need a place to vent where people will understand my frustration. I've been out with a stress fracture in my tibia for the last 5 weeks. For the first two weeks I was on crutches, after which time my orthopedist said I could try going without them. I did that, and a few days later I slipped and fell, bashing up my leg and apparently badly re-injuring myself. After that I went back on the crutches, and kept using them until my follow-up appointment today. By all accounts the pain in my leg has gotten worse, and the only thing the doctor said was that we need to treat it more aggressively. This means I have to use the crutches for 4-6 more weeks, and I have to get blood work done to make sure my hormones aren't fucking with my body's ability to fix bones. \n\nDuring this \"recovery\" I was swimming and doing very light biking to keep my fitness up, but now I am forbidden from doing either of those activities. All I can do is sit still or walk around on crutches while I watch the last days of summer drifting by. The air is starting to smell a bit like fall, and I have an insatiable itch to go for a run like I'm back in high school XC. I'm frustrated and angry and I'm going crazy.", "summary": "Stress fracture recovery for 5 weeks. Didn't heal at all, now 6 more weeks off. I just want to run."}
{"id": "t3_34ra4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [18 M] met a 'girl' [20 F] on tinder who turned out to be a post-op transgender, he's really bothered, it's making him depressed and he's turning to me for advice.", "post": "A down-on-his-luck friend was having trouble 'clicking' with women so I suggested giving tinder a try. A few matches later he comes across this girl, we'll call her Marla, and my friend hits it off with her. 3 dates later they make it official that they're dating. Yesterday, however, my friend had some suspicions about Marla really being a guy. After much speculation he just asks. Marla reveals that she was born a boy and had reassignment surgery. My friend is really bothered by this and it's sent him into a depressed state. He would like to break up with her, but he is torn apart as he really did connect with her, but the trans thing isn't his style. Now he's asking me for advice and what I would do if I were in his shoes. Please give advice, and thank you.", "summary": "Friend met a 'girl' on tinder who was born a guy, this really bothers him and he's asking me for advice."}
{"id": "t3_jwobr", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Im not happy with my life. What do you guys think I should do?", "post": "I've recently hit a bottom, it's nothing drastic or big but it's big enough for me to slip into some kind of a depressed state. I'm not happy and it's caught up with me.\n\nMy best friend, who I dearly love has, has felt like she's been pulling away from me. She's one of the few people outside family who i'm always excited to see, but recently whenever we plan something she cancels last minute for one reason or another. \n\nThen there's work. It's a job that's good for my career, but I hate it. I have no real passion for it since it's not what I went to school for(I'm an EMT). And just the other day I fucked up and missed it, I showed up and they weren't mad, but disappointed. I had let them down. I had a talk with my boss and office administrator, who is the sweetest old lady ever, and I cried...I cried cause I let them down. They told me to take the weekend off and think, reflect, on what I want to do. They can tell I don't want to be there...\n\nThen there's me. I've been in a stagnant phase for the last year or so. I feel like i'm not making the best of things, but the things I have aren't what I want. There's very little where I live that would keep me here(Like my obligation in the Marine Corps Reserve, my family, or my best friend). \n\nIm venting basically, but these last few weeks have made me realize I don't like where I am. I just want to pick up and leave, be somewhere away from here, but i'm scared... \n\nIf you read this so far, thank you. I appreciate it.", "summary": "I'm unhappy with my life, i'm venting, and I want to do something but i'm scared."}
{"id": "t3_1ei7s7", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Irrationally Angry", "post": "This is mainly just to get thoughts out of my head and on to a page, but I'm curious about people's thoughts on this.\n\nA friend posted this on facebook just a little while ago.\n\n>This whole \"gay scouts\" thing is ridiculous. There is girl scouts and boy scouts for a reason. The activities they take part in including camp outs and such need to be separated as they are. It is common sense. Moms of daughters don't let boys stay over and vice versa. Come on people it is common sense. Separation of sex is necessary in these types of situations. It is not discrimination against gays it's called protecting our children same as we have been up until his point. The times have changed in the sense of people enjoying sex and relationships with those of the same gender so we as parents need to be aware of that and fight for the same protection as we always have. The point is we are comfortable with our children being in these groups because sex and relationships have been kept out of it and still should be. End of story.\n\nNow... this just makes me angry.  I think I'm reading it right, in that they are saying gay people shouldn't be in scouts because scouts shouldn't support putting kids in a potentially sexual environment.  That is ridiculous, isn't it?  Just because a gay kid is around their own gender doesn't put sex and relationships in that group.\n\nThis person isn't even really a friend anymore.  I've barely spoken to her since high school.  I've never seen her say anything like this before, but I've read through it several times and I can't understand it any other way.  I'm straight, my opinion in this doesn't really matter here, but I'm kind of livid right now.  As of an hour of it posting 3 people have 'liked' it!\n\nI live in a small town so I'd rather not alienate myself by addressing this publicly on facebook (and why I'm choosing to write here).  I just feel angry and there's really no good reason for it.", "summary": "Angry at \"friend\", feel stupid for being so angry."}
{"id": "t3_ucxw2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How is this still such a common problem? (technologically impaired \"experts\")", "post": "I'm appalled by the lack of knowledge that people in consumer electronics and services have.  I remember selling TVs over 10 years ago and one time I was explaining to a customer the difference between AV cables and why he wanted component video for the 1080i flat glass hdtv I was trying to sell him since it was the best picture at the time.\n\nI had another customer interrupt us and correct me that s-video was the best.  I explained the difference between the two and he still argued that s-video was better than component video for an hdtv and he should know, he works for Time Warner and was trained on this.  This went on for 10 minutes.  I wanted to beat my head against a wall.\n\nFast forward a decade to today, and my downstairs neighbor just told me that \"a Time Warner guy fixed his hook up.\"  I asked what he meant cus I already set up his whole home theater myself.  He said the technician replaced his hdmi cables with component video cables because \"hdmi is garbage and component video is the best.\"  *face palm*  It's so messed up now, it'll take me forever to fix it all.\n\nHow is this possible? How are these \"industry experts\" so uneducated?  It's not even like they're just uneducated on brand new technology.  We're talking stuff that's been around for years now.", "summary": "How many people out there aren't getting the most out of their home theater because of dumb cable company workers and store employees?"}
{"id": "t3_vnzpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit:  How do I stop thinking my guy doesn't love me because he looks at porn and has sexy conversations with other men (hell probably other women too)? Feeling Brainwashed.", "post": "My brain needs unwashing.  I know men look at porn and so do women.  I know we all masturbate.  I know different things get us all off.\n\nI know he loves me very much, but I'm afraid he is going to keep things from me if I tell him I'm over the threesomes and some of the other stuff.  I don't want him to seek out sexy conversations with other men.  Supposedly, he just wants pics of dicks, but if that's true, there are plenty on the internet.\nI know that this is one of those times I should just talk to him about it, but most of us have turned to reddit for a little advice or insight into our issues.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.  If mods feel like this would be better directed to another subreddit please, let me know. Thanks.\n\nAges:27 Me:F Him:M 3.5 years together", "summary": "I need to believe my guy still loves me when he looks at porn and wants to have sexy talk with other men/women."}
{"id": "t3_4fzu0r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24 M) am afraid my emotional trauma will get in the way of building a romantic relationship with my best friend (20 F).", "post": "This is not easy for me to ask about but I'll try explaining as much as I can. \n\nJust a few days ago one of my best friends and I were hanging out with a group and she started showing signs that she was attracted to me. I've been interested in her for a while, but found myself locking up in a way when I recognized her wanting to get closer to me. I ended up trying to change conversation topics and even stopped talking to her altogether. At the time I was making jokes, but deep down I was (and still am frustrated) that I couldn't just let her get close to me. \n\nThis isn't the first time this has happened. I've had a long history of girlfriends that I've pushed away when they've become too close or have pushed me away, or cheated on me, losing my trust. This of course hasn't helped me build up a good sense of what a healthy relationship is. I can only think of one romantic relationship that was even close to stable. \n\nI know I want a healthy relationship whether it's this girl or someone else but have no idea how to get there. In my latest relationships I've noticed I've been a lot more distant and a lot more willing to end the relationships quickly. I've done this by showing distrust and apathy and later have regretting my expression of those feelings after the girl is gone. Even when I've been intimate with a girl I've felt myself become distant and emotionally detached. \n\nI like this girl a lot and want things to be different if we get together. I want to feel close to her, trust her and give her the healthy relationship that I feel she deserves. I know I don't have to be perfect, but I don't want my tendency to distrust others or shut down on them to get in the way of what I feel we could be.", "summary": "I want to get over my emotional trauma for a girl I like. How do I get over this problem/is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_j9deo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I cook?", "post": "I recently got back together with the person I am willing to say is the love of my life after 4 months of being separated. We have worked through the problems that caused our break up the first time and are moving into our third month of being back together. Her birthday is next week and We are going to be spending it by ourselves for the first time since we started dating five years ago (I usually got her friends together and threw her a small party). I decided that after work I would cook her dinner. It is the first time I am cooking for her in years. The only problem is I don't know what I should cook for her. So I come to you, fellow redditors, on both knees asking for advice. What special food Should I cook for her, excluding any type of fish since she does not like it?", "summary": "Want to impress girlfriend with mad cooking skills for her birthday but don't know what to cook."}
{"id": "t3_4oh6f2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F], left my boyfriend [23M], and he began harassing me..", "post": "I'm not going to get into the gritty details, but here's essentially what's going on. He would frequently contact me, sending me awful texts, emails, calls, voicemails... I told him to stop, and he refused; this all occurred after the breakup. I left him.\nI called the cops, and he's been cautioned. I feel so down, so hurt, and lonely. I don't know what to do. Reddit, I have two questions:\nDid I do the right thing? How do I cope with these feelings of the utmost regret?\nI know you guys can be harsh, and I'm not saying filter yourselves for me, I'm just asking that you keep in mind that I am fragile.", "summary": "I broke up with an abusive partner who harassed me, so I called the cops and had them try to put a stop to it. I don't feel happy, though."}
{"id": "t3_48dvyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [28M] been dating fellow student [26F] who is recently out of a relationship and says she needs space. Is this the end?", "post": "Long story short, I've recently become involved with a fellow student who is pretty fresh out of a long term relationship. According to her, it's been on the rocks for some time, and she's had feelings for me for a while. She ended up calling a \"break\" with her boyfriend and we started seeing each other in the meantime.\n\nFlash forward to last night. Things were getting pretty steamy and I was worried things were moving too quickly, but she took the lead in a lot of ways. Later she tells me that she intends to meet with her boyfriend next month to have their final chat. I'm a little miffed about this (I thought she had broken up with him) as I'm now feeling strung along, but whatever, I go with it. When I get home that night, she sends me the most matter of fact \"goodnight\" text I have ever received.\n\nToday, we're in class and I'm getting an elephant in the room vibe like I have never felt before. She spoke to me a few times but it felt like I was being talked through. During class break, she tells me I should go with my friend to get a coffee, which I interpreted as a \"you should leave the room\". Finally, this evening I receive a text saying she is beyond stressed out and apologizes if she goes awol for a little while.\n\nHonestly, the situation is a total mess. I rarely if ever meet people I connect with so strongly, but I don't know what else to do other than to just back off entirely and give her space. I'm also really worried I might have gone too fast, but in fairness, it takes two to tango and she did a lot of the initiating. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Should I just let it go, or am I being overly fatalistic?", "summary": "Huge mess. Possible love triangle. Girl needs space. Wait it out or let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_21pvuq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "FWB Problems 14 FM", "post": "My FWB has feelings for me and my best friend her ex... she got upset at both of us at the same time because she saw me by myself because I was on my phone and then she got mad/upset and my best friend because he was dancing with a girl... and I'm a millionaire and no one knows but my best friend and we have talked about going out because we like each other and almost inlove with each other and she said it herself we've been together as fwbs for about 4 weeks and best friends for a year", "summary": "My FWB has feelings for my best friend/ex and I'm a millionaire and no one knows and I'm scared she might find out"}
{"id": "t3_1p7pne", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] was recently left by GF [21 F] of 3 years. I don't know how long to wait before dating again.", "post": "My girlfriend of three years recently left me, it wasn't exactly mutual but there aren't any hard feelings either. I spent about a week horribly depressed and miserable. Now (two weeks later) I feel a lot better, but I feel bad about feeling better. I'm not sure if the only reason I feel better is because I'm on antidepressants for unrelated issues. I feel like I'm over-ish my breakup, I'm not longer super depressed about it all the time at any rate, but I feel like it's been too short of a time for that to be true.\n\nNow the problem: I want to ask a girl out, but I don't want her to just be a rebound date. We've been acquaintances for a long time, although we've never hung out that much except at the parties of a mutual friend, but we get along really well and have a lot in common. My question is how do I know if I'm ready for a relationship and not just rebounding or whatever from the one I just got out of? What if I'm just kidding myself about not being upset about my breakup?", "summary": "How soon is too soon to ask out another girl after getting out of a long term relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1tmrqb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Its Christmas eve... and my fiance just dumped me.", "post": "Title says it all, but, yes, last night my ex went to stay with her parents. I thought this was kind of odd seeing as how they had been arguing back and forth ever since she was little and had finally had enough to say for them to stay away. Well, she calls and tells me they are doing all of these things for Christmas, and the such. She says shes gonna come see me for a little bit today before they continue with holiday festivities. Well, when she gets here she tells me she has something to say to me outside. I go outside to see boxes and her family standing around. She explains that she hasn't been happy for some time now and that she is going to move back in with her family. I let her know that I just want her to be happy, which, I do. I only ever wanted her to be happy. However we have a daughter together. She is a year and a half. Which makes things for me very very awkward. I want to see my daughter, and they say I can. But, I don't know how much I trust them. I think that my ex may have been cheating on me as well. There has been another person that her parents had asked to stay with them. Hes an older guy. Im 26, my ex is 23. He is in his late 30's early 40's. I have a job, I get paid well. He is a loner and doesn't have a real job. But, he was always trying to get with her. So, my mind can only wonder even though it shouldn't. Any way, I am still kind of in shock and wondering what I should do. I just want her happy and to see my daughter. If anyone took time to read this, thank you, I just needed to vent and, this is the only way I felt it would work.", "summary": "Ex left me, I think she may have cheated but am not certain. Just needed to vent."}
{"id": "t3_1ol7qk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] friend [22M] is making it hard to move on", "post": "We both went through breakups at around the same time. Though completely different circumstances, we were there for the other to talk to without judgement. I began to notice our conversations becoming a little more one sided about 3-4 weeks ago. It was me consoling him. Me giving him advice. I thought, \"Well this is great. I think I'm really moving on.\" I didn't mind focusing on helping him because his listening did so much for me. \n\nHowever, as time goes on he has been getting worse. He focuses more on the past than anything and refuses to stop contacting his ex, despite warnings from others. I understand that this is his way of mourning, but I have my bad days too and he tends to bring me down further. I don't enjoy painting my ex as a monster. I don't enjoy the self deprecation. All of these feelings tend to be brought out when I'm with him.\n\nI have been avoiding contact with him during my \"highs\" so that I don't fall back into my negative frame of thinking. Overall, I've been happy lately and in a good place mentally and emotionally. Now I almost fear speaking to him for more than a few minutes. But, I can't do this forever and I don't want to. I feel horrible since I know he needs me. I don't want him to think he can't come to me with his problems, but how do I let him know how I feel without hurting him?", "summary": "Friend not moving on from his ex is making it harder for me to do so"}
{"id": "t3_1ukbyb", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Need some help.", "post": "So, last July I moved in with my boyfriend... And I had to leave my beautiful 5 year old chocolate lab behind in my hometown with some family. It's killing me to be away from her. We currently live in the basement of someone else's house, and they aren't fussy about having another dog around. We planned on moving out of the house this summer and getting our own apartment.. The thing is, animal friendly apartments are hard to come by around here, and me and my boyfriend both work 7 on 7 off and wouldn't get to see her for a week at a time. Even before I left she was always inside moping, I felt so guilty.\n\nI know she's happy where she is now, always going hunting and playing with other dogs, but due to past experiences (being forced to part with animals I loved, promising to take care of a rescue and being unable to do so) I feel obligated to take her with me.\n\nWhat would you do in my situation?", "summary": "I'm struggling between taking my pet away from the people who are watching her (she loves it there) or keeping her with me in an apartment."}
{"id": "t3_1qnobn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I want her back, but I don't know what to do.", "post": "Okay, so I had been dating this one girl for a while and she was and still is absolutely amazing and I've yet to question my love for her no matter what. We had a misunderstanding where we both felt like the other was losing interest, so we both pulled away to save our feelings should things get ugly. I know, stupid. Now I thought just communicating would work, but she blamed it on stress and claimed to not want to be extra stress in my life so we broke up.\n\nFast forward a couple of weeks. We text daily and even call for hours. Occasionally she slips up and calls me babe or puts hearts in her texts, immediately followed by \"I'm sorry, Idk why I did that.\" Now I know she's immature, but that doesn't make me love her any less. She's kept all my things and has even checked to make sure I haven't thrown away any notes or gifts she's given me. But every time I approach the subject of getting back together, she says this is for the best. So what do? Is it salvagable?", "summary": "We broke up over something stupid, we both obviously want to get back together, but she thinks this is \"for the best.\" What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4iwwhq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] need help with accepting my [50sM] Dad's new GF.", "post": "So here's back story. My mom passed away almost two years ago and it's just been Dad and I since then.\n\nI'm working on getting out of the house soon but due to issues on both sides I've remained at home the past two years. Also felt very lost considering my Mom was my best friend in the universe.\n\nI knew my Dad would start dating again, I just didn't think it would be so soon. Without hardly any thoughts he has taken her out and said they are officially dating the next day just this past week.\n\nSo Relationships, this is where I come to you. How can I lessen the resentment I feel? I know I cannot compare this wonderful lady to my Mom but it's very difficult... I know she would want dad to be happy and find someone else but I'm not ready for the change. I'm not sure I can ever accept her at this point. \n\nI'm trying really hard to keep in mind that she can't replace my Mom.\n\nHas anyone else gone through this and if so, how did you get used to the new person? Sorry if it seems silly. I just needed somewhere to go with all of it. It's been stressful on me.", "summary": "Lost my mom, dad is back in the dating game with a rather nice lady. Feeling emotions over this new person and need advice on how to accept them."}
{"id": "t3_4gfj7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Everyone thinks I'm (31M) kind of a dick and it's hurting my relationships.", "post": "Hi guys! I'm more of the quietly reading whats posted kind of guy and not the kind to actually post, so please be patient. lol\n\nWell as the title says most of the people I know personally think I'm a dick, mostly for the way I \"act\". By that they mean the fact that I'm not a very talkative person, The fact that I'm more to the liberal side of things and believe it or not, the fact that I actually went to college.\n\nThis problem has been brought up to me ever since I came back to my hometown after graduating from college a few years back. I live in a pretty small (1000 people more or less), stereotypical cowboy town. Everyone knows everyone and most people that leave do not return, but as I said, I did return... Now, since I went to college I actually found myself there (cliche) and wasn't afraid to be me, I guess I got comfortable with the idea and returned home with the same thoughts. Now everyone makes fun of me for being quieter than most, for my beliefs (I made the mistake of telling people, even tho I just wanted to be courteous and answer the questions), for the fact that I drive a BMW in pickup territory, and as stated before, for studying.\n\nEven childhood friends have turned on me, the only people that stand by me are my parents and my sister who also plans on leaving. I have been insulted, I have been disrespected, I've had lies told about me (the latest one: 620311, the college educated homosexual). I'm at the point that I think I have nothing left for me in my own hometown, I want to pack up and leave, but I don't want to be away from my family. I don't know what to do, guys.", "summary": "People in my small town think I'm a dick for being me and not being like them, I don't know what to do anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2lt3rf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "For those whose ex left them for someone else - how did you get over it? Are you happier now?", "post": "My Boyfriend(M28) left me (F29) for another woman. She was a mutual friend/acquaintance of ours. We dated just over two years and were living together. I found a new place and have been no contact for 10 months. I'll spare you the details, but I was more or less blind-sighted by this. He may have been cheating but says he didn't. \n\nIt's been hard moving on. I miss him and I feel all sorts of emotions (sad, hurt, angry, confused, inadequate, disappointed, shocked). \n\nI would love to hear personal stories from similar folks. How did you get over this? How much time did it take you to move on? How do you feel about it now? Do you regret what happened? Are you happier now?\n\nI worry that I'll never find anyone and am getting worried as I'm approaching 30. I thought I would marry this man and we would have children. We talked openly about sharing these goals. I feel jealous that he's dating someone else. A mutual friend let slip that it's serious between them. I've since asked that I not get any more 'updates' about him because it just hurts. \n\nTo try to move on I've been: eating well, exercising, focusing on my career (love my job!), spending lots of time with friends, rediscovering my love of live music by going to shows. I've started online dating too. So far I've been the one to end it with all the men I've met even though a couple have been interested in being exclusive. I haven't felt a connection yet and worry that I won't again, or won't for years. I sometimes compare them to my ex and it makes me feel sad for what I've lost.", "summary": "Trying to move on after being left for someone by my ex. From those whose SO left them for someone else, can you tell me you story? How long did it take to move on? When did it stop hurting? Any words of encouragement or advice?"}
{"id": "t3_xxh54", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you think I should do about this?", "post": "I just bought a Visa PayPower card at my local Safeway, and I specifically loaded 60$ onto it, so that I could go on amazon and buy a game (which costs exactly 60$), but when I go to check the balance, it says 59$. I understand that it's only a dollar, but the receipt clearly states that I activated it with 60$ on the card. I didnt use the card, nor did anyone else. It just lost a dollar without any notice whatsoever. I don't know if they do this to everyone, but it is certainly the last time i'm getting PayPower's cards.", "summary": "PayPower apparently took 1$ of my balance that I drastically need."}
{"id": "t3_1t0i9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] need serious help with a girl [17F]", "post": "So I was good friends with this girl for about half a year or so and I fell in love with her. Long story short about a week ago I decided to tell her how I felt about her to which she said she does feel like there is something there, but doesn't want to jeopardize our friendship and we should just remain friends.\n\nAt the time I thought that was okay and that I would be fine with that, but as the weeks gone on I've realized that I don't think I can see her as just a friend in my eyes anymore. I'm still crazy in love with her, I know I gotta just let the feelings go but I can't, I don't know how to. Whenever I look at her I see a girl that i'm madly in love with, not just a friend.\n\nI really need some advice or something I don't know what to do, I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I'm also still not over her, I love her too much.", "summary": "Cant see this girl that I used to be good friends with as only friends anymore, but still don't want to lose her as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_2eiebu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When i [21 M] tell my girlfriend [27 F] i love her, she tell me she loves me back, but when i add the \"little extra things\" she never reciprocates.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year now, and whenever i say i love her she never reciprocates her feeling back with mine.\n\nSay i said to her, i love you and you really mean allot to me and i appreciate everything you do. All she'll say is I love you too, then go back to whatever she/we are doing and never says the little extra bits that re-assure her love for me.\n\nIs this normal female behaviour. Because i'm feeling like im abit of a bitch for saying it and never getting it back.", "summary": "Girlfriend never tell me more then just \"i love you\", what do?"}
{"id": "t3_5096di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] close friend [21F] is limiting conversation with me because she though she accidentally led Me on, even though I told her she didn't and not to worry", "post": "I have a friend (Emma) who I started talking a lot to in the last month or so. The other day, a mutual friend (Bob) ended up telling Emma that I might like her. Emma first told Bob to stop joking around (because he normally jokes all the time) and Bob continued saying no he really thinks I like her. Emma then told him again that she thinks he's just trying to screw with her, and he continued saying he's being serious, he legitimately thinks this. I found out about this and went to Emma right away saying Bob is just messing around.\n\nThe next couple days Emma didn't even message me, until yeaterday when I asked her if she's upset with me and she said no. We talked but the conversation wasn't great and ended fairly quickly. I messaged again today morning (telling her a funny story) and she replied with a one word answer (not normal at all). I then gave a proper apology for what Bob did.\n\nShe said \"it's ok lol no need to worry. I just started thinking that I might be leading you on\". When I realized This is why she was keeping a distance I kinda laughed and said \"oh no, not at all! Don't worry\". She for sure didn't lead me on. But even after I said this, her replies were stale, late and convo ending.\n\nI need help figuring out what's going on and how I can fix it. I don't want to be too pushy cuz I talked about this twice already but man I'm losing patience because we used to be good friends and now we barely talk and I'm still confused as to why.", "summary": "Mutual friend (Bob) told good friend (Emma) he thinks I like her. She told him to stop joking around. Bob said he's not. Emma said she still thinks Bob is trying to screw with her. Bob says he's serious. I went to Emma afterwards and told her Bob is just messing around."}
{"id": "t3_kpkje", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "At what point do the police have to identify themselves when coming up on a situation?", "post": "I was walking down the street today, and, as I turned the corner, I saw a few men creeping down the street with guns at their hips behind their backs. I did what any normal person would do, and I froze on the spot. \n\nI saw them run up on a car parked on the street 15 feet in front of me and grab the guy standing outside the open backseat door and throw him to the ground. Then, they pull out another guy and do the same. The guys did not resist or anything. At this point I regained my ability to move and backpedaled to the corner store.\n\nHowever, I never heard them identify themselves as cops. They were plainclothes. After it all was over, I realized one did have on a PD jacket and one had on a vest. \n\nI understand there needs to be some discretion in situations like that. But this was at 6 in the evening in a well populated area and there were people around. Not until after they had the guys on the ground did people, including myself, realize they were police and not just some rogue people.", "summary": "When do police people have to identify themselves as such?"}
{"id": "t3_2nqldq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm getting married in 7 months, and I just realized I hate my fiance.", "post": "We took acid together for the first time. At first, I thought he was really sexy, so I started clumsily flirting with him and laughing at his jokes. I put my arms around his neck and kept flirting and giggling. And then he started humping me and unzipped his pants and said, \"Suck it.\" I got tense and sat on the couch and said, \"That wasn't very romantic.\" But he convinced me. I didn't want things to be uncomfortable, so I did it. Then he told me to lie back and take off my pants. I wanted to see if it felt good, so I did. It did feel good, but I didn't finish. I watched rainbow patterns of various winter birds on the ceiling. Then we had sex. I hated it. I felt completely disgusted by him and his body. Lazy, fat, dirty, smelly, unambitious and apathetic. And the worst part was when he came in me. I've never felt like that before. It felt so disgusting and awful. I felt that he knew that I was thinking this and was humiliated by it. Then it was over. I sat up and asked for his shirt. I stared at a lamp that changed into a cloud of smoke while he took it off and dropped it next to me and then went to sit on a chair. And then I started sobbing. I realized that I feel so trapped with him. Stay or be poor. I have no other options. I am a generally bad person, but I am better than anyone he could get otherwise. Worst of all, he is aware of all of this and is okay with it. Others know it as well, and realize that this is why I sometimes tear him down. They feel uncomfortable about it. I am subconsciously aware of all of this. \n\nOr maybe I am not. Maybe none of it is true. Maybe I was just tired and drunk from the party that we went to earlier and stressed out by family drama and the drug started playing tricks on me... I don't know.", "summary": "Drugs are bad."}
{"id": "t3_1bl6sx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend (19 f) told me something, not sure how to react.", "post": "I'm 19 (m), we've been dating for four years. Over all she's a great girlfriend, never given me a reason not to trust her. \n \n She has a big group of friends (guys and girls) that she'll sometimes go out with on nights. She'll typically invite me along but it's been hard for me to meet up with her due to my location ext. \n Anyways, she came over last night and wanted to talk to me about something. She told me that one of her guy friends had put his hand around her waist while talking to her on St. Patty's. She said that he typically will do this with most girls. In the past he's put his hand on her back briefly when she goes to talk to him, but just recently started putting his hand on her waist. She told me that this guy has never expressed any interest in her, and that she's not attracted to him and sees him as only a friend. But that she wanted to tell me in order to know if I had a problem with it. She said if I did she would set stricter boundaries with him and not let it happen again. \n\n I'm not sure how to feel about it. I trust her when she says they are just friends. And because this guys like that with most girls just makes me think it's in his personality. But I also don't like the idea of him having his arm around her (even if it is brief), yet don't want to come off as jealous or possessive. Help?", "summary": "girlfriend told me about a friend who puts his arm around her while they are talking briefly. She wanted to know if I had a problem with it, and if I did then she'd make sure he didn't do it anymore. She says he's like this with most girls and it's only happened two or three times. Not sure how t feel about it or if its even a big deal."}
{"id": "t3_4vkrry", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] Have a dating problem", "post": "There's girls that are right for me, and treat me well. Although i don't feel the same; I apprieciate the care they give. \n\nI keep having thoughts about, the girl I 'do' want. A Girl i find really attractive and wish i'd date. \n\nTwo issues I have with girls i want to date, and really like.\n\n1: I get let down a lot; the girls I find most attractive make me feel uncomfortable by the way they act. \n\n2: Whenever I get a sign that me and the girl doesn't click, I just give up all patience. \n\nI end up getting mixed emotions, like should i date someone who cares for me but i don't find attractive, or should I date someone based off of attractivness but end up not really liking them as a person either. \n\nI feel like there's really 0% of me meeting someone who fufills, care, personality, attractivity, and sex. \n\nSo if I were to pick a best possible option I feel like i'll just have to live with what I get and not what I want.\n\nI judge people based off 10 minutes of their time; and more often than not I lose my patience on whether I can really 'Like' them. maybe it's the state i live in, that the girls here don't have much to offer and I have looked and met a lot of people. My first love came from a different state. \n\nSo is how i feel wrong? I've learned what I want early, but I lack in know how to look at things, or how to feel about things.", "summary": "I don't know which of my feelings towards dating are justified; and what should the norm. be, or what has been people's best route in looking for a partner."}
{"id": "t3_3wks10", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my step-dad [40], He has a drinking problem and I have no idea how to confront him", "post": "Hi everybody, thanks for reading in advance!\n\nI wanna start by saying I love my step-dad. He's been around almost as long as I can remember, and has raised me and made me who I am now. But I guess that's where the issue comes in.\n\nI believe my step-dad has a drinking problem. The nature of his work means that he never works constant hours, but when he is home and he has the next day off, he drinks himself into a stupor. I've seen him go through 30 packs of beer in just a few days. The thing is, he provides for me and my family financially, so its been difficult to confront him on it.\n\nHe's been confronted before: by my mom [40] because she gave him an ultimatum between going to counseling and working through his issues, or divorce, and they are now divorcing, as my step-dad denied that there are any issues and got angry, as far as I am aware of the situation anyway. As a result, I feel like the last person in the immediate family who gets along with him. However his drinking has always bothered me, and I don't know how to talk to him about it since he pays for a large part of my college and pays entirely for my family's house.\n\nIn addition, even though my parents are divorcing, they have not legally divorced yet, and so they still share finances, health insurance, and the house. To make matters worse, my mom is currently sick and unable to work so when I say he provides for my family, I mean he is providing most if not all of the finances for my family. It's put me in a weird spot and I guess basically I'm looking for ideas on how to confront him about his drinking problem which has bothered me for a long time.", "summary": "Stepdad is a binge drinker, last time he was confronted on it he denied it and got angry, I want to confront him but fear angering him as he provides for me and my family financially"}
{"id": "t3_3c78o2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My aunt [50's, F] is obsessed with sending her son [20's, M] to medical school, but nobody else in the family thinks it's a good idea.", "post": "My aunt has always wanted her son (my cousin) to go to medical school and become a doctor. In her mind, the only path to \"success\" in his life (and her's, I suppose) is for him to become a rich doctor. It is unclear what his father thinks.\n\nHowever, he has already graduated from college and has just finished two years of Teach for America (TFA). He seems to have really enjoyed it, and has gotten a lot of life experience out of it, posting on Facebook and such. We (the rest of the family) think he would make a fine teacher and live a good, happy life as one.\n\nBut his mother won't accept this. He's been putting off the medical school application for years, and now that TFA is over, she's pushing him again. According to his mother, he wants to go to medical school, but we think he is afraid of defying his mother's expectations and desires.\n\nWe may be seeing him this month. If so, we don't want to scare him off or make it seem like a don't-listen-to-your-own-mother intervention. At the same time, going to medical school is a serious decision we think he and his mother might regret.\n\nAnd if we don't see him, we can of course call him. Either way, any advice on how we can handle this situation would be appreciated.", "summary": "My aunt wants to send her son to medical school, but nearly no one else in the family thinks this is a good idea, and it is hard for everyone to see what the son really wants."}
{"id": "t3_24gona", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my ex [21M], he has been ignoring contact with me, am I obligated to drop off his furniture?", "post": "My ex (21M) of eight months has been a general douche to me for the last few months. He broke a NC he initiated (for the second time) while I was visiting my male best friend's family in Texas, and essentially begged me to have a coffee with him later. We hung out a few times and I thought things were good and we were friends again, but then he flipped out again and started ignoring me. He contacted me again after hearing that I was sort-of seeing another guy, acting like we were best friends again, and then recently started ignoring me once more. \n\nHere's the deal. I still have his mattress and box spring from when we lived together, and while he was being nice to me I offered to give him a dresser I'd found and refurbished. My parents are coming this weekend to help me move out, and since he's been ignoring my texts for the past week or so, I'm kind of pissed off. He knows they are coming and we made plans to discuss how I was going to get his stuff to him about a week and a half ago, but has made no effort to contact me about them.\n\nIs it my/my parent's obligation to drop off his mattress? Also, I feel kind of stupid now for offering the dresser. Given his recent doucheliness I don't really want to give it to him. My sister is moving into a new apartment and I would rather she have it. What would be a good way to proceed?", "summary": "Ex is being a douche/ignoring me. I have his bed and offered him a dresser. Is it my obligation to drop these items off for him?"}
{"id": "t3_4wwc4p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going off trail on a day hike", "post": "I'm an experienced hiker with a lot of time spent in the back country, knowledge of survival skills, navigation, first aid, and outdoor safety. But when you're careless and are overconfident all of that can go out the window, which is the first thing you're taught! Well I was very overconfident and it led to some real problems.\n\nOn a short (6 mile round trip) half day hike on the Appalachian Trail, I went off trail to look at a rock formation about .25 miles away. Instead of turning back to the trail I decided to keep going up and over the mountain through light undergrowth and widely spaced trees. I did not pack a map, nor a compass, and did not have a cell phone signal or GPS device. Nor did I tell anyone where I was hiking that day. BIG MISTAKES.\n\nWhat I thought would be a 10 minute walk that would intersect the trail at the crest of the ridge turned into an over two hour bushwhack through heavy vegetation, but I continued to push forward farther off trail. I got really cut up from vines and thorns and had to rely on the sun and fixed landmarks for navigation. Eventually after descending to a creek, I recalled a map I had looked at earlier which showed a creek crossing the trail about 3 miles into the hike. I ended up following that creek through even more heavy vegetation until I eventually intersected the trail again only about half a mile from where I originally left it. \n\nSo TIFU by abandoning some of the core principles of hiking safety: I was not prepared beyond half a days worth of water. I did not bring a map. I did not bring a compass. I did not tell anyone where I was going. I left a well marked trail. I did not re-trace my steps. I can only hope I did not do any damage to sensitive ecosystems. I got covered in cuts, scrapes, and poison ivy.\n\nAlways be prepared, it's cliche but it is true. Always tell someone where you are, stay on marked trails if they are available or bring a means of navigation if in unmarked terrain, and prepare for the unexpected. Overconfidence can get you seriously hurt or lost.", "summary": "I was not prepared, left a well marked trail, ended up getting lost and scraped up pretty badly out of overconfidence in my abilities."}
{"id": "t3_3hstvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] can't stop stressing now that my girlfriend [18F] and I are at different colleges and I have no reason to.", "post": "Hey guys, so as the title says this past week my girlfriend and I have started college at schools a thousand miles apart. We've been dating nearly two years, our relationship is strong, we've got total trust between each other, and there's never been even the smallest inclination of either of us being sneaky with someone let alone cheating.\n\nYet for some reason I can't stop worrying that something will go wrong there. Something will change: she'll turn into a different person with all of these new people, she'll drink too much and break the 2 years of trust we've had by cheating, drink to much and have someone even take advantage of her. I know I probably sound a bit delusional for worrying like this, I know I feel that way especially since I've never been given any reason to doubt her. \n\nIdk, I'm just hoping someone on here may have had a similar experience, and if so they could share what they did to help. Thanks.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I started college 1000 miles apart recently. Dating for 2 years and I have absolutely no reason not to trust her or think she won't act smart. But I can't stop worrying she'll do something dumb or not be faithful or just something, and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_2no2tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 3 months, dating woman for three months and haven't seen her in 6 weeks", "post": "I have been dating a girl for three months. She lives about 50 km south of me but goes to school about 10 km south of me. For the past 6 weeks she says she is too busy to meet because of school but she has classmates stay at her house and she stays at classmates houses. We text everyday mostly but maybe for like 30 minutes and its like 5 or 6 texts. She says she is so busy and doesn't know when we will meet again. I am feeling lonely and dont know what to do. She won't even meet for a coffee or dinner. Should I break up with her? I'm pretty sure her dad doesn't even know we are dating and she seems to place school above me. She says she loves me but I honestly dont know what to do!", "summary": "what should I do with my girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_1m4xsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my girlfriend[22F] of 2 years, she has depression", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nMy girlfriend has depression and I'm staying positive and being supportive the best I can.\n\nMy work schedule is flexible so I am able to go with her to her therapist and wait in the waiting room with her (calms her down).\n\nShe has a lot of trouble speaking about her problems and just started therapy, and she's let me know the one thing she's most worried about is me leaving her.\n\nI have made it clear that I won't. I love her, and I can see through her illness and see the person she wants to be deep down.\n\nMy concern is: I don't know how to bring up issues with her, without making her retreat into her depressed shell. When I do talk to her, she says I make her feel stupid because I talk down to her.\n\nI want to tell her a few things, like for instance: \n\nYou've only been going to therapy for two sessions, and you don't like talking about your problems, but if you're going to get better you have to continue to go, and learn to talk about your issues.\n\nWe also have 2 cats and pet rats together, and she wanted to get a bunny. I tried my best to bring up the logistics (I'm impartial, I wouldn't mind a bunny and I wouldn't care if we didn't get one), but she basically shut down and cried, saying that she doesn't want it anymore because it wouldn't make her happy.\n\nBasically I was trying my best to be calm and not get her emotional, but she did anyways. I don't blame myself and I don't blame here, but I'm looking for ways to communicate better with her in her situation.", "summary": "My girlfriend is depressed and seeing a therapist. I'm looking for ways to talk to her and suggest solutions without triggering her depression."}
{"id": "t3_3045cs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 18 months, we broke up on Friday and yesterday I sent her this text. She also cheated on me in the end.", "post": "Background information: I'm 26. She was my first official girlfriend. We've been together for more than one year, but in the last couple of weeks we didn't put enough energy into the relationship anymore. I expected her to break up with me on Friday when she told me 'I need to tell you something'. Actually she did broke up with me AND then told me that she cheated two weeks ago. This is an actual text I sent her yesterday:\n\nI need to tell you something. This won't be nice for you, but I need to say it. Like you told me that story about Paddy. When I heard about it on Friday, I honestly thought that I can deal with it. My reaction was honest and I meant every word I said. I wasn't even mad at you.\n\nBut since then it hurts more with every day. Yesterday I cried for the first time when I was at my brother's home and just now I did it again at training. It is the first time I am feeling this and it sucks hard.\n\nAnd it was unnecessary. You could have broke up and then fucked whoever you wanted. I didn't need to know then. \n\nAnd it was no random mistake, because you slept with him twice. I know that I am partly to blame for this, too. That is my biggest problem. Had I treated you like you deserve it (Yes, I still think you are awesome), it wouldn't have happened. And you know that this is the actual reason. You just didn't want to tell me that. Therefore sentences like \"it's not your fault, it's mine\" are simply clich\u00e9. \n\nI don't hate you. Far from it. I miss you every day, even though I hate to admit it. But all those things I didn't tell you on Friday, so I had to do it now. That you cheated on me, did hurt me and it sucks.", "summary": "We broke up on Friday, I saw it coming. What I didn't see coming was that she cheated on me 2 weeks ago. I thought I could handle it, but it takes more energy than I expected."}
{"id": "t3_jqrl2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I invite my fiances....", "post": "Hey Reddit\nMe (M) 31, Fiance (F) 31\nSo my fiance and I are in the midst of planning our wedding and we've recently been talking about the guest list. Now this is where a little background will help out. We dated 10+ years back and recently got back together and got engaged (after about 2 yrs of dating). Anyway, back when we initially dated, she kissed a guy she was seeing before me while she was away at camp. Now her and I had many discussions about this (back then and some now) and its not something we fight about. I like to think I've moved past this, but I would be lying if I said it didn't pop in my head in certain situations. I think that's normal though. I've forgiven her. I wouldn't ask her to marry me if I didn't. \nAnyway, she is still friendly with this guy as they have known each other for quite a long time. No, I'm not scared of anything happening between them at all. He is currently engaged and I've actually met him and his fiance at a wedding we went to recently.\nMy question is more of principle. Do I invite this guy to my wedding. Part of me is says no, out of sheer principle. Another part of me says I should, b/c if I don't I would feel like he won or that i'm showing it still bothers me.  My fiance understands how I feel and says that while she would like to have him there, since they're friends, she fully supports whatever decision I make.\nWhat do you think I should do reddit?", "summary": "Do I invite my fiances friend to our wedding, who she kissed 10+ years ago while we were together."}
{"id": "t3_4v3bur", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a classic prank", "post": "So this FU actually happened a few years ago, but you guys know the drill. So me and some friends decided to pull the ole dollar bill on a fishing pole trick. However, we were idiots and just put a 20 dollar bill on the actual hook. We got a few people that couldn't catch it, and we all thought it was hilarious. Until this one hippie dude. This guy looked like he hadn't showered for weeks, and had dreadlocks all the way down his back. When he saw that 20 dollar bill his face lit up like a 5 year older on Christmas morning. I knew we were in trouble. As he bends down to pick it up I start to reel it in a bit, and then he takes a step forward and just dives across the sidewalk for it. As soon as he hit the ground he just screamed \"What the fuck!!\". So I release the reel and he walks over, this guy is furious but he knew there were too many of us too fight. So, we ended up having to take pliers to his hand because the barb was impossible to get out. We ended up giving him the 20 for the trouble.", "summary": "Hippie took a fishing hook to the hand during dollar bill on fishing pole prank because I am an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_2xdxbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28m) gf's (24f) family doesn't like me because of my race.", "post": "We've been dating for 5 months. She's Native American and I'm white. I understand that they don't like me for that. They're outwardly cold to me. There's obvious history there, I'm aware of that and I doesn't bother me so much. I even get cold treatment from other people at gatherings. I'm always respectful and cordial. \n\nWhat I have a problem with is that she is treated poorly because of it. Multiple family members have told her that they've lost respect for her and no longer see her as native. Her mom won't refer to me as anything other than her friend. She tells me that they have conversations about me, in front of me, in they're native language. Her step father calls me round-eye. Her real father refuses to talk to her about us.\n\nI've tried to talk to her about it, she says she's happy but I can tell it bothers her. They told her she would no longer be welcome to certain ceremonies because of us. Her culture and family are really important to her and I don't want her to end up unhappy and resenting me for it. I really care about her and I'm not sure there's really anything else I can do. I'm not sure if time is the answer.", "summary": "I'm white, she's Native American and her family hates that we're together."}
{"id": "t3_d6d81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF won't have sex anymore..hurting our relationship", "post": "I'm 25, shes 24. We've been dating for almost 2 years this November. I work 9 to 5 and she works as a server a couple nights a week. \n\nThe beginning of this year, her father passed away. Its been 8 months now, but it has really put her in a bad place. Since then, we've had a hard time getting intimate.\n\nFast forward to today. Every time i try to get physical past kissing, she gets turned off or just doesn't reciprocate. I try being romantic (wine, dinner, talking, fun events, etc) but when it comes down to it, she'd rather sleep. It seems she's always too tired. I work 9-10 hour days at times and STILL take my ass to the gym and have more energy than her.\n\nI love her to death, but if our sex life is this bad now, what am I supposed to expect if we get married? Our sex life was 10x better in the beginning of our relationship.\n\nFor those that think she may be cheating: I'm 99.9% sure she is not. She's been cheated on twice and it's screwed her up some. She'd rather break up with me than cheat.", "summary": "GF wont have sex. She's always tired and doesn't ever show any sexual physical attention towards me anymore. What the shit should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_45ui1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (21 M) stay with my SO (21 M) and try to help/wait out our problems or get out of the relationship?", "post": "So my significant other and I are in a rut. We're both in college together, been living together since freshman year, dating for 2 years and 8 months.\n\nWe only fight about how he does not like to approach other people or go out. I usually find myself wanting to go out with other friends but I feel really guilty leaving him alone back at our dorm all by himself. He's smart, kind, and really a great guy but its been almost three years and I see no improvement from him to try and make friends and its really hurting our relationship. He's terrified and shy so he has trouble talking to others and I've tried helping him but he keeps resisting. He has no friend group and no close friends at all.\n\nLately another problem of support has been an issue in where I get in a debate about something trivial and he does not support me in the least and usually just \"tries to stay out of it\". I understand if I'm wrong he has no reason to support me but to not want to support me bothers me. I'm trying not to sound spoiled but please give me advice.\n\nDo I stay and hope he becomes more social and has a friend group? Do I leave and hope he turns out okay? I love him and I want him to become a greater person (I think we can all improve) but its been such a strain on me.", "summary": "been dating SO for three years. He has problems making friends, no close friends or a friend group. I love him but tired of not being able to go out without him. Do I leave or help."}
{"id": "t3_145jkm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M] 19 broke up with boyfriend", "post": "Hey guys, I need some advice...or maybe just counsel. I broke up with my boyfriend last night. He was great. Loving, kind, funny, cute. I feel like he was everything someone would ask for in a relationship. We never fought or anything. But at the same time for some reason I just didn't feel as strongly about him as he felt for me. I just wasn't feeling it. And I feel so terrible because he did absolutely nothing wrong. Nothing at all. He was so great. So I don't know why I was feeling this way but I was. And now I feel so bad whenever I think about it. \nI know he liked me so much. It just sucks.", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend. Relationship was great, but just wasn't feeling it. Feel terrible about it."}
{"id": "t3_2wtj0j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going into walmart with a pair of my wife's panties in my shorts.", "post": "Backstory: My wife was cleaning out the dresser and she had a pile of underwear laying on the bed. Now, for some reason probably because I am a man, I grab a handful and shove them in my shorts. I laugh like a kid and pull them out.\n\nAbout an hour later we get ready to leave to Walmart. I put on my Murloc hoody, grab my keys, cell phone and wallet. We pull up, find a spot, park and walk in. I started getting odd looks and I assumed it was due to the bright green and white hoodie that looks like a Murloc when I zip it up so I think nothing of it.\n\nWe completed our shopping and decide to get some subway. As we are giving our order my wife looks at me with a super embarrassed face. I, again, assume it was a delayed reaction to my awesome hoodie. Silly me. As we head to the drink fountain my wife grabs for my junk and I think\"Hell yea\". But nah bra. She yanks a pair of her panties out of the front of my shorts. Yea. Her panties that I jokingly stuffed in before. I guess I did not get them all.", "summary": "Stuff wife's panties into my shorts, she finds them while at Subway in Walmart."}
{"id": "t3_3r8lse", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(27/M) My wife (27/F) has been staying with a friend for 3 weeks. Wants space from me. How do I give her space and focus on myself?", "post": "She says she wants to figure out her problems/who she wants to be and she wants me to develop myself in this time that we're away.\n\nShe's been doing a lot of new things, meeting people of all walks of life, and taking risks.\n\nI quit my job to follow my passion for art. But I can't help thinking about a full on divorce. (This whole thing blindsided me. I had no idea she had these feeling.) Honestly, its hard to be productive when you're worried all the time. She's not really talking about \"US\" at this point. So our marriage can go either way. It's not a priority for her.\n\nHow do I just forget about her for the meantime and think about myself? I don't want to leave her, but if we break up, I want her to start that process, not me.", "summary": "How do I distract/develop myself while my wife is away working on her own life?"}
{"id": "t3_3kl8js", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "BMI and Setting Goals", "post": "For the past few months, the final goal in my mind has been to get down to a \"normal\" or healthy BMI. I'm not obese, which is nice, but I thought getting out of the overweight category at least should be my goal. Being a 6' tall male, I started looking at BMI calculators and saw that to get down to a normal BMI, I would have to drop down to 183 lbs. I think back to when I got down close to 185lbs in college, and I can not imagine at that weight being considered overweight. To provide some background, I've played contact sports (football and rugby specifically) for most of my life, so I'm not a small guy. Should I ignore these BMI suggestions and try to recalibrate my goals?", "summary": "Am I wrong to think that a normal BMI isn't exactly normal for me?"}
{"id": "t3_22z742", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27/M] A Frustrating pattern in my dating life - After the third or fourth date, women completely sever all contact with me, despite signs that everything is going really well.", "post": "This keeps happening to me: I meet a woman, we go on three or four dates, everything seems to be going really great, and then she completely stops talking to me.\n\nThis has happened 4 times in a row with 4 different women I've seen over the past six months. Things are going really well, we have a great time when we go out, she seems really into it - and then out of nowhere, COMPLETELY severs all contact. No explanation, seemingly at random. There doesn't appear to be a triggering event, we can go from planning our next date to utter radio silence at the drop of a hat. I've been on my fair share of bad dates, and these were not bad dates.\n\nOther than this pattern, nothing is really that similar between the women. They're a variety of ages, personality types, and even races. Some of them I've slept with on the second or third date. Some I haven't. All of them I've at least made out with, at least one of them initiated making out with me, in a pub while playing darts no less. It's pretty clear that they're interested in me.\n\nI generally consider myself pretty good at picking up on social cues, body language, etc. I can take the hint when someone doesn't want to talk to me. I usually use the rule of two missed texts and one missed call before I give up trying to maintain contact. I'm very much not a needy or smothering person, I respect distance and personal space, especially at the beginning of a relationship.\n\nI really like these girls, and I get the feeling that they like me. Could I be doing something wrong? Is this some sort of test to see if I'll keep pursuing them? I have a pretty thick shell, but it hurts more and more each time this happens, and it's very discouraging to stay in the dating game. It is 100% fine if you don't want to continue dating, but to shut me out and straight up ignore me? Do I not even deserve an explanation?", "summary": "After the third or fourth date, women sever all contact with me, despite signs that everything is going really well. Is it something I'm doing wrong? How can I handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_1uczkf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend (M22) and I (F22) split up for a few months now are back together, do we started counting months over?", "post": "My boyfriend and I were together for two years, then both got trial jobs on opposite sides of the country.  We went our separate ways for a few months now we're both home and we are back together for the long haul. \n\nWe were both single for about four months, but we did keep in touch.  Now we're unsure of whether or not to start over (saying we just started dating, i.e. this is month one) or to continue from where we were before (say we've been together for over 2 years).\n\nIn the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal but we were just wondering what to do.", "summary": "Should my boyfriend and I say we just started dating or should we say we've been together for over 2 years although we were apart for a few months?"}
{"id": "t3_1vkksx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[F22] boyfriend[M24] made me terrible for getting upset about a barking dog.", "post": "Ugh so the title is supposed to say My boyfriend made me FEEL terrible...\n\nA few days ago the dog in the apartment below mine started barking/howling/whining non stop for over an hour. The walls are paper thin and eventually I got tired of it. I don't know any of the people there but happened to know the name of one guy who did live there so I emailed him saying the dog had been making noise non stop please do something about it (I knew that no one was home at that point).\n\nAt first he made it sound like he wasn't going to be doing anything about it but then I guess he was just about to get out of class and was coming home. The whole convo could pretty much be summed up as me asking him to do something about the dog, him saying \"it's barking because it's lonely\", me repeating \"please deal with the dog\" (idc why it's barking I just want it to stop(didn't say this to him)) and him saying \"okay I'm on my way back anyway\"...So the whole situation with the dog was solved pretty quickly.\n\nI showed my boyfriend the message exchange and he said I embarrassed him. Basically what he said is that it embarrases him that I got upset over a barking dog. I was polite during the conversation with the other person so it's not that. It's just the fact that I would get upset over noise. I mentioned something about making a noise complaint if it didn't stop (to my boyfriend, not to the dog owner) and he acted like I was the biggest bitch ever.\n\nI just feel like I can never complain or get upset about anything around him because he acts like I'm a big whiny bitch. It hurts my feelings. I don't want to have to deal with more nights of getting 3 hours of sleep because neighbors are playing music all night or have to try to deal with migraine headaches while listening to a dog bark. He would just rather \"ignore\" problems like these when I'm the type of person who will comfront the people causing the problem. I don't know what to do in these situations now... sorry if this is rambling. We've been dating for 8 months.", "summary": "Boyfriend got upset with me when I complained about a barking dog. He makes me feel like a whiney bitch whenever I complain about things that I feel are justified. Anyone been in a relationship like this?"}
{"id": "t3_tyv7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is there racism?", "post": "I am a Student in my junior year of high school. I am the son of a Mexico-born father and a Mexican mother born in America. There have been many instances in my life where I have experienced some form of racism directed towards me. As a child, kids in my class would say stereotypical jokes about me being Mexican and i never really understood them. When i got into middle school, I kinda started to understand what they were saying. And now that I am in high school, with a more diverse environment than before and more experiences under my belt, I have seen more racism. Luckily, not so much in school but more in the world around me. But i really want to know why groups of people see themselves as higher or superior to others.", "summary": "Why is there racism?"}
{"id": "t3_g375v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "break up with current gf of 3 months for new girl fresh out of a LTR that ive had a crush on for over a year?", "post": "I've been dating my current gf for 3 months.. she's an awesome girlfriend. Cooks cleans etc without me even asking.. sweetest person ever, nonjudgmental, i'm completely comfortable around her. I didn't really have to work for her though, we just started hooking up after meeting at a cpl of parties and she asked me out basically.\n\nThis other girl is someone ive had a huge crush on for about a year, we've always been great friends.. long heart-to-hearts and talks about religion, life, the future etc. We ended up not talking much over the past cpl of months, as we both have busy lives, and she was in a very serious relationship with a bf of 3 yrs. We ran into each other at teh bar a couple of weeks ago and she told me she broke up with him a couple of days after valentines day (ouch). I know shes already rebounded (we covered that) and last night in a drunk text convo, we both admitted to liking each other. This other girl is gorgeous and a lot of guys are constantly trying to get with her. If she had dumped her bf about 3 months earlier, i for sure would have tried to make a move on her.. \n\nTwo areas i want to point out that im aware of:\n1. I know i am a douchebag for even thinking this, and the fact that i'm this far along in the thought process is indicative of me not taking this relationship too seriously. \n2. I tried my best to not be the emotional crutch, and that also factored into us not talking over the past couple of months.\n\nMy question is, what do i do now?", "summary": "should i dump current sweet gf and comfortable relationship for new hot girl thats fresh out of a LTR n ive had a huge crush on for a while but will have to work hard to keep/attain?"}
{"id": "t3_3vlkq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my 26 [M] boyfriend of a couple months, would like some feedback on a recent situation", "post": "Hey reddit, just wanted to know your opinions on just how transparent it is appropriate to be with your partner. \n\nSo I've been in a relationship for several months now, and things are going beautifully. I love this man and can truly see myself with him in the future. We each have our friend groups and enjoy going out with our respective groups without the other person every once in a while. Well, yesterday another guy in my friend group confessed his love to me. He told me he's loved me for a while now and that, even though he knows I'm in a happy relationship, he just wanted me to know because he had to get it off his chest. He also acknowledged that it was terrible timing and that he does not expect anything to come of it. \n\nMy question to you guys is, do you tell your partners when other people express their attraction to you? It's happened to me a couple times already, with coworkers or acquaintances, where they'll tell me they like me. It's not so much that I feel the need to hide things from my partner, I just honestly don't know if this is something that has to be said every time it happens because it feels like i'm essentially saying \"look at all these guys that want me besides you!\" Even though i'd be very careful in the way i say it, it just seems like it doesn't do anything other than sound like i'm bragging and possibly make him paranoid. Even now it fees weird typing this out because I can't help but feel like others will perceive me as flipping my hair thinking I'm hot shit as I talk about how \"everyone totally wants me.\" Right now i'm leaning towards telling him because we've always been honest and open to each other about everything, but is it really necessary to tell each other about stuff like this every time it happens? \n\nBy the way, my boyfriend knows of this other guy by name but they haven't really hung out before.", "summary": "Someone else is crushing on me, i'm in a happy relationship and don't really feel anything for the other person. Want to know if I should tell my boyfriend every time someone confesses their attraction to me."}
{"id": "t3_4ekgl7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex girlfriend [19 F] went out for 2 years and broke up over long distance. I still love her what should I do.", "post": "We broke up as we live apart then we spoke for a little bit but we ended up fighting and we no longer speak. I have a letter I want to give her to try get back together with her. I asked her friends for her address so I could send it to her but they think it's best for her not to hear from me as I bring up bad memories. I cannot message her myself as she has blocked me on all social media. \n\nI really still love her and I think there could be a slim chance that we could get back together, we've been apart for about 2 months now. Should I still try to somehow get this letter to her or just leave it, it sucks right now because she's always on my mind.", "summary": "Do I try get my girlfriend back after her friends have told me its best for her not to speak to me at all."}
{"id": "t3_27kvob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [28/M] and I [25/F] got high and hit each other. Now he won't speak to me.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now. We had a great relationship until about 3 days ago. We got high together because we were bored and decided it would be fun. (We've gotten high before btw). We got a bit carried away and realised that we could hardly feel pain, one thing lead to another and we started hitting, slapping and punching each other across the face and on the arms, laughing whilst we were doing it. We both had some pretty deep purple bruises and a few bloody cuts. The next day I woke up and he was out the apartment (we share together), so I called him and he told me he's feels weird and uncomfortable around me and needs space away for a few days. I'm so confused because I don't understand why he feels this way. Is he scared I'll tell someone we beat each other? I wouldn't dare! Please, any advice would be great!", "summary": "Basically my boyfriend and I got high, beat each other because we thought it was hilarious and now he is avoiding me and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_2bcftc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/m] with my [23/f], should I stay or should I go?", "post": "So I'll try to keep it short and sweet. For the longest time I've been saving up to travel around the world for a while, and just explore life. While working in the states at my 9-5 I met a great gal. I have been dating her for just over a year. She really is everything a guy could want, beautiful, smart, easy to talk to, and most of all very loyal. She is also financially secure and making a lot of money pursuing a strong career.\nHere's my problem, I just recently got laid off from my job and they gave me a severance package that put me at my goal amount to leave and travel. So now I'm out of a job with my savings goal reached. Do I leave her and pursue what I've always wanted to do? Or do I buckle down and live life with her? Marriage, kids, etc. ?", "summary": "I love my girlfriend but also want to travel the world. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3x678u", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[ILLINOIS] Workman's Comp case from being attacked at work", "post": "I'm a medic who worked at a hospital emergency room.  (I just received a notice in the mail today that I was terminated as of 12/11)\n\nIn june, I was working the front registration desk when I a patient was brought in by a friend, and I was told by the friend that PT was having a seizure. I ran out to assist PT (who was not having a seizure but instead was extremely drunk and high, and yes, BAC and toxicology labs confirmed this later on). While bringing PT on a bed to a room, PT jumped out of bed and lunged at me, buried head into my shoulder and bit down and took a zombie bite sized chunk out of my arm. \n\nPT was redtrained, treated and I was immediately brought into my own room. I was treated by one of the doctors. I pressed charges, as it was highly advised that I did. \n\nI continued to follow up with corporate health, even when the wound got infected. However, I was told that I had to use my insurance and pay for the Rx's and later on, I received a bill from the ER from my insurance company. I didn't even give anyone, or sign off on anything giving them permission to bill my insurance. \n\nSo what are my options?", "summary": "Medic who was bit by zombie patient while working in the ER and hospital is making me pay for my medical bills."}
{"id": "t3_eq01v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Family in serious financial troubles, still using money on Christmas.  Advice on how to help them/convince them not to spend money?", "post": "I don't have any idea what to do about/for my parents.  Here's the deal; Both of my parents are disabled (Step-Father due to spinal injury, Mother due to surgery complications) and live with my younger sister (13) and my Grandmother (82).  This past month the food stamps they were on got cut to 90 dollars a month (from 300).  Their only income is from my Grandmothers pension, their disability and whatever at-home work any of them are able to do.  However, this Christmas my Step-dad recieved some money from his previous work, but my family used it all on Christmas.  Then I find out from my Mother that a family in worse shape near them could not afford Christmas this year, so they gathered together a lot of stuff and used some of their budgeted food money to bring them Christmas.\n\nI understand that the Holidays are important and I even to an extent support what they're doing, but I have a horrible feeling it's killing their finances.  I don't have the heart to tell my Mother this.  \n\nI'm 23 and putting myself through college and simply can't afford to help out as much as I can all the time, so I need some advice as to what to do for them for this Holiday season.  I just feel like getting everyone random presents isn't going to cut it.  I also don't know how to express to them that having a big heart is wonderful, but not when it may be hurting your own family.  :/  Advice?", "summary": "Family has bad finances, uses what little they have for Christmas, need advice on how to get them to save money and on what to do for them for Christmas."}
{"id": "t3_4o5v4w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [16 M] approach this girl [16-17 F] I never talk before?", "post": "Ok I posted this before and I thought it's ok but I met her again today. I can't ignore her when she's around me. When she's near me, I really can't stop looking at her.\n\nI never talk to anyone and Im not good at their language. Im shy and she's outgoing and cute. I never saw her talk to guys (except for teachers) and I want to talk to her.\n\nIt doesn't have to be being in a romantic relationship with her, I want to at least be friend with her. I want to talk to her. But as I said Im shy and not good at their language, no confident to talk with their language. Also if ever I will approach her, I don't know how, I only see her sometimes. \n\nThe last time I saw her before this day was like maybe 3-4 weeks. Today I saw her again and I just want to talk to her. I don't know if she noticed me looking at her, if so, I don't know if she thinks Im creepy. \n\nOr should I ask you guys if there's a chance she thinks Im creepy when Im looking at her? I look at her when she's near me but I don't like go near her. I thought of this because when I know she's near, Im looking for her. So maybe if she notice me, then she notice Im looking for her and that maybe creepy for her?", "summary": "How can I talk to the girl I never talk before? To the girl who doesn't even know me and I don't even know her name. Im not good at their language and don't have confident so maybe any tips for that?"}
{"id": "t3_3zq9ug", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By taking down christmas lights.", "post": "TIFU by taking down christmas lights. So we have 3 evergreen trees in our side yard, which my brother and dad put lights up on before we left on winter break. After we got back, I was tasked with taking them down. Let me tell you, taking down christmas lights which are tangled up in branches twice as tall as you without a ladder is a pain, let alone without gloves. It felt like satan was rubbing his fiery barbed wire anal beads across my palms and fingers. I now have blisters, and have to literally cut the lights off of the tree with wire cutters.", "summary": "Rubbed Satan's fiery anal beads made of barbed wire across my hands."}
{"id": "t3_ok6c5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What ridiculous dares or bets have you gotten your self involved in for the sake of money or \"balls\".", "post": "A few years ago a work mate was complaining about packaging waste in the office, Being my usual sarcastic self I suggested he eat the box, in a effort to use intentionally abstract logic to rationalize him eating it , I said for the right amount of money I would eat it, He started shouting numbers at me trying to find my price and after some co-workers overheard our discussion I ended up eating a a [corrugated card board box] similar to that image for 1,000 Euro.\n\nThey did not stipulate the way in which to eat it , but they did say I had to finish it before the work day was over, I cut it into small chunks and softened it with boiling water and a small amount of sugar to make it less bland, I completed the bet but I didn't shit right for a good while.", "summary": "ate a box for 1,000 (1,500$ at the time) what ridiculous thing have you done for money or a dare?"}
{"id": "t3_1mxswd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this guy [24M] blowing me [23F] off?", "post": "So this week I met a great guy and we hit it off right away. Long story short - we had a great convo and I felt like he was different from other guys. The next day, he texted me and asked me how my day was going - something others guys I had met hadn't done before. We were semi talking throughout the week, and he suggested that we meet up today (Sunday). I said it works for me and we continued to talk normally.\n\nSo Sunday gets here and I am not hearing back from him (we didn't really MAKE plans for Sunday but it was agreed that we were meeting up today). I ask him if we are still meeting up and he greets me and says that he \"unfortunately has to work all day\" but that he is off for a week after today. A bit disappointing and not sure what to respond. Maybe I should've asked on Saturday what the plan was? Just seems off that he suggested Sunday and now he has 'work' ... but we really didn't make plans / schedule anything so I don't think he is lying.\n\nSo I just text him saying that it's fine and that I hope he has a good day and he replies 'thanks! how is your day going?' and I casually reply and he tells me that he is a bit tired from 'an event last night' - which I pretty much think means he is hungover.\n\nAfter that, I don't reply because I had to head out and my phone was being buggy. I get home and see his FB (don't have him added) and he says he is off for a week (what he had told me) and later checks into a restaurant or pub with some friends. So this got me thinking - if he was really interested, he would have made time for me (even an hour), no? Or am I over thinking things? \n\nSo what should I respond or text him?", "summary": "Met guy, texted for a few days and planned to meet Sunday... has work last minute but keeps on making conversation, I don't respond back and find out through FB that he is at a restaurant with some friends. Is he interested/what should I respond to him?"}
{"id": "t3_3149k2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIP My coworker", "post": "Today I really fucked up. Today is April Fools and at my office one of my co workers who we'll call Dave goes all out. He pulls all sorts of pranks you know like shitty pranks that kids do. I was fed up and I wanted it to end. A little background I work in the service industry and I did this at lunch. So to get him I devised a prank I thought would get him good. He's a real neat freak so I dropped something on the floor and told him to pick it up. He did and then I put my prank into action. He cleaned it up then a rope wrapped around his legs and pulled him into a shipment of flour. It then pulled him up where he crashed into a table and into a trash can. After this I was crying with laughter and went over and said to him in the most asshole like way \"APRIL FOOLS!\" He then starts to fucking cry and runs out of the restaurant. Now all the customers and my other coworkers are looking at me with intense looks of hate. They all leave and now I'm at home wondering what to do", "summary": "Pranked my coworker on April Fools now everyone hates me"}
{"id": "t3_4l60zf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] Looking for advice for a future relationship", "post": "I've had my experience with a woman, and all she did was text me and see me maybe only once a week for 2 months. She then told me that she was incapable of loving again, and then she and I agreed that she needed space. After only 2 days of breaking up, she finds another man. I'm already at peace with my mind, it's her choice, if she wants to be a player, fine.\n\nBut now I'm afraid that because of such a weird relationship, I don't know what to expect anymore. I'm going away in 2016 September for university in another province (In Canada), so I'm trying to avoid any flirting to me and from me until I get to my university.\n\nAnyone have any advice when looking for a woman? Anything I should pay particular attention to, any red flags, signs that could indicate a toxic or great relationship? I'm just too confused at this point and don't know what I should and shouldn't know.", "summary": "Past relationship made me too confused, need advice and pointers for any future relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1lxfp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've[22/m] been with my [23/f] girlfriend for 5 years and I'm at the end of my rope...again", "post": "So we're young, had ups and downs. Had a period where I thought she cheated on me, she has a stressful job where coworkers in that field may not be the most respectable. \n\nI work late nights, don't have a job during the day but people around me get a bad wrap. \n\nWe both work similar times so we usually get to see each other during the day...but a couple years ago I moved a few thousand miles and it really hurt our relationship. So I came back to be with her. \n\nI know she's independent and strong willed but she wants to move to get a winter job in a different state. When I asked her \" what about us?\" She just said \"I need to make money and you can come visit me\"...I've always been the one to visit her, driving an hour out of my way and such. \n\nI just don't see it as fair. We just took a vacation to reconnect and it was really great...but I feel like she hangs me out on the line and that I'm there whenever she needs me. She tries to fix our relationship by throwing money at it. \n\nIf she leaves I won't have anyone...I'll have  coworkers but I've only known them for a short time. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "gf might be moving feel like she's blowing me off and doesnt really care about how I feel about it."}
{"id": "t3_43w7kx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/m] recently broke up with my [17/f] girlfriend. I regret my action deeply and want her back. We've been together for almost 2 years.", "post": "I just couldn't stand her being so cold hearted to me during the holidays. I really wanted to meet her during holidays as it was around christmas but she refused to meet me because those are family days for her and she doesn't want that to interfere with me. so I'll make it short and say that I eventually broke up with her because she was not treating me as I wanted to be treated. right now I really regret my decision and for several weeks I can't do anything but think about her and it's driving me crazy. all the good things that happened between us, all the positive experiences just everything came back to me. \n\nI'm not really a person that talks about feelings face to face so I decided to write her a letter and tell her that I still love her, that I was sorry for my past behaviours and want to be together with her again. I am actually willing to talk with her face to face because obviously a letter is not enough but right now she doesn't even want to talk about talking these things. \n\nI'm seeing her everyday as we have 50% of our classes at school together and we're not really treating each other very well as ignoring each other or being unfriendly and things like that. \n\nthe thing is she once texted me that she also loves me, that she is also missing me and I thought that if I tell her about my feelings she might want to be together with me again and might be willing to forgive me. \n\nI'm just really confused right now, I don't even know if I really love her but I just can't stop thinking about her and all the memories I had with her. is there anyone who was experienced something similar? could you guys give me some advice as to what to do right now? thanks in advance.", "summary": "broke up with my girlfriend and regret my decision right now even though I don't really know what I am truly feeling. looking for advice as to what to do right now."}
{"id": "t3_pxguw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with anonymous, passive-aggressive graffiti in the workplace?  Much more inside...", "post": "Our medium-sized company is experiencing an increasing frequency of anonymous employee \"passive-aggressive\" and cynical notes/complaints being scrawled on company papers, postings and property.\n\nManagement is concerned, but employees remain curious and snickering, apparently sharing qualified silent agreement with the truth behind the \"graffiti\".\n\n--------------------------------------------------------------------\n\n**Example #1:**\n\nCompany poster on wall: \"Company Family BBQ Event Soon!\"\n\nGraffiti artist:  \"Beware of food poisoning, like last year\"\n\nTruth:  Twenty-three people actually did suffer from food poisoning after last year's company cookout.\n\n**Example #2:**\n\nWarehouse shelving unit end cap sign: \"Items in this row are organized alphabetically\"\n\nGraffiti artist:  Crosses off \"alphabetically\" and writes underneath \"like shit\"\n\nTruth:  The section is not organized alphabetically.  Everyone picking items here suffers a time loss.  Employees hate this section and laugh at the new graffiti title.\n\n**Example #3:**\n\nAssembly-line employer:  Posts new policy about bathroom breaks on the company announcements bulletin board.\n\nGraffiti artist:  \"This policy is a human rights violation.  Making people hold their pee causes health problems, WHICH YOU DON'T PAY US FOR!\"\n\nTruth:  Making people \"hold their pee\" for any length of time can result in health problems.  And indeed the employer does not offer healthcare benefits.", "summary": "Management getting nailed by valid criticisms from anonymous sources, upset because they can't respond directly."}
{"id": "t3_3luw26", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Stuck", "post": "So on the 8th I lost my debit card, I blocked it and ordered a new one. 2 days later I get a text from the bank saying they've sent it. Today is 21st and I'm still waiting. I've already borrowed $100 from my flat mate and I'm soon out of food. Could always go DD-ing. But I can't get a doctors appointment and very needed drugs (SSRI, isotretinoin) and I can't renew my bus card which I really need in this town. My Spotify subscription is my life and I can't log on to it on my phone. Ringing on peoples door bell to ask for work while in your 20s isn't very trustworthy as only children do it in this country, but I guess I'll just have to try if this goes on much longer. To top it off, I live in one of the richest and most expensive countries in the world.", "summary": "waiting for debit card, soon out of cash, needs warez n services"}
{"id": "t3_2axrr9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] found my boyfriends [21M] post on casual encounters.. For a man.", "post": "We've been together for almost 3 years. We've had our highest highs and our lowest lows together. He's my best friend.\n\nSo here's the deal, I don't condone snooping but I just had this gut feeling he was hiding something from me. Being really distant, and just not being himself overall. I decided to go through his email...\nTurns out he posted an ad on craigslist casual encounters, which was bad enough until I noticed it was \"M4M\".\nIt said \" DL fun 21M : 22 from xxxx. Live off xxx and xxxx\n8 inches cut, DDF, can bottom\" along with about 5 pictures of him masturbating.\n\nAfter seeing this I was LIVID, so I woke him up and demanded an explanation. He said he did it as a joke to see the kind of response he would get, he also claimed to not have any idea what DDF, M4M, and can bottom, means. I'm at a loss for words. Who is this person? How many times has he done this and I had no idea? \nDoes this mean he's gay? \nI'm heartbroken. I don't know what to do or what to think.\nHelp?!", "summary": "Snooped bf's email, found his post to casual encounters in search for DL fun with a man. Help"}
{"id": "t3_54y2mk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] went on a first date with [25F] this weekend and haven't heard from her, now says she's too busy to date.", "post": "So I meet this girl on OKC and we chatted for about 2 weeks before I asked her out.\n\nWe went out for drinks and ate brunch the next day where we also kissed. We agreed we could have another date this coming monday.\n\nAfter getting home I sent her a cute message about what a great time I had and I never heard from her. Before this we messaged all the time. So, I again texted Monday (her bday) and never heard back.\n\nCome to today I messaged her again asked her how she was and if we were still on for Sunday and she said school is too busy and she can't and wasn't interested in setting something else up. I guess I'm a little hurt, and a little heartbroken. I went ahead and deleted her from my social media and such, but now I'm wondering if I am over reacting or if it is right to just cut my losses.\n\nIt should be noted I haven't been on a date since last January, I thought this girl was amazing, and being a lesbian in a not so gay friendly area finding one is like finding a unicorn. I should say there were some red flags before this, and during the date. Have any of you been in a similar situation? Where do I go from here? Did I over react by cutting my losses?", "summary": "Met amazing girl online, went on a great date, now never wants to see me. How do I go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_nhdzc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most ridiculous irrational fear you have heard of someone having?", "post": "I ask this because of a recent visit I had with my grandmother. While I was visiting, her aunt (my great-great aunt, but only slightly older than my grandma) also swung by for a bit. Now her aunt has a few screws loose upstairs, so I've heard some pretty wild stuff from her before, but what she said that day tops everything.\n\nShe was terrified to see the bird feeders in my grandma's backyard. When we asked why, her aunt explained that with all the birds around my grandma's property, she thought that one might pick up a lit cigarette a motorist had thrown out on the street, fly up, and deposit it down the chimney, thus setting the house on fire.\n\nApart from not trying to explode in laughter, I tried reasoning with her that even if a bird picked up a particularly smelly object like a cigarette, and of all places, somehow put it down the chimney (even with the metal cage above it to keep rain/debris out), it wouldn't do anything since that chimney leads to a natural gas furnace, which by all means wouldn't combust from such a thing. She was still livid about taking the feeders down.", "summary": "great-great aunt was afraid of birdfeeders, as the consequences of owning one would lead to a housefire, per her deranged logic."}
{"id": "t3_3akdb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [20] refuses to talk to me and has been ignoring me since last night", "post": "I don't know what his problem is. He's been ignoring me since last night before he went to sleep. He woke up for a bit in the middle of the night to eat. I tried to talk to him but he was pissed at me. This morning I asked him what his problem was, if I ever did anything, he denied there was any problem but still continues to ignore me. I am so frustrated right now. We live together and we've been a couple for almost 2 years now. We usually never have issues or argue, we're a happy couple. I wish he would just tell me. I'm. So. Annoyed.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I talk to him until he blurts it out? Or should I also ignore him?", "summary": "BF won't talk to me, tells me I didn't do anything when I try to confront him but continues to ignore me and give me the cold shoulder"}
{"id": "t3_525992", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [27/M] creep out my aquantence [22/F] or am I over thinking it?", "post": "So Ive known this girl for over a year, but I've only seen her twice at various music events. We have each other added on Facebook, though. \n\nShe made a comment on this event I'm going to asking if anyone had an extra ticket to this music festival. I commenter saying I have an extra one that I could sell her. So she messaged me. \n\nI gave her the details about the ticket, she thanked me. She then offered if she can pay for it later, I said it was no problem and just hand the money over the day of and the ticket is hers. She thanked me again, told me about her situation on having to take care of her sick dog with vet bills, etc and how she's low on money. She then said we should kick it when we get there. \n\nI then follow up with \"Oh man. Sorry about your dog. And for sure it's been a while. I think since this one festival in 2015.\" The message was marked seen a bit over an hour ago and no reply. \n\nI kinda feel like it was a bit creepy to say \"it's been a minute\" to someone you've only came across 2 times. I was just trying to make friendly chit chat. Seeing when we did run into each other those two times, we got a long pretty great.", "summary": "I offered an aquantence an extra ticket, because she needed one and I had an extra that was just going to waste. She offered to kick it, and I think I said something desperate back, because I didn't get a response."}
{"id": "t3_35plz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27/M] deal with jealousy about ex's [25/M] new life?", "post": "And I'm back.\n\nHere's the original post: \n\nFor those of you (like me) who don't want to read all of that, the long and short of it is that the ex and I dated for over a year and a half (lived together for over half of that). He broke up with me for someone else in October 2014 after I moved to a different state for work. We reconciled briefly (~3 weeks) back in early January, and it ended because he cheated on me twice with the guy he initially left me for, and they're still together. During our period of reconciliation, I learned that the guy cheated on my ex non-stop for the 2 months they were first together (think anonymous sex ads on craigslist).\n\nSince then I found out that they have moved in together in a bougie apartment in the city that I've been trying to get to for years. Despite the book I could write on why this is probably the best for me, I still find myself wrought with feelings of jealousy that I cannot shake. They're living the life that I've been working toward for years -- the life that he and I had been planning for so long. And for them it just happened over night. I am stuck in a midsize southern city until the fall, at which point I don't know where I'll be heading. And it's not just that they moved in together -- it's that they moved in together in the city I've always wanted to live and settle down in. And it kills me.\n\nIt's been over 6 months now, and I still feel absolutely stuck, no matter how hard I try to move on. How do I overcome these feelings of bitter jealousy? Are there reasons I shouldn't be jealous? Is this normal? Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "Ex is with the guy he cheated on me with and just moved in together in my dream city.  How do I get over feeling jealous?"}
{"id": "t3_2mmv8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22 F] of 1 year has unhealthy habits and I [21 M] don't want to make it about weight how do I approach it?", "post": "I've been reading other bits of advice but all of them seem to be about women who are already overweight. both she and I are of average percentage body fat content for americans but she is strongly averse to working out and every time I bring it up it feels (to both of us I think) like it's about her body rather than her health. But the truth is things are getting serious and I'm worried the attitudes she has won't be good for her or our (far farrr in the future) children and the earlier you get into the habit of health the easier it is to stay there.\n\nIt's really hard to word it right though. The fact that I have a strong preference for thick girls makes it worse because it simply isn't where her body fat goes and she knows it, so it seems like I want her to work out just because it would make her closer to my ideal. Like if I suggested she do squats, I know in her head she'd hear \"I want your ass to be bigger\" and if I said she should pick up running she'd hear \"I want you to lose belly fat.\" We don't fight about it, but the way she reacted to my previous failures makes me know they made her feel inadequate.\n\nAlso we live about 30-60 mins away from eachother so working out together isn't feasible. We can only sleep over twice a week due to uni. Any attempt at weight loss from either of us would be an individual effort.", "summary": "I want my girlfriend to get healthier habits, previous attempts at communicating this ended in her feeling inadequate"}
{"id": "t3_3jvb82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) am dating a guy (24M) who revealed he is a cross dresser", "post": "I have been seeing this guy for about a month, and when I was half awake he told me he liked to wear women's underwear. It was late at night so I thought I was dreaming but then confronted him in the morning. He said he did say that - I was fine with it.\n\nLast night he showed me just how deep it goes - dresses, panties, more bras than I own, etc. he says that he has always kind of felt like this, but doesn't want to do it when he's older (I.e have a family) which honestly does not make sense since if it is who he is.... How can you stop?\n\nHe says he used to get off on it, but not so much any more. It's a euphoric sense for him wearing a dress. He says he sees them just as clothes.... He wore a bra in front of me and it is unfortunately a turnoff for me.. I am attracted to being dominated and masculinity - which he is masculine. \n\nHe said he enjoys being a guy, likes his junk, and doesn't identify as trans (heterosexual male). He says he doesn't want to be a woman and that this wouldn't be a part of our relationship (we wouldn't go shopping together etc)\n\nI like him a lot. I told my mom (she is my best friend) and she is concerned he might pull a 'Caitlin Jenner' on me.\n\nMy mother is also concerned since he was critizing me a lot last name (I was DD, so a lot of it was my driving. Some other little things) I ended up crying about it in front of him and he seemed really hurt when I started to cry.\n\nI just have no idea how to process this or what to do. He has only ever told one other person (a friend who happens to be a lesbian)\n\nPlease help.", "summary": "guy I am dating told me he cross dresses"}
{"id": "t3_3850c8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "/r/running I really need your help. This is an emergency (sort of)", "post": "There's this girl I'm really in to, who is really in to running. She's on the cross country team, she runs almost every day, and she's in great shape. I asked her if she wanted to hang out tonight and she said she was going running tonight and then invited me to go with her. Here's the thing. I'm not a runner. I have recently tried to get in to it, but I'm nowhere near her level. She said we'd run about 3 miles, which isn't too bad. I can run/walk 3 miles. Without a problem. I'm not in bad shape, I'm just not a runner. Is there anything I can do in the next 2 hours to prepare myself?", "summary": "trying to bang a runner. Not a runner myself. How do I run?"}
{"id": "t3_30k496", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "When asked about salary expectations during my interview I said 38k to 45k. Was just offered the position with 38k. Should I try and negotiate?", "post": "So I interviewed for a position last week, and before the interview I saw online that the industry average for this position was $41,000. During the interview, they asked me my salary expectations, I said between $38,000 and $45,000 hoping it'd land somewhere in the middle. I received my offer today, and it was for $38,000. I can't help but wonder if I had just said $41,000 they probably would've offered it...\n\nAnyways, so what I know is they are hiring 3 other people for this same position... I either got lucky and guessed exactly what salary they were planning on paying all of us to begin with, or we're all getting paid differently. As for the job, it is the ideal entry level position for me right now, and is a great company with benefits etc so I actually wouldn't mind working there for the 38k salary.\n\nBut it would be nice to get an even 40 at least, so my question is, is it common practice to negotiate salary after receiving an offer already? I also must say that I don't have any leverage as this is entry level and I would have probably still accepted had the offer been even as low as 30k. As such, I'm very afraid the offer may be retracted if I do try and negotiate, if that sort of thing happens?", "summary": "Said 38k to 45k salary expectation during interview, was offered 38k. Have no leverage, and overall its a great entry level position and company. Should I negotiate?"}
{"id": "t3_12ymrz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever found that \"missed  connection\"? AKA, a person you thought was funny/ attractive that you didn't get any personal  information of?", "post": "(19/m)\nWe partied at my place for Halloween, and there were lots of guys and gals.\n\n(I realize this isn't that long ago, btw)\n\nThere was a girl dressed as a ghost-buster and golly, was she fucking hot.\n\nI immediately told the DJ to play the theme song, and nodded her over to dance with me. She obliged, and we danced long past the song playing. I stopped to get us drinks, I came back, and she was gone. Someone said she left with her friends, and I was bummed she didn't find me before leaving. But fuck me for not asking her name or anything in the first place, right?\n\nSkip forward to yesterday morning in the library.\n\nI see a gorgeous girl working at a computer (probably on reddit, or pinterest for all I fucking know). But she was the fucking girl from the party. I started talking to her, and turns out she was trying to find me before she left, but her friend was being a cock blocking bitch and said that they \"had to leave:\" I guess no one was flirting with her? But who gives a shit, I found the hot ghost busting chick. I'm taking that bitch to sushi. Bitches love sushi <3", "summary": "was dancing with girl at party, she left. no sort of contact info exchanged. saw her today in library, now going on date. <3"}
{"id": "t3_10ftxa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best sleep walking/talking stories you have? Either if it is you or a friend.", "post": "My story is my two friends story(i was not asked to stay that night, punks) Anyways, one was staying over at the others house so they could go to some event the next day. They fall asleep and trpy(nickname of the guy staying at the friends house) wakes up early around 3:00 am. He shakes his friend and says,\"Hey, you ready for tomorrow? It's going to be awesome.\" The friend sits up. Looks at him. And Slaps him across the face. Trpy in shock says,\"What the heck?\" and gets the response \"Ask me about two cups of salmonella.\" and then goes back to sleep. Didn't remember a thing the next day.", "summary": "Friend slaps friend and says \"Ask me about two cups of salmonella.\""}
{"id": "t3_1hw1qa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to go about removing myself from an online clique?", "post": "I've been apart of a group of friends online (long distance) for a few years. Since 2008 to be exact. A few of the members are wonderful people, but the bad apples of the group ruin it. In this worst case scenario the bad apples are the 'role models' of the group. Whatever they say usually goes, everyone else follows along regardless of the outcome. Even the wonderful people of the group succumb to the ego of the leaders, and are mentally forced to do wrong. From harassing people in online video game worlds, to picking people out of Facebook and trying their best to ruin their lives. Such as posting precious information to siblings. Luckily I have not been affected in all this time. Although I've had a few disagreements with some of the bad apples before. \n\nTo keep it simple. I need to remove myself from the group in the last harmful way possible to others and myself. The members of the group know my real name, my alias online, and a general idea of where I live. Needless to say this is much easier than removing myself from the group if we lived closer together and met on a daily basis or such, like normal friends. However I'm worried they'll eventually find me once leaving and who knows what could happen.(Online, chances are they won't bother me in real life.) They're not nice people.\n\nWe keep in touch via Facebook and Skype. However some other members know me in online video games, such as Guild Wars 2, or World of Warcraft.", "summary": "How do I go about leaving a group of friends of ~5 years without causing harm or stirring up trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_2kq3y2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a private VPN", "post": "preface:\n\nMy ISP is awesome. They don't care what people download from where, no questions, no throttling, great speeds. I use it to do depraved shit like torrent pornography. \n\nthe fuckup:\n\nI do some work for my in laws, occasionally I need to get onto their computer to check things and do routine maintenance.\n\nWell I opened a VPN to their computer, and checked on something for them and did not even think about what I was downloading on my personal machine. Lo and behold 10 days later (Today) the Mother in law gets a DMCA takedown notice for 'Bad Girls 5', She immediately questions my wife who questions me and now I feel sheepish and horrified. \n\nSo... there's an option with VPNs to not use the remote host as a default gateway. And that's enabled now :)", "summary": "don't send all your torrent traffic through a VPN and get your in laws fined/arrested."}
{"id": "t3_16j3j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Need advice on how to approach my parents about engagement and how to be strong", "post": "Link to old post --> \n\nI just want to share a quick update since many of you have been very helpful and kind in sharing some advice. Last week, I prepared and really had to drive the point that I wasn't there to argue but to share the news. They were definitely surprised for sure. One took it well actually, asked a bunch of questions but he seemed fine with it and said he appreciated the news from me. The other tried to be calm but then she kind of slowly starting flipping out in the end. And by then, I already shared my news and I said I was not here to argue. I said a bunch oh uh huh, okay, yup, etc. I said to myself, I'm not going to stoop down to her level. And I didn't. I was very proud of myself. It's still tough but I shared my engagement news :-) and I think it went a bit better than expected...", "summary": "I told them! Reaction was eh but I'm happy to share the news and not be afraid anymore"}
{"id": "t3_ep16e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For the older, wiser Redditors out there.....", "post": "I'm in my twenties, finished college, and have been working for about a year and a half full time. For the past year, I've been conflicted between going out and discovering the world (teaching abroad, volunteering as a crew member on a ship, etc), and choosing to establish my professional career (which is undefined at this point). My friends in my cohort are already in graduate school and planning out their futures. I'm not so convinced I should rush into things. In my view, I only have a few more years of youth (I'm 24) - I want to live it up before I can't anymore. I don't want to be a desk-slave. On the other hand, I understand the importance of working hard and making something of myself. I don't want to become insignificant. Any experienced folks out there want to shed some light on my predicament? I would very much appreciate this.", "summary": "should I go out and \"conquer the world\" or focus on a professional career?"}
{"id": "t3_46fgu4", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Dizzy for seemingly no reason? (2nd day)", "post": "* Age: 20\n* Sex: (trans) male\n* Height: 1.76m\n* Weight: 65kg\n* Race: Caucasian\n* Duration of complaint: 2nd day\n* Current medications (if any): Testosterone gel (daily), Vitamine D supplements (weekly)\n\nHad (yet another!) damn cold recently, but it's almost gone now. Yesterday it was a bit worse, and I was also feeling dizzy all of yesterday. From the moment I tilted my head in the morning while getting up, until I went to bed, too much movement made my head feel dizzy. My nose was BARELY stuffy, my throat entirely okay. No headache. I ended up lying down, watching stuff and felt a bit better.\n\nToday I started off feeling pretty good, went to the store to buy groceries, showered, made food and ate, sat in front of the PC for a while... but the moment I try to go back to studying for upcoming exams (which I did the day prior as well), the up and down motion of taking notes makes me feel dizzy again.\n\nI drank more than I usually do yesterday for that reason, ate well; lots of fruits and vegetables and whole meals. Been doing the same today.\n\nI've never felt dizzy from a cold, especially not when it was such a light one. I generally never feel dizzy - if I'm dehydrated, I generally get a headache from it first thing, and I drank so much I can't imagine it. I didn't exactly exercise loads these days, but I don't just sit around either. And it's not any different from my regular schedule.\n\nI'd just sleep it off but with the exams upcoming it's becoming a bit of a problem if I have to skip more and more days, but the dizziness is just too annoying after a while. Is there anything I'm missing? Am I still not drinking enough? (Going to the bathroom every half hour gets annoying after a while) Should I move more regardless? (I'd go outside more but I loathe the cold)", "summary": "drank well, ate well, moved moderately; no headache, no pain, but dizziness from moving head. No fever"}
{"id": "t3_33wy3a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of about a year, help me try to understand the breakup", "post": "My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago over the phone. I'm almost though the \"healing process\" but I have a question that is bugging me.\n\nShe really confused me by telling me that she \"loved me but she didn't have time to see me at the moment\". I now realize that was probably some sort of bullshit excuse. If you want to see some one, it's quite easy to make time, right?\n\nWe lived in different cities and when she called me to end I thought about driving over (2 or 3 hours drive) and telling her how I felt about her and that I didn't want her to end it.\n\nWould this have made any difference or would I have had to accepted it was over regardless?", "summary": "Long distance girlfriend broke it off, would showing up and telling her how I felt about her change anything on the day?"}
{"id": "t3_46y8vn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) just found out that my ex (23F) has been going out with a guy for 2 months, and was dating him before then. We broke up 4 months ago after 3.5 years. I feel angry, but should I feel betrayed too?", "post": "I'm moving away in a weeks time and she just came over and dropped that on me. I had my suspicions that something was going on, but to find out that she was going out with someone else so soon has reopened all of the wounds.\n\nI believe that she went on a date with him the night that she ended it with me, and I'm hurt that she has brought it up now that I'm about to move to a different part of the country. I have no plans to ever get back together again, but I don't know whether I should consider letting this go.", "summary": "I think that my ex dumped me and went straight to a date with someone else, and I don't know how to deal with this new knowledge."}
{"id": "t3_4ebwte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my friends[26 M] girlfriend [mid20?? F] is jealous of me? How do I calm her down", "post": "Hi, my friend joey recently started seeing fiona [3 months]. We went on a group date last night. I brought my boyfriend and the four of us met to do a game called breakout. The premise is that you are locked in a room for an hour and have to solve puzzles to get out in time. We didn't win but we all had a lot of fun and talked outside after words. At no point did I get close to joey or focus on him (I was all about the puzzles!!) He says when they went back home after words she left and wouldn't talk to him. When she came back he says she yelled at him til 5 am about how he wanted to screw me and why he preferred me. Joey and I do have a sexual past but no romantic one and it ended before they even knew each other. She has tried to propose a threesome between us before but I turned them down as I am very devoted to my boyfriend.How can I calm her nerves? should I ask her to do something one on one with me?\n\nIm also concerned about him in general. He says its not uncommon for her to get upset and withhold her affections. She got upset with him for not being as good in bed as her ex and also asked him to have a threesome with them, which made joey very uncomfortable. I don't know if its none of my business or if hes only telling me the bad but It just makes me worry about him. I'e been in an emotionally abusive relationship before and its sad the similarity I see.\n\nI don't know if I should just avoid her or try to talk to her. I feel like we could all be friends if we just trusted each other.", "summary": "friends gf became jealous  me and got mad at him."}
{"id": "t3_18aby6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] I've been with my boyfriend [19/m] for 6 months now, but...", "post": "I'm starting to think about the possibility of pursuing a lesbian relationship. I love my boyfriend. He's one of my best friends in the universe and has been since before we were going out. The sex is pretty good too, but in the last week or so I've had some really homosexual thoughts and even a dream. Honestly, before we were going out, I identified as a lesbian, but I've never done anything with a woman. I guess I'm just hoping these feelings go away because I love my boyfriend so much. I don't know what sort of advice I can even ask for from this, but if you've got any, I'd appreciate it.", "summary": "unwanted lesbian thoughts..."}
{"id": "t3_2uw97p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by insulting religion", "post": "So this happened a couple of hours ago. \n\nIn my english class we discussed the topic of Science vs Religion. Usually I don't participate in discussions because of the fear that i will say something stupid, but this girl was talking about how religion is more important and i just told her how \"I am alive because of science and not because of a magic guy in the sky spraying magic glitter\" the teacher quickly stopped the conversation but i felt horrible afterwards i am pretty sure half of my english class hates me and even though I apologized to the girl I wont stop thinking about how much of an asshole i was for the rest of the day and maybe even tomorrow making today a really shitty day", "summary": "Dont discuss religion with people you barely know"}
{"id": "t3_2onkgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this girl (20f) just messing with my (20m) head ?", "post": "So this girl Ive been hanging out with is beautiful, but shes so wierd, we were drinking one day and we ended up hooking up and I ate her out, I tried to have sex but she didn't let me (we were outside when all this happened) and then we hooked up again the day after that , but then she told me that it was over with us messing\n\nWe went back to chilling and then saturday night I was giving her a massage in my car and then in the moment I went under her shirt and started rubbing her back, I went lower and then start moving my hands towards her breasts and then grabbed them and she let me, I started gently feeling them and she started moaning lightly and then I was slowly moving my hand up her leg and she just grabs my hand and says \"just put it there already\" and I start rubbing her pussy through her sweats, she starts moaning in my ear and almost kisses me, I tried to go further but she stopped it and then I took her home\n\nWe hang out a lot, and get along REALLY well but there's always these wierd moments at times because it gets quiet and we just look at eachother and I dont know to make a move or not , we were smoking in my car last night and I tried to give her a massage, she said no, I tried to feel her leg and she said not to, whats this girls deal ? Should I just stop trying ? She lets me feel her everywhere one day and wont let me touch her at all the next, any girls out there got any advice on what to do ? I never tried to kiss her, I always just went for her legs or ass or breasts, because I dont know if she would turn down the kiss, im just completely confused with her.", "summary": "Girl ive hooked up with and hang with a lot lets me do things to her one day and doesnt let me touch her the next, its confusing as hell"}
{"id": "t3_165ss0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] Why does the thought of this guy (24/m) make me nauseous?", "post": "-I [21/f] used to work with this guy (24/m - let's call him Guy) at an on-campus job in college. I always enjoyed working with Guy, but never considered him as datable because I had a boyfriend up until a little over a year ago. \n\n-Guy graduated a couple years ago; I am a senior in college. I'd see Guy here and there at parties after he graduated, but we had never hung out one-on-one until...\n\n-A coworker and I were reminiscing about the good times with Guy, so I texted him to see how he was doing. Guy invited me out to drinks the next week. I figured it was just gonna be catching up, but it ended up being very date-like. I had an awesome time.\n\n-Guy asked me to lunch this past Saturday. Texting him beforehand made me feel physically nauseous to the point that I almost cancelled the date. But I didn't. I went and had an awesome time. Again.\n\n-He has implied future dates.\n\n-Multiple people have told me that Guy has had a thing for me for a while.\n\n-We haven't done anything physical, with the exception of hugging. I don't find him physically stunning, but I don't think it's a deal breaker. \n\n-Guy makes me laugh, and I feel we connect on a lot of things. These past couple times we've hung out, I've even felt somewhat romantically about Guy. I genuinely want to hang out with him more. \n\nBUT HERE'S THE THING:\nI don't like texting this guy or even thinking about him outside of when we hang out because it makes me feel nauseous. My stomach is churning as I type this out. What is wrong with me?", "summary": "I've REALLY enjoyed the few dates I've had with this guy, but any thought of him I have when he's not around makes me feel physically nauseous."}
{"id": "t3_2fnrrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend, (28F) single mom, is getting stressed because she has too little alone time, but she has a hard time accepting help when I (28M) offer to watch her kids etc to give her that time. What can I do/say?", "post": "We have been dating for two and a half months, but we were friends in high school. We are both divorced, but her kids' dad takes them maybe one day a week. By their bedtime she's too tired to stay up for time for herself. I have more free time because I only have my kids for half the time. \n\nWhat can I say to her to help her get over the mentality she has to take care of all her problems alone? I'm willing to invest whatever it takes because we get along so well. Ask me any info that I may have left out.", "summary": "GF doesn't have enough alone time but as a single mom, has a hard time accepting help to give it to her."}
{"id": "t3_33ebpv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering the phone", "post": "So, had a normal Monday morning going. Got up, showered, shaved, walked the dogs, threw some lunch together and drove into the office. I checked in with my team and landed back at my desk at around 8AM. The phone rang and I answered it. \n\nThis is where I fucked up. The woman on the other end of the line proceeded to tell me that my wife (44/F) of 20 years has been having coffee with her husband (45/M) for over a year. While they have not had sex, they would get together on a regular basis to complain about the significant others and have 'conversations'. There may have been a kiss, and per the woman on the phone, they met on the Craig's List personals under missed connections.\n\nI asked my wife about this and she staunchly denied it. He was a recruiter that she met while looking for work and they would meet weekly to talk over coffee and talk about job hunting. She did admit that he would switch to rants pretty frequently about his home situation. \n\nI asked about the guy and what he did. How they met and how long this had been going on. I was Ok with this until I fucked up a second time by checking her Google search history.\n\nI was blown away. Between November of last year through December she had been pricing condo's close to where he lived. Looked up articles on leaving your husband, searching 'I love XXX XXX' name several times with different spellings and settings. The one that broke my back was the various articles on how to keep him interested and what to get your 'affair' for Christmas. \n\nShe now admits that there was something going on but that they only met for coffee and never had any type of sexual relationship. She claims that she broke it off in December but ended up meeting him a couple of times to talk about her promotion. \n\nAt this point, I have very mixed feelings. If they did in fact not have a physical relationship and she was having some type of mid-life crisis, then I think I can see my way through this. If she did have any kind of physical relationship with him, then that will be too much for me and this marriage is over.", "summary": "Wife had an emotional affair over the past year and the guys wife called me about it."}
{"id": "t3_3v0k1n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a \"thumbs up\" to a tragedy", "post": "So as is usually the case on here this didnt happen today, it was over the holiday weekend. I guess you could say the fu began when a friend of mine and myself decided that day drinking after a night on the town would be a good idea. We were almost immediately just as inebriated and belligerent as we had been the night before, but we werent hungover anymore so as far as we were concerned this was a great idea. While we were sitting near the beach drinking mimosas, another friend of ours we havent seen since school texted us, which we got very excited about. Naturally, being day drunk we didnt really read what he had said in the message. Instead I promptly responded to his text with a picture of me grinning like an idiot doing the \"thumbs up\" sign.. It wasnt until late that evening when I finally came back to earth that I realized what exactly my friend had been messaging us about, and how horribly inappropriate that thumbs up really was. Turns out a mutual friend of ours had recently been off work for a few weeks to deal with the unexpected death of his father. Upon returning home to spend thanksgiving with his mother, he found her dead on the floor...I havent talked to either friend since...\n\nPhoto of texts and FU picture", "summary": "gave a grin and a thumbs up to a friends worst month ever."}
{"id": "t3_1ok0zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 26] went to my friend's [M 29] wedding and left early over a personal issue. Now his wife [F 25-ish] says I'm a liar. Wat do?", "post": "Well, there's obviously a bit of a story here, so let's make it easy. My best friend, let's call him Bill, got married to the love of his life, let's call her Anna. Bill asked me to be one of the groomsmen, and obviously I accepted, went to the rehearsal, did my best not to let him down, but it turns out I did anyways. One of Anna's bridesmaids, let's call her Sam, decided she took a shine to one of the other groomsmen. But, she decided to come visit me two days before the wedding, at night, at my place, which is about an hour from where everyone else lives. Sam asked me to keep it secret, so I did, didn't ask why. Flash forward two days to the wedding, I find out now that, yes, Sam likes the other guy, and isn't looking for a relationship (which I was and still am), but as far as I knew, she'd shown that she liked me. So I made a pretty believable excuse about how I was tired (I'd been driving back and forth about an hour each way pretty steadily for the past three days) and left at the reception. Yes, I know it was horribly wrong, but I was a bit upset, and didn't want to cause a scene or anything. Flash forward to today, Anna accuses me of lying, so I tell her the truth and apologize. Then comes the fun part: I tell Anna about Sam's visit and all hell breaks loose. Now I'm the bad guy because Sam swears up and down that she doesn't even know where I live, and Anna, for some reason, trusts her more than me, even though I've been friends with Bill for over a decade, and until now, we'd all have taken bullets for each other. I'm very hurt and confused on why Sam would lie about visiting me, why Anna believes her more, and how this is going to affect my friendship with Bill.", "summary": "One woman is breaking up over a decade of friendship for me and I don't get why she'd do such a thing, or how to fix it. Tried logic and reason, and nothing worked. Wat do? "}
{"id": "t3_1avay4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] Have Made It Very Clear With A Girl [25F] That I'm Not Looking For Anything Serious...", "post": "So I [28M] have been hooking up with this girl[25F] I've know for a few months now, and have made it very clear from the beginning that I am not looking for anything serious at all and not looking to date exclusively right now.  Strictly a friends with benefits.\n\nWhen we first started hooking up, she was closely integrated with my group of friends, and when I learned she might have feelings, I stopped and told her that I wasn't looking for anything serious.  She said she's totally cool with that and is fine hooking up, which we did.\n\nThe problem is, I'm not so sure she is totally cool with that regardless of what she says.  Since she's part of my group of friends, we often all go out together, and I can see she gets a bit jealous if I'm looking at another girl, and I can't bring myself to move forward with any girl.  \n\nI'm not really sure what to do, on one hand I feel like she's an adult and I've done my part of making my intentions clear from the start... on the other I don't want her to get more attached.  I feel like I'm playing with fire, any advice?", "summary": "Hooking up with girl, I think she wants more even though I've been clear about not from the beginning.  Don't know how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_2qt8vw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgoing basic grooming habits for the past 3 days", "post": "My BF left for montreal on Friday and returned last night approximately around 11 or so pretty wasted. \n\nFrom Friday afternoon until this morning, i've decided to be a disgusting piece of shit basically and not shower, not worry about changing my panties and basically turn into the slob i always wanted to be. \n\nAnyways. BF comes home late, gets under covers and wakes me up by poking me with his boner. I sleepily push him back and make some excuse, but again, i was asleep and he was drunk. Welp, he decides he's gonna get me in the mood by muff diving and lo' and behold, he starts heading south.  I think he realized the mistake he made around the area right under my belly button when i heard a slight gag. And then, well and then, slight gag turned into full gagging and a swift run to the bathroom. \n\nWorst part is there was no sexy time afterwards :(.", "summary": "my vagina musk caused my drunk bf to gag and run to the bathroom and puke."}
{"id": "t3_2v0okk", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "(Question) Making a meal for a picky eater", "post": "For valentine's I plan on making a homemade meal for my girlfriend(18) yet the problem is that she has a very fine selection of what she eats. In the time we have been together, almost two years, she has only ever eaten chicken(fried and boneless, pretty much chicken tenders), peanut butter, french fries(not the steak fries) plain bread and cheese and plain butter noodles. She also hates sauces aling with beef and pork, though I don't think shes ever had either. Any type of sauce she will not eat as well. \n\n-side note- she did try pesto sauce once and didn't hate it. Victory!\n\nUsually when we go out she'll order off the kids menu because she knows the adult portions have things added that she would not like. \n\nI on the other, I hand love savory food. I love sauces and spice and some heat in my food. I love seafood and meats. Cheeses and good espresso. I am under 21 so no wine yet. Yet I am also a southerner so fried chicken, cornbread, sweet tea and collards run through my veins. \n\nAny advice for a meal that would suit her needs and mine? I would go out to eat but I feel like that is not as fun as making something special. \n\nWhat is a good meal that would be fresh and tasty for both of us?", "summary": "My girlfriend typically orders off the kids menu when we eat out and I want to make something special that is not from a box."}
{"id": "t3_majst", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "All my girlfriend ever thinks about is having sex", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for around 2 months now.  We kind of rushed into things at first because we have so much in common and both really enjoy being with each other.  I have had several relationships, but she has somehow been able to make it through all of highschool and her first year of college without ever having even dated anyone (except for some creep who she was with for a few days years ago).  Consequently, she is attracted to me to the point of obsession (or so it would seem).  No matter what we try to do (hiking, watching movies, studying, etc), she always tries to turn it into something more.  I was pretty ok with this up until two or three weeks ago (though we never have had sex with each other - nor she with anyone for that matter) but it got to the point to where I felt almost used - the only thing I enjoyed was that I was making her happy.  We tried talking about it a few times, but only just reached some kind of agreement tonight.  She suggested that she could stop expressing any intense emotion for me physically and in return I would try and make it work.  I thought this sounded unfair to her, but it looks like she though it was either that or the end of the relationship - which I suppose it probably is/was.  I am still uncomfortable about this deal for two reasons.  First, I still don't think it seems fair or 'right'.  Second, the last time I talked to her about this she started drinking regularly without telling me despite the fact that the first thing I ever impressed upon her was that, in every relationship, talking and being open is vital.  Advice?", "summary": "My girlfriend recently suggested that we could resolve our relationship issues (predominantly that I had stopped being as enthusiastic about being intimate and she quite the opposite - I prefer to spending time with her doing other things) by plugging up any intense cravings on her part in return for my willingness to stay with her."}
{"id": "t3_f6r3z", "subreddit": "self", "title": "HAE ever gotten scar removal surgery?", "post": "To put it blankly, I started self-injury when I was very young. It was a large unhealthy coping mechanism that I resorted to out of despair and confusion due to my major depression, ptsd and anxiety. There's no reason to get into the gorey details. The point being - I have finally reached a point in my life where it is no longer what I use to deal with the hardships and I am learning to heal in a healthier way.\n\nI have many scars, but the ones on my arms are the only ones that I feel largely hinder my ability to socialize, search for a new job, and in general just move on with my life. \n\nIf anyone has ever gotten scar removal surgery or some other scar treatment I would love to hear your experience and whatever knowledge you have about the procedure you've gotten. Whether You got it due to self-injury, an unfortunate accident, cosmetic reasons - any reason. What I've been able to find online talks about different lasers, different results... but it all seems very vague and not very informative about the experience itself.", "summary": "I am looking into scar removal surgery/treatment for my self-injury scars. I would love to here anyone's experiencce/personal knowledge about the surgery/procedure, not just if you've gotten it for self-injury but for any personal reason. "}
{"id": "t3_1u8afg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (21 F) talk to (23 M) about where our relationship stands after 6 months?", "post": "Okay, so over the summer I met this guy and we hit it off pretty well, went on a few dates, hung out and what not. But about 6 weeks later he got deployed for 4 months. We landed on \"if we want to see each other when we get back cool, if not that's cool too\".\n\nWhile he was gone we kept in contact through letters and Facebook, both of us saying we hoped we could still hangout when he got back. It was while he was gone that I realized how much I was actually attracted to him. \n\nWell, he got back about 3 weeks ago. I saw him the day he got back and things were fine. He asked me if I was interested in seeing each other exclusively, I said yes. But, he took it back the next day. We again hung out a few days after that and again things were fine. I've been trying to brush off him retracting asking me to be exclusive but I can't quite do it. \n\nCurrently he is on leave and at home. Well, pictures have been posted with him and another girl. Normally, I wouldn't second guess these things because I have pictures of me with guys all the time and they mean nothing. But for some reason I can't quite shake the idea that he is also seeing her. We are still talking through text and, in my mind, things seem fine. Like, he still seems interested in me. \n\nBut here's my question. I know that we are not exclusive so it shouldn't really matter that he could be seeing other girls. But I keep thinking that I'm being played. Should I say something to him to ask where we stand? I don't want to waste his or my time if this isn't going anywhere. Or should I just let it slide and see where things land when he gets back?", "summary": "Met a guy 6 months ago, hit it off really well. Asked me to be exclusive when he returned from deployment but took it back, however we still talk and hangout. Now I think he could be with another girl. Should I ask him where we stand? Or should I let it slide and see what happens when he gets back from leave?"}
{"id": "t3_1r3g9p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20F] not sure if I should introduce my girlfriend to my parents yet.", "post": "We've known each other for maybe a month and a half, have been dating for about a month and just became official a few days ago. Even though she's only been my girlfriend for a few days, it may as well have been for a few weeks (both too shy to make it official). She often sleeps over at my place, we've had sex, and we spend a ton of time together. Things are going very well.\n\nMy parents know about her and are 100% accepting of my sexual orientation and I'm sure they'll love her. They've been very good to other girls that I've introduced them to as well. They ask a lot of questions but I don't think they'll be too intimidating. However, her parents are *not* accepting at all and I'm afraid that that will make her hesitant to meet mine.\n\nI really want to introduce her, but I'm afraid that that's moving too fast/she'll be freaked out.", "summary": "been dating a girl for around a month, just became officially my girlfriend a few days ago, things are great, but I don't know if I should introduce her to my parents yet."}
{"id": "t3_1blz9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M27) fell for my (f)date\u00b4s best (F)riend", "post": "I (M27) was dating this very nice girl (24) for about 2 months. I met her best female friend(24) 2 weeks after i starting going out with her.\nFrom the moment i met her friend we liked each other , and became friends.\n\nNow i can't stop think about her. I had to stop dating her friend because i just didnt want to be around them both in that situation.\nNow i have to decide what to do.\n\nI\u00b4m pretty sure i\u00b4ll get rejected if i go talk to her right now, because i just found out that the girl i was dating has fellings for me  and she is pretty  disappointed with me right now. \n\nI actually think that she will refuse me for the long friendship they have. Of course, maybe she can just dont like me or dont find me atractive enough, but thats not a reason for me to fell scared as i feel.\n\nI guess the question would be, how influent their friendship will be in her considerations towards me, if i go talk to her? Should i Talk to her at all?", "summary": "Fell for my ex-date\u00b4s best friend. they are very close. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ez8eo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting how siphons work", "post": "First things first - I am usually against using herbicides and/or pesticides for home lawncare. Last July, however, I needed to fill some cracks in my driveway. The only problem? Dandelions were growing in the cracks. So, like any honest son of a PEI homeowner, I found an old container of concentrated WeedOut and went to work.\n\nConveniently, the container had a built-in spray nozzle attached to a tube - no need to tilt it and risk spilling it anywhere. If I'm going to use herbicide, might as well minimize the impact, right? So I happily sprayed each and every dandelion I saw in the driveway. Great! There's still half the bottle left for next year! So I put the container on a shelf in the shed, washed my hands, and forgot about it.\n\nToday, I opened the shed and looked at the shelf. The nozzle was sitting on the shelf next to the mostly emptied container - fuckfuckfuck - surrounded by a sticky puddle of half-crystallized weed killer. I figured out that the tube had still been full when I put it away - the container acted as a siphon, emptying itself out. Now I can look forward to cleaning up some carcinogens tomorrow :|. So much for minimizing spill damage.", "summary": "Dandelion thrills, kills, and spills."}
{"id": "t3_4g85ge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20m] in a funk because I was dumped [19f]", "post": "I'm in a bit of a hole. My issues are currently crashing in on me. My body issues, being dumped, and college fuck ups.\n\nMy ex who dumped me abused me. Emotionally and physically. She was an unmedicated bipolar. She would go from either telling me about how good other guys were looking and commenting on how bad I look. Then she would hit me, and actually stabbed me twice. Me like an idiot stayed. We were together for 2 and a half years. It's 2 months removed from being dumped and it still hurts. The breakup came from no fault of my own. I feel dumb. I'm still not over her, I cry daily and still hurt.\n\nI have no clue what I want out of life. I gave up a scholarship for music because my ex didn't want me to go. Like a fucking idiot. Now I'm stuck in a path I hate. My one passion was music and now I can't get back into it, I'm 3 years removed. My motivation and passion is truly gone. I need help reddit, help me get over my breakup and get motivation.", "summary": "Kinda depressed. Dumped by abusive ex. Gave up passion for her. Now I'm stuck in a life I hate that she abandoned me with"}
{"id": "t3_2nhih2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 f] with my bf [24m] 3 months, what's the deal with us never doing anything together other than group activities or family functions? No quality one on one time. Can someone help me understand?", "post": "We've been together three months. Met through friends at a party, got together at another party and from then on we just do sleepovers cos he's so so busy with work. We'll see each other about every other night, have maybe one hour of chit chat or sex but our time together is essentially getting ready for bed.  \n\nThe odd night when we do something other than that, we are hanging with a bunch of his friends, my friends, or his family functions. \n\nI've told him I want one on one quality time, and he says he thinks I'm awesome and isn't happy with the time we spend together but that I get all his time outside of work.  Thing is, he will sometimes go out with friends and party and this will make me pretty sad and jealous cos I feel like he'll make time for them but not for me(even though he typically invites me out to these things and shows me a lot of attention and affection). \n\nHe told me he wants to take it slow cos he was in a very serious 7 year relationship a year ago and was really hurt so wants to go slow. But to me it feels like we're in some weird comfort stage, serious due to all the family functions, and is it not possible to go slow and go on a date or spend real time together every couple of weeks? Or once a month?\n\nHe's such a good guy and I don't wanna ruin it by nagging at this all the time. Can someone help me understand his pov? Or am I just retarded at taking it slow? I'm so scared I'm gonna get hurt.", "summary": "we never go on dates cos he's too busy working but he'll always make time for friends or family. He says its cos he wants to take it slow but I have a quiet mental freak out over what this means all the time and get sad and jealous."}
{"id": "t3_jr03v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should my brother do with his life?", "post": "My 23-year-old brother currently lives at home with our parents.  He's a smart guy; we love him, but he doesn't seem to be going anywhere right now.  He's dependent on my parents for most everything right now.\n\nHe had a job working on the floor at an Under Armour shop in a mall.  The staff there liked him and he did a great job -- he's very charismatic and a natural salesman.  It wasn't uncommon for him to get customers to buy extra.\n\nHowever, he dropped that job to work as a mover.  After a few weeks, they no longer needed him because the work had died down.\n\nSince then, he's decided to simply give up on looking for jobs.  He claims that anything he has tried thus far has failed.\n\nHe was taking classes at community college, but he stopped doing that as well.  He was taking art classes.\n\nNow he just sits at home watching TV, surfing the internet, or sleeping.\n\nHe doesn't respect our parents; he's been told to not throw parties at the house when they leave town, because things have been broken or damaged before.  He still does.  They encourage him to go out and try to find a job -- \"get some positive cashflow,\" as our mother says, but he makes it a point to defy anyone in authority (not necessarily a bad thing on its own, but like I said, he makes a point of it).\n\nHe's smart, confident, persuasive, creative, and he's a hard worker.  He's good at working with his hands.  He has a natural understanding of how the physical world works.  When he puts his mind to something, nothing can stop him from doing it and he does it well.  A prime example of this is when he taught himself to play guitar.\n\nSo Reddit, what kind of options do you think he has?  I'm trying to find something that will interest him enough to drive him.", "summary": "My brother's kind of a deadbeat right now.  Any ideas to help him out?"}
{"id": "t3_1c81f0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] Have problems talking to my girlfriend[22F] on the phone", "post": "Me[20M] and my girlfriend[22F] have been together for 5 years now(started dating in High School). For some reason, I can't seem to hold a decent phone conversation with her. We are fine if we are talking in person, but on the phone I can't seem to think of anything to say. This problem really frustrates her because she feels like I am not listening to her or paying attention. I have tried multiple things to try and fix this(making sure I have no distractons, asking her questions about stuff she is talking about) but none of it seems to work. Our conversations on the phone have become mundane i.e. how was your day? Did you do anything interesting? etc... Please Reddit, how can I fix this issue.", "summary": "I have issues talking to my girlfriend on the phone and need help to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_whsk0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the biggest difference in someone's personality you noticed after you really got to know who they were?", "post": "I had a friend who I thought was pretty chill. He seemed like a nice guy and we talked a lot. Through him, I met a few other people. After getting to know his friends and him himself, I started noticing some things.\n\nHe was an asshole. Just straight up. My friends told me about how he was just an all around douchebag. After hearing it from someone else, I started to notice that they were right about him. Over time, I started speaking out against him being an ass towards people. Eventually, he started directing most of his asshole-ness towards me. I hate that cunt now.", "summary": "Became friends with a guy who turned out to be an asshole who later did the same things to me."}
{"id": "t3_4ebm1h", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "First time dad looking for advice on car seats and stroller brands/models etc..", "post": "Hello,\nMy fiance and I are expecting our first child and are in process of researching car seats and strollers. Over the weekend we registered at a store for the gift registry, but while we were there, we felt overwhelmed on picking the right stroller and car seat. I feel they are expensive and no one will buy it for us but my fiance still wants to include it just in case someone does... it will definitely save us some serious $$!  Just in case that we have to buy them ourselves,  we are starting our research and I would like any advice on where to start. Should we only look into dedicated car seats? Or travel systems with both stroller and car seat? Are there any brand we should avoid all together? Do our vehicle types matter? She has a Toyota Yaris, and I plan on purchasing a new mid-sized SUV soon.", "summary": "What is your favorite brand/type/model of car seats and strollers?What do you recommend?"}
{"id": "t3_1j7d3y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by jerking off with Vaporub.", "post": "So it happened to be extremely late at night/very early in the morning, and my whole family was asleep. Being a hormonal driven teenager, I couldn't let this opportunity to relieve myself of some built up stress pass. I wasn't looking for any old normal session though...oh noooo. For some reason, I felt the need to spice up my self-pleasuring lifestyle. I was just recovering from some congestion, so I had a small jar of Vicks Vaporub on my bedside table. I swear I could hear the voice of Jesus himself, wooing me from inside that jar. I found a nice...video...online, which got me all worked up. It was time. I scooped up a generous amount of my experimental lubricant and lathered it all over my dick. At first, I felt nothing, but as time went on, it started to burn slightly. I must admit, it felt great at that point, but I was still looking for a little bit more, so I walked up to my fan, and just held my dick in front of it for a few seconds. Bad idea. For some reason, Vaporub Jesus did not like the gusts of air blowing on him, so he sent my one-eyed trouser snake to the burning depths of hell. I had never felt such an amount of pain in my whole life, so much that I could barely function (I'm uncut, ok?) I quickly grabbed a sock and tried to get it off, and eventually I did, but my cock was now a burning red strobe light, in the dead of night.", "summary": "Used Vaporub to masturbate...turned out to be the worst decision of my life."}
{"id": "t3_1btg0c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most fucked up thing you've seen to this day?", "post": "Most fucked up thing I've seen:\nOne day one of my friends and I were chilling with his sister when we decided to practice shooting some arrows.  We would all take turns and each time we'd get a little better.  Soon after my friend got the bright idea to hide behind the target (bale of hay with a paper bulls eye attached) and try to scare his sister. \n\nAs she shoots he jumps out from the side and she misses completely and it bounces off and the practice arrow went into his eye.  I passed out as it was the most disgusting this I've ever seen.  He then went to the emergency room got it taken out and now he is blind in that eye.", "summary": "Friend's sister shot him in the eye with an arrow, he is only blind in that eye."}
{"id": "t3_3cncdi", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[HELP] Dog continues to lick one spot, usually immediately after left alone.", "post": "Hello, I need some help. My dog has a licking problem, one where she will continue to lick one particular spot. I've had her for a year and during this time, there is always one spot at a time she keeps licking, 4 in total so far, with one being here for months now on her front leg, fur is gone and it was infected before. She keeps licking until it bleeds, and when I find out I'll put ointment on it. I've been to the vet before because she seems to have developed an allergy to something randomly (started getting scaly skin and dandruff), but it hasn't been determined what it is yet (not food) and the licking issue, while brought up, wasn't really directly addressed. This is getting very stressful though, as my dad is also pressuring me to give her up to tend to my own emotional needs I'm trying to attend. I've tried to pinpoint if it may be something such as bordem, but I'm attending college, though not in school right now as it's summer and I currently don't have a job so I literally have spent months just her and me. I know it's not her \"fault\" but she keeps breaking my trust. If she's alone for literally 5 minutes, whether it's me showering or her going to her kennel after a walk and I'm in the living room she goes at it and then is afraid to see me because she knows how disappointed I get. I can tell whenever she does it everytime. I've tried wrapping it in every which way but she has torn everything off right after I leave her alone, and while I don't have an official E-collar, she has scratched off the homemade one as well silently, when she was sitting behind me. I really need help to address this and any advice would be greatly appreciated as I'm leaving her for a week to go to a family reunion many states away soon. Thank you.", "summary": "Dog keeps licking one place since I've got her and when I leave her alone for 5 minutes, she tears off all wraps, and I have to leave her at a dog-sitter soon for a week."}
{"id": "t3_3raf3y", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "High-rise construction seriously affecting daily life - should we ask our landlords for a rent reduction?", "post": "We live on the 13th floor of a high rise, in a condo that we rent.  We've lived here 3 years and love it, it's a really nice place in a great area, close to lots of nature.  This past year they've been working on the facade and balconies to bring them up to code.  The noise is constant, and after we told our landlords about it they decided not to raise our rent for the next year (as they were going to).  We really like our landlords, they've extremely fair and good people.\n\nThe construction started on our floor a few months ago.  Currently, our windows are boarded up (no sunlight), we have no access to our balconies or fresh air, and the noise is pretty unbearable before 5pm, and some saturdays.  Today things got much worse, as they have to replace a window in our living room, so we had to move all our furniture so that they could construct a plywood \"room\" for them to access half of our LR.  I think this \"room\" should only last a few weeks, but construction on our floor will go until March, at least.\n\nWe pay a lot to live here, and while I'm thankful that our landlords didn't raise the rent, I am growing increasingly more irritated that we pay so much to live in such a headache.  The facade of our building has no bearing on us, and will not increase our quality of life once it is finished, but I imagine it will for our landlords (the owners of our unit).\n\nI do not want to financially hurt our landlords, because this is obviously not their fault, but man - I would NEVER have moved in had I know that this would be our life in a few years.  Should I ask for a rent reduction?  If so, how should I put it?", "summary": "Construction around our apt is a nightmare.  We want to ask for a reduction in rent but don't want to hurt our landlords financially.  What do we do?*"}
{"id": "t3_1ej0w8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29f] with an unemployed [33m] husband who's lost his sex drive", "post": "(throwaway account)\n\nMy husband lost his job a few months ago. It's been stressful on both of us. We're doing OK for the most part. \nBut with one (pretty big) issue. \n\nHe has completely lost his sex drive. In over three months, we've had sex 3 times. And (sorry, TMI) he didn't finish any of those times. All three times, I've been the one to initiate. Which is rare for us. He used to be all over me every day. \n\nLast night was the third time. And I cried. I couldn't help feeling I'm part of the problem. Is he not attracted to me anymore? He tells me I'm gorgeous all the time, I'm in shape, and he's always been attracted to me before. He talked a bit last night, but I was too upset to talk. It was just a huge hit on my ego. He always stays up later than I do, and I felt like he was avoiding coming to bed with me. Most nights, I fall asleep alone in bed.\n\nHe said he doesn't know what's going on, and that he's had no drive lately. He said he doesn't even masturbate anymore. \nI didn't say anything at the time. I didn't want to cry and make him feel bad. I'm going to talk to him today though. I know (**hope**) it's not about me. And I want him to know that I'm not upset with him. \n\nI just don't understand how someone who was up for sex every night is now just not even remotely interested. Can this job stress really take such a big hit in regards to libido?\n\nWhat can we do? Is there something I can do to help him? Are there any men that have been through something like this before? \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Husband lost his job months ago, and has zero sex drive"}
{"id": "t3_kqq5m", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Loseit, I am about to embark (pics). What tips do you have for me?", "post": "Loseit, I have for you a success story gone awry.\n\nIn my sophomore year of high school, I finally realized I was fat. It had never occurred to me before until I saw myself in a video. I was 180 pounds. I was shocked by how obese I was. I decided to do something about it. I wasn't really sure how to go about it, but started watching what I ate, walking more, took a dance class or two, but didn't get really serious about it until just after high school. a\n\nIt was the year after high school I became something of a gym rat. I got addicted to bike riding and would hit the gym every day without fail, just because of how good it felt. I lost a lot of inches (not much weight, what with building so much muscle from dance, running and biking, but I did go from a size 12-14 to a size 10.\n\nI was steadily making my way down to a size 8 and very happy with my progress and how great I felt.\n\n[Cue the \"gone awry\" part.]\n\nI moved to New York for volunteer work and (long story short) had a nightmarish experience. I gained so much weight that I am now the heaviest I have ever been in my life.\n\nI am at a size 14 and hate everything about that. I am shaking off some PTSD from my experience and I believe in order to be healthy again mentally, I need to lose all the weight I brought back with me.\n\nHelp me, Loseit! None of my clothes fit! What tips do you have for a beginner in her early twenties who went from this confident girl:\n\n  \n  \n \n\nTo this new frightened and unhealthy version:", "summary": "Gained LOTS of weight over a year. What are some tips to keep in mind as I lose it all for the second time?"}
{"id": "t3_14ptri", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, I've been feeling pretty weird recently, like perpetually tired/foggy/hungover-ish. What gives?", "post": "Hey reddit,\n\nSo last few weeks I've been feeling like when you didn't sleep much last night, or you're slightly hungover. That kind of foggyness, muddyness, stuffy head or however you want to describe it. Kind of like when you're slightly sick or coming off a fever.\n\nA slight headache too. I have been sleeping more that usual, sometimes a lot more, but waking up feeling super tired. \n\nLike today I had a final and I slept over 9 hours. I woke up super tired, with a slight headache, and a stuffy feeling head. It was hard to concentrate and even after drinking a monster I felt the same. I later drank another coffee and I was still tired. \n\nI don't think I'm sick because it's been a couple weeks and other than that I feel fine. It's not mono because I already had it when I was a little kid. \n\nWhat could it be? Is it anything to worry about? Am I slowly losing my cognitive powers and am destined to become an omega rather than a beta or whatever I am?\n\nThanks for your time!", "summary": "Getting enough sleep, not sick. Still tired, muddy/stuffy brain, feeling weird. Caffeine little to no effect. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_kows6", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Burma (Myanmar) - 1-2 weeks - help with itinerary!", "post": "I am living in NW Thailand now, near the border with Burma (just north of Mae Sariang). I have some time in October, probably 1 or 2 weeks but possibly 3 maximum, and I'm interested in going to Burma. \n\nFrom what I understand it is necessary to go to Bangkok to get the visa and then fly to Yangon. Then what? The main places I've heard about are Mandalay, Bagan, Inle Lake, Mrauk U, and Ngapali Beach. It seems like Mrauk U and Ngapali Beach might be too far for the duration of this trip, unless I just do those and skip everything else. People seem to say that Mandalay and Bagan are must-sees. Is it too much to try to do Yangon, Mandalay, Bagan, and Inle Lake in 2 weeks? If so, what should I skip? I generally like to spend more time in less places, but not sure how much time is needed in these places and for travel. Should I expect extra road blockages and delays due to the rainy season?\n\nI'm having trouble finding a ton of info about WHY any of these places are so great (besides Bagan) so any info on things to see in each place is appreciated.\n\nAlso, I heard there is some kind of festival for the end of Buddhist Lent in October--Thadingyut Festival of Lights? Does anyone know anything about that (dates, location, what it's like)? I also heard there is a Phaungdaw Oo Pagoda Fest at Inle Lake in October. Anyone been there for that, or know dates?\n\nAnyone been to the Mergui Archipelago in the south? Is it possible to go there without a tour?\n\nSorry this post is broad. I am a US citizen, female, in my twenties, and will probably be travelling solo. I like outdoorsy stuff, temples, markets, food, local culture, etc.\n\nThanks in advance!!", "summary": "Going to Burma for 1-2 weeks in October. Trying to decide where to go, how long to stay in each place, what to do there, and where to skip. Yangon, Mandalay, Bagan, Inle Lake, Mrauk U, Ngapali Beach, Mergui Archipelago. Also wondering about festivals during that time (Thadingyut Festival of Lights, and Phaungdaw Oo Pagoda Festival at Inle Lake)."}
{"id": "t3_23kevq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend(18/f) and I (18/m) are having privacy issues", "post": "So the other night I was hanging out with my girlfriend and we got into a bit of an argument. Basically she started checking my phone messages without my consent and I had to wrestle the phone away from her. Her reasoning is that if I have nothing to hide then I shouldn't mind. This issue, however, is that I suppose I did have something to hide from her. Now my girlfriend is EXTREMELY territorial, which I am ok with, but sometimes it seriously hinders us from getting along well. For instance, she automatically hates basically any female that I have feelings for, not as love interests, but as friends. For instance, she's hit me several times for even greeting other girls in her presence. It doesn't hurt but those acts are still obviously unappreciated. Back to the phone issue though. Basically I had been texting one of my female friends that my girlfriend particularly hates (because said girl has flirted with me in the past). Nothing malicious or sexual was said, but I was still worried that even if she only saw that I had texted the girl that we might have issues.  I told my girlfriend at the time that I wasn't hiding anything, but I later admitted to her over text what had happened. Since then (this was 2 nights ago) we've just been very cold and angry at one another, and quite frankly I hate it. She's mainly mad at me because I lied to her, which I totally understand. But the privacy and territorial issues still remain. I've tried to bring the issues up to talk about, but she insists that I'm just being a childish asshole and refuses to budge, compromise, or even talk. I feel I'm certainly guilty of lying, but otherwise I feel I'm at least partly in the right here. Also I hope I haven't portrayed her in too negative a light here; she's an extremely sweet and caring person when it's just the two of us and we both feel very much in love. Can I get thoughts or opinions here? I can elaborate on anything if you need. This is my first time on this subreddit so I'm not really sure what to expect here.", "summary": "girlfriend starts going through my messages without my consent, I lie to her that I have nothing to hide even though what I am hiding is really nothing bad, she's just very territorial and I was scared of giving us issues because of some girl texting me. Now we're not getting along."}
{"id": "t3_31zxdj", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Not sure if what I want to do is acceptable in a woman's eyes. Need advice.", "post": "I've met this girl at my office building. She works as a barista in my office building and I frequent that coffee place regularly. Over the past few days I've come to talk to her more and in the process getting to know a little about her such as her name, education background, near-future plans, etc.\n\nWe are by no means considered friends yet but she does remember my order and we do greet each other whenever we bump into each other (we park on the same floor of the building).\n\nI plan to ask her out but was also thinking of leaving a note on her car (using a receipt from my earlier purchase at the coffee place). The note is just to say thanks for the awesome coffee and that she'd have a wonderful weekend.\n\nMy dilemma is would it be seen as too much or creepy? She knows that I know which car she drives as we've seen each other in our cars while parking before. That being said, would it still be considered OK to leave a note on her car?", "summary": "Met a girl at a coffee place, talked a bit with her and plan to ask her out. Want to leave a thank you note on her car for the coffee but not sure if it's ok."}
{"id": "t3_18xrc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] handle my sister [17F] and confrontations with family during the last days of my family visit?", "post": "My mother had me when she was a teenager. I'm the first to go to college in my family. I have my own place states away from them and a good relationship, so I'd say I'm doing pretty well. \n\nMy mom got remarried and had my sister. It's obvious that they've always favored her. I had a hard time fitting in with my new dad's super conservative Catholic family, since I'm technically the bastard child of some other man. I was around the age of seven when they got married. My family is visiting me this week, since I try to see them once a year. I've already had enough of her snarky teenage attitude and my mother's blatant favoritism. My dad kind of checks out and ignores things for the most part, so I don't mind him so much. However, if I ever get into a fight with my mom, he always sides with her (understandable), but he does it in a way where he doesn't care to have a clue as to what the fight is even about and acts authoritative (not cool).", "summary": "My sister is the favorite child and I don't know how to deal with her and my mom's snark, help?"}
{"id": "t3_roz1i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure what to do, Gave her a second chance and it doesn't feel the same as it did.", "post": "I am 18 M and she is 19 F. We originally met in high school just before senior year and really hit it off. We both we really into each other and senior year was just a blast. We planned to go to the same college but it ends up she was just lying. I eventually found out that she had just been  accepted to another university and would be attending there. Over the summer before college I was really worried and concerned about this and she shrugged it off. \n\nWhen college started we each had our own work cut out for us. But she began to become so emerged within her new group of friends. This caused problems as she would not even come to visit me anymore, it had to be me coming up to see her. She just did not want to be away. She also began to nudge ideas of taking a break and seeing other people. All of this added to the stress of college and i ended it. She cried and said to just hold on and to not give up and she will try every day to come back to me. I found out a week later that she was already with another guy and having sex with him. So i immediately called her out and stopped talking to her.\n\nAfter a while she began to talk to me again and i at first resisted but then relented. I gave her the opportunity to see me and say what she had to say. This continued on and i really did love her so much, so we got back together. Things were great at first...but now im just not happy anymore. Everything that's happened just makes me unhappy. The way we ended things, and she also switched to my university just to be with me. This caused her to not be with her friends so she is totally dependent on me which is annoying. And all my friends dislike her a lot because of what she has done. I just dont feel how i used to and i am not happy...and i do not know what to do\nThis is my first submission like this and i hope i did alright. \nThanks.", "summary": "Loved girl with all my heart. Went to seperate colleges. She changed and i broke up with her. Found out she banged another guy after a week. She offered to switch my university to be together. I accepted. And now, i dont feel the same. I'm unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_2is1y6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [18 F], how long after a breakup before it isn't considered a rebound?", "post": "Last year I dated this girl [now 19F] who I met at college. We dated for a while then I broke up with her to date one of my exes who I still had feelings for. About a month later I came back and she accepted me.\n\nApparently in that time she dated one of our mutual friends(my roommate at the time). Now the girl from college, my old roommate, one of our other friends, and I share a quad at college.\n\nON MOVE IN DAY she mentioned that she realized over the summer that she still had feelings for him, but it was different than the feelings she had for me. As she described it, I understand her better physically while he understands her more mentally and emotionally. The result was them getting together even though they knew all our friends and families won't approve, therefore they have to keep it a secret (only me and her lifelong friend from back home know about it).\n\nAfter a couple weeks of me being depressed, she suggests that I try to find someone new. So I picked one of my friends from high school.  We've been close friends for the past couple of years. Like, close enough that we'll talk about relationships, love, sex, etc, and she always knew I had feelings for her, but while we were in high school together, she was in relationships whenever I would bring it up.\n\nI know she likes me (not sure the extent though...) and I know she's single. So I started texting her more often and eventually popped the question. She basically said she thinks it's too soon for me and that she feels like I'm using her as a rebound... However, she did say that if I wait a while there's a chance.\n\nSo Reddit, what do?", "summary": "How long should I wait to date someone else after a breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_3ccbom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help dealing with my girlfriend's allergy to being on time [23F/27F]", "post": "We're American, she's of Bolivian-American heritage, and her cultural tardiness kills me. This is no regularly-scheduled 30 minute delay, this woman (I love her but also IF SHE HAD TO HAVE ONE ANNOYING FLAW WHY DID IT HAVE TO BE THIS ONE) has shown up to dates 3, 4 hours late *with regular text reminders to start getting ready*. I know that the punchline to dating incurably late people is either \"put up with it or leave, because it will never change\". I am not planning on leaving, and I would like tips for putting up with it. I have already tried calmly communicating how disrespectful it is to be four hours late, I have tried always anticipating that she will be 2 hours late, I have tried pointing out to her that \"just\" going to the gym and doing laundry will take ~6 hours for her, I have tried not sugar-coating things by being abundantly clear in the fact that this isn't a deal breaker (and I will never put the future of our relationship on the line as a threat), but it's damn close. I always bring something to do to occupy the dead time.\n\nAlso relevant: this relationship is longish distance (3 hour drive apart).  Rescheduling dates is not an option.\n\nHave any of you productively dealt with this? Do you have any creative solutions, either to manage my own disappointments or to constructively communicate with her?", "summary": "Need insight from people who have dealt with this on how to be less upset with a girlfriend who is always hours late"}
{"id": "t3_heaj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I let my GF know I'm coming to visit from halfway around the world?", "post": "(Throwaway account)\n\nI'm in a relationship with a girl from Japan. We met when we were both studying abroad in the US. We've been together for one and a half year and half of the time has been in a long distance relationship(I live in Norway). However we're doing awesome and are really happy together. The thing is though: she was suppose to come visit me in Norway in the summer, but because of some understandable circumstances she most likely will not be able to after all. \n\nToday I found out that I won't have nothing to do for like 3 weeks in June, so I've found out that I will go visit her instead. I thought it would be fun to surprise her. The first time I brought her home to meet my family(when we came from the US) I told them(my family) to meet me on Skype and then we just showed up at the doorstep, it was awesome. She however was a little nervous about the whole thing, but it went quickly over as soon as she met them, and it made a fun story today.\n\nShe did however tell me not to do that to her in Japan, but I'm not sure if she was joking or not(and thats why I need advice). We're both in our twenties, we talk almost every day and joke and laugh a lot. Its been too long since we've met though, last time was in december when I met her family(which were also awesome). So should I let her know that I'm coming? How would you react if your BF/GF did this to you?", "summary": "Need advice to decide if I should let my GF in Japan know that I'm coming on a surprise visit from Norway."}
{"id": "t3_zjwhq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girlfriend was forced into a something she didn't want to by another man what should I do?", "post": "My girlfriend attended a house party last night at her college (I am at another collage) and she had been drinking and was forced into giving another man a handjob. I am not upset with her because I understand that situation was out of her control. I am very hurt though and am unsure what I should do. I want to go beat this guy until he can't feel pain anymore but I know that would just make things worse and I am not sure what I should do. I have been supportive of her and reminded her how much I care about and love her as best as I could, i even canceled plans litteralily last min which caused a lot of confusion as I was a dd for the trip and got tickets on the first bus ride back to see her. but I feel like there is something I should be doing to help her and I willing to do whatever I can to help her.", "summary": "my gf was forced to give another guy a hand job while I have been away and I am not sure what I should do to help her."}
{"id": "t3_a5tp2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Request: Weight loss surgery patient to give feedback on their experiences.  Which procedure did you have?  How did you feel immediately after the surgery?  How do you feel now?  Any regrets?  Feedback?  Advice?", "post": "A couple years back I went through a year-long depression (divorce, job loss, etc) and ballooned to around three hundred sixty pounds.  I'm six feet one inch tall.  I'm also very muscular because I lifted weights and played lots of football growing up. I joined the military when I was seventeen.  Mostly it was just the typical \"beer gut\" guys easily get after age thirty but mine was pretty big and the love handles were completely out of control.\n\nI recently got a(nother) new job and started excercising (some) and started eating less.  I'm now down to **two** hundred fifty-seven pounds but I still need to lose some fat.  I'm in a situation where I can easily obtain approval for the surgery.  So I'm weighing the pros and cons.  I appreciate any input.\n\nFor", "summary": "Read the title, skip the wall of text, thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_2se2wm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 F] Girlfriend having difficulty to communicate with me [21 M] about thing she did when we were just friends.", "post": "Hi guys! I could use some insights/advice here.\n\nSo, we've been dating for six months now, prior to it we were friends for two months or so. When we were only friends she used to talk about anything with me, ask for advice, rant, talk about some problems on her life, etc...\n\nAfter we started dating she don't anymore, we talked about it and she says that there are things she can't talk about with me anymore. Sure somethings she really can't, mostly when she want to vent about the relationship and all that. But she is taking it to the next level, and I quote: \"Gained a boyfriend, lost a friend\", but she \"misses our friendship, it was so good talking to you, you had such amazing advice, even though you never went through the experience\" and wishes she: \"had a time machine so I could get that guy I met, so then I'd have you as a friend and as a boyfriend\".\n\nWhen I say that I'm still that guys, that she can open up with me, and if it is a more delicate subject she just need to approach it in a delicate way, her answer to this is that: if she opens up to me, if we break-up it will only make things harder.\n\nI'm her second serious boyfriend, the first one didn't end well, i believe it is part of the reason.\n\nWill it just take sometime for her to open up to me again?\nAny advice/insight is much appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend finding it hard to keep the same level of friendship now that we are dating."}
{"id": "t3_2t4r69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] just found out my wife [28F] has been chatting with a male friend/ex for years and kept it from me.", "post": "I'm not sure where to begin now. My head is spinning a little. It's past 4 AM, and I cannot sleep. \n\nI went on my wife's computer earlier today to open a shared folder for some videos. \n\nShe had her browser up with facebook open (along with messenger). I didn't mean to, but I saw a name in her friends list with whom she had recently talked to, and I didn't know who he was. So I clicked the conversation.\n\nInitially, I didn't read anything, but scrolled up and saw that there were 7000 messages in the log. At this point I was panicking. We've been together for 7 years, and we've been married a few months. She has never mentioned this person to me, but she has been communicating with him regularly. It had me worried.\n\nI didn't feel good about snooping in her messenger inbox, so I left her computer and made us dinner. We watched some TV while we ate, and I wanted to go to bed early. \n\nAt this point, she was noticing that I was a little distressed, so I told her I was stressed about work. That wasn't directly a lie, but the main reason was that I knew she was hiding this person from me and talking to him regularly. \n\nI couldn't sleep, so I got out of bed. I was determined not to check her inbox, but I couldn't help myself. I opened the conversation log, and scrolled all the way back to the beginning. \n\nAt that point, it became obvious that this was an old ex, who she was seeing while we were first getting together. \n\nThe talk was mostly just regular talk between friends. Occasionally, while scrolling through, I would see messages like \"Fond of you.\" and \"Missed you.\"", "summary": "My wife has kept in touch with an ex the entire time we've been together, and never mentioned him. They seem to mostly be friends, they are communicating a lot, and I'm not sure how to proceed.  I just need some advice here... Am I just being paranoid? Is it OK for a significant other to keep in touch with an ex that much?"}
{"id": "t3_2nx1el", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] found out girl I liked [15 F] likes me but isn't ready for a relationship, what do I do?", "post": "I like this girl (lets call her Q) and it ended up getting around to one of my friends (who is also a close friend of Q) and she figured out that Q also likes me, but isn't ready for a relationship. She also managed to slip that I liked Q. So Q knows that I like her, and she knows that I know she likes me. I'm just a kid and the relationship will probably end up dead in the ground a few months after it starts but what the hell. I know this is barely even something worth asking for advice but I've never been in a situation like this before so any advice will help. This happened about a week or two ago, and I contemplated asking her if she wanted to come over and play video games (She enjoys playing video games, we both own a wii u and smash and stuff) but I don't want to scare her by coming off as super pushy and stuff. She i only in one of my classes but I still talk to her every day. (over text) I'm not sure what I should do and I'm afraid I will just end up never doing anything at all.", "summary": "Found out a girl I like also likes me, we know we like eachother, she isn't ready for a relationship. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_qq2eb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How quick is your reaction time and how accurate are you?", "post": "I feel weird asking this, but here it goes. Whenever something falls down, comes towards me, or moves quickly in my direct line of sight I move to intercept it involuntarily. For example, in the shower if soap leaves my hands I usually kick it into the air to catch it. If a can falls off of a tale I usually reach to grab it (and I usually catch it). If I drop my phone I usually catch it with my foot. My friend just threw a Now 'n Later candy at me and I caught it before it hit me in the man-tit.", "summary": "Either this is common and I'm overly excited or I have super powers. How fast and often do you react to sudden events, and how accurate are you when you do it?"}
{"id": "t3_128glz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] My ex GF [18/f] started talking to me again, and i'm almost thinking about possibly dating her again. Anything I should keep in mind while giving her a second chance?", "post": "Reasons for breaking up with her 2 months ago\n\nShe was willing to receprocate in communication meaning i would text her a two or three page text at a time and she would just text back one or two words and it drove me insane. She did this all the time.\n\nShe would constantly text back guys who she knew liked her and i told her it bugged me. Yet continued to do it.\n\nShe was really immature to be honest, not saying it was terrible but she hadn't really experienced life being under her parents wing all the time. Found that on some levels we couldn't relate and there was no way to fixxing that. \n\nAnyways: She texts me today and says is their any chance of getting back together. And i'm thinking that she was an amazing girl but she just seemed immature to life in my opinion to best sum it up. She texts me today and say \"I have matured in my relationship standards also i have the same standards in a way. But i'm willing to give more because i have grown more in that aspect. \" \n\nNow i want to believe her but i don't want to be let down only to find nothing has changed. Reddit what are somethings to be weary of and not waste her or my time?", "summary": "ex texts me today, i broke up with her for being immature in a relationship, she texts me and says she has grown up and matured in relationships. I dont' want to waste her/my time, what are somethings to be cautious of in trying to see if things will work?"}
{"id": "t3_307nja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] think I want to break up with my girlfriend [19/F] of two years, but don't know if I am justified in doing so.", "post": "Hello Reddit! I am a 20 year old male college student dating a 19 year old female college student. We have been dating for 2 years- since our senior year in highschool. We are both sophomores, we go to the same university, and we live across the street from one another. Our relationship is very stable and healthy. We spend lots of time together, but we don't overdo it. We have few arguments and when we do we work through them together. I honestly don't see an end to our relationship in the near future.\n\nAnd that is the problem.\n\nRecently I have been thinking about breaking it off with her in order to just be myself for awhile and possibly see other people. We are both so young, and the thought of dating her indefinitely scares me to death. \n\nI have also been questioning my feelings for her for quite some time. I really cannot tell if I \"love\" her or not. We say the words to each other but every time I say them I can't help but question if I mean them or not. Shouldn't the feelings be obvious if I say \"I love you?\" I don't feel like I put in much effort to the relationship, either. I feel like I'm just coasting. Obviously I'm there for her when she needs me and I pay her the attention she deserves, but I don't ever feel the urge to go out of my way do something meaningful or romantic.\n\nI almost feel \"numb\" to the whole emotional side of our relationship. I love her as a friend, I consider her one of my best friends, and I have fun hanging out and doing things with her, but I just don't feel emotionally or romantically \"stirred\" by her.\n\nIf there is someone out there who can make me happier than she can, don't I owe it to myself to find that person?\n\n I'm in great need of some unbiased, third party opinions, so any thoughts that you guys have please share them! Thanks for your help!", "summary": "I feel stuck in a relationship where I am unsure of my feelings. I also think I'd like to see other people. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_niln0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "are there any North Koreans who, upon leaving North Korea, are shocked by how much we all thought KJI was a nutjob?", "post": "I'm an American, and like a good portion of my country and others, I was not exactly depressed to hear of the death of Kim Jong Il. From what I knew of the man, he was a horrible, bat-shit crazy dictator on a massive ridiculous power trip. I mean, he kidnapped people, forced people to make him bizarre movies, starved his people to death, thought he was an excellent basketball player... the list goes on.\n\nBut then I see pictures of North Koreans, just everyday citizens, in apparent, genuine distress and heavy grief at the news of his death. I get that shit is crazy over there, and all that.\n\nBut what I want to know is if there are any North Koreans who leave their country, and are totally shocked and possibly distressed over how much the rest of the world hated and feared Kim Jong Il, a.k.a. \"The Great Leader.\" Are they surprised and angry that we all think he was a total nutter? Do they come around and realize he was, in fact, a few fries short of a happy meal?\n\nJust wondering. Help a girl out, reddit.", "summary": "do North Koreans out of North Korea realize how fucking insane Kim Jong Il was?"}
{"id": "t3_35zonb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] for 1.5 years. How much should we consider each other when planning our post-graduation plans?", "post": "So, first of all, I love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me back. I wouldn't be at all surprised if we end up together forever.\n\nBUT at the same time, we're only 20. We're going into our senior year of college. He's been abroad this semester, so we haven't seen each other since January, but that's only made me more committed to the relationship and sure that it's what I want.\n\nI know we could both probably end up working/going to grad school in the same city and be happy after graduation, but at the same time, I feel like I should travel/take the best grad school or job offer I get regardless of where he is (and I think he should do the same), especially while we're young.\n\nBut also, I don't know if I would be happy doing those things without him. I know how difficult long distance is, and he's really important to me, but I also know that we can make it work whatever we decide.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are young and in a committed relationship at the same time as having to make a lot of important future plans and it is hard."}
{"id": "t3_10c0vq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [F/30] and I are on the verge of a divorce [M/30]", "post": "My wife and I have been together since high school. We have been married for four years and together for almost 13. Over the last two years we have become increasingly hostile and distant to each other. We argue about everything, from finances to jobs to responsibilities around the house. She feels as if I am not being ambitious enough with work and that I don't support her. She is a high powered attorney and makes more money than I do. She has also advanced faster in her career than I feel I have in mine. Overall, I just feel like she doesn't appreciate me. \n\nWe're past the point of trying to talk to each other and just don't care about each others feelings anymore. She thinks we should go to marriage counseling but I'm not sure it would help. I've never really subscribed to therapy and I really don't want to pay some stranger just to tell me something I already know. \n\nI guess my question to all the Redditors out there is just whether they're facing anything similar or what actually happened as they went through separation or divorce. We've been together for so long, I'm just afraid we're trying to hold onto something that is no longer there. We were once high school sweethearts but that feels so long ago. I feel like we can't talk to any of our family members or friends because we've always been so close and put up a good front in public. But behind closed doors I feel like our marriage is crumbling. There's also some infertility issues that may be exasperating our troubles. I could go into more detail if necessary but at this point it just feels like another symptom and not the root issue. I just need help. I don't know if we should break up or try to salvage our marriage. And if we're already at this point, is it really worth saving?", "summary": "Wife and I are thinking about calling it quits. Anybody have any stories or advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1c2xt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Over the past year five of my male friends have come forward about a good friend M[22] making inappropriate sexual contact with them. Advice?", "post": "Five friend, all around the ages of 21-22, have come forward at various times to say that our friend, who we'll call Carl, has touched them inappropriately.  They haven't come forward publicly, but there are a few of us who know about all five of them.  Carl doesn't know that we know.  One of the 5 guys, who we'll call Fred, described the even as follows:\n\nWe were all hanging out having a guys night, and were all drinking beer or liquor.  Eventually everyone passed out after drinking heavily.   Fred woke up to Carl trying to take off his belt.  Fred shrugged him off and told him to go away.  He woke up that morning vaguely recalling the incident but he wasn't sure it was a dream or not. \n\nThe rest of the guys have similar stories, including alcohol and a hand down the pants or trying to take a belt off.  \n\nThe most recent person to come forward told a different story, where it was just 3 guys sleeping over playing video games and such.  The friend, Mike, said that none of them were drinking that night and he woke up with Carl's hands down his pants.  He told him to get away and spent an uneasy night awake.  Carl texted him later that day and asked him if he wanted to \"do anything\".  Mike says this incident happened a few years ago.\n\nNow, Carl doesn't identify in gay in any way, and he's had girlfriends before.  He is a man's man, a college football player who loves drinking beer and playing videogames.  But we don't want something like this to happen again and we're not sure what to do, because we value his friendship.\n\nOur main theory is that he is trapped in the closet, because his father is very anti gay and is an intense man. \n\nReddit, we're not sure what to do and we could use some advice.", "summary": "One of my friends has made inappropriate homosexual contact with 5 of my other friends, we're not sure how to handle it "}
{"id": "t3_2w7a22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [16 M] bring up my feelings and ask my friend [16 F] out?", "post": "She's given me some really positive signs, but I'm not sure if she just sees me as a friend. I feel awkward thinking about bringing it up and I'm afraid she might not like me like that. It's hard to get her alone, so that doesn't help. I have her number, but unfortunatley she's grounded so I can't really call her. I also have her home phone fro the school directory, but I feel like it would be creepy to call her on it since I didn't get it from her. One of my friends now likes her, so I want to make a move before he does. I'll see her in person on Saturday, but I don't know if I'll be able to get her alone. I know there cant be an audience, but is that weird to ask her to talk to her in private? Please advise.", "summary": "Best way to ask my friend out and minimize rejection!"}
{"id": "t3_32dwrn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my [23 F] of 1 year, is weight an issue?", "post": "I may come off badly here but I want opinions.\n\nMy girlfriend when I first met here lost lots of weight and to be honest thats what attracted me to her. Not the fact she became good looking but it was more the drive and will to succeed with and the fire in her eyes to achieve it. \n\nThe problem now is that as soon as I asked her out she seems to have got comfortable. She has put on weight (stone and a half) while always talking about how upset it makes her.\n\nShe talks about her diet all the time while failing to do anything, its half hearted all the time. Every time I have food she wants some, every time we go for a meal she wants chocolate after. its frustrating as hell because I know I'm going to get all the moaning of how she feels overweight and then I need to try to say all the right things to get her back to being happy.\n\nI can't force her to stick to her diet nor can I force her to go to the gym. All I want is for her to have her to regain her confidence and to stop feeling down all the time.\n\nI'm sure this is something plenty of people have been through/going through so i'm looking for some options on how to get her to take it more seriously.\n\nI can't physically stop her from eating nor do I want to be controlling and bring it up. I just think she feels she is in a comfortable relationship where she can eat and gain weight, stop looking after herself while keeping me quite by being on diets yet not trying. \n\nI just want it noted that I'm very happy with her and how things are going. However I'm extremely worried about how this will go if we get married or have a kid (baby weight).", "summary": "Girlfriend gained weight by being too comfortable in a relationship, looking for way to help her lose it."}
{"id": "t3_24o2al", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] have been single for the past four years and have never had a first kiss.", "post": "I am ending my freshman year at a University and I have not had any form of physical relationship in a long time. I have many friends but I want to to experience romantic relationships in order to be happier. I am overweight and trying to get it under control. I also am very outgoing on a friendly level but I have no idea how to read signals and when to flirt. I ended my friendship with my former female best friend (that I fell in love with) and am ready to move on.  What are some things that I can do so i can actually be with someone?", "summary": "Need advice on how to attract and date women."}
{"id": "t3_1j7kcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recent break up of 1 week, together for 10 months with ex boyfriend. Just found out there may be chance I am pregnant.", "post": "Recently just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. It was out of the blue and the break up was one sided. It was entirely his decision to end it. Apparently its the same old cliche line \"it's not you its me\". He needs to \"sort his shit out\".\n\nAnd now adding on to be even more cliche things there is a high chance I am pregnant. I took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive. In the mornings the past week I have felt extremely nauseous and have thrown up on multiple occasions and by the afternoon I'm fine. I'm going to make a doctors appointment tomorrow to go get a blood test to see if it is definite or not.\n\nDo I tell him or do I not tell him? He has made it pretty clear that he does not want to be with me but at the same time I know he still cares. I don't have any idea what to do. A large part of me doesn't want to tell him.\n \n\nAny advice please would be appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I just recently broke up, to add to a shitty situation there may be a chance I'm pregnant. I don't know whether to tell him or not. A large part of me wants to not tell him."}
{"id": "t3_3be3tz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a stupid 14 year old trying to get rid of the braiding on my mouse", "post": "Let me start by giving a backstory ; I have been wanting this mouse for weeks,haunting my parents for it over and over again. I finally got my mother to purchase it for me and I was extremely excited. I immediately fired up games when I got home to test the mouse.\n\nAfter two weeks, a problem popped up that seemed to be common for this mouse. This is an image from another redditor who had this same problem to : [pic here](\nSo me,being the dumb child I am,I decided to use a pair of siccors and cut the braiding at that intersection. It seperated the braiding into two parts which I was fine with,but then I decided to go further and remove the braiding entirely instead due to reddit comments suggesting it\n (thanks). I took a penknife and started to cut the braiding but it took such a long time that I just gave up and started slashing like Jack the Ripper which led me to my second fuck up because I cut part of the insulation of the mouse rubber cable underneath the braid. I literally flipped the shit out then decided to use duct tape,which I know is an impractical solution but the color between the tape and cable would be similar,slightly concealing it. Now I'm going to hope that nobody notices the mess that I made and pretend nothing happens. Let's see how long this can last :(", "summary": "Cutting of braiding failed,made a mess of my expensive gaming mouse "}
{"id": "t3_1o55tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M/F] with my break gf [20F] 3 months, we're on a break and I like another girl but still undecided on who to choose.", "post": "Currently, I am in a break with my so.  Let's call her V.  She wanted to be on break because she lost herself in our relationship and she feels vindicated to be young and do whatever(just drugs and partying) she says she doesn't sleep around and I believe her.  A little back story we are dysfunctional.  She has anger issues and puts them on me and we have horrible mis-communication.  We argue almost every week then make up.  During this break I was doing me, and I talked to a girl who I talked to before but never met online.  The new girl let's call her W.  W and I are getting serious and I wanted to break up with V.  I managed to break up with V but she asked me to come over for sex.  I agreed and she tells me she loves me still and reassured me that she never really wanted to break up but to go on break because we saw each other a lot and problems arouse.  Thing is I'm suppose to meet up with W and drive four hours to her and spend time with her.  I'm currently confused on who to really go for.", "summary": "My gf and I went on break from each other didn't really go on break and problems escalated.  I met a new girl and she lives four hours away and still undecided on who to date."}
{"id": "t3_22l799", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have been with my [22 F] girlfriend for nearly 5 years. I now have a major crush on someone else.", "post": "So I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 years (high school sweethearts) and she is one of the nicest people I have ever met. I have always been extremely happy with our relationship because I feel that we are extremely compatible and there hasn't really anything wrong with our relationship. We only fight like once a year and have never broken up before.\n\nI am a personal trainer and recently I gave a fitness assessment and training session to this other girl who is incredible and I feel that we have an amazing amount of chemistry. I'm not sure if I have ever met someone who I've enjoyed talking to this much and I feel guilty that I can't really get her off my mind.\n\nI am a good guy who is just a little confused with how I'm feeling. This is kind of the first crush I've had since I've been with my girlfriend and I don't know what to make of it. I just want to be clear that I would never cheat on anyone and am not contemplating that in the slightest.\n\nWhile my relationship hasn't really ever been rocky, there are some underlying issues. One of the big ones is that we currently live in a big city that I am perfectly content with, but she hates it. We've been contemplating moving to a smaller town somewhere in a different state, but I am not sure if that is something I want. She really doesn't want to stay here and no matter which of us makes the compromise, I feel that the other will regret it.\n\nAbout 8 months ago, I also moved in to her apartment with her and her 2 female roommates, and this led me to feeling a little on & off depressed over the last 6 months. I originally thought that my sadness was just because I didn't really feel at home living with 3 girls and am used to \"me\" time as well as \"bro\" time with my former roommates. \n\nAll of these things combined with this crush that I now have are just leaving me confused and worried about the future.", "summary": "I've dated my girlfriend for 6 years an we are extremely compatible. Uncertainty about the future and chemistry with a new person is making me a wreck."}
{"id": "t3_2z0zzt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: By standing around in a relaxed manner among a group of wild beasts.", "post": "Earlier this morning I was out running the dogs (Westie, Goldendoodle, Black Lab, English Setter) with my father, uncle and a friend.  My uncle has a beautiful/crazy fox red Golden retriever named Remmy. I decided to bring my new camera along, pop a few photos of some happy dogs. It was going to be a good day.\n\nWaiting for everybody to get situated before heading out, I was taking a few photos, but really just kind of standing around holding my camera at my side. I was not wearing the neck strap, because you know, I was just standing there.\n\nAbout this time Remmy, in her sheer bliss, sped past me and looped the neck strap around her neck and took off like a missile dragging a DSLR shaped anchor across the gravel parking lot. I am a big dude and the chase was not graceful. Luckily I'm only down one lens.", "summary": "Uncles dog dragged my new DSLR across a parking lot because I was careless.  I gave chase and found out I am not as fast as a golden retriever."}
{"id": "t3_hog7d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what happened to the best of the web on reddit?", "post": "So, I am a long time lurker, and I have owned an account for around a month. And I think I joined at just the wrong time. Not saying I don't enjoy reddit anymore, I spend half of my day on it. But that's not the point. What I am trying to get across here is the idea of posting more actual websites! The internet is endless, I think we would all benefit from coming to the homepage and finding something new. Of course, that still happens, but most of the time all I see is posts about cake, cats, and stalking someone they believe is a redditor. *Although I do love cats, and have two :3*. We have become a forum, which is great! But can we also post some of the web that we can discover?", "summary": "Post websites and not life stories and reposted pictures."}
{"id": "t3_3bve6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) can't figure out my feelings for her (18f)", "post": "This is my first year of uni. At the start if the year I met this chick doing the same course as me and who also happened to be on my dorm floor. We started hanging out a lot, and we became close pretty fast. We're very similar in a lot of ways, including music/movie tastes and life beliefs. We both also happen to have depression, and we've had some really honest conversations with each other (I've probably shared more with her than I've shared with my therapist). She's my best friend. \n\nI never really considered anything but a platonic relationship with her until quite recently: when we started getting drunk together. Basically every time we did there would be this strange sexual tension. Until one night we kinda started cuddling and then slept (literally slept) together. Since then (about 2 weeks ago) we've spent a lot of evenings with each other: her staying the night probably more often than not. Things have escalated to kissing, then boob touching, then fingering, then last night I ate her out (after being in town) and we slept together naked. I should note that we're both quite sexually inexperienced. I've gotten with only 4 girls before, and only had proper sex with one of them a couple of times. Aside from making out with other people, the only sexual stuff that she's done has been with me. \n\nHowever, since we have depression, we can both be quite mean to each other sometimes. Also quite manipulative. It often feels like we're competing. We've talked about it before and agreed that it's dumb. I'm hesitant to date her because it seems like it could end up being an awful relationship. I'm hesitant to bang her because despite what I wrote above, her friendship is very important to me: I'd say we both help each other a lot when going through particularly shitty times. I told her I wanted to be friends with benefits but I don't think she's happy with that and I don't think I am really either tbh.", "summary": "getting sexual with best friend. Confused mess, not sure where to go from here. Advice from anyone with more life experience appreciated"}
{"id": "t3_hczlm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a reason to be mad don't I?", "post": "I was the the CEO of the Business fair at my school last year. I was the senior advisor this year. I formed the music club this year and I've been the organiser of every single yearly debate for four years. I am at every single charity event and activity where they need volunteers. I was always the voice of my school whenever we had a complaint. I've mentored half the people in the classes below me and given them advice and study techniques for their exams. I'm friends with literally everyone in the school from grades 5 through 12, and finally, I got the third highest grades in my school overall. Why is it that the school doesn't give a shit about me? I wanted to be given a position of responsibility last year, I was snubbed, I asked for a speech at our graduation this year and got snubbed again. The annoying thing wasn't that I was turned down but that the principal kept me on the hook for the whole of last year with the Head Boy position, dangling it in front of me and then giving it to someone else. Same thing this year with the valedictory speech. I only wanted to do it because my mom wanted me to and he kept me on the hook for the entire year until just last week when I heard that he was giving the speech to some other kid. Both people the positions went to had their parents lobby for them. One kid is apparently on his way to Stanford next year, the other is going to Yale. I know the both of them, they're nice guys but I really only asked for two things in two years, never got anything. Its just not fair and I have to know what other people would do in my situation before I proceed. Should I just be mature about it? should I not go to graduation? should I say something or do something?? What would you do if you were me?", "summary": "I worked hard but the school ignores me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_20uf3g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be creepy to do this? [21,M]", "post": "I was at a local cafe and saw a girl I went to high school with, but never got to know her. I believe she was a grade below me. I always thought she was pretty, but I've never had the balls to go up and ask a girl out. The same can be said in this situation.. She was there for about an hour and we never spoke a word, but she did look at me a few times.\n\nWould it be creepy if I found her on Facebook and asked her out/started talking to her? I have no idea what her name is, but I'm sure I can find her in a yearbook. What's your opinion on this, reddit?", "summary": "Saw a girl I went to highschool with at a local cafe, but never got around to talking to her. Would it be creepy if I found her on facebook and started chatting/asked her out?"}
{"id": "t3_ktpwk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is rain dirty?", "post": "So here's the situation.  My girlfriend and I were driving back from her house to my apartment, with a basket of freshly washed clothes.  It starts lightly sprinkling outside, and I tell her that we should pull up close to the apartment so the clothes don't get dirty from the rain (it would've been a long walk otherwise, the closest parking spot was a good 30 seconds away).  She insists that the rain won't make the clothes dirty, and that it would be fine to walk together back to the apartment with the clothes.  So all that for this question:  would the rain make the clothes dirty?", "summary": "Wanted to park close to avoid clothes getting wet from rain, GF thought that was dumb."}
{"id": "t3_f9d8w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Egyptian Redditors: I am traveling to Egypt in March...", "post": "I started this post out as \"should I be concerned about my safety during the trip\", and instead, I think I'd rather know, should those of us outside of Egypt be concerned about YOUR safety?  I'm trying to read up on the events leading up to this online, but domestic media for us is biased, and filtered down crap.  Unless something major goes down, my travel plans likely won't be affected, and Al Jazeera is saying that everything is mostly peaceful, but it really seems like you're on the cusp of a revolt, and I'd hate to see more innocent people get hurt than already have.", "summary": "You guys ok?"}
{"id": "t3_s162q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Accidental Incest- Wtf do I do now?", "post": "I need help reddit like never before, being a long time reader of this board I never thought I would be the one posting but this is the only place I feel like I can ask for advice..\n\nBackground: Me (30 M) and the girl (24 F) met over two years ago via mutual friends and we hit it off great, after a year we entered a relationship and just two months ago we moved in together. We have our differences and our little fights like everyone but really, everything has been wonderful, to the point where we were discussing marriage. \n\nBoth of us were raised in the foster system, I was removed from my household when I was 10, she was around 7 so we've always had this in common and been able to confide in one another about this. \n\nRecently: My biological father passed away which meant little to nothing to me since my foster father adopted me and has been absolutely great. However.. The woman I am with also received an invitation to the funeral because its her dad also.\n\nShes already packed up her things and is staying with her best friend. This situation is so screwed up I honestly didn't believe things like this could happen. I'm torn.. I really am, I felt like I loved this woman, I thought about our future together and now I don't know what the hell to do. We have crossed the line physically and when we tried to talk about it she broke down and started crying, she won't speak to me anymore.\n\nJust as more background.. Yes we have spoken about our pasts before, yes we have spoken about our parents but it has always been \"my mother was a druggie and my dad a drunk\" we have separate last names and to be honest I just NEVER considered it a possibility that we could be related. What the hell do I do? I honestly felt like I was in love and in one day everything has fallen apart.", "summary": "Found out the woman I have been seeing and saying 'I love you' too is actually my younger sister. Now more then ever I wished I had kept in contact with my biological family. What the hell do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4btpvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24 M with my 23 have been friends with benefits even though she has a boyfriend.", "post": "Reddit, \n\nI have some lady issues I need to get straightened out. To be clear, I've been friend zoned. Yes, that dreadful word that we've all been through has slapped me in the face. Let's call her Mary for the sake of privacy. Marry and I have been talking / seeing each other for about two months. We're both really attracted to each other and enjoy each others company, but she has a boyfriend. She's been in a long distance relationship for under a year and rarely sees the guy. \n\nThis was my golden opportunity I thought to myself, but it got weird. After talking for awhile. She deletes my number and only contacts me on Facebook. She's obviously attempted to quit communicating with me, but cant help herself. We still hangout weekly for drinks and other adventures. When we hang out we become intimate and cant keep our hands off each other. I would like to date her and create a relationship, but I feel like I'm being used.", "summary": "What should I do? Should I Cut her off and look for more fish in the sea? Should I ride the wave and see if they brake up? Or should I be the guy she occasionally cheats on once in a while?"}
{"id": "t3_o99pg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Trying to find a legitimate job working from home", "post": "My wife has a dilemma (and by proxy, so do I)...\n\nShe's become quite frustrated with the job opportunities in our area.  Her education is a combination of business and IT, you'd think that would be a good combination, but she hasn't been able to find a job she's been happy in.  She seems to be able to snag IT positions fairly easily (especially internal desktop support), this is because HR departments seem to go all wobbly in the knees when they see a women in IT, but when she gets into the job, no one respects her as IT is, lets be honest, dominated by neck-beards and people who just like hearing the sound of their own voice.  Any ideas she comes up with are often regarded as bad ideas initially, but after a week or so, a guy draws the same conclusion and its the greatest idea in the world without any credit to her.\n\nCurrently, she's in a low-pay customer service position, not her ideal job.  We would move to another city, but I've found a very good job that's helping to solidify my career that I can't give up (I also work in IT, and I can't believe the crap she has put up with as I definitely don't notice the same in any recent jobs I've held).\n\nSo, she's expressed an interest in working from home, obviously these kind of jobs won't be posted on a local job site, is there a resource out there that actually guides you to from working from home?  I largely considered 'work-at-home' jobs mythical in nature, since most that I've heard of are held by people who were already in a high-paying position at a company and could transition to being remote only.\n\nBackstory", "summary": "going to work for douchbags sucks, want to work from home, need a place to start looking and get ideas."}
{"id": "t3_jxrbt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think I may have just lost the girl I love with all my heart forever...", "post": "Earlier tonight I did the dumbest thing possible, I sent an unintended text to my girlfriend that was hurtful and insincere. I had been texting a friend of mine about a meeting that we had planed for tomorrow concerning a project we are working on with my girlfriend. The text I sent  to her that was meant for him was \"She said 3pm works for her but with the way she has been acting lately I don't know if she is going to \"have something come up\"\".  This was said while I was frustrated and drunk. I didn't truly mean it. I feel like the biggest piece of shit on the planet at the moment. How do I make this right? I love her with all my heart and don't want this to be the end. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!", "summary": "Accidentally sent m girlfriend a hurtful insincere text message and I fear that this might be the end. Please help me make this right!"}
{"id": "t3_fp911", "subreddit": "self", "title": "What is wrong with me?", "post": "So I was drilling some holes in my cabinet to hang up my measuring cups, and I put them evenly spaced apart. I hang them up - shit, the big ones hit each other. I guess it'd look best if the edges are evenly spaced, not the centers - I'll just measure the diameters of each, and the hole distance will be the two different radii plus the space. Start to drill...wait, now the center of the assembly to the cabinet will be off since the distance to the largest measuring cup is the greatest, putting that one too far to one side. I need to find where the center of the assembly is and measure to the first hole of the third cup.", "summary": "I'm an engineer."}
{"id": "t3_4c76ft", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by bubble-bathing the toilet..", "post": "This happened about 45m ago..\n\nSo as I was the last person to use the toilet in regulation time, shall we say, as in the last person before everyone goes to bed, it was my task to bleach it to make it lovely and clean for the first user tomorrow morning.. simple!..\n\nUh-uh..\n\nIn my infinite wisdom I decide that, to aid said cleaning process, a cocktail of bleach, Wilko's Rhubard and Vanilla Fragrance Explosion Bath Foam (enticing, I know) and Head and Shoulders would be applicable.. apparently not!..\n\nMere seconds after the flush, toilet explodes with suds and bubbles going everywhere, overflowing and basically looking like some sort of bubble bath monster has crawled through the depths of the plumbing system and then sloth-ed itself all over my bathroom floor.. honestly more bubbles than a standard 15y/o girl having a bath.. madness..\n\nThen entered a disturbed mother, who quickly turned from sleeping standard to the Incredible Hulk.. going to leave it overnight and hope the bubbles clear.. but just in case..\n\nAnyone know how to clear vast quantities of bubble-bath?", "summary": "decided to clean toilet using bubble-bath and Head + Shoulders, suds monster arrived up through the bowl pretty quickly, bathroom now looks like Ibiza foam party.."}
{"id": "t3_18lmy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend got a Valentine gift from his \"girl\" friend", "post": "This is still bothering me so I decided I was going to ask you guys.\n\nHe's 24, I'm 21, and we're in a seven month relationship.\n\nHe has this one female friend/co-worker that I do not like at all.  She's very flirty with him, even in front of me.  They became friends shortly after him and I started dating.\n\nYesterday, she gave him a big box of chocolates and a cute little card to go with it.  I'm not the jealous type but this definitely made me jealous for some reason.  I feel like she's overstepping boundaries but he doesn't see it.  He thinks she's just being friendly and he doesn't think she has romantic feelings for him.  \n\nApparently she saw the flowers he got me because he had them delivered to his office so he could surprise me with them when he got home.  When she saw the flowers he said she was like, \"Oh my gosh! Did you get those for meeeeee?\"  He said she was joking but it still pissed me off.\n\nWhat can I do about this girl?  She always texts him, leaves comments on his Facebook wall, etc. \n\nAre there good ways to start a conversation about this girl?  It's kind of difficult to bring it up out of the blue because he doesn't talk about her that often.", "summary": "Boyfriend has a friend who I think is being inappropriate.  She got him a Valentine gift, which pretty much set me off.  How do I talk to him about this chick?"}
{"id": "t3_14yhk9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors, have you ever gone had to go from being friendless to having a solid social life? How did you do it?", "post": "Hey Reddit.\n\nLike a lot of people on here, I'm introverted. We all have our social hang ups, mine particularly is that I have quite a bit of social anxiety and have trouble connecting with people in loud atmospheres, especially parties and bars. I don't have a lot of popular interests... I listen to hip hop and play video games, don't follow sports, and have a fucking hard time with social networking. It always seems that I end up as the odd person out when I'm with a group of people.\n\nI've been in relationships all my life, but recently I've gone through a pretty devastating break-up. We're both to blame, but I want to get back together after 2 months apart but she doesn't. Most people might find the freedom awesome after a long relationship, but because we were so close and home bodied, I have no friends now, and it makes it so much worse missing someone.", "summary": "I'm asking you, Reddit, what are your strategies for finding friends and holding on to them? No friends, no girl. How do people change their lives?"}
{"id": "t3_28b13o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30f) don't know where to go for support", "post": "I'm a 30 year old female. Cut my parents out of my life and have a strained relationship with my brother and sister. \n\nI still talk to some of my aunts and uncles (mom's sisters and brothers). They don't push me to restore contact with my mom, they completely understand why I have to do what I have to do. \n\nOne of my family members had a baby die in utero 2 weeks before she was to be born. My immediate family has experience with this situation and i'd like to be there for my aunts and cousins at the funeral. \n\nI know my mom will be in attendance. I know I cannot face her alone, if she's cold, if she wants to talk, I'm not interested in any of it. \n\nMy live in bf (also 30) and i have been together for 10 months. He just started a new job that is admittedly cool, but he is absolutely obsessed with it. All conversations, all errands we run, are related to his job. Anything not related to the job he doesn't have bandwidth for. I've tried asking for support. Asking for hugs. Asking him to come to the funeral, and he says I need to deal with my family on my own. He doesn't have time to take off work (the funeral is Tuesday).\n\nI don't know where I can go for support or who to talk to. I have a few casual friends but no one who would let me vent like I feel I need. No one to come with me. Do i look internally for the support? \n\nAny advice would be great. Thanks reddit. (yep, it's a throwaway, no gw posts).", "summary": "strained family, death in the family, can't go to the funeral alone. need advice on how to become a support for myself, because i can't trust anyone else in my life to help."}
{"id": "t3_53d89a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] trying to decide if she should date her [29F] coworker", "post": "Hey! \n\nSo I'm seeking advice on if I, a 22yo female, should date a 29yo male that works at the same company as me but in a different apartment. I know it's not a huge age difference and it doesn't feel like one when we talk. I get nervous about it when I think about how he is recently divorced from a marriage of 8 years and has a young child. That just feels like a lot of life experience that I am no where near understanding. We get along super well and like a lot of the same things. People we work with really want us to date because they think we would be good together. However, both of us are worried about the age difference and he coworker aspect. So any advice or suggestions? \n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Should I dare an older guy who has more life experience than me?"}
{"id": "t3_1p5q14", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Planning to Travel Europe. Looking for Tips and Tricks and Maybe a Few Buddies.", "post": "Hi :)\n\nNames Joshua and I plan to go on an adventure within the next year or so to the great European continent. I was hoping to hear some tips and tricks from fellow travelers or those whom occupy the nations. I will list some details in the next few paragraphs. Please post anything related to my plan, because it is all new to me!!\n\nI plan to join the Merchant Mariner's after finishing my Seafarers schooling. \n\nAfter working the boat, I hope to hit the EU scene with one of my best friends whom is doing the same thing.\n\nCountries in mind include: France, Italy, Germany, Norway or Denmark, Spain, and Austria. But the sky is the limit.\n\nWe plan to Back-Pack it the whole way with about 10,000 grand in our spending budget, as well as another 10 grand in our savings. (each)\n\nWe are definitely looking for new experiences and being able to go with the flow. Really hoping to meet some new people!\n\nI'm really excited to start this adventure and during my time working and saving I will be studying and planning this trip. All information is helpful. I am especially interested in understanding the state of the economy, what type of VISA I should apply for (if any), what to pack and bring, and most defintelly I am looking for people who might be interested to take us in for a few days and/or provide us with work.\n\nThink of it as bumming around Europe.. But with cash in hand.", "summary": "Traveling Europe and seeking info on the nations and what to expect. Also looking for people interested to provide places to stay and/or work."}
{"id": "t3_2y9hy4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) am confused about how I should feel about my fwb (18F)", "post": "Ok, so before recently I had no sexual experience or a girlfriend what so ever, and then (Jane fake name) came along. We were friends for a couple of months and we partied together and It was fun. Now let me explain Jane. Jane has a boyfriend who is 8 years older than her who goes to a different college and they are in a very VERY open relationship. Jane also sleeps with probably an average of 2 guys a week and is bisexual. (She is still std free though) Anyway we were at a party and I was very drunk and  started feeling her up (she was tipsy) and she quickly brought me into the bathroom and blew me, which I hardly remember because I was blackout drunk. Later on that week we stayed up all night watching movies and she took my virginity. I have since messed around with her again, but I'm just very confused as to how I should feel about the whole thing. Like should I regret it? Will I regret it? My friends rip on me occasionally about her but I mostly ignore them but I can't shake this strange feeling about the whole ordeal. I'm not really sure why I'm posting, but if you could give me advice or a new perspective that would be great.", "summary": "I confused about sleeping with a girl"}
{"id": "t3_3vdxaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] am experincing jealousy problems with my Girlfriend [18 F] 3 years (different colleges)", "post": "First time Reddit poster....\n\nSo my girl friend goes to a really big state school and I go to a smaller out of state school (I didn't get in to the one she is enrolled at)\n\nWhen ever she goes out she always goes to fraternity parties and she'll send me selfies before she goes out. She always looks so beautiful, almost too beautiful. She does her hair and makeup and tries to make her self look really good. \n\nHowever when we see each other on break or I visit her. She never tries to make herself look good for me. \n\nShould I be concerned? How can a manage my jealousy? How can I tell her how I feel without making her feel like I'm chastising her?", "summary": "My girl friend seems to try to look better for other guys, concerned."}
{"id": "t3_2h0wrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of 3 months, am I being too sensitive?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend are very close and so far, the relationship has been great for the most part. We like to tease and joke with each other, but sometimes she says things that really annoy me. And the thing is, she purposely tries to annoy me to the point that I'm mad because she thinks me getting upset is amusing. \n\nThe way she does this is by joking about leaving me for a coach at school(we'll call him coach tony). She'll say things like \"Oh say hi to tony for me, tell him that I miss him\" or \"me and tony had such a wonderful time last night\". I feel stupid that those comments annoy me, because coach tony is like 50-60 years old but still a good looking man. I know nothing would ever happen because that's just not the type of man he is and that's not the type of girl she is. But it still upsets/annoys me a good amount. She'll joke about breaking up with me for my little brother, which is also stupid because he's 12. And then sometimes she'll just pretend that we break up by saying things like \"oh it was nice knowing you\" or \"see you around school I guess\". All the comments she makes are along those lines and I know she doesn't really mean them but they still bother me. However, whenever she makes these comments she'll usually stop and try to defuse the situation before I get too upset. She'll say stuff like \"oh you know I'm just playing with you\" or \"I just think it's funny making you mad\".\n\nAm I being too sensitive by being really upset by these remarks? She says them at least a 2-3 times a week, and to me, it got old really fast.\nI know this sounds stupid coming from a 16 year old, but I really like her and want to make this relationship as best as it can be.", "summary": "My girlfriend jokes about leaving me for a coach at school, but we both know it would never happen. She thinks it's funny that I get upset when she makes these comments, but they really do make me mad. Am I being too sensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_46v696", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to make my relationship work again", "post": "Hi I am 27 M engaged \ud83d\udc91 with a long time friend  23 F we have known each other from childhood and are engaged since last   1 year\nWe shared everything regarding our personal and professional lives we had fight over different priorities in heat of moment I said you attach more priority to other things than our relationship.this snowballed into  a big fight recently and since then we have stopped talking about ourselves \n\n we are in long distance relationship we do chat occasionally but it is limited to our professional work.we have decided to chat once in month earlier we were talking throughout the day.I need some suggestions on how to chat next time \nThanks", "summary": "Should we continue chatting casually any suggestions"}
{"id": "t3_2f8ywm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 1 year are buying a house. Too soon?", "post": "Hey,\nfirst time poster, would like to hear your feedback:\nI'm together with this girl for exactly 1 year in September and things are going good, they are going fantastic even.\nSure we had a couple of big fights but I honestly believe we grew a lot, not only as a couple, but as human beings. She makes me a mature and better person and I think I have the same effect on her.\n\n... but I am scared...\n\nBuying a house is a big respsonsibility and a big commitment. The house looks great and is financially feasible for us.\nHowever, I want to sum up a few things that are terrifying for me:\n\n* **this is her first relationship ever**\n and, to be fair, mine too (I only dated this girl for 6 months when I was 23). We are not kids anymore but is 1 year too short? Can feelings change (mine or hers)? She said \"I love you\" after 6 months which I (based on cheesy Hollywood-movies) think is very early. I assumed I'd tell this girl I love her after about 1 year...And now we are buying a house! Talking about having kids in the future has been a subject after 3 months of dating. Girl, I am like your first boyfriend EVER. Sure, I want kids in the future but... talking about it already?\n* **major investment in the house from her parents**\nHer parents are willing to finance about 30% of the total costs. We each cover 10% of the costs and the remaining costs we loan at the bank. Pay-off plan on 25 years. Working with these huge budgets make me edgy...\nHer parents seem to be OK with this. They do want to cover their 40% investment at the notary should things go south. I believe this makes sense.\n* **The age difference**\nOn many points, she is much more mature then I am. Then again, on some points I feel like she can act like a child. This has been a point of debate; I feel she can be pushy in her 'demands'. We both learned from the discussion/fight and are much more mature about it then in the past.", "summary": "Do you feel there is a minimum time you should date before making \"big\" life changing decisions?"}
{"id": "t3_141iyi", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I'm writing a travel guide about my city. What do you think I should include that other travel guides often don't?", "post": "Hey. I'm writing a travel guide about Buenos Aires because all the mainstream ones there are aren't good and because I think that it would be fun if there was a guide written by an actual local.\nSo far, I've been writing everything one would need to know to subsist here. That doesn't include, for example, ~good restaurants, but it does include how to stop a bus here, or where are the reasonable places to stay, which isn't really where the most hotels are. What I'm trying to write is a guidebook that gives tips regardless of the tourism industry's recommendations or what is usually expected for a tourist to do in the city.\nFor this reason, I'd like to know what are the things you think should be in a travel guide but that are often left unanswered. Like, the situations in where you're all like WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW THIS BOOKS SAYS NOTHING ABOUT THESE KIND OF STUATIONS and you'd have liked to have avoided. Can you please help me?", "summary": "I'm writing a travel guide about Buenos Aires. Travel guides don't often cover important topics. What do you think are this kind of topics?"}
{"id": "t3_t09fh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What skills are required to be a Director of Marketing?", "post": "I interviewed for a Director of Marketing / ecommerce  for a fashion company that has 500 stores in America. I have over 10 years experience in digital marketing and creative direction. I also ran the marketing for 2 decently sized fashion brands. I met with a extremely experienced individual, the VP of ecommerce marketing. \n\nHe brought up some insights that totally change my perspective on my own skill set. He said my main skill was my talent in creative direction which I agree with (I mainly held creative direction positions). He also added that the position would not be a fit because it mainly focused on areas of SEO, SEM, CRM -- but I have extensive experience all three of those areas. \n\nThis is where my mind was blown and I need guidance. \n\nHe said if he hires he wants to see me create a plan that will guarantee and generate a 10 million dollar profit within 1-2 years.\n\nI've created marketing campaigns, I've produced video commercials, and I've created and managed every kind of online marketing account you can imagine BUT I've never been asked to do a task like that. I understanding branding, social media, paid search, SEO, and just about everything to do with interactive marketing. \n\nI always thought of myself as a capable marketer but after this interview it made me really think. \n\nDo I not posses the correct experience to be a Director of Marketing and what can I do to improve this? What am I missing here?", "summary": "I interviewed for a job that I thought I was extremely capable at but then realized I'm not and want to improve."}
{"id": "t3_wt5b8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to run away overseas. Am I crazy? Any advice? (First post, potentially wrong sub-reddit)", "post": "Reddit seems to be great for advice, so here goes:\nI'm 17 years old, from New Zealand. I finish school for good in December. I've never been overseas, and before last month I'd never even been on a plane.\nI've always been the 'good' kid of the family; I'm the smart one expected to do great things. But the last month I've lacked any motivation to exceed academically and I just want to get out and discover the world. My parents GREATLY disapprove of this thought. I want to try anyway.\nSo here's my plan: Use my savings to run away overseas somewhere and work for a year. Where should I go? What do I need? What advice do you have for me? Am I really just crazy with a bad case of wonderlust? Advice me up, Reddit!\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Sick of being a good kid.. Getting the hell out of here. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3a8hza", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Can't stand living at home, need financial independence", "post": "Hey guys, first time posting here so lmk if I'm doing anything wrong! I'm 23 years old and I just graduated from my bachelor's program, so I'm back at home for the year. I'm applying to dental schools in the states (but Canadian) for next September, so I'll be living at home for the next 16 months and I don't know if I can do this anymore. I've been back for 3 months and I already feel so suffocated and I'm being treated like a child. My dad is very controlling and doesn't want me to stay out of the house past 10pm (yes, I'm 23). He always wants me home on time and we have already gotten into many fights about this because he is very firm with it. I have a boyfriend and I have a life, and last night we got into a huge fight and he told me to either be home at 10pm latest every night or pack my bags and move out. I wish I could just find a job with my degree and have a salary and be independent, but that's not the case. I'm going to need him to co-sign dental loans next year and I'm scared if I move out he won't want to take me back in and help with the loans. Also, I'm currently studying for the DAT, so I don't work that many hours a week.. so I'm very low on money and I couldn't even afford rent. Should I look into a line of credit and maybe do that for the next 16 months? Or should I just suck it up and live at home because I need those dental loans and don't want to get on his bad side. I'm not sure if there are any other options to be financially independent... Please help!", "summary": "controlling dad, it's getting to be too much and I want to move out but don't have the funds + need his help with co-signing loans for dental school"}
{"id": "t3_3tkws7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Got a $300 bill from the dentist, as it turns out insurance won't cover incomplete work. Details in post.", "post": "Hello r/personalfinance, long time listener, first time caller. I'm not entirely sure this is the right place to post this, but as I peruse here quite a bit I thought it would be worth a shot.\n\nThe backstory: in June I got a very sore tooth treated with a root canal. The dentist supposedly removed the roots and filled my tooth with a temporary filling. They told me to come back in a week to complete the next step but could not get me in for a month. I went back and they said I had a lot of bacteria and to come back in another month after a course of antibiotics. I came back again a month later and they said it was bleeding excessively and had to drain, so I should come back in another month. At this point I was moving out of state in a week and told them so, and they essentially showed me the door. After moving, I went to another dentist who did an x-ray and said the tooth was severely decayed and needed extraction. I did experience some pain in the days leading up to the extraction and the oral surgeon told me there was still some root tissue in the supposedly completed root canal causing me pain, which isn't entirely unheard but worth noting.\n\nAlright, the part I need advice on: just yesterday, I received a bill in the mail from my former dentist for $300. I called to ask what this was for and they said the insurance company wouldn't cover the incomplete procedure. I find it very interesting that I got a bill for this in November, months after my business with them had ended. I also heard nothing from the dentist at the time saying I would have to pay for an incomplete procedure. I called the insurance company and they said to have the dentist send them x-rays and other stuff, but I'm really doubtful that will do much for me.", "summary": "getting charged for incomplete procedure on a root canal which the dentist was twice unable to complete before I moved out of state."}
{"id": "t3_iq13k", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am coming to my wits end about my job hunt - it's making me depressed", "post": "I am a recent graduate from tier 1 Canadian school. Since last September I have been looking for a job and it has turned up very little. When I first started looking I did so half heartedly as I was not sure what I wanted to do career wise. Not to mention I still had to focus on my schooling. Now that I am done university I have been looking non-stop for about 6 months and I am starting to give up hope. Realistically I have been looking for a job for over a year now.\n\n My goal is to get into the Consumer Package Goods industry (P&G, Unilever, Kraft..etc) but so far its turned up nothing. I have gotten offers but they have either been for jobs/companies I was not interested in or the offers themselves were terrible (I got offered a position with a $26,000 salary - no benefits). \n\nI am sure I am not being picky I just want to get a job that offers the best training/experience I can get. As I am interested in marketing/sales, these companies offer the best training and experience for my chosen career path. Anyway, I just wanted a place to vent as I am getting mighty frustrated over the lack of success and activity over the past few months.\n\nJust to let you all know the Canadian economy is doing much better than the Americans but it is not as good as it used to be.", "summary": "Finding an entry level job in marketing/sales as a recent graduate blows"}
{"id": "t3_2klxu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF[21M] 4 months, how to deal with his religious mother", "post": "I've been seeing my boyfriend for close to four months now (we're both young and he still lives at home, although he's looking to move out) and we get along wonderfully. Although he's a Christian and I'm not, we've never had any issues. He has never tried to force any of his beliefs on me at all, and that's great. \n\nHowever, his mom is a bit of an extremist. When she found out that we were dating and I was not religious, she went a bit insane. She even called me on the phone and told me that it was probably not best for her to be dating her son, given the differences in beliefs (neither me nor my boyfriend are at all bothered by our differing views...it's only his mother)! \n\nSince then, she has calmed down and is very friendly towards me when she sees me. There is just this part of me that feels really badly whenever I see her, because I know that she does not approve of me. I really love my boyfriend and I want him to be a part of my life for the foreseeable future, but I'm not sure how to handle knowing that his family disapproves of me. Any advice?", "summary": "Boyfriend's mother is religious (I'm not). How to deal?"}
{"id": "t3_2q8duo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making fun of someone's license plate", "post": "So this actually happened today. \n\nMy SO and I were going last minute Christmas shopping for the family. On the way, we stop at a red light behind another vehicle. Noticing the potential for REDDIT GOLD... I took a picture of his license plate. I then started to make fun of his plates. This was roughly our conversation:\n\nME- I need to take a pic of his plates.\n\nSO- Why? So you can post it on reddit and get gold?\n\nME- YES! That plate is stupid. Does he wants his car to get dents. Is that why his plate is MCDENT. I will give his car dents.\n\nSO- It could be his last name.\n\nME- NO! This is REDDIT GOLD!\n\nAbout 10 minutes later... While waiting in the parking lot of the Costco. A Ford Expedition reversed into us. Scratching our front bumper with her Tail Hitch and pushing the hood of our car up! Now we have a huge dented/bent up hood. Estimated repair $750!", "summary": "Don't make fun of other people's Licenses Plate! Karma is a BITCH!"}
{"id": "t3_k4voa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it a good idea to include the fact that you're currently employed on a job application?", "post": "Basically I'm working as a waiter in a cafe/restaurant at the moment, but for various reasons have decided to look for a new job. I'm not planning on quitting my current job until I find something new (I'm employed a casual basis so I don't have to give notice or anything). \n\nMy resume at the moment says:\n>Floor staff at <cafe> (April 2011 \u2013 present)\n\nIs it a bad idea to include that I'm still working there? I don't want to lie but I also don't want potential employers to think that I leave jobs on a whim. I haven't been working for that long because I've only started since I finished high school, so I feel like that might work against me.\n\nAnyway, if anyone could help me out I'd appreciate it rather a lot and reward you with many internets :)", "summary": "should i be telling potential employers that I would be willing to quit my job to work for them?"}
{"id": "t3_4gk9lw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a creep", "post": "Aight, so background. In my college (UK College) everyone has to attend an allocated quiet study session at some point during the week. Whenever I go, I don't really get any studying done, I just sit on my laptop on Reddit and Youtube and act like I'm doing work. \n\nWell, today I glance over and I see a boy I had seen every week for months a couple chairs along, head-down and asleep on his laptop keyboard. When I glance at his monitor, I notice he is halfway through a Reddit page. You see, I have never met a redditor in real life and I'm not sure whether or not I'm socially retarded or just childish but I saw this as an opportunity to have some fun.\n\nMy plan was to steadily sneak over, scroll up his page so I could note down his username. I would then leave him creepy PMs about how I could see him. Eventually I would reveal myself and we'd have a laugh about it and maybe I'd have a new friend. \n\nAfter chuckling to myself about how brilliant my plan was, I slide out my chair and begin to slowly walk over to him. I should mention there are multiple students in this study session, at least 40 and they all just watched my slowly creep on this napping boy like a sexual predator. Anyway, I slouch over slowly to tap his up arrow key when he jolts awake and wildly swings his right elbow at my face and he breaks my nose. \n\nI immediately put my hands over my face and nose and give a scream of pain into my hand. He just stares at me in shock as I stand above him holding my nose and angrily whispers \"What the fuck are you doing?\", I was so embarrassed I just packed up my shit and walked away. As far as I'm concerned everyone in that study saw me become a retard and get my nose broke, so I just got medical attention and went home.\n\nSorry, I'm not very good with story telling.", "summary": "Tried to prank a sleeping potential reddior, got my nose broke."}
{"id": "t3_3ole6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Married People - Help me [24/M] understand the stigma around marriage and money. Do you maintain a personal bank account? Do you ask your SO for permission before every purchase?", "post": "Recently I've read many posts made by men that say \"My wife wouldn't let me buy X\" or \"I'm going to have to ask my wife\". I almost never hear women saying these things.\n\nI understand that in a relationship, there's give and take. But buying a new video game or tools for a hobby is a bit different than buying a new car. Don't married people maintain at least a small percentage of their earnings for themselves? Do people get off on the joking about being whipped? Or is marriage really that deep of a bond that **any** personal spending must be \"preapproved\"? What about those of you who are stay at home moms or dads? Do you get a personal \"stipend\" from your spouse's pay?", "summary": "How do you manage personal spending within a marriage?"}
{"id": "t3_34s3c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20/f] Friend [20/m] Has a Girlfriend [21/f] Now, I might Like Him?", "post": "There's this guy who I'm very close friends with, we've been friends for about 4 years and he's been dating this girl now for 2 weeks. I've never had romantic feelings towards him before, until now. Ever since he's been dating her I feel like I've been developing a crush on him. Is it maybe just that there's a new girl in his life and I'm being territorial and not wanting her to take his attention from me? Or do you think it's an actual crush? How do I differentiate? Because it's weird that I've never had any sort of romantic feelings for him until he's dating her.", "summary": "My guy friend has a new girlfriend and ever since they've gotten together I've felt like I have a crush on him."}
{"id": "t3_1n6trh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do all executors of a deceased family members estate have to agree in order to sell said family members estate? Or do you only need 2 to agree as the majority?", "post": "I have to provide a bit of a back story. There is a husband and wife. They own a house. The husband dies and the wife has dementia and is put into a home. Due to the wife's lack of mental capacity, 3 of their daughters were appointed as executors. The house that the father and mother lived in is up for sale. The money from this sale would not be made probate, but would go to the mother and pay for her stay at the nursing home.\n\nNOW for my question. Do all 3 of these sisters have to agree on the price of an offer in order to be able to sell it or do only 2 need to agree and they majority rule the other sister? Like if there was an offer of $150,000 and the 2 sisters agreed to that but the third sister said she doesn't want to accept any offer unless its $200,000, would it not matter because 2 over power one?", "summary": "3 sisters are executors. 2 agree on an offer on their fathers house, the third one does not. Do 2 overpower one?"}
{"id": "t3_17urbi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (24M) started chatting with a girl (26F) online and I'm not sure what is going on.", "post": "I started messaging this girl two or three weeks ago on okcupid.  I messaged first and she replied basically saying she'd like to chat with me and get to know me.  We sent messages back and forth maybe three times before she stopped replying.  I waited 10 days before saying something simple like, \"Hey, how are you doing\" and she replied pretty quickly to that.  I shot her another message and, again, she didn't reply until I waited another week to do the same thing I previously did.  Now I'm waiting again to see if she will respond to a message.  \n\nI really want to get to know her and have a steady conversation going, but I don't want to be a nag/annoying/creep by keep messaging her.  I'm not really sure what to do.  She has made no hint that she doesn't want to talk to me and seems into it when she does reply.  She said she's bad at messaging, which I can understand, but it seems like she forgets about me.  Is there anything I can/should do?", "summary": "I've been messaging a girl online who seems interested but never responds unless I message her again and I don't wanna end up being annoying.  She is someone I really wanna get to know and I don't wanna chase her away."}
{"id": "t3_dzkpu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Deleting a Facebook account, caused a lot of problems in my relationship. What pieces am I missing from this picture?", "post": "Dear Reddit, I have a problem.\nI fed up with Facebook, with content which is completely irrelevant. So today I decided to delete this account. I was proud enough to communicate it to my girlfriend as soon as possible. I thought that her reaction will be 180 degrees different. Instead of supporting me, she stormed me out.\nThere are some additional problem, she is leaving from my city to a different country in 7 weeks.\nBut my thought was, that for catching up we can use much better platforms like Skype, Flickr, Gtalk/Gmail etc. Damn I planned to create this kind of a platform for us.\n\nSo my question is, is it a new tendency, to treat a Facebook profile like an alter-ego? (if you don't have it you're disappearing from other peers life?)", "summary": "My girlfriend stormed me out bc of deleting a Facebook profile. Am I missing importance of it, or she is overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_42q26d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] with my bf [28M] 8 months, he's american; i'm canadian - need advice on this particular LDR scenario", "post": "He lives in the midwest and I live in Toronto, ON. The plan was for me to try to find a job state-side. This is proving to be incredibly difficult, as it's not exactly a walk in the park to receive a job offer. \n\nHis resume is a little less beefy than mine, so we were relying on me being able to get a job offer, which would in turn allow me to apply for a work visa. \n\nThis isn't happening, and the whole situation is becoming taxing and I am slowly losing faith in this working out :( We don't believe in getting married for the sake obtaining citizenship (we don't feel we've been dating long enough). Are there any other options I'm not thinking of to make this relationship a reality?", "summary": "Canadian dating american in LDR; how do we bridge the gap and be together in the same city?"}
{"id": "t3_3br9o9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25/F] nervous about spending weekend with boyfriend's [28/M] Ivy League family, when I'm not.", "post": "Pretty much what the title says.\n\nMy boyfriend's family are all intellectuals. His 2 brothers and their wives went to ivy league schools for both undergrad and grad school (talking even med school here)! Both his parents are lawyers. \n\nMy boyfriend didn't go to Ivy League but he went to close enough probably still ranked amongst top 15 schools in the U.S. I, on the other hand, went to a no name school ranked maybe 500 if not lower. I'm so embarrassed by this fact. I grew up outside of the country and just going to a school in the U.S. was seen as a big deal and I honestly didn't understand the whole 'ivy league' deal until I moved here. Looking back I could have applied to better schools and I regret it every day. \n\nAnyways I know I'm not stupid but I just have this feeling that his parents won't ever think I'm good enough for their son. I'm really nervous to spend this weekend and afraid of getting inside my own head. Also-- his ex fiance went to the same school as him so I'm obviously feeling very insecure. \n\nI don't know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "Insecure about my non ivy league education while visiting my ivy league boyfriend's house"}
{"id": "t3_2m2eed", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do I teach my 4-year old to use our remote?", "post": "I'm trying to figure out a better way to teach my 4-year old how to use the TV remote. This is so he stops waking us up in the morning. It's kind of complicated -- he knows how to turn things on, but there are too many factors -- for instance, it might be set to the wrong input if my husband was playing video games the night before. He can't push the channel buttons fast enough to get to Disney Jr. even though he knows the numbers to push. And then sometimes he doesn't want to watch Disney Jr. \n\nIn my ideal world, he would go downstairs at 5 a.m. without bothering us, make himself breakfast, and read quietly for an hour, but that's simply unrealistic and I'm okay with him watching TV and eating dry Cheerios until a more reasonable hour. But I can't puzzle out how to get him to be able to use the remote and am wondering if there are other creative ideas on how to teach him.\n\nI've considered one of those Universal remotes with the touch screen where you can just push \"Watch TV\", but those are at least close to $100 if not more, and I'm not willing to spend THAT much.\n\nWe've also tried just setting the TV the night before, and then all he has to do is press two power buttons -- THAT he can do, but sometimes the DVR records something overnight, so then it's set to the wrong channel. I've also tried playing with the Favorites button on the TV remote, trying to make it so it Favorites the kids channels, but I can't get it to work even in a way I understand it!\n\nAny other ideas?", "summary": "How do I teach a 4-year old to use a fairly complicated TV remote?"}
{"id": "t3_infsd", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "To ultimatum, or not to ultimatum.  That is the choice.", "post": "Reddit, my ex-boyfriend (25) and I (also 25) of a year broke up a few weeks ago.  We haven't been completely solid on the radio silence, but have been trying very hard at it.  We've been slipping up every 4-5 days or so.\n\nRecently the ex wanted to meet so we can talk.  He said that he misses me, or at least he thinks he does.  But at the same time, he wonders whether or not he just misses being in a relationship.  He isn't sure.  He doesn't want me to move on just yet because he fears that once he does figure it out that he misses me it will be too late and Id have moved on.  At the time, I was sympathetic and told him Id give him a few weeks to figure it out.  I still love him and miss him dearly.\n\nReddit, not knowing is driving me nuts.  I can't move forward or backward.  I can't heal or hold on.  I need to know which direction I'm going.\n\nI've never in my life given an ultimatum to a lover, partly because they don't usually work and partly because that's not really who I am.  But in this case, reddit, is it appropriate to give him an ultimatum?  Tell him to fish or cut bait?  Tell him to make a move or lose squatters rights?  I don't know if I can deal with the uncertainty much longer.", "summary": "Ex doesn't know if he wants me back, is it appropriate to give him an ultimatum to make up his damned mind?"}
{"id": "t3_ylr8b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[29m] separated from my [25f] wife - struggling to stay friends", "post": "If you've seen the movie trailer for [Celeste and Jesse Forever] about two best friends who are married and mutually decide to separate then that accurately describes my situation. We have known each other for nearly 10 years, dated for about 7 years and were only married for less than a year. We separated two months ago and she moved in with some friends a few weeks ago while I've stayed in our apartment.\n\nI've had my ups and downs during this time and had irrational worries and rational worries as well. This past week, I was at a low point and really missed our old way of life and made a plea to have another chance together. She insisted that it will never happen. I left the conversation by basically saying our friendship was over. Immediately after that, I snapped out of my mindset and realized that I didn't want to lose her as a friend because the bond we share there is very important in my life.\n\nI wrote an e-mail the next day apologizing and explaining that I do miss her in my life but that's because I miss our friendship most of all. I apologized for breaking her trust and told her that I really wanted to somehow regain that trust so we could be friends again. She told me that it will take time and that she doesn't want to \"lead me on\" by still being friends. I've tried to insist that I'm not trying to \"get her back\" but that I just want her as a friend in my life still... someone to joke with and ask for opinions about issues in my life that she's familiar with. I think I ruined that trust when I was at my low point and I'm being met with resistance now and imposed \"no contact\" type rules for the time being. I don't want to break those rules to hurt her trust again but it's also hurting me to not have her as an option to talk to.", "summary": "Mutually separated from wife under impression that our friendship would continue; had moment of weakness where I told her I wanted her back; she resisted and trust is broken and possibly our friendship too"}
{"id": "t3_1he8d8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 20M had been seeing a girl 19F for 2-3 months and she suddenly tells me she wants to be \"just normal friends\". What do I do?", "post": "When we started going out I knew she didnt want a relationship and I was fine with that. As we kept hanging out things escalated sexually and emotionally to where I had the feeling that now she did either want a relationship with me or to keep hooking up but not as boyfriend-girlfriend.\n\nThen we went on a trip out of town to go to a theme park and when I dropped her off she hesitated on the kiss but we still made out a bit. Few days go by and things seem off and I tell her im confused and I dont know what she wants. We talk and she says she doesnt want a relationship with me or to hook up anymore saying she wants to stay friends.\n\nI havent spoken to her in a few days because I feel like if i did i wouldnt get over her and its been rough and i feel like shit. I have no idea what happened it seemed like she was super into it. I dont say this too often but she was really special and I dont want to walk away from that.\n\nIs there anything i can do?", "summary": "Dont want to just walk away and i want her back, dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_216zql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23F), my ex (23M), together 4 years apart 4 months. Feeling very lonely and anger, nothing is going right in my life since the break.", "post": "I feel as thought I can not let go of the anger and resentment I am feeling towards my ex. I'm not sure if this is a normal feeling to have and it is eating me up inside. He broke up with me 4 months ago and not even a month after the break up he started sleeping with a friend of his that I always had suspicions about. \n\nI feel like a dirty napkin or something to him that he used me up and just threw me away. After everything i did for him all the love and devotion I gave him in return he broke my heart and has just forgotten about my existence. \n\nI don't know how to let go of this anger. I feel like since the break up I have been the only person who has suffered. I am depressed, my life and school are going down the drain, I have lost my best friend (ex) and everyday just feels like nothing will get better. Nothing is going right for me and yes i know its not my ex's fault, but I just can't believe that he wasn't even slightly upset about the break up, which is what it feels like.\n\nI feel like no ones going to ever love me or any relationship will ever work either. I feel like I am going to be alone forever.", "summary": "feel like I'm going to be alone forever, cant let go of anger towards ex, nothing is going right for me"}
{"id": "t3_4kj01n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34 F] broke my bf's [25 M] expensive bong", "post": "Last night we wrapped up playing Rocksmith 2014 and put the guitars in the cases.  Due to current lack of space, he places them against the wall standing up.  The space in front of them is where he parks his bongs and other smoking devices.  \n\nI'm always a bit worried they might fall if something rattles the wall, causing them to smash his stuff.  The garage is right next to that wall and can rattle the house when the 4 wheelers are going.  \n\nI said, why don't you move those away in the chance they fall?  He says, they'll be fine but I insisted.  In the process of reluctantly moving them to appease me, he cracks his $1600 medical grade glass bong.  It's sealed glass, so the inside piece that broke can't be fixed.\n\nHe looked like he wanted to cry (I would too in this situation....).  I offered to buy him a new one, but he refused.  He obviously was not happy with me at that moment, but he said it was ultimately his fault for moving them.  \n\nReddit, I've obviously now learned to keep my mouth shut regarding his items, but I still want to fix this.  I'm thinking about going by Puffin glass when we're in Spokane in a few weeks as a surprise, but he may still refuse out of pride.  Any ideas?", "summary": "I broke my bf's expensive bong.  Offered to buy a new one, he refused.  How can I make it up to him?"}
{"id": "t3_268akj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [18 M] she is a [17 F] and I don't know how to read this relationship?", "post": "We've known each other through school but never talked until we had a class together. I asked her out after about a week, we went out for food, laughed, flirted etc etc. I asked her out again same situation, everything going great. Now it's three weeks later (midst of exams) and I'm starting to get the feeling that she's not thinking of this as a \"relationship\" in the conventional bf/gf sense. I'm new to the whole dating game and wondering a few things. \n\nDo I need to ask if we're together as bf/gf or is that implied by asking her out multiple times? Should I straight up ask if she likes me the way I like her? I know what the friend zone is and I'm not feeling there, yet, but we're having a movie night tomorrow just her and I. I plan on seeing what's what then by trying to get physical, not hardcore, just simple stuff like leg touches, cuddling etc. Oh and finally, to add to my lengthy situation, On our third \"date\" (studying for an exam) I drove her home and attempted to kiss her but got the infamous cheek. I didn't make a big deal about it I just moved past said \"got your things?\" and politely said goodbye preceding to wait for her to get inside her house. I've been told I shouldn't fret about ONE kiss rejection cause there could be multiple reasons for it but at the same time that made me think more about the friend zone possibility. \n\nAny advice or similar situations and how you solved the problem would be smashing! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Started going out with a girl I liked. Feelings were obviously mutual. Took it slow due to exams. Not sure now if she is feeling the same way I am."}
{"id": "t3_1bz42j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20m) Girlfriend (17m) told me something from her past that im stuck on.", "post": "Weve been dating for around a month and a half now.  She told me that when she was 15 she made out with a 23 year old guy twice when drunk.  It was a friends cousin who would buy them alcohol but want to drink with them.  She says all they did was make out but i still find it pretty disgusting. This guys obviously a pedo or something and hes 8 years older than her.  I dont know what it says about her judgement (which i already knew was pretty shitty) and her in general even.  I dont know why you would even do it once as a drunk accident but twice?  She brought it up really casually and when i expressed how i felt she acted like it was nothing.  I know you shouldnt judge your SOs past and i really dont hold anything shes told me against her but this just strikes me as different, and a lot worse.  Am i being irrational?", "summary": "Found out that when girlfriend was 15 she made out with a 23 year old guy twice."}
{"id": "t3_abtsg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Falling out of love with the girlfriend?", "post": "(Yes, a throw away)\n\nI've been dating a girl for about 8 months now.  Things have been good, but the past few weeks not so much.  We're irritable, and I don't feel like we've been enjoying each other's company.  I like her as a person, but I don't feel like I did when we first started going out. I hate the idea of hurting her, because I know I'll feel like shit for doing it, but I don't think it's going to work out.  It just sucks because she's really a great girl.  There's just no spark anymore.\n\nAny tips for an easy let down?  I'm going to have to deal with stuff like, \n\n\"I listened to your voicemail over and over because you said you loved me yesterday.  What happened?\"\n\n\"I was up all night crying!\"\n\n\"What am I going to do with your christmas presents?\"\n\n\"I can't be your friend.\"\n\nHelp! :\\", "summary": "I need an exit strategy.  I care about this girl, but don't think we should keep dating."}
{"id": "t3_2tkwxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] boyfriend [25M] looks over at my phone when I text. It's annoying.", "post": "Hi Reddit. So, I've been with my boyfriend about a year. I was raised in a house where we all really respected each other's privacy. I got into a relationship of 4 years where my boyfriend would try to snoop everything and it just set me on edge. Now when I sit next to my bf, if I get a text, he'll read it. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does. I have nothing to hide. I've never cheated, nothing. We live together and he has no problem leaving his Facebook or phone lying around but it personally makes me uneasy to leave my things around. He doesn't purposely look at my texts to snoop but just because they're there. I'm worreid that if I left my phone or FB open somewhere he would look through it. I don't have anything to hide however I still have personal conversations with my family and girl friends. I don't know how to tell him without sounding suspicious that I'm really uneasy about leaving my things around because I think he's noticed I keep them either hidden or close my stuff.", "summary": "secretive? ish but don't want to be suspicious"}
{"id": "t3_1wfhbj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23F) am an introvert and my husband (27M) of 5 years is stressing me out (x-post /r/introvert)", "post": "I was told to post this here, as it seems to be more of a \"relationship\" thing than an \"introvert\" thing. [Here] is the original thread.\n\nI am extremely introverted. I've known this most of my life. It's who I am, and I'm okay with it. However, my husband doesn't seem to understand/respect my needs at all. He can't wrap his head around the fact that I NEED to be left completely alone sometimes. He doesn't understand why I cringe into a ball and scream \"don't touch me!\" after a long day of working at my call center job. He thinks it's \"cute\" when I ask to be left alone when he insists on grabbing, hugging, kissing, etc. on me, and is highly amused the more anxious/aggravated I get. I have tried explaining to him on multiple occasions exactly how I feel, what my needs are, and why I need them, but he seems to just completely ignore it. I have no idea how to get it through his head.\nEverything in my life seems to exhaust me. My husband, my needy four-year-old (okay, yes, I know this can't be helped), and my idiotic idea to take a job in a call center, where I literally cringe at each phone call that comes through. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice as to how to help my situation. Any feedback would be appreciated.", "summary": "my husband doesn't respect my space and needs, he's a jerk about it, and I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3kbey2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my team mate [24 F?] just started talking and I like her...need advice", "post": "So I met this girl in a project management class. First day I noticed her and I thought she was really cute. But me being anti social and really shy, didn't and wasn't planning on doing anything. Long and behold, we get put into the same group together with 3 other people. After class, I was just walking out of the building and noticed she was behind me so like a gentleman, I opened the door for her. After that, didn't think anything of it so just started walking to my car. Well, she strikes up a conversation with me and I ended up walking her all the way to her car. She gives me a ride to mine (since I parked else where) and that was it. Following week, our group meets to work on some project and again, I end up walking her to her car. We laugh we talk and it seems really good. No flirting on either end. I decide to look her up on facebook and she has a picture of her and some guy hugging. This kinda takes me away as I REALLY like her and haven't had a crush on a girl for a while. I have no idea what their situation is and I am not the kind of person to break someone up for my own selfish reasons. So, what should I do? She hasn't mentioned her boyfriend as there is no reason to.", "summary": "like a girl, really shy, she has a bf, were in same group for class. advice?"}
{"id": "t3_yvf5m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Unsure of what to do about a girl who is unsure of what to do about me.", "post": "I've already manned up and told her (let's call her N) I like her, she said she didn't feel the same way and wanted to be friends. I was ok with that (i'd only known her for a month). I started dating another girl (Lasted for a week because I had feelings for N).\n\nN and I have been hanging out quite a bit alone. She hasn't backed away from me or felt uncomfortable. We've recently begun to flirt in a rather obvious manner (sexual innuendos; when we walk together, she hugs my arm and puts her head on my shoulder).\n\nI doubt I have been friend zoned because I am always reminding her that I consider her in a romantic light. But I can't seem to read her properly. Rather than backing away from me a little, we've gotten closer-- most girls would feel like they need to give it space. There are times when she doesn't answer my text msg about wanting to hang out or even a good night text. Which is weird because she'll text people back, even if it's a couple hours late. But we hang out a lot and she makes an effort to do so (and she also invites me places with her).\n\nAlso, I routinely ask her if she's talking to someone, and she'll say no, and she never talks about other guys. Sometimes, she'll tease me about it, but once she sees that it upsets me, she'll clear the air immediately. She's very kind, and considerate so she's not playing me.\n\nWhat can I do? Does she perhaps want to be my friend that bad that she ignores my obvious romantic inclinations? That doesn't seem right. Should I talk to her again? I just want to know how she feels but I don't want to look like an assuming idiot.\n\nOh, Male 19 (me) and Female 19 (her).", "summary": "I like a girl who may or may not like me and I am not quite sure what to do and how to find out for certain. Not sure if I should just talk to her about it (again) or whether that will make our relationship awkward."}
{"id": "t3_1zocia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[29m] The love of my life [25 F] moving across the world, starting a job at my company (7 months)", "post": "The person I think of as the love of my life and the \"one\" is moving here from Europe tomorrow. She'll also be working at the same company as me. I've been here over a year and met last summer when she was an intern at another office we have.\n\nPeople at my company have no idea that we've had anything going on these last few months. When we first met we were both in relationships and have moved on from those because of the feelings we have for each other.\n\nI'd never even had a workplace romance before this, let alone relationship, and could really use some advice on what to expect, how to maintain those boundaries between work and dating life, and any other stuff you knowledgable people can add. I know it can be tough and constraining to be new to a city and in a relationship as well.\n\nI'm nervous about how intensely strong the feelings I have for her are, and the feelings are definitely mutual. We've had issues (dragging each other into our infidentlities) and I really don't want to screw this second chance up. The working together thing seems like a good obstacle to start thinking about.", "summary": "The love of my life is moving across the world, and working at the same company as me. Does anyone have any advice for navigating workplace relationships or having a SO that's new to the city?"}
{"id": "t3_4ivw95", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[30M] I am conflicted about whether to stay with my gf [26F] or to break up. Need impartial people to talk to", "post": "This relationship is the first ive had since breaking up with the love of my life many years ago. After battling through years of depression and anxiety that followed the breakup i finally met my current girlfriend.\n\n \u00a0\n\nFrom the start ive held back, been distant and havnt committed fully to the relationship. At first it was ok as i was honest about the reasons why and she understood. However now we have reached the point where she needs me to either decide to break up or to go all in and continue the relationship.\n\n \u00a0\nI do love her and know we have so many more adventures to share and love to give each other but at the same time i know she deserves more and breaking it off now seems like it would cause her less pain than it inevitably ending in the future.\n\n \u00a0\n\nMy feelings are so conflicted and i cant get my head straight. I really want someone to talk to about this and was hoping that maybe one of you would be kind enough to talk with me?", "summary": "I need someone to talk to about whether to continue my relationship or not"}
{"id": "t3_pq8em", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with Wife", "post": "My wife and I have found ourselves in a bit of a funk.  In the past few years we have had 5 deaths in our families (including immediate), we have been homeless due to our apartment complex going under the day we were supposed to move in, and just other rough things of this sort.  That being said, we both love each other dearly, we have simply been stuck in a state of surviving and making it through to the next day that we have forgotten how to enjoy life.  The problem is that we are both in our own little worlds when it comes to having fun, but only come together during the bad times.\n\nI have been trying to reach out and do more things that she loves and encourage her to explore the things she enjoys, and we have.  She states that she wants to do things that I enjoy, but anytime it comes to actually doing my activity, she finds a reason not to (i.e. she is too tired) and she blames me for the poor timing of what I want to do.  \n\nSome of the things I love: hiking, backpacking, camping, rock climbing, any kind of sport, board games (from monopoly to axis and allies to dominion), any kind of videogame, puzzles, watching action/suspense/scary movies, going on spontaneous dates, doing crazy random things just to see what happens (that won't hurt people), or anything random I guess.  I just enjoy breaking up the monotony of schedule and rigor.", "summary": "How can my wife and I learn how to enjoy doing fun things again?  What are some ideas I can use to incorporate doing things I really love and not just things she enjoys?"}
{"id": "t3_4ixzyk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18M] am confused and don't know how to proceed. Situation involving an ex[18F].", "post": "I am currently still seeing my ex [18F]. We've shifted to being FWB, but she's also seeing other guys. The thought of her being with other guys bothers me. \n\nThe semester is about to finish and I should be prioritizing my academic career. This situation has been infiltrating my mind constantly; feelings of anger, regret, lust? and jealousy? come about. My focus towards school as a result is affected.\n\nShe's been very open and honest about it when I ask questions. Most of the time when she tells me these things, I get a feeling of grief in my chest. I am fairly attracted to her; I am borderline addicted, perhaps because of the sex.\n\nWhat is the best course of action here? I'd like to keep seeing her; the sex is fun. With time, will I get over it? Summer is coming so I'll be working and hanging out with friends. I'm definitely going to try to my chances with some girls. Should i cut her off? If I do, is it because of my feelings? With a logical POV, should I? Because if i'm going to get over it with time, I should continue to have enjoy myself because it is possible.\n\nI might be delusional. I don't know lol. This is why i need your advice. You will save me a lot of grief. I don't have enough experience in this world to deal with this situation. I want to make the best decision here.\n\nAll replies are greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "summary": "I am still seeing my ex; she's seeing other guys. This causes me grief. I need advice on how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_h4gwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend is depressed, but she claims there's no reason for it.", "post": "Throw away account since my girlfriend is a redditor as well. We're both 23 years old. We've been dating since September 2009, so almost 2 years now.\n\nI recently got a new job which requires me to travel. But, she comes with me on business trips, so we don't spend a lot of time apart.\n\nThe past two months, she's been extremely depressed, but they come in mood swings. She will break down and cry for hours (when I'm not around) and she can't make herself stop. When I am around and she has a breakdown, it takes 30-45 minutes for me to help her calm down. After she has a \"breakdown\" she goes back to normal.\n\nI've asked her multiple times what's wrong, and I try to help her think of what could be causing it, but to no avail. She's not on any medications or anything, but she does have a intrauterine device (IUD) which she got almost a year ago.\n\nUp until this point, everything has been fine, and the only change has been in my job. Could it seriously be because I changed jobs?\n\nI'm getting very frustrated, because there's nothing I can do to help.", "summary": "Girlfriend of two years is extremely depressed and no idea why."}
{"id": "t3_4csyte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my crush [21 F]. She likes me back. But ever since I broke up with my GF, she acts different.", "post": "So me and my GF of 4 years were destined to break up for a while, I just wasn't sure how to do it. Then one day I find out that one of my good friends (who I have a major crush on) likes me, and she knows I like her back. This helped things along and I broke up with my GF a week ago.\n\nAnyways, since then, she doesn't seem the same. We don't seem to flirt and talk as much as we used to. She told me that I need to figure my stuff out, and she needs to focus on exams (which are 2.5 weeks away), and doesn't want to talk about it until after.\n\nWell, I had to figure a way to hang out with her, so I asked if we could study together, and she said yes. So now, we are going to study after class on Friday at 2:00pm. **What are some ways you can flirt with a girl when you're in a classroom all by yourselves? She is the type that moves slow so I will not be making any moves or anything!**\n\nNow here is my question. We are only going to be away from home for about 3 more weeks. I would like to take advantage of this and invite her over (she has come over a few times before, just as friends). **Do you think its reasonable for me to ask her to watch a movie at my house after we study on Friday? Or should I give her more space?", "summary": "Girl likes me, I like her. Just broke up with GF a little while ago. She wants to move slow. Should I ask her over to my place for a movie?"}
{"id": "t3_2p8k4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] fianc\u00e9e of a two year old long relationship hit me [21M] in the face again.", "post": "This is not the first time it happens. I posted about what happened 6 months ago here: (She hit me a couple of times in the face without glasses)\n\nWe got back, and two months ago we had a fight, where it ended up with me throwing her phone to the wall, and grabbing her by her arms, and throwing her into bed leaving her upper arms bruised. I did not hit her.\n\nYesterday we got into an argument and she repeatedly hit me in the face, I hugged her, she stooped. She wanted to leave I didn't want her to, then she kept hitting me and I slapped her. Then she realized she left me my face bruised up and a bleeding nose and she was very sorry.\n\nthere was alcohol involved in all of this fights.\n\nLater on today, she has been asking me to go and see her.\nNow that I type this, this relationship looks like a mess, but we love each other a lot. thanks!", "summary": "6 months ago she hits me, 2 months ago I grab her by her arms and leave them bruised up because of me, yesterday she left me a bruised face and a bleeding nose."}
{"id": "t3_2fo9eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my GF [18 F] 9 months, GF is talking about other guy", "post": "GF is off at college, while I still have to finish Senior year. As of recently she has been making other comments about guys. One guy in particular, she talks about how he is taking her to frat parties and showing her an amazing time. None of this bothers me. It's when she said \"But, dont worry he is not my type\" I asked her what her type was she replies \"Okay, he kinda is. But he is too weird.\"  I say back \"I'm incredibly weird\"  She says back \"Yeah he is less weird\" \n\nI got a little mad at her, told her she shouldn't say those things to me, because its cruel. She said she understood and that she \"Would never cheat on me, I'd break up with you first.\" She is going to a party with this guy tonight and I'm freaking out. Reddit, what the fuck do I do? \n\nI really love this girl. I have helped her through incredibly hard family issues and I don't want to lose her. What do I do?", "summary": "Worried, GF is going to leave me for other guy"}
{"id": "t3_39qu26", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing a post office to have a rotten potato", "post": "I few days ago, I saw on the internet that apparently there are a bunch of weird things that can be sent through the USPS. My grandma is kind of an odd little duck, so I decided to try and mail a potato to her. I decided to take one of the smaller, baby potatoes that is light enough to meet the weight limit for a single stamp but big enough to fit the stamp and a small message. So I get the potato, attach the stamp and the messages \"Betcha didn't know you could mail a potato! -ziegzag\" & \"P.S. plz don't eat this potato\" (also the thing is covered in tape to make them stick). I dropped it off at my local post office and wait for the results. \n\nFive days later, my grandma comes over for dinner and starts to tell my mom about how the post office called and said they're holding a small package that they couldn't deliver, blah blah blah. My grandma proceeds to tell that she drove all over her neighborhood chasing her mailman, only for him to say that there is a small package rotting at the post office & that he can deliver it if she wants it. She didn't know I had mailed her a potato and was utterly confused, until my mom told her that I mailed her a potato. Flash forward to about 15 minutes ago and my grandma says \"Out of all people I wasn't expecting ziegzag to send me a potato!\", I replied \"Well who else would send you a potato?\". Sorry SPB post office.", "summary": "mailed a potato to my grandma, caused a mild wild goose chase, and the local post office now has a rotting potato."}
{"id": "t3_1suqgz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My upstairs neighbor's adult son is verbally abusive to her, what can I do?", "post": "My upstairs neighbor is a woman in her 80's. A few months ago her adult, I'm guessing early 50's, son moved in with her. My free encounters with him have been pleasant, but he was very obviously drunk. About once a week I can hear them arguing late at night. Tonight was the the clearest I've heard them. Complete with him screaming, \"Fuck you! Be nice to me.\" \n\nI'm not close with my neighbor and I don't know the history with her son. It never sounds like he hits her, or vice versa. I've also never seen any sign of physical abuse. \n\nI live in Chicago where there are senior care groups but they normally need police intervention first. If the police are called and she refuses to cooperate, I'm scared that the next drunken argument could go beyond that. \n\nTo top it all off, they invited my roommate and I to a little get together tomorrow. \n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "Elderly neighbor's adult son is verbally abuse and a drunk. Anything I can do to?"}
{"id": "t3_3k8tmm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and the girl I'm dating [18 F], have begun a semi long-distance type relationship because of school and I'm a little worried?", "post": "First off she doesn't go to school that far, only a couple hours away. We talked and she said that she wants to continue our relationship even when she left for school. What worries me is that it is a party school and although I feel like I can trust her to not cheat, it's just something that I can't help, but think about. It doesn't help that she told me a guy tried to hook up with her at a party the first day she was there. \n\nWe haven't been dating for a long time, just a couple months and I do like her. My friends have been telling me to have girls in mind to move on with, if she does cheat, but I don't feel like i can do that. \n\nI'm also in school, so I don't know how often I would be able to visit her or if her residence allows visitors. She said she would come back to visit relatively often, but still it's something you can't help but think about.\n\nAnyways, I was wondering if I should break it off with her (At least for a while), so she can have her freedom to have fun at school or try to stay together. And what should I do, if she does cheat on me. Am I just being paranoid?", "summary": "Girl I'm dating went away for school, but still wanted to continue our relationship. Trust her, even though I can't help but wonder if she will cheat on me. what do? Also am i just being paranoid?"}
{"id": "t3_2qm41d", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Tried to have sex with a hot guy but he couldn't get it up", "post": "A guy and I have been taking for a while, and we're pretty open with talking about sexual things. I told him that of my 6 past boyfriends (up to third base with all of them, only 2 with sex) had never given me an orgasm. He said that he'd be the first, which I think put too much pressure on him. When we finally got to it, he was so nervous that he couldn't get it up. Now, it's really awkward between us. How/what can I say to make him not feel so bad. I really liked talking and being friends with him, and now it's just uncomfortable. Help!!", "summary": "Guy too pressured to get it up, how can I make it not so awkward when we talk?"}
{"id": "t3_nsub8", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Apologizing to an ex...", "post": "I dated a guy for about 13 or 14 months a little under a year ago (we were 21 and 22 at the time); I broke up with him February of this year. Since then, I have undergone massive personal change, to the point that I almost feel like a completely different person than who I was when I dated him. \n\nThe relationship was very emotional right off the bat, as I was only a month out of a nearly 5 year long abusive relationship. He remains the nicest guy I have met to date, and he helped me and supported me as I went through dealing with my issues left over from the abusive relationship. I was his first real, long term girlfriend. We ended up living together that summer, and also spent three and a half months traveling through Australia with his friend and his friend's sister. During our relationship we talked about children and marriage, and I found myself thinking about looking at rings and him proposing.\n\nI made a lot of promises to him that I shouldn't have, because throughout the entire relationship I always knew in the back of my mind it wouldn't be forever. He would voice his fear that I would leave him during or after our trip to Australia, and I, without hesitation, promised him I wouldn't. I know I absolutely devastated him when I ended the relationship.\n\nNow, in my new place in life, I feel like I owe him an apology. I know I used him as a very drawn-out rebound, reveling in the security and love he provided. I feel like I should own up to the pain I caused him, and I want to wish him well. \n\nIs this a good idea? Should I let sleeping dogs lie? He and his best friend (our travel buddy) only recently deleted me from facebook - up until November we still retained that modicum of contact. Since finding out he deleted me, I've found myself thinking often of the hurt I caused him, and I legitimately hope he is happy now. I have no idea what kind of person he is now and I haven't seen him since the break up, so I don't know how any contact from me would be received.", "summary": "should I apologize to my ex for essentially using him as a rebound, promising him some kind of future and then breaking his heart?"}
{"id": "t3_y032c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit can you turn me from John Candy into man candy?", "post": "I'm not looking for some get-ripped-quick scheme. I genuinely want to lose weight through hard work and dicipline, I just don't know what I'm doing. I'm tired of being the lazy asshole I have been for all twenty years I've been alive. So I was hoping reddit could help turn me from a lazy asshole I to just an asshole. \n\nHere is a little bit of information about me to hopefully help out. I will be twenty year old as of October 1st, I am 6' tall and about 230 pound of silly putty and hair. But don't get me wrong, I don't look like a walking beanbag chair. I have a bit of fat that need to be cut and I don't think a butcher can help. Overall I resemble a young John Goodman (so I've been told). I've downloaded an app to help keep track of the calories I eat (it has helped me lose about 12 pounds so far) and I work 60+ hours a week which requires me to be constantly moving and lifting heavy objects. \n\nI guess what I'm asking is do any I you know any beginner work out routines or tips I could attempt to lose weight? Even any mind games I could use on myself to help me avoid bad food and such.", "summary": "Guy who looks like the \"Before\" pictures in weight lose commercials is asking how to cut his gut using your badass weight lose skills."}
{"id": "t3_1azgga", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend [24f] gave me [24f] an entertainment center years ago, and now that she is moving she is demanding it back.", "post": "About four years ago, my friend was moving out of her apartment into her parents house and needed to get rid of some furniture she couldn't take with her. One of these things was her grandfather's entertainment center. She asked me if I wanted it, I said sure. I rented a truck, enlisted some help to help me move it, then moved it to a storage unit for three months until I had an apartment big enough to house it. Now, I am back with living my parents and have since given the unit to them. It houses family pictures, the main living room tv, and all of the electronics.\n\nNow, my friend is moving to her own place again, and has been demanding that I return her \"family's furniture\" to her. She has even gotten her boyfriend (whom I work with) to harass me over it too. She is now saying that she never gave it to me, that it was only for me to use until she needed it again. Her boyfriend is saying that they shouldn't even have to ask, that my parents can afford to buy their own furniture, and that it's not my property. \n\nI am totally floored by this. There was never ANY mention of just having me \"borrow\" it until they would need it, even if it was YEARS later. Why would I pay all of that money to have it stored and moved if I knew they were going to take it back? Am I in the wrong here?", "summary": "Friend gave me entertainment center years ago, now that it's convenient for her she wants it back saying it is rightfully her family's and not mine."}
{"id": "t3_2tz2la", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my phone unlocked", "post": "I live in a college suite of six guys, all of whom I trust and get along with greatly, so greatly in fact, that I leave my phone unlocked and lying around like an idiot. My roommate, AZ, recently got nudes from some girl he's interested in and showed them to us. Which is great! On a side note, it is important to the story to know that I hooked up with her last semester, not to AZ's knowledge. \n\nToday, I get a series of messages from AZ, asking why I sent myself nudes of this girl from his phone and ipad. It is worth noting, that I, did not in fact do this. I double checked my phone: No nudes. I inform him, and send him screenshots of my gallery, which is a barren wasteland of no tits or ass. He gets back to the dorm, and shows me his ipad (which he also leaves unlocked apparently) and his phone. On his phone, our messages clearly indicate that someone sent me nudes at some point in time. On his ipad, the evidence is deleted. I show him my phone, and he does not believe me, which is reasonable. \n\nMy personal theory is that someone sent them on his ipad, deleted the pictures on my phone, and then deleted the messages on the ipad, knowing he would still have the imessage on his phone, and making it look like I tried to delete them. The rest of my suitemates, knowing I hooked up with her, are now also suspicious, and now I'm the scumbag of my suite with no way to prove my innocence.", "summary": "Someone sent me titty pics on a friends phone and set me up to look like I was the culprit. I'm now in the middle of a giant sexting conspiracy."}
{"id": "t3_sxgtt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Now ex-boyfriend says he can't handle a long distance relationship.", "post": "So my SO and I started dating a year+ ago. We're both attend A&M, except he is graduating in a few weeks and is moving to Houston, which is just an hour away, to work. I still have two more years of college left. He broke up with me because he feels like he can't handle the long distance.\n\nBackground information: \n\nHe's graduating with a petroleum engineer degree. His job will require him to travel to oil rigs during his training until he finally gets settled into an office in Houston, which may take six months to two years. He's living with his parent during this time.\n\nHe says during his freshmen year, he tried a long distance relationship with his high school girlfriend, but it didn't work. (Again, it was about an hour and a half away.) During last summer, he was working as an intern while I went to summer school. He almost broke up with me then because of the distance (this probably should've forshadowed what is going on now.) \n\nIs there anyway I could convince him that we could make it work? We still love each other and it would be such a shame to just throw this relationship away like that.", "summary": "Can /r/relationships give my boyfriend advice about going through a not so very long distance relationship? What can I say to reassure him?"}
{"id": "t3_l11gd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "When did you stop feeling like a \"fat person\"?", "post": "By June, I had lost about 30lbs and I was a size 14 and I thought I was looking good.  I thought I was in \"normal girl\" range. By that I think I meant that people wouldn't term me as a \"fat girl\" and men wouldn't immediately remove me from their range of attractiveness.  I wasn't done losing weight but I didn't think of myself as a fat person. cue Summer Romance. cue being rejected. cue believing that that rejection was connected to my size. One guy friend agreed with my diagnosis and another said (jokingly) that the idea of me and my crush together physically was gross to him because of our physical differences.\nI'm back to thinking of myself as a fat girl.  No matter how fit I am, even at my target size I think I will always think of myself as a fat girl. On the one hand the only place this has affected me is romantically, so I'm certainly still an expressive, successful, functional person.  But its still isolating.", "summary": "thought I was no longer fat.  Social group informs me I am. Back to square one."}
{"id": "t3_gwbvo", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "What do you do to avoid free roaming dogs?", "post": "I live in a nice suburban neighboorhood.   Many people have dogs.   Most of the people have electric fenses, traditional fences (wood), or keep thier dogs leashed when outside.   There are several, thouhg that do not do anything.   I have a small Caviler King Charles Spaniel.   When I take her for walks I know there are streets to avoid because in the past the free roaming dogs have come up to us.   My dog is very shy and will run around me.  The free roaming dogs wll usually chase her and it's very scary.\n\nYesterday while taking her for a walk a neighboor yelled- \"hey buddy! get back here.\"  I turned to see a small white dog running at us.  Since it was about hte same size as my dog I thought I'd stop it from running into the street.  Instead it snarled and lunged at my dogs neck!   In the scuffle I was able to get my dog up, but buddy was still snarling.  The owners came by and laughed and said \"I'm sorry, and told her dog not to do that again\"  Said owner then picked up her dog and placed it back on her lawn.  (again, no leash, no fence).\n\nSo what do you redditors do about the freeroaming dogs?", "summary": "My dog was attacked bu tunhurt by an off leash, unfenced dog.  "}
{"id": "t3_1s3nqq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] just broke up with my boyfriend [32M] of two years, know it was right, still feel terrible.", "post": "I just ended things with my boyfriend of two years. I did it over the phone after he had visited for Thanksgiving (he lives 5 hours away). We broke up once before (February '13) and agreed that if we gave it another go it would be the last time (either for keeps or nothing).\n\nHe is an amazing guy. Great at his job, tries so hard, loves me so much. When we got back together in Feb. he told me that he wanted to show me how much he cared about me. I thought it would make a difference. Nothing was wrong day to day. I was fine hanging out with him. But, that's how I would describe it - fine.\n\nThe problem is, I never felt a spark. He does awesome things like leave me little hidden notes when he leaves my place to go home. Buys me nice little gifts. And I feel like I should be excited and feel something, but I don't. I wasn't excited to go see him anymore, even though I enjoyed spending time with him. It just wasn't there. I would keep going but I can't help but think about what that means for the long term. In ten years, if we got married, would I still feel this way?\n\nHe fought for me and wants to keep fighting, but I don't think this is something that can be worked on. \n\nI know that I crushed him. And I feel terrible. I've decided that the cliche of \"I love him, but I'm not in love with him\" is pretty darn accurate. I care about him and want him to get through it. I know he will. I know it's best. But fuck does it feel terrible.\n\nJust wanted to let it all out.", "summary": "broke up with boyfriend of two years who would do anything for me, but no spark"}
{"id": "t3_4xkxb7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving my number for a server and not tipping", "post": "About a week ago I went to my favorite sports bar here in Arizona. It's self-seating so my buddies and I sit down at a table near the back of the bar. Our server, a girl, call her J comes over, cute, short girl, takes our orders and walks away. I lean over to my buddy and tell him she was cute and that I think I'm gonna leave my number. Fast forward through awkward flirting and such while we eat and drink for about an hour, checks come, I leave her a note saying I thought she was cute and that I would love to buy her a drink sometime with my number.\n\nYesterday I went back to that sports bar after I hadn't heard from her. Different group of people but turns out she is our server again. She says she remembers me so I call her by her name and have a good meal. This time when the checks came, I grabbed my card and I shut my book. This morning when I woke up, I realized I forgot to fill out the tip portion of my bill. I am a server and now she probably thinks I didn't tip because she didn't text me.", "summary": "Left my number for a server, came back a week later without hearing from her and had the same server, forgot to tip."}
{"id": "t3_13hrv5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25/m]Needs assistance not being so awkward, story inside (23/f)", "post": "So, here we go. I am kicking myself hardcore, and I really need to stop being so fucking awkward in relationship scenarios.\n\nThe other night I had a little party and had some friends over, and they brought one of their friends. Very cute girl, we have talked a few times prior to party night, and we seem to be fairly comparable. So I am pretty excited that she will be coming over. We had made plans to hang out a few times previously, and things kept popping up that made us change the day of our hang outs. \n\nWell, the night progresses, and much liquor is consumed. People are getting ready for bed, and picking their spots to pass out/sleep, and some how she and I are in my bed with some crappy TV show on. Shes 99% naked as am I, and I froze. Completely froze, did not do anything, didnt make a move, didnt even hint at anything. Just layed there staring at the TV with this mostly naked girl in my bed.\n\nNothing ended up happening, but we do have plans to hang out at her place again fairly soon, and I need help. I need to not be that dumbass again and just sit there with my thumb in my bum, but for some reason I couldnt do anything to stop myself from being super awkward, and I fear that it will happen again next time we see each other. \n\nI think the majority of my nervousness came from not wanting to say something stupid, Ive been in 2 LTR my entire life (totaling about 10 years combined), and its been easily 10 years since Ive been in the early stages of dating, and I am terrified that I will say/do something retarded and scare this girl away.\n\nNot quite sure if this is even the place to post this, but I couldnt think of anyplace better so here it is. I am a bit drunk as I type this so if it doesnt make sense, please spare me.", "summary": "Fucked up a fun time with new girl, and would like advice on how to not be a dweeb anymore."}
{"id": "t3_3phbkv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Uni&Work&Money - 21y/m in EU", "post": "Hi everyone, I've been following this and others related subreddits for quite some time now but I need some specific input now, hope you guys can help me.\n\nI started university in my home-town this year, looking at 5+ years of education (3 BA + 2 MA). I have an evening job on the side which I'm unsure wherever its worth keeping or not. \n\nMy $ situation:\n\n**Assets&Income**:\n\n1.5k checking account; 28k savings (1%); 7.5k mixed fund (2-3%~/y in the last 10 years)\n\n300+/mo from parents; 700/mo from side job; 150+/mo others (granparents, gifts,...)\n\ntotal: **1150+/mo - 30k cash - 7.5k invested**\n\n**Expenses**:\n\n80 phone; 200 eating out; 200 going out; 50 fuel+parking; 60 others\n\ntotal: 590/mo\n\n2000/year university fees; 3000/year vacations; 650/year technology \n\ntotal: 5650/yearly\n\n**->12730/year or 1060/month**\n\nNow, assuming that the situation will not change for at least 3 years, I wonder, is it worth it to keep my job in order to have ~200 per month to invest/save?\n\nIf I stop working, my parents will cover more of my expenses, which I'll try to lower, but I'll still have to withdraw ~200+/month from savings. \nBut, I'll enjoy more my time as a student and probably perform better at school.\n\nEither way, there are at least 10k of my saving which I will not need for 5+ years, I was thinking 2.5k in existing fund, 5k new fund and 2.5k stock?", "summary": "working during college to save 200/mo or concentrate on studying while withdrawing 250/mo from sufficient saving?*"}
{"id": "t3_2gy6zx", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Biggest career lesson so far", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI have wanted to get this off my chest for a bit. I had a good, comfortable job that gave me promotions and raises but I, due to my stupidity, decided to leave that job for something new. I left my job thinking I will learn new technologies and do something more exciting than what I was currently doing. \n\nWell the new job has turned out to be nothing but the opposite. The work I am doing right now is mundane and boring. I am basically couple of months into this job has already started to hate it. I dread going into work every day and I have no motivation to do this work. All day at work all I can think about is why did I even leave my previous job? At this point I cannot even justify why I did it. The saddest part is all the red flags were there before I accepeted the offer but I just couldn't see it. I was consumed by the idea of a job change and doing something \"new\" that I forgot to take other factors into consideration. I feel like an idiot at this point. I think whenever they do an evaluation I will get fired as my performace has been piss poor. I just feel like crying at this point.\n\nThis is my first job change and it has been an eye opener. I think only positive is it to learn from this experience and move on but it will be a tough journey. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Left a happy job for something new which turns out to be a nightmare"}
{"id": "t3_46bx9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(37m): A Good friend's(36m) little sister(30ishF) asked me out over facebook. How to decline and not hurt her feelings or make it weird.", "post": "Here's a new situation for me.  I go to my friends parent's I've know since high school often and run his little sister there on occasion.  I don't know her well, we have never really spoken much, so I don't know much about her, but she's just not my type.  Well, she asked me out for a drink.  She contacted me on Facebook and tells me in her message that her mom prodded her to do it.   How do I respectfully decline without making things weird when I go over there with apparently the entire female side of the family.", "summary": "friends little sister asked me out.  How do I decline without making things weird."}
{"id": "t3_21v8dk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Got hissed at by an old lady today", "post": "Let me start by saying that I've never helped an old lady cross the street. Not to say that I am opposed to doing so, but I've never been presented the opportunity. Come to think of it, I've also never seen anyone else help a senior citizen cross the street. Seems a bit out dated nowadays.\n\nAnyways, earlier today I was standing with another guy waiting to cross an intersection. It was pretty windy out, and as I was looking around I see an old lady walk up to the intersection to cross with me and this other dude. I glance at her as she is walking up to us from about 10 feet away and she kind of has her arm stretched out and wobbling like she is trying to keep her balance in the wind or something. Seemed a bit odd, but it was windy so I figured whatever, I'll let her do her thing. Didn't want to stare and bother her.\n\nI continue chillin out waiting to cross and when I look back over I notice that she has grabbed the other guy's hand and is staring directly at me with her neck stretched in my direction. I smile and ask \"How are you doing today?\", to which she hisses through her teeth at me and replies, \"Piss off, I asked for help you little pisser and you ignored me\". \n\nI swing my surprised gaze up to look the other guy, who is also pretty astonished and shrugs his shoulders. The intersection then turns to green and I apologize to the lady, to which she continues to mutter about how I should piss off.", "summary": "Be alert for old people who want help crossing the street, or else you will be called a pisser."}
{"id": "t3_31g8xq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] It feels like my relationship with my girlfriend (20/f) is falling apart and I'm not sure why", "post": "So I have a girlfriend who I've been dating for almost 9 months now and since the end of December, we've been in a long distance relationship. We were doing pretty well, but ever since about a week ago, she hardly even speaks to me. She hardly responds to my texts, and when I asked her if anything was wrong, she said she was busy with work, but she always seems to be posting things on facebook. I really do love her, but it's start to feel like she isn't interested in this relationship anymore... It's been a while since I've been in a relationship before this one and I'm really not sure what to do...", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't talking to me and I'm not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_coc6k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best ways to mess with the credit card companies' postage paid envelopes?", "post": "I'm sure that this has been discussed a thousand times, but let's have another go at it.\n\nI pay off my CCs each month, have good credit, blah blah blah.\n\nHowever, I'm feeling mischievous and annoyed at Chase, which sends me 2-3 CC applications a week.  Shredding them is a PITA, and just mailing random junk back in the postage-paid envelopes is getting old.\n\nI know that this is childish, bad karma, etc etc, but I'd like to mess with the CC companies (though I know that the people dealing with the fallout will be the poor $8/hour employees in the mail center).  That being said, my requirements are that such messing with the CCs be:\na) **Legal**\nb) **Quick** (under 20 secs per CC offer)\nc) **Cheap and easy** on my part (no bricks- too much heavy lifting, and the post office makes you ship packages over 13 oz in person in any event)\nd) **Safe and sanitary** (no rotting meat or dog crap in the mail, for example)\n\nI know that major companies use automatic machines to cut open envelopes, remove the contents, etc, and I've heard that a healthy dose of glitter will gum these machines up (sounds logical to me).  That's my best idea so far.\n\nAlso, if any one has any practical ways to use CC offers (I'd use them to heat my home, for example, but I lack a fireplace, and the envelopes aren't blank on the back, so I can't use them for shopping lists), I'd love to hear them.  Shredding them and using them for animal bedding (\"My hamster shits on your puny offer, Chase!\") would be great if I had pets.", "summary": "What's the best (easy, safe, legal, cheap) and/or most creative way to use credit card postage paid envelopes to have some fun?"}
{"id": "t3_25qo5f", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Back in grade school, we were taught that racism was wrong, but we were never taught that homophobia was.", "post": "To clarify, I am a junior at a state university, and my parents made me go to a Christian school during my last years of high school. Before then, I spent my elementary and middle school years at a small public school in Texas.\n\nThe other day, I was mentoring a freshman in high school (I volunteer), and somehow, we got into this big discussion about the HIV scare of the 1980s and how any man who has had sex with another man cannot legally donate blood. He blatantly said that that was wrong and discriminatory. \n\nBased on how my years in grade school went, I was ready to hear him make a joke about gay sex, or talk about how he views it as unnatural. That's not to say that my school was a microcosm of other schools elsewhere, but I have never been in a public school setting where a student openly had no problem in the world with gay people. In fact, I was raised in a small town filled mostly with conservative baptists, so before high school, they never even taught us anything about gay people even existing. In high school, the teachers would tell us that homosexuality was sinful and that we shouldn't support it. \n\nAll of these things accounted for a pretty shitty grade school experience, where in high school, I couldn't tell people that they were bigoted as fuck without getting in trouble. They basically came about the whole issue with the \"Hate the sin, not the sinner\" approach, trying to maintain views they think are biblical while trying to adapt with the times. \n\nThat being said, that was the first time I have ever heard someone in high school openly say that discriminating against gay people is wrong. I felt really happy having heard it, and it reassured me that there isn't as much shittiness in the world as I have been exposed to. I just wish this attitude was instilled in other students, and that public schools can actually be upfront about the fact that gay people exist and deserve to be treated the same as everyone else.", "summary": "Heard something anti-homophobic in a grade school setting for the first time in my life."}
{"id": "t3_jamhi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Waiter's Or Lawyers that can help me out?", "post": "I work at historic and well known seafood restaurant along the Texas gulf shore. I've busted my ass for 3 years working my way up to a waiter's position. You work your way up from scrubbing dishes, prepping fish and shrimp, and cooking. Then you can start waiting once an opening in the wait staff is available. I make about $450 to $550 waiting 3 days a week there. Here is my problem:\n\nMy manager singles me out bad mouths my service and belittles me in front of the owner in order to get me sent back into the kitchen. The owner believes 100% of what comes out of her mouth. She is racist and plays favorites. 90% of the employees hate her due her lack of professionalism(She yells at employees in front of customers) and in-ability to properly manage a restaurant. When I try to talk to the owner about how she treats me he disappears. He is non-confrontational, hard to read, and hates to admit he's wrong.   And tomorrow maybe my last day of waiting tables. Today she took me out of rotation for 45 min citing I was .\"having a hard time.\" I had one table of 20 and they were finishing cake for dessert. I tried to take another table to ease the workload for my fellow waiters she took it away from me and yelled at me in front of customers paying \"You will go in rotation when I say you can go in rotation!\" I shut my mouth but took orders and brought drinks for other waiters. \n\n***(", "summary": "My racists childish manager is singling me out for demotion or possible termination.)"}
{"id": "t3_xx65m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I no longer have romantic feelings for my girlfriend of over a year and I'm not sure what I should do. Help? Myself M[19] her F[19]", "post": "To start off we have been dating for around 14 months and the vast majority of that time has been great. Obviously we have had ups and downs like most relationships but nothing too serious or deal-breaking. She is one of the nicest most caring people I have ever met and she has always been a ton of fun to be around. \n\nThe issue is that over the last couple months I have basically lost all interest in a romantic relationship with her. It's not anything that she has done specifically I just do not have the same feelings I once had. I have been strongly considering ending things but I am having an extremely hard time doing it because I still care about her and would never want to hurt her, but I know that no matter what I do I'm going to. \n\nEvery other time that I have ended a relationship it has been over a significant unresolvable issue such as cheating. I am completely unsure how to move forward right now.\n\n What should I do?? Any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Have basically lost all romantic feelings for girlfriend but I still care about her and am unsure on how I should end things and let her down easily or if I should even break up with her right now."}
{"id": "t3_2q8w3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I (15M) tell my crush (15F) that I kinda sorta want to be more than friends?", "post": "I've already vented about my crush on Zoey (not her real name) before, but I've moved past the angsty, do-I-really-feel-this-way-about-her stage and onto the okay-how-the-hell-am-I-going-to-tell-her-how-I-feel stage. Which, of course, is what brings me here.\n\nI would love to take Zoey on a date, but I have absolutely no idea what to do. I cannot drive yet (and, unless I'm really far behind the 8-ball, Zoey can't, either; perhaps this is an indicator that I'm way too young for this stuff, or perhaps not), and I'm not sure what we would do, anyway, which is an obvious and large impediment. We have a good deal in common, like our involvement in our school's drama club, our friend groups, our classes, etc., but I still run short when it comes to ideas. Having not exactly been blessed with a knack for having these kinds of conversations, my aim is really to not sound awkward, however I do it. And I really don't want to tell my parents yet because they'll just grill me with unanswerable questions. \n\nOne thing is working in my favor, though: communications. A few weeks ago, while Zoey and I were hanging out with several of our mutual friends, she gave me and one of our mutual friends her number (this mutual friend, a guy 2 years our senior, is no one to be suspicious of in this regard, or any other). Zoey doesn't have my number yet, though. That's another question I have, in case anyone read this far: since I am on Christmas break for a little under 2 weeks, should I text Zoey or just wait until after break, when I can give her my number personally?\n\nI don't know how to tell Zoey how I feel, or how to ask her on a date, given the circumstances. You're my only hope, reddit. What should I do?", "summary": "I don't know how to tell my crush how I feel about her. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1ur1nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my ex-boyfriend [18/M] Trying to help him cope with loneliness and depression", "post": "I broke up with my boyfriend of two years in October for multiple reasons I don't want to list right now. \nWhether he wants to admit it or not, I truly believe he has depression and anxiety disorder. My father has the same thing so I am a little familiar with the symptoms. My ex-boyfriend talked to a counselor over the summer but he didn't like what the counselor had to say so he quit talking to him. \nWhen we broke up, things got worse. He stopped showing up to his classes and ended up failing four of them and partied way too hard. I've been trying to maintain a friendship with him because I still care about him and I think part of me is still in love with him. I just don't want to get back together with him. I was miserable in the relationship. \nNow, the friendship is almost as stressful as the relationship was. He will call me crying about how lonely he is or how his parents keep threatening to pull him out of school. We will be on the phone for hours and it drives me crazy. \nHe also still wants to be physical with me (like cuddling or just wanting me to hold him) whenever we are together. I'm trying to move on and whenever I tell him how uncomfortable it makes him we get in another fight. \nI feel like such an ass hole though. Not only did I break up with him, I'm also being a shitty friend for not wanting to deal with him. I feel so guilty over this and I don't know what to say or do to make it better. I can't just not talk to him. I can't do that to him. He really doesn't have anyone.", "summary": "I don't kn0w how to help my ex-boyfriend cope with his issues without driving myself crazy."}
{"id": "t3_fpr3z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever built a telescope? Or at least attempted?", "post": "Hey Reddit -  Lately, (thanks to Carl Sagan's 'Cosmos', Bill Bryson's 'A Short History of Nearly Everything,  and some of the links that have been gracing the front page) I have been on a bit of an astronomy kick.  \n\nSince I am a senior in college and have quite a bit of downtime available, I have decided to embark on the DIY project of constructing my own telescope.... the only problem is I have no idea where to begin. I've found a few links via google, and might do some searches at our library, but I figured the best place to start would be with asking others who have done the same thing. \n\nSo that being said, if you have ever built a telescope, or at least attempted, I would love to hear how you started as well as any books, websites, diagrams, instruction manuals, etc. you may have used to assist you. Also any pro-tips for a girl with little to no 'handy man' experience apart from assembling some target bookshelves.  Thanks DIYers.", "summary": "I want to build a telescope to look at space and shit. Where do I start?"}
{"id": "t3_277sdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've (23m) been planning on moving to the other side of the world for my girlfriend (25f) of one year and she's just told me she doesn't want to live together", "post": "We've been together for one year now and whilst it's far from the perfect relationship we both love and care about each other a lot and I can't picture my life without her.\n\nShe was offered a job starting after the summer 6000km away from where we live right now and she took because she has always dreamed of living there. With a bit of hard work, I also managed to find a job in the same city.\n\nWe've known about this for around 6-8 weeks I think, and I had simply assumed that we'd be moving in together. She was very anxious and depressed in the period during which we weren't certain whether I'd also be able to come, as was I. \n\nLast night however this came up in conversation, she sort of looked at me puzzledly and said 'I don't want to live together though'. I was fairly stunned by this, maybe I shouldn't have but I just took it for granted that this was happening. Although we don't actually live together right now we spend every day and night together and have done since we met.\n\nHer reasons for this were that she's too young at 25 to move in with someone, and that she doesn't want to have to have me around when we argue. The thing is, I'm giving up a lot to make this move for her, to a very different culture and country where my language skills are extremely limited and I don't know or have anyone other than her. I would never in a million years move there if it wasn't what she wanted, and I genuinely find the idea of living on my own there terrifying.\n\nThis is kind of a dealbreaker for me, to be honest. I just assumed that if I'm moving 6000km to be with you that we were at a point where we could move in together. Am I asking too much? Does anyone have any advice?\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "moving 6000km to be with my girlfriend of 1 year but she wants to live separately."}
{"id": "t3_w0iil", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: I am having midnight worries about worldly issues, specifically environmental ones. How can we fix them, if at all?", "post": "I'm one of those people who tend to sit up and worry at night. Mostly about personal issues, but the recent storm that knocked out power for days at my house has gotten me to thinking about the environment. My dad told me, when I asked, that he hasn't ever seen weather get quite this weird in his life (He's 54.) The media is, of course, starting up it's blaming of climate change/el nino/la nina/Obama/Aliens/etc. for the weather.\n\nWith problems from Global Warming to Peak Oil facing Earth's next generation, how best do we solve issues of this magnitude? Can we do it? At what cost?", "summary": "Worried about the environment. How do we fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2dpg71", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I broke down working at a fast food joint", "post": "Its more like a gas station food place like Sheetz, if you've seen them. Only two people working in a kitchen that make a wide variety of everything fast food. Tacos, subs, burgers, fries, salads, fish, chicken, stomboli, pizza, w/e.  \n\nWhen I took the job, I thought it would just be cake. Go in for like 10-15 hours a week for some quick cash and leave. Its funny because I knew there was a really high turn over rate for this place. But I wouldn't be posting here if it wasn't that.  \n\nThere was a lot of political stuff like co-workers not working and just texting or my manager boosting my 10-15 hour work week to 35 hours while I was in school full time.\n\nBut the main thing that drove me to give up was asshole customers. One in particular on my very last shift there was the worst. It was early Saturday morning and I was changing out the coffee...because we went through a lot in the morning. While I was fixing another coffee machine for an older lady, two of the other five or so coffee machines went dry. This guy just got so mad at me, saying \"what a worthless waste of life, do you do anything right in your life?\" and just ran off.\n\nI was just shocked, and really took it to heart. After I settled the coffee situation, I took a bathroom break and and said to hell with any \"masculinity\" in me and just broke down and started crying. \n\nSo I left a note saying I was leaving my employment...and burned all bridges by not doing it properly with a few weeks notice because either way...the managers would have been mad. Though from all of it, I realized how shitty retail and fast food actually is. Never ever would I look down on someone working those types of jobs who mess up. This was over a year ago now, I work at my campus bookstore now stocking items...so much better.", "summary": "Don't insult someone working retail or fast food until you've worked it."}
{"id": "t3_4yrgq0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By getting really high and laughing uncontrollably at the worst possible time during my aunts' story.", "post": "This happened last night. So we have a family gathering at our grandparents place every summer, my cousins smoke a lot of weed and hash and we were smoking most of the night out in their tent. About 1am rolls around and we go inside for some snacks. Sure enough there's my aunt in the kitchen and she starts telling a story and it is really hard to hang on because we are all so blazed. I dont know how she didn't notice but about 5 minutes in I look over at my two cousins and they haven't blinked, their eyes are so red and they're making the exact same face while they listen to her story. At this point I can't contain my laughter at the situation and I burst out laughing. Just as I'm laughing my aunt says how someone in her story lost her husband to cancer. She paused for a long time and gave me the weirdest look, the room went very silent. It really sounded like I was laughing about it and I quickly followed it up by saying I wasn't laughing about that and that I just had a funny thought. She then left rather quietly. I still don't think she knows how high we were and she hasn't said a word to me since last night.", "summary": "Absolutely blazed, had a laughing attack while my Aunt was telling us about one of her friends husbands dying of cancer."}
{"id": "t3_4km3ec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mum [42 F] thinks my dad [52 M] is cheating on her, what advice do I [25 F] give her?", "post": "My dad cheated on my mum 12 years ago, it was a very messy affair and he never admitted it, even though his secretary called mum and told her everything, dad moved out for a couple of months and mum \"forgave him\" and he moved back.  \n\nHe now works overseas and comes home every 10 weeks. He just left but this time he was acting very different, not paying attention to the family and had his phone on him at all times. Mum said she asked him what was going on but he didnt say anything. She caled me crying today saying she has the same feeling she did when it happened the first time. \n\nMy advice to her was to go to speak to lawyers and get something ready as i believe he'd be the biggest c__t if he was doing it again.\n\nWhat else can I do to help her? we live in different states...", "summary": "Mum thinks dad is cheating on her again. What advice do i give her?"}
{"id": "t3_2swney", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] somehow got myself into a love triangle involving my girlfriend [19/f] and my ex [19/f].", "post": "My ex and I broke up almost a year ago just before she went on a 4-month Euro-trip. I was crushed, but she insisted I move on, and so I tried my best to do so by basically cutting her out of my life.\n\nThree months ago I started dating my current girlfriend, and things have been going smoothly. Last night I was at a party and my ex was there, as was her boyfriend, and my girlfriend. My girlfriend left early, and my ex's boyfriend had too much to drink and passed out.\n\nNearing the end of the night, my ex asked me if we could talk for a bit, and I agreed. We went outside, made some small talk, she took me around the side of the house where we couldn't be seen and... she burst into tears. She confessed about how she was convinced that her and I would get back together when she came back, how she misses me, how things have been really hard in general, etc. and it felt truly awful to see her hurting.\n\nAfter the tears were mostly gone, we looked deeply into each other's eyes, and we came far too close to kissing. It took everything I had to tell her that I couldn't, and I walked away, but I really, really wanted to. Even though I didn't do anything physical with her, I feel like I've been unfaithful to my current girlfriend, because of the emotional connection I felt with my ex last night. I've never felt so conflicted. Any input would really be appreciated.", "summary": "I'm an asshole and I need help figuring out what to do."}
{"id": "t3_16amco", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "concerned that i'm pregnant [nsfw]", "post": "i don't know why, but i go paranoid parrot on everything. i don't know why, but i'm just super paranoid.\n\nover the break, my boyfriend came over and i gave him oral, kissed him, and then he performed the act on me, too. he didn't release his seeds, but i wasn't sure if there was pre-ejaculate. what if i had transferred some to him when i kissed him, and then when he was pleasing me, both orally and digitally, he might have pushed something in!??!\n\ni've been freaking out and googling the crap out of everything, which only leads me to stumble onto more new facts which leads to throw it into my PARANOID PARROT cauldron and i'm just super panicking. but i can't get a blood test or anything. \n\nlafkdjfalskdfjlaksd i don't know i keep like pressing everything on my body to check for tenderness and just poking and pulling at my stomach and i don't know why i'm a paranoid parrot. i've gone through phrases where i was like 'what i think i have cancer' or 'i think i have ((insert name of some disease))'. \n\nit was just really bothering me and i couldn't tell anyone because, well, no one sees me as a sexual being.", "summary": "scared that i'm pregnant because of shenanigans"}
{"id": "t3_3kzv8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my wife [40 F] 20 years together, 6 abortions.", "post": "My wife and I have been together for 20 years and we are childfree. My wife has had 6 abortions in the years we have been together. I am staunchly pro-choice. But even I think that 6 abortions is excessive. It's an unnecessary expense, and also a *medical procedure* that comes with risks. I know that birth control fails sometimes, but my wife is very irresponsible about birth control in general. \n\nWe use condoms usually but she is often forgetful about taking her birth control. The first two times were just mistakes. We had unprotected sex and the other was after a night of drinking and partying. Both times we forgot to use condoms. The third time we were very careful about using birth control. Or at least, *I* was. She said she stopped taking her pills because she wanted to lose 10 lbs before we went for our vacation in Perth\u2026and she didn't even tell me. \n\nI'm not sure if she takes her birth control at the same time every day, because I trust her to and checking everyday seems controlling and unnecessary to me. Since then, we have had three more unexpected pregnancies. \n\nI have brought up getting a vasectomy but she said she doesn't want me to get one. Tubal ligation? She also refused that as she doesn't want to go for elective surgery. IUD? No, she doesn't want anything invasive or anything stuck on her uterus. She doesn't want to try other, possibly more effective forms of birth control like the Depo shot. \n\nI'm seriously getting really annoyed at this point. I definitely support her choice to terminate the pregnancy 100% but I think it could be prevented if she would be more responsible about taking her pills. Should I just go ahead and get a vasectomy without her consent? How can I convince her to try other birth control methods that won't be affected by her forgetfulness or wanting to lose 10 lbs? My wife says 6 abortions in 20 years is nothing and I'm overreacting. Am I? this is so frustrating especially since she is generally very mature and responsible in other areas.", "summary": "Wife doesn't take birth control seriously. How to convince her to try other forms of bc? Am I overreacting to 6 abortions in 20 years? "}
{"id": "t3_4zw9td", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Louisiana] need help understanding section VII and BFOQ", "post": "Sorry if something is wrong in this post, this is a first for me. \n\nWall of text incoming\n\nTerminology:\nBFOQ=Bona-fide Occupational Qualification \nSection VII= says it's illegal to discriminate.\n\n     The past.    I recently applied to a job at a place a friend of mine works. HE is a host there. I have applied for the host position as they need 2 and I know that the other host will be leaving soon. I was nearly given the job on the spot, however the owner of the restraunt said something to the manager (in a foreign language) and I was then told to expect a call with more information later.\n      The present.     I received information from my friend who works there that the manager told HIM they do not hire male hosts. I'm sure you see the confusion this caused me. I immediately looked around the Web for info on hiring discrimination and came a cross section VII and BFOQ. \n     The future.     I will be going back In a few days to further inquire about employment as I was never given a straight answer.\n     The question/", "summary": "If when I go back I am told I will not be hired based on my gender, what can I do to utilize section VII and the fact that there is no way being a female is a BFOQ for being a host at a resteraunt."}
{"id": "t3_2nxbny", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have a girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, that doesn't want to kiss or have sex", "post": "I don't want to sound like typical i-wanna-sex-guy. Me and my girlfriend are together for about 2.5 years and most of it was very long distance relationship. We love each other, i can confirm that, but i feel like something is wrong. \n\nI was poor as hell and we couldn't meet each other very often. First it was one time a week for a whole day. Later on when i was even more far away to visit her i needed to pay for a place to sleep, train and in my country it was very expensive for me.\n\nBut let's back to the problem. In the whole relationship i kissed her only ONCE, while she always want to cuddle/hug/look at me. While we slept together, she had only pants on her so it was even more provoking. She likes to talk about sex, she isn't shy at all and i'm her first boyfriend ever. But everytime i want to delicate touch her in private parts or just kiss her after few hours of cuddling, she just tells \"i dont want to\" and move her head. I'm not forcing anything, just trying slowly every .. month? \n\nI'm the guy that is happy with just giving her pleasure but i feel so unatractive at the moment that sometimes i don't even want to meet her to avoid that. I tried to talk about it, but she is completely silent and waits with a sad face. She didn't had any problems with it in past that could block her.\n\nRecently after so much hard work i moved out close to her. Thought that she don't wanna start till that day, but nothing changed. Am i a bad guy that want sex and can't deal with it? I just can't break up with her after everything we gone through :(", "summary": "After 2.5 years my girlfriend still doesn't want to kiss or have sex (and even talk about it) and it's very hard for me."}
{"id": "t3_256opu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaving Skype open.", "post": "So I'll have to start this with a confession.  I'm a furry.  A damn horny one.  And kinky.  One thing I like to do is have erotic roleplays online with other furries.\n\nI was having a rather sexy conversation with a good buddy of mine on Skype while working on some other things.  I heard a knock on the door of my dorm, which was a friend that I was expecting over at some point, I just didn't know when.  As is my typical safety measure, I opened up Skype real quick to set it to Do Not Disturb, that way I won't have any embarrassing notifications pop up in the corner of my screen.\n\nI open up the door and let her in.  She starts to idly look around my room as she usually does while I was distracted with something else.  I turn around and see her staring at my laptop screen.  Then I realized I left my Skype window open.  Fuck.  She had read all of the conversation that was visible, which included many mentions of snuggling into fur, stripping nude, and rubbing cocks together.\n\nShe took it well and laughed about it a bit.  Fortunately today was the last day of the semester and I won't see her again until the fall, when she'll have hopefully forgotten about it.  What has me really relieved was that the conversation wasn't scrolled up just a bit, where she would have seen that it was an incest scene between two brothers.", "summary": "I accidentally let a friend see my kinky furry gay incestuous roleplay conversation on Skype."}
{"id": "t3_4h8zye", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to respond to a job offer from your employer if you have an interview scheduled in a week with the company you really want to work for.", "post": "Hello fellow redditors,\n\nI am currently working for company A on a temporary contract basis which expires May 9th 2016. As I did not hear any offers from them I started my job search and got 2 interviews lined up (companies B and C). One of the interviews is with a company B which is a company I really want to work for but unfortunately they can only interview me this Friday. My current employer suddenly \"woke up\" at the end of last week and asked me to stay on a permanent basis with the same salary as before. I politely declined his offer because I know I can find a better deal elsewhere.\n\nThe next day company A asked me what's the minimum salary I would accept and I shot a number at them which I thought they would not accept (this company is a little bit cheap with its employees). To my surprise they told me that they are trying to negotiate with the higher management and will let me know their final decision tomorrow. I am also supposed to hear from company C tomorrow but that company apparently does not have any benefits so I would not be interested in working there. \n\nWhat should I do if company A will accept my counter offer? Should I be honest and tell them that I am waiting to hear from a company of my first choice? I really want to be as professional as possible and leave on good terms. There are number of things I don't like about company A such as location, organizational structure so I am really ready to leave but of course if I don't get an offer from company B then it would make sense to stay here at least for now.", "summary": "Might get an offer tomorrow from my current employer to stay permanently with them, have an interview scheduled for my dream job only next Friday. How to politely and professionally deal with my employer while I wait for a response from my dream job?"}
{"id": "t3_omghg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "How do you get started?", "post": "Help me, r/loseit, you're my only hope.  I don't know what else to do to motivate myself to loose weight.  Nothing sticks.  I've gotten angry.  I've gotten sad.  I've gotten mad at myself.  I've tried rewarding myself (new purse, nails done, etc.) for working out or counting calories.  I've tried \"doing it for them...\" so I can watch my kids grow up.  I've tried doing it for me...so my knees don't ache, so I have more energy.  But I always slide back into that bottomless abyss of apathy...it doesn't require any momentum to just stay the way I am.\n\nI've been diagnosed with depression, I'm on meds.  My therapist swears that the weight itself is what is contributing to my apathy...but my apathy is why I don't loose weight. (And no, she's not saying my weight is my only problem. She's not like that).  \n\nI know what to do.  I'm not dumb.  I understand the math and science behind it.  I just don't do it.\n\nI have some spark of fight in me.  I'm tired of hurting.  I know if I workout, it will hurt...  I'm 5'4\" and 300 pounds.  But dammit, I will hurt on my own goddamn terms...because I did something, not because I sat too long.  But I say that, and then I delude myself that counting calories only with be enough for today.  And I sit some more.", "summary": "Loseit, what can I do to get really, truly, stick-with-it motivated?"}
{"id": "t3_34wblv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am a student with my BF [24M] of 2 months who has a job. How do we go about paying for dates?", "post": "My BF makes about 1k after tax each week, while I am a broke college student. I can't work since I'm an international student. He often suggests eating out and our meals usually cost $20-30, tips included (which is one hour of work for him). He always asks for one check and pays for the meal. I always go to his place for the weekend because my dorm room is super small, so we don't cook and just eat out maybe three times over the weekend.\n\nI feel bad about letting him pay but I can't afford dinner for two so sometimes I buy him a drink or get movie tickets. I still feel bad about him paying for almost everything so how do I go about this? Should I just let him pay (he doesn't seem to mind at all but it bothers me. I don't want to be a gold-digger)? Please give me some suggestion! \n\nHe also paid for everything (dinner and drinks) on our first date, even though I said I'd buy him a drink since he already got dinner. He's really nice and I don't want him to do all the work in this relationship. Any comments, advice and suggestion would be appreciated!", "summary": "Boyfriend pays for almost everything and doesn't seem to mind. I'm a broke college student. How do I contribute to the relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_30bykw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing obvious signs", "post": "So im a cashier at a grocery store, and normally while on register you dont really see too much, ill get the occasional middle aged woman that calls me cute, or a hottie will come through my line, but other than that not much. A few days ago I was working and it was probably 5 minutes before closing time. I was on register ringing up the 2nd to last customer in the store. I start with the usual auto pilot questions (\"Hi, did you find every thing okay\") and blabity blah. She had a bunch of vegan cupcakes that we make in the store and stuff so I asked her what the occasion was, she said her birthday was coming up. And then I proceeded to do the thing that you never do which is guess a womans age, luckily I guessed low. Im 18, I guessed she was 20, even though i thought she looked a bit older but i wasnt trying to get slapped. She told me she was 22. I asked if she was in grad school. She said no shes done with school for now, her major was law. \n\nas we started talking more I brought up how being 18 and not in college SUCKS for meeting girls. My last girlfriend was 22 and broke up with me because of my age. She went on to say \"age only bothers some women, I like you and your age doesnt bother me at all\"\n\"want to help me celebrate my birthday\".... \n\nBeing a cashier has made me very oblivious to women (not that i wasnt already)\n\nI said \"COOL, would you like a receipt?\"\n\nShe just kinda looked at me dissapointed and took it, and she started walking away. At this point one of my male friend co workers taps me on the shoulder and says \"dude are you stupid? go get her number, she was into you\". And then everything she said finally clicked in my head and I call her back in and give her my number on a piece of paper. She smiled and left", "summary": "Cashier at grocery store, girl im ringing up hits on me, I miss all of it and let her leave. friend saves me and i went and gave her my phone number"}
{"id": "t3_ho5rr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We've all wanted a catch phrase. Have you ever had something you think is stupid catch on?", "post": "In high school, I was involved in the teenage group of the community theater. One day, I said \"coRnfused\" instead of \"confused\" (not original, I know). It caught on and others said it all the time. It got annoying, so I started responding to usage of it with \"that's the worst kind of fusion\". I've never thought that reply was funny, and I never will.\n\nFast forward to 5 or 6 years later: my sister was in the group, so I went to see their play. After most of the crowd had cleared out, I said something about being coRnfused (I know, I have a problem) and the heads of five kids I've never met whipped toward me and said in unison, \"THAT'S THE WORST KIND OF FUSION!\" *facepalm", "summary": "High school kids tried to influence my opinion of nuclear physics by using a shitty sentence I invented."}
{"id": "t3_3mwdps", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my daughter [4F], she saw some disturbing My Little Pony stuff online. Is there anything I can do for her?", "post": "So my daughter is sick, and last night before she went to bed I let her watch some My Little Pony on the iPad while she was curled up on the couch. No problems there. However after she went to bed, and I went to bed, I guess she woke up and got the iPad. (I left it on her dresser while I put her to bed, I never thought of her getting up and getting it because she never has before). \n\nAnyways, long story short I guess she clicked around The suggested videos enough and ended up seeing a video somebody made of the my little ponies being killed. She ran out to my husband who told me about it, but he said that they cut off pinkie pies horn (?) and used it to cut open another pony. He said it was pretty bad. She was very upset and came to bed with us last night.\n\nSo we immeadeately put a passcode on the iPad and deleted YouTube (there is a YouTube kids app out there that filters out bad stuff so that she can still watch normal stuff from time to time. We don't have cable or satellite so that was the way she watched kids shows).\n\nThis morning she told me \"mommy remember when grandma died? Last night I watched the ponies die\". That is all she has said about it (I asked her, how it made her feel but she was pretty noncommittal, and I told her I was sorry she saw that). What else can I do for her? She is already kind of a timid kid when it comes to scary things, except when it comes to Halloween, which she loves. Would it be appropriate to tell her that the video was just pretend, for Halloween? Or should I not bring it up unless she does again?", "summary": "daughter saw disturbing My Little Pony video on YouTube and was terrified. How can I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_3vzxdc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] found SO's of 9 months [22F] very passionate story... about another guy", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nThrowaway account here.\n\nMy girlfriend and I met three years ago. Friend since. Time away (me in relationships and at college and her studying abroad) couldn't withstand the force of attraction between the two of us. We entered into a relationship nine months ago, right before should graduated university.\n\nI really tought all was going well, until a point one month ago.\n\nWhilst perusing our shared computer for a very romantic poem she wrote me nine months prior, I found something unanticipated.\n\nThis short story written in June, serving as a recollection of an encounter she had with a classmate around April / May.\nIncluded in this were very vivid descriptions\n* How her boyfriend doens't know and will probably never find out.\n* How this man is art and kissing him made her feel like art.\n* Descriptions of his beauty\n* They were soul mates, yada yada.\n\nAnother 'rambling' document described him as her Daisy Buchanan (for those Gatsby afficionados).\n\nI confronted her about this when she returned home from work last month.\n\nHer reasons for going through with the encounter?\n* She's insecure, she doesn't think she's enough\n* She wasn't sure whether she wanted to be with me at that point\n\nHer reason for writing the story?\n* She changed since then, she loves me now. This was meant to be written for arts sake.\n\nI kindly informed the woman that art has its limits (especially when it hurts someone you love). Promptly, I encouraged her to delete it.\nShe was so very convincing in making me believe that she has truly changed. I want to believe this, that this can never possibly happen again and that our love is indeed real.\n\nThe big thing is though: I can't stop thinking about it. I can't stop reading her messages. I can't stop looking through journals.\nNever once has reading something made me feel this sick before. We live together, for god's sake. It's so hard to hide how I feel about this one month later.\n\nMy question: How can I learn to trust again? Is it even worth trusting her?", "summary": "Found story of romantic encounter from beginning of relationship; can't stop thinking about it."}
{"id": "t3_2xzm0r", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Does my dog just miss me?", "post": "I've got a lab and German sheppard mixed pup. He's around a year and a few months and I've had him since he was about 3 months old.\n\nI just video chatted with my sister and he looks pretty mopey. They were telling me that he's uninterested in his peanut butter filled Kong and hasn't been eating much. My sister says he's been panting heavily and threw up yesterday. They don't think he's eaten anything unusual lately, but seems to be getting worse every day.\n\nI've been out of town to open a new store for 2 and a half weeks now and have about a week and a half before I can go home. Could it be that he just misses me? We opted to leave him home because he doesn't like car rides. We figured he'd be more comfortable at home with my grandparents than here in a cage while we're working.\n\nMost importantly, is there anything I can do that'll help?", "summary": "my dog is sick and acting mopey. I've been gone for 2 and a half weeks. Is it because he misses me? What can I do to help?"}
{"id": "t3_3drh3k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By listening to some guys goof off, and change my pooping technique.", "post": "Okay, I will confess that this didn't happen today. However a terribly vivid memory hit me today.\nAround 3-4 years ago I was in class and heard a group of guys joking and goofing off. One of the guys was telling his friends about the marvelous new way of dropping a deuce he discovered. He was saying shits are so much better when your legs are up.\n\nSo I get home and I get ready for a post school dump. I grab a chair and a good book and I am off to the races. I put the chair across from me and do my thing. Within a second of letting go I realized how bad I fucked up. It was like someone made a Nutella sandwich between my ass cheeks.  I must have done it wrong because the mess I made, was disastrous. I spent the next 40 minutes wiping. To this day, I am not sure if I was a victim of a cruel joke or my technique was wrong. Point is, if it ain't broke do t fix it.", "summary": "don't poop with your feet up."}
{"id": "t3_1hxcz6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] I cant get this girl (19/f) out of my head, even though I love my girlfriend (19/f), what should I do?", "post": "So here's my story, I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 months now, before I met her I was lovestruck with this one girl, I tried to get het for about 6 months but I'm shy as fuck and so it didn't happen. So I met my now girlfriend, totally fell in love with her. She's really great. As you can imagine i havn't thought about the other girl for a pretty long time, until about 4 months ago, I saw her at a party and we talked for a while had good laugh and so on. Since then I think of her more and more, saw her a few other times. Now I can't get her out of my head, I dream about her I think about her, I often just randomly go to her facebook page just to look at her face. Now the thing that scares me the most, the last 2 times when I slept at my girlfriends place i dreamt of her while sleeping with my girlfriend in my arms. \n\nThat's pretty much it, I just really don't know what to do.\n\nBy the way the other girls has a boyfriend, but it's always very flirty when we see each other and we just ramdomly smile at each other.", "summary": "I have a girlfriend which I love but I'm constatnly thinking about a girl I've had feeling for before I met my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_16slr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] can't stand to be away from him [22m] without anxiety.", "post": "I [20f] have been with him [22m] for 2 years now. We have a house together, two dogs, a cat, and are building a life for ourselves. The only thing is my anxiety when he leaves.\nI start to think about how I wish we could spend every moment together. I think about ways to spend more time with him, that include skipping school and work. I love him with all of my heart, and we have our share of problems, but how can I deal with him leaving me every day for work? I know I probably sound incredibly clingy, but when we are together I'm not overbearing. I just feel so much better when I'm with him, that I feel incomplete and somehow guilty when I do things without him.", "summary": "I get anxious and feel guilty when he leaves for work. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_j4q1c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Gay men of reddit: Am I a bigot?", "post": "I'm not using a throwaway, and I'll attempt to be as honest as I can. I'm a straight man, 26, and I've never considered myself prejudiced at all. But in the last couple of months I've come to a startling realization. \n\nGay men annoy me. \n\nIt's not hate, or discomfort. I'm against hate in any form, assuming a particular person hasn't done something to rouse my ire. I support gay marriage and consider myself an LGBT ally. I've had a lot of close gay friends - mostly through theatre - and I've kissed guys full on the lips in front of packed auditoriums 5 days a week without trepidation. As for lesbians, well, I get along better with them than with almost anyone else. I like hanging out with women, and when you take the whole \"are we gonna bang?\" tension out of the picture it's relaxing as can be.\n\nIt's not the being gay that annoys me. It's the acting gay - acting *really* gay. Everyone knows what I'm talking about. It just seems disingenuous when someone's being as flamboyant as possible. I can understand it when someone's just coming out and feels the need to express their sexual identity, or in a pride parade - go wild, I say. \n\nBut when I see adult men acting like total queens, I just want to tell them to grow the hell up. It feels the same as some good old boy chugging whiskey on his four wheeler wearing a Nascar hat and waving old glory on his way down to the still. Immature posturing. Blegh.\n\n**BUT.** I could totally be in the wrong here. I might just be an asshole. This bothers me. I've always tried to believe that people should be free to express themselves however they choose. I hope it's not the case, but are my feelings here prejudice? And, have you encountered this IRL? How do you feel about it? All love and respect to you, even if you hate me.", "summary": "I feel that overt flamboyance by gay men in everyday life is dishonest tomfoolery. Am I a bigot?"}
{"id": "t3_20jacy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] having been dating GF [21F] close to 3months, she's fairly religious, unsure how to broach sex...", "post": "Hi Reddit,\nSo new-ish relationship, shes probably the most lovely person i've ever met in my life.  Shes pretty religious but completely unphased by the fact that i'm not and not pushy with it at all which is great.  We have pretty frequent and heated hook ups, but it just never really goes anywhere which after a while kind of gets old quickly.  To be blunt, being a 23yr old male in sexless relationship is difficult and I feel like it'd be a super awkward conversation that'd wind up with her insisting on marriage first, me groaning and much un-needed tension in the relationship.  \nObviously theres no right way of doing it, but theres probably a lot of wrong ways - any advice much appreciated.", "summary": "Broaching sex with christian GF."}
{"id": "t3_vhq3p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Would you still have kids if you have a genetic disorder or ailment that can be passed hereditarily?", "post": "I have suffered from major depression and severe ADHD, among many other things my entire life, although they now think it might be Bipolar type II. There is a very strong presence of Mental Illness ranging from Depression, Schizophrenia, and OCD in my family as well as a lot of drug/alcohol abuse and dependence. \n\nI have a handle on my life, and have become good at knowing how to help control my own mental state. My ex-girlfriend had talked to me about having kids, and I told her that I would think about adopting, but explained my gene-pool, and how most things like depression and alcoholism are thought to have a genetic predisposition. And that I wouldn't want to roll the dice on my child's life, chancing giving them severe depression or some other mental illness. Her desire to actually have a baby with me, is what led to us breaking up.", "summary": "I have severe Depression and ADHD, and come from a terrible gene pool. The GF wanted to have a kid, I didn't want to risk passing my bad genes to my child, but would consider adopting."}
{"id": "t3_25zjpu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining a kindergarten nature walk", "post": "Well it all started out during lunch at my high school.  I was sitting down with a few friends cracking jokes when it hit me.  I could feel the pressure building inside waiting to erupt like a volcano. I needed to escape this situation with my dignity intact, but with the literal shit storm that was about to hit me I panicked.  I wasn't thinking rationally and rushed into the surrounding woods by my school, clutching my ass cheeks together.\n\nI finally reached a suitable spot to perform the unholy deed and dropped trow.  Unfortunately the liquified mess went everywhere and covered my shoes and legs.  Horrified at what I had just done, I proceeded to throw up everywhere covering my torso with vomit.  I was in some deep shit now.  I took off my pants and shirt and tried to clean myself up with the surrounding vegetation. It worked fairly well but the stench, my god the stench. It overwhelmed me and I had to throw up again.  At this point going back to school was not a option, and my only hope was to make it to the nurses office and have my parents pick me up.  \n\nHalf naked in a pile of my own feces and vomit I saw the terrible sight.  A kindergarten class was walking by the nature trail were I was sitting.  I gathered my clothes and ran for dear life, my heart was pounding.  The screams of the children when they found the spot where I had done my business only sped up my run.  After running through the woods for what seemed like an eternity, I realized that I couldn't live amongst the trees and vegetation. I needed to make it to the Nurse's office.\n\nI reached the building where the nurse was located.  Still smelling of raw ass and death I could not be spotted by anyone in the building.  Like Solid Snake I moved from hiding spot to hiding spot hoping to avoid everyone. Successfully I made it to the nurse's office, ran into her bathroom and threw up everywhere. I feel really bad for the janitor that had to clean up that abomination.", "summary": "Shat and vomited all over myself in the woods, kindergarteners saw it, ran for my life."}
{"id": "t3_2wlnrf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I 23[M] want to leave her 24[F] after being in a loving relationship for 6 years.", "post": "We've been best friends and have our own little weird relationships with inside jokes and what not. Just like what most people would want, however as things are getting serious I am seeing that after 6 years she hasn't really done much..not as much as I have. Her family are good people but they have a lot of issues, (thug cousins, dad takes drugs and family in general are complete opposite of mine). \n\nThe reason I mention family as one of the reasons for me wanting to break up is because i'm South Asian (Indian) even though i've hardly lived there I was born there and have a strong cultural relation to that place and I love it. She was born in Pakistan and was born there but like me lives in the UK. We have a western life with strong South Asian roots and that's exactly what I like. My family are all very educated and like to progress in life where as hers are not. I do not care about education..I care about people being motivated to do things in life, and I have seen she..aswell as her families just arent that.\n\nNow I love her, I really do. I am just scared I will go with the flow with her..get married but have families who do not want to be around each other. I am scared she does not enjoy my culture and will slowly pull me away from it by not having myself being exposed to it. I am scared she will never motivate me in life just like she doesn't really motivate me now. \n\nShe is still one of the most caring and loving people I know, I just dont want to carry on a relationship where i'm half committed. Am I being selfish? Is what i'm thinking genuine and reasonable reasons to break up with someone after so long?", "summary": "Been with GF for 6 years, both in Asian families. Her family is opposite of mine, I dont like her family. GF doesn't motivate me and isn't motivated herself. I love her, she is the best but I dont want to waste both our time."}
{"id": "t3_aov94", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How the hell do universities get away with selling new editions of \"first year\" calculus (or any math) textbooks every year?", "post": "Every year my university sells new editions of textbooks for \"first year\" calculus courses, and pays nearly nothing for the return of last year's books. This is completely ridiculous, the material is not changing, and the curriculum definitely is not changing fast enough to warrant the sale of a new edition every year.\n\nI used my father's late '70s calculus textbook for my first calculus course, and it was perfectly sufficient. And, given the fact that most professors do not use questions from the textbook for assignments (at least at my university), I just don't see the need for having all these new editions.\n\n- I'm assuming this happens at every academic institution, or am I wrong about this?\n- Are the publishers/universities/professors doing this solely to make money; is there some other justifiable reason?\n- Am I missing something here?\n- What do you think about this?\n\nNote: I understand the reasons for new editions every couple of years: to correct mistakes, add relevant examples, include sections on Maple/Matlab, etc., but again, it's the fact that it's every year that \"grinds my gears\".", "summary": "Universities (mine in particular) sell new editions of first year math books every year despite the material and curriculum remaining the same. I think it's bullshit. What do you think?"}
{"id": "t3_40h4z7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dyeing my hair grey.", "post": "So this actually happened less that 12 hours ago and I just thought about posting this. It was possibly my worst mistake ever.\n\nSo we all know about the whole grey hair trend and how awesome it looked and I wanted to be one of those people. But the problem here is I didn't have enough money for a salon so I went to a friend. Here is my first fuck up. Always go to a salon when going from jet black Virgin hair to grey. She absolutely ruined my head.\n\nThe second fuck up wasnt even my fault. I had asked for this metallic smokey grey, but she ended up trying to get my hair to this platinum blonde  and by doing that, she severely burnt my scalp. I have blisters now. And then. When she applied the dye, I was even more burnt since my scalp was already irritated. We eventually had to stop the process early because of the excruciating pain. So now, not only do I have piss yellow hair/platinum blonde, my scalp is now severely burn to the point it was bleeding. \n\nAnd the worst part is, she wants me to go back in a week to rebleach and dye it again. Nope, I'm going to a salon today and getting these Ramen noodles fixed.", "summary": "I tried something new, ended up burning my scalp and hair into smithereens cause I'm an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_vji6b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Can't stop worrying about potential break up and it's interfering with my daily life. (x-post r/relationships)", "post": "I (22 F) have been with my boyfriend (20 M) for about a year.\n\nRecently, we have been talking and he is starting to feel emotionless (says he can't control it and doesn't know anything that will help make it go away) and told me he wants to give our relationship some time to see if things can improve before we end up breaking up.\n\nEver since we've had this talk (about a week ago), I have been feeling very out-of-sorts. I have put a lot of effort into this relationship and I love him and don't want to end it. I can't help but be paranoid all the time that he is going to break up with me and worry about our relationship.\n\nSo I ask, first: what are some things that he can do to avoid losing all emotions and become (basically) a hermit, and then end up shutting me out of his life? Second: How can I stop worrying that this is definitely going to happen? I literally can't stop thinking about it and it has been interfering with my daily life. I find myself feeling nauseous, don't want to eat, getting headaches, and even just breaking down and crying.\n\nI don't want to feel this way anymore but I don't want to lose him either. It won't make me feel any better to end it with him. I truly think he is something special and we have never had any major problems in our relationship.... Please help!", "summary": "Boyfriend of a year is shutting me out accidentally and wants to see where the relationship goes before breaking up. I can't stop worrying and it is making me sick. I want to help him but I don't want to lose him"}
{"id": "t3_3agw1e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking my family on a sketchy carnival ride.", "post": "At a permanent carnival in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware on vacation.  Saw this \"Paratrooper\" ride and wanted to scare the kids and perhaps the wife a little.\n\nPicture of a paratrooper:  \nVideo of a paratrooper:  \n\nI had my five year old with me, and in the car in front of me my wife had my three year old with her.\n\nThe ride is about 40 feet of the ground at its peak and spins you around at a swift pace.  The only thing keeping you in is a single bar.  There are no seatbelts or any other kind of restraints.  The ride was operated by a pimple-nosed 15-16 year old probably making minimum wage.\n\nLong story short, the sole restraint in my wife's car failed.  She started frantically screaming.  I laughed at her until I heard her F-BOMBING and saying \"THE FUCKING BAR (restraint) IS OPEN\".  My wife clung to my three year old with one hand, and to the back of the her seat with the other.\n\nI then begged and pleaded for the operator to stop the ride each time we passed by him.  He was clueless and only stopped it after about 7-8 revolutions.\n\nApparently he couldn't understand what \"FUCKING STOP\" meant.  All the bystanders on the ground did nothing to help us, perhaps they didn't realize, but even I could realize and I was on the ride behind her.", "summary": "We went on a sketchy carnival ride, the restraints failed, operator didn't stop the ride right away."}
{"id": "t3_303kre", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [24/F] and feel like I don't have stimulating conversations with my GF (26/F) of 2 years", "post": "My girlfriend is the sweetest, most caring, selfless, person I have ever met. She is also very sociable, which I am not (I am the epitome of an INTJ), and helps me break me out of my shell.\n\nHowever, after being with her for 2 years, I have not been able to have stimulating, analytical, or deep conversations with her. I've tried to test several topics with her, just to see if she is maybe interested in one more than others. I've tried to go over things like: philosophical, economical, climate, social injustices, class disparities, religion, life values, social behavior, cultural perceptions... basically anything that could strike up a conversation where I can learn about her views on issues. But I've ended up with nothing. She either gives a bland response that doesn't carry a conversation, listens to me, or falls asleep (we usually talk right before our bedtime).\n\nIt's making me a little sad, because I've loved talking about these things with friends. I loved school and enjoyed the research that I did (i know, nerd.) but she kind of messed around throughout college and partied. I notice when we meet other people she becomes really passionate about the EDM culture, artists and activities, which I don't really care for. But to each their own. I'm a homebody.\n\nAre we just too different? Has anyone else dealt with this and made it work?", "summary": "GF of 2 years has no interest in discussing anything deeper than day to day activities or fun activities."}
{"id": "t3_4e0p25", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I found a lump on my side :/", "post": "My bath and shower are a strange shape, so I need to bend over at an angle every time I climb in. Last night, I touched my side as I was bending. I was horrified to discover a hard, protruding lump.\n\nI stood under the shower slowly letting the horror of a potential cancer dawn on me. My mum had cancer several times as I was growing up, so I knew that the first thing I needed to do in the morning was go to a doctor and schedule a biopsy.\n\nI blamed myself, of course. I knew that obesity increased the risk of cancer and I also suspected that my thick layer of fat had been hiding the tumour as it grew bigger and bigger.\n\nI touched the lump to see how big it was.\n\nOh, God! It was gigantic.\n\nOh, God! THERE WAS ANOTHER ONE.\n\nOh, God! There were at least four or five.\n\nFour or five in a row?\n\nA neat row?\n\nOh.\n\n*oh*\n\n*ohhhhhhhhhhh*\n\nThey're my ribs.\n\nAs stupid as I felt, it was a big relief.\n\nI've lost four inches off my waist this year, so I guess those ribs were going to show themselves eventually.", "summary": "I've been so fat for so long that I thought my rib was a tumour."}
{"id": "t3_3cxivi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my husband [28 M] of two years, together for 5 years, looking for advice - how to continue to be monogamous in my marriage after discovering I am polyamorous [x-post from r/polyamory]", "post": "First time posting here and I'm just looking for some advice or tips about how to healthily move forward in my situation. \n\nI've been with my husband for five years and recently have realized that I am polyamorous. I say recently realized, because it was only during the last few months that I found out there was a word for how I feel, and communities that successfully participate in various degrees of polyamorous relationships, although I've had polyamorous feelings since I was a teenager.\n\nOn the one hand I feel so happy and excited to discover there are others out there who feel the same way about love, sex and relationships that I do! On the other more realistic hand, I feel devastated that when I approached my husband with my thoughts and feelings regarding opening our relationship, he reacted very badly and is firmly, unwaveringly monogamous to the point of saying that the thought of sharing me makes him feel physically sick. \n\nI do not blame him or begrudge him for how he feels, I realize he is entirely justified in his feelings and I threw him a massive curveball with this. I was surprised at his extreme reaction, I thought we were a little more experimental, but we are committed to working things through in marriage therapy together. \n\nI love my husband very deeply and love the life we have built together. We have a very healthy and strong relationship. I have committed to being mono with him compared to being poly without him. I'm just feeling a little lost as to how to 'suppress' this side of myself that I was initially excited to discover, and which makes so much sense to me, for the sake of my marriage. Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated!", "summary": "In a monogamous marriage but have recently discovered I am polyamorous. Husband is firmly not. Want to stay together and willing to be mono for him, how do I move past these polyamorous feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_32i9y8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] and I [19M] of 2 years, potentially 'spicing' it up?", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years, and has been long distance for around 7 months now. Recently, she has made some suggestions that I find rather strange/untypical of her to make.\n\nThe first being that I find a \"sex buddy\" as she puts it. She isn't at all sexual in any way when i'm away, and thinks that I should find a friend with benefits in the meantime. (She seemed entirely serious when making this statement)\n\nThe second is that we have a foursome with another couple, the girl being a very good friend of hers. We had mentioned this previously as a joke, and don't get me wrong- her friend looks gorgeous, but she said she wouldn't want the other guy in their couple to touch her. \n\nHer good friend previously mentioned was at hers tonight, and they apparently joked about having a foursome and that they would  both be up for it. I'm a straight male, however the other male is bi, which is fine- but I wouldn't want any M-M contact. \n\nI'm quite confused and not sure what to say or do. I feel all over the place and kinda out of control, I just don't know :/", "summary": "girlfriend suggests i find a \"sex buddy\" and then proposes a foursome, not sure what to say/do"}
{"id": "t3_emgtx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Judge ordered me to pay child support on child that is not mine, refuses to force DNA test, cites Religion in reasoning. Reddit, I need your help!", "post": "I'm using a throwaway account for this post, since I don't want it to be linked back to me and affect my case.\n\nMy ex-girlfriend and I started dating about three years ago. A little over a year back, she broke up with me only to call me two weeks later, crying, to tell me that she's pregnant with my child. Since she was 20 and I was 19, I didn't think either of us would be up to the responsibility of caring for a child, so I suggested she consider having an abortion, for which I offered to pay. Being a devout Baptist, she immediately dismissed the idea and vowed to give birth to the child.\n\nThis is where the trouble really starts: After the baby was born, it became very obvious it wasn't mine; my ex and I are both white, but the baby was half black. At first, I was relieved the baby wasn't mine, but my ex would have none of it. She denied ever cheating on me and insisted that I was the father. Long story short, she filed against me for child support in family court, which takes us to what just happened today.\n\nI had my day in family court today (yes, I retained a lawyer for the occasion). Leading up to the trial, my ex refused repeated requests for a DNA paternity test, so we asked the judge to order the test, but she refused. My lawyer argued that it was scientifically impossible for me to have fathered the child since my ex and I are both white and the baby is half black. Unfortunately, the bible-thumping judge (we're in a small town in Mississippi) would have none of our science, refuting our scientific argument with her own wisdom, stating that \"the lord acts in mysterious ways\". In the end, I was ordered to pay monthly child support for a child that is not mine.\n\nMy lawyer and I are going to keep working through the family court system to try getting the paternity test and to get the child support overturned. In the meantime, is there anything I can do to get the judge reprimanded for being so blatantly biased by religion that she completely ignored my case?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend gets pregnant, claims child is mine, refuses abortion, gives birth to half-black baby (we are both white), files for child support. Family court judge refuses to order DNA test, insists that I could have fathered a baby that is half-black because \"the lord works in mysterious ways\"."}
{"id": "t3_4v4fjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (19M) girlfriend (19F) hung out with a guy once, apparently he's the \"the most perfect person\", and now he keeps being brought up all the time. Is she cheating on me?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years now. We're in a long distance relationship because of college, about a 20 hour train ride apart from one another. \n\nA couple months ago she was invited to hang out with this guy by her friend, because her friend didn't want to be alone with him. They meet, go to the beach, get dinner, walk around, and, supposedly, have an amazing time. When she tells me about it, she won't stop going on and on about how great he is, how she never thought she'd be friends with someone as positive and perfect as him, how he seems out of her league (\"in friendship\"), he reminds her of me, and basically never ending praise. \n\nThe reason they haven't hung out since is because school was ending in a week and he is taking the next semester off. She supposedly doesn't have his phone number or any other way to communicate with him, and he lives in another state. But I know nothing else about him other than all the great things she's told me. Normally when she talks about her close friends she's not this excited, she's never spoken this highly of any of her friends before, only me. \n\nSince she's brought him up, we talk about him a lot. I'll jokingly accuse her of cheating, and she'll laugh and deny it, but I'm never quite confident in her response. She'll also jokingly bring up that she's cheating with him.  But this kind of thing happens multiple times a day, almost everyday.  We're both each others first relationships and talk about how we'd never cheat or do anything like that, but the only other person she gives as much praise to is myself. And even then I feel like she's talked better about him, she's never said anything bad. Do I have to worry?", "summary": "girlfriend hung out with this guy one time, apparently he's Mr. Perfect, he's been a topic of conversation basically every day since (and it's been months since they've talked)."}
{"id": "t3_2tw7t6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 M] Unsure if my crush likes me....", "post": "So I'm kinda unsure if this girl I have a crush on likes me...\nA few of my friends think so, but i'm not totally sure.  Here are a few examples:\n\n* She was twirling her hair while talking to me\n\n* Has sat next to me for the past 3 meetings of an activity we both do\n\n* We were playing a game where you have to switch spots every other turn or so, and she would always be next to me after I moved\n\n* She laughs at my bad jokes\n\n* Once I could see her staring at me in my peripheral vision\n\nJust a few things.  We've been kinda chatting via snapchat every so often, never really gotten too far into conversation.  \n\nAny comments are appreciated :)\nThanks", "summary": "Not sure if crush likes me!!"}
{"id": "t3_3cei7b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 f] very suddenly CANNOT get over my ex [19 f]", "post": "Hey r/relationships. Throwaway for reasons. This may get too long, who knows. \n\nMy girlfriend of two years and I broke up around the end of April. It was rough. We lived together, had a dog and cat, worked together, the whole nine yards. \n\nWe broke up because I was feeling somewhat unhappy. Why? Can't tell ya. A switch just flipped one day and I wasn't feeling much of anything, which I now think is a symptom of some issues upstairs that I need to talk to my doctor about. We fought about that, we fought about her accusing me of cheating because I left so abruptly, we fought about almost anything for those few weeks she stayed at the apartment after the breakup. The fights were horribly violent, more verbally than physically. \n\nSkip forward 2 or so months ahead to now. My ex (let's call her C), is living three hours away at her parents house. She has a new job, a new life. She kept the dog (which is an issue for me, not getting into it now though lmao) and I kept the cat. I moved home to my mothers house an hour away from where we had been living together for the past year and a half.\n\nLately I've been having feelings again, though. All I can think about is C. I miss her, and I think constantly about how it'd be different if I had just kept my shit together and not left on a whim like that. C is doing lots of reckless things now that weve broken up as well, such as hooking up with a heroin addict who drives drunk to her house at all hours of the night to harrass her, picking up hitchhikers and doing drugs at their house, etc. \n\nAll I do is worry about this girl. I wake up worrying about her, wishing she could just come back and everything could maybe be the same again. But it can't be, I dont think.\n\nI guess the reason I posted this is because I dont know if I should keep trying, or if I need to just get over her. And if I do, I have no idea on gods green earth how to do that.", "summary": "suddenly have feelings for my ex gf again, how the hell do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_11kbbv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend and I got into a little fight, how should I proceed? [I'm 18M, she's 17F]", "post": "So she's been blogging about girly stuff for a while now but she has refused to tell me the site and such, so I decided to let it go. a month or two later, I came across her pinterest account, in her \"about me\" section, there it was, her blog. So the next day I told her I found her blog and she totally flipped out on me. Saying things like me being creepy and stalking her. I explain to her that I am in no way judging her about what she blogs about and she understands this. But she is still pissed about the fact that \"I stalked her\" (which I didn't, I stumbled across her account because she keeps telling me how interesting pinterest was). She's now ignoring me and stuff\n\nSo what should I do? Should I apologize to her to save our friendship (We are actually pretty close friends)? Or should I let time take its course?\n\nI'm pretty sure I am somehow making things seem more complicated than it is on this post, but I am truly stumped and I am completely clueless to the minds of females.\n\nI do cherish this relationship greatly (was even considering moving it to the next level). But sometimes she just acts up to the tiniest things that I don't understand. Reddit halp?", "summary": "Best friend and I got into a fight about something (I consider to be) small, and now I am confused as to what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2nykey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] boyfriend [21 M] of 2 years, I feel like I'm second tier to his computer", "post": "Throwaway account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years, and have been living together for the past 3 months. It's nice sharing the same space, because we both have pretty hectic schedules during the day and can have someone to go home to. \n\nWith the holiday weekend and us having families on opposite coasts, we parted ways for the week. I came home a little earlier than he did, so I picked him up yesterday night from the bus station. Immediately after we get home, he takes his computer out of his luggage and starts playing video games. He orders some food and plugs into chat, effectively walling himself off. I stay up for about another hour before calling it in and say I'm going to bed. \n\nObviously we hadn't seen each other for a bit and I had missed him. He came to tuck me in, and we ended up having really good sex. Post, I'm all cuddled in from an awkward waddle to the bathroom when he gets up and says he'll be back in a little bit. \n\nI wait for what seems like forever and drift off. I wake up at 2 am and he still isn't back. I get up to find him on his computer, back playing video games and chatting online. I 'm not going to lie, I feel really hurt that after not seeing him for a week I still had to go to bed alone. He spent most of his break relaxing and playing on his computer, and then he comes home to do the same thing. I feel like what little time he did spend with me was just for the sex, and then he could go on to something more entertaining.", "summary": "Come back after a time apart from my boyfriend to take back seat to his computer. How do I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_2u6f4v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and she [21F] broke up after 5 years, her birthday tomorrow and i dont know what to do?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI broked up with my girlfriend 3 days ago, i went to a trip with my friends (skiing) and than she called me at said to go to her place, she said that i dont get her out in some interesting places just in bars, restaurants ect. and that i like to go out more with my friends. She said that an other man is asking her more about how she is and what she is doing than me\n\nThat made me nervous and i didnt talk that moment, we stood there for 2-3 minutes, and than she came and said do you want to talk or i'll go, i said that i don't have what to say to you anymore, and she just started to walk at home and left me there.\n\nLast week i drinked beers with her, a day after that went on a dinner with her, i pay all the time, and sometimes i leave my family bad with money just for her, and than she saying those words to me (that i'm not going somewhere cool with her) made me feel very bad.\n\nLast 6 months we are having a bad relationship breaking up often. We are together for almost 5 years.\n\nIt's her birthday tomorrow and i dont know what to do, is not that i dont love her anymore, but inside i feel that i must go on with my life...\n\nNeed your advice?", "summary": "I love her but our worlds changed to much, dont know what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_4dzd8b", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Considering divorce for financial reasons, but still together (CA)", "post": "For a few financial reasons, my husband and I are considering a legal divorce. There are two aspects to this: will it help us in the way I think it will, and are there other ways to obtain similar benefits as a married couple has. \n\nThe thought process: \nPrimarily, my husband just graduated college in December with nearly $100,000 in loans, about half through Sallie Mae. I did not cosign on any of these. Since he has not found a job as of yet and only has a couple months left before repayment begins, the thought is that if we remain married, they will a) consider my income when evaluating deferment or income-based repayment, and b) hold me liable for the loans after a certain time period (10 years, I believe?). If we divorce now, my income -should- no longer be considered in repayment and I won't be held accountable for the loans since they were entirely his, entirely used for his tuition, and I have received no benefit.\n\nYes, I know our taxes will go up, but I'm guessing not the $800 - $1000 a month his payments will be.\n\nAdditionally, at the moment he is carried on my insurance because Covered California counts my income and it makes him ineligible. If we divorce, theoretically he could then qualify for subsidized insurance, possibly at a lower cost than my coverage. \n\nIf this is correct and we decide to divorce, are there other documents we can have to ensure certain benefits - Power of attorney, medical rights, etc. I know tax rates and insurance aren't possible to affect, but what other documents can serve to ensure we have rights to make hospitalization/medical decisions and financial decisions should the need arise?", "summary": "If we divorce, will his loans only count his income, will I not be held accountable for them, and what other documents can serve in place of marital benefits? "}
{"id": "t3_2lr0gt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 1 month, she wants to be more physical but I'm not sure how to be", "post": "This is my first relationship so I have no experience. I hold her hand and kiss her goodbye. That's the most I've ever done in my whole life. She says she wants me to get more comfortable \"physically\". I don't know what to do. \n\nI'm comfortable with her and I trust her. She's said how she wishes I would act more confident and initiate things more. Does that just mean to hold her more, kiss her more, or... I don't know. I was a sheltered home school kid so I literally know nothing about this.\n\nI've known her for a very long time and I can tell this is something that is bothering her. I would really appreciate any advice on how to be more physical.", "summary": "My girlfriend wants me to be more physical but I'm not really sure what that means."}
{"id": "t3_15yjgy", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[PLEA]Let's Improve Together", "post": "The self-improvement Reddit community is vibrant, brilliant, insightful, and I want to wrap this all up.\n\nAs many of you all know, I have been deeply immersed in self improvement topics for the past year or so. Through my blog, I have tried to reach as many people as possible, but alas my writing style and lack of experience often do not provide as much assistance as I would hope.\n\nTherefore, I want to work WITH the Reddit self improvement community in order to develop a valuable quarterly magazine that is filled with submissions from you all. It would be a group project for the Reddit self improvement community and anyone who wants to help is welcome.\n\nThe next step for this to become a reality are as follows:\n\n1.\tGarner enough interest among the Reddit community to choose a name for the publication, create a website, and prepare to accept submissions (finalize what this magazine will be)\n2.\tOpen up submissions for self improvement topics, such as willpower, meditation, diet, and a variety of others\n3.\tCreate the first issue with Reddit contributors (designers and content providers)\n4.\tStart a Kickstarter project to raise money for the first printing\n5.\tPrint and promote\n\nSo everyone knows, I have no stake in this with no advertisers lined up or any way for me to personally benefit. I'm going to make this as democratic as possible, though I will play a significant role in editing as I will spend a considerable amount of time writing and reading submissions in order to organize them. \n\nIf you guys are interested in this, please either message me or post here and we can create either a subreddit for ourselves or a skype group to hash out the specifics. Thanks!", "summary": "Collectively, you and I are creating a Reddit self improvement magazine composed of submissions from the community that will initially be funded by Kickstarter. (No monetary gain for myself)"}
{"id": "t3_1ldrrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [19F] tell other guys I meet that I'm in a LDR and I'm just interested in being friends without making it awkward?", "post": "I'm just a naturally friendly person so I'll find myself making friends in classes. Sometimes I'll chat it up with a guy sitting next to me, and we get along great! However, I'm obviously not interested in being more than friends - but I'd still like to hang out with them and meet new people! And when they ask me for my number I think it'd be kinda unfriendly to say no, especially if it's in such a casual context. I enjoy hanging out with people that I like having conversations with, and I have a few other guy friends that I'll hang out with from time to time. \n\nIt's just hard for me because I never feel like there's a good moment to be like \"oh, yeah, I have a boyfriend.\" I just feel forced and uncomfortable mentioning it upfront to someone I just met. I'm very committed to my boyfriend and I love him a lot, we have a great relationship. I just feel guilty that I can't up front be like \"I'M IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP,\" and that there's potential that I'm leading these guys I'm friendly with on.\n\nI feel like if I hang out with any of them, that it's a slap in the face later if I'm like \"yeah, so, I have a boyfriend...\" if they're actually interested and reading my friendliness as flirting. I guess I'm just afraid of disappointing people. But I feel even more awkward and aggressive mentioning it in the first few seconds that I meet new guys or people.\n\nShould I just wait it out, and then casually drop it into conversation? What is the right way to approach these kinds of situations?", "summary": "How do I tell guys that I've just gotten to know that I have a boyfriend, without making it awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_51qid1", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "When should I worry about pulse pressure?", "post": "I'm a 22 y/o female with a hx of hyperadrenergic hypotension. I have blood pressure episodes both very low and very high at times, stemming from neuropathy but generally these are manageable. \n\nTonight it is different because my BP is somewhat low (not too exciting), but the pulse pressure is pretty narrow (15 points). It hasn't improved after about half an hour and I'm starting to get little floating white spots in my eyes and pretty severe flushing in my face. Basically I'm feeling faint. I typically only have symptoms with my blood pressures when the pulse pressure is narrow which doesn't happen very often. Heart rate is 140 and increasing gradually over the past half hour. I'm on propranolol but it doesn't seem to be helping right now.\n\nGeneral faintness is what initially prompted me to check BP. I don't have any other conditions and don't smoke or drink.", "summary": "when should I go to an urgent care clinic for narrow pulse pressure, if ever?"}
{"id": "t3_kuo8a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does it seem like the U.S. constantly takes all the blame for the war in Afghanistan?", "post": "It seems like every day I see a post or comment on Reddit putting the blame of the Afghanistan war entirely on the United States.  I see comments regularly ranging from people saying that what the U.S. is illegal to calling soldiers baby killers.\n\nWhat I don't get is why aren't the 45 (roughly) other countries as harshly criticized?  Countries such as France, Germany, Denmark and even Iceland have troops over there, yet I don't see the same critisizm.\n\nI realize troop wise, the U.S. has everyone beat.  And I'm sure I'll see the argument that many countries are there as \"support roles\" such as hospitals and rebuilding.  But the U.S. is also running hospitals and rebuilding, yet even the people that do that get a lot of hate for no other reason than being there in the first place.", "summary": "Why all the hate?"}
{"id": "t3_1uvp42", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to have sex with my GF in the middle of the night.", "post": "My girlfriend who will be named Reine came home from work later than I did.  I had already showered, brushed my teeth and was snuggled beneath my bed sheets when she came in bed.  Usually we have sex before bed almost everynight but it was late and I had to work at 7am the next day.  At about 3 a.m I woke up horny and in need of my daily dose of Reine.  She is always receptive of my sexual advances no matter what the time of day (or night in my instance). \n\n Because I went to bed before Reine, we didn't have the opportunity to get in the proper spooning position and my back was turned to her and she was behind me.  I turned my head to reposition myself for my advance when my forehead collided directly with my sleeping girlfriends eyebrow.  It must have been a perfect headbutt considering I didn't feel any pain despite the bone on bone sound emitted.  After much crying and me apologizing profusely I masked my intentions, and bulging PJs, and claimed to have heard a sound coming from the window to explain why I turned my head so sharply.  \n\nShe complained of a headache and kept her head a good distance from me for the rest of the night.", "summary": "MMA headbutted my gf during the night."}
{"id": "t3_2ta0ix", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Osgood-schlatters continious pain", "post": "I am a 26 year old white male who is 6'1 and weighs 83kg. This is an ongoing condition that I have had since I was about 13. It's called osgood-schlatters and I went to see the doctors when I was younger and they said I would grow out of it. I am obviously a lot older now and it is still present below my knee (as a nice big lump). It causes me a lot of discomfort and pain. I have a total of a 30 min walk to work in the morning and evening and for the rest of the day I am sitting down mostly. After long periods this can make my knee really ache.\n\nI am quite an active person; I play a lot of Paintball (running and squatting for long periods at a time), squash and swimming. After these activities the pain does flair up and i usually just put up with it!\n\nI have seen the doctors and they said that there isn't much to do other than try to rest it as much as possible and take some ibuprofen when the pain flairs up. They did hint at surgery to remove this but I thought I would ask on here to get some additional advice or to see if anyone else has this condition before I look at such a thing.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "25 year old male who has osgood-schlatters and it is still causing him pain and doesn't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_uy2js", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Major weight fluctuations... any ideas?", "post": "Hoping someone can provide some insight here: I've become relatively accustomed to fluctuating weight every day. So I'm not talking about 1 or 2 pounds here and there.\n\nBasically, month over month I've seen consistent losses since I started this journey last September. However, this past week has been a hell of a roller coster in terms of the numbers on the scale.\n\nBetween last Monday and Friday, my weight dropped nearly 6 pounds. This probably sounds insane, but the week before I didn't lose anything, so I figured this was just my body making up for it.\n\nTHEN, on Saturday, I weighed myself and had gained 7 pounds. Overnight. \n\nThis was without any significant change in diet, activity or sleep pattern. I've since come down about 2.5 of those gained 7, but seriously, what the hell?\n\nI've told others not to fret about fluctuations of a pound of two...but 7 in one day?", "summary": "Lost 6 pounds over the space of a week, then gained 7 overnight. What?"}
{"id": "t3_1kzhbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my ___ [16F] 8 months, Am i being crazy jealous?", "post": "Okay so essentially my girlfriend has had a very rough history with a guy who's 19 now. He basically has anger issues, treated her like shit, put her in a deep depression. etc. Whenever hes brought up she talks about how much she hates and regrets him and everything. And to top it off she lost her virginity to him.\n\nNo big deal, I'm not the type to judge off past relationships and etc.\n\nWe've been dating for 8 months now and I lost my virginity to her and she always tells me still how much she hates him and wishes it was me she lost it to, etc.\n\nI'm madly in love with this girl, and despise this guy more than anything for treating her the way he did.\n\nAnyways today while with her we happen to run into him. First time in all our 8 months. I get so confused considering she always talks about how much she hates him.\n\nThey hug and talk. She told me she wanted to say hello. And follows him around and then says bye to him in the most friendly way anyone ever could.\n\nAm I just being crazy? I guess one thing that makes me so upset is that if the roles were reversed I would be CRUCIFIED. Honestly dead if I was friendly to or hugged and ex. Or this this fucked up? Running away from me to go talk to this guy all she had done was complain about. It just confused me, and left me quite bitter to be honest. Am I just being crazy? I have zero doubt in her love towards me and me only. Im just so confused why this would even occur.", "summary": "Girlfriend quite chatty with old ex she's always hated. Bitter and confused. Am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_2bv6dl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [19F] and I are starting our sophomore year of college soon, at different colleges.", "post": "We have been dating for more than 3 years, and we went to the same colleges we are going to this year. She goes to college 2.5 hours south of our home town and I go to college 2.5 hours north of our home town.\n\nLast year when we were leaving it was extremely hard. I never cry, and I cried for about 10 minutes. I kept feeling like I was never going to see her again. It was terrible.\n\nThis year I thought it would be easier because we have already been through it and it turned out alright, but I'm starting to get that feeling again. It feels the same as it did last year. I'm going to miss her a lot.\n\nWe both love our respective colleges, and both give us the best financial options (she has a full ride and I have my tuition paid for). I have often considered putting myself in even greater debt by transferring to her school just to be with her. I still think about it. Or if she transferred to my college.\n\nSo is there any way to help how we feel about it? What should I do? Is it something I'm basically gonna have to deal with?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I go to college 5 hours apart. Leaving for college is really hard. What should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_13eto8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Someone has cashed $5,000 worth of fake checks with my name and address on them. Help/Advice?", "post": "Hi Reddit. Last year someone stole my wallet with my driver's license and since that time I've received over a dozen notifications from various collection agencies notifying me of bounced checks with my name and address on them (from Target, Michael's, Toys R Us, Burlington Coat Factory, all in excess of $200). The routing numbers and check numbers on these \"checks\" are entirely fabricated. the \"checks\" also say they are from Wells Fargo but I don't even have an account with that bank.\n\nI've filed a police report which states that I've experienced these instances of identity theft. The problem is that the credit collectors don't seem to want to believe that these checks are NOT mine, nor are they associated with my actual bank account.\n\nI've compiled a long paper trail with several of these collection agencies trying to explain this to no avail. I've called the agencies and sat through 40 minute automated calls only to be asked for my payment information.\n\nI don't know what to do anymore. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Please let me know how or if you think I can settle this. \n\nAlso, I had great credit up until this point and now it's devastated. I'm 23 yrs old, do you think I'll be able to restore it?", "summary": "Someone is using my name and address on fake checks and debt collectors don't want to believe I'm not responsible. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_383p71", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my [22 F] of 7months, found she recently saved pictures of her and her exbf.", "post": "Before getting into my current relationship I was burned in my last 2, only relevant to this situation because my current girlfriend knew all about it and how it's affected me semi long term when it comes to trust.\n\nI have known my girlfriend for years as she is my younger sisters old best friend. Her and her last long term boyfriend of about 4ish years (I THINK) would linger in each others lives up until she met me, or so she says. He was abusive and hit her (twice), degraded her, cheated on her, didn't let her have friends, made her stay in the house while he went out to drink etc. etc. etc. I spoil and treat her the absolute complete opposite of the way that he did. Last night while we were sitting on the couch she was going through her emails and I noticed she sent an attachment to herself. When I asked her to open it she did and it was a picture she saved off of Instagram, before deleting it from her Instagram, of her and the exbf that I described above kissing while on vacation from about 2 years ago.\n\nI don't know what to do. I don't know if I am overreacting. I asked her why she did that and she said \"I am a hoarder, I save everything\" but when I didn't buy that explanation she got overly emotional and angry because she knows I am a no bullshit kind of guy and she knows to me this is some bullshit. It was on her Instagram prior to her deleting it...there are other pictures of them together on Instagram that she left up but she saved this specific one to her email and then deleted it from Instagram. I am so confused, I feel like I am getting played yet again. I don't know what to do because I do love her but it's so early in a relationship for that kind of shit it makes me think they're either still lingering in each others lives or she isn't over him...", "summary": "Sitting on couch with girlfriend while she was going through her emails. Saw she sent an attachment to herself, asked her to open it revealing a picture of her and her exbf from 2yrs ago kissing."}
{"id": "t3_guzpi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE have tonsil stones?", "post": "I'm seriously considering getting my tonsils removed due to my bad breath. I don't get them once a year or anything, I'm coughing these cheese balls up at least 3 times a week. \n\nMy breath is horrible. I have tried EVERYTHING, mouth wash gargling, hydrogen peroxide gargling, physical removal of them (tonsils are in weird spot so it's hard to do). It is also disgusting to cough up a lump while eating/talking/in class and have to try and spit it somewhere without anyone noticing. \n\nThe only thing that works is to use gum. I brush my teeth and my breath smells like dog shit - I gargle listerine, it helps a bit, then my breath smells like dog shit 2 hours later. \n\nDoes anyone have these? What do you do to get rid of them?", "summary": "I cough up tonsil stones at least 3 times a week and can't get them to go away. Breath smells like shit no matter what I do (I'm not a disgusting person either). Should I get a tonsillectomy?"}
{"id": "t3_3gb8in", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M]. Currently locked in my room due to a huge fight...", "post": "Me (15M) Mom (39F) Dad (50M) Little sister (8F) Older sis (17F)\n\nI'm going to keep this short because at the current moment im typing from my phone locked in my room with a huge feud going on as im typing.\n\n My parents fight quite often. They have been together for 18 years. Last week we went on a boating trip and I was drowning in the water. I could swim perfectly but I hit my knee on the canoe causing me to be in pain at the same time. I guess I paniced. My dad started yelling at me telling me I should have wore a life jacket. Knowing I was not in any trouble because I knew how to swim he wasn't worried. But my mother overacted as if I was going to die. She called the cops and they just broke it up and took her home In a police car while we stayed at the boating site for a couple hours. \n\nNow fast forward to two days ago my mom and dad reunited I guess and became fine with eachother but for some reason my crazy mother now hates my sister for some odd reason. Today mom got furious at my sister cause she was on her phone all day and didn't do any house work. My mom started curssing and what not. Mind you my dad is at work today. My sister like an idiot decided that she was gunna book a hotel for the night and stayed there. \n\nWhen my mom found out that my sister went to a hotel, she flipped out and now hates everyone. My little sister was crying and my dad is frustrated at work and says he's coming home in 1 hour As I'm typing this my mom says its over.she's selling the house (500 grand) cause its on her name and so is the 7 series BMW. My dad is a taxi driver and works 15-20 hours a day. So now I'm in pieces. My mom says that she's not allowing my dad Home either. My sister and I are fine. Just my little sister and dad might not be. I need help.I feel depressed.\n\nSorry if I'm missing anything I feel so depressed and need reddits help. ):", "summary": "Family got into a huge fight leaving me depressed."}
{"id": "t3_1ftovr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M20] Dating my best friend [F21] has hit some road bumps. Anyone have advise when moving from close friendship to dating?", "post": "Does anyone here have experience dating someone who was originally a very close friend?\n\nFor the past 2 months I've started a relationship with my best friend [F21] of about a year and while everything is amazing and we recognize that we are completely in love, it feels so strange and surreal.  Neither of us have been in this situation before and there are times when it feels completely different than anything either of us have experienced before.\n\nIt feel effortless and like neither one of us has to try. \n\nWe walked into this thing already completely trusting and understanding each other inside-out and at times it feels like we are still just best friends who happen to have sex whenever we get a chance.  It feels difficult to switch into that relationship mode even though we both want it.\n\nSo I ask you people of reddit, what are your experiences when dating an already really close friend and how can you keep things exciting, romantic, and still maintain your awesome friendship? \n\nStories are extremely welcome and any and all advise, even if it isn't pertaining exactly to my situation, would be extremely welcomed!", "summary": "How have you guys dealt with dating a close friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2r42yd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my long distance childhood love [23 F] of 12 years on and off, is recently battling a cocaine addiction.", "post": "So we've known each other for quite some time and we talk on and off, but we always come back passionate about one another. Recently after college we started talking again and she was acting kinda sketchy and edgy. I've never known her to be that way so I investigated. Turns out she's having some problems at home with her mother and struggling with debt from school and she has struggled with self confidence for years.\n\nAll of this is causing her alot of stress, anxiety and depression. I told her she needs to start by refraining from using cocaine and move out of her moms house asap. I think shes off the coke, but I had to tell one of her friends to help her so she would stay away from the group/individuals giving it to her. I'm sure this upset her as shes a very proud individual. \n\nNow she's saying she needs space from pretty much everyone, but her immediate 3 \"bestie girl friends\" and I'm left feeling alot of things.\n\nHurt, that in this time of need I'm so toxic or (I don't even know) that she won't really talk to me at all except to tell me she needs to be distanced. My gut is telling me run.... Abandon this, it will only lead to heart break if not in the near future, with a problem years from now.\n\nI don't know what to do or say.\n\nI love this girl, but I thought love is suppose to be something where you share each others toughest tribulations, not where you push the other person away and deal with it alone.\n\nI wake up lethargic and I'm in pain wondering if shes ok.", "summary": "She is having trouble with cocaine, debt, and family at home, pushes me away saying she needs space to deal with it, but we're suppose to be in love. Should I respect the space shes asking for? Should I walk away and let the cards land where they may and maybe she'll be in a better place in a few months? I'm really just confused. How can I help her when she wont let me...?"}
{"id": "t3_rqt8j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my husband is falling for someone else. What should I do?", "post": "I have found many flirty texts back and forth between him and a former classmate and he just lights up when he talks about her. Some of the messages end with him telling her he loves her, but it can be viewed as a joke or in fun. He talks to her the way he used to talk to me; so loving and caring. But now he is so cold to me. If I ask about her or how he feels about me he gets angry. I just don't know what to do. Please help.", "summary": "My marriage may be over because of another woman. I need advice and cheering up.  "}
{"id": "t3_19naiy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Where does someone with no insurance get dentist assistance with wisdom tooth removal!?", "post": "I am almost 28 and my wisdom teeth are just now coming in. It has been EXTREMELY painful for the past few days and almost nothing seems to stop the pain when it flares up. (Thankfully it stopped last night and hasn't started hurting today yet). I need to have them removed but I am not working, I live with my fiance who doesn't have a lot of extra money to pay for this stuff up front (like every dentist I've contacted said has to be done) and I don't have insurance. \n\nUpon calling around to a few dentists around the area (even a dentistry school), they've all said the same thing; \"You must pay at the time of service or go through carecard.com and get financed\". Well, that would be WONDERFUL if my credit wasn't already crap from my past. I literally wasn't approved for credit to have painful teeth removed and I don't know what to do. I left a message with social services to see if they can steer me in the right direction but does anyone know anywhere else I can try??", "summary": "No insurance, minimal income and dentists require hundreds or thousands of dollars up front for services I need to remove my painful wisdom teeth. My credit is also bad, so I can't get a credit card or even \"carecredit\" financing. Where should I turn to get the help I need?!"}
{"id": "t3_1d3jm3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I[16M] have a crush on her[16F] but no experience with girls...", "post": "i've had a growing crush on her since about February, but i only really started to like her after a class trip i did at the very beginning of March, where around the end of the trip we ended up talking for like a half hour straight, kind of away from the group, and i feel she has kind of been growing on me at school, but i'm starting to feel like she might be losing interest.\n\nI feel like possibly asking her out one weekend to do something, or maybe just telling her at some point soon that i have a crush on her, i have no experience really with girls, since i was quite socially awkward the past few years, and don't really know how to go about this, could someone PLEASE help???", "summary": "i have a crush on a girl that might be interested, not sure how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_14fl9q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] Headed to visit my girlfriend (22/f) who is giving me a second chance but I'm afraid her family may not...", "post": "We have dated on and off for the past 3 years. We've both made some mistakes but I blew it big time when I slept with another girl when I was really drunk (no excuse), and my girlfriend found out later. She broke up with me, for good reason. This was right before the end of college. \n\nI went on to graduate school and she is out of the country doing field research. We kept in touch when she was able to use the phone, and she has forgiven me enough to give our relationship another shot over the holiday. I'm going to visit her; her mother gave her blessing and I truly believe that's fine. But my girlfriend's brother has told me to stay away from his sister, and her sister told me something along those lines. \n\nMy girlfriend reassures me it will be okay, and while I understand that nothing catastrophic will probably happen, how can I prepare to make the trip as pleasant as possible? I want it to be a very positive experience to give our relationship another chance.", "summary": "Cheated on my girlfriend, given another chance, now I'm worried about what her family thinks."}
{"id": "t3_1jm0t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Don't know if I [18/F] should tell my boyfriend [18/M] of over 2 non-consecutive yrs he's not the only person I've slept with", "post": "As the title says, I am unsure if I should tell my boyfriend that he's not the only person I've slept with.\n\nHe's a pretty possessive person (which I don't really mind), and we took each other's virginities. However we broke up for a little while, during which time I started dating this other amazing guy. We ended up having sex, and I took his virginity. This doesn't seem like that much of an issue, I'm allowed to live my own life, do my own thing, etc. However, I feel like this is something I'm hiding from him, because I know he'll be really upset if he ever finds out (which I'm not sure he will, the other guy will most likely not tell him)\n\nJust to give you an idea about how possessive my bf is, here's a text he sent me from a little while ago (for context we had been arguing earlier):\n\n\"I spent the whole fucking day pondering questions like and thinking about you getting stuffed full of cock in college and loving it and taking everything sacred to us and giving that to any fucking dude who meets you in college and just you giving up everything we ever did in a second...\"\n\n\"I worry that you will give everything that we've done together, everything so sacred and personal, that went through years in the development and give it to the first dude. And moan like for him and ride him like you ride me and that makes me furious.\"\n\nI think it's pretty understandable that he feels this way, but I don't know if I should tell him about sex with the other guy or not. I've pretty much made up my mind that I won't tell him, but if it turns out from the advice that I hopefully get from you guys that hiding this from his is bad, then I will definitely consider telling him.\n\nThe sex wasn't even that great, the guy lost his erection from trying to last too long his first time...", "summary": "Had sex with another dude while my possessive boyfriend and I were broken up, should I tell my bf?"}
{"id": "t3_2089xh", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help needed: random aggression in 11 month old Husky/Shepherd mix", "post": "My friend picked up a dog two days ago from a shelter, an eleven month old female husky/shepherd (possibly German Shepherd?) mix. She is super sweet most of the time, but she growled at my friend's mother, and at my friend when she was going to pick up a stick, then the dog nipped at one of her friends because the girl tried to push the dog down. The bite ended up drawing blood, and since it was so soon after getting the dog (and apparently the shelter released the dog without her rabies shot), my friend called the shelter to see what to do. They told her she had to quarantine the dog for 10 days, which she had to do at the shelter. When she took the dog in, she described the behavior above and the woman at the shelter strongly recommended turning the dog over to be euthanized because she was too \"unpredictable\" and could be dangerous. My friend felt she didn't have much choice in the matter and turned the dog over. I'm not sure if she can even get her back now (she's in the quarantine process at the moment), but my question is whether there is training that is likely to help this kind of behavior? She showed no aggression towards me whatsoever, but my friend is worried she'll be too dangerous to take out in public or to have people come over. She wants a dog she'd be able to take out with her to public places, but she's also been crying all day about the dog being put down. I'd really like to believe she could train the dog to be better, but is random aggression something that can be gotten rid of? If the responses are unpredictable, what can you really do?", "summary": "11 month, female, husky/shepherd mix, usually sweet, but exhibits random aggression towards different people. Is this fixable?"}
{"id": "t3_ewpew", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Am I greedy?", "post": "Background info: I'm 24 (almost 25), I graduated from college in 2008.  I make a decent amount of money at my job; enough that after a couple years of living at my parents' I was able to but myself a house and a nice car.  \n\nSo a few days ago a friend asks if I want to see a movie tonight with him and another friend.  They both work at the theater and are able to get a guest in free.  So I'm assuming I'll be going for free.  Today I ask him about it and tells me that he invited another friend and her boyfriend (and claims he invited them first) so they get the free tickets.  Mind you I don't think he even asked our other friend if it was cool if they used his guest pass.\n\nThis kind of bugged me so I said something to him about and he responds with something along the lines of \"well they probably won't go if they can't get in free.  No offense, but they don't have a lot of money and I feel like you can afford it.\"  He also said something about how he wouldn't be going either if he didn't work there because he doesn't have any money either.  I won't even get into that one, but let's just say he has another job as well and the only reason he's broke is because he spends frivolously on stupid shit.  I kind of just let it go after that.\n\nIt is true that I have more money than the rest of them, but between college loans, car payments, and a mortgage, I'm probably more in debt than the 4 of them combined.  \n\nTo me it would make more sense if we all (or at least the 3 guests) to split the cost of one ticket... The funny thing is that if I had been offered the guest pass I probably would have offered it to one of the other two anyway.  So maybe it's just an ego thing and I feel slighted. \n\nSo what is it Reddit?  Am I greedy?  An Egomaniac?  Or am I being reasonable?", "summary": "I have more money than my friends so they think I should get less free shit.  I think that's kind of bs.  Am I greedy?"}
{"id": "t3_1tcyaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Dad [62 M] is offering me [17 M] a gift I don't know that I can accept", "post": "For some background - my parents divorced when I was very young, and from a young age I would stay with my dad every other weekend. When I was about 13 after several incidents I realised what a manipulative person he was and cut ties with him. My Step-Mom died two years ago, and within six months he was engaged to what will be his fourth wife.\n\nHe has made intermittent contact with me over the last few years, and all invitations of contact have been turned down. He asked me to be his Best-Man at his wedding, which I also declined.\n\nCut to today - I got a letter from him asking me for a last time to go to his wedding. I don't know whether or not to go yet. Anyway - he has moved to a new country with his new fianc\u00e9e and as a result is leaving his old car here. He has offered to let me have it, no strings attached, but I would feel hypocritical accepting it. The problem is that I am in desperate need of a car and money is very tight at the moment. It would be so incredible to accept it, but I feel I would be using him.\n\nAny help is very welcome.", "summary": "Estranged father is offering me his old car, I don't know if I can take it without being a hypocrite"}
{"id": "t3_10lnic", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you have done?", "post": "I work retail and today some lady was mad she did not get the full amount she claimed she deserved. Regardless, the problem comes when she said she was \"Jewed out of her money\". \n\nA little background, I am not Jewish, but have many Jewish friends who I have went to temple with as well as attended their ceremonies etc. I thought in the back of my mind I shouldn't say anything, I am in employee mode right now...but for whatever reason I approached her. \n\nI said \"excuse me mam did you say you got jewed out?\" she affirmed it, and I said \"well I'm Jewish and I take personal offense to that\". She told me to leave before she blew up, called my manager over and yelled at her for 15 minutes about me being a \"twerp\" and not getting her the money she deserved. She then proceeded to say I threatened her and turned the story completely around. \n\nSo reddit, what would you have honestly done? I always have the situations where I think of responses and never do them, in this case I did it. I texted a few of my Jewish friends who were very thankful that I stood up for them in essence. Did I do the right thing? Would you have done the same? I was heated so it was rash but it's over with and I am contemplating maybe just quitting retail!\n\nThank you for any honest responses", "summary": "What would you do as an employee if a customer said she got \"jewed\" out of money?"}
{"id": "t3_4lmv1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(19) tell my dad (45) that I'm moving?", "post": "My father is a very strict and angry man. He calls himself the boss of the house, everything he says is the final word. He controls my money (I have more control now than I did before) and doesn't really give me much freedom, not even allowing me to drive out to have fun. I'm almost 20. He was very abusive to me when I was a child and ever since, I've felt that he will always try his best to keep me from living my life. I should note that he grew outside the U.S. I grew up here in the U.S. \n\nI found that I will be moving out in a couple of months to another state with three other people, and everything living wise is planned. I know for a fact that when I move, I'll have a job and I'll be going to school. The thing is, I have this gut feeling my dad will not let me leave. I had originally planned to tell him by the end of July, but I'm just not sure. I feel like that if I told him, he would take my money to prevent me from leaving or that he would physically bar me in my room or something practical. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "My dad is a very strict man, how do I tell him I'm moving out?"}
{"id": "t3_1lsv0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19M] & my SO [19F] of almost 4 years, my Asian parents have a serious problem about us dating", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, I'll try to keep this as short and as tidy as possible. Thanks for taking the time to look.\n\nSo me and my SO have been dating for almost 4 years (we're both Asian), and along every step of the way, my parents are there to criticize me and tell me to break up with her. We did break up for a short period of time, and this happened to be around the same time it was winter break from the University. While we were apart, I spent some time at my parents' house. This is where things got interesting.\n\nMy parents expected me to never talk to her again, and I quote, \"if you see her, don't even look at her, and stop calling and texting her\". To make matters worse, at a family Christmas party, my mother told EVERYONE at the party (25 people!) that we broke up! \n\nSo I guess my question is this: how can I reintroduce my girlfriend to my parents without them having a sour attitude about it?\n\nAlso, if it helps, my parents are first generation Asian parents.", "summary": "Asian parents are very invasive of my privacy, telling everyone everything that happens in my life, should I tell them that I am still dating my SO after we broke up for a short period of time, and if so, how should I do it?"}
{"id": "t3_36vdlu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to retrieve my calculator", "post": "This actually happened 4 years ago, when I was in secondary school. Was reminded of this by some calculator-related TIFU posted a few days back. \n\nSo, in my secondary school, students get a 10 minute break in between classes to 'rest and recover', but all of us usually use it to fool around while waiting for the next teacher to arrive. \n\nDuring one of said breaks, a female friend of mine decided to play around with me, and stole my calculator. I tried to snatch it back, but she sneakily slid the calculator in her breast pocket. Sooo I couldn't really do much, and after a bit of taunting, we starting talking about other random crap. A bit into the conversation, she absentmindedly took out the calculator and started waving it around as she was talking. I saw my opportunity and quickly lunged at it...\n\nAnd promptly missed. Guess what I grabbed instead? Yeeep, accidentally grabbed her breast. \n\nBuried my head in shame awhile after that. Luckily though, she was a good friend of mine, so she forgave me. And I got my calculator back too.", "summary": "Tried to grab calculator, accidentally grabbed a boob instead."}
{"id": "t3_wsrox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Troubling Lottery Hypothetical", "post": "My wife and I (both early 30s, married 4 years, been together 6, no kids) have been going through some rough times lately.  It's gotten to the point where I don't think she likes who I really am, and is constantly trying to change me into something I am not.  \n\nI have always supported her and paid 100% of all the bills.  Ever since I met her she has always had serious issues supporting herself and being independent.  In a way, I thought I was rescuing her by marrying her.  \n\nA few days ago, I thought to myself that if I won the lottery tomorrow, I would give her half the money and then leave her.  \n\nBut then this really really troubled me.  Because what does the lottery have to do with our relationship??  Or anything?  Does it mean that I'm staying in the relationship only because I feel guilty and feel like I have to take care of her?  Am I staying for the wrong reasons?", "summary": "If I won the lottery, I'd leave my wife, which troubles me."}
{"id": "t3_26kwdh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [19 F] flirt at the bar all the time but never goes any further", "post": "So i know this girl through a mutual friend who i know from high school.  This girl and I get along well and we seem to have similar interests from the talks we have had.\n\nThese conversations never go any further then small talk, because it seems that neither of us know how to approach this situation.  One time when I was a bit too drunk i got her number, and did not realize I had even had her number until weeks later when I was scrolling through my contact list.  Im not sure what I said to get her number, but I feel weird texting her now because it's been weeks. This may sound gay, but she has since then friended me on Facebook and followed me on various social media sites.\n\nWhat i'm seeking advice on is how to talk to this girl more if i'm not going to see her for a few months since I am home from college.  I feel like i should talk to her somehow, but i don't know if it will come off weird if I randomly just message her one day. Any Advice is appreciated!!", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_42bdzx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [18f] cheated on me [18m] and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I've been with this girl since middle school and thought we were perfect, that I was set for life. This year I started university, so we've been sort of long distance, only seeing each other once or twice a month.\n\nThis Christmas we went on a trip with her family, and everything was great. After returning home, I headed back to school for another two weeks. She insisted that I come home this weekend because she wanted to talk about \"us\".\n\nWhen I got home she admitted that she had sex with another guy a week or so before we went on our trip. The reason she waited so long is because she knew I had spent a lot of money to go on that trip and didn't want it going to waste.\n\nShe cried the entire time we talked and explained that she had been lonely and sad for a long time now and it just happened. She said she has been feeling sick and she clearly regrets it a lot. She keeps telling me that she will do whatever it takes to fix things but obviously there isn't much she can do. \n\nI love this girl with all my heart and can't see myself without her. I honestly want to fix things and try again, but I don't know if I'll ever be able to get over this. We were both each other's first and I thought that would continue to be true. I fear that if I forgive her somehow and continue the relationship it could happen again, since it seemingly happened so easily the first time around.\n\nIs it possible for me to get over this? Will I be able to have sex with her again without images of her and another guy entering my mind? Is it worth it?", "summary": "my girlfriend cheated on me but regrets it, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2w0x65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Girlfriend [18F] 1day, her and her ex/my friend[19M] broke up and now me and her are together.", "post": "Me and my friend \"Joe\" have been friends for about two years now. He started dating said girl about a year after we were friends. Him, me, her, and some mutual friends would hang out like people do. \n\nOver the last six months her and I have realized but never said that we really like each other. Her and her ex broke up about a week ago, he did something he was not supposed to do and it was the last straw in their relationship. \n\nWe got together on Valentines day both of us not having a date, we hung out at her house and just sat around talking. The whole thing led to us being in a relationship, I am glad that we are together but there is one thing. Her ex/ my friend doesn't know that we had a thing for each other or that we got together yesterday. \n\nHe is a great friend but I don't know what to do, I am freaking out. I don't want to mess up the relationship with my friend by telling him that I am dating his ex, but I want him to know the situation. \n\nI was thinking about just waiting till he is okay with not dating her and then telling him. I feel as if he has moved on it might not be that big of a situation. What should I do?", "summary": "I started dating my friends ex a week after they broke up./Should I tell him what is going on?"}
{"id": "t3_2kfh8k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "There's a girl [20-22 F] who I [M 24] see at the Panera I frequent. I would like to 'date' her. As someone who's only had one girlfriend his entire life, how do I approach this?", "post": "I'm a student, and I'm at school most the day. \n\nBut on breaks I sometimes go to Panera, I'd say 3-4 times a week.\n\nI see one girl there about half the time.\n\nI realize that people at food places are supposed to be nice, but she's usually cleaning tables, and I always get my order to go. \n\nEvery time I come in, she cleans a something near me, and tries to start a conversation.\n\nPG-13: Extra info: She has a body that I'm really into. \n\nAss looks great in her work khakis, she usually has a loose apron on that covers her chest, but even then, I can tell that she has some very large breasts underneath. \n\nIdeally, I'd like to have a relationship with her.\n\nBut right now, I'm in a position where I don't want a full fledged girlfriend. \n\nSomeone to hang out with, and yes, someone to mess around with.\n\nAs the title says, I have little dating experience.\n\nSo I just thought I'd run my thoughts by reddit, and see what you guys though.\n\nShould I just go in for the kill, or strike up more conversation and let it occur naturally?", "summary": "Girl at Panera that I go to many times a week. I'm a noob at dating. I think she likes me. I'd like to date her. Advice on how to approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_2qota6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M], I don't think I am a boyfriend material.", "post": "Let me give you some background about me, I was born with a physical disorder that doctors had to correct through two major surgeries. After that I was fine but my walking style is still not perfect. I was born & brought up in India and been working full time after completing my studies in Canada.\n\nIt's not that I have confidence issues, it's just I think girls around me don't think I am a boyfriend material & they won't see me beyond my physical issues. Since I am from India where arranged marriages are quite common, I think my parents would have a lot of issues finding a girl for me. I don't them to go through that. I want to find a girl on my own, who would be able to see me beyond my physical issues. Most of the girls around me seem to be materialistic with very few exceptions. For instance, I am housemates with a very pretty girl who goes on dates quite often & from our conversations I don't think she will ever consider me as her boyfriend. For most of my girl friends I am a nice guy and any girl would be lucky to have me. But I have a question on that every time, who? Moreover, here's the deal with me, even if a girl would try to give hints to me, I would never get that because I like straight forward talks and that's who I am. Also, those who are in relationships, have told me that their boyfriends don't see me as a threat since I am too nice. \n\nThis has been bugging me for quite a while since I am 23 now and kind of hate being single. I would love to have some perceptions on this.", "summary": "I think girls don't see as a potential boyfriend and I hate being single."}
{"id": "t3_1gncpp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "What a night..", "post": "Well..\n\nThis is my first post in /r/offmychest -- but I really needed to sit down and type my thoughts out somewhere.\n\nLast night was horrible. I normally go to the bar on Tuesdays (just a normal thing that I do), things were fine.. And I knew I shouldn't have done it, but I texted someone. Inevitably, that ended up a disaster.\n\nI had been job searching with intentions of moving from coast to coast. I was preparing for a huge change in my life for a \"possibility\" of being with someone. Well.. after last night, that's all done and over with.\n\nI pulled off along side of the road and just .. cried. Luckily, I didn't make any drastic changes to my life. It'll just be .. weird to not talk to them. I felt for a little while that I needed to distance myself anyway. But, even through the time that I was feeling like this, he kept inching me closer and urging me to apply for places where he'll be possibly placed (he's moving).", "summary": "moral of the story is.. trust your gut because it's normally right."}
{"id": "t3_2tljjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Anyone know a way that I [24 M] can start talking to him [26 M] again?", "post": "So I had this wonderful date with this guy. We liked a lot of things, we wanted to do a lot of things together, we wanted to know more about each other, we made plans for the next week (visiting a city in the country next door, he totally suggested it).\n\nBut then... We did speak every day of the following weekend and yes, it was me mostly initiating the converations. I was absolutely invested in all the things we talked about.\n\nThen came **Moday** and altough we were kinda supposed to meet he said he will go home after seeing a friend. I suggested dinning out he said \"No, I said I will go home...\"\n\nOn **Tuesday** I was filled with immense frustration already. I really wanted to get a \"I don't like u, go away\" or a \"lets meet\" sort of message. So I messaged that he looks like he lost interest and long story short he said I have been \"overdoing it\". I said I can show patience cuz I still belive in all the things we said and he said that my \"chance is not spent\".\n\nNext couple of days my frustration grew as I saw him online every morning and evening in the dating website where we met. On **Thirsday** after a couple of whiskeys I called him out on it. I still wanted him to just say he don't want me no mo but no... he said he wasn't looking for anyone else. I said I just wanna see him live so we can talk (he did say he is free pretty much whole week), and he said \"we will if u stop bothering me\".\n\nI know, probably nothing will happen but why does he insist on not just ending it clean ;(\n\nAfter a week If he doesn't get in any sort of contact I will write something. But what? What could I possibly say to mend the soured conversation?\n\nThis is not an uncommon situation is it? What are your experiences with is? Have you discovered any secret? Any trick?", "summary": "I like guy he say I give him too much attention, stuck in \"we'll meet if ur patient\" limbo"}
{"id": "t3_39wy2r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28f) with boyfriend (29m) lacking intimacy caused by his depression. Wondering how to be supportive and dealing with feelings of guilt.", "post": "We've been together about a year but have been friends for 7 years. \n\nI had gotten out of an emotionally abusive relationship with a man who was severely mentally ill (delusional, heard voices, manic depression and so on) before I started dating my current bf, I'll call him Adam.\n\nI loved because he was sweet, caring, didn't have a quick temper, treated me with respect and so on. It was much different from my last relationship. Adam also had a good job, master's degree and took care of himself.  Ambition and handsome, the whole package\n\nWell the industry hes worked in for the last 8 years and has his master's in has taken a sever down turn. His friends are all being laid off, including him. There's little to no jobs available and he's been unemployed for 4 months. \n\nHe no longer works out. He's almost completely stopped walking his dog. I do it when I get off work (he usually comes with, but I need to make the suggestion) and we hardly communicate now. \n\nHe also suffered a knee injury from work which makes excersing difficult. Which wad one of his favorite things and we often enjoyed running together. \n\nI told him recently I need more intimacy and our lack of communication has been making me very unhappy. He apologized and is trying but I feel awful that he things he needs to force a smile around me. I feel guilty for feeling liked this because I'm not trying to make his problems about me, but I don't know how to be supportive anymore. \n\nI loved him for his sense of humor and ambition (among other things) but they've both almost disappeared. After dealing with someone depressed for so long in my last relationship I find it exhausting trying to maintain my current one. \n\nHe feels like his body is broken and that he's wasted his life on a degree that's now pointless. I can't say I blame him for being depressed but I can't keep going like this.", "summary": "boyfriend has lost his job and has a degree in an industry with a grim outlook. He's suffered an injury that's kept him from excersing. Not sure what to do, his depression is making me unhappy."}
{"id": "t3_1wmhch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my gf [22 F] 2 years, mother thinks i'm unattractive and telling my gf.", "post": "Basically I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and her mother finds me unattractive and keeps voicing it to my gf.  I know it shouldn't bother me but she really values how her mother feels.  It hurts my feelings because I'm afraid that she might not find me that attractive as well.\n\nBackground:\nI don't think i'm the hottest guy or anything but do believe that I am above average in the looks department.  She is very attractive however and I think her mom doesn't think I'm good enough for her daughter.  She says when her mom brings up these kinds of things she just brushes them off and \"doesn't take them to heart.\"  \n\nIdk what to do at this point because I care about my girlfriend alot and don't want her mom to plant a seed in my girlfriends mind that I'm not good for her...The real kicker however is that we got engaged recently and these talks have gotten more frequent and its really starting to get under my skin.", "summary": "gf 2 years mother talks to her about how i'm unattractive and that if she wants to back out of recent engagement than she would understand even if she was down alot of money."}
{"id": "t3_3gcl4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with girl [21 F] Not Ready / needs more time, but just returned to tinder?", "post": "So I've been hanging out with this girl for a few weeks and I've developed feelings for her. We text and snapchat almost every day and I've taken her out on a few dates. She stayed over one night after a party and that morning we cuddled and I kissed her.\nEver since then she started to act differently. She tells me she isn't over her ex (broke up 5-6 months ago) and that it's not fair to me. She says I'm so good to her, and nice and that she doesn't want to hurt me down the road. She said she just wasn't ready for this and that she needed time.\nAfter I started to feel like she was acting differently I looked at her profile on Tinder (that's how we met) and a few days ago it said she hadn't been online in over a month, and now it's very recent (a few hours ago).\n\nIs she trying to say she isn't into me without saying that she doesn't like me to avoid hurting my feelings? Or is this something legitimate?\nI'm 24M she is 21F", "summary": "girl I met on tinder tells me she's not ready and needs more time, but she's on tinder again after a month+ hiatus."}
{"id": "t3_4hxui3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(20m) have this uneasy feeling about relationships, how do i stop feeling like this?", "post": "So I'm a college student and I think it's time for me to get my first actual girlfriend but idk how or even if I should.\nI read a lot on this sub and honestly I can't see myself as a boyfriend or maybe I'm just scared to be one.\n\n- I'm scared that my girlfriend would cheat on me\n\n- I'm scared that I won't find someone\n- I'm scared of all the bad things that I read on here will happen to me like cheating, emotionally distress, whether if I make the right choice of breaking up or not.\n\nHell i read a lot about ppls experiences on love and relationships and I try to soak in what ppls advice is so I can be ahead of the curve, it's like I'm preparing myself to be a boyfriend but I'm just scared.\n\nHow do you guys do it?\n\n1. from finding a girl to actually like you\n\n2. not cheating on them or them not cheating on you\nfinding out red flags like who they're hanging out with to what other ppls intentions are with your SO?\n\n3. how to keep things fun and not boring, yea dates and romantic evenings, cool convos but I don't want to be a boyfriend that becomes \"boring\"\n\n4. how do I not disappoint in bed, like I want to get good and not disappoint\n\nI keep reading and reading a lot of topics on everyone's secret to a long term and successful relationship and marriage, and it helps but I'm still afraid\nHell I can hold a conversation no problem in that dept but approaching a really pretty girl is like my Achilles heel, I get really nervous.\nBasically I'm asking; how do you guys do it? How do you people manage to keep going with relationships and make them happy and successful\n\nI feel like I'm freaking out for no reason and I do want a girlfriend but I just can't shake this uneasy feeling.", "summary": "how do i make myself stop worrying about all of this, and how do i get out there and actually find a girl worth being with"}
{"id": "t3_26idy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25/M] GF [21/F] girlfriend is currently in jail for assaulting me, not sure how to proceed...", "post": "I've been with her for about 10 months now.\n\nSo far our relationship has been great: tons of sex, few fights, and we love each other. However, when she is drunk, she turns into Hyde. \n\nTonight, after returning from a bar, she started to physically assault me. I am not exaggerating: she was trying to choke me, throwing things at me, trying her best to hurt me. At one point I was just trying to end the fight and go to sleep when she jumped on me and wrapped her hands around my throat. I am a big guy (6'3 210) and she is small (5'1 110ish) and my survival instincts kicked in and I basically threw her across the room. She started to scream and I grabbed my phone and called the police. The police arrived minutes later and ended up arresting her for domestic violence because I was highly bruised and my shirt shredded from the attack. \n\nI am lost now. I love this girl... but I have never been attacked like this before, not even by a man.\n\nShe is in jail now and my mind can't find peace....I don't know what to do...", "summary": "GF assaulted me while drunk and is in jail now, not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_42wvdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [21F] 6 months, Unsure about what to do when I graduate", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nHey reddit, I've been seeing this girl for 6 months give or take and when we've been in the same state it's pretty great. However this summer I interned across the country; and she broke up with me because she said she was scared (she had a really bad previous relationship, and was basically abused) However, when this semester started we sort of rekindled our relationship. She wants something serious, and I am honestly not ready for this at 21 about to graduate and try to get a job and prep for grad school.\n\nIs there a way to go about this and be friends? I've told her that I wasn't ready for a huge commitment, and our relationship has been kind of rocky since then. I want her to be in my life as at least a friend but it doesn't seem like that's possible?", "summary": "met a girl started dating, over summer I interned across country, she broke up with me cuz of distance and scared, came back to school rekindled our realtionship, she wants something more serious, I'm trying to get a job and start my career/not ready/scared to committ that heavily if I go back across country, Help! Is just being friends an option in your opinion??"}
{"id": "t3_2eyy0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [14 M] have a crush on this new girl [15 F]. How should I go on about it?", "post": "First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems.\n\n This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated!", "summary": "I [14M] have a crush on this new girl [15F] and we've talked few times. What should i do now?"}
{"id": "t3_2q5eoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] My boyfriend [29M] is misogynistic and patronizing. Help?", "post": "Yesterday I was chatting with my boyfriend on Facebook. We were talking about only small stuff like Dota2 when I mentioned Anita Sarkeesian and feminism. Unamused, he went on a long tirade about GamerGate and ethics in journalism.\n\nAfterwards, I explained to him the importance of Feminism and how it is important really in society. I said that women want equality and that it is fair, but he was easily angered and he said that women are very different from men. Period. \n\nVexed, I explained to him that these differences are not necessary and they easily can be removed. I told him that he was being influenced by the patriarchy really because that is simply not true. Then he got really angry and said to me, You are just a woman so be quiet and don't act disrespectful with me.\"\n\nDisagreeing with him, I was very angry and sad. I love my boyfriend very much unfortunately he is a little misogynistic and mean sometimes. Why don't those men want to hear about feminism, they are so closed minded. I am really very bothered by this. Please help", "summary": "my boyfriend is very misogynistic, please help. Also sorry for my bad english, Im learning still."}
{"id": "t3_36gdjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28/F) New Coworker (24/M)is spitting image of my Nightmare Ex (23/M-dated 1.5 years)", "post": "Hi Ladies and Gents, \n\nSo.. a few months ago, I had a devastating break-up. I mean completely awful, worst break-up I've ever gone through, total nightmare situation. We dated for a year and a half. I did not have any closure, and his behavior was (and continues to be) downright spiteful and abusive. We lived together, so I ended up moving back with my mom for a bit. I am currently going through a kind of transitory period, and have just gotten a new part-time job. \n\nOn the first day of my new job, one of the new supervisors came in, and my stomach dropped. This man is an exact copy of my Ex. Hair, glasses, clothes.. everything. I actually had trouble training with him because I felt weirdly sick and turned on in equal measure. \n\nTomorrow is day 2. I am not sure how to handle this situation. I feel like I am already acting weird around this person, who is more or less a total stranger to me. I know I am projecting my feelings about my ex onto coworker, but I'm not sure how to control this situation. One minute, I want to punch him in the face. The next minute, I want him to fuck me on his desk.", "summary": "New coworker STRONGLY resembles recent Ex. Having trouble separating this stranger from my feelings about Ex following traumatic break-up."}
{"id": "t3_2p535l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf (19/f) and I (18/m) are currently long distance but temporary. Feeling lonely and thinking of going back home sooner?", "post": "Hello, \n\nI have been going abroad for the past week. The trip was to visit family and also get to know the place where I am currently staying. \nLately, i've been feeling alone and missing my family and my gf, most of all. \n\nMy gf and I are very, very close and are always together. This is the third time we've been apart (this is longer than the first time).\n\nTravelling alone isn't as exciting as I thought it would be, and I just feel sad and isolated. I love the cities and countries that I'm visiting, and I told myself that I just need to enjoy the trip (because I don't know when I'll get the chance to travel again), so trying to avoid all negative thoughts because I might regret it later. or not.\n\nThough, every place I go to, I don't enjoy it as much as I would with someone else. My gf is also trying to support me, letting me know everything is ok and that I need to keep myself busy and to enjoy the trip.\n\nWe talked a few nights ago and seeing her made me so happy! After we hung up, I couldn't help but plan out a way to back home sooner.\nI just don't want to be here by myself and I'm really starting to think the trip wasn't worth it. \nI didn't really know where to post this but, mainly this  has to do with me wanting to be back home with my gf.\nAny advice on this?? I'm just confused at this point. I still have another 2 months here but I'm thinking of leaving in 3 weeks (the soonest)", "summary": "miss my gf while going abroad on trip and thinking of going back home sooner."}
{"id": "t3_48mssa", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU after having ice cold showers for a year", "post": "Dear Reddit, this year I fucked up...\n\nSo I moved to the UK almost a year ago, and I live in a beautiful, brand-new student accommodation. My only concern has been that the showers were 90% of the time ice cold, and almost never steamy hot.\n\nYesterday, I've been hanging out with some of my British friends and we've been talking about what we miss from home. My immediate first thought was, shit, I just love a good shower back home. So I said it out loud, and all I got in return was confused faces.\nAfter being publicly shamed over the fact that I have been living like an idiot for a year, and then demonstrating me how to properly use the shower, I got away by saying that mine must be faulty, then...\n\nThe truth is far from that, though. The switch controlling the heat could be turned way more backwards by pushing a button on it... Having done that, I spent around 50 minutes under the shower, laughing like a maniac while crying inside.\n\nSo here I am, on reddit, after having my first hot shower after a year. I feel like an idiot.", "summary": "Been having cold showers for a year, explained it to a group of friends, turns out my stupid brain failed to realise there is more to the problem. Just had my first hot shower."}
{"id": "t3_4c47pd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M] It's been a year and i'm still not over her [19/F] anyone have any advice?", "post": "**Background info** - We only dated for a few months and were starting a relationship, but then things went terribly wrong and it ended. I love her. Her looks and personality were what I looked and dreamt for in a woman. We just clicked from the get go.  I tried my hardest to make it work, but she obviously didn't feel the same + she was starting her new life at uni so why would she bother when she's got so many opportunities a head of her. \n\n**My problem** - It hurts so much. The heartbreak is horrible! My heartstrings have been pulled so hard and I've never felt like this before. It fucking sucks! She wasn't even in my life that long yet she's affected it so much! (you can probably tell I haven't been in many or long relationships). I just want to move on with my life! And I know what you're going to say... go out and date new woman but its not that simple for some reason they most woman want nothing to do with me otherwise I would've been in plenty of long lasting relationships and lost my virginity by now. And the funny thing is I'm not even unattractive. \n\nI also want to add how lame  I think it is that I cant stop lusting over someone that was in my life for such a short period, when theres no many people out there who've gone through divorce etc and they're doing just fine! my emotions are bullshit!", "summary": "I just want to know how I can get over the heart ache without dating new woman etc. Any advice would be really appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1pbhk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] found a nude photo of somebody that I think is my old best friend [F21]. Do I tell her?", "post": "Ok, so this girl was my best friend for years, but we don't talk anymore.\n\nI think I found a picture of her giving a guy a blowjob here on reddit and I know she wouldn't ever say ok to something like that being put online. When I posted on the thread the guy deleted it right away, which made me suspicious that it is her. I can't quite tell but the girl looks almost identical.\nSo, AskWomen, if you were my friend, would you want somebody to tell you that your boyfriend might have posted a picture of you giving him a blowjob online?\n\nInstead of me just telling her, I'd probably make a throwaway email and attach the picture and just tell her anonymously.", "summary": "Found nude photo of somebody that I think is an old friend.  Do I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_3hmtyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my friend (?) [22 F] since 3 month. I don't know how to be only firends and I don't want to lose her.", "post": "Hi,\ntomorrow I'll meet Marie again (only the two of us as always). She told me regularly we are not dating. She just wants us to be friends or at least she said so. I never had this before. My brain automatically thinks: \"M and F are meeting regularly and they know each other for a short time = dates\". We always have a great time.\n\nI like her alot, dont want to lose her and I need to learn how not want to have sex with her. Or i need to learn what to do that she wants to have sex with me. (not only sex, cuddle/kissing, whatever you want, i just want to be close to her). \n\nIm very upset sometimes because of this situation, because i'm looking for a GF/FWB since 6 month now and i got the feeling we could have a great time together.\n\nWhat can i tell her tomorrow, to make clear I like her also in another way than she does, without risking to lose her?", "summary": "We like each other alot. I want more. She doesn't. How not to lose her and learn that we are only firends or try to convince her that FWB is better than friends."}
{"id": "t3_3iahuj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking the wrong pill.", "post": "No throwaway because the Dow was down and I'm feeling like enough of a ballsy idiot. This happened now. I'm prescribed Adderall and Lunesta PRN, which means I take both when I need to versus at a specific time each day. I pulled a muscle at the gym today and have been in moderate pain. While I was brushing my teeth, I remembered that I had Lunesta and opened the cabinet to take a pill with the brilliant idea that I would call it an early night and avoid tossing and turning in pain.\n\nTook the pill, lay down in bed, and settled in to some wholly mediocre episodes of 30 Rock. An hour in, which is usually when I feel like I'm about to pass out and shut my laptop off, I realized that I felt more awake, so I made myself some tea and tried for another hour. No dice. I went to pour myself another cup of tea and realized the Lunesta bottle was next to the bed, which made no sense, because I didn't take it in the bathroom. The bait and switch clicked and I realized that instead of taking my sleeping pill, I'm pretty sure I took my 10mg pill for staying awake. Fuck. Me. Of course, they look [pretty] [similar] so in the dark of the bathroom, I probably wouldn't have paid attention to the color. No wonder I couldn't fall asleep. Time to drink lots of water, marathon Netflix, and see what Reddit is like when Australia takes over once the US goes to sleep.", "summary": "Thanks Adderall, thanks folks, I'll *definitely* be here all night. Try the veal."}
{"id": "t3_1nvyn2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M]: attractive but having trouble finding a pretty girlfriend", "post": "I have been single my whole life. Dated LOTS of older women. I really want to find a girlfriend my age but it seems hopeless. I am 27 years old and have always found myself with women in their late 30s and 40s.. I am on POF, Match.com and OKCupid but not having any luck. I am not attracted to 95% of the girls my age in the search results within 50 miles and the ones I do message don't even reply. I have done this online dating thing for years.. probably since I was 18. I see all of these really pretty girls with boyfriends and it depresses the hell out of me. I know I am attractive.. I stay really fit, I'm tall, handsome, great smile and every single older woman I have been with has wished I was older so they could have a relationship with me. But every girl I meet that is my age, its not the same.. The lack of single pretty girls I encounter that are my age is bringing me down. I am tired of dating and sleeping around with random older women. I feel like there is no hope. I can't understand why its so difficult for me when I know I have what it takes, just no opportunity. People tell me how handsome I am and why am I single all the time. They don't understand I am trying to find someone. What am I supposed to do besides bitch and cry about it to you guys? I'm just in the dumps about this situation and I am just about ready to give up and continue being single going after the older women with no strings attached.", "summary": "Good looking single guy can't find a girl my age, feel its hopeless."}
{"id": "t3_2qr6m6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my boyfriend [29M], 5 months, he read my journal and is very upset", "post": "Ughhhh :( \n\nTo start - I'm completely head over heels in love with my boyfriend.  He makes me so happy, we have tons of fun together, and I cant picture a future with anyone else.  It was love at first sight.\n\nWe are moving into a new apartment together so all of my stuff is in boxes.  I get home from work today and notice he's clearly upset about something.  After some prodding, he finally admits to me that he read my journal, which was one of the boxes in the hallway.  So...now IM pissed - like what do you mean you read my journal?! And also confused about his anger because I have never, and would never cheat\non him or anything - and I hadn't even written in the journal since we met.\n\nSo, he's upset because it detailed out stuff from my last relationship which ended earlier this year.  My ex cheated on me, we broke up,\nI started sleeping with someone else (wrote about it being the best sex I've ever had) and was also sleeping with my ex, and then stupidly took my ex back.  Not proud of it.  But it happened.  And now my current boyfriend is all too well aware of my not so perfect past.\n\nHe expressed to me that he feels like I just fall in love with anyone, grasping for whoever is there, and that my feelings for him are not genuine.  This couldn't be further from the truth.  I love him more than I knew I could ever love anyone.\n\nHe left with a friend a little while ago but said he will be back in an hour or so.  I know that the majority of comments on here are going to be break up with him - but I don't want to break up with him, I love him and I want to do whatever I can to make this relationship work.  \n\nHow can I explain to him how wrong it was for him to read my journal, and also reassure him that he's the only one for me?  Please help.", "summary": "Boyfriend read my journal, upset with me for things I did before I met him."}
{"id": "t3_4qdpi5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My past has caught up with me and ha affected my relationship", "post": "So I [M17] and my current girlfriend [F17] have been going for almost a year now. In my last relationship i was cheated on twice and it affected me very negatively. After I left I started talking to one of my childhood friends (my current girlfriend) and we really started hitting things off. It was such a great time and being in such a relationship made me forget about the problems i had in my last relationship... or so I thought. \n\nI started feeling jealous around guys she hung out with for no reason to be at all and i would be incredibly sad whenever I hung out with her and said guys. And the guys were really good friends of mine and still are. Now though my girlfriend is fed up with it. We had a big falling out a few days ago and I've promised that I was going to deal with my old problems and fix them. And I've learned to let go of a lot and forgive myself for being so stupid. \n\nNow my girlfriend's trust has been damaged and I need to work it back up. I hate how it took me this long to finally notice and work them. But I need help on how to get her to trust me easier and let her lower her guard with me again because now it seems to pain her just to even hold my hand. It's scary and I want to do anything possible to fix it. We're going to see a movie she really wanted to see. I'd there anything I can do to help her warm back up to me?", "summary": "My ex cheated on me and it's affecting my current relationship trust wise."}
{"id": "t3_2wvns6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and might lose both of them", "post": "First post here to reddit so bear with me on the format.\n\nThe precursor to this story involves me deleting my tinder and ending my one night stands with the aim of settling down with a smoke girlfriend.  Up until this point, its been all about quantity over quality in regards to my sexual partners.   After some recent events that have left me traumatized, my girlfriend hunt shall commence.\n\nCandidate 1:  We will call her Jamie.  A total smokeshow in grad school that lives about 20 miles away from me.  She is moving into a nearby neighborhood in the next few months so that distance will no longer be a barrier.  She's awesome, smart, good looks, just the total package.  Problem is, we have just 1 mutual friend in common.  Which\n\nCandidate 2:  Shelly, I dated a girl my later years of high school (im 24 yrs old) and we separated upon moving off to college. Kept in touch, hook up over holiday breaks and summer.  She's always been on my back burner as in if were both single later on we will definitely hitch up.  She is graduating law school in May, and well be moving to my area of town.\n\nBoth of these girls are solid 9's and my typical catch is a soft 7 more likely a 6.  So im focused in on winning over one of them.  \n\nSo in about 3 months, both Jamie and Shelly will be living in a new area with no friends.  Being that they went to the same College and were in the same Sorority, Im assuming they will be hanging out together.\n\nSo here I am, asking the internet for help and advice on this situation.  I want to play my cards right and date both of them just at separate times.  However, that could easily lead to me losing both of them.", "summary": "I want to date this new girl while keeping my highschool sweetheart still available on the back burner. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3pdbt0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spreading colored butter all over my mother's walls", "post": "Obviously didn't happen today, instead it was a day in the early 2000's. We had just arrived back from the grocery store, where my mom caved in to my sister and my pleas for her to buy blue and pink [squeeze butter] for the waffles or toast or whatever that we had bought while we were there. She asked us to put away some groceries away so that she could go take a shower or something. So, my sister and I went about our business, and we finally get to the last thing that was in the bag: the squeeze butter. Immediately, my sister suggests that we make our mom a \"wall paper\" with the squeeze butter and I agree without hesitation. So, we squeeze it on our hands and work away on the wall, one blue and pink hand at a time.  Eventually Mom comes back down stairs and contrary to what we thought, she was *not* appreciative of the new d\u00e9cor. In fact, she started screaming in rage and handing out punishments in the form of spankings. After she was done with that, she had to call some family members to repaint the wall and undo all of our hard work, and never bought squeeze butter for us again.", "summary": "Treated my mom to a home renovation pro-bono, she was not as appreciative as I expected."}
{"id": "t3_265re5", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "HOA vs. street parking at my in-home daycare", "post": "Hi all,\n\nMy son attends a fabulous in-home daycare. Apparently, however, his wonderful, sweet caregiver is being harassed because I *gasp* parked on the street (as opposed to in the driveway) for (I timed it) ...108 seconds this morning. Less than 2 minutes. There was already a car in the driveway dropping off another child and I didn't want to block her in, as I know the mom and I know we both have the same time requirement for when to be at school. My husband with a more flexible schedule typically drops my son off, so it's not usually a big deal to wait. Anyhoo...it's not a gated community. It's a public street. Is that even legal for this guy to call and harass her? (Apparently this has happened with other parents and I mean, dude, get a life. Like does he stare out his window and just look for cars parked on the street? He must have. Total glassbowl, apparently.) Add to this the fact that there are *always* work trucks parked on the street because they're doing someone's lawn, or it's someone's housecleaning service. Right, OK, so it's cool for lawn guys to park huge-ass trucks on the street for hours at a time but my 4 door sedan being parked for less than 2 minutes is a crisis. \n\nHe apparently threatened to call the county to complain about her not paying proper taxes (which she does) and all kinds of other nonsense. Seriously, he's off his rocker about this. But is it legal? He's a realtor, so his info is publicly available. I really want to contact him and tell him that if my car is so terribly inconveniencing to him, he should speak to *me* about it instead of cowering behind stupid threats and harassing a sweet woman who watches babies all day.", "summary": "Glassbowl neighbor of my in-home daycare provider is harassing her because I parked on the street for less than 2 minutes this morning. Can he seriously do this?"}
{"id": "t3_3pf9wa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How will my student loans affect my line of credit for a car?", "post": "Hi PF! Looking into replacing the used PoS car I purchased to get me threw college now that I have a stable job. I have a strong budget/savings plan and I'm currently paying double my minimum payment on my student loans to to pay that off in ~5 years. I'm wondering what affect that debt might have on my ability to get a good interest rate on a car loan.\n\nSome deets...\nI had $16.5k in student loans when I graduated in May 2014. As of Oct 2015, I have about $14.2k left. \n\nLooking to put $10k down ($8k cash and $2k trade in) on a car between $17k-$19k. So I'd finance between $7k and $9k.\n\nI run monthly balances on two credit cards between $300-$500 but pay them off each month. I've never carried a balance in the four years I've had a credit card. I have a Very Good credit score but little history in my credit.", "summary": "Does a student loan balance of ~$14k negatively affect my chances of getting an auto loan with a good interest rate? Should I wait until I've paid off more of that debt before getting another loan?"}
{"id": "t3_2dyvo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] cheating ex [21F] is back with her old boyfriend [22M]. When they used to be together, she cheated on him too. He has no idea. Do I tell him?", "post": "So I [23M] had been seeing this girl - we'll call her \"Audrey\" [21F] - for about four months. Long story short, the relationship ended about a month ago, after Audrey cheated on me with her ex, \"Tim\" [22M]. I haven't had any contact whatsoever with Audrey since (I always do no contact after a break-up, regardless of the circumstances). \n\nAudrey had been with Tim for about three years. I recently discovered that the first time Audrey and I had sex, she was actually still seeing Tim, though she broke it off with him shortly afterwards. I've also just found out that Audrey is seeing Tim again now. I'm certain that Tim has no idea that Audrey cheated on him with me. There's no reason that Tim's friends would know about the cheating, either. \n\nI've never met Tim, and I doubt Audrey's ever told him about me. I do know how to get in touch with Tim, however. \n\nShould I tell Tim about what happened? \n\nTo be honest, right now I'm mostly feeling motivated to tell Tim out of spite for Audrey. But if I do tell Tim, I want it to be because it's the right thing to do, and not because I pettily want to fuck things up for Audrey. I obviously realize that telling Tim will cause him a lot of pain (not something I want to do; he never did anything wrong). I also realize that because I'm still angry at Audrey, I'm probably not in a good position to evaluate moral rightness or wrongness of telling Tim about what happened.\n\nSo Reddit, is telling Tim the right thing to do? Or should I just let it be?", "summary": "Ex cheats on her old boyfriend with me (I didn't know she was seeing him at the time). After four months, ex cheats on me with old boyfriend (he didn't know she was seeing me at the time). Ex is now back with old boyfriend. Old boyfriend doesn't know any of this. Do I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_2mjs16", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/f] Mixing business & pleasure: sleeping with a DJ/producer I'm supposed to be managing", "post": "Hi everyone of reddit I need you. 21 female here. \nSo I'm currently a freelance artist manager, which means I help musicians get their career going so they can focus on creating music.\nI've been working with my client for a few weeks now, and it's come to the point where we have so much in common (same music tastes, same interests, pretty much if I was a guy he would be me) so inevitably we've ended up being really really good friends and just recently slept together. \n\nI'm just trying to figure out where I'm supposed to go from here. I want him to do well in his career, since in the end, me doing well is totally contingent of him doing well, which is why I feel like mixing business and pleasure is a bad idea. However, I see it working out. I don't see myself in a relationship anytime soon, and feel like I can keep my emotions away and keep things platonic. As a female, I also feel like I'm battling the constant \"oh you gave in too soon, you're being too easy\" but really, I WANTED this. Who is anyone to tell me that I'm too easy for doing this on my own will, cause if the situation was reversed no one would be calling the guy \"easy\". \n\nSo what do you guys think about mixing business and pleasure. Is it all just gonna go to shit? Is communication key? Should I just quit while I'm ahead?", "summary": "slept with the guy I'm supposed to be working for and need advice on what to do b/c he's a cool person and I see him more as a friend than a client at this point"}
{"id": "t3_yh26b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girls, would you get into a relationship with a guy whose beliefs refrain him from having sex?", "post": "First of all for clarification: By sex, I am only talking about penetration - all other sexual activities possible.\n\nHaving been a reddit user for a while now (this is an account I made for this askreddit, as I'm paranoid like that), I have noticed that I might get a lot of criticism for having such a belief. There are a lot of Muslims that DO have pre-marital sex, however I believe otherwise - but I absolutely do not go around 'judging' anyone.\n\nThe reason I ask this is because I just got into a relationship with a girl (I live in Australia) who doesn't know about this. I am not overly-religious or anything (follow the basic rules). I feel it would be awkward to even bring it up until I am absolutely forced to, but I'd still like to know your opinion (guys you're welcome to answer to).", "summary": "Have a girlfriend, religious + personal beliefs for not having sex, girlfriend doesn't know yet"}
{"id": "t3_3bz234", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm turning into a girlfriend that I never wanted to become.", "post": "I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend of 10 months. We live together. We're both 20.\n\nIn the past we had some trouble with his ex-girlfriend trying to break us up with stories about how they slept together while he was with me, etc. But none of it added up and I trust my boyfriend.\n\nHe has one other ex-girlfriend, and she always pops up into his life just when we think she's gone. Now I'm fine if they keep a civil communication and friendship, except she always crosses the line with things like \"thinking of you\". And once asked him to go over and watch a film, to which he replied \"no, you know I have a girlfriend\". Her reply was \"I know, I just want to experience you again\", which tells me that she is not over him, and that I cannot trust her.\n\nShe recently contacted him again asking when he is at home over the uni break, in the hopes of catching up with him again or something. He shrugged it off and said \"maybe see you next week\". The problem here is that he didn't tell me, and deleted the conversation, and denied having any contact with her to my face. I kept pushing it, which is then when he told me that she had recently contacted him. I wouldn't have had an issue if he'd just bought it up, but the fact that he lied made me super upset, to the point where I made him delete her number and delete her on Facebook. Now I feel terrible and controlling. I don't know how to just chill out and be okay with things. I know that I'm insecure, and I'm not looking for criticism. I just need help trying to relax about things, and treat them in a less controlling way.", "summary": "My SO's ex contacted him and I made him block her. Help me become a more relaxed person."}
{"id": "t3_340azp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my ex [22 F] about to get back together but might have STI help", "post": "Hi r/relationships, throwaway for obvious reasons and sorry for formatting errors. I'm in a tough spot and in need of some advice.\n\nI dated my ex for 3 years and we broke up in early january because our relationship had hit a bit of a rocky spot and she didnt feel the same about me so she ended it. I really love this girl so I stuck around and we have been talking for the entire time and we have basically gotten back together without making it official.\n\nHere is where it gets tricky: while we were broken up, I got drunk and had unprotected sex with a girl I know to be promiscuous (stupid I know and very unlike me). It was a girl that showed interest in me while me and my ex were dating and my ex obviously hates her. I must add that I did nothing with this girl while me and my ex were together.\n\n Anyway, now I am worried that I might've caught an STI and I've already gotten tested and I'm awaiting the results (negative for HIV herpes etc but awaiting chlamydia and gonhorrea). Since this incident Ive also had protected sex with my ex but the condom broke the second time and in the heat of the moment we kept going. Ive been very careless and although I've had no symptoms, I'm scared that I've infected her and I was wondering if I test positive how I could break the news to her and make this work... or if she will just leave me. Her safety is my main concern so I will tell her. Thank you for any help.", "summary": "Getting back with an ex, might've given her an STI, seeking help on how to tell her"}
{"id": "t3_4x5ctp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 /F] and my coworker [59 /F] had an altercation at work today, unsure on how to procede? Am i overeacting?", "post": "I work part time in a hotel laundry room, and had a altercation with a member of the housekeeping staff on my shift today.\n\nPart of my job is to go up the each floor of the hotel and grab bags of dirty laundry and bring them down to the laundry room.  Today, i was busy and didnt go to grab the last bags until 3.  I am off shift at 4, so that still gave me plenty of time.\n\nBefore i could go upstairs, a member of the housekeeping team noticed the bags were still there and became very upset.  She burst into the laundry room and began yelling at me about the issue.\n\nI was shocked at her behavior, but calmly stated that i was on my way to get the bags and had not forgotten.  She kept yelling, becoming increasingly aggressive.\n\nI asked her politely to stop, and mentioned that in the future a polite conversation is all it takes if she has an issue with me.\n\nHer response to this was to call me a racist ( she is Chinese), and accuse me of not listening to my housekeeper co-workers because they are Asian.\n\nI told her that the conversation was over if she was going to accuse me of racism.  I will not be speaking to her without a manager present from now on.\n\nI immediately sent a message to my direct supervisor who was off today, and plan on visiting the hotel tomorrow to speak to the general manager.\n\nI really need this job, I am a student.  Otherwise, i cant see myself working somewhere where I am going to be verbally harassed and called a racist.\n\nReddit, any tips?  I would like some outsider opinions because I am still feeling shaken up by this incident.\n\nHonestly, I have never seen an adult behave this way and I am not sure how to address it.\n\nI would also like to note that there was another person working in laundry with me that day, who was not yelled at despite the fact that we share responsibilities. He is willing to give a witness statement for me about the incident.\n\nThanks", "summary": "Co-worker was verbally abrasive and accused me of racism because I didnt pick up a bag of dirty laundry fast enough."}
{"id": "t3_1q4uq8", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Young adults/reddit parents: how have you found ways of asking a parent to loan you money and figure out a way of paying it back? Diplomatically.", "post": "I know this question has a lot to do with the kind of relationship one has with each parent and at what stage in life you are personally and professionally.\nI'm 27, moved two states away for grad school, and i'm living strictly off loans. It's my first semester and I'm taking 12 hours. I'm an ex-teacher, so I have some professional background. No savings. I've travelled quite a bit though. Shooting for an assistantship/internship in the Spring. I've never been this low on funds. It's also scary realizing how much deeper I am putting myself into the dark debt hole of student loans.\nI'm pretty much living on a credit card for the next two months and I am too ashamed to ask my parents for any money. I can nanny here or there, but it takes time and effort (yes, like everything) to find families needing a babysitter in a giant college town. I will get organized enough to pay my father back, of course. He's already loaned me close to $1,000 in the past four or five months and I feel a little disgusting since he has a hard time making any income himself. Mother is another story--she's got a really tight grasp on her pocket and is a little aggressive when it comes to financial advice. So I never approach her.\nMy dad is the kindest man I know and has the cleanest reputation among his contacts, which is why people trust him and partner with him so much. His kindness does get the best of him however, sometimes to his detriment. In other words, people have walked all over him in the past. Mom, on the other hand, is constantly reminding me about payments, asking me about my loan, really approaching things in a way that push me far from wanting to face finances. Fabulous parenting. It's always been this way, with anything growing up. Dad never seemed to say no, he always gave me options/choices. Mom was a straightforward, dry, clear, British NO. She has always said I don't have my feet firmly grounded. I'm getting off on a tangent now so I'll stop.", "summary": "I have great respect for each of my parents and they are both very different in their approach to finances. I want some first-hand experience advice."}
{"id": "t3_jbx5o", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Just bought a new (more accurate) scale, and found out that I'm 10 pounds heavier than I previously thought and am now classified as obese.", "post": "I've NEVER been this big.  It's very surreal to me to find out that I'm obese.  It's like someone just told me I have cancer.  I'm very freaked out by this.\n\nThis week, I started changing my ways rather drastically.  I bought a food scale, have been logging everything in MyFitnessPal, started riding my bike for 45+ minutes a day.  Everything I can think of to get healthy.  My carb intake is now below 100g a day, and I've been eating as much protein as I can.  \n\nToday, I decided it would be a good idea to go buy a [more accurate digital scale]  It was just another way to further my commitment to getting in shape.  My old scale had me at right around 240lbs, but the new one shows 249.8 with a body fat percentage of 31.2% (not sure how accurate the body fat measurement is).  I feel like the denial I was living in about my weight was just reinforced by my inaccurate scale.  \n\nThis is the lowest of lows for me.  I can't help but feel absolutely terrible about myself right now.  This is not who I am, and I don't know how I allowed myself to get to this point.  In the end, I know I have no one to blame but myself.  I WILL turn this around.", "summary": "Fatter than I thought."}
{"id": "t3_3piiw2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Let a friend stay in my apartment while I was gone and my utilities bill skyrocketed!", "post": "Throwaway account, just because.\n\nFor three weeks last month I was traveling for work. An old friend contacted me right before I left, asking if she could stay with me while doing job interviews nearby. I told her that I wouldn't be around but that I would give her free access to my apartment. She ended up staying for two weeks and left the place in great shape. However, I'm just getting around to paying my bills for that period and I realized that my utilities bill is MUCH higher than usual. I've never seen my bill this high before and fall usually has the cheapest months because the climate is so neutral. Unlike most apartment buildings that I know of, each unit is responsible for it's own utilities, meaning that every bill I receive is for my own apartment's usage (instead of a total cost that is split between all of the tenants throughout the building). She was the only one in the apartment for the majority of that period. I thought I was doing the right thing by letting her use my place for free, but now I'm wondering if I should bring this up. \n\nIf I'm ever in a position again where I let someone use my apartment, should I make some sort of stipulation about energy usage? Should I be \"that dick\" that charges a fee?", "summary": "Let an old friend stay in my apartment for a couple of weeks, resulted in an ugly utilities bill, now wondering if I should do something about it or move on."}
{"id": "t3_36ot35", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My aunt is crazy and an awful tenant. Now she's trying to threaten and get money from the home inspection companies.", "post": "So a bit ago, I made a post about how she's trying to make our lives hell by being a terrible tenant.\n\nShe keeps claiming that the house we practically gave her is unsafe. We've spent over $20k on inspections and \"fixing\" up the place. It was safe before so really all we've done is give her peace of mind.\n\nShe will be moving out and bringing her family to my grandma's, her mother's, house. However, she isn't going quietly; she's trying to burn the bridge behind her.\n\nMy aunt made a complaint to the EPA after all. We haven't heard a response yet but I assume they'll tell her to fuck off.\n\nShe's also demanding $10k in emotional damages from the one of the companies my dad hired to inspect the place. They are very reputable, have done thousands of these inspections, and have only had 1 complaint to the BBB over the last 5 years. Anyway, she accuses them of lying about safety of the house and claims they got paint chips into the air or something (it's not lead based paint).\n\nI'm really hoping she doesn't get a single penny from them. She treated them like shit went they came to inspect the house and constantly yelled at the workers that they were doing it wrong.\n\nI never really liked the woman but now I think she's mentally ill. She's paranoid and has an obsession. Even if the whole world tells her it's safe, she'll scream that they're lying. She's done irreparable damage to our families relationship and to our future finances, specifically, my sister's college fund.\n\nThe ironic part is that the house she'll be moving into, my grandma's house, might actually have the things that she complained about ours having.", "summary": "Aunt wants money for phoney emotional damages. Trying to harass the inspection company."}
{"id": "t3_2vkn55", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] My boyfriend [22/m] of two years just broke up with me and I need advice on how to cope.", "post": "I'm not looking to get him back or try to analyze what went wrong. I just would appreciate any advice that anyone might have for how to cope after ending a long term relationship. He was my most serious relationship and we were extremely close... I naively thought that he was the one and that I wouldn't have to go through a break up like this. Anyway. I don't hate him and I know that I didn't do anything wrong, but if anyone has any tips to help me feel better or just a link to a good article or a funny picture, that would be a big help.", "summary": "I just got dumped and I need advice/relief."}
{"id": "t3_3yfsmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my friend with benefits [22M], met family this week. Are we dating?", "post": "Last year I [24F]met my friend, let's call him Finn [22M]. Finn works full time in the Navy and was home for leave around Thanksgiving last year. \n\nWe met at a mutual friend's house and immediately hit it off. He added me on Facebook and asked me to visit one more time (on his last day of leave). I made the trip and it was a great night. I figured that was the last of it. A few weeks go by and Finn messages me on Facebook, inviting me to visit him. He is stationed in Hawaii. I agreed. I mean, Hawaii?! Fuck yeah! I stayed with Finn for 10 days in which I was wined and dined. Yes there was a lot of sex, but there was a lot of personal interaction I never anticipated.\n\n Fast forward almost a year to this week. I visited Finn at his parents' house for a few days. Not only did I meet his family and have dinner with them, but I was also given a present. From conversation with his brother I knew he had told them about me previously. To top it off, his mom added me on Facebook. I like to believe if I were in a relationship, I would know, and it would be established. However, my friends think what Finn and I have is more than a friend's with benefits arrangement. What's really going on? I'm really confused.", "summary": "I met my friends with benefits' family this week and received a Christmas present. Worried we might actually be dating."}
{"id": "t3_31ix82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30/F] broke up with my [35 M] boyfriend of 6 amazing months because he smokes. Petty?", "post": "My \"ex\" is one of the most amazing dudes I have ever met as far as our personalities and chemistry goes. He's the kindest person I have ever met, we laugh endlessly together it seems. Now that some time has passed and the magical glitter cloud we've been dancing in has settled, the fact that he smokes frequently bothers me a tremendous amount. \n\nWhen we first started dating he said it was an occasional habbit. I was OK with an occasional cigarette here and there because I used to smoke and I \"get it.\" However,  I eventually found working out and eating healthy was going to be my lifestyle rather than self-destruction. \n\nHe tried working out and eating better with me (this was completely his own doing, I had no verbal infuence on this new bahavior whatsoever), he even quit smoking for a month or two but now he's just back to eating junk food and smoking. His habbits are completely opposite of mine and I am completely repulsed by his lack of self-care, but I fucking love the dude and I am in a tough spot. \n\nTwo nights ago I told him that I didn't sign up to date a smoker. Over the course of the 6 months we've been together I have made it clear how the smoking bothers me, but it does not seem to phase him and he seems set in his ways. He just has excuses and hasn't made mention of trying to quit smoking. So, I broke up with him last night and he seems perfectly OK with that regardless of the amazing connection we had. Was I in the right to leave him based on my values? Was it only conditional love if I was able to leave him because there was a condition I could not dea with? I need some validation here, because I kind of feel like a dirt bag for not being able to accept him for this flaw but at the same time I feel fleeced that he knew very well he was a hard core smoker with crappy lifestyle habbits and just wanted to put on the facade that he was a person I could be with.", "summary": "I feel deceived that my boyfriend of 6 months said he was an occasional smoker but seems to have a solid and frequent dependancy on smoking. I broke up with him last night, was I right to do so?"}
{"id": "t3_2px1ss", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to keep my[20f] relationship together with my fianc\u00e9 [24m] for the sake of our 1yr old.", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have been together for four years, he is the love of my life. Two years ago I was sure he was the man I would spend the rest of my life with and I thought I couldn't wait to have a baby with him, so I got pregnant. For a while everything was great, it wasn't perfect and we definitely had our problems but they were workable.\n\nThen, back in August I catch him talking to his ex girlfriend, nothing really inappropriate but I had asked him in the beginning of our relationship not to talk to her because it made me uncomfortable (they had just broken up 2 months before we started dating). We had a huge argument and he cried to me and swore he'd never do something to fuck up our relationship again. Then 5 weeks later his female friend has relationship problems and he lies to me and says he's staying late at school and can't pick our daughter up, so he can goto her house for an hour and help her, I guess. I caught him, he admitted everything but insists that nothing happened. I believe him, kind of.\n\nHere's the thing, I don't want to be with him anymore. I love our daughter so much though and I know that if I just tried, we could get through this for her sake. I also dug my own grave when I got pregnant because I set myself up to rely on his income. I feel like he's holding me back and like I'm holding myself back and quite honestly I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of fun things that people my age are doing and it kills me. I know now that we were no where near ready to have a child but I feel like it's my responsibility to stay with him and live out the life I've created for myself.  Even if it means I having to be unhappy. \n\nWhat do you think I should do? Does anyone see a plan C?", "summary": "I'm no longer happy in my relationship after my fianc\u00e9 betrayed my trust but don't have the means or the heart to take my daughter away from him and am wondering what my best option could be."}
{"id": "t3_3l4dl6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23M) recently out of a short relationship and seeing a girl (24F) I'm interested in soon.", "post": "Hey folks!\n\nA five month relationship I was in over the spring and summer came to an end in August. I was a bit torn out about it but, while I wouldn't say I'm quite 100% back to normal now, life goes on and I'm pretty happy with where I'm at. I've got good friends and plenty to keep me busy. Speaking of!\n\nI'm seeing a girl for drinks later this week who I've known for a little while now. We've always been in a bit of a strange place. I got to know her when I asked her out cold to my college's 2014 winter formal and she said yes. It was a great night--we danced all night long together--but I didn't quite get a goodnight kiss out of it. Afterwards we only saw each other sporadically, albeit always alone, for a drink, dinner, or play here and there, since she lives about an hour outside of the downtown core with her parents. Later, when I traveled to Europe for eight months for school, we kept in touch via letter.\n\nNow we're back in the same city. We're at different points in life; she's starting a new job downtown and I'm still a student, though it's for a JD rather than a BA now. So I know it's not an ideal match, but if she's still as fun to be with as I remember then I want to signal interest in seeing more of her in a casual way.\n\nI never feel I'm reading her right though. Anything specific I can do to make my intentions clear besides be my regular, charming self? Am I already doing enough? Have I been friendzoned and I just don't realize it? These are low stakes, but please give me sage advice, Reddit.", "summary": "How do I show I'm interested to a girl who I always find tough to read?"}
{"id": "t3_387mmw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend (19F) told me that she's falling for this guy (~19M) and that she doesn't want to...", "post": "Okay, so my (20M) close friend (19F) has been in a relationship since beginning of march. She's always wanted it to be very casual because she broke up with a long term boyfriend (~19M) a few months ago but she's falling for this new guy (I saw this a mile off but she denied it). She finally admitted to me that she is falling for him and also said she doesn't want to fall for him. \n\nWhat does this mean?\n\nShe seems very distressed about it and I want to help, but I have no clue what to make of what she said... She's going on holiday later this year that she feels will mark the end of the relationship, but I also don't understand this. Why would going on holiday for a couple of months mean that?", "summary": "What does \"I think I'm falling for him but don't want to.\" mean?"}
{"id": "t3_4ud2a8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend [19F] wants to split up because she wants me to be happy", "post": "Good morning all. \n\nI have been with this girl for around two months now and everything has been going great. She suffers from severe depression and anxiety but she tries not go let it get in the way of things. \n\nAnyway, we got in a little disagreement on Friday night and that has snowballed into maybe breaking up. We still both love each other but now she is saying that wants me to be truly happy with someone and that it won't be with her. But I am happy with her. She is the best thing that has happened to me and I this is the happiest I have been in years. \n\nShe is going through a difficult phase right now and I'm here to support her 100% but she keeps saying she's better off alone. \n\nI don't know what to do. Should I just give up on helping her? I definitely don't want to do this because I care for her so much and I just don't want her to be alone. Or should I not budge on leaving her and try to help and be there for her?", "summary": "Girlfriend has depression, wants to breakup because I can't be truly happy with her, but I am."}
{"id": "t3_1jxjaz", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Bichonpoo aggressive at the groomers", "post": "I have a two and a half year old bichonpoo that I took the groomers the other day. We had moved from another city so this would be her second appt. at this groomer. It had been a year since her last appointment because my family and I decided to groom her ourselves. She was happy and excited when we got there and pee'd a little when the groomer examined her. When we came back to pick her up, the groomer said that was aggressive all throughout and tried to bite her several times. They eventually put a dog muzzle on her. My mom and I were so surprised by this because she has NEVER showed any aggression towards a human or towards any of her previous groomers. In fact, she loves being cuddled by other people and goes to people whenever we're at a dog park. \n\nWhat do you guys think went wrong and what could I do for the next appointment?\nAt first I thought it was because of her matted fur. The groomer shot this theory down and said that my dog was aggressive even after getting the matted hair out.  She has also been a lot more matted before (the very first time when she was a puppy) and had never had aggression issues. Or could it be that she was gone for the groomers for too long and didn't feel comfortable in a relatively new environment with a different groomer? Or could it also be the groomer herself, and that my dog just didn't like her? The previous groomer didn't have any issues. \n\nWhat should I do the next time we go to the groomers? It will be a new groomer again and I hope she doesn't lash out. Will she be able to feel comfortable again? I'm scared that if she becomes too aggressive, no one will take her... :(", "summary": "My bichonpoo shows aggression for the first time with a new groomer. she has never ever been aggressive towards humans or any other groomers. What does this mean and what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_efygu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "TSA, WikiLeaks, Tax Cuts, Cops abusing their power. This shit got real... real quick.", "post": "Over the last couple of weeks it seems like a lot of things in the US are getting out of hand. Like really out of hand. It is beginning to make me feel helpless. TSA taking nude pics and groping people - only to be followed up with disturbing news articles. Republicans demanding Tax cuts for extremely wealthy households - holding up legislation making shit slow down. Every week another story of a cop fucking with the system and nothing being done about it. American spying on citizens using the argument of \"if you haven't done anything wrong then you have nothing to hide\" and then bitching when wikileaks exposes their wrong doings. I believe shit can get worse - Before it does, how can an individual get involved in any of these because this helpless feeling has to go.", "summary": "America atm seems way to fucked... how can I make a difference in solving the problems mentioned in the title."}
{"id": "t3_2h3to7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [22M] of 3 years emotionally cheated on me [22F] a few months ago. We're trying to work things out but I need help getting past this.", "post": "A few months ago, I found out my boyfriend was talking to some girl and flirting with her. I don't want to go into too much details about how I found out, but we had a period of about 3 weeks where we weren't talking too much because we were trying to figure things out. I know that while we weren't talking too much (and not officially on a break or broken up), he basically made her into his girlfriend. It really bothers me. Sometimes I'm just doing something random and my mind automatically goes back to that and I end up depressed. I keep getting paranoid and thinking that while I might be occupied with something else, he might go back and talk to her. He already said it was a huge mistake and that no one could ever replace me. It was just that new experience of a crush but it was stupid. I just need some help so I don't have to get so depressed and we can move ahead. I know it's getting better with time, but is there something that can help me just move past the hurt that's still in me?", "summary": "Boyfriend cheated. We're working through it, but I need a little help getting over the last bit of hurt."}
{"id": "t3_1ts1m3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (19) said I (F/19) am not the most attractive girl he's dated.", "post": "My boyfriend recently asked me if he was the hottest guy I've been with, and I said yes (I was absolutely being honest, he's gorgeous) and of course I replied, \"what about you?\"\n\nHe paused and just said \"No, sorry baby.\"\n\nI can't stop replaying it. I have self-esteem issues, and hearing this has made them come out more. He regularly calls me beautiful/smart/talented/ect, and I know if he wanted to be with them he would be, but I'm just disturbed. This is all kind of a sticky situation.\n\n Should I just let it go? Maybe I shouldn't have asked in the first place.", "summary": "Boyfriend told the truth that I didn't want to hear."}
{"id": "t3_4mz55n", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Decisions regarding a 401k Cash out", "post": "Hi r/personal finance,\n\nI have been looking for guidance on this issue, but do not have a financial planner currently. I am a 26 year old male looking to leave my current job. To bring you up to pace, I am an insurance adjuster for a major insurance company in America. I took a promotion about 9-10 months ago that I am now regretting. Without getting into any details on why I am looking outside the company, I have a financial dilemma that may not allow me to leave at this time.\n\nI currently make about $46,700. I currently have no savings to my name due to some financial hardships over the past few months. I have been contributing to a 401k for 2 years now (6% by me, 6% company match). There was a part in time that I was only giving 5% but my company still matched.\n\nAnyhow, I have about $7,700 in my 401k with Fidelity. I know their fee is typically 10% early withdrawal + a 20% withholding to the IRS.\n\nI have applications out to about 7 other positions that I feel confident match my skill set. In the mean time, if I wanted to quit my job currently, would it be a poor decision to cash out my 401k to make an emergency fund? From my calculations, the amount I would receive would be enough to cover at least 3 month living expenses plus I have at least another pay check coming.", "summary": "Is it a bad decision to cashout a 401k fund after only 2 years of investing to create an emergency fund?"}
{"id": "t3_nq70g", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Need Help Getting Over My Ex", "post": "Howdy!\n\nAbout four or five months ago I had a nasty breakup with my former girlfriend of three years. Long story short she was freezing me out and ignoring me, we almost broke up, she came over to talk about \"us\" and she wound up crying and saying she wanted to stay together, next two weeks were fine but she froze me out again so I broke up with her. I later found out that she had cheated on me (with someone I used to dislike but now am friends with) and was bragging to all her friends about how she was ignoring me and couldn't wait to break up with me. I was deeply hurt by this (duh), so that made losing my first love even worse.\n\nI'm kind of okay now and starting to be comfortable thinking about seeing other people (I jumped into a relationship with my friend about two weeks after I broke up with my ex, big mistake), but I still think about my ex a lot. I'd say I think about her most every day. I don't ever want to get back together with her because she's unappreciative of our relationship (she's the one who's pissed at me, even though she did \"the bad stuff\"), but I miss having those kinds of feelings for someone. And I think I miss who she was, because she used to be really nice.. Sometimes I can't help but remember things about.. Us. A date we had or time we spent together. Just passing by some kind of spot we frequented sometimes triggers memories, even if I wasn't thinking about her or anything relevant to her.", "summary": "So I'm in a half/three quarters of the way over my ex state. I'm not really sad over the breakup, but I still think about \"our relationship\" (even though I wouldn't get back together with her) frequently. I'm in a place where I find myself being comfortable seeing other people, but how can I get over my ex? Just give it more time and go with the flow like I've been doing?"}
{"id": "t3_43ecay", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By showing up at a friends house uninvited. [NSFW]", "post": "Alright! The other day i was having a few drinks with some buddies, After awhile (3:00 a.m) i leave. On my way home i pass my friends house, We are gonna call him Fred. At the time i thought it would be a grand idea to stop in unexpectedly, I don't know why i wanted to go but i just did. I'll tell you how this turned into a shit show.\n\nI walked up to the house and i thought i saw Fred at his computer in the front window, He **ALWAYS** has his front door unlocked and the door handle is broken, It's very hard to open sometimes. I shut the door behind me and look into the living room where i believed he was sitting, Well no one was there. At the same time a door closes up stairs. I moved toward the bottom of the stairs and look up to find myself staring at a floating dick in the dark. My situation is me standing in Fred's house with a mysterious wiener staring me down from upstairs. Nothing moves for a solid minute, Just awkward wiener staring and trying to break down what i walked into. After all that the wiener just takes off after me down the steps. Instantly i turn around for the door but, The door handle isn't working properly and i'm stuck trying to get out of the house. By some dumb luck the door opens and i'm sprinting towards my car a bit down the street. I look behind me while running to his Fred's dad chasing me with no clothes on, I stay focused to my get-away and turn to my objective. The car was half a block away. The only thing i heard was this guys johnson smacking his thighs as he ran, Couldn't help but laugh uncontrollably as i got into my car and started it. Fred's dad still hauling ass, I start my car and shift it into drive. Before i could step on the gas i look to my left and see his dick all over my side mirror and window as well as him hitting the top of my car. Drove home and never told Fred of what went on. He did tell me that someone broke into his house though.", "summary": "Went to a buddies house at 3 a.m, got chased by a naked guy."}
{"id": "t3_kqmol", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "First day of graduate school on Monday. What the hey am I supposed to do?", "post": "So I'm starting graduate school, in a computer science PhD program. This is a really dumb question, but am I supposed to walk in the first day 9am sharp, like hey, ready for work y'all? I'm afraid of getting there in the morning then sitting in the lab really awkwardly (reading some papers my advisor gave me I guess) until someone notices me or until I have to go to class in the afternoon (the lab is sort of an open space rather than a room, so I don't know if other students are guaranteed to be there).\n\nI tried asking my advisor when I met with him a few days ago and he started talking about something else, so I guess that was kind of a weird question? Then I completely forgot to ask the question at orientations when I had the chance.\n\nSo instead I turn to you, reddit. I figure some of you have been/are graduate students. What is the first day supposed to be like?\nIf you have any other tips for a new grad student, I'd love to hear those too :) Thanks!", "summary": "How do I be productive/not be awkward on the first day of graduate school?"}
{"id": "t3_twfei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think I just barely escaped a carjacking. What are your crime/disaster escape stories?", "post": "Throwaway for legal reasons. I would appreciate some legal advice, too, if any of you are familiar with German law?\n\nI was standing at a red light, windows down, cause its summer, minding my own business (listening to some jazz actually). I had seen a few cop cars in the area with sirens on, obviously they were looking for someone. So this shady / maybe drunk dude walks up to my car quickly, mumbling some shit I could not understand, and then things escalated pretty quickly: He grabs onto the passenger window, opens the door, tries to get in. My brain says: Naw bro, I know this shit from Grand Theft Auto! I yell \"Get the fuck out\" and hit the accellerator, run the red light (I saw that there was no other cars around). I'm not too good at multitasking, so we drift across the intersection, him hanging there, me yelling \"let go!\". I'm going fast, braking, going fast again, in hopes he's going to let go. All the while smooth jazz playing on the radio. Maybe 200 meters down the road, I decide I need to force him to let go. So I approach the (empty) sidewalk which has a pretty high boulder and start going slower. He finally lets go, I keep driving, look back to see if he's badly hurt. Last thing I can see is him getting up and limping into a patch of bushes in a nearby park, as if he was trying to avoid getting seen. \n\nI could not see wether the guy was armed, so I drove a little further down the road and called the cops to tell the whole story. Officer said I should come into the station tomorrow to give an account of the story. They had been looking for a guy who was checking if cars were unlocked in the same neighbourhood. \n\nThat's it for me, I wonder if I did something illegal (besides running a red light, which nobody saw)? Obviously I'm still pretty confused and unsure if I should have helped the guy, or what the fuck was going on in the first place.", "summary": "I dispatched a supposed carjacker by driving like a madman."}
{"id": "t3_wwd84", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So today I was behind a guy in a construction zone doing something I had always wanted to do...   What are the things that other drivers do (even if they don't know it) that drive you crazy?", "post": "So, in queue during construction just now, waiting for traffic to funnel down to one lane and the guy in font of me starts to swerve into the lane that is ending (as if to cut to the front and lessen his wait). Half in the other lane, half in ours, he is almost hit by a guy flying to the front of the line. (being almost hit by two other drivers from Iowa just 5 mins earlier I wasn't surprised that they didn't slow as they swerved around him.) I honk assuming he doesn't see the guy coming but he just glances at me in his side view and stays his course, causing about 4 semis and 8 other cards to swerve around him. Once the lane clears he finishes his lane change and does the one thing I wasn't expecting... he paces me. For the remaining mile of the lane only two cars get close enough to us to be forced into the queue behind me. The rest of the traffic in that lane notices what he is doing and starts merging a good 100 yards behind us.  \n  \nThis is one thing that has *ALWAYS* annoyed the hell out of me, When given MILES of warning that the lane will end people will always drive to the end of the lane and slow the traffic to a stop while the *nice* people let them in at the front of the queue.", "summary": "Guy in front of me takes to the lane that will end, paces me, and forces all of the line jumpers to queue up behind us.  "}
{"id": "t3_ua7dx", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Questions about a 1 month old kitten that seems to have a cold.", "post": "After a bout of parasites the moment I rescued him from a box, he's been growing healthier, heavier and more active each day. But he'd have this weird sort of rasp towards the end of his meow SOMETIMES, as well as some red around his eyes. I thought it was very unusual, so I took him to the vet for a regular check up just to make sure.\n\nThe vet couldn't see him that night, but he had an assistant prescribe some eye drops (twice a day) and a shot of penicillin for just in case, and then bring him back in the following day. I did as told, all the while keeping an eye on his behavior and bowel movements, etc. \n\nThe next day, Saturday, the doctor personally checked his lungs for any rumbling/bubbling, but couldn't seem to find anything. He took his temperature and that came out fine as well, along with absolutely no parasites in the fecal test. BUT he gave my kitten another shot of penicillin just in case it was something building up.\n\nIs it safe to say that the penicillin couldn't target the beginning of what seemed like an Upper Respiratory Infection, or that he may have a cat rhinovirus?\n\nSymptoms:\n\n- Rasp at the end of meow, almost never throughout the meow. \n\n- No fever. No lethargy. No loss of appetite, no irregular bowel movements.\n\n- I just today heard what seemed like a small cough, but otherwise no wheezing, no panting after being incredibly active, no rumbling in chest while sleeping.\n\n- Discharge from eyes as well as some red, but these have been getting better with the eye drops.\n\n- A bit of a stuffy nose, but not a runny nose. \n\nDiet: \n\n- Science Diet canned food four times a day.\n\n- Kitten Milk replacement about twice as a treat. \n\n- Bowl of fresh water out always.", "summary": "Kittens seems to have a cold, was given a checkup with normal results, but received two shots of penicillin just in case."}
{"id": "t3_4kfvyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17f) friend (19m) just sent me a picture of his dick. Unsure what to do.", "post": "We became friends at the start of the year when we both started the same course together at university. We hang out a lot and do quite a bit together but it has always been completely PG. We are partners for a biology assignment which is due pretty soon. \n\nHe just sent me a photo of his dick. There was no conversation before it and I have no idea why he thought I would want to see it. He also sent some texts with it which were pretty gross. I feel really embarrassed and have no idea how to handle this.\n\nI don't want him to do that again but I really cant make it awkward between us because we have an assignment due soon which requires spending a lot of time together and is worth 45% of my grade for this class. \n\nHow can I let him know I have no interest in seeing his dick ever again without hurting his feeling and damaging our friendship?", "summary": "Friend and assignment partner decided to send me a dick pic. Unsure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ogtxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] wife [22F] of 2 years loves her siblings [14M and 16F] more than me. I feel bad.", "post": "My wife (Sally) has two half siblings. They live on a different continent. Sally moved to the US 3 years ago. She is from here but her mom and siblings are not. She often says that her only regret about moving here is not seeing her siblings grow up.\n\nSally and her sister talk about twice a week but message each other more than that (it's never a nuisance, I want them to talk and it doesn't effect the time we spent together). She plays games on Steam with her brother cause he doesn't like talking on the phone. This bothers me cause she doesn't even like video games and I always have to ask her to play, but she asks her brother on her own. They play maybe once a week for several hours when I'm at work.\n\nMy wife and her sisters were very close growing up. They have these weird made up words and inside jokes. Also no harm there. That's great.\n\nSo last week my wife was chatting with her sister, who was feeling down about her looks. My sister said something to the extent of 'you're one of the most beautiful girls I know and I love you and *brother* more than anything'. I jokingly said 'well I hope that I'm a close second'. Sally replied 'yes, you are!' and went in for a hug. \n\nI feel annoyed and sad. I have an older sister but I love Sally more than anyone! \n\nI don't know if this matters but Sally and I are childfree. We both like kids and have already talked about what we'd do if something happened to her mom and stepdad. We'd take on the kids, without a doubt.\n\nBut I feel slighted. I don't want to bring it up cause it seems ridiculous. Am I wrong to feel this way?", "summary": "= wife said that she loves her siblings more than me. I feel resentful. Is this jealous/controlling or justified?"}
{"id": "t3_48vvy7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 F] wondering about opinions on dating in highschool?", "post": "My parents are somewhat religious and would rather I not date till I'm in college, but they have not forbidden me from doing so.  They believe that sex is always a worry and that even with very casual relationships heartbreak is still damaging.  I believe with their sentiments somewhat, but I still would like to have the experience.  My older siblings have confessed to me that they feel crippled by our parents heavy hand on this subject which has now left them older with no idea how to approach relationships.\n\nI've never really worried about this before now because only a few months ago I met a guy who I actually would consider dating.  What are some of your personal stories, opinions, advice, or pros and cons on dating in high school?  I'm not planning on having sex until college, which I know could always be a split decision mistake and give that up, but so many others have done the same.", "summary": "Opinions on dating in high school?"}
{"id": "t3_2ly9ip", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F], my SO [23 M] 6 months, the dreaded 'where will this relationship go' talk.", "post": "Here are the facts. \n-Our relationship is about to become a long distance relationship next year. My SO will have to leave for about 2~3 years(this is not definite, might be longer) to a place around five to six different time zones away. \n\n-A LDR is not a deal breaker for either of us. BUT, if I'm going to be in a LDR in my mid 20s (and  thus alone for 95% of the time because we'll only be able to see each other maybe once for a few days every three months-and that's when we're lucky), I need the other person to be somebody incredibly special, someone I want in my life for a very long time. \n\n-I want my SO in my life. \n\n-I don't know if this is possible because of our different religions.\n (I have no religion, he is a devout Christian)\n\n-I believe differences in beliefs can have a less impact in short-term relationships but have to be talked about in long term relationships. \n\nSo I'm thinking we need to have a 'where will/can this relationship go' talk before we commit ourselves in a LDR. Lay down our expectations, set out the rules, talk about our futures, and if it shows absolutely no hope of working out, then break it off for the sake of each other. \n\nI'm not conflicted on whether I should talk to him but when to. He will leave in three months. Should I have the talk now and get over it, or should I enjoy the time we have together now and leave the conversation until a few weeks before he leaves?", "summary": "Can't commit to a LDR relationship without clearing up different religion issues. Should I talk about this with him right now or enjoy the time together for now and tackle it later?"}
{"id": "t3_35zz2e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing up to work early", "post": "I just started a new job at a company that works with focus groups and marketing. A week ago, we began our training in different conference rooms, due to the renovations and maintenance throughout the building. This week, we were moved to a new room and on the back wall, there was a mirror. It wasn't a very large mirror, and they have furniture in odd areas (sofas in the fax room, a cot in one of the HR offices, etc.), so I didn't think a mirror would be something to get alarmed about. \n\nEarlier today, my breasts were sore and felt swollen, so it was making everything uncomfortable, especially my right nipple, which is pierced. Because I showed up to work earlier than usual, I was relieved to see the mirror. So I close the door, drop my messenger bag, walk over to the mirror, pull my blouse down, take my nipple ring out, and adjusted my girls before walking out to make coffee and organize my notes for the day. \n\nBy the time I get back, the room has filled out, so I take a seat in the back row. The.girl sitting next to me pulls her phone out and as she is.using it, someone knocks on the door, sticks their hand through, and passes my instructor a blue post-it. My instuctow looks at the back row, calls the girl by her name, tells her that she needs to put the phone away while training is in session. My instructor further elaborates on how this became known to her: \"That mirror in the back is a two-way mirror. So whatever you do in this room is being watched by someone on the other side.\" \n\nThis was 3 hours ago. I'm still waiting on someone to indicate that I was being watched by them.", "summary": "TIFU by giving Big Brother a peep show. "}
{"id": "t3_3et8qw", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Appraisal \"Subject To\" issues", "post": "We are in the process of buying a bank owned home. The house is in great condition with the exception of the basement. There is a water issue. It is not a finished basement, just basic cement floor/walls.\n\n Every day we had been there the basement was dry. The home inspector did find that a downspout in one corner was too short and is likely causing the source of a potential water issue. As it happened, the appraiser showed up the morning after some seriously heavy rain and there was a small puddle in that same corner with the short downspout. He made the appraisal subject to \"identification and remediation\" of the water in the basement.\n\nAfter jumping through the mortgage company's many (and changing) hoops, it is becoming clear we simply wont be satisfying their requirements and therefore wont be getting the loan through them.\n\nSo my big question is: Since this entire issue would never have come up if not for unlucky timing of the appraiser, I'd like to work with the selling bank to get the basement sealed and the downspouts fixed which should fix the water issue (mortgage was pressing for full 4-wall $$$ drainage system). Is it at all illegal to do this before finding another bank who will then order another appraisal? It's a genuine fix but feels a little like covering the issue up. Nothing that wouldn't happen if actual sellers were selling the place but still...", "summary": "if one appraiser has an issue with basement, can I fix it and get a different appraiser with a different bank to re-appraised after fixed?"}
{"id": "t3_1655h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I get over a friendship my boyfriend has with an ex girlfriend?", "post": "We've been together for more than 3 years now, and we're doing wonderful. We're both 21, and living together. However, every year we come to a very big disagreement over his friendship with one of his ex girlfriends. They dated about 4 years ago, for a short period of time (3 months) and they lost their virginity to each other. But, she has a boyfriend and she even talks to me sometimes. She's very nice. Although, she's in a relationship herself, I don't feel comfortable with them talking to each other. They're both working on the computer all day and they chat online sometimes. I see the conversations (almost all of the time they're conversations are about harmless stuff) and I instantly get upset because I think about them talking all the time and I get jealous of that. Right now, I'm just upset with myself for constantly telling him that they shouldn't be talking because I don't want to control who he can or can't be friends with. I've had people cheat on me in the past but my boyfriend is a genuinely great guy and he'd never do that to me. \n\nHe said this to me: \"It's been 3 years and you still have trust issues with me? what do I need to do to earn that level of respect? I don't care that you've been cheated on before. the people who did that to you are irrelevant. stop generalizing, I would never do that to you. You have the right to talk to whoever you want, I completely trust you.\nIt does not bug me when josh talks to you, or any of your exes\nso why am I getting the short end of the stick?\"\n\nHow can I get over this type of relationship? I know she's a good friend and that's all they'll ever be, so why can't I just let it go?", "summary": "My boyfriend and his ex are friends and I want to stop being jealous of their friendship."}
{"id": "t3_xczrw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm seriously getting tired of Facebook/Google +. Are there any other social-media websites out there? Is there any variety, or are we just stuck with those two?", "post": "For the past few months, I've been noticing subtle changes with my Facebook account. I know Facebook is really loose with their privacy, so I went through all my settings and made everything secure. I've noticed that my newsfeed only featured the statuses and updates from a small portion of my friends, and that I had been subscribed to certain friend's status updates without doing so. I refused to \"like\" any corporate entity or use any apps - I only used Facebook to keep up with my friends and coordinate get together, parties, and share photos and my thoughts. \n\nI had managed to avoid the Timeline feature for as long as I could, but now they are forcing my to switch over on August 5th. I absolutely despise the layout and overall design of the timeline page, and I was just wondering if there was any social website out there that resembled Facebook during it's early days, not all this corporate-sponsored bull crap.", "summary": "I'm sick of Facebook - Is there anything else out there that isn't Google +?"}
{"id": "t3_21zojc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [22/F] show him [24/M] that I appreciate him?", "post": "So I met this guy on NYE and we have been talking ever since. We're not officially dating or anything but are in a kind of pseudo relationship. Issue is we live 7 hours away so most of our relationship is via text/Skype/calling. \n\nI've been going through a pretty hard time in my life lately and he has been nothing but amazing and supportive of me through everything. I think I've lost count of the amount of times I've called him upset or texted him upset and had him call me with kind words. He has been supportive as I search for jobs even though he knows I may end up moving to the other side of the country. \n\nI feel pretty awful going to him with things all of the time and want to find some way to show him that I care (he strikes me as more of an actions rather than words guy). How can I **show** him that I appreciate him? I would send him something to his apartment but I don't know the address. I do, however, know where he works since he just started a new job. Would it be weird if I sent him chocolates or something to work? Is that creepy or cute? Or what else could I do? I tell him how great he is all the time but I feel like that doesn't really resonate with him.", "summary": "Not-boyfriend has been supportive during my month long breakdown. How can I show him it means a lot to me?"}
{"id": "t3_2wtxsn", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Thinking of going for a career in real estate... Is this a good idea?", "post": "I'm 25F, live in a city in Australia, and my career experience is really broad and varied so far: I've worked mostly in hospitality and customer service, cafes, kitchens, I was a travel agent, I worked in a nursing home, I've been a concierge. It sounds like I jump jobs a lot, but most of the time I've worked two or three jobs at a time.\n\nI'm really looking for something that has a solid routine, clear differentiation between 'doing ok' and 'excelling' at the job. I am detail orientated, good with numbers and also fairly creative. I'm adaptable, fast learning, computer literate and quite intelligent. I throw myself heart and soul into everything, and I'm sick of false starting all these careers.\n\nIs real estate a place where I can just get on with the job, do really well and climb the Ladder? Or am I barking up the Wrong tree? Every work place is different, but are real estate agents actually nice people? \n\nI've rented over 5 different properties in different areas of my city and I hate to say it but every single agent I've had has fallen WELL short of doing 'a good job' regarding repair requests, liaising with the landlord, actually returning phone calls and emails etc. is this because they are overwhelmed with the Amount of work? Or is property management just the bottom of the pile?\n\nI've looked into getting my license, in my state it can be fairly cheap, quick and easy to obtain (legitimately).\n\nLooking for any advice at all- even if you can think of a better career for me! I'm open to anything I haven't tried- as long as I don't need to study for 3-4 years just to MAYBE get an entry level job if I'm lucky.", "summary": "is getting a job in real estate a good idea for me?"}
{"id": "t3_2w19dh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 M] and dating seriously for the first time with [22 M]. Not sure he's over his ex", "post": "I recently came out at the beginning of last year and had just been playing the field until I met this new guy in January. He's a great guy- he's handsome, smart and fun and the feelings seem to be mutual since we see each other several times a week on average. \n\nOn our first date he mentioned that he had just recently gotten out of a year long relationship but he didn't say much and appeared to be over it. However, as we spent more time together he began to talk a lot more about his ex and I got the impression that he was still struggling to detach himself emotionally. \n\nIt's very awkward for me to listen to him talk about his past relationship. On the one hand, I've never had a serious relationship and can't really empathize with the healing process. But beyond that, it makes me feel like a second banana- like I'm just a guy he's spending time with to rebound and soften the blow of his breakup. I could just be acting dramatically, but it's how I feel at times.\n\nHe's still dealing with a lot of anger. The ex pissed him off somehow earlier this week and he read me an extensive collection of expletive filled, angry texts he sent to the guy. It was startling and really made me realize that this is a potential problem. Things are still good between us and I like him a lot but I'm worried. \n\nI just wanted some feedback. What is my course of action? Should I distance myself or try to work through it?", "summary": "First time seriously dating a guy, but he recently broke up with his bf of one year and he's not over it. Don't really know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1oml65", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Mental help, so many worries/questions", "post": "Boy, where to start...I'm 30, female and have crippling anxiety and PTSD.  Some of this is due to multiple sexual assaults, some due to mountains of negative social interactions, some due to losing someone very important to me (and blaming myself for it).  These issues and the combination of physical limitations (I'm tiny and underweight) have made it impossible for me to find a job since I was laid off 2 years ago.\n\nI'm fairly certain I meet the criteria for mental disability. With a diagnosis I could get financial/medical assistance if not help finding a job I can actually do.  But it's not like they hand out diagnoses on street corners.  A diagnosis needs a therapist, therapists aren't free.\n\nI currently live with my boyfriend, but he is not financially responsible for me.  He does not pay for my personal care nor can he afford to.\nMy main confusion is this; I have found a few therapists in my area that operate off of a sliding scale.  They of course do not really list what that is, but it surely doesn't slide to zero.  Would my boyfriend's income be considered my 'household' income?  Would his pay be what they consider for the price adjustment even though we are not married and I have zero income?  We barely get by as it is and he cannot afford to take on my mental health costs as well.\n\nAlso, am I going the wrong route all together?  I live in Texas and they seem not to give a damn about mental health in general.  I've called my local crisis center for resources MANY times and they've either outright hung up on me or refused to answer the phone.  The only other things I have found are religious and I am NOT comfortable with faith-based therapy.", "summary": "I have mental problems and need a therapist.  What is the technical meaning of 'household/family income'?"}
{"id": "t3_2p5e1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (27m) a jerk for feeling a bit embarrassed to introduce my bigger gf (30f) to friends?", "post": "Well am I? \n\nI don't date much or ever before this but my friends all know my type. And she is certainly more curvy than what I traditionally go for but she makes me feel really happy. \n\nI know I probably shouldn't care what they think anyhow, but they all of course want to meet her and I realized for the first time that maybe I'm a little embarrassed or uncomfortable? \n\nI don't feel good that I feel this way. And it hasn't hit me before until a few  of my friends both guys and women asked if she was cute and than cut me off to say of course she probably is a skinny girl with a big chest. You always have good taste. And it kind of hit me that well, not exactly. I just said Yeah she is cute and makes me extremely happy.\n\nI guess I'm just venting and wondering if anyone has felt the same?", "summary": "am I a jerk for feeling a bit embarrassed to introduce my bigger gf to my friends?"}
{"id": "t3_20j5hk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [30 F] of 10 years, after years of unhappiness I am finally breaking up with her. However, due to a number of reasons, I need advice on how to do so.", "post": "As I said, I am planning on breaking up with my girlfriend this coming April. I've been unhappy in the relationship for a very long time, but due to pretty rampant emotional abuse I've held back. She is very manipulative, emotionally unpredictable, and shut down entirely whenever I've tried to talk about our issues in the past. \n\nSo, while it should be as simple as sitting down and saying \"hey, we need to talk,\" it definitely feels like it won't be, especially with someone as unpredictable as her. If anyone has any advice on how to go forward with this, or any warning of what to expect during or after the break up, I would be extremely grateful.", "summary": "Finally breaking up with emotionally abusive girlfriend and need help thanks."}
{"id": "t3_3nezfg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to heat my clothes", "post": "Throwaway cause fuck stalkers\n\nLike most FUs this didn't happen today, when I was 6 actually. So I live in the one most northern parts of the world, 6 year old me decided it would be a great idea to warm up my school clothes. After some experimenting I discovered that the lamp was **hot**, I decided to rest my school shirt on top of the lampshade, still very hot. So my family don't have much money so this was my only shirt. I wake up the next morning to find a giant hole in my shirt with black edges", "summary": "Tried to have warm clothes, ended up burning my only shirt"}
{"id": "t3_q4vxb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just broke up with girlfriend of 4 years; Just realized have no life and few friends. How do I fix this?", "post": "I never was what one would call cool... but I certainly used to have much more of a social life than I am left with now. I started dating an out of town girl during high school and now as a sophomore in college, I find myself very alone. I didn't make the effort to have a life outside of this girl before and I'm realizing what a big mistake that was. \n\nAnyway, how I got here isn't that important, I need now to just change this state I'm in. But I don't really know how to do that. I have some friends at school, but no one close other than my room mate. I'm a comp sci student so that doesn't really help anything (Insert SOP programmer joke here).  \n\nI don't care about a romantic relationship at all  at this point, I need some time I know to get over this girl, but how do I just... meet people? I really don't care to get drunk and that seems to be what a lot of the social scene is built around. I love disc golf and play it a good bit, with other people even, but the disc golf scene around here is mostly 40-50 yr old men...\n\ni haven't really made a friend in years. My current 'friend group' is really just the people my room mate knows and a few people from my HS who came to my college that I'm not that close with.", "summary": "I suddenly find myself with no life, few friends, and nothing to do but code and play dg with middle aged men. How do I make friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3otspx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting to set the brakes", "post": "This was a couple months ago, and the second time I had ever driven a semi. We were working on backing in one of the 28 trailers, and as I got it into the lane, the instructor shouted to \"Put it in neutral and get out here\", I put it in neutral and got out, joining my classmates in a semi circle around the instructor. \nHe started to talk about the importance of backing, and stuff when, the semi started rolling backwards towards the road, but the slant of the yard caused the trailer to turn towards the trailer next to it, effectively stopping the semi, and I was so mortified. I had allowed a massive vehicle the opportunity to destroy life and property, nothing was destroyed, just some scratches on the trailer I hit, but still, a pretty shocking reminder of how dangerous CMVs are. \nThe next couple of days I basically was doubting everything I was doing.", "summary": "I didn't set the brakes in a semi, scratched up a trailer and then doubted my career choice so hard."}
{"id": "t3_1hanb5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What happens when a car buyer doesn't transfer the title and sells it again?", "post": "I sold my car to someone a few months back. Let's call him Bob. I signed over the title to Bob and made him sign a bill of sale/notice of transfer. I got three copies, one of which I mailed to the tax collector's office the next day. I didn't hear anything from either the Bob or the tax collector for nearly two months. Then today, a friend of a Bob came by and said that Bob sold it to someone else, Jim. Bob never transferred thr title over to himself when he bought the car. Instead, he sold it to Jim. Jim tried to go get tags in his name, but can't because the title is still under my name. Bob and friend gave Jim my number and said that they aren't going to deal with the situation and Bob changed his number.Now Jim wants me to go with him to the DMV and sign the title over to him. That isn't legal, I think. Because I sold the car to Bob, and I already turned in the bill of sale/notice of transfer to the tax collector So isn't this out of my control and Bob's problem? I guess my question is what do I do about this, if anything at all? I Live in Florida if that's relevant.", "summary": "Sold my car to Bob. He didn't register the car in his name and sold to to Jim. Bob changed his number  and now Jim is bothering me. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3x5lhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [m/28] told me [f/24] to move on, why is he angry?", "post": "So my ex dumped me, over the next few weeks he told me he was never getting back with me and to get that in my head. That he had already moved on and that I had to move on too. I had to date other guys as he was going to go looking for other girls.\n\ni said that's fine if you don't want to be with me, he later told me he met someone And I wasn't to text him as much or he would block me and not to ruin it for him. I said fine I didn't realise that I was being an Inconvience and back off. He saw a snap of me out with one of my guy mates, then snapped me about my boobs, I ignored it, I got 7 more messages one after the other with out a reply, and then he asked who I was with and if I fucked him, that I could keep the Christmas present I got him as he was no longer the best cock in my life. I told him I didn't have sex and he called me a liar and said I better not be lying to him after he asked the question so many times and wore me down. \n\nWhat at does he want from me, I asked this question a few days ago and I was just looking more info to what's going on inside his head? He told me to move on, that's what I'm trying to do, he's seeing someone?\n\nHe's 28 years old, he should know what he wants by now?", "summary": "got told to move on and now he's angry."}
{"id": "t3_26sbv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I [20M] was recently dropped by my therapist because he couldn't deal with me. I made a thread asking for advice. Multiple things has happened since then.", "post": "Original Post: \n\nI contacted my therapist yesterday and visited the hospital to speak with him. He has agreed to take me back after I showed him the thread which I printed off. \n\nHe said this was way more serious than I had let on and that my medication might need to be adjusted along with some additional medications. He didn't says specifically what though because he obviously can't prescribe medication. He scheduled me and said he would talk to my psychologist", "summary": "My therapist took me back, he might recommend me inpatient therapy after he talks to my psychologist, and I am now volunteering at the nursing home (visiting) and animal shelter."}
{"id": "t3_3yzgtd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting in my contacts", "post": "This happened like eight minutes ago. \n\nEarlier in the day I was out with some friends and we got pho. I always break up the jalapenos with my fingers before I put them in the broth. Fast forward several hours later and I'm hopping in the shower. I wanted to get a nice smooth shave for NYE so I decided to put in my contacts before the shower so I can see what I'm doing and not miss any spots. In my hurry, I didn't do a thorough wash of my hands before putting in the lenses, not really remembering the jalapenos. When my lens hits my eye, I feel an instant burning sensation, but try to blink it away and rush to put in the second. Once the second lens is in, the searing pain is worse. I put the lens out, try squishing it between my thumb and forefinger with solution (not realizing that I'm exacerbating the problem by rubbing more jalapeno fingers on it). Part two was the most pain I've felt in my life and I assume at that point I'll be blinded for eternity. I'm sobbing and screaming and trying to get both lenses out. I flail into the shower rubbing my eyes and sobbing hysterically. I finally get enough out of my eyes to realize my lips are also burning where my hands touched them and suddenly recall the jalapenos from earlier.  Fuuuuck. Eventually, I was ok, but my legs aren't as smooth as I'd like :c", "summary": "Put in contacts, essentially pepper sprayed myself"}
{"id": "t3_ntivd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do my coursemates have the right to ask our university for a different professor?", "post": "So we're taking this chem class. Our batch is divided into two blocks. We're under this professor who is also teaching the same subject to chem majors. He also uses the same grading system he uses with chem majors with us. Most of our block is failing and can't keep up. I can say that I can keep up because I was able to take this subject back when I was in high school. But what about my blockmates? They're requesting for a different teacher, the same one as the other block.\n\nBut this has me thinking. Is this right? I mean, it's a pro that we're getting the same amount of knowledge the chem majors get. Is it really valid if our only problem is that most of us our failing? \n\nI'm having a debate over this with my friend. If you need extra info about the case, I'll just keep you posted.\n\nWhat I think is that there will be subjects where the teacher will be unfair or the subject is hard in college and sometimes we just have to go through it. But then my friend called me insensitive to my blockmates who I'm close with because most of them are failing and I'm sticking with the 'they should just try and get through it' mindset.\n\nAny teachers out there? What do you have on the matter? How about students who may have experienced something similar, any advice?", "summary": "Is it right to request for a different chem prof because he's teaching us the same thing he's teaching the chem majors and my blockmates are having a hard time keeping up?   "}
{"id": "t3_1xk2y3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU during a run.", "post": "Actually this happened last summer.\nSo recently while in Rimini Italy I went for a run along the beach (I run a LOT). Unfortunately for me I got half way when my stomach went, \"whatt the fuck\" and really started to hurt. I decided to turn around IN A HURRY! thinking, \"fuck\" I have to get back. \n\nWhile running I started to assess my options, thinking maybe the beach or perhaps a hotel along the sea front would do. The beach wasn't an option because you have to pay to go to the beach in Italy (I mean wtf - right??) Eventually I just couldn't hold it anymore and ran into the first hotel I could find. \nClenching my butt cheeks, I asked if there was a bathroom I could use. Turns out there was but I had to cross the foyer to get there. So, walking like I had just been gang raped in the ass, I crossed the foyer and it I exploded right there in the foyer in front of the reception desk. You can't imagine my embarrassment as this tsunami of excrement gushed down my leg onto the floor. \n\nSo, that said I would just like to take this opportunity APOLOGISE to those poor Italian fuckers that had to clean my filth - SORRY!", "summary": "Reset the counter."}
{"id": "t3_4hurxs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my prospective partner [23 M], seven days, should we pursue relationship?", "post": "Anyway, this guy and I met at the club and clicked instantly. We exchanged a couple of texts, talked for hours over Facebook, met up a few hours ago for coffee. \n\nI recently got out of a relationship of 10 months. This dude was supposed to be a rebound fling; turns out we have a lot in common.\n\nHe was single for about a year and seems to like me - a lot. Thing is, I told him I'll be leaving to study abroad in Ireland in about a year. He does not want to pursue a serious relationship because he was in a similar situation (his ex went to study abroad, relationship turned long-distance, failed). On the other hand, he admitted he does want to keep seeing me, and that if Ireland wasn't involved he would have no issue. \n\nBefore we parted, he claimed he didn't want to kiss me until we met \"next time\". Then he told me to \"consider this very carefully\". Whelp.", "summary": "Is a relationship worth pursuing if you know it can only last for a year before one of you goes abroad?"}
{"id": "t3_tvixj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF is having emotional phases", "post": "I M [19] and her F18 are having a relationship for 7months now.\n\nWe have discussed the topic but I figured I might ask /r/relationships too. Sometimes she just has these days were she just starts being really mad at me for no reason. She says she just makes up weird stuff up in her head and keeps mentally elaborating on them.. Now she knows when she is having those days and tries to just hold her emotions back but she sometimes just has to let it out, which I am fine with since I most of the time know what is going on. Do you have any tips on how to handle this better on her/my part? Any help is appreciated.", "summary": "GF randomly bad-mooded, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_17laj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [f, 22] get a friend [f, 19] to return favors or at least acknowledge favors I've done for her more often?", "post": "I have a friend (of ~ 2yrs) who entirely unintentionally seems to not acknowledge the favors I do for her. There's a lot of stuff like asking me for rides (she doesn't have a car) that I will do for her and only occasionally get thanks. Sometimes after I do something for her, I'll be direct about it and say, \"I just picked you up from the airport, you should buy me ice cream,\" and she's always very receptive and willing to do things like that, but it only happens if I remind her.\n\nI don't want to be constantly asking for things from her, and I don't really need things from her, I just want to feel more appreciated. I'm not sure how to bring this up tactfully or in a way that will actually make her remember.", "summary": "Friend never remembers to show appreciation - how do I bring this up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_hnv2e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Embedded Youtube Vids don't work if ANY google cookies allowed session-only. What?!", "post": "I have Firefox \"ask me every time\" a site tries to set a cookie, I can allow, deny, or allow until the end of the session (I close my browser).\n\nI set most cookies from Google to allow for session. If I have any Google cookies set to allow for session, EMBEDDED youtube videos do not work. I get an error message that reads \"An error occured. Please try again later\".\n\nThe pattern is consistant, and the videos work if I watch them directly on Youtube.\n\nDoes anyone know why this is? Is my experience an enigma or common to anyone else? Is Google punishing me for not allowing their tracking completely?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "If Google cookies are set to expire at the end of a browser session, youtube embeds don't work. I'm confused."}
{"id": "t3_40sj04", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "missing someone you've never dated", "post": "here we go with cliches and romantic stupidity \n\nI travel for work. I never know where I'll be next, or for how long.\nduring my last job I met someone really fantastic. we spent a lot of time together - I even stayed with them for a week after the project I was on was over.\nand then back to reality.\nwe talk sometimes. we go a long time without talking, too. I never know when I'll hear from them, because they also have a job that takes them anywhere at a moment's notice, and often doesn't allow for any communication.\nI try to drown my sorrows by hooking up with a lot of people, and obviously looking for connections with new ones. It takes my mind off of things for a little while.\nJust when I start to move on, I hear from them again. Nothing makes me happier.", "summary": "how do you deal with the \"love\" who comes in and out of your life? who, perhaps you'd be with, were circumstances different? how do you just enjoy those rare moments when you get to hear from them or see them without missing them the entire time you go without those interactions?"}
{"id": "t3_1crvi9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have royally fucked up by dating way to many people F(19) M(21)", "post": "In the January I broke up with my high school sweetheart after 3 1/2 years of dating. I broke up with him because he was joining the army and I didn't want to have a ldr. We remained friends but with some distance in the month he was home before shipping off. I love him very much but I thought it would be best for me to be my own person and see what it was like to date around before really settling down. My ex wasn't thrilled but said he  understood.\n\nBefore the break up I had only had experience with one guy, in every area. Hell I had only held hands with my ex.  But in the two months he has been gone I have gained a ton of experience. I had slept with a hipster that really bruised my feelings by being crazy and not really being my friend. Two separate threesomes with my female friends and their boyfriends. Made out with my female childhood best friend To top off this terrible thing is that I have done, a guy I have been on three dates with told me he is in love with me.\n\nIn two weeks I will be flying out to see him graduate from boot camp and I have no idea what to do. Should I tell him? Or should I just remain his ex and never let him suffer with this knowledge?", "summary": "I am a whore"}
{"id": "t3_1mchbz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to flirt with a girl", "post": "This actually happened awhile ago, but I just remembered it now.\nWhile on Facebook, I was chatting with a hot girl, we arrived at the idea of hamsters powering the internet. \n\n**Her** : \"Dat furry little thing\"\n\nNow, I'm much more suave behind a keyboard, usually.\n**Me**: \"I hope you're NOT talking about the hamster\"\n\n**Her**: \"Well in that case, I hope it's not too little ;)\"\n\nRemember, I said 'usually'.\n\n**Me**: \"Not too little is the perfect way to describe it.\"\n\nI realized the severe awkwardness of that statement about two minutes later, and awkwardly changed the topic. I think this was more of the fuck-up than anything else.", "summary": "Just read the damn thing, it's not that long."}
{"id": "t3_1gi3zq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Make it or break it; different during marriage?", "post": "I had a conversation with a mentor of mine a while back about partners and \"deal-breakers\" that merit automatic termination of the relationship.  I know that people think harder about splitting up if they're married rather than dating if someone is found having cheated, but what about situations like the following?  My mentor was describing a situation to me where her husband had lied to her about selling one of their vans in order to get an SUV for their growing family.  It was one of those scooby-doo kind of vans that had fuzzy carpet inside.  She forgave him, even though she was really pissed off about 1) him not selling the van and 2) lying about it.  This is context of the van being disputed between them for several years, and it was obvious that their family needed a more family friendly car.  Now with that said... she said that if this had happened while they were dating, and that she had seen these kind of qualities from him before their wedding, she would have broken up with him right away.  Of course since they ARE married, they worked on it and patched things up.", "summary": "Are the \"deal-breakers\" for whether or not people continue to be together different for dating and marriage?  I want to hear your stories."}
{"id": "t3_xcp4o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m] Need advice. Make the leap with [25/f]... or not?", "post": "Thanks for taking the time to read this; its not something I really feel comfortable asking friends or family.\n\nI graduated college a year ago and moved about 2000 miles from home. My girlfriend still lives there, and we've been doing the long distance thing since I moved. She's graduating college this coming fall and the plan is (and has always been) that she would move in with me out here on the west coast. \n\nThe problem is that its a huge commitment, and I'm not sure I'm ready to make it. We've been together since we started college, so 4 years now, and our relationship is good by all measures. We don't fight often, and we get along in most ways. But if she moves out here, its solely for me. Her job prospects aren't as good as they would be in our home state, and she knows nobody here but me. I'm not sure if the grass would be greener elsewhere; I've met girls since I moved here who I seem to have more in common with.\n\nHalf of me thinks it would be crazy to throw away a healthy long term relationship just because I don't feel ready for it, and the other half of me thinks that if I have doubts now, it's just going to get worse over time, and it would be unfair to bring her here now.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? How have things turned out? Any advice at all?\n\nAgain, I really appreciate your reading this. I feel like I don't really have anyone else to ask, and its consuming my thoughts.", "summary": "Girlfriend is ready to uproot herself and move five states away to be with me, and I'm not sure I'm ready for the commitment."}
{"id": "t3_3ef7pd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "im just so confused", "post": "Intro: The guy I like is 18 (m), and I am 17 (f), going to be a junior in high school, and he is going to be a freshman in college. I have liked him for many months, but three months ago he broke up with his gf of two years. In person, and directly, I told him I liked him. He told me he wasn't friend-zoning me, and that he was interested in me, at a certain level, but there were logistics that he was keeping in mind. Ex: His college is 1.5 hours away, his best friend is interested in me, just got out of a relationship etc.\n\nWe have been hanging out basically every other day, along with our other good friend. Whenever we start hanging out, just the two of us, he always invites the other dude eventually. He also talks about the girls who have been flirting with him or hanging out with him, and there is a girl he has met once, from the college he is going to, that he might be interested in, and they are in the same dorm.\n\nI know this sounds like there should be a clear answer, but he still flirts with me. Or that is how I interpret it. He texts me into all hours of the night, about relationship stuff, he asks me what I am looking for in a relationship, we hangout a lot, he does subtle (and appropriate) flirty physical contact, etc.\n\nMaybe I'm just immature, but I can't play these stupid games anymore. I can't tell if he likes me, and at this point, I feel like I don't deserve the vagueness. I like him, and am drawn to him, but I have no reason to.\n\nSuggestions, advice, help?\n\nThanks", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_38hkbi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By saying it looked my fianc\u00e9 got punched in the face", "post": "This happened this past weekend. My fianc\u00e9 was in town for her sister's Bachelorette party. They had decided to celebrate by going to the spa, and while there she had a treatment done to make her dark eye circles lighter. Both her and her mom had the treatment done as they both have dark circles, my fianc\u00e9 is very self conscious of hers.\n\nI picked her up from the spa and we headed back to my place. When we get there things start getting a little hot and heavy, we're talking dirty to each other, she tells me how beautiful my eyes are which I reply so are hers. She then pauses and asks, \"How do my dark circles look, are they lighter?\" Being the genius I am, I reply, \"They do, I can't even tell they're there! The corners of you eyes look a little purple though, kinda like when you get punched in the eye.\" As soon as I say it I realize the stupidity that just came out of my mouth, which I quickly try explaining what I meant, while simultaneously she's climbing off of me and heading to lock herself in the bathroom.", "summary": "I should be used to the taste of my foot by now considering how often it's in my mouth."}
{"id": "t3_2wetdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend who already has a boyfriend [22 F] How do I work this out?", "post": "So I am an international student living in the U.S. Being in a community college was very lonely until I met her this quarter. I have never had a girlfriend before. Things are going great. I like her and she seems to like me back. We hug and kiss each other passionately. I confessed I like her. She as well told me how she has feelings the same way. However, it turned out she already has a boyfriend who lives with her. She never told me this before because she was worried that I would give her an ultimatum. How do I work this out? I love her so much.", "summary": "I like a girl who already has a boyfriend. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_28ktz5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by borrowing my friends camera", "post": "So this happened like the day before yesterday. It was a nice tuesday and it was my highschool class 5-year reunion. Before going there I remembered I needed a camera, but my memory card was full so I called up my buddy, whose camera I had borrowed many times. I asked him about the camera and he said \"sure, but one one condition.\" (i was like: he wants a beer once again, does'nt he?) \"dont check the pics on the sd-card.\" I was like: \"then format the card?\" \"Those pics are important and personal.\" answered he. Me: \"aight, I wont spy on you *wierded out laughter occurs*.\"\n\nI arrive at the reunion, greet old friends, take some photos, talk to our teacher.\nOur teacher. She wanted to take some photos, so I gave her the camera.\n\nTeacher ---> camera ---> bad idea.\n\nWe are all having good time, when out of the blue, my teacher calls me, creeped out. She was browsing through the photos and saw something. Something F-d up. It seems that my buddy, who I borrowed the camera from had creeped on his neighbours and had taken pictures of their wives and them having sexual intercourses at night. F-'n creepy as shit. My teacher thought they were mine. That's really F-d.\nMy friend hasn't been picking up the phone and everyone in my fall think i'm an asshole and a pervert.", "summary": "friends camera was full of pervy pictures and I got the blame."}
{"id": "t3_32v1yt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by caring", "post": "This happened on April Fool's Day. \nThe teenager at our work came to me almost in tears. I asked him what was wrong and he told me he got a text the night before from his girlfriend telling him she'd cheated on him. \nI've known him for a year or so and we're pretty cool with each other but my internal debate kicked in and I wasn't sure if our \"broship\" had extended to the point of physical contact. I'm also like 10 years older so it could've been seen as creepy.\n\nAs he was standing there \"choking back tears\" saying he didn't know what to do, I spent about 30 seconds putting my arm out a tiny bit and then quickly putting it down as I tried to assess if I should hug him or not because he looked like he was about to start balling. \n\nFinally I got my arm about half way up when he burst out laughing saying he couldn't do it. I very nearly bought him lunch as well. It was like he was on fire, I was just trying to put him out!\n\nI'm pretty sure it would have been enormously awkward if I had put my arm around him. He told me it would have been weird....", "summary": "Almost tested the friendship with awkward touching."}
{"id": "t3_4pe3ee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my GF [17F] , She told me her and her ex had sex up until about a month before we started talking.", "post": "Me and my girlfriend started talking to each other around march and started dating at the end of March. So we have been dating almost 3 months now. Other than me, she has only had one long term relationship and it was far longer, they dated for 2 years. The reason they broke up is her boyfriend didn't know what he wanted to be gender wise. She wasn't the one who broke up with him and she was clearly upset about it for a long time. \n\nShe broke up with her boyfriend around summer of 2015. So it was pretty recently, but I learned yesterday that they had been having sex since they broke up up until January/February of 2016. She and her ex do still talk over snapchat and text messaging, but it's pretty rare and from what I have seen the little conversations they do have aren't inappropriate and more of a conversation friends would have. \n\nWhat is bothering me is her explanation for why she wouldn't have sex with him again, she said she would have no reason to since she now can have sex with me whenever she wants. The reason this bugs me so much is she is planning on going on either a year long or summer long trip after she graduates. And I won't see her at all or very little during that time, and if she has no problem with emotionless sex I am concerned cheating is a very real possibility.\n\nHowever this is my first real relationship and I may just be insecure.", "summary": "Girlfriend had sex with ex/bf sex buddy up until a month before we started talking. She still talks with that ex/bf in a non-romantic way"}
{"id": "t3_4zjsaa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (m/23) feeling anxious ALL the time about things not working out with new GF (f/21) of 1.5 months", "post": "Long story short: Was in a very, very unhealthy relationship in the past and have not been with anyone for about 2 years after it ended. Met \"Jane\" online and we developed/are developing very rapidly, emotionally, sexually, etc., and it already feels like the healthiest relationship I have ever been in. \n\nRecently she told me she loved me (this is very soon I know, but like I said, rapidly developing) and it kinda freaked me out initially as that has never happened so quickly for me, but the more I thought about it the more I realized I felt the same way and also loved her. \n\nSo far the relationship has had virtually no problems, we are very similar in personality, have a lot of fun together, like to spend a lot of time together, we communicate our feelings well (maybe not me so much if I'm typing this right now...), are physically compatible, the list goes on. She is also VERY affectionate (which I love actually) and tells me fairly regularly how great she thinks I am, how happy she is we are together, and how she loves me. \n\nYet despite all the 'green flags' if you will, and all these great things she tells me, I'm CONSTANTLY anxious and worried about things not working out, or that things are going to just fizzle out.\n\n I know she is being honest with me about how she feels, and when we are together things are fantastic, but every time I'm alone these worries seem to seep in. I just feel like after so many bad relationships this seems to good to be true, and have the constant thought in my head of \"Yeah this is amazing, but surely something bad is going to happen, there's no way such a good thing can last.\" \n\nNot really sure if I'm looking for advice or just venting, but I hate how anxious this makes me and wish I could just relax and enjoy what is so far a really, really great thing. I also wish I could just let go of my mistrust of other people and fully trust her emotionally.", "summary": "Cant shake thoughts that new relationship might be too good to be true, and will inevitably fall apart with my new girlfriend, despite all the really great things about the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1unyc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18 M] just broke a girls heart[17 M] for the first time. It feels horrible.", "post": "Hey there\n\nThis is my first post here, so if I do something wrong just tell me and I'll adjust.\n\nIt all started about three weeks ago. We met through a friend of us and since there we have been chatting everyday. It was such a great feeling to have someone that cares about you. The only thing that bothered me about her was, that I was not really physically attracted to her.\n\nI've read a lot about what to do in this situation, because I've never met someone like her and don't want to hurt her. The common conception was, that I should dump her. That's what I did today. I know how it feels to get rejected and know it hurts a lot, I feel like a monster now since she started crying.\n\nI don't know how to handle this situation nor what to expect from you, I'm just kinda lost.\n\nThank you for reading this :)", "summary": "I broke a girls heart because I wasn't physically attracted to her and feel like a monster now."}
{"id": "t3_3krhxb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my SO [28M] duration, 2 years, he wants to give his mother money", "post": "I'm hopelessly in love with my SO \"John\". We are moving in together soon and I am convinced he is the one I will marry.\n\nThe main issue is his mother. She is a nice person, and I do like her. My issue is that he wants to help her financially. She lives in another city, does have a job, and could be working more hours, but doesn't. She also receives money from the government and spoils her other son (17) because he has some form of depression.\n\nMy boyfriend just recently got a graduate job in his field and excitedly told me that he has always wanted to help financially support his mother and siblings (17M and (22F) because they are not exactly well off (but I have lived relatively comfortably With similar income as a student). I realise it's his money and his choice, but I am against it.\n\nMy father has always given money to his family, and they spend it on alcohol and stuff like that and keep begging for more and more. They don't look for work and those who do have jobs only do the bare minimum and have turned down shifts. It has caused a lot of issues in my parents's marriage, and I've known from a young age that I do not want that in my future.\n\nAm I a bad person for not wanting him to fund his family? Is it a normal thing to do? He recently bought his mother $400 worth of electronics because he thought she'd like it (no occassion) but he has never spent over $70 on one occasion for me. He won't even pay for a date, we always go Dutch (which I am okay with). For the record, i have bought him a gift over $400.\n\nI want to tell him that I do not want to spend my life, or be long term, with someone who will send their family money. It has only bought negatives into my family and I think I will start to resent his mother for it. Am I just a bad person or is it justified?\n\nI will add that I think giving financial support to parents when they are elderly is something I am completely okay with. Just not when they are still capable of working.", "summary": "SO wants to give financial support to his family long term/forever. I'm not okay with that because of my family's history. Am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_187pjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [18 F] help with my new boyfriend [19 M] overcome his insecurities?", "post": "I'm a 18 year-old female, just (about a month) out of a long relationship of two years, and now I'm dating John (19 yo, male).\n\nWe haven't been together for long but we've known each other for longer (about a year), and I really like him. He's a great guy; attractive, creative, studies in the most prestigious college in my country, and one of the funniest people I know. But he really doesn't see that. \n\nAbout twice a week he'll open up to me about his insecurities, how he feels he's undesirable and a failure, and doesn't really deserve what he's achieved. I think this might stem from the fact that he was a virgin before we met and this is his first relationship, and I'm a much more confident, driven person than he is. He also seems to have some deeper issues that I'm not familiar with, so I won't go there. \n\nMy question is:  **How do I help my boyfriend overcome his insecurities?** Anything helps. If you have tips for day-to-day interaction that might boost his self-esteem, or something long-term and solid that helps him understand what a great person he is, please help me. I want to make his life better, even if just a little bit.", "summary": "How do I help my boyfriend [19 M] of one month to overcome his insecurities? He's an accomplished person and overall great guy, but he doesn't see it. I need tips on how to boost his self-esteem and get him to understand how great he is."}
{"id": "t3_3vf8pg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking the worst of my local dimsum (momos) vendor.", "post": "The story starts back in the summer but the conclusion happened half an hour ago so I think this counts.\n\nI live in New Delhi, paradise for street food lovers. Most neighbourhood markets have tons of stalls that sell all kinds of street food. My favourite stall was a stone's throw from my house. The vendors, a friendly couple, sold tandoori momos- chicken/vegetarian momos heated over a flame till they were lightly roasted and doused with delicious spicy cream (sort of like white sauce). I'd have them at least once a week and I couldn't be happier.\n\nAnd then the worst happened. I went to the spot one day and they weren't there. I thought they might've taken a day off and thought nothing of it. But then it happened the next time I went there too and I was forced to turn to the other stalls that sold pani puri.  \n\nEvery week I'd drive by and look for that stall and come home resigned that they were nowhere to be found. I thought of asking the stalls nearby about their whereabouts but never got around to it. I assumed that they had left to a more popular market or maybe even saved up enough for a better life. I looked for similar stalls that sold tandoori momos but to no avail. \n\nToday I walked by that place for the first time in ages. I looked longingly at the place the stall used to be. Then I noticed a new stall to my left, the other side of the pavement. Beside that was another stall and another and finally THE TANDOORI MOMOS STALL!\n\nMy heart started thumping and I ran over and told them that I thought they had moved. The look at me with a half amused half pitying expression- \"We've been right here.\"\n\nTurns out that I was so fixated on that exact spot that I couldn't look 20 feet ahead to where they had relocated. All the stalls had shifted together to the other side of the pavement to an empty spot that was previously used by a restaurant. \n\nI'm an idiot but I totally had an orgasm when I tasted the first creamy hot chicken tandoori momo after 3 terrible months.", "summary": "Favorite street food stall suddenly disappears, lose my mind and curse them for moving only to realise 3 months later that they've been on the other side of the pavement the whole time."}
{"id": "t3_2z7wsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] partner of 7 years has been given $1000 by his grandmother and I've been trying to save for a car, Should I ask for some of the money?", "post": "About 2 months ago my car broke down and is no longer working. I'm currently job seeking without any luck and getting an income of $200 a fortnight.\n\nI went to a car yard with my mum  and partner a while ago and for something decent we're looking at about $2500 + Getting it on the road so we're looking in about $3000-$3200 in total.\n\nSo far we've reached $1400 thanks to mostly him. I've only really been able to put in about $650 due to my income. \n\nOne of the main reasons for us getting a car is so I can take him to his appointments which are about 45 minutes away and hard to get to. His mum has cancer and is pretty frail so her and the family have been very occupied with that leaving me to take care of my partner which I really don't mind (After all I got to spend more time with him) and so I can get a job.\n\nMy partner has no license and has no plans on getting one for a while.\n\nI want to ask for that money so we can get a car and move forward but it's not my place to ask for it.\n\nI asked what he was going to save up for and he was thinking on another computer or nothing at all.\n\nI feel tempted, jealous and in conflict, What should I do?\n\nOn a side note as soon as I start working I was planning to pay him back. I've been keeping note of what I owe him so far.", "summary": "Partner has money and that can get us a car but I don't know whether or not I should ask."}
{"id": "t3_2jumua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my [20F] girlfriend for 1 1/2 years, I caught her texting the guy she originally broke up with me for", "post": "I've been dating this girl for a while longest relationship I have ever been in. I honestly can say that she's my first true love. But this girl has done some unfair things to me. \n\n In January she broke up with me because as she claimed \" I don't treat her like she's my girlfriend.\" About a month later we work it out and continue things back up. I then found out the truth about why we broke up, it was another dude. I was literally destroyed, that month we broke up was one of the hardest months of my life. I thought it was my fault I lost my girl, so I fixed it only to find out it wasn't me it was someone else. But that's not all. I forgive her because I love her so much and she promised to block all communications from him. Then I go and see on her Facebook she was messaging some guy (not the dude she ended it for) and she was telling him that if he was living near her it would be him and not me.  Confronted her about it and still forgave her. Well since there is no trust anymore I checked her Facebook last night. And she had messages from 2 months ago saying that they would hangout. \"He said why don't why hangout is it because of your bf?\" And she said no. \n\nNow here's the tricky part. \n\nI plan on ending it probably this week. But I have a good paying job for my age but unfortunately it drug tests randomly. So I have to quit but it's gonna be a lot harder to get her off my mind that way.  My intentions were to move after I believe I have enough money to move out and live with my best friend. But if I end it with her there is nothing left for me In this town and l probably will be extremely depressed. Regardless I need to end it but should I go quit my job with only 2 months experience but 6 in a industrial warehouse and move? \n\nNeed help reddit please help!", "summary": "My gf is texting the dude she dumped me originally for and im conflicted on where to go next with work and other things."}
{"id": "t3_319xk0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shower", "post": "I work in public relations for a very prominent sports team in the U.S. As an entry level intern, I usually show to the press box about 4 hours early to get it set up for the media, who arrive around 2.5 hours prior. However, I was running late, and had to get ready quicker than I had hoped. I took a quick shower, went straight to my closet, dressed, then left for the stadium.\n\nWhen I arrived I saw a couple guys look at me strange and laugh to each other, and I just brushed it off and kept going. In the press box, my boss looked at me and was absolutely petrified. The other intern came over to me and whispered, \"Sauce480, bro, there's white stuff all over your face.\"\n\nI ran into the bathroom, and wiped off the shampoo that was still on my face that I didn't wash off in my hasty shower.\n\nOf course, all of my co-workers thought it was jizz.", "summary": "Came late to work, boss thought I came"}
{"id": "t3_hbt7k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Heading to Galway, Ireland via Rental Car, any suggestions for epic views and sights?", "post": "We are changing our plans, and going out of Dublin and traveling to Galway. What are some MUST see sights and attractions out there? We are burnt out on all of the late drunken nights (though we plan on having one of those in the next 4 nights). We are looking for more relaxing, breathtaking views/sights, castles, hillsides, etc. From what I have gathered from the friendly personnel in the Hostel here in Dublin, it appears Galway is a better location for this type of experience. Any help is much appreciated, and as always Reddit, thank you for all of your help on our vacation!", "summary": "Driving to Galway, Ireland, looking for awesome breathtaking views/sights, castles, etc..."}
{"id": "t3_1kmivw", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Bad night/ Obsessed with the scale", "post": "First post here in loseit. I'm hoping I can lean on you guys a bit during this fight we are all fighting. Because I SO need it more than I'd like to admit. It seems I've become addicted to the scale. Like seriously addicted. And I've found that at different times of day I weigh more or less. But last night I totally lost it. Scale told me I'd gained 3 lbs and this morning they suddenly disappeared. But last night those numbers absolutely killed me. I was pissed, I was sad, I was depressed, I couldn't sleep. The number haunted me so badly. I have restricted my caloric intake a LOT and increased my physical activity from swimming a few times a week to swimming harder more times a week with the addition of classes at the gym. \n\nSome background- I lost all of the weight once. Got down to 17/F/130 and had someone taking candid pictures of me from the side to show how fat I still was. Definitely takes a toll on one's self image. Now I am 24 and got up to 252. And it sucks. I've lost a few lbs, track my calories in MFP, exercise. It just isn't coming off. And now I am obsessed with the scale. The scale that could be lying to me. It will always be in the house, so I cannot really just toss it (it isn't mine personally) and I have become so reliant on it to tell me I'm doing a good job. It's ridiculous. I had a NSV when I could shimmy on some shorts I bought 6 years ago, but for some reason that damn scale is haunting me day in and day out. Any advice for getting through the \"setbacks\" and feeling like crap days? And how I can feel like I've accomplished something without looking at the scale?", "summary": "Cannot accept NSVs unless there is an accompanying SV. The scale is my addiction. Looking for advice on how to get through the bad feeling days and get back on track."}
{"id": "t3_2m5b47", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/f] My boyfriend [20/m] told me he has a crush on another girl, says he will stay with me and loves me, but contradictory comportment. What do you think?", "post": "We have been together fort 1 year and a half and have shared very special things. \n\nIn the last months, due to stress, I was not at my best, but when he finally told me something was wrong, I really improved and I regret nothing. But by then, he acted differently.\n\nHe has met this girl in class and they have lots in common. He told me he is attracted to her but he says he loves me and knows we can build something together. Now he told me he thinks SHE is in love with him (she admires him completely) but he says he is concentrating on us (we are having very difficult times these days).\n\nBut this week he went to a party at her place (7 people were there). I think his actions are contradictory. He seems to be leading her on by seeing her, even as a friend (always in groups, but still), and she doesn't quite know he is in a relationship (or he mentioned once like 3 months a go when they met). I think he should stop seeing her, even as a friend, because it is bad for our relationship.\n\nWhat do you guys think?? What should he do?", "summary": "BF has a crush on a girl, lots of things in common. He says he loves me and he believes in us. He knows she reaaallly likes him a lot but still sees her as a friend. I'm afraid he's leading her on. Contradictory."}
{"id": "t3_25hx1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm having some commitment issues. (21M)", "post": "I dont know where to start so im just gonna ramble a bit.\n\nI met her (21f) about a year ago and we've been dating for about 5 months, but I keep getting cold feet. I dont know why, anytime someone gets close to me I get claustrophobic and push them away. It happens with everybody, I moved across the country so that I could have enough space and not feel like this around my parents and family, even though I love them deeply. This 5 months has been the longest ive lasted with a girlfriend.\n\nNow im just caught in this cycle with my girl because were together until I get freaked and I push her away, then I miss her too much or get jealous of another guy talking to her and need her back. Its driving both of us crazy and were gonna be past the point of no return soon. I love her so much but as soon as were together I just want my space back. And I feel like its never gonna end, ill do this with every girl im ever with and im just destined to be a loner.\nFrom my time on Reddit ive learned that if you ask \"does anyone else feel like ______\" someone always has. So im hoping one of you has been here and can give me some advice.", "summary": "I push away anyone who gets close to me and im sick of it."}
{"id": "t3_1da8v8", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Questions for College Track and XC athletes", "post": "Hello Reddit, I've been lurking for a while, but have finally gotten the courage to post.  I'm currently a junior in high school (11th grade) and would very much like to take my cross country and track passion to the next level (hopefully D1), and have quite a few questions about college running and everything.  \n\nFirst off I'll give you some background about myself:\nLink to my times, etc: \nI go to a Prep School (hate me, I know), and have rather good grades: 1470 on the SAT and 32 on the ACT.\nI've been running for 4 years.\n\nSo now that you have some background info on who I am and my times and everything (keep in mind that they are at ~5300ft altitude), I have some questions for current or former College runners.  What is it like to run in college?  Is it worth it?  How was the recruiting process and everything?  What kind of things should I make sure to tell/ask coaches?  How can you tell if the program will be a good fit?  What kind of reaction should I expect to receive from coaches based on my times thus far?  What kind of unspoken rules go on in the recruiting process?  \n\n[", "summary": "]"}
{"id": "t3_j7b04", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need a quick few answers: A fishy seeming life insurance company is offering insurance in a seemingly predatory/scammy manner, and I would like to know what to do about it?", "post": "I am part of an insular Hassidic/ultra-orthodix group.\n\nWe have a desperate need for life insurance (we tend to have large families young, often in \"kollel\" (its like free college w/o degrees that continue in perpetuity, so no or little income for many families) and they never put money aside, Jewish things are more expensive (seriously) all this in addition to normal reasons for life insurance).\n\nWe also are very communally minded, so we are often called upon to support each other.\n\nRecently, I found out that there are three (not necessarily related, but with the same name...) organizations that sprung up to provide life insurance services under the guise of communal support (tzedaka/charity).\n\nBut the sites seem overly vague and uncredentialed. They say that they are endorsed by \"rabbanim\" (its like a rabbi, more weighty (many feel that you NEED to follow directives from rabbanim)), but does not list them. \nAnd also by \"askanim\" (leaders of communal affairs), which are also not listed.\n\nAlso, its non-profit, run by \"volunteers.\"\n\nAlso there are no actuaries, just a basic plan that seems to be just pulled out there butts:\n\nEach group consists of 16500 people. You only pay when someone dies. \nWhen someone dies, you make a one time payment of  $7 per beneficiary (spouse and unmarried children) of the deceased, up to $28 per month (if there are more than 4 beneficiaries, its rolled over to the next month).\n\nThat's it.\n\nThere does not seem to be any oversight by any agencies. etc.\n\nI have many friends that have joined in, and swear by it.\n\nI want to see them taken down. Or at least verified by someone/something.\n\n* SO, Reddit, what can I do to help my community?", "summary": "title"}
{"id": "t3_1k7gh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28m] have an issue with a friend [26f] not sure how to go about this.", "post": "So I'm going to try and keep it short but lets see what happens. My friend decided to have a get together and I decided to go at the last minute. When I got there there wasn't that many people there. But let me back up. \n\nI've known my friend a very long time (10+ years) and I've always had a thing for her. The one complication is she's my ex's best friend, however our relationship ended 6 or so years ago and she's engaged. \n\nSo anyway I wasn't going to drink but my friend said it was cool that I could spend the night so I said well okay then. The night went on and before I knew it it was just us. We talked a little while and decided to watch TV and one thing led to another and we did our thing. At no point did she stop it. In fact afterwards we cuddled in bed. So I'm thinking the body language and words that were given shows she's into me too. \n\nFast forward to the next day. Get up, I go home and we are still texting. Everything seemed awesome. I never felt awkward or weird. She apparently didn't either. Anyway that night I get the text that she likes me but we crossed a line and she doesn't want to lose her BFF because of this but she still wants to be friends. \n\nSo now I'm not sure what to do. I don't think I could go back to being friends after that. I mean everything felt right. So, should I pursue or just call a spade a spade and move on? Would I have a chance?", "summary": "I went to a friends party and we hooked up I guess. I want to pursue it further but she is my ex from high schools BFF and she's afraid of ruining their friendship. However, it would appear we are both mutually into each other."}
{"id": "t3_1liw6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Meeting my boyfriend's (28M) family & friends makes me (22F) irrationally nervous.", "post": "Hey /r/relationships \n\nAs the title says, I get very nervous when meeting my boyfriend's family and friends. We've been together for 1.5 years and I've only met them 2-3 times. Mainly because we don't live close together, but also because my boyfriend knows it makes me nervous.\n\nSome background: I'm an easy-going, social girl but I have a *very* irritable skin (mainly my cheeks) that becomes flaming red when I'm stressed/hot. I've seen tons of dermatologists already but they all said there's not a lot I can do about it except avoid warm places/stress situations. Not that easy unfortunately. This has made me very self-conscious. When I'm with my friends or my boyfriend alone, it doesn't really trouble me. Even when meeting new people, I still feel relatively at ease. When meeting *his* friends & family however, I feel this enormous pressure to be awesome and my self-confidence kind of flies out of the window.\n\nI don't really know why I'm posting this. I just really needed to get it off my chest as another social event with his friends is fast approaching and I'm already nervous.\n\nAnyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?", "summary": "I'm an outgoing person, but when I'm with my boyfriend's friends & family I become very shy/nervous. My skin condition worsens because of the stress, making me even more ill at ease. Anyone been in a similar situation? I really want to know I'm not alone in this."}
{"id": "t3_2na2r3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my mother [49F] and my sister [27F], Mother is paying for a trip to another country for her and my sister but not me? What do I do?", "post": "I am currently in college with a 3.8 gpa. I work, go to school, and practice singing; I am a well rounded individual.  My sister is 27, stuck working for my parents, and is possibly the laziest person I know. \n\n Anyways I have always wanted to go to this particular country.  My mother has known my obsession for this country and its culture.  My uncle lives in this country and is getting married next summer!  My sister lied to me saying she opened a credit card to pay for her trip to this wedding.  I can't afford it because I am a poor college kid that can only pay her rent and basic necessities.  My parents are relatively wealthy.  \n\nToday I found a receipt for a trip to this country in my mother's email (it was open on a computer at home), the email included two plane tickets, my sister's name on one of them.  I called my mom asking her why she would do this and not pay for me to go because she knows how much I love this particular country.  She quickly lied and said \"I didn't pay for it\" then hung up. Total lie.  Her credit card receipt for two tickets is clearly in the email.  I am so angry and hurt.  I believe in being fair.  I don't understand why she would pay for my sister's trip but not mine. My sister is 27 years old, shouldn't she pay for her own way?! \n\nMy mother has bought my sister and I both cars and trips to Europe during college.  My mother even took her on a free trip from her work, but not me.  What am I doing wrong?  I do everything right and yet I still get the short end of the stick.  I am so mad, I am thinking of just cutting ties and never talking to my mother again.  Never doing anything for her again.  I am sick of doing everything right and everything going to someone else that doesn't want it as much as I do.", "summary": "Mother lies and pays for a trip for her and my deadbeat 27yro sister to gone on a trip to a country I have always wanted to visit."}
{"id": "t3_skk5j", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I don't \"think\" he likes me, but it's been different lately and I don't know if I should just go for it and ask him out. Need advice.", "post": "I'm a 15 year old girl that has liked the same boy for 3 years, passionately. However, he doesn't like me, as far as I know. I sort of asked him out before, ages ago. He said no. Back then, he was very cold to me and we were having a bad time in our friendship. We fell out, because his friends disliked me and I annoyed him or something like that. \n\nNow, he is friends with me again. We are closer. However, the way he's acting with me has changed. He sits more open and talks to me all the time, he does things to get my attention and he stares at me in the eyes while smiling at me. He'll pretend to be cold, but he'll have a little smirk on his face, but not a rude one.\n\nI like this new change. It seems he has forgotten about our argument and my love. People have mentioned it to him, he doesn't say anything. During a conversation with a group about partners and sex, he said to me that \"he might be a tiger in bed\". He's being sweeter, nicer and a little bit...cheeky.\n\nI am getting sick of lying and denying my feelings for him, I just want to tell him, but I'm scared that it will all go bad again. I'm more mature now, but I still fear rejection.\n\nWhat do you think these changes mean? Do you think I should tell him?", "summary": "My cold-hearted friend has now become friendly, passionate and cheeky. I am getting tired of denying my feelings. Should I just tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_3zxhhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [F23] handle the men I date fading away/ losing interest without it chipping at my self-esteem each time?", "post": "Hi everyone. I don't go on many dates as I'm fairly introverted but I've had my fair share. The problem is that after a few times meeting up/messaging guys I date seem to fade away and lose interest. I know this means that they're just not that into me but I find it difficult to not take it personally. My last boyfriend did something similar where he just stopped communicating with me and became emotionally distant which was very difficult because I still loved him. At the end I felt like I had to cling to any kind of affection or text he sent me (which I know is pathetic).\n\nI now feel myself getting anxious if I'm not contacted and worrying that they're seeing other people. I know I can't control their actions and it's out of my hands but I can't help but worry. I feel like it's affecting my self esteem. I hate the idea of being clingy and waiting on a guy to text me because I don't want my happiness to depend on approval from a guy I don't even know that well.\n\nI know guys fading away is inevitable because I'm not compatible with everyone! But how do I stop letting it affect my self-esteem? How do I stop worrying about them getting bored and finding someone else?\n\nThank you for reading.", "summary": "How can I stop feeling anxious and getting upset over guys I date losing interest and fading away?"}
{"id": "t3_2rrmf3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need advice! [m24] with [f23]. Trying get a real date! (unique situation?)", "post": "So long story short, this girl is roomates with my sister's friend.  We all meet up for a bar crawl.  Initially, I'm not that into her, but after talking the whole night, decide to take a chance on her.  Really cool, really fun, very cute.  Eventually, the whole group fizzles out, except for the girl, myself, and someone else.  Eventually I grab her to start dancing at a club, and whilst dancing, I go in for the kiss.  It gets really hot and heavy and we find the lounge area and start full on making out.  At the end of the night, we ride the train back, go our separate ways, and exchange numbers w/ a goodbye kiss.  After christmas, we make plans to hangout.  \n\nIt's a busy time of year so we don't hang out until New Years, where she texts me to come see her.  We're both in the same city, but just different bars, so after a journey, I finally wind up at the same bar.  We're talking, hanging out, having a good time.  As we leave the bar(we're in a group at this point), I pull her aside and kiss her, and we proceed to make out and hold hands for a bit.  We continue to hangout that night, which ends with a very nice goodbye kiss yet again.\n\nA couple days later, we're hanging out for a mutual friend's birthday. We're there with a group of people we don't know, so we cling to each other, joking and laughing, enjoying each other's company.  We don't really kiss or do anything intimate, but we danced a little before leaving.  Shared a cab back, a brief kiss goodbye.\n\nSo... we make plans to meet on friday (tomorrow), and I ask her if she'd like to get dinner.  Says we should meet for drinks because she may have plans afterwards.  This would technically be a first date.  Should I ask her more upfront to go out on a date sometime or take the drinks for a bit tomorrow?  Is her interest waning? Am I being paranoid?", "summary": "made out with girl at club. made out several more times upon future days hanging out.  Want to go out on a date, but not sure if she's still interested."}
{"id": "t3_1q94xu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] and him [26M] have been in a relationship for almost three months, but he tells me he feels no \"spark\"", "post": "So, I met this guy at a party function for the military, and yes he is military. He immediately took to me and asked me out on a date the day following the party. We really hit it off and have seen each other  every weekend since then. (We can only see each other on weekends due to our working schedules)\n\nBesides minor irritations that happen in every relationship, last night I was a little upset over a communication issue which was easily resolved between us. However , he confessed to me that he wasn't sure if our relationship was us just dating so he had someone to date, or if it was the real thing.\n\nAs a background, all of his friends in the military are already in long term relationships, or married. Only three other guys in his squadron are dating someone. \n\nWhile I understand we have only been dating three months , I am not asking him to love me; but I am unsure how to move forward. He confessed that he enjoys spending time with me, and has a lot of fun, but doesn't feel the \"spark\" he has with previous girls. I am apparently the combo breaker and am completely different to what he is used to dating. (I am very level headed and easy going). \n\nSo, my question is , do I need to give this time? We haven't spent much time alone together (this is not including sex as alone time). we have been out every weekend doing activities.  So maybe it's that we still don't know each other very well. Or should I just end this?\n\nWe expressed briefly we would like to continue seeing each other for the moment, but I feel it's still unsettled.", "summary": "I have been dating a guy for almost three months. We see each other every weekend. However, now he has expressed he doesn't know what he wants. He likes being with me , but doesn't know if it's the real thing."}
{"id": "t3_2jr1s9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By playing the knife game with a pencil.", "post": "We were ~~slacking~~ totally paying attention in class, and somehow we started talking about the knife game. You know, where you take a knife, and stab it *between* your fingers? I just happened to be holding a ~~dagger~~ sharp pencil. Not being an idiot, *or so I thought*, I was going to do it with the eraser end. So I take the pencil, flip it around, and *straight up stab myself in the hand with the sharpest pencil known to man*. After uttering some expletives, I remove the ~~bullet~~ stick of death from the webbing in my hand. I am greeted by the biggest hole I have ever seen in my hand, which quickly starts bleeding. At which point everyone around me bursts out laughing. It's a good thing they don't use real lead anymore.", "summary": "Stabbed myself with a pencil and everyone laughed."}
{"id": "t3_1gloec", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] My boyfriend [22/m] left me stranded!", "post": "A week ago my(23f) boyfriend(22m) and I went to a bar. He wasn't able to drink, because he has had a dui and has a breathalizer ignition thing in his car. \n\nI wanted to hang out and have drinks and he wasn't having any fun just because he wasn't able to drink and so pressured me to go home. I told him after I finish my drink and chill for a bit, but he was insisting we leave right then and there. We got in a bit of an argument, telling him to wait and he didn't want to. I get it, he wasn't drinking so must have been boring. But I thought he'd at least stick it out and let me enjoy my time since we never go out anymore. \n\nNeedless to say, he left me at the bar. \n\nWe don't live close to the bar either. I had no way to get home.\n\nWhat was hard for me to understand when I sobered up, and still today I don't understand how he could simply leave me at the bar with no way home. I didn't know anyone there, anything could have happened to me. I try to forgive him, but i'm finding it really hard. I feel like, he left me there what else is he going to do? \n\nhow do I get over this? I love this guy, but I think I don't trust him somewhat now.", "summary": "boyfriend of 15 months left me at bar; I don't know how to forgive him"}
{"id": "t3_3pmb2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] just realized I've been giving up on things my parents wanted the best for me", "post": "I've been thinking for the past few weeks and always wondered why no one ever liked the person I am. The type of guy who's kind, respectful, but lacks personality and the ability to socially converse and become close friends with someone. \n\nI've lived an okay 18 years, and right now I feel like I need to bring back some things from the past in order to complete the long hiatus of a break I've been taking. I always gave up on everything I was ever given. I gave up on the guitar, piano, basketball, swimming.. I ended up gaining weight and the fat that's been with me for 7 years has not gone away. I'm not obese or visibly fat, but I've always stood home and played video games.\n\nMy parents, and I realize it now that they wanted to raise me as someone who would become talented and successful in the future. They wanted me to learn piano, how to swim, how to play basketball, they gave me the opportunity to learn guitar, as well as signing me up for tutoring classes to do well in school. I never saw it that way until recently, when I asked myself why I wasn't good at anything.\n\nI've lacked discipline, the idea of working hard was inexistent. I never knew the feeling of working hard, I always gave up on everything. My parents never gave up on me, though nowadays they don't really see me as someone they are proud of. And I just want to work hard right now so I can show my parents that I finally found something I love to do.\n\nI just don't know what to do now, I'm in school 4 times a week, and have work on two other days, leaving me with only one day free.", "summary": "parents tried their best to make me someone talented, I gave up on everything."}
{"id": "t3_3m97dt", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Vent] Angry at my dog", "post": "I'm starting to get really angry at my dog, and I know it's not all his fault.  He knocked my two year old son down the stairs yesterday when my wife, my son and I were going down the stairs.  My son starting to go down our carpeted stairs and my dog ran down the stairs as he does and knocked my son down them.  It was one of the worse experiences of my life, but luckily my son rolled like a log, rather than end over end.\n\nI'm having difficulty getting over it, and forgiving my dog.  My wife seems to be OK with him and my son still loves him.  I was having doubts last week about us being the right family for him, but my wife talked me up and talked about how much our son loves him.  He was my dog, my birthday present this year after never having a dog in my life and always wanting one.\n\nI don't know what to do, I was furious yesterday.  It's eased a bit, but I can't help thinking about the incident from yesterday every so often today.  I was shaking I was so mad...  What do I do?", "summary": "Dog knocked two year old son down carpeted stairs.  Son is OK, but I'm so angry and resentful towards my dog still."}
{"id": "t3_1wtjci", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How the fuck do I get into a relationship?", "post": "I'm a 16/m and I've never been in a relationship in my life. I've liked girls before, and I've kissed girls before, but I've never gone further than that. And it contrast with my friends, I'm an outsider. Almost all of my close friends are in relationships and I would blame it on the 'nice guys finish last' excuse but I know that's bullshit. And frankly, I don't have a clue how to talk to girls.\n\nAnyway, recently I've met a girl at college who's both beautiful, intelligent and funny. She's honestly perfect but whenever I speak to her, I freeze. I've spoken to her for hours on facebook and snapchat, yet I can never build up the courage to speak to her in person, and to make it even more humiliating, she's always surrounded by a gaggle of her mates. It's so frustrating. \nAnyway, she's having a party in a couple of weeks and she invited me, and I'm hoping to make a move then. But I know I'll fuck it up. \nPlease reddit, help me out. How can I talk to her in person without freezing up? And how/when is the time to tell her I like her? Please, any advice would be welcome :) thanks\nNote: her ex-boyfriend is hot as fuck, he's about a 9 whilst I'm a 6. Dunno how I can compete with that.", "summary": "How the fuck do I speak to a girl I like without freezing up?"}
{"id": "t3_3ocz7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my fiance [27F] of a year, I feel like my school obligations are affecting our relationship.", "post": "I'm studying engineering, on my second year of a four or five year degree. Engineering is not an easy major and on top of that I'm also working as a lab tech, a tutor, and participating in a NASA competition/scholarship. As you can guess, I'm a busy guy and even when I come home for the day, I typically have work to do until 6-8pm. \n\nI do my best however to make sure that my Friday evenings and all day Saturday are free for me and my fiance to spend time together. Even when I'm working in the evenings it's not like we're very far apart, we have an open concept apartment and I'm typically just ten feet away at the kitchen table doing my thing while she watches TV in the living room. We're even going camping next weekend because I wanted to spend more time with her. \n\nEven then, she *constantly* pesters with questions about my progress. Every ten or fifteen minutes she'll ask me where I'm at and how much farther I have to go. It breaks my concentration and I feel guilty when I take a break and don't want to sit with her and watch netflix, I just want to play a little CS:GO or maybe take the dog for a walk. \n\nToday, after the fifth time of her asking me what problem I was on in my programming homework I kinda snapped and told her, in a raised but not yelling voice, \"I have a shit ton of homework, I always have a shit ton of homework, and you asking me how much more I have to do doesn't get it done any faster!\" I know that wasn't the right thing to do but I'm just tired of her questioning, it makes me feel like I'm lazy or not working hard enough for her, and I already have enough pressure to perform from myself and school. I know I need to make some changes but I'm not sure what those changes should be.", "summary": "I'm an extremely busy engineering student and I feel like my fiance is guilt tripping me for having to work so much."}
{"id": "t3_pduer", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing you've ever seen a cop do?", "post": "I'm sure that there are good cops out there, but for the most part I've only come in contact with bad ones. What's your worst cop story? I'll start:\n\nI was at a T intersection late at night, waiting to turn left onto the main (horizontal part of the T) road. There was one car ahead of me and when the light turned green and the first car started to turn left, a cop car came barrelling through the intersection at high speed without any lights (including headlights!) or sirens on. Luckily the person in front of me had quick reflexes and slammed on the brakes, otherwise I'm pretty sure the cop would have seriously injured him or her.", "summary": "Cop ran a red light at high speed in the middle of the night without headlights on and nearly hit a car making a legal left turn."}
{"id": "t3_1brfl3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I [f/18] in the wrong?", "post": "Me and this guy broke up two months ago, and it was a hard breakup. I was still crazy for him for a while after. We decided to be friends with benefits, and that sleeping with other people was okay, if we so wanted.\n\nFast forward to last night, I hooked up with an old friend. Nothing happened apart from a shit blowjob off me, and him going down on me for around 20 seconds. I made the guy stop because I realised I missed my ex too much, and that I still had feelings for him. I reasoned that if I did anything further with this old friend, I wouldn't be able to look at my ex anymore.\n\nAs me and my ex were fwbs, we had a full disclosure agreement. I told my ex about this guy, and that I regretted it, and I apologised for it because I still liked him and I was feeling pretty slutty about the whole ordeal.\n\nMy ex went crazy, saying how I wasn't as respectable anymore, how he couldn't think of me in the same way, how there was a chance we'd date again (which he hadn't told me about, and if I knew he was interested, I wouldn't have gone home with the old friend.)\n\nMy ex has made me feel pretty shitty about this, and now I'm not too sure what I've done wrong. The Ex is refusing to talk to me about the issue anymore, so I'm confused.\n\nAm I really in the wrong here?", "summary": "fwbs got angry when i fooled around with another guy"}
{"id": "t3_2b7e6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] am feeling pretty unconfident about finding someone new...", "post": "Subreddit trending, so why not? I just thought I'd talk about how lonely I am.\n\nMy relationship with (damn, I hate fake names, they just don't feel right)...Sheila?...didn't end too well a few months ago. We met on Minecraft (of all things), on a pony server, and RPed for a while, but then when said server went crappy we ended up on a new one. She thought it was high time to ask me out and dumped another guy on the same day. I couldn't help but feel I'd be next...\n\nWe went out for 8 months and met IRL three times. She just seemed far too quiet and bored and whined about how I look a mess in a smart shirt. Towards the end, she was hinting at an open relationship or even a breakup (I wanted the former, not realising they don't even work anyway), and eventually we just broke up. We were still in the same chat on Skype for a while, though, and subtle jabs turned into a series of three arguments. (All of which I hopefully won.)\n\nI can't help but feel that I'm not interesting enough, and that I'm too submissive and shy and snuggly. Sorta makes me wonder if I'm actually going to work well with *anyone*. I hope so...", "summary": "Shy INTJ here, don't think I'll stand a chance with a girl no matter where I find one."}
{"id": "t3_51el7v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] boyfriend [ 25 M ] is trying to control my appearance. How do I confront him?", "post": "Bit of a background: About 2 months ago, I moved in with my boyfriend of 2 years. We lived with my father for about a year, and I was unemployed while he worked as an inspector at a factory. We ended up moving because I landed a great job (easy and high pay) at a factory in a different town, and he still works at the same factory. After a year of doing nothing, I'm extremely happy: I've made a lot of friends, I have more money than I know what to do with, and I finally feel like an adult.\n\nHowever, my boyfriend has some concerns about the situation. In college I was very plain, but I now take more care of my appearance, and often wear red lipstick and winged eyeliner to work. Coupled with the fact that I'm one of the younger girls there, it seems like a lot of people have grouped me in as being one of the 'pretty' girls. While I love this, my boyfriend does not; He's often made comments about how maybe I should tone down my look since 'it's just work', and even got his mother to say something to m about it. He's also made a lot of talk about how maybe he should come work there too, and I'm not sure if this is out of jealousy or if he's worried I'm attracting other men. Sometimes it feels like maybe he thinks I'm trying to get other guys, which doesn't make sense because he knows I'm asexual and that it would be very unlikely. I also know that he loves how my make up looks, and these issues didn't start till after I started making friends. Reddit, What's his issue and how do I bring it up?", "summary": "Boyfriend suddenly seems overly concerned about makeup at work, not sure if it's jealousy or something else."}
{"id": "t3_335no7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my ex-gf [24F] 3 years, she's dumping me, I have questions.", "post": "Situation: I made mistakes over our relationship, but she kept them bottled up and didn't communicate them to me. She isn't giving me a chance. We are both in the wrong.\n\nThe break-up was slow (I tried to convince her to stay), but the ultimate last meeting was civil. My parting words were that I don't regret the relationship, and that she's making a hasty decision without thinking clearly (due to a myriad of other life problems she's having at the moment including failure of getting into a program). \n\nShe said if we could still talk, and I said not unless it's about reconciliation. I don't want to be that shoulder to cry on. She says ok.\n\nI tell her that it's within our best interest to at least give it a fair chance because I felt that it was unfair to our relationship, which was incredibly special (agreed by her as well) to just end it off something like this. I said maybe within a couple months, if you're up for it, and if I'm up for it, you'll know how to contact me. (I'm not moving). \n\nShe says ok.\n\nI'm currently about to engage in the famous \"No Contact.\" I'm going to improve on my own life, meet new people, etc. However, since we didn't end on bad blood I want to remain open to the possibility of rekindling. I'm not waiting around for this however.\n\nQuestions:\n\n1. Are there any glaring mistakes I should know about in my decision based on the details?\n\n2. I've removed her from twitter, instagram, phone, games, etc. Facebook is the only tricky one. I'm in huge debate on whether to unfriend her, block her, or keep her around but limit news feed.\n\nBecause we don't hate each other, I feel as though unfriending or blocking is too hostile and may remove any possibility of getting back with her.", "summary": "gf dumped me. fault is both of ours, but the issue is fixable should she give it a chance. not sure how to deal with it but im trying no contact to heal and see new people while remaining open to possibly getting back together. please refer to the questions."}
{"id": "t3_1hlyo5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/f] Says she's in love with me [18/m] but isn't ready for a relationship, even though we basically are in one.", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl for a little while now and lately it's been almost everyday. 3 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend of one year and we were friends and talking during that time but since they broke up we have been talking more and more and now it feels pretty serious.\n\nSo last night we went out again and I asked her what she wanted out of this whole thing and she basically told me all the good things about me and that I'm the best guy she's ever dated and she doesn't want to stop hanging out with me, but she isn't ready for another relationship. Afterwards she messaged me and told me she thinks she's in love with me. \n\nShe tells me she likes me all the time and doesn't hide her feelings about me. \n\nMy question is, it already feels like a relationship so I don't get why she wouldn't want to put the label on it because it's not like we're hiding what we're doing from our friends and family. We are always messaging and whenever we have the chance we are together and we kiss and hold hands and act like boyfriend and girlfriend, even in front of our friends. I really like her and want her to be my girlfriend so I'd really appreciate any advice you have to give me on what I should do!\n\n[", "summary": "] She says I'm the perfect guy and she's in love with me but isn't ready for a relationship, even though we basically are in one."}
{"id": "t3_52r5r3", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Have I wasted my life away?", "post": "Greetings. I'm a 28 year old geology graduate, who thinks he's wasted his life away in a Red State.\n\nWhen I graduated from my local College, I was instantly afraid of not being able to pay back my student loan debt. It was $30k in total, but I've always been pretty impoverish in my life, so it was a pretty *scary* number at the time. I spent a month trying to find jobs in my field, but knew that the pay I was receiving at the time would never match what my federal obligation would be.\n\nSo I jumped into a career in electrical work due to the fact that it was the only full-time position I could get in my area. I left my first electrical employer due to some stupid personal decisions on my end (job scams are the suck), but managed to enter the IBEW apprenticeship program.\n\nNow, being in the apprenticeship program did help pay the bills, but I live in a Deep Red State, and our Union is weak as piss. While I had the chance to preform some degree related work for a year, my job negligence did cost me an opportunity with an employer. I never have been one to be good that the politics game. \n\nSo now, I've been laid off the third time this year, due to contractors in our Local Union not having enough work for our labor hands. I know I'm getting to the point of having to switch career paths again, but I don't know if I can still do what my degree is in since a bulk of my job experience is in construction.\n\nI don't mind sharing my [Linkden Profile] for those interested in seeing my career history (it's not 100% up-to-date, as you can tell).", "summary": "Have I fucked away 4 years of my life after college and screwed up any benefit towards having a degree, as well as my career?"}
{"id": "t3_1ujr4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] with my wife [21 F] bought a bunk bed for us, is it weird for partners to sleep in separate beds?", "post": "My wife and I decided it was time to change our old bed and mattress since they were starting to get really uncomfortable. After some discussion between us, we came to the conclusion that we should get a bunk bed since I personally sleep way better alone and she is very hard to sleep with. She was ok with it and I told her she could always come with me if she felt alone or needed to be with me for a night or whatever. \n\nDo you think that's gonna affect us in any way? I really am a person who enjoys sleeping alone, I can't really get sleep when sleeping with my wife since she has very different habits in bed that affect me. \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Bought bunk bed to sleep in by ourselves, will it affect us?"}
{"id": "t3_2nswe9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] SO [27M] of four years is mad at me for not lying to his friends.", "post": "My SO was supposed to visit his best friends today, but held off because we were supposed to see each other. When our plans fell through, he decided to lie to his friends and say he was with me so he wouldn't have to go with them. I, however, was not informed of this lie.\n\nOne of his friends later texted me and asked me if he had already left, and I replied that I hadn't seen him. The two friends got mad at him for lying to them and ditching them, and then my SO got mad at me for not covering him.\n\nSince I wasn't aware of my SO's lie, I answered honestly. I told him this and he got mad for not telling him his friend texted me in the first place. What bothers me about this is the fact that I have to tell him someone talked to me, so he can then regulate my response. \n\nAm I simply overreacting, or is this something more serious?", "summary": "SO lied to best friends that he was with me, I told his friends he wasn't with me, now SO is mad at me for not lying, despite the fact that I didn't know about the lie in the first place."}
{"id": "t3_2bsox4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "So my boyfriend and I met online about a year and a half ago. For half a year we skyped everyday and got to know each other. He flew out to meet my family before I decided to move in with him in a different state. Things went really well. We fought a lot in the beginning of our relationship but we grew a lot together and fell deeply in love. However, while we became too comfortable with each other, our financial situation has been declining in a bad way. We decided to call some family for a little extra help. My boyfriend spoke to his grandmother because they're really close. Her reaction was a bit different than expected, she told us if we wanted her help, my boyfriend would have to go back to his home state and prove himself in a sense. And that left me with no choice but to do the same thing and go back to my hometown. Now I feel like we were just hitting the peak of our relationship, we just celebrated one year together. The benefits of this are that, when we are together again we will hopefully have a house, we will be much more independent and hopefully more financially responsible. But I've never had to deal with something like this. It feels like a tidal wave. It almost doesn't feel like it's really happening. To top it off, o have to stay in his apartment five more days and the utilities were just shut off. So my question is how do you redditors deal with long distance relationships? I would do anything to be with this man. I keep telling myself it is only temporary but nothing feels the same without him here. I'm sure this sounds whiny and sad but that's because well, I am whiny and sad among 3 million other emotions. Help, redditors?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are trying long distance until we can get on our feet and be together again. I've never dealt with distance like this. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_44tbkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] am feeling a shift in intimacy with my SO [25M] since adjusting to life after college. Is this normal?", "post": "Some background: My SO and I have been together for almost 4 years. We dated throughout my college experience while he went into the workforce. He drove up every weekend (about an hour away) to spend time with me since we were not allowed cars on campus. Once I was able to get my car on campus, I would drive to his house and spend a few days there. During this time, even if we fought, those weekends are what I lived for. We could never wait until we could be alone. He's incredibly kind and considerate, and always treated me so well. He's patient. He makes me a better person. We are planning on moving in together sometime in the summertime, depending on the job search.\n\nNow that I am back at home after graduation and living 20 minutes away, I've noticed a shift. We both work two different jobs (I work during the day and on weekends) while he works second and overnight shifts. Maybe we're tired, maybe it's my birth control, but I don't feel that impatience anymore, I just want to cuddle. I resent that he touches me so much sometimes. I sometimes dread going over there because he constantly wants to touch me (lovingly, not aggressively or anything) because then I feel like I have to have sex with him or risk hurting his feelings or giving him blue balls or whatever. He never makes me feel this way, he can beg sometimes, but it's more of a \"aw man come on\" type of deal. Sometimes I just want to be alone with no one touching me or wanting me to do things. \n\nWe're becoming mean to one another. We are getting in more explosive fights more often, about little things. \n\nIs this normal? I feel like a horrible person. I miss him when he's gone, and I'm excited when I am going to see him, but I just feel...empty at the same time. Not that I don't love him, but like something fundamental has changed and I can't put my finger on it. I'm really just rambling, but is this a phase? Or is this it? :/", "summary": "Feeling shift in personal and sexual intimacy with SO because we work two jobs and are constantly tired."}
{"id": "t3_2prmqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I [30's F] am screwing up the people I get into relationships with.", "post": "I've [30's F] been in 4 serious relationships. In all but the first, the men turned abusive, with the last relationship lasting over 10 years. The result is that I act like an abused woman. I duck, I dodge, I apologize. I know I am always in the wrong. I'll do anything to keep my SO happy.\n\nNow I'm in a new relationship with a [40's M]. He's the most patient man I have ever encountered, kind and caring... But the men I've been with before also seemed to care at first.\n\nHe asks me not to apologize for everything, he looks wounded when I flinch. He's never acted upset with me, but the second I think I may have done something wrong, I bolt back into my safe, contrite and submissive shell. And I can tell it bothers him. \n\nI want so much to be with him... But I'm afraid that I'll bring out an abusive side of him that he may not even have known existed. What if my tendencies make him mad and he eventually reacts the same way the others have? I'm afraid I'll DRIVE him to it. \n\nI'm fine with everyone else. I just... Don't know how to act in a relationship. I'm afraid I'll either chase him away while I learn how to be a normal person, or I'll turn him into something he doesn't want to be. How do I keep either from happening?", "summary": "I think I make men abusive. I don't want to be at fault for destroying another man, and I definitely don't want to lose him. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1key9o", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat has become a jerk who runs the house. Help!", "post": "I have an 8 year old male cat (Pierre) who has become very demanding over the years. He was the only cat in the house for the first two years of his life, and then I introduced a second male (much smaller, beta type) cat into the house. He didn't take to the second cat for a long time, and he even to this day tends to bully him. For example, when I feed them (primarily wet food diet), Pierre will inhale his food so fast so that he can try to eat the other cat's food (he's a slow eater). So then I have to lock Pierre in the bathroom so the other cat can finish eating. In the meantime, Pierre cries very loudly in the bathroom until I let him out.\n\nAt one time, I used to have an auto dry food feeder, and the cats just ate whatever they wanted to. The problem was Pierre weighed almost 20 pounds because he was eating so much, and had health problems because of it (like ruptured scent glands, because he wouldn't drink enough water). He's down to about 10 now, but he's a complete monster when it comes to food. I feed them twice a day close to around the same times each day, but Pierre always acts like he's starving. He'll start eating the carpet, hair from the tub, whatever he can find - then he throws it up. This happens at least a few times per week now, and I'm renting, or else I would rip the carpets out.\n\nHis morning play behavior is also a bit intense - this morning he was running around while I was sleeping/waking up, and he jumped onto and then launched himself off of my head. That's a bit much.\n\nI'm at a loss. I have a spray bottle, and it seems like he knows when he's doing things he shouldn't - I've sprayed him many times when eating the carpet, trying to steal the other cat's food - he seriously doesn't care. How can I change his behavior? I'm to the point now where I'm ready to put the auto feeder back out, but I know that's not the right answer since he'll become obese again.", "summary": "cat is a bully and constantly demands food, how can I stop this?"}
{"id": "t3_tuioa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been stood up on a date? If so, lets hear your story.", "post": "I remember when I was in 10th grade, being a late bloomer I was still in a fairly awkward stage and hadn't quite hit my growth spurt (I was sub 100lbs and probably right at 5' still rocking braces and glasses). One of my good friends that I ran track with had a sister a year younger than me that was a cheerleader. I asked him if it was ok if I asked her on a date, he said he didn't mind. So I asked her on a friday night at the high school football game (high school football is the king of any town in Alabama). Since the 9th grade cheerleaders walked around selling programs it wasnt too terribly difficult for me to find her. I simply asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me the next friday night, she promptly responded with a excited 'Yes!' so I thought all was good. Well the next couple days at school when I would usually see her in the hallways I couldnt manage to see her. I thought her response was genuine but of course when I showed up at the mall waiting on her she never showed up. I ended up watching Man on Fire all by my lonesome. Her loss really, that movie is still fucking awesome.", "summary": "asked a cheerleader to the movies, she said yes, never showed. /sad"}
{"id": "t3_3oxu37", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [16/M] and my Girlfriend [16/F] has a best friend who is a guy [25/M]", "post": "My girlfriend and I have just started going out, it's been about 2 months and things have been going smoothly. She has a best friend who is also her older brothers [25] best friend too. She say's that he is like a cousin to her and that she'd never cheat because she knows how it feels to be cheated on, but I can't seem to 100% trust that statement. She talks to him a lot while she sometimes doesn't even reply to me when she's always on her phone texting him. \n\nI'm trying to believe her but due to past relationships, i feel like this will not go well at all. Is there anything I can do to relax and just realize that I am just overthinking things? Or is this something I should be concerned about", "summary": "girlfriend who has best guy friend who's 9 years older and talks to him alot more than me, wondering if i should be worried or not if she will cheat on me in the future."}
{"id": "t3_lpryf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Student loans and Sallie Mae, I am doomed.", "post": "Not quite sure where to start but here it goes. I just graduated and got a decent job paying over 40k in an IT field right out of school; currently working for the City my university is in. Due to my parents making to much money and sinking the left over money they did have into a currently profitable business they started, I was left to pay for college on my own. My parents also made to much money during my schooling time for me to get any lower interest federal loans; because of how naive and stupid I was I decided that private student loans through Sallie Mae would be a good alternative, big fucking mistake. My loan principle right now is $94,000 with $16,000 in accrued interest over the 5 years I was in school ($20,000 a year tuition). Long story short my monthly payments will be well over half my monthly income roughly ~$1,200 a month. I have looked into extended repayment and interest only payments for the loans but that would only cut the monthly bill by ~$300 and in turn making my $94,000 turn into a fat $300,000 bill over 25 years; some of the loans have interest rates as high as 14%. With all of my bills (Rent, car, insurance, gas, food) I will be completely broke. I have looked into going through a few local credit unions to see if I can refinance  with the help of having both my parents co-sign but none of them will loan me that kind of money. So I ask you Reddit in all your infinite wisdom to brain storm with me on other possible ways I can go about paying this back. I am starting to get some serious anxiety from this and right now its killing my relationship with my long term girlfriend. I am in desperate need of some help, guidance, and anything else that will make me feel any better about this. Thanks!", "summary": "I was stupid and financed my college through Sallie Mae and now the payments per months are going to leave me completely broke with no end in site for paying off a $300,000 bill in my lifetime."}
{"id": "t3_4raaxw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my SO[28F] of 4 years...I'm not happy in the relationship anymore, but I'm terrified of what would happen to my SO if I leave.", "post": "As the title suggests I'm not happy in my current relationship. I feel like I am at this odd crossroads where I am deeply in love with my SO, but I am at a point where I'm looking to the future and I do not want to spend the rest of my life with her.\n\nWe've been together for four years and at this point I'm probably just wasting her time. I have trouble with only focusing on her negative attributes. \n\nShe struggles with pretty deeply ingrained anxiety and depression. She's seen a therapist who has given her medication to use when she needs it. \n\nHonestly, it's beginning to be too much for me to handle, and I'm not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who might breakdown crying at any moment, for seemingly any small reason. (I know the reasons don't seem small to her at the time, and I do my best to try and console her and be there for her, but it's just so emotionally draining, and we often end up fighting over her reactions to things.\n\nI feel like a complete asshole thinking it, even moreso typing it out, but I can't help but feeling like I would be much happier without her.\n\nTo get to the main point, she's financially & emotionally dependent on me. She doesn't make enough money on her own to afford a place to rent. She would have to move back in with her mother and I am pretty sure that whole ordeal would greatly exacerbate her depression. \n\nTyping this out I'm honestly not really even sure anymore what kind of advice I want. Maybe I should leave, or maybe I might just be a complete idiot and I can't appreciate this wonderful, loving, & understanding person who is willing to dedicate her entire self to me. Maybe I'm just emotionally undeveloped, who knows?", "summary": "Not happy, not sure girlfriend knows how to navigate life without me. (fuck, that sounds narcissistic.)"}
{"id": "t3_1ncxq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18f] ex [18m] says he misses me but he's over it.", "post": "My ex and I dated for 11 months and broke up almost a month ago because of college. We loved each other and it was amicable and everything. There were no hard feelings but we both knew he had to break up because our colleges are so far apart and we don't have money for flights. \n\nWe've texted once then, but I've been trying to avoid talking to him because I want to get over it. Apparently he was home this weekend and he asked my best friend to hang out since she's going to community college and living at home. He's kind of friends with her but they never hang out alone or anything. They don't really get along; if they're talking for more than a few hours, they start bickering.\n\nAfterwards I asked her what happened and she said that he said he misses me but he's over it. But how can you be over it if you still miss the person? I would understand if he said \"I don't miss her and I'm over it\" or \"I miss her and I'm not over it\" but not both. Also, do you think he asked her to hang out because he wanted to ask about me?", "summary": "My ex asked to hang out with my best friend, who he never hangs out with unless it's in a group. Later she told me that he said he misses me but he's over it. How is that possible?"}
{"id": "t3_51kgbc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 34 (M) am Having an impossible time finding a decent woman to date,Am I too Picky? or Unrealistic?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nJust a rant about dating life and, well just life in general\u2026 I, 34(M), average looking guy, 150 pounds, 5'7, I'll admit I'm a bit anti-social at times but hey, who isn't?  \n\nI have no problem meeting women, but why is it so hard to find a decent women to actually date and share my life with?\n Also to clarify I like to meet people IRL, Online dating was never my strong suit, I always seem to get side tracked, and end up on Reddit or some other type of car forum... \n\nAre my expectations too high?  Are my expectations unrealistic? Do I have too Many \"Deal Breakers\" in my head?\n\nMy expectations are as follows; \n\nRedditors please feel free to chime in, I really would like to see if I'm being super unrealistic! I need the criticism (GOOD OR BAD)!!!\n\nHave a decent job.( specifically a career , something they enjoy doing )\n\nTake care of herself. (appearance wise)\n\nNot be an alcoholic or a drug addict (lots of women around here like to do drugs, prescription, and just plain old cocaine, unfortunately, its because where I live, me personally I'm against it, but I've learned to accept the fact, that most of the women around here use it socially )\n\nBe Mature with handling communicating, and making decisions.\n\nBe within my Age range for dating, 25 to 35.\n\nNot have any kids.\n\nDoes any or all of the above seem reasonable? Or am I asking or expecting too much?\n\nWomen Of Reddit, Please Chime in.", "summary": "Why are there no decent women to date, are my standards too high or impossible?"}
{"id": "t3_1vnuc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] just found out that my girlfriend [18F] is self-harming again, and I don't know how to proceed", "post": "My girlfriend, who I've been with for around a year and a half, has a history of self-harm (and so do I, but further in the past than hers). She stopped cutting herself about the time we started dating, saying that I was the main reason she felt happier. As far as I was aware, she never had any thoughts of relapsing, until yesterday when she revealed she has been burning herself with oil for a few weeks. This shocked and upset me; I can't help but feel like I'm 'not good enough' anymore...\n\nShe refuses to see a doctor or counsellor, or to seek any help other than the solace of physical pain. She won't tell me what has caused her to start harming again, and doesn't seem to understand how much it hurts me that she needs to hurt herself.\n\nWhat should I do? Am I selfish for worrying about our relationship almost as much as her physical and mental health?", "summary": "Girlfriend with a history of self-harm recently started burning herself with oil. I can't help but feel inadequate, as she claims she originally stopped harming thanks to me."}
{"id": "t3_ldy42", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to go from just casually going out to something more?", "post": "We're both 19 and sophomores in college, and have been friends for a while. A few weeks ago she asked if I wanted to see where things go or just stay friends, and obviously I chose the first. That weekend we went and grabbed dinner, and this Friday we went to a party one of her friends was having. Things were a bit awkward at first, but towards the end we wind up kissing for a while, I walk her back to her building, give her a good-night kiss, and head back home feeling pretty pleased with myself.\n     So here's the kicker, as my name implies I was awkward as hell most of my life, and I've never been in a relationship. What I just described is literally the furthest I've been with a girl, so I don't have any f-ing clue what I'm doing. I was already good friends with this girl so I do really like her, and I'm pretty sure she likes me to some extent, so what do I do now?", "summary": "I've never been in a relationship before despite being 19. Gone out w/ this girl a couple times and it's going good. WTF do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_1zrn5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] wear very baggy clothes that give the illusion that I'm not overweight. Too insecure to have sex with my [18F] girlfriend.", "post": "I'm a pretty overweight guy but I seem to carry all my weight in the middle. My arms and face are pretty thin and I usually wear hoodies so everyone thinks I'm pretty damn skinny. This has lead to immense problems in my romantic life. I don't feel comfortable taking my shirt off in front of girls because of how I look. My body basically just looks awkward as fuck. My girlfriend on the other hand is extremely healthy and in shape and I'm afraid if she saw me she would.. I don't know, reject me. How do I approach this subject with her?", "summary": "Too insecure about my body to take off my clothes in front of my stunning girlfriend, how do I approach this with her?"}
{"id": "t3_507y14", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by destroying my crushes face while trying to impress her", "post": "TIFU, actually this isn't from today but rather 2 years ago. Back then I was 16 years old. I do have to mention that I have never been the most athletic guy (except for basketball, I am surprisingly good at it), I am quite short and at the time I wore very very nerdy glasses. \n\nThere was this super super hot girl I had a crush on, I am talking a 12/10 girl and after fighting my shyness I managed to talk to her and befriend her in my PE class. We didn't really do anything in the class except play with some cards. Anyways I still hadn't managed to get her phone number but I didn't have the guts to ask for it. So this one time coaches allow one side of the court for basketball and the other for volleyball. And of course I tried to show off playing basketball in front of her. I constantly looked at her and smiled and she smiled back as she watched me, apparently it was working. I do have to say that I moved to the United States from Mexico and I played a little soccer, I am not good but I can get some respect. Anyways one of the volleyball people get their ball right where I am at and super smart me decides to show off some of my soccer skills. I prepare myself and kick the ball extremely hard because they volleyball courts were a little far. I believe that is the time I have kicked a ball the hardest in my entire life. And all of a sudden I can see the ball head towards my crush, I watched it as if it was in slo mo. I couldn't do anything about it. And baaam!! Headshot, I hit her right in the face and knocked her unconscious. I run towards her just as other people did. Her nose was bleeding and she was slowly gaining consciousness. I apologized with all my might, but it was all for nothing. She left school that day and came back the next day. She didn't talk to me ever again. I was so close to getting her number and I fucked it up by trying to impress her.", "summary": "Had crush on gorgeous girl, had a chance of getting her number and tried to impress her with my soccer skills, ended up knocking her unconscious and ruining all my chances of getting her number."}
{"id": "t3_233c3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [26 M/F] of 1.5 years, dealing with temptation?!", "post": "Hi everyone,\nbefore we met I didn't do too well for myself romantically if sexually. I'd only had sex three times, each time with a prostitute (which is legal where I come from), and had a sensual massage another couple of times. \n\nI wasn't in a very good place in my life, so I moved to another city to start over. After 2 months there I met my girlfriend. She is an amazing person, who turned my life around. I got in shape, stated attending university, and gained a whole lot of confidence! We're living together now, and our relationship is great for the most part.\n\nBut about a month now I've been almost overwhelmed by the desire to go to go get an erotic massage again... I hadn't even considered it until a few weeks ago, and I don't know where it's come from. Even passing an attractive girl in the street has been driving me crazy. A few times I've gone to the agency websites, and masturbated to the photos: after climaxing I get that\"what are you thinking?!\" feeling, but within a few hours the temptations back again.\n\nI love my girlfriend more than anything, and the thought of doing something to hurt her makes me sick, so I'm determined not to give into temptation. But I feel like I'm going crazy! How do I get over this?", "summary": "How do I get over an overwhelming desire to get an erotic massage?"}
{"id": "t3_52w3q2", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Does it always take so much time ?", "post": "Hi reddit,\nI need advices here, as it's my first job.\n\nI just graduated in June, and I applied to several companies, including my dream job.  (I work in the cinema industry)\nUnexpectedly, I received an answer one month later, told me they would be interested to hire me and that I should contact them to set up an interview time. (the 5th of July)\nI contacted them the day after, but it took one month to finally did the interview, they were extremely slow to answer everytime. (So the interview was the 29th of July)\nThey told me they would give me an answer, positiv or negativ the week after. After two weeks I still have nothing so I contacted them again and they told me they would need a bit more time since they hire a lot of people, so I have to wait. (the 10th of August)\n\nAnd since, nothing. I tried to send an email but I didn't get any answer. But they also told me the interview was great, and they seemed really interested so should I wait more ? Or should I told them other companies contacted me for a job (which is true) ?", "summary": "Company contacted me more than 2 months ago, the progress is very slow, I need a job."}
{"id": "t3_lpenf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I a jerk if I refuse to care for my roommate's cat while she's gone for three weeks?", "post": "I live in an apartment with four girls. Our university doesn't have class in January, and all three of the others will leave for the month. One of those girls has a cat.\n\nI never wanted a cat. I told them I didn't, but the roommate wouldn't live with us without her cat (she has had it for years, she didn't get it for the apartment) so I agreed. But upon her moving in I said I wanted no part of paying for the cat's expenses or caring for it. It even cost me $800 in laptop repairs a couple weeks ago when it knocked water on my computer. I'm still nice to it, I even pet it occasionally, but cats aren't my thing.\n\nSo I have zero desire to care for this cat. It if was just feeding it dry food I might consider it, but it's litter box duty too. My roommate asked me by saying, \"Will you take care of Tiger in January? I'll pay you, but less than I'll pay someone else to come do it.\"\n\nIf I say no, she'll have to hire a service to come take care of it, which makes me feel a little bad but...it's not my cat. Am I jerk if I say no?", "summary": "Am I a jerk if I refuse to feed and scoop poop for my roommate's cat while she's gone for three weeks?"}
{"id": "t3_3q784z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by masturbating", "post": "So this happened a couple days ago. The wife and I have been rather busy these past few days and haven't had much of a sexy time. Last night a few friends came over and we had plans to go out have a few drinks and hit up the casino. I decided to take a quick shower before heading out while the wife entertained our guests.\n\nThis is where I fucked up. I get naked, turn the shower on and decide.. Hmm let me jack it off real quick before I jump in the shower. So there I am buck naked, slapping the monkey when suddenly I hear....... \"WTF!!!\" \n\nThe wife had decided to sneak i n to grab her lipstick from the bathroom and caught me mid-spank! She was horrified at the sight and hasn't spoken or made eye contact with me for over 2 days now.\n\nI've tried to talk to her and explain this is a normal healthy thing to do but she won't even hear me out or let me explain myself. Now there's just awkward silence.", "summary": "I was tossing the turkey and now I'll never have sex again"}
{"id": "t3_3rv1yc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My LDR-Ex [25M] asked to still be friends when we broke up, but hasn't spoken to me in almost months [25F]. Is it worth reaching out to him?", "post": "I initiated the break up with my ex-boyfriend. It was a slow process but I finally sat him down in a Skype call (we've been long distance for years) and told him it had to come to an end. We still wanted to be friends, and in his own words at the end of the \"breakup talk\", he asked if we could still \"try to work it out in the future\". I know that implies getting back together but I responded \"we can still be friends\". Our friendship was the most important thing out of our relationship. I know that isn't always easy to maintain after a breakup but we really wanted to try.\n\nThe thing is...he hasn't texted or called me since we broke. It's almost been a year now and in that time he has greeted me a simple close-ended Merry Christmas, Happy New year, and Happy Birthday, but every other time it was me initiating the call or sending him a text. I don't get it? Why ask to be friends if you aren't going to make an effort?\n\nPart of it is my fault since I don't really initiate conversations (a reason why we broke up), but towards the final years of our relationship and even now, after we've broke up, I'd been trying really hard to be better. But he stopped completely taking any initiative. I'm thinking of texting him tomorrow and talking to him (on Skype, face-to-face, because I can't do serious conversations through texting) but I have no idea what to say. I don't even know if it's worth talking to him or if trying to stay friends is actually a bad idea. I'm tired of being the only person making any effort.", "summary": "Was in a long-term LDR that ended with us wanting to remain friends, but my ex hasn't made any effort in contacting me. Should I still try to reach out to him and salvage our friendship? Or should I just cut ties with him and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_2hrq30", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: Me [22M] with my Crush[24F] 6 month, i declared to her and found out she's lesbian with a 1.5year relationship with the person i thought was her best friend...", "post": "So... the next day this happen i send her a text with \"Hi Janna, regarding our discussion last night i decided i dont want to lose you as a friend, last night i was more shocked from the news of your sentimental situation than your refusal... i just did not notice it and now re thinking at it with a cool mind it make me smile! But no matter ... I'm happy for you that you're okay with kira and her with you! anyway we can still take that coffee we scheduled for next week even if im aware of your situation...  I am always happy to spend good times with people with whom I am well!\"\n\nAlmost 4 day passed and i still no answer... i just cant get this weird feeling out of my chest (anxiety? broken heart? i dont know never felt this way...) and every time i wake up i just dont want to do anything beside keep sleeping :( thanks got i go to work and school and i can keep my mind occupied when im doing that...\n\nbut now i dont know what to do... should i wait more or call her? SHE told me instantly we could stay friend i dont get why she need to think it now or even changed her mind!", "summary": "i had a crush on my female friend and after i declared myself i found out she's lesbian and in a relationship with the person i thought was her best friend, she told me we could stay friends anyway but she wont answer my text anymore"}
{"id": "t3_3ezkrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] Fianc\u00e9 [19M] and I just got engaged, his moms close friend had less than kind words to say about me.", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I just got engaged two days ago, we expected a bit of backlash considering our age (turning 20 this year). His moms close friend was talking to her at work this morning and she basically said that I am marrying \"up\", implying that he would have to financially take care of us and our future family, and that the financial burden would be on him. She also said that because of me and the fact that we're engaged he won't go to a different country (Canada to US) for his 4 month internship this upcoming January, despite the fact that we have discussed it already and I'm okay with it. Another thing she said was that he is \"saving\" me, didn't get an explanation for what she meant by that. \n\nI expected her to have a problem with our age, because she is in her late thirties and hasn't had much luck with men. But I didn't expect her to say something about me that was so personal. His mom said that she has never mentioned anything about my family and money to her before (we aren't the most wealthy, and if you look at it from a money stand point I am technically marrying into a family with more money than my own, but that has nothing to do with us getting married or our relationship). This isn't even the first time she has said something out of line to his mom. (talking crap about his dad, sending photos to his dad of her in a bikini, etc) \n\nAfter his mom told us this, i was very upset and we both decided that we don't want her there, which I think is now going to make her have even worse things to say about me and our relationship. \n\nHave any of you had people say things like this, what did/would you do?", "summary": "My [19F] fianc\u00e9s [19M] mom's friend told her that I was marrying up, that he was saving me, and that he would have to financially support me because my family isn't wealthy."}
{"id": "t3_30539m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my ex-boyfriend [20 M], been together for 2 years, living together 1 year and a half, broke up today and i feel desperate", "post": "My boyfriend and me broke up today after a fight which was caused by some minor events, but also reflected the bigger problems that we had in our relationship. I think he acted egoistic and didn\u00b4t have regards for me in a lot of situations while he says that i hurt him when we argue because i get mean and don\u00b4t respect his feelings. Controling my emotions was always a problem for me and i try to work on that and also think it got better during the last months. While talking about what to do today, he said that he can\u00b4t take the way i treat him anymore and that i am a different person when we argue. He said he loves me but thinks that we\u00b4ll get to the same point as now in a few months again if we stay together because we are too different. \nI always knew we were different types of persons, but we also had many similarities and our good times prevail the bad ones. Although i was hurt and unsure what to do, i never wanted to lose him and i feel terrible now that it ended. I begged him to try it again and work on our problems and also asked him whether he was sure or not, but he couldn\u00b4t give me a clear answer. He says he\u00b4s not sure what he really wants but that he wants to break up. Everything i believed in seems to be crashing down and though i know that solving our problems would be hard, i still believe in us and don\u00b4t want to give up. \nThis was also my first relationship and living together where we study doesn\u00b4t make things easier. I can stay at my parents house for a while now but have to return no later than the new semster starts. How can i deal with my feelings and calm down?", "summary": "I don\u00b4t know how to deal with the separation of my boyfriend"}
{"id": "t3_3z23ur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with [18F] potential GF for 3 mo. I know it's legal, but is it creepy/wrong?", "post": "EDIT: Accidentally broke a rule.\n\nSo I met this girl on the train in my city, wound up chatting, leading to dating, and she has expressed interest in proceeding into the \"real\" long-term relationship stage. \n\nI'm pretty on-board with the idea, except the age difference is kinda messing with my head. I knew from the beginning that she was younger than me, but I didn't realize *how much* younger at first.\n\nHer attitude is that the law says she's an adult and she is allowed to be with who she wants, and she's right, but there's a voice in my head that is reminding me that she has been an adult for less time than has passed since I las needed to update my vehicle registration.\n\nI mean, I've been out of my parents' house for eight years. I've had enough time to serve a stint in the military, move around the world, and start my own small business. It's not bragging to say I have loads more world experience than she does. It is just a statement of fact.\n\nJust for the record, I'm not a Jerk. I am not and will not hold that experience over her head. I do and always will respect her. I am not trying to exploit her youth. And she is much more mature than her age would suggest.\n\nShe holds that she is perfectly happy with me and doesn't see the age as a problem. She doesn't feel exploited. \n\nAm I wrong here, or is this an okay relationship? I really need some outside perspective, because I do really want to be with this girl for the foreseeable future.", "summary": "26 year old dating an 18 year old. Both perfectly happy with the relationship, but can't decide if the age difference is creepy or wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1maaop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19f] sister [22f] has a guy [18m] interested in her - super weird?", "post": "My sister just got out of an abusive 3+ year relationship about 9 months ago. This guy at her job is interested in her (he came onto her) and she's sort of excited about this guy being nice/interested in her but I think it's really weird that he's younger than me! He just started college and she just started grad school. They haven't done anything except flirt at work and become friends so far...and she told me she probably wouldn't date him, or if she did, wouldn't have anything serious with him but would it be weird for them to be together given their age difference and both of them being in different stages of life?", "summary": "18 year old guy interested in my 22 year old sister...weird or no?"}
{"id": "t3_15yuu6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating (19f) someone new (22m) right after a serious breakup -- how to increase chances of success?", "post": "I met my current partner in September, in one of my college classes, and quickly started having feelings for him. At the time, I was in a nosediving 3-year-old LDR that I had been considering breaking off for about 6 months. \n\nIn October, I broke off my LDR messily; a couple of weeks later, I started seeing my current partner romantically.\n\nI know it's widely considered a bad idea to date someone so soon after ending a long relationship like this (and for lots of good reasons, I know). But even though I am still getting over my last relationship, I'm developing some serious independent feelings for my new partner. And our relationship seems to be a lot more healthy than my previous one, which I am starting to realize was more co-dependent than was good for me.\n\nWe're taking things slowly, in an attempt to prevent myself from using my new guy to fill the holes my last boyfriend left (which I realize now should be filled by myself). My new partner's been very understanding about my residual hurt and sadness from my last relationship. But I could use some advice on how to make things work, and how to make sure this new relationship doesn't take an unhealthy turn.", "summary": "Against current wisdom, I entered a relationship soon after breaking off a serious one. Advice on how to keep it functional and healthy would be great."}
{"id": "t3_22jqej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my fiance [19 F] of 5 years is becoming controlling", "post": "More and more recently, I have been noticing my fiance being more controlling and setting rules which I find to be way too restrictive.\n\nI have in the past confronted her about the rules that she sets up, and she refuses to compromise/strong-arms my desire to change these rules or even come to a happy medium. \n\nThis has become an issue starting around the time she and I started smoking weed together recreationally, and I therein began smoking more with friends and by myself as well.\n\nShe is concerned and despite my attempts to sooth her concerns, she refuses to budge and has constricted the rules she initially enforced. As well as is rather passive-aggressive when I do smoke more than two days in a row.", "summary": "My fiance has been increasingly controlling and refuses to listen to reason. What do you, my fine redditing friends, think I should do?"}
{"id": "t3_33axx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 9 months, doesn't trust my being on birth control.", "post": "I think it is normal to ditch condoms in long term monogamous relationships. I have been on the birth control pill for 3 years, had unprotected sex many times with my previous partner and have never been pregnant. I take my birth control religiously because neither he nor I are anywhere near ready to have a child. If I were to become pregnant, I would have an abortion, and I have expressed this to my boyfriend. I do not have any STI/Ds.\n\nMy boyfriend insists on using a condom every time and laughs when I bring up not using a condom, his only explanation being that using condoms is \"just something he likes to do\". I don't like condoms because it feels much less intimate, the feeling of skin is very different from rubber, and because condoms dry me out and sex becomes difficult/painful. The way he reacts whenever I bring up not using condoms makes me feel like he doesn't trust me, and he has said things that imply that he thinks most women are looking to get knocked up by their long term partners. I find this to be a very insulting opinion to have about women in general, and about me in particular because he should know me well enough at this point to know that I have a lot of things I want to do with my life before I am ready to have children come into the picture. \n\nI have expressed all of this to him and gotten very little from him in the way of useful responses. I can't help feeling insulted and annoyed by his opinions and reactions on this topic. In general we communicate very well and our relationship has been very happy and easy. This is a fairly minor point in our relationship, but it bothers me enough that I'd like to hear if anyone has advice as to how I can get over it myself or help him realize that I'm not trying to get pregnant.", "summary": "Boyfriend refuses to go condomless because he thinks I, like all women in relationships, am trying to trick him into impregnating me."}
{"id": "t3_2r4nt1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25 M/F] GF[24 M/F] and i broke up after 3.5 years, not sure how to handle it.", "post": "*", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, feeling depressed, need coping mechanisms"}
{"id": "t3_3dvaom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] am talking to a girl [22F] long distance. Need advice on if I should move forward with this.", "post": "Hi, this girl and I, let's call her Jen, know each other from mutual friends. She's coming up on her last year of undergrad, and I recently started my first year of graduate school. We go to different schools in the same state, but the schools are roughly on opposite ends of the state. \n\nWe talk pretty much every night, and we have a lot of things in common. There really isn't much else to say, as this is pretty straightforward, but I was wondering if other people have been in my position and have any ideas on whether or not I should move forward and act on this situation?", "summary": "Met girl through mutual friends. We are \"talking long-distance\" and I was wondering if I should call it quits or continue on to see where this goes."}
{"id": "t3_17ec18", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Book Advice", "post": "I love to read. I am one of those people that will sit up till 3 am reading a book even though I feel incredibly guilty about needing to get up early for work the next day. It's like I have a compulsion to finish. For a long time my main problem has been that I was a picky reader and wouldn't start a new series unless pressed to do so. \n\nRecently, and I primarily blame you all, I have found a treasure trove of books that I want to read but feel guilty spending the money to do so. I know I can get books used and then maybe sell them back but I love to reread books (some of my favorites I've read over 20 times). The other problem is I love reading on my Nexus 7 through my kindle account as I it allows me to easily carry any book with me and not worry about damaging it through wear and tear.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions or should I just bite the bullet and start expanding my collection?", "summary": "I need you to get rid of my guilt so I can buy tons of books"}
{"id": "t3_4ljqlr", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Turns out, Tinder is a great place to find female roommates... I think?", "post": "Unless I (27M) am being naive as fuck (always possible) and hopelessly led into a trap resulting in a non-rent paying depend-a-chick, I've had three girls (within 72 hrs) contact me on Tinder about becoming roommates..\nSo here I am again, firing up the ole Tinder account, following a failed relationship which didn't survive a year deployment (reference naive above). Decided to fire up an account so I don't have a seizure the first time i see a group of girls who aren't covered in an Abaya or Hijab. I put in my profile that I wouldn't be returning to Austin for another couple months due to my deployment. This seemed to spark three separate girls contacting me and very shortly into the conversation, asking about my plans for a place, ultimately suggesting the idea of getting an apartment. Kind of awkward but at the same time, makes some sense. I wouldn't get into a roommate situation with someone who clearly wouldn't be able to pay the rent amount or has a sketchy plan for payment. Wondering if anyone here has done something similar and what their experience was like.", "summary": "Women on Tinder contacted me about becoming roommates, any advice on potentially doing this?"}
{"id": "t3_1muzz8", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "U.S. Federal/State Benefits?", "post": "Okay so here is the deal and I'm hoping Reddit can help. My mom lives in Florida; she has been furloughed indefinitely from the IRS. (In other words she doesn't have a job unless the IRS might call her back into work.) She is a single, legally blind, unemployed, homeowner. She is currently receiving unemployment ( $1100 a month) and she is getting food stamps (a whole $30 a month). This combined is not enough to pay her mortgage. I have had to pay on her credit card that was almost maxed out. I really want to help her but my husband and I are trying to have a child, and I hear children can be expensive! What I am asking of Reddit, is if you know of any other U.S. programs that could help her until she can find a job (hopefully)?", "summary": "I need advice on getting U.S. Federal Benefits for my unemployed, legally blind mom."}
{"id": "t3_302tf9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[relationship] Gf[29] wants to do ecstasy for first time at must festival with guy friend without me[32]", "post": "Small bit of background seeing girl for close to 18 months. We both have trust issues due to messy breakups with partners who cheated on us but we are getting there. Everything has been great despite my gf still liking to keep her life and our relationship a little separate. She has a pretty large group of guy friends who I've met only once. \n\nSo long story short I'm pretty anti drugs. Never a fan and really dislike people on coke or pills. Really not my scene. Gf has told me she is going to a number of music festivals this summer and hasn't invited me. I probably wouldn't have gone but I wasn't given a choice. \n\nAt breakfast this morning she told me her and her guy friend had decided over a night out that they were going to do ecstasy at a music festival next month and then she got beyond giddy daydreaming about it. It will be both of their first times but will be with friends who have done it. This is really out of character for her as up to now she has had zero interest or so I thought. \n\nI was stunned and didn't raise the point for half an hour as I didn't know what to say. Her reaction was it's my body my choice. She said she had tried at a music festival last summer and failed to find any but would be doing it this time. \n\nIve had friends/gfs who have taken E and all they want to do is dance and then hug/kiss/screw. This along with being told we are doing E, it's not really your scene so you are not invited. \n\nIm rattled by this. Dont know this guy, don't know these friends. Should I be ok with this situation? I'm just as frustrated with the drugs as I am with the comment which went with it. Any advice is hugely appreciated.", "summary": "gf wasn't to try E for first time with guy I don't know at music festival I'm not invited to."}
{"id": "t3_36eie2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining my chances of making a good first impression on my girlfriends parents", "post": "My fuck up happened not more than 30 minutes ago, English is not my first language and unless I choose my words carefully, I usually end up saying the most fucked up things without thinking.\n\nToday was the first day I was going to meet my girlfriends parents for the first time and we planned on going to dinner afterwards.\n\nSo when my secretly engaged girlfriend's mother walked in our front door I was so eager to make a good first impression I hurriedly extended my hand in greeting and ended up saying \"Nice to meet you sir!\"\n\nWhat makes the whole thing worse is that my fianc\u00e9 had already told me her mother was self-conscious about her looks which resembled more of a man in his fifties rather than the opposite.\n\nI have tried to explain the language barrier thing as much as I can but no one believes me, my girlfriend is mad at me because she thinks I called her mom \"sir\" as some sort of distasteful attempt of a joke. Her parents didn't say much after that but claimed they were to tired to have dinner and cancelled.", "summary": "I referred to my manish looking Future Mother in law \"sir\" and everyone thinks I did it on purpose."}
{"id": "t3_1zgjsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents want to give my (F18) room to my little sister when I go away to college, I'd have no room.", "post": "So the problem I'm having here is that I'll be going off to college this fall. My two siblings, parents, and I live in a very small, three bedroom ranch with not much of a living room. Currently my brother and sister share a room, and I have one to myself. My situation is that my sister wants my room, step dad told her she could have it, and I'll have no space of my own when I return for 4 months out of the year. I am a very private person and tend to stay tucked away into my room, as the house is small. How do I explain to my parents that I don't want to be displaced and that I feel like I need my privacy? I don't want to share a room with my sister, as we have a 10 year age gap, but they also don't want my siblings to share a room as brother and sister, although they have a one year age gap. My sister is messy and always likes friends over, and I'm quite the opposite and like having my own space to stay in and quietly retreat to. My room is kind of my own quiet happy space, and I hate when people touch my things or are in my space, which I know my sister would invade on all the time. I'm not financially in the position to try to get a space of my own, and my parents seldom give me money for things. How do my parents and I try to work this situation out?", "summary": "going away to college, parents want to give my room to little sister, not sure where I'd be staying 4 months out of the year."}
{"id": "t3_1wrhqh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M/F] caught my girlfriend [16 M/F] telling her friend how she's been flirty with another friend... recently.", "post": "A week back or so, when exams started, I told my girlfriend I wasn't going to text her much for ONE week so I could focus on my exams. She was pretty distressed but agreed. A little after this she told me that one of her friends (who's popular and attractive and in her grade) started texting her. I asked if I should be worried, she said no.\n\nFlash forward to yesterday. For a short period of time I had access to her phone and decided to be a shitbag and go through her messages with her best friend. I went back 5 days (2 days after I'd told her I wasn't going to text much) and saw a long block of text. In this block of text, she basically told her bestfriend about how the guy was talking to her, about how they were flirting, and that if they kept talking she might lose feelings for me. \n\nI confronted her. She apologized and cried and it was all authentic. She claimed that the flirting was just like five or so texts over the course of a week, and that she was just lonely and actually would never have feelings for the other guy. I broke up with her.\n\nWe're still texting though. What do you think I should do?", "summary": "Caught girlfriend flirting with a guy who she had assured me was a platonic friend."}
{"id": "t3_39xzx2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Kids (18mo & 2.5y/o) escaped the babysitter's and almost ran into a busy street - advice?", "post": "So, last week I went to pick up my kids from the sitter's, and the first thing she says to me is, \"You know your kids escape, right?\" I wasn't really that surprised by this statement because I have had a problem with taking them anywhere. They're 11 months apart, both boys, and are *adventurous* to say the least. I've had issues with the oldest running away from me and making a beeline to the nearest exit in the past - but I always catch him before he makes it far. So, I know it happens but what horrified me is she said they both escaped out her door at the same time and she caught the oldest first - but the youngest made it all the way down to a busy street. Then for the rest of the time there, they continued to try and open the door and get out. She then said she tried to explain to them why it was bad - to which my youngest just didn't seem too impressed with.\n\nSo, I'm not sure what to do. I don't think she did a bad job - apparently another parent was bringing in their kid in a car carrier and they ducked under and ran out. But, she obviously wasn't prepared for their \"energy\" or whatever I can call it. Also, she didn't call me, so I don't know when it happened. What I'm really seeking help for is how to get it through their heads they shouldn't act like that - or at least tips on how to prevent this behavior. I can't really take them anywhere because I'm never able to fully manage their behavior (and I live in a community that expects the entire family to come to major holiday events 4-6 times a year - and I absolutely dread it for this reason.)", "summary": "Need help getting my kids to stop running away and putting themselves in dangerous situations - what can I do??"}
{"id": "t3_2dc9cj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to breakup with boyfriend. He has become delusional and erratic", "post": "I am trying to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year after discovering he has been dating someone else the entire time. I found out the truth about 5 days ago and ended it. He initially reacted with denial and then anger. Now he is apologetic and wants us to continue as before. \n\nI have blocked his calls and text messages. He sent me letters in the mail. He emailed me 30-40 times in 24 hours and seemed so down that I relented replied, saying I would \"consider talking to him\" ie over the phone. Then he immediately started planning to meet. Now he is talking about buying an engagement ring, quitting his job and moving with me to another country, etc. He has taken to calling me from different numbers and I think he is hiding his caller ID. I am looking for a job at the moment so really would like to answer any calls from unknown numbers but am afraid to.\n\nI have since only sent him terse emails saying explicitly that it is over. I did send him one longer, rant-y email in which I listed the various ways in which he has lied to me to convey the magnitude of his crime. \n\nI am worried that I am dealing with an obsessive person here who is becoming unhinged. I want to end this ASAP and move on with my life. I am somewhat afraid of him physically because he lives nearby, although to be fair he has never raised a hand at me before. We also work in the same field and he is significantly more senior than I. \n\nI don't understand why he is clinging so desperately to this relationship when he treated it with such utter disrespect when he had it. In any event, while I am somewhat curious to understand the perverse inner workings of his sick mind, I primarily just want him to lose interest in me and GO AWAY. He was quite controlling during the relationship and now I don't want him to morph into a psycho stalker. I don't want to provoke him. If it came down to it, do I have any legal rights to get the police to stop him from emailing/calling me so often (in New York)?", "summary": "Boyfriend who cheated on me won't let go. How do I discourage him from contacting me and get him to move on?"}
{"id": "t3_198egs", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Seeking advice for how to politely refuse a [30+m] who asked me[20f] to have dinner with him?", "post": "I'm a student in a course attended by both grad students and undergrads. A much older member of a short-term research group I'm a part of asked me out over email.\n\nIDK why he feels that I might be interested in him or why he thinks it's an appropriate thing to do. A few weeks ago, I disclosed my age to the group and he remarked, \"you are very young\".  In this light especially, I'm skeeved and bemused that he'd approach me for a date, given that he knows absolutely nothing about me, and that I have not shown the slightest hint of interest.\n\nI didn't reply immediately-- kind of shellshocked-- and he decided to send more emails with emoticons and the like, asking if he's freaked me out. \n\nI want to refuse in a kind but direct way that is professional and unambiguous. I considered: *thank you for the invite, but I'm not interested in seeing anyone at the moment.*\n\nI've heard before that this kind of response is not clear cut, and not a good way to communicate in general. Please help me. Any suggestions would be appreciated.\n\nTo be completely honest, the true reason behind the refusal is less not wanting to date, than being repulsed by what I think is an inappropriate and unwelcome request. I don't want to give him the wrong idea, like if he waits around, I'll change my mind.", "summary": "Please help me to refuse a older guy (colleague/classmate) in a respectful/professional, but unambiguous way."}
{"id": "t3_4755o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27/F] called my girlfriend[29/F] useless (as a joke) and she doesn't believe that I was kidding. Please help", "post": "I'm an incredibly sarcastic person. My girlfriend is too. Usually we're on the same level when it comes to each other's humor. Tonight I fucked up big time. \n\nMy girlfriend has been going through some tough times (fights with her boss [her boss thinks she's incompetent at her job when she's clearly not]), her sister is sick) and we were eating dinner tonight. She asked a dumb question and I answered it sarcastically. She was trying to defend it (as a joke) and I answered her back even more sarcastically. She said something how her answer is right and I said \"you're useless\" in a deadpan voice but I was completely joking. \n\nI know I sound like a terrible person, but we sometimes can be very sarcastic to each other but it's not in a malicious way. Tonight, I should have eased up. It's my fault. I sensed she was feeling high-strung from work and I just didn't care enough to be more thoughtful. I know I'm wrong. \n\nMy girlfriend took my words to heart and broke down crying and told me I make her feel like shit. I had no idea. I've apologized profusely but she says it's not a big deal. Which is her codeword for \"I'm just going to pretend it never happened and we're not going to talk about this\". I'm trying to give her space but I feel so so bad for what I said and for how I made her feel. I told her I didn't mean it, that I was joking, but she said if I didn't mean it, I wouldn't have said it, even as a joke. I love this girl to pieces. We've been dating for almost 2 years, and living together for more than half a year.\n\nReddit I'm kind of lost. How do I fix this?", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are sarcastic people but I went too far tonight and called her useless. She doesn't believe I was kidding but refuses to talk about it."}
{"id": "t3_4gt7za", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Broke up with my boyfriend and it got messy.", "post": "My ex-boyfriend and I share the same friends. I wasn't happy in a relationship with him, as for 6 months of the 9 we dated, he was abusive. It was mostly verbal and emotional, and he once went as far as to threaten to kill me, whilst name calling me. It was getting physical at one point, where he would grab my wrist really tightly or slap me. \n\nI became so unhappy, but we all sit in the same group of friends at school. When I said, I need space to think about things, he disrespected that, and repeatedly tried to cuddle me and touch my thigh. It just felt wrong to me. \n\nNow, 3 weeks after the breakup, I'm dating somebody - his friend. The guy I said he had nothing to worry about. I feel bad, but I just don't feel for him romantically anymore. \n\nNow he's left the group and it feels awkward. He hates my boyfriend now and doesn't want to be around him. All 3 of us share a class together and it's made everything so tense. I want to speak to my ex, to just get him to move on, to bring the group back together and to make things in our class less tense. \n\nHow and when should I approach him?", "summary": "Broke up with an abusive ex and he still wanted to be friends until he found out that I'm going out with one of his other friends. It's awkward, and I want to talk to him about it, to hopefully try and fix things."}
{"id": "t3_4anq53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my EX GF [28F] 5-months, relationship ended with a lot of unanswered questions (lies possible cheating) - can you guys give me some advice on the correct way to put this one behind me?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nI'm feeling very naive and confused.\n\nMy ex ended things suddenly after I found out about a lie she had been maintaining for the entire course of the relationship. The lie was about her ex lover that was also her boss in multiple previous jobs (he's 20 years older than her). She talked about 'how great of a business thinker' he was and would go on and on about how much she appreciated and learned from him. I never felt comfortable with the way she talked about him so highly and I asked her specifically if it had ever crossed the lines from professional into personal - and she always said no. It never crossed those boundaries.\n\nI had 'gut' red flags about her through the entire relationship.\n\nI found out from her Mom that they were in fact in a relationship together and I felt totally betrayed. When I asked Jen about it she explained to me that it was in fact very very sexual in nature. Again - more feelings of betrayal.\n\nWe tried to make things work after this but the relationship ended within 5 days of this being discovered. She cut me off really cold and never gave me a chance to try to fight for the relationship. It was the most unresolved and unexplainable ending to a relationship I've ever experienced. Just a few weeks before this whole thing happened Jen wanted me to move in with her in next month.\n\nI'm left with a shit ton of grief - questions about what really was going on, etc.. etc.. She lied about this guy, what else did she lie about? Did she end things with me because there was more to be discovered? I've never dated someone like this and i'm having trouble understanding the personality and motivations of someone who lies and betrays a partner whom they say the love and want a future with.\n\nI found out that 3 weeks after our relationship he (the ex she lied to me about) was sleeping with her. Its been 10 weeks and I haven't heard from her even once. She completely disappeared.\n\nTBH i'm kind of emotionally fucked up about what happened. Can you guys help me understand?", "summary": "First 4 months were an absolute love story. Found out she lied about an ex boss that was actually her lover for the past 3.5 to 4 years and I confronted because I felt betrayed. Within a week - she cut me out of her life in a very cold and disheartening manner (over text). Did I dodge a bullet? Do liars lie more? Is the way she discarded me a true sign of the way she truly felt? Is it likely she cheated on me and lied about other things as well? I'm feeling very naive and confused."}
{"id": "t3_16njew", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Children of narcissistic parents, what effect has their behavior had on your life and how have your learned to cope?", "post": "My dad is a narcissist and a high school teacher, throughout my adolescence he has compared my achievements to his students. At home he frequently made my younger brother and myself stand in front of him and tell him that I'm not better than him. \n\nObjectively I know I am a high achieving college student (I have 2 jobs, I'm on scholarship to an out of state university, do club sports, and have a job lined up after college) I am confident but at the same time can only value things comparatively (I'm good, but there's always someone better).  I hadn't talked to my dad since I left for college 3 years ago but he sends me money and gifts all the time, which I frequently send home. He cheated on my mom 3x, she just recently left him. When I went home this past Christmas we had to spend time with him or he wouldn't sign the divorce papers, he resumed treatment of myself and my brother like before. \n\nI have never been in a relationship, if I like someone there is always someone better for them than me. I've seen a therapist and he said I need to reconnect with my dad. I refused. Any steps to moving on?", "summary": "My dad is a narcissist, from the outside I look like a high achieving college student but I have severe doubt and have never been in a relationship because of the \"I'm not good enough\"."}
{"id": "t3_3qo80n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I( 26/m) broke up with my (25/f) girlfriend (2years) and need to win her back.", "post": "In short i (m/25)broke up with my gf (f/25) due to her father kicking me out of his house that he bought for us (also has 4/yo son) due to lack of job and past drug addiction (clean and sober now). Im all her son as known since he was 1 1/2yo. I love them both so dam much and cant bare being apart from them. What are some ways to win her back, even though she has has said she feels she should move on. Note that i broke up with her because i thought he was controlling and dictating our relationship and thought it might no ever be salvageable. Need advice on what next stepa would be to win her back (yes, i know im an idiot). Will elaborate, if necessary.", "summary": "need ideas to win back the girl i foolishly broke up with"}
{"id": "t3_3zz7sj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Missing a day of school", "post": "This happened before Winter break, and is an ongoing thing. I'm a teenage boy in high school, just so you know. Now, onto the TIFU. \n  \nIt was the Wednesday before Winter break. My family and I were leaving Friday to go on vacation. I was in vacation mode already, not giving a fuck about anything. I let the teacher know I won't be here Friday, they say \"It's ok\". Wednesday night hits and we get the call that somebody in our family died. Well, shit.  \n  \nI don't go to school the next day because we had to go visit our family. We left Friday morning to go on vacation. Little did I know that in these two days, we would get our summative assignment that was worth 10% of our grade.  \n  \nWe return from vacation, we mourn, attend religious services, etc. Winter break is coming to a close. When I returned this Monday, all was well. Or at least I thought it was. On Tuesday, I learned that we got our summative assignment, and everybody has been working on it during the break. Ok, no big deal. I can get this shit done before it's due. I'd just go to the teacher's office during lunch to get the data needed, right? Right? Wrong. I stop by the office, and my teacher is nowhere to be found. Well, I can't come back after school because I need to catch the bus, my only way home.  \n  \nIt's Wednesday now, and I still don't have the data. I couldn't pass by the office during lunch because I had to finish a test that we got two days before the break. Once again, I can't stop by after school. It's today (Thursday), and the due date is fast approaching. I stop by the office during lunch. Teacher is nowhere in sight. I pass by after school. Still nowhere in sight. I missed the bus, too.  \n  \nAnd the assignment is due tomorrow.", "summary": "Missed the summative assignment because I missed a day of school."}
{"id": "t3_4hag5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20 F] get over hurting my ex boyfriend [22M] and make amends with him?", "post": "My ex and I dated for about a year with a lot of complications and drama at the beginning. I am always very upfront with my thoughts on my relationship so he fully knew it made me insecure even though I decided to stay with him.\n\n We were both emotionally damaged; him by a past relationship and me by my childhood, but he was always present and caring. I was more of the problem because of my anxiety and depression, something that was hard for him to fathom. \n\nThroughout our relationship he would tell me he wanted to stay friends if we didn't stay together, and he wasn't sure we would. It took him months of dating to call me his girlfriend, even though he spent all his time with me, and I told him I loved him a few months before we broke up and he did not return it.\n\n It got to a point where we were arguing a lot and I stopped having the desire to spend time with him. I broke up with him kind of suddenly I guess, so I believe that mixed with the guilt of his unfaithfulness at the start of our relationship is what makes him have such hard feelings.His anger towards me also fuels some very confusing guilt on my end. \n\nHow can I make him forgive me? If I had known the breakup was going to be this bad I would have rethought it or at least how I went about it. I valued him very highly as a friend and I am more upset having him out of my life than I was in the relationship. We are both dating new people now but we both also have a lot of unresolved feelings. \n\nWe dated for a year and have been broken up for a year now and would talk from time to time, up until a few weeks ago when he told me he didn't want to anymore because of how much I hurt him and how I'll never understand how he feels.", "summary": "How do I make my ex and I get over our leftover feelings from our relationship? His being anger and sadness toward losing me as a girlfriend and mine being guilt and sadness toward losing him as a friend"}
{"id": "t3_bwpae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have a question about 9/11 for you...", "post": "Reddit is a diverse community but, looking at the home page every day, I've noticed trends.  Reddit loves certain shows.  Reddit loves memes.  Reddit loves science and hates the media.  Much of Reddit is atheist or agnostic in a sense (not zealots for a particular religion).  Reddit likes space and wants to believe in aliens and the beauty of our planet.\n\n**Keep in mind, these are total generalizations.  I understand not everyone here is the same.**\n\nBut, what I don't understand is the overwhelming hatred for the 9/11 \"conspiracy theories\".  Based on the other things the Reddit community seems to enjoy, I would think that the majority of Reddit was Truthers.  \n\nEven if the story we got was true (I'm not saying it is or it isn't), I think many of us agree that we were not given the whole story but if there were facts about the whole thing that you did not know, no matter what it may suggest, wouldn't you want to know?", "summary": "Why does Reddit hate Truthers?"}
{"id": "t3_29b4sr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by keeping potatoes too long", "post": "So, this all started a few months back when I first moved into my new place. I was low on groceries from moving and bought a ton of food to last me a couple of weeks. I figured I might as well by some potatoes because they're easy to make even though I rarely ate them growing up. After a few weeks, I was settled in but had yet to eat the potatoes that were sitting on the bottom of the shelf I put all my food on. They had started budding a bit and I decided that I should let them bud a bit more since I had never seen them grow more than the few little spots/eyes. So, after another month, they had budded a lot more to a point where they were piercing through the packaging. I thought this looked pretty cool and once again decided to keep them there to see how far they could go before I got bored of them, or when they started taking up too much space. Now, after a couple more months, I stopped checking on them and pretty much forgot they were even there. This was only until recently when I was throwing out any old food left on my shelves... Before this, there were a lot of bugs (I'm told fruit flies) in my house, but I guessed they were coming through my window from the creek nearby... However, when I was throwing out the old food, I noticed the potatoes had grown massively, and I could see they were falling apart when I picked them up. That's when I realized where the insects were coming from. Inside the packaging were dozens and dozens of larvae eating the potatoes. I immediately dropped the package in disgust and had chills running through my body. I picked it up after a few seconds of shouting \"HOLY SHIT\" over and over, and threw it away in the dumpster outside immediately... Now I'm just hoping the flies were only coming from the potatoes and not anything else I have neglected throwing away...", "summary": "Fruit Flies! infiltrated house, caused by 6 month old sack of potatoes I neglected to throw away because I thought they looked cool when budded. "}
{"id": "t3_15e4in", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Finally ended college studies, what should I do now? Look for work or keep studying?", "post": "Hi all, first time posting here... I recently ended studying but honestly I feel like I don't know much, even if I have the best grade in the generation of the engineering school where I studied.\n\nI studied Software Engineering, and I have an interest in Artificial Intelligence. I could, with my current knowledge, look for work to do stuff like development of applications like management, mobile apps, accounting, etc. A bunch of boring stuff...\n\nOr I could keep studying to aim for a bigger goal, I have a strong interest in AI, NASA, AEM, but I feel not smart enough to search for that. I don't know anybody in the field, and I'm not from the US.\n\nI'm 25 years old, living with my fiance. If I keep studying, I can try to get a scholarship but it's not guaranteed to get one, and the school I want to go is in another state of my country, so I'll have heavy expences if I go that way, and my fiance just have highschool finished, so he won't get a very good job.\n\nMy fear is that if I get a job right now, I'll be there more time than I want (settlement, conform), and I'll be condemned to a cubicule for the rest of my life, doing boring stuff (it's really not easy to get a good job here).\n\nAnd if I study, maybe I won't be able to pay the whole thing, and at the end maybe studying AI won't help me at all, and I won't be able to get a job with that, at least not in this country.\n\nSo here I am, not deciding on what to do. I have until march to decide to actually keep studying. What would you do? There's points in favor of each thing, and I'm confused. :) Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Keep studying to aim for bigger goals (specialization in a field)? or get a job right now and try to make my way up from there?"}
{"id": "t3_2wjtgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) need some advice on how to handle a crush (23M) while already in a relationship (27M)", "post": "I (22M) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for like two years. I recently was introduced to this really cute guy and we kind of started flirting. He kissed me when I saw him for the second time but I told him I was already in a relationship. He freaked out and said that it was obvious that we were attracted to each other. He told me he really liked me. \n\nIt turns out I can't keep him off my mind. Now he's ignoring me a little (won't text me and answer only some of my texts) and it's killing me. The whole thing is really fucked up because I feel I shouldn't care at all, but I do. So apparently I have a crush on him. \n\nAt the same time I feel guilty because I feel like I am cheating, even though technically I'm not. \n\nIt's pathetic because I only think about this kid and he seems already over me. It's like I'm having dinner with my boyfriend and checking my phone all the time to see if he texts me. And I don't know if I like this guy or is just that my ego is hurt because he stopped texting me.\n\nI feel like shit about the whole thing and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I am having a crush while I'm already with someone else and I hate that my crush is ignoring me now"}
{"id": "t3_1oe3uq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I cultivate strong, lasting friendships?", "post": "26/M. I've been back in my hometown for five years. I've made plenty of acquaintances, and have plenty of semi-close friends whom I've known for at least a year that I catch up with every couple of months.\n\nWhat I lack are BESTEST BUDDIES who are always happy to do whatever, whenever, who would come to my rescue with no questions asked if I called them at 3 am, who willI listen to the depths of my crazy for hours without judgement.\n\nThe only people I've come close to that level of connection with are girls who had a crush on me whom I wasn't interested in or vice versa, so I wouldn't really call those \"pure\" friendships.\n\nOn the other hand, at least half a dozen people have said they never want to speak to me again, and there are quite a few social organizations that host events I don't go to anymore if I think I'm likely to see certain people who annoy the hell out of me or vice versa.", "summary": "friendship, I'm doing it wrong. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4rwwo0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F22) am very jealous of my boyfriend's (M23) female friend.", "post": "We've been dating for 3.5 years. It is actually driving me crazy. \n\nHere's the gist: My bf and this girl were great friends in high school. She was the pretty, blonde cheerleader who thrived on male attention and posted provocative pictures all the time. \nMy bf and I started dating and I hinted to him that he should stop hanging out with her because she was extremely flirty. He really didn't care and just sort of stopped hanging out with her. I had this weird feeling that in high school he had a crush on her but could never get her, but he told me it was the other way around. Who knows.\n\nAnyway. Recently (well, in December) I snooped on his computer (I know, I'm horrible and this was a huge mistake) and found out he was masturbating to her. This of course made me feel absolutely horrible and I'm still not over this. I'm obsessed with looking at pictures of her and comparing her to myself. She's very tan, extremely blonde, beautiful blue eyes, big breasts and big hips... whereas I'm pale, dark blonde, hazel eyes, medium sized boobs, no hips. I feel like I'm clearly the ugly one out of both of us and he settled for me, and now he just gets off to her because he wishes he was fucking her instead of me. This is making me feel horrible about myself and I don't know what to do. I bring it up to my boyfriend all the time and at first he was nice and caring about it, but now (rightfully so) he is getting pissed.", "summary": "Bf masturbates to his hot female friend. She is much more attractive than me and I feel like this ugly thing he settled for. I'm obsessed with looking at her pics and comparing her to myself and I feel very down about how I look and feel like my bf prob thinks i'm less attractive than her."}
{"id": "t3_1e7uqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Sending Myself Flowers for Mother's Day (Spolier Alert: I'm the son.)", "post": "I'll admit, I waited until the last minute. Maybe that was my first FU. My mother lives in Georgia and I, a couple of miles away in Wisconsin. Going through the ordering process on auto-pilot, it seems as if I just didn't read the headings and switched billing address with shipping. Confirmation email... read it? Cmooooooon.\n\nCut to this afternoon, we get back from the dog park and there are flowers on our door step. I am perplexed as we don't have (human) kids so reaching for the card it suddenly clicks what these might be. Yeah, IFU. Wife thought it was hilarious, and called me dumbass; called Mom and she also thought it was hilarious. Tulips are fabulous.", "summary": "Got 20% off on flowers I bought for myself."}
{"id": "t3_26itay", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [14/M] boyfriend admitted to me that he feels depressed when I'm [14/F] not around.", "post": "This boy is someone I had a crush on since October, and we found out our feelings were mutual in February and started going out then. It's been about 3 months now, and we hang out every weekend and at least one day of the week (outside of school.) I see him at school, but we have no classes together so we barely hang out there. He is very touchy (touches shoulder, puts arm around me, hugging), but I don't mind because I don't get embarrassed and I love physical contact.\n\nHe seems to like physical contact too, because last night, we were video chatting (after spending all day together) and he seemed a bit down. I asked him what was wrong and soon he admitted that for the past 2 weeks, he's been feeling depressed whenever I'm not around. \n\nWhile I do miss him too, I'm happy enough knowing that I have him. I'm scared about what to do. I love him, and I don't plan on leaving him, but what about those times where I go on vacation? What will he do? \n\nI think about him all the time, but I have hobbies besides him that I use to occupy myself. I get happy knowing that I'd be seeing him that day, the next day, or I'd at least get to call/text him. What can I do to help him?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 3 months feels depressed and misses me too much when we are not physically seeing each other."}
{"id": "t3_3lblhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [35F] just found out my daughters [14F] father is planning to take her to a gun range after school. I am beside myself with rage and want to intercept her before he can get to her. This could cause legal issues. What do I do?", "post": "Quick back ground, I was only with my daughter's father for a very short time. He was in the military and got moved away when she was about 2. I thought he was  decent guy and was involved as much as he could be and always paid support, gave gifts and saw her whenever he could. \n\nHe recently moved back into our city with the military and my daughter has been so excited. I am not happy with all the changes because I don't think he feeds her well, he wants her to play sports (both my girls are very arts and computer orientated). So far she has taken to all of this stuff because he's very handsome, charismatic and was a pro football player for two years. She is over the moon in love with him, which I don't want to stop even if I have issues with it. \n\nHe just texted me that he was going to take her to a fucking gun range after school. I said absolutely not. It's not safe and I do not believe in guns in any way shape or form and they should be banned and every gun owner should be arrested and locked away for life (yes I feel that strong). He said that he does have custodial rights and that as long as its legal, he can do what he wants. I said absolutely not. He said we could talk about it in person when they got to my house. \n\nI want to stave this off and go grab my daughter out of school right now and get a restraining order against him. This is sickening. I'm a momma bear and no one fucks with my kids like this. \n\nWe have an agreement (not legal, but written and signed) that he gets to pick her up from school on the days I'm in class. But from what I understand it could be used me in court and I guess technically what he is doing is not illegal (but it is grossly immoral in my opinion) \n\nCan anyone offer advice?", "summary": "Daughter's father wants to take her to a gun range. I want to never see him again. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1s4igw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [M15] comfort her[F15] while I'm waiting for her?", "post": "I met a girl last year, and started to get to know her better in school. We ended up becoming really good friends and I eventually got the courage to ask her out. She didn't say no, but she did say that she was emotionally unavailable and kind of unstable to be in a relationship. So we just became friends. \n\nA few days ago, we talked about it some more. I wanted to make sure that she was interested in a more serious relationship still (mainly because I was terrified that I had been friend-zoned). I was not, and she said that she was interested and could still see us together, but that her life was still to hectic to include something like that. I was relieved, as she also said that she would even tell me when she was ready to progress. I would never pressure her into something like this.\n\nSo how should I simply comfort her during this time? She's getting over some depression issues, but I can see how bright and optimistic she is, and I want to be there for her. What tips can you give me?", "summary": "I'm ready to progress the relationship, she wants to but isn't ready, how do I help her/comfort her through these tough times?"}
{"id": "t3_nriog", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Christmas troubles", "post": "I usually tend to over analyse things too much\u2026 maybe now more than usual, since I've been going from total bliss to harsh sadness in a matter of days. Its been going on for about a month, and it has affected me mentally in a way that I'm not quite sure how to carry myself in public.\n\nToday I've reached my lowest of low, because this fellow I've been seeing for a while decided that the best Christmas present would be to break up with me. It didn't affect me in a way I'd expect it to. Since we weren't dating for so long, I wassn't upset over him telling me this out of the blue, I was more upset that he chose this day of all other days.\n\nAnd I have a good opinion of myself. I know what I'm capable of and how far I am willing to go for some things, but lately I've just felt that I'm doing all this work for nothing. Making friends, trying to keep up with the family\u2026 social interactions mainly.", "summary": "got dumped on xmas, now feeling like crap, got any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_220aln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Best friend[24] owes me[24] money from three years ago. Can we resolve this?", "post": "Original: \n\nSo to sort of update this there really isn't an update. She told me the check would be here Tuesday. Check didn't show up I told her it wasn't here with no answer from here. \n\nTherefore I'm finished. I want to tell her what a manipulative lying bitch she has been for the past several years and really let go of all my anger and she most certainly deserves it(given the original situation and all of the stuff she has put me through since high school) but there is some little part of me that's telling me to just move on. Block her from Facebook and delete her number from my phone. However we have several interconnected friends and while I've only told my boyfriend and my cousin about the situation I don't know what will happen once they start to ask questions.\n\nAny advice on the matter would be helpful. My boyfriend is urging me to tell her exactly what for and my mother is (nicely) saying \"I told you so\" but both of them are connected to the situation so is prefer some outside advice. If any expansion is needed on anything I'd be glad to explain.", "summary": "friend is a manipulative bitch and I want to tell her so, is this a smart move or should I be the bigger woman and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4nfpbz", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "23F Having trouble with my IUD. Just need to know if I should seek medical attention", "post": "I just had a quick question. I just got and IUD (mirena) put in about a year ago, and everything was okay mostly. I stopped having periods completely, the occasional out of the blue cramp but nothing super painful. No blood, no mood swings, nothing. Everything was great.\nA couple of days ago I noticed a little bit more discharge than lately, and it ... smelled a bit off, but I didn't think too much of it, just figured I'd keep an eye on it and then go to the doctors if I hadn't seen improvement in a few days. Now yesterday night I started getting cramps so bad that they were winding me. I was so painful I was dizzy and seeing double. And my period cramps were usually in my lower back, these were in my lower back as well as on the front, right in the top corners of the v shape if that makes sense. It was like throbbing, ripping, knife sharp pain. I went to the bathroom because I thought I was going to be sick, and I noticed that I had some bloody discharge. Frank blood, slightly thick and clumpy.\nSO basically. Overnight the cramps kept coming and going. Now they're about an hour apart. But I've filled up about 2 pads since last night, which is not something I've done since I got it placed in. I just vomited from the pain of another 'cycle' of cramps.\nSo, I guess my question is, is this normal, and if not, should I go to an emergency clinic right now?\nI would have gone last night, but I actually work overnight and there was no one to cover, so I couldn't go.\n\nI'm a 23 year old white female living in Canada. I'm about 5'6 and 200 lbs (yikes.) . Started a couple days ago but the blood and pain started last night. No other medical issues other than a sore back and anxiety disorder which I'm taking medication for (Lexapro? and Lorazepam PRN)", "summary": "my uterus hates me. Please tell me it's normal so I don't have to go see a doctor.."}
{"id": "t3_52xnyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I (27m) right to be weirded out by my gf (26) and her friends (?m) \"relationship\".", "post": "So I met my gf off tinder. We've been officially dating for a month, seeing way other for a couple weeks before that. When we first started chatting on tinder she mentioned (on her profile) how she was looking for friends only. After meeting her I knew I wanted to be more than friends, one thing led to another and we started dating.\n\nEverything has been going awesome! But I just have one \"issue\".\n\nBefore I met my gf she met another guy off tinder. She's told me about him and when we first committed to dating each other she told me how he would only ever be a friend and nothing more. She said I don't need to worry about him and that she's all mine. Ok great. I'm not against having friends of the opposite sex, I have some friends who are female myself. \n\nMy problem is that when they do hangout (maybe once or twice every couple weeks) they seem to almost go on \"dates\".  They don't hangout in group settings (always just the two of them). Last time they hung out, my gf went over to his place to watch movies. Tonight they are going to a board game bar.\n\nMy girlfriend is honestly the nicest person I've ever met. She's never given me a reason to mistrust her but I can't help but feel uncomfortable with their friendship. I've never met this guy and she doesn't have him on FB so I have no idea what he looks like. Should I be concerned with this? I trust her but being a dude I know how guys think. \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "dating a girl who is friends with a guy. They hangout one on one in some \"date\" like scenarios."}
{"id": "t3_3emrdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 F] feel my SO [18 M/F] isn't really into me, and I'm not sure if I'm just in denial or reading the signals wrong.", "post": "My SO and I have been together for around 3 months. When we were still just talking, I was constantly unsure if he felt the same way I did. He never let on any hints and we weren't exactly flirting or anything of that sort. \n\nAfter a while, I got so frustrated that I just confessed my feelings so I could get over him. Turns out he said he felt the same way. After that he made an effort to talk to me more. We went on a couple of dates, had a pretty nice time. \n\nHowever he's never really made an effort to be physically affectionate. Even when we're alone he barely tries to do anything. I initiated a few times and he was responsive, but he never initiated afterwards or took it a step further. Let's say he was shy, well then since I've initiated a few times, that should be a clear sign that it's okay and there is no need to be shy right?  He's not affectionate with his words either. Sometimes it doesn't even feel like I'm talking to a SO, it's more like talking to a friend. \n\nAnd now, he barely talks to me or starts the conversation. \n\nI'm hesitant to talk to him about this because then he would act differently because of what I said, not because of his own will. \n\nI am his first girlfriend. My main question is, is he just shy or did he just confessed his feelings because he wanted to have a girlfriend or is he losing interest.", "summary": "Unsure if my SO is actually into me."}
{"id": "t3_4w0wvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you tell someone \"it's time to grow up\" without sounding hostile or rude?", "post": "Person in question is 29/m, I've [27/f] known him for 4 years. We've been dating for about 8 months now. I love him to death and - from his own words - I've been very patient and understanding of his needs. However, he can be very immature and selfish with his actions and how he treats me, has little to no direction in life, and despite saying he wants to give it a real shot, he's not giving me even half of what I'm putting in. \n\nIf confronted about this (or any problem/source of unhappiness in our relationship) he gets defensive and either says he's doing his best and I should accept that, or something else that excuses him from action. I know he can do better if he tries - I think he's afraid to really try, because it would be pretty bad for him emotionally if he put so much energy into our relationship and it failed anyway. He's said he thinks we could be happy together for a very long time, and I know that he loves me, but the defensiveness and lack of effort really get to me sometimes. \n\nSorry if this is super rambly and long, I just really need to vent right now and it may prove helpful to get some fresh input on this.\n\n**Please, no \"you should dump him\" advice - constructive feedback only.", "summary": "partner is selfish and immature, and gets defensive basically anytime he's criticized."}
{"id": "t3_1vqsnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] dont know how or when i'll get over her.", "post": "How do I get over my gf? First girl I kissed at 19, first gf as well [M/22] here, we dated for 25 months, its been almost 16 months since we broke up and today I saw her with her bf whom ive seen before and the pain just resurfaces. Its been said that time heals all but the pain is still there. Before people go around throwing suggestions like exercise, vacation, travel, religion etc. Believe me, ive exhausted almost everything. I just cant get over her and throughout the past year ive been having conversations with her in my head and stupid little things like that. Dating someone else is not an option, (religiously) and I know id get overly attached to the next gf and fall into that vicious cycle of dating repeatedly. I dont drink at all (never have) or have any escape behaviors and and it wouldn't be healthy going into another relationship when im this depressed. Please help", "summary": "How do I get over my ex gf, its been a while now :("}
{"id": "t3_379b24", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my ex [22F] of 2 years broke up, now she's getting close to my old group of friends.", "post": "I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years for a\n\nvariety of reasons. She had become more and more manipulating\n\n and always required 100% of my time and attention. The kicker\n\n for me was when my sister passed away (3 weeks ago), and my \n\nex was still manipulating the situation to make it all about her. Now\n\nafter being broken up for a few weeks she starts hanging out with \n\na group of friends that I had a falling out with. She knows what \n\nhappened to cause the falling out, and now she is purposefully \n\nhanging out with them.", "summary": "Ex girlfriend is hanging out with my old group of friends. "}
{"id": "t3_3w1ddx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What to do when you hate your job?", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but I am struggling with trying to decide what to do with my life. Background: I'm 21 y/o. I currently work retail (same place for the last 3 years). It started as a part-time job while I was going to school but because of some financial issues, I had to stop attending school. I now work full time and am the supervisor over half the store (supervising about 15-20 people at a time). I had considered just staying with the company as I don't need a degree to move up within and the pay is fairly decent. Lately however, I find myself dreading going back to work each day. I've just grown tired of the place. Before leaving school, I had almost completed my associates (which I do plan on going back to finish at some point because I'd like to think I didn't piss away 10s of thousands of dollars on nothing) and was planning to pursue a degree in criminal law and justice. I never had much of a plan on what to do with the degree, it was merely the only thing that interested me and a degree is something you need in this day and age. Recently though, I find myself straying from that as I don't have a plan for it. I find myself constantly looking at job ads but I'm either not qualified for anything that seems interesting or it doesn't pay nearly as much as I make now. While I would much prefer a job I actually enjoy, I'm not in the financial position to take a cut in pay. I honestly don't know where t go from here and am just looking for advice. Thank you for reading the rantings of a tired and stressed out individual.", "summary": "I hate my job but am not qualified or anything else with equivalent pay. What now?"}
{"id": "t3_19j29q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] was drunk and acted insane and jealous to my[21M] bf of 3 months.", "post": "We've been dating for about a year and together officially for 3 months. We weren't together before due to long distance.\n\nI was VERY drunk (not that it is an excuse) the other night at a bar with my boyfriend and we ran into one of his old friends who is a female and also happens to be best friends with his ex. She kept bringing up his ex to me and it was bothering me that she would talk so much about her to me when they have been over for so long, and barely went out for any amount of time at all. I guess it bothered me a lot because I started questioning him about her and acted literally insane. Asking things such as are you only with me cause you couldn't be with her, did you like her more, do you wish you were with her.\nI have no idea why i acted like this as although I am kind of insecure and think about these things I have never expressed them before in any relationship I've ever been in. We ended up fighting about it and I was probably pretty crazy.\n\nHe slept over and in the morning when I woke up and realized what a crazy person I had been I apologized a lot. He said it was fine it was just the vodka and told me not to worry. He asked if I remembered telling him to go home (which I don't) and he said 'I didn't want to go home I wanted to stay and wake up next to you' so I thought that was very sweet and maybe it wasn't as much of a big deal as I thought.\n\nThe only problem is he's been very distant since. Barely texting me, took hours to respond to my text (abnormal for him unless he is asleep, which he wasnt) and now I am worried. I'm not sure what to do as I apologized a lot. I don't know if any of you could tell me maybe what he's thinking right now, or how I go about fixing this. I'm afraid he will break up with me over it.", "summary": "I was crazy to my boyfriend while drunk, which is abnormal for me, now he's being distant which is abnormal for him, can I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_2iziec", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By telling me girlfriend she looks like a prostitute. (Currently homeless.) [SFW]", "post": "Okay so I broke up with my girlfriend a week ago. We were living together. The brake up was mutual since we both expected it. We both had our small fights but that was expected. Until yesterday where she went out with some people from her work place. After she returned her makeup was kinda ruined after hours of dancing and drinking. So I told her that she looked like a prostitute after her shift ended.\n\nShe didn't say anything and went straight to sleep. Next day she didn't even say a good morning to me. I got up, got dressed and went out with a friend. After I returned home she just bombed me with every problem in our relationship. But what sparked the fight was the \"prostitute thing\".\n\nI just said it to tease her and nothing more. I came home to find all my clothes packed and she threw me out of the house.\n\nWorst thing is that I'm new to the country and I have no friends so I guess today I'm sleeping to a hotel and start looking for a new place.\n\nWish I could take everything back... But I guess its too late.", "summary": "Told (ex)girlfriend her make up looked like a prostitute after her shift. And next day found myself homeless having no place to stay."}
{"id": "t3_33whkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my Long Distance GF [22 F] have been dating for year, I can't stop thinking she's cheating on me.", "post": "We have been dating for a year long distance. I have never caught her in a lie but she has caught me in a few tiny lies. I have never cheated on her. She just joined a sorority and goes to all of these frat parties and stuff. I am studying and very busy and stressed about school wile she runs around and has fun. She seems to be this Perfect angel of a girlfriend, which is why I question how are things so perfect.\n\nI feel crazy when I accuse her of lying or doing something other than what she says. I used to do it all the time and then she stopped telling me about all the new guys she has met ect. I feel like I have scared her a little by asking all of these questions. For some reason my gut always tells me she's up to no good and i DO NOT KNOW WHY???\n\nI have finally calmed down a little with the questioning but inside i still have the same feelings. Is it even possible she's cheating on me even though we call and face time almost every night and text throughout the day.\n\nI have never been a skeptical kinda guy and I feel", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1ct7s1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Already doubting [23f] relationship with [25m] after 1 month of serious dating", "post": "I'm a 23 year old female who's been single for the past 3 years.  My last relationship ended badly and I basically lost all desire for love and commitment.  Just to understand what issues I am dealing with I should explain that he had no job, didn't graduate from high school, didn't pay or offer me anything but I was young and in love so it didn't matter.  \n\nAnyway, since then I've become a bit of a lone wolf.  I'm a fiercely independent woman, almost to a fault.  I kind of feel like it may be that I'm trying to prove something but I'm not sure what that is.\n\nI met a guy about 5 months ago through some mutual friends.  We have a lot of common interests like guns, camping and generally having a good time.  We started dating seriously about a month ago and he refers to me as his girlfriend.  \n\nWithin the past two days we've realized we are different.  He's conservative with traditional values and I'm more liberal and unconventional.  It's almost a good thing because he's grounding me a little more and I'm opening up his mind to different ways of thinking.  However, I've realized that he's a bit self absorbed.  Not in a narcissistic way but he only seems to be able to relate things through himself.  I put a lot of effort into being interested in his projects but he doesn't make an effort to being interested in my projects.  I can tell that issues from my last relationship are urging me to abandon ship immediately for fear of being hurt again and I wonder if I'm almost TRYING to find reasons to leave.  \n\nBasically, we have two issues.  I had basically conviced myself that I wanted to be alone but I found a guy I genuinely care about.  He makes me happy and the thought of being with him doesn't make me nauseous.  Secondly, are we incompatible or am I trying to make us incompatible?  If I'm already sensing he's a little self absorbed should I continue this relationship?", "summary": "I'm a girl with a lonewolf mentality that found a guy that I may consider allowing join the wolf back but have my reservations. Should I let him join my wolfpack or am I better flying solo?"}
{"id": "t3_2p8135", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Struggling with university(college)", "post": "Hello all so a bit of backstory; i'm 22 years old currently working full time as a Kitchen Porter/Commi chef, i'm also in 2nd year of a Software Development course slowly letting it all fail. I've lived by myself in a flat but had to move back home because i couldn't find a job where i was at. Me and brother live and look after ourselves (our parents are only back home for a month in a year).\n\nI was studying to be an accountant but hated that, so i tried to pick something i was interested in. I enjoyed working on games, and working with people. But once i hit 2nd year i just couldn't find the time to work on stuff properly, i needed the money badly. So i'm in the midst of resitting the module i failed, watching it fail again. My coursework will be late, i'm pretty certain i can pass the exam in a month but my coursework i find just to difficult to wing it.\n\nI've fucked up i know and haven't found the time to work on my coursework, i could blame the crazy 12+hour shifts but i know other people work much longer then me and find the time to do many many things.\n\nI'm honestly scared because i'm 22, i don't know what the fuck it is i'm meant to do. I hate working in a kitchen but it pays the bills, but i think if i'm to be successful in this degree (if i get a chance to resit it in August)\nI might be able to get a resit in August but i'm just scared i'm not where i should be at 22, and i don't know who to talk to,letting everyone down.", "summary": "Fucked up again, cant find time to do things whilst working i job i hate, don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_25lijz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does anyone have any good stories about two people breaking up in order to mature? Were they able to make it work in the future?", "post": "My boyfriend (male) and I (female) are both 21 years old, we have been dating for 2 1/2 years. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he was unhappy for the last month due to the amount of fighting. He went through a tough month, and I didn't always make that easy on him. When we broke up, we had trouble leaving each other. We sat there holding each other not wanting to leave one another. The point of the story, we still love each other with all our hearts, but unfortunately, I am too self-conscious, and I had trouble trusting him. He never did anything for me to not trust him, but I'm a realist and I know that people cheat. We broke up, and he cut all ties with me. I think that it hurts him too much to keep in contact with me. He promised that when he's ready we can be friends, and he promised to let me take him out on a date. We both dream of a future that involves one another, but is it realistic? I want to find hope that it can happen. Does anyone have any hopeful stories to share?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I, both 21 years old, broke up 2 weeks ago because we both need to mature. Does anyone have any success stories of people who have found their way back to each other after breaking up for this reason? How long did they break up for? What's your best advice for us?"}
{"id": "t3_3hnib4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [25 M] of a 1 yr chats up other women to assist friend on nights out, in full view of myself [21 F] Obvious double standard as he's been dread gaming me throughout the relationship, apparent whenever I even joke about other guys.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little more then a year. Our relationship is pretty good and he's a really awesome person to be around.\n\nSince our relationship commenced, a common theme on our nights out is my boyfriends newly divorced room mate not making enough effort to chat to women, despite clearly wanting to. At first I took my boyfriends desire to help his mate out, as pretty considerate. However as I'm now trying to restrict my drinking when we go out (something which my boyfriend made a point of), I'm much more aware of how my boyfriend is really just inflating his own ego through chatting to these women.\n\nThis culminated a few weeks ago when my boyfriend, while rather drunk, told me there was no point of him going out while in a relationship unless his mate was going to fuck a random chick. When I then asked what the point of a night out was for me, he replied 'to provide social validation [for previously mentioned friend]' awesome right?\n\nI trust he's been faithful throughout our relationship & will continue to be so, but it still makes me feel shitty when he spends extended periods talking to these other women,or pointing out 'cuties' for his mate to chat to, while I'm struggling with boredom because I can't drink as much as I used to. \nHe talks about leaving me whenever I even joke about other guys (guys need to give up dread game -.- I value the relationship not because I fear losing him but because he genuinely adds to my life.) \n\nOn the one night someone ever approached me my bf got annoyingly angry with me for talking to him, despite me only telling the random dude that I was in a relationship (but my bf was pretty drunk so I didn't think too much of this reaction).", "summary": "Don't know whether I can bring up my boyfriends obvious flirtation with other women, without sounding like a jealous freak."}
{"id": "t3_r6g8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 22 and don't know what I'm doing when it comes to shaving.  I'm currently thinking of buying an electric razor, but, could someone who is a bit more experienced in shaving give me some advice on what to buy?", "post": "I grew up with my mom.  When I hit the age where I started growing facial hair, she bought me a razor (one like [this] and some shaving cream, and I just kind of figured out the rest.\n\nI generally shave after my hot shower (I believe it opens the pours or something).  I cover my face in gell/foam and go with the grain then against the grain.  Then if I missed any spots or the razor is dull and there is still a little bit of stubble, I'll go with the grain again, until it is gone.\n\nThat's it.  \n\nMy beard looks like [this] because I don't know how to shape or style it.  I have no hair above my lip or on my neck.  Once the beard gets a bit too long, I'll just shave it all off and start over because I don't know what the hell I'm doing.\n\nI was thinking about buying an electric razor because:\n\n1.  I'm under the impression I can do a quick once-over on my face every day, keeping myself relatively clean shaven, or, if I can pull it off, with just a thin layer of stubble (which I hear the ladies like).\n\n2.  It would be cheaper than buying razor heads.\n\n3.  They don't give razor burn, which, I get on my neck frequently if I shave more than once every four days (which sucks because I get a faint neck beard that I feel looks unattractive).\n\nSo yeah... Any suggestions?  Good electric razor suggestions?  I've got about $50 to spend on one, unless a more expensive razor will make a *huge* difference, and is well worth the investment.", "summary": "I don't know what the hell I'm doing when it comes to shaving.  How convenient does an electric razor make the process?"}
{"id": "t3_yew1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It's Friday. I'm home from the bar early. I'm drunk. Give me your best/funniest/most ridiculous drunk stories, reddit.", "post": "Mine would be when I backpacked Europe with two friends. We were only in Madrid for a day so we decided to hit up a pub that night. The special was pints of Heineken and we started playing quarters. 5 pints later and we head back to our hostel. We had booked a double even though there were three of us and we were loud enough coming back that they caught us on camera and told us \"you pay 25 euro or you leave now!\" So drunken geniuses we were, we checked out of our hostel at 2am. We go to the subway anticipating that we would catch the train to the airport and sleep there till our flight. Jumped the turnstyles as the last train of the night takes off. So we decided to lay down and sleep in the Madrid subway. Friend 1 gets woken up from a cop kicking his head and screaming at us in Spanish to leave the subway (it was closed for the night). Friend 2 nowhere to be found. We leave, have no idea where Friend 2 was (got lost taking a piss). We wander the Madrid streets until we randomly run into each other (how this happens we still do not understand). Pay 25 euro to take a cab to the airport at 5am and go through security wasted.", "summary": "got drunk in madrid, checked out of our hostel at 2am to avoid 25 euro fine, slept in the subway until woken up by cops kicking friend in the head, took cab and paid 25 euros to get to the airport."}
{"id": "t3_1v2n85", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing some Girl Scouts and their parents my grundle", "post": "Today, like many Sundays, I headed to my local big box hardware store to pick up supplies for a home project. As it was unseasonably warm, I took the opportunity to sport shorts and flip flops - because how often can you do that in January?\n\nIt was a great trip. I picked up lots of tile and lumber, and, best of all, the local Girl Scout troop sold me some boxes of thin mints on the way out the door! Something seemed off about the parents' attitudes during the transaction, but I wrote it off to parents being cautious about their daughters' interaction with an apparently single man (wedding ring was off while using power tools).\n\nThings got a bit more clear when I got home and my wife asked me what happened to my shorts. Turns out that, while lifting tile boxes onto my cart, I had ripped my shorts open from top nearly to bottom. You could even see leg under my striped purple boxer briefs. Classy. \n\n[", "summary": "TIFU by showing some Girl Scouts and their parents my grundle. And here is the evidence.]("}
{"id": "t3_37wmo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/24] have an STD. I don't know how to approach the conversation with the guy [M/23] that I've been dating for 2 months.", "post": "I have been living with Genital Herpes for 5 years now. My fiance had cheated on me and I contracted the disease from him.\n\nI regulate with medication that I take 3x a day and haven't had symptoms in 3 years. (Knock on wood until my knuckles bleed.)\n\nI had finally started dating again this past year. We would hit it off great, hang out, get to know each other, take our time and as things start getting serious,  I'd initiate *the conversation*. Needless to say it NEVER ended well.\n\nI'm currently dating a guy, for a few months now and it's coming time for the dreaded conversation. Everything is great right now. We click on every level, we're always talking to each other in some form, we share so many interests and ideals, I like him so much and I don't want to ruin everything because of this goddamned STD.\n\nHow can I approach this subject without him running for the door?\n\nWhat information can I share to give him a realistic idea of what it is, rather than the negatively hyped idea he no doubt would have of it?", "summary": "I have an STD; that sucks."}
{"id": "t3_3b5bya", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Texts I [17F] will never send to ???? [24M].", "post": "-I hate the way you blow smoke out of the side of your mouth.\n\n-I hate the inflections in your voice when you flirt with me.\n\n-I hate how your hand feels on my shoulder blades when you unnecessarily stroke my back.\n\n-I hate the way you look at me with that stupid smirk and your stupid eyebrows.\n\n-I hate taking 15 minutes to compose a witty, grammatically correct, meticulously worded reply to your texts. Then waiting an hour or two to send it so I don't look keen.\n\n-I hate looking to my right and seeing your face on the pillow next to me when we're watching TV in your bed.\n\n-I really, really, really, really hate your six pack.\n\n-Ditto arms. Hideous. Get them out of my sight.\n\n-I hate the fact that I didn't pretend I was drunker on that last night, and that I didn't scoot closer to you under the covers and rest my head in the space between your neck and your shoulder.\n\n-I hate the fact that you're not a person I could ever actually date, not least because you're a massive slag who would break my heart.\n\n-I therefore hate the fact that you want to fuck me. And I hate that you know I know. And I hate that you know I want it.\n\n-Because I hate the fact that I'm way more emotionally attached to you, dependent on you even, than you ever could be to me.\n\n-I hate the fact that I think of you when I come.\n\n-I hate the fact that I'm not going to talk to you for the next month, because facebooking or emailing you would be an intrusion on my part. And you're not going to facebook or email me, because you don't need to. Or want to, I guess.\n\n-I hate the fact that I miss your dumb ass so much that I'm writing this to make myself feel better, while you haven't thought of me at all since I went away. Except maybe once or twice. In passing. Perhaps?\n\n-I hate how happy that possibility makes me.", "summary": "WHY DO I KEEP ACCIDENTALLY STARTING TO CARE ABOUT PEOPLE WHO DON'T CARE ABOUT ME \u0449(\u0ca0\u76ca\u0ca0\u0449)"}
{"id": "t3_moojt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your most ingenious way of saving money on utilities?", "post": "One day while taking a shower I had a great idea of how to save on my water bill.\n\n When I shower I close the drain so the water builds up at the bottom of the tub. Once I've finished showering it's built up a little ways. Then if it's that time of the month I bathe my animals, I will use that water to bathe both my cat's, then my guinea pig. Smart thinking Right? But hold on, it gets better. I then decided to get multiple buckets and take the water out of the tub, and put it in the buckets. I then do 2 things with the buckets, which I have set aside for later use. When I use the toilet, instead of wasting precious water and flushing it away, I then dump one of the buckets of water in the toilet to flush it. This saves me gallons. The other use for the smaller percentage of the buckets is I run them through a strainer, then boil the water. I can then drink the water. Just kidding that'd be gross. I use the strained and boiled water, add dish soap, and can now use it to clean my dishes. I can then use that dish soaped left over water, as more water to not only flush, but now clean my toilet. \n\nSo Reddit, I was wondering what other creative ways you save on utilities.", "summary": "I save water, what do you do to save?"}
{"id": "t3_3c5m7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] and my girlfriend [21 F] almost seem to be ending after 7 years and I'm at a loss of what to do", "post": "It has been just about 7 years since we have been dating (since high school) and I love her to death.  We have always had a kind of long distance thing going on because we went to different colleges but we were able to see each other during the summer.  Just a few days ago,  though,  she tells me that she isn't sure if I make her happy and needs time to think. This has really torn me apart because I have tried to change as much as I could for her (like cleaning more and playing less video games), but it really feels like it was for nothing.  I have tried to give her space to think, but I always cave in and try to convince her to stay with me.  She says she wants to the end of the month to think, but I don't know if I can reasonably go that long without talking to her again.  I'm at a real loss of what to do because I don't want to lose her,  but I want to make her happy as well.  What should I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend of 7 years wants time to think about our relationship, but it's really hard for me to not contact her."}
{"id": "t3_2cxb6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] boss was mocking me after I made a mistake. How do I handle it?", "post": "I was scheduled to work yesterday afternoon.  Mistakenly, I looked at last week's schedule and assumed that I was off.  Three hours into the shift, I get a text from a co-worker (the \"lead\") asking where I was.  \n\nI immediately called and apologized, explaining my mistake.  I ask a few more questions at which point the lead hands the phone over to the boss, Dan.  Dan tells me it's slow, and not to bother coming in.  \n\nI ask him if it would be a good idea to just show up for the sake of not having a no-call no-show counted against me (two no-call no-shows and you're fired).  He tells me to stay home. and that that it would be counted as a regular call-out, but not a no-call no-show.  Then. he tells me that if he were my supervisor, he would be *much* harsher on me.  He says all of this within the vacinity of other employees.  \n\nThen, he proceded to joke around about it, saying that I can make it up by bringing in cigars and pizza to my co-workers.  I asked him a few other questions and he seemed dismissive, throwing in that he's going on vacation soon so he doesn't really care.\n\nI've worked at the company longer a lot than my boss, and I want to make sure that my mistake will not result in a punishment worse than what was mentioned. \n\nIf you could answer a few of my questions and concerns, it would be appreciated.\n\n* Should I have showed up and clocked in anyway, despite the boss telling me to stay home? That would give proof that I at least attempted to show up.  \n\n* How should I handle my bosses attitude?  He's always acted this way.  My supervisor is a lot more understanding.  Should I go directly to him, or just talk to my boss in private?", "summary": "I was scheduled to work yesterday, but I accidentally looked at last weeks schedule when I was off.  Two hours into the shift, a co-worker texts me asking me where I am.  I call and apologize.  I tell them I'm immediately available to come in.  The boss tells me to stay home, and that it will be counted as a call-out but not a no-call no-show.  The boss seems dismissive of my concerns and pokes fun at me, telling me he's going on vacation soon and he would have been much harder on me had he been my supervisor.  How do I handle this, and what can I do bettern next time around?"}
{"id": "t3_201ax4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is the appropriate time to tell someone you're not interested? [19 F]", "post": "This guy has been giving me some pretty strong signals that he's interested in me. We've only actually hung out once, and it was in a group setting. He lives just down the hall from me at my dorm, so he's shown up at my room a couple times asking me to do things and then (I'm not sure how, he didn't know my last name and my first name is super common) he found me on facebook, added me and has been talking to me/inviting me to do stuff constantly. He's nice, but I'm just not interested and I'm not sure if I should just tell him flat out or just keep things at a friend level. I've always been very blunt and I'm not sure when it's appropriate to be so direct. Tonight he was going through my facebook photos at 2 in the morning (I know because he liked one from years ago), so I feel like it's approaching time to let him know I'm not interested in anything more than friends. Thoughts?", "summary": "At what point do you tell someone you're not interested in being more than friends?"}
{"id": "t3_t7ovt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most embarrassing/dumbest thing you've said?", "post": "Five of my buddies were renting a house while they were in college. I went to visit them all one weekend when I had time and got there early. Only one of my friends, we'll call him Jerry, was there, so we killed time waiting for the rest of the guys to come home. Now Jerry is gay, but he's not effeminate (meaning he's bro-ish like the rest of us). He freely makes fun of himself for being gay and calls all of us \"faggots.\" It's all in good fun, and no one gets upset. We are just dumb guys. So we are upstairs playing games and the like, when I finally hear movement downstairs. I knew that it wouldn't be long before one housemate came home, so I figured it was him. I hear the stairs groaning, and the housemate asks if he can come in. I immediate shout out, \"Go away, we are doing gay shit in here!\" Except it wasn't the housemate, it was Jerry's dad, who proceeded to walk into the room anyway. I had never even met Jerry's dad, and he had only recently found out that Jerry was gay. I immediately started blushing like a mofo and tried to save face. MFW I'm usually pretty polite.", "summary": "Thought I was joking with a friend, but turned out I explicitly implied homosexual behaviors to a friend's father instead."}
{"id": "t3_34h4md", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 M] with my _EX__ [24 F] 1 year, hooked up a few times but she won't get back together. How to change her mind?", "post": "So my ex GF has met me a few times over the past few weeks and we have spent a few nights in bed together.  We broke up a few months ago. (I  started the idea, she officially ended it.) \n\nAfter we broke up she got with her co-worker and realized after a month or so it was a mistake.  She said she cares a lot for me but I can see she doesn't have the same happiness as when we were together.  \n\nShe says she's confused right now and not sure about jumping back into relationship.  I am usually the one who wants to meet up and we talk on phone and text regularly.  But its hard to get her to meet with me.  \n\nI realize we really click and she is great to be around and we had so much fun together.  I broke up because I thought grass greener.  (Stupid choice).  \n\nI have given her flowers and took her on some great dates how to get back her attention?  Before when we were together she wanted to be with me everyday now seems like roles are reversed?  What to do?", "summary": "EX GF  (we hooking up occasionally )loved to hang out with me before and now I want to and she doesn't. How to change her mind?"}
{"id": "t3_45r14h", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Is my sister pregnant?", "post": "So I have two sisters, one my age, and an older sister. Well lately I've been sleeping with my older sister and my other has been getting pissed at us. I get that it's fucked up but I got to fuck someone right? \n\nWell two weeks ago my older sister was staying over a friends so I was bored. I then went to give my sister her panties that somehow got in my laundry and when I opened her door she was naked on her bed sleep with the tv on... I don't know what the hell she was doing but her ass was just so plump... I couldn't even focus... I peaked out to see if my parents was sleep then slowly closed her door. That's when I started feeling it an oh my god... I thought she was flat at first because of our older sister but I guess she made up in ass. Anyway I looked over and saw her pussy and almost died... It was so juicy, like she felt me touching her. She wasn't wet, but it was just... Wow. Her breast were on the small side, but still it was kinda cute. After a few more poking around... I... Couldn't help myself... I was just going to see how she felt. So I put my dick in. After a few pumps I couldn't stop, she was so fucking tight, way better than my older sister. Eventually she even started moaning a little and I just couldn't even think any more before I knew it I was cumming. I pulled out as fast as I could, but some was still in her and on her bed. All of sudden she started moving over and like she was agitated so I just hurried out. \n\nNow she's been throwing up lately and not eating so I don't know what the fuck happened... She hasn't metioned anything. My older sister seems to not want to sleep with me lately, not that I asked but... Is my sister pregnant? She's always moody so that wouldn't be a clue...", "summary": "I accidentally cummed a little in my sister when pulling out, and she's been sick lately, and showing signs of pregnancy. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_4txeai", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Scam job posting: Part time admin assistant for \"Derek Williams\"", "post": "AKA wesleylomo1212@gmail.com\n\nIf you are looking for jobs on craigslist, indeed or any other job board and you get an email back from the above gmail address, it's a scam. \n\nThe posting I read was an offer for a bilingual admin assistant position. The first e-mail sounded legitimate as he went into detail about what the job entails (normal office stuff) and even went on to say that It was a part-time gig with a compensation of $460 for 3 days of 5 hour work a week. \n\nI have a lot of down time in my current job so I figured it was something I could do on the side. Upon asking for more info on whether the job would interfere with my current employment he quickly responded that you work your own hours and proceeded to ask me to cash in a check for him. Uhh... no. Negative. I have uploaded the screen shot for you to see.\n\nSCREENSHOT:", "summary": "FAKE ADMIN ASSISTANT POST ON CRAIGLIST FROM THE GUY IN THE ABOVE EMAIL. AFTER GIVING ME A SHORT AND WHAT SEEMED TO BE LEGITAMATE PART-TIME JOB DESCRIPTION, HE PROCEEDS TO ASK ME TO DEPOSIT A CHECK FOR HIM."}
{"id": "t3_wsx78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "not exactly sure what to do...", "post": "I'm a 23(m) in a weird relationship with a girl I work with (21).  Just kinda feels like a rushed relationship.  I'm a little on the meaty side, and she's petite.  Now, I have nothing against smaller girls at all, but honestly, I feel like she's too small for me.  We tried having some 'alone time' and it felt like I was learning how to tie my shoes again basically.  Everything just wasn't the right proportion for me, and honestly, I didn't know how to handle her...  am I weird for feeling lost?  We haven't really been together that long (**about 3-5 weeks**), and I'm kinda feeling like maybe backing out of the relationship...  not just because of the physical stuff, but there's been some issues with her family that makes having a relationship a little hard to maintain on a normal level...  any advice?", "summary": "She's small, I'm big and feel lost intimately.  Not sure if I should continue the relationship because of that and family issues on her side."}
{"id": "t3_3269pn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sending a nude to 50 random strangers", "post": "I was on the app called Fling which basically lets you send a pic to (upto)50 people around the world at one time. It's supposed to be a fun way to share lives, but come on, who wants to see worldly landscapes when you can see strangers' genitalia?\n\nSo me and this one guy got to sharing pics and he sent me a really nice body shot and asked for one from me. Here's the fuck up, I took a nude body shot and \"flung\" it to him. Except it wasn't to him, I somehow managed to send it to 50 random people around the world. \n\nLuckily my face was cut out but this is an all ages app and I feel so scummy for all the poor kids or random people that will now open a picture of a random nude chick. I'll probably get reported.", "summary": "Thought I was sending boobs to one guy, sent to 50 random strangers instead."}
{"id": "t3_t0y34", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever been frightened by a fellow co-worker's attitude/disposition?", "post": "There's an employee who works for us, I'll call him Dave.\n\nDave is slim build, but sports a large upper body, which is evidence that he works out a lot. he has an EXPLOSIVE attitude problem, and the fact that most of the time he walks around eerily silent gives me a bad feeling about him.\n\n I am a supervisor and was promoted before him. understandably this can be frustrating for someone with less experience to gain a higher position, but the thing is, Dave NEVER does anything to better himself or his standing within the company. He constantly does the bare minimum and will not do anything outside of his position for anyone. He also refuses to take shifts he's not scheduled for unless it's usher (he refuses to work concession or box, which is important for a someone in a supervisor position to do.) He expects that just because he's been there for a long period of time, he's going to get the position. But I digress. \n\nDave tends to \"hold things in;\" things that are bothering him or that he doesn't agree with, and then proceeds to PROJECT his anger and agression out on myself and a number of other managers. He does this by stomping around, breathing hard, and balling up his fists and speaking with severe upward inflections. There's a possible new supervisor position opening up soon because we just lost someone, and I am terrified after he doesn't get it (there's not way he's getting promoted because of the reasons stated earlier, plus his inability to deal with stress without screaming and acting aggressive) That he's going to come in and shoot up the place, or PHYSICALLY hurt someone.", "summary": "Employee has an explosive attitude problem, and I'm fearful he's going to hurt someone after he doesn't get the possible supervisor position opening up."}
{"id": "t3_28vax1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 6 months, Girlfriend wants to break up if I go to another college but there's still a year left", "post": "So I'm going to college in about a year while leaving my girlfriend behind. I have two options right now which is to stay in my state and go to an okayish college or go somewhere else to a better college. She doesn't really want to do a long distance relationship and neither do I. The problem comes up in what I chose. I already know I want to go out of state to the better college but I haven't broken this news to my girlfriend yet. She believes that I'll stay in state and stay with her through college. Now I love her a lot and I care about her a lot but I know I need to value my education more right now. However when we've talked about me going to college she's made it clear that if I decide to go to the far away college she rather just have us break up now so she won't get her self more attached/in love with me. \n\nNow I've made my decision already but I'm not ready to lose her and I don't want to lose her when I still have almost a year before I leave. I know I need to tell her soon that I'm leaving and I don't want to drag this out and make this hurt her more but at the same time I know telling her will make her want to break up. My dream situation is to tell her now and get her to understand and want to stay with me for the year before I leave and have an amazing year with each other. I just don't know if that can happen. We love each other a lot both and she tells me that I'm the only guy who has ever made her this happy and stuff and we both deeply care about each other. I know we'll probably both meet a lot more people in our life and we won't end up getting married or anything unrealistic but I just want to have at least my remaining year left with her.\n\nAny Advice? Thanks!", "summary": "Going off to college but girlfriend wants to break things off now (still a year left) if I leave to go somewhere else."}
{"id": "t3_2ojuvw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "LDR Girlfriend's (23F) uber receipt shows different address than where she told me (24M) she was going.", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI have been with my girlfriend for seven months now and will be meeting her for the first time in one week. We've had our ups and downs, as any long distance relationship does, but we've been very good at communicating and, honestly, everything is perfect apart from the distance. I have never had any reason to suspect anything suspicious and I trust her.\n\nLast night, at midnight, she told me she was going to her university library to get some books. She texted me along the way (in the uber) and when she arrived. I told her to text me when she was leaving as I was worried because it was late and she did (1.5 hours later).\n\nNow, here are the inconsistencies. I do not want to reveal too many details due to privacy or in case someone she knows reads this. She said she would get these books and study there. When she texted me on her way back, she said she didn't study because she had to obtain files from the university computers which her professor had emailed them saying would be deleted (apparently emailed them at midnight..).\n\nThat is all fine, we say good night when she gets home and everything is great. I go on her email later to check her calendar and out of mere curiosity I open an Uber receipt that was sitting there. The time code and date both match the trip, but the address is not her university. Also, there was no uber receipt for her way back (maybe it was deleted, or it was never sent? I do not know how uber works, I never used it).\n\nI was really scared and called her in the middle of the night to ask her what was going on. She said it must be an old receipt and I felt like shit for suspecting anything. She said she could show me the books she got and even the 'new' receipt (whenever that arrives). I apologized profusely and that was it. But I am now starting to worry. Does Uber send receipts immediately? Should I suspect anything?", "summary": "I am not sure if I should be worried by the fact that an uber receipt shows a different address to where my gf said she was going. She said the uber receipt was old or wrong"}
{"id": "t3_2bi9ik", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having rough sex with my boyfriend", "post": "So I'm hoping writing this down will make it funny instead of just annoyingly stupid. I recently got a new and awesome job. It's distributed so my office is my computer...awesome. I was showing my boyfriend, a certified software geek, around my digital office. He leaned over my shoulder and so I have his neck a kiss and started kissing up to his chin. He caught my drift pretty quickly and we went to the bed. \n\nBoth of us enjoy sex on the rough side, nothing too extreme, but this day he was a little more into it then normal. Mostly just dirty talk and a little spanking but some choking too. Of course I'm a little more vocal and have always thought I sounded like I was in pain when I'm not. Of course things went as they normally do. All in all it was awesome and both of us were having a great time. Until my blinking screen caught my eye. \n\nOur meeting software was on and evidently broadcasting. I keep a black sticker over the camera but still sound was probably perfectly audible. I screamed \"no, stop!\" and thinking he hurt me my boyfriend launched away from me like a burned cat. I ran over and checked the meeting software and it seemed like no one else was on. I turned it off and told my boyfriend. Both of us were laughing in relief at what was our near escape. Or what we thought. \n\nAbout a minute later there is a pounding on the door with a police officer  who was bound and determined to arrest my boyfriend for rape. Evidently one of my coworkers did sign on, hear what sounded like a woman in pain and a man going \"yeah, you like that? yeah you do.\" We both tried to talk to the officer who looked like he wanted to punch my boyfriend in the face. I tried to tell him it was all a misunderstanding. I let the police officer take me to the hospital while iterating over and over again that it was just sex, I was a willing and happy party in it. I had to tell a dozen nurses and doctors, receive a humiliating exam and received more pamphlets on rape then I knew existed and my boyfriend is now petrified of my computer and dead silent when we have sex.", "summary": "Had rough sex with my boyfriend while company meeting software was on lead to the police being called and my boyfriend nearly being arrested for rape."}
{"id": "t3_2hoz5u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm 18 y.o. male and currently am interested in a girl but I'm holding off from asking her out cause her parents, who i know she loves and respects and doesn't want to disappoint them, forbade her from dating until she finished school. I feel as though dating her would be selfish, advice Reddit?", "post": "So I've been friends with this girl for a few years now, her name is Kathy, but it was only in recent times that I realized that she was in fact a girl, not just a friend. Used to the fact that girls generally don't like me in that way as I get friend zoned almost instantly, and the fact that she's quite pretty, I tried not to think of Kathy in that way and continued treating her as a friend. But as time passed a month or two later I began to think she liked me, according to my limited knowledge, and shortly after I found out she did in fact like me. Because of this I didn't have to try think of her as a friend anymore and I started to really like her.\nHowever my hopes were kinda killed when she revealed that her parents really don't want her to date until she's finished schooling. So I decided to wait it out and see whether we still liked each other by the end of school (A few months away)\nIt's been two months now and turns out I still like her, but what i'm scared of is Kathy not liking me by then, and i do want to date her but the problem is that she really likes her parents and I feel as though it'd be selfish if I did, despite some of my friends saying I should. \nWhat is the *best* possible decision i can make, if any?", "summary": "Had a friend who was a girl for a few years, realized i liked her, found out she liked me, then found out her parents don't want her dating for a few more monthes and she really cares about them, feel as though asking her out would be selfish. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4g0bzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my ___ [28 F] GF of 8 years, Should my gf make me feel special? She expects me to make her feel special.", "post": "She never compliments me or says anything to make me feel like I'm important to her. I am not bad looking, in good shape (if a little too skinny, but still work out) and I have an interest in trendy fashion. I feel like I usually put more effort into what I'm wearing and how I look than she does yet there is never a word about it.\n\nIf she gets her hair cut or wears a dress, I am supposed to say how great it looks when the other 9/10 times she wears her hair in a tight bun and wears high waist leggings to hide how out of shape she is now.\n\nI just sometimes don't know why I settle for this. I feel like there could be someone else out there that will make me feel happy and loved but I'm too afraid to give up our relationship because we have been together so long that it would be like losing one of my childhood friends or something.", "summary": "How bad is it to feel like other friends in your life treat you like you're smarter, more attractive, more interesting etc than your significant other does?"}
{"id": "t3_3rfkws", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22M] break up with a girl [19M] who really likes me?", "post": "I met this girl at a club about two weeks ago. We hooked up once and hangout for several times since. Because of the similarities in our personalities, we feel really hit it off with each other.\n\nEverything seems perfect but the problem is she gets attached way too fast. It's only been two weeks and she already acts like she can't live without me. She even dropped her so called \"best friend\" because that girl doesn't like me. \n\nThis girl is really started to freaking me out. Last night, I went to her house to say that I don't want to continue with her anymore. And this is where I fucked up. She cried. I got soft. So now I'm still stuck with her. \n\nI really need your advice. How can I break out as peaceful as possible?", "summary": "Met an overly obsessed girl. Need advice to get out peacefully."}
{"id": "t3_xifqt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some help staying awake because I need to cold-boot my sleep schedule. Any advice, hints, or tricks other than coffee?", "post": "I was recently sick and it really screwed up my sleeping schedule. It was nothing serious but I had a pretty intense fever for awhile that made it difficult for me to sleep at times and difficult for me to stay awake at others. As a result I am now all out of whack and have been for several days. It's gotten out of hand: I sleep two hours here, stay awake four hours there, sleep five hours again, then stay up for nine. So what am I going to do?\n\n*Relight the fire. Reboot the universe.*\n\nThis morning, still awake at 7am from having last woken at 9pm, I decided that enough was enough. It's time to cold-boot my sleep schedule. Rather than go to sleep I had a cup of coffee. Here I am, five hours later, still awake. Also, exhausted.\n\nCoffee is no longer an option. I can't take anymore caffeine. Nor can I go for a walk because I'm still hobbling around from an ankle injury I recently obtained. But I shall not sleep. I need to stay up until at least 9pm so I can set a normal person's sleep schedule (my apologies to those who work mid and late shifts!).\n\nI'm looking for any advice on how best to keep my mind too occupied to nod off to sleep: certain websites? Videos? Activities that don't involve intensive walking or running? If you've ever had to force yourself to stay awake before I'd particularly enjoy hearing your stories. Thanks!", "summary": "I've been awake fifteen hours and need to stay up another nine. Would appreciate any help."}
{"id": "t3_1u7wfv", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Actually have to make a change", "post": "So, I'm currently waiting to go to my doctors appointment and have been leaning against a wall for half an hour since getting out of bed as it's too painful to stand up or sit down. This is because I have kidney stones. \n\nI'm 28 and probably about 20 stone. I've always been big, and don't really have any problems with it, except it does make getting dates difficult. I've drifted in and out of dieting, exercising and nothing has stuck. \n\nHowever, this is the first time my size has caused a medical problem, and whilst painful, I'm pretty damned grateful it's only a relatively minor condition. \n\nMy problem has always been sticking to a positive lifestyle change. As a research student, long nights in the library lends itself to eating badly and exercising rarely. What I need, and am hoping you kind folks can help me with, is working out what systems are most likely to help me get healthy without loosing interest once I've forgotten exactly how much pain I'm in right now.", "summary": "I've got my first fat based medical problem, but am lazy - how do I stick to a plan?"}
{"id": "t3_12pp2d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My sister has very different political views from me, and I feel like she is brainwashing my son. How can I approach this?", "post": "I am a single mom of two sons, and my sister is much younger than me. She is a 20-year old college student with very liberal views contrasting my conservative ones and is often very vocal about her opinions. One of my sons is 11 years old and he looks up to her a lot. I feel like sometimes I'm just his old mom, and she's the one he goes to when he needs anything, like help with homework.\n\nWith the election being a really big topic recently, my sister often talks to my son about these sort of things and her opinions obviously really differ from what I want him to believe. I feel like she thinks I am raising my own children wrong. We both grew up in the same religious household, but at very different times since she is so much younger. She still goes to church with our parents, but probably just to make them happy. Her religious views are nothing like what I want to instill in my kids. For example, my sons are both in a Sunday youth group at our church. My older son (14) doesn't really mind it too much, but the younger one likes to rebel and complain about it. At one point, I asked my sister if she could explain to my son that it is important to be in this youth group and she said, \"No, I don't think I can tell him that because I don't believe it myself. All they are doing in that youth group is telling him how to think, and if that's the way you want to raise him then I'm not going to help.\" \n\nI am really stuck as to what to do. My younger son has recently come up to me and said, \"Mom, why are you voting for Mitt Romney? Auntie says that he would make a bad president and he doesn't care about people who are different from him.\" It's things that this that I don't know how to answer. My sister and I are not particularly close (she is the youngest sibling and I am the oldest - she's much closer to our other siblings). So how do I approach this? How can I talk to my sister, or to my son?", "summary": "Younger sister with liberal views does not like the values I teach my son, tells him things I don't really want him hearing. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3cn7aq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my may or may not be GF [17 F] one date but known for a couple months, getting some weird vibes from her", "post": "I met her about two months ago and have been texting her for the past month, I grew a pair and asked her out last week, we saw a movie a few days ago and after the movie we walked around the mall holding hands. The thing that worries me is that though she went on a date with me and held my hands, I feel she might be uninterested. The times we were together before the date and while texting I would compliment her, but she never returned the favor. Even when I asked for her birthday she never asked for mine. I don't know what to think of the situation. How should I play this out reddit?", "summary": "Girl went on date with me but has seemed maybe uninterested before and after the date. How should I play this out?"}
{"id": "t3_u94s5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to lose weight; bf likes me how I am. Please help! (Throwaway)", "post": "I (F21) and my Boyfriend (M23) have been going out for 2 years, and its my first serious relationship. \n\nI am a bit overweight (61kg/132lbs on a 5 ft 5in frame), and am taking measures to remedy this. It was mainly caused by myself going to university, and though I walk everywhere in the city it hasn't been enough to keep the weight off. \n\nI've started cutting out unhealthy foods, eating smaller portions and swimming 2-3 days a week. I only started about 2 weeks ago and so it hasn't really made an impact visually, but I am feeling a lot livelier after the change in diet. (If anyone can give me any advice or point me to useful subreddits it would be truly helpful!)\n\nThe problem is my boyfriend. I should start by say that I realise how lucky I am to have a boyfriend who appreciates me as I am and doesn't pressure me into doing anything, I love that about him. \n\nThe problem is that whenever I mention losing weight he gets kind of pouty and says that he likes me the way I am. He says he likes my 'curves', but all I see is fat that needs to go. I'm scared that he won't like me as much if I lose weight.\n\nI would really like his support in this. I don't want to lose much, only 10kg/20lbs; but it would make a world of difference to my confidence. How can I get him to see that? I don't want him to find me unattractive, but I don't find myself sexy at the moment. Please help?", "summary": "Want to lose weight, boyfriend says he likes me the weight I am. Would really appreciate his support in losing weight, please help!"}
{"id": "t3_379sm0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Feeling Pretty Helpless...", "post": "I'll try to make a long story as short as possible.\n\nThings you should know about me.\n\n>24 year-old male.\n>Just recently became independent (moved out on my own).\n>Only had sex once, and it wasn't even great (wasn't with a girl I felt attracted to).\n>No friends within the same area.\n>Never had a relationship.\n\nOkay, so basically I moved to a new state recently.  I moved out of my parents' house and on my own.  I have a pretty damn good job, and can take care of myself for the most part.  But I'm so damn lonely.\n\nI've tried so many dating websites; OkCupid, Tinder, etc. and even going as far as to pay for premium sites like eHarmony.\n\nAll to no avail.  I've lived here about 6 months so far and still have no friends and have been on maybe 5-6 dates.  All girls broke contact with me completely.\n\nIt's taken quite a toll on my self-esteem.  I have always had issues with my confidence and each day that passes by I just feel uglier and uglier and more worthless.  Like I'm never going to find anybody.  I just want to share my love and be loved.\n\nNot sure what else to incorporate into this...  If you have ANY questions just ask so I can provide.", "summary": "24-year old (basically) virgin new to city, no friends no gf, lonely AF"}
{"id": "t3_jt1kz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit Community-Little Sis just left for college. What can you tell her!?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nMy younger sister just left for college a couple weeks ago. She is attending a legit University far from home and I couldn't be more proud of her.\n\nHowever, she has never really been away from home and almost ALL of her hs friends stayed at home. She has been having a really hard time dealing with the change. She has been getting anxiety and nervous attacks (which has NEVER happened to her before) and she is making herself sick with it. I want to help her out; help get her through the next hard month or two (I totally know how she is feeling - I just went through it a few years ago). \n\nSO....I am making her a little gift package with some cookies, a good book or two, and I want to make her a little scrapbook or notepad filled with advice from myself (I finished school last year, and lived away at the dorms for a year, away from home for a year, and in DCfor a semester), my parents, and YOU!!! \n\nSo besides joining the reddit community, WHAT is something you can tell her about college, life, anything!!! \n\nI will post up pics later of the package I send to her.", "summary": "younger sister moved away to college; having hard time dealing with the change. Want to make something for her to help her through it. Reddit - your turn to shine!!"}
{"id": "t3_2v8l0t", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[20M] Can't Get to Second Date. Advice greatly appreciated", "post": "I'm a 20 year old male who just started dating recently and I was hoping to a women's perspective/advice about dating.  I go to an engineering college that has almost no women in my classes so I decided to try and meet new people off of OkCupid and Tinder.  Usually I try to build a connection with girls I'm interested in by asking questions about them and finding common interests to talk about.  Then, if things go well I usually get a \"yes\" to meet for coffee or dinner.\n\nBut the problem comes when I actually meet them in person.  Usually I try to be as nice as possible while getting to know the girl better, and I personally thought that the dates went fine because most times we made out and I got a kiss goodbye.  However, after I try to get in touch with them I almost always get blown off.  I've been reading /r/seduction for advice but their answers seem to always try and take it further, but I think the problem is that I'm coming off too strong and being TOO nice.\n\nIt's also worth mentioning that I've only had sex 1 time with a friend when we were both drunk, so sexual inexperience is also definitely a factor.\n\nAny advice about dating in general would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Guy new to dating.  Trying to see what he's doing wrong so I can finally have a successful relationship"}
{"id": "t3_2dm7z4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19/M] have been thinking about my first girlfriend [20/F] for like a month and I want to have her back. But is this a wise desire?", "post": "By my first girlfriend I am talking about my first, longterm relationship (If you can call 40 days long).\n\nBasicly, we broke up because I was an idiot. We dated last year when I was 18 and started socializing for the first time and man.. I was a complete idiot to people. I never had any interaction with a friend group and I found myself as a part of this big cosplay society, I had tons of friends, a nice girlfriend, really cool people to hangout with and then.. I became a real jackass, a real idiot. My girlfriend broke up with me, my friends stopped talking with me and everyone started to hate me, I was talking shit about them for no reason, acting like an idiot. After like 6 months, I improved myself massively, I am friends again with everyone once more, even better than before, I am the guy people talks when they have questions about many things ranging from comics books to science. I am now a better and more civilized person.\n\nAnd now, I want my girlfriend back, I dated a lot of girls after her but never been happy with any of them like I was with my first girlfriend. Now that I am a better person, I think I can have her back. But I don't know if I really want her back. I was happy with her but that doesn't mean I was never sad. She is an artist but not the most talented one, she can't draw very well even though she has art training. But she blamed ME when she couldn't enter an art school, just because I called her at 10 to wish her luck and turns out she went bed early and said \"You woke me up so I couldn't sleep, that's why I failed.\" and that really broke my heart. But in time, she became a better person just like I did. She is hard working, drawing better, doing lots of stuff.\n\nI can win her back I guess, but I am still not sure, I am also planning to study hard and leave this country to live in a better one.\n\nWhat do you suggest? Try my chance or don't even bother for something that already failed?", "summary": "I was an idiot, my girlfriend broke up with me, months past, not an idiot anymore, should I try to win her back or don't even bother?"}
{"id": "t3_28gj5j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I gift my girlfriend money?", "post": "This is less a financial question and more of a values question I suppose...\n\nMy girlfriend of 4 years wants me to gift her \u00a35k ($8500) so she can get in better financial shape. We live together, but no plans of combining finances or marriage anytime in the near future. I am an American expat in the UK, and we both are employed full time. \n\n----------\nHer:\nSalary \u00a31850/month after tax\n\n-\u00a32k in overdraft\n\n-\u00a31k owes and wants to pay back her mom\n\n-\u00a31k owes me for recent vacation \n\n--------------\nMe:\nSalary \u00a34200 after tax\n\n\u00a327k cash in uk checking and savings\n\n$50k cash in us checking savings\n\n$55k in Roth IRA \n\nSo total net worth of about 150k me and -6k her in usd.\n----------------\nMy plans for the next year or so include wanting to go take a sabbatical from work and go freelance for more job freedom and choice.", "summary": "Should I gift money to help clear my girlfriends debts and give her a bit more padding financially?"}
{"id": "t3_4klx7u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my SO [18F] I just don't know what she wants...", "post": "The thing is that I been dating this girl for almost two months, but she has a boyfriend... When we first started talking she used to tell me about how shity this guy was with her, for example, he never took her out for dinner, never visited her, he prefered going out with his friends to drink, and almost never sends messages to her. The thing is that she tells me that she loves me and wants to be with me, but she doesn't break up with this guy...\nI made her confess to me that she still likes the guy a little, and that's hard for her to let him go. Then, that's not it... she got into this political party, in which young people like her go a participate with the candidate. Therefore, the coordinador from the party asked her to be his secretary, he's 25 years old. Since she got into it, she became different... she's cold and I been trying to let her go and become cold and when she sees that am about to leave her for sure, she start becoming sweet again... So there are two problems her boyfriend, and this new 25 year old guy that wants to get with her.\nOne could think, dude what the fuck are you doing there? But she helps and is friend with my brother, who's got a mental disease that makes him process as a 10 year old at his 18 years old, in school. There hasn't been a girl good enough to actually help my bro out, because many lose their patience... She good with him and makes him happy... she's leaving her boyfriend, according to her,next week so we can be together, but I'm still thinking about it because of the other guy... I suppose she's way too confused about her feelings... but whatever it is I want it to be over... I don't know if she really loves me or I'm just a game...", "summary": "She's got a boyfriend, and someone else is after her and she is falling little by little... but I feel like she's playing with my feelings even though she sometimes it seems like she actually loves me."}
{"id": "t3_22wtkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What else is there to do? (Man getting rejected by a girl) :(", "post": "Me 25M vs. 22F. I've seen this girl casually at my work place for few months now. We've chatted a bit every now and then, I've asked her out on a dinner a couple of times and offered help fixing a couple of things for her. I even brought her tea this one time if she wanted to have some with me later that day (she didn't show up). She has never straight out said \"No\" but instead \"I'll think about it\" etc. \n\nI'm not planning on giving up yet but I'm not going to ask her out for some time either. Knowing some things about her I know she's single and apparently quite hard a fish to catch. (Think: prettier version of Adriana from Rocky). She hasn't dated in years (if ever?) but she is very social with her girlfriends. She's solid wife material though.\n\nIf direct approach isn't working, how should I get closer to her? I don't want to force it too strongly but hell, I want to spend some time with her.", "summary": "How do I do a \"soft\" approach and make her more curious about myself?"}
{"id": "t3_3tupxq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 M) could use some dating advice with this girl (20 F).", "post": "About 2 months ago, I experienced a \"breakup\" with a friend/crush who didn't share my feelings (it was a pretty strange story - you can see it and the multiple updates if you look at my posting history, if you're interested). Right after I had pretty much gotten over all my feelings and decided to move on, I immediately registered for OKCupid because Tinder wasn't working out for me. As soon as I made my profile public, I got a visitor and then a \"like.\" Well, I visited her and gave her a like. After a few days of messaging and feeling like she was enjoying it, I got her phone number and we began texting. We found out that we both had a lot in common with each other, namely that neither of us was looking for a simple hookup. Also, she attends a university which is only like 15 minutes away from mine.\n\nFast forward through 3 weeks of good communication --> I asked if she would want to meet up for lunch on the weekend. She agreed enthusiastically and we had the date (although I would consider it more of a \"meetup\" than an actual \"date\"). I enjoyed it and it seemed like she did, too. Before we parted ways in the parking lot, I asked her if she would like to do something similar whenever she had enough free time in the near future. Again, she said yes, and that we could easily work something out since my school's semester ends several weeks earlier than hers. (Since my home is only 20 minutes away, this is optimal.)\n\nSo, to sum things up: we've been chatting online for 3 weeks and met in real life yesterday. She seems to enjoy talking and hanging out with me. I want to continue pursuing a relationship with her, and I think she does, as well.\n\nMy problem is that I don't know how to ask her out again. Should it just be another casual meetup or a more date-oriented thing? I would like to ask her on an official date but I'm not sure if it's too early for that. (As you can infer, dating isn't really my strong suit and I had never tried online dating before this.) Any advice will be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Met a girl on OKCupid who's looking for more than hookups. We texted each other for 3 weeks and met up for lunch yesterday. We both had fun, and she said that she'd like to do something together again some time. Should I just ask for another casual meetup or an actual date?"}
{"id": "t3_1692xv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on to pay off loan or pay off mobile contract?", "post": "Hi, could really do with some advice on what to do as I'm not sure which is the best option. My wife is doing an open university course (at home degree), she wasn't going to do a module this year but if she doesn't the fees go up from \u00a3868 to \u00a32500 ( because she started her course a few years back she can stay on the old fee schedule as long as she does one module a year). We can pay this in installments of \u00a393 a month.\nThe thing is we have to smart phones which are probably a extravagance. I could sell these off and make around \u00a3600. I have another \u00a3300,  so I could probably pay off the loan in full. The only thing is we will be stuck in contract till April 2014, which means paying around \u00a334 a month for two 'dumb' phones which we could use a replacement ( I could get two \u00a35 a month sims which would be enough for our needs).  My other option was to sell the phones and pay off the mobile contracts, and absorb the \u00a393 a month as we have cut back on other things(cut Internet speed, reduced tv package) so with reduction of \u00a334 would be ok. So I wasn't sure which was the best option, could really use your guys help.", "summary": "Sell mobiles to pay off student loan or use the money to end the contracts."}
{"id": "t3_54maeh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[F23] Best Friend [F23] got dumped yesterday after long relationship. I am living abroad and not sure how to support her.", "post": "Hi all.\n\nMy best friend told me today that her BF dumped her yesterday via text after long relationship. It came out of nowhere, he said he don't deserve her and she will be better off without him. She is completely shocked and in pieces. I knew they had their ups and downs but it looked to me like they were very close.\n\nWe were talking over the phone and I am now writing with her trying to comfort her.\n\nI am currently living abroad for a year and not planning to move back to home country anytime soon. I am going to visit her in 2 weeks (I booked a flight) but she is devastated and she don't have many friends to support her. I would like to help her but I have no idea how to do it.", "summary": "Best friend got dumped. I am living abroad and wondering how can I help her cope from long distance."}
{"id": "t3_1gmutf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21M] and my ex[21F] of 6 months recently broke up and I can't get over her", "post": "So my ex gf and I dated for about 6 months. We hit things off really well and found we have incredibly similar tastes, hobbies, interests, etc, but failed to be compatible personality-wise. It was my first relationship so I had a good deal to learn and I wasn't exactly the fastest learner.\n\nAnyways, we jumped into the relationship very quickly, after maybe a month of talking, and had sex very soon. The beginning was nothing like I had anticipated and we had a ton of road bumps along the way but were always able to patch things up. Things eventually got much better after a big fight and we were together all the time and loved each other's company. Towards the end of the relationship I felt her pulling away. I consider myself the jealous type and I think that's for a couple of reasons: I have always been put down for my looks and developed a generally lower self-esteem, and also because she was insanely hot. From the moment she caught my eye till today, she has always been the most beautiful girl I have seen, and I always made sure she knew that. So my jealousy of whenever she'd talk to other guys was definitely something that was always present.\n\nBasically now it's all over and we're not even near each other distance-wise. I find myself missing her more every day and we still talk like friends but I just don't think I'll ever get over her... What do I do?", "summary": "Jealousy problems led to me losing an amazing person in my life and I don't think there's any way of salvaging it, let alone moving on."}
{"id": "t3_12qj8u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you guys know of any playwright festivals in the U.S in which I could enter my play?", "post": "I am still in high school, and in my English class my teacher made us all choose a partner and submit a play into a local playwright festival. My partner and I wrote a play that started out as an opportunity to just bash radical Christianity, but then it also turned into a well-written, humorous play. After entering the play, we didn't get much love, and our play was not even an honorable mention, even though it was much better than some of the winners. When we received our play back with comments on it, the person that read it commented that it was very good and very funny, but the festival we entered it into just wasn't the right place for the kind of play we wrote. So, my question is, do any of you guys have any ideas of other festivals in the U.S that we could enter our play in?", "summary": "Wrote a good play, didn't get much love, looking for other festivals."}
{"id": "t3_2hyait", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Advice] Dog has cancer and vet recommended switching his diet. Looking for suggestions.", "post": "Long story kind of short my family dog (lab-pointer mix almost 10-years old) recently had a tumor removed (not his first) but this one ended up being cancerous (the jury is still out after 3 weeks on what type... or my mom just won't share.) \n\nHe went back to the vet today for a follow up visit from the past few visits. His white blood count has tripled; there is another tumor showing up on the back of his head that is grown since the visit last week. For now the vet recommended doing oil treatments and switching his food type from eukanuba. She's also getting worried because he's starting to seem more lethargic and less active (which he has two four year old puppy to watch over, generally he's always vying to be apart of the play.)\n\nI already suggested Blue wilderness to my mom, but she's looking for any advice.", "summary": "Dog has cancer, while we wait to hear wait for text results, vet suggested we change his diet. I would love any recommendation for high protein diets (or any type of diets) for those who have dogs with cancer or had. "}
{"id": "t3_1ylbpl", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Adopted 4 mo. old kitten--having problems. Help!", "post": "Hi folks,\n\nI know y'all are the cat experts of the web, so here goes: I adopted a four month-old kitten from the local humane society a week ago (he was my Valentine!), a little guy named Gizmo.  He was very timid at the shelter, huddling in the back of his cage and swatting/hissing at anyone who got near.  After a lot of coaxing, we were able to use the mama cat scruff-grab to get him out, and once he was in my arms, he nuzzled right into my neck and hugged my arm with his paw.  He seemed like a terrified but (eventually) sweet little dude, and I sauntered on home with him.  Brought him home and set him up in my bedroom (we have another cat), with his food/water/litterbox in the room and plenty of places to hide and curl up on.  His main spot is on a bunch of old tshirts on top of a duffel bag underneath my bed.\n\nProblem: He does not venture out on his own, hisses and growls when anyone gets near him, and is totally non-responsive to treats and toys--he just stares at me without blinking, and his ears flatten down.  The shelter didn't have any information on him beyond the shelter/town that he was picked up in, so I'm assuming that he is totally feral and unused to human interaction/stability.  Part of it, also is the fact that we have a 10 year-old (male) cat in the house, and Gizmo is definitely aware of him...which, I would imagine, is contributing to his behavior.  I know that I need to be patient and give it time, and I'm totally willing to do so--not giving up on this little bugger!--but is there anything else I could do that I'm not thinking of?\n\nI've had cats most of my life, both adopted and found, and have never had this long of a solid streak where the cat/kitten makes no effort to interact.  Trying not to take it personally, but I just want to give the little guy a good home and some mama love!", "summary": "How do I socialize a feral 4 month-old kitten in a now 2-cat household?"}
{"id": "t3_3hnns8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[PA] I was almost killed yesterday by a \"100% faulty\" car part. How do I prevent this from killing others and is there any recourse to pay for the damages?", "post": "Please bear with me if I'm in the wrong subreddit here. \n\nI own a car that is 7 years old and originally bought brand new. Yesterday while driving on the highway in light traffic, out of nowhere the front latch on my front hood broke, sending the entire hood through my windshield while driving approximately 60 mph. I had zero vision outside the front of the car, the center mirror flew off, and was left just the side mirrors to brake and get to the shoulder without killing myself or anyone else in the process while covered in glass shards. \n\nThe body shop took an initial look today, and found that the spring that keeps the latch down had completely rusted out, and when finally crumbling caused the front hood to slightly pop up and then immediately turn into a sail before completely smashing my windshield in my face.  I'm thankful to be alive and to have not severely hurt myself or anyone else in the process. I had been stuck late at work so thankfully the roads were mostly clear by around 7 pm when I started to drive home. \n\nAccording to my body shop, this was a complete mechanical failure, and either a faulty part or faulty design. I was one of the first to buy this model car, so I wouldn't be surprised if these incidents weren't common yet. \n\nThat being said: how do I bring this issue to light with the manufacturer and actually get then to give a damn, because this could have easily killed me and I'm sure will kill others if left unchecked. Maybe it was just my car, but I whole heartedly believe it needs to be investigated.  I've researched past recalls and this falls within none of them for my car manufacturer. \n\nSecondly: I still have to pay deductibles, towing, etc.  Do I have any worthwhile recourse here if I have half of the faulty part as evidence?", "summary": "highly likely that a manufacturing flaw almost got me killed. How do I bring this issue to light and do I have any recourse for personal damages I am out because of it.  I'm not money hungry here, but I also would rather not be out all the money I have to pay."}
{"id": "t3_32j53l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21F] found out that SO [21M] of one year is also in an FWB relationship [22F]", "post": "Backstory: We had dated early in college and took  a break for a year or so. He was having sexual relations with [FWB girl] during that time we weren't together. We are now back together in a very best-friend-like relationship", "summary": "I've been with a casual boyfriend and we get along well. found out he also has a FWB relationship with a girl who's attitude is very sex-driven and somewhat pushy"}
{"id": "t3_3agqie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should i [18/M] invite my friend [19/F] to my 19th birthday?", "post": "A bit if backstory on me: I have just finished my first year of uni. I went in with a girlfriend that was long distance and we broke up because we were distancing from so it was a way of protecting the possibility of getting back together later. We now see each other every holiday and she comes back next Saturday, the day of my party. \n\nMy friend: She is someone i met at uni for the first time and we became good friends. Recently i have been having difficulties with mild depression and she has been there. It would seem in the process she has begun to feel differently about me. She started giving off big signals and i know she has had basically no experience with guys romantically so i feel she may have become quite invested quite quickly when i started sharing stuff with her. My condition meant that i probably reciprocated attention more than i should have but that's in the past now and there isn't much to do about it\n\nThe situation: The party is small, 18 people going to a club with tables. My friend does not know about i yet and also doesn't know i will be getting back with my ex this summer (who'll obviously be at the party). The problem is i want to invite my friend because she is special to me and lives in the same city but if i am i feel i need to somehow let her know first what is happening with my ex. I can't just really talk to her about it because she has no idea i think she has feelings for me and if i'm wrong it could make things bad. Also if i do tell her what me and my ex will be doing that might change her mind on coming as she might now want to see us together which is fair enough. \n\nSo Reddit, do i ask my friend to come and ,if so, how do i tell her what's going on?", "summary": "Friend seems to have feelings for me. Getting back with my ex soon. Should i invite friend to party that my soon to be no longer ex will also be at?"}
{"id": "t3_20h2gr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate the LGBT community", "post": "I have nothing against gays. Actually, i'm bi-sexual.\nI am lucky to be surrounded by great people who would happily accept me as a bi-sexual, people would be so supportive of it. But why don't I tell people?\n\nBecause if I tell people, i'll become known as 'The Bi-sexual Guy'. I won't be known as well for being the normal person I am, but people will probably always remember or have that subtle thought process in the back of their mind that i'm bi-sexual when they see me. I go through the same though-process when I see my gay friend around.\n\nHow has this became a problem? Because of 'Gay pride.' Those people who go around the streets and wave it around like a flag. The people who fight for the death to let everyone know that 'Being Gay is important and something you should be *proud* of' \n\nFuck off. No, being gay isn't something you should be proud of. Being gay should just be a characteristic, a personality trait. I don't want it to be noticeable. I don't want to get any extra credit or for being bi-sexual. I don't want people to treat me nicely and try not to be offensive around me because i'm bi-sexual. I want to say i'm bi-sexual, and to just have people nod it off, and think \"ok, cool\" then have it be one of my many character traits. I don't want it though, to be part of who I am.\n\nI understand that i'm ungrateful considering that I am lucky enough to be around such wonderful and understanding people, and I understand that with gay rights issues, sometimes we have to be vocal about it. But i'm angry at the whole pushing of \"Being Gay is a big part of who you are\" because it shouldn't be in my personal opinion.", "summary": "I hate Gay Pride the same reason I hate Vegan pride."}
{"id": "t3_f8gpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Recently reunited with \"the one that got away\" and I want him back.", "post": "I dated a guy (23) for a very brief 3 or so months back when I was 18 (I'm now 26).  Due to my young age and stupidity, I cared more about partying at the time and ended up cheating on him.  I was honest about it and we broke things off (I of course regret my poor decision making at the time, and have never cheated in a relationship since).  We kept in touch for a couple years after wards until all communication eventually dissipated entirely.  \n\nI found myself thinking about him every now and then throughout the years.  Although we only dated briefly, he is one of the most caring, thoughtful, and most awesome people I have ever met and I've been kicking myself all these years for messing up something that was so great.\n\nLast week he showed up as a \"friend suggestion\" on facebook.  I could not resist the temptation and sent a friend request.  Now that we are facebook pals and I am seriously considering sending him an e-mail telling him how I feel.  Now that we're both older and wiser, is this out of line?  I want another chance, and feel that I will go above and beyond to make it work.  I also don't want to come off as creepy and would like advice on how to best approach this whole thing.", "summary": "Recently reunited with ex-boyfriend of 8 years ago and I want him back and need advice how to best approach the situation."}
{"id": "t3_qfzg3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone have an uncle's friend's girlfriend's cousin's ex in the Autralian outback?", "post": "I want to work in the outback of Australia, it's as simple as that. Fruit picking, sheep hearding, horse care, anything!\nI have spent hours in front of the computer searching for employers, but came up empty handed since I didn't want to make a comittment to a program and pay them huge sums to do something I could do myself. \nSo my question is really if anyone has any connections to a farm in Australia which is in need of a hard working young person, with a great hand with animals and huge sense of responsibilty?  Any tip would help!", "summary": "Desperate for a job in Australia!"}
{"id": "t3_fcpq1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just got rejected by my state college while 3 of the dumbest girls i've ever met were happily ushered through the doors", "post": "This college was my first choice and the only school that i really had any interest in attending. My gpa was right on par with the average student who is accepted and my SAT scores exceeded the average range in all 3 categories. Of the 3 girls (just the ones that i'm aware of) one has been arrested, one can barely read, and i don't really know the third that well but of the few interactions i've had i've deduced that her reading skills are of a questionable nature as well. My class rank is less than half of any of theirs. Their unweighted gpa is the same as mine but between all three of them they have taken about 2 AP courses whereas i have taken 5 and gotten 4's on all of them and a 5 on calc. The idea of being rejected is something i can cope with, but finding out about all these semi-retarded bitches that got in is like getting punched in the face over and over again. I'm half in disbelief that this could even happen and half raging my ass offf. Tell me your stories of college rejection and come be my rage-panion.", "summary": "college is fuckin bullshit"}
{"id": "t3_2ikjj4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting the air freshener", "post": "This happened a few minutes ago and it's a really minor fuck up but I thought I'd share. \n\nI work at a school as an assistant and pretty much I can leave any time I want to use the bathroom and this morning I didn't have time to take a dump. After about an hour of work I have to piss and I'm holding in some serious farts. Nothing too major, everyone farts right?\n\nI get there, take my piss and decide to have the holy mother of all farts and I man these were the kind of farts that smell like dead animals rotting in my insides. I wipe to make sure everything is okay down there and I tell myself I need to spray the place down to make sure the next person in there doesn't choke to death in there. \n\nI totally forgot. That place is like a gas chamber now and I just left it with my internal gas stinking up the place. \n\nTo the next person who goes in there, I'm so sorry.", "summary": "I farted with no reguard to my fellow beings."}
{"id": "t3_3eh6wy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to Great Clips", "post": "This JUST happened. Sorry if it gets a little racist.\n My father talked me into going to Great Clips, against my better judgement. Not only are they almost completely illiterate in English, they almost completely disregarded what i told them to do. I am Hispanic and had a majestic culy afri type thing, and they took that away from me. My pride and joy. They took my dignity.\n This asian lady completley sheared off the sides of my hair after I explicitly told her just to clean up around the sidebuns and the back of my hair. I look like a fucking hipster now.", "summary": "dont go to Great Clips"}
{"id": "t3_2jznwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of six years just broke up with me over the phone last night. [28m] [22f]", "post": "I didn't know where exactly to post this and I don't post often enough to know proper ediquette, so apologies. \n\nWell after six years she decides to tell me she's not happy anymore and there's no way she ever will again being with me. I'm taking this really hard and I don't have any friends as I have a hard time socializing. I don't have social media of any kind so I just feel the need to put this somewhere for someone to read. I'm hurting bad. I thought she was the one, I was planning on asking her parents permission to marry her over the holidays.  This came out of nowhere and there were no signs to make me think she wasn't as happy as I was... Im hurting bad. Did I say that already? I feel like my entire life has all just come crashing down at once. Oh yea did I mention I was working when this all went down? Yea so it's me full on tears outside of my job and I'm the boss. I feel hollow, alone, and scared. I just needed to put this out there.", "summary": "Girlfriend of six years isn't happy anymore, leaving me crushed and alone."}
{"id": "t3_2k1ssv", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I want to go back to school but I don't know where to start", "post": "I am 19 m from ny just in case it helps somehow. In hs I had a lot going on with a dying mom and a broken family.  So school didn't really cone 1st to me.  I had about a 75_79 average. I guess you can call it an excuse but you live and you learn. After high school my mom died. I had plans to go to a university despite my crap grades. But after she died I decided to take a semester off. And that turn into 1 year going on 2. I've been working and it's been cool but I really wanna get back into school and dorm and be in college. But financially it's rough for my family rite now and I also don't know where to begin. My dad and oldest sister will help but I know i have to take out a dick ton of loans. Any advice or guidance or billionaire who wants to pay for my education?", "summary": "I want to go back to college"}
{"id": "t3_2s5b1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of four years, caught her using dating websites. How do I confront her?", "post": "We have always had a closed relationship, we didn't have any social networks and didn't talk with opposite genders. However, when she moved out to a friends house, she changed. She made social networks behind my back, kept constantly controlling me, going out (she doesn't go to school or work) and kept lying to me. \n\nThe only reason I stayed with her was because I knew a breakup would really hurt me in school, especially during finals. I broke it off after school ended and she tried getting me back for a week until I started talking to her again. Things were fine and then she had to move a thousand miles away to her mothers house.\n\nWe decided to stay together long-distance since I graduate college in a year. She has been super nice to me but the past couple days she hasn't been texting me for long periods. I decided to look into it and I found out she has been using a dating website and snapchat to meet guys in her area. \n\nI made a fake account and started talking to her. She started flirting with me and telling me she doesn't have a boyfriends ect. I am going to call her in the morning, what do I say? I'm so broken crying and drinking my life away since I have no friends. My whole life was dedicated to her and school.\n\nThe thing that concerns me the most is that I won't be able to concentrate in school. It's my last year taking some hard engineering courses and I know this will tear me apart.\n\nHow do I concentrate in school while she's out having the time of her life? What should I tell her tomorrow morning?\n\nThanks in the advance for any support.", "summary": "Girlfriend of four years moved out of state, decided to stay in a relationship but found her using dating websites to meet guys in her area."}
{"id": "t3_369jmd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bi [19 M] in college with friend [19 F].....is it worth waiting?", "post": "This past semester I got really close with a girl I only knew tangentially in fall semester. First time we met she thought I was HILARIOUS, the funniest guy she knew (her words). Slowly developed feelings for her, but by this time, she was interested in another guy. I thought we had chemistry, and she always gave me preferential treatment in any situation, so I was like fuck it and told her how I felt about her and about my sexuality.\n\nShe didn't really say anything to it, and we still keep in contact. From another incident which I won't get into here, it's obvious she really cares about me, just not in a romantic way. However, I do think there is potential for a LTR in the future since we do connect so well. Is it worth waiting it out or should I just move on and forget about her for now?", "summary": "Told girl I'm bi and I like her; neutral response, but we do have a special non-romantic connection/chemistry which may evolve into something more in the long run. Possible to get out of the friendzone here?"}
{"id": "t3_gv94o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My friend drank while pregnant now we aren't friends", "post": "My friend binge drank at least six or seven times heavily within the first month of her pregnancy.  I was out with her once and she exclaimed \"I am late on my period, I hope I'm not pregnant.\" I didn't know this was a possibility otherwise I wouldn't have been out with her.  She found out two days later that she was a month pregnant.  I told her that I thought what she did was thoughtless and careless, as she plans to keep the child.  She flipped.  Now we are no longer friends. I am extremely frustrated as I wasn't trying to be mean but instead I was just trying to let her know how serious what she did was.  She is refusing to acknowledge that what she did was wrong.  Her husband went so far as to say \"every woman drinks during the first month of their pregnancies!\"  I am at my wits end and just needed to vent.  Thank you reddit.", "summary": "my ex best friend hates me because I said \"I hope your child doesn't have fetal alcohol syndrome\""}
{"id": "t3_22aop0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Have I shot myself in the foot? [19M]", "post": "Hello reddit, I'm wondering if I've essentially screwed myself/am currently in a screwed situation.\n\nMy SO [19F] and I have started seeing each other since the beginning of the school year (college), except that I go to school OOS in LA while she in NY. In the times we've seen each other (mostly during breaks, a little bit before the beginning of school) we've behaved every bit like a couple in that we kiss, hold hands, and all that- at this point we are more or less exclusive to (with?) each other. However, due to a bunch of recent, traumatic events in her life, such as her uncle being diagnosed with brain cancer, and her grandmother exhibiting increasingly dementia-like symptoms, she said she would prefer to wait until things got better when it would be \"better\" to become official. I told her I would gladly wait because frankly, I would. She and I get along better than any girl I've been with in the past; I can unabashedly afford to be MYSELF-myself with her, and likewise, which I feel really says something. I've always felt that if you're pulling your punches with a girl (i.e. not showing who you *really* are, you're headed for disappointment, which leads me to believe that PUA is silly but I digress).\n\nThat brings me to my question... I don't get back from school till the summer- should I be waiting in the first place? We're both really into each other but I'm wondering if waiting somehow sends the \"wrong\" message. Recently she admitted that if things would somehow not work out (worse things happen within the family or even otherwise), she believes we would be awesome friends. Am I cruising for the friend zone at this point? \n\nThanks reddit.", "summary": "me and my SO [19F] are together but not official. She is going through *tough* crap so I said I would wait. She mentions we would be awesome friends if things don't work out (stuff gets worse at home). Am I effed/ready to pack my bags and nope out of there"}
{"id": "t3_51fsp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my bf [26M] trying to make friends in a new-ish city", "post": "Not sure if this is a relationships question\u2026 but I like the advice people give out  here. \nI moved to a big city 2 years ago with my boyfriend  for a new job and I'm having a really hard time making friends. The people I work with are significantly older than me and have a vastly different lifestyle/ priorities than mine.  So work friends aren't really an option. My boyfriend and I, have tried to go on couple of 'meet-ups', but the crowd wasn't what we were looking for. Most were single looking to mingle.  We could probably try more 'meet-ups', but we don't have a car and going faraway places is always tough. He's also been having problems making friends in our city, so we're kind of in the same boat\nThe other problem I've been facing with trying to meet other people is well\u2026 my boyfriend.  We get along great, have similar interest, can talk for hours; which kind of kill my motivation to go out and meet other people. It's just easier to talk to him about nothing, then go out and have awkward small talks with strangers. I have other friends apart from him who I talk to on the phone with occasionally, but we barely get to meet up cause of distances. I haven't seen my childhood best friends in years. We still talk, but it's not the same. We both have different lives that we can't really be a part of.  Not sure if this is relevant, but I'm from another country and I moved to the US four years ago. Hence, the entire 'not see older friends in a while' problem.\n\nI guess I'm looking for advice on how to make friends, especially girl friends in a new place. I love my boyfriend to bits, but sometimes I just want to talk about the latest Sephora lipstick or celebrity gossip you know.", "summary": "I'm terrible at making friends outside of school and need advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4en1ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me and two friends [17M/F] walked in on my girlfriend[17F] crying, and now she says she needs space from us?", "post": "Monday afternoon me and two of my girlfriend's best friends saw my girlfriend looked upset so we showed up at her house and wanted to take her out to try and cheer her up. When we rang the doorbell she came out hysterically crying about family issues and was screaming and cursing at us to go away. We've never seen her like this before and we left like she asked. After two days of no contact I texted her and she said that she needs time away from the three of us because she said shes \"better at dealing with things alone and doesn't want us pretending to be her therapist\". I know shes not breaking up with me, because she said she still loves me and doesnt want to end things, I just don't really know what we do now?", "summary": "Me and two best friends found gf crying, now she said she needs space, what now?"}
{"id": "t3_3krk2b", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My gf's mother is bossy and embarrasses me... how do I deal with it?", "post": "25 male here who is in a happy 6 month relationship! :)\n     \n\u00a0\n\nI recently met her mother. She is a lovely lady but rather pushy. We go over regularly for dinner and 2 weeks ago she asked if I could help with the dishes. Of course I can help!\n\n\u00a0\n         \nShe did not want me to spoil my clothes and opened a drawer to produce a feminine apron. I said I wouldn't need one, but she insisted and ended up tying it on me. My gf was giggling and thought it was funny. \n     \n\u00a0\n\nLast week she asked me to help again and I said I wouldn't mind, and she came over with that same apron. I said I didn't need one, but again she was insisting and put it on me. \n\n\u00a0\n      \nNow I don't mind helping out, but the apron she is making me wear has flowers on it and frills. She said it's specially made for dishwashing because it's plastic coated. It's heavy, uncomfortable and I feel like she gets a little bossy and condescending while I'm wearing it. She just oversees this dishwashing procedure and comments on what needs to happen including wiping the counter tops and table at the end.   \n        \n\u00a0\n\nMy girlfriend even took a photo and says that it looks like I'm wearing a dress.  \n\n\u00a0\n  \nI don't want this to become a thing between my gf's mother and me, how can I prevent this from happening? Or how do I deal with this? I don't want to offend my gf or her mother.  \n     \n\u00a0\n\nHow you ever had something embarrassing like this with your 'mother in law'?", "summary": "GF's mom makes me (male) wear embarrassing apron while doing the dishes."}
{"id": "t3_2vmmye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (21M) make a move on a shy girl (21F)?", "post": "My friend saw a video on Facebook that a girl we went to high school made for a musician the 3 of us like. So he messaged her and asked if shed be into making a video for one of the songs he's made. She said yes and that she was really excited to do it. Now I've been into this girl since high school(huge crush) but we barely ever talked and my friend knew this so he brought me along. \n\nSo there's 5 of us just hanging out working on this video having a good time. She's so down to earth and we like a lot of the same music so it's easy to talk to her.  At one point when we were talking one on one she wouldn't stop pushing her hair back behind her ears like she was nervous talking to me. And when she showed me a graphic design video she made and I told her it was really good she got a big smile on her face,  had no idea what to say and then muttered a thank you. \n\nShe then invited me and my friend to a party that her and her friend were having this Friday. I wanna let her know I'm into her at the party but Idk what to do. I'm afraid if I'm too forward she might get so nervous she won't know what to say. I know she used to act nervous around guys she liked in high school. Oh and I'm not Mr outgoing myself when it comes to girls so I just resort to trying to make them laugh and she laughed at most of the stuff I said. That's good right?", "summary": "Shy girl from high school seemed nervous talking to me and invited me to a party. How do I let her know I'm into her. Without freaking her out"}
{"id": "t3_1juoz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Just ended a 4 year relationship..", "post": "I (26,m) just ended a four year relationship with my girlfriend (23,f).  I knew it was coming, we had our underlying issues.  She was a great girl, very trustworthy, loyal and I know she would never leave me no matter what.  But, she is leaving for school Monday for two years and I just feel like I wouldn't have been able to do it, nor would the relationship been able too.  \n\nNow I am so scared, what if I made the wrong decision?  What if I never find someone just as nice?  Why do I feel so empty inside, it hurt me so bad seeing her upset and cry.  I was so sure of this and felt confident and now it's like what have I done.  \n\nI am not trying to fantasize about how great the relationship was, but it's hard not too.. We were long distance the first three years (2 hours away), then she was home for a year, and now she is leaving for two years for medical school (out of the country).   \n\nWe disagreed on a lot of key issues, she had put down my career choice many times, she eventually stopped but I feel like I never got over that (her parents did as well).  She also said she didn't want to get engaged or move in when she got back, she wanted to live alone at first and maybe her fourth year of school we could move in.  \n\nughhh I know i'm rambling and you guys don't have a clue but that's how my brain feels right now....", "summary": "just broke off my four year relationship.. hurting"}
{"id": "t3_2f9r7v", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Group running etiquette... What am I missing?", "post": "On the mornings I don't run outside, I drive to the local Y before work.  I take a two lane, one way street to get there, and lately I've been happening upon a group of runners.  They'll be split into two or three packs of two to four people, and they're in the street, running abreast rather than single file.  I have to switch lanes to drive around them because they don't move over (not a big deal since it's early and there's not much traffic, but still...).\n\nI've started wondering if I'm missing something.  I've never run with other people (except in races), so I don't know what's normal or proper, but the way they take over the road is shocking to me.  Can you guys share your thoughts?  The runners frustrate me, but they also worry me for their safety.  I've thought about stopping and saying something, but I don't want to do that if the consensus is that they're doing nothing wrong.\n\nI will appreciate your input.", "summary": "Group of runners in the street.  Should they move over for vehicles?"}
{"id": "t3_1jnvnh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if this is headed anywhere. He [22/M] just moved to a new city and I'm [21/F] still in school.", "post": "Ok. So this past semester, I often watched horror movies with one of my guy friends in his apartment. We would get drunk, watch scary movies, cuddle, then I would go home. We never kissed, never did ANYTHING. We would talk about our crushes too. I hooked up with people and so did he.\n---\nHe graduated. We met because my next door neighbor was his roommate for a while. So this guy stayed next door for a couple weeks for he and my neighbor and neighbor's gf moved to another city about 3 hours away. While he was staying next door we spent a lot of time together. Watched movies in his room (in his bed, cuddled up together). Talked until early morning about whatever tickled our fancy. I spent the night a few times but nothing happened. We just both slept in his bed, facing away from each other once we fell asleep. Once, we were BOTH shirtless, but it was hot out, and he didnt make any moves other than the usual pull-me-closer. \n\n--\n\nSo he moves south for his job. We don't talk often, just text sporadically. I'm disappointed we don't talk more. Should I have made a move earlier? Is he gay or just really really not into me at all? I'm not totally hung up on him but I definitely have been interested for a while. Should I keep contact?", "summary": "Never made a move with my romantic interest. He moves away. Should I just give up?"}
{"id": "t3_387rnu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not being a slow dumbass", "post": "This actually happened today. My younger sister, mother and I went shopping with our driver driving us...\n\n>be me, 19yo teenager\n>walk the stairs with the driver carrying our groceries, with me behind him, sister and mom in the back\n>they complain about the stairs, walk too slowly, just let them walk behind me, we were going up the stairs, then down a ramp to the parking lot\n>reach the car with driver, putting down groceries, sister and mom STILL not arrived\n>\"wtf did they morph into snails\"\n>driver tells me that I should look for them since the car couldn't drive backthrough the entry gate\n>I oblige, run back, can't find them, call my sister's name, nothing\n>worried/irritatated face.jpg\n>run back to the parking lot, thinking about to tell the driver to just call my mom\n>car gone\n>feelslikeabondoned child.jpg\n>panicky running around the parking lot, notice security is staring at me, thinking \"must not act suspicious\"\n>totally act suspicious, scared, no idea what to do\n>run back to the front\n>see mom walking to me, she laughing \"we were looking for you lols\"\n>MUST NOT SUCKER PUNCH HER FOR STUPIDLY ABONDINING ME AND LAUGHING\n>walk to car, driver says that mom called and he assumed I was with them\n>sister looks like I'm the retard for \"getting lost\"\n>turns out sister and mother were waiting OUTSIDE the mall for us to drive up to them without telling us\n>facepalming all the way to back home", "summary": "I share genes with two dumbasses."}
{"id": "t3_2qnf2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (23f) having bad feelings about my bf (20m) of one year hanging out with friend (21f) (UPDATE)", "post": "Previous thread: \n\nAfter awhile I decided it would be best if I just tried to get used to the situation. I realized I was probably struggling because it was an adjustment to our relationship. I'm more okay with Darren spending time with Heather now. I trust Darren and we've talked about it. Recently however, we were all in a skype call and Heather got naked. \n\nI was really shocked by this and asked her what she was doing. She said \"Well you're naked often.\" The difference is I have an injury which is bothered by wearing pants. I'm not doing it just because or to be sexual. Also she did this in front of my boyfriend. I talked to my boyfriend after the fact and he said it was awkward for him too. He said if she does it again he'll say something. \n\nHeather keeps talking about how she wants to live with us. My boyfriend and I agreed that we wouldn't do that. I don't want her to get more involved in our relationship then she already is. I think right now with her breaking up with her long term boyfriend, it isn't the time to let her know we don't want to do that. \n\nI'm still uncomfortable with the situation I guess but I'm learning to deal. My boyfriend doesn't have many friends and he doesn't get the chance to talk to his best friend very often. I'm trying to encourage him to go out and get a job so he can have a healthier social life. \n\nI really, really, really, hope this isn't going to blow up in my face. I trust Heather enough, but not enough to not make a move on Darren. That day may never come but it could.", "summary": "Have learned to deal with the friendship between my boyfriend and friend even if it is difficult for me and something odd happened"}
{"id": "t3_3dkrbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27m) work with my ex (20f) and not sure how to be her boss at work.", "post": "Me and my ex recently broke up this last week, we had been dating for 9months. I don't agree with the break up, but she doesn't think we have what it takes to be a long lasting relationship. In her opinion we are close and good friends, but not great friends. And we should end it now, instead of wasting time and breaking up eventually. \n\nThe problem is, I'm a team leader at our work and am technically one of her bosses. We work at a call center and she will sit and talk with coworkers when they should not be. They will sit in queues that prevent calls from coming in, or miss calls and not log back in. I don't know how to tell them to stop messing around at work without it seeming like I'm targeting her out of spite. I actively walk around and keep the other employees focused and working as well. But i feel like she thinks I'm being strict on her due to the break up or jealousy. \n\nAt this point I almost feel like I have to let her get away with stuff, so that she doesn't go to upper management and say I'm targeting her specifically.", "summary": "not sure how to be ex's boss and have her follow rules without it look like im being strict due to break up."}
{"id": "t3_2tuvu0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] fiance [25M] has a best friend that's a girl, who is hostile to me", "post": "He tells me im delusional or just seeing things because I'm jealous, the way she looks at me and snubs me though it is so obvious she wants to be more than just a 'friend' and sees me as a threat. Even heard her laughing about me behind my back. How do I get him to see her for who she really is?", "summary": "Fiance has an evil female friend who wants to see me burn. He thinks I'm being delusional."}
{"id": "t3_mnx5g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bill Clinton, you stupid git, OWS is FOR capitalism that serves the people, our democracy! Wouldn't you agree?", "post": "It is quite obvious what OWS stands for. All the currents and all the complaints that people bring up boil down to one root idea. Our democracy serves the interests of capitalism; whereas, capitalism should be serving our democracy. Historically, this has been a serious conflict in the West. Unions exist because corporations and business had and have no problem exploiting people to make a profit (see the Triangle fire, the history of United Mine Workers, how chinese workers are treated at Apple associated factories -- there are thousands of examples of how capitalism exploits people in the pursuit of profit). \n\nThe right to make a profit by whatever form of exploitation (ie debt, undocumented workers artificially suppressing wages, etc) is not sanctified by the promise of American democracy, now matter what the message is promulgated by the corporate owners of the mainstream media. The problem is the incarnation of financialized, oligarchic capitalism that currently exists and is protected by legislators and executives at every level of government. It is much easier for a paving company to get a contract from a city council than it is for a citizen or group of citizens to ask for streetlights, bike lanes, etc. Government, at every level, responds to the needs and demands of business and the captains of industry, quickly, while imposing endless hurdles for individual citizens to create meaningful change in their communities.  \n\nIt is not in the interest of our democracy for there to be the wealth inequality that exists.\nIt is not in the interest of our democracy for corporations to have personhood, thereby allowing corporations to select our representatives.\nIt is not in the interest of our democracy for individuals or corporations to game the system to have unfair or undue influence on the policies and actions of our government, meant to serve all the people. \nIt is not in the interest of our democracy for media companies to use the public airwaves for the express purpose of manipulating the people politically or otherwise (marketing).\nPretty much any main idea talked about boils down to the idea that capitalism should serve the interests of democracy.\n\nedit", "summary": "Capitalism should serve democracy v. democracy serving capitalism"}
{"id": "t3_1equvl", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Complain about my work? I'll give you something to complain about.", "post": "I work for a small construction company. It's a pretty good gig, my boss trusts us so we pretty much control our own schedules and hours. This is a pretty well known fact, as he's not there the majority of the time. \n\nThe client in this case was a complete basket case. She would complain about anything she could just to irritate us. We were making a mess in her kitchen, which was already destroyed by the 10-15 cats she had in the house. Everything was dirty/sticky, and we constantly had to keep the cats in as we were installing new doors and storm doors. We were making too much noise, the drills and saws were interrupting her tv show and she has very sensitive hearing, despite the fact that she has a dozen windchimes on the front porch. The dirt complaint was justifiable, as we did make quite a mess in the process of installation, but we were going to clean it up. \n\nThe final straw was when she called our boss complaining about our \"frequent breaks\". Our breaks consisted of us going out to her barn to cut pieces of wood for her door frames, as \"the sawdust will clutter up the garage too much\", along with assaulting her delicate eardrums. Again, we do clean up before we leave. \n\nMy revenge came to me as we were finishing up the installation. She complained that one of her storm doors was closing too slowly, and that she was afraid one of her cats was going to get out. So I simply adjusted the door to where it slammed shut immediately, making quite a loud bang each time. Enjoy your noisy door you supersonic hearing bitch.", "summary": "Daredevil complains about noise and dirt, gets a noise she can't fix."}
{"id": "t3_2bpuwx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex(22F) of three years just broke up with me (22M). We have a two year old son. Need advice!", "post": "I'm keeping this short and to the point, but if more details are needed just let me know. \n\nTuesday night my girlfriend broke up with me. Its was pretty unexpected and I took it very hard. Basically, she said she doesn't love me the way she should and that she needs to find out who she is again. After talking the past couple nights, I think I've come to realize that there isn't much hope and it is probably over for good.  This is my first real breakup, so it has been really difficult.  \n\nWe have a two year old son, who is the greatest joy in my life. I would be ruined if I couldn't see him as much, but seeing as she is staying at the house, he will probably be staying there primarily.  I'll be moving in with my Dad who lives about 15 minutes away.  \n\nSo after all the details, I guess I'm mostly asking for advice about how to raise a kid in a split family and maintain a civil relationship with my ex. What are some common issues that arise?   How should I handle any potential parental conflicts?  Any advice is much appreciated. This is my first reddit post so go easy.", "summary": "My girlfriend broke up with me, what advice do you have for raising our son?"}
{"id": "t3_vvux1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Every time I go to see my girlfriend we have sex, then cuddle, then I go home. Is it wrong that it pisses me off?", "post": "I know, I know. Why should I be so mad that all we ever do is fuck, right? Well frankly it gets annoying, but neither of us have really anything in common. The only game she ever plays is Skyrim (which I do love) and when I try and get her to play other games with me she just snubs me off and tells me to \"stop trying to get her absorbed into video games\". We have no real common interests other than Reddit, and I am not entirely certain if I love her anymore. I mean I only see her once to twice a week now because I have gotten so tired of fucking that it just pisses me off. That being said I don't want to break up with her because I hate to see her sad. Every time I try and talk to her about it she says \"Alright, we'll fuck less\" then 30 minutes she tries to fuck me again. She really doesn't get it. She is smart (all AP classes, passes all of them with 80 or higher) but she just can't seem to understand the concept of not having sex. I have been avoiding seeing her lately because, well... I just can't. Not when I feel like this. What would you recommend I do?", "summary": "Me and my girlfriend have sex every time we meet, no matter how long for or how recently we last saw eachother, and it pisses me off."}
{"id": "t3_3n5i0u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my friend my mom's phone number", "post": "So it's 10 days until homecoming at my high school and I don't have a date ^gee ^^I ^^^wonder ^^^^why. Either way I decide to go with a group of my friends. So I ask my friend, who we'll call John. He's going with a group of friends too, all of whom I know and am friends with. I ask him if we meet up at his house. He says he'll text the info to my phone and then asks for my #. I tell him I don't have a phone (technically I do, but it's not activated so I can't call, text, or use cell data. I mainly listen to music on it.). So I just give him my mom's phone, and tell him to text that he's my friend and only giving me information. This happened on the bus ride at 6:40 AM. The day goes on at high school, and then I go home. As I walk home from the bus stop, I see my mom, she's pissed. She says that people have been texting her all morning. Shit. I look at her phone and there are like 20 unread texts from 6 different numbers. I text back John asking him what happened. Apparently, he had a group chat with the others in the group. Eventually, I get the mess sorted out. This is why I've been asking them for a phone for the past forever. I would be more than happy to pay for it myself but I'm only 14, and most jobs in my area accept only 16+. Hopefully, this finally pushed far enough to finally buy me a phone, if you think I'm being greedy, I'm trying not to to. I'm not asking for something flashy like the S6 edge or the iPhone 6s with a 10GB Verizon plan. Just a simple phone that can call, text play music, and browse Reddit with a cheap Net10 or Straight Talk plan. [Like this](", "summary": "Give friend mom's phone #, scared mom half to death."}
{"id": "t3_33xc0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf [27 f] dumped me [27 M] out of the after 7 years", "post": "We saw each other to have some closure, and it ended in me consoling her. She said \"i love you and i'll love you forever but i'm not happy anymore.. it's not you...there's no other people etc. i need time to figure out myself\" and other classic girl code, and than she started crying and kissing me. that was extremely painful. After 7 years of love. in one day i've discovered how she really is under the facade... it hurts. Btw i've mantained my frame, and i told her that i'm not interested in have a relationship with a woman that isn't happy with me, so no begging etc. Message received. It hurts so bad but i have to Accept. There is no other way.\n(no contact is a little bit difficult to mantain. We live at 100meter distance. It's hard.)\n(sorry 4 my poor english not native speaker)", "summary": "gf of 7 years dumped me out of the blue"}
{"id": "t3_2szmpy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "H and R Block giving out their 'Basic' Product for free (with a little effort), state file for $9.99", "post": "I accidentally clicked through the dialogues and entered me wanting to use their Basic product instead of the free one.  What they do is they trickily let you use the Basic product (or whatever you chose) to do your taxes, then when you are ready to file, hit you with the charge.  Upon checkout after spending an hour typing all my information, a charge for the product showed up with no way of downgrading.  \n\nClicked the chat dialogue, and the rep said that it was impossible to downgrade, and instead issued me a product key to get it for free!  It also includes 9.99 state filing, (down from $27 they charge you for the free edition).\n\nChat:\n\nBrandon R.: Hello T------, welcome to H&R Block Tax Product Support! How can I assist you today?\n\n------: I accidentally upgraded to the Basic and wanted to downgrade back to free \n\nBrandon R.: I can't downgrade your account from basic,however what I can do is issue you an key code. You will have to pay the 9.99 for the state return.\n\n------: The website said that you can downgrade my account though by going through chat.\n\nBrandon R.: Yes, but in your case I cannot downgrade to free, but I will be more than happy to issue you an keycode.\n\n------: What does the key code do?\n\nBrandon R.: It pays for the product and your federal return.\n\n------: Oh okay thanks\n\nBrandon R.: Just one moment while I get the key code for you.\n\nBrandon R.: Can I have your DOB, last 4 of your SSN.\n\n------: ******\n\nBrandon R.: Your keycode number is *****\n\n------: Thanks!\n\nnote: Through checkout, state filing showed up as $36.99, but when I entered the key code, it went down to $9.99", "summary": "Accidently clicked a button, got H & R block Basic for free, with $9.99 state filing, try to use keycode E2D5D7HBDA"}
{"id": "t3_3207um", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my (now) ex-bf [23M] of 3.5 years, broke up with me with no warning or explanation. I'm not ok.", "post": "I need some help. My long term bf of 3.5 years just broke up with me. There was no indication that he was unhappy in the relationship, or any attempt on his part to fix any issues he perceived. He just called me and broke up with me in the most cold, monotone voice. We were planning for me to move across the country for him the day before. \n\nI just am having a hard time coping. I didn't deserve this imo and feel I was used for the later part of our relationship. It's not just that he ended things that hurts, it's how he did it. Someone who truly loved and respected me wouldn't hurt me like this. Someone who valued me as a partner would have shown me the courtesy of a conversation. \n\nI'm just so devastated and lost right now. All my life plans for the near future will have to be reworked and I'm just so lost and reeling from this sudden event that idk where to start to rebuild. Idk how I can love again after this, because of how I literally had no idea this was about to happen, and about how calm he was about it. I feel like it will be hard for me to trust that any relationship is going well after this, when before I was the most easy-going trusting person that I know. \n\nIdk what the point of this post is, I mostly just wanted to talk to anyone who had a similar experience and got through it. I just want a way to be ok. I'm a person who deserves respect in a relationship. But I sure as hell don't feel that way right now.", "summary": "BF broke up with me suddenly, feeling used, abandoned, and lost"}
{"id": "t3_33831z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting drunk and not remembering what i did.", "post": "So before I start I should mention that I am bad with break ups.\n\nSo onto the fu. So yesterday i moved into my new house and the girl i was seeing lets call her Emily came round to hang out before work. Everything was fine and we were having a laugh and then she went to work, then later on i check my phone and see i have a whats app message from Emily saying that we shouldn't see each other anymore cause she wasn't ready for anything. We messaged each other about it and decided to start again as friends and see if things progressed.\n\nI was ok with the idea although i asked if we could talk about this in person as i wanted to know why the sudden change. she said yes so we planned to meet up today, however i decide that i am ready for a drink and head to the bar round the corner from my house with my flat mate i had a few too many drinks and only remember parts of the night and realized that the bar i got drunk in was where Emily worked.\n\nNow she isn't answering my texts and i think i might have done something stupid and might have lost her forever.", "summary": "The girl i was seeing wanted to just be friends, we agree to meet up and talk about it, i get drunk at the bar she works at, might have done something stupid, and now i think she is ignoring me."}
{"id": "t3_2puy0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25F] sort of seeing a new guy [late 20sM], but... he wears the same shirt all the time.", "post": "This feels like being in some weird Seinfeld episode, especially after seeing the episode of the girl that was doing this same exact thing!\n\nThis guy and I aren't really \"together\" yet, but he seems like a pretty cool dude, so we're seeing where things go.  The only thing is, every time I see him, he's been wearing the same. striped. purple. shirt.  Sounds petty, I know, but hear me out!  This has been spanning over multiple months since we first met.  Today I was on Facebook, and I saw that he was tagged in a few photos with his friends.  You guessed it - same shirt.\n\nI usually see him around once a week or so, so to my knowledge, he's not wearing it every day.  Still, it feels so weird!  This guy has a well-paying job, so it's not a financial issue. I feel like I'm making this into a big thing, but it's like... kind of hilariously surreal.  I have no idea how to even address this, or at what point it would be acceptable to address it.  I don't want to embarrass him.  His hygiene seems fine, and the shirt seems clean, but seeing him in this, and only this, vaguely grosses me out.  He even told me about going shopping with mutual friends a few weeks ago, so it's not like he's shopping-avoidant or something!\n\nDo I say anything?  If so, what should I say, and when should I say it?  Also, for what it's worth, if I see him in literally any other item of clothing in our future encounters, I wouldn't even consider bringing this up.", "summary": "This guy wears the same shirt every time I see him, wears the same shirt in pictures, etc.  It's weirding me out."}
{"id": "t3_34wafm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 f) broke up with my boyfriend (24 M) of two years. Struggling with the follow through...", "post": "The relationship hasn't been working for a while now. Mainly due to a really really rocky start and incompatibility on a few really important things. We would fight constantly and those fights were nasty. Name calling, shouting, insults. And if I tried to go home during a fight, he'd sit on my car to physically keep me from leaving. We both hurt each other a lot. I recognize that it was pretty mutually abusive on an emotional level and while we both wanted to change, we never did. After nearly a year of constant fighting I just couldn't take it anymore and made the call to walk away last night.\n\nThat being said, Ive spent the last two years making this man my life. When we weren't fighting, I loved the person I got to be when I was with him. Not only did I love him with all my heart but his friends, family, and home became my own. On some level I know that going our separate ways is for the best but it feels like the end of the world right now.  There is a massive part of me that wants to call and tell him it was all a huge mistake, that the problems we have will all disappear if we love each other enough. I know its not true but it just hurts so badly right now...\n\nI dont know how to stay strong and stay away.", "summary": "Ended a mutually emotionally abusive relationship. I feel like Im losing my whole life. How do I stay strong and resist the urge to go crawling back?"}
{"id": "t3_2j6b8y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When is too early to say \"I love you\"?", "post": "I (F 24) have been dating my boyfriend (M30) for about 2 months now, and we were close friends for about 3 months before that. Everything just seems right with him, but I don't want to scare him off. We've talked about it, and he agrees that everything just feels right. \n\nI've told him I'm known to fall very easily, and if I were to say it drunk then just ignore it( because I've been known to do that), and he agreed. But now I feel like I want to say it. We've both had a rocky past with relationships, and we both want the same things out of life, like marriage and kids, and I know were still in \"the honeymoon stage\", but I feel like its more. \n\nI know this is a terrible spot to ask advice on this because no one knows exactly how we are, or anything about relationships, but any advice if you have said it early on would be appreciated!", "summary": "want to say I love you, don't know if it's too early or not."}
{"id": "t3_3thpji", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by writing the word Jew.", "post": "This actually happened in January, 2015.\n\nI was in Latin class, and we had an assignment to write a paper using several classic Latin phrases such as \"Carpe Diem\" or \"Caveat Emptor\" in the paper. So I decided to write the paper and make the main character female and Jewish, nothing special, just a character trait; I didn't bring it up for the rest of the paper, but when I got the paper back, I also got a meeting with the World Language Dept. Head who told me that this writing was \"Antisemitism\" and unacceptable, so I'd have to rewrite the paper, and suffer several days of detention for my crimes. Fast-forward to a few weeks later, when my dad, who IS Jewish, requested a meeting with the teacher and the dept. head, as he found no antisemitism in the writing, but the dept. head had no interest in wasting her time with this, and I ended up in the principal's office, where he basically told me that if I ever did it again, there would be more serious consequences.", "summary": "Don't write about Jewish people in school."}
{"id": "t3_31oo8g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my husband [30 M] together 8 yrs, married 4 years. He seems to have lost interest in me? Nothing I do changes this...", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 4. We have two kids, 4 and 1.5. It has been up and down though lately (last year or so) we have been getting along better at least (less fighting, less nastiness -he used to be quite verbally abusive, but this seems to have decreased, at least for now). \n\nThe problem -he seems to have no interest in doing things with me. He works, I am stay at home. I understand he's tired from working, but I am too -I do the childcare, errands, groceries, 90% of cooking and cleaning, taking kids to and from activities etc.\n\nHowever, I feel that we need to spend time together as a couple. He never seems to want to. He has his projects, and spends time with the kids (he is a great dad), but seems to have lost interest in me.\n\nI gained weight after my first pregnancy, which led to a lot of fighting and issues, however, by this time, I have lost all the weight, and am back to within 10 lbs of where I was when we met. Yet, losing the weight, keeping it off, and trying to do sexy times for the bedroom seems to have little effect -he seriously doesn't seem to be interested at all. I have tried to bring this up with him, but he doesn't seem to think it is a problem?\n\nI just want to get some of our intimacy as a couple back. I am afraid in a few years, when the kids are less dependent on us, we are going to have nothing in common. \n\nHow do I bring back the spark?", "summary": "2 kids, husband seems to have lost interest in me, doing things/dating/sex. Where to go from here?"}
{"id": "t3_3d1qc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [21 F] just hit our year anniversary, were going to move into a house together but decided to dial it back a bit", "post": "My Gf and I have been dating for as year as of the 7th of July. I moved in with her about 2 months into dating and it was good for a while. We were really good friends for about 5 years but we were both dating people at the time and it just didn't go anywhere. But now we are together and things haven't been going as planned.\n\nWe would always fight, make-up, and do it all over again. A lot of the problems were with my self consciousness and anger issues. I have worked a lot of them out to try to have a good relationship with her. We are extremely happy with each other about a week and a half per month.\n\nSo now, our lease at her apartment is up and we are renting a house together. We were both really excited about it. We move in on the 29th of july and our lease ended on the 8th of July. So there is a 3 week gap and we are forced to stay with our respective parents during the time. This is because we have two dogs. The dogs can't stay at my dad's house, and I cant stay at her dad's house. So we have to be separated. \n\nThis is where the problem started. I would always want to see her but it just didn't seem like she ever wanted to see me at all. Then, the other night it all came out. Turns out she stopped caring about our relationship a while ago and she just didn't care at all anymore. She says that she loves me, and I know she does. So we decide that moving in together again wouldn't be the best decision. \n\nWe are starting to date again and it is going awesome! it is very odd but something happened that made us fall in love again. I guess my question here is, what happened? Why are we so happy again when all that really happened was we decided not to move in together right away when the lease starts?", "summary": "Dating girl for one year with some problems, move in with our parents cause of lease gaps, decide not to move in again cause we aren't ready, now we are in the best part of our relationship ever. How??"}
{"id": "t3_4r4btn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [F27] talk to my nephew [11] about why his mom (my sister) and I are not talking?", "post": "My nephew has been asking me why I haven't been coming to their house anymore, since me and my sister had a huge argument a couple of months ago. I used to go there once every second week. I have been seeing my nephew and his younger brother outside the house. \nI'm not sure if I should talk to him about the fact that his mom and I aren't talking. I don't want him to feel bad about it. \nI'm sure my sister [F37] must have said something about me in front of the kids, she has a habit of talking bad about anything and anyone in front of her kids, and I'm sure she must have said something.", "summary": "sister and I had a fight. Nephew, sister's son [11] is wondering why I don't come to their house anymore. Should I talk to him about it or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1p6rcb", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Two weeks with no urge to binge - even with MAJOR life stresses!", "post": "I'm someone who lost down to 198 last April and regained to 230 by September - the majority by binge eating. Going from one fast food place to another and just *eating*. Hitting fast food almost every time I left the house or bringing home junk food to eat in private. Food, food, food constantly in my thoughts.\n\nI've been reading Brain over Binge (didn't finish it) and also reading past journals of diets. Whole30 is the one that changed my body the most, but I still had cravings for certain textures and the work behind it was harder than I felt ready to do again. But.. I knew on Whole30 that my blood sugar level stayed at the low end of normal.\n\nSo for the past two weeks I have been 100% binge free and my brain has been calm in regards to food. This is a huge accomplishment. The day before starting I was planning all the things I wanted to eat (like ordering a pizza) but life got busy and I didn't. In the past two weeks I've had nights where work required me to be up all night, stressful decisions being made, arguments with fiance, etc.. and no urge to turn to food which just a few weeks ago would have been next to impossible due to the incredible urges.\n\nI'm down 10.1lbs. I hate losing the regained weight, but at least I feel in control. I'm doing it by small regular meals that are low cal/high protein and keeping my blood sugar stable. (I'm not diabetic, though sure I am heading down that path! I'm a medical professional so I've been poking my finger here and there for my own curiosity).\n\nIt also took me about a week to get to the point where my body stays well hydrated. I think it's due to being dehydrated for so long. I drink well over 100oz per day, plus liquid in other forms. My 24oz waterbottle is my constant companion. \n\nMy disordered eating isn't from some deeply regressed whatever or my inability to deal with life. It is from my body chemistry/sugar being out of whack and my poor body/mind freaking out. With that stable, I am too.", "summary": "binge free due to stable blood sugar, no willpower needed."}
{"id": "t3_4z0ue5", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I, [23M], be useful to society?", "post": "I feel like I'm at my wit's end. I have a commission based job, where I am paid entirely based on commission. But because of a lapse in paperwork, I'm unable to collect any commission for a couple more weeks, probably. I've been working about 50 hours per week the past couple of weeks. And I've been paid nothing. \n\nI'm a real-estate-agent-in-waiting. And, so far, I've been helping out by trying to coordinate times, locations, and sending property lists to clients. I've been making ads. I've helped a former criminal try to find a place to live. I've tried my ass off. But, I've gotten nothing out of it.\n\nI'm incredibly frustrated. And I feel incredibly emasculated. Since, all I'm doing right now is mooching off my GF [22F]... \n\nI just feel like I'm lost, a burden on her, and a pathetic boyfriend. I try to take out the trash, get groceries, do the dishes, etc. But sometimes I'm just too tired from working (for free ugh), that all I can do is lay down and rest or cuddle or just go on the internet and try to keep my mind off things.", "summary": "I've been working 50 hours a week for the past couple of weeks, trying to prove myself... But still haven't been paid. And I've been mooching off my gf. And I feel useless, worn down, and exhausted. How can I make myself feel better? And how can I be useful to my gf?"}
{"id": "t3_2i13un", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 m] ex [21 F], originally of 1.5 years, wants me to write her a professional testimonial/reference/etc and I'm conflicted", "post": "Earlier this year my ex broke up with me through a text message. We were together for about a year and a half and it was a pretty loving relationship, so the *way* she did it was awful. It hurt a lot. \n\nWe didn't break up because either of us did anything particularly wrong; the relationship just wasn't right and it seemed to be coming to an end anyway. Still, she did it through a text message and refused to see me or say anything to my face ever since. I've only seen her about twice (recently) and we barely even spoke. \n\nI'm wanting to keep a good connection with her though. We really did have something special, and even if the romantic end of the relationship ended, I don't want there to be any grudges or hardships between us (even though I probably have a good reason to be bitter). So we've been talking again recently (of *course* through text messages), and she recently asked if I would give her a testimonial/professional reference thing, because when we were together she did help me out with some things in the particular area that we have in common. \n\nI'm very conflicted. On one hand, this is something professional. I should just do it. I'm not trying to burn any bridges, she really does need it, and it would be a good thing for me to do. On the other hand, I just don't want to. Period. Even though I'm trying to reconnect things between us, I don't feel like she deserves it. I mean, she *still* hasn't even bothered to see me or say anything to my face. It kind of feels like salt on the wound, to be honest; like, \"I know I couldn't give you the human decency of breaking up with you to your face, but why don't you just put in the extra work to make me look good in school and in my career??\" \n\nWhat would you do in this situation?", "summary": "Ex who broke up with me through text message earlier this year wants me to write a shining reference for her professional life. I'm wanting to keep a good relationship between us, but this has me conflicted. I don't think I owe it to her, I don't think she deserves it, and it just really hurts me; it's not something I want to do. On the other hand, this is *professional* and she does need it. Part of me feels like I just should suck it up and do it."}
{"id": "t3_4ykrs8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Told my crush my feelings, and I got fucked up", "post": "Well, this is fucking awkward.\n\nI went to see my crush friend and to go on a rock festival with her. When I came to her city, we went to her home to wait for her friend (girl).\nIn the meantime, I was feeling that I shouldn't hold it to myself and I told her, can you sit by my side, I have to tell you something. She was like, \"no, you can tell me from here, I feel comfortable sitting on this chair\". I was like, \"what the fuck, can you just come please\", and she was \"nah, nah, let's just be a little creative and do it over messaging app\". In my desperation to confess my stupid feelings, I said, okay, let's do it. And I wrote her the message \"Hey, I am in love with you\" and she was like \"I know\", and started writing friends bullshit.\n\nThe most intimidating thing that made me cringe was the last sentence that she wrote me \"I don't see myself having sex with you\".\n\nIt would all be alright if she wasn't the one who was saying that she hates sex and doesn't like that stuff.\n\nAlso, she said \"thank you, it's good of you to say what you feel, I really apprecaite it\".\n\nSo, later on, when her friend had arrived, we went to that stupid festival and we were roaming around. In my brokenness, I was just following them two and they were asking random strangers for weed and shit, some of them wanted sex in return for weed and that's the point they went to some place.\nWatching that from aside literally killed me. I was just standing there and watching them go away, she turned back to me and looked at me, I looked back at her in a sad way, got my hand up, waved, put my head down and turned my back and I fled away.", "summary": "Had a crush on a girl who was explicitly saying that she hates sex, told her about my feelings, said to me that she doesn't see herself having sex with me."}
{"id": "t3_2ee5r9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make MacNCheese at work", "post": "So I'm heavily pregnant (third trimester, huge and unreasonably hungry), and I have a stash of food at work so I can save money and not have to leave in this nasty ass Florida heat to go buy food. \n\nI work in a car dealership, doing business development and marketing, so I'm at my desk all day and I have the freedom to eat basically all day. Perfect. So I reup my stash of goodies today during my break with Lean Cuisines, mac n cheese cups, etc.. and I decide it's time for Mac N Cheese! Yay! \n\nI pop it in, 3 minutes keyed in the microwave and I wait impatiently, decide to make a customer phone call to kill time. As the voicemail is coming on, I realize I DID NOT PUT WATER IN, and I leave a voicemail on my customer's phone screaming and getting made fun of by my coworkers as they're clearing out the smoke, where they call me Ms Burn-A-Lot and a bunch of other dumb shit. My boss even took a picture of the melted cup and sent it to HIS boss at another store with \"We learned today (my name) is not a very good cook\"... I tried to laugh it off but I'm super fucking embarassed and I'm still hungry and I'm here another hour :(", "summary": "Almost burned down a car dealership and am getting made fun of."}
{"id": "t3_szsy7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Significant Other Is A Horrible Drive: How Do I Deal?", "post": "ill make this as short as possible. \n\nbeen dating girl for over 9 months...\n\nshe is constantly almost causing accidents, not paying attention to the road, taking wrong turns, has no sense of direction, etc. \n\ntoday she picked me up to go to campus, pulls out of the driveway going the wrong way, i ask \"do you know where you are going?\" she responds \"yes\". she continues, makes another wrong turn, i ask again \"do you know where you are going?\" \"yes!\" she replies. at this point i am becoming increasingly frustrated, on the third wrong turn i say \"is this really happening? what are you doin?!\" which consequently leads to her flipping out, becoming defensive, and saying she only knows \"one way to go\" (even though we have gone the more efficient/quicker way several times before). i ended up telling her i can no longer be in a car while she is driving (which i know was probably not the best choice of words); but my frustration with her driving inability has reached its limits! anyone know how to deal with this situation?", "summary": "gf cant drive, i can no longer tolerate, how do i deal without causing conflict?"}
{"id": "t3_nrzvw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Best/funniest/weirdest family moment these holidays?", "post": "I was bringing my new girlfriend of a month to meet the family on Christmas Eve for the first time. After I picked her up, we walk in the door, my whole group of family, extended family and friends are gathered. 'Clumpenstein, it's time we talked about your drinking....', whereas I have not had more than a beer in a night in months. After attempting to laugh it off, explain it's fake, they take us through my room, filled of course with pre-placed empties, a board of pictures showing my worst moments from the years. After completely convincing my new girl friend I'm a complete alcoholic, they start killing themselves laughing and offer us a beer....", "summary": "Family/friends hold a mock intervention for me after bringing my new girl home, almost running her off."}
{"id": "t3_e8fx0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as a treatment Anxiety?", "post": "I'm 22. Wasted 18-21 smoking (LOTS OF) pot, doing stupid shit, accumulating debt, etc. Developed a very anxious mindset of people's perception of me. My dad's entire side also have bad anxiety so I think that started really coming out as well. I've turned myself around from 21 til now.. Making good $$, paying off debt, exercising, eating well, etc... But I still have terrible anxiety. Sometimes I will feel *terribly* awkward in public, and I am horrible at meeting people for the first time. I am **deathly** socially paranoid when I'm high, if that makes any difference. I also feel like I missed out on some vital maturing into 'manhood', so I still feel like a kid and have a hard time affirming myself as an adult, even though I'm almost 23. I suppose that also has to do with me living at home, but I know it's the most responsible choice right now. Anyway, I refuse to drug myself up with Xanax or any prescription drug, but I know I most likely need some sort of treatment, whether it be a therapist or whatever. I've read some good thinks about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and am hoping my fellow redditors will have some insight, experience, helpful info, where to start, or whatever. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "I have terrible anxiety and negative/paranoid thoughts about myself. I read some very positive things about about CBT on reddit a few months ago and want to give it a try. Thoughts, comments, suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1199u9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have been on the phone with AT&T \"Premier Customer Service\" 5 times in the past 24 hours and have been hung up 3 times while on 10+ minute holds. What is the worst chat/phone customer service you've ever received?", "post": "Ordered a new phone online through AT&T. Received order confirmation via email, but something told me to call. So, upon calling I was placed on hold for quite a while before the call disconnected. This has happened three times in the past 48 hours and only two more calls other than those three have been \"successful\" calls (successful meaning I wasn't hung up on, but still they could tell me nothing) - - - except the fact that I was so fed up with being hung up on that on the last call, I requested to have my order cancelled. She said she would and that I'd receive confirmation via email, which I never did. Got in touch with chat support online only to be told that my order had not been cancelled and that I'd have to call them again. I am in a **RAGE** over the incompetence.", "summary": "After being hung up on and lied to multiple times - AT&T customer service is a fucking joke, it's so bad. "}
{"id": "t3_1ijhle", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Phone interview stumbles. Advice moving forward.", "post": "Hey there. \n\nI received my first on the spot phone interview today. It was for a non-profit. What I've come to realize is I have no idea how to do these. I'm a very social an outgoing person but when I feel pressured I trip over my words (a lot). I also tend to get like this during more formal interviews. I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas how I can better articulate my thoughts to my interviewer. I know the confidence I have in myself isn't present during my interviews, and I feel like this is greatly holding me back from landing employment.", "summary": "how do I overcome the roadblock I have with speaking/articulating my thoughts"}
{"id": "t3_1y4gyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She (20/F) only wanted casual sex which really worries me (21/M)", "post": "Today I was talking to this girl I was seeing for about a month (exclusive but not bf/gf) and after her postponing and often cancelling plans, I got her to admit that she wasn't into the relationship and thus called it off.\n\nShe said she didn't have the time or interest in a relationship, which is probably horseshit, I think she just wasn't too thrilled with me which is totally cool. \n\nAnyways, what has me worried is that I didn't see this coming, and just naturally assumed that things were progressing. In previous relationships I would get clingy and dependent. With this one, I kept my distance, didn't bombard her with texts and kept things light. It just got to be an issue when she would always be too busy to hang out, and when we did have things scheduled she would suddenly have something she needed to do (red flag obviously now).\n\nThis might sound stupid, but I'm worried that I won't be able to tell or find a girl that wants a relationship, not just fuck buddies. For some reason the idea of just having sex with someone without real attachment rubs me the wrong way. Hope I'm not alone with that.\n\nJust looking for input :) Thanks everyone.", "summary": "Can't tell what girls want, worried I'm a prude."}
{"id": "t3_1n7neq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I pocket dialed my ex", "post": "So last night I was out with some friends for a birthday. As usually my ex calls me because we have kept are \"friendship\" intact. She was my first love and broke up due to her going to college and the distance between us about 2 years ago. We still keep a sexual relationship when she comes home. Anyway after a few minuets of talking she tells me she has to go and hangs up. I go back to my friends and they start talking about a girl I have been sexual with the past few months. Guys being guys I go into graphic detail about my sexual relationship with this girl. We leave and I then realized I have left my ex a 5 minuet voice mail and I'm almost positive she heard everything. She called me in tears and I asked her what was wrong trying to play dumb. She said she didn't want to talk and hung up. This reaffirms what I believe what she had heard me say. I'm not so much upset about what I have done with this girl because obviously my ex and I are not in a relationship but I do feel horrible that she heard me say such vulgar and graphic sexual details about another girl. I would never want to hear her say anything like that even though I know she is messing around with other guys. My question is how do I go about trying to salvage are friendship. I love this girl and would do anything for her and can't stand to think that we might possibly not be friends anymore.", "summary": "Left my ex a 5 minuet voice mail about me fucking another girl."}
{"id": "t3_43agg5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by responding to anonymous boob text by sexting.", "post": "Technically, this happened last night, but whatever. \n\nI randomly received a text message from an unfamiliar number that was simply a pair of boobs. I was befuddled, because I am single, and never receive pictures of that nature. Off the bat, I could tell that their owner was obese, but they were nice boobs nontheless, so I simply said \"nice boobs\". \n\nI tried looking through my friends, social media, and Google to figure out the number, to no avail. She then sent me another picture, so I sent back a dick pic. We ended up chatting for a bit, and she explained that she was sad because she \"hadn't been appreciated in awhile\" to which I replied, \"I'm sure you're pretty, and a wonderful person\" (I was trying to be nice). \n\nAfter more texting, I decide to find out who it is. She says she knows me, and I know her, and decides to make me play \"guess who\" to figure it out. After 20 minutes of failed guessing, she sends a full body selfie in underwear, and I almost threw up. It turns out it's this lady from the bar who I've been trying to avoid, because I find her to be very unattractive and annoying. She had an out-of-state area code when I met her, but she switched to a local area code the night before sexting me. I feel like I have to avoid the bar for awhile.", "summary": "Got a random picture of boobs, sexted back, realized it was from some local girl who I think is ugly."}
{"id": "t3_33khl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my ___ [18 F] 8 months, Super Tsundere Girl that I need help learning to work with.", "post": "Hey People,\nSo I've been in love (and dating) this girl for awhile now. She's really similar to me (my friends call her the female version of me). We both really like video games, drawing, programming, sex, and more.\n\nSo perfect right, why am I bitching? Well there's one big difference between us. I'm very calm and easy going. She's a massive Tsundere. She'll be very affectionate with me at times, but she's also very violent and will often suddenly attack me for odd reasons. Like the other day I joked about her being a dirty achievement hunter in Portal 2 (jokingly) and she threw both her shoes at me. I'm not sure if this is normal or if I'm doing something overly wrong.\n\nI figured I would ask reddit. (Also if the shoe throwing thing seems mild, the other night she got pissed at me for leaving milk on the counter and almost stabbed me with a kitchen knife. Two minutes later she whispered she wanted my babies (in front of my roomate)).\n\nSo yeah, help me reddit. I'm scared...", "summary": "Am I at fault here, is this normal behaviour? This is the first girl I've ever loved so I'm ew to the buisness."}
{"id": "t3_12zxqb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, who is/was your biggest role model (who you actually knew)?", "post": "I'll start. Like other redditors, I grew up as a nerd. From 3rd grade on, I was the class nerd. And it sucked. Even in the smarter classes, I was the nerd, just because I liked to learn. \n\nFast forward to my freshman year of high school. I was this awkward kid on a student government retreat with other students from all grades. I am social, but I used to come off kind of nerdy, and incredibly annoying. Anyway, I met this one senior, and I realized I was actually similar to this guy in a lot of ways; he was clearly smart, but at the same time he was funny, confident, and altogether a cool guy. He had it together, something I just didn't know.\n\nI ended up basically adoring him for the next 2 years, trying to be like him in any way I could. I've mostly grown out of that, but I've retained some good traits that I didn't have before. Now I'm comfortable approaching people my age who I don't really know, and I'm a lot less annoying to be around. If I hadn't met this guy, I don't know where I would be or if I would even have close friends.\n\nI know the guy is a redditor, too, so if you see this, thanks for everything.", "summary": "A guy I met my freshman year helped me go from complete nerd to social and fun-to-be-around kind of guy."}
{"id": "t3_11yrlm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex-boyfriend [26/M] went full blown confessional on me [24/F] this weekend.", "post": "Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen?", "summary": "exboyfriend confessed he still has all these feelings for me when he was drinking, and now won't return my calls or messages."}
{"id": "t3_1c6zjq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16]Can't deal with long distance relationship.", "post": "Hi, I'm coming out on a limb here since I am really struggling to look for advice. I'm a Junior in high school and my girlfriend, a senior, and I have been dating since the start of my sophomore year. In total, that is about 1 year and 5 months. I've been eyeing her since freshman year and she truly is a love-at-first sight beauty to me. We started our relationship living 10 minute walk distance from each other. After about 8 months or so she moved and I see her once a week, usually Saturday. I understand that people view highschool relationships are \"bogus\" to others be the bond we have between each other have been steering me from that predicament. We have never fought until a year and 2 months into our relationship, probably due to our distance. I really want to be with her and she really wants to be with me. I've been having a really hard time dealing with it and I really need advice. I don't want to sound like a joke, but I've bought her a promise ring and gave it to her already. I know some off you may laugh, but I'm asking for some pity and understand my situation. If it also helps, she has a car but her mom won't allow her to drive and I currently don't have a car.", "summary": "Long term relationship, 1 day a week of seeing each other, is tearing us apart."}
{"id": "t3_2tp3x4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] seeing a [30 F] both expats, she has a bf back home, need some advice", "post": "Hey so I moved to a new country for work. Here I met this girl who did the same thing. We met about three months ago when she moved here and when she did she had been with a boyfriend for about a year and at the time I didn't care much.\n\nWe've been getting closer to each other to the point we she or I stay over basically every weekend and spend a lot of time together. So I've gotten quite attached to her and some days I believe she has as well. I know she still talks to the other guy and I actually understand it. She says they are not bf and gf anymore (I didn't ask for this, she just came with this after the xmas break) but I can imagine you don't just undo a relationship like that overnight.\n\nSo I have some weeks when she is super lovely but then she suddenly starts being distant and hard to reach for a few days. It drives me crazy because she has been so non-vocal about everything. She just says she is tired and prefers to stay home than doing something with me. And then the weekend comes and she is all nice again.  \n\nThis is driving me quite crazy and I've \"decided\" to break it up like three times and every time I decide to wait for a while because a part  of me tells me that in the great scheme of things waiting for her for a while might be worth it. Another part of me tells me she is just having fun with me and I am idiot.\n\nAnyway, I don't know if I just wanted to share this or to actually just get some advice. Anything will work at this point to be honest. Am I an idiot? \n\nJust for clarification, we are both staying in the country for at least two more years and the bf does not have plans to move to this country so that is out of the question.", "summary": "I am an expat, she is an expat on the same country. We are seeing each other but she still has a relationship back home. Am I an idiot?"}
{"id": "t3_4fwua9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Be sure to explain in detaiNeed advice... Love (M / 24) my girlfriend (F / 24) and childhood friend (F / 22).", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years and it's great. Things have settled/calmed down (which isn't a bad thing). I still very much enjoy spending time with her and can truly say that I love her. However, I have a female friend that I've known for almost my whole life and although I'm sure we've had \"thoughts\" of being together, neither of us have ever brought up the topic or pursued for that status. That is... until now. \n\nI can't say for certain when it began to happen or what caused the sudden \"click\". This friend and I have been talking more and hanging out more (maybe due to my gf living hours away now because of grad-school). Which wasn't a problem before because we always labeled one another as friends and only friends. But as of lately our conversations have become more than just friendly conversations (many more compliments given to me /  slight flirting). There was a point where we were walking together and our hands kept bumping into each other and we kind of just gave each other this stare... almost as if we both wanted to hold hands. I'm an idiot for letting myself get into this situation, but I think I can truly say that I love both girls.", "summary": "I love my girlfriend who I've been with for years, but also now love my best friend that I've known since my childhood."}
{"id": "t3_1f4jud", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When do you know that a guy is no longer interested in you?", "post": "I'm an oblivious and pretty sheltered 27 yr old f that's never been witness to a successful relationship (aka, parents, other family members, etc.) so I have no idea 1) what a relatively 'normal' relationship looks like or how it functions, 2) How to tell if a guy likes you, and on the other hand 3) How to tell when a guy just isn't that into you.\n\nI understand that the term 'normal' is open to interpretation, but even some guidelines would help. \n\nI come from a single-parent home, I've never seen my mom and dad interact with anything more than a handshake and an awkward hello/goodbye. The only good relationship I've seen is my two best friends from high school that married each other. About a year ago, I got out of a 2-year relationship with an alcoholic that rendered my 'relationship gauges' completely fucked and useless.\n\nSo go ahead reddit, dispense your advice in all its glory!", "summary": "I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FUCK I'M DOING."}
{"id": "t3_1ugzfw", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I just need to vent, thanks.", "post": "Started the divorce process a bit over a week ago I think, and I am dying... We've been married to each other twice, and she really is amazing most of the time. The last couple of years has been harsh, though, it feels like her friendship with me has dried up, and no matter what I do to tried to rekindle it, I was met with indifference. I have been through a lot, otherwise, over the past few years, my brother came out (way late, I regret every second I couldn't be supportive for him), I flushed a bunch of remnants of a religious upbringing, and I exposed the real me, who just wants the world to be amazing for everyone. \n\nIt doesn't even start to describe it, but seeing (especially being the cause of) happiness makes me so happy inside. I get to feeling like every single particle in my body is vibrating, like my molecular structure is smiling with us. Since shedding the macho side of me, the part installed by childhood and past wounds, I have done everything I can to make her happy, tried to get interested in everything she likes, ignored the fact that she didn't care about my effort or my interests, just trying to make it work. I've repeatedly hinted that a relationship isn't a cruise control friendship, it is very worthwhile work for both (all) parties involved. After a couple years, I have become hollow, it feels. I still want to make the world a better place, but I am now so broken that I just don't have the energy to do much but just try to live. When I told her I wanted a divorce, she told me she saw it coming, and moved along.\nAfter having been married for so long, most of our friends are just that, our friends, and I don't want to go around seemingly talking shit about her, but damn... I've told her for so long that I am dying inside because of our relationship, and that if she is just stringing me along, to just tell me, so I can stop hurting, and then when the end comes, 'I was expecting it'??", "summary": "I'm fucking hurt, wounded, and I don't feel like I have any way to get relief. Going through a divorce where the love was lost on the other 'side' long ago, and needed to get it off of my chest."}
{"id": "t3_16t870", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21m] When's the right time to try online dating?", "post": "So I think this is the right subreddit but if not my apologies. Anyway, I just moved to new city on the complete other side of the country to go live with some friends. Coming out here I thought that it would be a new start, a way to sort of live a little more and for the most part it has. Its a big house with a lot of people in it but we never really go out, its just people come here.  The longer I'm here I also notice its the same people most of the time which is fine, there all great people.  I'm at a point though where I want to be meeting a bunch of people and I've never been big on just going out by myself, so I'm thinking maybe the online dating thing is the way to go.  The question I have though, is 21 to young to be trying out online dating?  Any advice would be really great. Thanks!", "summary": "Is 21 to young to start online dating?"}
{"id": "t3_4i3o8r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (16m) and SO(17f) of 7 months, at track practice earlier today he'd coach told her and a few other athletes that they need to stop \"exercising so much\" exercising meaning sex after further elaboration. Eventually leading to him threatening to not take my gf to districts which is this Saturday.", "post": "So a bit of background and sorry for any typos this is on my phone. My girlfriend has been in track the past two seasons usually placing top 3 in her main event and top eight in the other two. Recently she has refused to do one of her side events due to an injury that is worsened by said event which I believe to be why the coach has done this.  \n\nSo on to the story, today at track everything goes as normal until about 30 minutes in when her coach calls her and about 5 other people in relationships over (side note: none of these peoples SO's including me distract at any sort of track practice or event.) and tells them they could be throwing and running so much better if they would stop \"exercising\" so much.  He asks if he needs to clarify and my girlfriend says \"yes what do you mean?\" Knowing exactly what he meant. He tells them then they need to stop having sex. My girlfriend walks away after this and he follows her and tells her he doesn't appreciate how she acted when she said that and is now considering not taking her to districts. My girlfriend listens to this then goes and begins to practice her event obviously upset until practice ends and I come and pick her up. \n\nMe and her both have no clue what to do and whether or not we should report him to the school. I'm just asking for advice on how to handle this situation.", "summary": "coach tells my girlfriend and a few other they need to stop having sex. One thing leads to another and he threatens to not take my girlfriend to districts on Saturday"}
{"id": "t3_25i9xc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[24 F] have been dating for 2.5 years, having problems, is it time to call it quit?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years. We moved in with each other about 1.5 years ago and everything was fine. I am enrolled in school full time, working 25 hours a week, and in the process of starting a business. She is in school part time and works a full time job. My day starts at 7am, her day starts whenever she wakes up.\n\nLately,  we have been getting on each other nerves, and she has been doing things that just make me angry and annoy me to no ends. We constantly bicker back and forth. She constantly reminds me what she brought into our apartment. An example is, \"why do you flop in the couch, it is because you didn't pay for it\". I am not flopping in anything. \n\nShe also wants to cuddle but I am always doing homework and something else, then she complains that I don't spend any time with her. We don't really go on dates anymore, and our sex life is about once a week, which I am fine with because my sex drive isn't that high, but she is not.\n\nWe nearly broke up a year, but manage to fix things, but unfortunately they were just temporary fixes. Is it time to call it quits?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, been getting on each other nerves and both are very busy with everything. Is it time to call it quits?"}
{"id": "t3_1pxlu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First \"BreakUp\" Need Help Please", "post": "I'm not going to go into details here. I (m18) told my SO(f18) that I needed a break and that I dont know how long of a break I need but I need one. I have never felt as much pain in my life as I did when she began crying. I went through th hysteria phase and the second thought phase. Now i feel dead. I dont know what is wrong I feel empty and alone both emotionally and physically since I have no friends or support in the town im currently living in. Please Please Please does anyone have advice im in dire need of it.", "summary": "first break up and I feel terrible."}
{"id": "t3_3brnmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you consider the start date of your relationship? Me 25/m and my girlfriend 25/f disagree!", "post": "Our relationship timeline has been relatively typical, but we were asked by a friend how long we've been together and we surprised each other because we each had different answers! In the scheme of things, this shouldn't be a huge deal. But I'm curious how other people would consider this. \n\nWe were acquaintances before our first date. Here's the next part of the timeline.....\n\n* November and December we had our first few dates. Some were spaced out by a week or 2, especially because we traveled away during holidays. Here's the kicker, we weren't exclusive at this point. She went on a couple other dates during these months. I went out on another date too around this time.\n\n* January and February, continued seeing each other regularly. Talked about how we liked spending time with each other. Regular talking. Spent Valentines together. Neither of us saw anyone else during this time.\n\n* March, made it official and talked about being exclusive. \n\nI say we've been together since November, because we had our first date then and have seen each other relatively consistently since then, other than a few holiday trips and work trips. \n\nShe says we've been together since March, because that's when we were officially exclusive.\n\nI get her point, the relationship wasn't defined until March. I also am not so naive to think that maybe she possibly saw other guys during January or February and doesn't feel like those months should count. But whatever, we weren't exclusive, so it's not as if she was cheating. The same logic could apply to me if I saw someone else.\n\nWhat do you consider the start day of a relationship? I feel like our timeline is pretty typical. And people ask the question in different ways. \"How long have you....been dating?.......been seeing each other?.....been together?.....been a couple?\" I think these questions all ask the same thing, even if they are worded differently--and I think the answer is clearly November, when we had our 1st date (and 2nd and 3rd...etc). And things have been relatively continuous since then, even if it wasn't totally exclusive the first couple months.", "summary": "We disagree on what to consider as the start date for our relationship. What do you consider the start date?"}
{"id": "t3_3liyxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my girlfriend [24F] 2yr, I think she has alcohol problem", "post": "When she gets drunk, she becomes very selfish.\n\nHer mom is alcoholic. She told me her childhood stories like\u2026 many night her mom passed out in the house. \n\nShe did a 23andMe test long before they stop giving medical related suggestion of you. She knows that she has some issue.\n\nOnce she told me: sometimes her small daily decision is made gearing towards alcohol. Like\u2026 \"what do I eat? oh if I go to the restaurant A, I can have a glass of beer.\"\n\nShe is not forever drunk. When she's sober, she's very nice and sometimes even apologetic for the things she did the night before.\n\nWe tried not having any alcohol for a month. It wasn't too difficult for\u2026\u00a0I guess both of us. I surely had some moments missing a cold glass of beer on a hot summer day but I didn't mind because I thought we were doing this for a greater good. One day, she came home drunk with her female friend (who is gonna get married soon, my gf is a bridesmaid), then she started to drink again.", "summary": "Often times, she is not nice when she is drunk. I don't know how to let her know."}
{"id": "t3_de1jy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Unrelated (I hope) question from the eating disorder thread", "post": "Reading through (most of) [this] thread, I'm curious if there's a classification of eating disorder not related to perceived attractiveness?  More specifically, take that classic skinny nerd who cries 'high metabolism' but only manages around 1500 calories/day of mostly processed crap.  Say he/she knows this, is bothered by it, and still can't change it?  Not like they don't want to badly enough to do something.  But say there's been repeated efforts to increase daily intake (and quality), but meals go unfinished and eventually unprepared.  Even writing this I'm thinking 'buck up or stop whining'... but I'm legitimately curious to see  if this area has been explored professionally, or at least hear some personal accounts or clever flames.\n\nI've dated a girl and later found out an eating disorder started about the same time of our relationship.  There was plenty else going on, but just recently had another tell me she felt too chubby around me to actually date.  She has a fantastic body that I would guess falls right into average/healthy.", "summary": "version:  Can you have an eating disorder without excessive dieting, concern for weight or image, and could it be somehow reversely contagious?"}
{"id": "t3_503nla", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Want to pick things up between me [27/M] and girl from tinder[22/F] after a few dates.", "post": "Hello,\n\nSo I live in the Philippines, moved here a few weeks ago, and man, it is so easy to meet people here. Ridiculously easy. There are many reasons, I know; some less than honorable.\n\nI have met a few women on Tinder here, and they just wanted to have fun with a buncha different guys. I have been talking to one [22/F], have met up with her twice now, and we have been doing it like animals after our dates. After the second time, I told her that I might start getting more serious with her because I don't like just fooling around. Her attitude since then has been positive and receptive about it; we are actually meeting again tomorrow at my place and I am making dinner (paella, she loves that stuff), then taking her out to the rooftop to check out the beautiful view of Makati City. We have kinda talked and have both decided to have a serious talk when she comes.\n\nHowever, my issues stem from when she was leaving the other day, she had to shower and left her phone unlocked on the bed, and I saw a message from some guy it looked like she was making plans with. I don't know if she followed through or what not, but I always overthink things regardless and let it stress me out. \n\nSome people tell me 'you aren't together, let her do her thing; but if you do go official, it has to stop of course' and others 'drop that sh*t right now, you ain't got time for that'. It's super confusing.\n\nThe best I can think of right now is to just do what I wanted to do and check the phone [issues! i know], and not say anything about anything, just handle it appropriately and with class/dignity.", "summary": "possible tinder tramp, should i give in to my trust issues before asking for a more serious thing between us?"}
{"id": "t3_kdj5v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend is in a horrible relationship, what can I do to help him?", "post": "Hi Reddit, so my best friend (Roger) has been in a horrible relationship for the past 3 years and I don't know what kind of advice to give him in order to help his situation. Roger doesn't even live with his girlfriend, yet she makes him cook most her meals, walk her dog, do her laundry, etc (all basic chores). On top of this, his girlfriend verbally and emotionally abuses him when they are not in public. I should also mention that their relationship status changes every week or so.\n\nThe reason why I thought Roger wouldn't leave his girlfriend was because he has very low self esteem, yet the girls I know find him quite attractive. I just found out a few days ago though that Roger and his girlfriend have herpes (Roger got it from his ex). \n\nSo Reddit, what can I do to help my friend?", "summary": "Need advice for friend with herpes in bad relationship."}
{"id": "t3_zup2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend is lazy and self centered when he smokes", "post": "Me (f25) him (m24) dating almost three years. He turns into a shitty boyfriend when he smokes weed. He has been trying to \"quit\" for a while now but every time he says he will it only lasts for a month or two and then he starts again. He's great when he's not smoking. Attentive, considerate, etc. Then when he smokes he turns into a lazy self centered brat. \n\nFor example, I've been gone for two days for various dental appointments. Today I got up at 6 am, had two cavities filled, went to work from 9 to 4:30, and got home after having been gone for two days. The entire time I was gone I didn't text him or call him once as I knew he would value the space to play guild wars. I walk in the door, his roommate says hi and asks how my dental appointment went and says he missed me. My boyfriend turns around, says he got up at ONE PM, doesn't ask me how I'm feeling or kiss me hello, and asks me to make dinner. I hadn't even been home for ten minutes. Literally. I exploded and told him that he had been awake for about four hours and that he could make his own dinner. He got mad and stormed off. WTF? Am I missing something here? I make dinner for him every night after I get home from work. \n\nHe is not even working right now he just plays guild wars and smokes all day while I'm gone. I go running, run errands, hang out with friends, and am in the house maybe a total of four hours a day. And when I'm home he just wants dinner or ignores me. And all this is only while he's in his smoking phase. When he stops I come home to dinner made, a clean house, and a boyfriend who is affectionate. How the hell do I get him to stop smoking or at least stop acting like a selfish brat when he's high?", "summary": "boyfriend is a shitty boyfriend when he's high, how do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_rijuu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Feeling guilty about a horrible situation from the past, do I bring it up?", "post": "Ok, so this is really effed up, but it's been eating at me for years and I just need honest, unbiased, anonymous opinions.. I had serious problems as a child, loner, speech impediment issues, shyness/social awkwardness, ugly, no confidence and parents who refused to acknowledge any of it. I started masturbating at a very young age, it made me feel good when nothing else did. Problem starts a few years later, my 6 years younger sister (I'm a girl btw) goes through the similar issues at age 10, instead of speech problems, she is a bed wetter, and I in the midst of depression, thought to help her by showing her how to get off, I did it to her the first time. She liked it and started doing it all the time. After I left home, she got into a deeper depression and started cutting herself, now flash forward 14 years, she seems to be ok and is now an adult. I feel horrible for what I did to her, I think I should be in jail for what I did, at the time I really thought it would help her because she was suffering the way I did but it was a total violation of a minor. Do I bring it up? Has she even remembered? It's never been discussed or even alluded to but it's a terrible thing to have consuming you and I just don't know how to deal.", "summary": "There is none, just read what I wrote."}
{"id": "t3_3gdzhk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me . My friend and her all 20 .. Wanted to get it off my chest", "post": "So well we all three knew I liked her.My friend didn't have an interested in her until I made I clear to him and her separately that I liked her..So then he made advances behind my back and she well ignored me and got close to him so I stopped communications with her but I haven't given my friend a cold shoulder or anything ... Actually what really bothers me is that first he broke our bro code and second he is a serious playboy and I know all about his other GFs..Just wanted to vent out my feelings", "summary": "I fell cheated but don't think really!"}
{"id": "t3_4qyqvl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [20 M] and my [19 M] crush has overprotective aunt and uncle", "post": "So, I live in a pretty sparsely populated area. My crush lives a couple of farms down from me with his aunt and uncle. He's 19 and very handsome and kind. I see him around town sometimes and we talk about mechanics and stuff. Once, he invited me over to his house for a glass of milk. \n\nI'd love to hang out more, but his aunt and uncle (especially his uncle) are super protective and always keep him busy with chores and rarely let him hang out or get away for a while. I invited him over to a party at my place, but his uncle wouldn't let him go. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "My crush has really overprotective guardians and they won't let him do anything."}
{"id": "t3_14b7lc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In honor of finals week, I'd like to ask Reddit, what is the most amount of work you had to do in only a short period of time?", "post": "For me, it was about a month ago where i procrastinated a week of work and had to do it all in a single day. It may not be a lot for some of you more experienced college kids/ working men/women, but for me i was swamped.\n\nHere is a list of the work i had to do:\n\n1. A 10 page term paper that was required to include 10 sources (2 of which from actual books and not the internet) in APA style format. \n\n2. A 2 week nutrition diary that i had to include times of day and the calories that each item had, which of course i completely bullshitted.\n\n3. A 6 page research paper of our choice with 10 sources MLA style\n\n4. (Because I'm studying exercise science) A Detailed workout regiment of at least 3 times per week that i have done and what affect they have plus the duration/rep count/intensity/sets.\n\n5. Practice and conditioning for baseball - trust me this does eat up a lot of god damn time, plus the time it takes to get ready, get to the field, and to shower afterwards.\n\n6. Actually going to class - I'm going to throw this in there because it did eat up a good portion of the time i could have been working on the work mentioned above.\n\nAgain, this may not sound like a lot, but each of these activities were very time consuming and it took many energy drinks, a sleepless night,  and a damn good amount of motivation to complete aka not getting on Reddit. Also i had to turn down all my friends that wanted to hang out. Btw this was over the span of 2 days because it's a mix of my Monday-Wednesday-Friday classes and my Tuesday-Thursday classes.", "summary": "I procrastinated and had a SHITLOAD of assignments due in the next two days and by some miracle i managed to finish them all before deadline."}
{"id": "t3_12kztz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "uh-oh. crushing on my advisor mega.", "post": "Dr. X used to be my professor. He is in his 30s. I am 24. I switched my major and he is now my advisor and I am completely crushing. He is single and has asked me to do research with him.\n\nI need to know what I should do? Will this work out or is it a bad idea? We seem to have quite a bit in common and our conversations are really easy and flow. I just know we will be working together over the next two years and it will develop if we are into it. I am just at the point where I just want to see him every second and tell him, hey, I like you.", "summary": "I like my advisor. He likes me, too. How can I move this relationship along, or do I need to?"}
{"id": "t3_4vyf3x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my Best Friend[24 F], she has tunnel wedding vision and I want my best friend back. Help!", "post": "My best friend is getting married in a few months and Im her MOH. Im so excited to celebrate her and her new hubby. She lives in another state from me. Lately though, the ONLY conversation we have regards the wedding somehow. In the last few months, Ive had some really tough family situations revolving around my brother and dont feel like Ive had any support from her. She is extremely sensitive and I dont want to hurt her feelings or put a damper on the wedding plans. I just need my best friend back. This might seem silly, but I have no idea how to get the conversation going and leading to she hasnt been there for me when I desperately needed her the most. How do I go about this?", "summary": "Best friend has wedding tunnel vision and hasnt supported me in times of need."}
{"id": "t3_2urveb", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I seek professional tax help?", "post": "I have always done my own taxes. My father always did his, and, throughout my childhood, I had a helping hand. As the world began to transition into the land of the Internet Of Things, my father would do his pen and paper taxes, then have me help him translate that into TurboTax. He would scrutinize and, once he was satisfied, we would submit his return and I would get cake.\n\nAs I grew up, this is how I always filed my own personal income tax returns. Fairly straightforward. Many people do it. It's always worked for me, I've never run into any serious problems, I've always gotten a return (although it's never enough, but whose is?)\n\nThis year, however, is a complicated tax year for me. I moved to a state that charges state income tax with my previous employer. They took care of the state taxes on the front end, but I ended my employment with them in August and have been working since then employed elsewhere, so the state taxes for that portion of the year were not taken care of. I also cashed in my 401k early. I know, it's a big no-no, but sometimes you really have to, and I did. \n\nI earned no other income than what was earned through employment with companies one and two. I earned no out of state income this year.\n\n**bold", "summary": "I'm concerned that the expenses of seeking professional tax help will outweigh the benefit, and would like to know if within these circumstances I'm knowledgeable enough to do it myself."}
{"id": "t3_hbk80", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I help a woman whose spouse ignores that she's pregnant?", "post": "My neighbor is in a tight spot. She's due any day now, but her husband still refuses to acknowledge their *planned* pregnancy. I can't share much detail about their private life. We're not particularly close, but I've gathered the following from just a couple conversations:\n\nHe won't help her with anything domestic. I stopped her from lifting heavy trash bags today because he refused to help, despite her wearing a back support. She said he won't touch her belly and hasn't the whole pregnancy. He won't read any pregnancy literature, refuses to take classes or prepare with her, and she's not even sure he'll be there for the birth (although a doula will). He also has no friends who are committed or have children and does as he pleases. He's refused couples therapy. Finally, he HAS found a job (he's finishing up his MBA) and they are planning their relocation, although, from what I understand, he's pretty bitter about having to do so, and she's expected to do the packing.\n\nI have about two weeks to help a woman who stated that if she can just take care of everything for the first six months after the baby's birth, maybe her spouse will come around. She looks like she wants to melt into the earth. I know some level of detachment is normal for first-time fathers, but this situation seems very extreme to me.  Has anyone experienced anything like this level of detachment?  Is there a light at the end of their tunnel?  What, if anything, can I do to help the situation without seeming like a nosy neighbor?", "summary": "Guy next door is making his pregnant wife do all the heavy lifting.  WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_chncz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm quitting a job, but my boss just increased  my salary!", "post": "I'm currently working in an Investment Bank, and by god, I hate it so much but I've been staying on because the money was good. Recently, after a series of argument with my boss (she's a female) I decided to leave the company for good... until today. \n\nI realized she increased my salary by two times!! Two bloody freaking times. I know that if I step out of this bank, I'll never see that kind of salary at my age (I'm 26) and it will take at least 10-15 years before any other companies would offer that  kind of salary to me.\n\nI'm in a limbo now. I hate the working hours that usually runs late into morning and I have to pull almost 100-120 hours a week at work, but the salary is mouth watering! Wtf do I do?? HELP", "summary": "Work sucks and lots of arguments with female boss, but got a raise that no other companies can match. Wtf do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_gf1rt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My roommate is gone for a month, and his friend needs a place to stay for a few days. Is this a big mistake?", "post": "A little backstory:\n\nI have been renting a place with a roommate whom his dad owns. The living arrangement turned out great since I didn't have to sign the lease so I can back out anytime I want, and his dad is pretty laid back. \n\nPrior to my roommates leave, he and his friend would come over and chill, which I was totally cool with. Now, my roommate is in rehab for heroin use for the second time and wants to house his friend to \"get his act straight.\" I don't know him or trust him since he has a history of heroin use and still might be. To make matters worse, the gutters above my balcony and found about 25 syringes. I'm not usually paranoid, but I have a lot of valuable items in the general area that could be prime candidate for pawning (i.e: surround system speakers, tv, and game systems). Also my roommate had asked if it was alright to copy a set of keys for his friend in which I responded, \"Hell no.\" I already have my BR door key-locked.\n\nI have yet to talk to the dad or my roommate about these issues, but that is my top priority after work today.", "summary": "Roommate ex-junkie friend is living with me (just us two), how do i smooth this out?"}
{"id": "t3_1rd2c2", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "National Park Roadtrip Ideas SW US, Arizona/Utah Border Region", "post": "My brother is moving to Tucson for work, and next week we will be departing from Chicago to drive his meager carload of possessions to his new home. The plan as it stands is to arrive in Denver late Friday night, and drive from Denver to Tucson, stopping at a few of the parks and sites along the way. I fly back to Chicago on Tuesday, so the goal is to be at his house in Tucson no later than late Monday night. \n\nNow I've never been to this part of the country before and naturally, the priority is to see the famed desert majesty of the region.  I'm familiar with Monument Valley, Arches National Park, Lake Powell, and of course, the Grand Canyon, but I'm unsure of how to maximize our time given how short of a window we have. \n\nSo the questions remain: Which site are the most worthwhile? Would it be best to just hit one of the parks over the course of a full day?  Is it enough to just stop into a few for a short time along the drive?  \n\nWe have a tent and camping gear, so can definitely camp, though I've done so little prep I'm not even sure if that's advisable this time of year. Input on that front welcome as well.", "summary": "Which of the sites should we hit between Denver and Tucson over a short period of time."}
{"id": "t3_j7g1v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most ridiculous reason a boyfriend/girlfriend has gotten annoyed at you for?", "post": "Mine:\nWe got home from a date and since we are both avid gamers, we were planning on playing some Halo together. She went to the bathroom for a couple minutes and I loaded up a game and started playing some Halo on my own before she got back. When she came back and saw I had already started, she flippped a shit! She expected I would wait until she got back and stormed out.\n\nBeing a responsible boyfriend ahh I mean responsible xbox live player, I decided to play for another 5-7 minutes and finish the game before going out to find where she went. I eventually found her and after profusely apologizing for playing Halo without her (while straining to not burst out laughing), I convinced to play some more Halo with me.", "summary": "I played Halo without her"}
{"id": "t3_2cmpi3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] am having trouble dealing with my GF[23F] breaking up with me, please help", "post": "So, my gf and I have been together for almost 3 years. They have not been perfect but who's relationship is? I have had an incredible time and I love her very much though. We broke up about 2 months ago, and have since been still seeing each other and hooking up occasionally, during which, I have been taking the time to really do fun and nice things with her which we didn't do much of before in our relationship like going out on dates etc. Things were going great up until the other day, when out of the blue she said she wants to stop. She says she doesn't see our relationship going anywhere and wants to just be single. Of course, my head goes crazy thinking she's found someone new, has a crush on someone, or is possibly hooking up with my ex-best friend (which is a long shot, even for me to believe but it's still there in my head) I am having a terrible time dealing with this, as my life has been spiraling downward over the past 2 months. We broke up, I lost my living arrangements, lost my friends, and just last weekend lost my job. And now I'm gonna lose her too. I'm so lonely and scared. I'm in a new place with no one to comfort me and be with me and I don't wanna lose her. It's not just the sex either, I don't wanna lose hanging out with her, having fun and experiencing life together. I can't say she's marriage material for me, but I still love what we're doing. I don't know what to do. Part of my head says she's right it may not work out, but the other part of me is screaming to do anything to keep her in my life. Please reddit, any advice or help would mean the world to me.", "summary": "GF of 3 years wants to break up for real, having a tough time accepting it while going through a rough time in my life"}
{"id": "t3_38reiv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can I [17 M] still ask her [16 F] out if my friend told me she said she doesn't like me or is that innapropriate?", "post": "isn't being best friends a good thing? I've known her for almost a year, but over the past few months we've gotten really close. Her friend (F) told me she said she'd never like me cause we're too good of friends. Is there anything I can do or should I up just move on? This honestly sucks since she gave me so many positive signs. Everyone has said how we're totally gonna date and we're both each other's types. I just don't get how we have SO much in common, but she punishes me by being so close to her. If I got less close to her would here be a better chance she would like me? Should I still ask her out since she said this to my friend and not me, or do I just move on? I've been planning on asking her out for a while. Her friend still told me she thinks well date, but I just need to give it time. This worries me cause each day that passes is a day close she gets to finding someone else.", "summary": "Is the only option to move on or can things chance?"}
{"id": "t3_3e6z9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [24/F] been dating a guy [23/M] 2 months, is it going anywhere?", "post": "We get on great on every date, and have spent a couple of full weekends together, see each other about twice a week and I really like this guy.\n\nI'm leaving the city we both live in at the moment in 2 weeks time to move back home for 2 months, this is a 2 hour drive away from him. Then in 2 months time we will both be moving to the same city. \n\nThe last time I saw him he said he would make it official if I wasn't moving away in a few weeks, he said he's done long distance before and he doesn't want to put pressure on either of us. He said when we are both in the same city he would make it official. He also said that he wouldn't have introduced me to his mum if he didn't see it going anywhere.\n\nHowever, surely if he was that interested he would just make it official now? I don't really understand what the distance has to do with it or what pressure there would be? He's said he will still see me on a weekend when we live away from each other. I'm not quite sure if this is just an excuse?", "summary": "Why wouldn't he make it official now?"}
{"id": "t3_1hue04", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Experiencing symptoms of restless leg syndrome at bedtime...but only after a run- is this normal/harmless...?", "post": "I've been an on and off runner for the past five/ten years. For reference, I'm a twenty-three year old female. I come from a long line of runners- that's pretty much our go to exercise. I'm not that great at it, though, and I've never been able to jog two miles nonstop. I think the best I could do was a mile and a half, two miles in about thirty minutes. I'm slow. \n\nAnyway, I tend to go for months running four days in a row for several months and then I stop running for several months. I'm on the upswing right now, and I've been doing a C25K for the past three weeks. Since I've started running again, every night (sometimes every other night) I experience symptoms of restless leg syndrome- the best example I can give is that my legs feel like a radio station turned to static, and the volume slowly gets turned up until it's unbearable and I *HAVE* to move my legs, at which point the volume goes back down to nothing, only to slowly increase again. \n\nThis isn't the first time that I've experienced these symptoms, and I did have to go to the doctor a few months ago for nighttime lower leg pain (she checked for blood clots and we couldn't find anything, so I just left with a prescription for 800 mg ibuprofen). I don't think it's a serious issue, as I've researched restless leg syndrome and there's nothing in any of the articles I've read that have raised any flags, but I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this and if it means anything injury wise?", "summary": "I'm getting symptoms of restless leg syndrome after a run. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_2b3r6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my 22 [F] of 3 months.", "post": "How do you deal with prolonged periods of no sex. Its been like 3 weeks and we've had sex once when I woke up horny at 4am and initiated.  Now the first of the 3 weeks she had her period so that's understandable, then we were staying with her family for a few days and she didn't want to have sex in their house.  Then she went on vacation for another week so that is about 2.5 weeks.  But there was a couple days between where we had the opportunity and she didn't want to have sex.  Then she got back from vacation and I only asked one thing, that she shave/wax/trim so when she gets back I can have something nice to work with.  She didn't but I wasn't going to complain because I feel like that is a selfish thing to complain about.  I brought it up and she said it was nothing, but I still couldn't get it out of my head.  Talked to her again about it because she could tell it was bothering me still and she just says she's been tired from work and busy with school, which she has.  But I still get a little ego hurt when she doesn't want to have sex.(She early on said she usually is quite horny and for the first 2 months she was).  I feel like a total dick because I let it affect me and change my mood making our time together not as fun, but at the same time I do need to feel sexually wanted.  I am conflicted between being an ass for wanting sex and feeling bad about that and then also the lack of sex, just creating a huge mix of emotions.  How do you cope with that?", "summary": "How do you cope with your emotions in those prolonged times of stress where your partner just isn't in the mood for sex?"}
{"id": "t3_xfg60", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do criminal records werk? Can they be accessed by anyone?", "post": "I am trying to figure out what my neighbor went to prison for in New York State.  I know that in New Mexico (where I am a felon) it is possible to do an offender search with nmcourts.gov and I am trying to figure out how to do something similar with the state of new york.  It isn't really any of my business what he was incarcerated for, but he and I have talked about it and I don't think the story that he tells me is entirely true. \n\nI found some websites that do criminal background checks, but they require a fee.  I also thought that criminal records were a matter of public record, but perhaps not. \n\nI thought that perhaps my google-fu was strong enough to find such information on my own; it isn't.", "summary": "How can I access criminal records for NY without paying?"}
{"id": "t3_3gyzlo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not taking an umbrella with me to work.", "post": "Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah\n\nEven more\n\nBlah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah", "summary": "I misread the weather report this morning and it's been heavy showers all afternoon. I have a 2 mile walk home. FML."}
{"id": "t3_209h49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need help with my long distance relationship. I am 19 M, she is 20 F", "post": "I met a girl a few months ago online.  I was instantly attracted to her, there was just something about her that I loved, but cannot explain.  We texted a lot, then started talking on the phone.  We are constantly talking to each other, and tell each other that we love each other.  I truly love everything about her, and want to be with her.  We live 12 hours away btw.  We eventually decided to meet each other in June.\n\nThere is one problem though.  Every now and then, she says that she is not good enough for me.  That I should just find a better girl, because she is not what I want.  She is afraid that when we meet, that I will not like who she is.  I also fear that she will not like me in person.  I am sure that I will love her in person, the way I do now.\n\nI have tried so hard to tell her how much I love her, and that she is everything that I ever wanted, because she is.  She just keeps thinking that she is not good enough for me.  \n\nWhat can I do?  What should I do to let her know that she is the girl that I want?\n\nsorry about the poorly written post", "summary": "My long distance girlfriend is afraid that I will not like her in person, and that she is not good enough for me."}
{"id": "t3_2q3rv1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I am proud of myself. (Sorry if this seems like bragging)", "post": "To begin things, I am a very passive guy, am generally liked, and I never want any trouble (Dont ever fight). Yesterday, I went to a hockey game and two average sized picked on my buddy. I being the guy I am, walk up to them to ask them to please stop. They told me \"what are you gonna do about it tough guy?\"\n\nI am 6\"5 about 260 lbs. I looked down in amazement as I outweighed the little buggers and appeared to be intimidating one of them (the talker seemed intoxicated). I look at both of them kinda shocked (being the major size difference) ..and even though every ounce of me wanted to show my strength....I held back..shook my head..and walked away.\n\nThe one kid says to another as I turn around \"maybe we should leave\"....I say without looking back, \"you probably should\". I walked away and they tried to say something about my posture..but I did not listen, I had already walked away and made up my mind.\n\nI just have always been a person of much self control and it isn't easy when you know you possess some physical strength..but I am proud of the man I am and never let my size take over my intelligence. \n\nSorry if this came across as gloating...I am just proud of myself for being a nice and peaceful guy.", "summary": "Went to Hockey Games, Punks challenged buddy and I to fight essentially, Even though I feel confident, showed self control walked away. Didn't go to jail"}
{"id": "t3_1ofssf", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Lost kitten...", "post": "This is kind of long-winded, but I'm feeling really sad right now and just want to vent.\n\nLate last night I was coming home from my bartending job.  I live in an apartment complex that's home to many stray cats.  Underneath my stairwell there was a mama cat with a single kitten sleeping. I spooked them when I came home but recognized the mother as one who visits my patio often.\n\nI set some food out for them and watched from my bedroom window with my own cats.  They were adorable, and I took some crappy pictures in the dark.  The curious kitten even came right up to the window when he noticed my cats watching.\n\nEarly this morning (8:30ish?) I wake up to one of my cats making noise at the window.  The kitten is still out there bouncing around and trying to play with my cat.  Mama is nowhere to be seen.  At this point I'm not worried because I've seen mother cats leave their kittens on patios around here before.  No big deal.  She probably went off to hunt.  I go back to sleep.\n\nAround 11:30 I wake up to the sound of a cat crying.  My cats are all on alert and are at various windows overlooking the patio.  Mama cat is back with a dead mouse and is calling out for her baby.  He's nowhere to be found.  She's been circling my patio and staircase for an hour now.\n\nMy heart is just breaking for her because I don't know what could have happened to him.  I live on the second floor, and last time I saw him it was already light out, so I can't imagine any opossums or raccoons snatching him.  Plus, I would've heard that sort of scuffle since the patio is right next to my bedroom.\n\nI'm hoping he just got bored and decided to go exploring.  There's only one mean tom cat in the complex (who is most likely his dad,) so I hope he didn't come sniffing around like he so often does.  Maybe she'll find him, and they'll come back tonight.  The kitten was about 6 or 7 weeks old.  I hope he's okay.", "summary": "Mother cat leaves kitten on my patio overnight... she returns to an empty patio the next morning."}
{"id": "t3_1rovrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my wife [27 F] of 3 years, She has a straight-male friend. Details inside, I want your opinion.", "post": "So she works with this straight single male colleague of our same age.  They are like buddy-buddy, text each other all the time (way more than she texts me for sure), they laugh and joke together, and she actually invited him to her family's house for thanksgiving because he had no family in town (this was today.)\n\nI'm not worried about cheating but he rubs me the wrong way, he slapped her ass one time as a joke at a party (I saw it) and I gave him a very serious statement about how I felt about that right then and there (not aggressive, just very assertive.)\n\nI've never been a jealous type of person, I have a few female work friends myself, almost never text them, especially not just general conversation stuff, and I don't hang out with them outside of work.  I never do that because I have a wife and I thought it would be pretty inappropriate for me to do as a married man.\n\nI'm not comfortable at all with this at all, my wife doesn't get why.  Am I over-reacting to this or is this in line with regular relationship expectations?", "summary": "Wife has a buddy-buddy straight single male friend that rubs me the wrong way; am I out of line for not really feeling comfortable with this?"}
{"id": "t3_2t1jbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] finally walking away from my girlfriend, [26F] of 6 months", "post": "Have been in a relationship with a woman addicted to crystal meth. She was supposed to go to Arizona this week to live with her grandma and get clean. I gave her money to get a plane ticket. I was to take her to the airport last night. I show up at her house and her room mate said she was at her ex boyfriends (drug dealer) house and hasn't been home in a few days. I called her on it, she said she was just getting her stuff and to pick her up. I went to the address (a 7-11 near the house) and the ex met me out front and tried to beat me up. I got a quick punch in, ran to my car and took off. She has been calling but I finally said fuck it, I'm done. Feeling used and betrayed is such a terrible feeling. Just had to vent. I should have walked away the minute I knew she was on crystal. I thought I could help and wanted a relationship so bad I ignored it.", "summary": "finally am able to say I'm done to drug addicted ex."}
{"id": "t3_2tjuij", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a sip of my drink while watching a series.", "post": "So this happened... around 2 minutes ago. (Oh an actual fuck-up that happened on the day itself? yup.)\n\nI was casually watching my anime. One Piece in this case, having paused it to grab a new bottle of coke(coca cola). As I resume the series I take a few huge sips from the bottle while watching, I hold in my laugh to finish what I have in my mouth and stupid me decides to take another huge sip. My mouth full of coke as I can't retain my laughter, spouting it all over my laptop, out of my nose and mouth. The result: My laptop is sticky as hell as i'm cleaning it as much as possible while typing this from my mobile.", "summary": "Was drinking coke as a funny moment came by, coke all over my laptop making it feel sticky as if someone forgot to clean their laptop after.. you know what."}
{"id": "t3_1hlx2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20M] broke up with my [21F] girlfriend 2 months ago and I still can't get it out of my head.", "post": "We were dating for 1 and a half years and both go to the same school. Things were going really great, but, like in all relationships, that spark had seemed to settle down. Things were really comfortable, don't get me wrong. But I felt like I was missing out. I decided to break up with her. I really didn't have a great reason to do so except for the fact that I wanted to try out the single life again.\n\nHanging out with her was always fun, but sometimes I was genuinely bored to be around her. We were very open about our feelings and would always let each other know when/why the other was feeling down, so the communication was there. But sometimes the conversations were just the same repeated stuff over and over and over again. I tried to expand on them, but it just seemed to go back to the same boring conversations.\n\nAll in all, I felt like being single again and stepping away from the comfort zone. She was very devastated by it and I could barely take it as well. After the initial breakup, it did feel like I had a huge relief lifted off of me, as I had been considering it for about a month or so. A few days later, I was ridiculously upset, but not sure if it was because I had lost HER or lost the RELATIONSHIP.\n\nI deleted myself off of Facebook for awhile, and she did the same. I saw her again today since I reactivated my account and fucking lost my mind and broke down in tears. I feel like an idiot. I really loved this girl and now I feel like I lost her for no fucking reason.\n\nDuring the course of the breakup, I texted her twice to see how she was doing (I know I broke NC) and I got no response. I understood, but it still hurt. \n\nI feel like I don't deserve to be hurt since I was the one that initiated the breakup.\n\nI'm sorry if this is very vague and scatter minded, I'm just looking someplace to vent and maybe get some good advice on how to get the fuck over it.", "summary": "I feel like shit for breaking up with my gf of 1.5 years for no really good reason. Saw her picture again today after keeping relatively no contact for two months and I lost my shit and began sobbing."}
{"id": "t3_33m6vv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my BF [35M] 8 MO, do I stay or do I go?", "post": "Been with this guy for a couple of months now and since I feel pressured to get married sooner than later I have been evaluating out relationship for long term potential. I have some quick annoyances I think might become future issues and would like your input.\n\nOne. He never says he loves me. He told me he loved me a couple weeks ago, but despite seeing me pretty frequently he rarely tells me he loves me. Most couples tell each other they love each other constantly. Is this a red flag?\n\nTwo. He's friends with a lot of attractive women on facebook and instagram. He is constantly liking pictures (and getting likes on his pictures) from women that he used to date. He has told me these are non-issues, but I'm sure most women feel insecure when their man is liking pictures of other women on social media. For the record, some are in committed relationships. How do couples navigate social media?\n\nThree. He makes no effort to detail his past dating history. He does not hide his past, but he does not make an effort to inform me of everything that has occurred in the past. If I want to know if he used to date someone I have to ask. Is this shady behavior?\n\nFour. I didn't go to college and he is attending pharmacy school. While I have a stable job, and he's in school, I worry whether or not this inequality of education will become an issue for us in the future. What do you think? \n\nGenerally speaking, what kind of relationship red flags do you guys look for?", "summary": "I'm getting serious about this guy, I want input as to whether obsessive facebooking and lack of verbal affection are red flags."}
{"id": "t3_161qjs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has reddit ever bought you closer to someone? (Story inside)", "post": "Im a English guy living in Brisbane, Aus. Over Xmas I visited my friend in Sydney and decided to take advantage of the sales. Whilst in the shop this cute Asian girl was really friendly to us and started talking to us and where we are from; when we said England she talked about Harry Potter being the only thing she knew from England and how Emma Watson is hot, then asked \"have you heard of a website called reddit? They love her on there\". So we got talking about different sub reddits and funny recent front page stuff, and the hobbit. (She is a lurker though-maybe she'll see this?)\n\nI left the store, but accidentally left my drink in the store, by the time I realised my friend convinced me to go back and ask her out- so I did, with the help of the most interested man in the world meme \"I don't always ask out cute shop girls, but when I do they are usually redditors\"\n\nA few days later we met and watched the hobbit and spent the day walking through Darling Harbour and To Hyde Park. We got on really well and both have the same sort of humour and offensive jokes. \n\nWe both had thing to do on the evening so went to get the train later, and as the date went well and had fun I felt compelled to give her a kiss goodbye; however she completely froze and blanked me. On the way home she texted to apologise for freezing and we had a bit of banter about socially awkward/awesome penguins.\n\nAnyway hopeful that in March we can meet up again as we are keeping in touch.", "summary": "met a redditor in a shop and had a date, now staying in touch."}
{"id": "t3_4w4grv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my mother [56 F] a few months, highly irresponsible and asking me for money", "post": "Hello, it's me again. Please read my first topic on this matter:\n\nEspecially the short background info. I've found a flat and moved away from my toxic parents. Everything was great until my mother came back from abroad, where she has a job.\n\nThe matter is, I thought she'll forget about the idea of me taking credit for her. Unfortunately I was wrong. Not only the topic returned - she literaly guilts me into this. She keeps talking that she feels like dying, that she stopped eating and she's loosing weight, and that it's probably cancer. All this comes from terrible financial problems she has right now.\n\nTo be honest, those terrible financial problems are something I remember from childhood. All my life she had those, and later she stole some amount of money from old employer and was forced to pay it off. To do this, she emigrated and now she earns two times more money than myself. Still, her debts are not getting smaller. They seem just as big as 7 years ago when she left the country. Just now she called me with the news that she needs fast help - she took another loan and now she must quickly pay it off. Of course it's because she didn't read contract carefully enough. That kind of things happen to her all the time.\n\nUnfortunately she knows that I earn stable money. I know that I'm the only one person that can rescue her. Literally no-one in my family is financially reliable apart from me. BUT if I do this, she will make another stupid decision and I will have to rescue her again. I'm not in the position to do this - I ended my education, found a job, moved out and now I'm stabilizing myself financialy after really chaotic childhood and college-hood. I'm not willing to going there again.\n\nI'm seriously thinking about going absolute no-contact with her. I only worry that she could do something to herself... I feel cruel, guilty, ungrateful bitch. I'm her only child.", "summary": "Mother has serious financial problems, is highly irresponsible and asking me for taking high loan. Feeling like crap, going to say no."}
{"id": "t3_1nzx9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my gf [20 F] for 5 years. Says she doesn't want the committment/wants to be single.", "post": "We were together about 5 years however I've known her about 15 years. Pretty much out of the blue she says she wants to date around and experience other things. She also tells me she hadn't been giving me her whole heart and that I was too good to deserve that. \n\nI don't really know how to handle this. It comes at a really bad time as my mom has stage IV breast cancer and her health has been declining a bit recently. In addition to that I'm studying engineering and interning at a company about 26 hours per week. \n\nI can't eat breakfast or lunch and eat dinner mainly with the aid of smoking marijuana (I know, not the healthiest habit) and this also helps me get my mind off of the whole thing. \n\nHow do I approach this situation? It's been a week today and we've talked twice and are meeting up Friday in my hometown where she is going to school. My hope is that she'll eventually realize how much she misses me, but I'll go crazy waiting around/hoping and there's no way of knowing if she'll come back.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me, says she wants to date around and that she hasn't been giving me her all. We are meeting up this Friday after being broken up a week. What is the  best way to approach this situation and our meet up?"}
{"id": "t3_erww0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to best handle a wrongful collection on my credit report?", "post": "Reddit, a few years ago while working at a restaurant a tall shelf fell over, hitting me on my head and causing me to pass out for a second. I was dizzy, incoherent, and had a huge headache, so I was instructed to go to the hospital to be checked for a concussion. \n\nFast forward a year or two later, I check my credit for the first time (I was young), and I see that I have a collection in my name for the hospital visit, even though work was supposed to pay for it. I called the restaurant up and explained what happened to them and they said they would take care of it. Long story short, it's been 2 years since I called the restaurant to get it fixed and they haven't yet, and it doesn't seem like they will.\n\nSo, now I have this major blemish on my credit report that I have to take care of myself. The amount is fairly small, about US$350, so paying it is not an issue, but I don't just want to pay it, I want the collection gone from my credit report entirely. Is this possible? Can I call the collection agency and offer to settle? Do I just wait for the seven years to go by (3.5 years remaining)?", "summary": "Past employer didn't pay for a trip to the hospital after they said they would. I now have a $350 dollar collection on my credit report and want to know if its possible to get it removed, and what would be the best way."}
{"id": "t3_2tyth9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my ex-girlfriend [20F] of 5 months, I want to talk to her but I'm scared.", "post": "For most of my life, I've been too much of a loser to have a girlfriend. Last year, through some mutual friends I met a girl and everything was absolutely fantastic. The entire time we were dating I was on top of the world, she was caring, sweet and I could tell her anything.\n\nAround Valentine's Day however, she started becoming distant, telling me everything was fine but she'd ignore me and would barely look at/touch me when we were together.\n\nEventually one night I asked her to tell me what was wrong and she went on to list me a bunch of things she hated about me that weren't necessarily true. She called me jealous, claimed I didn't mean the nice things I'd said to her, just to name a few.\n\nIt destroyed me, but I kept strong because she told me she was struggling with depression and I wanted to make her better. I loved this girl more than anything.\n\nA couple days later, she broke up with me. She said I hadn't done anything wrong, that she still wanted me in her life and that it wasn't necessarily final.\n\nIn the following months, she deleted me off everything, ignored the two attempts I made at texting her and ran from me when I tried to talk to her in public. She later referred to me as He Who Shall Not Be Named when explaining to her friends all the other guys she'd been sleeping with.\n\nI think she may have cheated on me with another guy before ending it, or at least she ended it to be with him.\n\nI miss her still and I was driven to a long depression that I still haven't fully recovered from. I feel like a monster, I want to talk to her still and understand what happened or why she hates me.\n\nI keep almost texting her, but I'm paralyzed with fear.", "summary": "I want to talk to my ex girlfriend who destroyed me, but I'm scared she won't want to talk to me still."}
{"id": "t3_2kiw8p", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog ownership for travelers: yay or nay", "post": "Me: 23yo nomadic journalist (postgrad has consisted of three writing fellowships in three states), weekend shelter dog walker and socializer. I've been surrounded by dogs my whole life, and spending lots of time at the shelter has helped fill that doggie void\u2014but I've been fighting the urge to have my own pup for more than a year and I'm wearing thin.\n\nA dog is a HUGE responsibility, and as an adventure travel writer (whose ideal job situation might require her to be up and at 'em at a moment's notice), I worry that I can't give a dog a more-than-adequate life\u2014I also worry that I might resent a dog that limits my flexibility, and I'd HATE myself for resenting a dog because of my mistake (b/c dogs are pretty much the best). \n\nSo what I'm wondering is, is it possible to live a travel-filled life with a dog that doesn't completely break the bank or make you wish you'd never adopted/bought? Can I hostel and backpack and train ride through Europe, for instance, without having to pay 200/night for a dog bed? Will I totally destroy a dog's sense of security by not giving it a steady home? \n\nThat said, I haven't PLANNED a huge backwoods excursion yet, but I want to, and likely will, and think that should factor into my adoption decision. I've worked in office environments (though, granted, casual offices) thus far and even then, worry that I might not be able to bring my dog to work. I've lived with people who caged their escape-prone animals during the day and it BROKE MY HEART.\n\nI read than New Yorker article recently about Emotional Support Animals, and while it's a really sleazy evasion of the lacking legal system for most people, I'm so tempted to try and get 'certification' for a dog so I can take it on planes (the dog I've got my eye on is 40lbs, and I've emailed some airlines to check their ESA weight/size limits if they don't already list them, which some do) and to work, regardless of company policy.", "summary": "People who've successfully done the dog travel thing, tell me how you did it and if you're glad you did it; devil's advocates, come at me."}
{"id": "t3_2anr1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35 M] with my GF [24 F] flirt since 2 years, together since 1 month - Can you help me keep her?", "post": "So I'm 35 and I'm with this 24 year old girl who is as hot as the sun. Like she is reaaally beautiful, always happy/friendly/positive/funny/clever... \n\nShe is amazing and I like her way too much. I'm used to being in relationships where the girl is more addicted to me than I am to her, so this is new for me and I feel like a total emo retard.\n\nDon't get me wrong, she really likes me too, and we have something special going on. But she likes me as a 24 year old teen can like you... with this careless attitude, this lack of initiative and very hard to read way of showing she likes me...\n\nRight now we are separated by the atlantic ocean, for 2 more months. Every 2 day that I don't hear from her, I get in total panik mode and start thinking OH MY GOD it is FUCKED, she met someone else, I lost her. Of course I don't show her any of this, but this is a fucking awful and paralyzing feeling I would like to stop having. I'm used to being pretty independent and having enough stuff in my life going on that I normally wouldn't be like that. But this time, this girl, I just fucking really like her too much and she is under my skin all the time.\n\nSo I write her songs (I'm a music producer) or make her all kind of little surprises, that I know she enjoys a LOT, but other than showing she loves it, never really does the same for me.\n\nMy question is, how could I reach a point in this relationship where I stop worrying that much that imma loose her, and even better, how can I revert the situation to the one I'm used to, where she cares about me even more! Aaaah so comfortable :p I'm joking, I really like her and she can't care about me too much.\n\nThanks. Geeez. I like her so much that I need to dump her xD", "summary": "! I'm too addicted to this girl. How can I stop worrying like HELL that it's all going to fuck up each time I don't hear from her for 2 days?"}
{"id": "t3_3nug4o", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Renegotiating teacher salary", "post": "I am in my seventh year of teaching in a public high school.  I have an engineering degree, and I have worked in industry.  After being a stay-at-home mom for a while, I saw a posting for a physics teacher at my kids' school and got it.\n\nOur system currently pays the minimum pay scale allowed by the state (which is what I'm making).  But I have heard through the grapevine that several of our teachers are making quite a bit more than that -- almost twice as much -- because they are engineers.  \n\nThey are working on special projects that get a lot of attention (as they should -- they are both nationally-ranked) but I think their course load is lighter.  And there is another teacher who is also working on one of the projects (and she herself is nationally recognized) who I think is making low pay like the rest of us.  \n\nThe system has a hard time finding teachers to teach what I teach.  There are only a couple of us who have done this for very long at all.  And I also have been recognized nationally for what I do.  \n\nThe teacher who told me about this pay inequity is also telling me I should renegotiate my contract.  It sounds to me like these teachers were able to do it -- is this a good idea?  How would I go about this?  Should I go through our union or not?\n\nP.S.  I have four kids in college this year...", "summary": "A few others with similar background getting paid a lot more than me -- can/should I renegotiate?"}
{"id": "t3_42odwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M]considering breaking up with my long distance [19 F] S/O of 2.5 years, looking for advice.", "post": "Hi Reddit, I am currently around 500 miles away from my S/O and plan to stay at this university for the rest of my degree (3-4 years left depending on my decision). I am in a long distance relationship that only became long distance this fall. We have been dating for 2.5 months.\n\nWe've had a complication before and that was me, dancing with a girl at a party and she turned around and kissed me (I didn't stop her). I told her the next day and we broke up for sometime. I still think about this phone call and how she reacted and it fucking rips me apart. I knew it had to be done, and it was like a brick was lifted off my chest but the fact that I put someone I care about like that into an emotional state like that just ruins me.  \n\nI love this girl and I have imagined spending the rest of my life with her but I feel like I am missing out on the experience of being single since I've been in a relationship for basically all of my young adult life. I just want to have no worries and to be able to focus on me (Sometimes I struggle with happiness and didn't do very well last term) and go out and have fun but I'm also scared ill regret breaking up with her or crush her.\n\nI don't want her to feel pain or cry or resent me, this girl has been a huge part of the person I am today and I love her to death. I know if I did it I'd have to call her since texting is considered rude and un-thoughtful but I don't know if I'm ready to hear her heart break over the phone or if I even want to go through with this.", "summary": "Thinking about ending my relationship, can't decide if it's the right thing to do. Just looking for some sage advice or outlook on this situation. I can provide additional information if there is anything key that I missed."}
{"id": "t3_2g3g0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and my girlfriend [20F] of 3 months; have plans to move in together", "post": "We've been dating for 3 months now, and have been going strong. We've been together nearly every day, and more often than not she stays at my place (I still live at home while attending school). Neither of us have felt this way for anyone before, and we've both been in long-term (2+ years) relationships. \n\nCome April, we're discussing moving in together. I'm in nursing, and want to move to a bigger city for my praxis (unpaid hours working as a nurse before you can get licensed) as they generally lead into a job. She's currently living in the bigger city for school. She said she'll be coming home for summer, but if we move in together in April she'll just stay. We'd be looking at $1000 all inclusive for a nice place, however we would both be living on student loans. Come September, at the latest, I should be done my praxis and have a nurse's salary. Is this smart?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I want to move in together come April. Both on student loans. Yes, no?"}
{"id": "t3_4c1j62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my crush? [21 F] one week, cannot stop worrying/low-key obsessing about everything", "post": "I'm the type of person who, when I meet someone new and like them, will fall incredibly hard and irrationally fast, and I'll want to see them and be around them all the time. \n\nThis girl and I have been dating for about a week and a half, and she is absolutely incredible. In nearly every way that I can discern for it having been so short a time.\n\nHowever, I now find myself thinking about her and worrying about our relationship (if you can even call it that at this point) an unhealthy amount. I just moved to a new place and I'm seriously worried that I'm hanging my sanity and happiness on this girl who I basically just met.\n\nThere has been no indication that she doesn't like me, or no longer wants to see me, but nevertheless I'm losing sleep and an appetite worrying so goddamn much about it for no reason. Any advice/help/ encouraging words would be very much appreciated!\n\n(throwaway because she's a redditor)", "summary": "just started dating a girl, now worrying constantly about how she feels about me"}
{"id": "t3_u1703", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Can't make up mind, still have feelings for others.", "post": "I'm a 20 year old female. I was dating a 23 year old male named Tom* for 3 months but he broke up with me because his \"dad was dying and only had a few years to live\". Found out a couple days later he lied and his dad is 100% fine so I moved on from that.\n\nThen I had a crush on another 23 year old male Roger*, very casual flirting, etc. He was coming home from school and we planned to hang out for a second time and decided to meet up at the bar. The only issue I had with him is that he was kind of flaky and can't spend the night anywhere because he has a little bit of OCD.\n\nHe talked to me for 10 minutes and was supposed to come home with me later that night to hang out but ended up talking to one of my friends for the rest of his time there and told me he had a \"crush on her for a long time\". So I also dropped that situation.\n\nNow I've met a third guy, Patrick* and he is about as sweet as can be, even more so than my first ex of 3 years awhile back. Treats me amazingly, shows affection, actually wants to hang out and talk to me and not use me. \n\nI'm entirely smitten over this guy but why do I keep having feelings for the other two guys before him? One that hurt me a lot and another who is flaky and wouldn't be able to give me what I need?", "summary": "Dated a guy who lied to me and another who was just flaky and ended up liking my friend. Can't understand why now that I have a new guy who actually is attracted to me and wants to be around me...I can't drop the feelings and attraction for the other two?"}
{"id": "t3_3lns55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24m] having a rough time after the break up. Missing my girlfriend [20f], but more so missing my best friend, companionship, and sense of security.", "post": "I travel a lot for work. Two weeks ago I came back from a 10 day trip and my ex of 9 months dumped me as soon as we got home. Took her stuff, all the pictures, mementos, ect. and left. Obviously this was soul crushing. \n\nHowever these past couple weeks staying busy and trying to plug into my friends has been helping. I've gone from prioritizing salvaging the relationship to just trying to accept reality and be okay with it. The only thing is the shift has been incredibly stressful. \n\nThe main thing now is that I'm just so incredibly lonely. I mean starving human contact. She was not only my girlfriend but my best friend, we knew everything about each other. I do have a few close friends, but I've been beating them back and forth with my presence for weeks now and I know despite their genuine love and care, it's getting old. And I don't want to become a nuisance, or that crazy ex who can't get over it.\n\nOn top of that this is one of those, \"I still love you\" type break ups. We've met once a week ago, no kissing, but we talked and held hands/each other. Nothing changed. Since then it's been extremely minor contact, one how are you text since then. Worse yet, she posts sad stuff all day on her social media, as if she got dumped. It makes my head run, and I'm not sure if or when it's directed at me, but it makes me want to pick the phone up and I'm doing everything I can not to.", "summary": "question: I guess overall how do you deal with the loneliness a few weeks after a break up, when the dust has begun to settle? Especially when your ex claims to still love you, but can't be in the relationship anymore, and leaves that door of communication open. Bonus, how do you deal with the sad/passive aggressive social media updates? Blocking everything seems too cold."}
{"id": "t3_2m5egq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend back home", "post": "I am 18, in college and my girlfriend is back home. Basically I have never had a serious relationship and right before I moved for college met an awesome girl. We have been dating for a few months and are still crazy about each other.\n\nJust looking for advice on how to make relationship never seem like a routine or get old as I do not see her very frequently. \n\nPlease do not tell me that I need to break up with her, I am only about an hour away. Just looking for ways to make her feel special and show my affection, as I am a little new at this.", "summary": "Girlfriend back home, I wanna keep her around"}
{"id": "t3_147vqr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a LDR for almost a year with my SO (M30), my (F26) parents have been really pressuring me to meet him :S", "post": "So we started dating in January. In April he had to move away for work and we've been in a LDR since, seeing each other almost monthly, either me going there or him coming here. At the end of this month he will be here visiting me for about a week and I kind of want for him to meet my parents then.\n\nThey have been hassling me nearly constantly to meet him, they are very conservative I know it's going to be awkward. He has never been in a serious relationship like this before, so he's never met a girls, or introduced a girl to his parents, so he's very wary/nervous about it. I've brought it up, just mentioning/complaining about how much my parents are hassling me about it and asked him if he would like to meet them, eventually. He said that of course he would, but it's just scary, and kind of a big deal. He's worried that they won't like him, for various reasons (he's Latino). They know this, but have said that as long as I like him and am happy they don't care if he's black/white/Latino/whatever (which them just having to say this I feel makes it a 'thing.')\n\nALSO, if we end up meeting I would just like to do it at some neutral place that we can make a quick exit from, such as a restaurant, but then I feel like he would feel awkward if they tried to pay for dinner.\n\nI would greatly appreciate any advice, ideas, or stories of what might make this easier. I just need to get it over with because it's seriously stressing me out how big of a deal my parents are making of meeting him.", "summary": "I'm in a LDR with SO for almost a year, my parents have been hounding me about meeting him (even though I only see him myself about once a month), would like to perhaps do it the week he is here for Christmas and need some advice."}
{"id": "t3_35v0on", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [24F] being overly sensitive about my boyfriend of 6 months [25M]'s excitement over getting a new job?", "post": "I am currently in a relationship with a man I've known since I was a teenager. While we love each other, we both know that we are going to go our separate ways when he moves in a little over two months.\n\nThis has been painful, but we both feel that at the time we are in our lives it is important to live a little, and long distance isn't for us.\n\nI have been trying to make the transition easier. I asked him to please try to keep our relationship light until he leaves. I asked him to no longer say that he loves me, because it just makes it harder. He keeps saying it, although I don't say it in return.\n\nIn addition, he keeps talking to me every time something new happens with the job or brings up the job in ways that aren't necessary. For example, \"They just got off the phone with my references for a final confirmation!\" or \"Don't make fun of me for \"x\", it is valuable in the field I'm going into\", \"I hope I make new friends before \"x\" holiday!\"\n\nI feel like I'm just being overly irritable because I'm stuck here and he is moving on to bigger and better things, but at the same time, I feel like he is being really insensitive about the situation.\n\nShould I tell him how I feel, or not bother?", "summary": "Boyfriend won't stop talking about his new job, and it is getting annoying because I think I am irritable."}
{"id": "t3_25ar7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] want fling with [22 F]", "post": "Went out with this girl I met through a friend, met her twice before, had a great night with her. We talked and joked around a lot, were vibing really well the whole night. When dropped her off, told her I like and want to get to know her better and see what happens, she said she felt same but has a long distance boyfriend, they haven't been talking much though. \n\nBeen texting off and on the past few days, trying to invite her to things, she's been kind of flakey.\n\nBasically, I think she is really cool and very pretty, and just want to get to know her better and mess around with each other. If it works out, awesome, maybe it can be more than a fling, if not, it was fun while it lasted.", "summary": "How do I show her that I think she is a really cool chick and I want to get to her better but also would like to mess around too? Without her thinking that I am obsessed with her, which I am not, or that she will hurt me?"}
{"id": "t3_410vs5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 19(M) soon to see GF(20) after 4 months of long distance", "post": "Hello redditers, \n\nFirst topic post on Reddit. \nSo, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long.", "summary": "haven't seen my GF for 4 months, she and I are both nervous to see each other. How to cope?"}
{"id": "t3_dxf7x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on dealing with outrageous phone company customer service???!?  Help?", "post": "Hello Reddit, long time listener, first time caller.\n\nI will start with some back story here.  \n\nTowards the end of July my Cellphone began to power down fairly frequently (at least twice a day, often more), knowing that I had about a month left on my warranty, I went directly to the store where I bought my phone, and explained the problem. They assured me that it would be taken care of, and placed an order for a loaner phone to be sent to me house, along with all of the packaging etc necessary for me to mail out my broken phone.\n\nNow this took them about a month and a half, during which I went back to the store to make sure everything was ok.  They explained that sometimes these things get backed up, but not to worry.  I wanted patiently, and the package did come, along with everything needed.\n\nI mailed my broken phone out immediately. \n\nSo yesterday (over a month since I had mailed my phone back, and a few days short of 3 months since I initially reported the problem) I finally received my phone back, however no repairs were made.  Apparently since the warranty expired during the time I was waiting for the company to receive the phone, it was deemed OOW (out of warranty)\n\nI was furious, and immediately called their customer service line. The guy who I spoke with (who himself was very helpful) checked out my account information and verified my story, he then went to talk to his supervisor.  Turns out there is nothing that can be done, that's their policy.  The operator sided with me completely, and basically told me that he thought this was bullshit, he credited my account $50 for the trouble, and filed a detailed complaint with another department... which is supposed to call me in the next few days.\n\nNow the operator who I spoke to seemed confident that along with his detailed letter, this matter should be resolved with the next phone call.  Unfortunately I do not share his confidence.  Does anyone have any advice for me, regarding how I should handle the next phone call???\n\nThus far I have been very calm and understanding, yet firm.", "summary": "Virgin Mobile refuses to honor a product warranty because it expired while the product was being shipped for repairs.  Do What?"}
{"id": "t3_erf5g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend has had a lot of family members passing away lately and I don't know how to comfort her anymore.", "post": "In the past 5 months she has been to three funerals. She's only 18 and eventhough she's a really strong person, it's too much for her to handle. We keep a long distance relationship so I can't go to her and comfort her in person, only via MSN for now.\n\nJust 30 minutes ago her grandmother passed, she doesn't know what to do with herself and she guilts herself for what happened. She got 20.000 DKK (danish currency) as a christmas present from her grandmother in the mail minutes after she had found out her grandmother passed. She guilts herself with the fact that when she visited her grandma yesterday, she said \"Good night, I will see you tomorrow\" but never did.\n\nI'm running out of words to tell her, Reddit; help me please.", "summary": "Long distance relationship girlfriend has had a lot of family members taken away from her, don't know what to tell her anymore that will make her feel better."}
{"id": "t3_qmvpp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your most stubborn moment?", "post": "It could have been for a good or bad reason, but we have all been stubborn at times. And sometimes it gets out of hand, maybe with parents or an SO, to the point where it's just stupid and you perhaps look like a complete asshole.\n\nMy most stubborn moment came at a celebration for a friend's birthday party in high school. We had a few people get together (I think about 8 or 10) and after just hanging around for a bit we all decide to catch a movie as a group. We hadn't decided which movie to see so we discussed it when we arrived. Since we were leaning towards comedy, it came down to two choices: Most people wanted to watch Shark Tale, but I was adamant about Shaun of the Dead. People caught in the middle sided with the birthday girl, who wanted to watch Shark Tale, which left me as the only one fighting for SotD. None of us had seen either movie before at the time, but I swore on my life that SotD would be better. It escalated and I made a ***huge*** fuss and had to be taken aside and calmed down before *very* reluctantly agreeing to side with the hive-mind. I was ready to start walking home or even wait outside while everyone else watched Shark Tale. We were each paying for our own tickets so paying for a movie I did not want to see and thought would be terrible definitely played a factor. After the movie people started to latch on to the idea that I may have been correct in my assertion, and I basically sulked and kept my mouth shut for the rest of the night. Needless to say after everyone saw SotD on their own time I was more or less vindicated for my actions. Despite my stubborn outburst I didn't lose any friends, including the birthday girl, who is actually one of my best friends to this day and is also a fellow redditor. We have laughed about this since, despite me carrying some major guilt for acting the way I did.", "summary": "Group of friends wanted to see Shark Tale over Shaun of Dead, I fought stubbornly for SotD and made a complete ass of myself in the meantime."}
{"id": "t3_2vdzqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] have been dating my boyfriend [23 M] for 2 years, seeking married people's advice about doubts?", "post": "I'm looking for advice from married folks, or people in long-term relationships. \n\nNow, I don't want any answers saying things like \"when you know, you know\". I'm a logical thinker, and I overthink everything, and I need concrete examples. Please and thank you. \n\nI love him, but we fight a lot. Mostly because I'm really combative and he calls me on my shit (which I appreciate!). We have similar personalities, temperaments, we can make each other laugh, enjoy similar activities, I can be with him for days and days and not get sick of him, we have a great sex life, and I think we're a good couple. \n\nI get hung up on silly things, though, like we don't share a taste in music and often don't think the same things are funny. Additionally, I'm atheist, and he has some sort of apathetic ambiguous faith. His lack of concern about it bothers me, considering religion is something I think about a lot. We've talked about it, and he doesn't intend on making it a part of our life or our potential children's lives... but I wonder if maybe I'd be better suited with someone I could have long talks about raging atheism with. \n\nI can be really critical of him, and I know I shouldn't be, but I love him and think I can see a long future with him, but I'm just wondering... are these feelings of doubt and questioning normal? Are there people who are married and happy that had similar concerns about the person they're with?", "summary": "I'm crazy critical and have concerns about the person I'm with being the person I always want to be with. Are there other married and happy people who had the same concern about their spouse?"}
{"id": "t3_27jsth", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [24/f] just got offered a great job in Seattle. We live in New York currently. I [26/m] don't know what to do.", "post": "**The Basics**\n\nMy girlfriend was just offered a job at one of the major tech firms in Seattle with a salary of $110,000+ bonuses. It's kind of a dream job for her and a significant bump in salary. \n\nWe currently live in New York. Still in separate apartments (which I think is a key thing to mention here). We've dated for about a year. I've known her for even longer.\n\n**The Problem**\n\nI don't know if I want to move to Seattle. I feel like the decision was just thrown on me last night. And the challenge is - making this decision makes me think - am I going to marry this girl? Am I going to stay with her forever? Is she worth completely committing to?\n\nIt's not even the move that intimidates me. Seattle would be great. I'd love to do that. It's the commitment. It's the conversation of \"Of course I'll move with you cross country, drop my job and leave my friends.\" - I don't know if she's someone I should be with forever. To put it simply, I don't think I'm in love with her. I don't really know what that means, but I just know that I may want to date other people before I settle down.\n\nSo this opens the pandora's box of relationship issues. I started dating her casually, and it slowly evolved to be more serious, but in terms of marriage/settling down I've always been explicit that I didn't want to do anything of the sort until my early 30's. This moving conversation opens up that discussion again.\n\nWe just had the conversation last night. She just left my apartment this morning and it's running around my mind.\n\n**The Question**\n\nWhat do you recommend I do? What questions do I ask? \n\nI don't think a long distance relationship is realistic.\n\n**The", "summary": "Girlfriend moving across country. I have a fear of moving in and moving across country specifically with her. Makes me think she may not be the one. Brain is racing. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_24b2vl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A friend[22 F] likes me [22 M], but shes in a relationship.", "post": "So I met this girl 2 months ago and we had great chemistry. She confessed to me that she likes me and i feel the same way, problem is she is the girlfriend of a mutual friend of ours, and has been for 4 1/2 years.\n\nShe told me her relationship is pretty much over, but she hasnt oficially broken up with him. She invited me to her house on thursday, and id really like to go, but I dont know if il be able to withhold myself once im there. I dont know if knowing that she is in a relationship counts as cheating, but it still doesnt feel right. \n\nThe other issue is that i want her to break up, but i dont want her to do it because of me. Its like shes waiting for me to tell her that i want her to be my girlfriend to break up, which doesnt sit right with me. Any thoughts?", "summary": "Girl im seeing is in a relationship and im not sure how to feel about it. Any thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_1950dh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Hi reddit.  Would you use this instead of making images of web text?", "post": "So I do most of my browsing on reddit through my phone.  For the most part it is great although it often takes quite a bit of time to load images.  This is where I came up with an idea for a content sharing service.\n  \nSo take [something like this] which is about 150KB.  This isn't that big of a picture but it could still take some time to load if the network is congested.  I take the same amount of content and added it [here]  This came out to ~7.5KB.  This should be able to load just about instantly on a phone.  This is a fairly small example as I have seen some images that span multiple pages and take forever to load on my phone.\n  \nSo the benefits of the service are\n  \n* Must faster load times on mobile devices.\n* The pages are rendered in a mobile/tablet friendly layout.\n* I keep the original styling\n* I link to the original source\n* Sites with low bandwidth wouldn't feel the pain of the reddit effect\n  \n  \nAnyway, let me know what you think.  Also if anyone has a better idea for a name of the site let me know.\n  \nIf reddit likes this idea I will keep developing.  I know that right now it is pretty slow when you actually select some content and doesn't work on all sites.  This was just a prototype and I have a ton of ideas on how to speed up the site.  I will also give the UI/UX a refresh by getting some help from a graphic artist.", "summary": "Instead of  [this image] the service will share [this text] -- ~150KB vs ~7.5KB"}
{"id": "t3_2iw5ec", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (17m) and her (16f) are both confused on what to do. Oh, she's a foreign exchange student.", "post": "Alright. So, amazing girl, amazing chemistry, and she makes my life amazing. One problem: she's a foreign exchange student who will be leaving in 8 months.\n\nFor awhile, we were okay with things, and our view towards her leaving in the future was the idea \"We'll cross that bridge when we come to it.\" A few nights ago, she sent me a text that made us both extremely upset. \n\nShe basically found out that through her exchange organization, she isn't allowed to date. I guess she jumped to a conclusion that we had to stop any kind of contact or something, and she was very upset (we did find out later that we can go on double date ordeals, which is completely fine with me). Now, she's doubting if we should keep up what we have going on, her reasoning being \"If I felt as awful as I did a few nights ago, I don't want to imagine how I'm going to feel when I leave.\" She's also told me that she doesn't know how she feels about an LDR.\n\nI don't know what to do, I'm more in favor of getting to know her, regardless of what the final outcome is, and I know she's not just saying what she's saying to let me down easy, because she's told me several times since the incident that she still cares for me a ton.\n\nTo be honest, I feel somewhat uncomfortable with how she's reacted. Advice on how I should react to her?", "summary": "A foreign exchange student who reciprocates my feelings for her is having second thoughts about becoming closer with me."}
{"id": "t3_2g88nv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by greeting a hotel guest", "post": "I work front desk for a hotel in a mountain/ski resort area and it's now our \"shoulder season,\" which means it's a ghost town until the first snow. This allows for plenty downtime such as reading, watching Youtube, trolling on Reddit, binging on Netflix, and smoking the occasional bowl.    \n     \nToday, I was pretty stoney-baloney after my short break and decided to watch some South Park. After watching Cartman run around PF Chang's asking for, \"...the prrans prrease?\" I see a family saunter into the lobby out of the corner of my eye. Without even thinking I stand up and immediately do a slight bow saying, \"Herro, 'relcome!\" The family was Chinese-American and looked clearly offended. Fuck.", "summary": "Greeted an asian family by bowing and saying \"Herro, 'relcome.\""}
{"id": "t3_2xkgbd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "19 year-old, looking to start a healing retreat.", "post": "I currently live in Ohio, and I have been looking along the West Coast for areas to move and eventually start my own healing retreat. I know nothing about how to even start a retreat, shop property, etc. yet. What's the best way to go about this? I'm interested in finding the best area to do it as well!\nI am a reiki master, and in September will be a Licensed Massage Therapist. I want to teach hula-hoop dance classes, yoga, as well as meditation classes and spiritual workshops. I am looking for a place in nature, as the retreat I want to be peaceful and I want to do meditation hikes.\n\nMy mom recommended finding a healing retreat I liked and try to work out a trade (I work for them if they let me live there for so long and teach me how to run a retreat.) I like this idea, but am not sure if anyone would be open to mentor me.", "summary": "Looking for best way to go about starting a spiritual healing retreat."}
{"id": "t3_1ndmhv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: I'm (25f) not sure if I'm a bitch or my husband (31m) is a useless selfish inconsiderate asshole", "post": "[Original post here.](\n\nWe had yet another calm, respectful conversation during which my husband promised to do more childcare. Later, he announced he had plans both Wednesday and Friday. I told him I really wished he would be more supportive and helpful, and I told him I was really feeling taken advantage of and hurt. He promised to watch the baby Saturday in exchange for going out Friday. Which I would have expected him to do already. \n\nHe stayed out all night Friday, took a sleeping pill when he got home, and slept until 4pm Saturday. Then he stayed up again all night playing Grand Theft Auto with his friend and went to bed at 7am this morning. So much for helping more.\n\nMy mother in law agreed to come visit for 2 nights this week. I am hoping she can talk some sense into him. But she thinks her son is the second coming of Christ so I don't know how well that conversation will go over.\n\nI give up. I have lost a lot of respect and affection for my husband. If someone had told me even 3 months ago that my sweet, caring, responsible husband who couldn't wait to be a dad would be like this, I would never have believed them. From now on I am just going to expect absolutely nothing from him. I don't know if our marriage can recover. \n\nOn the plus side, the baby is sleeping more (straight through until 5am this morning) and my dissertation is almost done.", "summary": "Shitty husband still shitty."}
{"id": "t3_2w0q4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] girlfriend [18 F] of over one year doesn't think it would be a good idea to continue to date after this summer", "post": "Last night on our valentines date, we got to talking about our futures and what we wanted.\n\n I expressed to her that I'd enjoy having each other as someone to confide in about our stresses in college next year (we're planning on going to schools roughly two hours away from each other). She responded by saying that college is a time that she expects we'll want to and will grow as individuals and didn't really express that she wanted to continue dating once we go off to college. She doesn't want to make me feel like I have to stay with her and follow her to the school she's going to, which we both want to major in the same thing and I keep telling her that I wished I'd applied to the same school she had because it's closer to home.\n\n I really like her (yes I know it's the whole high school sweetheart thing) and we get along together really well, but occasionally she gets depressed and shuts me out, although she has gotten less sad the longer we've dated and shares more than she previously did.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't think we should date each other in college, am I wrong for wanting/ believing we would work out in college?"}
{"id": "t3_10wk3o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/M] Attracted to a girl [19/F] but got no game.", "post": "Sorry in advance for the jumbled writing, I'm not the best at telling stories..\n\nA LONG background: I've never been very social, I like social interactions but I have always been very self conscious of myself and end up being very shy.  Right now I'm in the 2nd of a 6 year professional program, and the girl I'm interested in is a 1st year.\n\nThroughout college I've never really been interested in anyone...until now..  I've never had a girlfriend before, and its never bothered me before.  I've always lived with thinking: well, I'll just be myself, I'm not looking for a relationship anyways.  Well, Now I'm suddenly thrust into this one-itis (inorite?) situation where this girl is way out of my league, but I'm not giving up for some creepy reason.  \n\nThis crush has finally given me a chance to evaluate myself, and\nI'm not liking what I see..a guy with no game, weird personality, and barely any pictures on facebook. (she, and most other popular students have at least 5x the number I do...and I look like crap in most of them)  I've never found myself on the in-circle, but it hasn't really bothered me until now when I realize I'm full of crap, and this girl beats me in any catagory.  I barely feel like I have a chance with all the better guys out there, but I've seen plenty of classmates settle for someone clearly under their league, and really, the only thing that might be in my favor is that I'm \"cool\", because I'm a Second year.\n\nThe questions:\nAs a second year student in the program- how do I not get \"mentor-zoned\", or \"big brother\" zoned?\nHow does someone in my situation get a girl interested in them?\n(Asking if she wants to get coffee will most definitely instantly land me on the \"creepy\" list.)\nFor someone in my social position, how do I get INTO someones league?  \n\nAnyways, \nThanks Reddit..", "summary": "Finally have a crush on a girl and find out I haven't matured since freshman year of college."}
{"id": "t3_2gb5vi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when I went to work", "post": "Greetings proud (proud?) people of reddit, I am insert lurker introduction here.  This story of heroism and grace all begins when I am placed upon my throne wielding the mighty blade which controls my honourable person of the multiverse (I was sitting on my ass playing Video games).  When lo dost I hear the divine ringing of a siren urgently ringing informing myself of duty?  With greater speed than even a majestic stallion I am on my way, no sooner than realizing the gusts of august were upon me I found myself at the residence of my employ.  When a bewildered manager inquires as to what purpose I have appeared and where my trousers are?  It then dawns on me that I am seemingly lacking trousers, not only that but I have traveled more than a a metre and less than a parsec to arrive at my destination. With haste I returned to my domain with dramatic impact and hurriedly acquired that which I was seeking, all the while my mother  laughed profusely and I was made to be quite the fool.  She later revealed that she purchased an alarm similar to mine then proceeded to devise a dastardly scheme.", "summary": "My mother played a great trick on me and I ran to went to work without pants."}
{"id": "t3_z4hql", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Given the chance, what would you learn on company time to open better job options?", "post": "*Throwaway, because my job is unnecessary and I work for a large corporation.*\n\nDearest AskReddit,\n\nI'm in a predicament, and I'd like your thoughts.\n\nI currently work a job where I can pretty much do anything I want and still get payed. I'm an hourly employee that works in the middle of nowhere with no direct supervision. The job pays $10/hr, but there are no pay raises, no benefits, no insurance, and no room for advancement. \"They\" do not care what I do as long as I don't leave, essentially I'm payed for my presence.\n\nThe job is boring as fuck. I've been using my time surfing reddit and playing games, but I quickly found out that having the same routine at home *and* work leads to a very repetitive work week. I want to quit and move on, but since I have no higher education I would end up doing more work for less pay anywhere else locally. Looking at the bright side however, I can essentially get payed to better my education, I just need something to learn that will open better job opportunities.\n\nThe only problem is, I don't know what exactly what that something is. So far I've considered learning a second language (but I don't know what would be useful) and attending one of those online universities (but I'd still need to figure out what I'd want to study).\n\nSo, I'm looking for idea's. Given the same opportunity, what would you try to learn?", "summary": "company is paying me to do nothing, looking for ideas / suggestions for things to learn on company time so I can get out of this shit hole and move on."}
{"id": "t3_120vtw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend is the nicest person, but she can be super trashy, help!", "post": "My girlfriend, who I've been with for a quite awhile, has always been I guess a little \"trashy\".  I always tried to chalk it up to \"fun-loving\" but recently I'm having a big problem with it.  She's the nicest girl, and she's really affectionate, but she likes to drink until she pukes, got a meaningless tattoo that ruined her back, has a tongue and belly ring because her sister said no to nipple rings (real happy about that), and really likes to wear skimpy, revealing clothes.  Even if the rest of her roommates are all going out in jeans, she'll put on a skirt that barely covers her ass.  Is there a way to explain this to her without really hurting her? Or am I better off finding someone more my type?", "summary": "My girlfriend's a really nice affectionate person, but she's got some habits that I think are trashy and I'm really put off by them. Do I try to talk to her or do I move on?"}
{"id": "t3_3od43u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46 M] with my wife [50 F] married 21 years, apparently feels less into \"us\" than I do", "post": "Wife and I were on the couch and I asked her what she thought of marrying me. How good of a decision was it? She thought for a bit and said I was a 9/10. \n\nI had been asking playfully and was not really expecting anything serious so I was a little taken aback that she didn't rate me 10/10 (which is what I rated her for me).\n\nShe said she was just being honest and that the reason for the -1 was the fact that I have suffered from serious depression a couple of times in our relationship and it was \"too much\" to deal with. I suspect the -1 might actually be a bit lower in reality and she was trying to be nice, after a fashion.\n\nMy depression periods consisted of me being pretty down and out (I was raised by a child molester and suffered repeatedly at his hands until I hit puberty and it left me with a bit of a cracked foundation... I'm normal to everyone around me but am secretly very insecure and prone to almost overwhelming anxiety and depression) but I have never been unkind or cheated or lost my job or anything of that sort. We aren't financially struggling, I share duties around the house, we go on vacations, have 2 great kids, etc.\n\nI am a bit out of sorts over this, that the woman I feel so great about doesn't feel as great about me. I try to hide my depression from her now (as I know it causes her distress and I don't want her to be even less into me due to it) but I can't stop thinking about this difference in how we feel about each other. Lately, I feel like it is eating at the core of the insecurities that my childhood installed in me and I am worried about where this may lead. It's definitely starting to affect how I interact with her as I am more distant and less cheerful as I sort through my feelings on this (normally I try to be appear happy and friendly to folks around me). \n\nI need to vent somehow and this, anonymously and on reddit, is the best I can do.", "summary": "Told her I that after all these years I thought she was the perfect partner for me, 10/10. She thought for a bit and then said I was probably a 9/10 for her (she wanted to be completely honest). So... just ignore it and be happy I got an A- or what?"}
{"id": "t3_1gt8mz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Advice for an 18 year old, soon to (hopefully) go to university in 3 months?", "post": "Background info:\n\nI live in the UK and I'm going to leave home to Birmingham University, providing I get the right grades in the exams I have just done. I have never had a job, and since I have just finished sixth form, i have about 3 months to kill. \n\nI need a bit of understanding as to what sort of position I am in. Should I apply for part time jobs, even though, I wont be able to work for them in 3 months. Should I tell them I'm going university if I'm lucky enough to get an interview. Is it possible I could get a transfer from my job where I live to near where I will soon live?\n\nI keep searching for jobs, but I keep thinking, \"what's the point? I don't think anyone would employ me because I'm going to Uni soon. Or should I just not tell them I'm going to uni\"\n\nThe types of jobs i would be applying for, would be shop assistants in my town centre.\n\nThank you", "summary": "Would like a job, but leaving my home town in a few months. Can I still get a job?"}
{"id": "t3_2k2cgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need advice. Is it me? I feel like there's ALWAYS something wrong with my [20F] boyfriend[23m] and I.", "post": "I love him. I know I do, he's amazing, and I can't get enough of him.\nBut I feel like there's always SOMETHING I'm unhappy about.\n\n1. I feel like he just doesn't want to have sex that much anymore. When we hang out, at some point I'll start kissing his neck, touching him, etc. But he's never into it, ever. He'll only start fooling around once I complain. He loves me, he loves cuddling and kissing, but he's simply not as active as me, and whenever we do have sex, he cums first and leaves me hangin.\n\n2. he's never romantic, never does cutesy things, all he ever wants to do is sit in his room. Which is nice, we cuddle and stuff, but I like going out and doing things. He never wants to do anything. \n\n3. If I don't drive to see him, I don't see him.He doesn't have a car, which sucks, since he lives around 30 minutes from me, which isn't too far, but I have to be the one to go out and see him, which is a pain sometimes. I haven't seen him in two weeks because I haven't been able to go out to see him, and he won't do anything to try.\n\nI've been patient with him, he didn't have a job for a few months, I've paid for everything, drove us everywhere, anything i wanted to do i had to drive, pay, etc. I just feel like I'm doing EVERYTHING in this relationship.\nI'm stressed, and extremely unhappy.\n\nBUT.\n\nWhen I see him I get so happy, I love him so much, I know I do. But I'm just so unhappy with the relationship. HELP! I don't know what to do. I try to bring it up, but then he gets upset and tells me I \"Hurt his feelings\" and that he's going through hard times. I'm very patient, I've been with him through his hard times, but I'm getting tired.", "summary": "I'm extremely unhappy, Boyfriend never satisfies sexually, I'm the one doing everything In the relationship, I'm getting tired. But I love him too much to leave."}
{"id": "t3_1j3kqi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend (27,m) and I (25,f) have been together for a year and my family does not love him.", "post": "A little bit of background: I met my boyfriend online a little over a year ago and we have been in a relationship since. Family is super important to me, so I introduced him to my sister within a few weeks. She loved him at first, but over time has come to, not necessarily hate him, but prefers to not be around him. The rest of my family met him a little later in the relationship (as they live farther away) and, to put it in my  mother's words, will only tolerate him. They have brought me to tears multiple times telling me these things. \n\nMy boyfriend has never abused me, physically or verbally. He encourages me to pursue my next degree, even though that will make me \"more educated\" than him and potentially allow me to make more money one day. He treats me so well, often putting my wants and needs first. He takes care of me, loves me, challenges me. He is not perfect, but neither am I. I truly love him and want to build a life with him. \n\nBut my family keeps getting in the way. I am not one of those people who can just walk away from family. I have told me bf that I want to  leave him so he wouldn't have to put up with my family's bullying, but he doesn't let me, saying he loves me and will learn to put up with them for my sake. He doesn't hate my family, but is just as frustrated as I am. \n\nI am at a loss of what to do. Has anybody dealt with a similar situation and/or have any advice?", "summary": "My family may be ruining my relationship and I don't know what do about it."}
{"id": "t3_353rh0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by failing to hang up.", "post": "Today I called my great aunt to thank her for my wedding gift. I was calling from my cell phone through my Bluetooth in my car. The answering machine picked up. I didn't say much, because I wanted to thank her when I got talk to her. I hung up the phone through my steering wheel and music began to play through my speakers again. It was the red hot chili peppers. Being alone in my car, I began to make sounds to the melody of the song. It was something I'd never do in front of anyone else. I looked down at my phone to reddit at the red light and saw my google dialer still connected... Might have yelled fuck when I realized what I had done before actually hanging up.", "summary": "called great aunt, hang up failed through cars button, sang odd sounds to the melody of red hot chili peppers onto her voicemail. "}
{"id": "t3_2utksg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my bestfriend [16 F] who has a boyfriend and I have a crush on her.", "post": "Recently I have redeveloped a crush on my best friend who already has a boyfriend the she loves. I have asked about my chance of ever dating her and she says never. That our friendship means too much and that she loves her boyfriend to much to ever break up with him. She has also told me to get over it and even is trying to set me up with her cousin who I liked in the past. So she is no help even though she has seid she would be dating if her and her bf never meet. \n\nThen I talked to my therapist about my issues with her and it was a helpful conversation but it left me with a delmia. She told me that I am letting her live the best of both worlds with pretty much having two boyfriends. Me who she spends more time with her then her bf and is willing to give her anything in the world along with just wanting to make her happy and take care of her problems. But she doesn't see that most of the time and she treats me like her gay friend sometimes. So my therapist told me that I need to give her the ultimatum where she cant have us both and if she doesn't want to be with me the same way I want to be with her I should cut her off.\n\nSo now my issue is that I really don't want to do that but I'm miserable having to suffer with her telling me about how she fucks her bf and how she loves him but not me. At the same time she helps me out because we do have a ton of fun and she helps me out with some other problems that I have. Along with that she is very understanding and probably knows me the best out of anyone in the world. So I have a major issue to deal with somehow.", "summary": "I have a crush on my best friend and she doesn't want to date so now I have a choice to leave her alone or ruin her relationship with her current bf."}
{"id": "t3_1m59a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] met [25F] on a work trip. Hit it off, but there is distance. Be bold or stay home?", "post": "We met on an extended trip that we both happened to be on for work. In my mind there was definite interest on both sides but it can be easy to think this when put in the situation we were in. Spent a lot of time together but mostly professional time with intermixed personal time here and there. Got her number, in a personal context not professional. We are now back to our regular lives across the country from each other  and we will both send the occasional text seeing how each other is doing. I want to get to know this person better, and belief that a bold move would be asking her out to dinner, which would obviously require a plane trip and a few other details but a time commitment. My fear is because of that big time/money commitment she might feel strange about the situation. Maybe I am just infatuated with her and it will fade, but I still feel like it worth pursuing. Be bold or forget about it?", "summary": "Got her number on a trip, date would require a flight, does that scare her or boldness?"}
{"id": "t3_jerz3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What would you do? My friend slept with my girlfriend right in front of me.", "post": "I was dating this girl for about a month, and I was taking things slow so we hadn't been intimate yet. So I organize a trip to Las Vegas, where I plan to finally \"seal the deal.\" The trip is a group trip with other friends.\n\nAnyway the second night there my breakfast cocktail must have been too strong and I take a drunk nap in the early afternoon. I wake up to the sound of the girl I'm dating and my best friend getting intimate in the shower.\nI'm pissed. I grab my keys and start walking to my car to drive home. I realize I'm not that much of a jerk so I go back to the room. \n\nThey had finished up in the shower and they are laying out in the room. I try to organize a trip to a show or something that night. They agree so I take a shower and get ready. When I finish up in the bathroom I enter the room, only to see them fucking once again, on my bed. I go back to the restroom and wait for a few minutes. They finish up again and are passed out. I take an angry nap and can't wait for the day to be over.", "summary": "My best friend has sex with the girl I am dating, right in front of me."}
{"id": "t3_3ae3qq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] just started seeing an aazing guy[28 M] and need some advice on the STI talk", "post": "So I just started seeing this amazing guy. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship and some of my last ones were...not fabulous, shall we say. Thankfully, he's understanding and perfectly willing to take things slow.\n\nHe's slept around a ton in the past, which honestly doesn't bother me at all. My only concern is STI's, and there are rumors that's he's contracted them before. Now, I'm really trying not to take them seriously, but its obviously something I want to broach with him (Preferably before we do anything too intimate). I've never had to do this before, and I'm worried about his feelings. In the end the conversation needs to be had though. Am I being paranoid and how should I go about asking him? We've only been on two dates but have known each other for several months. I'm kind of smitten with him.", "summary": "How do I talk to a very new guy about his sexual past and potential STI's without hurting his feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1k7gq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [17m] of 2 years won't take me [17f] to homecoming", "post": "I brought up wanting to go to homecoming with my boyfriend and he said he refused to go and would not tell me why. The thing is I don't even want to go to the actual dance I just wanted to get dressed up and go out to eat and stuff, just the two of us, so its not really a matter of him not wanting to go to the dance or be around people. When I said I still wanted to go with some girlfriends he got upset. I've tried bringing it up again but he gets upset and refuses to speak about or tell me why he doesn't want to go. He knows I don't actually want to go to the dance and that we would not be going with a group like we did the year before. I am just upset that all my friends will get to dress up and have fun and I'll be stuck at home because my boyfriend refuses to take me. I know it's only homecoming and he says he'll go to prom with me but I am starting to doubt that. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend won't take me to homecoming and won't tell me why, gets upset when I talk about going with friends"}
{"id": "t3_3cpy17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my almost-gf [21 F] duration, short-description", "post": "We have been seeing each other for about a month. Our chemistry is amazing. I think this is moving in the direction of something exclusive and serious. \n\nOnly problem is that she has very recently come out of a LTR of **4+ years**. She broke up with her ex only about 2-3 weeks prior to our first romantic tryst. My intent at the time was just for something fun and temporary, but I think our feelings have grown past that. Now I'm trying to figure out if it matters or now that she hasn't really had a \"break\" to be single.\n\nI have expressed my concerns to her. Her perspective is that this is a non-issue.  She was slow to realize that she was no longer interested in her ex, and even slower to actually break up (she's nice to fault, and that previous relationship was long-distance and therefore whenever she realized she was no longer happy in the relationship she would put off the breakup till they would see each other in person). She feels she has been \"effectively single\" for about 3 months prior to our romantic engagements, even if not officially so due to distance issues.\n\nAs far as I can tell, she has absolutely no leftover attraction to her ex, and is not in contact with him. She's been open and honest about anything I ask about.\n\nAnyway, assuming I buy her story (I do), what sort of issues should I anticipate if we are to move forward? What red flags should I be worried about here? Signs of unresolved baggage? Or am I worried about nothing?\n\nNot that this matters to the question, but she is damn cute.", "summary": "Girl I'm seeing for past 1 month has only recently ended a relationship with bf of 4+ years. Does everyone really need \"time to be single\" or is it ok to move forward? What to think about before going exclusive?"}
{"id": "t3_1h8mxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself, [25M] dating [23F]. Language barrier issues.", "post": "I [25M] have been dating this great, intelligent, open woman [23F] for about a month. We've had mutual friends for a while, but didn't hang out often. \n\nThe only bad thing is that we do have language barrier issues because English is not her first language (though she is pretty fluent), and I do not speak Spanish. Sometimes I'll use figures of speech that she doesn't understand, or I will use words that she doesn't understand. I like to joke around a lot, and this is difficult with the language difference.\n\nI guess I'm just wanting to hear about all of your experiences relating to relationships where each person has a different primary language. What kinds of problems might it cause down the road? How do people work through this? Would it be easier on my part (though selfish) to solely date people who also have English as their first language?\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "I'm just wondering how to deal with a relationship where each of us has a different primary language."}
{"id": "t3_1zl3nf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by texting an acquaintance the thought of our mutual friend's recent death made my mouth water", "post": "A little background, I'm a film student at a university. It's a small (less than fifty students each year) program in a school of about 13,000. So as far as film students go, we all know, or are at the very least are familiar with each other.\n\nOne of the students in my class lost his battle with cancer over the weekend, we'll call him \"Z\". So, seeing as how we are film students we set out to make a tribute video. Earlier today I was contacted by another film student, we'll call him \"C\", C  was asking if I had any footage or photos of Z. We started talking about how strange it was he was gone.\n\nAt the same time, I was texting my girlfriend, we'll call her \"S\", about getting sushi, a food I would very seriously consider killing for.\n\nAnyway. I received a message from C roughly saying \"it's going to be weird editing footage of Z.\" I simultaneously received a message from S saying how she was craving sushi. I replied to C and agreed how it was going to be very strange and left it at that. I then went to reply to S and apparently never got there. I don't know what heinous crime I committed to make my brain think I was replying to S when in actuality I was replying to C, but that's what I did. And I sent word for word, \"It makes my mouth water just thinking about it\" to C.\n\nIt took me close to fifteen minutes to realize my mistake. I only checked my phone to see why my girlfriend had not replied and I noticed I had actually never replied to her. And then it hit me, I had sent the wrong text to C. I immediately texted C back explaining myself and am yet to receive a response, it's been almost two hours.", "summary": "Told an acquaintance the thought of editing footage of our dead friend made my mouth water."}
{"id": "t3_1bbpei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dealing with infidelity (M23, F21; 5 years)", "post": "I(M 23) found out my wife(21),of three years, cheated on me about a year and a half ago. I have had a very hard time convincing myself that she has not been since. She has assured me that she has been faithful. I have become very paranoid and i critique every thing she does. Coupled with the fact we are separated by 6,000 miles because of the Army, it only makes me more worried she'll do it out of feeling of necessity.\nI, too, have done somethings to make her worry of me; so I am by no means a saint, but it has started to affect our relationship. I know I need to seek help. I figure I start here, where I can get real and honest opinions from all sorts of people. Rather than from one person who has not been through it and only read it in some book written by someone else.", "summary": "My wife cheated on me a year and a half ago. Its affecting our relationship. Any pointers."}
{"id": "t3_gz46e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my girlfriend wants me to move from  ohio to california", "post": "heres the catch. we are both working on associate degrees at a community college. her major is photography and i don't have a major established yet. she believes that by moving to california after she earns her degree will put her at better odds to get a job in photography. we are still two years away from earning our associates but she wants me to decide right now if i want to move with her or not. we have been dating for almost 8 month and apparently not wanting to move to cali due to my uneasy feelings about leaving my life is a deal breaker for our relationship. she is so certain that her life will take her to california that she wont allow for the possibility of ending up somewhere else. what should i do? i really love her but what about my life..", "summary": "girlfriend wants me to move to cali with her in years time and wants to break up with me now if i tell her im not sure if i could."}
{"id": "t3_3k48zk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] GF, just admitted to me [27M] that she's self conscious about her weight/body. How should I go about trying to encourage her to get back into shape?", "post": "I've been dating my current GF for about 4 months now. Every since we've been together, everything has been fine. I've been perfectly happy with the way she looks, and everything about her. She's kind of conservative so we've just got to third base, but she just admitted to me that she hates for me to see her naked because she's gained a lot of weight in the last few months and she's uncomfortable with the way her body looks.\n\nI want her to get back into shape, and for her to be happy with herself and the way she looks. How should I go about doing that?\n\nI'm going to help her workout by going with her, but I'm only available to see her 2, maybe 3 days out of the week due to our schedules. Right now she has an ancient phone and keeps on talking about how she wants to get a iPhone, and she always wants to go to visit different cities. I was thinking about encouraging her by having her losing an X amount of pounds, and I'd get her either a new phone or take her on a vacation.\n\nAre there any negatives by doing this? I want to keep her motivated since I'm always working. \n\nAny additional tips or suggestions would be appreciated.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Girlfriend admitted she's self conscious about her body, I want to help her stay in shape but work a lot, was thinking about encouraging her by helping her upgrade her ancient phone that she hates or taking her on a vacation."}
{"id": "t3_2fu97d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F], my bf [25 M] should I talk to him about this?", "post": "Alright, so in the past month he's been secretive about his facebook. He goes on it quite often when we're not together, but when I'm at his place he doesn't go on it. He would get on it before regardless of me being with him or not, but recently he just stopped. A couple of weeks ago, he tried to go on his phone with it turned away from me. I caught a glimpse and he was trying to get into his messages. but now you have to download the messenger to message people on mobile. This is after he just stopped. It's freaking me out, and I don't know if I should be worried? I don't know why he would have to feel like he needs to hide it from me. I go on my facebook and check my messages and he can see who I'm talking to. I asked him last week why he doesn't get on facebook when we're together and he said he just hardly gets on anymore. I believed him until I downloaded the messenger for my phone to message him something silly before I took a nap. (I just got back home from my morning class and I didn't want to turn my computer on.)  It said he was active 3 minutes ago. This is why I'm so confused and I think I should talk to him. but I don't want him to think I don't trust him. It's how he's acting about facebook in general that is freaking me out. He's secretive about it, he lied to me about how he barely gets on it when he clearly checks his facebook a lot. I don't know how to talk to him about this, since I already brought this up before. I'm getting anxious about this whole thing.... I'm afraid if I bring it up it will start an arguement. I just don't know how to deal with this. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend is being secretive, kinda sketchy about facebook. I dont' know if or how I should talk to him about this."}
{"id": "t3_4jd49j", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Advice on a 6 month long backpacking journey.", "post": "I'm going to be gone for a long time. That's for sure but I have to decide where i will begin. I could:\nA) fly to Australia from USA (home) and then make my way to mainland Asia for Thailand, Nepal, India.\n\nB) fly to Nicaragua and then make my way South to Bolivia as the final stop. I will be using public transportation or hitchhiking. This will be a lot of ground to cover.\n\nC) fly straight to Columbia and then make my way through to Peru. I'm looking forward to the beaches in Central America so this would be faster to Bolivia but miss out on Central American beaches.\n\nI also want to note that I'm looking into Indonesia travel to a couple islands including Bali. Any advice on this country in particular, let me know what you all thing!", "summary": "Decide between South America or Asia as a basic travel itinerary."}
{"id": "t3_pt3uk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm thinking of proposing to my boyfriend.", "post": "I have a problem that I have been conflicted with over the last few days. My boyfriend and I have been dating for several years now and I have never been more in love with him. Everyone expects us to have gotten married, but I have resisted the pressure at every turn. I have never really understood appeal of marriage. Marriage has always seemed like red tape and paperwork that doesn't add anything to the emotions involved in a long term relationship. I do, however, think that it is important to my boyfriend. I also think that I have probably caused him to think that marriage is not something I am interested in at all. Lately I have found the idea of marriage a bit more pleasing, though I am not sure where it has come from. \n\nHe has been an amazing partner, through everything, and I have decided I would be delighted to give him the gift of that promise. I also believe that men should have a change to have a moment of pure romance, like all woman dream of having. He is more of a romantic than me, but I do my best. I guess, after that bit of background, I want to ask if people have an opinion on whether or not a female to male proposal would embarrass rather than romanticize. I also have no idea what you would give a man as a token of your pleas of marriage.", "summary": "Is an unconventional proposal going to land me in the dog house? If not, do I come baring a ring?"}
{"id": "t3_23la45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would it be inappropriate for me [22M] to ask my professor [~35F] to lunch?", "post": "Before anything else: **platonically**. I am absolutely not interested in dating any of my professors. I'm gay, and she's married.\n\nI've had a couple of classes with this one professor, and although she's not officially my advisor, that's been the role she's played for the last year: helping me figure out career paths, applications for grad schools, and how to balance school and personal responsibilities. She's supervising an independent study I'm doing this semester, and after we've gone over the work for this week, we'll usually spend some time talking about other things - classes, travel, family, food, etc. I really enjoy talking to her and once all grades are in for the semester, I wondered if if would be appropriate to ask her to have lunch just to be social. I've had dinner with my professors before, but it's always been in the context of traveling and I feel like it might be seen as suspect since it wouldn't be part of a group of people. I'm graduating, so there's no chance of having another class with her.", "summary": "I have a mentor/friend-type relationship with a professor, would it be inappropriate to socialize off-campus once the semester is over?"}
{"id": "t3_260dmq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't know what to do with constant back and forth friendship and frequent disappearances. Me (18M) and her (18F)", "post": "About a year ago I had a fling with a girl. It was odd, she dumped her boyfriend for me, we tried things out, but they got weird. I felt bad that she had just dumped her boyfriend, so I broke things off and we remained friends. She got back together with her ex not long after that and we didn't talk for a long time. He hates me and refused to allow her to talk to me. They broke up in the fall and we started talking and hanging out, but it seems like I'm her last resort friend. We barely talk, and the few times we hang out can be really cool, but they don't happen often at all. She just started hanging out with her ex again (like last week) and we don't talk anymore. I feel like I'm only there when she's either not with her boyfriend or bored and there's nobody else to talk to. We went on a date 2 weeks ago, and she spent a good hour and a half on her phone with other people, then went home and we haven't talked since. Sometimes weeks or months will go by before we talk and it bugs the shit out of me. It seems like we'll be fine for a week or two, talking every day and such, then she drops off the face of the Earth, then comes back for a week or two, then does the same thing. What do I do?", "summary": "I feel like I'm a last resort with a friend. We don't talk for weeks at a time because of her ex and I'm sick of the back and forth stuff."}
{"id": "t3_29kzgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [26 F] of 2 yrs, will the relationship anxiety ever end?", "post": "I constantly waffle over whether or not to break up with my girlfriend.  One minute I'll feel like it's definitely over and start planning the breakup speech, then I'll break down crying thinking about it, and afterwards I just can't understand how I felt so upset.  There's nothing really wrong with our relationship, I love her and she's my best friend - just this uneasy feeling that she's not the one, and I would be more compatible with someone else.  I'm not sure if there's any point in getting into specifics, but I'm a more of a type A and she's definitely not, and sometimes I find myself being pretty critical of the way she lives her life.  The real problem is, I'm about to start a PhD (in August) and we're planning on moving across the country together.  So I really have to figure stuff out NOW, or else I'm going to completely ruin her life.  \n\nI know there's the whole \"grass is always greener\" thing, but clearly people often date people who turn out to not be their best match.  I never dated very much (she's my second relationship), and so I don't have a good idea of what's out there or how rare me and my GFs connection is.  The problem is, the only way to really know...would be to end it.\n\nI just want to know - will these feelings of doubt ever go away?  I'm a wreck and I can't imagine living my whole life this way.  Has anyone gone through something like this and come out of the other side alright?", "summary": "If you're really doubting things, is it possible to work through it?  Or am I doomed to feel this way until we eventually break up?"}
{"id": "t3_4a2213", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[m/25] i get attached too fast, too hard, and with little discrimination [f/35][f/multiple]", "post": "I feel like i can't talk to any women on friendly terms because if they tolerate me atleast 5 minutes i get infatuated with them. \n\nI have females friends told me they weren't interest and to stop hitting on them, but i literally can't, it's like a compulsion. When they cut contact with me i get desperate to talk with them again. If they don't cut off contact i fall in love with them until i'm obsessed and one of us have to cut the other.\n\nI get infatuated even if there's little in common. I take their interests, and if they dislike things, i'll dislike those things, too.\n\nI feel like it's an issue because it gets annoying to not be able to talk to any girls without getting infatuated with them. I think it may have something to do with my hormones. Do males have a biological clock? What should i do?\n\nI have to post a story if i'm making a post in this sub, even if i'm just looking for general advice, but one story, is that i met a woman off craiglist, she was 35. I was on a movie date and while getting there, there was silence so i started talking about for half an hour about anime, mobile phones, video games and space. She didn't seem into me, so once in the movie theater i felt really lonely so i started texting all my female friends and told them i love them and want their babies. It happens often. But they either ignored me, threatened to delete me, or said thanks and kept talking to me. After the movie is over she wanted to go home so i was hurt and told her why she doesn't want me to come at her place. Anyways a few days later i confess my love to her but she doesn't want to hang out more.", "summary": "I get attached too fast to women, and it makes interacting with them awkward"}
{"id": "t3_3c56ku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How much of my life do I [21M] need to change before I'll be dateable?", "post": "I should start off by saying that it's really really easy to hurt my feelings. If you guys want to give constructive criticism that's fine, but just don't try to insult me or make me feel bad.\n\nAnyway I have social anxiety disorder and because of that I've spent most of my life on my own, only talking to my mom and sister (dad died). I talk to a few people online but that's it. And I'm fine with not having friends, because for the most part I don't see the appeal of platonic relationships. But the reason why I'm writing this post is because I have a really deep emotional need to find someone who I can bond with romantically. This isn't about sex so much as cuddling, kissing, hugging, etc. Anyway the point is that this is a really powerful need, and (I hope) I'm willing to do whatever it takes.\n\nHere are the things about me right now that I think would make me unattractive. What I want to know is, how should I prioritize changing them? Are there any that don't matter at all?\n\n- I have very bad social skills.\n- I live with my mom and sister.\n- I don't have a job.\n- I don't have a driver's license.\n\nI'm also curious if it would be possible to get a girlfriend as I am now. But think I already know the answer.", "summary": "Of the following things, which do I most need to change in order to have a chance of getting a girlfriend?: No job, bad social skills, no driver's license, lives with family. I plan to work on all of them, but I want to know what should get prioritized. Also, is it even possible for me to get a girlfriend as I am right now?"}
{"id": "t3_557382", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How frequent should I text her? Or shouldn't I text her at all?", "post": "Some backstory\nI met an exchange student [22F], from Finland, which I have been an exchange to in the last semester. We met at a psych class and on Monday I asked for her number and dated that evening. The first date (at least in my assumption) was smooth. We walked around the campus and have some street food afterwords. I am planning to go for second date this weekend but she declined it because she wants to tour Borneo island throughout this weekend. But she is looking forward for a second date, next weekend.\n\n-end of backstory-\n\nWhich comes to my question - ah the waiting is so painful! Waiting for another week is pretty much puzzling. So I decided to keep the connection going. I texted her at least one thread a day. But I do realise that being too much pushy will make her intimidated. I mean she should have her own moment in exploring Borneo. But on the other side, I want to keep the conversation going.\n\nShould I just wait for her to come here on next Tuesday, meet her afterwords and proceed for a second date?\n\n-or-\n\nShould I keep the ball rolling by at least say \"How was your vacation so far?\" through text while anticipating her to be back to campus on Tuesday?", "summary": "Second date is on the next weekend and I wouldn't see her around at least until next Tuesday. Should I text her to keep the connection going or just activate my self-control mechanism and just wait for her to return?"}
{"id": "t3_20qinm", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV Decided to have a cheat day and I couldn't even eat half as much as I used to", "post": "Yesterday I had been following my diet and hadn't eaten for several hours because I was busy going to school, shopping, etc. \n\nI decided to reward myself by eating food at a restaurant, whatever I wanted, and most likely the whole dang thing too (hell, maybe an appetizer too, I didn't care!) \n\nI got a big stir fry with noodles and beef, but not a clean stir fry. It was the type that is covered in that glaze of oil/fat/whatever. Like takeout chinese food. Back in the day this was one of my regular unhealthy meals, and probably clocks in at like 800 calories a serving, and I probably ate more than 1 serving easily. \n\nThis time I had to ask for a box for the leftovers. I could only finish half before I truly didn't want to eat anymore. The feeling of leaving food on my plate is *totally* foreign to \"fat me\", especially if I was eating alone. I swear I don't remember the last time I wanted to binge and *didn't* end up bursting at the seams and wanting to lie down.", "summary": "I used to be like Louis C.K. where \"the meal isn't over when I'm full, the meal is over when I hate myself\". I decided to have a cheat day and got unhealthy asian stir fry. I could only finish half my portion and it wasn't because I was trying, I just was un-appetized at that point. I haven't *not* finished my plate since I can remember."}
{"id": "t3_362cp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my [24F] of 6 months, she left me because her ex boyfriends dad died.", "post": "My ex was close to her ex boyfriends dad who recently passed from cancer. She's lost alot of people close to her before and this makes me feel terrible for her. She told me that she couldn't be in a relationship anymore because she didn't want to \"drag me into it\". This was terrible news for me because we were going great before this happened and I really wanted to help her through it. I really want to be there for her still because I know she's going through a tough time but the thing is is that she never wants to talk about it, she deals with it by making herself so busy with her work that she just forgets about it all. I just need some advice on how to be there for her in my current situation, because I have never personally gone through losing anyone major in my life. I don't want to sound selfish either and tell her about how shitty I feel about losing her because I know she is going through a lot worse.", "summary": "Ex had someone close to her die which she then didn't want to drag me into, I want to know how to still be there for her."}
{"id": "t3_3317lc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/M] about to sleep with [27F] but feel guilty about it and feel like I'm taking advantage of her", "post": "So I dated this really beautiful girl last fall for about a month or so, things didn't really work out due to timing and she moved back home to take care of her sick mother. Recently, about two months ago, we started chatting again and it got sexual...starting sexting and exchanging photos, with making plans for her to come up and visit me and have sex (we did not have sex when dating, though we did other things of that nature, just not intercourse). \n\nWell, I saw her briefly when she was in town a week ago for work and it really hit me that she is in a very vulnerable place right now due to her mom's situation. And that maybe having sex with her wouldn't be the best idea or would be taking advantage of her. I'm worried she may have reconnected and started this sexual stuff with me because she isn't doing well at the moment and this was a way of coping. It was clear to me when we met up that she is pretty vulnerable and not just the kind of person to have sex for the fun of it. The thing is, I may be moving in a few months, so if she does come back to the city we couldn't be together in a serious way and I don't want to sleep with her when she is vulnerable like this, then not be there for her in the long-term. I'd feel like a dick because she is the sweetest girl. I just feel bad for carrying this on for two months now and don't know how to deal with the situation. Do you think it would be wrong for me to sleep with her when she is like this? If so, how can I break that to her? I just really think she may regret it in the long run though she is saying she wants it right now.", "summary": "Recently started chatting and sexting a girl I saw before, have plans for meeting up and having sex but feel guilty now as I realize she is in a really vulnerable place - thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2elcsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Slightly-to-moderately concerned about age difference. Me [M33] her [F22]. Please read story first, I need tips or thoughts!", "post": "So this girl at work and me started off by chatting, joking, and being friendly, and we had very similar personalities.  I was attracted to her but there wasn't any way I figured she would be into me because of the age difference.  It was nice having someone to chat with, I'll take any new friends that come along.  I kept it very cordial and never flirted with her, just friend stuff, you know? \n\n At some point we started talking outside of work, over text only.  And this lead to me mentioning a movie I wanted to see, where she said that she would go with me if I wanted to see it.  A couple weeks later I asked her if she wanted to go see it, and she did and we went out and had drinks and saw the movie, then ended up talking till like 4 in the morning.  Nothing physical happened.  We went put a couple more times to do other things in the following month.  Now, all of my friends are telling me that she's into me.  Not that they know her.  So at this point I'm starting to wonder what's going on.  \n\nWell this past weekend she came over my house(!) and cooked dinner and we drank talked and talked, and watched movies until 5 a.m.  There was some definite cuddling going on, initiated by her.  So now I'm 100% sure she's into me right?  Right.  But what now?  I have a decade of life experience more than her.  Our income is vastly different, she lives at home, etc.  Emotionally she seems up for it and mature enough to handle it, but....\n\nI think back to how much I've learned in the past 10 years and how different I am now.  I'm almost a different person than I was back then.\n\nSo,  two questions, \n\n1 - is this a bad idea? and if not...\n\n2 - Some tips to making this work from people that have went through this or are currently going through this type of age difference?  What are the challenges?", "summary": "would like some thoughts from people whose brain isn't flooded with oxytocin."}
{"id": "t3_drgm5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Can anybody hopefully provide some insight?...seeking employment out of state.", "post": "I've been unemployed since the end of April and have been seeking and applying for jobs non-stop since then.  I have not been able to land an interview with anybody let alone get any responses; they're a *we're sorry...* when I do get one.\nI'm just trying to figure out how I fit among the rest of the job seekers out there.  I'm a civil/structural engineer with ~2 years experience and wanting to relocate to another state.  I haven't been able to find many opportunities at my experience level in my state and haven't been successful with getting any responses from cold inquiries to local companies.\nWhen I do find a job posting that I feel I match well that's out of state and I *do* get a negative response, I can't help but feel that the leading factor is because I'm across the country.  Can anybody provide any insight on that?", "summary": "Am I at a disadvantage when I apply to jobs (even ones that I qualify well) when I am located out of state?  (located in the midwest, wanting to relocate to west coast)"}
{"id": "t3_1s6v1d", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Got an offer! But 2 other companies are also in the mix...", "post": "Hey guys. I have used this thread to search up interview tips and it has payed off! I have received a verbal offer from the hiring manager at firm A.\n\nThe problem is, I have also interviewed with 2 other competing firms and that process has went quite well so far. I've been through 2 telephone interviews and an in person interview at firm B, and 2 in person interviews and a telephone interview with firm C.\n\nNow that I have an offer from firm A, I'm very curious to here back from B and C. I'm unsure as to how to approach this, because I don't want to keep firm A waiting too long. Each firm has their respective qualities that I really like, and if an offer was presented by all of them it would definitely be a very tough choice for me. Is there any way to speed up this process as far as finding out if a decision has been made by either firm B or C?", "summary": "Firm A offers, I like firm B and C and am waiting to here back from them about furthering the process and potentially getting offers from them as well. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_38xg9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (18f) is not happy with me (23m). Any support or advice would be appreciated.", "post": "Okay so let me start with some backstory. We met last June and hit it off immediately. We took things very slow for a few months but by November I decided that I wanted to make it official. \n\nEverything was great and we hung out nearly any chance we could. She's helped me quit smoking and always is there to motivate me. We would have occasional little arguments over minuscule things but never like last night.\n\nAs of lately I've began to create bigger issues out of the small things. I know that I can be jealous and rude sometimes but she isn't going to put up with that forever. I want to be better and I know I can be. I've been really emotional about the thought of losing her especially when I know it's something that is all my fault. I can't change the past but I really want her to see that I am still the guy she met in June. \n\nI just need some input from others. I didn't know where to turn and I've never done this before but I hope someone out there can help me.", "summary": "My girlfriend is considering us breaking up if I continue to be rude/jealous. I wasn't like this in the beginning and I don't want to lose her because I'm stuck in some sort of negative state of mind."}
{"id": "t3_3w0owr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] asked out co-worker [27/M] and he said no, now what?", "post": "This actually happened about a month ago, and now that I'm past the disappointment, anger and sadness I thought that everything would be normal again. I no longer have any desire to be with him or date him but because I see him quite often I don't think I've gotten that chance to get over him, so I still like him. \n\nEven though it's not awkward between us, it's made being around him quite difficult, not to the point where my work is being compromised or anything along those lines, just on a more personal level. He'll be around for the next couple of days and this is causing me to be on edge, which is generally how I feel when I'm around him. That plus vulnerable, small and self-conscious. \n\nI know rejection sucks and it's meant to sting. For me, this was the first time I took it upon myself to actually ask someone out. Unfortunately I have to face the reminder of my rejection often, so if anyone has any tips on how I can get to a better place with this or at least not feel so on-edge/vulnerable/small/self-conscious about it, I'd love to hear it.\n\nA little BG information: I'm currently doing an internship for school in a small town and have tried occupying my mind with other guys with no success (it's a REALLY small town). Dating isn't in the foreseeable future right now.\nBeing a student, I also made sure this was okay prior to asking him out so do so as to not get the \"inappropriate behaviour\" speech.", "summary": "With a lack of other distractions/other potentials and constantly having to see him now do I squash the feelings of anxiety and vulnerability with someone who rejected me, and who I still kind of have a crush because he's always around."}
{"id": "t3_3l3k7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [26 F] and I [25 M] are on uneven terms right now, and she wants to seriously discuss getting a divorce.", "post": "I've never spoken about the intimate details of my relationship with anyone before, let alone online. My apologies in advance if I'm difficult to make sense of.\n\nMy wife and I have been together since I was in high school. Our relationship has never really been easy. Keeping an **extremely** long story short we now have two kids (two and three years old) and have just moved to a new city. Also worth noting, we have both suffered from depression and anxiety for many years, coupled with low self-esteem. My wife had post-partum depression after my eldest was born as well.\n\nPart of the reason we moved was to get away from negative influences where we were living, and to help repair our struggling relationship. So far our relationship has remained stagnant, discussing divorce is coming up more frequently. Usually this is spurred on by me reacting poorly to a situation.\n\nI'm not even sure how I feel about a divorce at this point. I've thought about it a lot over the last few years. I can see myself being a lot happier after a divorce, but I can also see my self becoming a depressed bag of shit. I'm not sure what the best course of action would be at this time.\n\nI'm really worried about my kids too. I love them both so much, and don't want them to get hurt during all of this. It's breaking my heart thinking about what this would do to them.", "summary": "Is divorce the right option for me? I feel I might be happier after a divorce, but I'm thinking working to keep our relationship going may be a better alternative."}
{"id": "t3_1kqr4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[18M] with my ex [18F] 6 months,broke up four months ago, starting to be friends, have moved on, some concerns.[Break-ups]", "post": "So here's the story, me and my ex broke up at about 4 months ago because the frequency of arguments increased to the point where she couldn't take it, in retrospect it could have been worked out because there was many things going on in my life that were causing said arguments, it's over now though but I've learned a lot that I'll carry over into any other relationships\n\nwe maintained no contact for a period of about 3 months, she is a very good person and a nice girl I still like talking to now, she's there for me when I have a problem (with her or something else) and I really appreciate and like it. So I've come to the conclusion that I've moved on and it's great.\n\nSo as of last week we are friends and we text from time to time, yet to hang out but I'm sure we will soon, the problem is originally we took a period of no contact but it wasn't exactly no contact, we tried to be friends, so many walls were being put up restricting any sort of normal friendship and it wasn't going to go anywhere. So we decided we needed another period of no contact because I hadn't fully moved on and she wasn't able to put everything behind her.\n\nSo now after another month of no contact, all those problems before are gone or so they seem, I'm not sure if she is going to not let our friendship go anywhere. I have a few concerns regarding the future.\n\nI don't expect to how it is right now, but I could see it potentially happening, what if I develop feelings for her again, and what if she puts up those walls and won't ever allowed them to be filled?\n\nHow do I go about expressing those concerns, we've both agreed no expectations for the future, but of course they're always in the back of my head, I guess I really just want a chance to just do things naturally and maybe pick up where we left off someday because she did make me happy and she was happy at one point, and I've seen people bounce back from worse, that's not my concern right now though and I just want to build a friendship with her.", "summary": "Me and ex are starting to be friends, want to do things normally and naturally need advice."}
{"id": "t3_fi406", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "5 month Vegan Low Carb diet update. (Don't read this if you don't like that sort of thing.)", "post": "Starting weight: 350+ Weight on Feb. 9 - 272, 78lbs down total.\n\nKept calories below 2400 per day and tried to get fewer than 100g of carbs per day (aside from the occasional cheat meal or bowl of high protein blueberry oatmeal). Protein intake was in the 240-270g/day range.\n\nDiet: Protein shakes, broccoli, almonds, seaweed snacks. (Cheat meals 2x/month.)\n\nSupplements: Psyllium husks (fiber), creatine and beta-alanine. Vitamins, occasional ZMK. \n\nExercise: Dr. told me to take it easy on the weights and do more cardio, so I tried to take a few more hikes and bike rides. Got cleared by a different Dr. to get back to the weights later in the month, and found I'd lost a ton of strength.\n\nOverall take: Cardio REALLY seems to ramp up the weight loss, but unfortunately staying away from the weights for a few week REALLY seems to ramp up the atrophy and muscle loss, so doing both is probably optimal. Meanwhile, to get to \"normal\" weight for someone my height, I'd have to get to 194lbs.  (I either need to get stronger or thinner or both.) \n\nPretty stoked that the weight is still coming off without a lot of drama and angst. Cannot wait to get the rest of this weight off!", "summary": "lost 15lbs this month, 78lbs since August. Vegan Low Carb FUCKING RULES!!!"}
{"id": "t3_4qu874", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pushing kids on a swing", "post": "So like most other fuck ups, this happened a very long time ago.  I was in first grade.  This was a private school where God and Jesus take precedent over all else and anything you hear that contradicts that is wrong; a very close knit community school. \n \nWe were at recess and I wanted to go on the swings.  Unfortunately, we only had four swings and they were all taken.  So, in my stroke of genius, I decided to push some of the other kids while they were swinging.  It was the friendly thing to do and once one of them was done, I'd have first dibs on the swing.  \n\nSo I'm going back and forth between two kids pushing them when one of the other two kids wanted me to push them.  At this point I was frustrated.  It had already been about ten minutes and I wasn't planning on pushing kids for the entirety of recess.  I was annoyed that they were acting like I owed it to them to push them.  So, at that moment, to not push them, I said \"I can't push you because black people are bad\" \u2013 to a black kid, in the first grade, of a school that was predominately white.  I think there was maybe only five black kids in the school.\n\nI'm not sure why I said it.  I was only six, so I don't believe I actually understood racism.  I also didn't mean it; it was just what I came up with on the spot.  It was a very bad choice.\n\nAfter recess the kid tells the teacher what I said and I got scolded by her, the principal, and the guidance counselor for the rest of the day about how what I said was wrong.  They gave me detention for two weeks and made me write an apology letter to the kid and their family.  They told my parents, who grounded me.\n\nFor the next few months every student in my class treated me as if I was Rudolph or something.  It was not a fun experience. I eventually became friends with the classmate", "summary": "was pushing kids on swings, didn't want to push one kid, told them it was because they were black"}
{"id": "t3_1ybaud", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Asking for a discount because of poor service from a small business?", "post": "I ordered a christmas gift for my friend over two months ago. I contacted the seller via e-mail and didn't hear from them for over a week. I then hunted down their Facebook Page and direct messaged them there. They told me their screen printer had been closed for the holidays and my package would be sent out \"soon.\"\n\nAgain I waited over two weeks with no package. I direct messaged them again and they replied back saying that one of the totes full of packages had been left behind at the office and he would straighten it out on that coming tuesday. Two weeks again go by and I message him again. He states that my package had been sent out (coincidentally that same day, probably before replying to my message). I waited another two weeks and FINALLY the package arrived today.\n\nMy friend says I should definitely ask for a partial refund or discount because of the time it took to get the package. I missed christmas AND valentine's day as opportunities to give this gift, which really sucked. I am totally satisfied with the product and am willing to do business again, but apparently I'm not the only one this happened to.\n\nAm I in the right for asking for a discount/coupon/refund?", "summary": "Waited over two months for an order to be processed and arrive. Got the run around from the business. Finally got package. Should I ask for a discount?"}
{"id": "t3_2t6l8p", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not changing the name on my personal hotspot and getting my school evacuated", "post": "So a little background first: I'm on my school's student council, and today was our Junior Prom assembly. We had a lot going on, much of it relying on a fast internet connection to work (live cameras streamed over AppleTV, etc.) we realized that as everyone settled into the auditorium, we'd have a large portion of the student body connecting to the school wifi, and we were worried about slowdown. Our live camera was basically useless without a good internet connection, so I had the bright idea to hook up the AppleTV to my personal hotspot. It connected automatically, I ran the feed for a few seconds, worked like a charm, so we moved on. Assembly starts, about 15 minutes in and everything is going great. I'm backstage when I see our principal run up to microphone and tell everyone to exit the school immediately, as there is a potential terror threat in the area (I live in an area where things like this never happen; we've had one lockdown in my 10 years of schooling here) obviously, everyone's more than a little worried. Everyone files out, myself included. As I'm standing outside, a friend walks up and tells us what he found out from a teacher. One of the students, while trying to connect to the wifi, had \"discovered\" a network... My network: \"Taliban Secure Communications.\" needless to say, the student went to a teacher, things escalated, and the school ordered a full evacuation. I talked to the principal (a very, very awkward conversation) and got everything sorted out. Everyone's parents are panicking, checking their kids out of school now. My personal hotspot is now called \"I love school.\"", "summary": "Turned on personal hotspot with the name \"Taliban Secure Communications\" for an assembly, school got evacuated because of a supposed terror threat."}
{"id": "t3_iyret", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I stop my fellow intern from staring at my screen every time he comes by?!?! Preferably in time for me to retain my sanity.", "post": "This is driving me UP THE WALL. One of the interns I work with has a godawful habit of coming over to talk to me all the time for the most inane reasons. He insists on responding to the most rudimentary questions with thesis-grade answers that ramble on for up to 6 minutes (these can be in reply to questions as simple as \"did Joe say he was coming in today?\"). He's also fucking annoying in about a million other ways (he is the epitome of [this guy](\n\nBut hey, I can deal with those. The thing that MOST irritates me is his habit of staring at my screen every time he comes over to talk. He'll literally stand by my left shoulder and read my screen as he's talking. \n\nI've tried making it clear that I don't enjoy him coming over to my desk. I've tried semi-closing my laptop when he comes over (but that just makes it look like I'm surfing Reddit at work, which clearly I never do). I've tried locking eyes with him for the duration of his monologues, but even then I can see his beady eyes darting to my screen every two seconds. I've even tried asking him directly, \"Were you just reading over my shoulder?\" and he admitted to it and apologised, but he still kept on fucking doing it!\n\nHelp me before I stab him, Reddit. How do I stop this guy??", "summary": "Annoying intern keeps reading my screen over my shoulder, which I detest. How do I stop him?"}
{"id": "t3_v54rn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE have stoner/pothead parents and hate it?", "post": "My parents have been potheads my whole life, and probably long before I was born. They used to grow it in the basement, but I guess they just stopped when I was old enough to know that it wasn't normal. \nI have an older brother and an older sister. My brother is schizophrenic and homeless, and just... blah. Very violent and belligerent. My older sister is married to the guy who got her pregnant when she was 16 (she's almost 29) and they have two children, 7 y.o. girl and 11 y.o. boy (sorry if some of this is kind of irrelevant.) Her husband is also a pothead, and she was too, for a while, though now she's been staying away from it for a while. She is sooooo much easier to talk to now, and she helps a lot.\nMy parents are the most close-minded, ignorant, self-centered, lazy people I have ever met. There is no point in even trying to having a conversation with them. My feelings are absolutely null and void, and literally ANY personal problem I try to talk to my mom about (I'm a girl) makes me a drama queen.\nMy boyfriend is completely on the straight-and-narrow, and so am I, and he is %100 there for me. We've been together for over two years.I just don't think he gets it, and I don't expect him to. But he listens.\nI just turned 19, and I'm, somehow, just now starting to be unbearably annoyed by this. I work the same full-time job my mom does, but I don't have enough saved to be completely on my own yet. But, believe me, I'll be out of there as soon as I can be.\nI just need to know I'm not alone.", "summary": "Parents are lazy stoners, I am going to implode."}
{"id": "t3_3qvv79", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining 5 people's chargers on a train", "post": "So I'm one month into uni and decided to visit home to see my friends and family. Other than getting used to train platforms for the first time and blocking a public toilet, the day was going pretty well. Before getting onto my train I bought myself a Costa.\n\nOnce inside, I began to realise that all of the seats were taken so proceeded to stand up for most of my 1 hour journey. 10 Minutes in I decide to listen to my music so I rested my drink down and opened my bag to reach for my headphones.\n\nThis is where I fucked up.\n\nThe train jolted, my coffee fell and the lid somehow came off, spilling the contents over what I now realised was a generator of some sort for the trains charging ports. Instantly I heard a few pops and the smell of smoke.\n\nTurns out that I short circuited the system, causing the fuses to go off in 3 phone chargers and 2 laptop chargers.\n\nEveryone just looks at me with a glare and an awkward silenced followed. I instantly apologized and offered to pay for everyone's chargers but they all just sighed and let me off other than one guy who I had to pay \u00a330 to through my banking app. Although most of them let me off, I could tell by their tone their they're all pissed at me. Thank god their devices are okay...\n\nThe following 30 minutes was the most awkward experience I've had in my life.", "summary": "Spilled a coffee and ruined 5 people's chargers"}
{"id": "t3_2c53ku", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you stop feeling insecure about being imperfect and flawed? (21M)", "post": "I have translated this into a Superman complex. My ex once nicknamed her guy friend jokingly 'Superman' and thought fondly of him. Although she insisted this was just a joke, as time went on my paranoia took over and I began to assume she couldn't nickname him something so loaded without him actually BEING perfect/flawless. This putting on a pedestal was my attitude to him despite the fact he obviously gets dumped too. This more or less ruined our r'ship, because I cannot compete with Superman of all superheroes. Basically I am insecure for even having insecurities, and if confidence is attractive, then one should not have any insecurities or moments of doubt, hesitation etc. Or my anxiety disorder makes me a bit of a spineless wimp, according to this Spartan standard. \n\nHow do I accept that I am an imperfect being with flaws and perhaps not a dreamboat, but still deserving of love and respect by virtue of my humanity? Self-improvement schools basically teach you that the goal should be perfection, there are people out there more perfect than you, and they are the people who are liked more. 'Just being yourself' is a bad idea. I have translated this into: Imperfection is weakness. Since then I have been aggravated by my awareness of my skinny-fatness (despite time spent in the gym) and straight As as opposed to straight A+es, for example. I have also been annoyed by my inability to drink or not sleep without experiencing symptoms of anxiety and depression, and feel weak because of it.", "summary": "There are things I can do to try to improve, but I will never be perfect. Since I have a bit of a god complex-I get aggravated by my mortal frame and its limitations-how do I address this? How do I also stop putting 'hot guys' or 'hot girls' on a pedestal, when on the surface they do have their shit together and no life problems or insecurities? This has actually turned into quite a shallow and paranoid social hierarchy of sexual market value."}
{"id": "t3_1xcg1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [27 M] of one year and I [24 F] are so in love but have so many compatibility issues. Help!", "post": "I've never loved anyone the way that I love my boyfriend of over a year, and he really loves me. We have amazing chemistry, are so passionate, have great conversations, intellectually stimulate each other, laugh together, are very romantic, etc. However, we have a number of compatibility issues and it's so hard trying to resolve them:\n\nHe's extremely introverted, while I'm an extravert.\n\nHe is working full time and I'm not (until I find a job).\n\nHe is extremely confident and I have some insecurities.\n\nA relationship is not nearly as important to him as it is to me (It's my #1 priority and is not even on his list. But, as a person, I'm very important to him).\n\nHe's a vampire and I'm a day person.\n\nI want a more traditional kind of relationship and he doesn't like planning things out.\n\nHe can only see me for half a day each week because he's so drained from work and his insomnia, and this is very hard for me.\n\nAnd there are even more. I don't know what to do because we've had so many hard talks about these things. Should we agree to disagree and leave it at that? I don't even know what that would really look like.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are so in love but have tons of compatibility issues. What to do??"}
{"id": "t3_37q7yk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my friend [27F], who is planning on bringing her two pythons to our office building for two weeks without notifying anyone.", "post": "My friend (27F) is having bedbugs removed from her apartment tomorrow and she is worried about the chemicals being dangerous for her two pet reticulated pythons. Since she lives close by to our work, she is getting some of our friends to help carry the two cages to her office there. She is planning on moving in two weeks, so she would keep the pythons in her office for the two weeks. \n\nI tried telling her the chemicals are really concentrated on the sprayed surfaces and keeping the cages on her balcony for a few hours would more than suffice. I think she thinks that I am unconcerned about her snakes' welfare, which is untrue, and so she is not listening to me. We work in an building (university building) with over 200 people, and she does not want to notify anyone or get approval. I am not helping carry the cages because I do not want to get involved in this. I can tell she is irritated with me. What do I do? I feel like I need to convince her otherwise because she can get into a lot of trouble, and more importantly, if a python were to escape (unlikely, but not impossible) someone can get seriously hurt. What do I do?", "summary": "My friend is planning on keeping her two pet pythons in her office at our work (in a building with 200 people) for two weeks, without telling anyone, and I don't know how to talk her out of it."}
{"id": "t3_g3vz4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help the Forever Alone", "post": "After reading a plethora of posts from individuals bemoaning an inability to meet dates, I thought it would be intriguing to ask the remaining Redditors how they met their S/O's. Perhaps some advice, and surely a few funny stories will amass. \n\nTo launch, my story:\n\nAfter turning 26 and being married to my job, I had no success with online dating, so I started eating out more - single girl at the bar with her Kindle - trying each of the local joints in my suburb. I frequently got to chatting with the regulars, as it made for good entertainment. One night at Applebee's, I was shooting the shit with a regular and he said \"I have someone I want you to meet. I'll be back in about 20 minutes - promise me you won't leave.\"\n\nHe came back with a boy in tow - a downright perfect match.", "summary": "Don't knock drunk guys in bars - at least they're not driving."}
{"id": "t3_wt8lp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recently we got a new flatmate who is turning out to be an absolute nightmare. What horrible flatmate stories do you have?", "post": "A little background info: A few months ago, my flatmate and I were forced to rent out our spare room to keep costs down. My flatmate put an ad out and this guy replied and moved in while I was out of town. He was a bit older than us (he's 35 and we are 22) but he seemed ok. He needed a place quickly because he had just broken up with his partner. He was pretty depressed for a while and started acting pretty weird. His ex saw us all out at the pub one night and followed us home. My flatmate and I started getting abusive texts from her telling us to stay away from him or she would hurt us. She stalked us to the point where he had to take a restraining order against her and her sons. Drama followed this guy like a bad smell and he loved all the attention it brought him. He's a pathological liar and has lied about everything from being left at the alter, having cancer and to owning a gay cruising club. Unfortunately we can't kick him out of the flat as he is now on the lease and we can't afford to make rent payments with just the two of us.", "summary": "got a random flatmate from the internet. turned out to be a nutter and got stalked by his crazy ex."}
{"id": "t3_2tf3j9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to act macho", "post": "So I was leaving a Chipotle with a friend ( we were in separate vehicles) when we both pull up to a stoplight where I was in the straight lane and he was turning left. As a joke, my friend looks over at me and starts to rev his engine in a masculine fashion. Well I noticed we had time until the light turned green so I decided to play along and rev my engine as well. But..\nI forgot you had to put your car in park to rev your engine without flying into the intersection like a mad man. So i glance over at my friend and make my most macho face, which is the last thing he saw right before i suddenly accelerate into the intersection where a car had to swerve out of the way to avoid t-boning and destroying my car. I ended up being okay and even made it to my house 2 minutes faster than I would have so I guess its not all bad. He later told me it was the scariest thing he has seen in a while.", "summary": "I tried to rev my engine in drive and almost died"}
{"id": "t3_d5w94", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Suggest things to do for 4 months of non-work - hiatus in Canada", "post": "A little background about me: I do not need a job at the moment. Thanks for my last one, I have made more than enough to sustain my simple lifestyle and pay for future tuition. In January, I will return to school to finish my degree in engineering. I am in my early 20s and recently single. I just built a gaming rig and I can mine asteroids for veldspar just like every single one of you.\n\nI need suggestion on: things I can learn in 4 months, things to do (or must do) in this strange Canadian city called Toronto and whatever you think I should do to make this hiatus worthwhile.", "summary": "staying in Toronto for 4 months, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4qfvtz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Philophobia, fear of intimacy", "post": "Hey everyone. Just reaching out to the community to see if anyone has any personal experience with this. I am both I believe.\nI only go after women who are unavailable because I know they won't work and I always have an \"out\" to look back on. I am 30 years old and my longest relationship has been 4 months (about).\nI am a passive type so I fear being engulfed and losing myself and who I am. It's not that the women will say no if I ask them out, I'm scared they will say yes. So I usually don't.\nWhen I do get involved with someone who is emotionally available I lose sleep, can't eat, smoke a lot of cigarettes, and can't say no to them hanging out or say yes. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I have no solution.\nCurrently involved with someone and driving them crazy, they have put themselves out there quite a lot and I fear I should've cut it off sooner. I could barely tell her I liked her because it seems like such a commitment. But I can't cut it off because then I lose this person. I am co-dependant.\nAs I am typing this I realize how crazy this looks\n\n I love keeping to myself. She loves being around people and hates being alone", "summary": "Fear of falling in love"}
{"id": "t3_1kf7qu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28/F) dealing with ex's (23/M) new girl (19/F) PREGNANT already", "post": "Ex and I broken up for the last year officially but things have been very on and off & confusing. But, we haven't acted as if we were broken up at all so people have basically referred to me as his girl all this time. The last 2 months he's been seeing someone new, even though he's continued seeing me. She's pregnant. Ultrasound confirmed yesterday. We were the ones discussing kids & marriage and now this. I\"m so incredibly jealous and his family is blown away. They'd be thrilled if it were me, but it isn't. It's really coming between him and his family because of his lack of responsibility, and the negative ways this girl has affected him all around. Nobody is happy about it. \nIt's just a very weird situation, Everyone is shocked I'm trying to stay strong because as I've said I've been around the last 5 years, and, I've been his main girl. Now this. I'm blown away. \n\nHas anyone ever dealt with this kind of situation?", "summary": "ex expecting baby with new gf of 2 months; I've been aroudn 5 years."}
{"id": "t3_2vq35u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [22 M] of 2.5 years hasn't given me my Christmas gift. Should I care or just forget about it?", "post": "My boyfriend went away on a trip with his family during the holidays, so we didn't see each other during Christmas or New Year's. Knowing that, I made sure to give him a Christmas gift before he left, and I told him to open it on the 25th. He told me that he would give me my gift when he returns, so I was fine with that.\n\nWhen he came back, I proposed to him that we should cook a nice dinner together, a sort of small celebration since we were apart for the holidays. He said ok, but didn't seem to excited. Then we had a stupid fight and he told me he wasn't in the mood for it. So we never had that nice dinner, and he hasn't even given me my gift, even though he keeps telling me that he will, just that he hasn't had the time or right moment. \n\nI am not a materialistic person, and I wouldn't care if he didn't give me anything. It just bothers me that he keeps saying that he will give it to me, but it's been a month and a half. Should I just forget about it or is it okay if I feel a little unappreciated? I don't want to make a big deal out of this, so I'd really appreciate your comments :)", "summary": "Is it okay to feel bad that my boyfriend hasn't given me my Christmas gift, even though he said he will?"}
{"id": "t3_49095j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trusting my son with an Apple ID and my credit card", "post": "As usual, this FU did not occur today, but it did GO DOWN today in a big way.\n\nI bought my high school son an iPhone 6 plus 18 months ago. With that, I attached my credit card to his Apple ID, with the strict instructions that he must ask me before ever using the card. This he did... for 17 months. I think we all know where this is going...  \n\nToday I looked at my credit card bill, because it seemed a little high. Turns out it was over $1000US high. My son has gotten addicted to one of those stupid games, and spent over $1000US on \"in-game purchases\" in the last month. And what kills me is this: the main reason was so that he could, at various times, \"pop balloons faster\". I shit you not. I spent over $1000 so that my little cherub could \"pop virtual balloons way faster\" for 30 days. (The game is \"Bloons TD 5\", for the curious...)  \n\nThere should be a subreddit for parents who have discovered their precious little ones have sold them down the river electronically, to the tune of 4 figures, in order to \"pop virtual balloons faster\" or whatever. Said iPhone/iWatch has been confiscated and may indeed be sold, I haven't decided. Be on the lookout at an ebay near you for an iPhone/iWatch combo on sale by \"father_of_a_balloon_popping_addict\".  \n\nThere is good news in all of this. Apple Support was downright SAINTLY about the charges. I told them exactly what happened and just hoped for the best. Legally, they owed me nothing, but they reimbursed 98% of the charges anyway. A big shout out to \"Gina\" and \"Jennifer\", you guys REALLY made my TIFU less TIFU-y feeling!!!", "summary": "Son racked up over $1000US on my credit card on stupid in-game purchases on iPhone cuz I trusted him, and Apple was awesome and mostly refunded the money."}
{"id": "t3_4lrudy", "subreddit": "running", "title": "*Update* Is 6 weeks enough to train for a marathon for me?", "post": "So, I posted 6 weeks ago about training for a marathon despite having never run over 10 miles (although I've run almost my whole life 3-7 miles on average). My goal time was under 5:30 and I got a lot of flack and discouragement, but I completed it 2 days ago in under 5:20 and was quite pleased with the results. The maximum I ran before the marathon was 15 miles (2 weeks prior). As for the marathon itself, the most excruciating pain was in the joints since most of the run was on pavement/sidewalk. It was too bad because I had enough energy to run but I couldn't much towards the end because of the joint pain. The last 5 miles I walked/jogged through slowly and they ran out of energy chews/bananas, so that sucked. Was feeling cruddy and a fellow runner gave me some jelly beans (even though I'm allergic to corn, i.e. just skin reaction, I had no choice but to eat them and that helped out). But today, 2 days later I have almost no joint pain and only soreness in my back and thighs. I was never out of breath, no chaffing, no blisters, no injuries, wasn't too thirsty or hungry after. \n\nMay not be a spectacular time but all things considered I am quite happy since I beat the time I aimed for (and I was within 5 minutes of the time I expected I could get). Moving forward, I would like to improve my joints and the tendons around them to help absorb more of the shock. I had an excellent pair of asics which helped a lot too. The other runners were very supportive, weather was good, everything went swimmingly.", "summary": "though i've done shorter distance running my whole life, i completed my first marathon after training for 6 weeks and being discouraged by others, in under my goal time. other than immediate joint pain/muscle soreness after, i'm feeling almost all healed 2 days later and hope to improve my joints/tendons to do another better time in the Fall or next year."}
{"id": "t3_mmm2q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am now unemployed and I don't know what to do.", "post": "Howdy Reddit,\n\nThis is my first post on Reddit ever, as I've been weary due to a lot of the rude people I've seen. However, I've decided to bite the bullet and post anyway, because I'd like some advice from an unbiased populace. So anyway...\n\nI've been learning web development for a while now, and I recently landed a salaried job at a local marketing agency. I was converting designs, and even doing a lot of Wordpress and custom PHP work. However, due to some issues with management, the company was shut down, leaving me unemployed. The problem lies within the fact that I was only at this company for four months. The town I live in does not have any other companies that deal in web development, so I'm kind of out of luck in getting another web gig. That is, unless I can find a job elsewhere. Of course, I do not believe my knowledge (outside of HTML/CSS) is good enough to land me another job elsewhere, let alone somehow move financially (I am 21 and do not have a bunch of savings). I would like to avoid going back to retail jobs if possible, but I will definitely work any job if need be. So I guess what I'm trying to say Reddit, is, for someone my age, in my position, with my experience, what would you suggest I do to continue moving up in the web industry, instead of falling out of it four months in?", "summary": "I'm an unemployed fairly smart 21 year old with web development experience trying to get back into the industry in a town with no opportunities and no resources to move elsewhere."}
{"id": "t3_3uqu80", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why's everything a trade in this relationship? 27m and 26f", "post": "So we've been together for 10 years and over this time I wouldn't say things have gone stale but it feels like nothing is spontaneous any more. For instance, she will never initiate sex which I have voiced to her over the years and I get the same answer. Time goes on and nothing has changed, I've accepted that she just isn't going to (she says she's still sexually attracted and sex is great when it happens). But when it comes to things like doing activities or certain acts she always says \"well what do I get?\", so much so that it feels like I'm with a prostitute for lack of a better term. As if I'm paying either fiscally or with another act for something I desire. This has led me to initiate less and lose interest occasionally for resenting her statement. I would say I'm not sexually greedy, I will and do please her with all the things she likes whenever possible. \n\nI've also brought this up on occasion and it feels like it falls on deaf ears. I get a blank stare and a \"okay\". Still nothing changes or occasionally she'll feel bad about it and try to initiate but it feels like a pity act rather than a consensual one. \n\nI am always asking her what she would like to do for activities or even simple things such as where she would like to eat and I always get, \"I don't know\". And of course once I choose and we order or are at the place she says something along the lines of, \"I wish we went to xyz\"", "summary": "my girlfriend of 10 years is turning everything for sexual acts to dinning out into a negotiation, how do I fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_t96m2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I be mad about this?", "post": "My fiance (we've been together 3 years, getting married in November) has been working all day (this is common) and decided to go out for a drink after work (also very common). I'm concerned because last night we went out and on the way home got pulled over and I nearly got a DUI. This really freaked me out and I don't even want a sip of alcohol before driving ever again, yet he decides to go out for \"one beer\" (in quotes cause one beer for him really means 2 or 3)? On Cinco De Mayo nonetheless? Should I be angry about this? We're 27, female-male relationship.", "summary": "After I almost got a DUI last night (he was in the car), he decides to go out drinking. Should I be upset? And how do I approach the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_2mk1gc", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Helping drama queen and approval seeking.", "post": "So there is one guy called Dima. I like him and we're kind of dating, it's complicate, but let's assume we are dating. Well, I probably love him (always want to help him, enjoy doing things together with him, always try to accept his bad traits and work on our relationship). But he has a **really** big problem, when he's down, he becomes a drama queen and can be very hysterical to the point of hurting/annoying everyone around him. I'm trying to help him, at this point he got better and maybe it will go away someday, if I see that he won't improve, I'll leave. And there is other guy called Alex. He always was protective, but sometimes in a harsh way. He always was against our relationship with Dima (he's not in love with me and it probably is 15-20% of jealousy, but not 100%), because Dima sometimes acts like a total jerk, drama queen and stuff. I just didn't want to listen to Alex at the beginning, then I understood what he meant and then I understood Dima, too, so we got together. The thing is that when I even imagine Alex asking 'So you are together again? Why?' I want to just say to Dima that I'm sorry and this won't work out and stuff. I'm really afraid of Alex's judgement and even though I understand it's stupid there is a  part in me that wants to satisfy Alex's standarts and will be really unhappy, if he'll say that he's disappointed in me. And.. maybe Alex is right and I'm doing everything wrong? Anyway, we will be attending the same event (all 3 of us) this winter and there is no way to Alex not to notice what's going on. What should I do to figure out who is right and how  do I deal with this situation?", "summary": "I'm dating a guy who is drama queen when down, but I like him very much when he's ok. I also help him with his drama problem and he got a little bit better. Everyone thinks that what I do is pretty stupid, especially one guy Alex that I always need and seek approval from. Alex will (100%) find out about what's going on within a month and (99%) will judge me. How do I know if I'm right or everyone around me and how do I deal with this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3e2n16", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by laughing at a homeless man's joke", "post": "Every day on my walk to work I always pass by several homeless people, very I often I don't give them change, but this morning I decided I was feeling nice.  I gave a homeless man near my office $4 and he offered to tell me a joke, so I politely accepted.  \n\nHe goes on to say \"Why don't black people like jokes?\" and then he waits and screams \"because they don't find them funny!\"  It wasn't a very funny joke, but I chuckled because I felt like it was the right thing to do.  Anyways, he must of thought that I thought he was hilarious, so he decided to follow me all the way to my office telling me incredibly racist jokes at quite an audible volume.  On the journey we walked past several coworkers who gave me some weird looks.", "summary": "Laughed at a homeless mans mildly racist joke and he followed me all the way to my office telling me extremely racist jokes"}
{"id": "t3_cqic3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need reddit's advice with a girl that I've been  friends with for a long time", "post": "Well, where to start... I'm 20, I like this girl but we've been friends for 5+ years now, I never really had feelings for her before but I've started spending more time with her and found I had a lot more in common then I originally thought.\n\nI have been told by other friends (girls and guys) over and over again that I should ask her out, but I get the feeling that I will just get rejected as she may see me as in the dreaded friend zone.\n\nI want to know whether I should take the risk or go for a girl that I'm not really that interested in but I know that she likes me because she's always grabbing my hand.\n\nI will answer any questions that do not reveal my identity or anyone else's involved.", "summary": "I like a girl, I might be in friend zone, I know another girl likes me but I don't really have feelings for her, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2oq0bs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my fiancee [20M], vehemently disagree on weight gain", "post": "I find fat people unattractive, it's just my personal preference. My boyfriend of four years has knows this for the duration of our relationship. Roughly two years ago I acquiesced to him gaining some weight because he didn't feel like working out as much. A year later he pushed to gain more weight and promised it would be the last time. I again grudgingly agreed.\n\nWe are engaged to be married early next year and now he's pushing to neglect diet and lifting even more. I've finally put my foot down and he's unwilling to compromise. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend is gaining weight. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_hj6ic", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you do when you have a random peacock in your yard?", "post": "More info:\n\nHere is a picture of the bird  We've been hearing the calls for about two weeks, but he's been coming closer and closer to houses and made himself visible a couple days ago.\n\nTwo more pictures \n\nI live in a rather rural area and we have no idea what to do, we'd leave it alone but we're concerned for its safety and its really really obnoxiously loud at night. If you've never heard a peacock this is what it sounds like \n\nAccording to our one neighbor (it seems switch between his yard and ours) there used to be two of them.\n\nso.", "summary": "random wandering peacock is loose in rural PA. Wtf do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_15311i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF [29] lost his mother a little over 3 years ago and it still affects him. I'm [23] wondering how to help him cope.", "post": "Hi! We've not been together for long, about 7 months. Anyway, like I said in the title, he lost his mother due to some liver/kidney problems a few years back and it was just recently the anniversary of her death.        \n          \nThe anniversary has taken a toll on our relationship but that's to be expected. I don't want him to fake being happy around this time of year because it's not a happy time for him. He's been a little on edge and gets hurt a lot more easily and, in turn, hurts me a lot as well. I do my best to deal with it but we did end up fighting  a little. Anyway, this isn't about OUR relationship.     \n         \nThe other night he broke down and started crying about his mom and I mentioned maybe decorating her grave for christmas. He never visits her and I thought maybe it would help him out because he says he regrets not seeing her for the last few months before she died. He gave up his education, life and life savings to help her, though, and I think a lot of people deal with an upcoming, inevitable death by completely avoiding it. It's understandable. But now the guilt just seems to eat him alive.     \n         \nI really want to help him, but he seems to not want to do anything or talk about it and I'm not sure what to say because I have both of my parents and the closest death I've encountered was my grandpa, who I don't really care dead or alive due to our history.", "summary": "How can I help my boyfriend cope with the death of his mother and maybe move on from his guilt?"}
{"id": "t3_4mbacg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Wanting the guy you rejected..", "post": "I met a guy on Tinder about a month ago and we hit it off right away.  We have the same interests and the same sense of humour which is rare. He asked me out a couple times and I kind of brushed it off (I had nerves because I've never met up with anyone from Tinder) then finally agreed. \n\nIn the time leading up to the date I started getting really nervous and then found a picture of him on Facebook in which he looked quite short, and me being 5'10 and already nervous I panicked and cancelled on him.  He was really sweet about it and told him to contact him if I change my mind. \n\nNow a month later I still find myself thinking about him and missing talking to him. I'm contemplating texting him to meet up but am still nervous about the height thing and now that there's not much I can do other than meeting up with him/", "summary": "Guys: how would you feel if a girl rejected you and then started texting you again?"}
{"id": "t3_4w5lst", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my GF[25F] of 2 years, we're watching her sisters baby for 2 weeks. she wants to go to the movies but we can't get a baby sitter.", "post": "So we're watching my gf(steph) sisters baby(aoife, 8 months) for 5 days while her sister and husband go to some kind of medical conference for her job as head cardiologist for her hospital. they wanted to turn it into a little bit of a getaway for a day after. the watching the baby isn't the issue. we both come from large irish catholic families, taking care of babies is old hat for us.\n\nthe problem comes from that steph wanted to go see the new star trek movie. but we couldn't get a sitter so she just wanted to take aoife with us. as much as i wanted to see it as well to me, if you can't get a sitter you don't get to go to a movie. it's not fair to the baby who's gonna be subjected to loud sudden noises for 2 hours or the other moviegoers who have to listen to the crying of a baby for a movie they paid 12 bucks for.\n\ni tried to explain this to her, but all it did was start a fight. I'll be honest. I'm not innocent. we fought loudly and for a hour and change before we dropped it and stewed. how do i go about getting her to understand my position without giving up and dropping it altogether?", "summary": "GF wanted to go to a movie with a baby, i didn't because i think it isn't right of us. how to fix this without giving up altogether."}
{"id": "t3_3g9p2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] texted a girl [15F] a few months ago, texted her again, she always randomly stops texting.", "post": "Alright so I DM'd this girl a grade lower than me in May and it only lasted for a few hours of back and forth. The conversation was pretty general and we just talked about school. Then she just stopped responding. No goodbye, nothing. Just never responded.\n\nFast forward to now, I decided to DM her again. And she answered and we talked all day until I had to go to work. The conversation was constant and the longest break between texts was around 15 minutes. I tried to make this one deeper and I got to know her a lot more. Before I went into work a I decided to ask for her number and she gave it to me. Then after work I texted her and she responded. And we talked for a few hours but then she fell asleep. Again no goodbye she just fell asleep, which I understand.\n\nShe texted me this morning telling me she fell asleep and then we texted again for a few hours. Then she did it again. She just stopped responding. Like she did in May. Its been a few hours and I know she must've seen it because she's been active on Twitter. \n\nI forgot to add that she has the read receipts on and even though she's been on Twitter she hasn't went into our conversation and looked at the text, probably so I don't see the read receipt. \n\nSo should I never text her again? I'm not sure what to do or what this means. She was super involved in the conversations and they don't die down she just doesn't respond. It's confusing lol. Any and all advice is helpful. Thanks!", "summary": "Girl I texted for a day stops responding to me and I don't know why. Conversations are always good but she just randomly stops responding."}
{"id": "t3_1utpgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my husband[31 M] of three years, how do I support him during his depression?", "post": "My husband came back from the doctor today and he's been prescribed an anti-depressant because the doctor says he's depressed. I know things have been incredibly stressful, as we're expecting our first child in a couple of months, we just moved states about six months ago, and he hasn't found a job he enjoys -- right now he's working for his father, and they have some tension. We aren't broke, but there are some money issues, and I haven't been able to find a job since we moved here (no one seems to want to hire a visibly pregnant lady).\n\nI suggested he go to counseling earlier this week, but he's been pretty resistant towards it. How can I help him through this? I feel so awful that he's going through so much, but I don't want to push him too hard, either.\nI've been cleaning the house, making him lunch, and listening when he has problems...since I'm not working, I feel like I need to keep the house up like it's my job, and I do, but... I feel like there's still more I could be/should be doing.", "summary": "How do you support your partner through their depression?"}
{"id": "t3_2fzegc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[30+/m] Not interested in marrying her. Should I bring this up sooner?", "post": "Guy here. Both of us are in our early 30's. We haven't been together very long (a few months) but things have gotten very serious already. I've been living at her place for extended periods of time and she keeps making jokes about marriage. It is confirmed that she is intending to have kids in approximately 5 years.\n\nShe's had quite a history including a divorce from her end. From the looks of it she's basically treating me already like the expected husband that her first turned out not to be. This is concerning me somewhat. I think she may actually be in love with me but there's a certain part of her past relationships that I'm not willing to accept (excluding the divorce) and will never consider marrying her because of this.\n\nI do not intend to dump her immediately as I actually enjoy her company. But I also do not see myself complying to her plans to start a family in said time frame. I don't want to waste her precious years on someone not willing to commit, but she's also pretty swamped at the moment with family and financial issues and leaning heavily on me for emotional support. My question is, should I bring up this issue now? Or wait a while first and see if her feelings for me will die down a little and/or her personal situation evens out?", "summary": "30 year olds. She loves me, considering marriage and kids. I like but don't want to marry her. Tell her first or play along for a while?"}
{"id": "t3_3xtbli", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How are flowers for gifts?", "post": "A short description of the relationship and me, I guess.  I'm a 19 year old jobless college student, and this is the first girl i've been interested in, and my first christmas having any kind of relationship, so i'm pretty lost.  Unfortunately it's long distance, so it limits gifts a bit.  She's also 21, and has a small amount of experience with dating.  We were 'best internet friends' for a little over a year before this happened too, and we've been relationship-ish for probably a little over a month now.\n\nHer hobbies are pretty limited, video games and music basically.  So I thought why not go with the cheesy choice of flowers.  But fuck, flowers are expensive and die so easily.  Basically my question is, is the reaction to flowers actually worth it?  My decision is on you reddit, pls help.  If you need any more info, just ask, I'm so lost LOL.", "summary": "hopeless romantic wondering if the sweet feeling she'll get recieving these flowers is worth it, or if i should just get something different."}
{"id": "t3_3bempg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I confessed (f/26) my feelings to an ex (m/28)", "post": "I really don't want to get into the details  about the relationship but we could not be together due to distance. \n\nIt's been over two years and I have tried to move on (i.e. date other guys, no serious relationship), but I still have these deep rooted feelings for this guy because I never felt this way before with someone else. Upon encouragement from friends I sent him a message stating that I still have feelings for him and that I need closure. I was still holding on to some sort of false hope(that he still cares for me, is in denial and maybe change his mind) and it was beginning to get toxic with me trying to date men. Hence my friends input to let him know. \n\nMy ex responded  seeing that there is no future other than friends. That his messages were meant to be platonic. I was expecting this response. I mean after two years apart, if a guy really wanted something he would do something about it right? \n\nMy issue is that if I ever had a failed relationship, bad date or just felt lonely I thought of him. I had him at such pedestal.  So I need to completely  shut the door on these thoughts.I have now gotten the response, which is he does not share these feelings. \n\nAny words of advice would be appreciated on moving forward?", "summary": "Emailed my ex confessing about feelings I still have for him after two years. He did not reciprocate. Any words of advice on how to move forth?"}
{"id": "t3_1f4zh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I give my girlfriend time without going insane? [21]", "post": "My girlfriend [23] and I [21] had a massive argument a few days ago due to me getting way too drunk and jealous over something stupid. I've been trying to make things right (going to her house and trying to apologize etc.) She's now told me she wants a few days to herself without us talking. \n\nWe've been together on/off for 2 years and for the last 6 months we've been perfect with no (major) arguments. \n\nBut knowing it's because of me entirely that this is happening, I find it so hard to relax and even when I busy myself with things, I really struggle to stop thinking about it (probably because of the guilt?). \n\nJust wondering if anyone has any advice to give me to leave my girlfriend alone without getting myself depressed over the next few days (I have a history with depression)\nThanks in advance", "summary": "Need ways to relax and not bother my girlfriend while she has time to get over an argument"}
{"id": "t3_3tmqix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think he's embarrassed of me", "post": "I'm (42F) have been in an on and off relationship with a wonderful man (32M) for just over a year.  I am married, but have been separated for almost a year. My husband (44M) had been having an affair for 3 years. We have 2 children together. Our separation is ugly. He wanted me to stay. I tried for years, but can't stand being treated like I'm worthless anymore. \n\nSo I found happiness with this new man. I realize the age gap may be shocking, but it works because he's an old soul and I've always been fun and outgoing - a young soul. When people see us together, they assume we're the same age (I thank my mom and grandma for the good genes and lack of wrinkles). \n\nWe love each other. He thinks my kids are amazing, though I've only introduced him as a friend.  I don't think they're ready for a new man in the household. \n\nHe treats me well. But I have a huge problem with the fact that he won't tell his family or friends about me. He tells me they will give him grief over my age and the fact that I'm a soon to be divorcee with children. I'm not asking to be introduced to them, but I don't think it's unreasonable to ask that they know of my existence. As things stand now, he lies to them each time we get together. \n\nI explained that we have one life to live. Screw what other people think. In the end, they are not responsible for your happiness; you are. He became agitated and refused to talk about it further.  I'm feeling uncomfortable with being his big secret. I don't know how to get through to him. Or perhaps this is a sign that he isn't for me.", "summary": "I think my boyfriend is ashamed of me because I don't fit into the ideal image of what his friends and family think a girlfriend should be. Need advice on how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_yfhd6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Curing the 'What If' Feeling: F[24], M[24]", "post": "My boyfriend and I (Both 24) have been in a relationship for 2 years and a couple months now. Things had been going quite well, until last night he brought up that he's been having a feelings of 'what if.'\n\nFor the majority of the relationship we were long distance, but saw each other every other weekend. 3 weeks ago, we moved in with each other since we both now have jobs in the same area. Things seemed to be going pretty well. Then, throughout the last week, I noticed he wasn't hugging, kissing, touching me and things seemed strained for him. Finally, he let out that since I'm his first girlfriend, he is having feelings of 'what if there's someone better out there for me? How do I even know what I want since I've never dated anyone else?' and various related questions.\n\nI flat out asked him if he wanted to end things, but he constantly says \"I don't know, part of me wants to stay and part of me doesn't know\" (which I assume means part of him wants to leave). Upon prying a little more, he said that sometimes he feels like we are too similar and neither of us pushes the other to go out and do things... But this is untrue in my eyes. For the past 2 months, we have not had a free weekend because of going out and doing things. I also just moved into the area and started my first job, so I have been swamped with getting things in order (but trust me, I would love to go out and do things).\n\nMy question: How do I help him figure out what's best for him? Do I leave and give him space?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 2+ years having 'what if' feelings over relationship due to it being his first one. Don't know what to do or how to help him figure things out."}
{"id": "t3_i8rwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Double Standard for Oral Sex", "post": "Me (28) and my Fiance (26) have been together for 5 years, and engaged for about 3 months.  I'm very irritated that everytime we have sex, I have to perform oral sex on her as foreplay and she never returns the favor.  I have never received oral sex (blowjob) from her.  She tells me that she thinks its gross, and degrading.  She finds that blowjobs are something only a whore would do.\n\nWhat makes this issue even worse is, if I don't perform oral sex on her (eat her out) as foreplay, then we simply won't have sex at all.  It seems like it is her way of holding out on me.  \n\nI don't want to pressure her too much because when I start asking her often I feel a bit sleezy pestering her for a blowjob.\n\nI have told her several times that it is important to me that she reciprocate oral sex to me, but she has never budged on the issue.\n\nAnyone have any ideas how I can increase her confidence and change her negative conception of oral sex?", "summary": "I'm getting irritated that my fiance won't reciprocate oral sex."}
{"id": "t3_1ipvr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where does Cheeburger get its number of milkshake combos from?", "post": "I saw with 128 flavors they say there are 1,258,000 different combinations, and I feel like there would be a lot more.\n\nI thought about it for a bit and I think the formula would be (2^n)-1 where n is  number of flavors. If there's chocolate and vanilla you can have C, V, CV which is 3 flavors. (2^2)-1 is 3 also.\n\nThe -1 is since I personally think no flavoring isn't technically a flavor.\n\nIf my math is correct then the number of combos should be (2^128)-1, which is a lot bigger than 1,258,000.\n\nIf anyone could correct me or explain it to me id be very greatful.", "summary": "how does Cheeburger get 1,258,000 as the total number of combos."}
{"id": "t3_tl4mc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do any other gay redditors get uncomfortable around family when topics about gay rights/marriage come up?", "post": "I came out to my parents when I was 19.  It threw everyone of a loop, but it was nothing dramatic.  My family is mostly Southern Baptist, so they don't agree with homosexuality, but no one ever says anything to me.  In the past, when I had a boyfriend, he was welcome at my parents house.  I'm not a flamer or anything.  Almost everyone I meet don't know I'm gay when they meet me.  So, my parents aren't really reminded that I'm gay.\n\nHowever, when anyone brings up a topic about gay rights or marriage, I get very uncomfortable.  For instance last night when there was a story on the news about Romeny talking about gay marriage at the graduation ceremony.  I was going crazy inside.  I didn't know how to feel or what to think.   I was petrified until the story was over.  No one said anything.  But, for some reason, I always feel uncomfortable when stuff like that comes up no the news or in conversation.\n\nLet me stress, my parents love me very much and have never made me feel bad about being gay.", "summary": "Does anyone else feel uncomfortable when topics about gay rights/marriage come up around their parents/family, or certain people?"}
{"id": "t3_2havoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I 27/F get over my three year relationship with my ex/SO (26/M)", "post": "I have been dating my SO for nearly three years, the past year of which I had to move back to my home town and in with my parents.  Because of this, and several other things, I became quite depressed and our relationship suffered for it, and it eventually led to us breaking up. One of the main reasons him giving is that i was too negative and he couldn't deal with my depression as well as his stress, which I can understand.  \n\nAlthough i can see that the relationship wasn't right for me, I just cant get past that initial stage of heartbreak.  I have just been a complete mess for the past few weeks, cant sleep, cant eat, I cant do anything.  Having read all the articles about how to get over a relationship, I'm trying to follow them, but things are made difficult by the fact that a lot of my friends have moved away from my home town, there isn't much to do in the way of hobbies around here (I live in a small Welsh village), and most of the friends that I made in the past three years are mutual with my ex so it is difficult to visit and attend social events without seeing him.  I just feel really lonely.  I just dont know how to get out of this slump that I'm in.  I know people say that you have to go through the pain, but I feel unless I do something, I will never get through it.  \n\nHow have you gotten over the initial stages of heartbreak reddit? The stage where your heart actually feels like its breaking :(", "summary": "Broke up with SO of three years, feeling extremely lonely, cant get over the initial heartbreak stage and move on."}
{"id": "t3_13f7gb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit! What's your best Bachelor/Bachelorette  Party Story?", "post": "Part 1\n\nWe were loading up at a nice bar before heading out to begin with the actual Bachelor's Party. Deciding to keep it safe, none of us had cars and would be cabbing it all the way. The problem is, 1.) there weren't many cabs passing our way and 2.) there were 20 of us. Then, after several minutes wait, a stretch limo comes out of nowhere and the driver sticks his head out and tells us \"Need a ride fellas?\" We book the driver and head out.\n\nPart 2\n\nThe Gentleman's Club was on the 4th floor, so we take the elevator up. The maximum number of people the elevator could carry was 20, which for some reason we found quite amusing. We tested it, squeezing into it one at a time. A beep was resonating, but it stopped. We thought we had succeeded. \n\nThe elevator was slowly moving up, then for some reason someone decided to chant \"20! 20! 20!\" With fist pumps and joyous laughter and our new chorus of \"20!\" we were looking forward to the beginning of an epic night. When suddenly... \"BAM\". The elevator stops, right between the 3rd and the 4th... and it stays there for the next 2 minutes. Stuck. \n\nEventually, the elevator makes it back down ever so slowly and we are asked to vacate the elevator which we slightly damaged and take the other. We take the other elevator and proceed with the festivities. END", "summary": "Limo comes out of nowhere. We destroy an elevator."}
{"id": "t3_w2b5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend wants to move in together. She wants a big fancy loft.", "post": "Me: 27, own a home, needs work, far from girlfriend and her job.  Her: 25, Still lives at home.\n\nWe have been together 8 months. Been through a rough patch, but generally doing well. Known each other 7+ years.\n\nShe wants to move in together, and this is a natural step for us but she wants to move into a very expensive loft in a well known popular area for young adults. (Lots of bars, nightlife, restaurants, etc etc..) It is an absolutely kick ass loft, no doubt.\n\nHere's the problem: I make a lot more than her. I could afford the loft on my own, but am much more frugal when it comes to monthly ongoing spending. I have normal bills. No car payment, no toys. Anyway, she is willing to split rent with me. Another problem: Her share of rent is basically her entire check for a two week period. \n\nBills haven't been factored in yet either. I own a home that needs quite a bit of work (my motivation for wanting to get out) so I have considered renting or selling it. Not a big problem. \n\nSo is it crazy to even allow her to get in over her head like this? I don't mind being the good boyfriend and taking her out every now and then, like I do anyway, but her family is naturally concerned and I don't want to hear her worrying about money two months from now.\n\nShe says \"We can just downgrade if we get in over our heads\" (The complex allows you to swap apartments mid lease term)\n\nI am VERY motivated to move out of my home not only because of the work it needs, but my brother also lives with me, who is holding me back in life and is completely irresponsible and messy. So yet another reason.\n\nI am more worried about her financials. I refuse to be her bank. Sorry, we're not married yet and not gonna dole out loans.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants expensive place on 30,000 a year salary, wants me to move with her, I make more money. Do it or don't do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2c4f8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend[26 M] of 5 years financially supports me[22F], starting to resent me?", "post": "We are both creative people and would like to pursue creative jobs. This time last year, I was working in an office and he was working on a construction site. Both of us were unhappy at work, and barely got any time to express ourselves creatively. Last December, he insisted I quit my retail job because it made me unhappy. He desperately wanted me to get my creative career going, and wanted to back me financially until it happened. After a lot of talk, I accepted. I figure that when I get my career going, I'll support him and give him the chance to do what he loves. \n\nNow its the end of July and I still havent gotten my career off the ground. He works long, gruelling days and comes home exhausted and beaten, without much chance to express himself creatively. I sometimes feel his frustration when he sees me doing what I love all day, and he's stuck working a miserable job. Lately its been really bad, he seems like he's starting to resent me. Last week I was really depressed, and he got quite frustrated at one point, saying \"I do so much for you, why are you like this?\"... as though I didn't have a right to be upset because he supports me. It was a glimpse into what he actually thinks of me.\n\nHe also sometimes makes little jabs at me, indicating that I don't have enough respect for him, or that I don't appreciate him. I do respect and appreciate him, and I try to make him comfy and happy at home, but I dont know what more I can do.\n\nI've offered many times to get an office job again and then he can go down to part-time work, but he wont have it. I think that a part of him has given up on his dream and he's living it through me. But if him supporting me means that he is going to be depressed and resent me, thats not going to work. Its pushing us apart at the moment and I don't know what to do. \n\nHow can I talk about this with him without seeming ungrateful? What can I do? Any insights? Anyone been in a similar situation before?", "summary": "Boyfriend insists on supporting me financially, but hates his job and is starting to resent me."}
{"id": "t3_l90pd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "FairTax.. I want to make SURE I am understanding this.. Help me out if you can..", "post": "OK. So from what I've been reading around the web, FairTax would end income tax for everyone, but raise taxes on everything by roughly 34%.. Which on one hand doesn't sound too bad. I also saw Gary Johnson say something about taxing imported goods 23%. Wouldn't that jack up prices even higher than the 34% since we're paying so much more for everything we import? I also read that prices might actually come DOWN on some consumer products since they would eliminate payroll tax, etc. But I don't see a product that is $19.99 going down too much because of that.. I think most companies would leave the price $19.99 and make even more off of it. If $4 of that $19.99 was used for payroll tax and everything else, I have a feeling they would just pocket the extra $4 and keep it as profit. Maybe eventually as people learned about this, it may go down, but I doubt it.. Anyway, I also don't see how this would help the lower-middle class and the lower class too much, if at all. A single mom working as a waitress getting paid in tips would be screwed. Sure she'd make an extra..$20? on her next paycheck from the $3.00 an hour she makes. But what about when she goes to buy her kid ridiculously overpriced formula? That $20-$30 bottle of formula just went up to over $40 but she didn't really see another dime. Like I said, I could have this completely wrong.. I'm just going off of what I've read from the internet. So if I do have it wrong, can someone please explain it like I'm an idiot? Cuz I kinda am.", "summary": "Explain FairTax to an idiot."}
{"id": "t3_1oep6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend of 4 yrs [29M] and I [28F] don't really have sex as much anymore, and we're okay with it. Is that bad?", "post": "Would love to hear from others in similar situations. I've been with my bf for about 4 years now and we're pretty much in it for the long haul. Neither of us are marriage people, but we're basically in that stage of our relationship, to give you an idea. We've lived together for most of our relationship and we've grown very comfortable with each other, which is great. \n\nNow, we're kind of drifting into that territory where the sex has decreased a lot. It went from 4-5 times a week to maybe once every 2-3 weeks. It's been a gradual fade so it's not shocking or anything. And it's not for lack of attraction; we're both quite affectionate otherwise and are still attracted to each other. But it does seem strange how little it bothers me that we don't really do it anymore. And he doesn't seem to mind either; he's quite outspoken and open about his emotions so it definitely would have come up a while ago if it had been bothering him. I guess my only concern is is this going to be detrimental to our relationship eventually? I've read about dead bedrooms and people becoming frustrated and resentful over not getting the amount of sex they want... But I don't think it's affected us at all. My sister told me that she and her husband of 9 years started scheduling sex after they had their second kid because otherwise it would happen way less, but that sounds really unappealing to me. Like a doctor's appointment or something. I think if it's going to happen it should happen organically... But what do I know. I'm pretty young and inexperienced with all this. Is this lack of interest in sex something we need to take a closer look at in our relationship or should we just let it be and assume that's just how we are? Are there couples out there who just don't care about how much sex they have and still have a healthy relationship?", "summary": "Sex has dwindled over time; doesn't bother me or him at the moment, but is it worth doing something like penciling in sex just to keep it happening?"}
{"id": "t3_550y1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my girlfriend [20F] together for 1month, got some doubts about what she's saying..", "post": "So I'm having issues understanding what my girlfriend means, or if I'm even doing the right thing. For some background info, this is my first real relationship outside of high school and hers also. According to her, I'm the first nice guy she's dated. I lost my virginity to her and I'm the first guy that she's had sex with, that actually stayed for longer than an hour to talk or cuddle or whatever. The past guys she's dated have treated her like one night stands: bang and bounce.\n\nAbout a week ago, her period started. No big deal. But after her period stopped, she was still kinda distant. I asked what was going on and she started crying and unloaded everything. She was worried about our future, she's worried I won't be enough for her, all of her past relationships have lasted a month and they all left. She wants to work on it and right now, we're still talking and together, but I'm having doubts. From what I understand from what she told me, these are irrational thoughts that just pop into her head. When I asked what I can do to help, she told me to \"give her space when [she] needs it, to let her talk to [me] needs/wants to\". I'm concerned that maybe she's not feeling anything between us anymore. I'm trying to be optimistic, but it's difficult when you're not getting good vibes back.\n\nIf I need to clear anything up, let me know. I'm really confused. Am I naive, am I missing something? Am I being too nice?", "summary": "Gf is afraid we're going to split even though shit's going great; says she needs space from time to time; am i reading too much into this?"}
{"id": "t3_s9qoc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most awkward moment you've experienced?", "post": "A couple months ago I moved to a new building and I was having trouble keeping track of my keys and kept locking myself out.  My neighbor would help me one thing leads to another and we started a relationship.  One thing to note is I am 22 and she is in her early 30s, we went on for about a month or so and then ended up ending things earlier this week.  Today on my way to work I get in the elevator and it is her and her ex-boyfriend looking like they're about to get ready for the walk of shame.  She has told me before that he knows about me.  All three of us just stood there in silence in the elevator I did not know what to do or say.  To make it worse we got out of the elevator and walked the same way down the street.  I ended up walking into burger king just to get some room between us.", "summary": "Was fucking my neighbor for a while, saw her in the elevator with her ex-bf"}
{"id": "t3_1h7326", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "LPT: Ask your venue for vendor referrals.", "post": "But isn't searching for vendors the hardest part about wedding planning? You want someone reliable, but who won't rip you off? Just ask your venue and/or venue coordinator. Obviously they've worked with many different vendors and can let you know who is good. What may not be so obvious is the SAVINGS they can get you.\n\n  \nMy story: My FI live in a state where it IS legal for an online ordained person to marry you. The catch is, they have to be a resident of our state, and none of the people we wanted to ordain  were residents. So we were thinking forking over like $200-300 for some random officiant from our area. But I thought, \"hey, might as well ask our venue coordinator,\" since I hadn't done any research into who was good. Turns out her husband (the general manager and chef of our venue) is ordained and would be willing to do our ceremony for.... **$25**!!!!!!! I nearly tipped over in my chair, but very graciously accepted that offer.", "summary": "Asked venue for officiant recommendations, got an officiant for $25."}
{"id": "t3_1ogpij", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I trying so hard to make this work that I'm killing it? [22f]", "post": "I'm a 22f and my boyfriend (21) and I have been together for a little over five months. Not very long, but I feel like he's the best boyfriend I've ever had- at least the most romantic and thoughtful. He's so many things I feel like I want in a man: open-minded, smart, somewhat adventurous, thoughtful, sweet. He's even open to moving around (not always easy to find in Southern LA guys), has an adventurous appetite, AND is great in bed. He's VERY good at communicating, and understands himself well emotionally. He's the most affectionate, thoughtful, and communicative boyfriend I've ever had. But I've been unhappy. Almost this whole time. I don't know if it's the relationship or if I'm overthinking and taking things personally. Or maybe both? I feel like there's something wrong with me that I can't seem to enjoy a relationship with this wonderful guy who's worst characteristics come down to laziness, not having his life 'figured out', and being a bit quirkier than most of my friends. I keep telling myself that we can be happy, that I'm just getting in my own way with negative thoughts, but I have trouble stopping those negative thoughts. \n\nMy friends and family think this friendly, charismatic nerd is so wonderful and such a great match for me, but I don't know. \n\nIn past relationships, and now, I have a problem with maintaining my independence/being happy when alone. I'm not sure how complicated this all really is, but it feels like it's pretty complicated.", "summary": "If I think my bf is such a great person overall, why am I unhappy? Do I fabricate my unhappiness by fishing for faults?"}
{"id": "t3_3rwd3h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "LDR bf (25/m) doesn't like sending any dirty texts to me (~24/f)? What should I do?", "post": "We're currently long distance. He is a very pragmatic, career-oriented kind of guy. I used to send him things like \"im so h0rny for you\" or whatever and once he told me, \"it's nice and all that you feel that way but it gets old that you keep saying it.\" well, i got a bit put off by that (i was hoping he'd indulge me at least once but seems he didn't like it). so i stopped sending them until he of course asked why i wasn't sending them anymore and that he would be fine with me sending them and that he just wasn't comfortable enough in the relationship before. (sigh).\n\nso i got back to sending them, and while he occasionally sends a photo (shirtless or in his undies) b/c i told him i like those, he has never initiated in saying he is h0rny or wants me. he will say \"yummy\" after i send him stuff...\n\ni guess i feel i am more h0rny for him than vice versa and it makes me uncomfortable. and i feel like my texts are seen somewhat as a joke and he thinks it should either be real life stuff or nothing (but i need something in the meantime) :( what should i do? esp. since i brought this up before and it was stressful.", "summary": "i want some effort from bf for him to be dirty and turn me on but it seems he doesn't seem to think distance is conducive to that so he doesn't try much at all. we've spoken before about it and it ended bad so how should i bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_33mnuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 24 [M] with my gf [20 F] of 5 months, graduating college and wondering if career is a reason to break up?", "post": "Ive been dating this girl for the past 5 months.  She is an amazing person, very sweet, kind, has always been there for me, and likes me a lot.  She's a really great person overall and I feel guilty to even consider breaking up with her.\n\nThe reason why Im considering doing so is because right now me and my family's financial situation is terrible.  Ill be graduating with over 120k in student loans with no job lined up or any way to pay this off right now.  Im dead ass broke.  My dad got laid off 3 months ago and my family has pretty much been running on fumes till now in terms of money.\n\nAdditionally, its my dream to get into med school in a year or two and I need to find a medically related job that will pay enough for me to support myself and will allow me to be able to pay to retake classes I screwed up in as well as the MCAT.\n\nWe both come from super conservative and traditional Indian families and neither of our families knows of our relationship.  Keeping that a secret itself is a huge task.\n\nAnyway, point is, right now my focus is on somehow landing a medically related job, starting to pay off my massive loan amount, and finding a way into a med school.  This is a lot on my plate and I honestly don't think I can do a good job at this and be a good boyfriend at the same time.  Its too much for me.\n\nAs much as it hurts to admit this, I'm just really stressed and burnt out right now and a relationship is not something I need right now.  I need to fix my financial and career situation.  She's a really great person and I like her a lot.  I would never want to hurt her, but I know that if I go through with this, it will.  \n\nIm wondering if I should just try to keep juggling all of this?", "summary": "Been in a relationship for 5 months, and am currently struggling a lot financially and with my career.  I just don't think I'm ready to be in a solid relationship until im standing up on my own two feet again.  Idk how to break this with my gf because she's a great girl and I hate having to hurt her in any way."}
{"id": "t3_1dnvay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/F] I've outgrown my boyfriend [21/M] and I don't know how to break it to him.", "post": "We've been together 3 1/2 years. I'm away at college. He lives with my parents and just got a job (his parents are bad at being people). I feel like...\n1) long distance sucks, its keeping me from meeting new people\n2) I'm going away for the summer for an internship\n3) I feel like we are not on the same level intellectually and this is probably the biggest problem for me, i hate to say.\nI've been thinking about this for awhile and I don't know when the right time to tell him would be. I'm coming home for one weekend before going away for the whole summer. Questions I need answered by someone who cares:\n1. do I spend the whole day with him like everything is fine and wait till the end of the day or do I tell him right off the bat?\n2. what if he wants to have sex?\nmy mom is telling me to do what I want basically with out him knowing as a \"kindness to him\" while he gets his shit together to move out of my parents' house and not break up with him. I don't think this is right. He'll still be welcome there till the end of the summer whether or not I break up with him. He has no where else to go and my parents know that.\nThis is eating away at me. :(", "summary": "want to break off long distance relationship with bf that lives with MY parents while I am away at college. when/how?"}
{"id": "t3_2ptvo7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(16M) Depression, Love, and Regret", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI'm a 16 year old junior in high school and am battling depression. Depression takes over your life, eats away at your self-confidence, and makes you feel inferior to the point where human interaction is painful and frightening. Now on to the story...\n\nSo this past month, I've developed a sort of infatuation with a girl. This \"crush\" is pure, not driven by sexual thoughts or desires, but a longing to be with this person for life. I dream about courting, family, and how perfect it would be. This is the first non-sexual infatuation I've had. I've never really talked to this girl, but we've had some classes together through the years. \n\n  This past Tuesday, she was not herself. She usually doesn't care what others think of her, she dances around the classroom and makes \"ugly\" faces for the sake of being funny. No \"But I'll look ugly\" mentality.. But she was looking depressed, sad, and quite frankly, dead. I don't say anything, and go on with my day.\n\n   When I got home, I friended her on FaceBook, and soon after she accepted I sent her a message:\n\nME: \"Hey (Girl Name), are you all good? You seemed out of it on Tuesday. Just checking in...\"\n\nHER: \"Lol ya I'm all good. I had done the Blood Drive and wasn't feeling well and got me really tired. Thanks for wondering\n\nME: \"Yep no problem\"\n\n   So today (Friday) I go to school, see her look at me a couple times throughout the day..and I do nothing. I even walked past her a few times, making eye contact and continuing to walk to my next class..\nI'm feeling extremely down because I don't know if she wanted me to say something, or wanted to talk. I haven't talked to her once this year and I'm tearing myself apart as I'm writing this. Anyways, winter break is here and I won't see her for 2 weeks...I'm just worried I'm going to go into an even deeper depression now.. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Have depression. Didn't make a move on a girl. Have deeper depression."}
{"id": "t3_3gafcf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My (22f) underage brother (16m) is having a child with his underage gf (16f). Our parents (47m/48f) are worried they will pay a lot in child support.", "post": "Pretty much what it says.\nMy brother got his girlfriend of a year pregnant. Odds are they might keep it.\nOur (my brother and I share the same parents) parents make collectively about 160K a year. Also, we live in MN if this matters. \nMy brother is 16, he drives, has his own car, no bills, is in high school and works part time.\nThe girlfriend/mother, has no license, no job and is in high school. Her older sister has 2 kids she does not have custody of; one of which is severely Autistic and needs constant care by the Grandma and Grandpa who is the sole caretakers. They don't make any money as they don't make a lot of money to begin with and they have a full house taking care of grandkids and the kids they still have.\nAnyways,\nMy main question is what can my parents expect, being the guardians of an underage boy having a child with another woman? They are worried they will have to pay up to a 3rd of their gross income to child support until my brother turns 18..is that right? What can they prepare for and what can they expect?\nAll your help is especially appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "16 year old brother got a girl pregnant and my parents are freaking out because now they could have to pay child support on their 160K/year income"}
{"id": "t3_1af8xo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Long term partner will barely have sex with me, I'm on business in another state and have someone putting pressure on me... HELP?", "post": "24f 29/m Relationship 2 years.  I'm on a scouting trip for about 6 weeks in another state, and my boyfriend just doesn't want to have sex.  I'm lucky if I can get it out of him about once every two weeks, and I'm going nuts. I've sat down with him and told him that I would like/need more sex, and he has acknowledged me, but I still have to initiate everything.  I asked him if he would initiate more, and he said he would when he feels like it but he NEVER does.  Our relationship has always been like this.  I really do love him, but this one thing is killing me.\n\nI have a business contact who is putting some serious moves on me, and the deep ache I have desperately wants me to give in.  No emotions, no connections, just sex.\n\nI could never understand what would drive anyone to cheat, the horror it is to me is still just that: horrific. But I'm 24 and sexually starved.\n\nWhat the fuck do I do?", "summary": "24/f barely getting laid in a committed relationship. Have a chance for a fleeting encounter, NSA, want to do it, but my god it's wrong. What do I do? Please help."}
{"id": "t3_e64od", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, why is everyone always bitching about karma?", "post": "I come here for the links, the pictures, the videos, the discussions, the awesome altruism, and the occasional boob(s). The only reason I care if randomdudeORgirl123 has 400 points is because it makes the front page and it catches my attention first. I am also (sort of) guaranteed that the post will be a good one. Yeah, it does feel nice to get upvotes and sometimes if my comment gets downvoted into oblivion then I delete it out of shame, but how is it useful to anyone to call others out on karma whoring if they posted a screen shot and received more upvotes than the original post? I actually enjoyed the screen shot post about the guy getting the free pizza, and he's right, reddit is awesome cuz of stuff like that, and I would have missed out on that reminder of awesomeness had it not been for that repost.  \nAlso, how can I karma whore if I can only give myself one vote?  \nLet's just quit the \"he/she has more points than I think he/she deserves\" and get back to the \"nice... upvote\" or \"meh.. leave it alone\" or \"ugh.. downvote\".", "summary": "quit bitching about points, just tell me which are the best boob pics."}
{"id": "t3_386dby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] think my friend [23F] [5 months] is getting romantically attached because we hooked up and I don't know how to proceed", "post": "So I started spending a lot of time with this woman I met through a mutual friend after a rough breakup. She was very supportive about letting me vent and checking up on me to make sure I was doing ok. I could tell she liked me and I had a crush on her too but I told her I wasn't ready to jump into anything and I needed time alone to process the last relationship. \n\nI'm not sure how it happened but at some point we got drunk and made out. It happened a few more times and led to us hooking up. We've had this friends with benefits thing going on for a while.\n\nNow that I've gotten to know her a little more...intimately,  I realized that I don't want a sexual relationship with her. I love spending time with her but I just don't think the sexual chemistry is there. I think I just jumped into things too quickly and now I'm not sure what to do.  She is very affectionate but I'm not. I don't pull away but I don't reach out either. She isn't getting the hint and I would much rather talk to her than just withdrawing without an explanation. \n\nMy problem is that I don't know what to say. I don't know how to talk about it. I think she is getting romantically attached and I'm afraid that I will lose her as a friend. I have repeatedly told her I don't want to be in a relationship right now but I think she might have the idea that it will progress into a relationship with time. It's been a few months since the breakup and I'm getting to the point where I think I could date again. I'm worried about her reaction if I meet someone else.\n\nI know I need to do something about it quick instead of leading her on but I'm putting it off because I'm afraid I'll lose her friendship and I don't know how to tell her.", "summary": "I want to turn a friends-with-benefits relationship into a just-friends relationship and I don't know how ."}
{"id": "t3_4io3tf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (16F) think I may be developing a crush on my best friend (14M)", "post": "Okay so before you freak out over my friend's age please hear me out. I have average intelligence and can be mature if I need to. He, however is so amazingly intelligent and always assertive and mature despite his young age. He definitely surpasses some high school graduates I've seen. Both of us can relate to and understand most issues and situations.\n\nNow on to the real thing.\n\nI think I'm starting to like him.\n\nHe's probably so systematic that he either doesn't notice or notices but has literally zero idea of how to handle it. I drop hints every now and then but I don't know if it's enough, he's very anti-social and introverted. Another problem though.\n\nI don't know if he feels the same.\n\nIt's exceedingly difficult to read him and to figure out how he works. He's very well guarded emotionally and has been through a lot and while he's systematic, he tries his hardest to provide emotional support, albeit in a much more elaborate way than most people would consider necessary.\nOverall I'm at a loss of what to do. Help!", "summary": "Developing a crush on young, intelligent friend. Don't know if he feels same,"}
{"id": "t3_1iyikt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's one song/artist/band that you want to hear more of on commercial radio?", "post": "There are a lot of stations (In Canada for example, braap braap White North) that don't play a lot of the music that I like to hear. Either up and coming, unknown or underground and even some classics are totally forgotten by mainstream radio. \n\nPart of it is because of the regulations commissions and part of it (In Canada at least) is because of a need for playing home grown talent or \"CanCon\". To meet these regulations, stations end up playing either sub par songs, or the same ones over and over again to the point where you can switch stations and THE SAME FRIGGIN SONG IS PLAYING.\n\nI'd love to hear Slaughterhouse, Childish Gambino, Tech N9ne and stuff from the early 2000's (Clipse, Outkast, Mase etc) on the radio but that just doesn't happen.", "summary": "Radio plays crappy music in my opinion. What is some of the music that you wish got more playing time or even any playing time on the radio?"}
{"id": "t3_tegzs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this relationship one sided, Or am I being shallow?", "post": "Our car broke down in another state, and long story short we got jobs, found an apartment, started a new life here. \n\n  At first, I didn't have a job, and he paid for everything. Then, I got a job, worked my ass off and got promoted to full time. His contract was over and now he's looking for work again. I pay for everything now, with the deal that he will pay me back his half later. He said he would pay half of the rent out of his savings. \n  He's applied for about two hundred jobs, with no leads. He's been late giving me rent for the last two months, and he still owes me one hundred from last month. When I tried to explain that I was worried he didn't respect how important rent is, he quickly got upset, and stormed off into the night to find an ATM. Over the phone, i've begged him to come home- it's about 2am here- but he maintains that I just want his money, and \"everything is about money\" to me. For the record, it's not, I would pay all of the rent if he told me ahead of time he couldn't afford it. I'm worried about him walking for miles in a strange city so late. \n\n His ego has been wrecked lately, because of lack of work and unhappiness with his appearance. He dislikes how he looks because his hair has gotten shaggy, but he doesn't have money to cut it, and refuses my offer to pay for one. I think I may have hit a sore spot when I asked about the rent. He has been feeling inadequate lately, and this may have rubbed salt in his wounds. \n\n  How can I go about his better in the future? How do I know if i'm being taken advantage off?  I don't know anyone here, so thanks in advance for reading dear redditors.", "summary": "I'm paying for almost everything for my S.O and I. How Do I know if I'm being taken advantage of, or if I'm being shallow and money oriented?"}
{"id": "t3_18ki4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[14M] wondering whether to move on from a [15F]", "post": "I'm a freshman in high school. About two years ago, I met this girl in confirmation(which is youth group now since I've been confirmed) and I've really gotten to know her more. The sad part is she goes to a different school than I do, but its relatively close(about 30 miles away). It got to the point where I liked her more than a friend. At one point, she said that she had liked me, and said it through Facebook chat. I was a bit shocked by it, I'm not used to having girls like me as I'm a very shy person. I ended up waiting a few messages before she started freaking out that she just poured out her feelings for me and I didn't feel the same way; which then I reacted and said that I liked her back. I've been there for her when she needed it, and always gave her advice.\n\nI was a bit confused on how I felt for her for a while, I eventually did want to ask her out, but I shied away each time I was going to try to. Around Jan. 10th, 2012 she got a boyfriend[17], and its still going. She had told me that her boyfriend sometimes put her off, even on important events. I was Skyping with her one night, the day before their anniversary, and she said that her boyfriend had decided to go and drink(alcohol involved) instead of spend time with her. He even tried to buy her 'batman panties' which seemed to be odd, you can even tell that he's trying to get a \"home run\" with her. I just don't want someone that has lost their virginity or even gotten close to it.\nAt this point I can't really think about whether I should move on or not, what are your opinions?", "summary": "I started liking this girl that I met 2 years ago in Confirmation. She had feelings for me too after a year, but I was too shy to ask her out. She got a boyfriend, which has been going on for a year; and he has some history that he doesn't seem to want to spend time with her(I would). Move on or not? - I know I'm in high school, but I don't feel like this about anyone else."}
{"id": "t3_acj08", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I have had a relationship, but I have never dated. I'm about to try dating with an awesome girl, and I want to make this fun for her.", "post": "Basic details: I'm a 21 year old college junior, and I'm interested in a 20-year-old girl in my class. We're both heterosexual, I'm a guy, she's a girl. My only past relationship was about 7 months long, with a best friend. Therefore, my only relationship experience is with someone I already knew extremely well. I have plenty of experience with women as friends, and some experience with random kisses, etc.\n\nI just asked out a girl. I would consider her somewhat of a friend already, in that we've known each other for 9 months, we get along well, and we have had some good conversations. I like everything I know about her, and I think she's pretty, and I definitely have a crush. But I don't feel absolutely swept away yet, because I don't know her well enough to feel that way. She says she used to be quite shy, but is beginning to break out of her shell. I'd like to get to know her better.\n\nWhat are some good dates to go on with her where I can get to know her better? How do dates work, really? I've never actually been on a legitimate date. I think that they're good for situations precisely like this one, but I don't really know exactly what to do. We're on an urban college campus, if that helps narrow down some possibilities. Essentially, I'm ready to go for it, and I'm confident, but I'm in unfamiliar territory and would like some pointers. I realize that we can just, say, go out for food and talk, but that seems kind of boring, especially because I asked her out in a cute, unique way. Ideally I'd like to mix in some more interesting stuff.\n\nOne specific thing I want to ask about: I fully understand that she's not likely to want to move fast physically with someone she doesn't yet know well, since she's of a shy, conservative sort of persuasion. That's fine. How do I make sure that there continues to be a physical, romantic \"spark\" even while we take it slow?", "summary": "I want to impress a girl on the first few dates. Halp."}
{"id": "t3_1cq5yz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making weed firecrackers for the Muse Concert", "post": "So today I went to the muse concert with a bunch of friends. One friend got kicked out for using a fake ID. Before we entered the concert we ate the firecrackers and drank water and hoped for the best. (I've made firecrackers many times, but never got a great high from them) Well damn these were potent. I had the most intense high of my life. It was amazing, but my friend disagreed. He later vomited in the middle of the set, leaving me and one other stoned friend. He ended up being brought to medical, and my other friend and I went down to see him. First we were yelled at, \"WHERE DID YOU GET THE ALCOHOL FROM/HOW WERE YOU SO STUPID\". I said it was from weed and they laughed at us. Anyway, my friend got picked up by his mom, and she informed my parents. I am no longer allowed to be alone in my house. Awesome.", "summary": "got super high, friend got sick, parents found out."}
{"id": "t3_2x0be6", "subreddit": "running", "title": "PSA: Don't forget to tape the adjacent toe when taping a blister.", "post": "I had minor blister trouble on my second toe, got it from rubbing action from the big toe in the past week; the big toe had no blisters on it whatsoever. I usually taped both the big toe and the second toe together in between to avoid friction, but today, leaving for my run in haste, I mindlessly taped the little toe standalone with durable cloth-based medical tape.\n\nAround 17km in (10mi) in I felt a stabbing pain in the big toe area and finished the last 3km in agony thinking that the big toenail had just fallen off or cracked. Took my sock off at home to discover the most horrific torn blister on my big toe. Ended up doing 100x more harm than going out untaped at all.\n\nNSFW/GOREish:", "summary": "taped my second toe, tape tore through adjacent untaped toe. Always pay close attention to what you're taping and how you're doing it."}
{"id": "t3_35iuym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] found my mom's [49F] thong when i did the laundry. I wouldn't have cared except my dad [53M] has been away for 6 months. How to proceed?", "post": "Sorry if this post seems all over the place.\n\nSo, the title pretty much summarizes the situation. My dad has gone to is home country to work on his family business. This is the most time my parents have been apart since they met (around 1997, married since 1999). my mom has been talking more and more to her second in command \"Jack\". Her job is very high stress (humanitarian organization) and she must deal with emergencies as they arise, thus the increased contact. \n\nAnother thing worth mentioning is that my mom has been getting home relatively late, for about 2 weeks now. She says she has dinners that she must attend to. Whenever she talks to Jack (by phone), she walks away to somewhere out of earshot. The event that began my suspicions (around 2 months ago) was when i was in her office after school, and Jack came in. He was about to say something but he realized I was there. He asked if he could talk to her in private, so they left to another part of the building. She told me it would take 10 minutes. She came back an hour and a half later. Yesterday she got a call from him as we arrived home from doing errands. Again, she walked to a secluded area of our condominium and they talked for 20 minutes. I guess this entire thing is based on assumptions. \n\nI usually help out with the laundry, and we do it weekly, so if anything did happen, it must have been recent. I have 4 half sisters all above the age of 23 that live abroad (so it couldn't have been theirs), but I only live with my parents and my [18M] older brother.", "summary": "Found a thong when doing the laundry, am I right to be suspicious or was my mom a bit adventurous for a day?"}
{"id": "t3_1qxv03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/F] with my girlfriend[16/F] of almost 1 year, have at least 6 years of schooling til our long distance relationship can end", "post": "My girlfriend and I are still very young, but very in love. We're about 8 hours apart via car and I can only see her every few months.\n\nIt's becoming very hard to long distance, but neither of us can do much about it at this point in our lives. I'm starting college next year and she has 2 more years of highschool, til she attends college. We have no prospect or reason to break up, but constantly fear our future with each other (since we're so young and don't want to make any overly-serious commitments, other than hoping to stay together). \n\nWe maintain a really really healthy relationship with skype, letters and everything else that long distance can be patched with, but being close and in person and together is perfection and a constant craving for the both of us. \n\nWith more schooling and big decisions coming up in life, I need some guidance. It scares the shit out of me realizing where college can take you. All the chances to meet people and go places. We're very close at heart and can't see our lives without each other in them, but the time postponing us being closer is not good. How can we be close and in person as we both attend school (Maybe even 2-3 hours away when college comes around)? How can we hold onto our relationship with the distance and make it through this rough patch of not being close?\n\nI just want to normally date this girl that I have a crazy connection with, and it saddens me that this time and distance are holding us back.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I are crazy in love, and too far away with a scary future ahead."}
{"id": "t3_3qbrnu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mistaking the beginning of a rash for a neck pimple.", "post": "So like ever TIFU this actually happened last week, I'll do my best to make it short. \n\nWell on Saturday, the 17th of this fine month I received a flu shot, and feared I would become sick within days. \nTo my surprise I did not, but I did noticed a bump on the back of my neck around my hair line on the following Tuesday and wrote it off as a pimple and leaving it alone. \nCome this past Saturday  that \"pimple\" turns out be a full blown rash/hives that covers the right side of my neck and lower jaw, so I decide that if it was not better by this morning I would go to the doctor. \nI check into the ER at the VA hospital get seen by a nurse and talk to two different doctors, they came to the conclusion my flu shot must have triggered shingles.", "summary": "got a flu shot 9 days ago, and it hit my immune system with enough force to cause shingles."}
{"id": "t3_2m0ukv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Forbidden Relationship?. --- **tl;dr**: Mandatory summary/question!", "post": "I [53M] have a roommate [56F].  We have known each other for nearly ten years and have been sharing an apartment for five months.  We have a very respectful relationship where we don't cross certain boundaries.  We have developed an attraction for each other over time.  I am also learning that my roommate was attracted to me the first time we met. She was married and I was separated and dating exclusively. Today we are both divorced and I was in a relationship which ended recently with a female 13 years my junior.  Nothing out of the ordinary. The major concern is that my [56F] is the mother of the female 13 years my junior.", "summary": "The mother of my ex-girlfriend and I live together. We obviously have more in common with each other due to our ages and other things. The ex always said joking (or not) that I needed to date her mother or someone her mother's age. Please advise!!! I welcome all comments especially from someone in their fifties."}
{"id": "t3_2ngowm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] Needing to hear that it will get better.", "post": "Like the title says, I'm a 20 year old male. My last relationship was at 16. Since then, nothing even close. I'm pretty socially awkward, not great at talking to girls. I've been retty depressed about it lately. I think my case is slightly different from the average awkward dude, though, because I'm decently attractive (I've been told so enough to believe it). \n\nI guess I'm just looking to hear from other people who, despite social anxiety, found someone to be with. It would put me at ease to know \nthat I have a chance at finding someone eventually. Be honest though. \n\nP.s. I'm drunk, so sorry about any spelling or grammatical errors.", "summary": "Drunk awkwrd dude is feeling insecure, needs to hear that other awkward people found someone"}
{"id": "t3_uu4r9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My boyfriend is going to be kicked out and homeless in a few days, any form of help is all I need.", "post": "Hi there, I made a throwaway because I'm not here for karma I seriously need help. In the next few days my boyfriend's step dad will kick him out for not finding a job in less than a month and I need any form of help here.\nTo be frank his step father and biological mother are mentally and verbally abusive and always have been since we've been dating. They only talk to him like he is subhuman and blame all of his troubles on him. They've stolen hundreds from his paychecks when he was underage and stole his tax return this year. On top of that his stepfather bought him a car only with the intention of making him pay insurance and gas he could not afford so that my boyfriend would have to sell it again.\n\nEvery time I am there his stepfather goes right at him and yells even when we have company over. About three weeks ago he threatened to kick my bf out if he didn't find a job or fill out 20 applications a day. He hasn't found a job yet and he has about 8 days left.\n\nI'm urging him to just say fuck it and leave regardless but he cannot stay at my house long term for lack of space and food.(We're struggling) So reddit I am very desperate, what should I do? Are there any organizations that would take him in and help him? I'm very worried and I love him more than anything so please any advice or help is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend has abusive parents who want to kick him out, I'm taking him in regardless because that house is evil, but I cannot keep him forever. And advice or help is all I need. Thank you."}
{"id": "t3_s7x7k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit:  What amusing stories have you been told about yourself after the fact?  I'll start...", "post": "My husband just told me that he could finally share the funny thing that happened to me last week.  We were on vacation with the kids, staying in a hotel.  I had been complaining about the hard water / hotel shampoo combination making my hair feel gross and not clean.  My hair length and thickness requires quite a bit of shampoo, and we'd run out of the tiny supply that the hotel offers on the bathroom counter early on, so I rooted through his bag and found a travel-sized shampoo.  I used it for 2 or 3 days during my morning shower.  When we were packing up to leave, he realized what had been going on (but didn't tell me!).  Turns out that the shampoo bottle in his bag did not contain shampoo; it was full of lube.  Yes, lube.  Apparently the standard size lube bottle contains too much liquid for FAA regulations, so he had used a shampoo bottle to transport the fun stuff.  Funny now, but would not have been funny then!  I washed my hair extra-well this morning.", "summary": "Lube does not make a good shampoo."}
{"id": "t3_4y4084", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it weird to record arguments I have with my gf for analysis of our behavior and for future reference? Me 24m, her 22f, relationship 2 years", "post": "This post is a bit unusual i guess, but i don't know where else to post it to. So please, if it isn't violating any rules, i'd love to get some feedback here.\n\nTitle says much already. I am terrible at remembering stuff when it comes to arguing, and usually i have to trust my gf that she tells the truth when telling me what I said and/or did. But for some time now i have reason to believe she twists the past to her advantage. Her motivation for this behavior is irrelevant for now, this is only about the recording stuff.", "summary": "So what do you think? Is it weird to record arguments and rehear them later for learning and documenting purposes?"}
{"id": "t3_4o5of4", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Why do my family hide things from me?", "post": "I'm the youngest of three children. I'm 19, have moved out and have been living at university 2.5 hours away for over a year. There has been some stuff going on in my family recently and I have been completely left out of the loop:\n1) my cousin (17) was diagnosed with depression. I am the closest to him out of all of my family as we are similar in age and interests.\n2) My mothers cousin is a serious alcoholic and was recently operated on due to a blood clot on his brain after a serious fall.\n\nOn both occasions, my parents (most notably my Mother) told my two siblings (24, 22) about all of the above in detail, however I was not told about any of this and in the case of my cousins depression diagnosis, my sister was explicitly told \"do not tell *me*\", and I only found out when my brother accidentally \nmentioned it.\n\nI feel as though my parents still see me as a child, and feel as though they assume I'm not mature enough to understand things. Should I speak to my parents about how I feel and confront them about the things they haven't been telling me, or should I leave it?", "summary": "Parents don't tell me important stuff, should I confront them?"}
{"id": "t3_3f8sjh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by getting a new cast iron skillet", "post": "Tifu, literally an hour ago. \n\nEarlier in the two weeks, my mum bought me a cast iron skillet. It will help with my lack of skill in seasoning my food and I will defend myself in the ways of a Disney princesses. \nI've been using this pan religiously in order to get it properly seasoned. \n\nToday, I decided I wanted to make skillet brownies. Whip up the batter, put it in the oven, and soon it is done. I used a hot pad to pull out the pan and set the timer for 5 eternal minutes. These brownies are chocolaty and perfect. \n\nWhen the timer goes off, I pick the pan up with the hand and turn around to put it on the counter where a hot pad was previously placed. The second I'm turning I realize I have a decision, continue to burn myself or drop this monster of a plan where it will destroy my kitchen. I promise you cast iron is indestructible, unlike Batman. \n\nNow, I've got a burn larger than a quarter. My advice I have received so far is: put cold water on it, egg whites, flour, and pee on it. I followed the water advice, while I at my brownie through my tears.", "summary": "I am a Neanderthal. Hot things, hot. Hot things STILL hot with little time gone by."}
{"id": "t3_1oaui4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think I [M 18] may have ruined my nearly 2 and a half years relationship with my SO [F 18]", "post": "A month ago I was in a happy relationship up until my SO moved for Uni, I was scared that she would forget about me or find someone new and I had told her this. I was upset and jealous that her life was moving on while mine's stuck. I wanted her to need me but she didn't. I have been miserable but I had been doing it to myself. For some bizarre unknown reason, I thought that making her feel bad would make things better and I kept pushing her away. I didn't realise I was doing this until the night before last when I texted her saying \"Promise me you're not going anywhere?\" and she couldn't. I instantly realised what I had been doing and regret every part of it. She's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I've never met anyone like her. We talked a little yesterday and I told how I felt and that I regret what I've done and don't want to lose her. She told me that the way I had been acting was bothering her but she hasn't really been trying either, I told her she wouldn't have not wanted to if I wasn't pushing her away and doing what I was. She stayed over and left an hour ago.\n\nI think I pushed her too far and she doesn't see me the way she used to. I really don't want this to end, she's perfect for me in every way and I want to make her happy again. I think we need to talk more but I'm scared I'll find out she doesn't want things to go back to how they were or that she already felt that way.\n\nI need advice, I don't know what to do. I feel horrible, I've been such an idiot. Feel free to ask any questions, I'm new to this.", "summary": "I was a crappy boyfriend and pushed my SO away, I'm scared I pushed her too far and that she doesn't want things back."}
{"id": "t3_1m0kzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] with my ex[20F] 6 months, she broke up with me out the blue, we work together, how do i move on!", "post": "Recently my GF of 6 months broke up with me out of the blue. We have been working together in the same department of a company for about a year now. After about a week of being uncharacteristically distant towards me she said she \"thinks we were only supposed to meet each other and learn from one another\" and that she \"feels like we should just be friends\". I told her I couldn't just be her friend, not at this point at least, because I see her as more than that and it would be unfair to both of us at this time. I want to get over her and do as much NC as possible, but I work anywhere from 10 to 40 hours  a week with her and both of us are comfortable with our jobs. To make it a little worse she is good friends with a lot of my family and contacts them frequently. She is adamant that we are never getting back together. Any advice on how to cope with this situation especially while at work?", "summary": "my Gf of 6 months broke up with me, she wants to just be friends, but I see her as more. We work together and neither of us are switching jobs, how do I get over this?"}
{"id": "t3_3053zn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm very lost. Relationship of 3 great years is over...", "post": "F/21 (me) & M/19. My bf of 3 years broke up with me last night. It was sudden, and I'm not dealing with it well. I read through many of the old posts. I don't believe I can get over it. I could never imagine my like without him. And its all being thrown away. \n\nAs I said, I read through old posts. I know I'm not supposed to contact him but I have no choice. We compete together (dance) and that's next week. I've put a lot of time and money into this, so I can't quit now. I'm not ready to give up. I love him too much and I wished he knew that. \n\nI don't know what to do. I just want things to work out. I'd do anything to be with him and make him happy.", "summary": "broke up last night; mixed feelings; not ready to give up"}
{"id": "t3_q655w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it a good or bad idea for me to photoshop weight off my GF as an inspirational picture for her?", "post": "So my girlfriend of 2 years has recently decided she wants to lose about 20 pounds to get down to her high school weight. I've been very supportive of her body our entire relationship and have told her countless times that she should do whatever will make her happy. I'm honestly perfectly fine with the way she is.\n\nWith that said, this is the 4th or 5th time she's been gung ho about losing weight, but always ends up stopping. (to her credit she works full time and is going to grad school, so time is difficult to come by) Lately, she has been using various models as inspiration to get to her goal weight and so far it's working. That's when the idea hit me. Before we started p90x (which didn't last long) we took pictures of each other to make a before & after photo. Like I said, our workout regimen didn't last very long but I still have the pictures. In my opinion, I couldn't ask for better inspiration if I had a picture of myself looking incredible. However, over the past decade I've learned women and men don't think alike!\n\nMy plan is to mention the idea to her to see if it's something she's interested in, but I don't know if this plan can backfire on me. Like if she feels the results are unattainable or something to that effect.\n\nWhat are your thoughts? Thanks in advance!", "summary": "My GF tends to quit diets after a few weeks and was wondering what I can do to help."}
{"id": "t3_2joeac", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being celibate. (Throwaway)", "post": "Reddit, I'm a sexually active person. I have been since I was 15. The longest I've gone without action is 8 weeks.    \nI guess you could say I am more on the promiscuous side.     \nWell after some growing up and a serious break up, I'm more than six months sex free.    \nThen I meet a guy. We will call him Bob. He's cute, smart, and really funny. I genuinely believe we have some potential. I'm ready to make the leap, and God knows my body is SCREAMING for some attention.     \nWe start to get into some heavy petting and I go down on him. He is loving it and so am I.     \nHe finishes, and like a gentleman, wants to finish me off too.    \nHe starts to eat me out.      \n\nIts been six months since I've been touched by a man. A gust of wind could get me off....     \nHe is well versed in his oral skills, and before you can say 'yowza' I came. Not just came... I squirted!!!! (My first time ever).     \nI squirted right in to his face. Right into his mouth actually.     \nHe flipped out. Thought I peed in his mouth. He threw up in my crotch.      \n\nHe won't talk to me.", "summary": "TIFU by trying to not be a slut.    "}
{"id": "t3_2smg8n", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Improperly withheld security deposit in DC; how should I proceed", "post": "Background: Security deposit was $1,650. We did damaged 6 tiles of shitty parquet floor due to a leak in a laundry detergent bottle, and expected to pay for that, though many property managers claim it is consistent with normal wear and tear following 3 years of tenancy.\n\nLandlady sends a letter with the intention of withholding $1,000 for seven issues, some of which are downright fabrications (e.g. we stole oven racks, we have pictures of them in the oven from the move-out inspection). The estimates are not properly itemized for those seven issue. For example, the estimates to fix the floors are for the entire apartment. \n\nI send her a letter back demanding the full refund of the security deposit, citing normal wear and tear. I explain that the estimates were not properly itemized, and there was no way to derive the $1,000 value from what was provided to us. I also ask for a bank statement containing the security deposit.\n\nI don't get an answer to that letter with itemized costs or the bank statement, so I send a letter stating that I will sue for $4,950 (DC allows for treble damages) because she failed to refund me in a timely manner, since 30 days elapsed since her original letter to me. I don't expect to collect the $5K, it's more for the bargaining position.\n\nI now get a letter from her saying that she will only charge us for the floor, and that she will withhold $1,200. This is amusing, since the seven issues that cost $1,000 became one issue costing $1,200. She will mail the check to me.\n\nMy question is: Do I deposit the check and then sue her for the difference? Or do I not deposit the check (since that could be construed as tacit consent) and sue her for all of it? I'm inclined to do the former, but would like your input. Thanks!", "summary": "Landlady improperly withheld security deposit. She is finally sending me a partial refund. Do I deposit the check and sue her for the difference, or do I hold onto the check and sue her for all of it? I prefer the former, but fear it could constitute agreement to her terms."}
{"id": "t3_rwiwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO and I disagree on having kids looks like im going to be forever alone", "post": "gf is 25f im 29m. Been dating 1 year 4 months. Moved in together at 9 months Originally posted in /r/childfree  but after reading through the comments it sounds like i need a more objective opinion than a group of people who specifically don't want kids ever.\n\nAfter we had our talk about kids and we both kinda realized that our relationship was likely doomed she has gone out all night long and didnt bother calling me or anything to come pick her up. This is not behavior that she ever does so I kinda got suspicious and looked at her text messages on her phone. I now know she is not telling me the whole truth about what went on the two nights out and she is definitely texting a guy she met at the bar the first night out.\n\n I just find it shocking that she can so quickly start looking for another guy. I am still trying to heal and recover from this relationship possibly being lost.\n\nWhere do i find the strength to end this relationship and how the hell do i cope with the moments of anguish and despair I am going to feel throughout the next month?", "summary": "GF and I disagree about having kids, now she is going out and partying all night long and lying to me about the details."}
{"id": "t3_3h2wmx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30F] not sure what to do about [31M] husband of 3 yrs, relationship of 10 yrs- is it okay to use the same pet name (note its a unique one- not baby, honey, etc.) on other women as you do your wife?", "post": "My husband and I have been together 10 yrs and married for 3 yrs. I logged into our home computer and my husband left up one of his personal accounts.  I being curious decided to look at a few messages he had with people (it's intrusive, I know!). Anyway, didn't find anything crazy, but I did end up feeling slightly annoyed by how he addressed some female friends.  He has a pet name that he calls me which is pretty unique (not honey, babe, etc.). I have never heard him call anyone else the name in the 10 yrs we have been together. In the messages he referred to some of his female friends with the pet name.\n\nI am annoyed because all this time I thought it was personal, and now I find out it's not. Also, to me, calling someone a pet name is a little flirtatious (though his messages otherwise did not seem overly friendly).  What makes it more annoying is that I have had conversations with him recently about not talking to me like I am his \"friend\" but his wife, and see it's the opposite here (he's too friendly with them).\n\nShould I be mad?  Seeing as I found out about it in an intrusive way, is there a way of talking to him about it without giving away how I found out? What would you do?  Should I be worried about my relationship?", "summary": "Found out my husband calls other women by the same pet name he uses on me by checking his personal account. Now don't know how to address it, since I shouldn't have seen it in the first place."}
{"id": "t3_47mnkj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32/M] make my employee [51/M] nervous, it's really bothering me", "post": "Just took over for a pretty incompetent manager.  One of my employees that I took on is a great guy.  He's well respected by the group.  The business is growing at a insane rate, and it's preparing for expansion.  \n\nIn that preparation, we're trying to change operations a bit in order to meet the client needs.  In doing that, things are changing.  The guy used to REALLY enjoy his job.  Not so much anymore.  He's having to do things he's uncomfortable.  Things have been the same for 10 years, all the sudden everything's changing.  \n\nToday I was asking him about something, and noticed his hands were shaking.  I'm making him nervous, and it's breaking my heart.  People passively mention to me 'James used to be so happy at work' and the like.  All I really know about the guy is that he used to be in a men's choir, and that he had a stutter as a kid.  \n\nI'm going through a lot personally, and I'm pretty intense.  He's someone I really admire, and I really appreciate.  \n\nBeyond developing a relationship, accommodating him for personal needs, is there anything I can do that could calm his nerves?  Thought about putting up personal money to buy him something nice, I want to express my appreciation but calm his nerves.  It bothers me that I would/could make someone that nervous.", "summary": "How do I stop making my employee nervous around me?  I'm kind of intense"}
{"id": "t3_xifc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/29] Does the traditional no sex/no cohabitation/no foreplay rules [F/28] till marriage actually lead to a stronger marriage?", "post": "My girlfriend 28 has grown up with a very strong set of beliefs that there should be no sex/foreplay/cohabitation till marriage, subsequently she has never had a solid relationship, has never had sex or fallen in love. To put things in perspective, she had recently achieved (her first) orgasm one night I had helped her though her cloths.\n\nSo here we are dating... going out to dinner a few times a week, making out on the couch like teenagers. If I press her too far sexually, she then regresses back and that is not done for a few weeks. Meanwhile I am thinking, that I will never be close enough to marry her if we are not progressing the relationship (foreplay, spending the night, maybe even moving in with each other at some point).\n\n------------------------------------------------------\n\nWhen I asked her values she states the following. :\n\n\"I dont want to be test ridden like a car\".\n\n\"If I am going to act like the wife, why not become the wife\".\n\n\"Its harder to just walk away when you are married\".\n\n\"I would feel less of my self if I was living with someone who did not marry me\".\n\n\"Marriage is great for taxes\".\n\n\"I need to be engaged before we do anything more than we are currently doing\".\n\n\"I know you want to buy a house, but I wont move in unless we are married (once we are married I want us to buy a joint house together so were both on the title and the partner could never say \"this is MY house\".\n\n\"We could sign a prenump if you want\".\n\n--------------------------------------------------------\n\nLike this is some formula for a relationship, minus the love that would somehow fall into a good relationship.\n\nI dont see any of this shit above.. I want basic love, love that would flourish into a normal sexual life, and progress into a strong relationship, then marriage.\n\nI currently feel none of this and here is she talking about heavy, outdated formal dating. Dont get me wrong I like this girl, but every time she talks about this I drift further apart.", "summary": "Current (relationship novice) girlfriend is making me jump through all the traditional dating to marriage hoops like its some sort of magic formula for a successful marriage, I am not feeling any of this and see it as a receipt for disaster."}
{"id": "t3_3dacs5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with a girl I started talking to online [22 F] for two weeks, not sure how to proceed.", "post": "Immediately we hit it off, we like a million and one things together, we laughed about it and have texted a *ton*. In fact, I've even been texting her more than other girls that I actually *have* taken out on real dates. So far I haven't seen this girl though, we'll call her Paige, but we get along a lot and have talked on the phone for long times. She said she is hesitant because she's been hurt before. But we get along great.\n\nHowever recently she went out on a family trip to her old state. I don't really know what the protocol is, but I've been texting her a lot less. I assume she is with family and stuff. But I notice the past few texts Thursday, one on Friday just wishing her a good vacation, and then something similar with a joke yesterday. I know she said she would be with her family for a while like a few days, but I am going to not text her anymore, obviously. I hope I didn't mess it up already? Why do you think it's taking so long? I mean I know she's with family but do you think she became uninterested or just busy?", "summary": "Girl that we are planning to go on date when she returns from trip we've been talking a lot, now on trip and talk is a lot less, wondering if I should just not text for a bit."}
{"id": "t3_s6txx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has reddit experienced any unfair penalties from cops seeing violations they wanted to see?", "post": "I was pulled over this morning for running a red light. I was not speeding and merely made a split second decision to continue driving as the light turned yellow. I was in the solid line portion before the stoplight and there was a cop waiting to pull out in front of me.\nWhat he saw most likely was that the light turned red while I was in the intersection and decided right there to pull me over. I did not see the light turn red at any point and was actually kinda irritated that I had gotten pulled over for running through a yellow light. This is probably the reason why the cop wrote up a ticket for me instead of giving me a warning.\nThe only evidence for my ticket is what the cop saw and what I saw, his word against mine. I never saw it turn red because I would have had that minor heart attack that I know I usually get if I do actually run a red light.\n\nThe cop was about a block away and it was obviously hard to see from where he was because I went back and checked his vantage point. Does reddit have any similar injustices that have been brought upon them by cops seeing what they wanted to see?", "summary": "Cop saw me run a red light, I didn't run a red light."}
{"id": "t3_1x92to", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Ex (also roommate) wants to remain friends after cheating on me. What do I do?", "post": "So I had been with my boyfriend for two years and he studied abroad last summer and met someone overseas. It hurt but I got over it and tried to remain friends. They pretty much have kept in touch since then and this guy wants to fly him out to him for spring break. Even though I don't have feelings for him it hurts. I honestly wouldn't care if he dated anyone else but the fact that he's going back to the source that has caused me so much pain hurts. I told him i will never be able to look at him again. So my question is:\n\nEven though I don't have feelings currently he is my best friend..but if he decides to go I don't think I will be able to be friends with him. Am I in the wrong? Also we live together and sleep in the same bed (and no we don't have sex) I just want to make sure I'm being mature about this.", "summary": "boyfriend cheated on me overseas. we live together and have been for two years. now were exes and he wants to go on spring break with the guy and come back and expect everything to be \"normal\""}
{"id": "t3_39dbv0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One (60s?M) of my husband's (38M) work contacts keeps giving him free stuff. (Non-romantic)", "post": "My husband is a pro chef. During the last year, he has set up or rehauled the menus of several restaurants. In all of them he has introduced his favourite providers (there might be a different word for this in English; I'm talking about the companies who sell produce) because they offered the best service, price or quality. My husband has NEVER gotten any kickbacks from this: he really chooses the sellers he thinks are best and doesn't get a commission or gifts from them.\n\nOne of these sellers is located in the nearest market from our house, so we often buy from him for our own meals. During the last six weeks we have bought from him maybe seven times and out of those seven, three times he has refused to charge us and two other times he has undercharged us (one time he mentioned the discount and the other time he didn't, but I noticed). The first time we were fine with it because it was a small sale, but it's gotten to the point where both my husband and I are uncomfortable with this.\n\nWe have told the seller that he shouldn't keep refusing to charge us or we'll be too embarrassed and won't buy from him anymore, but he just laughs it off. I do not want to stop buying from him: his produce is the best in the market! But I don't want him to keep giving us free food. The worst part is that every time he gives us free stuff we feel obligated to go and make a big purchase from him so he'll charge us (he usually charges us for the big purchases, gives us the small purchases for free). \n\nI do not think this can have negative effects in my husband's job, but it's making us uncomfortable and the whole thing is a bit ridiculous. How can we make this guy understand that we really want him to charge us for all of our purchases?", "summary": "My husband gets new customers for guy. Guy is thankful and gives my husband free food. How do we tell the guy we don't want free food?"}
{"id": "t3_huv11", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Reddit, I'm not sure what to do about my dog...", "post": "My dog Snickers, A Cocker Spaniel and Poodle mix, is almost 13 years old (turns 13 in August). She has already lost her hearing and has arthritis. Recently she's been going to the bathroom (pooping, specifically, and it's a really wet poop...sorry for the detail) all in the house. She has never done this before and always used to bark at the door when she needed to go out. Nowadays she would just stand there and kind of roll around, but we still have been able to let her out just fine. But now I don't know if she just can't make it to the door in time or if we're not moving fast enough or what. I don't know what to do because this is my parents house and they're getting very (understandably) frustrated with constantly cleaning the carpets. They want keep her in the laundry room where there's tile, but she constantly barks. I don't know what else to do, but I feel so bad leaving her there. Any suggestions?", "summary": "My really old dog is going to the bathroom everywhere. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2egvc0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] together 2 years, he emailed himself a screenshot of a tinder 'moment'", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for >two years, living together for one. He very recently moved across the country to begin medical school, making our relationship long distance for the first time. \n\nWe talked in depth about this change and plan to stay together. I am looking for work in his new city.\n\nHis email automatically logged in while I was using my laptop, and my curiosity got the best of me so I clicked on a message he sent to himself that contained an image.  It was a screenshot of a tinder 'moment', which I only figured out after reading more only about tinder because I have never had it. The \"moment\" was of a pretty girl's face, about our age, a few miles away and active a few minutes ago.\n\nI don't know what to think. I want to ask him about it but I am ashamed I looked on his email and I don't really want to tell him. I will not be seeing him in person for a few weeks.\n\nI obviously never thought he used tinder but now tons of doubts are creeping in. Do you think he was browsing girls in his new area? Why email himself...? \n\nUgh this sucks. I appreciate any constructive input.", "summary": "I came across an email message my boyfriend sent to himself that only contained what looked like a screenshot (from him phone?) of a girl's tinder \"moment\". What is this? What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1jcgex", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I make my office mate *think* I pranked/booby trapped her office without actually pulling any pranks/setting any traps?", "post": "My boss is being all, \"Blah, blah, blah *productivity*, blah, blah, blah, *don't make a mess she needs to clean up*!\" But my office mate is at King's Dominion today and felt the need to remind us multiple times she'd be out of the office today. So I thought I'd terrify her and let her think she'd be coming back to a booby trapped office tomorrow.\n\nI can't pull anything, but I'd love to make it look like I did. Maybe have things hanging out of her desk drawer so she'd think something was going to jump out at her? I suck at pranks, so I don't even know how to create the illusion of pranks. Any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Boss has stick up bum, ipso facto: post title"}
{"id": "t3_51hqbm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my crush [15 F] ,I met her online, but I was ashamed of myself because i knew her sister, so I lied about who I was.", "post": "So at the end of April I noticed this girl, I thaught she looked cute so I decided i wanted to contact her. The only problem: I am in the same class as her sister, and i do not believe that her sister thinks well of me.\n\nSo I decided to just make up a name and use someone elses picture. We started talking almost daily, and i started toget feelings for her. \n\nI started feeling bad, knowing I was lying to her about my name and picture when i spoke to her. So i wanted to tell her at the gradtuation of myself and her sister, because i wanted to tell her IRL. \n\nBut i couldnt find her and so it took an other month to tell her, by messaging and not telling her IRL. She was rightfully pretty mad, and needed a break talking to me. \n\nSo whe didnt talk for about a month, I was really depressed bacause for the first time in my life I really was attracted to somebody, and had the feeling that she might just like me to. It felt like it had blown it, lost it all.\n\nSo after a month I asked her if she wanted to talk to me again. She initionally said no, but I persuaded her into talking again, so now we talk a bit for this last week. But it just isnt the same as it used to be. \n\nNow I am in the same class as her sister again and I just dont know what to do. I really think about asking to meet her and hang out some time, but i feel like theres a 95% chances she will turn me down. And I already feel way to depressed, and dont know if i can handle a rejection. I just dont know if maybe its just to soon?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2ahqq6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17f) think I'm developing serious feelings towards boss (19m) while uncommittedly dating someone (#m)", "post": "Okay, so I have been uncommitedly with someone (#m) for a year. NO COMMITMENT. Feels, yeah. Attachment, oh yeah. \nHe's my best friend in many ways. \n\nBut when I first started my new job a few weeks ago, I was crushing on one of my shift managers. No big deal; just cute, funny, nice, smart. Until the past few weeks, 2 or so, I have started to see my 'crush' getting serious. \n\n(19m) was flirting regularly and it was not normal; he never hit on other girls. And he has asked me out on an official date after I had asked him if he was attending an event. (Was told I would be promoted the next week to his level of management shortly before) where he would buy me a few drinks and enjoy live music, dinner, and each other's company. \n\nBasically- what do?", "summary": "I have a fat crush on boss man and dunno how to go about it"}
{"id": "t3_ycj3l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why isn't reddit asking for proof with the dog fiddler's father??", "post": "First of all if this happened to you. Don't post it on the internet and ask for anonymous people for help. Why not try a psychiatrist? \n\nSecond. Hmm son if you promise not to act on your sexual desires I won't tell my life partner (who this effects in a massive way) what you did. Is that a deal 14 year old messed up kid? I don't want my wife to know. \n\nNow my life is messed up. The internet should know this. I wouldn't want to disapoint curious anonymous. Yes! Frontpage. Thankyou guys so much.\n\nFinally can I add People lie on the internet. Either this guy is really stupid. Or he is conducting an online experiment on how easy it is to manipulate reddit into sympathy", "summary": "Why don't we get the vet report. People are being suckered into a fool's story or a lie"}
{"id": "t3_2avrm3", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Put on a lot of weight in the last year, and I can't drop it. I'm going insane, please help?", "post": "So I'm a recent grad, 24 year old girl, who moved to a new town for an internship/work. I've been at my job just over a year and since moving out here I've gained a whopping 40 lbs. I went from 160 at 5'7\" to over 200. I no longer fit in my clothes, and feel awkward and bloated in my new body. And oh, the stretchmarks...\n\n The year before my move, I was still in college so I had a very controlled schedule. And a lot more free time.  I was eating very well, exercising regularly, and trying to lose my colligiate weight. Then I graduated, moved to a new state, and began my internship.\n\nI also moved in with my SO to save on rent. But since the move in, and starting up work, I stopped exercising and eating well. I no longer had access to nor could afford to pay for a gym. my partner was very seditery and shared my love of burritos, and I worked very long hours.\nAnd work is stressful, and I deal with a lot of gnarly chemicals.\n\nI noticed things were getting bad when I finally weighed myself at 190. I was shocked, and tried to start eating well and exercising when I could. But then work became stressful and I put on another 15 lbs.\n\nIn the last two months I've been eating very well, counting calories(my budget is 1400, and I am religious when it comes to tracking and portioning), and walking/jogging everyday. I have some slip ups, but no more than once a week. I've lost like 5 lbs in a week, but have either maintained or gained fractions of a pound over the course of a month. That's it. My net loss is less than 3.7 lbs over a month.\n\nI never had any problems losing weight in college, and I'm incredibly frustrated by my lack of progress and gross body. Does anyone have any advice/input into what's wrong with me? I feel devastated by my inability to control my body.\n\nSorry for typos, done on my tiny phone at work.", "summary": "got big after graduating college, and can't lose the weight after rigorous efforts to."}
{"id": "t3_33sgyz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(27F) met a guy(30M) on Plenty of Fish and have been meeting up. My friends keep rebutting everything I say and are convinced he's using me for sex. Help?", "post": "I met a guy, let's call him Max, on plenty of fish and we have gone out a few times. Movies, dinner and bowling. Known one another for a week. We went back to his house after bowling and watched a movie. We ended up had sex. He's a lovely person and texts me asking about class and we talk at his house. \n\nMy friends were messaging me on Facebook losing their minds the first night, demanding to know where I was and threatening to call the police because they had his address. I flipped and told them to calm the fuck down. I have felt so stressed the last two days over this. \n\nI spoke to him this morning about what the go is, and he told me we are dating. He said \"well, if you think I'm gonna marry you tomorrow that's not gonna happen!\" Jokingly of course. I laughed and said no of course not. He said he isn't dating anyone else, we are both interested in finding partners but we need to get to know one another before making it more serious. He gives me kisses before we leave of a morning, and makes me food. \n\nI understood that and was happy with that. My friends keep blasting me, telling me to wake up and he's using me for sex. They are demanding we go on more dates than just going to his house, which I already know. One of my friends told me there's no such thing as exclusive dating. I trust him and don't believe he is. To me he comes off as a very upfront, honest person and would tell you straight. \n\nMy parents keep telling me to stop telling my friends about it and for them to quit harassing me over this. They feel he is a genuine guy and has a decent outlook on our future. \n\nWhat are your ideas, reddit?", "summary": "met a lovely guy online and we've been on a few dates and recently had sex. My friends lost their minds and are against me having sex with him because they are convinced he's using me. My stress levels are at breaking point."}
{"id": "t3_3mz5tt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (25M) of 3 years is planning to meet another woman (20's F) he's been talking to for years.", "post": "So, I've been seeing this guy for 3 years and we've had our fair share of issues with adultery/cheating, which I thought we had solved.\n\nRewind to few months ago, I randomly saw his phone go off and saw a name pop up with a text. We'll call her Quinn. I'm just kind of curious so I ask him about it and he doesn't say anything. For days and days, I try to get an answer out of him and finally he tells me he's known her for years and plans to have a relationship with her but she has a husband and baby. He explains that she's \"unhappy\" and \"stuck\" in a relationship she doesn't want to be in because they live with the husbands parents.\n\nI really honestly don't believe it, for one, if you're unhappy in a relationship, just bring that Shit up. Two, if you're married, I understand feeling trapped, but why would purposefully try to CONSTANTLY hit up someone else's significant other (going either way with that.)?\n\nSo, we have an argument, I give up, and it goes away for a while. Until he leaves his phone unlocked one day, and seeing as we've had problems before and he grabs his phone away from me any time he sees I have it, I look at the conversation going on. He's telling her that he's unhappy with me and that he wants to actually be \"happy\" and actually love someone... I broke down. \n\nI brought it up as calmly as I could and instead of explaining he went off on me for \"invading his privacy\" and left like he always does when he's losing/has no way to defend himself.\n\nMy question is, what should I do about it since he won't listen to me and it hasn't stopped? I really can't handle sharing a man, as bad as that sounds, and I don't want to control him.", "summary": "Bf has a good friend who lives far away that he's been planning to bang behind my back. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_122acx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I help a friend finally ask the girl of his dreams out?", "post": "Okay, so I have a friend called Jake. Everyday, whatever time he has free, he will be found with a girl called Hannah. They're always together, but when we tell him to ask her out, he claims that they are just friends. \n\nI know for sure he likes her (he doesn't know i know his blog. also, 'H' is a bad codename), and that she likes him too (her girlfriends are quite close to me). I know it would mean the world to him if she accepted it (which she would), but he doesn't have the guts to do it.", "summary": "friend likes a girl, too scared to ask her out. how can help?"}
{"id": "t3_1k8z76", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] What would you do if you came so close to finishing High School, got expelled, but still had dreams to do engineering at University?", "post": "Hey AskReddit, I'm from a rural town in Queensland, Australia. Last year I got expelled in term 4 of my senior year, about 7 weeks shy of graduating. I wasn't expelled due to ill-mannered behavior or grades. The reason was my attendance. I rarely went to school other than exam days and HPE practical days, and missed approximately 140 days in the year. I was going for an Overall Position (OP) and sat my QCS Exams. I was getting A's and B's in the 6 subjects i chose and didn't think attendance was a big deal if my Assignments were handed in on time and I sat the exams. The thing is, I still really want to go to University in the next couple of years to study Engineering, but how can I achieve this without an OP and High School Certificate. Is there any other options or paths i can take to get to University?", "summary": "Got expelled from High School but still want to go to University, what can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_nxo1j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are my girlfriend and I related?", "post": "So last night, while my girlfriend was flipping through the family calender that I got for Christmas with all of my relatives birthdays and everything. To her horror, she discovered that we are related. It turns out that her Dad's first cousin married my Aunt. So my first cousins are her second cousins through opposing bloodlines. This really freaked her out, but I wasn't really that upset by it since the relationship seems so obscure and it isn't by blood. I need your help with two things: 1. What is the name of our relationship through family? Our best guess was third cousins once removed but neither of us are too sure about that. 2. Is this really a close enough relationship that it is wierd or even wrong for us to be dating?", "summary": "I just found out that my girlfriend and I are related through marriage. What does that mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2543zg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] parents have not been getting along for over a year and nothing seems to change.", "post": "My parents [48M] [42F] have been married for about 20 years and things were going smoothly until about a year and a half ago. \n\nSo a little over a year ago, my parents started drifting away from each other. It is not as bad as it used to be, but it is getting a little out of hand.\n\nIt started my senior year of high school when my family was struggling with money. My parents constantly fought and always tried to talk to me about their problems with each other. They don't sleep in the same room, talk to each other when they are home, or tell each other where they are going. My mom always has 'meetings' that go late into the night and my dad just disappears to the bar or one of his brother's house.\n\nA couple months ago, my dad sat me down and started saying that my mom and him have not been getting along and how my mom wants to take my sister and move out to a different house. This is the most emotional I have seen my dad, as he just hugs me and starts crying saying how much he loves me. \n\nShortly after, my mom comes into my room asking what she should do, and I said I did not know what to do, because I didn't at the time. I was shaken by a recent breakup so I wasn't in the right mindset for things like this.\n\nThings just haven't improved and it is getting out of hand. My mom and sister won't go to family gatherings on my dad's side and my dad won't go on my mom's. My grandma on my mom's side recently asked me what was going on, and I didn't know what to say.\n\nI just want to know what I should do. My friends I have opened up to about it said I should talk to my parents, but every time I bring it up, I don't know what to say to them. Please help, I just want everything back to normal.", "summary": "My parents' relationship is non existent and I want to know what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_qtbky", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recent university graduate looking for advice", "post": "I am posting here in hopes that I can get some advice from anyone who has gone through or is in the same situation as I am. Here is the basics:\n\nI graduated university about 1 year ago with a Bachelors degree in Mathematics.  After graduating I looked for a jobs for about 3 months with no success.\n\nI have a minor in Computer Science, so I was searching for jobs in the technical area. Anything from web developer, to IT desk, to QA analyst.\n\n At that point I literally had no relevant job experience (Only working part-time and summer jobs as a student)\n\nAfter applying to 80+ jobs and getting less than 5 responses I went back to my old summer job as a landscaper. I was then able to find a small start up company that I could volunteer at as a web developer. \n\nFast-forward 6 months, I am still at the start-up full-time, but I cannot go much longer without any income. I also don't feel like the experience I am getting is very valuable. This company is very unstructured and I have no \"mentor\" in terms of programming, I am often the go-to guy when it comes to problems. I continue to apply for jobs, but with no success. \n\nMy question is, what are my options?  I have enough money saved up I could go back to school but which program? Should I go to college, try and get into a Master program? or even a 2nd bachelors?\n(I'm from Canada, so college is like a lower tier University here, usually with more practical courses while Universities offer more theoretical courses)\n\nShould I stick it out in hopes this experience will land me a new job? \n\nIt's not the worst situation to be in, but I feel like I will have to do something soon. \n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Recent university grad having no lucking finding a job, asking for anyones advice who is in or gone through a similar situation"}
{"id": "t3_xrmzm", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Had my first terrible run since running became not-terrible for me", "post": "So I've been running for awhile now, something like 15 weeks; finished a C25K, lost 30 lbs. Not fast - lol - by any stretch of the imagination, but my usual average of late has been just over 11 MPM, and I run for 30+ minutes every other day. It's a big deal for me because when I started, a minute of running was Hell. Anyway, ever since I made it to around the five or six week mark, running has become  something I look forward to, and enjoy despite the difficulty. \n\nMy last run...was brutally awful. Not just poor performance but poor feelings. I just had zero energy; it was like I was hit with a tranquilizer dart as soon as I started. By the last ten minutes I think a walker would have breezed past my dragging feet, and I was moving by sheer willpower. It was just terrible. Has this ever happened to you? I felt fine before the run, and started with the hope of a new PR.", "summary": "had my first \"wtf happened\" run, and I'm wondering how to prevent that from happening again - or if it's normal and should be infrequently expected."}
{"id": "t3_2fdvr2", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "etiquette help on inviting a guest", "post": "my fiance and i are throwing a very intimate family get-together so that our two immediate families can meet each other before the big day. this is also the first celebratory thing of any sort that he and i are doing for our wedding/engagement. the total head count is 19--only our parents, siblings, their spouses and children are invited. no friends, no aunts/grand parents/god parents, etc. are invited. we have made reservations at a very high end restaurant for the event, and are footing the bill for this and EVERYTHING else wedding-related.\n\nhis parents divorced on strained terms in 2011 due to cheating, among other reasons. they are cordial to each other (and very socially well behaved) at family gatherings. \n\none of my fiance's siblings gave us the heads up that FMIL would like to invite her boyfriend to this intimate dinner. fiance and i have met FMIL's boyfriend a total of 2 times ever since his parents divorced. we're not close. at all. i don't even know this guy's last name. previous family gatherings have included drama where one parent threatens to not attend if other parent's significant other also attends, though nothing like that has happened here (yet). we are assuming that would be the same case here. we'd really prefer to have both his parents attend. to FMIL's defense, she has been dating this gentleman for ~2.5 years, no threats of attendance have or haven't been made.\n\nthe family dynamics aside from FMIL's boyfriend is already a precarious social situation: not everyone gets along perfectly, but can be mature enough to hopefully behave themselves. despite how important these people are to us, and how much we may love them, we struggle to get along with the dynamics sometimes, which will already make this a very interesting dinner. the subject of the dinner is us, and not our families, and i feel that it is appropriate for us to leave it in the intimate setting in which we intended.\n\nso bottom line: do we invite FMIL's boyfriend and if we do not, how do we address this so FMIL doesn't freak out on us? are we being unfair?", "summary": "FMIL wants to invite her boyfriend to a very intimate engagement dinner. it feels extremely awkward and out of place. do we invite him? if not, how do we handle this?*"}
{"id": "t3_m6c1l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Gift ideas.", "post": "For my 20th birthday last year my boyfriend surprised me by making me my very own Companion Cube plushie. He did it all in secret and took pictures along the way so that he could show me the different steps etc. It was one of the sweetest gifts I've ever received and now, with his 21st coming up I'm looking for  help on what I can possibly get for him.\nI have a few ideas already but since they say it's the thought that counts, I decided it would be good if I got as many thoughts as possible =D", "summary": "I need ideas for gifts for my boyfriend's 21st."}
{"id": "t3_2wydng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 F] SO [23 M] of ~8 months recently started an accelerated schooling program at uni, and essentially has no time for social life", "post": "As the title says, my SO recently started an accelerated BSN (1.5yrs at least) program ~a month ago. We've been doing great in every aspect of our relationship, and he had told me many times what this program would do to his social life. \n\nI feel that I have been doing well in terms of keeping myself as low maintenance as possible, and trying to squeeze our time into giving him rides to and from school (so he could try to catch up on readings during the commute), and meeting up at a local coffee shop so he could study/do hw (I'd just reddit or something). \n\nThe issue: He is a suuuuuper nice person, and I mention this specifically because anything I do for him (take him coffee when he gets out of school, give him a ride, buy him random things like snacks, etc) he feels the need to return the favor. \n\nBecause of that, he's been extremely generous with the little time he has, whether it's him taking longer breaks than he should to be on the phone with me, or just allowing me to be there when he's studying (he's more efficient when studying on his own). \n\nI keep telling him that it's ok for him to not do that, and try to take care of his hw before dedicating time to me because I know how little availability he has. But it kills him inside a little every time I do something nice for him because he can't do the same for me, and it kills him when we're on the phone/hanging out because he spends a lot of that time thinking that he should be studying/doing hw. \n\nEssentially, I'm trying to make it easier for him by not taking up his time, and keeping his schooling as a priority, but he gets sad that he's not able to give me more time than what he's able to.\n\nI fear that this will keep tearing him up inside to the point that it'd just be better for him to be without me. \n\nAny tips/advice/help beyond the obvious \"give him all of the space\" would be appreciated.", "summary": "Want to help SO going through tough schooling, but it kills him to not be able to make time for me without sacrificing studying/hw time, which makes it a bit harder for me to go above and beyond for him. How to best support SO going through extremely time-consuming accelerated schooling?"}
{"id": "t3_2dge3c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update]Me [24 M] gf[24 F] close to two years trip who was distant, It's Now Over.", "post": "original post: ( don't know how to link properly\n\nWell I was planning to contact my girlfriend to meet up later so we can see what the situation was. Well she texts me a wall of text saying while she was in Iraq reacquainted with her religion. The time she spent there she saw herself as having falling really far from it and she loves her religion. She said marriage was going to be an issue because to her if she marries me she would have to relinquish her faith. After saying goodbye and telling her I would have preferred to have done this in person, she said she couldn't. I cut off all communication with her. It's hitting me really hard I haven't cried in a long time. All our good memories are running through my mind and I feel lost. I need someone now and I know if i try that it might end up like this again so I shouldn't rush it, but trying to find someone is going to be hard, starting all over I mean. The idea that I won't have someone to talk to like her or someone to hold and tell them I love them and her to say it back to me is eating at me. I don't know what to do anymore. My emotions are telling me to crawl back to her to talk some sense into her to see if we can make it work, but thats just going to hurt me more...", "summary": "GF broke up with me by phone, I miss her and I'm lonely, I feel like shit"}
{"id": "t3_3td5la", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Helping empty nesting parents, what to do?", "post": "xpost from /r/legaladvice as they suggest /r/personalfinance would have good insights\n\n\u00a0\n\nI'm at a phase in life where I'm helping take care of many matters for my parents. I need to find who would be the right set of people to consult with (tax attorney? real estate attorney? cfa?) in Chicago, IL. Regarding my parents situation:\n\n\u00a0\n\n- Only social security income (addl: help with everything i can)\n- 50-75k in credit card debt\n- Owe 300k on primary home (unable to sell, been trying)\n- Inherited ~175k property (rented it out in past - no remaining mortgage - very sellable)\n\n\u00a0 \n\nI need to understand the best way for them to sell both properties (tax and other implications) and protect $ from rental property sale to use towards general debt + retirement. Thank you so much!!!", "summary": "need trustworthy chicago attorney to discuss protecting $ in selling homes with debt. or open to any new approaches and ideas!  Thank you so much!!"}
{"id": "t3_1v03xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I become less needy?", "post": "Hi guys\n\nI'm 17, been with my girlfriend for 2 years now, its very special to me, and she means the world to me. However, recently I've found myself being quite clingy, paranoid and quite needy of her. I worry when she goes to partys that she will do something silly that shel regret, and I feel far too overprotective. She's 16, so she's growing up and experiencing new parts of life, but I feel like I want to put her in a bubble and keep her safe. The result of this is me becoming clingy and quite annoying.\n\nHow can I loosen up, be a bit cooler about her living her life and stop being clingy? Because I'm worried my clingyness will push her away, it seems to have done that slightly.", "summary": "been being clingy recently, how do I be less clingy and a bit more relaxed?"}
{"id": "t3_r5x0h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my university is about to go on strike and it's going to screw over the graduating class, what can we do!?", "post": "Our school went on strike at the beginning of our university careers in 2008 and went from October to February when they were legislated back to work by the government. For those who didn't transfer to different schools or drop out entirely, two semesters worth of classes were compressed to fit into a Feb-June timeline.\n\nNow, they're about to strike again, right before exams. This is going to mess up people's plans for getting a job for the summer (This same shit happened in 2008 that I forgot about, we had significantly less time to work and almost zero opportunities to work as all the other uni students were already on summer break), grad school applications, and career employment for graduating students. \n\nThis is not to mention that many of the students graduating from our campus are international students and this could mean they have to leave the country before they can graduate, as their visas may expire. Even if they are able to stay, they also need to have arrangements to live somewhere, etc etc. \n\nSo many problems will arise from this, **WHAT CAN WE DO??", "summary": "school struck in 2008, screwed over lots of students, school about to strike again as exams loom, screwing over even more"}
{"id": "t3_3aithh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How Do You Walk Away From That!?", "post": "Me 27M and my ex 25F.  Best friends for 9 yrs serious relationship for 7 yrs.  Broke up with me because she started liking another guy.  After, she regretted sleeping with him.  All he wanted was to hit and quit but he sucked in bed.\n\nShe literally left the best sex she's ever had.  I gave her her first orgasm and after that it was rare for her to not get an orgasm when we had sex.  Sometimes she would get two.  She left her best friend.  We had a connection where we could really just be ourselves and be comfortable, talk about anything.  She left her cat.  She loves my cat and still misses her a lot.  She left a less stressful lifestyle.  She became a manager, high stress and lots of hours for lower pay.\n\nI'm not exaggerating any of this.  Honestly I'm not looking to get her back but sometimes when I think about it or my friends bring it up it just baffles me how she really left all that.\n\nI'm just bored and curious.  She's contacted me a few times before.  Do you think she'll try to come back or nah?", "summary": "Ex left a loving LTR with her best friend and the best sex she's ever had.  Do you think she'll try to come back to that?  (Not trying to get back together people...)"}
{"id": "t3_1x5wop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32f] have just found out that my boyfriend [36m] is on Ashley Madison", "post": "Well that kinda says it all, we talk openly about things,so a few days later when talking about dating sites I  asked if he had been on this web site.\n\nAt 1st he said no,then though for a minute and then said yes,But told me he never filled out the whole thing ie no pics no information \n\nThis is a lie as I want on the web site and looked him up. Fully filled in pics and all.\n\nhe did tell me that it was put  up almost two years ago.\n\nSo the question is do I trust him even though there was a small lie( maybe embarrassed )\nOr do i play his game and give him a fake email and see if he bites\n\nWhat do I do now?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1v2wr6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF [22/F] wants to break up with me (23/M) after ~1 year for, what seems to be, no good reason", "post": "We've been in a relationship together for almost a year now, and things were going well (we had fights here and there but nothing excessive). Recently, we went on a trip together (for the first time) for 5 days and had a great time. Everything seemed to be ok at that point, until we started having a few fights here and there, and a major one for one of the big events that her friends were hosting (i.e. I couldn't attend, as I chose to see my friends instead and she got really upset because of that). That being said, we tried to sort things out, and thing seemed to have calmed down, until a few days ago she told me that she wants to break up. Her best response to why she wants to do it was that she does not think that we are a good match. Also, I should add that we knew each other for a while (~2 years) before dating, and she also told me that she had a crush on me since the beginning. So, right now I don't know what to do and how to take all of this, given that she told that she still has feelings for me.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to break, despite her feelings for me; I am confused."}
{"id": "t3_v83d1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What ignorant thing do people say/do about your heritage that makes you want to punch their lights out?", "post": "I'm a Kenyan. And fiercely proud of it (and this is neither here nor there but thank y'all Reddit for the overwhelming Omari response, you got my homeboy covered). I now live in the US and I just love it. I identify as Kenyan-American.\n\nI keep tabs on news from home and this made me both sad and angry. \"Primitive energy\" conjures up images of topless women shaking their tatas in delirious glee and chest thumping. Now, granted, there are some tribes in Kenya who go topless (and with that I lost half the audience as they opened a tab with that Google search) but I feel that this was an inappropriate tag line. \n\nDespite what the documentaries portray about Africa as a whole, I think the use of the word primitive is unjustified. I'll speak for Kenya in particular. There have been significant contributions from the country and some of the ones that come to mind:\n1. We have/had the first female professor in East & Central Africa and Nobel Laureate: Prof. Wangari Maathai (RIP)\n2. How can I forget our long distance athletes (though this might be an argument for the other side, running away from lions will sure give you killer hamstrings)\n3. The world's first mobile money-sending app (M-pesa)\n\nAre we underdeveloped, without a doubt. Do we have poverty, absolutely. Are we doing the best we can to get ourselves out of the poverty quagmire? Yes. But primitive...I don't think so.", "summary": "Kenyan finds ad calling her people primitive, throws a hissy fit and proceeds to crudely hew together some sentences to prove said point. "}
{"id": "t3_39tpse", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[39/m] Ashamed of genitals", "post": "crosspost from /r/bodyimage\n\nI (39 m) have have some body image issues. I am overweight and generally feel unattractive but I have some especially strong feelings towards my genitals and what they do.\nOn one hand I really dislike what I see as ugly, stupid appendages. I can't imagine why any woman would be prepared to have anything to do with them. I especially dislike my semen and find myself very embarrassed/ashamed by it. I feel like I have made a horrible mess - like having lost control of bowel/bladder. This of course inhibits me when in a relationship and I will have trouble coming.\nI tend to see my genitals as a burden. They aren`t wanted and only serve to provide shame and weakness. I'm constantly concerned about hurting my testicles - especially in the presence of women. It's bad enough that I have testicles without having to deal with the embarrassment of hurting them in view of a woman. I can only imagine what goes through a womans mind when she sees a man's balls.\nI'd love to be able to accept my body, it's vulnerabilities and function and be able to have an anxiety free relationship with a woman but don`t really know where to start sorting my head out.\nSorry it's a strange post. I'm really fishing for ideas. I can imagine what I would think if I read a post like this....", "summary": "I'm ashamed of my genitals.  How can I have a normal/healthy relationship with a woman?"}
{"id": "t3_u6qhd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend works at a California Charter School and their principal is disregarding their charter and threatening to fire anyone who questions his leadership. What can she do?", "post": "I'm not an educator but my friend is having a really hard time at her job right now and I was wondering if anyone could help.\n\n**The Issue:**\n\nShe works for a charter school in California where the principal has gone off the deep end. At first it started casually with cuts and a few firings (understandable at the time because of budget cuts). It steadily got worse however as he slowly stripped the teachers of any rights/protections they once had. Now he's threatening to fire them at any time if they refuse to work late/take personal days/attempt talks with the teachers union/show signs of disagreeing with the principal's leadership, etc.\n\nThis guy has continually canceled meetings by any form of teacher-staffed governing boards that would normally provide the teachers with a voice. Now he just dictates policy for the school with no regard or input from the teachers. He has threatened to let anyone go if they show even the slightest dissatisfaction with his decisions.\n\nKeep in mind this was a very good school before this guy came in. It's not like it was a failing school in need of some tough love. As far as scholastic achievement goes, not much has changed since this guy was hired on (which is why I suspect he still has a job despite complaints to district).\n\nIs there anything my friend can do to oust this guy or at least protect her job?", "summary": "My friend is a teacher. Several of her students have gone missing and the principal may be a werewolf. How do I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_uisjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my girlfriend cheating on me?", "post": "My girlfriend (19) and myself (20) have been going out for 7 months and have what i would think of as a healthy relationship. We are always together, we have a lot of fun. There is balance, I wouldn't say that either of us tries harder to get the others attention. There is a problem however.\n\nWe haven't had sex in a month, which is very confusing to me. I've confronted her about it and she said that she is just very stressed out, which is understandable. Sparing you the details, I can assure you all that she has been having a VERY rough time with family issues recently. As a male though, I can't understand not wanting to have sex with the person you love for THAT long. Wouldn't you want to do it at least like once a week, or once every two weeks? And I know that she enjoyed sex because she gets very vocal and squirms around every time we did. She has been so vocal that I've had to put a pillow over her mouth to keep her from waking my mother.\n\nThe one thing that keeps me from automatically assuming she is cheating is that I, like a coward, read through her messages on Facebook, on her phone, read through her calls, but found nothing. Could she have deleted them before she handed me the phone? Also, we are always together, and her circle of friends is very small, with few guys in it.\n\nI guess I just need some female's, or a guy who has had a similar problem's advice on this. What can I do to fix it?", "summary": "Haven't had sex with the GF in a month, wondering what is going on"}
{"id": "t3_18nc1f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/f] I want to be less sexual with my boyfriend of 5 months (17/m), but I'm seriously struggling.", "post": "We're both freshmen in college (yes, he's 17, he graduated high school early). We met here and instantly had a connection. We are both wanting to save sex for marriage, which is wonderful and I'm so happy, but I'm having a difficult time trying to release my built up sexual energy.\n\nI just started taking an anti-depressant and it has made \"self-pleasure\" very difficult and not appealing at all, therefore I have a LOT of sexual energy with no way to release it. To top this all off I just got a job for the first time in a pretty stressful environment and that's not helping this situation at all. Him and I have recently become more sexual and it's pretty much my fault, and I feel terrible. When I'm not around him, all I want to do with him is snuggle and hold hands and just love him with everything, and then we hang out and I get extremely horny. I don't want this relationship to be ruined because it turns from love to lust. Neither of us want to be this sexual.\n\nI don't really know what kind of advice I'm looking for, sorry about that. I just don't know how to fix this.", "summary": "I'm really horny but my boyfriend and I don't want to be sexual, which is fine, but I don't know how to fix this."}
{"id": "t3_1fmnrp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: Running Mileage", "post": "Hey guys!\n\nBeen sort of a lurker here for some time just to keep my motivation up and motivate others, so here's my first post about running! I'm a relatively big guy, not necessarily heavy, just husky (Stats: Male, 28, 6'2\" and 235lbs). I've never been much of a runner (more into lifting weights) until I decided to join the military. Long story short, I weighed 300lbs, lost a lot of weight through running and strict diet to get into the military. Got weight down to 208lbs in 10 months, stopped running regularly once I was in and gained back about 25-30lbs.\n\nSince then, I've only ran when I had to, such as to pass my physical fitness test. I'm not a fast runner, but I'm content with my varying 11 minute 1.5 mile run. Well, I had a breaking point not too long ago when my weight reached into the upper 240s. I vowed to myself when I lost all that weight that I would never weigh 250lbs or more again, and I came pretty damn close to breaking that promise. So, I started running again at the beginning of April.\n\nHad to break through some rough plateaus of motivation and aches and pains of getting back into running on a regular basis (before I joined the military, I was running 3-5 miles EVERY day, I lost weight and became a pretty fast runner for a guy over 200lbs). Now, to get to my NSV. Like I said, I've never been a really fast runner, but today at work, I did hit a nice milestone of running 5 miles in 45 mins, first time I've been able to run such a distance under 10min/mile. Hope I can keep it going this time around!", "summary": "Ran 5 miles in 45mins, first time to run that kind of distance in under 10min/mile."}
{"id": "t3_3k6yvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] find myself getting extremely jealous/insecure with my [20F] girlfriend. Could use some advice", "post": "I've been dating my current girlfriend for 9 months, and this is my first serious relationship. I find myself showing signs of jealousy/insecurity and I don't know what to do about it. I have the urge to look through her messages (I never actually have), I don't like it when she talks about other people, and when she goes out with friends and I'm not able to come I find myself getting so jealous and angry that I begin to doubt our relationship. I do my best to keep all these emotions to myself because I do love her and I don't want to lose her. What can I do?", "summary": "I'm the jealous boyfriend and I don't know how to address the issue"}
{"id": "t3_2g2uxt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to change my computer's wallpaper", "post": "Earlier today I was sitting in a college lecture with my laptop open. I decided I was tired of my usual background and was going to change it to my favorite sport team's logo. The picture I wanted was in the \"my pictures\" folder.\n\nNow let's go back a little bit. \n\nFirst or second night of the fappening (may it rest in peace) and I download the Kate Upton and j law pictures and just to be quick about it, I put it in \"my pictures\" with the intent on moving it later. I forgot to move them... \n\nNow back to today in the lecture, I went to change the background, clicked \"my pictures\" and it automatically expected that I wanted to have it cycle through every picture in that folder. My background fades into a picture of a close up of Kate Upton's tits. I panic and just freeze trying to figure out if there was a quick undo I could do, but in my panic, I forgot what cancel meant. So I just shut my laptop and pretended nothing happened... I was surrounded by people, no one said anything but someone had to have seen.", "summary": "Tried to change my wallpaper to the packers, accidentally put Kate Upton's tits on while surrounded by people in my class."}
{"id": "t3_3107xn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by enjoying Legend of Zelda music and Clock Town.", "post": "This is pretty minor, but it nearly gave me a (not literally) heart attack, so I think it's worth posting here.\n\nI like Zelda games. A lot. I finished Majora's Mask 3D last week, and today during school I was in the mood for some Majora, but, you know, school. So I decided to listen to the soundtrack by searching first for the Clock Town theme.\n\nI have a crappy phone, so the touchscreen isn't very accurate most of the time. I typed in \"Clock\" but somehow resulted in me missing the \"l\" and typing \"Cock\" instead. I rolled my eyes in frustration, tried to hit the backspace, but what do you know, I hit search.\n\nI thought at the time that I was using my school's free wifi (Which you have to sign up for using your school account that is given to you, and is monitored) so I completely freaked out and gasped really loudly, basically everyone in the room stared at me for a few seconds. I knew I was screwed at this point, there would have been no way out of facing that punishment. How do you explain to the AP why you were searching \"cock\" in the middle of the school day? You can't.\n\nBut, thank you, hindsight. I had turned off my wifi and switched to my network just a minute before. So, luckily, I don't have to explain why I was searching for the slang term for male reproductive organs in the middle of school. Still, people probably now think that I have some kind of hypersensitivity to my phone...", "summary": "Accidentally searched \"cock\" instead of \"clock town\" while I thought I was using the school's monitored wifi, had a freak out in the middle of class and everyone looked at me weird."}
{"id": "t3_tts0d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need ideas for an AMAZING prank. Hit me with your wildest practical jokes.", "post": "So there's this one guy in our friend group, I'll call him Spencer for anonymity purposes. In my years I have found that most friend groups, including my own, have at least one if not more \"Spencers\". I'm talking about the whiny, mean, lazy, sloppy goodfornothing that nobody REALLY likes, but hey, he's been along for so long that it's just impossible to get rid of him. \n\nNow Reddit, this is where I need your help. The school year is coming to an end very soon, and I was hoping to fill the summer with loads of zany, intricate, pranks to execute on \"Spencer.\" I need your best ideas for for any pranks that cause public humiliation or physical DISCOMFORT. We do NOT want to harm him in any way, as his rage and fists of fury make him a dangerous adversary when he is hurt. That's my proposal reddit, learn me your best pranks!!", "summary": "I have a shitty friend that my friends and I want to prank the hell out of this summer, let me hear your best pranks to incite public humiliation, fear, or physical discomfort!"}
{"id": "t3_prllj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I want to move somewhere in the US. Where should I go and why?", "post": "Currently, I'm living in the Midwest. I just finished up my Bachelor's in '11 and want to get out. I've spent the last 6 months working for the state Department of Health and Human Services, gaining experience I can take elsewhere. I feel like the world is way too big for me not to get out and experience at least one small percent of it before I end up settling down.\n\nI feel that my with my degree and experience I can find a job about anywhere because social work has a very high turn over rate and are always hiring. So now I just need a location.", "summary": "Have degree, will travel."}
{"id": "t3_2ul6ms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [f21] boyfriend [m21] is going to therapy for issues he has resulting from a chronic kidney disorder, how can I support him during that time?", "post": "My [f21] boyfriend [m21] is going to be going to therapy soon for a lot of anxiety and depression brought on by a chronic kidney disorder he has been dealing with for years now.\n\nWe have decided to revert back to a dating kind of lifestyle together where we see each other a limited amount, and only to go to eat somewhere or go to the movies, etc. basically only on dates....so no sleeping over or hanging around apartments for extended amounts of time.\n\nWe will continue to keep in contact like we normally do whenever we are apart.\nWe go to the same university so we are never too far from each other if we need one another.\n\nWe felt it's best to have space so he can focus on himself and getting better. \n\nI understand that finding the right therapist, as well as therapy itself is a long process, and that there is a chance it could get worse before it gets better for him.\n\nAll I ask is how can I help support him through this process while maintaining my own happiness and helping him stay positive about his experience with therapy once he goes?", "summary": "boyfriend is going to therapy. how can I help support him through this process while maintaining my own happiness and helping him stay positive about his experience with therapy once he goes?"}
{"id": "t3_446rk4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] have a crush on a librarian [30ishM] and I'm not sure how - or if - I should pursue it.", "post": "I'm at my local library a lot, for the obvious reasons - mountains of books and a peaceful place to study. There's a reference librarian who works there, and I've had the massive hots for him since day one. He ticks a lot of boxes for me - tallish, sandy-haired, soft-spoken, well-dressed, good-looking in a flawed, accessible way. Plus, you know, he's a librarian, which is sexy. I also know from his staff bio on the library's website that he got his master's in the same town I lived in a few years ago, and the I'm tickled by the fact that we both lived there and ended up here, halfway across the country.\n\nThere are two problems here:\n\n1. I'm usually not good at cold approaches. I have a reasonable amount confidence in my ability to talk to strangers comfortably/engagingly, but I'm also introverted and neurotic and often don't have any idea how to go from Interest to Interaction. If someone strikes up a conversation with me I'm usually game, and if I can find a good excuse to chat someone up I'll sometimes go ahead and do it. I'm just a little stuck in this particular situation. Partly because ...\n\n2. I'm hesitant to approach people while they're on the clock. I've worked my fair share of jobs in which I was required to interact with the public, and I always hated it when a customer would try to pitch woo at me - the pressure to be polite is enormous, even if you're cringing inside. I'm not saying I'm gonna start pelvic thrusting at this guy while he's trapped behind his desk until he starts crying; I'd just like to talk to him a bit while also being sensitive to the fact that he might not welcome flirty interaction while he's working.\n\nPeople who are wiser and more well-adjusted than I, please advise. Should I even bother? If so, how should I go about it?", "summary": "I have a thing for an employee at my local library but I'm not great at approaching and a little iffy about coming on to people while they're working. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_4raxys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "should I (23 f) break up with my bf (25 m)?", "post": "I (23/f) have been dating my boyfriend (25/m) for a little over 4 months now. He's great and we get along really well but lately I've been developing strong feelings for someone that I don't really know that well, and I can't stop thinking about him. The thing is I get happier when I get a text or notification from this guy than my boyfriend.  \nI hate feeling like this because I know the second guy will never be interested in me and I have a guy who loves me and wants to be with me yet I can't seem to get over my crush. I don't know what to do... Should I break up with my bf? I'm really confused and I don't want to lead him on or anything like that. Is it weird that I don't feel like i'm in love with him yet? Help!", "summary": "bf for 4 months, huge crush on someone else, don't know if I should break up with him."}
{"id": "t3_2wu385", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not watching where im walking", "post": "This happened to me like 20 minutes.\n\nSo today was the first day of tafe. i honestly was expecting a terrible day ( because i left yr 12 to attend), but my expectations were exceded. There were only 3 other students in the class and there was a pair of good friends making the feel of the classroom bubbly and fun to be in. I had a good time so i whipped out my phone and music and started my way back to the train station. As i was really happy what had happened today i wasnt looking at the path i was walking on and this is where i TIFU.\n\nmy foot encountered a slimy surface as it walked over it. curious as i was i looked behind me... and there is was a huge piece of shit smeared over 30 cms long. i thought it mustve been like that. i look at the bottom of my shoe and it went from a black surface to a complete brown colour. so i spend about 3 minutes trying rub my shoe in te grass but the genius i was it sunk into the cracks of my shoe. best part was if i wasnt trying to clean it i wouldnt have mossed my train and now i have to wait 20mins...", "summary": "watch where you're walking or suffer a shit smeared shoe while riding in a enclosed moving coffin moving at 50-60 km/h and stinking up the carriage"}
{"id": "t3_4kdvfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] bf is handsy at night and keeps me [24F] awake", "post": "Good morning, everyone. I'm very tired.\n\nMy boyfriend and I don't live together, but we have been dating for 4 years. 2 years of that was long distance. When we're awake, he is very affectionate and kind. He likes to hold me, and kiss me and be close. We often spend Sundays cuddled on the couch, watching movies/youtube videos. I like his affection a lot.\n\nAt night though... he often wakes me up by grabbing my tits and ass. Often times, I'll wake up to him grinding his hard dick against me, either my hip or my ass. Sometimes, it is actually painful. Sometimes he'll have this junk out of his boxers. Sometimes he'll put my hand on his junk. A lot of the time, precum gets all over my sheets, comforter, and my clothes. This doesn't happen every night, but it happens more often than not. I don't think the issue is that we're not having enough sex. He's usually at my place from Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon, and we'll have sex anywhere from 3-5 times, *plus I'll give him 2-3 blow jobs.*\n\nI've talked to him about this, about how sometimes he hurts me while he's grinding against me. How it wakes me up, and really messes with my sleep schedule. I get very little sleep usually, due to my stressful job. I average at about 5-4 hours, and use the weekends to try to catch up. Him waking me up really cuts back on my weekend sleep. He always seems to contrite and sad when I bring it up, he apologizes and then tries to make it up to me... but then it happens again. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Boyfriend keeps waking me in the middle of the night by grinding his hard dick on me. I've talked to him about it, but it keeps happening. Help."}
{"id": "t3_54y8bn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] & I [20M] have been together for 3 years & have never really dated other people. Should we?", "post": "Background: GF & I were each other's first serious relationship & have been together for more than 3 years now. We're both super young to have been in a relationship for so long, but when we met, we clicked really well (& still do!). Our relationship even survived the transition from going to the same high school to different colleges. We're still very much within driving distance though, which helps a lot. We absolutely love each other & are each other's best friend. \n\nGF mentioned to me recently that we should both probably see other people, just to make sure that we've gone on dates with people beside each other. We've kind of progressed from joking about marriage to actually talking about it as a serious option, but neither of us want to go into that with any doubt in our mind. So, I told her how I felt that trying other people out was definitely a good idea for the long run, but that I was also scared. She reassured me that she loves me & that nothing was going to happen & that this is just to make sure that we're right for each other, since we've got practically nothing to compare each other to. I completely believe her & trust her, but I'm terrified of the possibility that we may each come to a different conclusion. At the same time, I am also intrigued by the possibility of dating someone with different interests & experiencing that. \n\nBasically, &", "summary": "how do I rationalize how I want to feel (trusting & supportive of this idea, because it seems like the right thing to do) with how I actually feel (jealous, insecure, terrified). "}
{"id": "t3_gmrsr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help. My parent's marriage may be in jeopardy.", "post": "Throw away account for obvious reasons.\n\nWell first of all I'm a high schooler in 10th grade. 16 years old. My parents have been married for over 20 years. everything looked fine and dandy until about 6 months ago.\n\nI was at my dad's work place (he owns a small business where he teaches defensive driving, takes over of packaging, notary, money order, etc.). I was bored in his office and i clicked on a link and i accidentally x'd it out. so i went to the history so i can reopen it, but i came across a shit load of dating websites, and he's been getting on those for the past month of so. I was totally shocked, but i shook it off, since it was happening at work, and i have no idea what goes on over there.\n\nHowever, today i was doing my english project, and the exact same thing happened. I closed a link, went to my history and opened it, and i saw dating websites again. I was totally shocked, but i am also now convinced that it is definitely him and not anybody else since the date and time on those websites were when he was on the computer last night.\n\ni have no idea how to deal with this situation reddit. \nshould i confront him about this? should i just shake it off and hope for the best? i really need some help guys.", "summary": "i saw a lot of dating websites on the history on the computers my dad has been using."}
{"id": "t3_wfcz0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Ex-Husband Wants Me Back After I Have Found Another Man; Is He Genuine or No?", "post": "My Ex-Husband, whom is also a redditor as is my new boyfriend hence the new and anon-account, has been alluding to wanting to come back to our home. \n\nBack story; We have three children together, I own the house and he moved out after moving in with his GF in a messed up poly-experiment gone wrong. He told me that he was moving out via a phone call on his lunch break. He just stopped coming home except for the weekends when used the house to see the children until he got his own house. \n\nI am now un-employed and living on FS and CS (woo being a housewife and having your husband leave!) New boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and he moved in about a month ago. He is successful and now off of FS, yay! \n\nEx-husband sends random IM about a month ago lamenting about how if he came back he'd have to leave his GF. I said yeah that would be a requirement and some other snarky comments about how he'd have to be a real man and husband not a weekend father. I was obviously mad and we aren't exactly best friends any more even though we were together for 10 years and were prior to him leaving out of the blue. \n\nThen he asked me last week when I dropped off the kiddos he invited me in for dinner in front of the kids. I politely declined but that was awkward. \n\nThen I got a message from a friend, used to be mutual, and one of his co-workers saying he has been asking about me and wants to know if he should move back in with his family. \n\nI am so conflicted. I feel like I should and I am saying no for the right reasons but I don't know if it is the right decision.", "summary": "Ex-husband seems to be trying to get back in to my house and life. I have a new BF, WTF am I to do?"}
{"id": "t3_13dltq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (20M) leaves me to go drinking with his friends every Friday and Saturday night.", "post": "My (20F) boyfriend (20M) goes out every time his buddies plan a night out, which is almost every Friday and Saturday night. I would join him but I'm currently in med school and most weekends I can't afford to stay up late drinking because I have work to do the next day. I obviously want him to go out and have fun even on nights when I can't and I encourage him to, but sometimes it feels as though the only weekend nights he will plan something with me is when his buddies haven't already planned anything. Like this weekend for example, he went out last night and I had wanted to do something the two of us tonight (Saturday) but his buddies were going out again so he went with them. We don't live together and we've been dating for two years now. Is it unreasonable for me to ask him to miss a few of his many nights out with his friends to do something with me. I feel like I am being mistreated and taken for granted when he does this, is it ok that he does this or am I being crazy?", "summary": "My boyfriend goes out most Friday and Saturday nights and leaves me alone at my apartment, when I'd like a night out or in with him. I can't join him because I'm currently going through med school and am super busy. Is this ok or am I being mistreated?"}
{"id": "t3_wnwo5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If your apartment's management sells your building, are they required to give proper notice of transfer of lease?", "post": "My building got sold and all they gave notice is a note pinned to our door giving directions to start sending payment to them. I did not want to pay out any money until I got some sort of proof that they own the building; not unreasonable right? Well they finally have after about 2 and a half months but they are demanding I pay the late fees that have accrued during that time, roughly 5 dollars a day(5 a day plus 25 once a month), which adds up to be 250 dollars. My argument is that I will not just give out money to whoever pins a note on my door claiming to be the owner. I have tried contacting them several times and they did not get back to me properly. They finally dropped off the paperwork when the owner who lives in another state came to check out the building.  \nMore info:  \nThis is in Kansas  \nI hope this is an appropriate question for AskReddit if not please assist me in where I should point this towards.", "summary": "I believe my new management handled the transfer of ownership poorly and they are trying to get me to pay late fees during a time I had no proof they owned the building."}
{"id": "t3_22fqk0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] get sick of a distance relationship with my girlfriend [16F]", "post": "Alright so for those who don't know what a distance relationship it is simply a relation with a distance like the name say. Needless you can't see your significant other everyday or like you want to see her.\n\nAnyway, I'm getting sick of a relation like that. At first I was like \"It's okay. I'll see her pretty often. (About once every two weeks)\" but after 6 months of a relation like that I feel like I can't go on live like that.\n\nI feel like I always waiting something, like I'm not here for her as often as I want. But I feel like I'm trapped. And I feel like she will forget me.\n\nWhen I see her I fell like I'm in heaven yeah but when I'm living I always feel like I did nothing with her. Like these days never existed.\nI don't want to tell her about it, because I'm scared of her reaction and I don't want to lose her, I really love her\n\nI don't know how to deal with it. I feel like it's a stupid thing to be worry about, so I just wanted some advice for not crush this out.", "summary": "I'm getting sick and trapped about my distance relationship"}
{"id": "t3_297ba6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [ 27M] wife [26 F] of 3 years just moved out.", "post": "It all started because we argued about a tablecloth and the dimensions. Seriously, i know its stupid but it spiraled out from there to questions of infidelity on her part, controlling/smothering on my part til a day ago we went to the therapist. Everything seemed to go fine but as we lay down to bed she tells me she doesn't want to work on it anymore. So I go to the couch, she texts me in the morning we argue some more, I get rather angry say some hurtful things and she leaves. I feel I don't know where to go from here. I have no family, no friends anymore I am alone in our apartment I am going insane.", "summary": "I fucked up my marriage over a tablecloth and my own trust issues."}
{"id": "t3_11vohs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to handle someone fucking you over [20m]", "post": "Ages: 20. Length of \"friendship\": 2 months\nBasically, a friend from school fucked me over by not replying my texts. I was therefore unable to find out when the study group they had was, and now I'm much less prepared for my test than I would've been otherwise.\nI see this as a huge sign of disrespect. Like: \"oh whatever, he can figure it out on his own...I don't care to help him\". He did something similar before.\nIn the past I've been direct about things like this, but I find it doesn't work. They end justifying with some excuse \"oh i didnt see your text, I was studying\" and then you look like childish for being angry. And they know exactly why you're holding a grudge.\nHow do I put this guy in his place? Do I fuck him over? Ignore him? Start to make fun of him?\nCall me power-hungry, I don't care. But I'm not going to be treated like I'm below anybody", "summary": "Buddy fucked me over and I want to get even"}
{"id": "t3_3658y2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my friend/coworker [38 M] I'm interested, should I ask him out? Or will the age difference be a problem?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships!\n\nI have a coworker and friend that I'm developing feelings for. I'm considering asking him out to dinner or to hang out 1:1 but am generally concerned with the age difference. He may not even be interested ultimately, but I still want to think about this before I even really consider pursuing him.\n\nFirst off, we don't work very closely together. It's a large company, and are just starting to develop a stronger friendship as part of a small group.\n\nI'm concerned with our age difference(~14 years). I know everyone has their own beliefs, but I'm hoping you guys can help me see a perspective I might be missing. For context, we are at roughly the same place in our life- especially career wise. He was oversees for many years working as a missionary so he is a little behind, but still doing pretty well for himself. I, on the other hand, am slightly ahead of the game for a 23(almost 24) year old. We are both down-to-earth, level headed, and mature. He just has a great head on his shoulders, but still has tons of youthfulness and passion for life. \n\nPart of me says the age difference doesn't matter because of what I list above, but another part of me says there's got to be some kind of negative to dating someone much older. HELP!", "summary": "Want to ask out a coworker/friend, but am concerned about our 14 year age difference. Will it really be an issue, or am I over-thinking this?"}
{"id": "t3_2ayqfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22f] boyfriend[22m] thought I broke up with him and he didn't care...", "post": "Last night, there was an argument. I could have handle it better, but I'm depressed and contemplating life and just got fed up with being ignored.  \n\nI told him that \"I am done with this.\" I meant fighting and dealing with him making me feel like a bad person. He said fine and then asked if I was going to call my family. I asked him why would I do that and he said because I had dumped him. I clarified myself and he just said oh and turned back to his game. \n\nToday, he is ignoring me and I'm fed up with this stupid game of his. I just want him to start caring. We've been together a year and the last few months he has seemed so uncaring about me.", "summary": "boyfriend thought I broke up with him and he didn't seem to care."}
{"id": "t3_29cw9s", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Not sure if this is the best place to post, but I'm wondering if a signed copy of My Side of the Mountain exists. Needing for a gift.", "post": "I am marrying my incredible fianc\u00e9 this September, and one of our geekier moments of early bonding was over our shared love of Jean Craighead George's book, My Side of the Mountain. I'm hoping to find a signed copy of this book to give to him on the morning of our wedding day. Either that or, work it into our family wedding vows with his 8yo daughter. We're becoming an insta-family, because he's a single dad and I'm becoming 'mom' -- which makes my heart happy. We're a pretty close little unit, and once we explained what vows were, she decided she wanted to help write them. And so, in true 8yo girl fashion, reading every night is something she's asking for in our family vows. I'm thinking this would be a really meaningful gift and moment.", "summary": "Looking for gift for financ\u00e9 and soon-to-be-step-daughter, potentially for family wedding vow; needing help locating signed copy of book we bonded over -- My Side of the Mountain by Jean Craighead George. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_l2vyx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you still need friends?", "post": "5 months shy of my 17th birthday, I met a senior at a party (a nerd gathering, to be honest) and we started chatting. We clicked. We had similar interests, but that didn't mean much--everyone at the party did, and I didn't get along with most of the people there. However, we had compatible worldviews; we didn't see things the same way, but we saw things similar enough to have interesting conversations. We quickly became friends; I hung out with him almost every day, but certainly 2 or 3 times a week. We quickly became best friends, and confided in each other about a lot--my losing my virginity, him worrying about getting an STD from his girlfriend, who got it from the 62 year old man she'd dated before him, our career plans, our understanding of the universe, etc. etc.\n\nAbout ten years later, I was the best man at his wedding in Hawaii. I even wore the fucking horribly uncomfortable shoes and stood in a hideous tux for hours while his parents took pictures. I did it because he was like a brother to me.\n\nWe're still friends, even if we live thousands of miles away. We still keep in touch, and I visit him every once in a while. However, I simply haven't made friends like him since. I've met people and gotten close to them, and I have really clicked with some of them. But I just don't feel that close personal connection that I used to, and I don't feel a need to connect with people like I used to.\n\nI don't know; maybe it's the internet. Maybe I'm just getting old. I'm happy with my wife and meeting people casually as I go through life. I just don't feel the need to have \"friends\" anymore.", "summary": "31, still have best friend from high school, don't care about making close friendships anymore. Am I the only person like this?"}
{"id": "t3_19k5sc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to do I find a relationship that moves at the right pace?", "post": "I'm a 21f and seem only to be able to have only two kinds of \"dates\".\n\n1.) Platonic Dates\n\nI'll arrange a coffee date or what have you, and it will feel entirely platonic. No flirting at all on his part or mine. Same happens in the dinner. Usually these are guys that I've known as friends before they ask me out. Three or four dates will go by without any kind of sexual move on their part. Then they'll try and pull a move like asking how I feel about them \"emotionally\" or going in for a kiss in a random public place after no development of chemistry. \n \n\nor \n\n2.) Come On Waaay Too Strong To Soon\n\nThe other case I'll meet a cute, smart guy and we'll hit it off with decent to good chemistry. By the second date or so we'll head back to his place. We'll mess around a little bit, and then suddenly they'll get very serious emotionally. Do you like me? I like you a lot. Can we hang out tomorrow, and the day after? Then when I say I'm not sure how I feel yet -- we've really just met -- they'll get passive agressive. \n\nHow do I get the medium between the two? I don't have anything /against/ initiating, but it's turn off for me personally as I prefer a guy who's confident enough to make a move. I just want to meet a guy who wants to get to know me at a person and a woman at a thoughtful pace.", "summary": "How do I get a relationship that moves at just the right speed for me?"}
{"id": "t3_4ruzug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sibling abandoned son - torn family member needs advice", "post": "My 25 year old brother has decided to abandon his 1 year old son for reasons I cannot comprehend or support. The baby has done nothing wrong, but my brother does not wish to be in his life any more - it breaks my heart. I have been pretty consistent in the boy's life because I believe it takes a tribe to help raise a child to be a loving, trusting, and kind person that has a shot at a good life. There is a natural tension in this as sometimes I wonder if I am doing the right thing - could I potentially be causing him more harm long term by creating confusion? If he ever realizes that I am involved, but his dad did not want to - would that hurt him? \n\nAll I want is to do right by this little guy and I would absolutely step out of his life if my involvement could cause harm or confusion. \n\nI would love to get thoughts from people who have been in similar situations with a family member, or if you yourself have been abandoned by a parent. Was it more harm than good to have other family members involved? I ask for input so I can broaden my perspective on this. Thank you for your insight! <3", "summary": "! Looking for input from people who have been through something similar!"}
{"id": "t3_dczch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for someone that owns a kindle.", "post": "So one of my clients is having me make an ebook for for them the epub for nook and ibooks looks great. but formatting for kindle really sucks. I can not seem to get chapters to start on a new page. From what i have seen this can not be done on a kindle and it seems like the .mobi format really sucks. \n\nWhat i would like is for someone with a kindle to take some pictures of a book novel would be best  book cover, starting chapter 1  and a couple pages and chapter 2 just to see how it looks.", "summary": "take some pics of your kindle before and after each chapter in a novel. TY"}
{"id": "t3_31rwhr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 years broke up a week ago. Can I text her?", "post": "My ex and I were high school sweethearts and dated all through university. She's the best friend I have ever had so i want to reddit's opinion on my texting her to see how she is doing. Our breakup was a mutual agreement that it is really hard to handle such a heavy relationship at our age, especially when we can't remember what life is like without each other. I have never been without her in my adult life. We have broken up a few times over the years, usually over the same reason we broke up this time. Despite all of our problems, she is family to me more than anyone else in the world. I'm not looking to get back together with her because i know that we aren't going to work out and love can't conquer all boundaries but can I maintain contact with her? or am I doomed to spiral out in a cycle of breaking/getting back together forever if i keep contact?", "summary": "My girlfriend/best friend of 6 years and I broke up. Can i keep contact/maintain our friendship without getting sucked back in to a relationship or getting hurt?"}
{"id": "t3_j6dfb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Don't care what anyone says, I just saw a motherfuckin' UFO in Outer Banks, NC.", "post": "I'm in the Outer Banks NC on a vacation currently (12AM) and if anyone had just witnessed what i just saw you would be afraid forever. Looking off the balcony of the beach house about 500 yards out my two cousins, uncle, and myself all saw the same object in the sky that looked like a glowing ball of fire but quickly disappeared. Seconds after it came back but in two, what looked like, balls of fire this time even brighter and at different altitudes, then quickly disappeared. Finally after the two sightings seconds later there was one last sighting of \"the fire\" in the sky. This time it was a streak of \"fire\" that lit up brighter than both two previous times. The reflection it gave off on the water was unlike anything I have ever seen in my life.   \n\nHas anyone ever heard of anything or seen anything like this?? If anyone has seen something like this please let me know, or if you have an explanation to this non-sense please do not hesitate to explain.", "summary": "Saw balls of fire in the sky over the ocean of the OBX NC"}
{"id": "t3_qivov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any of you ever received a call like this ?", "post": "This past Saturday while I out somebody phoned to ask how many computers we had in the house, I was not at home so my stepfather answered the call.\n\nFrom what he can remember she spoke in with a american accent and said she was calling from the united states, according to my step father when ever he asked her where she got the number she would just repeat the question \" Sir could you please inform me as to how many computers are in the household \" He eventually just hung up the phone. \n\nI would write this all off as a marketing call but the thing is I stay in South Africa and almost nobody has this number, nor have I ever given it out to anybody but family and close friends. \n\nAny clue as to what the hell that was all about, have any of you gotten the same call ? \n\nAny feedback or feelings on this would be appreciated.", "summary": "Somebody called the home phone asking how many computers we have, am I about to get V&?"}
{"id": "t3_4n6h8h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Age old question...Does she like me?", "post": "Hey guys, I know this is is probably the oldest question in the book but to be honest I'm usually quite good at getting a read on people but this one isn't so easy.\n\nI [M/20] Bumped into this girl [F/20] I knew from a school (kinda drunk) suggested we meet for a chat sometime, eventually It happened conveniently when she had recently split with her boyfriend, we met up a few times, over the last few weeks had typical 'dates' and it all went so well. I was sure that she liked me.\n\nNow this may have been my error but I basically didn't beat around the bush after about 3 dates I asked her if she thought this would be a thing. She said that she just thought this was two friends hanging out, and didn't even give a relationship a thought. I said okay that's fine but I just wanted to let her know that if it were to get more serious then I'd be fine with that but equally I cherish this rekindled friendship (she hadn't long split from a 2 year relationship) and she said that we're good being friends.\n\nSince then we've met up a few times and it seems to be taking the form of dates again, I wouldn't call it 'just hanging out' and the way we chat has followed the pattern of every single girl I've ever dated and not at all like my female friends. \n\nAm I in the friend zone? Is she being coy about her feelings? How do I proceed?", "summary": "Went on date with girl, she said 'just friends' but dates keep happening and it feels more serious"}
{"id": "t3_3mk03g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to homecoming", "post": "Happened few hours ago. Friend coerced me into going after I told her and another friend I wouldn't go repeatedly. Decided to go. Ended up spending most of the night wishing I hadn't gone. One friend ditched me because he wanted to go get someone to grind on him(no way in hell would it happen) and I am not about that. I don't really feel like having chicks I barely know rubbing up all over me. The other friend that I mostly went because of I barely saw and when I did it was to dance. Yeah dancing is terrible. Ended up getting vented to by a kid who's date left him for her boyfriend when they showed up. Pretty shitty night. Doesn't help when you have severe social anxiety and shut down in large social groups. I don't know, kind of just venting at this point.", "summary": "Went to homecoming because of a couple of friends, one abandoned me for lust, other one I didn't see all night. Ended up having kid cry about his date to me."}
{"id": "t3_2nadlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it time to call it quits with [24/f] my boyfriend [26/m]?", "post": "My boyfriend [26/m] & I [24/f] have known each other for 3 years & have been dating for the last 14 months. As in every relationship, we've had our ups & downs. But right now is an extreme down for me.\n\nI had learned a few days ago from a mutual acquaintance that my relationship may not be all that I had hoped. It has been brought to my attention that my boyfriend has his doubts (& rightfully so, he's certainly entitled to feel that way) about me being \"the one\" & though he loves me, feels like I'm more of a best friend. As if this wasn't enough to question, my boyfriend also thinks that his most recent ex was \"the one\".\n\nNow, let me preface by saying I'm not sure if I believe there is ONE person on this entire big blue earth that is compatible with another human being. I lean more towards thinking there are several \"ones\".\n\nAs to be expected, we did talk about a lot of these things. He said he loves me & wants to be with me but that his feelings aren't to that next level. To me, this is a fairly reasonable doubt to have because we are getting to the age where these are things to consider & I certainly question a lot of things myself. But, he also admitted that deep down he may still have feelings for his ex even though he knows that she's no good for him & he doesn't want to pursue relations with her (though I'm not 100% convinced). That's the part I'm having the most difficult time wrapping my head around. Though I'm CLEARLY not ready to take the next step with my boyfriend, I certainly don't have feelings for anyone else.\n\nI suppose what I'm asking is this: has anyone been in a similar situation, whether it be in my position or my boyfriends? Am I just being a big idiot?", "summary": "My boyfriend is still hung up on his ex. Do I stay or go?"}
{"id": "t3_mx5be", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bisexual GF can't let women go", "post": "Background\nI am a 23 year old male dating a 23 year old female. It's been about a year. We've dropped the L-bomb which was a big deal for both of us. Our sex life is amazing, we like to experiment ;). I've known this girl since high school. She is an amazing person would never do anything to hurt anyone on purpose.\n\nIssue\nShe wants to hook up with girls on the side. I don't know if I'm down with that. I feel like if I say no she will resent me. Just the fact that she wants to be with someone else and not me kills me inside. Am I being selfish? Is she being selfish? Any bisexuals been through anything similar? I also feel like this is a dark path to go down if girls are ok why not guys? It's the only issue we've ever had but it is becoming a big one.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to hook up with girls on the side (sounds sexy, but makes me feel replaceable)"}
{"id": "t3_oumq6", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Pulling leash \"heel\" problem", "post": "I know this question has been asked before, but I doubt people will be replying in threads that are 2 years old.\n\nI have a springer spaniel pup (about 10 months old).\n\nI've read a bit about dog's pulling on leash problems and I've gathered that if the dog pulls, stop, and the 'heel' command and wait for him to get by your side before praising and continuing to move.\n\nMy problem is that my dog just won't listen to me when we're outside, or on the leash at all for that matter. He's normally a pretty obedient dog inside and can do a good number of tricks like lie down, play dead, crawl, catch and the other basics. But when we're outside, he just won't listen to me, he pretends I don't exsist. When he pulls i say \"heel\" and wait for him to come by my side, gently tugging if he won't respond at all, then praise him when he's by my side again, the problem is the dog just sits ahead of me whilst keeping the tension on the leash. How do I actually get him to come back and sit at my side. I'm guessing most people won't approve of yanking the dog back to your side? Any tips for actually teaching the heel command? Oh and toys and treats won't work outside, he just doesn't seem to care about them anymore as soon as he steps outside.\n\nI should admit that this is only my 2nd/ or 3rd time trying this and i know that it takes patience, but I was just wandering if you guys had any tips?", "summary": "Trying \"heel\" method when walking dog to get him to stop pulling on leash, won't come back by my side with heel command, toys and treats won't work outside, any tips to get his attention?"}
{"id": "t3_1rzcuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (21M) console my LD girlfriend (19F) After she has a particularly bad day?", "post": "I love my girlfriend and our relationship is very strong and healthy. We've been dating for nearly 2 years and have encountered most normal couples' ups and downs. Occasionally though, one of us will have a problem such as failing an important test, having a nasty fight with a friend, etc. As her boyfriend and partner, I always want to make her happy. But when things go south for her I feel so powerless to help her from so far away. It's incredibly frustrating that the only thing I can really do is say \"keep your hopes up, sweetie :) \" or something of the like. What could I say or do that would be more effective?", "summary": "Want make girlfriend not sad. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_1v46jm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/M] struggling to deal with a mutual friend [22/M] of my ex [21/F]", "post": "Should use a throwaway...\n\nThe short story is this. I had a three and a half year relationship with my ex of staggering intensity. It didn't end well, and she broke my heart.\n\nI hung out with this mutual friend, to try and deal with some of the pain. It was good at first. We'll call him Steve. Steve never mentioned my ex, unless I initiated the conversation. He was good at giving me back my confidence. \n\nBut he also used to say some nasty things about her.\n\nSteve has a drinking problem. He has alot of his own insecurities and I had to deal with both of these over the last 4 years. \n\nI started inviting Steve to one of my favourite bars, where musos get up and jam, and I get to play. Its honestly been one of the best things for me. This happens once a week, and I make sure to go and hang out with all my muso buddies.\n\nAfter a couple of weeks, Steve gets blind drunk one night. I'm giving him another lift home...and out of nowhere he says to me.\n\n\"X is a bitch. You know what she said to me? She said the best fuck she's had in the last couple of months...she can't even remember his name\".\n\nThis was pretty devestating to hear, and I told Steve to get out of my car. I haven't been as close to hitting someone as I was that night.\n\nI told him to get out of my life. I cut off contact from him. I berated my ex for telling Steve this sort of shit...knowing it would likely come out thanks to his drunken antics.\n\nHere's the problem:\n\nHe has started showing up to the bar for the jam. \n\nWhat do I do? I love this place and I have so many friends there, but everytime I see this guy, all the emotions that have plagued me since the breakup flood back.", "summary": "An ex-friend says something pretty horrible, I cut ties, but he keeps coming to a venue that I love and visit with my muso friends. I want to cut him out of my life, but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3gdg9m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to cheer up a friend after her apartment caught fire.", "post": "TIFU by trying to cheer up a friend after her apartment caught fire. Mandatory \"this wasn't today but a few years ago\"\n\nA good friend of mine's apartment had caught fire and they had lost most of their stuff and the apartment wasn't ever going to be livable again. So needless to say she was very upset and she already has depression as it is. So being the \"good\" friend I am I set to cheering her up as best I can. I realize there's only so much you can do for someone who just lost everything so we talk and I let her know I'm going to send her and her fiance some money to help them. I also think about how I can entertain her and distract her, even if just for a few minutes, from her situation. \n\nHere's the FU - I had just played through Portal 2 and there is a character named Cave Johnson. I thought him hilarious, and he has one particular rant about \"when life gives you lemons\" and I thought it quite fitting. So I pulled up a link to [Cave Johnson's Lemon speech] and sent it to her and began to watch it myself. At about 25 seconds ( she had started just about 5 seconds behind me) I remember what is coming next, Cave Johnson shouting \"I'M GONNA BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN!!\", and try my best to tell her \"WAIT WAIT PAUSE IT DON'T WATCH!\" too late... There was a long... looooong moment of silence. After which she teased me and called me a few names I won't mentioned here she began to laugh about the whole situation. We were on good terms still but I couldn't help but feeling like the worst kind of person in the world.", "summary": "Friend's apartment burnt down, rubbed salt in the wound by getting Cave Johnson tell her he was going to burn her house down with lemons."}
{"id": "t3_lnsj7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Trying to find motivation..", "post": "So for a few years now, I've been wanting (needing) to lose weight, be healthy, change my life, etc. The problem is, that I can't seem to find a reason good enough to keep me going and motivated, or to even begin trying again. It's stupid, I know.\n\nHere's a little info/ background:\nAge:19\nHeight:5'1\"\nWeight: 150lbs\nBackground: Fought/ still fighting a couple health issues (severe migraines, GERD, acid reflux, delayed gastric emptying, the idea of fibromyalgia came up too). Constantly stressed either with school or trying to find a summer job/ internship, and I'm constantly fatigued (no matter what I do sleep wise, nothing helps).\n\nI'm 100% sure that getting to a more healthy weight and doing something with myself will make me feel tons better in probably every aspect of my life: confidence, become outgoing, be able to worry about/ concentrate on what I need to get done, etc. But with all these issues and a wicked fantastic boyfriend, one would think I'd have some motivation/ inspiration to get me started/ keep me going. Like, I'm starting to think I need to be humiliated or forced into this somehow, but that might not be a good idea in reality.\n\nBasically I'm looking for any help/ advice/ ideas that might help me with anything. I want to change my life, so bad, but I can't get myself to do it for whatever stupid reason and I've been trying for a few years now. :/", "summary": "have what would seem like enough reason to give me some kind of motivation/ inspiration, but can't get myself to attempt this lifestyle change (again)."}
{"id": "t3_1jgad0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] with a girl [20F] hung out at Coney Island and stayed out till 2 am. Idk how she feels.", "post": "I used to live in NYC a couple years back but have moved around the past couple years but still visit NYC frequently to keep in touch with friends.\n\nSo this was Tuesday Night and I had plans set with this girl. We meet up on a local blvd in NYC and didnt have any plans. So I said we should go to Coney Island and she agreed to come with. We end up taking public transportation for 2 hrs to get to the destination.\n\nWe get to Coney Island and we look around, take pictures, and then we go on a couple rides. It's getting late the place starts to close so we grab something to eat before we go back to our town. We got food and I paid for this whole date while were eating she offers me to eat some of her food which sounded like she was comfortable with me.\n\nWe end up heading back towards the train station where I get stopped by a guy who is trying to make me win a stuffed animal for her, which I did. We end up leaving to go on the train around midnight and we dont get back in to town till 2 am. She calls her mom to pick her up at the subway stop and I ended up seeing someone I knew at 2 am in the morning stopping me from kissing the her at the end of the date. So instead we ended up giving each other a big hug. \n\nAt the end of the night we part ways, she texts me to get home safe and that she had a really good time. Its been a couple days and I text her as soon as I woke up today after not talking to her yesterday during my trip home. I told her Good morning and I missed her lots but haven't got a response.", "summary": "I knew this girl in high school, finally told her how I felt and she agreed to get to know each other more."}
{"id": "t3_gnhxy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Thinking of breaking up, need some advice", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been going out for over two years and we are both about to graduate college.  We both were able to find jobs (sigh of relief) but they are in different locations.  We are going to be about 100 miles apart.  Compared to other people, I know this sounds like nothing.  My problem is that I know I'm going to miss what we have right now and I don't think he is.  He considers being able to spend every night together and seeing each other everyday as a \"luxury\".  To me, this is a standard.  I think it's pretty normal for two people who are dating (and looking to get married one day) to spend every night together.  He acts as though he doesn't need me, and would be ok without me in his life.  This hurts, and I do not feel at all the same way.  We've had to do long distance over the summer, and he is not good at it.  He isn't a telephone conversation kind of guy, and when we try to skype, he's always playing games so I never have his attention.  I don't want to break up with him, but I feel like he doesn't appreciate me or our relationship.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I (2 years) will have to do long distance, he doesn't appreciate relationship, should i break up with him?"}
{"id": "t3_w5n12", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having some conflict in deciding what to do with my best friend.", "post": "I've known this girl, I myself am 20 and she is 19, for quite some time now and we became friends very quickly. I've only recently begun to develop feelings for her, but it's been quite obvious to me for some time that she has had and now shares those feelings. I've really been trying to hide my feelings though because she; however, is in what her family, friends, and I call a terrible relationship. \n\nShe no longer has any guy friends left because they were all scared off by this guy and she's trying her hardest to keep the fact that she's been talking to and hanging out with me on the regular a secret because she's afraid that he'll harass me or try and hurt me. \n\nHer sister and I are also starting to get concerned that the relationship  might become physically abusive. I would like to specify that at this point it is only to the, best of my and her families knowledge, a verbally argumentative relationship, but she's told me it's been getting worse recently. And they have been dating for 6 months.\n\nI've never really been one to ask for advice, but I don't know if I should continue being passive and deal with the problems as they come or if I should just put myself out there? I'm just afraid if I do that I'll risk pushing her away and losing someone I consider to be my best friend. \n\nThat's my conflict, I just want to know what you think and if I should do anything at all, I know this is a rather small bit of information to go on so any advice at all would be helpful.\n\nThanks", "summary": "Developed feelings for best friend who has feelings for me, she's in an unhappy relationship, should I remain passive or tell her how I feel and risk losing a best friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2my3zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 M] get over my bf's [23 M] past (mis)conducts?", "post": "We've been together for 17 months. It makes me very sad, and disappointed when I think about things he did in the past. Some examples are: \n\n1. Getting a lap dance at the strip club  \n2. Planning a whole weekend with a lady friend who's in town knowing she has feelings for him \n3. Not being over his ex and not willing to talk about it or make me feel secure that this isn't a problem (obviously, it is...)\n4. Complimenting other girls around me\n5. He doesn't try to help me finish, I feel sex is never about us - it ends when he's done mostly \n\nI could name a few more...but will refrain from.. \nWe have talked about these situations but they always end with him apologizing to solidify them, but not to assure me.\n\nI feel I deserve more and better. How do I healthily get over this if I want to continue the relationship?", "summary": "I'm still can't forgive my bf's for his past inconsiderate actions, how do I cope with this or is this not working?"}
{"id": "t3_1sve9o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Going to a concert with two friends, but another friend of mine wants to go with us but doesn't get along with the other two. What should I tell him?", "post": "I am a 17 year old male and my two friends, lets call them Sam and John, are also 17. We are planning to meet up before the concert at Sam's house and hang out before we go. Another friend of mine, David, already bought a ticket to the concert and doesn't want to go alone, so I told him he could join the three us. The only thing is that David doesn't get along with Sam or John and vice versa. After realizing it wasn't such a good idea to invite him, I told David that it might be a better idea to go with his girlfriend, but apparently she wants him to go with his friends. \nI want to avoid any awkward situations. Should I tell David that he really should just go with his girlfriend or find another group of friends?", "summary": "Going to a concert with two friends. I told another friend he could come with us because he had no one else to go with. My original two friends and him don't get along."}
{"id": "t3_4u8tqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19/F] with a guy I met [26/M] is now giving me the cold shoulder", "post": "Basically we met online and had a whole weekend planned (this weekend) but I started having second thoughts about everything being too soon. I was trying to discuss with him about this, and 2 messages back and forth, he threw a fit saying that I don't wanna talk about this anymore, and that he didn't want to come over anymore. \n\nI obviously got scared, and proceeded to ask him to come just cause of guilt, and he said he already gave his co-worker the weekend off. After that, he started saying nasty remarks (never seen him like this before) saying that he specified what he wanted in a girl and it wasn't someone like me. After a few shameful remarks regarding a sex talk (that we sort of flirted back and forth, and me being uncomfortable for the sex during a first time meetup?),said he was disgusted that I would even bring something like this up, but he was the one hyped over it. He even deleted me on everything after this.  He calmed down and said he'd like to organize for another weekend after many apologies from me. \n\nNow he's not really replying and not initiating any conversations even though he use to. He also told me that me constantly sending him text messages/messages is not helping my case at all, even though its just \"good morning, how are you, whatcha doing texts\" \n\nIt's almost as if he feels like he has control over me, and that everything has to go his way. he says hes really grumpy and exhausted, but I feel like I have the right to be mad too for him treating me like this.  He was saying how it's hard to get time off of work on weekends, but the weekends we talked he was always home or out doing errands nothing job related. \n\nWhat do I do about this? Should I drop him out of my life, or wait a little more for him to talk to me again?", "summary": "Guy threw a fit after I had second thoughts of meeting up, and now doesn't want to talk"}
{"id": "t3_3e6ru4", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "How long would it take to 'cure' sleep deprivation?", "post": "17/male/6'1/200 lbs/generally fit and healthy, no other medical complaints\n\nSo I'm currently in my last year at high school and hoping to get into medicine next year. With the amount of time I've dedicated to studying, as well as still upholding a decent social life, I've sacrificed a lot of sleep this year. The school year here in Australia runs from February to November, so since basically the start of this year, I havent been sleeping a decent amount at all. I'm talking around an average of 5-6 hours a night.\n\nFor most of the year, I handled pretty well and never really felt tired, but over the past month especially fatigue has really kicked in. I find myself getting drowsy throughout the whole day, I feel tired a lot of the time and I'm certain its not healthy. Ive been sleeping through my alarm a lot lately and taking more naps after school and what not. If I dont have anyone waking me up, I could sleep 11-12 hours a night before waking up naturally. \n\nFor the record, I dont have any sleeping disorders, and can generally sleep within 5 minutes of going to bed. I dont normally have any caffeine, but every now and then if Im really tired I'll grab an energy drink before school, or have a coffee if I'm up late studying.\n\nSo basically I have an extended study leave coming up, with around 2 months before my finals exams. What types of things could I do to set my sleeping right, and around how long would it take to stop feeling tired? Should I see a doctor?", "summary": "Sacrificing sleep for study in last year of school. Wondering what to do to stop feeling tired"}
{"id": "t3_15sx6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17M) have protective parents that are making it difficult for me to see my GF (17F) who lives 5 1/2 hours away. Advice?", "post": "This is my second ever actual SO, but I am in love with her, and she is with me. She lives with her grandparents and they are very supportive of our relationship. However, my parents feel I am too young for a real relationship, and know little about my feelings for her. I don't feel right about having her travel by train alone to my place, but both her and her folks believe it's worth it. My parents are fine with her coming here as long as they don't have to pick her up or be involved in any way, really; but they laugh at me when I ask if I could visit her for the day. I know they're just trying to protect me, and I know it's foolish of me to say that I can take care of myself, but this is the first girl I've ever truly loved, and I feel lost. How can I convince them to let me see her?", "summary": "parents keeping me from my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2vh0sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Relationship] Me/BF [21 M] with my GF [22 F] 4 months with my female clone and she doesn't know anymore.", "post": "(Throw away because she's a redditor and a power user, might not work but oh well. Also it's kinda long)\n\nMe and her met on an online dating site and talked for a week and finally decided to go out and have dinner at this pretty nice/new italian restaurant downtown. Had a great time and was the best time I ever had in over 4 years (crippling depression and what not.) In short, me and her we're the exact same in every way in terms of interests. It's weird as if life finally gave me a break and said \"Hey I'm sorry about that, here's an amazing, loving girl with your brain, sorry about the past!\"\n\nWe did so much together in these (almost) 4 months and fell madly in love with each other. It was like some sloppily written cliche riddled romance movie. We never argued or had problems it seemed. This is where I'm lost and that rant before this is why I'm disbelief on why this is even happening. \n\nAnyway, previous to this morning we talked and saw each other all the time constantly since the first date. Sent her a text when I woke up, 4 hours go by and I text her again. This time shortly after all she said in a long message that \"I need time to think\" and that she doesn't \"know anymore and need's time\". She's never talked like this and it's so random. Normally that's an obvious red flag but it's just so strange and sudden after what was perfect. It make's no sense. Have I been punk'd? I don't understand where this is coming from.  She never did anything or said anything wrong and neither did I (I think?).", "summary": "Attractive female replica of me and I fall for what I thought was crazy in love and then she randomly doesn't know about us anymore. Probably obvious but random"}
{"id": "t3_123h65", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got into a major university that I didn't apply for, should I accept it?", "post": "To give a little background, I just recently graduated from a small college on the East Coast. A few weeks ago, I got a letter from VCU notifying me that I need to turn in my transcripts in order to be considered for acceptance. I didn't think anything of it because I didn't apply. Got home from work today and got package in the mail from the same university letting me know I got accepted for the premed program. Not even close to being interested in it. It has all the paperwork you would get if you had gotten accepted from this university. \n\nI am contemplating on accepting it but calling and saying that I am not  interested in that specific program and if I can just switch to another. I've lived in that house for over 8 years so there is most certainly nobody else by that name lived there especially with the same middle name. I live in a pretty small neighborhood so there's nobody around me that would have the same name as me as well. It is addressed to my address as well.\n\nI just don't want to get in trouble for fraud or something.", "summary": "A major university sent me an acceptance package and I didn't even apply. Contemplating on accepting it but fearing consequences never being the same and going to jail."}
{"id": "t3_3dahtv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by browsing reddit.", "post": "This FU is interconnected in more ways than one. It was about a year ago around this time. I had been working at this place a month before she showed up. I remember the first time I bumped into her, she invited me in with a smile. Being clueless I walked away. But still she conversed with me. Fast forward from a few minor interactions. A month later the last time I saw her as I left I got one last look into her eyes and a she said bye. \n\nSo the lurker that I am on reddit I come across a post on the front page which is usually all I read.  I still work there. Throughout the year that I have not seen her, I manage to replay every situation and minor interaction in full detail from the day it occurred, to what I said, to what I was wearing. I learned certain things about her from these interactions which makes her just a click away thanks to social media. \n\nThe next day continuing to lurk another post appears.  Scrolling through I came across a comment made by a redditor that caught my attention. \"I told me crush how I felt about her. She told me that she felt the same way. Then I told her that's too bad, because I had no intention of cheating on my wife. She reluctantly agreed, and said that we should never talk about this to anyone ever again. I haven't spoken to her since. I think about her every day. It's been five years. Not a single regret. I suffer from obsessive thoughts, so I know it's not real. Outsiders won't understand.\"\n\nI hadn't realized before but my mind instantly made the connection I suffer from obsessive thoughts. Obsessive thoughts are the hallmark of obsessive compulsive disorder, but there are types of obsessive thoughts that are present in a variety of anxiety disorders. Both of which I deal with. \n\nThere are billions of people in the world but I can't manage to stop thinking about one. What stands out to me the most is its been five years for the other redditor. It's more than just about a female, its about who I am.", "summary": "TIFU by TIL I suffer from obsessive thoughts thanks to reddit."}
{"id": "t3_qqwsu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I used to have crazy hallucinations as a kid whenever I had a fever. Has this happened to you too? I'll start...", "post": "I was sick a lot as a kid. Everytime I had a moderate or high fever I would have the weirdest shit happen. One morning when I was about 10 years old and woke up after a few days with the flu this happened: \n\nI felt normal. My fever was gone. But as I started my morning routine, I could feel my temperature climbing again, really quickly. That's when it started. Suddenly, I started to feel like I was moving in fast motion. Flipping on a light switch just happened...faster. Turning my head happened...faster. Walking happened...faster. I started to freak. Parents were sleeping, didn't want to wake them. Ok..get a glass of water. Walked down the stairs...faster. I knew I was actually moving normally, but it just **felt** kind of like [this.] My head started to feel like it was buzzing. My whole body was buzzing. And I was still moving in fast forward!! I chugged a couple of big glasses of water and the feeling finally started to go away.\n\nAnyway, that's just one of many vague and unsettling fever-trips I had as a kid. \n\nAnother one involved a potted-plant in our living room. It had a big flower...I was convinced it was trying to eat me. I was 5. \n\nSomething like this ever happen to you?", "summary": "Younger me. Sick. Fever-induced acid-trips. You?"}
{"id": "t3_1lgs1u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tips on dealing with GF's Parents? (16M +16F) [8 months]", "post": "I know I'm only a teenager, but I'd still appreciate any advice.  How do you appeal to your girlfriend's parents?  I'm going over their house for dinner tonight and I'm pretty nervous.  Should I prepare conversations?  What should I talk about?\n\nI get ok grades but I'm not extraordinarily smart or anything.  I know her Dad is really into football but I have little-to-no interest in American football.  The only sports I follow are Tennis and Soccer and the only sports I participate in are Tennis and Crew (cross country if you count it).  I know I can be pretty reserved sometimes and I don't want to come off as a douchebag.\n\nTips?", "summary": "I'm nervous about formally meeting GF's parents. Any tips/suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_150o81", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [17m] have no clue what she [17f] thinks of me.", "post": "So basically I've know her all my life due to her sister being friends with my sisters. We go to different schools, but I invited her to my school ball, after this we seemed to have gotten to known each other more. \n\nSo basically this year we've been meeting up with each other a fair bit, I guess going on \"dates\". But me being me I haven't made a move because I'm a wuss (she did ask me why I didn't a few hours after we went out). Lately we haven't been meeting up or talking as much due school exams. She's extremely unreliable when it comes to organising things, so at times she's canceled on meet ups but then tried to reorganise another date. To make up for all the times she's canceled on me she organised to meet up with me in the morning and go out the whole day, so I said sure. On the morning she was supposed to meet up with me she texted saying she was hungover from the night before and couldn't meet up, she tried to reorganise but I told her not to bother. Few days later she messaged me saying she felt awful for being so unreliable and she wanted to make it up to me but she never did.\n\nAfter that she's been really distant, I would message her and she wouldn't reply or reply and then suddenly stop messaging back mid conversation. Then after a week or two she messaged me asking how I was, we talked for abit and then she stopped replying, I'm not sure if this is because I'm on holidays in the USA (phone is really dodgy with connection here) while she's back in Britain. To be honest I think she's just not interested but she keeps liking all my photos (of me on holidays) which is confusing the shit out of me. If she really wanted to talk she would message me over facebook? I don't really want to message her because it just feels like Im being needy. Should I just move on? I really really like her but I have no clue what to do.\n\nAny suggestions please? Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girl I really like is confusing me due to mixed signals and I have no clue what she thinks of me."}
{"id": "t3_1h5goo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25/F] struggling to trust after being dumped by [27/M] boyfriend of 8 years", "post": "In April, my boyfriend of eight years broke up with me telling me that the only reason he had stayed with me for the past year was because it was convenient to have me around since I cleaned, cooked, etc. and that he didn't want to get married (at that point, he was the person I was planning on the spending the rest of my life with). Since then he has been contacting me and saying he didn't mean it and he wants to get back together and get married. After hearing his original comments I've refused to go back to him and have no intention of doing so.\n\nHowever his comments really hurt me and I feel has damaged my ability to trust my friends and family. I'm the person who shows up to a party with fresh baked cookies, the person who pops up with soup when you're feeling ill, etc. I know in the back of my mind that my friends are my friends because they value me as me, but I'm afraid they see me as someone convenient and useful and not an actual proper friend. Since I wasn't able to pick up on my ex-boyfriend being unhappy for the past year (as far as he told me and I could tell, everything was wonderful until he broke up with me), I'm afraid I can't tell if other people are lying too.\n\nIt has made it difficult for me to open up and share with my friends and family and I hate myself for treating them all suspiciously. I was asked out on a date a few weeks ago and the guy is a complete sweetheart, but I'm still terrified. How can I conquer my fear and treat my friends, family, and potential significant others the way they should be treated?", "summary": "My ex-boyfriend said he was keeping me around because I was convenient and not because he loved me, this has stained my interactions with my friends and family."}
{"id": "t3_10cxes", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend(19) is considering having a guy as a roommate. I(19) am concerned she'll be tempted to cheat on me. How should I approach this?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years. We started dating senior year of high school and since then have had a colorful relationship. We're now at the same university but living in separate apartments. She has one roommate who a close friend but she's looking for a second. Today she told me she found one, however it would be a guy. This makes me extremely uncomfortable because she has left me for someone else once before and I feel given the opportunity she may do it again. I've told her politely that I was uncomfortable with the situation but she doesn't seem to care. How should I approach this if she goes through with it? Anyone have some advice?", "summary": "2 year girlfriend(19) looking for a second roommate and is considering a guy. I asked her to reconsider but she may still let him move in. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2lx13f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16] Is she playing hard to get and should I give up?", "post": "Well, I'm in High School and I have an interest in a girl that I want to get to know.\n\nThe problem is, today I talked to her and I was like shoot me your number, I want to get to know you better, and as a friend, but she was like why? I don't give out numbers to people, and I told her that I wanted to talk to her but she was like you can just talk to me at school right now. She was saying it not in a like go away but she was kinda laughing was she was saying it.\n\nThe problem is I don't really see her enough to talk to her so i asked for her number but she wouldn't give it to me.\n\nAnd I don't know why she won't give it to me, because this is kinda weird of me but I  made a new snapchat and added her and i was like hey your pretty can i  have your number so i can talk to you and she gave it, but idk why won't give it to me. I don't think that she's not a little interested because everytime we see each other we smile and say hi, and my friend saw her staring at me as I was walking by.\nShe just got out of a long relationship 2 months ago and she DOES know that I'm interested in her, and I've talked to her friends many times saying \"hook it up\" with her so yeah. What is your advice on what I should do?", "summary": "She knows I'm interested and sshe just got out of a long relationship 2 months ago. Everytime we see each other we smile and say hi, but when I asked for her number today she said she doesn't give out her number to people."}
{"id": "t3_1mna2o", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Approaching a girl.", "post": "Ok so I've wanted to talk to this girl that goes to my college for a while now. I see her a couple times a week but It's usually just walking around campus or in the cafeteria with her friends. I don't have any classes with her so I have no idea how to approach her. I'm extremely shy and have basically no confidence but I really want to talk to her.\n\nCan I get some advice on what I should do? I feel like randomly walking up to her would and introducing myself would be incredibly awkward. I'm usually passing her too, so I would have to turn around and talk to her which is pretty weird. \n\nI just want to introduce myself to her so she knows who I am and try to build from that but my whole problem is figuring out how to do that. As far as I know she's not in any clubs or anything but she does live in the same dorm as me on a different floor. So what do you guys think?", "summary": "I want to approach a girl at my school without it being awkward or weird but I don't kknow how."}
{"id": "t3_ameih", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, according to a doctor I went to \"a joint a day is worse than a pack a day\" is he right?", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI recently went to a doc (not my usual guy, but someone I've seen before) and I mentioned that I had been using marijuana to get rid of my headaches, and help relax myself after work (I really get stressed out easily)\n\nHe went on to say that he does not like it personally, but that he was going to give me a medical opinion as thats what I came for. He then proceeded to say \"A joint a day is worse than a pack a day\". He said the long term effects outway the short term fixes and that I should instead look to something more like a prescription pain med (IE: T3's).\n\nI'm fairly against taking pain meds as I feel they just don't seem natural, and really make me feel groggy in general. I have an appointment to see my actual doctor next week but I figured I should get some studying in first.\n\nI've read around in the past and found myself believing that marijuana really isn't bad for you, and the only thing it can (and does) cause is short term memory loss (although I haven't smoked in a few days and feel like I'm getting better at remembering things)\n\nSo, in short, can Reddit give me an unbias opinion on the short and long term effects of marijuana use? (please don't use things like \"YOUR DOCTOR IS AN IDIOT! LOL, HERE READ THIS!\").\n\nThanks in advance!", "summary": "Doctor said marijuana once a day is worse than a pack of cigarettes a day, suggests I use something more along the lines of a prescription pain medication. Need more info on short/long term marijuana effects without bias or douchism."}
{"id": "t3_y4cfo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Historians and Reddit detectives, can you help me figure out the mystery of the number on my Hungarian Great-Grandmother's arm?", "post": "I hope you can help me, Reddit detectives. My great grandmother Marika was born in 1903 just outside of Budapest, Hungary. In 1921, she came to the US via Ellis Island. Sometime between 1903 and 1921, she received a number on her arm. My mother likens it to the numbers received by people at Auschwitz, and she believes it was about 6 digits, and tattooed on her right forearm. It was quite large, perhaps four inches, and written in the elbow-to-wrist direction, as far as my mom remembers. The numbers were sloppy, again similar to those used during the Holocaust. \n\nUnfortunately that's all I know. My days of probing and inquiring came down to soldiers in the area got numbers for identification, but she was not any type of soldier or involved in the military. She refused to speak of the numbers even if asked directly, and no one had a clue where they came from.\n\nOther details: she worked on a farm her entire life, and was the oldest of eight, four born before immigrating to the US, no other siblings had a number. The family was not jewish - I know there is a history of jewish oppression in this region, but my family was Christian.  \n\nCan any historians or even Hungarians of Reddit help me out?", "summary": "Great-grandmother from Hungary had a number on her arm acquired in Hungary between 1903 and 1921 that she refused to talk about; can anyone help tell me where it came from?"}
{"id": "t3_365vpc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] can't seem to get rid of my ex-friends[20sM/F] from my life after my former suicide attempts", "post": "I can't seem to get rid of several people I've basically cut out from my life after an issue that's been ongoing for the past couple of years.I'm a junior in uni,\nand freshman and sophomore year I tried to kill myself after being with depression for the better part of my entire life. I failed with both attempts, and after\nthe second I basically gave up on the idea of killing myself so I just kinda live and go to school. \n\nWell, it's approaching the end of junior year and my ex-friends have been getting fairly intrusive in my life. I figured out why a couple of weeks ago, and I told them very plainly sent them a mass text that told them that I was\nfine and they needed to drop it. They ignored my wishes and kept trying to interact with me. About 2 weeks ago I told them that I was done, and I didn't want to see them\never again. I said some nasty shit but it seemed to work and most of them gave up at the time. \n\nFast forward to now, and the same shit has started up again. They're texting and messaging like we're still friends and nothing ever happened. Most people would be like \"cool,\nmy friends listened it's ok now\", but what they did just irritated me even more. I invited over the defacto coordinator of my friends to tell her to butt out. I forgot that I was\nin the process of moving and she noticed, she asked, and I slipped and said I was moving. Now I can't get them from subtley trying to ascertain where I'm moving too.\n\nShould I just block them and ignore them? It's hard for me to just ignore blatant ignorances, but would it be better? I want them to understand that I don't want to deal with them,\nand it's not some plea for attention.", "summary": "My now ex-friends won't leave me alone and I can't decide what the hell I want to do in whether to just get rid of them completely from my life or to continue to try"}
{"id": "t3_53glip", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by running away from my feelings", "post": "So, as happens, this was about two weeks ago.\nIt was a Tuesday at 1 am. My friends are interrogating me about my love life and me being the emotionally detached person I am, I didn't want to talk about it. Some background, I had been talking to one girl (two dates, 70 day snap streak as best friends), for a while and once we got to school she just kinda stopped talking. So I tell my friends and they push me to actually confront her, which I don't want to do, and I try twice to get up and leave the room but both times one of them blocks the door and it's late and I'm non confrontational anyway so I stay. They turn off the lights. I jump up to run and immediately trip and fall really, really hard. My knee was scraped and my right foot didn't feel great either. So my roommate, hearing my impact with the floor, comes running and helps me hobble to my bed and I go to sleep. I wake up the next morning and my foot is purple-black with bruises on top. Thinking I can get by, I wear a shoe on one foot and a slipper on the bruised one. I ended up going to the ER the next day and they did X-rays. No breaks, except in my pride as I hobbled around campus for a while. Two weeks later and my foot still hurts", "summary": "I ran away from my feelings and nearly broke my foot."}
{"id": "t3_1o55wx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [26 F] of 2-months is gaining weight, after we already had a weight loss conversation.", "post": "We were seeing each other casually for a couple weeks.  She sat me down and said she wanted to get serious and date exclusively.  We talked about her leading a healthy lifestyle and exercising more if we are going to get serious.  She agreed to make some changes to her diet and starting walking again.   \n\nThat was two months ago.  Since then, she eats the same and hasn't exercised.  She was probably 40-lbs overweight when we started dating.  She's probably gained 10 more lbs.  I haven't said anything to her, or even implied a thing about her choices.  She's really sensitive.\n\nNow I feel trapped.  Should I call her out on it?", "summary": "casual gf wanted to get serious and promised to make an effort to get in shape, since then we've been dating exclusively but she gaining weight."}
{"id": "t3_26vzxw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[16M] Did she [16F] like me?", "post": "Last year, freshmen year of HS, and I had a huge crush on the girl whose locker was next to mine. I've had crushes before, but this one was different; a hell of a lot bigger.\n\nIt was also different because I think she liked me as well. I'd get to school earlier than her because I rode with my mom and she took the bus, but every day I'd wait for her by my locker and every time she'd smile at me. Same goes for passing each other in the hallways in between classes.\n\nThere was also an instance that really stuck out. My english teacher that year was really cool, and would supply me with sci-fi books, which I would read during the last few minutes on the floor in front of me next class. I was typically the first one there, but the rest of the class (including my crush) would file in after me. Anyway, one day I'm sitting there cross-legged on the floor like a kindergardener, when my crush walks up with her friend. Her friend said, just above a whisper, something along the lines of, \"Come on, look at him, he's just sitting on the floor reading.\" Other guys in the class read a lot of books, but I was the only one that sat (Comfy carpet, why wouldn't I?) Anyway, I was so stunned by that comment that I didn't even know how to respond, especially since they didn't seem to think I was listening. Then the bell rings, the teacher unlocks the door, and I end up never saying anything about it.\n\nYear ends, I never talk to her, summer ends, and turns out she switched schools. I'm pretty much over it now, but I'm still pondering whether I had a shot with her, or that comment was about something else.", "summary": "Had big crush, thought the feelings were mutual, never found out for sure."}
{"id": "t3_iuhyc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I have fallen in love with an online friend. Yesterday, I found out that my friend is a guy. What do I do?", "post": "A bit of background:  \nI met my friend, let's call him friendlyperson, a few years back through a chatroom. Now, friendlyperson was indeed friendly, and a grudging friendship soon developed. After a few months of off-and-on chat we exchanged email addresses and began to IM each other (I know, who does that anymore).  \nWe soon began talking to each other about philosophy and world peace and such. We had lively political debates and talked about the deeper things in religion (I'm an atheist, for the record). Friendlyperson gained a huge portion of my trust eventually, and I began to share with him my romantic troubles and such. He's helped me through many hard times, from the time I stuck my dick in crazy to the time I almost got expelled from school because of another crazy.  \nThroughout all of this, friendlyperson's gender never came up for whatever reason. I eventually found myself falling in love with friendlyperson's personality and often fantasized that friendlyperson was an incredibly hot woman who loved me just as much.  \nSo we finally visited each other yesterday.  \nHe's a guy.  \nI feel incredibly stupid for assuming friendlyperson was a woman, as most of the internet is either guys or GIRLs, but as much as I am disgusted by his dick I still have the hots for his personality.  \nI really don't know what to do, so I hope the hivemind will come up with some magic solution that will solve all of my problems (yeah right).", "summary": "Look at the title."}
{"id": "t3_2wymsz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I've put one foot forward to reducing my debt, what is my next step.", "post": "__________________________________________________________________________________________\n**Preface:**\n\nFirst of all, thank you guys for giving me hope. I'm not terribly in debt (or at least I don't think I am). I like to think I caught myself at the opportune time to dig myself out.\n\nI have a fair amount in credit card debt ($2,000), but I have a LOT of expendable income every month. I also have student loan debt that I have been basically ignoring for the last few months completely. I will focus on that once I make a battle plan, but for right now my focus is on my credit cards.\n\nI have made minimum payments on the cards, on time every month.\n\n__________________________________________________________________________________________\n\n**This is where I'm at currently:**\n\nI've made a [Mint] account. I've mapped my insane expenses that I had no idea I was blowing that much money on a month. ($200 in fast food... WTF.) and now I'm seeing where all those nickles and dimes go.\n\nI applied for a Slate card to get all of my debt centralized to make things easier on me. 0% APR for 15 months and no cost balance transfers, still waiting to hear back for my approval on that. \n\nCurrently I'm making about 45k a year, ($1200 every two weeks.) I pay $600 in rent and utilities and then about $150-$200 on groceries and about $100 in gas. I'm planning on paying off debt at about $400+ a month depending how things go. Once that is payed off I will start putting money into savings. \n\nWhere do I go next, what is my next step towards making myself happy when I wake up and having emergency expense money?\n\nAnother relevant detail may be that I'm 20 years old, so I have a lot of time to set up a good future if I organize correctly now.\n\n__________________________________________________________________________________________", "summary": "$2400 a month"}
{"id": "t3_1vuuj8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 months, she has a really smelly bum crack and I don't know how to approach her.", "post": "I've been with my SO for about 3 months and things are going great. She's a very smart and intelligent girl, but there's kind of a problem. I've always considered myself a 'clean' lover in the sense that I like to take a shower before we get down and dirty if at all possible. But on that note, it's not a deal breaker if we both haven't showered.\n\nThe problem is that she rarely ever showers before sex and whenever we have sex she likes it doggy style at some point. What ends up happening is that her ass stink is just putrid and for me, it's a struggle to keep my mind in the moment when the stink hits me in the face. \n\nSo I guess my question is, how can I approach her about levels of cleanliness without mortifying her? I mean, we've all had our moments, and sex by nature is a stinky/sweaty endeavor. But still, it's really bad.", "summary": "My girlfriend has a smelly bum crack and I don't know how to approach her about it."}
{"id": "t3_33rh3a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking to my co-workers", "post": "Throwaway Account. This happened today at the office.\n\nIt was the end of the day and the end of a long and stressful work week.  I finished my last file for the week and decided to head downstairs and socialize with my co-workers. \n\nI head down to the shared cube where three of my colleagues sit and this is where the FU begins. I notice that one of co-workers is not looking well today, so I say to her, \"Boy, you don't look good today. You look as sick as a dog.\"  I then turn to one of the other people in the three person cubicle and say, \"It's funny because her dog is actually sick.\" \n\nWe have a habit of explaining stupid jokes and puns to each other at the office as a gag.\n\n Well these two seemingly innocent comments ended up being the worst things I could possibly have said to her today, because her dog passed away last night. \n\nI had no idea this had happened at the time and proceeded with the jokes. She left the cubicle and the other two co-workers of mine filled me in on what had happened.  When she returned it was the longest 10 seconds of pure silence I've ever experienced.\n\nTo make matters worse, I spent the last several weeks poking fun at how her dog always looked depressed in the pictures she would she me of him. She never kept him on a leash, so I would say that if she wasn't careful one day he would walk towards the street, look back at her one last time, and slowly walk into the traffic.", "summary": "A co-worker's dog passed away last night, I didn't know about it and told her she \"looked as sick as a dog\" and then explained the pun to another co-worker because her dog was recently sick. Oh and I made jokes that her dog would commit suicide because he always looked sad in photos"}
{"id": "t3_266n3j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by rolling out my hip flexor", "post": "so I play a lot of sports mostly ultimate frisbee, and i recently injured my hip, more specifically, my hip flexor. apparently, this is a common injury for ultimate players, so my coach told me to take some ibuprofen, then stretch it out by using a hard ball of some kind and to put it on the floor. then i would have to put my body weight onto it right where my hip flexor was, then roll it out, however he didn't tell me how ridiculous i would look, so when i actually did it, it looked like i was humping/grinding the ground.\n\ntoday i decided to roll it out; i grabbed a baseball, went upstairs to the guest room, put some headphones in and started doing my thing. since i was getting a bit bored, i started browsing 9gag in attempts to find something entertaining (i know.. i know.. i should have gone on reddit instead). everything was cool until i was loading a gif of a girl doing something stupid, then i feel a kick to my side. I look up and to my horror, it's my dad and he literally has the weirdest look on his face. he doesn't say a word to me, and just leaves the room.", "summary": "my dad walked in on me stretching out my hip on the ground while i was looking at a picture of a girl on my phone and now he thinks i was humping the ground whilst staring at my phone"}
{"id": "t3_a362f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I the only one that can't stand Jeff Dunham!", "post": "I've watched his comedy before and it wasn't very good.  He uses a lot of old jokes and just reworks them for his terrible characters.  I was surprised when he became popular and even more surprised when he got a show.  I have watched at least two episodes and I must say, not only is it not funny, it is downright PAINFUL to watch.  I usually am ok when it comes to leaving a show I don't like on in the background (mostly because my tv doesn't have a remote) but when it comes to this show I, a very lazy person by reputation, will traverse the distance to the tv with haste.  Why do people find this guy funny?  All his characters are stereotypes and rarely ever do they show any kind of range beyond those stereotypes.  Big Daddy D, Jose Jalapeno, Walter, Bubba J.  DEAR GOD!  He is actually worse than Mencia!  There are quality comedians out there and this guy gets a show?  Take some of that money away and give it to Tosh so he can run something more than a clip show! Or Greg Behrendt.  His latest special actually had me gasping for air!  What do you guys think?  Why do people like this hack sort of comedy?", "summary": "Jeff Dunham...I mean really"}
{"id": "t3_onybl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my sister wants to live with me next year in college, and I definitely do not want to live with her. What should I do?", "post": "Little background information. Twin sister, goes to a different school, wants to transfer to my school and won't stop trying to live with me. Now, I love my sister and everything, but we are two immensely different people. As an engineering student, I study basically all the time except Friday and Saturday nights when I go out. She doesn't drink, smoke, bring guys home or anything. I drink, smoke, and bring girls home frequently, and I don't want my (technically younger) sister to see me like that. Plus as a brother I would not be able to stand it if she brought a guy home. I don't want the security blanket of living with any sort of family anymore. I've gotten used to life without it and I don't want to get used to it, because I won't have that in the real world. What the hell can I do about all this?", "summary": "Sister wants to live with me next year in college, and I do not want to live with her."}
{"id": "t3_2jef1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] think I'm developing strong feelings for a good friend [20f]. How can I put a stop to them?", "post": "I have a friend, we'll call her Britney. Britney is a fantastic person who has been going through a hard time. Guy trouble, school trouble, drugs, depression.\n\nI've kind of been her support as best I can through this. Her other way of dealing with it involved sleeping around. Which normally? Couldn't care less, right? Her life, her business. But I can't help but feel a little hurt when she tells me about her latest...exploits.\n\nThere are times when I feel she could have a thing for me, but they pass quickly as she starts talking about the next hot guy she plans on going for. She's also described to me previously her \"ideal guy\". Almost none of what she described could be used to describe me. So it's obvious she doesn't feel the way I do.", "summary": "Britney's a great friend. She's smart, gorgeous, and crazy fun. I have feelings for her that I need to kick, fast, for fear of losing our friendship. How do I go about doing so?"}
{"id": "t3_3ns7va", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21 F] write my recent ex [24 M] of 2.5 years a positive letter? Or will it make it harder for him to move on?", "post": "So I broke up with my ex on the weekend and I'm considering writing him a letter saying that I'm thankful for the time we had together etc.\n\nI broke up with him after feeling unhappy for a while - he knew it was coming and took it well but is still obviously upset. There isn't any bad blood between us, and we ended on a relatively good note (for the circumstances).\n\nI'm not sure if writing him a letter will just make it harder for him to move on, but I feel like because I was unhappy for a while and he knew it he might be having doubts about himself etc. and I don't want him to feel that way because overall it was a really good relationship.\n\nI would love your advice", "summary": "should I write my ex a positive letter?"}
{"id": "t3_3gdpai", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(CAN) How screwed am I?", "post": "So back in April I financed a new car, spent roughly 40k on it and what not. Come into May and I lost my job, and now I have no way to afford the payments that I have. The day after I lost my job I contacted my bank and told them the situation and what not. \nFast forward to today, still jobless, I've only been able to pay them a few hundred towards the growing debt (roughly $2000 IIRC), but I look outside and my car is gone. Both sets of keys are here with me in my house, I have an alarm system on my car so I know it wasn't stolen and judging by the stack of letters from them saying action will be taken I assume it has been repo'd. \nI live in Alberta, and I guess I'm asking what there is to do in my situation.", "summary": "Bought a car, got laid off, couldn't afford payments, car got repo'd. Looking for advice on what I can do from here, or rather what I should do."}
{"id": "t3_2dx3g1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/M] want to start a relationship with my co-worker [27/F] but have no idea how.", "post": "So the story begins around three months ago when we started working together. Straight away we found something to talk about and since then we been chatting everyday. We joke, tell stories, talk about things what concerns, makes us happy... there are basically no topics we haven't touched. Couple weeks ago me and a couple of my co-workers went to a club and we started drinking. It all ended with me dancing with her and making out quite allot. The next few days at work was a bit awkward but now it seems like everything is back to normal.\n \nI would want to start something more with her, but not sure how to. She's been calling herself old and me young and immature (which i am sometimes, because of the nerdy things i like (she likes them even more so that's not a problem)).\nShould i ask her out and just be straight with her or continue like before, hoping that something is going to happen, which could lead me into friend zone (if i'm not there already).\n\nI haven't been in a very serious relationship, so any advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "I have feeling for my co-worker but don't know how to act now."}
{"id": "t3_472ilh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my SO [26 M] (semi-long distance 4h away), have a communication problem", "post": "My boyfriend and I message us throughout the day via text and audio and skype once every 2 weeks or so. The amount of communication is not the problem. And although we are long distance, we see each other at least a weekend per month.\n\nI think the quality of communication has to improve. We have so many misunderstandings and it really starts to bother me. I'm starting to think that we're simply not compatible.\n\nWhenever we argue I talk about this miscommunication problem but we never really fix it. When I talked about stopping the text messaging, (because it's where the problem is) he says no, he needs it because it makes him feel close to me.\n\nNow we try to send more audios especially about more serious stuff and skype when it is important.\n\nDo you have some advice? How can we improve the quality of our communication and prevent misunderstandings?", "summary": "Any advice on how to improve communication in a long distance relationship??"}
{"id": "t3_2fylui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl I'm crushing on [16F] seemed out of it while talking to me [16M] today, and I don't know if I should talk to her about it.", "post": "Just a little background first.We've been flirting on and off for about 2 years now, and I definitely still have feelings for her. I think she's getting closer this time though, we talk on facebook or text every night and also at school if in more laid back classes. We stay up talking online until the early morning, and that's usually when we talk about deeper stuff.\n\nToday (a weekday) we were chatting and she seemed her happy and funny self at first, but then kind of got distant and used one word answers etc. Then she said suddenly \"im just gonna go see you tomorrow\". She never acts like that, and I know she didnt have a bad day. I kind of want to ask her if she's okay, but I don't know if that will annoy her or something. I could also be overthinking things, and it's just *that time* or something like that. Should I talk to her about it later/tomorrow?", "summary": "Me and her usually talk every day, but she grew distant and unenthusiastic today, and I don't know if I should talk to her about it later."}
{"id": "t3_sy9iy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the strangest thing you do to motivate yourself to do something?", "post": "I fucking hate washing dishes but I have no space for a dishwashing machine.\n\nA few months ago, having to face a week's worth of dishes I thought it would be funny to do the dishes in front of strangers in Chatroulette.\n\nI liked it so much now I always do the washing on CR.\n\n* Some people encourage me to do it, keep up signs and stuff. I keep doing it.\n* Some people call me a fag, raise a finger or whatever. All of them look like never had a responsibility in their lives and may well replace the Scumbag Steve image macro. I giggle imagining them in 10 years having responsibilities.\n* Girls tend to laugh and make me company for a while. Since I don't pay too much attention because of the washing stuff, they also try to make me interact with them; it's nice. Apparently a dishwashing guy is more interesting than the topless inexpressive guys eager to show their penises that predominate in CR.", "summary": "turned the tedious task of washing dishes into a social experiment for fun."}
{"id": "t3_jo0l3", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Is this grounds for neglect?", "post": "Ok, so my brother, his girlfriend, and their 2 kids are staying with us while my brother is looking for a job. His g/f is on disability for some juvenile disease. \nIn my opinion, his g/f is a shitty Mom. She sleeps until noon or later, while her daughters ages 4years, and 4 months, are both awake. My brother wakes up as soon as they both get up and deals with them until he has to go to work (he's doing side jobs working with our uncle while he's looking for full time work, and trying to get back into college) Then as soon as he leaves for work, she has her 4 year old daughter take care of the baby so she can sleep. Feeding the baby, making her bottles, and even changing diapers. You would not believe how nervous it makes me when the 4 year old is carrying around the baby! This morning, the 4 year old was sitting on the couch feeding the baby, and she called to her Mom, \"Mom, will you please feed her?\" and she hollered back to her 4 year old from the bed \" Well, bring her here.\" The 4 year old told her that she couldn't get up with the baby and her mom ignored her. So I got up and took the baby and finished feeding her. \n\nUp until a two days ago, I was taking care of both of her children, AND my 3 while she slept, or was all strung out on pain medication (that she really doesn't seem to need) Now she's making her 4 year old take care of both herself, and the baby. I don't know what to do Reddit.\n\nHe just left for work, and now she is threatening to take the kids and leave because he has to go to work to make some kind of money so they can work towards moving out to their own place\u2026 \n\nAs I write this, she is packing up all of the kids stuff (this is the 4th of 5th time she has done this in the past 2 weeks, btw.)", "summary": "Brother's g/f refuses to take care of her kids and makes her 4 year old daughter take care of her 4 month old while she sleeps or is all strung out on pain pills and keeps threatening to take the kids and leave when he goes to work. Is there anything that can be done?"}
{"id": "t3_2ldql2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[TIFU] By celebrating too hard at Smash Bros.", "post": "Today[Okay not today but a couple days ago sorry....], I royally fucked up. I was playing Smash Bros with a few friends from college during lunch at McDonalds. For this you should know I am abysmal at the game even though I love it [Jackhaymaker normally destroys me at it xD]. So we were playing and I was Fierce Deity Link as always with one as Duck Hunt Duo, one as Falco and one as Mii Fighter [Petch to be precise. I sometimes use Lonk :3] and we had been playing for about half an hour, me losing almost every time, unless I came 3rd. So when I finally won, I reacted a bit...... smashingly? Used Link's big bombs and jump-A-Down and charged A-Up attacks to take out Falco because he's immune to my arrows and then my overpowered arrows [Thanks Sakurai <3] and a mashing of the various sword attacks. DHD pisses me off too much so it ended up being bukkake'd by my arrows until Duck Cunt Duo was no more. Mii Fighter had already taken damage so Petch was easy prey. What happened next I am not proud of. I unleashed my final smash IRL. I celebrated more than Kool & The Gang and very nearly kicked a little kid in the face if I didn't slip backwards flipping the table with a rain of coke, burger and chicken nuggets. We all ran out of there before the manager saw us and we've been since and nothing happened because of it, except for one of us because he works there and had to clean it up.\n\nMoral of the story? Control your celebrations kids.", "summary": "Shit at SSB4 and finally won. Nearly kicked little kid and could have been thrown out of McDonalds."}
{"id": "t3_1vl13o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (16M) and my gf (16F) Are fighting and it got bad and I really fucked up and I'm a fucking wreck man.", "post": "I'm a 16 year old guy and I'm currently in a relationship with a amazing girl. I know the whole love subject is shakey at this age but I feel strongly about her and I feel like I love her, and she says she does too. \n\nLately we have been having small disagreements and today it went to hell. We were hanging out at my house watching some movies when we started making out, she stopped and said she didn't want to because she was on her period, so I started feeling hurt and like I did something wrong. So I started acting depressed, let me just say I know it was wrong and that I realize I messed up, it was a mistake for me to act depressed. \n\nAnyways we were just quiet until she left, then when she texted me she said that she was sick of me acting depressed and super sensitive all the time and that I was acting extremely immature and I agree with her, I have done this multiple times in the past. I've messed up big time because I've made it seem like all I want from her is to put out, and that's not true at all. I love her, damnit I know I do, I've just made some dumb mistakes and goddamnit I need help, and now she's talking about splitting up...\n\nThe last thing I want is to split up, I love her and I can't believe I've been so stupid. I need help, I'm sorry if this barely made any sense But I'm crying and I'm a huge emotional wreck and I'm hating myself and I just want to make things right. I need help...", "summary": "fuck me man..."}
{"id": "t3_dlcg1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone ever tried to plan out a calendar that uses a 36 hour day?", "post": "Ever since the first \"Men In Black\" I have been intrigued by the notion of a 36 hour day.  Earlier tonight I had to stay up late (which for me was midnight), and I went to the gas station to buy milk.  Long story short, it was like different world!  I was fascinated by the talk radio and the overall chillness of those working at the gas station.  Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else has ever attempted to live their life in both the 1st and 3rd shift world.  Granted, for most jobs (including my own), it would be impossible.  However, for the self employed, and further with those with a flexible schedule and a guide to help them choose shifts, the 36 hour week may be plausible.  As a hopeful writer, I can see the value in gaining experience in living in both 'worlds' to gather experience and enrich my knowledge pool.  Scheduling is my Achilles heel Reddit.  Hivemind, can you help me explore the possibility of a 36 hour day?", "summary": "Is it feasible to use a 36 Hour Day, and if so, what would it look like?"}
{"id": "t3_1zysyi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18/F) don't want my SO (18/M) to go on a trip where he will meet his ex.", "post": "Hey Reddit. \nSo I have been dating this boy for roughly 2 months now, and things were going well between us. Every summer he travels with his friends from school (I don't know them since we were in different schools and met in college) and visits various places. This summer he'll be travelling with them again and exploring Europe for 2-3 months. Which is completely fine by me, under normal circumstances. \n\nHowever this summer, his ex girlfriend will also be a part of the group of friends he'll be travelling with. They dated in high school and were together for nearly 2 years, and he admits that they really liked each other a lot and it took him a while to get over her. As much as I hate to be dramatic and give ultimatums so early on in our relationship, I really don't think I'll be able to handle him seeing her and being near her over a period of 2 months. 2 months is a really long time and a lot can happen and I don't think I will be able to handle the doubts and insecurities I will feel during that time. \n\nI thought about this a lot, and I really don't want him to go on this trip Reddit. I really don't. I don't know if my stand is justified or not, or if I am merely over reacting. Help me out guys?", "summary": "Boyfriend goes for a trip every summer, this year he will meet his ex girlfriend and spend nearly 2 months with her and his other friends. I don't want this. Please give me some sound advice."}
{"id": "t3_30y7dh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(24M) younger sister(15F) is having a party in Mexico and my Dad(51M) wants me to go.", "post": "So my parents moved down to Mexico a couple years ago to give my two younger siblings (15f/17m) the opportunity to grow up in a different culture. Very cool. \n\nMy sister, who is actually my half sister, and much younger than me, is having a party to celebrate her 15th birthday. In Mexican culture, this is a pretty big deal, and is commonly known as a Quincinera(sp), and apparently is almost on par with a girls wedding day in terms of importance. Think sweet-sixteen on steroids. Again... we are NOT Mexican. Culturally or otherwise.\n\nMy Dad (who is also my boss) wants me to fly down to celebrate the party. I will be in Mexico already for a week earlier in the month, and between my life/dog/gf I just don't want to go back again. My sister and I are not close at all... we talk maybe once a month, never about anything substantial at all. I told my old man this, and basically he told me that it is a very big deal, she wants me there, and that if he has to shell out the money for a birthday party that costs as much as a wedding, I can make the 5 hour flight down to Mexico.\n\nMy other two brothers will both be there, there will be a huge party, and the week after they are going on a weeklong trip to a resort for their spring break. \n\nMy question is if I really am obligated to go. I don't want to throw a wrench into the weekend, and really just want to be able to call and say happy birthday like normal people do for a 15th birthday.\n\nFeel free to call me out if I am being an unreasonable selfish asshole, or let me know if this is really nbd and I can no-show.", "summary": "My parents want me to fly 5 hours down to Mexico to celebrate my sister's quincinera, which is a giant party for turning 15, even though they are gringos living in a mostly gringo neighborhood. Should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_2cmx9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] lied to my boyrfriend [29M] of 1 year and 3 months about going out with a coworker [M] and now he won't talk to me.", "post": "I have been hanging out with a working friend [M] for the past few weeks outside of work. We hit it off at a mutual friend's party and since then, we've hung out on occasion like going out for drinks after work (just once).\n\nThe other day, there was a free concert by a local park and I invite him out to come join us (my other co-worker and her date). It kind of ends up being a double date although nothing awkward happened. I had told my boyfriend to come out with us but he decided to stay home and make dinner. I ended up staying out later than I thought I would and he's been waiting for me. At this point I feel like a total jerk. We end up having an argument and he expressed feelings of jealousy (a side I had never seen before). We talked it over and everything seemed fine.\n\nAbout a week after this event, my co-worker invites me to a movie with his friends. I lied about this to my boyfriend and told him I went out with a friend [F] instead. I had a few drinks and and later that night it slips out that I lied to him. My boyfriend keeps quiet about it until the next day. I had intentions to tell him but I couldn't find the words to say it. He brings it up first and now he is extremely upset at me, especially now that I didn't have the courage to tell him first.\n\nI have no feelings for my coworker. He is just a friend that I am getting to know better. I thought it was better to lie so my boyfriend wouldn't get jealous since he got upset the last time I went out my coworker. I was obviously wrong and made a bad choice.  \n\nMy boyfriend and I have had a few bumps in the road but we've moved past them, but this is the first I have ever lied to him. I feel terrible about it. I need some advice on how to gain his trust back. What should I do?", "summary": "I lied about going out with a coworker [M] to my boyrfriend. He found out before I could tell him and nw he wont speak to me. I need to advise, please."}
{"id": "t3_4o2q91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Crush[19/F] Kissed Me[20/M] While Drunk", "post": "Hey, so I am wondering if this meant anything, Both me and my crush work at the same bar and usually after work all of the staff go out for a drink.\n\nOne night my crush got pretty tipsy and pulled me aside started dancing with me and then asked me to kiss her. I kissed her on the cheek to begin with but then she said \"No kiss me properly\" so of course i'm not going to refuse that offer. She even kissed me again after.\n\nThe last time I seen her after this night happend all she did was smile at me, I don't really know if I should bring it up... It may get awkward is what i'm scared of.\n\nSo do you think she likes me? I really am useless when it comes to girls so kinda need advice..", "summary": "Crush kisses me while drunk, don't know if she actually likes me or not"}
{"id": "t3_3via5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29m] started talking to my ex[29F] who is the mother of my kids after being apart 4 years.", "post": "After being split up for four years my ex started being nice suddenly and after taking our two kids to a couple Halloween events I asked her out on a date. Things went really well and we decided to do it again. Well after our second date she said \"I love you\", which I responded telling it's to soon to say that, she said she always loved me. Then her living condition suddenly went bad and was affecting the health of our youngest son and she asked to move in with me. I said \"I don't really want you to but if you need a place to stay for a week or two that's fine.\". The kids had had thanksgiving break and she said they would all stay with me that week and see how it went. \n\nTo my surprise it went really well and I loved having her and my kids at home. We did our own thanksgiving dinner with my father and everything seemed great. Then Saturday came and she said she was moving in with her parents(who dislike me because of our breakup 4 years ago). I was ok with this because it is way to soon to have her live with me. But this is where I get lost, she just stops talking to me, stops the \"I love you\", and \"good morning honey\" and just stopped talking to me at all pretty much. I tried asking her what's going on and got no response. Then accuses me of going through her phone(I didn't) and says all I care about is sex and money. Which the money part is bull shit, she tried complaining to me about the child support I pay(which is a huge amount). I just told her not to complain to me about that, didn't fight about it at all. Now I'm just confused on what to do, I do care about her and I would love to be a family again.", "summary": "started dating my Ex and things got weird for no reason, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ky4h9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by standing up while in the train.", "post": "I was on the train making my way to work this morning and I noticed an empty seat, so of course I took it since this never happens. This seat just so happened to be next to some mean looking older women but I didn't care, I got a seat and that's all that mattered. Well, eventually she has to get off the train before my stop so she motions that she needs to get up. So I stand up while the train is still moving and move over to make space for her to get out. (Also, I forgot to mention the train is packed at this point). As she scoots by, she drops something and bends over to pick it up, the train suddenly jerks and I thrust into her from behind. She turns around and says \"YOU NEED TO KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF!\", I was so taken off guard that I just looked at her and said \" The trains packed and I didn't mean to bump you, so don't flatter yourself\" and sat down. Sat there beyond embarrassed for 4 more stops.", "summary": "Dry humped an older lady on the train by accident."}
{"id": "t3_w720m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do I start friendships with other girls?", "post": "Alright, I've lurked on the site awhile and I've seen that it has an awesome ability to help people, thanks to an awesome community. That being said, we'll see. I am an eighteen year old girl.\n\nSome background, I had four best friends in junior high, all of which were girls. High school came around, the grew closer, I kinda of drifted away, mostly because I had a long term boyfriend at the time. Now I'm graduated. I haven't had a comfortable conversation with a girl in...a very long time. I got out of an abusive relationship a few months ago and have had no one to depend on. Except for guys. So I'm talking to guy after guy, figuring out slowly they're all the same. (I know that's not actually true, but they all tend to act the same way around me.) I've driven guys off because I've been too dependent on them because that's how I became with my ex-boyfriend.\n\nMy problem is that it is almost impossible for me not to be overly dependent on my boyfriend because I have no friends. No girl friends to be exact. I wish so badly that I could just talk to them, but I don't think they really get me. I'm too weird. I really do not know how to approach girls or how to start friendships. I just don't get it.", "summary": "I am lonely and too dependent on my boyfriend because I don't know how to reach out to other females. I don't really know how to make friends.*"}
{"id": "t3_2253ob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you know when to give a second (or 4th) chance? Me 23F, him 29M, broken up for 6 months, please help", "post": "Hi r/relationships.\n\nIf this is the wrong subreddit please point me in the right direction. I don't know what to do anymore.\n\nAllan* and I broke up 6 months ago, shortly before he was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. We were together 2 years, living together and had a cat. I know everything that happened isn't his fault, but how do you move past it??\n\nA few months ago I asked him to get back together, he was so drunk he didn't remember the next morning, and I think at that moment something in me broke again. I tried for so long to make things work, and felt like that was the last straw. After a month of NC, I ask to visit him (was in the same city) and he wants to get back together, but he wouldn't even tell me how he was feeling! I tried to have a conversation about my fears, but it went nowhere. I've gotten to a point where I can't deal with my emotions so I just push them away and now basically I feel hollow inside.\n\nHow am I supposed to decide something like this when he won't even talk to me?? I feel like i've never had a connection so strong with someone, and honestly I don't know if I ever will again. It's been 6 months and I feel the same about him, but I can't put myself through it unless I knew it was going to be different.\n\nIf I should just walk away, how am I supposed to deal with losing who I thought was the love of my life?? How will I ever feel like that about someone else??\n\nAny words of advice would be deeply appreciated, I feel so lost. Sorry if it's jumbled, I can't even process my own thoughts.", "summary": "How do you deal with an ex wanting to get back together when you tried EVERYTHING to make it work and nothing worked?"}
{"id": "t3_3ob4md", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by holding in pee.", "post": "Okay this didn't happen today but I felt like sharing anyway.\nThis was back in the 3rd grade. We had moved to Mumbai and it was my first week at the new school. I didn't know a lot of people and was determined to make myself known. I didn't know the language or culture of this place. And being shy as a person, I never really spoke to anyone voluntarily. I was also an idiot. The school was huge and I didn't know where any of the rooms were. So everytime I had to pee, I'd hold it in instead of asking someone where the restroom was. This continued for a week and I had mastered the art of pee holding, or so I thought I did. The teacher announced this dance show that we had to put up for the school festival and I was excited to join. Finally an opportunity to make a name for myself. We had to stay back after school hours to practice and that meant prolonged pee holding hours. Nevertheless, I was determined and bravely walked in for the first practice. Everything seemed to be going on fine until the teacher ordered us to drink water. We couldn't make any excuses as she was very health conscious. I pretended to drink water but as soon as the water touched my lips, my determination to hold in pee flew out the window. I stood there, unable to move because I knew that if I did, I'd very publicly wet myself. The teacher asked us to resume the dance move where we went in circles, one behind the other. The girl behind me nudged me to move forward. I feigned tripping, sat on the floor and peed all over myself. Everyone looked at me as I sat in a pool of my own pee. My genius brain prompted me and I declared to the world that I had slipped over water that someone had spilt during the break. A lot of people seemed to believe me but when u see the new kid in a pool of water, you're gonna make fun of her anyway. And so, this is \"pee-girl\" who makes sure she knows where the washroom is anywhere she goes.", "summary": "New kid at a school, didn't know where washrooms were, peed in public."}
{"id": "t3_4vsu22", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] want to take a long trip alone, best friend [23F] wants to come.", "post": "Throwaway cause she knows my account. \nI'll start by saying I am a very introverted person that is constantly surrounded by people. I work in HR and have 3 roommates and rarely get a moment to breath. So I recently got a chance to take a lengthy vacation, and I want to use it to take a cross-country road trip I've wanted for a long time. My plan is for it to take around 3 months, I'll be stopping at several national parks, big cities, and visiting my brother. \nThe issue here is that I told my best friend about it and she has assumed that I want her to come as well, since she's recently graduated and this would be a good time for her. While I love my best friend, this is defeating the purpose of the trip. Best friend is extremely extroverted, does not understand the concept of wanting to do something alone. She's also rather princessy, and would likely complain about a lot of the hikes/nature things I have planned. I wanted to pack my dog up and go, and enjoy some peace and quiet for once in my life. I know that 3-months in each other's faces would probably cause a fight, and that's the last thing I want to deal with on this trip. Is there a way I can tell her this is something I want to do alone, or should I just bring her and hope for the best? Would I regret going alone and halfway through, wish I had some company?", "summary": "Planning a long trip to go on alone with my dog, best friend wants to come, I don't want her to. What now."}
{"id": "t3_1uou6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [19/F] been dating a guy [20/M] for seven months. It's been wonderful, but he has suddenly stopped responding to my messages over break (we're in college). Any help?", "post": "We met about a year ago, and have been dating for seven months. We live in the same apartment building, so we've been seeing a lot of each other for the past two semesters. Everything has been amazing. There is so much in common between the two of us, and he has been encouraging, kind, and supportive. We have never had an argument or disagreed about anything. He seems really happy when we are together. \n\nHowever, over winter break (about a month), I've kept up the usual amount (maybe less) of texting and messaging over Facebook, and he barely responds. It's been about two weeks since his last response, and I've stopped messaging him. I can see that he's seen it, and (because I'm using the messenger app) that he's active on Facebook. \n\nI've stopped messaging him to not seem too clingy, but it bothers me that he's cut off all contact. He's still interacting with many of our mutual friends, but is ignoring me.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I have are in a great relationship, but he suddenly stops responding to my messages over winter break."}
{"id": "t3_3u9e7o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by looking behind a decommissioned server", "post": "This happened about 20 minutes ago and immediately after it happened I thought.. I had to share this with you guys.\n\nSo let me set the scene for you:   I was working on removing some old server equipment from the back of one our lab areas to make room for some new equipment and one of the machines seemed to be stuck and unwilling to budge.  I being the dutiful IT engineer that I am, I began trying to figure out what was obstructing it from moving as it should. Shortly after beginning this endeavor, I decided to look back behind the server casing to see if it was mounted to the wall anywhere.\n\nHere is where my fuck up begins,\n\nIts quite well against the wall and simply pressing my face up against the wall to see it wasn't working because of the safety glasses,  so I take them off because what is going to get in my eyes with my head pressed against the wall to see what was behind the server.\n\nAs I get my face into position, I flash the light behind and that's when it happens.   A spider, big, black, ugly, and FAST, basically the 2015 poster spider for NOPE NOPE NOPE quarterly,  runs at me before I can react and runs ON my eyeball... I pulled my head back in shock and to get away but it was already on my face and I ended up bashing my head on the rack behind me and basically flipping out in front of my colleagues for seemingly no apparent reason.  \n\nthe moral of the story here children is always wear your safety glasses....", "summary": "= looked behind an old server, spider ran across my eyeball,  flipped out in front of coworkers.  Never found the spider.. may have to burn my eye to purify myself of the spiders presence..."}
{"id": "t3_2x2okn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/M] worried about my gf [30/F] going to Bali with her single friend [30/F] for four days.", "post": "When my gf goes on trips with her married friends, I am not worried much because they most likely to pursue low energy activities.\n\nHowever, this is the first time my gf is going with a single friend and this girl loves to mess around. She will definitely want to go to a bar or a local club to hook up and I am afraid that my gf will be drawn into this environment, especially when she is drunk, she becomes uncontrollable and does not remember anything the day after (even when getting drunk with me).\n\nWhat else is she going to do? Just sit and watch?\n\nAre these kind of thoughts irrational? What should I do?", "summary": "Gf going on a trip with a friend that sleeps around and I am afraid she will be drawn into that hook up environment. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_deibp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, I hate to be a downer, but I'm kind of a downer", "post": "I find myself fighting to keep myself hovering right above depression most of the time, and it's taking its toll on me. I'm just so tired of putting so much effort into not being depressed, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't feel it's enough to warrant psychiatric intervention...hell I'm not even actually depressed. There have been times in my life when I have been (although I didn't seek help then), but I hate that every day is a struggle to keep myself from going back to that place. Anyone have experience with this? What the hell do you do? I don't mean to sound whiny, I was just hoping for a few opinions and maybe some insight.", "summary": "I feel like I'm constantly bordering on the verge of depression, how do I get myself to a better place?"}
{"id": "t3_2ztol5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Gf [21 F] 2.5 years, I am uninformed about girls and porn. Don't want to be ignorant.", "post": "Basically, I don't know much about women and porn. My situation is 100% fine, I just want more info. I've noticed that my gf likes watching porn. That's awesome and I think it is sexy and I've told her that, but she won't actually say she watches porn. That's her choice and I'm fine with that. Is that the same as most girls? Do most girls hide watching porn?\n\nNext, I've also noticed my gf is much, much wetter after watching porn than when we initiate together without porn. Is that also true of most girls? What could be the causeen of this?", "summary": "want more info about girls and porn. I'm uninformed."}
{"id": "t3_op3f3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have been your worst moments of impotent rage?", "post": "First, this morning I'm at my dentist, and I'm told that my insurance isn't going to cover the installation of an implant I'm getting, because I switched jobs (and therefore insurance providers) between the time they removed the broken tooth and put in the implant base, and now when they need to put the actual cap in. That makes it a pre-existing condition so far as they're concerned, so it's not covered. \n\nThen I go to my bank to try to understand why not one, but two of my credit cards were declined at dinner on Monday. Their explanation \"Well, sir, you haven't used your credit card since October, so it was flagged as possibly stolen, then you go to spend $480 on dinner, so we assumed it was fraud and deactivated your cards.\" to which I responded \"So you're telling me that first you thought my card was stolen, but you didn't tell me about it, then you thought it was being used fraudulently so you deactivated both of my cards, but didn't bother to call me to say 'Hey, we think something is fishy'?\" \n\nSo yeah,", "summary": "first my insurance says that having a tooth removed counts as \"pre-existing\" and my bank apparently disables my credit cards to protect me from fraud, but doesn't bother to tell me that they suspect fraud."}
{"id": "t3_27srta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] was divorced by my Wife [32 F] of seven years. I was always faithful, but never quit the military for her.", "post": "I understand why she did.  I've been in the Army for 14 years.  I've been deployed five times (51 months total) she just couldn't take it and quit on me.  I've always been faithful to her.  Im pretty sure cheated on me a couple of times before she divorced me.  I could tell she was looking for outs.  I'm at a point in my career now that if I quit its basically like turning my back on more than a million dollars.  I think the damage is already done.   She has moved on, she is dating good guys, that are good for her.  I'm having a really rough time moving on.  I think about her a lot.  I know i call too much.  I've tried dating, but for some reason i feel like the biggest creep in the entire world.  The women that do date me seem pretty excited by my online profile but fairly disgusted by me in real life.  I think i'm giving out the most desperate vibe on the planet.", "summary": "I didn't give up my stupid career for my family and now i have no family. How do i move on?  "}
{"id": "t3_whama", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Intership overpaid me last summer, now this summer I just found out they have been deducting it from my check and never told me. Is this legal??", "post": "Last summer I worked at this internship. Apparently there was some confusion for a while because even though my supervisor KNEW I was working 7 hours a day, they were paying me for eight. This was noticed after a month and stopped. I wasn't trying to \"get away\" with anything, trust me. \n\nNow this summer, I decided to work at the same internship. They didn't even know I was coming back. So with a raise I began working again and noticed that my checks looked awfully skimpy for what I was making and my hours. I finally knew something was up when I made just $375 for 45 hours (I make 14.66/hour). With much difficulty I got someone to investigate only to be told, through email, that I had an active debit account since they overpaid me \"40\" hours last year and they were deducting from my wages!\n\nNo one EVER notified me that this was going on, and it seems sketchy because this was last summer and they didn't know I was going to comeback. They never told me I owed anything, and I have no way of knowing how much they actually overpaid me.\n\nIs this okay? I get direct deposit and I know it's different in every state, but seriously... I pay rent in shit. Notice or authorization should be required, no? Thanks in advance for advice.", "summary": "Title."}
{"id": "t3_2iw4nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28m]Having weird feelings after 1 year with my gf [25f]", "post": "Some background:\nThree years ago, my ex and I split after 3 years together. I was devastated after finding out that she didn't want to be with me anymore and later finding out she had been cheating for a while before we split. It was even worse when I found out our fairly new room mate (female coworker living with us for 3 months) was in on it. By \"in on it\", I mean she was holding pictures of naked guys in her email for my ex as well as going with her to bars. I knew this Co worker longer than my ex and had considered her a good friend. Needless to say, I developed trust issues after realizing many things that happened behind my back. I went two years of being single before I met my current gf.\n\nThings were great in the first 8 months or so but then all of a sudden my paranoia started kicking in. I'm realizing I may love this girl and now suspicions of infidelity are showing. She works as a rep for a beer company so she's always out at bars or events representing her brand. She's gone on trips to beer festivals with her boss and others and I keep getting a sick feeling in my stomach that, like with my ex, things may be happening behind my back. She's fresh out of college and trying to move up in her company or one similar. She's constantly going on lunch or dinner meetings with her boss(es) and/or current/potential clients. Example: her boss (around my age, I believe) will text her on her day off and ask her to lunch because he's meeting the regional manager of blah blah company and wants her to meet him.\n\nThis has even affected my dreams. I've had dreams that I catch her with someone else and in one case, I had caught her with her boss.\n\nI'm trying not to make a big deal about it but I can't help these feelings; they just appear. Am I ok to be in a relationship right now? Is this insecurity something I should battle through or am I realizing I'm not ready to have a relationship yet?", "summary": "Was lied to and cheated on by my ex; female roommate was in on the secret. Result was trust issues. Single for two years and now with current gf for one year. Trust issues resurface and I'm suspicious of her. Am I ready to be in a relationship or should I take more time to myself?"}
{"id": "t3_4mklnx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[16M] Don't know if we're dating", "post": "So there's a bit of a back story to this, so  stay with me here. \n\nOur school has this policy that when your done with your final exams for the day you could either go home or stay and study, of course I'm leaving. I just finished working out because my finals consisted of just my Powerlifting Period and my Computer Science Period.\n\n So as I was walking to the front of the school waiting for my Brother to pick me up with one of my friends(girl). We started talking for a bit and out of the no where a girl comes up to me and starts poking my arm. Being the douche that I am, I was flexing, she then proceeded to tell me that her friend... let's call her C. She begins to tell me that if I know C and that apparently she's had a big crush on me for while. I begin to keep asking her if this is true  because I'm not a great looking guy, and she keeps tell me that it's true and she might as well tell me now since it's the end of the year.\n\nThe next day comes around and I begin to talk to her about it. Being an awkward kid that I am I stutter trying to ask her because I'm nervous. She laughs and just says why I'm awkward and acting shy ,even though she kept this a secret for the whole year trying to avoid me, because she was even more awkward than I was. I begin to talk to her ask her about her self and she does the same so.... I sort of asked her on a date, even though I just now met her and she says yes.\n\nNow before.... and I still haven't been on the date, because we're both busy traveling for the summer. We talk, we text each other every single day since school ended. We're both awkward individuals so we hardly ever flirt, even though she's drop dead gorgeous. It seems to me we're in a relationship because on how often we talk, or am I jumping to conclusions here. Don't want to ask her because I feel as though she might feel off put by it, or hurt that I think it's not.\n\nSorry for the long ass story guys just trying to get your guy's advice\n\n(", "summary": ") Were both talking everyday for past 2 weeks and planning on first date, are we in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_q2hz9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a titanium plate and 6 screws in my collar bone and a fractured wrist. Reddit, what's your worst injury and how did it happen?", "post": "I was riding at my local BMX track practicing doubling the rhythm section when I came out of the berm and through the first few sets really squirrelly. I was all over the track and overjumped the third set. Since I landed flat I didn't have the space I needed to set up for the next jump but went for it anyway. It failed. Miserably. I went nose-down across the gap and hit the face of the next roller at full tilt. My friends that were there said my bike hit one roller and I flew outstretched into the next. I don't remember this happening. The next I knew I was sitting upright in a cloud of dust trying to catch my breath. My back was killing me and there were abrasions everywhere. I asked them to help me lay down for a minute so I could recover and that's when I felt the bones in my shoulder clicking against each other.\n\nThe x-rays, once I got to the hospital, showed I now had at least 4 pieces of my right collar bone and I had fractured my left wrist, too.", "summary": "Practicing rhythm section at BMX track and lost my rhythm."}
{"id": "t3_1m4wcn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get people to stop being racist to you?", "post": "A lil info.\n\nI am a senior in high school. I just moved to this school. I recently started hanging out with a group of kids who do nothing but make racist remarks directly at me. EX) I'm Asian so they would say something like ching-chong as my name. Also there is an Asian lunch lady and they always say \"Is that your mom?\" Its really starting to get to me. I know the easiest thing to do is to stop hanging out with them, but since I just moved here I want to get known as fast as possible.", "summary": "Only group of friends that I have make racist remarks towards me. How do I get it to stop?****"}
{"id": "t3_1goorp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to deal with failed relationship with co-worker (20M)(17F)", "post": "I'm in a bit of a sticky situation here...\n\nThis might be kinda long, but a girl I have worked with for about a year now recently expressed interest in me (about three weeks ago). I asked her out, and she said yes. Went on three dates, all the while saying she was having an amazing time etc... I made it clear that we were in fact dating and not just \"hanging out\". Public hand holding and kissing was involved. Everyone (co-workers) said how happy she was.\n\nLast night we were texting to make plans for today. I can tell something is up, as she is taking longer to respond and sending one liners. Lo and behold, I check her twitter (which she obviously didn't think I checked) and there was a post with something along the lines of \"not feeling the same\". I confronted her about it and she gave me some half assed response, including \"it's not you, it's me\" and \"I just wanna be really really good friends\". So, obviously I've been friendzoned.\n\nI replied by saying that we obviously weren't on the same page, and how I wasn't really being interested in just a friend. I have not really talked to her since then.\n\nNow here's where it gets sticky. Not only is she a co-worker that I have to see almost everyday, her mom is our manager, and while she did approve of our relationship, I'm not too sure how she's going to react. \n\nMy questions are, where did I go wrong, or what other possibilities could have happened to cause a sudden loss of interest. Also, what is the best way to approach work now. It's come across my mind that finding a new job would be ideal, but I just recently received a raise, and the job market isn't exactly the best right now. It's going to kill me for a while seeing this chick everyday...", "summary": "Dating co-worker"}
{"id": "t3_35nilv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there really just a cultural difference between my bf(30/M) and I (27/F)", "post": "My boyfriend is my first foreign boyfriend. I've never had a cross cultural relationship before him.\nI'm an asian, from Taiwan, my boyfriend is white, he's from the United States.\nWe had an argument few weeks ago because he tends to sweet talk to his female friends. \n(For example, he would tell his friend that she should never let him know when she is getting married, that will break his heart. As I remember, she told him to be a good boy. He responded by saying he can't. He's a child )\n\nHe told me, I knew he's a sweet talker before we met and that's just how westerners talk to their friends so he was just being nice to his friends. \nEven though I questioned his intention of sweet talk to his friends. But I knew he was getting annoyed by my question so I had to accept what he told me because I didn't want to fight nor did I want him to get mad.\n\nStill, I want to know if this is really a cultural difference.\nIsn't it weird of a man to sweet talk to other women when he's currently in a relationship?", "summary": "My boyfriend said westerners tend to sweet talk to their friends. Is it true?"}
{"id": "t3_2dlqpq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to make something [25F] happen with my professor [31 M]", "post": "I am finishing up my bachelors degree as a \"mature student\", and the first class I walked in wearing a jersey for the world cup, the professor starts joking saying my team is going to lose. Then I stop attending his class, because a. summer and b. he was weird. After an in class test forced me to return to his lectures, I realized I need to stop slacking even though it's summer. \n\nAnyway, everytime we talk he starts stuttering and we smile at each other all the time. I just have the most butterflies around him. Talking to him feels so natural.\n\nI have a feeling we have a connection and i'm not sure whether it's for real or i'm suffering from \"infatuation delusion\" to put it at best.\n\nAt the end of the last lecture we had, he invited all the students to go for a drink tomorrow night. Everyone seemed \"meh\" about the proposition, but I really want to go. What do you recommend I do? He is no longer my professor as of today.", "summary": "Am I going through a delusional infatuation with a young professor or should I act on it?"}
{"id": "t3_52qrfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] had a scarily real dream about my [23F] ex - we broke up 6 years ago", "post": "Teeny bit of background: My ex was the only partner I've ever had until I met my current girlfriend. We were together for just over a year, and we broke up in 2010. We have no contact any more, and haven't for years, but every once in a while (maybe 2 or 3 times a year?) I randomly find the memories of her crossing my mind - not in an \"I miss her\" or \"She was cool\" kind of way, more of an \"Oh yeah, I remember her\" kind of way (if that makes any sense).\n\nAnyway, she hasn't entered my mind for a good few months now, but last night, out of nowhere, I had a dream about her. It wasn't at all sexual, but we were in my old house, chatting, giggling, enjoying each others' company. We were getting really close again. Normally my dreams feel somewhat real, but this one was literally lifelike - I can't explain the sheer realism I felt throughout it. And at some point during the dream I was on my own, and I suddenly became panic-struck and froze, and thought \"This can't be real, this has to be a dream, come on, wake up\", and then the next thing I remember, I'm awake and it's 5am.\n\nI guess I have two questions here. The first one is, wtf was that dream about and where did it come from? It felt so real until the moment my dream-me realised it was a dream. The second question (which is more of a set of questions) is why does she keep crossing my mind at all? Why do I sometimes have this urge to quickly check her Facebook or Twitter and see what she's been doing with herself lately? Does everyone do this with their ex's? We had a great time but I can't say I miss her or am pining to be with her or anything of the sort, I've moved on (it's been 6 years, that part of my life has long since finished) and I don't really know why I'm unintentionally finding her on my mind as much as I am.", "summary": "Not been with ex for 6 years, occasionally wonder how she's doing, last night had a scarily real dream about us talking and laughing and getting quite close again, dream-me realised it was a dream and wanted me to wake up. Why does she keep sometimes crossing my mind and what was that dream all about?"}
{"id": "t3_43lhhk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not signing out of my mother's Amazon account", "post": "Unlike most stories this happened today. My parents pick me up from school and my mom asks me if I had bought anything on Amazon recently. I told her I bought the book I needed for classes. She then proceeded to tell me she looked at the \"recently viewed product list\" on Amazon and was highly disturbed.\n\nThanks to clicking reddit links, my mother found that not only did I view a 55 gallon drum of lube, but also two-person underwear. God knows what else she saw me looking at, but I tried to explain reddit. Not sure she bought it.", "summary": "Mom confronts me about viewing weird shit on amazon thanks to reddit"}
{"id": "t3_4f09ou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my long term crush [22 F] and confused feelings.", "post": "I've liked her for a really long time but she's always been in a relationship with this guy.\nI tried getting over her multiple times over several years but it just doesn't work out. I tried cutting out contact multiple times but I just end up crawling back and it makes me so happy to spend time with her.\n\nOne time she broke up with her boyfriend and it sort of gave me hope but she ended up telling me that they became FWBs instead and that ended up hurting me even more than the fact that she had a boyfriend. They eventually got back together though.\n\nI tried accepting the fact that I won't be together to her and got myself into cuckold porn. It seemed to work out for me because when I watch it, it turns me on a lot but when I think about her and her boyfriend it just ends up hurting instead.\n\nI've been in a few other relationships trying  to get over her but they never lasted because I really wasn't trying and I'm not really as interested in them as I am with her.\n\nI don't know what to do with myself anymore.", "summary": "can't get  over a girl that I've liked for a really long thing."}
{"id": "t3_1lnoaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a[34M] with my wife [33F] 10 years, I lost weight and am healthy and I find her less attractive.", "post": "I love my wife very much but our relationship has changed.\n\nWhen we were first dating we were both overweight and as time ticked by, nothing changed. \n\nWe both continued gaining weight. I got to the point where I was morbidly obese. I started losing weight and so did she.\n\n We were walking together, running together, eating better together, just generally being healthier together. And then she stopped. There was always an excuse for why she couldn't do something and they are hard to argue with( over worked and tired, feet hurt, etc.)\n \nSo, now I've lost 150 lbs and I feel amazing. But she, she's floundering.  I still love her but I'm not as physically attracted to her. There doesn't seem to be a way to nudge her along that won't be hurtful.", "summary": "Wife and I used to be fat, we lost weight. I kept going, she gave up."}
{"id": "t3_thqyi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What generally stimulates a redditor's upvote and downvote mechanism?", "post": "I'm fairly new to reddit. I've seen things on reddit that stimulate only positive emotions for me, such as a wedding toast that was truly hilarious receive nearly half dislikes. What is the reason for so many dislikes everywhere? and also at the same time, what stimulates a positive response on reddit? I never know whether to like something because it made me laugh, because I want it to gain further recognition, because I agree with it, or a mixture of all of those things. but some comments and pictures have a crazy disproportionate allocation of upvotes relative to the other comments.", "summary": "I'm new to reddit and want to know what makes you upvote, and what makes you downvote"}
{"id": "t3_162fz4", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "First time cooking a Ribeye.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nFirst time caller, long time listener here. I bought a steak yesterday as part of my New Years resolution to learn more about cooking. Now, I know there are a hundred posts on here about how to cook a steak. The searing, the flipping, the finishing off in the oven, etc. I've read through a lot of them, however I've decided it to be a better idea for me to reach out for some more specific advice. \n\nI plan on cooking the steak this evening. It's a beautifully marbled 1.25\" - 1.5\" cut of boneless ribeye. I don't believe it was dry-aged. I was planning on going out this morning to purchase a Lodge 12\" Cast Iron Skillet to cook in seeing as they are pre-seasoned, but after a bit of research, it seems only right to re-season the pan. The problem with this is that the process would take hours and I may not have that kind of time. My other option is a run-of-the-mill 12\" frying pan with a plastic handle, which leaves the option of finishing the steak off in the oven out unless I want melted cookware.\n\nAs for the rest of the process, I plan on letting the steak come to room temp for about 40 - 60 min before salting and I've decided on salting immediately before searing. As far as the sear goes, I have vegetable oil and I have unsealed butter. I like the idea of cooking the steak in oil and finishing it off in butter a la Chef Ramsey, although I'm still up in the air on the flipping method. To flip once or constantly, that is the question! After much research and it being my first time with such a nice cut of meat, I'm leaning more towards the flip every 15 - 20 secs as opposed to 1 flip. The reason is that since I'm unfamiliar with cooking a steak of this proportion, I will be better able to gauge cook time and achieve a more even sear, since I'm not positive on how long to cook on each side with the one flip method.\n\nSo fellow redditors, what advice do you have for me? Any and all is welcomed. Thanks!", "summary": "First time cooking a ribeye steak, 1.25\" - 1.5\" thick on stove top. Looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_1klwqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[22M] falling for my friend's girlfriend while I slowly watch their relationship fall apart. Any advice?", "post": "Almost a year ago, I went to visit my good friend who was away at school. There was a big party and I met this girl, and we hit it off. The only thing is, one of my best friends also hit it off with her. He had just gotten out of a really shitty relationship, and as much as I liked this girl, I let him have this one.\n\nFast-forward to about a month ago. I'm jobless and my dad is a dick, so he waited until I got laid off to kick me out. So now, I'm homeless and jobless at 22. Guess who takes me in? My friend and his girlfriend.\n\nNow, I knew they were having issues, but I had no idea how fucked up and abusive my friend was being. He constantly treats her like she's second class, puts her down, completely disregards anything she has to say and when she sticks up for herself or argues back he has no problem getting physical. I would've never expected this type of bullshit from him, and he's never even come close to treating another human being like this, let alone a girlfriend\n\nThe worst part is, this girl is absolutely amazing. She has the sweetest smile and is probably the most kind, caring person in the fucking world. Over the coarse of their relationship, her and I became good friends and very close and I get to hear all of the bullshit my friend pulls. I get the 1 am Facebook messages saying how he wants to break up with her. The next morning its like nothing happened and I look like a jackass for sticking up for her. \n\nI need advice Reddit, on what to say to them, and what to do in this situation. Any help would be appreciated", "summary": "I need advice on what to do as I'm falling for my friend's girlfriend while they're slowly falling apart, and I get a front row seat"}
{"id": "t3_vw0io", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend is an ent and I'm not. Need a little help.", "post": "Okay let me start by saying I don't care about what people do in their personal time. Weed is fine in my eyes I just don't personally do it because I feel I don't need to. If my girlfriend does it so what right? Well just yesterday I was hanging out with my girlfriend and her 2 best friends (both girls) and they were recalling of times when they got super high, went to go pickup from a drug dealer who offered them coke and meth and E pills. Now normally I wouldn't care what my girlfriend does but then her best friend tells of a story well they almost did coke and mescaline and all these drugs. I don't know why but when  she said that I had a little pain in my gut. I normally don't care because she is a human being and has a right to a choice of life, but I can't help but think... I wonder what she does at parties and what not? Am I overreacting? Has anybody been in the same boat? Anybody else have a significant other that does drugs where you do not? and I would like to add that I am worried about her health if she would start to do those things. Right now she just drinks and smokes but what if she does other things? I don't party as much because of my work schedule but she goes because she just graduated and she feels she needs some party time. I am fine with that but what goes on at said parties is what kinda worries me. And what she might do under the influence is a bit worry some as well. Just some questions I have. If you feel I'm wrong and should shut up just downvote the post :) Thanks for your time.", "summary": "Girlfriend is an ent, friend might get her to do other drugs. Should I care?"}
{"id": "t3_2yvz81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] broke up with my Girlfriend [23F]", "post": "Tonight I broke up with my Girlfriend of 3 years because of several issues between us. We were very much in love with some big fights along the way but in the end I planned on marrying her eventually.\n\nI have been going through a lot of issues with my family and eventually problems with her because of the way she's acted toward me. While in the past she was extremely supportive and was prepared to give an arm and a leg to make things ok with any problems I've had in my life, she is now extremely annoyed,quick tempered, and basically tells me tough shit like I'm some inconvenience to her.\n\nShe has been acting completely different and was beyond cold to me and any issues I had, for Example : Whenever I would tell her the way she's acting towards me is hurting me and is harsh she would completely shut down and threaten me with things like, \"I'm done talking to you\" or \"you're pissing me off. Stop making an issue out of nothing.\" \n\nShe would essentially punish me for feeling sad and kick me when I'm down and basically turn back to previous arguments and imply that i deserve it because my actions have consequences and I acted similar at times in our relationship. Which is true, I was a jerk for a period of time a year or two back. But I didn't think that justified anyone acting that way.\n\n I felt it was extremely manipulative but I didn't do anything about it because I thought maybe it was a phase or things would be ok or she would snap out of it. Eventually it got extremely bad to the point of me having panic attacks and just being outright anxious over talking to her about me even feeling ill or sad. With nobody there to help me I knew I needed to get out and clear my head. \n\nBut I don't know what to do. I loved her so much and would want nothing more than to go back to the way things were before. But with the way things are it seems impossible. She doesn't seem like the same person at all. I want to move on but I don't know if it's the right thing or if I'm just praying for the impossible", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend over issues between us. Not sure how I should move on or if that's even the right decision"}
{"id": "t3_1yh49n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What should we (27f and (23m) do as a couple before moving in together?", "post": "I've never moved in with a boyfriend before. \n\nMy mother is very religious and I was brought up to believe that moving in before marriage was wrong. She has even said that if I move in with my S.O. (who she LOVES!!) before we get married, she will not be contributing financially to the wedding. But I'm a big girl and I'm not going to let my mother call the shots with my life.\n\nI'm a tiny bit... nervous? apprehensive? about moving in with him. He's a student and lives in his mom's house. He's never moved out before. He's only living there for the sake of free rent, though. He constantly talks about how his mom belittles him and how she has zero interest in his studies. Sometimes she will throw fits and say that he should be out of the house as he's almost 24. \n\nWe finally talked about moving in together in December and we both really want to make this happen. YET everytime I bring it up now, the end conclusion is always \"I don't know about a time line, I don't know what I'm going to be doing with school, I can't move into your place now with (my roomie and brother) being there.\" Enough to make me think like, HEY do you reaaaally want to move out with me? Yet he insists he wants nothing more than to do that!\n\nI've put my financial crap on the table for him and I to discuss (yet I've yet to see his monthly finances). \n\nI don't know where to go from here!", "summary": "Love my SO of 3 years, Confused about what steps to take before moving in together."}
{"id": "t3_tjdaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can it go on ?", "post": "I (19) and my girlfriend (19)have been dating for about two years, with the usual little road-bumps we both loved each other and were happy. Then i start to get this bad feeling in my gut.I try and talk to her but she pretends like nothing is wrong...\nbut i find out she had lunch with an ex and they have been talking for awhile but nothing ever happend.. \n           \nThen a guy from work starts coming around and she eventually tells me they just flirt for fun but, he tried to kiss her while they were laying on the couch... She said she did this because she thought i was mad at her... \nand then i find out she had been sexting pictures with a person over the internet.. \n\ni broke up with her and she freaks out.. cuts herself and tells me she needs me and isn't ready to break up.. i don't know what to do. She is still my girlfriend still but, i can't stop thinking about it\nI haven't told anyone else about this..thanks", "summary": "Girlfriend consistently unfaithful, wants to stay together but i don't know if it will work"}
{"id": "t3_2ros7k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my wife lost in a Florida Swamp.", "post": "I'm this guy.\n\nI ended up flying my wife to Florida to meet up with the me on a potential day off.  After many delays and schedule changes, it looked like we may not have been able to meet up at all, we got about 18 hours together.  She picked me up and we went to the hotel and had a great time.  In the morning we headed out and I mentioned that I would like to go for a short hike as I was going to be ashore for another 20-22 days.  So we headed to a FL State Park and started walking.  \n\nAt first it was great, she was sexy and flirty and even naked for part of the walk.  We walked on a great dirt trail and a paved loop road.  We kept looking for trail maps but to no avail.  Finally we consulted google maps and realized that the road we were on would take us FAR away from where we wanted to go.  So we backtracked and found a trail that would.  It was totally swamped out and unpassable so we backtracked and headed for the next one.  \n\nWe found a semi paved road that was heading in  the right direction and went down.  It was a two rut path for a while and then petered out completely.  I said \"we need to go back\".  I was confident that we could get back the way we came but she was convinced that weren't far from a real trail.  We were, but goddamned if we could get there.  Spiders, swamp, thick brush.  Fuck.  At one point we  were 500' feet from the car and just couldn't get there, swamp and river in the way.  When I almost took a giant Orb Weaver spider to the face she completely freaked out.\n\nI finally convinced her to backtrack and we were able to get to the car without further difficulties but needless to say the blowjob mood was completely and utterly destroyed.\n\nLesson:  My wife has agreed to always listen to me when it comes to hiking and I have agreed to never listen to her.", "summary": "Sexytime becomes Lost In The Swamp Time."}
{"id": "t3_eldvz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need to catch up on movies.  From all time.  What movies/lists of movies have you seen that you feel shouldn't be missed?", "post": "I want movies that are well crafted, artistically interesting, provocative and/or entertaining.  I have a bit of appreciation for the composition of scenes and dramatic narrative, mostly from high school and college electives on film, so I don't think the Criterion collection would entirely go over my head.  But I don't consider myself an expert.  Bonus points if the films aren't too dry.\n\nAnyway, any genre is fair game.  Links to the IMDB or Amazon page would be nice, but not crucial so long as the title is correct.\n\nAnd if you want to refer me to books or lists online that are really good, that's great, too.  I've been meaning to look through Roger Ebert's suggestions, as well as some of those \"N Movies to See Before You Die\" books.", "summary": "What movies have you seen and then felt like you'd be missing something significant if you hadn't seen it?"}
{"id": "t3_4ga0si", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "saying goodbye to my (25F) ex (24M)", "post": "Me (25F) and my recent ex (24M) broke up about a little over a month ago. We dated about 6 months and I honestly really fell for him. We broke up because, well, he's going to jail for a little under a year. He was completely honest about it being a possibility from the beginning (he was going through court stuff for part of the relationship) but honestly he was an amazing and caring guy for the entire relationship. It wasn't anything violent or drug related, just a very stupid decision on his part that he's owned up to. \n\nThe breakup was relatively amicable (initiated by him) and while I still love him, I'm doing my best to move on. We've hung out once since the breakup and still text each other once a week or so. He gets sentenced this week and I probably wont be able to see him in person, but I want to at least tell him goodbye. I guess I just don't know if it'd be appropriate to text/call him or what to even say to him or if it'd just be a bad idea to say anything at all.", "summary": "Ex going to jail and not sure if I should say goodbye"}
{"id": "t3_12trse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24] and I [22] are having issues about cleaning.", "post": "We have been together 2 years and living together a little less than 1 year.\n\nThe main issue we are having about the cleaning is that I have higher standards than he does. However, I feel like what I am asking from him is more than fair and he should be able to make a few small changes to his behavior.\n\nWhen we moved in together, I told him I would take care of the actual cleaning (dusting, vaccuuming, laundry etc.) as long as he would maintain throughout the week and not make messes that had to be picked up first when its time to clean. I made this agreement because of my previously mentioned higher standards and because I tend to like things being done \"my way\". Plus he usually works on saturday and I get bored anyways.\n\n Basically my expectations are that he put dirty clothes in the basket, throw away his trash instead of leaving it on the table, wipe up spills, and help out if I ask... I feel like this is pretty basic stuff, especially since he is home more often than I am. It takes me longer to clean if I have to round up dirty socks from every corner and throw away a weeks worth of soda cans first. It makes me feel taken for granted, unappreciated, and occasionally like the dreaded \"replacement mom\"\n\nI've discussed this with him before and he says he doesn't really care how clean our place is, doesn't think about it, and he's just a messy person and this is how he is. That last part about him just being messy is the thing that really pisses me off because I think I have asked for very reasonable things and it makes it sound like he's unwilling to change. To his credit he has gotten a little better (last apartment he had was a disaster) but there's still room for improvement and thats all I'm asking for.\n\nSo /r/relationships my questions are 1. I think I'm being reasonable, am I? 2. How can we work together to solve this? Yesterday when we argued again I suggested doing a daily pick up before bed, what else can we do?", "summary": "typical living together issues where I have higher standards of cleanliness. I would like him to stop leaving little messes around, how can I communicate that better and what are your suggestions for improving this problem?"}
{"id": "t3_x0i7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "give up hope, reddit?", "post": "Backstory: I was dating this wonderful woman for about 6 months. We would talk everyday for hours on the phone and hang out weekly, etc. My impression was things were getting to serious and she got scared and ended things. Told me she had \"intimacy issues\" and wanted to be friends. Shes blunt so she told me she usually says that to guys to soften the blow but genuinely meant it with me since we became close enough to consider each other best friends. Well whatever.\n\nIssue: we hung out for the first time (actually second but I don't count the first time) in like 3 months celebrating my recent acceptance to grad school where she is partial reason why I applied. It was a fantastic time. I went in with the mentality of not to expect anything so I wouldn't be disappointed. We hung out until the bar closed. She took me to a park and we sat and talked about life until about 3 or 4am. Got to her house sat in her car and talked some more until about 6. I walked her to her and she asked to come all the way to my place to sleep over. We didn't do anything luckily plus I was exhausted since I was up for 24 hrs straight. Drove her home when we woke up.\n\nSummary: I'm ecstatic that our friendship is established and we can genuinely be in each others company without arguing or discussing \"us\" every convo. However, it's been a week and we haven't talked. I try not to think too much into it but why would she do that knowing I still have feelings for her? I accepted the fact that we prob won't have a future together and I'm fine but I still have that little hope in the back of my mind. The more time passes the more I give up hope. Should I give up on things ever being the same? Is it safe to say fate has something else in store for me? Thanks for hearing me out...", "summary": "I met the \"perfect girl\" everything was going good, then it ended because of her \"intimacy issues\". She slept over 3 months after breakup and disappeared again, should i give up hope for a future?"}
{"id": "t3_28qyhv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 26m with my fianc\u00e9e 26f. Her mother is going through a divorce and she asked me for a prenup. Got mad when I was upset by it. Did I overreact?", "post": "So as the title says, my fianc\u00e9e asked me for a prenuptial agreement. My initial reaction was becoming upset and telling her that it seems like a sign of mistrust. After thinking about it more and researching how these things typically work I told her that I'd be open to discussing it more. \n\nHowever, now she is angry because I reacted emotionally rather than logically initially. This is something I've been working on improving. I am seeing a counsellor about anxiety issues and my emotional responses to things have been a topic of conversation between my counsellor and I as well as an issue of contention in my relationship. \n\nAs it stands right now we are both at work and While I think we will be able to resolve the issue I'm not sure if that will be the case. I told her that my emotional reaction to things is something I've been working on and making a conscious effort to stop. She said she hasn't noticed and I told her then that means that it's working. The fact that I have to make a conscious effort \"makes her skin crawl\". \n\nDid I overreact? What should I do from here?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9e wants prenup, my reaction to her request opened up a bigger relationship issue. "}
{"id": "t3_29s9ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my FRIEND [35 F] 4 Months duration, CRAZY LOVE. I have thoughts to hurt myself please help me :(", "post": "I'm a 27 year old who fell in love first time 4 months ago. \nThe lady I'm in love with is 35 single and pretty awesome. \nWe met and talked only for sometime. I love her for who she is. \nShe is awesome as a person and as a person and I like her looks too and she's super cute. But things got worse when I told her I love her. \n\n---\n\nI know people will say I should love my self first. I do love myself. I love her too. My problem is, she was so good to me. I was so lonely for so long.  I never had a friend like her. She was not selfish, She is not a bad girl .She was all the nice girl I dreamed off. I can tell the details. But it was super cute. \n\n---\n\nI ended up telling her. I love her, she started hating me. We were friends. \nBut she didn't leave me we still had good chats. \nThen I told her , I hate her because she doesn't reply. \nShe took it seriously. \nI am in severe depression. I am thinking to go on meds or something. \n\n---\n\nI don't know what to do . Everyday I tell myself, I won't message her. \nBut I message her saying I love her and I miss her. \n\nI am sad and depressed and I'm thinking to hurt myself. \nBut I won't. I am just crying all the time. I am missing her. \n\n---\n\nPLEASE, if you cannot give me support don't make me feel more crappier. In those four months, I didn't message her for almost 10 days . So that she has space and time to think. \nBut nothing got better. \n\nI feel crappier and hate myself, I see my dream girl going. I will never be able to meet someone like her.", "summary": "I'll appreciate some advice on how to get her back or just forget her. "}
{"id": "t3_2angt1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I fight for my Pay on my Promotion?", "post": "I'm here to cover my bases because my personal research did not bear fruit. I work at a customer service center in Minnesota. Recently (May 2014) I was promoted to a supervisory position. The position came with a  $.50 raise which I was happy with. There was an error in my promotion documentation with management and it was never properly processed until the first pay period of July for us (I had brought it up after two pay periods from my promotion). When I brought it up a second time to my own manager (picture office space), they informed me on the date in my file that my promotion was listed. It was listed as (June 17th). So the higher up I spoke to, put in my promotion date on some random day, and I have not seen a cent of back pay. My fellow supervisors are telling me to fight for back pay, but I dont want to lose my job and I work in a place that has a strong undertone of \"Fear the Higher-ups for your job's safety\".\n\nI'm tired of being a spineless drone. I dont want to do this for the money. I dont want to do this to make waves or be \"that guy\". I want to do this because I feel it is right. I want to know what I can do to have things fixed because I do not believe I should fear my employer and when majority of my co-workers both below and above me in rank are telling me to make this a \"Do or Die\" situation, I need to know my options.", "summary": "version - I got promoted in May. Project Manager marked it as Mid June. I'm not getting back pay for what I worked. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3du56m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Undeniable attraction between me (28/f) and guy friend (25/m) I've known 3 - 4 years now. We've never been single at the same time, and likely never will. How do I get past this attraction?", "post": "He's in a relationship at the moment. I am not.\n\nWe hadn't seen each other in about nine months until the day before yesterday. We've pretty much spent the entirety of that time hanging out since. Just talking and laughing, a little teasing; flirting, but not taking it any further than a playful elbowing. His gf wasn't around during any of this.\n\nHe's not going to cheat, I don't want that anyway.\n\nThere's just an undeniable attraction there. There always has been. But the stars have never aligned. And I don't think they ever will. \n\nWe don't even see each other very often. I don't pine for him when I don't see him. But whenever we do, it's just BAM - instant connection. And I kind of want to get rid of that. The past couple of days have been so lovely, but now what? - He goes back to his girlfriend and I'm left wondering all sorts of 'what if we'd met at a different time?', 'What if he broke up with his girlfriend?', etc etc.\n\nSo I guess I'm asking how do I emotionally distance myself from all of this? From him? Like I said, if things were to be different, I think this guy would be the one. But they're not - so he's not.\n\nI don't want to have to deal with this upheaval of emotions every time I see him. I don't want to meet someone else and get into a relationship, then have feelings for him start to confuse a potentially positive relationship.\n\nI just want done with this attraction.", "summary": "Strong connection between myself and a man I've known for three - four years now. The stars will never align, we are not to be. Is there anything I can do to get rid of my attraction to him? Or just anything that might help me feel less attracted to him? Cheers!"}
{"id": "t3_k1ocx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone explain this? (x-post from 2x)", "post": "So, a cute guy my age just bought a bar from a friend of mine. We met two weeks ago and hit it off immediately. He dropped that he's single and programmed his number into my phone (didn't ask for it) before I left.\n\nNext time I saw him, we talked for a while and he asked me to come back that Saturday. In between, we started texting. Conversations were brief but included a little about where he's from, what I'm wearing (right?!), his interests, and that he was looking forward to seeing me.\n\nI came back as promised. He asked me out. Then, he canceled the day before, giving what sounded like a legit excuse and cupping my hand in his as he apologized.\n\nFast forward two days to today. I thought I'd be flirty and sent him a text telling him I'd had fun with friends the night we were supposed to have gone out but think I would have had more fun with him, given how much fun we'd had just at the bar.\n\nThe response? \"That's sweet of you.\"\n\nWhat the fuck? Now I've made him uncomfortable and embarrassed myself. He was flirting like crazy, asked what I was wearing, asked ME out on a date and all he can say when I flirt is \"that's nice?\" I don't get men at all.", "summary": "man sends super flirty signals and then completely backs off when I reciprocate. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_1ifcy9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [f/23] and I [m/23] (3 years) disagree on parenting, but we don't even have kids. Help?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 years. For the record, we have no plans on getting married or having babies (or even moving in together) *anytime soon*.  We met in college, but we're now both out of school and are working at day jobs.\n\nHowever, there's this one big thing we found out that we disagree on regarding kids... She wants to be a working mom, and basically go back to work after maternity leave. I think it's important to have a parent there during all the years before a child goes to school (after that, I think working would be good). I really think that if this were to happen, she should be the one to do it because she is more nurturing / gentle than I am, and I think it would balance out as I would be the more authoritative one. I would of course be willing to contribute in other ways such as after work and on weekends.  She, however, doesn't think that children *need* to have a stay at home parent for all the years before they enter school in order to have a good upbringing, and she views it as giving up her career, even though she could potentially go back to work afterwards. Neither of us seems willing to take the other person's viewpoint. I don't really know what to do.\n\nWe both love each other and acknowledge that we'll each change a lot before the time for kids comes, so maybe this discussion is premature. However, we're also afraid of just pushing aside a potentially important topic if it will just bring even more hurt later. We've each invested a lot in the relationship, and I don't think we want to see it go because of a potential issue that may or may not actually turn out to be a real issue depending on the circumstances of the future.\n\nDo you guys have any suggestions for good reading material that I can show her or that I can ready myself? Or tips on how we should navigate this within our relationship at the moment? Dealbreaker?", "summary": "i think she should take more time off for kids, she doesn't want to."}
{"id": "t3_2j17kb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "( f21 ) pregnant with boyfriend of 4 months baby (m34 ) is he even interested ?", "post": "I Apologise  for the spelling I'm not the brightest bulb in the box. \n\nI have been dating my boyfriend for four months. We got pregnant the first time we had sex everything was rough at first he wanted me to get rid of the baby I didn't want to get rid of it and he stuck by me and he said he would never leave me ect. \n\nSo far he doesn't seem to be to interested in the fact that I'm pregnant and he never touches my belly or asked how I'm feeling. he lets me get on with things. So far I have bought almost everything he hasn't offered to buy anything he is on ten times more money than I am. I recently found out he suffers with depression has this got something to do with the fact he doesn't seem to be interested at all. \n\nam I just being dramatic ?", "summary": "Boyfriend doesn't seem interested that I'm carrying his kid ?"}
{"id": "t3_tbx3o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "1.5 years into relationship...not entirely happy anymore but can't put a finger on why.", "post": "BF (M,25) and I (F,24) have been dating for 1.5 years. Leading up to and during the first few months of our relationship, we made each other so happy- I always looked forward to seeing him and talking to him 110%. There was no effort to it, we were just genuinely excited to be with each other and could have the most engaging conversations about any subject. Great chemistry, great sex, great companionship.\n\nOver the past few months, I've been feeling some distance grow between us. In terms of our actions and interactions, I can't say much has changed... except I don't feel as excited to be with him anymore. Our conversations in general are less engaging. Sex is getting a less interesting. The worst days are when we are together and I can't think of much to say to him. We don't make each other laugh as much as we did before. There's less energy in general and it makes me pretty fucking sad because I still love him deeply.\n\nIf you're going to suggest \"new relationship spark gone?  Try and spice things up!\" well, I have. Since feeling this way, I've initiated some outdoorsy trips (we both love outdoors) and we have been on date nights in the city. Although these events are fun for the while, my growing feelings of discontentment still linger underneath.\n\nIs this what normally happens after the 1.5 year mark? Don't get me wrong, I still love him a lot.. Yet I find myself yearning for the energy and excitement what we used to have. Unfortunately the consequence has led me to wonder more than I'd like to admit about the prospect of being with other people.", "summary": "Relationship started off awesome, but the last few months I feel an ambiguous loss of connection even after trying to spice things up. We still make each other happy and are excited to be with one another but much less so than before... Is this a sign we're not meant to be or is this normal after 1.5 years?"}
{"id": "t3_4m4uqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [33 M] ex-girlfriend [30 F] is demanding a gift back that she gave me", "post": "We were officially together for about 6 months but on and off \"dated\" for probably 6 months beforehand as well.\n\nShe gave me a framed picture of the Seattle skyline for my birthday last year. It's a pretty cool picture and I have it hung in my entry way. We broke up a few months ago, and she said she'd come by at some point to pick up the stuff she left at my house. The stuff consists of some random articles of clothing, some board games, and some bobble heads. I have no problem returning these to her. However, she is demanding that I give back the picture which I don't think she has the right to do. At this point, I almost want to just keep it for the principle of the thing. \n\nSo we were not very civilly discussing this today, and I told her if she wants the picture back, then I'll drill a hole through the middle of it and put it in her bag of stuff. She then threatened that if I do that, she will call the police.\n\nOne: Does she have any case with the police? That picture has been hanging in my house for months. \n\nTwo: Should I just bite the bullet and give it back? I feel like that just validates her threats.", "summary": "Ex wants a gift she gave me back. I don't want to give it back because it was a gift. She wants to involve the police. Should I give it back? It's a really cool picture."}
{"id": "t3_2f2nnj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by choosing Pokemon over pussy [Slightly NSFW - Themes]", "post": "This happened back around the release date of pokemon X/Y (October 25, 2013). There was this girl who had been trying repeatedly to pass hints that she was interested in me. At the time, I was interested in another girl, so I ignored them.\n\nI was pokemon-deprived as I had skipped the black/white generations and had not played any in a really long time. I was looking forward to purchasing and playing pokemon Y, counting down the days like it was New Years eve. You can play with the pokemon and feed them snacks! One week before the release date, the girl lays out all her cards and decides to be completely blunt and forward and invites me over to do \"anything I can possibly imagine/want together\". [Sex? Maybe an optimistic assumption]\n\nI was unemployed at the time being, budget was extremely tight and the only free money in my pocket was on reserve for pokemon. She went to college in the next state over and I do not have a car. The cheapest, most reasonable way would've been a 4 hour train ride and a two-way ticket would've costed the same as the game. \n\nFor a long period of time, I debated it and stood many long nights awake in deep philosophical thought. Estimating how much \"happiness\" each choice would have made in a utilitarianism sense. On one hand, there was a night of great fun with a beautiful woman but on the other hand furry little critters that you can collect and battle each other. Hundreds of hours of battling and breeding, the game sits on my shelf unused with all my regrets in the long run and my balls remain dry. ]=\n\nThings didn't work out with the other girl and recently became interested in the girl of the story. My face when she says I'm her soul mate (in a friendship/I completely understand her) and have achieved the next level of friend zone. So I got that going for me...", "summary": "Choice of Pokemon or pussy, gave myself blue balls and was \"soulmate\"-zoned"}
{"id": "t3_13g7yr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One of my legs[and foot] is significantly \"different\" from the other. This makes everyday life just a little more annoying. What abnormalities do you have that annoy you daily?", "post": "I was born with one of my legs being shorter than the other (1.5\"+). The foot on the shorter leg only has 4 toes, is about 1.5 shoe sizes smaller, and is noticeably more narrow than the other.  \n  \nFor some reason this has been something I have been embarrassed about for as long as I can remember (I am now in my mid twenties). I've always hidden this from my friends, strangers, and even non-immediate family.  \n  \nBecause of my embarrassment, every time it is socially acceptable to have my shoes/socks off it becomes a game of \"hide the weird foot\". And the big daily annoyance is footwear. I can never find shoes that really fit me. Either one foot is scrunched into a shoe that is too small or the other is floating around in a shoe that is too big.\n\nOkay, now that I have announced my closest of secrets to the whole interweb, let's hear what abnormalities annoy you on a daily basis.", "summary": "I have one shorter leg/smaller foot w/ 4 toes. Fucking annoying."}
{"id": "t3_2yt7w2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally throwing a bag of shit at my friend", "post": "This is my first ever post so be lenient on me. Also, this actually happened yesterday, but its been less than 24 hours so I don't care.\n\nSo a little background: I'm a competitive high school swimmer. We have duel meets against other schools. Yesterday we had a meet against another high school in town, but that's not too important. \n\nAnyway, after the meet, I'm in the locker room with my team. Im dressing out, getting dry after rinsing off the chlorine from the pool.\n\nI'm putting on my shirt as my friend, we'll call him Gerbs, runs up and puts a zip lock bag full of mushy brown stuff that looks suspiciously like shit into my bag. It leaking and it smells awful. He runs away, and I do the only reasonable thing that comes to mind it the two seconds of comprehending what just happened. I wanted that nasty bag of who-knows-what out of my stuff. So I grab it, and throw it away from me.\n\nThe moment it left my hand, it seemed to go in slow motion as I realized that throwing it was the worst thing I could have done. It spirals toward the wall, just as my other friend, I'll call him Claw, walks around the corner. \n\nLets just say it explodes all over the place, smells awful, and additionally, coats Claw's brand new warm-up jacket in the brown stuff. Its all over the room, in the water fountain, and leaving its chunks all over the room. \n\nTurns out that it was just a peanut butter sandwich. And my other friend Tim is allergic to peanuts. And he's the one who made the shitty sandwich mush by adding water and mushing it up. Guess he doesn't take anaphylactic shock seriously.", "summary": "Threw a bag of nasty peanut butter sandwich mush. Made a big mess."}
{"id": "t3_3a3yp2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22M] girlfriend's [22F] parents gave me a check for graduation and I'm not sure what to do", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and her parents have known me for about the same amount of time. This past weekend, we both graduated together from the same major in college. Yesterday, when I went to see my girlfriend again, she handed me an envelope and said that her parents told her to give it to me. Inside was a card congratulating me on graduating, as well as a check for $50.\n\nNow I know this isn't some large amount, but I'm not sure how to react when I see her parents. My girlfriend doesn't know what to do either. Should I take the money or would it be considered rude to give back? If I should take it, how should I thank them? What do I say?\n\nThis is my first relationship so I really have no clue and no experience with something like this. Help me, Reddit!", "summary": "I received a check from my girlfriend's parents for graduating and I'm not sure how appropriate it is to accept it."}
{"id": "t3_2m8qof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my BF [22 M] of 7 months, how to deal with possible ADD/anxiety issues", "post": "My boyfriend had a rough childhood. His parents split when he was about 5. His mom suffered from mental/sexual abuse from her father, causing her to be not as nurturing to him. And my boyfriend's dad started drinking heavily following the divorce. He still lives with his dad (clean now) and stepmom but isn't as close with his mom (sees her every month or so). From what he's told me he was a troublemaker when he was younger, wasn't diagnosed with ADHD but most likely had it.\n\nAnyway, down to the main point of this- my boyfriend has a lot of issues now. I love him, but lately there's been a couple setbacks. He's a great boyfriend, it's just what he does to himself...that also affects me. Like getting fired from his job for being late (he quickly found a new one, but still). Or dropping a class (he's still in school, I graduated in May and have a full-time job now) because he wasn't doing well in it. Or getting nostalgic and sad while drinking in his hometown and DRIVING.\n\nI worry about him, and our future, because of his decisions.\n\nHe's been to a psychiatrist before. Him and I have both researched and are pretty sure he has adult ADD, anxiety, depression, I don't know... \n\nI just want someone to reassure me that he can get help and get his life together before it ends up destroying our relationship. I can't constantly be worrying about him when we're not together. Or someone to let me know how I can deal with it and help him.", "summary": "Boyfriend had a rough childhood, has a lot of issues with anxiety lately, possibly ADD, lost job, dropped a class, drinking"}
{"id": "t3_2z5z13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my BF [25M] of 2.5 years, we've lived together since before we started dating. Feel like it might be a good idea to live apart for a while", "post": "I've been dating my BF for about 2.5 years, and we've basically lived together since right before we started dating. We both have a year left in school after this Spring (he's getting his MS, I'm getting my BS) and after that we are both going to look for somewhere to live, probably in a different state than both our families and all of our friends. I posted previously about some issues we're having in our relationship, and now I'm at a point where I think it would be a good idea to step back and really evaluate if this is both what we want. \n\nI brought up the idea of living apart about a week ago, and he didn't really respond. He says it sounds like a break up and shuts down. To be perfectly honest, our relationship has soured a bit lately and that may end up happening. But I want the relationship to work and I see living apart as the best thing to do before we have to make the huge decision of moving together next year, assuming we're together by then. The reason I want to live apart is because I feel like we've both grown around this relationship rather than independently, and I need to look at our relationship and myself from a different perspective. I'm hopeful, but doubtful as well. \n\nI'm not sure how to approach this with him again, but I'd like to sooner rather than later. Any guidance would be appreciated.", "summary": "Lived with my BF since before we started dating. Think that living apart for our last year of school is the best thing for our relationship at this point. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1hav5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22F] and my ex boyfriend [19M] Just ended our 7 month relationship and I'm a bit confused emotionally.", "post": "I've never really done this so please bear with me. My (long distance) boyfriend recently broke up with me and I'm not quite sure what my brain is doing at this point. We had not spoken for about 1.5 weeks before he ended it because he needed some personal time to think about his life and whatnot.  During that week, it was literally a living hell. I didn't know what was going on, I was constantly worried about him, and I had already assumed that I had lost him. He contacted me and told me that he did not feel like he is ready for a relationship. He said he needed to focus on himself before he could even think about focusing on someone else. I understood where he was coming from and agreed it would be for the best if that's how he really felt. \n\nNow here is where I get a bit confused. I've never had a break up before. I was sad at first but I felt like everything was going to be okay and that I was going to be able to move on. Today I was in a really good mood and was very happy, but out of nowhere a flood of emotion took over and I just had to burst into tears. I just don't even know what to expect after a break up. Is that a normal response? Or are there any tips for getting over something like this? I just really don't know what to expect. It's just odd because this is a whole new experience for me and it's a bit unsettling because I have no idea what to expect.", "summary": "I've never been through a breakup before. I felt everything was okay and have been in a good mood generally, but out of nowhere I just burst into tears and was in a world of emotional hurt. Is that normal and what else can I expect? Any tips about how to deal with a break up would be awesome as well. Thank you guys! <3"}
{"id": "t3_2tkpzj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my roommate[18-20?F] I'm 99% sure she is smoking weed in our (suite-style dorm) bathroom, advice please.", "post": "As the title says I'm fairly certain that my roommate has been smoking weed in the bathroom that she and I share with two other girls. More than once she has been in there for a really long time not showering or using the bathroom and then when she flushes and comes out the bathroom REEKS of marijuana. I don't smoke  but I don't mind other people doing so. It's just that we go to a small southern university and this shit could get US (her, me and our suite-mates) in serious trouble. \n\nI'm super non-confrontational and I can't bring myself to confront her because I can't really prove that it's happening or that it's her and I have to live with the girl until May. Advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Positive roommate is smoking weed in the bathroom, how do I end this?"}
{"id": "t3_wspvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend about to break up. What to do?", "post": "[18 yo]I've been in a 6 months long distance relationship with my girlfriend[17 yo], and now when she came home (for good), I'm pretty certain she is going to break up with me. The reason why I think so is because she said we need to talk, and it would be better if we met somewhere in town, instead of me just coming over to her place. \nNow, our relationship is a bit weird because I never really got to know her well before she went to spain for 6 months. We have kept in touch almost everyday, and I've tried my best to stay in touch with her, but that has been through facebook and texts. Whenever she was back in town, it was weird for us to see each other again, so we both acted a bit weird and distant towards each other. That always wore off when we got used seeing each other, but as soon as that happened she had to go again.\n\nShe came home 2 weeks ago, and we've only been able to meet once. And just like before, it was weird seeing her again. I still act a bit distant around her, but I try my best not to. She probably wants to break up, because she might have lost boyfriend feeling towards me, that it doesn't feel like we're a couple anymore, and that we've grown apart. But I know that if we can just get used to each other and get to know to each other better, it will be all different. I really love this girl. Everything about her is so imperfectly perfect. I really want this relationship to work, and I know it will if we gave it a try.\n\nWhat can I say to her to make her re-evaluate our relationship and not just put an end to it? I'm bad with words, so hopefully someone on here can help. Thanks.\n\nAnd sorry for being all over the place. Again, I'm bad with words.", "summary": "I think my girlfriend is going to break up with me, because we act distant towards each other after a long-distance relationship. What to do/say?"}
{"id": "t3_1orybq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16/M] In love with girl [17/F] but she's older, I don't have an opportunity to speak to her and don't know how she feels about me", "post": "Sorry the title was long, this might be to. It's a kind of specific situation that I'm not sure how to approach. I work part time a fast food place, usually at the back preparing food while she works at the front serving customers. Because of this there is literally no chance or time for us to talk. However a few people left from the front so I trained up there with her today for 2 hours. \n\nIt went fine, we laughed and chatted, got to know each other a bit and we were both smiling a lot. However I'm not sure if I'm working at the front after this so that might have been my only chance to talk to her - ever. I've wanted to get to know her ever since she started, she has such a cute smile is has always been friendly whenever our paths have crossed but now I don't know what to do. I learned today that she's a year older than me (she's 17) and going to uni next year. I can't stop thinking about her and I don't know what to do. She was so nice to me but I might never see her again plus if she's older than me is that weird? I mean where do I go from here? She's clever, we have a similar personality and I really really like her, a lot but I don't know how she feels about me. I've only spoke to her for 2 hours just... what do I do?\n\nSorry if this was kind of a vent I just really need some advice, what the hell do I do? I think I'm fucking in love with her. I'd really love some advice here.", "summary": "In love with a girl at work who is a year older, I've only spoke to for two hours and may never have the chance to talk to her again, what do I do now? Where do I go from here? "}
{"id": "t3_2ojx59", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my Boyfriend [22 M] 3 weeks, and he just got arrested.", "post": "I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks, and have been friends since August.\n\nLast week, he was being very distant and vague about what was going on/ why he kept canceling dates, etc. It turns out he was arrested for DUI Marijuana. \n\nI am really hurt because he didn't tel me immediately, he only told me when I told him I needed the truth or I needed out of this relationship.\n\nNow I am really confused about what to do. I want to trust him, but I dont know how to rebuild this trust.\n\nWe had planned for him to come meet my parents in 2 weeks. My father is a police officer.", "summary": "Short term boyfriend arrested for pot, lies, and supposed to meet cop father. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_45qndx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A Guy [20sM] from uni has started sending me [22F] harassing messages again, what can I do?", "post": "Hey everyone!\n\nI will try and keep this concise. Basically, there was a guy who, when I was at uni, wrote some really horrible comments about wishing the tutors would get cancer, etc. I told him that it was a horrible thing to say (silly me, rising to the trolls), and then he started harassing me, calling me horrific things. It got to the point where I reported him to the university and they forced him to apologise. It was all forgotten about until recently (when we had both finished the course), I had another load of messages from him, being generally insulting and saying that he hoped I would get cancer. Nothing that he has said is threatening/illegal, I just think its pretty horrific behaviour. A friend of mine confided in me that the guy used to stalk him and has admitted to being schizophrenic. Is there anything I can do about this? It's not really worthy of reporting to the police but he has done similar things to other people and I don't think he should be able to do so unchallenged. Maybe a letter to his current university?\n\nThanks in advance for any advice :)", "summary": "A guy from uni was harassing me a while back. He stopped when he was made to apologise. Now we have both finish the course, he has started again. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3p03hq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my __Bestfriend_ [16F] Bestfriend is talking to my ex's ex and causing me to not care anymore.", "post": "Hey, So the story goes something like this. About 3 months ago the girl I liked who I'll call T broke up with her boyfriend. We started talking and went out for about a month much to the displeasure if my best friend A. Eventually things between me and T broke down and she started spreading rumours about me some good some bad. I didn't really care but A did and told me she'd fix it as she hates T.\n\nFast forward to recently A has started taking to T's ex who I'll call P. Now P is what I would call a FukBoi, he only wants to get into girls pants and dosent care who that girl may be. Now my friend A goes through a lot of stuff at home and I recently realised she has a pattern, some guy starts talking to her and is nice and she backs ally falls for him. Now the thing is T told me that P basically forced her to have sex after she said no, now I was really annoyed at first as A thinks she is stronger than an 18 Yr and I doubt this. I expressed my concern of him trying to touch her and she basically brushed me aside.\n\nLastly, one of the people in our friend group said that P was just trying to get back at me for going out with his ex as he was very controlling of. I seem to feel that this is rather likely. \n\nTo finish off the reason I don't really care anymore is she never listens to me and I've been right about the last 5 dudes aswell as the fact she is willing to put herself in what I feel is a dangerous situation because \"I can do what I want\". I can already tell this is going to cause more drama between me, A,T and P who supposedly wants to hurt me. Also somewhat irrelevant but she drinks at least 4 times a week but won't let me help her, this is making me feel like what's the point in trying when you push me away.\n\nP.s if he touches her I will probably do bad things to him", "summary": "Bestfriend is talking to my ex's ex and I am sick of the drama."}
{"id": "t3_2vn74c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling a dwarf very little", "post": "On an early morning, I was walking my little brother to school, it was pretty hot, a temperature of about 33 degrees Celsius for the morning.\nAs we were walking along a footpath, we were getting closer towards the school. This school has 2 entrances down a side street or a quicker walk up the hill.\n\nHe suggested that we take side street because it was hot but then I suggested let's just go up the hill. As we we're walking around the corner to cross the road, I then murmured It's very little. Just as I said that a dwarf walked around the corner and gave me the biggest death stare of my life. I didn't even notice\n\nMy face went bright red, my intention of the word It's very little, was in regards to the hill, but anyway we keep walking and I felt a little embarrassed. I dropped him off at the school and then I begin to walk home. Guess who's waiting at the bus stop? The dwarf. \n\nAs I walked past him, he again gave me the biggest death stare, I felt like stopping and explaining what I meant, but instead I thought stuff it I'll keep walking and won't say anything.\n\nI feel like a c*nt.", "summary": "Walked past a dwarf and said it's very little, he gave me a death stare that I won't forget, I actually meant in regards to the hill, and we then crossed paths minutes after to receive another stare."}
{"id": "t3_rd3uu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your Jeopardy anecdote?  I'll start...", "post": "Trebek's making his way down the line making small talk with the other contestants.  You're next.  What do you say?\n\nHere's mine: I was travelling in Germany a few years ago and took part in a pub crawl in Berlin.  We were warned ahead of time not to make too much noise on the U-bahn (subway, metro, underground, whatever), presumably because they had received complaints.  Being the sneaky Canadian devil that I am, I decided to take advantage of the sizeable complement of Aussies on the crawl to cause some ruckus.  I started singing the first few lines of \"Waltzing Matilda\" under my breath and within 10 seconds most of the train was singing the anthem at full volume.", "summary": "I (a Canadian) led an entire subway train in a rousing rendition of Australia's unofficial national anthem in Berlin."}
{"id": "t3_2h2kvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my GF [26 F] of 3.5 years broke up 3 weeks back.Just wondering, will I eventually just stop caring about her and stop thinking about her all together?", "post": "I won't go into too much details. We were madly(atleast I was) in love with each other, but due to some circumstances we ended up breaking up. The love was very real and at many levels we were closely connected. Although we both had been in a relationship previously, we both were each other's first love and for both of us this was the first meaningful relationship and she was definitely my first real love.\n\nHowever we ended up having very nasty breakup and we haven't been in touch in anyway or form since then. We might never ever talk to or contact each other in our entire lives.\nBlocked from WhatsApp,FB, Email and all. No way to contact her except by  going to her home which won't happen.\n\nCurrently I think about her all the time. The end was bitter, the everything before it was like a beautiful dream. It's been three weeks , so the pain is real and heartache quite strong. She haunts my dreams and I sometime feel so lonely without her that I end up hugging walls and crying.\n\nYet, today I'm think about her a *little* than I was 3 weeks back. I can get through 30-40% of my day without thinking about her at all.\nIt was 0 -5% percent 3 weeks back.\n\nI'm just wondering that maybe in few years I can attain a state where I can go through days or perhaps even months without thinking about her at all. That the pain of losing her would only hurt me once in a few months.\n\nPeople who've been through nasty breakup or still regret losing your first real love, I would love to read your inputs.", "summary": "First love; nasty breakup. Currently I think about her a lot, but will this reduce over time. Can I finally go through a day without thinking about her at all."}
{"id": "t3_ltbxo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I get played?", "post": "I'm 20(M) and she's 18(F). Yeah, young I know. I've known this girl for about a month and a half.\n\nI'm in the second year of my program, and recently met a first year student who was cute, nice, and overall just awesome. Long story short, I fell for her. Problem was is that she has a boyfriend, but he's an asshole. Super big asshole, like they should already be broken up asshole. And it wasn't just the whole \"I like her and wish she was single\" POV, this guy is a grade A douche.\n\nThe way she talks to me though, it's like she was single. She always wanted to hang out, was flirty, and always seemed like she wanted to see me. Asked me to buy her things, asking me for rides. She even told me about her relationship troubles, which is how I came to the conclusion and BF is a douche. Other people thought she might've had a thing for me, hell even our teachers did.\n\nSo I did what any sound minded gentleman would do, I told her about it. She invited me over to her place after I got off work cause she wanted to hang out for a bit before her party(which I also got invited to, but declined.) I told her I felt like she played me, that it was like I was being used. She has a boyfriend, so why act like she didn't?\n\nShe felt guilty, and cried. She texted me a couple hours later saying that she's appalled I would even think she was using me, so maybe I was wrong. But I have noooo idea. HEEEEELP.", "summary": "Met a girl, she had asshole BF, talked and acted to me like she didn't. Felt I was being used, told her, made her cry, she felt genuinely guilty."}
{"id": "t3_ji2zo", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I asked a girl out.  She says I don't want to be with her.  How do I respond to this?", "post": "I've wanted to date this girl for a while.  I'm 19 [M] and she's 21. She was dating a guy for most of the time I've known her, so I never really said anything.  A few months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend.  I still didn't tell her how I felt.  Then, to my surprise, she gets a new boyfriend. \n\n I finally told her how I felt and she said she'd had feelings for me, but \"put them in the back of her head\" because she didn't think I liked her as more than a friend.  Earlier today, she broke up with her most recent boyfriend. They'd been together for about a month.  \n\nI asked her out and she told me I don't want to be with her.  She said that she always ruins relationships and that I'm the last person she wants to make miserable.  I really, really like this girl and I have no idea what to say to her.", "summary": "I really like this girl, but she says she'd only make me miserable.  Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4n1i83", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "college student trying to change grading option from P/NP to graded", "post": "I am a pre-med student and maintaining my GPA is really important for me. At the beginning of this past quarter, I was enrolled in 5 classes (all rigorous upper division science classes), and working 80 hours a month. My school has a deadline to change your grading option from \"graded\" to \"pass/no pass,\" and due to having a lot on my plate, I switched my grading option in one of my classes to P/NP right at the deadline. However, I ended up working hard in the class, starting to really love the material, and aced all of the exams. Now I am in a dilemma because I would have received an A for the class, but will only end up having a \"P\" on my academic record. I am currently in the process of writing a petition to change the grading option back from P/NP to graded. I talked to an academic advisor and they said that the petition is unlikely to be approved as the university holds the grading deadline to ensure that no grade manipulation can occur (if I got a C, I would take the pass, and if I got an A, I would switch the option to have it positively impact my GPA). I have to write a statement of why I want this grade to be changed, can any of you redditors help me frame my statement in a convincing way to avoid the \"grade-manipulation\" vibe? I'd be pretty disappointed to see the amount of time/energy I put in the class these past months go to waste.", "summary": "Need advice writing petition to my university to change a \"PASS\" grade into an \"A\" grade"}
{"id": "t3_2tv6ks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my husband [27 M] married 5 years, together 9, are getting a divorce.", "post": "I feel like a loser. It's a mutual divorce and we're helping each other through this, but I can't help but feel like it's all my fault. What if I had been more outgoing? What if we found a common interest? What if I cooked better meals? I feel like shit, my heart is breaking little by little every day. I just want to go away.\n\nWe'd been working on it for a year, and unbeknownst to him, he had already gone through the grieving process of our relationship because he'd cry himself to sleep some nights and tried to find a way for us to work while at the same time becoming numb. \n\nI, on the other hand, tried to give it my all, but I lost myself too. I feel invisible as a person. I feel like a loser. I don't know how anyone gets through this. I don't know how anyone heals from this kind of thing. \n\nI don't want to date anyone. I was comfortable in this relationship, so comfortable in fact, I didn't recognize myself when I looked in the mirror. My husband got sucked into himself so hard, we hardly talked. Our conversations were surface at best.\n\nWe both just want to be happy. He seems to be taking this a little bit better than me, but I feel so alone. I just wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better. I wish I could turn my heart off. I'm in a fog.", "summary": "Getting a divorce. I'm in pain."}
{"id": "t3_1j4b7w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M/] with my ___ [21F] \"Girlfriend\"? We have an expiration date, how do I get over it?", "post": "I've been hooking up/dating this girl for about 4 weeks now, and I like her a lot.  I'm sure I like her more than she likes me, it's just kind of who I am.  I get easily attached.  \n\nI'll be leaving the state soon (2 weeks), and she has to stay here.  We're not doing long distance (even though I secretly want to).  How do I get over the fact that there will be an expiration date?  Should I stop everything now before I get too hurt?  \n\nIt's more than just sex, but I feel like she doesn't value as more than just a temporary \"thing\".  \n\nThe worst part is, she's the kind of girl who makes relationships really fast.  I'm quite certain that when I leave she'll soon be hooking up/dating someone else- which is going to KILL me.  \n\nAOUDFasodfbasdfjsdb;fdfsadfkjb fuck my life.", "summary": "Relationship will end soon because of moving away, how do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_3gqvf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] planned to go on vacation with friends for a week, but my parents won't let me. What next?", "post": "Couple of my friends were planning on going to a holiday for a week and they asked me if I am 100% certain and I kept saying yes. My dad is supportive but mom is really scary about everything and kept saying no but then she said I'll think about it. \n\nSo yesterday I had to tell one of the friends that was organizing the thing if I'm 100% confirmed, but that \"i'll think about it\" turned out to be a no. She just spills reason after reason after reason for me not to go and it pisses me off. I had to tell the guy i probably wont make it and he sounded as disappointing as me. I am pissed off because i feel embarrassed, everybody is letting the other guys go but not me. Sure they are one or two years older but its not that big of a difference. And now if I am not going the group will be probably smaller than expected because couple of other guys also can't make it due to different reasons. I kept telling my self I will go to this no matter what, and I probably can despite moms will but I know this will make things worse and I will basically be coming home to a battlefield if it happens. \n\nI am so stressed and pissed off right now I feel like breaking everything around me. I am certainty not going to be talking to my mother for the foreseeable future. I'm just thinking what to tell the other guys who plan on going (if they are even gonna be going, because as I said a lot of people backed out and with me too I dont know whats gonna happen) so I don't look like a fool. Any thoughts and advice is welcome.", "summary": "friends plan to go on holiday, no problems with their parents, but my protective mother wont let me - me embarrassed mad and dissapointed"}
{"id": "t3_f4qys", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Going to graduate in 4 months... and dunno what to do.  Advice appreciated! :D", "post": "Needless to say, I am nervous, anxious and can't wait to get out into the professional world.  But there are a few things on my mind about my future that I would love to get some feedback on.  And who better than my favorite on-line community? =)\n\nI am going to graduate from a liberal arts university in May with a BA in theatre performance and a minor in leadership and organizational studies.  I am an enthusiastic go-getter who will do whatever it takes to make a living doing what I love.  However, in these hard times, I am very concerned about being able to pay my bills.  I love and excel at both theatre and music, and both are very crowded and difficult industries to get into. These industries also sway me to big cities such as Chicago, New York, and London (I am currently located in LA and am looking to relocate, but am practically assessing all of my possibilities).  So here is what I am wondering...\n\nDo any of you out there have advice, words of wisdom, or helpful hints for someone like me?  Specifically, I am looking to go into a job where I am working either in a theatre (acting, tech. design, or directing) or in the music industry (producing, recording, or other music technology).  \nIs there any specific advice for aspiring, but logical artists?  \nAre there any insights into these markets in Chicago, New York, London, or other places I should look into?  Or quality of a place to live?\n\nAny advice or feedback at all is appreciated, as I am in the brainstorming process and hoping to have a concrete plan for my post-graduation by the end of next week. =)", "summary": "About to graduate and possibly move, scared shitless.  Anyone have any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhbbg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my GF [18F] of 2 yrs, feeling like she thinks spending time with me is a chore", "post": "My girlfriend and I have had a wonderful relationship for 2 years now, but something changed starting a few months ago and I am confused on how to feel about the situation. Am I overreacting? \n\nWe hang out every weekend to just be together and unwind after a long week, these hangouts were originally how we really started dating. \n\nBasically starting a few months ago, she began decreasing the time we were together, the change has slowly increased to the point where now we only see each other a few hours a week. We also don't communicate as much over the phone. She works hard to do well in school, and says she is working so she doesn't have time to talk, which is like yeah that's fine. As of late though she no longer texts me at all during the day, just quickly saying hey, and then goodnight. \n\nBack to the time we spend together, she doesn't seem to want to do anything intimate as much as she used to, and again the time we spend I almost have to barter for.\n\nThings are starting to get worse now with her year long trip abroad approaches, and her telling me that I need to be okay if things don't shake out with us.", "summary": "girlfriend seems to be distancing herself from me, not sure what to do or feel."}
{"id": "t3_4bu1m9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU for being forgetful....", "post": "I have ADHD and a mild seizure disorder. I take medicine for both. But thanks to the ADHD I forget my meds from time to time. \n\nThat happened today. I had already gotten to work. Now the ADHD part isn't too bad by itself. It's the seizures that are bad. If i have one, i lose my Drivers License. Because then I'm a danger on the road and I have to wait 5 years of being seizure free. So I called my ma leaving her a message to please drop them off at my job. Hours later... still haven't seen her. I'm panicking at this point. I am terrified of have a seizure at work. \n\nTurns out she had a shitty day and did not want to come out. I call her again and beg her to please drop them off. I'm almost in tears. She is furious. \n\nI was then informed how I forgot the dishwasher too and how I NEVER do anything for her.... (Not true, but she was really pissed off.) Eventually she did drop them off. Still EXTREMELY pissed off. \n\nNow I am on lunch at work dreading the time when I go home because of the hell that is waiting for me there. FML", "summary": "Forgot my meds this morning. My ma is pissed at me. Hell awaits at home."}
{"id": "t3_4a2yaz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Told my doctor about my bulimia, did not go as planned.", "post": "I've been struggling with bulimia on and off since I was a teen, but abstained for nearly 5 years. It's recently come back Stronger than ever, and it is starting to scare me. I've been binging and purging 1-2 times a day, and nobody In my life has a clue. This week I developed a sudden sore throat and bloody phlegm. It scared me enough to decide to make a doctors appointment and confess what was going on.\n\nI was starting to feel proud of myself for finally deciding to say something. I told her, with tears in my eyes, and expressed that I was scared for my health. She simply asked if I was depressed, and I told her no. She then told me that I had probably picked up a virus, and gave me some throat lozenges, and told me to feel better. She left. No empathy, no questions, and no labs or tests (I was showing obvious signs of dehydration which she ignored including a 17 lb weight loss and the lowest BP I've ever had).\n\n I don't know what I expected, but I did not think I'd be brushed off like that. I want to stop so bad, but it feels so out of my control. I left the office, and went straight to a drive through, and threw up as soon as I got home. I hate myself for it. But this was the first time I ever told anybody, and it's such a vulnerable feeling. And now I feel like she was telling me it's not a big deal. I don't know if or how I could tell anybody else. I'm not looking for sympathy, just some support or maybe some guidance. I'm not sure where to go from here.", "summary": "confessed my bulimia to a doctor, she brushed me off and I feel stupid."}
{"id": "t3_3a8fma", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By bringing my drunk friend home.", "post": "Ok so typical not today but senior year of high school on the day we got our senior class rings. Me and two buddies didn't have dates so we went to a friend's house to chill out until the after party. \n\nWe are watching Django Unchained and my friends notions if I want iced tea and winks. Not having any social skills, I completely miss his clue and say no. The longer we watch the more liquored up my friend gets, but me being clueless don't notice that he is blitzed off his ass. \n\nWe arrive at my friends place for the party and it is readily apparent that my friend is far from gone. He starts saying that he could \"never be a girl because his gag reflex is terrible\"... Cue the girls leaving. Me being the only sober one get the hairbrained idea to bring this man home. Me and a friend walk him to my car. \n\nI drive him over and he is stuck in the crack of the car between the backseat and the drivers seat. Now he is 6'2 215 and I am 5'1 120 lbs trying to move this beast of a man out the crack of my car into his house. I sit there pondering how to get him out of my car and realize the only way to get him out is to drag him by his feet onto the ground. I tug and pull this guy out and he plops onto the ground. \n\nI pick his ass up feeling like I'm fireman carrying a small Indian village into his house. As I'm bringing him to his couch hoping to go unnoticed, his dad pops out from nowhere and says \"well he seems to be a little intoxicated huh?\" My mind immediately goes blank and I drop my friend onto the floor and squeak out \"I know what this looks like but it's not my fault,\" and immediately jet out his door to my car and peel away. \n\nIt was the most awkward encounter I've ever had and to this day his dad still looks at me funny.", "summary": "I know what this looks like, it's not my fault\""}
{"id": "t3_1lysxm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister [15F] has recently been dumped by her boyfriend [17M] and she can't get over him.", "post": "I apologize for any mistakes I make due to the fact that this is my first post and I have no idea what I'm doing. Please let me know how I could improve.\n---\nMy sister got dumped by her boyfriend about 3-4 weeks ago. They  were only dating for roughly 4 months but she really liked this guy and apparently this guy really liked her (her friends were always going on about the way he looked at her and stuff).\n\nAnyways, he broke up with her due to the fact that they have no classes together and he would only see her in the morning, at lunch, after school, and on the weekends. She believes that he has found another girl and that this is just a cop out. He said that the love was still there and I think that gave her hope that they would get back together but I don't think that's going to happen.\n\nI keep getting off topic. She is trying to get over him and another guy asked her out but she didn't want to say yes but she did anyways because she would've felt bad had she said no. Now everytime she does something with him she is always comparring him to her ex. She goes on about how it doesn't feel the same and she does'nt get \"butterflies\" or nervous around him like she did with her ex.\n\nShe's still friends with her ex and texts him and her best friend is dating his best friend so she sees him almost everyday.\n\nSo, what can I do to help her get over her ex?\n\n---\n\nSorry if the text is long", "summary": "My sisters boyfriend broke up with her and she can't get over him even though she has a new boyfriend and I was wondering how I could help her get over him."}
{"id": "t3_2u9en4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] don't know how to approach this situation with my crush [17?F]. Advice?", "post": "So, I will try and keep this short for the sake of time. \n\nI am a senior in high school and just for fun I started taking chorus class. Right now we are working on a songwriting project assigned groups (of about 6) and this really cute girl, we'll call her \"Dani,\" is in my group.\n\nNow, I've noticed her as she's walked past me in class before and always thought she was extremely attractive, but I never in a million years thought that she would ever like me because she just seemed way out of my league. \n\nAs I said before we are in the same composition group and I notice that whenever she talks she seems to always be looking at me, not at anybody else in the group, and also she always smiles when I try and be \"flirtatious\" with her. It feels like whenever we talk to each other their is nobody else in the room except for us.\n\nUnfortunately, today I learned that we won't be getting back together in our groups for an undisclosed period of time. This is a problem because I've never talked to this girl outside of the group before. I don't have any idea how to approach her, or if I should even approach her at all. I really like this girl, and it may be too soon to judge as we've only been talking for about a week, but she is the most amazing girl I've ever met. \n\nI honestly don't have any idea what to do. I was thinking that the next time we met in our groups I would wait until the rest of the group left and ask her out, but I don't want to risk her being swept away by somebody else before that can happen. Originally i planned to ask her out on Valentine's Day, but I don't know how or if I should do that anymore. \n\nAny kind of advice or help would be greatly appreciated. Sorry if this is poorly written, I don't post much on here so just bear with me.", "summary": "crush on a girl seemingly out of my league, story of my life"}
{"id": "t3_1k7rnz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need help,[24M] trying to convince a crush [23F] to go out with me.", "post": "So quick back story I met this girl through a work friend while we were out at a club we frequent. One night me and her (both a little plastered) begin to make out and fool around. That was it, we just teased each other, exchanged numbers and she went home with her friends. We started talking the next day about what had happened but she had figured out that I was a friend of one of her exes. They apparantly dated and broke up weeks before I moved to town and I had no idea. She says this is a reason why she doesn't want to date me cause she doesn't want to be considered a \"homie hopper.\" I told her I understand but lately the past few weeks we've been talking more and more, the past few days we were hanging out at my place a lot. We cuddled on the couch and when we went to bed. We'll hold hands as we walk and while I'm driving. She seems to be giving the signs of she's into me and we're totally compatable but still: no more kissing, no dating. \n\nWhat should I do reddit? Do I wait it out? Quit while I'm ahead?", "summary": "I'm trying to convince my crush who dated a somewhat friend of mine to go out with me but, she doesn't want to cause she doesn't want to be considered a \"homie hopper.\""}
{"id": "t3_25le5w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: The good ol' friend accident", "post": "Okay so this wasn't today, but I got fucked up today because of it.\n\n***Setting world war 2.... fuck that- my living room***\n\nBasically I had a friend whom I had entrusted my life into and I mean that serious personal shit and whatnot. I told him about a childhood experience in which I deeply remember as fucking incredible. (For y'all mofos who enjoy some weird shit it'll be in the comments) Well this guy thinking I had told my other friends he told my friend, who is the snitchy nosy kind of person. This guy goes and talks to my mom about that and well... I'm disowned (I'm orphaned... into my own apartment which *I* pay for) from my fucking family. Not to say they're the worst but I'll do fine.", "summary": "Friend tells friend, ^friend talks to mom casually. ^Disowned."}
{"id": "t3_4z899o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with guy I hooked up with [30M] is trying to reconnect again", "post": "I met this guy off reddit a while back. We connected great, and did a few things together for 3 weeks or so before we decided to meet up. We basically hooked up the first time we met, which was surprising because there was no sexual tension between us at all.\n\nFast forward, a week or so. He suddenly stopped replying to me and is ignoring me off of everything. I confronted him, asking whats the deal, that I at least deserved a explanation. He told me that before he met me, he had a deep connection with this other woman, and that it wasn't fair that he was going to keep on going with both of us. So we ended there. \n\nFast forward 2 months, he texted me out of the blue asking about my life. I straight up told him that he hurt my feelings and I felt like I was used. He said he never meant for that to happen (red flag I know) and that he was the dumb one to use me as a placeholder (super red flag). Hes listing a lot of reasons in any ways we could possibly be friends again, eg. just becoming gaming pals, Skype pals or whatever. He seems sincere about it. \n\nNow I have no intention of forming any kind of relationship beyond a friendship with him. But I was wondering if it's even wise to become friends with him again? I know I wont get sexually involved again but is he someone to trust, and will he even become a \"good friend\" in the long run?", "summary": "Guy I hooked up with started to reconnect with me after straight up dumping me. Nows finding excuses for me to forgive him, should I?"}
{"id": "t3_1su71z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my 'crush' [16 F] of two weeks, having issues with being judged by friends.", "post": "I met this girl during a speech and debate tournament two weeks ago. She's very outgoing, charismatic, attractive, hilarious, and into so many cool things such as comic books, superheroes, etc. \n\nWe've hung out in groups before and have ran off to make out and fool around a few times, but we are in no means dating. I was very attracted to her and WANTED to date her, but there's one noticeable flaw - she's very stupid.\n\nNot as in booksmarts - she's in all AP classes - she just doesn't have common sense and lacks any type of personality in her voice when she speaks. I figured it wouldn't bother me once I get to know her, but all of my best friends know she's 'dumb' and look down on me for this and it really bothers me. This is causing me to loose fondness of her, almost to the point that I don't want to talk to her again so my friends don't disapprove.\n\nI don't think I like her anymore, but she basically LOVES me and texts me 24/7 when I don't even want to respond. I don't know what to do. I feel like I invested into something too quickly and now I have regrets. Any ideas on what I should do? Thank you!", "summary": "friends judge me for choice of girl, makes me less attracted to her. help."}
{"id": "t3_17agk0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M,19] need help with a hiccup in my relationship with my girlfriend [F, 18]", "post": "The issue that me and my girlfriend (we've been together for a year) are dealing with is an odd one. Suffice it to say that I recently found out that she is constantly thinking about other men, one whom she used to have a crush on in particular. Honestly, this came as a shock, because I very rarely think of anyone else sexually, and have never had an obsession or constantly thought of another member of the opposite sex. At the moment, I feel very hurt and betrayed, and I don't know what to do. It's difficult for me to look at my girlfriend, knowing that there will always be other guys in the back of her mind... Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Girlfriend constantly thinks of other men and I feel betrayed"}
{"id": "t3_1e5fg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17m] girlfriend[17f] doesn't want to make out all the time", "post": "My girlfriend of a little over a month didn't want to come over today because she \"[doesn't] want to make out all the time.\" It is not as if that is all we do; we play cards, do homework, go out for dinner, and just hang out a lot. Often after these things we do make out, however. I don't get why she feels that way, but I respect her feelings and don't want to push her. \n\nWe are both genuinely intellectually, emotionally, and sexually attracted to each other, and I don't see a problem, but when we start kissing like that, she makes excuses about having to go home. Part of my veracity is that she turns me on very easily, and I like to act on that, but another is that I love showing her affection. I know that I can kiss her and hold her, but that doesn't carry the same \"poignancy.\" \n\nAre there other ways to passionately show her affection besides a simple kiss that isn't making out? Should I just get over being urgent?", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't want to make out so much, but I still want to show her passion and affection."}
{"id": "t3_2wjrot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] have been with my gf [17f] for 10months, she just told me she doesn't love me anymore", "post": "It just happened like 2 hours ago and I'm still in shock as I'm typing this. A little bit background:\n\nWe have been together for 10 months and in the first let's say 6 months everything went perfectly. Then little problems arised, nothing big and we never had a big fight or something, I think it's pretty normal that after the honey moon phase you notice little things about the other one.. However in the last 2 weeks I often complained to her that she doesn't have enough time for me (something that bugged me since many months, but she has a really tight schedule with school etc. so I was actually pretty okay with it.)\n\nHowever today I went over to her place and after a little bit of talking and having fun we had sex and it was like always, both me and she were really into it and after finishing we cuddled. After around 30minutes of cuddling she starts crying and I was pretty confused and when she finally could speak again she told me that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore since a couple of days.\n\nI was in shock and didn't know what to say, I didn't realize what was happening ... Now I'm sitting at home thinking about what to do now... She told me she doesn't wanna talk about it today and wants me to wait until tomorrow.. I don't really wanna talk to anybody I know about it since I'm not really sure if it's over .. normally I would talk to my parents but they just broke up on monday .. so that's not really an option right now.\n\nI'm not really sure what to do now .. I don't want to give her up.", "summary": "gf of 10months just told me she doesn't have feelings for me anymore but doesn't want to talk about it until tomorrow"}
{"id": "t3_wxppj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's a song that made a normal situation  awkward, for you?", "post": "About 2 years ago I was in a shopping centre with friends. After trudging about all day, going in and out of every shop multiple times, I need the toilet.\n\nExcusing myself from the group, I quickly went up the escalator behind 2 fairly well-built men. The kind with muscles that make the t-shirt arms taught. At the top I followed them into the toilet, so far it was just a normal toilet trip, nothing to fear.\n\nIn the toilets there's 3 urinals, they proceeded to occupy the end 2 urinals, leaving the middle open. I saw this and thought, \"Fuck it, I'll do a 17 times table and not get stage fright.\" It is then that I realise music is playing, I tune in. Humming the tune, I know this! One of the other men starts whistling the tune of the chorus, before the song has got there. I start piecing it together, but I can't name the song. \n\nI began my stream, confident that I'd just pulled into a parking bay and got over stage fright before it began. Then, the chorus begins; Elton John - Are You Ready For Love?, it got tense, and a silence filled the public toilets. No-one knew where too look, a couple of people were blushing as this was not a song to be played in the mans toilets.\n\nI finished up pretty quick, splashed my hands with clean water and made a quick escape. Possibly the first time a song ever made a normal situation awkward. I'm still paranoid about toilets playing this song.", "summary": "Pissing in a public loo between 2 well-built guys. Elton John - Are You Ready For Love, begins to play. Awkward atmosphere."}
{"id": "t3_1wskfw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "40F here, ex-bf(40M) from 22 yrs ago sent me a Christmas present.", "post": "My(40F) ex-boyfriend(40M) sent me a gift from my Amazon wish list. \n\nNo animosity, but we hadn't had ANY contact for 22 years. I don't live in the area I did when we (briefly) dated. We weren't ever physically intimate. His gift message made a reference to my love for cats and he reminded me of his allergy to them. It almost seemed like he was insinuating that he would come to visit. \n\nAt first, I was like, well, that's nice! Then I started thinking how he would have to search my name out on Amazon, and the gift was a fairly expensive one (39.99). \n\nI hadn't even thought about him in years. It really was a brief, non-committal fun relationship. \n\nI now remember that about 18 months after we parted (again, no animosity) he showed up unannounced at my parents' house the day after Christmas with flowers. I was there with my then-bf and he still tried to hang out & be flirty (hold my hand, sit on the couch with his arm over my shoulder). My bf, usually very polite, finally had to just tell him very bluntly to leave. \n\n22 years later, I get this gift with a kinda-personal message. \n\nWhy would he do this? Should I send a thank you letter? \n\nP.S. I'm in a happy relationship & NOT interested in meeting up with him. (I don't feel that we really shared that much in the past anyway.)", "summary": "Old boyfriend from 22 yrs ago sent an expensive gift after no contact for 22 yrs"}
{"id": "t3_5240wp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] my girlfriend [24 F] wants me to move in with her, but it is all my fault.", "post": "I will tell you all the story with details, she was married when I met her. Now she is divorced and she is my gf, the problem is that she can't live anymore with her husband, but she is not from here and she has nowehere to go, so I came with the stupid idea of renting a house together with another couple that are friends of mine. So she started working so we can afford the place and all the other things. The problem is the time has come, the other couple is already living there and my gf wants us to move now.\n\nBut now I feel like I am not ready, Im just 21 and still studying and having a part time job, but I dont earn enough in order to live comfortably with her. My family has money and loves me so much, and Im going against their ideals because Im moving too fast, all my other cousins didnt moved untill they were married and had a good job. \n\nI dont want all my family to see me bad, I can still provide her the money for the rent, but if I live there I will lose a lot of time in commute to school and work, and where I live right now with my parents is very close to both.\n\nThis week I told her that I can gave her the money for the rent and stay there with them on weekends, but she refused because I already promised that I will live with her. She has no one here in this city, 0 family. She started crying and I told her its ok, I will move with her.\n\nAnd now again Im afraid, I made a promise and I dont want her to feel sad, but I dont know what to do, she wants to live with me because I promised, but now I dont feel ready and feel like such an idiot for playing with her feelings, also my mom is crying because im leaving the house :c\n\nI desperately need your advice, thanks in advance.", "summary": "I promised my gf that I will move with her but now some problems have araised and I feel like Im not ready, and I feel like I am betraying my family that gave me everything I needed."}
{"id": "t3_qownb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Zero fucks were given. What have you done that you gave zero fucks about?", "post": "Last night instead of going home after work, I decided to go have some beers and watch a hockey game in a bar by my work in NYC. It was a beautiful night, around 70\u00b0F. All week i've been dealing with some heartburn and not feeling 100% well. So there I am sitting and  having a beer and I feel a fart coming. So, I do as any man would do, I let it go. Let me tell you it was BAD. It was so bad that one girl in the bar vomited because of the vile fragrance. Me, I just sat there, and continued to watch the game that I was there to see, and enjoyed my casual night out.", "summary": "farted in a bar, and made a girl vomit because of the stink. Zero fucks were given."}
{"id": "t3_3omjcm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By installing a 32-bit OS.", "post": "It's nothing spectacular but since a large portion of Reddit are people interested in computers, you guys will at least think I'm as big of an idiot as someone who put diesel into a gasoline tank. Plus this isn't a NSFW/sexual TIFU, which seem to be the bane of this subreddit as of late.\n\nAnyway, my laptop got dropped a few months ago and the hard drive bit the dust, so I bought a new HD and Windows 8. I did it myself and got it all running again, but it seemed noticeably slower than before. I figured it was because I bought a cheaper hard drive or maybe something from the fall, but I never really gave it any thought beyond that plus I'm not a guy who's able to fix this type of problem, so I just complained whenever I play Dota. Anyway today for school I needed to download some software for my class and it needs a 64 bit processor, which I have. It turns out I installed the 32-bit Windows OS. If I want to upgrade to 64-bit, I have to backup all my files and reinstall software... waste of time and some I'm not sure if I can get it again easily/cheaply. The bigger part of the fuck up though is that this is why the computer is slower since in layman's terms a 32-bit OS cannot access all of the RAM in the laptop that a 64-bit OS could access (maybe someone can chime in here with more technical information, but this is my understanding of it). So now I have a slow computer.", "summary": "I poured windshield wiper fluid into the hole for oil in my laptop, and then put the cooked laptop on the same cutting board as the raw laptop, now my RAM is all fucked up and I need to backup all my Missy Elliott tracks if I want to remedy the problem.*"}
{"id": "t3_1qpubd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22F] have an issue with my SO's [25M] drinking; I think he's got a problem", "post": "This has been a long standing issue. I trust him completely... outside of his drinking habits. It's the only thing he'll break his word on, and he does it repeatedly.\n\nLast night, he bought a six pack. That I'm fine with. Just before I served up dinner however, he wanted to go back there, and buy a bottle of whiskey. He said he wanted it for tomorrow night, when he planned to see a friend.\n\nHe promised one more drink, that's all. I wake up this morning, and there's half a bottle of whiskey gone.\n\nI feel betrayed every time this happens, and I don't know what to do. If I bring it up with him, he gets defensive and claims I'm asking him never to drink again, and that's not fair.", "summary": "My SO has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol - leading him to break my trust repeatedly - and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1t4ewm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "my girlfriend (18f) isnt returning to school next semester. i (18m) was happy for her originally but now i cant come to terms with the situation.", "post": "I just completed my first semester at college and did very well-- all As and Bs. I should be really happy for myself but Im not. im stuck thinking about how my girlfriend isnt coming back.\n\nbefore i was happy for her. with a crazy, troubled past shes finally ready to open herself up and seek treatment to deal with the emotional scars shes suffered. but now i feel really alone.\n\ntowards the end of the semester there was essentially a huge fall out between my girlfriend and our group of friends. i decided to take my girlfriends side and havent talked to anyone in our friend group in the last 3 weeks.\n\ni dont know what im gonna do when i go back. i dont know who is gonna be there for me or if im gonna wanna make new friends. i am a funny happy-go-lucky guy but recently ive just felt down and alone. i plan on flying out in january to see her but i just hate the whole situation.\n\nthere was a trust incident right before my girlfriend and i became official--she hooked up with a guy at a party back home-- and im just sick to my stomach right now that shes gonna do it again. i know shes sorry for what she did and she promised she would never hurt me again but i just dont know if i can believe it.\n\nit just seems like i have had a lot on my plate and i dont know what to do. my mom and i think i should transfer to a school closer to home after the year. i dont think my girlfriend and i could make it work if that happens.\n\nany thoughts would be appreciated. thanks.", "summary": "my girlfriend isnt coming back 2nd semester because shes getting treatment for emotional scars. i was happy. now im sad and alone."}
{"id": "t3_3vqd01", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally letting my phone spoil my girlfriend's Christmas surprise", "post": "So today I'm texting my girlfriend and we're talking about Christmas, and I was bragging that I was already ahead of the game in terms of gift giving. I went to say that her packages had arrived and my S5 has the feature where the most typed words are accessible on quick command and tapped her gift.\n\nBrief note: My girlfriend loves vintage everything basically and likes photography so I got her 3 cameras from the 50s, 60, and 70s.\n\nAnyways, I accidentally select the word \"cameras\" and put my phone in my pocket. Check back 5 mins later and shes like \"Did you just spoil my Christmas present?\".\n\nI quickly tried to play it off cool...but I think she knows.", "summary": "Autocorrect feature ruined Christmas surprise."}
{"id": "t3_2j8ljx", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "How do I train my dogs not to eat everything they find?", "post": "My cocker spaniels are little snatchers. If anything falls on the floor, they tend to find it and try to eat it. It's been driving me insane lately, because for some damn reason, everybody drops food and candy wrappers on the floor and don't bother to pick them up (how lazy can you be?) so I'm constantly fishing things out of my dogs' mouths. They will also snatch food off the dinner table, out of peoples' hands, and from my little niece's table when she's eating, if they can. I also have a problem with old food mysteriously showing up in my backyard. Sometimes it's someone in the house throwing out old bread or something (and I have to get on them about it every time) but other times it'll be further out in the yard, and things we don't buy, like rib bones or those little containers of peanut butter and crackers. There's an open field behind the house and runs to the side of the yard, so anyone can throw their crap in the yard anytime they want.\n\nSince I obviously can't do much about careless people, and since it's better my dogs learn not to do this anyway, I need to know how to teach them not to eat whatever they find. Is there any way to do this? They're almost three years old, and while they are definitely teachable, it's sometimes hard to teach both of them at the same time (for instance, Ben picked up \"shake hands\" and does it like a pro, but Maggie will just stare at me, then lick my face). They both just recovered from a bacterial infection caused by eating something they shouldn't have, and I want them to stay healthy.", "summary": "Dogs eat everything they can reach, how do I stop them?"}
{"id": "t3_1796r2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28m/f] What is wife so upset over??", "post": "When we got married a few months ago, wife and I had a discussion over us not going to bed at the same time. She used to get upset that I stay up too late and don't go to bed on her schedule. I explained that's she's simply an early bird while I'm a night owl. And when do go to bed with her, she's asleep within 10 minutes anyway, and I'm wide awake for 2 hours.\n\nSo last night wife went to bed especially early (at 9 pm) since she hasn't been feeling well for a week and was taking meds. OK np I understand this.\n\nI came up at 12 while she was fast asleep. A bit later I'm still trying to fall asleep and she (probably in her sleep) comes up and snuggles. Almost half of her weight is on me and it's making it hard for me to sleep so I gently remove her arm.\n\nSo this morning she keeps complaining that I removed her arm while she was trying to hug me. I was half asleep during this but I could clearly hear her complaints. I ignored the first complaint, so next time she said it louder; I then tried to calm her down by hugging her but she said she didn't want a \"pity hug\". So I got annoyed and I told her why I removed her arm and all of the sudden she gets upset and starts crying.\n\nI tried to ask what's wrong, what I did, why she's upset, but she kept saying \"nothing don't worry about it\" as if I was supposed to already know what her problem was.\n\nWhat did I do/not do? Is she missing the intimacy? I can't do the whole spooning thing for too long because it gets uncomfortable and mainly because she falls asleep anyway. I can't fall asleep snuggling because I need my space. Maybe I should go to bed early so we get some intimate time together, but even then she's fast asleep within 20 minutes.\n\nI just hate how she can't be direct with me in telling me what her problem is.", "summary": "might have intimacy issues with wife but she's not communicating that to me."}
{"id": "t3_3fip53", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] is a confused pickle as she doesn't know [20 M] likes me or just being a good friend?", "post": "*i'm posting this on a throwaway account due to the fact my main account(stupidity) is the same user as My Skype name*\n\nI've been talking to a guy for a year and he's honestly one of the closet friends I've ever had, we talk about pretty much anything and everything(also 9 times out of 10,\nwe Skype pretty much everyday for 3\nhours) however I'm so confused how he feels so for me. He says he doesn't like anyone yet he always compliments me all the time and he said to one of his friends that the only reason why he's in college is due to the fact that I motivated him and he's doing it for me. He's also compared me to some of his female crushes. \n\nThe confusing part of it all as we got on the topic of relationships and he said that he never wants to have a girlfriend meaning he can't like me however I get that vibe if you feel me?? I joke around saying \"oh course you love me, who doesn't love me\" but like how do i spot out if he likes me or not? I know it's clich\u00e9 however I'm so confused, how do I spot if this boy likes me or not?", "summary": "how do I spot if this boy likes me or not as he says he doesn't want a girlfriend but I get the feeling he may like me? Or is he just being a good friend?"}
{"id": "t3_wuawv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently sat on my back porch, alternately reading \"The Walking Dead\" and surfing Amazon while Drinking...and apparently I assembled and ordered a huge Zombie Survival Kit of my own devising. Reddit, what weird thing have you procured while drinking too much?", "post": "So, I say \"apparently\" because I didn't remember ordering it til I received a military-grade compass in the mail a few days later. I was like, \"what the shit?\"\n\nThen a day later here came whole damn Coleman 4-person tent! I was like, \"Holy shit...I really did that.\" I had sat on one-click Amazon and just cruised around buying crap that I thought would be useful in the Zombie Apocalypse. Of course, I was pretty drunk, so it wasn't exactly comprehensive (food and water should be at the top, one would think...or a damn backpack, at least.) \n\nI decided to just let it roll in and not revisit what I had ordered. It was  a great deal of fun to surprise myself. Until the Gator-brand machete arrived and I had the epiphany of, \"Oh, shit. I better make sure I didn't get some damn thing that's going to get me on some watch list somewhere.\"\n\nI ordered a giant ruck sack for it and it now sits in my living room just awesomely waiting.", "summary": "Got drunk, forgot I ordered zombie kit, found out when it started to come...love it."}
{"id": "t3_3hlgr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 3 years, he's traveling overseas without me and I'm FOMOing hard", "post": "Throwaway because my boyfriend knows my regular username. So my boyfriend and I have been talking about moving to Germany in a few years and traveling across Europe together (we both live in the U.S.). The company he works for is a Germany-based company, so he has always had hopes of being able to travel there for work. He recently got the news that he will be traveling to Germany, Wales, and London in a month for two weeks through his work. \n\nI am ecstatic for him because I know how badly he has wanted to travel there, but I can't help but have a little FOMO (fear of missing out) because I wanted to experience Europe together for the first time when we went. Now he will be going to many places we wanted to visit without me, so it won't be as much of a new experience for the both of us when we go. \n\nAlso, he will be traveling during the time I had planned a very long tattoo appointment which he promised to attend with me so I could have someone's hand to squeeze. Now I have to find someone else to commit to sitting with me for 6 hours while I get tattooed :/\n\nAny advice on how to shake this FOMO I'm feeling would be greatly appreciated. As I previously stated, I am more than excited and happy for him because I know he has wanted to go to Europe more than anything. I just wish we could have experienced it together for the first time.", "summary": "Boyfriend will be traveling to Germany, London, and Wales for two weeks for business while I'm wishing I could be experiencing those countries for the first time with him."}
{"id": "t3_lv9d8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can Reddit help me give my girlfriend the best gift ever?", "post": "Hey Reddit, doing this a day early just in case it doesn't work! My girlfriend and I usually celebrate the anniversary of when we started dating(Nov.1st) with a nice dinner and a gift. Money is limited since I returned to school this september so no fancy gift.\n\nI know that there is nothing she loves more then when people listen to her band's music or add her band on facebook.\n\nIf she got  bunch of views and comments she would be on cloud 9 for the day. Can Reddit help me make this happen?\n\nGive a few tracks a listen, and only if you really like it leave a comment!\n\nWatch a video:\n\nCheck out the site!\nwww.unbuttonedmusic.com\nBecome a Fan!", "summary": "Want to get my girlfriend some recognition for her musical talent for our anniversary, because i have no money for a fancy gift!"}
{"id": "t3_4twnjz", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I wish I handled it differently", "post": "**[ Warning: Long Text ]**\n\nI broke up with my ex of 1.5 years of relationship. I went through some hurdles but after 1 month prior to the breakup, I am somehow relieved and accepted the breakup in a positive light. I'm really sorry if it is a lot to read after this.\n\n\u00a0\n\u00a0\n\nHowever, I asked for his assistance (exactly 1 week ago) which ended up going into his room during late night. He was fixing my tablet which I need to use the day after. I was really exhausted and somehow dozed while sitting on his couch. He woke me up and offered me to take a nap on the bed with him. That's where the sex started. He initiated everything and for some reason I let him. I accepted that part of it is my fault.\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe day after, I told him the tablet was causing me problems and I gave it to him without going into his room. He returned it hours later and said \"this will be the last time we'll see each other.\" I tried my best to reply in a friendly manner despite the fact that I feel like there is a gaping hole inside. Then I blocked him everywhere after my casual goodbye.\n\n\u00a0\n\nWhy. I never understand how a guy like him can just have sex as if you really wanted the person and act like none of that crap matters. I felt stupid falling for it. But he is not the type of guy who would sleep with women willy nilly. I know he had sex with his ex a long time ago but never with people whom he is not in a relationship with. \n\n\u00a0\n\nNow I'm back to square 1... It was painful because I was fine for a month and ended up not being fine again. \n\nCan anyone explain about why your ex would just sleep with you and act indifferent afterwards? And any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Broke up with my ex of 1.5 years, met up with him after 1 month and had sex. He acts indifferent the day after. I tried my best to act casual and blocked him everywhere."}
{"id": "t3_2weqop", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a cave man", "post": "This FU actually happened today! (Well, since it's past midnight where I live it was technically yesterday but I don't consider it \"tomorrow\" until 6 or 7 in the morning because it's more convenient.)\n\nThere's this girl who I've had my eye on for quite some time now. We talk quite a bit and sit together in communication class, etc. but she doesn't know I like her.\n\nSo today (or yesterday), I left my dorm and went through the frigid cold and snow to go to the dining hall. After getting my fill of shitty college food and a lethal dose of Mr. Pibb, I started the not so long journey across the frozen tundra that is outside.\n\nThe way the dining hall is set up, it's between two (crappy) dorm buildings and it's attached to them for the convenience of the unlucky students who have to live there. The girl I like just so happens to live in the dorm in question.\n\nAs I'm about to round a corner to get to the exit, I feel the Pibb gurgling in my stomach as it prepared for a burp. Me being the ancestor of the extremely intelligent cave man, I decide to let the burp out. It's only natural, right? I let out a ferocious burp that was quite loud and lasted a good 3 seconds, all while going around the corner.\n\nRight in front of me is the girl who I fancy, standing with a couple of her friends, wide eyed and somewhat shocked (not sure if it was the loudness/length of the burp that shocked her or the fact that I did it in public).\n\nAt first I didn't notice it was her because her hair was different. Then she awkwardly waved and quietly said hey to me. I too said hey in an awkward way and continued on my journey, laughing like a mad man on the inside.\n\nNeedless to say, I probably won't get a shot at dating her. Ever.", "summary": "Went to eat at dining hall. Drank a bunch of Mr. Pibb. Loudly burped while going around a corner. Girl that I like just happened to be around the corner."}
{"id": "t3_421enc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] wondering if it's normal to have no best friends.", "post": "So I am at an university. I have a loving family and lot of friends, that I enjoy spending time with.\n\nHowever, for some reason, I don't really have a best friend, and it's kinda bothering me because it seems like nearly everyone here has at least one best friend. Admittedly, I am a bit reserved and shy when it comes to meeting new people. I do like to do a lot of fun stuff, and I kinda want someone who really want to get close to me, go out and do stuff. I kinda want to get close to some of my friends already, but it seems like they always have other people. \n\nI guess that I just really am wondering if I really suck at friendships/social stuff or something. Or am I just normal? Granted, my brothers and parents really don't have a lot of close friends, and I think my mom is the only one who have a best friend.", "summary": "Have a good family and lot of friends but no best friends. Wondering if it's normal to have none."}
{"id": "t3_1wokse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 4 years, I am struggling with long distance and contemplating breaking up.", "post": "I have to be careful about details... she is a fellow redditor.\n\nOur relationship has been healthy for 3.5 solid years. I have had many girlfriends over the years and she is by far the best I've ever had. All my issues started when we had to begin the long distance thing. \n\nI had to move away for grad school. Long distance is killing me slowly. I am not very good about talking on the phone. I can't always provide the kind of intimate connection she needs. This has a pretty terrible affect on me, I end up feeling a large amount of guilt because I can't fulfill her over over the phone. We skype when we can, but still its hard... for the same reasons. \n\nThe long distance is temporary, at least 2 years. We visit each other for extended periods ever 3-4 months. However life is about to get really complicated. She starts a intense phd program soon. I'll have to move there and find work if we stay together. \n\nI won't lie, my eye wanders, and I struggle to control that. I have never acted on it, but I'm definitely sexually frustrated while she is not here. \n\nAlso there is the age gap. I am damn near 30. I am ready to start a family. Its important to me. She is 7 years younger than me. She has expressed that she doesn't want to have kids right away. \n\nDon't get me wrong... I love her very much. I am just feeling unstable. I feel like we are either going to get married or break up!", "summary": "healthy relationship in person, long distance not so much."}
{"id": "t3_1uh9ud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[19m] GF[19f] interrupted a make-out sesh to check her phone", "post": "Backstory: we both live with our parents, semi-long distant when she's at school but we're both on break now so we've been seeing each other a lot. On this night, four of our friends were staying over at her house and we were alone in her room.\n\nWe had just started making out, still had all of our clothes on but getting to that point when my girlfriend's phone buzzed and she INSTANTLY shot up to answer it. It was nothing important and she didn't respond and tried to go back to kissing. I was completely turned off and pushed her off. She was upset because she \"doesn't get in the mood that often\" and she felt rejected.\n\nHere's the thing: she's never done this before. It was just because so many people were over and her parents were asleep, she felt like it was her responsibility to make sure everyone is okay. But that doesn't make me feel better at all! I want her to ignore her responsibilities! we've only had sex once so far this break, two weeks in because she has to see her friends, she has to get up early, she has plans with her brother/mother/father, she has to help so and so with their emotional problems, so and so really needs some girl time. I am not saying she shouldn't have a life but sometimes it feels like I'm last on the list.\n\nShe said no one is ever going to make her forget her responsibilities. However, this made me think of one time that I called her, very upset asking to talk. She said \"I'm in a really good mood right now can we talk later?\" Now I know that making sure her friend gets an extra blanket is significantly more important than my physical needs as well as my emotional stability.", "summary": "GF has many self-imposed responsibilities and I'm not one of them"}
{"id": "t3_1ozeu7", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "r/getmotivated, I need some help. What are some ways you stop procrastination and get motivated.", "post": "I'm a college student with ADD and I have trouble focusing on homework and getting work done.  I only have 4 classes and they are on only Tuesdays and Thursdays.  This has only made it harder for me (even if it shouldn't be) because I constantly find myself playing video games from Thursday-Monday night.  My calc homework is all due at one time (which is next week) and I haven't started any of it because I keep telling myself I'll do it later. I constantly try to set free time everyday so i can study but I always end up screwing around on reddit or something else.  I've looked online for solutions but none of them have really worked for me because it's not necessarily step-by-step and it's kind of difficult for me to just get motivated in one day..  So do you guys have any tips to try and help me get motivated to study and do homework that are a step-by-step process which will eventually get me on the right path? Any and all help will be appreciated.  Thanks guys :D", "summary": "can't focus on schoolwork, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_28qmjj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M/18 I coming up to breaking point", "post": "This post is mainly about being alone, if there is another subreddit I should post this on, please say.\n\nWell about 2-3 months ago my best friend/girlfriend/only friend left me. The main reason being I was too clingy. This absolutly broke me since the other past two girlfriends I had before her finshed me for the same reasons.\n\nI don't have any friends. I sort of had them in High school (UK) and College but I was always the outsider of the group. Never invited out, round houses, house parties etc. So once I finished college I broke contact with them. \n\nNow, since the breakup, i'm all alone and it's seriously killing me. Just having no one to talk to, have a relationship with is killing me.\n\nJust recently got myself a new Admin job working 8:45 - 5:00 Mon-Fri, so it's hard for me to make friends. I do work with 3 other blokes but two of them are twice my age and the other is 28 so very hard for me to go out with them.\n\nI have 0 confidence. I use PoF often and don't have the guts to message woman. Nor do I actually know what to say. \n\nwhat can I do to stop being alone? I have no time to go out through the week, no confidence, go out at the weekends with my PARENTS. Recently i've broken down a lot just because I want to go out and party, and i've never had that. Help me not be alone ;/", "summary": "Alone with 0 confidence = bad things :( Need help!"}
{"id": "t3_1vwnsy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My friends just asked me[19F] to go with them to South Padre for spring break. They specifically asked my boyfriend[20M] not to come because they don't have the space.", "post": "Like I said, my friends asked me to go to South Padre with them. They already have everything paid for and they need one more person to go. They don't have room for my boyfriend to go, so that's why they haven't invited him. \nI really want to go!! For years I've wanted a Spring Break to unwind and relax and I haven't been able to go because my other friends never saved up the money to go.\nThese friends aren't my best friends, they're a group of friends I used to hangout with in High School. One of my ex boyfriends from when I was 16 will be there in the group. I've been assured that i won't be staying with him and that I won't be riding with him in the car on the way there. \nI don't know how my boyfriend is going to react to me asking him. He's a pretty jealous person, especially over my exes.", "summary": "I guess my question is: Would you be okay with your girlfriend going to South Padre alone with a group of her friends, including her ex boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_3sh1fr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by saying the word \"girly\"", "post": "So today in my english class we watched a movie adaptation of the book Of Mice and Men afterwards we were asked to compare difference between the two formats and i said that main character Lennie was \"girlier\" in the book mid sentence my female english teacher said \"girlier\" to inquire if it was sexist realizing that she thought i meant it a sexist tone  realizing my mistake she went on to correct me and treat me like someone who disrespected woman and there social standing after a short rant i  had the task of apologizing throughout the rest of the school day to everybody and listening to them thankfully aggreeing to te fact she completely over reacted and now i await the next day's punishment from my teacher", "summary": "said girlier got yelled at by a feminazi"}
{"id": "t3_klmvo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need some help with life choices", "post": "So, i'm male, 18 and from the UK. I applied to go to university but didnt get in. I'm now on a gap year and waiting to apply next year. My grades were CCD in maths, chemistry and physics respectively and want to apply for a mechanical engineering degree in 2012. I was the only one of my friends not to get in and i'm feeling very lonely. They will be leaving me soon and i'll be here stuck in a tiny village with noone to talk to. My mum is constantly on my back about getting a job/apprenticeship course, even though i already have 2 jobs. I plan to go abroad over winter to snowboard and work. The uni fees are rising to \u00a312,000 a year (\u00a39000 tuition and \u00a33000 accomodation) so after my degree i will have racked up \u00a348,000 debt. Which is a number that i cant handle, but i dont see many other choices.", "summary": "Do i go to uni next year or not? and what do i do this year to keep me sane?"}
{"id": "t3_25lwx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] have a friend [25 F] who sees herself as a failure. How do I help her?", "post": "Want to clarify we are not and probably will never be in a relationship. The story is however, she's been obsessed with a mentally abusive online boyfriend for the past eight years and she feels like this might finally be the last straw and end her relationship with him. However, she sees herself as someone who's failed everything in life (which is really hard for me to refute because school and things) and she doesn't want to give up on this one guy that she loves even though he's been awful to her because she feels like that means she is worthless and has given up everything period. Especially since she's been working on making him (who is apparently miserable too and treats all of his close friends like piss) not miserable for eight years now. Although I don't know the guy personally, I am friends with his past best friend of over ten years who has also finally given up on him and moved on with his life who agrees this girl should give up on him because he will not change and continue to hurt her.\n\nShe has no friends other than me and I care deeply for her because she is actually a lovely person but she's essentially been abandoned by her previous friends hence the unhealthy attachment to the online boyfriend of eight years. So yes, she still doesn't trust me fully and she's stubborn so I'm not even sure if my words impact her when I reach out to her because I too an am online friend she met. It's still unclear to me how much she cares for my words, just that she knows that I tell her that I care for her as a person. She's even told me that I should stop dealing with her so that she doesn't become the abusive boyfriend equivalent of my life. I say this mostly in case people say that it's a lost cause and I should move on and find other friends. I feel like if I, her last friend abandons her (not that I will), she will lose her faith in people even more than she already has.", "summary": "Anyways, this isn't a relationship question, it's a friend question. How do you go about convincing this person that she's not worthless? That she should completely give up on her abusive online relationship of eight years? She's 25 but her life essentially halted at 17 when she met this guy."}
{"id": "t3_3pt7mu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Seeking Wisdom. 25, No finances, struggling to stay positive.", "post": "Hey guys, I have read some very helpful advice on this reddit and am hoping, with your help, to start making the correct financial decisions.\nOk a few words about me to set the mood. I am currently a super senior at the University of Central Florida, Pre-Clinical Health Science. I have ground away at this degree and am 18 credits shy of graduating. College has been difficult, poor study habits plus pride have resulting in a poor GPA, 2.4. Honestly, I'm not sure I can/should finish, however it kills me to quit.\nMy UCF Career has resulted in approximately 33k in Student loans.\nMy lack of maturity has garnished another 5200 in credit card debt.\n3300 @ 19% Citicard\n1900 @ 0% for the next year Chase Slate, thanks to you guys.\n\nIt gets worse...\nCurrently unemployed and searching. Car broke down, 04 Cooper S, repaired it $1800 later just to self destruct again. Destroyed my savings obtained from a good season of serving. Dusted off the CC due to hemorrhaging funds even though I know this is worsening my situation. \nAssets:\n01 Harley Davidson Sportster 1200, $2500. \n97 Vulcan 1500 project, $700, I like to flip motorcycles...\nBroke Mini Cooper S, $2500?\n1995 Ford E350 van/storage unit/garage, $500\nRandom things: $1000\nChase Slate: Unused\nCiti Card: $700 remaining\n\nRent: 950/2 Girlfriend is currently paying this, bless her soul.\nUtilities: 150\nCC Payments:100", "summary": "Poor student + poor choices = Poor"}
{"id": "t3_1h0593", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] conflicted over situation with ex's [22F] leftover stuff", "post": "Hey everybody!\n\nI'm in need help of some advice. Hopefully y'all can help.\n\nI met this girl while we were both in college, and everything was great! Lots of moments I will never forget, both of us have great and compatible families, etc. Regular relationship stuff!\n\nWell i'm older than her and when I graduated I moved to the big city, got a great job and have been having a blast! But, it's also her hometown. And she's back. Neither of us really got closure from the whole thing, and as defiant as I have been in NC (thanks guys!) she has been reaching out to me after 5 months of being broken up.\n\nObviously, she wants to be friends. But when you're inviting me over to your spot at 1 in the morning I think differently. First off am I right in that respect? She straight up stalked me (knew what neighborhood I was partying in that night and texted me \"I know you're out in [X] tonight where are you planning on staying?\" to do it too!\n\nUh, if it's not completely obvious i'm in love with this girl still. Blahblahblah whatever it's my feelings! And you know what? I was honest with her about it. I told her to stop playing games with me, I have feelings for her and unless she feels the same please stay away from me for the time being.\n\nBut I still want to see her. And honestly I still have some of her stuff so there's my in.\n\nI'm just confused about the situation. Given the circumstances it seems so obvious that we both still have feelings, i'm just man enough to admit it. We broke up because I moved away, everything about our relationship was awesome.\n\nWhat am I doing. Every fiber of my being wants to fight for this girl.", "summary": "I thought when I started this post I was just going to ask about what I should do in terms of giving her the stuff back, but now I realize it's much more than that! If you have time analyze my friggen messed up relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_302nqn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "File for Bankruptcy or wait for Disability?", "post": "I am in Pennsylvania\n\nI am asking for some advice as to if I should File Bankruptcy Chapter 7 which would Eliminate all my unsecured debt totaling about 12k or wait for my disability to kick in. I was recently employed with Apple until an unfortunate series of unexplained events caused my colon to be removed and my spine to be reconstructed. \n\nI have had no income since my short term ran out in May 2014 surviving solely on what I had saved and what my father can provide just to keep me eating. I will not be able to work until all my surgeries are finished and I have NO clue when my disability will be approved by the state. But I will have backpay from Summer of 2014. I was told it could be about a year or two before my case has settled, but I am getting ready to be sued by my creditors. I have no assets so I am not sure what they can do, but I am kind of stuck in a rutt. I will be married in May of this year, my fiance has been paying for the wedding since I am stuck in a hospital bed most of the day, and shes been working as a waitress. I do not want to bring my mistakes into her life, as much as she says it is okay. I would like to have them paid off or wiped away before then. \n\nI am currently on Medicaid and Food stamps so that is helping tons. But I am getting deeper and deeper into trouble with the debts I owe. I lost my car to the bank in January and my apartment last fall. I have a 2 year old daughter who I could not even buy christmas presents for and this whole ordeal is starting to go to my head and really putting me down. Ive become extremely depressed since my Surgeries and have had some pretty bad mental breakdowns having my life change so drastically. \n\nI just would like some honest advice on what I should do now. I dont know I am not sure what else I can do.", "summary": "Had Colon removed and Spine Surgery. Am now disabled with no income. Need help on whether to file bankruptcy or wait for Disability for who knows how long."}
{"id": "t3_12crgt", "subreddit": "running", "title": "On Sunday, I turned 35 and PR'd on a 10k in the cold, pouring rain. The achievement felt good, but the run was brutal. Do faster paces get easier?", "post": "Since the summer, when I started going to the gym warming up for weightlifting with 10-12 minute hard runs on the treadmill, I've seen my average pace go from 7:00/km down to between 6:10 and 6:20. On sunday, perhaps because it was frigid and pissing rain, I gave her as hard as I ever have over a prolonged period and finished the James Run 10k in Peterborough Ontario with a 59:22-- a hell of a drop since my last 10k, which I ran in 1:08.\n\nThing is, I've always really enjoyed the hypnotic pleasure of long runs, which I've tended to do at a far easier pace (I ran a half in May in 2:23, 6:45/km). I don't get ANY of that pleasure when I'm running faster. Rather, I spend every second thinking about how much time I have left to run, and practically counting the seconds until I'm done.\n\nThose of you who've improved your pace, do you find this gets better? Do you find it easier just to stride into a nice 15k at your new speed without feeling yourself ground down by it? I can't imagine running 15k at 5:57/km, while doing it at 7:00/km is virtually my definition of pleasure.", "summary": "I really want to enjoy running faster, but it seems like the faster I go, the less pleasure I get from the run."}
{"id": "t3_2vy7ba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mom (45f) brought my ex on a vacation with us (21f) I feel like the third wheel", "post": "This vacation was planned for quite a while and my mom decided to invite my ex and I figured no big deal she's a decent friend. Although, tonight they left me alone in the hotel room to go drink and pick up guys admitting they probably wouldn't be back tonight. I'm just sitting here alone in the hotel room eating cheetos flabbergasted at how to comprehend this whole situation. I'm only 20 and my birthday is in a few days so it's not like joining them was an option\n\nI'm just kind of lost and not sure how to approach the rest of the trip knowing this. I feel hurt and scorned but maybe I shouldn't, I guess I'm just looking for perspective on this whole thing.thanks", "summary": "my mom took my ex out to go get laid on my birthday vacation and I feel sick"}
{"id": "t3_i765c", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Confessions of a treadmill lover...", "post": "Last October I started doing Couch to 5k(C25k) on a treadmill at the gym. I finished up C25k toward the end of January. I also started doing bridge to 10k and made it into week 5, and kept running 5k's on the treadmill off and on. Around march I started running outside just doing C25k All over again(it really is much harder outside),then the beginning of april I dropped a motorcycle on my right leg and bruised my shin and ankle.. after resting for a few weeks I got back to running , but my ankle would really start to hurt toward the end of my runs, so I've been taking it easy on the running by lifting and step-milling..  Last night I decided to give the old treadmill a go, I just decided to try Week 4 of C25k to see how I felt afterwards.. and I feel absolutely great!!! I forgot how much of a trance I can get into on the treadmill. I didn't want stop , but wanted to make sure I didn't over do it after taking a break. I wish I knew why running outside feels like such a battle , and running a treadmill almost feels like meditation..", "summary": "I love running on a treadmill , but not so much outside.."}
{"id": "t3_2llxs0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/F] Don't know what's going on with guy [21/M] of interest", "post": "I met this guy at my university and we hit it off immediately. We talk all the time and have hung out a couple times. He told me he's having trouble \"making his next move\" which after some conversation was never really clarified as to what he meant.\nWe were supposed to hang out twice, once which he bailed (through some fault of his own) and once which I bailed (completely my fault). I posed the idea to hang out later on (yep, today) but he made no promises (which is fine)\nI really dig this guy, but I get awkward when I'm around him. Almost the way you do when you were in high school and had a crush on someone you've never talked to. I'm just really confused, and all of the mixed signals and playing hard to get is confusing the shit out of me", "summary": "girl digs guy. not sure if the feeling is mutual"}
{"id": "t3_lb1fv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Got screwed over for over $200 and need revenge ideas!!!", "post": "So here is the quick version. I had extra tickets to a concert and decided to sell them online. Two were for face value and two were for below face value. But both parties agreed they wanted my tickets and they were going to meet me at the concert to swap monies for the tickets. So I get to the concert and I send them both a txt to let them know I've arrived and where to meet me. The first chick replies saying they waited too long and they just ended up buying from scalpers!!! I couldn't believe it, those ungratefull bitches! I could have sold the tickets to someone else instead of turning them away saying they were already taken! Which leads me to the other girl who said she wanted two tickets. She didn't even have the decency to reply to my txt/email/phone call. Just straight up ignored me! But she did send me an email two minutes before I arrived at the concert asking me if I was still going to show. To which I replied to her email and sent her a txt! But no reply! \n\nSo what I was left with was 4 tickets for no one and short over $200. However, I do have their names, emails and cell numbers. Time for a bit of payback! Now I'm not looking to get my money, I just want to teach these little bitches a lesson on not screwing over normal folk just because they feel like it! Help me figure out some good ideas on how to get back at these girls!", "summary": "got screwed out of $200 and now want payback, have names/emails/cell numbers. Need ideas."}
{"id": "t3_2bn9pk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] need help to get reaquanted with my 3 hald sisters[26+ F]", "post": "I need help with what to say to break the ice with my 3 half sisters. The last time I've seen any of them was over 12 years ago. We all have the same dead beat father. Well he was dead beat for me. Basically paid the child support and thats it. \n\nBack when i was younger the only way i would see him was if my sisters were there. At first they didn't show up or he promised to bring them and they didn't come or lied about them coming. So eventually i stopped seeing him. But i always loved them immensly. Growing up i would always say I have 3 sisters. \n\nWhenever the teachers would ask and shit. I miss them so much. I just don't know what to say. I feel like me alienating my father may have made them feel like i didn't want to see them. I kinda been looking at their facebooks and i really hate that i missed being an uncle to thier kids. I just want to be apart of their lifes. If anything just to talk to them.", "summary": "Don't know what to say to my long lost half sisters."}
{"id": "t3_wupt5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am 37, never smoked Pot and thinking of trying it to help me relax. Is it going to do for me what I want?", "post": "I have been with my wife for 17 years, we have a 4 year old and a 1.5 year old. She is a stay at home mom, and I work from home. We don't have many friends anymore due to a lot of reasons. We both are kind of going crazy in this situation. \n\nI drink 1 or 2 drinks most nights, but drinking enough to really relax and I am in hangover land. We have been trying to get out more (individually and together). We are waiting on Borderlands 2 to come out which will help also as we play together.\n\nI have joked (or half-joked) about smoking pot as another way to relax but wasn't going to go find it. Well it happens that I was talking to an old friend the other night who I know is a long time smoker and asked him about hooking me up. He said it would be no problem. But should I?\n\nWill smoking actually help me relax, escape and feel less concerned about life? Should I throw caution to the wind and just try it once to see? Am I just wrong about the possible effects of pot? I truly don't know.", "summary": "<insert title here />"}
{"id": "t3_1mnso1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there any online college courses/degrees that are actually respected on professional level?", "post": "With the advent of technology, online education is becoming more and more prevalent. A lot of well-respected universities here in the states are now offering online courses.\n\nRecently however, there has been a negative stigma associated with getting degrees and credit for those 'for-profit' online education universities.\n\nThose of you that have taken online courses and received degrees from them, have you faced any obstacles with employment or receiving respectable credit for taking such courses? Do certain fields such as humanities, language, business or science perceive online education differently?\n\nNote: I already have a science bachelor's degree from a public university. I'm currently taking a year off from the scientific field while I apply to Ph.D programs in cognitive neuroscience. I'll be moving around a lot from state to state so I won't be able to enroll in classroom-based courses. I want to pursue taking spanish language and literature courses and I'd like to be able to mark it down on possible future med school applications.", "summary": "Is online education a good substitute for classroom lecture-based education?"}
{"id": "t3_1gycug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Okay so I'm [f19] having (kind of silly) doubts with my boyfriend [m20] of three years.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been having just minor issues as far as sexuality goes. I'm not going to delve into too much detail but I'm kind of shy about sexual stuff and he's sweet and understanding as far as my boundaries go, but he still feels kind of... betrayed I guess that I'm not fully comfortable with him yet. I can tell it bothers him thoroughly.\n\nI like to reiterate that it's minor and not really a big deal from the outside looking in, but it's kind of profound to me.\n\nWell we had a little tiff about it and since then he's been kind of distant and almost reluctant to talk to me. I was texting him tonight and abruptly he states, \"So what time?\" and I, being puzzled, say \"what time for what?\" and he responds with \"What time are you coming over tonight baby?\"\n\nNow this may seem like simple conversation making, but that message most certainly wasn't meant for me if he was being serious; we agreed to take some alone time for ourselves. So I text him with \"...I'm not coming over tonight...?\" He takes awhile to respond and I'm sitting in my bed thinking, \"Oh my God, he's cheating on me...\"\n\nAfter about six or seven minutes later he replies, rather lightheartedly, \"Oh my God, you're no fun. It's a pick-up line lol\".\n\nI know it seems silly but please, please, please, if this is a pick-up line and you know it is let me know because I've never heard that one before and the way he's been texting lately already had me suspicious that he's cheating.\n\nI know I sound kind of stupid but it just seemed sketchy to me and I don't really know where else to go.", "summary": "I suspect boyfriend is cheating on grounds of previous problems and a \"pick-up line\" that goes, \"So what time\" \"What time for what?\" \"What time are you coming over?\" (I think he meant to send that to another girl and used the pick-up line excuse so as not to be caught cheating). Have you ever heard that pick-up line before, please tell me if you have."}
{"id": "t3_47d3kl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26F) and guy I'm dating (34M) for a month, he constantly hangs out with a girl he slept with recently", "post": "I made this a new post but if you look at my post history, you'll see that it's kind of an ongoing issue. The backstory is that I'm dating a guy with two young kids, his marriage ended around three months ago and he has slept around a fair bit since then. \n\nWe had agreed to be \"exclusive\" and I had asked him to delete tinder off his phone and he did. But I know that he slept with at least one of the women who he hangs around with regularly since his divorce. Like they were friends beforehand, then the divorce happened and they slept together, and now they are hanging out \"just as friends.\" I don't think he's lying but it makes me uneasy. I work nights most of the time so I'll hang out at his house until like 10PM, and then he'll tell me this girl is coming over after I leave.  It's hard not to worry because he is obviously attracted to her (since they slept together). I told him that it makes me uncomfortable but he says they're just friends, so I don't want to nag him about it anymore, I hate being that type of person. \n\nBesides that everything has been going really good for us. Dating him is like a dream come true and we're having a lot of fun together. He has child care now so we've been able to go on a couple actual dates and they've gone great. We talk about what we want in the future and our plans line up. \n\nOne other potential red flag is he doesn't want to tell his family and friends that he's dating. He's worried they will go off on him for it being too soon after his separation. He doesn't treat us being together like a big secret, like we still go out in public and everything but it still makes me feel weird.", "summary": "guy I'm dating is always hanging out with a girl he slept with really recently, I told him it makes me uncomfortable but he just brushes it off"}
{"id": "t3_reoi2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What the wildest BF/GF story you got.", "post": "Didn't happen to me but is to awesome of a story not to tell.\n\n4 of my good friends lived in the same house during collage. Also they all had jobs at the same pizza place. Let's call him Sam, was a little shy kid who just recently lost a lot of weight and started to mingle with the ladies. He had been hooking up with this one girl who also worked at the pizza place. She was a very attractive girl, but was a huge attention whore (Also a white trash kinda girl) they had been dating for around 3 months when they got into a fight one night after going out to a club. The girl had been dancing with two of the other roommates and he wasn't to thrilled. They told me that she was rubbing there dicks and asking to bang, huge whore. So after fighting all night they went into his room and had sex and came right back out and fought in front of everyone who sitting in the living room. She said that she wouldn't sleep in his bed and no one was sober to drive her home. Sam told her that she couldn't sleep in the beds of the two roommates she had been dancing with, only the last roommate, let's call him Jim. Jim is very overweight and pretty much a deadbeat. Dropped out of CC and lied to his grandfather to get money for \"tuition\". Anyways he isn't much to look at. So she said that she would stay in Jim's room for the night. I was sleeping on the couch and heard the sound of sexy coming out of Jim's room. It was Unbelievable, he was slamming the shit out of her. The next day Sam ( who had no idea) tried to talk it out with her, instead she blew him off to go to breakfast with Jim. So over the next few weeks she would come over and hang out with Jim, everyone thought it was to get back at Sam but flash forward to now and she is 7 months pregnant with Jim's kid.", "summary": "Friends  Hot Girlfriend get hijacked by Very Fat roommate because  boyfriend didn't think she would sleep with him."}
{"id": "t3_1f4ul1", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Sunday afternoon at the theaters.", "post": "Yesterday, i went with a few friends to see Star Trek 2. Fantastic by the way, 10/10 would watch over and over again. \n\nOn the way back out the parking lot was packed, i had parked by the restaurant on the other side of the lot, as we had eaten there before the movie. So we walked through the parking lot to get back to my car. About halfway through the lot, Jackass Mcgee had parked his obnoxiously giant truck (with lots of chrome mods) in the middle of 4 spaces. Seriously dude? You're that frightened of someone scratching your truck, that your willing to take up 4 spaces in the middle of the busiest parking spot in town. I find this unacceptable, so i do what one might expect the devil to do. \n\nI adjusted his passenger side mirror. \n\nNow he has to go around to fix it.", "summary": "You don't want to fuck with me."}
{"id": "t3_qvz60", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I become a better listener and better conversationalist in general?", "post": "Hey fellas!  I've been lurking/randomly posting here on Reddit for the past couple weeks and I'm thoroughly impressed with the quality of responses that the community provides!  Sooo... I've decided to post something I've been having difficulty with.\n\nI'm 24 years old and have never been in an intimate relationship with anyone and have always struggled with my how to interact with people on the personal level.  Things are getting better and I've actually had some success with the ladies! (first kiss at 22, ftw!).  I'm an avid weight lifter, have a good career ahead of me, and am now beginning to dive into the world of classy fashion (goal this year is to get a bespoke suit).  I believe that the general public finds me attractive and that I'm perceived as \"easily approachable\" and friendly.  So I have no issues with approaching folks and starting up conversations.  \n\nI believe that with me, the issue lies within empathetically listening to the other person.  For some reason whenever I am conversing with someone my mind switches into problem solving mode or I start telling a story that will somehow make it seem like I relate to them.  Whatever they are talking about my mind starts clunking away at it and then I spurt out a logical solution.  This works great if they are seeking my advice (so I'm awesome at the workplace) but it's absolutely terrible when say a pretty lady or a friend is sharing some intimate details with me and I can't keep my trap shut long enough to let them adequately tell the story so we can make a connection of some sort.\n\nRight now I'm slowly (very slowly) getting better at biting my tongue when talking to the opposite sex and also realizing that most people don't want their problems solved, they just want to talk and for you to understand.\n\nSo my question to you ladies and gentlemen is, what tips can you give me on becoming a better listener?  And how can I continue to improve and learn how to have deep bonding conversations with other people?\n\nI'm really looking forward to reading your responses!", "summary": "I keep yapping away and trying to solve peoples problems when they chat with me.  Any tips on how I can stop this and become a better empathetic listener?"}
{"id": "t3_1ui8wv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F/24] caught me [M/24] doing drugs on new years at my house party. She is livid. What do I do?", "post": "Been dating for 4 years. I was doing cocaine with some friends in my bedroom on NYE and hid it from my girlfriend by locking my room door and telling her that my friends were just rolling joints in the bedroom. I did it a couple times but basically stayed out of the room all night. The issue really comes down to me lying to her about what was going on that night - the coke isn't as big of an issue. She hates the idea of me doing it, and I have probably only done it 3 times in my life. It's really about the lying.\n\nHer reasons for being upset are as follows (PS I think she's totally right and I'm a complete asshole for doing this).\n\n1. I lied to her\n2. I lied to her in front of people who knew I was lying to her\n3. She wasn't able to even access my bedroom and didn't feel at home in my house (which she should because she is here all the time. I get it)\n4. Because I did coke\n\nThe worst part is she caught me in another lie when we were talking about what happened, which obviously made things way worse.  Now I am a liar and she says she needs a break. I have literally never lied to her before in my life. This is the first time we've gotten into a fight over a lie. I don't care about the drugs (I don't have to ever do it again), I just want to patch things up. It obviously wasn't worth it. She is more upset with me than I have ever seen her be. I'm terrified.\nI've already apologized (the night of, and several times in person after) and I've admitted I was wrong about everything. But I don't think it's enough. I understand she is upset, I realize the magnitude of the situation but I don't think it's worth breaking up over this.", "summary": "My girlfriend of 4 years caught me doing coke and wants to breakup because of the lying.  I don't want to break up. "}
{"id": "t3_2y5nwl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Being A Drunken Idiot", "post": "Hi Reddit. Oh boy did I fuck up. This happened last Friday. It was my boyfriend's brother's birthday and we all went out to the casino. Well drunk me got jealous about my birthday in January and I couldn't let it go. (When I get drunk, my anger won't stop easily once started.) Well from what I can remember I made a fool of myself at the casino and yelled at my boyfriend. I guess I did some other stuff too but I really can't remember anything because I drank so much alcohol. I tend to have blackouts. It's bad I know. Well when we got home, I guess I went hulk on him and did some more crazy stuff and he nearly called the cops. I was so disappointed when I heard about what I did. \n\nNow my relationship might be in danger because this isn't the first time I've done this. I am so stupid and I can't believe I did this. We have been having the best couple months and I ruined it in one drunken night. I've tried talking to my boyfriend but obviously he's still hurt and angry. Which I don't blame him. I wish I can take that whole night back but there is nothing I can do but move forward. He wants to break up and I don't blame him, but I am so heartbroken over it. I don't want to break up. We are great together.  I am going to stop drinking for awhile and learn to control my anger better. But all I really want is my boyfriend/best friend back. I know he comes on this subreddit a lot so I am hoping maybe he'll see this and maybe think about what I asked him", "summary": "Acted very stupid while blackout drunk and broke my boyfriend's heart. Gonna stop drinking to better myself"}
{"id": "t3_4c2ngp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with girl in class [19F] not sure how to ask her out?", "post": "Hey guys! I'm posting to get some outside advice on this situation. There is a girl in one of my classes (Acting). That I really like, but I am not sure how to ask her out.\nThe class only has roughly 15 people in it so we are all pretty friendly with each other. \n\nI have a lot of anxiety and depression issues. I've been going to a counselor and got some meds for my issues, but I am still absolutely terrified of asking her out.\n\nI tend to have a pretty low opinion of myself and I'm afraid that I am not good enough for anybody so it's like I feel like I am scared of like insulting them I guess? For even asking.\nThank you for any help!", "summary": "Want to ask girl out, not sure how."}
{"id": "t3_mdve4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should r/shitredditsays be trying to influence mods in other subreddits to ban users?", "post": "While I understand the concept of the *circlejerk* and having your own subreddit to ridicule and rant and troll as you please, I've seen a trend in r/srs that gives a string indication of trying to influence other subreddits mods.  [Example]  I personally have no problem with the concept and normal practices of r/srs.  Everyone should be able to have a subreddit where they can discuss important or even extremely unimportant issues as far as those people are concerned.  It's what makes Reddit great.  However, when a subreddit goes from being an idea of satire and humor to an agenda of censorship and objectification, this could be a line that should not be crossed.  So Reddit, I ask you.  \n\n*Should a subreddit's users and mods engage in agendas to influence other subreddit's mods in order to get someone banned solely because they disagree with their point of view, especially when that subreddits sole purpose is to find objectionable comments/links for the purpose of ridicule?", "summary": "Should a subreddit's users and mods engage in agendas to influence other subreddit's mods in order to get someone banned solely because they disagree with their point of view?*"}
{"id": "t3_3ldwxh", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Vent]", "post": "I knew going into this that I would be doing ~~most~~ all of the planning for the Big Day, but I feel like FH is being particularly unhelpful. FH has SIGNIFICANTLY more free time than me (literally like 6 hours a day where he's free and I'm not). He's in STL right now, and I'm in Baton Rouge finishing school. Our Save the Dates came in early (and they look fantastic! yay!), so I asked him to work on the addresses for his side of the guest list. I've already done 95% of mine and done all of the cleaning/formatting for his. ALL he has to do is put the addresses in.\n\nHas he done anything? Nope. And he gets aggravated when I try to talk to him about it. \n\nHe knows how busy I am right now, and I'm a little hurt that he can't even get this done. Am I being ridiculous.", "summary": "FH isn't helping with addresses and it's stressing me out/really hurting me."}
{"id": "t3_3m9so0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By throwing a volleyball", "post": "This happened about 15 minutes ago. I was going to give something to a friend of mine who was in the middle of an MMA (Mixed Martial Arts) club meeting in the middle of my schools recreation center. It's laid out basically the width of 5 tennis/basketball courts with basketball hoops on each end and tall curtains separating each court. Well, I walked in and there was a volleyball match going on on the second court, my friend was on the fifth. The volleyball wound up flying over the curtain towards me on the first court. Cockily, I walk up and attempt to throw the ball over this 50-60ft curtain. Well, my first attempt almost made it over but hit one of the metal chains holding the curtain up. Fine, no big deal. Well my second attempt ended up hitting the curtain about 30 feet up and coming back to me. The entire ~30 people playing and watching the game erupted in laughter at my full hearted failure of an attempt to impress my peers. Defeated i walked around the curtain and handed them the ball and went on with my business. On the way back out, in passing I head someone scream \"At least you tried\" in pity. Mind you I'm a 20 year old 6'1\" Tennis player who's fairly fit and by no means out of shape.", "summary": "I was laughed at for trying to return a ball to a volleyball team"}
{"id": "t3_2fx9t6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [21 F] I [30 M] am going out with keeps receiving crazy text messages from someone she does not know", "post": "[Update](\n\nI started hanging out with this girl for a while (about 2 months) and I really like her and hope to have a committed relationship with her soon. She seems to like me a lot as well. \n\nThere is a problem. She has received strange texts/calls from a stranger for a while. Those communications are really weird and sometimes scary to her too. She tries to avoid the number but after a while, the stranger changes the number and uses a new one to harass her again. She's really confused and does not know that person. Sometimes, she gives me the phone to answer the call from that stranger but when I do, there is no talk from the other side. \n\nI am a little bit worried for her and afraid that something bad might happen to her. What should I do to get her out of this situation?", "summary": "The girl I am going out with keeps receiving unwanted texts/calls from a stranger that she does not know. How to get her out of this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_15ge7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Robbed on Christmas Eve Night/Christmas Morning, what can I do about it?", "post": "I have to admit I'm pretty broken up about this, I've been irate all day which is just how you wanna spend the holiday. My family restaurant was broken into and items were stolen either Christmas Eve Night or Christmas Morning. \n\nThey stole a deli slicer, an espresso machine (that was hooked up to a waterline which was shut off...thanks for not flooding me out?), a few random kids dvd movies and 2 iPads mint in box that we were going to surprise my old man with (he complains about all the wasted paper when orders come in). \n\nI get stealing the iPads and maybe even the movies, but the other stuff really stings, it's how I make my living. I filed a police report, they said they found no signs of forced entry meaning the person likely had a key or the door wasn't locked and they came in and the detective was saying some nonsense about how insurance may not cover the loss because of no forced entry.\n\nI've never been through this kind of thing before. What are the next steps I take? We have insurance on the place, does that usually cover something like this? Is there a way to track the iPads if they've never been turned on? Am I just boned?", "summary": "My store was robbed, what do I do to recoup my losses?"}
{"id": "t3_51h3tf", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is negotiating rent for an apartment a thing? How would I even start?", "post": "We are currently paying about $1,900/mo for a single bedroom for me and my partner. It's a bit on the high end, but we are a couple DINKs so it works out okay.\n\nOur lease has come up for renewal, and the price has surprisingly gone UP! This is surprising, especially give that they've just opened a new complex next door, and that we're signing in September-November when we originally signed in June. I feel like, if anything, our rent just should go *down* if not at least stay the same.\n\nI would like to meet with them and try to negotiate down the cost of our rent. How would I even start with this process? For an extra $100/mo, we could even get an extra bedroom and parking spot. Do we have leverage that we can use to try to get the price down? What do the leasing agents even care about?", "summary": "Where would I start with negotiating rent?"}
{"id": "t3_cgn0b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "\"straight\" woman dating a lesbian for a year and a half. Not sure if we should stay together or break up.", "post": "I say \"straight\" because after a year and a half with a woman I don't know if that classifies me as being such. \n\nA while back I met and became good friends with a lesbian. She had the hots for me, made a move, it felt great, and we've been seeing each other since. Today we had an emotional day and were very close to breaking up, all due to the fact that I'm scared and hesitant to be with a woman long term. For the record, she is everything I have ever looked for in a SO. \n\nSo here we are at the crossroads and I don't know where to go. On one hand she is all I could ask for and I'd be a fool to let her go. On the other hand, I have uncertainties about being with a woman for the long haul. It's not what I envisioned as my life, not to mention my parents are not ok with it. As in you end this or end your relationship with us.  \n\nDo I wait it out and see what happens? Or do I end it and call it a day? She's in this for the long term and tells me quite often that I'm the one. \nFYI - she's 31 and I'm 28. And the sex is amazing.", "summary": "straight woman dating a lesbian for a year and a half. Feeling nervous about a long term future with a woman, even though she has everything I've wanted in a partner. Do I stick it out or call it quits?"}
{"id": "t3_d8wkg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I thrive on communication but my girlfriend never says much.", "post": "On the occasion that she initiates a conversation, thats usually as far as she goes, to initiate. Whether it be face to face, over the phone, or text message she never says much and rarely contributes to it. I'm stumped on how to get her to actively engage in a conversation. At times I'll ask what she thinks about this or that; usually open ended questions, and she(not always) will 9 out of 10 times will give a moot answer. \n\nWere both mid 20's.\n\nWe've been together for a good 7 months.\n\nI can confidently say that we both plan/want on getting married.\n\nAnyone been in a similar situation? Found a fix or way around it?", "summary": "how can I get my gf to participate more in daily talk/conversation?"}
{"id": "t3_dyi32", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help reddit I need your wisdom with making the right decision in choosing jobs", "post": "I'm in a big dilemma right now, I've been looking for more than a year for a job after finishing high school and I finally found one about a month ago, it was putting fliers on people's doors, it wasn't too hard and the pay was good. In the meantime I applied at UPS and I got this job as driver helper which is only until the end of December and then they will most likely not keep me, it's just a seasonal position, and only call me after a few months if I get lucky asking me to go back and only then after a few more months I will start to have any benefits, like them paying for my college which I'm in much need. So I quit my fliers job and I'm starting Monday at UPS, training at first. So that's wonderful, but I applied at many many places up until I got the interviews at UPS, and I just got a phone call from a company called AlliedBarton, a security company, and the interview is on Tuesday, from what I understand the pay is better than UPS and the job is easier, I will just walk around, as a security guy. I know about it from the brother of a friend that already does this and I put him as a reference and the woman that called me specified that I put him as a reference. It's a smaller company than UPS and I'm pretty sure I would have better benefits in the future at UPS if they would choose to keep me. Something I need to mention is that UPS is very strict with time so I can't just go waste my time with interviews and complicate matters.\n\nShould I go with the largest package shipping company in the world, UPS, and crap pay and uncertain future at first but good benefits if they choose to keep me OR should I go with this AlliedBarton security company which will probably offer me better pay and easier job?", "summary": "Should I choose a job at UPS as driver helper or a security job at AlliedBarton?"}
{"id": "t3_2ys6az", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22f) housemaid works on 2 jobs to support herself and cannot pursue her life dreams, says she feels like an old lady with life heavy on her shoulders, what can I tell her to cheer her up?", "post": "My 22f housemaid is from a foreign country, and came here to pursue her dream to get an Art diploma. One can tell she's been through difficult life and is doing a lot in order to pursue her dreams. She has a good heart, and although very quiet usually we got into talking few times lately, by her initiative.  \nShe is down. She told me she feels old, she doesn't seem to love her life, and take 2 different jobs in order to support herself and her boyfriend and it distracts her from the Art degree she is doing, which she cannot really focus on at the moment.  \nSeems like she needs a support or a good advice. She is not my friend and I don't know too much about her, also I cannot give her any intrusive, lengthy advice, but I do wish to cheer her spirit up, if I can. It definitely looks like she needs someone to show her life is brighter than what she sees at the moment. I'm going to give her \"end of year bonus\", but I'm looking to add a few words.  \n \nAny advice which can be given in a small talk structure and can put a smile in her heart will be much appreciated!  \nThank you", "summary": "Looking for a life advice for a 22f that feels like an old lady  "}
{"id": "t3_1j1d1b", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm a womanizer and I'm stuck in a relationship I don't want to be in.", "post": "I'm a player/womanizer/man whore/whatever you want to call it. I hate sounding so vain and cocky, but it is ridiculously easy for me to pick up chicks, and I use this to my full advantage. I get bored with girls easily and always feel like there is someone else I want to fuck or be with, so I just go onto my list of booty calls and find the next \"mission\" and pursue her until I'm bored. This wouldn't be as big of a problem if I wasn't in a relationship at the moment. We've only been together for a month and I'm already bored. I've never considered cheating though. As fast as I move on and get bored and practically use these girls, I still think being unfaithful is a horrible thing. I want to be single again just so I can fuck around with other people but I can't break up with her because we just started getting into the more serious part of a \"dating\" relationship (i.e finishing inside of her, meeting family). Two days ago, I was telling her how gorgeous I thought she was and she mentioned how everything I say is too perfect and almost seems rehearsed. She said she could tell I was recycling lines and that I've used them before. That hit me hard and it made me feel sick. It was a sort of wake up call. I guess it didn't bother her that much because that was all she said.\n\nI realize this sounds like juvenile problem but it's fucking with my head. I want to fix this. I know it's wrong but I can't help how fast I get over people. I don't want it to be like this. I want to have a regular relationship that lasts and I want a family someday but I can't imagine marriage in the state I am now. I'm hoping I'll grow out of it but I don't know if I ever will. Someone please help me or tell me what to do.", "summary": "I want to have a normal, lasting relationship but my inability to stay interested in one person is stopping me."}
{"id": "t3_43a5bb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting rumors get worse.", "post": "Hello reddit, Today's FU is more of a continuous ongoing FU. Let's start this out by saying I'm a college guy in a fraternity who has a girlfriend.\n\nThis girlfriend, happens to have a roommate, one of which happens to be dating a fraternity brother of mine. Often enough, I stay over in her room, as does he, so we're pretty close.\n\nAbout 5 months ago I'd apparently made a joke about his girlfriend stuffing her bra. Honestly, this sounds like something I would say and I'm trying to own up to it and apologize (I have memory issues and am slightly a major asshole, I accept this part of me). I can however recall a moment I walked into my girlfriends room, with my girlfriend, and saw a whole lot that wasn't meant for me, and quickly left the premises. \n\nFirst I'd heard of this I didn't think anything of it. But... people are cruel and spread rumors. And at *University-High* (A small university) a reputation spreads like wildfire.\n\nLet's backup. Years ago, back when I was but a wee new member in my fraternity, we would give each other a lot of crap. Always ragging on each other. By *accident* some of the shit we say to each other got out and people started to believe it. I was meeting people with preconceptions of me. The jokes had gone too far and I had to yell at every one of the brothers. Rumors stifled, things went back to normal.\n\nBack to present day. The rumors have gone from \"trigger93 claimed _____ stuffs her bra.\" and turned into \"trigger93 is totally a peeping tom.\" And honestly I think it's still getting more extravagant and going more and more downhill. \n\nBrother's girlfriend, is helping perpetuate these rumors. But that's probably because she hates me for other reasons.", "summary": "Made a passing joke/comment, now seen as the creepy hunchbacked guy in a trench coat."}
{"id": "t3_25hw6i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26f) can't get over past breakup with current fianc\u00e9 (24m).", "post": "So back in 2009, I had a 5 month relationship with my fianc\u00e9. He invited some friends of his to his family's 4th of July party. One of the girls he invited proceeded to break up publicly and dramatically with her boyfriend, got very drunk and cozy with my boyfriend. She would sit on his lap, try to kiss him, break into tears and fall into his arms. My boyfriend tagged along with every move she made. When I made a point of asking him not to let her do these things, and furthermore, not go on a road trip with her to another state, he got very upset with me. He called me an inconvenience and told me I was nothing but trouble. He even went and visited her house and stayed nights, even when I asked him not to before the trip. \n\nIt was shortly after this that we broke up. I couldn't handle not being exclusive to him, and he probably wasn't going to be exclusive for me. It really tore me up. It took me a few years to be able to talk to him again. The whole time I never stopped being in love with him. After we started speaking again, we resumed a physical relationship, but only started really dating a few years ago. I'm not going to lie, it's not like we don't have our own problems, but I think my biggest problems revolve around this. I get very possessive of my fianc\u00e9. I will try to monopolize most of his time- even if he'll want to spend time with friends or play video games, I'll want to be there, like I'm afraid I'll lose him again without constant vigilance. Also, I suppose I'm just madly, stupidly, wildly in love with him. \n\nBut please help. I need to let go of this five year abscess. I get positively murderous when I think about him even being friendly with another girl.", "summary": "Dated current fianc\u00e9 way long ago, had a messy breakup, causing problems in my relationship with him today."}
{"id": "t3_rwgn7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there hot female scientists? (x-post scientific analysis of sexy)", "post": "Many of my fellow scientists, including myself, have come up with a postulate. This theory states that the hotness of a girl is inversely proportional to her major. We are a varied group of chemistry, physics, and math majors and have not been impressed by the quality of our fellow female classmates. There seems to be a lack luster performance when it comes to looking good in class. The ones that do tend to be a part of the upper echelon are found in our lower level classes, and are not majoring in a true science, i.e. math, physics, chemistry, and biology.", "summary": "We hope our theory of no attractive female scientists can be disproven. They only way to disprove is to show a picture of you in front of a board explaining a scientific fact/theory."}
{"id": "t3_3aodla", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "URGENT: Failed drug test at work.", "post": "/xpost from /r/jobs \n\nTo clarify I am in Australia.\n\nGuys, I need some urgent advice.\nI'm in my early 20s and have just graduated university and was in my first job of my 'career'. My employer conducts random drug testing in the workplace as part of their safety program.\nWhen I came in this morning to start the day I was picked for random drug testing. Well anyway I failed and tested positive for THC use. I don't really want to go into further detail about it but that's what happened.\nThe company has a strict zero tolerance drug and alcohol policy, with the punishment being instant dismissal for positive readings. My manager came into the room and I was upfront about partaking over the weekend, which in hindsight maybe I shouldn't have been. I was immediately sent home from work and told to await a call.\nNow I have just received a call from my manager requesting my resignation so he did not have to terminate me. He was pretty good about the whole thing and offered to provide a positive reference for me, which I think may have been because I was honest about it. I think I'm very lucky that my manager has given me this opportunity but would like some advice on how to proceed.\nHow should I craft a resignation letter sounding appreciative yet sincerely apologetic for my actions? Should I mention my positive drug test at all in my resignation?\nI was also thinking of writing a handover of my duties to give my coworkers etc. Is this a good idea?", "summary": "I was irresponsible and now I'm paying for it. I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_15qzz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18m) made the ultimate mistake and dated my best friend (17f). Now that our relationship is over, I don't know what to do.", "post": "During the summer we hung out a lot, and I thought that I had finally gotten over my year-long crush that I had on her. As soon as school started, I found out that she had developed feelings for me. Taking the initiative, I asked her to Homecoming. We held hands, kissed, all was good. Fast forward two months, our relationship ends. Boo-hoo. I'm over it (kinda). I need advice on how to best approach her. She's the kind of person that will most likely want to pretend that nothing's wrong, but I really want to get any issues out of the way now so they don't come up later.", "summary": "relationship = over, friendship = fuck if I know"}
{"id": "t3_2fx1s3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a parent I couldn't care less about his kids after a Tennis lesson.", "post": "I taught tennis once a week throughout the summer to a group of kids in which we ran 3 different classes over a 3 hour period. \nEach week, a father came with his two daughters and patiently sat and watched for two hours, one hour/daughter. \n\nHe was always very pleasant and always enthusiastically thanked me after both of his daughters had finished their classes. I'm still not sure, but I got the impression that English might not have been his first language. \n\nOn the last class of the year, with my brain still partially asleep after waking up at 8:00 and teaching until noon, he approaches me and thanks me so much for the summer. He tells me about how his daughters loved the classes and want to pursue the sport. I'm smiling and nodding the whole time, loving the praise. He concludes by saying \"*And you know, this was the first time they've ever played the sport!*\".\n\nAt this point, I fully intended to tell him that I couldn't tell and that they were fantastic kids.\n\nUnfortunately, that's not what came out. Much to my confusion and horror I ended up saying \"*Oh really? I Couldn't care less!*\" - some terrible, deformed baby of the two phrases I meant to say: \"I couldn't tell\" and \"It didn't end up mattering, they were great\". \n\nHe smiled and walked out with his kids after a touch of hesitation while my co-worker looked at me like I just stepped out of a spaceship from Mars. Once I realized what I had actually just said, I tried to explain myself to my co-worker, trying to redeem myself after saying such a heartless thing, only to end up failing miserably. \n\nWe ended up laughing about it with me crossing my fingers he didn't understand, because he and his kids certainly didn't deserve that kind of response and I didn't get a chance to apologize.", "summary": "Told a father I could't care less about his kids the second I was free of them"}
{"id": "t3_34u378", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cleaning the kitchen", "post": "I'm home with my 3 year old and decided to clean the kitchen. Being a lazy mom I put the tv on to keep her busy. 3/4 of the way through cleaning I realized I hadn't heard her for a while. And parenting rule number 2 is if the kids are quiet, they are getting into something. Usually just dumping out their dresser or coloring the walls or escaping the house - nothing too major. Today I ninja-moved through the house (parenting rule number 72: if they sense you coming they try to clean up and make matters worse) and found her in the bathroom. Sitting on the toilet. Whew. Dodged a bullet, she's just going potty. \n\nAnd then I noticed her whole body has a sheen on it. I examine a little closer and she is wet. My anxiety is high at this point but I'm hoping she was just playing in the sink. \n\n\"Daughter, what is on you?\" \n\n\"Water\"\n\n\"Where did you get the water?\"\n\nShe points at the toilet water. Such is my life.", "summary": "moms clean with bleach water, toddlers clean with poop water."}
{"id": "t3_vcmxr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] Boyfriend (25/m) loves to travel but can't support me going with him ever. What CAN be done, if anything?", "post": "Been with him for a year now, we broke up for other reasons around 5/14, however decided a week or so ago to try and work things out. Prior to breaking up, I had a lot going on so I never got to tell him how much his traveling got to me. Upon figuring out details for a 4th of July trip, his ability to travel came up again. His parents work for airline companies so, as a son, he gets to fly anywhere for free, and has since he was very small. He works at a construction company and does really well there, and has worked to be able to take time off almost whenever he wishes and get proper vacation time. I work part time and am actively looking for full time employment. In the mean time, I cannot take off work without typical office etiquette (putting it in at least 3 weeks prior, giving notice, etc), and to be honest, I can't afford to take time off as a part-timer as I get no benefits. So I lose almost half my paychecks if I did that. This is on top of just not having a job, because whats the point of hiring someone for them to never be around? I can put in for some money to go on trips but I just don't have the cash to pay for my whole ticket. Upon explaining my difficulty dealing with this, he said that this was something that he would not compromise on, stating that he will take any and all opportunities to go places, even if it means I do not join him. He goes places at least 4 or 5 times a year. \n\nOverall, I'm not sure what I can do. I'm not even sure if I'm the person that is in the \"right\" in this situation. I really wanted to work things out with him and he with me, but being unable to share important moments like this with him hurts me, and I feel like its unfair of him to assume that I'll just be okay with being left behind while he's in another place having fun.", "summary": "Boyfriend travels all the time and cannot support me enough to go with him all the time. Expects me to be okay with him leaving me by myself when I cannot afford a full ticket. What can be done, if anything?"}
{"id": "t3_46pg0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [28F] finally ended my near 5 year relationship with my ex [29 M] who was a great guy. How did you cope?", "post": "It was so hard. He is such a great guy. Great boyfriend material, would make a wonderful father - patient, caring, loving, and loyal. And I had to give that all up because it simply wasn't working. I haven't felt a pain like this. It's a huge loss that I don't know how I can get myself back up. All these fears in me - Will I ever find someone as good and love me as much as he did? What if he's the best I could do? \n\nI've been hanging on to this failing relationship for so long simply because I couldn't let go of someone so good even though I knew that we weren't compatible and was inevitably growing apart. I've invested so much of my emotions and time with him that I don't know how I will go on. I feel like dating is going to be hellish as I will be using my ex as a yardstick and just nitpick at everyone who doesn't match up. \n\nFor now I've gone no contact as most have advised. Any tips or story that is similar to mine? You letting go of a great person? How are you doing now? Have you met someone?", "summary": "Just broke up with a great guy after a near 5 year relationship and finding it hard to cope. Any tips/stories is appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_1yvjor", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my SO [20 F] 3 years, she should've died a couple of months ago. We love a few hours apart and since her accident I have not been able to keep my heart in school.", "post": "I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place or not but back in late December my girlfriend got in a serious car accident and should've been killed.  We both live in different cities for our schooling and I'm graduating in May.  \n\nSince the accident all I've wanted to do is be there for her constantly which I know I can't do.  I just feel like my heart isn't in school anymore. I know I just have 8 more weeks of classes left but I don't want to be here anymore.  \n\nDoes anyone have any type of advice for helping me get through this predicament?", "summary": "girlfriend should have died, my heart isn't in my schooling anymore, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_260g45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] confused about [22M]... online mentoring has turned into online flirting/relationship", "post": "So, I've known this guy, A, since college (a few years ago). For the most part, we kept our interactions within an academic setting - courses and organizations - but we did hang out a few times. During this time I developed a crush on him, but due to our mutual affiliation with a group, I decided to keep things \"professional\" and hid my feelings.\n\nIn between then and now: I graduated, moved, had a boyfriend (currently single though), and have a job.\n\nAbout a year ago he reached out to me seeking school and career advice. Although our communications originally started out very formal they soon became friendly and elevated to flirting. We also exchange shows, music, books, and other things of interest. Recently he told me that he \"loves me\" and asked me when I plan on moving back... Just to be clear, I don't think he actually loves me; I think it's really just an indication that feelings of affection are developing. The problem is that I reciprocate these feelings, but have come to terms with the fact that the likelihood of our ever being together is very very slim (we live about 8 hours away from each other and are both on very tight budgets)! But I think we both keep at it because it's (a) fun, and (b) we're both single.\n\nIf it matters, and I think it does... I've gone on a few dates with another guy, B, who lives in my current city. But I don't really feel interested and can't tell if it's because guy B is bland, or because my thoughts are stuck on guy A.\n\nHas anyone else gone through something similar? Do you have any tips on how to minimize the possibility of feelings getting hurt? Do you suggest I just cut all ties now before becoming more invested? Or do you think I should keep enjoying this as long as it lasts?", "summary": "Online mentoring relationship has turned into online flirting relationship, with expressions of love and such being exchanged. Would like to know people's opinions on whether or not I should maintain this, and if it could possibly sabotage potential relationships with men who live in my city."}
{"id": "t3_3h42au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] was too late expressing my feelings for [24M]", "post": "So made a post few days ago, but can't make an update post since I'm posting from phone.\n\nHowever, he picked me up at 5am this Thursday and we spent the night together watching a movie. I left pretty early the next day. It felt like too little time to tell him how I felt, but since we decided to meet today (Saturday) I thought that I'd tell him then.\n\nBut today he cancelled on us cause he's going to meet another girl that he met at a party last night and he described her as \"interesting\". So I guess he's more interested in a stranger than me.\nThen he added on that \"he don't want to socialize\" and that I \"don't have to answer to that message\".\nSo now I'm sitting here watching him being online chatting to her while he wants me to shut up.\n\nSo this little borderline freak is going to get high and drunk now and hope to not wake up tomorrow.\n\nThanks for the advice reddit!\nToo bad i fucked up.", "summary": "He's not interested. Bye."}
{"id": "t3_3207gf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] am begging my ex boyfriend [17M] to take me back, regardless of the fact he has a boyfriend[18M].", "post": "I can't believe I did it. I m crawling back on my belly to a guy i know i dont need and who was toxic as fuck to me. We had started dating when we were 13, the initial breakup was a year later, he gave me a panic attack in the middle of a mall.  we're now at the point where we've dated 5 times, i ended it twice and he 3 others. \n\nThe most recent time it ended, he ended it, because I got sick of him always offering me pot even though I told him I wanted nothing to do with it. In the end he told me he'd rather smoke pot than date me.  \n\nHe presently has a boyfriend he's been dating for maybe 6 months now. I know this relationship is very happy. I feel like an ass for wanting to rip this apart.\n\nDon't get me wrong, it's not like i havent tried to get over him, I've dated 4 girls and a guy in the time that we haven't been together. Nothing jives. I know im young and things will look up soon but I feel terrible. I need him. No one in the world has ever made me quite so happy, i feel like he's the end of a metaphorical red string. \n\nI texted him telling him what an asshole i am for doing this and how i felt about him at roughly 3 am. Great time, I know. Since then i've had anxiety so bad its causing me major chest pain, im pretty sure im under cardiac arrest. \n\nI don't know what to do. I want him back in the worst way but then again it could just be a major need to be loved and cared for? No, I know its a disgusting, major need to be loved and cared for and I just keep crawling back because he's the only guy who ever has. send help.", "summary": "Im a moody teenager with an emotional problem who keeps crawling back to the same ex because he's the only person who's ever really cared about me. I want to stop."}
{"id": "t3_4p970f", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Have about 30k in bank, thinking about buying a house or small business or make another smart investment", "post": "My wife and I have about 30k in our savings. Right now it's just there, not being invested. We are keeping it there thinking we want to buy a house. Right now we pay cheap cheap rent bc she works as a apartment leasing agent (750 a mo for 2 bd 1 ba in dallas). \n\nI have about 45k in student loans paying 280 a month, a car loan with 5k left paying 240 a month. She has a car loan with about 9k left st 190 a mo.\n\nI'm working 2 jobs waiting tables pulling in around 50k a year. She makes about 30k. I know we can only qualify for a certain amount using only one of my jobs that makes 30k a year but we aren't looking for anything over 200k although decent houses in that range in decent areas are hard to come by. \n\nWe are trying to save up so we can put 20% down to avoid pmi on the house. Or we could do an fha and put less down and keep extra cash for repairs remodels and rainy day funds. Right now the thing holding us back I'd our credit situation which we are currently addressing.\n\nOverall I am decent at managing my money but was wondering what the best course of action would be given our liquid assets. BTW we have one 5 year old son and would like to have another child after we buy a house.", "summary": "have 30k saved want to know what to invest in, a house, a business or other venture"}
{"id": "t3_2wn9kh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] girlfriend is leaving me [20M] because she is unhappy", "post": "Hello ! I'm trying really hard to not text her right now, so here I am. \n\nShe's leaving me because she says she is unhappy. In her defense, I had become a shitty boyfriend the last few months. It wasn't always like that I know we're young, but that's not what I want to hear. We lived with each other, and we loved each other. However, she feels as if maybe she didn't love me, and that she doesn't know what love is. We've been together three years, we almost got married. \n\nShe says maybe in the future we can try again. I know everyone says no contact, but is it a good thing to try again? I still love her. She also feels as if she needs to work on herself a bit. I want to work it out. Why couldn't she stay and work it out? Am I wrong for having some feels of hate for her not working it out? She wants to put herself first more instead of others.", "summary": "girlfriend leaving because she's unhappy. Doesn't want to stay to work it out, wants to work on herself. Maybe try again down the road."}
{"id": "t3_2elpf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22/m] Went on a date but had a weird ending... TL;DR", "post": "Im an international student living in Brisbane. Last night I went on date with an English girl who is in one of my classes. It was going good, make some jokes (a few failed), there was some sexual talk and we had some good conversations. As I was walking her home she asked if I had been on many dates here in Brisbane. I responded \"Yea a few\". When I asked her she said \"Yeah I went on one with this guy who was pretty full on. Tried to make out with me and now its awkward when I see him at uni\".\n\nI was confused because here I am walking her back to her place and potentially going to try and kiss her. She then says \"Im not really looking for any relationships\" \n\nWe get to her place and I froze up and didn't go for the kiss. We parted ways and about 30 minutes later I get a text saying \"I had a good night. Thanks for walking me back. Did you get home okay\" I responded \"No Problem, It got home just fine. I'll text ya sometime\".\n\nNow I have no clue what the hell happened at the end and Im not sure if I should pursue her anymore. It was just kind of strange that someone would bring that up right away.", "summary": "Went on a date, girl was implying not looking for relationship, should I still pursue?"}
{"id": "t3_2z8uqr", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "MIL: \"Did horrible mummy put your nappy on?\" I need to nip this in the bud but I'm not sure how", "post": "Funnily enough I was reading a thread where something similar happened to another mum and then it happened to me. I wanted to say something but I just wasn't sure how to handle it. \n\nA bit of background. My MIL is never wrong, cannot be criticised or corrected and minor things become huge dramas. She has never said the word 'sorry' without the word 'but' immediately after. There's a whole thread and a half I could fill with my concerns about her parenting/grandparenting. I don't leave her alone with my four month old and my husband is on board with my wishes.\n\nI've let many things slide in the past but now my son is here I don't want to let these things go anymore. How can I teach him that he deserves to be respected if I don't expect the same respect for myself? I just don't know where to start as I can be a bit too forthright when I don't have a plan so I tend to bite my tongue for fear of setting the world on fire. Yesterday she said \"Did horrible mummy put your nappy on?\" and I wanted to tell her \"That's not a nice thing to say.\" in that passive-aggressive talk-through-the-child way, (passive-aggressive is my in-laws MO) but I just don't think it'll sink in. My 5 and 7 year old nephew and niece were visiting too so I didn't want to cause tension for them either. \n\nSo wise heads of r/parenting, arm me with a come back or two that will nip this in the bud without her going off the deep end and emotionally manipulating the situation so we have to apologise for an easy life because we live so close (I lurk on /r/raisedbynarcissists for sanity).", "summary": "I need a comeback to stop my MIL putting me down in front of my son without causing a drama."}
{"id": "t3_1ti42d", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "How to teach my 3 year old shih tzu not to bite", "post": "My shih tzu has always been difficult to train, but I acknowledge in the beginning it was human error. Mia was our second dog (our first dog practically trained himself) and neither or my parents had previously had dogs. We tried to do what we did with out first dog, but she didn't learn. It has taken her 2 years to be house trained (and even now she only does it 90% of the time, and if she is left alone with out our other dog she will have an accident because seperation anxiety). There is a lot we have to work on with her (she is very stubborn and not always the brightest). **Right now my biggest problem is biting.** She was always a nippy puppy but so was our other dog. She started by nipping as a puppy during play time, well it's not really nipping, she would just put her teeth on us. Eventually she started doing this harder and once I would end up with small scratches after play time, I realized we had to change what we were doing. I started the no bite rule (which my sister has a hard time abiding by but she finally is listening). Mia is not allowed to bite, when she is excited she puts her teeth on you, she does this every time I come home, I started ignoring her unless she brought a toy (this started to become less of a problem now). I thought all was going well until my brother came home to visit (after a few days in) he went to give her a kiss she bit his lip breaking the skin. I am really worried because if she does this to some random stranger on the street it can be grounds to put her down (I realize this doesn't happen often with a small dog but its always a possibility). Also she doesn't show warning signs of when she's upset or doesn't want us to do something. She doesn't growl as a warning and there are no body signs (my brother worked in an animal shelter and learned all about body signs and he didn't see anything). When she bites I will yelp and say no sternly, sometimes I bop her nose. What else can I do?", "summary": "my dog bit my brothers lip and broke the skin. Her biting diminished recently and she was doing very well before this in terms of biting. What can I do to get her to stop?"}
{"id": "t3_19evqh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/19] How do you deal with being attracted to another woman who is not your s/o, despite knowing it would never work out?", "post": "My girlfriend is the same age as me, we go to college together, see each other all of the time, and I know I love her with all of my heart. However, there's another girl that I am sort of friends with, and I am inexplicably attracted to. I know it would never work out between us, and I'm pretty sure it's only a physical attraction. I would never even consider ending my relationship over this, but I can't seem to get her out of my head. To add to things, she's in a lot of my classes, so it's pretty hard to avoid her. Any advice for how to deal with this mentally or move on?", "summary": "I love my girlfriend, how do I get another girl who is not her out of my head?"}
{"id": "t3_4vw63s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 F] with my fiance [34 M Tom ] 5 years, A year ago I suggested and open relationship, Tom agreed, He now wants a pre nup and doesn't want me to have his last name", "post": "A year ago I suggested an open relationship to Tom.  He isn't able to have sex very often due to heart issues that he has so I thought an open relationship would be a good compromise.  Tom didn't seem bothered by the idea at all and actually said that he thought it was a smart one.  Tom has never really been posessive or clingy.\n\n-\n\nNow for the issues before our relationship was opened Tom would always talk about how imprtant it was for him for the family to be unified.  He said he wanted me and the kids to have his last name and that he didn't like the idea of pre nups, even though he is a very wealthy man both from inheritance and his own success.  Well, yesterday we were discussing a wedding date.  And said before that happened he would need to have a pre nup signed six months before and that he wanted me keep my last name.  He said that it would be \"oppressive\" for me to take his name.  This was odd coming from him being that he never really took an interest in feminism.  I was blindsided by these two things and feel rejected.  How should I bring them up to Tom?", "summary": "fiance wants pre nup and wants me to keep my last name after relationship was opened"}
{"id": "t3_wfwdz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Pop culture savvy, current music listening, slang using, Urban Dictionary writing people of Reddit: What are the most current terms slang terms for different sex acts that teens would have heard?", "post": "There's a summer camp for teens I am a counselor for every year and one of the workshops we do is for teens to be able to ask the opposite sex questions they've always had but have never been comfortable asking. They write down their questions on index cards and then through mediation of adult counselors, they get their questions answered by the opposite sex of teenagers. A lot of the questions are normal, boys want to know if girls really think size matters, girls want to know if boys really get morning wood, etc. Not all the questions are of a sexual nature either, sometimes girls want to know if boys are intimidated by girls who are better at sports than they are and boys want to know if girls watch as much porn as they do. Well...most of the questions are related to sex.\n\nThat's where I need your help, sometimes the questions are just slang questions, one year it was a big discussion topic of what an \"Eiffel Tower\" was and would you ever be part of one? And what does it mean to \"super man that ho\"? I'm a 24 year old female and I don't watch a lot of MTV or necessarily know that most current terms being thrown around for sex acts. I know what sexting is, but what beyond that are terms I should be prepared to know what they are in case a camper asks?", "summary": "My teen campers might ask me about sex slang and I want to gain as much knowledge of current slang right now as possible."}
{"id": "t3_1orl9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] am secretly dating a [49 F] got caught by her son.", "post": "So here's the deal...\n\nI met this woman in a family reunion as she's kind of a best friend to my mother. We actually got to know each other for almost two years without really hinting on any desire of one another. We just connected and felt good around each other. Then, one night we were just drinking wine while talking about mindless stuff when she suddenly confessed her feelings for me which prompted me to confess mine. We started flirting and I ended up kissing her leading to our now relationship.\n\nHowever, she asked for our relationship to be kept a secret since she has a 10 year old son and is friend to some of my relatives. She's scared of getting judged and/or criticized by people because she's \"officialy\" ina relationship with her father's son although he has never been there for her, as I'm told. They never married and, although he has denied it, she thinks he has another family because he only visits his son a couple hours on saturday. \n\nEven though, she has kept the fact that they're not a couple to her son. He used to think his parents are married and his father is just off to work and only has free time on saturdays but has recently begun to ask a lot about his father and the reason why he's almost absent.\n\nI get along with her son quite well and he seems to look at me as some kind of old bro. But just yesterday he caught us having sex, she was surprised and scared and asked me to immediately leave her place. She tells me he's acting kind of angry and/or disappointed at her, he doesn't speak to her or let her hold him. She asked me to stay away for some time since she thinks it's better if she talks to him alone. I respect her decision though I'm not really comfortable with it because I feel like running away from it. Although I don't really what to do about it or what to even expect. I guess I always kind of knew this would happen some time or another and in some way I wished for it to happen because I felt he deserved to know the truth about her mother and I but now I don't feel quite right about it.\n\nAny thoughts or similar experiences?", "summary": "I keep a secret relationship with an older woman, her son caught us having sex, don't know what to do or expect"}
{"id": "t3_2p6cpp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "A little something I've noticed within this sub.", "post": "One thing I've noticed is that there are quite a few people here that follow certain percentage rules for buying cars, house, renting, etc.(name it and the rule is there). I think that's good, your better off being on top of your finances. Some rules are good to follow too, but it doesn't mean everyone has to follow them. But when these people see other people people breaking those rules (the rules they set in place for THEMSELVES) they freak out. \"You're paying too much for your car\" \"you can't afford that house\" \"you gotta sell it\". \n\nIdeally if they have it and are able to pay for it, they can 'afford' it. These items can also be considered investments once they are paid off, you might lose some money when you sell it -- but in the end it might have been worth it.\n\nIm usually a reader and this might be the first time I actually posted something, I do like the information I find in here and it will help me in the long run, but one of the most annoying things to read is when someone displays their numbers and everyone hops on the \"you can't afford that\" train. Let them be. Suggestions are nice, nagging sends people away.", "summary": "stop telling people they can't afford what they have based on your personal finance rules. You do you, everyone else does everyone else. It's annoying even when I'm not the person it's being directed at."}
{"id": "t3_2sievx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17/M] have no experience with relationships. What should I know?", "post": "I'm a 17 year old male with no experience with relationships. I've never kissed a girl, been out on a date, asked a girl out, expressed my interest in someone or had sex. I have my own personal issues that I need to figure out beforehand, so relationships aren't a priority at a moment as I want to develop myself. I figured, if I wouldn't date myself if I were a girl, why should anyone else? \n\nWhat should I know before entering into a relationship? The thought of entering into one, or at least going out on a date runs through my mind occasionally. Whether it be common knowledge or something that only a few people ever realize, what should I know before venturing into the dating/relationship world? \n\nAny and every piece of advice is appreciated. :)", "summary": "Can I have some advice, please?"}
{"id": "t3_297t8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What the hell? Why can't I [19M] get over my ex? [19F]", "post": "I'm spending way too much time on this subreddit.\n\nSo basically got dumped by ex of 5ish months, blah blah, we're both in the same college, blah blah, I can't 100% cut her out of my life because our social group is too intertwined. \n\nAnyway, I want to know why I can't get over my ex and how I can fix that. I posted a sort of similar question a few days ago and people said I should just get out, or give it time, or what have you.\n\nWell it's been almost 2 months or so, I need to be over this now. But the thing is not only am I not over her but I kinda feel jealous, not of anyone going after her but of her in general. She's spending her summer working a part time job, relaxing, seeing friends, and meeting new people (at least thats what our mutual friend decided to tell me today) and I'm stuck working 8 hour days, second shift, 6 days a week at a factory.  All while trying to deal with my newly \"discovered\" type two bipolar disorder.\n\nSo not only am I not over her, I'm jealous that she gets to have a great summer while I'm stuck working in a hot factory the whole time. \n\nThe last time I was on this subreddit someone suggested that I try to brain storm and keep my mind busy while I worked. That worked for a whole one day. When I'm doing my job my thoughts somehow always get back to my ex. I try to cover it up by filling my feelings for her with resentment and anger and hatred but it's just not working effectively. \n\nToo make matters worse, I got weak tonight and checked her instagram (The only social media we haven't blocked each other on), which hurt as you'd expect.\n\nI'm just so damned frustrated, I feel like I can't get over her while I'm working all the damn time. What do I do?!", "summary": "Ex-Girlfriends moving on and having a grand old time this summer while I work 48 hours a week (6 days) And I just can't seem to get over her despite the rather brief 5.5 month relationship ending 2 months ago and I'm beyond frustrated."}
{"id": "t3_1u31mw", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Do you have any thoughts/advice for a soon to be father (Who happens to be transgender)? Details inside!", "post": "Hello! \nHopefully this is the appropriate subreddit for this matter (and if it isn't just tell me where to go!)\n\nToday, I found out that I am going to be a father! I'm so looking forward to the new year :)\nThis post is more \"me centered\", just to let you know.\n\nMy situation is a little unusual because I am a transgender man (meaning I was born a girl).\n...So with that, I have no ability to impregnate my wife (or anyone for that matter). My brother was willing to be a donor for when we felt the time was right. \nAfter going through legal details and lots of medical testing, My wife is now 5 weeks pregnant!\n\nWe are ages 27 & 28, 4 years married (So close to 5!), financially stable, recently moved from our apartment into a house. \n\nWe are so thrilled to start a family. Late nights and long talks about parenting have brought out lots of details and plans. Of course we talked about my gender identity and what aspects of it could effect our child, Positive and Negative. We feel a bit stuck.\n(We both agree that being honest to our child is important)\n\nI'm just worried about their future. What if I don't explain things right. \nThe facts are that:\ndad is transgender, doesn't have boy parts (even though he is hairy, sounds like a boy and doesn't have a chest), dad can't have babies... so .... obviously.\n\nAlong with trying not to confuse my child, I'm concerned for our safety. \nI am legally male and apart from my close friends, doctors and family, Nobody knows about my transition. \nSo many bad things happen to transgender people, simply because they are trans. I've lived through a hate based attack, and since then I've been terrified of having people finding out. I now live in more accepting city, but I can never be to sure. \n\nAny input or advice you might have on the situation is greatly appreciated.\nThanks!", "summary": "Guy can't have babies due to having been being born a girl, Guy's brother donates sperm, Wife is now 5 weeks pregnant, guy is worried about how being transgender might effect the child (Explaining it, safety), "}
{"id": "t3_44ieag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] just found out the guy i was seeing[30M] for about 5 months, is married and has a kid.", "post": "I just found out the guy I was dating for a while is married and has a kid even though when I asked him if he was he lied about it and said no. \n\nI'm pissed he lied but what gets me is that I also found out he tried to get with one of my best friend's sister too. And I never saw this coming. Normally I'm very intuitive when people are lying to me but I never saw it coming with him. \n\nObviously I'm not seeing him anymore but he lied to me for five months. I haven't confronted him about it but I have cut off all contact with him. I actually stopped seeing him before I ever found out all this but should I say something to him now? Honestly I just want to go full on crazy and b**** slap him and so help me I will if I ever ran into him but what would you guys do if you were in this situation?", "summary": "What would you do if you found out the man you were dating was married?"}
{"id": "t3_vuche", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling my girlfriend's nose piercing out during sex.", "post": "This was actually last night.. And the night had a few mo bumps than just that. I was out of condoms at that point, so on our way home went to pick up some more. Stupid me decided to try out a new kind (Trojan). So we get home, start getting into it, and the time comes, so I whip out a condom, fiddle with it, and what the fuck do you know, it's too small. So desperately, I take another, and same deal (bug surprise, eh?). I take a third one, and this one seems to go on better, and we decide to roll with it. So she gets on top, and we're going at it, and then it happens. By some sorcery, my nose gets caught on her nose piercing, and pretty much pulls it right out. So now I have a naked girl in tears, still on top of me (I'm still inside her at this point). I pull out, fix her no ring, and end up consoling a girl in tears. Oops.", "summary": "Bought condoms that were too small, then pulled her nose piercing out mid-sex."}
{"id": "t3_13cdkb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there really a \"Button\" area on a humans body that will, upon impact, cause unconsciousness?", "post": "My Father, a few UFC/Boxing announcers and myself call the area on the face under the eye \"The Button\", because in most fights when that area is struck really hard, it's immediate jelly-legs as they hit the canvas unconscious...\n..now is that actually, as we call it, a \"Button\" area that causes them to lose consciousness? Or is it just because the guy got punched in the face?\n\nAlso, we've all seen it in the movies where the Martial Arts Master sneaks up from behind and gives the enemy a chop to the side of the neck *(\"JUDO CHOP!\")*, causing their enemy to black-out. I've seen and been in enough fights to know that simply taking a hit to the side of the neck isn't going to do anything but hurt and maybe activate a pressure-point and just hurt more...but is there a certain area there on the neck *(or anywhere, for that matter)* that can be hit or pinched that will cause instant unconsciousness *(without the unconsciousness coming from the force of the hit, but rather the placement)*?\n\nJust curious.", "summary": "Is there an area in the body that can be struck or manipulated that will cause instant unconsciousness *(again, not from the force of the hit but from the area)*??"}
{"id": "t3_2hyfcd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im 18 F and my boyfriend is a compulsive liar", "post": "I have an incredible boyfriend. He's the first boy I have ever had a romantic relationship with. Were both 18 and have been together for about 8 months now. He is loving, kind, understanding, hard working and just a great person in general and I love him deeply. He goes to college full time, pays for it all himself and works as a chef at a country club. Everything is great, except for the fact that he compulsively lies about almost everything.\n\n It's always little things. Things I wouldn't even get mad at. I ask him a question about anything and he immediately lies about it. I can take the lie as it is or, if i ask him a few more times he will tell me the truth. I told him his lieing hurts me deeply because trust is a very important thing in a relationship for me and its getting very hard to trust him. He apologized profusely and said it's just something that he's done ever since he could remember, that he doesn't do it to hurt me it just happens without him really thinking about and that he plans on getting help for it. Has anyone else here ever dealt with a compulsive liar? I don't plan on breaking up with him but the fact that he does this scares me and makes me think I might be making a mistake.", "summary": "My boyfriends fantastic but he lies about little things. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1xo03n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] was broken up with by boyfriend of 4 years [23M], i just want to be happy again :(", "post": "We broke up a few days before christmas and I have been very upset and sad since then. Basically immediately after the breakup he started seeing someone new which really hurt me of course cause I had hope we would get back together. Since then I have tried seeing other people. Things always seem to be going well at first but then I feel like the other person doesn't really care that much or want to date me. \n\nI feel extremely lonely and miss being in a relationship. I really miss the companionship, and I know I should become comfortable with being on my own but it really sucks and I feel miserable. Especially when I think about my ex and how he is doing everything we used to do together with someone else. Then this just makes me feel worse cause no one seems to want to do anything with me. I feel like people and especially my ex are almost laughing at me that I haven't found anyone new. And it seriously seems like everyone else is in a happy relationship while I am sitting here preparing to be alone forever.  \n\nI know I shouldn't be trying to find happiness in a relationship, I just don't want to end up alone forever.", "summary": "Feel like I will be alone forever and that no one wants to be with me. Poor me my life sucks i know, alert the media."}
{"id": "t3_4lm1ra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (34m) parents never disciplined my (31m) brother and now he's a psychopath", "post": "I'm kind of at my wits end here. \n\nMy parents never disciplined my brother growing up. My father always thought it was \"adorable\" how he always tried to control everyone and my Mother never intervened\n\nNow my brother is a 31 year old man and is a complete psychopath. He tries to control everyone by doing shit like moving things around the house to \"force (usually me) to get exercise\" or to \"take responsibility\" for shit, when there's nothing to have responsibility for. \n\nBoth him and I are disabled and I have literally no place else to go. I'm physically disabled and my parents are my IHSS workers, but they let my brother who is I guess you can say \"more normal\" that me, run rampart and do whatever he wants. \n\nA few years ago my brother started popping pills and has become worse with anger; acting more crazy than he already was, but now he has this notion that he's gonna be president next year (I've posted about this before) and thinks people are constantly after him wanting him dead\n\nPretty much I don't feel safe in my house anymore and my parents refuse to do anything about it or do anything about him. I've asked them and told them it's not Fair to me because I have no where else to go, and as my IHSS workers and Parents, they should make my place of living as safe as possible. \n\nI don't know what else to do. I don't want to contact IHSS and tell them my parents aren't making my living situation a safe environment but at the same time, I can't live like this much longer from someone who thinks I need to learn life lessons on a daily basis", "summary": "my brother is a controlling psychopath after no discipline as a child. Parents refuse to make my home where I'm physically disabled a better place and do something about him"}
{"id": "t3_1j9bby", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] Boyfriend [21/m] is going through Ramadan again and his dad is going nuts.", "post": "So since mid-July my boyfriend and his dad have been doing the annual Ramadan, as my SO is half Muslim. He does it out of practice since his dad has made him do it since he hit puberty, and naturally it progressed into just being a thing he does every summer. Anyways, if you don't know what Ramadan is, look up some specifics on it but a brief description is that Muslims cannot eat from dawn to dusk for a month long period, as well as other rules such as no touching/intimacy with loved ones, ingesting water, taking medications, etc. \n\nWithout food or drink, during the blazing hot summer, you'd think someone would get a little moody. Truth. My boyfriend's dad is going nuts. He normally is every other 11 months of the year, but currently, it's some sort of ongoing insecurities with my boyfriend also stepping up in his adulthood by getting his licence, a career and paying bills, all in sequence. I don't know if that has something to do with it but I believe it does, as he is the eldest (by over 10 years) and his dad has some cultural expectations for him, as well as threats of throwing him out of the house, not doing enough for his mom, and so forth. To say in the least, it's very hard to witness and hear about. \n\nSo I'm writing this asking any other Redditors if you have every had a SO with a personal choice or a parents' influence to do Ramadan, and how you (as a non-participator) felt/dealt with it? \n\nAlso, how can I stop feeling distaste towards his dad, as I see this  packing on more and more emotional weight on my SO?", "summary": "Boyfriend and his dad are Muslim and are currently in Ramadan, which inhibits a lot, and seems to be making his dad go bonkers on my boyfriend. How can I cope with seeing him suffer."}
{"id": "t3_26cshi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's been 2 years and I'm still grieving the loss of my (20F+20M) 3 year relationship", "post": "So in about an hour will be the day that would have marked my (20F) would be 5 year anniversary with a guy (20M) I've basically loved since 7th grade...We're not currently together because I was his first...everything (relationship, first kiss, etc.) and we're both at different universities so he wants to see what else is out there. We still talk (message) occasionally, and he will tell me about his bad experiences with women and how he \"spent an hour on the roof appreciating [me] last night\", and other such things. I have faith that we will find our way to each other again, it just sucks that I have to deal with the uncertainty, the pain, the heartbreak, while it's so much easier for him because he was the one who wanted to call it quits. \n\n2 years later, I'm **STILL** grieving the loss of my relationship. Am I crazy for doing so? No other romantic experience has even come close to what I had with him, but he thinks it's too soon to get back together. Logically I agree, logistics aren't exactly favorable right now (different universities, don't know where we will be working after finishing up school, etc.). Emotionally, my heart just hurts.", "summary": "Still grieving the loss of my 3 year relationship which ended ~2 years ago. Not sure if I need comfort/advice/support/to vent."}
{"id": "t3_3iy8of", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I prevent frustration/overreacting to failure and mistakes?", "post": "The way I learn tends to follow a particular pattern. I try, I make a mistake, I shut down and become intensely frustrated. This will cause me to make more mistakes, to be too angry to focus on the task at hand.\n\nThis has become an issue learning to drive. I was doing a practice test, everything was going fine. I was about to enter a road and failed to give way to a car on my left that was entering the area I wanted to enter. My supervisor had to brake and point it out to me. I was to focused on the cars to my right, I didn't even see the car on the left, and part of me didn't even realise cars would ever be coming from that direction. \n\nI was stunned at my stupidity, so much so I was angry. Ranting, raving, to the point I was asked to calm down. I couldn't control the frustration, it was just this compulsion to tear myself apart. I can look back and only feel ashamed and stupid. Stupid for making the mistake and ashamed at my behaviour, but it doesn't stop me from making a new mistake and doing the same thing. \n\nI am part terrified I am not ready for the test if I don't know such obvious things, and part angry at my behavior, ashamed, everything. \n\nI have no idea why I behave this way, does anyone else? How can I overcome this?", "summary": "I become overwhelmed by anger and anxiety when I make errors. I don't know how to stop and realise instantly that it's going to happen and I just need to learn from the error and move on."}
{"id": "t3_3cex51", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by promoting a new hip-hop artist", "post": "Obligatory: Not today, little over ten years ago.\n\nI was high school and I had braces. This one day I had an appointment at my orthodontist's office downtown. Sweet, not going to school this morning. After my checkup and being offered a beej on the street, I made my way back to the bus stop. I'm sitting in the shack and I notice that somebody basically threw a handful of these pink flyers in. They read, \"The Pimpdikit Crime Family presents: Pimp Dough.\" I look at the black stenciled picture of the guy, hanging out of his shitty car, holding a gun with what I assume to be tape hanging off of it. I recognize that car. That's our school janitor's Honda with the ridiculous spoiler and plastic spinners. I take a closer look at the face. That's him, alright! I decide that everyone MUST learn about this so I take a flyer with me as I get on the bus.\n\nWhen I get to school I immediately make 50 copies of said flyer and post them everywhere while everyone's in class.  Class finishes, people come out, see the flyers and start buzzing. The janitor catches wind of this and hands out his album to a few students. They listen, show others and within 3 days everyone is CLAMOURING to get one. It was bad. It was William Hung bad. Sexist, racist, violent William Hung quality rap. But as everyone now wants it, he saw the lucrative opportunity and starts selling them at $10 a pop. \n\nSchool catches wind of this. School has a listen. School fires his ass. I feel bad. He was only chasing his dreams. His far, FAR off dreams.", "summary": "Promoted my school's rapping janitor, got him fired."}
{"id": "t3_4wsfbc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] want to make to make it work with my long time boyfriend [24 M] and inspire him to be better.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and counting. We have a three year old son and so far, we have no plans on marriage anytime soon. \n\nWell, I don't, I just don't know about him though. Over the years, I think I spoiled him. I worked, while he stayed home. I was the one who usually had all responsibilities to keep our mouths fed and put a roof over our heads and I let him bum out at home. \n\nAs our son gets older his needs are starting to become a lot less affordable and so far, I couldn't make everything meet based on just me working alone. I tell my boyfriend to get a job but then he brushes it off like a joke or starts to put it off. He's a good dad and he does take care of some responsibilities we have at home. Our roles are a little reversed and it wouldn't really matter if only I had a really good high paying job. Sometimes, I also feel  unappreciated for all the hard work I've been doing and its kinda like the norm for him that I do everything. My boyfriend also has this thing about talking to people. He generally tries not to stand out and he doesn't interact well with people. He speaks less around people and appears timid. He also doesn't know how to explain himself well. One of the things that I think is stopping him from actually looking for a job. I think he got holed up so much at home that he doesn't want to leave his comfort zone. But then again, he's always been like that. \n\nWe've been together since we were 17 and he has never worked a day in his entire life since he used to get monthly allowances from his mom (he doesnt anymore since his mom has her own financial problems). I want him to at least start taking me seriously and look for a job or start having friends. I want him to start shaping up and realize that he should go out more and explore.", "summary": "I want my stay at home boyfriend to look for a job and start socializing."}
{"id": "t3_1q1awv", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "First time posting [SV] and [NSV]! Advice needed...", "post": "First things first, I can't really say that I made a conscious decisions to start my journey now. I have been overweight/obese since I was 8 years old. It has bothered me most of my life, but I always felt so helpless about it that I never was able to commit to a real change. \n\nUntil about a month ago I had completely lost track of what my weight even was. This summer I had to go through numerous doctor appointments due to a broken ankle. Getting on the scale was always embarrassing, but I just considered it a fact of life that I was obese. But through my recovery process, and returning to college, I started to see little changes and decided to start my journey officially. \n\nThe two things that I believe can attribute my initial weight loss to, are accepting that I do not need to finish all of the food given to me, and possibly a rebooting of my metabolism after months of recovery. \n\nSo as of today I can officially say that I am 15 lbs down [255lbs/115kg - 240lbs/109kg] and I didn't know if I would ever see this day. My NSV is the pair of skinny jeans that every girl has in the back of their closet. They have officially become my day-to-day jeans. \n\nIf you are still with me thus far I am looking for some advice as well. As my ankle injury was fairly severe, I have yet to begin exercising. What is the best way to approach exercise after this type of injury, and are there any activities that I should avoid all together?", "summary": "Lost 15lbs after breaking my ankle, and I'm not going to stop now."}
{"id": "t3_pu5i0", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog is fully house broken, but still poops & pees in the house", "post": "Hi, we have a 5 1/2 month old Lab/Belgium Sheppard cross. He's been house broken and uses a pee pad when we're at work.\n\nWhen we are home whines to be let out; but he still poops upstairs in our bonus room and pees right next to the couch on a regular basis.\n\nI know it isn't a control thing because he can go all day without peeing or pooping in the laundry room (where he stays when we are out). Also sometimes we'll let him out and 5 minutes after we let him back in, he craps upstairs or pees on the floor.\n\nWe've tried spraying the carpet with deterrent, positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, and now I'm at the point where I'm rubbing his nose in it but it still happens.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "Our dog still pees and poops in the house even though he is house broken"}
{"id": "t3_1wplef", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[34/f] My boyfriend [33/m] is ruining our lives! And I still want to be with him. Can anybody please help me figure this out?", "post": "Warning: possible wall of text! Okay, so my boyfriend [m/33] has a history of drug abuse (xanax & other pills, m.d.m.a, shrooms, heavy drinking, research chemicals, etc.) and getting in trouble with the law. We met online, did the LDR thing for about 1 year, Then I moved to his State to live with him. He was on probation for DWI the entire time. My parents offered to pay off his fines and help us move back home, to be closer to my family. After about 6 months here, he gets arrested for DUI that caused a fender bender, caused us to lose our jobs, home, everything. Again, my parents helped out by paying some of his lawyer fees. About 1 month ago, more trouble. He was growing pot in our spare bedroom closet in our apartment. I was strongly against this, warned him it was a bad idea, and that we were going to get busted. I was paranoid and very afraid, but I stayed with him anyways. Neighbors complained about the smell, the cops came, and we were both arrested. Not only did they find pot, but shroom spores, and a hit of 25-I as well. I was in jail about 48 hours, until my parents paid my bond. My first time ever being in jail, or getting in trouble with the law. He is still in jail, and we are both facing serious charges. Everyone says I should leave him, and that I should have never got with him to begin with. I completely understand their point. And I know that I have a terrible history of choosing the wrong guys. But despite everything, I still love him, and am trying to get him out of jail so that we can pick up the pieces and start over, AGAIN. I am so confused, and feel like it shouldn't be so complicated. What the hell is wrong with me?!?! And what should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend does drugs, breaks the law, and puts me in harms way."}
{"id": "t3_3jjqtj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm unsure where to begin paying off my ~ $14,000 credit card debt due to interest rates varying from 0% to 25% APR. Should I consolidate or not?", "post": "Hello /r/personalfinance!\n\nI'm in a situation that I'm sure is pretty common. I have a large amount of credit card debt that I'd like to pay off in the best way possible. I feel the situation is somewhat unique in that I do have a couple cards at 0% while others are closer to 30% interest rates. \n\nHere's my current debt by card:\n\n* $2250 - 0% for another 20 months \n* $2500 - 0% for approximately 10-12 months\n* $3500 - ~25% APR\n* $2700 - ~25% APR\n* $2100 - ~20% APR\n* $900 - ~25% APR\n\nAs things stand I'm paying the minimums on every card while paying down the highest balance 0% interest rate card before the rate spikes in about a year, and will then proceed to use either the snowball or avalanche method to pay off the rest as I go. \n\nI'm currently able to put an additional $300-400 per month on whichever card I'm focusing on paying off (in addition to minimum payments), and can occasionally pay more.\n\nMy biggest concern is this: With this large amount of debt, the minimum payments alone are upwards of $600 per month. Would I be better off trying to consolidate through a bank / credit union loan? I feel like I could continue to pay the $600 + $3-400 per month that I'm paying now and a whole lot less of it would be going to interest.", "summary": "$14k in cc debt. Should I consolidate via loan or just pay them off the old fashioned way. If I pay them off without consolidating, should I pay off my promotional 0% interest balances first or just follow the snowball/avalanche method from the start?"}
{"id": "t3_54lph9", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "To all those who backpack or are intending to backpack in Vietnam with a Motorcycle, You should NOT buy or rent the Honda Win", "post": "Whenever I visit the Old quarters in my daily travels i'm always rather flabbergasted by the number of Backpackers trotting around in those lanky little Honda Wins. \n\nTo be honest those machines are a lot more trouble than they are worth. They break down frequently, require constant oil changes. On the whole very unreliable. They cost a lot of money, time and effort to keep running. \n\nProbably not the best recipe for an enjoyable holiday.\nThese Honda Wins are Chinese fakes, sold at low prices. You won't find any authentic Honda Wins at those prices. Most of them are considered antiques these days. Their owners rarely part with them and if they do it would be for at least 1500 $.\n\nLocal Vietnamese may use the Chinese copies because they only ride them very gently around town, maybe to the market or carry goods to the stores a few kilometers away, and NOT beating them up and down Vietnam's many potholes.\n\nI figured that with the amount of backpackers choosing to roam Vietnam with two wheels, they would have learned \nthis by now.\n\nWhy don't they just rent proper Hondas, they aren't expensive, and you'd most likely avoid a lot of anguish. Well, I have seen some backpackers on actual Hondas or Yamahas or Suzukis.\n\nSource: I'm Vietnamese living in Hanoi.", "summary": "Don't ride Honda Wins, they suck. Rent authentic Hondas"}
{"id": "t3_v63lz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] Considering a break up with girlfriend [20/f] of 2 years. Need more input.", "post": "We've been together a little over 2 years now. We've been in a long distance relationship for the entirety of those 2 years, since our universities are rather far away. Monthly visits, summers together. Most communication is through text, and IM; we rarely skype.\n\nThe time we spend together is great, I have no problems with this, but this last semester has simply been a train wreck of issues, arguments and petty insults. I've tried to break up with her twice already and I couldn't go through with it. The break ups happened because she started acting really detached and rarely speaking to me, and she  wouldn't leave me alone about a girl I liked before I met her. At the time I hadn't spoken to the aforementioned girl for length of our relationship (we can refer to her as May). The crying and the promises she made made me hope for a better future, and it was good for a little while.\n\nShe has been insecure before, but I always reassured her at every move. Recently, I haven't been reassuring her and I don't want to. I've grown tired of having to help her through so many of her issues; I mean i've been reassuring her constantly for just under 2 years. \n\nIt shames me to say this  but, I have been looking at over women in her presence; she's caught me before. I've talked to May without telling my gf. Sparks have flown. \n\nI still have feelings for my gf, although they have severely diminished. I really don't like the idea of hurting her. She's a really sweet and sensitive girl.", "summary": "I've grown tired of being burdened by my gf's issues for over 2 years. Long distance. I want out. I'm her 1st bf, 1st kiss, 1st everything..."}
{"id": "t3_31rc23", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaning on the doors", "post": "This happened about a year ago. Every New York subway train has signs that plainly say \"DO NOT LEAN ON DOOR\" on pretty much every door. I've lived in NYC my entire life, and like any good New Yorker I completely ignore those signs because fuck that, it's way more comfortable to lean on the doors. \n\nI was leaning on the doors and fell asleep a little bit. I didn't notice that the train had arrived at a station. The doors opened, and I started to fall backwards. Thankfully I caught myself and managed to swing back upright before falling on my back. \n\nUnfortunately, the doors had started to close again. My flailing upward happened to coincide perfectly with the doors coming closed, and they closed directly onto my face, leaving me with a bruised lip, a brutal headache, and a nice black streak from the rubber and grime on the door going down my forehead and across my eye and mouth. \n\nAs an entire rush-hour 6 train laughed and cringed at me in roughly equal proportions, I went right back to leaning on the goddamn door.", "summary": "please stand clear of the closing doors."}
{"id": "t3_3mqo3r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not putting on deoderant correctly", "post": "This tifu happened this morning and I just realized it now at work.. I usually get up pretty early for work and am real groggy, but apparently even more so today. I did my normal morning routine, I thought, just fine, no problems.\nNow I'm about halfway through the day and I start smelling something. My boss walks behind me quite a bit during the day (not that he stinks) but I figured it couldn't be me. More time passes and I realize the smell is stronger, and my boss has been over at his desk for a while. I do a quick finger swipe to each armpit to make sure I have deoderant on.\nI swipe the left one, smell, all is good. I swipe the right one, and it smells like B.O. Turns out I only put deoderant in one armpit this morning..", "summary": "Thought I did my morning routine, didn't check my pits before I left for work."}
{"id": "t3_zh6h2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys, my friend's dad just got a divorce with my friend's mom and has told my friend he is going to kill himself. He is 15, we have NO IDEA what to do.", "post": "To sum everything up, I've never met my friends parents. They are always busy and because of that my friend is extremely independent. He does sports that don't rely on a team like power lifting, track... and because of this he doesn't really rely on anyone except me. His dad would always be working and his mom is always on the phone. Recently, they got into a huge fight and his dad decided he was going to leave that night, out of nowhere. My friend was extremely devastated, and he called his girlfriend that night and cried to her but she didn't give him any attention really. But he was very strong and seemed like he was in a good mood for the next few weeks.\n\nToday he drove me home from school with him. After he dropped his girlfriend off at driver's ed we got to my house and his mom called him. I don't know what they talked about but I could hear her voice and it sounded very grim. After that call, within like 5 minutes, his dad called. My friend said that his dad told him that he loved him with all his being and that he wants his son to make him proud. He said that he has never spoke any 'bullshit' to anyone and all things of that effect. After this he told my friend that after he gets off his shift, he's gonna go somewhere, tell my friend where he is, and kill himself, and for my friend to call the police. We called his mom and his mom said he was just trying to guilt trip her. My friend then told me his mom gave his dad a pistol and a full clip earlier in the week because he said he was going to kill himself. What the actual fuck\n\nWe have no idea what to do please help.", "summary": "Friends dad says he's gonna kill himself after a divorce. Friend's mom doesn't care, we have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_11ezwd", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My sister really needs cheering up, please help!", "post": "I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I couldn't think of anywhere more appropriate.\n\nTo cut a long story short, my sister has had a pretty rough year. She had a lot of complications with birth and she ended up becoming diabetic from it (yeah, apparently pregnancy can do that!). She had a healthy baby boy, but he cries almost non-stop, rarely sleeps and this has made her stressed out a LOT. She also doesn't see her husband a lot as he is a restaurant/bar manager and works very often. She is also working hard to get a new job (she left her last job because she moved to be closer to the rest of the family). And over the past 3 months they have had their heating oil stolen TWICE!\n\nDespite all this, she is a fantastic mother and never loses her rag. And this is the part where I ask for help.\n\nShe's applied for one of those Facebook competitions where she can win a free photoshoot for her son (his name is Cahir) and get an A2 print. These can usually be quite expensive, so it would really cheer her up if she won.\n\n----\n\nTo help, all you need to do is go to [this link here] \"like\" the page, and then vote for \"Laoiseach Murphy\". They don't send out spam or post on your behalf and I've not even noticed any activity.\n\nIf you could do this, I, and my sister, would be greatly appreciative. If not, thanks for reading anyway!", "summary": "Sister had a rough year, vote for her on fb to get her son a photoshoot please!"}
{"id": "t3_4tbjdn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28f] broke up with my bf [34m] and he cant let go.", "post": "I made all of the mistakes you possibly could with a relationship:\n1. Dated my best male friend for 10 months.\n2. Dating my best male friend who is also a co-worker and part of my social circle.\n\nI broke up with him for a very selfish reason. His ex wife and mother of his kids is trying to make me miserable, keeps meddling in our relationship and is constantly verbally attacking me. \n\nAfter multiple blowouts with her, and him doing everything he could to stop her, I realized she won't change and I need to move on. \n\nProblem is he is so madly in love with me, and I with him that we can't let go of each other. We spend days on end talking in the phone, him trying to find a solution and me telling him I don't think it'll work. He constantly begs me to stay. I don't wanna cut contact because i have to see him at work, I want to be his friend again but the feelings keep getting in the way. He's so depressed now, and I feel so awful. He's a mess and I want to help him. \n\nIf the circumstances were different we would be together for sure, but I don't wanna get into a life with someone who is being controlled and harassed by their ex.\n\nI'm coming to Reddit to talk some sense into me. Normally I can walk away from a doomed relationship but he's like my best friend and I want to help him cope and deal with this. \n\nNeed some advice.", "summary": "I broke up with my best friend co-worker boyfriend over his crazy ex wife and I can't let go and watch him hurt."}
{"id": "t3_1tfmat", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My single friend [19 F] has been chatting with a married [~30 M], can I tell her to stop?", "post": "I found out my friend has been talking to an older married guy online for at least month.  Apparently they talk alot about sex and he has been giving her advice on how to handle fuck-buddy relationships.  In return, she has been sharing the details of her encounters.\n\nI am happy my friend is enjoying herself, but this guys seems like a serious creeper to me.  At least he is on the other side of the country.  I casually mentioned that I did not think this was a good idea, but haven't pushed too hard on the topic.  Am I being too judgemental, or do I need to step up and tell her this guys seems like the kind of wierdo one should avoid?", "summary": "Can I tell my friend that it is not appropriate to chat with an older married guy about sex, even if he is \"just being friendly\"?"}
{"id": "t3_2lfvtq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by underestimating the power of the jalapeno", "post": "Being a broke ass high school graduate waiting tables, I'm always down for some extra cash. My friends bet me $20 that I wouldn't eat a jalapeno, which I'd never done. I'd only had the weak-ass canned ones that didn't do shit.\n\nAnyway, I went for it. I learned two horrible, horrible lessons.\n\n1) I am allergic to fresh jalapenos.\n\n2) Sneezing a whole sneeze-ful of jalapeno-infused fluid sucks. Especially when you have a brand new, still healing septum piercing and a recently fucked up nostril [for those who haven't seen my first post, i tried to pierce my own nose and tore my nose open]\n\nAnyway, my entire nose is on fire and I'm itchy all over.", "summary": "Jalapenos are a force not to be fucked with. And sneezing + nose piercings are not my thing."}
{"id": "t3_1461bv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My grandparents health is deteriorating, and I want to try and record some of the best stories and life lessons. What should I ask them? (Details inside)", "post": "Both of my grandparents on my mother's side have been in and out of the hospital recently. I assist my mom in monitoring their recoveries every time, and this recent series of visits is the worst I've seen it. My grandparents and mom helped raise me, and I'd like to give my mom, aunt, and uncle a very special gift for Christmas. I want to make a DVD of my grandparents doing what they do best, and that's talking and telling stories. My grandparents are great at keeping a conversation going on their own, so I'm hoping to capitalize on that by keeping the video camera going the whole time. I'm planning on asking some common questions like what is your favorite memory of my mom/aunt/uncle, is there anything special they'd like to tell them, and other common questions. They are both just got transferred from the hospital to a skilled care facility, so I want to make sure I'm making the best use of all of our time. What would you want to hear from your loved ones if you could have had it captured on video?", "summary": "I want to cover my bases and make sure I'm not overlooking some great questions to ask my grandparents."}
{"id": "t3_35dbf6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 23 /F] Trying to Overcome My Personal Issues", "post": "Ever since I was 17, I have had personal issues with getting close to people and trusting others.  Any time there was conflict i'd  try to fix it because the lingering conflict gets to me. I want to make close connections, but its hard because I am afraid of getting hurt. I am extremely vulnerable and I try to bottle up my emotions. I always feel like I have to prove a point.  I will have nights I will cry myself to sleep and I question my self worth. \n\nI am currently in this weird half relationship? I try not to be clingy but there are times where I have to check they aren't on dating websites or constantly adding random girls on Facebook. For me I have seen signs where I am being emotionally cheated on and for me to be oblivious to it is something that hurts me more than anything. If it were to happen I don't think I could handle it. Every time I feel like I could be emotionally cheated on I feel like my heart stops and my body freezes up because I feel so stupid for letting it happen to me again. \n \nI want to trust people and be in a much happier place with my life, but I am afraid that I will never move on from this and it will scare people away. I just always want to be reassured that I am not being screwed over and that I can go to sleep with the feeling that nothing will change. I really want to hold on to something great in my life that I know will always be there when I most need them. I am sick of people saying it will get better from over time if anything it has made me more paranoid and sometimes emotional over the littlest things.", "summary": "To sum things up, really my insecurities such as, trusting others especially other women, and always being on the look out for being cheated on has always haunted me. After 6 years I would hope it would get better, but it hasnt.  What can I do to stop feeling this way? What can I do to be more open with others without hiding my emotions? What can I do to better get over all of this?"}
{"id": "t3_rtvio", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Quick Question about Online Dating", "post": "I'm a 19 year old guy who's had one really bad relationship in the past and I was wondering if maybe internet dating would be right for me. I've been asked out by women in the past, but was always scared they were playing around, dared to do it or taking pity on me and figured I needed to meet someone anonymous (and also interested in dating, hence trying one of these sites) to start to get over the stigma about relationships. Any opinion for online dating? does it work? Are there any other options for me? I've heard the stats, but I don't really believe them (too many statistical bias courses for me)\n\nWon't have access to a computer tonight but will read any responses or answer any questions in the morning.\nThank you to everyone and anyone that responds.", "summary": "Scared 19 year old needs advice on whether online dating works, or any other alternatives to getting over shyness and stigma about general relationships."}
{"id": "t3_2dioau", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19f) can't get over something my boyfriend (19m) did when we broke up for a bit.", "post": "Just to start off, I know I'm being completely irrational here with my feelings. It's stupid that I would continue to be upset over this in such a debilitating way. I just want advice on mindsets that can help me stop thinking this way. I've tried getting over it and I really can't. \n\nAnyways. I met my boyfriend in high school and we dated 9 months, never had sex because I didn't feel ready. Then I broke up with him when I went for college, we were both very upset but I was trying to find another relationship or something to help me get over it all. He did the same, and two months later found a girlfriend. Two weeks into their relationship he lost his virginity to her. The way he saw it was he saw being with her long term, this was normal for her and therefore ok for him. \n\nNow we are back together and I can't stop thinking about it. I finally lost my virginity to him, making him my first everything. (I was his first everything but sex). I really can't tell you why I'm upset. I just can't stop thinking about it. Any advice at all?", "summary": "boyfriend lost his virginity while we were broken up, now we are back together."}
{"id": "t3_2coe97", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the best way for me [27 M] to act to help my ex [25F], who said she loves me, to get over our relationship.", "post": "5 month relationship which I handled very badly. I realised after a while that it wasn't something I could see going into the long term, and as she was looking for something serious, I should have ended it then, but I kept putting it off for another couple of months. I'd finally made up my mind to do it, but then she told me she loved me. I broke up with her a few days later (about 7 weeks ago) and told her the truth - I didn't think it could work in the long term because we are too different in terms of outlook on life, although we got on well 'in the moment'.\n\nSo I'm the bad guy and I really fucked this up by leading her on. She's an absolutely lovely person, and I just want to do the best I can now to make things better.\n\nShe asked me to stay in touch and be friends; we text a few times a week and talk on the phone sometimes. She's asked me to come over and spend the night when she'd sad to make her feel better. I did this twice in the days after the breakup (just sleeping). I said no when she asked me again last week because I don't think it will help her in the long term.\n\nWhat is the best thing for me to do? Should I ever go over if she asks? How much should I carry on texting? I'm not going to try and have sex with her or anything, I just want to get her 'over it' the best way. Rationally I think the less contact the better, but if she reaches out to me and I reject her I feel I'm increasing the pain of the breakup. I've never indicated I'm going to change my mind, I've always been clear I'm not going to change my decision, but I have told her I miss her despite this.\n\nI don't want to do anything that might make her think there's a chance of rekindling the relationship, or to draw out the pain of the breakup for her. But also I don't want to be cold, if it helps her to have contact with me I want to help.", "summary": "What's the best approach to help your ex get over your relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_36bzck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "is this normal? [17m] flirting with [17f]", "post": "I[17m] just got rejected by a girl[17f] \n\nI have known her for 4 years. 3 3/4 of those years she's lived in another state. \n\nShe has since moved back recently, and all we've done is hangout. \n\nWe held hands all the time, and we were practically wrapped around each other when she came over and we watched a couple movies. \n\nYet, when I tell her that I like her, she says that she doesn't like me in a romantic way.\n\n I just felt like every sign was there.\n\n Please tell me if this is normal or what could be going on. Thanks.", "summary": "I Don't understand flirting."}
{"id": "t3_4m8sd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 M], he is using me and I don't know what to do.", "post": "I apologise in advance if I come off as a bit upset or immature.\n\nI've known him for a year and a half,\nWe shared the same interests so we became quickly fond of each other, we used to talk a lot in class and play games together for a while, he was kinda like my best friend.\n\nIt started 6 months ago when he told me he had a crush and started talking non-stop about her and how he couldn't ask her out. I gave the best advice I could and listened to him every time, he was always talking about himself or about our jokes, I felt that he liked me a lot back then.\n\nNow I see he was just using me to share his feelings, I never shared mine. Mind you that I'm shy but if I'm comfortable with someone I actually talk a lot.\n\nI do not know how to tell him this, I have been ignoring him and spending less time with him, all he did was back away as well, I now see that he doesn't care about me since he's only asked if I'm okay once, and all I could say is 'yes, leave me alone', I've written a lot of quotes and stuff about him on my steam (Game Platform) profile, and I know he saw it, and he just kept on ignoring me.\n\nI don't know how to approach him or just keep ignoring him(All he did these pasts weeks was show me a joke on his phone and wave at me), it's been hurting me for a while and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "I think my friend is using me, I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_46emnd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl [16F] I [18M] have been meeting has seen a bad picture of me and won't speak any more", "post": "I have been meeting a girl for about just over a month. At the weekend, she kissed someone on a night I was going to meet her and told me a few days later\n\nI said it's okay because we haven't had any talks about being exclusive and she said yeah let's not go exclusive yet so I agreed.\n\nA few nights later I went to a club with friends and got way too drunk and kissed someone else, which I thought was fine since we just had a talk about not being exclusive yet.\n\nHowever, somebody put a snapchat story up of it and my hand is very high up the girls leg and the girl I'm seeing has seen it and has assumed that I did more than just kiss her, which I did not do but the picture is so bad.\n\nShe won't talk to me today or reply or open any messages but she's been online so I know she's ignoring me. \n\nI really like this girl and want to take I further but I feel like she won't get past this and I don't know what to do", "summary": "girl I have been meeting has seen a bad picture of me after is saying we're not exclusive and won't talk to me anymore"}
{"id": "t3_3civr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22m] am confused about changes in my friendship[23m], and how to feel", "post": "We used to be really close friends, then I fell out with a mutual friend of both of ours and my friend has blamed me for \"breaking the group up\", this happened like year & half ago, things have been ok since, sometimes its just like before but othertimes he dosn't bother contacting me for weeks. \n\nI asked whats up about all this last night after he bailed on plans & ignored a few texts lately.. anyway after everythings spoken of I asked him when can things be like they used to, he replied it won't be like it used to be ever again since hes now got to hang out with other friends seperatly(Keeps bringing up) and how we both have jobs and hes got more friends now he needs to spend time with.\n\nthats all fine I just don't like how he said \"things will never be te\nhe same\", it makes it sound like hes put a cap on our friendship, like he dosn't want to believe it could be the same again.. I dunno maybe Im over thinking that but its a shitty thinh to say right?\n\nMakes me not want to bother going to events we have planned, whats the point if theres always gonna be a chip on hia shoulder\n\nOpinions?", "summary": "Imo friend has put a \"cap\" on our friendship and I dunno how to feel about it"}
{"id": "t3_1dbqrg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I get my friend to stop being a bridezilla?", "post": "Here's the scenario:\n\nMy(M) friend(F) is getting married Sunday. It's gonna be super fun. However, she is being super crazy, and not having a Father/ Daughter or Mother/ Son dance at her wedding. Her reasoning is that's not how her family operates. \n\nThat would be cool and dandy, but I know the Grooms Mom is going to be completely devastated by this since they're more of a traditional family.\n\nSo Reddit, how can I change the Bride's mom into letting her fiance have a dance with his mom?\n\nAlso, they didn't do marriage counseling because according to her \"it would cause fights\". if that gives you anymore of an idea on how to fix this situation.", "summary": "Bride won't let Groom have a Mother/ Son dance. How can I change her mind before it causes some major bitterness down the line?"}
{"id": "t3_ps9tf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update to \"I think my wife cheated on me, but I have no proof.\"", "post": "Original post [here.](\n\nLast week, the bassist guy texted my wife and invited her to a concert in a city 100 miles away, on a weeknight.  She wanted to go, by herself, and I brought up the events of new years eve.  She stopped talking to me and gave me the silent treatment for three days.\n\nI went on a business trip over the weekend and kept in touch with her every day.  When I got back we spent valentines day together.  Yesterday, I was on reddit and saw that I had an orangered.  I clicked on it, only to realize that my wife was still signed in on my computer.  She used her account for gonewild, which I knew about and supported, but what I didn't expect is that she was sending photos to guys via PM.  I continued reading.  One guy asked \"What's the wildest thing you've ever done?\"  And there it was.  She responded with, \"On NYE I had my first threesome with a member of a famous 90s rock band and a friend...\"  \n\nThe first thing I did was speak to a lawyer about my options.  Then I confronted her about it, and she said it was only half true.  She said she embellished and that her friend really is gay and she and the bassist made out and did oral.  That's when I left the apartment, and headed straight for the hospital to get tested for STDs.  \n\nI got back several hours later, not believing a word she said.  I told her to text the guy simply \"did we have sex?\" and if he says no I'll believe her.  She then admitted they did have sex.\n\nMy whole life has been shattered.  We were married for less than a year, and I invested my whole being into this 5-year relationship.  I moved into the second bedroom and I'm sleeping on a futon.  Our lease goes until May.\n\nI just wanted to update reddit, since I know people rarely do that, and thank you for being there for me before.  I'm in the south Jersey/Philly area and could use some love.", "summary": "Reddit, you were right."}
{"id": "t3_3jfbz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [25m] feed up of my girlfriends [19F] of nearly a year, Attitude and spitefulness", "post": "This may just be a rant. But I've had enough of my lazy self centered girlfriend.\n\nI love her to bits, she is my everything. But she gets me so annoyed sometimes. She will never clean up after herself, literally throwing empty bottles on the floor, leaving plates for dates, empty cups everywhere. And it'll 90% of the time me that has to clean it up, as well as doing all the washing and laundry...  \n\nShe can be incredibly defensive and spiteful with her words. Asking her a simple question like \"do you want this food\" or \"would you like to go to X place\", her response will always be her shrugging her shoulders. She'll never explain stuff, or expects me to be physic with stuff. When ever she gets upset about something, she won't talk about it. Whenever there's a problem, she expects me to solve it. The other day i came up to her from behind to ask her a question, accidentally scaring her, and she turned around and physically punched me several times with enough force to bruise me.     \n\nI've tried talking to her about it, it always ends up with her just walking away, being defensive, and its never her fault, always someone else. She doesn't take any responsibility  \n\nI'm just stuck, i don't know what to do, or say to her anymore to make her see sense that she cant keep living this way and being like this towards me. And im feed up of her laziness, being the only one to do anything. She's never even been out grocery shopping! \n\n \nSorry for spelling, English isn't my first language", "summary": "Feed up of lazy girlfriend, dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_qra3s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worst thing your boyfriend/girlfriend ever did?", "post": "My boyfriend did the shittiest thing last night.\n\nHe lives with me and my mom and little sister, and its all hunky dory.\nHe's 20, I'm 19, and my sister is 16.\n\nI wasn't going to be at my house that night, and told him to stay at his parents because I wouldn't be there. I told my mom and she was shocked, told me to call him back and apologize, that they liked him and it wouldn't be weird without me. So he came by and I left for the night.\n\nI come back home to learn he got drunk (never drinks), and accidentally found some risque bad pictures of my sister and an old boyfriend (she gave him a hard drive, didn't know they were there).\nApparently the pictures got him horny, and he spent the rest of the night texting her (they were in the same house), telling her she was sexy. Not only that but telling everyone he has a small dick, i'm a nymphomaniac, and that we haven't had sex in months. Crazy embarrassing outrageous things.\n\nMy sister was scared to go to sleep, he kept joking about putting cameras everywhere to watch her. She didn't sleep that night at all, until I came home and kicked him out on the spot.\n\nWe were dating for a couple years, and that was a real shitty way to end it. Nobody saw it coming.", "summary": "20 year old boyfriend tried to get with 16 year old sister while I was away. "}
{"id": "t3_37ozv6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Googling a teacher", "post": "So I have this teacher who I absolutely love and she is my favorite teacher I've ever had. Now this teacher, lets call her mme., doesn't share with us much about her personal life and when she does she always uses titles not names when referring to people. Being a curious (and prone to cyber-stalking) person I decide to Google her, first link is her facebook which she has blocked to non friends so I see jack shit. However as im about to look elsewhere I looked at the URL and saw it was custom and instead of her name it was \"Ripple Bliss\". Figuring this is mme.'s online handle, I Google it. So turns out if you Google \"Ripple Bliss\" you find out its a very common name for a variety of sex toys. Now I'm not going to be able to look at mme. without thinking about her picking her online handle after a variety of sex toys. I mean I'm not a prude but still. Changed perspective. FML Hope she isn't a frequent TIFU viewer.", "summary": "Googled teacher got more than bargained for."}
{"id": "t3_21u5cw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] cut off my dad [51 M], but my mother [48F] keeps insisting I speak to him again.", "post": "My parents divorced when I was very young, and growing up there was always tons of drama from my dad and mom always fighting. They both put me through a hell of a lot (he said she said shit), and last year my therapist even said, \"Your mother should have cut contact between you and him when you were ten, and left it at that.\"\n\nThis was after telling her that as a child he's made me pick up cigarette butts off of his yard \"as a game\", change my step-brother's diapers (I was a kid myself, maybe 8-9 or something?), and of course this huge dramatic event where he beat the shit out of me when I was 10 for not wanting to cut my hair. That event in particular led me to not speak to him for several years.\n\nMy therapist said it's up to me if i want to try to have a relationship with him (whom she agrees has huge issues), and I decided against it. He's religiously abusive, and can't seem to get past the fact that I'm atheist. He's got a big new family now, and I have lived with him a few times throughout the years (18-19, 21-23), but I just don't care to have a relationship with him. He's hurt me so bad in the past, and although he's more \"stable\" now, I honestly just don't care to invest in a relationship with him.\n\nBut my mother (who used to hate him, told me he raped her before, was verbally abusive towards her) still insists one day I should speak with him again. So this got me wondering, am I just trying to hurt my dad by not speaking with him, or do I have a legitimate excuse to cut him out of my life, for good, or both?", "summary": "Dad was a straight up asshole, is \"nice\" now though but still disrespectful due to his extreme religious practice, wondering if it's okay to not speak to him again."}
{"id": "t3_40rirh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] just started dating someone [18F] considerably younger.", "post": "Last week I met a younger woman and we ended up watching movies and cuddling all day together, followed by sleeping together in the same bed with a bit of spooning. Nothing sexual happened but there were a few times it felt like things might go that way and there's definitely mutual attraction. \n\nNext week we're planning on repeating the same thing, but at my place this time, and the age gap kind of just dawned on me... I've never considered myself mature at all and in fact, due to several mental health issues (schizophrenia and learning difficulties) I'll likely never really be an 'adult', but still I'm aware that due to our age gap some kind of unhealthy power dynamics could form. What should I be on the lookout for? How can I ensure that I don't in anyway abuse my position subconsciously? Thanks!", "summary": "how can I responsibly date someone younger?"}
{"id": "t3_2579n5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] can't tell if my new Girlfriend [20 F] has a problem saying no?", "post": "So I have been seeing this girl for about a month and a half and I have noticed that when I am texting her and I ask her about hanging out she will either say yes or she will just not respond at all. Than she wont text me for a couple days. Another thing is that sometimes she will agree to hangout on a later date and than on the day we are supposed to hangout and I ask when she will be ready the same thing will happen. \n\nI can't tell if this is her not wanting to say no because she is afraid to possibly hurt my feeling and if so, should I talk to her about it next time we hang out and reassure her that she can say no to me and it wont hurt my feelings?", "summary": "When I text my new girlfriend about hanging out she will either say yes or just not respond, should I bring it up to her?"}
{"id": "t3_1771sa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[36F dating 22M] Don't know when to fold 'em", "post": "I [36F] have been seeing this guy [22M] for about six months. Started as purely casual & sexual but somehow morphed into something that resembles a real relationship. \n\nProblem is, we aren't overwhelmingly compatible. It's not bad, just not very exciting. We're kind of like an old married couple. Cook dinner. Watch TV. Cuddle. We get on well enough. I enjoy spending time with him. There is attachment (he is more attached to me than I am to him), but I don't see much long-term potential. \n\nFor one, there is the big, flaming age gap. He is just starting out. I'm not. I am divorced with a five year old; he is about to finish college and go to grad school. Sex is pretty blah (I have HL, he has LL). He says he doesn't want kids, but he's too young to know for certain. If he changes his mind, by the time he's done with school, my eggs will be fried. God, when he's 30, I'll be 44. It seems like a bad idea.\n\nI don't know what the fuck we are doing with each other, honestly. I wasn't looking for anything serious, nor was he. Ultimately I feel like we must be killing time until something better comes around.\n\nWhen I came to that realization, I thought it would be better to cut things off. It was like, \"Eh, I'll wait till after his birthday,\" and then, \"Eh, who wants to ruin Christmas,\" and now it's like, \"Only two weeks until Valentine's Day.\" \n\nBut, maybe I am not too committed to breaking things off. I do like him. On one hand, since I'm not ready for anything serious, this is kind of perfect (except the sex could be much better). On the other hand, we are just going to get more and more attached, which will make it harder when everything implodes.", "summary": "Lukewarm pseudo-relationship with big, potentially fatal age gap. Should I cut it off before we get even more attached than we already are, or just let it keep going?"}
{"id": "t3_1qmj96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I'm [21 M] insecure about my SO [22 F] going out to clubs & bars without me.", "post": "Some background: We have only been dating for about 2 months and we started dating in my hometowm, tho I go to school in a different city. But we're not exactly long distance. I live close enough to drive home any weekend I want (only about an hour and a half drive) so I've seen her every other weekend so far this quarter and she's actually coming up to visit this weekend.  We haven't put a label on our relationship but I know we're being exclusive with each other.\n\nThis is kind of hypocritical of me because I go out without her on the weekends when we're not in the same city, but I can't help but feel anxious when she goes out with her friends!  I feel weird about this because I know we're in a commited relationship and I trust her not to cheat on me. (last time she went out with her friends she complained that too many guys were trying to chat her up. And she told me she missed me. She was kinda drunk haha)  \n\nI feel even worse because I know she's not going out to look for guys ( She knows plenty of guys and has been in more relationships than I have and I am OK with that)  She's just trying to have a good time with her friends! I definitely dont want to stop her from having fun. I actually like that she has friends to go out with while I'm away at school.  \n\nWhenever I think about this rationally I know deep down she really likes me and that I have nothing to worry about. I'm just stressed and feel like there is something wrong with me.\n\nSo how can I bring this up to her without upsetting her or making it seem like I want to control what she does?\n\nThanks for any advice in advance.", "summary": "I get anxious when my girlfriend goes out to clubs and bars with her friends without me.  How can I bring this up to her without coming off as upset?"}
{"id": "t3_2kdw4u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU TRIAL RULE: Sexy, Shitty, Weekends", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nAs ~~many~~ a few of you know, /r/tifu recently had a vote about the current policy regarding sexual posts. Unfortunately, the voting turnout was extremely low (i.e. 0.00005% of our population). The results of the poll cannot be considered statistically significant or representative of the community wants. Due to numerous complaints about the high number of sexual related posts, the mod team thought something should still be done. Similar to our course of action regarding the \"I shit myself\" genre of posts, we have decided to implement a trial rule. We will evaluate the rule after a month has passed, and we will decide whether or not to implement the rule permanently. \n\nIntroducing Sexy, Shitty Weekends!\n\nFor the next month (i.e. until the 26th of November), the following rules are in effect:\n\n1. Posts regarding self-defecation will be allowed on Saturdays *and* Sundays.\n\n1. Posts with sexual content will only be allowed on Saturdays and Sundays.\n\nWe hope that our compromise appeases those that want the posts to remain and those that wish to see more variety of posts. Please remember that these are only trial rules, so if content suffers, know that we are open to removing the rules. We have also decided to lengthen the allowed time period for posts regarding self-defecation to compensate for our limiting of sexual posts. \n\nThank you all again for making /r/tifu the best sub here on reddit.\n\nSincerely,\n\nThe mod team", "summary": "Sexy, Shitty weekends from 27 October through 26 November"}
{"id": "t3_27ysbz", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I need help...", "post": "I don't really know where to post this. Maybe r/fitness but I'll try here.\n\nI don't know how to eat. I'm 30/F I weight 280  (hubby is 310lb 36yrs) and been trying to lose weight for a very long time. The only time I was able to lose weight was when I had gall stones and any fat consumption would send me into excruciating pain.  At the beginning of last year I was down to 250 and got pregnant. My gallbladder became inflamed and I needed to remove it. Now I'm back to 280 because I can eat what I want without pain again. I have no self control. I don't know how to eat. My \"healthy\" eating consist of a bag o salad and some apples. My low fat gallstone diet wasn't very healthy because of the high sugar in low fat foods. \n\nCan anyone give suggestions to maybe a recipe book or diet guideline that's easy to follow and easy to prepare. I work part time retail, my husband works 48-56 hours a week, and we have a 5 month old daughter. Our schedules hardly match. We want to be healthy and still alive for grand kids and to teach our daughter healthy habits. \n\nWhen I was losing weight I felt great and was happier. How do I stop craving bad food? How do I get self control?...", "summary": "I'm fat and unhealthy how do I eat better?"}
{"id": "t3_25fmbx", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Enjoy your shower", "post": "I stayed over and my girlfriends last night and had to be up at 6am to get ready for work. \n\nMy girlfriends sister  jumps in tune bathroom before me and I ask if she is going to be long,  she replies no and then spends 10 minutes in the bathroom and then decides to get a shower, I ask her politely if I can quickly use the bathroom quickly to brush my teeth because I need to leave for work but instead she starts shouting and generally going batshit crazy. \n\nI go downstairs to go get a glass of water and make sure I leave the cold tap running for a short while to ruin the temperature of the water and thus ruining her shower. \n\nI hear her shouting about the water being cold and I swiftly make my escape. \n\n My revenge isn't the most triumphant but it's certainly petty", "summary": "girlfriends sister stops me from using the bathroom, I ruin her shower"}
{"id": "t3_1zva9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] just spoke with my crush/rejector [F 19] for the first time in over a month. She finally explained her side, but I'm still confused and somehow more hurt. Need help understanding and how to move from here.", "post": "We had been known each other for a about a year, flirting and hanging out consistently for about 4 months. We went on a number of dates, and the morning after the last one, I received the dreaded \"friend-zone\" text, saying that she thought of me as more of a brother than a romantic interest. She dodged a few questions, and without much fanfare blocked me on facebook/shut me out of her life. I was devastated, with no answers and closure, I spent the next month in a bad spot. \n\nI heard on Tuesday through a mutual friend that she'd be willing to talk about things. I contacted her today, and we met and she finally answered my questions. \n\nShe did like me. She did have feelings for me, and she was excited to explore these feelings and go on dates with me. She had an excellent time on the last date we went on, until she got home and her roommates told her that it was obvious that I was crushing on her. Apparently the favors I would do for her, that she didn't realize until her friends pointed them out, somehow changed her mind about her feelings for me. I am incredibly confused about what this means. I don't understand how realizing that someone you are interested reciprocates is a turn off. If someone can explain this to me, I'll be in a much better place, because right now, I'm confused and hurt.\n\nI already have all of the \"she's playing you man, just move on\" confirmation bias I could ever need with the other people in my life, so I don't want to see that here. I'm looking for answers from people who have insight into the change of heart that happened, and explain how it makes sense.", "summary": "was told she lost interest in me because her friends thought it was obvious I was crushing on her. Confused and need help understanding."}
{"id": "t3_27aqaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) roommate's (21F) guest (22M) is extremely disrespectful", "post": "Hi, first time posting here.\n\nMy roommate is having a friend visit our city in a couple of weeks to meet her for the first time during his military leave. Previously, she had asked me if he could stay with us for the duration of his visit (9~ days) in order to avoid spending money on a hotel. I did not feel comfortable with him being here since I don't know a thing about him, it's a small apartment, it's a long visit, neither of us have ever met him in person, and I don't particularly feel it is a safe situation. We had a respectful discussion and she told him he would need to stay in a hotel.\n\n  They talk over Skype a lot. Last night I came home to her in the living room with the volume up and I could hear their conversation. He heard me come in and began making comments about my uneasiness of him staying at the apartment. He talked about how he could wear his military gear (gas mask, ski mask, etc) in order to \"scare me\" when he visits. He talked about how the apartment better not smell like smoke when he gets here, because both my roommate and I smoke on occasion. I said something to my roommate about a movie and he mocked what I said in an exaggerated valley-girl tone. He said that he \"can not believe they let people like her (me) be a nurse\", which I found to be very hurtful. I had not spoken to him during this conversation. He thought it was hilarious, my roommate was ignoring his remarks by saying he was trying to get under my skin, and I stated that I didn't find it funny and left the room.\n\n My question is: how should I act towards this guest when he does arrive and how should I handle these remarks? I would imagine that he will be spending some time at the apartment and we will interact at some point.  I feel that his comments were immature, mean, and inappropriate. I would never allow a guest of mine to speak to my roommate in such a way. I just don't understand why his response to me being uncomfortable is to make me more uncomfortable. If we were friends, his comments may have been taken differently, but we do not know one another.", "summary": "Roommate's guest is rude, how do I handle it"}
{"id": "t3_47njxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is the lack of sex a reason to end an otherwise good relationship?", "post": "I [18M] have been with my girlfriend [18F] for about 6 months now. In the beginning, it was going great, we were having sex almost all the time I was loving it. \n\nThe relationship is good, we are compatible on an emotional level and the basis of it was not revolved around sex (albeit it helped) but now, I'm feeling rather distant and lacking in sympathy.\n\nRight now, it has been 14 weeks since we have not had sex, we have done other things (oral) on a less than regular basis but penetration has been missing for 14 weeks (I must mention we were both virgins before we met). Don't get me wrong, I love oral as much as the next guy, maybe even more, but I think there is just something lacking from the personal and emotional side that actual sex has. \n\nFor the past month and a half, I have been feeling very distant from her and I feel bad for it. I never try to rush her into having sex, I just let it happen. But now, I feel it is a bit ridiculous, we have talked about the subject and she told me that since she is taking less medication (anxiety) she has a lower libido and isn't that interested in sex. I'm trying to understand but it's kind of hard for me...\n\n I don't enjoy spending time with her anymore, I just feel like leaving when I'm with her. I'm not sure if the lack of sex is the cause of this problem but I didn't feel this way when we were having sex. She doesn't seem to have a problem with this even though we barely even touch in any sensual way anymore.\n\nI really like this girl and I do not want to lose her, I just want to know if there is something I can do \"enhance\" her libido and/or fix the problem. I don't want to break it off but I almost feel like it isn't worth it to stay...", "summary": "I am feeling more distant since we stopped having sex and I'm not sure if I should break up."}
{"id": "t3_13wuzr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have non-photosensitive epilepsy, but my friend still freaked out at me for playing video games and wouldn't listen when I tried to explain. Reddit, what's the biggest misunderstanding you've come across/had to deal with?", "post": "I had to skip out on a weekly group event recently 'cause my epilepsy was acting up. My friend facebook messaged me later ranting at me about how going to console day (a day where everyone gets together and plays video games on various consoles) was reckless behavior. I tried to explain to her that I don't have photosensitive epilepsy nor convulsive seizures (the exception is hardcore strobe lights, but even then I don't convulse) and video games have never been a problem for me. She still rambled on about how I could seize and knock a TV on my head by convulsing and yanking a controller or something. I ended up freaking out at her, 'cause I was on the razor-edge of a seizure anyway and she just happened to get in the way of it.\n\nSo then I get an email from the society saying, \"we've been notified you have photosensitive epilepsy, you need a doctor's note.\" I admittedly ranted a little bit on Facebook, but I sent back a formal, polite letter (with a few not-so-hidden zings, but it was still polite) while also chatting with guy friend who's a committee member. He sorted things (mostly). This did not make the other girl (who happens to be a committee member as well) happy, and she immediately pulled the \"well, she said *I'm* the one that triggered her seizure\" card, so I had to explain that, again, it was probably inevitable at that point and she got caught up in the literal brainstorm. So now my guy friend's trying to help and my girl \"friend\" kicked me out of the weekly events 'cause she wants to rip me to shreds.", "summary": "A single misunderstanding turned into a shitstorm growing to rival Hurricane Sandy"}
{"id": "t3_1ymrnf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my friend [22 F], that i have feelings for a long time, feels like i've been used.", "post": "I've had feelings for this girl for quite some time, she knows that he hang out almost daily. She doesn't have a lot of friends and she is having some hard time both financially and medically speaking. We had on an off friendship until i decided to break it up completely ~ 2 years ago (after she said she had no romantic feelings for me whatsoever), an had a relationship with a girl for 9 months, and after breaking it up she appeared in my life out of nowhere again, wanting to hang out and feel leaden on. About a month ago i asked if wants to be more than friends and her reply was \" i don't want to lose you as a friend if we dated and something went wrong\". I'll have helped her and still have both financially and emotionally with almost every breakdown she has had, been there for her supporting her loaned or given her money, payed for food or whatsoever. But every time i feel like things may get serious between us he kind backs-off, Friends and people that know her dont have such a positive thoughts about her, she can be a real bitch. People have said that she is using me and i kinda get that feeling, i know that, but the feeling that i have for her overcome that. I know it sounds stupid but that is the way things are, we chat see and hear each other on daily basis, and i have a dull feeling about it. The reason i post here is your opinions, she knew/knows i have always had feelings for her, and if she doing that solely to use me is she being a \" Giant Cunt\" like everyone else is telling me, how to proceed?", "summary": "I have feelings for a close friends for years, she is now back im my life and i feel like Im being used. how should i proceed ?"}
{"id": "t3_1hs3kl", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Need a change of scenery, but am unsure how to make a decision on where to move to. What are some good resources/strategies for determining \"what it's like\" to live somewhere?", "post": "I'm a couple years out of college and I've kind of by default stuck around the same town I did my undergrad in, and I've gotten to the point where I want to really find a place that's best for me. \n\nI'm not too concerned about factors like the job market or the cost of living - I'm in a fairly stable field that usually offers comfortable pay - rather my main priorities are the social environment, the types of people I could find/how easy it is to find them, the different ways people tend to spend their time, things like that. Not really the kind of thing I've been able to find \"stats\" for, you know?\n\nSo what are some of the ways I can go about figuring this kind of stuff out? In terms of the webernet, are there any good sites or communities where I could get a feel for this, be it via articles, forums, subreddit posts, or what have you? Other than that, is the only real solution to get up and spend some time in city X and city Y and see what it's like? Is what I'm looking for completely independent of the location and solely what I make of it?", "summary": "Basically the title text. Prioritizing social environment over other factors, though."}
{"id": "t3_2oe5hb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20M] unable to have fun?", "post": "There is an issue that keeps cropping up and is making me worried that I may not be as fun as people may think I am. For starters, I'm not exactly a socialite. I only really talk with my close friends, and it takes a long time for me to warm up to people and become friends with them in the first place. However, I am pretty goofy and have a good sense of humor (or so I'm told). This makes people think I'm really outgoing, when really I'm extremely shy.\n\nI wouldn't say I have social anxiety, but I find myself becoming nervous in social situations. This issue has given me a wake up call recently when I froze up on a date with a long time crush and ultimately lost my chance with her. I planned the whole night out: going to a concert, walking around downtown, blah blah blah. However, the situation changed and things weren't going according to my plan. I felt like I lost control, got really nervous, and froze. It stopped me from having fun with my crush, stopped me from having fun at the concert. I find it to be quite the problem, now that I'm at a stage where I'm actively seeking a relationship.\n\nIt doesn't just happen with people I am trying to impress, too. When I'm just with friends, say, planning a day out or so, I start to get nervous because I want things to go according to plan. Maybe we are taking the bus to a park. The whole time I will be checking my phone to make sure I'm going in the right direction, distracted from interacting with my friends and having fun.\n\nTo me, I think I just have a problem with \"going with the flow.\" Does this sound about right? I want to be able to go out with friends and let go and have fun. I want to be able to go out with girls and act casual and be myself. I feel like this need to plan everything out is a barrier that is keeping me from meeting people because I'm afraid of the unexpected, even though I know I can't predict the future.\n\nAny tips on how I can be more social, more outgoing, and more capable of going with the flow? Thanks!", "summary": "I get nervous in social situations, and I feel like this is keeping me from having fun and interacting with people I want to be closer to."}
{"id": "t3_30ezsa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Unusual offer on a car - taking over a loan with no down payment", "post": "I have finally found out if I'm moving to the west coast (the answer is yes) and so I've started to make preparations.\n\nA car is necessary. A friend and former collaborator told me she has a 2012 Subaru outback with 30,000 miles on it that she doesn't want to keep anymore, purchased new. Her feelings about getting rid of it are very strong because she bought it with an ex-boyfriend with whom things took a very sour turn.\n\nShe said all I would need to do to get it is start paying her loan payments, which are something like $400/month, and she said there's about $17k left on the car.\n\nBased on her description, the car falls under at least \"Very good\" condition in the Kelley Blue book scale, and with the basic model, that puts the value around $18.5k.\n\nI am somewhat incredulous about this offer and am going to see the car tonight, but she has never done me wrong or been untrustworthy. It just seems crazy to not try to recoup any of the money you already sank into a car.\n\nI really need a car for SF, this is the perfect car for that, and I don't think I'll find a better offer from a stranger anywhere. Any advice?", "summary": "Friend presenting extremely generous offer on her car, should I take it?"}
{"id": "t3_28qfdi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my ex from 7 years ago [24F] Is it too late to apologise?", "post": "Got involved with a girl at 18. She was a virgin, I was as well, but lied to her out of being ashamed to admit. I really wanted to lose my v card so I played the front.\n\nFinally lost it to her after we talked for a coupe months. Was good, but overall frustrating experience. She expected commitment of course after that. Me being the dumb 18 year old panicked and cut things off by not agreeing to go out on dates with her.\n\nShe realized I was just in it for sex so she texted me saying this wasnt gonna work out. I was relieved and sheepishly said that \"I agree\"\n\nHad a feeling she was testing my commitment with that text, she sort of expected me to fight back for her, and I didn't. Memory is fuzzy, but we didn't talk after that.\n\nOvertime I changed as a person, and realized what I did was an extremely shitty move on my behalf. I still can't forgive myself, I was a fucking ignorant douchebag. \n\nI found her face book froma friends account and really want to message an apology. I'd do it in person but she doesn't live in my town anymore unless she visits the odd summer. I don't have Facebook so I'd have to create one, no big deal. \n\nIf she saw me in person she'd probably spill a drink in my face or at the least wouldn't want to even talk.\n\n Is it too late? Would she be insulted that I just decided after 7 years to apologize? If I let it be I feel like if I ever saw her she wouldn't believe I was sorry, and just saying it.", "summary": "want to sincerely apologise for messing with girl from 7 years ago and a shitty break up. Can only do it online, can't see her physically, is it too late?"}
{"id": "t3_3te9pk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by terrifying a freshie for weeks", "post": "So, this is about 4 years ago. I was a sophomore in highschool. \nIt was in the first week of school that me and my friend group heard the name of this freshman.. He had an awesome name. Idk how i can make something comparable.. We'll call him Barry Powers. It wad like that, a superhero type name. So anyway, we heard the name Barry Powers during freshman roll call and we were like \"damn! What a sick name!\" And made it our ultimate mission to find this guy.\nAnd so we searched.\nIt took weeks. \nWhenever we met other freshmen, we asked, \"do you know Barry Powers?\" And other questions like \"what does he look like?\", \"where did you last see him?\", and \"where can we find him?\".  We really wanted to find this kid and congratulate him on his name.\nSo, after two weeks of this walking around and searching and asking, we ask someone about Mr. Powers and their answer is \"oh, he's right there.\"  we get freakin hyped and beeline to the dude, who looks at us with fear in his eyes. Thinking back on it, we had the poor kid, who was eating lunch on his own, in a corner surround by 4 of us. I asked, \"hey man. You Barry Powers?\"\n\"y-yeah..\" He managed to respond. \n\"oh, well, you have a sweet name!\" I said.\n\"ok..\" Mumbled Powers. Now, the next moment was like the end of an always sunny episode; my friends and I looked around and each other and decided, \"oh cool we did it, moving on now.\"\nIt was only a little bit later that we heard that this poor guy thought this was some massive hazing ritual the whole time. And since we had asked so many people, most of the freshman class thought here was some crazy hazing where we chose one random dude, hunted him down, and did something to him. Oops!", "summary": "Inadvertently made a guy (and the rest of his class) think we were hunting him down to haze him, when we just wanted to compliment his rockin name."}
{"id": "t3_1cituw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Together [20M] [21F] for 5 years. Now she says she needs a break(more Info inside)", "post": "Hi\n\nI don't usually come to reddit for this kind of advice, but I currently have no other to talk to.\n\nI've been together with my girlfriend for 5 years now and everything was going really well. 2 Years ago I got a really unsatisfying job which made me depressed. I didn't want to realize it until it was too late. \n\nThis had an impact on our both lives as I would have no motivation to do anything. I didn't want to go clubbing anymore, travel somewhere etc. \n\n2 weeks ago she opened my eyes as she told me she needs a break. I finally got my shit together, quit my job and did other things which I should've done long time ago.\n\nNow I'm not sure how to approach it to not lose her. I wrote notes about ~80 very nice moments we've had with each other and read it with her. I told her what I think about our future and she said she had the same plans. I told her that I love her and she told me she loves me too.\n\nWhat should I do next? I don't want her to forget me but I also don't want to put too much pressure on her. I'm planning on reminding her about more good moments we've had and asking her out on a date in maybe 2-3 weeks. \n\nAny advice?", "summary": "together 5 years, I got depressed and was lazy in our relationship, she needs a break. I don't want to lose her, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_2vsuq8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking the elevator", "post": "Happened about an hour ago. \n\nI work on the third floor in my building, so I'm lazy and take the elevator every day. Today on my way to work I strayed from my usual routine and picked up some McDonald's sausage egg McMuffins. As a result, gas production in my insides increased tenfold. I'd been trying to discreetly sneak squeakers in, in between sales people coming in and out of my office all day. Finally it was time for lunch! Thank god! As I stood up I could feel the pure evil boiling up inside me. I pinched as hard as I could trying to hold it in on my way out of my office and past all my coworkers. SUCCESS! I made it to the elevator and mashed the button to close the door. As soon as the door closed a wave of flatulence released itself, and the first thing I thought was \"I hope nobody is waiting at the bottom...\" The second thing I thought was \"HOLY SHIT! I need to get the fuck out of this elevator!\" The elevator beeps down to the first floor. The doors slide open. And there's my boss. I strode out with a \"how are you doin'?\" A standard greeting follows as I head towards the door on the opposite side of the lobby. I turned and caught, just in time, a look of pure disgust cover his face. I couldn't help it and flashed him a big grin before I walked out the door.", "summary": "McDonald's destroyed me, I destroyed the elevator, and in turn destroyed my boss's olfactory nerves."}
{"id": "t3_244ljp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 /F]- could use some advice.", "post": "So, I've just recently started seeing this guy [25m] and I really like him, but I could use some advice. \nI've never really been interested in relationships, they seem life a lot of work, and for someone as busy as me (school, work, volunteering, pets, and Responsibilities to my older grandparents generally take up much of my time) they've never really seemed worth it. I've never had a good experience with one and I can count on one hand the number of happy couples I know. I'm a very happy person by nature, and I've always avoided relationships as in my head they just seen to cause everyone I know unhappiness. \n\nBut now there's this guy in my life and he's amazing. Good morning texts, mutual interests, he's hot as hell, and he's stuck with the idea of dating me even during my three month stint at sea for a work term... I don't really know how to handle this I guess. I've always been independent and don't really know how to let him know I like him without coming on too strong, nor how to actually deal with my own emotions. Any advice appreciated.", "summary": "never had a good relationship, afraid of screwing up a potential nice guy."}
{"id": "t3_4ijxu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Better the second time around? Me(M/22) with my ex(F/21)", "post": "It's been four months now since Jesse and I have broke up. We ended our relationship due to trust issues that we could not move past. We decided to be friends after (I know, you guys say never be friends with an ex) well anywho, we did and it actually is going well! At first we had a couple bad spurts trying to adjust while we were talking to other people(she with her ex, and me with people from school) but we still hang out a lot and continue doing the same hobbies we enjoyed. Honestly, it stills feel like we're dating but it's so much better than how it felt our entire relationship. We connect a lot better now and I feel closer to her than I ever have.\n\nLately, i've been feeling myself get more involved emotionally again so I don't know whether I should back off and slow down the friendship or should I propose the idea of dating to her again? I feel like we have a better shot this time but it might just blow up in my face.\n\nPeople who have gotten back together with their exes, how much time did you allow during the separation and how did it go for you?", "summary": "Don't know if I should quit while i'm ahead. Ex is still in my life but should she stay an ex?"}
{"id": "t3_4sk2d1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Mental support for my brother (possibly schizophrenic)", "post": "Reddit. I'm in an emotional clussterfuck. Apologies for formatring, I'm on mobile. I need advice in helping save my brother from abandonment, and probably homelessness. A little background; \nHe's 30 years old, diagnosed schizophrenic by BHR, and they have changed his medications more times than I can remember. I'm almost a decade younger than he is, and have grown up seeing him hospitalized, do large amounts of drugs, be arrested, have multiple restraining orders, etc. Here's the thing, he gets paranoid, feels sick from his meducarion, and stops taking it. That's what causes episodes. My sister doesn't think it's schizophrenia, having been only a year apart from him. He lives with my parents, and I have personally been in a physical altercation with him. When I was, he pinned me down to beat my face in and stopped the moment I said \"(name), you don't want to hurt me\". I know, from growing up with him, that he is lonely and he suffers. His best friend shot himself when they were in high school and I know he hadn't been the same since. He was molested as a child and has been through a lot. Yesterday my mother called me to let me know that they have a restraining order on him because they do not feel safe with him there (He has probably not taken medication in a couple months and stole all of the knives, been weird, had fights). We don't know where he is, but court is on the 22nd and I don't know what will happen to him. BHR has been a nightmare and he's been on the waiting list with them to get an apartment for ages. He has been suffering a root canal for months and is also on a waiting list for removal. He started smoking to dull the pain. There's so much more to it, and my sister and I spent last night crying and drinking because we are entirely helpless. We don't want to see him on the street. Here's where I'm asking for advice. Are there any known programs or groups that can help us get him on his feet? We're almost certain he's homeless now and he doesn't have a cell phone with data or minutes.", "summary": "brother needs mental help and I am helpless. I need to find out if there is an organization other than BHR to help."}
{"id": "t3_3mc79i", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Don't know what to do about my living situation.", "post": "(First world problems incoming)\nThree weeks ago, I moved away to my dream university. All my best friends went, its the best program I could be at in my country. My whole life I've never been away from home for longer than a week, and I'm extremely close with my family. I knew that the distance between me and them would be difficult (3 hour drive), but I assumed that I'd be able to deal with it easily. Now that distance consumes my thoughts daily. I want nothing more than to come home to be with my family, dogs, and everything I love so dearly at home. So three weeks in, I took the weekend of and am currently at home. Up till now, I've been able to deal with my problems. I was sure that I was just not cut out for living that distance from family, and that the party culture of university just didn't click with me. However, I got home today and woke up with the same crippling anxiety I had woken up with everyday in my res room. Once I started to realize where I was, the anxiety is slowing leaving me. But I've only been home for a day, and I'm starting to fall back into the same routine I did literally every day for all of high school. I'm not going to lie, I'm someone who HATES change. I'd like to be all gung-ho about it like my friends seem to be, but I miss home dearly. It's actually started to affect my health in the last three weeks. I've lost weight and been physically sick for most of the time. But now I'm home and I feel myself not moving forward. I had a plan to finish out the year at my current university, and transfer back locally to a different school. The problem with this plan is that I'd be going to a school where I don't know a single person, and I would be transfering a less prestigious program (Likely not a bad one, but I'd be going from #1 to #5ish). I'm incredibly unsure of what I need to do right now, and would love any advice anyone has to offer.", "summary": "I moved out for university, decided I'm too much of a homebody for life that far from home (I'd be ok living out of the house, but I'd prefer to be within visiting distance of my family), but when I came back I feel like I'm not moving forward with my life."}
{"id": "t3_3c3rd8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing what a dodecahedron is", "post": "I play a game with my six year old where I give her a topic to research on Google and she writes a basic report or draws it, depending on the subject. We were driving somewhere yesterday and talking about shapes, the difference between a pyramid and a cone, trapezoids, rhombus, pentagons, octagons. She knows all of those, no problem. So I try to make it harder and the only thing I can think of is a dodecahedron.\n\n\"Do you know what a dodecahedron is?\" I asked her. \n\"No. What's a dodeca... wait what did you say?\" she replied.\n\"Do-dec-a-he-dron.\" I repeated this a few times until she got it. \"When we get home I would like you to draw it for me.\" \n\nWe get home, I give her my iPad, write the word down on a piece of paper for her to type into Google, and go into my office to do some work. She gets out her crayons and paper. About 10 minutes later I hear her crying. I walk into her room, there's a couple of crumpled pieces of paper on the floor and she's bawling. \"IT'S THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER DRAWN!!!!\"\n\nI thought it was a simple two-dimensional shape, like an octagon with more sides. I look on the iPad screen and see a twelve-sided, THREE DIMENSIONAL object. Aw fuck, I'm an idiot.", "summary": "Tried to make my six year old draw a dodecahedron. Didn't know it was three dimensional. Made my kid cry and feel like a loser. Now both of us feel like losers."}
{"id": "t3_u4xbv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What have you done at work that you wouldn't want your boss to know about?", "post": "Today while working I accidentally left the DI water machine set to run to fill a bottle, as opposed to ending after a time limit, because I intended to come back. I work in a lab, and the machine is off in one of the side rooms. I come back an hour and a half later to an inch and a half of water on the floor. Luckily, I was able to mop it all up before my boss got back from lunch, but it would not have been a good situation had she seen that. So I'm curious. What have you done that you wouldn't want your boss to see?", "summary": "I flooded a room in the lab I work in."}
{"id": "t3_4wnp94", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m]How can I start trusting my girlfriend[18/f] again?", "post": "A few months ago, I lost a lot of trust with my gf because she would promise to do things but never follow through. Eventually, I called he out on it, and she said she would keep her promises, but she still breaks them relatively often. My trust in her took another hit after I moved to a city 2 hours away when she went to a drug party I asked her not to go to because I'm not comfortable with her taking drugs with other people. I'm especially uncomfortable with her new group of friends, who were hosting the party. They all do, or desire to do hardcore drugs like LSD, and she herself has professed a desire to try Acid. The only drugs we've tried is weed, which doesn't affect me but affects her very much. She went to the party regardless of what I said, and of course, when I found out, I was mad at her. She promised to not go to another drug party, but about a week ago, she went to another one and smoked weed. My trust in her has gotten severely strained because of her actions and because I'm in a completely different city (though, she will move to my city in September) She continues to break promises constantly, to the point where is has begun to wear on me emotionally. Tonight, she has gone to another party, a regular one with her family and the family and friends of another family. However, I'm worried she'll start dancing with other guys there, a big-no-no for me. I've caught her flirting with one of her druggie friends, though she claims to not have realized it was flirting. I've also found out she had been hiding that she sometimes wants to die from me, which freaks me out. She says she loves, and I love her, and I know she doesn't consciously break promises, but it's hard to trust her. And I know if I find out she danced with other dudes tonight, I'll most likely end the relationship, even if I really, really don't want to. I don't want to worry, and I want to trust her and her judgement while I'm not around, but I don't know if I can at this point. What do I do in a situation like this?", "summary": "Can't trust gf due to past transgression, How do I trust her again?"}
{"id": "t3_207w7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] wonders if my [22F] gf is overly sensitive, or if i'm not being sensitive enough, and if our relationship is not worth continuing.", "post": "I've been in a relationship for 6 months now.  It started out great but lately things have been a little rocky.  She is extremely critical of me (how I dress, if I say something grammatically incorrect (she's always correcting me!), my posture, my taste in music, if I blow bubbles with my gum in an audience of people, if I accidentally let the door close on her if I'm walking through it first, if if i dont cuddle with her in the morning when i'm trying to sleep). I'm a lot more thick-skinned and calm.  She on the other hand is extremely sensitive and emotional, and doesn't take criticism well.  So it's as if she expects me to be extremely sensitive to her while she doesn't afford me the same consideration and sensitivity.  She has anxiety issues and has walked out on me from places because I said I couldn't stay with her the whole weekend due to work I needed to get done.  She can go from very happy to crisis on seemingly minor issues.  She always complains about her weight (she's about 40 lbs. overweight) but not once have I said anything less than she's beautiful.  I've never told her she needed to lose weight.  Tonight I told her, in general terms not even directed at her, that people who complain about their weight, or who are overweight, should stop complaining all the time and take steps and do something about it because at least on some level weight and health is in their control.  You don't like it?  DO something about it.  She got extremely upset, and hung up on me.  Was I being insensitive?", "summary": "Gf is overly critical, yet extremely sensitive to criticism.  Complains about her weight all the time, yet does nothing about it."}
{"id": "t3_2i4loe", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] My homecoming date [16/f] and I didn't necessarily hit it off...", "post": "Last weekend, I went to homecoming with my date. We'll call her Sue. Sue is a cool girl, pretty, and has a similar sense of humor as I do. We've been friends for a few months, so I asked her to homecoming. Now, I have a new suit, I'm pumped for a sweet night of talking it up and looking dapper, but dad, who is a federal law enforcement officer says I can't drive her alone or go anywhere but their house, and seeing as I'm a 6'5\" hulk compared to her, it's understandable that he wants to be cautious. I end up driving my date, her sister, and her sister's date, who is my buddy, Bob. They make it terribly awkward, whispering between each other and not talking to sue or myself when we ask them something. On the way to the actual dance we stop at Bob's house, as he's forgotten his tickets. They SCREAM then get out of the car in some pitiful attempt at humor and run inside for about ten minutes, leaving me and sue sitting in my truck waiting for them. We chitchat a bit, but we're both kinda nervous, so it's pretty awkward. The dance itself was more awkward than fun because we're a new couple (if you can call it that). Afterwards, we hung out at her house with bob and his girlfriend, play a few games, and I head home because it's late. Overall, it was more fun than not, but I was a bit mad at bob/bob's date and it didnt feel like sue and I hit it off...", "summary": "took friend to hoco, kinda awkward but fun, friends made it more awkward"}
{"id": "t3_1l1cbh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "As a future transfer student, what types of things should I do to boost my resume at my current university?", "post": "So I was put on the waitlist for the college I am hoping to attend last year as a high school senior, and never got in. My letter, however, said I would be a competitive transfer applicant in the future. So basically, I am trying to spend one year at the university I am at now, and then make the transfer to the other school, assuming I get accepted. So I am asking, what should I do besides get good grades and get involved at the university I am at now to improve my chances of getting in this time? Sorry if my grammar sucks.", "summary": "What should I do on campus as a freshman to help my transfer application to a different school?"}
{"id": "t3_177f45", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [32m] with [30f] who has lost trust", "post": "I fucked up.  Again.  I lied about the last time I checked a girl's profile.  Someone I used to talk to and stopped talking to once I started dating her.  Someone younger than me.  A few weeks ago, she found the truth about the nature of my relationship with her back then (all over text) and just last night she asked me when the last time I checked her profile was.  I lied and said it was a month or two ago, when it was closer to a week ago.  I didn't even think about it.  I just kneejerk lied, because I thought the truth would be worse.\n\nShe cried her eyes out.  She hates me.  She thinks I'm a piece of shit.  We're just about to get a new place together and she agreed to live with me under a \"domestic partnership\" until she can figure something out.  But, she's the love of my life.   I can't lose her.  I wanted to go all the way with her (married, babies).  What can I do?  I'm glad she's at least living with me so maybe there's some chance that she'll trust me again, but I don't know.  She fuckin hates me right now and I don't blame her.  I lied again.  I hurt her.  Again. \n\nHelp", "summary": "I'm 32m and she is 30f.  We have been together almost 3 years and have had a long distance relationship for almost all of that time.  We just moved in together in November"}
{"id": "t3_3p9yy4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU what should have been a lovely brew...", "post": "My fuck up is neither sexy, poopy, decades old or excitingly dangerous. It doesn't involve rabid squirrels or getting hit in parts of the body that should be tenderly loved. Nor does it have smelly and strange bodily fluids leaving the body when it shouldn't. \n\nIt isn't embarrassing (well, actually it could be), or illegal (but should be) but; as a British person, made for a bloody muck up of an afternoon.\n\nPicture the scene. It is a lovely Sunday afternoon, so what better way to enjoy it than to relax with a wonderful cup of tea. I venture to the kitchen, put out a nice plate of shortbread biscuits, a China mug, and fill the trusty kettle. The milk stays in the fridge as it is ALWAYS water first.\n\nNow, here comes the fuck up. I go to grab a teabag, reach into the jar... But nothing.... \n\nHow can this be? I am out of teabags! How on earth has this come to be? Usually I have a spare box, or two of the good stuff in the pantry. But no. Today on this fateful day, I was out of blasted teabags. I was gobsmacked, gutted and completely miffed as to how this has happened. What utter tosh.\n\nSo although I was utterly knackered, I had to jump in the car and race to purchase some more. I was irked as on returning home the shortbread was now soft, the water now cold and I was close to saying \"sod it\", but I am not the sort to be snookered that easily.\n\nSo, I persevered and went through the whole process again. Kettle, biscuits etc.... \n\nNeedless to say though, I do make a damn fine cuppa tea though. So I guess it was worth it in the end.", "summary": "Ran out of teabags, a real British fuck up."}
{"id": "t3_3nzptc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my BF [30M] 7 months and his inappropriate relationship with his best friend", "post": "I've been seeing my boyfriend, Dan for about 9 months but we only became exclusive 7 months ago. Everything's been going fine and we are generally two functional people in a healthy relationship, which is why I'm concerned about the fact that I'm bothered by his best friend. \n\nDan has known Jill since high school or whatever (prep school? They went to one of those K-12 prep schools) and they are tight. They've seen each other through a lot. They are very, very close and this bothers me a lot. He shares with her and vice versa in a way that makes me uneasy. I can safely say that if his best friend was male and he talked to him like he talks to Jill I wouldn't be bothered by it, but the fact that it's a woman makes me uneasy. \n\nIt's even more irrational because Jill has been in a committed relationship with the same guy for almost as long as she has known Dan and the three of them seem to get along fine. I would even say that Dan and James are almost as close as Jill and Dan. Jill and Dan have also never had any kind of sexually intimate relationship so I don't think that this is a case of unrequited love. \n\nJill has been nothing but nice to me and I feel terrible that I want her to be \"demoted\" so to speak. I know that it makes me look insecure and crazy but I feel like I should be my BF's best female friend now that we're dating and she should fall back. \n\nAm I crazy irrational Reddit? Is there anything I can do to make this go away?", "summary": "My boyfriend's close relationship with his female best friend bothers me and I want things to change.*"}
{"id": "t3_1qci7f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wrong to want to be away from people (including my SO) when I'm feeling like shit? [26M]", "post": "Context:\n\nSometimes, I get really anxious, moody, and all-around gloomy. It's not quite like being depressed, and more like small things become big things. I start thinking about how my relationship will fall apart, how I won't find a job, how I'm not doing anything productive, how I don't feel like doing anything about it. It slowly creeps in every other month as a feeling, and lasts anywhere from 1-5 days.\n\nWhen I feel like this, I want to be away from people. I feel like I'm holding up a mask. I don't want to see my roommate, my boss, and even my girlfriend. It is the latter that is an issue. When I'm feeling anxious this particular way, I feel like everyone around me is an obligation. If she's over at my place, I'm conscious of her feelings, needs, and wants. I feel obligated to make sure she's entertained, but often I want to quell my negative feelings with a mix of solitary activities (video games, playing music, working out). So it's easier to get over my anxiety when I'm all alone at home. Unfortunately, she interprets this as tantamount to me saying I'm happier when she's not there.\n\nMy concern is that maybe I shouldn't isolate myself. This feeling is different than simply wanting my alone-time. I am an introvert, and she understands that. To that end, we have days of the week where we don't meet up/sleep together. The problem is when I feel like crap on a day we're supposed to hang out. Finally, I feel like I might be ignoring the issue by isolating myself.", "summary": "I like to be alone when I'm going through what feels like cyclical anxiety. Should I do this, even if it means hurting my girlfriend's feelings, or should I not be isolating myself into addicting, anti-social distractions?"}
{"id": "t3_tr34s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Roommate situation", "post": "28/f living with 26/f.  \nMet via craigslist and she moved in about a month ago now.  Since then we've been going out and drinking a few nights a week and become friends.  We're both single (me newly), and she's been hooking up with a guy off and on for almost a year now... that has come to an end.  She has introduced me to some of her friends, and i've introduced her to the few I have in this city(i'm not from here).  \n\nLast night I invited a male friend out that I introduced her to a week ago.  Him and I met via a dating site, however never dated or hooked up.  He has hit on me several times, but I never really considered anything since there is no attraction to him.  Last night him and I were a little flirty, but nothing serious.  She was also talking to another guy at the bar, and complaining about the guy she had been hooking up with more recently.  \n\nWe got home from the bar, and my male friend was texting me \"we should just bang already\"  and things like this.  She made a comment to me (while that was being sent) that he was a super nice guy and really seemed like a gentelman.  I replied with \"yea but he's a typical guy too... he just sent me a text saying we should bang already.\"  She didn't say much but just sounded annoyed a little.  This morning I woke up to a text from my male friend saying that he wont be seeing me for a while probably, and that my roommate found him on facebook and messaged him saying that she would have hung out with him or been interested possibly, however I had just told her what he said to me abou wanting to bang.  \n\nI feel like she crossed a line.  She had no place messaging my friend at all about anything!  Also I just got home a bit ago and she looked at me and i said hi, i'm not sure if she did or did not hear me... but she said nothing.  Am I over reacting or was she out of line to message my friend?  What do I do in this situation?", "summary": "roommate crossed what I feel are pretty serious boundries.  How do I respond?  Am I over reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2smdwv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] at a crossroads between two girls, both [19 F]", "post": "I am a university student and have a decision to make between two girls, and as I see it, two different lives I could live. \n\n This first girl, named Victoria is studying music and is a very talented singer. Although I'm biased, I really think she'll be a famous singer one day. She has a rich family and they go on adventures to different countries every year and live on the wild side of things. We dated in high school a bit but things didn't work out because we where both immature and she didn't like commitment. She's interested in a relationship with me now however.\n\n There is also another girl, named Katrina, she is studying nursing. We have gone on a few dates but things aren't yet really committed. She's very sweet but and lacks a lot of self confidence, which I apparently help her with. She is quiet and churchgoing, and doesn't really like to be particularly social and prefers reading and watching flims, or going for a jog by herself.\n\n So my problem, who do I choose? I'm not counting on either of them lasting to marriage or whatever (not to say I would doubt it, just, I don't know), but I feel like by choosing, I'm choosing the kind of lifestyle I will end up living. Either one filled with adventure in which I will tour the world with super star singers and go mountain climbing in Russia or a life that is simple, and I fill it with my wife's company and we have a couple of kids and a nice house and not needing to go on massive adventures because we are content just with each other.\n\n I know I'm young, and that a lot more is to come, but this decision has a feeling about it like it will completely alter my entire future.\n\n If those of you experienced with life could tell me which opportunity they would take, I may be able to decide which path I should follow.\n\nThanks", "summary": "I need to decide between a girl that is destined to become a wonderful singer and have a life filled with adventure or a lovely girl that would lead me to a life filled with quiet content."}
{"id": "t3_1dl63a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M18) girlfriend (F17) is hanging out with my friend (M18) a lot...", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for 10 months and it's been great, I trust her completely. But lately she's been building this really close bond with my friend- once when we were all hanging out I had to leave early and they ended up doing shrooms together for five or six hours. A few weeks later, I left town and they hung out basically every day I was gone, they drink together without me and even went to a concert together. Even today, as we were going to lunch we said goodbye to him and he seemed a little lonely and she tried to get me to invite him along. To our first lunch together in weeks. It's getting to the point where I feel like if I'm not with her, she's with him. I \"know\" (Not for sure, but from what I know of them both) they're not physically messing around or anything, and I place a high value on both relationships. I guess I feel jealous, and don't know how to address it without sounding like the controlling jerk my emotions paint me to be. This issue might also come from being immature. I need perspective, and advice on a plan of action.", "summary": "my girlfriend and friend are hanging out a lot and I feel left out"}
{"id": "t3_3ghkwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my Girlfriend [18F] of a little over a year are long distance and I need some advice on what to do.", "post": "So, I'm 20 and my girlfriend is currently 18 and I live in California and she lives in Chicago. We've never met before but we've been talking to each other every day for the past year or so now and we both know we're real people, so there's no doubt about that. We've FaceTimed and have had phone calls with each other just about every night we can. \n\nAs a 20 year old male I have recently started my career and wish to see her as soon as I possibly can. Would this be a smart idea? I was later down the road planning to move out there while she finishes up college and such since I've already finished my schooling and I've wanted to leave California anyways. It's going to be somewhat costly to go out there and pay for a round trip plane ticket, a room and food. I've estimated that the trip will cost just about around $500-$600 but I really think she's worth every penny of it. \n\nWould this be smart to do at my current age?", "summary": "in love with a girl 2020 miles away and need help deciding if it would be smart to go and see her for 3 days."}
{"id": "t3_555ahn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my classmate [17 F], she started messaging me, how do I take this further.", "post": "There is a girl that I like in two of my classes.  We added each other on snap a while ago but never really talked to each other.\n\nToday I had to leave early for a golf match, so I missed a class I had with her.  She sent me a snap wondering where I was at.  I thought this was weird because we've never really talked, but I put \"to get away from you...JK\"  we then had a small convo about the class then I ended it when the convo lulled\n\nMy question is how do I take it further??", "summary": "A girl I liked started snapping me, how do I take it further"}
{"id": "t3_3x4gr8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20) isn't supportive or there for me (20 F) when I have a lot on or I'm upset", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. Over the past months, he has had a lot of stress with his new start up business, and had a few cash problems. I can honestly say I have been there 100%, supporting him, hugging him if he's down, I even printed off flyers and posted them around my area to help business. \n\nHowever, in the last week or so I've been really struggling with my own problems. It came to my attention that we would always focus on what's going on with him and he would never ask me how I'm doing genuinely. \n\nI spoke to him about this last night as we argued and I realised I was taking a lot of my emotions out on him. I started to cry when I said this time last year my grandma (whom I was very close to) was dying in hospital + I am experiencing a lot of stress and pressure with my mum, dad & my dad's new girlfriend (completely other story.) He preceded to get very angry with me saying \"fair enough your grandma passed away yeah but you can't take it out on me.\" I apologised and I said I just really need him here right now like I am for him, which made me cry a bit more.\" he then said \"STOP CRYING! You've made me really angry and now you're crying to try and make me stop.\"\n\nThis was really hurtful for me. I have been very upset and being told my tears were manipulative hurt so much. I've felt quite awkward today with him. It's just so confusing when every time I'm upset, the situation still needs to be focused on him. Either because he ALSO has things going on or because he just brings the focus back onto him.\n\nI am finding it hard suppressing my emotions and them being undermined by somebody who is supposed to love me.\n\nHow can I deal with this situation?", "summary": "I am always there for my boyfriend in his hard times, but the focus still has to be on him when I'm upset and I feel undermined and neglected."}
{"id": "t3_2osjvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The thought of GF's old guy pisses me off Advice?", "post": "So me and my GF have been going out for 3 months now im 18 she is 21 and both go to the same college. She has been with only two other guys one was her old BF and one was a random one night fling. I lost my virginity to her although have never let her know that because she thinks i have had others before her based upon how stories were worded (ie i said hookup meaning make out she thought it meant sex) i never corrected this. Any way the main point is her ex was a total dirt bag i mean he dated mutiple girls and she even knew it. She is a bigger girl and so she was insecure and jumped on the first guy to give her attention. I am however very skinny and love her for her personality and have grown to love her bodies imperfections, but it still infurates me everytime i think about how this douche bag took her virginity. Idk i try to remain rational but i always feel like it was taken from me like that peice of connection we could have is lost. I am a pretty rational guy and so i ignore these thoughts but they sometimes eat at me and i want a different perspective so i can move past them.\n\nSorry for formatting i am on mobile", "summary": "gf was with another guy before and lost virginity 2 him.... still bothers me"}
{"id": "t3_10rls4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex wants me as lover, not shure if i can handle it", "post": "First sorry for the bad english.\nI has been in a relationship with a woman for 4 years, im 32 she is 28, our relationship had our goods and bads, but we got along very well, we enjoyed sex a lot, but six months ago i finished the relationship because i was feling bored, we continued having contact and sex from time to time, lately i felt the need to continue with the relationship again in a more official way, and i began looking for her often, one day when we where together she received a call from another men, i didnt made a scene about that and she told me that she is going out with a guy, nothing serius, only a coffe and a pair of meals, the thing is, she wants to continue having sex with me, and she wants to continue seeing this guy, i enjoy the clandestine sex a lot, but im not shure how to feel about this, one part of me feels god because the sex, the other parts feel a litle hurt, im confused i dont know if its good to coninue this way, i really like the sex, how she treats me, shes very caring for me. Advice please", "summary": "I began frecuenting my ex with intentions of returning togheter, she is dating someone else and we are lovers now, not shure if its correct or if i can handle it, maybe i could be better alone? Enjoying the sex"}
{"id": "t3_2r56v5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Insecure about My (22M) Girlfriend (21F) moving to NYC", "post": "Hi all! A little background: My girlfriend will be graduating in May with her BFA in Acting. Her plan is to move to New York City after she graduates in order to find acting work. I am fully supportive of this move and understand that it just isn't going to happen for her around here. We have been together for 4 years (all throughout college).\n\nWhat I can't get out of my head is all of the \"what if's\". I keep telling myself to stay away from reddit and other forums on the internet because they tend to make me feel more insecure and I feel that it's a bit counterproductive to read about others' relationships when I should be focusing on my own, but I thought maybe I should get some unbiased opinions on my own situation. My girlfriend says that she does not want to break up and is willing to try a long distance relationship. While I am willing to try as well, I just can't get past the feeling that once she gets up to NYC she will want to move on and find someone else, or worse, cheat. \n\nI have definitely considered trying to move up there with her, but the fact is that her career path is extremely unpredictable. I would hate to get settled into a job/career in the city only to have her move back home if things don't work out for her or have to permanently move elsewhere for work. \n\nMaybe I am just overreacting and putting all of these insecurities in my own head, but I need some advice. Can anyone give me some tips on what I can do to focus on the positive or what I should do in order to maintain the relationship? I'd be devastated if we had to break it off. Thanks for all the help!", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4 years moving to NYC, what should I do to get past my insecurities?"}
{"id": "t3_4vwtje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] lost my virginity to my boyfriend [16M] and the two times we had sex he made it all about me and did not let me do anything to him. How do I ask him to", "post": "Hi so I have never used Reddit before. I have read the guide for submitting so I will hopefully be good. This is probably a really simple solution I am just having trouble seeing it.\n\nMy boyfriend had a girlfriend before me and he has some experience from that relationship. I have never been in a relationship before now and I have only had sex twice. My boyfriend is really outgoing, loud, popular at school and I am the exact opposite.\n\n I am to too shy. Which I am it's a major flaw I have I am always really timid to ask people for things. I have always been and I don't know why. Even if I know the person super well I am always to shy to ask something of them.\n\nI lost my virginity to him several days ago and we had sex again last night. He made it a very enjoyable experience but he made it all literally about me. He did not really let me do anything to him and he focused on me the entire time.\n\nI know this is probably a simple solution but I can't see it, how do I ask him to let me do some things to him?", "summary": "I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and he keeps making sex all about me. How can I ask him to let me do some things to him"}
{"id": "t3_11bdmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (23F) broke up with me (25M) and is telling everyone I broke up with her. What should I do?", "post": "We had been together for over 2 years.\n\nI've seen her on FB basically telling everyone she is devastated because I broke up with her. I have been tempted to \"correct\" her since she is still on my friends list and we have mutual friends but I have restrained myself every time.\n\nWhat it ultimately came down to was her wanting to stay friends and keep me in her life but not be in a relationship anymore. I refused with that setup and I guess I am now the \"bad guy\" and broke up with HER. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation before? Any advice? Thank you.", "summary": "GF broke up with me and is telling everyone I broke up with her. Should I bother trying to set the record straight??"}
{"id": "t3_3p6ty4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] accidentally texted a friend [21 F] an \"I love you\" message and she then confessed her love for me. The text was meant for my girlfriend. What should I do?", "post": "I have a friend (call her Lily) who I see in university like all the time. She doesn't know I have a girlfriend. I just accidentally texted her a \"Hey, I love you! Just wanted to let you know :p okay, bye! :)\" message. That was supposed to be for my girlfriend. I accidentally sent it to Lily. Lily replied saying that she always had a big crush on me and really loved me back. She asked if we're going to go out! I just saw it right now that I accidentally sent it to her.\n\nAnyways, any idea what I should do from this point on / what I should say to her in response? I have no idea how I can make this situation any better (saying that the message was meant for my girlfriend is a must for sure, but how do I phrase this? Is a simple \"Hey, the previous message was actually meant for my girlfriend but it accidentally got sent to you. Sorry for that!\" good?).\n\nThanks in advance!\n\nSmall", "summary": "Accidentally sent a text to a friend (Lily) saying \"Hey, I love you! Just wanted to let you know :p okay, bye! :)\". That text was supposed to be for my girlfriend. I accidentally sent it to Lily. Lily replied saying that she always had a big crush on me and really loved me back. She even asked if we're going to go out."}
{"id": "t3_2gko1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30m] Fantasizing about my ex [25f]", "post": "Two years ago I ended a five year relationship with my s/o. We'd grown apart, grown into different people and it wasn't healthy or working anymore. She'd had a habit in the past of starting a new relationship and leaving her exes for someone new & I didn't want to go through that so I left her. There was some pettiness & some of our friends chose sides when we stopped taking. \n\nWe don't see each other & still don't talk. There's possibly a little animosity but we don't go out of our ways to fuck with each others lives.\n\nWhen we were having trouble at the end of our relationship she started getting really close with a former co-worker of hers. He was hanging around and basically waiting for her to be available and I assumed if she kept to her old habits she'd leave me for him. They wound up together about a month after our breakup and while I resent him for sniffing around while she was with me normally it's not much of an issue. I've had relationships since, but part of me still works with a \"winning the break up\" mentality- when sensitive I'm smug about hooking up with girls she knows or who are more attractive than her.\n\nToday I had a really weird experience & I saw a picture of her from a big costume party & she was looking amazing. I don't generally sexualise her but suddenly I'm kind of jealous. I miss her and feel cuckolded & weirdly aroused by it. The idea of this slimey guy fucking my ex and even the idea of seeing them going at it is really turning me on.\n\nIs this really unhealthy? Has anyone else had moments like this?", "summary": "Fantasizing about ex & new lover after two years. Thoughts / advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2atrz4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Crush[16 F] [Dating] First love and being ignored.", "post": "First things first this is a only online Relationship.\n\nWe've been talking back and forth for 2 months but 2 weeks I told her I liked her and she said she liked me but isn't ready to date right now which I'm fine with. \n\nBut the main problem I feel we have is when she works. She nanny's her nieces during the week so shes \"busy\" so we rarely talk. Then we do talk occasionally which she seems super uninterested in me when talking.\n\nI always say message me when you have time but she never does. But then I see her online playing video games when shes \"busy\" Then I feel really bad like she doesn't want to play with me or something. \n\nBut then she goes home and then we usually talk all weekend. Am I being too clingy? Should I just let her do her thing?", "summary": "Say's shes busy and doesn't want to talk but then plays video games"}
{"id": "t3_2vw494", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] don't want to lose this girl [23F]", "post": "I have been talking with this girl for a few months, I met her at work but she no longer works there. In the beginning it went great and I thought we really hit it off and I asked her to be my girlfriend. She said she likes me but she wasn't ready for a relationship and she told me her ex was abusive. She has constantly told me how she is heartbroken and isn't ready. I want to be there for her but she keeps pushing me away and her texts get really unresponsive. I don't know what to do. She keeps saying I deserve someone better and that I want to be with someone that she can't become. But I don't like anyone else, I like her.", "summary": "Girl I like isn't ready for relationship but likes me. Should I wait for her or should I leave her alone?"}
{"id": "t3_1whke9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "It's about damn time...", "post": "My nerves are all a jumble so I'll try to make this cohesive as possible...\nI will start by saying thank you, to all the redditors improving their health, you inspire so many.  Gotta remember the little guys, right :)\n\nI bought a scale last night for the first time, EVER.  I had weighed myself on the Wii Fit (not a reliable source of facts, btw!) around December and I was about 190.  As a former 100lb stunner, I freaked the fuck out and started cutting crap outta my diet.  No potatoes, rice, pasta, normal meal staples- but it wasn't strict.  \n\nLast night I weighed myself, a 182 stunner.  I see this number, every. single. time I close my eyes, all I see is a big red *182*.  Does this happen to you guys?  Do you use this as motivation?  Does it also make you want to rip off your eyelids?  \n\nI'm getting married in May and my GW is 140...Is that possible?  Oh, how I hope it is. Any suggestions, advice, criticism is welcome. I am jumping on the keto train 100% and I swear on an alleged little baby jesus that this is going the starting point to something grand.  I'm all enthusiastic now, and it wont last so I will be turning to you guys for help and support.", "summary": "Y'all inspired me to get my ass in shape, so thank you!   "}
{"id": "t3_3jml5b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting bored in \"Detention\"", "post": "At my old school we had a \"detention\" called ICU, which was where we went up to a quiet classroom for lunch, checked out a chromebook, and finished work that was late. I was planning on doing all of my homework at home afterwards, so I just browsed the web. I ended up trying to get on a DDOS/booter website. Of course, it was blocked. Not paying any attention to the technology use policy, I searched for an online proxy server and went to the far pages of Google to find one that wasn't blocked by the network. From the proxy server I went on Titanium Hackers, etc. Of course this sent up red flags to the Schools ISP, which got me sent to the office the next day. Of course, this was all happening during PARCC testing for all the schools in my area, and all the school were using the same ISP. In the office sat my superintendent, principal, and head IT man. The superintendent wanted me expelled for getting 6 schools DDOSed during testing, but my principal only gave me a suspension because I was a \"good kid\" and \"didn't mean any harm\". \n\nSeveral months later, I still got in the honor society.", "summary": "Bypassed security in 8th grade, ddosed several schools, almost got expelled, still got in honor society"}
{"id": "t3_1ef7l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to tell him how I feel. Help me please, Reddit!!", "post": "I guess you'd like some background information on me/the bf. I would describe our relationship as \"the best friends\" because I can say literally anything and he accepts it's dorkiness and awkwardness. We have been together for over a year now, and honestly, between you and me Reddit, I want to be with him for years. No, we have not said \"I love you\" yet, as he has told me he is hesitant and wants to wait as to be 100% certain, even though we are each others firsts, both sexually and gf/bf-wise. \nSo as most 16-year-old highschool girls, I am in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. Also as most highschool girls, I feel as though our feelings are mutuall and will carry on throughout the vastness of 'forever'.\nBut, I'm skeptical. I have, on previous (though fleeting) encounters with members of the opposite sex and with countless \"BFF\"s, felt the similar \"love\" I have with my boyfriend, but it always ended badly.  I'm skeptical in the sense that I DON'T want this to end badly. \nI do love my boyfriend, don't get me wrong, but I don't know how to say it without me feeling like that weird, clingy, gross gf that everyone hates. \nI want us to be definitely real and true. I just don't know how I should say it. This is obviously nerve-wracking and I just need advice. Help:(", "summary": "the bf and I have been together for 1+. I want to say \"I love you\", but don't know how or if I should, even."}
{"id": "t3_1k6uba", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 23, going to school, working, and living at home. Best way to save?", "post": "So I am in college. Almost done with undergrad and then on to med school hopefully. Problem is I don't have any money saved. My parents have decided that they are going to start charging me rent (because every other 23 year old has a life according to them) on top of my car insurance and cell phone bill that I pay every month. \n\nI bring home, on average, about $230 a week. $130/month for insurance, $40 for cell phone, and now $200 for rent. My truck also sucks down gas so on average about $60-80 a week on gas. I'm barely staying above just on the bills. Every time I get some money saved up I end up having some other unexpected bill come up (PCAT, college applications, new tires, etc,...) and my savings is drained back down. I know my tuition is due in a few weeks and then books on top of that. \n\nWhat can I do to save more? I would like a more fuel efficient car but there's no way I can afford one. I read about all these investments and ways to make your money earn more money, but what can I do with the $50 dollars in my account now? I don't need to make a million, just enough to help me stay afloat. Is it even worth trying to save or should I just pinch pennies and get my bills paid as my #1 priority? Short of getting a second job, that I don't have the hours to work, I don't know of any other way to make some more income.\n\nSorry for such a long post, I just wanted to get everything out there from the start. And thanks for any help in advanced!", "summary": "In college, barely making enough, how can I make a little extra?"}
{"id": "t3_3abqy0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] of 4 months, just said goodbye and won't see each other for 6-12 months. We are deeply in love and I'm having a hard time staying emotionally intact during this transition into a LDR.", "post": "I just came back from the airport where I said goodbye to my girlfriend of 4 months. She is going back to her home country to start university and I am going far abroad for a university exchange which lasts 12 months. This is not a break-up because we still very much want to be together but because of important things going on in our lives, that gets complicated.\n\nThere is a chance that we could see each other around Christmas time, so about 6-7 months from now, but that is still incredibly far away and I don't know how to deal with such a long wait or this situation as a whole.\n\nOf course I can only speak from my side, but I know that we are both deeply in love with each other but the foreseen (yes, we knew this was going to happen) circumstances mean that we both have to start one of the most important parts of our lives and go our separate ways.\n\nWe're both very excited to be starting the things we are, but at the same time extremely sad to be leaving each other (almost unbearably so).\n\nIt's hard to explain exactly why our relationship works so well but I want to know what I can do now. We are going to continue to be in touch and hope to start again some day (in any form, be it as a couple or just good friends). I told her just before I let her go that we're just putting this all on 'pause', not stopping it completely \u2013 kind of like a video tape. I hope this is realistic and I'm a bit scared and feel sort of lonely now without her constantly around.\n\nI need tips on how to effectively stay in touch and keep this going please, as well as some help on keeping my chin up during this crappy time.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I won't see each other for 1 year. We still love each other a lot, want to start again some day. Not sure how to deal with this transition into long distance relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2voqzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] gf [20 F] of two months went to a naked photo shoot even if it makes me uncomfortable. I need a new perspective.", "post": "I met her before New Years and we hit it off, after a week we moved in together. We're both very sexually liberal (we have sex on cam for money sometimes). \n\nShe talked about doing naked photo shoots and I was supportive (I've seen previous pictures from her past and it's great). She had told me that she would sometimes have sex with the photographers (in the past) and so I figured I would be a lot more comfortable if I came. She thought it was a good idea.\n\nWell, she just left without me. She changed her mind because she thought she would be too giggly and would be distracted. So my question, did she dismiss my emotions over something reasonable?\n\nAlso, she just told me she invited her friend over and said that I should keep her company while she's gone.", "summary": "my girlfriend went to a naked photo shoot alone even after I told her I would be more comfortable if I came. Her reason for wanting to be alone is because I would distract her."}
{"id": "t3_12mp83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BFF (24 M) and I (21 F) have been friends to dating to friends to friends with benefits and now we are at a crossroads.", "post": "We have been best friends for about 2 years and friends for 5 years.\n\nOriginally, I had no interest in him because I met him through my ex. We grew significantly closer after I graduated high school and went on to college. He helped me through a particularly awful relationship and started develop feeling for me in the Spring of 2011 and they continued through the Summer of 2011. I had no interest in him then partially because I was still reeling from my relationship, and all of our mutual friends told him that it was a bad idea so he backed off. During the Winter of 2011 he was dealing with a pain killer addiction and I was dealing with a bout of depression which brought us even closer together. \n\nIn May of 2012 we took a rode trip together to visit mutual friends. During the road trip it was revealed that he still had feelings for me after we had a massive intoxicated fight do to me hooking up with one of the guys there. We had a talk on the drive back home, and we talked which eventually led to us dating. At this point I was very half-hearted and only partially interested in our relationship, and it ended in July 2012 where I then started dating someone who looked better from afar than close up. It ended shortly after it began and I started sleeping with my best friend again. \n\nOriginally we started sleeping together so we could both focus on our own lives but still fulfill our own sexual needs. Now we are at a crossroads of sorts because we have realized that while we don't have the spark of a typical relationship, we care for each other deeply. We have been through a lot together, and  we recognize that at this point our emotional connection makes us more than typical friends with benefits. My advice is on how to either maintain this type of relationship or if we should attempting dating again, or basically what the next step is. Advice is much appreciated!", "summary": "My best friend and I have been friends then dated before going back to friends and ending up currently as friends with benefits. We started sleeping together again to realize that we aren't as platonic as we thought...what do we do to maintain our current relationship or do we try to date again?"}
{"id": "t3_38kytn", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Road Trip with the Pup. Help!", "post": "I'm going on a road trip with my family to the Carolinas and I hate leaving my dog (almost 2 years old, ~75lbs), so I'm thinking about bringing her with me. However I've never traveled with a pet so I'm not sure how feasible this is.\nI was originally going to find a dog sitting place where I can board her there for the week but it would be nice if I can take her with me. What advice do people who have travelled with pets have?\n\n**Length of trip:** ~<1 week (Wed-Mon)\n**Places:** (1) Charleston, SC\n                   (2) Asheville, NC \n\nMy plan for now if I decide to bring her:\n**Charleston, SC:** I've found some pet friendly restaurants here, but I know Charleston is a foodie's paradise and I'd like to try some of the nice restaurants. So, I found a couple of doggie day cares who can watch her for a few hours, so I'll be able to eat at the famous restaurants and pick her up after. (Also, any suggestions for the best food in Charleston?) \nI'd have to find a pet friendly hotel, but that can't be too difficult in a touristy city like Charleston.\n\n**North Carolina:** The next part of the trip will be a drive to North Carolina so we can explore one of the waterfalls over there. From what I've read online, dogs are allowed at pretty much all of the trails and parks (except the Smoky Mountains) so I should be okay with that.\nI'm a bit more worried about finding accommodations here because we'll be up in the mountains and a lot of the places seem like smaller towns so I'm not sure how pet friendly the restaurants and all of that would be because there's not much online.\n\nI'm not worried about the drive, as she's done the drive from Ft. Lauderdale to Gainesville, FL (5 hrs) a few times. I'm more worried about accommodations and restaurants and other things we might want to do.", "summary": "Is it a good idea to travel with your dog? Any advice? Things I need to keep in mind? Or should I find a good boarding place that can take care of her for the week?"}
{"id": "t3_1vvife", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/m] Not sure how to go for this girl, how should I approach the situation?", "post": "**Background:**\n\nI've known this girl for about a year. We've talked casually from time to time - just at school, and did never meet outside school except at her party, which was cool.\n\n---\nWe both moved to the same city coincidentally (we're students). There's going to be a room available on her floor in a month, and I was interested in renting the room (since it's a major upgrade from where I live now).\n\nI said that I would like to see the room, and she invited me over to her place to see hers, and she offered to cook.\n\nI went there Tuesday and we both had a great time! We have a lot in common, and we had laughs about each others' stories :). \n\nAnd suddenly after I had to leave (she had to go to work), I immediately developed strong feelings for her.\n\nI just don't know how to approach this situation; how should I act to win her over?", "summary": "after hanging out and eating with a friend (who I've known for a year), I've suddenly developed strong feelings after finding out we got much in common. How should I deal with this situation to get a relation with her?"}
{"id": "t3_gt4jh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would Reddit be interested in a website that tells you what food you can make according to the ingredients you already have?", "post": "real simple. you go to website, enter in the ingredients you have in your kitchen (flour, honey, ketchup, bees, etc.) and it gives you possible recipes (or a big message just saying that you're fucked and will starve to death if none exist). recipes would be user-submitted and commentable (ideally).\n\nI've had the idea for awhile, too many damn times do i stumble into my kitchen and invent food with whatever is left in my poor ass refrigerator (WHATS AN ASS-REFRIGERATOR LOLDERP). i figure everyone else on the planet does the same thing and i'm sure we all have nuts recipes involving completely unrelated/obscure foods that are just sitting around.\n\nproblem A is that other than mad reddit-posting skills, i'm computer retarded and wouldn't know how to go about doing this. maybe one of you supernerds out there could help me (AND POTENTIALLY THE WORLD AS WE KNOW IT) and design this thing. \n\noh and if it already exists than i'll dress up like yao ming and fly a plane to the moon and light the internet on fire, so that's also incentive.", "summary": "really dude? you *that* busy? it's 3 paragraphs and a run-on sentence."}
{"id": "t3_lix9c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I meet girl friends in College?", "post": "Dumb question, i know. I am just a spoiled/depressed 21 year old college student. Lost my job and gf about a month or two ago and removed a ton of contacts on facebook and in my phone of people I never talk to. There are a lot of cute girls at my college but I still have some shyness left from high school. I think I am pretty good looking compared to most guys and the way I dress looks good as well. I came off as a creeper in high school and have stopped since I started college. I need more friends because I only have a couple that I actually talk to often. I always go to this game room at my college where people come in to either hangout or work on homework and usually sit in the massage chair for a good half an hour. I want to talk to some of the girls in there but my shyness just gets in the way and I feel like I am invisible to everyone. I don't know how to strike up a conversation and I don't want to come off as a creep. Most of the girls i notice are either doing homework or messing around on their laptops and I don't want to bother them. I do love giving compliments but have yet to give them to any girls. I would also love a girlfriend with the same interests as me but I have tried dating website and only young girls or unattractive girls are into me which i think is weird. Even the nerds that talk about really geeky stuff have friends that are girls. Am i missing something?", "summary": "I want more friends but I am just a shy/depressed/spoiled 21 year old with no job and hardly any close friends."}
{"id": "t3_4c3daj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25m] with my ___ [28F] 6 months, break up- Stressed.", "post": "I'll keep this short- But today, I broke up with, not really a \"GF\" but someone I've been with the last 6 months. She is Japanese, Im american and we both live in Japan. She doesn't speak English well, and I do not speak Japanese well. We had a lack of communication the entire time, but we had a good connection. I really liked her..  Until Feburary, around my birthday.\n\nOn my birthday,  I had my mom send me some gifts and some gifts for christmas/her birthday. As She was in the shower, I called my mom to thank her for the gifts. She finished the shower- and I said \"Do you want to say hi and thank you?\" and she just sat quietly and did not want to say anything.. Maybe shy? I don't know. \n\nEver since then, I began to lose interest in her- fast. \n\nBeginning of March, I met a new girl. and we've just connected so well, so quickly, and I could not be happier with her. I've never felt like this. Back in September, I said I would NEVER get another GF after breaking up with 5 different girls because of communication issues. So, I just had casual relationships, meetings, dating, and sex. \n\nBut, after a month of having the best time Ive had in a long time with a girl, I made this new girl a GF last night.  This morning, I sent message to old girl this morning. Told her we can be friends, but there cant be anymore. \nShe wants to meet. I do not think I can do it. I will cry and shit, its emotional! \n\nI just wanted to get this off my chest.", "summary": "Got new girlfriend last night, after seveal months of being \"single\", but girl I've been with for most of that time, but not in a realationship I had to break up with her this morning because I want this new one to be serious and real. Just getting it off my chest because I do know what I should feel right now. Im happy, but sad."}
{"id": "t3_2y44h0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] getting way to attached to [19 F]", "post": "Hey Everyone,\n\nI'm going to try to make this short cause ive got an exam tomorrow. I met a girl at a party about a month ago. We've been hanging out almost every weekend since. Last weekend we had sex (lost my virginity.) Probably too early, but whatever. We were talking, and I told her that I wanted a serious relationship not just a FWB kind of deal. She told me that she wasnt ready for a serious relationship, and she doesnt know what she wanted. \n\nThe thing is we have hung out after this, and every time we hang out i like her more and more. Last night, i even dreamt of her... Im trying to hold back my feelings and be cool about it, but its not working. When I daydream its mostly about her. I guess, im asking for advice regarding not getting attached because i know if this continues im just going to get hurt in the end.", "summary": "Met girl. Lost my virginity. Start develop feelings. She tells me she doesnt want anything serious. I cant stop thinking about her. How do I stop?"}
{"id": "t3_1s76qu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] Men of Reddit, how to you view the development of your relationship/feelings towards your SO.", "post": "Okay, So today I was just thinking about my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm his first girlfriend (He's 28 and I'm 19, big age gap I know but we've never seen a problem with it, we both are mature and live on our own, etc) and from what he's told me he's just never known how to talk to girls. His friends have confirmed this. We've been dating for 4 months and he lives 5 minutes from me so we literally see each other almost every day. In the beginning, he always told me how amazing I was and how he was crazy about me. Now, I'm the only one who ever says those kinda of things. I know it isn't a big problem, because he shows he's caring in physical ways by making sure I'm taken care of, cuddling, etc. I stay the night at his place often and whenever I ask, he always says he wants me to stay. We have a great time together, and I always let him know that if he feels like we shouldn't hang out as much, then that's fine. He always seems to want to have me over and to spend time. Sex is great, I just feel like maybe our sexual relationship as developed further than our emotional one. So there's that. I'm sort of a shy person, but not when it comes to my feelings, I really do care for him and am head over heels for him. I let him know that, but for some reason, I expect at this point in our relationship feelings should be talked about more than I just telling him the occassional \"you mean the world to me\" or \"I'm crazy about you\" and him reciprocating it. I'm not talking about saying I love you, but you know there should be conversations about where the relationship is going.", "summary": "Feelings were said from both parties in the beginning, now it's only me. He still shows it in physical ways. "}
{"id": "t3_27nxo8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Right choice to not cheat?", "post": "Background: Gf puts me through hell these days, and constantly wants to provoke an argument just for the sake of arguing. The slightest mistake on my part (being rude, not replying to a text quickly, etc.) doesn't just result in a fight, but instead she'll do things that are a disproportionate punishment. Examples include making a fb status about very personal details, or threatening to blackmail me by damaging my professional life using information I've told her. The obvious answer is to just get her out of my life. But for now, I need to keep things happy until some other unrelated issues are resolved. I've never cheated on her before, and always refused others who have made advances on me. Another female has come into the equation. I can't tell if she wants friendship, straight sex or a relationship, but I would be most interested in the last of the three. She is also in a relationship with someone she doesn't love and will soon end it. I had her in my bed tonight. She is brutally honest, and said she will tell him the truth that she slept with someone else. He doesn't know me, but if he's not stupid, he should be able to figure it out pretty quickly. It was hard, but I refused sex with her because I'm worried the story will get from him to my current gf, and then obviously she won't help me with the unrelated issues I need her help to resolve (I wouldn't blame her). I'm know cheating is wrong, but that moral issue aside, did I make the right choice to not have sex tonight, or am I worrying to much about nothing?", "summary": "Gf verbally abuses and blackmails me regularly. I don't love her, but I need her help to not get screwed over (unrelated issue), need to keep her happy. Could have slept with new female tonight who is also in a loveless relationship, but she will tell her bf she cheated. I suspect he can figure out who I am, and I am scared of the story getting to my gf. Moral issue of cheating aside, did I make the right choice tonight to not sleep with her?"}
{"id": "t3_sef49", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Water weight.", "post": "Hi loseit. I've been a lurker here for a while, it's a great place to come to when you feel like you need some motivation to keep on track. I'm not looking to lose as much weight as many people here I think, but the method is the same.\n\nI'm a 5'10\", 19 year-old female, and since last August I've gone from my highest weight of 164 and dropped around ~12 lbs using myfitnesspal. It's been rather slow-going for me since every so often I tend to go over my calorie limit for a couple days before getting back on track, but I think overall I end up with more days where I've eaten my goal amount or I'm under my maintenance calories rather than over.\n\nHowever, it's started to get to the point where I'm getting frustrated, because I just can't seem to get any lower. For nearly the past 2 months I've been wavering between ~154-152 lbs, and it seems that any time I just start to think I'll be making progress, I regain those couple pounds I think I've dropped.\n\nThis morning was very discouraging, because after weighing in at 152.4 lbs last week, I stepped on the scale to have it declare I was at 155.4.\n\nNow, I know that this is kind of silly, since in order to re-gain 3 whole pounds of fat, I would have to eat an excess of 10,500 calories, which I am *quite* certain I haven't done. I know it has to be water weight, but at the same time, it's really disappointing that all this water weight is being added onto my real weight. I mean, last week I must have had some water weight too, right? Yet it still said I was 3 lbs lighter. And the fact that it says so means that I probably haven't lost any fat either, otherwise even with water weight my overall weight would probably be less.\n\nI always weigh myself in the morning, after using the washroom and before eating anything, so that's not the problem. I just don't know what to do anymore to get myself out of this plateau I've been in. Does anybody have any advice or words of wisdom? I'd really appreciate it. :/", "summary": "Have been plateauing for almost 2 months after losing weight really slowly and now water weight is just making it look like I'm gaining again. Wat do??"}
{"id": "t3_476jls", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by stabbing myself with an epi-pen as well....", "post": "So I'll start by saying, this happened when I was 7. I'm 15 now. I just read the other Tifu post involving the epi-pen experience, so I thought I'd share. I don't have long skinny fingers, my fingers are, average I guess, in length, that being said, they're not skinny or fat. So here I was, doing my homework, a Sunday afternoon I believe. And I needed a pencil for math homework. Our house was 3 stories high, with my parents floor the middle one. They had \"the desk\" with all the pens and pencils. As well as my father's epi-pen. So curious me saw it when I went to get my pencil, and decided to inspect it. I read what was on the side, and saw that it said something along the lines of, press/click here, can't remember, so I pressed it with my thumb, and the needle went straight through my thumb and poked out the other side.", "summary": "stabbed myself with an epi-pen"}
{"id": "t3_5568ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[24M] friends keep pestering me about my drug use. How do I tell them to back the fuck off?", "post": "I do a lot of drugs. I'm not addicted to anything, and I'm not Iv'ing anything, but I use a wide range of shit. I'm not high all the time or anything, but I use shit like twice a week. Like Friday I might smoke weed and then Saturday I'll pop some oxycodone. \n\nMost of my friends group(which includes 2 ex's) don't really use anything outside of weed and alcohol, with the exception of my two best friends in the group. \n\nThe problem is that my friends are always \"expressing their concern\", telling me not to do stuff, hell they even tried to hide my shit one time.\n\nOne time my ex took me aside and said she says this stuff because she cares about me and doesn't want to see anything bad happen to me....which is great and all, but I can handle myself, I don't need anyones help or constant concern, and I damn sure don't like anyone butting into my business constantly. \n\n Usually when they do this, I just laugh it off and go about my business, but to be honest, it pisses me the fuck off. I really want to tell them to get off my dick and mind their own business, but I also don't want to have a crazy angry outburst either. \n\nIn all honesty, I have always had a tendency to feel this way when people express concern about stuff, or try to be protective and stuff like that towards me. \n\nAnyways, how do I explain to these people that my life, health, etc is not their business at all in a nice way but one that will get the message across.", "summary": "friends keep butting into my business, its annoying as fuck"}
{"id": "t3_s5r20", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Still (unreasonably) jealous of his ex-gf", "post": "F20, broken up with M20 for a month or so. Always kind of had this small jealousy issue with his ex-girlfriend (well the one he was with for the longest, the rest barely count). They went out 10 months, and we went out 9. I think this is eating me a little, as I wish we had beaten that. It's almost like unlocking an achievement to me. She has the friend group, hair and other lifestyle things I have always wanted so this does not help. I know these things are so small and pathetic, and I want to stop worrying about them and comparing myself to her.\n\nI had a horrible dream last night that her mum, and my dad got together and we had to share a house. (neither of us even live with our parents, dreams are so wack). I went into her room when she was gone and looked through her photo albums where she had photos of him and her together, and then a really hideous photo of me with horrible things written next to it. She was really snarky and mean to me in the dream. \n\nI have never even met her, and my ex and her ignore each other so these feelings were and are even more so unwarranted. I want to get rid of them asap, as I am sick of dreaming of her. It makes me wake up unsure of myself, with this pool of jealousy and hate in my heart that I have no room for! :(", "summary": "having unwarranted bad jealousy dreams about my ex-bf's, ex-gf, and want to stop."}
{"id": "t3_368efx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by failing to check the outlet hose", "post": "This just happened about an hour ago. I was running low on clothes, so I decided to do a quick wash. I load up the washer, add soap and ammonia, proceed to start the machine, then walk away. What I failed to do was actually look at the direction of the outlet hose, since it's always (almost always now) in the sink where the water can drain out.\n\nThat was one huge mistake. I was in my room when water exploded everywhere. When I ran to the kitchen, turns out that the hose was actually on the counter, pointed away from the sink. Like the dumbass that I am, I don't turn off the machine, but I run past it to try and get the hose into the sink. Worst idea ever. In 2 seconds,my ass went flying, slammed against the slippery floor, got a decent-sized gash on my left foot, had my glasses fly from my body, and had water spray over me. It took me another 4 seconds to get up and punch the off-button.\n\nIt was to late though. Soapy water covered the kitchen floor, I was a mess, and blood was leaking from my foot. Best Saturday night ever.", "summary": "began washing clothes, forgot to check position of outlet hose,created Water World in my kitchen"}
{"id": "t3_54ss0u", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(25F) I think I should break up with my perfect boyfriend (27M)", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and he's the perfect man. Smart, loving, ambitious, thinks I'm one of a kind, successful, handsome, from a good family, wants a family, loyal.\n\nI love how he loves me and I love who he is, but I don't think I'm really in love with him like I want to be. I've felt more passion with another guy before him and miss that, he and I never had that. I'm pretty sure he feels that, but I don't for him.\n\nWe became long distance 3 months ago and will be long distance for 4 more months, when he wants to move to the city where I live to live with me. I'm visiting him in his city this weekend, but I don't want to go. I think I need to end it, but I don't want to break his heart because he's an amazing guy and he also has had depression, before I met him, and I don't want to bring that back.\n\nHe's the perfect guy and supports me and loves me so much and I don't think I'll find that again. He wants to marry me and be with me forever. Is that passion that I miss not worth giving all that up for? Am I being stupid? And if I should break up with him, how can I make it as painless and kind as possible?", "summary": "I'm dating a guy who's everything I've always wanted, who wants to move in with me and marry me some day, but I don't feel and have never felt the same passion with him that I have with someone else before. Is that worth ending it over? What's the kindest way to end it if I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4j2kko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My best friend \"Jim\" [M 23] is hopelessly single how can I help him?", "post": "Poor guy has only ever gotten laid twice and has never been in a relationship. How can I help \"Jim\"?\n\n---\n\nPros:\n\nHe's very smart, and has read thousands of books including all the classical philosophers.\n\nHe's pretty fit and athletic\n\nHe's a hard worker and has a really good career\n\n---\n\nCons:\n\nHe's short\n\nHe has low self esteem\n\nHe's afraid of just about everything (social anxiety, women, cars, driving, business, etc...)\n\n---\n\nWhen I go to clubs and bars alone, I am usually able to have a lot of non-awkward conversations with strangers. When I go with Jim, there is a bubble of weird that floats around us.\n\n---\n\nI've tried introducing him to all sorts of girls, all get creeped out by him.\n\nHow can I help Jim find a girl?", "summary": "Friend has no lucks with women and I dont know how to help him"}
{"id": "t3_1c8hgr", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Greece Question: best way to travel from Athens to Meteora and back for a day trip?", "post": "I am looking for some help taking a train from Athens to Meteora. I heard there is a night train available to Kalambaka, and I will have to take the bus to Meteora, but I am not sure how to find the schedule. How long does the train ride take? I am planning to take the train at night and arrive in the morning and spend the day in Meteora.\n\nI want to take the take the bus straight back to Athens. Is this possible?\nWill the buses run early in the morning from Kalambaka to Meteora?\n\nIf anyone has a better travel plan, please let me know.\n\nThank you very much!", "summary": "looking for the best way to travel from Athens to Meteora for a DAY trip."}
{"id": "t3_2bwwck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] and my boyfriend [18M] of one year, are breaking up before college, and I don't think I'm ready", "post": "We've been friends for about 4 years, and have been going out for 1. We decided to break up before college (we are going to be 3 hours apart) for various reasons, not wanting to be tied down and we felt that the relationship would probably end within our freshmen year.\n\nHowever, we both have a month left until we move in, and the thought makes me more and more upset by the day. This summer our relationship has just been amazing, emotionally and physically.\n\nThe part that kills me the most is having to leave something that is making me so incredibly happy.\n\nI guess what I'm looking for is just personal experience/advice with having to move on from a relationship that was good.", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are breaking up before college, and I'm having a really hard time thinking of having to leave a good relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1b0ibu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Just started seriously dating a virgin. I'm her first boyfriend. Need advice.", "post": "First post to Relationship Advice. I met my girlfriend a few months ago at a party with mutual friends and we started hanging out immediately after. About a week ago, she decided she wanted to date me officially. We're both 22.\n\nI'm her first boyfriend and she's never been intimate with anyone in any way before. She has serious anxiety and intimacy issues and so far we've only kissed and cuddled a little, fully clothed. I'm not an exceedingly sexual guy but I am by no means celibate. We've talked about it a little and basically, she's just not emotionally/mentally ready for it, which I entirely understand. I can wait for a while but I can't wait forever and at this point I have no idea what kind of wait I'm in for.\n\nMy question: should I wait around and enjoy her companionship for the time being (we really do like each other on a personal level) and see if she warms up to the idea at all? That's pretty much my plan at this point. Any other input or advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Dating a virgin, should I put my time in and see what happens or cut my losses?"}
{"id": "t3_3pfpfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my best friend [19 M], don't know how to deal with his heroin addiction", "post": "He has been my best friend for five years and recently got into a unhealthy relationship where his girlfriend is dependent on heroin. This led to him trying it and eventually becoming hooked onto it. He was admitted to the hospital for depression/drug related issues and was released after about a month. After only a few days after he was released, he relapsed and sold his phone for heroin. \n\nI told him if he continued to do heroin, I couldn't continue to be associated with that. \n\nDo I stay true to my word? Do I help him? How should I help him?", "summary": "Best friend addicted to heroin and don't know how to continue from there"}
{"id": "t3_3p1943", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] has been seriously talking a girl [18F] for a while. A few days ago she stopped responding to most everything I send her.", "post": "There is a girl from my hometown that is attending another college a few hours away. We have know each other for a few years and kind of had a thing during our freshman year of high school (she was attending another school, it wasn't much more than a few dates and she sent some nudes). Since starting college two months ago we recently hit off again on snapchat. We talk all the time through snapchat and it gets pretty serious. She calls me babe, makes sexual allusions all the time, sends me pics with lots of skin (but not actual nudes), and talks about what a great couple we would be and how our children would be awesome. \n\nBut starting about a week ago, she waits hours before opening my snaps and responds with pics without words. She has taken to opening my snaps and waiting 6 hours to respond or not responding at all until I send her a follow up snap. The timing is particularly problematic because we will both be back home next week for fall break and had talked about hanging out (no concrete plans, just mentioning it once or twice). \n\nDo you think all her flirting was just to mess with me? Maybe she is nervous about seeing me in person again? I don't know if I should send follow up snaps when she opens mine and doesn't respond, or should I just wait for her to respond the next day? We seemed to have great chemistry and I miss our conversations...", "summary": "In college, been talking to a girl from my hometown who attends another school for nearly two months. We have great conversations  and are really flirty/sexual. Now, a week before we will both be back home, she barely responds to my snapchats"}
{"id": "t3_10jgpw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I unintentionally lied on my resume about my graduation date. What do I do?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI screwed up. I thought I graduated from college 3 years ago. After I graduated, I was told that I hadn't fulfilled a requirement. Come to find out there was an administrative issue, I dropped off some paperwork and was told I was all set. I've been working in a white collar job for 3 years. I just applied for a new job, got it, and am now awaiting the results of a background check. This is for a small organization that is extremely well run/recognized. Today I called my college and found out that I had missed a step, and so my diploma was never issued. They have now issued my diploma, but with this summer's date. What do I do?! Do I tell the employer? How do I tell them? Do they always check? Should I wait and see if they find out, and then respond?", "summary": "I mistakenly lied about my graduation date, and I have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1y0wze", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M)e 20 with ex (f) 18, never got closure, still questioning everything.", "post": "Okay guys and girls, I know this is about a year too late, but what's still bugging me is that I never got any closure/understanding of what really happened. So if all/any of you could help me out that would be awesome, I know it's going to be choppy so I'm sorry, I just don't know how to get this out and in what order. I dated who I thought was an amazing and absolutely perfect girl for 2 years and we told each other everything (so I though) (on and off relationship, to be explained later) So just a brief summary of our relationship, we dated for 2 years on and off broke up 6 times. She told me to keep our relationship a secret (why I listened is beyond me) but after a while of talking every day I started to fall in love, we used to never hang out in school (big red flag) but when we hung out it felt like the greatest time of my life. We never really argued until one day she told me that one of her closer guy friends asked her to her Junior prom (I'm a year ahead of her) and she told me about it, and immediately knew I'd be pissed so she asked me what I wanted to do, so I thought over it for the weekend and told her that she should go and have fun, (why not it's either have her be happy or have both of us be upset, I preferred the former) After that she told me how he was hitting on her the entire time I was annoyed if anything else, I figured he would, secret relationship and all, it was awful. Afterwards another issue happened where she found a job, we were dating for the 5th time, so it had kind of gotten old, I already found out that she cheated on me 3 times so I don't know why I was still around, but after a while I still cared about her so I guess that was more it than anything) She never was honest after we broke up with what happened. So I'm asking all of you what it could have been? Thanks :)", "summary": "Awesome relationship (or so I thought) after we broke up, never got closure, questioning everything, never had a gf after her, she told me I wouldn't; she was right I guess, oh and I begged her to break up with me instead of cheating, so much for that!"}
{"id": "t3_evtr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently learned I have three half-sisters from one of my fathers previous marriages 30 years ago. How do I go about finding information about them?", "post": "Back story:\n\nAbout a month ago I was over at my parents house and somehow the subject came up about my fathers previous marriages and his first date with my mother and he starts going on about how my mom loved the way he talked about his three little daughters but before I could ask anything my mother hushed him up so he wouldn't say anything more about the subject. I am 22 years old, so this would have happened about 8-10 years before I was born.\n\nNeedless to say I am more then a little curious and a little floored that I have three \"long-lost\" sisters. Judging by my fathers term \"little\" I assume they were born in the late 70's and extreme early 80's.\n\nHow do I go about finding more information about them? I would talk to my father about it but he isn't exactly one to talk about stuff in his past, the only reason he spilled the beans in the first place was because he was drunk, and I don't want him going ape shit over me asking what is a pretty decent question to ask. I am not trying to cause any trouble in my family or the family's of my three half-sisters, I am just curious about them.", "summary": "I have three half-sisters from my one of my fathers previous marriages, how do I go about finding information on them?"}
{"id": "t3_1p2pff", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Canada Tax Question - Common Law Relationships", "post": "I've been taking a tax course in university and I was thinking of ways to reduce my tax liability for the year. I had a good paid internship for most of the year so my income is fairly high and even though basic calculations have me receiving a refund for this tax year overall, it can still be increased.\n\nMy question is on common law relationships. Under my federal and provincial tax forms non-refundable credits can be claimed for a spouse or common law partner. For 2013 this will amount to 11,038 - the Net Income of said person. Technically I do not have a common law partner, just a long-term girlfriend who does not live with me (she lives at home and has very little income for 2013). If I were to claim her as a common law partner it would boost my refund by over 25% by my calculations. Would doing this be viable or is this something that can actually be audited by the CRA, what additional impact may this have on my return?\n\nIf you have any additional tax avoidance advice etc. for Canada that is also welcome! Especially thoughts that are not fairly obvious (like RRSP contributions).\n\nCheers,", "summary": "Can I claim my girlfriend as a common law spouse for increased non-refundable credits even though she is not technically. What might the CRA say/do if they were to audit?"}
{"id": "t3_2nn8f1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [26 F] decided to tell me [ 25 M], after four years of marriage that she is bi-sexual. Now I feel I am not enough.", "post": "I want to keep this short. Earlier this week my wife of four years decided to tell me she is bi-sexual and is tired of having to suppress her desire to be with a woman. I need to note here that I have never said one way or the other that it is wrong, she just felt like it would upset me. We have had an open conversation about the situation, and out of my trying to respect her and wanting her to be herself I told her that where I was a little uncomfortable with it, if that's what she wanted then I will do my best to be okay with it. \n\nReality is, I am not really okay with the situation. She has offered to include me and the other girl in certain sexual acts which at first sounded like a great thing, but the more I think about it, the more I hate the idea. I have basically become bummed out, feeling that I am no longer enough to satisfy her, and I do not want to have an open relationship or whatever this is considered. The hard part is at the same time I don't want to deny her who she is, or be a dickhead and put some kind of boundary on her. Guess I'm just not sure what to do. Anyways thanks for reading. I know this is a pretty common thing.\n\nThe other biggest and hardest thing about all of this, is my wife has a girl she is interested in already. She was honest about meeting her and everything, and is already arranging to meet up with the other girl. I've read some of the text messages and they are more flirtatious, more loving, and more exciting than anything I ever get from my wife. This is where my heart broke. Now I feel stupid.", "summary": "Wife decided to tell me she is bisexual after four years of marriage and wants a girlfriend. Now I feel lost, not good enough, and am unsure about my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4l4ulh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my phone into a bonfire.", "post": "So just a bit of background as to my mental state right now! \n\nEveryone at work has been super under the pump with a recent project but no one more so then me. \nFor the past 3 weeks I have been working 11, 12 and 13 hour days none stop. Including my precious weekends. \n\nAll week I was getting pretty sick of it so I told a little white lie about it being my mum's birthday so I could just chill at home with a rum and a quite bonfire in the back yard. \n\nAbout 15mins ago I was just adding fistfuls of tinder to the already ragging fire just for the sake of it. \n\nWhile I'm doing this my work phone starts ringing so I answered it and spoke briefly with my boss.\n\nNow with the tinder in one hand and the phone in the other I accidentally throw the phone into the fire instead of the tinder. \n\nThe worst part is is that I just got the phone two days ago on a 24 month plan and there wasn't even a cool explosion either :(", "summary": "I had wood in one hand and my phone in the other. Emptied wrong hand into fire."}
{"id": "t3_2umi75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29f)Need some advice about an ex (30m)", "post": "Ok reddit just looking for some quick advice. Have an ex of 7 years currently dating my bf now for 6. Lately ive been having doubts and feeling just generally confused about the course my life is on.\n\nI started dating my ex in high school and we were in love. This was my first love and i thought we were going to get married. We were young dumb, both good looking people, and eventually we let people get in between us. We were young, dumb and in love. Also, super jealous over each other. Relationship was toxic..had to walk away.\n\nI love my bf now so much and we' ve been together a long time but he doesnt seem to be in any rush to get married. It hurts because up until about a year ago my ex always tried to get me back. Always told me he knew 100% im the one. My bf now doesnt ever tell me this...\n\nLong story short my ex recentely met a girl. They had a baby :( 4 months ago he told me im still the one and the baby was something that happened. Now stupid facebook/ instagram, cant help but creep. Lately, feeling like i made a big mistake. We use to live together, grew up together, and he was my first love.", "summary": "should i msg my ex happy birthday (secretly kind of miss him want to initiate casual catch up convo). Have a bf i love and he has a live in gf and baby moms."}
{"id": "t3_22er1c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my relatively long-term friend [17 F], need to let her down lightly and with subtlety", "post": "Currently I am happy and in a relatively long term (at least for my age group) relationship of just over a year. \n\nI've been friends with this girl for a while, now, and I've been noticing lately that she's been becoming more and more interested in me, and I only really want to be friends. For example, she's been finding excuses to contact me, asking for my help specifically with work in class, become more flirty, etc. I've asked our mutual friends, and they've not experienced any of this behavior from her.\n\nI still want to be friends with her, but I don't really want to be in a relationship with her because I'm very happy in the one I'm in currently. \n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "How do I let a girl down who I want to be friends with lightly and subtly but am not interested in?"}
{"id": "t3_2p1dgy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sent f20 to her parents for the holidays...", "post": "And she decided to stay. Some back story, we dated for 3 months and I (m28) know that isn't a very long time but the circumstances were different then any relationship I've ever had.\n\n She's from the US and im in Canada so she came up for a visit and decided to stay. We rented a apt and bought a dog and had a wonder little life together. Never fought or anything, just happiness. \n\nThen comes the holidays. I decided to send her back for a xmas present cause I know how much she missed her friends and family. She'd be gone for thanksgiving, her birthday, Xmas and new years and id stay home and take care of the dog.\n\n The day after her birthday she texts me tell me shes confused and every thing there feels different. So I called her and she laid it all out on the table and told me she wants to learn how to live on her own before having a relationship and that shes not going to come back home. \n\nThat was 5 days ago. I packed all her clothes and gave the dog up for adoption (it would sit at our bedroom door and wait for her all day so I figured he needed a new home, thou I miss the little bugger). Im taking this so hard, I've never cried so much in my life.  I really want her to live the life she needs to but this abandonment of everything we started just eats at me. To the point I want to move away and start over somewhere new. I'm lost and need guidance. \n\nSorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "girlfriend left for the holidays and  isnt comming back."}
{"id": "t3_yskum", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My parents want to give back my dog to the shelter and I'm really sad.", "post": "Just 2 weeks ago, my family and I went to a shelter for rescued pets and got a 1 year old cockapoo. Ever since he got home, we (mostly me) have been training him everyday. Since he just got neutered when he got home, he felt very insecure and would bark at anybody who would come in the house, room, etc. That was the time when my parents, siblings and I had a talk about the dog. My parents didn't want him because they thought he was a threat to our family and might bite one of us eventually. That was the first reason why they wanted to give him back to the shelter UNTIL, my dad became attached to him and gave him a second chance (which didn't last very long btw). So then, my dad gave him a week, and he stopped barking at us. after that week, we decided to keep him but just today my mom called everyone again and had a talk about the dog. My mom and dad want him back in the shelter again since he kept peeing, pooping and making messes inside the house. My mom was very stressed and I said it was okay to give him back. Tonight I kept crying and the dog is still here. That just tells me what will happen later on when he is gone. I just want someone to give me advice on how to not be sad about this without forgetting about him. I would really appreciate it. Thank you", "summary": "My parents want to give my dog back to the shelter and I'm fine with it but I'm still really sad. Can someone give me advice on how to not be sad about this without forgetting about the dog?"}
{"id": "t3_4rfdmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiancee's (24 fm) grandpa (92m) complained about the rental property I (25 m) bought with her... while we weren't even there", "post": "My fiancee and I (24 and 25) bought an investment property recently in a C neighborhood in Philadelphia.  Costs 70k, piti is 489, and we collect 1250 a month in rent.  So were cash flowing pretty damn well, have had no problems getting rent, and besides a bed bug issue no maintenance issues.  \n\nWell, on Sunday, we went out with my fiancees grandparents for lunch.  They are old, wealthy wasps.  on the ride up, my fiancee's mom mentioned that the last time she went out to lunch with them (with two other members of their family) her grandpa had a fit about our rental property. \n\n He was amazed that my fiancees parents would \"let us\" buy a property in Port Richmond (the neighborhood in philly), that it was a crime infested hell hole and that we were in over our heads.  The other two family members had to calm him down apparently, as they both were more familiar with Port richmond and knew that while its not the Hamptons, its not a horrible place and has started gentrifying.  \n\nMy main issue is the fact that her grandpa was essentially attacking a decision that we had both heavily researched, and has been working out fine, without either of us present to defend it, or give him the concrete facts.  Actually i'm having a hard time figuring out how that even came up without us there.  Am I over reacting or is he crossing a line?", "summary": "Fiances grandpa complaining about our decision to buy a rental property while were not there, crossing a line or no?"}
{"id": "t3_50zq3h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fianc\u00e9 (38M) brother passed away in his youth, and the tragedy is haunting my dreams (27F).", "post": "Ok, this is really an odd one and I don't know what to do. I started upping my dosages for an anti-anxiety med, and it's doing wonders, except I have extremely vivid and emotional dreams now. Recently, I have been having extremely upsetting dreams about attending funeral events and memorial events surrounding his passed brother and running around desperately trying to collect momentos for my fianc\u00e9 to remember him by. The whole dream I'm self conscious of being deemed a traitor because I didn't know the brother (he died less than two months before I was born) and just doing what I can to give my fianc\u00e9 some memory of him (which is relevant to real life, because those memories and momentos were taken from my fianc\u00e9 by his dad and mom). \n\nThe worst thing is that my fianc\u00e9 had shut most of this out and only over the past few years has started opening up about it, but I do my best to let the opening up be driven by him. So a conversation about how I'm distraught by his brother dying does not sound reasonable in any way. \n\nHelp? \n\nWe've been engaged for 6 months and dating for 4 years, we love each other very much and share pretty much anything, but this is obviously a very traumatic subject for him.", "summary": "emotional dreams are affecting my life but are about my fiance's woes, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rxw6x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [20m] and I [20F] have only been dating for 4 months, but I want to know if he wants kids, without creeping him out.", "post": "We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. \n\nI really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged \"I love you\"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long.\n\nSo how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date?", "summary": "I want children, it would appear that he does not. How do I bring it up? and what should we do if we don't want the same thing?"}
{"id": "t3_3s5ezj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] am newly in an LDR with my boyfriend [20M] of 1.5 years, what are some common pitfalls of LDRs / nice things to do for each other while we're apart?", "post": "I am at Oxford University and he is at Edinburgh University. We just almost broke up after two months apart and while we know what went wrong (lack of communication, lack of experience at the distance thing, him being in a bad mental place, etc) and we're more in love now than ever, I would really appreciate some advice of little things we can do for each other while we're apart. I miss him, I talk to him a lot. I know relationships often don't survive this but I think we have a good shot at it, it's been so fantastically easy since I started dating him and we go really well together. We almost never argue, and that's not the 'too scared to confront each other' non-arguing, it's the 'we just tend to be on the same page with shit and can just chat about it' non-arguing. It's just that we're so young and it's difficult and we're always busy, and I want to make sure that if I lose this, it's in the knowledge I did everything I could to keep it.", "summary": "What are the common mistakes people make in LDRs? And what are some ideas I can add to our texts / skype chats etc to keep things interesting when we get busy / drained etc?"}
{"id": "t3_dz7ty", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Bachelor Party Question", "post": "About 3 years ago I attended a bachelor party for a good friend. It was a standard bachelor party of about 12 male friends in a nice hotel room with plenty of booze, a few drugs, and, of course, a couple of strippers. After the strippers did their stripping and lap dances one of them began talking to the groom. He then led her into another room where he had sex with her. I know it happened for a fact because we walked in on it.\n\nThis has been an open secret amongst all of us who attended the party, even though it isn't discussed at all. The marriage, on the surface, seems fine. I consider his wife a friend. I'm not going to rat him out or anything, but it just seems really fucking weird whenever I think about it. Does anyone else have a similar story?", "summary": "My friend screwed a stripper at his bachelor party, everyone knows but his wife."}
{"id": "t3_n6sd1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm an awkward loser, and for some reason, I can not talk to girls.  Any tips?", "post": "I met a girl on a religious retreat for my confirmation (I'm a high school sophomore), and we really hit it off.  She's really cool, as in, she's a redditor.  We have a ton of the same interests.  I asked her out last weekend, but she couldn't go.  I just got home from a reunion of my retreat, but it just felt like I couldn't talk to her.  We've been texting nonstop since the retreat.  I never feel like I have anything to say there either, but its easier than in person.  Please, I really like this girl, and would really like to salvage what we have in any way possible.  I've been like this with tons of girls I've liked.", "summary": "For some reason, I just can't talk to girls.  Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_18qb6q", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Probably gonna get passed over for another promotion at work...", "post": "The time comes again, I have been with the same company for almost four year. When I started working there I thought it was going to be a decent job and I would have no problem working my way up. I was dead wrong.\n\nAll the people I worked with know I have a four year degree in marketing and management.\n\nI have applied for various posistions throughout the company, including the headquarters. All turned down, with no reason as to why. I had talked with higher levels of management to be promoted so I can actually use my education for a change. Nope, just took a rookie two years younger than me and threw him in with a HS education.\n\nWell fuck me right?\n\nNow it is gonna happen again, I was told when I transfered locations I would recieve a promotion as agreeded upon. Two months later still nothing, but now they tell me I have an interview tomorrow (18th) for the posistion was passed up for. This coming only for the second time changing the date I was supposed to interview. Best part is they don't even seem excited to promote within.\n\nI know that there are people out there who have experience working as a manager, but to basically be tossed around like a sack of taters is really pissing me off. There have been people in this same company who were hired then promoted not but a month later.\n\nI HAVE A DAMN EDUCATION IN BUSINESS PEOPLE, I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING! I am tired of playing along to your games. This is the last damn time. I have worked just as hard as people two levels above me, gone out of my way to show dedication, and have done everything possible to get you more satisfied customers who want to remain loyal to the company.", "summary": "my company is about to pass me up for promotion after other members have already been promoted. If not, back to only my level of work will be done, nothing more."}
{"id": "t3_36pbjy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by potentially ruining my boyfriend's future proposal.", "post": "A bit of background: my boyfriend's Mom died 4 years ago of cancer, and I never got to meet her. His Dad says I am a lot like her, and wants his son and I to get married so badly. One day, probably 8 months ago, his Dad showed me his wife's wedding ring and we talked about their wedding/marriage, etc.\n\nSo I've seen the ring multiple times, I think it's beautiful, and my boyfriend's Dad told him to keep it in his drawer because his Dad is a crazy old man and thinks he will misplace it. My boyfriend had been trying to \"throw me off the scent\" (which I didn't know until later) by saying when he proposes, he's not sure yet if he will use his Mom's ring or a new one. So, naturally, I didn't think it mattered if I saw the ring a few times, or talked about other rings.\n\nI told my best friend about him potentially proposing with his Mom's ring and she thinks it's sweet but that I should have my own since we are \"our own relationship\". I disagree, but she makes an interesting point, so I bring up her point to my boyfriend to get his thoughts (thinking that maybe that's why he is considering using a different ring).\n\nWell shit. My boyfriend gets all upset and says that I wouldn't have brought this new-ring idea to him if I didn't think I should have my own, and that I should know how much the ring means to him and his family, and now half the surprise is ruined because I'll be mad if he gets a new ring (thinking it would be out of spite) but I won't be surprised if I see his mom's ring.\n\nSo, I effectively ruined a future proposal... innocently, but still.", "summary": "Saw boyfriend's mom's wedding ring too many times (which he likely will propose with), he got mad and said I ruined half of the surprise of the proposal."}
{"id": "t3_3wqpzl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Please Help! Late Payment on Credit Card!", "post": "Hi everyone!\n\nI'm really stressed out over something that happened recently. I bank with **Bank of America**, and I have had a credit card with them for just over **two** years now, been doing general retail banking for over **four**. My credit limit was around **$2500**, and I generally kept the limit below 10% in order to keep my credit score strong (it was somewhere around **730**). For the past three months, I was using **autopay** in order to complete the payments to the credit card.\n\nNow about a month ago, I legally changed my name. I had actually changed it maybe half a year ago, but I hadn't gotten around to changing my social security number and name at the bank until about two weeks ago. \n\nLong story short, because of some nonsense (and despite the bank telling me nothing would happen), my credit card was taken off autopay, and I MISSED A PAYMENT. \n\nI really, really need my credit score to be up, as I need to get a student loan in the very near future. How can I go about fixing this problem? Can I do anything about it? I really feel it wasn't my fault that I missed a payment...", "summary": "I was taken off autopay and missed a CC payment. Certain words have been bolded to highlight key figures"}
{"id": "t3_2bbbz0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my crush [20 F] 1 year, Relationship", "post": "So i'm really crazy about this girl, lets call her Z, last year I told her how i feel about her, but here is the catch, her best friend likes me, sadly i dont like her, so call it a love triangle. This girl Z said that if she were to date me it would be a slap to the face to her friend. so i backed off, now fast forward a year later, the girl Z has been txting me about why i liked her last year, and I told her the truth and i asked her, \"so do you like me or not\" and she brushed that question off like it was nothing and again she asks me \"if we were to date what would it be like\" i told her it would be like a normal date type\n\nand guess what excuse she pulled this time....\"ooo my friend still likes you and it would be a slap to the face if i went out with you, also i'm not ready for a relationship, BUT MAYBE ONE DAY ..IDK RIGHT NOW\"\n\nO MY FUNDGE CAKES!!! \n\nany advice? do you guys think she likes me? \nthis is depressing...o and she told her friends about it....fml", "summary": "told a girl how i felt about her,got turned down, year later she asks why i liked her....got turned down.."}
{"id": "t3_18l3mq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25]m have been dating a [28]f who just revealed that most other men in her life have ignored/abused her. How do I help?", "post": "I [25]m have been dating a [28]f for 3 monrhs now. She revealed that every other man (father, serious ex bf) in her life has been abusive in one way or another. She seems to be drifting almost because she's not used to being treated how well I treat her. We have gotten along fantastic before she sort of realized it was getting a little more serious. How do I help her? Says things like \"I'm not the type of girl you want\". It seems like she has that \"likes to be treated horribly\" syndrome because that's what she's used to men being like", "summary": "Used to being talked down to/controlled by previous men and I'm not that way at all"}
{"id": "t3_12u0md", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got no help from r/ask, so here goes again.  My parents are horribly depressed because Obama won.  How can I convince them it will be okay?", "post": "My mom is practically catatonic, and my dad looks like he's about to stroke out. I have done my best over the years to counter the misinformation they are continually fed by the media, mainly Fox, with sound facts and research. Now I need more than my limited knowledge and research capabilities. I need Reddits help.\n\nMy father is self employed and sells saw mill machinery. He relies on getting at least one big order a year to stay financially afloat. He is scared shitless now that over regulation of Wall Street is stopping banks from lending money to businesses that want to buy his machines. He is past retirement age and just needs to sell a few more to settle down. Even worse is my brother also works for him, making his dismay that much more unbearable.\n\nI'd like to give him some hope for the future, let him know things aren't all that bad, and I want to do it with good research and not catastrophic punditry. Can you please point me in the right direction of what the true actual thruthy projections for the economy are and none of this Alex Jones shit?\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "Where can I find a solid analysis of US economic outlook?"}
{"id": "t3_14m01b", "subreddit": "self", "title": "These two kids in my town came up with a brilliantly simple way to raise money for a children's hospital, and it's working. Reddit, I think we could make it even bigger.", "post": "Check out the short video here, it's funny and the kids are super-cute describing how it works:\n\n[Video](\n\nBasically, their idea was that between now and Dec 24, they'll draw someone a picture for a $1 donation. They started with the hope of raising $100, but they've already raised $1,500 in the first week alone. \n\nAnyway, the point of this post isn't to ask you to donate (although please do if you're so moved). I was just so impressed with these kids that I wonder, can we use the power of Reddit to help make this go viral and blow these kids away with how generous people can be? Some ideas on how we might do that:\n\n1. Post it on Facebook and ask people to share it\n2. Tweet it\n3. If you have a good media connection, let them know about it.\n\nIn case you're worried they're flooded with pictures to draw, a lot of the success is coming from people donating more than the $1 asking price. (One guy in a grocery store handed them a $100 bill.) But they do have a bunch to do, and I suspect that if it should really take off they'll need a lot of help making pictures, so perhaps volunteers of kids and adults to draw some too. \n\nThanks for reading, and please share below other ideas for getting the word out.", "summary": "Awesome kids raising money for children's hospital, I'm asking for help trying to make it go viral"}
{"id": "t3_3pwpe5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my(m20) ex(f19) just told me to kill myself", "post": "not a throwaway cause fuck it. I met her when I was in 10th grade and she was in 9th. we dated all of highschool, kinda off and on sometimes. after highschool I eneded up getting a court order to rehab. went to the opposite coast for rehab, which prompted her to dump me. came back after a year away, spent 5 months trying to get her back, she finally comes around, cheats on me with her ex 2 weeks after we get back together, I stayed with her only to have to leave me 5 months later because I'm a \"psycho piece of shit\". (I am a diagnosed schizophrenic so kinda true, but I would *never* and I have never hurt her physically, maybe being a smart ass I've said something mean, but I'd wouldn't ever lay a hand on her). that was a month ago. she called me this morning telling me the cops were called on her and that she was hiding out at her exs place and that she had a gun and was gonna kill herself. so I called her mom and told her so then her mom sent cops to get her. my ex then called me saying that I'm the one who should kill them self. and that my brain is so fucked she doesn't know how she put up with me and that no one else will. I don't know how to feel. I'm very upset and I don't know how to deal with these emotions. I don't have any family that will talk to me because of shit I've done and my head is just fucking with me bad", "summary": "ex told me to kill myself and I don't know how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_1c29x1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [22m] continue to date her [21] long distance?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for over three years now. I love her because she's amazing. She's Indonesian, but speaks perfect English. She's beautiful, she has a very bright personality, she has a bachelor's degree in chemical engineering, she cooks me dinner, she loves me to death and we have great sex.\n\nLong term (marriage) looks like a green light. She's smart with money, she's financially secure, she loves kids (she wants to be a housewife). My family likes her, I've never met her family.\n\nBut come this fall she's going to be working her first job in Ohio and I'm going to attend graduate school in Minnesota to get my PhD in Physics (for the next ~5.7 years). I will be unimaginably busy (if I want to pass) so I won't be able to talk to her every night. We will be much less involved in each other's daily lives.\n\nOn top of this I've only ever dated 2 women in my life; I've been single only for ~2 months of the last 6.5 years! I feel like I'm ready to be single and this would be a natural time to split but I wonder if I'll never meet a girl like her again.\nIt's very hard for me to make this decision. Any thoughts?", "summary": "I'm happy with my relationship now but this fall we will forced to live in different states. Should we try long distance?"}
{"id": "t3_2hdnif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] SO [25M] of 7 months has gone with friends to strip clubs and gotten lap dances twice before. I'm fine with the strip clubs themselves, but thinking of the lap dances really bothers me...how do I address this so far after the fact?", "post": "Over the course of our relationship, my SO has had two lap dances. Going to the strip club itself is not the problem- I've even been with him before in a group. It's really just the details of the lap dances that get me. He told me immediately both times, not seeing it as a big deal, or wanting to be upfront. I know one of the strippers was completely naked and dancing on him for 3 songs, telling him to touch her, (he joked back, 'I'm good.') He was telling me how the stripper gave him more songs because she could tell he was taking it as a joke.\n\nThinking about that makes me so mad, at the time I just acted like it was no big deal and brushed it off, and I really wish I could go back and tell him how upset I was. How do I bring this up now? I don't see any point coming up immediately where he'd go again...I was thinking of waiting, I don't know if I should just bring it up completely out of the blue. But I don't want this stewing inside me...\nI feel like, how does it make it okay to have naked women grinding on you just because you pay them?", "summary": "Reddit, what is the best way to bring up that you hate the idea of lap dances?"}
{"id": "t3_33cd69", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Pissed on my dad's girlfriend's chihuahua", "post": "I just got out of a bad breakup and am living with my dad and his girlfriend until I get back on my feet. The girlfriend has a yappy little shit dog that could easily be mistaken for a large rodent or roadkill with bulgy eyes. This thing is fucking ugly and annoying as hell.\n\nI am still in the process of unpacking and organizing my belongings in the guest bedroom and have been warned many times by both my father and his girlfriend that, given a chance, the dog will \"mark his territory\" and takes open doors as an invitation to fuck shit up.\n\nWell, I left my door open.\n\nAfter a quick lunch, I went back into the room to continue unpacking and stepped in a moist spot on the carpet. *\"You fucker\"* I mumbled as I realized the bedroom floor and a bag of my personal belongings had been generously \"marked\" by this disobedient little dickbag. My dress shirts, socks, and countless electronics were soaked and stinking.\n\nI waited until my dad and the gf had left for drinks out then slowly and in a manner which I can only describe as \"dominantly\" plodded out back to where the dog was lying down.\n\nI squatted next to the animal not unlike a sheltered prom date's father would to a seated pubescent boy and glared the little hellspawn down harder than I'd glare down teens in a quiet movie theater. I felt my laser vision burning into his retinas.\n\n*\"I'm going to piss on you.\"*  \nI declared this so matter-of-factly that I surprised even myself as the words came out.\n\nHaving declared my intent, I had no option but to follow through with my declaration. I whipped out my dick and unleashed a fat stream of urine onto the chihuahua's fur and face. Halfway through my release I began questioning my own sanity and almost regretting what I was in the process of doing, but I finished up and stood for a moment to take in what had just transpired.\n\n*\"Don't fuck with me.\"* And I walked back inside with the most strangely satisfying half-smile of my life.", "summary": "I got pissed off and a chihuahua got pissed on."}
{"id": "t3_4jqrad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 1 year, disclosed sexual partners, and its making me feel upset/angry/weird", "post": "I met my girlfriend last year whilst travelling in Thailand with some mates. I met her, along with her friends on the beach and got along quite well. Later that evening we all went out together, and I ended up sleeping with my future girlfriend. At the time, this felt like a usual one night stand, but we continued to talk after she added me on Facebook and we met again back in the UK and started dating.\n\nWe still get on great, and even though it is a long distance relationship (both at University) I feel satisfied and happy.\n\nSeveral weeks ago, we had a conversation about out past sexual partners. Turns out she has only had one long term boyfriend and then nothing until she went to Thailand. Whilst travelling, she admitted to sleeping with four guys on one night stands (including me). She said she slept with one guy after meeting me and whilst we were still talking a lot.\n\nFor some reason this really bummed me out and made me feel awkward. Over the last few weeks I kind of accepted it but recently its playing on my mind again. I don't like the fact that four out of her five sexual partners were one night stands, especially when done in such a short time scale on holiday. I don't know, I don't want to upset her but I just find it hard to think about and makes me feel as if she was 'easy' and would go back with any random bloke during the holiday. I understand that I can't think this way, but the whole thing just makes me feel upset. Also, the fact that she slept with someone after me makes me feel even worse. I just feel as if the way we met isn't special at all, in-fact it makes me feel a bit awkward thinking about the way we met.\n\nI don't really know how to handle my thoughts and emotions about the whole thing, because everything else in our relationship is fine and I don't want it to interfere.", "summary": "Getting upset about my girlfriends previous four one night stands in Thailand where we met. Struggling to settle my feelings of frustration, anger and jealousy."}
{"id": "t3_153uqk", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Kittens! *cough* not really, this is a cry for help! and a bit of a rant, sorry about that!", "post": "so I am unsure if this is the correct subreddit for this! (or even if that is how you spell subreddit...) but I shall go on regardless! \n\nso basically this will be my last few years summarised in a neat and comic book esq flavour.\n\nIt all began in school, our hero discovered super powers for passing exams without any effort from his side! A's were flying everywhere, sure he was depressed but damn it he was passing everything with flying colours.\n\nthen came college, yet still he passed through it... scraping by on low grades but never actually failing anything!\n\nso to university we fly! and then *BLAM* *POW* comes the double punch of hard work and mental disorders catching up on him (no coincidence there at all ;] ) so he is kicked out for not attending/failing courses\n\n6 months later... the hero has applied for work all around but nothing can be found! he deals with customers poorly thanks to his fantastic mental prowess! the jobs that he is good at all need university qualifications and the few companies who provide training have a few zillion applicants.\nthe mental conditions are being dealt with through this clever thing called 'communication' and a few select choices of western medicine.\nthe social life is down the drain as his friends and girlfriend all got tired of his 'constantly being a downer' and so the hero is left with but one loyal side-kick\nA return to university seems impossible for he is poor! from a lower class background! and only bursaries saved him last time!\n\nso what is the hero to do? is hope gone? will their be a heroine to save the day? to find out stayed tuned in for next years edition of 'teenage genius gone bad'!\n\n*cough", "summary": "I feel like there are no options out there for me, friends have all jumped ship. Mental issues are getting better but life issues are getting worse (ironic no?)"}
{"id": "t3_2fu3ll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [22M] help my now ex-gf [23F] through her (what I think is) depression?", "post": "Hi reddit I need some advice. My gf of 3 months and best friend of over a year finally broke up with me today after being massively distant for a while. I saw it coming and have had time to make my peace with it, but I'm still into her.\n\nThe thing is, she still likes me (in that way) and has said so many times. She's admitted to me that she just can't deal with anything right now, and hates hurting me. I told her over and over that I will wait for her and how I feel about her. She said she feels the same but just needs to be alone. \n\nAnd before I come off like a creeper, I made sure to give her plenty of chances to tell me if I was the problem or if she didn't like me that way, and that I would leave her alone.\n\nShe's admitted to me that she is never hungry and always tired, but can't sleep and is sick of feeling terrible all the time. This has been going on for a month and a half, and she's had bouts before. \n\nI told her I thought it may be depression, and she agreed. I tried to convince her, without pressuring, to seek help, as we both know it's a chemical as well as physical problem. I told her it's not her fault and that I still wanted to be with her and help her through it.\n\nShe still broke up with me, so I told her I wouldn't text or call, but that she absolutely shouldn't hesitate to contact me and that I'll always be there for her. I'll honour that, but I'm worried about her, and I'm pretty sure I'm the only one she has told. Is there anything I can do to help her?", "summary": "My now ex-gf of three months is still into me but suffers mental health issues; how can I help her without smothering her?"}
{"id": "t3_3cc0rc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to win an argument", "post": "I live in an apartment complex and share a wall with my neighbor. I have never met my neighbor, but I know she is a girl and she has sex on the regular. Sometimes when I'm on Skype with my friends late at night, she'll bang against the wall to let me know I'm being too loud. It's annoying, but I try to be respectful of her wishes. However, the other day was my 21st birthday party, so things got a little noisy. I guess this was the last straw, because that morning I got a knock on my door. I open it to find this little Asian girl holding hands with who I assume was her boyfriend. They're pissed. They tell me I'm too loud and that something needs to change.  \nI get all defensive and say, \"I'll quiet down just as soon as you two stop fucking so loud!\".  \nShe storms off embarrassed and I am briefly triumphant. However, now I'm upset at myself because I actually liked hearing them sex each other. Usually it's the highlight of my day, but now I haven't heard them in almost a week.", "summary": "Wanted to have the last word, now I'm the only one getting screwed."}
{"id": "t3_1sfqe8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my mom [55 F] I'm in college and she never calls/texts/contacts me at all and it makes me feel really sad", "post": "I'm a 19 year old college freshman, going to college about 3 hours away from where I lived (its a state school because it was the cheapest). Except most of the year when I'm at college, I live with my mom and 14 year old brother (she is a single mom). I've always been close with both of them, probably more so because its just the 3 of us. (my dad died when I was 12, she remarried, and divorced when I was 17)\n\nAnyway, my feelings have been hurt recently because they never contact me at college. I made a Skype account for them to Skype me and they never do, I wrote letters home and sent my mom a card on her birthday, they've never written back, they barely ever text me, and when we talk on the phone, its always because *I* call. I get jealous when all my friends are complaining about their parents calling them too much and when they get care packages/letters from their families. I just don't really know why my family isn't really paying any attention to me, its almost like they forget I exist. I know of course they are sometimes busy but c'mon, a 5-10 minute phone call once or twice a week isn't asking too much.", "summary": "I feel like my family doesn't miss me very much because they never call/contact me while I've been at college. It hurts my feelings a lot. I know I should say something but I don't know what to say/don't want to come off as too needy."}
{"id": "t3_53l504", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "M[24] broke up with GF (have gotten over the relationship). How do I help my ex move on?", "post": "So... I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years LAST JULY. I have since moved on and feel like I am in a fairly good place (of course I still think about her / check in from time to time to make sure she's ok). Of course it's a lot easier when you're the one that made the decision to break up (no cheating etc., just realized that we were too different ultimately).\n\nEvery time I check in she tells me how much she misses me and keeps on talking about the past (I do miss her, just not as a girlfriend)... and i feel like i'm not letting her move on.", "summary": "Broke up with GF of 3 years, how do I help her move on / is it my place?"}
{"id": "t3_2h386l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (36F) husband (45M) of 6 years told me he doesn't love me anymore and is moving out and that his daughter (my stepdaughter) is the main reason.", "post": "We have had a really stressful summer with our son (5) in and out of the hospital, moving and money issues stemming from his job. Just last week he quit and started another with better pay.  And to top it all off his daughter has had some promiscuous behavior we have been dealing with lately as well, and she's only 14.  I have a daughter (13) who is just generally a goody goody and never gets in trouble for anything. \n\nHe said his daughter is no longer happy here and they went to stay at his sisters for the weekend. Now he says she is staying there indefinitely and that he is back home for one night. He did not contact us all weekend, even though I made several attempts.  It really hurts that he didn't even try to contact our son.\n\nHe did this once before, 3 years ago. He was fired from a job, we struggled a few months and when he got a new one it required a move 7 hours away. So we were packing and giving our exes the proper notice when he told me he didn't want us to come. We were moving in 2 weeks.  I was upset and crying and begging him not to go, but he did, with his daughter. Then a month later, called me and said he made a mistake and he did love me, and we moved too.\n\nNow its like deja vu.  I guess he's here to talk to me.  I don't want to. I don't want this to be over. I love him. He is a very loving man usually. And I remember 3 years ago he was so cold to me. I don't think I can take it.\n\nI feel like my best bet is to talk him into marriage counseling.  But I don't know if he will. I do not have anyone here that I feel close enough to talk to about this and his mom and sister both live here.  I feel so alone and scared.\n\nHow do I get myself through this again and what do I tell my daughter?  What do I tell our son? Will counseling help.", "summary": "My husband of 6 years wants to leave with his daughter, says he doesn't love me anymore. We have a son together and I have a daughter too. He has done this once before."}
{"id": "t3_elx06", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Isn't buying a bunch of toys for \"Baby's First Christmas/Hanukkah/etc.\" kind of pointless?", "post": "REDDITORS WITH CHILDREN: Your opinion is much appreciated!\n\n**To preface this**: I'm not trying to offend anyone or call buying gifts for an infant unintelligent or anything along those lines.\n\nI worked at a toy store for a few years in a rather rich neighborhood, and Christmas was always ridiculous.  Parents would come into the store in a frenzy, seemingly grabbing everything on the shelves, and sometimes spending upwards of $2,000.  As they were waiting for us to ring them up and wrap their gifts (free gift wrapping service - so frustrating), we would often hear that this was their child's \"first Christmas,\" meaning that the child was less than one year old.", "summary": "Am I the only one that thinks that buying an inordinate amount of gifts for someone too young to even understand what's going on is pointless?*"}
{"id": "t3_30nx8i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my boyfriend [18 M/F] 27 months, I miss him way too much.", "post": "My boyfriend is everything to me and he lives an hour away at college. I usually only see him every weekend, but we spend the night(s) together. We used to see each other everyday before he left for school in August. He is amazingly nice to me, encourages me, supports me, etc. He is the best boyfriend.\n\nHe is often very busy but we do text everyday. I am not a busy person. I do online school, and I do try to be productive and I try to hang out with friends and make new friends but I really struggle with that and only have one friend that I see regularly.\n\nSometimes, I miss him so so badly and it feels like physical pain in my heart. It sometimes makes it impossible for me to enjoy myself or do anything productive. I often feel better once he texts me affectionate things, but he can rarely text sometimes and I understand and respect that. I sometimes feel just so shitty that we're so far apart and doing other things without each other.\n\nI also feel like this is a stupid fucking problem and I should get over it and be grateful for the time we do spend together but it hurts so much sometimes. I miss him so much. I do worry that I'm too dependent and he sincerely is everything to me. I obviously have other stuff in my life that I like and that is important to me but none of it would matter to me if he wasn't around.\n\nI also REALLY struggle with making friends. i don't know what I'm doing wrong. I would be a lot happier and my emotions would be a lot easier for me to deal with if I had more friends.\n\nThank you so much for reading this.", "summary": "I miss my boyfriend too much that it makes me feel awful sometimes."}
{"id": "t3_212cxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] of four months, I'm not attracted to him physically but he's an amazing guy and the sex is great. Should I break up?", "post": "I met this guy following a breakup with my first boyfriend, after a year long relationship. I was never initially attracted to him but 5 months later, after I'd moved on from my ex, we began to see each other. I'm so attracted to his personality, he's interesting and driven. Everything that my ex lacked; maturity, motivation, good communication, spontaneity (all the things that we broke up over) he has. He's also sexually amazing and is not living or dependant on his parents, unlike most 20-year-olds.\n\nMy only problem is that he is nowhere near as attractive as my ex and I physically don't feel anything. My ex, however, was exceptionally, unfairly attractive (one that most girls are always talking about) and a decent guy, but very flawed. I couldn't get enough of him and to me he was perfect.\nBut now, I am constantly getting friends telling me that I am too good for my new boyfriend and can do better. That I have \"really lowered my standards\". (I'm really not \"better\" but they don't understand how great of a guy he is). \n\nIt's not that I don't enjoy having sex with him. The opposite. We started off as friends with benefits. But I'm never suffocating with lust when I see him like I use to be with my ex, loving every part of him.\n\nI feel so shallow but can't stop comparing them both. I really want to feel something physical for him.", "summary": "Current boyfriend not attractive but an exceptional guy. Ex extremely attractive. Physical feelings have not evolved in time. Break up?"}
{"id": "t3_272mck", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[31/M] feel like I am being dumped by [27/F] without actually being dumped", "post": "I can't tell where I stand with the girl I have been seeing. We met online about 6 weeks ago and things escalated pretty quickly to the bedroom but plateaued soon thereafter. At first we would text several times a week, but as time went on and I tried to initiate more frequent contact, I was rebuffed back to more or less once a week. \n\nLast weekend she told me that she was going to be busy for the next couple of weeks with her school and work projects (which is completely understandable with her situation) but that we would hopefully have an outing together once she was free again after turning in her projects. I have since sent only 1 text to her giving her my support for her situation with no response. I really like her and want to do whatever I can to get her to reciprocate more without smothering her. \n\nMy instinct is that she isn't into us as much as I am, but that she does generally like me and wants to keep us going at the pace we are at for now. How do I approach this without coming off as needy or overbearing? Would it be too much to have flowers delivered to her with a note? Do I just cut off communication and wait for her response? I hate being in this relationship limbo.", "summary": "can't tell where our relationship stands. want to move it forward without smothering it like Lenny"}
{"id": "t3_1i8sjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why hasn't he [41/M] asked me [18/F] out on a date yet? Is it the age difference?", "post": "I work at a cafe and about two weeks ago this man came in for the first time. I took his order, and right away we started flirting. He asked if I was working the next day, and we saw each other again then. Since that day, he constantly asks what shifts I work so he can come and see me the next day during his lunch break as he works close by. \n\nFor example, the other day we were speaking about cities, and we had differing opinions and so he said \"if you prove me wrong, I'll take you out to dinner\". Anyways, myself along with my coworkers find that it's clear as day that he's interested. I look a lot older than I really am (I'd say I look like I'm in my early 20's, but I'm 18) and the other day he asked for my age, and he told me he was 41. We laughed about it and I jokingly said \"oh, that's not too bad\" (lol). He comes in 5-6 times a week and I know he's single as he ordered two drinks the other day and I asked if he would like two glasses and he laughed and said \"Nope, I'm single, remember\". \n\nI know the age difference is a bit much, but if he's clearly interested, why is it that he hasn't asked for my number or a date yet? Even if he was only interested in sex and I understand many of you will say that, why hasn't he initiated anything?", "summary": "Is he just interested in sex? Is the age difference way too much?"}
{"id": "t3_1berk6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Confused about what he wants...and what to do", "post": "Hi, \nI'm a 25/f and he's 28/m... Give you some history...only dated for 5 months and then he broke up because I had some insecurities about things he did, and now 7 months later were talking and having fun...now he said he only wants to be friends no relationship, and all that...yet we had an amazing time on Friday at a concert ...he wanted to take pics show me his new job, tag me in things on fb, and held my hand danced with me, and remembered our song when the artist sang it...all too me are \"couple\" things. Also kissed me a lot. \n\nWhat the heck does he want? My friends say he's a douche, I think he's confused...we had an amazing night now he's barely talking to me. He got jealous of other guys, he just acted too much like a bf in my opinion...this isn't a friendship, I don't hold my friends hands and kiss them. \n\nI don't want to ask him because he already said he wants to be friends, but it's like when were together were definitely more. A friend of mine just said to go with the flow, I'm single and just act single and keep him around but don't push the issue. I just hate getting mixed feelings. I want him back but I want him to want to be with me, not me pushing the issues...I feel like he's confused, and he needs time to think.. But I don't want to be hurt thinking hell magically come back, or he finds someone new...\n\nWhat the heck should I do? \n\nThanks,", "summary": "my ex boyfriend has said he wants to be friends, but he acts like we're dating when we hang out."}
{"id": "t3_err9j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Atheism and Santa Claus?", "post": "I was debating the Christian religion with my family last night and had an interesting thought.  To those of you who have kids (or don't, I don't so I guess it doesn't matter), I find a lot of people who are atheist or just general non-believers that still sell the \"Santa story\" to their kids.  Now, not to hate on the fun of being a kid, but how do you reconcile this?  I'm actually quite angry with my parents for selling me both stories.  I am firm believer in being truthful and honest with my children when I have them.  My atheism is based in common sense and lack of evidence for religion in general.  So, if I am to instill this same search for truth in my children how is it fair to teach them about Santa? (which in itself could be considered a deity in that he rewards good behavior and punishes bad behavior with \"superpowers\").", "summary": "Atheism and Santa Claus, do they mix?"}
{"id": "t3_3hznoh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] need some advice from the women of reddit: Have you ever dumped a guy, but took him back later? If so, what did he do to make you take him back?", "post": "So long story short, my GF [25f] broke up with me about a month ago. \n\nWe had been together for just over a year. We were happy, we went on dates, we had good sex, we went on holiday together, and we never argued.  So as you can imagine, i was in complete shock when she dumped me.\n\nWe met up a few days later and she was in tears, saying that she has had doubts about our future together, and then she told me that she had been talking to another guy that she liked, and she didn't want to cheat on me, so instead she dumped me.\n\nNow, i know it sounds pathetic, but i still want her back! I still love her. I'm trying to start dating again, and have a couple of dates lined up from Tinder, but deep down, i just want my ex back!\n\nNow living in the 21st century, the first thing i did was google 'how to get her back', and almost every article said not to beg for her back, or chase her, as this would drive her away further. \n\nThey say to use the No Contact rule for at least 3 weeks (the idea is to let things calm down, make her miss me, make her think about what i'm upto, etc). \n\nThey also say that 90% of the time, the 'other guy' is just a rebound, and won't last long. Is this true?\n\nSo its now week 2 of NC, and i'm still thinking about her.  \n\nSo my question to the women of reddit is, have any you ever taken your ex back after you dumped him (especially if you left him for someone else)? And what did he do to get you back?", "summary": "My GF [25f] left me [26m], as she had feelings for another guy. Do women ever go back to a guy they dumped? and what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3jj28l", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I deal with religious bigots?", "post": "Two brothers (Let's call them Bob and Stu) are harrassing me on Skype. We all have a mutual friend who introduced us, and I can honestly say I hate them. I'm unable to let our huge agument go because of pride, but want them to stop bullying me. I blocked them and reported them, but my friend won't help me. I'm on my own with this, and Stu is a HUGE asshole. The hugest I've ever met. they are both \"Devout\" Christians and are saying gays will burn in hell, which insults me. Now they're calling me a \"Pussy ass bitch\" and won't stop.", "summary": "Jerky bros bothering me; what do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_4q7ew8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] don't know if I should tell my crush [20F] of 9 months about my feelings for her", "post": "I've been talking to this girl online for nearly nine months. She's on the other side of the country so we haven't met in person, but we text and tweet at each other every single day and we've had a voice call a few months back. I'm not entirely sure why I click so well with her- part of me wonders if I just got attached because she's been helping me through my depression and anxiety issues + it was my first year at a tiny private college so I didn't have a full social circle. At any rate, once we talk we can't shut up and it's been like that for nearly the entire 9 months. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't wake up to her texts every morning.\n\nAbout a month or two ago our interactions started to get a little more... flirty, I guess you can call it. I'm not sure what exactly caused this, but sometimes our conversations would veer off and it would be nothing but rather embarrassing threads where we talk about hugging or kissing when we meet up, or just blatant \"I love you\" and \"You mean a lot to me\". I'm also unsure of her orientation at this point- so far we've just been talking as friends, I think? I've never had this kind of exchange with friends before so I don't know. \n\nI was brought up in a rather conservative family and my parents have never so much as given me a hug, never mind verbal affection. It's a little disorientating for me because I'm starting to feel something serious for her but I don't know if I'm just feeling it because of her role in helping me with my depression and her general attitude of being friendly and affectionate to everyone.", "summary": "I think I like this girl I met online, and I don't know if I should tell her how I feel because of the distance thing and because I just don't know if she swings this way. I also wouldn't know HOW to tell her because of the general flirtatious tone of our conversations."}
{"id": "t3_dngz9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife has a strange reaction once and awhile that we've been unable to explain", "post": "Every so often my wife has a strange reaction to lemonade. She says it's happened with things other than lemonade - but lemonade seems to do it regardless. If she drinks too much of it - a relatively small amount - she experiences what she describes as 'acid veins' in her torso, head  and neck. It has lasted up to an hour and almost completely debilitates her. It's clearly very painful and makes her cry. The only thing that seems to help is drinking water, even though there's she describes no real sense of dehydration. \n\nI know the obvious answer is to avoid lemonade, but tonight it happened with apple juice, hasn't happened with apple juice before.\n\nShe's spoken with her doctor about it to no avail. Has anyone else had similar experiences? Is this a sign of diabetes? She can drink other types of juice - and considerable amounts of them - without any similar reaction.", "summary": "My wife drinks lemonade and feels like acid is flowing through her veins. She has since avoided lemonade but tonight it happened with apple juice."}
{"id": "t3_22ppct", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [26M] broke up with my very first GF [24F] of 5 years, feeling giant doubts.", "post": "Sorry a longer text incoming and I apologize in advance, I am not a native speaker.\n\nSo a couple of days ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years. \nIt was one of those moments when she sat in my appartment \nand was crying about how shitty of a boyfriend I am. \n\nAnd yes, I really was a shitty boyfriend. She was 6 weeks abroad\nand I only showed little interest over her stay abroad \nand we rarely skyped. \nWith her other friends and family, she skyped a lot. \nI often chose playing video games over meeting her and doing something together etc. \nShe always kept up with it and was mostly she was okay with that.\n\n \nI then decided that I could not handle it to see her crying and be so miserable about everything. \nI felt that my feelings were just not strong enough for her anymore and\nthat she deserved someone who can give her the affection she deserves.\n\nIn addition to that, it would now become serious, since we both nearly finished our studies and moving together and getting a family and all that stuff had to be taken care of. I just don't know whether or not I want a life with her, when I am so unsure about my feelings.\n\nI don't think I love her anymore, but how does love feel anyways after such a long time?\n\nThe other major issue is, that I could indeed imagine a life with her and a family and all that stuff. \nShe's kind, smart, beautiful and she accepts my bad habits like extensive gaming, \npartying (alcohol) and dangerous sports (freeriding).\n\nThe thing is, she is madly in love with me and I could easily get her back, \nbut I don't know if it is a good decision, especially for the longterm.\n\nI should maybe mention that she is / was my first girlfriend.\n\n:(", "summary": "Broke up with very first GF of 4.5 years, because I don't have any \"strong feelings\" for her anymore and don't want her to be miserable with me since I am a shitty boyfriend now I have huge doubts."}
{"id": "t3_3nrmui", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my very new, maybe relationship [27 M] 4 dates in, found out he is a virgin and don't know how I feel.", "post": "Hello, \n\nJust recently started dating a guy. He is very sweet, kind and gentle. He is also attractive, smart and has a nice physique. When I first met him, I was a little bit intimidated.\n\nWe have been on four dates and he revealed to me that he is a virgin. I am not- I have been in two ltr's and had a few casual sexual encounters- lots of intercourse had...\n\nAs soon as he told me, i immediately thought of him as less masculine...and I feel terrible about it. I hate that I feel this way and I don't want to feel it, but I like a man who takes charge in bed and I feel weird being his first and possibly having to be 'nurturing' sexually.\n\nI still want to see him...I refuse to let this be a deal breaker. But can someone please tell me what I am in for? How should I handle this?  \nHe seems to lack confidence at time when we kiss or do anything intimate and seems very nervous, and I want to let him know to take charge and be more confident with me.\n\nIt's not so much the virginity that is an issue for me, it's the lack of confidence that seems to come along with it, and I need my man to be confident. I really like him and can see it going somewhere....just looking for thoughts advice and tips.", "summary": "New guy i'm seeing is a 27 yr old virgin, and I am not a virgin. I don't know how to proceed. Looking for tips, advice etc."}
{"id": "t3_u9n4j", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I still want to be together... is this too selfish for me to ask of her?", "post": "Hey /r/\n\nI am a 21 year old male and she is almost 21\nwe've been dating for almost 1 year\n\nAbout 3 month ago we started having a few difficulties.\n\n- she wasn't close with my friends/didn't particularly like them\n- I was totally open that I still looked at other girls (although I was adamant that I would never do anything and that her personality really made it for me) while she had self image unhappiness.\n- We weren't able so see each other often (school/work)\n\nThus, we created date night. Every Friday it was just us.\n\nRecently I've felt that these date nights are more of a chore, I love seeing her but I wish it was more spontaneous. \n\nI also admitted that there are days that I have no desire to see her.\nIt is selfish and I completely acknowledge it, but I'd love our relationship to continue with random calls and invitations out, without any of the incessant texting or pitter patter. I've acknowledged that I would text 'hey today i don't want to talk' and shes cool with that, just something to let her know I'm here.\n\nToday I told her all of these feelings and I'm giving her time to work it out.", "summary": "I want a more casual relationship. Seeing her once a week on a random day would be awesome."}
{"id": "t3_xsmuj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I've had plans to move to Chicago with a friend set for the last 3 month. I just got a full-time job offer paying more than any other job I've had that would be great for my resume but I'd have to cancel the move. What should I do?", "post": "A little backstory. This is an indie game dev in Boston that I worked with start-to-finish as a QA Intern on a game in 2010. They just e-mailed me asking if I want to work on a port of that same game along with a new one that I had no part in.\n\nMy friend and I have had plans to move to Chicago, just for fun, for the last 3 months and we plan to leave Wednesday the 8th. \n\nI'm considering staying in Chicago for 2 weeks, beginning work in mid-late August and returning to live with my friend when the job ends in November. I'm 20 and this job would pay more than my last full time job (CSR @ a TAS).\n\nI can't decide what I should do. If you can offer advice it's greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Should I cancel a move to a new city with a friend to make some decent money in a resume building job for 3 months?"}
{"id": "t3_tmjhd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it ever possible to change a messy person and have them clean?", "post": "Most people I ask say no and that i'll have to deal with it, which makes me sad.\n\nThe person I am dating (30M) and I (26F) and have been living with basically does not pick up after himself, leaves trash, clothes, and anything else everywhere. We have been dating for about 4 years. I use to do his laundry for him along with mine but he didn't even have the decency to put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket and I had to go around the house picking it up everywhere. By then I decided I wasn't going to do his laundry anymore if he can't put his clothes in one spot, so now there are stacks of dirty clothes everywhere.\n\nLittle common sense things like throwing your contact lens wrappers into the trash don't make sense to him. He just leaves them on the bathroom counter instead of throwing it into the trash can right next to the counter. It makes no sense to me. \n\nAnyway, there are tons of little things that are driving me nuts and I have talked to him about this but his only solution is whenever I want him to clean up I should ask him and it's my fault for not asking. Why should I have to ask? \n\nI should also mention that he has ADD and basically says it's the ADD's fault and I can't do anything about it. His mother also use to always clean up after him so i'm assuming that was part of the problem.\n\nThis is slowly turning into a deal breaker for me and i've already told him that if he can't pick up after himself and live like a normal person I can't live with him. He thinks i'm being extreme and that it's a joke.\n\nSo my question is, can people like this change? Am I being too harsh?\\", "summary": "Boyfriend is a lazy slob and i'm at my breaking point, can he change?"}
{"id": "t3_2mcqcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] need help with my ex-boyfriend of over 4 years [M/22].", "post": "I'm really in need of advice right now. I'm still inlove with my ex-boyfriend. We were each others first love. He was the most sweet kind caring man I knew. We talked about spending our lives together.\n\nAs the years went by we had our share of disagreements, no relationship is perfect 24/7. 3 years into us being together I had given him an ultimatum. I wasn't comfortable with him using recreational drugs. He agreed to stop for me. He continued to spend time with certain friends I did not like because of their partying and drug use. He would choose them over me.\n\nThis made me become bitter and resentful. I started to hate those people in his life because I felt like they meant more to him than I did. \n\nFlash forward to recent days, he's told me he lied and broke his promise to me. It went horribly. I said things I shouldn't have to him. I acted so childish. I did not handle being lied to for a years time well.\n\nBut here's the thing. I still love him, and I could forgive him and try to work things out. He said to me he would keep an open mind and give me a chance. Our fight and break up happened 3 months ago. He and I would talk and at times things felt good between us. \n\nNow there is another women. She is tossing herself at him. He has always had confident issues, so she makes him feel good about himself. I have always told him how sexy, hot, amazing he was. His lack of confidents didn't stem from me. But I feel like they are going to get together. I still love my ex deeply, I feel like he was the one for me and I cant let him go. Tomorrow night he is having a party, and that women is going. I'm scared something will happen between him and her. I wouldn't be able to forgive that.\n\nHe has stop answering my texts and isn't wanting to see me. I feel led on and used by him. Yet I still love him and want to be with him. I need advice please.", "summary": "How can I fix things with the man I love, and get a second chance after I have called down his friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3apt7m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20f] am not like any of my boyfriend's [25m] exes or crushes.", "post": "We've been together for 8 or 9 months now. I've slowly been getting to know all of his friends and the other night I finally met this one girl he'd been friends with since they were both ten. In the past boyfriend has told me that he had a big crush on her and while he was on leave from the military they went on a date and kissed but she decided she didn't want to ruin the friendship so it never advanced. I secretly think he still has a little puppy dog crush on her but that's a different story. \n\nAnyway, we went to her house for a game night and she was very...ditzy. Like those girls in middle school who pretend to be stupid because they think the boys like it. And it's okay, she was still very cool and I had a lot of fun. But then the next day boyfriend told me about one of his professors that he thought was super hot and when he described her it made me realize how different I was from all these girls he'd been attracted to (and his ex girlfriend). Most of them are blonde, have fake boobs, are super thin, kind of ditzy, they like to party and get stupid drunk.\n\nI'm not unattractive, I eat healthy and I work out a lot so I have a good figure and I take care of my body. I would say I'm average looking face wise and I'm okay with that. I'm also incredibly smart. I'm in school for engineering and I'm the biggest nerd. I feel like I'm the exact opposite of these girls. I'm tall, awkward around new people, I prefer getting drunk at home by myself than at a party, I have small boobs for my body size, I'm just not what he's historically been into. His ex girlfriend didn't have the perfect body either but she was kind of ditzy as well and more into parties than anything", "summary": "Boyfriend's exes and past crushes are superficial, bleach blond,party girls....and I am not any of those things."}
{"id": "t3_30zezd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/m] need help talking to my friend [17/m].", "post": "So I've known this particular friend for at least 6 years now, but we've only become better friends in this past year or so. I've always been hoping to become better friends with him, as I've recently learned we're way more similar than I had thought. However, he's a bit of a closed book when it comes to talking about anything personal with others (I can't blame him, I'm the same way.) \n\nHowever, the other night, I checked up on him because he had seemed upset. He ended up calling to me and venting about what had been happening to him. I felt honored that he trusted me enough to tell me out of all the other guys in our group, since we all confirmed that he had never opened up to any of us beforehand. \n\nI decided that since he trusted me enough to vent to me, that I should show him that I trusted him too and talk/vent to him, since I've had a lot of stuff on my mind anyway. The problem is, I have way too much social anxiety and I'm afraid that I'll mess something up or freak him out before I even get the chance too.\n\nSo reddit, even though its kinda silly, how should I go about venting to my friend?", "summary": "Want to talk and vent to friend to show I trust him, but afraid I'll screw it up before I get the chance. "}
{"id": "t3_1g69gy", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Stories about introducing cats, please.", "post": "I have a neutered, 11-year-old cat, named [Midnight] ( He spent 9 years as a barn cat and was the boss of every cat he ever came into contact with (un-neutered males included). He drove off a few un-neutered males that tried to challenge him. He got along with the other cats, as long as he was allowed to be boss. He's been a happy, indoor, single cat for the better part of two years now. \n\nMy boyfriend has two spayed 15-month-old cats, [Giggles] ( and [Jaclyn] ( Giggles (super friendly) and Jaclyn (skittish) were adopted together, even though they were not litter-mates. They're [friends] ( but they mostly do their own things. \n\nAll three cats will be living together starting in July. They will be meeting in a new apartment - a completely neutral space for all three of them. I know the steps to take when introducing them to each other. Reddit: I'm looking for stories/experiences from other people that have done something similar to this. What did you learn that you wish you had known beforehand?", "summary": "introducing old, neutred male and two young, spayed, already friendly females in a neutral environment this summer. Already know the steps. Looking for stories of similar experiences. "}
{"id": "t3_11z6b6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m][27/f] Is it wrong, or unhealthy, to hope for a failed relationship to work out at some point in the future?", "post": "My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. Since then, I've come to see the things that were my fault. She did some shit too, but most of the things she did were based on the fact that I was being a shitty boyfriend in some way or another. I don't think that absolves her of her responsibility for her actions, but it does make it a hell of a lot easier for me to forgive her for them. The trouble is, I love her, very much. And I do want to give it another shot. The things that I did wrong were mostly just taking her for granted. She's dating someone else right now, but I think that will end at some point. So I told her all of this, that I love her, want to spend the rest of my life with her, and I see the areas that I fucked up and really do think that I can change them (even saying that as a guy makes me feel like I'm conforming to some cliche, but I do actually mean it). When I told her this, she said that she really liked what I was saying, but our relationship deteriorated so much toward the end that she thinks it would take some time for her to not feel like we were just jumping back into it at the shitty point. I think I agree with her. If we got back into it right now, she would be standoffish and I would be paranoid and suspicious. But is it unhealthy to look at the end of this relationship as just a long break, and that we may be able to give it another shot at some point?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, but we think it could work out after the petty baggage we had toward the end becomes more distant. Unhealthy way to look at a breakup?"}
{"id": "t3_3bfziy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by squirting on my keyboard.", "post": "I'm going to start off by saying that this actually happened a few weeks ago, but I never thought to post it in here.\n\nI have a friend that lives in another country to me and let's just say that we aren't exactly shy with each other. Now, with that said, we do have Skype sex (if that's what you call it). This guy *knows* how to get me off and how to finish me by telling me to do the right things. \n\nI knew that I could squirt before I met this person, but damn, I never knew how much. To be as blunt as possible, he told me what fingers to use that could get me to squirt more. So there I was, lying on my bed with my laptop in front of me whilst I was at it, and once I began squirting I seriously could not control the direction of it. At the time I didn't care. It was fucking good. \n\nIt was afterwards that I noticed my fuck up. My laptop screen and whole keyboard was literally soaked. It looked like I spilt a cup of water over it. Instantly I knew it was broken. I cleaned it up so fast but keys began typing letters without being clicked and my screen was going crazy. When I did type, the wrong symbols would appear in relation to what keys I pressed. My friend told me to leave it to dry and it might work but found it hilarious overall. Next time I turned it on, a super loud beeping noise came out of my speakers during the start up screen. Still does this every so often as well.\n\nWeek after, I did it again on my phone screen (you would have thought I learnt my lesson) and now my charging port/sometimes my volume is fucked. \n\nI'm still suffering to this day. Currently saving for a new computer because my laptop is a piece of shit and enjoys typing crap all the time.", "summary": "A rather talented friend made me squirt more than usual, resulting in a drenched cumputer that has it's own brain."}
{"id": "t3_1gmwop", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I really want to be involved on campus but everyone seems to be denying me and not giving me a chance.", "post": "I could of sworn I would have landed the intern position for my university's student government. I was going to help the business marketing branch as an intern and I totally thought I was qualified since I managed my own business in high school for FOUR YEARS. Maybe I was overqualified? Maybe I came off too cocky. Maybe they're looking for more inexperienced people to train them? I thought my interview went REALLY WELL. But, nope. I didn't get it. What the fuck.\n\nOn top of that, I've been involved with a club for two years now and I'd like to say that they're my main group. Yet, I wasn't able to land a board position AGAIN (as I applied for the same position last year). \n\nI really wanted to be involved on-campus as an incoming third year. My last two years have been nothing but bookwork and partying. I want to be passionate for something. But I was only able to get only 1/4 positions that I applied for. The one position I got, I honestly believe my interview wasn't that good and this position was at the bottom of my list. For the other two, I thought I had a very good chance. As for the fourth one, they didn't give me a chance for an interview. Mind you, these are all STUDENTS interviewing me. \n\nSure, I may be an engineering major and the shit I applied for may not help me in the long run but honestly I want to pursue opportunities in college that I may never experience once I get out there into the real world. I see all my friends who are popular, leaders, inspirational are very involved on campus and what the fuck am I doing? Posting on reddit.", "summary": "Bitter about not getting the positions I wanted on-campus. I'm already going to be a 3rd year and my friends are having big leadership positions while I'm here not doing shit. I don't know what I'm doing wrong."}
{"id": "t3_4vinw5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf loves me a lot but i cant lover her back.", "post": "So I am a 24 M and i have a gf 24 F. We've been in a relationship for 3 years. My gf loves me a lot. More than I deserve. \n\nI really care about her too but i don't think i really love her. I really want to, coz i wont get someone who loves me so much. \n\nI feel guilty of not loving her the way that she should be. I feel like breaking up with her, coz honestly she deserves someone far better than me. But i am afraid to break up with her coz i dont want to make her sad. I am in a fucked up situation. What should i do?", "summary": "my gf really loves me but i cant love her back"}
{"id": "t3_4vtmgn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 4 years, she's gained a lot of new (guy) friends over the past year and it makes me uncomfortable", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have always been relatively introverted and not very outgoing, while its still the case for me, she's opened up a lot over the last year, going regularly to parties and making a lot of friends who are mostly guys. I've always been jealous and this makes it a lot worse. Theres also the fact that she started to use snapchat but didnt tell me about it (I didnt really know what snapchat was until I saw her using it on her phone a few days ago), which seems a bit suspicous to me.\nI regularly have a gut-feeling that she's cheating on me, she doesn't want to take me to parties, she did earlier in our relationship but I often was just grumpy, drunk and rude at those parties so I guess that makes sense.", "summary": "Girlfriend has been making a lot of guy-friends in the past year and I don't know how to handle my jealousy. How do I handle this situation the best? How should I approach her about it? Should I just ignore my gut-feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_2xpc55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO [45M] and I [30F] met while deployed in Afghanistan. Now we have to face the real world and not sure if I should end it.", "post": "Real life is proving to be more difficult than I expected after falling in love during deployment. Neither my SO nor I had a significantly rough deployment compared to many. Even though the work was tough, we were able to spend a lot of time together and grew very close while over in Afghanistan. We left theater at around the same time (5 months ago) and even though we knew we didn't live in the same city, we cared enough about each other to decide to stay together when we got back to the states. Now that we're back, reality has set in. He lives a 3 hour plane ride away, we both work in jobs where we cannot pick up and move easily. On top of that, we're both busy with school which makes finding time to see each other difficult. When we do get together, it is the most amazing time and it's the happiest I've ever been. However, there's also significant age difference and the family disapproval that comes with that. That's a lot of pressure on a relationship. I think I can handle being long distance for a while, but I worry a lot about what the age difference will mean for the future and the fact that my family does not approve of the relationship. I feel quite lonely now that I'm home and miss him tons. The stress of everything has taken a toll on both our moods, but the thought of breaking up just crushes me. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and he says he loves me, but I'm afraid the right choice might be to end it. Any experiences that could help me make this awful decision?", "summary": "My SO [45M] and I [30F] got together while deployed, fell in love, but here we are 9 months later with 5 months of long distance under our belts. Mainly worried about age difference and family not approving. Should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_nfq2g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the funniest fumbled insult/exclamation you've heard made by someone else?", "post": "This happened 11 years ago, and I still laugh about it.\n\nI was in the car with my dad, when some douche bag sideswiped him. It was a minor accident, no one got hurt, and nothing was ridiculously damaged, but my dad was PISSED. Mind you, he's a foreigner (he ain't from Amuuurrriiicaaaa, mahn!), and up until that point in my life, I had heard my dad mess up some phrases here and there. He always pronounced things weirdly, forget to inflect, mistook his \"his\" and \"her\"s, etc. But this one took the cake. As soon as the other driver pulled over, my dad got out of the car, and while waving his hands in the air, he screamed as the other guy tried to talk:\n\n\"SHUT YOUR SHIT! SHUT IT! DO YOU NOT HEAR ME? SHUT YOUR ASS! SHUT YOUR ASS OR I WILL FUCK IT!\"", "summary": "dad gets into a car accident, threatens to give a guy an anal ride instead of yelling at him to shutup."}
{"id": "t3_1dcs4t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20/m) planned on moving across the country with my S/O (25/f), but a job prospect arose.", "post": "I (20/m) live across the country from my girlfriend (25/f). We met online, and we grew our relationship exponentially over the past year and few months. We have been going out for over a year now. I flew to where she lived twice over the course of this period for several weeks at a time, and we absolutely have no issues living with each other, and we genuinely enjoy spending every moment together. This is not the issue.\n\nThe issue is that we were planning on having me move in with her permanently where she lives around the middle of May (a few weeks from now), but a recent job prospect came up where I would be making a decent amount of money working full time. I am currently unemployed right now, and she doesn't have a very high wage job. She lives alone, and she would be buying my plane ticket her next payday. This money that I would be making from this new job would help in being able to make it easier on us to buy the plane ticket, and have a good amount of money saved up for when I eventually move in with her.\n\nShould I take the job and postpone us meeting for a few more months (at the very least), or should we pinch pennies and follow through with our plans of me moving in in the middle of May so I can establish my life there, and find a job there quicker?? This would be very straining on our relationship if I stay where I am currently living because we had high hopes for this to happen in May, and it is very difficult for us to continue living apart.", "summary": "Job opportunity came up that may postpone me moving in with my girlfriend across the country permanently. Deciding on whether I should I take the job and save up money before move, or continue on with the plans on moving in with her in a few weeks time."}
{"id": "t3_xdotu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've fought the urge to forgo this secret and slightly twisted prank for too long, and now I fear it may be too late altogether thanks to a certain asshole who shot up a movie theater. What does askreddit think?", "post": "Bear with me. The idea is that the movie theater near me happens to be located near a huge strip mall on one side and somewhat dense woods on the other. Now, this wouldn't be so eerie if the trees weren't so tall and the light from the 24 hr parking lots didn't illuminate the first 30ish feet into the forest, but people often comment on it being oddly creepy. So my idea was to get the bunny rabbit costume from the film Donny Darko and simply stand in the woods about 20ft back, just where the utter darkness consumes the rest of the forest, but far enough out that a driver or passer-by(there is a perfect stop sign trap here) would see me and in all likelihood(depending if they just got out of a scary movie or not) shit themselves. BUUUUUUT now I'm afraid that if I go through with said operation, I'll end up getting either arrested, shot, or both due to the nature of the latest crazy person ruining good things for everyone. What do you think reddit?", "summary": "Don't shoot people."}
{"id": "t3_2sqtcc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20's M] girlfriend [20's F] no longer likes me going to the bar without her.", "post": "We've been dating for a year or so now and the relationship is great. We have plans to move in together this summer, and I see myself with her long term. Although we live in the same town, she's currently living about 2 hours away for school. We mutually agreed on a rule that neither one of us can go to clubs (pubs / everything else is fine) unless the other person is in the same city. This way we wouldn't be out clubbing without each other all the time, however if she was home for the weekend and had plans I'd still be able to have a guys night, etc.  I was completely fine with this. This weekend she's home again. Lastnight she was going to have a family night at home, so I had 5 or so friends over (she has met and likes all of them) for drinks. \n\nWe all get drunk and throw around the idea of going to the bar - we live in a small town so it's pretty much a small dive bar. A few pool tables, music so loud you can't talk, and a small dancing stage. Even though it's a shit bar, I grew up in the place with my friends so I still enjoy going and drunkenly flailing. I texted my girlfriend that plans had changed and we're heading to the bar and she immediately called me and told me she's not comfortable with it. She explained that when I'm out at bars drunk without her she's constantly worrying and anxiety-ridden. I understand where she's coming from, but I don't find it fair that I'm expected to sit at home while my friends are having fun and she's doing her own thing. I feel like I'm way too young to be forbidden from going out unless she's there. She's fine if we go to pubs and the like, but our small town doesn't really have any - we literally have one bar that plays bad loud music. Is she being ridiculous or does she have a point?", "summary": "Great relationship with girlfriend, can see it going long term. As of lastnight she's no longer comfortable with me going to bars (loud music where you can't hear each other style) without her, however pubs and everything else is fine. I'm from a town where there's only one bar (club style) - feel like I'm expected to sit around when she's busy and my friends are going out for the night. Is she being ridiculous?"}
{"id": "t3_h1ity", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your approach to organising files on your computer?", "post": "Over the years I've amassed thousands of documents on my HD: reports, presentations, source code, resumes, forms, teaching material, books, projects, course materials, notes etc. I used to archive everything in a \"well thought out\" (i.e. sparsely populated) folder structure in a Subversion repository, but over the last couple of years I've been increasingly using Dropbox and everything has fallen out of sync and into disarray.\n\nThe time has come for a complete audit of my computer, and I'm looking for ideas on how best to organise everything; the geekier the better. What's your approach? Any special considerations for particular file types? Do you use any tools (e.g., [Hazel] to automate storage, file naming, or search tasks?", "summary": "File system on computer is a glorious mess. What's your solution?"}
{"id": "t3_1yxrde", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] Previous landowner wants to sue my old roommate and I for property damage we did not do; how to proceed?", "post": "Making a long story short, the last homeowners we were under bought the house from the previous owners, whom we originally rented the property from. The home was in near-perfect condition from what I could tell, albeit the carpet was stained in some areas prior to us moving in. \n\nNew homeowner (\"Joe\") has been sending us letters about how we have not complied to Florida Statutes (which to my knowledge is untrue), and the most recent letter issued a notice of claim for damages which far exceed the security deposit, almost all of which are complete BS claims.\n\nI suppose at this rate, I'm most concerned about us having left the house before our lease was up. I took pictures of my room, and I know my roommate (\"Jane\") took pictures of her room and bathroom, but I neglected to take pictures of the rest of the house. Is it possible they could've noticed we were gone (they live on the same street) and come into the house to trash it while it was still under our responsibility? And I also have no idea if that's actually the case; I have moved out-of-state as well as Jane. \n\nRegardless, I am unsure of what to do at this point. He quoted a Florida Statute that says I need to object in writing or he can take what he wants from the deposit (which I figured would happen anyway). Jane has started looking for lawyers for advice on what to do first but I am pretty much flat broke. I don't even know if it would be worth it to hire someone since I'm not 100% sure we would win this case...", "summary": "Previous homeowner trying to get a lot of money out of me and old roommate claiming we left the house in disrepair. This is untrue. What do I do, or what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2mboms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] duration 2 years, I did a terrible thing...I think", "post": "I unknowingly did a terrible thing to my long term girlfriend. We've just moved in together, but now she hates me and wants to break up. She doesn't believe me that I didn't know that I was hurting her. \n\nWe had a talk about filming sex I did it once and she said she was uncomfortable with it, but we joked about it watched it, laughed and it was never off the table. Once when we were having sex the laptop was already on the bed and I just clicked record. I watched the video once or twice then forgot about it. 8 months later she found it and it has destroyed everything. \n\nHave I done a terrible thing? I honestly had no idea it would hurt her so much, but now she doesn't, trust me/love me anymore. I don't know if she's a little crazy or if I am a little retarded when it comes to relationships", "summary": "Filmed our sex, unknowingly tore her heart apart"}
{"id": "t3_25gomj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (25f) deal with a very intense person (29m)", "post": "We have gone on one date and while I really like him, he is VERY intense. I am the opposite. I am laid back and calm\n\n. He gets set off emotionally very easily but for legitimate reasons: he has PTSD from being in prison for a crime he didnt commit and was exonerated from. He is a chronic over sharer. I know many details about his entire life and he knows my vague story (born in city A, went to school for X, moved to city B 4 years ago, etc) which, to be honest, I dont mind since I am the opposite. I dont like my nittty gritty exposed on a first date, and knowledge is power... the more I know about him the easier it is to handle his extreme intense emotions. It is also nice that he doesn't know my employer or my last name in case he becomes a bit TOO intense.\n\nHe thought something all women wanted was commitment so he offered to be exclusive before our 1st date... when I told him I wasn't looking for anything like that considering that I'm still married, he instantly jumped to the other side and said he has been a married womans \"side piece\" before... I told him it wasn't like that and he didnt even ask me to elaborate.  It took me saying, \"just listen to me for one minute\" on our first date to clear up that I am married,  we don't consider ourselves together, but we live in a house that we own together in separate bedrooms and we both are dating other people. We also don't bring the people we are dating to our home unless the other is out of town. You would think a potential partner would want to know about this...\n\nAnyway, I'd like to continue to get to know him but I need some advice on coping with someone who feels all the emotions all the time. I'd also like to figure out where the line is between \"intense\" and \"batshit crazy\"", "summary": "how do I cope with an intense person and how do I know the difference between intense and insane"}
{"id": "t3_10ctca", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently started college (in England) and met a guy who didn't know what Google was. Anyone ever meet someone whom has never heard of a presumably obvious thing?", "post": "More details: He was a very interesting and philosophical guy, must have been in his 40s or something. He answered questions in class about computer peripherals and ports and the like. He knew about recent operating systems, browsers and things like that. But for some reason he had lived his life without ever encountering Google. When the tutor called out the name of a certain part on a motherboard, she was having a hard time remembering what the abbreviation stood for (she was dyslexic so only ever used the abbreviations). I looked it up on Google and called out the answer, and he was amazed I was able to discover the answer as quickly as I did. He came to me after class and asks me how I did it, so I showed Google to him on my phone and he said; \"Wow, so you just type in a question and it tells you? Could you write the web address for me?\"\nI was actually shocked.", "summary": "read title."}
{"id": "t3_4zd5uo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] don't know how I feel towards him [20M]", "post": "I [19f] don't have any experiences with relationships, dating, or even just a proper crush. I am friends with one of my classmates [20m] who's pretty outgoing and friendly. He would often times get touchy and  invite me to eat with him during lunch or dinner. If I didn't have an idea on what he's like, I'd probably make some assumptions and get my hopes up. I always try to get my thoughts in control and not jump into conclusions, or take my feelings into some unfamiliar place (I hope you know what I mean).\n\nAnyway, earlier tonight we walked back to our dorms from a org meeting (along with some members) and the street was pretty dark. My friend (20f), who's afraid of the dark, grabbed onto his shirt. He didn't mind, and we did not make an issue out of it because we all know that's just how she is. (She does that to me a lot)\n\nI really did not make an issue out of it, but I feel something. I don't know. I have an idea on what it is but I hope I could get some opinions from you guys because things like this are really unfamiliar to me and I get kinda uncomfortable when I don't at least have a clue on what is going on.", "summary": "keeps my feelings on guard so as not to misunderstand guy's actions. saw my friend cling on to guy's shirt. had a weird feeling. i hope it's not what i think it is."}
{"id": "t3_2kzc69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need a peptalk: I'm [31 M] going to a party and my ex [28 F] will be there. First time seeing her since break-up", "post": "I ended our 3 year relationship about a month ago because I simply could not picture a future with her where I was happy.  I know those feelings were genuine because I was struggling with them for about a year and stupidly tried to deny it.\n\nI'm going to a party tonight and I know she is going to be there.  I also know she is in a new relationship.  I don't care that she's in a relationship...I guess I'm just not feeling comfortable about seeing her this soon after the breakup.  \n\nShould I ask her how she's doing?  What if she's cold?  What if her friends are bitchy towards me?  This is totally uncharted territory for me...any help would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "Anxiety about seeing my ex for the first time since I broke up with her a month ago!"}
{"id": "t3_31dw60", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing Bloodborne", "post": "So if you don't know, Bloodborne is a", "summary": "got mad at game, slammed controller down, accidentally broke phone"}
{"id": "t3_4nc199", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] am struggling with a breakup with my [30 F]", "post": "This is my first (and probably only) post on this sub, mostly I just want to talk to someone, and since I'm stuck at work reddit is my best option.\n\nMy ex girlfriend and I had a long best friendship that turned romantic.  Before we dated, I learned that she had an affair with a married man.  This was a red flag, but she expressed regret and I held her while she cried it out.  Shortly after, we started dating.  We broke up after probably 6 months or so of actual dating, but continued to hook up on occasion.  This stopped about 5 weeks ago.\n\nToday I learned that after ending things with me, she began dating this dirtbag again (apparently he did end up leaving his wife).  I have gone no contact with her since we stopped hooking up and I know that this is the route to go.  I know that talking to her would accomplish nothing and I don't intend to.  I just feel a deep betrayal.  Not only was I in love with her (still am), but she was my best friend prior to dating.  Now she's back with an ex and completely out of my life.\n\nI guess I'm just looking for some encouragement, this is ruining my day big time.  It makes me profoundly sad that this is how we ended up.", "summary": "Ex got back together we douchebag ex.  I'm sad about it, want to feel better."}
{"id": "t3_1wpgzn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my crush [20 F] Did I do something wrong? Attraction killed?", "post": "Long story short, I approached a classmate at college, really cute girl. Because of my initial confidence she agreed to give me her number after 10 mins of talking.\n\nLater that day sent a short follow up text and she seemed really excited and even called me later that night. But after she called I texted kind of forcing her to pick a time to go on a date with me this weekend. I was afraid she was trying to friendzone me so I forced her hand and she agreed amd picked a time on Sunday.\n\nWell today I sent some texts saying I had special plans for Sunday and telling her my roommate was in the hospital. She replied a bit then totally stopped... and sent a very short text 12 hours later. The vibe feels so different. \n\nOur date is Sunday. Do you guys think I showed way too much investment and put pressure on our date Sunday? Will she bail totally.. or just not talk much to me until Sunday to let her attraction recover a bit?\n\nWhat can I do? Will I recover her attraction?", "summary": "My crush/classmate agreed to date, but is taking long time to recent texts. Did I say too much too soon? Is she about to bail on date?"}
{"id": "t3_1n0k20", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Women, what do you make of this situation?", "post": "CONTEXT: College campus.\n\nOk, I'm an introvert. If I see somebody I know walking towards me from 100 yards, I'll wait until they're two yards away to make eye contact and wave. I pretty much avoid eye contact before that so you don't have that awkward situation where you've both seen each other but you're too far to say hi yet. That's just how I work.\n\nThere's this cute girl that I met on one or two occasions (a couple of weeks ago) with some mutual friends just walking through our dorm. \n\nOne of the people I was with regularly says hi to her when passing, and he has only had a little more interaction with her than me.\n\nThe following scenario has happened a couple times between the time I met her and today:\n\nWe're walking towards each other on a sidewalk - we see and recognize each other from far away so BAM... I avoid eye contact until she's a couple yards away, and by that time I look up to say hi, but she thinks I'm not going to so she walks past looking the other way.\n\nAgain, that has happened a couple times. It is painfully awkward and I walk away making frustrated faces each time... \n\nToday when this happened the first time, it was the usual averting of eye contact, but then I looked back at her about 30 seconds later and she was looking back at me too.\n\nSo today after that happened once already... I saw her again in the same situation, except it wasn't quite as far. I waved... She gave the look of \"I see him waving, but it's probably not me because he never acknowledges me\". I decided to go in for the kill. I said \"Name of girl... Hey!\", waved again, gave a goofy grin, kind of laughed, and made my turn onto another sidewalk in a different direction, cringing and making faces not knowing if I should've just ignored her again. \n\nFor what it's worth, she was with a friend, said \"hey!\", gave a big grin, chuckled a little bit and waved.\n\nWHAT ON EARTH do you think she was thinking throughout all of this... I am absolutely clueless when it comes to women.", "summary": "I'm a clueless idiot who meets a cute girl once or twice, ignores their existence for weeks, then says hi randomly."}
{"id": "t3_x7y2d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my mom's getting divorced and I'm worrying about how this will all pan out. Advice?", "post": "Unique Characteristics of This (Future) Divorce:\n - My mom has 1 child under 18. \n - I have one older sibling whom my dad pays education for\n - I have \"special needs.\" (I'm physically disabled with A LOT of health problems). \n - We've got someone paying for an apartment for us for 1 year.\n - My dad has been/is emotionally abusive, particularly torwards my mom\n - He's been to jail 1 or 2 times from physically attacking my mom several years ago\n\nIs there anything I/my mom should know before she starts the divorce process? \n\n- - - How does this whole custody thing work? I don't think my dad would get custody of me because he is so absent all of the time. He's gone at \"work\" all day. Even when he's home he's up in his room, or gone on his motorcycle. He has bought a motorcycle and his own car knowing I need a wheelchair van & my mom's car is a throwaway. He has cheated on her- with someone younger than my oldest sister. :/ I mean, I don't really think the judge would give custody to someone like my dad. He doesn't even know what my specific health problem is called. I guess I'm being paranoid.", "summary": "Does anyone know any recourses for a mother who has a special needs child (I'm 15, and have a degenerative condition), and is getting a divorce in Texas/USA? "}
{"id": "t3_4a7hi8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Yesterday my boyfriend told me of the extent of his OCD. Advice?", "post": "Hey, so yesterday my boyfriend of 2 and a 1/2 months told me about the extent of his OCD. He is 18 male, I am 19 female.\nI've noticed his reluctance around children (not wanting to be near kids- even hug his little sisters- because of germs) and the topic came up. I asked him whether or not he would be able to change diapers and he said he probably wouldn't. Now I know this is a long way down the track, but I can't help wondering, if we were to have kids if I could handle being the only one to change the diapers and the implications of me having to be around the kids constantly.\nLater on, he also said that he \"wishes that his OCD wouldn't start affecting his displays of affection\" to me. (E.g. not even being able to hold hands or eventually 'it' when we get married -FYI we are christians).\nI don't want to sound like a horrible person, (keeping in mind I only knew up to this point that the OCD only impacted his eating, inability to drive and writing), but what should I do? I feel so overwhelmed, as I didn't expect this. I don't want to lead him on and then be broken because he can't even hug me or - to a lesser extent - change a diaper.\nI want to be compassionate to his OCD but I guess this is a huge shock. It's only been 3 months and I don't even think I love him yet. What would be best for him? How can I respect him and be safe myself? I don't know if I can commit to that sort of relationship 100%.", "summary": "My boyfriend may end up not being able to show any affection."}
{"id": "t3_2rptpj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by swallowing the tip of my spoon.", "post": "So there i was right, minding my own business trying to eat some coffee ice cream to cure the munchies. Well because im to lazy to do dishes i was using a plastic spoon to eat this overy frozen nectar of the gods when i hear the crack, and a crack it was right down the middle turning my spoon into a fork. So i get another one and go back to scooping away when i hear that familiar sound again craaaack. At this point i finally have a reasonable scoop for all my efforts so i throw caution to the wind and took a bite. Upon sliding the spoon back out i realize it hadn't cracked down but instead the tip has broken off. So i grab the container and start to dig around only to realize it wasnt in there, i had swallowed it. Now i get to find out what it feels like to pass plastic.", "summary": "TIL if its past 10pm i should just go to bed."}
{"id": "t3_voxmp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "turning down a job after I already accepted", "post": "So. I wasn't looking for a job. I like my job a lot. My boss is great, flexible about scheduling, decent pay, good location, and most importantly, I have a lot of responsibility and I get to run and develop a department. My boss clearly trusts me a lot and values my contributions. \n\nI'm not looking, but I was recruited. Big name company, so I am interested to hear more. I pursue the lead, they offer me the job at the interview. \n\nI'm iffy, not ready to leave my comfy nest. But the money they hold out is enticing, plus an offer of a bonus at the end of the year. Also, much nicer offices, big private company, interesting projects, fancy tech I don't have access to at current job. I agonize, finally say yes. \n\nToday I go in to talk to my boss and quit and he was awesome. He was like, you can leave, but we really like you, we're going to bump you up to at least that same salary next month (were planning to anyway) and we want to grow your roll here. I really appreciated his time, and he was really honest and helpful. \n\nSo now I'm like, oh, no, I want to stay here! For the same money, more responsibility and it's a way more flexible schedule and as I'm thinking of having kids soon, that's a big deal.  But I already accepted the other offer (via email, didn't sign the offer letter). \n\nIs there a way to gracefully back out? The job starts in like a month, they have plenty of time to find someone else. I just want to do it as classily as possible, now that I screwed up. And how bad would this make me look?", "summary": "Accepted a job offer, my current countered with a raise of equal value, I like it here anyway, now I want to stay. So how do I back out from what I accepted? And how bad is it?"}
{"id": "t3_4703dz", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Young lady is asking for coaching with boxing, I'm not entirely comfortable with the situation. What would you do?", "post": "I (28,M) will occasionally throw on gloves and go hit the bag at a local public gym. As modestly as possible, after many years it's apparent I know what I'm doing. I was working with a friend of mine who was interested in learning some basics and a young lady stepped in the room and asked if she could cycle in with some no contact sparring. She asked my friend to record a bit of it on her phone on Snapchat, sure. I worked with her shortly, which I was happy to do since I'm a big advocate for boxing. This girl struck me as around 18ish, said she had some Tae Kwon Do experience and was game for a quick lesson. In the mix of trying to entertain the both of them she handed me her phone and asked for my number so that I could work with her more. I did it, not really thinking about it, since it's a common thing to exchange numbers with people for reasons lesser than that at my workplace. I had noticed she was a bit slow to speak and a tad awkward, but wasn't metered in her self-presentation based on what she was wearing.\n\nNow, everything was pretty sterile. She took the advice, worked the combos out a bit on the bag after I had given her something to work with and left when the gym closed like the other 2 people in the room. She shot me a text saying thanks for the lesson but by the time I responded I was so skeptical of the situation I just responded \"Right on\"\n\nI'm not attracted to this girl, but she's pretty for a young lady. Boxing instruction almost always involves touching the body for adjustment... you see where I'm going with this. Even if nothing happened the accusation of something happening or the interpretation of something happening is as bad as guilt nowadays. Should I just totally dodge this girl, who seems like she wants to learn some boxing or am I completely over-reacting?", "summary": "Girl asking for boxing coaching, has my number, could be 16."}
{"id": "t3_1rvez8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm Just So Embarrassed", "post": "So, last night, after a particularly brutal 12 hour shift at work I went into my local walmart at 1:am to pick up some beef jerky (2 for 5 bucks is a pretty good deal.) and a redbull in preparation for an all night gaming session of Assassins Creed 4.\n\nSo I'm walking trying to find an open check out and in the lane that has the longest line I spot an old friend of mine from high school that I haven't seen in about 6 YEARS. She must have just started working there because I come there all the time and never seen her before.  So I probably looked like an idiot standing in line with just three items behind two people who have close to fifty each. \n\nShe noticed me and her face light up. The people in front of me, taking notice of me not finding a different check out lane commented how patient I was being and started saying some things that could be pretty embarrassing.\n\n\"Oh is that your girlfriend?\"\n\n\"No, it's someone from high school who I havent seen since junior year\"\n\n\"Oh so she could become your girlfriend hahaha\"\n\nI just didn't say anything to that. Anyways so an HOUR later when I finally get up there to her I put my stuff down and say\n\n\"Now that I have endured all that all that, so\"\n\n\"Good\" she interrupted me. Probably anticipating what I was going to ask.\n\n\"Good?\"\n\n\"Yup\" Then she just turned around and started chatting with a co worker about how long that took. I felt so embarassed. I just grabbed my stuff and took a long walk of shame to the exit. It was even worse because the people that were infront of me were still there and said \"Hahah that was fast for how long you waited\"\n\nfuck fuck fuck. I feel so stupid. I'm not a very sociable person anymore. Not nearly as I used to be and as such don't have a whole lot of friends. And I was telling myself the whole time that \"it would be ok. We were really good friends. I can do this.\"", "summary": "Expectation vs. reality I guess."}
{"id": "t3_2o5x5n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Gf [24 F] 1 year, high maintenance and now have to be long distance.", "post": "I got together with my gf about a year ago after being very close for years. It all started because I got tired of trying to be in a serious relationship with her and just wanted out, she did hurt me a lot and close friends intervened to talk me into just moving on. I even began seeing someone. I probably didn't talk to her in a month. One day she literally grabbed me and took me to a more private place so she could tell me she really wanted to be with me and that this time apart had allowed her to realize how wrong she was and how much she had hurt me. I decided to give her a chance. \n\nProblems arose when she found out I had gone out with another girl and gone to places she considered 'ours'. She demanded that I completely stop talking to her, delete her from fb and things like that. \n\nSix months later I moved to another city about 250 miles away. I work during the day so I don't really talk to her a lot during the day. In the afternoon we used to skype and talk. I started to get into gaming and she complained that I would not stop playing to talk to her (you can't pause online games). Eventually our conversations turned into fights because she felt I did not do anything for her. For months I visited about every 1-3 weeks (during the weekends, 4+ hour bus ride each way). This was a pretty big expense for me to maintain. \n\nI am not someone who can maintain long conversations, I'm very pragmatic. I'll say what I need to say without taking detours. At some point she'd cry every time I talked to her because she claimed I did not care for her when I did. After 5 or 6 months of this she said she wants to break up and I will be going back there soon to attend a party in which she will be present. What can I do? She won't move with me.", "summary": "GF wants to break up because she says I don't care about her. She's everything to me but I don't know how to show her I care."}
{"id": "t3_17nvxc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She seemed so interested and couldn't seem to stop texting me.  Now, the night we're supposed to hang out, she's suddenly MIA.  What's going on?", "post": "I (25) met a girl (22) at a party.\n\nBasically, we hit it off.  Starting texting constantly and found out how similar we are.  We tried to meet up last weekend, but she got sick (actually got sick) and she seemed super bummed about having to skip.\n\nShe says things to me like \"I can't believe you exist\", \"I feel like I've known you a long time\", \"this is so exciting and scary at the same time\", so I thought she liked me.\n\nToday, I ask her to meet up tonight and she seems excited and she'll keep me posted.  I wait hours and hours, and text her \"are you up for tonight?\" with no response.  I see she is liking photos on Facebook, so I know she saw it.\n\nWhat the hell?  I'm actually angry right now.  She would text me like, every day and if I ended a conversation she would text me again several hours later.  I really like her, and I thought she really liked me.  At 25, I'm able to tell when a girl is just being polite or if she actually likes you.\n\nShould I call her?  Just move on without asking what happened?  Should I lay it out (say \"hey, that kind of hurt when you ignored the text to hang out, because you've really been giving me a different impression\")?", "summary": "Girl really seems to genuinely like me and says she can't wait to meet up.  Comes the night of, and she isn't responding to texts."}
{"id": "t3_51f6nq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [22 F] of 2 years. She's been sick for almost a year and I'm exhausted.", "post": "She's been sick almost a year (of something the doctors haven't spotted yet) and she lives alone (family's not around). I've been taking care of her for most of my time (I work mon through fri, office) and I'm worried 24/7 about her condition and there's nothing I can do. I'm exhausted cause of it.  \n\nHonestly I don't know if I'm attracted to her anymore. I love her, but we haven't been intimate for a while and that's a problem for me I feel like a dick for that.\n\nHaven't cheated or anything, and we're not married but still it makes feel like garbage feeling sex it's so important that might destroy what we have. \n\nI tried my best helping even buying stuff for her everyday cause she can't get out of the house. Stopped going to the gym and hanging out with my friends cause she needed someone by her side.\n\nBut I'm losing strengths and I don't know how to talk to her about this; this situation also put her on a deep depression and every comment I make blames it on herself. Anyone on a similar situation that may spare an advice?\n  \nEnglish is not my first language, sry for the possible mistakes.", "summary": "She's been sick for a year, we still don't know what disease is, been taking care of her, i'm exhausted and don't know if I'm attracted to her anymore. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2udbhi", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "How can I make my Chinese food not suck?", "post": "I'm a pretty decent cook with many other types of cuisine, but I haven't come across any recipes, techniques, or go-to flavor combinations that yield a consistently ballin' takeout-style Chinese dish. Any secrets or advice you can share?\n\nI'll usually do the following: \n\n1. Saut\u00e9 cubed chicken breast in a little bit of a blend of sesame and olive or canola oils in a regular frying pan.\n* Season with salt, pepper, powdered ginger, remove from pan.\n* Saute some veg (whatever's around of onions, peppers, broccoli, carrots, frozen 'stir fry' blend); season similar to above.\n* Add already-cooked spaghetti or rice.\n* Mix some soy sauce, peanut butter, and mustard into a sauce. Add to veg & pasta. Add chicken. Mix thoroughly.\n\nThis results in a thoroughly *meh* dish, which my wife and I find *fine*. I'd love to try to bring this up to a *good* if not *oh god why isn't there any left what's wrong with you get back in there and cook some more* level eventually.", "summary": "I'm bad at making good Chinese food. Plz help."}
{"id": "t3_aop1o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit - what do you do when somebody spells your name incorrectly on a repeated basis?", "post": "I work in an HR-based function doing a combination of recruiting, talent management (reads: helping people get promotions and career plan), and conduct training and development activities.  Several months ago I met a guy who was looking for a job here, but none were available at the time.  Being that he has some good qualifications I gave him my business card and told him to check in periodically and I would keep him in mind.\n\nHe emails me once or twice per month which I have no problem with, but he has spelled my name incorrectly 100% of the time!  The thing that kills me is that not only is my name clearly printed on my business card, but my company sets email addresses up in the format of firstname.lastname@companyname.com.  As such he had to at least initially input my name correctly into his address book.\n\nI don't want to be a jerk, but I am a little frustrated that this guy misspells my name so frequently.  My name is in my signature line of every email, so each time I reply he can see the proper spelling, so what else can or should I do?", "summary": "guy spells my name wrong every time he emails me and it is getting annoying enough to want to do something about it without being a jerk."}
{"id": "t3_rea6p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I worry I made a huge mistake.", "post": "This is a bit vague  on specifics as many friends are redditors, even though my SO is not) Awhile back my spouse of 6+ years had an affair; they told the other person they loved them, met the family, the whole deal. I found out about the affair a few months in, and confronted my spouse about it. After much lying and trying to pretend that nothing was going on, I got the truth of the situation (I thought so at least) and we tried to work through the betrayal and make a go of it. Fastforward a few weeks, I find that not only did I not know everything that was happening, it was STILL going on. Cue me freaking the fuck out and the problems starting all over again. After much crying and discussion I decided to try and forgive and save our marriage. Here we are, over a year later, and I am still so hurt by it all. My self-esteem (which has always been excellent) is still crushed, and the trust is still not there. Recently, I found a love letter hidden in their car expressing the author's love and thanks for all the love my SO had given them. Once again I find myself with this same sinking, crushing feeling. When asked about it, my spouse said it had been left on their windshield months ago, sprayed with perfume, and they had no idea who it was from. I am dumbstruck with how to handle this situation again. Why would they keep it if it was just from some stranger? I stupidly read it and it was most definitely specifically written for my SO, so it is not like it was put on the wrong car. Am I stupid to keep trying to save this mess? We are not exactly young (in our 30s) and I do love my spouse. I just wonder how much of this I can take. What will I find next that will crush my self worth a little more? What is extra fucked up is that when we are good, we are soooo good. We get along well, and have great talks. *sigh* I don't know what to do.", "summary": "spouse cheated and over a year later, I am still hurting"}
{"id": "t3_3jart7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by helping an older couple", "post": "I work as a security guard for a shopping complex. When I stopped to monitor the front of the main store an older couple had pulled up in front of me in a disabled parking spot. The woman slowly got out of the vehicle and waited for her husband to get out. When he did get out he slammed the door and I heard the unmistakable sound of a car left on (a low purring hum). Since she was closer to me I walked up to her and said that her vehicle was still on. The husband saw me speak to her as he was walking up to the front of the vehicle and yelled at me that I had to speak to him because he was the driver. Okay. So I walk up to him and tell him the car was on and he had left the doors unlocked too. He then proceeded to yell at me that he couldn't lock the doors if the car was running and looked at his wife like he was stupified at my stupidity. After a minute of him yelling at me about the same thing he goes to the vehicle and turns it off and locks the doors. I walk back to the front of the building about 10 feet away from the older couple and resume monitoring the area. The old man walks up to me and starts yelling at me again that he's  the driver and I have to talk to him and that he can't lock the doors if the car is running. I told him I was sorry as he continued yelling obscenely at me until he walked into the store.", "summary": "old people trolled me."}
{"id": "t3_1syugz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [32M] want to make it work with sister's best friend[28F] after electric hookup and who emailed me months after no contact.", "post": "Long story short: I finally hooked up with my sister's best friend at her wedding. It was electric. We met several times after that but its a lengthy drive. Talked on the phone several nights a week for hours on end. Sent texts bla bla bla. I've known her several years but romantically only a matter of months.\n\nShe then cut it off because she was afraid of long distance. I cut contact with her even though she wanted to remain in contact and \"be friends.\" 3 months later, she emails me and says she still thinks about me and wants to make it good between us. When I try to get clarification, her responses are short, misdirecting, and vague.\n\nI don't think she's coming from a bad place but I can't tell if she just likes the attention or if she doesn't know what she wants. Any help on what I should do would be so helpful.", "summary": "After electric hookup and several subsequent meetings, sister's best friend cuts it off with me, emails me several months later saying she \"still think about me.\" Her replies are vague and misdirecting."}
{"id": "t3_3c4qsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [17F] tell a potential boyfriend [17M] that our relationship has a time limit?", "post": "For some quick background, I began hanging out with a guy (also 17) a few months ago, and our friendship has developed to a point where I've become interested in him as more than a friend. I've heard from other people at school that this guy likes me, and he's hinted a few times about asking me out soon, so I'm pretty sure he's going to do it soon.\n\nHowever, we're both about to be seniors in high school, and while I would be totally alright with having a boyfriend this year, I've already decided that I want to go into college next year being single. I don't want to deal with a long distance relationship and I don't want to miss out on meeting new people because I'm still committed to some high school relationship that probably wouldn't last anyway. Thus, I've already decided that next summer I'm going to break up with anyone I end up dating this year. The guy I like, on the other hand, has talked to me before about how he wants a serious girlfriend he can be in a committed relationship with.\n\nBasically, my question is whether or not I should tell him upfront that I'm going to break up with him next year, or just let the relationship happen and break up when the time comes? I feel like he should kind of subconsciously know that most high school relationships don't last through college, but I'm not sure if he's one of those hopeless romantics that believes his first girlfriend is going to be the person he's with forever (I don't know if it's relevant, but he's never had a girlfriend before; I've had one boyfriend). I just don't want to start dating him with him thinking we're going to date for a really long time, and then being blindsided when I break up with him next year.\n\nSorry if this is a stupid question about petty high school drama, but I wanted some outside opinions from other people.", "summary": "A guy I like is about to ask me out, but I'm not sure if I should tell him now that if we date, I'm for sure going to break up with him next summer (because of college)."}
{"id": "t3_14n81x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M22/F21] As a favor I am \"dating\" my Best Friend, now I am really falling for her.", "post": "I [M22] have known my best friend [F21] since freshman year of high school so about **Eight years**. We quickly became best friends and have been since. I had feelings for her before but never acted on them because she was in relationships and eventually they faded. But recently she asked me to be her fake boyfriend, because she is an attractive female in a field with a lot of horny men so it helps keep the sexual comments and harassment down if she has a \"boyfriend\". \nProblem is, now that we have been \"dating\" the feelings have come back and I have started to fall for her. I know this isn't infatuation because there are aspects of her personality that I find annoying and others that I love.\n Since we have started \"dating\" She is very flirty with me which makes me think that she might feel the same way about me,  but she can sometimes be that way with other people too. She also jokes about us being in a relationship. In other words, it has become very confusing to me. \nSo, what I am asking should I pursue it and possibly ruin a great friendship that I value dearly or go for it and stop asking myself what if?", "summary": "[M22] I have fallen for my best friend [F21] when she asked me to be her fake boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_14p9ux", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I've decided not to use a throwaway to post about my issues. Maria Bamford's AMA has inspired me to look at my mental illness differently and be more open about it.", "post": "So when I couldn't sleep this morning, I read Maria Bamford's AMA and while I had heard her stuff before and thought she was funny, I didn't know how she also battles mental illness. I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown from anxiety that has been building for months and won't let up.\n\nNow, I'm not afraid of the dark (depression). I've dealt with being bullied as a child through to my teen years with very few friends. I've had to fight most of it on my own. I've even had some high points in my life that I'm proud of.\n\nBut now, here it is: i have such an uncontrollable fear of not following through with promises and letting people down that I will make myself sick trying to do it all. It's not like a martyr complex where I feel all high and mighty like I'm better than everyone else. It's more like I grew up with a workaholic dad and to me this is normal. I expect myself to always do my best and if I don't, I feel I've wronged society as a whole and I have panic attacks thinking what a horrible person I am for not taking the time to put the toilet paper roll on correctly. So maybe not something that trivial, but you get my point. I abhor feeling lazy or sloppy; I give others a break but never myself. I feel like if I take something on that I end up not really having time for, I'd rather die trying than have someone think I'm lazy or don't care.\n\nIf things in my life don't let up after the first of the year, I will probably need to take some time off, maybe even do therapy which I have never had good luck with. My meds usually do the trick but not in a continuous time lapse of insurmountable stress that won't stop.\n\nThanks for reading if you felt like it.", "summary": "I have OCD where if I don't give everything I have every single day, I feel like a complete fuck up. I now have so much piled on me with work and family that I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown from anxiety."}
{"id": "t3_2h23p2", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Not sure if this is technically a legal question, but question regarding college transfer", "post": "So, super long story short(If needed for more information, I will give some), I currently attend a decent college (I'm not sure if it's the best idea to post my college for privacy sake, but lets say it is ranked in the top 30 colleges by US News), and have a good resume/portfolio. The college I'm attending really fucked up with me, and they realized it. Before this semester my GPA was 3.8 and I had countless extracurricular. A student made some false accusations against me(not rape, actually even worse accusations), and the school punished me before hearing my side or collecting evidence. I just proved my innocence in court the other day, and all records have been expunged and the school was forced to remove disciplinary sanctions against me, but there are permanent damages that have been done. I was approached by a group of lawyers because my case would help make a multimillion dollar class action suit against the school virtually guaranteed, and this was made known to the school. The vice chancellor of my school, as well as many other higher-ups in the administration approached me and said they would bend over backwards to help me in any way they could. I want to transfer at this point because of everything that's happened here, and want them to help me in the process. Does anyone know if this is a possibility? Could the administration here ask another school to accept me as a transfer, or is there no way around waiting till new applications come around and applying for a different school next year? Also, what would you guys recommend I do as far as proceeding with the school. Should I just try catching back up on everything and acting like this never happened, or should I engage the school to have them right the wrongs they did? I don't want them to end up retaliating against me if I decided to go about this aggressively.", "summary": "My school(very well known, and pretty well ranked) screwed up and owes me big time. Could they ask a favor of another school to get me transferred out, or is that not in their realm of power?"}
{"id": "t3_2f1kof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] with girl I like [20F] I don't want my shyness to ruin another relationship...", "post": "Back ground info: So I went out with this girl a couple times, then invited her to go to the markets because she loves the markets. I really like this girl, she is cute has a really nice smile and we get a long really we'll. she says good morning and good night to me and while texting I'm fine but once we meet I turn into an awkward bowl of god knows what and find it hard to say anything or even think of something to say... It's been like this my hole life and most of my relationships don't last more then 2 - 3 dates and I'm sick of it.\nSo She messages me today and said \"I feel you feel really awkward around me and you don't know what to say :) but honestly I don't care, even when we are just sitting next to each other saying nothing I just love your company\" I said thank you and that it made me feel better her telling me. She then said \"I really wanna keep spending time with you so you feel comfortable and it isn't awkward for you\". Now I understand we have only been on 3 dates but I got an email saying \"her name\" has updated there dating profile and she uploaded a picture she took today and has been online all night, so I have either completely fucked up and now friend zoned like every other girl I talk to or I might have one more chance. She sent me a message at 12:30am saying \"I would really like to see you again\" followed by \"I was just thinking about you and I feel so bad for messing things up\".\n\nShe said she was having launch today I feel I should have jumped at that and said do you want to get it with me, but I sent her a message and asked her to do something next Sunday as its my only day of next week.\n\n so that's where I need reddits help, I know she is looking at other guys now but I feel I might have a chance to grow some and show her that I like her, but im so shy and awkward I don't know how I honestly just got blank and can't think of anything.", "summary": "dating a girl I'm super awkward and shy and need help over coming it, don't want to loose another relationship because I'm stupid and shy. Thanks guys, I honestly feel sick because I really liked her..."}
{"id": "t3_12eai1", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Can't stand co-worker. Really don't know what to do.", "post": "This is the first time I've had a problem that has stumped me on what to do about it.\n\nI recently moved to a new city to take a new job, not knowing anyone here before arrival. I gradually got settled over a few months, found a nice place to live, started enjoying work and forming a really good, like-minded group of friends for the first time in my life.\n\nThen out of the blue 'David' arrived at work. I used to work for the same company as David a few years ago. I barely knew him, but he was a pub bore who would sometimes corner me on Friday nights and slowly fill me in with insanely dull details of things he'd purchased; endless one-way conversations that due to my awkward politeness had to be interrupted to break off.\n\nAnd now he works in the same room as me, comes over to my desk at least 10 times a day, is around me all lunchtime, asking what I'm doing in the evenings.\n\nFor the first few weeks this was hard, but I thought 'Fair enough, I'm the only person he knows'. I thought he'd settle into a natural groove of his own since we have zero common interests. But it has been months now, it is the same and it is driving me insane. I'm counting good days and bad days based on if I manage to avoid him.\n\nThe worst part of it, making me feel like a massive arsehole, is the reason he moved to this city is to be near his terminally ill father. I feel close to snapping at him sometimes, but I know I would feel awful for the rest of my life if I hurt his feelings while he is going through this stuff.\n\nI know it sounds trivial, I would just really appreciate any advice on how to handle this, even if just to hear 'stop being a bastard'. I'm not a religious man but it really feels like a test.", "summary": "Former colleague turns up to bore me to tears in new job/city. His dad is dying."}
{"id": "t3_1x5z96", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29/F] & my boyfriend [29/M]", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 years.\n\nLast week, I gave my boyfriend my computer to repair. He gave it back to me. I was moving files from one computer to another by emailing files and then downloading them on the repaired computer, when I see that pdfs were downloaded yesterday. I didn't have my computer yesterday, my boyfriend did.\n\nHe apparently downloaded credit card statements. He accessed my accounts without my permission. He didn't take any money, just downloaded statements.\n\nHe was able to access my accounts by going through files/folders that have my user name and passwords saved. I have since password protected my documents so this can't happen ever again.\n\nHe denies he did anything. I gave him a chance to explain himself and to confess, but he said he didn't download anything. Now, I used Google Chrome and my gmail account has his IP address logged, showing he signed into my account yesterday. It was absolutely him.\n\nI'm pretty sure the relationship is over, but what would you do in this situation?", "summary": "boyfriend violated my trust by logging into my credit card accounts and email, and downloading credit card statements. When confronted, he denied he did anything."}
{"id": "t3_3gpc3i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 5 months, I got a part time job and now I'm worried what will happen to our relationship?", "post": "So I'm in my 2nd year of college beginning September and two days ago I finally landed a job. It's nothing in the field I want to do, just something to earn a bit of money, its a waitressing job.\n\nFor the entire summer all I wanted was a job, to not have to rely on parents, and to be able to buy or do whatever I want. My boyfriend works in a clothes shop but currently isn't really working cause he has a repeat college exam and is busy studying for that.\n\nWe don't live together and lately because of the exam we haven't seen each other in almost 2 weeks. I guess I'm worried that now that I have a job, we won't get to see each other as much, and worried that after his exam, he'll be off out on nights out with his friends and I won't be able cause I work from around 5.00pm till 1-2am.\n\nI know this sounds ridiculous but I know I'm going to feel left out. I don't know why I'm feeling like this because it's irrational and all I wanted for months was a job. Maybe because his hours are always morning/evening and mine are evening/night so I wonder when we will get to see each other.\n\nRight now, I feel like quitting because it doesn't seem worth it. Am I being crazy?", "summary": "Finally got a job, but now worried how my relationship with boyfriend will be as working opposite hours. Feel like quitting."}
{"id": "t3_3h3jtz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 28 her 26. Had a good 1st date but now I think she's fading. Looking for insight.", "post": "So we met at work and talked for a couple weeks then went on our first date. Being only the second time we had met in person, it was good but a little awkward. We went our separate ways, she went in for a big hug. I texted her that I'd like to meet up again, she said she would really like to as well.\n\nWell when I mentioned my availability, she said she was busy all week. Her reasons were actually really legit, but I've been faded on by this so much that I feel like that's what's happening. I also feel like that's what's happening because here lately she won't engage in conversations with me; she'll respond to my text but won't go much further.\n\nMy friends are telling me to calm down and relax, but my gut is telling me something different.", "summary": "went out on date, now I feel like she's fading."}
{"id": "t3_16khi1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ambien is a hell of a drug. What havoc has been brought on in your life because of it? How did you find out exactly what you did!!!", "post": "It was my senior year of college and we used to snort it while drinking whisky. The night started off great. We were in Tuscaloosa, Alabama in 1999 and drinking when a friend shows up with some whiskey. We decide to walk to an Irish Pub to play darts. Our drug addled minds did not comprehend that it was 4 A.M and that the bars were closed. We woke up with: A red Christmas light, A metal industrial door handle, Severe bruising, A string of Christmas Lights.\nLuckily we had a friend accompany us who was on LSD so he remembers the whole ordeal. On our way to the bar we become distracted by the city's christmas display. Our first instinct was to steal the 12 foot tall frosty the snowman. When this didn't work we settled for santa's eyeballs, Rudolph's nose, and a string of lights. Apparently while this was going on a cop drives by. I decide that we all need to sit down and my friends disagreed. To facilitate sitting down I attempt to tackle them and we roll around on the ground attempting to fight. If you have ever taken ambien the flailing of limbs apparently resembled a cross between swinging a wet spaghetti noodle and a fish out of water flopping around.\nSo.. Imagine three people flopping around trying to fight while unable to stand due to ambien and ice on the ground. Incredibly the friend on LSD talks the cop out of arresting us. As this is going on I am later told that I begin to urinate on the squad car. In the snow. On Ambien. At 4am. As we wonder towards the bar we stop by the local Firestone.... And some how manage to remove the metal doorhandle bar attached to the glass door. I still don't understand this one.\nWe make it to the bar and the janitor is cleaning up. He informs us \"The bar is closed\" as he laughs at our drunk asses. This is almost a mile away from the apartment where we began our journey. He takes pity on us and gives us all a ride home where we pass out.", "summary": "Ambien turns you into living zombies."}
{"id": "t3_162k17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does once a cheater, always a cheater always apply?  Boyfriend (28M) told me (29F) that he's cheated on girlfriends in the past.", "post": "We have only been dating for a little over a month, but so far things between us have been as perfect as possible.  We spend a lot of time together during the week, spend the night together each time we go out.  We recently discussed that neither of us is dating anyone else and want to see where our relationship goes.  \n\nWe were talking the other day, and he was telling me about his best friend and the girl his friend had been dating.  It came up that his friend cheated on that girl multiple times, and I said how I don't understand why someone would cheat and not just break up with the person if you have that urge.  \n\nI then asked my boyfriend if he has ever cheated on a girl before.  He was open and said that he's been cheated on and has cheated on a couple of girls in the past.  I asked why do that and why not just break up, and he said that now he agrees and he would just break up with someone before cheating.  But, I guess it kind of stuck with me a bit.  There are no indications that he's unhappy or would cheat on me, but I've heard the \"once a cheater, always a cheater\" before, and I was wondering how often that applies.\n\nSo, if someone has cheated in the past with other girlfriends does that mean they might be more likely to in the future?  Like I said, things between us are great, and it's good that he was open with me about his past, but part of me wonders if he could do it before, what would stop him from doing it in the future.  Am I just being ridiculous even thinking about this?", "summary": "Boyfriend in conversation told me that he's been cheated on and cheated on girlfriends in the past.  I asked why not just break up with the person instead, and he said he agrees now and would do that.  Is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater? Or, am I just thinking about this for nothing?  Things between us are great.  I don't think he's cheating now to be clear!"}
{"id": "t3_4l2d4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] Concerns about dating when I live with my parents. How did you guys deal with it?", "post": "So as in the title, I live with my parents. How I ended up at this point was me having to leave the nice college I attended due to financial reasons and my own academic fuckups after a year. This involved paying back a scholarship as well. Fortunately I had a clearance, and finding a job was pretty easy to do. \n\nSo I've been working, taking classes at my community college, and volunteering in my community a lot. I was a math/CS major in college, and even when I'm taking a reduced courseload to accommodate my life, I still spent a lot of time studying and learning topics in CS and Math, because they're things I truly enjoy. \n\nAs the years go by, I've gone from just being a guy watching computer networks to my dream job, a Software Engineer (Actually just had an interview for a job out in Cali but didn't get it, but it's all good). Though with some financial obligations now it's a bit tough, I do plan on moving into my own place within a year, maximum two. I have a set financial plan in place to make this happen. \n\nAll in all, I'm pretty happy and feel like I have my shit together, and I'm slowly starting to try dating again after the last few attempts have been downright awful. \n\nBut part of my situation just eats at me though. Like living with my parents for the past 3 years, not having a Bachelor's degree though that will change in about 2 years. I'm nervous about dating women and having some not being interested because of that. It's a fear I have, and I want to limit my rejection as much as possible. \n\nSo for those who've been in similar situations of either living with parents, or not having a degree, etc, how did you deal with dating other people?", "summary": "I'm an inexperienced guy, worried about dating when I live with my parents and I didn't graduate from college."}
{"id": "t3_1szyeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [f19] dating two guys [m19 and m21] at once. Would this be messed up?", "post": "I already have a long history of dating with m19 and we have a sex life together as well. As far as I know, I am the only girl he is seeing. He is someone I am completely comfortable with from farting and burping in front of him to telling secrets and crying. However, we are not \"official.\" We do not refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. We don't say \"I love you\". We aren't exclusive. We used to be all of those, but we decided to have a more casual relationship.\n\nI recently hit it off with m21. I do find him physically attractive and interesting. I would like to know more about him, but at the same time I would like to date m19..\n\nIs this wrong? How should I go about this?", "summary": "Is dating two guys wrong before deciding who I want?"}
{"id": "t3_2zryot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my BF [35M] 2 years, How to break up when you only meet once a month?", "post": "Hello all, \n\nI should have heeded warnings from my throwaway almost a year ago with people telling me to break up with this guy because of cultural issues, but I didn't listen. \n\nWell, now I'm listening. I've had enough of being constantly ignored and un-loved, and I want out. I only meet this person once or twice a month, and it's usually for dinner at a restaurant and he drives me home. \n\nLast time we met was on the 8th, and we were discussing what we would do if we decided to get married. He explained we would have to move in with his family (I live in Japan, btw; he's traditional Japanese family) to help take care of them, and how I would have to give up my glamorous lifestyle here in Tokyo (I work with an indies film group as production staff). \n\nSide note, we haven't had sex in a year because he claims it wouldn't be fair to have sex with me if he didn't know he could be serious with me in the long-term. \n\nI explained to him I was feeling unloved because he never touches me, or kisses me, or hugs me. I felt like a friend. He said if he ever dated someone else it's okay, we could go out to dinner as friends like this. I can see he's checked out of the relationship. I had my last straw when he said \"We should go see cherry blossoms like last year.\" and I replied, \"...That was two years ago.\"\n\nSince that night, I sent him a message asking about meeting again soon, and he said maybe the end of this month. and that I \"Should think seriously about us.\" yeah. I have. for a year. I can't just end this on a text, can I? I owe him more than that, don't I? Since that mail on the 10th, he hasn't emailed me once. And I haven't sent anything.\n\nPlease.... help me. I'm at the end of my rope. I don't know what my next step is.", "summary": "BF is emotionally distant, horribly xenophobic; want to break up with him but how to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_1pcsua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] not sure when to start looking or dating after 8 year relationship and 12 years of consecutive relationships.", "post": "I won't get too far into the details, but basically had an 8 year long relationship end in April of this year. We split friendly enough, but she ended up being angry and there was fallout in our social circle as a result. We started talking again in late June, and called it quits for good in August partly because of the burnt bridges.\n\nI want to start dating again, but I'm not really sure that I should. I lost almost all of my (our) \"friends\" as a result of her attitude about our break up (lying, exaggerating to gain support, etc). It does make me angry, but she needs the emotional support more than I do. That being said... I am lonely now. I pretty much have 2 friends, and they're both busy with their own lives. I don't want to make the mistake of seeking a relationship just because I am feeling lonely.\nI also have feelings of regret and I miss our relationship sometimes, but I mostly feel bad for my ex because of the situation she has put herself in (I know we both made mistakes). It almost feels hormonal or something because I will randomly break down emotionally for no reason. We had 4 dogs and it feels like I lost my kids too (got them as puppies over the years). I don't know what I should be doing to properly move on, and I would feel wrong entering into a relationship like this. I work full time, I have been hitting the gym regularly for 3 years, I get out as much as I can.\nEh I dunno, rereading this is can see what a mess my mind is. What do you guys think? Date in an effort to move on? Hold off in fairness to others?", "summary": "Out of 8 year relationship for a couple of months, not sure when to open myself back up to dating - don't want to hurt anybody."}
{"id": "t3_2v0mra", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend[24 M] of 2 years. He's a big fan of game of thrones. not looking forward to him watching it in our home- Very triggering for me", "post": "I want to start by saying that I am not looking for people to defend this show to me. I do not want my struggle to be minimized.\n\nback story: 5 years ago my best friend was brutality raped and injured. I brought her to the hospital after the incident, stayed for police report and rape kit- it was a large trauma in my life to see someone I care for be violated so terribly.\n\nI am since extremely triggered by rape or sexual violence. I get extremely angry when it is depicted as \"entertainment\" without follow up about how brutal this crime is.\n\nI know the new Game of thrones season is coming soon. I live with my boyfriend who's a huge fan and will be watching it. I know this is bound to cause triggers and panic episodes for me. I have tried explaining to my boyfriend these issues, which he partially understands. I just want to know if I am in the wrong for asking him not to view it in our house/ when I am home.\n\nIf anyone could lend me some advice I would really appreciate it!", "summary": "new season of GOT soon. sexual violence, rape and mysogeny very triggering for me while I am in recovery. SO tries to defend blatant rape plots used for entertainment. I would appreciate it not being viewed in our home- help?"}
{"id": "t3_2m4sus", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Dividing an outstanding loan, into two separate vehicles. (Ontario, Canada).", "post": "Evening! I have a peculiar situation I need advice on. \n\nMy intentions are to sell my car to a dealership, but I still owe about 75% of the loan. I want to, in return, re-finance for two used cars totaling an amount near what I still owe with out going over too much. I am trading in a Subaru Impreza WRX 2008.\n\nWhy? Well right now my girlfriend is getting bad deals all over the place with her bad credit, ruined by her family and ex-boyfriend. Ideally I want one car to be a keeper, hers. The other car I want to sell immediately following this winter. \n\nUltimately my stipulations are such \n-combined monthly payments do not equal more then $450, \n-combined total of the two loans after licencing and taxes is not more then $2-3000 more dollars then my current outstanding loan. (110%-120%).\n-and that the lesser car have a reasonable resale value to sell within the  first quarter of 2015. \n\nIs this something reasonable a dealership would be willing to do? Is there a better way of doing this? My preference in car is ultimately used as I want two cars. And most importantly in what price ranges should I be looking? \n\nI went to a dealership today, and asked about this, and I realized I had no idea how to convey to the dealer what I wanted and certainly no way of knowing if the deal I was getting was going to be good. Any and all advice welcome.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "want two cars for under $18k (cdn). trading in car."}
{"id": "t3_3mt9pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my boyfriend [25 M]. Have been friends for ages, and have inevitably started dating in the past two months. I think I'm pretty good with kids, but anything I should approach/do differently considering he has a daughter (2yo)?", "post": "I hadn't met his daughter whilst we were friends, and I really want to do everything I can to make this relationship successful considering I'm dating her father.\n\nShe absolutely adores me by the looks of things, and when she's crying she prefers me not daddy (aww)\n\nI'd not usually pursue a relationship with someone, especially if they have a child. But he's something special, and we have the greatest dynamic.\n\nWe have a great friendship, and so far our relationship is pretty amazing, I just want to know what advice you guys may have going into a relationship with a child in tow.", "summary": "How to date with children!"}
{"id": "t3_2812mj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've just entered a new relationship after my previous boyfriend left me. I have no feelings for home but we still talk. Should we cut contact?", "post": "I (19F) have just entered a new relationship (23M, 3 weeks) after my boyfriend (17M) of 3.5 years left me for another girl. We kept in contact through out all of this. I've been doing better after the breakup for a month now and am dating another person and am very happy.\n\nHowever, my ex still talks to me. The girl he left me for dumped him and he's depressed and says it won't be so bad of he goes through this with me. I just don't have any feelings for him anymore. He see's us as 'best friends' but I don't; I mean, he broke my heart. I initially kept in contact with him because I was terrified to let him go and hoped dearly he would take me back. But I've moved on now. \n\nI want him to be happy, and I would feel bad to abandon him, but my current parter's happiness is the priority here. I don't think he'd like the idea of me talking to an ex who basically talks to me for emotional support and feels that we are 'best friends'.\n\nAdvice? Should I stop communicating with this ex? Thanks.", "summary": "Ex from a 3.5 yr relationship from which I've just moved on still talks to me for emotional support, I don't have feelings for home anymore, feel like keeping talking to him could cause problems in a relationship I've just stared with another person. Do I cut contact?"}
{"id": "t3_50zte9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [23M] - moving in together: he wants something, I don't - should I still go halves on it?", "post": "I know this is trivial compared to other stuff on this thread but not really sure where else to post it.\n\nSo bf (of 2 years) and I are moving in together and agreed it would be easier and fairer just to split the price of bills, furniture, groceries, etc in half.\n\nHe wants to get a TV license (which you need to watch live TV in the UK) which is about \u00a3145 a year. \n\nBut I said I don't really want one because after 2 years at uni, I've learnt to live without TV and anything I watch is already online anyway. Plus, I could find more useful things to spend 70 quid on.\n\nSo as a compromise he suggested we get Netflix. \n\nWell, I had Netflix for a year and I never used it. \n\nSo my question is, if he gets TV license or Netflix, should I still pay half even if I don't/won't use it?", "summary": "Should I still go halves on something I don't want/need?"}
{"id": "t3_1q3a2k", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I don't want it to end, but I know it will anyway.", "post": "I love you, D. So much that it hurts sometimes. I know I make you frustrated, I hardly take care of myself as much as I should. When we're on the the phone I'm silent and only respond when I need to. I suck at conversation! I'm also very self-conscious about what I say. I'm afraid of sounding stupid to you. I don't want to stutter either. We've been together a long time, and through the years you've never really fully understood how deep my insecurities go. Did you know that when I look into the mirror I'm disgusted? That lately I've often imagined just going into my room and locking my door and just killing myself. I'm not perfect. I'm not your ideal woman. I know your Reddit account dammit, I know what your attracted to. My body image is NOWHERE near to what turns you on. So why the fuck are you with me? You don't talk to me like you used to. We don't play games online anymore. You don't say you love me. \n\nThere's a lot of things we don't do. And I fucking miss it. I miss *you*. I'm a wreck right now and I don't know what to do. I'm afraid I'm already losing you. I just want to be loved, and wanted by you again. Why can't things be the way they used to be? I love you, D.", "summary": "Fuck my life.*."}
{"id": "t3_x8epd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My fish is eating my other fish! wtf is going on?!", "post": "Okay so I've had two goldfish and a spotted pelco in an aquarium for going on three years now. No problems before, but about two weeks ago, one of the goldfish died. No biggie right? Wrong. I wake up to the spotted pelco fucking sucking on the dead fish, floating along the top of the tank. I flush the dead fish, the first time I've had to in years, and move on. I can only assume it was trying to eat this fish. I assume it was just acting on instinct, being a scavenger. Now I come home from work today to see the other (recently very healthy and active) goldfish floating ALMOST dead in the tank, with the pelco again sucking on it. The scales have come off, leaving the not-gold-anymore fish an ugly pale skin color. Has my pelco turned carnivorous? WTF is going on?", "summary": "MY SPOTTED PELCO HAS BEGUN CONSUMING MY OTHER FISH AS THEY DIE. WTF IS GOING ON?"}
{"id": "t3_lyey4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "And so it begins...", "post": "Okay, so... \nYesterday my husband and I went out to eat. On our way to the restaurant we saw a gym we've heard a lot about and decided we would stop in after we ate to check out prices and think about signing up. So after dinner we stopped in, loved what we saw and joined. Easy part done, now comes the hard part!\n\nI'm 5'5\" and 210 lbs. the trainer I met with today said a good year goal would be 50 lbs (although they said that's doable in 6 months if I'm following my new nutritional guidelines and exercising 4 times a week and going at a pace comfortable to me). They said my program will be based on cardio, strength and flexibility, as well as nutrition.\n It all seems so scary! I've never really worked out before and my husband and I are too broke to pay for the trainers beyond our first four consultations, so we'll be doing this mostly on our own! Any advice or favorite work outs for cardio and strength? Any words of advice? Any questions? I'm so nervous about starting, but it must be done! And honestly the excitement of starting outweighs the fears...", "summary": "Im starting a weight loss mission at my new gym and am looking for advice, fun workouts, etc!"}
{"id": "t3_1awu12", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Please help. Need advice on very important life decisions.", "post": "I(23M) recently became aware of a child that could possibly be mine. When I was 19 years old I had been dating a girl for 1.8ish years until we broke up. After this, she had a child who is now currently 3 or 4 years old. I had heard from friends and her that the child was not mine but I am now starting to question this. \n\nChild support has never been questioned. I plan to ask her outright today if the child is actually my biological child. Is this a good idea or should I just leave it alone? I don't want the responsibility of being a father but the curiosity and pain of not knowing is starting to kill me.\n\nThe mother of the child is from a very religious family (I am not religious whatsoever) and I can only assume they might have kept the baby from me because of that reason (the father is a pastor and had tried to convert me in literally every conversation we ever had). I remember when I was about 19 the father coming up to me and asking if we had ever had sex, which I had denied out of fear of getting my ass kicked (I had heard stories that he was a violent person prior and I was young and stupid I guess).\n\nI am very scared that it may be my child and what this will do to my life and current relationship. I live with my girlfriend of 8 months currently and am afraid she will take this so negatively that she will end our relationship. In fact, I'm almost certain that's how it will end up.\n\nPlease help, any advice is welcomed.", "summary": "Think teenage girlfriend's baby might be mine, complicated, could use helpful advice."}
{"id": "t3_2vkho8", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about the timing of a past Backdoor Roth IRA conversion", "post": "First, my apologies if this has been answered before. I couldn't find any reference to this here on Reddit nor on Google.\n\nSo back in 2009 I had just heard about backdoor Roth IRA conversions, which would help me because I had an AGI north of $150k. I opened a new Traditional IRA Account with Vanguard and made 3 non-deductible contributions to it between April 14 2009 and January 2 2010 (covering CY 2008 ($3k), 2009 ($5k) and 2010 ($5k)).\n\nAround January 2010 I did a backdoor conversion from my Vanguard Traditional IRA to a brand new Vanguard Roth IRA. The total was around $13700.\n\nAround May 2010 I rolled around $50k from a 401k I had with a previous employer to my Vanguard Traditional IRA.\n\nWhen I did my taxes for 2010, my accountant said I would be subject to the pro-rating since I had \"mixed\" pre-tax and post-tax money in my Traditional IRA. Even though the balance of my Vanguard Traditional IRA was 0 between January and May of 2010, he said because the account had contained both pre-tax and post-tax money in the same calendar year, the IRS considers the money \"mixed\". I took his word for it at the time, but after reading tons of articles on backdoor Roth IRAs, I've started to wonder if he was correct.\n\nDoes anyone have any information on if this is true or not? I tried reading the instructions for form 8606 and it makes my head hurt. Any clarification or links to where the IRS addresses this would be most helpful.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Was my past Roth IRA Conversion subject to taxes if I rolled a 401k to a Traditional IRA AFTER I had performed the Roth IRA Conversion earlier in the year?"}
{"id": "t3_3kkn82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m23) need advice about a fantastic girl (f23) I've started seeing", "post": "(m23) have just met /started seeing a (f23) friend of a friend. we seemed to hit it off almost immediately and we both seemed ecstatic to see each over the next days. Now, a week or two later, things have cooled down a bit (and this might be in my head) but she seems to be nearing the end of her infatuation with me and I still feel this huge urge to impress this girl/ to help her / do bf things. I want to show her that I care and would very much like to date without seeming.... crazy. I've asked her once and she said to find out more about each other but is still keen on the idea. we've already had sex and she's spent the night so this isn't bodily desire, she makes me want to jump up and work and provide. I've never felt this way so strongly so I'm kinda freaking out. how do I stand out and show her how I feel? should I? is this normal or am I just thinking of this/her too much and need to pump my brakes?", "summary": "we're all good at first, now I'm wanting to be the best bf I can be and continue our relationship. however, I'm not so sure about her though."}
{"id": "t3_utre1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl and I both like each other, doesn't know I'm getting braces. Does this kill my chances?", "post": "Since I was a kid I always had an underbite. I even had to wear headgear to bed for a period of time in my elementary school days. Its funny now, but at the time I was so worried about people finding out. However, I digress. This problem has persisted, and my orthodontist has presented me with an option to solve my jaw problem for good. Its nothing serious, and I'm a decently attractive guy regardless, but I've always felt self conscious about my smile because of it. In doing so it helped for some awkward school and prom pictures.\nIt's taken me 6 months to totally move on from my first serious relationship, and this girl is part of the reason I've been able to. I'm a 19 year old university student going into second year, while she is 18 and enrolled to first year of the same program. I think there is a good chance that we could date in the near future, but I don't want to begin a relationship and effectively trick her by not telling her about braces that are going to be put on in about 2 months time. Is this a total turn off? I know communication on an issue like this is important, but advice on how to discuss it would be highly appreciated! Ladies - does this kill my chances?", "summary": "Girl and I both like each other, doesn't know I'm getting braces in 2 months."}
{"id": "t3_256qet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M17] I saw my GF's Sister (24) full making out with a man Not her fiancee at my work. I'm confused what to do?", "post": "I work at a coffee shop and I saw my girlfriend's sister full on making out with this guy.  They were all over each other.  We were really busy and I never would have noticed them except that my co-workers pointed them out cause they were all \"they need a room, this is a coffee shop.\"   I immediately recognized her and she's supposed to get married in July to another guy.\n\nThey could not see me.  I didn't want to get involved.  But after they left I came out to clean some tables thinking the coast was clear.  She came back in for something.  I think to use the restroom, or she forgot something.  She saw me and flipped and started begging me to tell her what I saw.  I said I didn't see anything but she somehow knew.\n\nShe left but told me that we weren't \"done\" and that we had to talk.  I just got home and my girlfriend texted me asking me what's going on with me and her sister.  I don't know what she told her but I said I don't know.  She keeps texting me that her sister is upset and that I should come over.  Not to sound like a little kid but I'm not allowed to leave the house at this time.  I texted her that my parents won't let me go there.  She said they will drive to my house if I sneak out to meet them.  I said that would be hard.  She said Please!\n\nWhat can I do?  What should I do?  I'm a little freaked out right now.", "summary": "I saw my GF's sister cheating on her fiancee.  Now my girlfriend and her sister want to meet me.  Not sure how to handle this."}
{"id": "t3_2dkrm0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I help my grandma from 1,000 miles away? Or do I move back home?", "post": "My grandma [64] revealed to me [24] last night that my mother [42] has been addicted to pills for some months. This all came about because my mother intentionally hurt herself, more seriously than she probably knew or wanted to, last night in order to get more pills.\n\nThis isn't about my mother. For the past 6 years she's lived with my grandparents because she can no longer take care of herself, though in the past year she had been stable, helpful, and even a little happy. This is about my grandma. Up until a few months ago, she had the help of my grandpa [64] in taking care of my mother and two siblings ([11] and [7]), but he suddenly passed away last March. Now she's left alone, and is completely overwhelmed. Everyone in her life right now is too busy caring for other sick relatives (yes, I'm serious. It's almost comical.) Then there's me.\n\nI live a thousand miles away, having left for a better life and better opportunities. But now I feel like I have to help my grandma, and the only way to do that is to abandon my life here and move back. If I were to do that, though, it would betray everything I've ever worked for (my impending marriage, my career, my thriving hobby), and my grandpa's legacy. (He always wanted me to make more of myself, having come from a clearly not-so-great background.) I don't know what to do. Should I leave to help care for the house and kids? Is there someone I can contact to get them help? Any and all suggestions/words of advice are welcome.", "summary": "Grandma's alone in raising my siblings and addict mother. No clue how I can help, except move back home and abandon my life."}
{"id": "t3_whf9r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: I am amazingly stressed and need advice to be able to keep my apartment for the next 9 months! Help!", "post": "Well, my school (Arizona State) wont take my edited FASFA, which would increase the amount of money in my loans to help me out .\n\nBack to the intro! (Sorry I am all over the place!) I am going to be living in a 2 bedroom apt with some friends, and my rent is going to be right around $600/month. My refund check is only 820 bucks, and I am trying to find a job, but am afraid that I wont be able to make it...my mother said that she could pay a little bit, but I wouldn't like her to do that...it would mean her going back to work to support me. \n\nSo how can I make enough money to fund myself? I am on the lease, and there is no backing out. To be honest, I am scared. I do not know what to do. Scholarships dont seem to be in my future. AGH. Help?\n\nAlso, I am a sophomore, and for all intents and purposes am poor.", "summary": "I need ways to make money to afford an apartment."}
{"id": "t3_3dja64", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Georgia] Additional charge appears on Acknowledgement of Court Date document after case rescheduling", "post": "My girlfriend committed simple battery this Spring after punching another woman at a bar in here in Georgia.\n\nA few days after the incident, she was contacted by a police officer who informed her she had a warrant for her arrest. She turned herself in and spent 24 hours in jail before her initial hearing inside of the jail where she was informed of the charge against her. She was released and went home to await her court date.\n\nFlash forward to last month. She went to court on her scheduled date but was informed that her case was not ready and would be postponed for another three months. She was directed to the solicitor's office, where she was given an Acknowledgement of Court Date document (not sure if that's the actual title, but it included information about the arraignment rescheduling on it). That document, in addition to listing the revised date and time, also lists the charges she's facing. When she looked at the paper, she noticed a new charge had been included alongside the simple battery, masturbation for hire.\n\nNo where, not on the officer's report of the incident, nor the county court case website system, is there any mention of this charge, only on this scheduling document. She contacted her arresting officer, who said he did not arrest her for or charge her for it.\n\nThis document was hand written by someone in the solicitor's office, not printed from a computer, which leads me to believe it's a simple clerical error.\n\nMy question is how can we be certain that this charge was not erroneously added and will be brought up at her arraignment? If it is a clerical error as I suspect, is there anything we can do to petition the county to remove it or to ensure that the charge doesn't actually exist somewhere official?\n\nAny advice would be most appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend punched a girl, gets arrested, and when she goes to her arraignment finds an extra masturbation for hire charge on the acknowledgement of court date paper. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_ev7ef", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Raising SubGenius Kids", "post": "Well, r/atheism. I'm Reverend ClamJuice. I've been an ordained minister for the Church of the SubGenius for a little over fiver years now and I (being too full of slack to do the legwork myself) figured I'd ask you a question. I have intentions of starting my own church (family) in the future and thought the official dogma might be a bit too risque for my little ones headed for public schools. Now, I personally feel that evangelical christians are a tad annoying, so I'd bring a bit of \"Bob\" to the equation by raising some evangelical SubGenii. The problem I come across is having children forsaking non-believers to the fiery apocalypse whilst we ascend to the planet of the sex goddesses. Where can I find good [wholesome] CoSG literature?", "summary": "It's hard to raise SubGenius kids who don't get CPS called."}
{"id": "t3_271zm0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having Star Wars playing during sex", "post": "So there is this girl that I have been talking to for a few months, going out to movies, all that fun.  Well we decided that today was the day that she was going to come over and we were going to do the deed.  She is a Star Wars fan like me so I decided to have The Phantom Menace playing while we are doing it (I have a house mate so I wanted a movie with lots of noise but one that I wouldn't be distracted by).\n\nAnyway we get into it and I have to say it was pretty great.  She knows what she's doing, she's actually attractive and I've been working on my stamina so I can safely say it was actual good sex.  We've both finished and are laying there recovering about to enter the cool down cuddle phase when Jar Jar Binks comes up on the screen.  She then proceeds to say the worst thing a Star Wars fan can hear or say, \"Oh man I really love that guy, he's my favorite.\"\n\nThat destroyed any thought of a round two and we laid there watching the rest of the movie until she decided it was time to leave (I might have been pretending to sleep).  Most likely not going to be doing that again", "summary": "Girl I was sleeping with's favorite Star Wars character is the shittiest character in Star Wars, mood killer."}
{"id": "t3_svxib", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some hurtful stereotypes that people often say that isn't frowned upon generally?", "post": "It irks me how some people will often say to others that they OCD when really they just can't stand things out of order. Especially when I constantly hear it from teenager girls saying something like this, \"Oh my god, I have such bad OCD! I just can't stand having those lines not straight!\" As for myself, I don't have OCD, but my mom and one of my best friends do. OCD isn't a fun mentally disorder at all, and something that people shouldn't joke about. I remember coming home from school one day seeing my mom open and close a door for at least 10 minutes since her OCD was bad due to stress. She started to tear up a bit since she couldn't control it herself. I don't know why people have OCD, but I once watched a video about people describing their life with the disorder, and how they believed that if they didn't do a simple task (e.g. closing a door, going up and down the stairs, or even leaving a room) correct that something bad will happen. That's why my mom when she's stressed will constantly open drawers multiple times before she can get on with her day. People, just because you have a problem with things not in order, does not mean you have OCD, it means that you like things neat. So Reddit, what are other stereotypes people often say that's hurtful, but isn't frowned upon?", "summary": "The unicorn traveled on a scooter to see Yoda while eating a taco."}
{"id": "t3_3xdc07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] in relationship with my gf [20F] since 1.5 yrs,gf's family is very stubborn to marry her in same caste", "post": "From the past 1 and half years we hav been in a relation, with many difficulties i jst made her mind to b in relation wid me.She kept requesting me that her family wont allow all this,though she loved me too,she fell in love couldnt resist herself.We are very happy together and no issues,just one-FUTURE.\n\nThough one and half year has passed,whenever we talk abt our future,it leaves both of us in a doubt.I dont know how to console her.So evertytime we just hav to change the topic and move on with the joy of being together and we just hav decided to b wid each other as long as we can,as we cant change the mentality of our families.I jst dnt knw wat i wil do without her.Sometimes i feel we would hav been better friends than this love and all,and she was right in the beginning not to b in relation.What should i do?\n\nshe says she knws her family well,they wont agree for the marriage as they look for money,land and all!M I just unlucky to get birth in lower cast?(though my fanancial conditions are gud,but my family dsnt own any land )\nMy self concious doesnt allow me to go against our families and live separate.I dnt want a girl to loose her family,her respect,this happens all around and i m jst fed up from all this,the beliefs,the customs i just dont want her to b harmed in any way and love for her family destroyed and can even sacrifice my love for it.\nstill there are 3-4 years till marriage comes up(i think so).cant say abt her parents,if we tell them soon ,they will marry here smwhere else wdout a second thought.I cant figure out smthng nd cant do anyhting in my life cause of it,i hav still to achieve smthing and become smthing but if all this goes on i cant give her a life she wants nd i cant get mine.", "summary": "Should i try to be her freind again and forget our love and try to leave her slowly or should i stand wid her confront her family,and start a separate life away from everyone?"}
{"id": "t3_30tsjt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, please help--I (23/F) can't stop touching my (25/M) SO", "post": "Please reddit, I need some advice. My SO and I have been together for about 4 years, long distance for the last 1. \n\nBottom line is I am a very physically affectionate, he is not. This has been an ongoing issue every since the honeymoon phase ended. In the beginning, he was just as affectionate as I was but that gradually that faded, and he started to become uncomfortable if I was touching him (holding his hand, giving him a hug, trying to cuddle, pretty much anything). He doesn't mind affection if he initiates, but can't stand it if I do.\n\nHe's told me this again and again. And I try, but it's just something so natural to me that I don't even think twice about it. Then he gets upset that I can't respect his personal space, I get upset that I am unable to do this one thing for him, and the cycle starts over again.\n\nAnyway, I know this is a big issue between us, and I would like to figure out a way to solve it. Any suggestions on what to try would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I am very physically affectionate, SO is not and feels like I can't respect his person boundaries. How can we fix it?"}
{"id": "t3_1qhdzc", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Eating \"normally\"", "post": "Hey guys, so I've been eating around 1300 kcal daily for more almost three months now, and I've adjusted to eating my small portions by now; I feel full and satisfied after my meals, and get relatively less cravings. \n\nAlso, my skin and hair still look great (get regular compliments), so I guess I am getting good nutrition. I can also now do 70 steady jumping jacks in a row as opposed to 20 shakey ones as when I started. \n\nI've lost 19 pounds and my latest small victory was being able to utilize my abs to hold tight on the stomach flab all day long without tiring (haha, sorry if it's TMI). \n\nAll in all, I feel like I am getting fit. \n\nNow my problem is this: if eating 1300 kcal works for me, and keeps me feeling fit and healthy, then is it necessary for me to one day go back to eating the \"recommended\" amount of 2000 kcal or whatever. \n\nObviously I'll adjust my calories according to my daily requirements if I get weak, sick or feel exhausted during the day, but my life right now doesn't require 2000 kcal worth of food. By my schedule, I will reach my goal weight of around 110 lbs by March or April, and my life won't be different by then to require 2000 kcal worth of energy. \n\nIf anything, I'll up to eating around 1600 kcal, since I will then be aiming to maintain my weight and not lose more, and with that I think I'll be able to handle work (not active, sedentary, desk job), moderate exercise (around 20-30 mins daily to keep my heart active), and my 1200 kcal BMR. \n\nSo, am I being silly in thinking I should only eat 1600 kcal when I reach my goal weight? Come to think of it, I didn't use to eat so much before I put on my 50 pounds, and I've never thought about this before, but maybe low calorie eating works for me.", "summary": "is it necessary for me to eat the \"recommended\" 2000 kcal worth of energy if my needs are met with just 1600 kcal. Is it normal and healthy to eat only 1600 kcal daily? Should I talk to a doctor about this instead?"}
{"id": "t3_4au6fp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by fucking up my PC", "post": "Well, nearly a year ago, I installed Windows 10.\n\nIn November of last year,  my PC wouldn't boot and I had to take out and put back in my CMOS battery (I think that's the name, it's the god damn big circle thing on the motherboard). It booted up fine. \n\nTwo weeks ago, I updated my Geforce Experience drivers. That probably fucked up literally everything. I couldn't install Windows updates, couldn't install drivers. DDU didn't fix this. A few system restore points later, I could play video games and have my screensaver work even though they had said something about needing to update my drivers (which system restore didn't do). \n\nAnd today, I was playing some Elite: Dangerous after being annoyed again about the fact that my PC had to keep undoing updates when I booted up my PC since they didn't finish installing. \n\nYou know what else didn't finish? You'll know soon. Well, my PC blue screened, and I tried to reset my PC (formatting it). That didn't finish. No matter what options I tried, it said it couldn't continue. \n\nYou know what 2% of my PC it did delete, though? My. Fucking. OS. And. System. Restore. Points. \n\nBare in mind I may have pirated Windows, so I don't have any installation discs. \n\nNo matter what the drive order is in the BIOS, it fucking commits seppaku and doesn't work. \n\nIf only I realised that taking out my CMOS battery again would mean my PC would have to reinstall Windows anyway (it did last time). \n\nWait. Fuck. I vacuumed my room today. I didn't relocate my PC.   \nIs there a chance that did this?", "summary": "Fucking back up your files, backup restore points and the OS to a separate drive, and don't. Fucking. Use. Vacuum. Cleaners. On. A. Carpet. Without. Relocating. The. God. Damn. P. C "}
{"id": "t3_2r2zj2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cheating Ex [21 F] won't stop hanging out with my [21 M] circle of friends, and they're part of the problem.", "post": "[Personal Issues] So I dated this girl for just shy of two years, then broke up with her after she admitted to cheating on me with a couple from her work, claiming we were supposed to have a foursome but she conveniently forgot to tell me about it.\n\nAnyway fast forward to now (about a year later) and I have a childhood friend (let's call him Joe) who keeps inviting her to all of our group gatherings. \n\nI understand that during the time we were together she got along with my friends and formed new acquaintances, but most of my good friends stopped talking to her after the breakup, and for a time things were fine. Now out of nowhere she's everywhere I go out with my friends and I feel like a shitty person because she gets along with everybody so well but I kinda wish she'd just fuck off because of what she did to me. \n\nTo complicate things, she introduced Joe to his girlfriend, and although the two ladies aren't nearly as close as Joe and I are, I'd feel like a controlling douche if I flat out asked him not to invite her to our future get-togethers. \n\nSo I guess my question is should I try to intervene and probably come across as a neurotic, bitter control freak who's not over his ex (probably true) or should I just cut my loses and stop hanging around that group so much? I do have other friends, but this circle is my childhood/school friends.\n\nJust kinda feels like a lose-lose...", "summary": "Can't get ex out of my life, don't want to be controlling but also genuinely unhappy at outings we both frequent."}
{"id": "t3_2tb60b", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Ladies, be honest, plz and tks.", "post": "Women don't want to date me. They love going out with me but an actual romantic date scares them off. It sucks and I'd like to do something about it. So I asked a friend for advice and she responded I'm too old, too nice but otherwise great. I tweeted a version of this advice and I received many replies telling me that I'm perfect the way I am, and other supportive tweets. Which is at odds with reality. Many of these women have been in a position to date me and chosen not to, even though they knew I was attracted to them. That's fine, I'm not everyone's dream guy, and the disappointment of unrequited love will pass. However if we're going to be friends then let's be the kind who are honest with each other. If I ask you why you're not interested in me, tell me the truth. I don't need you to be supportive. I need advice and constructive feedback.", "summary": "Ladies, if a friend asks you for advice, be honest."}
{"id": "t3_rlcen", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Know of any buttons with hats on them?", "post": "Backstory: A friend and I were talking and he asked if I could be any visible part of an elevator what would it be. I answered with \"the call fireman button, because it's helpful and it has a hat on it... I've never seen another button with a hat on it.\" \n\nQuestion: Do you know of any such buttons? Preferably ones in real life and not from games; I am aware that there are \"accessory\" buttons that have hats on them. I might be overlooking something really obvious. Pictures or descriptions would be great!\n\nBonus Question: What visible elevator part would you be?", "summary": "Buttons with hats?"}
{"id": "t3_1ca1n1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stuck [m 21] in relationship with baby's momma [F 18]", "post": "So we're dealing with a teen mom/young parents-who-can't-support-a- child situation here.\n\n**Back story**\n\n>Girlfriend of 2 years (on and off) accidently gets pregnant Spring 2012\n\n>Already shitty relationship fueled mostly by desperation and immaturity\n\n>She wants to keep it, I don't\n\n**Current**\n\nFast forward to this past November and my first son is born.  My girlfriend moved in with him so aside from work, we spent pretty much every waking minute together.  Like I said, this relationship is already toxic, we're always fighting, we live(d) in my parents' house, we resent each others' pasts, etc.  It's horrible environment for two young adults, let alone our child.\n\nThe thing is, I love my son.  I look at him and see my entire world.  I love spending time with him and look forward to watching him grow (he's almost 4 months).  He's the only thing keeping his mother in my life.  I'm afraid to break up with her completely because I fear she'll use him to get back at me by not letting me see him, lie to the courts to get custody, etc.  I don't want her to be the kind of mother that talks shit about her kid's father and screw up his relationship with his parents.  I just want things to be civil.  Oh and I kicked her out of my house yesterday, saying it was only temporary.  She took our son with her to her parents' house.\n\nI feel like there's so much more to say, but I can't get my thoughts organized.  Feel free to ask anything.", "summary": "I'm in a toxic relationship with my girlfriend and we have a child.  I don't know how to be there for my son if his mother would be a spiteful ex."}
{"id": "t3_3zgr8z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[update] I [22F] woke up to find my work supervisor [30sM] has sent me a naked pic of himself. Don't know how to respond", "post": "My first post: \n\nOk so thanks for the replies to that post, the advice was appreciated! I will keep the update brief as I probably should not be talking about it too much.\n\nThe advice I took was to give him some time to apologize and then go to HR. I did that but when I checked my work email later that day I found I had an email from him (he doesn't have my personal email and for some reason he didn't want to do it by text). It was very formal, apologetic and he explained himself. I don't want to go in to details but basically his marriage is going through a (very) rough patch, he got very drunk and send the picture (not on accident).\n\nEven though I was on vacation I decided to go to HR that day because I didn't want to become an even bigger situation. I told them what happened and it's being investigated. I went to work today and he has been suspended while they investigate. I don't know if he sent pictures to anyone else or has done it before. I feel bad if he gets fired, especially because it sounds like his life isn't going great right now anyway but yeah, I guess he definitely crossed a line sending the pic. \n\nThanks for the advice, helped me out in a very awkward situation.", "summary": "he admitted to me what happened. reported to HR. he is suspended why they investigate."}
{"id": "t3_4yzk2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [30M] of 5.5 years left me [26F] two weeks ago and I think it was all my fault. How do you cope?", "post": "Very long story short, we broke up once three years ago for 8 months then rekindled. I knew in my heart that getting back together was going to end badly and it did. I was too stubborn and selfish to admit it wasn't going to work so I'd cry and beg whenever he tried to leave me (which was often) and he'd end up staying. We lived together for the last 2 years.. we had countless fights that would spiral out of control, especially if I was buzzed. I'd drink and make everything worse and he hated it and wanted me to quit and I'd promise to.. then wouldn't. I treated him really poorly and was putting him down a lot and knit picking every single thing about him. It was a truly toxic situation and now it's over. \n\nSo now... how do I move on? With the knowledge of knowing you acted like a monster.. how does one actually move on? I hate myself for screwing it up. I loved him genuinely.. but maybe not that much if I treated him poorly?", "summary": "I screwed up my longest relationship and I don't know how to cope with the realization that he's better off without me."}
{"id": "t3_f6mft", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shitty living situation, anything we can do?", "post": "This past June, three friends and I started living in an apartment above a convenience store. Things were all well and good until August, when the business was bought by some idiotic 20-something who decided to turn the convenience store into a functioning deli. Reconstruction and renovations started in the end of August, and we were told that it would end by Halloween. This has not been the case. \n\nIt's not the end of January and construction is at its loudest ever. I expect it will be finished in a month (maybe more), but it's something we're sick of having to deal with. At times construction goes till eleven or twelve at night, this is illegal, right? We've spoken to our landlord a couple times about this, but he's refused to budge on rent. We told him that we felt we're paying too much for what we're getting now, and that had we known we'd be living above this house we'd never have even considered living here. He's a smooth talker, so he got himself out of it and told us construction would stop during our finals period (this was back in December). Luckily it did. It resumed soon after, and it's pissing us all of. \n\nOne of the worst parts of all of this, is the people down at the store will come into our house uninvited at times and tell us to stop walking around hard or jumping in our apartment because it's really loud in the store. In another instance, they told us we couldn't close the door hard because it shook some things on the wall. All the while, we have to deal with their obnoxious construction. Oh, I also forgot to mention they play super loud music during the day, and even until 10pm. We can feel the bass through the floor boards.\n\nNow, things we've done to fuck with them: Recently I've started yelling \"WE CAN BE LOUD, TOO!\" And jumping off my couch onto the floor. But it obviously gets no one anywhere. \n\nAny help would be APPRECIATED.", "summary": "Live above a convenience store. In August the business was bought and there have been renovations going on ever since. LOUD construction throughout the day and even into the night certain days. We've spoken to landlord but he hasn't budged about reducing rent. Anything we can do?"}
{"id": "t3_3u8tly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15m] friend [15f] is being treated like an item in my class. What can I do to help?", "post": "So I have a good friend who's in my classes who I'll call 'Lucy' and  because were both kinda nerdy and into youtube (barely anyone else in my school is into it) people have shipped her and I since year 7 just up until year 10 where we are now, although I still get the occasional 'when will you two get together?'. So the problem was that recently she started wearing trousers instead of a dress into school, and this guy and this other girl in my class started going to everyone and telling them about how Lucy has 'got bum' in our form. She was quite visibly embarrassed by it and when she came back into the class after leaving for the toilet, she sat down in a way that concealed her backside (walking and turning while facing forward to us). I didn't really think this was right (am I being too whiteknightish?) and when I said your embarrassing her, they said they're giving her a 'confidence boost', when she didn't really like it. Also, the teachers would probs do nothing about it because were teens going through 'phases'.", "summary": "friend is being objectified by people in my class, should I help and how?"}
{"id": "t3_1gjetb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[23,M] too young to be doing online dating?", "post": "So I \"date\" (I use the word lightly) sporadically, I tend to not bother unless I'm really interested in the girl because I don't want to be seeing girls just because they're into me and so I can, that's how people get hurt and have done in the past. So my biggest problem is I just don't get to meet enough girls to find one I'm genuinely interested in. I'm doing PhD and it's crazy hard work so I don't have a lot of time and so don't meet people. I also have no interest in \"meeting\" people in night clubs or on a drunken night out, it just sucks. So I've been toying with the idea of getting on an online dating site or two just to try and meet more people. However, I feel like these sites are not aimed at people like me, more like people in their late 20s early 30s still looking, and that as a 23 year old guy I shouldn't have to be dating online to meet someone. What do you guys think?", "summary": "23 y/o guy, thinking about dating online to meet more girls but think i'm too young for it."}
{"id": "t3_13loe8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Had my first disagreement with new girlfriend. Neither of us want to budge.", "post": "22/M SO is 22/F. We've been together for almost six months now and finally had our first disagreement of substance.  About a year and a half ago my exgirlfriend and I broke up.  We both decided that breaking up was the best thing to do for a few reasons and have remained friends.  I am now in my first relationship since we broke up and my exgirlfriend is in her 2nd.  My ex drunk dials me sporadically, and will often text me.  I rarely initiate conversation with her.  If she ever says anything to do with my new relationship, its always something critical.  My GF brought it up this weekend that she is uncomfortable with my ex sending me texts and drunk calling me.  I understand where she is coming from, and tell her there is nothing to worry about.  I tell her when my ex texts or calls because I have nothing to hide and don't want her to have any reason to be suspicious.  I even went so far as to hand her my phone and let her read our text messages.\n\nMy GF tells me she thinks my ex is keeping our relationship from progressing and I'm putting my friendship with my ex ahead of our relationship.  She says if my ex continues to do this, it will be detrimental to our relationship. This clearly isn't the truth though.  I don't respond to my ex whenever she sends anything flirtatious, starts complaining about my relationship or GF, or drunk calls me.  I never respond to her in front of my GF either (out of respect for my GF, not to be sketchy).  I'm choosing to spend the entire Thanksgiving break with my GF in a different city, even though my ex will be in the same city my family is in.\n\nI continue to tell her there is nothing to worry about and I no longer have feelings for my ex but it doesn't put her at ease.  Her ideal situation would be never talking to my ex ever again.  My ex and I are friends and get along great, but she is clearly jealous of my GF and me.  I want nothing more than a friendship with my ex and my GF thinks this isn't possible because my ex wants more.", "summary": "I would like to be friends with my ex who is still emotionally attached to me and my GF thinks this is impossible. My GF thinks we can't grow as a couple if my ex is constantly in the background.  She wants me to limit my already limited contact with my ex. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ewcbb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found embarrassing personal ad posted by my (asshole) boss.  Do I make his life miserable now or hold on to it?", "post": "So I was on craigslist perusing personal ads instead of reading for school and I stumbled upon a rather explicit casual encounters ad posted by one of my two bosses (picture and all).  This man is an asshole, he is incompetent and an idiot and he and I speak only when it is necessary for the job.  He is aware of my dislike for him and does not make my life easy for it, I've accepted this fact and it's the price I pay for not having to suffer communication with this imbecile.  Fortunately the other manager and the owner are aware of his incompetence and generally ignore his complaints.  That being said, I take great joy in making this man's life difficult and this to me seems like a pretty good opportunity.\n\nMy question is, do I: \na) anonymously distribute this embarrassing information among other employees (about ten people) by email or printing this shit out and posting it \nb) hold on to it and wait for a good opportunity to destroy his reputation further \nor \nc) respond to this ad and try to elicit more embarrassing information then exercise option a or b\n\nI realize that this may seem immoral and immature to most but I have absolutely no respect for this person and I wish him nothing but harm.  I'm also open to any other suggestions on this matter, but I'm pretty sure what I will do will result in either him being ridiculed or me benefiting somehow.", "summary": "Asshole boss posts explicit Craigslist personal, do I publicly embarrass him? Or hold onto the information for future use?"}
{"id": "t3_233u56", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "It is possible my boyfriend isn't attracted to me or is he just a really good guy", "post": "So I just started dating this guy and I really like him and care about him a lot. He dotes on me and really just romances me basically. Treats me as his equal and is so kind to me. We connect very deeply. I feel like a better person for being with him. I really do. However, though we've cuddled and held hands we haven't yet kissed or done anything else. We're both in our 20s. We basically just made it official yesterday but we've been going out for a couple of weeks and before that had been emailing each other for months. I've kissed people in the past but I haven't gone beyond that mostly because I've had a lot of abusive experiences throughout my life and opening up to even the intimacy of kissing takes a long time for me. He told me that I'm a beautiful person and as long as I know that he doesn't care much about intimacy or expressing those feelings physically and that I should never feel pressured to do so. Calling me a beautiful person probably means he thinks I'm beautiful on the outside too right? I hate to be insecure about this but he's really the antithesis of vain and shallow so I just don't want to find out one day that he never really found me attractive in the first place. It would sting a bit. Even though I appreciate what a deep person he is. That's why I think he's so wonderful. After we got done cuddling he did call me beautiful, though. I guess I should just believe him.", "summary": "Is he just a really good guy?"}
{"id": "t3_2fguxj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (20/m)not sure what to do about my (19/f) ex", "post": "So me and my ex girlfriend were dating for 6 months. During the summer, I got a job at a sleep away camp that was out of the state. During this time, I would try to video call her and keep contact as often as possible. But, she ended up breaking up with me due to how badly the distance had affected her. She also told me later that she cheated on me the day before we broke up. Now we're back at school and she already has a new boyfriend and they're already engaged. I have no idea what to do now.", "summary": "My ex broke up with me and not even a month later she's engaged and I'm depressed"}
{"id": "t3_3fqpp2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] girlfriend [21 F] of 1 year keeps saying that she does not deserve me and that I should find someone better but I want to reassure her that I am going nowhere.", "post": "My girlfriend is bipolar and is very low at the moment. Through throwaways and the internet, I am slowly learning to deal with her low moods. \n\nEvery time is she feeling like this I do my best to make sure she is knows that I love her and I am there for her for everything she needs or wants. I m going to lie it sometimes can be frustrating and unrewarding but I really do not care, I love everything about her and being with my best friend is a dream come through.\n\nRecently, she keeps saying that she does not deserve me and that I should find someone better. I really want to reassure her that I am going nowhere, but I do not know how would be the best way to say this. \n\nI am desperate to find advice from anyone who may have been in a similar situation and would know how and what to say to her.", "summary": "Bipolar girlfriend keeps saying that she does not deserve me and that I should find someone better. I want to reassure her that I am going nowhere but I do not know how would be the best way to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_u43vt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would you deal with excessive amounts of dandruff filling your entire house?", "post": "My dog has an ungodly case  of eczema and has turned my house into a giant dandruff snow globe. Not to mention it smells like Dorito crumbs that have been sitting in sweaty ass. \n\nI sweep daily but literally within hours it's just as bad again. There's a white tint on the wood floor because it has been embedded in the textures and where there is moisture, such as the shower, it hardens into a black demonic substance that requires a steamer and a putty knife to remove.\n\nThe dog is heading towards her final days so I'd hate to keep her outside and I'm also against putting her down considering she is still quite lively and isn't showing signs of pain.\n\nSo what creative ways would you deal with this?", "summary": "Dog hourly coats house with terrible smelling dandruff. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2iytld", "subreddit": "running", "title": "What is your marathon race strategy?", "post": "A little background. Ran 3 or 4 half marathons over the last couple of years and decided in January that i wanted to run a marathon. \n\nWent to my local running room and signed up for the clinic. Their program is very structured and they preach the 10s and 1s method for long runs. \n\nRan my first marathon in May and finished in 4:23. I did the 10s and 1s and was happy with the race. \n\nMarathon number 2 is next week. My plan this time is to run steady between the water stops and then walk while hydrating at the water stations. My goal time is something around 4:05 - 4:10. \n\nI read this article today and the strategy intrigues me. \n\nSo what is your marathon race strategy?", "summary": "currently run 10s and 1s and looking for new strategy."}
{"id": "t3_54rfc5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] need advice on relationship with [18F].", "post": "About 3 weeks ago I matched with this girl on Tinder who I knew from back home (we're at college). I started talking to her, flirting with her, but then shortly realized that she had a boyfriend back home who I don't know. She's a freshman in college, he's a senior in high school and the distance between them is over 3 hours. I know its kinda fucked up, but all my buddies said it wasn't for me to worry about and that I should continue talking to this girl. We've gone out a few times to eat, we've gone out to the bars, and we even hooked up the other night. \n\nLast night, we were laying in my bed having the typical pillow talk that a \"couple\" has and she informed me that she told her boyfriend they needed a break. I actually really like this girl. She's super easy to talk to, she's funny, she's gorgeous, she's just fun to be around. \n\nThe problem is, I kinda have some trust issues because I was cheated on in a previous relationship and, unfortunately, I see the red flags that she has. She was on tinder, flirting, talking, and going out with me even though she had a boyfriend back home.\n\nAm I an idiot for wanting to advance with this girl? IF I do get in a relationship with her, how do I know she won't just do the same thing to me? Please help..", "summary": "Girl I'm talking to cheated on her ex with me. I'm not sure if its a good idea to pursue a relationship with her because of this. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2kzc6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with [18 M] of 11 months online/long distance relationship...making it last?", "post": "I met my boyfriend online but, I have never met him in real life. I talk to him via Skype and we have fun. At times I feel a bit neglected because he claims he isn't used to communicating what's going on. The major problem is time. Our time zones are 7 hours apart and it's a bit difficult to talk to him at a regular time. He loves to sleep and I don't mean like 10 hours and could probably sleep the day away. In the past I would only have to wait 'til midnight to talk to him. Lately the time he started talking to me has been pushed further back again and again. I complained about having to wait up til 4:30AM just to talk to him and he just didn't understand why. All I asked of him is a little status message like \"I'm playing with my friends. I'll talk to you in <needed amount of time>\" It's such a pain and I started resenting him for not waking up earlier for me.", "summary": "Feeling neglected in long distance relationship. How do you make it work?"}
{"id": "t3_37ot28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(16M) SO(15F) will not have sex with because Im male and she was raped but has no problem having sex with females.", "post": "So today I found out my girlfriend was raped at an early age, after 2 months of dating. Everytime we planned on doing something sexual she would always give some excuse as to why she couldnt when the day came, needless to say this frustrated me and after 2 months of this I called her out on it and asked whats up.\n\nShe told me she was raped at an early age and has ptsd because of it and thats why she doesnt feel comfortable doing anything sexual with me. I knew she had sex with a couple females before dating me so I asked her why she had sex with them and not me. She said it was different because they were females and her rapist was male. \n\nShe had told me multiple times prior to me knowing she was raped that she was ready to have sex with me etc. obviously she backed out when the day came. She said today she didnt mean to lead me on or anything but thats exactly what she did, multiple times. She said she would have to warm up to me before having sex with me, I asked her long that would take and she said she couldnt tell.\n\nIm pretty mad for several reasons. She didnt tell me for 2 months. She lead me on. Shes fine having sex with females but because Im male she cant. \n\nWhat do I do in this situation?", "summary": "girlfriend was raped and will have sex with females but not males and lead me on"}
{"id": "t3_i6crl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If I'm leaving work early/coming in late, will my boss expect me to not clock in those hours? (read for more)", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nSo I work at a white collar Development/Fundraising office as a summer job before I head back to school. I basically get paid to do what an intern would do, i.e. file things, make spreadsheets, book donations, stuff that no one else wants to do. I'm new to the business world (only a college kid) and still am having trouble figuring out what are the unspoken terms around the office and thought you redditors may be able to help me. \n\nWhen I spent a day at a training session, it started an hour later and ended two hours earlier than my usual shift (I work an hourly wage), when I asked about my timesheet, my boss told me to just clock in for the 8 hours anyways and said it wasn't a big deal.\n\nNow, I have my boss's approval for leaving work early today (2 hrs early) and coming to work late tomorrow (4 hours late). Will she expect me to document this on my timesheet and dock my pay or should I record a full 8 hour shift both days?", "summary": "I'm leaving my office job early today/coming in late tomorrow, should I dock the hours from my pay?"}
{"id": "t3_bkxth", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "in a long-distance-relationship, accidently fell in love with another girl", "post": "so here is where I am at, I have an amazing girlfriend who I have dated for just over a year. I think she's perfect but our circumstances are not; she works at a real job on the other side of the country while I'm going to be in (grad) school for the six years\n\nI really like her, but honestly I realize that I won't be able to have a real relationship with her any time soon. Meanwhile we're perfect together, our families love each other and in most people's eyes we're already destined to be married\n\nwhile at school I've met another girl who totally has blown me away, she's nothing like the girl I am dating now but I love to hang out with her just as friends and I love the things that she brings out in me. one night when we got both really drunk we both confessed that we have mutual feelings for each other (no I would never cheat on my gf). We're still cool, and we're still really good friends, but at this point I need to make a some sort of final conclusion so I don't lead either of them on\n\nso I honestly have no idea what to do, if I were to be honest I would probably rather be dating my current gf but in reality circumstances are just so excruciating I don't know if I can keep it up\n\nmeanwhile I have this amazing girl who actually likes me, and who I could actually be in a real relationship\n\nis it worth it to try to wait/work this one out or would I be missing a chance with somebody who would be making me so happy", "summary": "> I have an amazing girlfriend but it's going at least six years until we can have a real relationship b/c of distance, meanwhile I've found a equally amazing girl that I can be with now..."}
{"id": "t3_19ak1y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29/f) am so sick of being jealous/obsessing over my bf's (32/m) ex-wife.", "post": "Please, help me get out of my head.  I am tired of this irrational thinking.\n\nBoyfriend of 1 year has an ex-wife (divorced about 2 years now), with whom he shares a 2 year old son.  They officially broke up during the pregnancy and have since had a pretty functional and cool co-parenting relationship. \n\nAnd then here I am.  Happy with boyfriend.  He sees his son about twice a week, on days when I'm not around.  I haven't met him yet, mostly just because of schedule conflicts and we wanted to wait a while.  Looking forward to it, eventually.\n\nBut my god.  I CANNOT stop thinking about how he shared a home with this woman.  I feel jealous that they have a child together -- it's such an intimate and special thing to share!  I even got drunk one night and found one of her old abandoned photobucket accounts which included pictures of them when they used to be together.\n\nI've asked him about their relationship, he said he wasn't happy for a long time.  He rushed into the marriage, unsure.  And when things were on the outs, they found out she was pregnant.  They divorced and are trying to raise this kid as best they can.\n\nSo why the fuck do I care???  Seriously.  I am so sick of this.  EVERYONE has a past.  I have had a serious live-in relationship of my own.  Inside I am so mad that he wasn't more cautious about having a kid with someone he knew he wouldn't be with.  I'll never be his first wife, I'll never give birth to his first child.", "summary": "I'm always feeling jealous/obsessed with the ex-wife.  Can't stop thinking about her.  Really wish I could just let it go."}
{"id": "t3_3dug1x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Advices/hugs needed", "post": "me[19/m] and my gf [17/F] have been together for 3 years and more. We met at secondary school and the first and a half year of relationship was sweet and lovely. After that I graduated from secondary school and proceeded to college. Since then my schedule is somehow different from hers, thus we cannot meet each other that often even though we are still in the same, small city. I am a bit aware of my family's financial status so I dont feel like visiting her a lot. We do miss each other and our relationship keep getting worse. This situation lasted for around 1.5 years and recently we had a deep chat and she told me that she was very very tired of this kind of medium-distance relationship and she didn't know whether she still love me or not. I still love her, I still miss her, I admit I was being selfish and not be with her, it felt like the whole situation is caused by me. I'm hoping to continue, but logically it would be best to break up, for the sake of both of us. Redditors, thanks for reading, if you don't have anything to comment, kindly leave a reply when you read it, 'I've read this' will do, I need some support, thank you :)", "summary": "couple in the same city but different schedule, can't meet up that often, relationship got worse, she didn't know whether she love me or not, frustrated"}
{"id": "t3_3twncc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU on OkCupid", "post": "This happened literally, not figuratively, 15 minutes ago.\n\nI'm chatting to this guy on OkCupid for the past couple of weeks! He's handsome, smart, uses proper grammar, and is witty. We talked the first round of OkCupid but I logged off when I started dating a now ex-boyfriend.\n\nHe gives me his number, so of course I text him. No reply. Two days pass. No reply. Now I'm getting pissed. What the frick is wrong with this man?! I go on OkCupid and basically write \"Deuces\" to him. \n\nHe gives me his number again...AND I FUCKING ADDED AN EXTRA NUMBER. I NEVER TEXTED HIM AND SENT A FREAK OUT TEXT OVER NOTHING.\n\nShit, shit. Time to play damage control. But it's too late.\n\nHe's pissed, insults my race, says I'm crazy. Wishes me luck. Lesson learned.", "summary": "I'm a dyslexic crazy Asian who jumped the gun and lost out on a hot guy on OkCupid."}
{"id": "t3_yuwjq", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Never make this mistake: One thing to ALWAYS look into before getting on the plane.", "post": "That is, ALWAYS check the **visa** situation for your final destination.\n\nMy friend and I had been planning a trip to Rio de Janeiro for a couple months. We bought plane tickets, got hostel reservations, etc. So we get to the airport, and we go to get our boarding passes. Passports? Check. Visas? Hu?\n\nApparently, and this was news to both of us, you need to apply for tourist visas when entering Brazil. We were both dumbfounded, but the person behind the desk looked at us like we were crazy. Is this common knowledge? No one I've talked to about this has heard of getting a visa for visiting a functioning democracy for a week. All the international countries I've happened to go to didn't require visas. \n\nThis had not even occurred to me, though it makes sense in retrospect. I obviously feel like an idiot, but I can assure you that this will never happen to me again. And let this serve as a warning to anyone else who is completely ignorant of international travel.", "summary": "Planned a trip to Rio, never got a visa, trip cancelled/delayed."}
{"id": "t3_23aubq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20/M] There are so many signs that tells she [20/f] is cheating, but I still try to believe her", "post": "Last week I get a call from my father saying that my gf had posted that she was in a relationship with her ex on her fb. When I went to go check her fb was deleted so I call her and asked what was the post was all about and she told me that her friend (ironically specking) who had been hanging with her and her good friends had took her phone and did that when she was trying to delete her fb from her phone and asked one of them to do it.\n\n Later on in the week I found out that she had actually blocked me and my dad from fb and that there were pictures of them hanging out too. That day I confronted her about it and she told me it was nothing and that she only loved me, but never told me why she did it. Are relationship had been shaky for 2 months and she went on a tangent about how she was going nowhere in live and believe it was because she was always worried about keeping the relationship going to care about anything else, so we decided to take a \"break\" if you will (we're not seeing each other, but were not seeing anybody else either). \n\nA couple of days pass and today I decide to check her fb again when I see that the pics where gone, but now it says that they've been a relationship a couple of days before my dad had called \n\nI just don't know what to do now, I feel if I talk to her about it again she's just going to give me some kinda excuse, but there's no way for me to be 100 percent sure if she is or not; and even if she is, why not just break up with me and let me move on???", "summary": "Her facebook tells me she's cheating, she says she's not, but there's no way of me proving her wrong so all I can do is believe her"}
{"id": "t3_19ciqd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] need some advice about staying with my boyfriend's [23 M][6.5 years] family", "post": "This Saturday I am leaving for the Florida Keys, where my boyfriend's parents are currently vacationing. His parents asked him and me to fly down and spend a week with them. They are staying in their trailer and my boyfriend and I will be sleeping in a tent on the beach nearby.\n\nMy boyfriend's parents are...not my biggest fans. Let's just say that liberal, nerdy, tattooed, and religiously apathetic were not on the list of things they were hoping for when their son brought a girl home. Nonetheless, they've accepted that after 6.5 years with their son, I'm not going anywhere any time soon, and while I don't see them or speak to them very often (boyfriend and I live 3,000 miles away), they do include me in bigger events such as this.\n\nMy boyfriend's father is working on building a relationship with me. It's clear that he doesn't accept me 100%, but he's working on it, and I've told him how much I appreciate it. My boyfriend's mother is strictly civil with me...most of the time. Sometimes she can be mean in that high school girl kind of way, where it's kind of subtle but I still receive the message that she's trying to send.\n\nI mostly fear for this trip because the last time I saw my boyfriend's family (Christmas), his mother was very openly rude to me. The day previous, she had told my boyfriend that she didn't think I was good enough for him. Both my boyfriend and his father defended me, so she was very hostile when she saw me the next day. I haven't spoken to her since, but I don't know if I could deal with that sort of hostility again for 9 straight days.\n\nI really want to have a good time on this trip, but diffusing hostility is not something I'm really good at. What can I do if any arises?", "summary": "My boyfriend's mother doesn't really like me, and I'm going to be on a 9 day long vacation with her. What can I do if there's any tension?"}
{"id": "t3_1fgdm6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In regards to family and lineage. Long winded Drunken rant incoming. Lots of quotations.", "post": "I'm slightly inebriated right now, but I really wanted to ask this question before I forget about it in the morning.\n\nMyself, being a 26 year old male, still living at home. I often wonder about my place in the world, not so much in terms of \"what difference can I make as a person\" as that is a question im sure everyone thinks about at one point or another. But rather \"How can I benefit my family?\" And one thing I always consider, is essentially carrying on the family name, not the most glorifying thing of course, but I often wonder what would happen if my family name just, \"died out\" if you will.\n\nI've already designated myself as the \"forever alone\" type in my family, simply because I have no real interest in a \"Love life\" and am happy being single, and would like to imagine that my brother or sister (both younger than I am) will be able to marry and carry on our name. But I worry, as odd as it sounds, that they wont, and I begin to rationalize that if they cant, or wont marry, then maybe the duty should fall to me, so that our name doesnt get stamped out in history.\n\nIts odd trying to explain this in writing, but I suppose what Im trying to get at is that, is it truly important to carry on your family name and consider it a \"great accomplishment?\" or should you be content to live your life as you are, regardless of what happens?", "summary": "What are you thoughts on carrying on your family legacy?"}
{"id": "t3_3ioucb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14 M] with my Crush [14 F] No relationship yet, Need advice!", "post": "I am gonna keep this anonymous in fear that someone will somehow recognize me.\n\nSo there is this girl, this amazing, perfect girl. Everything I look for. She has red hair, blue eyes, and an amazing smile and laugh. Better than that, we share common interests. We both play the same instrument. We both love to laugh and hang out with friends, and she is very funny, smart, and all around perfect in my eyes.\n\n Thing is, I think even though she is just a crush, I have taken it way too fast, or at least I think I have. I asked her to dance with me when no one else did, and she appreciated that alot. Then, I gave her chocolates on Valentines day. The last major thing I did was get her a birthday present, and that was the last day of school. We are back in school now, and I have no clue what my next step is. I kinda feel like I am walking on eggshells to keep this alive. Please help, if you would! Ty!", "summary": "Crush. Going too fast with her? Need advice for next step."}
{"id": "t3_120fuh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something you wish people knew about your job that would make it easier for you?", "post": "I work at a technical support help desk (I answer phones and provide support). I think one the most frustrating things about working as a support is when I try give the caller a reason for their issue, they believe it to not be correct. I'll elaborate with a story.\n\nSomeone calls in regarding an issue with logging in to blah blah. I ask what error message they receive. From her response I know that they are just using an incorrect password. I inform them that they are using an incorrect password. IMMEDIATELY they respond with, \"NO that is wrong I've had the same password for years.\" I reset their password and tell them to log in with the new password. They say, \"NOPE it's not working, don't you think it's my old password that I've been using for 2 years.\" I then begin to use their default username and the reset password to try and log in to see if their is an issue or that I might've put in the wrong reset password. I use the credentials and I log in. Surprise. I inform them that they should try again and now MAGICALLY it works for them... (surprise!). They then ask me what it could have been? I have to tell them it could have been a multitude of things when in fact, it was their fault all along. Sometimes I just want to say it was your own fault, idiot.", "summary": "I know what i'm talking about because it's my job to know. If you know the answer then why did you call me for help?"}
{"id": "t3_zuwid", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Mad jelly over here", "post": "I went to the gym today, which I don't usually do. (I lost the bulk of my weight from cutting down on the calories and at home workouts.) So it's my second time at the gym this semester and I decided that since I could technically do cardio stuff outside the gym, I should use the machines and weights. But standing in front of the mirror, made me SO self conscious. I'm like twice the size of the other girls standing around me and all I can think about is how freaking ridiculous I look. \n\nDoes this happen to you?", "summary": "Jealousy at the gym has me down and I'm wanting to know that I'm not alone. :)"}
{"id": "t3_3nc5bm", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I have no clue what I want to do with my life now or in the future.", "post": "I've reached yet another rut in my life. I'm a 20 year old junior in college, and I decided that I wanted to change my major from sociology to something in the natural sciences. I'm taking the classes required for a chem major, and I'm failing general chem II. I've done Kahn, YouTube, and tutors. Nothing has helped. Even if I did earn a chem degree, I have no idea what I would do with it. I can't narrow down anything that I want to do. I get really gung-ho about certain careers, but it only lasts a little while. Like, over the summer I wanted to be a civil affairs officer for the Army. Now I want to be a physician's assistant/radio dj/tattoo artist???? In sum, I've lost my sense of purpose. When someone asks me, \"Well what are your interests?\" I can't answer that. There literally isn't much that I actually enjoy doing. I don't even like most TV shows. I don't have a hobby, except working out occasionally. All of my friends are my boyfriend's friends, and I'm not interested in playing Magic with them for hours on end. I hate sitting still. I'm trying to make my own friends, but self-esteem issues have really been getting in the way. Without a sense of purpose, I don't feel smart anymore. I feel like I have nothing that defines me, and I have nothing to add to any type of relationship. I'm just sort of there, and I'm always afraid of being annoying or a burden. I'm just generally really insecure in relationships of any kind. I've tried the \"my next move\" website, and it really wasn't helpful.", "summary": "Don't know what to do with my life or even in my spare time. I don't take joy in very many things."}
{"id": "t3_22972b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] can't let go of my [20 M] ex boyfriend even after a year. I need advice.", "post": "So my ex and had been friends since his family moved to town in the 7th grade. We started dating freshman year of high school, dated for 2 years and broke up. Then we tried to be friends. The summer after our senior year we got back together and did long distance for a year. We had an argument when I went home for a break and went out of it single. No one knows I'm still hurting. It has been a year since we broke up and months since we talked. What's even harder is one of my best friends is his sister. Its time for me to move on, I just don't know how.", "summary": "I can't move on from my 3 year relationship that ended a year ago."}
{"id": "t3_hfg2i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm a 28yo man, and I would like to get into gymnastics for the first time.", "post": "Title said just about all of it. I'm 28, very athletic (bike/ surf/ snowboard) and I have always wanted to do gymnastics.  \n\nI like to do flips and spins off bridges and on my snowboard, and it seems to me gymnastics would be a great way to do those movements I like, in a controlled environment.  The end goal of this is that it would be fun, and make me better at these movements in real life.  \n\nBut is it too late for me?  Should 28 year old guys such as myself be content with just watching those parkour guys on youtube? Or can I learn the ways of the gymnastic jedi?  BTW, I live in San Jose CA.", "summary": "I'm 28, male, live in San Jose, and I would like to learn how to do gymnastics."}
{"id": "t3_3ee1eu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (34m) break off engagement with her (24f) over her reaction to my cat's passing?", "post": "My fiancee, whom I've been with for just over three years, and I have had a number of fights recently, but I've chalked them up to growing pains, and the fact that she's from an emotionally abusive household. However, I feel that she's been cruel to me now, and I'm not sure if I should try to move past it or if it should be a dealbreaker.\n\nI had a cat, and my fiancee didn't like her. Whatever - some people don't like cats (my mother was terrified of them and would go out of her way to avoid them...something about her having seen an uncle get mauled by one when she was a child...)\n\nThe kitty died the day before yesterday, and it's left me very distraught. Not only did I love the cat, but I inherited her from my aunt, who passed away just over four years ago. I'm so sad about it. I told my fiancee about it yesterday morning, and she said she was sorry about it.\n\nI didn't talk to the fiancee all day yesterday, but when we did talk in the evening, she was in a bad mood and just said that she didn't see why I'd get so worked up over a cat. I told her I thought she was being uncaring, and she said, essentially, \"I don't need this,\" and hung up. We talked again, and she told me she thought I was telling her how to feel when I told her that she should try to be a nice, supportive person regardless of how she felt about the cat, or if she understood it or not.\n\nNow I haven't talked to her since then.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "My cat died, and fiancee acted very dismissive and hasn't been remotely comforting. Could she really be marriage material?"}
{"id": "t3_u2a9c", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Advice needed!", "post": "In need of a little advice here. Back in 2009 my current girlfriend and I graduated from college, me with a degree in accounting and her with a degree in marketing. It took me roughly a year to land a job in my career field; my girlfriend, however, was not so lucky. Taking menial and tedious jobs she tried to make the most of it. \n\nFast forward to 2012, she accepts a part-time job and makes the decision to return to school. This time, however, to take courses for her to able to attend Pharmacy school.\n\nEnrolling as a part-time student, she takes the necessary classes she needs to meet her Pharmacy prerequisites. However, because of the weird curriculum of her university, one of her classes doesn't meet the Pharmacy requirements and so ultimately she drops it in favor of a class that does. \n\nTwist occurs when it turns out the class that met her Pharmacy prerequisite does not meet her university's prerequisite for the upper level classes she needs. So now she has to take additional classes just to meet those prerequisites. This of course means that it will take her longer to take her PCATs and ultimately longer to get into Pharmacy school. She doesn't want to be in school the rest of her twenties nor does she want to be burdened with additional debt/expenses while reaching her goal. \n\nI guess I'm unsure of what to do; I try to be supportive as possible, hearing her out, letting her express her frustrations but it doesn't seem to work. What are her or my options here? I don't wanna be useless.", "summary": "girlfriend heads back to school after 3 years of unsuccessful job opportunities. Takes classes need for her goal only to get sidetracked by her shitty university's scheduling."}
{"id": "t3_ythd3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my girlfriend (f20) and me (m21) broke up after a nearly 5.5 year relationship and i want her back.", "post": "we've had our share of problems but we overcame everything.\n\nover the last year i started to be too active in my own activities and i stopped showing intrest in her activities. i did not do this knowingly! she also didn't realise it so we couldn't talk about it \n\nlast wednesday we were talking about how our relationship changed over the last couple of months and how we became to much as normal friends. the reason was my behaviour, my neglaction of her, made her lose intrest in me in a intimate way. \n\nshe is everything to me and i wanted to do whatever it takes to stay together with her but i can't seem to make her believe it can really be done in the long run. \n\nwe agreed to stay friends, but in trying to make her believe i can change, i would only push her away from me and the thought of her being completely out of my life terrifies me more than anything\n\nshe is everything i want in a woman and there is no doubt in my mind that this is the woman i want to grow old with.", "summary": "relationship of nearly 5.5 year ended because of me not showing her the intrest i should have given her. despritely looking for a way to convince her i can and will change without risking to lose her as a friend."}
{"id": "t3_j73bg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Long distance girlfriend advice please", "post": "So here I am, at the end of summer after my freshman year of college. I got a new girlfriend beginning of summer, and our time together has been absolutely amazing. She was one of my best friends and I have known her since 2nd grade (although we only became good friends for the last 3-4 years). \nNow it is the end of a great summer, and I really want to continue this. She goes to college only 3 hours away, so it is feasible with my car to drive to see her. I have strong feelings for her, and as far as I can tell, she has pretty strong feelings for me. Unfortunately, she is very wary about falling too much for me, because her previous boyfriend wanted the same thing as me going into her freshman year, but dumped her for someone else two weeks in. I would never do that in a million years, but still she is wary. \nI am very ready to be in a committed long distance relationship, but have my worries about her end. I know she loves to go to frat parties and such where there is grinding and there may be other events where she needs dates where I cant come. I don't know how I am allowed to feel about these sorts of things. I know I for one will not be grinding at parties (I have never liked dancing with random people who are not my date anyways), and the only event I would need a date to, she is planning on coming to. I know it really doesn't mean much to be grinding at parties, but somehow it is something I have always felt uncomfortable about (my previous girlfriend when to someone elses prom, where the grinding was very close to sex on the dance floor). I have always had self esteem problems and I am not at all afraid I will meet someone new at school, but I am truly afraid she will find someone better, and forget about me. So, reddit, do you have any advice for a guy who has a long distance girlfriend, maybe how to not worry about those things, or how to make a long(ish) distance relationship work.", "summary": "I am going into a long(ish) distance relationship with a girl I care deeply for, what can I do to make it work? What am I allowed to feel about her grinding and going to parties with other guys as \"dates\" for the night when I cant be there."}
{"id": "t3_3zlvaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my girlfirend [28 F] of about 6 months, feels unloved at times from lack of public expressions of love.", "post": "I have been with my gf for about six months now. We spend a lot of time together and have traveled together. Things are amazing. She is absolutely wonderful and makes me incredibly happy. One on one she can see the love I have for her.\n\nShe is a very loving; hearts, flowers, open, individual, so sharing her feelings with the world come natural and easy. I am an much more of the engineer type and don't feel comfortable posting mushy things to social media. I'm not a big social media sharer in the first place and she is (it's how she keeps contact with family abroad).\n\nI know it would be very helpful if I just sucked it up and expressed my love publicly but something about that just feels forced and wrong to me. \n\nShould I have no issues with this expression? She is a bit saddened that I don't gush about her to others. I guess it makes her question how strongly I feel about her.", "summary": "I don't feel comfortable writing sappy things on Facebook and my girlfriend takes it as me not loving her enough at times."}
{"id": "t3_3mizjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like I've [27 F] fallen out of love with me [29 M] my partner. Need advice on whether its a natural lull or not.", "post": "Ive been with my SO for about 3 years now, and living together for 1. Over time things have gotten pretty lousy, most of the time in public I find him rude (in a careless way) and somewhat embarrassing.\n\nAt home we're hot and cold but mostly cold. I'm no longer attracted to him sexually and we fight often.\n\nIve been very outspoken about the things that bother me. He communicates very poorly, at all levels. For small examples, he will stand and say nothing during a household task, rather than help because I'm \"in the way.\" When he could just say \"Babe, can I get past so I can do X\"\n\nIts so many things but its largely that he won't talk to me. It's gotten to the point where I feel there is no potential for further intimacy because he doesn't share much of anything. This lack of verbal/emotional intimacy is obviously effecting my sex drive - and Ive told him so. Generally this helps for a few days and then goes back to how it was.\n\nMy question is, is this normal? Do relationships just go through periods like this and get past them? Or should I cut my losses and find someone who can communicate the way I need to? \n\nHe's not a bad guy, but I'm really not feeling it anymore.", "summary": "Nice guy doesn't provide emotional intimacy. Not sure its a dealbreaker. Maybe Im being too fussy...."}
{"id": "t3_3spm8j", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "ibprofin to treat sore throat?", "post": "Woke up this morning with a sore throat.  Drank some water and sucked on a ricola, which relieved the symptoms enough for me to go back to sleep for another cycle.\n\nNot sure if it was due to breathing in the cloud of mystery dust when I shook off the debris from the large dust mop at work, or if I just got a little bit of a cold, but either way, it's still persisting a bit after eating some food, showering, and having another lozenge.  It's not unbearable by any means, but I'd was thinking, hey, if I take an ibprofin I should be in good shape.  [But then I read of an experiment from a couple years ago] showing that ibprofin, in contrast to paracetamol, could increase the duration of symptoms, theorized as potentially due to a decreased immune response as a result of the reduced inflammation.\n\nThe methodology for conducting the experiment seemed random, and thus accurate, but I'm not sure if it been replicated, or if there is a more detailed report.\n\n>The randomised control trial recruited 899 patients who presented at their GP with respiratory tract infection symptoms. They received different treatment types; paracetamol, ibuprofen or a combination of both. Participants were then told to either take it as needed or at regular intervals (four times a day) and some were also told to take steam inhalation.", "summary": "Can I take ibprofin to treat my sore throat without worrying about making the symptoms last longer? Or should I just stick with ricola and water?"}
{"id": "t3_h47fv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Make me draw stuff, and save the future!", "post": "So, here's the deal:\nI should be finishing my sophomore year of college, but I'm not. I think that cleared that up enough. I haven't even finished my freshman year. I am capable but my grades are in the toilet, and I'm just now deciding that maybe I should use my *artistic* talent as a means of survival. \n\nSince leaving high school, though. I have lost much of my inspiration to draw! I'm not saying I'm an *artist*, but I know I'm creative, and I seem to have an absolute block. There is nothing I want to draw. That's where you come in Reddit, tell me what to draw, and I will do it on my brand new tablet that my girlfriend bought me. Also, if it makes my desperation sound any more convincing- if I don't put together a portfolio and get in to a college, I will not be able to pay for my computer. I just got fired from my carpentry job. Hell yeah! So, I'm **ASKING** you reddit, what should I draw?", "summary": "I have no work and don't go to school. Help me put together a portfolio by forcing me to draw you stuff with my tablet. That is, as long as I can still afford my computer while this post is up!"}
{"id": "t3_i9roa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My apartment was broken into, perhaps by landlord. Any advice?", "post": "I've suspected this for a bit. Today I walked in and saw an *onion peel* in the middle of my floor. In the middle of the room. Nobody else was in my apartment and when I came home the door was locked. I did not put the onion peel here.\n\nNothing seems to be missing but if my landlord is snooping around my apartment, or a previous tenant, or anyone, I need to do something. I'm not sure how to confront the landlord. Do I call 911?\n\nAny advice?\n\nPhoto 1 of evidence where the onion peel was found: \n\nPhoto 2 of evidence closeup of the onion peel:", "summary": "strange behavior detected, probably landlord snooping. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3323un", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make a joke...", "post": "This actually happened today. I visit a restaurant every Saturday, just so happens it's the same weekend that a cheerleader competition is going on. I'm at the bar drinking my beer when a family comes in and sits behind me at a table. They had their daughters with them and I guess the girls got restless and started walking around. The oldest daughter picked the youngest daughter up and put her in the barstool. Their mom said, \"Don't set her up there, she will be carded.\" I, like an idiot said, \"She looks old enough to me.\" Everybody stared at me. I was just trying to make a joke.", "summary": "I was sitting at the bar and came off as a pedophile trying to get a laugh."}
{"id": "t3_4d2eda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (18f) actually broach the subject of my feelings to a friend (20f/21m)", "post": "Just to start, so you understand the stoey better, I have Autism (high-functioning) and so I'm not the best at social situations or being expressive.  \n\nI've been hit with a sort of bad week. To recap, my girlfriend of 3.5 years left me, and I recently found out she was cheating on me for the last four months of the relationship. I also recently had to go to the hospital for severe headaches, ones that physically kept me up at night due to the pain. 5 days later,  I finally decided they weren't leaving and went to ER, where they gave me migraine medication and told me that, although they weren't sure why I had headaches, they guessed based on location and pain that I had cluster headaches. They then proceeded to give me medication for it and sent me on my way.\n\nNow, I've had an outpouring of support from my friends and family, and in specific, one person said to me - if you ever need to talk, I'm down. I'd really like to take them up on that, but I'm not very social or expressive, and don't want to come off as weird. On top of that, I just sort of want to talk to this person and have my problems organically work their way into the story, rather than focus on me and all my issues. \n\nAny thoughts, advice, etc?", "summary": "I want to talk to a friend who offered to help, but I'm nervous and socially dumb and don't want to seem needy or in general weird."}
{"id": "t3_4gtlnr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I stop being mopey and attached to a selfish boy?", "post": "So long back story ahead. Basically I was in a relationship for about 6-7 months (he's 20, I'm a 19 year old female) and then he decided he wanted to travel Europe and figure out what he wanted from life, so that meant us breaking up. It was my first real boyfriend, as I've been scared of commitment for a while, so he is the only guy I've ever brought home. The day he left we both cried our eyes out, and he didn't even want to leave anymore. We told each other no expectations, but I guess emotions got the better of us and we discussed that we would get back together when he's back. I've been coping so well with it up to this point because we've still had communication, it's still felt as though he's there. That's changed now though after he decided to avoid me altogether. We skyped, snapchatted, messaged eachother, the works; even while he's in Europe. Now I'm lucky to get a response back, and I asked him recently if me talking to him is making him sad, all he said was that he's \"all good, just really busy\" which I don't really buy. I've travelled Europe, and I always had oodles of time between flights, trains, car trips and so forth to catch up with everyone and read. I don't believe he would lie about not caring, but I think he's just hiding the truth. Perhaps he's over me? Wants to be single? Or maybe he just isn't infatuated with me enough to bother. I honestly have no way of knowing, but it still doesn't stop me from thinking about it all. the. time. The way he behaves makes me question whether or not we should get back together, and I just wish I could move on and stop thinking. I try to see other guys and keep myself occupied, but it doesn't work. It's just so frustrating to have the one person I finally let myself trust knowingly go ahead and further amplify my anxieties about commitment. It also stings knowing how happy he is compared to me.", "summary": "My first ex boyfriend who dumped me to travel Europe and left me with the possibility of getting back together when he returns keeps avoiding me, how do I cope when keeping myself busy isn't enough?"}
{"id": "t3_4ye94k", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I have lied about this in a job interview? Was I expected to?", "post": "I've always been honest in applications, interviews, etc., so when I was at a job interview for a job I desperately need this morning and was asked what my future plans were, I told the truth: I'll be in the city for another year and then will go to graduate school from then on, and so I'm looking for a 1 year position.\n\nThe interviewer stopped the interview then and said he \"appreciated my honesty, but [he] had to be honest with [me]\" and that, despite otherwise being hirable, he couldn't justify hiring/training someone who would be gone in a year. He said twice, though, that if anything were to change and I were to decide not to go to graduate school and put it off for a year, to contact him.\n\nShould I not tell interviewers that I am looking for a one year position, even though it's true? I feel like I'm screwing them over if I do, but at the same time, it's a temporary job and I have good references otherwise, so is that even a real concern other than from a conscience standpoint? Should I contact him in a day or two and say I rethought my time schedule and would like to stay in town for an additional year, even though that's not true? I feel almost like he was hinting that I should do that, but I can't imagine that's actually the case.", "summary": "Only going to be in town for a year, places don't want to hire someone that won't be here long-term. Should I lie about my timeline so I get the job?"}
{"id": "t3_2ipseg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my crush [(20-21) F] ~1.5 months, unsure of direction", "post": "So there's a girl that I've been talking to for the last month and a half. We'll call her Haley for now. I met Haley online, and we had been talking for a few days to a week when I decided to ask her out. She ended up calling the date off with a plausible excuse, so I waited to see if she would contact me about rescheduling.\n\nShe did.\n\nWhile planning this new date, Haley was, at first, showing ALL the right signs, basically giving me the go-ahead to continue pressing forward, possibly into relationshipville. A few days before, she calls me and says that she didn't want to meet up because she, like me, is fresh out of breakupsville.\n\nAfter laying the issue to rest, I continue on with my life, when, suddenly, my father has a heart attack. Haley found out about the event on social media (I did not tell her) and gave me a call to not only pass on her best wishes, but also to say\n\n\"Even though I really feel like a relationship isn't the right place for me right now, I still enjoy talking to you and would like to continue doing so.\"\n\nNow for the question. What is my next move? Is there a next move? Is she simply being nice, or could something be there if/when she decides she's ready to date again? Am I losing too much sleep over this?", "summary": "Me + girl + both of us getting over breakups = her cancelling dates yet still calling back. Something there, or nah? Still recommend reading everything."}
{"id": "t3_2hhdfm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I lost my job because some guy who didn't speak Italian in Italy caused me to be four hours late to work.", "post": "I am Italian and I just can't stand Spanish tourists. They are so ignorant to learning Italian before coming here. Today, I was on a train and this Spanish guy took my ticket when I put it down on the table to plug in my laptop. I asked him to give it back, but he just said something in Spanish as if he was confused. I called the police, but they couldn't understand what he was saying when they came. We were stopped at the Florence train station for THREE HOURS until they got a translator from the Spanish embassy to come and get the guy to understand. The translator and the guy went into another room, and after another hour I looked out the window and saw the guy in handcuffs with two police officers leaving the station. I got to work four hours late and I was fired.", "summary": "I was fired because a Spanish guy didn't bother to learn Italian before coming to Italy."}
{"id": "t3_2qg9ds", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my new interest [28 F] 2 months", "post": "edit: I had posted this yesterday, but deleted it because I felt a bit uncomfortable with myself putting it online. I'm not really sure if this will help, or just reinforce negative emotions. \n\nI had recently been talking with a girl for about 2 months. We had gone out on about 6 dates, and most of them would end up just crashing at my place, no sex we'd kiss and fool around a bit, which is new/cool. But through out the week we would text, not incessantly but generally throught a day or continue to the next day. Anyway she asked to just relax and watch movies at my place last weekend so we did, everything seemed cool, except an odd vibe after she left. But it seems like there is just a vibe of her trying to distance her self at thi spoint, if I text she'll respond, but isn't really trying to create a conversation or hasn't initiated one. It just seemed like a pretty quick change from just a week or 2 ago. Of course I've always been one to over anaylize so I'm not sure if I'm just doing that or not.  I did wish her a happy xmas eve and she responded and we texted back and forth for a while.  Then I texted her late xmas day (with some advice from a friend, suggesting I do what I want and not worry about others feelings) so I texted merry christmas, she texted back the same and actually asked how mine was, still not long.  \nThe biggest Issues I'm having are, I wasn't hooked before I started feeling her pull away, now I all of sudden am in a funk and can't stop wanting to find out if I'm crazy.  I'm also concerned I maybe creating a self-fifulling prophecy, and either become overbearing.  Or she could think I'm pushing her away because I'm trying not to text her... I just really do not know what to do/ or think...", "summary": "Recent girl I've been dating seems to be distancing herself, or I could just be reading to much into everything again. Either way any suggestions how I should react."}
{"id": "t3_373qsf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] think my best friend [25 M] is in love with me", "post": "I've been friends with him for about a year. He expressed interest in dating me, but I turned him down because I am a lesbian. So we became good friends. He would occasionally make suggestive comments about my appearance, but I put it down to him just having a very flirty personality. He can be really immature, but he had a couple of months stint in jail over a stupid fight with another guy and when he came out, he was changed for the better. He had matured a lot and wasn't flirty, or touchy-feely with me. He seemed to really get it that we were just friends and I would not \"turn straight\" like he hoped. That didn't last long. \n\nHe texted me the other day that he wanted to kiss me, which freaked me out. He's going to move in with me on the first because he is unhappy where he is living and I am not having good luck with roommates. It just made sense, but now I'm concerned us living together would give him the wrong idea. I used to drink a lot and he told me once if he caught me while I was super drunk, he would take advantage of me. I never drink anymore, but I have been worrying about that comment because I have been raped before and if he's going to be living with me... I mean, I really don't think he's that type of person, but still. Should I still let him move in with me?", "summary": "My best friend who I worry is in love with me is set to move in with me next month. Is it a good idea to live with him?"}
{"id": "t3_2dhao7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] wanting to be with a friend I know [19 F], but I am too paranoid.", "post": "I am a 23 year old male named Patrick who has been admiring this girl , Naomi, for at least a year when I met up with her at an anime convention. I hadn't talked to her much, and then this year about a week ago I agreed to do a partner cosplay with her(because I was a guy she knew through another friend). We did the cosplay and we talked and laughed. We had a lot of fun, but I am not adept at seeing signs of when a girl likes you. I have had girlfriends in the past, but they have all approached me so I have absolutely no experience when I am the chaser. I have her number and we have been texting a bit, but nothing too important. I thought she had a boyfriend, but I cannot confirm it. I wouldn't want to infringe on a relationship for sake of karma. I don't want anything sexual from her; I am just genuinely attracted to her and her personality. I am obsessed with her. I cannot stop thinking about her and when I do I go right back. I am very depressed. I am able to function, but all I do is listen to Lana Del Ray all day and cry wishing I could be with her. Now the easy answer is just ask her if she wants to go out/has a boyfriend/etc., but even if I was able to muster up the courage, I wouldn't be able to cope. I am extremely paranoid in relationships sometimes. In the beginning, it is fine...but if I see or hear something that threatens me or my relationship, I lose myself into depression, anger, and pain. I want her, but I don't know if I should have her. Maybe I don't deserve her, but it breaks my heart thinking about it. \nI know the obvious choice is to ignore it, but I may never get a second chance... Reddit please help.", "summary": "I am a manic depressive, paranoid person with hopes of dating a girl who I am madly obsessed with, but don't know if it is healthy. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_q3ba1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help finding a creative outlet, suggestions?", "post": "Years ago I had a job in the video game industry that pushed my thoughts and kept me active. However the past year I've been working for [Confidential due to NDA] but it's within the video game industry just more of a translation to a Lead Coach in Technical Support. It's in no way creative and extremely boring. This is where my problem is though.\n\nLike many, I excel in many areas but I am no master of one. As a video game producer, this is good because you have to know everything about well... everything. For instance, in design I can tell what is good design and what is bad, along with constructive criticism as to why but having me design it from scratch it just isn't my thing. I'm more of the 'ideas guy' you could say. I've written a few story lines and designs for a video game, though they can be books, short stories, novels, graphic novels, the premise is there for anything. Is there a way I can do something with this and have a creative outlet? Is there someone out there on Reddit who wants to be a professional writer but needs the ideas to begin with? I can tell you the plot points, character backgrounds, scenarios, situations, you name it I'm just not going to kid myself that I can make it magical and pop out on paper someone would want to read it.", "summary": "I need to do something creative with someone who loves to write. I can provide the ideas you make it wonderful. Thoughts on how to do this or maybe another creative outlet?"}
{"id": "t3_2nrxh7", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Please help. My 2MO will not swallow when given a bottle.", "post": "Hi everyone, and thanks in advance for your help.  Dad of a 2 month old here.\n\nDuring the work week, my wife takes the overnight shift with our baby.  Baby stays up cluster feeding until about 1am, then sleeps until 9 or 10am with one feed break about 7am.  On the weekend, I take one or both overnight shifts so my wife can have an uninterrupted sleep.  She has pumped several bags of milk which we keep in the freezer, so when Baby wakes up I warm a bag and give a bottle.\n\nThis routine has worked well for us for about the past month, but it went off the rails last night.  Baby had previously been awesome at taking bottles, but last night/this morning it didn't work.  She woke up fussy (hungry) but not unhappy, but had no interest in the bottle.  My attempts to get her to latch the bottle made her frustrated so the crying began.  I would walk around and successfully calm her and try the bottle again, but still nothing.  I eventually had to wake my wife, and Baby did latch on her boob and have a small meal and fall asleep again.  When she woke up an hour ago, I tried again with the bottle, and this time she would have both deep and shallow latches on the bottle, but gagged every time she had a mouthful of milk.\n\nI want to get this resolved, because it's important to me that my wife get a decent sleep whenever possible, and I also enjoy the all too rare bonding time with my new daughter.  Any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My 2 month old daughter is latching on a bottle but can't swallow the milk."}
{"id": "t3_4r9izc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my gf [25 F] duration 1 year, How to gently encourage new cloths/style/appearance.", "post": "I've [30 M] fallen into a relationship with a wonderful smart person for about 1.5 years.  In our year together I've found her to be an amazing and supportive person with a relatively good sex life (the year has been stressful for both of us so its been a little tough).  She is in the hard sciences and is extremely technical minded and thats great because we always have something new to talk about.  In addition to this we are long distance at the moment, but If my job hunting goes well I'll end up in a major city about 2 hours away from her (which I call a near distance relationship).\n\nNow I know appearances are not everything but its not nothing either.  She is very attractive, however she does not wear clothing that is flattering to her.  She does not like to spend money on anything trendy for example eye glasses that might look a little nicer even though the serve the same purpose as her unflattering eye glasses.  She has also recently lost a bunch of weight so right now seems like a good time to address new cloths, because she is going to be buying some.\n\nThe problem is I recognize that her clothes and choice in accessories is a very personal choice.  But i'd also like to encourage her to refine her style and clothing, but it obviously needs to be things she likes to wear and feel good in.  I'd almost like to just buy her some cloths but... sizing and this kind of logistics seams weird.\n\nHow do I address the question of style with out being insulting and further more how do I do it with out overly imposing my own taste?", "summary": "My gf is hot, but she dresses in lame cloths.  How to get her in cloths as hot as she is?"}
{"id": "t3_35gegt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my fiance [24 F] of 3 years, She wants to be nicer to me but doesn't know how?", "post": "I've been with my fiance for 3 and a half years now.  She is bi-polar and I have ADD and depression.  We both go to therapy, and we both (admittedly) have good days and bad days with respect to our emotional states.\n\nRecently she's noticed that she isn't very nice to me.  In fact she can be pretty darn scary.  Scary to the point that it affects the communication in our relationship.  I find myself unable to express opinions without fear of her lashing out because of what I said.  She's aware of this and expressed a desire to be nicer to me.  She said that she doesn't like to be mean to me and that I don't deserve it, but she doesn't know how.  She said that she's afraid it will ultimately ruin our relationship and asked for my help.  \n\nI have no clue how to help her be nicer to me.  Any ideas or experience with this?", "summary": "My fiance wants me to help her to be nicer to me because she doesn't know how (and neither do I)."}
{"id": "t3_24c0by", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [21 F] and I [21 M] are fighting because she thinks I am not her friend anymore.", "post": "My ex who I dated about 2 months ago for about 2 months is getting upset with me via Facebook Chat. I told her that I don't think having a tequila night with just her is a great idea anymore, (we planned it a little while back as an \"After Finals Celebration\") because we are both seeing other people. It is not too serious on my end and she is actually seeing two people. One is more serious than the other.\n\nShe is offended because she thinks I am ditching her as a friend and that since we both don't have feelings for each other it is not weird. I say that since we are both now seeing other people we should respect them and not hang out alone and get drunk. She keeps saying that I only liked her as a girlfriend and is very offended.\n\nAm I right to think that it is disrespectful to hang out with my most recent ex and get drunk when I have already been on a few dates with another girl.", "summary": "My ex wants to hang out alone and get drunk. I think it is disrespectful to the people we are seeing now even though we have not gotten serious. She says it is not weird since we do not have feelings for each other anymore."}
{"id": "t3_jq9ow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you run windows 3.11 on Dosbox? i've been trying for quite some time :|", "post": "I've been at it for about and 2 hours maybe less. Reason I want it is, I really want to play [Caste of the Winds.(winds It's one of my favourite growing up. \nI can play some game using dosbox i think, but when i try castle of the winds it says \"Windows Needed\". so now i need windows 3.11 or something since i'm using a 64-bit Windows 7 desktop.\nI extract the iso to a folder thats in C:\\ and then i'm confused on dosbox. I tried some stuff on youtube but it ended up making dosbox crash or the links didn't work.\nSo Reddit, I'm asking you :) can anyone help?", "summary": "Need help installing windows 3.11 on dosbox or any virtual drive so i can play Castle of the Winds***"}
{"id": "t3_2fp215", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] girlfriend of 2 years wanting space all of sudden [18F]", "post": "We began dating the summer before I entered my senior year of high school, her her sophomore year. It was great, no big arguments; that lasted until I entered college the following year.\n\nBeing young and naive, I broke her heart in December, asking for space. She begged for me back, and I obliged so we continued dating, being on and off for the rest of my freshmen year of college.\n\nThat following summer, when I returned home, everything was just like how it was when we first began dating. We went on trips, spent a lot of time together, and we grew together as people. When I went back to college this August, I thought things were fine. But soon I found out she went to a party without telling me, started flirting with other guys, denied it even after I read the messages, and now she tells me she loves me but she wants space. Reason being, she wants to enjoy her senior year, just like I wanted to enjoy my first year of college.\n\n Although she says she's not looking for anyone, I don't fully believe her. She says that if we do get back together, we'll grow stronger from this. \n\nI don't know what to think. I know I haven't been the greatest boyfriend, but I honestly do love her. I don't know what to do; I could either wait for her to realize that she does want to continue this relationship, or move on.", "summary": "Rocky relationship with girlfriend, who I love. She wants space, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_f7o6n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me decide between two jobs?", "post": "I am looking for some perspectives, maybe some people have had similar situations and can help me decide. \n\nBasically right now I am deciding between 2 full-time job offers. I am just out of college (community college) and they are both software development positions. \n\nThey both pay really well, but one pays more then the other. The high paying job is more get things done now, not the right way. No organization or planning, and I would be a lone wolf. They are a huge international company and thus there is HUGE career opportunities all over the world. It's technically a more challenging position. It is a company though where if they start to hurt financially I could easily see my job disappear.\n\nThe second job doesnt pay as much (still VERY well though), but its unionized, its a two year project, and is with a smaller national private company. Its highly organized, team oriented, but is working with technology I intimately understand and thus is going to be far less challenging. Its a company where I am likely to be kept on as long as I am a good employee there are guaranteed salary raises and there are higher ranks in the company I can work my way into. Not as much opportunity for growth as the previous company.\n\nWhat are your guys thoughts?", "summary": "Risky, difficult, frustrated and rich or Safe, easy, complacent and well off?"}
{"id": "t3_3kjhv8", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I need help getting started", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nI have been lurking on this sub for quite some time but this is the first time im posting. I need help getting started down the right path to losing weight. I've been saying that I would be healthier for a while now, but at this point im not even 100% sure I know what that means.\n\nA little background about me, I am a 22 y/o M that currently weighs between 385-390 lbs. I am currently working full time and going to graduate school (which leaves me tired and gives little time to do anything else). I am a former athlete, I was actually playing two sports in college as recent as april, but ive spiraled downwards since then. I was 280 pounds when I graduated high school and 340 when I graduated college. In the four months  since ive graduated ive gained 45 pounds mostly due to continuing my crap eating habits (way too much fast food and fried food) without really working out. \n\nI've known for a while that I needed to make a serious change, but it didnt really hit me until this morning when I went to put on a button up shirt for work and it ripped when I bent over. I know that this has gotten kind of rambling, but I guess the core question is how do you start? How did you break your fast food and junk food addiction and learn how to eat right (And what to even eat in the first place)? How do you motivate yourself to work out when you have little time and you're exausted (on tuesday-thursday I leave the house at 6:30am and get back at 8:15pm, so I feel like I never have the time to work out). What workouts did you do that you felt helped the most with limited time?\n\nSorry that this got so long, and if you read this far I really thank you. I just need help and im not exactly sure where to start. I just dont want to be so miserable and tired anymore", "summary": "I'm obese, dont want to be obese any more. Need help getting started with what to eat, what the best workouts are for me. Etc."}
{"id": "t3_2jp0af", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of a year an ten months, my boyfriend made out with another girl at a party while drinking", "post": "My boyfriend of a year and ten months says he got drunk and made out with another girl at a party. He told me right after it happened, but he was still drunk and kind of mean about it . Once he sobered up, he called me crying about it. He's never cheated before, and I don't know what to do.\n\nThe only other relationship problem we've had is a few months ago he lied about a few minor things, but we had moved past this.\n\nPart of me wants to try and work it out, but another part of me feels like if I do that I am disappointing myself and others. Also, I don't know if I can trust what he's saying. (like what if he wasn't as drunk as he claims? or he did more than he claims?)\n\nI'm not asking people to tell me what to do, I'm asking for opinions and personal experience both positive and negative.\n\nThanks", "summary": "my boyfriend was drinking and made out with another girl"}
{"id": "t3_2x7awh", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Who is responsible for the lawn? Homeowner versus Renters", "post": "So I, along with 3 others, rent out a house with a lawn. Here is the situation; Back when we moved into this house, we had a lawn with decently kept grass. The landlord would have a person come over weekly that would mow the lawn, pick weeds, trim plants etc. Last summer, we had a pretty rough heat wave. On top of that we had the city send out letters to every house saying if we watered our lawn and were caught, we would be fined $500 every time. Unfortunately, the lawn died over about four months of us sneaking in watering the lawn late late at night so we weren't caught. So now that we had a decent winter with plenty of rain, the majority of the lawn has grown grass back, patchy if best. So now the landlord wants to put in a fake lawn. From what the landlord has told us, to get government help, we have to have a lawn that looks passable. He now expects us to weed, till, and completely reseed the lawn so he can tear it up and put in the fake lawn. The question I have to you, Reddit, is who is responsible for the lawn, the landlord or the renters? (us)", "summary": "Who should be responsible for lawn upkeep and maintenance? Homeowner versus renters."}
{"id": "t3_1how9t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] Confused about being ready to start dating again. When did you know?", "post": "Hi, I'm a 22F, and recently I started dating a guy from my university [21M]. \n\nI've been almost exclusively single since my last long term relationship two years ago, but through the fall and winter last year I had a very serious fling. My guy [25M] and I fell very hard for one another over the course of a few months (it did not work out well in the end. He had to move to a different continent). It was quite a difficult break-up (if you could call it one), and I was really not even able to face real closure until a month ago when we spoke for what is now the last time. \n\nBack to my dilemma now. I have mixed feelings about this new dating dynamic so far. This new guy is sweet, very kind, attractive, and we have a decent amount in common, so there's no reason I should not be ecstatic about us dating. Despite this, I feel very vulnerable right now, and I do not want to get hurt as badly as I did from my last fling, so I think I'm clamming up a little bit. My problem is that I can't tell if I'm over-thinking this all, if we simply don't have chemistry, or if I'm not ready to be dating someone else. (Or even if it's fair to continue to date the the new guy if I'm having second thoughts)", "summary": "Had a bad breakup a while ago, but now I'm starting to date. How will I know that I'm truly ready to start dating again?"}
{"id": "t3_1ga9io", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [19f] ex [23m] is making an effort to chat?", "post": "So my ex and I broke up about four months ago after dating for almost a year.  We had a great relationship, and I know he was very hurt when I ended things. The only reason we broke up was because in my eyes he didn't have his life together (I didn't expect him to have everything figured out but I am younger and on a better track). Lo and behold once we ended things he started getting super motivated. But, feelings were hurt and we didn't talk much - we simply ended things on a good note.\n\nRecently we have been texting a little bit (he initiated it). So fine, that's great. We have been catching up and he has really gotten his shit together. Obviously, I'm a bit sour about this because I do miss him and it upsets me that I had to walk out of his life for him to become truly motivated - but whatever. He isn't being flirty at all, but I have noticed that he is making an effort to talk. For example: Let's say we text one day and at night he says something I will go to bed and not respond, then the next day he has been making an effort to get the conversation going again. \n\nThe other day he mentioned something and I told him I was looking back on our past emails and laughing and he said he had been doing the same. \n\nI'm not sure what this means... Or if I am over thinking things?", "summary": "Ex has been initiating contact. Not sure if I'm reading too into things."}
{"id": "t3_1z78qr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] feel like our club president [21 M] violated our privacy by sending out an email reminder", "post": "Someone just sent a bulk email to all the members who didn't pay dues in our student organization. They listed each of the member's names, along with how much they exactly owed in the body of the email.\n\nTo me, it seems like this is a big violation of privacy (thought that he should have used a BCC instead), but I wanted Reddit's opinion to see if I wasn't overreacting? He's a bit of a control freak, so I'm not sure if that's part of it or if it's me overreacting as well (or maybe a bit of both).\n\nDepending on what you guys think, I was thinking of sending him an email saying that this is something that he shouldn't have done and how he should BCC everyone's emails instead.\n\nThanks!", "summary": "private information (including how much money we each owed) and our email addresses were sent out in a club email and I think he shouldn't have done that because it's a violation of privacy. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_1u9b2n", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[F/5'10\" w/some progress pics] - Lost 90 past year, gained 10 over holidays :( Time to tone up!", "post": "Hey r/lose it!  Hope you all had wonderful holidays!\n\nOver the past year I have lost around 90 pounds and it was great.\nIt was a great year for me!  Lost the weight and moved away to a happier place in life.\n\nI went on a vacation to Blizzcon and Disneyland in November, and gained about 5 pounds after that.  My motivation to lose the weight was to be a qt at Blizzcon (lol I know but it motivated me!)  Following the vacation it became time for Christmas, and oh the goodies. I justified the goodies since I think I ate more chocolate in one day than I did the entire year...!\n\nSo now I'm looking to lose the 10 I gained and maybe lose a bit more and tone up big time! I want to be bikini confident ready for summer! That is my motivation, to *feel* hot and confident. Simple and sweet I guess, but a simple goal helped me lose the 90!\n\nI'm using My Fitness Pal again to keep me on track, so [add me: haileypo] if you wish to be friends! \n\nHere are some pics of the difference of 250lb to 160lb\n\n[Face](\n\n[Body](", "summary": "Wanting to go for second wind, and lose about 20 more pounds! So the more friends friends friends! Especially with all the newcomers, add me on MFP and help each other lose weight (oh dear that sounds cheesey) And any easy toning up tips?"}
{"id": "t3_3b6xym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My close friend [20F] barely speaks to me [20M] after a year away at university.", "post": "(Just to clarify, she is my friend, we are not dating.)\n\nI have a close friend that I have known for several years. In September she moved cities for university.\n\nWe hung out a few times when she came back home for the weekend and everything seemed ok.\n\nWe were talking less than normal but that's to be expected since were both in school but I tried my best to stay in touch.\n\nDuring second semester we barely spoke. I thought I could get things back on track when the summer started.\n\nShe has been back home for 2 months now, still barely speaking to me and I haven't seen her in 7 months. I've asked her to hang out several times.\n\nI'm not sure how to approach this, I don't want to make things complicated with her. I afraid maybe we just drifted apart and there's nothing I can do to fix it.", "summary": "Close friend isn't talking to me, haven't seen her in 7 months. And I have no idea how to talk to her about it or if I even should."}
{"id": "t3_3haw0m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by relying on Siri to wake up", "post": "First off, fuck Siri. \n\nSo here's the story..\n\nI love Porter Robinson. He's an electronic music producer and his music is just amazing. I had been looking for live shows of his to go to recently and Porter's show was just sitting there like a million dollars right on my porch. \n\nSo my dad decided to get me the ticket since I finally got a summer job going. \n\nToday is the day boys. My first live show for one of my favorite musicians. All I gotta do is go to driver's ed, come back home, **take a nap**, and leave so I can make the 7:00 show. Easy enough right?\n\nDriver's ed goes smoothly so I get back home and get to my bed. \n\n\"Hey Siri, wake me up at five\" I say to my phone. Here I'm thinking \"This is good. I'll be up and fully awake to enjoy the live show\"\n\nI wake up the noise of groceries being put down and my step mom baby talking to our new born. In a panic, I look at the clock.\n\n7:17\n\nHO-LY SHIT FUCK. I managed to do it. I managed to fuck up the only thing I was excited for that day.. for the whole break for that matter. \n\nI need some help guys. I've never been so disappointed with myself. Not only did I waste my dads money, but I manage to rely so much on a piece of metal that I miss what might've been the shining memory of my 2015 summer.\n\nIn the off chance that any Porter fans see this..\n\nIs he going to do any more shows in Japan near Tokyo?\n\nI want to make this right. Pay back my dad and make it to a show.", "summary": "Missed a live show of my favorite musician because I told Siri to set an alarm at 5PM and it set it at 5AM."}
{"id": "t3_3bfxnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31F] trying to regain sexual attraction to my husband[30M] of 2 years, after an affair. X-post from r/sex", "post": "Long story short I had an affair. The man I had the affair with is exactly physically my type. Even before the affair began (we were best friends) every time I was around him I'd be overcome with lust. Every inch of him was perfect in my opinion, and our sex life was amazing. I eventually left my husband for him, but things fizzled before they truly began because he's mentally unstable and he became a danger to himself and others.\n\nSince then my husband and I have been working things out between us (there were deep issues we had before the affair that drove us apart) and it's actually going quite well. We're both ready to forgive, forget and move on, but there is one really big issue that so far I've not been able to overcome.\n\nI am no longer sexually attracted to my husband. Physically he was never truly my type, but because I fell in love with his personality I wound up being very turned on by him. He and I explored our sexuality together and we had an INCREDIBLE sex life full of kinks and orgasms and everything I could ever want.\n\nBut now I can't get turned on by him unless I'm drinking and already turned on to an extent. If he tries to initiate it all feels wrong. I can't stop comparing him to my friend. I can be in the mood and my husband will kiss me and there's just nothing there, or worse, I get disgusted. My husband is aware of my feelings and lack of drive toward him and is being very patient with everything.\n\nI don't want to feel this way anymore, I want my intimacy and my sex life back and don't have any idea how to make that happen.\n\n(we are in couple's counseling and individual counseling as well)", "summary": "I had an affair, have returned to my husband, we have reconciled, but I am not physically attracted to my husband and I want to be."}
{"id": "t3_4yh7ov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[16M] girlfriend of 3 months [17] uncle (a cop) busted me smoking weed while i told her i don't smoke.", "post": "My girlfriend is against smoking pot so when we got together i told her i didn't smoke although i had been smoking for a couple months.\n\nNow a couple days ago i bought some weed and we were smoking in a park at around 11pm when suddenly two cops come at us, take our weed and ask for identification and so forth. I knew one of the cops was her uncle but he doesn't know me so he couldn't have told her already. I'm scared shitless and i don't know what to do right now. should i tell her what happened? Or is it best to keep my mouth shut and see what time brings?", "summary": "Got caught smoking weed by my girlfriends uncle(a cop who doesn't know me yet) and don't know if i should tell her or not."}
{"id": "t3_25oojm", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "US-NYC\u2014Psycho Ex Gf, a wealthy law student, gets control of friend's gmail account, uses it to send messages to herself and violate their mutual restraining order, he goes to jail \u2014 help me find legal/privacy contacts for facebook, gmail (google), and iCloud (apple) - need IP addresses", "post": "We have a lawyer who is helping us but we are still trying to find out the best people to contact at those above companies to request IP address information that will prove that a NYC IP address sent that email at a time when my friend was actually in California.  \n\nThe worst part is that my friend was just completely unprepared to deal with her level of legal expertise... She's **got him thrown in jail.** She **stole his dog** and then used her legal expertise to crush him in court when he sued her to get the dog back...\n\nAfter the court case she **used his stolen Facebook account** to write \"Thanks for helping me lose the court case!!!!!!\" and tagged all the witnesses that came forward to prove he was the original owner. She won the case because she found case precedents stating that the person who chips the dog is the owner.  After she stole the dog she had him re-chipped.  Boom. Dog gone. She's a law student and my buddy is clueless.  No contest.\n\n**She's been using Facebook as him to try to get information about him from his friends** pretending to be him.  **She took over his iCloud account** so as to text message people from him.  **She texted his exes** and said things like \"I always loved you and wished you would have my babies.\"\n\nThis woman is a polar vortex that is abusing her knowledge of the law.\n\n**Need some justice here big time.", "summary": "Who - address - number - etc* to contact to get IP address information from google (gmail), facebook, and icloud (apple) we tried several addresses on their sites and haven't been able to contact any one to help us."}
{"id": "t3_430z26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 18 M coworker smells terrible, but I can't go to HR because it is a cultural issue", "post": "We have an intern at my work that I'll call Peter. He smells terrible and I gag if I am within 10 feet of him. His smell lingers on things he has touched, including chairs or just the general area he has occupied. I can smell the air and tell that he has been in the vicinity after he has left the area. Basically, my problem is that the smell isn't really B.O. Peter is Somali (I live in an area with a large Somali population, so I am familiar with the culture) and smells like spices and I'm guessing whatever he eats and his house. I've tried to ignore the smell, but it is very strong. I've talked to co-workers and apparently since this is not a body odor issue but a cultural issue, HR would not be able to do anything. Can anyone advise? The smell is making work a terrible environment for me and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. At the same time I feel like I can smell him on my clothes when I get home. I'm not trying to be racist - Peter is a super nice kid and we get along well.\n\n Has anyone dealt with anything similar? Did you go to HR?", "summary": "kid at work smells because of non-body odor factors"}
{"id": "t3_t54n9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst way you've cock-blocked yourself guys and gals of Reddit?", "post": "A buddy of mine told me his story a while back so here goes. We'll call him Ethan, because that's his name, and he'd somehow managed to bring an older girl round his house. He was in Year 10 and she was in Year 11 (basically he was 15 she was 16). She asked him if he wanted to 'get off' (not sure if you guys on the other side of the pond use this phrase but she was basically asking if he wanted a handjob) and he replied 'No thanks I can do it by myself'. Much face-palming occurred when he realised what he'd done.", "summary": "An older girl asked my buddy if he wanted a handjob and he turned her down insisting he can do it by himself."}
{"id": "t3_1f8nod", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Adoption is the wrong choice for most of the kids I work with...", "post": "I work in special education, specifically with emotionally disturbed kids. The past 6 months all of my students who were in foster found potential permanent homes. Sounds great right? Even better, all of those homes ended up working out, in each case the new parents were ready to sign the dotted line and take on the responsibility of a victim of trauma. Even better still; all but one of the families were in district, so I would be able to continue working with the students (some of them I've been with for 4 years now). Can this get any better? Yes, my students would finally have someone to call \"Mom\" or \"Dad\" or both. \n\nOnly we discovered a problem, a major problem. Once an adoption is finalized, all funding and resources coming from the state to pay for things like Therapy are completely cut. That means you take a child who from birth to the age of 5 was sexually and physically abused, put them into the system, get them finally comfortable opening up to a therapist, get the ball rolling so they are making serious educational and emotional progress, find them a placement, then cut all those supports out from underneath them. How is that fair to the child or the families who want to adopt those children? \n\nJust today I had a meeting with the entire support team for one of these children and, being the case manager I had to inform the potential adoptive parents that the entire financial burden of continued treatment will be solely on them. Basically, I have to help these people cheat the system in order to best serve my students. It feels really unethical to me, and I feel like it really disappoints the students when they're not officially adopted, they crave safe permanency. \n\nThe only silver lining in this is that in all the cases I've worked with, the county has agreed to allow these new families to be the new foster families and these students DO have a permanent home, and finally someone to call \"mom\" or \"dad,\" when they're ready to.", "summary": "In Ohio, if you adopt, financial support for any therapy for your adopted child gets cut immediately upon the paperwork being processed. I have to tell potential adopters this information."}
{"id": "t3_1j6iss", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Operating Mechanical/Mechanical Operator/Auxiliary Operator for Natural Gas Plants, NYC", "post": "I recently got an interview request from a plant in Staten Island, unexpectedly. I'm two classes from my A.S. but have Nuclear Power School from the Navy under my belt (medically discharged before Prototype). \nWhat kind of a salary should I request? I look up salaries on GlassDoor and whatever, and the average salary seems to be around $50,000, but I don't know how I feel about requesting that much. \nAlso, I'm from California and have never been more north of Charleston, SC (where I live). When I go to the interview this week, what should I scout out?\nIf I get a job offer, should I live on Staten Island, or use mass transit from NJ somewhere?", "summary": "Any utility/NYC area guys have interview/living situation advice? Thanks for your time."}
{"id": "t3_10hva0", "subreddit": "self", "title": "18 no direction in life after dropping out of law school", "post": "I'm 18, finished high school with great grades and entered law school (Australian so people can enter right out of high school) but it's a course I feel little conncetion to and with limited career opportunities at the moment. I skipped a year of high school so had a spare year and decided to try it out. Little was lost and I developed my thinking skills in law but I've decided to drop out and have no idea what to study.\n\nI enjoy learning and connecting different fields of human study and find it near impossible to limit myself to one topic and area, for that reason history is by far my best subject as that reflects the interwoven nature of the world and want to help the world with whatever I do. What direction can an intelligent young adult take in university if this is the way he sees the world? I feel like with near limitless choice I'll end up making the wrong choices and be miserable.", "summary": "Dropped out of law school, passionate about everything so at a loss for what to study and what direction to take my life"}
{"id": "t3_lftyo", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "9 year old dog, started leaving dingle berries", "post": "My dog is %100 house trained, she has only pissed in our house once and it was a dominance thing with a friends dog.  In the past year she has been leaving tiny dingle berries, about blue berry sized around the house.  This is not a frequent occurrence, around once a month.  I am worried as she is getting older she might have further problems.  Its not like she squats or asks to go out, they just seem to fall out.  We are with her pretty much 24/7, so she can go outside to do her thing whenever she wants.\n\nI am pretty sure this is not a food thing, she has been eating the same food for many years, she is fed Natural Balance Potato Duck formula, and really doesn't ever have stomach problems.\n\nShe is a border collie, 55lb rescued at 10mo.", "summary": "is my dog developing a an incontinence problem, getting worse with age?"}
{"id": "t3_2q4ufc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my [22/F] 2 years, We're taking a break after some cheating, other relationship issues", "post": "My girlfriend and I have/had been dating for 2 years. We recently made some major life moves - graduated from college, moved to NYC, dealt with employment/unemployment. She cheated on me. We were having some issues with my unemployment, paying the bills, feeling tied down and burdened. So I broke up with her. A few days later we decided that breaking up wasn't really what we wanted so now we're taking a break.\n\nBy break I mean - us moving into separate apartments, speaking as little as possible outside of logistical stuff, both working on getting our lives together independently, figuring out what we need both from one another and from life at large. We're going to reassess the situation in mid-February. So far, I've been able to get myself a fulltime job in my field and sign up with a ceramics studio - both of which are a pretty big deal for me, I'll spare you the details. \n\nBasically I'm asking for advice from those who have taken a break. If we do get back together, how do I just pick up where we left off? How do I get over the cheating? What if I want to get back together and she does nice or vice versa. Any advice or personal experience related to this will be helpful. Thanks a lot.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are taking a break. Any advice for dealing with a break/getting back together after time apart."}
{"id": "t3_ohafx", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Legal advice please, girlfriend's stepmother withholding things left in an \"unofficial\" will.", "post": "Here's a little bit of backstory:\n\nHer father was diagnosed with cancer two or so years ago and passed away around a month ago.  He left the family with a legal will, signed by a notary, the stepmother, and her son, that gave her the house and cars.  We aren't really worried about those things.  He also left an \"unofficial\" will, a notepad with names and things that they received from him, that was signed by him and a handful of other people, but not notarized.\n\nMy girlfriend moved into her apartment a few days ago and found a box of things that the stepmother had thrown into her car.  The box was filled with all kinds of crap that she didn't want from the house that the stepmother was just trying to clear out.  None of the things from the unofficial will were in the box.\n\nMy girlfriend then called the stepmother to ask her if she could come over and get the things that really mattered to her, various sentimental items, and a handful of crafting things.  After that phone call, the stepmother never picked up her phone again if she or I called to ask her about coming over to get the things.\n\nWe heard last night that the stepmother was planning on boxing up most of the house and throwing it all away.  My girlfriend and I came home from our college to go over to the house and the stepmother wasn't there.  We waited around for a little bit and when she got home, she told us if we didn't leave the property that she was going to call the police and have us arrested.", "summary": "girlfriend's stepmother is withholding things from an unofficial will and threatening to call the police when we go over there."}
{"id": "t3_1t1b5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[23 F] tell the difference, or turn \"bro talk\" into flirting. [22 M] in this case.", "post": "I am in a male dominated field and have frequently been seen as \"one of the guys.\" Generally speaking I'm fine with this, but occasionally it becomes a problem. I can't really tell the difference between this aforementioned bro talk or flirting. \n\nIn this case, this guy and I have started talking on some mutual interests, Namely cars and racing. There has been a few decent conversation, occasionally turned teasing. Normally I'd consider that type of teasing to be on the flirty scale, but it occurred to me that it's well within the guy talk range. (or maybe it's not actually and I don't  really know how guys talk). \n\nI'm interested in this guy, but not overly so. So I don't want to just come out and say it just yet, because yes, I know using your mouth words is really the best option, but barring that, how do you tell if it's flirting, and more importantly, how do I make it flirting?", "summary": "Turning guy talk into flirting talk. How do?"}
{"id": "t3_23f1be", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not listening to my dog", "post": "So I've been seeing this girl I met through my buddy and his wife and she is a very sweet and kind. We decided tonight we'd go to my place to watch a movie. \n\nA little backstory:\n\nI have a 4 Year old black Newfoundland dog. They're rather large, but they're big sweethearts. The only downside is that they drool a lot. When he has to go out, he will come up to you put his head down and look at you with the most loving eyes.\n\nAnyways, when she comes in (she knew about the dog) I warn her about the drool. She says a little dog drool doesn't bother her, and instantly becomes best friends with him. Fast forward about 45 mins we're on the couch cuddling and he walks in and does his \"I've got to go out\" routine. But I didn't want him to get drool on the blanket so told him to go laydown. He leaves the room and comes back about 5 minutes later all excited and comes over to my guest. She puts her face up to his and gives him a kiss which he starts licking her face. Suddenly we both get a big whiff of shit. Now I'm thinking he probably made a mess downstairs and some got on his fur. She looks at her hand ~~screams~~ gasps, and runs into the bathroom. It was then I realized my dog had technically just shit on my guest. I ask if she's alright she came out with tears in her eyes and says she has to leave, slips on her shoes and jacket and just leaves.\n\nI've tried texting her but no reply yet. I feel really bad.", "summary": "Dog said he had to go out. I didn't listen. Dog had diarrhea in the basement, ate some of it it and licked my guest's face. "}
{"id": "t3_2jfc3w", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Self - Destruction ... In relationships?", "post": "Why do some people try and self destruct?\n Freedom? Greed? Curiosity? Is it being bored with a person? Sex isn't what it used to be? Did you suddenly lose interest in your partner? Did they recently gain weight? \n People in long term relationships could possibly get bored, or may just need to be reminded how awful the dating world really is. Cause its the excitement of meeting someone new and hitting it off with them that you are longing for. The new and exciting aspect of dating. Unless you are like the rest of the 85% of the population and just suck at dating. Then you might fall back into the one thats at home?", "summary": "If you are in a relationship and its good, why would you go out and meet other people? or be on Tinder? What could you possible gain in your relationship by doing that? I am looking for answers on a topic that cant be solved. HELP??"}
{"id": "t3_4olh7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22 male) have been speaking to a (22 F) girl who has decided to give it a go again with her X? HELP!", "post": "Hi,\n\nI  am 22 Male and she is 22 female of whom the post is about. I have been talking to her for about 6-8 weeks and she has been single for around 10-12 weeks. This all happened this week and she has met her x boyfriend this week but she is unsure of what she you wants.\n\nI have been talking to this girl for about 6/7 weeks now and it was her who instigated contact and has been the more forward one of the 2 of us since day 1. I work with her but have been working in a different office the last 6 weeks but we have been texting/snap chatting everyday during that time.\n\nWe arranged dates etc but only went for a drink and met up occasionally more my fault than hers i have been moving house! Anyway, she goes on Holiday and we didnt speak as much but still did and i missed her and she missed me, we then planned a date that my heart was set on and two days later she tells me her x boyfriend had got in contact with her on the same day we arranged the date.\n\nShe has been with him for 5 years and hey broke up a few weeks before we started to talk, she tells me she likes me and she knows how good a boyfriend i will be but she feels like she needs to have another chance with him but her head is all over the place and she is still unsure, likewise she does like me and has no clue what she wants.\n\nWe spoke and i said my piece that they broke up for a reason, that im the better guy etc and i wont let herjust walk away without saying my piece because i want her and she said she thinks im amazing has no much respect but thinks shes going to try with him if they both agree.\n\nIs there anyway i can get this back on track? I like this girl WAY more than i should but this is the first girl i have ever been like this over and i want her!\n\nAny help or advice? No contact or keep trying?", "summary": "Have been seeing and talking to a girl for about 8 weeks she has been single for 10-12 and she wanted it more than me. She has now decided that she wants to give it a go again with her x one last time but shes confused because she really likes me. Do i make contact? Leave her alone? Need help!"}
{"id": "t3_3sgnio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it even worth it - I like him but he's ignoring me - Advice required", "post": "So me[24F] and this guy [30M] met on tinder and have been hanging out, hooking up, talking on the phone all that great stuff for about 6 months now. We've really connected with each other but he's still dating other girls and I'm not. We are not in a relationship but, have invested time and energy on each other to make things progress. \n\nAnyways, here's where it got complicated... he made a snarkly comment about girls he met on tinder and sex, which I ended up getting offended about because I assumed it applied to me aswell. I told him it came off rude.. and then he suddenly lashes out on me. We get into a heated conversation say mean stuff to each other.. things escalate.. and then I decide to profusely apologize and call him to fix things... but ofcourse he totally ignores all my attempts of communication.. so the ball's in his court but i can't concentrate on anything..\n\nHe was extremely upset and now has made it clear that he doesn't care or want to talk to me. I really like this guy and we had a great connection, I would hate it if this ended in such bad terms.. Is it even worth chasing this man if he won't respond to my communication? Do you think there's a chance of us fixing our relationship?", "summary": "Talked to this guy for 6 months, not my boyfriend, got into heated conversation. I apologized to mend things, he is unresponsive - 3 missed calls, 3 text message - 3 ans. msgs left"}
{"id": "t3_2a4wgu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [19F] thinks i[19M] sleep too much", "post": "Hi r/Relationships\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 2 years now and as of late she has had a weird problem with me, she thinks i sleep too much. When we are sleeping in the same bed she usually tries to wake me up by poking and hugging me after she has woken up, because she is bored/hungry/thirsty.\nI have told her multiple times that i need at least 8 hours of sleep and i can't walk around sleep deprived all the time, just to please her. She tells me that she thinks i should compromise and therefore wake up around the time she does, so she can get some food and not be bored. We live separately and with our parents, so she thinks it's awkward to go in the kitchen on her own where my parents and brother are eating breakfast, in order to get some food and/or water, even though she is more than welcome to do so and even take her food back into my bedroom.\nAll this led to a big argument today, where she told me all this stuff about how i should compromise and wake up at least for 5 min. so she could get something to eat. I had to tell her again that my body need at least 8 hours of sleep and i wish we had the same 'sleep pattern' but i really can't help it. It ended with her not wanting to talk about it and going home before getting anything to eat at my place. So is this normal? I don't really know what to do, on one hand i think it's ridiculous that i should compromise my sleep like that, but on the other hand i don't really know if this is a common thing, i'm hoping some of you might be able to help me find the answer :)", "summary": "Girlfriend wants me to compromise my sleep so she can eat and not be bored."}
{"id": "t3_1n05u4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Nervous and unsure, help with asking my (M/17) crush (16/F) out?", "post": "Hi, so I've known this girl now for probably about 8 months or so and I'd say we're pretty good friends. We chat regularly and had some pretty private conversations. Thing is I have no clue with telling when a girl likes you. I'm horrid with girls. \n\nNow my best friends have been pushing me to simply tell her exactly how I feel and I've been too damn nervous about ruining our friendship, especially since I value it so much. Now one of my best friends has threatened that if I don't tell her myself within a week, that he'll tell her for me. (Now whether he would actually go through with that is like a 50/50 chance). \n\nSo I guess I was just wondering if anyone had some advice that would help me with asking my crush out, hopefully in a way that if she rejects me we can remain friends. \n(If it helps any she's a huge BBC Sherlock fan.)", "summary": "Crush on a girl I've known for almost a year, extremely nervous about ruining friendship by asking her out. Seeking advice on how I should ask her out."}
{"id": "t3_fznqx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Question for the ladies: What are girls thinking when you give someone a phone number on a night out (when you are already in a relationship)?", "post": "Hi ya'll (Mr. ThrowAwayAccountHere),\n\nTwo weeks ago, after my weekly regimen of climbing on Saturday afternoons, I was totally exhausted and ready for a chill evening with a few nice beers (Samichlaus is hella good).\n\nI get a phone call from another friend telling me to go out and as Intergalatic law dictates that spontaneous nights out are always the best, I decided to go. All in all, I had a blast and after running on a small rejection streak I get a phone number without asking for it. It was quite a shock and I thought that my luck must have changed!\n\nI promised to call and did so but sadly did not go out the following week since I was out of town. Fast forward to last night, I sent an SMS to confirm with her if she wanted to go out today; got a reply saying that she's in a new relationship and doesn't know what to do.\n\nTotally understandable that some people might lead another the wrong way for a number of different reasons:\n- unhappy relationship\n- feels exciting\n- wants to be the center of attention\n- plain drunkenness? why-not-what-the-heck-he-seems-nice?\n\nUnder what circumstances do you normally give out phone numbers? (This is research so I can see what type of people to avoid calling and getting hurt again.)", "summary": "I got hurt while trying to rescue baby seals from being eating by baby polar bears whilst on my extremist stint with Green Peace. It really hurts a bit inside... ;_;"}
{"id": "t3_4s25js", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] think a guy [20] I made friends with is becoming obsessed with me", "post": "So I met this guy last week on a course we're both doing and he seemed really nice and he showed me around a bit, then insisted he walk home with me as well, which was perhaps a little unusual but I just turned 18 and am in a city I don't know well so I guess it was reasonable. \n\nThen a day later we hung out with another guy from the course and we agreed to go back to guy As place for a little while but I started to feel ill and he still seemed really insistant that I come over and the other guy even remarked on it. When I convinced him that I wanted to go home he again insisted on walking me most of the way home, even when the other guy who could tell I was uncomfortable with it tried to put him off. Now hes messaging me a lot. \n\nI've never had to handle anything like it and I don't have any romantic interest in the guy whats the best way to let him down easily, I've heard horror stories about this kind of thing so I don't want to let it progress", "summary": "how do I tell a guy I'm not interested when he seems a little too interested"}
{"id": "t3_u9ypj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think I'm the victim of possible insurance fraud and identity theft", "post": "a few months ago, i got a letter in the mail from an insurance company saying that i was in an auto accident in a nearby city, which was false. the letter was addressed to a made up first name with the same first initial, and my last name (and obviously to my exact address). i emailed the agent at the insurance company, and cc'd the insurance fraud division in my state. the fraud division never replied to this or any further emails.\n\ni eventually heard back from the insurance agent, and she asked for me to scan and email back the letters that SHE had sent me (!). then the DMV sends me a letter saying that my license was about to be suspended because i was not responding to this accident report. well, not me exactly, but the fake me. i replied to the agent with the info, and shortly after, she replied with this:\n\n> Hello,\nThank you for sending copies of the letters sent to you.  We have checked our file and these letters were intended for a XYZ who was a driver involved in an accident with our insured.  He provided this address (the ones on the letter) to our policy holder at the time of the accident.  You may disregard these letters and we will update our claim file to reflect the address we have is incorrect.\nShould you have any other questions, please contact us at the number below.\n\ni then replied to the dmv and sent them the whole stack of correspondence, saying they had the wrong person, and i was suspecting possible identity / insurance fraud. the dmv sent back a letter in typical bureaucratic fashion, saying they would check their records to make sure they had the right info, and they would contact the other party, and mentioned nothing about the fraud or identity theft. shortly after, they sent another letter saying the party didn't respond, so this thing was off \"my\" record... for now.\n\nhere comes the good part: i get a letter from the dmv saying \"my\" vehicle was not registered, and it included the offending car's license plate, and the DRIVER'S LICENSE NUMBER. i was able to look up the plate, after discovering the smog check lookup in this [thread](\n\nso, what's is going on here??", "summary": "got a false accident charge to my address and a fake name similar to mine, string of emails leads to dismissal, but now i have the car and license info of this \"fake me\""}
{"id": "t3_4y0y7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with [24M] I've been seeing for a few months. Suddenly seems to be slow fading me - what do I do?", "post": "I met this guy on a dating app \u2013 we've been seeing each other 1-2 times a week for the past two and a half months. He's pretty phenomenal. We have a ton in common and get along really well. When we see each other we typically go on fun/unique dates and started having sex regularly about a month into hanging out. We haven't had any sort of discussion about our relationship yet. My personal take on our relationship is that it's casual but consistent. I'm definitely developing feelings for him and could potentially see it turning into something more serious down the line (but I would be fine with it staying casual). \n\nThings all changed two weeks ago. I had met his friends on numerous occasions at this point so I figured it wouldn't be weird if he met some of my friends. I was going to be hanging out with two of my friends (a couple) so I invited him along. The entire evening was awkward. I'm not sure what even made it awkward, but the dynamic and everything was just off. And since then we've barely spoken and I've only seen him once. I've been initiating all the conversations and asked him to hang out numerous times. He took me to dinner last week at my own suggestion (a week after the friend date disaster) and it was lovely/normal. Afterwards he invited me back to his place but he was tired and didn't want to have sex so I left shortly after. He's initiated conversation with me twice since then but doesn't respond to my replies when I do answer and hasn't made any sort of effort to see me.\n\nI'm guessing that he's slow fading me. But I'm really confused as to why. Everything was going so well for two months, and suddenly things changed completely. I don't want to continue to text him or ask him to hangout again. However, is it okay to call him out on the slow fade thing and ask him what's up? I wouldn't be bothered if we hadn't been seeing each other for over two months at this point. I'm not sure if I should try to address it or just let it go? I'm confused and getting a bit angry at the situation.", "summary": "Guy I've been seeing for 2+ months suddenly seems disinterested and I'm not sure if I should address it or let it go."}
{"id": "t3_1vjinm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(23, F) having recurring nightmares about punching/beating up my boyfriend (25, M), no throwaway because he knows already.", "post": "Last night I had another in a series of bizarre dreams that I've had scattered pretty evenly time wise accross our 8 months of both dating and knowing each other (we met online and hit it off immediately). Last nights was particularly rattling, and like the others was very realistic and I ended up making swings at my boyfriend's face. It's so weird because there's no difference in how I feel when I go to sleep as to when these dreams happen. I had one once after I was a little annoyed at him, and last night's, the worst one, was after we had an amazing time in the city seeing a concert and I went to sleep happy. \n\nWe are overall completely fine, he's really busy with his job which is annoying but I don't care because he's doing what he loves and making money, but overall we really have no clash of values, rarely argue (not out of suppression of any problems but because we really don't have any), and everything's overall hunky dory. \n\nWhat could possibly be the issue? I love him n stuff", "summary": "keep dreaming about punching my wonderful boyfriend in the face about stupid shit that doesn't even make sense and think it's stupid."}
{"id": "t3_4ag1ji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [46 M] hermit with [35 F] girlfriend? friend? I don't know.", "post": "Short version.  I'm 46 years old with emphasis on OLD.  Many miles on the engine.  Bad joints, bad hip, fat, and at best average looks.  I have a stable job but I've been single since my last relationship ended in 1995.  \n\nFor reasons that are not clear to me I seem to have attracted the attention of a far younger, fitter, better looking etc. woman who has a stable career of her own and zero reason to be interested in me romantically.  But given how isolated I've been for the past two decades, it may be she just sees me as a friend and this is all in my head.  So I need to figure out what the heck is going on here.  If it's just friendship, I can rest easy.  Otherwise it's off to Belize on a fake passport. Facts:\n\n--She has asked me over to her place maybe half a dozen times, but has never been romantic with me.\n--More recently while sitting in my truck cab she leaned in for what I swear was a kiss, which I dodged and turned into a cheek hug.\n--She's since asked me out to lunch and requested I ask her next time (not sure what that's about)\n--She pm's me on facebook several times a day and has talked about very personal things with me.\n--Most recently we did a drive out to an event and she hugged after and later PM'ed me saying she had a fantastic time and loved hanging out with me.  \n\nSo what is this?  Is this just how younger people are now?  How will I know if something more is happening here?  She is WAY too good for the likes of me.  And I'm way too old.  So I just don't see how romance would ever function here.  I mean literally I don't see how it could work. It would be like me being selected for an ascent team on K2.  A great honor, but also patently insane. I'd know going in that the team would just end up having to carry me back down and probably get hurt in the process.", "summary": "Old man 20 years single confronted by possible relationship, panics and wonders if he needs to flee country and/or planet."}
{"id": "t3_2jzotb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not wanting to fart in front of cute Japanese girls.", "post": "So I'm an international student at a Japanese university, in the Kansai area. Today for my architecture class, we went on a trip to Kyoto, to visit a temple there. There are quite a few cute Japanese girls in this class, so when nature called and I felt that I had to let one rip, I held it in. The fart built up, but I kept on holding them in, because who wouldn't? We hopped out of the train station, walked up the stairs, when . . .\n\nZING\n\nA jolt of pain shot through my stomach. \n\nZING \n\nAgain, this time even stronger. At this point, I was writhing on the ground in agony. Our class was incredibly concerned, and eventually it was decided to send me and a friend back to the university, to my dorm, and if I wasn't feeling better, to call the clinic. \n\nI got back to my dorm, laid down on my bed, as the pain kept on increasing. All of a sudden, I felt a little bit of air come out of my ass. I gave it a little squeeze, and, I kid you not, the largest fart I have ever ripped out my asshole, with so much force it actually hurt. And, what do you know, every ounce of pain gone.", "summary": "Holding a fart in front of my cute Asian friends led to excruciating bowel pain, then a fartsplosion."}
{"id": "t3_1jeqyb", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "WHY CAN'T YOU TAKE A FUCKING HINT?", "post": "Look, you are somewhat nice, but our conversations are dead boring and I don't even know if you are interested in me or not, so I can't say that I'm not interested back and look like a bitch/douchebag for assuming that you are.\n\nAND SURELY, SURELY MESSAGING ME ON FACEBOOK AFTER TEXTING ME MAKES A DIFFERENCE. I have turned off chat to you, so this means you choose to message me even though I appear offline.\n\nHow do you tell someone whom you've just had several classes with and never hung out with outside of class that you DO NOT want to talk to them without sounding rude and blunt, or is there no way of sounding nice in these kind of situations? I was going to go with something like, \"Hi, can you please stop messaging me, especially since I don't reply back at all? It's getting to be too much. Thank you.\" But I don't know...\n\nFuck. I would post a picture of his texts to show just how awful it is but I forget if he's a redditor or not.", "summary": "I WISH PEOPLE WOULD TAKE A FUCKING HINT SOMETIMES. FUCK."}
{"id": "t3_41wu5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[28m] tried to secretly get a vasectomy without telling my wife [29f] and now she's very upset.", "post": "We've been together for six years, married for about eight months. We have switched between different forms of birth control (condoms, she's usually on the pill, etc.) throughout our relationship. I wanted to get a vasectomy because we've been together for some time and very luckily never gotten pregnant (there've been some close false calls but nothing like her having to get an abortion or anything). We have both been DINKS (double income no kids) and both staunchly believe in a child-free life. We have explicitly talked about this over the years and have always been on the same page. She found out and now is very upset with me, four days ago, and barely responds to me. I had to cancel the appointment and am in a sort of limbo I guess. I don't want to do anything until I sort this out as if I do it now, while she's angry, she'll feel more hurt and angry.\n\nOf course I asked her what difference does it make, we're both child free, etc. She said it's still a joint decision regardless, we use birth control now, there's no need, why are you changing things, you don't trust me? etc. Okay fair enough, so I apologized. Can we talk about it now? She said she was still angry and put me off.\n\nSo how should I approach this? I have apologized since and bought her a gift but it's a no go. I know some of you might think she obviously wants kids but I doubt that's the case at all, we've been on the same page since literally we've met. Think I've just screwed up majorly. Advice? We're heading into the weekend again and this is one of the longest fight we've had.", "summary": "tried to get my tubes tied, wife doesn't like that I tried to do it without her permission or consultation. Want to reconcile and talk about it but she's not having it. "}
{"id": "t3_4r0hmg", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(Colorado) Moving out at 16? Emancipation?", "post": "So, a bit of backstory behind this post. I have mental health issues (I've been diagnosed by my doctor, seen 2 psychiatrists and 2 therapists trying to get help) and due to my mom being a complete control freak I've never been able to get the help I need. What I see is the issue behing my depression is my family, and my mom never let me go to my therapy sessions alone, so I could never safely discuss what I think is the problem. Every day at home I'm miserable, not because I'm \"a moody teenager\", but because living here is completely unbearable. My dad is an alcoholic, my parents blame me for everything, including things I obviously didn't do, mainly things my older brother did. He has always been their favorite, he gets special treatment while I get treated like I'm basically worthless.  \n  \nBack to the main point, I need to get out. I have a job (~$1000/month and my boss said I'm getting a raise as soon as he can get me one), I also have some money saved up from my job/lawn mowing in the past, I have a car that I bought with my own money, so i have transportation, but my parents are signed as the owners on the title because the DMV wouldn't let me sign as the owner (iirc they said I was too young) so I could see that possibly being a problem. I have good grades in school, I'm responsible, never drink or do drugs, and I just need to get out of here with my sanity intact and without me ending up worse than I am. All I want is to be able to hold my current job and attend the same school as I am currently, so I don't know what the options are for staying in the same area (Is there something like foster care I could go into? I don't know much about this stuff) I don't think I would be able to afford an apartment on my own unless I found one for really cheap (could there be issues getting an apartment due to no credit and being under 18?)", "summary": "I need to get out, have a job, have a car, I don't know where to go from here.  "}
{"id": "t3_fhbtp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit boys, please help me find vday present for my awesome gamer supernerd bf?", "post": "My boyfriend is AWESOME so I want to get him something awesome for Valentine's Day :)  His life basically revolves around cameras, his RSS feed, Netflix, Starcraft & various other PC games and his computer (which he loves more than life itself).  I'm sort of a girly-girl (though I browse reddit daily and have been known to play the occasional round of COD), so my expertise is more in the looking-cute-in-pictures, throwing parties, and pop culture sphere than in the technorati realm.  He's not much for material possessions and he much prefers to stay in than go out.  We're college students, so plane tickets to Tahiti are out of the question (I probably couldn't drag him along if I tried, actually...), but I've got a pretty comfy budget so I'm not exceedingly worried about breaking the bank.  He's such a wonderful guy that I'd really like to get him something nice! \n\nBoys of Reddit, I need your help.  All of my other boyfriends have been athlete, east-coast prep school alums, fratstars or some combination of those.  Not that there's anything wrong with that, but my current boyfriend's quite a departure from that whole scene.  They were pretty easy to shop for, but that's easy to give up for a brilliant, thoughtful guy (who the others most certainly were not).  My friends have been ZERO help, so I'd really appreciate any suggestions you might have!", "summary": "REDDIT BOYS,PLEASE HELP ME FIND A VALENTINE'S DAY PRESENT FOR MY TECHY BF :)"}
{"id": "t3_3c32iy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] like an older [19F] girl I met recently. Can this work?", "post": "**To clarify, the relationship would be legal in my country.**\n\nI met her a few weeks ago while hanging out with a few friends (18-19 yo), both genders; the majority of my friends are a couple of years older than me, and neither I nor them find this fact awkward or unnatural. In any case, we have been in two or three similar occasions since. We are getting along well in a friendly manner. I have not yet started pursuing a romantic relationship with her.\n\nWhile I have no problems in forging friendships, romantic relationships are a different story altogether; I was in a bad, perhaps bordering abusive, relationship for a year and a half with a girl of the same age as me that finally ended four months ago, and I haven't had a girlfriend either before or after that. My confidence when it comes to relationships is low. However, I really like this girl. What should I do?", "summary": "Should I pursue a romantic relationship with an older girl?"}
{"id": "t3_19wb6z", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm getting tired of Reddit's vocabulary use. (Kind of a rant, but not the kind that will give you a headache.)", "post": "I appreciate the effort but I can't stand reading something that is showered in absurd words. Most posts with this problem are really just the posters trying to be intellectuals, there's nothing immediately wrong with that but they start to include complex, big words, only because they can. I like to read well-thought out posts, not ones which I need to make a new tab and search 7+ words just do I can understand what the hell your overabundant text means.\n\nAn example of what I mean:\n\nReddit, I am afraid to inform you all that my posts are extrapolated to near maddening convolution. Though my intelligence is closer to god's than yours, I must admit that the quintessence of my success is my own will to read Marriam-Webster's dictionary for the respectful time of 3 hours a day in the past score of my life. Though my arbitrarily set definition of intellect is completely wrong, I take pride in knowing that under my definition I am above all of you agrammaphasiacs. I must offer that the bigots that roam the internet supposing that reason and abstract thought are the key characteristics to the intellectually affluent are erroneous to suggest such a superstition.", "summary": "I believe that I am smarter than 99% of you because I spend vast amounts of time memorizing useless words."}
{"id": "t3_48ks2w", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Building super claims I threw glass bottles down trash chute, I didn't and want to know how to defend myself. (NY)", "post": "Hey legaladvice,\n\nDon't think this will really warrant anything serious, but I want to know how to defend myself in case I get confronted.\n\nSo one of my roommates tells me the building super (who is known to randomly walk into our apartment and meddle, including randomly deciding one of our bathrooms was causing a leak in the apartment below making us pay large amounts to repair it) confronted him about finding glass bottles thrown down the trash chute. Apparently he \"caught me in the act\" because my I threw a small mailer package with my name on it right after he saw the bottles. He yelled at my roommate for 15 minutes on my behalf who claimed he is out to get me.\n\nNow for some facts. It 100% was not me. If it was I would have no reason to lie on this subreddit because I want advice that I can actually use. I always take out my recycling and trash together and definitely would never have any reason to add glass bottles to my trash bag. Additionally, the recycling is literally a 5 second walk from the trash chute and I cannot imagine why I or any other human would ever be lazy enough to not use it. \n\nMy question to you guys is, if he does approach me \"with a vengeance\" and start throwing about a bunch of potential legal threats, how could I defend myself so I don't look like a deer caught in the headlights or claim some faulty legal defense that would let him have anything on me? There is absolutely no proof except for his claim about the mail (which were not even thrown together). \n\nThis man will most probably not listen to reason and will hold this against me no matter what, I just want to protect myself, after that I don't care what he thinks mainly because he has held us to a stereotype of being \"rowdy college students\" since we moved in. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Super wrongly accuses me of throwing bottles down trash chute, want to find ways to defend myself."}
{"id": "t3_e2j5z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Letting a friend know how you feel?", "post": "I've been talking with someone in one of my classes for a few weeks now, and recently was invited to hang out with her friends and go out and do some things with them.  It was only very recently that she broke up with her boyfriend (he showed very little trust in her - he hated her hanging out with any other guy and thus naturally dislikes me).  We've only hung out a few times so far, everything did go alright.  Recently we went out with her and some friends of hers and a whole bunch of drama kicked in and I was just mixed up in it all knowing both sides of the story so naturally, both sides want to know the other side.  I didn't tell anyone anything that wasn't already established, making it clear to the girl I like that I haven't revealed anything she personally told me, and later that night she called me to explain herself and apologize for getting me mixed up in it all and that she just has had a rough day - which is completely understandable.  I later told her too that her opinion did matter more to me than theirs did.\n\nNow I'm kind of at a point where there are many branches to look at, but which one is right I have no idea.  Do I tell her that I actually like her (although in the past, I have slight doubts it's mutual - however I don't want to sit idly waiting for a long time never to actually tell her.... I've done this before and it never gets me anywhere).  This is also one of my only friends that are a girl, at the exception of the few people I met through her, and of course it never hurts to just have a friend that's a girl around.", "summary": "Girl that's a friend.  Recently broke up with bf.  I've never had a girlfriend (at 19 y/o) and have always kept my emotions more-less to myself.  Kind of trying to avoid the friend-zone cement settling, although it's very likely it's already set."}
{"id": "t3_2szuhx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [38 M] just started dating a great girl [29 F] three weeks ago. She wants to take slow, but I'm a sex addict.", "post": "Please don't bust my balls over this, I'm looking for some serious advice and help coping with some sexual addiction issues I'm having.\n\nI met a great girl a few weeks ago and things are going really well. We talk every day and we've been out several times. She's everything I've been hoping for and, for the first time in a long time, I can see myself falling in love with someone. \n\nShe wants to take things slow, so while there's been lots of kissing, there's been no sex. It could be a few weeks or a month before that's on the table. We haven't talked about being exclusive, but I can't pretend that my relationship with this new girl isn't special. She's more or less my girlfriend at this point and I love everything about that. \n\nMy problem is waiting. I recently came to the realization that I have some serious sexual addiction issues. It's ruined relationships for me in the past and I've made more bad choices than I'd care to admit. I've been single for a long time and naturally I love sex, so I have several FWB's and casual hook ups. \n\nI'm having some serious urges to hook up a little something on the side before things get more serious with the new girl. I'm making excuses to myself (it wouldn't mean anything, it's just a quick release) and talking to people I probably shouldn't be.\n\nI need to stay focused on what could be a very good, long term investment and not give in to short term fun... but it's not easy. I would appreciate serious advice from people that have been in similar situations.", "summary": "I'm falling for this girl, but she wants to wait before having sex. Are we still considered exclusive or would it be ok to fool around?"}
{"id": "t3_39j8lj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M]with girlfriend [17F] of a month, I hurt her feelings and have now split, but I want to reconcile", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nSo me and my girlfriend (If you can call it that) have been going out for a month now, but I was somewhat uncertain about me feelings for her. \n\nSo there came a day when she called for a talk (Friday) and here I tried to express my true feelings about not being too sure, so then we left it at that and a few days. I was pretty down because of the pain I caused her. She asked if I was okay but I sort of brushed it off while feeling down. I was out of character, and many people realized how I was. (Its really hard to bring yourself up, any advice to cope)\n\nFast forward to Monday, we have a brief exchange of returning her belongings, and the following day we spoke. She said she was hurt and even more so about the fact I never tried to contact her, and it appeared to her that she did not mean much to me, which is quite the opposite. This day (Tuesday) we were talking to each other for a few hours, but most of it was like our regular banter talking about random stuff like it was sort of normal. Towards the end, we went back into business and she said she was willing to see how this went through since she didn't know how much she liked me. Day ended, texts were a little out of character. \n\nWednesday, nothing much really happened, texts here and there. She was busy and I wanted to talk to her. In the end, I told her I would be there for her even if things did not work out. She said she didn't want to lose a friend over this, and also stated it would take a while to actually forgive me. Then we went into somewhat friendly banter and end of day.\n\nThrough this duration, I have been feeling like poop, and this is a new feeling for me (First semi-relationship if you will). I would like to try and reconcile with her but is it worth trying or not? Have I gone too far?", "summary": "Dating a girl for a month, unsure feelings lead to upset girlfriend and now split. But I would like to try and reconcile if that is a possible option. "}
{"id": "t3_4oxs0a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Differences between my girlfriend [18 F] and I [19 M] is making me lose intrest in my her", "post": "I've been in a relationship for about two weeks now and I'm starting to have some doubts, we're so different despite that, she still wants to be with me I don't know why. She's always out with friends or family, always has something to say and has a \n\u00ab strong personality \u00bb while I'm the complete opposite. \n\nBefore the relationship she told me we had a lot in common which turned out to be false and that I would need to impose and have a strong personality as well in order to \"survive\" and \"tame her\" (like wtf? Is this the jungle?) which I do have but not the way she wants me to. So because of her \"busy lifestyle\" she barely finds time for me, not that I need the attention but lack of communication is making me  lose interest.   \n\nI try to  reach out to her but she's usually busy or doesn't put much effort into the conversation which doesn't help me at all since I'm a pretty boring person. she can spend a day without saying a word to me if I don't text her then gets mad cause i didn't say anything to her sooner but she \"loves\" me. When we're on the phone she's often talking to someone next to her so I never really have her full attention  I feel left out and powerless and I shouldn't have to feel like that. Of course I've told her all of this already she asked me how she can make things work and tbh I don't even know cause that's who she is and I don't want her to change for me and I'm not worth it.", "summary": "My girlfriend is my complete opposite; our differences are ruining the relationship. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3wos28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (27F) want to go on a career break, fianc\u00e9 (29m) thinks I'm being selfish. Am I?", "post": "Hi reddit, I'll try and keep it short.\n\nBasically, my (27F) fianc\u00e9 (29m) who I've been with for 5 years is allowed to go on a half paid 2 month sabbatical next year.\n \nIt will fall in time for our honeymoon, and then he plans to just chill for the remainder whilst I go back to work (My place of work doesn't offer a sabbatical sadly)\n\nI thought it would be the perfect time for me to quit my job and go travelling with him for those 2 months, before settling down and having a baby (I want to do this by the time I'm 30)\n\nBoth of us earn an identical salary at the moment. I'm a qualified accountant (1 year qualified) and I think I'll be able to find a job quite easily when I get back. \n\nHis worry is that it might leave him the pressure of being sole breadwinner whilst I look for work, and we could miss out on a couple of months salary.\n\nAnother thing you should know is, when we get married next year his aunt will be giving us a substantial cash gift (she is very well off). Not that we're planning on spending it frivolously - in fact we would either pay down some capital on the house, or buy to let on a second property. But either way - we would have a 'buffer' incase anything goes wrong. We also have \u00a310k of savings as it stands, and our parents are paying for the wedding so we're 'ok' financially!\n\nI really want to go travelling... But fianc\u00e9 is saying that it's really rash and we're coming to blows over this. He also thinks it would harm my chance of getting promoted, but tbh I'm not that ambitious, quite happy to just carry on at the level I'm at. He knows this. \n\nReddit, am I being unreasonable here? Is my plan a bad idea?", "summary": "I want to go on a career break next year for 2 months with fianc\u00e9 before we settle down and have kids. He is worried that I won't be able to get a job when we get back and he is left as sole breadwinner, putting lots of pressure on him as we have a mortgage. "}
{"id": "t3_1p3e2c", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "girl set me up to ask her out but....", "post": "so this girl ive been into and I were chatting alone today then she asks me what my plans for the weekend were and i reply with how i have work then I ask her and she says how she doesn't have a single plan. kinda setting me up to ask her to do something. so I ask her to get coffee with me (were both big coffee drinkers) and she agrees and we exchange phone numbers, and then i text her a few hours later but she doesn't respond... I dont get why she would set me up then not respond. nothing happened between the time i asked her and i texted her to make her not want to. its obvious shes digging me also.", "summary": "girl sets me up to ask her out then doesnt reply to my text later the same day."}
{"id": "t3_3bx5ou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] miss my boyfriend [17M] and feel guilty about it", "post": "The title is confusing and I apologize, but basically here is my situation. My bf is going into his senior year of high school, and he has 1001 things to do. He has loads of summer homework, he's building an art portfolio for college and he's started to work on his senior project. I'm also busy, volunteering at an organization for my resume and working as a private lesson teacher. \n\nBetween the two of us, we have very little time to ourselves. That being said, we also want time to spend with friends, family, and us. Which all in all leaves little time for us. I'm not mad, I understand that we both have super important things to do. I just miss him a lot and I feel bad. \n\nWe schedule time for us days in advance, one of those days being this past Tuesday. He had to cut the day a little short because his band needed to rehearse, and that was fine with me; it's work and it's part of his senior project. However, I still got irrationally sad and I cried over it. \n\nI'm upset that we will see each other less often, and I feel guilty about it. I'm not jealous and I don't want to be seen as a spoiled girlfriend who demands all of his time. I fully understand that we both have a lot on our plate and that it's for the better of our futures. I guess I'm really looking for advice on how to cope with my sadness. He gets upset that I'm upset, and I know that I shouldn't be because we'll still see each other occasionally.", "summary": "Bf and I are super busy, leaving little time for us. I get sad, bf feels bad, and in turn I feel guilty. Help me not get so sad?"}
{"id": "t3_v2kar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend lied to me.. not sure what to do", "post": "Hi Reddit. \nMe (M 23)\nHer (F 19)\nBeen together for about 6 months.\n\nI'll cut straight to the chase. Yesterday I dropped my girlfriend at the train station so she could go to Melbourne to do some shopping. I received a text message from her a few hours later that she was on the train home and that her aunty would be picking her up and she would be staying at her cousins house as she had had a fight with her mum and didn't want to go home. She said she was in bed and was going to sleep. I said that was fine. This morning, I found that my phone deleted most of my contacts during the night, including my girlfriends number. I messaged her cousin this morning and told her to tell my girlfriend to message me when she woke up. I then found out that my girlfriend wasn't there, and didn't stay there the night at all. \n\nI messaged my girlfriend asking what the fuck was going on and where she really stayed. She then told me that she stayed at another cousins house in Melbourne since her mum had told her to find somewhere else to live and that she didn't want me to worry about it. (I should add that her ex lives in Melbourne, who she still talks to and has a kid with).\n\nI don't trust her, and I have no way of knowing whether she's telling the truth or not. She's lied to me before. Should I get out now? If she really has been kicked out of home, I hate the thought of adding to her troubles by leaving her. I've never broken up with someone, and I hate the thought of hurting someone.", "summary": "Girlfriend lies a lot, and last night lied to me about where she was staying. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1f7khz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (21/f) am conflicted by whether relationship (4 years, 22/m) has lost its spark, and I don't know how to deal with it.", "post": "My boyfriend (22) and I have been dating for 4 years as of yesterday, and I've been getting commitment jitters since around the time I moved back home from university. We've been long-distance for the bulk of the time we've been together. Now that I'm home I'm all confused about my future, my career (or lack thereof), and really feeling doubtful about our relationship. I've tried talking to him about it, but he feels that we're doing really great, and we agreed that we'll figure out the forks when we get there (in terms of career vs. relationship). He is the most amazing person, and I love him so much. I've daydreamed of us living together and having a family, and have justified my doubtful feelings by saying I wish that we met later in our lives. Last night though, I had a dream that we broke up mutually, and it felt oddly satisfying. I know this is just a dream, and it's stupid to base anything off your dreams. I just want to say that I am a very paranoid person, and have minor minor minor destructive tendencies (a major example is that in a zombie apoc, if chased, I would probably just stop and have myself killed because from the stress of being chased). So it could be me just slowly deteriorating one of the greatest things/people to have come into my life. I don't know what to do, I love him so much, and can't stand being without him. At the same time, how do you know when we've reached the expiry date? I hope I'm not in denial, because I really want to make this work.", "summary": "Am I confused about my future, and taking it out on my relationship, or has an expiry date been reached and I am in denial?"}
{"id": "t3_1d7vpk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Let's be rude and inconsiderate? Sounds like a great idea!", "post": "**Background**\nSo my roomate last year was a massive jerk. Foreign student who swam in his parent's cash. It was obvious that he was only in school just to have a good time and that as long as he passed a class he was fine with it. This kid would go out every night and he'd get back at 3 or 4 in the morning with friends only to make a shitload of noise and wake me up. He was also disgusting and the room would smell terrible due to his poor hygiene. One day I got back from classes and saw he was on my bed ( with his being right next to mine...). I politely told him that I don't want him on my bed. Then I spent the weekend out of time and return to find out he was not only on my bed, but he was in it... he literally spent the night in my bed. He also drank my entire bottle of vodka  and filled it back up with water. He never told me this until I went to drink it and was like wtf. It was near the end of the semester so I let it slide.\n\n**Revenge**\nSo the last day of classes come and go and I'm moving out. As usual he got back at 4 A.m and woke me up tons of times. At this point Im just pissed and notice I have some toothpaste left. I look into his closet and see this extremely fancy Louis Vuitton or Gucci hoodie. You could tell it cost a fine amount of cash. I decided to just squeeze out the rest of my toothpaste into his hoodie and squish it together to make sure it sticks and gets all crusty ( mind you this is summer near the middle of the equator, that hoodie wasn't gonna leave the closet for atleast 3 months. It felt good", "summary": "Enjoy your crusty hoodie, asshole."}
{"id": "t3_4pjps1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 F] with my husband [36 M] 13 years, he lied to me about seeing another woman.", "post": "Let me begin by saying we have an open relationship I know those are frowned upon here. We have been open for 4 years now and trust each other completely.\n\n_____________________________________________________________________________\n\nWe have rules strict rules and both agreed to never break them, one time can be forgiven but that's it. One of them is to tell the other when we have found another person so we can meet them and get a chance to know the person.\n\nI have been seeing another man (Ben) for a year now and my husband has met him. He had been seeing a woman (Jess) for about 2 months I met her and she was lovely and very nice.\n\nShe came over twice and that was it, I had asked my husband why and he said she likes to meet at her place. I was a tiny bit suspicious but I brushed it off as her still trying to get comfortable with everything.\n\n4 more months went by and still nothing I asked him again and he said she's not comfortable yet. Me and Ben were talking and he said it wasn't his place to say but he didn't believe my husband and was suspicious as well.\n\nNow I'm not proud of what I did and I feel pretty bad about it but I went through his phone (he has 2). As it turned out him and Jess broke up a little bit after I met her and he started seeing a new woman shortly after.\n\nThere's hundreds of texts and pictures of them and they both have even said \"I love you\" to each other. I never felt so hurt in my life I cried and told Ben and he comforted me.\n\nHe stood there and lied to my face every day and I trusted him but I was so blind. He gets home tonight and Ben left and said he would call me tomorrow and to let him know what happened.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "my husband lied to me about seeing another woman and I don't know what to do now."}
{"id": "t3_2qc3th", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 M] Would it be a bad idea to ask out this girl through facebook?", "post": "I met her in high school. She is 19.\n\nWe have both graduated and I haven't seen her in a long time.\n\nI work at Target. It was Christmas Eve and I saw her. I smiled and said the usual how are you? She smiled and gave me a hug. Seemed happy to see me and smiled. I asked her if she needed help finding anything and I helped her find a  nice carpet. She said thank you really happily and I walked away.\n\nIt felt great to be hugged like that. I'm awfully lonely and women never smile at me.\n\nI have no way of contacting her except through facebook. I was thinking of sending her a message asking if she would like to go out for coffee. Is that rude? I thought it would be a nice thing. Means I like her. Don't people like being liked?\n\nIf she ignores it or doesn't respond, that is okay. At least I went down swinging.\n\nI don't see how I could lose. It's just facebook. We don't know each other too well. I just wanted to get to know her better...is that so wrong?\n\nHow else am I supposed to connect with her? How else am I supposed to see her again?", "summary": "Saw girl from old highschool and now I want to hit her up on facebook to ask her out"}
{"id": "t3_1n2dqx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] I'm [20/F] worried about telling my boss [20's/F] that I'm pregnant.", "post": "[Link to my last post](\n\nSo I know that my post was just yesterday, and not a lot of people saw it, but I figured I'd follow up anyways!\n\nAfter I saw all your posts about how she probably wouldn't care that I was pregnant, it made me feel a little bit better. I mean, I probably became pregnant around the same time she miscarried, so that's why I was so nervous about it. But, taking into consideration that she had to reason to hold it against me *personally*, I decided I would tell her next chance I got.\n\nWell, today I had an appointment to hear the heartbeat of my baby. I've been feeling sick all day and vomiting (my symptoms have mostly been limited to a lot of nausea, and a little bit of vomiting so I've been able to hide it for longer), I figured I would need to tell her soon since I've been feeling sick a lot more often. \n\nIt takes me about 30 minutes to get to work on a good day, so when there's traffic I leave a little bit early. Well today there was barely any traffic and I got to work early. I figured this was my time to tell her. So I sat for a minute, and then asked to talk to her privately and I told  her. It was totally not what I expected. She was fine, she told me she knows how it is with the appointments, and that I just needed to let her know when all of my appointments were! \n\nI know it's not that big of a deal, but I just figured I'd make a follow up to my post from last night. Thanks, Reddit, for helping me feel better about the situation, and helping me out!", "summary": "told my boss I was pregnant, reacted fine"}
{"id": "t3_1p2lng", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/m] want to travel alone a few times in my life and my [26/f] fiancee gets really upset at the idea.", "post": "I'm not quite sure what to do here. One of my big goals in life is to travel to some more exotic places by myself. However, when I told this to my fiancee she reacted very harshly. She pretty much took it as I wanted to leave her behind.\n\nIt isnt that I don't love taking vacations with her, its just that I have a huge problem with putting everyone else's needs before my own. I have been on multiple vacations where after a week, we come to realize that I have bought something for everyone but haven't done anything for myself. I also run into guilt issues where if we are doing something that I wanted to do and she maybe wasn't the most thrilled about it, that I have trouble enjoying the activity and end up just cutting it short so we can leave. \n\nSo one of my life goals was just to travel places on my own, not for a long time, a week or two at most, and just wake up in the morning and pick a direction and just go, not have to worry about what anyone else wants to do or thinks about, just be me!\n\nI have tried having more and more conversations about this and she tried suggesting going someplace together and just taking a day to go off on my own, but she seemed really upset when I told her it wasn't the same. \n\nAny ideas why she is so agaisnt this? I know she is being good with trying to come up with a solution but in our relationship I have sacrificed what I want over and over again and I feel like on this issue I have to make a stand, it is a life dream of mine.", "summary": "Fiancee hates the idea of me travelling alone, I don't want to compromise on the issue, more looking for an outside observation than direct advice."}
{"id": "t3_14bpbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (M26) told me (F33) last night while have sexy times that \"I needed to hurry up, because of our new puppy\".. I am at my wits end with this dog! How do we get back on track?!?!?", "post": "So I got my SO a surprise X-Mas puppy for Christmas. All he has talked about since I met him was how bad he wanted a puppy.. Every day I heard it. So I bought him one a few weeks ago. His ex took his puppy over 1.5 years ago when they split. Since we got the puppy, all he worries about is the puppy. I try and train him, and if the puppy makes a noise, he thinks I am hurting him. He completely spoils the dog and lets him getaway with everything. He is always exhausted/grumpy (even though I get up with him every morning), never wants to do anything since we got the puppy and we use to have sex few times a day, and now I am lucky if it's that in a week. I am so exhausted. I do everything I can as this is all he wanted and talked about, but all he worries about now is the dog. Than last night, we planned on having sexy times all day, and when it came down to it, (dog was in crate), he told me TO HURRY UP!!! Seriously?!?! Reddit please help me.", "summary": "Ever since we got a new puppy, I feel like we have a child. I am struggling so bad to maintain the amazing relationship we use to have. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1q9gwj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guys: what makes a girl \"approachable?\"", "post": "I (22f) been single for about two months now after a horrible end to a near five year relationship. Although I'm not at all ready to really date anyone, I'm finding that I'm barely even being approached when I go to bars.\n\nMany male friends I've spoken to say I'm not very \"approachable.\" They say I'm very attractive but not in an approachable way, and that I often look difficult to talk to or hit on. Independently they add in different descriptors, like \"confident,\" \"intelligent,\" \"complex,\" and \"intimidating.\"\n\nAre they trying to politely say I look like a bitch? (serious)", "summary": "What makes a girl seem approachable or not and is there anything I can actively do to make men more likely to talk to me?"}
{"id": "t3_1hs3t7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Asshole owes me over a grand...", "post": "During the summer of '11 I lent a friend in a halfway house a few hundred dollars to be able to stay there. He kept asking for more money, saying that it was for the house, and I kept dishing it out. When I added it all up, he owed me about $1200 which he said he would pay back. I, being foolish, believed this. I'm not sure where the money went... he could have honestly been telling the truth. \n\nThe next thing I know, the guy moves to South Carolina! (I'm in Pennsylvania.) He wouldn't answer my calls or texts, so I told my parents. I had this guy sign a piece of paper saying how much he owed me and that he will pay it back. With this, my parents called their lawyer and there was nothing they could do about it because it isn't enough to have a silly piece of paper. \n\nFast forward 2 years of fighting the urge to tear him a new asshole, I finally confronted him via Facebook, and he apologized and said we needed to talk. I told him I just want my money and to be done with it, but he's insisting we need to speak first or \"nothing will ever get done about it,\" so I told him I'd call tomorrow.\n\nNow, I know this was incredibly stupid and, believe me, I've learned my lesson. I don't need to be reminded of my dumbassery, but I have no clue what to do. I'm obviously going to call him, but I have a feeling he has some sob story waiting for me and I don't want to hear it... I just want my damn money! I also don't know if he's gonna wanna meet up or something, and if he does, I don't know if it will be safe for me or anyone for that matter. This is a shady kid and I was just trying to help him out.\n\nPlease help Reddit!!", "summary": "Lent money out incrementally to a friend and it's been 2 years without him paying me back... Also, not sure if he's dangerous or trying to get another one over on me."}
{"id": "t3_206pp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] Don't know if I should break up with her", "post": "Hi everyone, thank you in advance for any advice you can give me! \n\nMy girlfriend and I are almost done with our sophomore year in college. We have been dating for 1 1/2 years since we started college.  She is my first for everything including kissing.  I think she is a great person and I do love her but I just don't know what to think.\n\nWe talk about the future and we have many similarities in what we want in our future but I am having doubts about our relationship.  My biggest thing is that I have not dated or done anything with any other girl. I feel like even though I love her, I need a break to experience college, both by myself and with other people. I am always thinking about other girls and I don't know if I'm ready to commit for life without testing the waters.  It's just so hard to give up something very good that we've had for over a year.  \n\nLife after college with her could be both what I want and don't want.  I have some things that make me feel insecure about our relationship after college and I don't want to make this too long but it pretty much involves her mother and my job which I get to choose if I want to move around a lot or stay in one spot.  I can explain further if anyone wants.\n\nThanks again!", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been dating a while now.  She's the only one I've ever had.  Do I stay with her or experience new people/things."}
{"id": "t3_4hd7wi", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Might be 16 but I still need a babysitter (16/M/5'11\" SW: 181 CW: 175 GW: 155)", "post": "First post- Check \u2714\nClickbait title- Check \u2714\n\nNewish (about half a month) lurker. Have been overweight all my life. I know my stats may seem okay but I have a lot of excess fat and my eating and activity habits are terrible. I lost almost 15kg (30lbs) about 2 years back but it came back and then some. This, constant weight loss yo-yo-ing and unhealthy eating+ no exercise have caused me to have a lot of stretch marks and not have a lot of confidence.\n\nBut I'm losing weight again and this time it's staying off. My brother and cousin, who both live with me at my parents house in Australia are quite fit and we're looking forward to attempting a 13 day Everest base camp hike in January of next year. This is my main motivation right now as well as looking good for graduation in November/university next year. \n\nI've been at it for two weeks now and I've lost about 5 lbs by doing 3 morning runs a week and 4 sessions at the gym as well as keeping to MFP goals even though I was very slack with it starting up ( \n\nWell anyways I wrote this basically to keep myself accountable. I'm not sure anyone will read this and tbh I don't mind if no one does.\n\nThanks to r/loseit for all the motivation it gave me and has given others. Keep losing people! :)", "summary": "I'm overweight and I don't want to be. This is my first post to make sure that I remember this on the hardest days."}
{"id": "t3_tzdjz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I'm unsure if shes sending signals or if I'm just reading everything wrong.", "post": "I'm a 19 year old male and she is a 19 year old female. So heres my issue, we meet a couple of months ago, maybe November and we hit it off as friends. I took some time to get to know her and I decided that I liked her and asked her out and we went out, had a great time and that was that. Shortly after, she told me that she wasn't really into me, I was a little disheartened but I respected it and I respected her for telling me. \n\nWe agreed to stay friends and since then we've continued to hangout and enjoy each others company, but I haven't been able to shake the feeling that now shes become interested and perhaps not saying anything. She's pretty shy and if she is interested, I'm not sure how she would feel about telling me, given that she's already rejected me.\n\nOn the other hand, I'm not sure if I'm just misreading everything. I'm happy with the way things are, but I would certainly agree to go out with her. Should I ask her out? I'm worried that if I've got this all wrong that she'll just cut off our friendship. I'm really confused on what to do.", "summary": "I'm a guy, shes a girl. We went out. She wasn't into me and we stayed friends. I think she likes me, but she doesn't want to say anything. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_43mz5r", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU drinking moldy coffee and throwing up", "post": "Happened at ~5am yesterday. Sorry for my englando, I am no loco.\n\nSo Sainsbury has the \"Starbucks Caffe Latte\" on sale, and during the past week I decided to buy two of these bad boys. I drank the first one on Monday, and bought the second one on Saturday evening, popped it open at 5am Sunday. I finished it, forgot about finishing it and saw that I had forgotten to throw out the one from Monday. It was half full, and that's why I thought that it was the newer one. I took the largest sip of coffee in my life, swallowed it for some reason and insta-puked on my keyboard and pants. \n\nImagine old sour milk, kept in a warm environment, week old, mixed with some instant coffee and added suggar, with some dark mold on top. Put a straw in that bitch. Sip it. Swallow it. \n\nTried running to the toilet, but the lizard escaped for the 2nd time, all over the corridor carpet.\n\nI live in a dorm with 4 chicks and 3 guys. The girls are clean freaks, one of them is vegan, others are weird like that as well. My puke has the weirdest, most disgusting smell you can ever imagine, and it's stanking up the whole corridor. After spraying the whole area with some random fabreeze-like shit, for some reason I can smell it even in the kitchen area, which is literally on the other side of the building. \n\nNot happy about the ruined pants, acid filled keyboard and the smell, but I expect that this will trigger some vegans in the house, so moral of the story: there's maybe always an upside in many situations.\nBut then again I'm reading all these stories about mold related deaths and thinking I might be dead soon.", "summary": "Drank moldy week old ice coffee, puked on keyboard, pants, corridor. Corridor stank up, vegan clean freaks getting triggered as we speak. Maybe terminal illness incoming."}
{"id": "t3_jl9n5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you live in the moment?", "post": "People say that living in the moment is how you really live, or it will fix your outlook on life or that stuff but how do you do it? I go through most conversations, activities, or even whole days where I can look back and have no idea what was going on, because while it was happening I felt like I wasn't even there. Ill be thinking about the past, or things that make me sad (not all the time sad, sometimes just thinking, but a majority depressing). Ill smile and act happy, but in reality in just in my own head and the situation has no effect on me. This isn't even for boring things, but things like hanging out with friends or doing \"fun\" things too. The only times this doesn't happen really are when I listen to/play music or play videogames, where im totally engaged. \n\nSo reddit, I ask you, what do you do to \"live in the moment\" and not obsess about your past/future/problems/live in your head.", "summary": "Title"}
{"id": "t3_rly1n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the weirdest story a complete stranger has told you?", "post": "Yesterday i was in the grocery store and an old man asked me to help him find something since he couldnt see well, so i helped him.  He then started talking, and talking, and talking.... He told me all about his national champion cats, (he even had pictures) how his wife (who was a chemist) had saved millions of people from disease and famine in brazil, how she was am international chess champion (but he could still beat her) , how she helped redesign the fiberglass hood of the corvette (apparently it kept cracking before she came along, and how she could speak 15 languages.  \n\nHe also had a bunch of stories of crazy coincidences in his life, like how he met someone in Peru who knew his neighbor from Michigan... And apparently is an amateur diamond hunter who has found all sorts of valuable gems in his life.\n\nHe probably talked for half an hour about all this stuff, i think i said ten words during that time.", "summary": "met an old man at the grocery store who either had a very interesting life, or he was schizophrenic...."}
{"id": "t3_3i4i41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [25/F] get my friend of 10 years [29/M] to shower?", "post": "My friend who I have known for about 10 years has been going through severe depression for about 5 years since his parents died. He sees a therapist on and off but is not consistent. He also moved to another state and I only see him about once every 2 months.\n\nOver the past 2 years he has stopped taking care of himself and every time I see him he smells worse and worse. I told him that he needed to take care of himself at first and just hinted to him being stinky. He would blame his clothes smelling or lie about showering. I've offered to help him out with washing his clothes or telling him to use my shower when he is here. \n\nNow its full blown not showering bad. I can barely be around him without gagging. He smells like piss and doesn't brush his teeth either. Our other friends have told him to take a shower but it doesn't seem to work. He just says \"I Know\" but doesn't do anything about it.\n\nHe is in the entertainment industry and I know that this is hurting his chances of getting discovered and people wanting to work with him.\n\nI know that this is something psychological because he wasn't always like this and I feel like this is just another way of his depression coming out. How do I get my friend to take a shower?", "summary": "How do I get my depressed friend to listen to me and start taking care of himself?"}
{"id": "t3_2dhij0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 29/F] with my husband [32/M] 6 years together 9, he wants to donate his sperm to a lesbian couple.", "post": "My husband has been friends with a woman for a very long time. She is a lesbian. We will call her Gwen. I have met Gwen and her current partner, Kelly. They've been together about 5 years now and they're very nice people. I wonder about Kelly's motives with my husband sometimes. She is sort of touchy with him and Gwen is her first lesbian relationship. But we only see them less than once a year since we live very far away from each other now. \n\nNow here's the problem. Apparently, before he met me, Gwen and he would talk about how he would donate sperm if she ever wanted to have a baby with her partner. So I guess she and Kelly want to have a baby and have brought up this idea of using my husbands sperm. He says it's an honor that they would deem his DNA as good enough for their child. The problem is I am totally against it. I don't want my husband to have another child (we have one, and one more on the way) with another woman. I really think this is a deal breaker for me. \n\nAm I being unrealistic? Is this a perfectly normal thing for them to ask? Should I be okay with this? I'll answer any questions if I haven't been clear enough in my description.", "summary": "My husband thinks it's flattering that his lesbian friends want to use his sperm to make a baby. He's willing to do it. I don't want to share."}
{"id": "t3_4jr1rg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Overweight in LC and want to dump $20K+ cash into taxable account for long term growth - advice?", "post": "Looking for advice on what fund(s) or ETF(s) I should look to for investing \"excess\" cash. I'm 32 years old making about $150K/year. I have no 401K and max out my IRA ($90K currently), hence the taxable account. This money is going to be held long term, and I plan to continue contributing $1K/mo for as long as my income remains at this level.\n\nMost advice seems to be to stick cash into an index fund or total market fund, which I'm considering (IVV or FSTMX probably, as I'm with Fidelity). However, I'm quite overweight in Large Cap already (through my Roth and also select stock purchases in my taxable account already - lots of tech).\n\nMight I be better served to split the money between Intl and/or Small/Mid Cap ETFs like IJT/IJH, etc.? \n\nAny thoughts greatly appreciated, thanks!", "summary": "32 yo with maxed Roth, emergency fund etc. (no 401k). Looking for best options on where to invest cash in taxable account with a portfolio already overweight in Large Cap."}
{"id": "t3_1o4ef6", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I wanted to jab my x-acto knife into his arm while he was sleeping.", "post": "I am a male. \nOne of my best friends was over and he was spending the night. He was using my computer earlier in the night to go on facebook and he fell asleep with his account still open.---\n\nRecently I had a hard breakup with someone that meant everything to me. She was very conflicted about ending things and always stayed vague and nebulous about her reasons. The most solid reason she said she couldn't be with me was because of our difference in faith, or rather my lack of faith in contrast to her faith. That I would bring her down in her faith and draw her away from God. I supported her completely in whatever she believed and I made a point not to pester her about it or make any objection/arguments against her faith. Anyway, there always seemed to be something in the way of her expressing her feelings for me completely.\n\n---back to me having access to my friends facebook account... I was curious and I looked at some of the messages between my friend and my ex-girlfriend. I searched the whole of 12,000 messages between them for my name and it turns out that I was a common conversation topic between the two of them. Specifically, my friend telling her that I was wrong for her and that my feelings for her were not authentic. He also made a point to tell her whenever she mentioned her feelings for me that she didn't have any real feelings for me and that she should brush them off and try to create a distance between herself and I.\n\nI did all of this while he was sleeping not a few feet away from me in my bed. I didn't fall asleep until 8 something AM and I haven't mentioned it to him at all yet. \n\nIt was dishonest for me to go snooping at that level but it was relieving in a way to understand what was causing her strange behavior and vague tones. I have no idea what to do.", "summary": "while I was snooping through my best friends facebook messages with my ex-girlfriend/sweetheart I found out that him talking shit about me and manipulating her feelings for me was the main reason she broke up with me."}
{"id": "t3_1m0a9r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/f] feel like I accidentally lead people on.", "post": "As the title says, I've noticed recently that I seem to unintentionally lead people on. \nI've stated to realise this because of a throwaway comment my housemate said.\n\nI'd been talking to a guy from my course who was a really friendly and nice guy but I wasn't interested in him at all. I don't think I explicitly made this clear, but I didn't think I needed to. Long story short, he helped me out a lot when I was struggling with an assignment and we went out for a drink a few weeks ago just to the pub (what I thought as friends!) and then when he mentioned going clubbing, I said I didn't have money and his response was to offer to pay for me... I'd be uncomfortable with that anyway. I told this to my housemate who said it was obvious that my friend was really into me and I always lead people on...\n\nWithin the last two weeks, I also started talking to someone I kinda knew from out and about and since then, he's been messaging me 2-3 times a day on facebook even if I don't respond, texting me quite a few times, offering to pay for us to hang out...\n\nThose are just two recent examples but, it's happened for a lot of my teenage years and I don't know if I can do anything about it?\n\nI think it happens because I'm not unattractive, I'm friendly and I'm not a 'typical girl' (as much as I hate typing that!) - I enjoy sports, videogames, comics, sci-fi and I'm pretty low-maintenance.\n\nShort of explicitly saying to people 'it will never happen' I don't know if there's anything else I can do, or if it's the guys problem for taking friendship as something more...\n\nI'm aware of how conceited this entire post is but, I don't want to hurt people and I'm not sure how I can stop giving off the wrong impression to people!", "summary": "I seem to lead people on and I don't know how to stop it!"}
{"id": "t3_hkcqi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm looking for some creative ideas for some good ol' fashioned epic mother FUCKING REVENGE!", "post": "Looking for some creative revenge ideas, the more epic the better.  \n\n**Back story**:  I live and work in South Korea.  Due to ridiculous cellphone texting capabilities, anyone in Korea is able to send text messages under the guise of someone else and have it show up as that other person (i.e.: you send a text to your boss from someone else's phone saying you quit.... internal corporate shit-storm ensues.... you get the idea.)  Someone somewhere thought that this was a good option to have on all Korean cellphones in the country.  \n\n***The REAL story***:  This past Sunday morning finds me waking up to a text message from a cute girl at work I am currently seeing.  It reads: \"im sorry, but i think you should get tested for herpes.  ive got it.\"  The next few minutes sorta pass by in a haze as I frantically search the internet for clinics, hospitals and centers that will be able to test me (btw, hard to find an open clinic on a Sunday in Korea.)    \n\nEventually I calm down, take a hot shower, and sort of reevaluate my life with my new \"herpy derp.\"  I decide to text the cute girl who sent me the message.  Maybe she can shed some light.  I write:  \"thnx for the info.  where can I get checked out?\"  Not five minutes pass when she responds with \"???\".  Reddit, I've never been more happy to see three question marks in my life.\n\nNow I call the cute girl, we talk for a few minutes about how she didn't send it to me, and my brain realizes you can send fake text messages.  I immediately suspect a fat bitch at work.  In fact we both suspect fat bitch as our number one suspect.  Today is Thursday (in South Korea) and we just got back from the SK office and we have proof undeniable that it was the fat bitch.  \n\nSo reddit, I ask for creative ways to seek my revenge.  I'm also asking on the part of cute girl, so two part-players in this revenge story would be even more sweet.", "summary": "got a fake text saying I had herpes, discovered it was fake and, found out who sent it... seeking REVENGE!"}
{"id": "t3_nylvz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help having a more active relationship.", "post": "No I don't necessarily mean sexually active.\n\nMy Fiancee (25/f, engaged in March of 2011, been dating since 9/9/09 and friends since 2004) and I have just recently moved to a new town in which we know only the few people we have met since moving here (Tampa, USF area). We both work full time jobs and often only see each-other for brief times before going to be (which is early due to her early shifts).\n\nBoth of use are ents (see /r/trees) and neither drink (she's been on and off AA for a while but has been sober 7 months now) and thus don't enjoy the club/bar scenes. We make about enough money to sustain our current lifestyle of bills/trees/food but often do not have much money for going out.\n\nThese few things have lead to our time together normally spent on the couch, just hanging out or watching something before going to bed, but she often mentions wanting to go outside and be more active, but I'm not sure what to do. Our area of town isn't the greatest for going out at night and I feel like our financial situation limits us otherwise.\n\nAny thoughts/ideas?\n\nI'll be at work most of the day, but will check back later for responses. Thanks!", "summary": "I'd like suggestions for things to do at night not including drinking for some poor ents in a new neighborhood."}
{"id": "t3_vhl7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "For those of you that are/have been in a long distance relationship: how much time do you spend talking/chatting? [crosspost from r/askreddit]", "post": "What are your experiences in long-distance relationships? Do you communicate every day? How many hours do you typically communicate each day?\n\nMy gf and I regularly argue about this. Basically, she always complains that we don't spend enough time on the phone/chat, while I always complain that it's too much. We normally talk about 5-10 hours over phone and another 5-15 hours on chat each week, which comes down to 1.5-3.5 hours each day. I have a regular work day (8-10 hours), and often my only after-work activity is communicating with my gf. I love talking to her, but honestly, often I would prefer doing other things instead (watching movies with friends, reading, doing sports,\u2026).", "summary": "Gf often is pissed at me if I just want to talk 30 or 60 minutes per day with her. Is this normal?"}
{"id": "t3_11fmk7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has Reddit issued an \"official\" response to \"that Gawker article?\"", "post": "Let's get right to it, and I'll keep it short.  There are some points in that Gawker article that mention close ties between Violentacrez and Reddit admins, which is fine, obviously.  People are people and people become friends, and Reddit is a huge place with huge breadth and depth, making community moderation necessary.  But now I see my own friends on Facebook posting things like \"fuck Reddit\" or \"I will never visit Reddit\" in response to some of the allegations made in the article.\n\nMy gut reaction to the above reaction, if you will, is that Reddit is run by many different people rather than a company with one public face and branding to worry about, and the actions of one or a few admins or mods shouldn't be taken to reflect the whole attitude or behavior of Reddit.  (Perhaps this represents some misunderstanding of the administrative makeup of Reddit, but there you have it and please say so if that's off-base.)  But that's what's happening.  I'm watching in my own personal Facebook feed Reddit be declared a [shadowy place one must never visit](\n\nSo I wonder if the admins of Reddit, or Reddit as an organization, have put out a singular reaction to the article, or any specific response to it, or have plans to.  Pardon if it's somewhere obvious - I've been looking around, including on the blog, but haven't found anything.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "See title"}
{"id": "t3_3kpqfc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [16F] 4 months, neither of us can deal with her parents. [UPDATE]", "post": "OP: \n\nNothing's changed. She talked to them, and they seemed to have understood for ONE DAY. On that day we did go out to bowling and the movies, twas fun. But now its just back to the same old. Not allowed to hang out today cause her dad said they were going out, he changed his plans 2 hours later and then again said I wasnt allowed and my gf can go watch tv. \n\nLike literally, I haven't ever been rude to them or disrepectful to them or their daughter and its just ridiculous at this point. They;re ruining the relationship Im happiest in, along with her.\n\nI dont want her to say that when shes older she wants to leave her parents and go on her own cause I couldn't imagine doing that to mine, cutting off all contact.\n\nStill not breaking up with her though. Sorry reddit. Its just hard. Stressful. Annoying. Stupid.", "summary": "Her parents still impossible to please or to be cool with our relationsip, its hard."}
{"id": "t3_3oen61", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Used Auto Loan at 3.39% APR. Not finding any better options outside of my dealer.", "post": "Went to look at a 2013 Toyota Yaris today at a local Hertz. Inspected the car myself (not yet with a mechanic though) and got the auto report. No accidents, and used to be a rental car. The car is about $9900, with taxes and dealer fees about $10500. When negotiating the loan, the dealer was able to offer me 3.39% on a 48 month loan with me putting in $3K. \n\nIn total, the loan amount is for $7500. I can probably pay it off by the end of next year, or the year after that. Assuming I pay it off by the end of 2017 at the latest, I'll be paying about $320 in interest. Being a first time buyer, I haven't been able to find a better APR through my local credit union or bank, and I hate to have to submit more hard credit checks.\n\nI'm mostly financing this car to be able to have a longer credit history other than my 1-year old credit card (student loans will be paid in full by March), as I plan to get engaged and/or buy a house by 2020.", "summary": "Should I stop obsessing over the APR if it only adds ~$300 extra to the total cost?"}
{"id": "t3_swrd5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is he actually interested?", "post": "I'm 21/f and I met a 22/m about 2 months ago. We didn't really start talking until a month ago. He would text me almost every weekend asking to hang out, but I was always busy.\n\nFinally I agree, and we go to a movie, but I'm 99% sure that was just as friends. We bought our tickets separately and met inside the theater. Nothing happened there.\n\nWell, after that, we started texting/chatting online a lot. We had a lot of interesting conversations and he kept mentioning that I was really nice and that I gave good advice. Somehow we got on the topic of sex one day and since then, things kind of got stuck there? We ended up sexting a few times.\n\nHe tends to flirt with anything with breasts, so I was weary of his flirting. But at one point i asked him why he had to go after so many women. That one is enough. He responded saying if one were to take him, that would be enough. I told him that shouldn't be hard to find, and he simply replied with \"Who? You?\". I said I couldn't answer that, and he didn't pursue much further. Then we just ended up sexting..\n\nI don't know if I'm assuming things because of the sexting or if it's valid to think he might be interested in more than just \"sexting buddies\" (if that's a thing.. I don't know). I've never done that before so I don't know the procedure.\n\nLike I said, he is the kind of guy that flirts with anything with breasts, but when talking to him privately, I've kind of figured that it's all kind of a muse to hide insecurities. I just don't know if he's doing this with me because I'm a female and willing, or if he actually likes me and wants more than that.. I'm not the most attractive person, so I can only assume he's actually genuine and not in it just to get in my pants, because no one wants that.. not in 3 years.", "summary": "I don't know if the guy I've been sexting is actually interested in me or just a horny guy looking for nothing other than a sexting buddy"}
{"id": "t3_2jyy0h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 22 M with my long distance girlfriend 20 F duration, short-description. How can I help with her depression from far away?", "post": "I dated this girl for several months when I studied abroad. It was fantastic. Unfortunately my time abroad had a expiration date and we broke up just before I left. After trying to drastically limit our communication for several post break-up months, we finally admitted that we still very much had feelings for each other.\n\nThe first couple months of the long distance relationship went amazingly smoothly, but eventually I felt her start to draw away. We would talk and the responses would be more curt, and where we used to waste hours just incessantly texting back and forth, we eventually settled in to a likely more healthy, but slower pattern of communication. She also took to tweeting extremely cryptic things, while for the most part putting on a happy face during our communications.\n\nI deal with some insecurity and depression for which I'm supposed to be taking meds. And her changed behavior gave me some anxiety about the status of our relationship, especially because on facebook she maintained the same active social life, going out with her mostly male friends who had during my time abrouad made their dislike of me very obvious.\n\nHer distance and the tweets deviated enough from her normal behavior that I finally addressed it on Skype, and she eventually admitted that she had these intense feelings of depression and external pressure and was in therapy for her issues, but for the most part refused to elaborate beyond that. \n\nThis conversation happened maybe two months ago, and since then we've gone through different extremes, extremely close and upbeat to distant and withdrawn. I want to help and play a larger role than a supportive voice through her computer screen. I think she for the most part tunes out whatever affirming comments I give her. \n\nWe have days where things are incredible, but then she falls back into a depressive cycle and I feel like white noise against everything else. Are the strategies for reaching someone who can be closed off, especially considering that I can't be physcially there?", "summary": "Girlfriend is depressed. We are long distance and I can't be physically there but I want strategies for how to support her, when she seems to shut down my attempts"}
{"id": "t3_2s919o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25f) just ended things with my bf(25) of 1 month, I feel so depressed about it...", "post": "So here's the thing.  As far as dating I'm a late bloomer.  I didn't feel like dating until about 22 or so, just because it was never a huge priority.  Since then, I've been on several dates with a few relationships that never lasted more than a few months or so, due to lack of chemistry, interest, etc.\n\nIn November I met a guy that I had the world in common with.  Same sense of humor, goals, and etc.  I didn't think it was possible to meet someone with so much in common.  Things were wonderful and perfect, but then something in me just clicked and I was no longer interested in seeing him anymore.  I can't say what clicked, because there were no red flags.  I literally just lost interest in him. \n\nMy concern is that I will never find anyone I am compatible with.  I had the world in common with this guy but it terrifies me that for whatever reason things just didn't feel right.  Has that ever happened to anyone??  Like you are dating someone that is identical to you but you just weren't feeling it?  I tried to make it work for a little bit after the realization of no longer being interested, but after a spike of anxiety I just couldn't fake it anymore.  \n\nI know this sounds really juvenile but this relationship scared me because I feel as though I was given this great guy that I had the world in common with, but still it didn't work out =/  This is freaking me out and it's beginning to effect my school work, ugh.", "summary": "I shit unicorn glitter.  Just read the damn post."}
{"id": "t3_3lxygo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (18f) hate my boyfriend's (19m) best friend", "post": "My boyfriend has known his best friend for almost all his life. Usually I don't care when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends, that isn't the problem. The problem is when he hangs out with this certain friend, they do certain things that make me uncomfortable. Examples : He's been in a car with this friend while their mutual friend was drunk while driving them; they thought nothing of it. He took between 40-60 cough medicine pills with this friend to get high, and literally almost died while doing it. They sneak out in the middle of the night and walk down busy streets, usually while high. His friend climbs cell phone towers in the middle of the night, which are several hundred feet tall. His friend just got back from spending 4 months in rehab and I just think of him as a really bad influence. I can't stop them from being friends, so how can I keep from having constant anxiety when they hang out? I constantly worry when they hang out if he'll even make it back alive. He gets mad when I bring up the fact that I worry about him. What should I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend's best friend is a horrible influence and I have constant anxiety when they hang out."}
{"id": "t3_sz09b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend claims that her \"sexual nature\" is an excuse for letting her friend finger her. Full story inside.", "post": "18/M, in relationship for 1 year.\nMy girlfriend has a friend. Let's call him \"Tom.\" Tom (18/M) likes my girlfriend and dislikes me. Now, one day, I decide to buy my girlfriend, let's call her \"Meredith,\" her first vibrator. Meredith (18/F) is very sexually inexperienced with this stuff, is a virgin, hasn't came her entire life. But she IS into some things that are \"kinky.\" Mostly bondage where she claims the role of submissive. Tom was there when we bought the vibrator and decided to stay the night at her house. I was unaware of this but hey, Tom seems like a cool guy. Anyways, what transpired during that night is Tom groped Meredith and used the vibrator on her for around 6 minutes. This gave her her first orgasm.\n\nNow, I talked to Tom about this. He said she put up no resistance and seemed to enjoy it. She said she put up no resistance because it's her \"sexual nature\" to \"be submissive\" like that.\nShould this be a valid excuse?", "summary": "Girlfriend was kind of molested (and kind of cheated on me) but went with it, enjoyed it, came. All because she's \"submissive.\""}
{"id": "t3_28dyo9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by allowing myself to get \"Tommy Boy'd\"", "post": "Ever seen Tommy Boy? Remember the scene where David Spade and Chris Farley fake being attacked by bees to avoid a ticket? \n\nIf not: \n\nWell that happened to me today. Kind of. I was driving down the road minding my own business and I rolled up my windows because it was slightly chilly. Apparently by doing so I had trapped a bee in my car. I noticed it as it landed on my leg and stung me. I had a not-so-graceful reaction as I yell some sort of obscenity and try to hit it off of me. By doing so I apparently swerved my wheel slightly to the right and into a telephone pole. Totaled my car by smashing the front right bumper pretty bad. Cop responds to the scene where I'm in my car upset/adrenaline filled/beyond frustrated that I wrecked. I told him what happened and he bends down and picks up the dead body of the bee from right outside my car door. Couldn't help but laugh at the situation. Good news is I'm okay and insurance is going to take care of it.\n\nIf you ever come into the situation where a bee or any insect is on you while you're driving, it's likely much better to get bitten/stung than lose your cool.", "summary": "Totaled car by freaking out from bee locked in car."}
{"id": "t3_2ofmrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! I may have have just lost my (20M) closest friend (19F)", "post": "So I was messaging my friend we will call Donna and things were going okay but then she started acting really strange saying how she didn't want us to be friends anymore and then she said she wanted us to be strictly platonic friends (we would often start making out when spending time together and we did go on one date but she decided earlier she wasn't ready for a committed relationship which I understood but we would still kiss and we almost had sex at least twice. But anyway, today I was messaging her and she started acting weird and said how she wanted to be strictly platonic and didn't want to kiss me at all anymore. So I said that was probably a good idea so our relationship doesn't get compromised or confusing plus my feelings had grown more platonic towards her anyway, because I didn't want her to think that she was forcing me into an uncomfortable situation and that I would be crushing on her and constantly trying to be her boyfriend. It was at this point that she informed me that her roommate had written the line about wanting to be strictly platonic and everything. She then agreed anyway that it would be good for us to stop making out. So the conversation continued for a little while but she kept bringing up the fact that I said I didn't have romantic feelings for her anymore despite having made out and cuddled with her last night and accusing me of not liking her for her and only the things she did for me. Things just escalated from there and now I'm really worried that she won't be my friend anymore etc.\n\nI was just hoping someone on here could give me some advice any thoughts really on this situation because I'm completely lost and in a very dark place as a result of possibly losing her.", "summary": "my FWB's roommate sent me a message as my FWB saying she wanted to only be friends, I agreed my FWB flipped out after agreeing with me."}
{"id": "t3_mqebs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you need to get a lawyer to fight a traffic violation in court or is that unnecessary?", "post": "A few weeks ago I got in an accident, and I got a ticket for \"Failure to maintain safe lookout.\" The cops on the scene agreed with me that it wasn't really my fault (I was making a left turn right below the crest of a hill, and the other guy was speeding over the hill and hit me), but they said they had to ticket someone and I was the one turning so I got it. \n\nI obviously want to fight this, but I'm wondering how I can reduce it. My roommate said that the only way I'd be able to fight it in court is with a lawyer, but it seems silly to me to hire a lawyer for a minor traffic violation. I've never gotten a ticket before though, so I don't know if that's what you're supposed to do. Do I need a lawyer or can I just go to court myself on the date?", "summary": "I have a traffic ticket; roommate says I need a lawyer, and I'm wondering if that's really necessary."}
{"id": "t3_105onw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Trouble getting over a relationship (20/m), want her (19/f) back", "post": "My girlfriend and I of just over 7 months broke up last Friday at about 1:30 AM. It's been almost a week and I'm having a terribly hard time accepting and getting over it. She truly was the love of my life and she showed me show much love, kindness, and compassion that I never got out of any of my past relationships. I ended up leaving school for the weekend and going home. Which was good for me. I got away from everything that was bothering me, and I got to spend some time with some old high school friends that I haven't seen in a long time. Later on that night, she texts me. Just \"Hey\", but it kinda confused me. She was the one who called off the relationship. When I asked her why she did, she wasn't sure why she was feeling this way, but she said \"I don't think I want to be in a serious relationship right now\" Anyway, I don't text her back for about three hours because I was busy and didn't want to fall into a the depression I was trying to avoid. I later found out through a mutual friend that she was confused as to why I hadn't texted her back earlier. When I did text her back, we didn't talk about the break up or the relationship, just what I was doing at that time. Over that last few days I've really been struggling trying to keep it all together. All I can think about is getting her back, and I will do anything for that opportunity. I haven't been talking to her, kind of avoiding her, although it's hard at times since we are the same major and live in the same building. I truly love her and like I said, I would do anything to be back together with her. We made each other happy, and I know we can do it again.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I broke up, I can't stand it. Been keeping my distance and haven't been talking to her. Want to get back together with her because when we were together we made each other really happy."}
{"id": "t3_lw47z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why is it socially acceptable to make jokes about underweight people?", "post": "I'm a 24-years-old, 6'0\" 135lb male. I've tried overeating, lifting, and cutting down on exercise, but I've never been able to gain weight. Nearly every day someone at work, a social event, with friends, relatives, whoever, makes some comment about my weight. Usually something snarky like, \"Have you eaten today, boy!?\" I've even been straight up told by women that they're not attracted to thin guys.\n\nIn the reverse situation, no one would dare casually mention to a co-worker, \"Jesus, you need to lose some weight!\" or tell someone face-to-face \"I'm not attracted to you because you're overweight.\"\n\nSo why is it ok to bring up someone's weight if they're noticeably thin? It's rough having to be reminded that I'm just as unattractive to women as someone who might be overweight.", "summary": "I'm noticeably skinny and get mocked for it just about every day."}
{"id": "t3_3jxa84", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [23M] has fallen out of love with me but he says he doesn't want to break up.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend have been going through a rough patch for a few months now and it has left me feeling insecure, unloved and him overwhelmed. He has put up an emotional wall between the both of us and I try to pull him closer and closer. He is withdrawing into his hobbies and he is always \"too busy\" for me. Deep down we both care for each other but I feel that we are emotionally incompatible for each other.\n\nSo a few days ago I asked my boyfriend of three years whether he loved me or not. His response was: I did before, I'm afraid I don't feel it now but I will probably realize that I do love you if we break up. He doesn't want to break up. \n\nSo, is this a cowards way of keeping me around for the comfort or does he just need time for the feeling to come back?", "summary": "Asked boyfriend whether he loves me. He told me he did at one point, doesn't anymore but might realize he does if I am gone."}
{"id": "t3_1puty5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] asking [17 F] out", "post": "Kinda complicated, but I want to get all the detail out.  I am a 17, and there is a girl I know that it is my government class.  She is funny, smart, and beautiful.  I obviously liked her, but I thought that it was going to just another one of theses monthly routines where I like a girl for a week then forget about it, but something happened.  One day I was in the car with my two friends (both 17 guys) and on of them asked me if I would go to homecoming with said girl.  I said definitely, and we went.  I am pretty awkward, and I spent about 60% of the night talking with some old friends, and she talked with her's.  She is really cool, and she thinks that I'm cool (I don't want to bore you with details, and distort you with modesty).  Should I ask her out?  I just scared that I she will say yes out of pressure, and kindness, and she really won't want to go.  Thanks.", "summary": "Moderately awkward teenage boy not wanting to force a girl into a date that she wouldn't want to go on."}
{"id": "t3_2n671c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (F22) break up with my LDR (23m) without crushing him?", "post": "Been together about 3 years. \n\nTo tell the truth I do love him; he's the sweetest most caring guy I've ever met, he's very good in bed. He cheers me up when I'm down. He's amazing. \n\nBUT, I can't handle the distance anymore, we only see each other every 5 months or more, and trying to handle 2 jobs as well as college and a long distance relationship is killing me... \n\nHe keeps trying to plan me moving where he is after I finish my education... and I just don't see it happening.... its tearing me apart?  \n\nAlso, I'm terrified of hurting him; I was basically his first real girlfriend, and he is (or at least acts and tells me) that he's madly in love with me and doesn't want to lose me.", "summary": "It's not him, it's the distance, and I don't want to hurt him. I love him. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_51pbhu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my brother [14 M] said he feels like he's living in my shadow", "post": "My little brother recently started attending high school with me, which is the first time we've been at the same school in like 5 years. I've been pretty successful academically at this school, on a couple of sports teams and have a lot of friends - I guess I've done a lot, although I've never really thought about it. \n\nToday when we were leaving school my brother was in a bad mood, didn't speak to me the whole ride home, which is unlike him. This evening he told my parents that he wants to switch schools because he doesn't want to be in my shadow. \n\nHe agreed to go get dinner with me tonight, the place where we always go to talk. He opened up about how he hates high school because everyone is always comparing him to me, saying he looks like me, asking him about me and apparently the girls in his grade all talk about me etc. This all obviously bothers him. He said he feels like the less smart, bad at sports, ugly version of me - he's just as smart if not smarter than me, he doesn't even like playing sports - he likes music and is good at it, and we look the same except me being older (in fact he himself thought a picture of me at 13/14 was a picture of him).\n\nI'm so upset to know he's feeling that way. Couple months ago he was full of confidence, and now his confidence is gone. What can I do or say to help him get his confidence back? I hate knowing he's feeling this way and not having a clue how to help him.", "summary": "brother feels like he's living in my shadow and it's taken away all his confidence. how do i help him get his confidence back, and stop comparing himself to me and realize he's also good at a lot of things i'm not."}
{"id": "t3_wb1wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Hookup developing feelings? Not sure what to do. 18m, 17f", "post": "First off: it's legal where I live.\n\nBasically, we've been involved for two months. Had sex on the second date after agreeing to be \"fuck buddies.\" No sex with anyone else because STDs. It's been going well, except.... I feel like she's developing feelings. I've always played a little bit of a boyfriend, because she said she doesn't want to feel like a ho, but also doesn't want a boyfriend. However, she's starting to reciprocate in little ways. I talked to her about it, and she said it wasn't an issue, and that she'd walk if we had to talk about it again. But.... the nagging feeling remains.", "summary": "Two months of sex, she seems to want more than just physical."}
{"id": "t3_1ntiuc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13 M] with my \"best friend\" [13 m] for 4 years are having a hard time hanging out.", "post": "I feel like my friend and I have a one-sided relatioship. At first I could push him to do things. Now I have no chance of getting to do anything fun I want to do. \nWhen he comes over I always ask him what he wants to do. He then replies with, \"I don't care.\" Which is a lie because then almost every time I suggest something he says, \"Um... Na.\" \n\nThan once we go inside my house I do something boring because he won't do anything fun. He then asks if I wanna do something else. Of course whatever I suggest next is answered with no. He usually wants to go play with and talk with my 10 year old brother.\n\nI not only have a problem with him, but also his mom. She stalks him. I realize she wants to know where he is, but a text every 30 minutes. Seriously? An example would be when he was over my house at 8 last night. His mom texted. \"Get home now.\" He lives a small block away so I walked him home. His mom wasn't there. He said his mom didn't come home until 11 o clock.\n\nI've been trying to end this relationship. I can't though because I always see him in school. We are in the same classes. He also lives a very short walk away from me. When I tried to end it he just kept calling and texting me, \"I'm sorry for whatever I did.\" Then I tell him why. After that you'd think he'd stop, but he just kept teting the same thing. Then he came to my house.\n\nMy question is, how can I end this relationship. Also if you think I should. And even if there's a way to fix it. Please let me know\n\nJust adding, he always says I'm his bestfriend. I also don't like any of his other friends.", "summary": "My friend won't leave me alone when trying to end relationship. How can I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_2u00xt", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like I'm becoming more aggressive and short with people that are difficult.", "post": "Here's the deal. At work, volunteer committees and associations I've always been very neutral, I'd stay quiet for the most part, let people ramble, be self righteous because of some bullshit they did.  Or if people would go on a rant about lack of communication in this group where it's them that's being fucking incompetent, I'd just let it slide. Zero conflict behavior.\n\nThe last 6 months have been stressful beyond belief. Losing my father, finding my grandmother is dying, along with lots of changes at work. I'm tired, so fucking tired bullshit people pull because for the most part, they get away with it.\n\nSo instead of being that fucker that sits in the corner and stays passive/quiet and just takes it like most people I work with, I've been calling people out, in front of the whole group on their bullshit, their blaming others for their shortfalls or just pulling a Palin(rambling). Sometimes aggressive, but often times times calm and collective in a voice you'd use with a toddler to chill their shit.  \n\nSo far both approaches have worked well, I've had people pull me aside saying thank fucking god \"someone\" said something, then you should have you dickhole.  I'm at my wits end here with all this, these god damn people. For the most part it's just a bad apple in a group, smug crap.  During my passive time, I was so stressed. Now, I feel great! I'm dealing with this shit. \n\nHope I don't get shot.", "summary": "Stand up to people at work/meetings that are being abusive and useless. call them out."}
{"id": "t3_4f7cnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [55F] won't give me [20F] access to my money.", "post": "I apologize if this is the wrong formatting or subreddit to post in as I rarely post anything but I'm really not sure where to go from here. \n\nSo ever since I was 17 my mom has had a tax free savings account for me which 75% of all my paychecks go in to, and after a few years I have a nice amount of money in there. All of this money is mine and I have never been allowed to touch it  or have access to as she says its for rent (I recently moved closer to the school I will be attending in the fall). \n\nThe problem is, I am unemployed as I'm still looking for a job and my account that the 25% of spending money from my paychecks goes into is pretty much empty. I do have some food and stuff but is it so wrong of me to want access to MY money? I can never splurge on anything or go out with my roommates because I simply don't have access to the money that I rightfully own. \n\nI understand she probably thinks I'm going to go blow it all on stupid things but I'm very smart with my money. I even called my bank today to see if the savings account was linked to mine but there isn't anything there which means it's linked to her own account and I'll never have access to it. Whenever I try to talk to her in letting me be the adult here or just to give me a couple hundred for food etc she tells me to \"do without\".\n\nI'm really sick of this and don't want to destroy the relationship with my mother (she's paying for my education) but at the same time I want full access to my money. What can I do, Reddit?", "summary": "My mom has a separate account linked to her bank of all my money and will not give me access to it."}
{"id": "t3_145n09", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "(36F) How do I break it off with a guy (40M) I have been seeing for a couple months without losing his friendship?", "post": "I have been dating/seeing this fellow for a couple of months. I was somewhat pursuing him, but have given up on him after the relationship hasn't progressed forward much. He is very private and seems to keep me separate from his life. I haven't pushed it, but started backing away when I noticed that I was pursuing him. A month ago, I met someone that I really like and would enjoy seeing him more. The relationship with the new guy isn't exclusive, but I just realized that I am done with the other guy. My question is: How do I break him off without losing our friendship? We were pretty good friends before we got involved (sexually) and he stated in the past that he likes to remain friends with ex's. I have barely talked to him in the past couple of weeks and haven't met up with him in person (my choice)....", "summary": "Been dating M for a couple months. Relationship hasn't advanced. I want to end the relationship, but still remain friends.  How do I break it off so that I can be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_2humfd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit card company reinstating fraudulent charges on my account, what do I do?", "post": "A few months ago (May) I had 2 $100 charges made on my credit card account in another state. My credit card company contacted me letting me know of this and I quickly said this was not me and they issues me a new card. A few months later after the bank changed it's name to Synchrony bank, I get a letter in the mail saying the charge was made with a signature and therefore it was made by me or someone on my behalf. Therefore they were reinstating the charges. I quickly called back and they issued me a new card and said they would investigate the charge. Now I receive a letter saying nothing unusual was noted. There's still a $200 charge that's appearing on my statement. \n\nI have no idea what to do, or get it through their skulls that I did not make these purchases! It's infuriating and I refuse to pay this. IS there really nothing I can do? Is there an outside agency that works on this stuff? Any help would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Credit card company contacted me stating i had $200 of fraudulent charges, after removing charges they reversed their stance and reinstated the charges on my card. How do I get them removed once and for all?"}
{"id": "t3_1cma0t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I[21F] want to talk to my mom[39F] about setting up documents relating to health/life...", "post": "So, I'm a final year undergrad and I'm just starting my life.  My mom is 39 and has Cystic Fibrosis.  I want to talk to her about setting up a will/hospitalization plans, and stuff like that.\n\nYou may think my mom is a bit young to be worrying about that, however the average life expectancy for a CF patient is 37 years.  About once a year she is hospitalized for pneumonia/pancreatitis etc...And every time I'm terrified she won't make it out. \n\nMy mom is very smart (currently back in school working on her masters), she's a divorced single mother; I have a younger half sister.\n\nShe has these grand plans for her future, and what to do with her degree but I feel like sometimes she ignores the reality of her disease.  She has daily treatments, and her lung tests have improved over the years, and while that's all great, absolutely great, it doesn't mean that she's impervious, and I know that this disease will kill her. \n\nI know that she doesn't have any of these legal documents made up, she doesn't have a will, she doesn't have a Medical Proxy, I know she doesn't have any of that documentation, and frankly I think she needs it.\n\nMy biggest concern is my sister.  She can't go live with her father, he has a warrant out for his arrest in our state, he's a drug dealer, he's a bad guy.  He can't have custody of her, I would do everything in my power to prevent that from happening. \n\nHow do I even bring this topic up?  I'm young myself, and the idea terrifies me, but it has to be done.  At the very least, I just want her to be thinking about it...But I feel like she'll just discredit me, and say she doesn't need them.", "summary": "I want to talk to my mother (who has Cystic Fibrosis) about legal documents regarding her health/death.  I feel like she'll discredit me, and say she doesn't need them. How do I bring up the topic to the very least get her thinking about such things?"}
{"id": "t3_1uh1oa", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Taking a Sexual Abuse Prevention/Advocacy course at my University this semester. Is it appropriate to inform classmates/profs about my history?", "post": "I am taking this course this semester (first day of this class this coming Thursday) because it falls into line with my future career path. I was raped/molested by someone very close to me, and who I am still good friends with, when I was 13. The class is seminar format, which means it will be mostly discussion based, and I am one of 8 total people (all girls-go figure!) that are enrolled. Would it be appropriate to tell them about this event? I feel like I could give a different perspective on discussions because of this, and am relatively comfortable (as comfortable as a person could be, I guess) discussing it. I am worried that this may be inappropriate to discuss with teachers, etc. Am I wrong?", "summary": "Taking sexual abuse course (seminar format)- appropriate to divulge info about person experiences?"}
{"id": "t3_p61gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents Living Apart. Living with Mom but want independence. How to get out?", "post": "My dad got frustrated with my mom about her weight, fitness level and how she can be a bit of a pack rat so there is always extra things around and it is a challenge to keep the house presentable.\n\nAfter threatening to do it for over a year, my dad moved out and got his own house closer to his office.  This was about 6 or 7 months ago.  During the time since then, my parents have gone to marriage counselling, a couples group therapy thing for a few weeks and are currently in the middle of a relationship book. As far as I can tell my dad hasn't kissed or hugged or shown hardly any signs of affection for my mom during that time and it has taken its toll, she is fairly depressed and often doesn't get to bed until 3 or 4AM.\n\nThe house is rather large house with a decent sized lot where we keep cows and have a dog and cats and a barn with a tractor. My dad still comes by on a regular basis (mostly in the middle of the day, probably to avoid my Mom while she is at work) and takes care of the cows and some basic farm tasks, so there are no concerns about maintaining the farm currently.\n\nHere is where I come in. I am 22 and I fix computers for a living and can easily support myself and actually be pretty well off money wise. When he first moved out and my mother was really distraught, I was currently in the planning stages of finding my own place and moving out by the end of 2011. My mom asked me to not move out until this situation was resolved between them. I put my plans on hold, but he still doesn't show signs of wanting to move back in and I really want to move out. I really don't want to leave my mom alone, she likes having me around to help around the house and to have someone to talk to rather than coming home to an empty house.\n\nWhat advice can you give me to proceed from here? I am really very torn between wanting to move out and not wanting to leave my mom all alone.", "summary": "Dad moved out, mom has asked me to stay to keep company and help around the house but I want to move out to be more independent. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_125j51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18m] Girlfriend [18f] is constantly flirting with other guys.", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been going out for roughly three months now. Now, she's a flirty person by nature, but the extent to which she flirts with other guys when I'm around is, in my opinion, completely excessive. Sure, you have the friendly hugs with friends of hers, and that's perfectly fine with me. But then there are a few other things that drive me up the wall. For one thing, she'll begin flirting with guys the instant she meets them, with me standing right there. (Yes, even my friends that I introduce her too) If she wants to flirt with guys on her own time, she can go ahead, but it's just irritating to have her do it with me awkwardly standing there. And there are also one or two guys which she flirts with to an absolutely ridiculous extent. Take, for example, her extremely close male friend, we'll call him Steven. They both insist that there's absolutely nothing going on between them, and quite frankly, I believe them. Without fail, she'll be all over Steven whenever he's around. And he will blatantly point out how awkward it is with her boyfriend being right there, but she'll just continue.\n\nAnyway, I've been mulling this over for a few days, and want to know how I should handle this with her.", "summary": "Am I justified in being annoyed over my girlfriend flirting with other guys in front of me, or am I just being jealous and insecure?"}
{"id": "t3_o70li", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It has taken me 10 years to think of a name for Xbox Live. Anyone want to help out?", "post": "My weakest attribute is I can never seem to name things... I still cannot think of something I wouldn't get sick of in a few weeks and I have been attempting to do this since Xbox Live came out back in 2002. I have been using my brothers account since then but he stopped paying for it so now I really need to think of one (or let you guys do it if this gets enough attention). Going for not-too-serious but not-too-silly. I am turning to you guys for this. Even if you don't want to at least upvote this [self] post to increase my chances for people to see this and I can get a variety of responses instead of the two people who look in the new section. I am sick of the name \"daughtercrown01\"", "summary": "If you clicked on my post then think of the first possible name for a live account that pops into your head and post in comments! That is all."}
{"id": "t3_vs8xr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worst mall/ shopping experience?", "post": "Heres mine, I went to a mall with my mom, her friends and my sister along with my mom's friend's daughter. We rented out one of the big cart things for kids to ride on while we were shopping. As were walking a married couple with 3 kids suddenly stop in the middle of the walkway. I accidently bumped into her, as for her reaction she made a painful and shocked expression. She then starts to scream at me of how careful I should be and I could've hurt her child. ( I don't think bumping into her would've hurt her child in anyway considering she was the only one that was hit, and all her children were at the side.) She screams of how painful her ankle was and telling me that it has a giant bruise and hoe much of an idiot I am. Being a 16 year old I decided to be mature and tell her I was very sorry over and over. As I widh this fight would be solved, my mother started to scream outloud in front of the crowd at the woman for ( As a 16 year old I look older than I look) screaming at me. Soon enough the womans husband come and joins in saying I was being irresponsible for not being careful and was being a mature young man taking responsibility. In my head I did not want their kids and my mom,s and her friend to hear this because obviously the woman started to use profanity in front of the children. I tried to to stop this fight but my mother refused, after about another 10 minutes of bickering she finally gave up and called her a fuck head as her last parting words. I wish it would've been handled more peacefully, but it could'nt have been helped. Never some people would cone out so aggressivley in public.", "summary": "Hit a woman with a cart by accident and she screamed and cursed in front of kids while my mother bickered. While I wished it could've ended more peaceful."}
{"id": "t3_54oxqf", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Metaphorical Couch Scenario", "post": "I've created this scenario to help you guys relate to the situation so you can tell me how you would react.  We don't really) eat McDonald's this much.\n\nYou and a few friends are sitting on a couch you've all equally pitched in for. While on this couch you all watch a movie or play games.  Without a word your best friend gets up and leaves, comes back a few minutes later with McDonald's or w/e you all enjoy eating, there's just enough for him and he has no intention on sharing. \"Hey where was the invite? I was hungry too\" you tell him. \"Sorry, you looked really into the movie so I didn't want to bother you\" he tells you. You tell him you could have paused the movie at any time and his response is \"well it's too late now\".  You tell him that's not cool and he apologizes for the response and action.  Next day he does the same exact thing, remembering his apology you both joke it off.  The third day he does the same exact thing, left without telling or inviting you. You ask \"What's the excuse this time?\". \"Sorry, but when that McDonald's commercial came on I just had to have some\". You're annoyed and let it slide, you were eating a bag of candy anyway.     You're more observant the next day and catch him before he leaves and ask if you could come this time and he tells you yeah and you go together.  Next day you ask him \"Hey I'm hungry want to get McDonald's?\" He declines, telling you he's not hungry right now so you both just sit there watching the movie. You doze off and wake up to him eating McDonald's right next to you, just enough for himself just like before. You ask \"What's the deal? I thought we'd go together again like yesterday\" and he responds with \"You invited yourself yesterday\" . You are furious and tell everyone on the couch bye and leave. You're just going to watch movies/play games in your room from now on and ignore the couch and everyone on it from now on", "summary": "Best friend doesn't invite me to the simplest things we both want"}
{"id": "t3_1c55uw", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "16[m] I hate dating in highschool, because it seems pointless, but there's a girl who is borderline obsessed.", "post": "Okay so I'm 16, sophomore in high school, and in my opinion, high school dating is just as pointless as teaching a lion to be a vegetarian. People want to get into it so fast with the 3 little words, and I don't agree with that. But there's a girl, 15 years old, who likes me and I kinda liked her. Notice I said liked. She is so obsessive, and it drives me crazy! I can't even look at a girl without her throwing a fit and stressing. Anyway, a few months ago, she told me she loved me. I proceeded to explain that I don't feel the same way, and that I don't know who I am, so how do I know if I love her. She then proceeded to freak out, and now any friend of mine that is a girl is her \"enemy\" and it's really making me mad. She actually smacked a good friend of mine for talking to a girl that liked me. He was talking to her at a basketball game, and she just walked up and smacked him. He asks \"what the hell was that for?!\" And she said you know what it was for, and left. And she just sat and stared at the other girl, glaring at her. Now I told her to apologize to both my friend, and the girl, and she said she did nothing to them. And I have 8 other people telling me she did. So I guess I just want to know what I should do.", "summary": "over obsessive girl, acting like we're dating when we're not, being mean to my friends, what should I do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_33ebni", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU when answering all on an iPhone goes wrong.", "post": "Today I recieved, as it often happens at my university, a conversation by email between (what I assumed to be) 2 students. Those students were not the first to put the whole university as copy of the mail (thanks mailing lists). But today I recieved those email 8 times and since I was pissed, I decided to answer both of them to tell them to use the mail listing properly.\n\nMy answer went as simple as \"No one cares about your life\". Clever as I am, I send this email from my iPhone on an alternate email adress that doesnt show my name.\n\nIt could have ended here if I hadn't press \"answer all\" and send this message to the whole university who was in copy... worse, my iPhone used my auto signature for the mail which is \"Regards, my name\". Also it turned out that the 2 students were 2 teachers trying to set up a small event.", "summary": "Every students, teachers, head of the uni, anyone working at my university received a mail from me saying litterally \"no one care about your life, Regards, my name\". TIFU"}
{"id": "t3_qkg3a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm not sold on Mass Effect. Please give me some examples of the games 'depth'.", "post": "Everyone goes on about how amazing Biowares Epic is. I bought it purely because everyone was giving it glowing reviews, and I've so far played about 15 hours or so, and I just don't think it's that good.\n\nThe slow loading times, the fact that the action is quite rare and I spend most of the time talking to people, etc etc, I just don't see what the fuss is all about. \n\nWhen I talk to people I'm told that it's so good because every action you do has a huge effect on the game. So, can you give me some examples of this happening? I don't care about spoilers really, but I just want to see how much my actions really affect the world. My friend said he didn't realise how good the game was until he went through his second play through. \n\nCheers!", "summary": "gimme some examples of how actions change the game in Mass Effect so I can appreciate this apparently amazing game."}
{"id": "t3_u5aw1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Heterosexual men of Reddit, why are most of you hyper-masculine when talking *about* women and are essentially little boys when actually talking *to* women?", "post": "Maybe if you heterosexual males actually realized that women are essentially persons too, you'd do neither. Just a thought.\n\nAlso, \"falling in love\" with a woman at first sight is so0cute! Because one's fulfilling love for a woman should be sparked by the symmetry of her face and her hip-to-waist ratio. Too romantic. That's biology, and *fuck fighting biology*.\n\nOh, that's not you? You're not that guy? You're the guy who is sparked by her *je ne sais quoi*, presumably French for, *that subtle thing which makes my dick feel a thousand forbidden thoughts*.\n\nNo, don't listen to me. Be the thirteenth guy to judge her inherent relationship value by her looks and begin your awkward mating dance. She's going to be *so wet*, bro.\n\nWhat? It doesn't make perfect sense to approach random women in public places rather than pursuing social activities that might allow you to meet women you could actually converse with and get to know? *Fuck that*, this husky bitch in front of you is screaming all kinds of fertility. Light the cigarette known as lust and let its smoke enter her blowjob-worthy lungs. And when she coughs and says its all wrong, silently reassure yourself that its *so right*.\n\nAnyway, I'm off to get pummeled in the ass now by some screaming hot bloke I met at a fundraiser. Hope my ass bleeds. You heterosexual men go enjoy not getting laid due to your ~~internalized misogyny~~ endearing shyness, and I'll keep rejecting daily female advances **because for God's sake I am a fag almighty.", "summary": "I am a fag almighty."}
{"id": "t3_3pyv92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my crush [21 M] of 4 ish month, been single for almost half a year now, need help getting back out there", "post": "So I was with my boyfriend for 2 years before we broke up at the start of this summer, I took a little while to move on, but I did, and I'm happy to be single, we broke up on excellent terms and everything good, except I haven't physically been able to move on yet.\n\nBefore me and my ex broke up there was this guy at my uni who I quite liked, but now I'm single he is all I can think about, and I don't want to be with anyone but him. I know its a horrible idea to put all my eggs in one basket but I have to try or I'll never know right?\n\nThing is, whenever I see him I feel like my face is going to explode, I cant look him in the eye let alone make coherent conversation. the other problem is that I haven't spoken to him since the last academic year, and even then we didn't really talk, he just worked on my lab bench.\n\nso how do I approach him subtly, keeping in mind we're basically strangers, and how do i control my unbelievable nerves around him!", "summary": "long time out of the game, how do I break the ice with my crush when I get so flustered I cant look at him?"}
{"id": "t3_xmc19", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/F] Not physically attracted to him and hate his constant whining.", "post": "My boyfriend is a wonderful, caring guy who has supported me through quite a difficult time for me in the past year. We 'officially' got together around March and I have genuinely come to care for him as a person. \n\nCutting to the chase, I have never particularly found him extremely attractive physically, but I was able to look past the looks and appreciate him as a person. He has since gained some weight over the past few months. He IS trying to lose it, in a kind of half-assed way and I want to me there for him\u2026but not a day goes by without him complaining about how despite his hard work, he is not losing any weight. And frankly, it is extremely aggravating to listen to him whine everyday.\n\nPersonally, I have been able to lose about 15kgs (33lbs) a few years back and am still able to keep the weight off and consider myself quite health conscious and knowledgeable about what works and doesn't work. So sometimes I suggest that he eats fewer refined carbs and does more cardio/situps. (His main concern is his belly.) He will refuse to listen and say it doesn't work and how it will only make him fatter because his body doesn't work like that.", "summary": "He complains, but he ignores my opinion on it. His weight gain is not only making me more physically unattracted to him, but also his constant complaints are getting on my nerves."}
{"id": "t3_1e600j", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/19] Still deeply in love with my girlfriend [F/20] of 3.5 years, but she doesn't feel the same way she use to", "post": "My girlfriend and I were always a really close couple, and have been together since sophomore in year high school. However, after attending different schools for a year and being in a LDR, She has begun to feel less close to me. This all started about a month before summer when she began to act weird, ignoring texts, and a obvious lack of communication. When I confronted her she agreed she has been confused, and didn't know how deeply she felt about me anymore. After deciding to take a week break everything was alright for a little, but soon enough her feelings returned. This was all very hard for me to hear as you can imagine, but we talked it through and we agreed to see if we can work on rebuilding our relationship this summer, when we would be with each other. We both still really care about each other and love each other, but when it comes to her showing her affection for me (making out, sex) she just doesn't feel the way she use to. This has been a really emotional time for both of us, and I can tell she still cares about me a lot. We have been spending time together and it is has been hard not being able to kiss her or jump in bed, but I don't want her to force her feelings because that is unfair to her.So my question is How can I help rekindle the love we once had and begin rebuilding our relationship before I lose her.", "summary": "girlfriend is feeling less intimate in relationship, and need some help rekindling lost love."}
{"id": "t3_2p4pey", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a cheap vibrator", "post": "So this week has been pretty stressful with exams and all. Today was my last day and I just got home. I called out to see if my parents were home but no one was, neither was my dog so I thought oh they must have gone out for a walk.\n\nI'm home alone now and I've been pretty stressed...so what do I do? Rub one out.\n\nI take out my vibrator that I bought off a cheap online store. So I plug it in, and I go buck wild. The plug was pretty far, so when I used it you could feel a tug. Then suddenly the lamp next to me flashed once and I swear I looked down and saw an orange glow underneath my blanket but went away quickly. I smell something and it smells like burnt plastic and my lamp flashed again, so I quickly unplug the vibrator and the wire is hot as shit. Turns out my end of the vibrator had it's wire melted from my tugging on it so much and that orange glow beneath my blanket was a spark.\n\nI drop the whole thing onto the floor and flip the blanket over and see a burnt spot, smell of the burnt plastic got out now my room is smothered in it, I'm half naked and oh look, my parents just got home.", "summary": "Rubbed one out home alone and almost caught my blanket on fire."}
{"id": "t3_1mug0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26F) husband's (26M) brother just died because of me (indirectly). (Together for 7 years, married for 4)", "post": "I'm terrified right now.  I love my husband more than anything in the world.  I would literally do anything for him.  I wish I knew what I could do for him right now but I really have no idea what I should do.\n\nBasically, my husband and I were supposed to drive down to his hometown and visit his family this weekend (we were supposed to arrive last night) but we cancelled the trip at the last minute because I was feeling too sick to make the drive down.  My husband just found out that his little brother (12M) died in a car accident last night.  He hasn't spoken in hours.  I have no idea what to do or say.  Would his brother still be alive if we had gone down?  I can't help but feel responsible for this entire mess.  I've never seen my husband this upset before.", "summary": "My husband's brother died (indirectly because of me?).  I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3pkef3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my idk [27 M]. BF broke up with me/wants to take a break...I am unable to deal with it.", "post": "We've had issues in the past where he seems like hed rather play games etc. than be with me. But I know he loves me we just have issues but yesterday he broke up with me because he fucked up I guess in his mind. \n\nRight now I'm at my gmas. I have depression etc. and now I am physically ill from this and stressed out. I told him I was never happier than when I was with him, but now that I'm not at home I feel so lonely and hurt and it's unbearable. What can I do?\n\nI'm hoping he just needs a week or something, but I want to be with him. We were dating for almost 5 years. I am just absolutely devastated, how can I feel better? There is no one I'd rather be with than him. I have been crying all day, I can't do this.", "summary": "I'm a wreck."}
{"id": "t3_2htfu4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my GF [28 F] of a year, how to help her write cover letters without being insulting?", "post": "Hi all.  I have a pretty simple problem.\n\nMy girlfriend is very smart in lots of ways, but she doesn't write well.  She uses words incorrectly and her sentence structure is awkward and clumsy, and sometimes what she's trying to say isn't very clear.  She can get her meaning across, but it just doesn't sound good.\n\nMost of the time this doesn't matter, but she's been writing lots of cover letters for jobs lately and this is one time when writing skills do kinda matter.  She asks me to look over the letters and honestly, they're a mess.  I try to suggest fixes but she just says, \"that's what I said,\" and it's hard for me to explain that yes, that is what you said, but I'm telling you how you can say it more clearly or succinctly.\n\nSometimes I'm tempted to just take the letter and rewrite it entirely, but I feel like that would be condescending.  She knows she doesn't write well and she knows that I do, which is why she asks me for help.  I would just like some advice on how to do this as tactfully as possible.\n\nNOTE: For her part, she doesn't take my critiques personally or get mad at my suggestions, but I do notice that she seems kind of down or sad after she asks me to look over her letters.  I don't want her to feel bad about herself but I also want her to get interviews, so I don't want to just tell her that the letters are fine and to submit them when they so obviously need some help.", "summary": "Girlfriend writes terribly and asks for my help.  How to do so without insulting her?"}
{"id": "t3_2xuzpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of two month, she has the power in the relationship.", "post": "I know that people always say that in great relationships no one has the power, but from my experience someone is always reaching and someone is always settling.  \n\nI've liked this girl for a really long time, and we were very close friends up until about two months ago when I confessed that I liked her.  We started dating then and everything has been going great except for that I know that she's probably out of my league.  I like her a ton, and even though I know it's bad I can't help but feel a bit insecure about whether or not she likes me back.  I acted like a fool this past weekend after a party I went to and she got mad at me for trying to hook up with her while I was drunk.  Now it's been really awkward for the past two days and I'm stressing out.  My question is, how do you deal with a relationship where you know that you like your SO more than they like you?", "summary": "Acted a fool, I like my GF more than she likes me, how do I deal with it?"}
{"id": "t3_wxx8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, have you ever been so angry at someone you felt like killing them? How do you suppress these urges?", "post": "So, yeah, an abusive childhood due to my father and stuff, blah blah blah, is my back story for repressed rage. So, since I have such repressed hatred for my father, I can get really angry even at the little things. Of course I've never acted on these things, but I do think of them. I haven't been in a fight since elementary school, but I worry that if I do, I won't stop until I kill the other person, possibly to the point of mutilating said person's corpse. Of course what's stopping me are the repercussions of it all. I don't want to end up getting killed from someone wanting revenge for their dead friend or family member, or the legal repercussions of it all. Also, therapy is near out of the question, I have no way of going since I'm in college now, and anything negative I say, like \"I want to kill so-and-so\" would be put on record since the school would demand to know, so going to my college counselor isn't really ideal for me. \n\nAlso, an example of the \"Little things\" would be someone cutting in line, or even worse, in front of me, and I just want to break his/her god damn neck, but of course I don't want to say anything and get into a fight. So basically if I'm wronged in any way, I get the urge to really hurt the person.\n\nNo, I don't kick kitten or eat puppies, I'm a bit of a misanthrope but I love domestic animals, and if I had to choose between saving a stranger or a kitten from a burning building, I'd choose the kitten. Kittens are cute and cuddly.", "summary": "I get really pissed and irritated by \"Little things\" like people wronging me in any way, but I'd never act on it because of the repercussions. If I ever got in a fight, I might end up killing said person. Counseling is out of the question. I had a messed up childhood. I love animals but am a bit of a misanthrope."}
{"id": "t3_2r9p2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my SO [20 F] 3 month, Is it harder to get over a mutual break up then it is with someone you seem to hate", "post": "Hating someone is not in my blood really. You can learn to love anybody if you know their story. We broke up because things got hard and distance sucked. We were in an open relationship too which was a mistake but I now know I am not capable of one and if I knew I would never cheat before, I now absolutely know. She had a regular and I didn't. \n\nI miss her a lot but have kinda replaced her conversations with this girl I really like, but I can't get the feeling of insecurity out from the sex she was having. I don't hate her and will never, myst trust hasn't been shattered. But I just get sick thinking about her with other people. It has gotten worse after being better for a week or so. \n\nBy the way the new girl I have been talking too is home on break and we have not had sex yet, though it is very open that we will when she is back. \n\nHow do I get over the insecurity? Is it easier to get over someone you learn to hate?", "summary": "Mutual break up has been plaguing me the last couple days about my own sexual insecurity"}
{"id": "t3_1pbpgd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF [21 F] of 2.5 years, not sure if I want to be with her any more.", "post": "My girlfriend is amazing, sweet, kind, loving, funny.  I told her I loved her 2 years ago and have told her regularly ever since.  However I have never quite managed to convince myself that is true.\n\nThis is my first serious relationship, I have never loved anyone before so I don't really have anything for comparison.  I feel like I do love her, but there are many occasions where I am just not that fussed about seeing her, and when we are apart I don't have much urge to call/text her.  She lives about 5 minutes walk away and I see her most days, but I find myself just wanting to be at home with my guy friends more and more.  Due to being poor students there is not much we can do together except talk, watch TV, and drink.  We have very different music tastes and she enjoys the clubbing scene whilst I do not.  My guy friends share my music taste, love for good tv (not the shit that she watches), video gaming, cooking and occasional cannabis use.  I feel like I just have more fun with my friends.\n\nOn the other side, I do have great conversations with my GF about lots of things, and love just lying in bed with her and cuddling.  I also love having someone I can talk to about anything and I love comforting her when she's not having a good day.  Recently due to a drunken argument she is on the verge of breaking up with me.  My gut instinct is to fight for her back, but with all this on my mind I honestly cannot work out if I even want to or not.  My emotions seem very confused and I don't know what I want.", "summary": "Cannot work out if I want to be with my GF or not, I feel like I love her but enjoy the company of my friends more."}
{"id": "t3_28tcnp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] and my ex-girlfriend [15 F] were together for a year and then (quite suddenly to me, not to her I guess) she broke up with me.", "post": "So her and I had quite a rocky start i guess you could say. Then it became pretty good, entered that \"honeymoon phase\" as I guess it's called. I think that's where it stayed for a while but that's besides the point.\n\nThe whole time that we were dating she was becoming better and better friends with another guy and to be short and to the point she developed into an emotional affair and now she's left me for him.\n\nThe point of this is well as you can tell I'm quite young and... I don't really know how do you deal with a break-up? It was only a week or so until she started dating the other guy. The funny thing is I think he's quite a bit like me. I'm also not quite sure whether she would even admit that it was an emotional affair to begin with.\n\nAnyways I'm trailing off here I just need advice on what to do because I'm angry, happy, sad, and several different variations of those emotions all at the same time.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a year started having an emotional affair, left me for another guy and now I need advice on how to take a break up."}
{"id": "t3_3i859t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] can afford my friend's [24 M] destination wedding but think it is too expensive and due to this don't want to go", "post": "About a year ago a friend of mine for 10+ years asked me to be in his wedding. I agreed but not formally, at that time knowing that it was probably going to be in Mexico. This was a year ago and no details were known. Fast forward to now, he just told me today where the wedding was going to be and what days. It's going to be in Cancun at one of those crazy expensive resorts during an expensive time to travel. \n\nBasically for 3 or 4 nights it will be almost $3200 for me and my girlfriend. For me alone it would be $2100. Checked with the travel sites (travelocity, etc...) and they say $2600 for both or $1800 alone. Will have to get a suit/tux at a cost of another couple hundred dollars. To me, this is a crazy amount of money to ask your friends to spend. \n\nThe problem is, I can afford it. I work in tech and make good money but I am a saver. I am trying to pay off my house and burning $2 or 3 thousand for 3 days is just very irresponsible to me. I am doing very well financially and he knows this so I simply cannot have the excuse of not being able to pay for it like a few of our friends are pulling. Everybody else in the wedding party has recently started working adult professional jobs and I know for a fact most of them have student loans and entry level salaries. They are all doing it and not thinking twice. \n\nI just cannot justify this expense. The resort they chose is $500/night. I would never, ever, even consider spending that kind of money on a hotel even for my own wedding night. How can I possibly get out of this without ending our friendship or am I being unreasonable since I can afford it?\n\nI should say he is the type that will just not understand why I wouldn't want to do this as we have completely different outlooks on finances.", "summary": "Friend is having an expensive destination wedding in which I am a groomsman. I can afford to go, but think it is just way too much money."}
{"id": "t3_4pnmev", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15 F] boyfriend [15 M] is being abused and my mother [40s F] doesn't want me to tell anyone", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend (named Andy) for a few months. I knew he was beaten as a child (with a whip) by his father, but then again, so was I. I assumed his father stopped, and that it was a cultural thing, as he had lived in Israel until two years ago. Andy and his uncle had been eating at a restaurant when he was a child, and there was a terror attack. Andy's uncle protected Andy and died in the process, causing Andy's father to blame him for his brother's death.\n\nI recently learned that the beatings have not stopped. They have instead continued to grow worse, and he is whipped with a belt for things like coming home late or having his music on too loud. At one point, when Andy's father knew Andy and I had kissed, he beat Andy with a belt until his back bled and threw him outside the house until midnight (I am Indian, and Andy's father would prefer he be a with a white, Jewish girl).\n\nI've told my mother what is happening to Andy. She had been abused by her father as a child, so I thought she would understand. She said that Andy is probably lying and that if something was really happening, Andy should tell someone. She said I am being naive, and that if this is really happening to him, it's only an incentive for him to move out when he turns 18. She walked in on us kissing (it was our first kiss, so it wasn't like we were making out) and now she thinks he just wants to use me and is manipulating me.\n\nToday, he asked his father if he could come to my house. He says his father broke his rib and said no when he asked. I told my mother this, asking if I should call an ambulance or something. She said it's his problem, not mine, and that if he wants help, he should do it himself. \n\nIs she right? I really don't have any proof other than his texts to me, but abusers are good at hiding what they do. Should I keep it to myself?", "summary": "My boyfriend says he is being physically abused by his father, and while my mother knows, she thinks it's not my problem"}
{"id": "t3_1cjtou", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me(M/15) and an acquaintance of mine (M/16) have been crushing on the same girl(16)", "post": "Lemme get started. I have been friends with this girl for a little over a year. This acquaintance of mine hosted a party not too long back and told me he was \"going to get her drunk and fuck her\". I just told him to stop being a creep and made sure that I was near her at all time throughout the party. \n\nFast forward a couple of weeks and this douches parents got him a Mo-ped. He's been trying to seduce her with his mo-ped ever since and he is un-aware of how much of a fool he's acting. Anyhoo, this douche also spent over \u00a3200 on her birthday present. I'm still not sure where he got the money from. She is completely oblivious to his dark side, or she's just ignoring it. Really hard to tell with women. My question is should I just go up and ask her out? Or should I be a dick and tell her about my acquaintances actions? Really confused reddit, help me out.", "summary": "Me and a douche have a crush on the same girl and I fear she's going to find solitude in his arms."}
{"id": "t3_3y3di5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "ME (24m) found out my (24f) gf of 3 yrs snap chatting guys naked pics.", "post": "I can't stand this pain..\n\nJust a few hours ago I found out my girlfriend off almost 4 yrs snap chatting guys naked pictures of herself. I'm sure sex talk is involved and honestly I don't know what to do. I love this girl very much and I've been cheated on before and she knows what I went through. She tells me she has not had any sex with guys even though one of the guys asked to come over. She has not told me how many guys she sent naked pictures too but I'm sure it's quite a few. I'm heart broken and completely shocked. Never did I think she would be this type of girl. We have so much in common and I for sure thought this would be the girl for the long run. I don't know what to do, I packed my things and went to stay at my mother's to clear my head. I can't think, please help me.", "summary": "girlfriend off 4 years snap chatting naked pics to guys and im in pain and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_qxofv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my friends crazy ex-gf wrecked her car(hit-and-run) while under the influence of prescription drugs.  What to do?", "post": "Long story short, my roommate made a mistake stuck his dick in crazy.  He broke up with this girl, and was gonna drive back home up north to do some thinking.  He turns his phone off for the drive.  The girl, fueled by illegitimate emotions and prescription drugs(morphine, I believe), decided she was gonna drive up north and find her bf.  *Note, she does not even know what town he lives in, only the state.  Well she's driving all fucked up, at night, and she runs into the back of another car.  Rather than doing the respectable thing and taking responsibility for her actions, she takes off, making the situation a hit-and-run.\n\nMy question is, is there anything I can do about this?  Report it to someone, possibly the State Trooper Association?  Now, I like getting fucked up as the next guy(probably more), and I'm normally not a \"snitch\" but this girl could wrecked another person's car while **intoxicated** and could have really hurt someone. \n\nI keep getting haunted by this vision of myself getting rear-ended in the middle of the night.  Imagining myself trying to regain awareness, and making sure all my passengers were ok...and then just seeing the perpetrator driving away.  It just stirs up so many emotions.  Including, but not limited to rage and hopelessness.  \n\nWhat should I do Reddit?  Should I try to follow up on this and contact someone and seeing if there were any hit-and-runs on the Interstate going up North?  Or does this seem like a lost cause?  Or am I just a douche for giving that much of a damn?", "summary": "Friends crazy ex-gf did a hit-and-run on the highway, any way/any reason to try to find the victims?"}
{"id": "t3_1u2jtx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] want to reconnect with a past potential fling [23M] but don't know how to approach it ?", "post": "So there's this guy (lol). About a year ago I went to a party and met up with a guy (W) of whom I knew but reputation due to mutual friends and because he was in the same program as me at school. I almost hooked up with him, going so far as to go home with him but then I stopped it because I was in a relationship at the time (we didn't go further than a few fairly innocent kisses). I really liked him, like a lot, which drove me to break up with my boyfriend but at the time W was kind of pissed that I was with someone else and didn't want to entertain any more thoughts of a fling with me. However after this all went down he friended me on several social medias and we maintained a causal relationship. It's been a long while, and in the past year he graduated and moved back to our shared metro hometown. I'm home for break right now and I'd really like to reconnect with him but I don't know how to do it without being totally awkward even though the situation had totally changed. I've always had a crush on him and I would hate that this old boyfriend is holding us back, though I feel like it doesn't matter anymore and I would hope that I did the right thing before.. Please any advice is appreciated!", "summary": "I made a connection with a guy a year ago when I was in a relationship. That relationship is long gone, how to reapproach this guy without being awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_v4h7v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is my next step?", "post": "So I have worked for everyone's favorite Supercenters for two years. In my first year, I was charged with a partner-family member assault and arrested at my place of residence. I spent 14 hours in jail, missing a night of work because my place of employment doesn't accept collect calls. \n\nAfter I was released, I immediately went to work to speak to my store manager and explain what happened. He then suspended me for five months and five days, which happened to. E the duration of my trial.  Fi five months, I was unemployed and unable to collect unemoyment. \n\nFast forward to January 2012. A coworker of mine was arrested at work for the same crime. He spent 2 days in jail without being able to call in, and came back to work with no suspension. \n\nNow the difference between us is I'm a 20 year old white American. He is a 23 year old black American. \n\nI am infuriated that this kind if discrimination has taken place. The entire management team knows about his charge and I'm pretty sure I have a racial discrimination case on my hands, but I don't know where to proceed. \n\nSo lawyers of reddit, or legal students, what is my next step towards takin action, or am I even able to take action?", "summary": "me, 20 yoa white male arrested, suspended from work. 23 yoa black male coworker arrested for same crime, no suspension. Fucked up much?"}
{"id": "t3_3l80m9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving in to a wall with my new colleagues", "post": "I recently started at this new company as a developer. It's as close to my dream job as I can get right now. On my first day I went with some of the guys to the local supermarket to grab some lunch and to get to know them. I drive a BMW and I noticed that the guy I'm catching a lift with also all owns one. He drives pretty normally, nothing special.\n\nThe week goes by until today (Wednesday, 16 Sep) when I am going out to buy lunch with some of the guys. The one guy doesn't want to drive and so I offer. I totally forgot that my car is a mess on the inside and outside (which I owe the inside to my laziness and the outside to my cat who snuggles the shit out of my car for whatever reason). We get to it, I apologize for the mess and put everything where it needs to go. I start the car, begin driving, arrive at the shopping center and they suggest a good place for me to park. I slowly edge in to the parking bay and stopped my car. I edged forward ever so slowly and began hearing a terrible scratching noise which I'm pretty sure lasted for a couple of milliseconds but felt like minutes. Everyone kept quiet until one guy finally piped up.. \"Was tha-?\" \"Yes! We don't talk about that.\" I said regretting every decision I have ever made while trying to figure out a way to divert attention. \"Dude\" He said again. \"It's okay. It happens, I'm a shit driver. I hate driving.\" I say.\n\nLater that evening some guys were talking about something to do with cars and that guy before said \"Yeah well at least he didn't drive in to the wall.\" I laughed, it takes a lot to upset me and I'm pretty sure he was just joking around. But yeah. That was today's fuck up.", "summary": "First time my co-workers ever drove with me and I drove in to a wall while trying to park"}
{"id": "t3_4vk68g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 F] with my (ex) husband [40 M] him and he woman he cheated on me with and left me for announced they are engaged. i feel hurt.", "post": "title is supposed to say **the**\n\nPossible long post.\n\nMe and my ex husband were married for 14 years we had 4 beautiful children together. i thought we had a good marriage we were high school sweethearts and best friends.\n\nI found out in 2014 that he was having an affair with another woman but that wasn't the worst part. She ended up pregnant with his baby and he left me to be with her.\n\nI was so hurt and broken, he was posting pictures of him and her on Facebook and they looked so happy. we have shared custody and despite what he did he was still a good father.\n\nits been 2 years since our split and (with my daughters encouragement) have gone on a few dates. i have met a few great guys but don't want to rush anything.\n\ntoday i was on Facebook and just out of pure curiosity checked my ex's page. him and her look so happy together and he looks at her the same way he used to look at me. \n\ni continued looking and they announced awhile back that they are engaged and the wedding is soon. i can't help but feel hurt about this after everything he did he gets the happy ending but i feel like i don't.\n\ni don't know how to get rid of these feelings. help?", "summary": "my ex husband and the womn he left me for are getting married. i feel hurt and don't know how to get rid of these feelings."}
{"id": "t3_uumu2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is something that happened to you (or someone you know) that had it not been for the system actually working in your favor you might be in prison right now?", "post": "I'll start.  Many years ago I was roommates with 2 other guys.  For the 3 months I lived in this house there was a party or at least a house with many people in it every night.  One Saturday evening when we were having one of our regular shindigs I started talking with a very attractive girl.  To this day I have **never** met a girl as upfront and sexual as her.  Within 20 minutes of our conversation (*that she barely spoke*) she reached right over and grab my my junk.  Me being young horny and attracted to this girl I asked her to go to my room.  Yes, we did the *hibbity dibbity*.  We actually hit it off (*sexually*) and met a few more times after this.  I had to leave for a 2 week trip to train for a new job.  We decided one last shag was needed.  We were all alone.  Once finished I noticed the condom had broke.  Long story short she was freaking.  She still lived with her parents and had no idea what to do.  I knew of a friend that had this happen and called her.  They talked, she told her about the *day-after-pill* and we set it up for her to go on Monday to take care of it which I told her I would pay for.\n\nTurns out she was so scared she told her parents she was raped and they took her to the emergency room to have it taken care of.  I come home from my trip to find out I have been accused of raping her.  Luckily her story was full of holes all the way to her saying she scratched my face and ran out into the street in her underwear.\n\nLong story short she finally confessed her lies and me being a gentlemen I didn't press charges.  But had this gone her way, I'd be in jail.", "summary": "Stupid young girl too ashamed to tell her parents that she was sexually active decided a good rape story was better."}
{"id": "t3_2m28qq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] struggling with my ex girlfriend [18 F] of 16 months, how do I get over her?", "post": "you know, I think I'm haunted. But not by a ghost. But by memories. It's been  almost 2 weeks since she broke up with me. And in that time, I've rationalized with myself, telling myself it was the right thing for both of us.\n\n I've tried to put it behind me and drown it out by hanging out with friends, creating new memories and distracting myself. I've tried to ignore all the things that remind me of her, but it's too much. No matter how much time I spend with my friends, there are still those moments when I'm alone. And that's when they strike. The memories. Just little things. Remembering us walking in town holding hands. Remembering our first date. Remembering things we'd done together. Just things I see now that I'd think she'd find funny. Even music I hear reminds me of things we've done together. \n\nThen I think of all the happiness we'd had and all the good times, and I see how it all fell apart. I see why and how we changed, and how we are no longer suitable for each other. I dream of her, of good times and bad. I try to talk to them, my memories. I talk to her as she was before and her as she is now, in my mind. No matter how I try to escape, they always return. The memories. I wonder how she is now, and I wonder if she's gotten over me. I wonder who she will be with in the future, and if she will be treated well. I wonder when I will be free of these memories, this loss, this grief and find someone new for myself.\n\n But most of all, I wonder how I can escape these memories. These ghosts of the past. And of course, how to escape from the sadness and loss that comes with them.", "summary": "How do I escape from these memories, this sadness?"}
{"id": "t3_2f4mwy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24M) found out that my ex-gf of 2.5 years (23F) slept with my best friend, and I am absolutely devastated.", "post": "I'll try to condense this as best I can, considering I have so many emotions going on right now, I can barely sleep and barely eat. It's been almost 48 hours since she told me. This has been one of those relationships for almost 3 years that has been on again off again, but finally ended about a month ago. Since then, we have not talked until the other week, when she texted me and said she needed to tell me something. Immediately, my head goes where every guy's head goes when you hear those words. \n\nFast forward, and she was kinda flaking on meeting, but I got her to agree to come over to talk. Well, we were talking and she asked what I thought she wanted to talk about, to which I replied, \"Well, the worst thing could be that you slept with Alex.\" And she went quiet. A bit later, she admitted to hooking up with him. I had a fucking panic attack. My worst nightmare became a reality. I went outside and hyper-ventilated, cryed, and hit myself for 10 mins before finally coming back inside. I was and am floored. And uttterly disgusted. Beyond words. I feel nauseous 24/7. And the night she told me, I was up ALL night because I couldn't get the images of them fucking out of my head.\n\nI have to admit, the fucked up part is, is that instead of being strong and saying gtfo of my life, I'm acting like a fucking pussy and want to keep her in my life because I'm so lonely. I told her that if she wanted to stay in my life, she could never have contact with him again, and if she couldn't do that, then I'm gone.\n\nI'm so confused and hurt, and scared to talk to the other people in my life because I know they will tell me to drop that bitch faster than...idk. Fill in the blank. Please help me reddit. I'm feel so hurt and betrayed, it's affecting me physically.", "summary": "Ex-gf after 3 years dating hooked up with my best friend since high school, and I don't know what to do. Feel physically sick 24/7, yet still struggling to keep her in my life, probably because I'm scared. Feeling hurt and betrayed beyond words."}
{"id": "t3_2b1rzh", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I'm fostering a litter of stray Moroccan kittens and need help", "post": "So firstly I'm in a hotel resort in Marrakech, Morocco, and so veterinary care is a problem, I want to help all I can but I'm somewhat limited by being in a foreign country and in a hotel where pets aren't allowed. \n\nOn our second day heading back to our hotel room there was a cat waiting outside our room, she was limping and one of her legs looks dislocated, we let her in to our room as she looked distressed and gave her some food and water. This is when we noticed she was heavily pregnant. Other than her leg she seems healthy, she has a thick coat of fur, no flea bites and she's extremely friendly and happy to be handled.\n\nThe first night labour started but we couldn't keep her in our room for fear of the hotel staff seeing her, luckily we have a sort of private garden area and she found a spot she liked there to start giving birth. \n\nShe had 5 kittens, unfortunately 1 was stillborn, but the other 4 seem healthy and are feeding, I've removed the stillborn kitten and the mother seems fine with that. \n\nI'm pretty sure the maid knows she's in the garden, she cleaned the table outside but left the food and water out for her, so that's a big relief. \n\nI've been bringing her fresh meat and fish and mineral water a few times a day and trying to keep them all as healthy as possible, my worry is the mothers leg, and that after I inevitably have to leave this place she won't be able to provide proper care for her kittens, I've got just over a week left so I want to set them up the best I can before I leave to give them a fighting chance.", "summary": "I'm caring for a cat with a broken leg and her 4 newborn kittens in my hotel garden, I need an exit plan to give them all the best chance of survival when I have to leave in just over a week "}
{"id": "t3_h1bjm", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "A question for Redditors who are also parents", "post": "Right now I'm looking at my two year old son in his PJs watching Sunday morning cartoons. He's happily eating strawberries and humming a little song.  I guess this is where this post is coming from.\n\nI've been on Reddit for over four years and have just recently begun putting my two cents in.  Generally I enjoy the diversity of posts and commentary.  However, I have always been put off by the postings that make light of pedophilia -- most notably the pedobear postings.  I have a hard time imagining how anyone could find humor in such a deplorable subject.  \n\nI consider myself to be someone with a good sense of humor.  I appreciate irony, dark humor, slapstick, dry wit and puns as much as the next guy, but the pedophile \"jokes\" turn my stomach and I don't understand how they routinely receive so many upvotes.  Perhaps the people upvoting them are just non-parents or people who were not themselves molested as children who don't stop to think about how non-funny the topic is?  Nonetheless, I strongly dislike this darker aspect of the Reddit communal psyche.\n\nI just wondered if there are other parents who feel the same way and who, as a signal to Reddit that it's not ok to make light of sexually hurting children, would join me in downvoting posts that make light of it.\n\nFor those of you who might suggest that I should simply not click those links -- as you know it's not always possible to tell from the title that it's a pedo \"joke\".  And, to be honest, I want to do something other than let them pass.", "summary": "Pedophilia shouldn't be part of Reddit."}
{"id": "t3_xb0v8", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Need help with my kitten!", "post": "back story: We found him outside in december with none of his litter mates or his mother around. He was about one month old so we took him in(or so my fiance says; I didn't meet him right away so not sure.) \n\nThe issue: I am 27 weeks pregnant and am not sure if we will be able to keep him due to his biting. We love him and he's very attached to us(greets us when we come home, sleeps next to us, cries for us when we leave.) I know he is just trying to play but he gets very rough and has made us both bleed numerous times. How do I break him of this habit?? We really don't want to get rid of him but I can't have him getting that rough with our infant when it comes  in october.", "summary": "Kitten gets very rough while playing and we are about to have a baby. How do we break him of his roughness??"}
{"id": "t3_2xr55j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] really like my friend [19/F] and I'm worried I blew my chances with her. Do you guys think this ship has sailed?", "post": "I've been friends with this girl for a while but we became really close about a month ago, and have been hanging out all the time. Twice we went back to her house after going out and I could tell she was making moves but for whatever reason I was being stupid and didn't do anything but cuddle all night pretty much. In the past I could always tell she was pushing towards being physical and was always really enthusiastic to talk to me or hang out and I was always receptive but I guess I didn't do enough to turn things into a relationship. Tonight we went to the beach and I was planning on kissing her but her body language and demeanor told me I shouldn't, whereas when i think back to previous times I know if I had kissed her she would have been down and she would have furthered things. Now I'm not sure, I really like this girl and I know she really liked me, I'm just worried her interest is gone. Maybe I'm just over thinking everything but it definitely feels like the vibes have changed and they're a lot less flirty. Do you guys have any tips on what I can do to make my intentions clear? She's a lot more experienced than i am so I think that's why I'd been so coy and non-opportunity seizing in the past. I really want a relationship with this girl and I know she felt the same, I just don't know how to make my intentions clear especially when we've never really vocalized feelings for each other romantically but it was very clear just from the way she acted, so that I think it'd be really strange to bring it up out of the blue.", "summary": "Really like girl, I missed a couple of opportunities where she put herself out there and now I'm worried I've missed my oppritunity and she's lost interest."}
{"id": "t3_12gk7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [21F] seems uncomfortable with me [22M] going to Hooters. Should I stop going?", "post": "Me: Male, 22. Her: Female, 21. Dating about four months. Extremely happy relationship.\n\nI go to Hooters quite a bit. Maybe about once I week. I usually go with clients from work that I'm supposed to be entertaining. For those outside the US, Hooters is a restaurant whose main selling point is the scantily clad waitresses, but their food is good too. I go for the food, the boobs, and because it's great to entertain clients.\n\nI've been dating a girl for almost four months and we're extremely compatible, but every time I mention Hooters or the Tilted Kilt (basically Hooters with an Irish twist), she seems to be slightly uncomfortable and criticizes the chain. She called them \"skank restaurants\" yesterday. She's usually an extremely sweet girl and doesn't act like this, and definitely usually doesn't slut shame or anything like that.\n\nShe has never and I don't think would ever tell me to stop going but I don't think she's comfortable with it. Should I stop going for her or what?\n\nI know r/relationships jerk reaction is almost always, \"Omg break up with that bitch,\" but that is not the proper response here. I'm in absolute love with this girl and she never acts like this.", "summary": "Girlfriend acts a bit uncomfortable and insecure about me going to Hooters to entertain work clients. Should I stop going?"}
{"id": "t3_ec6ii", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most fucked up thing that's happened to you in a relationship/friendship?", "post": "I had a girlfriend in high school, and when fall came around after senior year was over, she and I decided it would be better to end the relationship on a high note and move on into college single. She was staying back home to go to college near where we went to high school, and I took off to a university about 2.5 hrs away. We stayed in touch, probably a little more than is healthy for 'just friends', and it was obvious we were still pretty attached. But one morning in october after I had gone away to school, I found a message that was left on my phone's voicemail at about 3am that morning from her. I listened to it, and I could clearly hear her voice and the voice of another guy. She had accidentally pocket dialed me with her crappy phone, and I had a front row seat to all of this. They were clearly both drunk, by the sounds of their voices. He was peeing out the window of her apartment and she was laughing, telling him to stop.  After he zipped up, he started approaching her and she kept saying 'no, I can't. I can't do this, not now' but he basically kept touching her as far as I could tell, saying 'doesn't that feel good. why would you want me to stop?' She stopped protesting, and then it was clear they began hooking up. About 10 seconds into it I couldn't bear to hear anymore, and shut the message off and deleted it. I told her about it afterward, and we sorta stayed friends but I could never look at her the same from then on. That was a year ago. We don't talk now.\n\nI'm not sure if that is rape... maybe I should have kept the message for some sort of case against him if it is. But it was the most emotionally painful thing I've had to endure.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend I was still attached to pocket dialed me while she was hooking up with someone else."}
{"id": "t3_1igg5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] with my gf [21f] of 5 months and communication over summer break", "post": "I'm stuck taking summer classes while shes back at home. I know its pretty silly, but I'm always the one who seems to text/call her or ask to videochat and its slightly saddening me. I probably ask her to videochat or try to start a conversation over phone or text between 3-5 times a week. Most of the time she's not busy, but I wish she'd reciprocate sometimes. I'm sure if I brought the issue up she'd reciprocate more, however I don't want to have the thoughts in the back of my mind that shes only doing it because she feels obligated to.", "summary": "I'm always the one who seems to text/call her or ask to videochat and its slightly saddening me"}
{"id": "t3_2wc90l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/F] said \"I love you\" to my boyfriend [25/M] of 6 months first... Now what?", "post": "I've been seeing him since August of 2014. We spend the majority of our time together- he sleeps at my apartment, hangs out there most of the day while I'm at work (he's a bartender so we have opposing schedules), we do multiple date-like activities a week, etc. He'll go back to his apartment to shower and hang out with his roommate or just have some \"him time\", but I can't remember the last time he spent a night at his place.  \n\nAt any rate, we've been saying things like \"I like you\" and \"I really like you\" for about two months now. The other day he went home for a while; we were separated for *maybe* 6 hours before he came back saying he couldn't believe how much he missed me, and that 6 hours was too long to be apart. We're obviously in that stage of our relationship where we're crazy about each other.  \n\nThe other night he was being incredibly affectionate, telling me how much he likes me and how beautiful I am and so forth, and I ended up responding \"I love you\" at what felt like a completely organic time. He squeezed me in response and didn't say it back, which is completely fine. I know he cares about me, and some people move at different paces when it comes to using the word 'love'.  \n\nI just don't know how I should proceed. Should I keep saying \"I love you\" because that's how I feel, or switch back to \"I like you\" so he doesn't feel pressured? Would it be completely weird and unromantic to flat out ask him \"Hey, should I not say this anymore until you're ready?\" Any advice would be appreciated. Typing this out makes me feel goofy because I'm an adult woman and this seems like a question a high-schooler would have, but I've never been in this situation before.", "summary": "Told my boyfriend of 6 months that I love him, he hasn't said it back yet. Do I not say it anymore until he's ready, or keep saying it when it feels right to me?"}
{"id": "t3_2vno87", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my GF [21 F] of 2,5 years, sex once/month, see eachother every/every other weekend", "post": "Hi. I'm having troubles finding out if I am being unreasonable, or we're having some troubles. \n\nMy girlfriend and I live 1-1.5 hours apart, and we both study, so funds are limited. We visit eachother almost every weekend, and are together 24/7 during the holidays. It has been like this for around a year, maybe a year and a half.\n\nOur sex life is... not exactly what I expected. We have sex about once a month, even though we see eachother 4-5 times and are mostly alone. Before we moved apart, we had sex pretty regularly, I'd say 3-4 times per week. During the holidays we often stay at our parents', so it's a tad more difficult to have sex anywhere, which is why our stats don't increase during holidays.\n\nHow do I feel about it? not that well. I often go from her with blueballs, as she teases me throughout the day, but won't have sex until we're in bed and ready to sleep, where she often just rejects me if I start kissing her, or she says not today. She tells me that she's nervous about sex, even though it always ends up with both her and me getting off. \n\nI get that she can get nervous about being together with me, as we don't see eachother that often, but I feel pretty awful about never being able to sex her up when it gets to the later evening. I pretty much just feel like a friend she can kiss and be naked with - I don't feel like she actually wants to fuck me :/ \n\nIs it normal for semi-LDR to dull down a bit when we don't see eachother? \n\nI apologise for my English, it's been a while since I wrote out something. \n\nThanks", "summary": "GF and I see eachother every weekend/holiday, only have sex 1/4 or 5 visits, not much improves during holidays. Is it to be expected from semi-LDR, or should we be having more sex?"}
{"id": "t3_1ab3oj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I[16f] convince my mom to let me date", "post": "I got in trouble last April because my mom found out I had sex. Ever since I haven't been allowed to date. Things were getting better and we were building trust, but then my mom found out in December that I fooled around with this guy on my cruise. \n\nNow I met this amazing guy that I really like and who might like me. There's no way I can have a proper relationship with him without my mom knowing so I have to convince her. He's a christian and a virgin so those are points in his favor but I'm just not sure if she'll let me", "summary": "I haven't been allowed to date ever since my mom found out I had sex. Now I met this great guy and want to pursue something but I have to convince my mom to let me"}
{"id": "t3_303iwp", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "\"Fired\" from job yet boss still hasn't paid me, what can I do?", "post": "Location: Pearl River, Louisiana\n\nI had made a previous post as to why I left my employment.  So the problem is my last day was in the first week of March and on that last day we (the store manager and I) agreed on when I'd get my final pay and paid time off/vacation pay.  \n\nUpon my last check, I had only gotten my last hours and it was void of any PTO.  I researched and found that Louisiana law is that PTO has to be paid either in cash or check within 15 days of quitting/termination.  \n\nI called corporate, the store manager, and finally the district manager who told me that \"You're going to get it next month.\"  I explained to him I cannot wait and explained the duration.  He stated the reason the pay is withheld is because he thought I was going to come back to work so he kept me in the system as employed.  I told him that it's not excuse and that I specifically stated that I wasn't coming back to be employed.  It was just a ploy for him.  \n\nIs there anything I can do to get it sooner?  Or it's best to just wait until the start of next month to get it?  I've received  a letter from the board stating that I was terminated in the beginning of the month, but the district claims that he put me as resigned a few days ago.  \n\nAny help would be appreciated.  If you need any more info, please refer to my other post or ask.  Thanks.", "summary": "Company is withholding PTO pay, making me wait another month to get it.  Any way around this?"}
{"id": "t3_fkctm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get my husband to find a job?", "post": "He has been depressed and hasn't had a job in 6 years.  He is really into art and music and keeps talking about how he doesn't want to work for \"the man\", slaving away at a BS job.  He wants an art career but isn't motivated to pick up a pencil.  He talks about going to school but by the time his enrollment appt. comes up, the classes he needs are taken.  His mom has been sending job ads his way for years and he keeps dodging them.  We have been living off one income (mine) this whole time and I am getting reallllly tired of it.  We have no insurance so we can't afford professional help for his depression and he is vehemently against taking anti-depressants.\n\nHow can I help him??", "summary": "Husband is depressed and isn't motivated to find work.  Trying to figure out how to help him."}
{"id": "t3_2hwf4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] have been going out with a girl [22F] for a month, she just said she loves me, I'm notsure I love her", "post": "So, I've been seeing this girl for the past month and things have been super intense, things were amazing, I couldn' stay away from her and I was sure I was in love.\n\nThe problem is that in January I am moving away for work, ~400mi., I know it's a relatively short distance, but it's a remote part of the country and I don't know how often I'll be able to get back. I've done LDR once and it was the most god awful experience, don't think I want to do it again.\n\nThe bigger and more realer problem though is that I went  away on a business trip over this last weekend and I cheated on her. Yesterday when I got back we met up and she told me she  was in love with me. I don't think I deserve her love anymore, and I'm not sure if I actually do love her, I mean, if it was so easy to just go ahead and fuck her over, then this can't be love, and  if that happened over a weekend what will happen when I move away for good?!\n\nWell, after she said she loved me, I was at a lossfor words and all I could do was stay quiet. She asked me if I loved  her back and I said I thought I did, but explained the moving away part. She already  knew about it, and said she was ok with it and that she'd make it work.\n\nShe's the nicest girl I know and such a great person, but I just don't  think I love her...\n\nGuess I'm a weak man, and I'm not sure what I hope to gain from writing this all down, but it's at the very least therapeutic, thanks.\n\nFire away, I guess.", "summary": "Been seeing a girl for a month, I am moving away in January, I cheated on her over the weekend, yesterday she said she was in love with me and I couldn't say I loved her back."}
{"id": "t3_2eym45", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 18 and have 7 thousand dollars from saving. Where should I put it now?", "post": "Hi guys,\nI don't exactly frequent this subreddit but I'd really appreciate any advice you guys can give on where, how, when, why and what I should do with the money I've saved, as well as, what to do with future money I will save.\n\nIf you're curious for more information about my financial situation...\n\nBasically, since I started working at 15 I have saved half of almost all of my paychecks. I started doing this so I could have some spending money but also be able to save for bigger purchases (like my car last year)\n\nSince the beginning I have kept all saved money aside from my checking using a small safe only I know the passcode to.\n\nI have a small amount saved still and plan to continue saving half of my income as long as my expenses are almost non-existent like they are now.\n\nI have lived with various friends for the past 5 years and came to this subreddit since I didn't exactly have anyone to ask around me.\n\nAs for the half of my income that doesn't go to the safe, that is budgeted up to cover food, gas, and other expenses.", "summary": "what is the best way to save my money that I could quickly get a hold of it if i needed to and wont cost me an arm and a leg to hold the account open or retrieve my money."}
{"id": "t3_1i08j4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit, what's a cult classic film that I need to watch (perhaps again)?", "post": "Blazing Saddles, The Blues Brothers, Airplane!, Beverly Hills Cop, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, The Big Lebowski, and anything from David Lynch is excepted, as I have seen them a bazillon-eleventy-seven times (save for TP:FWWM; I had the entire series on VHS--yeah, I'm old--and I'm just not happy with the whole situation).\n\nIf you're going to say Donnie Darko, please tell me WTF I am watching. I didn't get that shit at all. \n\nAnyway, I guess it's fairly obvious that I'm a child of the 80s and 90s; but I'm as interested in films that I may have missed during that period as well as later works.", "summary": "Name some movies that should be watched at least 7 times."}
{"id": "t3_3psjqg", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "My [28F] boss [50sM] is an overt racist. Would you keep working for him?", "post": "Hi friends. Throwaway for job-protecting reasons (shocked this name wasn't taken).\n\nI apologize for how vague I'll be, but I have a unique job and it wouldn't be hard to find me if I was more specific.\n\nI work for an office that does not fall under US labor laws. The office is currently hiring for a position and we had several interviews. There was one candidate who was at the top, but the top boss of the office said overtly that he would not hire that person because that person is black. There were no other reasons that he was not acceptable, only the color of his skin.\n\nI really enjoy my job, and it's very unique and would be extremely difficult to find another like it - but I feel like it's morally reprehensible for me to continue taking orders from this man, and that quitting might be the right thing to do.\n\nI'm really struggling with the decision, and would appreciate hearing what you would do if in the same situation. I'm white, if that's relevant.", "summary": "Do I quit because my boss is racist?"}
{"id": "t3_3jgsqi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[21 M] relationship with my [ 21 F] girlfriend of 6 months who is also my best friend is breaking", "post": "I am in a committed relationship with her and now i feel like i am not connected with her at all. we got committed right before my college was getting over. But the thing is i still havent cleared all exams and also i dont have a job yet. Now during this phase she started to not appreciate me like how she used to. like she used to mock me whenever any simple thing goes wrong.\n\nThis got to me and i started getting less attached to her. Now the problem is i dont have many close friends to talk to. She was the only girl i was close to.Other than that there are just a few friends who are just \" hi bye \" kinda friends. I also have a lot of problems at home as parents are too worried about my future. Now since parents started getting worried and she started mocking me infront of some people it started affecting my self esteem like any thing. I started procrastinating because i scared too much and now i started wasting so much time, not doing anything because i keep worrying about what she does.\nSo yeah after she started mocking me, she started getting closer to other people which is cool but then she flirts with them right infront of me which is very upsetting.\nFrom a relationship where there was no domination, its starting to look like she is taking advantage of me being cool with her talking to her friends.\nIts taking a toll on my life and my thoughts. \n\nAnd one more thingis, i used to say i'm going to do this do that, which my friends made me realize that i was asking permission from her when thats not my intention at all. I realized that i am really insecure. I am not happy at all.", "summary": "Passed out of college with no job in the middle of the relationship and thats affecting my love life and my personal life. What do i do reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_1yyrrx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] Kissed her[16 F] during a trip to a Naval ship, What's the next step?", "post": "So this has been a buildup of nervousness, after I losing a bet and she had me kiss her during our schools trip on Monday to a US naval ship. She didnt make me, I lost a bet and followed through, I wanted to do it. After I kissed her, she stuffed her face in my chest and hugged me. I asked her \"what now?\" We than later \"joked\" about seeing a movie on friday, She told me next time Ill kiss you and it will be longer. \n\nI really do like this girl. It's been a buildup of 2 years coming, the only thing that bothers me is that she is going to prom with a senior she says is her really close friend, It sorta bothers me but not really. She had been making a lot of interactions with me and it was led up to this kiss, my first. Should I try and bring up that movie? Except I actually kiss her and not her kiss me. I hate the feeling of her having to walk me through it and I feel it will kill it off if she thinks im too damn nervous.\n\nI ended up texting her that day and she told me the kiss \"it was cute\"", "summary": "Kissed a girl after we made a bet to do it, whats the next step? Should I bring  up that movie she talked about? "}
{"id": "t3_hu5uf", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do you keep your baby stimulated?", "post": "I'm a mom who works from home. My son is 7 months old. I've managed to get my business up and running by working every day, cramming while my son naps and relying on his dad to pick up most of the baby care when he gets home. But my question is... what should I be doing with baby to make the most of our days together? We swing at the park, watch a couple of Baby Einstein videos in the morning, I try to teach him baby sign language (when I remember).\n\nThe problem is, most of our day still feels like down time. A lot of it is him sitting in his bouncy seat or laying on my lap while I feed him with one hand and answer work e-mail with the other. What do you think, mommits and daddits? Is this typical of 7 months or could I be doing more with him?", "summary": "concerned my 7 month old is underwhelmed; what should I be doing with him?"}
{"id": "t3_35ln73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] chinese gf [24F] is leaving for a long time. Tips on keeping an LDR?", "post": "I checked the LDR sub, but it didn't seem like it would be totally helpful. Anyways, her visa has expired and she has to leave the States by the end of June. We will be dating about 8 months by that point and we have really grown very close. This has really been the best relationship of my life thus far and she had said the same to me. She will be gone for at least 2 months (possibly up to 6-8 months) depending on how hard it would be to renew her visa. She just told me yesterday that only 2 of her 6 friends that were trying to renew were actually successful (there is some sort of lottery process). We have discussed and decided against the \"marriage\" option since it would be too soon and we already know of plenty of couples who got \"married\" for similar reasons and then have everything fall apart. Anyways I am so worried that once she leaves, it might be the last time we are together. In any case, it will be months before we see each other again. What strategies or tips do u guys have to stay sane and to do our best to keep our relationship going? It would be a shame to have to split due to visa/citizenship issues.", "summary": "GF of 8 months has to go home overseas for a few months at least. How to cope?"}
{"id": "t3_265xpc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] stop falling for all my [F]riends that are already in relationships?", "post": "This has been a problem for a while, and I think it is about time it stops. It seems to be that the only girls I ever fall for are those who are my friends in committed relationships!\n\nIt isn't even that anything is going on between us, or that she even shows reciprocation of feelings, it is just a trend that I have noticed. I have plenty of single, beautiful female friends but I'm not attracted to any of them. The only people I ever seem to be attracted to are my friends in relationships.\n\nI feel like if I let this go on, then it will start to effect our friendships since I will constantly be waiting for them to break up with their boyfriends. One of them even asked me for advice about her boyfriend recently (she thought he might have been cheating) and I had to try really hard to stay impartial. I eventually managed to convince her that she was probably over-thinking small details and that nothing is going on. They are now happier than ever.\n\nCan anybody help me out?", "summary": "I really need to stop falling for my friends in relationships before it ruins things."}
{"id": "t3_29kxb3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Woman [40F] wants to date me 24[M] but I cant see it being anymore then a fling or FWB. What to do?", "post": "I frequent a bar and one of the guys sisters have a crush on me. Now I've dated older woman, usually in the 30-35 range, no big deal.\n\nShe likes hanging out, talking, playing pool, and what not and wants to make it like dating. Not all about the sex blah blah blah, only kissing her and sex with her (which I can deal with). She doesn't want me to \"ruin it\" cause she likes me a lot and I guess hasn't been with a guy in awhile.\n\nI'm not one for PDA and fine going to the movies so I'm not worried about being seen in public but its not like this is gonna become something romantic.\n\nUsually I won't be the type to just be all about the sex and hump & dump but when it comes down to it, that's all I really see gaining from this.\nI just feel conflicted cause for one I'm younger, she's my friends younger sister (yea he's obviously in his older 40's but I hang out with an older crowd at the bar) and I rather not have an uncomfortable situation.", "summary": "40 year old woman who is the younger sister of a friend at a I frequent bar wants to have a \"relationship\" but I don't see it being anything more then just a fling or FWB but they don't want it to be all about sex even though nothing more will really come from it."}
{"id": "t3_1mdcbu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[22M] with my now ex [23F] for 8 months, Moved to Hawaii together. I supported her. She packed her bags and left today.", "post": "We planned on moving to Maui together and we, to an extent, accomplished that dream.\n\nI supported her for the last three months that we have been here. We got into a small argument last night and this morning she packed a few suitcases and left to go to the airport.\n\nLiving in Hawaii is very very expensive. When we planned this it was so we both could make it together. Now that she is gone I can't make it here on my own but I cant just pack a bag and leave either. I shipped my vehicle here and getting it back will take almost a month.\n\nI want to fucking die. Not only does it hurt that she left me but now I'm stuck in a place where I can't just up and leave in one day. \n\nAnd now I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do about the grief that I am feeling and I don't know what to do about my situation. I loved her very much. I didn't care that she owed fifty grand in student loans. I didn't care that she was in debt to credit agencies. I loved her for being her. And she just left me.", "summary": "Moved to Hawaii with now ex-girlfriend. She packed a suitcase and got on a plane today even though I was fully supporting her. I can't make it in Hawaii alone because the cost of living out here is outragious. The grief is killing me. I feel like shit. And I want to die."}
{"id": "t3_u1uhi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I switch schools?", "post": "Reddit, I've been home schooled all of my life. I have never set foot in a public school as a student. But since 3rd grade I've always been at least partially involved in programs where I take classes at \"alternative schools\" for part of the week. I'm currently a freshmen at one of these schools, and during high school they pretty much just take control of your education. So it's essentially a small public school where I only have to go 3 days a week.  But my consultant has suggested an interesting proposition to me. \n\nShe suggests that I should switch to my local high school. Being the small program that I'm in, we don't have that many options. In fact, my schedule's going to a little fucked up next year because I took a few classes early in high school. On top of this, she feels that I'm not getting challenged enough, especially since my class is one of the lowest scoring classes in recent memory (which I don't disagree with). I could get into the honors classes at my local high school, and have access to resources my currently school could only dream of. \n\nBut I would still lose a few things if I switched. Mostly I would lose the friends that I've made at my current school, but to be frankly honest I never hung out or talked with them outside of school. Also I would have to start getting up a few hours earlier and go 5 days a week. The workload would be higher, and when I asked my friend what she thought of when she heard the schools name, she said: \"pregnancy\".\n\nI'm torn Reddit, what do you think?\n(Yes I know turning to the internet isn't the best thing to do when making life choices, but I want to get as many opinions as possible.)", "summary": "I've been home schooled all of my life, but my councilor thinks that I should switch to a potentially shitty local high school."}
{"id": "t3_16picd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me m[18] and my gf[18] are having issues with my ex[22]", "post": "So over the summer my ex and i had a nasty break up she took everything the wrong way. We never really even \"dated\" or whatever you want to call it we were more of friends with benefits (for me at least). But after it happened it turned into that stereotypical situation where she would blow my phone up, write me letters, send her parents to my house, lie and say she broke up with me and i wanted her back and all that stupid shit. So, about six months ago my gf and i started dating and her and my ex absolutely HATE each other. they already have history with each other but that's not why I'm here.  She is seriously coming between us and I don't know how to deal with it. I have never been happier with anyone in my whole life and she feels the same way. But there is always drama going on it makes my gf not want to be with me anymore like that if she wasn't with me she wouldn't have to deal with her. The girl is saying we're harrasing her and that we won't leave her alone and she's going to the police because of it. I just don't want to lose my gf whom I've never been happier with because of some crazy ex. I apologize if this seems jumbled up i'm not really use to writing this kind of thing i mostly post to no sleep.", "summary": "There is a crazy ex coming between my gf and I and I want to know how to deal with her without losing my gf."}
{"id": "t3_24z94y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing a final exam...", "post": "I had my entire finals week planned out. Everything went perfect until my last final. I wrote everything down on a weekly planner and wrote that I was done with finals at 2:00. When I double checked that on my planner the week of finals I misread that as my last was at 2:00... I get to the class and it's empty, I check my phone and download the syllabus and read that it was from 12:00-2:00, not 2:00-4:00. I haul ass to my prof's office and explain what happened. She let me take it, but I couldn't do the listening portion(Japanese class) which was a HUGE part of it and I only had about a fifth of the time because she had to leave. So I rushed through and had to miss a major part of it. Best case scenario, I get a 50% on the final, but that is highly unlikely. \n\nI'm going to my dorm and just going to sleep and pretend I am not fucked.", "summary": "Misread exam time and now I'm fucked"}
{"id": "t3_3yr3m1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] ex [25 F] invited me to her apartment tomorrow. I've gained 40 pounds since we dated and I don't want to be embarrassed.", "post": "A girl I dated my freshman year of college called out of the blue and asked if I wanted to spend New Years with her. I said yes, but now I'm worried that she'll be disappointed as soon as she sees how fat I've gotten. I went from 160 to 200 pounds this year. She hasn't seen me in almost three years, so she'll definitely notice the change. We used to have really good sex and that's pretty much the only reason we stuck together for so long. I know by her tone that she's only looking for a hookup, but I'm actually scared that she might just laugh at me and tell me to leave. Should I just cancel?", "summary": "I have a date with an ex but she hasn't seen how fat I've gotten. Should I just cancel to avoid embarrassment?"}
{"id": "t3_1oba4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] bf [21M] of 1 month constantly talks about his ex-girlfriend...", "post": "Hi all, \n\nI [22F] have been dating my bf [21M] for around a month now, and everything has been going great! \n\nBUT there's one problem... he CONSTANTLY talks about his ex-girlfriend. I'm not really the jealous type, so for the first couple of weeks, I didn't mind it. I figured that since they dated for over three years (they broke up 9 months ago), it's inevitable that she would be part of most of his stories and anecdotes... And I really enjoyed how open we were being with each other... \n\nBut now that it's been over a month of him mentioning her at least 3-4 times a day, it's getting a little old. Things that he mentions about her include her food preferences, cute little things she used to do, what she would get angry about, her sexual preferences, things that used to bother him about her, etcetc. The whole shebang.  \n\nIt doesn't make me jealous or worried (should I be? haha), but it does irk me a little... Since it's not a hugehuge deal, is this something that is worth mentioning? Should I simply hope that it'll die off after a while?", "summary": "My bf of 1 month mentions his ex-gf at least a couple times a day, every day. Is this something that I should be worried about and mention to him?"}
{"id": "t3_3v8f8r", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Best way to admit feelings to a good friend?", "post": "After reading many posts on the subject, I know I should just tell my friend my feelings and get it over with. But what is the best way to do this? Anyone ever been through this and can offer some advice? Or best way to mitigate hurt feelings?\n\nHim and I have been friends for a couple years now, we have a lot of similar interests. A few months ago he broke up with his most recent boyfriend and we really reconnected as I helped him through it. Since then we've started hanging out a lot more often and even go on \"dates\" about every week or so. Although, they're under the guise of being just a platonic date. At some point I started realizing that I have feelings for him and I would really like to take our relationship to the next level.\n\nWe talk all the time now and play video games together almost every single day. He's started saying things about our \"future\" together and bringing up all sorts of things weve talked about in the past. Like having a business together and moving in together when his lease runs out etc. And he often sends me a message the second he gets out of work or wakes up (he works odd hours). So I feel like the feeling is mutual, especially since his behavior has really changed a lot from what he was like before. Although this past week he's been mentioning other guys that he thinks are hot or he could date. And I'm not sure if he's seeing if I'm jealous or if he's just not into me. And the last time we went on a \"date\" after my roommate teased us of dating, he mentioned that he didn't understand why two friends couldn't go on platonic dates together as we walked to my car. Although, I'm sure I've said somethings to make him think this is all just friendly etc.\n\nSorry for ranting but needed to type it out.", "summary": "Seeing really good friend for dinner this weekend and want to tell him how I feel about him. Advice? Stories of personal experience?"}
{"id": "t3_15mx8v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] weird statement from SO(f/20) or am I overreacting?", "post": "My SO recently stated she wouldn't mind if I cheat on her. I'm not sure what to make with this statement. I would never cheat in any way, however, she did in her past, but was never cheated on herself. She says she can't understand how it feels, but she wouldn't probably mind as long as it doesn't change anything between us.\n\nDoes that mean now she likes me so much that even if I cheat, she wouldn't leave me or is she trying to make an excuse already for cheating she might do? I am really confused, I have never heard anyone saying something like this. I always thought if you like someone, you don't really want to share him like that.\n\nI appreciate any opinions!", "summary": "GF said she wouldn't mind if I cheat, confused & not sure what this statement really means (I would never cheat!)."}
{"id": "t3_2x6108", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by competing in a poetry slam on drugs.", "post": "Years ago and all that. \n\nI was at a music festival I've been going to for years, and competing in their poetry slam which I had done a number of times and had started to get recognized. \n\nNow, I had just got a wisdom tooth removed and I was on painkillers. \n\nFor those of you who have never seen a poetry slam, it's multiple poets performing pieces and there are a number of judges that give you a score, top ten or so go to the next round, two or three rounds, and you can win things. These events are hosted by someone from the local poetry scene and they MC the event. \n\nFirst round, I nailed it. Did a very long piece called Meladies that I'm rather proud of. It was a long double entendre about picking up girls and writing music. It's tasteful but boy is it suggestive. I was 3rd place out of maybe 20 in the first round. \n\nSecond round, I go immediately after a girl who did an amazing and moving piece about equality and fair treatment. \n\nIt should be noted here that the co host of this particular slam was a rather attractive poet that I most definitely had a thing for at the time. She even seemed a little wooed by my first piece! Score! \n\nSo it's my turn, and me, trying to get some cool points with aforementioned co host, say \"Man let's give it up to these hosts, they're killing it.\" \n\nDead silence. Awkward. \n\nI do my second piece, nothing in particular, just some rhythm and rhyme. Decent scores, snaps during it and all that. \n\nThen the co host girl gets up and says \"Uh did you say hoes or hosts?\" \n\nApparently I slur my words when I'm on drugs. I already looked like a man slut after lines like \"I can cop two in a pinch, at the same time like, wanna split a seven inch?\" and \"So I started rhyming, bumping that back seat rhythm, cus I have a way with words, then I have my way with them.\" Then I call a girl a hoe after she does a passionate piece about equal rights.", "summary": "Called a girl who just did a very passionate poem about equality a hoe because I was on painkillers, thus ruining my chances at winning the slam and my chances at getting some action. "}
{"id": "t3_2euwy5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex's [18/F] mother [40s/F] is being a psycho about me breaking up with her daughter.. three months after it happened.", "post": "I broke up with my psychotic ex-girlfriend a few months ago. It's not important why we broke up, but she was just crazy to me and it was getting annoying so I ended it. We were together for a year.\n\nSo after the breakup, she was distraught and resorted to talking shit and spreading rumors about me. A lot of unneeded drama that I really did not want to deal with.\n\nLast year I also got suspended for a couple weeks for bringing some pot into school (super dumb decision, don't have to tell me.) My ex got SUPER upset and pissed off for over a week and her mom was really chill about it. This is important.\n\nHer mom was always a bit nutty and weird but I never really had a problem with her, she seemed harmless. Honestly we always got along pretty great and she loved me but after I broke up with her daughter, she just always talked shit about me to other parents. I brushed it off, no big deal, it's just her being immature. \n\nNope, three months later, I'm talking to my friend and she says \"hey, [ex's] mom is talking shit about you to all the parents at soccer games telling them that you're '[ex's] druggie ex-boyfriend.' Like really?\n\nIt's seriously gotten to the point where I'm tired of dealing with this family's bullshit and I still have to put up with it after three months of post-breakup drama.\n\nI don't know how to handle her talking about me to other parents and calling me a \"druggie ex-boyfriend.\" I barely even smoke pot. It's immature as hell and I want to stop it but I don't know how I would.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend's mom is talking shit about me to other people and calling me a druggie after I broke up with her daughter three month ago, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3n8nlx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You're not a man. You're not even a beast.", "post": "Look at you, you creature of water and h\u00e6me. Look at you ebb and flow with the forces that push against your base and reverberate throughout your amorphous mass. Like the fabled beasts of old, your energy gathers for a single moment and lets you shift to correct yourself: a single spark of sentience that does not reach thought.\n\nBut you are not a beast. Those moments are beyond your comprehension, in a realm beyond your understanding\u2014they are not consciousness. You are, when those flashes do not control you, an extension of the thing that surrounds us. There is no reaction, for there is no strength within that mass to provide it; a twitch of my leg contains more strength than your entire body propelling itself against mine, keeping your mass at bay for a brief moment before the arms that anchor you to the seat send you whirling back.\n\nYou cannot even tell that you are an obstruction, and to be fair, you are barely a pain; you are not a man, and you are not even a beast.\n\nYou are a *thing*, and you disgust me beyond belief.", "summary": "wake the fuck up and lose some weight you fat fuck this is a six hour bus ride and i'm two hours in and i've had it up to here with this shit i'm going to get up next stop and pick a different seat the moment you come in i hope you fall onto the ground why don't you fucks buy two seats i had to wait two hours to look under my seat for my dropped lens bc your fat ass apparently chooses to attempt to exist in the same spacetime coordinates as mine at all times*"}
{"id": "t3_46qxcv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "OMG this is so frustrating. Anxiety can seem like 'failing at life'", "post": "I have lived thousands of miles and several timezones away from friends and family, in a totally different culture, where to understand the local language you need to learn three new alphabets, but now that I am back in my home country and considering moving away from the big city and my hometown (to somewhere quieter, to do something less stressful), I am finding it hard to overcome anxiety and actually make the move.\n\nI have travelled alone for several months in far away places, taken risks like leaving a stable job to work as a tour guide, but since a traumatic experience at the end of my time overseas, I have been experiencing anxiety.  \n\nI have never experienced this kind of generalised anxiety before.  Previously I would have embarked on this kind of move knowing that there were risks but also that it was worth the effort.  \n\nI came back with some savings and wanted to give myself a break since my time abroad was a bit intense and my job when I came back was not at all interesting.  I have already left the job but now each day that I don't do anything it's very frustrating and hard not to become negative and feel stuck (trapped).\n\nI'm sure I'm not the only one who has experienced this and I am sure there is a different way of looking at it.  I am looking for examples of how you may have overcome this kind of situation.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Moved back home after three years living abroad, want to move away to a quieter, more relaxing place and do a less stressful job but finding it hard to overcome anxiety."}
{"id": "t3_3frqfr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my ___best friend [F] of 1 year says is not ready for a relationship", "post": "I told my best friend of 1 year of my strong feelings for her approximately  2 months ago. At the time she denied reciprocating those same feelings. This had a small strain on our friendship, but we have since gotten over it. I recently  became interested in a new girl (21F) whom I believe also has feelings for me. My feelings for this new girl are not anywhere near my feelings for my best friend. My best friend has become super jealous of the new girl and it has strained our relationship significantly. \n\nI confronted my best friend about her jealousy and she, said (paraphrasing) \"I don't think I could pursue a relationship with anyone by you at this point...but I don't have any interest in a relationship right now\".\n\nIn my opinion she is hoarding me for herself but  not progressing past friendship and becomes bitter and jealous as soon as I speak to another girl.\n\nThe new girl is cool but I don't want to hurt my best friend. The new girl has no idea of my feelings aBout my best friend\n\nHelp", "summary": "best friend Doesn't want relationship but is jealous of my new female friend"}
{"id": "t3_27nz5x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf [27F] got drunk and cheated on me [M28] - forgive her or leave her?", "post": "We have been together for 6 months. She has been the nicest girl I ever had, caring, sweet, considerate and supporting.\n\nLast night she called me to admit to her mistake that she did 2 days ago. She was in Vegas and went out with cousin watch in Casino chippendales (men's striptease show) and got a drink. Guy approached them and according to her she wanted to hook her cousin up with him. Guy was buying them drinks until her cousin passed out and she left her cousin and went to bathroom and this guy followed her and then it just happened.\n\nThats her side of story, but I think she twisted it to make look like its not her fault. \n\nShe called me crying, admitting to what she did and she is hoping I will forgive her and give her second chance. She promised dont go to bar without me anymore. \n\nI slept with many women but I never had one night stand. And she had couple of them.\nShe says she loves me and she was introducing me to her family. I met her parents over skype and next few days i supposed to meet them in real. So she was serious about me.\n\nAs a matter of fact my ex gf also cheated on me and the previous before that also. I am concerned why ? I dont believe all girls are sluts but why this happens to me?\n\nShe seems like she wants to be with me, regrets what she did and seemed serious about us. I dont know why she did it but clearly alcohol is not an excuse. She has been cheated on by her ex and she never cheated before (according to her).\nI do not know if I should leave her or forgive her?", "summary": "She seems like she wants to be with me, regrets what she did and seemed serious about us. I dont know why she did it but clearly alcohol is not an excuse. I do not know if I should leave her or forgive her?"}
{"id": "t3_4lo0tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 F] and 2 tourist friends [28 and 24 M] , I think I ruined their friendship", "post": "I work in a tourist bar and a few weeks ago I met these 2 tourist guys, one of them stayed here for a week (tourist A) and the other one  lost his passport so he has to stay longer to wait for a new one (tourist B). \n\n tourist A asked me out a few days before he left and he completely fell in love with me. We slept together on his last night and it was cool but i wasn't feeling anywhere near the same he was feeling. I liked him a bit, and I needed sex so that was it. fortunately he left, but he kind started acting as if we were a couple, asking me where I was all the time and getting really stalkish on facebook. He made a huge scene the other day because I didn't reply fast enough. \n\nTourist B  would visit the bar everyday and we've been out a couple of times but just as friends. I get it that he likes me but also i'm his only friend here  and he's fed up with the city, so that's why he frequents my bar. Last night  we were drunk and we kissed, and i stayed at his hotel room for the night but we just cuddled. i don't really like him. to be honest i'm still in love with my ex and I just can't think of relationships now. \n\nNow tourist A started to ask questions and I confessed what happened with tourist B (I wanted to keep it hidden because it's not a big deal)  and he went all dramatic about me lying and taking him for a fool and that it was the worst because they were good friends. i feel like I shouldn't be dealing with this because he is not my bf and we had only met for less than a week. Still feel a bit bad of course, but I wish there was a way to make him see he's overreacting. i never promised him anything. I also want to tell tourist B  that we shouldn't see each other anymore, he likes me too much I think and right now i don't want to deal with that. \n\nwhat do you think? should  I feel bad? what should i do?", "summary": "2 tourist friends like me and it's a lot of unwanted drama/ how should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_3sdvka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23yo F] with my now ex boyfriend [24yo M] dated for 10 years, we broke up 4.5 months ago. He has already moved on and I am heartbroken.", "post": "Broke up with my ex boyfriend of 10 years about 4.5 months ago. I found out about 1.5 weeks ago he has been dating someone new for a couple of months- they aren't official yet but it's only a matter of time.\n\nPrior to me knowing this I had been doing reasonably well, I was going about my life almost as normal and was using the time to rediscover myself after being in a relationship so long. I had heard he was doing the same, and I was proud of him because when we ended things we both talked about it and agreed this was a good time for us to both do so. He had also made it clear to me that I was the one he wanted to end up with, and the idea of likely getting back together with him was something I was working towards.\n\nSince I found out about this new girl I can barely breathe. I have been crying constantly, have been psychosomatising and feeling nauseous often, and I started to have panic attacks at work. I can't concentrate on anything and have felt demotivated in almost everything. \n\nI spoke to him about it and it was good for closure but awful to hear how distant he is now- he has very much moved on from me and is very into this new girl.\n\nHe was my first boyfriend. I am afraid I will never be happy again, and that I will never find anyone that makes me as happy as he did. Has anyone been through anything similar and has any advice on how to cope with this in the best possible way? I can't see us ever getting back together after this, so I need advice on how to move on also.", "summary": "My ex boyfriend of 10 years has already found someone else and I need advice on how I can best cope with this/move on"}
{"id": "t3_4dsilg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is there a polite way for me (30F) to tell my friend (30F) that I don't really enjoy talking about her therapy sessions?", "post": "My friend and I have known each other for about 10 years and we talk about everything with each other. I love and respect her so much. This is a petty issue compared to some of the big problems I see here but I could use advice on how to handle it gracefully.\n\nMy friend has started going to therapy once a week basically just to work on herself, not to deal with any kind of major disorders (like she doesn't have PTSD or depression or anything like that). I completely support her in doing this, I think it's a great and healthy thing for anyone to go to therapy.\n\nThe thing is, after each therapy session she wants to call me or chat online about how her sessions went. The first five or ten times it was ok but now I'm kind of losing interest. On top of that I feel like I just don't have that much to say about it...like I feel like I am reeeeally hearing the extreme minutiae of her inner dialogue and how she perceives herself and extremely minor interactions with her family and...I just don't have that much to say about it.\n\nBut at the same time I think that confiding in me about all of this stuff puts her in a vulnerable position and I don't want her to feel embarrassed or anything. Is there a nice way to ask her to maybe leave her therapy in therapy?", "summary": "My friend wants to rehash all her therapy sessions with me and I love her but I don't find it interesting and honestly it makes me a little uncomfortable. How can I nicely ask her not to bring them up anymore without making her feel embarrassed?"}
{"id": "t3_1if1mm", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Proud of my son - spanking related", "post": "I know this might be a controversial post.  My cousin was visiting with his family.\n\nOverall, good weekend and my son (4) had a great time with his kids (3.5 and 7).  The last night they were at my house, my cousin's daughter came and told him that her brother (3.5 year old) hit her.  He called his son to come down the hall.  He asked his son why he hit her and he said, \"Because I wanted to hit her but I said sorry\".  Took me a good bit of effort to not laugh.  \n\nMy cousin got up and started walking towards his car.  His son immediately started freaking out because he knew what was coming.  My son was pretty confused.  My cousin came back in with the paddle.  He took his son down the hall and gave him a paddling.  No real screams just crying.  \n\nMy son was curious about what had happened.  I explained that his cousin got a spanking.  He dropped it at that point.  \n\nThe next day, my son asked me to explain spanking so I told him exactly what happened and why.  My son more or less asked why it was not ok for the boy to hit his sister but ok for his dad to hit him.\n\nI was dumbfounded by the fact that he gets it.  We have always explained that hitting is not acceptable.  He doesn't hit and we don't hit.  If my son does hit, we don't respond with spanking.  \n\nI just couldn't believe it but it made me proud that he put those two things together.", "summary": "Cousin spanked his kid for hitting his sister.  My son asked why it wasn't ok for the brother to hit his sister but ok for the dad to spank his son."}
{"id": "t3_1ttv8a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] broke up with my GF [30 F] a little over a month ago. How much \"alone\" time is right to recover from co-dependency?", "post": "I just amicably/reasonably mutually ended a relationship with my girlfriend and have been using No Contact to facilitate the healing process. I'm still mourning the relationship and trying to move forward.\n\nRight now I'm struggling with my past: I have been more or less in a relationship for the last 12 years (since I was 17) and haven't spent a lot of time \"alone.\" My relationships have been 7, 3, and ~2.5 years long with only a gap of about 6 months between the first and second. I've done a lot of reading and thinking about it, and I'm pretty sure I have co-dependent/\"Nice Guy\" tendencies. As a result, I feel like I may have alienated a lot of friends/family, but they're still in strong orbits around me and accessible.\n\nI know it's been 35 days since the break, and that recovering takes time and thought in delicate balance. But at some point I know I have to move on and start \"getting out there\" and expanding my social circles. It feels difficult, but I am looking forward to the challenges it brings.\n\nMy question is this though: I hear everything across the board from embracing the loneliness and sitting with it versus spending as little time alone as possible. I want to spend the time/energy to feel more comfortable being alone and be more confident on my own, but I'm not sure what ratio of friends/public/solitude is healthy for my recovery and the construction of a new self.\n\nIs there a compromise? Being alone in public places? Hanging out with a lot of low-impact friends? Hanging out with a few intimate friends?\n\nIs there a way to figure out this balance?", "summary": "Broke up with a long-term girlfriend a month ago. Not ready to jump into a new relationship, and I want to know how to effectively balance my time being alone versus being social."}
{"id": "t3_355mic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How the heck should I [26F] start talking to my boyfriend [28M] of 2 years about marriage?", "post": "I'm a little tipsy, but hopefully this still makes sense.\n\nI'm getting ready to fly to visit my boyfriend's family (on the other side of the US)  for the 4th time, and I really think it's about time to start thinking about marriage with my boyfriend.\n\nWe've lived together since October of last year, been together since April of 2013, and we are very close. We love each other, and say it every day. My family thinks he's great, and vice versa. He and my dad text each other about their 3d printing hobby. His mom sends me birthday gifts. Things are great, but we never talk about marriage except in very hypothetical terms. Like, I've asked him, \"Can you see yourself getting married to me?\" and he said \"Of course\".\n\nBut how do I ask about making it actually happen? Should I be blunt, like \"I want to get engaged in the next two years! Are you in?\" \n\nI'm so scared that real talk about marriage will freak him out. I've heard so much about how men are trying to avoid marriage. I don't want to lose the best relationship I've ever had because I was too impatient about marriage.\n\nPlease help!", "summary": "Great relationship, but too scared to ask about marriage (even though I want to) because I don't want to ruin the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_eth3i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "DAE think that those sweats with writing on the rear should only be older girls.", "post": "Here is the story I'm out with my wife running some errands and we go to a store with a long line and in front of us is a mom and daughter. The daughter is about 10 years old and she is wearing a pair of sweats with some writing just above the ass and right below the waist band. The problem is that the font was some weird cursive font that might of said \"flighty girl\" or 'flirty girl\". I'm not the kind of person who can't let it go with out trying to figure it out so I'm looking cocking my head and all of the sudden I notice the mom is looking at me. She sends her daughter to wait by the door and just stares at me. Of course I feel embarrased because mom thinks I'm a pervert who was staring at her little girls ass.", "summary": "Was trying to decipher the writing on some little girls pants and mom thought I was checking out her ass."}
{"id": "t3_1qs6bg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (F/21) get over my anti-social tendencies?", "post": "I have a close knit group of friends, and I get along with people just fine. But since I moved to a new town for college, I've made a few acquaintances but no one I can really call a friend. \n\nAnyways, this one girl keeps asking me to hang out, and I'm actually considering going to a school hockey game tonight with her. Part of me wants to go out and get to know her because I know I should. Another part of me is just like \"no girl, stay home, drink wine and eat ice cream with your boyfriend\".\n\nHow do I get over my annoying as hell anti-social tendencies?", "summary": "I'm anti-social at the worst times."}
{"id": "t3_41520u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get kinky. [NSFW]", "post": "This actually happened last night, and I haven't gotten any sleep since then.\n\nI realized that my boyfriend and I haven't had time to fool around in awhile due to us being extremely busy with schoolwork. Since it is winter break, however, I decided to surprise him with some special treats. I went out and bought some sexy lingerie, a new bottle of lube, and handcuffs. That night, after getting all dressed up and getting him excited, I told him my idea. I'd always seen people do the deed standing up, and I really wanted to try it, so we began our search for finding something I could handcuff my hands to above my head. Nothing in my room was up over my head, so we searched the rest of the house. Eventually we decided to head into the basement, but in order to do so, we'd have to sneak past my parents bedroom, whose room stood at the top of the basement stairs. We made it past alright, and were happy to find a myriad of pipes running over our heads that we thought would be perfect for our fun time. I was secured into place, and we started going at it. Within minutes, I was so into it that I wrapped my legs around his waist, so that my entire weight was being supported by him and the pipe above us.\n\nSuddenly there was a low groaning sound followed immediately by the pipe giving way, and the two of us getting soaked by all of the fluids you do not want to be covered in. I screamed, without thinking, and my boyfriend starts gagging from the stench. My parents hear me cry out so they get up and rush downstairs to see my boyfriend trying unsuccessfully to pull his pants up because he's too busy dry heaving from the smell; me frantically trying to climb on top of the washer and dryer in order to avoid the now rising fluid levels (mind you, I'm still in sleazy lingerie); and their plumbing completely ruined. There was a lot of screaming, crying, gagging, etc. After two hours of trying to get everything sorted, I found my way back upstairs to my room, but my boyfriend was forced to stay downstairs and sleep on the couch.", "summary": "tried to be kinky, got caught in a shit storm"}
{"id": "t3_w915v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are you a rich person who's feeling a bit philanthropic...is interested in Doctor Who...or just wants to read a typical college student complaint...?", "post": "I'm going to be a sophomore next year at UC Irvine and the only way I've been able to afford college is through loans. I wasn't awarded a single cent in grants or scholarships. I don't understand why I haven't gotten anything... I'm a Hispanic female, top of my high school class (well...bottom of the top...I got two B+s), took 9 AP classes and passed every test, 7 of them with 5s, I'm one of 6 children with divorced parents who make...oh...right....they make just enough for me not to qualify for anything from FAFSA. I'm a Cognitive Psych major hoping to double in Studio Art and shooting for a PhD in Psych. I'm starting up my school's very first Doctor Who Club next year but...of course...it doesn't count for anything. I am asking anyone who feels slightly sympathetic for my case to help me. Whether it be showing me  scholarships I can apply to (besides all those useless ones that you apply to every week online...), advice on how to make money, or you know...a loving donation. I can draw you a picture, please. I need money for school. :[\n\noh god how pathetic of an attempt to have strangers give me money. forgive me internet. I need the money.", "summary": "I need money for school, I deserve it but can't get any scholarships/grants. Would you like to help me?"}
{"id": "t3_4idpx7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We just end up talking but we really want to fuck [20 M] and [20 F] [2 weeks]", "post": "Okay, a bit of a weird situation here. \n\nWe're FWB (so it is established) and I have a pretty high libido -- I assume she does too.\n\nThe past 3 times we've messed around I can get to a decent mast but not enough to penetrate -- I've attributed it to a psychological type of ED because I've had ecstatic sex before. \n\nAdditionally, we usually have limited time and we have ended up talking the whole time instead of getting to talking. It has gone like this (we're in a study abroad program and have tried in multiple locations):\n\n* 1st night: messing around, postponed -- attempted but could not\n* 2nd night: literally talked the whole night\n* 3rd night: messing around, slept together, did not attempt\n* 4th night: watched a nature documentary, messed around, attempted but could not\n* 5th night: watched a drugs documentary, messed around, attempted but could not\n* 6th night: slept together because did not want to bother roommate\n* 7th time: spent the 1 hour we had just confiding\n\nThis is my first hook-up type of relationship -- I'm really trying to open my mind here. I really like this girl but I don't want any of us to get hurt -- I especially do not want to be hurt again because I need this next year to be a good one. She has never been in a \"real\" relationship before -- that is, never been in a romantic and dedicated situation, while that is all I have had before.    \n\nI see something special in her, sure, and I know she sees something special in me...but I really just want to be able to fuck, to feel like I'm a normal person that can do this because I know it will help both of us -- but particularly, I do not want to disappoint her and myself.\n\nWe have 2 weeks before we leave the program we are in.", "summary": "FWB, but we talk a lot (sometimes only talking when we're supposed to be fucking) and when we do try to consummate it's all good except I can't quite get it in. I'm definitely sexually attracted to her, and her to me. It is my first FWB, and her first hookup partner that she really \"talks\" with."}
{"id": "t3_2acatd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my SO [19 F] of 6 months, went out came back with hickey in neck. How to bring up", "post": "This happened a couple of weeks ago. She went out on a night out with friends, a mixture of guys and girls.\n\nWe went on holiday together the day after. In the evening of that first day, she brings up that she got a hickey the night before from one of the guys. She tells me that this guy, while drunk, came up behind her and bit her neck, leaving the mark. She was completely open about this, and didn't try to hide any of the details as far as I can tell. At the time, this seemed plausible and I didn't think anything more of it.\n\nHowever, having had time to think about this, I am aware that it would take some time to give someone a hickey. As far as I am aware, it could not just happen from a guy biting her neck randomly. \n\nI was just wondering if you could give me some advice of the best way to bring this up with her in a non-accusatory way, as I do trust her completely, just need some questions answering I guess.", "summary": "Girlfriend went out one night, came back with hickey, claimed a drunk guy friend gave it to her by biting her neck, but nothing happened and she pushed him away. How to bring this topic up again?"}
{"id": "t3_pon76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel jealous and know I shouldn't...", "post": "Background: Me, 19F. Him, 19M. Been together for about a year, things are going great. That's not the real issue here.\n\nA lot of my friends and other acquaintances (read: facebook friends) have gotten married over the past few months. Some were clearly because the girl got pregnant, and we're close enough to the south where that generally means a marriage. Others were simply sudden, with the couples having dated from a few months to a few years.\n\nPart of me is jealous--when I see the facebook albums of them picking out dresses and cakes and looking ecstatic on the big day, I can't help but wish that I could have that with my boyfriend (while things are quite serious, we've both decided it's best to focus on our studies for now).\n\nAnother part of me feels--miffed, I guess?--at how casually some of them are treating it. Their statuses quite literally say, \"Dropped my phone in the toilet\" \"Boreddd\" \"Getting a pedicure!\" \"Off to get married. Wish me luck!\" I wish I were making this up.\n\nI just need to be reassured that I'm doing the right thing in waiting and being very careful about my relationship. My head knows it's best, but my heart really reacts strongly to how happy these girls seem to be.", "summary": "How do I ignore/change my negative emotions when I see my friends and acquaintances getting married?"}
{"id": "t3_30unej", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hitting a kindergartener in the face, probably giving him a black eye.", "post": "obligatory: My wife actually did this about 20 minutes ago but I just had to share.\n\nThe following is her story:\n\nBackground:\nI used to work part time with kindergarteners as a teacher at an after school program at my local Community Center. About two months ago I got a full time offer to work in the centers pre-school, infant care program, so no more after school program. \n\nFast Forward to today:\nTFIU when one of my old kindergarten boys saw me walking down the hall. He ran up, gave me a hug, and asked asked when I was coming back to his group. This made my day, and even more after I told him that I wasn't coming back and he got very upset over it. He really missed me! After this touching moment I turned around and headed back to my classroom. Little did I know that he was following right behind me and when some called out to me from behind I spun around to see who it was and I managed to smack him right in the eye!", "summary": "I used to teach kindergarteners. Today one told me how much he missed me and then I hit him in the face. He doesn't miss me so much anymore."}
{"id": "t3_wm0ub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit. What is so surprising/bad/special about girls on teh internetz?", "post": "Usually, I announce that I'm a girl and the mood shifts. Like, on Xbox, a lot of the times I get asked for 'proof' (then the lot of them laugh like I can't hear them) or they get more vulgar, or less vulgar, depending on who I'm playing with.      \n    \nOther times, like on Reddit, I see a lot of guys letting off steam about 'crazy girlfriends' (uh, yeah, those exist), but what really irks me is the creomments. A lot of responses end up looking like 'all women are crazy' or 'don't trust those bitches' or 'fuck bitches get money'.    \n    \nOr even other times, I just see this vibe in the general media that women bring down the fun of any male gathering, even when the fun that's being had seems awesome to be apart of. A lot of guys like the boobs, but when the boobs get brought to the male-dominant party, its like a seal is broken.   \n  \nGranted, everyone is different. And, aside from the fact that, yeah, when its Bro Time, you don't bring a girl, when its Girl Time, you don't bring a bro, what is it about being a girl that's a big deal? Just honestly curious.", "summary": "whats your opinion of girls on the internet"}
{"id": "t3_cjpbj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Legalities regarding multi-state car registration and insurance", "post": "Hello friends! Throwaway here ;)\n\nI am in a situation right now. It goes a little something (well, pretty much exactly) like this.\n\nI currently live in New York, and have always had a New York State license. Last year, I had moved to another state, for an unknown amount of time (took a job). That job has ended, and now I am back in New York. However, the plates on my vehicle are currently my out-of-state plates, which are set to expire at the end of next month.\n\nI received a piece of mail a few months ago that I have been putting off for some time now: registration renewal for my out-of-state plates. Ideally, I would like to keep those out-of-state plates, because I don't plan on being here (in New York) for the long term (although that situation is up in the air), and I would like to move back to my previous location. However, by keeping them, I feel like I may be committing some sort of fraud (specifically, ahem, insurance fraud), as my vehicle would be registered in another state where I no longer reside or have permanent residence.\n\nI thought I heard/read somewhere that some states will offer a refund if your registration still has some lengthy amount of time left on it (a \"prorate credit\", per se). I find that hard to believe.", "summary": "Can I renew my out-of-state plates, keep my New York State license, and continue with my insurance on my out-of-state address (despite me not living there any more) to avoid having to re-register my car twice in two states in a relatively-short period of time, without any illegalities?"}
{"id": "t3_138a2y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My grandmother is in a nursing home suffering from advanced dementia.  She had her wedding ring from the 1940's stolen from her today.  Reddit, who is the lowest of your low?", "post": "My grandmother suffered through the depression, and her entire life never borrowing so much as a dime from anyone.  She built her life from the bottom up.  She eventually became a published author as the housewife of a social security employee in a time when women were not expected to break the post-war stereotypes.  Her husband of 50+ years died in 1996.  The last few years she suffered crushing illness and was placed in a nursing home by her daughters.  Today I found out her wedding ring was stolen off her finger.  She is immobile and pitiful.  I can't decide whether I am more angry or depressed that someone would stoop so low as to steal the wedding ring off of a defenseless crippled old lady with no possessions of value in her life.", "summary": "My mad, crippled old grandmother had her only worldy possession stolen from her.  I would like to hear some stories of the most pathetic evils you have endured, or been witness to."}
{"id": "t3_1jr3m0", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Friend's parent is dying. He's extremely clingy and needy.", "post": "My friend is one of the nicest guys I know. Very genuine and inclusive and inviting. A few years ago he joined the military.\n\nHe came back abruptly when he found out his mom has cancer. He's the oldest of five siblings, and he's back from this military with no idea of what to do with himself. \n\nMeanwhile, I'm trying to get my life back together. I had a similar situation years ago and I kind of lost it. My sister was hit by a train and killed. I moved across the country because I hated being known as the guy who's sister was killed. So, I'm spending as much time as I can preparing for school.\n\nI noticed his clinginess when I tried to hook him up with one my girlfriend's friends. Everything was going well at first, but he started calling her every day, expecting to hang out every day, etc. When we all hung out as a group with mutual friends, he'd basically stare at her and talk at her. She felt cornered most of the time. She felt he was moving too fast (she had just gotten out of a bad relationship).\n\nAnyways, since then, he's been calling me at least once a day. I don't mind, but I'm trying to spend as much time on my own life as I can. I've told him this, but I still feel bad when I don't answer his calls. I think it's excessive.\n\nAnyways, I'm wondering how to help him. I need to focus on my life, and I've become reclusive since deciding this. He constantly wants to hang out. He told the girl that I hooked him up with something along the lines of \"I don't like being alone.\"\n\nI want the guy to be happy, but I need my space as well. It's really hard considering the burden he has involving his mom's condition.", "summary": "Friend's mom is dying. He's clingy; calling constantly. How do I help him while also continuing to focus on my life?"}
{"id": "t3_1egx0p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can you maintain a friendship with someone while \"saving\" them for a relationship later?", "post": "I(23F) have had a very close friend (24M) for several years and we have known each other since we were children. We had a falling out and didn't talk for about a year, during which we both seem to have changed a lot. After reconnecting I realized I now wanted more than friendship from him. I told him and he said he felt the same and we ended up sleeping together. The problem is we live across the country from one another and both have lots of plans that will mean this couldn't be a reality for at least a year, probably more. Neither of us were interested in long distance and so we left it kind of open, saying that maybe some day the timing would be right.\n\nNow comes the problem. We are both now dating other people (21M and ?F), both relationships being about 3 months old. \n\nI want to be able to hang out with him but I don't want to interfere or make problems. I just have no idea how to go about being around him and possibly his new girl. I feel guilty just talking to him sometimes and can tell he feels the same.\n\nAlso, by \"saving\" I don't mean I am thinking we will get married in the future for sure or anything like that. As of right now, he is someone that I would like a relationship with. I know that at any time either of us could meet someone else that we feel more strongly about, maybe we are with that person right now. After three months though, I don't know that yet. \nI'm sure his girlfriend is great and I want him to be happy, but how can he and I retain a friendship with such an elephant in the room? \nAlso, what can we say to our current SOs? I want to be as honest as I can.", "summary": "Friend for long time. Slept together but can't be together. Now dating other people."}
{"id": "t3_1qhi7u", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Until what point is it worth doing something you hate and living a life you hate?", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\njust for some background: I am a computer engineering student from Brazil who absolutely hates what she does. I hate both my program and this stupid country (please don't take it personally fellow Brazilians) however I have only two semesters left to finish my program. I also recently came back from an exchange program in Canada that delayed my graduation in a year.\n\nNow, getting this stuff off my chest: as said previously, I absolutely HATE the program! I hate it! I can't stand it anymore!! I just want to shoot myself whenever I am in class or doing some kind of homework. Why did I continue you ask? As stupid as it sounds, it is simply because my parents made me and because the program is free (here in Brazil there are certain kinds of university that are for free, but they are harder to get in). Basically if I left, I would've been forced to start working full-time and I didn't believe I would be able to get into University again for free again in those circumstances.\n\nAt this point I feel like it is too late to give up, and if I do so, I will be throwing many years of hard work in the trash. But on the other hand, I am just so miserable right now... As far as I am concerned, working delivering pizzas for the rest of my life sounds like a brilliant idea compared to what I am going through now. I really don't know if it is really worth going through this much stress in order to try to get a degree. I just want to go back to Canada and live a simple life with my SO who also lives in Canada\n\nI am having many major crises lately of how much this situation sucks and how I think I am wasting my life doing something I hate and that I should just throw everything in the air and go find something or some place that makes me happy.\n\nSorry if this sounds very selfish and not really a major life threatening issue, but I really needed to get it out and need some advice on how to cope with the situation without shooting myself before hand.\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "less than a year left to graduate, hate my field, hate my country, want to leave everything and just live a simple life"}
{"id": "t3_2e9led", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF of 2 years (M23) wants to have kids with me (F24) later in life, I don't want them..", "post": "I have been with my bf for almost two years now, he really loves me and wants to get married and have kids, however, i don't really see that in my future.\n\n he always jokes about having kids, or making me pregnant and even asked if we have kids what names I want. i sometimes try to humour him but this makes me scared.\n\ni am worried that eventually, the urge gets so strong that either he will leave me to have kids with someone, or ill cave in and end up being unhappy, or i will get pressured by everyone and think i had wanted kids on my own but really I didn't.\n\nwhenever i say this, many tell me \" oh you'll change your mind when you get older\" that's another scary thing, the whole biological clock thing. Plus i have mental illness and feel like i would not be a good mom besides not wanting kids.\n\nthis makes me upset cause i wanna be with him and make him happy but this is too much, i understand that kids are important to people and feel bad for taking that away from him. lately he's been talking about it more and more and I know its early for us but he tends to bring it up often and I always feel bad trying to change the subject or give a chuckle at the thought assuming he is joking. it seems he really wants kids and I have no idea what to do, please help me.", "summary": "BF wants a baby in his future, I don't, worried he may leave me or i will be resentful"}
{"id": "t3_ktvbp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else not understand why gay marriage is such a big deal?", "post": "I'm gay, have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the better part of a year now, and just do not get it.  He's shocked that I am not more upset about being denied marriage rights.  In my mind it's just simply not that big of a deal, and most certainly not comparable to the civil rights movement.  It's lame and obviously discriminatory that I wouldn't be able to get married, but it's just a piece of paper from the state.  Especially now since Obama has ordered hospitals to allow gay partners visitation rights and what not.\n\nI live in California, and during all the Prop 8 hooplah I was far more concerned with setting a precedent of allowing flavor of the month social issues to be enshrined in the Constitution than I was with the actual matter at hand.  I kind of see things like Prop 8 as sideshows; I fully understand that the issue will eventually be handled by the Supreme Court, and there is enough precedent (Loving v. Virginia, etc.) that an unbiased judiciary would have to rule against any ban.\n\nBut on the other hand, I saw the repeal of DADT as a righting of a major wrong.  So go figure.", "summary": "I'm gay, and don't understand why people get so upset about gay marriage being illegal."}
{"id": "t3_2ptmev", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ruining Christmas for 200 kids", "post": "Where I live, there is a fantastic Christmas place for kids (and adults). You start by walking through the \"caverns\" set up with window displays of various Christmas scenes (elves workshop, TMNT Christmas in the sewer) all illuminated and beautiful. Then when you reach the end, there is a Santa to meet with all the children and take pictures. He's a great Santa, with a real beard and excellent personality. They are fairly priced to boot. The problem with all that is the place is always extraordinarily busy. As in, quite a long time to wait to see Santa. The waiting area is snaked, with various benches and the like (and some toys set up for the children). I hear one of the employees tell someone that the wait is just about two hours, so, instinctively, I yell to my family (about 10 feet away), \"Forget this, there are 800 Santas in the area, and I'm sure a few don't have a wait half this long.\" Three dozen heads turned to face my simultaneously. I walked away as fast as I could, leaving my family behind.", "summary": "Told the better part of 100 kids that there there is more than one Santa (800 to be exact)."}
{"id": "t3_nv3kt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Should I take the chance?", "post": "There's a girl I've been attempting to woo for around a month now rather unsuccessfully. I would ask her to a movie and she would respond with plans she had already formulated. Both she and I were incredibly busy at the time so it was a justified and non-evasive response. Being both seniors in high school, we are on break for this week! She has a party for New Years and I'm certainly going but, as anyone would, I really want to call her for a date.\n\nThings is, I don't want to get denied a date before the party and sabotage potential party-conversations.\n\nShe's never had a boyfriend before so I hope she's just afraid boys but am unsure! \n\nFellow gentlemen, dear ladies,", "summary": "I could ask a girl out on a date today and either "}
{"id": "t3_aq6oq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife told me she wants to leave - after nearly nine years together I'm left some weird combination of terrified and saddened...advice?", "post": "We hooked up at 19, married at 26, now we're almost 29 and she told me she wants to leave.  She says she wants to do so temporarily, to grow as individuals and perhaps work things out, but I can't help but assume the worst.  Other than the words coming out of her mouth nothing makes me believe it will be temporary.\n\nAnyway, I'm a little terrified of what to do next.  I don't want things to end, I feel like she's going nuclear out of nowhere.  Just a few days ago things seemed fine, a little romantic even, and we haven't had any major arguments for weeks (though we had a few big spats over the holidays).   FYI there's pretty much zero chance she's cheating or anything, it's more like she's withdrawing and wanting to be alone or something.\n\nOn top of that, I never dated at all during my 20's so that's a big fear, that I'll be alone for a long time because I'm so incompetent in that department.  Last time I had to find a girl I was a kid, and I wasn't even very good at it then, so what do I know now!\n\nI also worry about her - I make most of the money and she'll be struggling on her own any way you look at it.", "summary": "I have two questions for the wise ones of Reddit:"}
{"id": "t3_4zdjp9", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Does it make sense to delay grad school a semester so my boyfriend and I can move together?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 26 and have been together two years and friends since middle school. Last year, I left my grad program for a year so I could live and work with my boyfriend in the same city (our hometown, I left after high school 900 miles away). \n\nIt's time for me to go back to grad school and finish. My boyfriend just got promoted and wants me to wait another semester so he could transfer and we could move down together. I'm already in the state where my grad school is but he wants me to drive back up and work until December. I do have a job I could do until then.\n\nI feel like we should just do long distance again for three months until he comes down. Then I could look for an apartment etc in the meantime and get going with finishing my program. He doesn't want to do that and is putting pressure on me. It's sort of my fault since I have been wishy washy and told him I would come back after visiting my family down here. My family thinks I'm making a mistake and need to start my program now. My gut is telling me that's what I need to do, but now I feel guilty since I said I would come back. I hate living at home with my parents but I could do it for three months. \n\nIs it completely ridiculous to go back and work until December? I loved our life up there and I have no social life down here with my parents, but I don't know if that's reason enough to delay grad school...again. I'm scared to lose him and then be left with nothing but school. I've never been good with hard decisions and I always make the wrong choice. Could anyone give some clarity? I have exhausted my friends and family.", "summary": "boyfriend and I used to be long distance, moved 900 miles away and stopped grad school for a year so we could be together. Time for me to go back to school, boyfriend just got promoted and wants me to wait until next semester so we can move down together. I'm letting emotions get the best of me and I'm not thinking rationally."}
{"id": "t3_4b5uwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F/27] and my former best friend [F/27] had a falling out, and now after years she contacts me again", "post": "She and I had been best friends all through out college, but in 2013 we had a pretty rough argument. It was a major fight and tore our friendship to shreds. We moved to different cities and that was that.\n\n About a year later, I attempted to make first contact with her and repair our friendship but she straight up rejected me. I was pretty hurt, and decided to just forget it. No point in attempting to get close to someone that wants nothing to do to you. No almost 2 years later, she sends me a series of texts. To paraphrase, she basically says she has been thinking a lot about me and misses our friendship. I say the same, and ask how she got my number. It might have been a tiny bit standoffish, but it seemed natural to be so. She said she got it from a mutual friend of ours. This mutual friend tells me she contacted him about a week prior to the messages asking for my messages, and saying that she needed my number because of something urgent. When I ask her what was so urgent, she just kind of brushes it off and says she just wanted to message me but didn't know what to say (sidestepping the question). I tell her lets just move past everything and forgive and forget, and she replies \"forgive and forget\" which I felt was kind of said mockingly but I am not sure. So what do you guys think? Was she being genuine? We havent messaged since these messages which were about a week ago.", "summary": "Former best friend messaged me after years of silence wanting to reestablish our relationship, but not sure if genuine."}
{"id": "t3_c3ncg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are there any popular phrases or colloquialisms (past or present) that think you originated?", "post": "About a year ago, I was in a bar with a few friends of mine when one of them says, \"look at that dickbag with the popped collar.\" My other friend replies, \"yeah, he's like an entire bag of dicks.\"\n\nI don't think any of us had ever used or heard the phrase \"bag of dicks\" before that, and for a few weeks after that, we all got a pretty big kick out of using it as often as possible in situations that may or may not have been appropriate.\n\nFast forward 6 months to a year, and I can't find a single thread on the internet where the phrase is *not* used.\n\nMaybe this is just an example of that phenomenon (forget the name of it) where you hear or see something once and then all of the sudden start noticing it everywhere. But I'll be damned if I wouldn't have remembered such a singular phrase as \"bag of dicks.\"", "summary": "> answer the question from the headline."}
{"id": "t3_uq5k6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are some unusual and amazing things you can do?", "post": "I'll start:\n\nSometimes before I go to sleep, I'm half-asleep yet still awake. Now ok, probably most of us are like that. So here's where it gets interesting...\nDuring that state, I can hear instruments in my mind as if I were hearing them live. I can replay melodies or do whatever I want with sound. I can even start with one instrument, then add more layer by layer and create an entire orchestra. I've actually made original pieces in my mind... too bad I can't share them with anyone.\nSo what are some interesting/amazing & unusual things you can do?", "summary": "I can create songs in my mind during a semi-conscious state."}
{"id": "t3_52fsg4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend (25/F) just broke up with me (25/M) for no apparent reason after 7 years.", "post": "I have been in a relationship with her for the past 7 years. We've had our fights and have taken a break 2 or 3 times, never more than a few days. Last week she told me she wanted to take a break on the grounds that she doesn't love me anymore, we would keep seeing each other and work on it while she figured things out but after only a few days she said she was done for good. She wanted me to leave the house and I refused until I got an answer as to what was happening and how we could work on it but she would not talk to me. This is the only time I've ever yelled at her in our entire relationship and I did throw things but I would never hurt her. One of our friends came over and talked me into leaving and now she won't talk to me and neither will anyone else. They give generic advice like \"Everything will be all right\" and \"Time heals all wounds\". It's been about a week since me yelling and now she's deleted her facebook and won't talk to anyone about me. I don't know what to do because I've been left in the dark. Marriage was an old wound with her because I told her I wanted to wait until we were older, I had planned on proposing this year actually. Please, any advice is welcome.", "summary": "GF broke up with me and will not give me any answers so I'm feeling very confused."}
{"id": "t3_1ef9km", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Need advice on building my personality", "post": "I really didn't know where to post this. This is been killing me from long\n\nI tend to judge people by looking at their appearance. Most of the time it is something subconscious. I been into trouble for this. I try overriding subconscious thoughts, but I always loose. I think too much, talk very little. Introvert to be specific. I have decent looks but lack confidence by a mountain. Most of the time, I keep myself isolated. I have been doing better jobs and worked very hard. Everyone at my work place regard my efforts. I am really bad at conversation. I run out of words while talking to anyone more than two mins. I believe I have good personality. No one looks at me like the person I described here. All the above factors contributed to my quick temper, I burst out at times. I can't even cry, i tried but nothing helps. I find it hard to share feelings. I don't enjoy silly talks and conversations. I am always the odd one out at any party. I feel lot of jealousy within me. I tend to over analyse things. I don't have so called good friends. \nI have always been like this for beginning. I can't handle all these stuff. I don't enjoy life. Whenever I want to do anything, my first thought \"what are people around gonna think about me\". I always prioritize other people's decision and comfort rather than mine\". I don't enjoy things I have, crave for things I don't have. I need to get over all these. Be a better person. (p.s I am not a psychopath, just a typical introvert) what do I do. I can't even cry. Every moment I realize how much I miss life, I have so much to pursue in life, I don't wanna miss them more. I can't even cry. I want to myself better. What do I do?", "summary": "typical introvert..!"}
{"id": "t3_gfn4p", "subreddit": "self", "title": "FCC Investigation", "post": "I found out today that my cable provider is contacting the FCC to investigate torrent activity on my network. \n\nLet me preface by explaining a little bit: I use Mediacom, which to my knowledge, is a subsidiary of Comcast. I've run into problems in the past with some rather enterprising individuals cracking my WEP security on my router. I was on a final warning because they were downloading movies and obviously weren't smart enough to encrypt. I do casually torrent, but it's mostly legit stuff like linux distros. But I have always set my preferences to require encrypted peers and have peerblocker installed on all my machines. Well, a couple of days ago, I decided to download a movie that I could not find in any Redbox anywhere near me. The very next day my internet was shut down. When I finally spoke to someone, they said that since it was my \"3rd offense\" my internet was going to be cut off for 10 days, and that the FCC will be investigating. Now I'm not one to freak out over idle threats, but I'm just trying to cover my bases. So, what do I do to prepare? Do I need to delete anything? Uninstall uTorrent? Or just sit back and laugh, and spend the time to catch up on reading?", "summary": "got caught downloading, cable provider said they're having fcc investigate."}
{"id": "t3_2rlp68", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] am confused with whats going on with [18 F]", "post": "I started talking to a girl on tinder about a month ago, hungout with her and everything was good. We talked NON STOP day in day out texted till 4-5am then the same the next day. We hungout two weeks ago, she told me she liked me and we kissed and acted all couply. \n\nShe then asked me to a new years party, and then I noticed she was slowing down on talking to me. I asked whats up and she said her mom gave away a beloved pet/was jam packed with homework. \n\nSo she ditched me on new years.. she texted me that night saying hey blah blah Two days ago she'd just text me once in the morning, and today in the morning saying how stressed she is over school and stuff. Also noticed she's been active on tinder again and changed her display pic.. Thoughts?", "summary": "In summary, I met a girl on tinder and she's not acting how she used to be and I can't tell what she wants."}
{"id": "t3_132fp3", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Exchanging flights for an earlier one?", "post": "So my girlfriend's parents bought us plane tickets to come back home for Thanksgiving. Really awesome of them, but they bought them without knowing our exact schedule. Specifically, the tickets they bought depart Cincinnati on the 19th. We're both our of work/school on the 16th, however, and since it's been months since we've seen our friends and family, we're looking to get as much time as possible while we're at home so we don't have to make (m)any compromises.\n\nWe looked into switching tickets officially through the airline the tickets are from, and they expected 190$ at minimum for each ticket, plus an extra fee. Dropping another $450~ on the tickets just isn't possible right now(and even if it were, that is ridiculous fee and I don't think its worth it).\n\nHOWEVER, I was told by a few people that if you go to the airlines on the day you wanted to switch your ticket for, and there are any seats open on the flight you wanted to switch to, they will let you on the flight and take the tickets you have. It seemed fishy but I was told the reasoning was that if they take your tickets for the future flight, it allows them a small window of time to sell the ticket again and make some money.\n\nOn one hand it makes sense, on the other hand, I have this feeling it won't work because the world is a dark, cruel place. What do you guys think? Is it possible? Is there anything I should do to make my chances better? Etc. Thanks!", "summary": "Want to switch flight to earlier date without spending gobs of money. Possible? If so, how."}
{"id": "t3_2768uq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on reddit so long my desk broke", "post": "Some context, my desk is made of wood and is fairly new and costed quite a bit.  So yesterday I was going on reddit.  I went through old posts and found some good stories so I started reading them.  Well I forgot about time and 4 hours later I felt my elbow hurt a bit so I tried looking at it, but my arm wouldn't move.  I looked down and realised what had happened.\n \n My elbow had been pushing down on my desk so long it broke through the wood and got stuck in the centre.  Now my elbow was stuck in my desk and I couldn't get it out.  After an hours of wiggling my arm and trying to break free to no avail I had to call for help.  My friend came over with some tools and helped move my elbow out and now my arms are full of splinters and scratches.  Now I have to throw away my brand new desk and go buy a new one.", "summary": "Procrastinating is dangerous"}
{"id": "t3_43rwt7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "How to find someone's address (Australia)", "post": "Hey guys, really frustrated and need some help.\n\nMy friends and I had a 5 bedroom house and needed a fifth person to move in. We found this guy on flatmates.com. Because we were all so close/trustworthy/stupid/inexperienced, we always emptied rent into the real estate agent's own account directly. We never emptied it into a shared account before giving it to the agents, which was fucking ridiculously moronic in retrospect. \n\nAnyway, 6 months later the prick moves out and Hocking Stuart send us a message saying how we are late on rent, by $3000. We find out the dude who just left hasn't been paying rent. He blocks us on Facebook, won't answer our calls.\n\nWe call VCAT (Victorian Civil and Administrative Tribunal for non-Victorians/non-Australians) who say this is a civil offence and they can take care of it, as long as we provide them with his address.\n\nThe idiot left us his mum's number, his work place number, his licence number and a bunch of other details. We tried going to the police who said they can't divulge information or something, we went to VicRoads pretending he'd crashed into us and they said we needed a solicitor. His mum is useless, we haven't contacted the boss because why would he believe us.\n\nWe are so frustrated we have no way to find his address and he owes us a lot of money. I'm a Uni student who lives out of home. I have to pay rego and insurance and bills, I need money... Is there ANYTHING I can do??????", "summary": "Housemate flaked on us without paying rent, owes us 3000 have exhausted all ideas about how to get his address, which is necessary to launch an investigation with VCAT supposedly...."}
{"id": "t3_2z0do3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] she [21F] loves me so much but says she can't be with me or marry me because of her health issues.", "post": "So, My girlfriend and i have known each other for 6 months and been together for 3 and she says she can't be with me because of her medical issues. She has a heart problem which is manageable if she took care of herself. She always think she doesn't deserve things and she's not worth it. She thinks I'm too good for her and i deserve someone better and she's not enough for me. I love her so much and i want be with her and she's all i want and need. What can i say to make her see that she's wrong?", "summary": "she says i deserve someone better, she's wrong. What can i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1khusd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[19M]; my girlfriend[18F] of one year is cheating on me.", "post": "So my girlfriend of almost a year met a guy of the class above her at a university event. They became friends, and I'm not the jealous type so I thought nothing of it. I first became suspicious when she went to watch a movie with just the two of them at his place, but I didn't want to be an imposing dick so I didn't say anything about it (this was about 2 weeks ago and they met about a month ago). She went off to an exam today and forgot her phone at home. She kept getting texts and phone calls so I thought it might be a family emergency and I looked at her phone to check it out. It was the guy and he was sending her all sorts of sexual messages, and her responses were not as sexual but she was still saying some stuff. From it I've gathered they've hooked up at least once (I think sex), but she seams to be trying to put a stop to it. What do I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is cheating on me with a guy, but she might be trying to stop it. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_396ws4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [32M] and I [30F]. Together almost 7 years, and still just \"boyfriend and girlfriend\".", "post": "Hey guys. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six and a half years. We've lived together for two years. \n\nThings between my boyfriend and I are really good right now, but unfortunately last year we went through an extremely bad rough patch. Things were absolutely horrible between us, but we went to couples counseling and it did wonders for us. We've been extremely happy with each other and I honestly don't remember the last time he and I have even had anything close to a disagreement. \n\nWhere I am starting to go with my thoughts about our relationship though is that...we've been together a LONG time now. And I'm still not even engaged. I want to be married, more than anything, but I understand making sure he and I are good together before jumping into something like that. He knows full and well that I want to be married. I have not been quiet about that goal. I brought it up a few months ago and he agreed its something he wants too. But we haven't set a timeframe. Its just that out in the ether \"someday\". \n\nI feel like its a weird situation, which is why I'm coming to Reddit. I understand that we had a really really bad 2014, but overall our relationship has been fulfilling and I want to be with him for the rest of my life. But because of that bad stretch, I feel like talking about an engagement is bad timing. It hasn't even been a full year since things really settled down between us, but the relationship as a whole is coming up on seven frigging years. I guess my though process goes to the phrase of \"Shit or get off the pot\". I understand things were bad last year, but if you aren't sure you want to be married to me as a person after this many years, what am I doing here?\n\nShould I hold off until more time has passed, or should I press the issue more?", "summary": "Been together seven years, had an extremely rough time together last year, on the verge of breaking up forever but things have been great for close to a year. I want to be engaged but theres been no sign of a proposal from him after this long"}
{"id": "t3_33onrw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25/F] started dating a [35M] 4 weeks ago. He still takes care of his ex's kids.", "post": "He lived with his ex for 3 years, and helped raise her kids, the father was not there for them so he was their father figure at the time. They are now 6 and 8 years old - he goes to his ex's place every morning to take them to school every day and picks them up afterwards to take them to his ex's place. He takes them out to the park and sometimes they sleep over at his place. \n\nI can understand that, strictly speaking, he broke up with her, and not with the kids that he claims to have grown so attached to. However I'm wondering whether I should be concerned about him possibly still having feelings for her.\n\nShe calls him daily and constantly texts (she has a boyfriend now), however part of me is wondering whether I should run away from this situation or be understanding about it.", "summary": "he has constant interaction with his ex gf because he takes care of her kids, don't know if I should make a run for it because he still might have feelings for her"}
{"id": "t3_qgjy9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has your treatment for anaphylaxis changed?", "post": "I've had to deal with a severe milk allergy my whole life. A bad reaction last night that required extensive life-saving medical treatment finally prompted this post. Not because I went into anaphylactic shock for the umpteenth time, but because a new doctor had recently recommended that I treat it differently, and I think it may have really helped. \n\nIn the past, I'd carried benadryl and EpiPens with me to use if I had to, and I'd received the same two drugs as treatment at the hospital, usually with the addition of a corticosteroid. But this time, my new doctor told me that right when I was starting to have a reaction I should take 60mg of prednisone (a corticosteroid), a dose of ranitidine (aka Zantac), and a dose of ceterizine hydrochloride (aka Zyrtec). Last night, I did wind up receiving both benadryl and epinephrine at the hospital after I got there, but the anaphylaxis never did get full-blown (and based on what I'd accidentally eaten, that was nothing short of a miracle).\n\nSo, I'm interested in sharing this method of treatment so that severe food-allergy sufferers might mention it to their physicians. I'd also love to hear from anyone else who's used this combination before, or who's had any other experiences with anaphylaxis treatments besides the ol' standby of benadryl and epinephrine.", "summary": "Hey, there are different ways to treat anaphylaxis! Share and discuss."}
{"id": "t3_3x1638", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im [20F] confused on how to handle a scary situation my ex [21M] has landed in", "post": "So me and my ex have had a very rough break up (after about 2 years dating) , I only broke up with him because of his constant lies (mostly about drugs/hanging out with druggies) but I remained good friends with him. \n\nI still care about him very much, obviously. I would never of broken up with him if he didn't lie to the point of ridiculousness! \n\nAnyways, He is now in rehab for drugs. He calls me a bit, and his parents also call to check in on me, make sure I'm okay. I just have no idea how to handle this situation. We've been broken up for ~4 months and I feel like I don't have a \"role\" to play in any of his rehabilitation, but id love to be there for him and help. \n\nFor example, His parents want him to move in with them in a different city after he gets out of rehab to avoid all the bad influences where he used to live (mostly his \"friends\"). He is NOT willing to do that. I really want to tell him that if he doesn't move in with his parents I will cut communication/contact with him until he moves in with them. but is it even my place to do that?! The last thing I want to do is abandon him but I want the best for him and being near his \"friends\" will inevitably lead to drug use, at it ALWAYS has! \n\nAlso if theres another subreddit that best fits this question/plea for help, please tell me!", "summary": "Ex gf of a \"mild\" drug addict (is that even a thing?). Still good friends after breakup, don't know how to precede to help/dont want to overstep boundaries."}
{"id": "t3_3qg9k3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading a TIFU while ordering food", "post": "I walked into a fast food place to grab lunch and arrived in the line slightly before a couple of older women. I opened bacon reader to check what's good on reddit while waiting in line. They women were positioned as if they were going to go ahead of me and I planned on letting them. Gentleman thing, you know? \n\nFor the record, I was reading this post: \n\nThe time came and one lady looked at me as if waiting on me and, with phone in hand, I said, \"Go ahead, mam.\" She looked at me with a slightly disgusted look, adjusted her jacket and went forward to order. I can only assume she thought I wanted to take pictures of her butt or something, which definitely was not the case. I still can't reason why I received the response I did.", "summary": "Waiting in line to order food; decided to be a gentleman and let a couple older ladies go before me while I read bacon reader; received look of disgust."}
{"id": "t3_zzpn8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing F3AR.", "post": "I'd been playing for awhile and came to the conclusion that the game wasn't nearly as scary as the games before it. I made my character climb up a ladder, where the light above it flickered in an eerily sort of way. About halfway up the ladder, I'm able to see through the bars clearly, I pass a level and who's in my face? Alma of course.\n\nI flip out, throw the controller, fall off my bed and land on my tile floor, face first. This scares my cat, she goes into a seizure, I pick myself up and do what I can to calm her down.\n\nI did beat the game though.", "summary": "Got the shit scared out of me by a game that isn't scary, nearly killed my cat."}
{"id": "t3_26dk04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm so confused.. any insight?", "post": "My boyfriend ( 37yo) and I( 41yo) have been together almost a year, we moved in together about 3 months ago and everything was good, but about 2 weeks ago he stopped having sex with me?  He is still affectionate, still comes home every night nothing else has changed he just says he's too tired to have sex?\n\nI'm starting to get a complex about it, feeling unwanted, unattractive and frankly I am a bit lonely.  I try talking to him but it's like talking to a wall he says nothing is wrong he loves me yet I get nothing in regards of intimacy.\n\nI know the \"honeymoon\" period wears off but after only a year I didn't think we would just not be having sex... can anyone offer some advice on how to get us back on track?", "summary": "My boyfriend not having sex with me anymore....  Should I be concerned?  Can anyone offer me some advice on anything I could do to spark the flame again?"}
{"id": "t3_3eeuyu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my long time best friend [25M], is it okay to tell him I want sex only?", "post": "My best friend and I met when we were about 12 years old. He has always made it known how beautiful he thinks I am and even though we live over an hour from each other, makes it a point to check in on me and will sometimes make the drive to see me. We have a great relationship and this is why I wanted to seek some sound advice before making such a drastic move. Speaking blatantly, I want to sleep with him. Badly. We kissed once a couple of years back, and he brings it up often, talking about how he wishes he had done more but didn't know if I would have been okay with it and did not want to overstep his boundaries. But I want him. And I want to know how to tell him without coming across as \"easy\". Is a woman telling a man this a turn off?  Opinions? Advice? I would really appreciate it.", "summary": "I want to sleep with my best friend, how do I tell him? Should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_vbsfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I Caught my future MIL Cheating", "post": "M28 with gf of  4yrs F21 just ran into one of the worse possible situations for me. \n\n My future in-laws and I began to speak about one year ago. They have been together for about 26 years, He is a overprotective jealous guy, she is a personal trainer. She decided to get her certification to become a personal trainer and got a job at a big box gym against her husbands wishes. She originally was working out of her home with elderly couples but it was not financially rewarding so she decided to work at a big box gym. \n\nThis morning on the way to work I was getting gas when she walked out of the gas station holding another personal trainers hand. As she was walking out I guess she spotted me and walked up to me and began to have a conversation with me while the guy waited in the card. She went on to say that they came by just to get coffee and some bottled water for later that day. She said they were just friends and hoped that I understand.\n\nAlthough I only seen them hold hands, I don't think this is normal. I don't know if I should tell my gf what I seen. I don't want to break her heart. Also, I'm sure she would tell her father which only ends with either them separating and maybe my gf or her mother blaming me for it, or they work it out, look like a guy that put my nose in where  I shouldn't have.", "summary": "Caught future in-law cheating, don't know if I should spill the beans. If I tell I might be seen like a nosy person."}
{"id": "t3_3w3zcj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [35F] exgirlfriend doesn't want me [24M] to be a part of our, not yet born, child's life and I don't want to be either. Am I making a mistake?", "post": "My ex told me on the weekend just gone that she is around 3 months pregnant, I had no idea, and didn't tell me until now that she is pregnant.\n\nWe met yesterday to talk about what to do, in which she explained that this was her decision and doesn't want me to be a part of their lives but would feel guilty for not telling me.\n\nPersonally I do not want a child for financial and emotional reasons. So, the idea that I am going to be a father never the less, and she really doesn't want me to be a part of it, is putting a lot of strain on my moral compass to whether I actually want a relationship with this child.\n\nI'm just not sure if I'm making a massive mistake and would like advice.", "summary": "my ex is pregnant but doesn't want me to be a father, I don't want to be either.. am I making a mistake by not"}
{"id": "t3_102exu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys and Gals of Reddit, I experienced a new awkward today. Why and what are some things you do or have experienced that were really awkward similar to this?", "post": "I had a second interview with this company and I'm just baffled by the manager that interviewed me. With a good guess I'd say he was about 26, and I'm newly 20. Anyways, I was put together very professional-no cleavage was out or heavy makeup. While interviewing me, almost every time he asked me a question he would look down below my face while I was speaking to him. I always look people in the eye so he had to have known I could see what he was doing. But he kept doing it! And when he looked away from me, I would quickly put my hand to my chest to see if anything was there. Nothing. No cleavage, or crumbs, or something weird worthy of staring at. He was so calm and nonchalant about it too. I'm mostly used to this as I developed early and awkwardly in middle school, but when I would catch guys looking it was always instant red face for them. And the quick glance to anywhere but my chest like it never happened. Overall the interview went really well and we connected on growing up in small towns in crappy states and such, and he was very nice to me. I just don't get why some guys (this guy in particular), have no shame or embarrassment doing that. I don't think I would be able to stare at a guys package while knowing he's looking right at me. Especially in a more professional setting.", "summary": "Had an interview, manager that interviewed me kept staring at my chest even though I had no visible cleavage and was looking right at him."}
{"id": "t3_386ljr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] has no idea what kind of date to take [24 F]", "post": "This past weekend I went out and got this really cute girl's number. We really hit it off. She's quirky and just awesome. We've been texting everyday and I really enjoy talking to her.\n\nProblem is, I'm broke. I go to school full-time and work a seasonal job that doesn't start for another month. I want to plan a date but I just don't know what to do.\n\nThis would be our first date. I don't want to do the stereotypical dinner and a movie. I also live with my parents so taking her back to my place is kinda not an option yet. If any of you fine people can help me out it would be very appreciated.", "summary": "She's awesome, I'm broke. Need ideas for a good first date."}
{"id": "t3_1nkt2p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Travelers of Reddit, what is your worst experience in a hotel?", "post": "My work used to require me to travel quite a bit.  At my peak, I was in a hotel around 200 nights a year.  During this time, there are several stories that really stand out.\n\nNormally, I would check in on Sunday afternoon, and check out on Friday morning.  It seemed as if I could sense that problems were on the horizon, weird things start happening and then something really messed up happens.  \n\nWork that week was especially tiresome with 14 to 18 hour days.  On Wednesday and Thursday, I had to order room service because there weren't any restaurants open by the time we were finished that day.  I finally went to sleep very late Thursday night, and there was a knock on the door around 7 AM.  Mildly annoying, but it happens quite frequently when the cleaning crew thinks you've left.  I open the door, and she apologizes for the intrusion and leaves.  About 30 minutes later, there's another knock on the door, and it's one of the front desk people.  This time, I'm not very nice to them because I'm sleep deprived and I could use the extra hour of sleep before the next day of work.  She says that I've checked out and I need to leave because I'm trespassing.  I responded by saying that I had been in my room sleeping all morning, I couldn't have possibly checked out.  She leaves and 30 minutes later *ANOTHER* knock on the door.  I didn't even open the door or look out the peep-hole, and told them to get bent.   The response from the other side of the door really woke me up.  \"This is the city police department, open up.\"  Now I'm really pissed, and open the door.  The cops were really cool about the whole thing, and I had to explain that I was a paid guest and had requested a late checkout when I checked in.  I showed them my reservation and they left.  Let's just say that when I actually went to check out, the hotel manager didn't have much to say while I told them what I thought of their \"customer service\".", "summary": "Paid guest at a hotel, told that I was trespassing, and they called the cops.  I yelled at the hotel manager when I checked out."}
{"id": "t3_42b5e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my Ex BF[34 M] 6 months, dating exclusively", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail wHi, today, I feel more down than any day after my ex boyfriend break up with me out of the blue, I've been praying and having hopes to have him back, or at least him to text me or call me to know about me, he was always lovely and sweet, now hes cold, hes someone else, I never thought he could be the person hes now, everything hapened after I met his parents, he already knew my parents, and we spent a lot of important dates together, with my family an his family, Im posting here because I want so bad to text hi to contact him, but I dont know if thats is degrademe or make him feel uncomfotable, thats the last thing that I want, I just want to keep having hope in him, and know if hes coming back.", "summary": "Any one in out of the blue break up? Do I have to contact him? does hes coming back? why he did this?"}
{"id": "t3_1d691v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend isn't sure that we are compatible and I'm not sure what to think/feel. [20f,21m]", "post": "Hi guys. So, the SO and I had a long talk tonight. Lots of tears and apologies and whatnot. The thing is: if he gets upset with me he'll stay mad at me for hours even if it's just a misunderstanding and if I've already apologized for it.\n\nMoreover, he gets annoyed that I get annoyed over little things (since he's a guy and he doesn't understand why these things might upset me even though I try to explain them to him). \n\nSo overall: he is doubting whether or not we are compatible because there are some fundamental things that we do which annoys the other person. \n\nI just feel like we fight a lot about silly stuff and that ultimately these things add up which makes us hesitant to talk to each other (I tend not to stand up for myself sometimes just to avoid conflict which might possibly go on for the next 10 hours).\n\nDoes this mean that we're not 'compatible'? How do I fix this? (2 years)", "summary": "we have long disagreements about silly stuff and it's getting to me and him. We're not sure how to fix it and whether or not this makes us incompatible."}
{"id": "t3_52zp3s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24f) and (40m). partner is worried that my mew medications could change my personality, anyone experienced with this here?", "post": "So after an ER visit its become clear that my old meds are not working anymore and Ive built up a resistance and need to switch to a new kind.    my doctor perscribed one to me that my husband was always against before because it \"made his ex change so much\".  now since I need and have no other options he is being very supportive and wants whatever keeps me safe but he is also worried.   reading stories online and talking to him about his ex,  people say this med sometimes changes your personality, you dont like old hobbies or people you used to like and it happens in such a drift apart way that I worry.    I like my life.   I like my husband.   I dont want those things to change.   does anyone here have any experience with this sort of thing?   advice on how to fight it or of it will even happen?", "summary": "did you or a loved one go on a new medication and drift apart?  can this be prevented?"}
{"id": "t3_swc02", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A year ago I cheated.  He wants out and I'm falling apart.", "post": "I'm 22 and have been with my husband for 3 years.  A little over a year ago I cheated.  We had a lot of issues.  Basically I felt like he didn't love me and didn't care to listen to me.  We fought and most of the time when I brought up something I was upset about he seemed to turn it around to be my fault so I quit talking. Instead I started talking to a friend of mine who actually seemed to care and listen.  When me and my husband had a fight my friend was always backing me up which felt nice.  One thing led to another and I ended up cheating.  \n\nI regret it.  I hate myself every day for it.  I have since cut off all ties with said friend and we live a long distance apart.  Me and my husband decided to try to make things work.  We went to counseling three times since it happened then things felt a bit better so we quit going and started focusing on our up coming move.  We get here and things seem to be okay.  We're sort of in a rut but I've been doing my best to show how sorry I am for what I did.  We finally settled in here and things seemed to be looking up after a pretty crappy year.  \n\nToday I mentioned I was abnormally content only to be told that he can't see us staying together and maybe we should split up.  Obviously I deserve this but I am crushed.  I don't want to lose him and I don't want him to hurt anymore.  He said he'd love for him to feel the same way he did about me but he isn't sure it's possible because of what I did.  He said what I did may just be the end of us.  Has anyone been through this before?  Has anyone's relationship been pulled through the mud so badly only to have it work out?  I feel so lost right now.", "summary": "I cheated a year ago, he wants to leave, I want to make it work.  Anyone been through this successfully?"}
{"id": "t3_2zbore", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24m] need some advice about a close friend [21f] we just connect so much its.crazy", "post": "So me and this girl let's call Kim have been friends forever almost more than friends but the timing has never worked out when we first started talking I was dating my ex fiance and when that relationship went south she was ready to be with me. \n\nSeeing as I had just got out of a bad relationship I told her I wasn't ready. Now she has a boyfriend she hates but doesn't want to leave him seeing as she is almost done with nursing school and doesn't a) have anywhere to live b) doesn't want any life changing my events seeing as she is under.enough stress as it is. \n\nSo we started talking again in January and the depth of our relationship is slowely getting deeper. This past time when we met up she cheated on her bf with me. She keeps telling me to give her a few months and wait till schools.over and we will be together. We talk everyday all day she always calls me first.thing in the am to tell me good morning and at night Well I live about an hour and half from her and she said she wants me move back home. I really want to be with her but I'm worried that ill move back and away from a good job and she won't leave her bf. I'm stressing about it I think about it.constantly. idk what it is about her I've slept with a couple girls since we've been talking which she said she is fine with but she doesn't wanna know about them. Basically I'm trying to get this off my chest and look for advice.", "summary": "I'm head over heels in love with someone I can't be with right now and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_dcjls", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit, I need a legal but terrifying reply to a Facebook friend request...", "post": "I got a request for friendship from the guy who sexually abused me as a child. I was 8! He was in the Navy or something, I remember his uniform. Now he has just sent me a friend request on Facebook. I have not seen or heard of or from him since the abuse, which caused me a great deal of distress but I have dealt with it and moved on. That was a long time ago, I'm 48 now. \n I want to send him a message that clearly says fuck off and die, but I don't want to threaten him or do anything illegal. I want to put terror in his heart for a moment. But do it legally.", "summary": "Need an extremely unsettling reply to my childhood sexual abuser who has requested friendship on FB"}
{"id": "t3_1397eu", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Dog with loose stools question", "post": "Hey, I have a border-terrier mix who is about 8 months old. I started fostering him in august. He has had a problem with loose stools since we got him. The first food that we were feeding him was purina pro plan lamb and rice. We took him to the vet when it was obvious that it wasn't clearing up and they gave us medicine and bland food for him to eat. It got better when he was on the medicine, then we discontinued it to not make him stopped up. We continued on the bland food and then it came back. When the bland food ran out my mother was insistent that we get him organic food. So we got it for him and it didn't change at all. What I am thinking of trying now is a food for sensitive stomachs. What is a good food for sensitive stomachs?", "summary": "What is a good food for dogs with sensitive stomachs?"}
{"id": "t3_3fsd97", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by signing up for a class on a day and time I don't have daycare for my spawn.", "post": "This has been building for the last few months, and today I realized what happened.  I'm a grad student with a nearly-3-year-old kid and wife.  Wife works the normal 9-5, M-F, I work nights at a hotel Thursday - Sunday (get paid to do homework? Sure.) and two days a week we send our kid to daycare so I can take classes.  In April I signed up for classes in the fall.  For some reason, I was under the impression my classes were in the morning on Tuesday and Wednesday. \n\nAround the same time, the university's daycare sent out a form to register for daycare in the fall. Thinking my classes were on Tuesday and Wednesday, I signed up for Tuesday and Wednesday mornings, and go about my life figuring everything's fine. I even remember checking my schedule to make sure this was right.\n\nAugust hits, I decide I should probably check my schedule to figure out when the first day of class is. My first class is September 3, 9:30 AM. A Thursday. \n\nI contact the registrar, make sure they didn't change the time or something (they didn't.) and contact the daycare to figure out if there are any vacancies for Thursday morning (there aren't.) and then panic. \n\nSo I've dropped the class required for my degree on Thursday, picked up a Wednesday-evening-not-required-but-I'd-probably-end-up-taking-it-anyway-class (which means my wife's going to have to leave work early to watch the childling) and hopefully can take the required class next semester.", "summary": "Signed up for classes, signed up for daycare, didn't check class schedule close enough when signing up for daycare, chose poorly, had to reschedule classes and force wife to leave work early one day a week for the next few months."}
{"id": "t3_12jom4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I found out several people I used to consider friends hate me with a passion. Reddit, how do you let go of hate and the hurt associated with betrayal?", "post": "As the title says, I found out I am one hated lady. It started with a former best friend of mine who, after a long tumultuous relationship, decided to stop talking to me altogether without much warning. She claimed to have many mental problems for a long time and I tried to support her and be the best friend I could, that is until she started attacking me as a person. I was bullied, belittled, and at one point hit. She would belittle me, crush me and make me feel like an awful person and tried to convince me to do things I didn't want to do, until i finally had it, realized she was making me untrue to myself and did not listen to her. Shit rapidly hit the fan t the point where i no longer lived in the room we shared. Flash forward a year later and I haven't spoken to her only to find out that our former mutual friends who were very nice to me in person, hated my guts the entire time. I'm not sure if it's because of something she said to them in light of my version of events or if they were just  trying to be polite and hated me the whole time, aligning with the enemy. The story goes much deeper than this but this post is already too long. What really bothers me is that 1) These other friends lied to my face and did not have the courage to tell me if i was in the wrong or that they disagreed and 2) I still miss the best friend I used to have and have a lot of anger inside from it. I don't want to hate her at all but the betrayal still hurts me. I wish i could just let it go as a \" well they'll get there's \" or \" they don't deserve our friendship then \" but I'm having a really hard time putting it to rest.", "summary": "Ex-best friend after tumultuous friendship severs all ties and turns mutual friends against me. Those mutual friends then lied to me and failed to tell me their problems to my face. I feel betrayed and hurt but I don't want to hate anymore. How do you let go of hate?"}
{"id": "t3_oxtgc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Im creating a street paper in Europe called \"Comika\", which is based on comics. Most of its content will be from people who send in their comics or allow us to use their existing ones. Would anybody like to contribute?", "post": "The goal of a street paper is to provide homeless people and asylum seekers something to sell and get donations from. We want to create a paper that people not only buy because they want to help, but because they really enjoy it.\n\nWe (me and a friend) are currently putting together a first issue and are making and collecting comics from the city and around the world. If you have a self-made comic, would like to draw or have an idea for one, then we would love to see it! \nYour comic would be printed (hopefully) thousands of times and distributed in Vienna, Austria. Credit to the author would of course also be given. (name and website)\n\nEvery level of skill is allowed, we can fix or complete rough sketches as well. \n[Here is an example of one that I did today](\n\n[Layouts for 1, 3 and 4 panel comic strips](\n\n[Our website] (currently still in development)\n\nYou can post a comic/idea/sketch here or send it to us directly via email at admin@comika.at.\n\nThanks for any support and we'd be really interested in any comics!", "summary": "Collecting comics for a homeless street paper, dont be ashamed if you have no skill in drawing, we can fix it."}
{"id": "t3_nizm0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How to get over betrayal?", "post": "Ok, not sure if this is the right subreddit but I'll give it a shot. \n\nDetails: When I was 25(f) or so I was dating my ex 28(m) at the time. Needless to say it ended badly. He cheated on me with his roommate, got her pregnant and refused to move out of the apartment where he was living. I realize now it was probably stupid to ask or try to salvage the relationship but I was very naive.\n\nMy issue is that I still have a very strong feeling of betrayal from the whole thing two years or so later. I thought we had a little rocky relationship but I loved him so much and never thought he would cheat. I even discussed him having a female roommate who might of had feelings for him before hand in a rational manner and we (me, ex and roommate) talked about it to make sure it was all out in the open and I thought they were adult enough to handle it since my ex said he wasn't interested in her. Also I had worked with his roommate in my job and didn't think she was the type to cheat...\n\nI think it was also so shocking because I got the news by my ex calling me and telling me his roommate was seven months along, he was going to be a dad, and that he wanted to work it out with me. The fact that my judgement was so wrong, and that he knew but didn't acknowledge that she was pregnant and played a boyfriend to me for seven months was so soul destroying. A fact that both he and she chose not to say anything and string me along was cruel...\n\nQuestion: I still have feelings of sorrow, pain, anger and betrayal and I don't know what to do to get over it. I lucked out and found a great guy who was 10x better than my ex but I can't seem to get over this. Every once in a while this issue/feeling rears it's ugly head and I feel helpless and pained. It's not constant like it was in the beginning but after two years why haven't I been able to leave this in the past? Time really hasn't made to much of an impact on making me \"feel better\".", "summary": "Ex bf cheated in a horrible way, can't figure out how to get over negative emotions about the ordeal even after two years."}
{"id": "t3_2o706x", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is My Employer Being Unreasonable? Or How Can I Be Better At My Job?", "post": "I have been at my new job for 8 days - a small business with about 5 employees. In short I am taking over the jobs of two people who are leaving and were in drastically different roles (both have worked there for 10+ years) and have been given about 2-3 days of training in each role. Despite my diligent note-taking, I still don't know what I'm doing. \nBoth my roles within the business should allow for everyone else's day to run smoothly but it is still early days and there is no one to advise me due to the small size of the business. I don't want to keep going to my boss with stupid little questions as he is always busy but I still have so much to learn but feel as if I'm expected to know it all right now. One of my predecessors has assured me I will be fine and has left after I was in the job for 2 days. I don't want to tell my boss I'm struggling as I feel as though he feels he took a risk in hiring me (as I'm unexperienced) and I want to seem capable.\n\nThe thought of going to work tomorrow fills me with dread as I feel way out of my depth as I'm having to work things out by myself.", "summary": "I feel as though I need more training for my job and I'm way out of my depth. Is my boss being unreasonable to expect me to already have a grasp on both roles? How can I be better at my job?"}
{"id": "t3_xncc7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a programmer who signed an NDA, and I need advice.", "post": "Ok, so here's the situation. It's a bit messy. \n\nI was contacted to work on a project for a group of close friends, with one of them holding majority stake. The group of friends created an LLC.\n\nI signed an NDA, and I signed a contract outlining what work I need to do. Since that point in time, the group of friends tried to kick out the majority stakeholder, and he was having none of it. \n\nThe head dude decided to disband the LLC, and create a new one with him as the only person in it. Since then, the other guys decided to start up a new LLC with a similar idea, because they still want to move forwards with the project. \n\nI have a sneaking suspicion that the original dude wants to sue. I was just wondering if I have anything to worry about, as I'm not part of the new LLC, and the original LLC I signed the contract with has disbanded. Also, as a contracted programmer, I'm not necessarily providing any ideas or making my own thing, I'm just coding to their requirements.", "summary": "I signed an NDA, the company disbanded, a new one sprung up out of its ashes, can I do work with the new company?"}
{"id": "t3_2wluwp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] met a [22 F] who has recently been dumped, need advice", "post": "Met this girl a few weeks back as a guest to a party that I threw, she's a friend of my roommates girlfriend. Saw her again two days in a row last weekend as well.\n\nHaving seen her a few times and talking to her, I noticed that I kept thinking of her even though we didn't talk that much as I'm a bit socially awkward around girls.\nThe catch is that she was recently dumped by her boyfriend which supposedly came as a shock to her. We didn't talk about this as I feel like this would put me directly into the friendzone but I've heard from others.\n\nStill I can't shake the feeling I have and would like to pursue. \nAsking her out however does not feel right but if I'd wait it might be too late. Right now it feels like whichever choice will ruin the opportunity.\nThere's also that I'm not looking for a cheap score or ending up being her rebound guy.", "summary": "Met a girl which is still processing her ex whilst I'm thinking how to pursue."}
{"id": "t3_326y9e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(18m) like a girl(17f) who is dating a friend of mine(18m). Last night I did something super embarrassing and I need advice.", "post": "I am 18 in highschool, there is a girl, let's call her Lena,  she transferred in, and I liked her immediately. I showed her to my friend, let's call him John. John proceeds to go behind my back and go after Lena.  John and I have been friends for about 9 years or so, but he has always been a bit of a dick.\n\n I've been really salty about it for weeks now, and last night he even invited her to out karaoke night that we do. So I took this chance, and spend the whole night singing songs about how I liked her,  Jesse's girl, Mr steal yo girl, he will never love you like I love you etc. I knee John would be mad at me, but he did me wrong 1st right? He actually tried to fight me earlier today. \n\nHere's where it gets interesting,  Lena messages me on fb, and asked me what was going on. I told her I had to tell her in person, so she met me at a park near my house and I spilled the beans, I told her how I liked her all year, and how I told John about it and John went after her anyway. We sat at the park and talked for like an hour and a half. When she was leaving she gave me an extra long hug, I could be reading too much into it but it seems that she might like me back. She also told me to call her or text if I wanted to talk.  What should I do?", "summary": "I like a girl,  who my friend is dating, I saw her 1st, and I sang to her, she might also like me back."}
{"id": "t3_qe6lu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your favorite instant karma story?", "post": "This just happened to me a few hours ago.\n\nI'm standing in line at the food court near my dorm. There's a guy behind me being very loud and obnoxious with a few of his frat buddies (all wearing shirts with their frat letters). I get up to the register and hand the cashier my ID to swipe me out. He accidentally drops it over the counter and it falls to me feet. I reach down to grab it, but before I can do so, the guy behind me tells me to, \"hurry the fuck up,\" as he starts to walk into me and move my food off the counter to set his tray down. I barely grab my ham and bacon sub and my drink as it reaches the edge of the counter, and I calmly tell him to chill. He tells me to go fuck myself and proceeds to shove me out of the way, spilling some of my drink. I've got a good 5 inches on the guy, but I keep my cool and walk away while he laughs about it with his buddies. I'm grabbing some utensils when he walks right by me, staring at me, trying to be badass, when he loses track of his own feet and falls face-first into his own food and uncovered drink. I just stand there laughing very loudly while he sits there fuming and his friends stare in awe at the ketchup and Powerade spilled all over his face and frat shirt. Made my day.", "summary": "Frat guy shoves me around at food court and ends up getting a face full of his own meal."}
{"id": "t3_13xfb2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cousin says that the iPhone 5's camera is better than the camera in the hubble telescope.. that is totally BS right?", "post": "Story:\nwe we're in the bus and i said \"imagine that one day we might be able to have just as powerfull camera in our phones as the hubble telescope!\"\nand he answered \"it's already way better than the hubble telescope\"\n\nso i looked at him with the \"wth are you talking about?!\" face\n\nso i asked \"how come i cant see galaxies if i point my iPhone at the night sky?\".. his answer: \"thats because the hubble telescope is above the atmosphere, if you had your iPhone up there you'd get better pictures than hubble\"\n\nsee, i stand by the fact that hubble is still one of the best cameras ever made.. but i'm obviously not sure.\n\nSo the question is (+", "summary": "):"}
{"id": "t3_1vd00v", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [20/f] of 4 years and I [20/m] are debating whether to continue on or not.", "post": "I'll try my best and keep this a short post.\nAs the title says, our relationship has been spiraling downwards recently, and we just barely got through our 4 year anniversary. We both are unsure why but we argue so much the past couple months, and now it's reached a point where we are both sick of fighting and we both don't know what is wrong with us. On top of that, she made a point that we are both still young and I have not dated anyone else before (she is my first girlfriend so far, I want to keep it that way) and that I should see other girls because she is afraid that I will get bored of her in the future and possible cheat on her (I have no intention to). My girlfriend has several ex's but they are from when she was around 14 years old maybe younger, and they were 'stupid' high school crushes and that I was the first proper boyfriend.\nI'm also studying in Sydney for 4 years (we both live in Hong Kong) and we barely managed to do 1 year of long distance relationship, and she is unsure if she can handle 4 more years of LDR. She suggested we take a break from each other to see other people while I am away but now we are talking about if we should break up entirely.\n\nIs this just some silly young love? Do I actually need to date other girls? I doubt any other girl will be as good as her, even if she is my first and only girlfriend. I value this relationship too much. She does too, but it's not working out anymore.", "summary": "if anyone has seen WongFu's ['Strangers, Again'] short we are exactly like that, at the end of stage 6. Downhill. "}
{"id": "t3_1ofyjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How the fuck do I let go after 11 years of relationship and 1,5 year breakup. Me [38 M] accidently saw pictures of my ex [31 F]. Thrown back into the pit of despair and I miss her and it hurts. Please help.", "post": "I was looking for a picture and I stumbled upon some pictures of my ex. And all the feelings I thought had subsided, flared up and caught me by surprise.\n\nI stopped having contact with her when I found out she cheated on me before she broke up with me. I understand why she did it, and I'm not really mad at her. But the next best thing I could do was breaking all contact to give me space to heal. I wasn't particular best boyfriend material, so I am not blaming the breakup on her. In fact, I see my own depression resulting from a suppressed past to be the source of the breakup.\n\nIt's just that my ex is still in the back of my mind and the feeling of the breakup haunts me to this day. I feel defeated and see myself as a waste of space when these feelings get the better end of me. Whatever I do, it always ends up at me missing my ex.\n\nI just miss her and I constantly keep thinking if the **No Contact rule** is healthy or not.\n\nI sure could use some wise words from you.", "summary": "Saw picture of my ex. Still miss her deerly after more than a year. Not sure if I am ever going to get over her."}
{"id": "t3_33e2n9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Awkward situation leaving me confused as to how to react", "post": "A friend of mine, someone I have known for the past six years is getting married in August. Through a mutual friend, I discovered that he had received in the mail a save the date card sometime around Christmas and an invitation earlier this month. Now, not being invited would be one thing and I wouldn't care about it, but there is something leaving scratching my head. \n\nThe mutual friend only met this other friend through me. In fact, he was surprised he was invited at all and said something to me about it since he isn't really close to the groom and has only met the bride once. I on the other hand, in addition to knowing the groom longer and better, also got this guy his job. Last summer we went to baseball games together, we get together all the time and do all this stuff, so I don't think their is a strain on our relationship. \n\nHowever, I haven't gotten an invitation to his wedding. He has mentioned it before that he is getting married, has told me it was in August. \n\nThe question I have now is: do I say something? There is nothing to indicate I wouldn't be invited and I would think I would be. It is as if someone forgot to send me an invitation. Or do I just let it go? I am confused about how to handle this in a way that is not tacky. If I am not invited, that is perfectly fine, but I don't want him to think that maybe I didn't return an RSVP or blew it off or something.", "summary": "Friend is getting married, a third mutual friend who doesn't know the groom as well as I do got invited and I have not been. Do I say something or just let it go?"}
{"id": "t3_3ke30t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my fianc\u00e9 [21 M] 2 years, communication skills", "post": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have a great relationship. I love him to bits and he loves me too. There is just one glaring thing about him that bothers me and it sometimes affects how attracted I am to him. He is always goofing off and doing \"baby talk\" with me! \n\nI know this sounds so silly but I just can't stand it! I've told him multiple times throughout our relationship that I don't care for it but if he likes to act goofy then whatever, I love him anyway. I just wish it wasn't literally ALL THE TIME. He can't even give me sincere compliments without using the stupid voice or saying it in a joking manner. I don't know what's wrong with him? \n\nEverything else in the relationship is perfect, we are 100% compatible except for this one factor. Every time I try to talk to him about something he always turns it into a joke. Every time I've brought it to his attention it turns into a fight about how I'm trying to change him and it's just the way he is.... that's fine. I love him because he is a goofball and makes me laugh. But he is just never sincere with me anymore :( he never makes my heart race or gives me butterflies anymore because it's all a joke. \n\nAm I not being accepting enough of him? Am I really one of those women who is always trying to change her SO? What do I do? :(", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 never has real discussions with me anymore, everything's a joke. How do I fix our communication?"}
{"id": "t3_xjmn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I wrong?", "post": "So its not really important but I, the guy, am 16, and she is 17. Anyway, today, I thought I would surprise her by walking to her house in the middle of the day because we were both just bored. I don't drive, but she does all the time.\n\nSo I finally get to her house after an hour of walking and she seemed really happy about it, but once I get inside, we both start talking and doing what we usually do, and cuddle etc. So then I start trying to make out and stuff like that, but she just says that she's not in the mood to do anything. (shes not on her period, trust me I know).\n\nSo, it's not that I didn't want to see her or anything, but I feel like I got a little cheated because I didn't walk an hour to watch TV, ya know? Anyway I was just wondering if it's wrong that I feel like I got cheated? Cheated isn't a good word but I can't think of a better one.", "summary": "Spent an hour walking to GF's to just watch TV and got no action and feel cheated, am i wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_54rci7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Co-Signature Loan Issue", "post": "Good morning Reddit! \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 and I are having an issue. About 3 years ago we were very good friend with another husband and wife couple, Amy and Craig. They were on vacation with us in Vegas when my fianc\u00e9 proposed and all was well. Amy was set to be my maid of honor. \n\nAfter we get back from vacation, Craig wants to buy Amy a new wedding ring for their anniversary. They married young and she had a very small ring, and he could now afford a larger one. He went and applied for credit at a local chain jewelry store, but was told he needed a co-signer in order to be approved. He asked my fianc\u00e9, who agreed. Not ever knowing we would ever have an issue. Craig's payments were only $75 a month, but was for a 5 year interest free loan. \n\nFast forward two and a half years later. We have fallen out with the couple due to their selfish behavior. Since the fallout they have made 1 late payment. My fianc\u00e9 called and told Craig to take care of it and not to let it happen again. Until yesterday, they made the rest of the payments on time. Yesterday my fianc\u00e9 received another call about 2 late payments on the account. This is now killing my fianc\u00e9s credit, with 3 late payments on his credit that aren't even his! We are in the process of trying to save for a house and plan to apply for a loan soon. IS THERE ANYTHING WE CAN DO TO GET THIS LOAN OFF OF HIS CREDIT/OUT OF HIS NAME???", "summary": "Fianc\u00e9 stupidly agreed to co-sign on a loan for a friend. Friend is no longer a friend and is making late payments which are now negatively effecting his score. How can we get it taken off?"}
{"id": "t3_4u5c2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) mom (52F) doesn't think she is beautiful.", "post": "So my mom is an absolutely wonderful human being. In the last year, I was diagnosed with epilepsy and have been dealing with depression since then. Due to my depression coming back in full force, I've take some time off of school. Due to how expensive medicine is in the US, I've been having financial difficulties, and my mom did not hesitate to allow me to move in with her while I take this time off.\n\nI've always taken it as a compliment that I look so much like my mom. She is the sort of person whose eyes glow when she's talking about things she loves. She is kindness personified and never even considers doing things that are of ill intent towards people. She's been working out. She's training for a half marathon, and she's been doing classes and is proud of the muscles she's been gaining. \n\nLately however, when people have been saying \"you look so much like your mother.\" I've responded as I always have which is to say \"I know, and I'm so glad to know that I will be just as beautiful as her when I'm older.\" Lately, she's been acting embarrassed when I've said this. I asked her about it, and she told me she doesn't think she is beautiful. I asked her why, and she said she just doesn't. It broke my heart. \n\nWhat can I do to make her feel better? What can I say to help her see how truly gorgeous she is? I hate that this woman who has given up so much for me feels so poorly about herself. I just want to help her to believe that she is the beautiful woman I know she is.", "summary": "My mom doesn't think she is beautiful. How can I help?"}
{"id": "t3_1grqxh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My cringe-worthy high school experience", "post": "In the Summer between Freshman and Sophmore year, my aunt took me to this \"high-class\" boutique where they supposedly sold clothes that were on the cutting edge of fashion. The salesman brought out a pair of flowing, black and white checkered slacks (I'm a guy).  He was a very smooth talker and made the pants sound like a must-buy. \n\nThroughout the sale, the salesman would say things like \"You are going to be popular,\" \"This is the latest fashion overseas,\" or \"I envy you.\" By the end of the transaction, I was so pumped up that I thought these pants would make me the coolest guy in school. In hindsight, they were the most hideous pair of pants I've ever seen. \n\nWhen school started again in the Fall, I wore the pants to school on the first day.  People were stunned. I'm talking full on eyes open wide, mouth agape stares. It was horrible. As I walked through the halls, I could hear giggles and whispers. Eventually people just started openly mocking me like: \"Nice pants, nerd!\" \"WTF were you thinking?!\"     \n\nYears later, imagine my surprise when the same exact scenario happened on [an episode] of Freaks & Geeks. Unbelievable.  I still heard about the pants all the way up to graduation. We do weird shit in high school sometimes. Anyway, just thought I'd share my tale of humiliation for your entertainment.", "summary": "The pants from hell haunted me throughout high school."}
{"id": "t3_28uq08", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my wife [29F] - 2yrs - marriage w/ no sex", "post": "Been married two years. we both love each other, but my wife is still uncomfortable about sex. Didnt want to force her and so kept waiting.\n\nToday, while watching a show she was curious about masturbation and i said yes i occassionally do masturbate. She got ballistic and is no longer talking to me. She compared it to emotionally cheating on her. Im not only flummoxed but rather upset.\n\nShould I be? What should I do? Anybody else in similar weird situations. \n\nAlso wondering - masturbation in this situation (when im actually being patient) - is it that wrong ?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_11mr8k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, if you were offered a, once in human history opportunity, would you take it?", "post": "Here's my hypotetical situation:\n\n   The NASA contact you and offer you to be the first man (or woman) to be sent at the \"end\" of universe. Like a maned Voyager project. The catch is that, you will be launched alone in a 3 1/2 sized spaceship, you will have NO hope of return but will have supplies to last at least 1 year. Knowing you will die, they ask you to collect and transmit a maximum of data (HD photos for r/space), they would pay 100 millions $ to your relatives, the ship is comfortable and have the best panoramic view of stars and galaxies.\n\n   They would launch you at a ludicrous speed so you would reach Mars in like 1 week. And you would have 1 pill of cyanide to \"finish the trip\" faster after 1 year.\n\n   Would you go on a journey that you would be the fist in history to accomplish, see things with your eyes that nobody ever saw and discover what nobody ever discovered. Would you go, knowing that your fate would be sealed?", "summary": "Would you go on a maned trip to the end of the universe, knowing there's no come back?"}
{"id": "t3_4thy5u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] am counseling a friend [24f] through a possible break up with her current boyfriend [23m]. oh, I have feelings for her.", "post": "So, pretty much i have been good friends with this girl for about 18 months now. About 6 months into it, I realized that I really liked her and would like to date her. She, however, had different ideas, was crushing on this other guy and did not think of me in that way. So, she began dating this guy.\n\nAbout a 10 months later, things are getting awkward in her relationship. He lives in his mothers basement with the promise that he is saving up to move out. However, all of his video games and accessory purchases say otherwise. He spends almost all of his paychecks on steam and amazon. He is also emotionally immature and she vents to me about it. There are several other little things that are weighing in in it. \n\nSo, she is talking to me about all of this. Knowing full well that I still like her. (I told her before,  and I reminded her last night. So there is mo ambiguity of intentions.) in trying hard to be objective. But my heart is screaming at me to save her and help her and love her and kiss her and...stuff. I let my bias be known. She's not in an abusive relationship,  just maybe the wrong one. So what can I do and what should I do right now?", "summary": "I am helping a crush through a break up and I'm struggling to remain unbiased and helpful."}
{"id": "t3_30a6mb", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is she interested? How do I move forward?", "post": "I'm in law school, and there is a girl I had a bunch of classes with last year (we're both in our mid-20s). Last year she had a huge crush on me, and I just wasn't feeling it at the time (I didn't turn her down per se, but I was kind of cold/distant a lot to not encourage her).\n\nAnyway, fast forward to now. Now I've gotten to know this girl a bit better, and I've kind of fallen for her. We don't have classes together anymore, but we still have the same group of friends. In the past few months I've made an effort to talk to her more, and try to get things going, but there have been some stumbles.\n\nI found out a couple months ago that she got into a relationship over the summer, but that they broke up in late winter (he was cheating on her). A couple weeks ago I asked her out to a show and she said \"yes\". After she said yes, I asked if she wanted or get dinner or drinks before the show, and she said yes to drinks. Then, the day of the show she backed out on drinks, because of a big project she had (but we still went to the show). When I dropped her off, I said we should do this again sometime, and she agreed and said we should do dinner beforehand next time. We've texted and chatted a few times since then.\n\nLast week I asked her if she wanted to study together at a coffee shop and she said \"I would, but I have to leave today for vacation.\" Then, over break she texted me a picture, but only replied to my text with a \"haha\".\n\nWe chatted again a couple days ago for about 45 minutes, and I texted her a joke afterwards, that she didn't respond to.\n\nNow, I'm wondering where I stand. I want to ask her out for drinks this weekend, but we're both busy, and I'm dreading the possibility that she'll give me a believable excuse why she can't go, and I still won't know if she's into me or not.", "summary": "girl at school used to like me (but I didn't like her), then got a b/f, now that she's single again we went on one date. She had a legit excuse for not agreeing when I asked a her for coffee last time. I want to ask her out again, but am afraid she'll have another legit excuse and I'll still be stuck in limbo about whether she likes me or not."}
{"id": "t3_2k0qfz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting fired at the most unfortunate time.", "post": "I was fired last week from my seasonal part-time job on a haunted hayride with no explanation beside I did not 'fit in' to the 'family'. I drove the mile from my house to the farm to get my paycheck only to find that it was shorted a day. I immediately brought it up to the owners wives who promised to remedy the situation. \n\nTurns out that the same night I was there, possibly the exact moment, someone was stalking the wagons in the woods, and fired a BB gun at a customer, wounding her. My phone was dead and my tv was stolen so I had no idea what had occurred when I went back to follow-up on my pay the following weekend The woman at the desk identified me, called the boss, who called the detectives, who came and interrogated me. \n\nNormally, I recognize that it is a terrible idea to talk to cops because self-incrimination and all, but I was caught completely off-guard and had no idea what was going on until I eventually caught on to what had happened and they filled me in. Regardless, I may feel undervalued by with the employer but I am not a psychotic criminal. \n\nI fear that I have told them too much (which is true past hello) and that if they don't catch the perp then they will come after me. I agreed to a polygraph, and talked to my lawyer, who told me not to do it because it often comes out inconclusive. I cut off contact with detectives whom hopefully recognize that I am honest and harmless. Nonetheless, my family has been freaking out at the thought of getting raided and/or searched based on circumstantial evidence.", "summary": "Fired from my job for not fitting in, next weekend someone shoots a customer, now I am a suspect, and my family is worried that we may get raided."}
{"id": "t3_33iuz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my Girlfriend [19F]just starting dating and I am worried about how to address her weight", "post": "I just started dating this girl from college after being friends for about 7 months and I am concerned about how skinny she is. \n\nSome back story first: She originally lived in a triple dorm and one of her roommates (michelle) was horrible to my gf (Mary) and her other roommate (Katie). Always putting them down and calling them fat etc until it exploded and now Katie is transferring and they kicked out Michelle.\n\nMary is a wonderful person and she definitely was not hit as hard as Katie was but there might still be some lingering insecurities. She is looking a little too skinny and almost unhealthy, I want to help her without being rude or over stepping our new relationship. Any advice helps", "summary": "GF had a crazy roomate, now GF is looking too skinny and almost unhealthy and I want to help"}
{"id": "t3_2jhlfa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [22 M] crazy or should I move out to avoid hating a close friend [22 M]?", "post": "So I just moved into a house with a friend I've known for almost ten years, along with another friend and her boyfriend. My buddy and I have the upstairs and living across from him is driving me nuts, not because he's a bad roommate but because of his personality. I started noticing how tired I was getting of him a couple years ago while going on vacation with him. Every vacation I've been on with him has become less enjoyable as I get more annoyed by his behavior. When we were living separately I would take breaks from him by avoiding to hang out with him. I don't know how to bring up this because he doesn't try to be an asshole, he just is by nature. And I usually ignore him and go on with my life, but I can't while living with him. I can't think of anything to say either, besides asking him to change his personality. So I'm thinking of moving out so I can have my space again.\n\nHis behavior just fluctuates between needy/dependant where I feel like I'm married to him, to being condescending and douchey. The last instant that irked me was were he went grocery shopping and bought a bunch of stuff intended for the both of us, when he knew I didn't have the money for groceries and when I told him I would eat anything he bought because I couldn't afford to, he said \"so what your telling me is that I'm buying food for myself now?\". I said yes and he said \"great, I wish I knew that a while ago.\" And I just said I'll be able to afford soon. I just suddenly felt like shit because of his tone and wanted to tell him not to make me feel like shit for not being able to afford the food he bought for me when he knew I was broke and when he didn't ask me first. This is just one example but there's many more.\n\nAm I crazy or should I think about moving out so it doesn't end up ruining our friendship?", "summary": "Am crazy to be annoyed by friends behavior or should I move out before it destroyed our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_3srn3s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing in my eye", "post": "Well this happened probably 14 years ago, before the age of Reddit.\n\nSo I was at a Chicago Cubs game and I am probably like 7 years old or some shit. After downing Pepsi and Mountain Dew all day at the game I had to go to the bathroom. I went with my dad and brother into the bathroom and as my brother and dad hit the urinals, they expected me to use the stall as I was pretty short, as most 7 year old boys are. Well fuck that noise, IMMA BIG BOY. So my brother and dad are kinda watching me as I get on my tip toes to direct my stream into the urinal. Well I slipped a little and my shaft hit the edge of the urinal, causing it to point upwards and the stream went up in the air and right into my eye.\n\nTo do this day no one believes that it happened untill I bring in my brother to confirm the story.", "summary": "Was too short for the urinal but wanted to feel like a big boy, slipped, shaft was redirected, stream of urine straight into my eye."}
{"id": "t3_2359eb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I [18M] go about approaching / reaching out to a friend [18F] of a friend?", "post": "So there's this girl that is a friend of one of my female classmates. The girl doesn't go to my school, but lives reasonably close by. I noticed her a little while ago through the abundance of photos of her on Facebook -- she's a photographer and, honestly, has more albums than most people have photos -\u2013 and became extremely interested in her as I learned more about her interests. \n\nWe've interacted indirectly or inconsequentially a few times, such as when I complimented her on a few of her incredible photographs (sometimes she throws them on Instagram) and she thanked me in response. She has also been \"liking\" an increasing number of my posts and photos recently, and has \"poked\" me quite reliably on Facebook.\n\nI am not under the illusion that these social networking interactions are overly meaningful, nor have I drawn any foregone conclusions from our online interactions so far. I describe them here largely as a \"she knows I exist\" baseline from which to work.\n\nI've only ever seen her in person one time, though I did not have the chance (or the nerves) to approach her on that occasion. \n\nI'm a big believer in first impressions. \nI'm unsure if I should bite the bullet and formally initiate communication *online*, or try to orchestrate a *face-to-face* meeting (preferable, but more difficult to bring about in a timely manner) She works at an orchard and I was planning to go there for the apples once it gets warmer and introduce myself if I run into her.", "summary": "She and I -- fundamentally strangers -- have been beating around the bush but have yet to really \"talk\" in any respect. Is a Facebook message an acceptable introduction?"}
{"id": "t3_46yzgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am getting married in just over a month. My fianc\u00e9's [22M] sister [23F] cut off all her hair without asking me first.", "post": "My [22F] fianc\u00e9 and me [22F] are getting married on April 1, which the three year anniversary of the night we met. Today his sister [23F] cut her belly button length hair off into a short haircut (Google Ann Hathaway 2013 BAFTA's to get an idea of what I mean) She didn't even ask me before she did. I don't know why she did it and I am upset that she didn't ask when she knows the wedding is in just over a month. My fianc\u00e9 says he is on my side but he \"doesn't want to rock the boat\" and he refuses to talk to her about it. She doesn't see what the big deal is. She won't even consider wearing a wig or extensions for the wedding either. I am so upset but both my fianc\u00e9 and his sister are not understanding why this is a big deal. I don't get why she couldn't have waiting until after the wedding, I don't know how to get him to talk to her or to convince her to maybe wear hair extensions.", "summary": "My fianc\u00e9's sister cut off her long hair into a pixie when our wedding is in just over a month. I am upset that she didn't ask me first and will have short hair in the pictures. She won't wear a wig or extensions and he refuses to talk to her about this."}
{"id": "t3_2l5u6c", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mixing up identical twins", "post": "I am a bit socially akward. And when you have a crush on a girl who has an identical twin, it can become one big ol' fuck up.\n\nSo I started to get a huge crush on this girl, and I mean like HUGE. For this time only and to cover up her identity, let's just call this girl 'Lara'. Lara was one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen, and like the teenager that I am, I kinda liked her. We became friends when we got in a lot of classes together, and I knew she didn't have a boyfriend.\n\nFast forward a few months, until a few days back. I decided that I should man up and just straight up tell her I had a crush on her. Otherwise I might lose her to another guy.\nDuring lunch break, I went up to her and told her I had this HUGE crush on her and that I wanted to know how she felt about it.\n\nThat was when I realised I fucked up big time. I was talking to her ever so beautiful twin sister. She looked at me like there was pure bullshit flowing from my mouth and nostrils. When she said she wasn't Lara, my heart just skipped like 500 beats. I felt my face turning red. I quickly ran into the men's room to silently sob in one of the bathroom stalls.", "summary": "Accidentally told my crush's twin sister I had a crush on her"}
{"id": "t3_vla7p", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Please help!  I'm in the middle of a 6 month Retention Contract and they want to keep me longer.  What are my options? -SysAdmin", "post": "I signed a contract about 3 months ago to stay on while our corporate office gets dissolved.  We still have to transfer our data center to a new location and provide support for our employees.\n\nMy IT department only consists of 2 people, my boss and I.  My boss will definitively leave before or at the contract end date.\n\nLast week I was told that the IT person who is in charge of this project told a couple of people that I would definitely be staying permanently  and I would provide legacy support from home.  This was news to me.\n\nI confronted him and he admitted to saying that.  He was shocked because that meeting was supposed to be private.  He said that is what HE wants, but that he has to talk to his boss and HR.  Also, it wouldn't be permanently .   My guess is that it will be for another 3-6 months.\n\nSo I have a meeting with him and HR tomorrow.\n\nDo you think they will try to have me cancel my current contract and start a new one?  Is it ridiculous to think that I can keep my current contract and agree to start a new one AFTER this is complete?  I would then get me retention bonus check in 3 months... and then start a new contract with a bonus payout at the end.\n\nI think that's fair as I will be delaying my career to help them with this transition.  What do you think?  \n\nThank you for any feedback!!  I have absolutely no experience with retention contracts.", "summary": "Employer wants to keep me longer than my retention contract end date.  What should I expect?"}
{"id": "t3_fkc0j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A business is using my residential road for their customer parking, wat do?", "post": "Forgive me if this is in the wrong reddit.\n\nA very nice steak restaurant is located down the road from me (not on the same street), and recently they added enough new tables that they have severe overflow onto my neighboring residential street.  My street is narrow, hilly, and there's hardly room for the people who live here to park, much less this restaurant's customers.  They have a dinner rush, so when I get home at 5:30 there's no place to park because my street is filled with huge, poorly parked, yuppie SUV's.\n\nI have called the police for advice twice and an officer never called me back.  Not sure how to go about this, because the restaurant is a mainstay of my city and its owners and clientele are very well connected.  Is there anything I can LEGALLY (or gray-area legally) do to stop this?", "summary": "A nearby business is using a residential street for their overflow to the detriment of the residents who live here.  Police won't respond.  Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ex688", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) boyfriend (22M) wants to go to a twerk contest and invited me to go with him...I feel really uncomfortable already.", "post": "There's a group of really trashy people in my area that throw parties that revolve around a bunch of half naked girls acting really trashy and slutty and doing a lot of cocaine off each other's boobs, butts, other body parts... This group is holding a twerk contest at a local bar and my boyfriend is all ecstatic about going. He did invite me to go and I said I would, but I'm a nervous wreck.\n\nYes he did invite me, but I still feel weird about it. He sarcastically told me not to be jealous of the other girls, just to \"grab his boner and everything will be fine.\" It's all he's been talking about all day. Am I wrong for feeling a little bit down about myself? I do have my share of insecurities, I don't get mad at him for checking out other women, I just feel really uncomfortable already and I'm not even there yet.\n\nHe told me I didn't have to go, and not to come if I'm going to be negative the entire time. I would feel even more uncomfortable if I were to let him go alone with his friends. He's going to be staring and gawking at a bunch of trashy girls shake their asses while I stand there feeling uncomfortable and somewhat down. He said not to worry, seeing all those girls will just make him want me?\n\nHow can I go and be an awesome girlfriend and feel comfortable with him out and out staring and getting a hard on over these girls? I want to make him happy and I want both of us to have fun.", "summary": "my boyfriend wants to go to a twerk contest and invited me to go, however I am somewhat insecure and a nervous wreck about going. How can we go together and both have fun?"}
{"id": "t3_2wg1r0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] want to break up with my girlfriend [21F] of two months because she isn't attractive enough. Is this too shallow?", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for roughly two months. Prior to that we've known each other for 3 months. Although I don't find her that attractive, many others do. She has an amazing personality and sense of humor, which is what attracted me to her. I wasn't going to date her but everyone I knew just told me to go for it because it isn't \"all about looks\". While this is true to an extent, I based my decision purely on her personality.\u00a0\n\u200e\nI myself can do a lot better than her. While I understand looks inevitably fade, I would want to be with someone who I am actually really attracted to for however many years I'd be with them. I just feel really shitty that this is the reason I want to break up with her. I've been trying to push past her not being that attractive to me but I don't know if I can.\u00a0\n\nDoes this make me too shallow?", "summary": "I want to break up with my gf because I don't find her attractive"}
{"id": "t3_25e8gw", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Booked a holiday apartement in Prague (CZ), paid comission, but found out we might have been duped.", "post": "So, my girlfriend booked a holiday apartement close to the town centre of Prague, Czech via a hotel & apartement booking portal a few weeks ago. Since she's the one who usually does this and we never had any problems with the location she'd chosen in the past, I never had any doubt. She got in touch with the owner via email, got his banking account and paid a small commission.\n\nThis evening (1 day before our trip), I wanted to look up the route to the apartement and also some pictures of the building, but then I saw something that was slightly off. The apartement, advertised on many booking platforms on the web doesn't look anything like on the pictures according to Google Streetview. I started digging a little deeper on the web and eventually found out that this is indeed some sort of scam: The apartement exist, the owner exist, but the pictures as well as the apartement description seem to be taken from a different hotel. The actual one is, according to some commentaries on travel website just a dirty shithole, as many travelers had to find out.\n\nNow, I'm asking: What could I do? I don't think there is any chance to get our commission back since we don't have a insurance for that booking, but can we face any legal consequences if we.. simply don't show up? We intended to stay at another place, if we manage to find one within 12 hours (airplane tickets are already booked and paid.. so what), but we really try to stay on the safe side.", "summary": "Booked an apartement in Prague, paid commission. Apartement seems fake according to Google Streetview and booking portal commentaries and ratings. Can we just.. not showing up?"}
{"id": "t3_3f0f04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with GF [27F] of 4 months. Worries about age, what i want and what she wants = no butterflies. Is this a sign that it just isnt working? Has anyone ever broken up with someone for no real 'reason'?", "post": "I met this girl in a bar and had a one night stand. Ever since we've been inseparable however lately I have felt bored/uncertain about what she is after/what I am after. \n\nShe's gone away for 2 weeks and I havent missed her, in fact the only feeling I have had has been that anxious feeling you get in your tummy. She is a bit of a party girl and has been to a festival and did't call for a few nights. I don't think she did anything I just feel weird about it. \n\nShe is 27 and I am 23. Surely the difference means something. It doesn't feel like it does (she is a young 27 and I am an old 23) but I can't help but think it kind of does. \n\nShe lives with two guys who she is super close with an in many ways are platonic boyfriends. They are both pretty into drugs, she has mentioned how she likes cocaine and whilst I have tried it I would never a) pay for it or b) risk getting caught in Aus with it. \n\nThere are other issues around sex and stuff however just reading this post has made me think the decision is pretty clear. I think I don't want to break up because she is a good person, very hot and she actually likes me (I am honestly amazed?!@). \n\nI guess my real question is do I risk never finding a pretty girl who will fall for me again or do I just settle for semi happiness (mostly derived from the lack of unhappiness).", "summary": "I am not 'unhappy' but I'm not excited. Is this normal or is it a sign I should break up?"}
{"id": "t3_24nvi0", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Parents of Multiples", "post": "I just watched a video that a friend posted about being a parent of multiple children. The friend has quads. The quads were born from IVF. It is my understanding that when you are using IVF to conceive there is a fairly good chance you may end up having multiple children at once. So assuming you actually want to have a child, which you probably do if you are going through all that comes with IVF, why would you always complain about the things that go along with having a child? The video I watched was just describing how there is \"instant celebrity\" when you have multiples. The point of the video was, I suppose, to make a point of letting people know that you are always on display, and how much that sucks. Well the friend posted the video along with a rant about how they have this problem all the time. I always hear them complaining about how hard it is to have 4 kids. How they are always broke, yet they go to Disney a couple times a year. How hard it is to pay for groceries and diapers, yet the parents both have brand new fucking iPhones. I guess it just really bothers me that they are always complaining about these difficulties, yet they signed up for this when they decided they wanted children. I find it hard to make ends meet and I only have one child. Oh, and while I'm ranting about this, they put these kids on display every time they can. Football game at the local high school, well let's park the stroller right in the middle of the home side of the stadium and dress the kids in all the home teams football gear. A Christmas parade? Well, time to dress them up as elves and prance them around. And you wonder why people are staring and asking questions... People are curious and you knew this could happen, this \"instant celebrity\".......", "summary": "parents have multiples and complain about the things that come along with it."}
{"id": "t3_h9obu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I can't enjoy music anymore because of an obsessive tendancy. What can I do?", "post": "Ok basically this started with a pair of malfunctioning headphones and has now escalated into something which is affecting my day to day life.\nSo one day my headphones broke, one ear went and so I had to buy a new pair.  This ended up happening more than once, so i started becoming cautious and regularly checking.  Eventually it happened again, with the bass going in one side.  This is when the checking started becoming obsessive, I really started to try and hear any slight differences in the sound in either ear to check if any new problems were developing.  It got to the point where I couldn't tell anymore and any slight differences bothered me.  Eventually I got over the obsessive checking but it left me with a really unpleasant side effect:  I can no longer actively enjoy music.  When I try to listen to music on an mp3 player I end up just listening to the differences between headphones and not to the actual music itself and I can't stop myself doing it, kind of like when you pick out a particular rhythm in a song and you can't help but only notice that rhythm.  This doesn't seem like a big deal apart from the fact music is a driving force in my life and I hoped to get into a career in music journalism after finishing university.  You might say \"just stop listening to music on your mp3 player\" which I would do, but now the whole mess has tainted my enjoyment of music in other formats... simply because any music reminds me that I have this problem.  This is causing me to become depressed and I just want to enjoy music again.  I'm going to seek advice from a professional and hopefully get congnitive therapy but I wanted to know if anyone else has advice or has suffered similar problems and can give their two cents worth.", "summary": "Obsessively focusing on the sound of both headphones and i can't stop myself, what can I do to stop this habit?"}
{"id": "t3_3o2gph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] (1 year), having some insecurity over differences in sexual experience/views", "post": "I was raised pretty conservative so I've always thought that physical relationships were exclusive to romantic ones (which is likely my first problem). I really like my SO, who's much more outgoing than I am, very kind and tries to let me know frequently how much he likes me back. He had several physical relationships, both romantic and non-romantic, before me.\n\nFor some reason these have really been bothering me lately. Mostly, I think, it's the FWB situations. The biggest one is his most recently FWB, who he stopped doing things with right when we started dating. They're still very close friends (I hear about her from him almost every day).\n\nSo really what it boils down to is I'm jealous and insecure about his wealth of physical experience and my lack, as well as these people that I have to get over. I understand that, if it hasn't happened yet, it's likely not going to happen between them, and I can trust my SO to not lie to me about liking me. Regardless, I still have these worries and insecurities I can't get rid of. I guess this really isn't so much a question but a query for opinions. Am I doing the right thing here? Should I be expressing my concerns more? So far we've talked about my insecurities, but I've always told him that I'm fine with him hanging out with her and talking about her (they play frisbee on a team almost every night). \n\nSorry, the title ended up kinda being different from my situation but I'm not really sure how to ask about this. Everything is much appreciated!", "summary": "Feeling odd about not-really-but-kinda-exes"}
{"id": "t3_3em6np", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/M] have been broken up with my ex[29/F] for, about three months, and she hasn't asked for her apartment key back.", "post": "So, recently my ex and I broke up. It was mutual, nothing crazy. So, when her and I were together she gave me a key to her place. The deal was originally, I was given the key so I could let her dog out. Well, it wound up that I could let myself in every so often. \n\nSo, we break up and, she tells me that because I have a fairly good connection with her dog, I can still let her dog out. So, fast forward to, about, a day after we discuss the whole still letting her dog out issue...she tells me her sister is going to be moving in with her and, that her sister would take care of the dog.\n\nNow, I brought up still having her apartment key. She doesn't say anything about giving it back. Not a word. Like, she even said that in a pinch I could stop by her place.\n\nSo, here's my thing, I don't feel like going over to her place. Like, I don't want to be an asshole, but I have my own stuff going on and...since her sister is there I don't need to be dealing with stuff that no longer involves me.\n\nAside from just giving her her key back, how can I get it back to her without looking like a bad guy. Also, what can I expect in the way of conversation(if any) about the whole issue?", "summary": "girlfriend and I broke up, she doesn't seem to want her apartment key back"}
{"id": "t3_1bl2rb", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "She[19F] broke up with me[19M] after only 3 weeks dating. Now she is hanging out with my friends and its awkward when we hang out. Any advice?", "post": "We dated for about 3 weeks. Neither of us had been in anything close to a relationship before, but (I think) we had a really great time for at least 2.5 of those 3 weeks. Then out of nowhere, she breaks up with me the day before Spring Break, but says she still wants to be friends. \n\nIt wasn't too bad over Spring Break, because we only knew each other from college. However, once I got back things started to suck. She lives in the same dorm as ~10 of my friends here, so I introduced them and we all hung out while we were together. The problem is, she still hangs out with a few of them after break. The one time I hung out with them and her since break ended, it was pretty awkward and we both just avoided each other (it was at a party so it was easy). My friends don't want to exclude her, partially because they have to see her all the time, but they feel awkward asking me to hang out if shes there (which is often) because they think it will be weird (which it probably will be again). \n\nI've tried talking to her about it a couple of times, but shes blown me off.\n\nHas anyone else been in a similar situation? Any advice on how I should handle it? Avoiding that group of friends isn't really an option that I want to consider.", "summary": "Gf broke up with me, still hangs out with my friends but its awkward when we hang out. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1eje2r", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Worried I may have hurt a golden retriever/lab mix", "post": "I was hanging out with a golden retriever/lab mix today, and during this time he took my towel. I'm just a bit concerned if he's okay now because my boyfriend and I were quite strenuous in getting him to let go of it. We tried saying \"drop it\" numerous times, tried swaying him with water, or throwing a branch - but he wouldn't let it go. Finally we gave up - until he started actually ripping apart the towel. So then we tried wrenching it from his mouth, and he would not let go. I tried opening his jaws with my hands, tucking his gums under his teeth to get him to let go. Despite this, he refused to let go. He was wagging his tail, but he did get shaky (both body and jaw were trembling). I was a bit concerned at this point because it was a warm day and he hadn't had a recent break to drink some water.\n\nWe finally did manage to get the towel back, but we actually had to hold him and pull the towel away from him. I'm just very concerned that we might have hurt him in some way, maybe strained his jaw muscles or his neck? Does anyone have any experience in this? I really hope he is alright, he is a lovely dog despite this small fiasco.", "summary": "Perhaps a bit too rough in trying to retrieve the towel, worried that the dog may have strained jaw or neck muscles"}
{"id": "t3_54sq6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) want to break up with my boyfriend (30sM) of 5 years, but I am waffling and procrastinating.", "post": "My boyfriend (30sM) and I (25F) have been together 5 years, living together for 2. We have a fundamental incompatibility (a kids/no kids thing) and we probably should not have ever gotten together. But we did, and we got comfortable, and now I have been procrastinating about ending this for well over a year.\n\nI am writing to ask for some perspective or personal stories...I need a kick in the ass to end this. I have never lived with a boyfriend before, and I have never ended a serious relationship (outside of high school stuff from years past) \n\nI kind of figured I'd wait for a fight or other obvious opportunity for a breakup, but I always either chicken out when I'm feeling emotional or opportunities don't present themselves. Or something will happen like he'll do something really generous or sweet and I just can't make myself do it right after that, because it feels awful. \n\nI have more fun by myself. I relish my time alone and feel grumpy when he comes home and spoils my alone time. I have more fun with my friends when he doesn't come along. I don't love him (but I don't want to hurt him!) and I don't want to date someone with kids any more. I also change my mind like 5 times a fucking day on this issue, and it's making me feel crazy.\n\nLike I was 100% ready to pull the plug when I started writing this, but now I feel better so I'm waffling again. WTF is wrong with me?", "summary": "I want to end my relationship but I can't seem to make myself do it. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2n9qey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] don't know how to be in a relationship.", "post": "Normally, I would invite a girl over to watch a movie and we'd end up having sex, sometimes have a fwb relationship. This usually happens within the first week of meeting a girl. I do not keep in contact with those girls anymore so I don't want to mess this up. \n\nI've been friends with this girl (wifey material) since April, but that time she had a boyfriend so nothing was really going on between us. She broke up with her bf a little over a month ago and it didn't end in good terms. Ever since her break up she's been talking to me a lot more however,  I didn't want to be her \"rebound\"; we'd still playfully tease and flirt with each other. \n\nLast Saturday we ended up studying together at the library from 6pm till it closed at 10pm. I walked her back to her apartment which was the opposite direction from mine. She invited me to her apartment so she can make me food. We pretty much talked after dinner till 2am. I didn't hold her hand or had my arm around her.\n\n I find it so much harder to make a move on a friend vs someone you just met. Anyways after I went home that night we texted back and forth and I invited her to come over to my place around 10pm so I can cook for her this time and watch a movie. She didn't really confirm till I asked her about it again then she confirmed (made me feel like she only confirmed just to be nice?). \n\nThen I realized.. every girl invited over for a movie I end up having sex with. For her, I don't want to rush things. What should I do at this point? Should I cancel my date to do something else? Nothing is really open on Tuesday night and she's only free after 10pm.", "summary": "Advice for someone who has never been in a serious relationship. Please read, it's not that long :)"}
{"id": "t3_3pytc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [30F] get my ex-boyfriend [33M] back as a friend through the internet?", "post": "My ex-boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship, we mutually decided to break up two years ago due to the distance and after he did something I thought was disrespectful to me. I forgave him, we remained friends but our friendship has been almost only a \"Follow each other on Facebook and Instagram, like posts, and occasionally comment\" friendship. The only other time we communicate is if there is a bad news from our city, we send an email to check if the other is okay, and happy birthday texts.\n\nI would like us to be actual friends and video chat sometimes, like even once a season would be fine by me. He doesn't have a girlfriend, he's not seriously dating anyone, towards the end of our relationship he wasn't in love with me anymore so I don't think he could still have romantic feelings for me. I fear he might misunderstand my intentions, think I still have romantic feelings for him, and that might scare him off. But because he was the one who was disrespectful to me in the beginning and knowing him, I know he wouldn't ask for video chat even if he wanted to, fearing he might give me hope and/or bring my old love towards him back. I really don't want us to date again, I also don't expect to be such close friends or anything, I just want our friendship to be a little closer rather than being a social-media-friend as I like to call it. I just don't know how to do it. He stopped using Skype so I can't just start a conversation on a chat platform. When I send an email, he would just email back. How can I get us to video chat? I'm confident that even if we had one video chat, I could show him that I'm just being friendly and don't want anything more. Just don't know how to get that first video chat.\n\nPlease don't just say, \"Don't be his friend\", that's not the answer I'm looking for. Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Ex-boyfriend and I live in different countries. I want us to video chat every now and then to catch up instead of just following each other on social media and like/commenting on posts. How can I do it without him thinking I still have feelings for him? And how do I get him to video chat out of the blue?"}
{"id": "t3_3h8tgg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/F] am considering a long distance relationship for the first time and I am terrified..", "post": "Thanks to reddit I've met a wonderful person who has unexpectedly made me consider a long distance relationship. I've talked to many people online but the moment we started talking I knew it was completely different. He's perfect.\n\nLuckily I'm starting a new career where I travel so I know within 4 months I will be able to meet him. \n\nWhat I am worried about is the 4 months leading up to that time. I've never even thought I'd be in a position to be with someone so far but he makes me want it.\n\nThat's where I need your help... How do I/we make this work? What are some things that makes this long distance thing a little easier?\n\nI'm open to sending things in the mail if that helps.", "summary": "I met an amazing guy. He lives 7 states away. I've never done long distance and need some help with how we can make the distance work until we can meet in 4 months. "}
{"id": "t3_4yppbd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F23] I've been dating a guy for two years [M22] who refuses to publicly acknowledge our relationship", "post": "To start, my SO has very severe social anxiety and has a very hard time with having attention on him. That being said, we've been together for two years now and he still will not call me his girlfriend or publicly announce our relationship at all. He knows this hurts me, he does feel bad about it, but he just doesn't want us to be public right now. The thing is, he seems to see this as something completely normal. He genuinely doesn't seem to get why I want us to be public and sees it more as a way for me to just brag about our relationship. I love him. He's the first person I've ever loved and has been a very good friend for a long time. I feel like even if we would break up, the only way I could even get over him at all would be to cut ties with him completely. I don't want to do that and I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I don't understand what he's so afraid of. He's heavily introverted, which I do have a basic understanding of, and he comes from a family that doesn't really discuss each other's personal lives, so for the two years that I've been coming over and seeing him, his parents have never really acknowledged me much (he's still in college and living at home). I'm at my wits end. I don't know what to say anymore and I don't know what to do anymore. He isn't intentially hurting me, he just has a lot of anxiety that's running his life verses being dealt with. Does anyone have any advice other than just breaking up with him? I really don't want that to be the outcome of this...", "summary": "My boyfriend has serious social anxiety and won't acknowledge us publicly as being in a relationship. I need advice other than just \"Break up with him.\""}
{"id": "t3_4mkfon", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My coworker (30M) comes up to me (27F) and tickles me regularly. I've asked him to stop a lot and he won't.", "post": "My coworker (I'll call him Alex) is a touchy feely guy. At first I didn't mind. Now I mind a whole lot. \n\nAlex will come up to me, and a few other female coworkers, and tickle us. 95% of the time it's unexpected and I don't even know he's coming up to me. It's always on my back, back of legs/knees, arm, elbow areas- basically commonly ticklish areas. \n\nThe first few times it was funny. Then it got annoying. Then it got downright creepy. I started gently saying \"please don't do that.\" I'm not sure if Alex thought I was kidding or what?\n\nNow, even as I back away from Alex when I know he's about to do it, Alex corners me/follows so he can tickle me. No lie.\n\nEarlier this week, I said \"do not touch me, Alex.\" The next day he was tickling me again. I said don't, and Alex just continued to try and touch me and mocked the way I said don't. \n\nI'm at my wits end. I am so uncomfortable, this makes me anxious, and I am starting to get nervous just being near him. Yes, I'm starting I get scared of my coworker. I honestly don't know though - maybe he thinks I'm kidding, maybe I'm not saying don't firmly enough. What should I do?", "summary": "my coworker thinks it's fun/funny to tickle me (and other women). I've asked him to stop, and he just won't. He will mock me even. What can I do."}
{"id": "t3_48kw2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] feel like I'm becoming less attatched/falling out of love with my girlfriend [19 F] of 6 months", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo I am in college and have been dating a girl I met at college for about six months. This is my longest relationship thus far. \n\nWe fell pretty hard and for the first semester I spent a majority of my time with her. There was literally nothing I wanted out of college other than to spend time with her. But this semester it feels as if I just am losing interest. I feel like I'm just losing the connection that we had. Sometimes she'll be talking and I just don't have any interest in what she's saying. Today I was playing Playstation and she tried to make out with me and I had no interest at all.\n\nI also feel very drawn to other women. I'll see girls in class or whatever and wish that I could ask them out on a date or invite them out to a party. \n\nHowever, my girlfriend is such a great person. She's never wronged me and we've never been in a real argument. She's great to me and I can't think of any other reason to not be with her other than the fact that I feel less in love with her as of late. To put it in other words, I could see myself marrying her, but in this moment I don't feel like I love her.\n\nIt may also be of importance that she went through a very traumatic experience ~freshman year of hs. She is somewhat emotionally unstable and therefore needs a lot of attention. (I sleep in her bed every night.) Yet I want to spend more time with friends.\n\nSo should I leave her and explore other things or stick with her and see if I find myself having feelings for her again?", "summary": "I think that I love my gf and would totally marry her, but rn I feel like I don't really love her."}
{"id": "t3_1nc1r1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My(20/f) fiance (20/M) got out of detox yesterday and didnt call me", "post": "My fiance has been in detox for the past week due to drug use. I knew he was going to detox and I called him every day during calling hours to make sure he knew I was there for him. Thursday he and I had a minor argument which ended with him hanging up on me after calling me annoying. Me, not wanting to annoy him anymore, decided that I would wait for him to call me. He doesnt call. Today (Saturday) I'm on facebook and I see that he wrote on some other girls facebook page. The message pretty much said \"Hey, I'm clean. I want to talk. Call me\". I call him and demand to know when he got out, and why he didnt call me. He said he got out yesterday (Friday) and that he didnt have time. I think this is bullshit, obviously, because he had time to talk to her so why not me. I just don't know what to think anymore", "summary": "Fiance didnt call me after getting out of detox because he didnt have enough time, but he had enough time to talk to another girl."}
{"id": "t3_1clxwv", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "What is the BEST way to break up with someone after a year and a half?", "post": "I'm 27(f) he's 26. I'm at that point. I'm no longer happy, my needs don't feel met, and everything he does just annoys the shit out of me. I would love for it to work but the harder I try, the less I want to. I love him very much but I am no longer sure if I am IN love with him and I feel like all his efforts are not enough and mine go unrecognized. It is time. \n\nThe thing is, I don't want to break up with him in a way that will make him feel like he wasn't good enough. He doesn't need to know that he is annoying the shit out of me, because he isn't doing it maliciously. How exactly do I tell him that I'm just not happy without getting into the hurtful details of why? He is just not the person I can see myself staying with, anymore. It is sad, because I really wanted him to be. \n\nIf I could just say \"I'm no longer happy,\" and have him understand that and walk away that would be great. But after so much time invested, there will be questions. He doesn't need a list of the things he's doing wrong or falling short in my eye. That is hurtful and unnecessary. I've been there and you carry those sorts of words with you for a long, long time. I don't wish that on him. So, how exactly do I phrase it?", "summary": "I want out, but trying to find the least hurtful way to break the news."}
{"id": "t3_2jn0g9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] wondering what to do over feelings for [20 F] girl in relationship on my course.", "post": "So I met a girl on my university course last month who is good friends with one of my housemates. She's really funny, finds me really funny, and we have similar interests. We text a lot, and actively flirt a lot. I'm no stranger to relationships and casual encounters so I know that the things we say to each other are not innocent. She's called me attractive, I've said the same to her. We also have all of our classes together, even ones without my roomies, so we see a lot of each other.\n\nHowever, she's been in a relationship for almost 4 years. There's definitely something between us, and her boyfriend (Whom i've never met, he seems like a genuinely good guy) just left on holiday for a month. She texted today asking if I wanted to come to hers tonight, which has never happened before. She always comes to ours, and it's to hang out with all of us. This time it's just me.\n\nAnyway, I'm vehemently against cheating and would like to say i'd hope i'd never do it or be part of it. That aside, I think this girl is freaking great. She's crazy clever, funny, charming, and when i'm around her I don't feel quite as shitty about things, and I really want to be in a relationship with her myself. \n\nShe sent me a snapchat an hour ago of asking if i was looking forward to coming over with some bedroom eyes emojis and stuff. I'm pretty sure if I go over, something will happen if I let it/initiate it.\n\nAny advice is appreciated. Reaffirming that cheating is bad is perhaps beating a dead horse, because I already know how bad it is. I really do want to be with this girl though, and not just short-term.", "summary": "Want to date girl that is already in relationship. Like her a lot. Getting strong signals back from her. Don't want to break anything up or be responsible for fucking people over, but I really really like her and feel like we should be together."}
{"id": "t3_50gp72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] and my girlfriend [18 F] have been together for almost a year. She hardly ever initiates affection", "post": "My girlfriend and I are (for teenagers) fairly shy people. I have admittedly been pretty slow to make moves in our relationship - it took me a long time to work up the confidence to kiss her.\n\nWe get along really well and I love spending time with her and just talking, but physical affection is important to me as well, and it always seems to be me initiating it, even just holding hands or resting a head on the other's shoulder.\n\nIt's not too bad, it's not like she rejects any kind of physical contact, and she has always been fine with it. [edit], but the fact that I'm always the one to do it sometimes makes me feel like she doesn't like me as much as I like her.\n\nAdditionally I feel like I'm always the one to message her first, or suggest going out on the weekend, I'll often sit with her group to chat with her at lunch, but it never happens the other way around. Sometimes I wonder if I didn't do anything, whether we would ever talk, but I know this isn't a healthy thing to think about, and I feel stupid, because I know in my heart she does like me, I just wish she would show it.\n\nThis issue is in no way relationship-ending in my opinion, but I wish there was something I could do about it.\n\nAm I being selfish? [edit] it could be something she can't help?", "summary": "gf and I have been together for nearly a year but she rarely initiates affection and me being the only one to initiate it is a little upsetting. Should I say something to her or just keep trying and hope she will start doing it more over time?"}
{"id": "t3_2axp16", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my husband [28 M] 3 years duration, I think I want a divorce.", "post": "We have been together for around 5 years, married for 3 of those. We started dating after I had recently broken up with another guy. I didn't really think it was going to get serious, but we continued to date. We broke up at one point for a few months, got back together, and continued to date. We've been married for 3 years and I've been unhappy for 2. The marriage feels very one sided. I put in a lot of time and effort to keep things going, and he goes along for the ride. Whenever I ask him to do very small things for me, he puts up a lot of resistance. I feel like I'm being taking advantage of and taken for granted. He is a poor communicator. I've talked to him about my dissatisfaction multiple times, but he never really took me seriously until I recently threatened to leave him. Now he says he wants to try to be better and he realizes he has not been treating me well for 3 years. I have a lot of doubts about our future. I know I should give him another chance, but I don't know if I want to. We do not share similar views on religion, politics, etc and I dislike what he has chosen to do for a living. I feel that he does not respect and value me. I feel like I have to mother him/nag to get him to be decent. I don't know what to do. I've thought a lot about leaving, but I don't know if I have good enough reason to go.", "summary": "Been married for 3 years, very dissatisified with the relationship. Husband finally realized how poorly he's been acting when I threatened to leave him. Should I stay or go?"}
{"id": "t3_16eggl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you, as a musician, get back into playing again?", "post": "I started playing the cello in 7th grade. I was in my High School orchestra class (*mediocre at best with the type of funding we had*) throughout my entire high school schooling. I was in a chamber string quartet, and was also in the Georgia Youth Symphony Orchestra for 3 years.\n\nAs a player that is an intermediate/experienced player (*I don't like to think I'm close to professional level, though I may just be modest*), what do you suggest to help muster up the power to practice and learn new techniques on your own? I find that during my entire time in all these programs, I was never once taught how to properly study and practice on my own (excluding the material that we would be performing for at a concert). I also find it difficult to remember some basic practice challenge scales and bowing techniques, as we would lightly brush over this material at the beginning of class and mindlessly rush into what we would be performing for a concert. I feel I was never taught the fundamentals of learning to play on my own.\n\nIf you're able, list off some things that you would recommend that would help with practice and learning newer techniques on your own, such as:\n\n* Books\n* Techique sheet Music\n* Specific works of music\n* Tutors\n* Etc.", "summary": "I'm a cello player that hasn't played in a professional surrounding for about 5 years, and have been wanting to play again. Teachers didn't teach us how to play on our own. What do you suggest?"}
{"id": "t3_1xe3th", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] have a crush on my best friend [23 F]. Here's my plan. Is it stupid?", "post": "I'm pretty sure she's liked me for a few months.  I've sort of liked her for that long, but not significantly until recently.\n\nAnyways, my main worry is this:  She's NOT the type to cheat (I've seen her in 2 serious relationships), but she gives her heart away too easily.  She's working hard to change that, but she's only been single for 3 months... after years of constant bad relationships and rebounds.  I just don't want her to rebound on me.\n\nShe's also moving in 1 month.  It's to the region I've been planning to move to anyways, and to my #2 city choice.  So it's not THAT bad, but it means we'll be apart for 6-12 months.\n\nDating her would risk our friendship, and I want to know 2 things:\n\n* Can she stay single for a while longer?  If this means I have more competition, that's ok.\n\n* How's our friendship dynamic going to change once she moves?\n\nSo my plan is to wait until ~1 month after she moves before trying to start a relationship.  And I'll still be open to meeting other women in-between (I doubt I'll go for someone else, but if she finds another guy, I don't want to have zero options myself).\n\nBad stuff:\n\n* Missing a month of relationship time while being in the same state\n\n* Skipping V-day\n\n* She's going to think I'm not interested in her\n\nIs this a good idea?", "summary": "Waiting until AFTER my crush moves to tell her I like her... I'll get to see how the long-distance friendship is, but is it a good idea to wait?"}
{"id": "t3_3z2tk7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need advice on my horrible overthinking habit", "post": "So, I'm sure I'm not the only one out here, but I have this horrible habit on overthinking. Not just the kind where I can't decide what clothes to wear, but in every aspect of life.\n\nIt's most often in terms of people - for example I have overthinked mine and my boyfriends relationship so much I can't even see him as he is anymore, mind is so clouded over I will literally start crying if I push myself to think any further.\n\nHowever, it's also in other things, too. For example the body language of other people when I'm talking to them, the pros and cons of doing this or that. It's like I'm constantly having an internal argument with myself about something, and it's mentally debilitating. I always end up giving myself a headache and it really ruins my wellbeing. \n\nI'm not sure how I can stop it, I see people saying \"Do something you enjoy\" but it always overrides it, making said activity impossible to immerse myself in.\n\nTips, anyone?", "summary": "I overthink constantly and it completely screws up my mindset. I need advice with it."}
{"id": "t3_c52bj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Renting a place in US from abroad before arrival?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nOK, this is not a thought provoking question, but couldn't find where to ask. \nI'm a grad student and will work on a project on Boston during the summer. I'm not in the US and will arrive few days before starting the project. When I arrive I'll need a place to stay, so I'm looking for sublets during the summer through craigslist/padmapper etc. However, since I'm out of the country, this process can get quite painful.\n\nFirst of all, since there is still few weeks time before the actual renting period, how can I handle the process? Do I pay now to reserve the place? Should I just pay the deposit/the first months rent? Or do you just deal with the renter and make a contract based on I'm going to pay when I arrive.\n\nSecond, if I pay, what should I get in return? Is there an official contract for subletting (mind that the people I'm going to rent from are most likely renters too)? What advice can you give me to not get burnt? Wiring etc. will most likely be not smart, but how should I pay? I have some friends in the area, but I don't want to make them deal with my problems if I can handle it (at least the majority of it).\n\nOr, should I wait until I arrive to look for a place? Can I find a nice place at the last minute? (I can stay at a place/hostels for few days when I arrive)\n\nThat is, what advice would you give to foreigners looking to rent a place? To what should I pay attention?", "summary": "how to reserve/rent a place in US from out of the country?"}
{"id": "t3_3j5xzj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Considering consigning a student loan for my younger sister. Yay or nay?", "post": "Hi everyone. First time posting here, I did search for related posts but I still have some questions and need advice. \n\nLong story short, my sister Lilly is at college currently. She is going into a growing and specialized field. From what I understand, she has until the second semester (December) to get the rest of the money for her first year. \n\nNone of our parents or family have the credit to consign and those that do decided not to. I am pretty much the last chance other then her dropping out or stripping (mostly kidding about that)\n\nI don't have much of a credit history at all other than a 3000$ car loan I am currently in along with my fianc\u00e9. \n\nI am on a hourly+commission job and usually get around 400$ a week and no less then 300$ a week and I expect to earn more in the future as I get better at my job. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 earns between 320-600$ a week depending on overtime. We share finances (I don't need advice about this, it is working perfectly well and we have separate bank accounts, I only mention this because if Lilly defaults I thought it would be relevant)\n\nOut of the ~3600$ we bring in a month we spend 1400 on rent, food and necessary bills a month. Then around 200 for our pets and Internet. And usually 400 on food. The car payment is 300. I have to pay ~800 to the IRS and we are building savings account. We currently spend to much on video games and going out and work equipment but we are dialing that back a lot.  \n\nAnyway on to the loan. \n\nIt's a 12000$ loan at ~8?% interest over 10 years. Hypothetically Lily should be able to pay it off herself, but if she can't I think I can afford to pay it. Legally I would have her sign an agreement to pay me back with interest if I have to pay but I know you can't get blood from a stone so I'm not planning for that money. \n\nWould this be a bad investment?", "summary": "sister needs a 12000$ loan for this year of college, I'm the only chance to get it. Currently have about 1500 a month extra if I stop dicking around with my money. Can I afford it? Is it a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_23xptk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] was emotionally blackmailed by my fiance [24F] into physically harming my digestive system. Not sure what to make of this behaviour.", "post": "My fiance and I were travelling through India and were in Calcutta when the argument happened. She wanted to eat at Subway and I said fine, but since we were in India I myself was going to eat some local food. \n\nThis angered her, but she agreed to go to a local restaurant. While there we both ordered food, but she didn't touch hers until I was finished with mine. She then demanded that I eat hers too or she was going to take her passport and leave me then and there. It was 10pm at night and obviously I feared for her safety.  She's a small white girl in a country that doesn't have a great reputation for female safety and was seriously threatening to just walk out into the night.  My fear of what could happen to her caused me to eat the food.\n\nWhen I was almost finished she called the waiter over and ordered another plate of food and told me I was going to have to eat that too. I was already in pain, so I refused. She insisted. I got about a quarter through and couldn't eat anymore.  She eventually relented and agreed to let me give rest of the food to a homeless person.\n\nI had problems with my digestion system for days after this.  She has never apologised or showed any remorse.  In her eyes I deserved this for criticising her choice of food.\n\nDoes anyone know what this is? Emotional abuse? Physical abuse? Neither? Technically I chose to eat the food so I was harming myself. I'm not really sure what to make of it.\n\nIs this kind of vindictive passive aggressive behaviour normal in relationships from women? Should I really marry a person like this?", "summary": "My fiance threatened to leave me in a foreign country unless I physically harmed myself through the ingestion of food."}
{"id": "t3_3dx4wc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to shave my shoulder while sleep-deprived.", "post": "Okay. So this happened a few minutes ago. I was sitting in my room, reading some Bukowski and shit before bed. I look up at the clock and see that it's 2 in the morning. Seeing as I have an appointment this morning, I start freaking the fuck out.\n I close my book and run into my bathroom to brush my teeth and take my contacts out. After I finish that I, being overly tired and sick, stand there for a few minutes looking at myself in the mirror forgetting what I was doing there. I then notice a bunch of black hairs on one of my shoulders. Not thinking, I grab my razor and try to shave them off. It works a little too well. It takes the hair as well as my skin with it.\n I start bleeding everywhere. It gets all on the sink and the tile while I get my heavy duty bandaids out from under the counter. I finally patch myself up but now my shoulder hurts like a motherfucker and my bathroom is a bloody mess.", "summary": "Tried to shave shoulder while sleep-deprived and rushing for appointment. Ripped skin off and bled everywhere."}
{"id": "t3_131uge", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend [26f] has no manners and it's driving me [24m] crazy, to an extreme degree. How can I approach this?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have a fairly decent, average, relationship with about one exception. Her manners are so bad that I'm embarrassed every time we eat with friends/family and I'm starting to get frustrated even when it's just her and I to the point where I have a hard time being \"normal\" around her eating. I've also had friends/family mention it to me themselves on several occasions. \n\nI'm not a picky person by any means (at least about anything else) and in general am very tolerant of people who don't do things \"my way\" but after three years of listening to her chew with her mouth open, bite her fork/spoon when she takes a bite, play with her food, and shovel it into her mouth bit by bit I'm about at my wits end. I certainly don't expect royal manners or anything of that variety but I am slowly realizing that general manners are a must in my relationship. \n\nI know the old adage of \"just talk to her\" (we really do talk about almost everything, very open) but I have a particularly hard time, I think, because I feel like it's not my responsibility to coach her in proper social manners. It feels a bit father-like and I get the \"its not my job to teach her manners\" every time I consider talking about it. It's the details that get to me, is it best to try and train her in every nuance that makes up good manners (\"don't bite your fork, don't chew with your mouth open, don't pick at your food with your fingers\") or should I just generally say \"you need to work on your manners\" and hope that she gets it? \n\nIt's not just her eating habits, she seems to have been taught very few social manners but I thought it best to start here and see if I can figure out an easy way to approach such a topic.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have a fairly healthy relationship but she lacks very basic manners and it's really starting to get to me. I have no idea how to successfully approach her and discuss it because I feel strange taking that role."}
{"id": "t3_1l4hkp", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I want to make an anonymous phone call to Animal Control about a dog that belongs to my boyfriends family . . .", "post": "So my boyfriends family are pretty terrible people. His mother is a complete irresponsible mother (she's lost 2 children to the state), and my boyfriend has never had a relationship with them. She works long hours as a nurse a few hours away from her home, so she is often not at the house. My boyfriends brother is at the house, but all he does is sit around in his basement playing video games, not paying attention to his surroundings. Now, the dog that they have is a rescue dog. They adopted him a couple years ago. I've seen the state of the house when my boyfriend used to live there, and it's terrible. There is dirty laundry all over the place, dirty dishes throughout the kitchen, open paint cans laying around, and so many other terrible things. That dog craps all over the place because I believe he needs to be let outside but no one is paying the right attention to him. When he is outside, he's often tied up on a line in a muddy driveway and will often escape. The brother screams at him when he barks (probably barking because he needs attention), and the mother is never around to look after him. Overall, I'm wondering if I should make the anonymous phone call to Animal Control, and if they will actually do something about the situation. I don't think anyone hits the dog, but I don't even know how much he is fed (or if he is even fed enough). Is this enough for the dog to be taken to a better place??", "summary": "Boyfriends family don't pay attention to the dog, so he goes to the bathroom in the house and is often tied up outside. Is this enough for Animal Control to take care of?"}
{"id": "t3_2w1ncn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFUversary.", "post": "This is the one year anniversary of my greatest fuck up. It all starts off with great intentions, then it gets greater than my intentions, then everything goes to shit.\n\nOn Valentines weekend I always go on a retreat to evaluate where I am at and my life and where I want to be. During this retreat I came to the realization that I was moving forward to quickly, in the phsycial sense, with my girlfriend. So after getting back on Sunday afternoon, a year ago today, I decided that my girlfriend and I were going to go for a ride (foreshadowing [in more than one sense of the word]) to talk about holding back on our sexy sex relationship. So we met up, started driving around, and I told her a generalized summary of my weekend. Eventually we get to a point in the conversation where I'm ready to talk about the \"for realsies\" stuff so I pull over at a truck turnaround (a generally uncommon place for people to drive by) and begin to talk to her about my plans. I can't remember exactly how the conversation went but one thing led you another and before I knew it she was straddling me and we were doing some hard-core making out. Redditors with girlfriends don't you love when that happens to you? Redditors without girlfriends don't you love imagining that happening to you? \n\nEventually we finish with our make out session, she hops off, I turn the car on, and put it into drive, not thinking about the multitude of cars that had driven by during our fun time, I began to pull out. At the same time two cop cars with lights and sirens blazing come speeding over the hill and block my car in. This was when I thought, \"This'll be a great story some day.\" right before I began to freak out. They asked us to get into seperate cars and we did. They then told us that someone had called in saying we were committing sexual relations. \"Nope, notta, no way, I wish.\" I received a $125 parking ticket.", "summary": "Wanted to talk to my girlfriend about cutting back on or physical relationship; almost got arrested for \"sexual relations\"."}
{"id": "t3_2nsftp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my Girlfriend[17 F] My girlfriend todl me she is polayamorus", "post": "So i have been dating this girl for 2 months and today she told me she is non binary and Polyamorous.\n\nLike she asked em to refer to her as a guy every now and then like that inst so bad i mean i could get over that but its still strange.\n\nThen she told me she was Polyamorous which means she wants to be in multiple sexual and romantic relationships. I feel like this should have been brought up and the beginning and now i don't know what to do i feel like i should leave but i feel like she is the one should i just put up with it or should i leave.\n\nHas anyone every been in this situation or even if you haven't any help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Should i leave or work this out"}
{"id": "t3_3ls1ji", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "26f left self destructive, depressed, emotionally abusive and aggressive 30m", "post": "Left my partner after just not being able to take anymore, broke up recently but got back together after his claim to seek help and I agreed to support him through it.\nBeen 2 months and I am leading him begrudgingly by the hand to even read any website or phone number. Don't feel I will even be happy again despite wanting to hold onto a future with him even kids but as it stood I was terrified of that happening. I know I'm doing what's best for me and I've done all I can emotionally and physically to help this guy... so why do I feel so guilty for leaving?", "summary": "Bf was depressive and emotionally abusive. Agreed to seek help but is fighting tooth and nail. I left. Why am I feeling guilty?"}
{"id": "t3_x8s5e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So what absolutely despicable, underhanded and just down right low-life behaviour that affects you, that you can't do anything about because its \"legal\"", "post": "So heres my rant: Stood for hours in a queue to go see an event that is going to be in town soon, wasted hours of my life getting excited to get golden circle tickets, only to find out that they were sold out within 10min of the set time for the tickets to go on sale. \n\nAfter I get back to my office, saw on gumtree that there were already over 40 sellers of tickets (this is within the first hour of official ticket sales), at 3x the price (and not like 1 or 2 tickets, we talking about 6-8 tickets on sale per seller).", "summary": "Dirty F-ing Scumbag Ticket scalpers......need to be stabbed with rusty spoons"}
{"id": "t3_18rgwa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22M] Should I attempt to reestablish a friendship with Ex gf? [22F}", "post": "I've known this girl since I was 14 years old. Her and I were long time friends and finally got together almost 2 years ago. For the majority of the relationship it was great, we were both happy and no doubt in love. She was my best friend in the world... We broke up 6 months ago, her decision. A lot of strain was placed on us due to several different reasons. I didn't handle these strains well, and our relationship turned into more bad times than good ones. I was a mess for a long time after she left me, and I still miss her something terrible. \n\nI see her out every now and then, we have the same friend group. We exchange simple hellos and how are you but it never goes farther than that. I really miss her friendship, and I don't think its fair that I've lost a long time friend due to a failed romantic relationship. I knew that some time needed to pass before I could consider being her friend, and I guess she feels the same way. I know this girl cares for me, I was her closest friend for years. \n\nSo my question is this, should I give her a call and tell her I miss her and want to be her friend? I've been thinking about it for a few weeks now but am a little scared of the outcome... any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Close/best friends with a girl for at least 4 years, we dated for almost a year, ended on a bad note. Been 6 months since.. Should I try to reestablish a friendship with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1c4c6c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20]m fallen for a girl, the pros and cons of starting a relationship confuse me.", "post": "My girl and I are flirting with the idea of a relationship, but I have cognitive dissonance. \n\nPoint 1:\n\nI'm [20]m and I have been dating a [20]f girl for the past 3 months. I have never had a serious relationship before. I have dated a few girls. I also go out clubbing a lot. I have talked to / hooked up with a lot of girls. This is the first girl I have had a really strong attraction to that goes beyond physical. \n\nPoint 2:\n\nFrom what I've seen of friends, family, and society in general, is that throughout your life you have numerous relationships. They go through stages: flirting, dating, new relationship energy, stability, conflict, end or marriage. Even though it feels amazing now, I'm only 20, and drawing on observation any relationship will probably end. I never want to get married, I don't believe in soul mates, and I don't want to spend my entire life with one girl. So, I know this relationship will sometime in the far away future end.\n\nPoint 3:\n\nI was socially inept in high school, I worked hard hammering out social interactions for months and months ingraining a deep sense of self-belief in myself. Now I love to go out and hook up with attractive girls, its challenging and exciting.\n\nI feel like I have to pick between self-development and my love for a girl. On one hand I really like this girl, I've never had a relationship before, and she's one of the few girls I've been attracted to. On the other hand, If I'm in a relationship I can't go out and hook up with hot girls, I can't keep improving my game, and what's the point in even having a relationship when I think it will probably end eventually. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "! I've fallen for a girl, but relationships in your 20s limit you and they will probably not last, so I'm confused if I should go for it or keep playing the game because its fun."}
{"id": "t3_fe8gf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it alright to scrutinize persons who claim ownership of pictures?", "post": "Being a Redditor, i tend to pick up links a full 24-48 hours before my friends do (read: i probably spend too much time on the internet). \nHowever, some of these friends like to take these pictures and post it on their Facebook profiles claiming ownership for the picture, or leaving an open connotation that it is possibly theirs.\n\nFor example, many of the text message logs from iPhones shore up on my friend's wall, as if he is involved in many of these text conversations themselves.\n\nI recently took action and called him out on it, but was it fair?\n\nIs it okay to rain on other people's parades and their lesser understanding of memes and other internet culture, or just sit back and pretend that they know what theyre doing.\n\nAnother somewhat aggravating situation i find myself in is people using 'trolled' incorrectly. They throw the trolling meme everywhere like its sparkly glitter, when it is obvious they are using it incorrectly. Its frustrating, but i dont want to sound condescending when i correct them.", "summary": "My friends dont understand the internet and their usage of everything incorrectly makes me mad. Am i allowed to call them out on it?"}
{"id": "t3_3mh5bc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by brushing my teeth with surgical lube", "post": "This actually happened about 4 hours ago and my SO is still giving me hell about it. \n\nI had a list of things I had to accomplish before having to drive 4 hours to a wedding. One of those things I had planned to do was stretch my ears from a 4G to a 2G. I go to the bathroom and get out all my stuff to stretch my ears. I successfully stretch them without any hiccups and hop in the shower. At this point, we are looking at about 1 hour before we have to leave and I still had several things to do. As I'm completing these tasks, I lose track of time and have to be in the car and heading to the wedding in ~5 minutes. Shit. So my SO is starting to rush me and I'm trying to finish getting ready. Go to the bathroom to brush my teeth and about that time my SO asks me something and I turned to look at her and inadvertently picked up the tube of surgical lube that previously I used to stretch my ears and applied it to my toothbrush. I put my electric toothbrush in my mouth and turn it on and start brushing and that's when I realized it was too late. I was spitting out lube left and right and dry heaving all while my SO thinks it's the funniest thing on earth. I guess the good takeaway here is that food will slide down my gullet much easier.", "summary": "got in a hurry this morning after using surgical lube to stretch my ears, left the lube on the bathroom counter next to toothpaste, and accidentally used it to brush my teeth."}
{"id": "t3_1jxfn7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do I do from here..", "post": "I just went through a break up, two years.\n\nI have to face him at school in a week, really not wanting to cry in school, don't know how to go about that..\n\nHe's really confusing about it though, saying that he still loves me and that there is a chance of us getting back together.. I know that I shouldn't believe that, or shouldn't go back to it.. but I would..\n\nNow before you go telling me \"Put this on /r/relationships\" there is another part.\n\nI have anxiety.. So I have social anxiety too. Being with this kid for two years he is who I walked with, ate lunch with, and planned to walk with as senior during assemblies (seniors always pair up to walk to every assembly)\n\nI have no real close friends, I had him and unfortunately molded to him and became extremely too dependent on him.\n\nI don't want to ask someone to walk with me, but I don't wanna walk by myself.. I don't want to make a big deal about it, but my brain is like \"everyone's watching you and thinking you are so dorky for walking by yourself\" \n\nWho the fuck cares right? Well, my brain can't just brush that shit off.\n\nI've heard blogging helps anxiety, but I wouldn't know how. \n\nReddit, what to do about relationship, school, and social anxiety???", "summary": "Breakup, depression, social anxiety... fuck."}
{"id": "t3_2ukmlo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my College/School/Kindergarten crush [19 F], the girl i never dated", "post": "so this is my first time ever to admit something online concerning my  lovelife but i really need a closure on that thing so i hope you guys/girls can help and thanks for taking your time!\n\nok since kindergarten i knew that girl she was my first crush i really loved her, yes love since kindergarten i gave her my chocolate my colors EVEN my tiddybear she eventually returned it because i cried about it and we went through school together, we didn't speak much as i am not good with talking with girls thingy unlike my male friends which i have lots who tried to help me with this issue but i always backout at the last secound\n\nso yes we finished highschool and i was sad that i blew that chance once and for all BUT Karma got me and she is in my college now, i haven't spoken to her alone except once or twice (maybe more) but all school and study related.. as i don't know what to say around her, but she is staying in this college for a year only and then going to another one because her father is changing workplaces (sorry too much info) so that's it\n\nwhat should i do? there was LOTS of times where i helped her with stuff anonymously and pretty much saved her but i cannot just do it\n\ni think i will delete the post soon, because she may know my reddit accound and i don't want her to know like that.. if she ever finds it", "summary": "how can i do it? and finally admit my feelings"}
{"id": "t3_54j4jn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend [20 F] of 2 years. Openly talked about dating, then I did something pretty bad.", "post": "I'm a junior in college, and is (was?) really good friends with this girl for coming on two years now. For the past... almost 11 months at this point I suppose, we've been hooking up but remaining friends in a pretty weird situation. Well, I discovered she had feelings for me, and found that as I was coming into my junior year I had developed the same for her. It seemed like somehow we were actually going to avoid a messy friends-with-benefits falling out of sorts.\n\nAnyways, she and I ended up having an open conversation about the possibility of dating. We decided that there was some stuff I had to take care of first, but we were both into the idea and agreed to be platonic friends until we would (really inevitably at this point) start dating.\n\nAnd then, a few days after that conversation, I got really, way too drunk and made out with one of our mutual friends. Hoo boy. While this mutual friend and I talked and agreed it was a stupid mistake that we didn't want to repeat, my friend (rightfully so) became very hurt. She went home for the weekend and we stopped talking, but she came back basically saying that she didn't want to cut me out of her life, but that I had really broken her trust, I would have to build that back up, and that our friendship would never really be the same.\n\nHonestly, I deserve all of it - even though it really was a stupid mistake and I would never in my right mind intend to do something like this, the fact is that I did it anyways while drunk and really did fuck up.\n\nI don't know that there's much to do from here - while I'd really still like to date this friend, I can definitely see why that possibility could be off the table forever now. I guess at this point I'd just like to know if anyone has any advice for what to do from here; I'd like to prove to her that I do really care about her and build that trust back up. I really do feel awful about this all. Anyone been in a situation like this? What did you do/what did you learn from it?", "summary": "Friend and I agreed to date in near future, I got drunk and hooked up with our mutual friend. Now my original friend is (rightly so) very hurt, and I'm feeling like a pretty bad guy. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3qzuua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m/17] am having trouble choosing between crushes. [f/16], [f/15], [f/16]", "post": "I [m/17] have been flirting with a couple girls recently, one [f/15] for longer than the other [f/16]. I've only ever had one relationship, about a year long, which ended at the end of summer, with a girl [f/18] who was basically all that i wanted in a relationship. We broke up because she was going to college, and would be a good 3-4 hours away from me.\n\nAs of right now, i'm approaching dating people for the first time from the perspective of having to make the decision of who to date. The first girl [f/15] is really nice and playful, but i can't necessarily have the deepest conversations with. The second girl [f/16] is nice as well, and i can have good conversations with, but she is from a very religious family, and i am non-religious. There is a third girl [f/16] who i am interested in, however i have not been flirting with her. She is intelligent and seems fun to talk to, however, she has bipolar disorder.\n\nI, as of right now, am kind of stuck in a situation i don't want to be in. I like all 3 of them a decent amount, however, i will be leaving in less than a year for college, and will be an hour away from my home town. On top of that, i don't really know how i should even consider starting to decide which one i like the most, because i like them all for different reasons/", "summary": "Guy just out of first relationship is struggling with choosing between 3 different crushes"}
{"id": "t3_3q8e2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my Ex GF (1 1/2 years) now Roommate [22 F] 3 weeks broken up, refuses to pay new rent amount.", "post": "We were splitting all costs of living (food/bills/rent/ins) on an percentage of income base. I weighted it in her favor because she liked to go out and have fun with her friends more which I didn't mind as long as she was happy.\n\nTurns out she wasn't all that happy and broke up with me. But rent is $1300/mo and rent/insurance/bills is about $1750/mo total between us. Also the lease is ridiculous and wants the equivalent of 4 months rent in fees to break it. So I laid out the ground rules and said it's now 50-50 for that amount we still share. The difference between then and now is $200 more a month for her. She says she can't pay it for the next two months because of a $500 deductible for an auto-claim she filed a few months back, which is factual.\n\nHowever, I called bullshit on her inability to pay her new share. She has horrible spending problems, so I budgeted her monthly income and showed her after all her costs of living (sans the deductible) she had about $600/mo to blow on whatever she wanted for the month. I informed her that most people, when confronted with unexpected bills, take it out of savings and then recuperate the loss over time. She didn't like that because she only has $1200 in savings and that's for her family trip to the Keys in July.\n\nI'm a part owner of her bank account and therefore have access to her checking and savings straight from my own account. I'm thinking of pulling the $100 ($200 split over her two pay periods) and letting her figure it out on her own. I'm not going to play this bullshit where she wants a break on paying rent for now, because I know she'll never get around to paying it because she already owes me $700 from when I dug her out of credit card debt when we got together 2 years ago.", "summary": "Refuses to pay new rent amount. I'm a part owner of her bank account. Should I take the money out anyway? Should I take the money she owed previously also? Is there another way?"}
{"id": "t3_3ejy3y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] think my Dad [50] is cheating on my Mum [47]. What do I do?", "post": "A while ago my Dad asked me to use the laptop to print something out for him for work. I didn't know what the website it was on was called so I just went into the history to find it there. There were a few porn sites like Pornhub, YouPorn etc there, but that didn't bother me. My Dad works nights a lot so he regularly takes the laptop with him, so I just assumed he would visit the sites then. There were also some of those \"HOT SINGLES IN YOUR AREA!!\" type things but I thought they were just some of those crappy ads that redirect you on porn sites. I deleted the history just in case it ever came up in the search box while other people were around, and I forgot about it until today. A family friend's computer is broken so she asked to come around later to use ours to print something out. I said sure, and checked the history just in case, but I found a massive list of cheating sites visited a week ago. There must have been about 11 or 12 different sited visited one after the other, sites like Ashley Madison, Easysex, along a load of others with names like \"MILFbang\" and \"Localfuck\". There's no way that this many sites could be the result of some scummy ads. I deleted the history again, but I now wish I'd at least taken a screenshot first. I k ow this must be my Dad because I don't use the laptop unless I have to do something for a family member (I use my phone for Reddit, YouTube etc), I've never seen my Mum even touch the laptop because she's even more tech illiterate than my dog, and my Sister doesn't even live with us anymore. They've been together for 28 years, and the've always seemed pretty happy to me. They were thinking about getting a divorce a about 5 years ago, but I don't know what that was about, they decided to give it another chance and they've been fine ever since. I don't know what to do, any advice would be really helpful.", "summary": "A bunch of cheating sites in the history of the laptop that only my Dad uses, I'm not sure what to do next."}
{"id": "t3_bwxo7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit's best and most cost-effective camping equipment.", "post": "I want to go on a camping/road trip with my girlfriend this summer through the pacific northwest.  I don't anticipate it will be anywhere near freezing along the route we are going to take.  And we will be couch-surfing with some friends every few days.  So I need some pretty significant supplies:\n\n* Tent - 2 man tent for all weather\n* Sleeping bags\n* Portable stove\n\nI have a crossbow for self-defense and hunting if need be(girlfriend says no guns).  Knives and other basics I have covered.  So anything that comes to mind and can't be beat in terms of quality and price that would be useful on a trip like this.", "summary": "Going camping, don't have basic shit and need suggestions"}
{"id": "t3_x6aza", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anyone have any advice on ways to help me go back to school?", "post": "First off I have a kind of strange history with college, I went for a summer semester and a fall semester at UVM, but a week after the withdraw date at UVM they sent me a letter saying I would not be getting any financial aid because I was not a matriculated student. This was after my counselor specifically told me I would be able to get all the financial aid I was told about.\n\nAnyway, fast forward about a year and a half, I have done some traveling around the country and realized what I want to do with my life, but I need a degree. I have some credits from the community college from being dual enrolled in high school, and I looked into, and decided it would be smart of me to take the CLEP exams for a few different subjects before getting into it full swing.\n\nI really don't know how I can pay for going back though, I can find a job and a place to live (currently working on that in Michigan) but I'm not really sure how to pay for college, even community. I can't get a loan, since I don't have any family that would co-sign for me. \n\nFinal bit is that I have a brother in California that has offered me a room in San Luis Obispo in January so that I can try to go to school there, should I take his offer since I can pay to go to Cuesta community college easily (once I get residency) and just spend a few months saving?\n\nAny tips would be appreciated. I want to be a teacher, high school English to be exact.", "summary": "How the hell do people pay for college by themselves?"}
{"id": "t3_h4f8f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is a piece of art yours if you conceived but didn't execute?", "post": "Well I basically got royally screwed. Sorry; I'm a little pissed, so I may come off a bit bitchy.\n\n**Here's the story: **\nA month or so back one of my friends (let's call her Sarah) approached me with a problem. Sarah's organization wanted her to design a t-shirt as quickly as possible so they could sell it to raise money for Japan hurricane relief. They gave her one day to do it and she couldn't accomplish such a task with her limited rendering skills. Being the great friend I was, I listened as Sarah described to me what her idea was: a Japanese map on top of a sun with cherry blossoms. Very vague and generic.\n\nSo I design the shirt, all the while communicating through Sarah with her club to match what they wanted (stupid, yes; I should've talked to them myself). They printed the shirt, began to sell it, and everything was fine and dandy...until I saw that they had credited her on the design. Sarah has also been telling everyone that the design is hers. \n\nNow this is a little awkward, because I'm not sure if I have legitimate grounds to approach her about this. We also live together. One time, Sarah had her friend over, and she was wearing the shirt. He asked her if that was her design. She said yes at first, then noticed I was in the room. She then quickly changed her answer to \"Yes, it designed it, but (my name) rendered it.\" I smiled to them, but inside I was fuming.\n\nIn the future, if someone wants to use the design for another purpose, whose permission would they need? I guess I'm asking for both moral and legal input on this problem.", "summary": "Designed something for a friend based on her shoddy concept, friend takes credit, ????, friend profits!"}
{"id": "t3_1rvdyg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] want to restore a set of old friendships [23 M/F] that fell apart for various reasons. Is it worth it? How can I do it?", "post": "Back in high school, I was in a fairly tight-knight group of friends. We were nearly inseparable until about two years ago when things kind of hit the fan. Basically, my ex started dating one of my close friends in this group. I didn't really care very much but she decided she wanted nothing to do with me and refused to be in my presence, so as they started hanging out more with my other friends, I started seeing them less and less.\n\nSo people took sides and about half of my friends at that time stuck with me and the other half stuck with them. It wasn't really a conflict, just that she wouldn't see me and it kind of created a rift. Now, they've broken up; in fact, there's been pretty much a full turnover of romantic relationships on their side of things, and I want to try and rebuild bridges. I feel the bridges weren't burned so much as abandoned and neglected.\n\nBut I don't know how to do this. It's been two years and I've had very little contact with them. I miss them sorely and want to hang out with them again. How do I do it? Should I even try?", "summary": "Old, close friendships fell apart for silly reasons two years ago, don't know how/if I should get them back together"}
{"id": "t3_1319jc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do you think? Should I just ask her out or try to get some insight from her best friend?", "post": "Ok Reddit, here's the situation.\n\nThere is a girl that I have liked for a while but we have been spending more time with each other recently as part of a group of people. So my question is, should I just ask her out or should I ask her best friend and room mate if she thinks it is a good idea?\n\nIf it was only fear of rejection, I wouldn't hesitate to ask her out but because we have been spending time as part of a group, I don't want to potentially drive a wedge between people in the case that she does say no.\n\nThe way I see it, the only way around this would be to ask her best friend if she thinks it is a good idea to ask her out (since she lives with her and they pretty much talk about everything). This way I would know if I should pursue it or just leave it. If the friend tells her, then it could also be advantageous since that way the girl might change her actions more subtly than had I asked her out and give me a clue as to whether I should go for it or not. The only real issue with this would be that it is pretty childish. Another potential problem (though I don't think it is the case) is that someone told me that they think that the friend might like me...which would obviously make asking her a pretty huge unintentional dick move by me. I don't think she does though.\n\nSo what do you guys thing? Should I just go straight to the girl, or try to gain some insight into whether it would be a good idea to ask her or not from our mutual friend?", "summary": "Read the last couple of lines."}
{"id": "t3_1dpq5w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/m] stopped talking to my friend [17/f] that I have feelings for. Did I do the right thing?", "post": "I've known this girl for about two years now and have always had feelings for her. Two years ago I told her the way I felt about her and she told me she didn't reciprocate and I was okay with it at the time because she was pretty nice about it. After that for a few months she would become increasingly flirty so I thought maybe she liked me now but after a while I realised she was just leading me on. I decided to stop talking to her because the way she was treating me was pretty toxic to me. \n\nNow that was two years ago and every once in a while she will say hi to me (never me initiating conversation) and we would talk but then she would resume flirting with me and leading me on when I knew she had no interest in me so I would stop conversation again. I knew she had no interest in me because I saw her doing the same thing to quite a few other guys. \n\nFew weeks ago she started talking to me again and this time her flirting and what not increased by a lot (inviting me to her house and other things). My friend then told me that during the whole time she was flirting with me over the years she was actually in a relationship on and off with one of my friends who introduced me to her and was giving me advice during the whole time. I decided to stop talking to her because she wasn't worth the effort but she has always been a good friend to me. Did I do the right thing?", "summary": "Girl I know keeps leading me on even though I know she has no interest in me and I stopped talking to her to save myself from her idiocy."}
{"id": "t3_4lngxm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it unfair to other women if I [22M] want to date but (possibly) still love my ex [24F]?", "post": "Throwaway for the usual reasons.\n\nMy ex and I had been together 3 years but split about two months ago, not because of a huge fight, but just a few fundamental incompatibilities and situational obstacles (we didn't have similar future plans; we've been doing long distance for a while; ex was really insecure; I didn't know how to handle my jealousy, etc.) That being said, she's wonderful, one of the sweetest and funniest people I know, and sometimes I still feel quite sad about it. \n   \n\nMy friends have suggested going out with other people to try to move on, and I think that's a good idea. I'm even excited at the idea of dating again. However, my ex and I still talk frequently, sometimes on the phone for several hours. She has admitted she has lingering feelings as well, but also agrees that we just weren't cut out to be a couple. We don't have hard feelings, so I'm reluctant to cut off our friendship. At the same time, I don't really want to introduce myself to dates by saying, \"By the way, I'm still close to my ex and I miss her. I'm trying to move on, which is why I'm considering dating you right now.\" But I don't want to lie, either.", "summary": "I'd like to move on from my ex by going out on other dates, but I still have residual feelings for her and talk to her often. How honest should I be with new women? Is the situation fair to them?"}
{"id": "t3_54hmuq", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "An unwanted gift from my SO [20F] - I need so[M20]e help", "post": "Okay, so I feel so bad about this. \nIn November me and my SO will celebrate our 1 year anniversary, and of course we said that we'll gift one another \"nothing\" and of course we both knew it's a lie.\n\nSo, I just discovered what her \"nothing\" is, and this is why I feel bad. She know's i like computers and when I first built my PC I didn't buy any graphics card, and I of course did tell her that (several times..anytime we (mostly me) talked about computers..I'm an idiot) and now she wants to buy me a new graphics card. The thing is I'm an university student and the last time I played video games was like 2 months ago, and I have little to no time to go to the beach and enjoy while it still lasts, not to mention playing on PC. \n\nSo all this wouldn't be a problem if I didn't discovered it, but the thing is expensive and I'd rather go in some city in Europe we didn't visit. Since it's expensive she's asked help from two of my friends (both students; but one too kind to refuse to help) and my parents (they have their financial problems of their own). Knowing her, even if no one would help her, she's going to buy it just to make me happy, but I don't need it right now and as I said earlier there are so many other things that I'd spend money on. \n\nWhat I did is to tell her that I want to take her somewhere South (in Europe) and, subtly, told her that any dime will matter and that I wouldn't want her to spend money on something materialistic, but rather invest it in our trip. She agreed, but! she also said that she put heart in choosing her \"nothing\" and that she's willing in doing both. I also sought the help of a friend (one she contacted and said he's broke) and told him to call her and subtly tell her that it'll be better to go somewhere to spend time together. \n\nPlease, help me understand why won't she give up and maybe how to convince her to chose something else.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to gift me with a new graphics card; I prefere going to a trip. How do I convince her to do this ?"}
{"id": "t3_10a9h7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My relationship with my med school bf (24) of 6 years has been deteriorating. What should I do?", "post": "He's 24, and I'm 23, and we've had a wonderful loving relationship for nearly 6 years. We recently moved in together right before he started his med school. I left my friends and family behind to be with him and support him, but I feel like our relationship has taken a turn for the worse. Aside from never having time for me, his constant stress has made him prone to random temper tantrums, many of which are directed at me. I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells around him, because I never know when something I do or say will make him snap. I constantly feel taken for granted, and at times, he can be rather condescending. I'm trying to be supportive and understanding, but where do I draw the line?", "summary": "My bf takes all of his med school stress out on me."}
{"id": "t3_3n9bdm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mixed signals on snip", "post": "Hi me 32 male and (7 years together) partner 31 female had a 2nd kid about 4 months ago now while she was pregnant we both agreed we didn't want anymore kids and me getting the snip was best way to go. But now everytime I bring it up she blanks it or says what we doing is fine (currently on pill (and yes she is taking it) but she very adamant (most of time) that she doesn't want any more kids but I want the snip as I know I don't want anymore but don't want to do it behind her back. Sometimes when I bring it up she looks at me like if I got it she leave me. Could this be hormones playing with her head", "summary": "I want snip but unsure if she OK with it"}
{"id": "t3_1c6nyk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (f/18) am completely in love with my bf of 2.5 years (m/17) and I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. Am I crazy for just wanting him to propose already?", "post": "We're both in grade 12, have been friends since grade 8 and started dating in grade 10. We've had many ups and downs ( mostly because I was In a 1.5 year relationship before him, and had sex with 2 guys total before him, and he had never dated or kissed anyone before me, so occasionally he has feelings for other girls, but we talk about it and he gets over it ), we have not cheated on eachother  ( despite all his temptations- which to me proves his devotion) and we have gotten through a lot together. The only problem is, I am 100% into long term commitment, which means if I date someone it's in hopes to someday marry them. We do talk about marriage and we are quite mature for a couple of high school kids;p we both agree we want children,etc. to me this is basis for a proposal, because why wait? That would validate his love for me in the ultimate way ( I'm afraid of being dumped for someone else) but am I too hopeful and naive? My dream would be for him to propose on grad night, and I don't wanna propose because a) I'm a girl lol and b) I'm already committed, I just want him to propose when he feels that much commitment too. Am I crazy?", "summary": "I'm in a stable relationship and excited for the next step: is it hoping for too much?"}
{"id": "t3_4ectz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [25m] dumped me after cheating but I still feel bad for trying to date other guys? [24f]", "post": "My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me because he didn't want a relationship anymore. He cheated on me 2 months ago and we agreed to work things out but it failed. \n\nI was upset and turned to Tinder for a quick confidence boost. He texts me saying he knows I'm on Tinder. (His friend must have seen me and texted it to him) I still love him so much and I know we shouldn't be together because he's completely disrespected me and strung me along. He was my best friend and I feel bad if he's upset/hurt that I'm on Tinder. How do I get past this guilt? He's the one that broke up with me for fuck sakes!", "summary": "Dumped after being cheated on. Ex found out I was on Tinder and seems upset. I'm upset that he's upset. How to get past guilt?"}
{"id": "t3_3pje30", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] always cry when my feelings get hurt and my boyfriend [20M] and I communicate about it", "post": "Our relationship is fantastic. Sometimes, like in all relationships, there's a miscommunication, or we get short with one another out of stress. Nearly always we recognize when we're being unfair, there's an immediate apology, and everything is fine. However, when it's a problem over text or something else intercedes and I have to bring it up after, I always start crying when I explain that my feelings were hurt. It's not even because I feel so bad about the event itself, and I completely understand in the moment that it's a miscommunication and that we love each other and wouldn't want to hurt each other-- it's more like I feel bad for feeling bad. I usually just do this kind of ridiculous thing where I assure him it's not bad enough to cry about, and I can't control it, as I'm tearing up (not sobbing).", "summary": "I don't want to be unintentionally emotionally manipulative when I communicate my perspective after my feelings are hurt. How can I stop the tears?"}
{"id": "t3_3c0b5u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28 M] heart is cooking my brain.", "post": "Full disclosure: I stole the title of this post from a Modest Mouse song.\n\nBackground: I had relationship end at the beginning of this year (got dumped). I have been dating a fair amount recently, exclusively through apps like Tinder, OKcupid, and Hinge (meeting people to date in person is quite difficult, as I'm sure many of you know). I dated one person for about a month, but then broke it off with her, as she made some really inappropriate comments to me that raised some red flags.\n\nOther than that, I have not been on any second dates, by my own choosing. In my experience, internet dating (when you're looking for something beyond hooking up) is incredibly inefficient and mentally taxing. I just haven't been interested in hanging out with my dates a second time, mostly due to feeling a lack of connection on my end, though I'm sure the feeling was mutual for some of the dates.\n\nLo and behold, I finally meet someone in person who I am incredibly interested in, and she's taken. I don't know how long she has been dating her boyfriend, but it's off limits as far as I'm  concerned. I *do* think she has a little crush on me as well (have caught furtive glances from her, we make each other laugh frequently), and that if she was single, I would have a chance to date her.\n\nMy emotions are running wild - I am incredibly bummed out that I won't have a chance to get to know her better and hang out one on one, and I don't think I have the patience to go back to online dating, for the time being.\n\nI should disclose that many of my friends say that I'm too picky when it comes to relationships. Part of me thinks that's a good thing, part of me thinks they are right and that I'll never meet someone due to my high standards.\n\nI'm sure many have been in this situation before. Does anyone have advice on how to overcome this kind of heartache?", "summary": "I am crushing hard on a girl, which is a rare circumstance for me, but she is unavailable. How do I move on effectively, when it is so rare for me to meet a person that I am into this much?"}
{"id": "t3_1udgyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] girlfriend [19 F] of about two months broke up with me. We're still friends but I need help...", "post": "My girlfriend and I were dating for about two months. We were each other's first loves. A few days ago, she broke it off because she couldn't handle our relationship because it was long distance, which I'm okay with. She said one of her friends asked her out and she knew she needed someone who could be with her more from a physical standpoint. I agreed with her seeing as she has dealt with quite a bit lately, including being drugged and assaulted by one of her best friends. It was by no means a bad breakup.\n\nShe said she still loves me and still has feelings for me and I told her the same. She also said if things didn't work out with her new boyfriend she would come back to me. I'm happy for her and we're best friends and we will always be best friends. She means the world to me.\n\nThat being said, whenever I think about her being with a different guy and loving him like she loved, I sink into a depression. I want to remain friends with her but I can't stand the thought of her not being with me. I'm so confused emotionally and could really use some guidance from someone.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, still friends, can't stand the thought of her with another guy."}
{"id": "t3_jz0jh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need your help with a work dilemma!", "post": "I work for a smallish Web Development company (>50 employees). A while ago we built a free site for a retail company. For the sake of this throwaway, let's say they make those plastic garden flamingos. We built them a medium-sized website with built in content management system, and in exchange they gave us about 50 plastic garden flamingos as payment.\n\nFor one reason or another, they weren't happy with us (mainly the way their project was managed, rather than the quality of the output) and chose to part ways with our company after we finished building the site and put it live. They have since been working with another company, but have also found them to be unsatisfactory.\n\nHere lies the issue - I have received an email directly to me (although through my work email since that is the only contact info they have) asking if I would be willing to do some work for them independently on an ad-hoc basis. They basically want me to provide them with a tutorial and do some basic feature work on the site, presumably possibly leading to more work when they want things done.\n\nI have consulted my contract and the only stuff I can find relating to this type of thing applies to after you've been terminated. As in \"For up to 6 months after you have been terminated you must not solicit or attempt to entice away any clients...\" blah blah.\n\nWhat I want to know is - would it be wrong of me to take this company up on their offer and do work for them? Would you describe it as unethical?", "summary": "A client my company built a free(sorta) website for has asked me to independently do some work for them. Is it wrong/unethical for me to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_24rex3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Can you please help me with my homebuying plan??", "post": "I recently began my journey on meeting the criteria I've come up with in order to put myself and my family in the best position to buy our dream home. Problem is, it is very basic information that I've gathered doing research on the internet.\nMy current credit score is 665 and my wife's is 611, I've began speaking to a credit repair person whom I am going to pay $1,000.00 to fix our credit within the next year. She claims to be able to get both of our scores to approximately 750 within the first 4-6 months best case scenario.\nNext we are moving from the condo we stay at now which I pay $1,720 a month to a small two bedroom apartment for $975.00 so it can allow me to save the money I need for our home. Right now with that monthly rent payment I'm able to save approximately $800 per month, which will hopefully increase to about $1,300.00 per month when we move to the apartment later next month. Right now our expenses add up to approximately 51% of our total gross income, this will drop because of the cheaper rent but also because I'm close to paying off one of my cars which is a $300.00 payment. My goal is 40% expenses of our total income.\nI know this is a lot of information and I mostly did it to give myself a goal to reach because it makes it easier for me to target certain numbers but we are looking at a specific home. There is a new tract of homes near my hometown that cost between $340,000.00 - $370,000.00 and they are beautiful, I dream of purchasing one of these homes and this is our goal. Calculating the money I can save on a monthly basis and the money my wife can save I will be able to save approximately $25,000.00 in the next year to year and a half, maybe a bit more.\nMy question is, what numbers do I need to meet in order to buy one of these homes, for a payment of around $1,400.00 to $2,000.00?? Credit score??, Down payment?? Amount of money in savings for bank to see?? Expense/income ratio?? length of loan?? etc.", "summary": "Want to buy dream home, need help with the numbers I need to meet to purchase said home."}
{"id": "t3_1pb5j7", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Rekindling with old crush [22F] but there might be someone else[24M] interested in her. Advice?", "post": "I[22M] had a crush on a girl a few years ago but because of personal reasons i did not want to take on a relationship at the time.  But i really feel that if i had been able to ask her out then, she would have said yes.  She has recently come back into my life and we've been hanging out every so often, going on runs/hikes/etc.  Its recently come to my attention that another guy may have feelings for her as well.  I dont know the extent of their relationship or how she really feels about him, I dont really know how she feels about me at this time either...  Should i just ignore this alltogether and just ask her out or is there some other way i should go about this?\n\nAll advice is appreciated.", "summary": "i liked a girl 2 years ago, but couldnt ask her out because of family problems.  She's back and we get along, but another dude might like her and idk how she feels about him.  do i just got for it or do i need to do this differently?"}
{"id": "t3_2htqv6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How much is too much?", "post": "\"Addiction\" may possibly be too strong a word but the amount of time he  (25 M) commits to playing has definitely becoming a problem for me (25 F), we've been together almost 2 years. He plays, minimum, a few hours a day, stays up sometimes till 6am frequently (and consequently sleeps away most of the next day) he doesn't see his friends nearly as much anymore, stopped working out, rarely leaves the house now except for school, doesn't listen to me at all when he's on, never helps to clean the apartment, shows less interests in his other previously very interesting hobbies, even misses out on countless sexual opportunities (I have a busy schedule) because he won't stop f*cking playing. \n\nI don't know how to approach the subject delicately. I realize that compared to other people he doesn't play that much but he didn't play any video games  at all when we met and was a very social, out going person. For the guy I met, this is a LOT. I feel like he's changed and it's making me really sad. He's being faced with some stressful life decisions and I understand that this is probably his way of coping with stress and change. But it's beginning to become a relationship problem. At what point does his ignoring of my needs slip from coping methods into taking me for granted? I try to be supportive and patient but it's becoming harder and harder. The amount of time he commits to his videos games is becoming a problem for us but I don't know how to talk to him about it. I want to be there for him and I don't want him to feel attacked because in many ways he is a veryvery loving, kind partner. In other ways, he's becoming less and less of the person that I fell in love with. \n\nNot sure what to do....", "summary": "how do I tell my boyfriend his video game obsession is hurting our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1jwkl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] boyfriend broke up with me [23F] after a year because he doesn't love me and i don't know how to handle it", "post": "Ill try and keep this short. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over a year and everything seemed great. We had a lot of the same interests, humor, and a lot of the same friends. During we were both very affectionate and goofy and people always commented on how good we are together. Basically we were a healthy fun loving couple. \n\nRecently though i have noticed a little bit of hesitance on his part and felt him pulling away a little. I thought he would bring it up and talk to me about it but no. The one conversation we have ever had about his feelings is him breaking up with me. \n\nHe said i was a perfect girlfriend and all he can ask for but he just knows he doesn't love me and feels bad because he doesn't think things can go to the next level (which i presume he meant moving in together) \n\nThis came so out of the blue. We even went out to eat before and acted like everything was fine - which makes me feel so stupid. I was talking to him planning things for next week and holding his hand and just acting normal. \n\nI dont know how to handle it, im in complete shock and i cant stop crying. I just feels so rejected and that i did something wrong in the relationship. \n\nIm being smart about the break up and not calling him and keeping my space but im a wreck and i dont have the first clue how to get out of this. \n\nAny help would be greatly appreciated. I dont have a lot of friends and i dont want to be that friend who just talks about the break up all the time either because we have mutual friends.", "summary": "boyfriend of a year broke up with me out of the blue saying he doesnt love me anymore and i dont know to deal"}
{"id": "t3_1we1mp", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Sudden problems, need advice", "post": "M+F in 30s, both have damage from previous long-term relationships, wonderful amazing current relationship 9mths, getting quite serious etc etc\n\nI (m) am so lost, don't even know what to ask properly\n\nShort version: F sudden massive trust issues regarding m's female colleague (totally unfounded from m pov), m tried to be completely honest about everything but SOMEHOW it just got worse, baggage massively hurting talks, screwing words up. F wants relationship over. M totally shellshocked, definitely does NOT want relationship over.\n\nHelp. I have no idea what to do. This is absolutely worth fighting for imo (although f disagrees)", "summary": "help!"}
{"id": "t3_y9j7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most bizarre way you have injured yourself?", "post": "Two weeks ago I was in bed and very tired, so I had a nice big yawn. The yawn was so big that it dislocated my jaw and my mouth was stuck open. I was panicked because I couldn't close my mouth at all and it hurt when I tried to. I gave it a few minutes hoping if I just rubbed my jaw and tried to work it around it would eventually close, but no such luck. \n\nI ended up in the emergency room for 6 hours before they got it popped back into place. They had to drug me up to relax my muscles and the doctor was actually standing on the bed with his feet on either side of me and his thumbs in my mouth. My jaw hasn't been sore at all since then, but the doctor said once it has happened it is more likely to happen again, so needless to say I now try to clench my teeth when I'm yawning.", "summary": "A big yawn dislocated my jaw."}
{"id": "t3_499nkc", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I be working more in my undergraduate degree (aus)", "post": "I'm in my first year of a 3 year nursing degree, I currently work at the hospital as a nursing assistant making slightly above minimum wage.\nIf I work 2 shifts a week all my expenses are paid for and I have around 200 left over each fortnight for savings/ unexpected expenses. \n\nHowever 3 shifts a week Leaves me with considerably more savings & spending money.\n\nI'm not sure whether it makes the most sense to work more and try and start investing small amounts of my income if it would mean sacrificing more of my study and spare time. Which would probably have an impact on the graded I'm able to achieve and my prospects after graduation .", "summary": "work more to get more money to save and invest at the expense of marks at university and future prospects?"}
{"id": "t3_28ma0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl [18F] that I've [18M] been dating for a month came from an abusive ex and it's affecting things between us.", "post": "This girl's ex was terribly mentally and verbally abusive towards her, and she stayed in the relationship for too long because of the way he manipulated her. It was also her first relationship so she didn't really know what was going on. \n\nJust recently we were having \"the talk\" and she told me she didn't want to be anybody's girlfriend because of the way she had been treated for so long. She said even the word made it feel like she was being put in a corner. She said she wished she had dated me instead, that she was really into me still, but didn't feel comfortable being in a full-blown relationship now that she's been hurt so badly. I told her that I was disappointed but thought her emotional well-being was more important.\n\nShe dropped a comment about us not being exclusive which made me feel really uncomfortable. I've known this girl for a year, we've been dating for more than a month, but she still doesn't want a commitment. \n\nSo Reddit, what do I do? I'm crazy about this girl and I really want to be able to help her through this. I also want to know if it's worth my time. Right now she wants this strange noncommittal friends-with-benefits we-are-a-couple-but-we're-not-dating thing that's confusing me. I love being with her and she said she wants to spend even more time with me than now (we hang out 5 or 6 times a week). \n\nI'm mostly asking for general advice about dating someone who's been abused, because I am clueless. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "Girl I've been seeing came from an abusive ex and now she's scared of a full-blown relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1zg7fo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband's (M34) refusal to quit smoking is starting to make me (F30) resent him.", "post": "My husband and I both smoked when we first got together but once I became pregnant with our first child, 7 years into our relationship we agreed we'd both quit smoking. I quit immediately but of course I had a little more incentive, so I was super supportive and did everything I could to help him quit but once our son was born premature and needed oxygen to survive for the first 3 months of his life I became less supportive and more insistent that he quit. \n\nThat was 4 years ago, and now we are completely broke, as in we run out of food and I have to feed our 2 children Ramen noodles and hot dog buns for lunch, cancer runs rampant through his family tree and yet he still smokes.\n\n What makes it unbearable is he lies to me about it all the time. Our phones have been turned off, we no longer have cable and my family had to pay our rent last December so I demanded he quit (I gave up soda, and beer) or I would leave and so finally he did.\nAt least that's what he told me, for two months I was so proud of him and bragging about and to him, until a neighbor came over to bum a smoke and that's how I found out he was still smoking. So not only is he spending the very little money we have on cigarettes, but he lies about it to my face constantly. I've actually caught him in so many lies some of which are just ridiculous (I found some invitations to our youngest son's 1st birthday party he said he mailed off) that I just don't trust him any more and that breaks my heart. We've been best friends for 12 years and now it feels like I don't even know him anymore. Some times I don't even like him, and I get more and more resentful and bitter the more he lies and makes false promises. \n\nThere's a lot more that's goes into our problems but this is our biggest one, from which many of the smaller problems branch out from. Am I over reacting? Is there anything I can do?\n\ns.", "summary": "We're broke with kids, my husband won't quit smoking and lying which makes me want to leave an otherwise good man."}
{"id": "t3_2pa040", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24F] was sexually assaulted by a senior colleague [50ishM] and doesn't want to do anything about it", "post": "I'm not sure if this is the correct place to post this but here goes. A little background, we live in the UK, my GF lives in a different city to me due to our work, and 3 months ago started working at a new post. What I'm about to write is what I've heard from her.\n\nShe went out for a Christmas party with work colleagues and as usual involved dinner and drinks/clubbing. At the end of the night she and her senior (A), who has a higher position, married with children, offered to walk her home. She agreed as she was a bit drunk at this point.\n\nPrevious to this she has talked about A as a mentor who has guided her through the new job an given her some good career guidance. Needless to say she trusted him as a friend.\n\nAnyway, once they were at her home he started making very aggressive advances including trying to remove her dress, kissing her & inappropriate touching. All the while she was saying 'Stop, this isn't right, you have a wife' etc. She made it quite clear about this. He continued and at one point he had removed his pants and was trying to get her to perform oral sex on him. Again she refused and he left shortly after. \n\nShe is extremely upset about this and doesn't want to report it to HR or the police as she doesn't want to relive it and would rather forget about it and try to move on, she believes this will give her closure. I can completely understand but to me the situation is much worse then she is giving off and this needs to be reported to their HR department at the very least.\n\nSince the night occurred she has only told a couple of friends (who do not know A) and me. One friend has told her not to do anything about it and says things like this happens, to me this is completely the wrong thing to say and trivialises the situation. \n\nAt the moment she is very upset and angry, (as am I, I feel by not being there I can't do anything) and would rather forget about what happened. I'm looking for a little guidance as to what I can do for her. Thanks.", "summary": "GF was sexually assaulted by a colleague after a night out and is too upset/doesn't want to escalate it with the police/HR whereas I feel it needs to be."}
{"id": "t3_1t2dc7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] suddenly getting cold feet in starting a new relationship", "post": "So last year there was this guy I liked who a) had a girlfriend and b) I was just friends with through sports. Basically, I didn't ever expect anything to happen. \nTowards the end of the school year he and his gf broke up and then over the summer he started texting me a lot and then we went out once or twice. Nothing ever happened (maybe an occasional hug, no kissing or anything), we would just talk and flirt and go out a lot. So that went on for about six months and then I guess...I don't know I just didn't like him anymore I suppose. Suddenly, the idea of being in a potential relationship (cause at this point it still wasn't defined) with him just wasn't as appealing anymore. Basically, it was something I really wanted until all of a sudden it just wasn't. So basically, what is wrong with me/what caused it?", "summary": "Liked a guy for a long time and thought I wanted a relationship with him until real suddenly I didn't. Cause?"}
{"id": "t3_3dfz57", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By assuming a woman on the street was as big of a pervert as I am.", "post": "I'm typing this on the bus home, and this just happened.\n\nI work downtown in a major US city and I'm standing on the street corner waiting for the light to change. Across the street, there's a smoking hot 20-something wearing a low-cut sides dress and no bra. This girl had epic side boob. I don't say that lightly. So of course I look around to find a fellow guy to acknowledge this hottie. I see this late 30s lady with her phone pointing right at the girl. She has the same kind of phone as me, so I know her zoom is pretty good. She looks at me, smiles and winks, and now I'm assuming she's taking a picture of said hottie. I mean, we have a big LGBT community in my city.\n\nI turn to this woman and with a shit-eating grin on my face, I say, \"Please tell me your getting a picture of that.\"\n\nShe looks at me confused, then laughs when she realizes what I'm asking, and then, smiling, she says, \"Nope, just taking a picture of this landmark for my daughter.\"\n\nI laughed and walked away, face red as a tomato.", "summary": "Asked a mom if she was photographing the same side boob I was ogling."}
{"id": "t3_2aysx0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help expressing loss without dwelling on regret.", "post": "A member of my knitting group passed away in a tragic boating accident. I hadn't seen her since February because I hadn't been making it to the meetings. I kept meaning to go, and just never got there. Now she's gone, and I want to express my sadness at her loss to the knitting group (which includes her mother). But I don't want to sound too maudlin or whiny over how if I'd just made it to knitting group one of those times, I could have seen her more recently than fucking February.\n\nThe only thing I can think in my head on repeat is, \"Wow, I can't believe she's gone, I wish I'd made to knitting so I could have a more recent memory of her, I wish I hadn't waited and waited and waited.\"\n\nBut I don't want to put that energy out there. But I want to acknowledge that although I hadn't seen her for a long time, I'll miss her terribly. Suggestions?", "summary": "Life is full of regrets, but I don't want to share neggy feelings with group."}
{"id": "t3_1g24hn", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Met a girl I like at a party.", "post": "Hi I am a 16 year old boy and I am from the Netherlands. And I got invited to a party from a good friend of mine. No I diddent puked all over the party or said random drunk stuff (for what I can remeber). But I got my eye fallen on a girl at the party, she was kinde good looking and verry sweet for what I noticed. But later at the party she went aloone outside for some air, so I thougt I'll join her and see if we could talk together. But wen I sat down next to her she went inside for a drink. Me sitting there trying to look for my phone what was in-side. So wen she stood up for a drink I stood up to take my phone from in-saide, after I took it I was hadding back outside to sit with her again. But wen I just turned around I got calld by the guys at the party to join a game.\n\n**So my problem is this:** I think I like that girl but we never realy spoken alone, still I think there was a spark from both sides. But I can't realy be sure about this becaus I have some (just some) dark spots in my memorie. Should I tell her I thougt we had some kinde of a spark. or just starting fresh about what she found of the party and suge and take it slowly to the point of getting to know her better.", "summary": "Was at a party, had some drinks, met a girl I think we had both kinde a a chemestry together, not sure if I need to mention this and how I need to start talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_i053v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "If death is inevitable, why do we try to cling to life?", "post": "I've been thinking about life and the existence of us lately. Us as a species, we try to prolong our lives in any way possible, even though we know that eventually we will die. I just want to know the purpose of it. Wouldn't it be easier to know we may die at any moment and instead of prolonging a life that we know has a marginal affect on everything. I'm talking in the spectrum of the universe. \n\n I understand that we want to stay alive to be able to live our lives, but why? For our children and future successors? That they may someday travel the universe and space to find the truth? \n\nWouldn't it be easier if we went back to being animals and procreate simply on the notion of keeping our species alive? Not caring about death and simply accepting it. \n\nI've been on the brink of death 3 times in my life, at those times I've tried to stay alive by any means. Now that I'm healthy and have thought this over, why should I stop my death? How would it benefit everything, other than sparing my loved ones from pain?", "summary": "why do we strive to stay alive when eventually we'll all die?"}
{"id": "t3_1ao895", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Reddit Please Help. - EEng student with an interview for Co-op Tomorrow for a Junior Dev. & QA", "post": "Please help Reddit,\n\nI have my first interview tomorrow for a Junior Developer and QA (Co-op) position. The problem is that I am an Electrical Engineering Student, and therefore I don't have some of the experiences that are an \"asset\" to the position (relational databases and Microsoft Visual Studios .NET). I do however know the basics for HTML and C++, and also know a bit more C and Java - I made simple sorting programs and file I/O in C and space invaders in Java. \n\nI have looked at older threads and I know what to expect; standard interview questions / what to wear / what to ask. I am going to play around with Twilio API tonight (from code academy:  And I will look into the basics for relational databases and Visual Studios .NET. \n\nI would appreciate any advice regarding an Entry level developer and QA position for co-op. I.e what i should focus on? and if i can do any little projects for tomorrow. \n\nThank you in advance. Ill be sure to pay it forward.", "summary": "what would you prepare for a Junior Dev. & QA co-op interview?"}
{"id": "t3_2xxitd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Which signs say \"Throw in the Towel\"? M[24] w/ F[23]", "post": "Hey there everyone, I really need some help here.  So my gf and I have been together for about two years, the last 6 months have been very 'touchy' to say the least.  We broke up then, and have been trying to repatch ever since.  I am completely invested and trying to make things work again, but she isn't sure she can trust me again.  This lobsided commitment is creating fissures in our relationship and I keep hitting a breaking point, but then find myself back in the same situation.  Are there any clear signs you guys can think of that scream, \"get out of it before you waste your life!\"?", "summary": "Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_2eza12", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Dog only chasing some cats some of the time.", "post": "OK, I did read through similar posts, and I believe I have a plan, but I wanted to make sure.\n\nOur new rescue, Chance, has been a great addition. We also have 3 cats. For the first few days he ignored them. Now he is coming out of his 'shell shock' of transition and we are having some issues.\n\nOne of our three cats, SJ, lays around and basically doesn't care. She stares Chance down, will slowly get up and walk away if she gets 'all done'. Chance ignores her for the most part.\n\nWe have an old man, Pip, and a young kitten, Tali Rose. They hide when he comes in the room. Sometimes he watches them run under the couch, etc., and just ignores it, and sometimes he chases. It seems that he chases more in the evening after his walk.\n\nHere are the steps we are taking and plan to take:\n\nHe wears a leash around the house now for an easy way to stop him.\n\nI've started doing more active play in the evening: tug of war, wrestling a bit and wearing him out some.\n\nI saw a [Zak George] video that another user posted on a similar thread and this will be my plan starting tomorrow. \n\nDistract as soon as he starts to fixate and reward for paying attention to us.\n\nBecause this is intermittent and because he leaves the cat that lays around alone, I really think this is some misdirected play/chase behavior. I just want to double check and make sure I am doing all I can so we can all get along. He can look pretty fierce when he plays, but he has always been incredibly gentle with me and our kids.\n\nThe cats do have plenty of escape routes and usually after he chases them under a couch or up onto the kids' bunk bed, he gives up and moves on and comes to see what we are doing.", "summary": "redirection and supervision seem to be the key. I don't think this is unmanageable at this point."}
{"id": "t3_49332l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my EX [33F] of 2 years. Cheated on. One year on I'm struggling to bounce back and shed the jaded view of women.", "post": "Sorry for the throwaway- keeping it private. \n\nI broke up with my ex last year, caught her cheating. This is after looking after her during cancer and doing everything i could to help her. I am now convinced shes got BPD. \n\nI'm starting to date again, but I'm struggling. I'm either Jaded and wary of women playing games/ being untrustworthyor I take it hard when someone i like isn't that interested after a couple of dates. \n\nCan you guys/girls help? How do i get past this and live my life again? I'm done letting that wh*re ruin my future.", "summary": "Broke up with my ex last year. Caught her cheating. Can't seem to get rid of my jaded view of women and dating. Help please?"}
{"id": "t3_22x013", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 7 months, I don't think we should get drunk anymore.", "post": "So when we get drunk together, we argue and we ruin each other's nights being too drunk. We also do the generally stupid stuff that everyone does when they're drunk, like getting lost/losing things/sending stupid texts/acting like a twat. So we decided to stop getting drunk when we go on nights out together, and just have a couple of light drinks. \n\nMy boyfriend is fine with this idea, however he wants to be able to go out with his friends and get wankered. He says that it should be fine because we can't argue if we're not together that night, so he can drink as much as he likes. My problem with this is that it makes me trust him less. I've always been of the opinion that you can never 100% trust anyone, because people are unpredictable and they can't even trust themselves, even when they're sober. I've heard way too many stories of people having partners that they love and then doing something stupid because they were drunk and regretting it forever. \n\nI think it's much better for our relationship and for us as people if we just don't get absolutely intoxicated, when the fuck has that ever helped anybody?! It only ever causes trouble. If you can't have fun without getting fucked off alcohol and drugs then you're going out with the wrong people or you're a boring person.\n\nIt's a simple request, no hard drugs and not getting absolutely intoxicated to the point where you can't remember parts of the night. Yet he is so against agreeing to it and I don't know what to do.\n\nAm I being unreasonable?", "summary": "I want me and my boyfriend to stop getting really drunk but he wants to continue to get wankered on nights out with his friends."}
{"id": "t3_kw4mk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I transfer music from my iPod to my computer?", "post": "Sorry if this isn't the right sub-reddit, but I figured I'd give it a shot. Anyways, my computer crashed a few weeks ago and I got a new one, but all my music is gone. However, I still have it on my iPod, and need to transfer it back onto the computer. I did this once before with my last computer but that was a few years ago and I have no idea what program I used. All the ones I can find need to be paid for, and if that's my only resort I guess I have to take it, but I don't think I should have to pay for music I already have. Anyways, does anyone know of a free program that can do this? I read one way to do it, by unhiding files and dragging and dropping or something, but when I open my iPod from My Computer it just shows pictures, however I know for a fact there's music on it (I listen to it daily, and the trial programs I've used that only transfer 100 songs still find them) but I can't get to them.", "summary": "Need free program to transfer music from iPod to computer"}
{"id": "t3_2l7c8v", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking a copious amount of alcohol and not hiding my keys", "post": "TIFU: So on Saturday I decided it was a good idea to blow off some steam. Work and school beat my ass down the previous week and to maintain some semblance of sanity, I drove to meet some friends at a bar some thirty minutes from my apartment. Saturday was DST and that led to an entire extra hour of drinking - which in hindsight was problematic - but I had a fun time at the bars we visited. Got back to my friend's place and left without saying more than a couple words. I have a tendency to want to walk and wander whenever I drink, and Saturday was no exception. Except I also decided I wanted a bed to sleep in after walking around the downtown area for twenty minutes so I decided to drive home. From what I remember during the drive home, I managed to fall asleep at the wheel, hit a guard rail, complete shred my front right tire, and then proceed to drive through the campus of the University I attend and then park in a nearby parking lot of an establishment. I drove maybe four or five miles with only three tires. How I didn't get pulled over, or how I'm alive, or how I didn't absolute destroy my car is all a mystery to me, but damn if I didn't learn a lesson.", "summary": "I got over-served at the bar, attempted to drive home, woke up in a parking lot the next morning without a front right tire. Realized I'm a big, stupid idiot."}
{"id": "t3_160cvp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hair Stylists of Reddit: Was there ever a time in your career that a customer was dissatisfied with their haircut/dye job and freaked out? If so, how did you deal with the situation?", "post": "I am always scared to go to the hair salon to get even a trim. I have been growing out my hair for about 4 years now and want it to be super long. One time I went to the stylist to get a trim and he cut it into this weird \"v\" shape without my permission (every trim I got was always a straight across trim). He was taking an unusually long time but I didn't really notice what he was doing because I didn't have my glasses on. I thought he was just being really careful because I have long hair. When he was done, I put my spectacles back on and was shocked at what a shitty job he did. I should have said something to him but I was in too much shock. I didn't tip him and went to another salon begging someone there to fix the damage. I ended up losing another 4 inches to get my hair back the way I wanted. This sounds very vain but I was so devostated. I spent a long ass time trying to grow out my hair only to chop off so much of what I spent growing.\n\nI never went back to the shitty salon. I knew I should've said something but I was just so shocked.", "summary": "Got a shitty haircut, was passive aggressive and went somewhere else to fix it, lost more hair than I wanted, never went back to the shitty salon."}
{"id": "t3_37q7ge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] don't like hearing about my BF's [24M] past sexual encounters but I don't want him to think he has to hide things from me (dating for 1 month)", "post": "I [24F] started dating a really amazing guy named Cam [24M] a month ago. We've actually known each other since high school, but kind of lost touch over the years. More recently we started talking again over Facebook, then we met for coffee and he asked me out shortly after.\n\nI've noticed that Cam brings up his past sexual encounters quite a bit. Not in detail or anything, and it doesn't make me feel insecure, but it just seems sort of unnecessary. There have been a couple instances where he was telling me a story about something that happened in the past, and he'll mention that he banged a mutual friend of ours that night, but that detail really doesn't have any relevance to the story. I guess I just don't particularly like the thought of him with another girl, especially since I'm friends with most of the girls he's slept with (we live in a small city). I know obviously he *has* been with other girls, but I just don't really like thinking about it.\n\nI kind of want to mention that I wouldn't be upset if he could leave out those little details when we're talking... but at the same time, I did that with an ex, and it led him to think he couldn't be honest with me. Eventually he started lying to me about all sorts of things.\n\nI don't want Cam to think he has to walk on eggshells when we're talking, or for him to think he has to hide things from me. I try to let it roll off my back but it's starting to irritate me. I find it a little odd because Cam has mentioned he really doesn't like hearing about stuff I've done with guys physically in the past. What should I do?", "summary": "BF brings up his past sexual encounters pretty often, and while I'm confident in our relationship and our sex life, I don't like hearing about it. I want to ask him to try to cut it out, but I don't want him to think he has to censor himself around me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_qocyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend won't give me a back massage", "post": "I'm going to preface this with: I really am not that needy of a girlfriend, I swear. Now that that is out of the way, let's get to the issue. We are both 22 and have been dating for almost 4 years. My boyfriend refuses to give me back massages. I get really sore shoulders, and a simple back massage would make me soo much happier. But if I bring it up he flat out refuses to help me out. I ask him why he won't give a back massage and he says he doesn't know. I've also heard the excuse that he thinks he's bad at it (I then say it doesn't matter or no you're not). He is super ticklish on his back and never really liked back massages, so sometimes I'll start to give him one simply because in my mind I think it would be nice, and he kinda freaks out. The most frustrating part about this is, we broke up briefly about a year ago, and in the process of him trying to win me back, he'd come over and give me awesome back massages (which would sometimes lead to sex (and eventually us getting back together)). It's like I have to dump him inorder to get him to put effort into making me happy! (that might be an exaggeration, I'm honestly not sure). So my questions are:\n    *Am I being ridiculous?*\n    *What do you suggest I do to change this situation?*\n    *Am I the only one bothered by such a situation?", "summary": "Boyfriend won't give me a back massage, sadface."}
{"id": "t3_2pm0ax", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Vanguard Index Funds vs Target Retirement Account", "post": "As a recently graduated twentysome I have only a limited grasp of investing for the future/retirement. After perusing /r/personalfinance I've determined that I want to use Vanguard as my brokerage account.\n\nMy father recommended the use of index funds as they offer a lower expense rate than actively managed funds and advised against a target retirement fund since their expense ratios are generally higher. I would be opening a Roth IRA for the account.\n\nThat being said, if my research is on point, the Vanguard Target Retirement fund for my age group is made up of a % of holdings in different index funds which are domestic & international stock and bond funds. The main difference between buying into individual index funds and the Vanguard TRF, besides the minimum 10k vs 1k investment, is a .04% expense ratio.\n   \nAs someone who only has a few thousand dollars to put away, would it be in my best interest to buy into the TRF at say 1k-2k and put money away monthly, since it's encompassed by index funds, or wait till I have a solid job/career that allows me to have a lot more freedom in my investing.", "summary": "Not broke college graduate looking to start investing. Wait till I have enough money to invest simply in index funds, or invest now into a managed Target Retirement Fund?"}
{"id": "t3_3ea5mu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So i went to the Neil Young Concert", "post": "I was so pumped up to go see my favorite artist play, ive been waiting since March to hear songs like \"Old man\", \"Heart of Gold\", \"Hurricane\" ect ect. I took an hour and a half drive to grt to the xfinity center , pay for shitty parking, and finally get to my seat.\n\nIt starts with these girls walking around in farmer suits throwing what looked like seed all over the stage, and it wasnt for 30 seconds or something it was for *10* fucking minutes. Legit just walking around. People were booing and yelling but Neil finally came out and sang a couple of hits . There were a lot of other weird things, think like Bowies play or whatever the fuck during one of his concerts, which was very annoying. \n\nThen he got to his new music. It started with a song about GMOs and shit, calling it a song is generous as they would play the guitar for 5 minutes then he would talk about how big corporations are gonna take down America and Democracy. How GMOs are giving kids autism ( i eat all natural but Neil, I dont go to your fucking concert to hear you speal about GMOs for 3 hours).\n\nThe last song he played was Cortez the Killer i think, thats before I walked out. I was so fucking dissapointed and pissed how he played two maybe three of his good old songs ( Heart of Gold, Harvest Moon ). And i spent money on that shit. That fucking tainted my view on him im beyond upset.", "summary": "GMOs give people autism and big corporation are the downfall of america."}
{"id": "t3_3fmgeg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I (17/m) do with my relationship with my gf (17/f)", "post": "We have been dating for over 8 months and the first few months were fine with little to no arguments. Now we regularly have arguments. We seem to be drifting apart. She gets mad at me because I want to have sex and she is Christian so wants to wait till marriage. This is something I am not willing to do. The other day she told me that lately other guys have been giving her butterflies in her stomach. When I ask her to hang out lately she is always with a girl who I have never met or heard of until recently who works with her. I have a friend who also works with my gf and said that my gf and a guy at work who likes my gf have been talking a lot. My friend who works with my girlfriend said that she thinks something may be going on with them and that I should Check my girlfriends phone. I don't wanna do this because I don't wanna invade her privacy but I have been cheated on before by my only other girlfriend and really don't want a repeat. What do you guys think I should do?", "summary": "my girlfriend and I don't have sex seem to be drifting apart and she may be cheating on me"}
{"id": "t3_138xoq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My brother (16) is becoming more violent, looking for advice", "post": "I have 3 siblings, two sisters (13) and a brother (16). Although younger my brother is 6'3 and roughly 220 pounds, he constantly uses this to his advantage. He has always liked to tease but recently he's become more aggressive. For example last night he and I got into a fight, we were cussing at each other and throwing things when he grabbed me and threw me to the floor. He laughed when I said I had hurt myself and proceeded to act as if nothing happened. I wanted to go to my mom for help but whenever I go to my mom he gets angry and calls me a 'snitch' and refuses to talk to me for long periods of time. He also has gotten physically violent with my little sisters (shoving them, sitting on top of them etc.). I'm beginning to feel like an abused housewife 'he does it because he doesn't have any males in the house'; 'he's bored' etc. How should I deal with his behavior? Should I tell my parents?", "summary": "Brother physically bullies my sisters (13) and I (18f)"}
{"id": "t3_2gy9cr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"You [17M] are a brother for me [16F]\". How screwed am I?", "post": "I only read reddit, and just created this account for this.\n\nWell, me and this girl, we had our moments if you know what i'm talking about, but nothing really happened because i was dumb at the time.\n\nNow, we're like 'brother and sister'. I do want to try and go for something with her. And I really think it would be fine, and everyone says the same. People who knows us, who don't knows us etc...\n\nSorry for my bad grammar, I'm not very good in English.\n\nI know friendzone sucks but I saw friends getting out of it. But that's the question, how screwed am I and do I have any chances to get out of the brotherzone?", "summary": "Brotherzoned by girl I'm not dating a long time ago because I'm dumb. Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_2h3e9s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18m] with my GF [18f] of 8 months, am i crazy?", "post": "Me and my GF are planning to transfer to the same college in the fall semester of 2015.\n\nWe are planning to visit it in a few weeks and are planning to stay the night. She then tells me how she might stay an extras few days. I wish I could stay as well but i have class the following day.\n\nBut then she tells me there might be a chance she will be sleeping in a guys room. This made me uncomfortable because she knows plenty of girls there as well but wouldn't mind sleeping in a guys room. (She told me she would be sleeping on the ground... but still)\n\nShe then goes off about me not trusting her enough. But i do trust her... its just the act of her sleeping in another mans room makes me uncomfortable.\n\nAm i being to clingy? Should i give her that space? This thing coudlve been easily avoided...\n\nthank you for reading...", "summary": "would you be ok with this?"}
{"id": "t3_201va7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27F) boyfriend (27M) asked his ex to meet up while I'm away....", "post": "My bf has a long history with this girl. They've known each other since high school and have dated/hooked up on and off since then. They talk frequently, and she's been known to admit still having feelings for him (several times). \n\nWe've talked about this, and I've insisted that he set clear boundaries with her and explain that her sentiments aren't appropriate while he's in a relationship. We still have had problems, but they've gotten better. \n\nFast forward to \"today\": I'm planning on going on vacation with my best friend for a few days. Just hanging out with her and our kids and catching up. He's not thrilled that I'm leaving him on his own, but he'll manage...maybe spend some time with his friends. All's fine and dandy until I see that he's texted his ex, asking her if she's going to be around when I'm gone. \n\nI am, as you can probably guess, NOT happy about this. I think it's a real \"dick\" thing to do and, frankly, I don't care if they're now \"just friends\". She's told him she still loves him and misses him several times over the last year and has even said that she believes they'll get back together. He doesn't know that I know he texted her, and while I do seriously doubt they'd meet up when I'm gone, I feel like he's stabbed me in the back. \n\nHe was supposed to lessen the number of times he talks to her (not happening), and was supposed to set clear boundaries with her since they're both in live-in relationships. So...what the fuck am I supposed to do?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 1+ years texted ex asking if she'll be in town when I'm on \"vacation\". She's made it clear she still loves him/wants him back. WTF?"}
{"id": "t3_4l9mi9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21 F] stop comparing myself to my boyfriend [22 M]'s rich ex-girlfriend [20 F].", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating officially for just about a month. So far, everything has been going great. Except for the fact that his ex-girlfriend is worth millions. My boyfriend is the type to point out whether people live in expensive houses or drive nice cars. He pays very close attention to money. He also occasionally brings up how rich she was. \n\nWhen we started seeing each other, they had only been broken up for a mere 3 months. I am nowhere near rich. I actually grew up comfortable, but definitely not rich. I drive a 15 year old car for christ's sake. \n\nThe problem is not that his ex-girlfriend is rich, but that he seems to hold high value to money. I can't help but think that he thinks less of me and compares me to her negatively because I don't have loads of money. He definitely has treated me right so far, but it is still a thought at the back of my head and causes small fights between us.\n\nHas anyone been in this situation? How should I handle my emotions?", "summary": "Boyfriend's ex is very rich and I am nowhere close to rich. Can't help but think that he compares me to her and thinks less of me due to the amount of money I have. I want to stop comparing myself to his ex. How should I approach these feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_3yowpn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[WA] Is there a way for me to check if there are warrants out for me?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI've been watching a TON of \"Cops\" lately and most of the people arrested for warrants seemed to not know that they had active warrants out for their arrest.  Now, I'm sure most of them are absolutely lying about it, but now I'm starting to worry about the possibility that WA or GA have warrants out for me.  It's really stupid because I've never been arrested and I've always paid all citations received (usually for speeding and I haven't had one in about five years), and I've never even been in court.  I guess I'm just paranoid that one day the cops are going bust down my door with a search warrant for something.", "summary": "Don't watch \"Cops\" in a marathon, you'll end up paranoid that you're wanted for no reason"}
{"id": "t3_1cv3tn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you deal with a family member who is totally off the rails?", "post": "One of my cousins on my mother's side is in some seriously deep shit. He's 19. Never finished school. To this point in life, he's never finished school, he's had two knee reconstructions due to a motorbike accident, left home/been kicked out 3 or 4 times, and now is living in a nearby suburb with a 30yrold single mother of three and we believe he is working as a drug mule. He is thousands of dollars in debt to criminals, and tried to OD on paracetamol because he's so lost. Yet, when his parents turned up to the hospital to see him he didn't want to see them. He's burnt bridges with much of mum's family, but mum wants to help for her sister's sake. He also *seems to have* development issues - as a kid he did have ADHD but beyond that I'm not going to speculate on diagnoses. He has a short attention span, can be violent and very threatening.", "summary": "cousin totally off the rails with mental issues. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4djj0v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] parents [55 M / F] want me to go to a wedding instead of getting credit for a class.", "post": "So I originally thought I was suppose to go on a (out of state) trip for school this weekend, but it turns out it's next weekend. The problem is a \"family friend\" from church is getting married the weekend I'm suppose to go on the trip. \n\nNow, it sounds bad but I honestly don't want to go to the wedding in the first place because I'm not close to her at all. However, my parents want us to go as a family because we rsvp'd for four people. I told them about the mix up and they just yelled at me saying I did it on purpose, only care about myself, then told me I'm going to the wedding. \n\nI need to go on this trip for a credit. If I don't go, I don't get the credit. I still live with my parents which is why I feel compelled to the \"you're under our roof\" laws. They also said they'd take my car keys if I tried drive to school the morning of the trip. Idk what to do.", "summary": "Parents are trying to make me go to a wedding instead of getting credit for a class."}
{"id": "t3_1gxqsc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I(26m) don't feel comfortable with everything being in my GF's(24f) name. Should I?", "post": "Me and my girlfriend are moving into a house. Currently we are having to purchase appliances and furniture. Well because of our distance my girlfriend goes looking with this stuff without me. So far, at the rate we are going, everything--even the house--will be in her name and I will be paying for her appliances, furniture, and house with her. \n\nNow, I know I love the girl, and we have been together for a while, but I feel I should still need some form of a safety net. Am I wrong for wanting is? I have mentioned this before and I am met with the same old, \"what, do you not love/trust me?\" \n\nIt's hard to not think of an underlying motive or possible future risk when she has reluctancy of anything being in my name, or me shopping and buying on my own, where she is completely fine if she did the same herself.", "summary": "GF's is getting everything in her name, I am helping with payments, I don't feel comfortable with that. Is that wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_138r3m", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I want to help my friend [m/46] find a date, but I [m/21] know nothing about dating older women", "post": "Title says it all.  He's in a masters program to further his career while I'm a senior and we are working in a group project together.  The first thing that stood out about him is that he is very energized for someone his age and I correctly assumed he had no kids.  When we chat about topics outside of the project he has a lot of sage advice about anything you may ask him.  He is very perceptive and can read people quite well and is a genuinely friendly person and is always honest (which he admits will get him into trouble with some people).  He is well traveled and has had his fair share of adventures and really seems to know how to enjoy life.  He is an excellent cook and says most women he starts dating gain 10 pounds as a result.\n\nHe believes his disadvantage in dating is that he's short and balding (he has a great sense of humor about it).  Besides that he's in great shape and a very smart guy.  He goes to speed dating events but for him that doesn't work well. 4 minutes is never enough to really get to know someone well enough and he cares more about having someone he can be himself around.  But what do I know about finding him a date?  I'm only 21 years old and I've never really been in a relationship myself.  I asked him if he goes to interest sites to meet people where the personality means much more, but he doesn't seem to.  He only mentioned considering such sites (and named reddit :D) but he is quite busy with work and school that I doubt he would want the distraction (you ALL know what I mean).  \n\nHow do I help him out?", "summary": "Friend is a well composed man old enough to be my father, he can't meet anyone he feels he can be himself around."}
{"id": "t3_14k30y", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Need some help. Life is going down the drain. :/", "post": "Got into an argument this morning with my mother and to avoid the argument escalating I got out of the car at a red light and walked home. I know it embarrassed my parents and little sister but I just didn't want to keep arguing. She called me up a few minutes ago basically telling me I am a loser and embarrassment to her and maybe I need to see the grass from the other side since she believes I do no appreciate anything they have done for me and that I only think about myself. I am a gamer and its the thing I like doing. I had worked all week about 40 hours at my restaurant job and was exhausted all weekend so I stayed home. I didn't feel like going out or anything.", "summary": "Mom may possibly kick me out of house. Don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_3j074e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking into a sex shop", "post": "Well, this story happened about 3 years ago when I was just a 13 year old who was really into gaming at the time. Anyways my brother wanted to take my mom to a hair saloon and there was Newbury Comics upstairs and being the geeky kid I was I told my mom and my brother I would be buying game. Now I had not seen the saloon but all I knew was that it was downstairs. I had picked out  Fallout 3(A bigger fuck up was that I didn't buy GOTY edition) and my brother bought it for me and told me come downstairs after I was done exploring the Newbury Comics. I had enough and decided to go downstairs to see if we were going home, so I could play the masterpiece of the game that is Fallout. Now, I had gotten down the stairs and went inside to a store without reading the sign. I walked in and the woman at the counter told \"Hey , you can't be in here.\" A bunch of people had started staring at me while I was at the doorway and had seen everything including the sex toys and all of the other adult stuff. I left and looked at the sign and turns right I had to go downstairs and take a right to the saloon. I saw my mom and just sat down and hid somewhere and began reading the survival guide that came with Fallout 3.", "summary": "Bought just Fallout 3 and GOTY version of it, walked into a sex shop and hid away while reading the survival guide in shame."}
{"id": "t3_1s95ja", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[21m] and my ex[20f] after 3 years broke up and 4 months later I'm presented with the chance to get back with her. I don't know if its the right thing.", "post": "**Background**\n\n**-Okay** so in August she and I were having difficulties because we didn't get to see each other as much as we usually do due to our jobs as RAs. She thought a break from each other would help both of us. I pleaded her not to and I asked for her back every day for 2 weeks. When she asked me to come see her I was pretty hurt and not sure if i wanted to get back with her since she put me through that. So I go to her dorm and sitting in her room was one of the guys that was trying to make a move on her. I thought for the worst so instead of freaking out I left. I went to my truck and sent her a long angry text (big mistake) and she was so hurt that she slept with another guy out of spite. We both regret what happened and 2 months later we try to get back together again but we had to break up with the people we were with. I broke up with a girl that was distant relationship wise and  for her it was that piece of shit that she slept with. When we were together I didn't feel the same so I told her that maybe it as best for us to break it off. Its been a huge mess\n\n**Now**\n\n**-She** is sorry for what she did but I'm not sure if getting back with her is the best idea... I will be leaving to the military and due to the long times I'll be away I'm not sure she would be able to wait for me, I do not want to be married right now so I can't bring her with me. I would love to be back in love, having sex and having my best friend as my lover again. She was supportive throughout our relationship but I do not want to deal with the manipulation, the clingyness and the disappointment from my friends.\n\n**P.S.** This was my first serious relationship. She was my first love.", "summary": "Presented with chance to get back with ex, need guidance. I have looked online and have seen pros and cons to both decisions."}
{"id": "t3_3aiq1a", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[help] Dog's cheeks raw after groom.", "post": "Ok, so I do the grooming for my own schnauzer poodle mix.  After grooming he scratches at his cheeks and under his forelegs, sometimes until the areas are raw. Usually this is only one or two little areas the size of a pea and it clears up w/ care.  Things I have done to try to prevent this...\n 1) using clipper cooling spray \n2) buying a second clipper head so I can switch them out when one gets warm \n3) keeping the hair on those areas longer.\n\nI groomed him about a week ago and he has scratched both his cheeks raw to the point of crust.  It is hard to see b/c his cheeks are black but I can feel the crusting and the heat.  He scratches w/ his hind legs and then licks at his toes and then scratches some more. I have:\nGiven him a bath to wash off the crusting w/ oatmeal soothing dog shampoo.\nSlathered the areas with bag balm \nand still not a lot of improvement so even though I hate to do it, he is now in the cone of shame to give his face time to heal. \n\nI would appreciate any advice on how to prevent this, how to treat this or even just commiseration stories.", "summary": "Dog scratches his cheeks to raw,crusty hot mess after grooming."}
{"id": "t3_3532tl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of four years, concerned that he's lying to me about where he's going", "post": "*Okay so throwaway and some of the basic facts are changed because my boyfriend knows my reddit name but he doesn't browse this sub so I'm gonna be honest about the situation.*\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for four years now.  We have an apartment together and everything and just moved in together in January.  Part of our problem, or my problem, is that I have a low sex drive and don't really like having sex often.  We have sex maybe once a week, sometimes twice a week, but he has a high sex drive and always wants more.  We've been working on it lately but then something weird happened.\n\nHe stopped asking me for sex.  Usually he asks almost every other day and for the past few weeks, he hasn't been asking at all.  We haven't had sex for two weeks but really only because he tells me 'it's okay if you don't want to i don't really feel like it'.  At first I wasn't thining anything bad of it and I was fine with it hoping that maybe our sex drives were just syncing up or something.\n\nBut then this past weekend, I have started to get suspicious.  He said he had to drive his best friend to the airport and we live close to the friend and close to the airport so it shouldn't have taken long.  Two hours later I start texting and calling because he should have been back.  He doesn't reply for over an hour, then says that the flight was delayed so he just stayed at his buddy's house.\n\nNow that I'm suspicious, I've been noticing that sometimes he gets home extra late from work with no explanation.  I didn't really think about it because sometimes he just goes to hang out with people or whatever, it's not my business, but now I'm noticing a pattern.  Should I worry that he's cheating on me?  With the not wanting sex from me and the disappearing sometimes, I'm just worried.", "summary": "Boyfriend disappears for some amount of time, I'm concerned he may be cheating on me."}
{"id": "t3_33ggqw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm a bit weirded out by the \"symptoms\" I've been having lately. Is it chronic?", "post": "I have these problem lately it's like a illness or something, i couldnt find out what it is from google. \n\nSo heres the thing, I sometimes fall to this dreamlike feeling randomly while awake and when I'm concious again I will feel clueless the place im at, the person im with and even sometimes question who i am although moment later everything will fall back to place and turns to normal. It always happens during i was talking to someone and maybe some of the words may have phased this condition, but so far I couldnt confirm. \n\nIt started happening early last month, march 2015. I am worried it will get worst then what it is now, I might just forget everything without prior notice. \n\nCould someone point me to a direction of what it is? Help me out here doctors of reddit. :(\n\n*few more info about me for diagnosis purpose : I have irregular sleeping pattern, college. I smoke pot weekly. No emotional breakdown, still have mom. I smoke cigs.", "summary": "I have an illness of forgetting everything for a moment before everything start coming back while im awake. Clueless what it is. Need help."}
{"id": "t3_qp71p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I make genuine friends?", "post": "I moved to a new state with my family. I'm in my 20's and I'm having a problem. I can't seem to meet the right people. \n\nMy old friends where I previously lived are all moving on. They're still good friends to me but the distance does takes it's toll on how much we keep in touch.\n\nI have acquaintances such as people at the gym I spot or get spots from and class mates at uni. \n\nBut I always have it in my subconscious that those acquaintances won't be anything more than that.  \n\nI think it's because all the friendships I've attempted to create either failed or it felt like I was intruding on already established friendships.\n\nI don't know I guess I'm weird? Really sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit. I was going to post it in /Relationship or /Foreveralone ...but I'm not depressed, alone or in need of relationship advice. I'm just really stumped how to form a genuine friendship. ><", "summary": "I'm not depressed, living in a new state and finding it hard to make new friends to replace my old ones."}
{"id": "t3_250yqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My live-in boyfriend [31/M] invests all his money in one stock. I [28/F] think it's crazy and worry", "post": "I'm 28, woman, and my boyfriend of almost 5 years [31] puts all his investment money into one stock.\n\nOne single stock? What if it tanks? But he's so sure that this particular one will do well. He used to be in a related industry so he feels confident that the signs are right. He's looking to get in and out fast, which I think is an unwise strategy.\n\nThis is his entire savings, around $12,000 or so.\n\nBefore this stock, there was another one he was so very sure of. That one went up by a few percent but nothing much. Then he was suddenly so sure of this one and sold the old one - all of it - and bought the new stock. He's done like this several times.\n\nI just worry that he puts his entire savings into highly volatile stocks. I've tried to talk to him about spreading it between at least two or preferably three stocks.\n\nNow I just worry that something will happen to this company, that is in a volatile industry. If they don't get the technological breakthroughs they are counting on, it could potentially mean bankruptcy or at least a falling share price.\n\nI feel that he's being irresponsible and acting foolishly, betting all on one stock.\n\nHow can I talk to him about this? We've got separate finances and split most of the bills.\n\nHow would you advice me to talk to him about this? Right now he's only getting very defensive, so I'm obviously having the wrong approach.", "summary": "My live-in boyfriend of 5 years [31] puts all his investment money on one single, highly volatile stock. He's done it before, too. I [F/28] question his financial responsibilty but want to discuss it with him in a constructive way."}
{"id": "t3_363wpl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Read my(24m) SOs (24f) suspicious text.", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nSo yesterday night I was playin games on her phone and then she got a text from a mutual friend. I told her and then just asked me to reply to her. When I did, I notice there was a text from her Exs sister with a buncha exclamation marks. Curiosity got the wter of me and I read it.\n\nBasically went like this.\nSister: we shoul hang out ! Omg I miss you! \nSO: omg me too! I was going to your neighborhood but I forgot my key in your Bros car ( her ex). I'm actually meeting a friend in a bit (referring to me) \nSuster: wait you guys got back together or what? \nSO: haha nahh lmao or what! Ttyl\n\nI was gutted as soon as I read that. Earlier that day She said she was waitin for her friend, a coworker, to drop off her key. Why was her key in his car ? I can only assume the worse.\n\nReddit, should I confront her now about this? I was thinkin I should restore her deleted msgs without sayin anything about this so I don't jump to conclusions. I want to be 100% on this.", "summary": "SO sent/ received weird text and now I'm wondering If I should confront her or gather more I formation before confronting her."}
{"id": "t3_2fh6zn", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "2 year old Boxer is becoming more and more aggressive.", "post": "Hopefully i'm posting this in the right spot...\n\nWe've had our boxer since she was a puppy - can't remember how old she was, maybe 5, 10 weeks, something like that. She was our first dog - neither my wife nor i had really had ever really had any dogs growing up so we didn't have a clue as to what type of training we should get for her or anything. (I'm mentioning all of this in case it has something to do with my issue).\n\nSo I take her for walks, usually at night when its cooled down and whenever see ever saw anyone she would get agitated, hackles (?) raised and everything, but as we come up to the person she starts wagging her tail, rolls over wanting them to pet her. I figured that was pretty normal behavior for a dog.\n\nSo fast forward to somewhat recently. Still taking her for walks, she still barks at people, and dogs, and cats, except now she's much more defensive and doesn't back down when we get closer to the people, she just continues to bark and act aggressively. A couple of weeks ago we went camping and took her and our new dog (a new puppy we got to keep my oldest dog company while we were at work/school). We had them tied to the tree with a good amount of slack - and Daisy (the older dog) would NOT stop barking. Kids would walk/skate by...she'd aggressively bark, other campers would be at there campsite, she'd bark at them. One time my son had her off her leash and when a friend from another campsite came over she jumped on his back! I figured maybe she was just stressed out from the drive + everything going on around her. Except a few days ago another friend was at our house (she was also at the camp site and Daisy would not stop barking and lunging at her), she had given Daisy a treat and pet her and everything seemed to be ok, except for a while later our friend was (apparently staring down my dog) and she jumped at the friend, head butted her and bit her nose! It only left a small puncture on her nose and it bled a little but still...my dog shouldn't be going nuts like this!", "summary": "Dog is getting really aggressive and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3vs1k0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) prefer being a \"mom\" to my boyfriend (21M) rather than a girlfriend.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years.  We're living together but only temporarily.  I move back to the college dorms in January.  \n\nI've really liked living with him.  This place has a kitchen, so we cook our own food rather than eating at the dining hall.  Rather, I cook the food.  I get a lot out of making him breakfast in the morning and leaving it on his nighttable while he sleeps, or tidying up his room while he's out.  I don't really do it much in front of him because it makes him feel like he's in debt.  I've told him over and over that it isn't the case.  I actually really enjoy this sort of thing.\n\nThinking about moving back to the dorms and back with other roommates (none of whom I know) has been a bit depressing for me.  But honestly, the thing I'm going to miss most is taking care of my boyfriend the way I have been these past few months.  I've really liked this 'mom' role, much more than being a 'girlfriend'.  We always argue about sex, and we always argue about going on dates, but it's not like we argue because he doesn't like the food I've cooked.  Being a mom in this case is stress-free, while in the other cases feelings and emotions are always in play.  I just don't know if I'm going to cope well with going back to how our relationship used to be.\n\nI'd like to talk about this with him, and I have tried to several times, but the conversation never really ends up being fruitful, so I'd like some advice from you more experienced individuals.", "summary": "I prefer being a mom to my boyfriend rather than a girlfriend, but the mom time is coming to an end and I'm worrying a bit."}
{"id": "t3_3k1jdr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my ex-gf of 2.5 yrs [20 F] just broke up with her, don't know how to cope [update]", "post": "Just broke up officially with my girlfriend after being on a break for a few days so I could think things over.\n\nLots of details in there so you don't have to read but I did decide that it was best that I broke up with her, as bad times outweighed the good and there were certain things that happened between us that I couldn't get over. \n\nI can't help but think I made the wrong decision. We had two minor break ups before and I kept missing her, thinking about all the good times, and ended up getting back with her just to have more bad times then good again. Nothing changed. I don't want to have it happen again but I'm worried I will cave if she tries to contact me. She didn't take the break up well but after explaining how I felt about me being resentful, not being happy, and me needing to focus on myself, she kind of understood but was still very upset. We both apologized to each other and I wished the best for her before blocking her number.\n\nI just feel so upset, like half of me is missing.. how do I cope with this?", "summary": "Broke up with GF and need to cope, don't want to be weak and get back with her because it'll end up with me being unhappy again"}
{"id": "t3_2uybo7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (17m) gave my number to a cute girl (~16) in my math class. I'm worried I executed it poorly. Advice?", "post": "Please pardon any grammar, I'm using mobile. \n\nI met this girl in my math class while doing group work earlier this week. I found out through talking to her that we both have the same career aspirations(nuclear engineering in the navy). I have never met another person who has those same goals so it was great talking to her. I have a lot more knowledge than her in that career pathway, so we talked a lot about that. \n\nWe talked all class about that and other things and did no work. I felt like we really connected, so the next day i gave her my number. When i gave it to her, I said something along the lines of \"if you have any questions to text me.\" I intended for it to sound serious, but also a little flirty(I don't really know how well my execution was).\n\nThis is the second night and she has not texted me. I am worried that I sounded too serious and she doesn't think i like her. Should I wait longer before making any conclusions or move on?\n\nAdvise?", "summary": "I gave a girl my number and I'm worried I gave the wrong impression."}
{"id": "t3_1czkkr", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Advice for on possible TIA?", "post": "Hello r/dogs.\n\nThis afternoon as I let our two dogs (1 foster, 1 ours) into the house, I noticed that our foster dog (8-10 year old lab) was hunkered down on the ground and shaking.\n\nHe was able to shuffle inside (1 meter) and which point he stopped. Left side (front and back legs) were shaking (shiver shaking, not seizure shaking). Normally he does not let me touch him anywhere but his face and neck. As he lay there I was able to do a rapid body assessment (trying to find blood, broken bones, pulse).\n\nEverything checked out - except this dog that normally bites me when I touch his back or legs is meekly letting me touch him and shaking like he's freezing. Also he's got tears streaming from his right eye and he's panting and drooling far more than normal.\n\nWithin 5 minutes of discovering him on the deck like this, he was able to stand, and 5 minutes after being able to stand he's bouncing around the house like nothing ever happened.\n\nI called my local vet, spoke with the Vet tech at the front desk. She advised me to monitor him, and if it happens again, bring him in. The rescue is also comfortable with this approach. He's spent the remainder of the afternoon doing his normal behaviour and not having any deficits that I can observe.\n\nPersonally I think this may have been a small stroke (transient ischemic attack).", "summary": "Has anyone had a dog that has had a TIA?"}
{"id": "t3_stjz0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any advice on office organization?", "post": "Here's the situation:  my dad runs his own neuropsych practice out of a small office.  He rarely sees patients and my parents are the only employees, so cleanliness and organization in the office space has never been a priority.  However, after years of leaving piles of journal publications and research documents on the floor, on top of filing cabinets, on top of every table, etc., it's gotten out of control.  It's a huge issue, but my dad claims that he doesn't have time to deal cleaning everything up.\n\nI'm going home for a few weeks and thought I could help fix this mess.  Does anyone have advice/tricks on how to start the organization process or what some good end goals would be?\n\nIn short, I'm looking for a way to organize and store a ton of papers in an office with limited space and full filing cabinets.  I could easily digitize the information, but it would be best to keep hard copies too.", "summary": "I need to help organize an office with tons of paperes, articles, journals, etc. piled up everywhere across multiple rooms.  Any advice on getting started?"}
{"id": "t3_419ojb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/m] Should I let my girlfriend (22/f) of 4 years sleep with another guy?", "post": "My girlfriend was still a virgin when I met her. I already had some experience. Now we are looking to live together and eventually get married. \n\nI would like to have a longlasting and healthy relationship with her. But knowing she has no prior experience, I wonder if it would be a good thing that she -when she wants to- explore different things. I'd be open to a month with nu contact whatsoever and for her to do anything she wants (including sex with an other man). The reason for it so she can experience a different way of living. I want her to be sure about us, the way she's going to buid her life around us without her doubting our relationship years down the road and questening her dedication to me. \n\nI talked about this with my girlfriend. She doesn't want to have sex with other men. Having a month to herself isn't something she needs either, but she's up for it to see how that is like. I told her I'd like to hear it when she changes her mind about other men. \n\nSo my question, what if she changes her mind? Should I even consider this? Should this be a no go? Am I being too open?", "summary": "Should I let my girlfriend have sex with another man so she can experience what that is like so she won't ever be curious about it and that can potentially hurt our future relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_39uo4t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Guy [25/m] I've been dating for a few months doesn't see a future with me [25/f]", "post": "Met this guy a couple of months ago, however at the time, I didn't really want a relationship but decided to go along with it for fun as he was a really nice guy. It's been a rough couple of months for me in my personal life and I haven't felt comfortable sharing things due to my past serious relationship and getting very hurt from it. We were on holiday a couple of weeks ago and everything seemed to be fine, however this week he went to a party and met a girl who he has been messaging. Now he tells me that he doesn't see a future with me. I am at the stage where I honestly could fall in love with him but I feel I need to hold back because of past experiences and I was under the impression he was moving to Germany in a couple of months from the US and this was just a couple of months of fun. I'm not sure how to let him in, I really want to but I see no point if it's not going to work out? Also, his lack of communication whilst we have been dating has been an issue for me as he can go a couple of days with no communication. Any advice if I should dump him or let him in?", "summary": "past experiences and my personal life possibly pushing away a future relationship due to my fear of a serious relationship, despite wanting one"}
{"id": "t3_11i2t3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "42m/42f - how soon is too soon?", "post": "We're a bit older (42m/42f) as a couple and things seem to be going really well, and I was wondering, how soon after dating did everyone move in with their significant other. This would be my first shared apartment in a few years, and her first since college.\n\nI'm an engineer, she's a teacher, it would help us both financially but I it would be about 8 months in for us when we finally moved in together. My question is whether anyone has any tips as far as what were troublesome problems (sharing discarding furniture , how much space did you find is too much/too little?", "summary": "A bit older, how soon is too soon to move in."}
{"id": "t3_3rj3xm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] am moving into my Boyfriend's [29 M] house. How can we make sure everything is equal when he owns the house?", "post": "I'll be moving into his house in the spring, when we've been together for two years.\n\nMy boyfriend bought his house a few years ago and has been customizing it to his taste ever since. Last night we got into a serious discussion because I'm worried that any future decisions about decor, furniture, etc., will ultimately be his call because he owns the house, and I will just be \"renting\".\n\nI'm also nervous about planning out who pays for what: If, say, we needed a new couch for the living room, I feel like he should pay for it, because otherwise I'd be putting money into an investment that's not mine. (But, at the same time, if we're equal partners in a relationship, I feel weird making him pay for all of that stuff).\n\nDoes anyone here have any experience or tips to deal with this sort of situation?", "summary": "Moving into boyfriend's house, have questions about paying for things fairly."}
{"id": "t3_1jgrzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26M] with my Wife [24F] of 1 year, dating of 6.5, She wants a divorce. Blind sided me", "post": "So, i guess I should've seen this coming.  We started dating when we were 19 and 17 respectively.  We had it pretty well, it was fun, and when things started getting serious (sure we were still in college) my mother passed away.  I fell away from a lot of friends, she fell away from a lot of friends to help me through.  We lived pretty well, then I took a job which caused me to travel for two weeks every two weeks.  I was gone a lot, and over a year ago, we got married. And things were fine, sure, looking back, we were slipping, and definitely about 7 months ago there was a real slide, right when I wanted to quit my job.  But we couldn't because it was supporting both of us, especially with her in nursing school.\n\nThen, we moved to Florida.  I was at work, she had handled a lot of the planning and the actual move on her own, because I was gone.  And she got here, started going out more, and realized the life that we were planning isn't what she wants.  I still want that.  But I just... I want to have faith in the fact that we can't sign the divorce papers until November, because you need to be a state resident for 6 months, that maybe she will realize the (I think) mistake she is making.\n\nI just... I feel lost. My job laid me off earlier this month, but that was expected for three months, and just... I don't have a support network near by yet, because we just got to the area.  I can't even taking my damned ring off.  It hurts too much.  She says it hurts her, but she needs to follow her heart (which, I do want her to be happy) and she's just more along than I am, I guess.\n\nJust lost.", "summary": "Wife is leaving after a new move.  Unemployed, apparently getting divorced, can't let go."}
{"id": "t3_1kzqcz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M], her [21F], 1 year, relationship is boring", "post": "My relationship with my gf is suffocatingly stale. It is extremely boring. Dating for about 1 year.\n\nShe works a lot so we see each other at best once a week. I try to arrange things more often but she apparently is busy.\n\nWhen we do meet it is usually just a movie. I've said I want to do more, but she is always too tired to do anything else.\n\nI really can't see myself with her long-term, as things are going. In the first few months, things were exciting and we did lots of stuff... but over time, she's just become so much less active, more and more.\n\nBut she loves me to death. She would be so heartbroken if we broke up. I don't think we have to break up, but I'm wondering how I can approach this without generating hard feelings.", "summary": "Relationship with gf is boring, wondering how I can tell her that she is boring without causing hard feelings."}
{"id": "t3_3byfw2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (22f) with my new SO (32m) wants me to move in with him after a long relationship.", "post": "Sorry for typos on my phone!\n\nSo I was in a 2 year relationship with my ex (lets call him Tim). \nTim and I were never going to work, but I always wants it too. I tried, I really did. I loved him and I still do. It was a toxic terrible relationship and no matter how badly either of us wanted it to work it just wouldn't. I moved 2 hours away for my ex's job, it ended up being a nightmare and thankfully my company transfered me back to the city im from. \n\nI have been seeing a friend (lets call him Jacob) since I came back. It's been casual, I will sleep over at his house, he'll try to have sex with me, but I won't. I'm not ready for anything emotional, I somehow can't seem to get over my past relationship. I gave up a lot, I invested a lot and I will truly miss the good times me and my ex had. I love Jacobs ambition, he owns a home and has goals to do so much more than my ex did. He cares, he treats me really well, he's a better person than my ex was. Still I find myself comparing him to my ex. I fell for Tim for his personality, witch soon changed when he became angry, I don't see that in Tim. But I'm having a hell of a time just letting go.. I miss tim and when I'm away from Jacob I could care less atm.\n\nI'm living with my friends atm, and in the process of buying my own condo, just got a proved today! Yay me, but Jacob keeps hounding me to move into his house. He doesn't understand that I need to own my own place.. And be on my own. I tried telling him that many times. I just don't know what to do.\nJacobs is motivated in life and many other aspects were as my ex wasn't, but I still feel like its to soon and he doesn't care. I don't know how to cope and carry on this new relationship with a great guy. What should I do??", "summary": "no idea how to get over my ex and keep my new relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1s9cvy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, 19-M college freshman, met girl during first few weeks, saw her briefly this week and not sure how to make contact.", "post": "So in August I started college, the first few weeks involved all those standard introductionary acitivities. During one of those I met a girl that i instantly took interest in. Later that week we hung out all evening during another activity. I had a great time and think she did aswell. The night ended quite quickly however, I didn't manage to say goodbye etc as the last train was about to leave and ofc I didn't find my bag. I found it and had a couple of minutes to spare, she had moved over to the dancefloor somewhere. I didn't want to risk it and chose to run for the train instead. \n\nSince that night I hadn't seen her and didn't think much about it for quite a while. This week however we walked past eachother on our way to lunch, kind of looked at eachother like a \"hey I recognize you\" type of deal. \n\nStupid as I was I didn't make much of it and kept on walking, leaving me with this kind of excited feeling for some reason, lol. \n\nI am interested in making contact with this girl, though I do not quite know how to do it without feeling like a creep. I mean it has been quite some time since we last spoke, we study on different parts of campus, hence why we havn't really seen eachother. \n\nI do know her name however, could go through facebook, though I feel that is quite a lame way to go about it. With the risk of making myself look like a creep. \n\nAny tips on how I should make my approach? I mean we havn't really met since late August, don't know eachother very well..", "summary": "Met girl during first weeks of college, saw her again very briefly this week, want to make contact, not sure how to go about it. (Know her name & facebook)"}
{"id": "t3_2n3tqx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going to my college's dining hall while sick", "post": "So I wake up late today, and realize I feel like shit.  Nausea, dry heaves, the works.  No matter how much water I drink, it's still there.  So, I decide to go to the closest dining hall on campus, get some soup, tea, and something like ginger ale to try and ease it.\n\nThis particular dining hall does not have a bathroom, and has these tiny garbage cans.\n\nSo I'm getting my soup, when I start heaving again.  This time I puke in my mouth.  Trying to hold it in more, so I can find a garbage can, I clamp my mouth shut and cover it with my hand.  It didn't help.  A few seconds later and there's a large puddle of my vomit on the floor.  And on my hands.  And on my face.  And on my shoes.  And coming out my mouth and nose (remember how I clamped my mouth shut?).\n\nThen, before I can fully register what has just happened, I puke again, this time in the garbage can.  I *mostly* hit on target.  At that point someone from dining hall staff approaches me with a wet cloth, asking if I'm okay, and people are staring.  After trying to clean off the best I can, I hightail it out of there.", "summary": "I go to crowded college dining hall while sick, and end up puking A LOT all over the floor and myself"}
{"id": "t3_311870", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [F 18] found my boyfriend's [M 18] page on another website", "post": "I was on a new website which I don't really want to name, but I happened to look up my boyfriends common username and found him. \n\nI started to look through a couple things just to see what was going on a little and started noticing some weird stuff. He tends to flirt with a lot of girls and even had a post about him having this huge crush on a former teacher! He even denied having a girlfriend and was going about how he was single. I'm not sure what to do right now. \n\nI made a fake account and messaged him to see what he would say, but I knew he was already asleep so I'll have to see what goes down tomorrow. However, he's coming here in a few hours (it's 4:30 am) and I don't know whether to pretend everything's fine and play out the account to see where he goes, or to bring it up and potentially have a confrontation. \n\nI don't want to lose him, after all he's my first love and of course I understand it's hard to see the truth because of that, but I don't want to lose him. I need some advice on what to do at this point, should I wait or say something?", "summary": "boyfriend made an account and said weird stuff about his teacher and is flirting with other girls. Should I confront him, or should I play it out on an alternate account?"}
{"id": "t3_2t1dbv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My parents will not let me work for the only place I can get a job offer.", "post": "I've applied to multiple jobs and pizza hut is the one that has offered me a job, twice. First time I turned it down because I got a job offer from amazon  (through staffing agency) the next day, but the day before orientation, they told me they had no assignments left. Great. Had to wait 1 month just to be told they had no job for me. 2 weeks later, I go to mcdonalds interview and didn't get it because it was an on-call job. Next up is kmart interview. I'm  guessing I didn't get it becuase I was quiet durimg the interview. Then I said fuck it, going to apply to pizza hut again. I get the call, go to the interview, and they tell me to go today at 11 a.m. I thought \"fuck yes, finally a job!.\" But that's not the case. My parents are telling me not to take it because it's a \"dangerous\" job. My dad and I basically got into an argument for the first time today becuase they didn't want me to get that job. He said if I don't take it, he'll give me $100 a month (yeah cause that's a lot for a 19 year old..) He says to not take get the job for my mom. My mom gets nervous easily and shes scared that I'll get in a crash or I'll get assaulted or something. It doesn't help that i got into a car crash on October or that my aunt and uncles baby died on sunday. I'm guessing the babies death got her scared of something happening to me. So now I'll be back to not having a job, while everyone I know has one. Going to try to make a small white lie that I will be working at the store as a pizza maker and only deliver pizza 5 times a day. Not sure about it though. Had to unwind all that on text.", "summary": "Have overprotective parents and a nervous of a wreck mom who wont let me get the only job offer that I can get."}
{"id": "t3_2vd6m9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing my boyfriend off a bench", "post": "This happened about two years ago. So, I'm mildly arachnophobic, but dont scream unless I'm surprised by the spider. As a bit of a dork, i was sitting with my family at the table playing dungeons and dragons. Although he knew i was afraid of spiders, my boyfriend, who's sitting beside me on shared bench, decided to point out a relatively small spider climbing across my dice. Turning, I saw the spider, small and write, slowly meandering across my dice, and i lost it. To use my dad's words, i shrieked like a banshee, threw my boyfriend three feet away from the bench, and raced \"at warp nine\" down the hallway to my bedroom. My family removed the spider and coaxed me out of my room, then proceeded to tease me about throwing him. To this day, i have not loved this down, and i doubt i ever will.", "summary": "afraid of spiders, boyfriend pointed one out, threw him off the bench and ran away"}
{"id": "t3_mwuj3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, what great lengths have you gone to do something completely stupid?", "post": "I'll start us off, I really wanted for some reason to play [Hot Wheels Stunt Track Driver] \n\nI figured this would be an easy thing so I went and downloaded it online and tried to install it, only having it not work. I figured that since I was running Windows 7 that was the problem, so I went and found out that Windows 7 offers a XP Virtual Machine Mode so I went and tried to download that but found out that since I had the basic version I couldn't get it. \n\nSo what did I do? Give up? FUCK NO. I decided to upgrade my computer to Windows 7 Business Edition, which took three hours to download and about one hour to install. I then see that I got a weird Virtual Machine that defaulted to Chinese. I powered through this, went and installed it... only to find out that my laptop doesn't have the processing power to run it, the game is God knows how many years old and was running at maybe 3 frames per second.\n\nFeeling defeated, in a last ditch effort I went and mounted it on a DVD to try again on another computer in my house and figured what the hell, let me try to run it on the computer without the Virtual Machine and see what happens.\n\nIt installs perfectly. I spent an entire day doing something that would've taken me five minutes... I am an idiot.", "summary": "I went through three different Operating Systems and upgraded my computer to play a fucking Scholastic Book Club video game."}
{"id": "t3_2n4kd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] and my best friend [20M] since birth. We had sex and I need advice on how to talk to him about it", "post": "My best friend and I had sex. We talked about sleeping together a couple weeks ago and I told him I didn't think it was a good idea because I know he has been talking to girls and I didn't want to get emotionally attached. \n\nIt kind of just happened Thursday, then he spent the night. I said I didn't want it to be weird now and he agreed. I felt him being different (distant) that day, so I texted him that night telling him I didn't want it to be weird, that it was just something fun that happened and I expect nothing from him. He said there's no awkwardness but he was still being weird! We usually talk all day every day and I have heard nothing. \n\nHe has been weird since and it is making me feel animosity towards him. I am very close to his mom, so this is going to cause us to be around each other a lot. We saw a movie with his mom today and I felt myself not even wanting to look at him. I'm mad he is making it weird and I just want some advice about how to talk to him so it can either go back to normal or we can decide what to do next.", "summary": "best friend and I had sex. Now he's being weird and it's making me angry. Need advice on how to talk to him"}
{"id": "t3_4szkbo", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Boyfriend (23 y/o) wet the bed. Should he see a doctor? Should we wait to see if it happens again? More info inside.", "post": "He said he's wet the bed a few times before, but he's been very drunk during those instances. He normally gets up once in the night/early morning to pee. This time, he wasn't drunk and didn't drink tons of water or anything. He said he was having a vivid dream about something unrelated and woke up to wetness.\n\nHe's worried he might have something medically wrong with him, and, more importantly, that it might happen again and/or regularly.\n\nIf it makes any difference, we think he has a pretty small bladder. He does pee fairly often and has some urgency. It's just never been an issue for him in terms of wetting the bed before.", "summary": "Boyfriend wet the bed while sober and is worried he will do it again."}
{"id": "t3_nc6bg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the most adrenaline-pumping situation you've ever experienced?", "post": "One time I was diving in Belize off of Turneffe Island, and we were swimming along when we saw a 6-foot shark underneath a piece of coral. I have a strong fascination for sharks, so I crept through the little coral heads to get a closer look. I got closer and closer until I was within arms reach of it and reached forward to touch its tail, then it suddenly jerked around and tried to bite me. Thankfully, my cat-like reflexes (or the adrenaline, or both) kicked in and I moved my arm just before it got bit. Then I tried to push the shark away/get out from underneath the coral at the same time. It was hard because we were lodged underneath a coral head, so I was going prone and both of us were stuck in the small area thrashing around, regulators purging, avoiding bites on the regular. Then the dive master grabbed my flipper and pulled me right the fuck out, and the shark swam away. It felt like I was under there for minutes but it spanned just a few seconds. When we resurfaced the dive master gave me a whole lotta shit and told me that the shark thought I was going to attack it so it went all defense on my ass then got the fuck out. I still can't believe I didn't get bit but let's just say when I see a shark I no longer pursue it.", "summary": "shark almost got me, adrenaline kicked in, got out safely. "}
{"id": "t3_38hdkk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming my teen was being lazy.", "post": "I started some dish water when I realized the dishsoap was missing.  Remembering my husband and daughter had used it to bathe the dog earlier, I looked over at her on the couch and told her to run and get it.  Usually she's very helpful, but she didn't get up right away and the sink was filling, so I added, \"And step on it!\"  So she finally gets up, gives me an odd look, and leisurely heads to the bathroom.  But after like a minute, she still hasn't returned, the sink is almost full, and I'm getting annoyed.  The bathroom is a room away, this is ridiculous.  She shouts something at me I don't hear, so I just yell back, \"Just bring it to me.\"  So she brings it into the kitchen and hands it to me, saying \"I stepped on it a couple of times and nothing happened.  Did it have a bug on it or something?\"  I just stared at her until I realized she was serious, then lost it.  Being the good sport she normally is, she grinned and added, \"Well, at least I thought to put it in the tub before I stepped on it.\"", "summary": "Parents are literally weird."}
{"id": "t3_3gnaw5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I consolidate my debt?", "post": "I am 23 years old and I feel like I have a decent amount of debt that I was thinking I should perhaps consolidate? I just am not sure of the best route to take. All I know is the interest is killing me. I guess I should start off by telling you what my debt is -\n\nI have a credit card which is my main killer. I currently have around $3,500 on this card. The interest is at around 25%. Every month, while I make payments 0f $200\u2026 it charges me at least $60 for interest. \nI have a credit account with Ideal Image. There is only about $1,500 left on this and the interest is at around 26%, however because the amount is lower it charges me around $3 per month for interest.\nI have a car loan and to be honest I am not sure how much my interest rate is on that, however I know I have around $9,000 left on it to pay and I pay $293 a month.\n\nI feel like this is a lot of debt for someone who is 23. I am managing fine I guess, but the credit card specifically is just not going away.\nI should probably also mention that I have just started college again and I was granted a subsidized student loan for $3,500. I know I will have to take out another next year as well. I don't have to worry about paying this back until I graduate in a few years, but I would like to be able to pay it back easily in the future and not have it just piled on top of what I already have.\nI guess my main question is to ask if I should take out a small personal loan of some type, that has a lower interest rate and pay off my credit card and Ideal Image. \nI hope I provided enough information.\n\nAny recommendations? Thank you so much in advance!", "summary": "Have about 5K in credit card debt with very high interest and 9K car loan. How can I alleviate the situation?"}
{"id": "t3_euig1", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear \"Forever Alone\"s, you have been cursed with an incredible opportunity.", "post": "Hey Foreveralones, I'm a long time follower/reader, first time contributor/redditor (can I say that? I'm very excited!). I was just walking home from a new years party with an old friend and contemplated a very preachy, but challenging, mission. For those of us who are \"forever alone\", we have absolutely everything to gain and nothing to lose! Human relationships are beautiful, blissful states of being that, at this time, do not weigh us down. Find a cause, a purpose, a goal, and commit your uncommitted self to it. Make tomorrow a truly new day by being more than what you have become. Pick a seemingly impossible dream and start chipping away at it. I, for one, have always wanted to find someone whom the world has given up on and give them an opportunity to realize/reach their potential. Tomorrow I will begin that mission, in the smallest of steps, and use the rest of my life to complete it. If you are alone, find someone else who needs you, and come through for them the best you can. If you want somebody to love, be somebody who loves another. Take life as a ladder, one rung at a time. I know it sounds naive, cliche, and overly optimistic, but fuck pessimism, what happens tomorrow is my responsibility. I have maybe 60 more years to wreak as much good on this world as I can, and I may even meet that special someone on the way. But for now my only concern is what I do with tomorrow. Good luck, brothers and sisters.", "summary": "Do something that makes the world better off today than it was yesterday."}
{"id": "t3_46idbz", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for a new job, need a bit of guidance.", "post": "Greetings people of r/jobs!\nI have been recently looking for a job that's a step up from what I do. It would take a while to explain exactly what I do, but here's the short version: I make microchips.\n\nI'm looking to relocate to Austin to help out a family member there and have seen a few positions that might fit me. But then there's the barrier of higher education. It kinda seems you need a four year degree and two associate degrees to become a waiter (exaggeration, but you get my point.).\n\nIn my current job, I learned how to operate machines I didn't even know existed prior to working there. I learned the ins and outs of how our product is made, all the steps and why. \n\nI even helped engineers modify one machine to fit our needs when previously it was collecting dust.\n\nAll this feels irrelevant because everyone says on their resume that they're a quick learner. In my case, it's not speculation. It's fact.\n\nI've got reference's in spades. Engineers, Technicians, Managers, even a guy who reports directly to our CEO.\n\nThat being said, I feel like I won't be noticed or quickly filtered out due to my lack of a degree. (Despite, in some cases, looking at job duties and knowing I could do said job standing on my head while juggling sparklers and chainsaws. Exaggeration again. I can't juggle.)\n\nAny advice beyond \"Get a degree\" would be helpful.\n\nRegards, Mad Fake Scientist.", "summary": "I've got skillz, they kinda pay some bills. Need to relocate to Austin, but living there is high costin'."}
{"id": "t3_4jj9zj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [26F] tell my friend [27F] that her house is disgusting?", "post": "This is a weird question. Sorry. \n\nI have a close friend, \"Amanda.\" She's an amazing person, but her apartment is covered in trash. There are beer bottles stacked on the counter, trash on the floor, and dog hair everywhere. She has two small dogs and they are always hyperactive. The litterbox is full, so the cat has started pooping on the floor and in the corners. She keeps the curtains drawn and the windows shut, so it smells. \n\nShe's not a hoarder, she just doesn't clean. \n\nI don't want to criticize her. She's a very sweet person and a good friend. I don't think she has a physical disability, she has no children, and she works part-time, so hypothetically she has time to clean. I don't get what's going on. \n\nIf she's comfortable with her mess, I see no problem with that... I just don't want to be there. \n\nShe recently invited me to hang out with her in her house. How do I politely decline? I don't want to hurt her feelings. But I am not willing to visit her house-- ever. \n\nWe do lots of things outside her house. We go to lunch, see movies together, do game nights, and go drinking. So what do I do when she invites me over?", "summary": "My friend's house is a mess. She invited me over; how do I politely decline?"}
{"id": "t3_17iy1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [F25] being selfish for not wanting to leave my family to live near partner's [M26]?", "post": "I've been in a long distance relationship for the last 5 years. We live over 250 miles away from each other, and have done since the beginning, apart from a few years when I was at uni, I lived a lot closer to my SO.\n\nAfter uni I moved back to my home town, riddled with guilt that I barely saw my family in 3 years, because I spent almost every weekend at my partners (which I feel extremely guilty about). We have always been ok with the distance, there are obviously times when it's harder than others.\n\nWe're now seeing less and less of each other and I'm really starting to struggle, I'm lucky if I get a whole weekend with him every month. He works 6 days a week, so him staying with me is almost out of the question, and I can't afford any more than I already pay on travel.\n\nWe have discussed getting a place together, but the issue of where to live becomes an issue. I have looked at properties in his area, and for a start I wouldn't be able to afford rent, never mind the increased cost of living. \n\nI told him tonight that I don't think I could live far from my family. My parents are older than his, and I worry about them not having any family near them as they get older. He, on the other hand has an extremely large extended family, all of which live within a 5 mile radius.\n\nAm I being selfish for now wanting to move near them? When I told my SO how I felt, his response was \"well, we have a problem\". He did however say that he would move up to me, but he still has courses he needs to complete with work.\n\nHe told me that I'm acting like a child and didn't understand the issue of me moving away because I would still see my parents every fortnight. Surely if travelling weren't an issue I would see my SO more often than that?!\n\nI'm feeling so conflicted, and feel selfish for not wanting to leave my parents. I love my SO, and I want to be with him, but we have hit this major fork in the road and I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Relationship of 5 years. I'm conflicted as to whether I should abandon my family again to live 250 miles away with my SO, and near his family."}
{"id": "t3_236wru", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18F] Been with my bf 8 months. Suspecting he might be cheating again. Need some advice", "post": "My boyfriend has cheated on me multiple times and I can't shake the feeling it's still going on. He has alot of Facebook's and he uses sites like Chatango alot. I just really need to know if my suspicions are really worth it, becuse this relationship has caused me alot of pain and he says he's trying to change but I'm not seeing any results and it's been at least 2 months. He has cheated alot in the past too, on every single one of his exes. I've had a bad run with guys in the times I actually bothered. Are these all bad signs?\n________", "summary": "My bf has suspicious accounts and sites and has cheated. He's still using the sites. Thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_2kw93u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Any advice on \"getting back out there\" for a 25 M who hasn't been on a date in three years?", "post": "I went through a bad break up right at the end of college and I've been out of college for almost three years now and in that entire time, I haven't been on a single date (mostly for lack of trying).  Most of the women I know from college and otherwise are already in relationships and I've had a lot of trouble meeting anyone.  I've tried OKCupid and Tinder with absolutely no luck.\n\nI'm tired of being the third (or fifth) wheel when hanging out with my friends and I want to \"get back out there\" but I feel like I have no idea where to start. I've been working from home for the past year but I start a new job next week so I'm hoping that will help a bit.\n\nThere's this girl I'm interested in but I've only ever talked to her via social media.  I've tried casually asking her out a couple times but she said she already had plans.", "summary": "25M trying to end 3 year dry spell.  halp!"}
{"id": "t3_3myzlf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] think my dad [60M] needs help, but I don't know how to give it to him.", "post": "Alright, I'll try to keep this short. My father has always been a really goofy person, but over the past 3 or 4 years his mental health seems to have just completley gone down hill.. Some days he seems alright, but just like that, he will become depressed and mean. He has told me I'm not his daughter anymore, that I need to just get out of his house, or how he wishes i had turned out differently. Even if I haven't said a word to him and I'm just sitting on the couch..I usually just try to ignore them, but he just doesn't stop saying them until I go upstairs into my room. He almost always comes back in about a half an hour and applogizes, but that doesn't really make it feel any better. \n\nHe'll also talk about how he should just dissapear, and how no one would miss him if he did. He's a substitute teacher, he used to really enjoy being with kids, now he doesn't seem to care anymore. He got fired the other day for letting a kid wittle a knife in class and just sort of shrugged about it when he got home...that's not the first time he's gotten fired for something along those lines. He just seems so extremely sad some days, I'm worried he's going to hurt himself or worse... I've talked to my mom about this and she agrees that he's having alot of trouble but she doesn't seem to take it as seriously. She also doesn't really believe in therapy. I've reached out to my dad before and I was just met with more anger and taunting... I miss having a relationship with my dad and I hate seeing him so depressed and dissapointed in his life. Reddit, how can I help?", "summary": "My dad seems to be slowly slipping into a terrible depression. It's effecting our relationship and I want to help but my family doesn't seem to be taking his cries for help seriously. Any atempt i have made to reach out to him has been met with taunting or ridicule from him. I don't know how to help."}
{"id": "t3_163q7i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] and GF [17 F] haven't kissed after two months, need advice.", "post": "Okay I realize that I'm 15, and I'm just a kid and all that shit and this will probably get downvoted, but I need some help. \n\nSo me and my GF have been dating since the beginning of November and it has been great emotionally. We have both liked each other for a couple years before this, and it has been pretty good.\n\nI have had two GFs in the past that I have had physical and emotional relationships with.\nShe has not had a boyfriend before me and had not had her first kiss yet.\nI want her first kiss to be amazing\n\nI want to kiss her so badly, but I feel like even though we have talked about it and she wants too, It will somehow end up with her hating me. I know this is crazy and not going to happen. I think I have self confidence issues and have been through things like this in other situations. I realize this is most likely hormones and all that  other puberty shit. \n\nMy question: How do I go about kissing her and making it amazing?\n\nThanks in advance for any replies I get (if I get any)", "summary": "i want to kiss GF, but think she will hate me. I realize this is irrational. Her first kiss. How do I go about dealing with this?"}
{"id": "t3_1irc5c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sales associates/stylists, how do you go about getting clients/ referrals?", "post": "My girlfriend (24f) is a stylist/sales associate at Hugo boss. She has good style and I always get complimented by the outfits she puts together. She has been at Hugo boss a little under a year now and is having trouble with consistent sales, clientelling, and referrals. She is off to a good start but is looking for ways to expand her clients and referrals faster.\n\nI am in finance and tried showing her some things I do to get clients but the transition to fashion is a bit different and doesn't seem to work.\n\nSo, reddit, what are some ways you go about building your book of business in particular in the fashion world as a stylist/sales associate.", "summary": "gf is a stylist/sales associate at Hugo boss in a high end mall and is looking to grow her clients/referrals faster to give her consistent sales. Any and all ideas welcomed."}
{"id": "t3_1cm76t", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Don't know what I'm doing with my life. 2 years behind in college, still don't have a plan. TON of debt. Not passionate about anything. Feeling depressed after being broken up with from a 3 year relationship.", "post": "So yeah, I changed my major about 3 times - electrical engineering, pre-medicine, management science, computer science(which i'm currently in, and I hate it). I've never found anything I'm super interested in. I don't have any hobbies outside of League of Legends. I'm in a LOT of debt. I had almost a full ride, but I lost it all by doing poorly in my classes.\n\nI've been in a codependent relationship for 3 years. Just got broken up with last weekend. We were supposed to get married someday. I can't function on daily basis, I keep getting reminded of her by everything. I have to see her in class in 6 hours. My lease with her ends in September, can't afford the fee for breaking contract early. I'm having problems coping, I've always had problems with emotions. I can't control my anger well. I've been having mood swings, mostly sad and angry. (Sad because my ex gave me so many chances to fix things in the relationship)(Angry because she left me for someone successful). Sometimes I get hope about the future, getting confident that I can fix myself, but I always come down from the high.\n\nI barely have any friends here. I want to go home, but it's in Kansas, there's nothing there in terms of job opportunities. I actually always wanted to escape Kansas in high school, so I don't know how I feel about going back. I can't go anywhere else, my parents are in debt from helping me with school and I barely make any money.\n\nI want to do something with my life, I want to make money, be successful, but it's looking pretty grim.\n\nIf you made it through, thanks for reading. I appreciate it.", "summary": "failing college, lost gf, depressed"}
{"id": "t3_qlhng", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your most embarrassing drunken misunderstanding?", "post": "So mine happened while on a trip to Czech with my wife.\n\nI was taken for a lengthy tour of Prague's finest drinking establishments by the boyfriend of my wife's cousin. \n\nBy the time we got home I was already very buzzed having had quite a few beers and some shots.\n\nThat, of course, is when I remembered that the family friends we were staying with we're throwing a party in our honor.\n\nBeing drunk, I thought \"Hell yeah!\"\n\nThe night had plenty of embarrassing moments, like when I was running around their yard barefoot playing tag with their young daughter and my wife tried to make me put shoes on. I took them, hurled them across the yard and yelled \"Fuck shoes!\"\n\nAnyway, the misunderstanding came when I apparently insulted their oldest daughter 17 or 18 and my wife told me to apologize by telling her in Czech that she was pretty.\n\nIn my drunken mind, my wife had just said \"we're going to have a threesome now.\" I told the girl she was pretty and looked at my wife expectantly for sexy times.\n\n So, my wife told me to go get my new bathing suit (not a speedo, but close) and show the mom and daughter.\n\nShe came in five minutes later to find me naked and erect, flipping around on the floor trying to get this damned bathing suit on, because I thought it was some kind of foreplay and that she wanted me to wear the damn thing.\n\nApparently, she never meant for me to wear it and show off my erection like some sort of sad mating call.\n\nNeedless to say there was no threesome and my wife told them all about my drunken failure. Embarrassed doesn't even begin to describe the next morning.", "summary": "I insulted a Czech girl and then misinterpreted my wife's  making me tell her she's pretty to mean we were all going to fuck. I then nearly ran out erect in an almost speedo after more misinterpretation, but was luckily too drunk to change clothes."}
{"id": "t3_3vv56b", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat won't stop chewing on her tail! HELP!!", "post": "My sweet sweet 1 year old Female Orange Tabby has developed this unfortunate habit of chasing her tail and chewing it up. And there is blood EVERYWHERE. We took her to the vet, they gave her antibiotics, put on an e-collar, gave us Composure chews and sent us our way after a $300 bill for the check up, an x-ray (to check if her tail is broken - it wasn't), and all the medication and treats. \n\nBut that was a month ago. Now my baby has an e-collar on day in and day out. I try to take it off when I'm home and supervising but it's still on for the majority of the time. I've tried 'weaning' her off the collar but anytime I've left her unsupervised without the collar I come back to the same scene of blood everywhere. To add to this, the e-collar has given her a nasty case of blackheads under her chin. \n\nI don't know what to do! I can't afford to keep going to the vet for expensive tests and they don't seem to be taking the bull by the horns either. The mentioned starting her on anti-anxiety medication or something for OCD. Is this my only option at this point? \n\nHas anyone else had a similar experience? What did you do?\nAlso, what do I do about the acne?\n\nPlease help, I can't keep watching my sweet girl suffer through all these health issues, it's absolutely breaking my heart because she is truly special and wonderful and I love her.", "summary": "My cat won't stop biting her tail into a bloody mess, and the e-collar we've had to put on her for the last month is giving her acne and is not a long term solution. Please advise."}
{"id": "t3_37a8ii", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Et tu Passat?", "post": "I own a 2002 VW Passat. I've owned it 3 years, so I am obviously not the first owner. This is my first american car that I've bought. (I was stationed overseas for a bit.) It is fully payed off, but everything is going wrong with it. I have fixed soo many things on it. The transmission is finally acting up and I do not think I have it in me to keep fixing her. Not to mention, the area I live in seems to hate foreign cars, so I have to drive over an hour to get anything done. My car is fully paid off and I just don't know what to do. I just got out of the military, so I am jobless and going back to college with my benefits. I have some deployment money saved up, so I could buy another car. I really want to save the money because I hope to one day start a business (Its why I am going to college in the first place.) College is 30 mins away, so I need a car to get back and forth. Also, I am the primary transport for my little family. Should I keep fixing my crap car or buy a new one or find a use one to tie me over? What is the car that will help me through college? Cars have always stressed me out with the constant maintenance and upkeep. If it was just me I would potentially get a bike, but I need a Car because kids.  Thanks for any advice you provide.", "summary": "Car almost dead. I jobless college kid former military. Fix or get new/used car?"}
{"id": "t3_1ikvu8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend[30M] has discovered his wife [25F] is bi/gay. Annulment oncoming.", "post": "They were together over 7 years.  In this time, she has done nothing but treat him like a piece of crap.  He's no innocent little kitten in all of this either, trust me.  Either way, about 4 years ago she had an affair with a woman.  Claimed it wasn't a lesbian or bisexual thing but rather she was just seeking attention.  Not long after, he cheated on her too.\n\nCut to about a month ago and they're about to get married.  In the time between the affair and now, things have been terrible.  Fighting constantly, complete lack of respect for each other, just terrible.  My fiancee and I even dreaded going over to their house because of how awkward things would get.\n\nSo they get married, but in the meantime the girl has this coworker of hers move in with them.  Hard times, etc.  So just before the marriage, during the wedding, and after the wedding, she has an affair and falls in love with this woman.\n\nLong story short, shit hit the fan and it's over.\n\nThing is though, my buddy is really screwed up about all this.  He's absolutely devestated, and the bitch of a woman he married and is now getting an annulment from is making him feel even worse.\n\nHow can I best help him to understand that although he did bad things and wasn't the best boyfriend/fiance in the world, it's still not his fault and he shouldn't feel like he wishes he could have her back but without all this crap?", "summary": "Best friend's wife of two weeks admitted to being in love with a woman.  He's ended things, but much to his chagrin.  How do I help him get into full on \"Fuck this shit, I'm better off!\" mode?"}
{"id": "t3_4m9dqw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit Card Rewards Question", "post": "Okie doke, so I'm 21 and just getting into this whole \"adult\" gig and I have been looking at various credit card options for their rewards programs. I really want the TD Bank cc, but being a whippersnapper they won't quite approve me (great credit, the only real knock on it is that I don't have enough lines of credit). Anyway, so I got another CC that had preapproved me and will be receiving it shortly. Is there any reason not to use it for literally every purchase I would normally use my debit for and pay it off every month? I know the point is they make money when you don't and when you overspend, but I'm super tight with my money, have a few grand saved and a job lined up and literally no expenses that my current graduate assistantship doesn't pay for (with about $400 left over each month). My main point is, am I missing some sort of caveat to credit card usage that would discourage this? My line of credit is up to like $3000 or so and I can't even fathom hitting that, but could cover it easily if I did.", "summary": "Should I use my credit card for all expenses to build credit and earn pretty decent rewards since I can and will repay them every month before any interest hits?"}
{"id": "t3_wftym", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got in a car accident and I have some questions", "post": "I'm 17. I was driving my dad's '06 Audi A3 on a gravel road last night around midnight at about 5km/h over the posted speed limit. As I rounded a corner, there was something running across the road. I swerved to avoid it, over corrected my slide, and wound up flying off the side of the road into the forest. If it's not totalled, it's got at least $10,000 worth of damage. Thankfully nobody was hurt. The police officer was really nice and waived the careless driving ticket, and the tow truck driver was really good. My dad is absolutely furious (understandably). This all happened 9 hours ago and I'm still shaking. I can't get the accident to stop replaying in my head and I can't stop analysing it and telling myself what I should have done differently. Is there an easy way to make myself stop thinking of these things?", "summary": "Crashed my dad's Audi, nobody hurt. Accident is replaying in my head and it's getting to me. How can I make it stop replaying in my head?"}
{"id": "t3_26qhti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] got dumped by my [19 F] after 1 year and I'm a fool who doesn't know what to do!", "post": "When we got together nothing split us up, we aere happy as all young people are, into the relationship i started taking seing her for granted.\nShe felt so shit if i would ever cancel with her. But alas i was not told, as most females do not say what is up.\n\nSo a guy comes onto the scene and shows her all the attention she so requires and the attention i should have shown her, but as i said, i saw seeing her for granted. Thing is, i dont have many people in my life, and she is such a huge part of me, i was literally a fool to not show it.\n\nWhen we are together things are right, we can sense it, but when apart she denies it all and its breaking my heart.\nWe had a year of love where i did not show her the attention she deserved, she is perfect to me, and every morning i wake up hating myself more for what i have done.\n\nI do not know if i can win back another chance, or if it is too late, but thinking of her or seeing her is soo painful. She stills means the world to me, I wish i wanted a fool.", "summary": "I disregarded my gf so many times she doesnt know how i really feel about her, scared its too late to win her back, yet i still love her so much. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2m6xw7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I report some guys in my class for cheating?", "post": "So, In my geography class we have just completed a large piece of coursework that goes towards our final grade. And my teacher, quite stupidly, left them out on his desk at lunch. A few guys went up there took pictures of a pages of someone else's in our class. Also the guys that have took the pictures aren't the brightest and, from what I have seen of there work, are going to fail. Bear in mind these people are likely to fail most of there subjects anyway. This person was one of the top people in our geography class and everyone tries to copy from him. If anything I feel sorry for him.\nAnyway, I am no longer friends with the person that did it. But when I was friends with him I had access to his facebook account and I still do now. For some reason I was on his account and I saw that he got a message from one of his friends saying thanks for the pictures. I was intrigued so I looked, although I shouldn't of, and it was pictures of that piece of coursework. \nNow I'm caught in a bit of a dilemma. I'm not sure whether to report them to the teacher for copying and risk getting told off for being on someone else's facebook account. Or just let them get away with cheating.\n\nI just cannot make up my mind on whether to report them or not. Any advice on this matter would be a huge help!", "summary": "Some guys in my class have taken pictures of someone else's coursework and are using them to cheat and get better grade and I don't know if to report them."}
{"id": "t3_3km6wt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [22/F] lied to me [24/M] about the period where we were off together", "post": "I was with this girl for couple of ON and OFFs, the last time we are back together was after a long breakup of 7 months.\nToday i had a small discussion with her on the phone (a subject leads to another) and eventually i found out that she used Tinder (she said for one day) to meet up with some random dudes where she met 3 guys there.\nThe thing is that the first time i met her after the breakup, i asked her if she saw someone during that period she told me no, and today i found out that she was out with one of those guys (what i discovered), when i asked her first \"who is that guy\" she said he is just a \"best friend\" that she knew only one month \"after our breakup\", but eventually she met him on Tinder.\n\nWhen she saw that i found out about her, she just started saying some contradictory stuff around, i mean she told me that \"she was with her female friend and that guy\", but at first she said that \"she met him alone\", she seemed like she was interested in him and  told me that \"she discussed with him about anything and everything\" etc ...\n\nI knew that she has male \"best friends\" and other \"contacts\", i can accept that if they were her classmates or some male friends she knew from mutual friends etc, but those are not \"best friends\", they are potential partners and you can see that she has interest in them ...\n\nNormally we planned to have some fun together tomorrow, but i'm planning not to do so, but just to finish those things up and breakup with her because i can't be with a liar ...", "summary": "I caught her lying to me, i'm thinking to breakup with her."}
{"id": "t3_35mc2l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25m] with my gf [21F] of 6 months are growing apart :(", "post": "Long story short, my gf and i have been together for roughly 6 months. We moved in together after only knowing eachother a few weeks because we fell so hard for eachother, but now that the honeymoon phase is over, things have been getting progressively worse. We rarely communicate, our interactions are forced and phoney. We don't connect on a deep level anymore and i never feel like being intimate with her. We used to have sex daily but now its once every 2 weeks on average. The sex is boring due to our lack of connection and i can tell my lower libido is making her insecure and depressed. ive started drinking more because i feel like i cant even be comfortable around her when im sober and im starting to worry myself.\n\nHow can i rectify this? I truly love this girl and want to make her happy. I dont want to end things with her. I want to have a real and meaningful relationship with her. She has a big heart and is an amazing human being. I really don't want to lose her. Our relationship has a lot of potential, but we fucked up by moving too fast...", "summary": "my girlfriend and i are having issues connecting with eachother and i don't know how to fix it without alcohol."}
{"id": "t3_2rqeda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24/F) Looking to buy my first home with partner (29/M) but feel reservations as i work only part time and he works full time.", "post": "This is my first post so I apologize for any reddit errors i may make.\n\nMy partner (29/M) and I (24/F) have been together for nearly two years and are planning on purchasing a home together. Very exciting and empowering road for both of us and we have received  much praise from our families on our decision. My partners family has also offered to give us a substantial amount to help kick off our deposit (along with what we have already saved). Although this is something i very much want i am beginning to have some reservations, mostly because i feel guilt on the part that over that last few months i have been unsuccessfully trying find a full-time job. I feel like it is wrong to put my partner in a position where  he will be putting in more money then me and possibly paying more for some time. I also feel guilty to be taking money from his family when im only working part time and contributing considerably less. My parents are divorced  and i have had to hear my father bicker about how he worked for everything and my mother took it all. This makes me feel i have to be an exact  even with my partner financially.\n\nPlease give me some advice fellow redditors?!!", "summary": "(24/f) Guilt of buying first home with Bf (29/M) when i am not as financially stable as him.?!"}
{"id": "t3_22a3w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] wants to date her [18 F], interpreting what she messaged me", "post": "Hello /r/relationships,\n\nLike the title says, I'm 18 and I met a girl over the internet that I really started liking the first day already although she did not have a real picture of her face uploaded. She was afraid of showing her face to everyone on that app and she also didn't want to send me a picture in the private chat at first. After I changed my picture, she messaged me about it and I then said that I really want to see her face. She delivered and sent me a picture which made me very happy. Anyway, we were chatting throughout the last weeks and got along very well.\n\nYesterday she asked me why I did download the app where people can 'meet' each other. I told her because of the reason she also mentioned on her profile and that's kind of something like 'Whatever happens'. She then sent me a smiley and said she was going to sleep. I responded with 'Yeah, good night and sleep well, Beauty'. She did read that message but didn't respond.\n\nIn the next morning, I asked her if she slept well and how she feels like. She said that she didn't sleep too well. I asked her why that was and she mentioned that she doesn't really know and she might've thought too much about something. I said that I'm always there to listen to her and she said 'Maybe later :)'.\n\nShe asked me if I'm always that nice and friendly and I said that it depends on who I am talking to. I also mentioned that she's the only girl I'm messaging (which really is true) and that she's beeing very sympathic. She told me the same about me beeing sympathic and I just felt very happy.\n\nNow I just wonder if these are good signs. I was considering to ask her for a date in like a month or so. I know that might be such a long time but I've always been like this. I like learning more about people first and then ask them to go out with me.\n\nBut anyway, thanks for reading. :)", "summary": "Met a girl over the internet. She seems to like me but in what way? And is what she messages me a good sign for a date and maybe more or not?"}
{"id": "t3_qo17d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Having trouble uploading funny clips to youtube", "post": "Hi,\n\nAs a person who's wasted so much time watching funny clips from youtube, I've decided to contribute to the problem by uploading funny clips from my favorite movies (Team America, Dumb and Dumber, Friday, Talledega Nights, etc.) to youtube, but I am currently having trouble accessing the videos from the DVD's I've bought to youtube.\n\nI'm currently using DVD Decrypter v. 3.5.4.0 and usually it breaks down the movie down into four videos or more of 15 minutes a piece. But most of the time DVD Decrypter either gives me unusable video clips (of one second duration or something) or automatically puts the video in French for some reason. So I can only really use a quarter of the movie that isn't missing or in French. I find older DVD's more likely to give me unusable video.\n\nAgain I'm not trying to upload entire movies to youtube, just their best bits like the robbery scene from Heat or any drill instructor scene from Full Metal Jacket. **Unless this is totally illegal, then what I said previously was just a hypothetical situation and should be disregarded immediately.** /jedi mind trick", "summary": "Is there any reliable (and more importantly free) way for me to take clips from DVD's I've bought and put them on youtube?"}
{"id": "t3_23ijms", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my bf [26 M] of 1.5yrs, commitment phobia", "post": "For the duration of our relationship, I have been the driving force, and I fear that this may be my fault for pushing him into something he didn't. (was reluctant to have a relationship at all until I said it was either that or we stop seeing each other).\n\nHe is from another country and moved here for work, so I asked what would happen to our relationship if he moved back/lost his job. He wasn't too sure and kind of brushed off the question by saying he is happy right now. This has been a pretty common theme- whenever I try to establish where I stand or whether our relationship has long term potential, he will fail to give me a proper answer and just say he likes to focus on the present.\n\nGiven that it is not improbable that he may have to move overseas I don't think it is unreasonable for me to want clarity on where I stand. More importantly, I feel as though I don't mean as much to him if there is no commitment to making it work.\n\nI think we also may differ as to to the priority we place on relationships; he has stated that his priority in moving here is work. I certainly value my own ambitions, but place considerable importance on making a relationship work if you are going to be in one. In other words, I disagree with the idea that you can just focus on being happy in the present and give no consideration to future obstacles/plans.\n\nHopefully I've adequately explained both of our perspectives; we both read this post. I've just come to reddit because we (I) am somewhat exasperated by our inability to come to any agreement on this.", "summary": "boyfriend is kind of a commitment phobe."}
{"id": "t3_47r2ek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my girlfriend [20 F] of 3.5 years, I am struggling with the lack of a physical relationship.", "post": "I love and care a lot about my girlfriend. We are both each others first serious relationship. We've helped each other through hard times and have a good relationship overall. However I am getting confused and frustrated at our lack physical/sexual intimacy.\n\nTo put it bluntly, we have not done anything past kissing/cuddling in 3.5 years. My girlfriend is not particularly religious and if i had to guess I believe lack of interest and fear are all factors. When I began to discover that she was very hesitant and new to the idea of having sex I made it very clear that she needs to be ready on her own and I would not, to the best of my ability, push her in any way. And so I gave her time, I would try and talk to her about this every month or every other month to see what she was feeling and if she needed anything from me. She always says that she still isn't ready for anything and nothing has progressed at all.\n\nI've started feeling very guilty about a year or two ago. I feel terrible, like i'm burdening her with this. I wonder if there's something wrong with me, if she doesn't find me physically attractive maybe? Three and half years of rejection are taking their toll and I really don't know what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 3.5 years still isnt ready for any sexual activity."}
{"id": "t3_164mxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Women of reddit, how do I get past a 'fuck you' stated in the heat of a fight? - crossposted from /r/AskReddit [M37] [F31] [18mo relationship]", "post": "My SO and I were in the midst of a nonsensical blow up yesterday, when I slipped with a 'fuck you' which really was meant to say, 'do whatever you want to do.' The SO feels that regardless of context, the 'fuck you' can only be interpreted as the highest level of disrespect. Whereas we are both successful professionals today, we had completely different upbringings - hers was more privileged in China while I grew up in a more blue collar, survive by your quick tongue area of Chicago. The 'fuck you' to me can be used in 1M different ways, but it's just not part of her life. Anyway, she feels that an apology doesn't suffice and this is a deal breaker unless I show some level of 'punishment' where I won't forget this happens again. Her thought was a tennis bracelet (she's not a gold digger), which I have shelved for now as that's a bit ridiculous IMO. So, what can I come back to her with? Brain is tired, so I figured I'd turn to reddit.", "summary": "Beyond an apology, what can I offer my SO for saying 'fuck you'?"}
{"id": "t3_3ga8vr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [19F] of almost 2 years, she is stealing from me?", "post": "My gf is a cam girl. For some videos/skype sessions, the customer wants a couple. My girlfriend asked me to help her out with this and offfered to split the profits. I said cool.\n\nTurns out she hasn't been splitting the profits. Last month she made $2000 from boy/girl stuff (most of the vids/skype/etc are solo), but only gave me $700.\n\nWTF? She owes me $300 still. She mostly does fetish camming and most of the vids/cams revolve around her talking about another guy while I fuck her, so it isn't like this is enjoyable for me. I deserve pay.\n\nEspecially because she stays home all day just sun bathing, working out, and camming while I'm doing a difficult job, yet I make maybe $5K-$6K/mo and she makes over $10K.", "summary": "Girlfriend is stealing money from me, how to confront?"}
{"id": "t3_13wn8v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What if we stopped feeding inmates meat and instead made them vegetarians? A law like that seems to have only benefits?", "post": "the idea is to setup a law designed to push a no meat meal for all inmates in the federal and perhaps state jails. Not completely sure about the complete legal side of the argument. But imagine terrorists eating straight up tofu.\nwell the main reason is that it means less money spent paying for meat, which is expensive in dollars and on the earth. \na couple of other reasons include: healthier inmates! heard to be an issue.\ntheoretically less testosterone= less violence/fighting!\nyeah no ones tried it but just wanna hear your view on the idea. Actually didn't come up with it, but heard it in discussion.", "summary": "vegetarian prisoners!"}
{"id": "t3_32a02h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [20F] doesn't want to go the the movies for a 2nd date with me [23M] because it's a step too far. First date was somehow intimate. Opinions?", "post": "Our first date was a diner date after which we went for a walk and later watched some tv at her house.\nWhile we were watching tv she layed against me while we were holding hands. We ended up cuddling (no kissing)\nWhen I had to go home she asked if I wanted to sleep over. Which I didn't do because I thought things were going too fast and she asked me previously not to play with her.\n\nThe following days we kept texting regularly. I asked her on a 2nd date and suggested to go to the movies. She answers: \"not already on a second date\".\nWhich seems strange to me. Getting some drinks instead is fine for her.\n\nAny opinions? I am surprised she thinks a movie date is too much. Our first date felt intimate to me", "summary": "First date we cuddled for quite some time in the couch."}
{"id": "t3_40qyag", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming my gf knew the difference between chicken and beef", "post": "Happened today, and went so quickly from being upset to laughing that I thought eh, what the hell, should be perfect for Reddit. So this morning my gf and I are deciding what to do for dinner. We decided to use some chicken in the fridge to make shishkabobs. I had to leave for work so I left prep and cooking up to her. Note, she generally sticks to baked good where as I grill, fry, etc. So after work, I head to the gym, needless to say by time I start heading home I'm starving. I get home and the gf is grilling the shishkabobs, I start making sides and all is well in the world. She brings in the \"chicken\" and I first notice it was pretty dark. I asked what she marinated with, which included soy sauce so I figured that was why. We sit down and I take a bite of meat and shortly after I realize somethings not right. \n\nAt this point I should mention there was also some beef, petite sirloin to be exact, in the fridge that I had forgotten about weeks ago. Honest mistake, I hate wasting food. \n\nSo as I'm eating I realize, this. is. beef. I inquire with the gf that I thought we were using chicken, to which she replies she did. Then it dawns on me. I go to the fridge and see the chicken sitting there, and no beef to be found. I asked what she used and she says the bag that had the chicken with soy sauce in it. Apparently, the beef had reached a point where the juices smelt like soy sauce to her, and she thought it was chicken. Fuck. We trash everything are now hoping we don't get sick.", "summary": "gf thought rancid beef was chicken in soy sauce and used it for tonight's dinner."}
{"id": "t3_3sfkjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M], writing letter to ex-fiance [25F]", "post": "This isn't so much advise on my relationship so much as it is advise on writing a letter to her [25F]. My heart is clear, but I am having difficulty finding the words to communicate myself succinctly.\n\nContext: Recently, I moved countries and quit my job to be with my then-fiance of nearly 6 years. The relationship ended 3 months ago (her doing, I still do not know why), and we have been exchanging letters since. This is the last letter I will be sending before seeing her for the first time since the breakup. I'm having trouble writing a particularly critical part (**bolded**)\n\n\"I do not know where the [Her name] I fell in love with has gone, how her heart and mind changed so quickly, or how I failed in my goal to make her happy. Perhaps I will never know. **All I have done is decide you were the most important aspect of my life, act on it, and somehow lost your love in the process.**\"\n\nIn one sentence, I'm trying to:\n\n* Impress upon her the magnitude of the choices I've made for us, thereby reinforcing how much she means to me\n* Reflect on how we arrived here, given where we were, and what I've done\n* Trying to create an tone that is thought-provoking, profound, and honest\n* NOT try to invoke a sense of guilt", "summary": "Need help expressing myself in letter to ex-fiance"}
{"id": "t3_1r0irw", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Best jobs for people with massive anxiety?", "post": "I know this sounds like a weak thing, but I have really bad anxiety. Any type of anxiety you can think of, I probably have it. I'm tired of being a financial drain on my mom, so I need to either find a job super fast or disappear. I tried to do freelancing, but no one ever hires me. I've tried sites like guru.com, elance, odesk, and fiverr, but as an American I can't compete against all the guys from India and Bangladesh offering $3/hr. I've only had one gig through odesk in the span of 1.5 years.\n\nAnyway, my only options are some sort of retail, especially since the holiday season has started, but I probably wouldn't last more than a week. I don't own a car and since my income is limited by whatever my mom has leftover after dealing with the other kids, I never ask for much more. \n\nSo yeah. I'd like to find something I can do. If you have any suggests that'd be great. Sorry for sounding like a weeny.", "summary": "Bad anxiety. Need job that can accomodate. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_r3kk9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone fooled a huge group of people with a dumb fact?", "post": "My experience was back in high school during the week that stride gum came out. I figured that since it was something new and different it would be easy to fool people into thinking something ridiculous about it. \n\nOne day i am sitting in the cafeteria with a pack of stride gum and I think up the perfect story. I turn to my friends and say \"Did you guys know that Stride gum wrappers are edible?\" and of course they laugh and call bullshit, but i do not back down so easily. \"Watch!\" i say as i stick a peppermint stride, wrapper and all, into my mouth and begin to chew. After about 30 seconds, i take the gum out, and to my amusement, the wrapper disappeared! the look of amazement on their faces made me feel like my mission was accomplished. \n\nWeeks pass by and i had almost forgotten about my prank when i take out a pack of stride gum in class and the girl next to me says, \"Did you know you could eat the wrapper on those things?\" i thought she had heard about my prank so i chuckled and asked her to show me. so she took some gum and chewed it took out the gum and showed the missing wrapper. I asked her how she knew this, and she told me a name i hadn't heard before. It made me wonder how far this thing went, so i started seeing how far this prank went. I asked around if people knew that stride gum wrappers were edible and to my surprise, the whole school knew, and most of them believed it! to this day i keep finding the news spreading. From different cities and states people will still tell me that they have heard about the edible wrappers!", "summary": "i convinced a few friends that stride gum wrappers were edible, and found out later that my prank had spread to different states"}
{"id": "t3_344tuy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] thought I was over my ex [19 F]. But I now have a desire to contact her.", "post": "My ex and I broke up some time after about 2 years of being together in February due to reasons with her health and her not being able to see me, she decided to break it off. This upset me deeply but I worked on moving on, and, for the most part I thought I was fine and ready to move on. \n\nI did all the normal thing and went no contact and I havent spoken or messaged her since we broke up, apart from to pick up some of my belongings. Now just as my exams are rolling around I feel a desire to contact her and ask if we could try again or something like that. I know this is stupid, but I just can't shake the feeling that we could give things another go.", "summary": "Broke up with ex because of her health, now I stupidly want to contact her again"}
{"id": "t3_vrmz6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mind racing 1000miles per minute", "post": "First lets get the basics out of the way. \nMe f/20 the boyfriend is m/27 Relationship is 6months long and we have lived together for the past 4months.\nMy boyfriend left his phone home today while he's at work. I usually use his phone anyways but i did something so horrible. I went through his e-mails and in the beginning of February we broke up for two weeks and he slept with another girl. Well we got back together and the e-mail i read was in the end of February from that girl saying she was pregnant. I'm at a loss for words. Granted he's never heard from her since February and she has his cell number, e-mail accounts, and she knows where we live and there's been no other mention of this \"baby\" once he called her out on it but isn't this something he should have mentioned to me? \nI don't believe her anyways she just really wanted her belongings from his house.\n\nThen there's the responses he sent to females on craiglist (before we even met). I don't hold any of this against him but he responded to transexuals as well as gay men looking for \"Tops\". From reading the e-mails it doesn't sound like he's ever gone through with any of the meet ups but it makes me uncomfortable.\n\nI feel awful that i invaded his privacy but now i feel more awkward about what I've read. So what should I do if anything at all?! I'm really stuck here and feel like i have no one to talk to that could understand.", "summary": "Snooped through boyfriend's phone found old alarming e-mails and don't know how to react if at all. Advice please?"}
{"id": "t3_4oui7k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my \"casual girlfriend\" [24F] of 2 months, is distance a good enough reason to end something good?", "post": "I met a girl just under 2 months ago in her hometown while I was studying there for a big test that is next week. We have been honest and open from the get-go that because she got out of something serious a few months ago and is taking next year to travel, and that I am travelling for a month starting next week and then moving 7 hours away to start work back home after, that this would only be a 2-month thing.\n\nProblem is, she/it has gone great. I've done casual before and I am generally able to control my feelings, but a part of my heart is confused. We've spent a good amount of time together, I took her to a wedding (I didn't know many people there, friend from school, we had a blast), I've met some of her friends and family (who are amazing), and the last month and a half has been great.\n\nAm I a fool to not push to give it a chance? I move home (7 hour ride) Friday, then leave sunday to another country for a month. Then I get back and start work, and she will either be working still or travelling overseas as well. There is almost a 100% chance that we are at least 7 hours apart for the next year, and so my gut tells me to stick with our decision, and because she has plans to possibly come to grad school in my home town the following year, leave it up to fate to see if we end up in the same city again.\n\nMy heart just feels sad about having to end things, and it really sucks, but I think once I get out of the country on my trip then settle in back home, I'll be fine moving forward.\n\nAny advice? Similar stories/feelings? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "seeing an amazing girl for 2 months but from the start we agreed it wasn't going to last due to me moving away/us being apart for at least the next year. Think it's right move but heart hurts and looking for advice/stories"}
{"id": "t3_25cwbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] and my bf [25 M], are planning on stay in his parents house to save for a house; can I and how can I establish boundaries with them?", "post": "So here's the details; my boyfriend and I want to buy a house within the next year or so - but we know that if we were to go out and rent it would be much harder to save for a down-payment.  \n\nHis parents approached us with the idea that we could live in their basement (where my SO currently stays), renovate it to make it more like a basement apartment and pay rent at a much less price than we would if we actually went out and rented. (somewhere around $300-$500/mnth) \n\nThat being said, even though this is a great offer I do have my hesitations. My biggest is boundaries; both his parents are retired and are home quite often. They'll often come into his room when we're together, many times without knocking and stay around for a while.\n\nThough I don't *always* have a problem with it, it does bug me a little. So I'm worried that when I move in that they'll be hanging around more often.\n\nI understand, its their house and they can do what they want - though my bf says if we're paying rent they can't just come down here (ya right!). \n\nSo my question is, is it possible to establish boundaries with your in-laws when you live with them? and if so, how?", "summary": "Planning on living with bf's parents basement, paying a low rent price. Is it possible to establish boundaries with them? And if so, how?"}
{"id": "t3_11zohh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I just pulled an asshole move and annoyed my neighbours with my loud music late at night. What's a good gift to make amends?", "post": "It was 10:45. I just got back to my apartment with my fabulous date. I wanted to share some awesome music I discovered, and turned it up to loud from enthusiasm and then the making out began, so I completely lost track of everything. My neighbours called, I didn't hear it for obvious reasons, then they texted, also did not receive for the same reasons. All in all from the times on the call and the texts it was only 25 minutes but when trying to sleep, 25 minutes is ETERNITY. I want to give them a nice present that says \"I'm sorry, I'm a horny selfish bastard, please forgive me\". Any suggestions Reddit?", "summary": "I annoyed my neighbours with loud music, what's a good way to make it up?"}
{"id": "t3_343rgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my boyfriend [30/M] of three years. Clinging onto a toxic(?) relationship and needing help to let go.", "post": "First off, this guy is my best friend. I love him, but we've always fought. Sometimes as little as once in a few months, sometimes as often as four or five times in a week. Regardless, fights have been a regular thing. They usually revolve around disparity in social needs (I want more time together; he wants more time alone) and exes (that one has been solved for the most part). \n\nLately, our fights have been full of blame/accusations, grudges, and personal attacks. It's resulted in us living separately after two years of living together and him cutting off lines of communication. \n\nBut even though we've got all this bitterness, I can't seem to end things. Everytime I think of ending this relationship, I think of the way he kisses me, the pet names, etc. and then I wimp out. I've lived in this state for four years, and I've been with him for three of them. I associate the whole metropolitan city with him. \n\nI keep thinking things will get better. And they do, for awhile. They're great. But, in between, I have to withstand the fights full of verbal abuse, accusations, blame. It gets really hurtful and really personal. \n\nPeople who have been in this type of relationship and also were very attached to that partner, how did you end up leaving? What helped you do it? How did you cope?", "summary": "Very attached to verbally abusive partner. People who have been in similar situations, how did you convince yourself to end thigns and how did you cope afterwards?"}
{"id": "t3_4vv247", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I [24M] am pretty lost/confused on what to do with girl [22F] who I am sure likes me, but also has a boyfriend", "post": "Okay. I met this girl maybe about 3 months ago, and I kind of suspected her of liking me since before we actually formally met each other, as she was always that one girl at every house show I'd go to that would be staring at me from across the room. \n\nFast-forward a little bit to her birthday party that was 2 weeks ago:\nShe had interactions with me that made me pretty much 100% that she does like me, and to add to my own sureness, several of our friends came up to me and said something along the lines of, \"hey, she obviously really likes you.\" \n\nLater that night, we're all still hanging out, and we're talking about a camping trip that this girl is about to go on.\nWhen I asked whom she is going camping with, her response was, \"My... boyfriend.\"\nShe didn't seem too thrilled to mention him.\n\nOf course, learning that she has a boyfriend was surprising to me myself, but a peculiar thing is that her roommates/best friends for the past few years also had reactions along the lines of, \"what boyfriend? Since when do you have a boyfriend?\"\n\nSo yeah, for some reason she has a boyfriend that no one knows exists except for her.\n\nFast-forward to 2 nights ago, when I run into her at our mutual friend's show. We had some great conversation, and the night ended with me walking her to her car, and we exchanged phone numbers.", "summary": "Like this girl, entirely sure that she likes me back, but she has a secret boyfriend and I'm just freaking out about the whole thing"}
{"id": "t3_1odykx", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Feeling completely disconnected.", "post": "I work as a new nurse in a hospital and find myself wondering why I even got in the profession. 12 hour night shifts are terrible terrible things to day people. Put that in with an emotionally demanding group of people where you can never give enough and if you make a mistake you could seriously hurt them-and it all just doesn't seem worth it. I'm nearing 30. I'm a virgin. I have an eating disorder that follows me around. My friends are all health care professionals that are impossible to schedule meet ups with. My family is either emotionally stunted or too arrogant to consider that I'm falling apart. I'm in therapy but it doesn't seem to be helping. I consider myself fiercely independent but goddammit could I use a freakin' hug. I'm putting one step in front of another but I don't feel like myself at all. Ugh.", "summary": "I hate the way my life is working right now."}
{"id": "t3_2ikduo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my now ex [20F] have just broken up and I don't know what to do", "post": "I'm still in shock. My girlfriend of two years came to my apartment last night and I was blindsided by the fact that she had been unhappy and wanted to break up with me. This summer, I saved up $3k for an engagement ring and was planning a proposal in March. She gave a list of reasons, but essentially she felt like I was too critical of her, too rude to her, and that she constantly felt like she wasn't good enough. I knew I was too critical, but most of the time I was just messing around and I never thought it was a big deal. We live in the same apartment complex and go to the same church and have the same friend groups. \n\nHow do I deal with this and move on? Do you all have any tips on what to do to get over this? I'm completely shocked and heart broken.", "summary": "Broke up with gf unexpectedly and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1k3vvf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did sex ruin our (23f &23m) friendship?", "post": "I (f23) had sex with my friend (m23) three times in the past month. Each time we were either completely wasted, or at least tipsy (depending on the instance). I just got out of my first real relationship of 3 years, and have never slept with a friend like that. He initiated it each time and stayed over after. We never discussed it past \"that was good\". I wrote it off as a drunken night decision but I noticed a little shift in our relationship. I've also starting seeing someone else recently (not exclusively) which he knows but I assumed that would be fine. Maybe that was my mistake...We've been good friends for about 5 years.\n\nI'm pretty certain most responses will be to just talk to him, but he's pretty insistent on being busy all the time now, when he responds at all (like a suspicious, bs excuse-y amount)...So I can't.", "summary": "had sex with a friend a few times and never discussed it. Wondering if I made it weird."}
{"id": "t3_30yt4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "An issue with my Girlfriend [22F] and the holidays.. am I over reacting?", "post": "I've been dating this girl for about a year and we are starting to spend holiday's together, I'm going over her house on easter for a few hours and then going to see my family when she leaves for work, she asked \"are they going to be mad I'm not coming?\" I said no, I'll just tell them you're working that night and she said can you just tell them I'm with my family instead? does that sound better? which seemed kinda weird and prompted me to ask if she ever plans on spending any holidays with my family, she basically said no, not if her family is doing something the same day and she doesn't want to leave her family's early/go later to go spend time wit my family, when I questioned her about her reasoning she said it was because I'm not that close with my family, which is true, I'm not nearly as close with my family as she is to hers, we were estranged for ~20 years until my mom died and I started going around them more and this includes spending every holiday with them for the past 2 years, which is the only time I see them. I told her if I was closer to my family would she come to things with me and she said \"I don't know... maybe but you're not so why are we talking this\"\n\nI told her that is ridiculously selfish and what does she expect me to do, never see my family again if her family is having an event on the same day and exactly how would I get closer to my family never seeing them? I know that I could go alone to my family events, but wouldn't that be a bit weird my girlfriend never coming to easter/christmas/thanksgiving/etc and me going alone to mine and her going alone to hers or me going with her sometime but her never going with me?\n\nI'm not asking her to choose my family over hers all the time, I just think there should be some kind of compromise like thanksgiving here, christmas there, etc.\n\nAm I overreacting and this isn't a big deal or do I have a legit reason to be frustrated/pissed/annoyed/whatever", "summary": "girlfriend basically told me she will never choose going with me to a family event or even splitting the time with her family if her family is doing something the same day because I'm not as close to my family as she is to her, do I have a right to be upset?"}
{"id": "t3_3gurbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24 M] (ex) girlfriend [23 F] recently ended our 6 month relationship. Spoke to her last week and did not receive a straight answer as to why this happened.", "post": "We haven't had any issues up until a few weeks ago.  And she suddenly just ended it. I tried asking her what happened, but she just told me that she needs to figure out what she wants and that she needs to work on herself. I last spoke to her last Friday, and she said to give her two weeks to think about things. I already know what the answer is going to be,  but I promised that I would not contact her at all. I have a feeling that she's already moved on, but I'm just sitting here waiting for her answer. I don't know if I should move on or if I should just hold on for now.", "summary": "girlfriend of six months  broke up with me out of nowhere. Don't know if I should move on yet."}
{"id": "t3_1egd6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Disabled schoolmate [16f] has been crushing on me for the past month and makes me [17m] feel extremely uncomfortable", "post": "Okay so i have a problem. There's this really sweet girl in my school that has a crush on me. I'm not interested whatsoever. Its been well over a month. The thing is she has a some sort of  mental handicap and social barrier. Whenever I'm around her i feel extremely uncomfortable because i feel her staring at me and she goes out of her way to approach me and corner me in the hallways. Somehow she always finds me. She finds me and embraces me and then i am forced to engage in an awkward conversation.  It has reached the point in which i make sure to avoid her and go in opposite directions when i see her. \n\nThe other day i did something really fucked up which i regret, but i didn't know what to do. She cornered me in the hallway and asked me for my number. I gave her a fake number. She was so excited and happy . I instantly regretted this decision and i felt like shit afterwards. But yesterday she found me and told me i gave her the wrong number. I apologized and gave her the right number. She won't leave me alone. I'm extremely nice to her and don't want to hurt her feelings.  What should i do?", "summary": "handicapped girl has been crushing on me and makes me extremely uncomfortable. don't want to hurt feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2g64du", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to make new friends", "post": "I go to swim team every day, today was one of those days where I arrived very early so I had some time to spare. I took this time to explore the nearby wash near the swim team building. Now I don't have many friends so I was delighted to hear some voices coming from above me. I decided to try and befriend these people so I climbed up to a higher position so I could see the strangers.\n\n   This is where things went horribly wrong.\n\n   I was not greeted by friendly looking teenagers as I hoped. Instead I saw four middle-aged men huddled around in a circle. I looked at them for a little less than a minute and I guess one of them saw me because they all turned in my direction. They started to yell at me. I couldn't make out what they were saying since they were pretty far away from me but one of them pointed at me and they all started walking over to where I was. That was when I booked it in the opposite direction as fast as I fucking could. So I Usain Bolted my ass to the other side of the wash, they were yelling at me as I ran but when I stopped running I couldn't hear their voices anymore. I think to myself that I'm in the clear so I walk back to the main street that the swim team building is on. That was when I saw it.\n\n   **A BLACK VAN WITH NO WINDOWS** comes blazing down the road doing at least 50. They park on the curb and they all hop out of the van. I then realize that it's the same guys I ran from. At that moment I kind of just froze, \"Let's put this motherfucker in a body bag!\" one of the men said to me. The guy grabbed my shirt but he lost it and I ran as fast as I possibly could to the swim team building. I assume the guys went back into the wash to find me but I haven't seen them since practice ended.", "summary": "Some strangers tried to kidnap me"}
{"id": "t3_3a7hqh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I need help, what should i do", "post": "So well yeah, i am 16 years old and well i have never had a girlfriend before, and some months ago i started hanging out with a very hot girl IMO and it went pretty well with her and i am pretty sure she liked me to, i was planning on asking her out on a date but i guess i waited to long and now its probably too late, but yeah 1 month ago i met my old friend lets call him John and hung out with him, the girl and her friend, and John did everything he could to look like a gentleman so the girls would like him and i guess it worked because now they hang with John really much and always when i are with those girls they want to call John, and 2 days ago i found out that he had lied my crush that i had done alot of shit, and that i dont like her and orher stuff and now she is really mad at me, and when i found out that he had lied to her i got so fucking mad at him that i was just seconds from stabbing with a knife because this isnt the first time he has done this to me but i didnt do it because i still want to be friends with this dude and if i did it those firls would never talk to me again... Help me reddit, i dont know what to do to get her to like me again and ask her out on a date before its too late this time. sorry for shitty spelling..", "summary": "Friend made crush hate me, almost stabbed him need help to get her to like me again."}
{"id": "t3_2nx6jy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my Gf [33 M/F] of 1.5 months, children", "post": "Edit: Title should read 33F\n\nNew account, new to reddit.\n\nI've been seeing my gf now for about a couple months, but we had known and been talking to each other for about a month before that.\n\nBackground, we are very similar personality wise, and get along together great. It's still not very serious (exclusive and having sex regularly, but still living separately, neither has said I love you or anything).\n\nWe had the whole define the relationship talk early on as we are both open, straight forward, honest people. One of the topics was how she felt about children. Very important topic to talk about so soon, but she didn't want to \"waste\" my time. Essentially, while she likes children, she said she is almost positive about not wanting any of her own. It wasn't easy for her to say this, and I could tell. I want to know if I reacted the right way, r/relationships.\n\nI told her that I didn't know if I wanted kids at all either, but definetely not at this point in my life. What I didn't discuss with her is that I don't know if that will change. I don't want to hurt her, and because she seems so steadfast in her position, I don't want to bring it up before I know exactly what i want to say.\n\nHow do I bring up that I may or may not want kids in the future, and should I even mention it, being we haven't been together very long?", "summary": "Gf doesn't want kids, I don't know if I will or will not."}
{"id": "t3_3qaei3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] of 2 years doesn't think he can be \"in love\"", "post": "I (28 F) have been with my boyfriend (28 M) for 2 years. He's my best friend and we get along really well. He's a good boyfriend to me and we have a lot of fun together. He gets along great with my friends and family. However, lately the relationship feels stagnant and it seems like there is no future. I think the reason I feel this way is he has never communicated his feelings towards me and I am starting to develop stronger feelings towards him. We haven't said I love you, even though I do feel that way about him and have said it to him. I believe that saying those words shouldn't be rushed but he told me he doesn't know if he can be in love...ever. He doesn't know if he loves his family and he often feels \"nothing\" towards people.  I think he might be suffering from some form of depression. If I try to talk about our relationship it usually turns into a fight where he totally shuts down. I've asked him several times if he wants to be together and that if he wants out we can still be friends. He always says he wants to be together when I give him this option. \n\nWe talked this weekend about it and he admitted he thinks he might have depression because he feels very up and down all the time and often feels \"nothing\" and wants to \"disappear.\" He said he doesn't know if he'll ever have strong enough feelings to be in love and that he's had this same problem in his last relationship.\n\nPart of me thinks he is suffering from depression and that things could change and that I should be there for him but part of me thinks it's stupid for me to hold out for someone who may never feel strongly enough about me in the way I need. I would like to stress that otherwise things are really great between us, we have the same interests, the same sense of humor, and he is truly my best friend.", "summary": "My boyfriend doesn't think he can be in love. He might be depressed. Might just not feeling strongly enough about me."}
{"id": "t3_2ucvt1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Med student [29 M] dated another medical student [27 F], broke up a year ago, still trying to get over it.", "post": "Hey guys I'm a medical student. When I first started medical school I met one of my classmates and immediately fell for her. Silly me, thought that because she had a similar background to me and that she was in medical school too, it WOULD work out. So for the first semester I decided to pursue her. She was super skeptical about it, but sometime during the end of the semester she relented and ended up dating me. I really put a lot of emotion and effort into it when she was only marginally interested. The fact that she was skeptical about it in the beginning should have been my cue to just back off. Anyways, fast forward 2 months later, she decided to end things with me. I was pretty devastated for a while. Even went on a rebound relationship from someone outside of the class. Even though this happened last Feb, shit is still super awkward between her and I. I can't even go to the same parties as her and I try my best to just keep a distance. Super hard when you have to see her every day. Am I over it? For the most part, but it would definitely help if I didn't see her.\n\nAnyways, it's been almost a year since this happened. I've dated other people. My grades have been totally fine, been getting above average marks. Yet, whenever I see her, I still get so angry/sad inside me that it happened. In a way, I'm over it and in a way I'm not. I know I have to let go, but I just really don't know how. I wish I didn't have to see her at all.", "summary": "Med student dated another med student thinking she was the one. Got heart broken and have been dealing with it for a year. Moved on physically... know I have to let go, but I see her almost everyday since we're in the same classes, how does one let go with this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_3ftoqo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating Muffins", "post": "This happened today. Yay......\nSo I was minding my own business playing some Xbox with friends, when I decided to go get a chocolate chip muffin. I eat the muffin and put the wrapping on my dresser in a napkin. The next day I do the same thing, and put the wrapper on the dresser. The day after that I decide I want to go do some stuff on my laptop and open it up to find a small sugar ant crawling across it. I kill it and think nothing of it. Then, more start to crawl out of the keyboard and pester me. Now, I'm sitting here with a shoe, waiting for ants to come out, killing them. I hate my life.", "summary": "laptop full of ants."}
{"id": "t3_43k4oz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] don't want my Dad [44M] having a Girlfriend", "post": "My parents are divorced, I live with my father and he's never dated or anything since their divorce. I've always been much closer with my dad than mom, my mom was an alcoholic and did a lot of messed up things (cheat, hit both my dad and I, stea). Now he's seeing this woman, and I don't like her. I worry if she'll hurt him in ways my mother did. They've been dating for a couple months and I don't want them to. I feel kind of like she's trying to replace me, I want to be the closest female to him and I don't know what to do. I know that might sound weird haha, but I just don't like her at all. What can I say to him to get him to stop dating her? Are my feelings normal?", "summary": "My dad has a girlfriend and I don't like her."}
{"id": "t3_2116cm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Austrian romance...", "post": "I just need to get things off my chest cuz its been bugging me.\nI came to Austria to visit family and travel Europe for 13 days, I will be leaving Monday the 24th. I started writing to a friend of my cousins whom I have never met or spoke to in my life. This girl for some odd reason made me feel like I could tell her anything,  I felt so comfortable writing to her. Yesterday we finally met, and she is even more amazing in person.  Short, beautiful,  lovely blue eyes and her accent when she speaks English makes me feel like I'm a 12 year old boy. Ended up having the night of my life, the clubs were empty but me and her connected in a way I've never connected with a woman. I have a girlfriend of two years in the states and she told me she has a boyfriend of 1.5 years.  She said her love for him has dwindled away due to some issues in the relationship.  We ended up kissing, and it was just like in the movies, hand on her leg she grabbed my hand and lips were locked. It was magical, as if I had won the lottery. She started to cry, she felt horrible for cheating as did I yet I wanted more as did she. We ended up messaging the whole night and we figured we are young (her 20 me 22) that we have nothing to lose or gain. We went on a walk this morning and we kissed some more. I leave Monday and I will miss this girl so much, I wish I could stay..she ended up breaking up with her bf but not due to her cheating but because she knew she didn't love him anymore.  My gf in the states doesn't know, and our relationship is startung to lose its spark. I will always remeber my Austrian romance and I will look back at this as a time that I will never regret. Thanks for reading.", "summary": "puppy love in Austria..."}
{"id": "t3_1738zs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He (31/m) is an amazing guy, but I (29/m) just am not feeling it... romantic getaway scheduled for this weekend, WTF do I do?", "post": "I've been in a long distance relationship with this guy since October of last year. He lives 6 hours away and we've visited each other only three times, but we communicate frequently via text, phone, email, and (occasionally) written letters. When we first met I fell SO HARD for him. He was a 99% match on OKcupid and on paper he seemed like a perfect mate for me, so even though I had thought I was forever done with LDRs I figured I would give it a try. He has been nothing short of super sweet and patient with me always, which I have never experienced before, and he has surprised me numerous times with some truly beautiful and touching hand-made gifts.\n\nHowever, since our last visit I've had this feeling that we're just not right for each other in the long run. We have differing opinions about how quickly we want to move forward and whether or not to someday have kids, and there is a palpable lack of chemistry; dates with him involve SO. MUCH. AWKWARD. SILENCE. It is killing me that this wonderful guy just isn't right for me. I wish I could be as giving and loving to him as he has been to me, but it just feels weird and I know I have to break it off.\n\nThe problem is, we are supposed to go away for what was going to be a \"romantic weekend\"... I recently told him that I was having uncertainties about the relationship and that I wanted to talk to him about it in person. He said sure, good idea. So, it's really going to be a \"we need to talk\" weekend :-/  \n\nI guess this is the kind of thing I have to play by ear, but I would love some guidance re: how to approach this situation. I hate the thought of him driving 3 hours to meet me at a hotel, only for me to say that maybe we shouldn't stay together, but I would feel worse saying it over the phone or through some other means of communication. I guess my real question is, how can I make this break-up as non-shitty for him as possible?", "summary": "Supposed to have a weekend away with my super-nice but incompatible long-distance boyfriend; I'm pretty sure I need to break things off and don't want to be a dick about it. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2mbsbo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/F] boyfriend [22/M] and I live together in a small space. He constantly plays bass guitar with an amp that doesn't allow him to plug in headphones. Some days it's excruciating but I worry it's mean to tell him to stop. What should I do?", "post": "bass is one of his passions. I don't care how good it sounds -- it's annoying if it's in my ears for over an hour, especially if he's playing the same riff or song over and over and over.\n\nHis amp doesn't allow him to plug in headphones so he can't practice quietly. Also I wonder if the clicking of him pulling the bass strings would still be annoying even if the notes were muted.\n\nWhat should I do? How can I not be mean about this? Do I have the right to even ask him to stop? How often should I be allowed to ask him to stop?", "summary": "boyfriend plays bass in our small apt all the time and it's annoying"}
{"id": "t3_3txcmc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my [29 M] concerned he hasn't dropped the L bomb yet.", "post": "So my boyfriend and I have been together just over 1.5 years. To give a brief background on him, he was dating a girl very seriously from 2006-2010 and unfortunately, she passed away unexpectedly. \n\nAlthough he went out on a handful of dates following her death, I was his first official relationship that he was ready to have, 4 years later in 2014. And I 100% believe him when he tells me that. Though she still has a special place in his heart, he never makes me feel like I am second to her in any way.\n\nAs we close in on the 2 year mark, I am beginning to feel uneasy about him not telling me that he loves me yet. He always told me that telling someone he loves them was almost as serious as proposing marriage, but I worry that maybe he just really really likes me a lot, but doesn't love me like I love him.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "Boyfriend still hasn't told me he loves me after 1.5 years together."}
{"id": "t3_26nay9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my Friends[22-24F] 8Mo, Warped thought process?", "post": "With divorce, romances, and friendships falling apart at a greater quantity than familial bonds.  This in my book makes familial bonds even stronger.  I ask that you read this thread with an open mind and think of the symbolism behind it. \n\nDo I have a warped mindset that if I do not view a person as my sibling that a romantic relationship or friendship wont be as strong?  Families stick together through thick and thin and viewing them as a sister before romance should strengthen the bond right?  \n\nOne thing too: I have no sisters of my own IRL, just bros.   And I have always wanted a sister-relationship over a romantic relationship at this point in my life.   Because if I cant treat them like my own flesh and blood, I dont feel like I could treat them with the level of ultimate respect they deserve.\n\nAgain, the above is my logic to the whole love deal.  I am asking if it is a warped thought process.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2p6bmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] am stuck between two men [22 M] and [23M]. Former dumped me in Sept, the latter entered a FWB relationship, and the former wants back in.", "post": "In September my boyfriend of 10 months (Bart) broke up with me. We had been fighting almost all summer and it was a long, heartbreaking process. For the last month he insisted he didn't need to say \"I love you\" and we almost never had sex. Awful. \n\nAbout a month later my ex (Steve) from less than an hour away just dumped his ex and we entered a sort of FWB situation. We had been there before because we have excellent sexual chemistry, but the romance wasn't there for YEARS. Now, after a month, the first ex (Bart) and I exchanged letters and we agreed to a friendship, he started going to the gym with me and it was a really good. We both achieved long-sought goals of physical fitness and he was a good motivator. The past two weeks he's been getting cozier. Four days ago he came over and we finally kissed again and we had a loooong talk. I explained that telling somebody you don't love them, and wont have sex with them, isn't a real relationship. He had many many emotional outbursts in the past, which I explained were totally unacceptable. \n\nThen he pulled what feels like a high school girl move and opened up about a dark secret (long story is he was taken advantage of by a Sugar Daddy who helped pay for college expenses and it had repercussions that manifested as intimacy issues). I told him I didn't really give a shit about it. I also told him that I'd be open to another attempt at a relationship but I wont call him my boyfriend or partner until \"It damn well feels like it\". Maybe that wasn't fair of me. \n\nSo here I am, between two boys. The FWB (Steve) needs to be made aware because we established an exclusive sexual relationship for health reasons. I dunno if I want to go back to an emotionally immature, possibly sexless relationship. Oh and all three of us aren't financially independent because student loans lol", "summary": "I don't know whether to take back the crazy, or stick with the dick I've known for years. Both satisfy separate needs. Halp?"}
{"id": "t3_u90m2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lies on the internet about my father, Lost his job and cant get a new one because of what this guy is saying.", "post": "its a fairly long story so i will do my best to make it to the point. My dad  was dealing with this guy over seas about a tile business they were working on together. One thing led to another and the guy turned sour with him and started accusing my father of owing him all this money. I talked to my dad about it and he explained the whole thing out to me and what basically happened is the guy decided to charge him for a bunch of free samples he gave to my dad.\n\nMy dad obviously refuses to pay it and as a result the guy becomes furious and rights a blog and several reviews for his name pretty much trashing him. Now whenever my dad is looking for a job or someone to work with to get some money just for us to get by, he gets shut down. People will just google his name and believe what they see right away.\n\nNow im turning to the people of reddit. I could really use some help. I need somebody to help me get these things off google or at least make them less visible. If anyone has any advice for me please dont hesitate to share :). Also if you want his name to look up the stuff that is being said message me and i can send it to you.", "summary": "There is this guy writing lies about my dad trashing his name and it makes it impossible for my dad to find work. If anyone could help it would be greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_gsjvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cheated, but I never did again...", "post": "Ive been in a great relationship for almost 2 years now. We are both seniors in high school. A couple months ago, I started talking to a girl I have always liked. She obviously was into me too, sending me a picture of her half naked after talking for two days. I have had a crush on this girl since eighth grade, but she dated my best friend the last two years. I figured this was my only chance to see if we were good for each other. We ended up making out with some other stuff twice. Then we stopped and I decided not to pursue anything more with her. Should I just keep it a secret or tell me gf? I would never cheat again, and was just exploring a lost love.", "summary": "I cheated, but kept it a secret. Should I tell now?"}
{"id": "t3_1x05i4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Texas boyfriend [m25] gets very argumentative with me [f26] when we have a disagreement.", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year. Whenever we have a disagreement he's very aggressive and I'm fairly submissive. He blames it on him being from Texas and me being from Minnesota. He's also very direct and matter of fact. I tend to beat around the bush and have trouble putting in to words how I feel. \n\nHave any of you experienced communication difficulties due to where you're from? How did you cope?", "summary": "Texas boyfriend dominates arguments with his Minnesotan girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_2rri54", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Applying for Chase Sapphire with Low Credit History", "post": "Hi reddit!\n\nI wanted some insight on the requirements to get a Chase Sapphire credit card. First, a little background: I'm an under 30 US citizen and have lived most of my life abroad. I moved back to the US in Feb 2013 and now have a job in finance making around $60k annually.\n\nBecause I only recently returned to the US, I basically have no credit history. I opened a secured credit card with Capital One in Feb 2014 (just about 1 year ago) and have used the card responsibly (always paid bills on time, never used more than 35% of limit). In Aug 2014, I applied for the Sapphire and received a letter saying I didn't have enough credit history to be considered.\n\nSo, my question is, how much history do I need? Should I consider reapplying now that it's been a full year? Chase didn't pull my credit last time I applied.\n\nTHANKS!", "summary": "I have one year of responsible credit history and I want a Chase Sapphire card. Is that enough to qualify me?"}
{"id": "t3_1ap8zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I want to tell my friends (28M+F) I've pushed back a life-changing move so I (27M) can MC their wedding.", "post": "Hey guys\n\nI'll keep it pretty brief. Two of my friends have recently got engaged after having been together for over eight years. I love them both; he's one of my high school buds and she was best friends with a girl I used to date. The ex and I actually introduced them way back when, when we were all in college.\n\nNow they're getting married mid-year and the bride-to-be called me this week asking if I'd be the MC at their wedding. Of course I was flattered and accepted without hesitation. This of course isn't the problem.\n\nThe catch is that I'm quitting my job and moving overseas in the same month. Not everyone in my life knows about this; I've been hesitant to talk widely about it because I don't want some small reference (on Facebook or something) to tip off my employer. I wouldn't be fired for having a clear exit strategy, but the next few months wouldn't be particularly comfortable for anyone. Anyway I've already booked a flight - to make it real to myself as much as anything - and I've begun to slowly wind up some of my affairs. My soon-to-be-hitched friends don't know about this, since they live in another city and life often gets in the way of us catching up.\n\nThe real catch is that flight was booked for three days before their wedding. When I agreed to be their MC I thought that my departure was three days *after* the big day, not before it. I double-checked the dates, swore loudly, and decided that being there for their wedding was more important.", "summary": "Friends are getting married and asked me to be in the ceremony. Wedding is three days after I'd booked a flight to chase a long-time career dream. I've pushed the flight back and want to tell them that they mean that much to me that I've delayed that move by a week. How?"}
{"id": "t3_2ur4lo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being racist", "post": "Not today, but whatever. \n\nI went to a new Korean store that just opened at this mall. I saw some Korean cereals and I thought I should try some. \n\nI went home and decided to try out the cereal. I did the usual, poured the cereal, then the milk, then I tasted it. \n\nIt tasted very, *very* weird. Almost unappealing. \n\nI thought it was the kind of taste Koreans liked. I just decided to go on and eat all of it since I didn't want to make such a waste. \n\nThen I decided to get a glass of milk to wash away the *\"Korean\"* taste.  That's when I realized my fuck up. \n\nIt tasted unappealing not because of some \"Korean\" taste, it's because **the milk I used was spoiled.", "summary": "Korean cereal tastes weird. Thought it was Korean taste, turned out to be spoiled milk. "}
{"id": "t3_34pu3a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My GF [F/18] says she got kissed by another guy. What do I do?", "post": "So my girlfriend got kissed by this guy at a party \"out of the blue\". She says that she pushed him away instantly and gathered her girlfriends in a room crying for advice on what to do now. She didn`t tell me until she came back to her place. (I was waiting for her)\n\nWhen she told me I didn`t really believe her, and frankly it didnt hurt me at first. We went to bed and she started crying over how much it wasn`t her fault and that the kid had been kissing alot of other girls that night. She begged me not to break up with her, and I forgave her after listening to her (but not fully believing her unlikely story).\n\nWhat should I do now? This is the second time in our 5 month long relationship she`s kissed a guy. The other time (in the start of our relationship) she made out with another guy and cried to me etc.", "summary": "My GF says she got kissed by another guy out of the blue, I forgave her after listening to her but now I`m clueless what to do and how to trust her again when shes drinking."}
{"id": "t3_4juyep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22 M] one year, finding LDR hard and wanting some advice", "post": "So I've been exclusive with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, long distance for a few months. Our relationship wasn't always long distance, we used to live in the same city but I got accepted into medical school and had to move. He works in research and is applying for jobs in my city so that we can be together again in the future.\n\nI guess I'm just finding it hard to feel loved and desired with all this physical distance between us and I was hoping to get some advice or encouragement from fellow redditors on things we can do to close the (figurative) distance and perhaps some words of encouragement. Stories on how you did it or how friends have made a LDR work for them would also be much appreciated as one tends to not hear about when things work our so much. \n\nI have no desire to end the relationship and I love him very much.", "summary": "22F and 24M, 1 yr, now in LDR: seeking advice and encouragement on how to handle the distance."}
{"id": "t3_3opva9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What's the least horrible way for me [M27] to reconnect with people I've simply ignored?", "post": "I have a very, very bad personal habit and please rest assured that I am fully aware of how damaging it is. I do try to change, but at the same time, I feel like I need to be accepting of my own shortcomings and not beat myself up too harshly.\n\nSometimes, all my responsibilities get to confusing for me and I go into hiding. Entirely. I do not reply to any messages and do not fulfill my promises.\n\nGladly, most people aren't too judgmental. But I simply don't know how to reconnect with them in a way that causes both parties least pain. Should I be brief about it? i.e. \"Sorry, I've got some serious issues going on. Nothing personal. Here I am!\" Or am I better off if I open myself up and explain what exactly happened to me? What if I revert to a lie? I prefer to keep my relationships honest, but maybe saying that I was in the hospital is the approach most likely to make them forgive me? I don't know. If you had somebody not replying to you for several weeks, what would you like to hear?", "summary": "I ignored friends for weeks. What do I say for them to be most likely to forgive me?"}
{"id": "t3_2w9t7n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] can't figure out how to healthily be attracted to someone", "post": "I used to be a socially awkward nerd. I'm still a socially awkward nerd, but now if you dress well, that's cool somehow. I've gotten the chance to date some really, really attractive women in my early 20s. Some that thought very highly of themselves. There's also a lot of attractive, smart, funny guys out there. So, being young and exploratory, many have sorta kept me at arm's length. There's a sort of bittersweetness to distance I'm sure everyone understands. I've also dated physically long distance! The same bittersweetness is there too because you often just can't have the thing you want. My friend thinks I date for entertainment value and not for moral character and I'd probably agree.\n\nNow? I've met someone. She's very young, and whip smart and emotionally very mature, with the exception of having gone all in emotionally to our relationship after having dated for a few weeks. She's young. I don't know what I'm feeling. I feel like she's wonderful. I also don't feel the immediate tense grip in my chest I feel when I don't get a text back from a girl I'm infatuated with, or the lingering tenseness from the apparent distance. I mean logically she's great. Wonderful. I feel like I'm broken but I don't know how to fix it! I also feel like she might just be too young and the maturity gap is making it hard for me to feel attracted.", "summary": "What's a good relationship supposed to feel like?"}
{"id": "t3_2de691", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] Friends with Married [30 M] Who Seems to Want More", "post": "I've become friends over the past few months with a great guy. We met through friends, and often all hang out as a group. He and I have an obvious attraction to one another, but I would never do anything to impose on his marriage. It is also worth mentioning that I have never met his wife. She does not come out with him to our group outings. \n\nLast night, just he and I met up for drinks and a few games of pool/darts. (Yes, I know, Danger, Will Robinson!) After he had a few too many, he confided in me that he wished he had met me earlier, and that it seemed unfair to him that he was married while I am \"out on the streets single.\" He also mentioned that he is finding it harder and harder to be a perfect gentleman around me as far as how the extent of his flirtatiousness goes... He also clearly stated he does love his wife, even when he feels like they don't understand each other sometimes. \n\nI can't say I'm confused by the situation, as I know it seems almost trivial and textbook, but it's one that I have never found myself in before. What can I say to him to ensure that I remain out of the way of his marriage without losing him as a friend? Is that even possible, or do I have to completely abandon this relationship?", "summary": "Friends with flirtatious married man who told me he wished we had met before he met his wife."}
{"id": "t3_2rojrk", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My employer processed my time-sheets late because of their Christmas break. Now I'm not getting payed for the hours that I worked for another two weeks. (Nebraska)", "post": "Hello all, thanks in advance for any advice you may have.\n\nLet me preface this by letting you know that I am currently working an hourly security position for a state College in Nebraska. We are part time (30hrs/week), hand in our timestamps every Monday and are paid bi-weekly.\n\nChristmas break for employees at the college I work for was from 12-23-2014 to 1-5-2015. However, the Department I work in (Security) does not get any of this time off and I ended up working my regular hours and I filled out my time-stamp and turned it in on time. On Monday the 5th of January 2015 (when college employees returned), my manager turned in all of the timestamps from our department, and found out that the people in charge of payroll decided that they didn't have time to process all 6 of them and told us that we would have to wait until the 22nd of January to get paid. \n\nWhat exacerbates this is that before break my manager was informed that if all time-sheets were turned in on the first day back from break, that they would be processed and put on the payday for the 8th of January. \n\nSo, as a student already struggling to make ends meet and bills to pay, I'm sitting here getting half of what I should be getting payed on the 8th of January.\n\nI had a meeting with the lady who is charge of payroll, and over the course of the better part of an hour, all that I got from her was a \"Well, you guys are just going to have to wait until the 22nd, there's nothing I can do.\" \n\nWhat steps, if any, can I take here? I did everything right on my end, so I feel like there should be something that I can do. Thanks a ton!", "summary": "HR messed up and didn't process my time-stamp on time and now I have to wait another two weeks to get paid."}
{"id": "t3_1zshf0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My gf(17) and me(17) just broke up due to lack of intimacy", "post": "Well my gf and i broke up due to her not being able to be intimate at all. We wouldn't do anything other then pecks, nothing further then make outs, and we were going on for 4 months so i decided to cut it off due to lack of intimacy. However since the break up 6 days ago she has gotten a lot more wilder. \n\nThere is this party this weekend we will both be attending, and i confronted her and told her i dont want it to be awkward and that i don't plan on rebounding or anything out of respect and i assumed she would do the same and she said she would. But when she gets drunk she doesnt think much about her actions, and will do a lot and im afraid that she will get drunk and hook up with some one else. This will hurt me alot due to the fact that we broke up due to a lack of intimacy but still had a lot of feelings for each other. She told me she wouldn't but when i first confronted her she wasn't against the idea and was ok with it, but said she wouldn't do it. How should i handle this? What can i do?", "summary": "gf and i broke up on good terms due to a lack of intimacy (kissing and sex), and shes going to a party this weekend and might hook up with someone despite her telling me she wont. Is there anything i can do?"}
{"id": "t3_13vt0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeking marriage counselor(s) in the Washington, DC area. [me 39] [wife 33]", "post": "Go easy. First time poster, long time lurker. I don't think my wife loves me anymore. We have been together for 10 years and married for 5. I was traveling a few months ago for a family funeral and she picked me up at the airport and we went to eat. During the meal she says she is unhappy and has been so for a very long time (even going back to before we were married). I was silent for a long time and just sat with the pit in my stomach. We left the restaurant and I ran across the street to buy flowers, which were received coolly. She hasn't gone into any specifics of why she just said that although she is not \"in love\" with me she still has some feels and would be willing to see a counselor. For TWO MONTHS I have called and emailed every individual counselor and larger therapy organizations I could find in Washington, DC to no avail. Things are cordial but cold at home, but we have opposite schedules and really only see each other once a week (I told her I would change my schedule even change jobs if needed, she said no.) I really need to find a counselor soon to help us communicate before we are faced with the inevitable.", "summary": "! Dire need of marriage counselor in Washington, DC to help save my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_33pwba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my friend [26M] 3 years - ticket drama.", "post": "Hi everyone, \n\nOne of my closest friends recently got a new girlfriend and hasn't spoken to me in months. Last time I tried to text him, I got a short, snappy reply that was completely off-tone for how we text. We used to text with things like 'hey buddy' and asking how each other's day went, etc., but that time all I got was 'no sorry' to an invitation to hang out. He's changed a lot since he got this new girlfriend. I'm sure she's not an awful person at all - I've met her a couple of times and she seems nice - but they're in that typical early honey moon stage of their relationship and I've barely had any contact with my friend since I met his new girlfriend for the second time.\n\nI'm supposed to be travelling across the country (my friend used to live near to me but has now moved 2/3 hours away by train) to visit him soon to go and see a show with an actor in that we both like - however I haven't heard from him in so long and I feel that a whole weekend away with him would be awkward. \n\nI'm really nervous about getting in touch seeing as it's really obvious he doesn't want to talk to me (no texts, no facebook messages/likes, anything like that, phonecalls where they were once fairly common etc). I want to send an email seeing how we are and where we're at, but I've no idea how to word it. I'm not even sure that I want to go there any more, because if he hasn't spoken to me in so long then surely he's not interested in being my friend any more, right?", "summary": "Friend hasn't spoken to me in months, supposed to be visiting soon but not sure if I'm welcome."}
{"id": "t3_21ltbu", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Help me mess with awful roommates", "post": "I was recently kicked out of my apartment by my 3 roommates because,  \"our parents are uncomfortable with us living with you\"  (real quote by real 24 year olds)\n\nWhy are they so uncomfortable? Because I had two girlfriends over one night for dinner and wine after the other 3 girls parents put a strict \"no guests\" rule over OUR apartment.\n\nWe're in our mid 20's.... how is this even serious? \n\nI happily moved out within 2 weeks and asked for my security deposit back but they are refusing to give it to me in whole for reasons that make no sense. \n\nHilarious example:\n\"There was a moldy avocado in the fridge and it was DEF yours, we're keeping an additional $125 for fridge cleaning\"  \n\nI'm looking for ways to mess with them anonymously. I would love ANY and ALL ideas no matter how ridiculous.", "summary": "My roommates are bitchy and trying to steal my money, how do I get back at them?"}
{"id": "t3_rkh7c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The middle class is shrinking. Do you think encouraging corporations to share their profits with employees through tax breaks would help reverse this?", "post": "I was just thinking... It is no longer debatable that the middle class is disappearing, the data is way too clear to simply write off regardless of where your political loyalties lie.\n\nThe top tax rate is 35% for corporations, and currently if companies want to profit share they receive nearly no benefit for doing so. They expense it off as wages, and the companies that actually do this are of the highest regard and esteem.\n\nYou get more of what you reward.\n\nSo why not cut the tax burden by (just a number)1.25% for every 1% of profit distributed to employees (obviously non-exec's... no need to mess yourself)? This way businesses make more money in the end, employees do too and they enjoy the satisfaction of being rewarded for their hard work and feeling like their fate is more tied to the company than before. (I would imagine this would do wonders for productivity, turnover, and morale)\n\nInvestors are happier. \n\nEmployees are happier, and the middle class is less at risk. \n\nGovernment is still happy because those incomes are taxed at a federal level and on everything they spend... supporting federal, state, and local governments in the process.", "summary": "Make sharing profits with employees a more profitable route for corporations."}
{"id": "t3_4mxquy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my two [30ish F] friends. Unsure how to feel after incident", "post": "Just wanted to know if what I'm feeling is right. Basically there are two women I'll call one Cara and the other Steph. I arranged to have a dinner with Steph (she is an awesome cook), Cara was the driving force since they haven't seen each other in a while. This was 2 weeks ago. A few other people were invited, Cara asked Steph to make her favorite dish.\n\nDay of the dinner, Cara doesn't show. We were hanging out earlier but needed to do other things so we went our separate ways (3 hrs before the dinner). She didn't answer any calls or texts. Steph was upset but she said it was fine (probably isn't but I'm talking her through it).\n\nI was worried and called and next day (it was close to 24hrs since I last heard from her) and her friend picked up saying they're out bike riding. He puts Cara on the phone and she said she was sick and she currently doesn't have her phone on her. \n\nI've talked with Steph and Cara hasn't called or texted, nothing. I'm a bit upset. I honestly didn't think Cara would act this way, and frankly I'm disappointed. We hang out more often than Steph due to distance, but now I feel like she is just being rude. Cara is feeling a bit of tension from me since I've barely responded to her or talked to her (I help her with business for free when I have free time).\n\nShould I tell Cara my opinions? \n- That I think it was quite rude to stand people up \n- Not contact anyone involved at the dinner for over 22hrs (only being reached by someone contacting her) causing us to worry\n- Being \"sick\" with no phone but still well enough to go out? (I call bull but purely speculation)\n- And finally not even contacting Steph after missing a dinner planned for her\n\nOr am I wrong since it's her life (she and her friend sounded annoyed/tense? when I called)", "summary": "One friend doesn't show to a dinner after she was the one suggesting it, sketchy reason given after no one hears from her for 20+ hrs, and no apology to the friend/cook who was asked to host"}
{"id": "t3_4cdadd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [41 M] with my gf [34 F] 8 mos, sex every two weeks", "post": "At the core of this post with a throwaway handle is wondering from other women if this sort of behavior is, candidly, the way you treat men that don't turn you on. So, if that speaks to you one way or another, please speak up. \n\nMy girlfriend and I don't yet live together and her energy level seems pretty low in comparison to mine. She mentioned at the beginning of our relationship that she thought she wouldn't be able to 'keep up' with me sexually and I'm finding myself growing more and more sexually frustrated because of the lack of sex. I've been promiscuous in the past but have not in this situation due to how much I want this to work. Last night after waiting all weekend for sex I found myself sadly masturbating next to her in the bed because I couldn't take it anymore. \n\nThis sort of behavior is demeaning to me and I feel like eventually - I'll get my sexual needs met. I really don't like giving someone else this sort of power in a relationship. \n\nshe tells me how much she loves my dick and I'm a good lover and always make sure she is thoroughly pleased but clearly I'm not turning her on? Something is wrong...", "summary": "have sex once every two weeks and I'm growing insecure, dis-empowered and angry about it."}
{"id": "t3_44iuz8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [25F] mess up by breaking up with my [26M] boyfriend of 6 months? Or did I dodge a bullet?", "post": "I moved to a nearby town to start undergrad a year ago. I met a guy, John, through mutual friends and we clicked instantly. After a few months, we started dating.\n\nHe's a really wonderful person. Incredibly thoughtful, sweet, and supportive. My job and school keep me busy, but we found time to hang together when we could and it was always the highlight of my week. It's the first relationship for both of us, and we were very happy together. Lots of shared hobbies and interests. We even had a great match on our obscure music tastes!\n\nAlthough John is a fantastic person, he lacks motivation. He has been living on savings for the whole time I've known him and is not pursuing employment currently (despite my encouragement).\n\nI broke up with him a couple months ago, believing that I could not change his lack of motivation and I should respect myself enough to at least date someone who has a job. Also, I am not sure how I feel about intimacy. Although we hadn't had any sort of sex yet, I felt that was probably coming soon. I can't decide if it is weird for me at 25 to be nervous or if I'm just a late bloomer and I should get my experience when I can.\n\nBy chance, we ran into each other today while shopping and we had a coffee. I realized how deeply I missed him. He misses me too and wants to get back together.\n\nShould we get back together? Is it stupid of me to \"throw away\" my best friend because I am hung up on an unemployment issue? Or did I dodge a bullet and should I try to let time heal my aching heart?", "summary": "Is breaking up with someone because they're unmotivated and I'm nervous about intimacy a stupid choice when you click with them on every other issue? Should we get back together?"}
{"id": "t3_2l4vg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How Do I [18M] Go About Meeting New People?", "post": "Hello, Reddit. This is something I've been wondering for a while now. See, my last girlfriend was a coworker so I had no problem with meeting someone new and asked them out. She was my first girlfriend. (she broke up with me and ignores me now and pretends like she never was friends with me). She was only with me for a month before deciding she wasn't ready. After going back through everything she said, it hurt me a lot considering she was talking a lot about our future.\n\nI'm not gonna lie, I'm afraid of meeting new people and trying to get into the dating scene again that I'm willing to overcome this fear. (I have some mental health problems so they don't help) I'm a college student at a community college. The city I live in is pretty small, but a decent size for the part of my state that I live in. Other than school I can't think of anywhere else to safely meet new people. I haven't had much luck on R4R or other online ways.\n\n Also, how do I just approach them and ask them out? Should I try to befriend them first or go into it? I'm still new to the whole dating thing.", "summary": "Shitty first time dating experience. Want to meet new people and try to date comfortably but don't know how to."}
{"id": "t3_2v54pk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning myself then spraying myself in the face with pus.", "post": "Not really that bad but eh. So today I made the mistake of putting too much juice in my Doge RDA, and some of it spilled out of the airflow vent on to my finger and burned me. But that's not quite the end of the story. Fast forward an hour or so and I'm pressing on the blister to release the pus every 5 - 10 minutes. No big deal, except the time I did it before writing this post it squirted right up into my face. If I hadn't been wearing glasses it would've went right in my eye.", "summary": "Burnt myself and sprayed pus on my face. Also, wear safety goggles or glasses when working with fluids you don't want in your eye."}
{"id": "t3_4x113w", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "No job, extremely low on money, losing hope", "post": "I'm from a medium sized town. I am 24 years old, I studied Information Technology (IT) , I specialize in Technical work (technician - repairs and so on, not brilliant but with google and the advanced knowledge I can be good) and website/ web development (not brilliant but I can make good looking proper working sites with a back end if necessary). The town I live in doesn't offer much support to my field. Moving somewhere else isn't in the cards yet because financially I'm not ready. I have decided to change go into other jobs ( basic jobs - retail for example) however I just can't seem to land something. It's shocking really, I been to 11 interviews this year just got two of them however both were temporary and lasted 3 months combined. My interview skills are good now. In the beginning I used to be nervous now it's just another day. I always answer questions fully. And ask them questions when given the opportunity. I don't understand what's wrong have you guys experienced something like this too?", "summary": "I need advice, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1sdfo0", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bump into a nice lady, will you?", "post": "My lovely lady works in the county government office that sells marriage licences and passport applications. because these are mandated by state and federal regulations, it is really a \"fill out this form, and be ready to pay the fee as noted\" type of interaction.\n\nOne \"gentlemen\" us told he will need a check to pay for his passport application. He grumbles but goes out to his car for his checkbook. when he comes back he is told to fill out the form and get in line to be helped, whereupon he asks why he would have to stand behind other people who arrived later than he did, and is told they have THEIR forms filled out and are ready to be helped.\n\nHe scowls and sits down to fill out his forms.\n\nWhen he is almost to the front of the line my girlfriend says \"next!\" and he pushes the lady on front of him aside and rushes the counter.  She is about to tell him to get to the back of the line when a coworker comes up and helps the lady who was rudely thrust aside. But my love decides that he doesn't get off that easy. She watches her coworker and makes sure that Mr. Impatient is always one step behind. Form filled out correctly? Second in line. Paying at the register? Second in line. Getting your passport pictures taken? Second in line. Being told that everything is on order and they will get a letter from the Department of State in 4 to 6 weeks? Second in line.", "summary": "push to the front? still waiting when we don't like you"}
{"id": "t3_3vspq1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CA] Can my school force me to do volunteer work for the Salvation Army?", "post": "Not sure if this goes here but I don't know where else to ask.\n\nMy public high school has an event called \"project day\" every 6 weeks. It's a pass or fail grade, and it does count for a credit. I'm a senior, and this Friday we have to either volunteer for a retirement home, or volunteer for the Salvation Army.\n\nStudents had an option for which organisation to assist with. However, this information was distributed via English classes, which I'm not a part of. Instead, I received a letter saying I'm signed up to volunteer for the Salvation Army by default as the retirement home had enough volunteers.\n\nI don't support the Salvation Army at all. They're one of the worst organisations out there in my opinion. I emailed my teacher asking to switch me for this exact reason, but she never responded.\n\nCan my school force me to volunteer or else they'll give me a failing grade? Who do I talk to so I don't have to volunteer for the Salvation Army?", "summary": "My high school is forcing me to volunteer for the Salvation Army, an organisation I do not want to help. Can they do this? How do I avoid this?"}
{"id": "t3_12omoe", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Help with transferring between colleges?", "post": "Hi. I'm a first year freshman and I am attending a private liberal arts college and am leaving after this semester for a variety of reasons (rooming situation, no good clubs, general immaturity of the population, and very under qualified professors) I would like to transfer to another college, and am planning on two Santa Monica College or University of Minnesota, however I really am just very unsure due to the whole transfer process. Sorry if this sounds jumbled, the whole thing has really been stressing me out and I'm just trying to get in to somewhere so I don't bum around for a semester doing nothing. Anyway, is there anything about the transfer process I should know about or any form of advice any of you can give me? Thanks.", "summary": "Need general college and transferring advice"}
{"id": "t3_1occls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my new SO [26 F] problem with sexual arousal.", "post": "So to not beat around the bush basically looking for help/advice in how to best handle the problem.\n\nI had trouble maintaining an erection while first being with her. For some reason condoms have always made me feel like I lose 80% of sensation which is a big buzz kill but the only protection we have atm. She's also a larger girl which makes positioning difficult. \n\nThis is what scares me the most. I've only been with a handful of women and the only time I've ever had performance problems was with one other larger woman. I attributed that first time to being on a rebound from my shambles of a marriage not to mention she really wasn't that good of a person.\n\nBut now I'm with a larger girl and having the same problem... this frightens the hell out of me because she's an amazing person. I am truly attracted to her but when the condom became an issue I took it off and it was great, stayed hard, made her orgasm. But stopped because it made her too nervous.\n\nI don't want to scare her off because of the issue. Her weight really doesn't factor into who I want to be with but if I can't perform I know she's going to think that's why.\n\nI guess im just mostly conflicted about my feelings because with that first larger woman I couldn't...just couldn't have sex. But now I did with this woman that I really care for but not without complications... any objective thoughts?", "summary": "Trouble staying hard with a condom, afraid because of a past relationship that had a similar problem which at the time I attributed to lack of sexual interest."}
{"id": "t3_i8pa5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend doesn't love me.", "post": "We are both sophomores in college, and we dated for a long time prior to this. We broke up for a few months, then got back together after realizing how much we missed each other. He is my very best friend, and I know I'm his; he tells me this all the time. We've known each other for four years now, and I can't imagine my life without him- which is why this is so difficult.\n\nThe first time we were together, we were in love. Somewhere along the way, when we broke up, he (obviously) felt differently. I got over it, he got over it, and we were friendly towards each other. We've been dating for 8 or 9 months now, on round two, and although he talks about how much he cares for me (which I know is true; don't come here to tell me he obviously doesn't), he does not love me. This is hard. It's extremely hard to hear, as well, when we end up talking about it. He can't see this going long-term, although that doesn't mean it won't (his words), but he just can't see himself falling in love with me again, apparently.\n\nLike I said, I can't imagine my life without him; I've always thought he was \"it\", and I've had zero desire to be with anyone else. He's the best friend I've ever had, but it hurts that I have these feelings for him, and they're not reciprocated.\n\nI guess my question is, where do I go from here? I'm expecting 'you need to cut him out of your life', or 'break up with him, and ' you're young, you'll find someone else/you don't know anything else'. I'm not leaving him. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "see title. I'm not leaving him, so don't try."}
{"id": "t3_14ateu", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Help for extremely over-enthusiastic greeting?", "post": "Owner of a 15 month old pit bull, rescued from the SPCA at 5 months. Perfect temperament, loves people, dogs, cats, even guinea pigs. Have dealt with some separation anxiety and housetraining issues, but have seen enough improvement that it's not much concern. HOWEVER, the major issue is with something that until last week I didn't know was a \"thing,\" as in a well-known issue: overenthusiastic greeting. She goes INSANE anytime she's introduced to a person or animal, and does not stop, nor does she get used to anyone, as in exhibits this behavior to people who visit frequently. It's all very friendly and excited, she has never barked, growled, or shown any sign of aggression in her life, but she jumps, pulls, runs at, scratches, whines, circles, etc. any creature upon meeting. It's a huge problem in my home and the behavior does not subside after the initial interaction. I have to keep her in a separate room anytime anyone else is at my apartment, including my roommate whom she sees every single day, so she's basically confined to my bedroom most of the time. I put her on leash even to take her outside. If it's just her and I at home, she sits next to me or at my feet and acts incredibly lazy. It has been a difficult issue to address because it's not something we can \"practice\" at home, as it's a behavior that only comes up when I have company.", "summary": "Dog loses her shit upon contact with any human or animal, does not stop, is confined to bedroom because of it"}
{"id": "t3_524cbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24/m] girlfriend [24/f] of 4 months was diagnosed with severe depression.", "post": "It's been a very tough 4 months of dating her.  She is awesome to be around and fun, but something always seemed off.  (She is divorced from a bad marriage that she hates herself for just for some background) She never wanted to emotionally connect, would never communicate her problems, saying shes only with me because shes lonely, one day she would say how much she hates me and not the one for her and the next day say she's so sorry and didn't mean it.  The last month has been all arguing and I eventually told her I need time away because it wasn't working and explained why.  The week before we broke up she was saying she was feeling depressed and wanted to go see a therapist. I helped her find someone and made sure she went to talk to them but still separated.  She could never out herself in my shoes and understand why I was upset about things she did.\n\nShe went to talk to them and she was diagnosed with severe depression and turned down medication.  She said the therapist helped so much to get things off her chest and open up and already feels so much better after talking to them once.  She is going to continue to go and says she's already learning new coping skills rather than closing herself up.    She's been asking nonstop since then about seeing if we can work things out again and see each other.  I guess I just don't know what to do...I want to think things could be better now that she's getting help, but I know before she was just so manipulative and made me feel worthless.  I know things won't be perfect and there will still be challenges/down moments.  \n\nDoes anyone have any advice or just some words of wisdom?? I want to think it'll get better now that she's actually getting help, but I haven't dealt with something like this before and want to hear what others have to say.", "summary": "girlfriend just constantly being non-girlfriend material and diagnosed with severe depression."}
{"id": "t3_10tewy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I know if I'm being followed by a Private Investigator? (Details inside)", "post": "Last week my roommates got a knock on the door at 9am.\n\n\"Hi is SphericalOrbit here?\"\nRoommate- \"No\"\n\"Does he still live here?\"\nRM- \"Yes\"\n\"Is he at work?\"\nRM-\"I don't know\"\n\"Okay, well him Marie stopped by. I'm an old friend\"\n\nExcept Marie is about 30 years older than me and I never met her in my life.\n\nSome questions came to mind:\nHow does an old friend know my newish address?\nWhy didn't she leave a number or friend request me on Facebook?\n\nFast forward to yesterday and as I pull into my driveway at 9pm a car in the adjacent parking lot starts driving towards the exit and leaves.\n\nToday, a Toyota pulls down the street as I'm walking out the door. I pass him and he's wearing a baseball cap and looking down towards his steering wheel. It's cloudy today if that matters.\n\nOn the same commute, I leave a convenience store and see him drive by with no one else in the car. I'm a few car lengths behind him and he pulls into a parking lot and pulls a U-Turn and gets back into traffic.\n\nI didn't see him for the rest of my commute.\n\nAm I being paranoid, or is something strange going on here?", "summary": "A random woman finds my address and my roommates tell him I live there. Almost a week later I notice cars, not following me, but leaving as soon as I'm around or cars parked on the side of the road with no one else in them."}
{"id": "t3_36j1f1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU-By browsing reddit at work and not being familiar with /r/creepy", "post": "So this actually just happened...I'm at work, obviously not being productive and browsing through reddit. I click a link that takes me to /r/creepy, a sub I haven't really looked at much. Apparently there's a small smudge on the screen when you browse that sub. I was not aware of this.\nFuck up, initiated...I spend 5 minutes first using the old spit and fingerwipe, then full blown windex and towel to try and clean it. I figured since it wasn't dirty, the screen must be about to go out. Since this clearly was not my fault, I called my boss and texted her a picture of said smudge. They've already ordered a new computer, she's going to call her techie daughter to try and \"fix\" it. I shut down the computer and put it in her office, and just grabbed her laptop that she keeps in there to continue my browsing.\nWhich leads me to go back to said page and see the smudge again. I've just realized I just got trolled by /r/creepy. I'm just really hoping her daughter doesn't use reddit very much :)", "summary": "got trolled by the smudge on /r/creepy, now my boss may realize how useful I really am."}
{"id": "t3_4h2byx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my mom [50F] makes me feel ashamed for having sex.", "post": "Now I currently live with my parents because I go to the local community college and I'm not sure where I'm going in life. We have an alright relationship but for some reason, I don't feel comfortable telling them about my personal things. And it's not just me, my older brothers did the same things when they still lived at home. It's like our family's communication gets better when we're apart from each other.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years (3 in October), so of course we've gotten to that point of physical intimacy. But a couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend and I went at it in my room while my parents were gone and he threw the used condom in my trashcan. Of course my dad ended up finding it when he was taking my trash and telling my mom about it. \n\nHer reaction felt humiliating for me as she kept going \"eww\" while yelling at me. And now whenever she brings it up, she says vulgar things about it and makes comments like saying I'm being \"easy\".\n\nI hate this and whenever she makes these comments I feel so ashamed that I'll sometimes slap myself to make the feeling go away. I feel like there's nothing I can do because I don't have an actual job and I can't just up and leave. It's also frustrating that I can't actually confront her myself because it's not in my nature.\n\nI know directly talking is the best option but would writing her a letter be a better alternative?", "summary": "Parents found a condom, my mother is now slut-shaming me, I feel horrible inside but can't directly tell her for dumb reason, and am now asking if writing her a letter would be a good alternative to actually confronting her."}
{"id": "t3_4mpg3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 F] with my husband [30 M] 7 years, his best friend [30 M] has been making me extremely uncomfortable.", "post": "I'm really not sure what to do and this is making me really uncomfortable.\n\nMe and my husband met 7 years ago been together ever since and we are really In love. He's been friends with [Harry] since they were kids and he was his best man at our wedding.\n\nHarry has been with his wife for over 10 years but now are getting divorced. Nobody has said why but most of our friends are guessing she cheated on him.\n\nMe and my husband offered to let him stay with us for a little bit since he's been through a lot. It's been a month and while he's been a good house guest he's started making passes at me.\n\nIt started when me and my husband would go out he would tell me I look beautiful. I just thought he was being sweet but now it's escalated a bit and I'll give some examples.\n\n\u2022when I came out of the shower I was in a towel (I forgot my underwear) he saw me and tried to playfully tug at my towel.\n\n\u2022he has \"playfully\" grabbed my ass and I've just brushed it off or walked off.\n\n\u2022i have noticed some of my underwear have gone missing and I haven't seen them around either.\n\nI haven't brought any of this up to my husband because I don't want to drive a wedge between them. Or worse because they have been friends forever. But at the same time I feel very uncomfortable with this.\n\nWhat should I do.", "summary": "my husbands friend is staying with us but he's been making me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_2hde3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just ended a 6 yr relationship with my [26 M] s/o [24 F] because she was toxic. I can't stop wallowing in fear and self-despair, and it's making me want to go back.", "post": "My relationship was toxic. She didn't treat me right for many years, and I spent a long time and many painful instances trying to help her and fix things. Because of thing she did and how she hurt me, I almost broke up 5 or 6 times prior in the last 6 years.\n\nI finally worked up the courage to feel like this wasn't right and I had to end it, so I just did.\n\nHowever, I can't stop wallowing in despair and self-doubt. I fear about my own future, imagining it going down in flames (what if... I lose my job, can't find anything better, stuck in poverty forever, what if I end up alone for years on end, etc. etc.). \n\nAll these thoughts are making me doubt myself and I keep getting urges to run back and stay in the relationship. There, we'd have two incomes, probaly live comfortably for the foreseable future, maybe our relationship wasn't really that bad, maybe it'll get better this time, etc. etc.\n\nHow can I overcome these self-defeating feelings? A strong part of me knows I can't trust going back to the relationship...like I'd be getting sucked back into a shitty cycle. But...what if I'm wrong about that too?\n\nWhy is it so hard to to focus on the positive? That I'm finally free of a toxic relationship that destroyed my self-esteem and happiness? That I'll be able to live happily on my own, meet new people, build new friendships, experience new things, maybe even find an amazing new relationship, etc.?\n\nAre these feelings normal after such a breakup? How can I deal with them healthily?", "summary": "I just worked up the courage to end my 6 year relationship which has had a history of her treating me very poorly off and on. I keep thinking about how my life might somehow get worse or be stagnant forever and I'll never be happy again without her or the physical stability that this relationship had (other than for my emotional well-being)."}
{"id": "t3_1jn9yz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/M] need advice about a girl I've liked (17/F)", "post": "I've known this girl for a about a year now and when I met her she was depressed, we started to text all the time and seemed to really get along so i asked her for a relationship but she said she wasn't looking for a relationship (doesn't like commitment). Two months later she starts dating this guy but from what she's told me shes not taking the relationship seriously and that it probably wont last much longer. she says she likes talking to me every day and that i'm \"very important\" to her she even gets sad sometimes if I don't text her but she has gotten through the depression now. My feelings for her have not changed. so am I just super far into the friend zone?", "summary": "Girl means a lot to me and talks to me all the time but has a boyfriend yet still seems attached to me, what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_4njodr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] and my new housemate [19 M] advice on confronting him about sounds from video games?", "post": "So I just moved to sunny San Francisco after a long house searching period, and I think I'm already having troubles with my new housemate, who's been living here for a while. He's a HUGE fan of shooting games, especially war simulators like Call Of Duty, and plays them literally all day long, as he currently doesn't have school or a job. I'm generally pretty okay with not minding what my housemates do, but when you come home/ stay in a house filled with the sound of bloody murder and gunshots, it gets a bit tiring after a while. I've tried to stay out of the house as much as possible (San Fran has been great at helping with that), but I always have to come home in the end. \n\nDespite what I've described, he's a really good kid. Very clean, respectful of my privacy/interests, and overall pretty good natured. With that, I know that he'd listen if I brought up the topic with him, but I'm not sure how to reach a friendly compromise.Turning the volume down wouldnt help very much because our residence is incredibly small, and the gaming station is right next to my room. Any advice or ideas would be sincerely appreciated.", "summary": "New housemate plays a lot of shooters and the noise is slowly getting to me. Need help on coming up with a compromise."}
{"id": "t3_1tcmoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23] feels like relationship is dwindling [f18] not sure how to go forward", "post": "This is my first post here and a throwaway account so if I did anything wrong in the posting I apologize.\n\nMe [m23] with girlfriend [f18] feel like our relationship is coming to an end because I'm starting to want a relationship less and less and I feel like she hasn't been trying in the relationship very hard lately. I'm not sure if I'm just being selfish because I want her to pay more attention to me. \nIn the 6 months she hasn't initiated intimacy with me once, she doesn't like to hang out with my friends and i but I try to befriend her friends and talk to her friends too which her and i have also talked about and she said she would try harder.. \n\nidk I just feel like I'm being neglected in the relationship and that might be a reason why I've been feeling more and more like I don't want one. In all honesty I feel like a whiny bitch typing all this because yes I do have an amazing girl that I have so much in common with and we do have a ton fun which is also why I feel like I'm being selfish I really don't want to break up I feel this might be the real thing. thanks in advance and happy holidays.", "summary": "i feel like my girlfriend doesn't care as much and I'm losing interest in relationships."}
{"id": "t3_k1k3z", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Older dog bites on occasion", "post": "i have a 7 year old great dane/rhodesian ridge back female dog. rescued her a few years ago from an abusive owner. she is a big loveable suck when its just the family, but gets very protective when others come. she barks at the door very loudly (which we can deal with) but she has bit a few people now. i assume she is territorial, as the people she bites are 'new' (to her) and she never bites when me or my wife is around.\nobviously this behaviour can't continue. she recently bit my aunt, drew blood, and now she is demanding action. also we have a newborn around sometimes (my neice). \ni dont want to put her down, but i'm not sure of the next steps. a trainer? vet? change her diet? drugs/medicine?\n\nhelp???? sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit. thanks.", "summary": "6 year old female dog bites territorially, needs to stop."}
{"id": "t3_1suix5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] with my ex [24F] I've turned into a crazy ex, how do I make things right?", "post": "[long back story here](\n\nMy girlfriend and best friend of 1 year dumped me about 3 months ago ('officially' 3 weeks ago), and it definitely put me into a tailspin. She thought we weren't compatible, that we fought too much, that I dragged her down, and that she didn't have feelings for me.... a whole myriad of reasons that surprise me. On top of that she wants to see another guy. The breakup was not mutual, and I did a lot of begging and pleading and convincing to try and give me a second chance. Lots of texts, emails, letters and phone calls. I really fought to make it work, but it was too late. She told me that it wasn't going to happen, and even if I continued to improve myself she could never see herself being with me due to emotional baggage. She said that I was a great guy and that she just wanted to be friends, but she couldn't handle the begging anymore. \n\nI really have no idea what to do, I'm really head over heals in love with this girl and i'm doing my best to separate entirely and move on. I initially tried being friends, but that was a serious mistake since it led to feelings of rejection and neglect. I've learned a lot from the break up and where we went wrong.... I've done a lot of self actualizing and I know that our situation is entirely different than when we lived together. I'm in a place where i'm capable of being a devoted boyfriend, and i'm certainly more confident and ambitious than when we were together. We've communicated much better since I moved out, and I consider us to be compatible. The problem is she's moved on and doesn't want me around, and I understand that. \n\nI guess I really just have no idea what the next step is... if I should be friends so I can prove myself to her or if I should just disappear. I might be delusional, but I really just have no idea what to do since this girl is a very important part of my life.", "summary": "bad breakup made me act insane, trying to \"make things right\" but i'm not sure if I can handle being friends"}
{"id": "t3_2scis2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (28f) gets mad at me (25m) about chores around the house.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together now over a year and recently have been getting into fights about housework. I currently work full time, around 51 hours a week and she is working part time and taking her care of the kids (8m/3f). I've been doing what I can around the house with the hours I've been working but it doesn't seem to be enough. I've told her that if she explains what she wants me to do, I can make sure I do it. She says she doesn't want to have to tell me to do anything, that I should just know. I'm happy to do my share, just kinda at a loss. The stuff I do do around the house, I feel goes unappreciated because she makes no mention of it. This is only my second LTR and the second time I've lived with a significant other. \n\nI feel like as a team we should be able to figure out the chores that way no one person gets stuck doing all of the house work while also working, but she seems adverse to the idea because we're both adults and I should just know what needs to be done.", "summary": "have arguments around housework, while girlfriend refuses to have conversation about the separation of work."}
{"id": "t3_3zumme", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my parents internet from the 90s.", "post": "This has been going on for a while now but I found out today so TIFOIFU.\n\nBack story. My house burned down (not my fault & not the fuck up) in February and we have a lake house that we use in the summer that's in the same town, so my family moved into that. When we moved in we had the internet that was at our old house transferred. I don't really know how this works, but they had our phone number and internet transported to the lake house while we kept the phone that was there working. This way no matter which number was called, we would be able to answer.\n\nSince I'm the \"tech wiz\" of the family I had the task of setting up the modem and router. My parents told me that the only phone line that would work, is this one that is way off to the side of the house and I told them \"I don't get why that would happen, and over here is a better spot.\" So I set it up at the other spot and it works. Two weeks later I moved out of state because I got a job.\n\nCome Christmas I went home to visit my family. The internet was so slow that we were using our data rather than the wifi. My mom was asking if anyone else was on the internet and my sister said that she got off it because it was too slow. This being a pretty bad problem for the weekend that I was there my parents called the communication company to have them check it out.\n\nThey came this week. Apparently I should have listened to my folks because the technicians who came didn't understand how we had a connection at all from the port I plugged it into. All I know is that my mom was stuck with unreasonable load times for Netflix for the past 8 months.\n\n[Placement problems.](", "summary": "I was given a router and was told to put it here. I put it there."}
{"id": "t3_jwqwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In love with two amazing girls.", "post": "Hi guys, a little introduction. I'm a 21 year old male and I have two great women in my life.\n\nOne is a friend I met in my sophomore year in college, lets call her \"Tiffany\" and the other is my girlfriend \"Christine\". We've been together for 7 months now and Ive known Tiffany for 2 years.\n\nLong story short, I have had intense feelings for my friend Tiffany the day I have met her. We started talking and we became fast friends. I asked her out couple of times way before and many times but some other guy became her boyfriend.\n\nI was devastated because I loved her so much and she knew too because we both often speculate on what it could have been together. (Boyfriend is a dick.) Through it all, we still managed to stay close friends and I ended up having a girlfriend of my own.\n\nMy girlfriend Christine is an amazing girl. Given that she doesn't match up in gorgeousness with Tiffany, she still looks better than average. She treats me so well. She gives me head every time I ask her, we fuck fantastically, and generally tries very hard to keep me happy. Cooks for me, cleans for me, etc.\n\nThe really foolish part is that I should be fully content and be so much in love with Christine but I can never look at Christine like I do Tiffany.\n\nI hung out with Tiffany today and all we did was talk, watch a movie and hold fingers and I'm still flustered. She is so gorgeous. My jaw drops.\n\nNow this decision would be so easy if Tiffany wasn't so amazing as well. Honestly, they both remind me of each other. Just different looking. Both Tiffany and Christine both know me pretty well but Tiffany knows me to the point where she can call out my habits. Knows when Im cold, flusters, etc.\n\nOf course I knew Tiffany longer so I guess there's a little bias there.\n\nSo guys, if you've ever been in this position, what should i do? Do the best what the universe has given me or does this mean I have to leave my girlfriend and just wait for the girl I feel like I truly love.", "summary": "In love with two amazing girls. One girlfriend, other best friend. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4718at", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating: Is my view on wanting my attention to be reciprocated skewed? [25 M]", "post": "I am a 25 Male.\n\nIf a woman is as intelligent and ambitious as I want her to be, she will see everything that I have to offer her and send me an indication of interest. I am tired of rolling out the red carpet, and I am tired of chasing.\n\nIf I ask a girl out on a date and she replies with anything other than \"yes\", or with solid concrete plans, I move on. I think that as I a man, I am socially obligated to make 'the first move'. Thats a given. But I think once I make that first move, if its not reciprocated then I lose interest. If I ask a girl \"when do you want to see me/when are we hanging out next\" and she dosnt give me a solid answer in the future, I stop pursuing. \n\nIf a girl dosnt reply to a text message, I'll text her one more time a day or two later and if she dosnt reply then I'll stop pursuing. \n\nI have never experienced a relationship in my entire life. But I think that its not wrong of me to expect that a partner be just as enthusiastic as you and with you every step of the way. I hear of men who have been in relationships because they chase and ask the same girl out over and over for weeks/years until they finally give in and they are married. \n\nAm I being too extreme? Should I still chase girls even after I made my intentions clear? I don't want to be in a relationship if I am doing more than 50% of the work... is this asking too much in modern times?", "summary": "Is it wrong for me to only want a partner who will 'date'/'pursue' me and reciprocate my attention?"}
{"id": "t3_1j1uxu", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "There is NOTHING special about that girl.", "post": "I don't know what it is with you two, but how is it that both my ex-boyfriend and my ex-flame-of-three-years and I end things and you both immediately make a beeline for this girl like she's water and you're dying in the desert.\n\nHer pseudointellectualism is the least of her worries. I'm not sure what's so wildly attractive about having a Bachelor's degree so worthless that you have to live at home and the only car you choose to drive is a crappy 80s Beemer because it's just hipster enough for you, but apparently, this girl is the fucking tits, because there isn't a picture on Instagram or a stupid, existential status on Facebook that the two of you haven't liked. You two boys don't even know each other, but your obvious worship of a girl who doesn't even give two shits that you exist is grinding on my nerves so endlessly that I'd rather claw my eyes out with a rusty spoon than continue to follow any of you on Instagram. \n\nSure, she's somewhat attractive, thanks due in part to her mother's full Spanish blood. Her skin tone is a naturally white girl caramel and while her hair is a normal shade of brown, you can't really beat those hazel eyes...here's a news flash, boys: *she's too tall for you.* She literally towers over both of you, even in her ugly Urban Outfitters lace up flats. Get a grip, you two. She's not into you, and you look pathetic.", "summary": "two guys from my past that I still have feelings for simultaneously constantly like statuses and Instagram pics from a girl we all know...and I'm jealous."}
{"id": "t3_1tq1tu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Stale bread? NOPE stale relationship need advice asap! (23, and 20)", "post": "Hi, So whats happening in the relationship is i don't know how to put it? getting extremely stale maybe or we have different methods of showing affection?  I am keeping our sex's out of it so the point of view isn't skewered.\n \nWhats happening? \n\n* Fights, Over simple stuff like where said person left a said item. Mind you said person blames me for it missing even though I didn't touch it.\n\n* Intimacy has dropped to near zero, I ask to have sex and get rejected about 90% of the time and on top of that the last time I asked the excuse was \" I don't want to put in that kind of effort into it \"\n\n* Respect, the respect said person gives me is almost zero now it used to be better but still wasn't perfect which is find seeing as we are in a relationship that will make the respect level go up or so I hoped(kinky relationship).\n\n* said person, said that they are a Submissive in the bedroom but no matter what I tell them they always say no or say oh but I like this position and that's what go's.\n\n* Said person always seems distant or disinterested both sexually and emotionally. We used to have long conversations and enjoy each others company now we always bicker or fight. I generally take care of said person as much as possible but it feels as if they take advantage of my niceness.", "summary": "Need help, don't guess genders or roles just need pure advice."}
{"id": "t3_2y1sv3", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Biting Kitten Problem.. Help!", "post": "Okay. So I've owned multiple cats throughout my life but it's been a while since I've had a kitten. So a couple months ago my S/O found a kitten after it ran into her place of work and seemingly had nowhere else to go. He's a very loving cat and will snuggle with us when he's tired. He's 5 Months old and is due to be neutered in a week.\n\nHowever! Being a kitten he has a ton of energy, which is fine as we play with him for at LEAST an hour a day. The problem is that he will seemingly for no reason attack us during play, especially if we stop giving him attention for a few seconds/minutes. \n\nI'm 99% sure it's play aggression as he doesn't seem to be angry and it happens almost always when he is full of energy. But he will make very conscious decisions to attack my legs and feet. Sometimes during play he'll stop attacking his toy and focus very intently on my feet or whatever body part he can get to.. after he lines up his attack he pounces TEETH FIRST into me. Occasionally he hits pretty hard and will leave tiny puncture marks with his teeth... nothing too serious yet. He will also attack at seemingly random times even if we're not playing. If I'm sitting on my couch playing a game or watching a movie (sitting indian style to avoid him biting my feet) He will sometimes jump teeth first into my knee pretty hard before running off.\n\nIs this normal behavior in a kitten? We have literally tried everything to curb this. We withdraw all attention and play and leave the room whenever he attacks... lately we have been using a squirt bottle because the former tactic didn't seem to work at all, although we still withdraw attention from him as well. \n\nIs there anything else we could try? He doesn't seem to understand that it hurts us and seems to be attacking even harder the older and stronger he gets. We are animal lovers and the last thing I would want to do is give him up but if he continues to attack as he grows I can foresee it being a pretty painful experience.\n\nPlease help! I'll take any suggestions for dealing with this behavior. Sorry for the wall of text.", "summary": "Kitten is deliberately attacking us during and after play. Need help fixing this painful behavior :("}
{"id": "t3_34qywn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23/F] with my BF [24/M] of 3 & 1/2 years, doing great but I have a problem with our sex life", "post": "Hi reddit, long time stalker, first time poster.\nI've been with my boyfriend Luke for 3 & 1/2 years, and for the most part we have a fantastic relationship, he's very considerate of me and lets me have my own space if I need it. \nMy main problem is our sex life. We have sex on average five times a week, which I know is great, and I do enjoy sex with him - but he has never once in our whole relationship made me orgasm. Not once. \n\nI'm basically looking for your advice on how to broach this topic with him. See, I have faked it with him (and I know I shouldn't have), because I do feel like he's trying hard, just nothing ever works. I feel like this has basically been me lying to him for three years, because while I enjoy the sex we have it's not amazing for me ever. I feel like maybe if we try some new things (not too sure what but I'll figure that out later) or see a sex therapist it might change thigs for me?\n\nI know this might be the wrong subreddit for this issue but I really wanted to get some advice on how to bring this up with him, or if I should at all? I really just need some help on how to do this without hurting his feelings, because he's a great person and I don't want him to feel bad at all. Any help is gratefully accepted!!", "summary": "boyfriend and I have a regular but unfulfilling sex life, need advice on how to talk to him about it"}
{"id": "t3_l50pw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I know if I have a kidney stone or UTI?", "post": "I'm looking for advice and the quicker the better. Three Sunday's ago I had a bad pain in my lower back. I could hardly get out of the bed on the worse day. The pain was a solid 6-9 for seven days but went away. It then came back the following Wednesday for only a day but the pain was so bad I had to come home from classes. I've been to the doctor and he told me to get an IVP done because there was blood in my pee. So I went to the hospital and had that done. Doctor called me back saying there were no kidney stones in me this past Tuesday. \n\nWell now it's 5:00 AM And I can feel pain in my kidney slowly building up. This time when I went to the restroom I actually saw blood and it hurts more this time around to piss. I'm afraid I have a UTI and I really don't want to risk the chance of losing a kidney or my bladder because some doctor didn't see a stone. But what is holding me back from going to the hospital is the doctor said when the stone passes, my testicle is going to feel pain in it. I can feel that pain slowly increasing as well. Sorry if this post sounds awful, but I really don't want to pay for a hospital bill if I don't have to and I just copy pasted it from a different layout.", "summary": "how do i know if i have a kidney stone or uti? i've been to the doctor and he said he didn't see a stone but pain symptoms he mentioned reflect otherwise"}
{"id": "t3_1hji6i", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Need to talk again.", "post": "Same girl as before, different problem. \n\nStarted developing feelings for her and never really told her because I don't want it to affect our relationship. We're really close platonic friends and it's been that way since I've met her and I don't want that to change. Honestly just being her friend, listening to her talk, sitting next to her every day in class, gives me all the happiness in the world. I know she'll never see me as anything more than a friend and I've resigned myself to that fact. \n\nNot telling her that I like her though is killing me. I don't think she knows that I do like her, as nothing has changed between us at all.  It feels like I'm being dishonest about our relationship, but on the other hand I don't want her to be pushed away if I tell her. I'm her only close friend, up to the point that things that girls usually talk to amongst themselves, about boys, crushes, boy bands, whatever, are things that she talks to me about, despite the fact that I'm a straight heterosexual male. Argh. And now I'm rambling. Jesus. \n\nTo make it even better, this entire situation is made even more complicated by a friend of mine, who was previously unacquainted with said girl, has now professed an interest in her and it's reciprocated. Fuck. *Fuck.* I'm supportive on the outside, and I really am happy for both of my friends, it's just... fuck. I can't help but feel like I missed an opportunity. And I feel like I'm being selfish. \n\nBlah.", "summary": "Developed feels for very close friend. Doesn't want to confess said feelings. Said friend is now interested in another friend, who is receptive. *Fuck.*"}
{"id": "t3_akkgy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My best friend is blackmailing me, please help", "post": "Background: I'm female and in college, with no prior relationship experience.\n\nSo this fall I transferred to a school ~100 miles from my hometown. My best friend, we'll call her J, is stuck in a dead-end job and borderline abusive living situation, and was very resentful of me leaving. (I'd tried several times to get her out of there and into community college, but she never had the drive to do so.) She only started speaking to me again in November.\n\nA few weeks ago I started dating a guy I met through a different friend, and while it's far from serious, it's been going very well. Naturally I wanted to share this exciting new development with J, even if she's not really the girl-talk type. At first I got some good-natured ribbing about it, but then she turned hostile, saying I was desperate and turning into our mutual friend who cannot function without a boy in her life. (I dared express mild annoyance at having to wait over winter break to pick up where he and I had left off.)\n\nIn the past she has stalked and harassed both a celebrity and a guy we went to high school with, and she's already found my guy on facebook and has openly threatened to smother my relationship in its metaphorical cradle if I don't perform for her amusement like a trained monkey. I've asked her both nicely and not-so-nicely to leave him out of this, but she always counters with \"You know I'll do it.\" I'm not entirely sure the friendship is worth saving at this point. How do I get her to stop or just cut her from my life with as little danger to myself as possible?", "summary": "My friend is threatening to sabotage my relationship for her amusement, and I've realized I have never trusted her to have even basic human empathy. Now what?"}
{"id": "t3_19jx57", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Stupid Facebook and my(26/F) relationship of one year (32/M)", "post": "I'm so annoyed that this is even a problem. I noticed a month ago that my boyfriend's relationship status was changed to unlisted. It has been listed ever since we started dating a year ago. I decided to talk to him, and the conversation went as follows-\n\nIn bed for the night. Just turned out the lights. He rolls over and sees I'm staring at him and he can tell something is wrong.\n\nBF \"What?\"\n\nMe \"Why am I not listed as your girlfriend on facebook?\"\n\nBF \"You're not?\"\n\nMe \"No.\"\n\nBF \"Oh, well I must have accidentally changed it while trying to get FB to stop sending me tons of emails.\" Silence. \"Why? Are you worried?\"\n\nMe \"Well...it's changed. It's different.\"\n\nBF \"Do you want me to change it back?\"\n\nMe \"Yes...I just wanted to make sure there wasn't anything we needed to talk about.\"\n\nBF \"I didn't even know it had been changed.\"\n\nAfter some silence he said there was something unrelated that he had been wanting to talk to me about. He said he wanted to try to spend a little less time together. He isn't used to being with someone for so long and wanted to have a chance to do things that don't involve me. We work in the same building and live together, so I understand what he means. I've always made an effort to give him space, but he doesn't take advantage of it. I say I understand and would enjoy time away as well. He says he doesn't want to mess things up between us by being together constantly. I can understand that.\n\nHere's the problem. He still hasn't changed his facebook relationship status. Am I right for being concerned? Should I give him his space and freedom to not list his relationship status? I don't believe the change was an accident, and he saw how concerned it made me. I feel like I'm supposed to be taking the hint.", "summary": "My BF changed his FB profile so that it doesn't list his relationship status. He said he'd change it back, and he hasn't.  Should it bother me this much?"}
{"id": "t3_f0ms4", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Vibrams for a running newbie?", "post": "Some background info: I just started jogging a few months ago, usually 3-4 times a week.  Before the holiday break I could go about 30-40 minutes straight but strained a muscle while on the treadmill and that kept me on the elliptical, now I'm happy to do 25 minutes. Typically go more for distance/ endurance rather than speed, averaging 5.5 mph.  I'm also hovering between 'obese' and 'overweight', but at least that's 50lbs less than it used to be!  Since it's about 17degrees where I live, I do all of my running on the indoor track (typically avoid the treadmill) but once we start getting back into the 40's-50's, I hope to go back to running outside.  Including walking and jogging, I probably put 15-20 miles, sometimes more, on my shoes each week.  Right now I'm in NB 600 High Performance and I love them.\n\nWith that, I wanted to get some feedback about whether the VFFs would be a good idea once I wear out my first pair of running shoes, or whether I should hold off for a while.  Think I have about 150 or so miles on these.  I remember reading somewhere that running with too much 'backage' can lead to these shoes wearing out more quickly.  Seems like there were other reasons that the Vibrams might not be good for everyone but that's the only reason I can remember right now.  However, I thought that barefoot walking / running was supposed to, at least slightly, increase the number of calories burned over conventional shoes.  So, should I go for the Vibrams as my next running shoe or hold off until those last 20-30lbs come off?", "summary": "overweight & new to running, not sure if the VFF's would be good for me"}
{"id": "t3_1deivk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (26M) am falling for a long time friend(26F). She is in another country and might be falling for a guy she met there. I don't know what to do.", "post": "I (26M) and her (26F) met in college freshman year and became good friends. She was with someone at the time so I didn't really look at her that way.\n\nAfter we graduated she moved to another country to work. She broke up with her boyfriend. She got enganged later to another guy and broke it off since he cheated. Now she has been talking to anothe guy and she might be falling for him.\n\nThing is we really click. We think the same, we have the same goals, etc. I am falling for her. I think of telling her, but what is the point? We live apart, plus she might not have reciprocale feelings and that might destroy our friendship.\n\nBut I still think of telling her how I feel. Help?", "summary": "I am falling for a friend who lives in a another country. We click really well and I want to tell her how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_2pdm53", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "American Coradius International LLC sent a letter to me because of PayPal debt...", "post": "So I am currently 19 years old. A few years ago I use to do online graphic design, and would sell my products with the help of advertising on youtube, twitter, etc. Some people I would sell designs to could be really young. The problem is that after I would send the a file of the design they wanted to them, they would charge back the payment and keep the graphics I made as well as the money they were suppose to the pay. The problem with this is that since it was not a physical object, I could not prove I had ever sent anything. When I received money, I would send it straight into my checking account. Since PayPal can't touch my account, it would put me in debt if I got a charge back. My PayPal had been in debt for nearly 2 years before I received this letter. Will this cause any future problems? I don't feel as if I should be the one to pay it back. Not really sure what to do.", "summary": "I owe money to paypal because of a charge back that happened nearly 2 years ago. Got a letter recently from a debt collector. Not sure if I should be worried."}
{"id": "t3_31lt5u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calibrating my cars bass to a police scanner in an empty parking lot at 1am.", "post": "Got a new sub woofer. Only problem is that the vocals on it aren't tuned right. So I live/go to Uni 2 hours from my hometown, and I was back home for Easter. 2 hour ride back, decided halfway through I couldn't take it anymore. So I stop in a Walmart parking lot of Nowhere, USA I decide to use my police scanner app, it is 100% vocals right?  So I'm the only car in this parking lot (as to not annoy people) and start blaring the scanner, adjusting my sub. I decide to reconnect some of the wires, the sub is for a double input, and my radio only outputs a single channel. So 20 minutes later, 3 cop cars come sirens blazing. I'm doing wire work, so I'm inside my trick barely visible and have a pocket knife in my hand. I luckily remembered that fact, and dropped it inside. I got the usual \"Both hands up sir\". \" Slowly step out of the vehicle\" deal.  After talking with the cops, they were understanding and obviously just assumed some tweaker was out in a Walmart parking lot at 1am shooting up. Good news though is my radio is bumping some sweet TSwift now.", "summary": "don't tune your radio to a police scammer at 1 am unless you want friends."}
{"id": "t3_3q7pt6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My [24F] boyfriend [28M] is neglecting his studies and our relationship.... Because of a video game.", "post": "Hi Reddit. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and it has been great. Except for one thing.\n\nDOTA. He plays it at least 2 hours a day, and on the weekends, all day if he can. If you know that game you know it takes at least an hour on average per game and is one that you can't really pause. Sometimes it is fine that he plays, I don't mind sitting on my phone, browsing Reddit. However, lately it seems like it has interfered in our relationship as well as his studies. He is doing his PH.D. in Physics. He is obviously very swamped with schoolwork that he seems to put on the back burner for this game. The other day, on a Saturday, I was over and he was playing a game. I thought it would just be one but instead he proceeded to play for three hours as I just sat there. What can I do? I have tried talking to him... Even saying this game is making me rethink our relationship! He says he understands, but isn't proving it through his actions!\n\nReddit, what should I do? I really care about this guy and besides this gaming habit, our relationship is great!", "summary": "my boyfriend games whenever he can! How can I get him to stop gaming so much and focus more on school and our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4l7wni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with new guy [25 M] just starting to get to know one another - how to get him to back off?", "post": "Met this guy a couple weeks ago and we've been on one date, he seems really cool and we have good chemistry/lots in common. The only problem is he seems a little clingy, he clearly likes me a lot and has been wanting to see me/talk to me every chance he gets. I have a full schedule with work and hobbies and certain commitments so I really value my down time. It's not to say that I don't want to see him/hang out with him so I made plans with him next week but it seems like he is trying to find time to see me before our arranged date and I don't know how to let him know that he needs to back off a little. \n\nWe text often enough and we really are just getting to know each other so for me it would be better to take it slow, how do I handle this situation?", "summary": "Like this new guy, want to take it slow, he wants to see me every chance he gets."}
{"id": "t3_2u953u", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Keep putting money in 403(b) or start a Roth IRA? (Also, is Roth the best option?)", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'm a 28 year old teacher with moderately OK credit. I work in a state that is fortunate to pay its teachers reasonably well. I rent. I have a small emergency fund, am steadily paying off student loans, and am wanting to save more for retirement. Last year I saved 10,000 pre-taxed income in my school's 403(b) retirement vehicle with AXA-equitable. I'm liking AXA so far, no complaints.  Not sure if AXA is the \"best\" provider of a 403(b), but it's the only one offered by my school at the moment. \n\nI'm writing because I see a lot of chatter about the value of an IRA, I'm not sure what makes the most sense in the long run. My school does NOT offer matching funds, so all of the money in the 403(b) is my own. The max I could contribute is 17,500. This is more hypothetical because at the time I don't have hte finances to afford maxing out, but.... would it make better sense to divide my investment between the 403(b) and an IRA?", "summary": "not sure if I should just keep contributing to 403(b) as much as possible, start an IRA, and what % of income to invest in either/or.  Halp! "}
{"id": "t3_1hipn4", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I have a great pro-accountability idea, but no idea where to start a discussion about it!", "post": "A year ago I had a vague, pipe-dreamy idea for an interesting software project - a way of visually mapping politics in a procedural way. It got buried under the backend of my degree, until recently when I began to develop it as a commercial for-profit product. I am not a programmer in the slightest, but I've got a good idea of how this system might look, feel and function. I will explain more about this, but I'm posting for directions on where to look for people to get involved more than as a pitch.\n\nEven though I think this would work as a profitable, commercial product, it shouldn't be. It has to be free and open-source if it's really to meet its potential. I don't need to go through the various items of news that has led to the current climate of outrage against governments, but I will say that this has contributed to my decision to go open-source or nothing. I'm not sure I would be comfortable making money off this project, even though it will take skills, I think these exist in the public domain of willing volunteers.\n\nI realise I might end up explaining the whole thing, which is a big job, and I *will* do if necessary in an edit.", "summary": "I have an idea for a pro-accountability software project that I want to bring into the open, but don't know where to start."}
{"id": "t3_4vohno", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My mother (F/45) has turned to food to cope with her stress.", "post": "This post is not meant to body shame, or make anyone feel insecure about their weight. I'm just worried for my mother.\n\nMy mother works a very high paced stressful job, on top of that, she's going back to school. When she's not working her long hours at her job, (she works overtime all the time, she can't say no to her work or else she feels somehow guilty) she is slaving away at her desk writing long essays. She gets very little sleep, and often pulls all nighters to complete her essays. Through all this stress, she has put on about 20 pounds, and was not \"thin\" before that. My mother has taken to food to cope with her stress. Cookies in the morning, high calorie meals at night, I'm very worried my mother is going to eat herself sick. My whole family is getting concerned, and my other parent confided in me that she is becoming increasingly depressed. How do I talk to my mom, without offending her, that I'm worried about her weight? She often calls herself a \"fat cow\" or a \"whale\", my goal isn't to make her feel insecure, but if she keeps eating like this she WILL get sick. How do I approach this as kindly as gently as I can while getting my point across? Any advice is welcomed.", "summary": "My mother's stress has caused her to turn to food, how do I tell her I'm worried about her weight without sounding like an asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_25mwic", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description", "post": "I don't get what's wrong with me I mean I'm so nice I'm sweet,I'm caring all that stuff I thought girls like about guys and always complain about that there isn't enough of? I mean I even went through spinal fusion that I almost died from so no one would make fun on me because i used to have a hunched back, I went through chemo in 48 days will be the 10th year and ill officially be a cancer survivor that after i had this shunt surgery like a month later it had a malfunction and I was 10 mins away from dying.Now these guys said I sounded like I'm mentally challenged and they told me not to take offense.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_smoq9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get rid of a person I banned from my website?", "post": "Reddit, I need some help.  I own a small to medium website where the main attraction are some forums and some sub-forums.  This is also a business as I sell items on it.  I also make money by having sponsors and stuff like that.\n\nThe problem is a guy I have banned repeatedly keeps re-registering for the forums.  I have asked him not to re-register and told him he is no longer welcome on my site.  I have told him not to come back.  I have blocked his IP but he gets around this easily with Onion, proxies, and just resetting his IP.  I cannot block a block of IP addresses.  I've tried this before and it blocked good paying customers.\n\nWhen I look at my IP logs, I can usually tell when it's him or someone else I don't want on the site.  The IP is out of the normal geographic area I deal with.  He is good for a few weeks (if I'm lucky) and then turns back into a shithead.  As far as I know (and I have checked) he has never tried to hack or manipulate my website.  He has never done anything malicious.  He's just a pest.\n\nMy question is, what else can I do about this?  Is there anything I can do legally?  Such as a lawsuit or even have him arrested?  The way I see things is if I had a brick and mortar store and a person came in harassing my customers, I could have him arrested for trespassing if he wouldn't leave.  Can I do the same thing with an internet based store?  He ordered stuff from me years ago and I still have what I believe is his address so contacting his local police would be easy.  I really don't want to/can't do a lawsuit either because I don't have any damages except the time it wastes for me to ban him.\n\nYou guys have any ideas?  Any legal retribution?", "summary": "Guy keeps registering on my website after I banned him.  Need a way to get rid of him and want to try legal measures"}
{"id": "t3_3797d5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my [25 F] 6 years, she seems to hate my friends", "post": "To preface, in most cases my girlfriend is a sweetheart. She always goes out of her way for me and thinks about me. I love her for that. I get along really well with her friends.\n\nMy issues stem from the way she treats MY friends. My guy friends typically need to roll the dice as to whether or not they are in her favor. Right now they are, but earlier in the relationship they were the devil. My friends that are girls can't catch a break. They do nothing to offend her (even going out of their way to be nice) and yet they are nailed to the wall for ANY slight towards my girlfriend. I wanted to say jealousy, but most of them are in happy relationships and things are totally plutonic for the rest.\n\nI've tried talking to her about it but she tells me that they've done \"horrible things\", (not necessarily to her) and that I'm always taking their side against her opinion. It's made my outlook on things really sour, as it's extremely difficult to have her hanging around with my friends.\n\nMy friends have basically all told me in private that it's ok if I bring her around, it just puts a downer on the night. I hang otu with them without her now, but I get complaints from her that I spend more time with them than her.", "summary": "My girlfriend has caused issues with my friends and now my relationship seems strained, but I love her. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_50jayk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have these strange feelings and don't know what to do", "post": "ll try and keep this short (sorry for formatting issues, on mobile).\n\nSo I [21M] have only recently started dating, last 6 months or so. This has just happened to coincide with the most difficult period of my life. Everything is fine now and I'm in a much better place but it's important to know.\n\nI had been on a few dates, none of them really going anywhere, until I met K [23M].\n\nK and I live in different cities but only 1 hour away, so the distance wasn't so bad at all. We dated for about 3 months, when we decided to calm it down, mainly because K moves with work every 6 months. There wasn't a problem between us - he is the sweetest guy, kind and dorky and all.\n\nThe problem is that it never really felt like we became \"just friends\". I have realised this week in the calm that K was with me through the roughest shit I've experienced in my life so far and didn't leave me. That struck me hard.\n\nThe problem is that I keep thinking about him. Whenever I talk about him I gush and get embarrassed. I keep \"seeing\" him on my way home from work. Every corner I turn a part of me prays he'll come round it - even though he won't. We still talk most days, and I keep catching myself thinking about us kissing or holding him or whatever (I work a pretty demanding job so this is a bit frustrating at times).\n\nWhat is going on reddit? What do I do? K is famously bad at registering his own feelings, so I don't know what he's feeling at all.\n\nPlease help me understand this.", "summary": "I'm having these weird feelings about a guy and can't figure it out. Please help a fool"}
{"id": "t3_50y3v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] think I am in love with my best friend[21F] but she isn't interested. What do?", "post": "We've only really been friends since late April, and I have only known her since probably February. We have been hanging out more and more and getting closer and closer as time has gone on, at a really rapid pace. We take a lot of walks together around campus or in the woods, we talk about really deep deep stuff, stuff I have never talked about with anyone else. We text every day. It's a close relationship, but a friendship relationship. \n\nSo around late June I started getting feelings for her. I told her immediately in case she wanted to set boundaries, she thanked me and nothing changed. Then in late July I asked out another girl, got a maybe, I still don't know if what I'm doing with that girl is dating or not, but anyway I realized immediately after I asked the girl out that I really want to be with my best friend. Once again we talked about it, she made it very clear that she wasn't interested and we made a compromise with my feelings that I didn't have to fight the way I felt about her as long I respected the fact that she isn't interested.\n\nCut to today, I asked out a very attractive girl that said yes, and now all I am thinking of is my best friend again, to the point that I found myself thinking of ways to make her fall for me, which is not okay. I am not going to manipulate the feelings of my best friend.\n\nI at one point asked her to give me space, but immediately after that I was so filled with regret that I took it all back later that  same day. I can't stand not being friends. At the same time it is very clear that she is holding me back in my dating life.\n\nI don't know what I am expecting from here, but all my friends are asleep and I am at work so I can't sleep and I just have to let all this out.", "summary": "friend zone hurts, but it hurts more to lose her friendship. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3hrq76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] of a year, just found out she slept with her new boss a few years ago. She can't help that it's her boss, but I'm having a hard time trying not to feel weird about it.", "post": "She starts a job in less then a week. She got a call from her soon to be boss and sort of walked out of the room. When I asked about it she seemed a little off so I pressed the subject. Turns out she slept with this guy a few years ago (before we started dating.) She says it was a one time thing and it was a mistake and that she doesn't find him attractive or even interesting. \n\nHe just got the job a couple of weeks ago and I know it's totally out of her control, but I can't help but feel weird about the whole situation. She's going to be working really closely with this guy for the foreseeable future and her job just by its nature has her working really late all of the time. \n\nI have no reason not to trust her, but it's difficult to not get that sick feeling in my gut when I think about it. I've told her this and she got really defensive.\n\nAdvice?", "summary": "Wife starts a new job in a few days, turns out she slept with her new boss a few years ago. Trying not to feel weird about the whole situation. "}
{"id": "t3_2zobpn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My on and off SO [m 25] is having to file charges against a [f 47] who he had a fling with when we were off. What exactly does that all pertain?", "post": "A little back story they haven't been together in over a year but he would still talk to her as a friend and I was okay with that. She isn't mentally stable and needed a friend. For the past month though she has been sending harassing messages and voicemails to him constantly blowing up his phone. Saying things like she's going to go after him and he'll get his stuff like that. He feels threatened enough to go to the cops. He pretty much stuck his dick in crazy and she's trying to run him down. Has anyone been in this kind of situation before? What will happen if he presses charges?", "summary": "SO stuck dick in crazy tornado and now copsneed to be involved"}
{"id": "t3_3r0hho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28M] hooked up with my best friend's [28M] sister [25F].", "post": "I've been best friends with \"Andy\" over 10 years.  We both moved across the country from our hometown 8 years ago.  We don't head home very often so I don't see his family much.\n\nThis past week we were in our hometown for a friend's wedding.  It was amazing.  Around the beginning of the evening, his sister and I started chatting.  We both work in finance so it was a lot of dorky work stuff, but we kind of clicked.  It was a little weird, as I've kind of known her for a while but I guess I saw her a little differently that night.  We ended up spending nearly the whole night together, dancing, chatting, and laughing.  As the wine continued to flow, we ended up getting a little touchy before we went back to my hotel so he likely heard something about what happened.\n\nIt was pretty great.  Had brunch together the next day before we parted ways.  We've been messaging a little bit since then, nothing too crazy, but flirty for sure.\n\nMy questions are: \n\n-Do I have to have the conversation with my buddy and tell him what happened with his sister?  \n\n-I kid of want to pursue a relationship with is sister.  She is planning on moving to my city once she finishes the final exam for her designation.  (This has been the case for a while btw, not like some \"oh yeah i'll totally move to your city\" pillow talk)  Can I do this?  How do I even approach it?  Do I tell him first or do I let things happen with the sister and tell him after it's more in stone?\n\nI normally have a pretty good head on my shoulders when it comes to relationship type stuff, but I could really use some advice here.", "summary": "Hooked up with best friend's sister after wedding.  Kind of want to pursue relationship.  Can I pull this off?  How the hell do I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_168jcb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] My family acts disrespectfully towards my [22/m] boyfriend. What's the best thing to do in this situation?", "post": "Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all.", "summary": "Cultural differences make it difficult for my Persian family to treat my non-Persian boyfriend with respect. Should I/we speak up, stay silent, or what?"}
{"id": "t3_532hl4", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "TSH level variation and suggestions for possible medical tests", "post": "In June I took a blood test in Belgium, which among other things checked for TSH levels. The level was 2.9. A month later I took another blood test in my home country, Norway (I'm an expat), which had a score of 1. Both tests were taken at around 11 AM, with no food beforehand (don't know if this is relevant at all). Should the TSH level vary this much? The ranges were the same at both laboratories (0.3 - 4.2). The latter laboratory also tested for Free T4 and Anti-TPO, which came back normal (16 (range: 11 - 22) and 97 (range 50 - 150) respectively). \n\nBackground info:\n\n26 year old Caucasian male, approximately 70 kg, 182 cm. Not taking any medications. Blood pressure 133/86, taken this Monday. Symptoms in no particular order:\n\n* Night sweats which usually come in \"clusters\", occurring about three to four nights in the span of about two weeks. I can then have a month or two without it happening.\n* Frequent bowel movements (at least four times per day)\n* Panic attacks at varying intervals", "summary": "Is it normal for the TSH level to vary as much as this? I would also greatly appreciate any suggestions for other possible diagnoses which I can ask my doctor about when I see him next week"}
{"id": "t3_4owf4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [14F] with my teacher of three years [30ishF] She helped me out when I had severe emotional struggles and was an amazing influence. I wrote her a page and a half letter thanking her and was wondering if she would appreciate it and if it's appropriate", "post": "Hi!\n\nI've had the same teacher for 3 years.\n\nDuring this time I've had a lot of family and emotional issues. My dad left and I developed a severe anxiety disorder.\n\nMy teacher, Ms. Smith, has been incredibly helpful during all of it. She's been very accommodating and let me push back tests right after my dad left.\n\nShe and I have talked a bit about it, but not very much. I've eaten lunch in her room everyday other day all 3 years with friends.\n\nI've cried in front of her a few times and she checks up on me when I seem off.\n\nShe's been a huge help and I don't think without her I would've been nearly as successful. She was always super kind and her class was the distraction I needed.\n\nI wanted to write her a letter to give to her on the last day to express my gratitude. It's about a page and a half long and it just talks about how she helped me out each year. I told her that she was a comfort and an amazing influence. I didn't really go into details about the personal issues besides what she knew. (Family fell apart and anxiety disorder)\n\nI'm just wondering if this is appropriate to give to her? Would she appreciate it? Is it too personal? Is it a good way to express my gratitude? Any input from teachers would be really nice!", "summary": "teacher that I had for three years really helped me out when I was going through awful personal issues. Wrote her a page and a half letter thanking her for being such a help, and telling her how grateful I was for her class. I'm just wondering if this is appropriate to give to her? Would she appreciate it? Is it too personal? Is it a good way to express my gratitude? Any input from teachers would be really nice!"}
{"id": "t3_s900o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "High School relationship advice needed", "post": "I'd post in teen relationships, but it seems pretty dead. \n\nAnyway, I'm a 15-year-old female and am currently a freshmen in high school. I don't consider myself unattractive, but I'm also not gorgeous.\n\nNever had a boyfriend before, but I'm really into this one guy. We sit by each other at lunch everyday and speak frequently in Spanish class. He seems pretty into me as well, but I'm shit at reading guys, so I have no idea (He's also pretty damn flirtatious with a handful of other girls). \n\nThere's a school dance coming up and my other friends have been pushing him to ask me to it. He gets really embarrassed when they do this and vehemently denies liking me, even going as far as to explicitly state that it will never happen on one of my friend's facebook walls (girls can indeed be friendzoned, lol).  \n\nHe seems a little more reluctant to speak with me since they started doing this, but I can't tell if that's because he's embarrassed about liking me or he just flat out doesn't like me. I'm close with some of his friends and they say he might like me. They could be trolling me though. \n\nI'm new to dating. What should I do? I'm scared I might kill our friendship if I bring it up. Any feedback would be appreciated.", "summary": "15, female, got a serious crush on a guy who I thought might like me. My friends pestered him about asking me out. He got really defensive. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_opn7a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you focus on to get through the day?", "post": "I'm 21, in college working toward a major in psychology and a minor in sociology. I've been on reddit for a couple months now and I'm curious how people make it through the day. I don't mean to sound like an egotistical prick, but everyone I seem to hear about or come in contact with always appears to be really quite idiotic and I'm finding it hard to remain patient throughout the entire day and by about 1 or 2pm every day, I generally start thinking about how long I would have to ram my head against a wall before I stop thinking about how messed up things are or how I would realistically be able to start a riot, overthrow the government and start from a blank page. I've also been thinking about the shrinking job availability and my current funds lately and it's getting to be a bit much. So, I would like to know what you do or focus on throughout the day when times get tough to sort of enlighten your day. Also, this is my first post.", "summary": "How do you stay in control on a day to day basis?"}
{"id": "t3_3ekxrr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24M) live-in GF(25F) has asked for space, need advice.", "post": "Some Background: We have been dating for 3 years, 2 living together. Before that we were best friends who were too afraid to say how we felt to each other for a year. \n\nWe moved to a new city together a year ago, and are due to start a new lease we signed less than a month ago. I have been working 2 part time jobs and going to grad school (with another unpaid internship as well). I decided to go to grad school so I could give her the kind of life I know that she deserves. \n\nI love this girl with all my heart, and 5 days ago she says she feels like we are back to being just friends. She then asked for space to figure things out. The only thing is we live together, and besides me living in the basement at my own house, I don't see how else to give her space.\n\nKnowing she is only 30 feet away from me while I am in the same house is killing me. Now I know for sure she is the one I want my future to be with, how can I let her know these things while at the same time trying to give her the space she needs?", "summary": "My girlfriend says she feels like friends, and needs space, how can I give her that while we both live under the same roof?"}
{"id": "t3_wdey8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's your best (or worst) \"Well what did you think was going to happen?\" moment? I'll start.", "post": "I had this girlfriend, and she was nuts in the bedroom. \n\nAnyway, I introduce her to my friends and she starts getting along with one of them really well. Being an idiot, my thoughts were \"Awesome, we three should hang out more!\" \n\nFast forward a few months, she starts pushing for a threesome with him. Being, again, and idiot, I think \"Sure, that could be fun once or twice. Then we'll move on like nothing happened!\"\n\nFast forward again. It happens, it's fun, We move on. \n\nTwo weeks later, i find out they've been having sex pretty consistently for those two weeks. I was like \"WHAAA?\" (again, idiot)\n\nSo then they're dating, and all my friends leave to hang out with them, and I'm like \"How could I have seen this coming?\"", "summary": "had a threesome with my GF and my friend, She left for him."}
{"id": "t3_e545z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, you help so many people. Could you please help me re-unite with my long lost teddy bear?", "post": "When I was a kid (6 years old) my grandpa went to America and brought me a teddy bear as a gift. I fell in love with him instantly and brought him everywhere I went. I had clothes for him (even some knitted by my mom). My parents even bought him a little backpack and I used to pack him the same stuff I packed in mine for school (little books labeled \"math\" and such). I used to think of him as my pal and everybody knew him at my school (even the teachers, and they also loved him). \n\nOne sad day, when I was 12, I went out to the swimming pool with my grandpa and on the way back I realized I didn't have him anymore. We frantically looked everywhere, but he was gone. We went back to the swimming pool but could not find him. I became a very sad little kid. I put some signs around the neighbourhood but people only laughed at me (which I can now understand a bit). The next 2 years, my mom and dad travelled to America as well (for family reasons) and looked for \"Sito\" (the teddy bear's name I invented) with no success. \n\nThe Christmas after, my grandpa, seeing me so sad, found a teddy bear which was similar (not really) and gave it to me with a letter from Santa saying that \"he (Sito) went to the North Pole to meet him (Santa) and to have a change of looks\". Of course I knew the truth but I appreciated my grandpa doing that for me.  \n\nNowadays (I'm 28 now) I have (maybe not) got over it, but I still look in ebay every now and then just in case. Until it occured to me that maybe Reddit could help me. It's been more than 15 years but it's worth a try.", "summary": "I lost my very loved teddy bear as a kid and I need reddit to help me re-unite with him.  "}
{"id": "t3_2i2h81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my GF [33 F] 8 years together, she things her family will think of her turning her back on them if she moves out", "post": "My gf and I have been together 8 years and she's lived at home with her parents all  her life. Her parents are super traditional and the very thought of her even staying the night with me upsets them. She has lied for the last 6 years saying she was at her friends house so we could have some time together.  They know we plan on getting engaged and eventually married.  My gf and I are falling into depression due to not being able to live together along with other issues outsider our relationship.\n\nWe've been on many trips together and are completely happy and care free when we are together, but lately not living together is really making us unhappy.\n\nI want to tell her she just needs to move in with me, but I don't want to be thought of as disrespecting her parents. I know at this age and the devotion we have to each other it's nonsense for us not to live together, but I don't know how to get her to break through that wall and tell her parents that we are moving in together.\n\nOne of our biggest issues is the loss of friends over the years. When we started dating we each had a good pool of friends but over the years those friends have just about abandoned us for various reasons.\n\nI feel it's almost impossible to propose even though it's all i think about. I depresses me that I would have to propose and then we'd have to go our separate ways after the proposal instead of enjoying the big step in our lives together.", "summary": "Gf of 8 years can't bring herself to move out of her parents house and in with me in fear of turning her back on her parents."}
{"id": "t3_2z7e4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] feel terrible about something I did that is probably pretty minor. Should I tell my boyfriend [25M] about it?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I have had minor crushes in the past and I have told him about them, and he was okay with it. A few months ago I developed a crush on a guy in my classes. I looked him up on Facebook and saw that he liked one of my favorite bands. I have one of their band t-shirts and I like to wear it out in public because I love when someone makes a positive comment about it. I was excited when I saw that he liked the band and decided to wear it to class. I wanted to talk to him about the band because I was excited to meet someone who likes it, but I guess a part of me also wanted him to be impressed/attracted to me. I would NEVER do anything remotely romantic or sexual with him, though. \n\nHe didn't notice, so I wore the shirt again a few weeks later. He noticed that time and complimented me on the shirt, and I immediately felt extremely guilty and basically cut off the conversation after saying \"it's one of my favorite bands.\" I feel like I cheated in some way and I've been beating myself up over it for weeks. Should I tell my boyfriend about this, or do you think it's too minor of a situation/it would do more harm than good?", "summary": "Wore a band t-shirt to sort of impress someone I have a crush on but I am also in a long-term relationship. I feel very guilty. Should I tell my boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_3z8p81", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my friend[19F] Good spontaneous thing/date to do with her after not seeing in a while HELP There is some good tension in the air", "post": "Ok so recently this chick from high school and I started talking again its been a couple days now since initiation. Weve hooked up and been to several parties together and there was defs something there (she was a schooling year below me). \n\nWeve been texting and shit sharing some nostalgia and all but wanna get a date going. Should i just ask her if she wants to come down to the beach with some wine lol? i mean the worst thing that could happen she says no. \n\nBasically anyone else been in a similat scenario ? what happened? you can ask more on the situation shes just smoking if you know what i mean.", "summary": "get a date/fling going on again with a girl from high school ( this is my first post here cheers)"}
{"id": "t3_368c64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) found my boyfriend's (26M) POF account accidentally. I'm conflicted.", "post": "We have been together 7 months. We have established already that it is okay for the both of us to check each other's phones, emails, and social accounts so this isnt like I'm snooping. \n\nMy first time to check my boyfriend's phone in January and I saw he had a POF app so I told him to delete it since there's no point into having one since were us serious (or I thought so). The first time I lost my trust on him was in January too when I was backreading his messages on facebook, he was talking to this girl and telling her that he was single. Anyway, were past that. And everything's been great despite the long distance, we see each other every other week for a few days. Well last week, I visited him so I was checking his phone and checked his emails. I was just scrolling and saw an email from POF about retrieving his username. I managed to open the POF account and there I saw that he has been talking to women and asking to meet up since April 20. The last message he sent was May 9... A few days before I visited him. I confronted him about what I saw and he said it wasnt him that someone could be using his account. That happened last wednesday and he hasnt admitted anything that it was him. I love him and my parents likes him a lot. Ive met his parents and his whole family and his sisters kept saying that it was his first time to introduce a girlfriend to them. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that it wasnt him but I feel like maybe im just gullible. He was crying when I was packing up my stuff and he didnt want to break up. So I didnt. I want him in my life yet I'm scared that this could be a red flag. The line of work he wants to be in requires him to go for training a few times a year but he'll be gone for months each time. I lost my trust and I dont think losing that goes well with his line of work.", "summary": "Found boyfriend's POF account asking women to meet up. He said it wasnt him and his account could have been hacked. My parents likes him a lot and I love him. I'm so conflicted of should I believe him or not."}
{"id": "t3_1lp0od", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Invest into 401(k) or ESPP?", "post": "Hello everyone!\n\nI am a 23 year old new employee of a corporation and am beginning to get a grasp on my finances (this being my first job out of college).  I am lucky to have graduated with no debt, and with ~$10k in my \"savings\"(brokerage) account.  I recently created a generous budget for myself that allocated roughly 45% of my paycheck to expenses (I way over-allocated for my food budget), 40% to contribute to my 401(k) to hit the IRS maximum, and another 5% or so towards my HSA to max it out, and the last approximately 10% is \"fun\" money for me to spend on whatever I want.\n\nI now have realized that my Employee Stock Purchase Program (ESPP) is beginning enrollment, and for the next 3 months I can contribute up to 10% of my paycheck per pay period towards purchasing company stock at a 15% discount off of fair-market value on the day of the purchase (not the lowest price during the ESPP program like many companies do).\n\nThe Roth 401(k) I am contributing to has a 4% employer match.\n\nMy HSA has an employer match of $500 per year and uses pre-tax dollars.\n\nMy question is should I reduce my 401(k) investments to max out my ESPP, or ignore the ESPP, or something in between?", "summary": "Is it more important to max out an ESPP or a 401(k)?"}
{"id": "t3_52cuxt", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I can't stand my girlfriend's mum.", "post": "So my girlfriend's mum has anxiety (pretty bad from what I know), however, she's also still a responsible parent for 3 children. She abuses my girlfriend by saying things such as \"you're the worst thing to happen to me in the world\" and abuses her for moving away with me. If my girlfriend disagrees with her on anything she then gets verbally abusive again. \n\nNow, me and my girlfriend of 4 years live together, and have been relatively happy, but my girlfriend gets incredibly upset at me whenever I get angry about something her mum does. For example, her mother recently suggested just \"dumping\" her 3 children to go live with a love interest in another country. \n\nMost recently, her mother was staying in our apartment and was supposed to leave at a designated time in order to arrive for a plane. I stayed home from university (because I don't feel comfortable leaving someone alone in my house and my girlfriend was at work) so I could make sure the house was locked up when I left. However, her mum constantly complained she was going to miss her flight (I assured her if she left soon she most certainly would not), to which she rung her boyfriend, made herself a coffee and sat down for a chat, whilst still complaining she was going to miss the flight. She didn't leave for another 2 hours and prevented me from leaving. \n\nI vented about this to my girlfriend to which I was told I was \"being a f***head\" about. I'm considering removing myself from this altogether, as in breaking up and moving out as she can't understand my anger towards her mother or tolerate it at any stage and I don't feel it's my place to force someone to cut off their mother.", "summary": "My girlfriend's abusive mother is affecting my relationship and my girlfriend won't cut her off even though we have our own place. Should I simply leave?"}
{"id": "t3_2dttvu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by screaming my carnal intent.", "post": "This was last night, but it was well into the wee hours so it was technically today.\nIm at a club with a couple of friends, music blaring, people dancing, drinks being drunk. A few nice young ladies sit their behinds down at the table next to me and my fellows. \"What a great opportunity for us to make some new friends\" we think, and promptly plant ourselves next to these fair creatures.\n\nEveryone is all smiles and giggles and lighthearted conversation is screamed (take notice) between members of our merry band so as to be heard over the music. I have my eye on this one particular blonde pretty-faced thing that just enrolled in my school but she's at the other end of the table so it's hard for me to work my magic since my charm only works at melee range.\n\nPondering this predicament I go to the bar to have another drink but when I come back I see that my friend that sat next to her has generously fucked off. Life is good.\n\nI sit down and initiate conversation. She responds well and we hit it off. In the words of Weezer: There's the pitch, slow and straight, all I have to do is swing.\n\nEnter my friend, who taps me on the shoulder and articulately asks with his voicebox turned up to eleven: \"So are you gonna fuck that blonde chick?!\" I enthusiastically respond at the same noise level: \"YEAH!\" nodding my head and giving a solid thumbs up.\n\nAs I turn again to my ladyfriend I see she has a fart-smelling look on her face and is in the process of turning 360 degrees and moonwalking the fuck out of there. She heard the entire exchange.", "summary": "Use inside voices."}
{"id": "t3_vz3mq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest thing you've done in public as a child?", "post": "When I was 7 my family decided to go on a holiday to Warner Bros Movieworld (Australia's version of Disneyland I guess). This was not long after Warner Bros had released Batman Forever with Val Kilmer and Jim Carrey. As always there was a meet and greet of characters from films and shows WB had made over the years and Batman and The Riddler were 2 of the characters.\nI was ecstatic when I got to meet Batman, however when it came to The Riddler I vented my anger towards him for being a villian by delivering a swift crotch punch to the guy. My parents were horified but soon started laughing as The Riddler picked me up by the back of my pants and gave me the biggest wedgie I've ever received!", "summary": "I punched The Riddler in the jeans at a theme park and received a wedgie as payback from him."}
{"id": "t3_29uu7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my ex [19 F] dated for ~1.5 yrs broke up 5 months ago, and Im trying to get her back", "post": "She was my high school sweetheart, and my first/only love, we dated throughout our senior year, and now we 're attending different universities. After graduation we stayed together and tried to make the long distance work.  \nShe didnt have any friends at her school and was always relying on me 24/7 to be available for her to talk to, I was her world. We talked many times about it but it never got better.  \nI broke up with her mid second semester.  After that she was like a zombie, sick mentally, emotionally, and physically. The break up almost killed her and she didnt have any support through it.  I was ok, i had other friends to mask my depression, but I still loved and cared about her and would check in every month to see how she was doing.  \nNow its summer and were finally back in the same town, so I asked her out again.  She explained what I put her through and says shes finally happy now and cant do it again. She wont even see me.  \nWhat can I do to get her to give me another chance? Should I wait and give it more time before trying to revive it?", "summary": "want to get back together but she doesnt"}
{"id": "t3_14aoaq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19f) repeatedly lied/hid things from my boyfriend (22) of 7months.", "post": "We've been together since late April. Before that, we were friends, and then friends with benefits, for a couple months. In early March, I hooked up (kissing and above clothes touching) with a coworker,who had a girlfriend, after work. Note that I hooked up with my fwb, now boyfriend, earlier that evening. \n\nFast forward a few days, I went to the beach with my guy and told him what happened. He was pretty miffed. He ended up telling me that his ex created on him repeatedly and lied constantly. She hurt him. Badly. Really fucking badly. He told me he would never and could never be with another girl like that. \n\nI am that girl. I've hid things and lied about things for 7 months. Mostly just things related to the night I hooked up with the dude from work, because I was ashamed of them and didn't want to hurt my boyfreind/seem like a whore. \n\nBut I lied. I have now \"come clean\" to my bf about all of the details of that night. But we've reached a breaking point. He even called me by his ex's name, and told me that he thinks of us as the same. \n\nYesterday, we decided to try the fuck buddies thing, and leave the relationship stuff behind. But today, we're still talking about relationship stuff, namely my lies. I have told him everything that happened. He says he still feels like I'm \"holding things back,\" but I am not. \n\nHow can I, a habitual liar, show the one person I care about most that I am being truthful? How can I make it up to him?", "summary": "I lied to my boyfriend, a lot. Then lying is over. How can I prove this/make it up to him?"}
{"id": "t3_1cc6sl", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Fear of Death", "post": "So, for about 4 or 5 years, I've been terrified of death.\n\nAt night, when it all goes quiet and I'm in bed, no matter what the thought of dieing comes into my head.\n\nI don't know why, it just does. I think about how I won't exist, the aftermath, how other people will just go on without knowing I ever existed, how I won't be able to talk, walk, do anything, see anything, love anyone. I simply, 'won't'.\n\nI get really worked up about it and my heart just beats faster, and faster, and faster, until I eventually feel really dizzy and nearly throw up or I just start crying.\n\nIs there anything I can do to not be so afraid?", "summary": "I have a HUGE fear of dieing. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2rtbcr", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New to the sub... read my story please! Suggestions wanted.", "post": "Here's the back story l. I got married in June. Both sets of parents have been married for 25+ years, and all three sets of grandparents have been married 55+ years. My wife's other set of grandparents unfortunately have passed away, but had 54 years of marriage when the first of them passed. \n\nI don't know what led to the conversation, but essentially or parents added up all of the years that everyone had been married and it ends up being about 275 years. \n\nPoint is, as part of our wedding present,  they gifted us $275, one dollar for each year of marriage for all of those people. Each year on our anniversary,  they will give us $275 plus the five extra dollars per year for anniversaries for the five couples. \n\nAnyway,  we want to put it away and start saving it for our kids college or something. We have looked at several different investment options,  but haven't been able to settle upon one.", "summary": "What is the best possible long term investment for our money. Can be slow growing,  and we definitely don't want it all to be placed in a high risk scenario. This is a 20+ year decision. "}
{"id": "t3_3ckrld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girfriend [22F] 8 months, kept a secret from me", "post": "My girlfriend and I were on a date yesterday when she had to get something off her chest.\n\nShe said that I am not her second guy (sex) that shes been with. There were two others before me.\n\nShe wanted to be honest with me and I was hurt that she kept this the whole time. I thought we had open communication this whole time.\n\nI respect that she wanted to tell me but I would have either wanted to know from the beginning to know what I was getting myself into or just never know.\n\nI cried because it hurt when this whole time I thought we were each other second partner. \n\nShe had sex with 2 other guys in between her ex and me. she said she was angry and felt like giving up on dating until a mutual friend introduced us. \n\nShe keeps telling me that I am perfect for her and surprised that how I treat like no other guy before. Which I am glad at what i'm doing is right because before it was not appreciated. \n\nI feel like marrying her one day but this idk of our relationship will be the same. \n\nI want things to be the same before she told me. Like I wish I could forget about it.\n\nWhat to do? Did I overreacted?", "summary": "GF told me that she has sex with 2 other guys in between her ex and me but told me a while later/What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qf3as", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] going on 1 yr, East Indian Mother PROBLEMS.", "post": "My 27 year old boyfriend is wonderful caring and loving. He is from a \n\nlarge east Indian family, most of whom I have a good relationship with.\n\nHe and all his four older brother (+ I wife) still live at home. Our \n\nrelationship is pretty solid except for his mother. \n\nShe disapproves of the relationship and would much rather have him \n\ndating a nice Sikh girl. I am a very white and very Jewish girl.\n\nShe never outwardly says anything to me. However, she never \n\nacknowledges my existence, doesn't engage in conversation with me \n\nand basically treats me like I am all together subhuman. \n\nShe continually talks to her son/my boyfriend about how she doesn't \n\nwant me staying over/doesn't approve.. she is unable to say anything \n\ntruly negative about my character because I am otherwise a likeable \n\nperson. ( I clean up, I am polite, I don't cause problems) \n\nBut its getting to the point where its effecting our relationship. I am so \n\nupset and frustrated by her behavior I don't know what to do. I cant \n\never say anything to her because nothing is said to my face. Any \n\nsuggestions?", "summary": "Basically my boyfriends Sikh mother does not like,acknowledge me (and talks shit about me behind "}
{"id": "t3_33xyxh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My partner [19M] does not want children but I [19F] might do and I can't stop thinking about it", "post": "My partner and I have been together for over two years. In the beginning of our relationship we were both happy with the idea of one day having children. However at some point last year my boyfriend suddenly changed his mind about it. He says he doesn't want children and he doesn't really like them (he really dislikes babies). He says there is a possibility he will change his mind in the future but it's more likely that he won't.\n\nNow I haven't really decided whether or not I want children - the idea seems nice but I have to take into consideration whether or not I'd be able to cope with them mentally (I have depression which can sometimes severely affect my mood and interaction with other people). There is also a chance that I will be happy to go without children in the future. But I guess I just always assumed I would have them.\n\nHe tells me I don't need to worry about this yet as it's far in the future and not currently relevant, and although he's right, I can't stop thinking about it. I just wish he was more open on the idea so it didn't play on my mind so much. We want to get engaged at some point soon but I don't want to actually get married before we've come to some sort of conclusion on this. It doesn't have to be a definite yes or no but it just feels so vague right now and I don't want to push myself into a situation which would make me unhappy.\n\nI'd like some advice on anything really. I don't want to leave him over it because I think at the age of 19 when I haven't even fully decided what I want myself it would be silly, and everything else in our relationship is great. I wish it didn't bother me so much but I can't help but think about it often, I don't like uncertainty.", "summary": "My partner doesn't want children and is currently unlikely to change his mind and I probably do want them, however we're only 19 and this is currently not an issue so should I be worrying about it now?"}
{"id": "t3_43ivd5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [25f] boyfriend [23M] never wants to do anything", "post": "3 months ago I moved across the country to live with my boyfriend of 2 years (we were in a LDR). I have no friends and family here. everything is ok and all but we've been bumping heads a lot lately when it comes to going out and spending time together. My boyfriend works a hard 50 hrs a week as a diesel mechanic. he wakes up at 5am and doesn't get home till about 6-7pm. he is also a Sergent for the army reserves so he has more responsibilities than just the diesel job. he has off (most) weekends. I have a boring job as a security officer. I work 12 hours shifts but I only do 3 days a week. I also do some extra work on the side to bump my hours up to 40+ a week. I usually leave work with a lot of energy to do stuff but I don't bother my boyfriend during the week because I know he is tired and just wants to relax. On weekdays I keep myself occupied.\n\nby Saturday, I am restless to spend time with my boyfriend but all he wants to do is stay at home and play video games. I ask him why he never wants to do anything and he says because he works hard all week and all he wants to do during the weekends is relax at home. ok but... when will there be time for us??? He says when he takes some vacation time off we can do things.\n\nDoes that sound normal to you? Not doing anything at all with your SOs unless on special snowflake occasions? I get that he works hard but I also think he should put some effort into the relationship too. are my feeling validated or an I just being a high maintenance girlfriend?", "summary": "boyfriend works long/hard hours and never wants to go out because of this. I'm dying to go out with him. what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1prrx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [23M] two years, long distance is really starting to get hard - any fun ideas?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been living an hour and a half apart since May, when I graduated from college and moved home to start graduate school. He's finishing up his last year there, but we're probably not going to be able to live together or closer than an hour away until I finish grad school in two years. Seeing each other has been really difficult. We make the trip to each other maybe once a month, twice if we're lucky.\n\nWe skype and text all the time, but it's just not enough. To be honest we're starting to run out of interesting things to talk about! When seeing each other is out of the question, how can we find ways to keep connecting and find new ways to hang out without physically being together? I'm not worried about our relationship at all, I just can't shake this frustration that I can't see him all the time or even twice a month if I want. We're starting to take it out on each other which only makes it feel worse.\n\nAnybody have any fun ideas they did when they were in a long distance relationship? We've thrown around the idea of doing a skype date with screen sharing, but movies don't come through the internet very nicely when we've tried.", "summary": "Long distance is rough, what fun things can we do when we can't be together?"}
{"id": "t3_5000gj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am in an toxic/abusive relationship [22 F], advice?", "post": "I have been with my partner for just under 3 years now and we have spent almost that entire time living together. We both suffer from generalized anxiety disorder but can generally find a common ground, however there have been many, many times were my partner becomes outright caustic if she's feeling bad about /whatever/.\n\nHard day at work? I cop abuse. Something doesn't go the way she wants? I cop abuse. She feels bad about herself? I cop abuse. I do something differently from exactly how she wants it? I cop abuse.\n\nWhile I say abuse I don't mean she's physically harming me, but she'll specifically go out of her way to make me feel like whatever I do is wrong, or that I personally am responsible for her bad mood which /severely/ affects my mental health. I've brought this up with her countless times and told her that she needs to work with me, rather than grind against me, but her go-to coping mechanism for anything she finds extraneous is to take it out on me.\n\nWe both acquired our anxiety disorders' from our dysfunctional parents' and while I can recognise when she's using their example to cope, she seems wholly incapable of recognizing how her mood affects how she acts to the extent that no matter what the circumstances are, I will always be the \"enemy\".\n\nMy parents dysfunction severely impacted my ability to willingly harm anyone so I am a bit of a push over in the sense that when someone is hurting me I don't hurt them back...but surely there is a way to reach my partner besides outright slapping some sense into her. I love my partner despite all the harm she's caused me and truly believe that there is a resolution to this besides saying \"kthxbai\".", "summary": "my SO can't understand her own emotions and continuously uses how she feels as an excuse to hurt me rather than coming to me for help/support but I love her and need her in my life, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_32jwu2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23/F) discovered nude sketches of other girls in my boyfriends (25/M) drawer.", "post": "I have only been with him since Christmas but things have been great, I've really fallen for him. He lives with a close friend of mine, he is a lovely, generous person. This weekend gone has been brilliant, I've hung out with all his friends and family, and we said I love you for the first time.\n\nThen this morning I was getting some socks out when I opened his bottom drawer by accident instead of Middle. Ispotted some sketches, and I picked them up to look. There were multiple nude sketches of girls nude, they were lewd though. There was a also a printout of a girls picture and a sketch of her face. I know that I am his first girlfriend and before me he hadn't had sex for years. I know I should probably accept that they are likely old and mean nothing but I can't help getting worked up over them. It doesn't help that the girl(s) in the sketches are more attractive and slim than myself, though we have an active sex life I'm worried that he might fantastise over these girls.\n\nI don't know ether to talk to him about it, but then I don't want him to think I was snooping. \nShould I just get over it?", "summary": "discovered lewd nude sketches in my boyfriends drawer- should I ask him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1dna3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Throwaway time! Gf [21] cheated on me M[26] but doesn't know I know yet.", "post": "Gf and I are going on a 2 year relationship. We don't live together, We are about 30 minute drive from each other, so seeing each other is nothing to worry about. From what i was told there was no sex involved just all the things leading up to it. But she refused to have sex. But I have a feeling she's going to want to break up with me soon. As far as things go, the past 2 months have been weird i would say, talking less and less, and see each other less because she's in school and studying for finals. \n\nMy question is what do i do? do i confront her, or have a talk that will lead up to the subject of cheating? I still love her and I want to be with her. I'm in deep shock and I'm shaking. I just want to stay with her, I love her to damn much.", "summary": "gf cheated all but sex, doesn't know i know, i want to save the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3uoe6y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32F] with my husband [34 M] married 7 years - 7 year itch?", "post": "How many of you have dealt with the \"7 year itch\" in relationships? I have a wonderful husband who has been my significant other for 13 years, we've been married for seven of them. I have never felt attracted to another man other than to say they are hot and move on. Recently I've developed a crush on a man I occasionally work with, I actually told him I wanted to make out with him but didn't do it. He is engaged to be married and is quite happy in his relationship as well. I've also found myself checking out other women when I'm out and about and am feeling sexual attraction to them as well. I'm at a loss for what to do. After an argument with my husband today I kept thinking that maybe it's time for me to leave him. He knows none of this, he would be devastated that I felt sexually attracted to anyone else; I have battled health conditions in recent years that have destroyed my sex drive. Recently it has started to return due to a new treatment plan but it is still very hit or miss. I haven't initiated sex for quite some time. I would never do anything to hurt my husband but I'm questioning if I'm still in love with him. Does anyone have any advice?", "summary": "Am I being normal or should I leave?"}
{"id": "t3_2ckwfs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20f) girlfriend of 7 months (20f) and her mom (46f) hate eachother and they are making me sick", "post": "I love my gf and I love her family (brother, dad, mom)  too. They are good people but they fight about 4-5 times a week. The thing is , everytime my gf fights with her mom, she comes to me and tells me (texts)  the whole thing and how she feels about the fight and her mom and THATS NORMAL because shes my gf, but I start to get frustrated when her mom texts me too. She  complains about my gf and tells me how horrible and cruel her daughter is (it makes me so angry)\n\n I usually take my gfs side because her mom is really disfunctional at times, I've tried to speak to her mom and she won't listen. It's her way or no way. \n\nYesterday they texted me at the same time and they were freaking out and saying horrible things about eachother and I felt sick and angry and I went to bed really nervous. \n\nMy family is really relaxed and we fight about 1-2 times every two months, and usually we solve everything in less than an hour. Their relationship is bringin ME down and when they  turn to me everytime they fight at the SAME time it literally ruins my whole day and puts me in the worst mood.\n\nI tried everything because I really want her mom to stop and i dont want to get affected by their relationship: i took the mothers side once, i took my gfs side, i told them to go to therapy (they are still going and nothing happens) i even ignored them once and they kept bombing my phone, i told my gf how i felt, etc.\n\nI dont think I'm emotionally weak, but people i love can take my peace away in seconds. \n\nI want to be always there for my gf because shes beyond perfect but I want to remain sane.\n\nAm I wrong or selfish for feeling like this? I really dont know how to deal with them in a healthy way.\n\n(My mother -in-law is texting me again, right now, ahgggggg)", "summary": "My girlfriend and her mom have a bad relationship and they always put me in the middle. They (mostly the mom) expect me to take a side and participate. I dont want to, it makes me sick."}
{"id": "t3_ptvw2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What were some of the most interesting things you've seen on a camera SD card that you've found?", "post": "So this story starts during a cleaning expedition of my college dorm room. When moving the dresser I discovered an all black SD card or a reasonable size (no longer in my possession. I cannot remember the exact number). Being the Curious George that I am I decided to delve into the contents. One of the things that stood out the most and I can still recall to this day is a \"striptease\" (no nudity involved) video a girl did where she pranced around and proceeded to take off TWELVE layers of shirts before getting tired although it seemed as if she had more.", "summary": "Found SD card while cleaning. Had a video of a girl dancing as she took off 12 shirts. What about you?"}
{"id": "t3_oiams", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help! My secret engagement ring has created a paradox.", "post": "Hello, Reddit.  This is my first ever post.  Be gentle.\n\nPROBLEM:\n\nSo, my girl is into aesthetics and has a history with the bridal industry.  We want to get married - that much is certain.  So, I take her ring shopping to get an idea of what she likes.  She narrows it down to 2 rings.  Good for me, I want the ring I pick to be a surprise anyway.  \n\nOne she seems to like a little better, so I buy it.  All is well, or so it seems.\n\nWithout telling me, she goes back to the stores to get a second opinion.  The girl who sold me the ring (challenge accepted) plays it epic-level cool and says that the ring went back to corporate for something or another, and my girlfriend flips her shit and yells at the lady (because I told the fiancee-to-be that they'd hold it for a week).  The lady calls me and warns me because apparently she's like a bro in disguise or something.\n\nSo, I told my girl we could go shop for more rings, but the problem is... I ALREADY HAVE ONE!  So, I don't want her to fall in love with something else.", "summary": "How do I get my girlfriend to stop looking at rings because I bought her the dream ring in secret, and I don't want her to find dream ring part 2: electric boogaloo, and I'm out 3 months pay."}
{"id": "t3_1e6gi0", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "My path of personal success", "post": "Since, February of this year, I have re-evaluated my life goals. I determined that I would put more effort into my school, hobbies, and fitness.\n\nI am on my 11th week of fitness training, with guidance from /r/bodyweightfitness. I have kept a workout journal to track my progress. As an example of my accomplishments, in 11 weeks I went from being able to do no pull-ups, to doing 3 sets of 5 pull ups. It feels amazing every time I do one more rep than the last workout. \n\nAlong with this, I have been eating healthy and keeping track of my calories. This is partly aesthetic, but also ensures I eat enough protein for muscle development.\n\nI have put more effort into reading, playing guitar, and learning German daily. These are my main hobbies that I work to progress on, making small improvements every day. I am reading books I have always wanted to read and writing my own songs on guitar.\n\nLast semester of university, I made about a 3.9 GPA. I am starting to look for projects to work on for next semester in my field of study (EE).\n\n**Accomplishment for today:**\n\nI've been stuck at 3 sets of 4/4/5 pullups for about a week now. Today, while staring at the pullup bar, I determined that I would not let go until I had done 5 pullups each set. First two sets were somewhat difficult, but done without fail. Last set and end of workout. Just 5 more pullups. I grab on, and pump out the first 3. The fourth one my arms starting shaking and I barely made it up. I lower myself, and stare off into the distance trying to will my arms to have more strength. I lurch myself upwards, arms barely holding on. I start to lower, but I won't let it happen. I point my chin up and shake my way to the top; my chin barely reaching the bar. I improved and I felt fucking great.", "summary": "Putting more effort into fitness, hobbies, and school. Making improvements every day. Reached new levels of fitness today."}
{"id": "t3_1w2x86", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 F] need some advice about my boyfriend's [17 M] insecurity.", "post": "Hi Reddit! \nFirst time posting on this subreddit; I hope my issue is a valid one. It's nothing that dramatic, I just need a little advice. My boyfriend who I adore has some insecurities about his body. We've been in a relationship for about a year (our one year is actually next wednesday :)) and have been best friends for years. \n\nWe both have insecurities and they have all come up numerous times. We are really good about talking through insecurities and doubts that we've had, I just really don't know what to tell him when he starts talking about hating his body. There are only so many times I can tell him how much I love his body before it starts to become meaningless in the heat of the moment and he starts to think that I'm just \"pampering\" him. \n\nSome of his shirts are too small for him (he's not fat but not a stick - hes like the cute kind of boarderline chubby), which I occasionally point out just because I'm an honest person, especially with him. He thinks bigger shirts look too \"baggy\" on him and feels like he's in a dilemma, which turns into him just feeling really insecure about his body. \n\nI am trying to find a good balance between being brutally honest and not making him feel bad every time I bring it up. Does anyone have any advice as to what I can say in times like this to him? I just have no idea. I kinda rambled, so if anything needs clarifying, let me know. \nThank you reddittttt", "summary": "Boyfriend is insecure about his body. What do I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_kgu2k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dirty Xbox and 360 Controllers", "post": "Would anyone have any interest in a product like this?\n\nOnce Upon a time I had an Idea to make a cleaning kit for the Xbox and", "summary": "Its an awesome Care package Looking controller cleaning kit. It Looks awesome on your desk and has tools and cleaning stuff inside to clean your controllers and open them up if there is something stuck inside."}
{"id": "t3_24ccmg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] have been on 3 dates since meeting a girl [22] online about 2 months ago now.", "post": "Edit: Oops. I'm 23.\n\nWe met online about 2 months ago and it just seems to me like things should be going faster than this.\n\nWent on the first date maybe 2 months ago and it was pretty great but we've only been on 2 more dates since then. The last was the Saturday night/ Easter Sunday morning and we kissed/made out for a minute and that was really great but it doesn't seem to me that she has any time to meet again. We've literally only seen each other for a total of like 5hrs but I feel we have great conversations and I don't think I'm completely out of bounds in saying that we both find each other attractive.\n\nI texted her last Monday (the day after Easter) I believe and asked if she wanted to hang out again this past weekend and she seemed open to it but prefaced it that this is a very busy time (finals). We haven't talked on the phone at all and while I've texted her just about every or every other day she doesn't seem to respond as much. Should I just text her and tell her that I really liked the time we spent together so far and that I'd like to do it again when she has time or maybe I've been texting her too much/am always available(in a bad way)?\n\nIf it hasn't become clear I am quite inexperienced in all of this dating stuff. She's the first person I've been on a 2nd or 3rd date or even kissed in more than 5 years. So if you just tell me to relax and be patient or just communicate my feelings to her somehow then I will completely understand. Thanks!", "summary": "3 dates in 2 months. Is she just slow/busy or not wanting to see me again? What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3vu76n", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm 22, just graduated college. The whole world should be at my feet, yet I feel stuck. What should I do with my life?", "post": "Hello :) I jusy found this subreddit and could really use some advice. I'll try to explain my situation as clearly as possible.\n\nThis summer I obtained my bachelor's degree in European Studies (international relations and business). Being 21 at the time, I definitely felt too young to start working. Getting a masters was an option, but I had no idea which direction to go in. Instead, I decided to take a gap year to think about it, which I'm doing now. I needed some way to pay my bills, so I found a job. The job is not great, and below my level of education, but after 80+ applications I'm glad I found anything at all.\n\nSo now I'm trying to decide what to do next, and I simply have no idea. The problem is that I lost interest in the subjects that I studied, and I'm not really passionate about anything else. The only \"dream\" that I have in life is to travel, especially to go backpacking for a longer period of time. But that's not a realistic possibility at this point, and it's also not much of a long-term career plan.\n\nHere are some things I've already tried:\n\n* Visited information sessions for different university masters programmes. I found several that seemed OK, but nothing really excited me.\n* Looked at loads of job listings, company websites, LinkedIn groups, etc. for inspiriation.\n* Followed a workshop about \"living your dreams\".\n* Volunteered for the organisation of an event.\n* Picked up a few hobbies that I've been teaching myself about, especially blogging and photography.\n* Online personality/career tests.\n\nNone of these things really helped me though. Maybe I'm being too indecisive, but there's just nothing I really want to do with my life. It's so frustrating to be at a point in my life where I *could* do almost anything, and feel like I'm wasting that opportunity. Instead of making the best of my time, I'm wasting it on a job I don't care about.", "summary": "Graduated college but lost interest in my degree. Not passionate about anything else. Now taking a gap year and working, while trying to decide what to do next. I really want to make the best of the freedom I still have now, but don't know how."}
{"id": "t3_hmu59", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "An experiment in nature versus nurture...", "post": "And no, I don't experiment on my dogs.\n\nMy wife and I have fostered and rescued around 20 dogs over the past 8 years. We have 3 dogs that are ours, and right now we're dogsitting for my sister (who adopted our first real rescue.) We're also dogsitting for a friend of ours who adopted 3 of our rescues who had to take an emergency business trip to Columbia (and no, not for that white powder type of business.)\n\nSo right now we have 7 dogs in our house, but we've done that once before and can handle it.\n\nThe real story comes from last summer, when we rescued a mom and her pup from the crawl space of a house that was due to be demolished later that week. We kept the pup, who is one of our core three, and the mom went to live with our friend, and is one of the 4 we're now dogsitting.\n\nThe mom is some kind of husky/akita mix, but is relatively small for her size, coming in around 50 pounds. The son has that in him, as well as 50% German Shepherd and is huge, almost 100 lbs. \n\nWhat's amazing is that we've had this pup since he was 3 months and we haven't had mom around in a year. Up until we had them domesticated, both dogs were essentially feral. \n\nThe similarities in how they behave is uncanny; the way they reach out for affection, how to crawl onto the bed to cuddle, nuzzle up for a pet, and follow us around to make sure we're OK. It's all identical and different than how our other dogs act.", "summary": "Feral mom and son pup were separated a year ago. When observed, their mannerisms are nearly identical when it comes to snuggling and affection even though they've been raised in different households."}
{"id": "t3_2pywkc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] really like my friend [17F] and I have never really asked a girl out before.", "post": "I'm a 20 year old guy (in Australia) and I've only had one girlfriend in my life (when I was 14). There is this one girl that I met about 8 months ago that I have really taken a liking to. I've only actually seen her a few times but we talk on Facebook a bit and she seems really great. I'm a bit worried about ruining our friendship as she is friends with a lot of my friends and I don't want anything to go wrong there.\n\nI've never really been on a proper date or anything before and have no idea how to ask. Even if it wasn't with this girl I'm at a stage in my life where I feel I am ready to start dating but I am rather shy and not sure how to approach girls (I see guys that can just strike up conversations without any effort but I just fall apart).\n\nThe girl in question is a Christian (like me) and I have absolutely no clue whatsoever if she is interested in me in the slightest (she might only talk to me to be polite).\n\nI seem to find myself in the 'friendzone' and I am regularly told by older girls (I have a few female friend 24 and above) that I'm a great guy, really nice and mature etc. and apparently I'm reasonably attractive (I'm not movie star but I have a reasonably athletic build and no particularly ugly features).\n\nAny adivice on what to do with this girl, or girls in general, would be really appreciated. I am completely clueless when it comes to this sort of thing. I'm told that girls are generally pretty open to being asked out and actually giving guys a chance but I just don't know how to get there.", "summary": "I like a girl, no idea how to approach it. Even if she's not interested, I'm ready to start dating but don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2yoska", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Interesting reaction friend (26F) to my (26F) coming out", "post": "I (26F) lately 'discovered' that I am gay. I actually knew for about ten years, but I ignored my feelings and had a relationship of six years with a guy. I couldn't pretend any longer, the relationship ended last year and I finally could accept my preferences. Next thing was to tell my family and friends. I've told my closest family and three friends of mine. All were kind of surprised, which I can understand, but the reaction of one friend (26F; from high school) was a bit peculiar... \n\nI knew it would be a bit of a gamble to tell her because she is very Christian. But I thought: if she really is my friend, it shouldn't bother her. Moreover, we don't talk that much (she isn't my closest friend or anything; we just like to catch up a few times a year). Still, about three months later, her reaction continues to bother me a bit. I genuinely think she thinks her reaction was nice, and I also told her I appreciated her reaction, but the more I think about it the more I doubt if I do. Some of her words:\n\n-\tI don't know if you will end up in hell because your sin might not be worse than the sins of others. (Apparently, I am committing a sin.)\n-\tGod can change everything if he wants. Maybe tomorrow you will not be gay anymore, if he wants so. (It took me ten years to accept my feelings, so this hurt a bit and obviously it's bullshit)\n-\tI don't know if you should act on your feelings. You can have these feelings, but it might not be good to start a relationship with a girl. You can be happy alone as well. But she also said she wanted me to experience the happiness she has with her husband. Of course you can/need to be happy on your own, but that doesn't mean I should be forever alone just because of the fact that I like girls, right?\n\n \nWhat do you guys think of her reaction? Shouldn't it bother me because she really believes she spoke kind words? I don't agree with her, also because I am not Christian, but still, I don't know what to think.", "summary": "I told my Christian friend I like girls instead of boys and I'm not sure I like her reaction. What to think/do?"}
{"id": "t3_15yr9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "1 I [29m] have been seeing this [25f] who says she's confused about dating", "post": "I met this girl back in early November, and ever since, we've been talking to each other everyday. She always wishes me good night before sleeping, and I always respond the next day with good morning.\n\nTo give a little more background on her, she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years about half a year ago, and ever since, she's been doing a lot of dating.\n\nEarlier this week, she told me she didn't want to be exclusive, and she's been seeing somebody else. Then, yesterday, she told me she liked me, but she thought I had too much experience. She followed this up by saying that she hasn't explored life or anything she wants and she's never been single so she's confused on dating. I think she's absolutely adorable in every way.\n\nOne more thing to note is that our relationship has been all through text messages. She lives a little bit aways and we've never been able to meet up because of bad timing and stuff. Though, we have tentative plans to have dinner next Thursday.\n\nReddit, what should I do?", "summary": "I [29m] am seeing this [25f] and she's confused about dating. She says she's been seeing another guy, but also that she likes me."}
{"id": "t3_2f1e0r", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "21M met 21F online - We went to a bar and on a hike last weekend, what kind of pace should I carry this on without being overly pushy or too passive?", "post": "So here is the story:\n\nI met this girl on one of the online dating sites and we met for the first time at a bar. We had a couple of beers and spent almost 3 hours talking non-stop about work and our common interests. We work in the similar field and we both are huge fans of the outdoor so there was a lot to talk about. She offered me a friendly hug when we were parting.\n\nA few days later, we went on a long hike together and had a really great time. We spent almost half a day together and talked non-stop for most of the time. We weren't exactly flirting a lot but I did try to a little bit (I'm a very reserved person and not really good at this). We both agreed that we should do a hike every weekend.\n\nWe are planning on a 2 day camping trip this weekend (depending on the weather) and I'm not sure if this is a good time to express my interest. I have never met anyone, male or female, who is as compatible (not sure if that's the right word) as this girl. Of all the things that we talked about, there was only one thing that we had to agree to disagree and it was the choice of our favorite carbonated beverage. I enjoyed spending time with her and she actually sent me a text saying that she had a great time hiking with me.\n\nFrom what I can tell on her online profile, she is mainly looking for new friends to go out with (hiking etc.) but not ruling out the possibility of things turning romantic, so I am not quite sure where things stand between us. I want to let my feelings known but I'm not sure what to say, or what the best approach is. I'm also worried that it's too soon to tell her my feelings if she is looking to establish a friendship and go further from there. But if I don't say something soon, I'm also afraid that she would think that I'm not interested.", "summary": "Met a girl online, been to a bar and on a hike, talked non-stop on both occasions, going on a 2-day camping trip this weekend, is this a good time to tell her what I feel or it's too early? If this is a good time, what's the best approach?? (I'm not very good at expressing my feelings)*"}
{"id": "t3_4q8lgg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [F/26] relate with coworkers after being informed I have a month left on the job?", "post": "Though this might be a question for r/jobs, it also seems to fall in the relationship category since I'm unsure how to relate to my coworkers now. I've been on contract for the past 2.5 years. My contract was recently extended to November so I thought I had a bit more time left. I was just told that my last day will be one month from now. After processing the news for the day I'm unsure the best way to proceed socially and even professionally for now. My team had about 5 people and I was the only contract. We all got on. Hung out outside of work. One mentored me weekly for a time. My boss is another story. He came on new, right when I was about to transition from contract to hire, and stopped that process, kept me contracted and I'm well sure it's he who terminated me early. I have contempt for him. Do I now go on as normal and carry myself with the dignity of a professional? Do I continue to attend the weekly team meeting even though my work is being poised for a handoff to a new hire who will replace me? Or do I keep true to the understanding that I no longer add value and begin to mentally cut off from my department and do my least while putting my all into a job search? I know that's a bad idea for my reputation. When I know something is not going to work out in a relationship the fastest way to get over it and start anew for me is an immediate break, let the person down, then no contact. I figure that's not the best in business but it's what I'm inclined to do to move on--cease communication, possibly no goodbye letter or one to very select people. New to business and figuring out the best way to manage the exit. How much will my actions here matter in the future?", "summary": "Just got let down with a month's notice. Unsure how to wrap up my business and part with my coworkers whom I've built amicable rapports with. Contempt for boss is coloring my appreciation for them."}
{"id": "t3_30ls74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 7 months because of fear, feel I've made a mistake", "post": "Never posted to reddit before, but have found myself in a relationship predicament. I've only been in one relationship with a woman, in my early twenties. It ended extremely badly. Possibly too bad to even mention, and I do not want to use her as an excuse to why I'm like this.  I feel I was like this even before our relationship. I felt that if I brought a girl back home, I'd be made fun of, picked on by my siblings, there was a large embarrassment factor to everything. \nSince my relationship I've not treated women in the best way, to put it bluntly a slurry of one night stands and cases of me not explicitly stating my views on the whole concept of a relationship, which is that I never wish to have one, which is how I've felt from my early teens. I think there might be something wrong with me but I am not sure what. But as soon as I feel I'm getting too close to someone I push them away. I just can't help it. \nAround 8 months ago I met a woman who I really liked, I have never really clicked with someone like this before.. I've even felt at times that I loved her. I haven't had these feelings since my last relationship all that time ago and I've been struggling to deal with them. the 8 months was incredible and I felt closer and closer too her. I think about her alot. But we got very close, and my feelings suddenly went because I felt it had gone too far. I broke up with her and hurt her badly. I've been feeling extremely low about it and have met up with her on several occasions. I find myself not sleeping because of it, because I still want to see her and be around her, I don't want her out of my life. I think I might have ruined a good thing...I might have made the wrong decision and don't know what to say, do or think... \n.", "summary": "broke up with first relationship in years because of fear, missing her and feel I've hurt her and made a mistake.."}
{"id": "t3_1lwyov", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the weirdest coincidence that has ever happened to you?", "post": "In high school I dated a guy named Ryan for three years. He had a little brother and his parents were still married to each other, he always claimed his mother was the smartest person he knew and her name was Susan and his father worked from home on east coast hours. Ryan treated me like dirt (not to say I didn't reciprocate). \n\nFast forward several years and failed relationships later, enter my new boyfriend, also named Ryan. Common name, right? No big woop. His parents are still together and says his mom is the smartest person he knows, her name is Susan. His dad works from home on east coast hours and he has an older brother.", "summary": "My parents call my boyfriend R2D2 now."}
{"id": "t3_2ik0mi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't tell if I'[m 23] falling for a new girl or just [F 23]ighting with her to much", "post": "Been in a long distance situation with my current gf (Alison) for almost two years. When we are together it's starting to be just ok, and when we are apart all hell breaks loose. Meanwhile, I met a new girl (Stacy [25])  who is fun charismatic, very cute and really fun to be around. I didn't get the signs that Stacy was crushing on me till very late, and she is a classy girl who says she doesn't want to be someone to come in the middle of a relationship. Now I can't tell where my feels are at. So the question being what is the least upsetting way of talking to Alison about how I feel our relationship is taking a turn for the worse? (hopefully in a way that doesn't sound like I'm leaving you for someone else, because I'm not)", "summary": "I can't tell if we have grown apart or I'm just drifting away."}
{"id": "t3_2kothu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [m24] of 9 months does not want to hear about my [f23] past sexual assault, even when I need support.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. My previous relationship lasted 3 weeks when I found out he was manipulative and eventually sexually assaulted me. I was having panic attacks all the time and could not even see him without taking Xanax in fear of my own emotions. I broke it off and have since then never looked back. I have been no contact and have moved on and have received help for my anxiety.\n\nAfter almost a year of being single, I met my boyfriend and we hit it off pretty well. Fast forward and we are almost at a year of dating. The only issue is that I believe he could have some anger management issues. Everytime I mention my ex, he basically shuts down in anger. I know the silent I get from him isn't directed towards me but I can't help but feel guilty about even mentioning it. Since then I try not to bring this subject up since I get such a negative response. \n\nRecently, I guess my ex made a new facebook account and his profile appeared under the \"People you may know\" column. I mentioned to my boyfriend that I saw his profile appear and quickly blocked it. Yet instead of getting any support or reassurance that he loves me, I get the cold shoulder since he's angry. I text him this morning ask him if he slept well since usually he is in a better mood after he sleeps and I get no response. I wait a few hours and text him again telling him how I wish he would stop being angry everytime I mention my ex and just tell me he loves me instead. He claims though that he can't stand the fact that my ex is walking around like nothing happened and says he wants to \"beat him up.\" I tell him to respect my decision not to make any contact and he simply states to never bring up my ex in a topic again.\n\nMy question is, should I just drop it and not mention it or should I sit down and have a talk with my boyfriend about how I need more support from his side. I plan to also start therapy soon.", "summary": "Boyfriend gets silent/upset every time ex is mentioned. Told me not to bring him up again despite wanting support from the sexual assault that happened. Not sure if I should just drop it or confront him about needing comfort regardless."}
{"id": "t3_303stl", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[21M] dating a [21FM] and wondering if i'm going too fast or being clingy.", "post": "Met a girl from Tinder, we were both looking for a serious relationship and after texting back and forth we finally decided to hang out. \n\nWe ended up hanging out 3 times in the span of a week and every time ended in us kissing, cuddling, and just having a good time either drinking or watching a movie. I also have to mention that she did about 75% of the texting and would snapchat me her cute outfits for the day as well. \n\nI've only known this girl's existence for about 4 weeks now but I am head over heels for this girl. She's everything I want in a girl, I went from expecting nothing out of this to realizing she could be everything. \n\nThe only problem is she went to some party out of state to visit her best friend and I knew she was going to party real hard all weekend. Well once she came home, everything had changed about her. She stopped snapchatting me completely but still I can tell she snapchats others, and i'd say the tables have turned where I do 75% of the texting initiation. I've asked her to hangout a couple times and she followed it with a \"i'll let you know\" and later says \"sorry I can't hang out!\" and this has gone on a couple times. \n\n1. What is everyone's opinion on going forward with this relationship? I am dying to see her again but I don't want to keep asking her every single day to hangout because I don't want to come off as clingy.\n\n2. Is her sudden change from texting and snapchatting me all the time to hardly doing either a signal that she's now less interested? I just want to add that she has every single day since we've met texted me simply \"what are you doing\" or \"how's it going\" and that makes me feel like she's giving a signal that she still cares for me.", "summary": "Went out for a few dates with a girl, she seemed to really enjoy her time with me, suddenly things have changed after her visit with her best friend at a party, she isn't as enthusiastic about hanging out but i'm dying to ask her every single day to hangout."}
{"id": "t3_4fc7cr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33m] and my gf [34f] have a problem. She wants to move and I don't. Should I?", "post": "My gf and I have been with each other for over 4 years now. Our relationship has been full of ups and downs. We have a constant fight over and over about moving to a new city.  I love where I live and I really don't want to leave.  She originally agreed to stay with me but has changed her tune. \n\nShe recently lost her job and can't find anything in the area.  She has found a potential job in another state and wants me to pick up and move with her. Her job is very important to her.\n\nI have a great job that can support the both of us (it would be nice if she had a part-time job though).  I have a great friend base and I'm worried about being bored and lonely in a new city. I like being close to my family, especially my new nephew.  Also having close family/friends around to watch our pets is awesome because we like to travel and boarding is not an option.    \n\nI have a lot of fears.  I fear waking up every morning and hating my job. I fear putting in the work to start over: moving, making new friends, updating my resume/portfolio and finding a job, selling my home, leaving my family/friends.\n\nI'm torn because I love her and I don't like thinking of a future without her.  Is it worth it to take a chance on one person or start over and find someone who is willing to stay?", "summary": "She wants to move and I don't. Should I drop everything for a chance at relationship happiness?"}
{"id": "t3_tldjv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Excuse me while I vent", "post": "asdfjkl;\nMy sister is driving me insane. She is such a bitch sometimes. I'm trying my best to be the bigger, better person and let everything slide but after 15 years, you get tired, you crack. \nI'm no psychologist but I'm pretty sure she has anger issues. Actually, I'm definitely sure. When she gets super angry she kicks me, hits me. Sometimes it hurts and sometimes it doesn't. But yet, I cry.\nWe have our good moments but seriously, I feel like they're* immediately pushed to the side when we have a fight. She is quick to say hurtful things such as \"I hate you\", \"Go die in a hole\", \"I want her to get out of the house, I don't care what happens to her\". I feel like my parents don't want to go get her professional help because they think she'll get over it or it'll be embarrassing and shameful to let other people know what's going on. Seriously, they need to get her help. It sometimes gets bad enough, that I feel unsafe living under the same roof as her, let alone the same floor. \nShe's really immature and spiteful too*. She'll shift her chair to the extreme other side of the table to avoid being near me. When we're waiting for the bus, she'll stand a good 5 feet away. When we're walking different directions, she'll go out of her way to nudge her shoulder into me.", "summary": "My sister's a bitch and I've had enough but I can't really do anything."}
{"id": "t3_2ezvj3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] would like some help with my crush [15 M]", "post": "Basically, I think I have a crush on another guy who lives on the other side of the world from me but I don't know if there is a chance or if the time is right.\n\nAround 2 months ago, we started talking about a certain show we both liked after I made a thread about it on reddit and we talked for a lot on kik/snapchat. I found out he was gay (so I had that going for me) but I never told him I was (I've never told anyone I am gay). \n\nI know he considers me as a friend but not very close since we've only been friends for less than 2 months.\n\nSoon after that, he used to start conversations/message me or reply to snapchats I put on my story that I didn't send to him and I would politely respond and engage in conversation. He also said that he used to like a guy on here but now only as a friend. This made me wonder if he might have liked me.\n\nFast forward to a couple weeks ago. He's started the school year and said he won't be as available since he's at school and obviously busy making new friends and getting used to stuff. \n\nThe last time I talked to him was for the latest episode of the show which was on Monday and the conversation was fine/polite/casual. \n\nI suspect that he might have liked me but moved on and now it might be too late to do anything - if he did actually like me. I don't know how to tell him, when to tell him or try to engage conversation without it looking forced or obvious I like him. \n\nI don't know how to approach this, help or advice is appreciated, thank you.", "summary": "Have a crush on a gay guy who lives on the other side of the world from me. We haven't been talking a lot recently and I don't know how or when to tell him if I do decide to confess."}
{"id": "t3_2cqgot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO (27/m) doesn't think I (27/f) should be friends with any guys. Just in general. Is this a healthy behavior?", "post": "We've been dating for a few years. He's really not a controlling or jealous person. He just thinks it's inappropriate for me to have any close friendships with guys. I am friends with his friends. He has no issue with that. However, he doesn't want me having male friends that have no relationship with him. If he's not their friend, I shouldn't be. The real issue is texting. He completely finds it inappropriate to be texting with other men.\n\nTo be fair, he's not friends with women at all. It isn't a double standard. He believes that he shouldn't have female friends either unless I am friends with them, too. He doesn't text women either. I don't think I would have any issues if he was. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't mind but obviously he never has so I can't say for sure. He also doesn't have any ex girlfriends so it would be difficult to gauge how I would feel about other women in his life. I do have ex boyfriends.\n\nIn the beginning of our relationship, I was a crappy girlfriend. That I can admit. I didn't cheat but I was a flirt and had a bunch of guy friends that I should have told to back off. I grew up since then. I think this could be a factor as to why he feels how he does, but he's said multiple times that he feels this way about relationships in general. Not just his and not just with me.\n\nWhen it comes to coworkers, he just thinks it should be a professional relationship. No going for lunch or creating any \"outside\" relationship. Be civil and make friends during work. Just don't bring it outside. No texting either. He does the same at his job.\n\nIs this a healthy behavior to have? I'm not lusting for male companionship but I think that it might be a little much in every situation.", "summary": "SO doesn't think I should have male friends and vice versa. Not sure if this is okay."}
{"id": "t3_1t5hob", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] trying to figure out how (and what activity) I should ask my [22 f] friend out on a date.", "post": "Me [21 M] with my [ 22/F] friend whom I'd like to ask out. We've gotten along together really well in class, and when we eat lunch after class together. The thing is I literally can't think of a single think to ask her to do. Like, I don't do anything ever. At least not for the past year since the army rejected me. \n\nWe're both currently college students and finals are about to end, and I don't have a car.\n\nWhat should I ask her out to do? I really don't want to ask her to a movie since we probably wont interact all that much if I do that. I also have like three  number of girls I'd like to hang out with (that I met at the library at 2AM studying) but don't know how to. I would also like to avoid drinking, as I just don't like to drink all that much, but am open to it. \nThanks!", "summary": "Been so bored this past year I've forgotten how to have fun, or what to invite people to to have fun, cause I suck and have no friends :("}
{"id": "t3_1j8v0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26m] boyfriend of over a year won't get to know my [20f] family.", "post": "I am constantly begging for him to do anything with my family and he never will. Today was my nieces birthday and I made sure to leave late so he only had to be there for ten minutes but he couldn't even do that. He left early for work to avoid it. He has anxiety but so do I and I still try to get to know his family. My family is so important to me and I feel like I'm becoming a stranger to them. I got home and found he made this status: \"I guess I am a shitty boyfriend since I went in to work a bit early so I can get extra shit done so I dont have to stay late instead of sitting at a birthday party where no one will talk to me.\"\n\nMy response: \"wow way to completely twist that around. I'm really upset because you never go to family functions with me when I want you to and you left early so you didn't have to go with me. Pretty much no one in my family really knows you and that's shitty.\"\n\nHe refuses to delete it. We've been arguing about it for a while and I just don't know what to do. Is this even salvagable? We just bought and apartment and I feel like I'm going to have to move back out already because we have this argument every month.", "summary": "He won't get to know the people I love, he made a facebook status, and I don't know if we should break up."}
{"id": "t3_ilrvf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your help. I'm being set up to fail!", "post": "I bartend, I DJ. I'm actually very good at what I do. I had a couple of jobs and made it work almost 6 days week. (sometimes 7) One day I was asked to be the manager of a new nightclub I was working in and quit my other jobs would be necessary to make that work. I was buddy buddy with one of owners and he trusted me to get the job done. He managed the place before me and wasn't doing a good job keeping track of the financial aspect of the day to day business. The OTHER owner pushed him out and they both decided to put me as the manager. The OTHER manager is the SILENT partner so to speak. The owner that was the manager before me, i recently found out, is setting me up to fail. Spreading things to the workers and sending others to diminish my authority. By doing this he is trying to prove to the silent partner that the only good manager is him. \n\nupon finding this out about the owner who used to manage, i immediately turned to the silent partner. He now issued me full control over EVERYTHING and to make decisions as needed or even if not needed. \"fire the cook everyday if you have to\" he told me. \n\nNOW, i set up a grand opening for the place (which it never had) with two big DJs from the area and i need it to be a big success to prove my worthiness. here is the flyer", "summary": "Help me promote my Grand opening so i look like a success to a boss that is plotting against me."}
{"id": "t3_3acbcu", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Question about credit cards/building credit", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinance! I am a 20 year old college student in need of some guidance.\n\nSome background: I do not have any student loans. I have about $11k in the bank: about $3k in stocks, $5k in my checking account, $2k in savings, and then $1100 held in escrow on a secured credit card ($1000 limit).\nIn the past 8 months I have gotten and paid off 2 car loans (co-signed with my mother). I initially got a loan of about $6k, then that car was totaled, and I got a $4k loan for the replacement car. Both loans were taken out with the intention of paying them back quickly, as I've accomplished. \n\nAs I mentioned, I have had a secured credit card with a local credit union for about 9 months. I have $1100 with them for the card, as up until then I did not have a credit history. This card is only used for one subscription payment a month, ~$9. It has no fees and offers no rewards. I am using it to help build my credit. \n\nHere's where the dilemma is. I believe that I would now qualify for a student credit card with my bank (not the credit union) that offers rewards. It's a card geared toward students, and offers some rewards: each point is redeemable for ~$.01 for airline bookings (I fly fairly regularly, so this would be useful) or ~$.0067 for cashback. Additionally, it offers a lower interest rate than my current card (10% vs 17% I'm currently getting), though I always pay off the full amount at the end of each month.\n\nSo my question is, should I get this second credit card? My average age of credit is very low, and I've had quite a few hard credit checks recently due to all my activity. I'm not planning any large purchases for the foreseeable future, at least 3 years, but I'm not sure if this flurry of activity would hurt me down the road when I apply for other credit.\n\nThanks for reading, and I appreciate any and all guidance you have to offer.", "summary": "Have one credit card, thinking about another. Not sure of the ramifications."}
{"id": "t3_l8cer", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I fend of what feels like a depression creeping up on me?", "post": "Lately when I've been getting time to myself to think, I can't help but feel depressed. I have enough sense and reason to know that my current life as a jobless, car-less college student is temporary.\n\nHowever, it feels like my outlook on life just isn't as positive and naive. I find myself easily irritated and upset by many small things.\n\nI live in a dormitory, where lotsa little things annoy me on a daily basis: room next door blaring music, knowing RAs wont do shit about it, filthy community kitchens, disgusting bathroom sinks, knowing female residents reside in the male dormitory.\n\nI'm also doing a \"long\" distance thing with my current girl. Well it's not really long distance but we are separated by the ocean, a hour plane flight and a 200-300 USD ticket, but pointing back up to jobless. Solving problems via the phone and text isn't exactly the easiest and desired way. Lines about her personality problems that have been laid in the past are starting to fade, we've been dating for a little over a year now. Separated about 2 and a half months ago.\n\nI'm in my mid 20s, and my parents still treat me like a child. My opinion doesn't hold up a flame up against their criticism. I feel like I can't say shit for the moment since their money is feeding me, for the time being.\n\nOnly have one real friend here, an old friend from my high school days. Which is great but sometimes I can't help but feel a little annoyed by his special personality. \n\nSo yea.. I know this may seem very minimal compared to others and I understand that. But I just want to know, how do you maintain any form of optimism or joy in life? What do you recommend?", "summary": "I'm a poor and sad college student. How do you not be sad?"}
{"id": "t3_46g5jf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [17/m], can guys be too nice?", "post": "So since I've been old enough to understand the concept of what girlfriend and boyfriend are, I promised myself that I would treat my girlfriend like the queen of my world and with the utmost respect and dignity that she deserved. I even learned how to cook for this.\n\nFast forward to my first gf, in my opinion I thought I lived up to the promise to myself rather well, I never yelled at her, never cheated (nor do I ever intend to), defended her when she was teased, and even got rid of a couple of my so-called friends after I learned they were making fun of us behind our backs.\n\nWell I learned how wrong I was when after a trip to Vancouver, Canada, with her dad, she told me she cheated on me with one of my friends, then proceeded to break up with me the same day. She told me I was \"Too nice\" and that I was too good for her.\n\nSo can guys really be too nice? Am i just going about things the wrong way? Or are these ideas I've got just foolish and childish?", "summary": "Got dumped because I was \"too nice\"; Can guys be too nice?"}
{"id": "t3_2criqi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm (30m) watching John Oliver without my wife (32f) for the first time since the show has aired because she is staying at a friend's while she decides if she still loves me.", "post": "My wife of 4 years in Sept has begun to slip away more and more since she has become fed up with my unemployment and my lack of effort around the house. About 2 years ago she started working at a new job and really grew as a woman. She decided she likes wearing make-up (I've always maintained that she always looks beautiful, but it makes her happy) and keeping her hair dyed. She also has made lots of friends guys and girls.\n\nShe is everything to me and while I have been trying to do more and have made great progress, her feelings of lust and romance towards me have diminished. She communicated to me a few weeks ago that it got this bad and I got my ass in gear, but it feels like it might be too little, too late. I have pretty severe ADHD and no access to healthcare for my meds. I am barely eating, barely sleeping, barely breathing. I don't know what to do aside from deep cleaning and continuing to apply for everything. I feel run-through.", "summary": "I am a fuckup slow to change."}
{"id": "t3_klzbs", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the factual long term and short term effects of marijuana use?", "post": "I would post this to r/trees but I want a less 'biased' view. I regularly (once a week) smoke marijuana in the same way I drink, to relax at the end of a week. I am not overly concerned with my health, but it's difficult to understand all of the construed facts and figures from both side of the prohibition fence.\n\nSo I pose a few questions to you reddit:\n\n * what are the short term (month or less) effects of marijuana use?\n\n * Are there any dangers to you from THC consumption?\n\n * What are the long term effects?\n\n * What are the ways to minimize harm to oneself and what are the main areas of harm caused by marijuana?\n\nAny help will be much appreciated, I am merely interested in what I am putting in my body and what the effect are.", "summary": "What does weed do to you?"}
{"id": "t3_jf17l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "REDDIT! please help me! Local gun store sold me a stolen gun. wtf now?", "post": "I bought a glock as my first gun in july 2011 from a shop in LAS VEGAS, nevada. a month later i realized im not responsible enough to have a gun around the house. I sell it to a friend under the condition that he pay me at the end of the summer. He stops talking to me for 3 weeks and i finally get a hold of him. From what he tells me he was pulled over by highway patrol, they ran the serial number from the glock, it came up stolen. He was in jail for 3 days. filled out a bunch of paper work about how he got the gun. There is now a local and ATF investigation.\n\nI dont know what the fuck to do. The gun store screwed us over. He talked to someone at the police station and they mentioned that theres nothing the local gun store is liable for. I think thats totally bs, considering they sold hot merchandise.\n\nsomeone help me.", "summary": "fuck face local gun store sold a hot gun. Friend was detained for 3 days. Cops say there's nothing we can do. out of $700 bucks from gun"}
{"id": "t3_w9ev6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[19/m] Unsure what to do. Girl I'm very interested in doesn't want to commit (19/f).", "post": "So, I'm very interested in a girl that I have some strong feelings for. But the problem is, she does not want to be in a committed relationship. This girl and I go way back. We've been on a few dates recently and had a lot of fun. She had even told me that there was a good chance we could be in a committed relationship. Since then, she has proceeded to also go on dates with numerous other people, including some of my good friends whom I reintroduced her to. \n\nBeing tired of dealing with the jealousy, I asked her if there was any chance of us having a relationship. She said yes, but that it was so miniscule that it was irrelevant. I then asked if she was interested in one in the near future to which she replied: no. I'm not the kind of person that wants to play games, so I told her that I was done emotionally, and that we had to stop going on dates and texting. She still wants to hang out and be friends which I think is a good idea, but it's going to be tough. \n\nYou see Reddit, I am a really really nice guy. I'm not a douchebag. If I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it right. If I'm going to pursue a girl, I'm going to try to have a committed relationship with her after we go on a few dates, are really close, and have a lot of fun. \n\nSo my question is this: Should I just abandon this altogether? It kind of seems weird to me that as the guy I am the one wanting commitment, while she just wants to be emotionally involved with everybody. Is there anything I can do that will make her want to commit? She's told me before that I'm the nicest and sweetest guy she's met, but at this age I also believe that to be a curse. Girls my age don't want to be with nice guys. She has told me that there is a very small window in life where you can enjoy being single, and that she doesn't want to lose that.", "summary": "girl I really like doesn't want to commit to me. How can I change this situation, or should I just get out now."}
{"id": "t3_4c9xg7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my girlfriend [24/F] of a few months, working in the same place and it's weird.", "post": "I'll be quick. She referred me for a great job at the company she's working at. Much better than my previous job. I got the job. I was pretty excited about working here. We didn't think it'd be an issue because we are in different departments and thought we would keep it professional anyway. But it'd be nice to chat sometimes in between work.\n\nOh my god, it's my first day and it's...weird. I haven't got anything to do except paperwork so maybe that's why, but I can't stop thinking about her. I consider myself fairly strong willed and not too reliant emotionally, and good at compartmentalising. But this is really weird. I'm sort of regretting doing it at all. we had an awkward conversation during a break but that's it. I'm worried this will ruin our relationship. Should I wait it out? I can't leave now, that's for sure. I also feel really guilty about impacting her in some way.", "summary": "what should I do, I feel awkward about working in the same place as my girlfriend, but it's only the first day."}
{"id": "t3_3g613j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] with my mom [44F] and dad [43M]. This is a messed up situation.", "post": "Throwaway because people know my real account.\n\nWell this is certainly a fucked up situation. \n\n6 months ago, my mom admitted to my dad that she'd been cheating on him. My dad took it hard. He cried more when he found out than when his mom died. He would barely speak and it looked like he was going to divorce my mom. He decided not to and worked things out with my mom. \n\nFast forward to yesterday. My mom is using the computer. My dad forgot to log out of Facebook and he gets a message. I come home to my mom and dad screaming at each other. That's when I learned that my dad revenge cheated on my mom.\n\nNot only that, but the woman he revenge cheated with is now pregnant. \n\nIDK what to do at this point. I try to be out of the house as much as I can, because my parents always try to bring me into the argument.\n\nAny advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Mom cheated on dad. Dad revenge cheated on mom. Dad might've gotten another woman pregnant."}
{"id": "t3_4xu5v3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] is having trouble deciding to break up or not with my gf [27 f]", "post": "Posted about this earlier, but down to crunch time, so any final advice would be appreciated.\n\nGF is returning from a trip today. She has been gone for two weeks. I have been using this time to see how I feel about her while she was gone. We have been dating for six months.\n\nWhile I have enjoyed our time, I don't have the same feelings of love she has. She sees a long term future for us, and I unfortunately don't think I feel the same way. Therefore, while I am still on the fence, I am leaning towards breaking up with her.\n\nA few things that are making me hesitiatnt\n\n1) We were planning on celebrating our six month anniversary this weekend. She also just told me, she considers our anniversary to be today.\n\n2) She also recently told me that last time she was with a guy, they broke up when she returned from a trip. \n\n3) She has anxiety.\n\nAll of these factors coming in to play, I'm not sure if breaking up with her now is selfish of me, or is the bad timing just how it goes sometimes?", "summary": "Thinking of breaking up on our six month anniversary, but don't want to be the rom-com villain of her nightmares"}
{"id": "t3_14k2w6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your worst childhood experience?", "post": "I was 16 at the time. We went out one saturday night with s group of 4 friends, we gathered on a public cricket/soccer field to drink beer and smoke weed. All in all, there were about 30 kids on the field spread out in groups. Some sitting in circles, others riding their motorcycles or bicycles, generally having a good time. \n\nMy circle of friends where sitting in the middle of the field, passing around a spliff. One dude was driving laps around the sports field. Suddenly, we saw the car coming at us across the field, he was heading straight at our group. There was no time to think or even know what was about to happen next. The car ploughed through our group who were all sitting down at the time, just missing me and a girl next to me by inches. I saw 4 of my friends get run over at 80kph while sitting down. This was a 1979 mini cooper hitting them at head level about 1meter away from me.\n\n I heard bones crunch and saw body's twist and fly like rag dolls! All the other kids split when they saw what happened We had to deal with the police and medics that arrived. Lucky nobody died.\n\nOne kid was in a coma a few months, one of the girls suffered brain damage, she is still blind in one eye to this day.", "summary": "stupid kids almost killed their friends with a car on a sports field."}
{"id": "t3_3hc5o6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "tell me what I need to hear - my friend [37F] and I [32M] tried dating, it didn't work. We are still friends but I'm struggling with the fact that she's started seeing someone else", "post": "I met her while she was in a bad spot after a breakup. We became friends (she doesn't have many in this small town). Despite there being a lot of red flags I developed feelings for her. After a few months we tried dating. I was really into her and it was a roller coaster of emotions for me. She gave it a try because on paper I'm great for her, but it just didn't feel right, so we broke it off. It was her call but after the rose coloured glasses had come off a few days later I was happy it had gone that way. We are almost neighbours so we talked and decided to stay friends. Hung out, went fishing, talked about our new online dating experiments etc. \n\n6 weeks later, we met up and she was excited to tell me that she started seeing someone. Told me all about it. I was happy for her, but then a few hours later it hit me. I can't stop thinking about her and this new guy. Didn't sleep last night, I really thought I was done losing sleep over this one. It's stupid, I don't want her back, I'm just jealous that she managed to move on quickly and I didn't (small town, pretty woman, lot of single males..). \n\nI think I need to call her up and tell her no hard feelings but we have to stop talking because it's messing with my head.  But I can't quite get myself to do it. Damnit.", "summary": "thought we could stay friends, but now she's seeing someone new and to my surprise it's messing with my head. Tell me that I need to cut contact already, /r/relationships"}
{"id": "t3_506opv", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Oh Crap! Potty Training - anyone else start early?", "post": "Kiddo is 19mo. I decided she is capable of learning because when she soiled a diaper, she'd get a clean one and try to put it on herself (over the dirty one). Then she'd be really upset that someone changed her. She also had been waking up from overnight dry. She also can communicate hunger, thirst, etc.\n\nWe started Oh Crap! Potty Training method on Friday and here on Day 4 we are still in Block One. When she has to poop, she runs frantically around trying to find a private spot (under a table, etc.) until the poop just falls out of her. She's peeing on the floor in sprinkles, but we had two good solid pees in the potty yesterday and two today so far. \n\nI am suspecting my kid might be extra sensitive to correction. When we say firmly, \"pee doesn't go on the floor. Pee goes in the potty\" she loses it crying, sometimes throwing herself on the floor.", "summary": "questions:"}
{"id": "t3_2haxky", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with a [20 F] she has a boyfriend but seems interested in me.", "post": "So I met a girl a few weeks ago, and I have been trying to determine whether or not she is interested in me. The signs seem pretty obvious, for example she goes out of her way to sit by me, she will touch my shoulder or arm, she makes lots of eye contact. The other day she bought some food and asked if I wanted some then fed me it, another time she wanted to go buy something and kept telling me, but when her other friend offered to go with her to buy it she declined. I offered, and she accepted, and we walked over together to get her thing. \n\nBut when I text her she doesn't seem interested in responding, or talking. And as far as I know her relationship is distance.  \n\nI am pretty opposed to people forcing their way into relationships, but sometimes it just happens. I know it would be dumb to date someone who leaves their boyfriend for another guy but if she did I would probably be interested anyway. Maybe this makes me an ass hole, idk, it's not my fault if we hit it off and she falls for me is it? \n\nBut like I said I don't know if she likes the attention or is interested. I want to give her time to figure everything out, but if she just likes the attention I will just move on. \n\nI really genuinely enjoy her personality, I came back to college single this semester after a long relationship and there has not been a shortage of female attention. I wouldn't even say shes the prettiest or cutest girl who I think has shown interest, but right now she's the only one I'm interested in. \n\nI'm trying to make reddit see I feel a connection, and I'm not just trying to get with hot taken girls. I won't hug her, or touch her though (like put my hand on her or something) because she has a boyfriend. I'm not trying to get with her, I'm trying to determine whether or not I should take the chance and wait to see if it happens to end now that she's met me. \n\nSorry again, I know reddit hates guys like me.", "summary": "if she was single I'm 99% sure she would be interested, but she isn't."}
{"id": "t3_y1l5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How would you react if your boyfriend has a \"cozy\" picture with some random girl?", "post": "Here's the story. I'm a 22 year old girl with a 23 year old guy. I've been dating this guy for over a year. He's on vacation right now and I haven't seen him for a week. I decided to play with myself while looking at his pictures but then I went to his profile and saw new tagged pics with him being cozy with another girl. The pictures were taken like 3 weeks ago. They were pictures of him having his arm around the girl and like just him having his head lean against the girl's head. They seemed like a typical couple's pictures you know? Like, he's promised me it's nothing but just seeing him be with another girl, and it was more than one picture, made me feel so jealous. Like you would think he was dating her if you went to his FB profile and just went through his pictures. I've asked a few of my friends and they all said the same thing: it seemed sketchy and definitely seemed like he was seeing this girl rather than me. so reddit, my question is, how would you go about with this? Would you let it slide or would you ask him to take the pictures down?", "summary": "boyfriend of one year has pictures with a girl making it look like she's his girlfriend, would you ask him to take it down or leave it be?"}
{"id": "t3_4klrkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my boyfriend [29 M ] of 1.5 years, don't like a tiny social media habit he has.", "post": "I just found out today, when my boyfriend was scrolling through his Instagram with me that he follows this guy. I don't like him and I think he's a douche. I simply don't want to share my life with someone who shares the same values and morals as him. My boyfriend likes a lot of the things this guy does like cars and private jets and etc. we got into this argument and he doesn't like that I said I don't want to share my life with someone who shares the same values as the dude who kicks women in face, objectifies them and throws them down from the rooftops. He said just because he follows Dan doesn't mean he wants to be like him or look up to him. I'm probably overreacting to this and I want to be over this cause right now things are awkward between us. I just don't know how to get over it. I think he's also angry that I caused argument over this. I'm scared that it might change my view of him.", "summary": "boyfriend follows the infamous instagram douche and it's causing awkwardness and argument between us."}
{"id": "t3_369jms", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking a girl was a guy", "post": "Earlier today, I was going through tinder trying to find someone hot for sexy video call or something, I ended up downloading roughly 15 different apps that mentioned I could get easy girls. So anyway, I put my snapchat name in the bio of all of these apps. Not a good idea, in fact, a very, very bad one. \nI got a lot of interesting contenders who actually added me, one of them being one of the most flat chested girls I will ever meet. She asked me to rate her body, so she sent me a picture of her upper half, to my confusion, it looked like a guy. I wasn't 100% sure if it was a guy, so I asked for another pic and she replied \"are you straight\"? Wtf ok? So then i think it's a guy and he is just yanking my chain, so he asked if I was straight because I asked to see another picture of his body...\n\nHe/she then says its my turn to send a pic (fair enough) \n\nSo, if I send a picture to he/she it's going to be gayer than having buttsex with the president of Cuba, if it actually turns out to be a guy. So should I take the gamble to it either being a girl or guy?\n\nI didn't, I pussied out. I ended up saying, \" sorry, I'm not gay\"... Whoops, turned out it was a girl.\nSo I now feel terrible for making an innocent grill feel insecure about her body... She blocked me so I can't say sorry.\n\nIt's not really a big TIFU like most other's, but I feel really bad about it.", "summary": "Flat chested girl asked me for an opinion of her body, the picture looked like a boy so I told her I wasn't gay. She blocked me so I can't apologise."}
{"id": "t3_1gqvoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23/F] with my bf [50/M] have been dating for 9 months and I don't know if he takes our relationship as seriously as I am, due to our age difference.", "post": "So we met at Starbucks, and he asked me to be his girlfriend 2 weeks later. Now we've been dating for 9 months. Every time I'm with him, I have so much fun.\n\n I've only had 3 ex in the past, and I've never been so attracted to someone like this before. Honestly, he even gave me my first orgasm! He's smart, mature, and very attractive. I notice all the little things about him and I'm in love. The only problem is, I haven't told him yet due to many reasons. \n\n* his age. I can't tell what's going on his head. \n* He's been around the block with the dating scene. He was married for 20 years before going through a hard breakup with his ex wife. That happened 5 years ago. Then he's been in a few serious relationships and \"multiple\" online dates. So obviously he's experienced. I've only had 3 ex and had sex with 2 of them. \n* if I tell him I love him, I'm scared he won't feel the same way and our relationship", "summary": "bf is older than I am, don't know if I should confess myself to him because I don't know what to expect. "}
{"id": "t3_2uhmcr", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do I get over having romantic feelings for my best friend? (Not mutual)", "post": "He [24] sends mixed signals with the things he says sometimes, causing me [19] to overanalyze and/or get carried away with it. He likes me but isn't on board with my physical appearance which I'm working on. And I completely understand that. We have phone sex but I told him I no longer want to as it doesn't help with my trying to get over him. I'm extremely attached and its rare I feel like this about someone. I can't help but invest a lot of me emotionally when I feel this way but its only making me feel ridiculous considering its mostly one sided. KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO ME,PLEASE.", "summary": "I'm emotionally invested into a one sided romantic attraction to my best friend who does not feel the same way. Knock some sense into me."}
{"id": "t3_i8cxg", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog thinks I should be up at the crack of dawn", "post": "I am a recurring problem-haver, it seems. My dog (whose previous issue was ankle-biting) is a 2 or 3 year old lab/basset hound cross. She was adopted from a shelter and has some separation anxiety issues (which we are dealing with), and is generally very very needy.\n\nThe trouble I am coming across in recent weeks is this: She sleeps in the bedroom, as she will NEVER be in a different room from me by choice, in her crate beside the bed. (Not closed in; that is just where she likes to sleep.) As soon as it is even sort of light outside, she begins pacing around the bed and whining incessantly.\n\nAt first I stuck with ignoring her and waiting for her to settle down and then giving her some attention (I didn't have any treats on hand, though maybe keeping some on the nightstand is not a bad plan). The trouble with that method is that she never actually settles down. She just gets increasingly louder until it reaches the point where she is flat out barking and howling.\n\nI am concerned about this because when I do finally get up (as I have no choice but to do), I am probably indicating to her that whining and barking is the way to get someone out of bed. I know it is not a case of having to go outside, as she calms down immediately when someone gets up.\n\nI am at a loss about the cause of this and how to fix it. Any insight would be much appreciated!", "summary": "Dog whines like crazy at dawn and just gets louder when I ignore her. I have to get up, but I think this encourages her to whine. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_204b4j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my gf [22 M/F] of a year, I think I messed it up", "post": "For the most part our relationship was going pretty smoothly until we had our first major fight a couple of days ago. The topic of issue was that she was hanging out with a lot of guys, and was cutting into time that we used to spend together to do it. I'm insecure by nature, and I told her that I felt abandoned when she spends time with other guys that cuts into the limited amount of time we spend together. She said that I was being controlling and that I shouldn't care who her friends are.\n\nWell after that things escalated into a full blown fight with yelling and everything, at which point I told her that I was insecure and that I'm jealous of the attention she is giving to other guys. She assures me that she loves me, but things haven't been quite the same since then. She thinks that I doubt our relationship, and hasn't been close to me since then, both in person and texts.\n\nI'm at a loss of what to do, I love her and want things to be like they were, but I feel like I created a barrier between us by mentioning my insecurities.", "summary": "told gf I'm insecure, now she doubts our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_lvj0i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 22 and I'm allergic to alcohol. AMA. My condition is also known as \"Asian Flush Syndrome\" and I'm not Asian. (Long, sorry...)", "post": "I will throw up after just one sip of beer or vodka. I used to drink a lot ages 18-21. This past summer I drank a lot one night (not too much, though, and I didn't even throw up that night!) but the next day I had a 12-hour hangover of just rejecting all food. Since then I cut down significantly on alcohol, having just 1-3 beers once or twice a week. I kind of cut myself down even further to less than half a beer, if I even bothered to open a beer at all. With that sort of quantity of alcohol, I wasn't throwing up.\n\nUntil, all of a sudden, I was. I would throw up on nights that I only drank half a beer. Of course, I smoked weed that night too, so everyone just blames it on the weed. So, two months ago, I cut down on weed. Still threw up consistently, even though I didn't connect it to alcohol at this point. Like, I'd feel nauseous, but I can handle nausea. Something *else* would trigger the vomiting -- taking a drag on a cigarette, or taking a shot, or even just vigorous coughing. Ever cough and vomit at the same time? So I stopped touching tobacco, stopped coughing as much, smoked less, and drank no more than 1-2 beers. And I would still vomit everywhere uncontrollably on the regular.\n\nWhatever. I had a lengthy conversation via phone with my uncle, an M.D., and both he and the internet agree that I have [ADLH deficiency] a genetic condition more commonly known as Asian Flush. Here is a picture of me [being sad] that I will never be able to drink alcohol normally, ever. \n\nI just found out today and I'm still grappling with the following future: I will *never* be able to get really drunk again.\n\nI won't get drunk at my own wedding (or anyone else's, ever).\n\nI will always get stuck being the designated driver.\n\nEveryone I meet will immediately think I'm a little weird for not drinking.\n\nI will never become an alcoholic.", "summary": "Kind of like lactose intolerance, I'm alcohol intolerant. AMA."}
{"id": "t3_13lt88", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Updated - [m22] found out my gf [f20] of 8 months is selling photos and videos of herself, and her used underwear online[", "post": "[Original thread here](\n\nI don't care if this seems unethical or whatever, but I wanted to fully know what was going on and stop being made a fool of.\n\nI had her over at my apartment and while she was taking a shower, and I decided to snoop through her computer and email. I basically found out that 4 weeks ago she had one of her tumblr \"customers\" fly out to her (from Georgia to New York), and take her to some anime convention and stay at his hotel the entire time. She had originally told me that she was with her parents in upstate NY.\n\nI really didn't need to see anymore. As soon as she came out of the shower and laid on my couch I told her I really don't think I trust her anymore and don't want to see her anymore, she left and hasn't spoken a word to me since then, which I'm pretty thankful for.\n\nGood riddance.", "summary": "After digging through ex-gf's computer, found out one of her tumblr  \"customers\" flew from GA to NY a month ago to bring her to anime convention - when she told me she was visiting her parents. I dumped her immediately after."}
{"id": "t3_1ed4bk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So Reddit, I'm starting school in the fall as a new unwed mother.. Any advice?", "post": "My little one is due on July 11th. I graduated last year and decided to take a year off from school. To travel? To do anything worthwhile? No. I took a year off to work at Del Taco then quit at a whim just because, have unprotected sex with a guy that never wanted a relationship but kept me dangling for 5 months, and max out my credit cards (which, thankfully, my mom bailed me out of).\n\nFor those who are concerned for this poor child that has no choice but to depend on an irresponsible teenager, I'm pretty worried, too. Believe me, I would have waited until I was married or out of school or \"ready\".. I do have a plan, though. \n\nI have the G.I. Bill which *should* cover all school expenses and also living expenses (which I will be spending on my baby). I'm also going to be living with the dad who has a full-time job and a home ready for us. I'm not living with my mom because we have family issues and that's all I will say about that. \n\nI am so afraid that I will fail school. I need to go because I don't want to raise my baby on minimum wage for the rest of our lives. I was terribly lazy in high school. I don't know how I can just become a motivated student/mom.", "summary": "Just need any advice for someone who has always had lazy habits in high school"}
{"id": "t3_37hyho", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU-by calling my teacher a cock", "post": "This event occurred roughly two years ago when I was a 13/14 year old messing around in school, like most kids do. \n\nTo set the scene, I was sat in my history lesson and someone had made one of those paper fortune teller things. \nI was assigned the chief role of decorating said fortune teller. Now as the immature 13/14 year old I was, I immediately set away at writing and drawing all the obscenities and phallic images that popped into my mind, whilst my teacher (who for some reason seemed to like me more than most of the other kids) rambled on about the slave trade. \n\nNow, I was so immersed in my drawings, I neglected to keep an eye on my teacher and to make sure I wasn't caught not paying attention. At some point the class went silent and I realised the teacher was stood over me and my 'artwork'. She held her hand out for the paper, and at this point I knew I was fucked...\n\nThe whole class watched the teacher take the paper and she opened it on a random section, being the lucky guy I am it happened to be on a drawing of the veiniest, fattest dick imaginable. She asked me what this meant, and in my state of complete embarrassment, all I could utter were those fateful words which still haunt me to this day:\"that means you're a cock\"\n\nA trip to the heads office and a phone call home resulted in me being suspended from school for a week, and never having the same experience in those history lessons again...", "summary": "Called my history teacher a cock, got suspended for a week"}
{"id": "t3_1lzq4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Could this girl [20/F] actually like me [21/M], or is she just being nice?", "post": "Met this stunning girl on campus. I'm really shy but I got my shit together and walked up to this girl and initiated a conversation. It was only about a couple minutes long, we parted ways, and I saw her again a week later (which was this past week). This time I manned up and asked her if she would want to hang out sometime. She said she wasn't opposed to it (weird choice of wording), and gave me her number. We've exchanged a few short texts. \n\nI tried to set a time to meet up with her, she said she wasn't available on the night I asked but offered up the suggestion that we meet on campus sometime this week.\n\nI'm looking for a relationship. I can't stop thinking about this girl and it's driving me crazy. I've been burned before, but I'm trying to play it cool this time. However, I'm just wondering if this girl might be interested in me that way at all, or am I going to get hurt again?", "summary": "Girl gave me her number but not sure what she thinks about me at all."}
{"id": "t3_2y0a77", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She [22/f] confused me so much, I [20/m] need help understanding what to do", "post": "Hey all, I've just been having a hard time reading this girl I've been talking to. I'll give a quick summary of what the situation is.\n\nAbout three months ago the store I worked at caught fire and I was transferred to work at another location. While there I met a few girls, the one I'm talking to being one of them. She gave me her number to warn about one of the other girls and that she'll text me. So we started texting everyday and hung out once and we're going on a date Saturday. Sounds straightforward right?\n\nWell tonight as I was texting her I complimented her and she told me that she wasn't used to people being nice to her and told me that we're just friends. I decided to not beat around the bush and tell her that I like her, to which she responded with the ever so common, \"I don't feel the same way.\"\n\nI decided to follow up on it and asked why not. She told me she wasn't looking for a relationship right now. So with my spirits dampened, I decided to stop texting at that moment when she suddenly texted asking if we'll still go out Saturday and keep texting every day. I said only if she wanted to, and I got a yeah with a smiley. \n\nThen I asked if it'll bother her that I like her when we're hanging out and she said, \" No because we'll be getting to know each other.\" She even confirmed it as a date that we're going out Saturday.\n\nSo does she want to like me, already does or won't at all? I could be looking it at the wrong way but I'd appreciate all advice and suggestions.", "summary": "Girl isn't looking for anything and claims she doesn't feel the same way but wants to keep texting and go on a date Saturday so we can get to know each other more. Pursue or no?"}
{"id": "t3_2lu752", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend(ex?) [18F] of 4.5 years, changed in the past 3 months.", "post": "So me and my girlfriend of almost 5 years, just suddenly stopped interacting with each other, ever since the end of this summer.\n\ni didn't think much of it, since she's exec and president of a ton of clubs, so i wouldnt be surprised if she was just busy. \nbut eventually went up and talked to her after around 2 weeks.\n\nof course naturally i asked her if she's mad at me and whatnot, and she responds with \"i thought you were interested in \"Becky\", so..\"\nand then proceeds to continue ignoring me. \nbut she's still totally normal towards everyone else, and texting and hanging out with this one friend who she met in one of her clubs, Tyler.\n\nhonestly at this point im worrying, did i do something wrong? like i don't even know. am i just being too possessive and worrying? so i write her a long winded paragraph, just to talk to her about the situation and i get a short reply of \"things are okay, i love you\" but nothing has changed.\n\nis it just me being obsessive and worrying too much about a non-existent problem?", "summary": "after 3 months, girlfriend starts ignoring me, but says she still loves me, is the relationship over?"}
{"id": "t3_1kwsuw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me[24M] with my GF [20F], been dating for 3 weeks. She casually mentioned her old FWB is really good at sex. I'm insecure/jealous.", "post": "A girl and I have recently started dating. Long story short, she was talking about her past sexual experiences and said that her old FWB (male) (also her best friend currently) is very good at sex.\n\nI told her that makes me a bit jealous, and she promptly said that I'm good at fingering, etc. and that I'm a very affectionate, etc. To me, they are just compliments to shut me up even though I'm sure she was being sincere.\n\nI don't think I'm jealous because of the fact that a guy has had sex with her or whatever, because that's all in the past. I think I'm just insecure knowing that I'm possibly not her best sex partner, which is the dumbest thing ever but I can't help it.\n\nShould I just get over it? Or is there something I should do?\n\nI am going to try to not think about it too much. However, there is a very good chance I will meet her best friend. I feel like I would feel really insecure/self-conscious in front of him. What can I do to help ease that feeling?", "summary": "GF says her old FWB is good at sex; I feel insecure. Possibly meeting her old FWB soon; I feel even more insecure. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3j0t25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So my [18m] girlfriend [18f] of almost a year thinks she may be pregnant and I am away in college. I need to figure out a way to comfort her and help her.", "post": "So basically I left for school 3 weeks ago and school is 8 hours away from home (she's still a senior in high school). Her and I are extremely close which is the reason we are still together. We figured we would break up if it ever got unbearable but it's been fine so far. Anyway apparently she's late on her period. Neither of us want to jump to conclusions but if she is pregnant I have no idea what to do since I am not there with her. Her parents would kill her if she told them and so we are trying our best to hide it from them. But we still have no idea what we would do. So basically we were wondering what our options are and how I can comfort her from down here.", "summary": "girlfriend might be pregnant and I'm too far away to be with her. How do we make the abortion process as easy as possible on her and keep it discreet?"}
{"id": "t3_1vqb2i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice regarding 'friend' M 20", "post": "Hi all, first time using this.\n\nSo, I have a friend who I've known for around 3 Years now. She's a really lovely person and has always been friendly towards me. Until last week we'd never actually met as she was a pen-friend from a few cities over.\n\nSo, she came to visit last week for a few drinks and stuff with me and my friends. Shortly into the night we retreated to my room with my friend to watch TV as everyone was getting very drunk. Neither of us were drunk and neither was my male friend.  \n\nThroughout this, we were both sat on the bed. She would repeatedly rest her head on my shoulder which I thought was very cute! It's been a while since someone has shown affection to me.\n\nThen, my friend leaves the room for a while to do more drinking. We stayed and carried on watching. Eventually she asked for my arm over her so she could 'cuddle' with me, and so she curled up with my arm around her. My friend came back and she continued to do so, never pushing away nor getting anxious. She simply really loved being hugged by me - 'The best hugs' as she put it.\n\nNow personally, I didn't see it as any indication of anything other than friendliness. But, my male friend seemed to think that she was really fond of me and as such told me when she left that she always looked so affectionately at me.\n\nSo I've come here guys to see if you can clear this up for me. Do you guys think this was affection or just a friendly gesture?\n\nThank-you.", "summary": "Friend 'cuddles' with me - other friend believes affection. Omg what do?"}
{"id": "t3_34vwkm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18 F) Need help getting over my first love (21 M)", "post": "So he broke up with me after he got home from spring break. He went to Cancun with his college friends. We were in a long distance. After he broke up with me he wanted to get back together. I was giving him a hard time about it and then he bought me a $150 teddy bear and some of my favorite candies to send me. He obviously was trying but only when I didn't want him. When he finally won me back, he began not trying at all and barely caring. He only wanted me whenever I was questioning if I should want him.\n\nHe always treats me like shit whenever his friends are around. I really want to be done this time but this is so hard. I wish I had the strength to just block him and move on but I don't Someone please help.", "summary": "How to get over a first love"}
{"id": "t3_2khnbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21 F] struggling to deal with my boyfriend's [21 M] parents' hatred of me even though we've been together four years.", "post": "I've always known his parents didn't like me. They rarely invited me to dinner, never bought me any gifts for holidays even if I would get them something, never reciprocated conversation if I tried to genuinely ask about them. Just nothing. Whereas my parents have always welcomed my boyfriend into the home with open arms, buy him gifts for no reason, and invite him to all kinds of family events.\n\nI always assumed it was because we didn't have the same religion and recently my suspicions were proven true when his father told him to break up with me if we were planning on getting married. I also was no longer allowed in their house any more. His mother agrees with the father but not as harshly. She apparently says she just wants my boyfriend to be happy but also agrees that he shouldn't want to marry me.\n\nFirst of all, I'm not even thinking about marriage right now. That's the least of my priorities. I should also mention that my boyfriend and his parents are hardly religious (I'm not very religious either). At most they'll go to certain services for one or two holidays, if that. They don't even respect certain dietary restrictions for their religion.\n\nWhat I am now struggling with is the fact that he still interacts with his parents, still goes to family events (just doesn't bring me), as if he's putting on a show that nothing's changed. I've talked to him about it and he says he hasn't forgotten what they said, and that he still hates his parents. They must know we're still together too because it's on Facebook and I post on his wall frequently.\n\nSince I've always known his parents haven't liked me it was hard to deal with them finally admitting it. Especially over something as silly as religion, when they are hardly religious. I love my boyfriend to pieces, but is it time that I rethink the relationship?", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents finally admitted they don't like me because we don't have the same religion, even though neither of us are religious. Boyfriend is treating the situation as if nothing has happened and I just don't go into their house. I love him so much, but I don't know if it's time to rethink the situation or not."}
{"id": "t3_1u8os8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] feel like our relationship has rub its course. She [22 F] sees nothing wrong with it.", "post": "Back story: We are a LDR relationship of sorts. At times we are separated by distance (different colleges) and other times by an overprotective parent (she was raised by her grandparents actually). We probably see each other only a few times a month at best, even when she is only minutes away.  This is both of our first relationship. \n\nWe've always had issues with sexual matters. She would like to wait to be married to have sex. When we are together, we do mutual masturbation. Which I was okay with for a while but she is not always the most considerate partner. Most of the time she shows no interest in making me satisfied. \n\nI have tried talking to her but it seems I can only ever manage to get a few inches and it always seems to make her more bitter about it. The most recent talk was right before her grand father died a few months ago. I've tried to be as patient and caring as possible but I think resentment has been keeping me from being so as much as I could be. \n\nRight now would be a horrible time for me to break up with her. A lot of her family life is in turmoil and she is coming into her last semester of school and I am her sole emotional support. But waiting, I think would be worse.  It makes me feel trapped which only increases the resentment. And she doesn't deserve that. \n\nIdeally, I could remain her friend and support her but I am not idealistic enough to think that will happen. Which is sad. She is my best friend, even though I think the resentment has poisoned that some too \n\nOn that note, if we broke up, I would likely lose a good deal of my friends but I would not begrudge them for that. They have been to her friends for a lot longer than they have been mine.\n\nFuck. I an bad at this. I have been thinking about this too long and I have lost sight of what is relevant or not too the matter so apologies if this seems scattered.", "summary": "Distance and a lack of intimacy have been ruining my four year relationship and I am afraid breaking up would hurt her when she is at her most vulnerable."}
{"id": "t3_2lnits", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "What do you do for a living, and do you enjoy it?", "post": "So, to give a little bit of a background, I work in hospitality at the moment. I've worked here for about 5 years, since I was 17. I've learned just about as much as I believe possible without furthering my education. When I was in High School, I went to a technical school, where I studied carpentry. I thought that's the direction I wanted to go, but I'd much rather have that as a hobby, than a career.\n\n\u00a0\n\nDue to my mom and her boyfriend splitting up, around the time I began working in hospitality, I had to take on a pretty big responsibility. So I put college on the back burner after high school, to help with bills.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI began to really enjoy working in hospitality though, starting in housekeeping, and now working at the front desk/night audit. As I'm probably boring you, I'll cut to the chase. I think I've had about as much as I can handle. I enjoyed working here because of the people, but I've also grown to hate it for the same reason. People can be downright disgusting, and that is not something I want to deal with for the rest of my life. \n\n\u00a0\n\nSo now, I'll be 22 in 6 days, and have absolutely no clue what I want to do. I'm hoping you, the wonderful people of reddit, will be able to help me. I'm currently working audit, and typing this in between doing some paperwork, so I apologize for the poor structure.", "summary": "I'm posting this hoping that you guys can give me some ideas on what to do. I'm pretty open to any suggestions. I'm interested to hear about what other people do for a living, how they like it, how they got into it, and if they live comfortably off of their salary. Thank you in advance for taking the time to read, or open my post! :)"}
{"id": "t3_247549", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[28M] affair with engaged woman [24F]. Need desperate advice", "post": "Ok. So I slept with a girl whom I know is engaged. She is my best friends [F] best friend. Anyhow, she made the first move and she's been coming on hard with what I would call cheerleader talk where whatever I say, cool/nerdy/important/nonchalant she backs with full enthusiasm. At first i thought it was friendly but it escalated quickly with alcohol and so on. Anyhow I'm usually rather level headed with this stuff and have a fair grasp of what to do as this isnt the first time I've had attention from people I shouldn't but she's different. I usually get this from younger girls I work with as I'm in a senior position with a decent job and money. But this girl has absolutely nothing to gain from her actions. She's super smart and a stunning girl. This attention isn't abnormal to me but the girls in question are usually all about drugs, parties, clothes, shoes, etc and it all becomes some gilded act followed by Instagram selfies and snapchat posts for the night which I usually Indulge in to seal the deal. Anyhow she's different. She showd her intentions first, she showed what I thought at first was fake interest but as we talk more genuine interest in what I like and similar interests too (she came out and declared on her own accord that Picard was better than Kirk and Janeway could go suck a dick). Anyhow I'm concerned as I've previously been able to blow these girls off no problem but this one has one hell of a snag in me and I don't know how to act. She's my best friends best friend and she doesn't know about us and I can't obv talk to her about it. She asked if I told her and I said that's for her to decide as it greatly impacts her more than me. Also that I didn't mind either way and that I'd understand if she didn't. . Im going to be seeing this girl relatively often regardless of the outcome because she is so close to my best friend so I need to make a decision soon before it gets worse .", "summary": "Sooooo yeah. Do I pursue a girl that is likely doomed to fail [engaged] even tho its the only time in the last 18 months I've actually felt any real positive emotions to another person? Or do I just cut the cord and lock this away with my other skeletons and have that fear of \"what if I actually tried for once?\". P.s. on phone and apologize for spelling or grammar"}
{"id": "t3_23iy9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[VERY SHORT] [22F] Insists that I lied to her about my [26M] sexual partners before we became exclusive. I can be hardheaded sometimes, she can be immature sometimes as well. I don't know what to think, please help.", "post": "1. Back when we were flirting (and hooking up) my GF asked me if I was seeing anyone else because she saw some scratches on my back (it looked sexual). I told her those were from a girl I was hooking up with. She told me that she wants to take this seriously.\n\n2. I stopped communication with others and became exclusive with her.\n\n3. Now, 3 months later. I somehow ended up informing her that I was in fact, hooking up with 2 other girls (other than her). So a total of 3, before I settled with her.\n\n4. She called me a lair. In my defence, I **was** not obligated to tell her my sexual activity. Especially that 1) we were not dating. 2) it would worsen my chances with her by looking like a freak. \n\nDid I do wrong in not confessing my sexual activity to her back when we were not official?", "summary": "i never told her that i was fucking with 2 other girls before we became exclusive... and she says the number of girls doesn't matter...what matters is that I lied. So she consider me to not have told the truth. Was I obligated to?"}
{"id": "t3_1wghvk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21 (F) Breakup breakthrough!", "post": "After a couple of months, I feel like I'm finally over the breakup! I just did a complete purge...I deleted every photo of us, every post on Facebook, and every text message. I feel like I held onto these things because it was all that I had left.\n\nBut I don't want it. It wasn't a healthy relationship and I'll never see him again, so why should I hold onto it?\n\nI'm feeling better than I have in a long time! I erased someone from my life! That's kind of amazing. And I'm so ready to move on.\n\nHas anyone else relationship purged recently?", "summary": "I erased an entire relationship from my computer and phone and I'm feeling great!"}
{"id": "t3_1btnt1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M20] here, wondering how to (or if I should) re-ask a girl (20)out after she said she wasn't looking for a relationship a while ago.", "post": "This has a little backstory to it so bear with me.\n\nWe met last Halloween, and that night she added me on Facebook and said we should hang out.  I agreed, but was crushing on another girl at the time, and waited until that fell apart a few months later to ask her out.\n\nWe met for dinner on our school's campus just to get to know one another and it went pretty well, so I asked her to go to dinner and a movie with me (I know super-imaginative, right?)  She accepted and that date went ok, but I was pretty nervous and I think she picked up on it and it affected her.  \n\nThe next day, she texted me and said she had just gotten out of a relationship and wanted a break, and that we should just be friends.  I said that was fine, believing full-well that she just meant she didn't want a relationship with **ME**, and that we shouldn't stay in touch.  \n\nBut we have stayed in touch, and now that I've already been rejected, I am much less nervous and we have a lot of fun together.  We've been out in groups and alone, and its been a lot of fun.  \n\nThe problem is, now I'm crushing hard on her, and she seems to like me back.  Its only been a couple months since our first \"date\" and she said no then.  I can't tell if she just likes me as a friend, but I'm pretty sure she likes me as much as I do her.  \n\nSince its only been a few weeks, is it acceptable to ask her how she feels now?  I don't wanna mess this up as a friendship, but I figure if we both like each other then why not?\n\nI know this sounds a lot like a \"friend-zone\" situation, but I've already asked her out, and I think now that I'm less nervous she has gotten to know the real me, and likes me more than she originally did.", "summary": "I asked a girl out, and got rejected because I was nervous after the first date.  We've stayed in touch and now I think she likes me more. Can/Should/How do I ask her out again so soon?"}
{"id": "t3_2zvn4k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 y/o male] am going on my first date tomorrow, need help!", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nThis is my first post ever on reddit, sorry if my grammar/format is off im a foreigner ;). Okay so about two weeks ago I was feeling kinda horny, and I felt like downloading hot or not and checking out some girls. I had to log in through facebook, and saw a friend of mine so I clicked on his profile and there was a web of mutual friends. So my friend, had a friend, who had a friend, who was a friends with this real cute girl (sorry, its confusing) and for some reason I scrolled down to her profile and saw her kik. I add her on Kik late at night, she adds me when she wakes up before school. We instantly hit it off and text each other during school the whole day and well into the morning (1am). We then talked the rest of the weekend and this whole week. We decided to meet up soon for a movie and some food. A couple hours later she tells me her friend had a mental breakdown, (this was like 3 hours ago), and confessed she almost killed herself last week. I conforted my lady friend who was in hysterics, and she asked if she could bring her friend along to cheer her up. So here we are having our first date together, alongside her depressed friend. Do you guys have any tips, because as far as im informed, first date arent usually under these conditions. Thanks!", "summary": "Going on my first real date with a girl I met online, we're both in highschool, and her depressed friend is tagging along so she can cheer up a bit, any tips on how to handle this?"}
{"id": "t3_nu9kq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going to a party knowing barely anyone + possible relationship", "post": "Hey guys,\n\nI know a girl since elementary (we are both 18 now) and even though we went to different schools we kept in contact through messengers for the last 6 years. Neither of us expected any kind of relationship and therefore we could basically chat about anything (even about own relationships with other people). \n\nLike 2 months ago I split up with a girl and we started chatting even more frequently. 2 weeks ago she invited me to go ice skating which made me pretty sure that both of us want to get closer as it was a really cool evening and she kept smiling at staring at me (she brought a friend with her). like last week she asked me whether I had any plans for New Years Eve. \n\nI actually had plans with a few friends (I have very little friends after a incident I wont explain now because I could basically write a book about the last 3 years of my life) but I really want to go out with her. So I was invited to a party with people from her school. I dont know anyone except her and she asked me to bring a friend with me in case she is busy with someone else which I think is a perfectly fine reason. \n\nOf course I dont know anyone I could bring with me and as I am a little shy I find it difficult to start talking to people (both male and female).\n\nAlcohol is allowed of course.\n\nSo first question: Can you give me any advice on how to get started talking to people I dont know at all? Of course I could ask how this person got to know my friend or get involved in another conversation, but I doubt it will always work out. At least there is alcohol :P\n\nSecond: How do I behave concerning her? I think I can be pretty sure that she wants to have a relationship with me because of our past and her body language 2 weeks ago on the ice, but Im not sure how to behave in a group of people as I have never been in this situation.\n\nThanks for the answers :D", "summary": "Going to a party with possible GF, dont know anyone there, how to get in contact and get closer with possible GF."}
{"id": "t3_2bugzx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] need to ask my crush [25 F] about her ring size discreetly. Need dialog advice.", "post": "I have been friends with this girl for a couple of years already. Just a friend for her, not really for me, not that she knows. I doubt i have any chance, as i know that i am not her type, but i am starting to drown in personal hell and i am planning to proceed with confession. For which i want to give her a gift of a ring, no matter what her answer will be. I chose a very special ring, whose design will have a symbolic meaning, but there is a problem - it can't be resized later on. I need to know the size before ordering. As just a friend i don't have access to her own rings, i can't measure her hand in any way, nor do we have shared female friends whom i could confine with the problem. The only way to do so - is to ask. And so i need advice - how can i ask her about her ring size, without provoking the thought? Or at least do it humorous way, so that she thinks that it's a joke of some sort. Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Want to confess to a friend with the ring. No way to know ring size without asking. Dialog advice needed."}
{"id": "t3_1fs01w", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "ideas for gift to cheer a stranger up", "post": "I work at a call center at had a older lady call in who was very distraught. She had called in multiple times that night and no one was willing to listen to her. I talked to her and found out she had just got medical news that she did not have much longer to live. She was very scared and said she didn't have anyone to talk to and felt very alone. It broke my heart and by the end of the call I was in tears myself. I know I broke the companies rules but I wrote down her address because I wanted to send her something anonymously to maybe cheer her up a little. I wouldn't know what to write in a card since I can't say who I am. I don't have a ton of money to spend but want to send her something. Wondering if anyone has any ideas of what I can send her? I can be a one time thing or some little things to send every once in a while.", "summary": "What should I send a stranger anonymously who is lonely and found out she is dying to help cheer her up a litte?"}
{"id": "t3_sl8cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to be with someone when you know it will end?", "post": "(long and a bit rambley...any insight appreciated...)\n\nSo, I am a 27 bi(f), who has been dating 31 bi(m) for about year. I love him dearly, and he me. Our relationship however has certainly been a bit tumultuous, due mainly to the fact that we both lead very stressful lives. His life (mainly due to his job) is filled with stress, trauma, and burnout. So depression and anxiety is something we both struggle with. I react to stress by winding up, racing thoughts, hyper sex drive, intense emotions, crying etc. He reacts by essentially shutting down and curling up into a numb ball. Clearly this has caused some communication issues for us verbally and physically...\n\nI have been actively getting help and working on my issues, however the causes of them aren't changing anytime soon (job, family, living situation.) He has just started to make changes to better his life for himself, but he does have a long way to go.\n\nSo basically, we are both conflicted as to whether or not it will \"work out.\" I have wanted to marry him, and thought about long term plans with him in the past. He has spoken about marriage, co-habitating, and all that, but its never really seemed like something that was truly on the table. At this point in my life I am nowhere near ready to settle down and be a wife...\n\nBasically I am pretty sure that this relationship will not be the be all end all. We probably won't be settling down together. We are in love, best friends, and enjoy each others company, but in the long run I know I will need a better \"fit.\" For me breakups are a very jarring and traumatic thing, and I do not feel I want to or have the emotional strength to go through one right now. He feels if we are happy in the moment, we should just enjoy our time together while separately working to better our own lives. I like the sound of that, but the fear of going through the emotional pain of a breakup looms over me. Is it better to end if it must end eventually?", "summary": "Is it better to end a relationship you enjoy but probably won't last and deal with the pain of the breakup when you've got a lot going on in your life, OR work on yourself, your life, keep the positive parts of the relationship and deal with the breakup when it comes?"}
{"id": "t3_1o33pw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [21/m] wanting advice towards ex/friend [20/f]", "post": "Hello everyone,\nI dated an awesome girl for 16 months. We broke up over a horrible miscommunication and pride from both sides being unwillingly to compromise. Then after having a month and half apart we started dating again. We were together for two weeks before we broke up due to a huge fight over what happene while we weren't together. It's been about two months now and we've just started talking again. I still have strong feelings for this girl and she has feelings for me too (I do not think they are as strong as mine). \n\nThis is where my delima comes in. I have been told countless times that her and I spent too much time together, especially since we're so young. I know that is most likely true, but we just loved being in each others company. My family, especially my parents think that I only want her back because I haven't met someone new. I have been encouraged to start dating again and find someone knew with more similar interests. I wouldn't mind dating again, but I just can't get my feelings for my ex to go away, nor do I really want them too. I still have strong feelings for her and I would love to be with her again, but I know it wouldn't be the same. Her family and my family would probably give us both a lot of stress and crap about it too. But in all honesty, I wouldn't care because she makes me happy.\n\nWhat I want to know is what you all think I should do. I do not want to lose her as a friend, so do you think I should just back off, date other girls, and only be available to her platonically? Or do you believe that I should act upon my feelings and show romantic interest in her again? \n\nI know that whatever I do I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings anymore. Am I being selfish for wanting to be with her again for a third time, even though we broke up? Do you think that I am being a loser and I should just meet new people? \n\nThanks for your time, I just don't have anyone else in my life to turn too for this advice. \nP.S. I might meet her tonight for warm drinks and conversation.", "summary": "16 months together with a girl. We break up and get back together. We break up again. We still have feelings for eachother. Right now we're just being friends. Keep being friends or try again and do better?"}
{"id": "t3_g87sz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Living Social \"steals\" photos from the web without permission.", "post": "My wife discovered on Sunday that Livingsocial.com has taken one of her [photographs] and used it to [advertise on their site] They say that they \"credit the artist\" in their pictures, but the photos are copyrighted and Livingsocial isn't even linking to the right person!\n\n So far, non-traditional steps have been taken to contact them (twitter, web) which have gone ignored, but she is writing up a formal letter to send them now. Looking through the site, it seems like they pull **ALL** of their images from the web/flickr, so I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with them in the past to remedy this?", "summary": "Site is using photos without permisson, and is ignoring our request to take down."}
{"id": "t3_fqmr1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Has anyone else had a \"ahh shit, that was racist of me!\" moment?", "post": "I was getting on the subway train on my way to work when I accidentally bumped into someone. I took a glimpse at him and said \"my bad\". He politely shrugged it off.\n\nAs I wait for my stop, I analyze what just happened and that leads me to thinking about my apology's word choice. I then realize that I would never say \"my bad\" if it was some white guy in a shirt and tie. Because the guy was black (btw: I'm hispanic), I chose to say \"my bad\".\n\nA quick search through my memory bank resulted in another example: a quick \"yo what up\" vs. with-a-smile \"hey good morning\".\n\n**So Reddit, does that make me racist-lite?** I'm judging someone by the skin of their color. Although I think I'd of used the same word choice if it was a white guy dressed \"urban\". *Shrug*\n\n**Related**: *I use to have a hard definition of racism: \"if you change the way you treat someone based on their skin color, it's racist\". However, I now think that's too broad. Based on that definition, affirmative action is racism---not that I agree or disagree with affirmative action. **How do you define racism?", "summary": "At times, my word choice is based on skin-color. Does that make me a racist? Do you exhibit similar behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_1crc4v", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Coping with loss", "post": "My daughter lost her boyfriend of 7 years today. I don't know what to do. He was diagnosed with leukemia in November of this year. The good news is the survivability was 80%. We joked he got cancer light. No babying, no feeling sorry, treat him as you treat any other human being. He had gone through three rounds of chemo and was doing pretty well. Hair loss, a little weight loss (which even he joked was probably a good thing), but he was on the path to recovery. A few set backs here and there, but all was on track.\nTwo days ago he got a staph infection. With his immune system compromised, he didn't have a chance. Last night he went flat line several times and before he lost conscious he said to my daughter, \"I just want to go home.\" Those were the last words she heard from him. He died (no euphemisms) this morning at 11:30.\nShe is distraught. She blames herself for not doing more. \"Why didn't I get him to the hospital sooner? \"Why didn't I push him and them to keep him in the hospital so he wouldn't be exposed?\" Lots of questions, lots of blame combined with absolute desolation of being alone. \nI haven't given her platitudes, or tried for false hopes. I have only let her know it wasn't her fault. She did everything she could, as did the doctors. I let her know I love her, she's alive and she is here with us. Her pain is probably not completely there, I imagine she's mostly numb right now. I am in tears for her, I can't do anything to help or fix my daughter right now. Dads are supposed to know what to do, to be the rock.", "summary": "daughter boyfriend died, she's distraught, I don't know how to help."}
{"id": "t3_xqrha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you think that it's best to trust your instincts?", "post": "The reason I ask is because a few years back I thought I had really found someone that I loved. I did love her and she loved me. I trusted her, only to find that she had planned on leaving my and had begun talking to someone else before we had split up. I told her a few times that I had a weird feeling something was going on because I felt that it was best to be honest. She would always tell me I was just being paranoid, basically, but still I had that instinct telling me that she was not being 100% truthful. I ended up leaving her because I couldn't shake the feeling she was lying to me and that it was probably best to be apart if I couldn't let that go. She did eventually tell me she had been speaking with someone else, romantically, within the last months of our relationship. Whether she cheated, or not, I don't know and at this point I no longer care. SO. I am now in a committed relationship with another woman, but I am beginning to feel these same feelings. I wonder if it's because I have a residual trust issue due to my past experiences with my ex, or if those same instincts are setting in and I should try and listen to them this time. So, what do you think, Reddit? Should I go with my gut feeling, or just...let it go?", "summary": "I was right about my ex being unfaithful to me in my last relationship and am experiencing those same instinctual feelings with my current, but am not sure what if it is because I lack trust due to my past, or if I should really listen to myself this time."}
{"id": "t3_559g2r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 F] crush [19 M] of over a year often repeats the same stories/opinions/jokes to me - bad sign?", "post": "I've had a crush on this guy for a long time, but we're kind of in the same circle of friends and I've found it hard to push it beyond hanging out as just buddies. Whenever we're all out together we both end up gravitating towards each other and walking side by side or spending most of the evening just talking together. I've noticed others in the group have noticed this and given some 'looks' to each other.\n\nFor whatever reason neither of us have made a move, and I'm beginning to doubt he's interested as much as I am based on one thing; he often repeats himself to me, as if he's forgotten the previous time(s) that he's said these things.\n\nIt sounds stupid but I keep a diary and end up writing down of a lot of the things we talk about as I enjoy spending time with him and don't want to forget some of the cute little things we end up joking about, even if it turns into nothing. So I think I'd find it very hard to repeat stories or opinions about things to him without realising, as I have really vivid memories of what was said. An example of him doing this is when we walked past a movie poster and he told me about how a friend of his got confused about the plot as he'd mixed it up with another movie. It was a funny story and we talked about it for a while. The next week we were hanging out and same movie was mentioned again, and he starts telling me this story again like I've never heard it. This kind of thing has happened even up to four times!\n\nHe doesn't smoke pot (I don't think). Is this a sign of him not being as into me as I am him?", "summary": "Crush forgets that he's told me things and repeats himself a lot, leading me to think he's not as invested in me as I am him."}
{"id": "t3_wad7r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are the creepiest scene(s) for a movie that still give you the goosebumps today? EDIT: I'm 21 and still get a little creeped out by these.", "post": "My two are from movies called \"The Lady in White\", and \"It\" by Steven King.  My parents are very lenient and allowed my sister and I to watch some creepy/scary movies when were were kids.  I'll tell you guys about my two creepiest parts.\n\n1) \"The Lady in White\"- So, for those who have seen this movie, there's a scene in which the young boy is \"watching\" this little girl's murder but he cannot be seen by anyone and neither can the killer.  The part of the scene that always gets me is the part where the little girl in a albino white dress is literally a couple of feet off of the ground screaming bloody murder, being strangeld by an invisible assailant in a cloak room.  This shit still scares the crap out of me and I will forever not go into a \"cloak room\"/closet in a school simply because of that movie. *Also, there is a creepy as balls whistle song that goes on throughout the movie, still can't forget it and it's been over 10 years.\n\n2)  The part in Steven King's \"IT\" where Pennywise shows up in the in the sewer to get Georgie and says \"Hey Georgie, we all float down here!\"  No matter how much time goes by I'll always remember that statement and how freaked out I was when I saw it.  To make people more familiar, I despise closed and disgusting spaces (sewer) and the whole evil clown thing makes me uncomfortable.  *Also, the part where Georgie's photo starts to bleed in the book when his brother is looking at it. What the actual fuck?", "summary": "1) Lady in White murder, choke seen and whistle and 2) Pennywise in sewer and Georgie's bloody photo"}
{"id": "t3_1kl48l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[17M] with my girlfriend [17F] 16 months, constant-arguing over little things", "post": "So I've been arguing with my girlfriend a lot lately.\n\nWhether it's about how she takes a long time to text me back,\n\nOne word answers, how I think she doesnt try to work on changing things, e.t.c.\n\nAnother problem is just the way dates go now. \n\nWe went to a movie place, and we had such a good time!\n\nWe talked so much, laughing, holding hands, e.t.c.\n\nThen while we were in the movie I asked her if she was ok, because I like checking on her. \n\nThen her mood completely changed after that.\n\nI felt it and I knew something was wrong so I asked her again if she was ok.\n\nShe got angry and the whole date was ruined in her mind, she didn't think the date was good after that argument.\n\nMe being a 17 year old boy, I like sexual acts. But because of all this arguing she is barely in the mood and I feel like that\n\n isnt making the relationship any better.\nSo any advice would be great.\nThanks reddit", "summary": "Little arguments that happen a lot greatly impacting relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3rb62g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my mom [63F], I want to love her but I can't stand her.", "post": "Long story short....my mom was a different person when I was growing up than she is now. She seems to have always been influenced by her \"husband.\" When she was married to my dad, she was non-religious and Libertarian. She's been married to my stepdad for 11 years and she's a conservative Republican and somewhat \"spiritual\" and likes to make us say grace in front of large groups (but not when we're alone). \n\nI am so much more like my dad. My mom was a great mom growing up. I could wake up in the middle of the night feeling poorly and she was never upset. She took me to the doctor, she made me after school snacks, we laughed and had fun together. She read to me, we cuddled and snuggled. \n\nHowever, as adults, we DO NOT RELATE AT ALL. I'm quite similar to my dad, and that doesn't work obviously. She doesn't have a fucking mind for herself. She subscribes to whatever her husband believes in...and the thing is, my stepdad has some beliefs, but he doesn't post a bunch of ethnocentric bullshit all over facebook like she does. \n\nWhat makes this worse is that my husband is half Mexican and she is posting shit about English being a national language and a bunch of other B.S. Our ancestors are from Germany, not too long ago (maybe 3-4 generations). She has no right to say the things she says.\n\nShe has done so much for me. She loves me, but I can't stand who she is as a person. What do I do?", "summary": "My mom has become ethnocentric bordering on racist, in addition to many other undesirable personality traits. I used to love her so much but now it's so hard to even spend time with her.  I feel terrible because I love her, but I don't like her."}
{"id": "t3_3e84om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] mom [44 F] is definitely cheating on my dad [49 M] with her coworker. How do I handle the situation?", "post": "Hey r/relationships,\n\nI never thought I would be in a situation like this, but my mom is cheating on my dad and its become more and more evident to me now. Initially it was just doubts, but I'm quite certain now. I don't have any solid proof other than observations, which are pretty strong themselves. The person she's seeing isn't currently working with her. He was her colleague in her previous place of work.\n\nWhen it started off, I found out when she would use her phone more often than she ever has. I didn't think much of it but it started increasing my curiosity. Then, I started noticing her deleting chats with that particular person every time she sent him something or received something from. She hasn't realized that I know that she's been doing this, so she's quite unsuspecting of the whole thing.\n\nRecently however, she's been more involved with him. She wakes up early in the morning and the first thing she does is check her phone for messages from him. She calls and secretly talks with him in the room. And now, she's been coming home quite late too. \n\nMy dad is oblivious to the whole thing. He just assumes she's talking to her friends or what not. But you don't delete every message you get from your friend. I don't know what else she's been up to, and I sincerely hope things aren't going really fast. I have no clue how to proceed. In a few weeks, I'll be off to college. They're shelling out a lot of money to send me to college abroad, so I don't want to screw things up, because I *really* appreciate what they're doing for me, and also because I don't want any of this messing around with my college education. \n\nWat do reddit?", "summary": "mom is cheating on dad. dad is clueless. I'm going to college and don't want things going complete AWOL for me or for the family"}
{"id": "t3_3lh4at", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24 F)ex[26 M] and I dated about 2.5 years and broke up a month ago. He allegedly says terrible things about me.", "post": "I got out of a long relationship about a month ago. I knew it was coming and was ready to end it myself, but he initiated the breakup. We haven't really been in contact since then.\n\nThe relationship was complex and stressful with many ups and downs. I loved my ex very much and knew that he had some issues as far as his mental health. He talked about feeling poorly-mentally or physically-often.\n\nI've recently been told by a mutual contact that he tells people that I 'gave him depression' and that he is 'so happy' to be without me. I wasn't the perfect girlfriend but I know I did everything I could to support and help him, often at my own emotional expense. I can't believe he would say that about me after all we've been through. Additionally, he told me he had depression issues when we first got together so I don't get how I could have caused it.\n\nCan you guys help me to refocus and not care so much? This hurts. Thanks.", "summary": "Ex of 2 years is saying that I am the reason he was depressed, even though he was like that when we got together and I really tried to help him. Just want to find ways to feel less angry and hurt. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_1qf5zs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I don't want to keep giving him a hard time, but I just can't act okay either", "post": "My boyfriend of six years, almost my fiance - stopped only by technical issues - is just driving me insane, without exaggeration. He does things that make it impossible for me to be okay with him - belittling my emotions by calling it needless drama, not replying to my emails/messages (we're long distance) and then saying oh I forgot, being busy for days on end and giving me an update when it's all over saying oh I didn't have time to breathe - and even though he's a great guy and we have a great relationship overall, these small things drive me insane.\n\nThe problem is, we talk so rarely because we are long-distance and he has a very demanding job, that when we do get a little time to spend together I don't want to 'waste' it by being in a bad mood, or arguing with him, or even having heavy discussions. So I don't bring it up, or I just say I'm upset, but I hate having to feel guilty about ruining the moment. At the same time, I just cannot overlook it all because I feel like these small cracks will lead to big divides. I don't know what to do, whether to act okay in the little time we have, or stand my ground and risk whatever negative consequences it may have.", "summary": "in a long distance relationship. fiance does things that really upset me, make me feel neglected and ignored, but I don't want to ruin what little time we have together by bringing it up or acting upset. What do I do? Will I do worse by addressing it or ignoring it?"}
{"id": "t3_1cocj7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Help with healthy eating", "post": "I am learning the hard way that your can't out exercise a crappy diet. I started working out in February. After a crazy month long boot camp and starting a regular running routine, I felt fantastic. I went from 210 to 202. \n\nSince the bootcamp has ended, I only run three times a week. I currently weigh 204 (I'm 5'6'') I only have to lose around 65 lbs. So many inspiring people on here were bigger than me and now look better than I can imagine looking. \n\nHere's the break down: I am a Freshman at university. This summer and next year I will be able to cook my own food. What should I  eat? How should I go about learning to eat like a healthy person, not an overweight one?", "summary": "Lost 8 pounds, gained it back. What should I eat?"}
{"id": "t3_h3cvb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can I sue my doctor because of this?(Lawyer help)", "post": "I was diagnosed with Hemochromatosis a few years ago. My doctor told me that it had been determined through blood testing over a period of time.\n\nI was told that since I was not a female, that I would not regularly discard the excess Iron in my blood, and that I needed to give blood quarterly for the rest of my life.\n\nAbout a year ago I switched doctors, told him what I had, and he blood tested me. He determined that through that one blood test that there was no way I had hemochromatosis, since my Iron levels were completely normal. He asked if I ever went to a specialist for it, and I said that I recall my doctor making me go to one. He asked if I had gotten a liver biopsy, and after describing to me what it was(involves huge needle going into your liver) I said 'oh hell no'.\n\nBecause of this, there was no way they could be certain that I had it.\n\nCome to find out, my doctor is notorious for putting people through ridiculous amounts of testing in order to milk the insurance companies. I talked to other who had experienced the same thing. Now he built a huge complex, probably from all the testing he had been doing.\n\nAnyway, if I had WRITTEN proof that he diagnosed me with this disease, and prove that I don't have it, can I sue?", "summary": "One doctor diagnosed me with hemochromatosis. Few years later one doctor told me I definitely don't have it. Found out first doctor over-tested and diagnosed other patients to get insurance money. Can I sue my first doctor?"}
{"id": "t3_hjd5p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what do I do about my internet predicament?", "post": "I'm in a very unique predicament for the summer, Reddit, and I need your worldly advice. You see, I'm living far away from home this summer and rented out some temporary living space for just a three month stint. In my haste, I overlooked the CRUCIAL detail that this building is not equipped with wireless internet. Even as I submit this I'm sitting in a Barnes and Noble. I don't necessarily mind going to different wifi spots in order to get internet but considering the closest place is three miles away it makes it a little less desirable. I can see the tenants around me have routers but they're ALL password protected and they're all 80+ years old and literally never show their faces around the building. So basically I'm looking for a cheap way to get internet for a couple months.", "summary": "I don't have internet and I'm looking for either a way to find out a router password without asking the person or a cheap way to get internet for a short period of time."}
{"id": "t3_2pi56a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (20f) help my boyfriend (23m) feel better?", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months. This isn't an issue about our relationship so I don't need to describe it but I will anyway real quick cause...dang. He's seriously the fucking best. He's thoughtful and clever and loving and protective. He's also stupidly good looking. He makes me feel like everything bad thing that ever happened had a purpose. So yeah, everything's p good on that front. \n\nHe's usually really open with his feelings but, like anyone, doesn't love discussing his vulnerabilities. One of his best friends left today to move to the opposite side of the country. He was with him last night for the last time and then came over to my place. I had just had a super minor surgery that hurt like a motherfuckerrrr so he was being really sweet and considerate, even though he felt down. I tried to comfort him but I'm not the best with that (I offered to read him my research paper on transnational relationships between migrant parents and the children they leave behind, the thesis of which suggested that long distance relationships are very much possible in the modern age of technology.) \n\nHe fell asleep really early so I got dressed and left to meet up with my friend. We walked to a 24 hour walgreens and I printed out a photo of him and his friend and framed it and got him some chocolate. He was awake when I came back, liked the stuff and we watched the IT crowd until he fell asleep again. \n\nHe hates goodbyes and this one seems really fucking hard on him. He seems to be tryna deal with it by \"hardening up.\" I'm not sure how to help. I know how much it sucks, my best friend and I haven't lived in the same town since we were 15 and my last relationship was a year and a half of goodbyes in airports, missed calls, and different time zones before we moved in together.", "summary": "boyfriend's friend moved across the country, he's taking it really hard, how can I help him feel better?"}
{"id": "t3_48cm3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (17f) self esteem hasn't been great after my bf (18m) cheated on me how do I stay positive?", "post": "I guess I should say that I'm not constantly sad or anything even now I know my life is actually great compared to a lot of people's I just need a better mindset, so I'm not getting sad as much.\n\nMy bf of two years has cheated on me twice now with his ex that used to constantly harass me, threaten me, and even now ruin my self esteem to the point it's kind of in a pit just by being near me. I don't know why I let her effect me so much shes not cuter than me and I'm definitely better person to her, but no matter what whenever she's near I have this feeling of dread, and panic and constantly compare myself to her. \n\nWhy haven't I broken up with him? Honestly sometimes I'm not sure he really is sweet, he helps me keep from feeling alone, and I really do love him! But he doesn't text me at all when he's with his friends, which means all the time, he never wants to do anything with me aside from staying home and sleeping (I love cuddles but when he constantly talks about his adventures with his friends and then never wants to take one with me because \"there is nothing to do\" it makes me feel like I'm only there for when he's too tired to hang out with friends) and he's constantly hiding stuff from me. I know it's crap and I've tried to before, but I just get a strong feeling of dread and I just can't do it.\n\nI know my friends love me and I hang out with someone maybe once, twice a week but it's never in a group and I'm always jealous of people that can have groups of people together like that and hanging out and stuff. \n\nI guess I just want to find stuff that will improve my self esteem, and maybe help me figure out what to do with my bf.", "summary": "Self esteem has dropped to an all new low after bf cheated, but at the same time I don't want to leave him."}
{"id": "t3_20mz54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i[27M] feel great after a breakup[27F] from year of wandering, questions and half missing sentences.", "post": "After a year of strange relationship/dating/hook up i finally got a pair of balls and told her how i feel - that actually i'm in love. Her response was harsh (last year was fun but she doesnt feel anything beyond that towards me) and i felt like crap. But after a bit i realized how good i feel despite the brutal rejection. I still have feelings for her but at least i know 100% that they are onesided and everything was just sex so i can move on. No more pointless wandering what was going on between us. I hope that at last i will have a good night sleep.", "summary": "i just wanted to share."}
{"id": "t3_2unkzf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend of 3 years[22 F] duration, called her fat when I was angry at her and now she'll hardly talked to me", "post": "Hey Relationships\n\nA little backstory. We have been dating for 3 years and had a period where we were broken up sophomore year of college. I was doing a lot of drugs and she couldn't take it. My other friend let me know that she was going to break up with me and I know a lot of things that she is self conscious about so I made a mental list of things to say. When she invited me over to \"talk\" I took a bunch of adderall before and basically screamed all these mean comments to her in front of a bunch of people outdoors. I didn't really mean any of them, I was just super hurt and in a bad place mentally.\n\nNow to the present. I really fucked up. I was angry at my girlfriend the other day and called her a lot of mean names. I don't want to say some of the meaner ones but they were basically fat, unhealthy, pig, can't look at her when we have sex. She is somewhat larger than my usual preference in girls but we connect on a mental level that I've never experienced with anyone else before.\n\nWell the past few days she has told me that she hasn't eaten anything and can never eat in front of me again or feel comfortable being naked. She says that she wants a break from me until she can feel good about herself again. I feel completely horrible because I know this would really hurt her.\n\nOn a side note her weight sometimes does bother me and I don't know how to tell her without her getting super defensive. I've tried mentioning things before about eating healthier and working out more but she always ends those conversations right away.", "summary": "I called my girlfriend fat. She won't talk to me hardly and says she wants a break / break up."}
{"id": "t3_v5d3q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Promise ring help", "post": "Me: 22f. Bf: 22m. \nAcquaintances for 4 years, Friends for 3, Dating for 1. (8 years total)\n\nA very happy, healthy relationship and I feel confident about our future together. \n\nA few days before our first anniversary, he asked my ring size and I internally freaked out and changed the subject after answering it. The next day, I brought it up and made sure he knew I wasn't ready for an engagement ring and he assured me he wasn't getting me one. \n\nI never thought he'd have gotten me a promise ring, as I'm not terribly traditional and he knows I think cutesy stuff is tacky. I was very surprised when he gave it to me, promising to always be there for me. I really don't like the idea of being \"pre-engaged\" because a typical promise ring stands for a promise to one day make a promise to get married...\n\nI thought it was really cute - painfully so. But it also looked like a men's wedding band and I ended up giving it back. He could tell by my reaction the day before that I wasn't excited about it. He was embarrassed. We talked about it over the next week; I told him that if he gave me an engagement ring, I'd say \"yes\" (although we both agree that's not going to happen for a while).\n\nI'm stuck between my dislike of the tackiness and the desire to have that physical symbol of our relationship on my hand. Would it be silly of me to ask for it back? Or to ask for one that's more feminine? I feel like the former would be flip-floppy and the latter would be picky and controlling. What do?", "summary": "Boyfriend gave me a promise ring for our one-year, I gave it back, can't decide if I really want it or not or I'm too picky or what."}
{"id": "t3_15wda7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] Slept with my friend; friendship may be saved", "post": "So a couple of weeks ago I wrote on here asking for advice after [sleeping with a good friend] and I took the advice and I gave it time. Well this past Saturday I awoke to a text from her apologizing for not texting me back and for making me feel bad. She told me that she needs time to be alright with the situation, that it's seriously not me, it's how she is. I tell her that I really do want to be friends and that starting again as we were before is something I hope we can do. She never got back to me after that and now that I am back home from Mexico, I want to let her know that if she ever wants to meet up and talk, I'd like that too. I want say something like,\"Hey, just wanted to say that I'm back in California. Don't want to intrude, but now that I'm back, if you'd ever like to meet up and talk, it'd be nice.\" Is it fine to ask her? Now that I'm back home, I'd like for her to know so that in the off chance she would like to talk about things, she can.But I also want don't want to push her while she takes time. What say you reddit?", "summary": "She text me this past Saturday apologizing for never getting back to me and possibly making me feel like shit and that she needs time to be alright with the situation, that it's seriously not me, but her. I simply want to let her know that I'm back in California so that if she would ever like to meet up and talk, we can. I just don't want to seem like I'm pushing her"}
{"id": "t3_2nvu26", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my boyfriend(25m) too honest for telling me he developed a crush for a coworker? Am I(23f) just a bad girlfriend for not telling him about crushes I've had while we were dating?", "post": "My boyfriend after drinking broke down crying a few weeks ago and told me he had developed a crush for his female coworker and he felt horribly guilty about it. He assured me nothing had happened other than them talking at work. He said that once he realized he had developed feelings for this girl he felt terrible and it has been really bothering him. I could tell he really was sorry and he even offered to quit his job.\n\nI told him I thought that this was a totally normal thing. I don't believe for a minute just because we are in a committed relationship that our brains or bodies stop wanting other people. I also told him quitting his job wasn't a solution because if he has to quit his job every time there is a pretty girl at work our relationship and his career are fucked. I had been sick and out of town and things had been going dead in the bedroom department and I understand how he could feel neglected in our relationship.\n\nTime has gone by and our relationship is better than ever between the date nights, the frequent sex, and just communicating better. However, I feel guilty because I have had feelings/crushes for other people through out the years and never brought it up. They were harmless and I never thought it was something to tell my SO because I would never have cheated or acted on them in any way. I don't want to tell him now years later because I saw what a big deal it was to him. The whole thing makes me feel dishonest and guilty for not feeling that I did something wrong.\n\nDo you think I fucked up by not telling him about past crushes while we were dating?", "summary": "Boyfriend made a big deal of /felt guilty about have a crush on a coworker. I have had crushes in the past while we were dating but never thought It was something to share with him. I always figured it was never something i would act on and why cause uneeded jealousy and bs? Was I right not to tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_syvp6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Found a way to eat piece of junk food!", "post": "So pizza has always been my quick go to lunch or dinner.  Order it up, they deliver, chow down, but SO UNHEALTHY!  So I found a quick(ER!) way to get it!\nPicture -- [](\n\nits only:\n320 Calories\n23 carbs\nand 27 grams of protein!\n\nJust take a whole wheat light tortilla (I used flat out light wraps 90 cals), mozzarella cheese (part skim), Hormel Sliced Turkey pepperoni, and some Marinara sauce.\n\nSpread about 1/4 cup of marinara over the bread, 1/2 cub of cheese on top, about 7 slices of turkey pepperoni (slice it up into pieces if you want) and cook on 375 for 7-10 minutes.", "summary": "Found low cal pepperoni pizza recipe I wanted to share with you guys! pic up top, very tasty."}
{"id": "t3_2278b1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Would my ex (26M) wonder why I'm (24F) re-friending him after a year NC?", "post": "We dated a long-ass time ago for not very long, and then didn't talk until I started grad school. I reached out via facebook, we had a few phone calls then and meetups, all with our respective SO's permission, and chatted pretty regularly over facebook and text. I think either our semi-friendship just started to fade like most long-distance friendships (especially ones between exes! lol) or his gf became upset. I'll admit, I tried to force it into a \"real\" friendship like I have with my grad school friends and suggested we should grab a beer sometime. Getting coffee with him was one thing, grabbing drinks together at a bar would be totally inappropriate. The contact dwindled almost immediately after that. \n\nI was having an awful semester besides (my mom was diagnosed with an lifelong illness, I put on 20 pounds from stress-eating, I had to see a counselor for panic attacks) so I did a facebook cleanse of people from my past and deleted him. \n\nIt's been almost exactly a year since I did that, and while I don't want to be friends again I do want to reach out the olive branch by re-adding him on facebook. I don't hold anything against him; we're both engaged and with who we're supposed to be with. He's a nice person and it'd be cool to be able to at least wish him happy birthday once a year instead of the petty \"I UNFRIENDED you because facebook MEANS EVERYTHING\" sort of deal. \n\nI deleted him because I was going through a serious rough patch and was cutting out anything from my past, and not because I hate him and want him back or anything like that.\n\nI know most people are anti-adding exes on facebook but that's not what I'm here to ask. My fiance is fine with it and I'm not trying to *break anyone up.* I'm asking if most people would waste much time wondering about it if they saw a friend request from an ex they haven't talked to in a year. I don't want to do it if it comes off creepy or stalkerish.", "summary": "I'd just like to get some opinions on what an ex boyfriend might think about a facebook request from an ex after a year NC, if he'd spend any time thinking about it at all. "}
{"id": "t3_2ujhmk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking the path less travelled", "post": "Two roads diverged in front of my dorm \nAnd sorry I could not travel both \nAnd be one traveller, quickly I looked \nDown at one as far as I could \nTo where the pavement met the door \n\nThen took the other, all muddy but short \nAnd having perhaps the worse claim \nBecause it was icy and worse for wear, \nThough the passing of students here and there \nHad worn them really about the same \n\nAnd there I slipped in mud and lay \nIn leaves many steps had trodden black \nOh, had I kept this road for another day! \nYet knowing how hindsight cannot show the way \nI knew that one day I would be back \n\nI shall be telling this with a sigh \nAs my clothes are washed and I get dressed \nTwo roads diverged in front of my dorm, and I \nI took the one less travelled by, \nAnd that has made all the difference", "summary": "don't be a silly billy and walk on a muddy and icy path the day after it snowed"}
{"id": "t3_f0u6p", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Dear GetMotivated: The cause of procrastination?", "post": "Hi,\nI'm noticing something interesting today. I'm back to work and have three things I need to do. Two of those things I WANT to do, and one of them I HAVE to do.\n\nSo in my mind this puts the \"HAVE TO\" task at the top of the list of priorities, which also puts *procrastinating* on that task at the top of the list of priorities.\n\nI've hit the end of the day and have achieved neither the \"HAVE TO\" task, nor the \"WANT TO\" tasks. \n\nI compare this to the day before when I did my \"WANT TO\" tasks first, and simply breezed through my \"HAVE TO\" obligations for the rest of the day. \n\n**Perhaps there is something to this.** When you prioritise things you DON'T want to do, it makes you procrastinate - and procrastination creates a feeling of failure and puts your mind into a \"reluctance/apathy\" state which carries over into screwing up the things you DO want to achieve.", "summary": "Perhaps if we work first on the things we want to do, we're better preparing our minds for achieving the things we HAVE to do."}
{"id": "t3_1lj621", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After two years, boyfriend still doesn't want to move in together. I don't know what to do. (F25)(M28)", "post": "I'm a little discouraged. I'm (F25) and he's (M28).\n\nWe're both college graduates, have great jobs, and an awesome relationship. We've been together for two years this month. There are no problems in our relationship, so I don't understand what the hold up is.\n\nHe's living in a brand new, four bedroom, three bath house all by himself so space and money is not the issue here.\n\nAfter our first year together, I brought up the idea of living together. Immediately, he said he wasn't ready. Okay fine, that's understandable. I figured I'd bring it up again in about a year or so.\n\nSo last night, I asked, \"Babe, do you think maybe we could talk about moving in together soon?\" His reply, \"Nah, I don't think we're ready.\" \n\nI'm like, WTF? I asked him if he could explain why he's not ready to live together and he just says that we're still young and there's no point. I asked if he could at least give me a rough timeline as to when it might be a possibility and he said he doesn't know.\n\nI'm so disappointed. \n\nWhen it comes to relationship stuff, he drags his feet. Even his mom told me that. He's a \"go getter\" in everything else but this. \n\nHow did you guys talk to your SO's about moving in together? My boyfriend's very logical, so I think if I present a good argument for living together, he'll agree to it. But right now, he just brushes me off like it's not a big deal.", "summary": "Boyfriend keeps saying he's not ready to live together. I need help in talking to him."}
{"id": "t3_2emb3u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] whether I should trust my gut feeling regarding a female friend [22 F]", "post": "Last weekend I invited friends over to a house party. A female friend, who I've known for about 4 months, enthusiastically responds while everyone else ended up flaking. We aren't great friends but we have a shared group of friends and have hung out a fair amount. \n\nOn the day of the party, I message her the details for the party expecting her to flake out as well. However she ends up coming and we have a pretty fun time. \n\nHowever, about two weeks ago, I broke up with a girl who I had been casually dating. I'm wondering if I'm just subconsciously trying to look for signals that aren't really there. \n\nI'm hoping a removed party can look at our interactions and judge the events. \n\n1. She's recently been helping me a lot with a side project of mine. She has a pretty expansive network and I've been leveraging that a lot recently. \n\n2. At the party, she generously shared her coke with me. However she's been in the process of setting me up with her contact. Her generosity could have been more about giving me a test run.\n\n3. She often followed me into secluded areas of the house and felt really comfortable about it. However she never sat up right beside me. She typically maintained a few inches of space.\n\n4. I'm not sure if she knew I had a gf when we first met? Also my relationship with the aforementioned gf was slated to end in August. She was moving away and neither party wanted to do long distance. A lot of our mutual friends knew this but I'm not sure if she specifically knew this. \n\nDuring the night, I operated under the assumption that we were simply friends. If I made a move and she wasn't interested, it would have been awkward trying to leverage her network for my side project. Plus a part of me feels like its best to just have some alone/me time at the moment.", "summary": "Hung out with a female friend and had a fun time. Wondering if recent events are making me look for signs that aren't there."}
{"id": "t3_1xi3t0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22 M) don't understand how to react to my GF (21) lately", "post": "I really don't know what happened. Everything was fine then apparently all of the sudden she's mad and playing the old \"I'm not mad. Stop asking if I'm mad\" game. She doesn't really talk for a while.\n\nAfter I return to studying for a test for an hour or so, she decides it's time to leave and I ask if she wants me to carry her stuff to the car and walk out. So, she decides to spill.\n\nApparently, earlier she wanted to talk about religion (not like a specific branch or that i should join some specific sect but the whole idea in general). I talk for a bit and say I'd just rather not go too into it or we'll just keep talking about something I just don't like talking about.\n\nApparently, that's now a microcosm for our entire relationship and I never want to talk about what she wants to talk about. (I'd just heard about her day for about an hour and a half.) \n\nShe also gets really weird if we go to parties and I talk to someone for a while I haven't seen.\n\nI think part of this is the fact that we've seen each other almost every day for the better part of a year and when one of my friends I haven't seen in a while talks to me, I have more things to tell them about.", "summary": "GF is weird about talking how do i handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_ddum2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey, reddit.  Could you help me out with some information about paying hospital bills?", "post": "I guess I'll start from the top.\n\nI'm a 23 year-old male college student. \n\nOn about 1 week ago, I started feeling some abdominal/back pain on the morning of Sunday, Sept 5.  It escalated into something I could only describe as ridiculous pain.  I tried to just muscle through the pain because I knew I wouldn't be able to pay the medical bills and I won't go into much detail about what happened but I ended up going to the Emergency room later that morning.  After some diagnosing and some amazing morphine, I was issued an MRI (which disproved the kidneystones) and later an ultrasound (which explained what I had).  Gallstones had blocked my biliary duct and caused by gallbladder to go into a sort of feedback loop and begin spasming pretty violently.  The doctor vehemently claimed I should get my gallbladder out at the earliest possible time.\n\nHere begins my problem. My parents and I have been out of regular work for about a year and a half (family run business).  We have no health insurance.  Since I cannot pay for a surgery, I completely changed my diet and am in the process of doing a natural gallbladder cleanse (it was rough for a bit, but I am feeling a million times better as of this posting)\n\nAt this point, I'm pretty confident that I won't need to have the surgery.  However, the bills for my 1 day stint at the hospital will still come and I probably won't be able to pay them.\n\nSo my question is this:\nAny rough ideas about how much it will end up costing me? Is there any way I could go about to get financial help for medical bills? (that preferably won't bite me in the fiscal ass down the road)", "summary": "Dumb college kid doesn't know how to pay medical bills."}
{"id": "t3_4k9s1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] caught my dad [55] cheating on my mother [55].", "post": "So this was 3 weeks ago. I work with my dad, and one day he left historia phone charging on my computer and said he had to do something and left. While waiting for him I spotted some pictures of historia phone on my computer. I decided to look on his phone since I had been suspecting for a While.\n\nThat's when I find a conversation with a client [58f] where shes calling him boyfriend, and sending nudes and videos of them fucking. I was conpletely grosed out and dissapointed. The next day I cobfronted him. He first denied it and then started making up excuses. He told me he wasnt going to confront my mother and promised not to do that again.\n\nSince then I havent had anything else to do with that client. However he hasnt stop. I can tell since he is such a terrible liar.\n\nSo I told my Sister what was happening and we are both angry and dissapointed and dont know what to do.\n\nI hypothetically asked my mother if she would want to know but she said no. Nevertheless I cant accept my dads qrongdoings without consequences.\n\nNeed advice.", "summary": "my dad is cheating on my mother and I caught him, what should I do."}
{"id": "t3_15hsjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why does my(24F) boyfriend (27M) try to make me jealous?", "post": "We've been dating for six months. He knows it bothers me, but he does says things that still bother me.\n\nEx. I signed up for some extra shifts. If it's who I'm thinking of, she's nice looking, but kind of a bitch. \n\nHe says things like that and he openly admits that he likes to flirt with other girls. He says that he doesn't care if I flirt or not as long as I come home. We've had fights over stuff before, but he still goes out of his way to tell me things like \"I'm working with this person who is hot, but I wouldn't date her\". \n\nI don't ask him about it and honestly I don't even care who he is working with, but he just blatantly tells me stuff like that. I don't understand why.", "summary": "Boyfriend purposely goes out of his way to say stuff to make me jealous."}
{"id": "t3_2l1g9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What does it mean when a guy [24M] says \"I don't know about all of that\" to my friend[23F]", "post": "I'm asking this on the behalf of my friend. \n\nShe was dating a guy for about a month and she broke it off because she was unsure and she kept going back and forth on her decision. And then he didn't want to deal with it anymore so they stopped talking.  \n\nHe dated another girl fort three months whom he ended up breaking up with. During which my friend texted him and asked to be friends, he told her he liked another girl and doesn't think it's a good idea because he wasn't ready for it. \n\nThen after they broke up, she texted him and asked to be friends. \n\nHe said \"Maybe we could be friends, I'm not sure how close she'll be. \nShe said \"I'll text you in about a week to hang out if you're up for it.\nHe said \"Yea I don't know about all that yet\"\n\nNow my friend wants to invite him out to meet up with her and her friends when they go out for her birthday. Should she? For the record, I don't think she should. \n\nAlso she wants me to ask, is this getting to desperate?", "summary": "Friend is hung up on an ex she was back and forth with. The last time she asked him to hang out he said \"I don't know about that.\" Now she wants to try again, should she?"}
{"id": "t3_105uyt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21f, hes moving back home, Where do I go from here?", "post": "So I have been seeing this guy for a few months. He's 23 btw. He's from a different province that I am and has been here for about a year and a half I believe. His roommate kicked him out so her parents could move in with her so he's been looking for a place to live. I offered him to stay with me till he finds a place but he didn't want to which is fine. We were going to make us official once he moved and settled in but today he tells me he's moving back home because he can't find a place to live here and apparently his employer wasn't giving him any work. I don't know where to go from here, I honestly believe that he's \"the one\" and I know people say that all the time but I truly believe that he is. Where do I go from here?", "summary": "guy I'm pretty much in love with is moving back home which isn't in the same province. I'm utterly broken-hearted and have no idea what to do or where to go from here."}
{"id": "t3_2cw3yq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Update: My boyfriend broke my $1,600 computer.", "post": "Original Post:  \n\nThe hard drive is fucked and I lost everything. I was told it would be very expensive to get it fixed and even then it's not a guarantee I'll get my photos back. I'm going to keep the hard drive and save it for if I ever become rich enough to take the chance. \n\nWe both learned a hard lesson from this experience. He learned to take better care of other people's things (especially expensive things) and I learned to not procrastinate for over a year and BACK MY PHOTOS UP ON A DAMN HARD DRIVE. He is paying for the Macbook to be fixed, an upgraded hard drive and for an external hard drive. \n\nI did snap on him yesterday when he told me all is lost and that he was being careless carrying a bunch of stuff, including my Macbook, while walking down the stairs. I'm not mad at him anymore though I'm still upset as I won't be able to get good prints of any of the photos I've taken so far but it just is more incentive to get back out there and take more.", "summary": "Both of us learned our lesson, a very expensive and tough lesson."}
{"id": "t3_1w67lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16/F] with my boyfriend [18 M] 4 months dating known for 2 years, what do I do when I have a passive aggressive depressed boyfriend?", "post": "Okay so, my boyfriend and I have been dating for four months just about. I've been talking to him for two years, and I was really close friends with him. He is 18, and lives out of state. I'm 16, and we both go to school still. \n\nHe started off really sweet, and genuine, but he's gotten depressed, and has anxiety. He will not get help about it. I was depressed for three years, and finally have gotten over it, but it's bringing me down. I feel so much better, it's almost hard to put up with him. I wasn't aware of the extent of his feelings till we took it a step farther. \n\nLately he's really kind of mean, and passive aggressive. He will purposely ignore me, get jealous, say things just to hurt me, and threaten killing himself if I leave. He's really manipulative. I've talked to him about this, and tried to find ways to help him but I just can't. I don't really love him anymore. I want out, I want to find someone who makes me feel good, not guilty. But I don't know how to do this without worrying that he will kill himself... or stalk me.. or really anything. I'm afraid of him. I don't think I could get ahold of his parents if he found out of my intentions to tell them about his depression.\n\nI can provide specific information if it would help, like things he has said.", "summary": "Depressed boyfriend threatening suicide, don't love him anymore, how do I leave him safely?"}
{"id": "t3_4xwnbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28F] girlfriend[28F] of 2 years found out her sister's boyfriend is cheating on her, she wants to tell her. What do?", "post": "Long story short, my girlfriend is the eldest in her family. Mama Bear through and through. Three younger siblings, Kay (21F), Jay(19M), and Bee(17F). Recently,  she came into the knowledge that Bee had been seen in bed with Kay's boyfriend(21M) while Kay was at work.\n\nLong story long, Brother comes down to visit recently and walks into the family home where Kay, the boyfriend, and Bee still live. He's looking around and walks past Bee's open door where he sees two people clearly having sex under the blankets. Figures Bee has a guy over and goes into the kitchen for a while looking for others in the house. Turns out there are only two people in the whole house. No other cars.\nHe then realizes that it was Bee and Kay's boyfriend in the bed together. He confronts Bee saying what she's doing is messed up. She says she has no idea what he's even talking about. \nHe lets it go because there is family trip planned and all the siblings are going north to visit family together. And pulling all this drama out right before the trip would be a seriously terrible idea. So he tells their Dad about it after the trip is over. And my girlfriend's dad tells her about it. She immediately calls Jay to verify and get details. \n\nDetails are verified. This is bad. \n\nShe wants to tell Kay or find a way to get them to break up. I don't want Kay to be with someone who cheats on her but I know that if my girlfriend tells her then the relationship between all the siblings is going to suffer greatly.\n\nBut the boyfriend lives in that house with both sisters. This could have happened a bunch of times or just the once. There is no real proof and everything is circumstantial.\n\nSo neither of us know what to do now. Any advice?\n\nDisclaimer: In my state, 17 is the legal age of consent, so there is no laws being broken.", "summary": "My girlfriend's brother caught their sister's boyfriend cheating on her with the youngest sister. Should my girlfriend tell her that her boyfriend is cheating on her?"}
{"id": "t3_27q6cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) really want to give it another go with my ex(17f). Dated for 1.5 years. Broke up 3 months ago", "post": "So me(18m) and my ex (17f) dated for a year and a half. One of the main problems on my side was that I made her my everything. I couldn't stop thinking about her and I know fit afact that often times I came of as clingy. \n\nWe broke up because things just became stale. I was sad but I knew it was true and the break up should have came from either one of us about 2 months before it actually did. (She broke up with me)\n\nAbout three weeks ago she texts me and she informed me that she thinks she may have made a mistake. We discuss the possibilities of getting back together but she keeps saying she is unsure so the lay text I send her is just \"alright\" because I felt that I shouldn't have to put myself through false hope if she is just unsure, so I stopped texting her.\n\nFor the last two weeks that we haven't talk I constantly think about her and how I feel like I want to be with her. At times I want to text her so bad but I don't know what I would say out how I would say it.... or IF I should say it. I miss her so much, and its not that I feel like I can't get anyone else. I have had a couple girls start getting very close to me to the point of me having a \"booty call\" (which I have not used) and a best friend is gaining feeling for me (I used to have these feeling for her) but everyone someone gets this close I feel like I should keep myself away from the people.\n\nI want to text my ex so badly because I miss her. What should I do?", "summary": "I miss my ex gf and wish to rekindle the flame. She brought it up to me about 3 weeks ago but we stopped talking. The relationship ended just because things became stale; there were no harsh feelings. Should I text her and tell her how I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_rztha", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a horrible memory. Could I have some sort of early onset Alzheimer's?", "post": "I'm in my early twenties. My grandfather had Alzheimer's.\n\nI've always had somewhat of a bad memory but I feel that lately it's gotten worse and it's starting to scare the shit out of me.\n\nA few examples:\n\nA couple of nights ago, I was sitting at a bar with a friend. She went outside to answer her phone and a guy sitting next to me leaned over. \"Do you work at ____?\" he says. \"Yes, I do.\" \"Oh, I was there the other day and thought I recognized you.\" I almost have no recollection of this man (granted, I'm a girl, maybe he noticed me for that reason?). I don't think I could ever remember a random face, especially if I were to see them somewhere unrelated.\n\nI work in sales. I see a lot of people on a daily basis. I could have a client in the morning leave (after meeting them for the first time) and if they stopped by again that evening, I barely remember them (if at all) until they remind me of their name/what we talked about.\n\nTwo more instances.\n\nI don't remember most of my childhood. As far as schooling, I couldn't tell you most of the children I went to school with. If I saw someone, I probably wouldn't recognize them.\n\nThe scariest part of it is I can't remember a lot from my past relationships. I haven't been in many, just a few long term relationships. I was in love with these men. I mean, I remember THEM but most of our time spent together in a blur. My first boyfriend, in high school.. We were together for 2 years. I remember his face and his house but my feelings, I've forgotten.\n\nIs this normal? Maybe I'm fretting over nothing. I'm just terrified about loosing my memory. It's what makes us who we are.", "summary": "Is not being able to remember certain events from your past normal? I'm talking from years of schooling (details), old flames, etc. to not recognizing a person that you met for the first time a week ago at work."}
{"id": "t3_3oml35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] and my girlfriend [19F] of 1 year cant get married in the future but decided to just enjoy our time together and continue dating for now.", "post": "My girlfriend and i cant get married should we wish to in the future due to different religion, families, cultures, etc. and she is aware of this. Now I know you may say if you truly love each other you can get past that, but its complicated, and i would rather not make that the topic of this discussion. \n\n   She told me she wants to still \"date\" because something like marriage is a long time away, and we should just live in the moment and enjoy today. We tried being \"just friends\" but it didnt work out because we have the same friends circle, and we were just pulled back due to our feelings for each other. She loves me very much, and i feel the eventual split will make it harder on her the longer we are together.  \n\n   She is also suffering from depression so this whole situation is harder for her than it is for me. I just worry this whole thing will end up hurting her a lot.", "summary": "Told gf we cant get married (although marriage is something very far away). She said she just wants to live in the moment and enjoy her time with me. She has depression so im worried of the effects this will have on her later down the line as she loves me very much. "}
{"id": "t3_1c4076", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I(F, 21) have roommate(F, 22) legal/police questions.", "post": "So I (F, 21) recently moved out of my apartment and got a new one living by myself. I still pay rent at the old apartment and put a lock on my door because without it my roommate would take over my room and that isn't fair since I pay 450 for an apartment that I do not live in... So anyways I pay rent do not pay for internet and electric (obviously since I do not use it) Heat and water is included. **Now I was wondering** when I go over to the apartment to make sure my door is still locked, if I see that it is not (roommate does not have a key obviously), could I call the cops on her for breaking and entering? We are both on the lease. I'm pretty sure you guys are gonna say no, you can't but I just want to make sure. My room at the apartment is completely empty so she couldn't steal anything I just think it is entirely unfair for me to pay rent at an apartment when nothing of it is mine. You know what I mean? So what can I do if my door has been unlocked?? I am in New York by the way.", "summary": "Wondering if I can call the cops on my roommate for breaking into my locked bedroom, if I cannot do that what can I do to keep myself from being taken advantage of??  In New York"}
{"id": "t3_3z53zk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] think my boyfriend [25M] is not on my level, am I wrong to think like this?", "post": "I've been with my bf for 5 months now and he's a real good guy in my opinion however we are so very different with our backgrounds. I recently graduated with my masters degree and looking for a career job, I was previously engaged however things did not workout, I'm very much involved in my community and a lot of people know my capabilities to be successful due to my upbringing of my family. My boyfriend whom is very down to earth, mature, respectful to me and caring, supportive in everything I want to accomplish only has a hs degree, aspiring artist, bad credit, minimum wage job and my family/friends do not like him for me. Along with my family members not approving of him some of my best friends think I can do better and that he's benefiting more being with me then I am with him. They say I should date someone on my level or higher which I understand but I really like this guy and don't want to leave him due to titles and etc. We've spoke about this before and he's said a couple times \"between me and you you have your ish together\" so that makes me think that he knows we're in two different worlds. My question is, are titles, degrees etc that important in being with someone? Chemistry between us is amazing but honestly he's missing a few important standards I ideally would want in a man. Should I let this idea go or am I settling?", "summary": "Boyfriend might be out my league, am I settling?"}
{"id": "t3_1ejqkq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it okay for me to go on vacation without her for 2 weeks?", "post": "My girlfriend and i are together for 9 months and this summer im going on vacation with my 8 friends to France. We're both 18. Though she is not happy about that. She just keeps telling me that she doesnt like it and everytime ''summer'' comes up she becomes sad. But when i say ''fine, i wont go'' she says ''i dont wanna waste stuff for you''. I understand that it would be our first summer together, but i dont wanna give up this vacation with my friends. Besides, she cant really go with her friends because she doesnt really have friends and she thinks there will be no time left for us to do stuff", "summary": "Should it be ok for me to go on vacation with my friends this summer?"}
{"id": "t3_2uz4di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17/M] attract girls without confidence?", "post": "From what I hear, confidence and personality traits associated to that attract people. I have almost no confidence. I have no hobbies. I'm fairly depressed. I'd like a relationship. I don't want a relationship because I want someone to fix my problems. Nor do I want a relationship for sex. I simply would like someone who I can connect with on a deeper level. I'd like someone to go places with. I'd like someone to be affectionate with. \n\nI'm not very picky. I'm picky about a few things, but I'm not that picky with everything. Honestly, I'm not that great, so I guess my standards are too high for my own good. I don't go out very often. I don't work out. I honestly don't have any interests outside of watching TV, browsing the net and watching movies. I want to do outdoorsy things, but there are no places to go and do those things locally. Nor do I have the cash. \n\nI realize I'm still fairly young. But I have trouble making friends. From that, I don't even know how I'll find a relationship. I realize that they should form organically and that people should discover that intrinsic connection naturally, but I just don't see that happening in my current situation. \n\nI'm confident with a few things. I'm nice, I'm loyal, I'm honest, I'm open to trying new things, and I have other good personality traits. But no matter what, I will never find myself attractive. I don't care how ripped I can get, I feel as if I will always have an ugly face. That is caused by genetics and I can't change that. I'm not confident with familiar or semi-familiar surroundings, but I seem to be confident in unfamiliar surroundings, simply because most people I see in unfamiliar surroundings, I will never see again.\n\nI'm just so lonely and depressed. What should I do? :/", "summary": "I don't how I will ever attract girls without confidence."}
{"id": "t3_2ixav8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22M] dating for 6 months, feel like i'm putting in a lot more effort than i'm getting back", "post": "I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of 6 months. I recently visited him a month ago, and it was probably the most blissful week of my life. He was very affectionate and loving and everything was great! However, when I got back home I began to feel like he was being a bit cold and distant. I told myself it was because of the lack of physical contact that I felt that way, but now that a month has gone by I feel like something has changed. \n\nHe no longer compliments me without being prompted to (like me complimenting him first), rarely asks how I'm feeling even if I express that I'm feeling worried or sad about something, doesn't say anything affectionate, no longer texts me first. Etc. Basically any signs of affection he used to show me in our relationship have seemed to evaporate. \n\nI still try to show that I care for him with little gifts, affectionate words, concern, nice gestures because I feel like it makes me happy to do things for him and probably also because I'd like to be treated the same way. I'd like to communicate with him that I've been feeling a lack of affection recently but I don't know if I even should, and I'm afraid that he'll become offended that I'm unhappy with part of our relationship and he'll get upset. \n\nI do not feel that his feelings for me have changed. He's a rather stoic person who likes to keep his emotions in check, but he used to at least call me cute and tell me he loved me at random times. That has completely stopped. I'm beginning to feel a bit unappreciated at the current level of affection I'm getting.", "summary": "Long distant boyfriend is no longer affectionate, and I feel like i put in a lot more effort than he does"}
{"id": "t3_4c14lr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (18M) was accepted into a prestigious university 19 hours away from my gf (18F)", "post": "I was recently accepted into a prestigious university on the east coast which was very exciting news. I want to be a surgeon when I grow up and this school is known for its Pre med track and job experience it offers. The only problem is my girlfriend. She is a freshman at a university that is 19 hours away from where I've been accepted. We've been together since my freshman year in high school and she has a promise ring. Is it selfish for me to ask her to transfer? There are many good colleges around where I've been accepted and she wants to be a nurse so there is plenty of job opportunity too. If she can't transfer is it worth it to try long distance or just cut things off before we become more attached? Should I reject this amazing offer?", "summary": "Accepted to University far away from gf, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_sup9o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you could go back to high school. Whats one thing you would change.", "post": "For me, and I felt like I was the only one who had this problem, but I always tried to act cool and I blew off classes. I was pretty much the epitome of college senior, but I wasnt smart. \n\nI thought I looked cool not giving a fuck, but I wish I could just go back and pay attention and learn, rather that sleeping and bs'ing assignments. \n\nI understand that high school have always and still do this. I wanted to be like them but I just ended up getting bad grades and graduating with a 2.6 GPA, and now I'm going to community college and it is embarrassing, I hate telling people I go there. \n\nCurrently I'm getting good grades in college and look forward to going to university, living the happy dorm life :)", "summary": "I slacked my way through high school because I thought I was cool, ended up with shitty gpa. "}
{"id": "t3_2pddyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] cheating on my fianc\u00e9[30M] with someone who is married[26M].", "post": "So basically, I recently got engaged to a real great guy that I have been with for about a year. He is really wonderful to me and loves me a whole lot.Unfortunately our current situation is causing us to have to live about five hours apart only seeing each other every other weekend or so. Which definitely puts stress on our relationship. \n\nI currently work a job where I am constantly meeting new people. A few weeks ago I just so happened to meet this absolutely gorgeous guy who also is well educated and funny. We'd flirt when he would drop in for dinner, which was fairly often and I ended up giving him my number because he asked me if I wanted to go out.  \n\nAt this point we are both very aware of each others relationship status but still decide to go on a date that ends up being really awesome. We end of seeing each other for few days in a row after the first date and sleeping together multiple times. I definitely feel like there could be sparks between us but I don't want to get too attached knowing that he's married and I am supposed to be getting married. \n\nNow, I currently have no idea what my next step should be because I don't actually see this new fling going anywhere but I definitely want to keep seeing him and it is making me question my relationship with my fianc\u00e9.", "summary": "I cheated on my fianc\u00e9 and now I have no idea what."}
{"id": "t3_2zqhlz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) new \"girlfriend\" (20F) doesn't seem to be fully committed.", "post": "I've known this girl for about 6 years and we've always been really good friends, until a couple weeks ago when I decided to grow a pair and act on my feelings for her.  It turns out that she also had feelings for me (huge relief) and we ended up making out and spending the night together (no sex).  We've hung out nearly everyday since then, and she always wants to stay the night at my house.  I have no problem with that, but I can see potential problems.  Anyways, before we started this whole \"relationship\" (keep in mind we've never discussed being officially in a relationship), she had been talking to another guy whom she liked, who to be honest, is an asshole.  Maybe that's part of the reason she's attracted to him.  I knew of this, and it somewhat sparked some motive to make her mine before it's too late.  \n\nFor the first week of our \"relationship\", she seemed really normal and into me.  However, for the past few days she has seemed somewhat distant and less interested in kissing, which is odd because she still wants to cuddle and stay the night all the time.  I've seen her texting the other guy, so I'm thinking maybe that has something to do with it.  I plan on talking to her very soon so I can get a clear understanding how she feels about all this.  My question is, how should I go about this? Should I be gentle and understanding, or should I play the alpha role and take control?  This girl has been one of my best friends for years and I've always wanted to become more, so I don't want to screw this up before it even gets started.", "summary": "New \"girlfriend\" is starting to seem distant and less interested in kissing.  Another guy (an asshole), whom she previously cared for, may be the reason.  Looking for advice on how to approach this with her."}
{"id": "t3_1125na", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22m] being ignored by [19f], best way to approach?", "post": "So basically a few nights ago I sent a text to a girl friend of mine (been together for 3 months, not exclusive, somewhat platonic but not completely un-physical), but wasn't there to respond afterwards and that drove her MAD.  We are really close, but because of this one stupid little thing, she has started to ignore me completely :|\n\nI imagined that I'd feel a lot worse, to be honest... because part of me knows that she will start to miss me... but part of me is also wondering, damn, what if it's really over just like that???  Also, the fact that she has gotten so crazy over something so small makes me feel like she just isn't so great, after all (bullet dodged?)...\n\nI just want to know if anyone has experience with this.  I'm trying to contact her as infrequently as possible, but try at least once a day with a \"hello\" to see if she's responsive.  Should I just stop trying and wait?  Should I tell her something instead of just checking if she's there?", "summary": "= ignored for something stupid, feels bad, how do i get her to get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_1tyf4x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My wife & I will be making our first big move in 6 months from TX to CO. How can we buy a house and sell our house and try to time it right? Advice?", "post": "**Background**\nWe moved once right out of college in 2007 from the TX panhandle to DFW...but we were young, broke and had nothing. Moved from apartment to apartment with family & friends help in DFW. No big deal. Speed up to 2013. My wife is a teacher and I own a couple businesses and we want to move to the Denver area before we have kids. We are looking to move this summer (as my wife is a teacher) She is starting to line up a job with some connections we have (first priority). I am wiggling out of my business endeavors.. slowly. We dont have any family or any friends to help in Denver. So we are a little nervous but ready. Hopefully reddit can help prepare us for some speed bumps we might encounter.", "summary": "Moving from DFW to Denver area. Never made a big move, looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_2a46d0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (22F) get over my jealousy issues with my boyfriend's (24M) perfect ex?", "post": "I recently just started seeing this guy and I can't get over how perfect his ex girlfriend is. They dated for a year and a half and broke up about three months ago.\n\nI was creeping her Tumblr and didn't like what I found. She's probably the most stunning girl I've seen (for those who want a visual, she looks like Anna Kendrick but prettier), she's really funny, and she used to always post pictures of her and my current boyfriend having fun and saying how much she loved him. She ended it with him out of the blue because it was slightly long distance. As far as I know they don't keep any contact anymore.\n\nI feel so distraught. It kind of worries me that he thought everything was going great with her but she ended it abruptly. I don't want him to still have feelings for her. But I can't shake this feeling and now I'm being sort of distant with him. I just can't compete with this girl and I feel really subpar compared to her.\n\nHe never talks about her and even when I ask, he's really vague. He hasn't done anything to make me feel this way, I'm just being jealous and silly. Basically, I would just like some advice on how to overcome this because I'm literally just in my bed crying for no reason.", "summary": "How can I get over my jealousy issues with my boyfriend's ex?"}
{"id": "t3_523tv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update!) My [37M] much younger BF [24M] has a daddy kink and I'm not sure if I can go along with it", "post": "Original here: \n\nKind of silly to update something like this, but I figured why not - a few people asked.\n\nI wrote out a note to my boyfriend that basically said \"I'm sorry for being an insensitive dick, I'd like to talk about your kink if you're up for it\" and passed it to him after dinner. Luckily, neither of us clammed up and we were able to talk it out.\n\nHe told me he has different wants out of the dynamic, but ultimately, he wants more praise, more physical affection, and to be taken care of (he summarized with \"daddy kink but not ageplay\"). He also mentioned discipline and chores and things, but that was more of an afterthought. We'll be talking more in-depth later on this week, but so far, I'll be happy to provide what he wants and needs from me.\n\nWe also talked a bit about my age insecurity, but he assured me he loved me for me, not just because I was an older guy. Thanks to everyone for telling me the same thing haha\n\nI'll be heading over to other communities to get help there, rather than bug you guys again, but thank you for the responses on the original post!", "summary": "who knew communication was important. boyfriend told me what he wanted, and I can provide!"}
{"id": "t3_1wtlf1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/21] Went on a date last night with awesome girl [20/F]", "post": "So I went on a date with a girl last night. Not really sure how she feels about it today. So we met up at a bar in the town she lives in, and we talked for about an hour, with only slight pauses. She was laughing at my jokes and everything. Then we go upstairs to another part of a restaurant and meet up with her friend. This guy is outgoing and loud, me being the silent type, obviously don't have much to say. My date and I start holding hands and hugging all that stuff. I get a kiss also which is great, but most of the time she is talking to her friend. After the date I asked her if this was going to happen again, which she responded with, \"Idk, maybe..\" This led me to believe she wasn't interested.\n\nI texted her this morning, saying Goodmorning, and I still haven't gotten a response yet. Is it safe to say she's not interested. Do I ask?", "summary": "Went out with girl, had great time. Meet up with her friend, I'm quiet most of the night, but she's holding my hand and smiling at me. Don't know if she's still interested. Do I ask?"}
{"id": "t3_jtzv5", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Runnit, my knee is really painful...", "post": "Hi to all at Runnit,\n\nBasically, my knee gets really painful after a run (and other times), just below the Patella. After a run it gets painful walking down stairs (not excruciating, just sore) and I can't sit with me knees bent in the same position for long periods of time (by god, when I do, the stretch afterward feels AMAZING). \n\nAnyway, I've been to the doctors about it and there isn't anything that should be causing the chronic pain (it's ongoing, just flares up post-run), there's some mild shift in the Patella, some issues with splines and a bit of premature degradation of the knee joint. However, \"this is fairly common\" (Docs words) and shouldn't be causing me the issue so I'm a bit stuck...\n\nMy next step is an arthroscopic examination with a camera and then an operation OR to work out if it's something to do with my running style that's causing it.\n\nHas anyone had any previous experience of this kind of thing?", "summary": "Dull ache in lower left knee (below patella) flares up into considerably pain following a run - Doctors can't see anything really wrong - help."}
{"id": "t3_1k83dk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bed Revenge", "post": "This all happened about 7 years ago, back when I was 12. It happened for two nights only - my revenge took care of that.\n\n**The Setup**\n\nSo my mum is notorious in my family for finding any excuse to minimise housework for herself. We've always been willing to help, but she claims that we aren't able to perform tasks to the standard she requires.\n\nMy eldest brother had just left to go to start university, and my middle brother was away for two weeks on a school trip. So, mum being mum, she decided that for these two weeks she only wanted to wash one set of sheets, so I was to sleep with her.\n\n**The Revenge**\n\nWhenever we went out for an evening, I would be told to stop fidgeting / sit still / leave the condiments alone. So I figured I'd translate that to my sleeping habits. \n\nEvery time her breathing settled, I'd have a little fit, ensuring that I hit her at least once (never hard - just enough to prevent her from sleeping). I never let her get more than five minutes without some sort of movement on my behalf. Fast forward to the morning, and she was a mess - she gets really agitated when she misses out on sleep.\n\nI made no comment on the sleeping situation - bearing in mind that I had not gotten any either - and just decided that I would play it cool.  I slept on the bus to school, and on the way home, and I was fine.\n\nThat night, I was really pissed when I was told to go to bed - I could easily see my bed was devoid of even a blanket. So I figured I'd make this night even worse. I would randomise the spasms, ensuring she got another sleepless night.\n\nAgain, in the morning, I was okay - a twelve year old finds all-nighters exciting enough to ride the adrenaline rush - but mum was on the verge of falling asleep at the breakfast table. She took the day off work, and I was extremely satisfied to come home that night to find sheets on my bed again.", "summary": "A single bed never felt so sweet"}
{"id": "t3_3ybwbp", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Looking for advice on whether to take an apartment or stay at home with my parents longer", "post": "So, right now I live at home with my parents in NYC. I feel really stressed out about living with them-- like I'm a burden, like I get in their way. They also stress me out sometimes. I am very noise sensitive, and sometimes when they fight about things it makes me feel really non functional and ruins my day.\n\nI was apartment hunting a bit because of this and found a place in the city that I thought was great. It's a little out of my budget long term, but it's month to month so I thought I could just get it for three months or so and not lose too much money on rent. I tentatively agreed to take it, but no money changed hands. The guy told me that someone else wanted it but that if I could pay the deposit before it her, the room was mine.\n\nThen two days went by where I didn't hear from the guy renting the place. I assumed that someone else had taken it and they just didn't want to tell me (this has happened to me a lot looking for a room share). \n\nHowever while time went by I started thinking about it and decided I wasn't sure about this place. The rent is hundreds of dollars a month more than I could afford, and I would have a lot of roommates (about 7), so it wouldn't even be quiet, which is the main thing I'm looking for. \n\nThe guy just got back to me today asking when I could make the deposit, and I had to tell him I wasn't sure I would. He wrote back saying they were counting on me taking the place and this would make a lot of problems for them. I feel bad about what happened, but I also don't think I should have to take this place when all I did was express interest. He also apparently forgot to call me back to discuss putting down the deposit, which made me lose confidence in him as a landlord.\n\nAt the same time, I'm growing more and more frustrated with living at home, and this place is about the best deal I could get for an apartment in this city in terms of location, neighborhood, and flexibility on the lease.", "summary": "should I take a possibly sketchy apartment that is over my budget but could be temporary, or  just make peace with living at home longer?"}
{"id": "t3_3owgiy", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Why do people fade?", "post": "I've (25m) had this awful trend lately where things are seemingly going great, only to be over suddenly and without explanation. \n\nTake the latest girl as an example. We met in early August and set up a date for when she got back in town later in the month. We texted daily. Long story short, after 3 dates, it was incredible. Physical attraction, same sense of humor, and we were starting to talk about a relationship. \n\nAfter the last time we were together (Tuesday), we had a date set up for Friday, 3 days later. We texted 87 messages Wednesday and 64 Thursday. She was really opening up and being flirty and whatnot.\n\nThen, Friday morning, she cancels dinner. I ask if she'd like to reschedule and she doesn't text me back. I text her the next morning asking if she's feeling better and she finally texts me around 4 pm saying she just woke up, even though I had seen her active on Facebook several times throughout the day. For the next 3 weeks, she was increasingly short (sometimes ignoring them completely) and was \"too busy\" to have time to get together. We agreed to end things.\n\nCan anyone offer advice on why this happens? This has happened 3 times in the last year and it really shocks me emotionally.", "summary": "Things go great initially, but end abruptly."}
{"id": "t3_3bj0zt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by realizing IFU Finances", "post": "Well...longtime lurker and first time poster here. Created an account just to post this. TIFU Finances...in my case it should be TYIFU Finances.. Three Years I F#cked Up Finances..\nJune 2011 I consolidated my debts into one..$32,000( $9000 Auto and the rest credit cards).. One monthly payment and a debt free date June 2014. Was pretty good for a year.. July 2012 started to get credit card offers.. Credit score was 760. Started to accept every card offer.. At one time had 25 credit cards with total limit of $115,0000...\nEnded up using cards for quite a bit of things..some essential (auto repair, medical etc) some questionable.. \nDec 2013.. Decided to buy a home apply for mortgage and buy home in Feb 2014. That made my expenses go up by a $1000 as I was renting until then. Used more credit cards and well more debt..\n\nPresent day.. Total $75,000 liabilities that includes $47,000 credit card debt.. $28,000 installment loans.. Was supposed to be debt free a year ago.. \n\nIf you have a lot of Credit Card debt don't consolidate debt..\nDon't think 'it's one time expense' and put in on a credit card.. You will be f#cked... Real hard\nJust because you get a credit card doesn't mean you can handle that card's limit as debt.\n\nJust wanted to get this off of my chest..", "summary": "TIFU by realizing IFU Finances.. Also TYIFU Finances"}
{"id": "t3_4z010p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my boyfriend [26M] of 2 years, admitted to kissing someone else and I'm heartbroken.", "post": "I'm a 25 year old male and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I've only ever had one other relationship before him and he is my first and only love - I absolutely adore him and would do anything for him.\n\nWe went on holiday a month or so ago with our friends and after he had an argument with one of them, he admitted that about a month prior, after a night out with that same friend, he ended up kissing somebody else and didn't stop it - and that he was only telling me because he didn't want for me to hear it from the friend. \n\nI was, and still am, completely devastated. I keep trying to tell myself it was just a kiss but can't help wondering if it was more than that. I'm annoyed at the fact he didn't tell me about it because he wanted to, had it not been for the fact that he and his friend had an argument, I probably still wouldn't know now.\n\nI'm really trying to work through it but at the moment I feel so alone. We are both trying to make it work as the 2 years we have had together have been amazing, but ultimately I feel betrayed. \n\nAbout a week prior to him telling me, after a few drinks we had a stupid drunken argument and he started to accuse me of wanting to hook up with somebody else - which isn't true, and we ended up having probably the worst argument that we have had to date - yet he was the one who had actually been unfaithful!\n\nSorry if this post is rambling and seems disjointed, I'm upset by it all today and just wanted to get it all out.\n\nHas anybody else found themselves in a similar situation? What did you end up doing to get through it?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 2 years and first love admitted to kissing someone else, only told me as he was scared a mutual friend may tell me. Currently struggling with the feeling of betrayal and isolation."}
{"id": "t3_2zgyh0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Eating Toast", "post": "This actually happened today...\n\nSo usually when I wake up I hit snooze on my phone around 5 times and get out of bed in just enough time to get everything done and get out the door in just the right amount of time to make it to work on time...maybe. Instead of just waking up earlier I have gotten into the practice of setting my clothes out the night before, and multi-tasking to make breakfast while brushing my teeth and this morning instead of oatmeal I decided on buttered toast with cheese. This is where it all began.\n\nSo I throw the toast into the toaster oven, set it to that perfect golden brown setting, and head into the bathroom to brush my teeth. As I come back into the kitchen there is smoke (not a lot but more than bread should let out) filling my kitchen and I think 'How the hell did I burn the toast I wasn't gone for that long' so I head over to the toaster and as I open it, some smoke billows out but my bread is maybe halfway done toasting. I figure it could have maybe been some food me and my girlfriend had cooked the night before that was dried and burned on the element.\n\nSo without thinking too much about it I throw some butter on it and a few pieces of asiago and fold it up in hopes the heat will melt both. As I start driving I take a bite and it tastes awful. It tastes like smoke (which isn't too bad) but there is something else - some bitter, horrible taste. I eat the piece because I was hungry dammit! So then I go for a second bite and I couldn't do it, as much as I needed to eat i just couldn't. So I text my girlfriend (she has to be at her work an hour and a half after I do) to check the toaster/don't use it because something is in there that shouldn't be. She then sends me a text and said \"Yeah there's a piece of dried sweet potato....and 3 burnt stinkbugs.", "summary": "Running late for work, made toast, smoke happened but toast wasn't burnt, ate a piece, was covered in burnt stinkbug juices"}
{"id": "t3_2trp37", "subreddit": "books", "title": "\"Winged Victory\" moved me more than anything I've read for years.", "post": "Victor Yeates' semi-autobiographical story of a young pilot struggling to survive the final months of the First World War has left me feeling bereaved. Although the protagonist is fictional, the story is clearly closely based in Yeates' own time in the RFC (later RAF) and his gradual loss of his friends to attrition is heartbreakingly sad.\n\nThe nihilism and disillusionment of the  characters, balanced by the kind of manic energy that reminds you that most of them weren't after all much more than boys, is in stark contrast to most other literature about this period in history (which generally tends at least a little towards jingoism) and rings true in the context of the incredibly bleak lives that these young men suffered.\n\nI found myself both interested and entertained by the accurate historic and technical detail and colour, and the characters Yeates conjures up. Once again I suspect they are convincing because they are based closely on real people. \n\nI was left with the feeling that this book is what  W.E.Johns' \"Biggles\" would have been like if Johns a) had actually been a Scout pilot rather than just knowing men who were and b) hadn't been writing for young boys, and therefore intentionally downplaying the sheer revolting immorality of the war and the causes behind it. \n\nThe various prefaces to the book explain that Yeates survived the war only to fall victim to TB, and that the book was his attempt to financially support his wife and children. Sadly the book sold badly and Yeates died in 1933 feeling that he had failed - signing his final letters \"Wingless Victor\"; both a self-deprecating joke and the original title of the book which had been modified by the publisher in a failed attempt to broaden its appeal.\n\nIn summary I thought that this was a fantastic and enjoyable book, but also harrowing in a way that I must admit I didn't expect.", "summary": "read \"Winged Victory\" - a cheerful romp of a book that will leave you feeling merry!*"}
{"id": "t3_2nzmnm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my husband [23M] of 5 years, he has no life.", "post": "I'm getting really frustrated with him. We used to go out and actually do things, but we don't any more. He has no life. He basically has no friends. He basically has no hobbies. He'll get up, go to work, then after he's done he'll go to class (he's in a part time mba program... it doesn't help that we live in Des Plaines Illinois and his university is about an hour into Chicago...), go to the gym, and repeat. That's it. Nothing else.\n\nThen on the weekends all he does is sleep, go to the gym, and grade stuff (he's teaching a class at the local community college.)\n\nHe refuses to admit there's anything wrong. It's miserable and I'd rather be single than live such a boring life.\n\nHow do I get this to change?", "summary": "Husband has no life, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4n4u0l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have a crush on my best friend [21F/22M] and i dont know if I want to", "post": "recently, I just got out of a longish term relationship. Obviously I was upset but alas all my friends came to my rescue. My best guy friend spent a lot of time with me before he left for the summer. He and the rest of my friends and family helped me get over my ex pretty quickly and I can say I'm pretty over the past right now. \n\nThe new problem is that, said friend and I kept in contact. By that I mean, we've been talking the whole past month. He's always been there even when I was dating my ex, and I feel more of a connection with him. I believe I may have developed a crush for my best friend and it's driving me insane. I'm convinced he isnt into me. All my friends, however, think the opposite and are telling me to go for it. I could possibly be idealizing it and I don't want to idealize my best friend. I love our relationship as friends but I can't help wonder if there's more. I'm so very confused right now, should I pursue or should I just keep it the way it is? I don't wanna miss out on an opportunity but I don't want it to be awkward either.", "summary": "I have a crush on my best friend and I don't think he's into me. should I pursue or just keep things the way they are? how do I convince myself I'm idealizing it so I can stop crushing?"}
{"id": "t3_iz7hp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I a horrible monster if I (a guy) refuse to wear a dress to work for charity?", "post": "This week was declared a casual week at work.  One coworker sent out a reply to everyone that she'd be wearing shorts and her bathing suit all week, because she's off all week.\n\nI'm a smartass and had a somewhat boring Friday afternoon, so I sent out an email saying I'd be wearing a dress to work since it's been pretty hot out for the last few weeks and jeans are too hot.\n\nFast forward to today--I come on and have about six emails in my inbox from coworkers pledging about a total of $200 to charity if I actually go through with this and wear a dress to work until at least noon.  I'd just dismiss it as \"I can't, it's inappropriate,\" except that one of the people putting in $20 is my boss--which of course means I have tacit approval to actually show up in drag.  Shit just got real.\n\nThing is, I really would rather not have to do this and I was obviously joking.  Now I look like a horrible monster if I refuse, since it'd be depriving some charity of a pretty nice donation.  Am I a horrible monster if I don't go through with this?", "summary": "Jokingly said I'd wear a dress to work and have now been asked to put my money where my mouth is.  I'd really prefer not to, but now I have a moral dilemma."}
{"id": "t3_153liv", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "It took a lot out of me, but I did it.", "post": "Tonight, I went to the wedding of the girl of my dreams.\n\nWe met my freshman year of high school. She was a grade above me, but she had just moved to my school from out of state and was required to take my class. I was asked to help her out with meeting everyone in class.  We hit it off and became the best of friends. We were inseparable. Summer came, her parents decided to move again, It devastated me, but we stayed in touch. As the years past, we would talk on the phone for hours and chat on myspace. When I was a senior I applied to her college and got accepted. I was ecstatic, until her parents wanted her to attend the school in their town to save money. Once again I lost her before I even had her. At her new school, she became a heavy drinker and attended parties regularly. Whether it was on purpose, I do not know, but she wound up texting me a picture of her sucking a guy off at a party. I didn't speak to her for months. I couldn't stand it. It is difficult to compete with other guys when you can't be there to put up a fight. I resented her for this for 2 years, until  earlier this year. We got back onto an every day phone call to each other, It was like the old days and it was wonderful. She told me mid November that she had met someone and he asked her to marry him. They had met two weeks earlier. 2 WEEKS! and she said yes. After all these years I thought that in the end we would eventually wind up together. 7 years and several hundred miles of land and I lost the fight. It sounds pathetic reading it to you /offmychest, but today I drove 6 hours to attend her wedding and it broke me. I feel like I was on an island with her, and the rescue boat only had room for one, and I am stuck here.", "summary": "It's OK, I'll get over it."}
{"id": "t3_1y5dt3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my BF [23 M] 1y 3m, He doesn't \"see a future with me\" but things are fine. (entire relationship explained warning)", "post": "Here are the cliff notes. \nMy boyfriend is very blunt\nHe has custody of his son and family who I haven't met yet \nHe is very choosy about letting girls meet them. \nThey all know about me.\nHe has detachment issues and he's been cheated on countless times.\nWhen I met him, as a security guard at my apartment, he met a large sum of my family, so he has a better idea about my family than i know about his.\n\nBottom line, I'm in love with him. He has been the best part of my life since the worst time of my life. He helps me grow and I've helped him through some finance troubles as well. We're great friends and our sex life is killer. i think we have similar interest. We're both introverts, we like simple things. \n\nHe recently took his test to be a corrections officer but if that doesn't fall through, he has serious plans on joining The National Guard. We discussed it and being away that long... things can happen. He said he doesn't want to hold me back and I thought that meant I was holding him back because i'm not a cheater. I never gave him a reason to believe that I would. He insists that he cares about me and he isn't looking for anyone else.\n\nThis conversation was weeks ago and we agreed to keep things where they were for now. We had a great v-day and since then, I've been feeling great about where we were. Last night, we were having a good time on the phone and I don't remember how we led up to this, but i remember him saying \"I don't see a future with you\" He didn't say it sad or with an attitude or anything BUT he said it nonetheless. Neither of us talk about the future but it would be nice to to know he could entertain the idea of me being in his life... or just not say anything about it all unless he wants me out of his life now. He hasn't given me a reason accept that he may be leaving for a while due to the National Guard.", "summary": "All I can think about is what am I doing wrong? He finds me sexually attractive, our relationship is as smooth as idk what, so why did he say he doesn't see a future with me?"}
{"id": "t3_14zqzl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [28/m] haven't been in a real relationship in years; Now I'm totally lost and don't know what to do with the girl [28/f] I just met.", "post": "We actually met briefly before Thanksgiving through a mutual friend. I only got her name ('Eva' for this post) and we exchanged a few words. This mutual friend has been insisting since then that I go on a date with her. I initially resisted because of my busy work schedule, but honestly I think I resisted because I have not had a real relationship in years (about 8 years) and I had a 'fling' that ended painfully about 3 years ago. I eventually gave in and agreed to go out with my mutual friend, his wife, and 'Eva' this past Friday. It turned out great and we seemed to click but did not get to talk much because we went out to clubs and bars. The next day I got a text from her (she somehow added her number to my phone without my knowledge!) which led to an invitation to her best friend's birthday party. I met a lot of her friends (which was a bit intimidating being the 'random guy' at the party), and had lots of fun that night. Would that count as a date?\n\nShe is really attractive and funny and now I can't stop thinking about her. I realize we really don't know much about each other, but I think she's interested in me.  I have not texted her all day because I don't want to seem too pushy, but now I think that might have been a bad idea. Help! I want to go slow and build a relationship, but I don't know what to do. I've never gone on a date before and I don't know what to do or say to her. Does any one have a strategy guide for this kind of stuff?", "summary": "I'm really digging this girl I just met, but have no idea what to do. It's been far too long since I've had any sort of relationship, and I want to go slow."}
{"id": "t3_3h9nv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] dont know how to tell my boyfriend [27M] that when he drinks his breath reminds of my ex [27M] who was an alcoholic", "post": "I was in a relationship with someone for almost three years who had a substance abuse problem--namely, drinking alcohol. While we loved each other immensely his drinking ultimately destroyed our relationship. I could not handle the pain of taking care of someone constantly and being lied to the entire time. When my ex used to lie to me about whether he drank that day he didn't realize (obviously because he was drunk) that his breath no matter how hard he tried to hide it reeked like alcohol. There were countless violent fights between us when he tried to convince me that he didn't drink when I could smell it off his breath--it was the worst when we slept beside each other and I could smell the alcohol as he breathed next to my face. \n\nFast forward almost a year after we broke up and I am dating my current boyfriend. This past weekend I stayed over at his place and we went to a restaurant to eat and he had a few drinks. When we came home and were in bed--despite him brushing his teeth--there was still a tint of alcohol that I could smell off his breath. He knows what happened with my ex and he not fond of him because my ex still tries to contact me and it annoys him. In the middle of the night as he was breathing that faint smell of alcohol brought back terrible memories and anxieties of my past relationship. \n\nI wanted to share this experience and inquire whether it would be a constructive idea to mention that to my current boyfriend? The smell really affected me because Ive been conditioned for the past 3 years to associate it with terrible things. Should I just get over it myself and not saying anything? How do you recommend I approach this situation? I don't want to think about those memories and its hard when that smell is near me.", "summary": "Should I tell my boyfriend that when he drinks his breath reminds of my ex who was an alcoholic?"}
{"id": "t3_2jehkw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] just started dating my best friend [21F] 1 month ago and i feel like a rebound.", "post": "I have been best friends with my GF for 8 years prior to us getting together, we have been unofficial for roughly 6 months and started properly dating a month ago. However we both see that time as being together. It's pretty amazing but the only problem is i think she is still hung up on her ex. They broke up at the start of the year and she had admitted to me roughly 2 and half months ago she still had some feelings for him and on that same night said his name while we were having sex. I let this go but unfortunately it has eaten away at me over the last couple of months. Lately she says she has no feelings for him but i find that hard to believe.\nRecently she has started talking about trying to be friends again with him (he doesn't want that) and how much that upsets her. She also struggles with depression and anxiety and told me something that really gives her anxiety is thinking about having a fight with her ex next time she sees him. They also have a long history and were dating for 3 years.\nI don't know how to feel about this or what to do. I just wanted to talk to someone about it.", "summary": "best friend of 8 years is now my GF. GF talks about her ex a lot, wants to be friends with him even though he doesn't. Don't know how to feel."}
{"id": "t3_wc7dv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In need of serious help, literally think i am loosing my mind over my partner.", "post": "I'm 18 male, she is 17.\n\nOkay, this could be a long one but if anyone can help me in any way with advice or methods to help the situation i would be very appreciative.\n\nOkay, i met this girl at the start of this year at a party, we were both moderately drunk and got off and spoke all night. I called her in the morning and we met up afterwards and agreed to get to know eachother more. After my previous 1 year relationship before all this (ending in October the year before) i decided that being single would suit me better. Therefore after about three months of meeting up and seeing eachother, going out etc, she asked me where it was going. Basically i freaked out and stopped talking to her. \n\nTwo months after i was pretty much a wreck and was spending a lot of my time drinking and just being plain miserable. Gay as f--k, i know. I finally realised that actually i really missed her and i stopped kidding myself and started things back up and we started dating. \n\nWe've now been together for about 4 months (tomorrow) and i feel like i'm going insane. I can't ever stop thinking about her and am always worrying she will get with some other guy and get drunk and do stupid things. Basically i feel almost dependant on what she does and almost as if i am obsessive of her. I read up about paranoia issues and a lot of people have said to see a psychiatrist about it. I am very unsure if i agree with this or not.\n\nAt the moment she has gone away for a week on a college music tour and i am literally feeling hideous. \n\nI think the problem lies within the fact that i worry quite a lot about what will happen with us in the next year. For example she wants to go to university next year and she's going on holiday with her friends in the summer. It's literally killing me inside.\n\nIf anyone could suggest advice to me it would be great, also, very open about asking other questions about the whole thing. thanks", "summary": "feeling paranoid and obsessive about my 4 month relationship girlfriend due to future concerns involving long distances."}
{"id": "t3_2fe1iu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] have oral herpes, gave ex [F] genital herpes, what do I tell new people I want to date?", "post": "So I had oral herpes since I was little.  I accidentally gave it to my ex-girlfriend genitally through oral sex.  I have not been with anyone since.\n\nIt has been more than four years since I was last intimate with my ex and I have experienced no symptoms on my genitals although I did have unprotected sex with my ex (it wasn't till after the relationship ended that I found out you could catch it when there are no symptoms).  I'm not sure if I have it on my genitals (I hope not), I read on the official British herpes website that if you give it to someone else you cannot catch it back somewhere else due to having antibodies in your system.  I have had several cold sores on my lips however in the meantime.\n\nI also used some out of date cold sore ointment on my lip and it had a funny reaction and now I regularly experience sore tingly lips and some discoloration; this always makes me worry about getting a cold sore, even though I don't get one (it's my whole lips not just a spot like with a cold sore).\n\nWhat do I say to a new woman in my life?\n\nI can't think of a way I can say all this without making them run away, I feel like a walking petri dish of contagious virus and it makes me feel like a disgusting repulsive person.\n\nI feel incredibly guilty and can't bare the thought of giving it to someone else.\n\nAny advice is welcome.\n\nI hope you don't mind that I don't put in", "summary": "as I think I kept that quite short."}
{"id": "t3_w2kd2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey guys, I'm a german musician really considering the move to the US. But I don't know how to...", "post": "I write and play music that really roots in the US-American hemisphere, not the european, let alone German. Haven't been very successful so far, and I've always wondered how things would turn out if I was playing the same stuff over in the States. I've lived there for a while during high school, my english is very good too (most people don't notice I'm German - have been told this many times). The German market is so oversaturated with international English-singing artists, and nobody really cares about the good German bands with english lyrics. I've supported lots of great US-American acts in my genre (Indie/Folk/Pop), but can't seem to find the same support they do both from business and crowd.\nIs moving to the US even possible with today's immigration policies? Where would I move, if I could, to have a good scene for the stuff I write?\n\nWhat are your thoughts on this?", "summary": "I'm a German songwriter who wants to move to the states for good but doesn't know how to."}
{"id": "t3_2vr9uy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my brother in law [17 M] 1 year, drugs, lying, thievery, sexuality...", "post": "My brother in law has drug problems. He allegedly was dealing drugs, which was not true, but goes into court for routine questions and urine samples because apparently it's not over yet. And he was caught steeling from his job a short while back. Some of his friends were trying to spread rumors to my wife and I that he is, in fact doing hard drugs that he said he did not do. I shut the rumors down and told them that my wife and I will ask him ourselves, not talk behind his back. I didn't believe the rumors. We ask him, and he tells us that his friends are lying.  \n  \nSkip forward to 10 hours later. My mouth is really dry and I'm thirsty and tired. I cuddle up to my half asleep wife in my brother in law's room with his friend. I tell my brother that I need a drink. He hands me juice. I ask what's in it, and he says it's just juice. Well apparently it was some kind of Amphetamine, because I could not fall asleep afterwards and got really emotional. I was crying actually, because I realized that he IS a drug dealer, dealing at his house that he shares with his mom and her boyfriend. His friend and him whisper on the phone and take turns going outside when cars come, and when they're waiting together for the next client, they give each other hand jobs, make out, and presumably drink Amphetamines. I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My brother in law is lying to his family and could get everyone in big trouble."}
{"id": "t3_1z4dhq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling the police", "post": "I was visiting a university, and at the same time visiting a friend. Said friend is the girl I dreamt of before I met. \n\nEverything was going well, and I had a great time looking around as part of my tour group. When the tour finishes I arrange to meet up at a cafe I had found earlier ( didn't know the city too well, so tried to stay to places I knew). She says she'd meet me there in 30 mins. She doesn't show for an hour and half. \n\nNaturally I'm all like, aright she ditched me, and send her a text saying as much, and how I was just leaving the city. I waited for 6 hours waiting for some sort of reply; I figure something pretty bad must have happened, so I casually call the city's PD and say i'm worried about her. I give them all sorts of relevant details, and they say they'll call me back. I wait for another 3 hours hearing nothing from anyone.\n\nBy now it's 1am, and I received a call from the police saying she had left her phone at a friends, and she was out clubbing. They find her in the club, and pull her out to make sure she was okay. She was fine, and pissed off.\n\nShe doesn't want to speak to me anymore, ever.", "summary": "I reported my friend missing when she was just forgetful. Ruined everything"}
{"id": "t3_4y3x4z", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My friend for a very long time that I really enjoy talking to seems to not like talking to me.", "post": "So basically I have this friend that I've known for about 3 - 4 years and I really enjoy spending time with him, he's fun to be around and really my only friend. But I just seem to get so jealous when he's for say playing a game without me, today he told me that we would play a game later tonight and completely bailed, so I got my hopes up for fuck all. I just want to know if this is a healthy friendship because I feel like I'm really trying on my part and he's just not even. It's a pretty frustrating situation to be in, I don't have many friends either so if I cut him off I'll probably be alone for a while.", "summary": "Friend ignoring me/not keeping promises"}
{"id": "t3_1pzg4m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Figuring out the holidays with me (f24) and bf (m25)", "post": "My boyfriend and I met in a college town about two hours away from where we both grew up and will be together two years come Christmas. Coincidentally, our parents live about four miles apart. Last year Thanksgiving/Christmas was great! We spent half/half on Thanksgiving, and my family went over to his family's for Christmas, it was really nice.\n\nHowever, this August my boyfriend and I moved two states away where he started grad school and I began a full time job. I miss my family SO MUCH and my boyfriend could care less about his family. However, they've been out to visit twice and have bought us both tickets to go home for both holidays, which I am immensely grateful for, because it's not something I or my family can afford. This is the longest amount of time I've been away from them. \n\nThe problem this year is that my family will be spending Thanksgiving with my brother's in-laws and Christmas with my step-father's family. I, naturally, want to be with them, but I also feel obligated to spend time with my boyfriend's family because they bought me tickets and I hate the idea of being apart from my boyfriend for special holidays, especially since this isn't going to be a one time thing. If I only get to spend a few days a year with my family, I want every second to be with them, not wasted with my boyfriend's family who I don't feel close with or enjoy spending time with.\n\nI honestly don't have a problem spending time apart but once we're married it seems like it would be weird to have holidays four miles apart from my husband. It wouldn't bother me and I know how upset it will make me to be apart from my family when it's the only time all year I really get to see them.\n\nI know in the end, I have to suck it up and take turns with families but this makes my heart hurt. I love my boyfriend so much and I'm so glad we moved here, so I'm not sure if I'm allowed to be selfish about wanting time with my family. Is there a solution here?", "summary": "Feeling obligated to spend holidays with boyfriends family (even if it's 50/50) but I would rather just be with my family. Is this unreasonable or is there a better solution? I don't mind if my boyfriend sticks with his family, I just miss mine so much and want all the time with them."}
{"id": "t3_2i1tmf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M21] am feeling sort of left out of my girlfriend [20] and her friends' shenanigans.", "post": "I guess the best place to start off would be to provide a bit of context. I've been going out with my girlfriend for about ~4 months and everything has been great so far. She's fun, understanding, has a great sense of humor, and has the bonus of a fun family (has 7 siblings) to go with it. We both attend the same community college and intend on pursuing engineering degrees once we both transfer out. I'm currently scrapping together a few more credits as I hadn't decided to pursue engineering until the beginning of my second year. She, however, happens to be part of a direct admit program for one of the more prestigious universities in the state and has developed a group of friends in the program as a result. It being the beginning of my 3rd year at my college, the majority of my friends have recently transferred to 4-year universities while I have remained so that imparts a bit of loneliness that I haven't really experienced before. Being in the few of the same classes as both my girlfriend and her friends I've gotten to know most of them during class and a bit outside of class as well. The majority of my concern revolves around the fact that I often feel left out of when they choose to hangout after class, have inside jokes that I often can't decipher, start group chats excluding me, make plans without me, etc. When mentioned to others my girlfriend often refers to her friends as \"her\" friends rather than \"our\"  friends which makes me feel sort of left out in that I consider myself them all growing friends of mine and me theirs. Hopefully, I haven't rambled on too long but I intend to talk to her about it soon and let her know about my feelings. I don't find any of my girlfriends actions intentional or whatnot but it still feels sorta shitty all the same. I feel like I'm sort of making a mountain out of mole hill.", "summary": "Feeling left out of girlfriend's friend group and don't know what to really do."}
{"id": "t3_j19x6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most messed up thing you can think of concerning a family member death?", "post": "When my grandma died it was a year and a half after my grandfather died, and it is forbidden by Greek Orthodox burial custom to open up a family grave and insert another coffin before two years have passed, so the only other option was to bury her in her parents' family grave, then re-dig her out after two years have passed for her and bury her along with her husband.\n\nWe knew all this, and on the same afternoon she died we started contacting her other relatives. When we got to her only living brother, he said we can't bury her in her family's grave.\n\n\"Why not?\"\n\n\"Because my wife is very sick and I'm afraid I'll need to reserve the space.\"\n\n\"But she was married to you, she's not of your parents' bloodline!\"\n\n\"I don't care, don't even try it!\"\n\nSo we rented another temporary grave after a lot of searching.\n\nThat was two years ago. His wife is alive and well.", "summary": "2 years ago my dead grandma's uncle didn't want her buried in the family grave because he wanted to bury his wife who is still alive."}
{"id": "t3_1ydj5f", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "22/f I need to figure out my car situation and I have NO idea what to do yet.", "post": "So, I have a car that I purchased when I was 15 for $16k of my own money. My mother registered it in her name and on her insurance at the moment.\n\nShe lives in PA, and I live in CA.  I pay for all of the inspection/upkeep, etc, but it's on her insurance which is only $600/year.  As soon as I change it to mine, it goes up in price a lot.  At the moment, my finances are not consistent, so I can't afford to switch everything to my name.  \n\nMy inspection is coming up in March. I was going to have my 2014/2015 inspection for PA done, and then bring my car out to CA.  That will give me one year with the PA registrations/inspections. After that, i will have to switch my legal address to California/and register my car in California, but that can be done in February 2015.\n\nCan I have my car in CA on her insurance (I'm a covered driver) in CA for the year on the PA insurance and with PA registration? My legal address is still PA, and I intend to switch everything (Car/Legal Address) to CA in February 2015.", "summary": "My legal address/my mom lives in PA. I've moved to CA. My car is in my mum's name and on her insurance, which I pay, and I'm a covered driver. I was going to move my car to CA, and I wanted to keep it under her insurance for as long as possible, can I do that?"}
{"id": "t3_298kf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thosr that dont have family or a big circle of friends how do you deal with it? Im 23F with a 4yr daughter.", "post": "Okay so going to do a quick sum up, I had my daughter young, I'm in a relationship with a great guy for over a year, we live together. Have a happy relationship but with the few expected issues I'm sure every couple has.\nMy problem is that apart from being a mum and girlfriend I have no other life. I don't drink, do drugs, nothing like that at all, my partner likes going to the pub/parties/drinking. But that's just not me. I don't enjoy doing that. And that's all that people seem to do nowadays. \nI have no family, I grew up in foster care, the people I loved have died, I still have my mum and dad but the relationship isn't very good, so I tend to stay away. \nI have a few friends that I can talk to, most have kids aswell, but when we are child free all they want to do is drink, and I'm struggling trying to find something social for me to do that doesn't involve alcohol ALL the time. \nNow I'm not complaining about being a mum because I love her, and I have given up so much of what made me who I am in order to care for her and i do not resent that. But at the moment I feel defined as a \"mum and girlfriend\" sure that's what I spend most of my life being but I feel like that is ALL that I am. \nI honestly don't even know what I'm asking here, I'm trying to find a way to balance things so I feel more like a person instead of \"mum\"", "summary": "feeling defined as a mum, have no family or social circle. Feel like I'm loosing myself"}
{"id": "t3_32ckbz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have self-image issues and it's straining my relationship with my girlfriend [20F]", "post": "We've been together for 5 months.\n\nI've always been on the skinny side.  I was pretty much anorexic growing up.  I skipped lunch to save up lunch money.  And I'd skip meals to play games instead.\n\nHalfway through college, I wanted to change.  I hit the gym and started eating right.  I put on 30 lbs and look much better.\n\nAnd then I met my girlfriend.  She's my first.  I felt like all my hard work finally paid off.\n\nHowever, any time I miss meals or haven't worked out in a while, I'd get insecure.  I'd feel small and skinny.  I'd look visibly smaller in the mirror even though my friends assure me I haven't lost weight.\n\nAnd when I get insecure, I get clingy.  I feel afraid my girlfriend will leave me for being scrawny.  And the insecurity doesn't help to keep her around.\n\nI don't have time or money for a therapist.\n\nWhat can I do to fix myself?", "summary": "I have self-image issues.  It's making me insecure, which is causing problems with my relationship with my girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_31fo0v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20M) girlfriend (19F) of 5 months treats oral as a reward for me.", "post": "By oral, I mean me going down on her, she has never went down on me once, she always says \" next time \", and honestly I'm not expecting one either because I love going down on her and thats good enough for me.\n\nSo, everytime after I go down on her, she elaborately tells me how much she enjoys it. She LOVES oral and I can make her come 8 out of 10 times, and it leaves both of us feeling extremely satisfied.\n\nOne small issue is that I'm always the one initiating it. She never once asked, and it's always me. I just thought she's shy, so hell, I love it, she loves it, I'll just initiate it then.\n\nHowever, I recently discovered this trend that led me to think  that she treats oral as a \" reward \", so to speak. We often make plans in advanced before oral, as time is not on our side, and I like to ask on days where I know we have more time together. However, whenever I have a disagreement with her, sorry, oral is cancelled. Whenever she's angry with me, no oral then. When she's not happy with me, guess what, oral plans for the whole week cancelled!\n\nIt's really starting to get on nerves because it's as though letting me go down on her is a favor to me. I tried talking to her about it, but she got defensive and claimed that she loves it and accuses me of accusing her. At the end of the conversation, she said \" I can't believe you just accused me of this, let's not have oral for this week. \" I couldn't believe my ears. Any ideas how i should do this, redditors?", "summary": "My gf thinks I'm getting all the pleasure from going down on her when she's the one moaning and calling out for god to take her"}
{"id": "t3_zt9n7", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I've been personally battling my car insurance company for over a year. Need advice, please help!", "post": "I have been considering getting a lawyer but would like to get some advice first. So here's the story, the short version...\n\nA while back my car got a considerable amount of water in it thanks to a couple tears in the convertible top. This caused electrical issues that effected my HUD. As a result, the engine overheated, I was unaware, and the motor popped. My insurance company is more than happy to cover the damaged interior pieces, seats(because they have airbags that may have been compromised), and any electrical damages found once a new motor is installed. But not the dash airbags and not the motor..... I don't understand this but I don't know if the law stands on my side and they sure aren't telling me. Any advice or help would be really appreciated. I really need to stop paying this car payment for a car that doesn't run.... Thank you.", "summary": "My car got flooded, messed up the gauges, motor overheated and popped, I couldn't avoid it BECAUSE the gauges were malfunctioning, insurance will cover water damages, but cover the motor which would easily total the car out."}
{"id": "t3_qabv5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need some advice, I can't choose whether to pursue a solution to my problem, or give up on it.", "post": "(Warning: This is not a life threatening problem, if you don't want to listen to a issue that is anything less than a personal emergency, this post isn't for you. Thanks.)\n\nSome background information: Over the past 4 months or so, I developed what I thought was a pretty close friendship with a girl whom I had known for the majority of my life, but had never really taken time to speak with until this year. In that time I discovered that she was an absolutely awesome person; very smart, and very funny and just enjoyable to be around. Up until just a few weeks ago we would talk for 3-4 hours a day on Skype, and I enjoyed all of it.\n\nNow onto the problem: In the time I spoke to her, she mentioned Prom on several occasions, asking questions like \"Do you know what day Prom is\", also mentioning the occasion when other girls post dress pictures to Facebook, making it a semi-frequent topic for short amounts of conversation. Now I, lacking minor social skills, came to the conclusion that these were some kind of hints, and decided to man-up and ask her. After a relatively simple outing, on the way back home I decided that I would ask, and she proceeded to turn me down. In all honesty, getting turned down is not a huge deal, it is what follows that bothers me.\n\nSince that day, she has not spoken to me at all, it has been 3 weeks now. She wouldn't return any of my texts (all three that I sent over those weeks), removed me from Facebook, and then removed me from her Skype contacts. She avoids communicating with me in person, and appears to avoid me now. There is nothing that I would want more than to continue on as we were just several weeks ago, but she appears to want none of it. I think I may have overstepped my boundaries in asking her to Prom, but being completely put out in the cold like this seems ridiculous, and frustrates me to no end.\n\nMy question is whether I should attempt to repair what I thought was a excellent friendship, or should I just try to let her go?", "summary": "Asked a close friend to Prom, I was turned down, now she won't speak to me; should I try to fix what is broken, or just let her go?"}
{"id": "t3_4nckyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] reached out to this guy [25M] who I thought liked me, but he hasn't texted since", "post": "My friend gave me his number because she thought he liked me. When we met, all we did was introduce ourselves because we were in a rush to go somewhere. He had told my friend that he wanted to take me out on a date when he came to visit since he lives in a different state. \n\nI thought he was cute, so I texted him. He expressed that he wanted me to come visit and to come visit me and my friend, but after that the conversation shifted to normal small talk about our favorite food. Then he stopped replying after a few texts. \n\nI know he's busy with work all day and projects to do, but it seems like he isn't interested in me after all. It's been 2 days. I heard he was a pretty shy guy who didn't talk to many people, so I'm wondering if that's why we stopped sending the first few flirty texts to talk about food. I'm not pushing him or anything since I haven't texted again after he didn't reply to my last text, being understanding and all, but it seems weird that he acts like he isn't very interested. What do you think?", "summary": "Guy I thought was interested in me hasn't texted me since I texted him first."}
{"id": "t3_w99k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend self esteem issues.", "post": "Hey there /r/Relationships, I'm hoping I can find some solid advice here as usual. Here goes.\n\nQuick info: Me:19 out of school, working full time. Her: 18, still in school.\n\nI have been with my current girlfriend for about two months, and recently I just started noticing some ever growing self esteem issues. I've known her for around 6 months and I've heard her throw the occasional \"This makes me look fat.\" or \"I look terrible today!\" out, but nothing more than that. \n\nNow that we're dating, she is constantly saying how fat she is (She is far from it) and how she is going to start starving herself. She also talks about how she desires breast implants, a butt reduction and a tummy tuck. She's constantly speaking of killing herself because she's \"So fucking hideous and disgusting.\" I constantly try to reassure her that she is beautiful and lovely, but she never wants to hear it.\n\nI am assuming these feelings are feelings she has kept to herself as we've known one another and now has allowed to them to be heard because she has gotten comfortable. I do my best to compliment her and make her feel beautiful like she is, but it doesn't seem to be working. At this point it has begun to show in her personality and every day mood, she seems like she's lost some of the energy in her and happiness, which truly concerns me.\n\nReddit, what can I do to help my girlfriend out? She's a great person and is truly beautiful inside and out, now how can I get her to start believing this? I am strongly against self hate and I will not allow it to be a part of my relationship. Does anyone have any tips on how to make her feel as beautiful as she truly is?", "summary": "Girlfriend has a terrible self image due to years of verbal bashing from her family, causing stress on our relationship. I need help giving her a way to achieve a positive self image."}
{"id": "t3_2uz45k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my BF [27 M] am I going to ruin his career?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nMy SO and I have been together for 3 months. We are definitely in the honeymoon phase and I am pretty sure I've never loved anyone as much as I love him. We worked together for 7 months before getting together so we had a long friendship that developed into a relationship. Back when we were just friends, my SO accepted a research fellowship in Germany. We live in the UK. We started the relationship knowing that we would have to do long distance, but it didn't seem like too much of burden because we were/are so happy. My SO went to Germany last week and is missing me a lot. The feeling is very mutual. \n\nFearing long distance, my SO applied for non-research post here in the UK and has gotten an interview. I am fairly certain he'll get the job and then he'll want to move back. I am not sure I want him to do that because he loves research and his fellowship is very prestigious. Having just finished his PhD, winning this kind of fellowship is almost unheard of and it's a chance for him to conduct his own research. In short, it's an amazing opportunity. The job in the UK is good money, it's in another department of where I currently work and it could lead to a senior management position, but I am afraid he'll only want to take it because he misses me. I also afraid giving up the fellowship will adversely affect his career in the future. \n\nI am so scared that he'll give up an amazing opportunity, move back to the UK and then once we've settled and the passion phase is over he will regret it. \n\nAm I going to ruin his career? I have never cared about someone else's happiness as much as I do his, and I really want to make sure that he is as successful as he can be both professionally and personally. I will support him no matter what, but I don't want to influence his decision at all. Is that even possible? Help? What do I do?", "summary": "My lovely SO is thinking of giving up an amazing work opportunity to be with me. How can I convince him not to factor me into his decision?"}
{"id": "t3_3ca3q6", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] I know exercise should be judged for the individual dog, but I'm having trouble getting a read on my dog's limits", "post": "I've checked out past threads and found the general advice that it's best to judge your dog's exercise needs on a case by case basis, but I'm struggling to find my dog's ideal level, possibly because he's got such an irrepressible personality that I think he would run until he plowed head first into the ground. Also, we've been having unusually hot weather here (27C/80F not actually super hot, and I always take a bottle of water out for him), so he starts panting very early in his walk/run.\n\nInfo on the dog: Bobby is a 3year oldish shelter dog. He's a terrier mix, looks like a tall Yorkshire Terrier. When we got him he was underweight, he's now up to a healthy weight; my scales are broken at the moment but he's somewhere in the region of 7kg. I ramped up his exercise since he's reached a healthy weight, but I don't seem to be hitting a ceiling. He gets three walks a day, his morning and afternoon walks are almost always over 40min and can be over an hour (if they're any shorter, he'll get a 4th walk in the day). Most of the time I go out on the bike and depending where we are he's attached to my waist or running free, in which case he covers way more ground. His third walk is just a bedtime wee and is generally less the 20min and never with the bike. If he's had some tough runs over the course of few days I'll give him a lower activity day, but his level of activity don't seem to have a great deal of bearing on his mood and energy levels. Some days he's up and around looking to play murder the stuffy all day, some days he curls up on the couch with me and sleeps most of the day.\n\nI've been putting off making this thread, cos I'm not sure what any of you can say other than pay attention to your dog, but it's gotten to the point where I'm exercising him enough that I'm worrying I might be working him too hard. Are there any signs I could look out for?\n\n[Thanks for any help](", "summary": "My dog would joyfully run himself into a coma. How to tell if you're over exercising a dog with no desire to stop, ever?"}
{"id": "t3_456rw2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So many reasons to be proud of myself today", "post": "Today was a good healthy day. I tested my body and mind and I believe I passed!\n\nMy work place often has food at meetings and parties and whatever is leftover is put out for general consumption. Today it was nachos! I had none. I ate my toast and avocado and lentil soup. Later in the day, I opened the candy jar at the front desk but closed it right back up again and decided I'd indulge later on some high quality chocolate. \n\nAfter work, I headed over to the gym. There was no parking and I have definitely driven home because of that. I drove around the block a few times until a space opened up. Which was also cool because I got to listen to a funny interview with Zach Galifianakis on Fresh Air. \n\nI'm working on a couch to 5k program and I really didn't want to do it today. But I got on the treadmill anyway and started my five intervals of three minutes running, two minutes walking. The first one went okay, but I was already thinking, if I wasn't going to finish, how long would I have to go before I was satisfied with how much I had done. It sounds so silly all typed out now. Haha! Well, I didn't quit. I kept it up, pushing through each minute and finished. Once I resolved to complete the day's training, I tried not to just watch the clock. I ran with my eyes straight ahead and was able to get through 2 minutes and 30 seconds of my last run without looking at the timer. It's not perfect, but it was refreshing to not just count down until I could stop running.\n\nThen I went home and ate an awesome, healthy, tasty dinner. I also had that chocolate! And I'm within my daily calorie goal!", "summary": "I'm awesome! And I'm fucking proud as shit! Yay!"}
{"id": "t3_3bgana", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] get jealous thinking about my girlfriend's [21/F] past.", "post": "Anyone have any tips for not being jealous over a person's past? \n\nI know it's irrational, as I have a past that's arguably much harder to think about.\n\nMy problem is thinking about my girlfriend having been with men. I've only ever been with women and worry she'll feel like there's something missing with me, or that it's an experience she can never quite have with me. \n\nIt's complicated by her having hooked up with a guy from her past after coming out and dating a girl. She says it was a mistake and terrible and it was long before we were together, but it still sometimes bothers me to think of. \n\nShe does not like men, says her past experience means nothing and she never even thinks about it, and I know that, but my anxiety sometimes gets the better of me?", "summary": "I get overly jealous thinking about my girlfriend having had sex with men before she came out. Tips for how to get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ye8fg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How to handle shitty roommate?", "post": "So I have a roommate who always asks me & our other roommate for rides. Her boyfriend is one of our good friends and he's always over at our place. She treats him like shit and we always feel bad for him; usually I end up trying to defend him or something. She is also rude to the rest of us (boyfriend definitely gets most of it though). She takes forever to wash her dishes and when she does, there is still fucking food on them, so I ended up re-washing them and now I got so fed up I finally moved my plates and stuff to a separate place. I want to just straight up tell her she's being a shitty person (and this is why I will not give her anymore rides or any help) but I still have to live with her for another 6 months. Any advice?", "summary": "shitty roommate, how can I tell them that I never want to help them because they're shitty (in a tactful way, since I'm stuck for another 6 months). or any other advice you have!"}
{"id": "t3_2yclks", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m/29) proposed a month ago to my GF (f/23) of four years. Her parents demand a pre-nup", "post": "My GF and I have been dating for four years. About a month ago, I proposed, and she accepted. Marriage was something we had been talking about for months. We both wanted it, so the proposal itself was just procedural. Our relationship has been perfect. I honestly think we've fought twice over the last 4 years. She is the love of my life.\n\nA bit about our relationship: We met on a dating website. We've been happily living together for the last 3 years. Money has not ever been an issue for us. We split things down the middle. My half comes from my job and her half comes from her parents, as she just recently graduated college and is still looking for a job. My GF's parents are well-off. Very well-off. It's obvious just from their lifestyle, and the way the support their only daughter. I have a good relationship with them. I think (thought?) they liked me we we met.\n\nMy GF told her parents immediately after the proposal and everything was great. They expressed their happiness, and actually flew down the following day. Nothing about a pre-nup was mentioned to me or her.\n\nThen, yesterday, my GF told me that her father called her and asked her if she was getting a pre-nup. She told him no, and apparently they got into an argument. My GF later told me what happened, and told me that he \"demanded\" she get a pre-nup and threatened to cut her off if she didn't. Her feeling right now is that she is mad at them and she isn't going to fold to their demand. \n\nI have a lot of problems with this. First, her parents seem to think they can control her and by extension me. Second, the fact that they used threats. Third, the fact that this didn't come up until a month AFTER we announced our engagement. Forth, what it means they think of our relationship. \n\nI don't know what is going to happen right now, hopefully this whole thing will \"go away\" but if push comes to shove I'm trying to decide if I will sign on the dotted line. Should I?", "summary": "GF and I are engaged. Her parents want a pre-nup. I'm trying to decide if I would be okay with this if push comes to shove."}
{"id": "t3_13uu24", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18F can't move on from past relationship", "post": "I am her boyfriend and am [x-posting] this from /r/ihaveissues.\n\n>I am still in love with my ex boyfriend. It's been at least two years since we've broken up. He was my first love, my first time and I also had his child. We're still good friends, but I'll always want more. Is this normal? My current boyfriend gets angry about it, even though I see no way to change it. I know that I'll never get back together with my ex, but I still think that my feelings for him will always control how much of my heart I actually put into a relationship. Do I try to fix it? Make my boyfriend get over it? Give up on all love together? :P", "summary": "18F still in love with ex. 18M angry about it. Relationship length: 10 months. Looking for advice on how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_10rii2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need birthday present ideas for BF. 22. Only 2 weeks left. Help!?", "post": "First off all I would like to clear up: **Sexytimes will be provided.** \n\nI know you guys are brilliant, so I need some ideas. I will list all the criteria below. \n\n-\tTurning 22. \n-\tRelationship = 6.5 years\n-\tWe are both mature. Graduated university and recently completed professional exams. \n-\tWorking full time (office).\n-\tMy budget: ~$300\n\nWhat he is into\u2026\n\n-\tHe is not crazy about video games. Only PC games that he gets himself. \n-\tHe is very mature, and if he needs something he will get find a way to get it himself. \n-\tHe LOVES technology\u2026and he is well covered. \n-\tHe likes the finer things\u2026which tends to be a little pricey/hard to find. \n\nPresents to date: \n\n-\t16: Turtles (real ones, because he wanted them)\n-\t17: Lego. He loves Lego. \n-\t18: Blender (inside joke) \u2013 it was useful. \n-\t19: Good scotch (Legal drinking age in Canada)\n-\t20: Safety Razor + essentials\n-\t21: Belt, leather gloves, wallet, professional accessories.", "summary": "BF turning 22, and he pretty much has everything he needs/wants. I need ideas for gifts that are useful, grown up, and fun!"}
{"id": "t3_hhq5b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Inadvertently broke my friend's Camera, what should I do?", "post": "About a month ago I was hanging out with a few friends in a dorm room, most of them were going out afterwards.  I leaned up against a shelf which is normally attached securely to the desk, however because she was moving things around it was not secured in place.  The desk shifted and knocked my friend's camera off the table on to the ground.  She checked the camera and said everything appeared to be alright.  Today I receive a message from the girl saying she just tried her camera for the first time since the incident, and that the lens, valued at $200 USD did not function correctly and that she felt I should pay for it.  Also, I am a poor college student, and $200 would be a significant financial blow to me.  I personally feel that this issue was brought to my attention a month too late, and that she should not have had such an expensive camera out on a table when she was out with people drinking in the first place.  On the other hand, she is quite stubborn, and this issue could very easily divide our friend group and burn many bridges. This is especially concerning because my girlfriend is good friends with her as well.  What should I do?", "summary": "Accidentally knocked camera off table, 1 month later friend wants $200 for broken Lens"}
{"id": "t3_1kasbv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [13M] really like this one girl but I have barely experience talking to girls.", "post": "I am a 13 year old male. I am about 5'6. I'm smart and fairly strong. I hate sports. I'm ugly according to everyone ever. I have a few friends who are girls but not close enough to ask about this stuff. I have little to no self-confidence due to being picked on and bullied about being weak and reading a lot since I was like 6.\n\nI really like this new girl in my class. We talk during class sometimes and that's about it. I do not know how to go ahead any farther than talking. I am in middle school and telling people you like them is worse than pulling teeth.", "summary": "I like a new girl and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3b12b1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By telling an orphan I would kill his family", "post": "Alright, well first off, I feel obligated to say that this wasn't today, but back in middle school.  I was sitting at the lunch table with my friends and I get into it with some Ukrainian kid, I forget what about.  He said,\"I'll kill you.\"  I mirror his response, and he says it again.  So I decide, fuck this, I'm going to kick it up a level,\"I'll kill your family.\"  At the time, he just kinda got pissed and quit talking to me, then apparently told my teacher about it.  The teacher didn't really give a shit, and just told me not to talk to him.\n\nFast-forward to the end of the year, we are \"graduating\" from the eighth grade, and the principal announces him as the student of the year or something for perseverance or some bullshit, and then says something about him being an orphan.  I realized why he was so pissed about my comment...", "summary": "Told Ukrainian prick I would kill his family, turns out he had no family to kill."}
{"id": "t3_4tzc6o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24M] in limbo with my [23F] \"friend\" would like advice.", "post": "I'm a 24M in love with a 23F. I have known her for many years and have always loved her. I was really young and told her how I felt too soon. Fast forward 6 years. In that time we rarely got to hang out because of distance but we always talked a lot. In the past year I've seen her 5 times or so and we have at least kissed each time but she generally gets upset afterwards and says I don't respect her boundaries. \n\nI honestly just go by the signs she gives me. She wanted to be with me when we first met but I was about to start college so I decided not to. I regret that. We've never been officially together but have been as close to that as can be. A year after that. She went over seas and fell for someone else and broke my heart. Since then, I feel like I have idealized her and all my energy and focus has gone to trying to get her. \n\nWe have a very special connection and I always felt that if we lived close enough we would have a much better chance. I saw her today and we kissed but she just got out of a relationship and said she isn't interested in pursuing anything. Keep in mind I've known her for years and I love her more than anything. But my life has revolved around her and the rest of my life has gone to shit. I have a hard time controlling my emotions towards her. She says I don't control my desires with her and that I don't respect her. This makes her uncomfortable around me. I don't mean to be like that. She goes to school pretty far away and because of all that she is unlikely to invite me over. I can't handle hearing she's hooking up/dating other guys. I am the happiest man when I'm with her but I also feel like I deserve more. I also think I should focus on myself and become my best but that means leaving behind the woman I love most. Thoughts?", "summary": "in love with a close \"friend\" we have hooked up but she wants to be friends. 7 years in and my life is too focused on her. We rarely see each other."}
{"id": "t3_1r7ym7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Graduates of Reddit: with the difficult job & housing-market, dreary economy and hectic political situation, what is your outlook on and what are your plans for the future?", "post": "First fulltime job, first house, first real loans that need to be paid... There are some important and interesting choices up ahead. But the future can look rather bleak with all these newsbulletins about crashing economies, mass-dismissals, lack of jobs for starters, budgetcuts, and unemployment. These are our first real steps to independence, and the foundation of our lives. It all seems so bleak these days. \n\nSometimes I find it difficult to keep my morale up and don't know where to start. I used to have aspirations, but there seems to be no such thing as planning for the long term anymore. I was wondering how you all are feeling, and how you approach this important phase in your lives. \n\nDo you settle for something that's available or do strive to make you own success regardless of the situation? \n\nAre you a pragmatist, or still a dreamer? Does it affect you at all? And what is your plan for the near future?", "summary": "See title for summary. "}
{"id": "t3_421uqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My [19M] Ex-Girlfriend [20F] has tried to commit suicide and is currently in intensive care.", "post": "Previous post\n\nI got an SMS from her mother telling me she is in ICU. She cut down her arm to her wrist and slit her throat and she had take a bunch of her pysch-meds and panado's to OD. I will be visting her mother tomorrow at 4:30pm (time of post its currently 10:25pm) Im a little shaken up and apparently there is a note for me. Is it my fault? because i feel concerned and kind of angry at her for this. I feel like she was selfish. I said it would be ok over and over and told her that i will always love her but its not meant to be.", "summary": "Girlfriend has tried to commit suicide."}
{"id": "t3_14cz57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship labels - How important are they and when should they be determined?", "post": "I am curious to see what my fellow redditors have to say about determining a relationship title within a relationship. When and how do you determine if you are just FWB, fuck buddies, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc? \nMy current SO (29/m) and I (28/f) have not had the \"so what are we...?\" chat yet. However, there have been some major hints that this is a serious relationship, but neither of us have been terribly upfront about it. We've been going out for about 3 1/2 months now, the last month and a half he has been taking a very intensive class on the opposite coast (he's in the military). During the first two months we would often talk about things we would do in the future together, we would plan months out. If I happened to be texting someone, he would teasingly say something like \"ohh, texting your other boyfriend?, and I would tease him the same way if I saw him texting someone. When I spent the weekend with him at his mom's place, I met the family dog, lets call her Roxy. He jokingly told me that his other girlfriend was Roxy(not a bestiality joke, I know where your minds go redditors) , and I shouldn't be jealous. However, when his mom did ask him directly - \"so, this is your *girlfriend* or have you guys gotten to that point yet?\" He responded with \"I don't see why we have to put a label on it or anything...\" \n\nDuring his time away we communicate when we can but he has limited access to the internet, poor signal and odd class hours. Generally we end up texting every other day and have planned to do things together when he gets back. The first weekend he is able to visit me (we're also LDR) he's planning on taking me to a very nice restaurant, taking me to a ballet, then hitting up a classy cocktail bar afterward. He told me he was planning on buying a suit for the occasion, even after I told him that wasn't necessary.", "summary": "1) Do you think labels are important? Why? 2) My SO and I haven't had the \"label\" talk yet, and we're 4 months in and it seems fairly serious thus far. Should we have the talk or does it even matter at this point?*"}
{"id": "t3_2vcxb0", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Aggression Toward Only One Other Dog", "post": "Sorry if this has been covered, I tried to search with no luck!\n\nMy 6m, intact, Shepherd/Husky and I are regulars at the local park. Usually my dog is very friendly, at the very worst a bit of a bully but nothing I or any other patrons seem concerned about. \n\nToday a German Shepherd on his leash went to greet my dog through the fence on his way in and after no more than 10 seconds of sniffing the German Shepherd let out some of the most evil sounding barking and growling I have ever heard. We tried them one more time through the fence with the same result so I offered to leave as I had been there for a while already. \n\nImmediately after I left the German Shepherd ran in and played with the other dogs, about 50/50 male and female. All likely fixed with the exception of a very brave 9m male puppy. \n\nCan anyone explain what triggered the reaction to my dog only? I can only imagine it was a fear of a more dominant dog. Does my dog just reek of testosterone?", "summary": "A German Shepherd acted very aggressively toward my Shepherd/Husky and none of the other dogs."}
{"id": "t3_2qbkc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of two months, how do I slow down?", "post": "I recently started seeing someone exclusively, and it seems we are having a lot of communication issues and I'm not sure how to approach them. \n\nI have been in romantic relationships pretty consistently since the age of 15. They are not always serious, but the casual ones are always casual because I am usually seeing a few people at once. When I get into exclusive relationships, they seem to progress very quickly. If I've made up my mind that someone is worth investing in, I go all-in (to an extent, I mean - I've never planned to marry anyone or anything like that - but I do take monogamous relationships seriously once I decide to be in them). \n\nThe person I am dating now was last in a relationship two years ago with someone he dated for 6 years. He is really sweet and fun and we get along great. The trouble is, he's sort of taciturn and seems disconnected. I've asked him about it in the past and he was pretty passive in his response but still insisted that he wants to be dating me. I just feel like right now, we should be very excited about each other and everything should be romantic and nice. Instead, I feel sort of unwanted and bummed out. He went out of town for 5 days and didn't call me once. I got a few texts, but he didn't seem excited to come back at all. I don't know how to express my expectations and the like without seeming like I am expecting too much from him or something. We are supposed to go on holiday together in two days and I am feeling very apprehensive. I really want to go on the trip we've planned, but don't want to spend the whole time feeling insecure and bad. Best course of action?", "summary": "Boyfriend of two months couldn't seem more disinterested in our relationship, not sure how to bring it up. Going on holiday together in two days. When/how should I handle our communication issues?"}
{"id": "t3_1n62kt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [20/F] and my (ex?) is [19/M]. We were once considered an official, but not a public couple.", "post": "I talked to this guy online i liked for a little while, but eventually we find that we need to take the same classes at the University. We eventually moved in together, expecting nothing to happen. However, a kiss happened, and a lot of cuddling/relationship talk happened. We rocked back and forth from making the relationship \"a summer thing\" and carrying it on into the school year. We eventually agreed that it would carry on into the school year, but take it slow because he didn't want to be in a relationship just yet. We sneak out and cuddle and whatnot the second night, but it seems as though another girl liked him as well. She likes him, and I like him, but from what he says, he only likes me and does not like her. One night he tells me he is sleeping, but I find that he's in the room with that girl, alone. He sleeps over, and tells me nothing. He doesn't seem to tell me until i asked him, and I accept his apology, but am hurt because he lied/avoided the question. Now we've talked and somewhat agreed that we should take a break, but I'm really vulnerable. I tell him that he can hang out with her because she doesn't know we were once in a relationship, but it hurts me a lot to see them together. I want to be/stay in the relationship with him, but it seems he doesn't want to, and I will have to get over it. Now i'm stuck deciding whether or not I want to keep the feelings i have for him and hope that he will still like me or get over her and just watch her be alone with him all the time.", "summary": "Not sure whether or not to keep an unknown relationship going while another person is flirting with my (ex)SO."}
{"id": "t3_1084gp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what as an example of technology backfiring on you?", "post": "When I was around 14-15 years old my friend was dating this girl, who I had actually known before him, so I knew her pretty well. He was under the impression that she in some way was fooling around on him(I know, young love), so he sent me in to gather some information. It wasn't unusual for her and I to talk on the phone casually so I called her up. We talked for a few minutes before I brought up the guy. She went into a spiel for a minute or two about how she trusted me and how I was to keep my mouth shut if I wanted to remain friends, naive teenagers. It was then that I remember the record button on my old nokia, which I had never used but I was always interested. So, when she said \"here goes nothing\" I pressed it, figuring I could let my buddy hear for himself, ignorant of the legality of the whole thing at the time. Well as soon as I pressed the button it began a rhythmic beeping which  I for a second hoped was solely on my hand, until I heard her stop her story and scream about me recording blah blah blah lots of curses one lost friend and an ended relationship. So reddit, any similar experiences you care to share?", "summary": "attempted to record my buddy's gf admitting cheating, phone beeped, she flipped, no peepee touches"}
{"id": "t3_zp14u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Proposing to boyfriend[21] and need ideas, please help?", "post": "So, boyfriend[21] and I[21f] have been together for over 3 years and I've decided that it's high time we get hitched, so I'm planning on proposing to him in December. The only thing is, I have no idea how to do it.\n\n I know that he would want something private and not too grand, but if it's too subtle, I don't think he'd realize I was seriously asking. I want to incorporate some nerdy things, but as my interests lie elsewhere, I don't know much about it to do anything really cool. Google isn't very helpful, so I turn to you for any ideas or advice you can give.", "summary": "Proposing to my boyfriend, need some cute, inextravagant, nerdy ideas on how to do it."}
{"id": "t3_4i5jnp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-Romantic] Am I [17f] being unreasonable to my parents [M/F40's] about what I want to do this summer?", "post": "Softball has always been a major part of my life and I've played every summer. I moved to this school this year and played high school softball. My pitching coach asked if I wanted to play on a team this summer too. I'm not bad at it, but I have no plans of playing after high school is over. \n\nIn February I applied for a summer college thing, it's the murray state commonwealth honors academy if that matters. My parents were fine with this. I had to write an essay, get teacher reccomendations, etc. I got accepted into it. My best friend from before I moved is also going. \n\nYesterday morning my dad came and talked to me and was like we don't think you should go,  this is your last travel softball year, you'll be gone for 3 weeks. I need to not worry about college right now,  etc. But he said he'd support whatever choice I make. \n\nLast night I told them that I still want to go. He said I was being stupid and wrong for that. He said that if I go that I can't take pitching lessons anymore and that I can't do both softball and the college thing. I just said fine. I didn't really know what else to say. He hasn't talked to me since then and neither has my mom. My sister was in the car with him and my mom and he said that I'm not an adult like I think and if I'm that grown up that maybe I shouldn't live in their house. \n\nI was going to try to talk to them about it but I don't really know what to say now after that. Am I wrong for wanting to go? I don't really understand why everyone is so upset with me about it.", "summary": "I want to go to a summer college camp that my parents were fine with when i applied. Now they've flipped and won't talk to me because they don't want me to go anymore so I can play travel softball one last year. Am I wrong for wanting to go?"}
{"id": "t3_2rhqa8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23F) Moved back in with my parents temporarily, feeling depressed and sex drive has tanked. Is this normal?", "post": "I just finished graduate school but my job doesn't start for a few months, so I moved back in with my parents.  It's a huge change from living alone at college and seeing lots of my friends every day. Now I just feel completely isolated and depressed. Growing up in this house involved a good amount of sexual shame (religious family) and I don't have a lock on my bedroom door, which is frustrating. \n\nMy long distance boyfriend (25M) doesn't like that my mood has changed so drastically, and my sex drive has pretty much tanked. I usually feel horny all the time but since moving home I don't care. I'm worried that I'll bring all this negativity with me when I go to visit him next month. Is it normal to be feeling like this? How can I deal with the feelings of isolation and stress? How can I explain this to my boyfriend in a way that's not overly dramatic?", "summary": "Finished grad school and moved back home temporarily, feeling stressed/depressed and I don't know why."}
{"id": "t3_1gmj8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What measures are permissible to help stoke the flames [M/F 34] - secret use of pharmaceuticals?", "post": "My wife and I [M/F 34] have been married for 9 years, and we have a slow sex life. At one point or the other, we have both lamented it, but nothing ever really seems to change. It's not uncommon to go weeks without any sexytimes.\n\nA while back, my doctor diagnosed me with low testosterone and prescribed a cream. Having read about the supposed effects of testosterone therapy in increasing the female sex drive, I surreptitiously applied a tiny amount to her legs during a massage (that did not lead to sex, btw). The next night, however, she was very aggressive in initiating (which is very uncommon).\n\nI have done this twice more, both with similar results. Note that she is not pregnant and not on any other hormone therapy (e.g. the pill).\n\nIs this wrong of me? I'm fairly certain that the small amount I apply is not harmful (tiny fraction of my daily dose - only once every couple of months). Should I share this \"experiment\" with her (hoping that she'll talk to her doctor)? Am I horrible for wanting a better sex life?", "summary": "Testosterone seems to perk up my wife's interest in sex - but she doesn't know it."}
{"id": "t3_1fo3ka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible to be FWB with an ex?", "post": "I am a 21 F that recently broke up with a 24 M. We broke up because we both realized that he didn't have the time to have a committed relationship, which I understand. The problem is, we have AMAZING (and I mean mind blowing) sex...I don't want to give that up!\n\nWe dated for 4 months, and ended on a sad but good note (we were sad we couldn't be together but we weren't rude or bitter toward each other)...although the last couple weeks before the break up we did fight a lot. Throughout all of that, we still managed to have sex even when we were fighting (it's seriously the best sex either of us has ever had). Do you think it would be a bad idea for me to ask him about how he feels about being FWBs? I can't deny that I have feelings for him, but I can handle not being his girlfriend...not sure I can handle going without the physical connection though.", "summary": "dated a guy for 4 months, good relationship, but both realized he wasn't in the right place in his life for a serious commitment. We were both sad to break up and have feelings for each other, but we haven't been angry or bitter. We have the most amazing sex life I've ever had and I don't want to give that up if I can avoid it. Should I ask him if he would consider being FWBs?"}
{"id": "t3_35fpm3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (M19) gaming addiction made her (F17) and my romantic feelings disappear", "post": "Hey /r/relationships, \nto begin with i would just like to excuse myself in advance for possible grammar mistakes, english isnt my first language.\nTo come to my story: we were together for 1 1/2 years and we just broke up 11 days ago. We both agreed that we just lost the romantic feelings for each other, and that we had the best time of our lifes before that started to happen, so we wanted to break it off before we started to hate us. We still like each other a lot, but the love simply went missing. Atleast thats what i told myself at this moment.\nJust now, with the help of my parents o came to the conclusion that im am addicted to gaming on the computer. I spend around 80% of the time im awake in front of my desktop. Now i banned the gaming out of my life and started to look for a new hobby. She is a very successfull cosplayer and she always tried to motivate me to do some costumes with her, but i always denied her. I just started to go for my own first cosplay and i am looking to get started with learning to play guitar also. The problem is that i reflected my behaviour in the relationship and came to the conclusion that the gaming took control over everything and influenced my behaviour and feelings. We didnt talk much for the last 1 and a half weeks, and i plan to show her my progress with the costume in about a month. I just cant wrap my mind around the idea, that this gaming shit let me lose the love of my life, and i will try everything to convince her to give us a second chance considering im facing my addiction now.\nI just had to get this off my soul and maybe that some of you guys share your thoughts on my situation.\nThank you for listening to my problems.", "summary": "gaming addiction faded our romantic feelings away, we broke up and now i try my best to get another chance."}
{"id": "t3_wgsq2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I eliminate (or nearly eliminate) my sex drive?  It's driven me to attempted suicide once already.", "post": "I'm a 22 year male.\n\nIn fall of 2008 I jumped off a ~25 foot bridge into a dried riverbed with a rope tied around my neck.  The knot I tied came undone when the rope fully extended and I landed on my back with rope burns on my neck.  I did this for two reasons: 1. I was potentially going to have to convert from ROTC to being enlisted (long story and irrelevant) 2.  It is against my religious beliefs to masturbate or have premarital sexual interactions.  I was/am unmarried, leaving me with no sexual outlet.   Though I never gave in back then, not having a moral form of sexual release drove me insane.\n\nAfter that I've been masturbating ever since about 5 - 20 times a week (depending on my exhaustion -- if I'm exhausted I don't want to do it, but that requires me to be incredibly sleep deprived, which then negatively impacts my life, as I begin to want to fall asleep at work and such).\n\nToday I maintain that I would rather die than cease all sexual stimulation but I still think masturbation is morally wrong, and I'm not particularly interested in marrying.  Will power isn't really an option because when I don't do it my cravings get worse and worse and they distract me during my daily activities.  \n\nMy sex drive really needs to go away.\n\nSo, my question to you all is what do you recommend to accomplish that?  My inclination is to go with whatever drugs they give pedophiles to stop their urges, but I don't know where to buy/how to administer them.", "summary": "I'm 22 and am really horny all the time and don't have an outlet that is moral according to my religious beliefs; I'd like to get rid of my sex drive so that I can stop masturbating with ease.  How can I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_4g0unt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] is confused with my partner [16F] she keeps saying she wants to take it slow. What does that mean?", "post": "I have bee dating this girl for about 6 months now. Everyday she will text me 3 AM asking if I am up yet and she wants to talk. \n\n(Call me weird, but I like to go on early morning walks.). I take her out on dates every weekend, after school we meet up to study. Basically this girl spends almost all of her time with me. \n\nShe acts completely different around me than she did her EX though. At school she would sit on his lap and make out, not once has she done that with me and they dated 2 months. \n\nBasically she was alot quicker to get intimate with her ex, than me and I am so confused. \n\nI am not a bad looking guy, Multiple people have told me I look like Chris hemsworth long lost younger brother. It has even gotten to the point where people call me Thor at school and on the Football team. \n\nshe keeps saying she wants to take things slow with me, what the hell does that mean?", "summary": "girlfriend keeps saying she wants to take it slow, what does that mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2dk2w8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having sex in my friends car", "post": "The night was perfect for some good two-step dancing and saw some cute girls on the way in. Once inside, didn't really feel like dancing the first couple of songs so I went in the back to get some water. Standing there drinking my water when some cute girl comes by and says \"Hey you're cute\". Like an idiot, I couldn't come up with anything incredible to say and went with \"You too\". We talk for a bit and exchange names and ages and go for a dance(It's at an open bar where they put Xs on our hands). I can tell she's not used to two-step so we go outside to talk some more and get to know each other a little better. I tell her how I don't have a car and rode up with my friends. Eventually we start making out and now we want to go somewhere a little more private. So I go ask my friend for his keys and head out to the car. We get in the car and things get heated pretty quickly. We're going at it for a good hour or so, stopping every now and then to let people walk by when all of a sudden someone knocks on the door. We both split to different sides of the car to see who it is. It's my friend and some women behind him. From the other side I hear \"Oh shit, that's my mom\". The scrabble for clothes was on and it didn't help that the car was filled with random horse things. My buddy tried looking in the window then started pulling handles. Like the idiot I am, I didn't lock the doors. Front door opens and turns on the lights making it now easily visible from the outside. Her mom is now yelling at her to get out while I'm sitting there speechless. Took us about 15 minutes to find her clothes and get out of the car. She left and soon later so did I with a lot of questions from my friends.", "summary": "Her mom caught us in the car naked"}
{"id": "t3_2i3rkp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by picking my nose", "post": "This is probably one of the grossest things that's ever happened to me. For a bit of context, I've been very sick over the past week or so, and just coming to the end of all the coughing, congestion, etc, right around now. So I was lying on my bed watching some youtube videos and I realized a blockage in my right nostril. Not uncommon, I think, still somewhat congested from the last week. I'm sniffling and coughing, trying to lodge whatever is in my nose free of its dark and mysterious chambers. After much non-success for my efforts, I think maybe I can get at it with a finger. I begin to dig away like a 2 year old who just discovered that the round finger peg perfectly fits in the round nostril hole, and I feel something shift. After giving one final triumphant sniffle, I feel something suck back out of my nose and down my throat. Eugh... but I can breathe! We all know the feeling of sudden nasal clarity after a week-long struggle with congestion, glorious! I close my laptop and fall asleep.\nI awake later in the night with the feeling of something cracking and slightly wet on my face. When I get up and turn the light on, I realize my folly. It must have been a scab or something that I dislodged from my nose, because my bed looked like a crime scene. Blood and snot and all sorts of lovely things covered my pillow and around the head of my bed. I just stood open-mouthed for a minute, not believing I had made such a mess from a simple bloody nose. New sheets and pillow now, I guess...", "summary": "I was sick, I picked my nose, scab was removed, blood ensued, shopping for new bedsheets tomorrow."}
{"id": "t3_13wzz0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever known that who you're with is \"The one\"? How did you know?", "post": "I'm young and stupid, and I know that there's reason to believe I have no idea what I'm even talking about, but I truely believe that my SO is the one I'll be with for the rest of my life. I was in an abusive relationship with a boy 3 years older than I for the past three years, and my current SO makes me realize how stupid I was to even stay in a situation like that. My ex would verbally and mentally abuse me every day and night, calling me at early hours of the morning because he couldn't sleep, or had a nightmare. He'd yell and scream at me for not helping enough, or for being over bearing. A few times it came to him pushing and choking me. Now, let's just say that those incidents did not roll over well with a southern bell. He was bipolar manic, and never took his multiple medications as he should have. I overlooked too much, and was just willing myself to be ignorant. I cheated. He abused. I cried. He controlled. If we had been a song, we were \"Kim\"- Eminem. Eventually I was numb and lost to the pain I felt. But my current SO showed me everything I was never allowed to believe was real. Our relationship grows each day and every moment, and every time I breathe I just feel like he's the only thing keeping my tried to earth(besides gravity). My ex and I haven't seen each other or spoke since june 5th or 6th of this year. This is the longest I have ever been away from/without him and I haven't felt the usual need to relapse into him again. My SO keeps me sane, and I feel like he truely saved me. I want to know that out of all the sob stories I hear, and the hurt people I find, that there are people out there who have found their \"One\". I'm asking you all to tell me what you have, what you lack, and what you want. Are they \"the one\"? How do you know? <3", "summary": "Had an abusive ex. I cheated, he abused. I found my \"one\" who lifted me from the ruins of a past I can never forget."}
{"id": "t3_1bsto4", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Homesick - move back, jeopardize career?", "post": "The story: Two years ago I moved from my hometown, a large city in the South to the Midwest for medical residency. It was essentially my choice. I try to fly back once/month to see friends and family but it's not the same and I am extremely unhappy here. Let's not go into why I am unhappy there are multiple reasons, and I just need to be with my family and friends at home. I have 2 years and 3 months left to complete my training here.\n\nThe issue: Open residency positions are extremely rare so if I move back to my hometown there is zero guarantee that a position will be waiting for me. It is also extremely difficult to get back into residency once you take a hiatus.\n\nMy thoughts: I've walked a straight line all my life, have done nothing but study for the last 11 years and now I am incredibly unhappy with my position. I'm 29 now and am wondering if it's worth it to move back and live with the uncertainty. Everyone I know is telling me not to move back because it would potentially destroy my future, but at this point I feel like I need to take that risk.", "summary": "Tired of postponing happiness for a career. Take a risk or plow through?"}
{"id": "t3_2tri9e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update: My (28F) boyfriend (32M) wants to donate sperm to his friends", "post": "My serious boyfriend of three years recently informed me that he agreed to donate his sperm to a lesbian couple. This conversation has been going on for an entire year and while they haven't signed any paperwork, I've been kept out of the loop. I'm still in shock, but here's [the original post] and here's an", "summary": "My long-term partner decided he's going to give his sperm to a lesbian couple over the past year and told me this weekend. We've fought and it's clear he wants to go ahead while I don't see this as part of my future. We see a mediator on Thursday. What should I be thinking about?"}
{"id": "t3_44hf0q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My roommates [20s/F] went on a mini-trip without inviting me [21/F], unsure how to respond?", "post": "So my three roommates left to go to a friend's cottage this weekend, without inviting me or mentioning it to me at all. We're all pretty close and it would have been something I would have loved to do. I didn't really hear about it until last night, when my one roommate casually mentioned it excitedly. I can't help but feel excluded, left out, and as though there is something wrong with me. \n\nI'm not quite sure why I wasn't invited, and that creates loads of anxious feelings. Some thoughts as to why: \n\n1. There wasn't enough room for another person (but don't know why they wouldn't at least mention it to me, also, my roommates aren't known for having a capacity on number of people) \n\n2. I just wasn't there at the right time, the right time being when the idea was proposed. Perhaps it was a spontaneous decision? \n\n3. There's a bigger underlying reason. (i.e. there's something wrong with me - spending a lot of time with my boyfriend? Phasing me out?) \n\nWhat do you guys think? How should I approach this (if at all?).", "summary": "roommates excluded me from an outing, feeling quite left out, don't know how to respond to this..."}
{"id": "t3_klmuu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I help convince my cousin to leave his insane violent girlfriend?", "post": "Throwaway account, my cousin browses reddit now and then. Things have gone completely out of hand, I am terrified for my cousin and I simply don't know what to do. We are very close and I think of him like my brother. \n\nHe has been living with a violent, psychotic alcoholic girl for years but things recently escalated to frightening proportions. Recently, after hours of drinking and taking drugs and with no obvious provocation, she went absolutely apeshit and repeatedly hurled herself at him, punching, scratching, pulling his hair, etc. He had to shove her away forcefully many times, and also by her own drunken thrashing she got hurt in the process. Not knowing what else to do, he called the cops. In their wild and bloody state, both were cuffed, arrested and thrown in jail overnight. \n\nThey were released after hours of grilling by the cops. They tried but failed to charge him with assault because she confirmed he hadn't hit her. To my utter shock and dismay, he accepted her promise to go to therapy and went home with her.\n\nThe full extent of this is now clear, this has been going on for years and he goes back to her time and time again. I can't help but think if this was my sister and not my brother, I would be on the first plane over with murderous intentions. I would also be furious with her for staying with such a violent worthless asshole. Why should this be any different? How would you respond to this reddit? I love my cousin and desperately want to help him out of this horrific situation...", "summary": "My cousin keeps returning to his insane violent girl and I don't know what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_lu2kc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Men and Women of Reddit, How often do you wash your jeans?", "post": "What I've observed is that women tend to wash them quite often as opposed to men who tend to leave it for as long as possible. \n\nPersonally I try to drag it out, spot cleaning them when I can. I think jeans ruin with washing as they fade pretty quickly depending on the type of denim. 8 months is average for me.\n\nWhat about you guys?", "summary": "Never wash your jeans if it can be avoided - unless they're cheap and you dgaf."}
{"id": "t3_20ea5z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [22] is too nice to other people and it worries me...", "post": "Hey guys. I know it sounds weird but hear me out. I love my girlfriend. We have been dating for 8 months and there are not any problems. However, she is too nice to random people, now I'm not the jealous type so here's my problem with it. I'm afraid she is going to get hurt.\nFor instance, two days ago she was at a light waiting to cross the road when a man approached her, she, being friendly didnt get scared off and she ended up waiting 3 whole light cycles before actually leaving. \nThe man was petsistant he \"holla\" at her sometime and wanted her phone number. She didn't give it, but she also wouldn't leave the area... Eventually the man gave her his email. And she eventually left only because she was late to get to work. The man took her hand and kissed it in a other attempt to get her to go with him. She wriggled free and left.\nShe was amused by the run-in and told everyone. Eventually she told me (I live across the country for school for another two months) and I didnt understand and she told me that she knew she was being to outgoing with him. Anyway... curious I wanted the email, and I being a wizard or something. Found him as a registered sex offender for Rape and public exposure. \nThis is why it scares me. She is too nice to literal creeps and I'm worried something bad will happen to her one day and I will blame myself.\nIs there any advice for helping her realize she needs to be more \"cautious\" around people she does not know?", "summary": "Girlfriend has no sense of stranger danger. Got hit on by a registered rapist."}
{"id": "t3_3c7w1p", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[SV/NSV] Down 16 pounds, and the new flair has my favorite color! Also, >100lbs squat AND deadlift for the first time.", "post": "I'm done yoyoing. \n\nI'm 6ft tall and since my teen years I've gone from 190 -> 165 -> 180 -> 170 -> 245 and right now 229 pounds. If I was just looking at that trend I wouldn't feel confident in my ability to maintain a healthy lifestyle, but I think I've really taken charge of my long term goals now. I was introduced to Starting Strength and have come to feel like losing fat and gaining muscle is a lifelong project for me. I've learned that this isn't about willpower, or having a deficit so huge you struggle to complete day to day tasks, or looking at yourself in the mirror and hating it so much that you need to change; it's about respecting yourself enough to be consistent and responsible.  It's about sticking to a long term change. Well, maybe that's cheap talk coming from someone who only lost 16 pounds. Let's hope not. \n\nEven though I'm at a deficit, my lifts have gone up. They started below what most people would consider normal for an untrained individual, but now I'm just proud of how much I've improved (well, proud of all of them except my bench press so far). And once I've reached a normal BF% I can try to gain muscle at a surplus. I can watch the number on the scale go up in a controlled, healthy fashion, and then bring it back down before it becomes any sort of problem. That idea makes me feel wonderfully in control. Here's to the day that my lifts are heavier than me. Cheers.", "summary": "calorie counting is for life: not just for losing weight, lost fifteen pounds and I can lift more:"}
{"id": "t3_2taf85", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking life is a game", "post": "I'm new to reddit so this happened sometime last year. Some backstory here, I'm one of those gamers that will complete abuse my ability to dolphin dive in every game I play. This is how I know I'm playing a GREAT game.\n\nSo you know when you're phones on %1 battery and it kind of becomes a game to get to a charger before it dies? This happens to me and I get really excited so I run to my room at full sprint pretending I'm running to disarm a bomb or something. Suddenly it's the epic climax of a game where I'm saving Saoirse Ronan from this bomb so I slow-mo dolphin dive onto my bed (my chargers next to my bed).\n\nHowever I clearly underestimated my leg power and smashed face-first into the wall so hard my face went straight through the wall clean. To be very clear:\n\nI.SMASHED.A.HOLE.IN.THE.WALL.WITH.MY.FACE.\n\nI cried so hard. My dad walked in to find me flailing and screaming with my head stuck in the wall. I ended up breaking my nose, my braces and chipping my tooth aswell as making me having to wear braces for another 6 months :(\n\nMy dad patched it up but notice the different material my dad patched it up with:", "summary": "thought life was a game and dolphin dived into wall"}
{"id": "t3_4a37uy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need advice. Ex-BF (20m) from 3 years ago will not leave me alone (20f) he is stalking me, posting things on the internet about me, I'm sick of it.", "post": "I didn't know where else to post this but I need advice. I dated this guy (20m now) in high school when I was 15 (20f now) for a little over a year, and he is still obsessed with me. It's been YEARS. \n\nEvery couple of months I will get strange messages or comments online and I have no way to prove its him I just know it is. \n\nHe posts hateful, disgusting things from fake accounts, and things like that. I know he does this because when I dated him so long ago, he did the same thing to his ex-gf before me. It's ridiculous, I'm so sick of it and I don't know what to do. \n\nI've tried ignoring him, I haven't spoken to him in over 4 years. But he continues to do things like this. I have his number, I could call him and try to ask him to leave me alone but that's what he wants, my attention. \n\nHe is a psychopath, and I want more than anything for him to leave me alone forever but I just don't know what action to take.\n\nEveryone is telling me to ignore him but part of me wants to call him and confront him because honestly I think it might scare him so much he would stop, but maybe not.  \n\nI'm just very uncomfortable knowing there he is out there, trying to keep constant tabs on me and plotting ways to make me feel uncomfortable.", "summary": "Ex-bf of many years ago won't leave me alone, cyber stalking me and harassing me on the Internet, for multiple years. Not sure what kind of action to take, if any."}
{"id": "t3_41rpn4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20/f) needs a way to get over my gift anxiety and get my boyfriend (21/m) of one month a gift", "post": "We got together over winter break though we had dated during high school.  I am now a college junior and he is working full time in my home town (40 min away)\n\nOver the break he just showered me in compliments and j returned the favor.  New relationship sappy-ness if you will.  One day he surprised me with my favorite drink and some cookies just because he knew I liked them. \n\nThe thing is he very rarely talks about himself.  Every time I ask him about his favorites he kinda blows off the question or just says that there are too many. \n\nI really need a gift idea for him though especially now that I am back at school.  I had moved in and my dorm room was trashed from the previous occupants and I had an orientation that night that I was stressing out about.  Basically as soon as my parents left I started to cry out of frustration.  \n\nEven though he also had a crap day at work he still came up to see me and brought me candy for a few hours before my orientation just because I told him I was upset and wanted a hug (not expecting him to come up just maybe a Skype chat)\n\nHe does all these nice things for me but I am not the type of girlfriend to come up with cute pintrest like things to do for him and honestly have no idea what to do.\n\nOn top of that I get extreme anxiety over giving any sort of gift.  Even though I know he isnt the spoiled type to throw a gift back in my face and would be glad to get anything from me it causes me major stress about getting him something and now it has to be something fantastic since he put up with me having a breakdown even though we have only dated for a month.  \n\nHe likes magic the gathering but I have no clue about that...he likes tv (we binged on archer together), videogames (though he ready has a ton), documentaries, and things of that nature.", "summary": "I need a gift idea for a nerd and a way to get over myself and just give it to him"}
{"id": "t3_dy0ai", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "GF has anxiety/diet/exercise issues", "post": "First off I'm 19/M and she's 19/F. We go to the same school. We met during summer school where we started working out together all the time and eventually I made the relationship happen. We're very happy together. She's always been very diligent about eating healthy and exercising often, except lately I've been noticing that she's not just not eating enough.\n\nGranted, she is a rather small person.. 5'2'' 100 lbs, but even I have noticed she's not eating enough. I've tried to convince her that she's just fine how she is, in fact I'd be happier if she gained a little bit of weight (but I didn't mention that). She feels like she absolutely has to work out twice a day otherwise she feels guilty about what she eats. It's developed to the point that I'm concerned about her health.\n\nLastly, we always work out together, but she always has some sort of anxiety issues if I mention we are running together the next day she has difficulty sleeping. She tells me she's nervous because she doesn't want to embarass herself in front of me. I am a better runner than her, but it's not like I'm out there to show off and make her look bad, I just want to exercise and spend time together with her. I've tried to express these things verbally to her, but I'm not sure what to do. These things always put her in terrible moods and is causing a lot of tension in the relationship.", "summary": "My slightly underweight girlfriend thinks she needs to exercise excessively despite the fact that I've noticed she eats hardly enough. Additionally, she has serious anxiety issues about working out with me because she's embarrassed in front of me to the point that she's losing sleep over it.   Helppppp."}
{"id": "t3_1opcxc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [F/17] told me she is trying quit self harming and I [M/17] am doing everything I can to help but she hasn't quit at all.", "post": "I don't blame her, I have been where she has been, just self harming to get rid of stress. Im really trying to get her to stop, she just doesn't see the point of stopping but I know from my own experience that its dragging her down.  \nShe told me she quit, I believed her. She gave me little reports of how the day went and kept me updated on everything. I was skyping with her last night and I noticed a fresh eraser burn on her hand. She doesn't know I saw it but when I asked her later that evening how the day went she said nothing happened and that she didnt self harm.  \nSo, she is lying to me. I know its a very touchy subject for her and just like me a few years ago she is a addicted to it. How can I make her a little bit more honest about this without me forcing her?", "summary": "Girlfriend self harms, she says she quit but I noticed a fresh eraser burn when I was skyping with her. How can I make her more open about this without me forcing her to tell me?"}
{"id": "t3_3zj6cg", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Blasting music vs sleep", "post": "My mom's boyfriend is a lazy ass who doesn't help her with anything and just stays with us rent free. He's an alcoholic and drinks everyday. Though he does work a few times a week, not sure what time. \n\nSo when he drinks, he passes out. He leaves his shitty music on blasting. Most of the time I fall asleep and it doesn't bother me but it really got to me tonight, as it's 2am on a Tuesday. I expected him to turn it off by 11 or 12 at the latest. \n\nSo I looked up how to disable his Internet connection from the smart TV that he's blasting it from. I tried installing my routers app, nothing. Tried going to my ip address router, nothing I could find to block the device connected. I tried to constantly reboot the router to knock it off but it only slightly stutters and goes back on when  it reconnects. \n\nI don't want to change the name or password since my brother games late at night or my other brother watches movies. Having to explain to them about changing passwords as I'm a non confrontational person. \n\nFinally, I figured out that every device is unique. Not by the ip address but by something called the Mac address. I learned from my old jobs IT guy how he could only let people connect to the wifi unless he did something to let them through. \n\nApparently it's called access panel on my net gear router. So what I did was enable it, figure out my brothers devices and let them through, and tested to see what that fucking tv's MAC address is. Found out what it is and didn't let it through and he's still passed out sleeping. \n\nNow I can sleep in peace and quiet.", "summary": "Mom's boyfriend drinks, passes out and leaves his music blasting through the night. I set up the Internet to block out the device making the shitty music to sleep in peace."}
{"id": "t3_p9ilv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Falling Out of Love", "post": "Hello reddit,\nMy question is this: is falling out of love the definite sign that a relationship has run its course, or can love be rekindled again? \nMy girlfriend of 2 years has recently told me that although she loves me and cares for me, she has been falling out of love for the past 3 months. The 'spark' has just gone away for her. We are taking time away from eachother right now to sort out what we want to do. She says she wants to try and make it work, and she would really love for it to work and she wants to feel that way about me again. I am just not sure if it would be wise for me to agree because I don't want to be hurt more in case it doesn't work. We have always had a very mature and trusting relationship and we have a good ability to work through our problems. But I'm not sure physical attraction is something you can willingly bring back. \nSo can the 'spark' in a loving, caring, trusting relationship be rekindled? Is this just a new phase in the relationship? Or are we just prolonging the inevitable?", "summary": "Hurting and looking for your opinions reddit. Can the spark in a relationship be rekindled with effort or should it be left for what it was?"}
{"id": "t3_2rsahc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30m] with my [28f] gf of 3 months - why am I going crazy?!", "post": "I've been a serial monogamist all my life. Had three major relationships, about 4 years each. Got out of one about a year ago, and recently started dating a girl I've been friends with for a while. She's awesome. Definitely the smartest girl I've ever met, she's funny, attractive... Almost intimidating. This is her first relationship aside from casual flings.\n\nThis is the first girl that has made me crazy. If I don't hear from her much during the day, I start to get a sinking feeling. I can't shake the feeling that things are already starting to wane for her, despite her telling me how lucky she feels and how crazy she is about me. I'm REALLY into this girl. More so then I've been into anyone else. She's also the most guarded girl I've been with - much less openly affectionate, seems like she's not quite sure how to act...\n\nWhen I'm with her, these feelings all go away - I feel great, at ease, and that she's just as into it as I am, but when we're apart, I just can't stop feeling... Crazy. She's a busy girl, working a few jobs, and is definitely trying to fit me into her schedule, but shit...\n\nHow can I stop being crazy like this? How do I stop being crazy like this?!", "summary": "great girl, very busy, I'm going crazy thinking she isn't as into me as I am into her"}
{"id": "t3_109ty7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] found this in my girlfriend's [19F] book. Can you help me decipher it and should I risk talking to her about it? We've been together only 2 months.", "post": "I found [this] in my girlfriend's notebook while looking up a wifi password. I'm 99% sure it's a list of sexual partners but I'm not so sure about the blank names or what the arrow means. \n\nJust to clarify, she does not know I saw this and I'm not even considering breaking up with her because of it. The reason I'm concerned is because she has told me that she has only done anything at all sexual with 3 guys before me, and I feel like I was lied to. Her history doesn't bother me too much but this list does seem to a bit extensive for our age. \n\nSo what do you think reddit? Should this affect out relationship? And just out of curiosity, can you tell me what it all means? I think I have a pretty good idea.", "summary": "I feel my gf lied to me about her sexual history, and now I'm curious about how many guys she's actually been with."}
{"id": "t3_3rmyb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] best friend [23F] may be about to marry a manchild. Should I say anything?", "post": "My best friend from college, Hannah, has been dating her boyfriend Ray for about three years. We generally bring our boyfriends with us to events/hangouts, so I know him pretty well. Recently she confided that he told her he's intending to propose within the next few months. I don't think Ray is anywhere remotely ready for marriage, though. Reasons being:\n\n- He is incredibly irresponsible with money. No impulse control. If he wants a toy (new iPhone/better TV/upgraded gaming system) he'll just buy it, whether or not he has the money for it. Now, surprise surprise, he's in credit card debt.\n\n- He's 27 and still lives with his parents. Undoubtedly connected to the whole fiscal irresponsibility thing. \n\n- He has failed classes in *community college* because he just doesn't go to them or put forth any academic effort. Sometimes Hannah writes his essays for him.\n\n- Pretty much his only hobby is gaming. There's nothing wrong with gaming, I know, I enjoy it in moderation too, but to me having your life revolve around it screams \"escapism.\"\n\n- His sense of humor is pretty immature/physical. Farts, penises, etc.\n\n- He whines/sulks if something happens that he doesn't like. \n\nSo, I mean...it's not like he's Satan. He's not abusive or mean. I have talked with Hannah in the past about the importance of financial responsibility in a life partner, so you avoid the type of person who would spend your house downpayment on a sports car, and she agrees in theory, but brushes it off as a minor concern.", "summary": "Best friend's boyfriend is a manchild. Should I try to reality-check her before he pops the Q?"}
{"id": "t3_1lbxvh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to best treat serious partners from other countries.", "post": "I am a guy (aussie) that is dating a (22yr) woman from another country, moving to mine, where things are going very well (5 months thus far)! \n  As things feel great and definitely more committed, I was wanting advice from other redditors that have been in relationship with / being one that has moved from another country, found a job and looking at permanent residency.\n\n Are there anythings out of the normal I can do to be super supportive? I have attempted to learn her culture, language (slowly), help her integrate, try and make things stable and bring her slowly into my life (which she wishes)... as well as the normal relationship things (beach, dinners, movies, etc). Language is only a very, very minor barrier. However, leaving ones family, friends and striking up a new life, boyfriend and 4 year job is pretty de-stablising! Anything here that I should do to help her in this huge transistion, beyond the normal relationship things?", "summary": "dating a woman just moved to my country, any advice here beyond the normal?"}
{"id": "t3_pi2x9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, Reddit, I ran into a problem while purchasing a foreclosed home...  Any advice is appreciated...", "post": "Here's the story:\nIn December 2011, my wife and I made an offer on a home, which was eventually accepted.  The home was a foreclosed property, owned by Aurora Mortgage Services.  Closing date, dictated by the seller, was to be February 10th, 2012 (tomorrow).  We fulfilled our end of agreement - provided earnest money deposit, secured financing, obtained insurance, and as far as we were concerned were ready for closing.  As a matter of fact, title agency (again, dictated by the seller) contacted us and scheduled the time for the actual close.  However, on Tuesday, February 7th, we were notified that Aurora has placed all of their assets on hold \"until further notice\", but that periodically, properties will be \"released from hold\" - whatever that might mean.  \nI've done some research online and came up with [this blog]  It appears that we are not the only ones currently dealing with this.\nSo now, our options are to file for an extension, or get our earnest money back and walk.  By choosing the later option, we loose out on the inspection money, appraisal and cost of gas that had to be turned on for the said two things (all together around $1,000).  We don't necessarily want to walk, because we like the house, but our current lease is set to expire next month.  We have no indication that this will be resolved by that point.\nHas anyone ever experienced this while dealing with foreclosures?  Has anyone ever dealt with Aurora?", "summary": "Purchasing a foreclosed home from Aurora Mortgage Services; days before closing they placed the property \"on hold\" - indefinitely.  What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ld1a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with the guy I've been casually seeing [21M]: when to have the define the relationship talk (if ever)?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships!\n\nI've been hanging out and hooking up with a guy for the past month or so. We very much have our own lives (both in college) and own set of friends that don't overlap so we don't really spend that much time together aside from the occasional hookup or hangout although we're pretty much in constant contact via text and Facebook. His friends know about me and my friends know about him and we've both met each other's set of friends. \n\nIt's fun and he's great but I definitely can't see myself dating him, for multiple reasons which I won't go into here. It's not that I'm not open to dating in general - just not dating him. \n\nDo I need to talk to him about this at some point, and if so, when? He hasn't tried to bring it up and neither have I, but there are some things coming up (sorority formal) where I realized I would probably rather take someone else instead of him - no one in mind specifically, just not him. \n\nI want to keep it casual, but also don't want to make it awkward if I bring this up since he hasn't made any sort of moves to make it more serious. I'm actually not even sure he hasn't been seeing other people at the same time but I'm pretty sure he hasn't. \n\nSorry this is sort of rambling but I think the short of it is that I feel guilty knowing I don't want to date him but continuing to see him? I've also never done this before because I don't hook up with people normally unless I've wanted to date them / have been dating them so it's all very new. \n\nI would definitely rather keep things the way they are and ideally would not bring this up at all, but is it being unfair to the guy?", "summary": "been seeing a guy casually but don't want to date him - do iI talk to him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1cyq9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Your thoughts on friendship post-break up? [26M/F]", "post": "After giving it another final attempt, my... ex-girlfriend and I decided last week to end our relationship after two years of being together. The love just wasn't there anymore, and it had turned into a fantastic friendship instead - but we both wanted more than just that. Nonetheless, she's the best friend I've ever had and I still love her dearly. She'll forever mean the world to me.\n\nOur break-up was tough, but it had to be done. I guess I even felt relieved when it was finally over, although when it finally truly dawned on me later that day I couldn't help but cry my heart out. The thing is, during our final conversation she asked me if I still wanted to remain friends, but I immediately declined. It's just not something I could handle. It would just hurt me too much. Plus a whole lot of other problems that usually arise, so yeah.\n\nNow, it's been little over a week and I guess I feel a whole lot better since then. It's just that... I've been rethinking my decision a lot. I truly miss her as a friend and I just want to talk to her again, but deep inside I also feel that I'm secretly hoping I could win her over again and not be lonely anymore and all that. I'm starting to think about all the good things of our relationship and somewhat ignoring the bad, and well, I guess I'm doing a lot of rationalizing at this point. \n\nThe bottom line however, is that I miss her (non-romantic) company and I'd like her back into my life as someone to talk to and laugh with. I think. \n\nDamnit, I just don't know anymore. On one hand I feel responsible and alpha for going cold-turkey on her, but on the other I feel I'm being dramatic about it and that I should just embrace the strong friendship that we had in the first place. \n\nAny advice or personal experiences are welcome, I guess.", "summary": "gf and I broke up amicably. Didn't want to remain friends, but having second thoughts about that now. wat do"}
{"id": "t3_1rr6uw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to take a nap.", "post": "Today on the 5 hour drive to our families cabin I decide to catch up on some sleep in the car. I put my feet up across the car onto my girlfriends lap. We are in a Buick Enclave so it's got /some/ stretch space. I take a solid two and a half hour snooze and wake up at the next stop. I woke up to the most unbearable back pain that prevented me from getting out of the car and stretching. I sat up and put a pillow behind my back and say the res of the ride in the most uncomfortable state I've ever been in. Nine hours later and my back is still tense and my beautiful girlfriend is massaging my back with a warm rag.", "summary": "I fell asleep like an angle and woke up with pain from hell."}
{"id": "t3_yxyc3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What strange requests have you received at work?", "post": "I work for Walgreens, usually I'm in photo. I started about two months ago. The other day I received a large order of over 150 photos for a woman. When I started adjusting and printing them out, I realized all the photos were of her and her cats. So, I thought of Reddit! \n\nThis brings me to a previous request I had from an older woman in her late 30s. It was almost time to close down the photo machines when she rushes up to me begging to print out an order for her. So, I do. She goes to the kiosk and works on her order. Meanwhile, we chat about her military career, job, my job, etc. Then, she asks if I have to see the photos because she has personal pictures. I didn't think anything of it and I responded \"Yes, I'll see them when they upload to the judgement screen.\" She was fine with and told me that she was going through a divorce and was making a scrapbook for her soon-to-be exhusaband. I saw some pictures of her and her children. Sappy family stuff and whatnot. Then, I got to the personal pictures she was talking about and saw pictures of her naked. Close ups and all sorts of things. Apparently, she wanted him to remember what he'd be missing out on. \n\nMy manager told me the really weird shit happens during spring break when all the college students start sending in their orders. I can't wait :P\n\nAlso, I'm really bored doing my ENC1101 work. Entertain me.", "summary": "I printed out pictures for a strange cat lady and a woman wanted me to print photos of her vagina."}
{"id": "t3_3tynm9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] How to tell my Girlfriend [24 F] of 2 months, that she isn't being considerate enough.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl a few months now, and things are going really well.  She's smart, beautiful, super into sports- pretty much checks all my boxes and a few more as well.  There's just one problem.  (I think there is, at least)\n\nI express affection through doing things for her- cleaning up the kitchen, making her a drink, walking her dog, carrying her things, driving when she's tired.  Nothing mind blowing, but I do them constantly and she appreciates it most of the time.\n\nI know she doesn't naturally express affection that way, but I've mentioned to her several times that that's how I work.  Still though, it doesn't seem like she's making much of an effort and it's beginning to bother me.  I'm starting to get afraid that she's taking me for granted and it's only going to get worse.", "summary": "How can I ask her to be more considerate without being mean?"}
{"id": "t3_1kdndg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best e-mail service to use, in the light of the lavabit closure?", "post": "Want to start a new e-mail account, since my only current ones are with gmail. And, I've heard google is one of the more willing companies to give up your information. Also, I've heard that it's probably in my best interest, as an American, to distance myself with any type of US email company (for security purposes). Was just wondering what the best/most secure email service would be, outside the us or not?\n\nThanks ahead of time for any that answer this question honestly. As someone who has been trying to keep up with the NSA, well mainly just anything involving my right to privacy and freedom of speech, I just want to find something that I can use without the notion of a folder being made of everything I send. At the same time, I want to give my family/friends whichever you all decide is the best email provider to use, so I can protect them too. Because, (not sure if you all know this) anyone I know who isn't on Reddit or actively keeps up with current events has no clue who Snowden or Manning are, and what the NSA is.", "summary": "Best E-mail service for privacy/security? Redditors seem to be the only people who know what really is going on with NSA and the like."}
{"id": "t3_4y51a8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Friend [23M] of two weeks, I have feelings for him but I'm really terrified I'm coming on too strongly", "post": "So about two weeks ago I met this really great guy - he's sweet, funny, handsome, and he laughs at all my lame jokes and lines. We hit it off really well and I absolutely had to see him again; as such, I gave him my number and we got speaking. We ended up Skyping for 12 hours one night and texting for 2-3 some of the others. He regularly calls me cute, hilarious, and \"weird in a good way.\"\n\nI have telegraphed that I liked him numerous times, even going so far as to say it directly - his response has always been some variation of \"I don't know,\" or \"it's too soon,\" however, and as such I am at a loss for what to do. He says he wants to know me better, and I have offered to tell him stuff or play truth or dare (I'm lame, I know) but he always declines because he doesn't like the game. He acts really sweet and tells me he is interested in me (but \"doesn't know yet\" for sure) when we do talk, but he hasn't really spoken to me since our date on Sunday (a few kind of distant texts? Date went really well though!! ...i hope. i had fun, anyway!) and therefore I am rather worried that I've come off far too strong. Is there any way to remedy this situation or anything I can do to avoid creeping him out? I'm awkwardly forward and I suppose it takes introverts off-guard and naturally I cannot help but be an awkward mess around someone I like, haha. I don't want to make him uncomfortable but also I really genuinely have the biggest crush on him; he wants to get to know me better and I know time is the best for that and I'm not one to usually rush into things but DAMN HE'S REALLY CUTE.\n  \nI tend to initiate conversations a lot more than he does and his recent replies have been rather vague and/or distant. have I already ruined this / sabotaged myself before a relationship has even began?? Thanks for reading", "summary": "Met a really cute guy, worried I scared him off by being my awkwardly forward self, he thinks I am cute and funny but wants to get to know me better before committing to anything which is fine, but leaves me hanging out to dry in conversations a bit and is rather cold/off since our date on Sunday? I really like him and I hope I didn't creep him out. I've known him just under two weeks and I already worry that I've a) ruined everything or b) made him be cold to me because of something I potentially did or said."}
{"id": "t3_330dh5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By taking a joke way too far and ruining someone's hobby", "post": "It started in class, I have two good friends who sit at my table during this period. One is very cynical and truthful and the other has a girlfriend who likes Pokemon and draws (actually really good) Pokemon fan art. The cynical friend finds the girl's account on reddit, and it looks like she traced a piece of art and claimed it as her own. The first friend took my phone and posted a (rather mean in hindsight) comment on her post saying that she shouldn't steal art. I then continued the joke by arguing with the girlfriend during the next period in class in the comment section. She didn't know it was me at the time, so she thought it was someone on the internet attacking her, claiming she stole art. This caused her to delete her account and the second friend told me later that she was crying. I feel really, really bad about it and I wish I had never done it. He told me she never wants to draw again because of it. I have known her for a good year, and she is a really good artist. I feel like I have crushed a butterfly or something because of a bad joke. I'm going to try to make it up to her on Monday when I see them next.", "summary": "I cyberbullied a friend of mine's girlfriend into quitting art and I feel awful."}
{"id": "t3_3xpc0k", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I'[25M] trying to see if it's possible for me to legally adopt my soon to be wi[24F]es son since his birth certificate states no father.", "post": "I am trying to find out if I can adopt my soon to be wife's son. \n\nMy SO has an 18 month old boy who I am very much interested in adopting. But she was told he could not be adopted. In the interest of keeping the child absolutely safe, his fathers name was not put on the birth certificate. (He got addicted to heroine, became very much a flight risk. She split with him when she found out about the drugs, because SO is a drug free individual.) So to ensure he has no rights, she gave the baby her last name and only put her name on the birth certificate. The bio father died of overdose only a couple months after baby was born. She has been my best friend since college, so I have been around the baby his whole life. We stuck up a romantic relationship and the best friend turned lovers thing worked for us. She and I both feel that we want to get married. I've developed into the only father he has known. We want to get married but we want to all have the same last name so he doesn't feel left out when he gets older. \n\nSo to the point, she was told that because there was no fathers name on the birth certificate, essentially no father could sign over their rights to me, since legally he doesn't have a father. That the only way for him to ever be adopted was to prove who the father was, which in this case, he's dead. Is this true? And if so, is there any way around it? Or would it just be a simple straight up adoption?", "summary": "Want to adopt child who legally has no father (not on birth certificate), can it be done?"}
{"id": "t3_3hut1k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[advice] 5 year relationship - Girlfriend [f/23] told me [25/m] she was no longer in love with me but was in love with my best friend", "post": "So my girlfriend told me last week that she was no longer in love with me and wanted to break up. We have been together 5 years and She said we had been drifting apart for a while. I just thought we were going through a rough patch as we have done in the past. She wasn't honest about her feelings for my mate until i read texts on her phone that she had sent him. I had started to notice things between them over the last month or so. They work together and have also been spending a lot of time together outside of work. The problem is she is sure that she no longer had feelings for me and then got feelings for my mate but i know this isn't the case. Only a few months ago we were good and i know she loved me but now she is saying she has been unhappy for 2 years. I have spoken with my mate and he promised to cut contact but it has been 3 weeks now and i know they are still texting. Really i should cut them both out of my life but it will be very hard to cut my mate out as we have so many friends together and play rugby/golf together all the time. I will lose out massively by cutting him out but he doesn't seem to think that he has done something wrong. They seem certain to end up together and i know i won't be able to handle that but cannot do anything about it. He has played a part in the end of my relationship with my girlfriend and is now going to end up with her which i cannot forgive him for. He wants things to be normal when i can't even look at him, i just feel very lost and unsure on what to do. advice please.", "summary": "girlfriend loves best mate and wants relationship with him but i can't handle that and not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3sosj0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 M] life-long friends [20s M] constantly make fun of me", "post": "I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me.\n\nI'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. \n\nIn the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. \n\nI'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged.", "summary": "Friends constantly make fun of me no matter what. Speaking up hasn't helped in the past. Still some good times, but not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1yqmkn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Moving away from husband for 1 year [25F, 25M] Relationship: 6 years", "post": "Length of relationship: about 6 years, 2 years married.\n\nI am moving away from my husband for one year because we are facing a 2-body career problem. We both have great opportunities but on opposite sides of the globe (North America and Asia). The long distance portion of our relationship will end one year from now, when I return and settle down with him near his job.\n\nIn the meantime, facing an entire sexless year is really daunting. I've been lobbying him for a temporarily open relationship (open sex, not love). My main points are:\n\nIf cheating occurs, we will be heartbroken, so why not give the OK\n\nWe're as young and hot as we're ever going to be\n\nWe've never slept with anyone else and may have midlife regrets\n\nAt first he said he'd be okay with it, if I promise to only sleep with women. Then he said, \"Okay, but only if you have a threesome with me before you leave\" (which I ended up balking at because the idea of a threesome seems to awkward to me.) Now he doesn't want to do it at all. He says he's worried he won't be able to find anyone, whereas I am more attractive and could get many partners. \n\nI was hoping someone here might have some advice going forward. I want to convince him to open the relationship, but ultimately I will honor his preference. It's looking like I'm going to have to sit on ice cubes for a year...", "summary": "How to make partner comfortable with open relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1uiy83", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M16] have a huge crush on this girl [F16] but am to afraid to ask her out because of my weight.", "post": "Ok so this girl has been my friend for 3 years, and I never really had a crush on her until now. She is a grade behind me and I rarely got to see her after the year we met but we texted nearly every day since then.  We briefly saw each other my sophomore year and we had a lot of fun that week but she moved away for family reasons. \n\n  During sophomore year I went through a break up with the first person I fell in love with (I say love because I had never experienced the feelings I had for her before or since), and well I found solace in food and really let myself go and I began eating a lot and the habit stuck for a while.  It has been a year and I have recently acknowledged my problem and have made the effort to lose weight. I'm losing weight through diet and exercise and its coming off but slowly. At the moment I am 5'11 and weigh 215 lbs. \n\n  Now, I developed a crush for this girl after going through another problem with the aforementioned \"first love\".  I vented out my my problem to my friend and we talked stuff through. Something happened after that, our conversations changed and we began texting more often.  I don't know why but I began to like her more and more every day and realized how perfect for me she was. \n\n  This was all good and she recently told me she is moving back here. The last time she saw me I was smaller both in height and weight, but the fact that i'm fat now concerns me.  I want to further our relationship but I am very self conscious about my weight and I am too scared to make a move. My question is what do I do?", "summary": "I want to make a move on my crush but I am too scared because I am self conscious about me being overweight."}
{"id": "t3_2z9ae9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (m18) just went through a bad break up.", "post": "Immediately after I broke up with her my friends started comforting me telling me how much of a bitch she was and all that normal stuff. But there was this girl there that also had something against my ex, we talked for a while and she comforted me, even mentioned that she was single several times, but ever since I broke up with my ex I've had terrible issues.\n\nI tried to talk to \"new girl\" , she was literally sitting 3 inches away from me on the couch but I got so anxious and scared of talking to her. Completely lost my breath, started having a panic attack whenever I even thought about trying to talk to her. \n\nThis happened again today to another different girl, she looked at me, smiled as she was passing by, I did the same, but as I made the decision to ask for her number I literally froze awkwardly and just let her walk right past me. I don't know what's wrong with me, my ex did kinda kill a part of me with a 14 page text message on why I'm a piece of shit so maybe my confidence is shattered now.", "summary": "FML"}
{"id": "t3_2c8b0c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] broke a promise to my Gf [21 F] of 3 years about being alone with a specific woman, In my bedroom. But she was helping me move!", "post": "Our relationship has always been a little rocky, because though I have never cheated, I have put myself into negative situations with other women (massages, etc). This was all around 2 years ago. Around that time, I promised I would never have a women alone in my bedroom, especially not K.\n\nWell, K and everyone stayed friends, including my gf. Yesterday, I was moving to my new place, and I had my brother and K over to help move. My brother and I moved the big stuff (made several trips with bed, dresser, clothes, etc while K picked up odds and ends and put them in boxes. My brother headed out around 9:30, and my gf was free to come help at 10. So, for about a half hour, K and I was alone in my apt again.\n\nHere's the thing though, no furniture and I stayed super busy about cleaning the whole time. Nothing happened at all, and there wasn't a bed or privacy (door was open old roommate came and went a few times).\n\nwas very upset at the end of the night, and I couldn't figure out why. When she eventually told me, she said she was upset because I broke a promise. I asked which promise and she was angry I didn't remember. She tolde, and I immediately owned up and apologized after I remember. I told her that I am very sorry I broke that promise, that nothing happened, we were both cleaning/packing (I was cleaning my master bathroom, her packing the bedroom, getting nails off the wall).\n\nI would love some perspective, some ideas what to do, or some guidance in what to do know. My gf said \"she doesn't know if she can trust me anymore when I say that nothing happened.\"", "summary": "I broke a promise to my GF. I would love ideas/perspective/what to do now. "}
{"id": "t3_109cp9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "And the worst husband of the year award goes to me! Been married 6 days and lost my wedding ring in the Ocean at Siesta beach in Siesta Keys Florida.", "post": "Went to the beach this morning being on our Honeymoon for just the second day and like an idiot I wore my slightly too big ring in the water with me. Swam out to the sand bar and was just floating with my hands under/behind me in the sand and when I went to get up it just floated off my finger and away. About 10 very nice people slowly gathered around us and started helping me and my new wife look for it. One gentleman even found an older guy with a metal detector and swam him out to help us. I can't thank all of them enough for taking almost an hour out of their vacations to help us look for it. I know the general area I lost but its a big area and it could have traveled quite a bit. The guy with the metal detector said he will go back tomorrow morning at low tide and try to find it but I'm not keeping my hopes up. Of course I will also try to find it then and thankfully this is the gulf and there are not many waves. What I want to know are there any redditors out there that have been through a similar situation and found their ring? Any tips for me?", "summary": "Lost my wedding ring in the ocean. Any tips on how to maximize my chances of finding it?"}
{"id": "t3_546wl4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26f] Question for guys", "post": "When I was 18 there was a group of guy friends I hung out with a lot, mostly for video games.\n\nIn this group were 4 guys who were childhood friends, one of whom I was really physically attracted to. I never had a chance cause I wasn't his type. One of the other 4 seemed to really like me over the years. Initially I didn't want to date him since I had a thing for his friend and that seemed weird. When I was 18 I finally tried to give him a chance and found I really liked him.\nWe hung out alone a few times and there was one moment I remember feeling really connected to this guy, but we didn't really formally date. I found out later I was the only one who didn't seem to think we were officially 'dating'.\nI knew I wasn't in a position where I wanted a serious relationship, I was young and had things I wanted to try before settling down and he meant something to me in the settling down way so I dated someone else.\n\nThis really hurt him and he told me not to speak to him again after that.\n\nFast forwarding to 2016, I accepted a marriage proposal from a guy who is basically perfect. Handsome, great job and future, makes me laugh and smile and I know I will have a very happy future with him.\n\nThe guy from when I was 18 hasn't spoken to me since, and vice versa, though he has for whatever reason been on my mind since. I wouldn't say I love him, I don't think I could logically speaking, but there is some feeling that I need to do something about before I can feel I can get married.\n\nHe is in a relationship as far as I know, though I don't know how serious it is.\n\nMy question for guys is how weird would it be for me to try and really contact him again?\nThis seems to be really bothering me and regardless of what I have done the feeling won't shake. I would feel uncomfortable getting married to my fiancee without having this resolved in some way.", "summary": "guy I really liked when I was 18 told me not to speak to him after I didn't date him but now I am getting married at 26 and still have some kind of feelings."}
{"id": "t3_288i9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationships: Should I [16 F] try to keep the friendship with my crush [17 M]?", "post": "So I met my friend just last year during summer school. It was a blast and I had no feelings whatsoever while some of our friends thought he did for me. I denied it profusely, even though none of us had a clue.\n\nThen summer school was over and absence made my heart grow fonder. We hung out a few times over the course of months, but I was usually busy with school work. The thing is, after each time we hung out, the crush feeling was replaced with what I can describe as relief mix with happiness.\n\nAlso throughout the months, I tried get rid of the crush feeling, as I know it would only complicate things further far more than I want. But for some reason, the feeling stuck along with thinking I could just tell him everything, all my thoughts and feelings. I just didn't know how to execute this.\n\nIn February, I overheard (because I earvesdropped like the little bitch I am) that he has a girlfriend. Now, I don't hate this girl in the slightest. I knew her before I knew of his existence and she has done nothing wrong to me. She's really nice actually. But holy shit, my heart was crushed and I felt like crying at that moment. Again, I tried to let go of the crush feeling since it's really useless. And again, it stayed.\n\nNow, it's been about 2 months since I talked to him. I do see him because we both have summer school for different reasons and we haven't even muttered a word, let alone a hello. Yet, I really do miss him and I would gladly be just his friend. I would rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. Although, I do have his number, but I can't bring myself to text him. I think I bother him even though he said before I would never bother him.\n\nShould I close the door or try to be friends?", "summary": "My friend/crush and I haven't talked for 2 month. I still want to be friends for all it's worth, but the relationship seems nonexistent."}
{"id": "t3_2prci4", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I got on the scale today. I have't weighed this much since I was 8 months pregnant, and no, that is NOT a good thing.", "post": "I am 6ft Female, and at my original/goal weight, I weigh 160. \n\nToday, I got on the scale and I'm 221.\n\nI've been doing so poorly lately. Eating sugar, losing hope, not really caring anymore. Like, what's the point? I'm already covered in stretch marks. Even if I did lose the weight, no one is going to look at me anymore. \n\nI think it's really just one thing on top of another. I'm fat, I shaved my head a couple years ago and it still looks awful with how long it is(n't), obviously I have no muscle definition, my entire torso is covered in these damn lines. \nIt's so frustrating.\n\nPlease, I need your guys help, pep talks, motivating words. PLEASE!", "summary": "I'm fat and my looks are making me unmotivated. Need pep talks, help, etc."}
{"id": "t3_1jhdm5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[29M] Worried that I may never be about to be monogamous", "post": "After a good amount of relationships and dating I am starting to notice a trend with myself. After a while I find it hard to keep focused or interested in one girl and start looking for something \"new and exciting\". Part of it I think is I really enjoy meeting new people, learning about their lives and then experiencing new things with them. So after dating someone or being in a relationship for a while I often feel the need or just gravitate toward someone else who sparks my interest even if I know its not a long term deal. From there if anything I get fulfillment out of learning and talking to them about their views, life etc. Also the enjoyment of their different hobbies, likes or experiences we do together.\n---\nIdeally I know I one day want a family and kids, but I am not sure how I can stay in a long term relationship with this mindset and feeling. I know maybe I haven't found \"the one\" or been in true love, but I often wonder if I had the one, or am capable of just wanting to be with one person.", "summary": "I find it hard for a single girl to capture my attention for long periods of time and then start looking for something new. But I know I dont want to be single forever."}
{"id": "t3_1yh1rw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] about my coworker [20F], need tips how to start talking", "post": "Me and this one girl have been working at the same place for awhile now, I'm just having trouble with figuring out a way to start talking with her without coming off as creepy. I work at this place full time where as she works just on weekends, since she attends college during the week. It's a retail job, so weekends are very busy.\n\nI am able to talk to her in short amounts of time during the days she actually does work, but don't feel that it really amounts to much more than just chit chat. It's almost always a customer needing to be helped or me being needed somewhere else as to why we never get more than a few minutes to chat.\n\nOver the times that we have talked, she seems to be a very sweet and energetic person, someone I'd like to get to know more. I feel that just outright asking for her number is weird since we talk for only a few minutes a day if she does work. I'd like to be able to talk to her more and get to know more about who she is. After that, eventually see if she's got some interest in me, and then go from there.\n\nWould it be weird of me to ask for her number in a situation like this (in one of these brief encounters)? If so, what are some ways that I could get her number without coming off as creepy? This is my biggest issue. I don't really have a problem with talking to someone and getting to know them, but the fact that I don't really get much of a chance to interact with her makes this situation seem like it could come off in the wrong way.", "summary": "Brief time of being able to talk to girl at work since she doesn't work too often. Not sure how to get number without coming off as creepy. Tips?"}
{"id": "t3_f726c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, New apartment, creepy neighbor is filming me! Advice?", "post": "I just moved into a new apartment, it's in an older house and the rental agency isn't the most professional. Upon moving in I noticed a man (aprox late 50's in age, heavy eastern european accent) who lives in one of the apartments above me walking around the premises with a small video camera. \n\nThis creeped me out so I sent an e-mail to my landlord who's response was simply, \"Oh that's so and so, he loves his camera but he's mostly harmless\". Ok, so I ignore him. As my weeks have been going buy i've seen him several other times, but i've noticed he only pulls his camera out when he sees me or other tenants and never by himself. Today I asked him very politely if he could stop filming me, and his answer was rushed and loud \n\n\"It is not illegal in this country, you people need to wake up, wake up. This is not illegal\" \n\nI tried to reason and explain that I wasn't trying to stop him from filming but only that I just did not wish to be a part of it. He kept repeating himself as he walked backwards up the stairs to his entrance. I live in Ontario Canada, and as far as I know it is completely legal to film people in public. I don't want to lock this guy up or anything I just don't want to be a part of his movie collection.\n\nAnyways Reddit, if someone could help me out with a little advice on how to approach this situation I would appreciate it.", "summary": "Creepy old dude filming people around my apartment complex, asked nicely for him to stop, he yells at me about his rights."}
{"id": "t3_nysb0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Wife and I are in rocky times...", "post": "My wife puts up with a lot from me. I'm constantly working, always busy, and sometimes distant. When we got engaged I didn't even get down on one knee. I left the ring and flowers on our table with a note that said \"will you?\" She's never been a fan of that. I take care of the lion's share of the chores at home, but only because she's in grad school.\n\nLast week I made out with a girl that I wasn't married to. That's cheating. I've never done anything like that before but I did last week. I hate myself for it. \n\nMy wife found out. We split ways on Friday. This morning we decided it would be best to split assets amicably. We met at our house and made a list. I was in the wrong. I messed up. I didn't want anything. She could have it all. I'm not going to make her pay for my mistake.\n\nWhen I went to leave she began to cry. She said she didn't want me to go. I didn't want to. I love my wife. We sat down, sobbed, she yelled. She hadn't yelled at me yet. I felt better when she yelled at me. \n\nShe blamed herself. I kept telling her not to. I fucked up. I put my lips against another woman's. It wasn't worth it. I lost a life that made me happy.\n\nWhen I went to leave she grabbed me by the arm. She said \"don't go. I don't want a life without you.\" \n\nI said \"but how can you ever trust me?\" she said \"I don't know can we get counselling?\" I said yes. On January 1st 2012 my wife and I said \"we will make our marriage work.\"\n\nI'm not starting this out the way it has been going. I'm going to repropose to her. She deserves a proposal she can gloat about. Reddit, i'm asking you to help me think of some insane, over the top, out of control proposal that would make her the envy of all her friends.", "summary": "cheated on wife, she took me back, we're getting help, i need to repropose to her."}
{"id": "t3_bdurf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A homeless man just denied my food because he is vegetarian and the food I was offering had meat in it. Is this noble or stupid?", "post": "I'm a college kid and sometimes I buy pre-made turkey sandwiches with meal points I don't use and give them out to homeless people I see on the street. Today I offered someone one of these sandwiches and he (politely) rejected it because of his vegetarianism. I asked him why he was vegetarian and he answered with a typical \"I don't condone the torture of animals\" response. I told him to have a nice day and walked away wondering if he was noble or stupid for limiting his already limited food options, and can't really decide. What does Reddit think?", "summary": "pro-animal rights homeless people: noble or stupid?"}
{"id": "t3_2t97ob", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Make me print a 30 page syllabus? No tech help for you!", "post": "My first day back at school for the semester. Teachers normally provides us with a syllabus explaining the class and it's expectations. Every teacher I've ever had provided us with a paper copy of the syllabus no matter how long or complex it was. This teacher does not. She explains to us that if her syllabus isn't printed out by the next class, she will deduct 50 points from our final grade at the end of the semester. Very mature. Now keep in mind this syllabus is 30 pages long. 15 pages front and back. That's a lot of paper and toner for me. I have a Brother laserjet with duplex capabilities. It's the best printer ever.\n\nNormally when teachers have tech issues, I would normally offer my help since I'm very familiar with classroom technology. This teacher is trying to figure out how to plug the HDMI cable into her Macbook to show us a presentation. Macbooks do not have HDMI ports. And she doesn't have the adapter. This will be fun to watch. She grabs the VGA cable. Nope. No VGA port on her Macbook and she doesn't have the adapter for it either. She plugs in the 3.5mm audio cable into her computer expecting to see video on the projector. The students are no help. They're attempting to turn off the projector and back on and one student even offered his Macbook to see if that'll work. Needless to say, it didn't.\n\nInside, i was laughing so hard that my gut hurt. Outside, I remained perfectly calm.", "summary": "Too lazy to make us copies of the syllabus? I'm not helping you with your computer. But that's just me."}
{"id": "t3_rqrxb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I wrong for not wanting to go to a child's funeral?", "post": "I will say a few things first. I was very close to this little boy,  although we were not related (my mom and I would babysit him since he was 1). My mom and I were very close to the little boy because his mother had passed away, and we like to think we served as mother figures to him. His dad is an asshole. Without going into too much detail, he is a drunk and is known for starting conflicts with people. I strongly dislike him with a passion. There is also a lot of drama surrounding the death of the child, and I don't want to be a part of it. Also, looking at him in the casket would be too painful for me. I don't wanna remember him in a box. I'd rather keep all the happy memories we shared.  I am currently away at college, and going home for the funeral would consist of me missing 5 days of school. I'm so confused, my mom really wants me to go, but I don't want to.", "summary": "Little boy that I was close to passed away. Mom wants me to go to funeral, but I hate the kid's dad, there's a lot of drama, and I can't afford to miss school."}
{"id": "t3_4qpima", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "A note to her and anyone else that feels like reading", "post": "We started off in the oddest of fashions: You were 6 months our of a relationship with your on-again-off-again boyfriend. I had been out of a relationship for a few months. \n\nYou would always come to my work to climb on your own. Every Sunday, I'd drop by to say hi. We got to talking a lot. You even joined my climbing club. \n\nThen on Valentine's Day onwards we started messaging and talking more. After St Paddy's Day, we went for a walk in the hills together. You came to my work for a training course. We went camping together. I made you a steak dinner. We've done all the things an outdoorsy couple do. \n\nThen recently you start acting weird when we're together. Something has changed and you won't tell me. You said we'll chat when you're back from your trip. You're away for two weeks. It's killing me that even right now, you aren't unavailable to chat. You have your phone. You have the Internet.\n\nWe've chatted super briefly the last few days. What's going on with you? That's all I want to know. \n\nI'm a positive person, but the last message you sent me had an ominous tone to it. Like this is going to end. \n\nIf that was the case, you've been acting weird for the last month. You've had ample opportunity to do so. Why now? When there's a two week delay in it. Was it only because I've called you on it?\n\nThe reason I'm writing this is because I don't have anyone nearby at the minute to talk to. So I'm posting to Reddit because at least then, maybe I can find a random corner of the Internet that someone will see this and be able to relate to how I'm feeling; a mix of sadness, anger and heartache that you feel you can't talk to me.", "summary": "Started dating a girl. Goes well for a while. She starts acting weird. I call her on it. We'll chat when she's back in two weeks. I bitch and moan some more. What's going on? Any ideas any one?"}
{"id": "t3_k40ns", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Hopelessly in Love with a Coworker who is getting Married in October. Help...", "post": "I'm a 24 year old guy, my female coworker is 26 and ever since she started working here, we've had a playful, happy, and fun relationship. We help each other solve work problems and relate about just about everything. She was engaged when she started here and I don't think she's making the right decision... The guy is 38, balding, and has three kids with some other woman. She's told me about relationship issues she's had in the past, the outcomes of which have made me wonder if she's just settling for this guy because of emotional issues. I don't know how to ask, I don't know how to tell her how I feel, and my instinct is to just let things happen and keep my mouth shut... But I love being with her more than anything else in my life. I don't know if she feels the same and just doesn't want to say anything.", "summary": "In love with coworker, she's getting married next month. FUCK."}
{"id": "t3_2nb1ya", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Opportunity of a lifetime (for a young cat enthusiast)", "post": "Currently I am out of a job for about a month after 3 long years working for a major retail company. I am planning to stay far away from retail at least for now and am finally ready to hunker down and apply. Yay!\n\nI live north of Portland, OR where the most beautiful establishment i could possibly think of is about to become a reality.\nPurrington's Cat Lounge.\n\nThis place is literally perfect for me, with a cafe' that sells beer and wine, yummy foods, and has a lounge to be filled with CATS. \n\nThe application process is extremely easy, just an emailed resume and attached cover letter. I am pretty comfortable with my resume, but I've got a few questions on how to make my cover letter perfect.\n\nFirst, I think everyone knows Portland is a little eccentric and maybe not so run of the mill. Opening up a Cat Cafe, well you get it.\n\nMy resume is extremely professional so I wondering if I could get away with a very passionate cat crazed letter?\nI don't want the letter to be overly \"young\"? \nIve got tons of customer service background, and even cafe' background. But I'm just wondering how far i should take this. For instance, i have 3 cat tattoos (that still could be hidden if needed), 4 cats at home and never ending love for all things Meow.\n\nMaybe i'm just trying to ask, what would you do if something perfect for you came up and you dont want to blow it?", "summary": "Cat Cafe is possibly perfect job for me, how far do i go in writing this cover letter to show my enthusiasm while not be a laughable candidate"}
{"id": "t3_22n0cu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] am getting so annoyed by my coworker [40s?/M]", "post": "I am the receptionist at work, and I have a coworker who will just not shut up sometimes. I am not a big gossiper, nor do I like to spend a lot of time being negative. There IS such a thing as someone who complains way too much. Also, he is one of those people who do not heed any advice you give out. I think he just likes to hear himself talk. \n\nIt's annoying because I feel like I'm trapped at my desk, stuck in (a one-sided) conversation with him, and I feel like he knows it. I feel like I can't get any work done. I was almost done with one of my tasks, and he just starts babbling about this, that, and the other. I've tried putting an earbud in to listen to music (I can't put both in because I have to answer the phones/it looks unprofessional). BUT HE STILL TRIES TO TALK OVER IT. He'll even try to fucking talk to me while I'm clearly on the phone. It's not even important work things. It's just him wanting to complain about something again, or talk about how super drunk he got the night before, or about how his wife eats seaweed wraps all the time and it grosses him out. I've tried just getting up and leaving my desk to go organize random stuff around the office, but again, small company, he'll just run into me in a few minutes and ask me what I'm doing. This happens about 3-4 times a day of him just standing in the lobby and talking at me. I can't outright tell him to leave me alone or to shut up because we work at a tiny company of about 50 people. I hate the way he talks, and it's really getting on my nerves. \n\nOkay this is mostly a rant, but seriously, is there any polite, straightforward way of telling him to fuck off and let me do my work in peace and quiet?!", "summary": "Coworker loves to gossip/chit-chat way too much. Distracting from work, driving me crazy. Need help finding ways to tell him he's being a douchebag and to leave me alone."}
{"id": "t3_3tw9oo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [17 M] with a [17 F] girlfriend of several months and a random girl approached me requesting social media contact information.", "post": "Just to clarify this isn't a huge deal or anything. I just want to make sure I get another parties thoughts on the situation. So I was at a coffee shop for the majority of the day working on paperwork and whatnot to the point of closing time nearing. I notice a few very attractive girls (assuming they're all friends) walk in and order their coffee, yada yada. As I continue my work I notice them glance at me a few times casually, no biggy. About an hour passes and they begin to leave. One of them runs back over to where I'm sitting and asks me if I have an Instagram while rambling that she'll get some money from her friends if she gets my info. Trying to be nice and help her win the bet/dare/whatever I enter it in and she scurries off seemingly happy. I then realize that she (or one of her friends) may have found me attractive and I technically gave my contact info to her... Within the next couple of minutes she and her friends all followed me (on social media, no stalked haha) and the one who asked liked all my photos. I am very fond of my girlfriend and our relationship as a whole. I just feel strange and somewhat flattered by this random attractive girl approaching me. Regardless, I would never pursue such a thing given my current happy status in life. My question is, how should I respond to the Instagram stuff? As in, should I A) Ignore it and move on B) Follow them back to be nice and chill, no biggy C) Message the girl stating my current relationship and how I do not wish to pursue anything nicely D) Block her and pretend like it never happened. Thanks", "summary": "Attractive girl showed slight interest through real life request to social media info. I'm currently in a happy relationship and do not wish to pursue."}
{"id": "t3_20rhd6", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "x/posted How should I tell my daughter that I am not her biological dad?", "post": "I am trying to plan for when and how I should tell my daughter that she is not biologically mine.She is only 10 months so I have plenty of time. \n\nBackground: when my wife and I were beginning to try for our second, she got pregnant by my friend at the time. I'm cool with that part, we have an unorthodox relationship. He freaked and wanted nothing to do with the situation and bailed after he found out abortion wasn't going to happen. She has been my daughter the whole time, I am legally her father, and I will always be her dad. \n\nI want to be completely honest with her in the future if she wants to know about her bio dad, and will be completely supportive if she wants to track him down (we have saved information for her). My only worry is that I do not want her to feel bad that she is not biologically mine, or that someone would not want to be a part of her life.", "summary": "I'm her dad. Bio dad is a piece of shit. I don't want her to feel bad, but I want to be honest with her."}
{"id": "t3_3u6goy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wifes f 25 brother m 22 reported me m 30 to police over a petty parking violation.", "post": "A few months ago i had my brother in law report me to police over a petty violation. My work trailer was parked on street and he complained it was out from the curb to far. Police officer was nice and didnt seem concerned. no ticket no warning nothing. How am i supposed to have him in our lives again when he clearly hates me. With christmas coming how am i supposed to sit down with my wifes family knowing that he hates me? The family is aware of what happened and nothing is ever said about it or anything its like im just supposed to forget it happened. I told my wife i didnt want him to have anything to do with us but now we have christmas. How am i supposed to enjoy the holidays with someone that wants to hurt us?", "summary": "brother in law calls cops on me now supposed to have christmas with wifes family"}
{"id": "t3_nsfr7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear Reddit, any idea what may be my issue?", "post": "My ex boyfriend, whom I am almost sure I fell in love with, and I, broke up almost 7 months ago. \nI rarely have any thoughts about me and him still being together or still wishing that we were together. I just don't think about him that often anymore, but sometimes I still do. \nBut, when I'm around him or see things update by him or his family members on facebook, I still feel like I've received a punch in the gut. Yet, when we're hanging out in a group, it's a bit awkward, but I'm not completely uncomfortable, and seeing him talk to other girls in person and what-not, does not bother me so much as I would think it would. \n\nSo, my issue is: I've had a few men that have taken an interest in me and I consider them, but when we exchange phone numbers or facebook names..  I just have no desire to pursue any further. Maybe become friends with them, sure, but romantically there's just no desire there. At first, I'll think maybe their nice looking and think there is potential there, but it's almost like as soon as we share a phone call or a texting conversation I rule them out as anything more than a friend, and it's almost like I start finding them unattractive. \nCould I possibly still not be over my ex enough to take an interest in dating again.. which speaking of dating, I'm the type of girl that would rather date my friend or best friend than go straight onto the path of potential dating with a guy I hardly know.\nSo, do any of you possibly see what the issue might be that I may be missing? I would think that 7 months would be enough time to get over someone enough that you would be able to appreciate others in a romantic-sense and be able to put yourself out there again.\n\nHelp?", "summary": "My ex and I broke up around 7 months ago and I'm having issues with taking any romantic interest with any guy that at first, seems to be perfect, but then I change my mind. always. :/"}
{"id": "t3_ozlc8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: What does it take to break into the music industry as an A&R representative?", "post": "Apologize for the throw away account. \n\nMy friend is interested in in making his way into the mainstream music industry as an A&R representative. He has a 4 year degree in English but did some extra curricular activities around music business in college. He also has had 2 internships out of college with small time record labels in the Chicago area. He has been trying for a few years now with no success. He lives in Chicago but has moved to LA for a year. He returned recently to Chicago. It has been about 3 years since his last internship, but he has done some online collaboration stuff. Still far and few in between. \n\nMy question is what path have any of you taken to make your way into the record industry? Is networking the only important thing? Is there a set of skills that are specifically looked for?", "summary": "Any tips or plans of attack on how to go about getting a job in the music industry as an A&R representative? Any specific skills they look for?"}
{"id": "t3_3a8y9c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [21F] never attracted to someone once I find out they're attracted to me. What's wrong with me?", "post": "I don't know why this is but I have a hard time being attracted to and liking someone who expresses an interest in me. Like if a friend of a friend shows interest in me, I won't care. \n\nBut if I meet someone who'd never be interested in me, I suddenly cant get him out of my head. \n\nFor a while I had the mindset that, \"if he thinks I'm hot/if he's interested in me, there must be something wrong with him.\" Sometimes I'd be repulsed by guys in college who'd hit on me or try to flirt with me.\n\nDon't judge me please because I know this is wrong but I met someone a couple years older than me and we started off as great friends. But sexual tension formed and things got complicated. I really like him, he's a good friend to me, and I can't get enough of talking to him. He has a gf but I can't help how I feel. I know this is wrong and I've talked about this with him so we're limiting our interaction completely.\n\nBut yeah, why am I like this?", "summary": "Why am I repulsed by men who are interested in me and interested in ones I can never have?"}
{"id": "t3_2uiall", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20, F] always get bored of my relationships.", "post": "About 3-6 months into a relationship, I feel like I always get bored. It's not that we'll get into an argument or anything, I'll just be uninterested. A few months in, I'll be less and less interested in the intimacy, and then I'll just be completely uninterested in the relationship.\n\nIt began in high school, when I would start getting bored with relationships. Then I met a guy and we were 9 months in and I never, not even for a second, got bored of him. I really thought we would make it. But, ironically enough, the one boy I never got bored of, got bored of me and cheated on me. Since then, I've been kind of a commitment phobe and stayed away from relationships for 2.5 years. I decided I was ready to date after my friend and I seemed to have mutual feelings for each other; we were great, then 3 months in, the boredom hit. I thought maybe we just weren't right for each other. Dated another guy I really thought would be long-term and 6 months in, the boredom hit.\n\nI want to fall in love, I want to get married, I want to have a family. But I'm really concerned that I'll never get there. \n\nI so desperately want to be able to entirely commit and not get bored, but am I just kidding myself? Is that just a fairytale? \n\nAny words of advice or wisdom for me, redditors?", "summary": "I always get bored in my relationships after 3-6 months."}
{"id": "t3_2gb8vf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by farting in an elevator.", "post": "I was in a busy mall elevator with a guy that weighed 300lbs, an elderly couple, and some punk ass black teenagers.\n\nJust as the doors closed, I farted. I meant to do so quietly but it was audible. Immediately the black teenagers lose their shit. They assume it's the fat guy who they start cussing out. He can barely get any words out before they start punching him. At this point the elevator has come to a stop and me and the elderly couple have noped the fuck out of there as they are kicking the fat guy as he is now slumped on the floor holding his face.", "summary": "farted in an elevator, fat guy gets his ass kicked."}
{"id": "t3_3g35uc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26 M] with [22 F] in online friendship, F is lesbian, M likes F, stay or leave ?", "post": "First time posting in reddit, so I am not sure I am asking it right. But I am not sure how or where to ask it. Curiosity and doubt are burning like hot potatoes in my pocket and I implore reddit to give some insights on this.\n\nI met a lesbian, or so as she says online a few months back.  We met through a game and we chat everyday. We are both Chinese Asians.\n\nShe is rather antisocial and spends most of her time playing games after college. After graduating, she sent me a photo of herself. This is when it gets a bit wrong. She is pretty and I started to have feelings for her and asked her a few times. Naturally she rejected me and still agrees to stay as friends. She joked a few times saying if I was female she won't hesitate to like me though and begin a relationship. As of now, she says it is fine whether I am there or not, she just wants someone to chat to.\n\nNow I am wondering, should I still be friends with her to support her views ? Should I accept how it is and continue to be friends with her, hoping one day I can meet her and let her loosen up her views on the opposite sex, or should I just bolt like a coward and find someone else ? \n\nThank you for reading my drivel.", "summary": "OP likes a girl online, girl is lesbian but doesn't dislike OP, should OP stay to as friends or find someone else ?"}
{"id": "t3_3f5dfx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "White 'murican ignorance: Getting a job while illegal?", "post": "The wife of my co-worker just quit due to our job having pretty arbitrarily enforced rules (it can be maddening), and I recommended to her husband another place that she would likely enjoy more where a friend of mine works. \n\nHis english is good not great and I speak practically none of his native tongue, so our communication took some effort, but here's what I got.\n\nHe asked me to pick him up and drive him to this place (ive never been) so he can fill out an application (he wants to work with his wife so he'd get the job first and then she would join maybe?) and then he told me that he was illegal, had social security and green card (showed them to me even) but said they were expired, and implied that his wife was less legal than that.\n\nSo, it seems weird that he wants me to take him there; was there a communication failure that he thinks I have some power at this place to get him past the hiring check or that I know it well? If so, how do I clarify that I only heard about the job and that they might still be hiring. Or is he maybe hoping that I'll use my id to get his wife hired (i won't). So strangers, may I please have some information on how i can help a relative stranger with information and not a ride in my car?...meta...", "summary": "What's getting a job like for those with expired green cards? Do you need a citizen to 'vouch' for you? What if you don't have anything, is it just either hope nobody checks or steal an identity?"}
{"id": "t3_36r9z0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Texas: Is no lawyer follow-up normal?", "post": "I recently discovered I have a warrant. I called my lawyer on Monday 5/18 and was told that they were going to contact the warrants division to find out what kind of warrant and what needs to be done for me to clear it. \n\nIt's now Thursday and I haven't heard a word from them. I'm all for giving people the time to do their job with little unnecessary interference on my part, so before I start pestering them, I'm wondering if not hearing back is normal? \n\nBackground:\nI was arrested for possession of 1/8 grams of marijuana last July. I was fingerprinted, booked, and released all within 30 minutes. No mention of bail was ever made at that time. I retained this lawyer immediately following my arrest ($1500 which I paid immediately) and was told they couldn't do anything until a court date or warrant was issued. I was told by the cops that I would receive a notice in the mail with a court date. It never came, and my name (still) does not show up in any state/county warrant search websites. I called the warrants division every two weeks for about three months and my name was never found. I stopped calling after that. \n\nThe ONLY reason I know that I have a warrant is because I have a friend on the police force. I have a good job and recently discovered that in order to have access to a certain software application, I have to go through a criminal history check. I asked my police friend to look up my name and sure enough, he found that I have a warrant, which led me to contact my lawyer on 5/18, haven't heard back, which led me to this question. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just want to get this overwith already.", "summary": "lawyer told me they'd call me back after they find out details of my warrant, it's been 2 days with no word, need to know if this is normal before I start being persistent."}
{"id": "t3_2ugjpl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can my LDR boyfriend (31/M) and I (24/F) build trust after it's been broken??", "post": "Basically...my boyfriend cheated, in my eyes. He got emotionally involved with an ex and I caught him. He was aware I was sensitive about this ex and he disregarded my emotions and continued talking to her in a sexual manner. He has said sorry and promised to stop contacting her and I think he has, to an extent. But he has moved away since for a new job opportunity and wants me to move with him when I'm done with school. Meanwhile I'm constantly worried he is being unfaithful....one of the conditions we made when resolving the lying with his ex was that he would be completely transparent and open with me about things. I thought over communication would help with our long distance and trust issues and he agreed. He promised he would talk to me about where he was and who he's with just so we can build trust and to include me in his day to day life.\n\nBut he's not been as open as he said he would be. He withholds names (I think he thinks I'll freak if he's with a woman) but the fact that he's hiding things is what's bothering me. I just don't know how to stop jumping to conclusions after what happened between us.", "summary": "my boyfriend disrespected our relationship by covering up sexual text messages with an ex. We stayed together but I don't trust him especially now that we're long distance. How do we build trust?"}
{"id": "t3_1cngkf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you guys feel about overdose?", "post": "So I attend a high school, and today, we found out that a student that most of us were with in junior high died from an overdose on Xanax. Of course, the general reaction was sympathy, with multiple Facebook updates about how they wish they would've known \"Bob\" better, or RIP Bob, and so on...\n\nHowever, personally, I did not care for how he died. There are many different sides to whether he was a good kid, or a complete asshole, but I feel like even if he was a saint, it wouldn't take away from the fact that he died from doing something incredibly stupid such as overdose.\n\nNow, someone updated their status asking why one should feel sympathetic for someone dying from an overdose, and a friend decided to comment with this...\n\n\"You should feel sympathy because it's sad and people make mistakes. Does that fact that they died because of drugs somehow mean they aren't worth anything?\"\n\nTo that, I would answer, \"No, I doubt the person is necessarily saying Bob is worthless, but he definitely didn't do something smart. And if people were tolerated on a daily basis for their mistakes, then we'd have a lot of stupid people out on the streets committing \"mistakes\", ending up as a burden on society.\"\n\nAnyways, how do you guys feel about others dying on overdose? What was your reaction when you heard a family member/friend/acquaintance died of a drug overdose?", "summary": "i r boring, wat u feel abt drug OD?"}
{"id": "t3_4svbt7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [24m] of 5 years wants to join the army, and wants me [265f] to stay with him", "post": "Hello!\n\nMy boyfriend  [24m] of 5 years revealed the news to me [25 f] that he is enlisting in the army. I'm a whirlwind of emotions, and I'm unsure how to react. I graduated college a year ago, and he graduated this last spring. He had spoken of the possibility of enlisting after school, but I didn't think anything would come of it. Now he's enlisting next month! We've spoken about marriage, having kids, and moving to another area. This changes everything. I'm scared I won't be able to handle not seeing him for months at a time, since we have been living together for nearly 4 years. \n\nI love my boyfriend, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I'm not sure what to do. His enlistment is 4 years. I just can't imagine uprooting my own life, leaving a well paying job I love, and leaving family. I would also want to wait to have a family because I wouldn't want our kids to deal with not seeing their father, but what happens when he reenlists and becomes a career military man? \n\nIf we break up it will be unbelievable hard. I've planned already to spend the rest of my life with him. If we stay together my fear is that something will tear us apart. I don't want to be another failed military marriage. \n\nPlease help, I'm so desperate for advice!", "summary": "my boyfriend [24m] of 5 years is enlisting in the army and I  [25f] have no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2lzq5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] have a hard time keeping track of my boyfriend's [22M] sex drive?", "post": "We've been together about a year and a half, and it's been wonderful. Some bumps but we've gotten through it. \n\nThe first ~6 months of our relationship were great with lots of intimacy/touching/sex. Our compatibility was 100% spot on. As things do, it quieted down as the relationship progressed. He's a very intense person and can get very involved with things - in this case, his new job. He started back August and since then his attention and focus has been very much on work. Not to say we haven't had sex, it just seems to be much further back in his mind than it has previously. \n\nI've questioned him on it a few times (and it's turned into fights a few times too\u2026) and he just says that sometimes it's just completely not on his mind for weeks at a time. Of course, this can get frustrating for me especially when I make advances that are brushed off. It's not like he doesn't take the time to call me beautiful or spend time being physically intimate, like cuddling\u2026 it's just that sex isn't on his radar. \n\nThis has happened before a few times earlier in the relationship as well when he was in school but I guess it's more pronounced with the new job. I just find myself getting increasingly frustrated about trying to guess if he's on or off this week. I'm trying to be patient and understanding because the last thing I want to do is force or guilt him into it. Obviously I want to try and be understanding of how he feels because I do truly love him, but I'm kind of lacking insight onto how men act with this sort of thing. \n\nWe don't live together so it's not like I can always tell when he's feeling it - I usually get to see him at the end of a work day which doesn't really help. \n\nI'd like to work on this and keep us both happy. How should I talk to him about it? What kinds of things do you think would help us navigate this issue?", "summary": "Boyfriend's sex drive fluctuates like crazy \u2026 struggling with how to keep a handle on it."}
{"id": "t3_374js6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am in a relationship with Lisa [21F], who has very wealthy parents. Starting to think finance views could be a problem.", "post": "I started dating Lisa my freshman year of college, and things have always been fantastic. The only issue which concerns me about our future is our differing relationships with money. \n\nI was brought up fairly humbly, and try to evaluate my purchases carefully; I held a variety of jobs in my teens and won a scholarship to pay for school, although I certainly have my share of privilege. Lisa was born into an extremely wealthy family (they own a private plane). I believe Lisa has developed incredible personal drive, achieving admission to our top college, great internships, and is very very intelligent. However, I've noticed a few things (\"orange flags\"?) that have started to bother me and make me wonder if arguments over finance lurk down the road. \n\n-Lisa always talks about her guilt at her expensive lifestyle ($3000/mo apartment in a medium sized city, Mercedes, $60k tuition paid entirely by parents) but does little to become self-sufficient. \n\n-She seems surprised and a little taken aback when we shop and the bill reaches to several hundred dollars, as if she didn't check the price before the items went into the cart. \n\n-She neglects to save money on mundane things (using Uber Black instead of the regular service, ordering food she doesn't eat at restaurants, paying late fees because she waited until the last minute to change a flight, \"investing\" in a $400 set of sheets at age 21). This particularly bothers me, because it just seems so wrong to throw money down the drain, although it's completely within her rights. \n\nAll of these things point to basic differences about the way we see finances. While I will be entering a very lucrative STEM field post graduation, she studies humanities and will likely remain dependent on her parents. I doubt either of us will need to financially support the other at any point, but I'm wondering if there's danger ahead if we ever choose to marry or join finances. Please don't get the wrong idea of Lisa; she's incredibly kind, loving, and fun, and would die if she read this. How big of an issue is this, wise Internet strangers?", "summary": "Girlfriend is amazing and rich but doesn't value money and I'm afraid this might become a big problem."}
{"id": "t3_1g8zvw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Funniest/Most-Memorable Accidental Nudity You Have Witnessed?", "post": "Mine is as follows: \n\nSo Senior year; my Biology class gets an assignment. Real easy stuff. We each just had to research an animal and create a power point about it. For the project we had to include it's food chain, family, genus... etc... \nAnyways, the teacher tells us we can get bonus points if we bring in an animal to show the class..\nI kid you not, one girl decides to have her dad come in and bring a monkey that he fostered to show the class. At that point no one really gave two shits about any presentation except for hers..\nThe day comes, and the monkey comes in dressed up in a diaper and all that good stuff; and mid-presentation, goes over to the girl, and pantses her from the front.. Saw her nice shave, and will never forget the moment for the rest of my life.", "summary": "Watched a fellow classmate get pantsed in front of her father by a monkey during her own Biology Presentation."}
{"id": "t3_2riflz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] want to get to meet my half brothers one day [14M and 6M] but their parents most likely won't allow it to happen", "post": "My dad divorced my mum when I was 12. I stayed with him every weekend until he met his current wife when I was 15 and then stopped because she said it was painful for her to see me due to her previous miscarriages.\n\nWithout saying a word, he stopped seeing me and moved away and got married. He also reversed he vasectomy and had two sons, now 14 and 6 years old. \n\nI still visit my nan on my dad's side and she believes the estrangement is all his wife's doing (and obviously his fault too). She told me my eldest brother knows I exist and *might* be interested in meeting me one day. I look at all their Facebook pages regularly, so I know what they look like. I'm just conscious that I'm likely nothing more than a strange 30 year old woman to him right now.\n\nMy nan is now 81 years old and my only connection to them. I've considered contacting my eldest brother, but I realise it'd be a bit much to handle when he's under 18. Also, his mum will likely do anything she can to sabotage any relationship I hope to have with them.\n\nWhat do I do?", "summary": "Want to meet my brothers for the first time, but my dad and his wife don't want me in their lives, most likely."}
{"id": "t3_1l49ao", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/m] need some advice on how to deal with other guys crushing on my GF (22/f)", "post": "My Girlfriend has guy friends (like most normal women) and i know a couple of them like her and this weekend one of them (he is in a ton of her major classes) Drunk texted her professing his feelings. She doesnt think its a big deal but im Having a super hard time Not Giving a Fuck about this. I just need some help figuring out how to deal with my side of the problem. i think its just the thought of some skeezy dudes i dont really know trying to eventually take what i have from me. she assures me that its not anything to worry about but im a guy and i know how our brains work and i realize that you can home wreck a relationship really freaking easy and that scares the crap out of me. \nAdvice would be awesome. Thanks", "summary": "Girlfriend's guy friend has drunkenly professed feelings for her. I would like to know how to handle it better."}
{"id": "t3_djrkb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Need help comforting a significant other with bipolar disorder.", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nI am coming to the community for help. Long time member, more of a lurker, never really posted before only commented. Recently I have started a long-distance relationship with a person diagnosed with Bipolar type 2. I have known the person for a decade however we have only become close in the past few months. \n\nI really care about this person however over the past couple of weeks they have been in a bit of a funk and I am having a hard time being able to comfort them. I was wondering if any of you have dealt with a similar situation and could offer some advice to comfort a person with bipolar disorder.\n\nAgain I have never really explored the self-posting reddit before, if this is in the wrong section please let me know.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Need advice comforting a significant other with bipolar disorder type 2."}
{"id": "t3_1z5kcv", "subreddit": "college", "title": "At a cross-road in my life.", "post": "So this decision can make my life go one of two ways.\n\nI applied to a 4-year college (SUNY Cortland) and got in. I'll be transferring in as a Junior from my local community college. I just got the letter today and I wasn't expecting to get in. I'm pumped.\n\nI also have a local 4-year college that I applied to but did not get in. But here's the kicker. My cousin's fiance works there and is friends with a lot of people in admissions. She said that if I do well this semester, take a class or two in both summer sessions at my community college, I have a very good chance of getting in.\n\nDoing the latter means I can stay local, take next semester off (since Fall grades won't count towards a spring transfer and I already have 70 credits, the max you can transfer, not counting this semester) and work pretty much full time for that time.\n\nDoing the former allows me to get the experience of dorm life, responsibility, and freedom. \n\nI don't know what to do. Although the more I look at it, the more I'm leaning towards going away. Y'know, since it's already guaranteed I'm in and I don't have to worry about taking summer classes and the possibility of not getting in to the local 4-year...", "summary": "Got into 4-year college, will transfer in as Junior. Also debating on going to local 4-year, but will require more work and a semester off - not guaranteed to get in to local 4-year."}
{"id": "t3_3dc3ek", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I seem to have an irrational fear of my gf[17] cheating on me m[17]", "post": "Hey guys, I would just like to say hi from the lurking shadows.\nI have been dating the love of my life for a little over a month now, literally have been crushing over her for 3 years. Everything is going great except for one irrational fear I have of her cheating on me behind my back. I really cannot explain the torture I put myself through when my mind wanders into that dark area. I honestly want to trust her, and I do, I really do. But there is always that one random thought that ruins my entire day because I go on the verge of tears thinking about her not wanting to meet me and all because there is another guy. I get paranoid and I don't want to admit that to her. We are very open in terms of communication, and we can easily talk to each other. We love each other very very much. Her history of boyfriends hasn't been great but she says she knows I am the one (yay!). I know this all sounds childish because I'm just going to be a senior in highschool, but we plan on a future together. I just don't want that irrational fear to come true, or to have that fear of her cheating on me to ruin what we have worked so hard for.", "summary": "GF of 1+ month(s) has been a great gf, love her to death. Irrational fear of her cheating on me, I want to trust her completely. I have that stinging, wandering doubt that comes by every once in a while. Open in communication. Help needed. Thanks."}
{"id": "t3_2tdtx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] and my friend [20F] decided that we wanted to get married today.", "post": "My friend and I decided that we wanted to get married... however, this isn't a typical marriage.\n\nBeing that I'm gay and want kids and she, after having a rough childhood, is wanting stability, we came to realize that we could help each other out. What we're looking at doing is entering a temporary, 5 year marriage in our home state of Wisconsin where the conditions would be that we have a few children (she is wanting them too) and I'd help her get through college. Being that I'm graduating this spring, I'd be bringing in most of the income at first and I'm alright with that.\n\nAnyways, we'd be signing a prenuptial contract that would declare that the marriage would only last five years. Now as to whether or not this is legal- I do not know. However, the deal would be that after 5 years, we would have the option to go our own way so long as we were equally involved with the kids. We would keep our finances separate except for those finances related to housing and raising the kids and the marriage would be open.\n\nSo with all of this in mind, is there anyway for us to mentally prepare ourselves for this? Is this a good idea or a bad idea and what steps should we take in doing this? Finally, how would we explain this to our families and later on to our kids? And most importantly, could we end up scarring them for life doing this or would they likely be understanding?", "summary": "Friend and I are looking at an open, contractual marriage that would help us both out and are wondering what challenges we'd face and how we should deal with them."}
{"id": "t3_fllxr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Shy guys on reddit...unite! I like a guy who refuses to make a move on any woman. Help!!", "post": "Okay, so it's a little complicated so I'll try and keep it brief. I live with 4 guys in house and I have a major crush on one of them. When I first moved into the house, I had a boyfriend. After we broke up, my roommate *Drew* was the first person I told and he let me cry on him (he's a little OCD, and told me that I was the first person he ever let cry on him).\n\nAnyways, so time went on, and on Halloween, he took a picture with me and had both of his arms around me and came into my job and almost kissed me. He was also kind of tipsy though.\n\nSo then more time passes and we continued to bond. And it was one of the other roommate's 21st birthday party, so we all got really drunk and we were on the couch and I started to tickle him and we ended up cuddling in front of everyone for the rest of the night.\n\nBut then I felt like we were growing a little distant, so I started to put up a wall out of fear of getting hurt. When I confronted him about the void, he said that I was the one blocking him out, and that I put my headphones on before I even leave my room and I won't make eye contact with him, and that he likes it when I say hi to him. \n\nSo I'm getting really mixed feelings from him, and his friends said that he won't approach a woman-that they have to be aggressive with him. I'm afraid to make a move and him not feel the same way towards me. \n\nSo Reddit, does he like me? Should I make a move? And if so, what should I do? He's an OR major, not sure if that helps.", "summary": "I like my roommate, we've cuddled, but he likes aggresive women and probably wouldn't tell me if he liked me. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1swspa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] - feeling like I do not know how to be single", "post": "I got out of a long (3yr) relationship right at the start of September. It was semi-mutual (he initiated it, and I completely agreed - we both needed freedom/independence from each other), though I was still very sad about it and still in love with the guy. After a bit of grieving I was hooking up again, and doing a tiny bit of dating, and mostly just focusing on school/academia/my friends and was fairly happy and over my breakup. (In case it sounds a little too soon, the ex and I hadn't seen each other for a month prior to the breakup as I was on a paleontological dig, and had been apart for weeks at a time during the summer, so we had already kind of gotten used to each other's absence). \n\nFast-forward to now, I have a very cool FWB (22M) who I've been seeing for a few weeks after sharing the same group of friends for a few months. But I am feeling weird about the whole situation because despite the fact that I *do not want another relationship right now* I'm afraid I'm getting really clingy. I feel in some ways that I need him to validate me, and often worry I am not truly comfortable with being alone. I think I may be pushing feelings of loneliness onto my FWB, and get really sad if he doesn't respond to my texts, etc. despite the fact that I know don't want a boyfriend. \n\nI think sometimes it may be better for me if I just quit it with boys, because from September to November I was pretty content with just doing academic things and being with my friends. As soon as the FWB started my feelings of anxiety rose again (though coupled with all the fun and excitement of intimacy and sexuality).\n\nI don't know, reddit... what do you think would be a healthy way for me to deal with these feelings?", "summary": "I feel lonely and uncomfortable being alone, but know I don't want/need a boyfriend; also projecting lonely feelings onto FWB. How can I learn how to be happy while being single?"}
{"id": "t3_2xxlp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30m] broke up with my gf [28f] of 5 years because she wants kids and I don't. 2 months have passed and I'm wondering if 'no contact' is actually the best way to deal?", "post": "To very briefly summarise the backstory: she wants kids at some point, I never want kids. We've both known this for a while but this last year it's become obvious to me that there is simply no resolution to it and I'm simply delaying the inevitable, at her expense.. Even though she said she doesn't even want kids for another couple of years, that's not really a solution.\n\nI know it was the right thing to do, and I'll never do anything as difficult ever again, but I'm wondering if the way we've chosen to deal with the break up is the 'best' way.\n\nBecause we both couldn't deal with seeing each other, but not being with each other, we decided to go 'no contact'. We said goodbye and stopped all contact.\n\n2 months have passed and I'm having difficulty dealing. It's not been that long yet, but I guess my question is: \n\nIs no contact actually a useful method of getting over each other?\n\nI know I will see her again at some point in the future by accident, we live in the same city. And that's going to be even more fucking horrible than this! Are we just delaying the 'horrible', or actually reducing the total amount of 'horrible'?\n\nThe objective part of me (the part that's responsible for this mess!) says I've got to suck it up, wait it it out, keep busy, blah blah blah and eventually I'll be happy again in 6months or a year or so.\n\nBut the desperate miserable part of me wants you to suggest a golden bullet that will 'solve' this whole mess and let me get back with my girlfriend. And yes, I know that's not going to happen.", "summary": "trying no contact, not sure if best idea"}
{"id": "t3_28tp75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A guy [17M] offered to give me [17F] a ride on his motorbike to and from an event we're both attending", "post": "There is this guy whom I have known for maybe around a year now. We go to the same school so we used to see each other every day before the holidays began. I could say we are rather good friends as we can talk about almost everything. Now there's this event coming and both of us are attending it. We were chatting one day on Facebook and he said if I wanted he could pick me up that day and also bring me back home with his bike. I see it as a \"big\" thing as this guy is an introvert and quite shy around people. He's often awkward with girls save for me.\n\nIs this only a gesture of politeness or could this guy have some feelings towards me? In general he is a real gentleman and a very sweet guy. That made me think that he might have no special reason for offering a ride. However, I never complained or even mentioned how I would otherwise go to the event; he just came up with that suggestion all of a sudden. He has never asked anything me anything like this before nor have I seen or heard him giving a ride to anyone else ever before.\n\nWhat got me thinking was that getting a ride from someone is, after all, quite intimate, isn't it? Being so close to the driver and having to hold onto them and all. You don't usually see guys giving rides to girls unless there's something between them (okay, you do... but you know what I mean).\n\nAnyway, I want to hear your opinions about this. Do you think he could be developing feelings towards me, or is this an everyday thing for guys to do?\n\nIn case you want to know my reply, it was a yes. I have a weak spot for guys with motorbikes. :)", "summary": "Do you think this guy who's offering me a ride on his bike could have feelings towards me, or is it a normal thing for guys to do for girls?"}
{"id": "t3_490wl7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How can I (M19) be more supportive of my girlfriend (F18) with depression and anxiety in a long distance relationship?", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about 9 months. She has pretty severe diagnosed depression and anxiety and I try to be there for her, calling her at least once a day and trying to see her at least once a month. \n\nThe main problem would have to be the fact that the college she goes to is a bit of a party school and seeing substance abuse gives her panic attacks. \n\nToday she moved dorms because her roommates were coming home drunk about 3 days out of the week and she couldn't take seeing it. Then tonight, she was talking to a friend she had met on the floor and this friend suggested they get drunk together. My girlfriend hastily said no and called me crying about 10 minutes later. \n\nI'm really solution oriented. I'm not good at dealing with this and it's been happening at least once a week since the semester started and it happened about twice a week last semester. When she tells me everyone she knows drinks or does drugs and that she hates everyone at her school, I start on instinct trying to solve her problem and recommend she goes to some churches to maybe meet some kids who do less drugs (we're both religious) or join a club at the school to meet new people. This usually just causes her to say, \"It's not MY church!\" or \"No, they'll all be on drugs too!\"\n\nI feel like this is really the wrong thing to do in response, but I don't know what to do otherwise. If I don't do that, then I just sit on the phone with her for an hour and tell her that I'm here for her. I don't feel like that helps either.", "summary": "How can I be there for my girlfriend in hard times without physically being there?"}
{"id": "t3_25mxu9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] thought I had a great thing with this girl [24F]. Guess not?", "post": "Throwaway just because..\n\nThis girl is a good friend of my best friend and I met her about twice in the past two years. I thought she was cute but nothing happened because we were in different places in life.\n\nAbout a month ago I met her again at my friend's party and we both were drinking. She was hitting me but I wasn't very responsive and nothing happened between us. A couple days later I drunktexted her some silly things but managed to tell her that I had fun with her (she handled my drunken state very well). A week later I also 'formally' asked her out.\n\nWe went on three amazing, exhilarating, fantastic dates. I've been on many dates and I don't think I ever enjoyed myself so much. She was funny, intelligent and crazy sexy. On the first date she dropped me off and we made out for ages. On the second and third date we couldn't keep our hands off each other. I thought it couldn't get any better.\n\nWe talked the day after the last date and everything was awesome. The day later I tried contacting her but she was busy. Same happened the day later and she said she'd call me later that day. She didn't. She called me the day later and said that she had fun but she thinks we should stop seeing each other because 'she's not in the mood for it'.\n\nI'm not heartbroken or anything, because it was only three dates (although on the brink of getting serious)... but I'm still dumbfounded at what happened. Most of all, I think I just don't want something like this to happen again.\n\nIf anyone can contribute from their own experience, or from an outsiders view what happened (and if I did something wrong?), I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "went on 3 amazing dates, girl ends it abruptly. what went wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_nebcc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, would you date a Juggalette?", "post": "So, long story short. We met through mutual friends who are non-juggalos and we hit it off. She is actually very intelligent, is drop dead gorgeous, and just finished school to be a CNA. I'm conflicted because she is covered with stupid juggalo, dead lotus, and Kotton Mouth King tattoos, has her ears stretched and a ton of piercings. Not a lot but enough to make me hesitant, says whoop whoop a lot, and is coming off a pill addiction, doesn't want to cover or remove her jewelry to get a job either. She is trying to better herself as a person but still wants to stick to the family. Do you think it's possible to be a juggalette and not trash or if it's possible to unbrainwash her? lol", "summary": "Meet gorgeous and intelligent girl who happens to be a juggalette. Confused on what to do because she constantly puts herself back two steps with me when her juggalo side comes out."}
{"id": "t3_qbppn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Alcoholic Mom needs help but I do not live close", "post": "So here is the deal, my mom is an alcoholic, always has been.  Anyone who has dealt with one knows that it is an all the time thing; and that there are peaks and valleys, recoveries and relapses.  My mom got remarried around 5 or 6 years ago and I always thought the new guy was nice enough, but never really knew him very well.  Over the last 3 years or so she has become a shell of herself, and just sits around drinking and has been neglecting all human things.  She never showers or changes clothes and is wearing a jacket that is literally disintegrating on her body she has worn it so long.  I have tried talking to her about it to no avail (I currently live about 300 miles from them)  This past weekend she missed her first grandchild's (my daughter) first birthday, that I went through great trouble to have in her town so that she could be there.  She did not even try to get out for it.  Needless to say this upset me so I went over there the next day and basically had a single man intervention (not the first time something like this has gone down).  All the time growing up I was usually able to pull her out of one of these relapses but I have also never seen one go on this long.  Her husband (who constantly buys her beer and just lets this woman deteriorate in front of him) called me names, and said I was inconsiderate and that she is sick and doesn't want help.  I was unable to respond as he told me all of this in a text (chickenshit if you ask me) after I had left town.    I was absolutely in shock that he not only is not going to help, but acts like I am some kind of jerk for wanting her to take a shower, get off her couch, and participate in the human world.  So my question is this:  How do you help someone who lives 300 miles away and cohabitates with a person who is only going to feed her addiction?", "summary": "Mom is an alcoholic, been in a 3 year funk and husband just feeds her addiction and is offering no help.  I am too far to be the day to day presence she probably needs."}
{"id": "t3_19ddr4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst battle scar?", "post": "Here'e mine: When I was 8 I lived in Wyoming, USA. A beautiful country and white winters with really green summers. Anyway, I turned 8 on my birthday (obviously) and I got my first gun, a .22 caliber long rifle. CAn remember the brand, Mossimo maybe? And that day I went out with my dad to try the sucker out. It was a small gun, 7-10 lbs. maybe, bolt action and your usual safety switch and all. My old man was teaching me the basics, you know don't point at people, and don't aim at anything that moves yadda yadda. It got to the saftey switch part, and he didn't know I already loaded one in. He said \"And this is the safety switch, don't flick this (flicks it to fire) until you're aiming down the sites, then pull the trigg-\". The gun shot. Me and my dad jumped back and moved our feet to see where it went in the ground. Well it didn't go into the ground. It went into my leg. About 3\" above my ankle and 1 1/2\" away from my achilles tendon (left leg, inside). All the usually burning sensation then a trip to the E.R. which was 7 miles away, cops tried to pull us over because we were speeding. But, my Grandmother was a nurse and we picked her up along the way and she helped me and stuff. But the scar is now about a dime sized bullet entry wound, and a cut underneath that's about an inch or two long.", "summary": "Bullet in my leg because of Dad."}
{"id": "t3_2csg8w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [24F] Does not believe in us anymore. Any hope on fixing it? [24M]", "post": "Hello! I'll keep it short.\n\nMe and my EX was togeather for 4 years and the past 6 months had been shit. Everything that could possible go wrong has pritty much happend. Broken up several times, argueing and so on. Pritty much alot of baggage in our relationship.\n\nHowever, we broke up again about 3 weeks ago and this time it's offical so to speak. She broke up with me and I didnt want us to break up. \n\nI've tried to talk to her and convince her that we had a good thing going and just had a ruffpatch(?). \n\nHowever, she keeps telling me she loves me (We even met once and had sex and she cried almost the whole time). But she does not \"believe\" in us anymore.. that things would change and we could have it great once again. \n\nI do believe that we can fix things because our main problem was always communication (We always \"fought\" through text and had serious talks through it also, so alot of missunderstanding etc)\n\nThe thing is even tho she says she does not believe in us anymore, does not want to be with me. She keeps giving me \"hints\" that she regreats it.", "summary": "GF and I broke up, she does not believe in a future anymore but I dont want to give up.. How can I \"convince\" her?"}
{"id": "t3_jp2r4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get out of my seatbelt violation?", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI am currently attending summer school, living in an off campus small, college town. Yesterday I went to meet my sister and her friends at a nearby restaurant. Since it is only down the street I rode my skateboard and they drove from her house. We got our food and headed out. \n\nI jumped in the back of my sister friends car, having had a few drinks prior to this whole story, I wasn't thinking and didnt put on my seatbelt as the drive back to my sisters house where we planned to eat was 0.5 mi, 2 minutes by car. The car was a small coupe and with my skateboard at my feet I was somewhat squished already. We came to a stop sign and a pedestrian crossed the street behind the car.\n\nJust then Mr. Police Man comes around the corner and comes to a stop next to us, facing the opposite direction, waiting for the pedestrian to cross. I had been sitting on that side of the car and made eye contact with the police man and he pointed at me at which I realized I hadn't had my seatbelt on and tried to slyly put it on. He noticed that too.\n\nHe pulled us over and gave me a ticket and gave a ticket to my sisters friend, the driver who was cited for not making sure I had my seatbelt on. I am 19 and I am expected to pay for both tickets. As a poor college student I don't have the $175 each (350 total) that the tickets are expected to be. \n\nWhat can I do reddit?", "summary": "Got a ticket for not wearing seatbelt. 0.5 mi, 2 min drive. Expected to pay drivers ticket too. I don't have the money."}
{"id": "t3_yecl4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend found out she has HPV...", "post": "Okay, Reddit, I've been dating this girl for a little over a week and she texts me today and tells me that she found out that she has HPV. She noticed a bump downstairs and got paranoid about it after looking it up online so she went to the doctor. So the doctor looked at it and told her that it was HPV and gave her some medicine and sent her on her way.  \nAt this point, that is about all I know. I don't know what to think, how to feel, if I should be mad or not, I just don't know. I'm a little freaked out to say the least.  \nI guess my question is what does this mean for me? Will I get warts on my manly bits? What does this mean basically? Am I going to get warts on my junk? Does this fuck me over for the rest of my life?  \nI'm too stunned to just look online because I'm sure it'll just make me freaked out as fuck (especially staying away from WebMD). Any information you guys have would be much appreciated.  \nYes, this is a throwaway account. Some of my friends know my real username. Don't care about karma.", "summary": "My gf found out she has HPV, I'm a little freaked out. Looking for information and anything to make me feel better."}
{"id": "t3_ywl9k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice for the rut at work?", "post": "Two bosses at work: director and a system analyst (SA). The SA basically just shares workload with me and approves my time, so its a name-only level. Here's the kicker: SA is a 30 year company man and TOO laid back. Sick and absent constantly. When he does manage to limp in, he plays chess and buys gun parts at his desk all day. I own at least 80% of the work load between us, probably more. Director is younger guy and absolutely needs SA, so he's stuck and can't help me. Job is at a major university w/ choice benefits, no where else to go in this economy. What do I do?", "summary": "I'm carrying the load for a coworker BIG TIME and getting paid 80% what he is. FML"}
{"id": "t3_14860r", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "How do I stop worrying and stop being mad?  Sorry, it's a long, angry vent.", "post": "It's been 5 months since my 5 year relationship ended.  I was doing fine for the most part until I found out he was seeing someone new and that he (we are co-workers) is bringing her as his date to our company xmas party.  \n\nI'm so angry and I can't seem to let it go.  He was the asshole, the bad guy.  He cheated on me, gave me an STD (He knew he had it and never told me), made me feel like I was a bad person b/c I smoked and didn't work out 2 hours a day like he did.  When I tried to quit smoking for him and gained weight, he said I was too fat to be attractive anymore (I'm by no means overweight!).  When I joined a gym and started working out with him, he said that I'm too annoying for him to focus on working out b/c I would ask him questions about how to do things.  I know I made my mistakes and I know there is no way we could ever get back together, but my anger is still so strong that I can't get away from it.  \n\nI'm miserable and he's happy.  I don't want him to be happy, I don't think he deserves to be happy after all the shit he put me through.  He's never shown one ounce of remorse, regret or sadness after ending our 5 year relationship.  And now his life is all sunshine and kittens??  Where is my happiness?  I've tried going out with friends, meeting new people and even joined some dating sites.  When I'm distracted, I'm just fine.  But those quiet moments bring back all the emotions.  \n\nIt's been 5 months for fucks sake, why am I still stuck at square one?  r/BreakUps, have you ever been stuck in my position?", "summary": "5 yr relationship ended 5 months ago, still angry and not over it."}
{"id": "t3_2kjx9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my husband [31 M] I tried to kiss a male friend", "post": "So my husband and I have been together for over 10 years. Recently I went out with a couple of friends, got drunk and in a moment of stupidity tried to kiss one of our mutual friends (male). I didn't actually kiss him as he stopped me.\n\nI told my husband about this immediately and thankfully my husband and I had resolved it, though we are continuing to work on our relationship.\n\nUnfortunately it seems that our mutual friend (also colleague of my husband) has disclosed what happened to another of my husband's colleagues and they have hinted to my husband that they know, so my husband assumes all of his colleagues now know and he is understandably upset about this.\n\nThis has caused a lot of embarrassment to my husband and to myself as he assumes people think he doesn't know what happened and that I've been going behind his back. He now feels he can't face some people at work.", "summary": "So to summarise, I made a mistake that now is causing a lot of grief to my partner. I have been honest with my partner, but people he works with have found out what has happened and are probably assuming he doesn't know. This makes things awkward for him - any suggestions on what to do? What can I do to help if anything? I feel extremely bad about the situation."}
{"id": "t3_fbhrp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I need your help. I want to send my girlfriend on a adventurous scavenger hunt this Valentines day. I need fun ideas.", "post": "I wanted to do something very special for our first valentines day together, something she will remember for years to come. Whats better then a scavenger hunt to find me? Now, I thought it would be quite boring if she did this all alone, so I got her best friends boyfriend in on it too. One of my ideas for the whole thing was to make it a comic book, it would start off with a page about me being captured by a evil villain and give her clues to find the next page. Every page would bring her closer to finding me.\nI just need ideas for what kind of quests to send her on. Both of these girls are extremely nerdy, me and my girlfriend play video games together all the time. So Reddit, help me with ideas! (I posted this under a throwaway account because she reads reddit.)", "summary": "Scavenger hunt for Girlfriend on Valentines day, need ideas."}
{"id": "t3_13bqmw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my roommate can't / won't pay rent. I'm up shit's creek and I haven't done anything wrong. How do I deal with this?", "post": "Some context:\n\nHe is apparently estranged from his family for reasons that I do not completely understand. He has a job with an electronics repair shop, and seems to be reasonably good at what he does, but apparently his employer is very unprofessional and isn't paying him regularly.\n\nThough I'm not sure, I suspect he is doing his best to find another job or make money. He has a credit card that's supposedly maxed out, so he has absolutely zero way of covering rent.\n\nWe have a joint lease. I've told my landlord several times that I can go ahead and pay her my half at any time, but she wants it in a lump sum. It's 16 days late and I'm worried about getting evicted. It seems like I have zero control over the situation. What do I do?", "summary": "My roommate has no money and I can't cover him for rent. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_13tadd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How could I have handled this situation better?", "post": "My SO (M21) and I (F21) have been together for a year and 8 months. Lately it's been on the rocks though.\n\nOn Saturday we were celebrating my 21st birthday (I was really drunk) and one of his female friends calls him up wanting to see him because her bf was flirting with other girls. He told her to meet us in the city and they can talk. As soon as she had called I was pissed off that he picked up, and even more so that he invited her to my birthday without asking me. I didn't want a crying girl there OR his attention to her. It resulted in a massive fight where he walked away from me, I smashed my phone and nearly jumped into the Yarra River. I was an absolute mess. All he wanted to do was help a friend out.\n\nThe reason it bothered me was because they were extremely close. She sometimes acted like she was his clingy gf (apparently that was an inside joke between them, I only found out that night), he'd go to her house and cook for her and even once stayed the night. That really bothered me. Especially because before we met there are fb pics of him and her cooking and playing around and hugging etc. It shat me up the wall because that was the image that I had in my head every time he told me he was going to her house. That being said this is how I see it. I always thought of dinner as a lovey dovey couple thing, he just likes to cook with people.\n\nWe have since then resolved this and I did apologise to her because her bf sounds like a prick and I want to help her. BUT, I still feel a little jealous and I hate it. I had a panic attack on Sunday while I was asleep. I have suffered from depression and anxiety. I've also been cheated on and abused my exs.\n\nReddit please help. I want to make sure my demons don't get the better of me and ruin this relationship. What do I do?", "summary": "I'm letting my insecurities ruin my relationship and I want it to STOP"}
{"id": "t3_4cksko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21 M) feel like my girlfriend (23 F) has become just a friend", "post": "Brief background: We've been together for over 2 years now and the past few months things have been a little rocky due to issues over privacy and snooping.\n\nAfter some recent issues that we've had, we managed to work thru them and everything has been fine since then. After everything I don't really feel the same deep connection with her that I once did. It's not that I don't find her attractive, but after everything I just feel distant.\n\nI'm not sure if it's because I don't feel like I can trust her anymore, or if I've just changed as a person and it's my fault. I'm not really sure if I should stick with it and hope to one day feel close again, or if I should walk away. \n\nAny advice or similar experiences would be appreciated.", "summary": "Living with my girlfriend feels more like a friend with benfits situation rather then romantic. Not sure what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3y7zoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This girl (25/F) told me (22/M) she loves me but she doesnt want a relationship", "post": "I met this girl like 3 months ago. We were friends the first month and then we started \"dating\". I say \"dating\" because she always said she doesnt want a serious relationship, but not because she wants to see other guys. She told me she had 2 relationships and both of them ended horribly so I feel she is scared someone will break her heart again. But even when Im not her boyfriend we do everything couples do. She told me several times she really loves me. \n\nBut many times we fought because she said she doesnt want to love me even though she does, she told me she cried many times when we had arguments and didnt talk for a short period of time. Last weekend I went to a party with my friends and then we fought because even though I told her I didnt do anything \"wrong\" (and I didnt) she said she doesnt want to be worried because I may \"cheat\" on her, or miss me, or think of me while Im not with her. I feel like she is scared to fall in love. \n\nWe fought again and she asked me to not talk to her again. She said she wants to forget me and be \"fine\" again like when she didnt love anyone. \n\nIm really emotional and I miss her so I really want to call her to talk but I know I didnt do anything wrong and that I should respect her feelings. I am scared to lose her but I also know that if she doesnt want anything with me I cant do anything. I feel like I should just continue with my life and if she wants to talk again she knows where to find me and if she doesnt then theres nothing I can do but Im not sure. What should I do ?", "summary": "This girl says she loves me. All her relationships ended horribly so I feel she is scared to fall in love because she doesnt want her heart to be broken again. Told me to not to talk to her again because she wants to forget me. What should I do ?."}
{"id": "t3_1vyqjv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [20/M] tell my GF [21/F] about her mother?", "post": "Okay, so my girlfriend is adopted into her family, and recently shown interest in finding her birth mother. Several months ago, she showed me the documents, but at the time had no soon plans to find her, but expressed deep emotions (often on the brink of crying) about her well-being, because she was apparently sick and in bad living conditions when she was given up for adoption. I, being the curious bastard i am, looked into finding her about a week ago, i found her. yesterday, she brought up interest in finding her, and of course, i think to myself \"hey, with the full data, i can 100% verify the person whom i'm certain is them!\"\n\n Last night i decided to \"check in\" on her to see how she was doing, only to find that she passed away last Friday, the day after i found her. If i find that, without a doubt that she is in fact her birthmother, how in the hell am i supposed to break it to her?", "summary": "found GFs Birth mother, Passed away last friday, how do i break it?"}
{"id": "t3_43vxat", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] and my girlfriend [16 F] of close to six months of on and off, finally broke up. She says she doesn't love me anyone. I'd do anything to get her back. [Breakups]", "post": "As stated in the title, me [16/m] and my girlfriend [16/f] have been in a sort of on and off relationship for a bit under six months. She has broken it off a total of three times now. The first time, she said she was having problems and wouldn't really let me in on them. This lasted for about three weeks. \n\nWe proceeded to get back together and then she broke it off for a second time, stating that she thought she fixed her problems, but she hadn't. This lasted for about a week and then we got back together for about two weeks. \n\nJust a few days ago, she called me up after a date, stating that she didn't love me anymore and just wanted to be friends. We had both said \"I love you\" to each other and showed many signs of affection multiple times on that same date. I'm incredibly confused. I don't really get whats up and if there is any chance of saving this relationship I'd love to know how to.\n\nI understand that we are quite young, this one just feels way different than any relationship I have ever been in before. I'd prefer it stay in my life.", "summary": "Girlfriend and have had on and off problems,She broke it off for a bit a few times. She finally proclaimed that she didn't love me anymore. I want to get her back."}
{"id": "t3_lcpqk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Been seeing a girl for 2 months. Is it necessary to 'officially' ask her out?", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nThis probably seems like a bit of a stupid question, but I really want to get this right. I met this girl around about 2 month ago at a party through friends. We hit it off instantly, and we've been 'seeing' each other ever since. We talk every day and see each other every other day and it's awesome.\n\nTo me, she's my girlfriend and we're dating. The semi-awkward thing is that this has never been said. As in, I've never actually asked her to be my girlfriend, because I didn't really think it necessary. We're seeing each other all the time and we really like each other, what else is there?\n\nI guess I want some advice as to what to do next. Do people think that it's necessary that I talk about it with her? Or should I just straight up ask her?\n\nThanks everyone.", "summary": "Been seeing a girl for 2 months. Never actually officially 'asked her out'. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_q02bp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do when my gf's relative is in the hospital?", "post": "Hey Reddit, this is my first post to AskReddit so I hope I'm doing it right. My gf was acting weird last night (telling me she hated me a few times, a FUCK YOU thrown in there) but I figure it was just PMS. Then today I pried a little bit more, and she told me her relative is in the hospital (I'm assuming it's serious because she won't say any more). Does anyone who has been in either side of this situation have any advice/tips for a bf just trying to help and not overstep his boundaries? (Btw, we have been going out 2 years so we're pretty stable otherwise)", "summary": "Gf's relative is in the hospital, I want to help, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2s5qma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/25][F/21][2.5 yrs] Got back with my husband (a.k.a. love of my life). Can't get over his sexual escapades. It's making me want to slit my wrists. I think I'm a psychopath. PLEASE help.", "post": "**Please be kind. This is my life.**\n\nI'll keep this short. My husband and I are and have always been in crazy love. Like, the kind of unhealthy love that Reddit is typically, hypocritically against. We're both extremely jealous about each other, to the point where it sort of drove me crazy. \n\nI divorced him early 2014 because I thought I'd be better off alone. I wasn't. I dated him on and off throughout the summer. He had an on and off thing with a girl for like 5 months. I had a few things. Nothing as serious as he did. Now we're back together and I absolutely cannot live without him. \n\nHe can't live without me either, but I can't stop being jealous. I'm irrationally jealous. Mostly because I know they did kinky things that he's into now. Ugh. I keep freaking out and trying to run away. It's driving us both crazy. I'm making this man who loves me so much so upset. \n\nWe keep having incidents where I get intrusive thoughts then I try to leave, then he takes my keys and cries his eyes out (He NEVER cries) and blocks the door, then I attempt to beat the shit out of him (my knuckles are bruised right now) because he won't give me my keys (He never hits back, but I never win because he's got 100 lbs on me), then he cries and tells me he can't let me leave his life again, then I cry and tell him I love him too much and I'm sorry, rinse and repeat. \n\n**So, how do I stop being crazy? How do I just enjoy this man without constantly comparing myself? How do I get these images out of my head?", "summary": "Divorced husband. He had a thing. Super fucking jealous of that thing. Now I'm abusive, apparently. I love him so much that I want to die. How do I stop being batshit crazy? "}
{"id": "t3_m0brz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She is in love with me but I am faking this relationship. Is this wrong?", "post": "I treat her better than any other gf I have had. We do all sorts of romantic stuff, go on hikes, have pikniks, cuddle after sex, when I wake up at her house I make her breakfast, clean shit up around her place, let her sleep in. We have been together for two years and broken up thrice. I have never cheated on her. She drunkenly kissed a guy once but she came to me crying the next day and kissing isn't that big of a deal for me. I listen to her problems and give her solid advice when she asks for it. I am very helpful with her family: doing yard work, cleaning, making dinner when nobody else wants to. And on top of all that I give her 3-5 hour long massages a month (I'm a massage therapist by trade). The only thing is I am faking this entire relationship. I've gotten very good at it. I know exactly what she wants and expects most of the time and am good at delivering. The reason I know I am not ever going to fully commit to this relationship is because she suffers from depression. I take into account that one week of every month is 'that' week and should be treated with caution, every other week she will suffer a major debilitating headache that will spiral her down into a pit of depression lasting at the very least 3 days most I've seen it go is a week. Conservatively that is 4 days every other week where shit goes down the toilet. That comes out to a MINIMUM of 13 days of the month where no matter what happens she will be in a bad mood. I know not to bother her when this happens and she knows not to expect me around. I love her but am not in love with her. I can not live with her and her depression. Is it wrong to fake this relationship for the sake of casual sex until something better comes my way?", "summary": "My gf of 2yrs loves me but I cannot stand her half the time and am faking this relationship until I have something better to do, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_246u70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) am seeing the girl of my dreams (21F) but her ex won't leave us alone. How do i get rid of him?", "post": "So I have been seeing this girl for about a month now. She lives with one of my best friends (we are students in the UK) and I have been into her for ages, but she was with a very abusive, very controlling guy since  I met her. They broke up two and a half months ago and we hit it off at a party a while after. We now spend most of our time together, I am crazy about her and really want this to work. But.\n\nPossessive Psycho Guy (PPG) has been texting, messaging and calling her EVERY DAY since they broke up. She had 34 missed calls yesterday all from him. PPG calls her housemates to ask where she is, goes to where she used to work and quizzes the staff... he's insane. Its been two months. \n\nShe hates PPG at this point, I trust her completely and know she is not still interested, she just wants to be left alone. But no matter how much she tells him, screams at him really, he keeps coming back. He controlled her life for the two years they were together, cheated on her five separate times and didn't let her go out with her friends. \n\nThe reason why she hasn't blocked him or changed phones is he still has her car which he has promised to return, which he obviously keeps putting off so he can talk to her more. I can't get it because he will only give it to her, alone. She isn't able to pick it up until after exams in May. I want the calling to stop now.\n\nWhat should I do? I am not worried about her and him, I just know that it upsets her and want him out of he life. Should I talk to him? If so, what should I say?", "summary": "Crazy ex won't leave my girl alone. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3h9zon", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf [26f] mentioned last night that she doesn't feel that I'm attracted to her [26m] and claimed it 'was as good as over' after sex...", "post": "Registered to make this post, so hello I guess. \nA bit of context:\n-Long distance relationship (7 months, 1.5 hrs away from each other)\n-I live in the country she lives in in the city\n-She is currently stressed from having to move out and find a new place\n-We both share the same career and share many interests, which is the initial reason I fell for her\n-I've been burned by high-maintenance model-tier women before so I was looking for something a bit more homely, but she's not unattractive at all \n\nBasically after sex the other night I couldn't 'arrive', and she got really upset claiming that 'this has been happening for weeks now'. She's been getting orgasms where as I haven't, and she basically assumed that I was no longer attracted to her. She made all sorts of threats about breaking up, cheating while I was away etc and when I called her on her BS manipulation she started crying. \n\nI'm not the most emotionally accessible guy, I take a LONG time to climax even with very attractive women, I still like her a lot and she's extremely useful to me.\n\nNeed a female perspective more than anything", "summary": "can't orgasm with GF she thinks it's because I'm not attracted to her, that's not true, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3nl4v9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/F] have to make a decision to move across country with boyfriend [27/M] and I need help.", "post": "I'll try to make this as short as possible because I'm sure you guys don't want to read an entire novel. \nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years, and almost two years ago he got a job offer and we decided to move from the small town we met in to the big city I grew up in. The move was easy for me because it was my hometown, but it's been really hard for him (lack of friends/family, generally missing his home) and for our relationship. The past year we've been fighting on and off about various things, but mostly personality differences (such as, he and I have different ways in which we communicate, etc.) which I think have been exacerbated by the move.  \nWithin the last month my boyfriend interviewed for a big company in California, at first we both didn't think anything would come of it, but they made him a really good offer, and on top of that it would be a huge boost to his career.\nThis past semester we made the decision that I should quit working and go back to school full time, so that I could finally get my schooling done and start my profession in nursing. If we were to move, I would be unable to continue going to school because of out of state tuition, but could become a certified nursing assistant  and atleast get some experience under my belt. \nI love him very much and I want to stay with him, but I'm worried that our relationship will be unable to make it through another move, especially a big one like this. I feel trapped and that it's potentially a damned if you do damned if you don't type of situation. I'm going to talk to my parents about it later, but I wanted to put this out there and see if maybe I could get some help about the situation. If you have any questions please feel free to ask!!", "summary": "I might move across the country for my boyfriend and I'm worried that I'll make the wrong decision either way."}
{"id": "t3_3nqfh3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [35/M] of almost 4 years consistently blows off affection from me [28/F].", "post": "We have been together for almost 4 years and a lot of the time I feel like we are just good friends who have sex. Any type of affection I give him is usually discounted as \"needy\" or \"clingy\" and not as \"I love you\". \n\nFor example, we work together and he was leaving early for a doc appt so I decided to walk out to the parking lot with him. He kept saying, \"It's ok\" and \"I'm fine you don't have to worry\", when all I was doing was just walking him out because I felt like it. \n\nAnother example was we hadn't really spent much time together in the past few weeks and so when we finally were able to hang out together I told him that I missed him. He looked at me weird and said, \"But I see you all the time....\", totally blowing off the fact that this was the first time we actually got to hang out in a while. Maybe he just didn't think about it, but it hurt because I felt like my feelings were petty and invalid. \n\nThese are just a few things that happened recently, but this is an ongoing issue with our relationship and I feel so unloved because I don't feel like my feelings are be reciprocated by him. Like my feelings are annoying to him and bother him. I don't want to break up, but I hate always wondering if he doesn't reciprocate my affection because he doesn't love me. He has mentioned that in previous relationships he was cuddly and affectionate, but his ex girlfriends were cold and distant (according to him).", "summary": "My boyfriend constantly blows my feelings of affection off and discounts it as \"needy\" or \"clingy\" and I always feel like I need validation for how he feels about me."}
{"id": "t3_35gxpf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M] long distance relationship with my girlfriend [18F] I've never met.", "post": "So back in February, I met a girl on an app on the IPhone.  \n  \n\nShe lives in Canada and I live in the US.  \n  \n\nWe started talking through kik and started to really like each other, shes unlike anyone I've ever met.  \n  \n\nSo we did the usual flirting, face timing, talking all day and night like what usually goes on when people like eachother, then her friends found out that she's talking to someone (me).  \n  \n\nThey ended up getting my  kik through her phone and  wanted to know what was going on between us. We told them that we were boyfriend and girlfriend.  \nThe two friends that going in contact with me are both very supportive of us being together, i have a lot in common with one of her friends (both guys).  \n  \n\nSo i never told my parents obviously because I dont feel like they would 'get' it and would try and get me to end it, because we met over and app and have never met eachother.  \n  \n\nMe and one of her friends were going to plan a week where i flew out and stayed at his house and surprise her and finally be able to see her and get to hold her in my arms for the first time.  \n  \n\nI brought up the idea to my mom and I said I met a guy in Canada and her offered to let me stay at his house to ride dirt bikes at a track at his house (we both ride a lot).   \n  \n\nMy mom almost immediately rejected the idea saying it was weird and that I would even want to do that.  \n  \n\nSo my question is, did I deal with this situation completely wrong? should i have just said i met a girl on an app and want to travel to Canada to see her? i really don't think they would understand or let me go visit but I'm wondering if  any of you were in this situation and how you handled it.", "summary": "I live in the US and met a girl in Canada that I really like through an IPhone app, want to plan a visit but I'm not sure my parents will let me go or understand. What would be the best way to go about bringing it up to my parents?"}
{"id": "t3_1nethz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "So alone and at the end of myself", "post": "The past weeks have been a blur of chaos for me. I've been extremely busy with work, being sent all over the place. I've had continuing issues with my supervisor. I've had to deal with my sister and brother-in-law not caring about anyone but themselves; the sister letting me know how horrible of a person she sees me as.  I have no friends to turn to. I've been so alone for so many years, it feels like a futile effort any time I try to change that. I'm turning 31 this year and have yet to find a wife (something I've longed for for most of my life).\n\nTo top it all off, another family member who has a history of poor decisions was kicked out / broken up with and has nothing, nowhere to stay, no way to get around; nothing. So I did what I could and got him set up in an extended stay for the week. I want to help him get on his feet, but feel so ill equipped with where I'm at. I can't even get my own life right, how can I help him get on his feet?\n\nI know there aren't many details, but I figured the", "summary": "version is better than the diatribe I'd otherwise have to put out. I'm just exhausted, alone, miserable and hopeless. When will it change? What's the point if this is the best I'm going to get?"}
{"id": "t3_pv9en", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "What the hell?", "post": "Hi loseit, I need to vent/try to get some answers.  Why do I overeat?  Even though in the back of my mind I have this little voice saying \"you're trying to lose weight bro, stop\".  I eat whenever I'm alone, it's like when I'm driving home I start \"praying\" for no one to be around.  I feel like crap afterwards, and most of the time during.  I exercise regularly, 3 days weights, 2-3 cardio.  I try to eat healthy and can manage for about 2 days but the third day just like f*ing clockwork I gulp down pretty much every kind of junk food one can imagine.  I'm 6'2'' male, ~195 lb, and want to drop to my weight of last year's weight of ~180...  I guess I should mention that last year I dropped about 80 pound to get to 180 but since the time I reached my goal I haven't been able to get myself to stop eating like a pig.", "summary": "Why do I overeat when I know I will look at myself in the mirror and feel like shit?"}
{"id": "t3_xjyfv", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Approach a girl that probably has no clue who I am?", "post": "Okay, so this is my fist time posting on Reddit after lurking for a couple of days. \n\nI've found my self in a bit of a dilemma recently involving the dreaded crush. Here's the background:\n\nAbout a year ago, I started my new school and we had a little get-to-know eachother school trip together with all the other first year students (Upper secondary school, which makes me 17 years old). Our school was not the only one there, additionally there was another school doing the exact same trip for their 1st year students. \n\nNow the two schools got together a bit, played some soccer or volleyball, but that was about it. Whilst I took part in hanging out with the people from the other school as well, I was quite obese at the time (117kg@178cm) and probably wasn't the kind of guy you'd show interest in. Anyway, this is where I met this crush and added her on facebook when I got home.\n\nNow, present day, I was browsing through my facebook friends and came across her profile, did a bit of e-creeping and as it turns out she appears to be my kind of girl. And I'm now 45kg lighter, a lot better looking, and have an awful crush on this girl. \n\nMy problem though, is how do I spark her interest now when she barely knows who I am? I've thought about starting a conversation on facebook but honestly I can't seem to see how'd that work. I mean, I can get past the introduction and such but then talk about what? And wouldn't it seem just weird if she has no clue who I am? And although we don't live too far apart from each other, we don't share the same group of friends.", "summary": "How do I approach a girl I've met once and she probably doesn't even remember me?"}
{"id": "t3_18rpxt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I (21F) am trying to figure out how to talk to a guy I like", "post": "Well I just got out of a divorce and was with that person since I was 15. I never got a chance to figure out how to interact with someone you would want to date. I am a single mom and a very very nervous person (I cannot emphasize that enough.) There is a guy in one of my classes and I see him around campus alot because he has classes in the building I do. I haven't really talked to him about much just some here and there. I have know idea how to show interest without simply coming out and saying it. I am to afraid to just say anything to him about it. So I am in between a rock and a hard place. To be honest I feel as if I have all of this stuff going against me and that I am not good enough to try to have a relationship with someone but on the other hand I want to find someone before my son gets old enough that my dating would affect him. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Single anxious mom doesn't know what the hell to do about the guy she likes and is too nervous to really talk to him."}
{"id": "t3_2bfq8z", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Brother's Mother-In-Law Wants to Add Me As a Family Member on Facebook", "post": "This is probably the wrong place for this, but my brother is recently betrothed to a lovely Pfaelzisch girl. Luckily, I was able to fly over to Germany for a little over a week during which time I was able to meet said girl's family. I had an awesome time, and both of our families got along really well, so many of them, including her mother added me on Facebook. Today, I received a notification that she wished to add me to her list of family members. I'm completely okay with that, thrilled even, but Facebook forces you to choose a name for how you are related to someone. In English, there is no word for this rather ambiguous familial tie, because I don't think that you could technically call her my mother-in-law, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by not confirming that we are now related. Which title should I choose?", "summary": "Weird Facebook issue. What do I call my brother's mother-in-law?"}
{"id": "t3_2qxo0e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not spending new years with my best friends", "post": "So this was in the planning for a few weeks, I wanted to take this girl that Im close with to a party my friends always host but we never planned one tilll a few days before the event. Because of that her mum didnt feel comfortable about not having plans so she said thay she can have a couple of friends over and Im invited, I didnt decline as I wanted to spend it with her. Day after day more people bailed and it was down to 4 people including me but one of which liked the girl Im into.\n\nSo the night of new years arrived and I spent the first 3 hours hanging with the closest friends I could ask for but then I had to split to go to this other party. Straight away I can see him flirting with her and getting close while I sat there bored out of my brains, Im used to drinking heaps and playing board games or card games (friend tradition) but instead we were not drinking much and played xbox instead. I liturally felt like a fish out of water and just wanted to get wasted before the year ends, I spend my last day of the year unhappy with my surroundings and feel like I ditched my friends just to think I was going to have a great night. Now Im going to have to lie to my friends and say I had an amazing night when really I would of preferred to be alone then in the situation I was in :(", "summary": "wanted to take a girl to a new yeara party, endes up making our own, I end up getting jealous and regret not spending the night with my beat friends! "}
{"id": "t3_wumd5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice - asian girlfriends family disapproves of me because i'm white", "post": "*", "summary": "been with gf for 1 year, asian parents still refuse to meet me based on me being white"}
{"id": "t3_322vru", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend remarked \"You'll probably never see your dad again\" when I told him my parents split up [23F, 29M]", "post": "I was born in Belgium and moved to Quebec (Canada) when I was 8. I went to university in another province, British Columbia, and stayed there after graduating. I live in BC with my boyfriend and fly to Quebec a few times a year to see my parents.\n\nMy parents have an odd relationship. It always seemed as if they were roommates raising me together instead of a couple. They each had a floor of our house to themselves and did not spend much time together, but they were great to me. My dad was a stay-at-home dad for a long time, and I think not working damaged his self-esteem. He gave up a career in his home country so my mom could be a very successful engineer in Canada. Even though we have a very comfortable life, it seems like he resented it. Even so, my home was never hostile and he was a great dad.\n\nA few weeks ago, my parents decided to \"break up\". My dad decided to move back to Belgium where his family is. I have been quite anxious about how I am going to split time with my parents now that they are in different locations.  They have not really talked to me about it either. I usually use most of my vacation time to go visit them, and now I am worried about the logistics!\n\nTonight I mentioned to my boyfriend (2 years) that my dad was planning to move soon. He was just like \"Oh really? Interesting\". He then said \"You know, you're probably never going to see your dad again\".\n\nThis made me a bit upset so I excused myself to the bedroom. I am worried about my family and he pretty much validated one of my biggest worries. I also feel that was an insensitive remark and it hurt my feelings.\n\nAm I being petty or was this out of line?", "summary": "My boyfriend told me I would probably never see my dad again when I told him my parents were splitting."}
{"id": "t3_2qk9j6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO [40m] and I[37f] don't do anything. How do I approach asking him for more activities, without sounding like I don't love just spending time together?", "post": "I work an incredibly difficult schedule, and Eddy so patient about it. He deals with the days I get off at 1am, and have to leave his place at 8am, days I only have three hours, days I'm late to meet up. Eddy never complains, never gets mad. He has a local place were (I used to work there, it's where we met 4yrs ago. Together 3) that always has a few of our mutual friends (though to be honest since the new job they are much closer, location and relationship wise, to him) that he hangs out at till I'm done. \n\nI'm starting to frustrated though, and feel thoroughly selfish, because by the time I'm off and meeting up, he's ready to go. I feel bad for keeping him waiting another hour while I catch up with friends. He's seen everyone everyday all week and wants to see me, which means Netflix, bed, nudity. Super awesome, right?\n\n But I only have 18 free hours a week to cram everything in, and while I really want to hang with him I don't love spending most of them watching Netflix in bed. Sunday I have a whole afternoon! I'd like to see the sky, maybe go to the lake with friends, or even go to a museum. He wants to sleep till 1pm. eat whatever I've cooked cause I couldn't lay in bed for another minute, and watch Netflix. I make plans without him? There are hurt feelings, but he never makes plans, and I'm gonna go crazy if I have to spend another 4 hours staring at his ceiling while my few hours of freedom tick by...\n\nHow do talk to him about how much I need to get out and have a life on my free time? I'd love for him to come, be there for every minute and do new things together, but if not that's ok. I just need to do something else... Maybe Netflix would even be lovely once again.", "summary": "I would be happy glued to SO's hip for all my very limited free time, if we did anything. We don't. How do I say \"I love hanging out with you, but it's not enough.\" Without it sounding like I don't appreciate how much he has to bend to my shitty schedule?"}
{"id": "t3_1lvl64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (23/f) tell him (25/m) or leave it as is?", "post": "My fiance and I have been engaged for a month, dated for 3 years. We always had a great relationship, except during the beginning we had a rough spot. I was on the phone just catching up with a friend. He was going through a big bout of depression. I always had tons of guy friends, none that I had feelings for. My fiance told me he was uncomfortable as we were on the phone for awhile and he didn't know my friend. Which was understandable. I just wanted to avoid the argument so I said I wouldn't do that anymore. He even heard the conversation and knew that I wasn't being inappropriate, but was still mad I was on the phone with another guy and didn't tell him. This was 2 years ago.\n\nWe read Reddit together a lot and saw a post about someone getting divorced over a pretty trivial thing. I forget what. I asked him what his grounds for divorce were and vice versa. He told me he would if he found out I was speaking to any guys from my past and mentioned one in particular I had some history with 5 years ago that he knows of. I have moved across the country to be together, so none of these people I have seen or will see again probably. I was taken back by this. I have been talking to him and a few other classmates. I probably should have said something right then as I do text a lot. Texting is pretty addictive for me. But I was just so afraid that I decided to go to bed and literally cried the entire night. I didn't know he felt this way. I'm not in a relationship with anyone else. I don't want to be with anyone else. I don't see any of these guys in person, even the one he doesn't want me talking to. I haven't seen anyone since we've been together. I don't know what to do. I cut off communication with the guy in particular as he told me this. Told him not to contact me. The rest I just won't respond to. I don't know how to approach this with him without losing him.", "summary": "Don't know what to tell my Fiance about talking with old guy friends of mine, one in particular."}
{"id": "t3_4th7j6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend? [23 M] duration 10 months, we haven't talked in 3 months", "post": "During university, we were really close friends. At the end of the year, he confessed feelings and I declined.. I went on a sandwich year and he repeated the year. So in third year we were together and things were ok I guess. I always initiated contact (texted) as he explained he had aspergers and couldn't contact first. But then it's like he completely ignored me and I was doing all the chasing. If we had the same lectures, he would acknowledge me for a second then go sit with his friends. Then we have left university and his final exam was at the start of June. Mine finished at the end of June. I go on to his facebook and he is enjoying his life without me. We haven't talked in 3 months because I haven't initiated contact. Is he not worth the effort? Why am i so attached to a guy who can't even text me to ask if I'm ok :'( I'm trying to forget but what do you guys think :'(", "summary": "Guy I was dating during thrid year of uni hasn't talked to me in 3 months after uni has ended. Is it over? He looked at my linkedin profile a week ago and knew if he went on to my profile , then I would be able to see that.. so what ?"}
{"id": "t3_4hkzyq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Bf[23M] 4yrs and best friend [22M] I'm falling for my best friend, what should I do.", "post": "I've been with my bf for 4 years now, living together for 2. He is my first serious relationship, and I though he was the one, but as I get closer to my Best friend, I realise that I'm not inlove with my boyfriend anymore, and want to test the waters with my friend.\n\nMy friend has already expressed interest in being with me, and honestly he is my form of a perfect man. The only things stopping him from pursuing me any further is my bf and that he lives 8hrs away, in Canada. I've already confided in Him that I have planned on moving close to his Providence once my visa is confirmed.\n\n I'm really confused because I have such strong feelings\nFor him, but I also love my boyfriend and his family. \n\nShould I test the waters with my friend, or stay here I'm at?", "summary": "Do I break up with Bf, and move out of country to be with my friend, or do I stay?"}
{"id": "t3_20fvlc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I misinterpret this text?", "post": "So I started talking to this girl the other night walking back from a club and I went rounds to hers with her friend and some spooning happened. Then I decided to chat to her by text for a bit the day after and the day after that.\n\nSo, I was mentioning this bar in my City that I really liked and asking if she'd been there before trying to hint that I think it's a good place to go and all that. The I send her a text asking if she's working tomorrow. She sends me this \"I am :( and the next day!! But I'll definitely make up for that on Saturday night ;) haha\". So I thought she meant that she'd like to do something with me even though I hadn't explicitly asked her but now I have doubts and don't know what to do.\n\nI texted her back after saying \"cool! looking forward to it. What time do you finish [work] like?\" But got no reply, I didn't think much of it because it was late and she starts work early and had missed a text the previous night also because of this. This was last night, I sent her a text today saying \"Guess what :)\" in the late evening and again no reply. So now I'm thinking maybe she just meant that she's gonna make sure she has a good night and not necessarily anything to do with me but I guess I just thought the wink face was directed at me.\n\nHow do I approach this? Should I send her a text tomorrow or should I wait for a reply? What do you think?", "summary": "Girl I chatted to on a night out sent me a text \"I am [working] :(and the day after!! But I'l definitely make up for that on Saturday night ;) haha\". Did she mean she'll make it up to me or herself? I didn't ask her out or anything but felt I hinted at her and she hasn't replied to my last couple of texts. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_17yldh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Cheapest way to transfer money to my foreign account?", "post": "I'm currently in the Netherlands for a few months. Everyone over here uses a special Dutch debit card with a chip. Not having one makes life much much more difficult since some places don't accept cash (in euros) or American credit cards.\n\nAs a result, I opened up a Dutch bank account with ING. I have an account back in the US with Chase. Currently, Chase charges me a 3% fee + $5 when I take out money using an ATM. It sucks since I'm a student. What would be the cheapest way to move money from my Chase account to my Dutch account? I'd like to make transfers every few weeks. So far I figure my options are: 1) take out money from ATM every time using my Chase card (incur 3% + $5 fee) and deposit that into my Dutch account, 2) Wire transfer each time I want to move money over (I'm guessing this will be expensive-- anyone know Chase's rates?) 3) Write myself a check and deposit it in the Dutch account (Is there a fee for doing this?) Are there any other options?", "summary": "I'm looking for the cheapest way to periodically move money from my American checking account to my Dutch checking account."}
{"id": "t3_1djf79", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24f] never wants to have kids, but I [26m] eventually do", "post": "Throwaway is because she also uses reddit.\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and things are very serious between us. We've been living together for about 6 months now and things have been pretty much perfect. We have similar interests and ambitions and I really feel like she makes me a better person, I love her. The only problem is that she never wants to have children and I really want to have a family.\n\nI think her dislike of children stems from her being bullied a lot as a child, having a terrible childhood herself, and generally having bad experiences with children as an adult. She is completely unable to interact with other peoples children, and has very little patience for them. It's so strange because she's a very kind and understanding person towards other adults, she's one of the nicest people I've ever met. She also studies medicine and the thought of pregnancy and giving birth seems very unappealing to her.\n\nI don't know what to do, I've been thinking a lot about the future lately and taking the relationship further but I don't know if I can do it knowing that I may never have children if I do. I've tried talking to her about it, and suggesting she talk to a psychologist to try to disassociate the bullying from how she sees children but she isn't too keen on the idea. I've also tried to look at the positives of having a life without children, to try to gauge whether it's worth it or not. But I'm just very unsure and If anyone has had a similar experience I would love some advice.", "summary": "Thinking about taking relationship to the next level but my girlfriend never wants to have kids and I do, and I don't know if I'm capable of committing to a life without them."}
{"id": "t3_2c4hkz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I go from first date to regular dating and meaningful connections (21/M)? (Xpost from /r/dating_advice)", "post": "I've been doing online dating for a while and recently I have hit a bit of a purple patch with it. In the past 2 weeks I've had two dates, both with girls my own age. In both cases I have kind of tried to let go and not worry too much about how things progress and both times I have really enjoyed myself.\n\nUnfortunately I am finding it really hard to get from the first date and just hanging out to having a connection. I guess that with both dates that I have been on, there have been supervening factors. The first one was with someone who lives about 300 kilometres away (I am in Hobart, she was in Launceston) and was planning to move to Melbourne in the next six months. The second one is planning to stay in Hobart, but was talking a lot about past friends with benefit relationship (which makes me think that she is not interested in a monagomous relationship which I am perfectly cool with).\n\nI have really enjoyed both dates, but I guess that I feel like I haven't done enough to show them that I am interested in them as more than just friends. What I wanted to ask was what I could do in the future to indicate interest in regular dating or a relationship. Or should I just be happy to let things evolve and not worry about trying to change myself? Thanks.", "summary": "Can get to first dates but can't get further and wondering how to get further."}
{"id": "t3_s2jf7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it necessary, or even acceptable to tell your S.O. about past relationships?", "post": "A little background:\n\nI'm 19 and I've been in a bunch of relationships since around 8th grade, but that whole time I was never with anyone that I could see myself still with in 5 years (let alone 5 months) Since last August a summer fling turned into the deepest, and most meaningful relationship of my life, and I've never been happier!\n\nwe're always very good at communicating with each other, but I kind of realized she knows nothing about my past relationships!\n\nThe reason this bothers me is almost all my friends know tons of stuff about my relationships mostly because I enjoy telling stories about them (My relationship history is best described as tragically hilarious so I have plenty of hilarious, and awkward stories).\n\nSo long story short, my girlfriend is really the only person close to me who doesn't know all these stories. Is this really something that I should even want to share? Is it wrong to talk about past relationships? Because I pretty much know the entirety of hers!\n\nMy biggest fear is just doing anything to weaken our relationship...because I feel like so much good has happened in my life since she showed up that I must be due for karma to beat me back down.", "summary": "First long term relationship, is it wrong to talk about past relationships with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1hnpe6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to advance from my [17M] friendship with [16F] of almost a year", "post": "I'm looking for advice on how to advance from my friendship to a more serious relationship. We've been friends for almost a year now, met through school. She is definitely more of an artsy person than I am, but I find myself enjoying her tastes in most things like music, art, and games. The biggest problem is not rejection in the attempt, but whether the friendship will stand after the fact, if things dont work out.\n\nThe defining moment where I knew I wanted more passed a few weeks ago, where she came over and we just played vidyas and watched movies all night. Typical teenage things, energy drinks, snacks, comics, etc. It was just one of those nights where nothing was expected of either of us, we just talked deeply and enjoyed ourselves.\n\nHaving talked to a few of my closest friends about it already, I already realize a few of the problems which could restrain things. Since that one night, we havn't talked on the normal schedule that we used to, but before there would usually be a mention of what she thinks is her \"great white buffalo\", a guy that never took it to the next level when she wanted him to. She sort of bashes herself often about it, and always seems to go back to him to talk, even though she tells me she tries to stay away. It's also not as if I would be a rebound-type guy though, as she has kept dating since that guy. She's also talked to me about being scared/not ready for commitments, although we talk about relationships enough that I know she still wants them.\n\nI just want to know how I should take the next step, or even whether or not I should at all. I don't know if I covered all the information, so I'll update the post with any answers to questions you may have to better size-up the post.", "summary": "Been friends with a girl for almost a year, need advice on how/if to advance things"}
{"id": "t3_2n75f3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a joke at work that was taken seriously", "post": "So I work at a bar/restaurant as a barback (bus tables + help out behind the bar). I am fairly new at this bar but I have gained a reputation with the managers as being very dependable and reliable because I always have worked hard and cover for people when they need days off consistently. So they usually listen to me when I make suggestions about things. Well I closed the bar last night and one of my duties is mopping behind the bar. I came into work today and one of the managers came up to me and said the floor was pretty dirty this morning and asked if I had mopped properly. I said \"I mopped but let's be honest, you'd have to pressure wash this place to get it looking clean again haha,\" TOTALLY JOKING. My manager laughed it off and continued his work, so I figured he understood I was just exaggerating.\n\nWell, after work today I get home to a company wide email that says we all will have to come in at 6 A.M. to pressure wash and do a \"thorough cleaning\" of the entire bar, inside and out. All of my coworkers are pissed about it but nobody knows that it may have been my joking remark about pressure washing the place that caused it. My manager took my joke seriously. Fuck.", "summary": "I cleaned the bar shitty. Made a joke about how it'll be dirty no matter what. Every one loses."}
{"id": "t3_4vvdoz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[F/25] Need help getting over extreme social anxiety around my crush.", "post": "Long story short. There's a guy I like, at my job, I'm pretty sure he likes me too. He's been hitting on me and making a lot of attempts to talk to me (For a few months now). He's even verbally told me he's interested. \n\nI try to talk back to him and smile and be friendly; but I'm so socially awkward and shy that I feel like I'm ruining everything. Whenever I see him I simultaneously feel like I just want to runaway but at the same time I just want to be around him. My heart beats so fast that I feel like I'm dying, its so hard to take. My stomach is filled with butterflies; I fidget and I stutter and I just don't know what to do. And when he's not too close to me I become boisterous and loud. I don't even know why I'm doing it just happens. Sometimes when he's around I ignore him because his presence in there is just too suffocating to me (if I don't do this I'll find myself starring at him, and he's caught me doing that a few times).\n\nHe was here today and as he was leaving he laughed at my practical joke I think an an attempt to get my attention. I looked up to see what he was smiling about and I laughed. We made eye contact and I ended up exchanging smiles and after that I was able to say goodbye to him.\n\nI sighed afterwards because I just felt so happy.\n\nI need your help because for these past 25 years I've been so socially awkward that it's ruined many relationships and friendships. I really don't want to ruin this one; I like this guy a lot...", "summary": "I'm so socially awkward it's ruining my relationships"}
{"id": "t3_1724ub", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the most regrettable decision you made as a kid that led to an embarrassing situation?", "post": "I used to walk to school in the 3rd grade.  At the halfway mark, I felt a pressure bubbling in my gut.  Thinking it was just gas, I squeezed out the fart only to have my underoos instantly ruined by butt mud.  The walk back home was too long and I was going to be late, so my 10 year old brain said screw it, just go to school like this.\n\nI spent the rest of the day pretending to be shocked by the stench of shit around me when my classmates would say, \"what's that smell?!  Smells like poop.\"", "summary": "Decided to go to school with sharted pants. Pretended that it was someone/something else that smelled like shit."}
{"id": "t3_3sp71k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing grey pants", "post": "This FU actually happened a long time ago at my old charter HS. \n\nSo, my old school used to have a very strict dressing policy, for example, you could only wear black or khaki pants. No jeans or pants of any other color. (I'm pretty sure the only reason they had these strict rules was to motivate students by offering \"free dress day\" for good behavior and straight A's)\n\nI didn't care much about these rules cause I'm fashionably impaired, and also the school lets all the students have a laptop.\n\nBut, one day I accidentally wore ***grey*** pants. My mom quickly said that I'd probably get in trouble, but I shrugged it off because why would they care, they're just grey pants. What even would be the punishment?\n\nSo, up until second period no-one has noticed. I ask my teacher if I could use the restroom and she lets me go. After I finish, I walk back up the stairs to my class. Mid-step, a teacher who was walking down the hall says to me:\n\n\"Nice pants, Omni!\"\n\nHe gives me the trolliest smile in the world. \n\nI should of just said, \"Thanks!\" and dashed, but it was too late. I had been caught.\n\nMy dad had to leave a meeting cause I got ISS for \"wearing the wrong color pants.\"\n\nThis stupid rule made my, and my whole family's day so much worse.\n\nI had to sit hours in ISS, waiting for my dad to pick me up.\n\nThe fact that they had to physically take me out of class, and make my father leave his job, just because I wore pants that were too many shades too light, shows how messed up our school system is.\n\n*If only I had listened to my mum.", "summary": "Wore wrong pants color and got in school suspension."}
{"id": "t3_2ej707", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [25] broke up with me [M/28] one week after telling me I'm the one.", "post": "We met a month ago. Everything went awesome. We were \"official\" two weeks later. Everything began fast and furiously. She told me she loved me and said she was SURE, more sure than anything else in her life that I was \"the one\". She trusted me enough to meet and hang out w/ her son. She met my daughter. Everything was great, even the sex. \n\nSo, last Tuesday, I stayed at her house and everything was fine until we got in bed. She went cold. Didn't touch me at all, no sex. Wednesday night, same thing, even sleeping fully clothed this time. Saturday night, same thing once again. I texted her the next morning and asked her to tell me what's going on. She said: \"Maybe we moved to fast. You're such an amazingly sweet guy... I'm just not feeling it as much as I was wanting it to work\"... \n\nI text her and say well let's talk about this because I don't believe you just aren't feeling me; you wouldn't allow me to meet your son if you weren't into me. Told your family about me, etc. She's FIERCELY protective of her son, I can't see her introducing me into his life if she wasn't into me, only to dump me a week later. \n\nShe agreed to dinner but due to somethings we didn't get to meet. She said \"let's talk tomorrow when I'm thinking clearly. I'm overwhelmed. I'm sorry.\" I'm going over her house tonight to talk about it. \n\nWhat do you guys think is going on here?", "summary": "GF said I was the one after 3 weeks of dating and said she loves me. One week later she dumps and tells me she's \"not feeling it\"."}
{"id": "t3_w8byw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend's parents are getting a divorce. How do I help him?", "post": "I am 20F and he is 19M. We've been together for two and a half years, and known each other (and I his family) since we were 4. \n\nHis parents have decided to get a divorce. He doesn't know yet because he desperately tries to avoid family drama, but his sister has told me about it. They'll separate very soon. \n\nI want to help him through it when it finally happens, but I'm not sure how. I haven't been through something like this before. Of course I'll always be there for him to talk to when he needs it, but the problem is he usually keeps all emotion to himself. He's normally a happy guy, but when he does get upset he hides it and lets it fester until it gets much worse for him. I'm afraid of the stress he could go through if he does that to himself now. So is there anything proactive I can do to help him through this? If you're a child of a divorce, is there anything you wish others had known to do when they were around you?\n\nFor now I'm going to be emotionally available and try to get him to do things with me he loves - hiking, biking, video games, etc., without getting overbearing. But if you have any additional advice, I would really appreciate it!", "summary": "Boyfriend's parents are getting divorced, how do I help him through it?"}
{"id": "t3_w9cbk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend is going through a lot of acute stress; how can I help him while I am 300 miles away?", "post": "My friend (21M) whom I (21F) was dating for a couple months before I moved away (we're just \"casual\"/friends now) is going through a lot of acute stress in his life at the moment. He recently broke his arm and is stressing about that because it interferes with him being able to work out (which he used to do to keep him in his \"groove\") and do a lot of other things, a lot of things at his apartment are getting broken, he got his car totaled in an accident, one of his family members was suddenly sent to the hospital, etc. I wish I were there by his side, but I'm 300 miles away, and I don't know what I could do to help alleviate his stress. When we talk on the phone, I try my best to be understanding and be a good listening ear so he could at least talk about it and vent, but he's pretty emotionally reserved and doesn't delve into his problems and instead asks me about my day and what I'm going through. I guess he doesn't like talking about that stuff, so I want to see if I could help him in other ways. r/relationships, what do you recommend?", "summary": "Friend is going through a lot of stress from different things going on in his life, but I'm 300 miles away and don't know how I could help him feel better."}
{"id": "t3_2ubbcp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm losing my motivation pretty quickly. Help on how to stay focused?", "post": "Back in August I went to the doctor and weighed more than I ever had. I decided to make a change. I have MFP and joined the gym. I was going  to 5 times a week. Cardio 3 days, weights 3 days. Religiously tracking my calories. I would say I wasn't crazy obsessive but I would say I was pretty rigorous. Then the holidays happened and I still went to the gym maybe 2 to 3 times a week, and I would maybe track my calories 5 days a week if I remembered. Then I had a super crazy week at work and just stopped doing anything. I'm trying to keep calories on track, but no where near what I was before. \n\nI feel like I'm stuck and I can't find the motivation to make myself go back to the gym or be back to where I was before. I lost 20 pounds when  I tried, and I haven't gained back much, just a couple pounds but that's not what I want. \n\nHow do you get on track when you've stumbled? How to I get my fire back? I want this so bad, but I can't seem to find what I had before.", "summary": "I need my motivation! Help me find it please!"}
{"id": "t3_44zri8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [20 F] right in asking my fiance [25 M] to wear a tuxedo, rather than kilt, at our wedding?", "post": "Hi everyone, I'm totally new here but I'm searching for some advice so thank you in advance if you choose to share your opinion with me :)\nSo, my boyfriend and I got engaged over a month ago and I've already started to plan our wedding. I can't wait to get married - I've been dreaming of the day coming ever since I was little - and I want everything to be perfect, the way I imagined. As you might probably suspect from my question, my fiance is Scottish and I'm not. And mind you, he is very - I mean VERY - proud of his heritage and ancestry and what follows, wears his kilt to every celebration. The point is, I've always imagined my wedding traditional, with my groom wearing a tuxedo and I can't get used to the idea of him wearing a kilt and hiring a piper for our special day. I'm definitely talking him out of bagpipes but I know for sure that he wants to wear kilt and nothing else for the wedding.\nNow my question is, am I selfish to ask him to wear something else for me? Would YOU say yes if your SO asked for sth like that?\nI'm torn because I don't want to force him or make him give the kilt up because of guilt but at the same time, I know how perfect it'll be if he wears a tux :(\nI know it's trivial compared to other problems people share here but it's really important for me. So if you take your time to give your opinion it's much appreciated!", "summary": "My fiance is very proud of being Scottish and insists on wearing his kilt to all celebrations. I want him to wear tuxedo for our wedding, is it wrong of me to ask him to give the kilt up?"}
{"id": "t3_snx76", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I don't care how petty it may be, I want revenge. Any ideas?", "post": "I run the front desk at a salon, and just had an extremely stressful day after one of my stylists called in sick and I had to reschedule all of her clients [most of them were very rude to me; some of them yelled and hung up on me].  She said she was having terrible tooth pain, and she was going to an emergency dentist, so I told her to take care of herself and not to worry about it.  I just got home and saw that my manager posted a bunch of new pictures on Facebook of her day today.  I was looking through them and realized that the stylist who was supposed to be at the emergency dentist was caught in one of the pictures.  Apparently they had a lovely day at the aquarium together, while I was stuck at work being verbally harassed by her clients.  I am so mad right now, but I don't want to just confront them.  I want to fuck with their minds.  I want revenge.  Any ideas?", "summary": "Got yelled at all day by customers when I was covering for a coworker, only to find out that she was faking sick and my manager was in on it.  How can I get back at them?"}
{"id": "t3_1w689e", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I need help with harassment over the internet!!", "post": "This is the short version of my story. I live in Southwestern Virginia. My wife has been harassed over Facebook going on three years now. The people have done everything from spread lies and rumors to our family and friends, create fake accounts of both of us, created fake accounts with the purpose of contacting our college to get us kicked out, and just about anything else you could imagine someone doing to ruin your life over Facebook. One of the times they did this it resulted in our child being taken by child protective services for a week while the courts tried to convict us of child abuse. \n\nNow the reason I'm coming to you Reddit is that every police agency we go to gives us some crap line of how they are not breaking any laws or says they can do something but the case has to be started at a lower level which won't do anything. So my question is what can reasonably be done to get these people to quit or pay for the hell they have been putting us through.", "summary": "Me and my wife have been harassed through Facebook for 3 years and nobody will do anything to help stop them because we are over 18 and thus is not considered cyberbulling. What can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_3r5wgb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18F] hooked up with a guy[22M] last night and he wants to take things a step further.", "post": "Last night I was at a party with some friends from high school at a very known college in my state. I met this guy on Tinder in March and we've been texting/snapchatting ever since. I told him I was going to be there so we made plans to locate each other and finally hit it off. \n\nThings were wonderful. He's attractive and sweet and although he's kinda sensitive, he was worth my night. As the party went on, I was eventually drinking beer like water and hardcore flirting with everyone. Im assuming he was a little jealous so he decided to steal me so we could have some time alone. \n\nBy the time we started sexy time, I was already starting to sober up and still enjoying my situation. I have never had better sex in my entire life. Every part was wonderful and thinking about it now makes me happy. Still too buzzed to drive home, I spent the night with him.\n\nHe took me to my car in the morning and that was that. Honestly I considered him nothing more than a one night stand, but later he texted me and we had a conversation about things and discussed what an awesome time we both had. As the conversation went on, he kept telling me how cute/beautiful/even better than pictures I was and said maybe we should be more than friends. \n\nIm a little hesitant at this point tbh. I like him. A lot. But normally when I hook up with guys we text briefly the next day and never see each other again and thats something Im fine with. \n\nI think this is moving a little fast for someone I met in person for the first time. Advice much appreciated.", "summary": "hooked up with guy I've been talking to for months, he wants a relationship and I'm unsure."}
{"id": "t3_20izvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with [19 F], dating for 2 months. Never had a serious relationship before, looking for advice.", "post": "We're both in college, and as with many college relationships it started as a hookup at a party. It pretty quickly reached a level of emotional intimacy that I haven't experienced before and we've kept seeing each other. We've both gotten around a bit (had sex with multiple of each others friends) but we've both been upfront about it and are comfortable with it.\n\nA few weeks ago we talked about being exclusive \nand both agreed to it. A few days later she had a tough night with a friend and was drunk and expressed to me some doubts. She's a freshman and I'm a junior, and she said that I'd already gotten to experience being single and on the scene my freshman year and she thought she might want it too. A couple days later when we were both sober we talked about it again and I made it clear that if she felt that way then I'd rather we end things now before it got too serious, and that we should only keep going if she really wanted to. She said that she did and that I'm the only guy she's met in college that has made her feel important and not just like she's being used.\n\nOther than that issue things have been going great. I've had the opportunity to have a relationship before but from a combination of fear of commitment / high standards for relationships vs. hookups / insert other excuse I've always backed out before things got too serious. This is different and I really like where we are and would like to see where things go.\n\nDue to my lack of previous relationship experience, I'd love outside advice. What are good practices and tips to help build and strengthen a new relationship?", "summary": "Never been in a serious/long-term relationship before, what can I do in my current one to help it last?"}
{"id": "t3_ddc1m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AskReddit: Can you help me with my career choice?", "post": "Hello Reddit,\n\nFirst off, I live in Illinois. I am 23 and graduated college with a BA in mathematics this May. I was not going for this, it just kind of happened. I was originally going for my teaching certificate to teach high school and middle school math. I completed all my classes except for student teach. I did not student teach because I did not pass my content area test (which is math) and you have to pass this before you student teaching. I took the test 5 times with no luck. I think my test stress and general lack of knowledge in math is why I can't pass. Although I know enough about math to get my degree in it. So who knows. Illinois passed a law recently that you can only take the content area test five times. So they are letting me take it one more time if I wanted. I did not take it, and decided just to graduate with my math degree. I always think about trying to take it one more time, or to try to get my certification in another state. My husband and I are willing to move anywhere (although preferable by the beach). I am just afraid that I will never be able to pass the math test and therefore wasting my time. Also, I am not even sure how to start trying to get my certification in another state. I already wasted a lot of time and money taking all the education classes and don't really want to have to take them all again. \n\nI have been working at daycares most my life. But just recently quit because my husband got a job and I hated it. Just a few days ago, I was asked to take this management position of people who sell perfumes and colognes. I have never been a manager, and don't really know if I want to. It pays well and would be a change, but I think my heart is still with teaching. Although, with all that has happens makes me want to yell \"screw teaching\" and forget all about it.\n\nSo my question is, should I continue to try to teach, which is what I always wanted to do, or take this management job? Should I do management for a few years as I try to get my certification?", "summary": "I can't pass the content area test to get my teaching certification, but that is really what I want to do. I was just asked to be a manger, should I take it?"}
{"id": "t3_3e5yjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Woman interested in two guys, and using mind-games on both of them.", "post": "Hi, I am M[27] interested in F[25]!\n\nI work in a small company, where I am interested in this woman who works 4-5 cubicles away. There is another guy (from the same office) interested in her. The woman has shown interest in both of us, where she dated both of us at different times. When both of us asked her out (alternatively), she declined both of us. \n\nBut, somehow we got into a \"mind-game\", where she is testing both of us - either for fun or some other reason. She also asked both of us to not talk to her. I am still interested in her, but I don't know if playing the game is the right thing to do to attract her. \n\nNeed help!", "summary": "woman at work shows interest in two guys, and using mind-games with both of them."}
{"id": "t3_54c1ld", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By going to bed early and breaking my pelvis", "post": "Like many this didn't happen today but about a week ago.\n\nMy gf, my 2 roommates and I were in my garage playing pool, darts and drinking beer as usual.\n\nI had things to do on Saturday so I decided to call it an early night and go to bed around 1030pm. Everyone else was thirsty and stayed in the garage to lubricate a bit more.\n\nI have a balconey off my room that sits about 12' above my back patio with a 34\" railing. I often have a before bed smoke through the sliding glass door, and I can only assume thats what I intended to do as I was in my underwear and ready for bed.\n\nI must have tripped on something but I remember seeing my feet above my head and then hitting the ground. HARD.\n\nI fell about 15 feet and landed on my side on patio stone. Thank God I didnt hit my head, my head actually hit my bicept on impact. I remember grunting but passed out almost immediately.\n\nWhen I came to I yelled for help but with the music on in the garage I knew they couldn't hear me. So I sucked it up and crawled inside on my belly. Not sure how I opened the back door, or crawled what ended up being about 60 feet, but I made it to the bottom of the basement stairs.\n\nI yelled for help but to no avail. I tried to climb the stairs but that wasnt happening. So I accepted my predicament and laid in wait. \n\nThey came in around 2am and found me, thinking I had fallen down the stairs. They couldn't believe I crawled my way in like a wounded soldier.\n\n9-1-1. Ambulance. CT scans. The whole bit. Turns out I broke my pelvis and won't walk for 3 months.\n\nNext time I'm just going to keep drinking.", "summary": "Went to bed early. Fell off my 15' balconey. Crawled 60' and was found 3 hrs later with a broken pelvis. Wont walk for 3 months. Should've stayed outside and got drunk."}
{"id": "t3_ur8pr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the most awesomest thing a older sibling has done?", "post": "It can be anything\n\nWhen I was 15 I used to get bullied. It got to the point where the bully wanted to fight me. I knew this guy would have back up. I tell my older brother and he then calls his friends and we go to where the bully was waiting and when they saw 3 trucks roll up they get scared but they still stand around. So my brother rolls down his window and says this \"yo, are you the dudes that wanna start shit with my little brother?\" Keep in mind my older brother is pretty scary looking. The dude looks at him and says \"yeah but we were joking and we wernt going to do anything\". My brother says \"then why the fuck are you texting him saying we're gonna shit kick you?\" The kids friends start to back away and my brother continues \"you stay the fuck away from him or I'm going to show you a real ass kicking\"\n\nThey aplogized over facebook and never bugged me", "summary": "my older brother scared the shit out of a bunch of 15-17 year old gang bangers."}
{"id": "t3_1k1jvy", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I hate my best friend's choices in guys.", "post": "Okay Mainly I hate her choice in guys. She's awesome. She's got a master's degree. She's got a great job teaching. She's attractive to most. But fucking damn does she know how to pick them. She has this almost delusional sense of what love is. She has been one of my best friends since 6th grade (almost 16 of friendship) We were even roommates for a year I love her to death. But I can't fucking stand any dude she has dated. They just take advantage of her naivette, she's is currently in love with a dead beat dude, who has cheated on her multiple times with girls off craigslist as well as with the bartenders of the places we all frequent. She knows this, which just irks the hell out of me.    \n\nI am about tired of bailing her out and being there for her. I wish her nothing but the best, but I'm tired of hearing the same sob story about him cheating on you.", "summary": "Best friend dates a bunch of dirt bags who fucks girls off craigslist behind her back. I'm tired of it."}
{"id": "t3_jw87c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need student credit help! Interesting situation and need your help!", "post": "I am currently a senior in college and will be graduating in may. I have taken out 3 loans to help finance my schooling. \n\n1) $7500 Federal loan ($2500 subsidized and $5000 unsub)\n2) $7500 Federal loan ($2500 sub and $5000 unsub)\n3) $20,000 Private loan \n\nI have just come across $30,000. I have no credit and no credit cards. Do you guys have any suggestions on how I should pay off my loans to possibly start building some credit? I was thinking about paying off the private loan immediately so I don't accrue any interest. Then slowly pay off the Federal loans b/c they have a lower interest rate.\n\nI have never been in this situation before so I was hoping you guys could help me out.", "summary": "have 35k in student loans, 2 fed 1 private. just got $30k. how should i pay off my loans to build credit?"}
{"id": "t3_2yr2ua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am 44F and I'm lonely in my relationship with BF 44M.", "post": "We have dated for 14 months. Obviously due to our ages we are hoping for something serious at this point.  I'm really struggling to figure out if I'm a needy, co-dependent whiner or if I'm actually being neglected.\n\nHe puts his work first.  I guess I'm okay with that to an extent, but I don't feel cherished.  Is that an old-fashioned thing??  I feel like I'm an old fashioned girl, and he's really modern.  He's been in many relationships and views them more as a partnership, whereas I've only been in a previous marriage (widowed for 5 years now) and I long so much for that feeling of being loved and cared for.\n\nHe is nice to me, but he's pretty self-absorbed overall.  He says he always has been and that's why he is successful in business.  But I am begining to feel like a cog in his wheel, rather than the woman he loves.  I never get anything I need to feel special to him.  I don't really feel very special at all.  I feel more like a friend/buddy, employee.  I am having a hard time articulating it.  There is nothing sweet.  Nothing gentle and loving.  **But I know he's capable of it** because that's how he hooked me in the first place.  He was sweet and loving and attentive.  As soon as he got me, he immediately became my \"partner\" and no longer put any effort or energy into me.\n\nI know everyone is different, but my friends have husbands and boyfriends who fawn over them.  Buy them flowers now and then.  Call them pet names.  Just little things.  He does none of this and I am constantly feeling this sense of *longing*.  I feel lonely and even when I tell him this, he doesn't really acknowledge it much, nor does he change.\n\nAt 44 I guess he's unable to change.  Should I accept a stable \"partnership\" at my age and just forget the silly love stuff?", "summary": "BF doesn't treat me special, doesn't seem interested in \"looking after me\" at all (I'm not talking money here) and doesn't seem very in love with me.  Should I accept this since I'm now in my mid 40s and just work with what we have, or hold out for somebody else?"}
{"id": "t3_gl85g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Keeping up \"the chase\" - need advice", "post": "Throwaway account.  I'm F/28, he is M/38.\nAfter years of friendship and a few months before I'm scheduled to move back to my hometown (where he also lives), one of my best guy friends confesses that he's had feelings for me for many years and wants to be with me.  I confess to him that I've also had feelings for him.\n\nWhen we met, I was on again/off again with my high school boyfriend and he was (rightfully) concerned about our age gap 9 years ago. \n\nIn the last year, we've spent a lot of time hanging out when I was in town, but never anything romantic.  In two weeks, I move back to town and we intend to start dating. \n\nThis will be my first romantic adult relationship (I married & divorced the on again/off again high school sweetheart) and while I have realistic expectations for the relationship, there is one thing that I need advice on.  **The chase**\n\nWe've spent time chatting as I'm getting ready to move back to town, he's mentioned several times that it is important to him that I \"make him chase me\".  I get what it means; being flirty, not letting things get *too* comfortable too quickly, etc.  but I need ideas on how to keep up the chase.\n\nIf you have a suggestion for a more appropriate subreddit, by all means tell me! :)", "summary": "new-ish to dating, how to keep a guy chasing after me?"}
{"id": "t3_ovd60", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I avoid political robo-calls? Or, how do I avoid gouging my eyes out?", "post": "I received my first robo-call toady (then a second, shortly after). The election cycle is taking off and these calls are to be expected, I guess. I've received them in the past and I haven't found a way to avoid them.    \n\nThey wouldn't be such a pain if they weren't calling *my mobile phone*. I haven't spoken to my carrier, but I have to imagine there's something they can do. I've even tried calling the party headquarters, PAC's, etc., but to no avail.    \n\nI know they go through the population of registered voters, so I wonder: Is this just an unpleasant side effect of being a registered voter? Is there nothing I can do?    \n\n[It's bad enough they've infiltrated my Twitter feed.]    \n\nI'm up to my eyeballs in shitty political ads. I'm just fucking tired of it. I'm relatively informed. I actively seek out information on my own. I don't need them calling my **personal fucking cell phone**.    \n\nAnyone have any ideas? Suggestions?", "summary": "Political robo-calls (and ads in general) are fucking killing me! How do I tell them to fuck off?"}
{"id": "t3_1puouu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] having doubts about my friend [20F] loyalty, Am I making the right decision?", "post": "I've been friends with this girl for the past 5 years, for the past 2 years or so, my feelings for her have grown significantly & I love her.\nI told her about my feelings a while back & she didn't feel the same, I told myself that I could still be friends with her, I'd rather have her in my life as a friends than not at all.\n\nSince then, there hasn't been a day that's gone by were I haven't felt miserable from it, I thought I could deal with being friends with her but I can't anymore.\n\nMy friends always give me **** for buying her things & taking her to the movies & for dinner at restaurants whenI'm not even dating the girl, tonight I was on my way back from the airport & her place is on my way home so I'll stop buy, It was around 7ish & I was hungry so I asked her if she wanted any dinner so I bought me and her some take out and we chilled.\n\nMy friends think she's only maintained a friendship with me because I buy her stuff all the time & whilst she's had boyfriends in the past, I've always been there for her as a crutch whilst she's pissed until she ends up getting back with one of her ex's.\n\nShe's also said to me that she'd pick me over any boyfriend, what she apparenltly meant was that if one of her boyfriends wanted her to stop speaking to me, she'd always chose to speak and see me over the 'at time boyfriend'.\n\ntonight my friends came over & for 4 hours they basically told me how she only keeps me around because of money & that I only do it all for her because I have other feelings too & that they can't understand why I always pay whenever we go out for dinner or the movies, if we aren't dating.\n\nI keep thinking what they say it true so I was planning on going to her place tomorrow to tell her I think it's for the best if we cut ties. Am I thinking right?", "summary": "I now have doubts whether this girl has really been my friend for money or not."}
{"id": "t3_10cj2h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My neighbors are crazy, and it's getting out of hand. How can we get them back?", "post": "The lady next door is a fucking nut. We always used to hear her screaming really terrible things at her young children like \"why don't you go outside and kill each other? i don't even care anymore!\" She was also cheating on her husband with some douche in a car that's loud as fuck. So my mom told this lady's (now ex) husband about it, cause he seemed like a nice enough guy. \n\nThis is when the bullshit started. The douche is always leaving in the middle of the night and his car is LOUDDDD. They installed a spotlight that shined directly into my parents' window. They tie their beagle up outside and it never fucking stops barking. We also share a driveway, and we have two very large dogs, and because of where it's tied up, we can't take our dogs out sometimes cause this little piece of shit dog wants to fight my mastiffs. Last night the kids were outside and it was pretty late and the guy was just telling the kids to yell as loud as they could. Just to annoy us! These assholes get so much satisfaction out of pissing us off. \n\nOh yeah and i forgot, the guy in the car once tried to run my mother off the road. \n\nIn a perfect world i would go over there and burn their house down, but that's not much of an option. So reddit, how can i get some sweet, sweet revenge on these people?\n\n[Dogs 4 karma]", "summary": "My neighbors are the worst people on earth and i want to crush them"}
{"id": "t3_211d5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am considering contacting my ex [22? F] after 5 or 6 years of no contact to bury the hatchet so to speak.", "post": "She was my first love and we dated for about 1.5 years in high school which ended really badly.  She wasn't sure what she wanted so she strung me along while she was dating another guy for about 6 months before we officially broke up.  I was heart broken needless to say.\n\nI would say that it jaded me for the longest time to the point that I let opportunities pass because i had a \"fuck it everything is a waste of time\" mentality.  It made me harbor a lot of resentment towards her and made me insecure to the point that i didn't date anyone for 3 years after that.  Nowadays she rarely comes up in my mind except once in a while.  Her sister still wishes me a happy birthday and tells me that my ex feels remorse for how we ended.  \n\nTo get to the point, I feel like my past relationship is subconsciously effecting any new relationships I have.  Its hard for me to trust people in general to the point i close myself off. and yet, if i do let a girl in i panic and over-think everything.  I think it really gets in the way of future prospects.\n\nI want to contact my ex because i feel like i'm dragging this weight around and its influencing how i act when a girl i'm interested in shows up.  I have zero interest of pursue this to reconnect or even make a friend, this is mostly to clear the air.  I know now that i wasn't completely blameless like i used to think.  i feel like i need to confront my past and clear the air to get a grip on my future", "summary": "Been broken up with my first love for 6 years after a shitty breakup.  Years later I don't have feelings for her but just feel like i never dealt with the leftover problems."}
{"id": "t3_4mhlc1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Myself [30f] with so[30m] of ten years. Need advice with a situation that happened tonight.", "post": "My so of 10 years,  he went to a work do tonight after he left he stopped at a gas station to get me some water, when he got back he had a story of a women who started hitting on him, asking if she could touch his hair, his plans for the night, if she could have his number. He told me he showed her his wedding ring and said he was married, we laughed about the odd encounter and then he promptly fell asleep. \nI went to the bathroom and came back and checked he had his alarm set since he had passed out so quickly. That is when I noticed that his contacts were open with her name and number....\nReddit, what do I do? Do I give him the benefit of the doubt as I know he hates awkward situations and see him taking her number just to get rid of her or am I just being naive? Help a girl out please.", "summary": "SO comes back from gas station with story about being hit on, makes out to seem like he turned her down but saw number in his phone."}
{"id": "t3_2soc9w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blasting my guilty pleasure playlist for my entire school to hear", "post": "OK, first a little background: I run the light and sound for my school's productions.  I know every little bit of technology in the entire theater and then some.  Right now, we are in tech week (the stressful week before a show full of rehearsals and crying) for the annual dance show.\n\nOn to the story:  After a few practices of the opening act, the directors call together a cast meeting to map out what will be done today.  So I think to myself: \"I have about 15 minutes to do whatever. Might as well listen to some music.\"  Now earlier this year, I learned a trick to route all sound directly into the booth and only to the booth.  So I plug in my phone and put on my favorite playlist, accurately titled \"Guilty Pleasures\".  It is riddled with everything from Rude Boy to various K-Pop songs.  I put it on shuffle and start jamming out, knowing that my foolproof method was keeping embarrassment at bay.  2 minutes into Fergalicious, I hear one of the directors shouting: \"AGELFDUDE23, WOULD YOU *PLEASE* TURN OFF THAT MUSIC?!?\".  I then learned that God has a funny sense of humor, as one of the monitors was left on.  Everyone had heard every song.  After processing what I had just heard, I rip out the aux cord and hide from sight to avoid further embarrassment.  I am never using that damn thing again.", "summary": "The tech booth that I thought was my friend betrayed me by revealing all my guilty pleasure songs to 1/4 of the school"}
{"id": "t3_4v6sha", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Bank statement shows I withdrew $900 but I only withdrew $500. Advice please?", "post": "So I recently went on an international holiday and used one of those travel money cards. \n\nInstead of paying the $10 to transfer the $900 I had left in it online, I thought I'd just withdraw the cash from an ATM to save the $10.\n\nWent to the ATM, tried to withdraw $900 - declined. Happened several times with various amounts (I thought maybe there was a fee, so tried $890, $880, etc). Checked the balance and $900 was in there. Odd. Ok I'll try $500 because maybe the ATM has a weird limit. \n\nThe $500 worked and then I tried $490, $480, both declined. That's ok, I will get the rest out tomorrow. \n\nTry to get the rest out tonight and now the rest isn't there. I checked online and called the travel card company and my account is showing that I withdrew then $900, but I 100% did not. The company said to put a dispute form in but I'm doubting they will approve anything because their records are showing that I withdrew it, even though I didn't! \n\nJust wondering if this has happened to anyone else or if you have any advice for me before I submit my dispute form into them? I really can't afford to lose $400 right now.", "summary": "Withdrew $500 from bank but statement shows that I withdrew $900. Help."}
{"id": "t3_38f3mk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25f] aunt[46f] might make the bank repossess my car because I am not sharing my wifi connection.", "post": "I am a freelancer and being one in my country, I basically cannot take up loans under my name because I can't provide proof I have a stable income even though my salary is higher than the average in my field. I wanted to buy a car for my parents to help them with their small business. So I asked my aunt to put the car loan under her name. She agreed and I got the car last year.\n\nThen I was eating dinner last night when I received a text from my aunt asking me: \n\n>wifiproblem001, why are you not sharing your wifi anymore? We're paying for it promptly but why are you so selfish when I did you a favor of using my name and credentials so that you can buy a car?\n   \n\nI have two internet connection at home from different provider so that I can have a backup just in case my main connection fails. My work heavily relies on the internet so I cannot really afford to lose internet connection. I am sharing the backup connection with my aunt as I rarely use it. We both agreed before that we'll split the cost but the last payment that my aunt gave me was last January and they dont really pay on time. Sometimes they skip months or whenever they feel like paying(these were even before I asked her for the car loan). So I told her that the last payment they had was last January and I thought they don't want to use the wifi anymore because I kept on asking her daughter and she kept on saying she don't know and they're not paying anymore.  \n\nNow what I am afraid to happen is that my aunt will ask the bank to cancel the loan and have the car repossessed. I can totally see her doing that because she's quite bitchy(a lot of people hate her). All the money that I already paid in advance to the bank + the downpayment I initially paid will all go to waste. What should I do??", "summary": "My bitchy aunt is mad at me because I am not sharing my wifi anymore. And because of that, she might ask the bank to cancel the loan for my car that is under her name."}
{"id": "t3_1kihk0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Lots of first dates, barely any second dates", "post": "Im a 24 year old guy.\nMy question is as the title suggests, Ive been trying out online dating for a while and I seem to be getting a decent number of dates but none seem to pan out. Has anyone else experienced this?\n\nI am a somewhat shy guy, and definitely quiet, which I communicate to the girls before going out because I know some people arent into that so I havent gone out with anyone who hasnt been ok with that or claimed to be ok with it. Im pretty much looking for a girl with a strong personality because 2 quiet people dont always work the best\n\nI would also say that I have terrible social awareness and terrible at picking up on social cues, so I never know how to read people correctly or react properly (Im basically clueless as hell). I dont know how to fix this or learn.. if Im practicing the wrong way all the time then nothing will get better\n\nAn example...\n\nLast night I went out with a girl and got drinks at a bar. It wasnt a bad time, but didnt seem like there was any kind of sexual tension between us. I never know what/when/how to be touching a girl so we didnt touch all night. She drove us and was taking me back home but when we were at my house she asked if I wanted to go see her pet hamster. I said yeah and we turned around and went to her place. She showed me her pet and showed my her place, the living room and then her room, then we just sat on the couch a bit and talked. I have to think she wanted more than just talking, but my attempt to read her body language convinced me away from that because she was sitting 'away' from me. She was kind of angled, her legs closest to me and head furthest from me and her hands werent really accessible so I felt she didnt want me to try to hold her hand or make a move, so I didnt.\nAfter talking a bit she took me back home and today she hasnt talked to me much, which seems to be par for the course after a 1st date, which is why Im looking for some help!\n\nAny thoughts? Advice?", "summary": "I can get 1st dates, but dont know how to make them successful?"}
{"id": "t3_30kyym", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with [23F] early dating, let slip that she doesn't think I'm attractive, confused about wording.", "post": "I was talking to this girl I've been dating for a few weeks about when we met. I jokingly said \"sucks that I'm ugly, or maybe you would have given me a chance...\" to which she said \"yeah, but you were interesting.\"\n\nWell...OK. A lot of that sentence is benign, but the YEAH really got to me after I ran it over in my head a few times. A few minutes later I asked her point blank if she thought I was physically attractive. She said, \"you're very......handsome.\" massive hesitation in the middle. I told her that she'd implied otherwise earlier.\n\nThen she says: \"I didn't *notice* that you were attractive until later.\"\n\nwut? is that biologically possible? personality and all that aside, what am I dealing with here? does she not think I'm physically attractive?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_jkv2c", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Got bitten by a dog today (pics inside). Advice for filing charges and/or prevention?", "post": "My [vizsla] and I were out for a 7am run, and near the end I saw an aggressive pair of Rottweilers crossing their electrical barrier behind us in my peripheral vision.  So I picked up speed.  It didn't work, and they chased us, snarling, and tackled my dog to the ground.  I yelled \"no!\" at them while my dog was yelping, but they were frenzied, and even at my most furious I am not that intimidating.  I managed to pull my dog to his feet by his leash while yelling at the dogs, and we backed away, but as soon as I turned around the more aggressive dog charged and grabbed my calf.  I screamed again and kicked it and kept backing away and yelling \"no!\" until they stopped advancing.  Then we were over the hill and sprinting home.\n\nI have 8 puncture wounds on my calf, some of which were bleeding out fatty tissue since they went through the skin.  Sick.  I had them treated at an ER, so my leg will be fine. Photos- [side of leg] and [back of leg](\n\nI called the sheriff's office, and a deputy came out and maced the dogs--which didn't have their electric collars on, were still running loose, and ran at him when he entered their yard.  He gave me the option of pressing charges, and I am trying to decide whether I'm over-reacting by going forward with it.  The deputy did say he had a report of the dogs biting an elderly man's ankle in 2009, so I am leaning toward yes....\n\nAnyway, advice?  I'm at home taking care of my mom post-surgery, so it's not my usual route, but I kept on the opposite side of the street and didn't make eye contact.  Maybe I can start carrying pepper spray.", "summary": "got bitten while running with dog, gory photos for your pleasure, how to successfully fend off dogs in future, whether to press charges?"}
{"id": "t3_4avwrs", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I got myself a gym membership! I'm very happy, but need some help.", "post": "Almost a year ago, my bf of 6 years broke up with me. A breakup makes me lose weight. Since then I lost 12 kg/26.4 lb (94kg to 82kg or 207 lb to 180 lb). It's not a lot in a year, but I was very happy with and about it.\n\nNow I want to get rid of 10 more kg. Changing my eating habbits alone doesn't seem enough, so I started looking for some workout. I don't like running/jogging and I don't like playing in competitions. Next to that, I don't earn a lot of money. Recently, a supercheap gym opened in my town: one I can afford with my meager income.\n\nSo I joined them today and Saturday will be my first workout. I really want to go now, but I'm going with my brother so he can explain some of the gear to me, since this is my first time in a gym.\n\nCan some of you please help me with some tips? What should or shouldn't I do the first time I go? Do you know any good posts/subs I should read? A personal trainer is a bit too expensive for me, so any help from you guys is very welcome! Thanks in advance.", "summary": "got my first gym membership, could use some tips."}
{"id": "t3_48ks9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New relationship [2 weeks] between me [21f] and friend of three years [21m] who lives in my building--how do we pace it?", "post": "So a couple weeks ago I asked my best friend out and we have had a couple of amazing dates since. Everything is going really well! We've known each other for a while now and so we don't have any awkwardness or getting to know each other, which is great. However, we live in the same building and all our friends live here too, so we see each other all the time--I come over for breakfast, he comes over for dinner, we go to events all together, etc.  I could literally spend every waking minute with him, except for class and work. But I don't want to burn out, and I want to be able to think somewhat clearly about this. I have absolutely no concerns about the relationship itself, just the rate at which it could progress.  How do we make sure we keep a reasonable separation without being cold or awkward?", "summary": "how do I not put the carriage before the horse"}
{"id": "t3_fa9v8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "New to Reddit, first question...if everyone on here hates Fox News so much, why don't they just change the channel?", "post": "Not trying to be a new guy jerk, but seriously, I have been lurking for a long time, and enjoy most of the /r/(s) while I waste the day away at work.  I get a kick out of the posts and a few of the sub-reddits which match my personal tastes.  However....for the love of whatever god you find holy, the obsession with hating Fox News on here is weird as hell.  Anyone with even the slightest critical thinking skills has to know that the talking heads on (any) cable news network, and even at times the \"real\" networks, spew garbage and sensationalized verbal diarrhea merely for the ratings.  They don't inform, and they aren't traditional journalists, they are entertainers merely selling ad space air time!  So why does the seemingly intelligent community of Redditors seem so obsessed????  The users of this site are supposed to be the upper crust of the internet population, but lower themselves simply by acknowledging, and therefore legitimizing, these \"news\" outlets!  Educate me, please!  Why Redditors????  Why???", "summary": "Fox News is bullshit, everybody knows it, why not just...not watch it?"}
{"id": "t3_4phtn1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother(66,F) and I(24,F) don't know if we should tell my Grandma(95,F) that her niece is dying.", "post": "My Grandma has two nieces, a set of twins on their seventies. They love a few hours away. We just found out that one of the twins has an aggressive form of leukemia and she is expected to die soon. She also has dementia. \n\nMy grandma is in pretty good health for someone in their nineties. But she has congestive heart failure and has had two short stays in the hospital so far this year. She loves her niece and she would be devastated to know she's dying. We are afraid it will make her sick of she finds out. We are afraid she might end up dying too.\n\nHer nieces come to visit a few times a year. She doesn't talk to them very much other than that. We are not sure about the logistics of keeping this a secret since when the twin comes to visit, grandma will ask after her other niece. It doesn't seem fair to ask anyone else to lie for us and it doesn't seem ok(to me) to lie to my grandma. But I am also very scared.\n\nWhat do we do? Should we tell her? If so, what can we do to help her through it?", "summary": "grandmas niece dying. Scared the news will leave grandma in poor health. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3est6o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by browsing photobucket", "post": "Well... this happened last night, late, and I'm still not sure what to do. Last night I was browsing photobucket and I came upon a picture of a man and a woman. I clicked the photo and immediately didn't know what to do. Apparently I stumbled upon a mass collection of photos from an affair. So what do I do? Well, I enjoy a mystery, so I try to figure it out. What I discovered was more sinister than I had imagined...\n\nThe 'man' is a coach at a high school where the 'woman' is (was because graduated in the spring apparently) a student. To boot, I found out through some searching that he is married to a middle school teacher in the same area and they might have a daughter. His photobucket account was created with the name of the student's father and contains plenty of incriminating pictures and texts ranging far back before she had graduated. Now... I didn't know what to do... I figured HEY, maybe his wife would like to know. So I found her name, sent her a message containing links to an imgur album with photos from the affair and a direct link to his photobucket. I also emailed her school email I found on the site. She hasn't yet responded. \n\nNOW. If this were just an affair I think I have done my part. BUT... because this occurred between a student and a teacher... there's obviously more at stake here.\n\nSO. Reddit, I need your help. WHAT DO I DO. Email the Principal? I'd rather stay anonymous.\n\nAlso, I do have proof, but I'm not sure how to go about that so if a mod wants to message me that'd be cool. I have some edited pictures but I don't want to post anything that leaks a minor's 'photos'.", "summary": "TIFU by browsing photobucket and discovering a criminal affair between a teacher and a student. From bedreddit to super sleuth. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_397oih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I {22F} think my mom {55F} may be having an affair", "post": "I was helping my mother with transferring photos and when she left the room to take a call, the transfer completed. Immediately, I saw a ton of topless photos of her and other photos where she was wearing a shirt, but was clearly trying to be suggestive. She also received multiple calls from a number I didn't recognize that didn't have a name associated with it...which is odd for her. \n\nNow it's entirely possible that my mom just wanted to feel attractive and took the photos for herself...or even for my dad. I don't know what to do. Do I ask her about them? Do I do that in a casual way? In a serious way? Do I ignore it? The incident has left me uncomfortable and stressed. I'm not sure what course of action to take.", "summary": "Found that my mom took topless photos of herself and think she might be having an affair."}
{"id": "t3_2vaxhp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [24 M] 4 years, noticed he's rude when he drinks sometimes.", "post": "Throw away!\n\nThis by no means is a dealbreaker, but it's a little issue I've noticed recently. I was pretty sick for a month and on antibiotics and stuff so I did not drink. I used to drink fairly heavily, and now that I'm on the other side of this health issue (although unrelated to my drinkin) I want to try to take better care of my body because being sick sucks! And I hate hangovers.\n\nThis brings me to my issue. I've noticed sometimes my boyfriend can be really rude to me when he drinks! I don't think he's doing it with any malicious intent, he's a really nice man and we get on well. My best friend! But still, it hurts my feelings. And he'll do it in front of people and it's a little awkward for everyone.\n\nNow this brings me to my question. I have talked to him about it a couple of times, after the fact, he's apologized profusely and it's okay. But he's done it since then. Would it be super weird if he did it again and I said firmly \"Do NOT talk to me like that\"? In front of people? Maybe the embarassment and acknowledgement in the moment would help.\n\nI'm a bit socially anxious if you can't already tell.", "summary": "boyfriend can be rude in front of friends when he drinks, call him out in the moment?"}
{"id": "t3_170s88", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Columbia House debt collection", "post": "I recently received a phone call from a debt collector telling me that I owe Columbia House $50.50.  I asked when the original statement was sent out to me but they were not able to give me that information.  However, based on the address they had for me I know it was somewhere between 2006 - 2010.  I seem to recall opening an account with Columbia House and ordering some DVDs but I'm certain that I would have met the requirements of the contract and then closed the account.  During the time that I lived there I don't remember ever seeing a bill from them.  If I did I would have paid it!  So here I am today getting this phone call and they say that it's been reported to the credit agencies and that I need to pay it off ASAP.  Obviously I don't want that on my credit report but I honestly don't believe that I owe them any money.  I did a Google search and there's a bunch of people with similar complaints from Columbia House and BMG.  I'm starting to think that this might be some sort of scam but I have no way of being sure.  I mean, who keeps records from that long ago?!  So what's my next move?  Contact Columbia House, credit agency, local police, Better Business Bureau, someone from the attorney general's office (Minnesota), etc.", "summary": "I believe I'm being scammed into making a payment to Columbia House.  What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ymige", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trouble breaking up with my [f19] boyfriend [m19]?", "post": "We've been together for almost three years, but I've been trying to end things. I still care for him but I think it's for the better if we part ways. I told him this and what I was unhappy about, and we agreed to meet up to talk it over. We ended up crying, cuddling, and agreed we didn't resent each other for what happened. I fell asleep and left for home after waking up, and he was very affectionate to me the whole time. After returning home I asked him what he thought we were now, and if we're still broken up like I intended. He said he didn't think so, and I replied we could talk it over later. Did I give him the wrong impression? How should I go about rectifying things without hurting him more than necessary? Thanks guys.", "summary": "I attempted to break up with my bf, but we ended up cuddling and sleeping in the same bed while crying. He doesn't seem to think we're still broken up now. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2e5sgj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26/f] boyfriend [24/m] of 6 months is out of town and suddenly stopped replying to texts and hasn't called in a week", "post": "My bf and I have been together for 6 months. I just got hired for my first full-time job and the weekend prior to my first day of work, he went out of town to visit family for a few weeks. Before he left, he was really stressed from his work and I was stressed and nervous about starting my job. We saw each other for only a couple of hours before the day he left, and it ended on a unusually weird note.\n\nI asked him to text me when he left and when he got to the gate, and his texts were both very curt, where I was waiting for a good-bye-miss-you message.\n\nHe had promised to call everyday before he left. When he arrived at his relative's house, we had texted on and off for only about 3 days that first week, and he called me once. He doesn't get much phone service there, so texting and calling all depends on where he can get it. I'd been reaching out for some support because my new job is incredibly stressful, especially the first week. He rarely addressed and actually forgot that my job had started when we did talk. He told me he was stressed about work as well, wasn't feeling well there, and might be cutting his trip short. But then, I didn't hear from him for another 2 days. I sent messages and tried calling, worried that I hadn't heard from him and that he wasn't doing well. I finally got in touch and I was (too?) insistent in talking about our level of communication because I wasn't happy about it. He seemed annoyed and replied that it was hard to communicate in this case and stopped replying to my texts. He's been reading them, but it's been 5 days, since he last responded.\n\nThis is unusual for him to ignore me, but I've stopped texting in case he needs his space. Of course I love this guy, and I want to give him what he needs, but I don't want to be walked all over with him ignoring what I need. What do I do?", "summary": "Boyfriend visiting relatives, suddenly stopped replying to texts and hasn't called in over a week."}
{"id": "t3_36g9li", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 M/F] of 3 years. How do I break up?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. We were high school sweethearts and basically went through so much together\u2014long distance and everything.\n\nThe thing is, it was always very, very abusive; she was always putting me down, accusing me, calling me a cheater, and everything you can possibly imagine. I always, always forgave her though, because I felt like she would come along in the end.\n\nShe never, ever has, though. I have given her so many second chances, and I truly feel as if I am sacrificing way too much of my life. Now, she's wanting another chance and swears that she has changed, that she cares. I have no doubt that she cares, but I just truly doubt that I can ever be happy in this anymore regardless of whether she changes or not.\n\nI truly think I need to distance myself from this relationship to ever find a semblance of happiness again. \n\nI just am having a very, very hard time with it. She is crying, saying she will withdraw from the semester at school due to emotional distress, and saying she can't cope or handle this. The thing is, I have been suffering greatly at school as well for the last few years due to the relationship, so it's not like it's just her.\n\nI feel very, very lost, and I know deep down I can't do this anymore. It just is so messy and entangled that I simply don't know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Stuck in a long relationship, have a gut feeling I can't ever be happy in it and want to end it before it gets even worse, can't make the final decision."}
{"id": "t3_1q90tk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/F] am having problems dealing with the touring job of my boyfriend of 6 months [22/M] Not sure what to do. =/", "post": "I met my boyfriend in April and we started dating in May before becoming exclusive in June. At the time he had a job in theatre and would spend short times (A month or less) away doing shows around the country.\n\nHe was given an amazing job opportunity in August and went on tour for 3 months with a prestigious theatre company. It's been very difficult being left alone but we've tried to deal as best we can. He's busy during the evenings and weekends with work and I am in my final year of college which takes up my days. We end up not speaking for days or even weeks.\n\nThe company want him back for the next tour which he is ecstatic about BUT... it's 5 months long. I would never ask him to not go because it's an great career move for him and he'd resent me. However, I don't want to be alone for 5 months. To me, that isn't really a relationship and I didn't sign up to do a long distance thing (again). \n\nI do love him and would hate for things to end but it seems like being single wouldn't be much different from what we have when he's away. It's clear that I'm not a priority which upsets me.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend accepted 5 month touring job but I don't want to be alone for half the year... What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_4hsd1d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [24 F] am afraid that my boyfriend, [28 m] might not be attracted to me. What should I do?", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. A little background - he's a very handsome guy, and I'm cute but not exactly a head-turner. We met on an online dating site and originally I had gotten a vibe that he wasn't interested physically, just something about his body language, but we hit it off really well and eventually things turned physical and we became a couple. Like most new relationships, the sex was frequent and passionate but it dwindled down to once a week and eventually about once a month. I've tried talking to him about it and he says that he's just tired and depressed, but nothing has really changed in his life and he doesn't seem depressed. The most recent time I brought it up he said that he doesn't know why he doesn't want to have sex and that he feels bad that I want to and he doesn't. It's gotten to the point at which I don't even want to be around him despite the fact that he's my best friend because it hurts too much. \n\nI already have body image issues and I have a medical condition that causes me to be underweight no matter what I do so it's not like I can improve my appearance for him. I also am insecure because I was previously with someone who withheld sex for months and told me I wasn't attractive in order to abuse and manipulate me. My current boyfriend is a wonderful person and I don't want to lose him because of this.\n\nAlso, I should add that I haven't had any reason to suspect that there's anyone else so that doesn't really factor into this situation.", "summary": "Boyfriend has stopped being interested in sex, I'm paranoid that he isn't attracted to me. How can I talk to him about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3cj3cv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) love my boyfriend (25M) of four years. I recently have started having feelings for someone else, but still love my boyfriend. I feel awful and dishonest. What should I do?", "post": "I have been in a relationship with (let's call him Bob) for four years. I love him with all of my heart. Lately, I feel that the relationship has become cold. I feel like he does still pay some attention to me, but not like he used to. He is very nice and easy to talk to. I have talked to him about how I feel before, and he has worked on it, but it always seems to steadily drop off.\n\nNow comes the hard part. I work with another man (let's call him Al) with whom I have been friends with for a while. Lately, I have developed feelings for him. I have waited and done nothing for months hoping the feelings I have for Al to go away to no avail. I know he is aware of how I feel and likes me too, and we are both smart people. We have not been intimate in any way, shape, or form. I know now that the feelings aren't going away, and even though I haven't done anything to be physically unfaithful to Bob, I have emotionally. I do still love Bob, but I feel like I am starting to feel for Al more. \n\nI feel like a disgusting human being who should be grateful for whom I have. If I break it off, it could be the biggest mistake of my life. I love Bob's family, and we grew up together as kids, so this wouldn't be easy. I would lose so much, but I feel like staying for him is wrong and hurtful. I know nothing of the turn-out with Al, but I can't live with myself knowing I'm not being honest. I would never cheat on Bob.\n\nI live in an apartment with Bob, have two cats (one his, one mine). I don't want to hurt him, but even if nothing ever happens with Al, I don't think he should be put through this.\n\nWHAT SHOULD I DO?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend, but not like I used to. I have feelings for someone else and have never acted on them, but still feel unfaithful. I need advice on how to deal with this."}
{"id": "t3_24n9r2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[28M] Terrified at the idea of something getting physical", "post": "I used to have bad social anxiety so interacting with anyone, male or female was difficult unless we were friends. I've mostly overcome that over the last few years to the point where I would consider myself relatively socially adept. I can spark conversations with strangers, no issues talking to pretty girls at a party etc.\n\nSo, with my new found social prowess I've finally been interacting with people and had some women who enjoyed my company. Great right? Except I respond by freaking out and basically rejecting/friend-zoning them so they figure I'm not interested. It doesn't even seem like a conscious decision, by brain seems to just auto pilot to diffusing any potential romantic escalation despite how badly I actually want it.\n\nAfter a lot of reflection I believe it's both a self esteem and sex thing. I haven't had sex, despite a few opportunities over the years with people virtually offering. My refusals have been due to low self esteem - I'm overweight, nothing crazy but it's enough that I refuse to take off my shirt around other people because I'm ashamed. I'm also ashamed to have not had sex yet and I think the person will work it out which terrifies me.\n\nI'm working on the weight thing, 40lbs down, 40lbs till my goal weight. The sex thing is more of an issue. I was considering paying for it to reduce the anxiety of totally failing with a person I'm actually interested in but the idea doesn't thrill me. I also have a romantic idea that if I get buff enough the other party won't be so concerned that I don't appear to know what I'm doing but that's realistically another 18 months away.\n\nAny advice or related anecdotes would be much appreciated.", "summary": "I actively shut down anything that might turn physical because I'm terrified both of being outed as a virgin and the prospect of getting naked in front of somebody."}
{"id": "t3_288uwq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/m] My GF (23/f) getting a little tired of her not being in control of her emotions.", "post": "Long story short...\nWe've been dating for 2 years, recently moved in with each other. Fighting a little bit about stupid petty things that I don't really take to heart because its a big change for both of us and it's bound to happen. About a week ago her cat got sick with this disease, and me being the super supportive boyfriend I am drove her everywhere she needed to be, made my self available at work to answer her calls if she was worried, and stayed up all night with him so she could get some sleep. Now I took some time off work so I could come home and see my family ( I don't live in the same city as them anymore, and haven't seen them in two months), and tonight I got a call with her freaking out because she thinks her cat is sick again, and she needs to take him to the vet. She asked me to come home, and I just straight out told her no... I didn't want to leave my family, not to mention I live two hours away. I still have one day left of my \"vacation\" and I want to enjoy to most of it with them because I likely wont get a chance to see them again until September. She over reacts ,and over thinks thinks on a regular basis, and this incident was pretty much the straw that broke the camels back. I feel a little guilty for not going home early, but at the same time I'd feel even worse if I left my family. Shes not answering my texts or calls now. I'm just going to ignore this for the time being, enjoy the rest of Fathers Day with my family. Is this okay? or am I being a huge ass about it?", "summary": "Girlfriend is guilting me into leaving my vacation early, because she's over reacting, and not thinking logically about a situation. Looking for some reassurance's me telling her that I wont. I kinda feel like an ass."}
{"id": "t3_i3b5j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Wells Fargo Sucks!", "post": "I deposited my first paycheck from my new job on Wednesday into my (what is now a) wells fargo acct. I got my account balance notification Thursday am, showing the check included. I was a little surprised but it is a BIG company and im new to big company's. \nThursday lunch my card gets declined. Weird.\nThursday evening check online acct balance, shows same as am, check is in.\nfriday lunch card declined again... ok wtf.\nI call wells fargo and find out my accounts (yes, ACCOUNTS with an \"s\") have been restricted. I cannot touch any of my money for 5 business days because the check couldn't be verified.\nI have no money for a week, and a payment bounced due to them. Good thing my other payments were done beforehand but im still left broke for a week. \nGreat.\nIm taking my money as soon as my acct is no longer being held hostage an d going to a credit union.", "summary": "wells fargo is holding my money hostage for no good reasoning"}
{"id": "t3_cyvzw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Clever way to ninja punish a police officer?", "post": "Two friends of mine were victims of police brutality yesterday when they were at a music festival. The story goes like this: \nThey saw two police officers hassling some dude because he had been using a vuvuzela. My friends go up to them to see whats was up, when they were promptly handcuffed and subsequently brutally kicked, stepped on and tasered, while totally defenseless. There are dozens of eye witnesses, and I reported the incident to the police myself, but I really doubt it will have any consequences. Thing is that I've found out where the two officers live, and really want to stick it to them, but I don't know how. Does anybody know of some trick or something that I can do to their house, car etc., that won't instantly put me in jail? My only idea is to TP the house, but that seems too undramatic.", "summary": "Friends victims of police brutality. Reported to the police, but most probably wont have any consequences. Found out where the officers live, and want to get revenge. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3a3u2h", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking my SO's dog", "post": "For most of the walk, I was riding a skateboard and the dog (who is a very large golden retriever) was pulling me like a sled. We started to turn back, and I stopped to mess with the dog's harness while my SO went on ahead quite a ways. When I was done, I got on the skateboard and the dog panicked that he wasn't near his owner and began running very fast in order to catch up. Either my feet slipped or the dog went slightly to the right, but the skateboard shot out from under me and I got dragged on the side walk for a few inches before I could let go of the leash. A few inches doesn't sound that bad, the whole right half of me is scraped, bleeding , and full of puss.", "summary": "dog ran too fast, I got dragged on concrete."}
{"id": "t3_3orkfb", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Signing a lease/agreements", "post": "Very watered down synopisis:\n\nMe and a group of 7 (8 total) want to live in a house together. 3 of them signed on a lease but the other 5 didnt because the lease was shitty and we had it revised by a lawyer and the lawyer said dont sign it. The three that signed it put money down...100, 200, 880 respectively. The lawyer went and made some (very few) changes but its still very problematic. But lets say we end up not wanting to live in this house, is there a way to argue for the money back since the lease has changed and could technically say \"I dont agree with the lease anymore\" or no?\n\nLocation: New York", "summary": "Friends put money down on a house that we potentially may no longer want. The lease they signed on is now different than the \"official lease\" Is there a way to get the money back for them?"}
{"id": "t3_24xhni", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 F] with my boyfriend [30 M], We're fighting over with that and he left home at midnight, what should I do?", "post": "Hi there, my name is Loretta , two yeas ago I thought I found my Mr. Right. Edward and I met on the internet and lived together soon. I never thought falling in love with someone so fast but it happened actually in my life. Thank god we met each other at the right time. Last month he proposed finally and I said yes, now we're busy to prepare our wedding, I even design the wedding cake by myself. But everything changed since last week. He came home and questioned about a friend of mine Douglas , I tried to explain that we were just friends and nothing between us, but he just didn't believe it. We're fighting over with that and he left home at midnight. It's already three days since then, he didn't answer my phone, his friends didn't tell me where he had gone and I can't find him. What should I do now???", "summary": "Our wedding is in the next month but what if he don't come back anymore? Can anybody give some advise?"}
{"id": "t3_1485v8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Lesbians. What the fuck?", "post": "So I'm a pretty stoic, quiet guy. For most of my life I've felt content with just a few friends and no relationship. However, every now and then I get to know some incredibly great girl. Usually kind of quiet and kind, almost always smart, and a similar interest or two. And for some reason, guy's aren't hitting on her and she doesn't have a boyfriend....\n\n... god dammit. Every time (100% of the time) I've seriously asked someone out, they turn out to be a lesbian. [EVERY time] I wouldn't even believe it myself had each girl not gotten into a serious relationship with some other girl months later.\n\nIt's even started to become an on-going joke to a sibling. She knows that I tend to prefer girls with short hair and smaller breasts and *stereotyped* lesbians have those features, so she finds it funny. I can't believe my luck. \n\n... this isn't really a serious problem, but I'd like to blow off some steam...", "summary": "Lesbians, why you gotta be so freakin' adorable and fun to be around and stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_1n6c00", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having communication issues? I [22M] tried this with my girlfriend [22F] and had success.", "post": "I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years now, and she has always said I have had bad communication. Naturally, I am a very shy person. Since I've dated her, to me it feels as if I have opened up completely. \n\nTo her, is a different story. She always talks to me about her life, which I appreciate. After she is done talking about her day, she always says that I never talk to her about my thoughts I've had throughout any given day. I can be a forgetful person at times, so I fail to tell her some important things that are going on in my life. \n\nSo what I've started to do is this. I created a Google Doc that I just use as a journal that I have shared with her. If I have a thought or opinion, I just write it down on the shared Doc. I write it down not knowing whether she'll read it later, but at least it's there. If I have a thought that's worth mentioning, write it down. No erasing or editing thoughts later. I'll usually just jot some things down when I'm walking to campus, or in the grocery store, etc. \n\nFor me, after 3 days of use I'm receiving a lot of positive feedback from my girlfriend. She said that she didn't know I and cared about her as much! She really appreciates the idea, and I plan on continuing to update my journal. \n\nThe great thing is that we both have smartphones, so the ease of updating is almost effortless. The Google Drive app (Android) allows you to view/edit your documents. I'm not sure if the app is out there for the iphone folks though.", "summary": "Create a Google Doc that you share, update it frequently."}
{"id": "t3_2dq3ox", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "As an Iranian, the way Europeans eat surprises me! How can it be?", "post": "So my friend had some guests coming from Germany. I took them out for a long walk in the hot temperature of our city. After two or three hours, when we are back home my friend calls me and tells me to buy them a sandwich for dinner.\nIm like. \"Dude, a sandwich wont be enough\" so he tells me to buy two.\n\nWhen its dinner time they both tell me, and insist, that they dont want dinner! Im like WHAT THE HELL?!\nOne of them tells me that he is going to have the salad which has been left over from lunch, and the other tells me he will have some fruits. Im like WHAT THE HELL HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?!!\n\nTwo days later I take them to another MUCH LONGER walk in the hot temperature (we were seeing the city so there was lots of walking). This temperature is hot for me, so it must have been very hot for someone living in Germany.\n\nWhen its lunch time, we order pizza except one of them. he says in germany he only has breakfast and one session of food.\n\nAt dinner, Im sure they must be dead hungry. Both of them tell me they are not hungry and dont want food.\n\nTheir way of food life is very different to mine and anyone I know. I wake up in the morning and have breakfast. When im back from work i have lunch, normally rice with meet or chicken. Then at dinner Im hungry again and must have another session of food. In between, i eat small things as well, like fruits etc. So this was very shocking to me how they could even survive eating so little. (and im not very fat. just a couple of kilos extra)\n\nDoes it have to do with where we live? Does living in Germany mean you need much less food than living in Iran? How can I learn to have a diet like them and be energetic, healthy but not hungry?\n\nThanks and sorry for the long post.", "summary": "Dude from Germany eats no more than one session of food a day (plus breakfast). How is it possible to eat so little? I live in Iran in case it is important for the answer."}
{"id": "t3_40l3s9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] have my first FWB [17F], not sure if I'm doing everything right and don't know how to tell parents I'm sexually active.", "post": "She and I have been FWBs for a month now. We're in 12th grade and between college applications, family, work, and recent break ups we both want a sexual connection but not a committed relationship. We're each other's first FWBs and need to make sure we're not messing up in any major way.\n\nNeither of us have gotten tested for STDs, but we both haven't had sex with anyone else and aren't currently. We also use adequate protection.\n\nI laid out some ground rules. We can date around and sleep with other people, but will give each other a heads up in case we need to get tested. Also, no actual dates. No hang outs unless they involve sex. We go out sometimes, but it's to quickly grab food or condoms. I try to keep texting for planning when we meet up, but once every while it turns into actual conversations. She insists that we should hang out like normal friends every now and then since we have a couple common interests and live close. She says it's okay cause she's \"partially aromantic\", but I'm still hesitant.\n\nI'm not sure how to break the news to my parents. They still see me as their little boy and would probably be furious if they knew I'm not a virgin. I live with them but take care of myself for the most part (I cook, clean, do my own laundry, hold down a job, and get good grades in school. I was taught how to manage money and do taxes). I feel mature and stable enough to be sexually active but feel like parents won't see that.", "summary": "FWBs with girl. Laid out ground rules, but she insists on hanging out sometimes. I'm not sure how to tell parents I have sex."}
{"id": "t3_1zz2g8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) do not ever want children. My SO of three years (23M) recently told me he thinks he might someday.", "post": "What do I do?! I love him more than anything. He loves me more than anything. We're both so young but I know and have always known that I do not want and should never have children. Up to this point in our relationship he's been telling me what I wanted to hear, but finally let out how he really feels. He thinks there is a good possibility that he might want some eventually. \n\nIn a year we were planning on moving across the country together so I can attend graduate school. We were planning on living together starting this May. \n\nWhat do I do? Stick it out, hoping he changes his mind? Or do we end it before getting even more attached? We are each other's everything. I really don't want to lose him. We talked about what should be done last night and ended up both sobbing for a couple hours while clinging on to one another for dear life. \n\nI think he's the one meant for me. I really do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I don't want kids. SO thinks he might. What do we do?"}
{"id": "t3_2txetb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my GF [24F] of 3 years, she cheated and I'm looking for a way to forgive her", "post": "I had a case of the cold feet and got a little crazy thinking i was trapped in the relationship. so after a couple months i said i think i needed some space to kind of evaluate my life and what i wanted. She didn't take this very well cause she suffered from PTSD/Borderline and Severe abandonment issues. \n\nShe ended up a week or two later developing an online friend and sexting and sending him pictures. i found clear evidence of this on the computer and freaked out. I broke up with her. Im a very level headed person and try to be fair. i realize i kind of put her in that position and set her up to fail considering her long and abusive past. \n\nMy real question through all of this was, has anyone been through a cheating episode and forgave their SO and it worked out for the best. all i see on here is people cheating. Breaking up and them saying that was the correct thing to do. I love her immensely and there is a huge back story between the two of us and i don't want to leave her. i just am really hurt by what she did and am desperately seeking a way to forgive her.\n\ni can see both sides of the argument. i shouldn't be with someone that is going to do something like that to me and know that she cheated once and has the ability to do it again. Then again she has many problems and i knew that and it not at all an issue and i try to help and deal with them the best i can. i pushed her beyond her limits and really gave her no where to go since she moved here from across the country and has no one but me to turn to. \n\ni can go into a little bit more detail if anyone really needs it but i was looking for an optimistic story of forgiveness and it working out, if there is one out there", "summary": "GF cheated on me and I'm trying to find any reason to stay and help her get through her issues"}
{"id": "t3_28uysa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38/F] with my ex [28/M] 1.5 yrs together,having to live together untill he can move out, it's killing me", "post": "Just broke up last week we both have children with other people so we have to live together untill he can move out. Still love him with a passion. We broke up due to alot of stress it was kind of mutual but the thought of him actually leaving is tearing me apart.\n\n My head is all over the place and I can't stop thinking and re thinking everything that was ever said. I have just about shut down, I stopped eating due to the break up and the stress of last year caused me to lose 5stone, I tried to put the weight back on as skinny with bones is not a good look but it doesn't matter now.\n\nI have suffered with depression in the past and I am struggling with not thinking about ending it all, I know you will all be thinking hey it's not so bad it's only a break up etc but seriously this is just the end of a journey full of dissapointment and failure, I don't even know how I feel I'm almost numb.\n\nI know I am being selfish for thinking this way as I have children to take care of and that is just another reason to give up and then I can stop hurting all the people around me. Before I met my now ex I did have a plan that when my youngest reached 18 I could free myself I'm not sure I can last 7yrs of numbness.\n\nI don't want to burden my two and only friends with this and I have distanced myself from my family not that I would tell them anything anyway, I just feel completley alone, I have kept everyone at arms length never getting too close so I am to blame for my solitude.", "summary": "Recent break up is just another nail in my coffin, want to end it all"}
{"id": "t3_4jaxzl", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm trying to educate myself on choosing the right bank/credit union. Can anyone give me suggestions on where best to learn?", "post": "My mom helped me open my first checking and savings account when I was 18 and it was at her bank which was Washington Mutual and has since become part of Chase.  At the time it worked because I was 18, didn't know anything about banking, and just needed to have an account for jobs or whatever.\n\nIt's been almost a decade since then and I've learned a bit more about banking, though it's only enough to realize that I know very little.  I've overall not had too horrible experience with chase, though there have been frustrating situations at times.\n\nMy situation: I live in the US, married to a foreigner who has a green card, no kids.  I'd be looking to set up a joint checking/savings to handle all our major expenses and then two separate checking accounts that is in each person's name only for our personal expenses money.  We travel a decent amount with at least one trip a year being abroad.\n\nOther than the general question of resources to learn from a few more specific questions would be:  \n- I see most places mentioning that you should make sure the bank provides the services you want.  Is there a list of common services so I can see what's out there that I might not be aware of and would like?\n- Any recommended banks/credit unions?", "summary": "I'm wanting to learn enough to know if my current bank is still the right bank for me or if I'd be better off switching to a different bank.  What are the best resources you can recommend for this?"}
{"id": "t3_2pk0u5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Chemistry problem. Best friend [19F], and I [19F], have very much interest in each other. The problem is, we have little to no sexual chemistry.", "post": "It all started back in High School. We knew each other since Freshman year, but never really started talking the summer before Senior year. We hit it off right away, and through some admitted promiscuity, we started seeing each other on and off from August through June. The reason for the on and off was my worst enemy, Nicholas. \n\nNicholas had been dating her since sophomore year and was the typical badboy. He left her a grand total of ten times, for her to come back nine. I hated him from the moment I met him, and he was the only reasonable competition I had to get through to get her. She dated him this last summer from August through September, and after a 3 month hiatus, we started talking again. \n\nWe immediately picked up where we left off, but more mature, and more ready for a relationship. We were getting along famously, but the lack of sexual tension and chemistry was increasing stress on our relationship. \n\nWe have romantic want and find each other very attractive, but no sexual chemistry. Any fix for this? Is it possibly because I don't know her likes and dislikes when it comes to sex? Is it because she's been having sex with the same guy for the last three years and I just need to wait it out? Help me!", "summary": "No romantic chemistry with girlfriend. How fix? Is it because she's been having sex with the same guy for the last three years and I just need to wait it out? Is it possibly because I don't know her likes and dislikes when it comes to sex? Help."}
{"id": "t3_ga8ez", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A Question About Death, Clones, and Resuscitation.", "post": "Okay, this question has been pestering me for quite a while, but I might need to explain a little background information first. Sorry about the length but it might be worth it.\n\nAssume we have a person who I'll call X. X lives to be 30 and then is cloned, creating an entity we will call X'. X' is identical to X, sharing exact appearances, age, memories, and thoughts (think Sam Rockwell in Moon). It seems as if one can pretty safely assume that X and X' experience two different streams of consciousness, such that each are equally capable of experiencing final death and not simply transferring to the other body. The obvious extension of this is that, like in the movie, if X dies before X' is created or \"awakened,\" then, despite the fact that X' may believe he is the same person as X, X has in fact experienced death.\n\nNow imagine for a moment that science has advanced to the point that every neuron and synapse in a human brain encompassing the entirety of his thoughts and memories can be scanned in to a computer to effectively make a file back-up for a person. This back-up can then be implanted into a person's head in lieu of his proper brain upon death. Theoretically, this back-up could also be put into a robot or perhaps even another person's body such that the original and the back-up could exist at the same time. This leads to what is essentially the same situation as the first example, where the original person would still experience a final death, despite what the back-up may think upon awakening.\n\nHere's where it gets weird. Let us assume the existence of a medical situation where a person's brain activity completely stops for a period of time, and then the person is subsequently resuscitated. Did this person then experience a final death, where his resuscitated self is essentially no different than a back-up file who simply believes he has always existed?", "summary": "If consciousness is the sole result of electrical activity discharged within unique yet discrete circuitry (be it by neurons or microchip), then what we perceive as life is no more than continuity of our stream of consciousness. If this stream of consciousness is interrupted by some means in a person, then can they really be considered to be the same entity, or are they just some sort of unaware clone of themselves?"}
{"id": "t3_17zerg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why I hate nearly everyone", "post": "Twitter is addicting and I'll admit I'm an addict. I'm not sure why I get on there though, every time I do I see posts talking about \"if she cheated with you, she'll cheat on you,\" and \"never be the other girl\". Type stuff. This is soo much bullshit. Just like there's exceptions to every stereotype, there are exceptions to these too. Almost all of my relationships developed towards the end of another one and I've been the other girl so many times. The way I see it, if the person doesn't care, why should I? I'm not the one in the relationship so...fuck it. I'm not a bad person but if any of these people knew the situations I had found myself in, they would think so. Everyone goes through a dark phase or a weird phase, I don't feel like I should be persecuted for it. I'm in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful man and I love him with my whole heart. It's been almost two years since I've been the person every girl seems to be slut-shaming yet when I see those posts I go right back to that time and feel guilty.", "summary": "maybe I don't hate everyone, maybe I just hate who I used to be.."}
{"id": "t3_3u44vh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My fiance [32W] has become newly annoyed with my [30M] chewing. We've been together for 5+ years...", "post": "My fiance and I have been together for over 5 years now.  Our relationship has been rocky, with a lot of the blame being on me (insecure, breakups, identity crisis).\n\nWithin the last 5 months or so, shes become increasingly angry about my chewing.  First, I have a jaw problem which causes popping.  Surgery is very expensive so its something I've been trying to live with.  Second, apparently I am a disgusting eater.\n\nWhat bothers me most about this is the great effort I go through to keep quiet while eating.  I consciously keep my mouth closed and chew slowly.  Last night this happened while I was eating nachos.\n\nNow I understand that this is an issue for a lot of people.  My main issue is that she becomes livid with me instead of attempting to 'solve' this issue between us.  I told her that it really hurt how she was angry with me over eating, and she became very defensive.  Sarcastically, she mentioned 'well I guess its my problem then'.\n\nNow I'm feeling incredibly lonely.  In my heart, I feel that if this is such an issue, she can politely turn on some music or tv and ignore me.  Instead, she literally sat on the couch last night for 2 hours stewing on it and then blew up.\n\nHow do I approach this situation?  I need advice for those on the other side of this issue.  How did you handle your significant others' chewing?  Was it a sign of deeper anger/sadness on your part? (a theory of mine currently)", "summary": "I chew, she hates it and wont address fixing it as a team"}
{"id": "t3_3yltmd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by finding out my cousins secret", "post": "This like many TIFU happened years back when I was in college. My cousin who is basically like my little sister always looked up to me ever since young. This was also due to my aunt being a narcissist and always comparing us non-stop growing up. \n\nSo during one of the holidays my mom and I came to visit their family. Dinner was delicious and plentiful. After dinner I went into my cousins room to hand her my present. What do I hear though? It's my cousin throwing up in the bathroom. I was immediately worried thinking she was sick. However after she came out she told me she was bulimic because her mom keeps calling her fat. Fuck. Had a long talk ...", "summary": "I wish I was a little bit thinner,"}
{"id": "t3_39v1vj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "So I need to get a friend to pay me back the money she owes me.", "post": "I have been thus far unable to slyly get her to admit that she owes me the money in text or email and I do not want to make more assertive demands of repayment until I have proof of her acknowledgement of the debt. \n\nI'm pretty sure she is not planning on paying me back any of the money unless she somehow runs out of things to spend the money she has on. \n\nI'm wondering if a secret video recording or phone call recording of her admitting her debt would stand up in court? \n\nIn person or in phone call seem to be the only ways she will ever admit to the debt. We've talk about repayment plans but she keeps claiming complications in her", "summary": "What forms can a acknowledgement of debt take? i.e. Video, voice recording, witness testimonial. "}
{"id": "t3_1ngz42", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/M] my friend [18/M] and a [17/F]", "post": "Alright so my buddy is super shy when it comes to girls. He was recently over weight and has zero confidence with girls. Me being the kind friend I am decided to talk to this cute girl for him who he likes, however apparently I'm shit with words and it seems like I'm picking on her more then trying to get her to talk to him. Every time I talk to her I say things like \"Hey there's your favorite boy over there\" and point towards my friend, and she smiles and says stop in a really cute way. \n\nThe other day when I was talking to her I asked her why she shot my buddy down, and she said \"he never even got off the ground.\" (does she mean he never had a chance, or he never even took off and talked to her?) Now I'm not that good with girls myself. I've been with the same girl for a year now, and the only reason we're together is because she was my sisters friend. I'm horrible at reading girls. A girl can like me and I would never be able to tell. So tell me does he have a chance just based on her reactions? Did I fuck it up for him like he said I did?", "summary": "Friend thinks I fucked up his chances. I don't think I did. Does he have a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_4gji5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40F] with my SO [35 M] 8 months. Moved in now moving out.", "post": "He moved in a few months ago. My first time moving in with somebody since being married. Maybe that's part of the problem. \n\nHe has been trying to make a life in this city but he misses his children. He has had visitation every other week, same as his old city. In his old city, he was maybe 30-45 minutes away. Here, it's more like 2 hours. There has been a few weeks when he couldn't go see them due to work or illness. He said that he's finally reached the breaking point and wants to move back. Says he still loves me, still wants a relationship with me. He says that his ideal would be for us to live there, together. But then MY son would be 2 hours away and the current 50/50 custody situation wouldn't work at all, plus there is nothing for me there. The city is dead. \n\nI don't know if i want a relationship that goes from 24/7 to weekends only. He's got his quirks, but when he's good, he's really good. I don't know if i can stomach being a part-time girlfriend now. Do i wash my hands of the whole thing or give it some time to see if it works?\n\nThere's no other man or woman involved. He has been a man of his word and quite frankly, given the posts i read here (i am an active member) i'm shocked by how much of a stand up guy he has been.", "summary": "He moved in and things were great. Now he misses his kids too much and wants to move back but wants to still be with me. Do i hold on to a good man through this situation and wait it out or do i cut ties?"}
{"id": "t3_1wxhtu", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV: I didn't recognize my pants", "post": "I interviewed for a few jobs in mid-November, got hired (!!!), and I had my first day of work today. Last night, I picked out my first-day-of-work outfit and I chose the same pair of pants I had worn to my interview in November (and haven't worn since). When I put them on today, they slid so far down my hips that a belt was necessary to actually keep them up (and not for decoration). I was so confused by their bagginess that I actually thought I had made a mistake, but I couldn't find the other alleged \"interview pants\" so I figured they must be same ones. My suspicions were confirmed when I put on the same belt and the buckle easily slid into the hole that I struggled with last time. I could have even gone further but the pants bunched up too much around the waist and it looked strange.", "summary": "I guess I'm actually losing weight..!??!"}
{"id": "t3_4icn1p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] feel extremely lonely and hung up on someone.", "post": "I've always had self image issues and grew up very poor so I never had friends/romantic interests until the past 2 years. I've talked to a few guys romantically but I've never done anything not even kiss and I'm feeling very lonely. For the record, I'm really popular at school, athletic, funny, top of my class, and fairly pretty so I feel like I should't feel like this? Not to brag on myself but I'm trying to be positive and give you some more details on my life. \n\nThis past year I started talking with one of my guy friends and we kinda had a thing going but he broke it off after a while and I've been hopeless ever since.\n\nI can't for the life of me get over him. He was the first guy to show serious interest in me so combine that with my low self esteem and I feel like he's the only one that'll ever like me so I'm hung up on him no matter how hard I try to get over him. I know why I'm having this problem and feeling this way but I can't find a solution. I'm just feeling like shit all the time and I don't know what to do. \n\nI never wanted to be the type of person that needed a relationship but that's all I think about every second of the day. I really wish I could stop.", "summary": "How to get over the only guy who will ever like me (at least in my mind)."}
{"id": "t3_1dvxs9", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Never EVER Look at your ex's facebook", "post": "So here's a story of my recent experience. \n\nI broke up with my girlfriend after a 2 year relationship. When we broke up I was completely devastated to the point of breakdown. \n\nShe blocked me on facebook and I followed suit in an act of imature revenge and blocked her.\n\n4 months have since past and I had been making positive progress with myself. I was making an effort to try and socialize, I stopped crying in the evening times (lame I know) and I really felt like I made significant emotional progress.\n\nTHEN:\n\nToday I let my curiosity get the best of me. I made a fake facebook account so that I could look at her profile.\n\nI saw a bunch of photographs  of her with her new boyfriend (a guy I know).\nI felt so sick and overwhelmed. It was like we had just broke all over again but for some reason it hurt even more.\n\nSo now I'm set back months and months. I'm sitting doing anything I can to try and vent the mixed feelings of pain and anger and hate (typing this right now is an attempt to vent the destructive feelings I have right now)\n\nI've gone from feeling pretty ok to being overwhelmed with crazy impulses and fantasies of violent self destruction. \n\nTrust me, you don't want to feel how I do right now. NEVER EVER make contact with your ex or attempt to snoop on whats going on with their lives.\n\nBe strong. It's hard I know, but don't look back. \nYou do not want this", "summary": "No contact or suffer"}
{"id": "t3_259wxm", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "I know it's a silly question, please don't judge me. (Dog barking)", "post": "Good morning, everyone!  I have a question that I (probably) already know the answer to, but I'm at the end of my rope so I have to ask it.\n\nI have two puppies - Tillie is 10 months old and Henry is 3.5 months old.  I've posted on here a lot and gotten a lot of great advice.  Both of my puppies are really good dogs, and are pretty trainable.\n\nMy current problem is with Henry and his barking.  It's not that he barks too much or too often.  It *seems* like he barks a lot because Tillie hardly ever barks, but I'd guess he's pretty normal.  The problem is that when he *does* bark it's like ice picks through my fucking ear drums.  His bark is so high pitched and grating that it's intolerable.  Everyone hates it including Tillie who will often snap at him to get him to shut up (*thank you, Tillie!*)  Henry is such a good, cute dog, but the family, and anyone else who can hear him, hates the sound of his voice and it's making people not want to have him around.\n\nI've tried anticipating when he's going to bark, but he's a puppy and there's just no way to accurately predict when he might get it into his puppy brain to start barking.  I'm not suggesting that he should completely stop barking, that's his means of communication and he's actually (mostly) using it appropriately.  But is there any way to train him to ... I dunno, bark a little manlier?  There's not, is there?  :-/", "summary": "Puppy's bark has the same timbre as 10,000 preteens at a One Direction concert. It's going to make us lose our minds."}
{"id": "t3_dk3a0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "One of our domains was bought by someone else and they have put up misleading content. Advice needed 'cause I am just not up to date on this stuff.", "post": "I am the IT person for a small conservation/ecology non-profit, though my actual job is GIS and research support (telemetry, programming etc..).  So I am not really up on the ins and outs of domains but am responsible for renewing ours and taking care of web and email hosting. I have been reading up on as much as I can but that doesn't take the place of doing it for a living.  Anyway, I was saddled with this and I had convinced the powers that be that, though we wanted a .org domain, we should also have the .com and we did for a long while and everything was peachy, but on the last renew cycle something went wrong and we lost the .com domain.    Now whoever owns the domain has put up content which has similar but incorrect content (looks like it was from our site a number of years ago) about our hours and location with google ads so I am not sure if they put up the content for the ad revenue or to get us to buy the domain.  Should I contact the registered owner and try to come to some kind of agreement?  We probably can't buy the domain back if it is very much money, e.g. greater than a few hundred dollars, as we don't have any money for that, so if that doesn't work is there some other course of action we should pursue like just SEOing our current site?  Everyone at the non-profit expects me to know how to fix this but it is far out of my day to day experience, so any help at all would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "we lost our .com domain and don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_1h4ylt", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Technology help for a disabled person. Didn't know exactly where to post this.", "post": "Sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, I thought of /r/technology but I figured this isn't \"news\" or anything. \n\nSo my mom works for a lady who has polio. She was a successful accountant until a few years back when she stopped being able to do anything by herself. She still works at home doing taxes for a few clients but all with the help of my mom. She can't type, use a mouse, use a phone, nothing. There are other nurses who take care of her when my mom is off and most of them are very mean. They call her \"fat,\" and tell her all she does is it. Which is obvious because she can't do anything else. One time she tried calling the owner of the house she stays in to complain about the nurses but the nurses would not call for her. My mom has had to yell at the nurses but my mom isn't a superior so they don't listen to her. She also has trouble with using her TV. Whoever's working at night will usually put a channel on and hope she falls asleep before it gets boring so they won't have to do anything and can sleep all night. \n\nSo my mom is trying to find something that will let her do more things than she can now. As of now, if she's lucky, her Bluetooth headset will recognize the right contact she's asking for. She is very smart and can have a regular conversation, but just cant move much from the neck down. We're trying to find that and anything that will help her use voice commands on phones better.", "summary": "Trying to find devices that will help my mom's friend change channels on her TV and give orders to her phone via voice."}
{"id": "t3_48xxjz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "DTF or not DTF, That is my question. (Possibly NSFW?)", "post": "Like the title suggest, this is gonna seem odd, but its been on my mind for a few hours, and im not sure what to do. \n\nFirstly - I joined Tinder a few months ago on a whim. I have never really been looking to hook up or anything, and it states so on my Bio, right at the top. \n\nI basically joined it because I wanted a way to communicate with real people, but people who i could actually meet, should I/they ever want too, basically to help me get better at small talk in general because im dreadful at it.\n\nIm a huge introvert who on top of that has trouble dealing with large scale social interaction, So simply going \"out\" and meeting people has always been hard for me. Id never joined anything like tinder before and pretty much swiped right on just about everyone, Im willing to give everyone a chance. Eventually i met a few nice people who i talk to occasionally, Which is cool. Also not the source of my issue. \n\nMy issue is today someone \"matched\" with me and sent me a single word reply to my ice breaking \"Hi \"insert name here\" nice to meet you, or some such greeting that id sent. \n\nThey just sent DTF? as their answer. Now being very very inexperienced at this sort of thing, Ive not got a clue how to answer. This is partly because i over analyze absolutely everything. im not even sure what that abbreviation really means.\n\nOn the one hand - It could be some kind of Spambot, after all the lady is pretty damn good looking, while me, well I wouldn't call myself Egor or anything, but im not exactly prince charming here either. (can you say self esteem issues?)\n\nOn the other, it could very well be a real person asking a real question, ive never seen a spambot like this before, and ive learned to spot them pretty well by now. however ive no experience at what this lady is after, and probably would be a regret for them later. \n\nSo", "summary": "for those who couldn't be bothered to read the above:"}
{"id": "t3_3twtgc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 15 male with my ex girlfriend [15 F] duration, 1 month. I broke up with a girl I still really like and want to get her back", "post": "Hi, thank you for reading this and please try to help with my peculiar predicament. I really like this girl and we were going out for about a month, we didn't really do anything because we are both in highly advanced classes and play multiple sports. I was getting a feeling that she didn't really like me that much as a boyfriend but really liked me as just a friend, even though I really liked her still (more than a friend). Eventually I told her it wasn't working out, not because I wanted to break up but because I could tell she did and just wasn't doing it because she was uncomfortable or shy about and didn't want to her to have to do that (yea I like her that much). She agreed with me and said that things were better when we were just friends. \n\nI really want to continue going out with her and was wondering the best way to go about this sort of proposal of asking her if she wanted to give it another chance. I've done nothing that would make her not like me anymore and (not to sound pretentious) I always make sure I am as nice and kind to everyone I possibly can (except that one kid in the class that's just an asshole, but I'm still kind of nice to him). I've actually lost a good amount of sleep over this just because I care about her so much. I am a boy and she is a girl, we are both 15 years of age. This happened about 4 days ago. \n\nThanks for reading have a great day and I look forward to your responses.", "summary": "I broke up with my ex because I though she wanted to and I really want her back."}
{"id": "t3_327hz2", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 22 Years Old and I Want to Quit my Job? Seeking Advice! (USA)", "post": "I am thinking about quitting my current job. This is a part-time job that I do just for experience. I am financially stable so I would have no problems if I quit this job, or if I can't find a job right after I quit this one. This is an administrative job that gives out extremely odd hours. Some weeks I'll be working tons, but the next I'll have no hours. There has also been changes in management recently and as I have received sparse hours, I am extremely out of the loop with the new changes. I have been working for this job for 7 months now. I feel that this company will not help me grow and I have no interest in staying. I have helped the company improve inventory management, as well as their site. I also do bookkeeping. My question is if I quite this job right now how would it affect my chances of getting a job in the future, especially since I don't intend to get another job until I graduate? Also, would the amount of time I've worked at the company affect the decision of future employers ?\n\n-\nAlso, this company does not provide paper references and only accepts call references. So they will not give me a positive reference if I put the company on paper. I am currently in school.", "summary": "I'm not happy with my job and management, but I'm not sure if I should quit as this could have a negative impact on my future chances of getting a job"}
{"id": "t3_3l54h8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18f] suitemates [18 - 19f] think I'm bulimic", "post": "There's 6 of us including me and we're all freshman in college.it just started, but they're pretty close with each other whereas I'm sort of distant and not truly \"one of them\". But that's okay because I prefer to have it this way.\n\nAnyway, I have weird ways of trying to lose weight. Like I fast, and eat low calories, and then it makes me binge, so I make myself sick. Anyway, I didn't think they were here today, so I went to throw up, and one of my suite mates heard the noise (it's kind of obvious) and thinks I'm bulimic now. I heard her whispering to my other suite mates and now they're debating on whether to notify the RA...and it's just all really awkward and anxiety-producing because they could bring it up at any moment, and I honestly would not know what to say and would be really embarrassed because throwing up is gross, but yeah. \n\nI'm also sort of weird about eating food with other people because I don't like people watching me eat, so I usually don't go to dinner with them, so they probably think I just don't eat. But I mean, I'm not skinny at all. I'm 5'3 and 117 mostly because I binge...a lot. \n\nI really don't know what to do. And also, I don't know how I should react to them confronting me about this, which I think they might plan to do. I'm really nervous about what might happen and what they might say.", "summary": "My suite mates will probably confront me about throwing up, and I don't really know what to say/do. "}
{"id": "t3_3hm8a0", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Sorry, but nature calls", "post": "A little while back, my family was supposed to wake up early and head out to an event. The night before, dad told us we would leave the house at 8:15am. Sounds good, so my brother and I both set our alarms for about 8:00 because we're quick with getting ready in the morning. Heck, it takes only five minutes to put on clothes and brush your teeth. \n\nThe next morning, our dad is pounding on our bedroom doors at 7:45am. He's huffing and puffing and red in the face, really mad that we're not ready to go yet. He's not mad that we're not awake already, he's mad that we're not READY to go out yet. WTF? It's half hour earlier than he had told us, yet he's throwing a fit out in the hallway and saying that we're late.\n\nI was annoyed since my dad didn't seem to understand the concept of time, but I also hate loud noises in the morning and didn't appreciate his yelling and door-pounding, so I was mildly pissed. \n\nIn a small act of defiance, I brushed my teeth and got dressed extra slowly. That was enough to give me a small dose of petty satisfaction. It probably only took an extra 2 or 3 minutes, but take that, dad!\n\nThe story doesn't end there though.\n\nMy brother was also frustrated at my dad, so he gets up and gets ready. But wait! We can't go yet, because he has to poop. I shit you not, he just sits on the toilet for 20ish minutes. He doesn't actually have to poop but my dad can't barge into the washroom to prove it, so dad is just standing outside his door, knocking and yelling.\n\nBy the time he was done \"pooping\", it was exactly 8:15am.", "summary": "dad wakes us up early so me and brother tag-team being annoying to him"}
{"id": "t3_rr599", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best \"the world went into bullet time\" story? I'll start...", "post": "I was about 14 years old and going to an all-night bowling party at the local fitness club.  The type where they get a ton of young teens and lock them in until 6am. I was going with my guy friend and we were going to meet up with a group of girls.  Being a group of young males we thought it best to try to impress the females that were with us.  We palmed the lightest bowling balls we could find,  and whipping them down the alley a friend asked how I holding the ball I took a moment to show him.  Not being my turn I turned around to face the crew sitting in the seats behind the scoring table.I wind up the ball and start the forward motion, but was going too fast.  \n\nBullet time begins everything is moving at an incredibly slow pace.  I  feel the ball starting to roll off the tips of my fingers, and leave my hand.  I see it slowly moving through the air I look to see where it was heading. It was heading straight at one of the girls who had her head turned away, and would never see this coming. All I could muster out was \"AHHUGHHH!!\"\u2026 WHAMO we have impact.  It slams into her shoulder, flops into her lap, and then rolls onto her foot. Bullet time ends. All of a sudden time is sped up into real time and everybody is just staring at me.  Getting daggers from the girls, and the WTF look from the guys.  I sheepishly say \"oh sorry about that. You ok?\".   All the girls get up and leave and tend to their wounded.  The moment they are gone the guys start busting up laughing.  Luckily there was not real damage dealt to her, but it was a very long evening for me afterwards.", "summary": "Launched a bowling ball at a girl and hit her by accident"}
{"id": "t3_3vho4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 m] dating [27f] for five months, she just found out she has HSV genitally. Need Advice!!", "post": "so long story short I am a male who is dating an amazing young woman who I'm very much in love with. I am sure similar questions have posted here before but I need advice for my specific situation. She went to the doctor thinking she had a bad yeast infection and turns out after it would not clear up the doctor sent her to a gyn who ended up running some tests and diagnosing her with grnital herpes. \n\nshe told me instantly the same day and I have always been really paranoid about stis and pretty careful to avoid them after a wilder younger few years and I comforted her the best I could. Since finding this out I was blood tested and was negative for herpes. \n\nI love this girl so much. But the thought of getting herpes freaks me out a lot. I have only known this for two weeks now and we have continued to be together but have yet to be intimate since then. Obviously I can't bring this up to my friends really so I turned to the Internet. What should I do? I really pictured and still do in a lot of ways a future with this girl. Advice and support please Reddit!! Can we make this work??", "summary": "girlfriend I love and adore recently tested positive for grnital herpes. I'm negative and torn but I love her a lot."}
{"id": "t3_3lpesi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to respond to know if she is interested?", "post": "Her name is Maggie 23, I'm 26 and we went on one date so far. I knew her from some time since I was coming to the place she was working at. After she change the job someone told me she's single again and I asked her out. First date was great.\n\nWe supposed to go on a date today. She always texts me back, but doesn't text first as she was before. However, everything looked like she is into me.\n\nToday, when we were texting she offered she will text me back after a meeting with her friends. We didn't schedule any particular time for today but it was clear it will be during brunch time.\n\nAdditionally, I had to go today to the place where she was working at. Two people who were working today are her friends. In the past they where joking around about that I like her, and they knew that I want to ask her out. But, they didn't ask how did it go and when I brought her up today, they only aknowledged what I told but no one asked anything, which made me think later, \"why?\"\n\nHow should I respond to figure out the situation when she'll text me back?", "summary": "she seems to be interested but I have my doubts."}
{"id": "t3_524kop", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] best friend [25m] has never been able to have a fully physical relationship with a woman, and he struggles to even go on dates because of his chronic lack of confidence. Does anyone have any advice for this/ways i can help boost his confidence?", "post": "One of my oldest friends (let's call him R) is a really lovely guy, but he has just never been able to get going in any relationship with a girl- he is, in fact, a virgin at 25, and while i know there is nothing wrong with that, i know that this affects him deeply. The trouble is that he has zero confidence with women. He had brief relationships with girls when we were in school, but they were very much \"teen romances\" and never really advanced past hand-holding.\n\nHe is an intelligent guy, with an engineering degree, and he is a genuinely lovely person, very caring and kind, and good-looking; however, he is quite short (shorter than me, and i'm 5'4''), and english isn't his first language- he speaks it quite well, but when he writes, not so much. R has joined Tinder but had no luck; the few women he spoke to seemed to be put off by his inability to articulate well, and the rest of the women turned out to be bots.\n\nI'm pretty much one of the only females he is confident talking to, because we've known each other for years. I have a boyfriend now and the other friends in our group are all in relationships (one recently got married) and i think R is starting to feel left out and inadequate. \n\nR has lived a somewhat sheltered life, and although he is intelligent is is also rather naive, and i worry that if he does manage to find a woman with his self-esteem is at this low level, he will be so desperate to please her that he could be easily taken advantage of. I feel that he would accept being treated badly because he will think that he doesn't deserve better.\n\nCan anyone offer any advice on how his confidence can be built up?", "summary": "friend is shy and has no confidence around women, how would one go about building up his confidence?"}
{"id": "t3_43mmvg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being startled by my professor's announcement that he would give the class testes.", "post": "My circuits professor has an accent and an unusual speech quirk where he adds \"es\" to the end of words randomly. At first I thought it was just on plural words, like \"nodees\" instead of \"nodes\" but he seems to do it on singular stuff too.\n\nI was kind of zoning out in the end of Friday's class, when I heard him say \"Monday, I will give you testes.\" \n\nMy eyes widened, and I looked over to my friend in the class, who snorted at the look of horror on my face and whispered \"Jen, we're having a TEST Monday.\" I immediately looked relieved, and my friend kept laughing at me, trying to keep quiet so our strict professor wouldn't notice.\n\nMy professor did notice though, and turned to me asking \"Jennifer, Is something wrong?\" \n\nI, not wanting to admit what I had thought he'd said blurted out, \"No, it's OK, I just was surprised the test is so soon!\" \n\nHe then, in front of the whole class, lectured me on being prepared, telling me that I should have known the exam (Thank god he used the word exam that time...) was coming up; he had put it on the syllabus and on the class schedule. He asked me if I had even looked at the schedule he passed out at the beginning of the semester, and I had to claim I hadn't.", "summary": "Professor with accent pronounced \"test\" as \"testes\", and I looked horrified. When my professor asked what the issue was, I claimed I was simply surprised there was a test coming, and got lectured about not paying attention to the schedule."}
{"id": "t3_pb91y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I know here on Reddit we know working in IT/Tech call centers sucks and the reps really aren't bad, but what is the worst experience you have had?", "post": "For me it was a few days ago. We use Comcast here (unfortunate but all we can get in our area) and the woman I had to talk to must never have touched a computer outside of work and talked out of her ass. Our internet was supposed to be about 25 MBS but we were getting 3-4 (used speedtest.net to check for a week). So after checking everything I called up to see what was going on/get a tech to come. The woman I got spend the first 15 min telling me everything was perfectly fine. After finally getting it through to her it was not she tells me that everything was fine with them and it HAD to be my wireless router. Best part? I don't use one. I'm hard-lined. I dont even have a wireless router IN MY HOUSE. She didn't care. It was my wireless router. THEN after another 20 min of finally explaining my setup she asks how I know its slow. I told her I did the check online to their server via speedtest. She told me that's not accurate and I NEEDED to use THEIR test. I did and it was at 2. WORSE than speedtest.net. She went back to its my wireless router I must be using. I then immediately hung up, called back and asked someone to set an apt for me for a tech. They transferred me to the department and after I explained my situation I hear 4-5 clicks and a \"Oh yeah here's the problem, a tech can be there tomorrow at 2 to fix it for ya (it was their end, some type of signal problem.) Guy comes, 10 min later I'm good to go. I normally don't complain to supervisors but i called back with the her name and HAD to for the absolutely BLATANT ignorance and her not listening to a goddamn thing I was sayin", "summary": "Some bitch keeps me on the phone for over an hour saying it was a wireless routers fault that I dont use/own. Tech sees problem fixes in 10 min."}
{"id": "t3_vap5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me stop messing up!", "post": "I am a 26 M dating a 23 F for about 14 months and I have a problem of creating porblems in my head. I Sometimes look for stuff that isn't there or create problems in my head that upset me and when I bring them up they just anger my girlfriend because it is usually ridiculous and made up. I have a desk job that isnt always GO GO GO and so I end up just sitting her thinking most of the time, which for me isn't always a good thing. \n\nMy question is how can I help myself stop this behavior? I am mentally aware of it now and I am trying, but I did it again today and now my girlfriend is REALLY pissed at me and I am afraid she is going to want to take a break from me for a few days or even just end our relationship because I keep doing this! I am terrified of losing this girl because I have every intention of asking her to marry me. \n\n**Example** I post stuff on FB and sometimes on her page and usually never get a response or a comment on it. So i posted a passive-aggressive FB post and caused a fight between her and I. I've since deactivated FB, helps solve that problem, and now she is telling me not to come over tonight. My clothes are there so I have to stop by tonight so we will talk, but this is an ongoing thing between us. It is 100% my fault. I basically just want attention when I am bored at work and throw fits from time to time when I don't get my way.", "summary": "I create situations in my head and work myself up over nothing and it is really hurting my girlfriend. I need help or a strategy to help myself knock this the hell off. I've identified the behavior, but it is a hard habit for me to break."}
{"id": "t3_2pnuxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my (soon to be) ex-wife [27 F] How much money can I ask for? I want to be reasonable. We want to go through mediation.", "post": "My wife and I are in our 4th year, Probably splitting soon. Right now \nworth over around 2 million. we have 2 houses financed, selling one already. She has trusts coming for another estimated 1 million every 5 years for anther 3 payouts. She has never been employed I have been under employed. My fathers business will be going to someone else who has worked for it. I gave it up because my wife and I didn't need money. \n\nHer grandma will probably soon leave her a bigger amount of money, and in the distant future her father as well. I Am scared because I never thought money would be an issue for me after we married. I never pursued a career Because I wanted to do charitable and volunteer stuff with my time. Now that everything is changing what can I ask for? I would never sue her or anything. We will likely mediate.\nMy question is what's fair? I feel like I'm legally entitled to like 1 million. But we've planned for a life with 10+.", "summary": "Today my wife and I are rich. She is leaving me. I would like to ask that I'm still rich in the future."}
{"id": "t3_2t4gzz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by listening to my roommate", "post": "My current roommate recently introduced me to a long time friend of his, who was a girl. Me being the social awkward guy that I am asked him all kind of questions about her. He told me that she's pretty quiet, but that she's pretty cool. He also told me that she had a stroke and she can't feel anything in her left leg so I should definitely avoid that if I somehow get it in. Anyway fast forward to later that night and things went great. We were at a party and after a lot of drunk flirting she agrees to come back to my room. All is good, or so it seems.\n\nNow a little information on my roommate. He is a very vindictive son of a bitch. He loves to twist details so that his victim ends up in  an awkward situation. I'm his favorite person to do this to. During sexy time I was very careful to avoid her left leg, and I focused on her right one, as I didn't want her to be uncomfortable. After the deed is done, she leaves and everything seems fine. He obviously found out, and decided to inform me that he twisted one detail and it was actually her right leg that has no sensation.", "summary": "My roommate has no morals."}
{"id": "t3_2av5vr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my BF [25 M] of six years... How can I convince him to go to grief counseling?", "post": "My wonderful partner of six years recently lost his father extremely unexpectedly. Like, he wasn't sick at all and then suddenly had a heart attack and died like that. It has been awful for him. \n\nMy boyfriend is a very strong type with some \"old fashioned\" ideals-- feels a bit like he is my \"caretaker\" (even though that is not really true, haha), has said things like \"When we get married I want to make sure I make enough money so you don't have to work if you don't want to\" (even though there's no chance I would never not work!) and as I've had more problems/issues in my life (I have a bad parental situation and some depression) he has always been the one supporting ME. \n\nI give this background because I think it would be great for him to go to grief counseling or see someone professional because I can't always help with some things, and I don't know how to convince him to go. He is not opposed to counseling/therapy; I know he is making sure his younger brother goes (his brother is a teenager) and he also is totally supportive of the fact that I am in therapy. However, it's not translating to HIM actually going to therapy. \n\nHow can I talk to him about this/make it clear it's not like I want to shove him off on someone else or think he's \"weak\" I just know from experience how much talking to someone more objective can help. He is definitely depressed (maybe not clinically, but getting there) from all this and I think he needs extra help.", "summary": "Boyfriend's father died unexpectedly and I want to convince him to see a therapist/grief counselor."}
{"id": "t3_3yo3bp", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[Dating advice] How not to appear to be a creep?", "post": "Thank you all whom take the time to read and respond. I'm a guy who's 20 years of age and still coming out of my shell in relation to girls. My main fear and biggest obstacle is knowing when to draw the line being being confident (as I'm trying to be more of) and being perceived as a creep/perv. I've been told before that I'm aparently 'cute' so it's not my looks that worry me, I just really want to make sure I don't give off the wrong/bad vibe. Generally speaking, I'm not looking for someone just becuase of the sex, I'm trying to find someone to have a connection with on an emotional level, where we can tell each other anything and all that gooey stuff.", "summary": "Guy in his early 20's trying to find a GF doesn't want to appear to want girls just for their bodies."}
{"id": "t3_3cz7zj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] ex [20M] broke up with me 3 months ago and won't respond to me asking for my things back.", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I broke up at the beginning of May. He blocked/removed me from everything at the time, but after a bit we tried being friends. About half a month ago I asked for some of my things back and then he said he would send them and...hasn't.\n\nI offered to pay him to ship my things, no response. Got blocked and removed from everything, so I can't even ask if he'll send them. I asked a friend to ask for me and he never responded either. \n\nShould I give up on getting my things back? I don't live in the same state as him and can't really get in contact with him. (We lived with each other for a while and broke up after I went home.)", "summary": "ex has my things and won't respond if he is going to send my things to me."}
{"id": "t3_3qfwci", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Difficult situation between me [18M], gf [18F] and her parents.", "post": "My gf's parents are strict Muslims and won't let her date anyone who isn't a Muslim (for the record, we're in North America, so this isn't unusual for me to not be Muslim).\n\nWe have four options:\n\n* She come comes out and says she's dating me, an non-Muslim and gets disowned and is never allowed to speak to family again. She has a bf she loves, but is sad because of no family.\n\n* I pretend to convert, we can still see each other, she keeps her family and a roof over her head. **She knows about me pretending to convert, it's her parents that don't know I'm pretending**\n\n* We break up, she keeps family, but is sad because she has no bf who loves her.\n\n* We wait until she is able to move out in about a year on good terms with her parents. However until then, it's basically a long distance relationship, which is something that I think would be difficult to maintain this for such a long time\n\nThe second choice seems more desirable, as it satisfies all parties, however this is still a big commitment, and opens up the possibility to further messes down the road. My concern is that option 2 seems like a temporary fix, and could backfire in the future. However the permanence of 1 and 3 options is also very concerning to both of us. So really option 4 seems like the best bet, but is not a sure thing.", "summary": "Gf can't date me because her parents don't want it, since i'm not Muslim. 4 things happen:"}
{"id": "t3_2o64dz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21/M] Is she [20/F] trying to put me off or is she interested?", "post": "So I called this girl today to ask her out, but she didn't answer so I left a message. I got a text from her later saying she missed my call but couldn't listen to my message for some reason. I texted back a little later and told her I was calling to see if she wanted to get lunch this week. She texted me again later that night and said she was sorry she just saw my text and that she and one of our mutual friends are going to lunch with some people on Friday and asked if I wanted to join.\n\nIs she just trying to be nice in saying no to a date? Why would she invite me out with our friend and a bunch of other people I probably don't know? What should I say?", "summary": "I asked her out and she invited me to a group lunch. Why would she do that?"}
{"id": "t3_1091v5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night I overheard a neighbor assaulting a women, but was too scared to call the cops because I live in a ghetto neighborhood. What should I do when/if it happens again?", "post": "My internet was out all night so I was moping around my place out of frustration. While doing so, I overheard a black man, through the thin walls, and could hear him arguing with a woman - eventually going apeshit and starting to hit her. I could hear her screaming and heard some loud thuds and bangs. A few minutes later, I hear the woman crying her eyes out repeatedly saying \"why did you put your hands on me\" and \"you hit me and pulled my hair.\"\n\nI should of called the cops, but didn't. I feel guilty for not doing so. The problem is, a very limited amount of neighbors could of heard the domestic dispute - and they would know one of them was the snitch. I live in a ghetto area, and am white in a mostly black neighborhood. I don't want to come home one day to my cat nailed to my front door, or worse. I currently don't own any weapons for self-defense either, nor do I want to start carrying one out of fear.\n\nOnce I was able to get on the internet, I found a couple anonymous tip phone numbers to inform the police just in case it gets worse or happens again. What would you have done?", "summary": "I feel like an accomplice because I overheard a neighbor beating up a woman and didn't do anything."}
{"id": "t3_1zdl90", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(north carolina) was supposed to be getting off probation tomorrow, but was arrested over the weekend", "post": "here's the situation - roommate and i got into a verbal altercation on friday, and she called the cops on me. i was yelling from the porch, she was yelling from her car - there was no physical contact, at all. she called the cops on me even though i did nothing wrong other than talk shit. as soon as she calls the cops, she leaves. the cops show up half an hour later and say there was a call about \"harassment\", and i stated what happened. my friend was at the house with me and the roommates were there (so there are at least 3 witness to this event.) Fast forward to Saturday, I'm relaxing in the bedroom and 2 cops show up and tell me they have a warrant for my arrest for \"assaulting a female.\" I'm booked at the city jail, but then go home an hour later. So, this woman went and lied to the judge and said that i pushed, shoved, and punched her - which never happened. I'm supposed to be getting off probation, but now i have this. What should be expected when I show up to court tomorrow? Will my probation officer know before we go into court? What happens when this woman is outed for filing a false report?", "summary": "roommate and i got into a verbal argument. i never touched her, but she went and had a warrant put out for \"assault on a woman,\" knowing i'm going off probation monday. now i need to know what to expect when i show up for court tomorrow since the arrest is a violation of probation - and the accusations are not true. "}
{"id": "t3_2c43bh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's getting serious with me [30 M] and her [23 F], but I don't know what to do about it.", "post": "A quick summary about me [30M] - over a year ago I ended a long term relationship that I was in that was very unhealthy. There was a lot of manipulation, and even though I was glad to be out of the relationship, it took me about a year to recover from it. I have rebuilt my confidence and now I have an ecosystem of happiness again. I couldn't be happier with life.\n\nFast forward to a few months ago I met a beautiful girl [23F] and we instantly hit it off. The only problem was - she lives in another state, but has family here and was in town visiting. Regardless, we exchanged numbers. About a month later, she visited her family again and we hung out a couple of times. It was fantastic and I really started to like her. She came over again about a month later on another visit and we spent a couple more days hanging out, and I am beginning to fall for her. I like her a lot and we get along in an almost unreal capacity.\n\nAll should be good, right? Well, lately I have been having a hard time accepting the long distance portion of it. I only see her for a couple of times a month and when I am not with her, I miss her a lot. She has expressed interest in moving to my state, but I can't help believe it's solely for me and I don't want her to do that. \n\nNot only that, but I am **just** starting to become happy and independent again and I fear getting back into a relationship this quickly might undermine that. A part of me wants to live my own life and be free and pursue a relationship much farther in the past. She has expressed that she is serious about me and wants to become an item.\n\nWith these two things in mind, I want to be honest with her and let her know how I feel. I just don't want to hurt her and I think if we continue moving forward, it might just make things worse. At the same time, *I really like her and still want her.* I am confused and don't know what to do! How should I go about figuring out what to do?", "summary": "Possible long distance relationship, she wants to move to be with me, I am having second thoughts. I want my freedom, but I still like her."}
{"id": "t3_49d6o0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[27M] Need to financially support elderly parents during unstable Oil and Gas Industry, how?!?", "post": "Fellow redditors I am in a little bit of a dilemma\n\nI'll preface that I am a lowly engineer with minimal financial savviness. I am 27 and working a mechanical engineering position for a fairly large Oil and Gas company. Now to the dilemma\n\nMy parents are near financial destitution as their only income source that once flowed from a foreign country has dried up due to war and turmoil within that country. Things are only getting worse and it is likely that the war will drag on for the next decade.\n\nMy parents are in their late 60/70s and have been living off of savings since the outbreak of the war 5 years ago. Savings have since run out and due to their age it is difficult for them to find gainful employment.\n\nAs a result they have asked me to support them through purchasing their fully paid off house. The logic behind this is that I sign up for a mortgage to purchase their house, and that they will continue to survive through their newly acquired liquidity; potentially even investing it.\n\nMy situation is that I have a great job; however, due to the O&G industry I am likely to be laid off come April. As a result I am actively looking for a new place of employment.\n\nMy parents understand the lack of stability within my income and as result have committed to paying the monthly mortgage. Essentially I will only be signing the mortgage by name due to proof of income and they will be paying the mortgage through me.\n \nI feel a moral obligation to support my parents; however, I have a feeling that this isn't thought all the way through. \n\nWhat am I missing? Is there another way?", "summary": "Parents want me to buy their house to financially support them, smart move?"}
{"id": "t3_4p3hzz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] best friends [38M] husband [36M] took his wedding ring off at the bar while talking with a girl? Should I tell her?", "post": "I have been close friends with a former coworker (Leah) for about 5 years now. Our families are very close and our kids play together. Recently my boyfriend and her husband (Mike) have been spending more time together, which makes us really happy since they don't have a lot of guy time. \n\nMy boyfriend and Mike went to a bar Saturday night, and my boyfriend called me around midnight to ask if Mike and Leah had an open relationship or did any swinging. I told him absolutely not (I know my friend wouldn't ever be into that), and he explained a girl had been sending them drinks all night and chatting with them, and when she invited them to play darts, he took his ring off and put it in his wallet. Turns out the girl invited my boyfriend (only) back to her place to keep drinking, and Mike got a upset and put the ring back on. When we were laying in bed watching TV, he texted my boyfriend and said \"Sorry I got us mixed up with that skank. I hope we can keep it between us.\"\n\nI know this is a super small issue compared to a lot of other things on the sub, but it's been bothering me. I don't know if I should tell her. I am 100% positive she'd feel really betrayed if she found out I knew and didn't tell her. I also don't want to put my bf in an awkward position.", "summary": "My best friends husband took his wedding ring off when he was heavily flirting with a girl at the bar. He only put it back on once she expressed interest in my bf instead. Should I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_1kn9kw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I caught my husband (35) watching porn and I (30) can't get over it. What can I do to move on from this?", "post": "My husband (35) and I (F30) have been married for 3 years. Two years ago I was using his laptop (with his permission as I had just sold mine) and the browser crashed. I opened the history to pull up he page I was on and saw a bunch of links to porn sites. I was shocked, embarassed and furious. \n\nPrior to this I never gave porn much thought. I figured every man watched it at some point or another. Also in my past relationship my ex openly admitted to watching it and I didn't react at all. In fact I couldn't care less. \n\nThis time however I was livid. My husband always talked about it like it was degrading and not his thing. Before voicing his opinions I figured he watched it. After he made his feelings known I thought he wasn't into it, so when I found the browsing history I felt like a fool. On top of it. He had been watching it when he was supposed to pick me up from work (he was late and I had to call him after waiting 15min). \n\nTo add more insult to injury my husband was turning me down for sex frequently saying he felt wasn't feeling up to it. And sometimes when we did have sex he would go soft. \n\nEver since then I am completely untrusting of him. I feel like he's always checking out other women. I get pissed off with nudity in movies and I feel like he's lusting after every half naked woman he sees. This was never an issue when we dated. I feel like a child throwing a tantrum and my self esteem has plummeted. \n\nWhat can I do to get over this?  It's been two years and I'm still vey angry. I feel it's only getting worse.", "summary": "husbands porn viewing habits turned me into a green eyed monster."}
{"id": "t3_52vpgl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I ( 20 M ) is in relationship with a girl ( 18 F ) who is shy with emotions and insecure as fuck", "post": "Since i can remember i was always chatty and loud and in every hook up i had with a girl i was the one who was dominate and things were always going my way ( i know douchy thing to say but i want to be honest ). The thing is i am now with a girl who is awesome just because she is so different - she is deeply connected with herself and is more in touch with words from book then actions from the real world. But the problem for me is a want to be sure that she wants me and heck to admit that she is in love with me but every time when i am with her i have to assure her that i mean serious with her and she isn\"t doing the same thing to me. She says she is writing a lot about me and everything but don\"t have a courage to show me the writings cause she says is to personal for her and then i am bum down cause i want her to feel safe around me and i really do everything in my power to accomplish that. Maybe for that kind of girls i have to wait for her to open up because she is feeling to safe in her own world that she is have troubles allowing someone to enter her world even thought she wants it? i know that i have to give her time but i have such a strong desire to know that she is only mine because let\"s face it we all like to hear someone saying loudly and proudly how much we mean to them.", "summary": "How do i know that introvert girl likes me?"}
{"id": "t3_4l9xwa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] offered 11 month contract with one of the leading tech/social companies. If accepted it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend [25F]", "post": "Hey All,\n\nSo I've just received news today that I've been offered an 11 month contract opportunity with one of the leading global tech/social companies however it's going to mean relocating away from my girlfriend of 18 months (who's amazing) if I accept.\n\nI'm super glad that I've been offered but equally worried as I don't want to lose my girlfriend who is great and incredibly supportive. We've spoken about this opportunity and she knows how ambitious I am and was happy for me to go for it but we're both going to be upset and miss each other if I accept and leave.\n\nThankfully the opportunity is in Dublin and we're currently in London so it's a 1 hour flight away and relatively cheap to get there and back.\n\nWhile I don't like the idea of leaving her I'm not sure if I'd ever get this kind of opportunity again. If it was any other company the choice would be clear but I feel that taking it would lead to amazing career progression, huge job satisfaction and hopefully continued training/development.\n\nWould love to get some final advice from anyone, especially if you've been in a similar situation.", "summary": "Offered an 11 month contract with one of the leading global tech/social companies however if I accept it means relocating away from my girlfriend. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hbx5t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F/23] broke up with my boyfriend [M/24]. Now I've started kind of dating someone else [M/22], but how soon is too soon?", "post": "How soon is too soon?\n---\n\nI [F/23] was dating my boyfriend [M/24] for about three years. We broke up about three weeks ago. Before we broke up (at a time where I had already decided that it was going to happen), I had mentioned to my best guy friend [M/22] that I had often considered us dating but regretted saying anything and we didn't bring it up again.\n\nFast forward to a week ago, we went out with some friends, got drunk and hooked up. This week we've been hanging out a lot, and it's gone from \"I definitely want to be single for a while\" to \"I don't want to pass this up.\" He's admitted to feeling the same way.\n\nThe thing is, my ex is a great guy. It really just wasn't in the cards at all, and I still care for him as a person. We had different life goals and passions, and I could feel myself slowly becoming resentful towards him because I often felt held back doing things that he would not want to do.\n\nObviously I want to take the actual dating part very slowly, but what is the minimum amount of time I should take? Especially as I'm still close friends with some of my ex's friends as well and I still care for him as a person? I feel completely moved on from him and it feels as though it was months ago already but I know it's very different for him and I feel terrible for causing him any pain to begin with.", "summary": "Broke up with boyfriend of three years, three weeks later moved on and basically with my best guy friend. How soon is too soon to \"go public\" or really start taking dating each other seriously?"}
{"id": "t3_2wbj1o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing Ameno", "post": "This fuck up happened today and it was a pretty stupid one. I work in a company where we programmers work upstairs. My boss received clients downstairs. Me and my colleagues were having some fun by playing stupid songs aloud through your speakers. This one colleague kept a very annoying song going on for so long I got bored and continued to listen to my music with my headphones on. I continued to work until the desire to get back at my colleague was too present in my thoughts. I put on Ameno on my headphones and was singing AMENO aloud. Hard. But why weren't my colleagues laughing? What's going on? I stop the music, free my ears only to hear my boss welcoming a client downstairs... After the meeting my boss walked upstairs and I was pretty afraid of what he was going to say, luckily he wasn't that mad. He warned me to be careful with actions like that. I was pretty ashamed, haha.", "summary": "sang AMENO aloud with headphones on, got an unexpected audience."}
{"id": "t3_3yuos7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of almost 2 years, cancer, cuckolding and confusion.", "post": "Okay, to start off with my girlfriend has been going through some shit this year. She found out her Grandfather is terminally ill and her parents are splitting up, obviously she has an excuse to go a bit crazy. We also have this kinky thing going on where she does stuff with other dudes, which was my idea and I'm pretty comfortable with. I tell you this because of it's relevance to the situation. also, about a month ago I found out she messaged a saying she loved him. Honestly if it wasn't for what she's going through I'd of ended it at that point but she said she was just trying to get him to like her and nothing els.\n\nSo, lately she has been acting strange and it's been getting me down. She never really sees me and cancels on me but then goes out with other people, she says I'm smothering her when I try to talk to her for half an hour when I haven't seen her all day. I mean fair enough but she doesn't just say she doesn't want to talk, then when I do get to have a meaningful conversation she just says things to hurt my feelings. \n\nI've tried talking to her but she just says there's nothing going on. Things are a bit better now but what I have got out of her doesn't make sense. She once said, \"I feel like I have nobody to talk to and you never help me.\" \nThen ten minutes later it was, \"I just feel like you're smothering me.\" I explained that I can't help if she doesn't give me a chance to talk to her about it.\nWhat do I do from here? Could it be something to do with another boy? Is she just having a bad time?\n\nObviously there's allot more to it but this already feels long enough, hoping to get some help, thanks for your time.", "summary": "My girlfriend is/was acting weird and I don't know why, is she just fucked up because she's gong through a allot of stress?"}
{"id": "t3_38frjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my friend [21 M/F] of 4 months, made out but now she wont talk to me.", "post": "So I met this girl, Stacy, at the beginning of the semester while I was seeing this other girl. After the other girl and I stopped seeing each other, I turned my attention to this current girl\n\nWe became friends pretty quickly and spent alot of time together studying. Id invite her to do a couple of things but she wouldnt really acknowledge it, so I figured she wasnt interested so, we continued to be friends\n\nShe drove me to the airport when I left and I asked her if she wanted anything from Australia and she said the cheesiest keychain I could find. When I left I could feel that something was different between us.\n\nIn Australia, I realized that I liked her more than I thought so I found the cheesy keychain and took pictures of it wherever I went. I would chat with her through whatsapp whenever I got the chance\n\nSo I got back from Australia with the intent to actually ask her out, But then she asked me to dinner before I could. We went for dinner and I took her on a walk through the river valley, where she kissed me. So we started making out. Honestly, I couldnt give it 100% because she just threw me off my game.\n\nI showed her the photos that I took which she enjoyed and we continued to make out. She said we should go back to her place so we walked there but then when we arrived, she said \"are you gonna walk home?\" which I assumed she wanted me to leave, so I left after she kissed me goodbye. I would have kissed her first but I was so confused. \n\nThe next day I sent her the photos at her request and said I had a great time with her last night, but she didnt acknowledge it. So now were in this awkward place where we dont talk much and what happened hasnt been acknowledged.\n\nLately she wont talk to me at all, so now Im just confused and hurt. What do I do next?", "summary": "Friend made out with me and now wont talk to me."}
{"id": "t3_ss0nt", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Recent Math graduate seeking job search advice.", "post": "As said in the title I recently got my bachelor's of science in mathematics. I chose the degree because I'm not entirely sure what I want to do but I've always been good at/liked math. \nI started out applying to literally everything that I could but I've decided to narrow down my search. I pretty much apply to anything I can find with the word Analyst in the title on Monster, Careerbuilder, indeed, etc. Also, I usually include a cover letter outlining my skills if they asked for it.\nHowever after six months of searching, I have yet to get even an interview. I know online job boards are the bare minimum of job searches, but that's why I'm here.", "summary": "Recent math major with little direction, needs advice on job search"}
{"id": "t3_4m5rvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confidence & Breakups", "post": "I'm a 19M and I was wondering what are somethings I can do to become more confident when it comes to potentially going after someone I like? For the longest I've been shy but ever since college has started its gotten so much easier to talk to people in general and I honestly prefer it still if people come to me. There has been many times I've seen a beautiful girl in front of me but I've never had the courage to approach them due to the fact of being rejected. I am quite of an open and easy person to talk to but when it's someone who I find quite attractive I can't seem to approach them first as well as approach them for the reason of trying to get to know them and go from there.\n\nMy last question is what is a best way to get over someone? I've recently lost a girl who essentially left me for somebody else like the last 2-3 girls have done in a row and I give them their space and take time to reevaluate myself over all to become a better and stronger person, but I was wondering if anybody had some strong suggestions or some great experience to maybe make the blow less hurtful or the process to get over someone a bit faster? I will admit I am an emotional guy, when I get attached I get attached and I'm in it 100% willing to see where it can go but of course through both work from me and a significant other as well as depending on the natural fluidity of the relationship. So in other words things tend to bother me or hurt me more than It would for others I guess. Hope to hear a response, thanks.", "summary": "What can I do to gain confidence and also to be able to handle breakups better?"}
{"id": "t3_14gzln", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21f] Leaving my [22m] boyfriend to study abroad; what do we do for long distance esp. should we try an open relationship?", "post": "I am 21, he is 22, we are both in college and I am studying abroad next semester.  Our homes are far apart as well, so we probably won't see each other for 6 months at the least, 9 months at the most.  We've only been dating for 10 months, and the last time we were apart (summer) it was really hard.\n\nHe is a physical-cuddly person and the lack of physical contact is one of the things that was bad this summer, and we are both worried about it.  I've been in long distance relationships before, but only ones that started out that way, not that became it after a while so I don't know how to deal with this really.\n\nWe've talked about an open, or open-ish relationship.  I... want to be the kind of person who would be fine with that, but I'm actually pretty insecure and jealous.  He's totally willing to keep it closed the way it is now, but since I am the one leaving, I'd like to do what I can to help, make a reasonable sacrifice, etc.\n\nIs it better to have an open relationship with a \"don't ask don't tell\" policy, or talk about it all?  i.e. is it better in the open, or hidden.  Is there a difference between sex with a stranger and with a person you know?  Is it possible to have a platonic \"cuddle buddy\" with out getting sexy-kindsa feelings?\n\nHave other people done this, how has it worked?\n\nI, obviously, want to stay in this relationship, but in a way that we *both* are happy.\n\nP.S. How much should we talk?  For him, talking reminds him of the distance/how lonely he is, for me it talking reminds me that he loves me and misses me.  So also an issue there...", "summary": "Leaving for 6 months, what is the success rate for ldrs?"}
{"id": "t3_236q78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 F] broke up with my SO [24 M] of 1 year, did I make the right decision?", "post": "My boyfriend was my best friend for five years before we got together. He was always the one person I could count on, and had never lied to me during our friendship. Nothing changed in terms of his loyalty once we got together, a year ago.\n\nHe was the perfect boyfriend. Never made me doubt him, was always truthful, made me happy, respected me, etc. A couple of nights ago, he left his phone on (I KNOW..) and I saw a few messages being exchanged between him and a co-worker (female). They had made plans and went out for drinks on one occasion (he had picked her up and taken her to a bar). Later, he texted her that she had looked good that night. A couple of weeks later, he had texted her again asking her if she was going to wear a short dress if they were to go clubbing. Her responses always seemed passive; she didn't seem overly interested.\n\nI confronted him and he apologized immediately. Didn't make any excuses, just apologized for the hurt he's now caused me. He also swears that while, yes, they did go out one time, \"nothing happened\". I don't know what to believe. I'm starting to wonder whether my decision to break up immediately was too rash and undeserved.\n\nI need to reiterate the fact that he has never lied to me in the past six years, aside from this recent incident. I'm just looking for some perspective on what other would do if they were in my situation.", "summary": "Confused if I made the right decision to break up with my almost-cheating boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_54y9kk", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Asked her if she wanted a relationship and things seem to have taken a turn for the worse.", "post": "So I'm a male 28 and I have been on about 5 dates with her. On the 5th date right before we left each other I asked her what she was looking for out of this? \n\nShe said she didn't know and so I said I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with her because I like her and I didn't want to lose her and I feel like it had the opposite effect. It's been 2 weeks since this happened and she seems to be less responsive to my texts. I feel like bringing it up next time we talk on the phone. \n\nWhat should I say so that she feels comfortable with me again without her thinking I'm head over heels for her.", "summary": "Asked her what she wanted she said I don't know I replied I want a relationship and now she seems distant, how do I fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_3kkqgk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my ? [? F] some girl posted on a website for homewreckers about me, included my name and a picture!", "post": "Ok, throwaway because my handle has stuff about my kids on it...\n\nSomeone, I have no idea who, wrote on a website that I am a homewrecker - two years ago.  I have no idea who it was.  It includes details from my life that are true, like that I have a child, where I live, what I look like, but then is also filled with lies such as I gave someone an STD.\n\nI would usually just laugh and ignore it, but there is a picture of my face on it, as well as my whole name, and (maybe the worst part) it shows up like 4 searches down when you search my  name on Google.  Obviously, it was shown to me by a friend, so it's easily found.\n\nCan anyone help me know what to do here?  I'm freaking out a little bit, I have kids, a job that works with kids, a wonderful boyfriend...  Can i do anything to get it taken down, or off the search?", "summary": "Picture, and full name on a Homewrecker website.  What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3s7s1s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When I (19/M) think about asking girls out, I'm more afraid that they'll say yes", "post": "I know that I am holding myself back from having a nice relationship because I'm afraid that when I ask this girl out, she'll say yes.  Basically, I know that she likes me and I like her, but whenever I think about asking her out I convince myself not to.  I really don't like making small talk, so I'm worried that if/when she does say yes and we go out, it'll just be awkward.  \n\nI have felt this way my entire life, and as a result, I have never even been on a date or kissed a girl.  I know that girls have liked me and some have asked me out before, but the fear of having nothing to say is crippling.\n\nI know I shouldn't let this stand in my way!!  What can I do to avoid what I perceive is inevitable awkwardness if I go on a date?", "summary": "To paraphrase NFG- \"Did you notice I was afraid, I thought I'd run out of things to say\""}
{"id": "t3_37lrah", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 M] SO [23 F] ended things because I took Molly when I was drunk and persuaded/pressured to.", "post": "My SO and I have been seeing each other for about half a year. We've been having a shaky time recently, my grandfather passed away, car broke down. It has been stressful without adding her to it. At a party at her house her neighbor came over and he convinced me to take the Molly, I don't even have to pay him. \n\nI said no several times but he continued to insist so I said yeah, I had done it before what's the harm. \n\nI forgot that she had told me previously that weed is all that she's fine with. After two hours of consuming it I was relaxed and not being a disturbance, she comes up to me and tells me to gtfo and that I dug my own grave. \n\nI want to fix things and get back together but she seems to holding this as a grudge, so I don't want to confront her too much and piss her off.", "summary": "took a small amount of Molly at SO's party while really drunk forgot that she was against it, her wrath descended and I want her back"}
{"id": "t3_40t27k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [24F] finally cut ties with my ex [24M] of 3.5 years, 9 mos. after breaking up?", "post": "My ex and I broke up about 9 months ago, about 3.5 years into our relationship. He broke up with me out of the blue. In retrospect, it was boiling underneath the surface. But I didn't realize it back then because I had finally fallen back in love and forgiven him after he cheated (texts, one kiss, late night hangouts) 1.5 years into our relationship. But a lot of our relationship had become toxic. He left me absolutely devastated. By the time he wanted to work things out a couple of months later, I had kissed another guy. He did not forgive me for this and decided to remain broken up. He ended up dating another girl for a couple of weeks, while talking to me and continuing to tell me he loved me. After I found out, he claimed it was just a friendship. A while after that, we started talking again, saw each other in person (we live on opposite sides of the country). I don't want to be in a relationship with him right now, but I do want to know that we are at least trying to head in that direction. But he refuses to give any indication of that. He says he doesn't want me out of his life but wants to remain as we are. I am tired of this. I'm tired of waiting for him and I think he's had more than enough space. I stayed with him after his indiscretions and yet, he does not love me enough to try to work things out. I need help finally cutting ties with him. I know the only way to move on right now is to finally cut off all contact, which we have never managed for more than a couple of weeks. I know I can block his number, delete his contact (although after all this time I have everything memorized), but how do I stop myself in those moments when I miss him and just want to talk to him? Right now, we are still each other's primary person to communicate with and don't go more than a day (rare) without talking. What has worked for you when your ex is also your best friend?", "summary": "How do I finally stop talking to my ex?"}
{"id": "t3_yaote", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF[21]and I [F22] don't see eye to eye. Should we be together?", "post": "BF[21]and I [F22] don't see eye to eye. Should we be together?\nWe've been together for eight months now we were friends for a year dated for 6 months, before making it official. \nSix months into our relationship he looks in my phone while I was in the shower. It just so happens that this week my ex texts me and tells me he's going to go into surgery because he has cancer. He wants to see me, I agree, considering it wasn't a horrible break up or anything, I figured he was just afraid and needed some reassurance. He said,I love you, I said it back. \nI know this wasn't a good idea. I do care about him but, i am not in love with him.  So my boyfriend reads this flips out, Says we need to break up. We break up for like four or five days, get back together for a week then out of no where he breaks up with me again. We get back together a week later.\nApparently he had a girl in his bed the night he broke up with me. \nHis roommates ex girlfriends friend, Get's wasted and falls asleep i his bed. Instead of sleeping on the couch, he sleeps beside her and she hugs him and kisses his back. That's all that happened according to him. \nThe roommates' ex girl friend set up the entire thing. She even gave my boyfriends number to the girl. He didn't even delete her phone number. Because he \"forgot\". That was two months ago. \nThis brings me to the situation today, He wants to go help the roommates ex girlfriend move.His other friend helped her moved and even said the girl that slept in his bed was there.  I told him I didn't want him too because of the entire situation and he should not want to because it literally hurts my feelings. He doesn't agree and thinks I'm completely over reacting. He's actually pissed off that i feel this way.", "summary": "My boyfriend wants to help someone move that is a total bitch and is mad at me for not wanting him to. Does he not care about my option on things? Should we just call it quits?"}
{"id": "t3_13aak8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I always read stories here of people who did something crazy and spontaneous, and met their SO in the process. I now have a chance to do the same, so should I? (Throwaway)", "post": "I've known a girl for about 8 years (for the sake of the story I'll call her Sarah) we were really close friends, and I've always wanted to ask her out. Unfortunately before I got the chance, \"Sarah\" moved out of state, and shortly afterwards I moved somewhere else (still in state). We still kept in contact but really didn't talk much. So some years pasted, we both got into relationships, but still talked every once and awhile.\n\nFast forward to last year. My relationship ended terribly, and my life started falling apart (car tickets, work problems, etc). A few months pass, and I started feeling better thanks to some friends. Then, out of the blue, \"Sarah\" started talking to me again. I find out her boyfriend broke up with her too. So we start talking to each other again, and more often. \n\nI eventually build up the courage to tell her that I used to have a huge crush on her. She then tells me that she had one on me too! I'm in shock! I've liked this girl for about 8 years, and here she is telling me that she felt the same? AWESOME!\n\nAround this time, my life went completely crazy. I got kicked out of my house, and I had to move in with a co-worker I had to get rid of almost all my possessions and I started to lose it as my life crashed around me. But, there she was. She starts talking to me again and picks me back up. I quit my miserable job, and get a new seasonal one in a better environment. I have nothing here that's making me stay much longer. And I start planing a trip to go see her.", "summary": "A girl and I have liked each other for 8 years, and I have nothing keeping me from being with her."}
{"id": "t3_t61hw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Tips on controlling my over rambunctious jealousy?", "post": "I've recently started a relationship (I'm 22M she's 22F), and now that it's starting to get pretty serious I've started to have the problem that has helped end other relationships for me: that I'm being a little overly-jealous.\n\nWe spend the night apart for the first time in a couple weeks because her friend (another girl) was in town and stayed with my SO for the night.  I was of course totally cool with this, as it gave me a chance to play some discgolf with my buddy.  She even let me keep her car for the night (I've been driving it to work/school rather then driving the bus).  We planned that she would come over in the morning and hang out for a bit.\n\nSo this morning I woke up to her kissing me, everythings cool, but then she said she had to take her car and leave right away.  I was still half asleep but right after she left I was like wtf?  It really pissed me off, and I sent her a pretty harsh message over facebook (my phones currently dead).  Turns out she was going to breakfast with her friend, and they've been hanging out all day.  I feel really jealous that she gave up on our plans to hang out with her friend instead.  But I think I'm taking it too hard, because we're together every night and she should be able to hang out with her friend for a couple days.\n\nThis has happened in previous relationships, when plans change and my SO hangs out with other friends.", "summary": "I tend to get jealous when my SO hangs out with other friends, and am looking for tips on being a little more laid back."}
{"id": "t3_2c0mlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(20M)In a long distance relationship of 4 yrs(20f)(311miles), might be extending it to 1800 miles. IDK WHAT TO DO?", "post": "Currently shes in school(austin). Shes got 2 more years in that city then she might be moving to Houston. Another 3 years. After that who knows where shell go! Ive talked to her about this many times to where the subject have become augmentative and tiring. \n\nShe doesnt know where shes going. She has family in Houston, where she thinks she could work & stay while going to finish up the 3 years. I dropped out of college after 1 year. I was 30 minutes away by bus. It was great then. Stuff happened that made me unable to continue. \n\nNow im stuck working a dead end job going to school part time in my home town. I dont want to stay here. Im currently living with my father, who also doesnt want to stay here. We recently took a trip to california, where hes from. And I kinda liked it. But recently a job opportunity opened up in Houston and were also planning on opening a business there. \n\nBUT I dont want to make this decision and regret say we dont make it through all this. Something happens. My gf and I started out since we were 16, ive been her only bf, ive been her everything. She has been my everything as well (IS). What frustrates me the most out of all this is that shes getting a whole lot of education to not able able to choose a city where to live. \n\nIDK what to do. A few more details, I visit here every month, the whoel trip costs me about $250 just saturday night & sunday, I drive back monday around 3am. I enjoy my time with her, but each day that were not together, we grow apart (I feel) , One major thing that has come up in the arguments so far is that she thinks her familys approval rating of me has fallen below acceptable since the drop out. Is there any advice yall can give a fellow redditor guy out in the big ol world?", "summary": "I cant decide whether to move closer to my gf potentially in the same city in 2 years, or leave to California."}
{"id": "t3_208mp6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out that my [19/M] girlfriend [18/F] slept with another guy in the early stages of our relationship", "post": "Recently found out that, when we were in the start of our relationship, just over a week before I asked her to be my girlfriend, she slept with another guy who she had been talking to since before we knew each other. We had been very close since before she did this, and we both knew we felt very strongly about each other at that point. When we met we clicked extremely quickly and have been very emotionally up front about everything ever since, not keeping anything from the other. Being far more introverted than she is, this was a lot harder for me to do.\n\nUntil now I thought he was just an old friend of hers, but it turns out that up to that point, they were in some kind of friends with benefits arrangement. She told me that after this happened she cut off contact with him completely. I would be more willing to try and move past this if it weren't for a couple of things: the first is that she kept this from me, and even lied about it, saying that she hadn't had any sexual contact with anyone since her previous boyfriend (who I did know about); the second is that she cheated on her last boyfriend twice over the course of their relationship.\n\nI would very much like to continue this relationship, but it feels like my head is telling me to end it before this happens at a more serious point in our relationship. I am fully aware that I am probably only in love with the girl I want to believe she is, and not the one she actually is. When she told me about cheating in her previous relationship, I considered that a tiger never changes its stripes, and that if I carried on I should expect her to do the same to me. However, I asked her there and then if she would ever do that to me, and she told me no (this was before the incident in hand took place). I've had a lot of issues with trust in the past, having been lied to by friends mostly, so I think I am mostly angry with myself at trusting her so soon despite what my head had been telling me to do.", "summary": "Now-girlfriend slept with another guy shortly before our relationship became official, but at point where we had clear feelings for each other. She then lied about it and breached my trust. She has cheated on previous boyfriends too. Should I try and fix our relationship, or move on?"}
{"id": "t3_gdqyy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "so, ending a relationship sucks. especially when you don't know how to do it.", "post": "So, here goes. I've decided to end a 7 year relationship with a generally pretty good guy. I feel like a piece of shit, but it just doesn't feel right anymore. I started dating him when I was 19 and I'm just not the same person anymore. I've been feeling not quite right about this relationship for at least a year, but felt like I owed it to him to keep trying. He's never gotten along with my friends well, and we seem to have less and less in common. One of the things that really killed it for me was how unsupportive he was when I found out my mom's cancer came back. It hit me really hard, and he basically said, 'get over it she's going to be fine.' and she is ok for now, but it was really hard on me because I felt like I was 10 years old all over again and 'Metastatic Breast Cancer' is not a fun thing to google.\n\nRecently he's been pushing for marriage (which he knows I don't have any interest in, I've made that very clear), and getting a cat together. I just can't let this go any longer, because I know it will only get worse from here when I tell him I can't do this anymore.\n\nI know I want out of this relationship, but I feel like such a piece of shit, because I'm not sure that he's going to see this coming, and he doesn't have many friends to get him through this if he is blindsided. This is the only relationship I've ever been in, so I don't even know how to go about ending it. I just know I want to cause as little pain as possible (which, hopefully is possible, within reason) because I do still care about him. All I can imagine is the worst case result, so any advice or words of experience would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "I need to break up my 7 year relationship, but don't know how to be kind about it."}
{"id": "t3_4zjmlj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) brother (19M) is going down a dark path and has no respect for our family.", "post": "We both still live at home with my mom.\n\nIt's been getting worse for him the last couple years. He never finished high school (gymnasiet in Sweden) and has drug related problems. He smokes, drinks and uses marijuana (that's the one I know of at least).\n\nHe has no respect for me or my mom. He never does his chores (simple cleaning stuff) and consistently takes food that isn't his from the fridge that are clearly labeled. I confronted him about it a couple days ago and he refused to give it back when I caught him in the act.\nHe works 50% at some cleaning job but pretends to be sick a lot due to him staying up late.\n\nThis week he stayed up all night and slept all day while skipping work, telling my mom he's sick. He's always on the computer and never goes out of his room if not to buy snacks. He rarely eats the food we cook but instead buys some pre-cooked shit along with candy and soda.\n\nBasically, he lives a very unhealthy lifestyle. My mom has tried to talk seriously with him A LOT OF TIMES but it doesn't work. Now, it's his life and I wouldn't care as much if it wasn't for the fact that I have to live with him until I can find an apartment, something that is extremely hard where I live (Big city in Sweden).\n\nWhat can we do about this?", "summary": "Brother lives unhealthy lifestyle and shows no respect at home. It's getting hard living with him."}
{"id": "t3_17dcub", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I file my taxes myself?", "post": "I know you guys must be sick of giving tax advice, but here is another question.  I want to know if I should pay someone to do my taxes, like H & R Block, or use the H & R Block online software, like I have done for the last two years.  It costs about $60, I think to file them using their software and I think it is around $150 - $200 or so to get it done at an actual H & R store.  \n\nI am a single mother, so I will be claiming head of household with one dependent, I have had two jobs this years, so I have two W2's, and I have to claim unemployment-and I had no taxes taken out of the unemployment.  I also have day care expenses to claim.  I also moved this year, but not more than fifty miles or for work (I know that matters with taxes).\n\nLast year, when I filed myself using the online software, my circumstances were pretty much the same (except no moving), so it isn't difficult for me to file them myself.  I just haven't gotten back a lot of money, which is fine, in a way, because I set up my taxes so I won't get a big return at the end of the year-because why give the government a free loan and all that. \n\nSo, do you think I should pay someone to file them for me (I wonder if I could somehow get a larger return), or is it not worth it and I am better off doing them on my own.  \n\nI'd like to add I am not stuck on H & R Block, I have just used them in the past.\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "should I file taxes using accounting software (which costs money, too) or should I pay someone to file them for me?"}
{"id": "t3_3yr56d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] sister [26F] has cheated on her now fiance [24M] multiple times throughout their four year relationship.", "post": "Throw away because this disgusts me.\n\nIt's been going on for a while and I've always been on the fence about saying anything. I don't know what would be the right thing. should I tell him? I've always been on the verge of telling him, but there are some seriously fucked up factors in this and I've think it's getting worse.\n\nI'm not sure if she would be with him if it weren't for factors like housing and security giving how frequently she cheats and the fact that whenever she does something 'fun' without her children she never invites him. She has ignored him on multiple occasions besides that when he'd tried to figure out where she was.\n\nNow she's pregnant and the child might not even be his, but this would be what he thinks is his first child. My indirect involvement in this because I'm her brother makes me feel like shit. He gives her children love even though they aren't his and she cheats on him. When she had her second child and she wasn't sure who the father was he took responsibility. She could've just have not been with him. I feel as though she's using him and wasting his life away.", "summary": "My sister has cheated on her boyfriend(now fiance) all throughout their relationship and the conditions of their relationship are just getting more complicated as time passes. Should I remain impartial or say something?"}
{"id": "t3_4fx3lc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 1 year, she wants to take a break", "post": "She has struggled with anxiety for a while and I've always been there for her, our anniversary was on the 4th of April and it was the happiest we've been in a while, weather was great and we spent the weekend together enjoying the sun and spending time together. She lives about 80 miles away because she goes to a university in a different town, but I drive and see her every week or two. It's only an hour and a half each way and I enjoy the drive.\n\nThen slightly after the weekend ended I was reading Perks of Being a Wallflower (a book she recommended and lent to me) and I realized that my sister had molested me when I was 6, somehow I had completely suppressed the memory. I told her and she tried to be there for me but with her anxiety it's hard for her. We basically just both would end up crying and freaking out. We both had a very tough week or two and I wasn't there for her at all when she needed me. \n\nI've come to terms with what happened to me, but she feels like I ignored her. She wants to take a break at least until the end of the summer where we don't talk. She said that she doesn't want to break up and she still loves me, but at the end of the break we need to talk about what is best for both of us, ideally that being that we get back together. The thought behind the break is that it'll give us some time to get better at relying on ourselves and not being dependent on eachother so that if the other person needs us we can actually help them without breaking down ourself.\n\nI'm not really sure how to feel about this or what to do, she wants me to come see her this weekend so we can talk about it and figure out what to do, any advice?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to take a break until June so that we can get better at helping ourselves if the other person can't be there, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_ewsbj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does Reddit have \"power users\"?", "post": "Hey there Reddit!\n\nI exclusively surfed Digg for years. I never cared for Reddit much because, to be honest, I thought it was ugly. But I always had lots of problems with Digg. Mainly, the fact that I submitted countless links and was a big contributor but was never able to get anywhere close to the front page, even though much of the content I submitted was much better than some of the trash that ended up on the front page. Now, of course, Digg is a ghost town so that is how I ended up here, and I have to say I love this community way more than I ever loved Digg. I don't know why I didn't see that before.\n\nSo I guess", "summary": "Is there a point to posting links and such here or is it just like Digg where only select user's posts go anywhere?"}
{"id": "t3_17a5ki", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling asleep in church. YES CHURCH, SHUT UP ATHEISTS.", "post": "I went to sleep at about 2:00 AM yesterday (today). In school I was tired and whatnot, and it was also a very busy day for me, so that just made me more tired. However, I didn't really feel it until...\n\nChurch at 6:30 PM. I had to go even though it's Friday. Because confirmation. Anyways, I arrived, I sat down and the mass went smoothly until the homily came. A long and boring one, as usual with our priest. A looooooong and boring one. And suddenly, I thought \"Man, I'm so tired. I could use a nap right now, but I'm in church so I'll have to manage.\" Even though I tried to convince myself not to fall asleep, my eyes started closing and I almost fell asleep several times. I started thinking about my personal stuff, or just about anything more interesting than the homily. I lowered my head to look like I'm praying or something, and then it happened.\n\nI wake up being shaken by a couple of friends. Asking me if I'm okay, if I'm not feeling sick. \"No, no, it's okay. Nothing's wrong.\" I say, slightly confused. They all look very worried and as I look around I see a bunch of guys grinning to themselves. Then I realised I've fallen asleep. I do not know through how much of the homily I've slept through, but anywho it's embarassing. Who knows if the priest didn't point it out during the homily. He seems to notice this kinda stuff easily. [Dammit dammit dammit dammit!](", "summary": "Was tired, fell asleep in church, hilarity ensued. For my friends, anyway."}
{"id": "t3_284a0h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my Wife [31 F] 4years, worried she's becoming depressed since we've moved.", "post": "I love my wife to dearly and am growing concerned over her behavior recently. Earlier in our marriage we lived in the southwest made, decent money me 40k/yr in the military and her 33k/yr. After getting out, I spent some time unemployed going to school and got a decent state job with benefits (24k/yr) before our son was born.\n\nAfter our son was born, I convinced her to move that we should move to my hometown since it was a better environment to raise children. (Better education standards, Less gang activity, lower crime, more community). Since moving, our marriage has been under a lot of pressure. She stays at home with the baby (and we have another on the way) and I've bounced around between jobs (no period of unemployment) while trying to go school. \n\nWhile this is mostly my fault getting her hopes up, She'll tell me she's lonely and I'll ask her if she wants to move back. At which point I'll explain why thats a bad idea. We have a good thing here, we have a mortgage, the schools are better here, community, lower crime etc. And that it wouldn't be worth it to make the kids give that up so she could be closer to her friends and a few family members and vacations to go see them are always on the table.\n\nAs the months have gone on she's become more passive agressive and sad. I know its rough on our marriage but I took a job on night shift so I could finish school faster, but am unsure if we should move back if she truly is lonely here. On one hand I think that the environment is better for raising children, I think that would go out the window if their mother was unhappy. \n\nAny suggestions or inputs would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Moved for the kids, wife might be depressed. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_362jr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [19F] stop giving my boyfriend [20M] the silent treatment?", "post": "Dating 1.5 years. Did not have this problem before, only for the past few months. Had the same problem with my ex (but that was because I didn't care about him). \n\nI've read multiple threads on people being on the recieving end, and commenters saying that their SO is just doing it to be manipulative and gain control. \n\nI guess this is true? I don't really understand why I do it. Sometimes I just don't feel like talking to him, but want him to keep trying to talk to me. I'm sad when he doesn't. By 'silent treatment' I mean: not initiating, only answering his questions with one-word answers, etc. Not flat out ignoring (although it might as well be).\n\nI'm a bad communicator. Eg. I was supposed to go to his house this weekend. He told me that he had a lot of school work, so we would mostly be studying together (I'm okay with this, it happens a lot). I just told him I don't have to come if he doesn't want me to. He said \"I'd like for you to come, but I do have a lot of work to do. It's up to you. I'm totally happy for you to come if you want to anyways.\" And I do want to, but I guess I wanted him to convince me and make me feel more invited? He tried to talk to me a bit more after but I' still shutting him out. \n\nThis happens all the time. I realize that it is really childish, and immature, and ridiculous. I want to stop it, I just don't know how.", "summary": "I don't feel like talking to my bf sometimes, so I shut him out. How can I be a more mature communicator?"}
{"id": "t3_wedp3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "AT&T keeps sending my girlfriend faulty phones.  Either the phones restart constantly or never have service.  What can she do?", "post": "My girlfriend has the HTC Inspire.  She originally got one last summer that worked fine.  A few months ago the phone started to lose service frequently for hours at a time.  We took it to the store and they had replaced the SIM card.  It didn't help at all she kept having calls dropped, text messages unable to be sent and no service.  \n  \nWe called AT&T and had them replace the phone.  The first phone she received was DOA so they sent her another which had the same connectivity issues.  She sent that one back for a new one that had service but would restart a few times a day.  I told her to send that one back but she said it was fine as long as she had service.\n\nAbout a month later the phone starts doing the same as all the other ones,  no service.  She hasn't had any service at all for the past 3 days.  It isn't a problem with AT&T in her area because her family is on the same plan and everyone else has perfect service.\n\nShe just wants a phone that will have service.  I don't think her contract is up for another year but she can't go that long with a phone that isn't working.  Why should she have to pay them for not providing her with a working phone.  What can she do to guarantee she gets a working phone?", "summary": "Phone loses service for days,  replacement phones have same problem.  How do we get AT&T to give us a working phone?"}
{"id": "t3_amk6w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am thinking of severing all ties with my family, How would I do so?", "post": "I am thinking of severing all ties with my family, mostly because they are a bunch of self righteous christian people that feel as if by them paying for me so far, (feeding me and letting me live with them rent-free) I am not only their slave, but am expected to mindlessly agree with everything they say and do. They think that I am not capable of leading my own life, and I know for a fact that if they knew half the stuff I deal with/get up to in college they would throw me out. In addition, they get angry with me when I do what they ask because five minutes later they change their minds, and when I wait to see if they actually want it done they get even madder.  They show me no respect, and yet expect me to show them respect when their behavior merits none.\n\nSome info about me\nI am 20 years old\nI go to a state college, I am studying to be a teacher\nI am not really that into all the religious stuff, but I am not an atheist\nI work at my local YMCA as a swim instructor/lifeguard\n\nI am trying to think of ways that I could effectively cut the ties with them. At this point the best solution I have come up with is to join some branch of the military, such as the navy or something, because my job doesn't pay enough for me to move out on my own and continue my education. (when I am at school, things are sort of OK as I go far enough away that they don't visit, though they expect a phone call every day. They pay for my meal plan, so they expect me to be in contact with them)\n\nAlso, sorry about the poor writing quality of the post, but I felt like I had to write this down before I went crazy.", "summary": "I hate my family, and they hate me- how can I get away from them with no lines of communication open?"}
{"id": "t3_384jin", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help me [f-23] get over the one problem I have with my boyfriend [m-24] of 18 months.", "post": "Using a throwaway because my boyfriend is a redditor.\n\nWe've been together for about a year and half and I can honestly say that I have only one complaint about him. Sure, we have our ups and downs but all in all this guy is amazing. I can go into specifics of how amazing this guy is, but unless necessary.. I'd like to keep this post somewhat generalized. \n\nAbout 10 months into our relationship, we were both very drunk and I said something to the tune of \"do we love each other?\" He responded that he wasn't sure, I said I did. We left it at that because I don't believe serious conversations should be had while intoxicated. \n\n2 months later during a very romantic evening, I told him that I love him again and he responded that he loves me too. \n\nSince then, life has been great except for one part: He will never tell me he loves me first. If I tell him I love him, he always responds by telling me he loves me too and usually smiling or kissing or something affectionate. I know this boy loves me, I have no doubt in my mind about that. But never hearing it first from him is starting to take a toll on me. I've gone so far as to go 3 weeks without saying it to him, just to see if he would say it to me.. but nothing. I had to break the silence because I missed saying it so much.\n\nHow do I get over this? How do I just move past it and accept that he does love me, he's just not gonna tell me he loves me first?", "summary": "Boyfriend who does love me will never tell me he loves me first. How do I get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_1xiqix", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[23/f] thinking about breaking up with [26/m] my boyfriend. Do you think everyone has someone they are \"meant to be with\"?", "post": "I met my boyfriend in college, we have been together 5 1/2 years. When we first met, I wasnt that attracted to him, honestly. But we got along and he treated me well so I stuck with him. We had fun in college and when we graduated things got more serious because, well, that was the obvious path when you've been together for 4 years. \n\nSo now we have been living together for a year and he talks about marriage. I used to think that we are supposed to be together. We get along so well and our beliefs about life are very much in line with each other. But I'm just not, excited, about our relationship or a life together. I feel like we only got here because we never got in a fight big enough to break us up. It's not that I'm unhappy, I just really think I could be happier with someone else, as terrible as that sounds. But I'm worried that I'm making a mistake. What if I just happened to find my \"person\" early in life and I'm just bored? What if this is as happy as it gets and I have unrealistic expectations? I'm very comfortable. It would be easy for me to just marry him and be content. But I dont think I would be truly happy. Am I stupid for thinking I can find passionate love? \n\nI've talked to him about this some and I think he does feel that passionate love for me, but I have been honest with him that I don't feel like that with him. I told him that he deserves to be with someone who feels the same way about him, but he still doesnt want me to leave. He thinks he can make me feel that way for him. I dont want to break his heart but I think I am hurting him more by staying with him...", "summary": "comfortable and compatible with bf of 5 1/2 years, am I being selfish for not wanting to settle for \"comfortable?\""}
{"id": "t3_3bg2ad", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by moving my scentsy", "post": "On mobile so exuse formatting.\n\nSo this actually happened this morning. I woke up at around 6:30 to some god awful smell in my bedroom. I flipped the light on and sure enough, big pile of dog crap right in the middle of the floor. So I figured meh, I'll clean it up and go back to bed. Cleaned it up, smell didn't go away. Then it occurred to me that my scentsy was the perfect remedy to this issue.\n\nI had moved my plug in scentsy to the living room while I was cleaning yesterday and had left it on all night by accident. For some reason even with the bulb that came with it the wax gets near to boiling hot when it's turned on. So what does dumbass me do? I try to gracefully pull it out of the wall and did not succeed. I was a little overly graceful and sloshed boiling hot wax all over my fucking hand.\n\nThe hot wax catches me off guard and I scream like a prepubescent 12 year old and drop my scentsy, which shatters all over the floor.\n\nFuck me for wanting my room to smell like vanilla instead of dog shit.", "summary": "tried to mask the scent of shit with my scentsy, now I am scentsyless."}
{"id": "t3_1pkzq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "More than one [20-21M] of my friends has a crush/thing for me [20F] and I don't know how to feel about it", "post": "My exBF of 3 years broke up with me 3 months ago, and since then things have been getting weird. I have all guy friends, mostly. Ever since then, maybe 4 or 5 different guys have been hinting at, asking me forthrightly, about hooking up, dating or what have you. I am starting to see someone, for the short term someone I just met recently, which I don't mind because he is someone completely new.\n\nI almost feel like a bad person for having a crush on somebody with all these other people who I am not reciprocating the same feelings. I never really felt guilty about it because I have always been in a committed relationship, but now that I am single, I for some reason feel guilty in not giving people what they want; I know that I can't, and I won't, because it simply makes me feel uncomfortable. However, in the meantime it is making things awkward and is emotionally straining me being put in these situations, as I never have been in them before. I always confront it, and am honest about my feelings, but in the nicest way possible because I am so afraid of causing my friends hurt. I try to somewhat avoid the comments with direct sexual connotations because it makes me feel weird and don't know how to address them.\n\nI also feel uneasy about seeing any of them after the fact because of the idea that I think they expect something or want something more of me, than what I am giving them; like as if they only want to see me because of this and not for who I am.", "summary": "I just have this weird feeling in my stomach about all of my friends wanting to be with me in some way or another, and not feeling like I can carry out the friendships like usual. I don't know how I am supposed to feel."}
{"id": "t3_2odbzd", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Benefits from Self-Identification for stuttering", "post": "My employer recently sent out a volunteer \"Self-Identification\" survey and I have not previously identified as someone with disabilities. I read the survey and realized I don't need any special accommodations to do my job (at least currently) and further don't receive any current accommodation. \n\nIs there any benefit to identifying in my position now, even though I don't require any accommodations currently? In addition, are there any disadvantages to identifying, ie can it be held against me, or what privacy rights do I have if I identify, but then say I don't require any accommodations to do my job? My current job has some client facing work, but to ever \"advance\" in my career, I can't really say no to these assignments, even if I move away from this kind of work later. \n\nA little bit of background; In my past years I was a very bad stutter, but with proper therapy I've worked past it. I was in therapy for all my childhood (until 18 basically). it doesn't heavily impact my life as I've learned proper coping mechanisms to help cope with working, and life. I still must sometimes stop, and reword what I am attempting to say. It ends up making some of the sentences I say a little awkward because of the word choice.", "summary": "What are the advantages/disadvantages do I get from self-identifying even if I don't require any current accomdations? "}
{"id": "t3_3hwr57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) have been dating this guy (23M) for about 6 weeks/8 dates. I think I've made up my mind that I don't see things going much further between us, but we're supposed to go out tomorrow and I don't know what to do about plans.", "post": "This guy I've been going out with for the past few weeks is really sweet and nice, but I just don't feel a spark and don't feel too excited about him. I feel bad because he's a really good guy, but I just don't feel that chemistry and I'm starting to lose interest in him.\n\nOur schedules are super incompatible, we barely see each other once a week, and he's just not that exciting. I've given it a lot of thought over the past week, and I just don't think I see things going much further between us.\n\nThe thing is, we have plans tomorrow night. My friend is throwing a housewarming party that I would much rather attend (which I feel like is a sign that this guy isn't right - I'm not even that excited about seeing him tomorrow and would rather go out with friends).\n\nI don't know what to do about plans for tomorrow. I feel really bad bailing on him last minute and screwing up his weekend especially since we've had these plans set for the past 2 weeks. But I also don't want to lead him on and I just don't think I see this going anywhere. But I don't know if I should give him one last chance and see if this date goes well? But I also don't want to spend the whole night feeling like I'm missing out on this party I would rather be at.\n\nDo I cancel plans and tell him the truth? Or do I give him one last chance since we've had these plans for a few weeks, and then see how it goes? \n\nI also don't know how to be honest with him. Via text? Just saying I don't see this going anywhere even though he's a really sweet guy and wish him best of luck? or\u2026?", "summary": "Been seeing this really sweet guy for a few weeks, but I just don't think the chemistry/spark/connection is there and I'm kind of losing interest in him. We've had plans set for tomorrow for the past 2 weeks but I'd much rather go to this party my friend is hosting. Do I tell him the truth and cancel plans and end things between us, or do I give him one last chance and not mess up his weekend and follow through on plans tomorrow? And if I do tell him the truth\u2026 how do I go about that?"}
{"id": "t3_1tcnc4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by scaring away a gorgeous French woman by making her worry about exposing herself to a minor", "post": "This just happened to me and I'm so embarrassed but I just had to share it. \n\nI was browsing Omegle (been a crazy Friday night) and I came across a gorgeous French woman. I mean 9/10 hot, I could only see half her face but her smile was stunning, bright red lips and all, gorgeous body.  I'm a young looking early 20s and she was the same age but thought at first I was around 17, but she believed me and I went for a charm offensive. We chatted for a while and it worked and she said I was cute so I asked to see the rest of her face. She said no but I could anything else I wanted.\n\nOh shit.\n\nI got excited.\n\nStill wanted to stay polite.\n\nGave a shitty vague response like anything or everything.\n\nLong response from her.\n\nStill waiting.\n\n\"Ergh I hate people who can't make a decision, i don't wanna get in trouble for stripping for a minor\"\n\nDisconnected. I went so red. The next person came on automatically and asked if i was crying. I wanted to.", "summary": "seconds from poon, ended up being consoled by a mustached topless indian man"}
{"id": "t3_36a46d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] How to not be too \"sweet\"?", "post": "so i have no idea what the problem is to be honest like i said or one may have read my previous post a couple of months ago, we are great and i cannot be happier.. but something making me kinda wonder is that she says i am so sweet :| .. i asked how is that? because i tell her to take care or i don't now drive safe or shit like that\n\ni don't want to be tooo sweet, i just see when you are going like at 1 am, i don't know just TAKE CARE or call me if you want to go with you or anything.. so question to males in particular.. how not to be a sweet pie?", "summary": "! how to be me but embrace the asshole in me :D ?"}
{"id": "t3_4iiofj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "3 years ago, my brother-in-laws [20/28] pitched in to buy a Bench Press. I'm[24/m] considering selling it. Do I need their permission? If so, am I required to give them a share?", "post": "By 'required' i mean like, is it something you guys think I *should* do? Are they entitled to it?\n\nSo yeah, 3 years ago I decided to buy a Bench. The total cost was $900 (local currency). Since my 2 brother in laws were going to use it as well, (it would've been really rude to buy it and tell them they couldn't touch it) I asked them if they could pitch in to help me buy it. They didn't have much at the time, so combined they only pitched in about $170. So I payed for the majority of the purchase.\n\nThat brings us to today. I was thinking about how I rarely use the Bench since I have a gym membership. It's just taking up space. However, my 2 brothers still use it. One of them uses it regularly. But I feel that since it's mostly mine, I should be able to at least decide IF i can sell it.\n\nAssuming i do sell it, are they entitled to a share of what I get? I was thinking of selling for around $500-600. If so, how much would be appropriate for me to give them, considering they paid a fraction of what I did for the bench?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I paid $730 out of $900 for a bench. Want to sell it. Do I owe my brothers any of what i get for it? How much?"}
{"id": "t3_15ibod", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/M] like a [16/F], she is unsure she can handle a relationship. What should I do?", "post": ":Beware this is a WALL of text:\nSo, I have been flirting and hanging out with a girl for quite sometime now (about 2 months). We talk all the time and never run out of things to do. We've also been on a few dates and had what I thought to have been a great time for both of us.\nIt is also well known by all our friends that we both like each other and just aren't in a relationship yet.\nNow here's where I need your help: she sent me a text a few days ago explaining how she doesn't think she can handle a relationship between all the things she does in her life, she is in a local circus, an actor for a Shakespeare Troop, an extremely good student, and is in the Chamber Orchestra for our school.  She just doesn't think that she could be in a relationship at the same time. Not that she doesn't like me because she does, she just has a bit much on her plate.\nI answered back being all understanding and \"it's ok\" because I wasn't very sure what to say it all came as quite the shock.\nShould I try and do something about this, should I do anything? Or is this a lost cause?", "summary": "Girl likes me, I like her. But she is unsure If she can handle a relationship with all the other things she does in life, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_36b3cg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] boyfriend [27M] of 2.5 years doesn't have sex with me but masterbates everyday.", "post": "My boyfriend and I used to have sex every day, multiple times a day. It was literally the best sex I've ever had and he told me he felt the same way. Of course after a while it didn't happen as often but often enough that I was always pretty satisfied. \nWe've been living together for a year and were still sleeping together a few times a week but it became monotonous and boring. It was literally always from behind and only lasted a few minutes. Its now gotten to a point where we are only sleeping together about once every two weeks, always first thing when we wake up, always from behind. \n\nI thought maybe he just wasn't feeling very sexual (we recently moved into a new house and finances are pretty tight) so I never spoke to him about it. However, he told me a couple of weeks ago he masterbates every day. I told him the fact he prefers jerking off by himself rather than actually sleep with me is really starting to affect my self esteem and he assured me he thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and there's nothing wrong with masterbasting. I started feeling so low about myself I even posted on AmIUgly recently! \n\nJust today I told him I had to run to the store to pick up something really quick and I was only gone for about 15 minutes. I walked into our bedroom when I got home and there was a \"dirty\" shirt on the floor. I asked about it and he told me he masterbated as soon as I left. I just walked out of the room and am now sitting outside posting this.\nI know I should talk to him about it again but after nothing really changed the first time I tried I'm hesitant to bring it up a second time. Everything else in our relationship is amazing and wonderful and he's my best friend but this is really starting to make me feel insecure and bad about myself. I don't even like changing in front of him anymore.", "summary": "boyfriend of almost three years doesn't have sex with me but assures me nothing is wrong even though he masterbates everyday."}
{"id": "t3_1ltlya", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Back up your data, seriously", "post": "Hi, I'm a web designer/computer repair technician and I consider myself a pretty tech savvy person; I'm also an ignorant moron. Here's my story.\n \nSo for years my co-workers and my friends have been telling me to back up my shit. But I was too cheap to shell out the dough for a back up drive. \"I won't make mistakes, only a complete idiot would delete his hard drive! ha ha!\" is what I would often say to myself. So today, I was trying to extend a partition on my 3TB data drive because I had some unallocated space left on it. But instead of clicking \"Extend\", I, in all my wisdom, clicked on delete. A warning message popped up and I thought it was just the \"are you sure you want to proceed?\" message so I pressed yes without reading it.\n \nNeedless to say, the 3TB of freshly free'd space hit me like a ton of bricks. That drive was filled to the brim with every photography work I ever did and all the templates, scripts, programs I ever wrote. I've got a client that I'm suppose to deliver a product to by tomorrow and now I'll have to call him up and tell him that we're both fucked.\n \nRunning Reccuva right now to see what I can recover. So far it's found 154050 out of what feels like millions of files on there. It also says it will take about another 6 hours to complete the scan.", "summary": "Back your shit up. Accidents are called accidents for a reason. It WILL happen to you soon or later, so have a copy of your important data to prevent it from screwing up your life."}
{"id": "t3_yqx6x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If unborn children have a human right to life, and abortion is considered murder. What would be the rules on Manslaughter concerning women whose unhealthy lifestyle significantly contributes to the foetus dying in utero?", "post": "I've always been in two minds about abortion. While the act of taking a potentially concious being out of existence isn't something I treat lightly, I also believe it's not my place to influence a woman's right to choose. At the end of the day I don't have all the facts and I shouldn't build an opinion on incomplete data. Very happy to have a reasoned discussion about it though.\n\nAnyway, I was recently told that a human being at ANY stage of life has fundamental rights, and is subject to the laws. Long story short, if you could sucessfully defraud an unborn baby, you'd be arrested for it. Foetus Fraud is, hopefully, not possible and the few crimes that do apply are Murder, Manslaughter, and (to a vaguer extent) bodily harm.\n\nSo a mother smokes, drinks and essentially spends her pregnancy extremely unhealthily. The baby dies and the conditions for Manslaughter in your country are satisfied (Reasonable acceptance of the possibility of death, gross negligence, Duty of Care etc).\n\nIn this hypothetical world... Should this woman go to jail? If not why can a baby be murdered but not subject to manslaughter? How would you police this? Where would the buck stop? Should women with a high predisposition to miscarriage who get pregnant knowing there's a high chance be subject to chastisement or are the children she carries somehow exempt due to her inability to control the factors?\n\nThanks for taking for taking the time to read and if you didn't...", "summary": "Smoking, drinking and drugs etc contribute to miscarriage so, in a world where unborn babies legally have all human rights, if a mother does this what do you suppose would be her criminal liabliliy (if any) for her child's death?"}
{"id": "t3_2zj726", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] struggling to get over [21 F] after a year of being broken up, please help!", "post": "Basically, i studied abroad in America from Europe for a year. There i met an american girl and we dated for 6 months. I returned back home and we did the long distance dance for a year. Eventually we decided the distance was becoming too much of an issue so we ended it amicably saying if we were ever in the same place in a few years we'd resume things. \n\nFast forward a year later and i'm struggling to get over her still. She's been dating other guys and i haven't dated anyone since. We talk every month or so over skype, and our conversations typically consist of our feelings for each other still remaining and plans we used to talk about when we were together.\n\nShould I just break all ties with her completely? Its affecting my day to day and making my life harder than I think it needs to be. I think a large part of it is that there was no negativity when we broke up, were we in the same place we would have remained together for a long time i'm confident, its just the distance. I've always felt that she was 'the one' in that sense so that has made it really hard for me to even entertain the idea of dating other girls.\n\nAnyway for now she's committed there for the next 5/6 years and i'm committed here for at least 4.", "summary": "broke up with ex after a long distance relationship and still can't move on after a year."}
{"id": "t3_2tooqw", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My cat who usually couldn't care less about me has now declared my bed as his.", "post": "I'll try to keep it short. I have 3 fur babies, 2 white ones who are from the same litter and 1 black one from a different shelter, but all adopted at the same time. I love them all so so very much and they all get a long great. We all moved back to my parents house about 5 years ago and it took adjusting for them, but now they rule the place of course :] with that, they all picked their favorite spots in the house. My little black cat (Elbee)is my mushiest (only with me though) and he sleeps in my bed every night. The one white cat, Batman, favors my living room daybed and is my t.v companion. Now the other white one, Lt. Peabody Fuzzybottom, he became my dad's shadow and best friend, he hung out upstairs w. Them all the time. I'd really only see him for morning feeding time. He follows him around like a dog! Ok so, the weirdness, I just bought a new comforter and he loves it, he's on my bed all the time now, he's throwing off our whole house groove! My dad jokes about how I must have brainwashed him, but I can tell he misses his little bud. And Elbee is all out of sorts b.c our sleep space is different. Anyone ever had a situation like this, is it just b.c it's a new blanket, New smells? Any advice?", "summary": "got a new comforter, one of my cats who I don't see often has taken a liking to it, throwing off the whole household! (Ok, that's a bit dramatic, but my dad misses his little buddy!)"}
{"id": "t3_35ue5g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 F] have to help my cheated mother [53 F] ; my dad [53] was always agressive but this time he completely broke her", "post": "-My mother told me that she thinks my dad is cheating on her. she told me she is broken, feels sad, dull and empty. she doesnt know how to go on.\n\n-Father always drank alot, only looked after himself and had may violent outbursts (a lot of shouting, threatening and once he even slapped her) so they dont have the emotional connection other couples have.\n\n-Im 21 years old, and a very strong person. I always protected mom and my little brother, i help with doing half of the chores (my dad does nothing except 1/ 2of the financial support).\n\n-The thing is: my dad is getting more and more disconnected and mean, he purposely leaves clothes around, dirty dishes on the coffe table, calls her dumb and laughs when she tells him off... \n\n-My mother does not love him but she is broken because she feels like she put up with so much, she works and does all of the chores (with me) for him and she also lost all of her friends because she had no time to hang out with them. while she is financially independed, she is so sad and broken that I have to help her again, like i did every single time my dad broke her. She always was a victim but i feel like she went trpugh all of this thinking that everything will be allright once more, but the cruel realisation of cheating partner ended the illusion that kept her ...alive, basically.\n\n-how to help her this time?\nI know what to do in general, I am stronger than her and I always help her when something bad happens. but this time she is completely(much more than usually) back stabbed, cheated, sad, empty and disappointed. she has no friends left (only a few she does not hang out with but calls occasionally), no hobbies (because she works all the time) and now she does not even see the bright future.", "summary": "my mom got shouted on a lot by dad, even threatened and slapped. but she withstood all of this for a better future, because \"he will change\". she got broken many times and I was always the one who saved her and protected my brother and her. this time she lost all hope as she got cheated on; she lost her illusion of him and is completely broken, empty, sad and dull. what do i do this time? its different because locking him out and hugging her untill she feels ok again won't do it this time."}
{"id": "t3_tt2hp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "3 months now...", "post": "m20, she f20\n\nBroken up for 3 months now.  We dated a total of ~6 months of the past year (big break in the middle somewhere)\n\nLife isn't getting any better.  I've come here before for advice, and I've read plenty, time heals it all... I just feel like things are getting worse.  I accidentally think of every day at some point, and always think of before I [finally] go to sleep.  It's gotten to the point where I'm suffering from self-diagnosed depression.  It probably goes deeper than a relationship, but she definitely is the biggest trigger and catalyst for my depressive mood.  It should be noted that I've gone to a psychiatrist recently and she determined I am not severely depressed.", "summary": "If it's my anxieties of us breaking up and missing her have been getting worse... am I doing something wrong in coping with this?"}
{"id": "t3_qx5yc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "First time poster, need friendzone advice.", "post": "Hello, as the title says, this is my first time posting on reddit.\n\nWell, to give you some background on my story, im 20 years old, and i just joined college this year.\nI thought college was going to be awesome, but ever since i joined it, my life is miserable.\nI met this girl i like, and we got to talk with each other ALOT. like everyday, all day.\nWhen i met this girl, we both were going with some problems with our ex's, so we got to talk about our life with each other, giving advice, normal friend stuff.\nThe problem was, we had only met 1 week before being like best friends, and i got in love with her.\nI waited 2 months to be sure, and after i was sure, i told her, but was usual, i got friendzoned really hard, since she only saw me as a good friend.\n\nMy question here is:\n\nWhat should i do with her? should i just try to forget her, should i try and be friends with her?\nBefore i got inlove with her, we were really good friends, and she's probably the only person in my entire college that i really like to hangout, talk.", "summary": "Got in love with a really good friend, got friendzoned, what should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_48vpmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] GF [22 F] of a year has generalized anxiety disorder, and it makes me feel like I'm highly pressuring her every time I try to be sexy.", "post": "My girlfriend has been my best friend for 8 years. We started dating when we ended up in the same town again after three years apart, and the friend/relationship side of things has gone really well.\n\nShe was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder at a young age, and has dealt with that, along with an eating disorder stemming from the anxiety and her mother and grandmother generally constantly telling her that her worth is in her beauty, (along with the normal patriarchal stuff telling women that, of course).\n\nI have loved her for a long time, and when we started dating, our sex life was pretty normal, exciting, and we had a really good time. Now, in the last three months, we've had sex four times, and barely messed around more than that. We've also stopped in the middle of sex every time because she got anxious or uncomfortable, or just made it very clear without saying it that she was.\n\nShe tells me that she wants to sleep with me, that she is attracted to me, but I'm terrified that she's with me for our relationship, but just isn't interested in sex with me, but is too anxious to tell me, for fear that I won't be able to handle it. \n\nWe've talked about this many times over the last few months, and now I feel like any time I try to do something sexy, or grab her when we lay down to sleep or touch her sensually, that she's just going to put up with me being close because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Please help me, I need advice, fam.", "summary": "GF with anxiety disorder isn't feeling sexy with me no matter what I try, and I'm losing all my confidence. Am I wrong to think this is a big deal?"}
{"id": "t3_4of9r4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (25F) said she got scared when I (25M) got very angry (not at her). Reddit, do I have anger issues that I need to deal with?", "post": "Basically we both made a careless mistake that cost us $300. I went from perfectly happy to very upset and angry in the span of 2 seconds. It was collectively both of our faults and I made it very clear that I was not angry at her. I slammed my fist against an inanimate object and yelled a bunch of \"fucks!!!!\" for a few minutes, and then stewed in total frustration for the next half hour. She became visibly disturbed and scared of me. I could tell pretty quickly by how carefully she chose her words, and afterwards she told me her concern when I had cooled off. $300 loss isn't a huge deal for us, but the stupidity of the mistake is what really frustrated me. \n\nReddit, I do not ever want her to be scared of me. What can I do to maybe take things less seriously and reassure her that this type of anger is never going to be directed at her?", "summary": "got supper pissed off at a situation. Gf became disturbed by it and scared of me. Never want her to feel scared of me again."}
{"id": "t3_3migwo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By having a bad neighbour", "post": "This as said in the title happened today, about 6 hours ago. Some background info, I live in the UK, have a relatively large garden and my quadcopter was a [syma X5C] \n\nOnto the tifu. Today the weather was glorious, and therefore I decided to take my quad for a spin in the garden. Camera set, everything charged, and it lifts off. I do a survey of my garden fron about 30ft/10m high, when a gust of wind comes along and blows into across above my neighbours garden. No problem, I will just fly back. As I tilt the aircraft to head back to my house, the dreaded blinking lights come on and the quadcopter descends and lands in the middle of her garden. I go over to ask her for it, she say \"well, I am sorry its on MY property and therefore its mine\" After several failed attempts at trying to ask her to return it, she threatens to call the police for disturbing her.", "summary": "I went for a flight,                    "}
{"id": "t3_3469xm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [35/F] with my __bf_ [35 M] less than a year and I've never been so unhappy with someone", "post": "Short and to the point:\nHe's a great guy to other women in his life but me. He flirts with co-workers (even ask them to meet up for a drink, goes wine tasting with them, fixes things around their homes etc)\n\nI don't think he's getting too far with these girls but I think he's hoping.\nHonestly, I don't know what his deal is. All I do know is that they aren't his gf, I am but I'm not getting the perks those girls seem to get from him.\nI asked him to help me with somethings around my house and it was like pulling teeth. He got my hopes up about us going on a romantic vacation and after 2 months he has not purchased the tickets but has excuse after excuse. \nOur 1st big vacation together and he downgrades to \"Lets go camping an hour away over a weekend instead.\"\n\nI'm heartbroken, disappointed, and so my question \nWhy ask a girl to be your gf and tell her you love her (never felt this way about anyone yada yada yada) but treat her the way I'm being treated??\n\nI'm unhappy and feeling like I'm going to call it quits any day now.\nI tried before and he was really upset. He tells me he Loves me but his empty promises (still waiting on that trip and home repairs in my bathroom) just hurt and make me upset.", "summary": "BF treats other women in his life better than his gf. Let's me down. Acts oblivious and it hurts. Why does he do this?"}
{"id": "t3_18eyrj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by crop dusting my office, and when our boss walked in, I blamed it on a female coworker.", "post": "Well, this morning, for breakfast I had the typical: Omelet, hash browns, pancakes... \n\nWell, every time I eat those damn eggs, I tend to get really gaseous. I'm not talking typical farts, I mean those dreadful silent vomit inducing farts that are similar to those you get when you eat protein shakes or supplements.\n\nWell, I come back from the chow hall and start my work day. Well, I have to get up and grab something from across the room, and I can just feel my stomach rumbling...\n\nI get up, start walking, and I suddenly just can't hold it in anymore. I let out a silent fart. But you know, I can't just stand in one place and fart, since everyone there is going to look at me and wonder why the hell I'm standing there. So, I decide to walk quickly across the room, grab what I need, and walk back.\n\nA few seconds after I sit down back at my desk, my boss walks in. And as soon as he walks in, he can just smell it. He just stops, and has this look of pure pain in his face... \n\nHe quietly says to himself \"Who the F*ck just farted? It smells like god damn death.\" Since he's close to my desk, in an effort to protect my own ass, I say to him in a low voice \"Well sir, I think it was Jennifer over there...\" \n\nJust then he looks over at her, with this look of pure hate, and she looks back with a confused look on her face wondering what she did... I knew then I was safe. Unfortunately, he called her out on it, a few of the other workers bust out laughing, and its safe to say I fractured a coworkers friendship, since the boss said that I told him it was her...", "summary": "I had eggs for breakfast, couldn't hold my fart in, let loose a nasty crop dust, and when my boss came in, blamed it on my coworker..."}
{"id": "t3_3p5f0d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] disappointed my girlfriend [19F] of 6/mos by saying I didn't want to go to a haunted house", "post": "For the past few week my girlfriend has been wanting to go to a haunted house. She has asked my multiple times and I had curved the question by jokingly saying \"Yeah, only if someone holds my hand.\" And I even said that I'm not really into scary things.\n\nThe truth is that I have trouble coping with large amounts of anxiety and I barely even watch scary movies because of it.\n\nSo about a week ago I said I would go to a haunted house, at my girlfriend's request. Today, the day we were supposed to go, I told her I was nervous and I didn't know if I wanted to go. I told her I wouldn't enjoy the experience because of my anxiety, but I would still go if she wanted to. \n\nMy girlfriend seemed to take me confiding in her more as me letting her down than anything else. She started talking about how I should have said no to begin with, and why did I wait until the last minute to say I would be uncomfortable. \n\nI apologized and said if you really want to go, I will still go, but it just might not be enjoyable for me. She just shut down after this and is continuing to focus on me letting her down. \n\nI then suggested that we should still go out and do something, even if she wants to stay in because I wouldn't be comfortable at the haunted house. She initially rejected my suggestion, but eventually said, \"You plan what we'll do then. I just wanted to do something that we couldn't do any other time of the year. Where could we even go out to dinner that we haven't already been.\" (This is not verbatim, but just the gist of what she said)\n\nI understand I could have communicated more directly when she first brought up the haunted houses a few weeks ago. I take responsibility for that.  \n\nMy question is: What do I do now that my girlfriend is so disappointed that it almost seems like she's depressed? How do I make this into a good night, or is that not possible anymore?\n\nAny additional feedback unrelated to my primary questions is appreciated as well.  Thank you!", "summary": "gf is disappointed that I don't want to go to haunted house we planned to go. How do I make her feel better?"}
{"id": "t3_ex4xl", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Passionate but unexperienced young chef looking for  reddit's infinite wisdom", "post": "So a little background. 18 living in vancouver soon to be starting culinary school. ive worked as a cook for about 2 and a half years, not a fancy place but its still good food.\n\nI've always wanted to be a chef, ever since i was 12. working on a line is exciting and fast paced. ive been told i'm very fast and confident in the kitchen, but thats at work, cooking the same 20 meals over and over again. there's no creativity or originality in and of the dishes. i have multiple cook books (most of them being jamie oliver) i love his style, fresh healthy and delish. i never cook at home because 5 nights a week i eat dinner at work and the other nights im either too exhausted or busy. ive been looking through so many recipes that i stare blankly at because i have no knowledge of where to get those ingredients or how to put them together or how to cook them. I'm pretty much asking where a good place is to start, whether that is truly simple recipes or just winging it i dont know, so i ask you reddit. Godspeed and thank you", "summary": "Cook who cant cook. just read"}
{"id": "t3_r8nrn", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help my lady friend win (Picture in link)", "post": "Dear Reddit Community\n\nMy friend lately got nominated as 'Bartender of the year 2012' in a competition called 'Club Awards 2012'. 12 people are nominated, and she is in the top 3 position (at the moment). Now, the thing is of course, that i really want her to win this thing. And hold on, before you start saying 'well fuck you anyways, why should i help her win'! - I believe the winner will get a price of some bottles of vodka and a free party at some club. But thats not the point - the thing is, that i already shared the post on Facebook, and wrote something like 'help my friend win by likeing'. I have plenty of facebook friends, but still she only has about 266 likes. So this is where i thought of Reddit. I know that some of you guys will think 'we don't care', and 'we don't wanna like som random photo'. BUT (and that is a huge but), if you're randomly browsing reddit, and sees this post, and have a fb account, i believe it could be awesome to give her a win, made by Reddit! :) All you have to do is like the picture. No other likes required.\n\nIf she wins, she has agreed to make a thank you reddit video, and post it here!\n\nHer name is Line, and i really hope you will like!\n\nLink to picture (This is the one of her, and the one you should like):\n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "help my friend win a contest on fb by liking her picture, Reddit style!"}
{"id": "t3_vaizo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are regular, everyday activities you should be able to do like a \"normal\" person but can't?", "post": "I can't seem to blow my nose.\n\nWhenever I was in school growing up, if someone had to blow their nose they went to the teachers desk, grabbed a tissue, and began to... blow?  Well it sure as shit didn't sound like that.  I never understood how every time I blow my nose it sounds like a rocket taking off while everyone else does this dainty WHISP of an exhale through their nostrils and they're good to go. I felt like I always needed to step outside or isolate myself. I always seem to end up with snot on my fingers and ripped tissue too...  I feel like an invalid.", "summary": "Can't keep snot contained within tissue when I blow my nose."}
{"id": "t3_2u48iy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 3 months. Situation with her best friend [20sM]", "post": "Hello.\n\nA few months ago my ex girlfriend broke up with me because she fell for another guys, which left me with a lot of insecurities and trust issues.\nI trusted this girl with my life, and she lied to me about feeling anything for him, which really hurt me.\n\nFast forward to 3 months ago, I started dating this amazing girl, which also had broke up with her ex a few months back.\nWe really hit it off and everything happened really fast between us, but all was great.\n\n1 week ago she went with a female friend to Rome, and came back today, and since the airport is near where her best friend now lives, and since they haven't seen each other in a while (they have been best friends for a few years now), she decided to spend a day there, stay the night (sleeping in separate places, ofc) and come back the next day.\n\nI was not really ok with this, and even with all my trust issues, since I didn't want any of it to ruin our relationship, I trusted her with it.\nHer best friend told her she could sleep in her bed, and he would on the couch, but since I was not ok with her sleeping in some other guys bed, I asked her to stay on the couch, and she agreed with it.\nIt still bothered me that her answer wasn't \"no\" from the start, since I'm pretty sure she wouldn't like me sleeping in some other girl's bed, and in my point of view, that's just no right.\n\nMy question is: Am I having the right attitude, that a good boyfriend would have? Or am I being too condescending?\nI really don't know how far is this situation ok in a relationship, but since I don't want to be controlling, I trusted her.", "summary": "Girlfriend went to spend a day (and stay the night) at her male best friend's house, who lives far from where we live."}
{"id": "t3_1p8l7l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F/23) don't know why I don't feel anything romantic for my ex anymore (M/22).", "post": "This is going to be kind of an odd post. About two months ago, I (F/23) broke up with my bf of two and a half years, C (M/22). It was an insanely hard decision to make, given that there was nothing really *wrong* with our relationship other than that we were long distance. I just simply did not feel I was in love with him anymore.\n\nSince we've broken up, I've seen him twice and talked to him and I stand by my decision. I just like being friends. I don't even want to have sex with him (something I felt before the breakup too). \n\nBut that's where I am confused.\n\nWe are super compatible. We have shared friends, compatible life goals, the same morals and values. We are interested in the same things, have similar hobbies. He really changed my life when I first met him by improving my self esteem by leaps and bounds, and continued to tell me how amazing and beautiful I am. He was an amazing boyfriend. He would always give me massages without me asking, take me out as much as he could on his student budget, surprise me with things, etc. He's attractive and sweet and intelligent. \n\nIt kind of scares me how much we have in common and how I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him, only to have it all disappear because my feelings simply evaporated. How will I find someone I am more compatible with? What if I don't and I'm an alien because I don't feel romantically for the guy I am most compatible with? \n\nDoes anyone else have any similar stories? Can someone tell me what's going on here?", "summary": "My ex and I are compatible, but my romantic feelings disappeared and it confuses/scares me."}
{"id": "t3_3t7suf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] keep getting made fun of by my \"friends\" [16-18 M] For being liberal", "post": "I will try to keep this short as I am not a very talented writer (or speller)\nSo recently we did a \"political spectrum quiz\" in my Gov. class to see what side of the spectrum we fell in, and of course, I was scored far left. I have always known I was very liberal, and had no problem sharing my opinions on issues, but with my friends it never really came up.\n\nI was shocked to see that they all scored FAR right, as I just always thought they were liberal. I have no problem with people that are conservative, but they seemed to have a huge problem with me.\n\nNow, its always \"God damn liberal\" or \"Go support the gays more F****\"\nHow can i get them off my back without them making fun of me even more?", "summary": "Never knew my friends were extremely conservative, They found out I am far left, whenever I see them at school they mock me"}
{"id": "t3_530jnd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling out a fence with my mouth while skiing.", "post": "This happened last winter, and ruined the rest of it. I was having a 4 night vacation with my family at a very nice ski resort. Me and my dad decided to go to Telus park, a part of the resort that has ramps, halfpipes, and a squiggly run where my screw up happened. At the top of the run, there were signs that tell us not to go to fast because there was a small bump at the bottom that we shouldn't go too high off of (because of the fence!). Ignoring those warnings, i went down the run freely. At the bottom of the run, I noticed a fence behind the small bump. The fence was an orange rope held there by rebar supports. I guess i was going to fast, because i landed too close to the fence to turn away after going off of the bump. My first instinct was to duck under the fence, but i ended up causing more damage to myself. The orange rope caught in my mouth. As i was dragged to the hard and cold ground, i ripped 4 of the rebar supports out from the ground. Right before i stopped getting pulled back, the rope moved from my mouth to my nose that could have broke if i didn't have my helmet and goggles. After that happened, my face was completely numb, yet the pain felt like hot iron in my mouth. The pain lasted for months, and i was left with a noticeable rope-burn that stretches from my mouth to my right ear. The moral of this story is to obey the speed warnings on Telus park.", "summary": "skied mouth-first into a rope fence and was left looking like Two Face for 3 months."}
{"id": "t3_3ezwsh", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "My boyfriend is having trouble finding a job.", "post": "Background: So my boyfriend graduated last summer from Law School. He did really well, he was on law review and finished in the top 10% of his class. The school he went to isn't on the top 100 list of law schools but it still has a good reputation. His schools rules when he attended didn't let students intern at private practices and make the connections they would need to have a job after graduation, his internship was with the navy.\n\nThe problem is he's applied for hundreds of jobs, and he either doesn't get called back or gets super close then they find someone with more experience. I'm starting to worry about him. He's still sweet to me and we're doing well. But he's becoming more and more dejected as time goes on and I'm starting to get worried. I don't know what to do or how to help him. He's such hard worker so I think its a major blow to his confidence to not have a job. What can I do to help him?", "summary": "My boyfriend went to law school and I need advice on how to help/ best support him until he can get a job and I welcome suggestions on how or what he should do to find one."}
{"id": "t3_164b57", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing ladies underwear [24m]", "post": "So I was visiting my friend out of of town for the weekend and everything was awesome except the fact I forgot to bring clean underwear. So, no big deal I just wear the same pair since I had JUST changed them so it was all good. However, after a weekend of drinking and partying needless to say I needed to changed by the time the weekend was done. \n\nSo when I finally got home to my family I decided to hop in the shower. When I got out and dried off I realized I had no boxer's clean whatsoever (wife forgot to do laundry apparently =P) and I HATE going commando, can't do it. So I looked in the dresser and all I see is my wife's underwear. We're about the same waist so I figured fuck it. I reluctantly put the panties on and went about my day (all in the while constantly tugging at my junk due to the tightness of the underwear. \n\nFast Forward 6 or 7 hours at around 7pm: I had (sadly) gotten accustomed to the underwear (forgetting completely I was wearing them) and my friend calls me to go hang out for a bit. So I do. At least 15 people were there (most I knew but 5 or 6 I didn't). We start scrapping as we often do (Fighting MMA style for fun) and of course I fall down at one point and get back up to keep fighting but everyone is just staring at me. First looks of disbelief, followed by confusion and finally mass hilarity. EVERYONE was laughing so hard it wasn't even funny. I had COMPLETELY forgot about the panties. Tried to explain my case but doesn't matter. 2 Days later I have a few new nicknames. No one wants to hang out and I am completely embarassed.", "summary": "No clean underwear so wore wife's panties. Forgot they were on and went fighting. Fell down showing I was wearing ladies underwear to every friend I have plus people I didn't know. My \"reputation\" is gone."}
{"id": "t3_2ececc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m] 8 months with my s/o [22/f], can't help feeling neglected and seeking company", "post": "To start off, I have never cheated or dumped someone. I like to think of myself as an ethical person that would never do something like that ^^^since ^^^its ^^^happened ^^^to ^^^me ^^^a ^^^LOT\n\nMy relationship has been good thus far with no real complaints on my part. However with the summer months --that I've been looking forward to since I met her in the middle of our god-awful winter -- I've been feeling like we both aren't as excited to see each other or make plans... My schedule is flexible and with **no job** and **no school** she really has few reasons she can't hang out.\n\nYet, we simply don't see each other, often for as long as 2 weeks sometime. I'm feeling more and more like she's just a girlfriend on the weekend and a text buddy for the remainder. I'm almost always the one who takes the initiative to make plans, and it's starting to frustrate me and causing me to feel neglected.\n\nTo make things more complicated, I've been growing closer with a friend [f/21] who is more aligned with my interests, seems to have a good sense of where she's going in life, and has always been a source of astounding conversation since I've known her. Last night we hung out until the wee hours of the morning, opening up on very personal subjects and then sharing a bed that night (zero funny business).\n\nThis is the worst thing I've ***ever*** thought I'd say but I almost feel like I'm dating the wrong person. I feel disgusted with my own thoughts of leaving my girlfriend to jump ship to someone else. I am at a loss and it's eating me away inside.", "summary": "I'm 9 months into a relationship where I feel neglected, but it could just be my brain telling me to date my close friend instead. Thanks for reading."}
{"id": "t3_3hkb7a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] trying to get my over my \"ex\" [31F] of 1yr+ but we work together.", "post": "I work as a cook and her a server at a restaurant so professional interaction is necessary. My issue is that we still want to be friends but time and space are needed (Not going to lie I researched how well exes can be friends and that's something everyone stressed). \n\nWe never got serious with our relationship because we knew we weren't really right for each other in the long run I guess. She's divorced but her ex-husband has the kids and can no longer have kids herself. I'm still free to do whatever the hell I want basically. At first we just fooled around a few times but we fell out of that for awhile (a few months). One day I realized I had feelings for her and we decided to be exclusive but not a true couple. So this went on for a year plus. We never let ourselves get too emotionally committed because it would have to end. I wondered to myself if I could spend the rest of my life with someone like this with those issues but I don't feel ready to consider that. Anyway it ended.\n\nWe still feel close as friends though. Very close. Actually after we broke up I felt better about being completely honest with her in talking and vice versa but it also felt like I was dredging up new/old feelings. I think I engaged with her on that level too soon perhaps.\n\nSo tonight I told her I needed time to separate my romantic feelings from my platonic ones and rebuild myself and if we are to be friends for real this has to happen. So no more contact outside of work unless it's an emergency.\n\nI think I can do this but I see her at least five days a week. Any tips on that or other suggestions as I cope with all this? I really want to get over my romantic feelings and just be friends again exclusively. It's not easy finding people you click with without reservation and she's been that person for me.", "summary": "Trying to provide space and time to help get over my feelings for my ex so we can be friends again properly but we work together five days a week. Any tips on dealing with working with her and just working through what feelings are romantic and which ones are platonic would help."}
{"id": "t3_15ne1a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do you deal with interactions with people far less educated than yourself?", "post": "Allow me to clarify in the least-douchey way possible:  \nI'm the first person in my family to go to college and I'm pretty smart. All of my life I've been really good at smiling and nodding when someone sounds like an idiot because it's really none of my business to go around correcting people, that's a dick move. For some reason, though, it's been getting harder and harder to let people continue speaking without trying to correct them. For example, today my grandma was trying to convince me that eating one mushroom and half an onion each day would completely stop any cancer growth. (She saw it on some TV \"doctor\" show.) On Christmas I found out that people still exist that don't believe we ever landed on the moon.  \n  \nIt makes me feel like a terrible elitist asshole to correct grandma by saying, \"You know that isn't really proven? There's been no peer reviewed studies supporting it... Don't trust the TV 'doctors' please.\" How do you handle situations like this? Is it more polite to let my ignorant relatives continue to be ignorant?", "summary": "I'm uncomfortable correcting uneducated relatives when they sound like lunatics, but also uncomfortable with them sounding like lunatics. What would Reddit do?"}
{"id": "t3_yqxm5", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "That strange feeling that I'm fucked either way", "post": "It all started when my best friend died from cancer. (I will just call him Steve)\n\nSteve's death touched many people. One of which was a girl, (I will call her Laura)\n\nIn lack of Steve's presence, she became instantly attached to his older brother (I will call him Jason), who I was also great friends with.\n\nOne day we all hung out (Jason, Laura and I). It wasn't long until I noticed that Jason was leading this girl on. Using her for sex, but wouldn't make the commitment for proper relationship.\n\nIt was then that she started texting me about her problems. She confided in me, telling me everything. She said she would cry sometimes. I felt horrible. I couldn't let this happen. I started talking to her. No worries, it was no anti-Jason campaign, I primarily just listened, but the odd time I'd give her advice. (Once again, nothing too sleezy)\n\nAnd then just me and her started hanging out, (was her idea), she would bring presents like home-made cookies, and we would just watch movies and play games and smoke weed until we would fall asleep.\n\nAnd out of no where it was Steve's birthday. It had been 3.5 months since he died.\n\nShe knows how much I loved him (brotherly like love), so on his birthday, she came over to my house unexpected with something that brought me to instant tears.\n\nShe had brought over Steve's favorite pipe (who she had borrowed from Steve's mother). We smoked that whole day away, in remembrance of Steve.\n\nIt may not seem like much, but this was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me. And now I feel horrible.\n\nI now love this girl. She keeps me awake at night, thinking about her. Yet, shes stuck in an abusive relationship with a friend who's friendship is important to me.\n\nIs it worth the risk?", "summary": "My best friend dies from cancer. A girl gets clingy on his older brother, who abuses her (psychologically). Me and the older brother are still great friends, so we all hang out a lot. She confides in me, we start hanging. She does the nicest thing anyone's ever done for me. I fall in lurve."}
{"id": "t3_u5opb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone enlighten me concerning SRS?", "post": "I've been browsing SRS and the related links for a few weeks now. I am not so good at picking up on social innuendos or organized forms of satire and, for some reason, this subject really bothers me. \n\nI request that someone explain to me what exactly the community of SRS is all about. My first inclination, based on the general population of reddit, is that SRS is some form of meta-satire generated by the people who are subject to SRS's critiques. If this is the case, then all is well... I guess?\n\nThe alternative, however, would be that SRS is an alienated community of activists that try to pick out certain social trends on this forum that contribute to the perpetuation of negative social values that, I assume, they want to remedy. \n\nPeople with qualifications tell me that I have a developmental disorder known as Aspergers. This may be the reason for both my interest in this subject as well as my inability to understand the nuances of what is going on. My worry is mainly that SRS is, in fact, a community genuinely devoted to their cause and are sincere in their efforts to rehabilitate the gender bias or whatever you want to call it.\n\nIt is my suspicion, as it is so often, that I have been the fool and that this is some form of conceptual critique about the possible reactions to the voice of such a narrow demographic consisting of, mostly male, reddit users.\n\nThis is causing a significant amount of discomfort for me and I would appreciate if someone could provide some insight into what exactly SRS is composed of.", "summary": "I don't know what to make of SRS."}
{"id": "t3_3o6wmg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being racist", "post": "Obligatory not today but a really long time ago (13-14 years)\nNot my fuck up I guess? But my friends don't know reddit so I'm posting it for them\nKeeping it simple, in the library in school, the whitest kid in class is discussing a book with the blackest kid in class, and for some reason they were very quiet, so that naturally reminded me of a silent movie, and I go up to them and say this \n\"It's like a black and white movie\" and it takes me about 3 seconds to realize why the white one was dying of laughter while the teacher was dying of embarrassment, exchanged an awkward laugh with them, and left in shame", "summary": "black kid with white kid being quiet, described them as a black and white movie with the teacher watching"}
{"id": "t3_2u5nhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21f) fI (21f) found a friends (20f) boyfriend(20m) on Tinder", "post": "Edit: I told her. She said he does this a lot when things get kind of rough at home. But she didn't know that he had made a tinder. \n\nSo I (21f) am kind of friends with this girl (20f) for about three years. I haven't talked to or seen her in several months, and we were never close.\n\nHowever, I was on Tinder and found her (20m) boyfriend on it. They just had a baby together and have been dating for two or three years.  I know people use tinder for a variety of things, but he chose not to use any pictures with his girlfriend or baby.\n\nSo do I tell her? I took a screenshot. But I don't know if it is my place.", "summary": "found a friend's boyfriend on tinder. Do I do anything?"}
{"id": "t3_jqsjn", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "When to follow-up after references requested?", "post": "Last Monday I had an interview and I thought it went well. During the interview they let me know they would be making a decision by Friday.  On Thursday they contacted me to request my references, which I emailed over to them immediately and I consider that to be a step in the right direction.\n\nNow that it is the following Monday (today) I still have not heard their final decision. I was thinking if they're playing phone tag with my references it may take a little longer but I want them to know I'm still very interested. When do I follow up?", "summary": "When to follow-up after references are requested?"}
{"id": "t3_3y5cg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19m] need help with someone bugging my 23[f] girlfriend", "post": "we've been together for 6 months, things have been nice. ups and downs, but it's great. we spend a lot of time together, treat each other right, but i'm new to this and i need some help.\n\nwe broke up for about 8 days, and in that time she gave a guy her phone number over the internet. she swears that they've never met or hungout, but he started calling her and talking to her a lot, and even lied about emergencies to get her to answer his calls. he's been bugging her from what i understand. \n\nfast forward to now when we're back together, 2 nights ago she sent him a very long message telling him to leave her alone and he started trying to talk to her again.\n\nshould i be mad? my instinct is to get his number and call him and settle this. she is upset because she thinks im raging, but she blocked his number today and i want to call and let him know he doesnt need to talk to her anymore, she doesnt want him to.\n\nplease help, i dont want to sabotage this relationship by reacting wrong, what would you guys do? she just blocked his number and said we'll see where it goes from here.", "summary": "stranger from facebook keeps calling and texting my girlfriend when she has told him to stop. she just blocked his number, i'm stressed on how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_1ef8oh", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[20/F] is there a chance or should I just move on from the ex [22/M]?", "post": "We have been together for a little over four years, and we consider each other very close, so this breakup is hard for me, especially because this is my first break-up. I have gotten to know his friends, family, and we are and have been a part of each other's life for a while now. We have decided to stay friends for now, but even that is tough. I asked him if there is a chance, and he says there is, and we would 'most likely' get back together.\n\nThe reason for the break-up was that I was stuck in my ways, I did not show him that I could change and get over my jealousy (of his accomplishments, not like flirting with other women) and fixing my own problems instead of having him fix them for me. I was unaware of how much I had worn him down by my ranting and such.\n\nAt the moment, he doesn't believe that I can change, but if/when I show him that I can change and can be happy, he says he will reconsider (and once again, 'most likely' getting back together). Since he will be out of town for a while this summer, I have decided to utilize the time to try and figure out myself and obtain happiness and possibly trying again when he comes back. I have told him this, too, and he is aware that I still have feelings for him and would like to try again.", "summary": "? stubborn and i won't change my ways, after four years of dating and being close to my ex, i'm wondering if there is a chance or being back together."}
{"id": "t3_2ou515", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my GF [22F] of 2 years, aren't sharing intimacy anymore.", "post": "So I had a discussion with my girlfriend today about our lack of sex. We went from at least once every one or two days (after our honeymoon period) to now having sex MAYBE once a fortnight. When we do it feels like a laborious effort for her and she will often try to postpone it with other activities: \"Can we please do this first, I need this done, lets do this instead\". I have tried giving her massages and light tickles (it relaxes her greatly) and all sorts of things to calm her and get her into a suitable mood.\n\nNothing is working, she told me today that she finds me mentally attractive and I asked if I was physically attractive, her response was that it doesn't matter. \n\nWe are arguing a lot. I feel like I am seeing her differently, I used to love doing things for her and doing every little thing I could do, but now we don't do anything for each other. I still do these things for her, but I feel as though she doesn't care and therefore I should not bother as much.\n\nI think I know what I want to do but it felt really comforting to know I could come here. I don't want to ask what I should do! I feel that is not right somehow.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1symhi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23m] feeling guilty about being upset about girlfriend's [24] past", "post": "I've been dating this girl now for about 9 months, and it has been going great. She's the first girl I've been with that I am completely happy with, and we have an amazing amount in common.\n\nHowever, I'm slowly finding out about her past, and I am letting it get to me. We make it a point to never talk about past relationships/flings, because it is not important, only the future is. I knew she had had a few boyfriends in the past, but never heard anything else. A couple months after we started dating, I kept hearing from mutual friends about her \"crazy\" past, and how wild she used to be. I never wanted to hear more, so I just tuned it out and didn't worry about it.\n\nThe other day I was at a large house party, and she was visiting some family before she got there, so she wasn't present yet and I didn't know very many people. I was in the kitchen and two guys were talking about her, and I made the foolish decision to hang around and listen (they didn't know I was dating her). Apparently she was like the one night stand queen, and had slept with a bunch of guys the past few years. Eventually another girl came up and joined in and said something along the lines of \"yeah, I've heard she's been with over 50 guys!\". Thats when I finally realized I didn't want to hear any more and got out of the room.\n\nI know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it really is :( \nI think part of it is that I'm not one for casual sex, and have only been with girlfriends in the past. I view sex as a very emotional thing, and it makes me think that she doesn't by hearing things like this. I know it is so foolish to think about this too much, because we really are perfect together, and she has never given me a reason not to trust her.\n\nWhat can I do to not worry about this? I feel really bad for letting it get to me, and I want to make sure I don't ruin things by being distant and distraught about it.\nThanks everyone!", "summary": "Found out that girlfriend has been with over 50 guys, and had a wild past. I'm letting it get to me even though I know I shouldn't"}
{"id": "t3_26hfcp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting in my Ex-GF's bidet", "post": "So, back in 2010 I lived In Shanghai, China, and while I was there, I've made a bunch of friends, and a girlfriend, as well. \n\nWe had been dating for around two months when she invited me to meet her family, with a traditional dinner. I really loved her, and I was so excited, that after eating, my stomach groaned.\n\nOh shit.\n\nI asked her father politely if I could use the bathroom. I hurried myself there, and because I was so excited about being there, I accidentally confused the toilet with the bidet.\n\nAbout three minutes after taking the shit, I realized I had shit in the bidet.\n\nOh shit.\n\nMy heart stopped as they asked me if I was alright. \"Sure\" I said, knowing some kind of ninja would kill me if they found the shit. Suddently, my brain had an idea: Get out through the window.\n\nSo, after falling out of the window(thanks god it was a house), I ran away to my house. From there, I went to Shanghai's airport and bought a ticket to Macau, where my friend resides.\n\nAfter a week, I called her and appologized. She was O.K. with it, and we kept dating until 2012, when we stopped.", "summary": "Went to my GF's house, shitted in the bidet and fleed to Macau so her family wouldn't kill me ;)"}
{"id": "t3_4a8h7t", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [22/m] date a girl [21/f] that's about to graduate?", "post": "So there's a girl that I've been talking to for a few months. I wasn't really sure if she liked me until we were on a 2 hr car ride from my house to our university. We were both passengers in the back, and when she \"fell asleep\" her hand just so happened to be clutching my arm, and her other hand just so happened to slip into mine for the last 30 minutes of the ride.\n\nI like this girl, a lot. She's pretty much everything I would want in a girl: smart, pretty, loves video games, loves nature, but most importantly to me, Seventh-Day Adventist.\n\nThe only problem is that she's about to graduate, and I still have another year left. I know that after I graduate, it will be a lot harder to find SDA girls, and since I really like this one, should I do long distance? I know she's planning on visiting like once a month, but I feel like I should ask her out now so I can have as much time with her before she graduates. Thanks for your time.", "summary": "I don't know if I should do a long-distance relationship with a girl who's about to graduate."}
{"id": "t3_3dqnrd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M] How do I confront my lying girlfriend [23/F]? Please help", "post": "So I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months now.  We see each other every day; we work together, and she stays at my apartment almost every night.  Anyway last night around midnight she made up some excuse that she had to leave and go home to do something.  I asked why she couldn't do it in the morning before work, and she just said she had to go home tonight.  She lives about 6-7 min away from me and about 10 min after she left she texted me she was home and sorry she had to leave.  Not to get into too much detail, but we've talked about our pasts and she has told me some things to make me be distrusting of her.  Anyway about 20-30 min after she texted me she was home, I drove over to her house and she was not there.  I got up early this morning and went back over there and she was still not there.  I went to get some breakfast, and she then texted me good morning so I assumed she had gotten home from wherever she was.  I drove back over there one more time and she still wasn't there.  As I left her neighborhood and got back on to the main road I saw her driving, but she didn't see me.  I went down the road and turned around, then drove slowly down her road and she was home.\n\nI'm not sure what to do now.  Should I confront her today and tell her I know she was lying about where she was last night?  She's going to work soon, and I will be there in the afternoon.  I don't know if I can act like everything is ok at work.   I'm not sure what I should do now.  Thanks for reading and any advice you can give, I'm really struggling right now.", "summary": "Girlfriend lied about where she was last night, and doesn't realize that I know she lied."}
{"id": "t3_jjtsj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My ex-girlfriend is driving me crazy, what do I do?!", "post": "Okay, so I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago because she is psychotic and I didn't need that shit. It wasn't a very good relationship and I was dumb for going into it in the first place. After we broke up, she continued to contact me via Facebook and phone, baiting me by saying we could be friends and all this other rainbows and butterflies crap. She then would turn around and say things she knew would seriously offend me. I finally got sick of it and blocked her on Facebook and blocked her number through Verizon.\n\nNow here's where it get's weird. **She keeps calling me from different numbers.** It doesn't happen all that often, but when it does, it's either from a number I don't recognize or from someone I know from school. She keeps begging me to talk to her and she keeps reminding me that she isn't crazy (lol). Regardless, this shit is irritating and I don't want to keep in contact with someone who is forcibly interacting with me when I clearly don't want to. \n\nI thought I had made myself clear, but this shit keeps happening. What should I do?!", "summary": "Stuck my dick in crazy, crazy keeps calling me, do not want."}
{"id": "t3_zmrue", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are three more majors and three more minors unreasonable at my age?", "post": "I'm 27, I have a BS in philosophy and a minor in psych. I've gone back to school for Ms/bs combined civil engineering. However, now that I'm back I want to keep collecting degrees. I've put it into my head that I'd like to get degrees in civil engineering, chemistry and math with minors in architectural design, nuclear engineering and astronomy. I figure I could be done with it all by 30 or 31, but then I'm not entering the workforce or further grad school until 32, and not done with grad school or have relevant work experience until 35. There is also the matter of paying for it all..... Any redditors out there get a bunch of degrees that has something to say, positive or negative about the consequences of your choices.", "summary": "If you went to school for untraditional amount of time or into an untraditional age, I would like to hear your story and what you'd have done differently."}
{"id": "t3_3hgctu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] just got told by my psychologist I have a very hard time with empathy, how do I show the right level of concern for others?", "post": "In a lot of casual conversations I find myself lost and unable to relate to friends or family members in the same way that they relate to me. I have had really bad social anxiety before hand because of this, but I couldn't pin down the reason why I am so awkward until recently. Apparently there's two areas in my breain which my psychologist suspects do not function at a high enough level for me to \"get\" what emotion people are feeling based on their facial expressions. The way it was described to me is that people apparently feel what others feel when someone cries or is smiling, and then respond accordingly, but that doesn't happen for me. I literally have no idea unless someone tells me how they are feeling. If this sounds vaguely autistic its because a similar test is done for people on the autistic spectrum but they score much higher then I do.\n\nSo that's the gist of whats wrong with me, and it made me really sad that I wasn't able to connect meaningfully with the people I love and care about in the same way that they can with me, but I'm done feeling sorry for myself. I want to get better, and i've been told by my psychologist the best way to do that is to figure out  what other humans do in social situations and mimic that. So that's what I am to do. What do people expect me to say or do with my face when they are sad? When they are happy? Are there books or resources that I can read to learn what other people do?\n\nWays that I have tried to cope with this throughout my life include subscribing pretty heavily to Utilitarian views on what is right to get me through things. I understand logic pretty well, so I use that as a crutch to get me through situations where I can't get at what other people are feeling. There are some situations where it would make sense to be altruistic and in these instances I do it because its more beneficial to everyone, and it helps me pass as normal because I honestly don't otherwise have that impulse", "summary": "I can't empathize well with others, but I would like to know how to pass. I do genuinely care about people, but I don't understand the vast majority of things people are feeling. Any advice on what you do or appreciate others doing for you when you are feeling something (literally anything) would be appreciated"}
{"id": "t3_41zw9v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Account showed up in collections? Advice please!", "post": "So to make a long story short I made a myriad of financial mistakes when I was younger and instead of fixing my problems I hid from them and wallowed in depression. Over the course of the past 3 years I have fixed almost all of these mistakes and taken care of my depression through therapy and am trying to get on track to have a healthy and successful financial future. \n\nSo about a month ago I get an alert from Credit Karma of a new debt reporting on my credit and my score (which isn't great to begin with) takes a huge hit. I immediately go about checking my credit report. I see a new account labeled as being in collections for about 6k. I freak out for a little and then calm down and begin to investigate. \n\nSo it's seems that this account is collections for a private loan I took out when I was in college. Now, I did not realize I had taken out a private loan, all my other loans were through the federal government, but I was drunk a lot at that time in life as a depressed 22 year old and it's fully possible I went with a private lender to cover some of my school expenses. I look further at this account. It was already on my credit report as a delinquent account from Education Finance Partners. I looked them up and all I could find was that they apparently filed Chapter 7 at some point in the 2000s. This new collection account seems to be that same loan. However, the old loan was reported delinquent in 2008. It's been over 7 years. How can this new company report me as delinquent as of 2015? Any advice on what to do about this?", "summary": "Old loan last reported in 2008 is showing up as a fresh collection account with a new agency. Are they re-aging the account? Is this legal?"}
{"id": "t3_3g65a3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "19M wondering how to break up with my with my 20F girlfriend. 7 months total, 2 months long distance", "post": "I know that it's time my girlfriend and I break up. I can't give her the attention/emotion she deserves or wants and I feel like I'm wasting her time by being with her. I really like her, and breaking up with her is going to break me and I know that but I really honestly and truly believe we need to break up. \n\nI digress, we both go to the same college together but our home towns are 3.5 hours apart. She was planning on driving up to visit me for a week on Sunday and I was going to break up with her while she was visiting. \n\nI didn't choose this to be cruel. I thought that she would rather hear it in person than over the telephone. When I told my mom my plans she was infuriated with me because it was \"cold\" of me to have her drive all this way to be broken up with and then have to drive home sad and alone. \n\nShould I call her and do it tomorrow or wait for her to visit?", "summary": "Long-distance relationship and I want to break up. She's visiting on Sunday. Should I break up tomorrow via phone or let her come visit so I can do it in person?"}
{"id": "t3_2wbqnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [28F] keeps texting me [22M] after I broke it off 2 days ago.", "post": "So, I broke things off with my now ex-gf. We were in a relationship for 3 years and I broke it off due to differences (she wanted kids right away, I didn't.) and couldn't handle the stress everyone (my ex, her parents, even my parents) put on me.\n\nAnyway, it's been 2 days now and my ex messages me every morning and evening say good morning/evening, etc. She's clearly not over me and I'm not sure what to say to her.\n\nSee, when I broke it off, I did not feel bad about breaking it off. I did feel bad about hurting her, so it was difficult to do. But now that she keeps texting me, it doesn't make either of us feel any better.\n\nWhat should I say to her wrt what she is doing? I don't want to hurt her more as she's already quite fragile, but I've also heard the best way to get over someone is to have minimal contact with her. Do I just ignore her texts? Or do I go in and say something along the lines of \"You need to stop\" to her?", "summary": "After breakup, ex-gf keeps texting me and I don't know what I should say to her."}
{"id": "t3_4d4282", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27) sister (21) has been escorting", "post": "My sister and I found out last night that our baby sister has been escorting for the past 6 months. We google searched her phone number and a bunch of ads with pictures came up. \n\nWe confronted her about it and she said she would continue doing it. She's still living with our mum, mooching of her and living on government unemployment. She smokes a lot of weed and has depression, probably caused by smoking that much weed! It just seems like the laziest way possible to make money. Mostly though we're concerned about her safety!! Anything could happen to her. She said she's worked in brothels mostly but doesn't like that anymore and so has started posting personal ads and free lancing. She seemed to have no regard for her safety. She said that she's slept with over 300 men and that she might as well get paid for it. Knowing my sister and what her self-esteem is like, this just screams that she has no self-worth and is looking for validation in all the wrong places. \n\nHow do I continue to have an open relationship with her while she's doing this? The last thing I want is for her to get more sneaky about it and tell us she's not doing it anymore. Should we tell our parents?", "summary": "sister is escorting and need advice"}
{"id": "t3_4sd9lo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "18F in a non exclusive relationship with a 20M who's accusing me of cheating", "post": "So a few months ago I started seeing this guy (20).  Things were going really well and we were both on the same page about not wanting a serious relationship at this point in our lives.  We care deeply about each other and (until now) were very open with each other about what we wanted.  We agreed that if we wanted to kiss/hookup with other people, we would tell each other that it happened (no sneaking around, stuff like that). \n\nLast night I stayed at a close guy friend's (19) apartment for the night and he kissed me.  I told him that I just wanted to be friends and we slept in the same bed and everything's back to normal between us.\n\nI told my non exclusive boyfriend about what happened and he flipped out. Long story short, he said I cheated on him like his last girlfriend and that I completely disregarded his feelings.  As of right now he's not talking to me.\n\nI love this guy and want the relationship to work, but I don't know how when he's not being honest about what he wants.  I also want to keep hanging out with my guy friend (we've been friends for years) but I think it would upset my boyfriend.  At this point any advice would help.", "summary": "my non exclusive boyfriend thinks I cheated on him with my close friend."}
{"id": "t3_19dlfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Was that a Freudian slip?? 25m/37f", "post": "This morning while laying in bed with my boyfriend [25m] of 4 1/2 months he thanked me for coming over and said \"it's always nice to sleep with somebody.\" Quickly adding \"you\" to the statement. Uh, SOMEBODY?! Was that a Freudian slip?? This is my fear...he works with a lot of younger girls and 2 months ago he was caught talking online with a 23f as if he was single, yet he says all the time how they're all kids and \"fell hard\" for me. We are actually about to move into a house together! I love him SO much! He's an amazing, intelligent, respectful, supportive, loving, extremely mature man. I am just nervous sometimes bcz I [37f] don't appear my age and am not good with dating. Now i have a 1 year old baby too; which my boyfriend is such a good role model for in every way! Am I over reacting or was it a Freudian slip and there could be trouble ahead?", "summary": "We're moving in together, I have a baby, I'm still nervous and reading into things...or is there more?"}
{"id": "t3_39xel0", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Currently abroad in a country that is not covered by T-Mobile's unlimited roaming data plan. I turned off my roaming and cellular (in that order), but my iPhone 5 is still showing that I used roaming data. How can I dispute this?", "post": "For more context: I have been in Serbia for 16 days so far and recently realized that this country is not covered by T-Mobile's Simple Choice International Plan. T-Mobile's roaming charges are $15/MB. I had never reset my iPhone's data usage since getting it in December, and when I last checked 3 days ago I had 2.15GB logged. However, even with my cellular data on, my phone failed to connect to the internet, so after a few days I just gave up trying and haven't used it since.\n\nFast forward to today (3 days after turning off my data and only using WiFi) and suddenly my iPhone is showing 432MB of roaming data used. I did not reset my usage since the 2.15GB, and it even shows on my phone \"Last Reset: Never\".\n\nSeeing that this would incur a huge charge, and that roaming charges do not show on the bill for 30 days, how would I go about disputing this? I'm 21, still in college, and neither myself nor my parents can afford thousands of dollars in roaming that I didn't even use.\n\nIf relevant: I live in California but am currently in Belgrade, Serbia until August.", "summary": "potentially facing thousands of dollars in roaming I did not use. How can I dispute this to T-Mobile?"}
{"id": "t3_3vko5b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my BF[21M] of 4 years , should I feel guilty for talking to another guy at a party ?", "post": "hey Reddit,\n\nSo I had my work Christmas party last night. Now usually I'm the quiet girl at work and don't really have any close friends or anything like that. I ended up drinking way too much which is my own fault and I'm facing the consequences.\n\nI don't remember everything but I remember sitting at one of the tables with this guy who I hadn't really seen in the office before. But we were talking for maybe 15 mins maybe longer but from what I remember it was nothing bad just friendly conversation, joking about and stuff. As I was talking to him I looked over at a group of people and they winked at me making gestures. I was a bit confused why since we were just talking. \n\nI was drunk at this point but I kind of remember the conversation but apparently he was trying to talk to me quite a bit. He also made some pervy comments behind my back which someone told me about. I know I didn't cheat or anything like that and I've double checked with someone at the party just to be Sure. But I didn't see it as anything but just being friendly and I feel like he took it as flirty and me liking him. I've told my BF about the situation and he's fine and says that men and women are aloud to talk and I'm sure if I was coming across flirty I didn't mean to.\n \n\nI'm just paranoid and I feel really bad because I would never want to be known as a 'cheat' or anything like that. The people at the party making comments towards us know I have a boyfriend. But I feel so bad because I don't know what I was exactly saying to this guy but it seemed like he had alterior motives which I wasn't aware of because I was so drunk. Is it bad of me to have spoken to this guy for so long ? And should I feel guilty if I came across flirty or overly friendly ?", "summary": "should I feel bad for talking to another guy at a party for so long?"}
{"id": "t3_54x2jp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my favorite bar/restaurant - I made a mess in the bathroom.", "post": "This is dumb, and it might not be the best place for this question but I want to know how to handle this. I would like to make this situation right with the restaurant staff and I just feel awful. \n\nI went out to a bar last night with my husband and had a few drinks and skipped dinner (read as: I got too drunk). Before we left I went to use the restroom but the lights were off and I couldn't find the toilet so I peed in what I think was the garbage. D: \n\nI did not remember this until this morning when my husband mentioned I spent a long time in the bathroom. I can't tell him what I did, I am too embarrassed. \n\nAhhhh! I'm so mortified! They probably know it was me because we were the last ones to leave. Should I mail them an apology and cash, and never ever return?", "summary": "Drunk me peed in a garbage can at a restaurant/bar! I want to apologize but I don't want them to know it was me!"}
{"id": "t3_1qv19e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21F) am really worried about my roommate, who has OCD (19M)", "post": "Hi guys, I'm a huge fan of this subreddit and I'm hoping you'll have some advice.\n\nI (21F) currently live with my boyfriend (21M), his brother (19M), and a mutual friend (25M). \n\nMy boyfriend's brother (R) and I are pretty close. We're very similar and have kind of bonded over all kinds of things. I'm also very tight with the rest of my boyfriend's family. We have been dating for over four years.\n\nBefore R moved in with us, my boyfriend and I were concerned that his OCD was flaring up again. He has had OCD since he was 11 or so, and has gone through periods of doing really well, and doing really poorly. We both talked to him about it and said that we weren't sure that he was ready to move out and encouraged him to get professional help to ease the transition from living with his parents to living on his own.\n\nWell, he didn't do anything, and now I think he's getting worse. He washes his hands multiple times an hour, and he completely freaks out if we touch of any of his things. He has an aversion to my boyfriend's computer, that he has now gotten rid of, and now he's refusing to touch anything that might have touched the computer. \n\nHe is extremely childlike and is constantly asking us for reassurance about EVERY LITTLE THING. I am starting to lose my cool, to be honest. It's extremely exhausting and I don't know how to deal with it anymore. I don't know if I'm enabling his OCD or exacerbating it with every little action, and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells all the time. I don't know what to do to help him. I'd really appreciate any advice. \n\nHe will NOT seek professional help. We're working on that. Specifically, I'm looking for things that my boyfriend and I should or can do to help him out. I don't want to enable his behaviours but I don't want to upset him or make things worse, either.", "summary": "Roommate has OCD, we're worried about him but exhausted of dealing with it. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_1pdcf3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my SO [20F] for just over 2 years. Just found out tonight that she cheated with me.", "post": "Hey guys/girls.\n\nJust found out tonight that my girlfriend cheated on me.  She went to a party earlier, and as usual I told her, have a good night, I love you, and she said the same back.  So I let her do her thing, and have a good time.  She messaged me about 2 hours ago saying that she needed to talk etc.\n\nShe then proceeded to tell me that she had got blackout drunk, and her friends had to tell her she slept with another guy.  She went on to say about how sorry she was, and that she doesn't remember it etc, and that she doesn't want to lose me and all that. \n\nI really do know that she is truly sorry for what she did, and I know it meant nothing to her, but I can't even round up how I feel in words, even typing this is just hurting me.  I want to forgive her, because I love her more than life itself, but I don't know how I can even go about doing it, do I forget it happened, do I just try and forgive and give it time, or do I cut all ties? I really am in dire need of help from someone.", "summary": "Should I give my girlfriend another chance after cheating?"}
{"id": "t3_4eer5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20M] not sure how to feel about second serious relationship", "post": "Title explains it well enough. I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago, I'm over her, and very much in love with my current girlfriend. After my ex I went on a bit of a spree, seeing a couple of girls, none of which I developed feelings for, although they did for me. I did \"try\" to see if I just wasn't realizing that I had feelings for them, but honestly there was no chemistry. I enjoyed that for a while because I was enjoying someone's company (hanging out, having sex) without the fear or going through the pain I did prior in my first relationship. I know now that the spree was a bit childish, and I regret continuing with those girls although I didn't feel anything, but I've definitely grown, and it's brought me to a relationship where I'm feeling feelings I've never felt - I'm so relieved I actually am feeling these things again, and in even greater magnitude. \n\nMy issue is this; my first relationship, I wasn't scared of living through the end of it because I didn't know what heartbreak was, I had no context and thus no fear of an end. Currently, I'm so very much in love, I have a consistent fear of reliving the pain that I did in the past when my last relationship ended, and even more so because given how in love I am currently, I'm afraid the sadness of the heartbreak will also be greater in magnitude as well.\n\nIs this normal? I know i'm being too much of a pessimist, I really don't think this relationship is going to end anytime soon, but I too frequently think in worst case scenario", "summary": "how do I get rid of this fear of this eventual impending doom when the impending doom is honestly no where in sight?"}
{"id": "t3_47e93a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my short lived fling [25 F], does \"maybe in the future\" ever really work out?", "post": "I'll try to be brief. \n\nI met a girl. We got to know each other a bit. We dated intensely for a week. I was falling HARD, and way too fast... it felt disproportionate to how well we knew each other. I just felt this connection. Then we had a somewhat serious conversation wherein it was determined that I was not ready for anything - dating or a relationship - because of baggage from a previous (terrible) breakup/4.5 year relationship. She felt at this point I would bring drama into her life. I honestly change my mind all the time about what I want and am still dealing with shit personally. I'm not in a good place to be with someone.\n\nBasically I over reacted after this conversation, sent her a lot of emotional text messages... We talked again and she was all like \"I'm not rejecting you, just where you are in life\", there were tears. I feel rejected still. She greatly imply/outright said that we could happen in the future when I'm more ready to date. It seemed sincere. She wants to be friends but I've determined that I just can't do that and have asked for us to not be in contact for a bit.\n\nBUT:\n\nMy question is... was she just being nice (if misguided)? Does this ever really happen or is it just wishful thinking? Either way I'm going to try to just get over it/her and focus on myself. However, part of me - because of this great connection - doesn't want to kill all hope. At the same time I think holding onto that hope even a little bit might impede my personal growth.", "summary": "If - due to bad timing or whatever - someone says they think it might work out in the future, do they mean it? Is it just wishful thinking? Does it ever work out in the future?"}
{"id": "t3_y4krk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am very scared to tell someone that I like that I am religious, How do I approach it? How do you approach your differences?", "post": "I go to school for Microbiology paired with Biophysics, many of my classmates are either atheist or agnostic so I call myself agnostic for the sake of avoiding an argument. I wasn't really expecting to enjoy a persons company, but I do and now I'm stuck in between a rock and a hard place. He invited me to join the Atheist for Science (not the real name but let me keep the anonymity) group in school and now I have no idea how I should tell him that I am.... religious.\n\nNormally I wouldn't have a problem with it, but there are other things involved such as my race, I am Afro-Caribbean and he's Asian so his parents.....hate me. Totally racist. So I am scared that if I bring on this bombshell he'll stop talking to me and our very flirty Star Craft Two moments will end. \n\nReddit how should I approach it? How do you all approach it? \nIf curious I could also post my reasons for being religious in the comments.  Thanks in advanced.", "summary": "He's Atheist I'm not, He's Asian and I'm Black. He doesn't know I'm religious. "}
{"id": "t3_te8rc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I find that I am irrationally irritated by some things younger generations find to be nostalgic. What popular thing that is now nostalgia to a generation after yours do you find irritating/unrelatable?", "post": "Pokemon. I know reddit loves it and I am guessing that is because most of reddit is early to mid 20 something. I was in my 20s when Pokemon became popular but I never really saw it as something huge cause it didn't really impact me as greatly because of my age. Seeing the resurgence was truly strange for me at first cause it didn't seem that long ago. 12 years ago or so? But that is huge for those who were 6-12 at the time and are now 18-24. I'm trying to think of something I was into at that age that was huge that the generation before me would have found annoying when it resurged due to nostalgia, as it has to happen to each generation. \n\nLet me know redditors. I'm particularly curious about those in their mid 40s.. what nostalgia of the following generation (mine) is irritating/unrelatable?", "summary": "I find the popularity and nostalgia of Pokemon annoying because I can't relate as it didn't impact my generation as much as the one after me. I find this interesting and am curious about what generations before me think of nostalgia of my own."}
{"id": "t3_lftnl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the oddest thing you have ever found in a public place? I'll start.", "post": "About a year ago I was in a local Shell gas station with my mom. Upon entering the bathroom I saw a suitcase stuffed into the trashcan. Curiosity strikes and I take the suitcase from the I find nothing, but a single flash drive. At this point I felt like James fucking Bond, or someone that has stumbled upon a secret treasure. I take the flash drive with me and pop it into the ol' laptop. I open it only to find a spread sheet of a local bar's monthly revenue along with other files like their employees names, addresses and other personal information of employees. I call the local bar and tell them what happened. They hand the phone to a manager and I eventually end up talking to the GM and he explains that someone had broken in the previous night and had stolen the suitcase which originally held several other documents along with the flash drive. Because the bar was just a short bike ride I rode down there and returned the drive. They thanked me and I went on my way. So Reddit what's the strangest thing you've found in a public place.", "summary": "I found a flash drive in a suitcase in a public bathroom. Someone had stolen it and I returned it back to the bar that it belonged to."}
{"id": "t3_4gw1w0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(22M) Fights with my gf (24F) of a year are hell. Is this worth it?", "post": "I've been dating this girl about a year now, and we have a ton in common and usually get along great.  We said we love each other fairly early on and she spends pretty much every night at my place.\n\nBut our fights are awful and I feel like I'm the only one who honestly tries to change.\n\nIt usually begins with her flipping out about something small, like not texting her back soon enough, or a little joke that she didn't like.  Then I try to defend myself and it spirals out from there.\n\nWe don't call names or hit each other or anything like that, but she usually ends up yelling at me (admittedly, sometimes I yell back), and just talking us in circles.  I usually feel awful because she ends up crying, and then I apologize.\n\nAfter the fights, she'll pretty much refuse to talk to me for a day or two, and if she does it's in one word sentences and never smiles or laughs or acts like she's anything other than miserable.\n\nAny apologies I do get are usually yelled at me or said with the most sarcastic tone possible.  (\"I'm sorry I'm such a bitch\" is bordering on platinum status now.)\n\nWhen I try to talk to her about how she fights, she always says I'm blaming everything on her, or I'm trying to tell her how to feel and it spirals into another huge fight.\n\nAnyone else have a SO that turns super mean, petty when they fight?  Is this just a tradeoff I should learn to deal with and be glad I found someone I love when they're happy?", "summary": "Gf is really mean, uncompromising when we fight.  Not sure if I should just put up with it or not."}
{"id": "t3_2scpf8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18/F] sitting here watching an emotional video about bullying and my [21/M] boyfriend is laughing his ass off to \"celebrity mean tweets\", somethings wrong here.", "post": "I've always sort of gotten the feeling that my boyfriend wasn't the nicest person in his youth. (He jokingly agrees when I comment about one of his old habits being \"bullying\".) \n\nI started watching a long story-video about bullying on facebook, and I was truly moved by it. He kept trying to interrupt me during it to tell me about \"celebrity mean tweets\" he was reading. I found myself increasingly annoyed, and said, 'I'm watching a video about bullying. I don't want to hear about mean tweets okay?' he seemed a little surprised, but I kept hearing him giggle every few seconds at the tweets. As soon as I stopped watching the video, he started up trying to tell me all the mean things he heard in the last few minutes and how funny they were, and I just couldnt help but see him in a really negative way. He's never been the most mature person, but I had just told him I was watching something on bullying and he doesn't seem to understand why I don't want to hear a bunch of people shit talked.\n\nI don't know why, but this is striking a cord pretty hard with me right now. I was bullied from the age of five up until my sophomore year of high school, and listening to him enjoy the destruction of others is bothersome.\n\nGranted I'm not perfect and at some point everyone has found humor at someone elses expense, but I just want to suggest that he be more positive and not get so much enjoyment out of other peoples pain. \n\nAm I wrong? I don't know, I've noticed a lot of necessary cruelty from him to others in small ways before, and I think it's even rubbed off on me a slight amount (I get angrier than I used to before I started dating him).", "summary": "Boyfriend may be a bully in his own ways, how to help?"}
{"id": "t3_2hk22t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Mental Illness runs in my family [21M, 23F, 29F, more]. I'm [20F] scared I'm next. UPDATE: I'm Next.", "post": "Not a lot of people saw this last time, but I have a few more questions to ask. So, turns out, I'm next on the crazy train. I guess I'm not really surprised, just resigned and weary. \n\nI'm developing Schizophrenia. With an aunt, uncle, and sister all having Schizo, I guess I shouldn't be surprised at all. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist next week, but I already know what they're going to tell me. I've been putting it off for as long as I can to make sure that I was positive. I see and hear things that aren't there. I will most likely be on medication the rest of my life to make sure I don't go the way of my other family members (my uncle killed himself in an extremely brutal fashion).\n\nSo on to the real question. How do I tell my friends and family? How do I tell anyone? I tried telling my mother, but she didn't care. I don't know if I trust anyone enough to let them know I'm going crazy. Do I tell my close friends? Do I tell most of my friends? Do I tell boyfriends? When you do tell people? Do I have to tell people?", "summary": "I'm mentally ill. How do I tell the people in my life?"}
{"id": "t3_16mkwy", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Food Safety: Olive Oil + Sun Dried Tomatoes", "post": "Hoping this is a good place for this question: \n\nSo I have a real soft spot for sun dried tomatoes and put them on just about anything that makes sense.  \n\nTypically buy those small jars of sun dried tomatoes suspended in olive oil at the store but recently read one of those scare stories regarding olive oil not really being olive oil, etc.  Had the idea of buying sun dried tomatoes in bulk and dropping them in jars of bulk olive oil purchased from a legit source.\n\nAnyway has worked out quite well.  Loving the taste and simplicity of it all.  Blows the price of the store purchased version out of the water.  Basically the thing I am wondering is whether leaving the jar out is \"food safe.\"  Refrigerator results in suspended olive oil (a decent indication of legit olive oil according to articles) but this is not preferable from a use standpoint.  (Mildly interesting side note: store-purchased sun dried tomatoes in jars do not solidify in refrigerator-- so there's some voodoo going on there-- prob oil mix or something.)  I know leaving the oil at room temp is fine and pretty darn certain sun dried tomatoes are the same.  So why would a combo matter?  But that store purchased version wants me to put in the fridge after opening, so made me a little paranoid.  (Esp for Kids, etc.)", "summary": "Are sun dried tomatoes suspended in olive oil in jars at room temperature safe to consume without any cooking?"}
{"id": "t3_2z8hg1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] me (24f) just dumped by my boyfriend of 4 Months ish (26m)", "post": "original \n\nBarely anyone saw the other but on the off chance anyone was curious. Turns out he actually broke up with me because he met someone else (also 24f). She spent the night at his house the very next night and they went on the exact date we had planned. I know this because of course she posted pictures of it on social media. I went ahead and dectivared my accts where I could but am having a hard time not checking compulsively in other ways. \n\nAll I can think about is them having sex, her sleeping on my side of the bed, wearing his t shirts that I've worn so many times, playing with his dog... It's freezing here and all I can picture is them cuddling cozily in his house while it snows outside. My imagination is my number one enemy right now. \n\n any comfort I took from thinking he ws being honest and respectful because he cared  about me  is all gone. He was just straight lying.. \n\nBasically I want to throw myself off of a bridge.\n\nHappy Monday!", "summary": "Bf actually left me to date other girl within 12 hours of us breaking up, everything is worse and I hate myself right now"}
{"id": "t3_31p8ki", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] asked to donate kidney to uncle [47M].", "post": "Hey Reddit, throwaway obviously. Now, this is probably boring as there's not much drama but today my uncle came over to buy my spare bikes for his kids (they're in great shape) and he brought it to mine and my mother's attention that his kidneys are at 20% (him and my mother are both diabetics). \n\nNow, my mother was not a diabetic when I was born and I'm incredibly healthy with a fantastic diet and exercise regimen. I don't drink (I've had maybe 2 small drinks since turning 21 in December; I'm not a fan of the taste of alcohol), smoke, have done no drugs.\n\nSo naturally they both turn to me and my mother asks me if I would be willing to go in for tests to see if I'm a kidney match. We also have the same blood type.\n\nI'm honestly just at a loss for words.\n\nI'm not the closest to my uncle but we are still on great terms.\n\nAlso some background. My mother is the oldest of three, the middle child (her brother), passed away in 2010 from kidney failure, and the youngest is the one asking for the kidney. Both of the brothers were born with diabetes, my mother didn't get diabetes until she was 34, while pregnant with my sister (but my sister is not a diabetic, she is 17). I'm like the star health child.\n\nSo, I naturally would like to say yes but I'm terrified of anesthesia and surgery and have no idea how to come about this. \n\nIf any of you know any one who has donated a kidney or you've donated one yourself, I would love some insight.", "summary": "Uncle has 20% of his kidneys working. I am incredibly healthy and have the same blood type. I was asked to donate."}
{"id": "t3_1dtf48", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "My cat went crazy!", "post": "I have two cats, [Tiny Dinosaur & Elmira] They're both very well-behaved indoor cats, and Tiny (as we call him) is especially friendly and affectionate.  He will walk up to complete strangers and beg for a petting.     \nUntil now, he has never had a problem with seeing another cat outside.  He takes an interest but usually just watches at the window until the visitor goes away. This past weekend, a new neighborhood cat started stalking around our yard. Tiny Flipped out! He went completely berserk, got confused (I assume) and savagely attacked Elmira.  In the photo (linked above) you can see the size difference, she's half his weight, he backed her into a corner & was all claws & teeth on her.  I pulled him off before any serious damage was cause (mouthful of fur was all he got), and quartered him in the bathroom until they both calmed down (she was very shaken up; terrified!)     \nThe following night, I woke up at 4:00am to the sound of him going berserk again. I went to make sure he wasn't hurting Elmira (she got away in time), and he turned on me & shredded my leg up real nastily (blood everywhere!)     \nEven as I was cleaning my cuts & dressing the wounds, Tiny had not only come back to normal, but actually seemed \"remorseful;\" slowly approaching me with his head down, timidly nudging me to pet him, slowly backing away when I cursed at him (I was in pain!) and generally being as non-threatening as possible.", "summary": "How do you keep a suddenly madly territorial cat who turns on his housemates, from hurting anyone when his zone is threatened (by strangers which he can't reach)? Why would he suddenly develop this berserker-rage tendency?"}
{"id": "t3_4s7tba", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] can't stop thinking about my friend [27/M] I hooked up with last weekend?", "post": "I am going absolutely crazy. I hooked up with my friend last weekend after getting some drinks at a bar. I had 2 drinks and smoked a joint, and he had a few more than me and took some puffs. We made out on the corner of his street, pretty intense if I must say. I'm actually pretty sure he was more intense about it than I was. But he ended up getting a boner and i grabbed it and basically turned around and went home abruptly (I don't know why, random). He told me he liked it when I got home, and we went to bed. \n\nThe next day I pretty much told him I wanted to hook up again, and he told me he liked it, but that it probably wasn't a good idea. We both got out of long term relationships within the last months and he felt it wasn't right because it felt like he was trying to get revenge. I told him I understand, and that I'm down to be friends. This is where the problem comes in. I CAN NOT stop thinking about him. I've tried, really really hard, but no matter what I do my mind just keeps going back to random imaginary situations. \n\nWhat's worse is that when my mind goes back to the night we hooked up, I can practically feel him touching me still. It's so messed up. Is this normal? I had gotten out of a really toxic relationship where my ex cheated and lied to me all the time. My friend is the first guy I've touched in 3 years that wasn't my mentally abusive ex. Can this be related? I really want some opinions or advice. We've been talking all week and I told him I wanted to get to know him more because I'm interested in him as a person, and I think he's cute. He told me he's damaged goods, still not totally sure what that means, but he's been talking to me more often.\n\nI still really want to hook up with him, but I also really want to get to know him better.", "summary": "hooked up with my friend and now I can't stop thinking about him."}
{"id": "t3_11uws2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15f] believe my [17m] boyfriend is still in love with his ex. Please help me...", "post": "I know that I am being way too possessive and suspicious, but I am starting to go out of my mind. A few weeks ago I went through my boyfriend's texts with his ex, simply because I am curious about what he tells her. He's always telling me that she's really dumb and makes fun of her around me whenever we happen  to talk about her. So, when I read them and found that he was being extremely nice to her I became somewhat suspicious. Now, to clarify my main reason for jealousy- he never wanted to break up with her. She just moved away. He was still madly in love with her. Fast-forward two years and another girlfriend later. I had become a cheer-leader, just like his ex. Now, almost a year later him and I have been having trouble. I can't explain it all no because I have to leave, but really reddit- I'm so scared he's only with me because I resemble her and he wants to be with her. I just read another string of texts with her and he says he misses her and wishes she was here.", "summary": "I'm jealous and think my bf is only with me because he can't have his ex."}
{"id": "t3_4h5h6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my Boyrfriend(?) [20 M] 1y, I plan to go to europe to see family, should I let him come with me?", "post": "Let me make this brief and to the point.\n\nMe and my boyfriend(?) have been together for a little over a year. I have decided somewhat recently to take a break from him and just be friends since there were issues in our relationship. Things along the line of him not appreciating what I do for him and just both of us not being able to cope with the different ways we deal with stress (Introvert VS Extrovert).\n\nI have decided a 4 months ago that I wanted to go to Europe (Romania) to see my family and escape my life since I been dealing with a lot. We have talked about us both going together for the first 2 months. Things then took a turn and emotional stress blah blah blah want to go by myself but a part of me wants him to come with me.\n\nHere's the thing, I want to go alone and find myself/escape. But I know that I would have a considerable good time if he came. We are great friends. Not so great SO's. Half the time I hate how he jokes around very immature and drawn out too long. But half the time I think its hilarious and really fun. Little things infuriate me. But he is really great just to hang out with. So conflicted.\n\nSo now I am just at the point to which I don't know if it is a good idea. I know I will have a great time. But I know I will be annoyed and possibly frustrated half the time.\n\nWhat should I consider? What should I do?\n\nThank you so much for your input, it means a lot!", "summary": "Me and Boyfriend(?) are on break and decided to be friends for a while. Before that we talked about us both going to see my family together now and I'm confused because I know I will be annoyed and frustrated half the time because of how he is. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_31ljjg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm a 30/m who cheated on his girlfriend with his co-worker and is feeling very conflicted. NSFW", "post": "Howdy folks.  I'm in a bit of a pickle and was wondering if anyone had any advice or comments that might be helpful.  \n\nI've been with my current gf for almost 1 and a half years now.  She's fantastic.  We do almost everything together, and for the most part, we're very happy.  \n\nThe only area that our relationship might be lacking in is sex.  She's sexually, very conservative and only likes to have sex once a week, in one specific position, and only does so because she knows that I want it-- in other words, it's fairly passionless.  \n\nLast Saturday night, I met a large group of my current and former co-workers for a spring-themed party at a kind of outdoor festival with street food and music and everything.  It was great.\n\nAnyway, one of my former co-workers showed up who I always had really good chemistry with.  We had a lot of drinks, went to a club, and ended up going back to her place.  \n\nThe sex was intense and amazing.  It lasted on and off for maybe 5 or 6 hours.  I lost count of how many times she came.  Me, her, and her bed were completely soaked with female ejaculate.  \n\nI guess it was the first time that she had come like that, so she was really shocked, and a little embarrassed.\n\nWe talked afterward and I discovered that she had feelings for me and had always wanted me to ask her for her number or ask her out on a date.\n\nI really liked her too, but never asked her out or anything because we were working together at the time, and I felt it would be unprofessional to do that.  \n\nSo now, she's saying she's really interested in having a relationship and I'm interested in her too, but it's complicated because I'm still with my current girlfriend who is great and who makes me really happy most of the time.  \n\nI guess I just don't know what to do.  So if anyone has anything to say on this matter.  I'd really appreciate it.", "summary": "I cheated on my girlfriend with a former co-worker who I always had lots of chemistry with but never did anything about.  Now this former co-worker seems to want a relationship with me.  I'm confused about the whole thing."}
{"id": "t3_oxmtc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Truly a first world problem. I need a date for a company trip to Hawaii, what would reddit do? Or what should I do?", "post": "Alright, first, I love reddit, it keeps me sane during the day. I usually just lurk though and when I do comment on anything it's is usually an admittedly insipid comment. Here is the situation, my company rewards those with top performance for the year. Surprise surprise, I earned the trip this year. It's a week long trip in Hawaii, all the bells and whistles, expenses paid etc. It's a pretty big deal. So, my girlfriend and I broke up in December. I really did stick it in crazy. However, we were friends for a long while and she was there along the way during the year. Regardless, she does not exist in my life. I am still a little heart broken about it, and I am not necessarily looking to bang my way through a week. Anyways, how would reddit go about finding a date within a short period of time. All my girl friends are busy or have boyfriends/husbands. On top of that who ever I go with cannot be a raging alcoholic as bosses will be there. I can resort to taking a guy buddy of mine but I'd hope to avoid that.  The trip is in late April. I have already gone to all the online dating sites, but I have the wherewithal not to include that in a headline, not even on an OKcupid profile. As for me, I'm not one of those forever alone types, and obviously successful at least by my measures.  So how about it what would y'all do.", "summary": "Need a date for a company trip to Hawaii in a short time."}
{"id": "t3_15gtj8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Guys of Reddit, how were you \"confirmed\" that the girl you liked was liked you back, only to find out that she wasn't?", "post": "Mine was a series of \"confirmations\". We had a fantastic first semester. She would always laugh at my jokes, call me to tell me about her problems, we always hung out after school let out. At one point she told me she wanted, and i quote, \"a fuck buddy\", and even though I know she was kidding, I assumed she was talking about me. I picked up stuff for her while she was sick, bought her food, and helped her with her with whatever she needed helped with.\n\nChristmas Eve I drive around town looking for a thoughtful gift and finally found one (a singing cow because she digs cows). I also promised her that I wouldn't move from Tennessee to Illinois. None of her other friends bought her anything so I thought for sure that I was in. Last night was the final confirmation. She invited me to hang out with her and her family for Christmas day. I DITCHED MY FAMILY TO HANG OUT OUT WITH A FRIEND. After dinner, I asked her if she wanted to go out and she said we were just friends.", "summary": "Friend zoned and probably used."}
{"id": "t3_3b3iwk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing what a loaded question was", "post": "So today I had an over the phone interview for a job at a bookstore at the university I attend. It was set for 10am, which is typically about when I get up. The call wakes me up, and I try to answer and not sound groggy. The interview starts and it's pretty standard stuff, and then the interviewer asks \"what is your greatest strength\" and I just completely blanked. I remembered a previous askreddit thread where someone had said \"I'm terrible at answering loaded questions\" in response to \"what is your greatest weakness\" so what do I say is my greatest strength? \"Uhhhhhh... I'm terrible at answering loaded questions.... Uhh....(10 second pause) I don't know...\". It was awkward as fuck. Then comes the next question \"so what's your greatest weakness?\". My response: \"oh I'm terrible at answering loaded questions\". I think a more truthful answer would've been \"I'm terrible at answering interview questions in general\".", "summary": "Used a reddit users witty interview question response at the wrong time, awkwardness ensues."}
{"id": "t3_52abhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Teach me[36f] how to cope with young children?", "post": "I don't really know anything about kids. I've never had many maternal instincts and those I do have are focused on my dogs. I was never into babysitting or anything. So now I have a couple friends with a kid I have no idea what to reasonably expect from them.\n\nLike the 2 1/2 year old who comes over all the time. I bought her a pack of sidewalk chalk to scribble with while her mom and I chill in the yard. Is she old enough to understand when I tell her she's only allowed to draw on the ground? Would I be crossing a boundary if I were to take the chalk away from her when she draws on something she was told not to? Her parents won't do it, they just keep telling her no.\n\nI have stuffed animals and their daughter has a meltdown when I won't let her play with them. They aren't really toys, just a few sentimental stuffies from the past. I put them out of reach when she's going to be here, but then she sees them and I end up feeling like I should just let her play with one to make the screaming stop. Then I don't, and I feel guilty.\n\nI let a lot of things I'm not thrilled about happen just to make the screaming stop. Good god. Happy, sad, angry, excited, tired, whatever she is feeling she expresses as loudly as possible in painfully high pitched squeals. I live a very quiet life. I don't go out much, I don't usually even listen to music very loudly. So the screaming gets grating and exhausting very quickly. Her parents will try to soothe and workout the upset screaming. They seem to think the happy screaming should just be let go. Is it even possible to teach a kid that young to turn the volume down? I like that she's happy and has fun when she's over, but it leaves me so on edge.\n\nI really like my friends, and I really like entertaining them in my home. And their daughter really isn't awful or anything. She's just young and unlike a puppy I'm not allowed to lock her in another room by herself until she calms down. Any tips anyone has on how to make the time together more comfortable for us all would be welcome.", "summary": "Quiet person put on edge by good friends adorable but screamy daughter."}
{"id": "t3_2c5fx4", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Accident May 28, as of July 30 still no settlement or repair quote from insurance", "post": "My husband was in an accident May 28th. He was not at fault because the driver he hit made an improper left turn causing my husband to basically T-Bone the guy causing damage to the front passenger's side of his car. He has full coverage and Financial Responsibility (SR22) insurance because we are financing the vehicle. The other party was cited for an improper left turn, no insurance (minimum cov. insurance is required in IL), and driving on a suspended license. We filed the  claim the day after the accident online. A week later they mailed us the claim paperwork to fill out. One week after, they asked him to take the car to their approved auto body shop to have their adjuster look at the car. We persistently called about when the repairs would be done or quotes for repair and every time we would be thrown into a full mailbox and no one that actually answered would help or give us any information. The auto body tells us they are just waiting on the insurance company to approve starting the repairs. A month after the accident they asked us to send them a copy of the bill of sale and a history report of claims with his prior insurance (from which he had no claims.) Over two weeks ago they called my husband to say they are investigating the claim because he is married and I wasn't under the policy. The broker that signed us up asked us if we wanted to add me on and we declined to save money (Im under 25) and because I wouldn't be driving the car at all. So in two months, countless letters, and maybe 4 calls from them we have no car, no repairs, or even a repair quote. We don't have any money at all because to make matters worse my car was hit a week after his resulting in a total loss and a payout from my insurance. We used up all our \"rainy day\" savings to buy me a new car while waiting for my insurance to pay. We don't know what else to do other than hire a lawyer. Please help!", "summary": "My husband's insurance keeps delaying repairs/settlement on an accident claim at which he was not at fault and he is fully covered."}
{"id": "t3_36fnou", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Local college security repeatedly harasses our residence, despite not going to the school. Options to make it stop? (North Chicagoland)", "post": "My roommates and I have rented a house about 3 blocks away from a local college, and it was previously used for parties by the previous renters about 2 years ago. We were unaware there was a college nearby before renting the property. Being college-aged, we often have our friends over to drink or hang out (we are all 21), but we either go to community colleges 20 minutes away or live here for work convenience. We have had no actual police of the town knock on our door, nor any noise complaints, but the campus security comes to our house and suspects we are throwing a party and housing underage-drinking even though none of our friends attend the college. Is there any way to make the school stop harassing our private residence? This has happened 5 times in the past 6 weeks and we are planning to rent it for the next couple of years.", "summary": "Campus security to a college we do not go to has been harassing us about parties we are not throwing for students we do not associate with. How do we stop this?"}
{"id": "t3_qsvjy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need student loan / 401k advice (xpost frugal)", "post": "So my wife and I are about 4 years out of college, we have about $23k in loans still to pay. About $7k of that has an interest rate of 6.2ish% then rest is under 3%.\nWe also have about $14k in retirement...with our cash we have a net worth of about $3k. I feel comfortable knowing we're on the positive side but I feel like we might be mismanaging our debt. Wife is the only one working right now so I probably wouldn't feel real comfortable using a large sum of our cash.\nI'm looking for some advice, should we use our retirement money at all to pay off some debt or is that a bad idea? Also, since I'm unemployed is there a smarter way to invest my 401k money that's just sitting there? Is there anything we can do with our loans to lower the interest? I've never had any kind of professional advice, I feel like I'm just winging it.\n\nThanks guys :)", "summary": "$3k net worth with $23k in student loan debt and $14k in 401k. Am I mismanaging my debt?"}
{"id": "t3_2bbu5l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] and my Wife [31 F], cycle of paranoia?", "post": "My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years. About a year ago, we seperated because we were unsure if we could make things work. 3 months in, we reconciled and things have been going great. \n\nIt now seems that we are both scared that the other one will get to a point where we want to end the marriage. So it causes a cycle of paranoia. One where she is concerned about how I feel, which leads me to be concerned, which just clusterfucks everything. I'm trying to figure out the best way to break this cycle and get back to where we were at.", "summary": "The fear of what SO is thinking is making for a paranoid marriage."}
{"id": "t3_54hsbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] asked my teacher [30sF] to not show my recommendation letter info to anyone but her, yet she had my friend [17F] make multiple copies of it that are floating around God knows where.", "post": "I'm livid. I asked my English teacher for a letter of recommendation for a scholarship program and she requested that I fill out a sheet that outlines my background, aspirations, talents, etc, so I did. When I handed it to her, I specifically told her that it was for her eyes only as it contains HIGHLY personal information that I do not want anyone, especially my classmates to know. \n\nWell what does she do? She has my best friend Lauren, who is a TA in that hour, make copies of it, as if I didn't tell her that the information was confidential. Lauren doesn't know how to work the printer, so she accidentally makes like fifteen copies of it and left them all plus the original in the printer room, which meant that my personal information was out and about for anyone to pick up and read. When I heard this, I confronted my teacher, who told me not to worry too much because \"only teachers and TAs go into that room.\" I still can't believe she had the fucking audacity to say that! I don't want any stranger, teacher or not, reading my personal information! Not even my best friend! I was so upset that I stormed to the bathroom and cried. \n\nMy trust was violated. I do not come from a good background and the last thing I wanted was for someone to know about my circumstances. Is there anything I can do about this? I am so humiliated.", "summary": "Gave teacher extremely personal info to help her write a recommendation letter and asked that she not show it to anyone. Teacher irresponsibly has my friend make copies of it, but my friend fucked up so bad that now my personal information is out there for anyone in the room to read."}
{"id": "t3_j4nxc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey guys, how can I attend this amazing college?", "post": "There's this art school I'm in love with. [This being the college in question.] I fell in love with it at first sight, and I'm hoping to move to Denver after I graduate to attend it.\n\nI have two problems, actually. \n\nFirst, my mother refuses to let me leave her. When I told her I wanted to attend this college, she got angry and refused to speak to me for a few days. My father doesn't like to challenge her, but he secretly accepts that I want to leave the nest, and wants to help me as much as he can. See, my mother is a manipulative woman. I lost most of my respect for her over the years for certain reasons, but I do care about her, she's my mother. I may have to fight her in order to leave, but I'm not sure how to go about that.\n\nSecond, finances. My dad has worked as stock crew at a grocery store for the last few years. He's had a hernia before, and I can tell it's wearing him down. (He's been sick all year, and had surgery as well.) We get by just fine, but my parents are saving for a house at the moment. At most, he can give me money for the trip to Denver. I've been applying **everywhere** for the past year. No one will hire me. I sell art on the side, but that can't support me/pay the bills. My boyfriend has offered to move to Denver with me, and find a job to take care of us. I can't let him take on all that pressure by himself.", "summary": "I want to go to amazing college, mother is possessive, I have no means of paying."}
{"id": "t3_2lyn7u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by \"calling dibs\" on a coworker.", "post": "Background: I'm extremely shy and awkward when it comes to girls. I'm 20, she's 18.\n\nSo this isn't a one day fuck up. Happened over a few days, but I just learned about it last night. I work at a small chain grocery store in the produce department. I had been on medical leave for the last two months because I had broken my finger at school. I went back to work last night for the first time since my injury. Anyway, there's this pretty attractive girl who was a bagger that got transferred to work back in the salad bar, which is in the same room as produce. I learned of this while I was on leave. I was actually excited to get back to work. I jokingly texted one of my male coworkers \"I call dibs on the new girl\". Bad idea. That information slowly made its way around the store. It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't know, but she does. Another salad bar girl asked me about it last night and told me what she knew. I've had my differences with another employee in a different department and we are no longer friends. Turns out he has some beef with me. I don't know the exact words he told her, but whatever he said made her think I'm a creep. Fuck. everyone in the entire store knows I'm into this girl, including her, and now she thinks I'm a creep. I work 8 hours with her on Saturday. I'm fucked.", "summary": "Jokingly told a coworker I called dibs on a new girl at work. He told another person and it spread throughout the entire store. She found out and now she thinks I'm a creep."}
{"id": "t3_guj57", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Considering restarting school...?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nI have a problem.  Basically, I am thinking of going back to school.  I'm 23years old and have already graduated from a 3yr program (Computer Programmer Analyst program, got me an adv.diploma.  I'm in Canada, this came from a college.  It's roughly equivalent to a bachelors...  I said roughly).\n\nMy issue is, I don't really know what to go back for =/  Like, I have ideas but I can't see any practical use out of them.  For example, I would love to go back for theological studies (World religions to be specific, I just love religion and the history and mytho) but I can't think of anything I could do with this other than become a teacher... Which is fine, but...  That's the best I can come up with as an outcome.  I'd be interested in doing journalism but...  There's already a bunch of journalists and all that... Media studies essentially I guess...  But again, I don't know really what I could do with that stuff...\n\nThere's other things I'm interested in, but I just can't figure shit out, so help me reddit!", "summary": "Realized I don't like what I'm doing. Want to go back to school, don't know what for.  I am also a giraffe"}
{"id": "t3_11scje", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My client [77 F] is openly racist/bigoted.  How do I [30 F] handle this?", "post": "I am a caregiver and one of the women I care for is openly racist.  I began helping \"Rose\" and her husband \"Dan\" for 6 months.  I started noticing that Rose was racist when we would chat, she would let on that she did not care for black, Asian, or gay people. These are the groups that I know of, anyway.  Also, my sister is gay so it really hurt me when she said 'Oh I HATE that woman, she is gay' when referring to Ellen Degeneres.\n\nWhat's worse, we were taking a walk today and we walked past a black woman. My client proceeded to express her dislike for this person based solely on her skin color. I was appalled. I did not know what to say, so I just said \"Hmm.\"\n\nHow do I handle this? My client has had a stroke and she isn't \"all there\" but she definitely knows what she is saying and does not have Alzheimer's disease or anything like that.", "summary": "Caregiving client (with stroke history) of 6 months [77 F] is openly racist. This really bothers me [30 F]. What is the best course of action?"}
{"id": "t3_4xjlai", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Deciding on a maid of honor or just having 4 equal bridesmaids?", "post": "I am planning to ask 4 close friends to be my bridesmaids. I have gone back and forth about having a maid of honor or not. I do not technically have a \"best friend\". \n\nThe friend who I was thinking of asking is my oldest friend (since kindergarten) and due to distance we only see each other around one time per year. She has other friends that she considers to be her \"best friends\" but she really understands me and we always have so much fun together. We talk via text a few times a month and skype every once in a while. I know she considers me a close friend too even if not her best friend.\n\nDue to distance I don't expect her to help with preparations (only what she would like to/ is able to). A family friend is already planning a shower. If I was picking one of my bridesmaids to give a toast at the wedding I know that I would want it to be her.\n\nIs it weird to ask someone to be your maid of honor who is closer with other people than they are with you? Has anyone who didn't select a maid of honor had any issues with that? Any suggestions?", "summary": "don't have an official best friend, but was thinking of asking my oldest friend who I also consider my closest friend, or I could have no MOH and just 4 equal bridesmaids."}
{"id": "t3_3y8p1y", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My best friends girlfriend just broke up with him. I need help to be a better friend for him tomorrow.", "post": "SO the story goes that I have had this sinking feeling that my best friends girlfriend was going to breakup with him for a while. sincing this I told him over and over that if she ever hurt him to just call me and I would be their for him. We spent tonight texting, and he is coming over tomorrow night, so we can talk. \n\nI told him some stuff about when I went through something like this. I told him that I am their for him, and that everything's gonna work out. I didn't lie to him though see his girlfriend said she wanted some space. So he is going to give her two weeks and try and contact her again after that. See what can be salvaged kind of thing. This is almost a mirror of what happened  to me. \n\nI told my friend that its going to be hard, that the waiting was, and is going to be the worst part. I also reminded him that I would be their for him during the waiting. During this moment of pain in his life. \n\nWhat I need advice on is what else can I tell my heart broken friend who is truly in pain right now. I just want to be their for him, to comfort him as best I can. Please help me, any advice I would greatly appreciate thank you all very much. \n\n**Context** We are both in our twenty's. He is a straight (although I have my thoughts) male who has been dating our mutual friends sister for something like one and a half to two years. I am a MTF closeted (to everyone him included) pansexual who has been in love with him for like five years. This isn't about me though so my feelings need not be involved. Just added for transparency.", "summary": "My best friends girlfriend of two years said she wanted space. I am trying to be the best friend I can be for my friend in his hour of need."}
{"id": "t3_okng6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can't Stop Feeling Insecure - Why?", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and we're pretty serious. We've moved in together and we are generally very happy and very cute together! We have issues, but he really means a lot to me.\n\nThe problem is that every once in a while I become severely insecure and paranoid of his past relationships with other woman. He's done everything he can to help me feel better, but I keep  shooting everything he says down in fear of getting hurt. He tells me that our relationship means 1000 times more than anything, the sex before me was terrible, and he would gladly erase his memory to only include me in his life... but it just isn't enough, and I am scared that this behaviour is getting out of control.\n\nCan anyone offer me some advice? \n\nA couple of the things that I tell him in response is:\n\n- If it means 1000 times more than something, there is still a comparison to make\n- Why did you hang on to each relationship? \n- Why even have sex if it was so terrible? \n\nI realize now that if I can't get rid of these feelings, it will continue to bring me down, and thus the relationship. I want to live in the present and be happy with everything now... But what is it that is tying me to these insecurities? I am willing to listen, and to follow through with any advice so long as it isn't \"get over it\" or \"just be happy\". I am trying to understand myself and by extension these feelings so that I can better combat any negative feelings in the future.", "summary": "I am insecure of my boyfriend's previous relationships when I have no real reason to be. Looking for understanding and advice. "}
{"id": "t3_1n7nvm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M20) not sure if (F19) sees me the same way", "post": "So recently a girl who I like has been asking to hang out and have coffee/lunch with me the past few weeks.  I am almost certain she knows I like her as more than a friend and it feels like there is something between us when we are together.\n\nI have very little experience with girls so didn't know if I am just picking up on friendly behaviour or if her asking to hang out alone with me meant anything more?  Like I said, I am fairly sure she knows I like her, I try show my interest with flirting etc but haven't asked her out since I worry I have misread the situation.  I feel like she wouldn't ask to hang out alone if she wasn't a little bit interested as she knows I like her.\n\nSo I was just looking for a second opinion on whether this was a sign of interest before I think about asking her out.", "summary": "Girl I like has been asking to hang out alone with me after college and go for coffee/lunch together, is she just being friendly or is it something more?"}
{"id": "t3_rsakm", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Am I thinking straight, or should I just I cut my losses and move on?", "post": "My girlfriend (24/f) and I (25/m) had been in a relationship for 1.5 years, but just recently split. Up until about two months ago, things had been going pretty well, but then things took a turn for the worse. We broke up last week.\n\nI got laid off from my job about 3 months ago, and have been unemployed ever since. Needless to say, it had a significant impact on our relationship. My days consisted of searching for jobs, playing video games, and occasional outings with friends. I'll be the first to admit that my life had no-direction at all.\n\nShe has been working two jobs while simultaneously attending school. She was definitely more stressed out, and was having a hard time coping with it. We've been living together in a small studio apartment, which contributed to a lot of her stress as well; she felt as though she didn't get enough personal space.\n\nOur breaking point was an argument about money. I had fallen behind on rent , so she was carrying more of the burden. In so many words, it ended in me moving out in a flurry, and us later deciding that we both wanted to stop fighting. We broke it off.\n\nWe haven't really spoke after that, as I want to try and give her space that she needs. I've realized that my life has gotten a bit off track. That, in addition to her situation, seemed like a recipe for disaster.\n\nI know that it's been shorter than a week, but all I can do is think about her and our relationship. I understand that this is somewhat normal, but I deeply feel as though this is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. Despite our problems, we've made it through a lot and I've never been happier in my life than when I'm with her. I'd like to have her back in my life, but it's clear that we might need some time to sort things out.", "summary": "GF(24) and I(25) have split due to her job/school obligations and stress, my unemployment and money issues. I'm still in love with her."}
{"id": "t3_3w1bet", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F24] am torn between choosing the nice guy [M24a] and [M24b]", "post": "Backstory: I went to school with both guys, both a grade ahead of me growing up in the same area. Never talked to either very much until after graduation. \n\nNice guy [M24a] I dated previously, and lives nearby. Things didn't work out before because I wasn't ready to date someone 'boring'. Now - I'm fairly certain he's a virgin, but I'm willing to date him and that is not a concern. Nice guy is funny, smart, family oriented and loving. I find him attractive, we spend time together a few times a week, he never really tries to make sexual advances however. \n\nIn comes Army guy [M24b]. A few years have gone by since school, and army guy has heard I'm no longer in a relationship (recently single). Lets me know he's going for training, but would love to take me on a date when he returns. Army guy is passionate and very attractive, but beyond that I don't know him well. He knows I've been seeing Nice guy, but I told him he deserves the chance of a date. \n\nI have developed equal amounts of feelings for these two young men and really want to avoid causing one heartbreak.  \nIn one week... Army guy comes home. I need to figure out the best way to choose who to see exclusively without really hurting someone.", "summary": "Girl can't choose between two equally great guys"}
{"id": "t3_n3c1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reddit, need help with an issue with my girlfriend..", "post": "Hi Reddit.\nGF (18) and I (22) have been together for roughly a year. Things were great to start off with. But recently she has become very distant. Rarely touches me or hugs/kisses me, sex has deminished to once a week (sometimes a fortnight) When I ask her what's wrong, she claims to be stressed out about money and depressed. If this is the case then that's fine, I suffer from anxiety and know all too well how mental issues can affect a person. That being said, she is 18 years old and lives with her parents who spoil her rotten. No bills to pay, no job to attend. I'm not sure what she's stressed about. \n\nAnyway, some things have gotten to me. She talks to me like shit. She is addicted to Facebook and adds alot of other guys, when I looked at her FB and asked her about it, her response was \"Oh my god fuck up\". She speaks to me like this quite often and has horrible manners. We can rarely dicuss relationship issues without her telling me to shut the fuck up. \n\nBasically, she treats me like shit. She can be nice and loving when she wants to be, however this is very rare of late. This morning she sent me a text saying that she's going to the beach with her friends for New Years (In another state) when we had planned to go camping. She said I need to understand that she needs to get away.\n\nI'm not okay with this. She say's she loves me but I feel if she really did love me she would want to see in the New Year with me (I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to relationships) I told her she needs to decide what makes her happy because it's obviously not me. Her response was that she does love me and wants to continue seeing me but her happiness is the most important thing. Now she says it's up to me to decide if I want to continue the relationship. What should I do?! I'm sick of feeling like shit everyday.", "summary": "On verge of breaking up with (kind of) emotionally abusive girlfriend. Need to decide what to do. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3fhwo8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by nearly eating my roommates pube.", "post": "I'm disgusted and close to tears right now. I was eating an ice cream on a stick, and a piece of chocolate shell fell on the floor. Adhering to the three second rule, I picked it up and put it back in my mouth. I felt something tickle my lip and I immediately knew what had been done. I pulled out the shell, and attached was a long, coiled, black hair. \n\nCue gagging sounds and me proceeding to flush my mouth out with mouthwash. I shave down there, so I know it wasn't mine. My only saving grace is the fact that my male roommate has curly black chest hair. I'm praying that's what it was. I confronted him about it, hoping he could show me his chest hair to confirm my hope, but he pushed me away and called me weird. Figures.", "summary": "DO NOT ADHERE TO THE THREE SECOND RULE."}
{"id": "t3_3fjzcl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] completely mindfucked by this girl's texting behavior [19F] after our 48hr relationship ended with \"I'm not ready for a relationship\".", "post": "Background: met this girl on tinder, went out with her for 2 months. Things felt \"relationship-y\" for a few weeks before I asked her to make things official. She said yes. Lasted for 48 hours before she said she wasn't ready for a relationship and just wanted to be friends. I respected her decision and was happy to keep in touch with her and continue hanging out casually. \n\nEver since we \"broke up\" (can you even call it that?) this girl has been a complete fucking enigma. Every so often she'll text me something like \"hey :)\", or she'll tell me about something exciting that just happened to her or something. Cool! Normal stuff. She wants to keep in touch! Only trouble is that when I respond to her she acts FUCKING WEIRD. She'll give me lame, one word responses, or just not respond at all. Then I'll come back the next day and text her something, and I'll get similar lame ass responses. This cycle has been repeating for 2 weeks and I'm so confused.\n\nWhy bother initiating conversation at all if you don't want to actually talk? I don't get it. Can you guys offer some theories? I can't even begin to understand what's happening here.", "summary": "Got shot down, she just wanted to be friends, and now she just drops me random text messages and doesn't actually show any desire to keep a conversation going"}
{"id": "t3_2p8xou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [23F] been having some intrusive thoughts related to a fetish. How to deal?", "post": "I have a fetish that involves watching an everyday activity. This activity is not remotely sexual for most people and is something they often do socially. It's impossible to avoid entirely. \n\nOccasionally when I'm around family members and they're doing this activity, I'll feel a small bit of arousal coupled with A LOT of anxiety. I find myself wishing I had headphones on so I could look away and ignore the activity altogether - but that would be rude in a social setting and could draw attention to me. I feel panicked, suffocated, trapped and unable to talk out of shame. A couple of times I've quickly made an excuse and fled the room. Other times I've been irritable and rude, unable to focus on anything that's going on. Still other times I've been distracted enough not to be worried by it, or just not bothered by it at all. It's hard to predict when it's going to upset me.\n\nIt's only recently that I've started to feel so panicked about this (I used to deflect it by thinking about my boyfriend doing the activity instead, but he's now an ex and I can't really do that). It's nowhere near OCD level, but I don't want it to get worse. Any advice on how to manage this situation?", "summary": "I sometimes get extremely anxious when I have to be around family members as they perform an everyday activity that I happen to have a fetish for."}
{"id": "t3_3gd469", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15M] just entered a relationship with a girl [14F] who lives 5 hours away from me.", "post": "This is my first time being in a relationship, so I'm feeling pretty unsure in general, but my main concern is what to do to spend time together. If she lived closer, I would go on a date with her at some point in the near future, but the best I can hope for is a skype call. \n\nAlso, this is probably less important, but I am a bit of a romantic, and I am unhappy about not being able to do normal couple things, e.g. holding hands and stuff.\n\nWe met and started going out at a summer camp, but I live ridiculously far away from her and the camp, so it will be about a year before I even have a chance to see her for an extended period time.\n\nThe next time I will be in her area is when I will be visiting family around Thanksgiving.", "summary": "I have a girlfriend for the first time, but I don't know how to do long distance."}
{"id": "t3_2lcc79", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Trying to be more communicative with my girlfriend. (with TL;DR)", "post": "We've been dating for about 5 months, and since the beginning and even before we started dating, I could tell that she was a bit of an awkward personality. On our first date even, she seemed a bit awkward at times. But over the months I've discovered that even though we've been able to start talking about other things and we can talk without all the awkwardness very often, it seems like sometimes we just can't seem to really have a conversation. And we're both very affectionate people, so I guess my fear is that we could just end up using physical intimacy/sex to drown out the fact that we can't just talk to each other which is something I definitely don't want. I want us to be able to go out and talk and not have really stale awkward conversations. Though the other part of this is that we both have some general communication issues, like sometimes we're not entirely clear about how we're feeling sometimes. She in particular has told me that often she has very conflicting emotions and doesn't know how to express them, or just feels insecure talking about them. So I guess what I'd want is for her to open up to me more about how we communicate our feelings to each other and also to be able to just talk normally and not always be needing physical intimacy to show affection to each other. Especially since lots of our mutual friends who are dating other people often joke about how we're like \"bunny rabbits\" and I feel like an extension of that is that we just don't really talk about stuff all that often. I feel like it's just a matter of me making her feel comfortable just talking to me since she definitely has that ability to have straight conversations with people. And when she can just talk to me about something very passionately and we can just talk, it's really really great, and I'd like that to be more common than it already is, which is fairly uncommon.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 months are having issues having regular conversations and being open/clear with our feelings."}
{"id": "t3_1u883e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[18F] mother is worried he [18m] might hurt me", "post": "I am most likely going to the US in the summer to meet my ex/friend and stay with him for three months. My mother believes that I am in an unhealthy and manipulative relationship, and says that she cannot trust that he wouldn't be able to for instance turn a gun on me or something similar. Personally, I do not see that happening but she would prefer me to cancel the trip. \n\nThe question might sound odd but I wonder how seriously I should take her opinions and worries? Since she is not the one in the relationship I don't know how \"correct\" her statements can actually be. I suppose I am a rather naive girl who likes to believe the best of people until proven otherwise, so maybe that makes me see the relationship another way and all I need is a reality check", "summary": "mum is worried that my exams will turn gun on me when visiting, how serious should I take her worries"}
{"id": "t3_33d2bh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being the rhino of relationships", "post": "This did not actually happen today, but about 2 years ago.\n\nSo my freshman year in high school, I had a friend that was a girl in her senior year. We will call her S. So S and I were good friends, and her boyfriend was (seemingly) a nice guy, so we all got along fairly well. Come time for prom, of course her boyfriend asks her to it and of course she says yes and I was happy for both of them. About two weeks later, S calls me and says \"I just found out (boyfriend) was cheating on me, I'm not going to prom because he's going with her instead.\" She was crushed and I could tell. I knew she had already bought the tickets, so I offered to go with her and she said ok. After talking to the principal (it was a junior-senior prom and tickets were already off sale) we got permission for me to go. FF to prom night. The table we were sitting at had one of her old friends from another school, so they got to talking, and eventually her friend asks the inevitable \"Are you guys dating?\" to which S responded \"Not yet, still figuring it out\" or something along those lines. Later in the evening, everyone moved outside to just kind of mill around for a little bit. She wanted to strike a pose in front of the golf course that was there, so I agreed and she had her friend take the picture. She said she wanted a picture of us kissing, so of course I obliged. Yes, I KISSED HER and thought nothing of it. Even later that evening, we did a bunch of slow dancing and she was really into it. Then we went home and she hugged me before she left and that was that. It wasn't until a few days ago (2 years after the fact) when I thought about it that I realized how much of an idiot I was. I am still friends with her, but she is in college now and she has a boyfriend.", "summary": "Got hit in the head with a brick at Prom and didn't notice."}
{"id": "t3_t62vu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I made my girlfriend mad at me, I think I'm right, but I'm afraid to pursue it. Advice?", "post": "My Girlfriend and I, both 18, have been dating for over a year and a half. She's really quite and submissive in most things, but she likes to give me pretend orders and thinks it's funny when I follow them. Earlier tonight, we were talking and I started to get really upset. She was giving me the silent treatment over the phone and I have really serious abandonment issues, so I started freaking out. Not really angry, just stuff like \"Hey, are you there? Baby?\" etc. She, out of no where, starts yelling at me that she hates it when I cry and when I beg her for stuff. I got even more upset and said that if she didn't want me to be upset anymore, she should just talk to me. She got really upset and hung up on me. She still won't talk to me. I feel I was justified, because I have gone to therapists for these issues and they are legitimate. I need to some advice, and hopefully a way out ASAP! And to save time, I know she's immature, and no, I will not break up with her. I truly love her, and I just need help with this specific situation. Thanks!!", "summary": "I cried, gfs mad about it, I feel I was justified. HELP!!"}
{"id": "t3_4vr8wk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] don't know how to tell my mom [40sF] that I've had a boyfriend [19M] for 4 years and now am about to move in with him..", "post": "So I'll start this off with the fact that I am the BIGGEST baby!  \n\nI have a lot of anxiety issues. Because of this... I have not told my mother that I've been dating this guy for 4 years of my life!!  \n\nWell, today he just gave me the news that he may have found a house we can rent together. Currently, I live with my mom because I'm 19 and just havent moved out yet. Great news right?! Well.. It's really stressing me out..  \n\nMy mom and I aren't the closest, we fight a lot but that's not too relevant. Just the fact that we aren't close is though. I don't know how to tell her I have a boyfriend. And that I'm moving in with him and just him. I'm a very reserved person, and I don't want anyone assuming I have sex with him. (I do though.) I just don't want my mom thinking \"yea she probably has sex with him\" that mortifies me! And I don't know how I'll ever get married to him at this rate! The thought of telling a lot of people I'm dating him just makes me wanna vomit!  \n\nI also have a sister [11F] who whenever she hears about a relationship she'll make kissy noises and ask invasive questions.. That's also really scares me I know I'm such a baby!!! I just don't want my mom and my sister to do that to me either. I just want this to be normal like my boyfriend is nothing different or weird. Like he's a part of the family! \n\nSo, I just need advice on how to tell her I have a boyfriend. And that I'm going to move in with him down the road. Thanks.", "summary": "big baby is too shy to tell own mom that she's had a boyfriend for almost 5 years"}
{"id": "t3_3dtgkp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] and my SO [21F] are having trouble being taken seriously in poly and swinging circles.", "post": "Me and my So have been dating for (goodness) 6 years now and are fully intending on getting married. \n\nFrom the very onset of our relationship we were both very egalitarian and non-traditional. we started swinging together some in year four and more in year five. We decided it wasn't exactly what we were looking for so we looked around and found polyamory was for us. We have been poly for about a year and it has been great.\n\nMy issue is we are constantly given slack for being too young. Often either being ignored or having our relationship treated as somehow less due to our age (when we have been together far longer then those who are criticizing). Is this just what comes with this territory? are we looking in the wrong communities? Or do we both need a few more years under our belt before we are treated as viable?", "summary": "Confused as to why we are overlooked in the swinging and poly communities."}
{"id": "t3_hfz4w", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My girlfriend's 13 year old brother is having his 3rd surgery in 2 months.", "post": "specialist in Utah to correct this. Aleks was put into traction for about three days to help stretch out his spine so they had enough room to open the back of his head to fix everything. Surgery went better than expected. He was brought home a few weeks ago and seemed to be doing well, despite losing a lot of his motor skills due to the invasive surgery.\n\nAbout two weeks ago he had an MRI to check on his progress. Sadly this showed that the surgery did not work as well as originally thought. Aleks needed to go back to Utah.\n\nHe arrived in Salt Lake City this past Sunday and had surgery number 2 on Monday. This one went well and was not as invasive as the first (they were able to clean things up working through his nose). Yesterday they did an X-Ray to follow up and again found they would need to go back in to clean up some more. As you could imagine, Aleks had a panic attack upon hearing this. The third surgery involves cutting open the roof of his mouth to better access the point of surgery.\n\nAleks is in surgery for a third time as I am writing this. I wish him nothing but the best of luck and a speedy recovery. He is going to have to go though months of physical therapy just to be able to speak and swallow properly again. This type of stuff should not be happening to a 13 year old kid.", "summary": "? My g/f's 13 year old brother is having some major surgery as I speak. Just wanted reddit to know what a champ he has been."}
{"id": "t3_1fqb26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your best craigslist or any other classified advertisement stories?", "post": "Can be anything from funny ads or weird encounter you had with any of the posters on these websites. \n\nMy Story:\n\nI saw this guy selling this real cheap Trek mountain bike. Looked almost new and was just a couple of blocks away from where I live. I thought it was fake but contacted him anyway because he had his phone no listed. He called me and I suggested we meet in the parking lot of the Gas Station. The guy suggested that I bring the cash (around $350) so if i like the bike I can buy it on the spot because he had a lot of other people waiting.\n\nThe guy showed up without the bike and insisted me to go with him to his apartment to have a look at his bike. I suspected something was fishy and told him I was in hurry so I walked out. As the guy turned around, I saw the gun shape on his back through his tshirt.\n\nLater I found out that guy has posted in different categories of Craigslist under same phone no and different names.\n\nLiterally, dodged a bullet there.", "summary": "Went to see a nice bike found on Craigslist, almost got robbed by the guy."}
{"id": "t3_4qormx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my coworker [18-20? F], She keeps.... smiling at me.", "post": "So I've been working at this place for almost 3 months and it's been pretty interesting. I started noticing this girl about a month ago and over time I started to notice whenever I would look at her and she would look at me she would smile. \n\nNow, I've never spoken to her and I don't know her name but without fail every. single. time. She smiles. \n\nAt first I thought she was just being overly nice for some reason but she doesn't seem to do this with anyone else and the frequency makes me think it's not nothing but I don't know.\n\nSo that's why I'm asking for some strangers' input :).", "summary": "Coworker always smiles at me when we lock eyes, can't tell if interested. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_5420w6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F18] am feeling insecure in my relationship with boyfriend [M18].", "post": "Hello! This is my first post on here so bear with me! I [F18] have been seeing my [M18] boyfriend for 3 years now. We have just started college together, at the same school. We do not live together, but do stay at each other's houses sometimes. We have always had an amazing relationship, hardly any fights, lots of laughs, and never any reason not to trust. My previous boyfriend did cheat on me, but this has never affected our relationship previously. \nLately, however, I have been getting jealous over the people he has been meeting/talking to. He has acquired some phone numbers from girls, just as friends, but it bothers me for some reason. Any time we don't get to talk or see each other for a little while I start to feel like he is going to break up with me. I just get extremely nervous that he's going to move on in college now that he's meeting all of these new women. The problem here is that he hasn't done anything to make me feel this way. He always reassures me, as we have a very communicative relationship I do tell him that I'm having these thoughts. I imagine that this is some type of insecurity on my part, but I've never had it before so I am wondering why it has happened and how to stop it. I am reaching out on here for some help to stop feeling this way, because it sucks for me and I know it will begin to annoy him eventually. I just don't know what to do. Please help, I am willing to hear anything! Thank you!! \nP.s. Yes, I know we are still young, but that doesn't mean we aren't in love. :)", "summary": "I am in a long term relationship. We just started college and I can't stop being insecure/jealous for no reason."}
{"id": "t3_3i6wq0", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[X Post /r/theNetherlands] British Looking to move to the Netherlands, but cannot choose which qualifications to get before moving?", "post": "Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I need a little advice about this.\nI'm hoping to move to the Netherlands within the next 2-4 years and I just finished my GCSE's. (English, Maths, Science & Psychology)    \n\nI wanted to do A-levels but there is no college's nearby and those that are \"kinda\" close won't accept me because I don't have specific GCSE's in the subjects I want to study. So I am considering being a Private Candidate (Though this is expensive and hard to find a place that will take me) [With A-levels completed I will have VWO equivalent]                \n\nI just found a really interesting BTEC level 3 Diploma in Medical science (I am super interested in it) [Equivalent to an level 3 MBO] (This qualification is often not recognized/accepted in the Netherlands though)                         \n\nMy boyfriend wants me to do an HBO with him, but that requires level 4 MBO (or VWO) Of course I could always do an HBO in Biologie en Medisch Laboratoriumonderzoek (Which is quite similar to Medical science) 1 Problem though, All of those HBO courses are in Dutch. My Dutch is around A1, A2 level I can understand a little bit of spoken Dutch but it requires a huge amount of effort and being spoken slowly. I don't know if I can get my dutch to a fluent level in just 1-2 years, though I do go to the Netherlands every 2 months.           \n\nAnyway, Any advice?? Thanks for reading.", "summary": "Can't make up my mind what is best."}
{"id": "t3_4fuux6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[26F] BF[29M] of 2 years wants to go clubbing with his \"buddies\" who I recently watched acting like animals", "post": "Ive met these friends at gatherings before like birthdays and engagements, all was fine and I had no issue with my bf having a \"boys night out\" from time to time. I don't like clubbing myself and I know my bf doesn't dance but I thought it was his social activity. \n\nWell last month they were going clubbing as they normally do and I decided to tag along. The things I saw them do was terrifying. Some of these guys have girlfriends!. These are guys in their 30's and they were dry humping young girls who looked not much older than 16, Im guessing teenagers who just turned 18 were having too much alcohol to hold down. If the security guard didn't interfere I'm pretty sure 3 of the guys would end up having sex with the same girl on the dance floor or who knows they might of all joined in. \n\nThis wasn't a boys night out their main and only aim was trying to hook up with randoms, but it wasn't one on one type hook up. 2 or 3 of them would be making out with the same girl the other 2 would be humping really aggressively against another drunk young girl, I'm guessing they were trying to get some \"group activity\" going. \n\nI couldn't believe this was what they f*ing called \"boys night out\". Bf said \"yeah they get a little out of hand sometimes but they're not hurting anyone, its all consensual\" \n\nI started wondering what it is my bf does when I'm not around since he doesn't dance and his buddies are all busy trying to hookup with the same person. Does he just sit quietly in the corner and drink or does he join them ? \n\nHe has cheated on me before, he kissed a girl at one of his friends birthday party and I only found out through a mutual friend. We took a break and tried to rebuild trust and its been good. But now he wants to go clubbing this weekend with the \"boys\" again. \n\nI don't want him to go. Am I being controlling ? Do I have a right to ask him not to put himself in that situation.", "summary": "Bf's friends act like animals at clubs, bf goes out with them constantly,I no longer want him to go"}
{"id": "t3_gok3r", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else have a problem with Lucid Dreaming?", "post": "About 4 months ago i folowed some dumb online tutorial on Lucid Dreaming, it seemed interesting but nothing ever came of it. From now till a month ago I now can not stop doing it. It isnt fun, it feels more like a \"Follow Your Own Adventure\" book I used to read when I was a kid. I cant do it perfectly so things happen when i want them to, however I have complete deciding control of the dream scenario. For example, last night five of my friends and I were locked in a large mall, well there were still people in it and i couldnt leave though i tried, so I decided to go to gamestop (and poof there was a gamestop on the next turn) and my friend and I began playing a game, then 3 huge security guards came up to us and told us to put back the stolen merchandise, (since i opened the game to play) I then looked at my friend and then we ran, we all split up and I ran into Spencers and decided I want a ciggerrette,(poof lit ciggerette in my hand) then the cashier and the lady at the counter just stare at me for some reason and then I put out the ciggerrette, woke myself up and got a drink.... I do not like lucid dreaming, it is a terrible experience and not as fun as i wanted it to be", "summary": "I cant stop Lucid Dreaming, and i want to REALLY BADLY stop"}
{"id": "t3_moc9p", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I can't figure out how to move on", "post": "I'm not sure if this would belong more in r/relationships, but it's more personal, so.. My boyfriend and I have been together 10months, and after 2 1/2 months, he came to me and told me he had cheated on me, and that all he wanted was a second chance.  I ended up forgiving him and decided to give us another shot.  A few months later, I was able to get him to tell me who it was (a girl i lived down the hall from), and a month or two after that I found out that she had afterward started a rumor that cost him most of his friends (I had known about the friends, but not why).\n\nWhich brings me to now. I can't stop thinking about how I can't do anything to respond to this or retaliate to it, and that's all I want to do sometimes.  But at the same time I feel like there's nothing I can do, and I just end up feeling helpless for it.  On top of that, I don't trust my boyfriend half the time with ANYONE, and I'm even getting incredibly jealous over his ex's.  Things similar to this situation have happened to me before, and I've never really been with anyone faithful, so I don't know how to convince myself i'm safe or anything, and I keep coming back to feeling like it has something to do with ME that I've never had that.\n\nDespite how happy I am with him, I feel like I'm on a continuous cycle of happiness and depression.  He's being very supportive, but he can't exactly help me with how I feel, especially since he's one of the factors.  I need some way to deal with this short of burning a house to the ground or hitting someone, but I'm having trouble thinking of ideas.  Any advice?", "summary": "I forgave him after he cheated on me, but now I can't move on and I keep going back to feeling like a revenge-seeking, insanely jealous, worthless creature that no one wants.  I need ideas for how to deal with this rage and depression."}
{"id": "t3_20umk8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24,M] am so in love with my GF[24,F] of 8 months, but I'm having a hard time dealing with her lack of expressiveness.", "post": "Throw away since she knows my reddit account.\nBeen together for 8 months, almost 9. We're planning on living together. She's a great girl,and I'm sure I want to live with her.\n\nBUT.....\n\nThere's this situation where I write her letters, and make \"corny\" things for her (not sure if that's the term i'm looking for lol sorry, english is not my main language), write her very long and romantic texts, stuff like that.....Tell her everyday I love her, that she's beautiful etc... And although she says one onf the things she loves and makes her crazy about me is that, she does not do the same things.\n\nYeah, sometimes she surprises me with a card or some detail, but I'm at the point where, sometimes if I don't say \"I Love You\", she won't tell it. she also confessed me that it is very hard to her to express herself, and it's not only with me, all her life she was the same, but she thanks me because I'm helping her to develop that side.\n\nI want her to be more expressive, to tell me everyday that she loves me, misses me, I talked with her about this and she says she's making her best but I'm not seeing nor feeling a great step forward.\n\nI don't know what to do to stop making a big deal about this, but I really would love if she could be more expressive. Sometimes I think that maybe that's the way it should be but I don't know how to deal with it.\n\nWhat can I do?\n\nThanks in advance, /r/relationships!", "summary": "I am waaaay more expressive than my gf, this is like a big deal for me, don't know how to handle this situation. Please, help!"}
{"id": "t3_2y9wgb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by hooking a brother up with a condom.", "post": "So this happened about 12 hours ago, at 1am. At a small party at my house one of my close friends comes up to me asking me for a condom for later in the night. I was psyched for him because he doesn't get laid often and the girl hes seeing is a dime. Not wanting to go all the way upstairs into my droor, I took out my wallet and handed him my wallet-condom, which at the time I thought was a totally okay thing to have (And it is). So now at 1pm, I asked him how his night went, and he told me it was terrible, he had broke the condom in 2 minutes and the girl being super careful wanted him to get her Plan B, which you might know is quite expensive. At first I thought wow his dick must be fuckin' huge or something! Then I begin to think of when I first put that condom into my wallet, and realize it was a few months back. After a quick google search I have found out that it is totally okay to have a wallet-condom but keeping it in your wallet for more than a few days can be super bad for the condom.", "summary": "I gave a friend a condom that was destined to fail and possibly a child."}
{"id": "t3_2l4p89", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By gaming at work", "post": "This happened a few years ago when I worked in a pawn shop.  It was the slow season and we only dealt in gold, silver, and refurbished jewelry  .  So we were always kind of slow, but I had some great co-workers always had a good time.  We were having a sale on DVDs so more families were coming in to browse our selection. My boss and I started to play WoW, he never played so we had a big boost for him to level up. I had been a serious player so I hooked him up, ran him through and helped him in PvP.  \n\nWhile playing games we would take turns with customers. Today, there happened to be a lot of people in the store, particular ally kids. Remember how I said I was serious?  I was being killed over and over and yelled \"FUCK THIS GOD DAMED DRUID\" I could see everyone look at me. When the store cleared my boss and I had a great laugh.", "summary": "Playing Games at work and nerd raged in front of customers"}
{"id": "t3_14rosf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Question for everyone about healthy food/weight attitudes and raising kids", "post": "So I'm not really at the point in my life where I need to be worrying about this, but it's something that I've been thinking about as I browse the different threads on /r/loseit. \n\nWhat is the best way to instill a healthy food relationship in your children? What are things that did or didn't work for you growing up? What are things you're doing with your own children?\n\nI suppose one reason I'm asking is because this was never a huge deal in my house. My parents were both overweight, and while I feel like I was taught to cook and eat well nutritionally, it was the extra calories from snacking and desserts that were a problem in my house growing up. I played sports in high school, so even though I was heavy, I wasn't terribly unhealthy. My parents encouraged my sister and I to exercise, but never modeled it themselves. When I got to college and quit playing sports, I put on a lot of weight that I didn't start losing until 6 or 7 years later.\n\nAnyway, sometimes I wonder if my parents *had* said something to me when I started gaining so much weight if it would have made a difference. I love that my parents were always more concerned that my sister and I were happy than that we were skinny. But my sister started having health problems related to her weight, and so I think maybe addressing the issue of weight before it got so bad would have been beneficial.", "summary": "How do you raise kids with a healthy attitude towards food and exercise without pushing them either towards obesity or eating disorders?"}
{"id": "t3_o0bvx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I don't usually do this, but I could really use some girl advice", "post": "Okay, so let me get you up to speed. I'm a 20 year old guy, I'm a junior in college, and I've never had a real girlfriend before.  I've never been confident with women and I'm not gay or anything, I'm a pretty attractive guy and I hooked up with girls in the past, I've just never taken the step to actually ask a girl out.\nThis past summer, I met a girl that went to my high school. We had never met before in high school, but I had always thought she was really cute. So we met briefly a few times over the summer through my friend Dan, and I kind of noticed she smiled at me and watched me a lot. I didn't really get to know her that well, but developed a crush on her after talking to her and realizing she had a lot of similar interests (including smoking weed).  \nI never actually thought she was into me, until this winter break. She, Dan and I were supposed to hang out one night and smoke, but he had to work and I was worried I wouldn't get to see her. But a few days later, she ended up getting my cell # somehow and texted me saying that we should hang out before I go back to school.  I was really excited and agreed, and I've seen her a few times over break, but always with Dan, and sometimes much more people.  Anyway, us three hung out at Dan's house last night to celebrate his last night home before he goes back to school, and as we were leaving to drive back home, she recommended that we hang out before I go back to school.\nBut here's my dilemma: With myself going back to school in a week, is it worth trying to make a move on her?  I don't really like the girls at my college much, they're rude, stuck-up and rich, and I actually feel like she would be perfect for me and I want her to be my first girlfriend. So now I'm sitting here trying to figure out what to do, is she actually into me, and what do I say to her if I see her and we hang out alone for the first time? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Feel free to ask any questions.", "summary": "Never had a girlfriend, met a girl but go back to school in a week, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_bahd2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Lost.. Am i really ready for a child..", "post": "Ive seen so many of these lately.. i hate to add my own.. but here goes.. \n\nI never subscribed to the notion that we have a soul mate out there.. And I still don't.. 8 months ago i meet a great girl.. 3 months ago we started going out.. 1 week ago we found out she was pregnant..  now before the usual conclusions are jumped too.. we were using protection (obviously not enough) condom slipped (or broke depending on when the actual time was) and we purchased the MAP (Morning After Pill) the next day..   We are both in our early 30s and she already has a Child from a previous relationship (She has sole custody and father has never been in child's life) hes now 7..  Shes not sure what she wants to do.. but we know we want to stay together..  Ive worked hard over the last 4 years to achieve a lot.. (house being built.. Car I've always wanted.. Bike I've always wanted.. )  I know in a why I'm being selfish.. but i don't think i want this child at this time.. (yes i would like to have one with her in the future) With this house being finished it would be tight to support her, her son and our new child..  and shes not sure she can come back from aborting this potential child.   I'm not looking for whats wrong or whats right as its different for everyone.. i just want to hear from others.. Point of view perhaps...", "summary": "New GF, We have a great relationship and can talk about everything. shes pregnant and leaning towards keeping it.. I'm decently successful and unsure i can afford it all.. Just entertaining thoughts.."}
{"id": "t3_2asa02", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need some help getting back on track", "post": "Hi r/loseit, just joining after seeing this community do some actual good and I need some help and possibly some encouragement. \n\nI started my weight loss journey in January of 2013, coming out of college in May of 2012 I topped out at 303lbs. After getting acclimated to not drinking everyday and eating things other than junk I got down to 285 (what I graduated High school at) within a few months. Come January I decided to start doing something about it and go the gym 5 days a week and keeping track of my intake with MFP. \n\nBy June, I was a svelte 250 and felt great. I kind of coasted that summer but when August came I switched to a better, but much more demanding job where I am currently working long days. My workouts became more and more infrequent and grab and go meals became the norm. I am now sitting at 265 and need to push through.\n\nMy question to you lovely people is this, how? What do you all do to make sure you get that work out in? Any advice on what kind of meals I can plan ahead? Really any input would be extremely helpful. Thank you so much in advance!", "summary": "I was fat, I got less fat, now I'm a little more fat and need help"}
{"id": "t3_4d77vi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 f] found numerous mysterious numbers on my [26 m] boyfriend's cell phone.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years, and have lived together four out of the seven. \nFor christmas I bought him a new cellphone, and then I noticed a lot of \"wrong number\" calls to his phone.\nI noticed when he answered the calls around me he would hang up rather quickly.\n\nAbout two years ago he had a small breakdown with lots of crying telling me had gay thoughts. \nI love him very much, he is a great person, and if he is gay I told him I support him. \nI would still love to remain close friends.\nHis family is very conservative and basically of no support. \nHe assured me he was not gay and they were just thoughts due to a traumatic even he went through as a child.\n\nBack to the numbers,  he decides to walk the dog and leaves his phone in the living room. \nI called the numbers back and googled some of them, they all turn out to be gay men.\nI told him what I did while he was gone. He loses his shit, screams \"I AM NOT GAY\". \nHe then later convinces me its a coincidence. \nAnother number calls him later that night, I answer the phone because he was in the kitchen, a man says hello, then I said hello back, and click. He hangs up.\n\nI also went through his contacts and a man's number was saved in his phone, I asked who it was and how the number got in the phone, he tells me he does not know. He wishes he could tell me who it was and how it got in the phone but he does not know. \nI don't pay attention much to what he does as I always thought he would never cheat on me.\n\nAll my family loves him, he is just a kind person.\nHe gets angry anytime the subject is brought up.\nI feel like I am stupid and being played. \nHe seems to be into women, I've seen pornograpghy on the computer. \nI do not know what to do, believe him that I am paranoid and making little things out of nothing or he is cheating on me and move on.", "summary": "I found numerous wrong numbers on boyfriend's cell and one unknown contact.  Most of them belong to gay men, the others hung up when I anwsered the phone. I do not know if he is cheating on me or I am paranoid. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_y7eof", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was not there for my girlfriend when I should have been, how can I make it up to her?", "post": "Dear Reddit, I know this may seem like a trivial problem but I like this girl (read: love).  We've only been seeing eachother for less than 2 months but I am all about her.  Before I met her I used to hang out in bars all the time, like every day, getting drunk and closing out the bar.  Well she got terrible news yesterday that she was facing jail time for some draconian DUI laws in her homestate even though it was only her first offense and she was obviously very distraught.  She tells me this when she gets home and we're hanging out and having a good time.  Well I decide to take a shower and while i'm showering I decide I'd go downstairs to grab some dinner and probably grab a drink.  This was around 11:30.  I told her I was going to be right back after I got the food even though I knew I wanted to have some drinks and would probably stretch it out.  Well 2:00 am rolls around and i'm telling everybody at the bar i'm probably in trouble, joking around and thinking it's cool, but when I get home my girlfriend is not in bed.  She's outside smoking a cigarette and listening to music.  It's not that she is unhappy with me per se, she is just kind of disinterested and it makes her feel like she wants to slow the reigns etc. etc.  I am shocked to say it but I am truly distraught today after we talked last night and she said that it was ok but OK HERE IS MY QUESTION I\"M SORRY, anybody know how I can feel better :((((((( lol fuck.", "summary": "I'm a little bitch and need my girlfriend to love me to the max"}
{"id": "t3_19uk7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22m) need some advice about my current gf (20f) of 7 months :(", "post": "I'm at the end of my rope here and I could really use some advice on what to do. My girlfriend of 7 months is making me extremely unhappy and all talks to her about it pretty much end up with her telling me too, \"Stop being so emotional\".  It really hurts when she says stuff like that. Now I'm not a pussy, in fact I hardly ever share my emotions but it was her idea to start with that I \"express myself\". So it's like what the fuck, you wanted me to be more open and now you don't wanna hear about it? But there's more. She won't touch me, kiss me and barely ever hugs me unless I instigate it and all attempts of me doing any of the latter end up with her shirking away or telling me to quit it. Sex is non-existant now while it used to be uncontrollable in the beginning. Every time I try to start something she says it's creepy, I'm being gross, or she's not in the mood. It fucking hurts to hear your significant other tell you your fucking disgusting to her. I really don't know what happened. When the relationship first started she was all over me and now it seems like she gives two shits. What am I supposed to do? I thought about ending it but we JUST signed a lease for a new apartment so I can't just up and leave for awhile. \n\nNot only that but money is HUGE to her. I recently moved in with her after transferring from my store back home to this location so I'm fiscally wiped out. And yes I did warn her about me not having a lot of money. She told me not to worry about it :(. Yet she rubs it in my face ALL THE TIME that she pays the majority of rent and bills. She also uses it as an argument ender, which is why it's so hard for me to even talk to her about this stuff. Hell she treats the Goddamn dog better than me, even if he is super adorable.", "summary": "Girlfriend is a being a money grubbing bitch and all talks with her end up with me being called a pussy. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_15tsrc", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl [25] I've [M23] been dating for about 3 weeks just told me she's 6 months pregnant. I don't want to continue with her but I don't want to be an asshole about it.", "post": "Quick overview: met girl, got number, coffee date. On the date she mentions how she has 2 kids form her ex. I have no problem with kids, so while inconvenient, not a dealbreaker. We go on a couple more dates, start having sex. Yesterday (after hanging out a couple more times), she tells me, oh should've mentioned, I'm 6 months along (from a different guy); yes, somehow I missed this completely (if you knew me this probably wouldn't be a big surprise).\n\nDespite similar senses of humor and the fact that we both liked sex, I didn't really see this relationship going anywhere, and had pretty much told her so (specifically that I wasn't in for anything long term). She seemed ok with that. \n\nNow that I found out about this though, I'm sort of done. It's not the fact that she's pregnant that bothers me, but the fact that she'll soon have 3 kids, one a newborn, a full time job, and online school; I work two jobs and I don't feel like scheduling my life around her. So, basically, how can I break this off without coming off like a complete asshole.", "summary": "I'm bad at ending things like this, the fact that she's pregnant only complicates it. How do I end it gently?"}
{"id": "t3_3acdxd", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can my boss offer me a new position and retract his offer the following day?", "post": "I am employed at a summer camp and was offered a higher position that is a significant increase in responsibility and pay. He explained how I am the best option he has and praises the work I have done in the previous months. I expressed some concerns about the position, but he told me to think about it and come back. The next day, as a telling him I am ready to sign my new contract, he explains how I am unfit for the position and no long offered the job. He said has received applications for the open position will follow those up instead. Is that legal?\nIs an employer allowed to offer a job then take back the offer the next day?", "summary": "My boss offers me a raise and takes back his offer the next day. Can he do that?"}
{"id": "t3_3e05b0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] and bf [20 M] romance issues", "post": "So my SO and I have been dating for months now and our relationship feels very romantically challenged.  I have already talked to him about taking me on more dates because normally all we do is watch TV shows and have sex, but to no avail.  I am normally a very chill person, and love to do watch TV on my own for hours at a time, but not with other people.  And I like to sleep with him, it's enjoyable and fun!  But the problem is early on in our relationship he said something like, \"I show love through sex.\"  He rarely takes me on dates and when I finally told him we should do something for our 6 month anniversary (I debated this because I wanted him just to plan something) he said something like, \"Really? Ok, I'll plan something.\"  I felt like he should've known that our anniversary is big enough to do something other than Netflix and sex??  \n\nSex isn't that important to me, I like it, as I said, but it is NOT how I feel love is shown.  I have told him this, but he still doesn't seem to want to take me on dates, just Netflix and sex.  The last time I was on my period he said I love you first like 3 or 4 times, and told me \"I can't wait until I can sleep with you\".  But the second we could have sex again he said I love you about 15 times during it.  \n\nPlus I have friends who have been getting flowers from their SOs randomly and I don't think that idea has crossed my SOs mind. \n\nSo my question is, how do I get some more romance?  Or should I just start planning all of our dates even though I think I deserve spontaneous dates/flowers?  If I need to talk to him, what should I say?  I'm so horrible with confrontation that it's hard for me to have an honest discussion with him.  \n\nAnyways, thanks for your help!", "summary": "BF thinks sex=romance and I don't know if this is bad??"}
{"id": "t3_11p34q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something you do that took you a long time to realize not everyone does it?", "post": "Excuse the poorly worded question I didn't know how to better phrase it. \n\nMe:\nMy mind is a receptacle for useless pop culture facts. When I watch shows and movies, especially comedies, I will point out (or at least in my head because I don't want to be *that* person) when I see someone and know who they are, what they've been in and sometimes their 6-degrees from other actors. \n \nLike say for example: I was watching Freaks and Geeks. Rashida Jones has a recurring role in a few episodes. Jason Segal is also in Freaks and Geeks and later on they both starred in the movie I Love You Man. Paul Rudd is also in I Love You Man and he has had a recurring role on Parks & Recreation with Rashida Jones as well. Amy Poehler on Parks & Rec was also in Wet Hot American Summer with Paul Rudd and like a billion other comedians. Anyways the comedy world is a big incestual melting pot and for some reason my brain decides to remember all this really useful knowledge. It's not that I spend a lot of time or energy thinking about these things, it's just there floatin' around. It's fun sometimes.", "summary": "I didn't realize that not everybody has a mental IMDB directory."}
{"id": "t3_3hmcmb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Parents [50M/F] advising me [21M] to stop lifting/gaining weight ''because it doesn't fit your body''", "post": "Hi! I hope I'm allowed to post this here, if else I'll move it to relationships.\n\nMy body type is ectomorphs, which is useful for long distant running and such. I used to weight 58.5KG, at a height of 183 CM. I've always wanted to try and gain a bit more kilos, but failed many times. I want to be able to take off my shirt at the beach, I want to be able to play soccer without flying away and all the other activities.\n\nTired of the skinny guy problems I decided to change by hitting the GYM and eating more. But now that change is finally starting to come to realization, my parents are slowly discouraging me to continue and are advising me to stop. I went from 58.5KG to 64.6KG in a few months, and I'm very proud of my result. But my parents believe that my weight should stay at 64.6KG, and not increase to around 75KG (my goal).\n\nThey believe that my knees and ankles won't be able to hold it out, and when I get old I won't be able to walk properly anymore. Another believe is that ''Lifting is damaging your body because you're an ectomorph'', which frustates me... because there are plenty of other ectomorphs out there and are doing fine, right? Another reasoning they told me is that, even though I work hard now it wont matter because when I turn older I wont have control of my body and I will suddenly get fat or skinny and thus making exercising now useless.\n\nAre my parents right, is excising really damaging my body and will I regret doing it in the future? Or are they still used to seeing the skinny skeleton me, and they don't like change, which is what I tend to believe more but I'm doubting myself.", "summary": "Parents say I'm damaging my body, my body doesn't fit fitness/working out. Are advising me to stop."}
{"id": "t3_2401xv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Seeking kind words of wisdom, girlfriend just broke up with me after a year.", "post": "So my girlfriend [F 26] and I [M 25] have been together for a year and today was our anniversary. The past two weeks we were both on each others backs about random crap, sorta a mutual stressed out sensitive mesh. \n\nLast night we talked on the phone about what we need to do/change to make things better and by the end of the night we've both found our peace and was ready for things to get better. But this morning, out of the blue, she dumps me saying \"I turned her into a terrible person\" and \"Everything you say hurts me.\" \n\nIn this relationship I invested all of my available time and money into her and she was able to give up all the good times we had together for a crummy 2 weeks. I don't feel too good right now Reddit so any type of comment is appreciated, I just feel alone.", "summary": "Serious Girlfriend dumped me and I feel alone so please comment anything (i.e. a joke, advice, support, your favorite pie, etc.)"}
{"id": "t3_34jlpd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wiping shit on a sandwich", "post": "So me and my girlfriend broke up a while ago, but still meet up every once in a while to hookup. No reason we should both go without right? So we meet up last Wednesday and decide to stop by Zaxby's first for some kick ass chicken and root beer. She wants to eat first but I'm not really too keen on fucking on a full stomach. Nothing like food a food baby to throw off a boner. Well we get to it and are doing our thing when I get the bright idea to check her oil. Yep. Finger right in the butt. All is going well and we both finish and clean up and get our food out. I'm three bites into my sandwich when I realize I never washed my hands...I have been holding my sandwich with the hand I used to finger her asshole. Cue me freaking out and her laughing hysterically at my dumbass. We finally have a better story about the time when she blew me after peeing and I was too drunk the forget to make sure I was finished peeing.", "summary": "Fingered asshole. Ate it."}
{"id": "t3_3mhwh0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27m) best friend (27m)is beginning the process of divorcing his wife (24f). It's over money and their mutual inability to negotiate. How do I deal with him?", "post": "A lot of the relevant info is in the title. I'll tell a complete story. \n\nJim is my best friend from college. He is my polar opposite- a red-state, gun-toting, IRA-maxing, ex-marine guy from small town [rural state]. I'm his opposite on all things, but we have an incredibly close friendship and I trust and love him more than any other friend I have ever had. \n\n4 years ago, actually very early into our friendship, he met a girl I'll call Kelly. Kelly is a perfect match for Jim in many ways- shared values, a desire to have a stable home life and family, equally smart, etc. my biggest problem with Kelly is that she has the god-fearing woman complex, that she must have a man in her life giving direction. She was out of her fathers home for 8 weeks before meeting Jim and basically moved all of that over to him. \n\nJim, on the other hand, is stubborn and, while not stingy, very concerned with his finances. He paid for college himself, has a credit score that I can't even count to, and pays cash for everything. These are the positive aspects and I hope you can infer the negatives of his attitudes. He is very, very stubborn. \n\nThey got married when Kelly was 20, and I predicted they would divorce before she hit 30 because she would eventually want to be a person on her own terms. \n\nYesterday, Jim called me and said that he and Kelly were breaking up because of something concerning money- that she is being selfish and not letting him make his decisions. Much of him telling me how it is going to poorly for him because he is a rich, white, male that's going to get screwed because of [conservative narative]. \n\nHow do I help him clear his head, get through this as well as he can, and minimize the damage to his life?", "summary": "best friend is beginning the process of divorcing his wife and needs to be talked down. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_19ftjz", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(m23) got sort-of semi-friendzoned, not sure how to interpret situation.", "post": "So I met a very cool girl a couple weeks ago, asked her out, got two dates (Which went fantastic) and then got sort-of friendzoned.\n\nShe basically said that she's in an on-again-off-again relationship of 3 years with an ex boyfriend. He treats her like absolute shit, but I guess that's besides the point. She said she's not sure about dating, although she admitted to being attracted to me, and maybe considering dating me in the future. \n\nI told her I couldn't wait around for her and that I also couldn't just be friends. We decided to keep it friendly with the understanding that I'm still attracted to her, we're not going to hang out one-on-one anymore, and I'm going to pursue other women.\n\nSo I was quite distraught for a couple days (I had basically become deeply infatuated with her over the course of a week.), then I started calming down, got my groove back and nabbed three dates for this weekend. \n\nSo earlier today she texted me and asked what I was doing on the weekend. I told her I had some dates. She immediately seemed to get distant and cold, then admitted \"I'm a little jealous.\" In her words.\n\nI'm really hopeless when it comes to relationships and I'd love some help figuring this out. What is my best move here? I know I have three dates, but to be honest I'm still much more interested in her. She's a much higher caliber woman in every way than the dates I have lined up, and I have endless fun when I'm with her.\n\nWhat I DO know is that no matter what I'm going to go on my dates this weekend. What I'm not sure is how to deal with this girl. Even now that my infatuation has faded somewhat she remains one of the most beautiful, intelligent and interesting women I've ever met and I would be very glad to at least have the opportunity to date her and see how it works.\n\nI appreciate any comments and help in this matter.", "summary": "Asked girl out, got friendzoned, now girl is flirting more and jealous that I have more dates. Wat do?"}
{"id": "t3_1q4hb9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - two of them! Yoga and sexy boots - all in the same day :)", "post": "I've been wanting to post one of these for so long since it's been a while since I could say I've had a significant SV.  Yesterday I went to a yoga class for the first time in about 3 years and it was great.  I felt strong and honestly I didn't feel like I looked that bad either.  Not great, but not bad.  I wasn't hating myself during the class so that's at least something.  Then by the evening I felt like crap about myself again.  The negative thinking started in and I was telling myself that going to yoga didn't really matter because it wasn't a very hard class and that there was really no point in my trying to look better because I was always going to be fat and ugly.  \n\nIn spite of all the bad things I was telling myself last night I decided to go to another yoga class again this morning.  This time it was a hard class.  I struggled through some of the more difficult poses but I still did it and while I certainly wasn't the best in the class, I wasn't struggling the most either.  \n\nThen after the class, because I was feeling pretty good about myself, I decided to go shopping.  While at the store I tried on a pair of knee high leather boots.  AND THEY FIT!  This may not sound like a big deal but in the past when I wanted to buy a pair of tall boots, I couldn't find any that were wide enough in the calf for me.  Believe it or not, this was the first time since just after high school when I was skinny and underweight that I've been able to put on a pair of boots like that.  Unfortunately I couldn't buy them because they were too expensive but who cares, the point is that my fat legs were not the reason I couldn't have them.", "summary": "I ignored all the bad things I've been thinking about myself and worked out anyway and I guess my legs are not as fucking huge as I thought."}
{"id": "t3_4tcbvq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 3 years, she asks for a break up.", "post": "She's my first girlfriend, and would be mad if I don't text her even for a single day. Texting is mandatory. It also feels time consuming since we'd spend like 2 hours texting everyday. Sometime when I was feeling sleepy I'd just try not to fall asleep just to reply to her messages, because sometimes she won't let me sleep.\n\nWe've been into a fight a lot. Most of it was because of minor things such as me falling asleep or just want to do other stuff besides texting her. These past three days I was busy and was so tired that I fell asleep before I even managed to text her. As a result for the past 3 continuous days I hadn't had the chance to text her a lot (Only managed to text her a few messages, like where I'm going etc).\n\nOn the third night I was super tired and fell asleep right after I arrived at home. Slept at 7pm and woke up 2am. I texted her that I'm sorry I fell asleep again. And now she's just angry, saying that it's because I'm not prioritizing her.\n\nAfter some arguments being thrown to and from each other, she asked me if I want to call it a quit. Both she and I realize we're just hurting each other this way. Now that I think about it, I've endured a lot, like texting her even when I'm not in the mood or forcing me to see her family even when I told her I think it's too early. And she, too, must have endured a lot of my lack of ability to entertain her whenever she want.\n\nWhat do you guys think? Sorry if my writing isn't as detail as it should be. I'm not good at writing. If you have any further question, please do ask.", "summary": "GF mad cause I feel asleep for 3 days straight before texting her, now calls fora break up."}
{"id": "t3_211gkj", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Awoman I met hasn't responded to text since 4 days", "post": "The other day I met a woman who is about my age(18-19) and we instantly clicked with each other, I found out something that she liked and we spoke about that for a good amount of time. It turned out that she was taking a language course of a language that I speak fairly well, and she said something along the lines of \"you should help me because I have a test soon\". I got her phone number and sent her a text message a few hours later on in the day, sometime around 8:30 PM or so. The conversation is going nicely, she suddenly starts speaking in the language and things were going well. I decided to ask her (in the language) if she has free time the next day and that I can help her if she has some time. Now I haven't received a response since ~4 days, her Test has already passed. I thought that she was probably busy, but I remembered that she told me that she is sometimes socially anxious, so I think it could be her being too shy or something. The message mightve also been a bit difficult for her to understand, but I don't know. I don't think she is \"over\" me, since she seemed very nice and we had a good discussion earlier. My friend who was there for part of the time even told me that he thought she probably liked me(the way she looked at me, was interested as we spoke, etc) and she seemed happy in the texts(used some smiley faces, and was nice)\n\nSo now I am thinking about sending her a text today or tomorrow, asking how the test went, because I really enjoyed talking to her and want to get to know her better. But I am afraid I will come off as too \"needy\" or something. I don't see her until 2 days from now and it's not certain that I will. I am really not sure what to do, since I have been thinking about her this entire week, I just want to be able to talk to her a bit.", "summary": "Met a shy girl who seemed interested. texted her, suddenly she stops responding and now I wonder if I should text her or wait til I might see her. "}
{"id": "t3_1v011u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm kinda confused [18M] about this girl [18F], need advice on how to go on", "post": "I met this girl during the summer of my best friend, i never talked to her much cause i'm shy so i didn't really know her. Fast forward to the last week of december, i go out clubbing with friends and she's there, we start talking dancing and i could tell she wanted me to kiss her, but me being shy i never did.\n\nNext day new year's i went to a party where she was going to be at, at midnight she asked me to be her new yeas kiss and from then the whole night i was with her(no sex). A week later we went out played pool and she kissed me once at the end before she left. \n\nLast night at a party her friend told me she likes me and that i'm sweet but, they are going travelling in 3 weeks and it wouldn't seem smart to start dating. I went up to her talked to her about it and she was up for trying it for 3 weeks. We've texted a couple of time since but i'm still confused on if we are actually dating for now or still in that \"are they gonna do it or not stage\".", "summary": "Been on with this girl and not sure if we're dating now or not."}
{"id": "t3_16fbpr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "It's Friday night, and that makes me uncomfortable.", "post": "Let me come right out and say that this is a pansy relationship post.\n\nMy ex-girlfriend broke up with me right at a month ago. I found out a week ago today that she has already fucked 2 guys. I've been very torn up about the whole ordeal. It got better as the week progressed, but now it's Friday night, and I feel horrible because I'm pretty sure of what she's doing (whether it's all in my head or not). I'm pretty good at hiding my feelings, and I've had to for the past week, as my friends and I have been on a trip in Colorado. The line from the movie Oldboy, \"Laugh, and the world laughs with you. Weep, and you weep alone.\" has been a huge help, but tonight I couldn't contain it. Talking/writing about has proven to be therapeutic, so I wanted to get it out. Thank you, Reddit, for being a sounding board. I hate this.", "summary": "Ex has already been with 2 guys since we broke up a month ago, have been ok, but it's Friday night, and I feel like I know what she's up to. Wanted to get it off my chest because it hurts keeping it bottled up."}
{"id": "t3_dx3bz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I still talk to her?", "post": "Hey guys, so I know this girl in my university and I kinda like her. I had randomly started  talking to her while doing homework in the library, and then met her again like a semester later. We talked for a few hours and I helped her do her homework (she just needed some info and pics off Google). I learned she is into soccer and asked her if she wanted to join me later that evening. I gave her my number, but she never called back. This was like a month or so ago. A week ago she shows up out of the blue and says, \"hey sup?\" to me and we chat a bit, and then I walk away. Later that night I meet her again in the library and we have a small chat before we start doing our homework. A few hours pass by and I was really wanting to talk to her, but I didn't want to be a bugger cuz she never called me back earlier. Anyway, I approach her and ask her hows she doing. She replies with her back facing me and never turns around. I felt like a d'bag and I walked away the moment she finished. I didn't talk to her for a while, but I did say bye to her later to which she turned around with a smile and greeted me good night and all the usual stuff very sweetly. This really confused me! Now yesterday I see her again in the library, and she notices me walk in - she kinda had the smile hiding face or whatever you call it. IDK if it was cuz she thinks of me as a library-creeper or she was in a fix whether to say hey or not cuz she didn't. I simply ignored her and found my way to a seat away from her.\n\nNow, I do not want to hurt my self-respect anymore, but she is really pretty and I really want to know her more. I am not sure if she is playing hard to get or not interested as she has mixed emotions towards me. What would you do, Reddit?", "summary": "I met this girl a while ago; she has mixed emotions towards me - ignorance and being sweet at times; I like her but do not want to hurt my self-respect; idk if she is playing hard to get, or is not interested. Help me!"}
{"id": "t3_2kbo2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my 'Girlfriend'[00 f] She lives far away, should I stay with her?", "post": "Ok to start it off, I think she is honestly the most amazing person in the world and aside from this rather large 'bump' we fit together absolutely perfectly.\n\nWe met when I was looking to go to a university in New Zealand online, I had originally intended to go over there (I live in Britain) however could not afford it. We still hit it off and went from being friends - best friends - too waiting for eachother not only romantically, but sexually (I can still go over there maybe one or two times a year, with her coming over here once a year)\n\nBut the problem simply is the space between us, I'm thinking of moving over there in three years but not only is there the time between me being at university to coming over, but also that presents a whole host of problems with our families etc. \n\nI'm gonna be incredibly upset if I have to break things off, she is honestly the most brilliant person ever but can this really work?", "summary": "Me and a girl from different sides of the world are in love with each other, and I'm not sure if this will work."}
{"id": "t3_y0rem", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit, how did you discover masturbation? possibly nsfw?", "post": "(Male) Easy one for me, I was a little kid like, 5th grade or so. I did homework quite frequently on the floor in front of the T.V., my lower body pressed against the hardwood floor with my upper body somewhat upward to allow writing and stuffs. So there was a show (can't remember for the life of me) regarding a snow day, and kids making snow angels and other-snow related activities. Now, where I'm from, we don't get snow, we get rain at best so my curiosity sparked, I decided to copy what those kids did, and before you know it, I felt a pleasant feeling and I'd probably describe it as fucking amazing. I did it for many years, until I guess I discovered the \"proper\" way to do it.", "summary": "snow angels are also fucking amazing."}
{"id": "t3_3svrc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] and my GF [21 F] have been together for two weeks now, my second relationship, I don't like the insecurities...", "post": "Look, it's nothing too big. This is my second proper relationship. Right now, it's starting to be just like the first one I had. I love spending time with her, but as soon as the new week starts and we separate until Thursday/Friday, I start feeling this stupid insecurity again. I'm gonna assume most people know what I'm talking about, the thing that goes hand in hand with freshly having a crush on someone. \n\nAnyways, I'm just looking for ways to deal with it, to avoid it a little more because frankly, I don't like it. That's all. \n\nAlso I'm looking for ways to keep up a conversation via text message. Not looking to constantly text back and forth, but it would be nice not to have every attempt shipwreck after two or three messages.", "summary": "Looking for help with the anxieties and insecurities in a new relationship. You know, when we're not hanging out."}
{"id": "t3_29kx7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [18/F] recently starting talking again to a guy she hooked up and it makes me [19/M] super uncomfortable.", "post": "**Background**\n\nLast week i had found out that my girlfriend started to talk to a guy that she had hooked up with in the past. This guy that  she had hooked up with is a complete dick. He was only using her to try to get with another girl and my girlfriend genuinely had feelings for him. \n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and up to this point i have been feeling great about my relationship with her. She makes me very happy.\n**Problem**\n\nMy girlfriend recently started to talk to this guy, and very often. They are constantly texting, or at least whenever I'm with my girlfriend, i see his texts pop up on her phone. And this past Friday, they hung out together, and alone. This makes me very uncomfortable.\n\nDespite me telling her that i don't like her hanging out with him, she says that she is over the fact that he had used her and hurt her and that she now wants to be friends with him. \n\nMy girlfriend told me that she doesn't want me controlling what she can or can't do, but in my perspective I don't think I'm trying to control her. I just don't feel comfortable with her talking to this guy and hanging out with him. \n\nI feel that my girlfriend should understand that i hate the fact that she is hanging out with him and talking to him so often. It makes me question  my relationship. If she really has strong feelings for me, i feel that she should try to stop whatever it is that is making me feel uncomfortable, because if she felt uncomfortable I would try to solve the problem as quickly as possible.\n\nAny advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My girlfriend refuses to stop talking to a guy she hooked up with, despite the fact that i have told her it makes me uncomfortable."}
{"id": "t3_3iw8i9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by grabbing a pile of dog crap", "post": "I water my grass a bit in the mornings before work. It still dark and I have a sprinkler on the end of a hose. Usually I water 3 areas, so I have to move the sprinkler twice each morning. \n\nToday I ran out to grab the sprinkler to move it, dodging it's spray. In the dark, and my haste, i didn't grab just the hose, but the hose and a pile of freshly watered dog crap. \n\nNeedless to say, I had to hold on so I could lean the sprinkler away from my face. Tis better to have dog crap on your hand than to have dog crap on your hand and a sprinkler spraying you in the face. \n\nSide note, before I get beat up. I live in the Midwest. We have water. Lots of it. It's nice. Also, I only water a small backyard because it helps my poor dog, whose allergies have her feet nearly bald. \n\nAlso, this TIFU happened earlier this week, but I did a TIFU that day by trying to post this the day it happened. Apparently people can't handle poop during the week. I really hate ridiculous rules.", "summary": "I grabbed a hose in the dark and got a shitload more than I bargained for."}
{"id": "t3_13119i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone else have moments where everything gets heavy, or amplified?", "post": "All my life I've been experiencing this, but until a few hours ago I hadn't met anyone else. Turns out the only one I haven't asked about it was my little brother, and he gets it sometimes as well.\n\nIt's never happened frequently (like five to ten times a year maybe), and even less now (I'm 24) than around my early teenage years. \n\nIt usually happens when I'm alone. Everything amplifies, and I feel like the gravitational pull increases dramatically. Sounds seem crazy loud, especially the ones you don't pay attention to normally, like the clock ticking or your keyboard when you type. When I read I read it like shouting in my head, same goes for when I type in something myself.\n\nAnyway, after him telling me he had it as well, I was wondering if there are anyone else out there?", "summary": "Me and my brother might just be fucking weird."}
{"id": "t3_4pwui8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you leave your soulmate? Or how can you fix a relationship that feels broken? Me [23F] and my Soulmate [23 M]", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend (23) for the past 3 years and although it has been full of crazy ups and downs I love the guy with all of my heart. When we both met it really was love at first sight and I felt a wave of sparkles that I have never felt before take over my body and I knew deep down inside this guy is going to be the love of my life. Things were never easy from the start but we honestly got through it because I know he loves me and I love him too. He knows me better than I know myself, and he helped me become the better person I am today and I am so thankful for him. For the first year and a half I can honestly say I treated him horribly and did things to him that I never should have and I wish I could take it back but we all know that we can't do that in life. Why I did those things? I believe I've had a tough childhood and been in terrible relationships but he stuck through all the bad things and still treated me like a princess in the end, but no one can put up with the amount of issues I had given him it was seriously one of those deals where I was blessed with someone I felt like I didn't deserve. I wasn't always bad to him but I also wasn't the best gf I should've been. \n\nWe are currently still together but for the past year and a half we have been off and on and its driving me insane, it drives both of us insane, we have cheated on each other, said the worst things together and left when things got hard, but we always find our way back to each other and we just can't let each other go. I never do want things to end but its gotten to a point where I no longer can handle the pain of thinking we are done and then going back to each other and believing we can. Im just trying to look for some support or see if anyone has ever been in a situation kind of like miner", "summary": "My soulmate and I believe we are the ones for each other but it feels like our relationship is damaged? I need help!?"}
{"id": "t3_13zi87", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I (19/m) get over that my gf (19/f) isn't a virgin", "post": "I have been in love with this girl for a long time, to the point where I never even considered having sex with anyone. She has lived a normal college life, though, with casual sexual encounters, etc. And it is eating me up and making me cringe and making me feel let down that she had sex often before we dated. I know it is selfish, but I can't get over it. I guess I feel like I am not giving her anything special; she has had great sex before, and she has had meaningful sex before. What is so different about me? I don't know, but something about her not being a virgin while I was is tormenting me, and I can't put a finger on why. How can I accept this?", "summary": "can't reconcile that my gf is sexually experienced... don't see how our sex is special to her"}
{"id": "t3_11d0pc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29/m] About to travel to meet love interest, but she's got cold feet [31/f]", "post": "* She doesn't live in the same city as me, but both of us plan on moving within the course of the relationship(assuming one develops) regardless of whether anything develops.\n* I summoned up the chutzpah to ask her if she'd be interested in my visiting/staying at her place for the weekend, and she went for it\n* we've been friends for years but not very close\n* she's recently single\n* she is really good at reading people and can probably see through my conscious and unconscious thinking\n* she  left me a message telling me that \"i'm not obligated\" to come...which might be in reaction to something I said..but I'm reading that somewhere between 'cold feet' and 'she doesn't want me to come'\n* I'm not sure if it's a good idea to be *totally* open about my understanding this since there is no  relationship per se yet bringnig the status of it out into the open so soon might doom it prematurely.  Normally I would talk about these things in the course of a relationship but not enough groundwork of common trust", "summary": "I think she's genuinely interested but has cold feet because I took too big of a step and escallated things beyond her comfort level.  I care about her and just don't want to frighten her away and I'm not really sure how to react."}
{"id": "t3_19or9f", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Having trouble whether or not to just forget my gf's mistakes", "post": "Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over 10 months. the first 3 months of the relationship she had lied - a lot. 1 month later i had found out about the MAJOR things she had lied about. i then broke up with her for about a week or two. she then came to me and begged me back (i tried breaking up with her 3 times when i had found out about the lies but she had been crying and begging then too). She had told me she was an idiot and she realized her ways. \n\nWe got back together and have been together since. i will admit, she has been completely changed from then. But like i said, she had lied a lot. I only found out about the big stuff. It seems like every month i findd out about another lie(not as major, changed stories about an ex and other stuff). They're all lies she either told back in the first 2 months of dating or before we dated. they seem like little lies but they're lies nonetheless and it makes me think back to her previous mistakes. It makes me incredibly angry thinking about it. every time we talk about it, it always ends up with me yelling and being incredibly angry and with her crying and being upset. we always make up later but i'm just not sure now-a-days. If i keep finding these little white lies, should i just ignore them? I'm looking for honest advice.", "summary": "I keep getting mad at lies i find out about our early relationship/gf's past and it makes me remember the lies she had told in the begining which infuriates me. What do i do when i find out another little lie?"}
{"id": "t3_2n4kch", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I deal with this shy guy?", "post": "This one's for the guys out there, particularly shy guys. (scroll down if you don't want to read everything)\n\nThere is a boy in one of my classes who I am certain likes me. I had never noticed him before, until one day he approached me to ask when the next test was and we had a short conversation. \n\nThen, I started noticing that he was constantly looking at me, sitting exactly one seat down from me wherever I sat in the class (haha), and other signals. One day he sat directly next to me, but me being oblivious, I didn't talk to him at all. Afterwards, I realized he had wanted me to talk to him, but was too shy to start a conversation.\n\nNow that I finally realized he's been trying to get me to notice him all semester, I would like to get to know him better. However, I have no experience with shy guys, and am used to always having guys approach me. I'm a bit nervous in how to approach this situation. \n\nI was thinking about sliding him my number at the end of class the day before break. The semester's almost over and I can sense he may not make a move if I don't show any interest. Is this a good idea? If not, what else should I do? His nervousness around me makes me a bit nervous, and I know it would be difficult for me to initiate a convo without being awkward about it.", "summary": "Shy guy in my class has liked me all semester, but I've been to oblivious to notice. Now that I finally noticed him, I'm too nervous to approach. Should I give him my number before break and let him handle the rest?"}
{"id": "t3_4ojbu3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 F] with my husband [33 M] is chewing tobacco behind my back and lying about it.", "post": "My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We are expecting a baby at the end of August. In the past, I have caught him lying about chewing tobacco, but never in the last year. I thought he was done with it. But recently, I was looking for nail clippers and looked in his grooming kit where I found a stash of it. I asked him about it and he told me he's been doing it a few times a day (some days not doing it at all though). He said he's trying to quit and wants to quit. He doesn't want our son that we're going to have to develop the habit. I told him to come talk to me whenever he feels a craving because I want to help him quit. \n\nBut this morning, I woke up and there was an empty pop bottle in the trash with chew residue in it. I'm not sure if I should ask him if he did it last night and see if he lies to me. \n\nI watched my grandmother go through lung cancer treatments and ultimately die from it. She was the closest family member I have and it's made me have a strong hate for tobacco. We live in a state where marijuana is legal and his job allows him to smoke. He's smoked weed for several years and I have absolutely no problem with it. But every time I think about tobacco and the harsh chemicals in it, and what it can do to a person, it really hurts me.\n\nMy friends say I'm overreacting. They say \"he could be doing worse.\" But I don't care. I don't like that I may one day have to see my husband go through treatments for cancer just like my grandma. It really hurts my heart and it's making me really stressed out. \n\nI don't know what the right thing to do is here... I know I can't control him. He knows how I feel about it but chooses to do it behind my back anyway. I don't know what the right thing is and I'm feeling really lost and hurt right now. So any advice how to approach this is appreciated.", "summary": "Watched my grandmother die from lung cancer from smoking. I don't want to watch my husband do the same thing. We have a baby on the way. My friends think it could always be worse and I'm overreacting."}
{"id": "t3_2q8xu8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU at a memorial service", "post": "This happened to me yesterday. \n\nI work for a church as the Assistant to Senior Adult Ministries. Yesterday I was attending a memorial service for a lady who had been married for 68 years! I sat on the back row. One one side of me was the Pastor's secretary and on the other side was our Senior Adult Minister (my boss) and his wife. Anyways, toward the end of the service I found it hard to stay awake and during the final prayer, I guess I dozed off. Somewhere in the middle of his prayer, I was awaken by a rather loud moaning noise. I almost instantaneously realized that this noise came from me.\n\nI've been told before that when I sleep, I sometimes make these weird moaning noises. Making such noises could bring me embarrassment...if I knew I really was making them. The thing is, I never believed my family when they would try to give me a hard time about this. Well, now I believe them.\n\nI immediately looked around me to see if anyone else had reacted to these noises. Everyone had their funeral faces on. They were quiet and had this reverent demeanor about themselves. I couldn't tell. As the prayer went on, I made a couple more noises to make it sound as if I were just agreeing with the prayer. I'm just hoping that no one contributed this moaning to me.", "summary": "I fell asleep during a memorial service and made moaning noises that woke me up."}
{"id": "t3_14dvdg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "23 (m) meet a girl online. Don't want to scare her away.", "post": "Hi I met a girl on a online dating site that I have fallen for.\n\nI have been a member there for half a year but this is the first girl I have fallen for. Now I want to meet her IRL because one thing I am afraid of regarding online dating is falling for a girl online and talk for a very long time and then realize when meeting IRL that we ain't for each other. That the time from meeting online and than seeing each other IRL is to long. That is the reason I want to meet as soon as possible. But I wonder when is it to early to propose that we should meet IRL? We have been talking on facebook for a little less than a week now. She is less than an hour away so it is not a trouble getting to her and then going back the same day. If we don't like each other IRL. But I don't want to scare her away.\n\nI also have trouble that if it is to much say hi everytime I see her online on facebook. So I don't do that. Because I don't want to sound needing and scare her away. Is it to much?\n\nI believe she is intresting in me because she was the one that contacted me on the site. And she replay to everyone of my messages and we talk for hours online.", "summary": "Don't want to scare her away. What to do to be smooth?"}
{"id": "t3_g5f6u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you need help spiffying up your resume?", "post": "Hi folks,\nI want to give back to Reddit.\nReddit has given me so much and I just want to give back to the community.\n\nIm thinking about setting up a designated email address to provide you guys with, and when I have time I will just spiffy up your resume (I am a hiring manager) and give you tips on the Application Process.\nBefore I do this I just wanted to ask you guys, what do you think? Would this help you or would I be wasting my time?\n\nThere is also the ethical issue of me giving you the upper hand for a short part of any given Application Process- but if you truly are not a good fit for a position then I believe the hiring manager can determine this at the personal interview stage.\n\nI want to get you guys interviews. And hopefully jobs.\n\n99% of the resume's that come in to my business are crap. I hate seeing this, because who knows if this person would be a great hire but they just dont know how to express that on paper? And most people are not to blame, because most people were never properly taught how to write a resume.\n\nI do the hiring for my restaurant, although Ive been told by others in the field that our Application Process trumps most large corporations and research firms and is way more technical than most Application Processes.", "summary": "I am a hiring manager and I want to give back to the reddit community by editing resumes and dishing out advice straight from the source."}
{"id": "t3_1sqmad", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Got into a car accident.. need legal advice", "post": "This happened in California while I was driving on a local street to home. I was driving in the left lane on a main street that no where close to an intersection. The other car was in the middle lane and I guess the guy didn't check his blind spot because next thing I know he hits me. The damage on my car is on the passanger's side (behind the front wheel but in front of the side mirror) & the damage on his car is on his left bumper. \n\nThere was no police report and the guy is apparently claiming that I was trying to make a left turn on an intersection when he hit me..?  Apparently he has an attorney & I'm not sure if I should get a lawyer also. His son called me today & asked me to re-email him the insurance information because the information I gave him was apparently wrong. However, I talked to my insurance and they had already talked to the guy's insurance company so I'm not sure if he's lying or not. He also wants me to send me pictures of my car's damages because his father didn't take pictures of the damages. I know I shouldn't agree to that but is it safe to even send him the insurance information when it seems that our insurances are already talking?", "summary": "Should I bother interacting with this guy and should I ask for legal advice from a lawyer because this guy is lying? Or should I wait until the insurance companies have a final answer."}
{"id": "t3_2t2tok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] met someone amazing recently [26M] but now they are back at school", "post": "I met a great guy over Tinder. He's originally from my area and was home for winter break when we met up. The dates went very well and we have been talking frequently ever since. We are added on each other's social media accounts as well. \n\nHe went back to grad school really far away but I have no idea when I'll see him again. He is clearly interested and so am I; we have stated so to each other. I am currently applying to grad school all over the country as well, but I don't know where I'll end up. I have been updating him on this development but he has only been supportive of whatever I want. I think he also is afraid of saying anything too soon via texting. \n\nI'm confused as to how I should approach the topic of us having a future together. I don't know if I should suggest Skype dates or phone calls because we did only have 2 dates. I don't wanna blow things up really fast, especially because I don't think I'll see him in person for a few months.", "summary": "Met a great guy over Tinder during his winter break. Went out on 2 great dates before he went back to school 2,000 miles away. We have told each other we are interested but I have no idea where to go from here or if I should suggest a meet up date in the near future."}
{"id": "t3_2gtqpk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [24 M] thinking of ending things with my girlfriend [22 F] of 8 months but we are taking a mini vacation away together tomorrow. What should I do?", "post": "So I'm honestly at a loss right now. I truthfully feel as though I had a great run with my current girlfriend, but there are definitely a lot of things she is missing in terms of what I want out of a relationship. We hardly connect on many topics including music, tv, hobbies, and honestly even sex is a little too bland for my liking.  \n  \nTo be fair though she is quite fun since she's up for anything so I thought about a month ago it would be a cool idea for us to go on a little mini vacation/roadtrip together (Friday - Monday). Aside from a concert that we are seeing on Saturday (of which I found out she only agreed to go because I wanted to... which is actually a bigger bummer than you would imagine) I'm not too stoked to go. I feel as though I could make it through this weekend but I want to spare her feelings during this whole thing as well.  \n  \nWe're also in a sticky situation right now where she visits me for a couple days at a time and has no access to her home that is a 1 hour train ride away. So right now if I were to break up with her she would be completely screwed otherwise forced to sleep at my apartment.  \n  \nMy solution to this is to break up with her sometime next week after the vacation but I'm not sure if this is cruel. I legitimately do not want to hurt her but I also do want to go through with this, although I am slightly okay with continuing with this vacation... just not sure if it is morally okay.  \n  \nSo that was a bit of a rant but I'm hoping some of you could shed light on what I could do here. I know that she loves me quite a lot and that she is very into me. I mean it definitely shows but it's just not there for me.  \n  \nThanks guys", "summary": "I'm going on a trip with my girlfriend right now but I honestly feel like I just want to break up with her. Is it morally okay to wait until after the trip together?"}
{"id": "t3_1u1ppf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] have a problem with my girlfriend [17F] of seven months, communication problem", "post": "This is my first post ever and it feels rather silly to seek advice on the internet, but I don't know what to do.\n\nMy girlfriend has had a very troubled childhood, bad father, emotionally fragile mother. I have autism (but it isn't that bad, I can communicate). My girlfriend will not talk to me and will not tell me what went wrong when something bad happened. I don't understand what happened and she will (or can) not help me understand. She is definitely the sweetest girl ever and I'm sure that she loves me too and I want to stay together for as long as possible, but I don't know what to do when this happens.\n\nExample\n\nI tried to help out by giving options about lending a bike for new year's eve for a friend of hers. She promised her friend that her friend could borrow my girlfriend's mother's bike. For some reason she got really frustrated at me and I don't know why.\n\nI just don't know how to talk about important things when she keeps shutting herself off. Basically my question is, how do I get her to communicate better with me? Or am I percieving this wrong and am I unable to communicate well enough?\n\nPlease help me", "summary": "Can only communicate to a certain extent, would like to know how to improve our communication."}
{"id": "t3_4001yf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents wont let me [20 M] with my gf [21 F] go on vacations alone", "post": "I've been almost 3 years with my girlfriend. My parents (around 45/50 both) are very kind to her. Everything is great on that aspect.\n\nWe wanted to go for a little vacation for a weekend. I told my parents I wanted to go with my girlfriend for a weekend. The only reason my father gave me was that he was raised like \"the old way\" or something like that (don't know how to translate it right to english) and he wont let me go alone with my gf. My mom didn't say anything. Both come from very conservative families and are very religious (catholic).\n\nWhat can I do to convince them? I can't even be alone with my gf in my own house. Of course my gf is on birth control, and she doesn't want to have kids at all.\n\nI've always been a calm guy. Almost no partying, no drinking, no drugs or anything like that. Never been in trouble. Very responsible and kind to everyone. What am I doing wrong? What do I have do?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "Very religious and conservative parents wont let me to go on a weekend vacation alone with my gf."}
{"id": "t3_3fjlny", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shit in my mom's daisies", "post": "So, this TIFU was a few years back. Some context first: I live in South Africa in my parent's house, and the houses here are all behind huge walls. We also have people called 'gardeners' - these are local 'African' people that will come to your house once a week and trim your roses and mow your lawn. We had a really nice guy named 'Gift', and he had been our gardener for a few years. I grew to like him, we were buddies.\nOkay onto the FU. I was about 16 at the time, and my mate's mom had dropped me at home after school one day. The drive home had taken forever as I was desperate for the loo! I rang the doorbell and no-one was there. I rang for ages in desperation. \nThe log was slowly showing it's head. I didn't have keys to get onto my property let alone get into the house to use the loo. So, I did manage to climb over the wall, and I sat on the lawn to contemplate life, sweat, and hope that one of my parents would arrive home asap.\n\nFinally I couldn't hold it all in any more and decided to make my way about 2-3 feet into the flower bed to let nature have it's way. I squatted down in the daisies and produced a rather large specimen. Using leaves to wipe, I quickly (& cowardly) stood up and jumped out of the bushes in-case my folks arrived home and bust me.\nThat was that. All done and forgotten.\n\nA few weeks later I had noticed that my dad had been doing more and more in the garden, however the lawn was getting longer. Things were looking un-kept. I realised I hadn't seen Gift for a while so decided to ask my dad what had happened to him.\n\"I fired him because he took a shit in the flowers\"", "summary": "I went poopoo in the daisies. My gardener got fired because of it."}
{"id": "t3_1dwn6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (38M) partner (29F) cries whenever a serious topic is approached. Consistently. It's driving me crazy. Any advice?", "post": "Throwaway because she is also a redditor.\n\nBackground: We have been together for over 2 years and are really a good match for each other.  We have a vibrant life and share many experiences together.  We both consider the relationship to be equal, and both partners strive to hold up their end of the partnership with regards to work and household.  Sex is great and had at least once a day.  Communication is open and honest, and we jointly make major decisions.\n\nThe only real lasting problem that I have is that she is extremely emotional.  It doesn't matter how vanilla the topic, she can break down into tears at the drop of a hat.  A few weeks back, she broke down and had a meltdown over getting kittens.  I was not opposed, and offered no resistance to the idea.  For whatever reason, this resulted in her SOBBING while we were tucked away in our friends' guest bedroom.\n\nI can usually accept it for what it is and normally hug her and try to calm her.  I am increasingly getting frustrated with this behavior, however.  I have talked to her about this and told her how it makes me feel.  She has agreed to work on it, but it is continuing.\n\nIt has an especially profound impact when it IS regarding something important.  If I broach a topic or call her out on dropping the ball over something, the waterworks start and I feel like I have just clubbed a baby seal.  We even refer to it as \"clubbed-seal mode\" in the relationship.\n\nDoes anyone out there have any advice?  Do any of you have a SO that reacts this way?  How do you compromise and work past it?  Any insight would be helpful.", "summary": "SO can become extremely emotional, it is having an impact on our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_27fk3b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(22f) boyfriend(23m) is much more socially gifted than I am, and makes me feel awkward when we get in social situations.", "post": "My boyfriend is a gifted conversationalist, and I am not. He's introverted but not at all socially anxious, where I am introverted and frequently socially anxious. Even when I'm not socially anxious, I dislike talking to most people, not because I don't like them personally, but because I'm just not a chatty person. \n\nThis has caused issues. My boyfriend will meet someone and they will talk to each other for a decently long time, while I stand there awkwardly. It makes me feel invisible and boring and creepy, and while I don't want to ban him from meeting new people, I also really hate the feeling of standing by until his conversation is finished. I would try to join in on the conversation, but I can never think of anything to say.\n\nI'm at a loss on how to deal with this issue. It's not hurting our relationship much, but even after talking about this issue at length, we can't figure out a good compromise.", "summary": "my boyfriend is social while I lurk awkwardly."}
{"id": "t3_3gq7m4", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Total Lack of Experience", "post": "Let's start off by saying that I'm a bit socially awkward, and kind of a worrier......\n\nI knew this girl in high school, never had the nerve to ask her out, really wanted to ask her to prom, but could never work myself up to doing it. Never had a girlfriend in high school, and very few dates after.\n\nNow, 12 years after high school, a customer of mine gave me two tickets to a Cubs/White Sox game, and I thought it would be fun to go with her, her (30 F)being a Sox fan, me (30M)Cubs. She seems really excited to go, so I asked her out for drinks.\n\nWe went out, left one bar for another one where her best friend is a bartender, and continued having a good night, only saw her phone out once, and conversation didn't really lag at all.\n\nTwo days later, we went to dinner/a movie. We had some time before the movie started, so we went to an arcade next to the theater.\n\nThird date is the ball game, and I've been having a great time with her so far. My biggest problem is that I'm pretty much oblivious to signals from women, or how to read situations in the dating scene. How do I tell if she's interested, and how do I try and move things forward towards \"relationship status\", or is it too early for that?", "summary": "Awkward adult needs advice on how to move forward with date."}
{"id": "t3_2k25gz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] 10 months in the South and Having Dating Issues.. Help!", "post": "I (24/f) moved to the south earlier this year from the east coast (I spent my time between NYC and VA). I dated men on and off in both states and had a couple of serious relationships. I've always been a \"people person\" and could strike up a conversation with anyone. I miss actually talking to people on subways and at the grocery store.\n\nAnyway, I moved to northern MS (Oxford) and it is a different world down here. I've lived in the south before and hated it, but I figured I hated it because I was in high school. I had a hard time meeting people here and eventually joined match.com. I went on the worst dates of my life. I've never felt like such an outcast before and I really don't know how to deal with it. Religion is a huge deal for people here and I feel like I have to look and act a certain way to be liked.\n\nI'm pretty decent looking and cute, not in terrible shape. I work out a few times a week. I have a good personality too.. so I really don't know what to do. Sorry this post is a bit sporadic, I'm just trying to get it all out.\n\nAny advice is appreciated!", "summary": "Dating advice for a transplant in the south"}
{"id": "t3_1pkb4n", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[F/31/197] Need to do something! Gained 20 lbs since starting PhD", "post": "This week I was de-cluttering my closet and making piles of clothes to donate and give to my sister.  My sister is an avid biker, swimmer, runner (while we have the same body type, she's much more muscular than I am.)  I'm 5'10\" and I wear between a 10-14 depending on the cut/brand of clothing.  I'm in my 3rd semester as a PhD student and I've gained 20 lbs since beginning my program.  My \"fat\" clothes are tight on me and seeing the pile of clothes \"that don't fit me anymore\" was very discouraging.   During October I made some changes to my diet - avoiding fast food & cooking my own meals at home, drinking water instead of soda.  I also take my pups for a walk every night (between 10-15 minutes).  I've always been a stress eater and my \"comfort foods\" are gluten free bread and pasta, cheese, and oatmeal with granola.   I drive 2 hours round trip to school 3 x week.  My job requires me to sit and work on the computer.  In addition to school (which is stressful enough!)  I've had a lot of things happen in my life - high turn over at work, close friends getting sick, family member pass away, not having enough money to pay bills.  I take an anti-depressant (since 2006).  I love reading the success stories on r/loseit and I feel encouraged to start making more changes like taking longer walks and keeping carb consumption in moderation.  Looking forward to being a success story, too.", "summary": "Have gained 20 lbs in the past 18 months since starting PhD.  Need to change habits to stay healthy and handle stress."}
{"id": "t3_uswyb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Women of reddit, I need your advice.", "post": "So, I'm 17 and kind of in a state of hormonal enragement. As a consequence, sex is always, at least, at the back of my mind. And it gets worse when I talk to a specific girl. I've already told her how I feel about her, but I'm not sure if I'm attracted to her because I enjoy being in her company, because of her personality and sense of humor, or if I'm attracted because of me being 17 and constantly thinking about sex. And if it's the latter, is it still fair for me to chase her? I'm just really confused on the subject. I'm not a prude, I just... don't know what to do, and that's not something that happens to me a lot. I'm open to any suggestions.", "summary": "17, not sure if I like girl for personalty, or b/c of hormones, and not sure if fair to chase if hormones"}
{"id": "t3_2kuwug", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M/22] and I [F/19] have been together for about a year and I am unbelievably confused about where to go.", "post": "Alright r/relationships. I'm desperate for advice.\n\nAbout a year ago I started talking to some guy who I had always known of but never actually knew. Months passed and we talked more and hung out and eventually what most people would describe as a relationship managed to blossom. We never technically \"dated\". I was/am extremely uncomfortable with labels. I just felt weird about having a real tangible boyfriend. He got that. We were together. That was it. We moved on.\n\nIt was always very casual. Nothing serious. I was going to college in the fall, and I thought we were both on the same page about what would happen once I left. Apparently we were not and things got more serious before I realized that I didn't hate it. But there are 600 miles between us. He dropped the L bomb before I left and then somehow it turned into some kind of long distance shenanigan that I was never prepared for. It's such a stupid idea. 600 miles is so far. \n\nWe have very different lives. I'm working on internships and a career and he only went to college for a year. He's a loose cannon sometimes. He's emotional. I am not. At all. I'm reserved. I'm pretty unemotional. But apparently this is the person my brain chemistry chose as my first love and I have no idea what to do about it. We're not in some Nicholas Sparks movie. I don't want crazy, I want to be practical. But somehow, for all intents and purposes, this seems like some once in a lifetime love that you aren't supposed to let go of once you have it. \n\nSo, help. Any ideas? Personal stories? Tell me I'm a dumb kid. Whatever. I just need outside opinions and you guys seem to know what you're doing.", "summary": "Caught feelings, not sure what to do with them."}
{"id": "t3_10uftj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I handle an ex's SO being obsessed with my life?", "post": "Basically, my ex and I split up (years ago). I'm 27f and my ex is a guy. We were still friends until he found a new gf (who I never had a relationship with good or bad). This new gf started to do tons of stuff way too coincidental that was just like me. So much so, that my friends started to notice without me even bringing it up.\n\nFast forward about a year and doing anything I can to protect myself (cleaning up my online identity), I've since moved to a completely different COUNTRY and I'm getting married. However, the problem STILL exists. This time it's negatively affecting my career, and people that I meet with here to find jobs are asking me why this girl from my old home is contacting them. Nothing horrible, but spying on what I'm doing in my career and trying to make the same friends from thousands of miles away.\n\nI'm sorry to be vague but I don't want to give out too much info on the internet. I'm also not sure if this is the right place to ask.\n\nI don't think she is purposely trying to sabotage my life, I just think she is trying too hard to be like me and getting too involved and needs to move on...\n\nMy basic question is, do I confront her with a nice message asking her to flat out stop? Or do I keep on ignoring it even though its been several months on going?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "Broke up with ex years ago and their new girlfriend is negatively affecting my life. Do I ask her to stop or ignore her?"}
{"id": "t3_2rsn61", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [22,f] Romantic Interest [34,m] Has Herpes", "post": "I recently spent time with my romantic interest. I've known him for a year and a half. He's a genuine guy, intelligent, handsome, and unlike all the shitbags I've been with. We are both interested in each other and before we started to get intimate, he confided in me that he has herpes. He told me that he decided a year ago that he won't date or hookup with anyone who doesn't already have herpes because he doesn't want to spread the virus to someone else. He told me that he couldn't go any further with me because of my age. He didn't want to risk me getting the virus too since I'm so young. Though I appreciate him being so honest with me about his situation, I still want to be with him. I've decided to get tested for herpes since you can have it without even knowing it and one in five women have it. For some reason I'm telling myself that if by some chance I have herpes too (which is possible, since I've have unprotected sex with 4 men since I was last tested for herpes), then he and I can be together. Perhaps I'm crazy, but part of me hopes that I have herpes and just don't know it. \nI suppose what I'm trying to ask is: Is there anyway this can end well? Or should I just give up on him?", "summary": "I want to be with a man who has herpes. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2yxqbp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Good friend [23/M] declared 5 years of unrequited love for my best friend [23/F]. How do I [22/F] support both of them?", "post": "I've had two really good friends (let's call them Tom and Amy) for 3 years (since college started). He recently told her that he's been in love with her the whole time. \n\nThey are both in relationships, Amy for 4 years and is very happy, she has no romantic feelings for Tom. Tom is in a year long committed relationship but they often argue. \n\nTom asked Amy not to say anything but she let me know so she had someone to talk to. I don't know if I should ask Tom about how he is/offer support (more generally, I know he's been down)? Usually Amy helps him with his feelings but they agreed to take a big step back from each other.", "summary": "Any advice on how to support Tom without making it messier?"}
{"id": "t3_nv49e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "2 Year Relationship Sex Advice - Am I Being Selfish?", "post": "Hey everyone, I'm 21(m) and my girlfriend is 20. We've been dating for very close to two years and I'm starting to realize we may be sexually incompatible. I would have sex 5 - 7 times a week if possible, but she doesn't have as high of a sex drive. I understand and am okay with this. However, we have both agreed that we would like to have sex more and that overall our sex life could improve. It might be important to note that I've had sex before this relationship, whereas I'm her first for everything but kissing.\n\nOur stereotypical way of having sex is me initiating by kissing/lightly touching. The normal ways. Her way of initiating is simply to state \"Let's have sex,\" and then expect it to just happen. This is one of our issues.\n\nAnother thing is that whenever we're on break from college (mainly summer and winter) I try to get her to send me scandalous pictures and/or dirty/suggestive texts and emails. I will send these things to her to spice things up, but recently she has been adamant about not reciprocating. Two summers ago (after 5ish months of dating) we would Skype naked and she would even send the occasional picture. However, now she thinks we were acting like immature horny teenagers instead of how adults act and that's why she doesn't want to reciprocate anymore. I've tried to get her to compromise in some way so she sent a single picture, stating not to ask anymore and that was it. \n\nAm I being unreasonable for being a tad upset about this? In no way does our sexual relationship come before our emotional relationship, but it's still very important to me. I'd like to feel supremely attracted to her beyond just how she looks, but she doesn't really do much to give me a \"rush.\"  In the past I've compromised about acting cuter/more affectionate around her, even though that's something I'm not very comfortable with/necessarily enjoy. \n\nI'm basically looking for any advice on how to improve the situation and opinions on whether my behavior is warranted. Thanks for any and all help.", "summary": "Girlfriend isn't trying to improve our sex life even though we both recognized it needs improving. I've been pressuring her to send dirty/suggestive texts or pictures even though she has said she's not comfortable. I've gotten over not being comfortable with something in the past to make her happy."}
{"id": "t3_2fipmz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25m] feeling too attached/possessive/jealous of my [19f]", "post": "Hello! I am about three months divorced from a 7 year marriage. I met my girlfriend about six weeks ago and everything is going well. We see each other frequently, we talk openly and honest etc. I don't know what I want from the relationship Or her yet, but I do know I struggle with jealousy and being rather attached to her. This is my first relationship since the divorce, I guess you can call it a rebound, but I don't like that idea. \n\nI find myself wanting to spend most of my time with her and get jealous when I can't. She's 19, has two female roommates and can sometimes being rather cliche girls. They get excited and gossip about people spending the night or other mundane things. I trust my girlfriend, why am I jealous that there's a boy staying in her home tonight? She'll probably be with me anyway.\n\nHelp me change my mindset and relax a little. I don't know if there's Something I need to realize or accept but I don't like feeling this way. I feel needy. This is also her first real relationship. \n\nI think a part of me treats her like a trophy. I'm successful, attractive, fairly in shape, independently wealthy. I get excited when I think about her, I always describe her as the most beautiful girl I've ever been involved with and it's absolutely true. I think that's a part of why I'm so attached is I don't want to lose the \"best\" girl I've ever had. \n\nIn reality I have no idea. I seek your help.", "summary": "I feel like I'm too attached to my girlfriend and get jealous easily."}
{"id": "t3_fj5vd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Considering a move, Chicago or DC?", "post": "Background: I graduated from pharmacy school about 2 years ago and moved to Raleigh from Pittsburgh, where I was born and raised.  Raleigh is nice, but I think I need a change of scenery, maybe a bigger city.  I hate to leave my current position at work, because the setup I have is great, but outside of work, life is pretty mundane. I haven't met as many people as I had hoped to, and all my friends here are either moving away or married and at different stages in life.  I've been mulling over this for a long while, and believe I have narrowed my list down to Chicago, DC, or back home to Pittsburgh.  My lease is up in June, so I really need start making some decisions.  Anyone ever live in any of these cities and want to give me a good reason to go there or to stay away?  I'm really kind of lost and could use all the help I can get.  Thanks", "summary": "want to move away from Raleigh, considering Chicago or DC, need help deciding"}
{"id": "t3_2ducmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my [23 F] 7 year relationship, she broke it off and I'm having a hard time accepting it and moving on.", "post": "My girlfriend broke up with me. \n\nShe is at a stage in her life where everything kinda built up and now she is going through a bunch of life changes. She hates her job and the fact that she never graduated high school. She is also in debt from a car accident that occurred while she was uninsured. She has some family issues she wants to sort out as well. She will be moving out of state at the end of the year. \n\nAlong with all the change occurring in her life, she decided to get rid of me as well. \n\nI loved (still love) her deeply. We talked about marriage. Things just fell apart really quickly. \n\nI am having such a hard time coping with this whole situation. I'm constantly sad. It doesn't make it any easier that I have struggled with depression my whole life. Anxiety as well. \n\nPeople have told me that I should have broken up with her long ago. She wasn't very nice to sometimes. She would snap at me about little things and get frustrated with me over small things. I am also realizing that she checked out emotionally from our relationship long ago. She would ignore me once she got home from work and any attempts at showing affection were seen as smothering. \n\nPart of me sees that she may not have been right for me, but I also know that everyone has their faults. No one is perfect. I loved every part of her. Even her faults. I felt like I could show vulnerability in the relationship. \n\nI don't know what I should be doing to move on. I don't have a lot of friends because they are very busy just starting their careers. I don't really have people to talk to so my bad feelings just kinda build up. I need some sort of release. \n\nI try to keep in mind all the unfair things she did in the relationship in hopes that it will make me less sad that I lost her. It hardly helps.", "summary": "How do I pick up and move on from losing a very significant person in my life?"}
{"id": "t3_25rdvn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush [17 F] 2, She's a party girl but I'm not.", "post": "Here's the deal. I've been talking to this girl for a couple months on and off. I like her, and she has told me that she likes me. She the type of girl who gets C-B's in school and parties every weekend, I get straight A's in school and never go to parties. I'm not antisocial I just don't like the party environment and drinking in general. For some reason it bothers me that she goes out to these parties and they are just not my thing. Is this something to be feeling this way about or should I just shrug it off?", "summary": "A girl I like that likes me back goes to parties and it bothers me, is this something that is worth being a bit upset over?"}
{"id": "t3_40n0vw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my ex [ 31M] 3 years, he was two timing and chose her - I am so jealous of his new relationship.", "post": "well. it says it in the description. I was left behind. the french girl was chosen. I have been not spoken to him since I found out (3.5 months ago) and he seems to have uprooted my life completely and waltzed into a happy life with seemingly no consequences.\n\nNow that the cat is out of the bag, he can openly post about the vacations they take together and call her AMOUR every chance he gets. I feel sick to my stomach just typing this. \n\nYes, I know I should not be stalking his social media (I do it through an account he doesn't know is mine - and yes I know how crazy that sounds)\n\nI wish it didn't hurt so bad. I guess I thought he would be thinking of me sometimes at least, but I guess he has truly moved on and is genuinely happy. \n\nI don't even know what I want out of posting this. I guess just venting? I wish I could talk to him, but I am not the french girl so it would never be what I want it to be. I wish it would stop hurting.", "summary": "ex was two timing me and a french girl for 3 years - chose the french girl because she is muslim and I am not. I am jealous of their happy relationship and can't move on."}
{"id": "t3_2ypzcl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 20f feeling very sad after guy m21 I've been seeing for 2 months is super affectionate then suddenly ignores me and hits on my bestfriend", "post": "this guy I hung out with almost every day for the past 2 months. we have the same class together and hes very affectionate and even has invited me to family dinner. he acted like we were in a relationship even telling his friends I was his girl.\n\nnow its been 0ne weeks since I've last seen him. talked to him a few days ago but he couldn't hang out as he was out of town. and then texted him again a few days later to which he never replied. \n\nthen yesterday a friend of mine tells me he was trying to hit on her even being overly sexual. and she yelled at him to which he blocked her.\n\nI don't understand how he was such a great guy and acted like he really cared only to have him do a 180. and I know that he knew she was my friend but he just didn't care.\n\nI get that maybe he lost interest or whatever but I don't know whether I should talk to him about it. I feel so hurt and upset but idk if I even have the right to feel that way. \nI am totally blindsided by his jerk behavior and its just really making me feel shocked... this guy even took me to special family events,\n\nwhat worries me is that I have class with him. right now we're on spring break and I just don't know if I should wait until class to talk to him. call him and do it now or just ignore it. and if I do call him what should I say do I have the right to be upset and have him hear about it?", "summary": "great guy at first treats me like his gf for 2 months, makes me feel really special, suddenly ignores me and hits on my best friend on pupose it seems. don't know what to do or feel about situation. really shocked."}
{"id": "t3_54ylbo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by referencing Scooby Doo", "post": "This just happened, and it is only by the power of the internet that I have absolved myself.\n\nSo I'm at this workbparty and there's a caricature artist. All good fun, everyone is having a laugh. \n\nOne Asian guy gets his caricature done and someone makes the witty observation that it looks like Velma from *Scooby Doo*\n\n\"Jinkies!\" I shouted.\n\nBut in a crowded bar, \"Jinkies\", it transpires, sounds like something else, something wholly unrelated to *Scooby Doo* and considerably more racist.\n\nTo make matters worse, no one else *weirdly*!recognises the reference, and assumes I am shouting \"Chinkies!\" in a club with a moderate number of Asian people in. I then have to frantically back up my words with an awkward google session in front of a number of scandalised people, to prove I'm not just firing off racial slurs on a whim.", "summary": "Scooby Doo's whimsical catchphrases are more potentially problematic than I ever thought."}
{"id": "t3_2ll3j6", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Do I take a job that I really, really, really don't want to do - despite being unemployed?", "post": "Hi Reddit, I'm in a bit of a dilemma.\n\nI'm looking to start a MSc in Biomedical Engineering next October and I was planning on finding relevant work over the course of the next year to prepare myself better, get some experience in a lab and get a bit of cash to help with paying for it.\n\nI was working as a science instructor (unqualified teacher) on a fixed-term contract from February to August and have been unemployed and claiming Jobseeker's Allowance since. Today (Friday) I was offered a role as a science teacher at a different school, interviewing on Monday with a guaranteed role (providing no glaring fuck-ups) and immediate start.\n\nNow I enjoyed some aspects of teaching such as the actual lessons and helping the kids solve their problems - and I was pretty good at it (I've got references), but I didn't enjoy essentially working non-stop, at work and at home; it consumed my life, left me exhausted and that's something I don't want to go through again.\n\n**The question is, as titled, do I take the job that I really don't want or do I hold out for the one I do want?** Not accepting will (probably) affect my allowance however accepting means I will (probably) have no time to apply for other jobs.", "summary": "read the title."}
{"id": "t3_dk3md", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can i encourage my boyfriend to explore his sexual side? DAE have experience with this?", "post": "Ok, obvious throw away account is obvious because i've found my boyfriend surfing here lately and i don't want him to know i'm asking for your advice about this. Background story; we've been together for around 1&1/2 years now and it's been pretty sweet. We get along great, we spend tons of time together, we're both pretty attractive people (i know he is, and i'd like to think i am) and basically i couldn't ask for a cooler boyfriend. There is only one catch. I consider myself to be a pretty sexual individual. I often let my mind wander to naughty things (mostly about my boyfriend, which i feel good about) and get excited and then want to try those things later. He, on the other hand, does none of this. At the beginning of the relationship there was slightly more sexual interaction, but almost all of it was initiated by me. Since then we've been having less and less sex because i became insecure constantly initiating it, assuming that he either doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore or he is just uninterested in general. I've tried on many occasions to ask him what he found exciting or arousing, even offering risque secrets of my own in order to make him feel more comfortable, but no matter what i do he insists that he just doesn't have any turn ons. I think he feels that he needs to repress his sexuality as a man, but he's done it to a point that he has none. We are to the point now that we have sex MAYBE once a week (we sleep in bed together around 4-6 times a week) and i just don't know what to do. He insists that he finds me sexually attractive and he enjoys the sex when we have it, but he has no desire to initiate. Can anyone help? Does anyone have experience with this?", "summary": "I am in an amazing relationship with a kickass guy who happens to have an incredibly low libido. He doesn't care about doing it much, and i want to 24/7."}
{"id": "t3_1pc0rg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my gf [20 /F] 5 months, her mental health/depression is driving me to leave her", "post": "I have been dating her for about 4-5 months now and from about the 2nd month I started noticing signs of impending mental health problems. But I ignored them.. I currently am not my normal self lately, I've been sick with a chest infection for 3 weeks, I am tired and can't do anything right. It's affecting my grades in school etc.\n\n*  She told me she loved me within 2 months and expected me to say it back, I was super drunk and she was slightly intoxicated , I said I wasn't sure how to go about it because we were still early on in our relationship and I was still working up my feelings. She started making a scene infront of my friends and bawled and then wouldn't move off of the couch and then when i left to go home with my best friend she wouldn't let me go.\n\n* That was the first sign and by the third month it had gotten to the point where she would take 30 minutes to leave even though she knew i had to be up at 5:20 am in the morning. I would always tell her earlier in advance that I was going to bed early and she would still do it.\n\n* She has problems with past self injury and has attempted to end it all before on separate occasions, one time was very close and doctors saved her life.\n\n* I have had her run out of my house at around 3 in the morning when she was upset with me because I didn't want to cuddle and I wanted to sleep. She was also upset because we were talking about her depression. I of course ran after her on the first occasion and walked for half an hour in freezing weather in my pajamas and a shirt.\n\n* She has agreed to go see a psychologist this week, but I am so depressed and numb for the last few weeks that I am just not sure If I can do it any longer. I have just talked to her on the phone and said I need time to think, I'm not sure where to go from here.. \n\n> any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend is depressed, self injurious and it's pouring over into me and I'm becoming depressed and thinking of self harm lately."}
{"id": "t3_37b4s1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] wondering if he's doing the right thing to a [25/f] ex/\"friend\"", "post": "Dated a girl for 6 months who eventually left me for her abusive ex who got \"better\".\n\nThey lasted 3 months and she came back to me saying removing me from her life was her biggest mistake.\n\nI forgive her since she said that she is completely over him forever.  We date again for 3-4 months.\n\nAbusive ex contacts her telling her that he's depressed and needs someone to go to counseling with.  She takes a \"break\" with us and goes to counseling with him.\n\nShe says she wants to date when this is all over and wants to ditch her abusive ex ASAP once he gets help.\n\nFast forward 5 months...  She says that we have zero chemistry together and when we dated we only had \"very little\".  She says she doesn't have time for a relationship at all.  But still hangs out with her abusive ex from time to time.\n\nSummary of the entire thing:  She left me the first time because he \"got better\" which he obviously didn't.  He's now actually getting better, so am I crazy or is she actually going to go back with him?  (After saying very mean things about him/telling she'd never go back ever).\n\nMy question?  I haven't initiated any text with her for the past 3 days.  I'm completely over her but scared I'm destroying this \"friendship\" she wants between us...  Before all of this I blocked her from everything and she went as far as emailing me saying that she wants to be unblocked or else she won't ever speak to me again.  (Seems kind of desperate to stay in touch?)\n\nI don't have any feelings for her.  Just wondering what the hell is going on.", "summary": "Ex might go back to crazy abusive ex again.  I haven't initiated any conversation in this \"friendship\" at all for a couple of days.  Do I keep on doing this?  Or actually act like a friend?"}
{"id": "t3_4mr4ve", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my [14m] family is religious, but i really don't believe in any of said religion. what do i do?", "post": "Ok, so for starters, my entire family is christian, and always have been. they're not the \"crazy\" religious, but they are definitely pretty faithful.\n\n i've always been one of those people who kinda fiddles throughout Sunday school or the sermon, but for the past year or so, 'ive started listening to what their teaching us, but as they read parts of the bible, i end up with more and more questions, all of which i can only come up with one answer: none of its is real. about six months ago i pretty much gave up all faith i had in Christianity, and am now more or less agnostic. \n\nproblem is, my family doesn't know this. so for the past 6 months i've been going to a church i dont really believe in, and the pressure it puts on me i a lot larger than i thought it would be. i have to be careful around my family and friends so as to not let something slip, and i am constantly under stress from schoolwork, so im really scared of letting something slip.\n\nso what do i do? it seems like keeping it hidden and telling my parents when i move out seems like what i'll end up doing, but like i said there is a lot of pressure, and that's still years away.\n\nmy second option is to just tell my family. but i think what would happen here is my mom would still have me continue going to church, ultimately not doing me any good, but making going to church and being around my family very awkward.", "summary": "my family is religious, but i dont believe in it, and im not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_42pap6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23 F) had sex with a friend (27 M) who turns out has a girlfriend (27/28 F). Should I remain friends with him?", "post": "Hey,  r/relationships! Looks like I'm beginning to be a regular poster here if you include my primary account. Not the best feeling though, haha. Anyways. \n\nI met him (27 M) during the time that I was on the rocks with another relationship (LDR,  if that matters). During that time I never hit on him even though I felt attracted to him because of my relationship. When that relationship ended, he was one of the people who helped me get back on my feet and even went with me on a holiday because the ex (25 M) and I planned it out before breaking up. So as I tried to get over my ex, I had sex with the guy because based from his stories, he told me that he's been single for more than a year and I was beginning to trust him more. \n\nThat was a month ago, and just recently, have hooked up again, twice. The red flag I should have noticed is he refuses to be Facebook friends or even let me follow his Twitter as he's following mine. The only thing I follow him on is Instagram, which is how I learned that he has a girlfriend. \n\nThe girlfriend (27/28 F) knew about me THE ENTIRE TIME and decided to post about me on her blog, telling that I chose to play a losing battle. The thing is, I never knew. He's only told me of having a girl best friend but never the degree. \n\nI'm more hurt about this betrayal than the relationship I had that I just recently moved on from because I really thought that this guy would be honest and a special person in my life. I told my closest friends what to do and they told me to stick to a decision I can live through. \n\nSo this is why I'm here, yet again. I still want him to be a part of my life and he's told me he'd still stick around (I know, words are nothing) but I think that if only I didn't have sex with him then I would forgive him easily.", "summary": "Friend (27 M) of 3 months had sex with me (23 F) not knowing he has a girlfriend (27/28 F). Told me GF knows about it. Should I keep the friendship with him?"}
{"id": "t3_wg8fi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Asking out a girl whos probably not interested (awkwardness could ensue)", "post": "I'm a 16M.I'm on a summer course and there's this girl I've wanted to ask out. A guy we've both been talking on the course has a gig and I've been thinking about casually asking her to go. \n\nI'm not sure if she know's that i'm into her but she doesn't seem that interested in me. We've had some short conversations, with some good banter back and forth but asking her out even casually could make things awkward. I have made her laugh a couple of times but I don't know if it was genuine, or because we are in a group and group mentality is making everyone laugh at not so funny jokes. I think if anything she may see me more as a friend then anything else. She certainly hasn't gone out of her way to get an extra chance to talk to me.\n \nLooks wise I would consider her out of my league.\n\nThe only thing holding me back is that we have a couple more weeks on this course, and it could be quite awkward if she rejects me. Advice on how to proceed?", "summary": "Want to ask out girl, may lead to awkward conversation"}
{"id": "t3_25stz8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Feeling inadequate whenever I'm with my girlfriend", "post": "I've met this incredible, funny, loving girl, and we've been dating for about two months. She's everything I want in a partner, but there's one feeling I can't get rid of whenever I'm with her.\n\nShe's a ridiculously outgoing person who talks to everyone around her and is not above fooling about and making herself look stupid. Though that's one of my favourite things about her, I get this sinking feeling of inadequacy when we're with other people.\n\nWhile I'm social and outgoing myself, I feel invisible whenever there are other people around, as she will socialize with pretty much all of them and barely look at or speak to me for varying periods of time. If we're having a cozy moment alone in our school cafeteria she might suddenly jump up and walk over to greet one of her friends if they walk into the room, as if I'm not there at all. I feel like I can be replaced at any point in time seeing as I'm so easily deprioritised. \n\nI can't just tell her she needs to stop either, as the last thing I want is her spending time with me because she feels like she has to.\nI end up not really knowing what to do; should I engage with their conversations and become the kind of boyfriend who never lets her talk to people by herself? Should I get busy with something else pretending I don't feel like crap? Am I just overthinking this whole thing?", "summary": "I feel inadequate and invisible whenever my really social girlfriend deprioritises or interrupts alone time to spend time with others, as she frequently does. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2w1rgs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [15 F] of a year, need help talking with parents about sex", "post": "We've talked about it for a while, and both want to, and feel like we're ready to have sex. I know this is a stereotypical teenager problem, of complaining about their parents who don't give them any privacy. That's not the case here, our parents give us a decent amount of privacy, we just would rather not go behind their backs (and having them walk in on us would be unpleasant to say the least). \n\nI was wondering how I should bring it up with them. I should also mention that my dad has already said that he thinks sex is inappropriate at our age, though my mom (my parents are divorced) just said that she knows we're smart enough to know the risk of getting pregnant. Also, her parents are getting her an IUD (they don't know that we want to do it, just suspect us and don't want her to get pregnant), and we definitely weren't going to until she has it in. What's Your advice for talking with our parents about this?", "summary": "We feel ready to have sex, but are unsure how to bring this up with our parents."}
{"id": "t3_2njn0e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reading TIFU in my room alone", "post": "So, bit of backstory.\nI'm a first year university student. Live in a largish residence building. Luckily enough my roommate never showed, so I have a room to myself and basically do what I want.\nSo. This happened about 20 minutes ago (long enough to remember my username and password for reddit).\nI'm supposed to be writing a paper, but I'm bored. So I open up TIFU.\nA few posts in I start to laugh. Reading the comments only makes me laugh more. One hits me particularly hard (The first one started it; the second one finished me off:    \nI read the comments on the second and I just collapse laughing. I'm sitting in my room, in my chair (they gave us rocking chairs) rocking back and forth and laughing.\nLoudly.\nNow, I have the kind of laugh that makes everyone else laugh. It is insane, sounds like it belongs in an insane asylum, and does not stop. I'm the kind of person who finds others laughing at my laughter funny; once I get going it becomes very hard to stop.\n\nSo there I am, sitting there in my chair, rocking and laughing.\nAnd there is a knock on my door.\nI stumble over (still laughing) and pull it open. One of the girls from my floor is outside, asking if I'm ok.\nI find this even funnier, and laugh louder and harder, motioning her over to my computer screen, barely managing a \"It's TIFU\" between gales of laughter.\nI crouch on my chair this time, continuing to rock back and forth as by laughter continues to peal like bells rung by an insane Kazimodo on Christmas day if every church in the world were in one town.\nAnd she is kinda staring at me until I finally get myself under control.\nShe'd been on the other side of the floor.\nHeard my laughter.\nFeared I was dying.\nAnd come to check on me.", "summary": "TIFU by laughing loud enough to disturb my entire floor of residence."}
{"id": "t3_2642fj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Car dealer forced GAP coverage and Extended Warranty on me - should I return the car?", "post": "Bought a very nice used car yesterday. Dealer tells me they got me a great interest rate, which was true.\n\nI get to the closing desk with the finance manager, and proceeds to tell me that the \"program\" he got for me to get me such a great interest rate includes an Extended Warranty and GAP coverage, to the tune of about 2882.00 total. *Of course*, with this great rate he got me, the payment would only differ by a few dollars from my original pre-approved rate.\n\nI tried to refuse the add-on items (I know they're bullshit and illegal to force on people) but he said this great rate \"program\" includes it, or if I didn't want this \"program\", my rate would be 5 points higher, which would make the monthly payment essentially the same as with the coverage at the lower rate.\n\nAt this point, I had been at the dealership for several hours and had to go to work, so I signed and took the car. (I know, I know, spare me the lecture.)\n\nI'm thinking of threatening to return the car at this point and asking them to re-sell me the car without the BS or just buying from another dealer. Or am I better off simply sending certified letters to the actual coverage administrators and requesting cancellations and refunds?", "summary": "dealer forced me to buy expensive warranty add-ons at closing. Do I return or just cancel the extra coverage?"}
{"id": "t3_2upx7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23M] crazy to casually date a [18F] for my last semester?", "post": "I met her at a coffee shop last semester and we started hanging out as friends. She is a freshman and has noted her biggest priority is transferring to another school with a more supportive and challenging department next spring. Being involved with a student organization, interning, working in the library, writing for her newspaper and taking upper-division classes, she told me she is going to hold off serious relationships until her junior year. \n\nI have to mention that along with being incredibly hot, she is very levelheaded and self-aware. Extremely attractive qualities in my opinion. \n\nThis is my last semester and I have been thinking lately of possibly asking her if casually dating each other seems like a good idea. Asking her yesterday, she told me we're in different life stages and if I can bear with her figuring out college while I'm leaving college, it could work out. This sounds reasonable to me, but I have to ask if this situation sounds unconventional.", "summary": "I want to go out with an 18 year old freshman girl, and I'm not sure if this would have any complications."}
{"id": "t3_2tqohx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] am debating moving in with my boyfriend [20M]", "post": "Alright, so here's he gist:\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We are pretty compatible, I could see myself long term with him. \n\nHe was disowned a few months ago and kicked out of his house", "summary": "debating if it's time to move in with my boyfriend or if it's too early"}
{"id": "t3_3kwmbn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25 M] girlfriend [ 23 F] stays in close contact with a bunch of her past boyfriends and fwb and it's driving me crazy.", "post": "Title. First off let me explain, this isn't about me saying she has no right to talk to them, she can talk to whoever she pleases. This is mostly about me.\n\nSo I don't know this through snooping or anything like that, I know because it's so out in the open in our relationship. We've been dating for a year and I know she has no desire to cheat on me. We have a great relationship and live together. Very few arguments or issues, we are generally a happy couple. I often keep issues like this bottled and to myself, most people find insecurity and lack of confidence unattractive, so I don't show it. However it's eating away at me and I don't know why, I can't shake it from my mind.\n\nI recently came to the logical deduction that a friend that she speaks with regularly used to be fuck buddies with her, and that revelation is making me uncomfortable, despite the fact that there is 0 reason to be upset or think something is going on. There's also other dudes who message her regularly, but it's completely harmless (she's shown me the texts)\n\nI know people are capable to forming friendships past sex but at the same time I can't shake these feelings of insecurity from my head. I don't know what to do or how to change how I feel, or come to terms with it and get over it. I don't want to break up, I want to work on dealing with my feelings, but i have no idea how to approach this. I feel like bringing it up with her is a bad idea, as it won't change anything and will make me look like a control freak and insecure, which i'd prefer not to do.\n\nI want to feel confident about it all and have trust in our relationship. I feel pathetic for feeling this way.", "summary": "my girlfriend still chats harmlessly with old fuck buddies. I don't know how to deal without sounding like a controlling and insecure person. plz halp."}
{"id": "t3_4yxusd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my high school sweetheart wife [29 F] \u2014 we just separated and I don't know where to go", "post": "I JUST separated from my wife, and I use the term \"separated\" loosely.\n\nWe have been together since we were teenagers and have moved together several times. We've not been married long, but have been together virtually forever. The split is as amicable as could be \u2014 we have some long unresolved, and undiscussed issues that bubbled up. The short story is that we're not the same people we were when we were teenagers and we just don't really work anymore.\n\nTo top that off, I've been going through some depression and have told her that I feel alone all the time. That brings me to the problem.\n\nNearly all of our friends are shared couple friends, especially in my case. I have some personal friends in town, but they've all sort of faded away. We live far from family and I don't have a job that I can take more than a day or two off from without fucking things up. So basically, I find myself separated from my wife but with no place to go and no friends I feel I can turn to. I ultimately think the separation is the right move, but my loneliness is only compounded by the fact that that my wife has been my primary relationship through my entire life. It just happened and we're both still under the same roof in a small apartment \u2014\u00a0I feel like I need to go someplace but I have nobody to turn to.\n\nWhere do I even start with finding a place to go? How do I cope without my own social groups?", "summary": "Recently separated and have no friends of my own and no family in town to turn to. Don't know where to go next..."}
{"id": "t3_gzjbf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can we call \"sighted people\" problems?", "post": "Reddit!\nMy friends and I are trying come up with a phrase similar to \"first world problems\", except for people with \"good vision problems.\" \n\nThe background:\n\nI'm blind in my right eye but have enough sight in my left eye to get on well enough. The only genuine sucky bit is not being able to look deep into the eyes of someone I love, which is pretty important (as I've found).\n\nOtherwise the main thing is not being able to drive. My town/this country is not very public transportation friendly, so that's been frustrating. One thing I love to do is make situations awkward/make friends laugh by emphasizing sight related claims. It's to the point that when I'm meeting someone new who uses words like \"see\" or \"look\" too much, I will occasionally stare back at them with a horrified look or even just a simple eyebrow raise and any friends nearby will start to laugh uncontrollably  knowing exactly what I'm thinking/possibly going to say.\n\nExamples:\n\nFriend driving me home from class last Tuesday night:\n>Friend: \"Can you see gas prices going up any higher than they are now?\"\n\n>Me: \"No I can't *see* gas prices going up because I can't *see*m to remember where I parked the *car* that I don't own that I can't drive that doesn't exist because I'm blind.\"\n\nWe are also trying to come up with hot-button words/phrases to include in this. So far we have:\n \n* watch\n* look\n* see\n* view\n* visualize\n* eye**s**\n* observe\n* focus\n* **bi**noculars\n* **bi**focals\n* **bi**sexual\n* Leela from Futurama\n* glass**es**\n\nMuch love to you and your eyeball**s**,\n\nClick", "summary": "blind in one eye, love to joke about it, want a phrase and jokes to use when people talk about their \"I have good vision but...\" related problems. "}
{"id": "t3_49m5hh", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Never...ever assume anything", "post": "My cousin is dating this over possessive guy, my cousin also lives on the other side of the world from me. We get along pretty good. \n\nWell one day I'm browsing through FB and she has a post that says \"Tell your girl first thing in the morning 'good morning beautiful' and it will make her day so much better\"\n\nSo I comment \"Good morning beautiful\" knowing she'll see when she wakes up and went on with my life.\n\n2 hrs later I get a comment \"Stop hitting on my girl or I'm going destroy you!\" it was from John\n\nI replied \"Excuse me? Who are you?\"\n\nHe responded \"I'm her man, and you need to back off she's taken\"\n\nI'm finding this funny and respond with a laugh\n\nHe responded again \"Stay away or else\"\n\nI think this is funny\n\nHere is the great thing, my cousin reads this and goes \"John, thats my cousin, clam down\"\n\nJohn replies \"Stop lying to me\"\n\nTo which she responds \"Alright, we are done\"\n\nAnd thats how John got dumped.", "summary": "Cousin boyfriend assumed I was her secret lover or had a crush on my cousin. Called my cousin a liar, he got dumped."}
{"id": "t3_3279lg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by gesturing obscenely to a two year old", "post": "This was a few years ago. \n\nI'm an English teacher in Korea. One of my main gigs back in the day was leading a play group of very young children (2-5 years old) and their mothers. We would sing songs, make crafts, play games... stuff like that. At the end of class, there would be a one on one quiz with each child. I would try to get them to say a couple words and they would get a treat. All very fun and engaging and all in English.\n\nMy fuckup occurred one day during the quiz. I was sitting on the floor with the child, a little girl, and her mom. She was very young... too young to really get anything from the class. \n\nSometimes if the kid wasn't into it, I'd play small games to focus their attention. This particular time, I decided to try something that my dad always used to do with my siblings and me: he'd kinda pinch our nose between the knuckles of his middle and index fingers. Then he'd show us his thumb between the knuckles and say, \"I've got your nose!\" It was supposed to look like he pinched the nose off our face. I don't know if I'm explaining it clearly or not... but it was silly and we'd laugh and that was it.\n\nSo I do this to this little girl (who can't really even speak Korean yet, let alone attempt what I'm asking her to do in English). The mom gives me a horrified look. Something is obviously wrong so I hand over the treat and mom scoops up baby and off they go.\n\nAfter, I explain to my Korean co-teacher what happened and she cracks up. Apparently that hand gesture, the fist with the thumb poking between the index and middle fingers, is the Korean equivalent to flipping the bird. Chalk another one up to cultural misunderstanding!", "summary": "I didn't know the Korean version of the middle finger and unwittingly busted it out on a young girl in an English class."}
{"id": "t3_20shlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my SO [21 M/F] 11.5mo, she is queer but now claims to be fluid and more interested in women than men (as was previous 11 months).", "post": "Me and my SO have been dating for just under a year.  She told me she liked girls when we started dating and she had experimented with them, but after a few weeks of dating I had asked her who she liked better and she said \"Men, I like men.\".  And so we dated and it's been great... until recently.  She recently confided in me that she was going through a Fluid sexuality state in which she prefers women over men.  \n\nWe both love each other and satisfy each other as partners, I am just unsure as to that this means for our relationship.  She also told me that she has been feeling imcompatible with me sexually because we cannot finish together (she has a hard time finishing and gets frustrated when she gets very closed but doesn't).  There's been a sexual disconnection between us. She has told me that it has taken her a very long time to admit and come to terms with the fact that she is queer and I'm assuming this is her coming out to me.  \n\nI am understanding of people who are bisexual or other, but I don't know how to best adapt to this situation where my partner's sexuality fluid and she is unsure.  We've never had issues with loyalty or anything regarding infidelity so I'm sure it isn't someone else.  \n\nI suggested we work things out by maybe involving other women in a threesome or swinger parties (we've discussed these ideas in the past but never acted upon them). She seemed open to the suggestion but indecisive if that was the best decision.", "summary": "Partner comes out to tell me she is fluid, feeling sexual disconnection, not sure how to act / how best to accommodate for the situation! Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_29e9c1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(20) crushing really hard on good friend F(20) who's in a relationship who said she liked me back when I let slip I liked her", "post": "So I got really close to this girl about 7 months or so ago, she really helped me get over an ex F(20) of 3 and a half years and we've just gotten really close. \n\nHowever, after about 2 months I began to like this girl a lot because we get on so well and she's such an incredible person. We spent a lot of time together on a one-on-one basis and I really did start to fall for her. \n\nThen about 6 weeks ago, I was dropping her home and we were just sat in my car chatting and I accidentally let it slip that I really liked her. She took it fairly well and it didn't seem to bother her, but then she responded saying she likes me too. (she had been with her boyfriend a year at this stage). \n\nI don't know what to do, I've tried to distance myself to try and stop feeling so strongly about her but it hasn't seemed to work. Any suggestions people of reddit?", "summary": "like a girl in a relationship, accidentally let it slip and she said she likes me too"}
{"id": "t3_3tu85h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30m] how to cope with a really attractive person at work?", "post": "So i'm married and i have a wonderful daughter. I started working with this girl at work and i find myself getting more attracted to her everyday.\n\nI find everything about her attractive. Her personality, her life goals, her looks. For some weird reason its like im reminded of myself before i got married when i speak to her.\n\nI think thats shes into me as well. There's small hints here and there like she laughs at my stupid jokes and her emails always has lots of smileys for some reason when adressed to me.\n\nMain question is how to deal with this at work? At the moment i fap before i go to work every 3 days or so to get the desires out. I feel that if i don't then i would start flirting and going the cheating route with her.\n\nThe sex game with the wife is pretty weak at the moment (0 in past 5 weeks). But im in it for raising my daughter properly cause shes so awesome.\n\nBasically I dont want to leave my wife and daughter for somebody that theoretically likes me. And I don't want to cheat even though its fairly obvious the sex would be great.", "summary": "i find a work partner attractive and im married. How do i deal with it****"}
{"id": "t3_wtwxa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some of your best drive-thru stories at a fast food joint? Either as the employee or the customer?", "post": "My side of this story is as the customer. Sort of. The other day, I was riding shotgun with one of my buddies on the way home from one of our other friend's houses. It was getting close to dinner time, so we decide to get some fast food.\n\nMy friend pulls into a restaurant and drives up to the little intercom thing where the employee's can take your order. Without even waiting for the voice to ask, \"How can I help you today?\" or whatever, my friend says, without any hesitation,\n\n\"Let me get two McChickens, a big-ass sweet tea, and McFlurry, BOUNCE.\"\n\nAnd then immediately drives up to the first window. I'm cracking up at this point, and we are both watching the guy through the window quickly looking around and trying to figure out what happened, as he was somewhat unaware an order had even been placed.\n\nOnce the employee saw the kid with the wife beater and backwards snapback hat on staring expectantly at him through the window, he started laughing and then took his order again.\n\nNot exactly the most exciting or rewarding story, but I was laughing uncontrollably throughout the majority of the whole ordeal.\n\nSo, what are some of your drive-thru stories?", "summary": "Friend placed an order at a fast food drive-thru lane and drove up to the window before the employee even knew what was going on."}
{"id": "t3_3r9lem", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by turning off a bright coffee shop flood light", "post": "So this happened over the weekend. To create a visual of why I did this, I live in a building that is right behind a donut / coffee shop. I look out and I can see their building right not even 100 ft away. Recently, they installed a new flood lamp on the backside of their building and it shines directly into my apartment. Really bright, really annoying. Its late and I cant go pickup any blackout curtains just yet. So being the genius I am, I decided its time to fight back and do something about it. I walked over to the coffee shop at like 1 in the morning, they're long closed by now. Beneath the bright flood lamp is a huge box with a ON / OFF lever. So I throw the lever with a huge TERCHUNK, bam, light is off. With pride I walk back to my place and enjoy the darkness of the light. Its late, whatever, light is off.\n\nThe next morning, I swing by that very coffee shop to order some food and coffee. Though they said they cant make half of what I ordered because their power went out overnight and the lost some product. It took me a moment to then realize what I had done as I turn nearly white and leave with my coffee.", "summary": "Bright light on coffee shop in back yard. I throw the switch beneath it to turn it off, which turns out to be their main power line."}
{"id": "t3_22xixs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] dealing with unrequited feelings for a friend [19 F].", "post": "I'm a 19-year old guy who has an interest in a 19-year old girl in the year below me in college. I thought at one point that she had an interest in me, but I have discovered recently that she has an interest in another guy who is a senior. What's more, on a few occasions she has brought up her interest in this guy to me in conversation, which seems to suggest that she is oblivious to my interest in her. Further, it seems to suggest that she's just not interested in me. I know that if i had somewhat of an interest in two girls, I wouldn't bring up my interest in one to the other.\n\nSo a few of my friends suggested just asking her to dinner (on-campus, nothing fancy) sometime just to throw myself out there. If she says no then I'll move on. It might make things awkward between us but I think we'd manage. What do you think? I hung out with her last night and it was amazing but a few times she brought up this other guy and it just sucks a lot, so any advice would be awesome.\n\nI know this situation is nothing extraordinary, but it's been affecting me greatly recently so I would appreciate any advice. For example, I recently woke up from a dream where we hugged and spent what seemed like ages just thinking about it before I could manage to fall asleep again. Kind of embarrassing but it demonstrates how much my mind seems to fixate on this.\n\nThank you so much.", "summary": "Unreciprocated feelings for a friend of mine, she seems to at least currently just think of me as a friend. Should I simply move on? How? Thanks so much!"}
{"id": "t3_2z50o8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my friend [22 M], does he like me?", "post": "Ok,\n\nThere is this guy in my English class who I really like. I can't quite work out whether he likes me or not though. I barely spoke to him for the first few months, although I did poke him a lot (I was in a relationship at the time so did not really have those feelings then), and he never seemed to mind.\n\nRecently we have started to hang out more. He asks me to write with him and stuff. We barely get any work done (mostly talking and having fun), but he still hang out and try to write at least (150 words in eight hours is not ideal...). He did act strange a couple of times getting 'up close' to me. I told my fantastic friend about this, and he said there is a good chance that the guy likes me but could not tell.\n\nI asked him to watch a movie with me the other day (at my friend's suggestion) and he responded; \"sure, that might be fun :)\", and the next day we spent so long at school (with other people), we didn't have time. I stupidly suggested that the other people should come watch the movie with us the next day. He said that was a good idea.\n\nFast forward to yesterday and it is my birthday. I tickle him...a lot. Sometimes even all the way up to the knee (yes, I put my hand up his pants). I was drunk. He didn't seem to mind. I texted this morning to apologise and he said \"It is Fine\"\n\nI really want to know whether this guy likes me or not BECAUSE i really like him. I do not want to do anything though just in case it ruins out friendship.", "summary": "I am inexperienced in guys and can't quite work out whether he likes me or not."}
{"id": "t3_17uorr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He stopped talking to me after a great night? F[19] M[24]", "post": "So for the last month I've been talking to this new guy. We instantly got along; we had the same sense of humor, same views on life, etc. We would always go over each other's houses just to hang out, have fun and just a generally good time and it would lead to us making out, etc., but nothing sexual ever blossomed from it. I knew he didn't see me as just a hook-up because he was always worried about what my parents thought of him, making a good impression on them and things like that.\n\n A week ago, I went over and out of all the times we had hung out previously, this had been the best time yet. We had the house to ourselves, I gave him a back rub, we had a tickle fight and made out. When I left, he kissed me goodbye multiple times and said he couldn't wait to hangout again. The next day, I realized I had left something at his house so I texted him about it and he responded with \"Well, that's okay, gives me an excuse to see you.\" After that, he just stopped talking to me and stopped responding to my texts and calls. \n\nHonestly, I'm not devastated over this, it was fun while it lasted and obviously I would've loved for it to continue, but that's life. I just want to know, what gives? Why such the abrupt ending?", "summary": "New fling was going great for both ends and then after a great night, he stopped talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_2jtjlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18/m] I need help approaching this girl I \"met\" some time ago", "post": "I'm [18/m] and she's [18/f] this is my first time posting please be nice haha\n\nI am a normal looking guy, not really the awkward type. I've had two girlfriends before and I don't really have much of a problem talking to girls or people in general but I am in a very weird situation with this new girl in my school, let's call her Ashley. I know her and she knows me but I don't think we've ever talked before. She's like one of those Facebook friends you have laying around because you met them one day and then never talked to them in your whole life (I know, pretty stupid but eh, whatever) Here's how we \"met\": Me and my friends were at this party and my friend wanted to talk to this girl (Ashley). He had been texting her for a while but nothing serious really so I decided to help my friend out by having a small talk with Ashley and then telling her I was with my friend and doing the \"I don't know if you know him\" so they start talking and all. Anyways I just like talked for 2 minutes with her to help my friend and I didn't really cared much since I was with my gf back then. Time went on and both Ashley and my friend stopped talking to each other nothing really happened, I think she added me on Facebook just for the sake of it and we never talked again. But she recently started going to my school, college, whatever you wanna call it. I've noticed how she keeps looking at me, we make so much eye contact when we meet at like hallways and stuff and sometimes she smiles to me. \n\nAnyways I'm into her, she's really pretty and I would like to get to know her better but I really fucked up, it's been like month and a half and I haven't talked to her at all, I feel like it's a weird situation you know? Like I know her so I can't really introduce myself as a new person but I don't really know her so I feel like I can't just say hi like we're friends. I need help with this situation is there any specific way I could approach her?", "summary": "I need help approaching this girl I'm friends on Facebook but not irl."}
{"id": "t3_3mcrf0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sharing a video with my french class", "post": "So our french teacher asked us to make an interview in french as a proyect, my friends and I made a pretty long video (compared to the other teams) in which I added a lot of memes when I edited it, and also I uploaded it to Youtube ( skip to minute 4, the first moments are really boring), then I sended it to our teacher, which had a blast watching it, but my friends and I had fear that we were going to show it to all the class, and that's exactly what happened. we first saw the other videos, which were poorly edited but really funny, but then the moment to watch our video came, and I was the only one of my friends that wanted our video to be watched because I had trust in my work.\nWhat happened next was really akward, the first 4 minutes everyone was bored af, because that's the only serious part, but then shit hits the fan and the memes start to appear, to be honest I was confident that they would at least giggle, then I was horrified because they had a face that subtly said \"what the fuck\", they laughed only once in a whole 11 minute video, at the end there is an akward silence in the classroom and our teacher only says \"well... everyone can have artistic liberty\", guess im not doing the graduation video anymore...", "summary": "I Made a video for a french proyect with too much memes, when my classmates saw it they were really disturbed."}
{"id": "t3_21x2tl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this a good first date idea for me[20 M]and her [19F]", "post": "I met a girl at uni who is absolutely gorgeous, ended up getting her number and asking her out for dinner.\n\nThis is a pretty foreign area for me, all relationships/dating I've done were back in highschool a few years ago, everything since has just sort of been one night stands - nothing really meaningful. But anyway this girl broke the norm, I am obsessed with how cute and down to earth she is.\n\nAnyway! Do you think it would be better to take her to a nice restaurant and then go for a walk (there's a restaurant strip next to a harbour so its a nice place), or alternatively I was thinking of getting takeaway something (something nice like thai), and bringing plates and cutlery/table cloth and going to the tables near a local beach.\n\nWould something like either of those be too over the top for a first date? I don't know if I'm overthinking it or not, I don't want to screw things up :)\n\nAlso I know this probably sounds dumb, holding hands on a first date - like if we went for a walk after dinner, yay or nay?", "summary": "Fancy restaurant or takeout near the beach? Other suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_1e6cud", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "SOMEONE needs to tell me how to deal with an older sister who thinks she's my mother", "post": "she is 29. i am 21. she cries two nights ago because, while i'm out here in SF visiting her before i graduate from college, she sees cigarettes in my bag. she never confronts me about it or tries to start a constructive dialogue. she tells her live-in boyfriend that i don't respect her space.\n\ntonight she drags me to a stupid yuppie bar. she makes me buy myself a beer i don't want and schmooze with her stupid, privileged, friends with whom i do not relate. they do not respect my tattoos, my interest in psychedelics, my openness towards bisexuality, the fact that i have a 6-figure salary awaiting my in NYC next month and i also have threesomes on a regular basis. they probably think i look like a pretty girl with no future. i am graduating from an ivy league school in 8 days.", "summary": "she has threatened to kick me out of her apartment for the remainder of my trip here on the west coast. she says that my smoking is a direct insult to her and to our family, in which cancer runs. she threatens to \"call mom.\" we are adults."}
{"id": "t3_2i9otz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cancelled my invitation, is she [F22] just being polite to me [M26] because she feels bad? Or is she really interested. I know almost nothing about dating (x-post from /r/dating_advice)", "post": "I apologize but I'm not that good at picking up social cues.\n\nSo I asked this girl out for lunch on a Saturday, she agreed and I said really?. Yes I'm a dumbass. She smiled and nodded. We've been co-workers for almost 2 years but has only been talking for the last few months.\n\nSo before the agreed upon day, I did a rain check and asked if lunch is still on. She apologized and said that work came up and she really need to finish reports for the auditors. I said that it was okay and we should just schedule it for another day. \n\nShe really looked like she wanted to cry right then and said that she'd try to finish it all up before Saturday. I reiterated that its okay and she shouldn't worry herself.\n\nLater that day I received a text from her asking if Sunday is alright with me, being the dumbass that I am I told her I can't because I'm going somewhere that day, told her she should rest instead. (I was out partying with friends on Saturday and I could've made it Sunday and I later remembered she said was going out with friends that Sunday). \n\nNot only is she willing to cancel with her friends, I told her a lame excuse.\n\nCome Monday I bumped into her and asked when she's free, said she didn't really know and didn't gave out anything. I chalked it up to her losing interest because I am such a dumbass.  So I decided not to hound her anymore.\n\nThen a couple of days later I received a text from her asking if I'm busy that day. Fortunately, my brain was functioning, I told her that I am free and that we should eat out. She agreed and we spent a good four hrs together.\n\np.s. we're both introverts", "summary": "Socially inept, not sure if she is just polite or is really interested"}
{"id": "t3_4ukhy2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 F] with my Husband [42 M] 11 year relationship---First time mentioning Divorce", "post": "My husband and I are going through our first rough patch in our 11 year relationship. He told me to quit drinking or he was going to leave. I quit almost 2 months ago. We are now going to counseling.\nHe admitted he was not prepared for me to quit, he was prepared to leave.  He said he still loves me no matter what but is unsure if he still wants to be with me or not.  He has also said he doesnt want to throw away the 11 years we have together.\nI have been working on me and I am working on giving him some space and being patient waiting for his response.\nHe still has not told me if he wants to stay or go yet and said it will take him time. \nIn our last counseling session, he said he is so angry with me, it is not that he wants to be with someone else it is that he is trying to decide if he wants to still be with me.  He said he checked out and is trying to check back in. OUCH! \nSince counseling, we made love a few times (Counseling was 4 days ago).  I have told him in previous counseling sessions as well as after making love that i do not consider it \"just sex\".\nSo i am having a hard time wrapping my head around something here.  \nIf you are deciding if you want to be with someone or not and you have sex with them days in a row, doesn't that mean you are leaning to the staying side, or are you just getting off?\nIf you check out and were still having sex with your wife/husband, would that help you check back in or are you just having sex with that person for yourself? \nMen view sex (love making) differently than us ladies so i need a mans point of view here i think (Ladies of course your response is welcome).", "summary": "If we are making love multiple times weekly, and he is still saying he is unclear if he wants to be with me or not, am i getting played?  Do men have sex with their wives right before they leave them?  Seems odd to me but i am a wife not a husband."}
{"id": "t3_3iask7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend has a crazy ex. How to deal with that mess, please?", "post": "Me(21F) got a boyfriend(29M) who has a maniac ex. She(31F) attacked me at the grocery store a few days ago. Well, she had a problem of accusing him having crush with his female friends all the time. That was the reason they broke up. The last girl she accused was me and they broke up. In sum, my boyfriend has a crazy ex who attacked me once. I am so sick of this mess and do not know how to maintain this relationship. I do like him so much but her attack (pulling my hair and springing me around in the grocery store) came to as flashbacks and stressed me out.", "summary": "My boyfriend has a crazy ex!"}
{"id": "t3_wfb7j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I watched the first Zeitgeist movie (enter Slowpoke)", "post": "So...\nI have read other threads regarding the movie, but they were too old to comment on. I would like to make a small preamble:\n\nI know many things are wrong with part one; as an inquisitive atheist I knew most of the things he said apart from much of the stuff which turned out to be bullshit anyway. \n\nThe parts that I find intriguing are the last three parts. I don't know much about the federal reserve, so any input would be helpful. The bits about the US engineering the conflicts in WWI, WWII, and Vietnam I find somewhat dubious, but I might ask a friend of line who is a history buff to help me out with this, but again, any input would be great. \n\nNow with part two... I just don't know. I have sort of taken the South Park route and said \"how could a government as apparently inept as ours in so many other ways somehow be responsible for not just 9/11, but virtually every major war in the 20th century.\" But some of the things like the \"molten lead\" in pools around ground zero weeks after the attack, the fall of tower 7 which I have *never* heard about before this movie, the \"vaporizing\" planes of the Pentagon and the field in Virginia... How could they ID the suspects and yet say there was enough heat to vaporize steel? How could jet fuel \"vaporize\" a whole plane in these two instances and yet with countless other documented plane crashes could there be extensive wreckage? Where *was* NORAD during the whole thing? I don't know enough about architecture, not about the structure of the twin towers to have a truly informed opinion, but that's what I hope to gain from making this post.", "summary": "Saw Zeitgeist I (Slowpoke), want to discuss, especially \"vaporizing\" planes. Go, Reddit Go!"}
{"id": "t3_pok42", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What is your best re-gifting story?", "post": "My SO bought me Hershey kisses Christmas edition (the red, green, and white ones) as part of my Christmas present. I hate Hershey kisses, but being the great guy I am, I said thank you so much honey, you're the best! They have been sitting in my room ever since. Now it's the day before valentine's day and I don't have a gift for her. I start panicking trying to figure out what to do, then I see the Hershey kisses and it hits me. I'll open the bag, take out all the red and silver ones and wrap them in nice wrapping and give them to her tomorrow. Crisis avoided.\n\nPics:", "summary": "Will be giving the Hershey kisses my girlfriend got for me for Christmas to her for valentines day."}
{"id": "t3_19bdwk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever had one of those moments when just as things are starting to go right everything just goes to shit?", "post": "So 3 years ago I was rushed to hospital with painful lower abdominal cramping, to cut a long story short it turned out to be bowel cancer. After many months of radiotherapy and chemotherapy it was thankfully removed leaving me with the long process of recovery,18 months into recovery I go to the dentist to get a tooth removed because it was causing an ulcer on the bottom of my tongue, this was back in September last year. After awhile the growth hadnt gone away but had started growing so I booked in to see a specialist, And as it takes so long to see one I had my appointment just last week where they cut some of it off for a biopsy,Today I got my results Mother Fucking Cancer!.. and just as things were starting to go my way in recovery I'm now going to have to start the whole fucking process again!", "summary": "Had Cancer 3 years ago was well into recovery got another mother fucking cancer."}
{"id": "t3_fn8tb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Helping a friend get over an ex", "post": "I have a friend (25f) who broke up with ex (26m) over a year ago, but still has a huge amount of trouble getting over him. And I can see why. She is still in contact with him while following and contacting him constantly on twitter and facebook, and absolutely refuses to break contact without ever really explaining why it isn't an option (it not being an option is a good enough argument it seems).\n\nShe's currently seeing a new guy but is still talks about her ex constantly and has expressed jealousy at his new gf. I know this isn't my business, and I don't want to get involved, but she comes to me to talk about this all the time and I don't know what to say anymore. I've given up on asking her to break contact and trying to explain why she has to in a variety of ways, as that seems unleash nothing but fury guided at me and anyone else who has suggested it. \n\nI want to help, but this is stressful on me too as I don't enjoy having these conversations on a regular basis. Does anyone have any advise?", "summary": "I have a friend who stubbornly refuses to cut contact with an ex and can't get over him."}
{"id": "t3_4cmw0h", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(Independent Contractor) how to create a safety net for refunds", "post": "so first off I will start by saying that I am an independent contractor situated in little old New Zealand. I left high school 3 years ago and have since been going from one job to another, all within the residential and commercial lighting industry. \n\n6 months ago to the day I got a new job, as an independent contractor. Upon taking this wonderful opportunity I didn't quite fully understand what an independent contractor was, in the excitement of it all, trying to find a job I agreed to the position and do my business started. For the most part I love what I do however learning how to deal with money within my business has been a particular struggle for me thus far. My biggest problem is that if a customer cancels their order or would like a refund, the commission that has been payed to me then has to be given back to the company. However I am finding that a lot of these refunds are big orders so at any time I am to refund $400-500. \n\nI have found that if this happens it is causing strain on my personal life as my commission just gets payed into our joint account (my fianc\u00e9 and myself).", "summary": "Am I doing something wrong here? Is this normal? How do I create a safety net to prevent the refunds causing a strain on my budget?"}
{"id": "t3_2e1fqf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by falling for a phone scam", "post": "So anyway, I am just playing a video game when suddenly a phone call arrived.  The guy on the other end claimed he was from Microsoft and that one of my computers was currently under a \"malicious\" attack by \"hackers.\"  He gave me all sorts of personal info, name, official sounding id, and ip address.  His solution was to tell me to go unto my computer and download \"ammyy\" software from a website called \"ww.4help4.com\".  I gave him my id number and I was watching him remote control the computer.  He didn't appear to do anything harmful.  Unfortunately, I did step away from the comp to check on something in the kitchen for about 30 seconds.  He then asked me to download \"teamviewer.\"  It was at this point I started getting suspicious and started looking up this situation on Google.  Needless to say, the first searches started flashing scams in my face.  I then promptly hung up. I used to consider myself technically sophisticated, but now I feel like a total idiot.  Since then, I reformatted the computer but I am still worried something happened.  Not sure how to get rid of this feeling of embarrassment and fear...", "summary": "I was stupid enough to give a hacker access to my comp for fear of hackers"}
{"id": "t3_3do99o", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need advice: pay off debt, save or both?", "post": "The basics: 28 years old, I make $15/hour, I have zero savings and I have approximately 10k in credit card debt. I make about $1,900/month after taxes. I am currently looking for a job that pays more and also offers a 401K and insurance, because my current one does neither.\n\nI've recently moved into my parent's house in order to get a handle on this. \n\nI'm not paying rent, utilities or any other bills. My parents are generous to keep the kitchen stocked and we make dinner every night, so my food expenses are low. I essentially just need to buy gas, personal toiletries and the occasional food item. \n\nUsing unbury.us, I determined that if I put $1,500 toward my debt, I can pay it off by April 2016. I'm using the snowball method. My interest rates are 22.9% (this one will be paid off on August 5), 19.99%, 19.24% and 14.24%. \n\nThis will give me $400/month to live on, which considering I have no expenses except my debt and buying gas, is fine for now. \n\nHowever....I'm wondering if it would be wiser to put less toward my debt and start putting something into savings? So take longer to pay off debt, but have be able to put something into a separate savings account that I won't be spending.", "summary": "pay off debt as quickly as possible without putting money into a savings account OR pay off debt slower, but build my savings on the side?"}
{"id": "t3_34sad7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my BF [30 M] 10 months, I crossed the line flirting twice - mindset to stop", "post": "I've been with my BF for a while. I knew upon meeting him I needed him in my life. He's amazing in almost every aspect. I can't imagine having a more fulfilling relationship. \n\nMy problem is I can be an occasional flirt. I would never cheat, and I never have cheated. However, twice in our relationship I have crossed the line with flirting and hurt him. This used to be a much larger problem when I was younger (16-19ish). But I wouldn't consider it an issue that I have. \n\nHowever, I know that I wouldn't react well to seeing him flirting. I have NEVER seen him flirt with another woman. Both times I felt so terrible about the situation. I know that I never want to jeopardize our relationship or hurt him again. \n\n I'm not flirting intentionally to hurt him or to plant the seeds to form a relationship with another person. Or just flat out intentionally. Honestly, when it happens I am not thinking about it. Both times it has happened we had been drinking close to excessively and I messed up. Although he's been way more drunk than me and practically had women throw themselves at him and he's never taken it too far. But I have.\n\nIn all but the 2 big situations, I feel like I haven't flirted or taken anything too far. So I understand this is a small thing in the grand scheme of everything. Both of us can be pretty insecure at times and he has been cheated on multiple times in past relationships. I want to do everything to avoid hurting him in a situation like this again. \n\nWhat do you do to curb flirting while in a relationship? How do you identify a potentially dangerous situation before it arises? What are your tricks to work on this?", "summary": "I have cross the line flirting in the past. What are your tricks to avoid flirting in relationships?"}
{"id": "t3_hcup4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to create an Indiana Jones-like globe video and need help", "post": "By \"Indiana Jones like\" I mean that I want to create a globe which spins and shows airplanes, buses, and boats tracing the path of my latest vacation [maybe like this]  I have Adobe Premiere and After Effects but am not really sure where to start.  Ideas?  \n\nI mapped out my whole vacation in Google Earth and tried to use that as a starting point..  mainly because they have a cool pan from point to point feature that could easily be screencapped and used for my video..  but KML files aren't easy to work with..  I downloaded an editor but it is sloooow.\n\nIt doesn't even have to be a globe - maps will work..  But I have to be able to show the whole earth - then zoom into a country (say, NZ), and then various provinces and hiking paths.", "summary": "went on vacation to New Zealand, travelled all around, want to create a cool video documenting my travels - with maps"}
{"id": "t3_1k1pbo", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Adopted two skittish kittens yesterday - Need advice on how to make them more comfortable", "post": "Hey guys, I could really use some advice on how to deal with my two new kittens. \n\nI adopted them yesterday from a shelter. They had been there for over a month and no one wanted them because the brother and sister pair had to go together. \n\nWhen I got them home they both cowered in the corner by their litter box but after about an hour they began to sniff around and explore their surroundings. I let them sniff my hands and petted them a little bit. They warmed up to me a little and let me hold them, snuggling into my arm when held. \n\nAs the night went on they became more playful, pouncing on each other and playing with toys. They were still noticeably skittish and would flinch at any unexpected sound or rustles.\n\nWhen I went to sleep I let them stay in my room. (There is a small room connected to my room that has their litter box and food - so they still had full access to those) During the night they really took ownership of the place and ran around like crazy. They did laps around my bed and pounced on my feet and on my bed.\n\nIn the morning when I woke up, they went back to being scared and hiding under the bed. They had both pooped in the corner of my room instead of using the litter box. None of their food or water was gone. I placed them back into the small room and they went back to cowering in the corner like then did when they first arrived. \n\nI need advice on how to make these kittens feel more comfortable and get adjusted to me and their new home. How do I make sure they eat and drink if they still don't trust me. (The food I'm giving them is the same food that they ate at the shelter) What can I do to convince them to use their litter box? (They have both peed in the box so I know that they have found it and know how to use a box)", "summary": "I need advice on how to make two skittish kittens happy and comfortable "}
{"id": "t3_jqev7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you know anyone who you could totally see go into porn (or become a stripper)? I'll go first.", "post": "There's a girl I knew from high school who recently turned 18. She flirts with and touches all kinds of guys, loves the attention, and is constantly acting strapped for cash and does random jobs for her friends for cash (despite insisting on going to Victoria's Secret for her bras. Apparently they're the only ones who can fit a bra right). She also talks pretty dirty, referencing sex when the conversation has nothing to do with it. Such as guys talking about \"jacking (stealing)\" things, she goes \"you know, there's another meaning behind that word.\" She's short, asian, has both mommy and daddy issues, but insists that she doesn't want to date (despite all her flirting). And since she was 15, she's been flirting with grown men in their 20s. I also heard she played strip poker with her older sister's boyfriend when she was in middle school (older sis and bf were 16 i think?) Anyway, she calls herself innocent, but she really straddles the line between innocent and dirty.", "summary": "I know a girl who has issues and flirts with too many boys, and complains about not having enough money. I think she's a future porn candidate."}
{"id": "t3_4o5f07", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU. Business & Friends...NOPE", "post": "So... 6 months ago, I lost my job. I started applying to new positions like a mofo (like any normal person would). I stayed in touch with all my previous connections... \n\nUpdated resume? Check. References? Totally in place. \nI had some savings, so I was trying to hold out for the \"right\" position.\n During this time, I constantly met with a friend of mine to discuss new ideas of ways for us to go out on our own (we've been friends for years).\n\n3 months ago, we decided on our new endeavor. He had been wildly successful in the past, so I felt that, between the two of us, we would make this new endeavor work.  \n\nI spent the last 2 months working with him; planning. He  knew I couldn't hang on (financially) forever, and I never failed to intertwine this into our plans.\n\n2 weeks AFTER we are supposed to launch, he seems to have lost interest, and starts a different business with someone else. Keep in mind; I never fronted him any money. This wasn't a flim-flam operation. It was just as if his ADD pointed him in a different direction.\n\nUnfortunately, I did not have his connections I would need to get this thing up and running on my lonesome. Now, I've burned through my savings, and lost touch with my peeps in my old industry (a lot changes in a few months).\n\nResentfully, I've wasted precious time while my savings dwindled. I have a S.O., a kid, a dog, and a mortgage. I just hope I can figure out my next move before it all goes POOF. \n\nNow, I just need a way to float the bills until I find a legitimate opportunity.", "summary": "Burned through my savings while trying to do a startup with a friend. Don't do business with friends. "}
{"id": "t3_y4js3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me with a network problem?", "post": "So I was on vacation to California for a week. I left my computer off and all that good stuff but we left our router/modem on because my grandma wanted to use the Wi-Fi. When I come back, I turn my computer on hoping to play some games with a couple friends. I hop onto Skype and notice that there are very small, but noticeable lag spikes. I think nothing of it and hop onto DotA 2. Throughout the game, the spikes persisted. It's day 2 of the spikes and I've grown tired of it. Could someone please help?\n\nI have a NETGEAR Router WNDR3400 and the corresponding wireless adapter which is the WNDRA3100. I have to run off wireless on my desktop because my parents forgot to get Ethernet ports when they bought the house.. Thanks in advance.", "summary": "My router has been experiencing lag spikes after a 1 week vacation and I want to know how to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_3fexm6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my gf [19F] of 1 year and 6 months, have found out that she lied to has lied to my face for months", "post": "Me and my gf live far appart from each other.\n\nWe broke up for a few months (feb till jun), and now she has been with me at my place for 2 months, planning our future lives together (who would move where, and such).\n\nBy the end of our \"pause\", when we started talking again and planning her visit (which is currently still going), she had this party to go. She went, and when I asked if something had happened she said it didn't.\n\nFast foward to last night. I've been noticing for a few weeks that she is talking constantly on snapchat a friend, lets call him bud.\n\nI've asked her countless times if her and bud had ever had a thing, and she always said they didn't... until last night.\n\nShe admitted that they had sex that night, but she said that it was a one time thing.\n\nI lost it, and to my shame, I went through her phone. I found countless msgs from her to a friend of hers (lets call her sabrina), talking about \"wow how crazy that night was lol\" and how she wasn't going to tell me. Turns out both of them cheated that night (my gf and sabrina), and kept talking about it a lot.\n\nNow, I really don't know how I should feel. I know that, in fact, she didn't *cheat* on me, but I can't help to feel humiliated and made a fool of.\n\nI appreciate she having the guts to tell me, but how am I supposed to trust her again? The thing is I really wanted this to work. I was really excited, and now, before I make a decision, I would like to know if its unreasonable of me to feel the way that I am.", "summary": "GF has lied about random hook up when we were on a break, came out to me, I lost it, went through her phone, and found msgs of her talking about that night with some proud in it, now although she didn't cheat I don't know weather I should trust her again or not."}
{"id": "t3_1lzd8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20F) boyfriend (24M) said something that I consider to be racist. I don't know where to go from here.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for a little bit over three months. He is much more conservative than I am and also more religious but it never affected the way that we interact or influenced the way I felt about him. The other day we were hanging out and we were talking about relationships. I asked him if he dated any women that were not Caucasian and he said that he had dated an Asian woman and a woman who came from a muslim family. He proceeds to ask me the same question and I say no, but that I've always found black men to be attractive but just never had the opportunity to date such a man. This is where it gets insulting; he says \"Really? Girls only want to date black men because they have big dicks. Classy white girls only date white, brown or Asian men - not black men\" Not only was this racist but it was insulting to me. I told him what he said was seriously wrong and he got defensive saying \"It's not racist, but i'm just stating facts, you'll see when you get older\" after pressuring him for a few minutes he said \"okay, what I said was wrong\" and I sort of dropped it. Its been a day and its still bothering me. Should I bring it up again? I really like him but this side of him has me worried... I've always been openly accepting of other people no matter their colour, sexual orientation, socio-economic status etc and I don't know if a relationship can blossom with such different mindsets..", "summary": "Boyfriend made a racist comment when we were hanging out and I don't know how to continue in this relationship. should I confront him again?"}
{"id": "t3_23q4v3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f/17) am conflicted as to what to do regarding (m/18) because he is friends with my brother (m/18)", "post": "I (f/17) like a guy (m/18) at my school but im not sure if i should ask him out. He is friends with my brother (m/18) so it is a little more to worry about. This guy asked me out in the begining of the school year but i said i could not date him right then because i was new to the school and didnt know that many people and thought i should make friends first. He was kind of upset and ignored me for a while but i texted him a couple of months ago and he hangs out before school with some of our friends and me as well. I am wondering if i should even bother trying to get together with him or if you guys think he has totally moved on and would most likely say no. Keep in mind that i need to try to make our relationship as normal and not awkward as possible because he is friends with my brother and i dont want to mess up their friendship.", "summary": "i dont know what to do about crush who is also friends with my brother"}
{"id": "t3_15ikq8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Honda Accord 2012 drivers, is the car causing you back pain?", "post": "I doubt this will be looked at, but I have been experiencing back pain recently and I think that it is because of my Honda.\n\nI started driving a new Honda Accord 2012 and since then my back has been hurting. The only things that could be causing this are my new mattress and my new car. However, I switched back to my old mattress and even slept on the floor for a while. Nothing seemed to help. I think that it has to do with the car seats that are on the 2012 model. \n\nAre any other Accord drivers experiencing this?", "summary": "Honda Accord 2012 seats have been causing me back pain. "}
{"id": "t3_1jvrms", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Parents being wrongfully sued.", "post": "First and foremost, this is a throwaway account.\nMy parents' own a little shop inside a flea market and they're currently being sued. The story is, a customer came in with her son. While my parents were helping the mother, the son walked off with an item. The mother paid for only one item and left the store. At that time, my parents didn't realize anything was stolen. They later noticed that they're missing the item the son was looking at. It happens, things get stolen inside a store.\n\nHowever, the next day, the customer returns and she tried to exchange the stolen item for a different one. My parents' refused and let her know that the item was not paid for. She (the customer) proceeded to call the cops and is now suing (for what I would assume is defamation?). What can my parents' do?\n\nObviously, when they look back, they should have just taken the loss. But now that it has progressed, they're going to hire a lawyer. What should my parents' expect? Is there anything that they should know before hand? Any advice?", "summary": "Parents being wrongfully sued. Any advice? State of VA."}
{"id": "t3_4h35g9", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Why are Cosmetology School Transcripts necessary to start fresh at University?", "post": "I've been \"trying\" really hard to start my college education this past year, but I'm very stuck due to not being able to obtain all of my transcripts. I was able to obtain my high school transcript and ACT scores from 2009 relatively painlessly, however, I'm having NO luck in retrieving my cosmetology(Paul Mitchell the School)s transcript to be sent to universities I'm interested in. I have contacted PMTS repeatedly without being able to get in touch with anyone in admissions, until finally I was informed that I needed to contact someone else entirely.\n\n*deep breath* So I did. \n\nI spoke with a man who said that he would be able to send out my transcript, however he noticed that I had an outstanding balance of 40k or some outlandish sum of money, to which I made it known that I was COMPLETELY unaware of. He added that I should have been sent to collections by now, that it was a \"school fee\" that would not be covered by financial aid.\nI asked him to elaborate so he said he would send me more information on it, then instructed me to send him an email with the address of the university I wish to have my transcripts sent to. \n\nAnd I never heard back. \n\nI did not complete my degree at PMTS, I dropped out at about 400+/- hours. I'm having a hard time understanding why those transcripts are even necessary to continue my education if I start out as a freshman anyway. But...\n\nI NEED MY TRANSCRIPT GOSH DARN IT! \n\nI need help, looking to see if someone is able to enlighten me as to any loop holes to get around, or if there are any similar experiences shared by others, or in general please just tell me what I need to do because I'm very lost. Also, why would I owe such a ridiculous amount of money just for 400hours of school? It just doesn't seem right.", "summary": "I need my hair school transcripts but they won't send them so I can't start my college education but I really need/want to."}
{"id": "t3_2i3muj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F] of two years, Feeling like a breakup imminent", "post": "I'm going to preface this post by saying that I know what I have to do and have thought about it a lot. I just wanted to have it written down someplace and have some other people's insight to make sure I'm not insane.\n\nMy GF and I have been dating since about half way through high school. We now go to the same college together. I chose to come to this college based on its program. I'm fairly sure she chose this college largely based on me choosing to come here. It's a nice school, but she's in a sort of bland major and doesn't really seem to have along term plan with it.\n\nI know I should have ended it back then. I shouldn't have let her follow through with it. But here we are. We're here together and starting to drift apart. \n\nWe used to be fairly sexually active. It has simmered down to almost nothing in the last month. That doesn't bother me so much as the reason. I'm constantly irritating her. I do it on purpose on a subconscious level. I don't know why. I make her upset over small things, and usually don't feel bad. \n\nShe's a beautiful girl, she really is. But small things about her bother me now, on a physical level. Smells, breathe, hair, the list goes on. There things most people would never notice, but they repulse me pretty often now.\n\nI just feel awful. When I break it, she won't really have anyone. When we came here, we mostly stuck together because we didn't know any people. The product of that is that we really don't have any real friends now. I'm fairly independent and can get by fine with acquaintances. But she needs someone. We're 6 hours from our hometown.\n\nI realize the problem with high school sweethearts going to college together is that you just aren't the same people that you were. Everything is different and we just don't get along now. If neither of us our happy, what's the point.", "summary": "Venting, thank you for reading. Any comments, criticism, or support are/is welcome."}
{"id": "t3_4klykf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "MFP and Fitbit not communicating properly, getting different results", "post": "Hello all, so the other day I read a post about using MFP to track food and just linking it to a Fitbit so I figured I would give it a shot since everyone loves MFP so much. I've been using my Fitbit with a fair amount of success since February and love it but I end up adding a lot of foods since they aren't in the database.\n\nMy problem is this: I linked MFP with Fitbit for steps and food and only logged my food in MFP like it told me to in 3 different places. I have all the same statistics in both applications including desired weight loss but at the end of the day I had different amounts of calories left. \n\nIn order to lose 1lb/week  Fitbit says I need a 500 Cal deficit so I assume it's the same with MFP but MFP says I have 36 calories remaining and Fitbit says I'm OVER by 110 calories. \n\nI tried checking online first and I can only find people having the opposite problem bc they accidentally log food in both apps but I am 100% sure I did not do that. \n\nHas anyone had this problem? How did you fix it?", "summary": "using MFP and Fitbit together, Fitbit says I'm over 110 calories MFP says I have 36 calories left."}
{"id": "t3_4x8lwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (28f) having a hard time distinguishing between realistic love and settling", "post": "I know that there is no such thing as fairytale love  and that realistically there will be fighting and lulls and things will get comfortable.  I know that people will have flaws and may have some unfavourable traits.  \n\nWhat I don't know though is what the difference between finding someone you enjoy being with and both making the effort to love each other (because love takes effort and doesn't just magically last withouut work) and settling. \n\nEveryone says settling  is bad and you should never settle,  but at what point do you realize that what is in front of you is good enough.  Finding someone that can be 100% everything to you seems unrealistic, so it's it settling or is it being  realistic about love?   There seems to be a very fine line between the two.", "summary": "what's the difference between settling and being realistic about love?"}
{"id": "t3_1azpax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my friend[21] is being abused...", "post": "I met my good friend's new [just over a month] boyfriend[22] this weekend for the first time at a party. A quick backstory, they met when she was 14 and he was 15, and she fell in love with him but he did not reciprocate, but they have just recently reconciled and begin to date. He is about to move into her apartment.\n\nAnyways, the night I met him he was quiet, but seemed alright, that is until he started drinking. He drank nearly an entire bottle of gin to himself, mostly chugging straight from the bottle. He didn't even seem drunk afterwards. He was constantly berating my friend in front of everyone. Commenting on her weight, insulting her intelligence, insinuating she was promiscuous, and constantly arguing with her. The next second he would kiss he and tell her he loves her.\n\nThe scariest moment was when he leaned over and gave her a small slap on the face and scolded her for something she said. He did this more than once, and in front of myself and another person.\n\nI later asked my other friend what she thought and she brushed it off saying it was all an act, and that he was just trying to seem weird and intense to impress me (?). \n\nI want to talk to my friend about her boyfriend, but I'm scared she won't listen, or that she will tell him and he will try and turn her against me. Does anyone have any advice?", "summary": "Witnessed a friend get berated and slapped by her boyfriend, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4qoila", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By making flan", "post": "Dear Reddit, this fuckup happened just minutes ago. I'm a pretty good cook and love a stove top. I can saute all kinds of things, but I can't bake (I think of it as art vs science). Well, today I decided to try some science and make flan. Four ingredients, no biggie, right? So I melt my sugar, mix beat my eggs and get my delicious flan all ready to bake in a pie plate. And this is where I fucked up. It was a very full pie plate of flan, but I didn't think anything of it, so I pop that baby in the oven, put on some Sunny and play guitar. Thirty minutes go by my smoke alarm goes off. I run over to the oven where I'm greeted not with a delicious golden brown flan, but a roaring fire. Who knew sugar was flammable? As smoke begins filling my apartment, I frantically grab for a fire extinguisher to put it out, but not before the building's alarm goes off. I get it out, and evacuate with the rest of my building. I'm sitting outside right now watching fire men go in and waiting for their OK to go back in. My neighbors know which  apartment it was, but not who lives in it. I may continue to be a hermit and not meet them.", "summary": "Tried to bake flan, set it on fire, and evacuated my building."}
{"id": "t3_40qrrs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F22] am really jealous of my fiances [M24] female friend[F19].. We've been together for over two years and have a baby due any day now..", "post": "I should open by saying that his end of the relationship is open ended(I have no interest in seeing other people). \n\nWe have talked about their relationship quite a bit, and what it would be if it were to go beyond friendship, but so far she isn't attracted to him (she has a type and he is not it) and here enters the problem... \n\nHe is super stuck on this girl. When she is around, and he leaves with her, they're gone for hours and I stay home with his daughter. Really I am venting but I feel stuck at home and boring when he's around.. I mean I know I am, I don't have anything interesting to say about my day, and I know when they're gone they either hang out at the gas station or at her mom's house... Pretty much what ever she feels like doing since she's the one driving. \n\nI mean, I don't think I will lose him to her, but it bothers me that I don't have the gull to say anything about how long he leaves for and how when he's home he's either working, on his phone, or sleeping. \n\nHe tells me I'm beautiful but I feel like when he says that because he feels obligated, like he knows I'm feeling shitty about myself. Which is often, but being 40 lbs heavier than I normally am, and being super hormonal doesn't help...\n\nI guess I'd just like to hear some input, maybe some experiences with open relationships.", "summary": "new to the whole open relationship thing, and fiances new friend makes me feel... Insignificant"}
{"id": "t3_u0efl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mother is suffocatting me and I don't know what to do?", "post": "My mom is a co- dependent person, sometimes I don't thing she can think by herself. We lost my brother to a drug over dose a year ago. In the time since, she's become depressed and her co-dependencies have gotten worse. Here are some things she does she won't go shopping unless someone is with her, she has no real friends because she doesnt work, and stays holed up in the house.  She hates to go places because she is sick of being a caretaker for my disabled father. She is always involved in my deceased brothers ex fianc\u00e9 or my other brother mixed up life, so the drama in in front and center. I will tell her to get out and she thinks I'm being mean to her. I sometimes need to take a break because I can't stand the drama or her outlook. All she does is bring others down. I know she sees a therapist and takes meds but I don't think they works some weeks. I know losing my brother was hard, but she say things like \"she lost her best friend\" to her other children. All thing does is hurt our feelings because we have all been there for her over the years. \nShe is only 61, my brother was 34 when he died. And she still was letting him live with her.", "summary": "mother is suffocating me brother died and she is very co dependent"}
{"id": "t3_2pdyuz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 F] just started my first real relationship with [29/m] and am need of some advice.", "post": "At the age of 26, I just started my first real relationship.  After being involved in church and ministry my entire life, I finally left and decided to pursue opportunities to make myself happy --which unexpectedly led me to a guy with whom I really like.  However, I don't even have a clue what being in a relationship really means mainly because everything I have ever known or learned about relationships revolved around church and following certain rules.  What is the main goal of relationships?  To make the other person happy?  To support each other?  How far do you compromise your own desires for the other person? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "At the age of 26, I just started my first real relationship and desperately need advice about how a relationship works."}
{"id": "t3_3sgkvd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21m] and dating a [23f] who gets offended when I try to nudge her in \"the right direction\"", "post": "I put \"the right direction\" in quotes because that's just my opinion... But at the same time it's not. I am joining the military and i am desperately trying get more fit. I am losing weight, lifting weights, swimming and running. My girlfriend complains to me about her physique a few times a month. I try to offer her advice... Simple advice without attacking her, but she gets so defensive every time. I talk to her about her diet and excersised but she deflects my advice and still complains. She tells me the only reason I am getting healthy is because I'm joining the military. This is a part of it.... However, there is more to it than that. I want to be healthy and not be chubby. So does she. However, I am working hard at it and she is not. Then she complains and it starts the cycle over again. I need help here.... I love her but I want to be a healthy family and I want to marry someone who can get shit done and not just make excuses. It is important to me. Am I being selfish, here?", "summary": "GF won't be healthier even though she and i want her to be.... How do I help her? Am I being selfish?"}
{"id": "t3_rdj3q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is Nena's Finest in Yakima, WA?", "post": "So we were looking for a strip club in Yakima Washington. No luck there. But we kept getting hits for a place called Nena's Finest, with tags fors Adult Entertainment and Services. We got their address online, so we drive over. When we get there, it's an upper-middle class neighborhood, and the address in question is a fairly nice triplex. This is at 2 o'clock inthe morning. We decide to call them and see what they are about. So we call them and they answer. At two in the morning. Shaking off the shock real quick we  ask if it was in fact Nena's Finest. The guy who answers confirms it is. Then we ask what they sell. He hung up on us. So, barring the fact that no reputable business outside of fast food is usually open at two in the morning, we are reasonably convinced this place is a brothel. \n\nSo the next day, we call again, and a different guy answers, and he has no idea what we are talking about when we ask about Nena's Finest. So we go back to the address, and when we go to the door, a small child answers. We leave. The gps says that the other address could be a smaller house just down the street. When we knock on the door there, a sweet old lady answers, and does not know what Nena's Finest is, but she mentions that people are always mixing her address. And here we are. We are going to go back later and try again, but if Reddit happens to know what the deal here is that would be awesome.", "summary": "= We are convinced that a place called Nena's Finest is a brothel or something sketch like that, but not quite sure."}
{"id": "t3_3b81ua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [16 F] girlfriend of two weeks thinks that I [17 M] am only dating her/talking to her so I can sleep with her", "post": "Okay so basically I met this girl a few weeks ago and we really hit it off, starting dating a few days later. So far things have been going great, up until yesterday.\n\nYesterday we are making out and all of a sudden she stops and I ask what's wrong, and she says that she's worried that I only want her for sex, and that the only reason I like her is because she is hot.\n\nI'm asking for advice on how I can convince her that I do like her for more than just her body. I know our relationship has only started very recently, but i do like her a lot and would like to see it progress. Yesterday when we were texting we talked about it and I told her that she meant so much more than just sex to me, and that she was funny, talented, and many other things, basically that I really enjoyed being around her and being with her, but I don't think she believed me 100%.", "summary": "Girlfriend who i have yet to sleep with thinks the only reason I'm with her is for sex, which is not true. Advice for convincing her of this."}
{"id": "t3_3vd0qd", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by storing my hat in an oven", "post": "I'm at uni. I've been staying up late because I have CompSci classes to finish this semester before switching out of the major. This evening, I went downstairs to go to the dining commons for dinner. I was wearing my rabbit fur bomber hat, and upon stepping outside I realized that it wasn't cold enough for such an accessory. Stepping back inside, realizing I didn't want to climb fifty steps to put it back in my room, my overfatigued brain got the brilliant idea to temporarily store my hat in the oven in the lounge kitchenette. Surely, I thought, it will be safe there for half an hour while I'm out. I get back and go upstairs to do a shit-ton of work. Two hours and a load of laundry later I realize that I've left my hat in the oven. I go back down to the lounge where a group of people is sitting. As casually as possible I peek into the oven. An individual sitting nearby says \"Are you looking for a hat?\" I inform him that I am and the group breaks down into snickers. \"Yeah, it's outside. Why the hell did you put your hat in the oven?\" I explain why and he proceeds to query \"*Were you dropped on your head as a child?*\" At this point I just leave before I say something stupid. I find my hat outside, partially melted and with fur singed. Best part is I live across the hall from said individual. I'm about ready to give up.", "summary": "Tired me trying to finish classes leaves hat in oven and gets singed hat and reputation as a fool."}
{"id": "t3_4n7uff", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "My son is 4 months old and I divorced his alcoholic father a month ago. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I cope with the guilt?", "post": "I never believed in divorce, I thought marriage was forever but life dealt me another set of cards. We went down every avenue trying to fix our marriage - two inpatient rehab stays, AA, Al-Anon, marriage counseling, individual counseling. When our son was born it was like someone flipped a light switch and I realized that my son was not safe with him and he couldn't grow up with the uncertainty of being parented by an addict, even though he's mostly a functional one. I moved to another state and moved in with my parents and the three of us work together to care for my son and make his life as happy as possible. My dad is super involved, changing diapers, taking him for walks, playing with him, etc but my dad is not his father. \n\nI'm struggling even though I know my decision was the right one with the guilt of robbing my son of his real father.  His dad rarely asks about him and when he does, he will text my mom. Most of his Facebook posts are about how much he misses our son. He tells me he doesn't ask about him because talking to me is too painful. He also owes me over $500 in back child support. He told me it was because he was waiting for them to mail him the paperwork. I took care of all the proper forms yesterday, once again taking care of his responsibilities and enabling him just like I did in our marriage.\n\nHow do I let go of the guilt, the love I still have for my ex husband and raise a strong man without a dad? Please tell me it gets better.", "summary": "My son's father is an alcoholic. I divorced him and I feel guilty that my son won't grow up with a dad."}
{"id": "t3_4kvdwb", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job Hunt Advice/Suggestions?", "post": "So, I just finished up my graduate assistantship with my Master of Arts in English in the midwest of the U.S. I thought about going the PhD route, but decided against it because the academic job market is beyond awful and I didn't fancy the idea of having literally no say in where I live or work in 5 years down the road (or 6, or 7...you get the idea). I thought I'd landed a decent job with a marketing firm for after graduation, but that turned out to be a Cydcor/DS-Max/Smart Circle scam. So, back to the job hunt. \n\nWhat I'm doing currently: I've applied for a few technical writing jobs, but three of them have totally blown me off, and I just submitted my pre-req writing sample for the other one. I'm hoping to get some experience blogging/marketing with an education-focused non-profit soon, and I'm meeting with my contact there later this week.\n\nI'm also trying to teach myself coding in my spare time w/ FreeCodeCamp and Dash.GA. So, I'm thinking of tossing in an application for an entry-level position as a web app developer. The company is fairly new and offers training and, unlike the marketing job I thought I had, looks legitimate. I'd have to take a pre-interview aptitude test. Unfortunately, I'm pretty terrible at math.", "summary": "Anyone have any other advice or suggestions for what I should do on my current job hunt? I'd really prefer to stay out in this area (luckily, my rent's cheap, and I'm also applying for part time jobs to keep my head above water)."}
{"id": "t3_35rkx3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my close friend [19 F] of 2 semesters, she tells me she's gay, then I find out it's more complicated than that, then she tells me she loves me and I'm not sure what to do.", "post": "I met this girl during orientation the first week of college. A couple weeks later she started to ask me to go to events with her fairly regularly and we started to become very close. I thought our relationship might turn romantic but then she told me she was gay and only wanted to be friends. This was sort of an emotional blow to me because she was the closest I had ever been to an actual romantic relationship, but I got over it and we stayed friends.\n\nI didn't really talk to her much for a while until like a month into the next semester when she suddenly started asking me to have dinner with her or go to the movies on a fairly regular basis again, like once or twice a week. I wrote these events off as just friendly gestures since she had said she wasn't attracted to guys. Things got more confusing after we started getting drunk together every weekend. She changes a lot when she gets drunk. Someone asked her if she was a lesbian and she replied that that was \"the best theory\". And then she started spontaneously making out with guys at parties. At this point I realized she was sort of emotionally complicated with regards to her sexuality, and I decided not to bring it up. But then she got really drunk one night and made out with my best friend, and she felt really bad about that and apologized to me the next day, so I sort of had to acknowledge that I knew her sexuality was sort of complicated. Anyway, the other day she got super drunk again and started telling me that she was in love with me, and I wasn't really sure what to do (I was also completely sober). \n\nSo now I'm really not sure what to do- should I bring this up with her? I still have feelings for her but I'm more worried about harming her own emotional state, which seems rather fragile, than anything else. She's my best female friend and I wouldn't want to ruin that.\n\nAlso, many apologies if I made an error in style or something, this is my first time posting to Reddit.", "summary": "I become close friends with a girl, she tells me she's gay, she starts making out with guys when she's drunk and then she tells me she loves me. Now I'm just confused."}
{"id": "t3_3h1yef", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by peeing.", "post": "I was standing in front of my toilet, unleashing my golden stream, when suddenly a wasp flies by me, towards the toilet. I absolutely hate wasps. Since I'm mid pee I can't just walk away, so I just hope this wasp doesn't have a vendetta against me for some reason. Unfortunately for me, the wasp while flying around in the toilet, was hit by pee laser. It crashed into the water. With in a second, the wasp was back up and charging at me, murder in its eyes. I staggered back, only to trip over my scale, as I fell, pee sprayed everywhere, all over the walls and me. The wasp wasn't satisfied with that though, it went on to sting me right on my dick.", "summary": "Wasp stabbed his stinger into my stinger."}
{"id": "t3_4r0749", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 21 M with my parents 40 M/F, keep asking me for money I don't have", "post": "I've always thought my parents were fair people but some recent events have been making me question it. In about 2 months I'll be moving to another town to go to school. I'm very excited about finally getting out of the house and being independent for once. My parents have been supportive but they don't really seem to want to help me try to find a place or things like that. That's fine! I mean I have to start doing things for myself. I had about 2,000 saved to help with the move. But over the past few months my parents have been asking me for money for non important things. At first I was fine with it and wanted to help them because I thought they needed the money for important things. When I check my bank statements I see them just taking money out of my card and going shopping to places like clothing stores and fast food.\n\nI was pretty angry but since I hate confrontation I didn't say anything. This has been going on for a few weeks now. Every week my dad will come to me and ask for 20$ here or 60$ here or just ask for my card. Now I'm down to about 500$ and I'm starting to panic about how I'm going to afford to move. I talked to my mom about this and she felt offended about me even bringing it up. When I ask her how she expects me to move with so little money she just doesn't say anything and says she wouldn't ask me for money if she didn't need it. If I press the subject she'll guilt trip me about how she doesn't want me to move far away or how I'm disrespectful. I know I'm enabling them by not being more aggressive about it. \n\nI just feel like a human atm machine and I just can't understand how they are okay with it taking money from their son like this. I'm starting to resent them for it and when I move not wanting to have contact with them for awhile.  They don't know exactly how much money I have left so I think I should just tell them I have none left.  Any advice?", "summary": "I am supposed to be moving in 2 months but parents keep asking me for money I don't have."}
{"id": "t3_2radjq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Im going to kill myself today", "post": "You don't know me, nor have i posted before I just felt like explaining my side before it gets twisted and conformed. The people/'family' or lack of I should say will tell it there way and diagnose the situation themselves being ass backwards and having as many conversations as you could count on one hand in twenty four years.\n\nSo lets make this short, i started strong in life despite my surroundings and being on my own from the time of 14 taking care of two younger brothers with a 'dad' who fucked off to be a 'rockstar' and meet his new family, and a mom who provided us a roof but was never there she would stop in once a week when the check was supposed to be in the mailbox and that was it. In all the years of self sacrifice taking care of my brothers and giving up my social life with the exception of dealing to make sure we had food or a motel room on the odd nights needed or when evictions came. Until jail came..\n\nYears later came the loss of loved ones and the toll it took on mentally to only lose more loved ones. Which lead to serious depression and numerous attempts unseen by others. This then formed my addiction which of coarse as any addict knows only caused/causes more problems. anyways thats not the issue i am two years clean apart from the mild slips between the relapses thanks to the methadone clinic. By all means it did what it was supposed to do, it stopped me from sticking myself with a needle 10 times a day, great right? \n\nSo eventually all I want is to mend relationships, I mean i lost the love of my life, my family and even my dog the only thing that probably kept me here as long as i've been. I have had jobs, I have done everything that was asked but its just never enough expecially when the only thing you want is someone to care or support you occasionally telling you to keep it up or im glad you're sober.", "summary": "Anyways at this point in life I should of been much further along only to constantly feel like im starting over, never living in a house for more then a year. Losing all friends, and family. If this is all life is I dont want it anymore, and i've put the effort in and taken the time for 'things to get better' but it doesn't. So I am going to get high one last time and blow out the candles, its impossible to go through life alone and without help or support atleast for me. "}
{"id": "t3_1p7jkl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was the very first thing you said after being rendered speechless by a beautiful person?", "post": "My guy friend and I worked in a hotel in Yosemite as housekeepers and we took turns at for \"Turndown\" service. We knock on the door and give you fresh towels, turn down your bed and leave the little chocolates on the pillows. When there are people in the room they most often will just want the chocolate mints and towels. Well my bf knocks on one door and this GORGEOUS girl answers the door in a towel, damp hair, amazing eyes, the whole package. She smiles and says \"Hi there!\", he is standing there smiling for what seems like an eternity and finally stammers \"Hi, would you like chocolates.....or maybe flowers?\"   She grabs the chocolates out of his hand , says a quick thanks and closes the door. The look on his face along with the open hand in the air still makes me laugh. So...What did you say?", "summary": "Housekeeper was supposed to offer chocolates and offers to give her flowers instead."}
{"id": "t3_1ueigk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] and my roommate [25 M] 6 months left on lease, ended things 2 weeks ago, now he's bringing girls back", "post": "We met during college about 4 years ago.  Initially, we hooked up once , but nothing came of it because I ended up in a relationship.  We maintained a weak friendship for about 2 years until things got rocky with my boyfriend.  At that point, my now roommate ended up convincing me to cheat on and leave my boyfriend.\n\nSo, we continued hooking up for a year, no strings attached.  I was seeing other people, and had assumed he was doing the same.  Earlier this year, he became upset about me seeing other people, and in return I stopped and committed to only him.  By June, we moved into a house with 4 total roommates, and continued to only see each other (at least I did).  By late December, I found the commitment without a title to be dissatisfying and asked him if we could take a break from each other.  I told him I don't know how to be friends without sex, and I need some time apart.  He twisted my words and says I don't \"want\" to be friends, and now he's bringing girls into our home.\n\nBasically, I'm feeling sick and anxious with him bringing other girls into my home.  I'm losing weight and I'm having sleep problems.  I've quit drinking, drugs, and having sex for the time being.  However, I'm having a hard time dealing with the loss of intimacy and overall, a friend.\n\nI've asked him to move out for a week and not bring girls back, for my health and sanity.  He's arguing that my demands are ridiculous.  Are they?  How can we compromise?", "summary": "Used to sleep with roommate, now he's bringing girls back.  How can we compromise?"}
{"id": "t3_1n1xzw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I being a bad person?", "post": "Trying to keep this short, also apologies for spelling as this is all off my poor Nokia phone! \n\nBasically, I (18) met a girl on okcupid (22) . I have been on 4 dates with this girl and we got on great from the start and by the second date were acting as if we were a couple almost, the hand holding, kissing, cuddling etc. The problem is I have recently realised as much as i do like this girl the chemistry isn't there for me. Im not how i have been in previous relationships where at the beginning i cant stop thinking about them, or i skip a beat when her name appears on my phone ect. \n\nNow, i can tell this girl likes me alot and she has said so herself, and i worry that by continuing to see her (even though i do enjoy it and want to continue) , i may be misleading or leading her on as she may continue to like me more whereas i dont see my feelings increasing for her and i feel maybe i am simply continuing to see her as i don't have a lot of friends due to moving house alot, and i like having somebody to spend my weekends with. \n\nSo is it wrong or if were both having fun should i let it continue?", "summary": "i enjoy seeing this girl, but can't see myself in a serious relationship with her, do i continue seeing her?"}
{"id": "t3_1lxjei", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[M/16] Getting over a perfect long-distance \"relationship\" that could never work out?", "post": "I know I might sound really immature about the whole deal, but I've never been in a relationship before, due to inherent insecurity/ lack of self confidence.\n\nSo, l met this really cool girl while playing a video game. We chatted for a bit, exchanged pics, and discovered we share a lot with each other. Like, a LOT. Our musical tastes were almost the same (exchanged a couple of great bands.) She was German living in Turkey, and I am a Georgian currently in India, waiting for my Ozzie perm visa (my dad's Indian.) She was really cute looking, and I was kinda amused to know that she didn't rate me below Marilyn Manson in handsomeness. She actually even said that I looked pretty handsome (I still don't believe it myself.) We chatted for a week, and we found out that we were like a perfect match. I grew really emotionally attached to her, and I kept kidding myself that this would work out. In 2 weeks we knew that we had fallen for each other, and none of us could help it. I hinted her a couple of times that maybe we should end it before something really happened, but we just couldn't do it.\n\nThe inevitable did happen, however. She got reality checked when talking to her friends, who just told her to get a real boyfriend. It's getting hard for me to even chat with her right now, I have no life, and playing video games is no fun for me, which is like the worst thing ever for me. Also, everyone in my house and my mates keep asking me why I look so sad all the time. I was goalkeeping, and I usually scream my ass off at the totally incompetent defenders, but I just gave up on them, and tried to cover up their mistakes. \n\nI am feeling really down right now, and just don't feel like there is any reason to see the day that follows. Even listening to Breaking Benjamin only reminds me of her, and that is not exactly the best thing for me right now.", "summary": "No life, no girlfriend. How to get over depression?"}
{"id": "t3_2r6m9e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not watching what I say", "post": "Basically, I'm one of those guys that make sarcastic \"your mom\" jokes ever so often with my friends. I was at my best friend's house, let's call him Joe. One day, Joe and his friend, let's call him Tom, was also there. A few days ago, I remember Joe telling me that his Tom's mother had passed away from cancer a few years ago. So all of us were just hanging out at Joe's house. After playing some board games, Tom asked \"What else should we do?\". Since I'm a complete moron and not realizing my actions, I blurt out \"YOUR MOM\". Then, I get the dirtiest look from Tom but I still didn't realize what I've done. I looked at Joe, still clueless, and he said \"Dude, really?\". It was at that moment I realized, I fucked up.", "summary": "Made a \"your mom\" joke to my best friend's friend that has a mom that passed away from cancer."}
{"id": "t3_4p051n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26F) don't know how to deal with my daughter's (7F) father (26M)", "post": "For this I'll call my daughter Jessica and her dad Brad.\n\nBrad has not played an active role in Jessica's life from the beginning. His communication has ranged from nothing at all to once in a while. Over the last few years he has maybe talked to or seen Jessica once a year. She is a very sensitive child and this is a very touchy subject for her. \n\nWithin the last few months Jessica has brought up that she feels left out of our family (me, my husband and younger sister) because she has a different last name. She says she feels like an orphan. Jessica asked my husband to adopt her. My husband would, he's the only stable father figure she has ever known, we started dating right before she turned a year old. The issue is her father, Brad, would have to sign off on the adoption or it'd be a long, costly, process. \n\nLast week Jessica asked to call Brad and I hesitantly let her. He answered but wouldn't speak to her. She was crushed. I have since decided that it's time to put her in counseling to help her cope. The issue is, I don't have any firm answer from Brad on his intentions. Does he ever plan on coming around? If not, will he sign the adoption paperwork?  How do I ask, in a text message, that won't come off in a confrontational way?", "summary": "Absent father, crushed daughter, how do I get an answer from him to help my daughter cope with his absence?"}
{"id": "t3_1plkc4", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my car stolen", "post": "Today, I went surfing, and as some surfers know, you either bring your keys in the water in your wetsuit, or you toss em in a bush nearby, especially if they are the electronic type like mine. Now I know you think well thats dumb but after doing this hundreds of times in my many years of surfing I thought getting my car stolen would never actually happen. \n\nSo I go surf for two hours and have some of the most fun waves I've had in a long time. On my way back as stoked as can be my friend who I was with asks me, \"gdshred95, where is your car?\" I responded \"shut up what are you talking about,\" do a double take, and see that my car is in fact gone. We call the police and go through the whole process of trying to trace our phones but unfortunately this guy was smarter than we thought and shut both of them off. After all this we are told that our case is of low priority but that they will be on the lookout. That sounded promising. Long story short all my valuables such as wallet and phone were in there and now I am waiting and hoping my car has not been taken to a chop shop, is still intact, and is found. \n\nIt is ironic how such a great day can end in a shitty way.", "summary": "Don't get your car stolen by trying to hide the keys nearby, car thief's aren't that dumb."}
{"id": "t3_3lvmhv", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Few Questions Regarding What I can Afford/ Car Buying", "post": "Hello all,\n\nLong time lurker here on PF and I just want to first off say thank you for all the advice and help you guys give. It's been pretty helpful for me as I make the transition from college into the workforce. That being said, I was wondering what you guys think I should be able to afford in the ways of a car while still aptly saving for the future. In the city I moved to, I thought I could survive with out a car as I have done before, but it's becoming more and more difficult just based on my work and living situation. Here's some info to help:\n\n* $70k Annual Salary before taxes\n* ~$28k in student Loans (~$300 min payment/month)\n* $1150 Monthly Rent\n\nI really like the Mazda3. I would like to buy new for around ~20k, but from what I've gathered looking at previous threads, you guys recommend a used car that's a few years old. What do you think about my situation? I think that a used one would run me about ~$15k for one with low mileage. I would have to take out a car loan in either situation.", "summary": "Would you recommend I wait (even though it would make living difficult) until I pay off my loans a little more? Should I go new or used?"}
{"id": "t3_4r832y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22/F] can't seem to be able to get emotionally close to people", "post": "I'm actually rather quick to form bonds with people, as long as it's purely platonic. I'm actually really sociable and outgoing.\n\nWhen I was younger, in high school and during the first couple of years of university, I had quite a few flings and never felt the need to go further even if I developed crushes and had momentary obsessions with some people. More recently, I've attempted to engage in relationships with people I was initially very interested in.\n\nThere was this guy ( 24 ) I'm pretty sure I felt something for, but it went downhill quite fast, after a month and a half of frequently hanging out with each other. He's the one who left. It was rather contradictory because as much as his presence made me feel some sort of high or adrenaline rush, it also stressed me out and I was unable to reach out to him and to attempt to build something, I just felt like withdrawing more and more even though he was pretty nice and understanding. I ended up lashing out at him.\n\nThen I met someone else I started growing attached to ( 25 ) and he was also pretty understanding and after a month I just starting stressing out more and more due to his presence until I just started constantly lashing out at him. When he came back to my town with an expensive birthday present for me, I had to force myself to walk all the way to the train station and to be nice to him, because I was internally panicking and knew I couldn't do this anymore since we'd become too close lately.\n\nI really don't know where this problem stems from, but it's as if my brain classified romantic bonding as a potential danger. Since both of the guys I recently dated have the same social circle as me, and we're all regular members of a close-knit forum, I do occasionally bump into them and we occasionally message. But both of their presences just make me feel uneasy. And I always feel bad that I've been a nuisance to the first guy, and it just makes me feel inadequate. His opinion of me actually matters for whatever reason.\n\nI know that I'm not obligated to engage in a relationship, but this whole business just makes me feel horrible.", "summary": "I can't seem to be able to get close to anyone romantically."}
{"id": "t3_2h2tdq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend[19 F] of a year just broke up. Need advice on coping.", "post": "I was in a relationship with a girl from Canada, while I live in the US. After 8 months online, we decided to try to meet in person. The details aren't important, but just say there were some complications, and she decides that she doesn't want to keep waiting to be happy, she doesn't want to keep trying and failing, so she calls it off. The kicker to this story is that I have been dealing with depression for many, many years. She was the first person to really break through the mental walls I have set up over the last decade, and because of that, she was able to affect me on an emotional level I have never experienced. The downside to that is that now, because it's over, the hurt is deeper than I have ever felt. Anyone in a similar situation that can give tips on how to just go about my day-to-day?", "summary": "Huge emotional investment in a relationship that ends before I was ready, need to know how to cope with break-up + depression"}
{"id": "t3_4855ht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34 F] with my 49 [ M/F] 3 years fianc\u00e9, we get along well but is the relationship healthy if I've gained almost 100 pounds?", "post": "I don't know if my relationship with my fianc\u00e9 is healthy or not or if I should stay with him or not.\n\nThe thing that scares me the most is that I just got on the scale and I was up to about 220 pounds.  I moved in with him 2 years ago and I was 145.  I don't know why I've been gaining so much weight, I don't know if it's emotional eating stemming from unhappiness, but I think it is.\n\nIt's a big step to say it's over with him because of my weight gain, which I should take my own personal responsibility for.  However, I want to point out that I was living alone for 15 years and my weight was fine.", "summary": "I'm eating my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_26veyk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by answering a booty call with an upset stomach (NSFW)", "post": "I was just sitting down to play with my favorite plug and a vibrator when my FWB texted me to tell me he wants me...I respond to tell him my current situation and that I was thinking of him, so he invites me over so he can fuck my ass properly.\n\nNow...my stomach's been bothering me for a few days, but I'm feeling alright, and the plug came out clean, so I figured it was no worries, right?  I'm sure you already know, that wasn't right.\n\nWe were fooling around with the lights off, and things felt absolutely amazing...I get off, then he gets off...then he pulls out and makes a sort of surprised sound...I glance at him at notice that he's staring at his dick with an uncomfortable look.  Then the smell hits me.  Oh.  Oh shit.\n\nHe was remarkably cool about it--grabbed a pack of baby wipes and we both cleaned up, he asked if I was okay, or if the sex was too rough, then assures me he's not upset and I shouldn't be embarrassed (of course, this doesn't stop me from being mortified).  The sheets managed to be fine, somehow.  We actually continued to hang out for several hours afterwards, and had sex a few more times before I headed home (though, we opted for the more traditional orifice after that...).", "summary": "answered a booty call with a burbly tummy, ended up shitting all over my FWB's dick."}
{"id": "t3_29dex1", "subreddit": "college", "title": "The legality of dormlife requirements for freshmen, sophomores, and transfer students", "post": "The public state university I am attending used to require all of their freshmen to live on campus - no matter what. Students could apply for an exemption if they already lived in town with their family, but exemptions were stingily given. Then, last year the university administration decided to extend the policy to include sophomores as well. My younger sister, an incoming transfer student in fairly good academic standing (3.4 GPA), basically said \"fuck that\" and signed a lease on an apartment of her own close to campus for a much lower price than the dorms. The school proceeded to send her letters of increasing urgency, citing school policy and backing it up with claims that living on campus (despite having been a singularly crappy experience for me) has proven to make the average student achieve higher and feel more personally fulfilled.\n\nShe sent an exemption request and was denied in another letter. This paragraph concerned me the most: **\"For your convenience, if we have not received your agreement or an approved request for exemption by this date, we will post the housing charges to your account so that the university bill reflects all charges. It will be important that we still receive a housing agreement after this date so we can assign you to a room.\"**\n\nCollege-goers of reddit, is this legal? My sister never signed a housing agreement of any kind or paid a housing deposit. This is obviously a money grab hiding behind a thin veil of trying to further \"each student's educational experience and personal development\" (another quote) through exorbitantly priced dorm life.", "summary": "university arbitrarily requires students to live on campus for two years, and if they reasonably refuse, charges them for housing anyway without consent from the student. Is this legal, or do I have a case if I take it to a dean of the school or (if necessary) state education authorities?"}
{"id": "t3_31pljj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "20 Y.O. College student who will be making a decent amount of money this summer. Can you give me some advice to invest it well?", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinance. Sorry for the wall of text but I think it is important you know the situation.\n\n**Money Coming In**\nOver the summer I will be working as an aerospace engineer intern for an amazing company. I'll be making $18/hr at 40 hrs a week, plus overtime at $27/hr. At the beginning of the summer I will also get a $2,000 moving bonus. \n\n**Expenses**\nOver the summer the only expenses I will have will be gas, insurance, and money to spend on myself (. My mom happens to live in the town were I will work, so rent and all bills will be free (including groceries). I will probably spend around $35 on gas per  week (for 11 weeks) and insurance will be a one time payment of $400. \n\nMy goal is to put money in some account, fund or what ever it will be to use when I graduate in (2017) as a down payment for a new car. \n\nBy my calculations (45 hrs/week + bonus) I'll make around $11,000 this summer. I think I want to put $5K to $7k towards this fund. What's the best way to invest to have the highest return?", "summary": "wanting to invest $5K to $7K for 2-3 years and have highest return. Whats the best way to invest it?"}
{"id": "t3_g9uiu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Your top 10 greatest movies", "post": "What are your top 10 greatest movies?\n\nMovies you could never do without, ones you watch over and over again, ones you watch with your SO, if you could expand on why it would be great but it is up to you.\n\nHere are mine, they are not necessarily in any specific order, please feel free to ridicule them if you so wish, no offence will be taken as we are all individuals.\n\nSaving Private Ryan \n\n(Gave me an understanding of what the troops had to go through to maintain our freedon)\n\nForrest Gump\n\n(My feel good movie, makes me cry, YES I am male)\n\nThe A-Team\n\n(Putting the A back in to AWESOME!)\n\nThe Dark Knight\n\n(How a super hero movie should be made, plus the best Joker ever RIP)\n\nHot Fuzz\n\n(The one to watch when you want to laugh insanely)\n\nAliens\n\n(Brilliant action movie, lost count the number of times I have watched it)\n\nAmerican History X\n\n(Thought provoking)\n\nGladiator\n\n(Epic)\n\nIce Age\n\n(The big kid in me)\n\nMan On Fire\n\n(Revenge at its best)\n\nA final note, this took me ages to compile my list, I have missed many out and I am sure I will want to change a few.", "summary": "What are your top 10 movies?"}
{"id": "t3_4w3bk8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Please help! Depression taking a toll on relationship", "post": "I'm having a pretty tough battle with depression and my current S.O. has bouts with it as well. Im crazy about this girl and we've been together for a little over a year and everything has been going smoothly until maybe 3-4 months ago when i just fell deeper into my depression. I dont feel that im healthy enough to continue this but im just mad about this girl and afraid that if i leave her she'll fall back into hers and possibly lose her feelings for me. I dont want to lose her at all but we also havent been clicking as well as before.", "summary": "fighting depression, feel its hurting relationship but leaving will hurt both of us more and im just crazy for her"}
{"id": "t3_fw59j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I nearly died today reddit. Do you have any near-death experiences?", "post": "My story: I had to go down to the freezer on the barge, which is inhabited by pretty much a few people, to do a spot inventory on the food. As you can imagine, I forgot to secure the door open while I was inside it counting. \n\nSure enough, I hear it close behind me and panic sets in. Most doors have a lever on the inside to deal with this specific situation. This door had one that was not functional. It was later explained to me that you pretty much have to run full force into the door to get it to pop open.\n\nAnyways, after 10 minutes (maybe? time's funny when you're trapped in a signal-less box), one of the cooks came by and opened the door. Luckily for me, food was arriving this day (at this time specifically). Had it not been, it would have been 4 or 5 hours before someone MIGHT have come by.", "summary": "I was trapped in a very small freezer today and if I hadn't been very lucky, would still be there as I type this (3 hours later)."}
{"id": "t3_qdjkg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I like chocolate and peanut butter, but...", "post": "Apparently there is no way for me to get it.\n\nLemme explain. I live on an archipelago called the [Faroe Islands] it's a great place to live, but there are of course some things that are not as great. The variety of candy, chocolate and sodas here, for example.\n\nAll my life, I've been wanting to try peanut butter and jelly sandwich, Twinkies and those Reese's butter cups, but we only have 1 kind of peanut butter here (expensive no-name brand that tastes like shit and is drier than the Atacama desert) and no Twinkies nor any Reese's.\n\nThat shouldn't be a problem, right? I could just order some chocolate if I really wanted to, right? False. None of the trust-worthy sites on the interwebz ship to the Faroe Isles.\n\nSo Reddit, I'm turning to you for help... Is there any kind soul with a bit of extra cash that can send me some Reese's butter cups and maybe some other famous American chocolate? Maybe Jif or Skippy peanut butter? I would be forever grateful. I would LOVE to try it.\n\nI would also be willing to send some British treats your way, no problem.\n\n[Viscount biscuits] and [Cadbury Creme Egg] are 2 very popular treats here. We don't have anything on these tiny isles, but don't hesitate to ask and I'll fetch it for you if it exists here.\n\nI don't know how to make this thread no-karma-giving.", "summary": "I need candy."}
{"id": "t3_1gbdfc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I fucked up bad. Anyone know how to get a hold of Mick Jagger?", "post": "I created an account just to post this. I was hanging out with a buddy of mine, Jeff Murphy, when i had the honor of being shown a specialty pick given to him by none other than Mick Jagger himself, from when he worked as a sound technician for him on one of his tours. then i fucked up. i went to roll it over to see the inscription on the back when i dropped it into a grill. i pulled it out by hand (burning the shit out of it in the process), but the damage was done. it got warped and it partly melted. the worst part is, he was cool about it. like i didn't just ruin a priceless artifact. so i want to see if i can get a hold of Jagger, and do whatever i gotta do to get another one to make it up to him. i dont have much for proof, but i think the inscription on the back was unique, so i can give that to prove it. if you dont know, please please upvote for the views.", "summary": "dropped a priceless artifact, need to see if Mick would get me another one."}
{"id": "t3_2co0qv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First relationship (I am 22 F). Is it normal to feel this way?", "post": "Never even really had crushes on anyone when I was younger or nuthin. This is the first person I have liked enough to want to go out with, and the only person I have ever loved. Been with him for 6 months but it feels so natural to be around him it could have been forever. Anyways as a consequence I have nothing to compare this to.\n\nSome days I wonder if I seriously consider breaking up with him. Some days I think I will marry him one day. \n\nIs that a bad sign? I have no idea.\n\nI feel stupid.", "summary": "Post isn't that long. You can read it."}
{"id": "t3_2xpjdg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [17/M] girlfriend [17F] has an old crush which I am not sure she is over him already", "post": "So my girlfriend has had a crush on someone in her school. That was before she met me. She changed her looks etc. just so she gets recognized by this guy. \n\nThey also kissed but she eventually found out that he was only lying to her and just wanted to have sex with her. So she was done with him. A week later my Girlfriend found out that he now had a girlfriend and was very sad and crying. \n\nAbout 3 months later I came around and she keeps telling me how much she loves me and how I helped her to be happy again. \n\nAnd I believe her. But when we talked about her ex crush she started crying again and got herself some tea. It wasn't that bad but still. I asked her if she was over this guy and she assured me that she hated him but they go to the same school and it's awkward seeing him every day with his girlfriend. (I go to another school.)\nShe doesn't like it apparently. They have almost no contact and exchanged maybe 5 messages this year. But I am not sure if she is REALLY over him already. \n\nWhat do you guys think and what should i do to help her?", "summary": "Girlfriend may or may not have feelings for old crush."}
{"id": "t3_3n3ye7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my roommate [18M], always wants silence in our room and feel imprisoned", "post": "Update!!! \n\nHey Reddit! Sorry in advanced for long post!\n\nSo I have come into an issue with my roommate. So far, I have been pretty lenient on what he wants and I am totally fine. For example, we are sharing MY fridge, he is using my wifi and won't give me even space in the room because its not on my side of the room. If he were in my position, I don't even know what he would do since he uses up all his space and its not even effectively used.\n\nNow, I'm stuck with him living on res for 8 months and I would like to make as close to home as possible. But he always studies around the time that I would like to do things my way, and I feel that whenever I enter the room it turns into a library. I want to be able to make noise, talk and be me some times. I proposed that certain days he does his thing and I'll leave for phone calls and other days he leaves if I am too noisy, to make things 50-50. \n\nHe says I should consider him because he's studying, and I have but it's just bothered me to the point of confronting him. He expects me to work around his schedule when I have a busier schedule and that if I want to talk to my girlfriend, it should be whenever he is not in the room (11am he not there, wants me to my own things at that time, my GF has school so like I don't know what he was thinking). He says that he compromised for me, but ome of the stuff he mentioned like having top bunk instead of bottom, location of desk, that was a total given since this is what he signed up for with residence. \n\nSo reddit, am I being too unreasonable? I don't think its fair that this place should always be quiet whenever he wants it to be, and that we both should have equal time to want the room how we want it? We are both different people, and", "summary": "Roommate always wants the room to be silent. I on the otherhand feel that it has made my room a prison whenever he studies, and I believe that we both should have days of the week that we can do whatever we wish. Where I want to be able to make some noise and he wants silence, so we assign certain days to make both parties happy. Am I in the wrong of being unreasonable? Please do let me know if I am. "}
{"id": "t3_33lfxt", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "How do you know it's time to end a long-term relationship with a person you still love? How do I (24/F) know?", "post": "[24/F]\nI love my bf [26/M] of almost 4 years and care deeply for him, but I think that the romantic relationship just isn't meant to last. I needed him these last 4 years but I feel we've grown apart. He truly loves me and makes me a good person, we have a strong sense of trust and good communication, but I don't think we have the same plans, like he doesn't like camping and traveling and that's what I want to do all the time, as an example. There's a line between compromise and sacrifice and I don't think its fair for either of us. But maybe I'll never find someone who takes care of me like he does. I can't decide if my reasons are not worth losing him, although I would certainly try to maintain the friendship.", "summary": "I love and care for my boyfriend (26/M) deeply, but I don't think I will be truly happy long term. How do you when its time?"}
{"id": "t3_3qtsoh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a dark humor joke.", "post": "So, first of all sorry for the shitty English, it's not my main language.\nThis happened a year ago. I used to work on a IT course as \"The IT Guy\", had a pretty good time there just fixing computers and you know... doing the \"IT Guy\" job.\nWhen it happened to me and some other people were at the kitchen drinking coffee and just chillin' a bit. I was going to stay the whole night working on a server migration and everyone else wes getting ready to leave, then comes the conversation about marriage and this guy (Let's call him Mark), was talking about his wife. We decided to ask his age because he looked like he was 16 years old, well, he was 17... No problem at all, so the conversation goes on and he ends on the phrase \"I married her because she was pregnant\", oh, that makes some sense, then Mark says \"but the baby died in birth and we decided to give him to the university for research\", after this phrase my mind full of dark humor replies \"well, at least he reached college, medicine right ?\". Everyone turns at me, I can see some people holding laught and others looking in disgust, I just realised what i've said, finish my coffee and rush to the IT Room.\nMark never looked into my face again.", "summary": "Told a guy that his dead baby could get a degree in medicine research."}
{"id": "t3_34zkih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother [45F] wants to use me [16M] to force her religion onto my girlfriend of 18 months[16F]", "post": "My girlfriend is Catholic, my mother is a conservative evangelical Christian, and I'm an atheist (Though I'm not telling my mother that until she no longer has power over me). My mother pesters me to invite her to our church, and has been growing increasingly forceful and is making veiled threats to forced to break up with her.\n\nI can't exactly reason with her. She will never entertain the possibility that I'm right about something and will shout and bully people into silence. She vents her anger onto the people around her, which is problematic given that people disagreeing with her pisses her off like nothing else. I recognize that she's a toxic person, as awful as I feel for thinking that.\n\nShe resorts to screaming insults at me if she gets too upset. She belittles me, She has a tantrum, reduces me to tears, and then when she calms down she begs for forgiveness. It's not because she's genuinely sorry. It's not about me. It's about her and how she feels like a bad mother. So she pretends to be sorry and I pretend to forgive her.  I feel guilty for being this bitter towards her.\n\nMy girlfriend is a rather liberal catholic. She views Catholicism as a cultural identity mostly, in actual religious terms she's more of a universalist. Breaking up with her is not an acceptable course of action. I've grown far too close to her to accept losing her.\n   \n\nI've been getting by with saying that denomination is insignificant, but I doubt she'll accept that for too long. I have no qualms about lying to her to get her to leave me alone. I just want her to drop it.", "summary": "My mother is borderline emotionally abusive and a religious fanatic, how do I get her to stop caring that my girlfriend doesn't agree with her religiously?"}
{"id": "t3_dtorw", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "New relationship already over or am I being (too) paranoid?", "post": "To start, I'm 29, divorced, two kids, college grad student. I just started seeing this guy about a month ago. He's 21 and he's also my best friend's employee, which is how I met him. He really pursued me for about 2 months. I finally gave in. It turns out I really like him a lot.\n\nLong story short: We finally had sex this weekend. It was an all weekend thing. It was great! He told me how beautiful I am and on and on. However, now he barely returns my texts and anything I do get is monosyllabic at best. Now I'm starting to worry he was just pursuing me for the game of it, not because he actually liked me.", "summary": "Older woman screwed younger guy. Worried he was after his milf badge."}
{"id": "t3_kri20", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Calling all redditors, time for a poll about your lives.", "post": "First some backstory: I'm a long time lurker of both 4chan and reddit and have decided to join for this post.\nToday my girlfriend found a unicorn. By that I mean she says that she has found a male friend that has little to no sex drive and is totally ok with it. He is straight and has been in both long term and short term relationships with women. \nThe reason I'm posting is that she challenged me to find proof that most to all men have a high sex drive. I'm looking to see if in the chance that you were offered sexual activity of any kind from the opposite sex would you accept or decline? Any details about your relationships/religious view would greatly help the cause. Does it matter if it's a long term relationship or a sober one night stand? The answer is no, just give results.", "summary": "report your gender and your libido preferences, and it's for science or something!"}
{"id": "t3_22ad0s", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "how can i(27m) become close to my sister (23,26,34) and feel like a family again?", "post": "edit: i mean sisters\n\nmy whole child hood my sisters were rather mean to me and my mom always said to them, \"don't be so mean to your brother he is not going to want to be your friend when you all get older.\" that became the truth starting in about middle school.  we really started separating since they were pretty and popular and i was very much so not.  my youngest sister once told me that she didn't love me when i was in college.  \n\nwe are all now grown and they have matured and are not mean to me anymore, but i still find it hard to be close to them.  i would never go to them for advice or tell them a secret or just discuss my life.  when i am around them i still get very anxious.  no matter how much i know they are not that way anymore, i can't help about think how terrible they were to me and i just can't open up.\n\nmy sisters are very close and are always doing things together and they even all went out to get matching tattoos. they never invite me to anything, still, but i don;t think they don't like me.  i know my older sister likes me, she too is an oddball like me so we have that going. she was the only one to stand up for me when i broke up with my gf, while the rest of them and my mother   told me i made the biggest mistake of my life. \n\nif anyone has some advice or experience with this it would be very much so appreciated.", "summary": "my sister used to be very mean to me when we were young but they have since matured and i wouls like to try and become close to them but i get so anxious when i am around them.  please help."}
{"id": "t3_2dwkov", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Buying wine and beer... Help?", "post": "So long story short, I am buying all the wine and beer for the wedding before hand- I work as a distributor so I have prices, even with a corkage fee, way lower than our venue. But here is the rub:\n\nHow much do I buy and what break down should I give to varietals (Chardonnay, Merlot, Cab...etc)? \n\nIs there math equation to figure this out? We're expecting around 100 guests (our RSVP by date was this past Saturday and we are still missing 40 out of 110 rsvps but this is another story)\n\nAlso beer as well- Were planning on doing log or quarter kegs of two or three micro brews, but any keg the venue touches, we can't take after the reception for the after party", "summary": "Is there a math formula for alchohol consumption at a reception?"}
{"id": "t3_cpw71", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend got arrested and I want to get my hands on her mugshot..", "post": "So my chick friend (who is very attractive) got arrested recently for a DUI. She is kind of the butt of a lot of jokes in my group of friends so I thought it would be really funny to get my hands on her mugshot and make it my facebook profile picture or at least post it on her wall. I've been able to find all the court information about her case and I've read that mugshots are public record but I'm not sure how to go about getting my hands on it. If you guys help me find it I'll post it here.", "summary": "Want to get a copy of my hot chick friend's mugshot."}
{"id": "t3_2i7iyh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] BF [21M] puts little effort into the relationship but says he still love me?", "post": "My [20F] BF [21M] and I have been dating for about 5 months, three of those were long distance so we've really just recently gotten into the swing of things as a normal couple who live in the same town. I think he's great, he's funny and charming and nice and always says how much he loves me, except I feel like 75% of the relationship is me.\n\n He doesn't have a car so I use a lot of gas driving him around and driving to see him and driving him home from things. He also doesn't have a whole lot of funds (we are both college students). This means that I end up paying for him a lot. I don't mind a guy who prefers to split it evenly but we don't split bills evenly a lot, I pay. A third thing is that if I want to see him, I have to make the effort to text him about hanging out. He won't take initiative by himself. And finally he never initiates intimacy. Don't get me wrong, he participates enthusiastically when I initiate it but he rarely initiates it for himself.\n\nNow let me explain some things because I'm sure I just made him sound like a bad boyfriend. I feel confident that he likes being with me, he tells me all the time, he can be very affectionate, he always seems enthusiastic when we are together. He just never initiates being with me for himself. He is also occasionally thoughtful in his own way. He always tries to make me comfortable over himself. If we are going somewhere that might be cold, he'll bring an extra jacket with him for me, as well as many other small things that shows me he is at least watching out for me. \n\nI guess it boils down to the fact that I know he loves me and cares about me, I just feel frustrated that he chooses to put in so little to what we both think is a very promising relationship.", "summary": "BF loves and cares about me but puts little effort into the relationship. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1fg3gi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "It's my fault now? [Rant/kinda long]", "post": "One of my best friends got in trouble at school  yesterday. What did she do? She was caught extremly(sp?) Drunk. She's a freshman in highschool, so its not like she's another senior trying to enjoy the end of the school year. She just decided to get drunk. When she got caught, they sent her to the nurse for a sobriety test. I have no idea wether she passed it or not. What I do know, is that they couldn't prove anything, so she got to come back to school today. All they did was send her home early yesterday. She texted me after school and told me. She seemed to think it was funny. The entire time I was thinking \"yeah I know you have problems at home. I understand. This is *really fucking dumb*\" Instead of being light-hearted about it like her, I got frustrated. I asked her why she would do that. She had no answer. I just stopped texting her. I figured that I should cool down so I wouldn't blow up on her. I saw her today at school, I acknowledged her, but when she tried talking about what happened, I told her we would talk later, as I was still pissed she would do something so dumb. So I texted her a while ago and she's mad at *me*. The person who cares the most about her. She said that I didn't care. Fuck you. I do care. Why else would I be mad? But I apparently am in the wrong for getting angry. Its *my* fault. Ugh", "summary": "friend gets mad at me, when I got frustrated that she was caught doing something dumb. Apparently my fault."}
{"id": "t3_tlwce", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My insurance denied two claims saying I didn't have authorization, or a referral? Can someone help me figure out what to do?I am a twenty year old woman who had cancer this year and I have no idea how to deal with this.", "post": "I habe BCBS. I have $9,000 of uncovered claims. My insurance plan does not require pre-approval, although it has preferred providers, so I don't understand why it would say this. Do any of you experienced people know what to do? This is the last stress I need on top of the health issues.", "summary": "I am moving to England."}
{"id": "t3_1illjl", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by mumbling", "post": "(Long time lurker just finding this subreddit, had to make account to share) So this was a couple months back. I was over at a friends house with a couple others. (All of them were females, I'm male) Its going fine, nothing out of the ordinary, we chilling cracking jokes. Later in the night one of them asks me if I want to sleep on the only bed with them, I don't see why not. So me, and 3 others are all laying in bed. After a couple hours we start to doze off. The friend that I'm practically spooning is still up. Her and I are talking, and she decides she wants to sleep. So, being the stupid person I am when I'm sleeping, I tell her she might wake up to me cuddling her, and to just push me off/away. She nods off. Fast forward to the morning. Everything is going fine, we finish getting ready and head to the fair that was going on near us. We all have a great time, and we all exchange our farewells of hugging and I love you's. Later that week(Still in highschool) I notice they are almost ignoring me, not talking to me much. I get curious. Talking to one of the friends that wasn't there, she informs me that my spooning buddy of nights previous, had misheard me, and thought I said I had a hard time keeping my genitalia in my pants. So everyone thinks I'm a disgusting pig for months, and I try my hardest to regain their trust. Fast forward to the present. I have regained most of their trust, but my spooning partner still rarely talks to me.", "summary": "Mumbled something while half asleep, got misheard, friend thinks I might attempt to fuck her in the middle of the night."}
{"id": "t3_439pix", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I go visit my girlfriend in the Philippines even though my mom disapproves?", "post": "So yeah, I'm a 20 year university student who recently only told my mother about my girlfriend a month ago because I didn't want her to blame it on me being in a relationship if I got bad grades and not get into a decent university. It's a long distance relationship and we have been online dating for a total of 2 years now. The thing is, I planned on visiting during my next summer break, however my mother kept telling me \"you better not\". What should I do now? I have been planning to go visit her for at least a year now. However I also understand where my mother is coming from as she just then only found out about my girlfriend. I'm just clueless right now as to what I should do as my next plan.", "summary": "long distance relationship, want to visit her but mom doesn't allow it. what do I do now"}
{"id": "t3_1dwkrg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Roommate and bff of [22/F] locked in viscous cycles with [23-24/M]s", "post": "My best friend and roommate of 2 years is a great girl with a lot to offer, but she is atrocious with her relationships, specifically breakups. In high school, she typically dealt with them by overlapping her relationship with the next guy or girl. Consequently, she doesn't know what to do with herself when she's single. In university, she decided infidelity wasn't the way, but this made matters worse. Guy #1 was crazy, egotistical, possessive, and reserved most of his wit for knowing exactly what to say to make her hate herself. Their breakup lasted over 4 months. Every night was a bloodcurdling yelling match with multiple climaxes resulting in my friend screaming and crying all at the same time. At least once a week, she would remerge from her pit of despair and proudly announce that it was done with. She even attempted dating a little bit, but this only provided more fodder for her nights with Guy#1. During this time, I tried about everything, from sappy movie nights and ice cream (that never went uninterrupted) to taking on this guy. Had he not been clinically insane, he would have seen he was no match for me, but at least I tired him out. After that, the other roommates and I started looking for a new place to live, but suddenly, my best friend found Guy #2 and the fighting slowly ended. Because he had taken an effort to get to know me and because my best friend went back to Guy #1 a week later, I gave him some friendly advice when they inevitably had a fresh start of their own: \"Leave now, there's nothing for you here.\" Sure enough, it's happening again. Luckily, Guy #2 is only crazy, egotistical, possessive, and reserves most of his wit for knowing exactly what to say to make her hate herself, but he doesn't like to raise his voice. So far, I've just been ignoring the fights and keeping her busy. Now she wants to make herself available to this ongoing viscous cycle.", "summary": "Friend gets into heated arguments that always end in tears nightly as part of her breakup process. Last time this happened, it lasted 4 months."}
{"id": "t3_2u9m2r", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "prolonged chlamydia", "post": "College kid, poor, scared, and obviously on a throwaway. I understand I'm stupid and made a mistake. \nI'm 19 and in August I had unprotected sex with a girl and about a month later I went to the doctor to check out my swollen testicle, I became lighted head and fainted, he said that I probably had epidemimitis, but obviously they should run test. I felt okay because I didn't have any discharge/ any symptoms and after the cycle of doxycycline the swelling went down and I felt much better. \n- I did however miss a day (two dosages,(recovered the next day with 2 pills) and accidentally consumed cheese/ ice cream within' two hours of a couple of dosages. \n\nThis last week I was experiencing testicle pain, and figured I had epydidimitis. I talked to my doctor (at my college) and suspected that it was just semen going back into the urethra causing another infection since I haven't had unprotected sex since. my dad is a healthcare provider and works at that hospital, and they never called me back with the test results, I never called them because I simply forgot. I just called and they told me I had it. Oh my gosh I'm an idiot. \n\n-should I go in for an ultrasound(don't know the proper word) for my testicle to see if there is any serious damage?\n-should I get new medicine from my provider?", "summary": "have had chlamydia for 6 months, thought that 'my epidydmitis' was treated, and am now freaking out."}
{"id": "t3_3ljpyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] best friend's [21 F] ex boyfriend [23 M] cheated on her and has now moved on to my friend's friend!", "post": "My best friend (lets call her Ella) dated a guy (lets call him Patrick) for a very chaotic year. During this time he cheated on her with numerous women and manipulated her by telling her it was all in her mind and that it was all her fault that she didn't trust him.\n\nFinally, she took my advice on board and ended that toxic relationship when Patrick cheated on her with someone that she knew. The girl he cheated on Ella with was really apologetic because she had no idea Ella even existed and only found out because she was telling her good friend (Tam) who was also good friends with Ella and Tam recognized the name immediately.\n\nAfter the breakup she found out some pretty devastating news about him that explained why the whole relationship was so toxic. Patrick is bipolar and often goes for periods of time without taking his medication.\n\nElla has been having a pretty hard time letting go and on a couple of occasions her and Patrick have hooked up. The other week at his place she noticed him texting another girl (Rose). Ella told me about it and I never really thought about it until today when my friend texted to say her friend Rose was dating Patrick.\n\nI immediately told Ella. She told me if she had been in the situation where she could have found out about him before she would have wanted to know so that she could've avoided that situation altogether. And that she's happy for Rose to contact her if that is what Rose wants.\n\nJust making it clear that she wouldn't tell Rose that Patrick is bipolar because he is pretty private about it and hasn't told many people.\n\nI really need advice on how to approach this. I know Rose but not well enough to hit her with this kind of information and I don't want to involve our mutual friend. I'm also worried that she'll think I'm lying to her since he comes across as such a great person.", "summary": "my bestfriend's ex is toxic and he has just started dating my good friend's friend Rose. Do I warn Rose about him? If so, how!?"}
{"id": "t3_4jrtn8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 10 months, she wants to meet up with her ex. Is that weird?", "post": "Throwaway because my girlfriend reads this sub. My [26m] girlfriend [23f], Amy, and I have been together for about ten months and we're doing pretty well. We recently went from long distance (during the school year) to living together (just for the summer) and although there's been an adjustment period we're doing pretty well. I've never dated much and this is my first serious relationship so I'm learning how to act. Amy has dated a bit more than I have though this is new for her too. \n\nAnyway, the issue at hand: Amy and I are going to be in a nearby city this weekend, for a conference (we're in the same line of work). A lot of Amy's friends from undergrad live there, including a guy [24m] she dated briefly and remained friendly with. They've grabbed coffee platonically once or twice before and he now works at a place she's interested in working so she's asked him a few questions about that.  About a week ago he saw on facebook that she was going to be up there for a bit and asked if she wanted to meet up if she had free time. She ran it by me and I said I was cool with it so she said yes.  I just assumed that I was invited. She figured it would just be her catching up with him. We didn't realize this miscommunication until tonight and now we disagree on how to proceed. I think I should come along, meet the guy, and stay for dinner. She thinks that would be uncomfortable and keep them from catching up. She also says she doesn't need a chaperone. She's proposed a compromise of me dropping her off, saying a quick hello, and then leaving. She thinks that's reasonable, especially since she's been upfront with me and asked if I was comfortable first. She just moved out here and says that it would be nice to see someone from her old life. I don't think she'd cheat, but I think it's weird to hang out with your ex, no matter what. \n\nAm I paranoid or is she being shady?", "summary": "Long-distance girlfriend is staying with me for the summer. She wants to meet up with an ex when we're in a nearby city this weekend. I assumed I was invited and said it was cool. I'm not invited. I'm uncomfortable with this. Am I being paranoid or is she being shady?"}
{"id": "t3_3k94g6", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Having an issue starting and sticking to a diet due to family. What can I do?", "post": "Hello /r/loseit\n\nI've been a long time lurker, but I need some help so I figured I'd come out and get all of your advice since I see so much progress on here.\n\nSo as my post states, I'm having an issue starting and sticking to a diet. I live in a home where most of my family is on the older and bigger side. They really don't seem worry too much about their weight and they're constantly buying seriously unhealthy food or making very unhealthy meals.\n\nNow I know the simple solution to this is to stop eating the food they cook and buy. I would do this, but here's where my issue comes up. I've tried going out and buying my own healthy food (fruits/vegetables/healthier snacks), but it all ends up getting eaten throughout the week while I'm at work or away with my girlfriend.\n\nI've also tried the whole cooking for myself thing in terms of dinner since that's usually the only meal where we sit down together, but my family basically started making stabs at me and I'm not the type of guy who likes to upset people. They were upset thinking I don't like their meals or cooking or asking why I don't cook for them.\n\nI'm currently 21 years old 5'11 and I weigh 209lbs. I really don't have time to exercise, so I figured dieting is the way to go, but I'm having so many issues and I feel like it's due to my living situation. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can start and stick to this diet without the burden of family intervening?", "summary": "My family doesn't believe in dieting and gets upset when I try to start one or eats my healthy snacks."}
{"id": "t3_jgznc", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Just caught my boss stealing from the company.  He is part owner with my father.  We are confronting him today.  I need your help.", "post": "Just as the title says, folks.  \n\nI took pictures of a customer's truck loaded with product that has no paper trail and I watched my boss pocket cash that he had just taken from the customer.  I also heard the customer ask about which product was \"off the books\".  We previously accepted cash payments off the books, but stopped the process when sales declined...  Company is in financial trouble, but his salary could boost our bottom line if he was no longer employed.  We are confronting him before the end of the day and I need some reassurance and advice.\n\nThanks Guys/Gals, Don't fail me now.", "summary": "Caught my boss selling product for cash and pocketed it. Pictures to prove product left, no pictures of cash."}
{"id": "t3_368jij", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing my girls eye color", "post": "Dear reddit, \nListen, I know. I'm like 30 and new at dating. Yeah, its kinda awkward. But that's not my fuck up. I mean, the whole situation, like my whole life is kinda fucked up a little bit...but listen heres what happened today. \n\nI try to tell my girlfriend I know when she lies. Total bluff. I'm smitten, I'll believe anything she says. But she calls me out. She wants me to tell her one lie. She meant one time she's lied, but I'm hilarious. So I decide to lie to her. \n\n\"Your eyes are blue.\" Haha, total lie. She'll prolly giggle. At least smile. I got her good. Heh.\n\nNope. Her eyes are blue. I'm a dumbass. After the awkward reveal, and it becomes the kind of situation where there is no way out and after my initial denial, it is obvious. I did not know her eye color.", "summary": "Tried to be funny, and wrongly guessed my girl's eye color while humorously calling into question her ability to tell a lie. Yeah I swear I'm funny though."}
{"id": "t3_2rvqb7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [38 M] with my wife[35F] 14 years and she is cheating on me.", "post": "Hello all, \nI have been married to this awesome lady for 14 years now, in the past 8 months, I have seen a lot of signs that she is into or cheating on me with one of our close friends. I don't have a prove yet, but I found his apartment extra key in her car, she always delete their conversation in texts. They always change the subject when I get in the room. Last night she told me she is going to the gym but she already check in a Starbucks store around his place. Moments later she deleted the check in.\n\nWe don't have kids together, my heart is already broken. I needed a prove! should I put a hidden camera in his bedroom? or ask her about it?", "summary": "I feel that my wife is cheating on me with a close friend, I don't have a prove and ask if it is good idea to put a hidden camera in his bedroom!"}
{"id": "t3_4t75xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] broken up with my ex [25F] after 4 months after a discussion about her ex and their Long Term Relationship", "post": "This happened about a month ago but I still can't get my head around it so any commentary, negative or otherwise would be helpful!\n\nWhen out one night she brought up in conversation her ex of 4/5 years (a fairly long-term relationship compared to my longest of about 5 months!) She told me about the horrible stuff he said to her and how many times and who he cheated on her with and all the abuse he put her through. I sat listening to this and came out with the comment that ruined everything. I said \"well, he clearly didn't love you then?\" referring to the horrible shit he put her through. She got really upset and in tears and claimed I knew nothing about their history and how disrespectful it was to judge like that.\n\nIt was a mistake - I never thought before I opened my mouth and I know how stupid a comment it was. I'd got riled up by the stuff she told me though and it just came out.\n\nWe didn't break up immediately but she said after a couple of weeks that she still thinks about it and can't be worried that I'd say something like that again. I'd talk to her about it but she's a very \"closed off\" individual. We broke up and she didn't want to talk at all as it \"wasn't going to change her mind\" which was frustrating.\n\nI know i fucked up and made a mistake but am I in the wrong to think that what I did wasn't totally unforgivable? I never intended to hurt her in this manner and nothing else in our relationship was problematic. We never fought or argued at all.", "summary": "Her ex came up in conversation > I bad-mouth her ex and subsequently their LTR > break-up"}
{"id": "t3_2wsl7a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[16,f] My best friend's[16,f] best friend [16,m] is my crush, and it's awkward.", "post": "I'll try to keep this short. \n\nLet's just call my best friend Ama. Ama is my best friend, the best I could ever ask for. We're both raging fangirls, so we bond over boys and books. We share everything and we know eachother's secrets like best friends do. She has another best friend. He's from before I moved to this school. Let's call him Alien. \nAlien is a fan-guy. We both had a crush on him.  He's wonderful, and (sorry for use of basic girl word) bae. I have no idea if he likes me back, but he used to like Ama.(NOT ANYMORE he literally told me this.) Around the beginning of this year, I developed a major crush on Alien. A few days ago, Alien and I were writing together for about an hour. When I told Ama about it, she grilled me for details. She says she doesn't still have feelings for him but I can tell there is something.", "summary": "I don't want to ruin my relationship with Ama or Alien, but how do I save a sinking ship?"}
{"id": "t3_2nx7xd", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Help me get of the Hypetrain", "post": "Hello there fellow redditors,\ni have a problem and i need your help.^^\nHere goes the Backstory:\nI went to a friends party on the weekend. And there was this girl. I know her for quiet some time now and we have been sort of good friends. We hang out and had some fun. Now later that evening she would get closer to me and eventually we started to cuddle. There was also some kissing involved. ;)\nNow i'm currently working and living in a different city that is quiet far from my hometown(where the party took place). And when i come home i stay at my Moms place. My Mom is not that fund of me bringing home people she does not know in the middle of the night, so we couldn't go to my place. And that girl lives in another town, so we also couldn't go to hers.(Also i needed to catch a train earlier the next day) So i went home alone, even though she hinted that she would like to come back to my place with me.\nSo heres my problem. She is not that kind of girl that has lots of ONS or stuff like this, so this could turn into something more serious.(Which i would like) Now since that day, my brain went all like SUPER MEGA HYPE MODE activated. I believe this could be potentially bad. Do you have any advice on how to calm myself down? XD\n\nAlso English is not my first language. So sorry for all the grammar and spelling mistakes i made.", "summary": "Went to a party. Got all Kissy and cuddly with a girl. Brain goes all WHEEEEE now. Help me pls?"}
{"id": "t3_3u20sr", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I answer interview questions if I have no \"healthy\" interests?", "post": "Many interview for professional positions ask questions related to your interest, extra curriculum activities, or just non-academic experiences.\n\nNow what if I have no \"healthy\" interests defined by society?\n\nFor example, I enjoy playing computer games, watching TV series (mostly anime), reading books (again, mostly manga and LN), listening to my music collection (not surprisingly, mostly anime/game/movie OST). These are the things I think I genuinely get happiness from (pathetic by society's standards I know), aside from doing the things absolutely necessary such as attending university, going to casual job, I'd like to allocate all my free time to these interest mentioned above.\nI also goes to the gym 4 times a week but that's just something I do to maintain fitness.\n\nSo when interviewers ask questions related to my non-academic aspect of life, there's nothing I can say that they want to hear. I believe I have very good academic results but I don't land the opportunity because I don't pass as a \"positive\" person.\n\nThe main purpose of these questions probably is extracting my ability in important work aspects such as teamwork, communication, organistation etc. It's true I'd much prefer to work alone, but although I can't claim to be the best in these things, I'd like to believe I can communicate effectively, and I can participate actively in the various group assignment in school which all worked out quiet well.\n\nNow the obvious solution is for me to \"get out\" more, do sports, find \"healthy\" hobbies, do volunteering work or something. But is there no other way? Because I really doubt I would genuinely come to enjoy any of these, and I would just see these activities as pains in my life.\n\nAnother thinking is maybe people like me are better suited to less demanding work, because low-skill jobs generally wouldn't care too much.", "summary": "I am quiet a nerd, how do I land a job?"}
{"id": "t3_4uuqu1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] really miss my dog, but there is absolutely no way I can see him.", "post": "Recently, my birth family acquired a puppy. Cute little bugger of a Frenchie that would brighten my day immensely when I saw him.\n\nHowever, I managed to get away from my abusive birth family by going to the police, and since then a contract has been in place that I am not to go home. I don't want to go home either, but I haven't seen my dog in months and I really,really miss him. \n\nHow do I cope with this? Is there any polite way to ask my new guardians if it's possible to bring the dog over for a little while? I'm not even sure if my pup's around anymore. :(", "summary": "Miss my dog at home, but home is abusive and there is a contract by CPS that states I am not to go home under any circumstances. How to ask guardians if I can see the dog?"}
{"id": "t3_4ci5js", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "My ex is retaliating, attempting to damage the livelihood of my friend with benefits (she is our mutual ex). I'd like to get her to stop.", "post": "This is taking place in Austin, TX\n\nFWB = Friend With Benefits\n\nThe ex is Alice. Our mutual ex, meaning we were all three dating before, and then because of reasons, there were breakups, and now it's just me and FWB named Clarissa. Ex deserves to be upset, but this behavior is inexcusable.\n\nJust this past week, I gave up on being \"friends\" with this ex. She has been trying to convince me to break up with Clarissa for weeks now, and I finally gave up talking with her when she sent me with a falsified screenshot of a message (from Clarissa to Alice) implying something nefarious. I decided I was sick of the lies, and explained that I was no longer interested in staying in contact. I blocked her on every single digital communication medium I could (and her fake profile that she was using to get information from me). Clarissa has done the same.\n\nAlice most recently called in to Clarissa's place of employment, and claimed that someone fitting her appearance was smoking weed in her car in the company parking lot. Alice then makes an anonymous Yelp post saying the same. Clarissa's management took her aside privately and asked for clarification, and all agreed that it looked like someone was deliberately making a personal attack on her, so she still has her job.  The Yelp review has also already been taken down.\n\nI need to know when I can decide that this sort of behavior constitutes legal recourse. Obviously, I can't take away Alice's ability to use a phone or internet. If I got an attorney involved, would they say \"until she actually causes provable damage to someone physically or to their livelihood, you have no case?\"\n\nI'm not interested in retaliating. I already know that this individual thrives on getting a reaction out of people, and Clarissa and I are committed to not giving her the satisfaction.", "summary": "Ex is trying to hurt me and FWB because she can't have her way. I just want her to stop. I will not retaliate."}
{"id": "t3_21zybf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [f 21] boyfriend [m 20] said he loves me but doesn't want to say I love you.", "post": "We've been officially together a month, but we've been seeing each other since early January. Friends since middle school. I told him I loved him on Saturday, not feeling it was too soon. He was really happy and said he wanted to say it but was scared. I said I understood and that I wasn't going to rush him. When we were talking tonight, I asked him if he wanted me to stop saying it because I don't want him to feel pressured. \n\nI said, \"You know I love you, when you love me back you can tell me. I don't want you hearing it from me all the time and feeling pressured to reply with I love you too.\" He said \"I do love you, I'm just not ready to say it.\" I accept that and I'm happy he respects our relationship enough not to tell me what I want to hear. I know he's been hurt before, as we all have, but should I stop saying it to him? He says he would feel terrible if I stopped because he knows why I say it, (I never hang up/end a convo without it when I mean it, I've lost a lot of people in my life and want him to know I love him in case it's the last time I talk to him. I know, some people think it's dumb.) and he likes hearing it. He just isn't ready to say it back.\n\nI am not worried about him saying it back, that'll come in time. I'm not trying to rush him at all. I just don't want to continue saying it if it's doing more harm than good. I know it's going to be hard for me to do, but if that's what'll make him comfortable I understand. The last thing I want is to make him feel pressured due to my past experience of not saying I love you enough.", "summary": "Boyfriend isn't ready to say I love you, should I stop saying it to him so he doesn't feel pressured to say it back?"}
{"id": "t3_1414af", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, almost every day some random Haitian couple calls and talks to my two year old giving me time to clean the house, etc. What weirdly awesome random little things are you thankful for? More Details inside.", "post": "So 3 months ago we bought a house, and signed up for a for a phone/internet/cable bundle, we didn't need the land-line, but whatevs. Anyways, almost immediately started receiving the typical BS telemarketer calls, cruise offers, collection calls for people previously attached to the numbers, etc. However, everyday around 5 o'clock we started getting phone calls from the same number from either a presumably Haitian man and/or woman who speak absolutely no English as far as I can tell. For about two weeks, I tried to explain to them that Madmwazel Pierre didn't live here, it was the wrong number, but every day they keep calling back. \n\nOne day when they called and I was really busy doing laundry so I just put the phone on speaker and gave it to my 2 year old daughter. She reacted to their voice, and started \"talking\" back babbling, laughing and mimicking them. I went in the other room and came back 10 minutes later and they were still on the phone talking to her. Eventually my daughter mashed enough buttons to hang up the phone. \n\nThe next day, they called back, phone went straight to my daughter... This has been going on for about 2 months now. Some days they listen and talk for 20 minutes, most days its only around 5, but they have talked to her for as much as thirty minutes before. During this time, I am able to load the dishwasher, do laundry, pick up the house and use the bathroom. Stuff that is really hard to do with a very active 2 year old.\n\nI don't know who they are, if they are crazy, lonely, old, or really just don't understand that we have no clue who they are. They could be swearing or doing anything I guess, but they really seem harmless. I have become very thankful for the time they spend talking to my daughter. She even seems to look forward to it too and calls them her \"pals\". \n\nSo Reddit, what weird random things are you thankful for or do you look forward to in your life?", "summary": "My daughter has Haitian Phone Babysitters."}
{"id": "t3_xghql", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night a moth flew into my ear and proceeded to flutter around like the spawn of Satan. What was your most uncomfortable but not necessarily painful experience?", "post": "I was happily reading a book on my iPad at two in the morning last night, when suddenly it felt like my hair was tickling my ear. I brushed my hair away, and it still felt funny. Little did I know, that was the bug crawling in! \n\nNext thing I knew it started flapping and crawling and buzzing right next to my ear drum. This has to have been the most uncomfortable thing that has ever happened to me. It made my skin crawl, and every time it moved there was an instant shot of adrenaline through my system, which made me almost hysterical while my fiance Googled what on earth to do to get it out. \n\nWe spent an hour following sundry advice from the internet pouring vegetable oil, hydrogen peroxide, and water in my ear to flush it out. Eventually it came out, but not until it had caused what may be permanent psychological damage. My ear will never be the same.", "summary": "Moth flew into my ear. Now I know what it's like to have the heebie-jeebies for an hour straight."}
{"id": "t3_1cwotj", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Me [24M] and my Fiance [23F] broke up today... Need some support...", "post": "Background - We have been together for almost 6 years and have been engaged for about 9 months. I graduated from College and have good job and she is working on her graduate degree in Audiology... Our relationship has been struggling recently and to me it seemed that she was pulling away and disconnected. She left to stay with her parents for a few days and this afternoon she came over and we talked about our relationship. She had a note and we talked about it and she told me that she loves me, but that she is no longer happy in this relationship. I can't fault her for wanting to be happy and recently I have been hurt quite a bit by her and her actions. I love her dearly and I am so devastated. She asked me to leave while she was picking up some of her things, so I left and when I came back I found her engagement ring on the bathroom counter... It wasn't till I saw the ring sitting there that I realize how big of a chunk I lost in my life... \n\nI honestly hope one day we could get back together and one thing she stated in her letter was that \"She needs to grow independently for awhile, and as my mom says \"If it comes back around, maybe it's meant to be.\" I just hope that there is truth to that statement cause I can't imagine my life without her...", "summary": "I lost my best friend and its the worst feeling of my life."}
{"id": "t3_2rsh4m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by adding my uncles alter ego to Facebook", "post": "So I have an uncle who is exploring his feminine side late in life (in his 40's.) it started with him studding jean skirts and posting them on Instagram, then moved to legs in stockings posts on Facebook and such until he decided he couldn't live comfortably as HIMself any longer. \n\nSo she decided to start a new Facebook page for HERself and adding the family. Now I'm all for following your heart and being the person you feel that you should be, love is love no matter how you look at it and if it makes you happy do whatever you want. So, I added her in support because no matter what family is family, nothing changes that.\n\nFast forward to work today, my FB app shows all these \"People you May Know.\" And it's full of pretty good lookin ladies so I show my co-worker and he starts to laugh and laugh and laugh, confused I grab my phone back to find he's followed a few of these girls pages and he goes \"Check their profiles\" and keeps laughing. I check and to my shock they are all transvestites... All of them... With one friend in common.... My uncle.", "summary": "Tried to support curious uncle ended up getting my FB page  flooded by chicks with dicks."}
{"id": "t3_1oxyb2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it worth dating a guy [30 m] I'm interested in if I [26 f] know I'll be moving soon?", "post": "We met a few months ago and have become friends. Unfortunately we don't get to see each other often because we live on opposite ends of town. Nevertheless, I've started developing feelings for him and never initiated because I take things slow. \n\nI've been gathering the courage to speak to him more frankly about moving forward, but now that I recently found out I'll be moving in 8 months I wonder if it's worth it. I know a LDR probably wouldn't work out, and don't believe he'd move because he's established himself at a great job. Sure, there's always the option of having a fling, but I'm not really into that.\n\nIdeas?", "summary": "Unsure if I should start  relationship when I'll be moving in 8 months and don't believe I'd do well in a long distance relationship."}
{"id": "t3_j2p16", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Americans: Why should we accept your currency when you won't accept ours?", "post": "I work in a hotel. For more information on that, read [this](\n\nIt blows my mind at the sheer *ignorance* and *self-entitlement* of Americans when they come to Canada (or presumably, anywhere else) and fully expect to be able to pay with *their own currency*.\n\nTo those about to give some kind of reasoned response: If I, as a Canadian, travelled to the States and tried to pay for a meal with Canadian currency, would you accept it? Take it seriously? No. Even with our dollar much higher than yours, I highly doubt you would - cuz 'Merica!\n\nIn a way, its good; if you give me $50 here, our exchange rate gives you back $47.50 - and thats before you even pay for your meal. But here's a tip, for Americans travelling somewhere else.\n\nBring on the downvotes, but do yourself a favour and try to summon up a verbal response as well.\nWhen you get there. Look down. See that you're standing on, its *another country*. Use that country's currency as a starting point to respecting its values and culture. Go from there.", "summary": "STOP REINFORCING STEREOTYPES"}
{"id": "t3_2i296y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] only seem to be interested in girls with a red flag. What do I do about this?", "post": "I just graduated college and I realizing there is a much smaller dating pool in real life.  I'm not unattractive but I seem to go after people who are inaccessible in some way. If they are available and interested, I seem to take less of an interest. However, if they are interested and unavailable, or have some sort of red flag, i am more interested. \n\nFor example, the last girl I dated was 3 years ago, and I was not allowed to share it with people because I was an RA and she was one of my freshman residents(which was not allowed). Ever since then I have been forcing myself into weird situations with girls that I just cant be with.\n\nMost recently, I am finding myself interested in a girl who lives in another country. I met her while abroad, and she had a long term boyfriend at the time, which she has no longer. I just need to stop getting myself into situations like this. I am a VERY morally upright person and would never act on these girls that are taken(even if they want me to) but I have to find a way to be interested in other people otherwise I will never find someone.", "summary": "I like girls with red flags(usually those who are taken). I won't act on my emotions, but how can I stop myself from being this way?"}
{"id": "t3_4ta4b8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F]Ex hookup asking for abortion money from me [24M]", "post": "So about one month ago, I said bye forever to a girl I hooked up with a few times. The reason I said bye was because she had all the red flags: demanding, showing up unannounced, 20+ calls at once for next to no reason other than attention. \n\nSince then, I have moved country. So, I thought she was gone for good.\n\nAbout 4 weeks after we last had sex (unprotected, pull out.), she tries desperately to get into contact, in a way that sounds very much like attention seeking behavior: multiple facebook calls non stop, calling in the middle of the night, even finding my overseas phone number and calling it, yelling that she is pregnant.\n\nSo, up til now, it sounds very much like a fake pregnancy for attention or back together story.\n\nHeres where I am lost: She is asking for abortion pills(she lives in Ireland, a country where abortions are not legal), and asking me to get them for her(red flag). I think this is attention seeking behavior and have since blocked her.\n\nHowever, usually drama queens claim to be pregnant for attention of those around her, instead of asking for abortion. The timing of \"oh no I'm pregnant give me attention' seems off as well, being 4 weeks after last encounter.\n\nWhat does /r/Relationships think? Should I continue to just ignore this? Should I actually help?", "summary": "Ex Hookup claiming pregnant, asking for abortion pills. I am unable to provide. Not sure if attention seeking or real call for help."}
{"id": "t3_31xke2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of one year, she won't tell me who has been texting her constantly asking for dates.", "post": "I was at work earlier today and I got a text from girlfriend saying \"I'll never understand how some dudes just never get the hint\". I then ask her to explain. She explains how you ignore guys for a long time and clearly state friendship only intentions but they keep trying to get a response of her. I can tell this came up because of some guy so I ask who specifically we are talking about. \n\nShe won't tell me. She says that it doesn't matter because I don't know this person, meaning it's not important (to her). I tell her I'd still like to know and she responds with, \"meh it's fine.\"\n\nOf course I tell her how those answers bother me and I'd still like to know who. Side note: about 6 months ago we broke up because I was playfully flirting with a girl from work. I broke up with her and we ended up dating again 4 months ago. \n\nWe've talked about this on the phone( it's a long distance relationship) and she still won't tell me who keeps asking her out. \nI'm not sure why she won't tell me. I was thinking it might be because I actually do know the person, I dont know. \n\nAm I overreacting for not being told of this persons name? or should I just get past this issue? \n\nThanks in advance for your input and advice.", "summary": "LDR girlfriend has been getting repeated texts and invites to dates from a guy, of which she claims I don't know. I never knew about this.  I ask her who it was and she says that it's not important, because I don't know the person, and it doesn't make a difference. Do I have a reason to be mad over this or is it no big deal and I should just get over it?"}
{"id": "t3_49b3xl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] still can't get over ex [17/F]. I just want to talk to her.", "post": "It's been about 5 months and I've tried to move on and stop thinking about her but I just want to talk to her. The day after she broke up with me I was fine and kind of in shock. But then I messed up by sounding really needy after the week we broke up and she basically cut me off. sent 2 texts to her since, one on Black Friday and one on Christmas, but no reply. I would like to get back together or at least see her again or talk to her but I don't think she does. During the relationship she was saying that I was the best boyfriend she had and she has never liked anyone more; we dated for 3 months and I basically said the same. The day after we broke up, she called me because she said she had no one to call about an incident, someone very close to her is in the hospital, and basically said that she was scared of me and that when she broke up with me a weight was lifted off her. I don't know what to do. I have turned to alcohol this past month or so and I don't think it's good. Sorry this is so messy but any advice of how I could talk to her would be great. I'll answer any questions", "summary": "Girl broke up with me and cut me off a week after. I want to talk to her but I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4rnwth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/M] girlfriend [19/F] broke up with me after she went through my Facebook without my permission.", "post": "My girlfriend and I had been dating for 15 months. \n\n**Last week my girlfriend went onto my Facebook account and read through my message history with a couple of girls.**\n\nShe was **searching for a specific girl that I used to flirt with in the past, and she found it.**\n\nWe had fought one time before about me flirting with this girl, and I stopped talking to her entirely for a couple of months (obviously she didn't believe I did).\n\nShe found messages between the girl and I around my birthday in February, and her (message girl) birthday in June. Needless to say they were flirty but with no intentions of ever acting upon them. The girl lives in Europe and I live on the East Coast. But my girlfriend doesn't believe that I ever stopped talking to her, and that I was flirty throughout our entire relationship.\n\nI have no evidence to disprove this, except for the fact that I don't have her on social media anymore (excluding Facebook, which I now deleted)\n\nYes I know it was stupid for me to flirt in the first place, but I can't help but feel like there is a massive invasion of privacy and that she shouldn't have seen the messages in the first place.", "summary": "My Girlfriend of 15 months went through my Facebook messages without my permission and found old conversations of me flirting with a girl. She broke up with me and went no contact."}
{"id": "t3_enlpd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Relationship problems, \"sparks gone\" Please help. :/", "post": "So basically i've been going out with this girl for a few months now, i think i love her, we've been dating about 6 months and we've both met each others parents and both been out on family meals the whatnot. We have regular sex most days. Until recently.\n\nRecently she has suddenly become unresponsive and doesn't want sex. \nShe claims that the relationship was based completely on sex. From my point of view it isn't we go out into town and we spend alot of time just talking laughing and going out shopping and hanging out with friends. Recently she says we have just \"lost our spark\" and suddenly starts saying she loves me but not \"us\" and that we are nothing without sex when we clearly are. She says that she has changed and has stopped loving us as much and that no sex has made it awkward. Recently she went to see her ex boyfriend. Naturally as her boyfriend i got proteective seeing as i wasn't there to keep an eye on things. She says when she gets back that nothing happened that i trust didn't because she isn't like that, also she seems to spend more time texting him than me. But ever since then she has changed, she has stopped loving \"us\" and has suddenly become really quiet. She says that she isn't going to go back to him when we finish, because i asked her this several times saying i bet your going to back to your ex when you're through with me and she denys it. She says she doesn't know what to do anymore and that she will give it to new year for the \"spark\" to re ignite. Reddit please don't troll or be nasty this is a serious post :/", "summary": "Girlfriend says sparks gone, don't know what to do :/"}
{"id": "t3_ngkdn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dentists of Reddit", "post": "I lost a front tooth when I was 8. I was giving my brother a piggyback, tripped over myself, and slammed my face in the ground. We went to the hospital at midnight, they took the tooth and cut off the root and glued it on to something and put it back in my mouth. Well, over 20 years its been getting loose, and last year fell out. So now I have a gap. My dad says that because there is no object there, the other front tooth will get misaligned something about because there is no support for it, it will point straight out or something. My dentist gave me a flapper, just a plastic thing to look like a tooth, I never wear it. Its harder to talk with it in, its always in the way, and I loose it when I take it out to eat. They have offered to do a surgery where they would take out the other front tooth and the tooth next to the one I lost to put in three fake teeth. At the time that they first told me this, they said that the adjoining teeth needed to come out because they experienced to much trauma when I lost the first tooth, and they wouldn't last a lifetime. I think they are fine, a little looser then the rest of my teeth but I still bite and chew with them solid. I really don't want to loose them, and expressed this. They they said oh well we can just do the single one then. I was like wtf, so the other two don't need to come out? I felt like i was being attacked with multiple offers by a used car salesman for a car I didn't want. My foot is fucked up, hurts all the time, completely separate issue, but I really don't want to do anymore surgery on my body, I really hurt all the time and don't mind one bit at all about having a hole in my smile. If anything, it help me avoid shallow people. The few friends I have still hang. So My question is this: Will doing nothing about the hole cause the other froth tooth (or teeth) to mis-align? As an option, I would actually consider leaving it alone, if the other one gets fucked up it can come out too.", "summary": "Lost a tooth when I was 8. Will doing nothing about the hole cause my other teeth to mis-align?"}
{"id": "t3_4whyls", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with [28/M] honestly have no idea if he is interested", "post": "We have been on a few really great dates, and I feel like he is very attracted to me when we are together. We also have wonderful conversation. I am really not looking for anything serious I just want someone to hang out with and maybe be intimate.\n\nWell, he just texted me that his job would maybe be moving him nine months from now. So I just replied \"that's fine\" because I honestly did not know what to say. On top of this he also has a very demanding job and said he was feeling really anti social. Which I totally understand, but I think something casual can still involve spending the night at each others places occasionally. I am pretty introverted as well but I could still spend a day with someone and not feel drained. It is like he doesn't want to spend more then a few hours at a time together.\n\nI am probably over thinking things though.", "summary": "Thought a guy was really into me and now seems completely aloof to spending time together."}
{"id": "t3_1lfqq8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I feel like i'm (18 male) the clingy one in the relationship with my (17 female) gf", "post": "We agree that we both need alone time and time with our friends, and we both spend a lot of time with our friends and usually we spend a good amount of time together, but recently shes been with her friends a lot more than me. I think im being ridiculous but i can't help the feelings of jealousy and anger. I try to hang out with her and shes always too busy with one of her friends. She just got back from a trip to Canada and ive only seen her once in the last week. Am I being too clingy?", "summary": "I seem to wanna be with her more than she does with me."}
{"id": "t3_20c6ma", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26m) gf (24f) friend (22f) tried hooking up with me. Should I tell my gf?", "post": "So after quite a few drinks last night my gf fell asleep leaving her friend and I drinking alone. After some time her friend started making advances me. Staring me in the eye, standing extremely close to me, grabbing my arm and slapping my ass. I did my best to keep it cool and show her I wasn't interested. At this time I figured it was time for sleep. I went to lay on the couch so they could share the bed. She then took off her pants and tried to lay with me. This made me uncomfortable so I just slipped in bed with my gf and passed out. Should I tell my gf what happened?\n\nThanks for your input everybody. I'll be sitting down with my girlfriend after I get off work tonight.", "summary": "My girlfriends friend was trying to fuck me"}
{"id": "t3_3r2f6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22M] broke up with GF [22F] of 4 years, started dating someone new. My friends/coworkers/family aren't happy?", "post": "Well reddit, could really use your help here, I'm honestly at a loss as to what to do.\n\nAnna and I met in high school through mutual friends, and started dating from there. For the first three years we were together, we did almost everything together. Our friends would always call us the sweetest couple, and we alternated living with her parents and mine (she was like a member of my family). \n\nI would buy Anna flowers every week, and she would come down to my workplace almost every day to have lunch together. During that time she met and got really close with my coworkers.\n\nFast forward a few years, and we still love each other, but we're starting to see our future goals diverge. We mature in different ways, and some of our values no longer match up. Eventually, after considering it for a long time, I decide to break up with Anna. It's amicable, and we part ways.\n\nA few months later I started dating a friend, Jennifer. So far it's going great, our values, sense of humor, and future goals all match up. I'm very happy.\n\nThe people around me however, are not. My parents keep asking after Anna, and saying that she's \"the one that got away\". My friends make comments on social media about how we were such a gorgeous couple, and that we should get back together. No one 'likes' any pictures that contain Jennifer and I together.\nAs for my coworkers, they're polite when Jennifer comes down to visit, but when she's not there they'll tell me that I've \"downgraded\" and \"made the biggest mistake of my life\" (for reference, Anna's family is very wealthy, and she was more interested in hair, makeup and clothes than Jennifer is). They say I'm an idiot for breaking her heart.\n\nI'm starting to find these comments suffocating. I've told my friends and family to knock it off, that it's disrespectful to my current GF, but they won't listen.\n\nReddit, what do I do?", "summary": "ex-GF close with family, friends and coworkers. Broke up with her and started dating someone new. Family/friends/coworkers almost angry, keep pestering me to get back together with her. How do I navigate this?"}
{"id": "t3_426x39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [23/M] is not ready to be my boyfriend. Should I[23/F] give him more time?", "post": "I've been going out with a 23 yo guy for about 3 months (about once to twice per week). He hasn't dated much and he said his longest relationship was around 6 months. However, he's not a virgin. He's been taking things super slow with me. We kissed on the third date and still haven't gone past 1st base. He used to text me every few days to set up a date. When I told him I'd like to hear from him more often, he's now texting me at least once every other day but always takes a long time to reply.\n\nHe's a nice guy and I'm attracted to him. He's introduced me to a couple of his friends. This past weekend, I asked him if he would like to become official, he said he's not seeing anyone else right now but he's not ready to commit to a relationship with me yet (he said he does want a relationship). He'd like to keep going like this for a while until he makes up his mind. He said he likes me and sees a potential together. He also said he's hesitant because of how busy school is right now. He's a 2nd year dental student. I just get the vibe that he's not that into me and Idk if I should bail or give him more time since we've been taking things slow.", "summary": "He's not sure if he wants to be my boyfriend yet. Should I give him more time?"}
{"id": "t3_2a0b2g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by damaging my neighbor's property.", "post": "So for the summer I've been working at a country club as a caddie. I never liked golf before but I've gotten more and more into it every time I finish caddying an 18 hole.  Today we were cleaning out the attic and found my uncle's old golf bag along with clubs, balls and tees. I was excited and thought it would be a good idea to tee off right on my front lawn. I put the tee in, placed the ball and set myself. I brought the driver back and swung. Surprisingly I made contact with the ball and was ecstatic. Now, on my block, there aren't houses across the street, just the back of a Value City Furniture, so it was fine if I hit it. Anyway after I made contact with the ball, I was in awe. I watched it fly until a gust of wind came from nowhere and blew the ball to my neighbor's property. The ball went straight to their car's rear windshield and completely shattered it. After the shock set in, I told my neighbor and we settled it. Now I'm going to lose most of the money I made caddying.", "summary": "I drove a ball from my yard and it hit what my neighbors drive."}
{"id": "t3_1gffek", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need some friendship advice", "post": "I've [26/f] known my friend [23/f] for about 5 years now, we met at work a year after i started there. Last year she moved to West Virginia (6 hours away), but we kept in touch via emails.\n\nIn the past she had this problem with following through on plans we made to hang out together. Sometimes she would come up with really stupid excuses about how she had to help her mom take out the garbage, other times i just never heard anything from her. Over the past few years i thought she had gotten better at this and stopped doing it so much, but it seems she's gone back to doing it again. \n\nThis past week she came to visit and stayed with another friend all week. We all hung out wednesday, i kept her updated on times and everything and she had planned weeks ago for the 3 of us to hang out again friday ( her idea). Well friday rolls around and i never hear from her, i considered texting but i don't feel like i should be the one to make sure our plans work out every time. It gets old real quick.\n\nShe also kept saying how she would come in to work to say hi to everyone on Thursday afternoon, never showed up. I would have understood if she didn't want to, i probably wouldn't want to either, but why continue to tell me she'd be there?\n\nI feel silly getting upset over something like this but how hard is it for other person to occasionally be the one to call and make sure our plans are still going on?", "summary": "friend made plans to hang out, i never heard from her. Got tired of always being the one to make sure our plans worked out so i didn't call and ask her myself."}
{"id": "t3_31tvhf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25m] am thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend [28f] of 2 years [UPDATE]", "post": "There is the link to the previous post. I've never done an update before so if I did something wrong let me know.\n\nWe talked things out and seemed to be getting better, however we started randomly fighting/arguing again. She kept on asking me if I'm happy being with her, I am, I just think we both need to work on communication.\n\nWhen ever I'm away from her I just think to myself about leaving her. I don't have many friends to talk to about this. I just feel that I cause most of the arguments, even though she does talk down to me and says something along the lines of \"you know you have to to a, b, and c. \" then she makes me repeat what she told me to do, which I do repeat it, just the wording is wrong. Then she yells at me for not listening.\n\nAlso one other thing, not sure if I mentioned it in my last post or not, but say we are going to bed and after I work 10-18 hour days all I want to do is sleep. While I'm trying to sleep she has the lights and TV on while watching make up videos on her phone. She gets mad at me for asking her politely to turn stuff off. She can watch make up videos with headphones for all I care.\n\nAnyway that's the end of my rant, once again if you need further clarification or anything don't hesitate to ask me.", "summary": "girlfriend and I still argue about stupid stuff, can't seem to stop."}
{"id": "t3_4xggec", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(sc) Having a child, mother saying she's going to deny me all visitation and screw me over on child support.", "post": "I posted here a while ago, but can't remember my throwaway. \n\nAnyway's, I basically found out that I'm going to be a Dad. The child is mine, unless she's lying. (Which she might be, you never know people are shitty)\n\nShe didn't tell me for the first 7 months she was pregnant, she's holding a grudge against me because I broke up with her. \n\nAnd now she's trying to say that she's naming the child whatever she wants, that it will not have my name, and that she's going to try and fuck me over as much as possible in child support. She's also saying that she's talked to lawyers and is pretending like she will be granted full custody, and that I will no be able to visit the child at all, and If I do it will be infrequent monitored visits. \n\nCan she do this? \n\nI want nothing to do with her, as she's an awful person entirely. \n\nBut if it's my kid, I want to be in his life as much as possible. This would be my first born child, my first born son. the continuation of my genes. \n\nThere's no way she could name it without me, deny me visitation and fuck me over on child supoprt right? \n\nIs the court system really geared that much towards women? this can't be the case. \n\nBasically, what can I do here? Can I have a say in the childs name, and what are the odds of her being successful in denying me any custody/visitation?", "summary": "Ex is salty because I broke up with her, chose to hide pregnancy from me and is now doing everything in her power to ruin my life. "}
{"id": "t3_zrydh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[M22] trying to keep in touch with a [F20] away at college 3 hours away", "post": "Towards the end of summer, a coworker and I began hooking up consistently over a 2 week basis (hung out/hooked up many times but sex never happened due to outside circumstances). Since her moving back to school, we had a phone call where she vented to me about an issue with school and we have texted average every other day, some being short conversations and others well be conversing the whole day. I feel like I initiate conversations with her a lot more than she does with me, but she 90% of the time responds back.\n\nI havent spoken to her in about 4 days now, the last time we spoke was about how two of our coworkers want me to go with them and visit her at her school for a night or weekend towards the end of September. I was waiting to see if maybe she initiate so I can see interest from her but she has not tried to contact me. Some days i feel like I am overthinking way to much and others I feel like maybe she is slowly becoming disinterested. Am I crazy?", "summary": "Hooked up for 2 weeks oftenly with a girl with gf potential before she moved to college. Longest gap of no contact after speaking about a visit in the near future, not sure what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_2wkfr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance sucks. How can I tell if I should try again when he moves back? (23F,24M; dating 1.5 years)", "post": "I was just broken up with by my boyfriend of about a year and a half. He was doing a one-year Master's in the UK while I remain here in the US. We knew long distance would be difficult, but we thought we could just push through it, since we were committed to each other and were lucky enough to be able to plan to see each other every 2-3 months (he left in late September; I visited for Thanksgiving; he visited for Christmas; I was going to visit again one more time over spring break before he comes back in June).\n\nLong distance was harder than we expected. When we are together, we are an amazing couple, but being across the ocean from each other resulted in a few fights since November. We were communicative about our needs and had been working hard to resolve the problems that led to those fights. I didn't like doing long distance but I figured it was just something we could endure until we got to be with each other in person again. I really thought we were a team on this, but this week he broke up with me claiming that it was because of the long distance. \n\nHowever, he kept on asking me whether we could take a break for now and then maybe get together when he moves back. He kept on saying that he loves me and if we were in the same place, he would want to date me more than anyone else, but because it's long distance he finds it just too difficult. Personally, I just feel so heartbroken. I also don't know if there is another woman involved. His swing dance partner has been hitting aggressively on him for months (after she met me and I was very friendly to her! can't believe her cheek), despite having a boyfriend already herself. Apparently she broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago. I can't tell whether he only feels the itch in our long distance relationship because he wants to hook up with this girl, hence all the talk about 'taking a break' for 3 months and then possibly getting back together.", "summary": "My bf broke up with me after several months of long distance because he felt 3 more months of long distance was \"too hard.\" However, he says he wants to get back together once we are in the same place. Is this ever a good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_105mdl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm 22. I work from home and I'm turning into a recluse! What can I do?", "post": "I really love my job! I work for a great company, I'm compensated well and my hard work never goes unnoticed. My job is about 40% travel and the remaining 60% is done from home. Most of the people I work with are twice my age. \n\nWhen I'm home, I'm in my dark apartment alone all day working remotely. I have the occasional phone call with a client or coworker. When I do leave my apartment, I am incredibly awkward and I find it hard to talk to anyone! I've noticed this get much worse since I started working from home. \n\nI have a fair amount of free time during the day in between projects so I have a little bit of time to work with.", "summary": "I work from home and I'm turning into a recluse! How can I stop being so awkward?"}
{"id": "t3_fw60u", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, why do you care whether or not Facebook/Google etc. has your personal info?", "post": "This is a serious question, I frequently read about people warning about the dangers of facebook and Google, how they 'know everything' about our online behaviour, etc.\n\nI've even seen posts of people saying they don't use GMail because they don't trust Google with their personal data. Or people who don't use Facebook because they believe the company does not care about their personal information. \n\nNow I realize that your personal information in the hands of adverisers isn't exactly great, as you would probably receive more spam. But other than that, what can they do with all that info? Why would you even care? \n\nI seriously could not give a shit if Facebook gives out my personal details, what's the worse they can do with it?", "summary": "Why do you care if your personal info gets handed out on the internet? "}
{"id": "t3_1v16s1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Turned my life around. Pic of five months of progress.", "post": "Just a little bit of background:\n\nEarly 2013 I decided to take control of my life and turn things around. Started by eating healthier and going for bike rides. Couple months went by and I started going to the gym. 2 days a week....3 days a week....4 days a week...5 days a week. Started watching my Carbohydrates and eating more vegetables, Protein, Fat, and fruit. By July I had lost 30lbs. My friend Dave and Fiona offered to show me some free weight exercises at their gym. Started working out with them and learning about resistance training. Started implementing that into my daily workout routine. 2012 was the most difficult year of my life. Big shoutout to The Joe Rogan Experience for keeping me entertained and motivated.\n\n[Me, summer 2011](\n\n[Mid weight loss and after 2013](", "summary": "Turned my life around in early 2013. Started eating healthy and exercising."}
{"id": "t3_50fonk", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "We were too late to Austin, TX, so where should we go next in hopes of finding a good living in tech or commercial art?", "post": "Hey Reddit!\n\nMy SO and I moved from Missouri to Austin, TX after graduation in the hopes of finding work in commercial art (we both have Graphic Design and Illustration degrees). After living here for a couple of months, some of my fears have become realities. We are far too late to really benefit from the huge boom that started in the late 90s, early 00s. At the moment, we are both working on learning web dev, in the case of my SO, and relearning Java OOP, in my case, in the hopes of being more marketable. But there's still a major problem...\n\nThe traffic here is a holy forking NIGHTMARE!!\n\nWe heard stories, but it took wasting 2 hours of my life in traffic today to really get to my breaking point. The highways are awful, and they aren't going to fix it any time soon. It would be feasible if we did end up getting jobs as developers later on and managed to find jobs within 5 miles of our house. However, there are so many variables and headaches around it that we're seriously considering just moving away the moment our lease is up.\n\nSo that brings me to a couple of questions:\n\n1. Does Austin offer any real benefit for tech jobs over other US cities? (Other than Oracle is getting ready to build a huge campus here)\n2. Are there any other US cities that are showing the same early signs of growth in the tech industry similar to Austin 10-15 years ago?\n\nSince most of the articles I have read seem to be outdated, or point to cities that have already grown a lot, we're hoping to get firsthand experience from people who live in these unicorn cities. We're also debating on looking for jobs in Dallas and Houston to at least just get away from this horrible traffic asap, but we're also wanting to consider the long game.", "summary": "Does Austin, TX, have any real edge on tech/dev industry jobs? Are there any US cities showing early signs of a population boom and tech/dev growth?"}
{"id": "t3_t8a4b", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My oldest at has become almost unmanageable. Do I throw in the towel?", "post": "Dear R/cats,\n\nI am a person who really believes in the ideal that when you purchase a cat, especially one with a bad history, you make a commitment to take care of that cat.\n\nWell, I think I am almost at my wits end (keep in mind I am writing this directly after the incident occurred).\n\nI have a 5-year-old male Ragdoll who is absolutely beautiful. For the most part, he's really a snuggler and a nice cat. Well, I live on the seond story an apartment with a balcony and for the third time (this being the third time) my cat has jumped off my balcony (not a low drop) and then gets freaked out when he's outside. I have a 4-year-old male Tonkinese as well who does just fine outside. He never jumps of the balcony and is perfectly content to sit outside. \n\nWell, the Ragdoll is a bit different. When he gets outside, past the balcony, he gets VERY hostile. To the point where i have to wear a winter coat and throw my heavy leather trenchcoat over him to avoid not being shredded. This also happens when he goes to the vet (So I have stopped taking him altogether), but each time I trust him to be outside and NOT jump off the balcony, he does it again. \n\nI know he doesn't like the outcome and I know that if he was found outside, he would absolutely be put to death or thought to be deranged. Inside, he doesn't really know how to play with my other cat. He's either in stand off mode with my other cat, or he's in docile mode where nothing bothers him.\n\nI can tell that he's had a troubled history (I've only owned him since he was 3) and I know that no one else would understand him like I do, but I guess I just can't let him outside anymore. Does that mean the other cat can't got outside either? I don't want them to think I am treating them differently, but I kind of am.", "summary": "When my cat gets outside he turns into a deranged lunatic and I keep trusting him to not escape, but he does. I think he has had a troubled past and I know no one else would make such an attempt to understand him as I have. I do love him. How do I deal with a troubled pet?"}
{"id": "t3_3167r6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] waiting to try and win back my ex [19 F]", "post": "I've been in a relationship with my ex for 3 years and I want her back.\n\n4 weeks ago, she broke things off for good after we got into an argument which involved my female friends who I have been in completely platonic and respectful friendships with. My ex never got to really get to know these friends as we were involved in a LDR for the past year and half which probably exacerbated the issue.\n\nI talked to her last week to get closure, say a proper farewell and she told me that she has realized that I was manipulative. I was not and the examples she gave were taken out of context and grossly misinterpret the things I've said. She also said that our relationship was always in a cycle where one of us submitting to the other for a couple months before we switched places for the next couple months. She didn't explain this very well to me, but I again disagree with her assessment.\n\nWe have supported each other through a great deal in these past three years. Life has been extremely unfair and I am not exaggerating. I realize that we are young, but I would rather not intimidate you with a convincing essay to tell you why I truly believe we are meant to be together. Just know that, these last three months have been hell for both of us and it definitely took a toll on us. I believe that her current assessments of our relationship are misconstrued due to the emotional stress that she is continuing to deal with from other events in her life. We were really great together before and it really showed. We rarely got to hang out with friends together because she had to stay home a lot due to her situation at home and we were conservative about PDA, but everyone knew us as the couple that would get married. It was our every intention to get married.\n\nMy plan is to wait one more month before visiting her in person to try and win her back. I only recently stopped making any attempts to contact her as she has been requesting.\n\nDoes my plan sound reasonable or should I wait longer? Should I wait to see if she'll ever come around?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me a month ago. Planning to wait one more month before trying to go see her in person (we were in LDR) to try and win her back. Good idea or bad?"}
{"id": "t3_1puulr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I tried opening up to my SO tonight", "post": "Well, throw away, as I stated in a previous post if you took the time to look in my history. \n\nI tried telling my SO about my plan of ending my life and he confirmed, in my mind, my deepest fear that there is nothing wrong with me . I've told him, in the past, that I was afraid to go to therapy because I was scared that I would be told I didn't need help . \n\nI tried looking for a number I could call that would tell me that I wasn't wrong in the way I felt, I thought it should have been in my paperwork for my doctors visit about depression on Friday night but it wasn't there.\n\nI guess I'm rambling now, I apologize.", "summary": "I feel lost"}
{"id": "t3_1ffiyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend(21) seems to have completely lost interest in me(24m) and she won't admit it.", "post": "My girlfriend of about 6 months seems to have lost interest in me and she won't admit it and I don't know what to do. For the past few weeks she has seemed cold and just completely disinterested. She has been making obvious excuses not to spend time with me. \n\nA little background. We met around mid last year but didn't actually get together until a bit later. When we finally did start 'hooking up' she was thrilled. She seemed obsessed with me to the point where I was feeling a bit smothered. After spending a couple of months together I was feeling a lot more attracted to her both emotionally and physically so we decided to make it official. About a month ago she very sheepishly told me that she loved me and I was thrilled. Maybe because I have low self esteem or because I really do love her as well, I'm not sure. But it seems like ever since then she has stopped trying with our relationship. We just saw each other for the first time in a week and a half because she has been 'busy'. But it honestly sounds like she has just been making excuses not to see me. One example being that last Sunday she was supposed to be coming to my place because I had been very sick and just needed the comfort of my girlfriend but she had stayed at her friends the night before, when I asked the next morning if she was coming her excuse was \"oh ah no I am helping 'friend' clean her room today. \n\nWe haven't had sex in weeks because apparently she has had her time of the month the whole time. Even our flirty texting is gone completely. I asked her about this and she told me that sometimes she goes a few months without feeling sexual. \n\nAm I wrong in feeling that she has just lost interest in me? This has happened to me before but never this bad and I have always just doubted my instinct yet it is always right. I can't decide what I should do. Even if it may seem obvious. \n\nSorry for the wall of text. I needed to get some of that off of my chest.", "summary": "I can't decide whether my girlfriend has lost interest or whether it's just me."}
{"id": "t3_497apm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24 F) feel like I'm about to pull my hair out over my boyfriend of two years (30 M) plans this weekend.", "post": "This weekend I am flying home (different country) for a friends wedding and my boyfriend has helped me out with the flights after I told him how much I felt like I needed to be there. \n\nJust last week he was invited to a friends 30th. I have met her a couple of times now and even have her on Facebook, but I wouldn't consider us friends. The last time I saw her she was seemingly flirting with my boyfriend after everyone had a few too many wines. \n\nSo not receiving an invite, her knowing that we are together and serious, really bugged me. \n\n I have spoken with my boyfriend about my thoughts on her actions the last time we saw her and he thinks I have nothing to worry about. Always reminds me that it is him that I need to trust.\n\nDue to my trip back home this weekend I would not be able to attend her 30th, anyway. \n\nHe has work all weekend and on any other weekend that he works we usually end up with take out and a movie in. We are both homebodies. \n\nI should just put it down to timing because, it just so happens that I will be away this weekend, but hear why I am conflicted and frustrated. Not only will he be attending this 30th party, but he has asked the birthday girl if he can bring a friend. A female friend. \n\nSomeone that I have met and while I don't think she has any interest in my boyfriend other than being his friend of many years, I am uncomfortable knowing that she is coming from out of town, staying at our place and taking his plus one to this party that I was already unsure about.\n\nI know that I need to just trust him, but I am agonizing over this. It makes me feel so angered and frustrated that he doesn't understand why it bothers me and now I can't sleep.\n\nHe doesn't want to hear any of it because, he has taken offense that I would consider it a problem.", "summary": "How do I get over this feeling of anger and quite frankly, jealousy that my boyfriend will be attending the birthday of a girl who flirted with him and didn't invite me? Also, that he will have another girl friend staying at our place while I am away and attending the party with him?"}
{"id": "t3_clogk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "College student in need of money asap, student loan options?", "post": "I will be entering my last year in college beginning in late August. However, I am currently at home, and the lease for my place in my college town stared on July 1st. I've got to pay first and last month's rent, plus a security deposit. I was expecting my parents would cover it, but they have decided not to.\n\nI am unable to pull out subsidized student loans at the moment because they require verification of my parent's information. But I normally never pull out subsidized loans to begin with because they are converted to work-study as I work during the semester to pay rent during that time.\n\nSo, what would be my best option to acquire approximately $2000 to cover my expenses? What kind of loan should I pull out, and how long does the process normally take? What institution should I go to? Do banks provide student loans at lower interest rates?\n\nThank you reddit community for reading and replying to this.", "summary": "What low interest rate loans are available, and where do I get them? Do banks provide subsidized student loans?"}
{"id": "t3_mrdf1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does anyone on reddit actually donate to Wikipedia?", "post": "I've been seeing a lot of posts on reddit recently of people making fun of Wikipedia's tactics in trying to get people to donate, but I was wondering if people are actually donating instead of just making fun of it. I know I must sound like Jimmy Whales over here, but it really is a good cause and something worth preserving. We redditors always complain about bias in media, that there is no good source of information, and that's exactly what Wikipedia is. And it's free. And there aren't adds. So next time you see an appeal instead of just going to your article, why not just read what they have to say and then if you can make a 5/10 dollar contribution, why not do it. \n\nSorry that this post has came out so preachy, but it's been bothering me that so many people are just making fun of a really great cause.", "summary": "Read the appeals on Wikipedia, and donate if you can"}
{"id": "t3_2vint8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23M] Pursue [23F]", "post": "So last week I went out with this girl for dinner, first time hanging out with her. Before this I have only met her once, and got her number because she started talking to me at a mutual friends event. We started clicking because we are both the same age 23 had similar likes. Fast forward a month I decided to text her to go out for dinner and she said she was free the next night. After dinner later that night she texted me that it was nice hanging out with me and said goodnight. I felt that our date went well and I started to like her even more. Yesterday I asked her through text if she has a valentine and she said she is flattered, however someone has already asked her. Do I still have a chance?", "summary": "Does this context of the word flattered mean she's not interested or is it just that she's just taken for Valentine's Day only?"}
{"id": "t3_1pmb9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [ 18 F] almost 6 months , is wanting to go on a \"date\" with a friend(MIC)", "post": "So my girlfriend got a text from a guy last night saying that he has a crush on her, and that he previously promised him a breakfast date. She thought it was fine until I told her I was upset about it, she then said she's not going to do it, but then said she is going to again just because she promised him earlier. Now I hope I'm not overreacting but I don't think it's okay. Now this guy isnt remotely attractive, just small, but I don't know what to think of the situation? Ask me some questions to clarify, and thank you for all responses", "summary": "Guy has crush on my girlfriend, she's going on a date with him, what do? "}
{"id": "t3_i4kat", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does a sub-tenant have to provide a 30-day notice prior to move-out if the master tenant has already given theirs?", "post": "Hey all,\n\nSo, long story short, I am the master tenant on my lease and have a sub-tenant(\"Mark\") who signed a (sub-tenancy)lease with me. I gave Mark my 30-day notice on the 26th of last month and informed the landlord. \n\nHowever, Mark decided he wanted to fight the the lease(*cue 2 weeks of constant calling/texting/emailing to me and the landlord of him saying he didn't want to move and was heartbroken, blahblahblah*), which clearly state that when my lease is terminated, his is as well. \n\nThe landlord consulted a lawyer, who told the landlord to give Mark a 60-day notice of rent increase. During this whole ordeal, I was advised to ignore Mark incase any legal issues arose which would make Mark moving out more difficult.\n\nFast-forward to today, I finally received an email from Mark stating he would be moving out. Does this email serve as an official notice? Does he get an additional 30-days to move or does my 30-day notice cover this? I did forward his email to the landlord(no response yet).", "summary": "Roomate went crazy when I told him I was moving out"}
{"id": "t3_3ehwbv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26] bf [28m] wants me to verbally acknowledge everything he says.", "post": "I'm not the best communicator in the world.  I have ADD and sometimes that makes it nearly impossible to focus on more than one thing at once.  My bf frequently gets mad at me for not listening.  Part of the problem is that I'll be reading something when he comes in the room and sits down, then he just starts talking.  I *literally* can't always hear him when he does this because I'm so engrossed in what I'm already doing.\n\nThis morning he said something that I didn't have anything to contribute to really.  I was looking directly at him when he said it, but he still got mad because apparently I'm still not listening if I don't have anything to say.\n\nI know I have to work on my part but how do I get him to understand that I can't drop everything all the time to pay attention to and verbally acknowledge every single thing he says.  I've explained to him several times that he needs to get my attention before he speaks and I've been working extra hard on keeping my ears open and paying attention.  How can I get him to realize that his expectations are unrealistic?", "summary": "bf says I never listen because I don't verbally acknowledge everything he says and doesn't understand that I can't."}
{"id": "t3_zidfd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Nothing makes me more angry than being wrongly accused of something. What are your experiences?", "post": "Two high school stories:\n\n1) Taking a test in Spanish class, I finished and proceeded to place my pencil down and push my test forward to the corner of my desk to indicate that I had finished. Unbeknownst to me, the student behind me peered over my shoulder to look at my paper and compare/copy answers. When the period ended, the teacher picked up both of our papers and tossed them into the trash. She then announced to the entire class that we would both be receiving zero points for the test. \n\nI was horrified and asked why (still unaware of what had happened). She then accused the gentleman behind me of cheating off me and accused me of deliberately presenting him with a clear view and helping him cheat.\n\nFeeling humiliated and utterly helpless, I told her that I had not helped him and left to go to my next class.\n\n2) Every honors freshman English class at my high school read Lord of the Flies. The teacher was insistent that Golding intended for the island to be a microcosm. HEAVILY insistent. On quizzes, tests, midterms and finals we had to explain what a \"microcosm\" was and how the island was an example. To this day, when I read or hear the word, I think of Lord of the Flies.\n\nApparently my classmates were similarly conditioned to associate the term with the book because the next year when another English teacher gave us a homework assignment that included a question about what a microcosm was, the majority of the class in some way referenced William Golding's novel as a quintessential example.\n\nWhen we got the assignment back, the teacher proceeded to make an immense ass of herself by accusing the entire class of copying answers and sharing homework. \n\nI explained that our first encounter with this term involved our collective study of Lord of the Flies and that it didn't surprise me in the least bit that so many of my peers had referenced it in response to the prompt.", "summary": "Grades are not everything, especially when your prof is a cunt."}
{"id": "t3_445ok1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me Thai [17 M] like my classmate [17 F] who is a Norwegian girl but my current relationship is preventing me from engaging to her.", "post": "Hello, so I have been liking this girl for quite a while now, but the problem is that I don't usually talk to my foreign female classmates as there's usually nothing interesting to talk about not that I'm not confident.\n\nNow, I'm about to graduate (around May) and I don't want to miss this opportunity, it's now or never! I want to tell her how I feel but I don't want to approach her in an awkward way because we rarely talk to each other.\nI'm also going to Europe to study abroad which I think goes the same for her. (current location is Thailand)\n\nI also want to include that she finds me attractive and she told my friend that I'm an interesting person (according to my friend who is relatively close to her) although I'm not sure if this is true or not as I don't find myself attractive, though few girls had confessed to me and I turned them down because I was waiting for the right person.\n+ I'm not shy but I don't have much confidence when it comes to women especially Europeans.\n\nPlease help me out, I really want to improve my relationship.", "summary": "I have feelings for my classmate and I need help to confess/approach to her before it's too late. :>"}
{"id": "t3_2om5zv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my friend [21F] have suddenly got weird", "post": "So, just for some background, we have always just been friends. There have been times when things could of happened between us, but nothing ever did (partly because I'm oblivious) but there has always been flirting for the past year or so. We also \"work together\" (in the same store, but in completely different departments so we don't see each other all that often in work) . \n\nI recently found out that some people had been saying that things were going on between us, sleeping together etc. roumers basically (don't get me wrong, we flirt and stuff at work when we do see each other, but it's all in good fun and we just mess about most of the time) . So I told her about it thinking it was quite funny that people were wasting there time and energy coming up with such stuff. I was neutral while telling her but I did say it was funny after I had told her. \n\nApparently she didn't really see the funny side to it and told me to tell whomever was making these roumers that nothing was going on, which I did because I knew the source. \n\nSince then, nothing has been the same. She hardly speaks to me anymore and is just sort of cold towards me. \n\nDid I do something wrong, is she doing it to stop the roumers, or is she just playing hard to get (like she usually has)?", "summary": "had a roumer going around about us two and now she's acting cold and distant towards me, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1x34ip", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Leaving the nest.", "post": "Hi there Personal finance, \n    Long time reader first time poster here so I'm in the midst of a very monumental stage of my life. I'm leaving the nest at 24 and me and my girlfriend are getting a place together, I would have done it sooner but with paying out of pocket for school it made it almost impossible to do that. So me and the girlfriend have set a move out date for April and are currently looking around for apartments in the 7-800 price range we both are trying to save about 2-3000 before we do go just in case of emergency which is easier for her but not so easy for me being a cook at a restaurant only getting $10 an hour an working 40+ hours a week. So I've come here to ask for your advice on how to save for this big move. I don't have any major bills right now other than a $380 a month car payment and I'll hopefully be getting a promotion at the restaurant soon and will be making anywhere between 13-15 an hour. So yeah help me out what should I do to save better? What should I do to prepare for the move and living somewhat on my own? How screwed am I?", "summary": "Moving out with girlfriend on my own for first time, need help on how to save money better and taking any advice on how to prepare for this move."}
{"id": "t3_3c0xyd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) with my boyfriend (20M) will be moving in with 6 other people (20-21 M/F), how much PDA is acceptable?", "post": "This is just a simple question, nothing dramatic.  My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years and will be living together next semester in an 10 person flat.  7 of these other people are single women and 1 is a gay man.  We're the only couple, and we don't know any of these people.  \n\nMy question is, how much cuddling is acceptable in common spaces?  There are 10 tiny bedrooms so there is private space for cuddling and such, but would it be awkward to do that in common space?  My boyfriend's pretty demonstrative and I'd like to know if this is something we should avoid.  Obviously no sex will be occurring at all, the walls are thin.  But should we keep our couple-y demeanor for behind closed doors?  What about hugs and flirting?  It may sound stupid, but from facebook stalking I've seen at least a couple of these girls post stuff about hating obnoxious couples.  A couple are also very unhappily single based on their statuses, and I don't want to rub it in their faces.  \n\nIs this a conversation I should have with my boyfriend before shoving him aside if he tries to go in for a kiss?  Or am I overthinking things?  What are the appropriate boundaries?", "summary": "My boyfriend and I are moving into a new apartment with 8 other single people.  We're not going to be having sex on the premises, but I'm wondering how much non-sexual contact is acceptable in common spaces."}
{"id": "t3_c1kta", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have an economics question for any college majors out there...", "post": "Does anyone know how many total jobs were available in the US each year for the past 5 decades or so?  I would settle for advice on how to look this up.\n\nThe reason I ask is that I have a theory.  I think the total number of jobs available began to decline long before the latest recession.  We can probably all agree that some jobs have become automated, but beyond that, most large companies have a relentless focus on productivity.  If this is in fact a trend, I doubt it can be reversed in a capitalist economy.  Is there a source that would have the number of paying jobs each year?  I'd prefer to have some idea how much these jobs were paying as well.  If any students want to use this for a thesis project feel free, I would love to read the results.", "summary": "Has the total number of jobs available in the US been shrinking for a long time?"}
{"id": "t3_dvjvl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Digital TV signal always disappears when it rains, but it didn't use to.. Suggestions?", "post": "I'm doubting a lot of people will read this or have a solution, but perhaps there's someone out there that understand broadcasting signals or antennas and can help me figure this out.\n\nSo 2 or 3 years ago when Digital TV became standard and pushed Analog out, my family and I had to buy digital converter boxes for our televisions. Initially we rain them with bunny-ear antennas because we had no run lines through our house from our roof antenna. When we finally got around to that we were able to pick up a lot more channels than we normally would.  \n\nHowever, in the past...6 months I wanna say, every single time it started raining, channels would become scrambled and eventually we would lose all signal to any channel. Even after it stops raining, it will usually take a day before we can receive signal again.\n\nWhat I cannot understand is that we had plenty of times where it rained or snowed but we still received signal. This problem just started happening out of no where. We've tried raising the antenna more and lengthening the coax cable running to it, but nothing seems to work.\n\nSo does anyone have any idea? Can an antenna somehow be \"shorted-out\" by water? We did have our shingles replaced on the roof within the 6-month span. Perhaps they did something to affect it?\n\nThe antenna is rather old, so I'm curious if replacing it would be a good idea, and if so, what exactly is the type of outdoor antenna I should be looking to purchase?\n\n**P.S. - If there is a more appropriate sub-reddit to ask this question, please let me know*\nThanks for anyone who can help! :D", "summary": "We have an outdoor antenna that stops getting signal to all TV channels when and after it rains."}
{"id": "t3_37hds1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] of 14 months wants to eventually have a puppy, but I don't know if I'm ready to go through the emotions of having a pet again.", "post": "I've had my dog for 10 years and love him to death. My girlfriend wants to get a puppy years from now when we have a house and a yard together. Around that time though, my dog may or may not be around. I am not ready for the emotions that are going to come with that. \n\nAfter my dog does pass, I don't know if I'll ever want a dog again strictly because of the emotional investment. I'm pretty emotional with pets, and I love them to death, but again, I don't know if I'll want to go through that.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to get a dog eventually (years from now) but I am not sure if I'll be ready for the emotional investment"}
{"id": "t3_jp6rq", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Suggestions for minimalist running shoes that are also comfy walking shoes?", "post": "Hi Runnit, I have a bit of a unique-snowflake question.  I'm running my first half-marathon this November, but five weeks prior, I'll be taking a two-week trip to Europe, and I'm trying to make sure this doesn't throw off my training too much.\n\nI'd like to continue my running while traveling, but I'd also like to bring only a single pair of shoes with me (I pack very light).  I have a STRONG preference for shoes with a low heel-toe drop as well.\n\nI had real wide feet and find the Kinvara's to be too narrow, but Saucony Peregrines are perfect.  I plan on getting the Newton Distance Racers soon.\n\nMy first thought was to just bring my VFF KSO's and run in them, but I'd prefer a pair that could do double-duty.  I'm thinking of taking my New Balance MT101's to have the heel lowered like [this] but I don't love them as walking shoes, so I'm looking for other options.\n\nSo, do any of you wide-footed, minimalist shoe preferring fellow runners know of any shoes that would be comfortable walking around in all day and putting in the occasional training run?", "summary": "What \"minimalist\" shoes are good for running, walking, and not looking like a tourist?"}
{"id": "t3_1u5ac6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 F] Im emtionally numb to anything that happens with me and my [21 M] husband", "post": "Im only 20 and got married in July after being separated from the Navy. I have horrible anxiety and depression and husband is honestly very insensitive towards it. In the beginining of our relationship he was very anxious about my past relationships and how many sexual partners i had (4) He would constanly start arguments about it because hes only had one. \n\nAfter all of that we had alot of arguments about talking to the oposite gender because i had trust issues. We got to the point where we were arguing quite often and he used hurtful words like cunt. I called him an ass whole a few times though. We both went into the military and though everything would work. While we were both away it did honestly seem like it would. He was so sweet and loving in his letters. So we planned to get married when we got back. I really thought he had changed into a loving man. I am a really loving person and love to be cuddled and kissed where as he isnt anymore. \n\nOnce we both go separated he came home and we got married. Once we were married it went down hill and we have been arguind CONSTANTLY since. \n\nRecently i started talking to an old friend from the Navy and things have been going quite well. I played a video game with him the other night and since then my husband has been yelling at me for 3 straight days saying i cheated. I did not cheat. \n\nYes i DID have feelings for this guy a long time ago but i never cheated. He will not listen to anything i say and its getting to the point where i am emotionally numb. I am physically sick from this and have panic attacks 3 times a day. I have tried explaining everything over and over again and all he says is that i deserve the panic attacks for this. I just dont know what to do anymore.", "summary": "Hes making me emotionally numb from all of the arguing and accusing"}
{"id": "t3_4lcxdl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my college tutor [45?F] - we get on very well, but best not to pursue a friendship?", "post": "I have a very good relationship with my college tutor for the past year - I've been able to go to her with any study issues/stresses I've been having and she's been great. She's always given me very helpful and practical in advice. I think we have a pretty good relationship, we also chat casually about other non-college related things. She sometimes tells me things off the record about what's happening behind the scenes at the college and we also talk a lot about our personal lives. The thing is... I may have her next year as a tutor (i may / may not - depending on subjects and scheduling).... would it be wise of me to try and pursue a friendship with her at this stage? Or too inappropriate?", "summary": "Want to become friends with my college tutor as we get on really well, but may have her next year. Is it best not to pursue a friendship at this stage, due to conflict of interest issues?"}
{"id": "t3_4y5vh2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31/f] think i need to break up with the dude [29/m] i'm \"casually\" dating", "post": "I started \"casually\" seeing this guy, he warned me up front that he was going through the break up of a 4 year long marriage and it had only been a few months. \n\nSince he didn't really seem like someone I could see \"long term\" possibilities with I went with it anyways - he's cool and fun and that's all I wanted anyways. No rushin'.\n\nSince then I've developed feelings for him and he has been so great and cool about it all. He talks about me to his friends, we hang out with each others friends. Focus on not just having sloppy drunk sex, etc. Not really the stuff \"casual\" is made of. \n\nHe has started counselling and is focusing on himself and doing everything right, that he should be at this point.\n\nI, on the other hand, am feeling like it's a really bad time to be falling for him. I don't wanna put pressure on him to have to take care of my feelings right now - I think it will just lead to me getting hurt. Not to mention getting in the way of where he's trying to go right now. \n\nThe best thing I can think of is just pulling back and settling into just friends. Genuinely, without any ulterior motives. The problem is I don't know if i'd actually be cool with that - what if we are at a party with friends and he goes home with someone else? I'd be so bummed out. I try hanging out with other dudes too - but I just spend the entire time wishing I was hanging out with the person I actually wanna be making out with. \n \nIs there a way of being like \"hey call me as soon as you are over being heart broken\" ? Put him in my phone as \"call him in 2017\" ? Fake a \"just friends\" friendship till I make it (I'm sure i will - it's not been that long that I've had these feelings and I'll be fine) ?", "summary": "Fell for the dude I was supposed to be just casually hooking up with. How do i say \"hey call me when you aren't all messed up from your wife leaving you\"?"}
{"id": "t3_3z6gq0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my ex[24 M] of three years, broke up with me because I make him happy. Now he wants to go date other girls for one last time before possible settling down. Emphasis on possibly.", "post": "My ex and I have been together for three years and he's broken up with me because he says I'm perfect for him and he's not ready to settle down. He says I make him happier than anyone ever has and probably anyone ever will. He just feels like he is too young to settle down. Is he stupid for letting go a relationship with someone that makes him incredibly happy? Or should I respect his decision?\n\nIs this bullshit? We've broken up in the past a couple times because of his desire to stray sexually, so I'm completely confused. He's matured a lot since then and seems more invested in the relationship (until, obviously, he wasnt). He either is bullshitting me, or is making a huge mistake he's going to regret.\n\nHe's claiming it's just a break he needs. But should I be okay with that? I'm so confused. He seems very certain and confident that he gets to have one last break to go play and party before finally settling down with someone who makes him the happiest he's ever been. Do I let him go and make him realize what he's losing, or should I be mature and allow him the time to grow up?\n\nIt still stands I dont know if he's bullshitting or not.", "summary": "My boyfriend says I make him really happy and I'm perfect, so he broke up with me. He wants time to play and party one last time before settling down."}
{"id": "t3_10dapa", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "M (41) F (31) Broke up, she moved on, not sure how I feel", "post": "We'd been on and off for a couple years and this last run was the longest. She said was done, I saw it coming and wasn't going to stop her (about 7 weeks ago). It really was the right thing to do since she wasn't getting what she wanted and I was feeling to stressed due to things in my life and couldn't be \"present\" with her. The first month I was fine, knowing we did the right thing and she can move on and be happy. Something happened a couple weeks ago that put her back in my thoughts. I confirmed today that she is seeing someone, we haven't spoken since the break up and i don't intend to. I feel bad, but not sure if it's because I want her or just hurt because she moved on so easily. \n\nShe told me she loved me, but I said I wasn't ready to say it, and it takes a long time for me to fall in love. I think I was on the road to loving her, but, my life situation was a big barrier.\n\nIf you want background I posted about our 1st break up way back when. Some of that was a factor as well as more. (don't know how to link the post)\n\nAnyone else experience this?", "summary": "Broke up, was fine, found out she's moved on. Not sure what i'm feeling"}
{"id": "t3_jr77p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ok, reddit. Today I was dropped  from the ONE interesting project at  work, and I'm suddenly regretting  my lack of saved up Fuck You- money. Got any inspirational stories  about how a nice reserve of money  can just save the day?", "post": "This was news that hit me, pretty much out of the blue, and once again reminded me I should really, seriously consider getting a real job. \n\nThis made me realize that* if only* I had a couple of months worth of expenses of easily available cash saved up, I'd be in a much better position to say \"[Fuck You] stupid job\", and get to where I want to be. \n\nInstead, I have roughly the same amount, in short-term consumer debt, which along with student loans and running expenses, severely limits my options in how many days I can afford to be out of a job, at this point. \n\nNow, I'd like this to be a cautionary tale, so do you guys other examples where such a saved-up sum of money did, or did not save the day?", "summary": "work is being a dick, and I'm not in a position to complain, at all."}
{"id": "t3_2bg4i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my boyfriend [23 M] 2 years, He doesn't want to go to my friend's house for dinner, which one of us is being ridiculous?", "post": "So, a friend of mine invited the two of us over for dinner this week. My boyfriend likes this friend, but doesn't want to go. My friend has been renting a room in someone else's house, and my boyfriend doesn't trust that my friend's house will be clean (kitchen, dishes, fridge, etc), because he's never met my friend's housemate.\n\nI know he's a little germophobic, but I've been to her house and know that it's perfectly clean. Also, my friend is SUPER excited about making us dinner, and would be really bummed if my boyfriend didn't come.\n\nI can't force him to come, but nothing I'm saying is changing his mind, and I also feel really awkward coming up with an excuse for him to not come.", "summary": "Boyfriend won't come to my friend's house for dinner because he thinks her house might not be up to his cleanliness standards, not sure if his excuse is completely valid, or if he's being a jerk."}
{"id": "t3_3tmy71", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24m) am not excited about my relationship with (21f), but I enjoy it. What does this mean?", "post": "Alright, you bombtastic Redditors who are seasoned relationship veterans; I am confused. My twenty-one year old girlfriend of six months is in love with me and absolutely infatuated with me (gotta admit, that last part is really nice). I really like her and enjoy her company, but I have never been super excited about it. Never have I experienced a \"butterfly feeling\" with her. I can literally go two weeks without seeing her and be fine. \n\nStill, my girlfriend has been super supportive, and I am in a difficult place in my life where I need that emotional support. But I have never been passionate about this relationship. Are some people not passionate about relationships? Is it normal to not have excitement in the relationship? I enjoy being with her; I just don't need to be with her that often. In fact, it sometimes feels exhausting when I get text messages from her. \n\nOther facts about the relationship: 1) we do not have much in common; I like video games, movies, history, kayaking, tennis, and football; she likes Gilmore Girls and sports which I find boring (cross country, track and field, and swim); 2) the activity we have most in common is watching Arrow together; 3) we are not having sex; we are waiting a couple months because she is a virgin (I do need a lot of physical interaction in my relationships); 4) I really care about her a lot, but I would pick a night out with my best friends over being with her for the night.", "summary": "I do not have a lot of passion in my relationship; is this normal/healthy? As in, are some people simply not passionate about their relationships and is this me? Six months is my longest relationship with a woman (not really a player; I just get kind of bored in relationships after a certain period). "}
{"id": "t3_lz6gu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I miss out on my 20s?", "post": "(throwaway acct - 31m)\n\nI have a couple conflicting emotions that don't lend themselves to a peaceful resolution. I met my wife when we were both 19 through a super random meeting.  We dated for years and married at 25.  We've had our rough patches and streaks of greatness, and we truly love and admire each other.\n\nBut (I bet you saw that coming) there is an issue.  We were each other's first sex partner, first real relationship, first love, first everything.  And that was great for a while.\n\nThe problem is that finding a great love at such a young age sort of derailed a lot of plans I had for myself.  I was just coming into myself, figuring out who I was and gaining confidence with the world.  I was going to live in the great cities and meet lots of interesting people and have experiences and lovers.  Instead I co-habitated with my future wife like she was already my wife.  I feel like I missed out on the adventure of my 20s.\n\nSome friends say, especially the single ones, that they wish they had found something like I had.  That I was the lucky one.\n\nAnd this all builds to a silent resentment of my wife.  I love her, yet resent her.  I don't want to leave my marriage and go party somewhere - I have a good job, house, and an awesome baby.  I just don't know how to process these feelings.  Help?", "summary": "Can't shake the idea that I missed out on my twenties"}
{"id": "t3_1hdl38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25M] with my gf [24F] of 2.5 years, moving out and on the verge of breaking up", "post": "We been together for 2 and half years. A few months ago, we agreed to take our relationship to the next level, and I moved in with her. Since we have complete opposite work schedules during the summer (I work in mornings to early evenings, she works nights and weekends), we hardly have anytime to be together. When we do have the time together, we spend more time arguing and fighting. We talked about our relationship and we both feel like we're treated more like roommates rather than lovers. \n\nWe agreed that she won't re-sign the lease next month and that we will find our own separate places to live. I understand/realize that maybe living together was too fast for our relationship but my main concern is that this will not completely fix our problems. \n\nThere are multiple times when she will go out with her friends after work, but will not make little to no effort to hang out with me during other nights. I understand that we need to have our own separate lives but I get offended that she makes little effort or is too tired to be with me. Do I have the right to be offended or am I just being paranoid? Also, an ideas/suggestions to fixing our issue? Thanks", "summary": "Gf and I will no longer be living together, don't know if that will help or hurt our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_roryu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "nominee for biggest douchebag", "post": "This guy regularly posts stuff on his facebook wall basically exclaiming that fat and unhealthy people deserve to die. It's almost sickening how egotistical this kid acts. Being healthy is one thing, but continuously boasting about your diet and your hatred towards other people who are not like you is a disgusting. What's even worse is that his friends agree with him! They make it seem like he's the victim in his horrible ordeal which is something he also believes. As a kid I learned never to judge a book by its covers, which is something Im afraid has been lost on my 'friend'. I might be disillusioned in anger right now so my interpretation is slightly skewered, but sometimes the stuff he posts become personal for me. This is my opinion, but what does reddit think...", "summary": "friend hates people who aren't like him"}
{"id": "t3_2l90w3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Almost every career in the medical field is saturated. What jobs are stable and pay decently now?", "post": "I honestly do not care anymore. \n\nExcluding physicians and dentist, I am so sick of reading up on forums about how one career path in the medical field is over now that it is saturated and that the job prospects are completely made up. Time and time again people are complaining how even years after their graduation, they are unable to find a job.\n\nRegarding physicians and dentistry (which was the career I was originally pursuing), the tuition rates have become insane. At this point the average tuition rate for dental school is about 400k and rising. \n\nWhat is the point of working so hard in school and in life just to come out of school with a monstrous amount of debt.\n\nThe physician career is out of the question for me. There is no way I am going to kill myself studying 7 additional years of my life just to be overworked the rest of my life.\n\nAt this point I would think working for Starbucks or Walgreens and working your way up the ladder would be a better choice.\n\nPlease offer me some guidance because I have a few major science exams coming up within the next few days and I have lost all motivation to study.\n\nI grew up thinking the medical field was the safe career choice. Where job security was guaranteed. That if you just work hard, you will be successful and life will turn out easy.\n\nI honestly do not see any light at the end of this awful tunnel of careers in the medical field.\n\nThe reason I am emphasizing the medical field is because I grew up with healthcare all around my family so that is kind of my background.\n\nPlus I will soon be graduating with a biochemistry degree.\n\nI am not necessarily restricting myself to the medical field so I do welcome any kind of career advice or suggestions.\n\nAny advice is appreciated. Thanks", "summary": "Life sucks if you don't have money. Medical field looks like its going to hell. What are some good careers right now?"}
{"id": "t3_2bgzue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] 3 months, She never makes an attempt to make me feel wanted.", "post": "So I've been dating this girl for three months. We have always gotten along well and had fun times together. We started off doing a few sexual things, and a lot of asking out. \n\nI should add that she has a sleeping disorder where she gets tired often, for long times. It's been quite a hard thing to deal with. \n\nBut lately, she denies a large amount of my attempts to hang out because she's too tired, or because she feels like being alone. Not only that, but when we are together, she makes no attempt at making me feel wanted. Now the only time she kisses me is when I leave. And even I have to initiate that. \n\nAnything I can do, any advice, it's appreciated. And believe me, I make a large effort to make her feel loved.", "summary": "girlfriend makes no attempt to make me feel wanted physically anymore, despite my efforts."}
{"id": "t3_26fxcb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/M] asked girlfriend [24/F] what she thought about threesomes. She said she'd like to?", "post": "So I have been cheated on in the past and for me the thought of someone cheating is enough to drive me insane. As a test, I decided to ask my girlfriend about threesomes. She said she'd like to have a MMF threesome. This is coming from the person who promised up and down she'd never cheat on me. Now all of a sudden it's okay for her to cheat if she has permission, but says she'd never do it without. That doesn't add up. Obviously I was hurt by this and played it off. Now I need to decide if I should end the relationship or not because of this. Any perspective on what I should do?", "summary": "girlfriend wants MMF threesome, should we break up because of it?"}
{"id": "t3_27puc7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Read a close friends journal. I literally feel sick.", "post": "A little context:\n\nHer and I have known each other for about 4 years.  We met in college.  Had classes together.  Had a short fling while her and her boyfriend were taking a break.  Now we work together (I got her the job), and we share an office.  Really good friends, I've always had strong feelings towards her.  I have a girlfriend of 3 years, she's back with her boyfriend of 10 years.\n\nWe also went to school with this guy, lets call him Roy.  Roy sucked, he was immature, inconsiderate, just unlikable all around.  Roy and my friend (lets call her Joyce) maintained a friendship, one I never really understood.\n\nA few months ago, she told me Roy was being stalker-y and wouldn't leave her alone.  I always knew Roy had a huge crush on her, and I told her to just cut off contact.  This went on and on for a while.  Now she said he's better and not bothering her.  Fine.\n\nToday I'm alone at my office.  She took the day off.  No one is around.  I noticed some of her journals she left behind.  I know I'm awful for doing it, but I decided to read some of the entries.  I still have feelings for her and I was wondering if I appeared in any of them.\n\nLiterally nothing but pages and pages of her describing her attraction to Roy.  Pages and pages going on and on about how much she likes him, times they've kissed, etc.  I can't fucking believe it.  To boot, I found an entry saying \"Roy isn't Awfulfriend4o9, he isn't easy to manipulate...\".  Awesome.  I feel like dirt.  \n\nI truly deserve this.  I asked for it the second I opened the pages.  I'm shaking with anger and shame.", "summary": "Read a friends/coworkers/crush journal, found out I mean nothing and creepy stalker means everything to her."}
{"id": "t3_q6o76", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I a horrible daughter?", "post": "My dad wasn't always a great dad. When I was younger, he was mean and abusive (verbally, and once physically) to me and my brothers. I moved out at 16 and didn't speak to my family for a very long time. \n\nFast forward a decade, and there was a tragedy that brought us back together. (My husband and daughter were killed in a car accident)\n\n5 years ago, I started re-building my relationship with my dad. We were both older, and sorry for things that were done and said, and we made amends. \n\nHe is now laying in a VA Hospice with cancer in his lungs, liver, and pancreas. His condition is rapidly deteriorating and he's already called for clergy. \n\nToday might be the last time I could see him alive. I am also 4 hours away from him. My last memories of my father are him being strong and tall and saying goodbye to me as I take the last of his belongings in the back of my truck back to Austin. He gave me a big strong hug and told me that he loves me very very much. At 31, I finally have the relationship with my father that I always wanted, and he's going to die within the week most likely. \n\nI don't know if I can handle the drive there, knowing what I am about to see, and then leaving him and driving the 4 hours back home, by myself. I don't know if I want my last memories of my dad being this sick feeble old man laying in bed not even able to speak more than a sentence at a time. \n\nAm I a horrible, coward of a daughter (only daughter) for not seeing him in his last days?", "summary": "dad dying, only had a relationship with him for the last 5 years, can't emotionally handle seeing him die. Do I go see him one last time? "}
{"id": "t3_3gk02s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (19 M) have messed up by lying and don't know how to continue with the girl I like (19 F).", "post": "So I met this girl around 5 months ago and have had a crush on her since. We've been talking for 2 month straight until we both got a bit busy with life and personal issues so we stopped talking to each other for around 2 months until we started talking again recently.\n\nI have messed up and I'm feeling lost/worried on what to do. When I first met her and first got to know her, I honestly didn't think it would go anywhere, I didn't think I'd get feelings or anything for her so when we were getting to know each other I sort of lied to her about me which I know is wrong but I honestly didn't think I'd fall for her or stay on talking to her. I only told her one lie and regret it to this day, I told her I had went to college which I didn't do, I dropped out of college to start a job which she knows about but doesn't know that I dropped out, she thinks I finished college and then got a job and I really regret telling her this but then all of a sudden we kept talking everyday and getting to know each other and I started to fall for her and like her. Then we stopped talking for 2 months and I thought this is it, it's over we won't talk again until we did and it's just bugging me. We've been talking a lot for the last 2 months and I'm really happy when I'm around her. But then today it hit me and their was this thought in the back of my head today about it. That this is actually going somewhere and I don't know how/what to tell her, I'm afraid how she will react and will most likely be really angry that I lied to her.\n\nWhat do I do? How do I approach this? I really like her and I don't want to lose her to a stupid lie I told right at the start.", "summary": "Met this girl 5 months ago didn't think it would go anywhere so told her a lie at the start that I went to college but I didn't instead I got a job, then we started talking more and I fell for her and now it's going somewhere after awhile and I don't know what to do about the lie I told her as it might come up in the future and she will be mad if she finds out I lied to her. Please help."}
{"id": "t3_2z6ytj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating an entire bag of Turkish Apricots.", "post": "I had a delicious late afternoon dinner of Maoz Vegetarian and came home settling into my nightly routine of Parks and Recs (seas 3, no spoilers bro). Craving something snacky style, I was crushed remembering I have no microwave so poppy corn was out. But WAIT, there's this unopened bag of Trader Joes Turkish apricots that I bought for a dinner party that I'll never have. So, it's episode 2 of the night and I realized I have demolished this bag of delicious apricots. 20 minutes later and hell ensues. My abdomen is cramping like Aunt Flow met the devil himself. The sulphuric gas is so horrific I can see my dog silently judging me from across the room. The pain jumps from a 2 to 8 in less than 5 minutes. I've moved to the floor writhing in pain cursing for the gods for relief of the battle happening within my stomach. I stupidly chug a 2 liter bottle of smartwater like it's a mirage in the dessert. I grabbed my phone and desperately YouTube yoga positions for relief of gas. I throw my feet over my head, I kneel into fetal position, I trace Zs on my stomach (fuck you Tonya, didn't work). I settle on fetal position with my ass in the air as I proceed to release the most revolting, vocal, prolonged toots of my entire life. My body is so confused that I can't even shit. All I wanted was a lovely evening with Ron Swanson and instead I fucked myself. Damnit Trader Joes!", "summary": "TJs Turkish apricots fucked me over, BIG time"}
{"id": "t3_3hob1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17m] think this girl [18] is really pretty, but have no idea about how to talk to her", "post": "So I'm going to be a senior in high school, and she a freshman in college. She is going to be commuting, so she will be around, but she lives in the town next to me, and honestly I only know her name because my family knows hers from years ago.\n\nMy issue is that she doesn't know me and I don't know her, but she seems sweet and is beautiful, so how can I possibly get anything going?\n\nBTW I have never spoken to a girl before other than about schoolwork, I'm kind of a nerd who plays dnd, but I lift everyday and am in pretty good shape, but I have zero experience with girls", "summary": "girl doesn't know me, I don't know her, how in the world do I go about talking to her without being creepy, I've never talked to a girl in my life..."}
{"id": "t3_1f8f1q", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(16M) Looking for advice on approaching a girl and getting to know her.", "post": "Let me start off by saying that I've never been in a relationship before. There's this girl in a few of my classes that I've been admiring for the past week or so. I don't talk to girls on a regular basis, so this is a bit foreign to me. I transferred into this school in January (after Christmas vacation), so I haven't had much time to really get to know a lot of my classmates, including her. I need advice on what icebreakers I can use to get a solid conversation going. I really would like to get to know her better. Friends have told me that I should start off by trying to get her number. I'm also told that she's shy. The best times I could talk to her would be PE and lunch. I only have the rest of this week and next week (finals week) before summer vacation starts. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "There's a girl I like, but I'm running out of time to befriend her."}
{"id": "t3_wflll", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the strangest coincidence that you or another person you know experienced? I'll start.", "post": "I used to write emails to myself every other day for my future self to read about my day's adventures and stuff. I had gotten in the habit of writing them after dinner. Well one day after some Chinese, I had opened my fortune cookie that read, \n\n\"It is time to write to someone who is distant\"\n\nOf course I was tripping at that and was freaked out a bit. I turned to other side of the paper and noticed my lucky number was 26. So I decided to go and write to myself and at the moment I got on I checked the time. 7:26 PM\n\nOut of fear, I NOPED my way out of there and hid in my room. I was convinced someone was watching me.\n\nSo Reddit, what are some of your strangest coincidences?", "summary": "I used to write emails to myself in the future. Opened a fortune cookie that told me to write to myself. Lucky number was 26. The time was 7:26"}
{"id": "t3_t6zp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "a quick question regarding \"personal space\"", "post": "Reddit, my boyfriend (24) and I (f 22) have been dating for 2 years, and overall have had a great relationship despite ups and downs.  \n\nDon't get me wrong there have certainly been snags.\n\nHowever one thing we've always struggled with is personal space.\nI require less alone time than he does.  We don't live together, but we spend about 4-6 nights a week together. Many times in the past I have stayed at his house longer than he wanted me to.  At first he had an issue communicating these feelings to me.  He didn't want me to be sad or take it personally, he just wanted to be alone etc.\n\nHe has since worked on communicating this when it becomes an issue, and I have worked on not letting it get to the point where he has to mention it.  Just enjoying my own space, as well as giving him his.\n\nWe generally don't talk during the day (when we're both at work and busy I don't see the point in aimlessly texting).  \n\nLast night I called him and it turned out he was very upset with me.  He was mad at me because I hadn't contacted him that day.  I told him I was trying to give him space, but also I was busy.  When I told him I was thinking of him but didn't want to step on his toes, he said \"I guess.\" When I told him I loved him, he said \"okay. fine.\"\n\nWhen space is such an issue (an issue for a long time), how do I know when to give it and when not to?  What am I doing wrong here?", "summary": "boyfriend wants personal space.  when i give it to him, he gets mad at me.  what is a good balance? and why is he acting this way? any experience with this?"}
{"id": "t3_433ehf", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Landlord responsible for black ice falls? (TN)", "post": "Just curious what some of you think about this situation.\n\nAs you know, a snowstorm rolled through parts of TN last week.  Our parking lot was never scraped or salted during the multiple storms (we ended up with 8-9'' of snow/ice).  Over the weekend we had some warm-ish weather but since the snow was never scraped or salted, our lot stayed pretty slick.  Matter of fact, when I left for a work trip Monday morning, you still couldn't see the pavement.  I noticed it was getting pretty dangerous when I left that morning since I had trouble getting my vehicle out and the lot is relatively flat.\n\nAnyway, I get back from my trip last night and the lot is STILL slick.  Of course, I found this out the hard way as my feet left the ground and macbook/luggage went flying.\n\nMy wife saw me take a fall and immediately ran over to help, she also took a nice fall on the way.  Luckily, we're both fine.  My issue is this:\n\nI tell my wife I'm calling the landlord tomorrow to advise them I'm putting salt down for the entire complex and will deduct the bill off my rent payment.  She recalls an email being sent by our landlord to all tenants to NOT use any salt whatsoever because it ruins the concrete/pavement and they have their own 'special' formula to use.", "summary": "Parking lot is extremely slick a week after snow storms and landlord has advised us to not use our own salt because they have a 'special' formula.  Landlord has not scraped or salted whatsoever."}
{"id": "t3_15vyr7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I Met A Girl On New Years, And I Don't Want It To Degenerate Into Nothing", "post": "Firstly, I am 17.\nI spent the day camped out with some of my friends for a good view of the fireworks, and we got a really good spot.\nWe had a small amount to drink, so I was feeling a little more confident than usual. A large group of girls of a similar age soon entered the area, and we switched to alphamode and started talking to them. They had had a bit to drink, but similar to use none of them were drunk or out of character(I assume), so everyone was just happy.\n\nI found one who was really cute and nice to talk to. We got along nicely and there was the ritual \"Midnight Kiss\" so of course we took to eachother, and there was a brief exchange later. I'm not the most confident  of guys so this was a nice success. We promised to meet with the group soon, but as in life I feel this was one of many devoid promises that will never come into fruition.\n\nShe left to go to America the next day, and I left a message on her Facebook the day after which I had gotten, with a similiar message of hoping she has a nice trip and we should hang out. She didn't necessarily acknowledge meeting up but said when she'd be back, so I suppose it's the same(Ofc you can see I'm overthinking every work and grammatical nuance).\n\nWe haven't met up with the other girls, but I hope to to just keep the connection. My friend might have a free house soon so maybe that will suffice. I really just don't know how to progress, and don't want this to be one of dozens that falls by the wayside.", "summary": "I met a girl on New Years, both slightly influenced by alcohol. Kissed. Now she is in America for 3 weeks, and I don't know how to progress or how to continue this"}
{"id": "t3_339unl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] and my GF [26 F] have been together for 7 years and currently I am trying to decide if we are ment for each other.", "post": "Hi,\n\nI am in relationship with a fantastic woman. We have met during high school. Ever since I ended high school we have been in the long distance relationship. We were crazy about each other and distance did not matter. You can imagine the relationship described in movie UP!\n\nAfter university I have moved a bit closer however my job required a travel on a weekly basis. My free time has diminished to 2 days per week and I had to start to allocate my free time between her and other activities. She started to complain about the state of our relationship and how I allocate my free time and also that we do not plan our future together. She was definitely spot on with the observation. It also led me to realization that we don't have much fun anymore together as we used to. Nowadays we watch TV and eat good food. In general I strive for adventure and she seeks stability and comfort. \n\nOne of the emotions that emerged is myself considering if she is good enough for me (I feel ashamed to write such sentence). My social status has increased in last couple years and I my life filled with interesting experiences. New people emerged and suddenly I am in position to start picking. Since my lady is introverted we have not shared a much of these experiences. I think that she started to doubt herself which could have triggered my emotion in this direction. \n\nPast couple of months (read 7 months) I have been considering if the relationship is still worth it and I am not able to make a decision. She is wonderful person who I deeply care for and would never want to hurt her. On the other hand I understand that I must make some decision or it will drive me crazy. What should I do?", "summary": "Currently doubting my relationship - what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_29j7ok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] has been on four dates with this [23 F] and haven't kissed yet. What should I do?", "post": "I met this girl about a month ago and we have been on about four dates. Recently she invited me to hang out with her best friend which I assumed suggests that our \"thing\" could be improving. \n\nAnyways, I've always heard that after the second date, if the two haven't kissed or anything more, that it is simply a waste of time and the girl is basically just using the guy. Short of bluntly telling this girl I like her, I've given her almost every indication that I like her by holding her, hugging her, etc. yet she does not reciprocate it. I'm beginning to think that she is just using me and/or just sees me as a friend. Before I mess this up, I just need your opinions as to what actions I should take before completely just ending this whole ordeal.", "summary": "Went on four dates with a woman whom I have feelings for. Nothing between us as happened even with me being completely obvious that I like her. Should I end it?"}
{"id": "t3_3lp1ho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] think I am dragging my girlfriend [22F] down.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year now and I can say that things are good.  She seems happy to be with me and I with her.  But I have this feeling that I am dragging her down, maybe this stems from some type of insecurity in me.  \n\nThis past August we both started grad school, she is currently getting her PhD at an Ivy league and I am getting my masters degree at a local college in the same town as her.  She moved to the city while I live at home.  She is a full time student while I am a part time student, working a full time job.  I try to see her at least every week.  I love that she is so smart, one of the things that attracted me to her and she is definitely smarter than me, not afraid to admit that.  She is an amazing gal, we both have the same ideals and morals but I feel like she deserves better than me and I feel like I'm dragging her down.  She is around all these smart people at school, while I'm at home either working or studying.  I feel like she is more attracted to these smart guys at her school.  She is with people of her caliber and I think she deserves to be someone that is on her same level.  Idk, i might be overthinking things, I want to talk to her about what I'm feeling but we're both busy and I don't want to annoy her. I just need to vent.", "summary": "My girlfriend is so smart, I think I'm dragging her down because I'm not smart."}
{"id": "t3_4w7rrt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19,M] need of advice on how to proceed with my relationship with my \"Girlfriend\" [20/F]", "post": "So, I've been sleeping with a girl I go to college with for the past month, and I really do like her a lot. I've never really been in a long relationship with any girl, i.e. never had a serious girlfriend and have up until recently not found myself in too many situations to even consider it. But this girl is something else. I don't love her, and I'm not dreaming of some grand future with her, but I could definitely see myself and her giving a serious relationship a go, and she's made it pretty clear she's on the same page. \n\n~~~\n\nThat being said, there are some things holding a possible serious relationship back at the moment. For one thing, she is about to enter her sorority's rush process, which will be two weeks in which she must spend almost all waking hours at her sorority's house, and she has told me we will not be able to see eachother much, if at all, during that time. On top of this, over the past 6 months or so I've started to find my game with girls and with the beginning of a new school year, was previously looking forward to being single and casually hooking up with girls. The final issue we both see is that we are both going abroad in the spring, so any relationship we might have will either be ended or put on hold for at least a semester.\n\n~~~\n\nSo there's the situation. My only questions I guess are:\n\nIs it worth it for me to commit myself to a relationship at this point in time? I really do like this girl, our chemistry is great and she's a total fox, not sure I could do better than her right now. If she wants me to commit I will and will not fool around with other women if she wants to be exclusive. But as I said, before meeting her and even when I initially began hooking up with her, I was planning on just playing the single game and I'm unsure if I really want a relationship that might end in January.", "summary": "My \"girlfriend\"/friend with benefits whom I so far have wonderful chemistry with seems like she's ready for a serious relationship, but her upcoming very busy schedule, my worry that it won't be worth it if it is destined to end anyway,  and my lack of experience with being in an actual relationship with someone is holding me back from commiting. Not sure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_3ikf8u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (30/m) ex (25/f) got fired from her job yesterday and I feel I am to blame.", "post": "Little background she and I were together for about 4 years and have a son who is now 2. Breakup was really hard on me. In fact to this day I am trying to get her back. As part of that I helped her her a job where I work. It is a sales job and it is stressful. \n\nShe always has pain issues and because of that after the break I become the primary care giver of our son. \n\nBecause of the pain issues she missed a lot of work. Stress makes it worse. In the last few months she had been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Add to that her mother's health not doing good and her feeling the need to take care of her mother. \n\nWell yesterday she was fired from the job, I'm upset with my work place because although she did miss time she wasn't bad at the job and she was making strides to deal with her health and missing less work. \n\nIn the end though I felt the job was killing her and now that she had been fired she is depressed and feeling like she can't work, I thought she would be able to handle the job and stress but feel I just caused her pain and now heart ache. \n\nI am being torn apart with guilt and having a hard time being strong ACD supportive of her right now. I don't know what to do. Is it my fault?", "summary": "got my ex a high stress sales job caused issues with her health and she got fired. I blame myself."}
{"id": "t3_48l4ek", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my coworker [25F] duration 8 months how do I tell her I won't switch hours with her forever?", "post": "Short backstory, I left my last job for this newer one due to a shorter commute and better shift (off in the afternoon vs evening).  I agreed to switch with a coworker so she could go to school, but never agreed to switch forever.\n\nBasically, working late is not something I signed up for or want to do. I'm already quite sick of it after about a month, and it generally does not work for my sanity. I assumed that when she was not in school, I would have my hours back, but she's already talking about switching it up for good or \"switching a day\" with me while she's on break from school. I know she may want these hours permanently, but I got hired with the agreement that the early shift was mine.  I've tried communicating with her and trying to be clear, however she has been guilting me about it. I'm pretty soft spoken and try to avoid any sort of drama, so it's been hard to really stick up for myself. I fear that if I am making a big deal about it that I'll be seen as a troublemaker and inflexible. \n\nI do want to talk to my boss about it to set things straight about what I need my schedule to be when she's not in school (i.e., spring break, summer) but don't really know how to bring it up without sounding needy or petty. I also know it's going to piss off my coworker to talk to my boss, and with my social anxiety I don't even know how to handle the backlash. :(", "summary": "I was nice and let a coworker open on days she has school, am becoming a doormat and want to not be a doormat anymore. Social anxiety is making me a scaredy cat. Need advice on how to deal with it without making everything an awkward mess."}
{"id": "t3_313xmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 4 months, she likes another guy that she used to date.", "post": "My GF used to date this guy in junior year of high school (we'll call him John), and I found out she went on a few dates last summer (she's a 3rd year college student). We started dating around January of this year. I would often see snapchats from John on her phone while we were hanging out, which made me feel uneasy since I know their history.\n\nWhen I asked about the content of the messages she'll say it's \"95% meaningless stuff\". I've also asked her what she thinks about him and she'll say that they're still friends.\n\nJohn is also good friends with her brother and presumably her whole family, so he seems like he is somewhat involved in her life. \n\nLast night I woke up early on accident and looked at her phone. I snooped, which I know is wrong and never is a good idea, but I couldn't help myself. On the app YikYak (anonymous app lets you share text that others near you can see) I found that she had posted a question along the lines of \"What should I do if I have a boyfriend but like another guy?\". \n\nI don't know what to do. She never sees this guy since he doesn't go to our school, so I know she hasn't cheated, but it still feels pretty shitty. Should I bring any of my concerns up with her? I don't really want to break up with her. I don't know if I'm making a big deal or what, but any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "GF keeps in contact with guy she used to date. She might still like him, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3kaix9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [23 F] give him [27 M] another chance even though he was flakey and indecisive?", "post": "On my phone so there might me formatting issues.\n\n I met an international student about 3 months ago who recently graduated and was in the process of interviewing for jobs. He was pursuing me very strongly in the beginning and showed his interest in me. Then all of the sudden his texts became less frequent and would take days or weeks to respond and would ignore any text confirming any plans we had. I asked him if there's something wrong and why he wasn't talking as much and I didn't get a response, so I assumed he lost interest in me and deleted his number off of the chatting app we used to talk on.\n\nThen about a week ago he contacted me again out of the blue to say he was apologizing for not responding to me with his reasoning being that he was doing a bunch of interviews, and now that he got a job he's asking me for a second chance. Should I give him a second chance or would I be a fool to do that?", "summary": "Guy was pursuing me then he fell of the face of the earth. He recently contacted me asking for a second chance and apologized for ignoring me. Should I give him a second chance or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2gx2wn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: The girl [21 F] I [30 M] am going out with keeps receiving crazy text messages from someone she does not know", "post": "[Original](\n\nWe thank you for all the comments and suggestions. Luckily, a system administrator helps her identify the guy behind all the harassing calls/texts. The guy was actually one of her father's students.\n\nSince she might not be able to change the number in the next few weeks, we would like to know if we should confront him? If so, how? Keep in mind that the guy may not know that she finally traced all the calls and texts back to him.\n\nP/S: We live outside the US and the people here don't give a shit about restraining order or personal record", "summary": "She found the guy behind the calls/texts. Should we confront him and how?"}
{"id": "t3_q4brt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me reddit! Your my only hope!", "post": "okay, I have been dating my 16 year old girlfriend for 11 months and I deeply love and care about her. Thing is that we got in a fight and out of the blue she confesses to smoking cigarettes behind my back. She used to do it since grade seven but she said she quit. But now -he tells me she has been smoking for a very long time ever since behind my back while I thought she quit. I told her that I don't like when she smokes and health risks ect plus my feelings about it. Nothing really seems to work! She has been smoking behind my back but ever since she told me she has had a personality change? Ever since she has been less affectionate, and very moody with it. She said she would cut down too... I told her I respected her and its her choice. Since she told me she now smokes at lunch break, with about 6 of her smoker friends that are just bad news! Today I was outside and she needed to smoke so I stayed with her, and she gets pissed infront of the other smokers and says she dosent want me there with herwhile she smokes. So I sat inside and waited for 8 minutes. Then she says she needs space which is complete bs. She walks off with all the smoker friends instead of the usual hangout with me. I think this is the effect of the nicotine on her brain... Her addiction controlling her many? What should I do? I love and care about her and this is not her true side!", "summary": "girlfriend started smoking, I express feelings on it, her personality changes... What do I do? I need advice"}
{"id": "t3_1bxuce", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Imagine there's a person at work that reports directly to your spouse and is basically throwing themselves at them each and every day they go to work. What do you do?", "post": "My husband is 42 and I'm 34 and we've been married for 6 years.  I trust my husband.  He's not leading this woman on.  But I don't know how the most secure person in the world wouldn't be distracted by the fact that this woman is coming on to him day after day. \n\nHe says it's just her personality but it's so blatant.  Everything is an inuendo (\"Oh, I'll pass you those post-its alright\" wink,wink). He only hired her about a month ago but it's pretty constant and aimed solely at him.  He works in IT where the woman are few and far between but when he told me about interviewing her I asked if she was older and he said no, she was about my age (34) and when I asked what she looked like he said \"She's not ugly at all!\"  Nice.  \n\nWe have a 'policy', if you will, where we let the other know when things like this come up so it's not heard on the flip-side and interpreted that one was trying to hide it.  He's not coming home 'bragging' about the behavior but he knows that one of his other co-workers could easily say something to me about it jokingly (as we are all friends as well) and it could come across as him hiding it so he lets me know up front about her advances.\n\nSo there you go. I'm not an insecure person and I don't think anything will happen but if you knew you were sending your spouse off to be hit on day after day....what would your reaction be?  How long could you say \"Ah, he's faithful to me, let her bring her best\" until it gets under your skin?", "summary": "Secure relationship but husband being hit on constantly by a lady that reports to him."}
{"id": "t3_2gb86z", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Feeling of suffocation when I see my girlfriend.", "post": "Hello dear Docs of reddit!\n\nEvery time I see my girlfriend I instantly get lightheadedness and shortness of breath (feels like I'm suffocating). It has been going on for 2 years now. Please help me. Any help will be rewarded!\n\nI'm an athletic male, 27 Years old of age and 6.72 feet tall and 154 pounds in weight. The only medical conditions I have is constant back pain due to my height and a job as software developer.\n\nWe've been together for 3 years. After a year I started noticing that after I slept at her house I would feel Lightheadedness and shortness of breath for the whole day and also anxiety feelings. After a year of trying to find out what causes this I gave up and stopped sleeping at her house.  I can rule out sexual intercourse and/or alcohol for being the reason for these symptoms.\n\nAs I no longer sleep at her place, every time we see each other, she sleeps at my place. The symptoms (Lightheadedness and Shortness of breath) I get are the same, but not as strong as when I sleep over at her place. \n\nWe've been on a vacation 2 times. We visited her Family in in some village in Poland. Strangely enough, I did not have the Lightheadedness and Shortness of breath. I think this has something to do with the completely fresh air over there.\n\nI've never experienced such suffocation sensation in my whole life as I am very athletic.\n\nTo sum everything up (", "summary": "):"}
{"id": "t3_2p5qty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Abusive mother [ 48 F] refuses to stop being nude when I come home to visit my father despite years of protest. I'm 22F.", "post": "My mother is a Narcissist and abused my sister and I for many years.  She started walking around the house naked when i was very young (this is normal and fine) however she never stopped. At the age of 16 I asked her to stop. She never did she would \"forget\" every day. I would ask her not to every day until I moved out for college at the age of 18 and never returned. When I visit home for the holidays I beg her not to. She always does it anyway.\n\nI don't want to see her or associate with her but I come home to see my father who I love very much. My father refuses to divorce this garbage... so there is no escaping her. How do I get her to stop? I told her that I will press charges if I see her nude but I figure she will probably \"forget\" as Narcs often do. The solution seems to be light every piece of skin that I can see but don't want to see on fire, because thats how it feels on my end. \n\nI'm tired of the 'it's just nudity its no big deal' excuse. I'm a fucking adult I pay my own bills I have my own apartment and I wouldn't tolerate this bullshit from anyone else. I shouldn't have to tolerate it from my abuser that I'm forced to see for two weeks every year. I'm dreading this moment. I'm only up because I had a nightmare about her that made me dry-heave myself awake. I just want her gone from my life. I don't even know why I'm posting this you people can't help me. I'll just lie awake for a few hours.", "summary": "How do I control my abusive mother while I'm home for these \"sainted\" holidays? I don't want to see her naked anymore. I'm an adult; this is ridiculous."}
{"id": "t3_4fb8ld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my ex [26 M]. Had been together five years but he cheated, I still can't help but feel a lot of guilt over the break-up", "post": "I've posted before about what was going on at the end of my previous relationship, and how I ended it because he'd cheated on me in the past, had been acting extremely suspiciously and then when we broke up and I was still in the house, slept with someone in our bed, which I overheard.\n\nI can't help but feel extremely guilty, despite the fact he's done all that to me. He's contacted me a bit since I left, saying he's ruined his life, he can't believe what he did and would take it all back if he could. What made me particularly sad was when he said he'd imagined us growing old together. It's really sad to think that that could have happened but because of some mistakes he made, which I just couldn't deal with, that will never happen. There was a lot of other stuff he did, like making me feel really bad about myself (making fun of my appearance, things like that). He was also violent a couple of times.\n\nSo yeah, I know it sounds really stupid that I'd feel any guilt after all that, but I do feel really sad for him. He's not had an easy life and is dealing with some health stuff which is quite difficult (I think he has some mental health issues which weren't being addressed, too). I sometimes have thoughts that I didn't give it enough of a chance, but I did take him back after the initial cheating and nothing really changed, plus I could have been in actual danger had I stayed.\n\nSo yeah, no question here really but I could just do with a bit of reassurance/people chipping in on their own thoughts and experiences right now. Thanks!", "summary": "BF cheated, treated me very badly. He has some issues he needs to deal with and I still can't help feeling guilty for having left him."}
{"id": "t3_3zeya8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] want to do more things with my girlfriend [24f]", "post": "My girlfriend (of a few months) wants to do more activities with me, but I'm kind of at a loss at what to do. I'm okay with staying at home most days, but that's tiring to her (and I like trying out new things anyway).\n\nWe are both very busy in our lives (time-consuming college courses eating much of our time) and we don't have much money, and that seems to be the main issue.\n\nCurrently, outside of one-offs, what we're mostly doing is cooking advanced food together, going to new restaurants and visit theatres once every month or so.\n\nWe live in a first-world city of 1.5 million people, so most things are available at least in some form.", "summary": "24m/24f needs something to do together that isn't overly expensive or time consuming."}
{"id": "t3_4668az", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "27 f questioning my relationship w my 45 m", "post": "After 8 years of marriage, a child, almost 3 year separation with several girlfriends one that is significantly older  and last close to a year of the separation. My husband and I got back together for a week span last year I couldn't let go of the \"what ifs \" so I ended it again. Now a year later he has gotten in contact again and wants his family back.. I will always love him.. And refuses to divorce ms even throughout the 3 year separation! Do I try to make my family work or do I save for a divorce? Currently he is living w the girlfriend because his home burnt and financially he has lost everything, literally and figuratively.", "summary": "my heart and head are St two different points! Help!"}
{"id": "t3_ug0f7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "19 years old. 260 pounds.", "post": "Im 6'3\", and roughly 260 pounds.\npic-\n\nLet me be honest here, I dont eat well at all, im a busy guy, ill order out daily, and get little to no exercise.  My weight has been floating around the 260 mark for about a year now, even with my terrible diet.\n\nSomething else to note, ive been fairly busy the last 2 days, eating maybe 1 - 2 meals each day. And ive dropped to 248 pounds, from 262. IN 2 DAYS!\n\nThis cant be normal, and it honestly has me worried.\n\nDoes it mean I have a fast metabolism? Was it water weight?\n\nI also want to start working to shed the extra pounds, heres a current picture. \n\nWhat should my target weight be? This is my at 260, looking like garbage.", "summary": "eat like shit, dont work out, dont gain weight, lose 14 pounds in 2 days without trying. Wanna do this the right way."}
{"id": "t3_3oeyqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Unsure if my [48M] wife [40F] of three years actually wants me to join her in another city", "post": "Sometimes the pieces to a pattern emerge, and they seem ominous...\n\nIn 2013 my wife and I were living apart as she dealt with a death in the family back in Michigan. An opportunity to live in her former home of Seattle emerged, and we converged our careers there. A year into our living together, she was unhappy with her job and started traveling for work as a consultant 4x a week. I basically see her on weekends.\n\nSix months ago she was obsessed with a big, beautiful new house in San Antonio and seemed convinced that would be where we'll start a new chapter in our life. So we bought the house (we both contributed equally) and I convinced my employer to let me move my job down there. So far so good. One month before we're ready to move she gets misgivings about Texas, saying she didn't like the culture.\n\nNow my wife has accepted a new job in San Diego. So I'm making elaborate plans -- for the second time this year -- to transfer my career to a new location. It's not easy.\n\nTonight she said that if I don't like living there (who wouldn't like San Diego?) or if it's too much hassle for me to move my job that she's \"done\" adjusting her life to make me happy. She says I was bitter and difficult about adjusting to Seattle, and I 'ruined' the experience of living there by not agreeing to buy a house right away.\n\nThis floors me... as it seems I am the one doing all the adjusting to her changing demands. She says if she changes her mind about San Diego after a year or two, she's moving back to Seattle. \n\nFor the last two years she's also discussed getting a divorce for financial reasons (we get hit pretty hard with taxes, but the suggestion hurts..)", "summary": "My wife keeps changing her mind about where to live, to the point I am unsure if she actually wants to live with me anymore and I should just man up and ask her if she wants a divorce. Am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_y87pf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit: Any way to find an old craigslist apartment listing? Landlord is fucking us hard.", "post": "The original craigslist post was here but is now expired: \n\nLandlord's rental agency advertised the unit with a private entrance and hallway and told us we could use it for bike storage, boxes, etc.  We've lived here for 3+ months and nobody has ever used this private entrance or accessed the hallway which is full of our belongings.  \n\nNow that we are complaining about repair requests which they've ignored for the last three months (like fixing the fan in our windowless bathroom or fixing the lock on the \"private\" exterior door which keeps getting jammed and locking us out), they're claiming the private entrance and hallway are actually common space. This area which they've forced us to clear out represents a good 20% of our already tight living space, so this is a big deal for us. Their actions are clearly a retaliatory attempt to fuck with us and serve as a foundation for eviction, which they've already threatened despite our clearing out the area.  \n\nFor what it's worth, the property was also advertised on the agency's website at metrorealtycorp.com but searching for the address turns up nothing. The listing is probably only saved in the agent's craigslist account \"prior posts\" area.", "summary": "Need help finding craigslist post which advertised \"private entrance\" that landlord now claims is \"common area.\" Link to expired post:"}
{"id": "t3_4ae7xb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [18 M] need a relationship?", "post": "I'm going to go ahead and assume that everyone who's been through their first year of college/university has been through such problems or may think of this as being super obvious, but I just want to get some general opinions on a very general question.\n\nI've just come out of a somewhat casual relationship around two weeks ago, which included a lot of dates and physical activity, but has, somewhat confusingly ended with being told that I am just liked as a friend (which I am completely fine with). So that's a bit of a small hole in life at the moment. \n\nAt the same time, my architecture education is absolutely killing me, destroying my personal time and stressing me so much. I've had to reduce contact with friends and have chosen to focus more on work. But in the time that I spent with this other person for the last several months, I realize now that I've distanced myself from my friends even more than I wanted to. They're all still very close but they simply expect me to be busy with other things. \n\nI now have an overwhelming sense of loneliness and (hopefully momentary) loss of direction as my education is confusing me so much. I am usually really good alone, but when nothing in life really seems to be going the way I want it to, do I need to find someone new? I spend all day at my studio and have little time to meet people outside my course. I've set my two closest friends up with each other, so now I'm sort of outside the circle. Do I miss attention or do I need something to impose my attention onto?\n\nNot really looking for the most serious or specific of advice, just maybe a little discussion.", "summary": "Focusing on my education has distanced me from most friends, and as I'm hitting a bit of a block in my work, I'm getting very lonely. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2tpr0n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] SO [20M] of six months today lied to me?", "post": "Hi, this is my first post ever so forgive me if its not the best... Little bit of background for me, just basic stuff, I have depression, anxiety, I've had horrible manipulative relationships, the last relationship I was in, I swore I wasn't going to put up with another lying, horrible ass as a partner. \nLast night I figured out that my SO of six months has been lying to me for at least three months, about the most petty thing... I was just on his laptop trying to figure out how to get the server working so I could watch a movie in the bedroom, and, surprise... Porn has been all his recent files. I confronted him about it (when I found this out I was so anxious, I'm not sure why because I've told him many times before that I don't care whether he masturbates or not) by texting him because he was in another room and after that he stormed in to the room 'expecting' an argument based on his previous girlfriend experience and that just made me feel like utter shit. I was basically just sitting there trying to make sense of why he had even felt the need to lie about it and all he could manage was because of his previous experience with his ex girlfriend, who I am nothing like. I just feel hurt that he was lying to me for such a long time and I didn't even know... It just makes me want to go somewhere and die. I would just like some sort of feedback for this situation... Was it okay for him to lie to me? Even though it wasn't something big at all.\nWe have sex everyday, so nothing there is lacking, also said he does it when he knows he won't see me in the next hour?", "summary": "SO lied to me about watching porn, makes me feel horrible."}
{"id": "t3_2khicz", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2khh5m/fucked_up_by_jumping_the_gun_on_getting_a_pup/", "post": "A few details.\nBeen wanting a pup for ages. Knew that my living arrangements were coming to an end and I was going to go camping for a while. I had checked out a puppy I wanted but they were still gonna be too young before I had to move on. I organised a puppy through an online site. The family were really nice, farmers. I didn't get a chance to see the dog in action and I'd picked him from photos.\n\nI guess what I can say is I just haven't bonded with him how is hoped. He's very timid, and I don't think his kind of trust issues are the ones that die as he's slept comfortably and deeply on my lap but still acts apprehensive of me and whale eyes at me.\nOn the way here he threw up twice (was told he was ill from the trip) and since being here he has barely eaten or had drink, just not interested. He hasn't been playful at all, just scared. When I've tried to walk him he's cowered behind me and it feels like I'm on my own anyway.\n\nI don't feel like me and him are that compatible. I need something with more instinct and I don't know enough about dogs to be dealing with what appears a reasonable sickness straight away. He's around 3 months old and I don't see his nature changing.", "summary": "bought a dog too quickly due to a deadline, now dealing with the fact I'm not excited about or enjoying having this dog. I wanted a mate. Suddenly my living arrangements pressures have subsided and I'm left with this pup when I could've just picked up one of the ones I'd looked at earlier."}
{"id": "t3_2faqy1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (27f) not so sure I'm attracted to my boyfriend (29m) but I don't want to break up either. What do?", "post": "Hi Reddit. Throwaway here. I'm sorry if this is all jumbled so please bear with me.\n\nLet me preface this by saying that my boyfriend is literally *the man.* He is kind, hilarious, handsome (his face is gorgeous), and intelligent. We met online and chatted for close to a year before meeting and I can say I was 100% sure of how I felt.\n\nBut ever since then, over the past 10 months or so, I feel my physical attraction to him is waning and I feel so horrible over it. He is 6'8\" tall (I'm not kidding) and weighs around 150-160 pounds. I can almost put my hands around his waist. He has bones sticking out and honestly, sometimes when we have sex I think about other things which is NOT NORMAL for me because I love sex. I feel like I should be lucky I have him but I don't know if I can keep reminding myself of how much I love him every time I see his body just so I can be attracted to him. I even force myself to look at pictures of underweight men online to try and \"train\" myself to be attracted to that look.\n\nWhat can I do? Do I suck it up? Do I tell him I want him to gain weight (that's so awful)? Do I leave him and hope he'll find a girl who likes tall and thin? Do I suggest we both go to the gym together? He's the best man I've ever known and I feel like such a shitbag for this.", "summary": "Love my boyfriend, but he's very thin and it's not my aesthetic."}
{"id": "t3_g20i0", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Incontinence after Spaying?", "post": "Hi, first time creating an account, long time lurker. \n\nMy 6.5 month puppy was spayed two weeks ago and ever since she has randomly urinated in her crate over night. Before the surgery, she had never urinated in her crate at night. Every night I take her out of her crate around 10-10:30 to go to the bathroom, and then she gets up around 6 am. This schedule had worked perfectly since she was about 5 months. Also, I cut off water at least 30 minutes before bedtime. \n\nI took her to the vet a few days after the surgery and he gave her antibiotics because he thought it may be a UTI. She has finished all of them and still the problem persists.", "summary": "Puppy was spayed two weeks ago. Randomly urinates in crate at night (not every night). Finished meds for UTI and never used to do this. What should I do (besides going back to the vet, which I'm doing later)?"}
{"id": "t3_koe44", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm building a website that connects you with stuff you actually care about online, without having to search for shit. Does this make sense to anyone?", "post": "I've been working hard at building this site with a small team. We've raised a bunch of money and we're getting ready to launch in November. It's called Punchcast.\n\nI've always thought it would be a site that Redditors would love. Whenever I'm at the meetups and bring it up, people seem interested, but whenever I talk about it on Reddit I get shit on. Maybe everyone's just trolling me at the meetups. Maybe I'm being paranoid, but maybe I'm also kinda high when I'm at the meetups. These are all maybes.\n\nAnyway, what do you guys think for realz? \n\n[", "summary": "I'm launching a website, here's the explainer video: [ you liiiiike?"}
{"id": "t3_22e76i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [17/m] am cutting out an ex [18/f] and need to know I'm doing the right thing", "post": "So we broke up 3 months ago, feels like forever ago and it's been really weird honestly. We broke up due to her seeing me as more of a friend, and so due to that she has always been pretty set on us being friends. I took some time for me (although probably not enough) and eased back into talking to her, and now its built back up to the point where she is my best friend again. Problem is I don't think I can ever see her as only a friend, and it's been kinda painful for me to basically have the same relationship without the actual intimacy, it just feels like somethings always missing.\n\nAbout a week ago I started to taper down the amount I talk to her. Usually I have to see her everyday but for the next month or so I won't so I figured its a good time to start. I'm starting it out with a break from the friendship and then seeing where things go from there. I feel like she's probably started to pick up that I'm purposefully talking to her less, and if she ever asks why I plan to tell her the truth and that will be that. I don't expect anything out of it, just a conclusion.\n\nSo my problem is the nagging feeling I'm doing the wrong thing, being selfish, immature, etc. It's painful to keep the friendship going, and I've accepted I'll be giving up one of my closest friends, but the tradeoff here seems pretty big. I just don't know if this is what's going to make me happy or I need to find some other way. What do all of you think? Is this the right way to do things for my happiness or is there another way?", "summary": "Cutting an ex out of my life due to personal emotional pain, need assurance/advice"}
{"id": "t3_4p17a2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my cousin [22M] is throwing temper tantrum over taking my best friend [22F] on a trip for two and not him", "post": "Before i got into the full details for this post, i'm going to get into some back story. Cousin,  Charlie introduced me to my current best friend, Lesley. We hit it off immediately and developed a really strong relationship. while our friendship blossomed Charlie and Lesley had a falling out. To make it short Lesley didn't want a romantic relationship with Charlie so he cut her off as a friend, a decision that i still think was petty and immature. Lesley moved on but Charlie still holds negative feelings about it. \n\nFast forward to today, I've won a trip for two, air fare and hotel included. I immediately decided to take my best friend Lesley. I told Charlie since I was genuinely excited only for him to lose it. he tells me that we're no longer friends and he can't believe why I wouldn't consider him. i told him simply he doesn't have the funds to sight see and really enjoy himself in another country. I would most likely be footing the bill. And most importantly I don't want to go on a trip for two with another man that i'm not dating, that's just awkward.  We're probably going to share rooms and I don't want to be kicked out of my room so he can sleep with strangers. Now he's giving me the cold shoulder. I'm not changing my mind about the trip, I'm still no taking him. But how do I get him to understand my point of view.", "summary": "won a trip, decided to take my best friend and not my cousin. now he doesn't want anything to do with me. what can i say to make him understand why taking him would be a bad idea?"}
{"id": "t3_pinjb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am trying to get a date this valintines but don't want to mess things up with a girl who could be girlfriend material. Please help!", "post": "There is a girl i have been persueing subtly since december. She is not insanley out of my leauge and i like her alot, she was showing definate intrest in me a while back but it seems to have slowed down. I was working out before and stopped and that may have something to do with it. Two weeks ago i broke my leg in a skiing accedent and i don't want her to say yes just to not hurt the feelings of the kid with the broken leg however i figure some sympaty can't hurt. She has also been making alot of posts recently on her tumblr about being lonely and i think between that and valintines coming up she might say yes! I have asked out girls in the past without talking to them and laying a groundwork first and they all turned me down. What should i do?", "summary": "i like a girl and i don't want to skrew things up by asking her out to soon we talked once on facebook and sometimes talk in class and i don't want her to go out with me because she feels bad for me with a broken leg. Any help or ideas would be much appreciated. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_1lth89", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing the toilet", "post": "I had been hanging out with a friend of mine Friday night, and ended up driving his sister and cousin into the valley (clubbing suburb) so I didn't get home until about 1030 and I had work the next morning. I was just about to go to bed when another friend called and asked if I wanted to join them at the local pub for last drinks.\n\nStupidly I accepted. I walked to the pub, had a drink and a few smokes then went back to his place for some more drinks. I got very drunk there in a short period of time, then he brought out the bottle of tequila and poured everybody shots. Being the idiot I am, I said \"I'll have the bottle!\" and polished off the three or four shots that were left in it.\n\nI took my leave and walked home (it was about 130 now), felt a bit funny but I didn't think I'd had too much. Got home, showered and lay down in bed. About ten seconds later it hit me, I leapt out of bed, sprinted into the bathroom, grabbed the toilet seat...\n\nAnd threw up all over it. The toilet was covered and it was all over the walls. Luckily I barely got any on myself, so I cleaned up and went to bed.\n\nCalled in sick the next day, then went back to sleep. Mum came in about ten and woke me up, saying she thought I had work this morning. I told her I had called in sick, and that I had to go clean my toilet.\n\n\"Oh it's ok, I already cleaned it\"\n\nI felt so bad for her :(", "summary": "Drank too much, powerchugged all over my toilet, mum cleaned it up"}
{"id": "t3_4qy390", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my good friend [18 F] of 4 years, share separate views about marijuana and she's turning all my friends against me.", "post": "My friend and I have been close for quite a while and she's always been abundantly clear about her opinion against marijuana.  \nWhile in college two years ago, I tried pot, wasn't really a fan but I didn't mind it; I told my friend about it and she was fuming, didn't talk to me for a week. It was very unpleasant.  \nShe did the only other two times I had tried it since then, she absolutely lost it.  \nLast night I found out that she had tried it and refuses to accept that she was unpleasant about it in the past or acknowledge that she was being hypocritical.  \nAfter telling my friends about it, they all sided with her, making me out to be the bad guy, I had a huge melt down and now they all resent me. What the fuck do I do?", "summary": "Friend loses it over me trying Marijuana, does it herself, confronted her about it with my friends, they all sided with her and refuse to admit she's being unpleasant."}
{"id": "t3_3jsa65", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sexually propositioning my cat.", "post": "My girlfriend's cat (now really ours because we live together) is a very needy and affectionate kitty. She is usually all over us at any given time, especially me for some reason. Whenever I do let her up on my lap, she usually curls up on my crotch area in a tight ball and falls asleep.\n\nSo, earlier today, I was sitting on the couch with my girlfriend watching TV. She tried to get our kitty to sit on her lap, but kitty did not seem interested in that. So, I patted my lap, and without thinking, blurted out, \"Do you want to sit on Daddy's dick?\"\n\nI looked over as my girlfriend stared in shock over what I'd just said. Luckily, she found it incredibly amusing and asked why I didn't ask her that instead. \n\nI make it a point now to not make sexual advances towards my pets.", "summary": "Accidentally asked my cat to sit on my cock. Girlfriend got jealous."}
{"id": "t3_4igcs0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] dated a girl (22F] is she avoiding hurting my feelings?", "post": "Alright. We went on 2 dates. Before that, we had spoken at least five hours a day on the phone for about 2-3 weeks. The second date lasted over 24 hours (I slept on her sofa, this was planned in advance)\n\nI think we had fun on the second date. She said she wanted to kiss me, but she also wished to take the relationship slow as she liked me and didn't just want to 'hop into bed' like other guys she has been with.\n\nWe cuddled on the sofa. Held hands. Got to 3am when I finally kissed her.\n\nThe next day, I had confidence issues. It was weird to me that a girl liked me (she is amazing), so I had to be sure and asked. Didn't really help that she was hungover.\n\n3 weeks since that date. We have Skyped twice (about 7 hours total), but there have also been long periods of silence from her. She has a new job, she also wants to see how positive I am now (if my self-confidence issues have improved) by texting her.\n\nA couple of days ago, she broke away from hanging out with her friends to call me just to speak for a few minutes. A couple of days ago, we Skyped. She says I haven't ruined my chance with her, and it is a 'maybe' if we can have a third date, but she certainly wants to meet again.\n\nIn my mind, if she didn't like me, she wouldn't talk. However, she says she likes talking to me and missed it. I am really confused.\n\nIs this girl just trying to avoid hurting my feelings?\n\nI will be more than happy to answer any questions because I, most likely, have missed important information.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_3g9aa6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pooping in the handicapped stall.", "post": "So this happened today around lunch time. I typically take my shits around my first break and end of lunch. Anywaysss, irrelevant but enlightening at least. SO! I go to take my lunch time shit and race to the handicapped stall to have a little more breathing room. I have a marvelous, wonderful, Mono Lisa-esque shit. As I come out of the stall some douchebag is like \"Hey bro, are you handicapped? What gives you the right? What if a real handicapped person came in and needed to use the stall?!?!\" And this is where the fuck up begins. Me being a sarcastic, snarky fuck I said to him, \"If and when that ever happens I will get up, WITHOUT WIPING, shake the mans hand, thank him for his service and move to the next stall over!\" Welllll turns out that the guy I yelled this to is my supervisors boss. He told me to clock out for the day and said they will be reviewing my employment and will be calling me to let me know when I would be allowed to come back. So I probably just lost my job. All for pooping in the handicapped stall.", "summary": "responded sarcastically to my supervisor's boss. Probably got fired for it."}
{"id": "t3_4e0doe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[personal issues] [relationships] How can I (M20) find peace with my gf(18f) occasionally having a drink", "post": "Before somebody jumps to conclusions, my gf is by no means an alchoholic. Once a month she goes out with a few friends and drinks 2-3 glasses of wine. My problem is, however, that I absoutely hate and despise alchohol. She knows I dislike it, but doesn't know to which extent.  \n\nMy questions is, how can I find peace with this? I know it's completely normal and almost everyone does it, but every time it happens I'm irrationaly upset and I don't even whether I should tell her about it or find a way to be okay with it. Does anyone have any advice.\n\nI also apologize if this is the wrong subreddit. If that's the case, please point me in the right direction! Thank you", "summary": "Gf drinks a few glasses of wine once a month, makes me irrationaly upset. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_29ebti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18] male and my girlfriend [17] female have been told by her case worker that there is to be no contact till further notice.", "post": "So let me lay the background of us both real quick. She's in foster care, I live with my parents, I met her in August last year and we started dating in January we've been dating for 6 months. We met at church. (I'm not much religious and neither is she but we go cause our parents and in her case her foster parents) \n\nLast Wednesday she walked into church and sat down behind me, I asked her what was wrong she always sits with me. She told me that her foster parents had been verbally abuser her again and they got into and argument and as for punishment they told her she wasn't aloud to sit with me. So that was really strange, I could tell she was extremely upset so I asked her if she wanted to leave and get some fresh air, after thinking about it she said yes let's go. So we got in my truck and left. We drove around for an hour then saw my mother following us so we stopped. Her foster parents had called the police and said I kidnapped her. So the police arrived got the full story and didn't charge me with anything. Her foster parents came and picked her up. So later I found out her case workers have said that I am to have no contact with her till otherwise stated. Now they're talking about taking her out of the home and moving her but still I don't know if she will be able to be with me.", "summary": "her case workers have told us we can't be together anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2ubz54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my crush (25m, we started talking in tinder. He liked me back, we have talked for a few days. i messaged him last night and he hasn't responded.", "post": "I saw this guy at the place we work (12000 employees, well i saw him on tinder and liked his photo. I messaged him and we talled and i gave him my number. Came home from work the next day and no text so i messaged him again and asked how work went. He texted me instead of replying in a message on tinder. We talked for a little while and ended on a good note. I said, goodnight and he said goodnight and i'll talk to you later. Messaged him at the end of the next day because he didnt text me first and i really wanted to talk to him. Well he still hasnt responded and that was last night. Am i paranoid? Did i do something wrong? He has logged onto tinder since then... he was mever overly flirty with me and he genuinly seemed to like talking to me. (Sent me photos of the houses he is working on). What do i do?", "summary": "guy didnt respond even though he seemed to genuinly like talking to me..."}
{"id": "t3_100qqv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22m] fell in love with [20f]...is our relationship unhealthy?", "post": "In the beginning of the summer, I was very bored. I just graduated from college, and I had to relocate to a new area for my job. I was in a social slump, so I turned to Omegle. It turns out Omegle works very well sometimes and I quickly became friends with a girl I met there. It was awesome because we had so much in common.\n\nWell 4 months have gone by and we're still talking. Our conversations have obviously gotten a bit more intimate and we're everything but a couple. Here's the difficult part- She's from Chicago and I am from Virginia. We talk all the time now, but when we get on with our regular lives (dating, partying, etc.) it's becoming very hard to not get jealous of other people hanging out with us. I've gotten to where I can't sleep sometimes thinking about what she may be doing and envying anyone who is with her. She's the same way. This is so unhealthy, but at the same time, I never want to lose contact with her.\n\nWe both know that the chance of being together someday is near impossible considering our future plans, but neither of us is willing to end what we have. A couple weeks ago, we tried to stop contacting each other just to see how it went, and I could not stop thinking about her the entire week. I eventually caved and texted her, and apparently she had been struggling all week as well. We are back to normal now.\n\nIs continuing this relationship and ignoring our doubts unhealthy? My feelings are growing deeper for her every single day, and I fear that we are only prolonging the inevitable.", "summary": "I'm in love with a girl who I can't be with- do I enjoy our time while it lasts or cut it short to prevent any further damage/attachment?"}
{"id": "t3_3j1s76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18m] have a huge crush on a girl [17f] who'd rather be friends.... What do I do!?", "post": "Long story short-ish:\n\nI worked with this girl over the summer, and we were pretty good friends. About last week, I message her. She says she misses me. Like, a lot. Then I find out we have a mutual attraction, as in we want to date.\n\nThe next day, we plan to hang out at my place, and she says its ok for me to kiss her. We watch a movie and hang out, and then I take her home. Later I ask why I couldn't kiss her, and she says she'd rather be friends.\n\nWhat should I do? I mean, I'm ok with the friendzone, but I'm really in love with her... (note: I'm a freshman in college, she's a senior in HS. She also lives in one town part of the year, and another town a half hour away for the other part)", "summary": "I'm in love with this girl I know, and we have a strong mutual attraction. After a somewhat date, she wants to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_40pugf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get revenge on my sister :(", "post": "So about 2 days ago I posted a TIFU where when I was asleep and my sister and her friends put me in a skirt and did my nails. So after reading the possible revenge pranks I could do on her, yesterday, I decided I would put a combination of nair (hair removal) and glitter in her Shampoo and Conditioner and just nair in her liquid soap. I also decided to put blue hair dye on her eyebrows to match the color of my nails. So after I carried out my master plan to get revenge on my sister (which i thought went very smoothly) My sister woke up with eyebrows that are a rather humiliating shade of blue. However, the Liquid soap prank backfired because she noticed specks of glitter near the bottles and she slyly  switched my bottle of liquid soap with hers (exact same brand) and I am currently hairless from the eyebrows down :( and to top that off last night (I really need to stop sleeping so deeply) she put heels on me and for some reason has a pair of heels that have locks on them...and I cant remove them (i literally showered with heels on and almost fell twice). I really wish i had burned those heels like some of you guys told me to do.", "summary": "Tried to prank my sister 1 prank was successful and 1 prank backfired"}
{"id": "t3_3himp6", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Being harassed by a girl I met on the internet and made some really stupid choices with. Help me please!!!", "post": "Last week I made some really poor life choices. I am a 20 year old male and I met a girl on OkCupid. Her age was 18 on the app but when we talked she said that she was really 17. We talked for a bit and sexted (no pictures whatsoever, only dirty talk). I am an incredibly lonely guy so she somehow convinced me to take a greyhound bus into another state and sneak into her house while her parents were asleep. We were NOT going to do anything sexual, just hanging out cuddling and kissing, stuff like that. I have never been in a relationship and I didn't even want to do that but I decided to do it against my gut feeling. So I ended up going and sneaking in and after about 2 minutes in her house we were immediately caught, I apologized, then I left the house and cut off contact with this girl. It turns out that she is 16, which is still within the legal age range.\n\nToday I got a series of terrifying messages on Skype from this girl. She said that the entire time she had planned on \"taking my virginity then cutting me open with a knife and making me love her or else she would kill me.\" Then apparently she overdosed because of me and said that her parents and counselors were telling her to file a report against me for all of this because her father is a lawyer. I am still receiving many threatening skype messages threatening both me and my brother who drove me home that night. \n\nI am terrified right now, she is saying that she's going to go into her office(she works with her father at his office) and is going to file a report against me tomorrow for breaking and entering, sexting with a minor, and causing emotional distress to a minor. Please reddit, help me out, I'm terrified right now and feel like I'm going to have a heart attack.\n\nI have all of the text and skype conversations with her saved but I'm about to pass out. I can't breathe and my arms are going numb. Please help me.  I'm in Pittsburgh and the events happened in West Virginia", "summary": "Made poor decisions, snuck into an underage girl's house, she's threatening me with legal action now if I don't decide to love her. I'm terrified and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3m9rgz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22F] don't think I can handle my bfs parents anymore.", "post": "I am so worn down from the constant belittling and rudeness and disrespect from his parents. I can't deal with it anymore. I want to be with him more than anything in the world but his family makes it impossible! \n\nThey can't admit when they're wrong. They make him and I rush out of my family functions to get to his. They dismiss everything I say. They don't treat me like the adult that I am. I'm not unpleasant in any way back to them. I don't understand.\n\nI don't know what I can do. They're so irrational I don't feel like I can talk to them about it. I'm having such a hard time coping with all of this. I don't know what to do. Please help. I'm lost. I don't want to lose him. He's my whole world.", "summary": "bfs parents are tearing us apart. I don't know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_1np806", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with acquaintances[M/F] , Having trouble having conversations beyond small talk", "post": "I can start small talk with people just fine, but my problem is what to say when you kind of know each other for awhile? This is where I get awkward with conversations and I can't even think of anything to say. \n\nUsually when I make an acquaintance they start talking to me more, but then they tend to drift away to the point where they will avoid me like we never spoke before. \n\nI am the kind of person who has to have a script memorized otherwise I will get anxiety during a conversation. I never can think of anything to say that is interesting. I know to ask questions about others but during a conversation, I always get nervous and go blank.", "summary": "Can start small talk, but can't go beyond small talk."}
{"id": "t3_1njlcf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [22f] know if my crush [24m] is legitimately busy or just avoiding me?", "post": "Three weeks ago, I had very awkward, drunk, sex with a guy I'm really into. We'd been hanging out for a couple months. He initiated so I felt confident that he didn't feel pressured or like I was being a creep. \n\nSince then I have asked him to hang out twice and on both occasions he had plans. The second time he offered to reschedule for this week so I said \"sure how about wednesday?\" and I haven't heard from him in 2 days. \n\nAfter we had sex, he texted me the next day and we've been keeping in friendly contact. But I still feel like he's avoiding me. If he liked me and wanted to spend time with me, why can't he find a single day in almost a month to hang out with me? I don't want to seem clingy by asking more than twice and pushing the issue. If he wanted to see me, he would, right?\n\nSo where do I go from here? Should I just assume he's not interested? I can take a hint but I would rather he be an adult about it and just say \"hey I don't really wanna see you anymore.\" I'm tired of guessing and I thought I would ask for some advice rather than get upset and text him something I regret.", "summary": "Had sex with a guy and he's avoiding hanging out again. I don't know if he's just legitimately busy or disinterested."}
{"id": "t3_u73aj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "3am here - completely sober btw - had an unoriginal epiphany that's probably nothing new, but whatever...", "post": "I was sitting here settling into a nice five day weekend, reading up on random political hotkeys. I came across a district of ideology in which the old guard has built their platform for denying certain subgroups of the population civil rights - specifically gay rights and the right to marriage and legal union (I'm straight btw) - and I've come to the conclusion that nearly every single time a type of person is denied their rights, or when there is ever an active movement to deny her/his rights, that movement is always, ALWAYS led by people who get offended by the world changing into somehing else. In other words, the only reason there seems to be any discourse in the public sphere about certain people having equal rights or not, is because there are people out there who want the world to stay the same forever - who want to hold on to the impossible concept of unchanging continuity - who want to deny the fact that the world is constantly emergent. A changing world is an uncertain one, where the risk assessment is never really known, and it is this fact which provokes so much anxiety, frustration and aggression in this type ofperson. I guess my point is that those among us who are fighting so hard to deny other people equal rights fight because they are scared of a world that is created anew each and every day. Theyre scared - they're cowards. I'm just rambling.", "summary": "people who want to deny equal rights for everyone are cowards, and should be treated as such."}
{"id": "t3_2o73xm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being 20 minutes early for work.", "post": "I work on the exterior of peoples houses so I go to alot of different job sites all the time.  Was being independently contracted to go to a hard to find one and I agreed to meet the guy at a certain time outside a restaurant to follow him.\n\nI forgot my phone at home.  I start work around 6-ish in the morning and from waking up to leaving my house is probably 10 minutes.  Not rushed but getting the essentials done.  I hate people waiting on me so I make sure to leave plenty early where I should be 15-20 minutes early. Just sit in my truck, smoke, listen to the radio and wait.\n\nWhile I'm driving to the meeting spot my phone got a text.  My girlfriend read it and the meeting place had changed apparently.  She texted back I didn't have my phone and hope I can find him.\n\nWhen he comes around to our original meet up he's all sorts of butt hurt and explains how he's been waiting since 6:00 and now we're behind schedule.\n\nI tell him, \"Only working for you can I be twenty minutes early where I'm supposed to be and turns out I'm 10 minutes late in the wrong spot.\"", "summary": "Boss man's a dousche."}
{"id": "t3_49zs3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(Update) Me [27 F] with my toxic aunt [42 F], trying to cut off contact with her", "post": "Cross post from /r/raisedbynarcissists \n\nOriginal:", "summary": "cut off toxic aunt,  she sends flying monkey uncle at me"}
{"id": "t3_1qwqx8", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Disciplining our kitten", "post": "I have a 7 mos. old kitten who is overall a good cat. My boyfriend and I always joke that he is a good cat except for when he is bad. There are only two things that he regularly does that are bad behaviors: scratching the sofa and drinking from the fish bowl. He knows that he isn't supposed to do either and I know he knows because when he sees he is caught he stops and walks away.\n\nWhen he was younger, we used a squirt gun to try to deter him from such behaviors. It worked at first but he then got used to it and would just accept it. (He is now content joining in baths and showers) Then we tried hissing. I am not sure that really helped much either. My boyfriend now bites his ear for discipline. After each time he misbehaves, we chase him out of the room or area but five minutes later, he is back at the fish bowl. I have started to hiss at him while he is at the fish bowl, pick him up and bring him to his water and when he scratches at the sofa I bring him to his scratch post. Is there more that we can do to teach him to not do these behaviors or are we just going to have to continue to keep a keen eye on him?", "summary": "My kitten doesn't respond to water, hissing, or biting (from us or the dog) as a way of discipline. What else can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_vlx6l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Two years gone in three seconds", "post": "Background: We've been going out for a little longer than two years.  We are both 18 and I'm the guy.  I asked her out on her birthday since we were going to college together but  lived in separate sides of the state.  The first year was pretty magical but I guess it started to deteriorate.  Yes, we fought a lot over stupid things and have broken up a few times but only for a few days.  \n\nI don't have enough money to live on campus during the summers so I don't see her alot during the summer.  I finally book a ticket to see her since I wanted to take her to the Cedar Point because its been her dream since she was little.  A week later she breaks up with me since she's tired of all the fighting.  I finally get it out of her later on that someone kissed her on the lips for three seconds but she didn't pull away.  Obviously its just done right there and here I am ranting against it.  She said she couldn't do it afterwards and was kicked the guys apartment apparently... i don't know the details since I didn't want to ever talk to her again.  She still likes hanging out with him and plans to hang out with him still... I don't get how someone can just throw it all away.\n\nMy question is how can people just throw away 2 years of their life so quickly?  We were always together for each other, even if through the bad times... there were no signs of her ever liking anyone else...\n\nThis is probably poorly written due to the rage burning inside me\n\nHow can I get over this? \nWhat should I do if I ever see her on campus?  \nMy heart hurts so much... Did i react right by breaking all ties with her?", "summary": "she cheated on me because someone kissed her for 3 seconds, didn't pull away.  what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2c7g6r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (29F) quit my job because my coworker/friend (36M) started dating another coworker (23F)? I just can't stand it and it's been 6 months.", "post": "He and I were really close friends for awhile. I became his emotional rock through his divorce. When I finally confessed my feelings, he said he was not attracted to me.\n\nI accepted it, but of course it stung. I didn't want to lose the friendship. Then he started dating a younger coworker, who is of course super attractive and has a great personality (you know, your worst nightmare).\n\nI can't stand it. I usually get over guys, but it's just not happening this time, I dread going there every day . . . Seeing her in his office . . . Them having lunch. My whole stomach just turns.\n\nThis job isn't perfect, but there is opportunity here. I work in a town where jobs are pretty scarce, so it sounds stupid to quit one just because of a guy. So how do I get past it?\n\nHe is also a manager I have to interact with, do I can't really avoid him.\n\n;", "summary": "I can't over feelings for a coworker dating someone else in the office"}
{"id": "t3_jxlun", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Question for girls who have done online dating...", "post": "There are girls on OKCupid that I think I match up with really well (90+ % Match rating, to put it more objectively) so I get on my typing game. Crickets. Now, it certainly could be because they're not physically attracted to me. I'm no stud by any means, but I'm definitely not hideous.\n\nSo to the question: I'm certain that this varies from girl to girl, but as far as messages go, on the first one, what am I supposed to do? I think maybe I've tried hitting for the home run when I should have been trying to work the count. And if I try to make a joke and they don't find it funny, I've totally just given up on dating that person for the rest of my life (fffffuuuuuuu).\n\n Do you prefer a short, funny first message? A long, rambly \"Let me count the ways in which I believe we connect\"? (That sounds terrible. No one wants that shit, right?) Or are you looking for a sweet compliment (e.g. I noticed that you are X, and I think it's awesome.) Also are you looking to be asked for a date in the first message, or does that normally come later? You'd think the internet would make this easier. I think there's some sort of unspoken etiquette about this whole messages thing but I haven't quite figured it out yet.\n\nThanks,\n\nTemporarilyAlone\n23/m/aquarius\n\n(p.s. is there an online dating subreddit?)", "summary": "would maybe willing to pay a girl close to my age small random gifts on ebay to be an online dating coach. or to date me :S"}
{"id": "t3_1cp5hn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24F need to know how to break it off after 3ish years with 25M", "post": "I care for him, I really do, but lately I feel like it's time to move on.  Any time I mention something like this, he completely breaks down.  He is wonderful.  He is kind, funny, successful, intelligent, but lately I've just really had that feeling I need to be on my own.  It makes me very sad but everyone says I have to stop ignoring these feelings before it ends badly or I resent him or all those other things that can go wrong when you're not fully into it.  \nBut since I do care for him so much it makes breaking up with him incredibly difficult.  Last time I started saying \"I've been feeling like I need a little space,\" he cried so hard he started shaking.  I could not handle seeing him like that and I don't feel right just dumping him and running away knowing he will be by himself breaking down, (we just moved and he does not have any close friends in the area).  He really doesn't like his situation here.  He always says the only fulfilling thing in his life right now is me.  This almost-breakup scenario has happened maybe 2-3 times and I'm truly worried that if I just leave he will shut down entirely - like stop going to work, hide himself in his apartment for days, drink far too heavily, etc.  \nI know I need to do this, but I have no idea how to do it in a way that won't cause such an unhealthy reaction like before.  He doesn't seem to hear me when I say this is what I need and I know he will be ok; he just focuses on how horrible life will be for him and what a shame it all is that I want to leave what we have.  \nCould anyone please help with any advice on how to do this the \"right\" way (I know there's no right way, or easy way, but hopefully you get what I mean...)", "summary": "been feeling like it's time for me to be on my own, the last few times I've tried to say this to him it's caused such an unhealthy reaction I am too scared what will happen to him to leave."}
{"id": "t3_50mhrt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my GF [25F] of 4 years, she moved in with me and I'm starting to feel doubts..", "post": "Me and my GF have been together for nearly 4 years. Because of my job and part-time education, we only saw each other on the weekends for the past few years.\n\nNow that I've graduated and I don't have any school work anymore, we decided to take the next step and live together.\nI already had an apartment of my own; she moved in with me. \n\nIt's been a month since she moved in with me and I'm starting to feel conflicted. On one hand everything feels good. We come home from work, cook, eat and watch a little TV or hang out with friends. We still cuddle and kiss a lot. \n\nOn the other hand, I feel sort of trapped because she doesn't have any hobbies. I've talked about this with her and she says that she understands that I need some alone time and that she doesn't mind to read a book or watch TV if I go do something else like play videogames or go to the gym.\n\nHowever, when I do play videogames or go to the gym, I sort of feel guilty because she will be in my house doing nothing. Even though she says she's fine with all this, something still feels off.\n\nWhen we're talking about buying a bigger house together I keep thinking about the things that I'm afraid about. Like how she's not sure if she wants kids (I do want kids), how she's frightened of all dogs (I really want a dog of my own) and how she doesn't have any hobbies and I feel guilty when taking time for my own hobbies.\n\nWe've talked about children a lot and she's just not sure if she wants any. For the past few years I guess I just thought 'well, we'll see in a few years'. But now that we're talking about buying a house, I'm afraid we're investing more and more into this relationship but it might not work out because in a few years she's still not sure if she wants children or decides she doesn't want any.", "summary": "GF moved in with me. Talking about buying a house together but I'm having doubts. She wants to spend a lot of time together but I need alone time to 'recharge.' I feel guilty when spending time playing video games or working out because she doesn't have a hobby. She's also not sure if she wants to have children (I do). Right now everything is fine but I'm afraid everything might not work out in a few years because of the hobbies or children points. "}
{"id": "t3_2osl6j", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I don't have a job, but I will in ~1 month. I have no savings left. I think I need a loan. Definitely need advice! (CA)", "post": "I live in Canada. I've been in my own apartment for 2 months now. When I moved, I had enough in savings to scrape by for two months jobless. I do have a job with really great pay that I'll be starting a week into January (unfortunately, that's the earliest training class available).\n\nMy problem is the interim. I have bills to pay, including rent for January 1st. I have less than 0 dollars at present (bank account is overdrafted by $180 but can be overdrafted up to $300). I'm 22, and I don't have any experience with loans other than student loans. I'm not really sure what to do, because there's no one family/friend wise to borrow money from. I have sold anything that I can for cash and have been job hunting like mad.\n\nI just need some advice. **Is there some kind of a formal loan I can take out and then pay back over time?** I looked at a couple of threads here asking about **personal loans**, but every time the poster was shot down with either another type of loan they needed or some such thing.", "summary": "what exactly IS a personal loan and how do I get one?"}
{"id": "t3_fy20o", "subreddit": "self", "title": "This is why I fucking hate old people", "post": "I just moved to a neighborhood consisting mostly of old people.\n\nEvery single day, I hear my dogs flip out in the backyard. I hate people who just let their dogs flip out in the backyard all day, so whenever I hear them barking, I open the door and quiet them (or let them inside if it's night time). \n\nWell, every time my dogs flip out, it ends up being because my old-ass neighbors have brought their dog(s) up to my gate to \"Say hello!\" to my dogs. My 2 dogs are pitbulls. They're not dangerous, but seeing unknown dogs approaching rightfully makes them flip out. \n\nThis happens every single day. It's probably 4 or 5 different old couples that do this. Apparently in this neighborhood, it's what people do.", "summary": "FUCK OLD PEOPLE"}
{"id": "t3_gyhrd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the deal with Florida?", "post": "First things first, I live in Finland so my view of the USA is formed from all of the awesome TV-series you produce :D\n\nSo, I've been watching Burn Notice lately and it's really messing with my idea of Florida. I always thought that it's the retiree state (with old people and raisins), but watching Burn Notice (based in Miami) it seems to be filled with the young and the supple.\n\nI think showing old people on the beach while Michael does his spy-thing would be a bit ... unnerving, so is Burn Notice just taking artistic liberties or is there some truth in it?-)", "summary": "I though there were only retirees and old people in Florida, but in Burn Notice everybody is young!"}
{"id": "t3_1k98uf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He (19, m) is refusing to accept that it's over and I'm (16, f) afraid to break him more.", "post": "It's been almost exactly 2 months since I broke up with my now ex. I explained my reasoning, and he seemed to accept it okay. I tried my best at no contact, but I did end up sending a few emails along the way to see how he was, explaining a bit more, etc. \nI am not sad about this anymore. Not in the slightest. I don't even really miss him, which kinda tells me I did the right thing.\nNow, I haven't emailed him in over two weeks and he continues to send an email almost everyday. They're so desperate. I want to tell him to stop, that it's over, seriously. I'm not replying and he's sending more and more, manipulating me in shitty ways. \nI feel like I should tell him to stop, but he's said that he'll die trying or that he has nothing else but me. He isn't in a good place in his life and I'm afraid what me telling him to back off will do to him.", "summary": "He's still desperate after 2 months. Should I tell him to back off, or just ignore every email he sends completely?"}
{"id": "t3_37b8bq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my Long Distance Girlfriend [18F] of 6 Months, am wanting to bring up the issue of her weight, unsure of how to do it.", "post": "I'm writing this out as I'm extremely tired, because it's kinda keeping me up, so if my grammar is a bit weird and my sentences start to get away from me, sorry.\n\nMe and my Serious Girlfriend have been in a 6 month long distance relationship. And while I do love her, and I don't believe anything will change that, I do have a slight issue with her weight. It's always been my opinion that you can be whatever weight you want as long as it doesn't severely impact your health, and without giving numbers I did some brief BMI calculations and figured out that she is on the border between severe and morbid obesity.\n\nThis doesn't make me love her any less, but it is something I want to bring up with her, because I fear it will impact her health. If things go as planned I do intent on spending the rest of my life with this woman, and I don't want any time we have together to be cut short because of something that we can prevent, even if it means eating healthier and exercising with her a few times a week.\n\nI just don't know how to approach the subject with her without coming across as an asshole. I'm actually going to meet her for the first time in person on the night of the 27th, and I know something she's anxious about is that I won't love her as much in person, which is why I'm making sure to approach the subject as gingerly as possible.", "summary": "Girlfriend is borderline morbidly obese and I want to bring it up with her and work together with her to get her to a healthier weight, how should I approach the subject with her?"}
{"id": "t3_1bz6ua", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "A guy that I've only talked to for a month is trying to marry me, help?", "post": "So this guy and I have been calling and texting for about a month and decided to meet up again.\n He brought a friend over and my friends were over and it became a mini party. I had way too much to drink and we ended hooking up. \n\nWell apparently he's a clingy type guy because he kept saying I love you, and I am going to marry you.\n\n I'm so drunk I just agree to whatever he says because the sex is great. Well once I woke up, I thought that the pillow talk would blow over. \n\nHe tells me to get some clothes on because we're going to go get a ring and go to the courthouse to get married.\n\nI make some excuse up and promise to call and kick him out of my house. Now he has backed off of it a little bit, but I can tell thats only because I freaked out.\nAlso he's not unattractive or anything so I don't know why he's so clingy.\n\nI don't know how to tell him I was drunk and stupid because it would really hurt his feelings, but I will be damned if I lead this guy on.\n\nAny advice on how to gently break it to him would be amazing.", "summary": "After drinking too much at a party, hooked up with a clingy guy, agreed to marriage propsal while drunk. Once sober he stills wants to get married. We're both in our 20's and he's actually pretty hot but crazy."}
{"id": "t3_1s71z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (28/M) help my anorexic GF (27/F)", "post": "She is 5'11\" and 130, which puts her just under weight. I'm not so much worried about her weight (yet) but more about her thought processes. She is tremendously afraid of gaining ANY weight, and has legitimate anxiety over missing a workout (she goes 6x a week for an hour) and feels guilty over eating almost anything, even if its healthy (ie. a handful of dry shreddies). \n\nShe is a beautiful girl inside and out, and I've explained to her that her weight should have no bearing on self-worth.  I've also told her her weight  doesn't change how I view her but she still is overly concerned about this all. She plans to see a Psych \"in the new year\", but how do I be supportive in the mean time, and how do I politely encourage her to go?", "summary": "girlfriend is under weight and shows signs of anorexia, how do I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_qtfqc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got caught stealing someone's underwear in the locker room: Reddit, what's your best \"It's not what it looks like\" story?  Possibly NSFW", "post": "Situation:\n\nMy office has a gym with locker room/showers for us to use on break, so I go every day to run on the treadmill or lift weights, etc.  I change into workout clothes and then into fresh undies afterwards, for the benefit of my colleagues.\n\nToday as I was packing up my stuff I didn't see my boxer-briefs, so I figured I'd left them hanging by the shower (not uncommon, happens once or twice a month).  I went back to the shower and grabbed them off the hook, just as a guy opens the curtain and gives me the biggest WTF I've ever seen.  Turns out I *had* taken mine, I had just missed them in the bag, and this guy had the same brand/color, etc.  I put 'em back, walked over to my bag, grabbed 'em and showed them to the guy saying \"Oops, mine are over here\".  The guy laughs his head off and says \"You know, man, they come in a 3-pack\".  We're gonna be best buds.", "summary": "Accidentally attempted to steal a dude's underwear from the locker room shower.  New friend achieved."}
{"id": "t3_1f7i83", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting the past four years catch up to me.", "post": "So I am a Senior in high school and today we are having our final check out for graduation, which is on thursday. So the counselor for my school pulls me aside and says \"Could you come by my office sometime today we have to talk about something.\" Now Last year I went to summer school, and make up the credits that I had to. And this year I passed all my classes so here I am thinking I'm golden, on track to celebrate with all my friends. So anyways I go down to the counselors office and he pulls up my transcript and says you are missing some credits. Fuck. Long story short it turns out last year we didn't go over the other credits I have to make up before I can graduate, a grand total of 5 credits. Summer school only allows you to make up 3 credits in a summer. So I have to go to at least 2 different summer school programs, which may have to be at night. Also, I just got promoted at my job to a manager which I cannot just work in between the two summer schools so I will have to quit my job. Quitting my job means I will have to live at home next year instead of going to college and living in my own place. Also my parents have no idea so, I have to tell them when I get home. The worst part is it is all my fault and I have no one else to blame it on. Now I know this is not really a fuck up of today but, I wanted to share. So thanks.", "summary": "Pass your Fucking classes."}
{"id": "t3_4y7vr2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M19] Going to dinner with my G[F20] and her family, am I supposed to pay..?", "post": "So my gfs family (4 people including the gf) is currently in town. She invited me over for dinner this weekend and we're going to this nice buffet restaurant which me and my gf love. Per person the price is around $30. So this is the first time I'm meeting my gfs family and I know its nice to pay for dinner. I would gladly pay but I absolutely do not have that kind of money. Me and my gf both go to college and I don't even have a job. My parents provide me with money and if they see me dish out $150 for one night they will literally kill me.\n\nWhat do I do? Do i pay for my own and let them handle theirs? Or do I just let her parents pay for everything (I'm sure they will offer to)\n\nIm so lost at what to do...", "summary": "gf invited me to dinner with her parents and I know its common courtesy to pay for dinner but I do not have money to pay for 5 people."}
{"id": "t3_3h923c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex-gf camping trip.", "post": "Tonight my(20m) ex-girlfriend(18f) is going camping with who knows who and doing who knows what. I broke up with her a few months ago due to substantial trust issues and constant bickering, and because I knew that she wouldn't do it. It was best for both of us. That doesn't mean I don't still love her and care about her, and we decided to remain in contact as friends and kind of lay off on seeing other people. It's worked so far, but new allegations from her friends about me that simply put, aren't true, are causing her to \"retaliate\" and do this camping thing. For all I know some guy will fuck the closest person to me tonight. A constant cycle of sadness anger, and jealousy is storming through my head and I feel... awful. Not figuratively. It hurts a lot. I don't have many friends, I've pushed most away because of personal issues. And now this is happening. I know this will probably be the end of communication between us but that really just makes me feel even worse, not better.", "summary": "ex-gf who i'm still very close to may do something cruel tonight. Can't take it. Full post explains much better.."}
{"id": "t3_dnglu", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Kids these days...", "post": "Some background on me, Im 20, average height, 140lbs and definitely not a fighter...\n\nSo its around 7pm and Im pull into a parking stall at the 7 eleven. I park and start walking across the parking lot with my friend(female). As we're walking some 5 or so kids crammed in a 4-runner rudely drive in front of us as we walk. As they drive out I issue a \"fuck you\" in a mildly funny tone. (I could honestly care less that they cut me off). So we go about our business of acquiring club soda for the evenings drinks, pay the clerk and exit the building. \n\nUpon exiting, I look over to my car and see 5 kids standing near it. (Meanwhile, Im thinking damage control. A: why the hell are these kids so damn angry, B: How do I defuse the situation and C: are they seriously going to try and fight me?)\n\nSo my friend and I start walking, and from across the parking lot, one of them asks me if Ive got some words. Which I promptly answer no. He goes on about seeing me mouth something to him as he drove by, and that I need to learn some respect or something to that effect. Nevermind the fact that these kids had shown no respect to pedestrians... but given the fact that there were 5 of them, and 1 of me, I just gave them a \"whatever buddy\" and opened my door. The kid who seems to have some sort of \"beef\" with me then takes a step forward and does that weird \"I so would have gotten you shoulder turn and step\" as well as some dumb grunt. I then get in my car and take an alternate route back to my friends place. \n\nNow, I'm not one to dwell on the past, but my two larger friends who usually accompany, did not this time. These two while really good people, hold the ideal that if you're going to have to fight, fight to win. Which led me to think about what would have happened should I actually have fought, or if I had them around.... \n\nBut back to the point, to all the highschoolers that feel the need to ride around with a \"posse\" and make threats. Man the fuck up.", "summary": "Some punks tried to play me for a chump, but I showed them... by leaving.  "}
{"id": "t3_3hedzi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my now ex-bf[25M] together for 6 months, just need some kind words", "post": "Really close friends for almost a year, then dating, and we just broke up earlier tonight. Didn't tell a lot of people because he wasn't ready for his family to know due to religious differences. From the start I wasn't sure we would last due to said issues, but I was expecting some more time. Some things unexpectedly came up today and we talked for a long time about our future. We decided that even though we loved each other, there was no point in prolonging the inevitable and we decided to end things since love alone can't sustain a relationship. We decide set an optional deadline for one week to talk to each other if we need to, but I think I need a clean cut.\n\nI'm barely hanging on at the moment, and I just need some kind words. We didn't really tell a lot of people since we didn't want his family to hear through the grapevine. Best person to talk to would be his sister, since she knew and I was also friends with her, but I don't think it's fair to put her in the middle of this, even if it wasn't an angry breakup and there are no sides to be taken. Talking to a couple other friends that knew, but that's really all I have right now.", "summary": "Love isn't enough to sustain a relationship, and I need some kind words to help me get through my break up."}
{"id": "t3_46t6rg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (m/25) love traveling and my gf (f/24) makes spontaneous vacations impossible and it's making me resent her.", "post": "Traveling is my most favorite thing to do, and I could never imagine not having spontaneous couple trips with my significant other. However, with my current girlfriend of two years it is simply impossible. For example, the other weekend I wanted to drive to Canada, but she said she can't go on a whim and added something about needing a visa (she is from an Eastern European country, and here in US on a stunted visa). I asked her how long it would take hoping that she just needs to fill out a form or something, but she said that it will probably take a couple of weeks. It was such a buzzkill. \n\nThis is not the first time it happens too - I wanted to go to Spain with her right after school ended in May, but she said she couldn't go because she would need visa. I honestly think she was lying - she is from Europe, why would she need a visa to go to Spain? I'm tired of not being able to do spontaneous trips with her, and I have communicated to her how they are important to me, but she said, she cannot do them spontaneously, as visas cost money and take some time to be issued. \n\nI don't want to have to plan long in advance, but she is making it impossible to keep spontaneity going, and its absence is making me sad and resentful-what do I do.", "summary": "Gf needs a visa to go pretty much anywhere and it annoys me because I like spontaneous trips."}
{"id": "t3_33ue0w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by referencing The IT Crowd at school", "post": "Obligatory this wasn't today, and instead was back on Thursday. I would've posted this then, but I've been caught up in revision and don't have much free time as of late.\n\nHere in the UK some schools (not sure if all) have a lesson period specified for P.S.E, where we cover everything from world events to psychology and stuff. In the case of my school, the usual 'forms' are split up so we are put with people from other forms in our year, which left me stuck with very few of my friends. For the lesson in question, we were doing something a little simpler: meeting new people. \n\nThe teacher decided that for the lesson we would partner up with someone who we normally wouldn't talk to in any other circumstances, and get to know one another. This in itself would have been bad enough for me, as I'm not exactly a social person, but to rub salt into the wound we had to have this conversation in front of the whole class.\n\nWe were each assigned a partner, and I was paired up with practically my worst nightmare: a typical jock; one of the most popular guys in school, captain of the football team, almost a foot taller than me and amazingly attractive (to the girls in my year). I crawled my way up to the front and stood there wondering what the fuck to say, when in my infinite wisdom it occurred to me: \"did you see that ludicrous display last night?\"\n\nMy partner just stood there, trying to comprehend what I had just said, the whole class sat in silence aside from my friend Tom who actually got the reference (only because I managed to get him hooked on the show a week prior) and Aliano (who was the subject of my last FU), who were both laughing their asses off. I could feel my face growing redder than a bloody stop sign, and I just walked off back to my seat and buried my face in shame, wishing for the day to end.", "summary": "Followed Moss' advice, was not unwillingly drawn into a robbery, but instead willingly made myself look like a fool infront of my class, friends and crush."}
{"id": "t3_fnijh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm sick of all the teacher bashing: How many of you had disinterested parents and had your life course significantly altered by a teacher?", "post": "My parents never expressed any expectations of me growing up and it was only because of interested, engaging teachers that I started seeing what I was capable of and eventually went to college.\n\nWhat are your stories?\n\n**Soapbox Rant Ahead**\n\nYes, interested and engaged parents are the best way to educate and train up the next generation, however, we 'the public' only have so much influence on parents.\n\nThe solution *is* in finding ways to encourage parents to be involved, but some will not and some are unable to as they have to spend the majority of their time providing the basic necessities for their children.\n\n*The best way, as far as I can see, is to find ways to enable and encourage people who truly care about students to take up positions as educators.", "summary": "Parents are a problem, but excellent educators can still make a big difference."}
{"id": "t3_45r2sc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) don't feel comfortable eating in front of my boyfriend (22M) of 4 years.", "post": "Let's get this out of the way: I'm fat, he's thin.  It's always been this way.  Eating in front of him used to make me uncomfortable from time to time, but slowly it's gotten to really stress me out.  I hate looking at his plate and mentally counting up all the calories and comparing it to mine.  I know he doesn't hate me for my looks, but I just don't need the additional stress right now.\n\nI'm not really trying to lose weight.  This is going to sound pathetic, but I just don't think I'm ready to do it.  I can't really do anything sustainable, even though I know all the facts.  \n\nI'm wondering if it would be better to say no to meals with my boyfriend (which he wouldn't like, considering we eat together a lot and it's how we spend a lot of quality time), or to just eat vegetables in front of him and endure nosy questions.  \n\nNeither of these alternatives are great, but I can't think of anything else.  I've looked up therapy in my area and there's nothing I can afford, nor is there any at my school.\n\nIs what I'm doing okay?  Is there a better way to mitigate this stress I have?", "summary": "I want to stop eating full meals/at all in front of my boyfriend due to insecurity."}
{"id": "t3_2afjkx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "So I just weighed myself today and didn't like what i just saw.", "post": "So I've been a big guy pretty much my whole life except in high school where I was sorta fit but got right back to being big. well i haven't weighed myself in a while and decided hey I've got a scale i should use it see how much i weigh now...380. Fucking THREE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY GOT DAMN POUNDS!!!when the fuck did that shit happen???!!!I mean I've been big but never this big geez. I've been bummed out all day and then i thought about it me being a social recluse,always ordering out,never really doing any activity except eating,playing games and jerking it. Well fuck that shit I'm done ain't no way in hell am i gonna be 400 fucking pounds fuck that noise. And i need you guys's help with that so please help me.\n\nP.S. Sorry for all the swearing and run on sentences.", "summary": "Almost 400 pounds me no likey me need help."}
{"id": "t3_14bcao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[18m] have just been in an argument with my girlfriend[16f] because i believe she is cheating on me.", "post": "first off id just like apologize if I have poor grammar or spelling I'm just really upset right now.\nso I have been with this girl for two and half years and it has been mostly smooth. we sometimes get into fights but it usually revolves around my jealousy.\nSo about two day ago my mate came round my house and was acting really sus. I asked him what's up and he told me to sit down and then sat down on the chair across from me. He told me he is quite certain my girlfriend is cheating on me.\n\nAt first I Didn't know how to react. I Asked him how he knew. He said His mate was texting someone something about him screwing her to someone else. I was pretty pissed so I told him to get the fuck out of my house.(I know this seems a bit strange but I was kind of having a mental breakdown.) He told me he was sorry and left but before he did he told me i should check her messages.\n\nsince then I haven't slept and my emotions all started to build up. today after she finished school I asked her if she had ever cheated on me. she said no. it told her the story and I began to cry, I told her I would like to see her messages she then said no calmly stood up and left my house.\n\nwhat i would like help with is whether or not you believe she cheated on me.", "summary": "i think my girlfriend cheated on me and need you opinion on the matter."}
{"id": "t3_18ndft", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it illegal to use your phone as a gps while driving in CT?", "post": "Hey reddit, so I needed to drive to the store today and I'd never been to this certain one, so I punch the address into the GPS app on my phone while I'm driving and the next thing I see is a state cop pulling behind me to pull me over. He told me he pulled me over for using my cell phone and I informed him that I was just using the GPS to find my way to the store. He takes my license and registration and then comes back with a $125 ticket that just says \"Cellphone violation\". I have my cellphone records that show I hadn't called or texted for over an hour before the ticket was written. I'm planning on pleading not guilty but I just want to make sure that I'm actually in the clear. Thanks", "summary": "A cop pulled me over for using my gps on my phone while driving, should I be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_e9sva", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help finding favorite childhood movie", "post": "When I was a kid there was this Looney Tunes movie I used to rent weekend after weekend for months. My dad would take me to our apartments little rental place and I'd immediately go to the shelf and grab it. No question. All I remember the movie being about was all the Looney Tunes characters eventually ending up and this AMAZING theme park. That was why I loved it so much, all of the rides looked like so much fun. So recently I've been on the hunt for it but can't find it anywhere. I'm dying to watch it again (and desperately hoping that rewatching won't spoil the adventure I found in it as a kid).", "summary": "What's the name of the Looney Tunes movie where they end up at an epic theme park in the end?"}
{"id": "t3_1ludtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[20M] and girlfirend [19F] 2 years, broke up because she lost feelings. Still wants to be friends", "post": "Hello redditors. \n\nI'm having quite a hard day today. Yesterday I got to my girlfriends house. We hang out, watched some tv and snuggled as we do. Suddenly she started crying and I didn't understand anything. I thought she was just sad about having a rough day at work or someting. But then she started telling me that she didn't feel the same as she used to. That she didn't love me as i did her no more. \n\nNow for some background information. We have had the best time ever. We are a perfect match. We laugh, have the same interests, same visions, and share a similar mindset. She was telling me very clearly that she felt that we had the best time ever together. Family, friends, all clicked so well. But she just didn't love me no more. But she is so afraid of loosing me in her life. And want's to keep haning out, doing stuff together. \n\nFirst of all, I don't understand how she just stoped loving me. I am the kind of guy that just do anything for the ones I love. I buy flowers, jewlery, rub her back, trust her, sex her good. I do whatever it takes to keep her happy. And everything was perfect.\n\nAnd secound. I don't know how I'm going to approach this. I still love her very much, and want to spend time with her. But I'm afraid that I love her to much. So it will kill me inside every time. Also I don't want her to be alone.", "summary": "My girlfriend broke it of because she stop loving me. I still love her very much. And we both feel that we have the best of times. So she still wants to hang out and be friends. I still love her, so how can I approach this?"}
{"id": "t3_3gr5rr", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I find out if I've got into uni tomorrow. Exams went terrible and I don't look forward to the future regardless of the outcome.", "post": "I just feel horrible thinking about it. The stress has just been building up for ages now. I'm dreading opening that letter. I'm dreading checking my emails for university responses. I'm terrified of even going on to the UCAS website.\n\nEven if I've gotten into uni, I'm not looking forward to going. I can't cook, suck at socialising with new people face-to-face and and I don't have many hobbies. I don't even enjoy the subject I'm going to study (I think), but... parents. I don't want to be an anti-social recluse, but no matter what I've done I ended up as one at primary, secondary and college.\n\nThat being said, I'm not the type to go on a gap year. I can't imagine one more year living at home. \n\nThese fucking results man... My academic 'achievements' are the only impressive accolades I have, and they aren't even 'genius' standard, you know? People are just impressed because they didn't think disabled ol' me to get A*/A's in maths and physics (btw please stop calling me Stephen Hawking, idk why but I just find it a bit... ignorant and stupid). But anyway, now everyone's expecting me to get great grades and get into my high-requirement unis when I've convinced myself I've fucked up.\n\nI feel a bit selfish for posting this, because I know thousands of others are going through this as well (it's all going to shit on Tumblr), I just felt like venting to see if it makes me feel better. It has, slightly.", "summary": "A-level results day tomorrow. FML."}
{"id": "t3_e615f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Interaction with a professor during class: Should I be feeling bad about this?", "post": "Some background about the class etiquette: During the term, the class norm has been that you can either raise your hand to speak, or just speak during an empty part during the lecture. There are a lot of jokes thrown around and random comments made on the professor's drawings and what-not. Overall, the environment is pretty lax in terms of a lecture.\n\nThis is what happened: We were going over a lecture about a particular topic, and the professor was lecturing and making his drawings as usual. I had asked a couple questions during the lecture, and then during one drawing I made a random, funny (or at least I thought it was) comment. He immediately turned and said, in a less than friendly way, \"Okay, we could do without the running commentary.\" I felt extremely embarrassed and as though I had been scolded for behavior that had, up to this point, been considered a norm. \n\nWe took a break and I said \"I apologize if I was being disruptive during the lecture\" to the professor, and he just laughed and said \"You don't need to apologize, as long as I don't need to apologize.\" Regardless of his comment, I still feel really bad about it. I feel as though I was reprimanded in front of all of my peers, and I'm not sure if I was out of line or if he was out of line or what. It's a very confusing situation and I don't know what to think/feel about it. I am always paranoid that I am talking too much or asking too many questions, but have been encouraged by this professor and others to keep doing what I have been, so this is the first time I've dealt with this sort of guilt/shame.\n\nWhat do you all think? What kind of outsider's perspective can you offer?", "summary": "I was commenting during a lecture and the teacher snapped at me, now I feel really guilty and am not sure if it's my own problem or if it was rude of the professor."}
{"id": "t3_54ig8t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my gf [27 F] of 3 years, she recently got back from a trip and told me that she thinks I'm 'too good for my job'", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for a few years now; she just came back from an extended trip abroad that I wasn't able to go on due to budget constraints. When we met she had just moved to the city, and I had actually just been laid off, so I jumped ship on my career for a new field with more stability. Recently she's been saying that she thinks I'm not 'living up to my potential', more or less. I've been promoted twice in my time with my new company, but she is on a bit of a management fast track within her company. She also comes from a high achieving family in a university town.\n\nMy company went through a restructuring phase this year that stressed me out some, but I've been doing well enough and I am on good terms with the large majority of my coworkers. My job doesn't excite me but I'm also relatively happy; I work 8 to 5 and am not expected to be in constant communication with anyone or work on short deadlines. It's a service oriented professional atmosphere with enough going on that it doesn't have an air of tedium about it.\n\nHow can I approach this difference in outlook with her? She seems to be expecting something of a power couple relationship now; she focuses on 'keeping herself always busy because that's when she is happy', and says that 'I just want you to be in a career that fulfills you because I love you and want you to be a fulfilled person'. But it sounds like she basically just wants me to be the male version of herself. And I value my company for providing me with mostly positive workplace experiences. However there is the possibility that I am overvaluing it due to my prior job insecurity; I make okay money but for our area I am functionally working class.", "summary": "GF thinks my current job isn't good enough. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_38bolq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 3 months, can't tell if I'm in love", "post": "So, I've been seeing my boyfriend for 3 months, and I almost said \"I love you\" to him last time I was with him. We were laying in bed talking and he made a joke about no one loving him. I almost blurted out \"but I love you\". \n\nI've never been in love with a guy. He's my first bf and I have no clue if love is what I'm feeling. I've been infatuated with plenty of guys, but I never almost blurted out I love you to any of them or even thought of the idea of loving them. This guy is different. I feel so comfortable around him, he makes an effort, and treats me very well.", "summary": "Never been in love. Almost said I love you to my new/first bf. How do you know you love someone?"}
{"id": "t3_2e5pww", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to torture a mosquito", "post": "Like most TIFUs, this happened several months ago on a dry summer night. I was trying to fall asleep a bit earlier than usual (around 11PM) because I had a job interview at 9AM, but kept waking up every 5 minute because of this one fucking mosquito that would just pierce through my skin and bounce without even getting a decent meal from my vasculature. My girlfriend, who is a deep sleeper, had already fallen asleep at the time but I could tell she was distressed because she was unconsciously scratching herself from the mosquito bites. This mosquito would not leave us the fuck alone and around 1AM, I tried to catch it by using my phone light to attract this fucker but he was so elusive that I had failed countless times. I decided enough was enough and went full psycho. I turned on all the lights (my girlfriend was still sleeping), and it took me a while but I searched every corner of my room until I found this small ass mosquito that looked fat as fuck from all the blood it had drained from my precious body. I didn't want to kill it right away because that just didn't seem fair for the both of us. It took me another 30 minutes to capture this bastard in my bathroom and I tossed some green GoldBond (I use it to cool my balls after a shower) on to this fucker thinking it would slow it down. I kept peppering this fucker with GoldBond and missed so many times until my bathtub and my girlfriend's bright pink towels were completely caked with this magical shit. The GoldBond seemed to do pretty well in slowing it down because I finally caught one of its legs with a tweezer and proceeded to torture and dissect it. By the time I went to bed, it was around 5AM and took me another hour to fall asleep from the adrenaline and stress the mosquito had caused me. I didn't wake up for my job interview.\n\nHere's some proof:", "summary": "Mosquito wouldn't let me fall asleep the day before my job interview. I went full psycho and sacrificed my job interview to get revenge"}
{"id": "t3_19ua0c", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Webcomics are awesome.", "post": "Fucking webcomics. So I've had episodes before where after I read something, or more rarely though it still happens, if I watch something, I get into a funk/mood. Usually it's a...I hesitate to call it a depression as I feel that that simply makes light of a very serious condition, but at the same time, it's not as far off as I might think. The biggest cause of the mood swing is something that I desperately find to be awesome/cool/amazing/etc. but that either cannot be reality, or that the reality is so far off it might as well not be.\n\nThis time, I was reading a webcomic about a biology grad student accidentally being zapped by a genetics-modification ray, resulting in a six-armed heroine going about being a heroine. Standard stuff, though clich\u00e9d. However this is beside the point. What the point is is that, while I had never really been a fan of the style of comic that this was before, the twist/originality in this one has really struck a chord with me, and has caused a funk.\n\nPart of the reason why I am going to college for what I want is so that I can right what I find wrong with the world, which is not unreasonable, I think. I want to be a Bio-medical Engineer and make cybernetic limbs for amputees (or daring clients), work on BCI's to make this happen, all that good stuff. However, mucking about in genetics is something that also interests me, and creating something akin to the heroine from the comic described above is something that is of great interest to me as well. Well, more specifically, having our understanding of genetics that be great enough to allow for that to happen in the future. But this is a very dangerous proposal as it would undoubtedly be turned into a weapon a la \"supersoldiers\", if it is even possible. Truthfully, I'm thinking it's more of the latter than the former, that the biology/physics involved in making hybrids is so far out of reach that it is not worth doing so for the reasons I would do it, not to even mention the innumerable ethical reasons to not do so.", "summary": "I want to be a mad scientist/engineer, but that's not what the world needs. Also, having six arms would be so fucking awesome to make up for the impracticality it would bring on."}
{"id": "t3_2x8ds2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Husband says he has feelings for a former co-worker, what should I think?", "post": "My husband[33m] and I[34f] have been married for 6.5 years, together for 11. We don't yet have kids. About a year and a half ago we dealt with his searching through my Facebook for this former coworker's page because he doesn't have Facebook himself. At that time, we saw a therapist and resolved to stay together. Things have been great since then. Admittedly, I was a bit of a bitch during our dating and early married relationship. He says he's seen the difference/effort I've made and that our relationship has been better. Since therapy, I've put much effort into bettering our relationship and showing him the love and respect I have for him.\n\nLast night, when trying to get into his email regarding a refund email, I came upon his LinkedIn account and noticed he has her as a connection and recently was looking at her pictures. I asked him about this when he got home, after trying to lie about it, saying he didn't look her up, he admitted he did and he has feelings for her. He said he's never cheated but wonders what it'd be like to be with her. He said he loves me still and is confused. \n\nWe talked about this for hours and came to the resolution to revisit therapy and work on our relationship to stay together. He says he hasn't had any contact with her since she left the company four years ago. He said we were in a bad place when she worked there and that may have contributed to him becoming interested in her. After all the discussion, crying, some yelling last night, he said he wants to work through this and stay together. He also reiterated the same this morning. I'd appreciate a sounding board regarding all this. Sorry for the wall of text.\n\n**bold", "summary": "My husband has admitted to having feelings for a former coworker, confused about what he wants, this coworker came up for us in the past. He says he has never cheated and wants to revisit therapy so we can work through this."}
{"id": "t3_3nhpzd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Experience with time apart? [20/M] [19/F]", "post": "My ex and I started dating when I was 18 and she was 17. We dated for about 8 months and while it was wasn't the longest relationship, it was pretty serious. Maybe a little too serious thinking back.\n\nAnyways she ended things, she had begun to change, started acting different, doing things she knew made me uncomfortable etc. Said she loved me and wanted to be with me but didn't want to be in a relationship.\n\nIt hurt like hell, I thought she was being selfish and just wanted to go out and do what she wanted without worrying about me.\n\nStopped contact right after except the times she intiated a conversation. Took me about two months to fully get over it. Kinda started to realize we were and still are very young, couldn't be mad at her forever.\n\nDuring these six months we were separated I worked on myself a lot. Lost a lot of weight I gained during our relationship, exercising more and started liking myself more.\n\nRecently we ran into each other for the first time since the breakup, it was very very brief and she told me to text her soon to catch up.\n\nStarted texting, told me how she was shocked it was, admitted a bit how bad she became towards the end of our relationship and that she feels like she's changed. It was really nice to talk to the same her again.\n\nShe asked me to go out for coffee soon and it just seems to be heading that direction of more contact, hanging out again etc.\n\nDoes anybody have experience with something like this or could give me any advice?", "summary": "Saw Ex, seems to have changed, hanging out again"}
{"id": "t3_1xs8t8", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Weird tuition/readmission question? Very special case...", "post": "So senior year of high school I was accepted and matriculated to a certain college, to be in the Class of 2017. \nHowever, after attending said college for a single semester (this past Fall), I withdrew. But, I will be applying for readmission and most likely be a student again in the Fall. \nNow, here comes the problem at hand. I withdrew at the worst possible time I could have possibly withdrew- right as said college underwent some unfortunate changes. They used to offer full tuition scholarships to ALL students that were accepted. (Basically, a free school besides housing/books) However, because of financial circumstances, they had to do away with this offer, and the class I was accepted to (2017) is now going to be the last class in the history of this school to get it free. Class of 2018 and onward have to pay tuition. So, I'm assuming this means, if I reapply, I have to pay, even though I'd been accepted before and was of the last students to get the full scholarship. \nAre there any loopholes I can find to argue a case in the Fall, and somehow, some way go back to school, and also have it still be free?  The college actually has no written rules anywhere about readmission. (can I use this to my advantage perhaps?) Also, might there a difference in what I can do if I were forced to withdraw, vs willingly withdrew?", "summary": "I got into a college that offered a full scholarship to all accepted students, but withdrew after a semester. Now I want to reapply, but the schools policies have changed and they don't give out full tuition anymore. Can I somehow get the full tuition back, since I was accepted to that class that was last to get full tuition?"}
{"id": "t3_1qsspx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[23F] friend [23F] is really depressed, is cutting, and now eating disorder", "post": "Ok, so I have a friend who I still communicate with over long distance(8 hour drive between us). She lives with her parents, but they're not very supportive. When she said that she couldn't handle 9 days of work in a row due to anxiety/depression, her mom said that she had to just \"buck up, and do it.\" \n\nI just recently became friends with her over the summer, and we hit it off amazingly. She expressed to me that she really liked me, and I really liked her too. A week or so after that, she started telling me about her issues. She cuts from body image issues, and because she thinks she's a failure. I've tried boosting her spirit, she's a lot smarter than she thinks she is, she acknowledges it, but doesn't agree. \n\nNow, I genuinely want to help her, I really want to see her succeed, and start becoming happy. It's really hard though, I'm making no progress with her. I know it's not my job to, but I do want to help her. \n\nShe is refusing to go to therapists, she's had anti-depressents but went off them.  She's also having tooth aches, it seems like her wisdom teeth are going in, she can't afford to go to the dentist to see if they're growing in correctly. \n\nI can't help financially, I don't have the funds to do it. I also see that it's kinda impossible for me to help her, if she's not willing to help herself/listen to me. \n\nShe has no drivers licence, nor any access to a car. She says that she doesn't trust herself infront of a wheel, it'd be too easy for her to just run herself off the road, and kill herself (on purpose)\n\nSo what do you think I can do in this situation? I want to help her, but it just seems so impossible these days. \n\nAlso, it'd be amazing if someone had any resources for good therapists/ dentistry for people that can't afford it in Windsor, Ontario, Canada.", "summary": "Friend is depressed, cutting, has eating disorder and I am too far to really be of any help. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2zv74f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my GF [30 F] I quit smoking, my girlfriend did not. Now there are issues.", "post": "\u2022 I quit smoking late last year and have managed to avoid a single puff for about four months.\n\u2022 During that time I went through some issues with nicotine withdrawal including anxiety and decreased libido.\n\u2022 As a result my sex-life went down to absolutely nothing.\n\u2022 This has been hard for my girlfriend. \n\n\u2022 Now past the anxiety and decreased libido I am finding myself growing increasingly disgusted by the smell of smoke for a mixture of psychological and physical reasons.\n\u2022 Which is an issue as my girlfriend still smokes, and I am growing increasingly turned off by her.\n\u2022 Even if she has a shower, brushes her teeth and spray deoderant on I can still smell that tiny amount on her.\n\n\u2022 We discussed this and it turned into a fight as she feels as if I am holding sex over her head as an ultimatum until she quits. Whereas I told her that I love her and am still attracted to her but the smoking is stopping me from being physically intimate with her.\n\n\u2022 I have told her that if she wanted to quit I would obviously help out as much as I can and I am a realist as quitting smoking is difficult.\n\u2022 She also feels as if I am trying to change her. Which annoys me because 1) trying to get a partner to take care of their health should be applauded as a good thing, and 2) I can't help it if I'm attracted to something or not, but I'm not pushing anything and am trying to keep the relationship going.\n\nAm I being a jerk? Or is there anyone in a similar situation who might have advice on how to go forward from here?", "summary": "I quit smoking, my girlfriend didn't. I am growing less attracted to her."}
{"id": "t3_4ba1o5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [19F] sent me [20M] a snapchat saying she misses me", "post": "I know this is a stupid question but I'm really not good with relationships or reading signs or any of that so sorry. I was at a party and later in the night I put on my story a picture of myself and a girl I'd been hanging out with that night. In the picture she was basically hugging me with her arm and head on my chest and my arm around her. Pretty soon afterwards my friend (the 19F in the title) sent me a private snapchat of a selfie and her saying that she misses me. I checked my story and saw that she had seen the picture. I also had snapchats from earlier in the night that i believe she saw well before i put up the one of me and the girl.\n\nThis girl is someone i met in a class and I had known for maybe a little more than a month, we hang out a lot and I felt like I was receiving mixed signals from her about whether she was interested in me or not. So basically what I am asking is this a sign she is interested in me? Did she get jealous seeing me with another girl?", "summary": "I posted a snapchat story of me and a girl hugging. A friend of mine, immediately after seeing it, sent me a selfie and said she misses me. Is she interested?"}
{"id": "t3_l1xl1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are so many reddit users hostile towards the fed?", "post": "I'm not an expert on the feds policies, but I have taken micro and macro economics classes in college.  From what I have learned, it seems like most of the crap the fed gets is undeserved.  In macro economics, we learned how the feds monetary policies have minimized the severity and length of recessions.  \n\nIt seems like most of the hate comes from the ability to create money out of basically paper and ink.  I can see how this would cause concern, but this has not been a major issue in recent history.  MANY countries still hold dollars as a reserve currency due to its reputation for stability.", "summary": "Whats with all the fed hate?"}
{"id": "t3_3z8qni", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and texted my mom", "post": "This happened yesterday but me and some buddy's dropped some acid and I was texting  my friend and during this time I was peaking and didn't really notice the names of the people I was texting. So I sent a text that said \"I'm getting some crazy visuals but not like last time\", that is what I sent to my mom when I thought it was going to my friend.  So I freaked out and just thought of how I could fix this.  So I looked for a quote just to send her to think I'm crazy or something so I sent her a quote from Harry Potter and then said sorry didn't mean to send that. And it actually worked so I guess sending random  things to her she probably  thought my first text was random as well.", "summary": "Texted my mom I was tripping and saved my self sending random quotes."}
{"id": "t3_1ackqd", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I lie frequently. And I want to break the habit.", "post": "It has become a habit or addiction, and several times I find myself lying, even tho I don't attend to. I've lied about many things, small things and some really big things and even telling them to my best friends.  \n\nIn someway I feel like i NEED to lie, so people will find me (more) interesting. But this habbit has created a emotionally barrier between me and some of my best friends. During the last week I've been really focued on not lying, and well... it is harder than i expected. I'm not sure if it is enough 'just' to stop lying or I need to confront my fears and reveal my lying habbit. I just feel like I need to put an end to this, it's keeping me from getting really close to people, and it is burden to tell the same lie over and over again.", "summary": "I lie, and I want to stop. Need advice really."}
{"id": "t3_1w2cij", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Finding motivation for non-physical pursuits?", "post": "I am working to become a graphic designer and struggling with putting in the hours I know I should to improve. A lot of this stems from me feeling directionless, I would love to have a mentor to help provide guidance because trying to improve through blind trial and error can be frustratingly daunting to say the least. But to stay on track...\n\nI have been trying to come here and read a couple posts before I sit down to work, but a lot of the posts relate to physical effort. These posts are great and I have played collegiate basketball and been through the early morning grinds, pushing yourself when it hurts etc. I just can't seem to take the same physical motivational push I found playing basketball and apply it to sitting down in front of a computer for hours. Its like a different of mental effort that I haven't really learned yet.", "summary": "Can you apply the same effort of pushing yourself physically in the gym to pushing yourself to do something not physically draining?"}
{"id": "t3_2cvcke", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend is 13 years older than I am. My parents don't approve and I've been sneaking around to see him. Advice?", "post": "Ok, I'm an 18 year old girl. He's 31. I met him at a local restaurant I frequently go to with my mother about 5 months ago. He's the manager there.\n\nHe gave me his number and we've been seeing each other ever since. I told my mom about him at first and she said he was very nice, cute and had seen him many times at the restaurant before. When she found out his age however, she immediately disapproved and proceeded to tell my dad. They both came to a consensus that I was not to speak to him because he was too old for me. I was infuriated and told them I was an adult and could speak to or date whomever I please. \n\nAfter that, there was tension in the house to the point where I decided to move out for a couple of days. Eventually I decided to come back because it was too crazy for me to be living with different friends. When I came back home, my parents told me the only way I could continue living there would be if I stayed away from that guy AND if I couldn't abide by that rule, and decided to leave again, I wouldn't be allowed to take the car they got me. I wanted to act like an adult, I was to be treated like an adult with my own bills, they said. So I agreed. \n\nI still haven't stopped speaking to or seeing him though. I see him as often as I can and am always having to make up the dumbest lies to my parents about where I'm at and who I'm hanging out with. I feel like one of these days, I'm gonna get caught and my boyfriend feels very bad. He feels like he's going to get me in trouble and not only that, wishes we could have a normal relationship. No sneaking around bullshit. \n\nReddit, should I confess to my parents or wait till I'm more financially stable to move out?", "summary": "18 year old girl who's been sneaking around dating a 31 year old man parents don't approve of. They threaten to kick her out if they find out she's dating him."}
{"id": "t3_339tal", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(AZ) I believe my friend is being extorted through her child.", "post": "So I have this friend who comes to me for advice, and I've told her to go to a lawyer over this (and she did), but I believe she's being extorted for money through her child.\n\nThe kids father happens to have a few children with various women. His family member adopted one of the kids he has (my friends kid.) as part of the agreement she signed away all rights at the age of 16 in order to never pay child support. She has since kept in contact with him and continues to be a part of his life.\n\nFast forward to today. The \"dad\" got sued for child support from another woman. He has a hefty fine to pay monthly. Now his family member who had adopted their kid wants to abandon the adoption and force the guardianship to default to the parents. My friend was pretty excited about this and wants to care for the kid, but now the \"dad\" says the kid might not want to live with her part time and that she should pay him child support (he's brought it up several times about how she should pay him child support since he's been sued.)\n\nAlso another weird thing was that he wanted to live with her. (It's pretty obvious he's had a thing for her the past 5 years since they broke up.) She's in a happy relationship and really doesn't want much to do with him. (After this he again brought up the child support.)\n\nThe lawyer she saw says there isn't much she can do because the guardianship is going to go to her and she'll have to help support the kid. My thing is that any money she gives this guy is going to go straight to pay for his other obligations, and not towards the kid. She's offered to help in ways other than money but he always turns them down.", "summary": "Ever since this guy got sued for child support he's being trying to find a way to get child support out of his ex."}
{"id": "t3_47q7h3", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My house-mate and best friend needs to tidy up more, but how do I tell her?", "post": "I've been in a tenancy with other students for nearly six months now, and have gotten really close with one of them - the others just hide away in their bedroom. However, she's extremely messy now.\n\nI don't really mind things being super untidy every now and again - I get that it happens and sometimes we're busy. It's just it's out of hand. She never tidies up after having guests round (beer bottles everywhere), she rarely does her wash up - usually it takes her about 3 days to finally do it - and just leaves her belongings all over the house.\n\nIt's driving me nuts, and I need to talk to her about it but I don't know how without risking anything! Please let me know.", "summary": "Housemate and good friend is super messy, what's the best way to talk to her about it without ruining our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_1hfh6l", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [21M] is emotionally cheating on me, we live together, and I snooped.", "post": "Living together for 2 more months.\nBeen together for about a year give or take a month.\n\nHe's been texting someone a lot, and when I asked him who he was texting, he claimed it was his friend, even though when I looked down at the phone, a girls name and face appeared. I couldn't understand why he'd lie but after a bit of snooping through his facebook convos this morning, (just as I knew all along, him being a terrible liar), he has been talking to a girl he met at school. He's called her cute within lengthy conversations that he has fueled. Saying things such as \"I'd join you, we should hang out\" etc. We've just paid for rent and it'd be unfair to him to kick him out. He knew before he started this convo with this girl that we'd be breaking up in August/September, so I figure he's begun to search for my replacement. But I still find it hurtful, and I attempted to talk to him about it last night, but I chickened out even though I really have nothing to be afraid of.", "summary": "I don't know what a confrontation with my emotionally cheating boyfriend would do given that we live together and I need him and our lease ends in two months. Should I just deal with it? Break up with him and make him sleep on the floor? I really don't know what to do right now.."}
{"id": "t3_52cdp0", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "I need help with a kitty diet! Please!", "post": "Ok, so this is mostly directed towards my female cat, but I'm sure this could benefit my male as well.\n\nMy female cat  (Lodi) is a large lady; you can see how large she is in my post history. I used to free feed my babies because I grew up with outdoor cats and free feeding them never posed any heavy weight issues. Lodi, did infact used to be an outdoor mew. And since becoming an indoor mew, she has become obese. I do not want my male (Freud) to become obese as well. \n\nI feed them dry food twice a day;half a cup scoop. I'm not sure if this is \"too much\", but even with that, in the morning they meow loudly and chase me about the apartment as if they haven't eaten in days, so I feed them their breakfast. Then upon returning home they meow loudly and chase me about the house once more until it's dinner time, behaving like they haven't been fed in days. It makes me feel terrible.\n\nAnd if there's any concern in the food I give them, they get blue buffalo. So, is there anything I'm doing wrong? I want my cats to lose weight because I'm about to shave Lodi, she's so fat she cannot groom herself properly causing dingleberries and matting. I feel so terrible she's uncomfortable. But no matter what I've done she won't cut the weight and I certainly do not want to starve her! Please help!", "summary": "My cats (mostly the female) are getting obsese. I need help finding proper ways to put them on a diet and cut the weight."}
{"id": "t3_cn3qf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any young redditors ever take a finicial risk to start a business?", "post": "I'm 18, soon to be 19 and have always had the thought of opening a business. Not sure on a specific type yet, mostly because I'm still really young, and only have a few thousand saved up.\n\nBut anyway, at the moment I'm working for a small franchised business, and it's poorly run. They still make a profit and have a strong customer base, but there are so many changes that I noticed they could make to increase profit, and their customer volume. This gives me confidence that I could run a successful business, because they are making so many mistakes that I would not make. \n\nAnyone ever take the risk to open a business at a young age? Even if not alone, with a partner, etc.", "summary": "The business I work for is making stupid mistakes which is holding them back, and I would not make the same mistakes. This gives me confidence in starting my own business. Anyone ever take the risk at such a young age?"}
{"id": "t3_xb6gk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My friend and his wife take pride in complaining to get free stuff.  What does it take for you to complain to management?", "post": "At least once a month a co-worker/friend of mine brags about the free meal he and his family got because the food was not good enough, or the service wasn't to their liking. When they go on vacation they get free hotel rooms and rental car upgrades.  It doesn't matter where they go or what they do, they complain to get free shit.\n\nGetting free stuff is all good when you have a legitimate complaint, but some folks take it way too far.  I think it is rude and I'm embarrassed when I'm around this type of behavior.  What really gets me is they know exactly what they are doing and thrive on it like it's a game.", "summary": "my friend is a scumbag customer.  What do you think reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_25oy7n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/f] have a feeling that he [m/27] might be gay.", "post": "My intuition is telling me that this guy might be gay, but I'm trying to rationalize the situation in my mind. \n\nWhen I first met him I thought he was a little effeminate. He's hairy and unshaven and has a deep voice, but the way he draws out his words and his mannerisms gave me the feeling that he was a little gay. He hasn't tried to sleep with me yet. We have pretty heavy make out sessions though. We've been seeing each other for about a month.\n\nHe talks about women he's been in love with in the past, and how he finds me really attractive. I don't know if he's being honest though. He can also be flaky when it comes to making plans, but he'll go out and hang with his guy friend no problem. So I'm trying to figure out whether he's gay or not.", "summary": "My gut instinct is telling me the guy I'm dating is gay. Should I trust it?"}
{"id": "t3_4i24nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [27 F] (2y3m) - she has a lot of family drama going on", "post": "[Original](", "summary": "Girlfriend has a lot of family drama going on and doesn't have a lot of time for me. Am I being selfish or am I legitimate in feeling like I'm being left in the dust?"}
{"id": "t3_2b4255", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] am thinking about reaching out to my ex [24M] as a friendly gesture and need advice", "post": "My ex and I dated for over 5 years. We were best friends and had a lot of mutual friends. He was my first love and then started having an emotional affair with a girl in his class. The break up went on for months and it was really messy. We haven't talked in over a year and now I have a new boyfriend that has been living with me and things are going well. \n\nOne of our mutual friends has been my friend for the last decade. Recently, he was saying that I should reach out to my ex, that we should be friends or at least friendly and that he won't reach out to me because he thinks I still hate him (I told him I did when we were breaking up and that was one of the last things I said to him). The mutual friend is also thinking about having a birthday party in September and ex would be there. I hadn't thought about reaching out to ex in a long time, and am fine with us not talking. But I feel like maybe I should reach out just to be on friendly terms because it would be the adult thing to do. But I'm also scared that my current boyfriend would be upset by this. Idk I guess this mutual friend just got me thinking that maybe it's wrong to not at least be civil with each other after all the time we spent together. I can see from looking now that the girl he had the emotional affair with is still his top friend on his snapchat (I don't know if this should affect my decision). I really need advice.", "summary": "Basically just asking if I should reach out to my ex just for the sake of being friendly or if it's better to let it be."}
{"id": "t3_1z0lsk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my friend [17F] texting last 2 months, wants to meet up this weekend", "post": "I met this girl around new years and we exchanged numbers and have been texting on a daily basis for around 2 months. I just turned 21 recently and she will be 18 in about a week or so. She wants to meet up this weekend as my being in college doesn't allow to go back home much. Age of consent in my state is 16 but I'm still pretty nervous about the whole ordeal, I'm planning on just meeting someplace to get some food and call it a night. Are there any possible consequences I'm not thinking of legal or otherwise?", "summary": "Not sure about age gap"}
{"id": "t3_hiwpq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm a fraud.", "post": "This all started out quite a while ago. I think it was somewhere in early highschool. You know the typical discussion between guys talking about their girlfriends. Not wanting to feel left out you claim you have a girlfriend. Combine this with never really getting asked along to any party and not really know any girls that never really changed. I guess the source of that was my lack of self confidence due to getting bullied in elementary school.\n\nBut now quite a few years later I'm still building up on those stories. I'm in college now and keeping up with the tradition for engineering students I still don't have a girlfriend and I still come up with excuses to avoid social events (though I've been forcing myself to attend some things). I still tell lies all the time to claim I have a social life though I obviously don't. This is further complicated by running into a girl last year that I actually did like and somehow managed to start talking to. Tried asking her out several times and she always said no and came up with an excuse (even though she was becoming more and more friendly). Eventually I got pissed at that and told her to fuck off as she was clearly not interested in me and was probably only doing it to get help. Weirdly enough I managed to never tell a single lie to her. I still like her at this point but I know it's pointless yet I find myself unconsciously fixing my schedule in such a way that I run into her. To the few friend-ish people I have at college I claim it's cause it annoys her but really it's simply cause I still like her and have fake hope. The thing is, thanks to her I did notice I need to stop this entire cycle of telling lies and really become more social. I just don't really know where to start and how. Making all those lies come true seems rather hard or pretty much impossible so I doubt that's the way to go about it. So where do I start and mainly how?", "summary": "Been telling lies to cover my ass for about 6 years and now want to stop and get a real social life instead of a fake one."}
{"id": "t3_2j6ri3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by reminding my hubby his mom is dead.", "post": "In true TIFU form this wasn't today, but a few years ago around Christmas time.\n\nWe were having our company Christmas party and since I work with family my mom was also there. The ladies in my family are very fond of their wine and since we had a good year it was freely flowing. We had a great dinner then started slamming back the booze. At one point I even remember flaming shots of sambuka. \n\nMy mom gave me a lift home as I do not live far from her. I know we should have taken a taxi and considering she called me in the morning to appologize for leaving me at the restaurant neither of us were thinking clearly. \n\nOn the ride home me and my mom had a bonding moment, I cant recall what we talked about but I was streaming tears of joy down my face as I stumbled through the door of my apt. I slurred/exclaimed to my husband \" Oh honey I had the best talk with my mom. We had a bonding experience just now and you will never know how that feels...\" He stares at me like I just kicked him in the face. Knowing full well that his mom passed away recently, the only thing I could think of to say was \"Duuuude, I'm so sorry!\".\n\nNot only did hubby laugh it off, he said he knew I was sincerely sorry because I called him dude. He even held back my hair as I projectile vomited up buckets of wine, sambuka and a lovely roast lamb. Apparently lamb isn't so good coming up and that was the night I learned hubby is a sympathetic vomiter.", "summary": "reminded hubby his mom was dead then threw up."}
{"id": "t3_2d2vn2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my Boyfriend [26 M] I'm starting to feel like we've run our course", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 1.5 years now. We had a rather rough start but things started to really go well. I met him where I go to college so our relationship is partially long distance during my winter and summer breaks. The issues did not really start to appear to me until this most recent summer break. Our whole line of communication has really ceased to exist. We would hold a constant dialogue all throughout the day and just keep in touch because we really aren't around each other. I try to tell him about all the stuff that's going on. As of late we basically just talk for like 5-15 minute blips sporadically throughout the day. He's told me that he does not have anything to tell me yet out of all the time he spends browsing the internet you'd think he would actually find something. We also Skype with each other and often times it just ends up with the two of us staring at the screen (browsing the internet) silently. He'll have my full attention until he gets lost in his phone or starts playing a game.\n\nWe used to have this very strong line of connection and now it just really seems to be crumbling. He says he doesn't want to bore me with all the details of his day to day life. I guess I should stop showing interest then?\n\nThe next issue lies in the fact that he keeps bouncing on and off of this one dating/chat app. Every time I find out he's back on there his reasoning is that he was bored so he went back to it. He doesn't have many friends so I actually mentioned maybe using it and trying to find some friends while I am gone...maybe that was a bad idea on my part. He seems to be on there checking things more often than actually bothering to talk to me.\n\nI joined back up a few months ago probably to fill the gap of the lack of communication that I have with my boyfriend. I don't want either of us to be on there regardless of the intentions.", "summary": "He's been on and off a dating/chat app, I joined out of spite, and I'm starting to think it's time to just call it and end things. Yay, nay, or talk it out? Is it appropriate for me to ask him to get off the app?"}
{"id": "t3_1iqspn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After a painful breakup with my ex(m24) of 1.5 years, I(f20) need advice on how to or how not to remain friends.", "post": "Quick background: My ex (m24) broke up with me about a month ago and basically I (f20) have been a completely mess because of it. I also did the unthinkable and pleaded to get back and work around the differences but that hasn't worked out. Anyway, it seems like he is doing fine and messages casually every week or so, just to see whats up, hows work etc. I, on the other hand, do not want to talk to him as that sets me back a lot in my progress and gives me false hope that he wants to get back together. \n\nHow do I tell him that I'm finding this difficult because this sets me on edge and I end up crying pretty much all the time thinking about it.  Please help me come up with a way to convey to him that I just can't carry on this superficial friendship where I can't even be honest with my true feelings and that I will only talk to him if he wants to have a conversation about us.", "summary": "how do I tell my ex that I cannot be friends with him and that he should msg me only if he wants to talk about something serious i.e. us."}
{"id": "t3_2n8qz8", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Roofing Workers Are Suspicious and Possibly Fraudulent, What do i do? (TEXAS)", "post": "Hi, I recently hired a roofing contractor off of Craiglist (yes i know), and after signing a vague contract, paid them a down payment, they began work. (yes i realize this was not the best idea, but this is a first for me, and i learned my lesson the hard way)\n\nHowever, despite my lack of roofing knowledge, its evident that they don't know what they're doing, and are making the roof worse. After three attempts, they are still not complete with the job, and I looked up some information. \n\nFirst and foremost, they refuse to provide me ID when i asked, saying that \"it is personal, and unrelated to their task\", i didn't pursue this further, but is it legal to request ID from someone contracted to work on your property? and if they refuse, it is a reason to be concerned? \n\nSecond, they said that part of the contract was an insurance on the roofing, however, looking up the insurance claim, its fraudulent, and belongs to another company's name, they forged the claim, and it does not belong to them, what do i do about this?", "summary": "Roofing company not doing their job correctly, does not provide ID, gave me fake insurance guarantee, already taken a down payment, and still further requesting money, How do i proceed, and hopefully both get my money back, as well as warn others about their work. Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_yjvjr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "27/F about to go on a date with a 36/M doctor... I need advice on how to win him over.", "post": "Tonight, I'm meeting a doctor that I know from work for dinner (I'm a nurse).  We've hung out a few times, but never in this much of a date setting.  \n\nI'm interested in dating him but I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual. Anyway, I am normally fine in groups and even with other guys on dates, but when I really like someone, I get nervous, my mind goes blank and somehow I seem void of personality. Plus, I think his title intimidates me a bit.  I don't want that to happen tonight, so I need advice on what to talk about. What questions should I ask that aren't too prying?  And how much should I let him know about me?", "summary": "About to have dinner with a doctor that I'm interested in... help!"}
{"id": "t3_s817m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the worst first date you ever went on?", "post": "I remember this girl i really liked, i took her on a date to a butterfly and falconry centre. It was more of a wildlife park....fuck you, she liked animals i knew that so it seems like an ok thing to do during the day, with then plans to continue on afterwards if it went well :)\n\nWe pulled up in the carpark by the big sign and like an idiot i didnt see the warning signs coming from her. Looking back she was looking sheepish (pun intended) and gripping the car handle til her knuckles went white. I was like \"surprise!!\" all excited. Like a trooper she got out of the car and we went about our day. Weirdly for someone who likes animals she was pretty cagey (pun intended) throughout the whole day and then bam. We arrive in the butterfly house and thats when it all blows up in my face. It turns out she had a phobia of things that flap. She was wearing this turquiose top that was mecca for every butterfly in that place.... \n\nShe froze solid, screamed and legged it back to the car, where i couldnt do anything but laugh (i mean come on?!). Suffice to say we didnt carry the date on that night she was too traumatised. Also didnt see her again actually. Thinking about it, it was a shit date, not sure most girls would have enjoyed it!", "summary": "Shit hit the fan in the butterfly house"}
{"id": "t3_4hyugu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[28M] girlfriend[28F] moved in with a male roommate [28M] and started to get distant. Need advice?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for about 9 months, and its been rocky but we managed to work through it.\n\nDue to certain financial things on her end we decided to move in together but broke up and she moved out to stay with a friend. We were under a lot of pressure at the time with both of us losing our jobs at the same time; the companies we worked for went under.\n\n2 weeks ago we got together again and made up. It was great; I missed her and she missed me. We made love for days. She had also gotten work but it was a bit far from where I stayed and she moved in with a guy she met in the classified section looking for a roommate - she said she didn't have much choice and had to move quickly to be close to her new job.\n\nIt's been 3 days since she moved and her entire attitude towards me has changed. At first I couldn't get her off me, now she barley wants to talk to me or see me. She is spending a lot of time with the male roommate and it bothers me a lot, because even thought the guy is rather fat and not good looking at all I can see he fancies my girlfriend and keeps giving her things and is being overly nice. He seems to have some money, but wouldn't call him rich.\n\nHer car broke down and he even lend his other car to her, which is nice but the guy seems like over overly nice if that makes sense. She misses a few of my calls and disappears for hours and feels like she is insinuating she needs her space after we just gotten so close again, just out of nowhere. I tried talking to her about the situation and said how would she have felt if it was me living with a girl and just disappeared and seemed to have a real ball of a time with her and then kinda start ignoring my gf? Needless to say we got into a fight but we both apologized  but essentially the same issue persists. \n\nMaybe I'm just jealous but I'm really uncomfortable with the situation but at the same time that will push her away? So what the hell should I do? I love her.", "summary": "Girlfriend and i got back together but she moved in with an unattractive semi-wealthy male roommate and now it feels like she's pushing me away almost overnight. Need advice"}
{"id": "t3_14mnar", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [25/M] earn her [27/F] trust?", "post": "So this girl I've been dating for a few month has been through a terrible breakup with her ex, a former very close friend of many years, who suddenly ignored her for a month before telling her it was over, and he got a new girlfriend. She was obviously hurt and ended up getting a depression, which she is still recovering from. (But doing a lot better now). \n\nAs a result, she doesn't trust any guys at all, and she is afraid that I'll do the same to her and she can't go through it again. \n\nEverything is going really great when we are together, but she admitted to me that she several times wrote a \"breakup\" text message the day after we've been on a date, because she would rather break up with me before it got too serious. \nShe never pressed the send button, but she was apparently very close and had it saved as a draft. \n\nWe had \"the talk\" a few days ago were she told me all this. We both want to move forward and become a couple, but she is too afraid to let her guards down. \nI told her I'm not going anywhere, and I would keep dating her for as long as needed for her to trust me, but I don't know what else I can do.", "summary": "She doesn't trust any guys, I want to show her she can trust me."}
{"id": "t3_4cjhpe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25m) need advice with a girl (23f) I really like on how to maintain a healthy relationship.", "post": "I find myself in this stupid cycle with every girl I date. We hit the ground running and everything goes great for a while. Then as if a stupid switch is turned on in my brain I begin to find myself tripping over my words, making shitty conversation, and ultimately screwing up. I'm fairly introverted and one-track minded and I mainly blame this as the culprit. I'm a full time student who works two jobs so time to sit down and talk is not a luxury that I have most of the time. This makes me bad at maintaining frequent text conversations which in this day and age seems to be pretty much a deal breaker. \nSo the girl that I have been dating recently is amazing, an artist, loves to travel, funny, pretty much the whole nine yards. One thing that does suck is that she lives out of state, we have maintained what I view as healthy contact for the past month or so and we have visited each other a few times. But mentioned earlier I'm beginning to find myself in the same situation I always do. Making shitty conversation or saying something that makes me sound stupid. I don't know what to do. I know I need to be confident and relax I usually start out like this but I just lose it when I start having real feelings for someone. I hate it and it makes me want to live in a hole.", "summary": "I'm sort of introverted and one track minded. Pretty good at the initial part of dating but I lose it after a while particularly when real feelings get involved. The results are frustrating to say the least."}
{"id": "t3_t6gpt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Stuck in a perpetual cycle of yuck!", "post": "I am in the middle of the collapse of my (30f) 5 year relationship (41m). \n\nWe have an 18 month old together. \nI stay at home with the baby ,though I am trying to find work. \n\nAnyway, it's been not so good for quite some time now. His main complaint has always been I don't put out enough. Well, he doesn't give me any affection. It's a 2 way street. \n\nAt times, he is just an unpleasant person to be around. \nI am having a hard time even being attracted to him in this state . \nSo, sex has all but disappeared. \nMy last attempt at initiating sex was shut down faster than a drug deal at a police station. \n\nWe've tried counseling. I've left and cone back more times than I care to say. \nOur fights are getting nastier,close to physical a few times. I have a part in this as much as he does. \nI am starting to get a wandering eye and seek out attention from other men.\n\nOn paper,we make better friends than lovers. \nI just don't see it working and frankly,\nI'm tired of trying with him.\n\nMy problem is, he won't let me leave. \n\nEvery time we talk about splitting up,he tells me he won't let me leave with the baby, why do I want to break up our family,and so on. I do not in any way shape or form, want to keep our child away from him. \n\nI only have about $200 saved up so far. Which in California, ain't shit to live on. \nI am trying. The fact that I depend on him for shelter makes it a bit harder. \n\nI guess I need a pat on the ass or some advice on moving forward from here. Thanks.", "summary": "I'm done, I want to move on and have a chance at (all of us) being happy. Help me figure out how to do this!*"}
{"id": "t3_efwdd", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Help, I need a new bank.", "post": "Chase (formerly WaMu) will introduce new fees this February. One such fee will be leveled against us if we don't have $1,500 in our checking accounts every month. There is no mention of why these fees are being introduced. [This] is basically what the letter looked like. Don't know about you, but I don't have $1,500 every month to speak of (;wish I did). You might think, \"oh $10 fee, that's nothing,\" but if you're on a tight budget, then $10 buys you a week's worth of food, adds up to $120 over a 1-year period which is 4 tanks of gas, which gets me about 1,000 gas miles... So I'm going to terminate my account with Chase, and I'm looking for a new bank but I don't know what other banks are like... Are you satisfied with your current bank?", "summary": "FUCK CHASE. NEED NEW BANK. SUGGESTIONS?"}
{"id": "t3_39bc6n", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "America, we've done this before. Get some freedom and fight back like it's 1899.", "post": "In A Nutshell:\n\nThere was a time after the American Civil War (or War Between the States for you folks that call it an invasion), progressing through the late 1920s, that can be referenced when we talk about income inequality, neo-feudalism, failing infrastructure, and rampant corruption. A nation run by Robber Barons and corporate tycoons that funded political and business ideology through bribes, muscle, and private security. Harsh anti-voting laws in some regions and a fight between labor and the establishment. It started to crash down with the Presidency of Theodore Roosevelt, saw a quick uptake, and then came crashing down with the Depression and FDR.\n\nReplace the factories and rail road/mining tycoons of yore with cubicle farms and banking/technology executives today and you have the same thing. Income inequality, Super PACs, and corrupt politicians/courts just begging for a little campaign financing for next year. This time around, though, we seem a bit more complacent. It's troubling; especially as a veteran who came home and realized that the 'freedom' we had shoved down our throats is a dying brand, silently being whisked away by the (name Super PAC here). I'd say those who realize it, want to fight it, and desperately want to fix both income inequality and crumbling rights are more patriotic than those who sit back and just fester in anger at what the media tells them they should be mad at.", "summary": "History repeating itself, robber barons are back, we sit back and drink bad beer while yelling at Fox News or CNN. (At least drink craft beer while being discconected and lethargic)."}
{"id": "t3_r1ekm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it posible to make a new country?", "post": "Now this is a question that's been bothering me for a while. \n\n**Is it possible to make a new country? A country that encourages the advancement of science, development and application of new useful technologies?**\n\nIs it just a dream? To hope for a country that helps solve humanity's problems and lead us to further improvement and progress.\n\nI ask of you fellow redditors, professionals and hobbyists, to contribute to this thread with your knowledge and advice.\n\nI'd like to see for myself the important facts, steps to make a country, all legal requirements aswell as advice to possible location, political and juristical system.", "summary": "Things to remember:"}
{"id": "t3_1a3gm1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25m] Im at the point where I cant handle my girlfriends [26f] narcissistic ways, what do I do?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for roughly 17-18 months now, living together for about a year. We have plans to eventually get married, have kids and we both discuss it openly and comfortably.\nShe is very much closed off emotionally where as I wear my heart on my sleeve, so you can imagine how this causes a problem. If you look up narcissist online she matches it to a T (she has also looked into it and admitted it), the only time she does anything that shows she has thought of me is if it benefits her in some way. To give you an example, she started working out at a new gym but her old shoes gave her blisters, she asked if on my day off I could go and get her new shoes. I wound up spending 4 hours driving to different malls who said they had the right shoe, then when she gets the shoes \"theyre too tight, just return them Ill get them myself\", so I go home and I get a call \"I changed my mind, can you find me a size larger for tonight\", so my entire day off was consumed.\nTo test her, I asked if on her day off she could find me a yoga mat. I told her where she could get one and that I had one on hold and I got a \"I dont want to spend my day off doing that, just grab it on your way home\".\nThis is our relationship in a nut shell, when I try to bring up how I wish she was more supportive or showed that she cares her response is \"I come home to you, is that not enough?\"\nI'm at that stage of \"maybe she will change\" while knowing its probably over, I just dont know how to approach any of it. Help?!", "summary": "girlfriend is a narcissist, dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2pwsep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M], my girlfriend [17F] wants me to bring more emotion into our relationship, but she never has time, and I'm fine with how it is right now", "post": "Together for 3 months, go to the same school \nShe wants our relationship to have more emotion, but she never has time for me. We usually see each other in the school breaks for a few minutes, and on most Saturdays. If I'm lucky I also get to see her on Friday nights. Of course on Sundays (and most weekdays) it's always \"too stressful\" because she has to do homework that day. So when, after waiting for a week, I get to have some time alone with her for a few hours, I just want to make out with her, but apparently she wants to to more than that (However she very much gives me the feeling that it is very fun to her, too). How can I make our relationship more \"meaningful\" so she is happier with it?\n\nI have no experience whatsoever, and I appreciate any advice no matter how obvious it seems. She's by no means the love of my life or something like that, but I like being in a relationship with her.", "summary": "girlfriend wants more emotion in relationship, but never has time. I'm not looking for a meaningful relationship, but would like to make her happy."}
{"id": "t3_3zi9q2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling a Jewish kids religion 'Wrong'", "post": "This happened today in my science class first day after coming off of break. My teacher likes to play a game where we each talk about our winter break, and so, when it's my turn I say \"I celebrated the birth of my lord and savior Jesus Christ\" This gets a couple laughs, and my friend, Lets call him Edmund, says \"I'm Jewish, how does that make you feel?\" And so I spit back \"I think you're wrong!\" Edmund sits there, absolutely demolished, and the entire class goes crazy. I keep getting asked all day how tough it must be to be a savage, but the teacher didn't take it very well. He said it was an inappropriate comment. Afterwards I adked Edmund if he was fine and apologized, but he didn't care. After the period the teacher called us into the back room and talked to us about it. Edmund said it was just a joke, and I showed I learned from it and was sorry, but the teacher didn't care. He sent an email home to my parents.", "summary": "Made a Religious Joke to a  friend, friend didn't care but teacher did"}
{"id": "t3_2ay1ha", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you do when love isn't enough? 26(F) 27(M)", "post": "My boyfriend and I have decided, with finality, that we are breaking up. It's been about a year and a half. We love each other. We are still in love with each other. We cherish each other. We're best friends. We want each other. But we're too different. It's mostly to do with our sex drives and views on affection and intimacy. I described it at one point as him wanting a beloved friend, whereas I want a lover who is my best friend. \n\nThis is the most painful break up I have ever experienced, and it's only been a few hours. We live together, so there will be some time until we find new living arrangements. I care about him so deeply, I still want him in my life. There is no right or wrong, nobody did anything wrong. And it makes things so much harder. It makes it so much harder to leave. There's no clear line. We've been working on this major issue in our relationship from the very beginning, and it just never went away. It may have gotten a little better, but it's always been there. \n\nI really thought he was the person I would be with. I really thought he was my person. And that I was his. But it seems that's not how it ends. I feel so selfish because he's happy with our relationship - he's happy with me.\n\nHave you ever had to break up with someone because love wasn't enough? How do you know when it's the right time to go? How do you know you shouldn't keep working on it?", "summary": "Sometimes love isn't enough, and it really sucks when it isn't."}
{"id": "t3_3n1bnv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by driving drunk", "post": "My brother's girlfriend had broken up with him in order to focus on school.  This was his first and only girlfriend and he was really heartbroken by it.  As a good brother should, I went over to his condo with lots of alcohol.  For the next couple hours we proceeded to get drunk together while he was replaying what had been happening recently in his relationship.  \n\nAfter many different cocktails, we had the brilliant idea to go to the local pitch and putt since they had lights.  In my drunken stupor I completely missed the golf ball with my brother's pride and joy driver, and now I owe him a $500 club.", "summary": "Got drunk, tried to drive and crashed into the ground instead"}
{"id": "t3_3vogbh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Daddy issues. Need advice.", "post": "I realized this well into our relationship, but my boyfriend [23m] has all the negative qualities of my father. For a little background, my dad is an alcoholic. He was extremely controlling over my mom. He ended up cheating on her and leaving her. He now cheats on his current wife, and has hit her before. He doesn't respect women and has made that clear. I looked up to him a lot before I found all of this out recently, two or three years ago.\nI [20f] am now in college, in a serious, long-term relationship. My boyfriend has \"jokingly\" made comments about how women are inferior. He has admitted he doesn't respect women. He has verbally and physically abused me. He tells me not to wear makeup and what to wear. I love him so incredibly much, but I realized, recently, he has a lot of the negative qualities my dad has. My dad left our family and I don't want that to be the reason I stay with my boyfriend (as a kind of replay of what I went through before but more in control now). I just need advice.", "summary": "! My boyfriend is just like my dad. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_3ln0z0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [42 F] with my SO [46 M] of 15 years, in abusive relationship and thinking of cheating", "post": "Hi, thanks for reading. I'm confused and just need impartial internet advice.\n\nMy SO is abusive and takes advantage of me (acording to my therapist and my closest friends). We both come extremely abusive families and have trouble distinguishing normal relationships. It's an improvement from our childhoods. He is verbally and emotionally abusive, not physically and makes me feel like shit on a regular basis.\n\nProblem is I met someone else. At least someone who made me realize things could be different and makes me feel good. We are very attracted to each other, but purely platonic now. Nothing happened, not yet.\n\nI want to leave my SO, it's complicated. Can't explain details but I have to wait for at least one more year. Recently he's been trying to change, be nicer (1 month), maybe too late. There are so many issues, this is only one. Do you have any advice?", "summary": "I want to leave my SO and can't yet, met someone good, am confused."}
{"id": "t3_16lb1y", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most craziest lie that you've gotten away with.", "post": "I once pretended to be a big 1990's sitcom character( Psychologist) and emailed a 419 scammer( The Nigerian Letter Scams) pretending to be him..\nI managed to get another big TV character( A 1970's britcom hotel keeper ) to act as a lawyer/brother.. I had the lawyer go on a mental tirade involving a great deal of expletives.  The scammer sent me something along the lines of we no longer want to deal with that mad man.   He agrees to send his brother home..  I waste a day or two before sending them a letter telling them that the Psychologist was attacked by his brother with a tree branch and then used a car bomb to injure him.  I sent them a fake newspaper article with a IRA Car Bomb as the headline photo.  And they came back to me wishing me safe healing...", "summary": "Managed to convince a 419 Scam Artist that his customer was attacked by his brother using a tree branch and who then detonated a car bomb"}
{"id": "t3_3ylaie", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (25F) be dating my friend(27m) of 10 years? what if it doesn't work out?", "post": "we have been friends for the past 10 years (msn,facebook, now texting and phone calls) we both dated other people over the years and now we r both single. he told me, he wantS to be with me...I have had some really horrible relationships in the past and so has he but I really don't know if I should be in a relationship again.. I really like him a lot and I don't want him to know that cuz he seems to really like me too I don't wanna lose him as a friend in case being in a relationship doesn't work out... he keeps saying if im going to break his heart then I should stop talking to him but what if he breaks my heart?? he is a really nice guy but what if its all a lie and he is just showing me what I wanna see....", "summary": "Im really scared of falling in love with him.."}
{"id": "t3_4qhi58", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30F] am bothered by feeling that my coworker [31F] is being unfairly punished by our somewhat oblivious supervisor [40ish M]. I'm not sure if I should bring it up to the supervisor.", "post": "Our supervisor has every good intentions for coworkers. He is a good natured and caring person. However, his work style is somewhat unorganized and too trusting of the system because I believe how he is used to working. He is also very reserved and tend to not express his thoughts and concerns. My impression is that he tends to avoid talking things out.\n\nMy coworker, lets call her Mary, recently made the worst mistake that could have affected our company into millions of dollars of lawsuit. Mary was recently transferred/promoted to a new department. However, even though our nature of work is very sensitive and requires every attention to details, the department culture due to supervisor is, I believe, is too relaxed. She did not have any formal training to follow. She was just walked through what we do by another coworker. The mistake happened on the coworker's first go at the task. Unfortunately, the situation was just a little bit more complicated and she ended up making the mistake. \n\nThe problem ended up working out luckily. However, Mary was put on a week of no-pay dismissal plus 90 day probation. During the probation, she was asked to work on menial job for 90 days. The supervisor and Mary were supposed to sit down and talk about what exactly happened three days ago, but it has not happened yet. I told Mary that she deserves to at least share her side and talk about what happened for a couple of reasons; to bring it to attention that there needs to be proper training, also I feel it is her right to tell her side of the story.\n\nI only heard from her what happened. I intentionally avoided gossiping and talking about it with others. I feel strongly about telling my supervisor to talk to Mary. What I am worried about is that whether I am going too far or crossing a line. But I feel that since we work as a team, the conversation needs to happen.\n\nI also think it is possible that the supervisor may aware of the lack of training, therefore, trying to avoid his part of responsibility. But this is only my speculation. Am I going too far? What is the right thing to do?", "summary": "I feel that it is not fair for my coworker to be punished without proper means of conversations and ownership of the right responsibility by my somewhat oblivious supervisor. Am I crossing a line if I bring it to the supervisor's attention?"}
{"id": "t3_4p0hqe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20 F] met guy [20 M] on tinder, first date went very well, now he is disappearing", "post": "I met a guy on Tinder and we both clarified we didn't want a hookup so we swapped numbers/snapchat and talked for about 2 weeks almost non stop. We decide to meet and go to a movie. He pays for everything and we click. During the movie he holds my hand and is super sweet. After the movie we decide to go hang out at a local beach and we continue to have a great time. He keeps holding my hand and acts even overly affectionate for a first date. After an hour at the beach he says he has to get up early and we should go soon. He has his hand on my leg the entire ride back but when he leaves he says \"we should do this again soon\". Immediate red flag for me. \n\nI go home super confused and go to sleep. Wake up to a snapchat from him at 1 am saying that he \"had a really good time meeting me\". I snapchat him back in the morning saying the same. He sends one more snapchat that day and I respond but get no response back. \n\nI realize that I'm expecting a super fast response time but after spending 2 weeks talking non stop to barely talking at all; it's odd. Am I crazy or just missing something?", "summary": "Met a guy on Tinder and it went really well but now he is acting distant. Should I do anything?"}
{"id": "t3_s90gh", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boyfriend toubles...", "post": "Alright, so i've been dating this guy for a year. He's a really sweet guy, nice, hot body. None the less, I just want to confirm here that i'm not the bad guy here. I know I bitch at him a lot (i'm a woman it's how we show we care), but... oh here it goes. Were both 20, he acts like hes 16 a lot of the time. Whenever I see him he gets \"excited\" to see me and acts like an idiot. He screams out the window at people random things. I personally hate being in the center of attention and this really turns me off, quite frankly I find this behavior weird. Also when he gets \"excited\" he acts really hyper and I feel like i'm dating a child. Personally I get really irritated by people easily, but I swear to god he irritates me just for shits and giggles and whenever I ask him if he does that he just laughs. I don't get his sense of humor its just too weird for me. He's an only child and has been brought up with a silver spoon in his mouth, despite the fact that majority of his family lives on welfare. His parents give him everything and anything as well as his grandparents. He doesn't value work the same way I do and views volunteering and helping people as \"bitch work\". Alright so I guess you get the point. \n\nSo he wants to be with me for the long term and tells me he loves me all the time. I told him the issues i've been having in our relationship and he doesn't change anything. So Reddit, am I the bad guy here and being petty?  \n\nI've only been in one other relationship in my life, if it comes down to dumping him (which I plan to) how do I go about it so its not a disaster like my previous relationship was?", "summary": "Should I break up with my boyfriend? If so, how?"}
{"id": "t3_w6w5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I hadn't spoken to my dad (Who lives down the street) in about a week. Text him to find out what he is up to, and my Step Mom lets me know he moved to New York (We're in Utah) without telling me...What's the most insane thing someone in your family has done reddit?", "post": "So a little backstory, my Grandma lives in New York, and my Grandpa died.  She has 3 sons who live out there with her, but they are kind of jerks and not helping out as much as they can.  So my dad has loosely tossed around the idea of moving to New York...\n\nHowever he has a job, home, wife, car...you know everything here.  Well I texted my Step Mom (I said Dad but he doesn't really text) to find out what he and her were up to.  Usually see them every week at least...and she lets me know he moved to New York and left everything behind including HER! (She has a pretty legit job she can't just up and leave on.)\n\nOn the one hand I am glad what he is doing helping his mom out.  But on the other hand, I feel like it's just a little batshit crazy he didn't bother to tell me he was moving away, and left so suddenly. I'm kind of sad now because I won't be able to fly and see my Dad until at least next year...\n\nMy Step Mom won't be able to move out there for at least a year as well with the obligations they have here (taking care of the home they rent out, job, etc.)\n\nBut it is nice to see my dad do something spontaneous like this, he is not one to just up and really do something...especially if its completely change his life.", "summary": "Dad decided within the course of one week to just leave everything, and move to New York.  Didn't tell own son."}
{"id": "t3_4wheu5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Walking away from the relationship boundaries", "post": "in this scenario what would YOU do?\n\nGf gets dressed & leaves, without telling me, without reason, angrily, after I did not have sex with her when she wanted me to. Proceeded to block me and not explain after I asked her. Now, the next day, I'm in a hotel room which we had booked together for 10 nights, alone, not heard anything from her.\n\nI'm not perfect and she has accepted my flaws in the past. And it also feels a lot to just throw it all away and not work on it, at the same time where do I draw the line between accepting certain behaviours & not accepting others & walking away.\n\nI know it will be easy for you guys just to say walk away, the connection we have is extremely strong, and loving, but on the flip side, the arguments can be very unappealing and de motivating to the relationship.", "summary": "What would you do in this situation if you wanted the relationship to continue?"}
{"id": "t3_4813j9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shower, thinking I was alone.", "post": "So this happened about 20 min ago. I had gotten done with my quiet night of gaming and decided to take a shower before bed. As I was brining my dinner plate downstairs I noted my roommate was out and about. \n\nA little info: If I know my roommate is home, I will take my clothes into the shower with me and come out with at least pants on, out of courtesy for another person. If he is not home, I may or may not have boxers on, depending on how I feel. \n\nAnyway, after drying off I open the door, and there are two girls standing outside his room, which happens to be directly adjacent to the bathroom. I was definitely not wearing pants, or boxers. Aside from the brief awkwardness, I shrugged it off and walked to my room, down the hall a bit. \n\nI don't tend to get uncomfortable, as being in the military really prevents you from being shy. Can't speak for them though, they seemed shocked for sure.", "summary": "Roommate brought 2 girls home, accidentally showed my jewels to them, may have ruined his chances at getting laid."}
{"id": "t3_1jfk72", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20f) am scared the friendship I have with my best friend (20m) will eventually end because of our stubbornness.", "post": "I've been friends with him for years, I trust him with absolutely everything. We are so alike that sometimes it gets dangerous.. like with our arguments.\n\nHe refuses to accept he is wrong. He will fight until he is blue in the face until the other person (me) accepts that he is correct and I am wrong.\n\nOccasionally he would do/say something to hurt someone, without meaning to, and refuses to apologize. I have been in a situation where he said something he should not have, making someone feel very uncomfortable. His reason was that the person egged it out of him. When I told him the right thing to do was apologize because he hurt their feelings, he told me \"Why should I apologize when SHE is wrong?\"\n\nWhen he realizes he did something to make me feel bad, he'll apologize sarcastically upon my insistance and much arguing.\n\nI've learnt to stop arguing all together. When my opinion differs from his, I've learnt to just shut up. But recently, it's been getting harder and harder, and I feel like I'm starting to resent him because of it. I am very good with accepting defeat. The problem is, however, that when I *am* wrong, he makes me feel- without meaning to- like I should be ashamed for being wrong.\n\nI've spoken to him about this countless times but we are both so hard-headed that there is never any conclusion reached.\n\nHelp? :(", "summary": "I feel our friendship will die because of hurt feelings, if he cannot learn how to a) accept that he is wrong or b) accept that having different opinions is OK."}
{"id": "t3_4y9rli", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Any one kidney runners here?", "post": "Hi All,\n\nFor most of my life I've been slated to give my brother a kidney. We've always joked about it and never really thought of it too seriously, but now that day is close. \n\nI'm not a particularly fast runner or an expert by any means. I've ran a marathon, I'm training to run a faster marathon and I plan[ned] to do my first ultra this spring.\n\nHowever, I don't know if any of this is doable with one kidney. I don't even know if doing a full marathon is possible. I spoke to my primary about it (she's not a specialist on the matter) and I'll meet with a nephrologist in a couple of months for an expert opinion. \n\nI'm feeling kind of lost. Running has become a part of my life and has made me a better human being. It isn't something I want to give up and I selfishly wish this donor thing could be put off for another 5 years so I can attempt my pipe dream goal of a 100mi ultra. \n\nI'm just wondering if there are any one kidney runners here to give me hope and inspiration for years to come.", "summary": "I will donate a kidney in a few months, but want to run ultra marathons one day. I'm not sure this is possible."}
{"id": "t3_o7w0j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do I do with a cat that pisses only 1 spot inside?", "post": "I've got a neutered male cat who's 9 months old. When I got him, we was used to the toilet and everything, but now he's started to piss next to the litterbox. He goes outside by himself, comes back by himself, just like any other cat.\n\nIf I wake up at there's piss next to the litterbox, I might not have time to clean it up before I leave for work, so I'll need to clean it when I get home. Fair enough, no \"new\" piss has arrived (it's a stone floor, so it's easy to clean, and i doesn't smell when it's been cleaned). If I, however, clean before work at the cat wants to stay inside, he's pissed there again when I get back. This is the only spot inside he pisses. The rest of the piss is in the litterbox...\n\nSo, reddit, any ideas what I can do to make him stop pissing there?", "summary": "cat pisses 1 spot inside, what to do?"}
{"id": "t3_39uw91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] don't feel like my best friend [22F] respects me at all. She doesn't see her wrongs and refuses to apologize.", "post": "In short: Female friend massively pissed two of her guy friends off (me and my best friend) by letting us down after we'd planned something together for months, often rescheduling for her benefit and costing us a decent amount. \n\nShe's my best friend but I feel like this is a total lack of respect and she doesn't seem to understand why I'm mad at all. Her apology was one of those \"Can we stop arguing? I'm sorry. Good night.\" conversation-enders that don't really mean anything and right now I don't even want to talk to her. She's really fucked up and we have nothing to feel bad for but I feel awful for being mad at her and I'm struggling to not give in to her. She won't apologize - I know that 100%. \n\nIf i'm honest I'm kinda new to this. I haven't had many friends who I'm so close with that their actions affect my emotions and this is the first time I've ever felt so disrespected. What do I do?", "summary": "again: Friend pissed me and my best friend off showing a massive lack of respect for our time and effort and I'm struggling to stay mad at her even though I have a right to be. "}
{"id": "t3_2zpz5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[19m] have very low self esteem and need help.", "post": "Hello, i have very low self esteem for no logical reasons, after some time i figure out everything wrong with me and why it have happened and try to fix it, but theres no logic here.\n\nSo, i have almost always been shy kid. When i was little i always hid behind everyone. In middleschool i never rised my hand and was kinda shy. 3 years ago i moved to big city and within first months i only saw that i had low self esteem, but i didnt care cuz i had computer.\n\nRecently it only started to bug me(5 months now). I think that no girl would desire me and things like that, thinking why should i try to approach, cuz they will say no anyways.And like its too late for me and i will never find someone who loves me.\n\nI recently went to therapy and therapist was very confused why i had these thoughts. Girls and womans have said that im handsome and things like that, so i am not logical, but still theres problem. When i go to pub with 10-15 year older friends, i have 0 problems to talk and defend my opinion.\n\nAnyone knows good book for broken men?", "summary": "I have very low self esteem and was wondering if theres good book that i could read."}
{"id": "t3_2w106v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Paying Parents Back for College", "post": "So I had an idea about a unique way to pay my parents back for their help paying college tuition. I will be graduating in May with a good job and some disposable income. My idea was that considering my parents are in the process of moving, I would buy their next home. I should be able to foot the down payment with current savings and I already know that I have the ability to get a loan at the local bank. I would then charge my parents a small amount of rent to help offset some of the costs of the mortgage. \n\nBenefits: Parents don't have to pay for a new house immediately, they get a discount on their cost of living, they also recover some of their investment in my education. I get help building a credit score as well as have a laid out plan for paying my parents. I also conveniently end up with a house at the end of the mortgage. Finally, I get the benefit of being the \"landlord\" for renters that I trust with everything. \n\nSome other useful background: I will be moving to a big city on the east coast where I will be renting and my parents live in the rural Midwest. I have no desire to ever live in the home and would just sell it once they want to move out. \n\nSo my question is, does this make any sense or should I just pay them back in the conventional manner?\n\nI will monitor this thread closely (assuming I get any responses) to answer any other questions that you may have. \n\nThank you.", "summary": "Want to buy a house to start paying my parents back for college."}
{"id": "t3_3ltqth", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 23/F sabotage every relationship, friendship or romantic and subsequently hate myself for it", "post": "I am currently battling what is pretty sure to be depression although I often like to be in denial and claim to myself I am fine and don't need to keep going to therapy. \nNow I have been shutting people out recently, off Facebook, all triggered by a girl I was talking seriously to for a couple months who just cut me out of her life. I've been struggling to get past this and don't even know why it kills me being such a shirt relationship it makes me feel quite pathetic.\n\nNow I had a hard time opening up to her and letting her in but I decided to take a try. Yet she left me struggling to keep going and see the point in life. \n\nI guess I want to know does anyone else self sabotage relationships? I can talk to a new friend hang out once or twice but suddenly stop, I'll think we won't have a good time or it won't go well being out. And I will just flake on them or make something up not being able to go. \n\nMaybe this I related to how my mom was pretty emotionally abusive, thought she tried killing me, and died suddenly of an OD, and now I have just have what seems to be  serious issues of trust. \n\nI just have so many regrets how I have treated others blowing them off and continue to do so. I just can't make myself keep a bond...and it scares me I'll always be alone.", "summary": "unable to form lasting bonds, trust issues, probably depressed, self sabotage future relationships"}
{"id": "t3_30n9fi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] , and my grandma [65 F] have huge arguments about once a week so now I feel I can't tell her about my life", "post": "Okay so I live with my grandma and my mom and step-dad and little half brother/sister live in another house (close by though) \n\nthe agument start out with me ether me trying to tell my grandma about a problome I have in my life and then \n\nI getting annoyed at something she is saying then us talking about it back once or twice then her saying something inflammatory (something she knows will piss me off) \n\nI tell her I am getting mad so lets stop talking and then she expresses anger too and I ask her why she is angry and the response is always something along the lines of because you told me your getting angry and all I did was ask a few questions.\n\nThen we end up calling my mom who comes over and yells at me over what the oringal problom was saying the probloms my falt alone and it drills down into everyone just trying to hurt each other(including me witch I relize is wrong) and ends with me storming off to my bedroom\n\nand I apologize the next day for the hurtful things I said\n\nand never, EVER get and apology for the hurtful thing said to me.\nPlease give advice", "summary": "Grandma hates the idea of me feeling mad, EVER! and mom ignores the problome so I can't tell them anything anymore."}
{"id": "t3_135k0s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, when have your personal religious beliefs, or lack thereof, been most insulted or oppressed?", "post": "When I was about 13 or 14, I had a neighbor, a nice, polite, elderly man who was VERY religious. He kept asking us, every single week, if we wanted to go to church with him, and me and my mom always politely declined. I'm an Atheist, and my mom is Jewish, for the record. \n \nSo, during one holiday, I can't remember which it was, probably Easter or Christmas, he asks us to go to church with him, and when we once again politely decline, he insists that it was important that we go because it was a holy day. It was then that my mom explained that she was Jewish, which he was somewhat taken aback by, but quickly accepted. However, the moment I said \"I don't believe in god.\", he was very clearly offended. \n \nFrom that day forward, every single day, he would knock on our door and remind me that I was going to hell and that the only way that god would ever forgive me is if I accepted him as the lord. He didn't care whether I was Christian or Jewish or whatever, as long as I believed that god was the creator of all and that I submitted my soul to him. He would always end our conversation with a typical \"Would you like to go to church with me this Sunday?\" and when I inevitably replied \"no thanks\", he would reply with \"Then you're going to hell.\" \n \nWe tried to ignore it, since we didn't want to start any problems, but it became so persistent, we eventually told him to stop coming by and harassing us, and that we were entitled to believe in whatever we wanted as long as our beliefs weren't hurting anyone else. He refused to accept that, saying that belief in god is the only path to heaven and that if you don't believe in him, then you will suffer in the fires of hell for eternity after you die. After that, we never spoke to him again.", "summary": "Old religious man finds out I'm an Atheist and harasses me every day that I'm going to hell until I finally told him to leave me alone."}
{"id": "t3_3fqzid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/F 16] Ex and I are friends and she broke up with me, but has trouble moving on(?)", "post": "So a little bit of background, my ex and I met freshman year of high school and started dating soon after (2013). For 2 years we actually had a pretty serious and (especially for 14-16 year olds) long term relationship.\n\nAbout a week and a half ago, she broke up with me unexpectedly, saying that there was nothing wrong, she \"just didn't feel it anymore\". I outright asked her if there was someone else and she said no, so I believe her; this girl couldn't lie about her favorite color. We spoke a bit to finalize the breakup and what was going on but still wanted (want?) to be friends so she took a week of space.\n\nIn that week I took a few days to grieve, and then moved on: I've dealt with an unfortunate amount of loss for my age so I've gotten pretty good at pushing feelings aside and moving on. About Thursday/Friday my ex and I were talking again and everything was just fine, until Sunday.\n\nOver the last few days we'd both been talking about random stuff and at one point we'd both been talking about future romantic relationships, and we were both just fine. She had no problem with the idea of me having romantic relationships with other girls, but I mentioned that I wasn't looking for another romantic relationship and instead would probably just go for short-term, casual, physical relationships.\n\nShe was NOT happy about that. She got upset and said that she was uncomfortable with that and then that she \"needed space\", and hasn't texted me again since.\n\nAnyone have any idea what's going on? She's the one who broke it off and the one who wants to be friends so badly, and she's ok with me being emotionally attached to another person, but not physically? I don't want her to be uncomfortable, but at the same time if she's not going to be my SO then I don't think it's fair for her to dictate who I am and what I do.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me and we became friends at her request. I got over it and she was fine with the idea of both of us having future romantic relationships, but I said I was planning on more short term, casual relationships. She was not happy and \"needs space\". Again."}
{"id": "t3_2xiko5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[24/M] feel like I'm in love with my best friend [20/F] who is also dating my other best friend [24/M]", "post": "So I need advice on what to do. Taking a step back I feel I'm going down a very creepy road.\n\nI started working with my one friend [24/M] back when we were both 20ish in college. We became friends, but never really all that close. Then the [20/F] started. I found her attractive, but thought nothing of it. Eventually after a year or so they started dating and have been for 1.5 years now. Things were good. I would hang out with them in groups or just us 3 and never thought anything more of it. We all became very close hanging out several times a week (mostly in groups). Well back in October I had some personal issues and she was really there for me. \n\nThis is when I believe things begun to spiral out of control. At this point I had known her for years, but never thought of her like this. Instantly it was a like a switch got flipped and I fell in love with her. I found myself thinking about her all day everyday. I would ask to hangout just so I could see her. Hell when hanging out with her and her bf, I noticed I would even shift all my attention to her and would have to purposefully include him in the convo because I didn't want them to catch on. I constantly want to know I'm her best friend, the person she talks to the most outside of her bf, etc... I get a sense of joy if I see her liking my stuff or favoiting it on social media and upset if she skipped over it.\n\nAs you can see this is getting very very out of hand and I have no idea what to do. In fact I've NEVER been like this with other girls. If I observed this as a third party I would think this is super creepy and an obsession. \n\nWhat do I need to do?", "summary": "In love with my best friend, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2d0b7o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Ex [23/f] said i [23/m] wasn't compatible enough with her after a rough summer...advice?", "post": "Throw away account- just need some advice.\nMy ex and I had been together since December.  We attend the same school, are both intelligent and ambitious, see eye to eye on religion and politics, etc.  During the school year, we were great.  I am an energetic, driven, compassionate person, always laughing, smiling, etc.  She is a little more laid back, but as driven and motivated as I am.  We always had great conversations about deep stuff, but tended to stay away from talking about our relationship because both of us were happy.  \nWe were very happy until June.  I had started a part time job (we both were working internships, but mine was unpaid) to help pay the bills.  \nIt made me extremely unhappy- I was always tired, I stopped laughing, we stopped having in-depth and difficult conversations like we did before I started the job.  In essence, I didn't feel like myself.  I didn't realize, but she did and didn't say anything to me.  During this time when things started being different, she house-sat for two weeks (and we only saw each other twice).\nWe broke up because she said our personalities, based on the problems that arose this summer, just weren't compatible.  I tried to convince her that it was just because I was so unhappy because of the job, and that things would change now that that is over (in fact, I am already starting to feel like myself again).  But she said it was a gut feeling she couldn't shake, and ended it.  \nNow I'm left wondering if I can, and if I should, try and show her that our relationship over the summer was just a rough patch and that it would change moving forward.  And if so, how I go about showing her that I am different now, and more like before the summer.", "summary": "I love my ex and she loves me, but doesn't think it can work because we aren't compatible.  We were fine before the summer, and hit a rough patch.  She sees that as not compatible; I see it as things we can smooth over.  Advice on how to, or whether I should, try and change her mind?"}
{"id": "t3_1obff3", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Parking lot revenge", "post": "Today the kid and I went to Target. We were driving through the parking lot and stopped to let a lady with a shopping cart full of stuff cross in front of the store. She didn't even look before she crossed to make sure we were going to stop, but whatever. So she kept walking down the aisle that we turned down to try and find a parking space, but she was walking kind of in the middle so that we couldn't really go past her. We had to just creep along behind her until she finally got to her car and we could finally go past. When we did I noticed that there were several empty parking spaces on the next aisle, including the spot right in front of her car. Now, I know that whenever I'm in that situation I just pull straight on through instead of having to back out. So I hurried down to turn around at the end of the aisle, came back up the other side, and parked right in front of her car. Then we just sat there until she got in her car. That got a nice little butthurt look out of her :-)", "summary": "Splattered a rude lady in the parking lot because she wouldn't move."}
{"id": "t3_3n41m8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to get my car out of the snow", "post": "This was a few years ago. After a heavy snowstorm I got my car stuck in snow while taking my brother to school. I was turning an uphill corner where plowing had piled up a lot of snow and ice. I lost traction and couldn't coax the car around the corner. The rear wheels were spinning. I tried to back out but the spinning had dug ice divots under the tires. I put my brother in charge of the gas pedal and I got out to push. I tried to rock the car forward or back, but the tires just kept spinning and smoothing the ice.\nI had a long wooden snow brush with an ice scraper on one end. I took it and jammed it between the tire and the ice with the idea that the car would \"drive up\" the wooden brush and out of the divot. I started pushing on the car and told my brother to hit the gas. \n\nI watched in super-slow-mo as the tire caught the snow brush and rail-gunned it at my leg. The plastic scraper end tore a hole in my jeans and took a small piece out of my calf. It could have been so much worse. Eventually some guys in a truck helped us push the car out sideways. We gave up and went home.", "summary": "Made my car into a pitching machine and pitched a wooden brush into my leg."}
{"id": "t3_2sz2dk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cutting my balls open.", "post": "This actually happened a couple days ago. \n\nSo it was just a regular ol' day and I was outside skateboarding with a friend. I was practicing some trick that I don't even remember, and I was explaining to my friend that it was quite dangerous. The next thing that happened, (quite ironically I might add) was I jumped, and the board went vertical to the ground, and as I came down my legs landed on both sides of the skateboard. Needless to say, I sat down for a bit. After a few minutes I went inside to assess the damage, and almost passed out. There was blood all over the inside of my legs, and a large gash in my ballsack. I yelled for my father, stating \"I may have to go to the hospital.\" \n\nAfter we got there and the doctors had taken a look, they decided all it needed was a few stitches! So I lay there, holding my balls as the doctor sewed them up, wincing as the needle went in and out of my balls. \n\nWord of advice, maybe it isn't such a bad idea to wear a cup skateboarding.", "summary": "Invented a new skateboard trick called the \"Ballsplitter.\""}
{"id": "t3_1bjt5s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you think you're capable of cruelty? What if your brain changed so that you get intense pleasure from inflicting pain on others?", "post": "So we've probably all done things in our lives that we thought were wrong, and clearly just the belief that it was wrong wasn't enough to stop us.\n\nPresumably the desire to act outweighed the desire to do the right thing. But how far could that go?\n\nSuppose you had the opportunity to do something that (for the purposes of argument) we can all agree is properly wrong, like torturing a dog or a cat. Suppose you knew that if you did this, no one would find out, so there are no possible repercussions for you.\n\nOrdinarily the thought of doing this would be awful, but suppose your brain changed slightly, in such a way that gave you great pleasure and joy from torturing animals.\n\nPerhaps some of us think it's wrong to continue smoking, but the desire to have a cigarette can be so strong that it overrides our moral code. We bargain with ourselves and say \"Well, maybe just this once.\"\n\nPerhaps some of us believed that pre-martial sex (before you finish your karate training) or masturbation was wrong, but the desire to do it was so great that it defeated our commitment to be moral. We convince ourselves and say \"Well, maybe it's not *so* bad.\"\n\nSo what if you were changed so that you received intense pleasure from torturing animals? Even though you believe that it's wrong, would your strong desire for pleasure force your hand? There seem to be so many other times in our lives where exactly that happens.", "summary": "A hydrogen nucleus pukes in your brain and you now get intense pleasure and joy from torturing a dog/cat, but you still think it's wrong to do. Do you think you could stop yourself?"}
{"id": "t3_ykq9j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found out my girlfriend has another boyfriend (we're both 17)", "post": "I've been going out with a girl for about 3 weeks now (We live in New Zealand, she's here from Mongolia). It was going great until a few days ago, when she started acting really distant, not texting nearly as much and seeming quite uninterested when she did. \n\nToday she requested on facebook that we list each other as \"open relationship\" (note: she didn't message me, she just change it). I asked her what was going on, and after talking for a while she finally told me that her parents (who live in Mongolia) found out and thought she was cheating. \n\nThis is when I found out that she has a boyfriend back in Mongolia. I asked why she didn't say earlier, she responded \"why didn't you ask?\" She tells me that she does still want to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure. Any advice?", "summary": "Girlfriend says she has boyfriend back in Mongolia, not sure if I should continue with relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1674fs", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Having second thoughts about speed of things... Me [F/24] + FI [M/23]", "post": "The short of the long is that I have moved to the US on a fianc\u00e9 Visa, and we have to get married within 90 days of me moving into the country. We have been engaged for about a year now!\n\nUntil recently, this wasn't an issue with me, however I am now having doubts about being ready for all of this; getting married, moving countries, etc. I am not allowed to work for about four months after we get married, which makes financials very difficult, and school here costs a fortune compared to where I'm from.\n\nI can't help but feel like I may have jumped the boat too soon and part of me wants to go back home for a while longer, work some more, and possibly postpone the wedding [1. Until we are financially comfortable, 2. I'm not sure I'm ready.]. Another problem with this, is  that moving back home would null my Visa, and potentially ruin chances of getting another one for a while! Should I suck it up, get married on paper, and start building my life here? OR leave and risk it?\n\nMy other problem is I am very much a family girl. I find it very difficult to be away from my family for long periods of time. I dont' know if this is something I'll ever grow out of. FI does not want to live in my hometown, but I'm not sure I'll be able to live in his for an extended period of time.\n\nFI lives at home, with his parents. I am currently living there with him, as neither of us have steady income [I don't have any at all, really.]\n. I realize that it's going to take a while to get atable, no matter what we do, but I feel as if I have more opportunity to do so slightly quicker back home. Note: FI is willing to try long distance, but doesn't seem t keen or hopeful about it [not that I expect him to be thrilled, just mostly hopeful and like it wouldn't be the end of the world!].\n\nNeedless to say, there is a lot to be thought of, but I really don't know where to start or what to think!", "summary": "Things moving faster than I am comfortable with, broke, and visa problems!"}
{"id": "t3_4amoxp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] super confusing situation with this girl [21f] need your advice por favor", "post": "So there's this girl I've been into for a while and I've been suspecting she feels the same. We've done light stuff like making out, ect. in the past, but she's had this on and off boyfriend for the last 2 years and she's known him for way longer than she's known me.\n\nRecently, we were drinking together and one thing led to another. We ended up on her porch making out and I told her how I felt. She told me she had feelings for me also and that she liked the thought of being with me more than her current bf.\n\nProblem is, she's leaving in four months to grad school and won't be anywhere near where we both are now. She's not sure what to do with the whole situation, neither am I. What do I do?", "summary": "Girl has boyfriend. Girl says she likes me now. I like her too. Girl's leaving forever in four months. What the fuck dog"}
{"id": "t3_2c0n8r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my FRIEND [18 F] for over a year, not sure if I want this", "post": "We met at the movies through our mutual friends. Later, we end up sharing stories and just getting to know each other. Boom. We just had became best friends. I had to admit, I didn't really find her as attracting as I am now. I was just comfortable telling her my how my day went, sometimes competitively play video games together and even going out with our friends. Since Valentine's day, she asked if we could go out to the movies. Thinking other people might show up, just her. As she was getting into my personal space, I did not think at all about her as a friend but as a whole different person. Knowing that I didn't have a Valentine's date before, she wanted to change that and that's where things go wrong. It is now July and we've been going on \"dates\". Out of no where, we have started to say \"I love you\". I'm not sure if this is what I wanted. We're not even considering each other as boyfriend/girlfriend and I'm wondering if I should push ourselves to be less intimate. She has been less open and is not taking as much interest in me. One day I feel like that is the problem and boom, she proves me wrong to just only have me come to that same conclusion. It is just like a roller coaster of wat.", "summary": "All in all, should I bring things back to the way it was before Valentine's day, progress into our relationship and get serious? I'm open to here alternatives. I do care about her."}
{"id": "t3_19suz6", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (25/F) starting to date a guy (27) and I don't want to make the same mistakes", "post": "Here's the story: We met 6 years ago at his ex's house, who I was staying with because she's my dear friend. For all that time we liked each other but never did anything about it 'cause it'll feel weird. Last friday, my friend (his ex) was hosting a party and she invited us. She kept saying all night how cute he thinks I am, how he always talked fondly about me and what not. At the end of the night, she made us kiss and so we did. After that our whole relationship changed and my enormous crush on him was out in the open having a blast. We kissed 'til the morning light. He's sweet, sensitive, smart, funny and I spend the best time with him.\n\nThe thing is that I broke up a 2 year relationship with a guy 5 months ago because of the distance and loss of interest. When I say lost of interest I mean I lost all interest because he was 28 with no job and no degree and no nothing, I wanted to get married, have a family and lots of things but he didn't moved his ass out of the computer; I even helped him get up his chair and he fought me for it. Now I'm scared the same thing will happen with this guy 'cause he has a crappy-3-days-a-week job and also no degree. \n\nI've never been so crazy about anyone in my life, not even the guy I spent 2 years of my life with. I don't know what to think. Can somebody help me clear my mind?", "summary": "I'm scared that the new guy I'm dating will never get a job and we'll have to break up 'cause of that"}
{"id": "t3_1euwyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [m21] is making us take a week-long break to \"figure things out\" and I [f21] don't know what to do", "post": "So I met this guy about 8 months ago while studying abroad in England. We were inseparable while we were there, and even when we both returned to America (we live on opposite sides of the country) we still talked every day and skyped to keep the connection alive. It's basically like being in an open LDR. Which is fine, and for the most part I am happy with our relationship. The only problem is that I suffer from depression, and when I feel really depressed I have a hard time talking to anyone, much less Ben, who craves deep conversations and high-quality discussions about our lives.\n\nWhen I don't want to talk, he gets angry and frustrated with me, which makes me mad because I just want him to support me and be there, even if I don't feel up to having serious talks with him all the time. He just constantly wants to discuss our feelings and I really get bored and annoyed by those kinds of talks.\n\nIs there any way this could work out? Feel free to be harsh with me, I really just need unbiased advice over whether I should suck it up for him or just break it off because it will never get easier.", "summary": "Sort-of boyfriend wants to have lots of long relationship talks and I hate them."}
{"id": "t3_160un4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] discovered husband [28m] had an affair - not sure what to do from here.", "post": "Throwaway because my spouse is a redditor and knows my regular username. I am 25 and he is 28, we've been married for five years.\n\nI recently found out that my husband was having an affair with a married woman at work - it lasted about two months. I'm obviously devastated, especially since we have a child already and I'm pregnant with our second.\n\nHe denies any feelings for her and says that the affair stemmed from his desire to feel needed and wanted, and that he's always been a people pleaser and just didn't have the balls to stop it without disappointing her. Once I found out, he finally got the motivation to cut her off completely.\n\nThat's his story, anyway, and it matches up with the things we've been uncovering about him in marriage counseling. I just feel so uneasy about that because it seems too convenient. The other woman was sending me texts and forwarding me things all in an attempt to show me how sweet he was to her (I've since blocked her), while he denies meaning any of it. Am I supposed to really believe that he didn't mean a word he said to her, but means everything he says to me?\n\nHe says he loves me and wants to fix everything, and he's been really committed to counseling and making positive changes in our marriage. I'll even admit that in general, our marriage seems to be better now in a lot of ways. I just have this nagging feeling that he was able to fool literally everyone in his life (the few that know about this have been completely shocked). \n\nI have zero experience with this myself or among my friends. Is it really possible for a guy to just \"fall into a dark place\" for so long and then snap out of it? Is it possible for a guy to fake genuine feelings for someone without meaning a word, but still be genuine toward his wife? \n\nAm I an idiot for trying? Can this even be turned around at all? I should add that he has a past history of dishonesty that I am always wanting to believe he has changed.", "summary": "Husband cheated. I have a hard time accepting his reasoning for things without fear of being with someone who is fake, and I'm wondering if there's any point in trying."}
{"id": "t3_30bi5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my crush [21 M/F], a former group member. Should I ask her out, even though we barely had any 1 on 1 conversations?", "post": "Alright so four other classmates and I are assigned were assigned a group project to do last week. During that time, I started liking one of my team members; even though we didn't have that much 1 on 1 time with each other, I still felt attracted to her personality and smile (She always smiles when she is talking).\n\nNow the actual project was completed it a few days ago, so realistically speaking there's not a lot of reason to continue talking to my team members (We weren't friends before this group project). However, I want to at least hang out with/date the girl that I like to see if we get anywhere.\n\nMy school term ends next Friday (so next week is the last week of classes). After that are exams which ends approximately at the end of April. I don't want to ask to hangout around this time since school is wrapping up and a lot of assignments are due around this time. Similarly, exams are next month so I don't want to bother her then.\n\nTherefore, I was thinking of asking her to hangout after exams (We're friends on FB, so I found out that she lives in the same hometown as me via her profile).\n\nTwo issues are holding me back: 1. I haven't really talked to her a lot, or get to know her. I was hoping to do this via dates/hanging out. I'm not sure if this order could work though (Normally people get to know each other a bit first, and then start hanging out).\n\nYes, amazingly enough we live in the same hometown, but I'm worried that she would find it weird to hangout with a team member she doesn't really know back in our hometown, let alone at university.\n\nSo, question time: Should I ask her out in the first place? If I am going to ask her out, is my method a good one? Or is there another way to ask her out?\n\nThanks everyone for the tips.", "summary": "Should I ask out my crush who barely knows me (through a school project)? If so, what is the best way to do it given that there's only one week of classes left before exams?"}
{"id": "t3_44nmn4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27F] think a friend [28M] of mine might be into teens. Another friend [28M] suggested we \"catfish\" him.", "post": "Throwaway because he's an avid redditor and I don't want there to be any connections to me or my other friend whatsoever. We were at his house playing on Steam and while he was in the bathroom we went to the search bar to find the title of another game. It was then that we saw an endless list of sexual teen... everything. I know there's a lot of barely legal porn out there but the searches implied the he was looking for something more. But, neither of us feel comfortable going through his private info and we're confident if we asked him directly of course his answer will be no. \n\nWe were thinking of making a fake profile and seeing if we \"revealed\" ourselves to be underaged in a conversation he would still try to get with the fake girl. The way we see it is, if he bites, it'll suck that we have a friend who's sort of a pedophile but we'll have something to go to the police with. If he doesn't bite then the worst thing that can happen is that our friend is just really REALLY into hairless college girls. \n\nI've never catfished before so I don't know where to even begin finding images and such, but whatever. What do you think?", "summary": "We think our friend might be into the wrong kind of teen porn and we were thinking of catfishing him to confirm."}
{"id": "t3_1eyigc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend degrading to just a Friend in my mind.", "post": "Ok, so here's a bit of a story and what's happened. I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. When we first started dating, I was really into her, and the more we got to know each other the stronger we felt about one another. About a month back though, I have started feeling different about her. Don't get me wrong, i care for this girl greatly, but I'm not sure I do in the same way she cares for me anymore. In my eyes, my girlfriend has become just an awesome and unforgettable friend. Same interests, same humor... But I just can't see her as my girl anymore. So, the dilemma I face is this: I love her, but not intimately and not in the way I should love a girlfriend. I like hanging out with her, but only to just hang out with her. I like talking to her, but only about silly, unimportant things. When I kiss her I feel a little weird, like kissing one of my friends. We barely have sex anymore, mostly because I avoid it due to these feelings. She still loves me a lot, and I don't know how to react. So, what I'm asking for advice on is this: How can I express this to my girlfriend without losing her as a friend? How can I tell her this without hurting her badly? (She has told me she never wants to lose me, and has cried over that subject, so I am also scared to break ties with her in fear of hurting her badly.) Any advice will help at this point.", "summary": "Girlfriend has become more friendship than serious relationship to me. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_3ey18v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) have a great relationship (~7 months) going with an older woman (39F). There's just one problem. Her dog.", "post": "We stimulate each other emotionally, sexually, and intellectually. Our relationship is probably the best I've ever had, and she's recently said as much to me. We're not in a super-long distance relationship, but we do live about an hour apart. Every couple of weekends I stay with her, and weekly we meet for dinner a couple of nights. It works for us since we're both very accomplished yet busy professionals and need a more \"casual\" relationship in which we aren't all up in each other's shit all the time. It's perfect, but for one thing. She won't stay at my place.\n\nSee, she has this dog. And it's an awesome fucking dog, love chilling with him. But my apartment isn't pet-friendly, so she can't bring him to my place. So, unless we're meeting for dinner, I literally ALWAYS have to go to her place. She won't even consider coming to mine because she can't bring the dog. Not to stay over for the night or anything... Just for the day, she won't come. I get it, you have to take care of him. But she watches dogs over the weekend for her neighbor constantly, finds him foster parents whenever she travels for work (week-long events) and vacation (two weeks was the most recent). She's going to visit her dad for a week, the week of my birthday next month, and has him a place to stay.\n\nBut asking her to spend the weekend with me always has the dog as a non-starter. Am I being selfish in asking her to find him a sitter for one night? Or is something more at play here? Is she possibly using him as an excuse to not come? I assumed I'd be able to tell, but we have ZERO intimacy issues and are usually very forthright with each other, which is one of the reasons I like her so much.\n\nGuys, what am I doing wrong?", "summary": "Is my girlfriend's dog actually coming between us getting closer?"}
{"id": "t3_13irxy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I recently realized that college simple wasn't for me. In what ways have you disappointed yourself?", "post": "I was always a pretty good student throughout my public school life (A's and B's, got along great with all teachers and students) but I have always been a lazy bastard, too. Because I grew up doing well in school it was kind of understood that I would go to college and go on to be a professional of some sort (Started out majoring in Comp Sci, switched to Comp Info Systems). \n\n When I finally graduated from High School I couldn't wait to go off to school, I was going to have the whole experience of living on campus in the nicest dorms the school offered and it was going to be great. Pretty quickly it just became more school, I figured it was best just to muscle through it and make it work. But now that I'm in debt, and more stressed than I ever have been in my life, I realize that I really just hate school. I also realize that if I choose to continue I will have another 5 years (at least) of debt and stress ahead of me, all for a career that I am only kind of interested in (Computers are the closest thing I have to a passion).\n\n  For the first time in my life the thought seriously popped into my head that I didn't have to go to college. I didn't have to put myself through this. I hate myself for not liking school, and I can't help but worry that it will make things harder down the line, but the thought that I actually have a real choice for the first time in my life is just liberating. My whole family supports me (a mix of college grads and high school grads) and they say that I should do what makes me happy. They also reminded me that I have plenty of time to go to school and make decisions later in my life.", "summary": "Even with the support of my family I hate myself for not liking school. Have you ever disappointed yourself?"}
{"id": "t3_1bgz6s", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Advice needed. Thinking about putting my dog (4.5 YO medium size) up for adoption.", "post": "Throw-away here. My ex-boyfriend and I bought a dog together when we were together. We broke up January of 2012 and I received custody of her. We adopted her when she was just 8 weeks old. I've been toying with the idea of putting her up for adoption since we broke up because I feel like I cannot care for her like I used to when I was living with me ex. I would let him have her, except for the fact that he is a sociopath and we did not exactly have a healthy relationship. \n\nI've been living on my own since July of 2012. I feel pretty disconnected towards her, and seem to be getting angry with her. I do not want to be angry with her, and I do NOT hit her (I want to make this very clear), but I find myself getting more and more irritated. She always sleeps on the bed with me, but for some reason especially over the course of this last weekend, I couldn't sleep with her at the end of the bed where she ALWAYS sleeps. I kept having to tell her to get down because I was uncomfortable with her being there and I couldn't sleep. \n\nIs there a way I can fix my relationship with my dog, or would she be happier with another person (maybe family) that can give her happy attention instead of being annoyed of her 80% of the time? I know I'll be sad when she is gone, but it would seem selfish of me to continue to care for her when I feel annoyed with her most of the time.", "summary": "Been thinking about putting my dog up for adoption after break-up with sociopath ex boyfriend because I've been finding myself becoming irritated of her easily. Can I fix myself, or would she be happier somewhere else?"}
{"id": "t3_54i4j1", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Small lump on base of skull.", "post": "It's very small (like, a couple of mm in diameter) and about 2 cm to the left of the centre of my right ear. Wasn't worried about it, looked it up when I first noticed it like a couple of months ago, checked again and its still there. Pushing it is painless, it's kinda squishy.\n\nJust found another one I think? It's like, less than a mm in diameter, about half a cm from my right ear and also painless and squishy. Think it's near a vein or something, pushing the area down like... does something. I don't like biology much.\n\nI was ill with something a while ago and didn't go to a doctor about it (since I'm in the uk maybe I should've taken advantage of it) and it was the illest I've been in my life that I remember. Kept going to school which didn't help. From what I remember, throat was super painful, and walking home gave me super painful headaches. Also had like, slightly white things in my throat? It was kinda like strep throat I think, but not super like it. Only thing that might be linked somehow. Thing is, the lump appeared a while after it- several months.\n\nNo other symptoms with these lumps. Just wanna see possible causes, since googling them isn't giving me super clear choices.", "summary": "small painless squishy lump near right ear, been around for 2-3 months, doesn't seem to have grown, possibly another one near it. Also, I'm 16 and female."}
{"id": "t3_4qun04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice for when I [26 M] meet my girlfriend's [24 F] of 5 month's parents?", "post": "We met on Tinder, and things have been going swimmingly so far- we both regularly say I love you and have discussed we are not just dating for run.\n\nOne thing she has mentioned before is that she hasn't told her parents we met on Tinder. She says that she'd rather say we met via mutual friends or whatnot since her parents are more traditional and not don't really have a good idea of what Tinder is (or understand the very wide range of ways people use it) I'm going to her parent's place for 4th of July and I'm just wondering what the best thing to do is here.\n\nI'd also appreciate any other advice in general since this is a first for me.", "summary": "Looking for advice for when I meet my girlfriend's parents."}
{"id": "t3_37fjm7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why wont my husband sleep with me? Why is his hand the winner? 7 years [25F] [26M]", "post": "He is loving kind and takes care of us. He just rejects me sexually. Cuddles are great and plenty, but sex is once a month at best. \n\nWhy? He masturbates 3 to 5 times a week. Why is his hand better than me? \n\nHow can I fix this? Consoling is a no go, and divorce over this is dumb as my libidio is low. Im just hurt from rejection and him loving his hand more than my own body. \n\nHe wont tell me why. He acts embarrased. \n\nNo, he isnt gay. I translate gay graphic novels for a living... Im jot exactly close minded and he would tell me. Plus we live in San Francisco... great place to be out and about. \n\nSo, what is it? Why does he never want me?", "summary": "Husband jerks off a lot but sex with me is rare. Any other spouses like this? Why does my husband not love me sexually?"}
{"id": "t3_2h5uqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (22) is really stressed. And I (21) don't know how to help.", "post": "My girlfriend (22) and I (21) have been dating for 3 years now.  We love each other and spend as much time with one another as possible. But when school is in session things get a little bit more difficult. She has class from 8-5 everyday. And study ever night until probably 11. We see each other on weekends which is totally fine with me. School is important. \n\nBut what is really getting to me is when she talks about how stressed she is. School really wears her out. She is sometimes so stressed she can't even focus when we are together. She is always talking about what see needs to do after. I try to listen and talk to her about it but it's hard. I feel like her therapist not her boyfriend. \n\nEven when we are just texting during the day that's all we talk about. I ask her what's wrong and I get these paragraph text messages. Sometimes she is so overwhelmed she just cries.", "summary": "How can I help my girlfriend de-stress?"}
{"id": "t3_13f94x", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I did it", "post": "Its been two weeks since we broke up, a week since we saw each other and a day since we last spoke.\n\nIt was honestly over with months ago I've just been in denial. Even today i said i would take him back, even after all the lying and cheating i still wanted him.\n\nThen i talked to my older sister and she told me that my family would love me no matter who Im with but that if i did take him back my family wouldn't or couldn't respect him after all the damage he's caused me.\n\nIt hit me. I love this man, but if he ever loved me he wouldn't have hurt me. \n\nEven if we as a couple could over come this it wouldn't be the same. Well my family means more to me than my ex does.\n\nI would feel awkward bringing him around family and I just don't want it.\n\nI want someone who loves me and that my family could respect.", "summary": "I still hurt but i deserve better and so does everyone else on this subreddit."}
{"id": "t3_o3blp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "My girlfriend broke up with me but I still have feelings for her. Originally she wanted a \"break\" but broke up with me because she did not want to make any promises. Should I contact her or not?", "post": "I'm 19m and she is 19f. I've always been really shy around people but when I found out that my high school crush was going to the same college as I was, I gathered my courage and just went for it. Everything was absolutely perfect, she had complete trust in me as did I with her. The love was mutual.\n\nHowever, a couple of weeks into our relationship she told me she had seasonal depression, whereas during the winter months a chemical in her brain would be produced for some unknown reason and would make her uncontrollably sad. I told her that I could handle it but the first time I saw her while she was having one of her bad days caught me off guard and she started to think I would not be able to handle her depression. I got better and things were going relatively smoothly for about a month until she started to push me away.\n\nI asked her what was wrong and she told that by me trying to take care of her, I was a constant reminder that she had depression and was different from everyone else. I told her I could change and stop giving her so much attention but she wanted a \"break\" so she could mentally separate me from her depression. However, she broke up with me stating that she did not want to make any promises that we would get back together. In total the relationship lasted exactly 3 months.\n\nNow, it has been about a month since then and I still have strong feelings for her. I have not contacted her or seen her since then. I'm thinking about writing a letter to her telling her how I feel, as well as including a hand crafted guitar pick engraved with her name which I was originally going to give her as part of her Christmas present. I think about her constantly and I feel like writing her would help set my mind at ease. I know I can handle her depression properly now, she completely understood me and everyone said we were the perfect couple. I can't let her slip away like she has.", "summary": "Girlfriend was perfect for me, she has seasonal depression and things got a little bit rocky in the winter. She broke up with me because I was trying too hard to take care of her. I would like to write her a letter explaining my feelings but am not sure if I should wait for her to contact me first. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2dhfnm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking a girl out with a note", "post": "First post, so please, only kind insults. \n\nThe horrible fruit of this fuck-up was reaped today, but sown last week. I work for a university, and developed a small crush on a girl (medical student) in another building who works in a friend's department. I began swinging by for \"coffee\" (i.e. sheepishly making woo and spending precious few seconds with crush) pretty regularly. Ostensibly, I was there to see my friend, while I actually was plotting to get a few seconds alone with this girl so that I could ask her to, erm, spend more seconds alone. She's pretty quiet, and though I'm not, we both tend to get drowned out in conversation by her boss, my friend, and another person in the department who seems to be constantly incensed by something or another. \n\nSo one day, after a frustrating encounter in which we (crush and I) both sat silently while other people in the room took turns shouting about the outrage du jour, I decided to write her a note. I was pretty cute about it. Wrote it on a piece of paper from the legal pad I had at my desk, put it in an official departmental envelope, then slipped that into a big interdepartmental envelope to be delivered. Bureaucracy at its finest. \n\nIt showed up today. Her boss decided it'd be fun to have her read it aloud. I was very gentlemanly and upright with this note, but it still managed to piss just about everyone off. My crush was mortified, her boss went on a tirade about how staff members (me) shouldn't date medical students (her), and my friend had to basically play my attorney/PR rep for the rest of the day trying to mitigate the catastrophe. The boss, in a move I can either describe as overly maternal or overly 19th century, forbade her from dating me. \n\nAlso, her boss is one of my references on an important application I put in with another department. So, ya know, that's pretty neat too, I guess.", "summary": "Wrote a love (or 'like') note to a crush. Crush was then compelled to read said note to her boss and the rest of her department."}
{"id": "t3_4xrpk6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do i handle doubts when i'm at a low?", "post": "I (19 M) broke up with my ex (21 F) about a month and a half ago. I'm pretty sure it was the right thing to do. Not sure if it was fixable or not. But i always feel like it couldve been. I guess that is what really messes me up. it was in an earlier post if you want the details  \n\n It sucks cause i've been going out alot, having great times, talking to new women, reconnecting with old friends and just pretty much forget everything else that has happened. But still even after all of this i can't stop thinking about her. \n\nI already know the basic advice im going to get. And yea i have done it. Don't have her on any social media, there is zero contact, threw out everything of hers, waited and waited, and i am still feeling like crap. \n\nDoes anyone have any other advice on how to handle this. I was inlove and I had to break it off. Even though i didnt really want to, i just had to cause it wasn't healthy. \n\nMaybe it's cause im at all time low in confidence, i keep myself busy but still get a little free time now and then and she pops up, maybe its cause i havent gotten any other womens attention. and the ones i have, have not come close to her on looks. Not to be shallow but i would like another good looking girl thats all over me and begging for me back. It just makes me think that i mightve messed up. I just need somethoughts and advice. \n\nIf you'd like to read up on it more, click the link to my older post. It was a horrible relationship i know. But at the same time it could always have been made better. Maybe im just being stupid.", "summary": "I've followed all types of advice, nothing seems to help. Am i making a mistake by not wanting her back even if its what i want sometimes?"}
{"id": "t3_ez8jx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help on winning a girl but I'm not sure what to  do..", "post": "hey this is my first time posting but i was wondering if anyone here might help me male or female,\nso i like this girl she is 1 year younger then me and we met a little while a go through a mutual friend the night we met was fine but the next night i took her out to the movies and the night after i took her out to dinner i soon found my self to have a little crush on her but  since then i was never able to tell her how i felt, she has gone bad relationships were the other guys have treated her bad and I'd like to think ive treated her well, so every now and then i would post on formspring (an anon site kind of like facebook) my feeling i felt for her and i would write basically long poems about how amazing she... the thing is a kept it anon so she wouldn't know it was me well today i was writing her again but i forgot to keep it anon, well now i don't know what to do.... please help me out\nalso, this whole story is in a timespan of a about 2 weeks", "summary": "i messed up don't know how fix this looking creepy thing"}
{"id": "t3_32ii0i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by giving a friend PTSD", "post": "Unlike most posts, this did actually happen today. A little backstory: My friend, let's call her Cole, was in a car accident recently, and underwent surgery to fix her spine and stuff. \nBack to the present. I'm giving her and another friend a ride home, and we pass the local football field. The other friend, lets call her Allah, looks at me and goes \"Quick, make a hard left and let's do doughnuts on the field!\". Cole and I laugh, and being the asshole I am, I actually swerve left. Hard. In the rain, on wet pavement. No, we didn't crash, but I thought that shit was funny as hell, and I start giggling, as does Allah. Well, Cole was devastated, super frightened, shrieks, freaks out and starts bawling, thinking we were going to be in another accident like the last she was in. So the rest of the ride home, she's sobbing as I'm frantically trying to remedy the situation, and she's trying to apologize for panicking while I'm trying to do the same for not thinking first and being an asshole instead. So. I fucked up.", "summary": "I made a hard left."}
{"id": "t3_2cgm2d", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I feel like I chose the wrong college major and now it's invading my dreams.", "post": "I feel like Psychology at this point is a stupid major of mine to pick. How the hell am I going to get a job with a 4 year degree in psychology? Although I hope a minor in math will help me, but I'm stressing myself out lately. I still have 1.5 years to go on my degree.\n\nI wish I would have gone into engineering. I'm great at math and being a woman, I would have stood out in the field. But it's 92 more credits to be an engineer and 44 more credits to have my degree in psychology and a minor in math. I can't spend 6, 6.5 year on a four year degree. \n\nI keep having dreams telling me to switch to engineering. I wish I could go back to 18 year old me and say go into engineering. It seemed too intimidating to me at 18. It seemed too hard and I was afraid to fail. I am still really afraid to fail. Everyone tells me how smart and how successful I am going to be. I don't want to let them down. More importantly, I don't want to let myself down. But in a huge way, I already have.", "summary": "I picked psychology when I should have picked engineering. Wah :("}
{"id": "t3_h10fy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Getting over first love.", "post": "Im 17 and this year I met my first girlfriend, and my first love. We were so happy the past few months, no arguments or anything at all. But today she asked to meet up and she told me that \"for now\" we need to be just friends. There's some big stuff going on with her family, and it just reached an all time low, she said she was going to become super mean and hermit herself for the next few months and that it wasn't fair to me because she would be mean and not talk to me and that she would just feel guilty for being so, she kept saying it was so hard to do it because she loved me so much, but that she had to. I begged her to let us at least try but she said she couldn't do it. So do I get over her, or hang in there and try, the hard part was that she said after its past we could maybe be together again, so I am lost.", "summary": "First love, we broke up because she is going through a rough patch with her family and said she would feel guilty to have me as her boyfriend since she would be distant. She said there could be a us again in the future. Hang on or get over?"}
{"id": "t3_lkac4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me decide my future, Reddit!", "post": "I am a Junior in college, majoring in Psychology, minoring in Biology, and participating in the honors program. I am also completely, absolutely confused about my path forward.\n\nI am very passionate about pediatric psychology, (I just want to do the most good I can, be a guide for those that need it so desperately) and throughout college I had been pretty set on going to medical school to do Pediatric Psychiatry, as I do feel that medication can be a crucial part of treatment in some cases of serious mental illness. \n\nMy parents have always pushed medical school really hard, and I felt lucky that Id found a career that would make everyone happy. \nUntil lately. The truth is, medical school is ridiculously difficult to get into, even for someone with a 3.5 GPA and all that. And beyond that- I'm not so sure Id enjoy medical school the same way I'd enjoy graduate school. My passion is psychology, and Id still want to specialize in pediatric psychology and get my PhD. \n\nThe truth of it all is- I'm confused. I dont know the right way forward, and that really scares me. \n\nSo---in short, if you have any thoughts/advice on this Grad School/Medical school debate, I would greatly appreciate it.", "summary": "Grad School vs. Med School for someone interested in pediatric psychology?"}
{"id": "t3_215hv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a [19 M] with some lonely guy messaging me through facebook who is [27 M] Need help with dealing with him.", "post": "At my college I joined the LGBT club. I then joined the club page on facebook which has a ton of members. Then I receive a random email from guy who wants to talk, tells me to tell him about myself. I was like whatever at first, sure lets chat.\n\nIt then turns out that he isn't part of the club and he doesn't go to college because of his disability. He said it was aspergers.\n\nThis guy is extremely lonely and gay. He said it was a shame I was straight as he wanted to flirt with me.\n\nHe is tired of being alone and is dying to meet someone. Honestly, I have no desire to meet a sad lonely older man with aspergers. Not my problem.\n\nBut I feel kind of bad. Like, if I block him or stop messaging him, it will make him sad. \n\nWhat should I do? I don't want to keep talking to this...weirdo. But I feel bad.", "summary": "Lonely guy with aspergers keeps messaging me and I feel bad for him."}
{"id": "t3_1go01i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thought I was gay? Feeling surfacing now for ex-GF", "post": "I am 23 years old, male. My ex-girlfriend is 25. 4 years ago we had a really intense, short relationship, 8 months long. I don't know what love is, but I definitely thought I was in love with her at the time. I feel like we had a very strong emotional connection. However, we both had some serious issues. I was using a lot of drugs. She became very dependent on me for her own well-being and that made me want to distance myself. I broke up with her and it was very hard for her.\n\nI got sober, and a couple of years ago I realized I might be gay. Things made a lot of sense, I thought I was bisexual before but that I could control who I was attracted to. I really didn't want to be with guys so I thought I could just ignore that part of me.\n\nI felt a lot of reluctance to come out because I did have some great sexy times with my ex-GF early in our relationship. But I had a lot of hangups as well. A lot of anxiety surrounding sex.\n\nJust recently I sent my ex-GF an email telling her that I'm pretty sure I'm gay and she told me she was really happy for me and that she thought she had ruined her one chance of true love but really the relationship wouldn't have worked anyways, because I'm gay. That's awesome, and I'm stoked for her that she can have some closure.\n\nAnd so we were planning to meet up and talk. I do really like her and I'm excited. It feels like we are going to be reunited. But now all of a sudden I feel attraction to her, sexual attraction. I want to lay in bed naked with her and have intimate sex.\n\nI feel very confused. I don't want to hurt her but I feel like I want to explore these feelings too. My gut tells me that I shouldn't even tell her about these feelings because I don't want to be in a relationship with her, because I still need to explore the side of me that is attracted to guys. I want to be honest with her as well.", "summary": "I feel like I don't have any control over my feelings, that I hardly even know what exactly I'm feeling and that by being honest with my ex-GF I will entangle her in my mess and hurt her and hurting her would hurt me, too."}
{"id": "t3_uxasy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with someone that has impossibly high standards? What are your standards/opinion on standards?", "post": "My boyfriend has a friend that here recently has been coming to me for girl advice. This guy is 24, lives alone, works at Lowe's, is a huge jerk, and weighs about 320 pounds. I'm not here to say that only overweight people should be with overweight people, or anything like that. Hell, I'm slightly overweight myself. I'm just saying that from personal experience, you usually see an average looking person with an average looking person and a beautiful person with a beautiful person. I've never seen someone that looks like Seth Rogen with a girl that looks like Mila Kunis, is what I'm saying.\n\nThis guy sent me a message on skype and asked me what he was doing wrong when it comes to the ladies. Just to give you a quick idea, this is the kind of guy, that while he's socializing with others, you cringe in embarrassment FOR him. He thinks he's hilarious, and when he cracks a joke, there's usually silence afterwards. It's hard to watch. \n\nOh, and remember how I said that he's a 320 pound jerk that isn't funny? Well yeah, he expects to date women that are 120 pounds, stacked, with a perfect face. If he sees a woman with even a few extra pounds or boobs too small for his taste, or ANYTHING, he will point it out to anyone near him in disgust and claim that he would \"never date that girl.\" He has done this around me several times and I'm just floored every time. I've even had a girl ask me, \"Why does this guy think he has a chance?\" He keeps getting denied by these women and he seriously doesn't know why.\n\nHow can I deal with this and/or give him truthful advice? I WANT to say, \"Dude, you're a big fat jerk with standards that are way too high.\" But yeah...I know I won't say that in the end. Any ideas? Also, why in the hell is this guy like this?", "summary": "This guy is asking for girl advice and he is an obese jerk that has impossibly high standards. How do I deal with him, and also, what are your standards/opinion on standards?"}
{"id": "t3_3bny3g", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "California Notice of Proposed Assessment Help - I did not work a single day in California in 2013", "post": "Hi /r/personalfinance,  \n\nI've been a reader for several years and have enjoyed learning from many of you wise financial folk! Unfortunately, taxes are not my language and I was really hoping someone could help me out here on this one.. using a throwaway for my first time ever.  \n\nSome back story:  \n\nI worked for Foster Farms (a company headquartered in Livingston, CA) in 2012. I took a promotion to their plant in Farmerville, Louisiana in September 2012 and packed up and moved immediately.  I quit the company in June 2013 and moved in with my Mom in California. I did not make a single cent by working for any company or otherwise.. the only source of income I had was my savings and I withdrew ~$500 from my Roth IRA which I reported on the Federal Tax Return. In March of 2013 I filed my Federal and State returns for Louisiana only as my W-2 only had income information for Lousiana on it because.. well I didn't work a single day in 2013 in California.  \n\nFast forward to June 2015 and I get a letter in the mail saying I have an estimated $655 tax liability to California on top of a $163 delinquent filing fee.  \n\nI went to the CA franchise tax board website and as I'm going through creating a 2013 return for CA I am feeling overwhelmed as I feel like none of it is relevant since I didn't even make any income in 2013.   \n\nMy questions are:  \n1) Does Foster Farms having their HeadQuarters in California make the money I made as a resident in Louisiana relevant to the state of CA?  \n2) Do I have to pay tax because I lived in CA starting halfway through the year in 2013 even though I made no money at all in the state?  \n3) Do I still need to file a form or would sending them a printed version of my Federal and State returns from Louisiana be sufficient?", "summary": "facts;  "}
{"id": "t3_3mnjjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (28M) is lazy and I (26F) am tired", "post": "I am so frustrated right now....every time I leave the house for a day or two, nothing gets done and I come home to a messy house. I live with my boyfriend and we have a pretty good situation of he pays the bills, I maintain the housework. (Mutual agreement) \nHowever,  he also understands that this does not make me his maid or slave. He still has to put his own dishes in the dishwasher,  pick up after himself,  etc. I am responsible for general cleaning (laundry,  vacuuming, cleaning toilets, taking care of his dogs when he is working etc)\n\nNormally we jive pretty well together.  Issues arise when I leave the house. I'm visiting my parents,  doing family stuff this weekend.  I asked him to please pick up after his drunken weekend alone,  unload the dishwasher,  feed my cat, and remove the dead bird from the front lawn.\nPretty simple things,  right?  While he is great about my cat nothing else gets done. This happens every.  Single. Time. I ask a few minor things (I still fully intend to do my normal work when I get home) but find that there is even more to do than usual because he totally neglects to pick up after himself when I'm gone. \n\nAnd when I confront him,  he turns into a defensive asshole. Seriously we are fighting over the fact that he couldn't unload the dishwasher while I was gone! I don't know what to do. I don't think it's fair that because I'm gone he thinks it's ok to neglect things. And I don't think I'm asking too much of him to help me keep things up when I am away. Am I just supposed to accept that he is lazy? Is there some way I can get him to understand me?", "summary": "boyfriend won't pick up after himself when I'm not around and it's driving me crazy."}
{"id": "t3_f3jzh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Falling for my best friend, who is falling for cocaine. LOST", "post": "he really is my best friend. nothing has ever happened between us, other than me (wasted) telling him i wanted to make out, he just dissed me and said i was drunk... at the time it didnt REALLY bother me cuz i wasnt THAT into him ( ok maybe a little bit). but now im really falling for him, but hes going into this whole new thing..\n\nhe's always been into drugs ( weed, acid, E) and so have i ( weed and acid), but hes going through some \"rough\" times now and is a bit depressed. last week he did cocaine with another friend at a club, he did it again this week, and when i asked if he had done anything other than weed, he said he was just drunk, which was obviously a lie (later confirmed by another friend that told me he had used coke practically all day..).\n\nhe knows that if i \"find out\" ill be ULTRA pissed, and make him stop using or just stop talking to him all together. i've considered that. but i'm afraid it'll just drag him down further into it.. which is something i really don't want. now i dont know if i just let him do it or completely ignore him... help.\n\nand yeah..cocaine really is a deal-breaker.", "summary": "hes my best friend, some sexual tension (mainly from my part, im a girl), but he started using cocaine. don't know wt to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2nwou2", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "28M, confused about directions in life.", "post": "So last month, I meet the girl of my dream I thought life was good, I have a stable job as a librarian at a high school (also part time landscape management job with in the high school, it has a big campus). \n\nI thought all was well till she said we should stop seeing each other as I am not ambitious enough and worries that I cant support a family if we are together in the long run. She is planning to move back to Canada where her family is based at. \n\nThis made me super worried about my self, thought out my entire life, I have never had any directions except to finish high school, finish university and get a good job. \n\nI'm now one semester from finishing my teaching diploma (I did it cause I'm working in a school), I also have a Masters in Library management. I have been having really bad thoughts, I begin to wonder if everyone is right about me making wrong choices in life, like quitting construction ( I was a sort of assistant project engineer but I'm not an actual engineer), working as a librarian ( was the job I thought about as a kid), working as a teacher (several friends told me I'm stupid and crazy, they are all teachers). \n\nBefore I meet her, I had a rather simple plan for life, improve my skills in this job and in a few years hop to another job. Now she has destroyed that and I have been having trouble sleeping for the past month.\n\nSo now I am pondering if career change or go back to school to do something else is what I need or should I just sit in this job to count my days away...", "summary": "dream girl dumbed me, woke me up from my slumber and useless life, now Im direction less in life"}
{"id": "t3_1637r7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I preferred my previous relationship[both 18]loads more than my current one [both 19]. does this suggest I am not with the right girl?", "post": "If I preferred my previous relationship to my current one, what does this mean for the future of my relationship? Is this a common feeling?\n\nIn previous relationship I was very much in love, and it was amazing (lasted 4 months ended by uni ) (Both aged 18 at the time)\n\nThis relationship, the girl I am with is awesome(both aged 19) and we have a great time together, like all the same things and spend loads of time together, but it does not feel as magical. We have been together 7 months\n\nIs it just that relationships after longer period are not as exciting or is it that my current relationship is just not right?\n\nOr maybe the previous relationship, which was my first serious one, was only special by virtue of the fact that it was the first time I had fallen in love?", "summary": "I preferred my previous relationship a lot more. does this suggest I am not with the right girl?"}
{"id": "t3_2wyt6w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I need my life back", "post": "I don't know where I am anymore. Emotionally, mentally-- I just feel lost. I'm new to posting, if I mess anything up I'm sorry; I just need to say this out loud somewhere and get feedback I posted on another sub earlier with minimAl response so I'll try here\n\nI'm 20 and a year ago I dumped the greatest girl I've ever met and after 12 months I'm realizing what a mistake I made. \n\nI have been diagnosed with clinical depression and for most of our relationship I was on a bout. Despite having severe bipolar depression, she never shied away from helping me and trying to be my rock. There was a point I pulled her into a bout and she still tried to be strong for me. \n\nAt 19, I'd never had a job, a license, or any responsibility and at 23, she had paid her way through private school, moved away from her hometown and was living on her own, working full time. \n\nEvery time she tried to help me or push me to better myself I'd push her away and start arguing. *who did she think she was telling me to leave the safeness of familiarity?* I realize now it was my own mental sickness that saw her as a threat. I pushed her away. \n\nEven after we broke up, which was a disaster, she still tried to make it work. I was so in my own head, I told her to fuck off. She still tried and tried for months after our break up and every time I blamed her again and pushed. \n\nShe apologized to me so many times; but for what? **I'm** the jerk that needs to apologize. In retrospect what did she need to *ever* apologize for? I pulled this amazing strong woman into a serious depressive bout, pushed her away and made her feel like shit, I'm sure, when all she ever wanted to do was love me. \n\nReddit, how can I get her back?", "summary": "I pushed away the best gf I ever had."}
{"id": "t3_1cddir", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My room-mate is the worst type of Christian", "post": "I'm a Christian too and I like to think of myself as a moderate probably leaning more towards the liberal side and my room-mate is the complete opposite. Honestly, she doesn't know much about the Bible, she never understands my references, even simple ones but she still thinks she's so much better/more righteous than me. I'm bias but I also don't think she understands the concept of Christianity either, (e.g. laughing at everyone who is unsuccessful/doesn't have money, thinking children do not deserve equal education)\n\nIt's finally getting to me too. For fun, my friend and I went to a little ceremony in which there are lots of Islamic traditions. When I told her about it (after she asked) she said something along the lines of \"oh, I wouldn't do that because God would hate me.\" Thanks? Like what the fucking hell? There's lots of other things she does like always make her opinion known even if it's bat shit crazy (Obama is literally the devil incarnated, strongly against vaccines and common medicine). She also wants to be a doctor- pray that she's not yours. All I can say is I have no idea what made me decide to live with her last year but I can't wait to get away", "summary": "My room-mate is bat shit crazy and Obama is the devil"}
{"id": "t3_1834w1", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is this a sensible way to figure out if a woman wants me (36M) to ask her out?", "post": "If I'm at a social event like a party and I'm trying to figure out if I should ask a girl out, this is more or less how I go about it.\n\nIf I find someone I'm interested in, I become flirty, trying to give off signals that I am enjoying the conversation and her in particular. For example: eye contact, asking questions, smiling, laughing (genuinely), etc.\n\nMy expectation/hope is that if she's interested in me, she would then reciprocate and flirt back or show me some kind of attention that makes me think she might be interested in me.\n\nIf I get that kind of response, I will happily ask her out, when I get a chance to ask at an appropriate time. If I don't get that response, I assume she's not interested, and I'd rather not waste her time and my self esteem with a rejection.\n\nHowever, I've been told that most women wouldn't flirt even under these circumstances. Obviously people are different, but in general, is there something wrong with this approach? I ask because I don't often get the flirt response back.\n\nI'm a decent looking guy. I would say a little better than average looking, but not the Ryan Gosling kind that women throw themselves at. And socially I am comfortable and confident. So, if we assume those aren't the primary factors in a lack of response, is my approach/supposition flawed in some way? Ladies, how would you let someone know you'd like them to ask you out?", "summary": "If I flirt and she doesn't flirt back, does that mean she doesn't want to be asked out?"}
{"id": "t3_k8aae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on tramping around the U.S.?", "post": "Hi everyone!  \nA little about myself, I'm 25 married (wife also 25) and we have both always had some serous wanderlust. Recently we came up with the idea of leaving our old life behind and buying a motorhome and go wander. We both are dissatisfied with our jobs and have no possesions that we are terribly attached to.  \nWe plan on leaving Jan 2013  \nOur main idea was to work on selling as much stuff as we can until the day our lease is up (July 1st). By then we plan on having our motorhome and living out of that in her parent's driveway (lame I know) and continue working at our jobs until our tenative leave date. This will allow us to make extra money - almost entirely to be dumped into savings and to pay off any remaining debt. Then with only a month or so before we leave, we sell both our cars and wave goodbye to our old lives for a while.  \nThe trip is going to be open ended meaning we don't have a definite return date but our guess is probably a year.  \nWe plan to stop in towns and get basic labor jobs once in a while to supplement our savings.  She's excellent with money and can stretch a dollar. Also at the advice of [Cheap RV Living] we can also find jobs at campgrounds doing maintenance in exchange for a free site and after a determined amount of hours: cash.  \nOur biggest concern so far is lack of health insurance. Which to me, is nothing, I lived half my life without insurance and I rollerbladed, skateboarded, etc.  \nWhen we decide we had enough we plan on either heading back to our hometown or to another town we found along the way and living out of the RV but having real jobs until we can afford an apartment and rebuild our lives again. We both have handy skils I'm a truck driver and she's a certified English teacher.  \nWhat I'm asking is what else should I be worried about? Ideally, I'd like to hear from people who have done something similar.", "summary": "My wife and I plan on selling all our stuff and living a life on the road for a while. What should we know?"}
{"id": "t3_2hg0h2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] caught messages of SO cheating[30 F] of 11 months, what should I do?", "post": "A little bit of background information before I get to the story. So when we started dating she was still living with her ex husband At that time they were not legally seperated yet. I knew this, and she was sleeping in a separate room. They talked but it was more like roommates until she was finished with school and was ready to move out. Well I always trusted her while living there, It did make me cautious. She recently moved out of that house about 2 months ago and everything has been going well up until a few days ago...\n\nIt all started the other night, while my SO and I were talking before bed. About our relationship so far and how long we have been together. She brought up how ive always made her feel good where her ex never did. And before bed I got on the computer. opened up facebook, I was logged into her fb, I decided to read her messages with her ex on fb.\n\nThere was no recent messages, ever since the move out. It was mostly just arguing about who gets what and how he accused her of dating me before they were seperated calling her names and such. But I scrolled back further to find around June July and August that she was sending him tons of messages back and forth such as \"I love you <3\" and \"Do you love me?\" with responses like \"Of course I do\" and etc all of this... I was shocked... I went off on her. She tried to explain herself to me saying that it was not true and blah blah she was just covering her ass. The only reason I haven't left yet is because she hasn't talked to him on there since the divorce went through or anything. She would also always spend her days with me and even nights on the phone sleeping together. Maybe its true, maybe it's not. Doubt ill ever know for sure. I don't know what to do. I'm really hurt, I've lost almost all the anger from it and now i'm just accepting it and i'm feeling depressed.. any advice would help on this situation really.", "summary": "Been dating girl for 11 months, found messages of her talking to ex husband on Facebook. flirting back and forth while they were living together. She said it was just to cover her ass for the divorce, and didn't mean any of it. She hasn't messaged him since she moved 2 months ago."}
{"id": "t3_4bjpb5", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Tree nut free protein bars? Please help!", "post": "I am obsessed with protein bars. They are perfect and I love them and for some reason nothing makes me happier after a workout than pulling one out of my gym bag. \n\nThey are my staple. \n\nThe problem is I'm severely allergic to treenuts. This sucks because I'm really starting to feel like protein bars without almonds are true mermaid unicorns. I've spent what feels like a lifetime in the health bar aisle at stores trying to read labels and determine what will and will not kill me. I've tried Internet research, only to find mostly \"energy\" bars at a crazy price. \n\nAny suggestions?", "summary": "know of any nut free protein bars with around 20g protein? Or particular brand flavors?"}
{"id": "t3_10fgs4", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Puppy won't stop barking, running out of ideas", "post": "Hi; I'm sorry if this is something that is posted often, but I could use some advice -\n\nI have a 7 m/o cockapoo (cocker spaniel/poodle) puppy. She's a lot of fun, but she barks almost constantly. When she wants to play, when she wants to go out, when she sees anything new or strange, or animals outside. We have been staying with my parents for a few months (just graduated college), and they have a 1 y/o labradoodle. The two love to play, and whenever they are separated my puppy barks and cries. She often does the same when she's separated from me or my family.\n\nI read before that I should ignore her while she barks and only play with her or reward her if she falls silent, so she learns that barking will not get her what she wants. I also try putting her in the laundry room with the door open and a gate up when she's very loud, but she doesn't understand that barking is what put her there. I need to find a good method that I can apply consistently. The past 3 months or so have been full of constant barking. I love my puppy, but this is a habit I really want to rid her of ASAP.\n\nThanks in advance for any help or suggestions!", "summary": "my puppy barks about everything and I don't know how to make her quiet down"}
{"id": "t3_s1c77", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Debating on joining the military, lots on my mind, some input would be nice.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I come here fairly often to help people out or ask for help myself... Right now I'm stuck with a big decision. For myself, I want to join the military... I talked to an Army and Nation Guard recruiters today. I'm 20 years old and still living at home, I know it's not all that bad, I just feel ready to move on. I know the most I'm going to hear from you guys is to stay with college and get a degree, but right now in life, I don't want to continue my schooling. If I join the guard... I'll go away for about 8 months and get basic and my training done, after that I come back and do my once a month commitment, or some more if I want to go full time. They will end up paying for 100% of my school if I do go back while I'm with them. The National Guard guy I talked to seemed to be a lot more approachable and more willing to work with me, but I know I was wasting the Army recruiters time with my doubts. I feel that this being such a big decision that it's okay to have some doubts. I would be leaving my family and others for a good while. I'm talking to the girl I'm with at the moment about it, I don't think she's giving me her full thoughts about it because she wants me to make this decision, but told me she's critical about it because her father is currently in. Her opinion matters a lot to me because I really care about her. I want to talk to my father tonight about this and see his input, he served in the Army for 21 years so I know he will be able to give me his opinions. So Reddit... A community I have been with for a long time now, and who give me a lot of enjoyment out of life, what do you think about all of this? I know a lot of you are/have been in the military. So your input is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "On the fence about the Army or National Guard. Lots of decisions on my mind."}
{"id": "t3_ocwbg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My labrador retriever is addicted to.. retrieving. Looking for some advice.", "post": "Okay I know what you're all thinking. Why would you buy a labrador retriever if you're not ready to give it the exercise and attention it requires. Well, I didn't. It's my fathers hunting dog, and I DO give it all the attention in the world. However, this dog has a serious addiction to fetching what we call a [dummy] Now, usually I would love prefer a playful dog versus one that sleeps on the couch all day and doesn't listen. (I have one of those too). But this dog, needs rehabilitation or something. I honestly don't think she finds any joy in anything besides fetching the dummy, or hunting. Every hour or so she becomes fed up and will annoy the shit out of you until you commit to enabling her addiction. Any time you say anything ending with an \"E\" sound to her, she will perk up and start walking towards the door. If you say no, she will whine and jump on you and then start running towards the door again. This cycle doesn't stop until you give in. She truly gives meaning to the word bitch. Also, when you let her outside she will always run to the garage to see if it is open. If it's not she will either wait nearby or take her sweet ass time sniffing around the lawn.\n\nA couple more details:\n\n* she's about 4-5 years old\n* terrific hunting dog (one of the best, according to my dad) :|\n* in great shape\n* very obedient - other than this addiction\n* bred by other hunting dogs (half british) so a little smaller than most.\n* we have a miniature schnauzer (10 yearsish old?) and they are good friends. \n* we do reward both our dogs a treat every time they go outside and use the restroom\n* I live in MN so it's not always enjoyable or convenient to go outside to fulfill her needs every few hours.", "summary": "MY DOG IS A BITCH THATS ADDICTED TO RETRIEVING. DOESN'T ENJOY ANYTHING BUT THAT, AND BECOMES A NUISANCE WHEN SHE DOESN'T GET HER WAY. looking for some advice, reddit. "}
{"id": "t3_p993e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anybody else think that comment karma kind of turns Reddit into a massive circlejerk?", "post": "Yes, I know that I shouldn't really care about Karma, but I think I speak for most redditors when I say that it's unpleasant to see my comments downvoted heavily.\nSo, as a result, I catch myself leaning away from disagreeing with the general opinion in any given comment thread. It's the comments that agree with the 'hivemind' that get upvoted, not necessarily the comments with the most well-thought out ideas. Quality of thought seems to be less important than agreement.\nThis issue with this is that it means that people post things that everybody already agrees with. Anybody who dissents gets buried under a sea of like-minded people, even if they have valid, well thought out points, leading to a homogeneity of ideas that isn't very conducive to intellectual growth.\nAnybody else think that way?", "summary": "people just post comments that they know everybody is going to agree with to get karma."}
{"id": "t3_39b0t7", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Ear infected/blocked, how long will it last? :(", "post": "I'm a 25 year old guy from the UK, got asthma but nothing ear-related. Back story is that last week (monday to friday, today is wednesday) I went camping and on the last two days got a bit of a cold + hayfever and got nice and snotty. During the drive home my ears popped plenty of times. Fast forward to Sunday morning and I wake up with a blocked ear. I used drops and a syringe kit, got a chunk of wax out but still no better. By Monday night the tinnitus (which I usually have albeit quite low/quiet) was driving me insane and it was really getting me down. The non-emergency helpline suggested I go to the hopsital due to the driving/congestion I had on Friday. \n\nHospital accident and emergency department have a look (about 10 seconds!) and say it's a viral infection where the pressure changes have sucked gunk into my ear and there's nothing to do except decongestants and wait it out. Fine.\n\nToday is Wednesday, went to the see the doctor as it's not getting any better and honestly it's getting me down. He said much the same. Fluid behind the ear drum, no medicines etc... though after I explained my fear that it'd get infected and hence stay blocked for even longer he gave me antibiotics.\n\nPlease AskDocs, what can I do?! How long does this type of infection/blockage last? How can I make it go away faster?\n\nCurrently I have no/little congestion (my nose has been clear for the last few days aside from the odd hour or two) and my hearing is perhaps 10% of what it should be in that ear. In terms of abient noise... yeah right... headphones (over, not in-ear!) give me a bit of sound. \n\nEven just having an ETA on when it will GTFO would be great as it feels like it just wont go away :(", "summary": "Middle ear infection/blockage, started Sunday morning early hours, it's now evening on Wednsday, what do and how long?"}
{"id": "t3_2fj6c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [24F] of two months said, \"I love you\" I [21M] don't know how I feel yet, what should I say/do?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating just over two months. It's been a great relationship and we get along amazingly. We've been spending a fair bit more time together recently and last week she said I love you for the first time via text. I didn't answer, because I didn't really know what to say. \n\nWe text the next day and I told her I fell asleep. I hate lying, but I didn't know how to approach last night. She hasn't brought it up since, but I can tell she's acting differently. She's not texting as often, and hasn't brought up hanging out. I think she's upset I didn't say it back, but I really don't know how I feel about her right now. \n\nI like her a lot and very much enjoy being around her. But I don't think that's love. I don't want to mess the relationship up because I really care about her, and she's been the best decision I've made in a while. What should I say to her to address how I feel without upsetting her or making her feel like I don't care?", "summary": "GF said I love you. Not sure I feel that way. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_43u869", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Reclaiming music after a breakup", "post": "So my ex (31/M) and I (30/F) broke up last November. I've been getting steadily better, but I still have a hard time listening to music. He and I are both very passionate about music (he's a phenomenal guitarist and I was born to be a groupie.) He introduced me to all sorts of music and our music libraries inevitably merged so it's impossible for me to listen to some music without thinking of him. For instance, he was a HUGE Led Zeppelin fan. There is no way that I can avoid listening to them for the rest of my life, nor would I want to. \n\nSo what can I do to take music back? This is not the first breakup in which this has happened. I really miss listening to a lot of music. Is there anything that has worked for you?\n\nI'll be at work for the next 9 hours, so my apologies if I'm late getting back to you. Thanks.", "summary": "Music shared by my ex and I makes me depressed."}
{"id": "t3_feyf8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dog tore it's ACL and I need help...", "post": "My English Bulldog, Penelope, began limping a 4 weeks ago. Two weeks ago my wife and I took her to the vet where we were informed that she had a partially torn ACL. The vet gave us anti-inflammatory meds and told us to keep her from jumping around too much because she might fully tear her ACL at which point she would need surgery. \n\nWe managed to keep her from moving around too much, granted it isn't too hard to keep a bulldog from moving, but her limp has returned and recently she has even begun just outright holding her leg up when walking. The surgery is relatively expensive and if she needs it she will get it, but we were wondering if any redditors had gone through a similar experience and could offer any advice. \n\nTo drum up sympathy:", "summary": "My dog tore it's ACL and we want advice/options."}
{"id": "t3_2kjfla", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[32/m] My wife (28/f) rarely apologizes", "post": "My wife and I have been a couple for 11 years and married for 2. I can honestly count the number of times she's said sorry to me on one hand. Now, I don't think she's a bad person or anything. She just seems to misunderstand that giving an explanation of her actions constitutes an apology. She thinks saying why she did something will make me upset no longer.\n\nUnfortunately, I want more. I want her to apologize. Just a simple sorry or whoops or I didn't mean to do that or whatever. I told her I don't care about why she did whatever she did, I care more that she is concerned about my wellbeing.\n\nHonestly there are too many small things to list over the course of 11 years. It's just something simple like her walking off when we are at a store and me not being able to find her for 5 or 10 minutes. When we meet I'll tell her that I've been looking all over and couldn't find her. She'll just say \"I was over by the shoes\" or something like that. It doesn't matter where she was or what she was doing, to me. It matters that I couldn't find her and it upset me. I feel a simple \"oh, sorry\" would suffice, but she feels an explanation is okay. I know how this can seem like a really trivial thing, but when it's a few times a week or daily, it adds up and makes me feel like she doesn't care about upsetting me.\n\nAnyway, just looking for some sort of validation and advice. Am I way off base? How can I help her understand me? Am I doing something wrong and should be doing it differently? Should I be approaching it differently? I really just want to find the best way to fix or understand this. I've brought this up with her plenty of times, but she fails to understand and continues to think that an explanation suffices for an apology.", "summary": "Wife won't say sorry. Doesn't seem like she cares about my feelings. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_17uhvj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [19/m] broke up with girlfriend [20/f] of 3 years. Few months later I am still conflicted if it was right.", "post": "I am a Sophomore in college and my girlfriend and I had dated since junior year of High School. Senior year I started pondering the possibilities of breaking up because of dating whoever I may in college. i am not the type to sleep around, but I had never dated anyone else before. We were VERY open and we discussed breaking up for that reason a few times, but I kept stopping because I really loved her. My sophomore year of College I finally got to a point where I figured that I will never be able to have a college opportunity again and that I really should end it. We were having some issues at the time as well because I wasn't paying her enough attention and I was frustrated with her about a few different things and I believed we would be able to help each other grow as people if we were friends. A few months later now I am having regrets because she was my best friend and I could handle all this fine if she was talking to me and I believe she will one day, but I don't know. I just am worried that I threw something away that was good for something that wasn't important enough like experiencing dating new people. I guess I am just looking for confirmation of whether this sounds like these were good enough reasons or not :/ Thank you. If any questions about other reason for ending it just  ask. Just trying to limit too much information or making it into a rant.", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend after a year in college because we were having some various issues and I really wanted to experience dating someone else because I never have. Was that really a good enough reason?"}
{"id": "t3_1eac5o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My Husband (24M) has been out of work for a year and half and is becoming depressed. I (22F) don't know how to help.", "post": "Here is the link to the [Original Post] \n\nJust a recap we have been married for 8 months. I'm a 22F and my husband is a 24M.\n\nThank you everyone for your advice when it came to my husband. I sat him down and told him that I supported him 100% but that I was working full time and needed him to work at finding a job on his own. I told him that I was here to answer any questions about applications he might have. He seemed to really take it to heart. He has really been knocking the applications out and has applied to 15+ places in the last few days. \n\nHe's been realizing that even if it's just part time it is something to put on his resume to show that he's working. He's looking at it in the perspective of, get a job now and look for something better. That way he still has an income to contribute and can work on finding something with more hours/better pay. \n\nHis depression is getting better now, too. I think me working 40 hours a week was eating at him and now that he's really trying harder to find a job, he seems happier. I know he's still struggling a bit with everything. I'm not expecting 100% improvement in a matter of days. I know it will take awhile for him to get back to his normal self. I have high hopes for him. Thanks for your advice /r/relationships!", "summary": "My husband is working harder to get a job. He seems to be happier. I'm not expecting things to get 100% better, but everything seems to be looking up."}
{"id": "t3_2s368q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by punching a guy in the face", "post": "I was going to the local mall with 2 friends, and all of the sudden 5 guys appear and start asking us for money, so being the smart guy I am, I ignored and moved on. But my friends didn't. So 3 guys grabbed my friend's cellphone and pushed him to the ground, I turned back, saw what was happening and yelled: Stop assholes! Poor choice of words, I guess. One of them looked at me, pushed me and I punched him in the face, causing him to bleed from his nose and mouth, and turns out he wasn't expecting that.\nBeing the fucking pussy he is, instead of fighting back, he called his 3 other friends and they all jumped on me and started punching me so hard that they almost knocked me out, I managed to get up, and out of the fucking blue I see atleast 5 more guys trying to beat up my friends, so I just fucking ran with them and almost passed out. Well, atleast they didn't steal my money, right?", "summary": "Don't punch a pussy."}
{"id": "t3_1bkcjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance relationship trust [26F/27M]", "post": "I [26F] met by boyfriend [27M] my freshman year in college and we were each other's first real relationship. We have been dating for 6+ years, and lived together for 2, until I recently moved out of state for graduate school this past year. Ever since we have been long distance it seems like any small problem we have had in the past has just become magnified, and with the limited time and resources to see each other, our relationship has been stressed and we have been having a lot of arguments.\n\nOne of his close friends is going through a divorce, and ever since he found out he was really pushed away from me and keeps bringing up our problems. The thing that is bothering me is that, I knew he was friends with the divorcing couple since high school, but I thought he was closer to the guy friend. He was trying to be there for both of them, but the guy fell off the map and he is always talking with the girl discussing her problems and our relationship problems. I get the phone bill and see that during the time he needed \"space\" he has just been texting her back and forth throughout the day and night. When I came to visit last weekend, he even got texts from her at 2-3 am, which he renamed under a GUY friends name so I wouldn't know. He even lied to my face about who it was. My gut told me it wasn't, so I checked the phone bill and it was the girl.\n\nNow I know we are having problems, and I admit that 50% of that is my fault and being deceitful is 100% on him, but I don't know if I can trust him with a long distance relationship. I asked him to the see the conversation but he had deleted it because he said that her divorce was private or they were talking about problems in our relationship. We have talked about marriage and our future, so I do really believe we had a very serious relationship. Am I being naive to think that this is just due to the stress of our relationship right now? Can you recover trust in a long distance relationship or is it over?", "summary": "Boyfriend of 6 years (long distance for 1) has been texting female friend who is getting a divorce night and day and lying about it. Is it time to call it quits on first love?"}
{"id": "t3_sz2uu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'd like to know if I'm being unreasonable here...", "post": "First off, thank you for taking some time to read this. Here it goes...\n\nSo back when my friend and I dated, she was into heavy drinking and smoking weed. Since she was 16, I really didn't care about it that much. It bothered me that she would be drinking so heavily at such a young age, but it's her body and I have no say in it.\n\nWhen I told her to do whatever makes her happy, she took that as, \"Stop smoking weed and drinking.\" I was happy she quit both, but it didn't really bother me.\n\nWell apparently I was being a \"control freak,\" and when we broke up she kept telling everyone how I would control her every move.\n\nThinking back, I was pretty controlling. I would guilt her into doing things. However, none of these things were bad. It's not like I convinced her to have sex with me or anything... it was more like, \"Hey, try this new food. It's healthy! You might like it! Come on, please? For me?\"\n\nSo here's the deal: we might get back together because we've both changed. However, she's a smoker.\n\nTHIS bothers me. Why does this bother me? I've had 3 people die from cigarette-related deaths and her mom just got done beating throat/lung cancer.\n\nI told her I don't want to date a smoker because it's a very personal thing to me. She says I'm being unreasonable.", "summary": "Am I being unreasonable for wanting someone to not smoke in order to be in a relationship with me? Especially since I've had people die from cigarettes and her mom had cancer? Side note- I also have asthma."}
{"id": "t3_4n207y", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "\"lost\" pet", "post": "So my daughter turned 8 a few months ago and her whole life she has been accompanied by her cat. Her cat would sleep with her, follow her around, sit on her lap, and put up with pretty much anything she did to it.  \n  \nHere is the hard part. My daughter had a hard time closing doors when she is in a rush to go out and my wife or I will shut the door after she doesn't get it all the way shut. Three weeks ago neither of us were in the room when she went out and the door was open for long enough for her cat to get out.  \n  \nHer cat did not come back. We made lost fliers and posted them around the neighborhood and contacted the local shelters in case someone picked her up. We got a ton of calls but none of them were her cat.  \n  \nLast week we got a call from the local shelter and they said we should come take a look at this cat because it matched the pictures and age. My daughter was still at daycare and the wife and I were both working from home. We drove up and saw the cat in question and it was ours. She had been mauled, infected with FIV, and couldn't stand up on her own. The vet bill would have been outrageous and we have another cat at home who does not have FIV so we made the call to have her put down.  \n  \nEvery day since the cat ran away my daughter has asked about her and since the day at the shelter my wife has to leave the room and cry every time she asks or says she hopes she found a good home. so finally, the question: should I tell my daughter that her cat won't be coming back? I have discussed it with my wife and we are in agreement that we have to do something about her asking every day but we don't know if she is ready to deal with the death of a pet.", "summary": "8 year old daughters pet ran away, the cat was found but was injured and sick and had to be put down. Wife cries every time daughter asks about the cat. What should we tell our daughter?"}
{"id": "t3_10rvhi", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How soon is too soon?", "post": "I'm going to start by saying I've (25f) been out of the dating game for about 3 years. That LTR ended in June and I've had numerous \"dates\" with guys who turn out to be creeps or just not what they advertise.  \n  \nFast forward go a few weeks ago. I met a man (26m) online a few weeks ago and we have just started seeing each other face to face. He is everything he seemed to be. Our first day was Thursday night and we have gone out every night since. He fits the bill of what I'm looking for and he has told me I fit his. He asked me to be his exclusive girlfriend Saturday night on our third date, and I gleefully agreed.  \n  \nWe made out Saturday and Sunday nights and it's been great but I'm really trying to practice restraint. He has already said he's in no rush and is not pressuring me at all. In fact, we both have been very artful and skilled in letting up during our kissing when we notice the other getting too hot/heavy.  \n  \nI've never been one to make out this quickly let alone have sex so soon, but fireworks are flying. In my gut, I feel like he could be a long term keeper and he has already expressed the same. He's ready to show me off to his family. So I don't want to do anything too quickly and possibly ruin our relationship's chances at going the distance.   \n  \nBasically, an opportunity is coming up this weekend. Its technically past the one week mark of us seeing each other face- to-face rather than just phone/text/email. We are connecting on every level and conversation flows freely. I feel the relationship so far is more than physical. I feel mentally, physically and emotionally ready if he is also.", "summary": "I want to know how long one should wait before sex to still have him see me as LTR/serious material.   "}
{"id": "t3_xo7rj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weird love triangle", "post": "Me a female 21yr and my cousin female 23yr have been best friends for  a long time (were neighbors too). My cousin has always been wilder than me and although I do love her she is much more manipulative and she dates many guys. \nA few months back I met one of her guy friends and we hit it off, I have never felt that connection with someone. She immediately prohibited me from seeing him because he was ' hers\". Anyways we went back to my place, my cousin got drunk and danced that night, I stayed up talking with him and he told me he liked me because I was sweet. We started talking after that and eventually started seriously dating. I started to really fall for him and we spent almost everyday together. We never had sex because I wanted to wait.\nAll behind my cousins back. \nI know its is wrong what I did and take full responsibility on what happens after.\nWell first ( at around 8 months) he turned out to be a total different person than I had once believed. He eventually was totally different and started growing extremely distant.\nI became very attached and it really hurt me.So we broke up.\nBut, now is when things get weird. He began speaking to my cousin once more, and I thought it was very harmless because she is not his type.\nWe all decided to go out on Thursday ( his best friend 23yr Male, him, my cousin and I) although I knew this was a bad situation I was getting myself into. He ended up being with her the whole night. I drank too much and of course that didn't end well. I kissed his best friend, fell on my ***, I told him he was a terrible person and even cried a bit? ( Which is really out of my character)\n\nNow him and my cousin are going out more often. \nWhile I, have to sit back and say nothing. \nIt is really hard to see them together and I do not know what to do?\nI know I should have not lied in the first place and I wonder why he is doing this? \nWhat is the best thing I can do?\nShut up and deal with it?", "summary": "Dated a guy behind my best friends back because she said he was off limits. Soon after we breakup he starts seeing her, all while I have to sit back and say nothing."}
{"id": "t3_3krvd1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it ok for the person I'm seeing [38/F] to not respect my [35/M] feelings while she has a very sick pet (cat)?", "post": "We haven't been seeing each other that long so I'm wondering if this is a serious red flag. She sprung the sick pet news on me in guilt trip fashion and used it as justification for being upset with me over the phone. So I took my time to calmly explain how what she was doing made me feel. There was a long pause. Then she took the conversation in a new direction without acknowledging what I said. After a sentence or two I interrupted her to ask if she was really going to ignore what I just said, which was what I thought to be a pretty mature attempt to resolve a problem I was having with her. Her response to me asking if she was going to just gloss over my statement? \"That's right. Because-\" *Click* That's when I hung up. She sent a few texts after that saying how she thinks she's walking on eggshells and that she feels she has to prove she's good. Those texts really surprised me because I don't know how she can say those things. In fact, that's exactly how I feel.\n\nRight after those two texts she sent another one saying that she just found out her cat is blind in the last 24 hours. Like, what?! Why didn't you say something a day ago? Why are you just now saying this during a conflict that it has nothing to do with?\n\nHere is another example of how I feel like she doesn't respect my feelings:\n\nThe other night she said I'm funny when I'm not trying to be but am not funny when I am trying to be. Kinda hurtful, right? So I said so. Her response was that at least she was laughing and that was a good thing. I let it go after a small fuss because I'm really trying to be mature and not pick fights but it really hurt.\n\nIt feels like she's playing dirty, inconsiderate pool. Am I being too high maintenance? Is it all in my head? I'm looking forward to any thoughts or suggestions anyone has.\n\nIn trying to keep this short I hope I didn't leave out too many details to where I didn't provide enough information.", "summary": "Woman I just started seeing doesn't seem to respect my feelings. Should I just cut bait or have I not made enough of an effort?"}
{"id": "t3_2hoakw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my wife [26 F] been together 4 years, says she'll leave me if I don't stop being angry", "post": "I get angry at myself a lot. When I get too angry I throw things 1-2 times a year, never at anyone else. Usually I'm alone but she was there tonight. I broke a mug, first time I broke something since december. My wife said to change or she'd leave.\n\nI went to anger management counseling, but it didn't help. I can control my temper for months even a year, but something will break in the end. Stress ball doesn't help. Running, gym, whatever, doesn't help. I break something and it just goes away. Problem's still there but I'm not going nuts.\n\nNo I wasn't abused. I don't abuse anyone. I don't get into fights. I don't leave shattered glass all over the place. I'm not violent, threatening, intimidating, or dangerous. This one thing helps and it's one thing she's not ok with.", "summary": "Wife gave ultimatum about anger. Anger management doesn't help. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_34o90w", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Anxiety Made Me Miss a Party", "post": "A little context. My anxiety is like a second conscience that makes me  think about EVERY single thing that could go wrong in a situation, making it hard to do anything.\n\nSo, today, I was SUPPOSED to go to a good friend from school's party, my dad was driving me. (Commence the \"he's not an adult, so his problems don't matter\" comments). The address was being elusive, and we couldn't find it. And then I saw it: It was supposed to be by a lake, and the entrance was adorned with pastel colored balloons. It HAD to be there. My dad asked me if I saw it, and the second conscience ran a clip through my head of what would happen if we showed up two hours late, without a gift, with my dad (Who happened to be sick, and was bound to unknowingly drive a stake through any shred of a reputation I'm clinging to with his banter). And so, After glancing right at the entrance I said: \"No. Let's go home\"\n\nTo the girl who's party I avoided: I'm so sorry.", "summary": "My anxiety is taking control again, and I need my meds."}
{"id": "t3_2a5b9i", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Advice] Dog is acting strange at night", "post": "My mom is out of town this week and my dog, a 12-year-old toy poodle, is a complete momma's boy and misses her dearly. As I'm his second favorite, he has been spending much more time with me than usual, including wanting to sleep with me in my bed when he normally sleeps with his mommy. While he seems content during the day, at night he starts going bonkers: he has been climbing all over my face, neck and stomach and just sitting on me, looking at me or the wall, not even trying to go to sleep (strange for him as he normally sleeps like a rock at night). I ask him if he needs water or food, or if he needs to go peepee-poopoo, but he doesn't give any indication he wants any of those things. Last night I got fed-up after he woke me up for the fifth time and exiled him from my room, which I still feel pretty bad about, but he just would not calm down no matter what I tried. Does anyone have any advice on what might be going on with him, and how to get him to stop acting this way?", "summary": "Dog acting weird at night, not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_s1nqu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is something that came as a surprise to you when you realized you enjoy it or it that it is part of your everyday life?", "post": "I have always been into alternative, heavy rock, and metal. I love video games and gorey movies, wear black clothes a lot and would have more piercings and tattoos if it weren't for my current job. I really like this style and my parents have always hated it and wanted me to change.\n\nOne day I picked up Fallout 3, long after it was recommended to me by a friend. I remembered playing about an hour of it and not caring for it, but this time I stuck through it and eventually finished just about everything there is to do (which took years.) I realized that throughout the game I had memorized all of the music and actually really loved it and wanted more. Now I regularly listen to Big Band, Swing, and Easy Listening. I would have never realized I like this kind of music if it weren't for this video game, and it just amazes me that I found something I love just by picking up a game I wasn't too interested in to begin with.", "summary": "Scary looking metalhead finds out she loves Big Band, Swing music and can't get enough"}
{"id": "t3_l5tl8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my birthday is tomorrow and I need help with Facebook!", "post": "Hi reddit, here is my dilema. my birthday is coming up in 2 weeks time and I always have thought it tacky to have the entire wall filled with \"Happy Birthday!\" written 5000 times by different people. It's tacky, pointless, and so insincere. I'd prefer not to have my entire wall besieged.\n\nSo I had an idea, what if I could get rid of the ability to post to my wall, but instead allow people to comment instead. That way, i can have people comment on a status I write instead of on my actual wall. I was wondering if Reddit can help me with this.", "summary": "Is there any way to deactivate my friends from posting to my wall while still activating the ability to comment on posts?"}
{"id": "t3_2rk7ac", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] considering proposing to my [22/F] girlfriend in a years time but need advice financially planning for engagement ring!", "post": "Basically I love my girlfriend (who I've known for years) and all going well I'd ideally love to propose to her in the next year/ year and a half but I'm really rubbish with money. \nI have recently acquired a job but it isn't exactly full time hours they're giving me at the moment. I also have loans to pay off from when I didn't have work although, all going well, I'm hoping to get all debts paid off in 4 months time. I just can't seem to save money, even when I have had some to spare it just seems to burn a hole in my pocket. \nThere are other things I'd like to do with money (like learn to drive etc.) And I am in no way na\u00efve in thinking weddings are cheap, but I don't think the wedding will be particularly large or indeed happen quickly after the engagement and we'll hopefully get some help money wise from family. \n\nSo my main questions are:\nGuys how long did it take you to save for an engagement ring? \nAny advice for a rubbish saver?\n\nI think after savings I may be able to save around $100 a month. (yet again I have no will power over spare money...)", "summary": "How to save money long-term for big life event."}
{"id": "t3_42docd", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "[Discussion] Dyspraxia and getting fit: Best way to achieve this?", "post": "Little background info, I'm [23/f] diagnosed with mild Dyspraxia which impacts my movement and co-ordination. All my life I've been embarrassed by how clumsy I am and how stupid I look trying to run. People have openly laughed at me in the gym because my movements are erratic and 'unprofessional'. Because of this I've never pursued any kind of fitness regime and let my general fitness get to shocking levels. I'm overweight, but more chunky than fat (UK size 12/14). My resting heart beat currently lies around 102. I've recently quit smoking (although I only smoked about 3-4 every couple of days) in an effort to curtail the thread veins that I'm beginning to get in my legs due to poor circulation. I want to get fit without hating myself every step of the way, but I don't know how to do this. I'm extremely self conscious about my movements and I'm scared of hurting myself by doing something wrong. Team sports are out of the question due to the frustration I'd cause my team mates and the gym feels like a pretty hostile environment. Does anybody have any advice for someone like me who wants to try and better themselves? I'm getting increasingly desperate and my inherent hatred of exercise (or movement in general) seems like a particularly difficult hurdle to jump.", "summary": "What exercises can a person with a disability such as dyspraxia do to improve their general fitness?"}
{"id": "t3_25wu0m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by walking into a door", "post": "TIFU ,This happened on friday, as I was finishing up exams. I had just gotten the call from the main office that my parents were there to pick me up for the annual camping trip. I had been waiting forever to hear that call. I gathered my things and started walking towards the door. Now, I'm relatively self-conscious so when I walk I have to think about how I move my legs (yeah I know) and as I'm approaching the door I subconsciously get the bright idea to continue walking and open the door all slick-like. Well needless to say I miss the door knob and walk straight into the fucking door. I start bursting out laughing and stumble out of the room, void of sense and humiliated. Laughed my way to the office as countless teachers and faculty stared me down. Now I have a huge bump on my head.", "summary": "walked into a fucking door"}
{"id": "t3_16peh2", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Advice for someone wanting to back pack across Europe and Asia?", "post": "Long story short a series of events in the last month or so have inspired me to go backpacking across Europe/Asia. \nMy goal is to over a few months make my way from the coast of Europe to some where in South Korea where my sister (who lives in Japan) could come pick me up. \nAs far as cash goes, I've sold my car and have about 3 grand in my pocket and no ticket yet.\nIdeally I'd like to have a motorcycle to help make the trip a little easier, but don't see how I could get one when I'm there.", "summary": "I need help on hoofing it from Europe to Korea so I don't get dead."}
{"id": "t3_ayl8t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are head-hunters getting lazy?", "post": "Does anyone else get emails from recruiters and head hunters that follow this basic format:\n\nDear you,\n\nYou don't know me but I've obviously found your resume from some number of years ago and our pedestrian matching algorithm suggested that I send you this job listing.  Our philosophy here at, say, BlueWolf, is to throw shit against the wall and see what sticks.  We're hoping it sticks with you.  If you're in any way qualified for this job, please write back.  Otherwise, expect more poo-flinging in the future.\n\nSigned,\nIncompetent\n\nWell, I get a few of those a week lately.  I took the time to write back recently hoping that I could encourage the recruiting industry to alter their practices.  I've worked with recruiters both as an employer and as a candidate; in both cases, it's important to feel like the recruiting agency actually cares.  In reality, they do best when candidates last just long enough to earn their commissions but not so long as to actually remain employed.\n\nWhen I responded, I pointed out that having over 10 year of experience in my field and having spent the past 6 years in senior roles and management; I wasn't interested in their entry-level position some 2,000 miles away from where I live.  I suggested that both employers and candidates prefer that recruiters put at least a modicum of effort in their jobs rather than relying on only the most superficial matching algorithm and then asking the candidates if they're qualified.  As a hiring manager, nothing infuriated me more than wasting my time in an interview with a candidate who's obviously unqualified.  Why am I paying recruiters, anyway?\n\nWell, fortunately for me, the manager of the recruiter (who I CCed on my response) wrote back.  He suggested that if I'm employed, perhaps I should get back to work and let me know that he was far too busy to read my \"page-long\" email.  Obviously reading isn't something they're big on over at BlueWolf -- the mistake was clearly mine.", "summary": "It's fun to ridicule people who don't read things."}
{"id": "t3_1xnqwc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my girlfriend [23 F] are amazing together when sober, but she has awful mood swings when drunk and becomes extremely abusive. It's beginning to tear apart our [14 month] relationship. What should I do?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nThis is second ever post to Reddit. Long time lurker.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been going out for 14 months now and see each other every day and enjoy each others company all the time. We are amazing together normally, however we have serious problems when we're drunk. We go out together once or twice a week and sometimes have an amazing night together and wake up just in love with one another as ever.\n\nHowever, there has been a continuing problem throughout the relationship. Sometimes when she drinks she can have awful mood swings and become angry for no reason. She admits this is entirely her problem and apologises hugely the next day. But it is starting to slowly tear apart our relationship.\n\nI am much bigger than her but she be very violent (I never, ever respond) and says very hurtful things. She tells me she is bored of me, doesn't love me and wants to break up with me. The worst thing is, no matter what I say, how much I shout or how much I cry, she won't communicate with me like I am the boyfriend she loves.\n\nOur best friends have seen us in these situations and they agree that she is to blame and agree that she acts completely out of character - almost like Jekyll and Hyde.\n\nI understand that giving up alcohol may seem the obvious answer, however we are both at university together an we go on nights out all the time. Stopping drinking would simply ruin her university experience, no matter how much she loves me. It is simply not an option.\n\nI love my girlfriend more than I imagined I could ever love someone, but I am really struggling to decide whether or not this is something I should just accept and deal with, or if it is time to end things and move separate ways.\n\nPlease help me.", "summary": "Amazing when sober, awful when drunk. Is it worth it?"}
{"id": "t3_4f97yx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26F] currently being shut out by my s/o[31M] of 3 yrs for the last few days.", "post": "We argued about something really pointless, but I'd rather not go into details because it's specific and I'd rather not have him or his friends find this. \n\nLong story short, he said some things that were basically personal attacks about my age (being younger and therefore automatically not smarter than he is) and about me not taking his rudeness very well.\n\nI told him the conversation wasn't being productive and I didn't appreciate how he had spoken to me. He responded with 'good night' and we have barely spoken since. \n\nIt's been about 3 days. The only \"words\" I got from him was that he texted me that he didn't have the \"energy\" to just speak with me about this. Day one, that was all I got after texting him normally, good morning, etc. because I had gotten over the fight (because it was ridiculous)\n\nOn day two I got worried and tried to reach out to him again, called him, and after a couple of times he answered. Told me I was \"just being too sensitive\" and that I needed to get over it. Told me he had no desire to talk about what was wrong. I told him it was unfair and childish that he stopped talking to me, that I didn't appreciate him de-valuing my feelings and making me fel like I'm 2inches tall, worthless.\n\nThe worst part about it is he is NEVER like this, never talks to me this way. I love him, I would do anything for him, but I'm at the point where I feel lost. IDK what to do at this point, I feel like if he can't let go and apologize, then I can't put up with this newfound attitude.", "summary": "Fought w/ BF, he has been freezing me out for 3 days.  When I **DO** talk to him, he's been *unusually* combative. I'm at a loss, don't want to fight...please help."}
{"id": "t3_2dwm0v", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[CA->OR] 17 Y/O Custody, Moving and \"Renting\" from Relatives", "post": "My younger half-brother is 17, turning 18 in January, and lives in California.  His custody order is joint - physical and legal custody - between his mother and father.  I believe our mother has primary physical custody.  \n\nMy husband and I live in Oregon and have talked about having my half-brother come and stay/live with us because of ongoing family and personal issues he has been troubled with.\n\nI believe that I could get permission from his father, but not from our mother, for him to stay with us in Oregon.  When I called our local police department and gave them the story, they said that they would have to send him home if our mother called them and they found him at our house during her custody time.  We cannot afford to get into any legal disputes with her because she works in the legal field and is exhaustively aggressive in court so we haven't had him come out yet, but he is really struggling.", "summary": "I am looking for ways my 17 y/o brother can come stay with us for awhile in Oregon without becoming legally involved in a custody dispute with my mother in California.  One idea I had (not sure if it is viable) is having him move out here on his own and then having him \"rent\" one of our bedrooms.. Any ideas or feedback would be greatly appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_3rwmrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "After seeing the affection my best friend(20/F)'s dad (55/M) shows toward her, I have come to the realization that I (20/F) may have daddy issues.", "post": "I picked my friend up at her dad's house before going out for the night. When we went to leave he hugged her twice and proceeded to tell her how much he loved her and that she was a beautiful girl inside and out. I felt a twinge of jealousy but it quickly passed when I decided to feel happy for her instead.\n\nSo, my parents are together but my dad has been in the military and was away for a majority of my childhood. The only time I even remember hugging my dad was the times he came back from being overseas. I'm sure my father loves me but has never shown me any sort of affection and I think it has had a greater impact on me than I had ever realized. I have posted in our beloved r/gonewild to try to get the validation I needed and I haven't always been so choosy about the guys that I have slept with because even though I hate to admit it, I love the attention.\n\nIs anyone else in this situation? Has anyone ever been able to overcome this feeling? Is there anything I can do to find the validation I need? After just recently coming to this conclusion I'm not ready to talk to anyone about it yet, so that's not really an option.", "summary": "I, 20F, may have daddy issues and I don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_25q5yw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my BF [23 M] nine months, am I being insecure with nothing to worry about (ex-girlfriend and facebook)?", "post": "He has never given me any reason not to trust him aside from a few white lies here and there, seriously simple ones. I know he cares about me A LOT, but I have been cheated on a lot also. \n\nI made the mistake of looking up his ex on facebook last week. I'm not intimidated or bothered by her, I just really don't like the fact that they are friends on facebook.\n\nWhen we first started dating he told me a lot of the details of their relationship, so it made me really uncomfortable about her. He said he was telling me these things because he is grateful that I do not behave this way and says he has never felt what he has felt for me before. \n\nI just get really apprehensive of these things..... Is it completely innapropriate for me to ask him to remove her from his facebook? I just don't like that she is there.... She has tried to talk to him once since we have been dating but her shut her down... \n\nAnyways, thanks for the input.", "summary": "Is it innapropriate for me to ask him to get rid of his ex on facebook?"}
{"id": "t3_w79c0", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dogs have learned to unlock the padlock and open the front door and escape!", "post": "I have 5 dogs, 2 of which are large rescue pit-bulls which have both learned to let themselves in and out the back door. (Our other dogs are too small to attempt this. \nJust about 2 weeks ago they got this idea that if they could open the back door... the bedroom and the bathroom door they could open the front door as well. In the 3 years we have had one of them she has never attempted this, we've had the other for a year. Simple solution... turn the padlock on the door and they wont escape...... no, of course it cant be that easy. One of them (not sure which) has learned to UNLOCK the pad lock (its a twist lock) OPEN THE DOOR... and escape.\nThis is the pad lock now... \n\nThis is the trap we have\nThey are terrified of the water bottle \n\nCulprits \n\nBesides changing the door knob on the front door... an taping it shut is there any sort of child proof lock that would go on this sort of knob? I have only been able to find ones for circular knobs....\nHas anyone else had this problem before? I feel like since we have never really pay much attention to them letting themselves out the back door they don't think they are doing anything wrong.", "summary": "Dogs are escape artists and unlock the padlock and can open the door and let themselves out the door, looking for a child lock for this door knob."}
{"id": "t3_49ra6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21] have a girlfriend [22] but have had a crush on another Girl [19] for a month", "post": "So I'm in a semi long distance relationship i go to school 6 hours away from where my Girlfriend lives. We've been dating ever since the spring semester started so roughly 2 months. I really like my girlfriend we have so many thing in common and a few differences i actually like. I've only gone back to visit and hang out with her once and saw her 3 days out of the 5 I was there. We went on a really nice date and was happy. \n\nNow there is this girl I met here on campus while playing soccer with some other people  (2 weeks before i visited my girlfriend) who i talked to once and started to develop a crush on immediately, and i told myself it would go away. I would see her around campus but only greet until one day we had small talk. When i went back home to visit i thought that crush was long gone because like i said of how happy i was with my gf. \n\nI came back to school and saw her in the hallways and just greeted her. That instant the feeling of having a crush came back. I actually saw her earlier today and we had a nice conversation and asked her when they were playing soccer again and she asked for my number. I gave it to her. \n\nLittle note, my current gf is a type i usually dont go for and i didnt immediately have a crush on her (like the girl from school) i just started to like her becauee of how cool she and how fast we connected and clicked. The girl i have a crush on is my type and is also a very nice girl.\n\nMy predicament is that I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO. Spring break is this coming week so I am going back home.", "summary": "I have a girlfriend back home and have been crushing on this girl for a month, need advice or experiences that could help me out on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2om9m1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "17(m) looking for answers about nearly everything", "post": "I think this is the place to put this, if not I apologize in advance.\n\nOkay as the title would suggest I'm a 17 year old guy. I guess I'm pretty average for a highschooler. I play two sports, I work a part time job, I work my butt off in school, and I have friends. \n\nBut here's where I get weird. I have never had any type of \"romantic\" relationship. Like never even felt seriously attracted to person male or female of similar age. Not even a Serious \"crush\" that I could name. \n\nYeah I see girls and \" oh she's cute\"  passes through my head. But none of my female friends, coworkers or anyone else has ever held any kind of attraction for me, and I really don't get why this is.\n\nI feel lonely sometimes, and wish I was dating someone, but the feeling passes and I never act on any of those momentary thoughts. Like is something seriously wrong with me? \n\nI know the typical response will be \" Don't sweat it, you'll know when you find a girl you want to date\" or some thing like that, but I seriously just don't get it. I mean surely hormones ought to have kicked me into overdrive by this point if were going to look at it from a purely scientific point of view.", "summary": "why do I lack any legitimate interest in or need for a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2xsycg", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Credit Unions are awesome", "post": "I read a lot of posts here about insanely high interest auto loans (just now, one at 8.75%). A lot of this has to do with credit score obviously, and a bunch more has to do with simply not shopping around enough or finding out ALL the options you have to borrow. To address the second point there, I just wanted to pass along my recent experience. \n\nWe were in the market for a car. We could pay cash, but with rates as low as they were, I shopped around. I have very good credit (>770, wife >840). The lowest bank rate I was quoted was 2.24% from Chase - and mainly because I am already a customer there (I think a total in 0.5% lower than their usual 5 year rate). I was also oddly rejected outright by PNC Bank. \n\nI went to my local credit union - and was quoted an astounding 1.45%. On top of that, with a loan balance of >25k, I qualify to earn 3% interest on all checking balances up to 25k, and 0.5% thereafter. With two people on the loan (my wife and I) that's a maximum of $50k that we can have earning 3% for as long as the loan is >25k. For people who get mortgages with the credit union, that's a lot of cheddar.", "summary": "insanely low interest rate at 1.45%, 3% interest on checking account at local credit union."}
{"id": "t3_pzdvr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can someone enjoy molesting an infant? Wtf is wrong with humanity? Is nothing sacred?", "post": "I read this poor lady's askreddit post about catching her husband molesting their/his own daughter.  My god, wtf is wrong with people?  \n\nOP's \n\nI can understand where someone might be confused about their sexuality if they have lived their whole life depressingly alone, without anyone ever accepting them or wanting to have a romantic relationship with them. Then, in that case alone, I can see where this sickness would bubble to the surface. I can see then how a child being the only one to ever make you feel worthy (children have a way of making adults feel cooler than superman).  But fuck! This man had a wife!  He had a daughter!\n\nIts shit like this that makes me wonder if all the hocus pocus about satan seeping into people's hearts and tempting them to do evil is real.  I don't believe in that shit but its hard not to when a man, does something so purely evil and sadistic to his own daughter.  I would literally have to be possessed by bezzlebub or w/e his name is to do something like that, and even then it wouldn't be my free will.\n\nNow I understand why people used to get burried shoulder deep in the wilderness and left to rot with the birds fighting over their eye balls.  Fuck people.", "summary": "Does anyone have any insight into why people do this?"}
{"id": "t3_262jrc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to Pass my Geometry Final", "post": "Hey guy's I'm in a continuation school because I'm far behind on high school credits due to poor choices. Anyhow I have a final that will be the determining factor on if I pass the class or not, so this is really important to me. I asked the teacher for a study guide or some practice questions and she flat out refuses to give me anything to go off of. In the past when asking her for help she always directs me to another teacher instead of helping me herself. What can I do online that will help me study a general understanding of geometry and let me know what I know and what I need to work on for tomorrow's final?", "summary": "my teacher is a lazy bad teacher who is sucking tax money and won't assist me in preparing for a geometry final, help!"}
{"id": "t3_39hosn", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "My roommates are getting a divorce/separation.", "post": "I live with one of my best friends and his wife. He just told me that she sprung on him that she's filing for a separation that knowing her will end in divorce.\n\nWhat does he need to do to protect himself as much as he can?\n\nSome history:\n\nHe doesn't make a lot of money, and is always short on money because he's paying for things she wants after she's already blown all the money she makes from her job.\n\nShe convinced him to get three credit cards to continue the lifestyle of eating out most nights, even when he cooked. She'd find some small problem with his cooking(rice is overcooked, meat is rarer than she likes), and use it to berate him into paying for dinner a restaurant.\n\nHe's paying her school loans right now, even though she dropped out half way through the semester, twice, because it was too much for her.\n\nShe has access to all his sccounts, I believe.\n\nI've already told him to cut up the credit cards, and remove them from online accounts right now. He's very broken up, and my only major break up was not with a woman I know is as vindictive as she is. I've already told him that we'll work on our finances together now that he's going to have less costs.", "summary": "Friend is probably going to get screwed financially, HALP!"}
{"id": "t3_22ylad", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I I message my ex girlfriend?", "post": "Hey I [30m] am just looking for some solid advice.  \n4 months ago my ex girlfriend [25f] of 3 years broke up with me for another guy.   I was heartbroken but have moved on.   I heard through the grape vine  that her parents are going through some problems which was something that really upset her while we were together.   \n\nMy question is just should I message her and try to make sure she is OK or just keep to myself.  I don't want her to think I am interested in her but I do still care for her and her family and think that I would just be being a nice person and not a guy trying to make a move.", "summary": "Should i try and be nice or mind my own business?"}
{"id": "t3_1cq2co", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going through my first breakup, how do I deal?", "post": "My ex of around 2 years broke up with me a month ago. It was a weird situation. We were still happy with each other, definitely in love, and all of that. He told me that he wanted to take a break because he said I was very dependent on him (true) and that I needed time for myself to grow, not because he wasn't happy with me or wanted to date other people.\n\nSo how do i deal with this situation? We loved each other, were happy, but I understand that a break up is a break up. It's done. Maybe in the future we'll date again but I know I can't focus on that.\n\nI've been trying to do things to get my mind off this/find happiness in other places. I've been working out more, dressing more  nicely, going out with my friends. Is there anything else I can do that would help? How did you deal with your first break up?", "summary": "first breakup, and on amicable terms, how to deal?"}
{"id": "t3_krdka", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear NYC police: Hippies protesting on Wall Street isn't news. Hippies getting pepper sprayed in the face is BIG news. If you hadn't sprayed them, we never would have noticed them.", "post": "I assume that there won't be a huge number of NYC police officers on reddit - and if there are, they're probably a little busy right now. I just hope someone on a police force reads this and the idea disseminates to some modest extent. \n\nLet me just say that I think what happened was terrible, but forgetting all the moral arguments and the violation of civil liberties, it seems short sighted for cops to act like that. Honestly, in a city on a weekend there's probably like 5 protests a day - the only ones that get attention are the ones that end in mob violence or police brutality.", "summary": "if I were a police officer and I hated a group of protestors, I would make sure the protest went as smoothly as possible. Tell your friends."}
{"id": "t3_herz8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "to those that have cheated or are currently cheating on your SO...", "post": "what emotions did you experience during or after the event?\n\ni was hanging out and reconnecting with some friends after a short deployment while my gf of two years was living abroad. my best friend was trying to mack on a girl and would force me to go along with him whenever they'd be at the same social gathering. well, one night we're all at a mutual friends house cooking and drinking and generally having a good time. i get way too drunk and instead of leaving when my buddy wanted i convince him that we should go back into the house. i'm basically asleep on the couch in the living room when the girl my buddy likes comes up and starts grinding on me. eventually we go upstairs and have sex. my buddy leaves in disgust while another guy that was supposed to be one of my oldest friends basically sends my gf live updates via email. afterwards my best friend cuts me from his life as does my gf. \n\nwhen i woke up the morning after i just sat there wishing as hard as i could that the night before was a part of some awful dream. i felt sick to my stomach about what i did - that somehow i'm not the guy i thought i was, that i completely disrespected my best friend and my gf. i was deeply saddened that i had hurt and embarrassed two people i cared about so much. it's easily the one thing in my life i wish i could take a mulligan on. it's been a year and i'm starting to feel like not such a jackass about it but i fear the possibility of running into my ex this friday will bring up some of those old emotions.", "summary": "boy cheats on girlfriend. the other girl was someone his best friend was crushing on. girlfriend and best friend dump the cheater. guy felt awful about the whole thing and is just starting to feel better after a year."}
{"id": "t3_267h08", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[TIFU] by texting my ex...", "post": "So I broke up with my gf like a month or so ago and have since been doing random hookups.\n\nWell drunk me thought it would be fun to text my ex, who until now had a pretty harmless breakup and we were still friends.\n\nSo I proceed to drunk text her random chatty shit when out of nowhere I suggest she come over and we can have fun.\n\nShe immediately assumes sex and gets all upset, granted I totally kind of wanted some, but now she has like told a few people what kind of person I am\n\nLike fuck me right?\n\nCan't wait to walk into a bar and walk up to a chick and ask to buy her a drink when she turns and says, \"oh are you just going to get in a relationship with me for the sex?\"", "summary": "texted my ex drunk, assumes I want sex, mad ensues, my street cred ruined"}
{"id": "t3_3d9kmq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] and my confusion at my crush [21 F] 1 month, the only reason I get up", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\nCurrently I have been having a super fanatical crush on a girl in my neighbourhood who Is the kindest person I know (plus she's pretty fucking hot). Although, I don't understand what she thinks about having a relationship with me, hell I don't even know if it would be healthy for me.\n\nAnyway, I've only been a pretty introverted person with not many friends but those who are, are true friends. Furhtermore, i am not egotistical but I would describe myself as relatively handsome with nice eyes so I am sure I would look good enough for her.\n\nAdditionally, It was one month ago when I was on top of my roof about to try and kill myself because I can't be bothered with life tbh, when I saw my crush walking down the street with some serious sexiness then looked at me and smiled REALLY sincerely (not that she knew what I was doing). It was then that I knew I wanted to be with her no matter what shit I had to put up with.\n\nShe always gives me these quick glances and smiles that really perk me up but I have one problem...\n\nMy friend is also interested with her but not mainly (he said he would but would rather someone out of his league) and that makes it into this fucked up love triangle. Anyway, it seems as if when in a group she is more intimate with me but by herself doesn't really want to be around me much and would 100% of the time rush towards him and be so friendly (jealousy is a bitch).\n\nis this because she is nervous? is she genuinely not interested in me? Is it wrong for me to be this obsessed?", "summary": "if someone does not want to be alone with me and be friendly but will in a group do they not like me?"}
{"id": "t3_3xk4cq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my best friend [18 F] of course I had to fall in love with her after 14 years of friendship [UPDATE - the story complicates itself]", "post": "Original post: \n\nSo I confronted her and told her I needed a direct answer, whether there was a chance or not. I told her I was happy with what we had now and we could just see where it went but if she wanted to see other guys she would have to tell me so I could move on. She avoided that part of the question and just said she didn't feel the same way and wouldn't for some time but she didn't know what the future held (cop out, I know). The weird part is she also said she didn't want to lose me and to please, please not ignore her. If a girl was as into me as I am her and the feeling wasn't mutual I would want her to get over me for a bit and leave me alone. I wouldn't be messaging them directly afterwards and keeping the conversation going. Any perspectives? Is she just using me as a fallback? Does she just want to keep a close friend? Should I get over it because if I truly cared about her I would be able to see past my feelings and respect her wishes? Thing is, it seems like I'm there for her, when she's down, when she's had a bad day, when she's struggling I'm there to pick her up but she doesn't seem to be there for me. I love her and I really hope she does care about me back and I'm not just wasting my time here. I will definitely be spending less time with her though and seeing other girls but I don't think I will cut her out completely.", "summary": "Feelings not mutual but doesn't want to lose me from her life. Very confused."}
{"id": "t3_3yo7f6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my wife [29 F] She made a joke that highlighted by fears and now I don't know what to think.", "post": "My wife and I have been married for 12 years and historically had a good sex life.  We are highschool sweethearts and got married really young (As soon as I joined the navy)  We have historically had sex a few times a week, but since the birth of our third child it has taken a dramatic nosedive.  We MAYBE have it once a week.  I told her how I wanted more, and this led to some fights and then counseling.  She is making an effort to give it more saying \"She wants it more but is just tired.\"  I hear \"Fine...lets do this\".  That is absolutely not what i want.  I don't want obligatory sex.    But for the last month or so she has been at least acting more in the mood or not turning down my advances.  This weekend we had family visiting and during all the cleaning i said something to the affect of \"I hate cleaning so much when its not even that messy.\"  To which she responded with \"Well i only want sex once a month, but I still do it.\"  I just shut up and did the deep cleaning, but I haven't been able to get her 'joke' out of my head.  We had a talk about it and she said it was a bad joke, but I still can't help but think she is only having sex so I don't get butthurt again.  I don't want to force any kind of sex on my wife, but at the same time, i need that kind of validation.", "summary": "Wife joked about not wanting sex as much as me, and it scares me."}
{"id": "t3_50avwk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Citibank Checking Account", "post": "Hi. Thanks for reading!\n\nI have a bit of a tricky case. I am an American currently living abroad in South Korea. In about three weeks, I'm getting married to a Texan (who is also living abroad in Korea). We will be traveling back to the States for our wedding and returning to live in Korea for the next 2+ years. \n\nRight now, I have a Citibank Korea account. I am trying to open a Citibank account using my new Texas residence as this will allow me to provide sufficient documentation (mail sent in my name to my Texas residence) for a Texas drivers license (combined with my previous US drivers license, marriage certificate, and voters registration). The drivers license is important as without it I will not be able to drive in Korea for almost a year. \n\nIn addition to the documentation I need for the license, I have picked Citibank because it has a no/low fees global wire transfer program allowing me to make some international wire transfers from my Korea account. \n\nUnfortunately, I am still in Korea while trying to open this account. I have all the information I need to open the Access Account or Basic Banking account online. However, when I check the box that says I am planning to make international wire transfers it says I need to come in in person to open the account. This simply isn't possible. However, the initial funds I'll be depositing are from another US based account.\n\nCan I open the account without checking the international wire transfer box and still make transfers in the future WITHOUT visiting a US branch in person??", "summary": "Trying to open checking/savings account online while still making future wire transfers."}
{"id": "t3_3vu9ae", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F with the guy I'm seeing[26 M duration, I got drunk and accidentally broke up with him. Am I screwed?", "post": "I've been seeing a dude. He's awesome, but I'm recently out of a relationship and want to take it slow. He asked me to be his girlfriend really soon, and I refused because I'm freshly single and not ready for a big committment. He asked me several times again over the course of the next month but I told him I just wanted to date for now but I would be exclusive. He agreed to this. We have really different schedules and It's hard for us to see each other for more than a few hours at a time without one of us needing to pass out (think one of us tends bar and the other works in an office). We had plans to hang out one night and they ended up being a bit of a bust, although I managed to get pretty drunk. He was really tired and ended up needing to go home and fall asleep about 45 minutes into our date. I was a little miffed and I was thinking about how difficult our schedules would be if he was my boyfriend, but really it was no big deal and it wasn't his fault or anything.I left and later he texted me he said it seemed like I didn't want to see him anymore and I (in my mind at the time) tried to explain my schedule concerns. \n\nWell. I looked at the text exchange this morning and it was just bonkers. It made no sense, I basically accused him of only wanting to sleep with me (Wtf, he was the one who wanted a relationship) said I wasn't cool enough for him anyway (huh?) and so forth in that crazy fashion. I could see him losing interest over the course of the conversation until he totally understandably stopped responding. \n\nI tried to send a brief (sober!) apology but he hasn't responded. Am I screwed? Should I just leave the poor kid alone? Please help me! This guy is really cool and he was into me until I done fucked up!", "summary": "He asked me to be his girlfriend and seems to really like me. I'm gun shy. I drunk texted and very poorly explained my hesitations. Morning after, I realized it came off as me dumping him. It was not pretty."}
{"id": "t3_3zsd78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A coworker (39M) scraped my (33F) bumper while parking.", "post": "Hey Reddit.\n\nNeed some advice.  My coworker (friend?) slightly scraped my bumper while parallel parking his car behind mine.  He came up to the office and told me right away which I appreciated.  The paint is scraped off of my 2011 Hyundai Elantra about 2 inch by 1/4 inch scrape.\n\nHe offered to take it to a body shop for me, the cost will be about $300 to paint the bumper.  He also offered to try it himself first he says he works in his surfboard a lot and could probably manage it.  If it turns out bad he will take it in to the body shop.\n\nHere's my question:  I feel bad that this happened and I don't want him to have to shell out $300 for something so small.  Also: I don't want his paint job to look like crap.  I'd rather have the scrape.  Is there some sort of middle ground?  Maybe he give me $100 to do with what I may?", "summary": "Coworker slightly scraped the paint off my bumper, I feel bad, don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4mqtx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22 M] gay and I love my straight best friend [22 M]; don't want to overstep bounds", "post": "I've been friends with Ryan for about 4 years now.  We hang out a lot, and I've lived with him as a roommate too.  About half a year into getting to know him, I started to love him; since then I've shifted my mindset to think of him as just a best friend.  He knows that I'm gay and that I like him, and he's said before that he was okay with it.\n\nFor context, I grew up in a conservative/religious family, so they aren't exactly very accepting (in fact, they've very clearly stated the opposite...)  They don't know I'm gay, and I don't plan on telling them anytime soon.  Anyways, the point is that some of that rubbed off on me over the years and well...\n\nI get really paranoid about overstepping my boundaries and coming onto him.  Like, sometimes my hand will brush against his while we're walking and for the next 10 minutes I'm arguing back and forth in my head with alarms going off.  I'm pretty sure I'm way overthinking this, but I just wanted the straight guy's perspective: **what would you consider too much**?  I'm just really trying to find the correct line here and it's hard for me to imagine it from the other side.", "summary": "I'm gay, getting over being in love with my straight best friend; super paranoid about if I overstep boundaries, want straight guys' opinions on what's okay."}
{"id": "t3_zzqku", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found nude photos of my SO's ex on laptop from a period during our relationship. What's the course of action here?", "post": "I was using my SO's laptop watching some videos and such and happened upon some naked pictures of an ex. They were the kind of pictures you take with Photo Booth on a mac, so it had the date listed as the file name, and it was during a time when we were still dating. I just closed it out and didn't mention anything and stayed on the computer as if nothing happened. The thing is, I wasn't immediately upset or hurt by it. I was kind of just shocked and had one of those \"...oh..\" feelings. I don't know if I'm so shocked that I'm just feeling numb to the fact that my SO basically cheated on me, or actually physically could have because we have a long distance relationship and said ex lives in the same town. \n\nGranted, the date on the picture was almost 2 years ago, but we've been dating for 3 years. I was also constantly reassured, probably from 5 or 6 months into our relationship, that they weren't speaking anymore, and by the time we went to college (they went to college in the same town, I go to college about 2 hours away) that they had no contact whatsoever. So, should I shrug this off because it was a long time ago, or should I bring it up because it was still during our relationship and I want to know what was going on? \n\nRight now I have no doubt that we are currently completely committed to each other, and it wouldn't even cross my mind that any sort of unfaithful behavior would be taking place right now. I'm just confused, maybe very slightly hurt, and curious about what actually happened during that time. If they had sex then my feelings would instantly turn into anger, but right now I'm just unsure. Do I bring this up, or let it slide?", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_3vzcrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] not uncomfortable with traveling to places my husband [30 M] 1yr took his ex to", "post": "Yesterday he came back home and talked to me about places he's been to, I had a feeling that a place he mentioned was somewhere he took his ex of 5yrs (they lived together and he wanted to marry her), so I asked and he was like yea he was there with her. I felt very uncomfortable immediately and I felt chills on my body from being upset. It is immature I know but I can't help it. I felt like he must have been to a lot of those places with her because he's the kind of guy who would take his girl on vacations and they were in love for 5yrs etc I just felt like I can't compare to that. I didn't ask him to list all the places they went to but I feel like I suspect everytime he mentions some nice place he's been to and wonder if he's taking me somewhere they went to and the idea would make me sick. I know it's very immature of me to think that way and it's unfair to him so I didn't say anything, I didn't know what to say without showing him I'm sensitive and emotional so I was just quiet and didn't say much. But it's been boiling in me since then. \nHow should I approach this issue without sounding unreasonable?", "summary": "insecure about husband's ex of 5yrs and uncomfortable about going to all the places they went to and afraid to ask him to list all the places they went to."}
{"id": "t3_17ze0e", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Gf of 2 years just told me she cheated on me...7months ago.", "post": "I need some advice, I've never been cheated on and this is my first serious relationship. A little background, my gf is going through depression, but getting help for it. She hasn't cut in awhile and just started again. I caught her with scars today and she is going to see a therapist tomorrow. Tonight she came to some terms with herself and says she is finally ready to stop lying to herself. She tells me that a friend of mine, that I haven't seen in months had sex with her. They were both lucid and have no excuse for their actions (I talked to them both). I generally have a zero tolerance policy for this sort of thing, but she says the only reason she didn't tell me sooner was because she was afraid I would leave her. I felt too sick to think and too shocked to react. I almost don't want to leave her because we have an amazing relationship with each other. We connect on so many levels and share interests and attractions with one another. She cares about me a lot and that cannot go unmissed. She loves me very much and I know this for a fact, I just don't know how I can work past this.", "summary": "My gf cheated on me with an old friend of mine and finally chose to tell me. We have a great connection and I don't want to give her up, but is it the right decision?"}
{"id": "t3_2upnp8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my classmate [17 F] I think see has been interested in me since last school year when I moved to my current school, There is a girl in my first period that is in my 1st and 4th period class and I think she is interested in me.", "post": "OK so ever since last year there was a girl that stared at me from time to time when I moved to my current school. It happened so much that when I was standing with my cousin in the lunch line my cousin even said something about it. I am sometimes shy when it come to girls that I like or at least find attractive. \n\n I just don't know what top say to her because I am afraid that I will mess something up. Because it already happened to me two time this year I tell a girl; that I think she is cute and I get her number but than I choke and I do not know what to do next. I was also wondering what would be a good thing to say to her for the first time. I was thinking to ask her when a project was due in our 4th period because I actually need to know. \n\nThroughout my life I have realized that I over think things a lot so I usually get paranoid when I try to think of something to say to a girl and my other question is how should I get her number?", "summary": "there is a girl that has always stared at me and gave me several signs that she is interested in me. But my only question is how should I start a conversation with her because I am kinda shy when it comes to girls I find attractive. Is asking about a project due date okay? And I would also like to know the correct way to ask for her number."}
{"id": "t3_4jco0f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [14f] sister [16f] says she's cutting contact after she leaves for college.", "post": "Me and my sister do not have the best relationship. She ignores me, belittles my accomplishments, insults me and we fight constantly. However, there are moments when we act like sisters, and get along. \n\nShe's already said she's cutting contact with my father due to his emotionally abusive ways towards her and my mother. (Started around 2009 after his stroke.) She's also stated that after college, she's moving to Australia with her boyfriend.\n\nAfter a fight went too far with her, she said she said she's not going to talk to me/ contact me after she leaves for college. I really want us to keep in touch because no matter what, she's my sister and I love her.", "summary": "My sister says she will cut contact with me after she leaves for college, and plans to live in Australia after college."}
{"id": "t3_48q17r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When/How should I [30M] tell an ex [29F] who I am on good terms with that I'm seeing someone else. Difficulty: it's been a while and getting sort of serious.", "post": "I dated a woman for three years who was amazing and, in retrospect, I did not deserve. We had a great time and she saw me through some pretty serious personal shit, but I didn't handle my setbacks well. I drank too much and let myself become chronically under-employed while she excelled at her job and saw the writing on the wall. She dumped me and it hurt. It hurt because I knew it was my actions that lead to me sleeping in motels and couch surfing.\n\nBut, I did manage to turn it around after about a year. I screwed my head back on straight as it would go and locked down a new job in a state far, far away. And it's been great. I like my work again, I've made friends and I've met a woman who I really really like.  A woman who I like enough that we've met each other's families and plan trips months in advance. Bully for me. However...\n\nMy ex and I managed to stay on speaking and eventually friendly terms.  We still text each other jokes from time to time and it's nice for to hear that she's doing well. And I really mean that. I truly value her as a friend. But the elephant in the room is our failed and pretty serious relationship. I mean how do you say \"Oh, and by the way, I know I said I love you for three years but now I'm seriously into someone else\"?\n\nI guess I'm not asking for a way to bring this up without pissing her off so much as I'm asking for the most tactful way to let this information slip.", "summary": "Was a terrible boyfriend and got dumped. We became good friends again and I met someone else. It's gotten serious enough that not mentioning her seems like lying by omission. How do I disclose a new relationship tactfully to an ex?"}
{"id": "t3_1njikj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Toxic situation? Or indecisive.. [20/m]", "post": "First time poster and this has been on my mind for about two months now and I need to get it out. \n\nMe and my ex broke up about two and a half months ago, in what was a mutual situation (at first.) Neither of us were happy, I had moved about an hour away; basically it was a feeling of neglect both of us has towards each other, ontop of other issues.\n\nWe split up, I go over to her apartment a week or so later to do the walk of shame (still had some things there,) and her and I get to talking. Feelings are hashed out, things seem mildly ok. We keep talking and she blurts out, \"I can't lie to you...\" My first thought is \"oh great...\" She proceeds to tell me that, while on her week long trip to visit her dad out of state, she cheated on me with one of her exs. At that point we were already split up and I was past the point of caring so I wasn't really too upset. After all this we kind of made up, but she's been pushing me to get back together with her and I haven't been able to bring myself to do so... I'm not sure if its sheer indecisiveness, if I'm just being a bitch and not wanting to let go, or..something else?", "summary": "ex and I break up; we talk everything out and she tells me she cheated on me. Then starts pushing me to get back together with her, but I can't bring myself to even though I can't let her go either. Help."}
{"id": "t3_4vmo8x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with an old friend [22 F] who has come back from uni have been seeing each other for a month, currently NSA/Casual", "post": "She used to be in my friends group a few year ago, we wernt really that close, but life happened , she went to uni and we split ways so to speak. I found out that she went to the same kind of events as me when I bumped into her at one. My friends with me were telling me to \"get involved\" but me being me at that night didnt, though we spoke and danced a little.\n\nFast forward 3 months, shes come back from uni for the summer and spoke a little on Facebook and then somehow matched on Tinder, We went out on a date, and then went back to hers for a little smoke and made out then I went home.\n\nWeve kept talking about what we were doing in the day's and how we had been, we met up again and wandered around our town, messing around in the play parks around and had a pretty fun time. \n\nShe hosted a house party on the weekend just gone and I went along cause why not (I have social anxiety so I didnt really end up talking to many people other than people I already knew there and probably fucked up a little by not really talking to her) and had a really good time, which she did to.\n\nIt kinda seems like we have a connection, but I dont want to blow it by asking what her intentions are, if any (my last relationship broke because it was \"rushed\" into so im being extra careful). I've always found her attractive and she is a pretty awesome human, we dont have a lot of common interests but opposites attract right?\n\nShe goes back to uni at the end of the holidays so maybe I should see what happens until then? It would be nice to know whether this is a summer fling thing or what, or maybe I shouldnt find out either and just let it flow... I dont know.", "summary": "In a casual relationship with an old friend, would like to know if it could be more but dont know how to go about finding out without making it clear that I would like a relationship and possibly scaring her off. What advice would you give?"}
{"id": "t3_1w5gtp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] going to ask [23 F] I've known for 2 months on a date next week on Friday. Here is my plan.", "post": "So I took up a ballroom dancing class that meets every week and I met this girl that has a beautiful dance - for the longest time I thought ~~she was an instructor since she knows the dances so well!~~", "summary": "I like this girl in a dance class I see every week. I plan to ask her out. Suggestions / remarks/ experience stories would be helpful :) "}
{"id": "t3_1iva4i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (f) have trust issues.. Began trusting (m) & I don't want to get hurt.", "post": "*So I wasn't sure where to post this, but after a little thought I decided perhaps r/relationship_advice would be the best place to ask.\nAs it's mainly involves a relationship.*\n\n----\n\nI have trust issues, I have had them for a long time.\nI learn't when I was young, that I will only ever have myself, that no matter what one day I will be all alone. \nI selfishly cannot bear the idea of trusting someone & getting hurt in the process.\n\nI accepted this & have done so for years.\nYet recently I had met someone, we became \"close long distance friends\". \nEach and everyday he would bring a smile to my face, and brighten my \"not-so brilliant\" day, by just talking to me about all sorts of things. We didn't go without talking to each other more than 12 hours, each and every day we would talk.\n\nToday is the first day I went without talking to him.\nI did miss his thoughts & opinions.. but hey, we both have different life's to live. \nDue to this.. Today I realised, that I am always looking forward to each time he talks to me. I was beginning to \"trust\" that he will be there for me in the present, and talk to me. \nAnd I feel that it's selfish that I even began to feel emotions such as these..\nSo I realised that I cannot/shouldn't rely on him to always be there.", "summary": "OP has trust issues, began to trust a guy, cannot bear the idea of trusting anyone, does know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_26ecxf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Am I (22F) feeling irrationally jealous and resentful towards my (23M) boyfriend", "post": "My boyfriend has been away for a month now on exchange for school in Asia, and will be away for 2 months more after that.  I'm finding it really hard to be away from him, but for much different reasons than I expected.\n\nNot seeing him frequently, I'm finding it hard to feel close to him emotionally. Our conversations have stayed really light, and I feel like our relationship has not only stagnated, but might be moving backwards. \n\nMaking matters worse, all of his friends there are girls, and while I know that he would never cheat on me, I know that he is somewhat flirtatious with them. While I understand that this might just be his personality, I can't help but feel jealous, which in turn makes me feel resentful and even more unsure of our relationship.\n\nToday, he messaged me and asked if I could face time with him. We were about 10 minutes into our conversation when I heard a bunch of girls in the background calling his name and he told me that he had to go. I understand that things come up, and that I can't always be the first priority, but it still didn't help with me feeling insecure. Sometimes I wonder if this is really going to last, as I've just become so stressed about it all that I don't even really enjoy the few conversations that we do have. Its like I know him less and less as time goes by.\n\nThe part that scares me the most is that I have this urge to try and make him jealous back. For example, many guys have expressed interest me since he left, and this awful part of me wants to make him know about it. I know this is unhealthy, and I have refrained from doing it so far, but there is a part of me that wants him to know how I feel. I can't decide if this is just a problem with me being insecure, or if I actually have grounds for feeling kind of annoyed with him?", "summary": "Do I have reason to feel so resentful towards my bf, or am I being irrationally jealous?"}
{"id": "t3_15j3pi", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "3yr old Australian Shepherd gets aggressive when cell phone rings.", "post": "I am coming to reddit because so far I haven't been able to find a legit animal behavioralist in my area. (I understand reddit is no substitute for that.)\n\nA little background. . . I have a 3 year old Australian Shepherd. He is very well behaved for the most part. He listens to all basic commands and makes good eye contact most of the time. He is quite defensive of the yard and property. If someone comes to the door or a loud car drives by he barks and growls. He quickly quiets down when you ask him to. (Most of the time except when he is in the yard alone) He gets along very well with other dogs and people. If someone new is coming to the house he is standoffish at first but quickly is very friendly. (As long as I say its ok) He is well excercised for the most part. (Walk to a field and then 45 minutes+ of running/fetch/frisbee) In the winter time he goes outside less but doesn't seem to act any differently. I do alot of indoor training/play with him as well.\n\nThe other day my friends phone rang and he stood up about to answered it. At the same time my dog started growling and attacked him. He stopped after a few seconds (gave him sit commands etc) but was still very heated. My friend went in the other room for his phone call and it seemed like my dog wanted to follow him. We both thought the ringtone agitated him.\n\nAre there any clear cut training methods to stop this behavior? It happened twice now with two different people. He is completely fine with the person before and shortly after it happens. It really comes out of nowhere. I have tried to replicate the scenario but haven't been able to. I have also shown him a ringing phone etc.\n\nAlso if anyone has tips about making him less defensive of the yard it would be great! Sometimes he barks at people that are 4+ houses away. Once he bolted out the door and barked and circled the mailman. I have watched a bunch of youtube videos and done alot of googling but haven't found anything that worked yet.I get that this particular breed is quite defensive.", "summary": "Dog attacked when friends cell phone rang and friend went to answer. How to train him out of this behavior? Any tips to make him less defensive of the yard?"}
{"id": "t3_rc7c8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I bring it up?", "post": "My boyfriend (25/m) and I (23, f) split three weeks ago.\n\nI mostly got over the breakup. That's fast I know, but he had been ignoring our relationship for awhile, and everything just sort of died quickly. Last night however, he texted me, asking me how I was doing, what's new in my life, normal things like that. He also said he missed me, and that he's not happy right now. This guy was the love of my life for two years, so I have to admit I'm intrigued. I would really like us to work things out, because I believe we had something really special going on. But I'm not sure how to bring it up, and I have a huge fear that I was wrong and he's really not feeling much toward me aside from post breakup blues. \n\nIs there anything I can say to steer the conversation in that direction, without disrupting our friendship in the future or feeling like I've lost my dignity? He already knows exactly how feel, but at the same time he's a very nervous guy so I don't know if he would just let it lie regardless of how he feels.", "summary": "how to bring up getting back together? "}
{"id": "t3_2y878x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18F] of a year and a half broke up yesterday and it was for the best, yet I feel absolutely horrible now. Did I do the right thing?", "post": "Yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend of almost a year and half, due to myself falling out of love, which resulted in me not treating her the way she deserves to be treated. I did what I thought was best and told her about this as we promised to always be honest about our feelings, and predictably the conversation ended poorly.\n\nI had been feeling in such a way for a long time, and I tried waiting to see if the feelings would come back, but they didn't.\n\nShe is absolutely broken and I have told her that I still want to remain close (as close as you can be as ex's) and that I didn't want to disappear from her life, nor her from mine. \n\nI feel the worst I have in my life for this happening, and even though our relationship isn't what it once was, I still care for her wellbeing immensely.", "summary": "Broke up for the best with my gf and it destroyed her. I thought I did the right thing but now I feel like shit. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ix87c", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[RANT] I don't even want this party any more", "post": "I am so freaking sick and tired of repeatedly telling my mother my opinion (when she explicitly asks for it) about the engagement party.  I decided that I do not want to be the center of attention and would like a couples shower instead of a bridal shower.  Only I phrased it as an engagement party initially.  Now my mother will not listen to anything I tell her after she asks (i.e. she asked if I would like a specific brisket recipe and I said I would prefer my fiancee's family recipe.  She won't let us have his family's recipe).  This compounded with me asking for informal Facebook invitations to a cake and punch (what I originally requested to save mom & dad money) party and them telling me that is not what Brides' (fucking) magazine said to do, I am more stressed out about a fucking engagement party than I am about the actual wedding.  I don't even want the party any more.  Heck, she expected me to hash out a guest list for the party and the wedding WHILE AT WORK. (I go to classes full time and work part time in a position that would easily be full time thus creating more stress)\n\nOn top of all of that is the attire issue.  Mother has purchased two and almost purchased two more dresses.  Only one of the four is in a wedding color not the same as bridesmaids.  I also sent her a picture of a dress I found when just looking to see what was out there.  She refused to comment on it and threw a holy fit over not being there (without asking me if I would show her when she came up in a week).  I ended up buying the dress now because I did not want to deal with it (she would have complained that the underlay is not white).\n\nNow she is saying that because when I invited her up to look at the dress I was not able to go shopping with her that day due to wanting to spend time bonding with bridesmaids, she has been ousted. \n\nI feel that my opinion no longer counts for anything but to decide to do the exact opposite.\n\nWeddit, HELP!!!", "summary": "Mother has no respect for my opinions on my wedding and has gotten it to the point I begged my fiancee to elope tonight.  BTW we've only been engaged 3.5 weeks (5 months to go)"}
{"id": "t3_2pr70x", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[25m] My fiancee [25f] is a sheltered person. We are likely to be living away from home for a while. Looking for advice.", "post": "I'm a medical student. In a year, we will be married. In a few more years, we will move to wherever I end up doing my residency (3-4 years). Though staying in our home state is possible, it's unlikely.\n\nShe tried to live away from home once. It was a terrible experience and she only lasted a few months. So I asked her, \"how do you feel about being away from home for a few years during my residency?\" She says she's scared and not sure if she can take it.\n\nNow i'm scared. Residency, especially first year, is time consuming. I'm not sure what to do or think or say. This was something we discussed earlier in our relationship and she just said \"it's no big deal; I need to grow up anyway\".\n\nYeah =/", "summary": "my woman sucks at being away from home. I will probably be going out of state for residency. What advice do you have for me?"}
{"id": "t3_3adet6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I(f/19) know I'm in love? and when and how do I tell my boyfriend", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend(m/21) for 2 months shy of a yearend I've had to keep myself from saying I love you to him for months. I'm scared to say it first because obviously I don't want to be rejected if he doesn't love me back and his last relationship that almost lasted two years was a huge mindfuck for him where he told the girl he loved after a few months of dating and then she ends up being pschyco. And like I want to tell him I love him but how can I know for sure I'm in love when I've never been in love before? and eventually when I do tell him how should I tell him...", "summary": "I just want to know I'm not crazy for wanting to say I love you after being together for a year, we fuck, we sleep over at each others places, we've met each other's parents. I feel like its time to tell this man I love him yesterday! I think... that is if I am in love. and should I make it special? saying I love you?!"}
{"id": "t3_3t5ejx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19/M) have no idea what's going on between me and her (17/F)", "post": "Posting this on main cause idrc and I need help before I spiral into depression.\n\nAnyways, I've known this girl since I was 17, so about 2 and a half years now. We started chatting and getting friendly and everything about her just spun me head over heels for her and I confessed. She somewhat confessed and for a month she led me onto believe that we were a thing. After that month she explained that she didn't feel that way towards me and was doing it because she felt guilty. No hard feelings there, honestly, it's understandable - especially for someone so young. Anyways, my feelings still linger. I've tried many, many times to get over them but I cant. I've dated other women, hell I had a pretty long and somewhat serious relationship for a year and a half (which ended quite horribly and kind of adds into this). But still, everytime I talk to her the feelings remain. And I need to get over them.\n\nThe reason I need to first and foremost is that she's been with another person for almost a year and a half now, and it drives a wrench in my dumb ass heart. I've always been a close friend and have helped her get through a lot, and she's helped me though the reasons differ obviously. Besides their relationship just making me depressed for obvious reasons, she also turns to me to vent sexual frustration. We sext almost daily and that's not good because she's in a committed relationship and I feel like an absolute ass to the other guy, well because I am for doing so and because I can't help myself.\n\nNow, she talks about the negatives of their relationships a lot, and she has talked about the good sometimes. She also mentions that she cares about me a lot but she doesn't have romantic feelings for me. Shes only sexual attracted to me and likes me as a close friend. But we have moments where there's something beyond friends going in, beyond casual sexting - or so I think. I just don't know.\n\nHonestly, this is a messy post and probably extremely confusing which I apologize about. If someone is brave enough to dive into this then I sincerely thank you.", "summary": "Girl that I've been infatuated with for years is now dating someone and says she does not have the same feelings for me as I do for her, though the way she speaks me to almost says other wise. (Though it'd be better to read the whole thing)"}
{"id": "t3_f0thk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me do the \"Am I doing it right?\" meme on a picture of me and my friend?", "post": "I have this awesome picture of me, and my female friend. We're with the lead singer of our favorite band, memphis may fire.  We are poor college students, but our feat this last winter was to day trip (7hr drive there and 7 back) to see them.  We arrived back home at 5 am and both went to work that same day, like a boss.  Both of us are in agreement that this one day spent together was one of the best ever, and this crappy, little iphone picture is all we have to physically take from it.  \n\nI'd be so-so-so happy if another redditor with some photoshop skills could take this picture and whip up a little \"Am I doing it right?\" so I could show her?  If you look, the guy in the background between me and the lead singer of the band has the perfect face LOL! We laughed so hard about this and I think she'd love it if I could show her the meme.\n\n  There's the picture!", "summary": "Went on trip.  Have picture.  Needs some AMIDOINGITRIGHT done to it."}
{"id": "t3_13cdq7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is it okay to hurt someone temporarily to help them in the long run? Context inside...", "post": "My younger sister is 15 and I recently found her twitter. It isn't private, and her username is her first and last name, so it's not like I did any serious snooping. The thing is, apparently she's been partying, drinking and smoking every weekend. She is failing nearly every class and my parents are already very frustrated with her because of that.\n\nI'm a sophomore in college and never did anything \"rebellious\" in high school besides slacking off and skipping class. I drink now, but I'm not an idiot about it. \n\nBasically, should I tell my parents/direct them to what I've seen? I'm not close with my sister at all and if I tried to talk to her about it, she would deny everything and shut me out. My dad is only home for a couple of weeks until he goes back to work in Japan, and I would hate for my mom to have to deal with this shit alone. We're going on a small vacation next week (my parents, me and my two sisters). After that I won't see them again until Christmas. If I told them, she would be in SO much trouble. But I don't want her to get hurt--she's fucking up her chances of getting into college, and she's an immature high schooler who could end up getting into serious trouble/getting hurt. I feel like I'm being irresponsible if I don't do ANYTHING about it.", "summary": "15-year-old sister smoking and drinking/basically screwing herself over, should I tell my parents?"}
{"id": "t3_1jxto0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to bug my wife", "post": "I had just got out of the bath while my wife was in bed using the laptop.  As I walked to the cupboard to grab a towel, she whistled at me in a taunting cat call kind of way.  Since I was soaking wet, I decided that I was going to go and give her a big hug and get her wet.  As I half danced, half skipped across the floor, she realized what was about to happen.  At the last minute, she stuck her foot out to intercept me.\n\nI tried to stop, but my momentum, the wood floor and my sopping wet feet decided otherwise.  I slid into the night stand, with both of my feet sliding underneath.  The top of my foot got a small cut, and I feel like I twisted my ankle.  Couple this with the fact that my upper body hit her foot and I feel backwards.  I landed on my wrist, with my elbow jabbing into my ribs.  My 6 yo son came bursting into the room to protect his mom and make sure she was okay.  Upon seeing my naked and writhing in pain on the floor, he decided to jump on me to teach me a lesson about teasing my wife.  He landed right on my spine and hurt my back.\n\nNow I am laying in the other room, my ankle hurts, my wrist hurts, my ribs hurt and my back hurts.  My wife and son are still laughing at me from my bed.", "summary": "Tried to soak my wife, ended up slipping, falling and bruising more than my ego."}
{"id": "t3_2d2mgo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help with a girl me 22 and her 20", "post": "I met this girl a couple months ago off tinder. I didn't know anyone in my city so it was nice meeting this girl. We hung out on the weekends because we worked during the week. She wanted to take things slow so we did. Eventually we went on a vacation trip together and things finally happened in bed. Roll forward a month and things are still going well and she says how she looks forward to us returning to college cause we will have a lot of fun together. She says I am a great guy and she really likes me. She had some shitty relationships previously apparently. Then out of no where her demeanor changes completely. She says she no longer wants a relationship and just wants to be friends. All summer I put my time into hanging out with this girl and getting to know her. My coworkers often got mad at me because I chose to hang out with her instead of go drinking with them. She told me that she could eventually want a relationship and I am not someone she wants to throw away but I have no idea what to do now.  I really like her but she is just destroying me emotionally right now. Literally yesterday she was telling me how she can't wait to kiss and hold me then today she is saying she wants to be friends because she can't handle a relationship. Please help me.", "summary": "Met a girl 2 months ago. Things went great for a while then she suddenly did a complete 180 in the matter of hours saying she doesn't want a relationship and only wants to be friends now."}
{"id": "t3_1xqn3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/F] with my [28/m] live in boyfriend can't stop getting revenge on each other by emotionally seeking other people.", "post": "My boyfriend and I live together, and unfortunately due to past incidents (on both parts), we have severe trust issues with each other. We love and care for each other very much, so we have always decided to make things work between us. \n\nLast Friday, I stopped my boyfriend from going on a date with another girl (I found the texts on his phone). After confessing that he was only doing it out of insecurity and he just wanted to \"feel like a man,\" he admitted he would have probably only have gone as far as kissing her. \n\nA felt numb, sick, hurt, but mostly exhausted by it. He told me to meet him after work and he planned a romantic dinner and bought broadway show tickets for us.. it was fun, but all I could think was \"this was the date you were supposed to go on with another girl.\" \n\nI told him I wanted to make it work (I did) and that I wanted to continue living with him (I do), but then I reached out to a guy I previously had a drunken kiss with. I am not remotely interested in him, I just find it easier to talk to strangers about my issues instead of my friends. I know my friends will just convince me to leave, and that is why I never discuss my relationship with them. \n\nAnyway, my boyfriend found out I had been talking to this guy and is upset with me, which I completely understand. He is convinced much more happened/is happening.. but it's not. We are stuck in this cycle of hurting each other by clinging onto other people and I don't know how to get back on track or even if the relationship is worth saving.", "summary": "We have a hard time trusting each other. We hurt each other by emotionally cheating with other people."}
{"id": "t3_3x33wj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using a LPT", "post": "Happened last night, so points for that, I guess:\nI read that post yesterday about discussing your crushes with your SO and working through them. I thought it was a very insightful and being the guy that I am, tried to strengthen the avenues of communication with my girlfriend. I knew it would be a sensitive topic to discuss so my strategy was to bring it up in a nonchalant way. We were getting ready for bed, and we always talk to each other before we go to sleep. I figured it was the perfect time. I tell her about the LPT I read earlier in the day. \"Yeah, that seems like a good tip\" she responded. Then it gets quiet. I can hear the wheels in her head turning. \"Do you have a crush on somebody?\" she asked. I knew by her tone that things were getting serious. \"No, at least not anymore. What about you?\" I asked her. \"NO! Who the hell did you have a crush on?!\", she was pretty much yelling at this point. I knew I had reached a point of no return. \nI had to spill the beans: \"my sister's friend (we'll call her K). It was the first time we met her. It didn't last long- I realized that what you and I have together is way more valuable. She just came along at a time when you were really upset all the time and she was just so happy and i thought she was cute. I worked through it though. I just wanted to be open about it. You really have never had a crush on another person during our entire relationship?!\" She gives me a death stare and looks straight into my eyes and says \"No. Never.\" It gets quiet again and I really don't know what to say. She covers up and turns off the light and says \"I was going to blow you tonight since I haven't in a while, but you might as well get K to do it. I'm sure she'll be happy to do it since I'm such an angry bitch.\" She rolled over and that was it. We woke up this morning and got ready for work and ate breakfast in complete silence.", "summary": "decided to open up to my girlfriend about a crush I had at one point because of something I read on Reddit yesterday, denied a BJ and am now in the doghouse."}
{"id": "t3_2vkfdu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (26F) boyfriend's (26M) mother (63F) made him choose between us. He chose me but I'm scared she'll come back.", "post": "This is such a confusing story, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, we are both 26. We dated casually to start but fell in love and both think this is going to last for a long time. We're very happy together.\n\nAround 8 months ago I met his mother. She doesn't live near us, so I have only met her a couple of times, over a short period. I thought we got on well. She loved me, because I am \"rich and pretty\" (her words - I'm not rich, and pretty is subjective). My boyfriend and I went on an expensive vacation that we'd both saved up for. It was amazing. It was then that she started making derogatory comments. Saying that it was a waste of money etc. Then suddenly I was no longer invited to family events. If he would go to visit her, I wasn't welcome. It got worse. To summarize the next couple of months: it got worse until she ended up making him pick between me or her. I have no clue why. Long story short we are happy together and he has cut her off, but it wasn't without a lot of hassle including death threats to us both, and I think my boyfriend is very traumatized by what happened, although he won't talk about it.\n\nSince then we have had no contact apart from she sent him a Christmas card. However. I am SO scared she will come back. I worry that she will manipulate him into leaving me, and do terrible things to us. What can I do to get over this? What can I do to prevent this happening? What do I do if she comes back? Also, what can I do to support my boyfriend? My family has welcomed him but I worry it's not the same.", "summary": "Boyfriend's mom made him choose between me or her, he chose me, I'm scared we haven't seen the last of her."}
{"id": "t3_189c5c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22/M) am unsure whether I should pursue a relationship with my lovely girlfriend (28/W) due to our age gap", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, and I could honestly say that I've never been so happy with someone before. We are getting rather serious, and we both love each other deeply, but I could never stop worrying about her being 6 years older than me...\n\nMy girlfriend was a virgin when we met and I was the first guy she's been in bed with. She also never lived on her own before, and is very dependent on her parents. I, on the other hand, was living on my own at the time, and had a lot more experience with relationships before. Thus, despite the fact that she's 6 years my senior, she's much more immature than I am, and looks at least 8 years younger than her age. I'm much more serious and responsible than her and have had a lot more experiences in my life. As a result, I've always felt like the older, more mature one in the relationship, and I've always seen her as someone who is a couple of years younger than myself.\n\nDespite this, when we are not seeing each other, I can't help but worry about our age difference. How will she mature when she gets older? Will she still be her young vibrant self? Much of my worries stem from my traditional father, who never approved of our relationship since she's older than me. According to him, such relationships are temporary, and I would get bored of being with someone who, down the line, will have less energy than myself. These worries are getting in my head, because we are starting to get really serious, and I am wondering if I should spend the rest of my life with this absolutely gorgeous woman, whom I have a strong connection with, or if I should stop wasting her time and move on...\n\nSo my question is, do any of you have any experience with relationships like this one? Is 6 years even something to worry about? What are the pros and cons of being with an older woman? Do I have to worry about anything as time progresses?", "summary": "I love a woman who is 6 years older than me, but I'm worried that the age gap will lead to this relationship's end."}
{"id": "t3_2cg6kf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [24 F] have been dating for 2 years. I'm ready to get engaged but i'm worried about her weight.", "post": "She's not obese but she's on the bigger side. I am and have been sexually attracted to her since we met but i'm worried once we're engaged she's going to get bigger and i won't be attracted to her anymore. \n\nI love everything about her except her eating and workout habits. i'm not the most fit person in the world but i work out at least twice a week and eat fairly well. She doesn't workout at all and eats a lot. We've talked about her joining a gym (I have one at work) and she says she wants to but never follows through. \n\nThere's no one else i'd rather be with and I know I need to talk to her about it but I don't know how to do it without sounding like an asshole. Then again, maybe I am being an asshole? what do you guys think?", "summary": "How do i gently talk to my girl about her weight?!"}
{"id": "t3_3cvehf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] and her twin sister [18 F] in a complicated situation", "post": "Well I'm in a bit of an awkward situation, not really knowing what to do. I have just graduated senior year, going to ball with this girl we will call Abby. She has a twin sister we will call Jordan, which one of my good friends Josh went to ball with. \n\nNow, Abby and I have been talking and hanging around each other for around 1 month now, as school has just gotten out. She has told me she isn't looking for a relationship or anything of the sort, and we haven't done anything intimate either. I like this girl, and shes told me some personal stuff about her regarding depression, something she doesn't tell anyone about herself. We got into a bit of an argument recently, but most was resolved.\n\nThe real problem comes with Jordan, who is now frequently looking to talk to me, and also has stated to want to hang out with me, without Abby in the picture. Now I don't really know what to do, as my friend who went to ball with Jordan likes Jordan, yet Jordan is coming onto me.\n\nI'm at a loss for what to do in this situation, with Jordan being my friend Josh's crush yet she told me she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him to me. I'm just looking for advice on what to do in this situation, any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Like Abby, yet Abby doesn't feel the same, Jordan might be coming onto me, yet Josh likes Jordan."}
{"id": "t3_1rfofm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M17] don't know to make make personal contact with my crush[F17].", "post": "So there's this girl in my new class... We met 3-4 months ago when we got put in the same class at our new school. At first we didn't notice eachother but after about 1-1,5 months we started to talk on a regular basis(almost every schoolday, not on our free time). She laughs at almost every joke I make and I sometimes catch her eye whilst she's looking at me.\n\n A month ago our class had a classparty, and that's when I started to notice that she sort of followed me around. Wherever I went/sat down in the house she would go sit down aswell. She also asked me to remove her necklace and made me wear it, telling me that I looked cute with it on. Our hands met on the table and she held her hand on mine for a good 20 seconds. When it was time for me to leave she followed me outside and sat down on the ground looking at me until I was out of her sight(she was, however, quite drunk that night). \n\nAfter this she has been talking to me less often and I heard her friend talking with her about how another guy was ''very hot'' and that she should ''go'' for him. I don't know if she wanted to make me jealous(maybe?) since I was sitting one row in front of them. This makes me wonder if I've taken too long time to make her realise that I like her.\n\nThe problem is that she is hard to reach out to! She dosn't use facebook(so no chatting) and asking for her number would be quite awkward since she never sits alone in class. I need help with how to make personal contact and show her that I like her more than friends.", "summary": "I like this girl who has shown signs of her liking me. However, I don't know how to make personal contact and think that I might have waited to long to have a chance with her. Any help?"}
{"id": "t3_28fx47", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [17F] of 2 years, going our seperate ways on my birthday.", "post": "So lately my ex girlfriend, still feels hard to call her that, has been somewhat reluctant to kiss me and she says its because she doesnt feel the same and it is partly/mostly to do with the fact that i dont have ANYTHING going for me. I am going to make changes in my life, and would ultimately want to get her back into my life.\n\n I already know, i shouldnt try to hold on to her, but i want to be a better person for myself and i want to learn to love myself. Is there any chance that she can be a part of my life again if we try to be friends while i try to get my shit together? \n\ni am extremely used to her  being my girlfrend, and being around her when i cant be her boyfriend makes me very sad. I dont know what im doing here, or what im asking for. I dont have anyone i can really go to except for her and now i cant even do that. This definitely takes prize for worst birthday ive ever had. Any help is much appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 2 years tells me i need to work on me. Worst birthday ever. What do i do now? Will i ever get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_38zj6p", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I [21 M] with my close friend [20 F] 6 years, tells me she likes everything about me but can't get her subconscious to do agree on it?", "post": "Background: L(using as a name for her) and I have been friends since freshman year of highschool. We got really close and displayed feelings for each other later that year and became a couple. That whole relationship was just sexual and nothing else from that(lasted for 4 months). We were both at fault on it and agreed we should break up. We didn't really talk to each other a lot until our freshman year of college(randomly saying hi and just being friendly between those years).\n\nPresent: We have been hanging out a lot and texting and getting really close in our friendship for the last 8 months when she tells me she likes every aspect about me(physical, sexual, chemistry and mentally) but she can't get her subconscious to agree on it(she also has a boyfriend too). She says she can't see her self being romantic with me, only just as her best friend. She sees herself being happy and having a great time with me. She has told friends and family she really likes me and wants to be with me but she just can't get over that barrier.\n\nIs there anything I can do to help her over that barrier or will she have to?", "summary": "Girl I have known for a long time tells me she likes every aspect about me(physical, sexual, chemistry and mentally) but she can't get her subconscious to agree on it. Is there anything I can do about it?"}
{"id": "t3_3cl6h9", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I am 17 going on 18, what should I spend my money on?", "post": "Hello,\n\nI am a 17 year old male in the suburbs just north of Atlanta. I will be a senior in high school after the summer ends and I have a part time job at a country club near me making an hourly wage of $10.35 an hour. I am in no way in financial trouble, but I want to start investing not only to make money for the future but its something that I feel like I can get interested in. How would you recommend I start, or should I do something else with my money? To give you an idea of what my current situation is, during the summer I usually work between 40-50 hours a week, when school is in season, I will do about half of that. My required expenses are between my car and my phone. I pay for gas for my car (about $60 a week) and I pay around $33 for my phone a month. My college will be paid for completely either by a scholership from work or/and my parents so there is nothing to worry about there. My parents also pay for my car insurance but its the cheapest possible, so if something breaks on my car its on me to pay for it. Currently, I have about $1000 left in an account for that because of accidents that werent my fault. So how should I spend my money? Obviously I'm still a teenager so I need money to spend on... Teenager things... but not a lot at all because I work so much and between that and marching band I dont have a lot of time for that kind of shenanigans. \n\nHow should I spend my money? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "school is paid for. What is the next best thing to put money towards which I am not extremely dependent on?"}
{"id": "t3_54heko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend (20F) is sending nudes and trying to get with my friend(37F), after just getting back with her boyfriend (20M), should I say something?", "post": "The title says it all. My friend just got back together with her boyfriend/fiance or whatever after 8 months apart. During that time she really went to town on the whole bi-sexual/lesbian thing and almost exclusively identified herself as a lesbian during this time. She had a threesome with my friend and her husband and they remained close.\n\nHowever, after she got back with her ex, she's still been sending nudes to my other friend and attempting to encourage double dates where they'd \"sneak off to the bathroom for 10-15 minutes\". My friend is flattered but hesitant. It's possible that her bf is aware of this and is cool with them being poly, but she's never mentioned poly and I know that infidelity was an issue with the dude previously.\n\nI've never met the guy, but I just get the feeling that if it was my SO, I'd want to know. But is it sticking my nose in shit that it doesn't need to be stuck in?", "summary": "Friend is sending other friend nudes, and trying to set up some sketchy stuff, should I tell her boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_toahr", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "I need some help from the grill masters out there", "post": "I am looking at buying my hubs a grill for fathers day. I want to spend $250 or less (after coupons perhaps). I need some recommendations. I want propane. Large enough for a family of four. The problem I have noticed on all of our previous grills is that the hinges for the top tend to give out. I HATE that. We have to prop our cover open and the carefully lower it when we grill. So I would like it to have some sort of warranty or some sort of reputation of durability. Also, he HATES the color red. Also, I don't know if this makes a difference but we live in the southern USA.", "summary": "I need a grill <$250 after coupons, with a hinge that won't break, not red. suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_4db9fg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (254F) is starting to parent my (28M) baby (1M)", "post": "Sorry, title should say girlfriend is 24. \n\nI have sole custody of my baby from a previous relationship, my son's mom isn't a part of our lives at all. I've been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now, since my son was 3 months old. \n\nI always tried to keep my relationship with her kind of separate from my parenting. If the baby cried in the middle of the night, I would go and get him, I do all of the diaper changes and feeding and everything because I didn't want my girlfriend to feel like she was responsible for him in any way. \n\nRecently she's been starting to be a lot more active with my son. It started a couple weeks ago with her taking a couple days off sick from work and insisting that I don't drop him at the day care those days. Since then she has been trying to help out more with feeding him and changing him and entertaining him. She even bought a baby wrap so she can wear him around the house and on walks. \n\nI'm not sure what to think about this. On one hand it makes me happy to see her caring for him and he seems to really like her but on the other hand I worry about how it will impact all of us in the future. If my girlfriend and I were to break up, it would be like my son is losing a mom and she is losing her child. Plus I'm sure there will be lots of other issues with things like parenting decisions, which I have been making independently. \n\nI do see us staying together but of course it's impossible to know what will happen. If we do stay together, how do we define the parenting roles and decide on when she should start \"officially\" parenting my son? How do I protect everyone from getting hurt if we were to break up?", "summary": "girlfriend becoming attached to my son and is starting to care for him"}
{"id": "t3_4ffy3z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my gf [21 F] of 6 months, I want her to lose weight.", "post": "She was a healthy weight at the start of college but she's gained at least 50 to 60 pounds since the beginning of college. She's also pre-diabetic. She has a family history of diabetes as well. She hates exercise. \n\nI mainly want her to lose weight not because of how she looks but because of her health. Hell yea, I'd love it if she was thinner, but it's not the looks that bother me; she's an awesome girlfriend regardless. I mean it. Yeah I got some flak from my best friends in the beginning but I told them to can it and I don't have any issues with her weight except in one way (below). \n\nShe wanted to enter a long-term, long-distance relationship with me, and I did too. However, I was thinking I'd rather not deal with any avoidable health problems of hers down the road. I don't want her to call me one day and be like \"Yeah, I'm diabetic, and I'm going to have to take insulin every day for the rest of my life and eat this and not that and you have to watch out for signs of hyperglycemia in me, etc.\" I'd much rather not deal with that along with the emotional fallout. Yeah, I do realize we're both only 21 and this is unlikely to be the last relationship for either of us. Still, that's not something I need on my mental in the possibility \n\nLet me be clear - I'd rather not deal with any avoidable health problems on her side. If she was in a car accident or something, then hell yeah, I would go drive whatever distance to see her. I actually had a seizure the other week for the first time (right out of the blue; no family history) and she drove 200+ miles to see me. I'd do the same for her. But I'd rather not have to deal with preventable stuff like diabetes and heart problems from not watching her own weight. She already deals with pretty bad heartburn and back pain. I biked to the store to get her Tums and give her regular massages because I care. Fortunately, heartburn and back pain are relatively minor issues. Am I selfish or what?", "summary": "I love my girlfriend but she's overweight. I don't care about her looks. I am just worried about her health and I don't want to have to deal with avoidable health problems down the road. Am I selfish?"}
{"id": "t3_1lpes5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] may be encouraged to play strip poker tonight with my ex [21M] in the vicinity. My boyfriend [22M] is on holiday. I don't feel comfortable about this.", "post": "I'm part of a small(ish) friendship group back home where we all meet up whenever we can and get pretty drunk. My ex hasn't been a part of this for a long time, due to him doing his own thing and drifting away - however, he's decided to come back and about 7 of us are having a reunion tonight. My ex and I are civil to one another and I don't mind him being around - he is a bit of a laugh and I have no more attraction towards him any more. However, here's the sting - at these gatherings we normally play some form of strip poker.\n\nWhilst my ex wasn't around, I didn't care and told my boyfriend that we played it - we're all good friends and it's usually a drunken laugh. But this time, I feel really uncomfortable about it. If I found out my boyfriend was playing strip poker with an ex, I'd feel pretty crap to say the least. But it's a toss up between giving in to peer pressure and being a prude.\n\nMy boyfriend is on holiday at the moment and he's not in touch every day, so it's not like I can slip into the conversation \"oh, I might be encouraged to play strip poker with my ex tonight\" and talk it through with him. It really is just friendly banter, but I really, really don't want to cause unrest, awkwardness or negative feelings due to a stupid game.\n\nWhat can I do, reddit?", "summary": "Having a reunion with friends tonight that usually involves strip poker. For the first time in a while, my ex will be joining the reunion again and I don't feel comfortable playing strip poker as I don't feel like I'd be doing right by my boyfriend. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1s30b2", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Can I sue my Old Mortgage Holder for emotional distress after auto-drafting $1200 from my checking account for a closed mortgage? see additional details.", "post": "*originally posted to r/legal but this sub has more readers so posted here as well*\n\nI am in Texas. \n\nSo Old Mortgage Holder (OMH) closed my mortgage and sold it to another company.\n\nOn the letter notifying me of my account being sold, OMH stated that they would stop all auto-drafts by 12/2/13 but late last night on 12/3/13 they charged my account the $1200 anyways.\n\nI contact OMH today and they tell me that they automatically forward the funds \"received\" to the New Mortgage Holder (NMH) and that I need to contact my new mortgage holder to refund my payment.\n\nI ask if we can do a three-way call and they THEN inform me that NMH won't actually be able to do anything until Friday since the NMH won't be able to see the funds sent to them from OMH because the transfer from OMH can take a little while.\n\nI calmly made my frustrations clear (really I'm surprised how calmly I said it, I was like Liam Neeson from Taken) and explained their logic back to them which was that they were trying to give me the run around.\n\nAfterwards they said they could try to do some kind of request to get my funds sent back to me today and that they would let me know.", "summary": "Assuming that OMH can not get me back the funds before Friday (which if it doesn't make it here by Friday means I will probably have to wait until Monday), would I have grounds to sue them for emotional distress for them having wiped out my bank account after sending me a letter stating they wouldn't charge my account, given me the run around and potentially wasting even more of my time, me having to miss work to come home and deal with this, the distress of not knowing if I will have enough money to cover my expenses until OMH refunds my account, and lets not forget that christmas is only a few weeks away that I still need to buy gifts for."}
{"id": "t3_2s2git", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Help me PF...you are my only hope (throwaway)", "post": "This is a throwaway account, because I really do not want to offend the people involved, or hurt anyone's feelings.\n\nI'm 42, recently divorced and am struggling with car loan issue.  My ex has a new (less that 6K miles) 2014 VW Jetta that is upside down and the loan is in my name.  The balance owing on the car is around $24,000.  KBB values it at MAYBE $16,000, but more like $11,000 for trade in value.\n\nThe ex wants to give me the car, and go finance a new BMW in her name.  She says it is to start building her own credit.  My credit has always been significantly better, so everything was in my name while we were married.\n\nI have a 2008 2WD Toyota Tacoma.  It is financed, but I have equity in it, owing around $14K and KBB values it optimistically at $22,300.\n\nI am financially responsible for the Jetta.  I don't know that I have any control over this situation.  As far as I can tell, I am going to get stuck with an additional $24K in debt, and a car I won't drive and can't sell due to the negative equity.\n\nMy only thought is to take the two cars into a dealership as trade-ins,  use the equity in my truck to offset the negative equity in the Jetta, and try to finance something cheaper that I can pay off quickly.\n\nI am looking for any guidance y'all can provide.", "summary": "Two financed vehicles.  One with equity, one upside down.  Trade them in or...?"}
{"id": "t3_28ekzk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by misreading my college assignment and getting a zero on my first test.", "post": "I know this isn't as bad as being penetrated by a faucet while having a sexy time shower, but I fucked up today nonetheless.\n\nLet me start by saying that I am in high school, and I decided to take a college course at my local community college this summer (online). We are in the fourth week of class, and I thought that this week's assignment would be our first test, which is what the title read on the assignment. Nope, turns out that the test, despite being in a separate week column, was due last week along with my essay. The correct dates for the test were in the text part of the document, how I missed it, I don't know, but I did. \n\nNow, I am going to go /r/offmychest for a second. Why the fuck did the test get put into next week's assignment, with the dates June 18th-24th, but be due on June 15th! This planning has not only made me fail a test, but, also made every week after this have the wrong dates for the assignment! What sucks even more is the fact that he usually emails me three times a week reminding me that I have assignments due (Really cool of him), but, I received no email reminding me of the test, despite getting emails reminding me of the assignment due that week. I honestly have no discussion ground with this professor since his syllabus states that late work is not accepted unless you email him that it will be late. If I have any ground, it's the wrong dates on the title of the post for the test. So, I don't even know what to say to him in the email explaining what happened.\n\nI know it's my fault, I should have read the fine print, the correct dates were highlighted, which adds to my frustration that I didn't catch it. It still sucks that I failed my first test of my college career. On the bright side, my college ID gets me 10% off at a lot of the places I eat/buy things at, which is awesome.", "summary": "I got a zero on a college test because my eyes suck at being eyes."}
{"id": "t3_2sy8pz", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[FL] Light in Front Window", "post": "Hello everyone, \n\n**Background:** \nI live in a one story apartment complex. My front window faces the parking lot. Over the past years my cars have been burglarized. So I decided to get a surveillance camera and put it in my window looking out. At night it's very dark outside and I've had to block the IR lights on the camera because it reflects to itself in the pictures. I also fashioned a light bulb enclosed in a housing that sits flush against the window. It does not damage or modify the window in any way. The blinds keep it pressed against the window. The camera also has black poster board behind it so that when the lights are on inside the is no reflection. It's not the best look, but it works and keeps me from damaging the landlord's stuff.\n\n**Fast forward:**\nI get a letter in the mail from the complex stating that there was an inspection and to please remove the light and all non white backing. No action or consequences were defined in the letter.\n\nI checked my lease and there are no mention of lights, regulations of anything regarding displays. There is a community rules guide that mentions pool times, attire at the pool, quite hours, and guests getting hurt. However, no mention of windows. This is not an HOA and all the rules I have copies don't have mention of these topics.\n\nI get a voicemail later stating that if I don't take it down they will have to issue another kind of notice. Vaguely meaning I guess eviction or fine, idk.", "summary": "Have security camera and light inside my window facing out. Apartments tell me to remove it. There are no rules or regulations in the lease or rules that say I can't have it. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_oi2yt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just met a girl and her boyfriend. Found out that the girl has been cheating on the boyfriend with someone I know. Should I tell the boyfriend even though I barely know him?", "post": "So I'm out at a bar this weekend hanging out with some people, including a guy I'm fairly good friends with but not super close. We'll call him Alex. Most of the people there were friends of his, but not friends of mine, so I took the opportunity to mingle and meet some new people.\n\nThe two people I probably spent the most time talking to were a girl and her boyfriend. We'll call them Pam and Phil. I talked to them for quite a while about a variety of things. Phil was very quiet, but Pam was pretty talkative, almost firtatious if I hadn't known she had a boyfriend. They both seemed very nice, people I'd certainly hang out with again. At some point, they left the bar.\n\nI went back to talk to Alex for a bit, and he said he noticed I had been talking to Pam and Phil. Note that Alex had been drinking a bit by this point and thus was a bit more prone to being somewhat \"honest.\" He told me Pam was a \"good person to be talking to.\" I asked why, and he said it was because she was willing to sleep around. As it turned out, Alex had been sleeping with Pam for quite a while, and had just recently stopped, even though Pam had been going out with Phil the entire time.\n\nI know some might say it's none of my business, but I feel bad for Phil. I know that if it were *me*, and some guy who was practically a stranger told me my girlfriend was sleeping around, I'd appreciate the fact that he let me know about it so I could get out of that relationship and move on to better things in my life. But should I just leave well enough alone? The person I know best here, Alex, would probably have his friendship with Pam ruined if it came out that I was the one who told, and that in turn would probably also ruing my relationship with Alex. If I were to tell Phil, would I be doing a good deed, or would I essentially be meddling where I didn't belong?", "summary": "Met girl and guy through a friend a couple days ago. Found out the girl has been cheating on the guy with my friend. Should I tell the guy about the girl's infidelity, or is it none of my business since I barely know them at all?"}
{"id": "t3_2ev0fe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting my mom arrested for drug trafficking.", "post": "So, like many people my age (18) I've been getting ready to go to university. It's exciting. Also like many people my age, I like to smoke (or in this case vape) a bit of weed from time to time. My mom knows, but I try and avoid bringing attention to it, as she doesn't approve.\n\nA couple days ago I was enjoying a few hits off my little MFLB (a small vape, for those who don't know) when my mom got home early. Making as I had before, I hid the vape, with about a half a gram of weed in it, by tucking it into the corner of my elastic sheet. My mother decides now is a great time to pack, as she leaves the next day, and I, being stoned, reluctantly agree, and start gathering clothes.\n\nMeanwhile my mother is gathering various non-clothing essentials: towels, facecloths, oh, and yes, *bedding*. Figuring I need multiple sets if bedding, my mother lets me know she's going to strip my sheets of my bed, and I'll just have to put up with my mattress cover for a night. This should have set off alarm bells. It didn't. \"Fine\" I said. \n\nThe next day, after dropping my mom off at the airport (I would be flying out tomorrow), I decide to take advantage of the alone time with a few hits. As I wonder upstairs to retrieve my pipe from by bedding, it, at long last, hits me.\n\nI sit down, hoping to god I don't get that unfortunate call. Of course, I do.\n\nI grab my neighbor, a lawyer, and drive to the airport. My mother is sitting in a very cliche interrogation room, thankfully not in handcuffs. We ended up explaining the whole situation honestly, and I guess it was one of those cases where it was so unlikely it had to be true. Luckily it was such a small amount of weed and I'm from a relatively liberal country, so no charges were pressed. My mother, however, won't be flying for a little while.", "summary": "Accidentally used my mom as a drug mule."}
{"id": "t3_2bqnmt", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Hey everyone, I have a question about physical affection on a first date.", "post": "So, I met a guy online about a week ago and we made plans to go out tonight. Everything went great, and he seems like such a fantastic guy. I felt comfortable with him, conversation was easy, and I we had quite a lot in common. There was only one hitch.\n\nAfter dinner, we were sitting in his car and just started talking and being silly. Then he held my hand. The moment he did that I got really stiff and uncomfortable. I held his hand, even though I didn't want to be touched, but I didn't want to be rude or seen uninterested either. The moment we released hands, I felt fine again. Then he held it again. I'm really attracted to him and I am definitely interested in seeing where things go between us, but I just need to figure out how I can accept the physical affection. I've always been uncomfortable with showing or receiving affection like that, but it's been so long that I forgot about how strongly it bothered me. Any advice or suggestions? We've got a date for an all day movie day next Monday, so I feel like this issue is important to address.", "summary": "had a great first date with a fantastic guy, but iced up the minute he showed physical affection."}
{"id": "t3_1lb0i7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Caught my dad cheating moments ago", "post": "I'm soooo angry I just want to punch him in his stupid fucking face. He has a happy marriage, a beautiful home, and 3 kids. He's gonna do this stupid shit. \n\nMy moms outta town for 3 days, shes having a girls weekend with her mother. My dad left his cellphone out in the living room which he never does with a few text messages he hasn't actually deleted. So I check them and the last message was from a woman saying \"sweet dreams, my heart.\" And him responding \"good night my boo.\" First off that lady is a bitch, secondly what fat white fuck on the wrong side of 50 fuck says \"boo..\"\n\nI thought he had already gone to bed, but he comes back out into the living room to grab his cellphone which i pretend i haven't seen. He grabs his cellphone nervously and says good night. \n\n\"Good night, my heart\" I said to him...", "summary": "fuck you dad"}
{"id": "t3_3q6wa7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30F] with my ex[34 M], I am having a hard time moving on from the break up. How can a guy be such a good boyfriend yet be a cheater at the same time?", "post": "My ex and I recently broke up. I have a lot of unanswered questions, feeling confused and I'm looking for advice and clarity. \n\nMy ex cheated on me a couple years ago (browsing dating websites and finally hooking up with 1 person) but we decided to stay together. I believed him when he said it wouldn't happen again. He became more attentive, considerate, caring, everything I could ask for in a partner. We have been through so much together since then and love each other so much which is why I don't understand why he would jeopardize our relationship again!! A few weeks ago, I found out that he recently signed up for a dating website and I broke up with him. I have no intentions of getting back with him after this. **I am just having a really hard time moving on because I do believe that he loves me and that it was never his intention to hurt me or look for a new relationship.** We did not have any problems in the bedroom btw. He just enjoys getting attention from women and getting off to that. I feel that this makes it harder for me to let him go because he was actually a good boyfriend. My mind is jumping back and forth because then I think to myself, how can he really be a good boyfriend if he was cheating on me? It confuses me because I know he treated me better than well.", "summary": "Having a hard time moving on because my ex was a wonderful boyfriend daily yet he would chat with random girls online behind my back. We considered this cheating so he knows he messed up. Why do people cheat on people that they love? I know some will argue that you don't really love someone if you cheat on them but I know my ex loves me."}
{"id": "t3_25jmom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/M] boyfriend doesn't like to discuss going long distance, but I [21/F] am worried about it.", "post": "We're both in school right now and potentially going to be abroad for long periods of time starting next year. We've been going strong for over a year now. I don't like the idea of long distance but he doesn't want to talk about it until the time gets closer. I feel like we should talk about it now (or at least this summer) so we know where we stand. If we are going to split up or go on a break for that period of time, I want to prepare myself. In the past he has been more pro-long distance and I less so.", "summary": "Confused about potential long distance relationship and how to go about tackling it before we are apart."}
{"id": "t3_uq9k5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My relationship is hinging on the issue of kids - I don't know what I want", "post": "I'm a mid-20s female who has been with my 30 year old boyfriend for about 4 and a half years. We've been living together for 4 years and were having an awesome time of it up until last year. He's my best friend, and we live together so easily it's almost ridiculous. He suffered a lot of stresses that triggered underlying depression and PTSD, and turned into someone who is basically not the person I fell in love with. He's been getting treatment on and off, and recently felt like he had a breakthrough after being in the hospital for a few days and receiving extra care and education. \n\nHe's wanted kids for the last 25 years. It's his main ambition, partially because he wants to give a kid a chance at a better childhood than he had. I hadn't even planned on having kids before meeting him, but over time, I at least opened up the issue for reconsideration. I was sold logically on the idea as a way to instill more meaning in my life, something that I couldn't weasel out of easily if I lost motivation, and occasionally felt excited about what could happen. However, the last year has added extra doubts about the stability of my partner, and I don't know if I can handle so many unknowns. I still have major fears about limiting my freedom, being stuck in a relationship that may continue to be unhealthy, and also potentially regretting the choice to commit myself to raising a kid. My partner needs a decision from me as soon as I can because he's afraid of being too old to do everything he's dreamed of doing with his kids. I know that there's not much of an answer for me beyond \"figure out what you want,\" but I just want to hear opinions and any possible advice that might help me make this decision.\n\nThanks.", "summary": "How long is too long to keep my boyfriend waiting on whether I want kids or not?"}
{"id": "t3_14qx57", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I see her again?", "post": "So I don't think I've seen a question like this yet (or the Reddit search is just crap), so here goes.\n\nLast month, we had to hire a new bartender at our restaurant, and I was in charge of training her. In the first night of training, I found out she was engaged. A swing and a miss!\u00a0\n\nThe next day of training, her fianc\u00e9 came in to the bar area to get some food and to see how she was doing. He had mentioned that her friend was running late, and wanted to come check out her new place of work. After making some small talk with the fianc\u00e9, in walks in the friend. She's cute as hell. I let the new girl talk to her friend a bit, and she introduces me.\u00a0\n\nI wish I could meet more girls when I'm at work. I'm in \"my element\" (I've been there the longest, and am practically managing the bar), I'm confident, and I'm typically happy. I feel like I left a good impression, too. I initiated contact (I told her I didn't catch her name, because I was busy, and shook her hand and \"greeted\" her), I made her laugh, I suggested sushi to order (which she liked), I taught her how to use chop sticks (she said many have tried to, and she finally got the hang of it when I showed her. + a little more contact!), and helped her with a problem she was having at the moment (how to hook up a Nintendo through a VCR (text message)).\u00a0\n\nOverall, I think I did well.\n\nProblem is, how do I see her again? I've told the new girl that I thought she was very cute, which she responded with a slightly excited \"She's single!\" (which I guessed kind of strangely when she was talking about her new kitten to the new girl.)\u00a0\n\nSo, with my only channel of my coworker, how can I see her again to possibly ask her on a date without it being strange?", "summary": "Cutie-pie friend of coworker enters restaurant. OP thinks he did well. How does OP see her again without weird feelings between coworker or cutie-pie friend?"}
{"id": "t3_1nl9cg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I never thought I'd see the day.", "post": "I. Hate. Politics. Especially the way they're being handled in Washington right now. I know that a post like this goes in r/politics, but with the way things have been over there, saying something slightly against Obama gets downvoted to hell. So here goes.\n\nWhat happened to bipartisanship? What happened to listening to the other side's point of view? What happened to the concept of working together for the good of the nation rather than how we can benefit ourselves vicariously through politics? I miss the days when you could say \"you know, there could be something to what that Congressman X says.\" without being branded a flipflopper or giving the \"enemy\" a chance to convert you. You know what? Extremism like this is the reason that a lot of us hate Congress right now. The last thing we as the people should be doing is pointing fingers. How about, instead of trying to make ourselves look better by having the superior political beliefs, we try to WORK TOGETHER AS A NATION TO GET SHIT DONE! I thought that's what voting for politicians was supposed to accomplish. But no, it's just so that YOUR party can have superiority and the other party could go die in a ditch for not wanting to push YOUR party's agenda. Democrats will hear nothing of Republican proposals and vice-versa. This needs to stop. The next time the congressional elections start, instead of voting for the person that will do nothing but pander to your voter base and not hear anything from the other side, vote for the person who is willing to reach across the aisle, someone who is willing to let bipartisanship have its stay. This whole ultra-conservative Republicans vs socialist Democrats political dick-waving contest needs to stop. Thanks for listening.", "summary": "American politics suck and bipartisanship needs to be given a chance."}
{"id": "t3_t9ffk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend said she doesn't want to be exclusive, but begins treating me exclusively. Wat do?", "post": "Alright, so, **I've known this girl for about 3 and 1/2 years.** **I'm 21, she's 20,** both at the same college that we commute to, and live about 15 minutes away from each other. We went on dates on and off casually over time, and then **recently we made it official.** We are very natural together and are very easygoing with each other as a part of that. A couple weeks ago we had \"the talk\" and she said **she didn't want to be exclusive with me.** I said I was fine with that and she seemed pleased. Over the next few weeks though, **she began treating me more and more exclusively**, intentionally calling me her boyfriend, her other half, etc. We compliment each other very well, she enjoys my family, we have similar life goals, etc. \n\nShe has plenty of other guy friends and I respect her and have no problem with that, I'm not overbearing or trying to control with whom she can or can't spend time. (She's not one to be pressured into things.) We've spent time together with her and her other friends and **I've had time to witness how she interacts with these other guy friends, definitely not the same way she treats me.**\n\nThen, **last Saturday things got a bit steamy,** if you know what I mean, and we ended up sharing our first kiss. After this, however, we had a dead time (just small communication), and didn't spend time together until today (A week later). It went alright and she assured me that things were still great between us, she just needed a little time after so many emotions. She held me close and looked me straight in the eyes as she told me this, as well as gave me a reassuring squeeze. (This is the kind of assurance I'm talking about.)", "summary": "get in relationship with girl, she asks not to be exclusive, but treats me exclusively most of the time. Not sure what to do!"}
{"id": "t3_3yl0t9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] finally decided to tell my father [42m] how he has made me feel for my entire life. Did I go to far?", "post": "Okay so a little background, my father has been addicted to pills about 80% of my life. He has violent out bursts and he constantly degrades everyone around him. He has NEVER gotten a job and my mother has had to take care of my brother, my dad, and me with her night shift job at a hospital and she is just barely making it. \n\nBasically we got into an arguement over me being depressed. I have been for years and he believes that its the music I listen to and that I don't know what im talking about. The usual.\n\nMy mom has always hid my depression from him because when he sees or hears that I have been upset he gets mad at me and yells at me as if I've done something horribly wrong. \n\nHe has never been proud of me, never wants to talk to me about anything pertaining to my life and he only cares about himself.\n\nAnyways I sent him this text message today after he threatened to get mean and nasty with me if I didn't apologise for telling him to get out while he was yelling I at me for crying.\n\n\"I mean its not like I'm used to being treated any different than nasty by you. Im always an idiot who doesn't know anything who isn't allowed to like anything you dont. Plus for some disgusting reason you pretend like my mental problems are nothing to be worried about. And mom never wants me to tell you about it because for some reason you get mad at me for being depressed. I can't remember the last time you were ever proud of my accomplishments.  The only thing I remember is you being disappointed in me on my graduation day and making me cry. My whole life has never been good enough for you or for anyone. Maybe thats why im depressed and completely fucked up in the head. Maybe its because I feel like not a single member of my family who is supposed to love me is proud of a single thing I've done. I must be worthless to everyone. But go ahead and tell me I'm wrong like you always do. I'll just sit over here and cry like I have been for years now. \"\n\nDid I go to far?", "summary": "finally told my asshole father how I felt about him. Did I go to far? Or did I need to do this?"}
{"id": "t3_299gv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [20 F] of 3 years, she is interested in me, I am not physically attracted to her", "post": "I have been friends with this girl for about 3 years, we have always got along great and I really enjoy hanging out with her. Recently, she has been wanting to get together one-on-one more and I can tell she is interested in me romantically.  As shallow as it sounds, she is overweight and I am not attracted to her at all because of it.\n\nHow can I tell her I'm not interested without sounding like a dick?  I'm just afraid she'll bring up her weight as the reason and I don't know what to say to that.  I don't want to ruin our friendship.", "summary": "Overweight friend is interested in me, need to tell her I'm not interested because of her weight."}
{"id": "t3_3frgbw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 F] with my brother [39 M] thinking about being his surrogate", "post": "my brother and his wife have been trying to get pregnant for about 5 years now with no success, even after trying various rounds of artificial insemination/ in vitro. I really see how sad it makes them knowing that they have run out of options (other than a long process of adoption) and i have been thinking about offering to be a surrogate for them. If i were to do it, it would be with their frozen eggs and his sperm and of course for free. \n\nMy brother and I are really close and I have so many great memories of him taking me places and being the best big brother I could think of that I don't think I would mind doing this. \n\nI've never given birth and I'm a little scared as to that physical aspect too. Anyway I'm just trying to see what everyones input on this would be. side note: We are not blood related because I was adopted (hence the age difference)", "summary": "should I be my older brothers surrogate or is that weird?"}
{"id": "t3_zx89x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] Am Getting So Many Mixed Signals From Girl I've Known For Two Years", "post": "I [26M] met a girl[29F] nearly two years ago at a coffee shop, and we went on a few dates originally, but things seemed to fizzle out by the 3rd date (few makeouts, then that stopped, then one random, awkward on this past February)  \n\nHowever, when I see her... we still remain super flirty, and to the point where I will sleep over her house in the same bed, and I'll be spooning her, with my hands all over but she doesn't make it easy to kiss her as she will usually have her head turned away, resting on me, etc. \n\nSame story when out at a club, our faces will come within centimeters while dancing, but then she'll pull away, only to do it again. \n\nI see her fairly often, as we go to a lot of the same events and have hung out plenty one on one time... and I tried to accept the fact that I've been friendzoned, but what gives with all the flirty behavior, especially in her bed, but only to a certain point?\n\nIt's not like she doesn't hook up... I know for a fact she does with other guys.  I'm guessing I'm in the friendzone, but if so, why the intense flirting, spooning, hands all over her?", "summary": "Pretty sure I'm friendzoned by girl I've known for 2 years, but yet she is still super flirty and will sleep in the same bed spooning, but won't make kissing easy.  If friendzoned, why all the intense flirting?"}
{"id": "t3_35zqkn", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Coca cola really does bring happiness", "post": "So today I went to visit my grandparents who live in a city a few hours from my house. When I usually get to their house I help out with chores and things that need to get done. Well, today they needed some groceries so I decide to drive down to the store. As I  have just entered the parking lot I am dangerously cut off by a family of redneck asshats who proceed to steal the very parking spot i was unmistakenly headed for. The teenagers in the back seat begin to laugh hystarically and point at me while the larger than life parents exchange grins. Ok so i go find another parking spot, get out, and begin walking towards the store. As I pass the redneck family car I notice that they left the drivers window down. It was then that I knew what must be done. I head into the store doing my shopping and getting everything my grandparents wanted. About twenty minutes later I head back out of the store groceries in hand with the added bonus of a two liter bottle of coke. As i pass back by the open window I \"trip\" and drop the opened two liter upside down in the front seat. My grandparents couldn't understand why I had the biggest smile on my face after coming back from the grocery store. My only regret is not waiting in the parking lot to see their reaction.", "summary": "cutoff in parking lot. coke goes in front seat"}
{"id": "t3_1ln8ag", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[30M] her [25F] , should I or should I not", "post": "Meet new girl and for first time inspired to quit smoking and I am thinking of sending (via note/letter) the following true story about me to her......\n\nDear Kate,\n\nI would like to share true story.\n\nIn 2005 I was courting a girl named Rene. At the time I met her cousin David. I grew to admire David cause he had the charming gift of wooing woman. I Recall I wanted to be just like him. Ultimately courting Rene was futile, however years later news filtered that Rene was lesbian and travels with a caged rabbit. Till this day I am still not sure if the fruitless courting makes me feel better or worse.\n\nIn 2008 David was diagnosed with cancer. He died after a short battle.\nDavid's story and the fact I admired him so much gave the inspiration to quit smoking. I quit for 3 years before resuming the habit.\n\nRecently I have again been inspired to quit smoking.\n\nPerhaps a random unexpected act from a stranger whose kindness and willingness to share a small part of her life with mine, albeit brief, is a akin to a hurricane contingent on a distant butterfly flapping its wings many weeks earlier, better known as the 'butterfly affect'.\n\nJust like the hurricane and the butterfly, this time the inspiration has come from you.\n\nforever grateful", "summary": "Will the letter scare her away? Should I give it to her? "}
{"id": "t3_16d3p8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30M] need to help my girlfriend[29F] cope with my daughter's mother (my ex [30F]).", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year now, and have a great relationship: She's very smart, thoughtful, and strong-willed. She makes me happy, I admire her and what she does, and we have a great sex life.\n\nShe seems generally happy with me. However, I have a daughter [3 years] whom she gets along just fine with, but my gf can't seem to cope with my ex. My ex and I were in a 6 year relationship, engaged, had a child, but she cheated on me, as I discovered as I went through her phone. I broke up with her, we never married, daughter now lives with her mom, and one year later, I go on my first date with my now girlfriend.\n\nUnfortunately, my ex will forever be in my life because of my daughter - my gf is always reminded of my terrible ex whenever my ex and I exchange our daughter for visitation, mention my daughter, our whenever she sees a pic of my daughter. My gf questions my judgement as she thinks my ex is the complete opposite of her. In many ways, that's true (with ex, we had a terrible sex life, she had many insecurities, and she often followed her heart more strongly than logic). But my gf keeps bringing her up, and because she views her as trash, makes her question why I choose to be with her.\n\nNot to toot my own horn, but I'm a great guy; I'm very thoughtful, funny to her, extremely good with kids, including my daughter. I get along fine with my ex, and though sometimes thinking about how she cheated gets me angry, I figure it's best for my daughter if we're cordial.\n\nBut my girlfriend just isn't getting over my ex. I don't know how to help her even tolerate my ex. Anyone else ever been in this situation?", "summary": "My girlfriend hates my daughter's mother (my ex who cheated on me), and I need advice on how to help her cope."}
{"id": "t3_1jr0ts", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is one thing you have done in your life that to this day you do not forgive yourself?", "post": "Before I go, one thing.  I used the phrase 'do not' instead of 'can not' in the title because 'do' Implies choice which ultimately we all have.\n\nMost of my friends consider me a very moral and ethical person with good character.  Privately I feel deeply flawed and undeserving.  I've done a lot of bad things one that brings pain to my chest is the betrayal of a friend because I lacked the courage to do the right thing.\n\nI was hired by this person in a large corporation and he quickly became my friend.  He was one of the most brilliant people I have ever met and did not limit his thinking with the impossible.  He pushed me to do things I considered impossible and as a result gave me invaluable insight into my own capabilities.  \n\nUnfortunately he was not adept at playing the political game and after his corporate benefactor left the company he was politically exposed.  I was young and new and his adversaries focused on me.  \n\nInstead of trying to influence him and play a mediation role, I was afraid and tried to gain favor with both sides.  As I saw he was losing the fight, I switched sides, and started treating him differently.  He even called me out on it and I did not have the courage to tell him the truth.\n\nHe finally was fired, and while that outcome was likely inevitable, I had played a role in it to protect my own position.  Quite bluntly, I betrayed him.\n\n3 years later we reconnected and rekindled the friendship.  I still felt horrible and decided when a few of us were getting together the following week I was going to tell him the truth, even at the cost of our friendship.\n\nA day later I got a phone call from another friend who just said \"[name of friend I betrayed] is dead\".\n\nHe had been playing a sport at the age of 30 and dropped dead of a heart attack.  He had a wife and two kids.\n\nMy cowardice and betrayal is something I carry with me to this day and I no longer have the ability to come clean.", "summary": "I betrayed a friend who believed in me, who later died at the age of 30, and I have no way to make it right."}
{"id": "t3_4xtr4d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20 F] tell my bf [20 M] that my ex (first everything) didn't pay attention to consent?", "post": "My first time having sex was with my ex (lasted about 3 months) when I was 19 and he was 20 but I sometimes stopped 'feeling it' and didn't want to continue, I'd say something like \"maybe not tonight\" or I would try and move away to gently suggest he stop. He didn't have much regard for if it hurt me, he'd just say 'it'll be okay' and continued and just went to sleep when he was done. I know I should of said 'no' or 'stop' to be very clear, but he was my first and I was very naieve with sex. I didn't know that I could, I thought that I just had to wait it out for him to finish as my responsibility as a girlfriend or something. I know that these experiences had a negative impact on my thoughts and feelings on sex. I can't seem to relax into it and I definitely have some trust issues with it.\n\nBut I love being with my bf, he's so considerate and always says we should be open and clear with eachother. I have cried a couple of times when we've talked about sex, but I've never told him that its because of how my ex treated me in bed. I just don't know how or when to tell my bf. I've told him that I didn't know if I'd be able to have sex very often but he deserves a proper answer as to why it sometimes makes me cry, but we've been together for around 9 months now. I really don't want to freak him out or make him feel like he's been lied to. It makes me so anxious, but I know I have to tell him.", "summary": "I didn't have the confidence to say an explicit 'no' to my ex when I didn't want to have sex and now sex makes me anxious but I don't know how or when to tell my current kind, considerate and loving boyfriend about my past experiences."}
{"id": "t3_2hfp3k", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking my package looked nice", "post": "Long day at work. Just got home, wanted to take my SO out for some food. Decided I should shower first. Me and SO have only been dating for ~18 months, she just moved in with me about 4 months ago. The way my room is setup, the bathroom is almost a hallway to the closet, which has a large double-wide window in it. She was in the closet pickin out something to wear as I made my way to the shower fully nude. It was at this moment that I realized how glorious my genitalia looked. Like it was hangin perfectly. I couldn't resist. I got my girlfriends attention, and started swing my dick around a circular motion. \"Next time we go to a show and you see a bunch of dudes dancing, this is what's goin on underneath!\" This went on for over a minute, floppin my dick around every which way, laughing til we were tearing up. We were both laughing so hard that we failed to notice the window.. It was dark outside, and the closet light was on, and the blinds were wide open. It's amazing how clearly you can see into someone's house when it's dark out and the lights are on (same thing goes with a car at night with the dome lights on). So mid dick circle, I look past my girlfriend, out the window, and directly into the eyes of my neighbor, who just happened to be taking out the trash. I quickly ducked into the bathroom while my girlfriend laughed hysterically, she said he just shook his head and walked away. We've only lived here a few months, and I haven't met them yet.", "summary": "decided to swing my dick in circles for my SO because of how nice it looked. Neighbor saw me through the window, we made eye contact mid swing. "}
{"id": "t3_2vh5ez", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "GF [19/f] acting strangely?", "post": "I really don't know what's up with her. Last night, round 2 am, I got a text from her asking if I was still awake. I was, so I told her. She asked if she could call me and at the very start of the phone when I asked her what was up she goes \"I really, really miss you\".\n\nWe had a nice conversation and then we went to bed.\n\nToday, she just seems quite off. She had told me she would break up with me if I was late for our Valentine's Date. I asked her if she was serious about it and she said \"I'd be really, really upset\". I told her I wouldn't - and I really won't be because everything's sorted.\n\nShe says she isn't angry... but she just seems really off. Her answers are vague and dull.", "summary": "I really don't know what's going on. At times I'll feel happy because she'll be telling me how much she misses me and loves me. But then other times I feel unhappy because she texts weirdly or whatever."}
{"id": "t3_267kux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 44 M with my 30F *and 11F* entertainment advice", "post": "So I am thinking of inviting a coworker over for dinner, she is 30, and I am a strapping lad @ 44.\n\nShe has a daughter that is 11, and I want to invite them both\n\n(I have been introduced to the daughter previously, although briefly)\n\n*I am not decided about my intentions, even though the mother is one hot woman,  she has confided a bit to me of her troubled past and present, and I primarily just want to do something nice for the two of them.*\n\nSo I am thinking more in terms of a nice friendly evening than in terms of a \"date\"..\n\nMe being an old fart at 44, have not even the slightest clue what tickles an 11 year old girls fancy \n- and I want them both to have a great time!\n\nI have no issues engaging both in conversation, but what on earth can I plan and organize for the kid?\n\n* What games do 11 year old girls play?\n\n* What movies??\n\n* Comics???\n\nneed ideas...", "summary": "How the heck do I entertain both the mother and her 11 year old daughter equally well for an entire evening?"}
{"id": "t3_xqe04", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[29m] Running into the 2 year relationship wall...", "post": "I don't know if that's a \"thing\", but i've experienced it in the past. I'm currently living with my gf (29f) of nearly 2 years, and my mind/eye has been wandering. I guess i'm at the point where all the little things start getting to me, such as different standards of cleaning/cooking, different levels of drive/ambition, imbalance of sex drives. She is very loving, and very sweet, but can be extremely clingy too. \n\nWe do enjoy each others' company, but never really do anything \"quality time\"-wise; different schedules make it difficult, as well as different tastes. In addition to this situation, she wants to move overseas with me in the near future, so there's kind of a point of no (or extremely messy) return looming.\n\nI know that relationships can't always be electric and sparky, and that there is no \"normal\", but is there more than this? Do i man up and try to change how i'm feeling, or do i try to cut things short to save everyone more pain later?", "summary": "gf's idiosyncracies starting to get to me; relationship becoming boring at the 20 month mark; feeling smothered. Opinions?"}
{"id": "t3_1juq8q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26,M) just broke up with my girlfriend (23,F) of four years...", "post": "I (26,m) just ended a four year relationship with my girlfriend (23,f). I knew it was coming, we had our underlying issues. She was a great girl, very trustworthy, loyal and I know she would never leave me no matter what. But, she is leaving for school Monday for two years and I just feel like I wouldn't have been able to do it, nor would the relationship been able too.\n\nNow I am so scared, what if I made the wrong decision? What if I never find someone just as nice? Why do I feel so empty inside, it hurt me so bad seeing her upset and cry. I was so sure of this and felt confident and now it's like what have I done.\n\nI am not trying to fantasize about how great the relationship was, but it's hard not too.. We were long distance the first three years (2 hours away), then she was home for a year, and now she is leaving for two years for medical school (out of the country).\n\nWe disagreed on a lot of key issues, she had put down my career choice many times, she eventually stopped but I feel like I never got over that (her parents did as well). She also said she didn't want to get engaged or move in when she got back, she wanted to live alone at first and maybe her fourth year of school we could move in.\n\nughhh I know i'm rambling and you guys don't have a clue but that's how my brain feels right now.... My chest literally feels like empty and something is missing.", "summary": "just broke off my four year relationship.. hurting"}
{"id": "t3_37rqtz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by recieving a compliment", "post": "Obligatory \"didn't happen today, blah blah blah\"\n\nSo to start of, I used to have a really awesome English teacher (I've since been moved from her class) and she would always try and cheer me up. I've never been a skinny kid, and often I'll bounce between podgy and slightly over weight every time I hit a growth spurt.\n\nI've since moved out of her class and haven't seen her in a while. When she comes up to me, she says \"Oh FakeHamburger, you've lost some weight!\"\n\nWell, me and my infinite wisdom decided to say \"Huh? No, no. Do we need to book you an optometrist?\"", "summary": "I turned a compliment into an insult... Goddamnit"}
{"id": "t3_2ve0rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [27F] brand-new boyfriend [18M] doesn't seem to want to introduce me to his friends or tell his family about us.", "post": "I'm in a whirlwind with a much younger guy I really like. It was supposed to be a hookup (we met on Tinder) but it's turned into a full-fledged romance.\n\nI'm not what you'd call conventionally attractive, and in the past have felt that my exes were ashamed of me. In fact I know my first boyfriend was because he outright admitted it. It makes me very sensitive to any feeling that this might be the case, which did lead to some issues with my last ex.\n\nWe've kind of rushed into things, and I know that may be unwise given the age gap but this guy has me totally swept off my feet. He tells me all the time that I am beautiful, cute and sexy and that I'm the only one for him, and so on. We text all day every day, even when he's in classes or playing games with his friends (most of his friends are female and much more attractive than I am, which doesn't help my insecurities).\n\nI have been waiting for him to mention that he's told his friends about me or that he's told his parents about me, anything to make me feel like I'm not his dirty little secret. He met my parents within a week of meeting me (because I wanted him to come along to dinner with them one night). I don't know at what point I should begin to be concerned if this development doesn't come up on its own.\n\nOn the one hand I recognize my own insecurities are a factor in me being so nervous (it's been less than a month since we became 'official') but on the other, it's important to me that a partner be open about being with me. I just don't know where the sane balancing point would be.", "summary": "How soon do you tend to tell parents and friends about a relationship, or introduce friends to a partner?"}
{"id": "t3_4gxagg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [m/18] have a huge crush on a girl [f/16] but currently have a girlfriend [f/17].", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and she is incredibly nice and sweet but doesnt talk much or provide me conversational feedback. Recently I started driving home a friend of mine and after a lot of late night conversations and getting to know her better I realize im totally into her. Now i dont know if she is into me at all and so im worried about breaking up with my current girlfriend to just get side lined. I also feel terrible about throwing my girlfriend to the curb because she is in love with me. Im also finishing senior year of highschool, my gf is a year below me, and this other girl is a year below her.", "summary": "Have a crush on someone other than my girlfriend/ dont like my girlfriend much anymore"}
{"id": "t3_1ds5m2", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lost 15 pounds in 6 weeks !! (5'6/F)", "post": "I was originally 152 pounds, which was the highest I had ever been. Now - 6 weeks later - I am 137 pounds, and still pushing for more! Although it seems like a long time, it passed by pretty quickly.\n\nI'm usually a weak person (I give up easily), and it was hard to stay motivated, but since I took progress pictures and saw the difference, it motivated me to keep pushing and not give up, which is what happened during previous attempts at weight loss.\n\nThe most important part of my weight loss was my diet - I ate smaller, more frequent (HEALTHY) meals. I also didn't eat after 7pm. Of course, I also went to the gym 3-5 times a week, as time permitted. I had a personal trainer work with me twice a week for half an hour, which also got me motivated to hit the gym. \n\nI hope to continue eating healthy and become more fit and lose the fat around my thighs and \"love handles\". I don't really care about the pounds I lose, but the visually difference and body fat percent. As of now, I'm super proud of myself, and just wanted to share with reddit. :)", "summary": "I lost 15 pounds with the help of a personal trainer, healthier diet, and regular exercise."}
{"id": "t3_3zdbbf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] father [54M) refuses to get his health checked. Should I try and convince him otherwise or respect his wishes?", "post": "This ended up being quite long by accident, so apologies for that. I quite frankly would not be making this post if I hadn't had several nightmares last night over losing my father, and I guess I'm emotional over them still. Please let me know your thoughts on this situation! Any guidance at all would be greatly appreciated because I'm totally at a loss right now. (English is not my first language so sorry for any errors in advance!).\n\nI found out last summer that neither of my parents believed in going for annual health checks. This was concerning for me because of the sheer number of stories I'd seen where early detection has saved lives. As a result, I spoke with my mother about her getting checked and although it took a significant amount of time for her to finally get around to it, she said she finally got checked while I was out of the country for university. Thankfully, they found nothing wrong.\n\nMy father on the other hand adamantly refuses to go in for a checkup. He believes that if there is something wrong with his body, he would 'feel it' (a traditional belief and quite common among those in my culture) and says he would check it out then. He believes that knowing about an illness earlier would just lead to a decreased quality of life as he would not want that hanging over him, and believes that what is mean to happen will happen regardless of medical intervention. For some context, both my grandparents on my mother's side went through a significant amount of medical treatment that did prolong their lives, but were costly and painful, not significant, and resulted in their final months being spent in hospital beds. From what I gather, he does not want knowledge of the inevitable hanging over his head. \n\nI guess our key difference is over the effectiveness of early detection and preventative measures, but I haven't been able to get him to see eye-to-eye with me. I'm worried also that I'm being selfish as at this point I feel him getting checked is much more for my benefit than his. It is his body, after all, and although I have his best interests at heart maybe I should be letting him decide what he wants to know about it.", "summary": "Father refuses to get his health checked (the last time he got a full body checkup was over seven years ago) for reasons that I can understand but may also be based on a dated assessment of doctors ability and traditional views. Should I respect his wishes or insist that he get checked? And if the last is true, how would I go about doing this?"}
{"id": "t3_1h9fcr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I ask her out fast or wait a little? And a little dating advice, please!", "post": "Hey there,\n\nI (20/M) will be going to a new school soon, and I have met a (20/F) there. We've talked some in the 3 times we met, and I already became cool with her father (I met him in the waiting room, we talked for an hour, we kinda became pals), and I know I've only met seen her 3 times, but I really start to fall for her. Thus should I ask her out fast or should I wait a year orso, to establish a friendship and ask her out then?\n\nThis is my idea of a good first date, I've never been on one, so please help me! :) I don't have a lot of money, so keep it under \u20ac180 like mine, please! \n\n1. Pedicure or Manicure max \u20ac40\n \n2. Hanging out +- \u20ac15,-max.\n3. Make a nice walk with her \u20ac0,-\n4. Starbucks +- \u20ac10\n5. Buy her something nice MAX. \u20ac60,\n6 Dinner max \u20ac40\n\nCosts max \u20ac180,", "summary": "Starting to fall for a girl I've met 3x, became pals with her dad. And asking for help if I should ask her out quickly or wait, plus a date example."}
{"id": "t3_2rvnw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] don't understand what he [22M] wants?", "post": "We've known each other for about half a year, things went really great. We have amazing chemistry and I haven't felt this way for anyone ever. I felt like we could talk about anything and everything and we just get each other.\n\nWe started having some problems and quarrelling almost every week, so we decided to take a break to figure out what we really want etc. This happened about a month ago. So I honestly really love him and he's said that he does too. We've tried to sort things out a bunch of times but we just ended up coming full-circle and rehashing the same argument over and over again.\n\nSo we're talking again now but he says we both need to move on from each other. Honestly, I find it really hard to do so because we're still texting/calling every other day and things are more or less the same as before. We even meet occasionally and hang out, do things normal friends don't do, but when I bring up the 'moving on' part he sticks to his stance. \n\nHonestly, is there anything worth salvaging? Should I just move on or should I stay and fight for him? It's tough because talking to him is still really enjoyable, it's only when I bring up our current status that he shuts down. To be fair though, he has admitted he isn't quite ready for a relationship right now.", "summary": "amazing guy with amazing chemistry, but can't make up his mind. move on or stay?"}
{"id": "t3_31nhi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was the one [M,20] who broke it off with my boyfriend [M,21] of a year. I'm completely heartbroken, and need help with perspective.", "post": "So long story short I dated him for a year. We had so many wonderful wonderful times, the give and take was wonderful, there was unbreakable trust, we could be who we were almost always around each other. He fell in love with me...I didn't.\n\nI love him and everything was perfect on paper, so I stayed thinking that things would fall in to place. A year later, with a few other realizations along the way (We're on two completely different planes regarding our emotional lives and how we see the world, it we don't have a mental connection beyond loving being with one another, etc.) I still wasn't able to fall in love with him. \n\nI realized that I didn't think that he was the one after much denial and self-blame, and three days ago broke up with him. He was blindsided (again, we don't understand each other) and didn't understand my reasons. It was cordial, but both of our hearts are broken. \n\nI'm having a horrible time getting out of bed and going about my daily business. I'm writing this from bed now having skipped my first class, my manager had to help me leave work out the back early last night because I broke down during my break and couldn't stop...\n\nI feel like somewhere in my mind I know it was the right decision, but right now I can't think of anything beyond our good times and how much I miss him and just want to talk, hold, and be with him again.", "summary": "I initiated the break up. I emotionally regret it, but feel like it was for the best. My emotions however are wayyy overcrowding that notion and I can't function. I'm a mess."}
{"id": "t3_fbmed", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I had an extremely unsettling occurrence last night.", "post": "I went to bed last night around 2 AM after having spent Friday night reading/gaming/watching Californication, pretty standard for me.  I don't remember what I had been dreaming about, but I awoke around 4:30 with an extremely unsettling feeling.  I felt like my skin was crawling, like something was wrong with me physically but I couldn't place what it was.  This was accompanied by an extreme sense of agitation / anxiety at nothing in particular.\n\nI remember sitting up straight in bed when I first awoke and then immediately turning on the light and looking around.  My entire body felt like it was under attack, and I felt sick to my stomach.  I sat bewildered for 30 seconds or so, and then drank some water at the side of my bed hoping that it would calm me down.  It didn't.  I stood up and walked around, hoping somehow that would root me back in reality.  That didn't work either.  I went back into bed and sat upright a bit longer, at which point my cat jumped up on the bed.  He meowed, as he always does, and I freaked the fuck out.  I literally jumped, as if the sound he had made was some banshee scream.  I laid back down after a bit, with the light still on, still feeling extremely physically and mentally uneasy.  I ended up finally falling asleep with my light on.\n\nI've never had something like this happen before.  I've had occasional bouts of sleep paralysis, but nothing serious.  I am healthy and relatively stress free.  The really strange thing is, the whole time I was in this state, I was totally logical about it.  I knew there wasn't something \"there\" to get me, and that I wasn't in any real danger; it was the physical manifestations of whatever happened last night that really bothered me.  I think that was the root of my mental uneasiness as well.\n\nAnyway, has anyone ever experienced this?  Is there a name for it?  I'd like to learn more about it, as now that it's over, I find it really interesting.", "summary": "subconscious owns human"}
{"id": "t3_hzhhn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Damage done by a contractor to personal belongings in a condo; refuses to compensate.  Reddit, course of action?", "post": "Thanks for clicking... So I live in a condo in Toronto and rent from the condo owners. About two three weeks ago me neighbors condo flooded and some damage occurred to the flooring and baseboards in my unit.  The day it happened some workers (hired by the condo corporation) came and cleaned up the water, removed some flooring, put on dehumidfyers etc. They needed two weeks for the concrete under the carpet to fully dry before they replaced the base boards so fast forward to then and they also end up painting some of the walls. \n\nI wasn't home during this time but the concierge is supposed to have been there to monitor the work but regardless a painting of mine was damaged. Its not huge, but it is an original and there is now a tear in the canvas. I spoke the with building manager and he saw the damage and said he would see to it that I'm compensated and asked me to email him where I got the painting and how much it's worth. \n\nSo today he calls me and says that the contractor says they didnt do it, the condo Corp isnt responsible, and if I want to pursue it any further to take legal action. \n\nNow the painting is only worth about two hundred dollars so I'm guessing it's not worth it to sue, but the contractor is completely denying the damage. \n\nThe thing is that I'm absolutely sure it was them. It is literally my favorite painting and I definitely would have noticed a tear in the canvas as I see the painting very often being that it sits above my dinner table. \n\nBesides spreading word that the contractor's company will damage your property I'm not sure what else to do. I hesitated to mention them here because I'm not sure if I could be causing libel or whatnot. Basically that was literally my favourite painting and I'm just bent out of shape over it being ruined and them dismissing me with \"sue us.\" I know I can't replace the painting anyway i just sort of want some justice. Do I call and tell them my poor review of their business will cost them at least two hundred?   Thanks in advance for any help.", "summary": "contractors came in to fix water damage, put a hole in a painting, telling me to sue or STFU. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_164vse", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I was wondering if any of you have had a  friend lie about having a girlfriend/boyfriend...even go a little crazy trying to keep the lie going?", "post": "I was just wondering, because a buddy of mine told me and all of our friends that he was dating a chick that we used to go to high school with. Our group of guys wanted her to come hang out with us (since we all knew her) but he said that she had a dance recital coming up and would be busy practicing/rehearsing, etc. Fine. \n\nWell as the months go on and we try more and more to get him to bring her over and hang out with all of us... he just keeps making up excuse after excuse not to bring her over. Well this makes us all a little skeptical. \n\nTo make matters worse, one day I am riding in the car with him and he apparently gets a phone call (although I never heard the phone ring) from the girl and starts to talk to her. They are talking about dance, he is asking her \"what are you doing?\"...laughing...saying \"uh huh\" periodically and just as he starts to say \"ok babe well I love you\" mid sentence...the phone starts to ring in his hand. He fumbles it awkwardly (I think he just ignored the call), turned to me and said \"thats weird, what a piece of shit.\" I awkwardly laugh it off, at this point i was just as embarrassed as he was...After this even, we assumed it was bullshit. But what was a little bit over the top was that during the holiday season...he actually prepared a present for her (and when I mean prepared i mean he bought, wrapped, and put under HIS tree a present for her). We never saw her come get it...after Christmas the present just disappeared. We dropped it and I forget exactly how it all ended, but we all still joke about the fake relationship my buddy created.", "summary": "My Friend went to insane lengths to create the illusion of a relationship with a chick we knew in high school...Fake phone calls, excuses, and buying her presents and putting them under his tree. For 5-6 months we never saw her or them together."}
{"id": "t3_36ib3h", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24M] am having jealousy issues with my girlfriend [25F] but have absolutely no reason to be", "post": "So here's the story. I'll to to shorten it as best as I can. Most of my girlfriend's friends (I'd say about 80%) are men. Our relationship is extremely healthy and there are literally no large issues. But when I see that she's texting one of her guy friends, it bothers me. There's no reason it should. She's texting people that she doesn't normally hang out with or see very often, which is totally normal. She's not talking to any ex boyfriends or men I think she's interested in (although they may be interests in her).\n\nThe odd thing is that it bothers me even though what she's doing is totally normal. She's not on her phone all the time. She's rarely on it. I've told her on numerous occasions that I don't care who she texts or hangs out with because she has all of my trust (she really does). But for some strange reason it just bugs me to see guys blow up her phone and call her all the time. She doesn't text or pick up the calls when she's with me. Sometimes she'll wake up with tons of texts and missed calls from all different people. \n\nI've never looked through her phone or snooped or anything. I don't think she's doing anything wrong. \n\nAm I just jealous she's getting a lot of attention from men? She's a very attractive, fit person. But it all boils down to her getting a lot of attention and and it bothering me.  Not keeping me up all night or anything. Just slightly irking me. \n\nThis is probably normal but it's been a while since I've dated someone. Is this normal? Is there a better way to look at the situation? What did you do if this happened to you?", "summary": "Attractive girlfriend gets a lot of attention from guys on her phone. I get jealous but for no reason because I'm 100% certain they're just her friends chit chatting and she's not doing anything wrong."}
{"id": "t3_2jsoxi", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Best advice to give students?", "post": "So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\\rant about personal budgeting\\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such.", "summary": "Teacher wants to make poster for high school students in Canada to show basics of budgeting and personal finance; what are the primary need to knows\\dos."}
{"id": "t3_4zil9n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] of eight months, she met a guy [20s M] through friends a couple weeks ago and they are snapchatting on a daily basis", "post": "A couple of weeks ago my [23M] girlfriend [20F] of eight months met a random guy [20s M] through some of her friends at a bar. I have never met him but they quickly added each other on facebook and are already sending each other snapchats daily.\n\nI haven't confronted her with this yet because I'm afraid she'll find me over jealous or something but I don't think it is appropriate for her to be sending so many pics back and forth with a guy even if they are just friends especially since they've met so recently.\n\nShould I talk to her about this and tell her to go easy on snapchatting this new guy or should I chill since I haven't seen any of those snaps therefore it could be nothing to worry about?", "summary": "My gf of eight months is snapchatting a new guy she just met, daily. Should I tell her I think this is inappropriate or should I chill out since it could be just friendly?"}
{"id": "t3_2aqwjp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with [22M] thinks I am stupid. Possible control freak. Want other people's opinion of a very boring situation to show him he isn't right (or show me I'm wrong).", "post": "...basically, my boyfriend and I are going on holiday. He asked me to print all the travel documents (invoice, insurance certs, etc. About 6 docs in total). I agreed and told him I'd printed them yesterday. I didn't see him in person, so he asked me to send a picture of them. He gets the picture (6 documents fanned out) and then says he can't see clearly and I need to send them all individually. I tell him no, I've printed them all (excluding one that I didn't think was important) and he replies with a 'told you so' type message because I didn't print one.  \n\nHe insists I send individual pictures, I just say 'look you can see there is 6 documents in the picture, I've definitely got them all. You should trust me' he says he doesn't, and I've already done it wrong for not printing one (the unimportant one).   \n\nI stop messaging him and about an hour later I get another message \"Gonna assume you've done it wrong then. Will find a way to do it myself\". I tell him that's ok, I can bin the ones I printed - to which he says he will be extremely angry if I do, he wants my help and I'm not helping him and he needs to see them to check they are complete.   \n\nI then tell him he's being a dick. Either trust that I've got them all, or go print them himself. Obviously he can't, and tells me he isn't playing this game with me anymore. And then sends \"Your in charge of the holiday now. Transfers etc too. No pressure. Because I expect everything to be perfect\".  \n\nTo me this is verging on deal breaker, I feel he thinks I'm totally stupid and doesn't respect me. His way or the highway mentality. What do you guys think? I'm probably going to show him the thread for some outside opinion - feel free to insult me too, I probably shouldn't have called him a dick :)", "summary": "It's a very boring situation, bail now."}
{"id": "t3_gi1jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Doubts after 6 years into it", "post": "I'm 22(m) she's 23(f). We've been dating since high school with the exception of an 8-month period where we split. During that time I dated a girl a few times (nothing serious) and she did not do anything. So we've been each other's only serious significant other/sex partner. \n\nAs I like to phrase it: 'Logistically' we work perfectly together. Our personalities match such that we rarely argue. We're very attentive of each other being a real human, with flaws and such. There's no jealousy on either side, we're able to give each other personal space when needed, and everything that 'logistically' seems like it should be in a relationship is there.\n\nHowever, 'spiritually', I feel it is lacking. I mean spiritually more in the sense of 'high school spirit' than 'religious spirit' (neither of us are religious at all). We seem to want different things in life and to be passionate about different types of things. This being the case, we rarely (even after 6 years) ever get into deep conversations about life and the world in a way that I would want. \n\nI can't tell if this is a side effect of being together so long (essentially grass is greener type of feelings), me wanting to explore other partners, or a genuine incompatibility.\n\nWhile we're still very young - the thought of marriage comes up simply because we've been together for so long (we've never discussed it). I think the marriage would work, and I think we could be together forever and raise great kids and have happy lives, but this gets back to the relationship working logistically. With that said, I'm not sure I *want* to marry her. I could see it working, but I'm not necessarily excited about the prospect of it. \n\nSo, any advice given the situation? Are these typical feelings to have after being with someone for so long? She really is a great girl and I do love her. I want to bring this up and talk to her about it, but I know it will devastate her that I have any doubts.\n\nThanks guys!", "summary": "Dating 6 years - each other's first/only significant other/sex partner. No real problems in the relationship, but we have different passions and outlooks on life. Part of me wants to find someone I can share my passions with, but perhaps this is just a 'grass is always greener' effect and I'm overlooking the great relationship I currently have because we've been together so long..."}
{"id": "t3_3972up", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by singing a special song with my 4-year-old sister.", "post": "This happened an hour or so earlier.\n\nMy mother, sister and I had headed out to a pretentious brunch place to grab a bit with her equally pretentious friends. My mother cares a lot about her reputation, so she had my sister and I all dolled up in creme-colored dresses and bows and whatnot in an attempt to make us look like the \"ideal family\".\n\nSo she goes on to talk about my activities with my school's performing arts department. The department is preparing to have a concert with an ocean/pirate theme; consequently, we're singing sea shanties, playing POTC music, etc. I play violin and oboe, and sing in our show choir, so Ive been practicing everything. My little sister likes the music, and she's memorized some lyrics I've sang and chimes in from time to time with the little phrases she knows.\n\nAll of a sudden, my mother looks to me. \"Ipwn__, why don't you sing a little bit of one of your choir songs?\" I pause to think of the lyrics to a particularly easy song. During the brief silence, my little sister (who'd been nearly silent the whole time) realizes it's her chance to shine, and begins to belt out lyrics in the loudest voice possible.\n\n\"Rolling down, roll my weed, oh boy! Rolling down, roll my weed, oh boy, roll my weeeeeed!\"\n\nMy mother's smile wilted away into that mom-stare that lets me know I fucked up, and her colleagues and the other customers there all looked completely appalled. Meanwhile, my sister hasn't stopped singing about the presumably abundant dank herb. Hastily, I all but clamp my hand over her mouth. \"(Little sister), where did you hear that song?!\" She smiles large. \"From you! You always sing that song!\" She then quietly resumes singing.\n\nIt was then that I noticed (through the rhythm and meter of her singing) that she DID in fact hear the song from me, but she got the lyrics terribly wrong. She was attempting to sing the sea shanty I'd sang earlier called \"Rolling Down to Old Maui.\"", "summary": "My sister must have heard about some seriously loud 420 being sold in Hawaii."}
{"id": "t3_23sw7v", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Travelling to the Kansai area of Japan this summer.", "post": "Hi guys. This summer, for 5 weeks, I will be travelling to the Kansai area of Japan for the second time. I stayed there for around 2 months in the summer of 2012 also. Can anyone recommend any places to visit in this area or slightly further afield that are perhaps \"off the beaten track\"? Having been there for two months before, I visited:\n\nKyoto: Kiyomizudera, Kinkakuji, walked around the city for a day or 2, saw Gion matsuri\nNara: Just a daytrip, T\u014ddai-ji, museums etc\nTakarazuka\nOsaka: Several times, saw Namba, Osaka castle, glico man, shinsekai, ebisu bridge... This could become a rather large list so assume I saw most things that would be listed in a standard guidebook\nKobe: This is where I stayed. Went up Mt. Rokko, saw Kobe tower, the part of the pier that is preserved from when the earthquake happened, shopped A LOT around Sannomiya\n\nBasically I'm looking for anything aside from these that may be less well known but interesting to visit. I apologise if you bring something up that I forgot to list, it's two years ago so I can't quite remember everything clearly.", "summary": "interesting things to see in Kansai other than those above that may not be listed in a guidebook."}
{"id": "t3_1kmy03", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20f] my boyfriend [20m] wants to be married by the time we start grad school, but I'm not ready to even think about it.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have only been dating about 5 months, but he already talks about marriage a lot. His parents got married right out of college and he seems to want the same for his life. I come from a very different background. My mother has been divorced twice and she was first married while she was in college. I have a much more skeptical view of marriage and the world. Part of the reason he is so adamant that we get married is that we have been having sex and spending a lot of time together. Because he comes from a strong religious background, he feels that we have an obligation to get married. I am perfectly happy with the idea of marrying him in the future, but only when I feel emotionally ready. I don't want to marry him before grad school and follow him there and give my own dreams of continuing my education. If we don't get into the same school, he basically told me we're going where he wants and I'll just have to find a job or something. This attitude regarding both marriage and grad school makes me feel like I don't have a say in anything we do. Should I try to continue our relationship and see where it goes, or should I end it now before we get any more invested?", "summary": "Boyfriend wants me to follow him to the end of the earth, I'm not sure I feel ready."}
{"id": "t3_12ekgn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate didn't sign up for utilities when we moved  in, how do I pay for them now?", "post": "Signing up for gas, electricity and water was supposed to be my house-mate's responsibility when we moved in and I assumed it had been taken care of. Just found out that we never were signed up for all three. Somehow all three still haven't been disconnected (6 months later).\n\nHow do I go pay for these without incurring a massive fine or getting into a legal mess of some sort? Has anyone been in a similar situation before?\n\nTo clarify: My roommate is new to the country and asked the guy we were subletting the place from about how to sign up for the utilities, the guy said the utilities were included, turns out he never paid them ever. Now after speaking with the landlord we found out they are not.\n\nThanks,", "summary": "never signed up for utilities, how do I pay them now 6 mnths later without getting into trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_1jxc4m", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Jealousy is eating me alive.", "post": "Honey, I love it when you hold me close to you and reassure me that you would never cheat on me...again. You did in that first year we were dating, and we took two months to cool things off and try to regain trust. I gave you a second chance. But now, I can't even think about you even talking to another girl. Because I was so unaware of what plans you had in store the first time. Even typing this, I feel like I want to scream and throw things around. \n\nI get sick in my stomach and I don't have female friends...all because I'm afraid of competition. I'll admit it: I'm really insecure. I need male attention to feel good. But feeling like any girl you befriend is going to stab me in the back and take your heart away from me...it's eating me alive. \n\nI can't tell you how many hours I've spent aware planning our next fight. But things don't get better, because you say it's all in my head, that I'm making things up, and seeing them as worse than they are. And way deep down, I know that you love me more than anything. These last three years have been the best of my life - but also very stressful. \n\nBut I want you all to myself. And if my \"crazy\" behavior (isn't that how your best friend put it?) is what it takes to keep you, then damnit - I'll keep it up. \n\nI need you. You're what's left of my family, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.", "summary": "After you cheated on me, I can't take you even talking to other girls. I want you all to myself, and I'm willing to do a lot to make it so."}
{"id": "t3_4uacj5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How do I get myself motivated to find the right job?", "post": "I keep turning down those low paying jobs so I'm available to work when a higher paying job comes along, but it's getting to be very frustrating when I have no income right now.\n\nI'm working with a staffing company who gives me one day jobs so I can have at least a little bit of money and hopefully my unemployment is going to go through soon...still that's not enough to get my own place.\n\nI don't like sitting around the house all day just applying for jobs.  I know a couple of people who enjoy sitting at home doing nothing -- I don't know how they do it.  It's only been 3 weeks without a real steady job and I'm going nuts while I know someone who has been without a job for months and is okay with it.  \n\nI feel like I'll be miserable if I take the lower pay opportunity, and then a higher pay job gets back to me once I started the lower pay job.", "summary": "I don't want to go through the hassle of taking a low pay job for now and then quit.  Has anyone just waited it out, or did you take the low pay job while you wait for a higher pay one?"}
{"id": "t3_fzm6i", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do airline companies have the ability to customize terminals or does the airport control which stores, restaurants, and other types of amenities are found throughout the building?", "post": "My roommates just got into a fight about whether or not airlines are given the right to customize terminals.  \n\nOne person was arguing that since airlines are leasing the spots, they essentially own the terminal and they are allowed to make whatever changes they desire.  For example, they explained that Terminal D in Dallas International Airport (DFW) provided better amenities - such as more stores, better seats, more charging stations, etc. -as a result of the terminal being \"owned\" by American Airlines.\n\nMy other roommate was arguing that those differences in amenities existed only because the airport owners realized that terminals owned by specific airlines might generate more/less traffic than others. While some of the bigger airlines might be housed in terminals with better amenities, they are paying for that right, and were not the ones who provided/created those amenities in the first place.  He was also convinced that most airports (such as DFW) amenities such as number/quality of chairs, amount of charging stations, and availability of televisions is pretty much standard across the entire airport.\n\nI have never really thought about this before, and I have no knowledge on the subject since I typically use the same airports for most of my travels and never pay too much attention.  However, that being said, I have never really noticed a difference in between terminals, especially at DFW, and I am going to have to believe my first roommate is wrong.\n\nI was wondering if there were any Reddit users out there who could shine some light on this argument?  I know this may seem dumb, but after a few drinks, my roommates are not ready to back down until one of them is determined the king.", "summary": "One roommate is convinced that airlines provide specific amenities in specific terminals since they \"own\" their terminals and are in control, while the other believes that those differences are either non-existent or are controlled by airport owners."}
{"id": "t3_1dk84a", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[19M] My ex girlfriend [F18] wants to be just friends after three years of dating. How do I cope with this?", "post": "She still wants to go to places like the state fair or the zoo alone with me this summer, but she doesn't want to consider it a date. She tells me over and over that she's sorry, but she isn't ready for a relationship right now, and doesn't want to date anyone at the moment.\n\nShe even went as far to say it's possible she's still capable of loving me romantically, but for whatever reason she's turned off from romance right now. Apparently she loves me in a platonic way. Which is a heartbreaking thing to hear.\n\nI asked her if she ever saw us together, and she said \"She cannot see the future\" and honestly doesn't know if we're going to be together again.  She says she's not completely over me.\n\nI'm not sure what to do. This is my first serious relationship, and hearing \"I see you as a friend.\" is the most painful phrase I've ever heard. \n\nCan anyone give me advice? Is this over for good? Do I initiate no contact, or do I stay in her life?", "summary": "Ex girlfriend of three years tells me she sees me as just a friend right now, but in the future it's possible that could change. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4q28fj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(US/EU/NL)[Taxes/Retirement]: Best Expat Retirement Accounts?", "post": "I'm an expat who is planning to move long-term to the Netherlands, and I'm wondering if anyone here has experience with how the US and Dutch tax systems interact, particularly with regards to IRAs (Roth & Traditional)\n\nProfile:\n\n* Early 20s, recent graduate entering a new job\n* US Citizen, moving to Netherlands later in the year\n\nHere's what I understand currently:\n\n* A Roth IRA is taxed at the time of investment, and it is tax exempt at withdrawal in the US.\n* A Traditional IRA is tax-deductible at the time of investment in the US, and it is taxed at withdrawal in the US\n* I owe US taxes on any unearned (investment) income because I have a US passport.\n* The Netherlands taxes worldwide investment income if I become a resident there. I may be exempt from that for at least a few years via 30% Ruling, but I may not be eligible for various reasons. \n*It is possible to partially utilise the Foreign Earned Income exclusion in order to minimise US tax liability AND still make Roth IRA contributions. \n\nOptions I'm considering:\n\n* Opening a Roth IRA\n* Opening a Traditional IRA\n* Saying screw it, this tax thing is too complicated, and not putting it under any sort of tax-advantaged account because it'd be under two jurisdictions.", "summary": "Does the Netherlands respect the tax-exempt nature of Roth IRA withdraws? "}
{"id": "t3_22r40d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf (30/f) wants me (21/f) to quit school and move in with him", "post": "I met someone at the licensing 2013 expo last summer, where I was a hostess, and we've been in a long distance relationship for almost one year. He lives in New York, and visits me every time he comes to the west coast (I go to UCSB) and I also see him on breaks. Recently he's been talking about me coming to live with him. He says I don't need to go to school right now, and he can support me, he's an executive at H&M. Do you think I should drop out? I'm majoring in sociology but I don't really have any dreams of a career or what not. I just think it would so fun to live in NY and be taken care of by an amazing guy and do anything I want. And besides, I could always pick up school later if I wanted to. So should I do it? My sister says I shouldn't but I think she might be jealous. But what do you think?", "summary": "I want to drop out of college and live with my BF in New York."}
{"id": "t3_21h4mn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [39F] starting to find my boyfriend [44M] of three months repulsive", "post": "So we've been only dating three months. It's really weird, but I find myself disgusted by him. I'm a little chubby, so what I'm about to say is kind of hypocritical, but he is pretty tall and heavy and sometimes he wears shirts that are too short so his fupa is just sort of out there. When he stands up, his belly hangs out the side. I'm not a small girl, but I try to avoid tight pants. His size also gets in the way of sex and the activities we do together. He gets tired pretty easily.  \n\nHe's a wonderful, kind, sweet, generous human being -- pretty much one of the best human beings you can imagine, so I feel like such a schmuck having these feelings. I love spending time with him. I don't know why it didn't bother me before -- it's only been in the last few weeks where it's bugged me. \n\nI mean, people are kind of gross, anyway. Is this stupid to break up over? Why is this happening now and not before?", "summary": "My boyfriend of only a few months is starting to gross me out. He is sort of a sloppy dresser and is overweight and has a hard time keeping up with activities and sex but is a tremendously wonderful human being."}
{"id": "t3_1w5hlu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (F20) worried that my boyfriend (M21) isn't over his ex girlfriend.", "post": "We've been dating for over a year.\n\nHe dated this girl the summer between his junior and senior year in high school.  They dated for 3 months I think?  Anyway, she was his first kiss, first prom date, etc.  They didn't kiss and most of their relationship they were apart (he lives in Oregon during the summer).  Whenever he speaks about her, he says that he really liked her.  He told me specifically that he never LOVED her though.  Well, last night, he was drunk and said that she was his \"first love.\" The next morning I asked him about this and he said that he was drunk and being emotional and meant puppy love, and that he never actually loved her, and that I'm his first true love.  \n\nWell, I'm a little worried that he still likes her or has feelings for her of some sort...  I'll admit, I've snooped a few times on his computer (which is NOT okay...haven't done it in a long time)... but he did go on her Facebook every once in awhile.  \n\nI'm just really confused about why he is still wondering about his HIGH SCHOOL girlfriend...of FIVE years ago... strange?", "summary": "Boyfriend still FB stalks his high school girlfriend from time to time and told me when he was very drunk that she was his first love."}
{"id": "t3_1mav9b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex boyfriend[19M] and I[19F] have no idea how to be just friends, and no idea how to be apart.", "post": "My ex-boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years on and off. And best friends for nearly 5. We decided to break up at the end of May because of distance.\n\nWe love each other, we wanted to get married, but seeing as I don't want to give up my dreams and he is stuck under contract with the military for another 4 years marriage seemed highly unlikely. \n\nI had/have been holding myself back for over a year trying to match my life up with his so I could move to be with him. As much as our relationship was wonderful, our LDR was tearing me apart. He saw this, and decided it was time to end it. Our break up was fairly mutual, we both knew that our relationship was holding us back from growing up. But our feelings never truly left. \n\nBetween the end of May and now, He and I have tried desperately to break contact. I tell him no more, we can't be \"just friends\". So we stop talking, within two weeks one of us will break down and seek out the other. Then we decide to be \"just friends\" because not talking is too painful but this turns into sexting, I love you's, and talking on the phone every night. We spend hours and hours invested in each other.  We basically go back to what we were before. \n\nWe decided that we can't do this anymore for the fourth time tonight. It's like a drug addiction and we keep relapsing. How do we end our relationship cleanly despite our feelings?", "summary": "Ex and I broke up because of LDR, can't seem to end contact for more than a few weeks, keep going back to each other. How do we end our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_4ad2z2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused as to whether my (20F) boyfriend's (22F) brother (19M) dislikes me or not?", "post": "Hello everyone! I've already asked this on another thread but didn't put all the info in and didn't ask for advice. \n\nSo I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three and a half years now, and I regularly stay at his house where he still lives with his parents and brother. I've been pretty friendly with his brother this whole time but I have a feeling he may dislike me...\n\n We talk sometimes and he will show me things he thinks I'll like, like videos or music, and will watch TV with my boyfriend and I, which all says that he does think of me in a good way. \n\nBut he will sometimes seemingly go out of his way to ignore me, like sitting at the other end of the house instead of in his room near us (which he would never do if it was just my boyfriend there), and he won't ever sit next to me. Even if there's a lot of room on the sofa next to me, he will outright refuse to sit there if I'm going to be \"next\" to him, but if my boyfriend and I switch sides he will sit there. \n\nThese things kind of make me think he doesn't like me and he doesn't want to be near me. It's making me feel awkward. Does he dislike me or not? If he does, is there anything I can do?", "summary": "Boyfriend's brother acts friendly and nice, then avoids me and will go out of his way not to sit near me. Want to know if he dislikes and what to do if he does."}
{"id": "t3_11jc2c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My grandfather was born in China but was a German.  Around 65 years ago the nationalists kicked them out of the house.  Today my great aunt, my mom and two of her sisters found the house in China.  What incredible things have your families discovered associated with the past?", "post": "Some of my family went on vacation to China, they hoped they would be able to find my grandfather's house.  My great aunt still has the deed to the home.  After a few days of searching they finally found what they believed was my grandfather's and great aunt's old home.  The local police helped them and also confirmed it was the correct home according to the deed.  A local historian was very interested in the story because it is not often that westerners have 65 year old deeds to homes.  The historian wanted to document the story and have copies of the pictures taken by my family; he treated them to a dinner at a local restaurant and they told him the story.  FYI no one in my family is Chinese, it was just the birth place of my grandfather.\n\nWhat incredible things have your families discovered associated with the past?", "summary": "My great aunt has a 65 year old deed to a home in China that she and her brother were kicked out of by Chinese nationalists.  Today some of my family found the home in China with assistance from local police and the whole thing was documented by a Chinese historian who treated my family to dinner."}
{"id": "t3_12tvbz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What Have you Done that Horribly Wrong?", "post": "What have you done in your life that, with decent intentions, went horribly wrong?\n\nI was at a tailgate across from my dorm and decided to go back to my room w/ this pretty soccer player to \"get more drinks.\" We're both fairly intoxicated at this point and I see a cop car cruising down the street, looking for people that were too drunk.\n\n We both were stumbling at this point, so I pulled her in (my arm was around her neck) to give her a kiss on the forehead with too much force, face nails her in the nose, which starts bleeding profusely. The cop car is in arm's reach, as my beautiful, white button down was saturated in blood and the girl is holding her nose and screaming (drunkenly) hysterically. \n\nThe cop got out, tells me I'm an idiot, but it was a nice try to, get this, cover for the girl. He cites her, tells me to get her back safely and to throw ice on my chin. He thought she rammed me with her head as I corralled her in. \n\nBack to the bloodstained, alcohol reeking mess I had to deal with. I tried everything to clean the blood up, but my button-down could not be salvaged.", "summary": "Don't bleed in a white-button down."}
{"id": "t3_3j63s2", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Life is much easier when you're single and not in love.", "post": "When you're single, you don't have to worry about looking good for your SO. You don't have to stress about making your woman happy by doing stupid small things she likes. No arguing over forgetting to put the toilet seat down, no debating over what TV show to watch. No need to blow money on dates. No need to listen about dumb crap that her friends went through. If you want to hang out and watch sports and drink with your friends, you don't need to clear it with \"bae\". Being in a relationship will suck you dry. Not dating/being in love is much less stressful and happier. \n\nMy friend has been in a relationship for years and his girlfriend is suffocating him with drama and BS and he puts up with it. After personal experiences, I can testify that stressing over someone who may or may not like you, and then finding out they don't and they exile you, is a waste of time. Being single and not romantically interested in anybody is a simpler way to live life.", "summary": "Life is much better and less stressful when you are single and not crushing on anyone. Personal experience has shown me that liking someone and dating is very stressful on the soul and body."}
{"id": "t3_ze2vt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend and I are having some troubles", "post": "So I've had my current girlfriend for almost eight months, and I love her with all my heart. We're both still pretty young, I'm 16 and she is almost 15, but as most if you know sexual stuff still happens at a younger age.\n\n Last week she told me that she doesn't feel the spark anymore, no more butterflies, even though I do. She said she doesn't want to break up and still loves me, but she wants to see if she can feel the spark again in a few weeks. I told her I'd do anything for her to feel the spark again, and for us to stay together. We live about 20 mins apart so that is another strain on our relationship. I told her we could stop all sexual contact whatsoever. She said \"then maybe we will work. She feels our whole relationship is over sexualized. I am more than okay with stopping sexual contact.\n\n I'm a wreck, at school, and seeking your help.... I'll be checking this as much as possible while I'm at school. I just want to know how I can keep her and make her feel that spark again. Thanks!", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't feel the spark anymore, please help!"}
{"id": "t3_1qxv8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help, I'm [19 M] afraid my trust issues will end this relationship [18 F]", "post": "Ok, 2 months ago I got out of a serious 9 month relationship with a girl I loved and would do anything for and it ended poorly. She broke up with me so she could party and experience other guys and blah blah and for the month after we continued to talk and even discussed being friends with benefits, I eventually saw that she was no longer the girl I had fallen in love with and we had a fight (I called her a whore) and I moved on.\n\nI found this new girl and she is amazing. She is funny, sassy, and beautiful and we have been dating for a month and last night I lost my virginity to her but already I am beginning to not trust her. Not because she is not trustworthy but because my ex fucked with me so much I find it hard to trust anyone now (I have ended a few friendships because I was worried they are/were spying on me). I really like this girl and want it to work.", "summary": "my ex left me with trust issues worried they are affecting my current relationship."}
{"id": "t3_tnxaa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the weirdest thing that has ever walked into your workplace?", "post": "I'll start with my story from Sunday. I was working at my job at a local hardware store and I was serving a customer. I finished serving them and looked to the door to see if their are any more customers. I then see a huge dog walk into the shop. All of the other employees start looking at this dog like its about to kill someone and they don't move. I decide to be a leader and start trying to remove the dog from the shop. The dog completely ignores me and starts walking down the isles. I continue to follow the dog until it stops mid-stride and turns down the plumbing isle. It then begins to run as fast as it can until it reaches the paint counter where it sits next to a man in a wheelchair. The man looks at me, then looks at the dog and starts screaming \"POLY GET THE FUCK OUTSIDE!\" and starts chasing the dog while still in his wheelchair. By the way this wasn't any wheelchair, this was a wheelchair with thick tread mountain bike wheels. I just stood their like dick head for a few seconds and then ran after them to see what would happen. The man continued to abuse the dog as he chased it all the way outside. He then returned to the counter and proceeded to place his items on the counter like nothing happened. After he left I asked a friend about the man and he said that he used the dog to pull him down the street in his wheelchair. True story.", "summary": "Dog walked into shop. Man with wheelchair chased and abused it then acted like nothing happened. "}
{"id": "t3_3fxyl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my friend [20 F] of three years, are meeting for the first time and it could decide if I move to be with her.", "post": "I have known this girl for almost three years now and we are going to be meeting soon (about a month and a half away). A few months ago, we shared some dreams that we had when we were younger (Me 17 and her 14). It turns out that we were dreaming about our significant other and we had incredibly similar dreams just from our perspectives. Everything in our dreams matched up, the house, me driving up the driveway, her at the front porch, even the time of the year. (Note: We had no idea each other existed until I was 20)\n\nI had a crush on her before we shared the dreams, but my feelings have only grown stronger since. The issue is, we live on opposite sides of the country. I am a college graduate looking for a career job and I am willing to move closer to her to give us a shot.\n\nThe true problem is, anytime I try to talk about us (me moving out there/her feelings about all of this), she shuts me down. We both agree that this is something special and are interested in seeing what we could be, but until I move out there, we are going to remain friends. I am, and have been very open about how I feel about this with her and she has been really reserved about her feelings. \n\nMy question is, how do I handle this? I want to respect her wishes to not discuss this, because she just wants to let things play out without thinking about it too much. But I feel like I have to make a choice on moving across the country, and can't just leave that up to fate...", "summary": "Anytime I try to discuss moving closer to my friend, so we could date, she avoids talking about us and stops responding all together."}
{"id": "t3_eopcn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend troubles?", "post": "My friend (male) and I (female) are freshmen in college, respectively 19 and 18. We've known each other since Freshmen year in high school but didn't become real friends until earlier this year when I broke up with my high school boyfriend who was a mutual friend. \n\nFor the past few months, everything with my friend has been great. We used to have \"deep\" conversations but funnily enough, that was only when he was still dating his girlfriend (they broke up around the same time as my BF and I). \n\nIn the past month or so, he's been acting really strange. I feel like he's starting to pick fights for no reason. He'll ask me if I'm up to anything and I'll say something, he tries to press further (\"Is there anything troubling you\") and I'll say I'm fine and as soon as I say that, he'll get upset. Yesterday we were having a seemingly fine conversation via IM and he did it again, when I asked him what was going on he called me a bitch and logged off. I'm getting concerned because I genuinely enjoy his company, so long as he isn't acting this way.", "summary": "Guy friend is being weird all of a sudden. What's going on? Let me know if you need more information."}
{"id": "t3_31d0a4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my boyfriend [30M] for 28 months.", "post": "My EX and I have been in talking terms.\n\nI ended up going out last night and called him pretty late. He didn't answer so my drunken self left a message, to be honest, I don't think I left anything bad, but I was a bit concern.\n\nI just got a text from him and here's what he said:\n\n\"Hey you! Saw you called last night but I don't listen to those messages. Thanks for thinking of me. I'm in a pretty good place right now, no signs of an apartment, but I want to make sure you make your decision for yourself and that you aren't doing anything that you think gives us a better chance to be together. You're a great person and I'll care about you always and it would kill me if you expected more from me than I can give\u2026\"", "summary": "How should I reply and should I be feeling sad about this text??"}
{"id": "t3_2esf39", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] tried pot with my GF [20F] and she told her parents.", "post": "I went with my girlfriend of almost 3 months to see a movie two days ago. We met with a mutual friend who offered to smoke pot with us before the movie, and we agreed. My GF (who lives with her parents) had a bad reaction to it (felt really paranoid) and ended up texting her dad to come get her because she was scared. So now her parents think I pressured her to do drugs. It was not my intention for her to feel pressured, but I think that's what happened. I asked her a few days before the movie if she was okay with smoking a bit before the movie and she said it was okay. But now I feel absolutely disgusted with myself for doing this to her. She doesn't blame me but I know that her parents are not happy with us. I am afraid to go to her house because I think that her parents no longer approve of me dating their daughter. I don't usually do drugs or drink or anything like that, I like to think that I am a pretty clean person, aside from this one mistake, but her parents probably think I am a bad influence on her. I feel like complete shit for breaking the trust that her parents had in me. I don't know what I was thinking. We both agreed to never do drugs again, I have a full intention of following through with that promise.\n\nIn the meantime, I guess what I am asking for is a little guidance in how I can get on better terms with her parents. Should I text her dad? Should I ask my GF to talk to him? Should I just give it a little time? I don't know what to do.", "summary": "My GF's parents probably hate me because I inadvertently pressured her into doing drugs."}
{"id": "t3_f8jhh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Reaching out to people with psi powers...", "post": "For me, it is very intriguing.  I have noticed, within the past 2 years, I have experienced some of the controversial powers and especially as of late.  \n\nI have have the most vivid dreams where I toss and turn and go in and out of conscious.  I don't know what is reality.  Occasionally from people the next day I will get a text asking if I was ok because they had a dream about me.  They are the people I have in the dream. \n\nI've only become interested in honing them in recently.  A lot of times I start thinking about a person and they text me.  I know this could be coincidence if I was talking to the person recently, but sometimes it is very random.  One time I just focused on a person for one minute and kept saying over and over in my mind text me and when I gave up, 10 seconds later I received a text from them. Often I get the \"omg I was just thinking of you... or I was just about to call you..\"\n\nAnother time I was in the biggest rage of my life, beyond furious, like I could have murdered someone. I put a hole through my wall.  So right after, I was talking to my roommate and all the sudden in the midst of my rage we hear a loud buzzing in my bathroom.  An electric razor turned on. Not only was it turned on the button was smashed in and no longer could be turned off.  Was this a manifestation of my rage? I have no clue but it definitely can't be explained. \n\nI've taken psychic tests and when I focus and clear my mind I receive scores that are classified as paranormal.  I don't know how to classify my experiences:  empathy, precognition, telepathy, ESP?", "summary": "If there is anyone else out there like this or with psychic abilities, then have you tried to develop them? IF so, how ? "}
{"id": "t3_2tr3q4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When the timing just isn't right...", "post": "I will try to be brief:\n\nI (24M) met the love of my life (23F) last year and we have been together ever since. We live together. We are planning to move across the world together this summer. I love her like crazy. \n\nHere is the problem: I am a late bloomer. She is not.\n\nShe's had her \"fun\" in both relationships and casual encounters. I'm cool with that. However, I met her at the very beginning of my own \"blossoming\". Something I had been looking forward to quite a bit. I barely had a chance to open up at all before I met her.\n\nI guess I am just looking for advice on how to deal with my own doubts about being in a committed relationship so young. I don't want anyone but her (romantically), but I can't shake the feeling I am making a mistake by putting all my eggs in one basket. I doubt an open relationship would be healthy for us, so that is not an option. \n\nI hate that the timing was such, but I am so thankful I found her at all. \n\nWhat do?", "summary": "Found the right girl at the wrong time."}
{"id": "t3_12a9nq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My niece thinks that unicorns live in Alaska because of me. What's the biggest lie you didn't mean to tell a kid?", "post": "My niece was over yesterday for a bike riding lesson. We were all in the kitchen talking (my dad, my sister, niece, and I) and I was wearing a shirt with a unicorn and a narwhal crossing swords. It's majestic. Somehow we start talking about narwhals and how my dad didn't think they were real, and I said yes narwhals and unicorns are both real. Niece says, \"Unicorns aren't real!\" Ha, so young, so naive. I inform her that, \"Unicorns are real. They live in Alaska with the narwhals. They're just snow horses.\" \n\nI was totally just kidding around, saying silly uncle stuff, and not really thinking about it. We move on, sister leaves, bike lesson begins. Fast forward to this morning. My sister tells me via Facebook that while giving niece and friend a ride to school, the subject of Alaska comes up and how cold it is, and niece says to her friend, \"Did you know unicorns are real? They're snow horses and they live in Alaska.\" No sure if my sister ever told her the truth, or if we're just letting that one ride out like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy.", "summary": "Kidding around, tell niece unicorns live in Alaska, niece believes me and spreads it around elementary school. "}
{"id": "t3_54vyod", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "should I [21M] ask my best friend [21 M] to give me her number or introduce us somehow??", "post": "So I [21 M] was at a family friends 50th on the weekend, my best friend also same age as me [M] decided to start playing drinking games and a few other girls joined in. this one girl in particular who was playing I caught possibly looking over at me a few times im not sure i was pretty drunk, this was saturday night and its currently wednesday and i cant seem to get the thought of her out of my head. I didnt really talk to her more of casual drunk conversation with a larger group. Now my best friend nows her and my main question is should I ask him to maybe introduce us or something. Ive never really felt this way about another girl as ive had a couple past relationships.", "summary": "should I ask my best friend to give me her number or introduce us somehow??"}
{"id": "t3_36alo7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M], USA, dating is getting old and seems futile, I need words of encouragement", "post": "I broke up with my ex back in December. I've been dating here and there mainly through OKCupid.\n\nI'm getting very discouraged. People who I'm not that into seemingly can't get enough of me. People who I'm into seem to give me the brush-off.\n\nI'm in between stuff right now. No job currently, took time off with some money saved to do a cross country road trip around the lower 48 states in June. It seems silly to want anyone to get serious with, but it seems like I'm more lonely than ever. Maybe the trip will give me new perspective, but I worry when I will leave on my own I will be more lonely than ever. This is probably the longest period I've gone (6 months) without getting into a new relationship.", "summary": "Getting fed up with dating and worried I may be alone forever."}
{"id": "t3_kq2wd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit I have my first girlfriend and could use your help. Probably NSFW", "post": "So Reddit I just started dating this girl and things are going really well. I have never had an official girlfriend. Also I have never had sex do to my own morals and beliefs (yes I have had the chance with random girls, but I've always stopped it before anything really started). Started getting a blow job once which lasted 4 seconds (not my fault, her roommate walked in lol) But on top of all of that I am terrified of having sex the first time because I believe I suffer from Premature Ejaculation. When masturbating I often time am done within a minute usually max of 3 and am *terrified* of this happening with her and being a regular problem. How can I get better at this? Is masturbating different than when you have sex? Advice desperately needed.", "summary": "Believe I suffer from Premature Ejaculation, what can I do to last longer?"}
{"id": "t3_1fe2u3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl showing thorough interest - how to move the situation forward?", "post": "I was at a party tonight and this girl who I know kinda well was showing signs of interest as far as I know. We sat around and talked a lot and cuddled a bit and something that stuck out to me was that she touched the inside of my leg a bit. Not too far up but noticeable. My question to you reddit is how do I progress the situation. I am quite the noob and feel weird straight up saying lets hook up or even I feel awkward saying the classic \"do you want to go somewhere more quiet\". I'm not quite sure what I would do at that point either. Also how can I practice/what are some good techniques for keeping conversations up with girls because I felt like I was lacking there too. Lastly, are girls fine with hooking up (making out) just right in the party instead of going somewhere private? Thanks and sorry if I sound like an idiot or fucked up somehow on the subreddit.", "summary": "How to move things from just talking to doing something more?"}
{"id": "t3_3vhbm6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not letting my girlfriend pay for dinner", "post": "Yesterday, my girlfriend and I went out to eat. She always tries to pay for her own food and I won't let her so I stole her debit card so she could not pay. All goes well and life is good. \n \nToday my girlfriend was going to leave for Knoxville,TN to see an Avett Brothers concert. I did not know her when she got tickets so I couldn't go. She had been really excited because she loves them and she had decided to buy a poster at the concert. So her and her friend make the journey up to Knoxville and everything is fine and dandy. \n\nAbout 30 minutes ago, I was laying in bed watching Bates Motel on Netflix and I get a call from her. She breaks the news that I still had her debit card. I was immediately overcome by a sense of dread and my stomach fell through the bed and onto the floor below. I apologized profusely, but that doesn't make up for it. \n\nIf anyone happens to be at that concert and can help me out, that would be so awesome.", "summary": "I tried to be nice, didn't think twice. Now my girlfriend is hurt and I feel like a jerk."}
{"id": "t3_4m4opu", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "16 & 19 dating ?", "post": "Hey guys ! I want to know your opinion before you type No! Hear me out . I'm in Canada and stayed back a year in HS And this girl likes me she's 15 turning 16 . \n\nBasically she is born in 2001 and I'm 1997. I have no desire for his Sex and I wanted to know if you guys think it's okay if we dated also this is the Canadian law\n\n \"The Tackling Violent Crime Act raises the legal age of sexual consent in Canada to 16 from 14, the first time it has been raised since 1892.\n\nBut the law includes a \"close-in-age exception,\" meaning 14- and 15-year-olds can have sex with someone who is less than five years older.\" So guys am I safe ? \n\nI'm under the 5 year gap. Barely . I have no interest in her sexual until she is legal and if she tries to kiss me that's on her consent . \n\nBut tell me what you guys think ? Should I ? Is it okay ? Do you see any problems ?", "summary": "Is it okay for a 19yr male to date 16yr girl that gives consent ?"}
{"id": "t3_4e26p2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] SO [24F] broke up with me because of her parents threatened her", "post": "My SO (or former SO) been together for 8 years, for the last 3 years we are on LDR, we planned to get married next year. Her family seemed to be accepting me for these years prior to our engagement. The last time i asked them to marry their daughter they said they will think about it. Last week her dad called me to forget about her and to move on, citing difference in nationality will make it difficult for me to get job in her country ( i planned to move to her's). These week been hard for me and my so, until last night my so said that she will temporarily move out to her friend to calm her mind. Turned out her friend told that plan to my so's parents, my so got caught, a lot of drama happened. Her mom called me that i ruined her family, her dad blamed me for telling her that decision before he tell it to her by himself ( her dad told me not to tell her that day, so i told her the day after, am i in the wrong here ?). Then this morning she told me that she have to break up with me because she is afraid that things will get worse in her family (some threats she wouldnt explain further). She forgot to hung up after that and i can hear her crying loudly after. \n\nWhat is the best way to apologize or make things better ? I know soke will said to move on from drama like this, but i never had any problem with her or her family before and i would like to save this relationship.", "summary": "SO of 8 years broke up because of her parents' threat. They blamed me for messing her daughter.mHow do i convince them that i will do the best for their daughter ? Should i apologize for what i did ? If so, what is the best way to say it ?"}
{"id": "t3_4jsj0k", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Photography advice needed!", "post": "My wedding is rapidly approaching (a Friday in August). I haven't solved my photography dilemma yet and I could really use some advice. \n\nIdeally, I would like to hire a photographer for just a few hours. I'd like to have group family photos (and photos of me and FH) taken before the ceremony, maybe an hour total. I would also like photos to be taken during the ceremony, which should only last about 20 minutes, and during the hour-long cocktail hour. Plus maybe the first 45 minutes or hour of the reception, but that's negotiable. That's about three or four hours total. I don't have a bridal party and the number of people I want in the photos is probably a total of 20 (most of whom will be only in a couple of photos). I do not expect an album of 500 wedding photos.\n\nI truly value photography as an art and don't want to come across as insulting. It's just that my FH and I aren't terribly keen on posing for photos. Here's what I don't want: cutesy group photos, photos of my FH and I gazing longingly at each other, getting ready photos, photos of my dress before I put it on, ring photos, etc. It's not about money. I just don't need a full day of photography.\n\nSo my questions are: is it possible to find a decent quality photographer willing to do this? If so, how do I go about finding one? How much should I expect to pay (very, very generally)? I am hoping the fact that my wedding is on a Friday will help me out here, as I would never expect to find a photographer willing to forego the typical wedding photo package on a Saturday during the height of wedding season in a very popular wedding destination (coastal Maine). I am even open to hiring a student photographer.\n\nAny advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!", "summary": "I am looking for a photographer for just a few hours on a Friday in August. Wondering if this is even an option."}
{"id": "t3_3mmvuj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help about Camp", "post": "Now this needs a bit of explaining before I can start. At my school we have a camp that works with our school to give volunteering hours to the students. Well I wanted to try it because I remembered going to that camp and I wanted to be a counselor for the kids. I made it in and there were 5 girls and 5 boys counselors all of us around 16-17. Now fast forward to where we actually are at camp me and the other guys were friends so we had no trouble getting along but I knew none of the girls counselors. But one of the guys did so we started talking to them and after a while they started laughing and having fun, and so did we. In reality we only knew each other for about 4 days, but it felt like we all were life long friends. I didn't want to leave. But it ended to everyone's sadness. And I really felt like I was hit the most. Its been three days and I still feel empty and don't know what to do I know I didn't want to go out with these girls it's just the guys and the girls cabin clicked so well I just wish it could of stayed like that for a bit longer. But if you know of any way to help me please cause I have no idea where to go anymore", "summary": "Had these camp counselors become really good friends now camps over I don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2i66z9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] broke up with my boyfriend[21 M] of 1.5 years, should I go back?", "post": "Been having a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for most of our relationship. We both share similar interests and right from the start hit it off. He's funny and i love him a lot.\n\nHowever, sometimes we argue about what our relationship should be. I think I should be prioritised over other things but he does not see it that way. I also disagree with the way he treats me sometimes, such as hanging up on a skype call with me over a game. He finds he is justified in doing so. Am i overreacting in thinking that maybe we aren't compatible, in that we see the same situation differently (he think's it is acceptable where as i do not) and therefore incompatible?\n\nI guess what i really want to know is whether or not I should put down our differences and go back to him. What i do know is that i love him a lot. He isn't abusive and very sweet, I actually find him perfect to me. I am by no means perfect and by no means blaming him for the break up. I had every part to do with the break up as he did. However, all i can think about after the break up is him. I can't get my mind off of him even after i've deleted him off facebook, skype etc. What should i do?", "summary": "Mind is telling me no, body is tellin me yes. Should i go back?"}
{"id": "t3_2ibmux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(18F) parents took lingerie from my room and hid it from me while I wasn't home. How do I approach them about this?", "post": "I hope this is the right place.\n\nI am 18, and I am in a long term committed relationship with the man (21) I hope to marry. My parents know, and adore him and are supportive of our relationship. They are fairly conservative (mom is a woman's pastor) and have taught abstinence. I have obeyed their rule of abstinence (including oral, and PIV sex) until I turned 18, and I have still not lost my virginity.\n\nI recently bought a lingerie set for skyping with my boyfriend, and the garter belt and stockings \"disappeared\" from my room about a week ago. I found them today, and they were on my parents' dresser. I know that they weren't just laying around in my room, and that one of my parents would have had to dig through my bed to get it.\n\nI want to talk to my parents about having boundaries, and how I don't think it's okay to snoop through my room now that I'm 18. Am I out of line?", "summary": "My parents took my lingerie and I don't think that's okay. How do I approach them?"}
{"id": "t3_1pfuys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dated a year, had a big fight and now he wants space/dumped me. How confusing.", "post": "So he's 36(M) I'm 29 (F) and we had an argument over text that blew up. After the text issue he stopped responding so I went to his house and as I'm knocking he turns off the lights. This puts me into crazy panic model and I text him and called sobbing and hurt. Then for a week he's just gone. \n\nI see him out as the one week mark hits and he glares at me. Finally we talk briefly and he says we can talk later. Two days later we talk and I'm under the impression we worked everything out. \n\nCouple days later he invites me to watch a game. Things seem fine. But texts over a few days seem short and unemotional. I go over and talk and ask what's up, thought we were cool and he says no. This makes me upset. I go to work and return later still upset. We talk, he says he thinks he's done but we kinda have fun, drink, he's affectionate etc. He asks me to stay over and I do. The next morning he's so sweet, asks if I want coffee, cuddles and we have sex. After being lazy most of the afternoon we get to talking and I ask him what is going on. I have to pull teeth but he says yeah, it's over. Uuuugh. So later after gallons of tears he says he hates that I don't give space when we fight, which isn't often really. He says he wants space and asks me not to talk to him and we can talk again in a week.", "summary": "It's over, right? I'm already in breakup damage control mode for myself but I think he's just freaking out about serious relationship stuff. One year is a long relationship for him, at least as far as I know. Or he's just an ass. "}
{"id": "t3_4mhvoe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19/m] Losing sense of romance.", "post": "Hello, sitting here 5:16 a.m as of writing this and was thinking about the relationships I've had with other men. Very few times have I ever felt anything for them, but I have had the feeling of infatuation towards a few- never lasting long, burning out quick.\n\n I understand I'm young but it's becoming insulting to hear \"give it time, you're still young\" I'm more emotionally intelligent than most married couples... Been on some amazing dates, romantic moments and treated like a king, but all I feel is this almost shallow or empty feeling.\n\n I'll give an example of this guy/28 I met and was in the company of for about 3 months: We met over drinks and enjoyed nice conversation- clicked very nicely, awesome sex, awesome communication, got the type of affection I need (petting, physical) but all that time was in vain really, he thought we were going somewhere and asked me in a corny but sweet way to be his boyfriend and I declined. He was in tears and asked me \"Why? You asshole! You don't even look like you care!\" \"piece of shit!\" But that's my fault, I didn't have any feelings for him like that, I should have seen the signs that he was falling but I just indulged him I guess, till it blew up in my face and tried to be honest.\n\n Now I spend my time hooking up with randoms, most want to see me again because they \"like\" me I tell them not to expect more from me. But why? Why don't I have more? Why is it when people start to have feeling for me is when I realize the most that I never had feeling for them?\n\nI need someone to talk to about this- no one I know has been able to help me, haven't asked best friend but I doubt she'll have the insight to resolve this (I don't mean this in a mean way, shes honestly my life)", "summary": "[19/M] Relationships (with other guys- if that helps) end up nowhere because I cant return feelings- Why don't I ever return feelings even when everything is right?"}
{"id": "t3_2b29hf", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need another step past working out and eating healthy", "post": "I'm a 23 yr old female and have been an athlete my whole life. I played 4 years of softball in college and was in pretty good shape. That was obviously attained with a ton of vigorous exercise. I am a year out of school now and have put on about 20 pounds. A blown-out knee suffered in my last year somewhat derailed my workouts for a bit immediately after the season. I did not get my knee fixed as I found myself to be able to live through the pain. I've always been a bit thicker/muscular as a power hitter and catcher. I weighed 180 throughout most of my playing days, with a minimum of 170 3 years ago attained through illness. Now I am sitting around at about 205-210.\n\n I am by no means obese, I still carry a lot of muscle mass, but I would like to get to a normal fit living weight of 160. My exercise regime is working out 6 days a week. Each including full body circuit style strength training around 30 min and either a run (2-3 miles)/bike (5-6 miles)/elliptical(30 min) session involving intervals. \n\nMy problem is the inability to lose any weight. I think my body is used to a pretty high intensity workout program therefore that isn't helping me cut weight. I can't quite go back to old exercise habits as my knee hates jumping, heavy squats, excessive running. My diet consists of mostly veggies and fruits during the day and then a larger sit down dinner with my family consisting of a meat, veggie, potato/pasta. I recently found myself to be lactose sensitive, so maybe cutting dairy out will provide positive results. Using my calorie tracker, I am usually right around 1500 cals/day. I admit to frequent (weekend) drinking, but I try to alter my food cal intake those days to make room for the booze.\n\nI am out of ideas on how to shed these pounds. I really don't want to have to go to extreme paleo or upping my exercise routine. Thinking maybe I have additional sensitivities to foods that won't burn off for me? I need some tips and ideas on how to get this moving!!", "summary": "active, healthy eater struggling to see changes in weight/body. Need extra tips, advice, stories on what has worked for others with this problem."}
{"id": "t3_2tumfg", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "I've been working at my job for 3 months now and I'm trying to figure out a plan to move up in the future but there's a problem.", "post": "I'm making this because I just got an email from a recruiter about a potential other position, which I don't plan to interview for since I only worked at my company for 3 months so far.\n\nThe problem is that for being a big company, there just doesn't seem to be any way I can think of of moving up in the company. I spoke to my bosses and asked around, but all I got from them was the standard \"Learn about the industry\" answer. I look at people in my department, all older than me by about 20-25 years, all seem to have just gotten a change in title without any real authority or sense of moving up. \n\nEvery time I speak to my dad about it, he says to me \"I want you to have a plan\" and when I try to explain all of this to him, he gets upset and repeats that he doesn't know what I do. I have some type of plan but it really doesn't involve staying at this company because I just don't see an opportunity to grow unless I go into another division of the company since it's such a large company (though I don't see many opportunities at the moment for other divisions). \n\nNow, this part isn't really pertinent to anything but, my dad and I got into the dumbest argument about salary. He claims that people talk and everyone in my department knows how much I make/how much the other people in the department make. I'm trying to argue that it's not true and only management/HR knows. My dad comes from a stock market background where everyone basically has an idea how much other people make based on clientele and it seems that he just thinks snooping around for a person's salary is appropriate conversation or something. He even claims that a person should ask about salary in the interview, which I disagree with unless it's brought up by the interviewer.", "summary": "Not sure how to move up in my company aside from going to a different division when the opportunity pops up. Got into a dumb argument with my dad about who knows what about a person's salary."}
{"id": "t3_1tnvtr", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Need advice on next year and transfer", "post": "Hi reddit,\nI did not do well in high school and I got accepted into a B tier liberal arts college. I just finished my first semester in college as a freshman and my GPA is currently 2.4. Its really bad and I know I can do better. I let procrastination take control all the time but Im doing a lot better than I did in high school. \n\nI want to transfer after my sophomore year, if I get really good GPA's from now on (3.5+), will I have a shot at transferring to a uni such as NYU, UC Davis, USC, etc...? \n\nClass I took so far, Physics (Calc based) 1, Calculus 1, Microeconomics, and Writing composition. Im about to take Physics (calc based) 2, calc 2, Macroeconomics, and Computer science next semester. Im currently not sure what I want to major in, but Im leaning towards a Major in Physics and Minor in Economics.", "summary": "Did bad in HS, Did bad in first semester of Freshman year, what can i do to get a successful transfer to a good uni?"}
{"id": "t3_388b2g", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to cure my dermatitis with salt", "post": "I have sebhorric dermatitis and have recently gone cold turkey off my corticosteroid cream after reading all the horrible things about it. Of course now I have dermatitis to deal with and have been trying a variety of different \"natural\" remedies.  \n  I read that dead sea salt was a potential cure for all skin ailments. Last Friday I doused my face with a dead sea salt and water mixture. Now this might have been okay if I rinsed off ( don't know for sure not trying again) but I left it on. I assumed it would soak in and really stick it to my dermatitis right?  \n To make matters worse I was exhausted, and ended up sleeping for 24 hours!!! I woke up very confused early Sunday.  \nSo I am all groggy and confused about where the time yet, I go take a piss and look in the mirror.  \nMY FACE IS COMPLETELY COVERED BY DOZENS OF TINY YELLOW PUSS FILED PIMPLES!!  \nThe salt residue must have clogged my pores or caused some sort of reaction. I don't even have an acne problem just the dermatitis. I looked like a fucking monster.   \nI showed my brothers and they freaked out which didn't help.  \nI had work on Monday and we have a cute secretary.  \nAHHH GOD KILL ME NOW.  \nIn an act of desperation I scissor off  every single nasty oozing sore. There are soo many individual zits it takes me 45 minutes to get them all. I contemplate not going to work or wearing a ski mask but I have no choice.  \nOn Monday I went to work with red dots all over my face, I looked like I had mutant chicken pox. I do my best to avoid everyone but she sees me :( She says nothing but she doesn't have too. Even my boss felt sorry for me and let me use the back entrance to go home.  \n  Today is Tuesday and its getting better slowly.  \nFuck Dead Sea Salt. And Yes I know it probably would have been fine if I rinsed but fuck it anyway.", "summary": "Salt mask caused me to turn into Acne Monster Man, everyone at work saw me. My skin still sucks."}
{"id": "t3_3dg34w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [33M] found out my wife [33F] slept with brother 2 days before our wedding.", "post": "Hello Reddit. First time poster, long time lurker.\n\nMe and my wife got married in the middle of June. We've been together for 6 years and engaged for 1 before we got married. I thought everything was great, and it was. I never had any suspicions of any cheating on her part.\n\nSaturday morning my brother calls me and says he needs to talk to me. I head over to his apartment and one of his friends is there. He sits me down and he starts crying out of nowhere. He says that he and my wife attended a day party (I knew she was going to a party, but didn't know my brother was attending as well) 2 days before our wedding. They got drunk as fuck and they ended up having sex. He says he doesn't remember any details besides the fact that they fucked. \n\nI blacked out. I started punching him like crazy. His friend eventually pulls him off of me and I head home fuming with rage. I'm not sure how bad I hurt my brother, but according to his friend I knocked a couple of teeth out and fractured his jaw. So I didn't hurt him too bad. \n\nI get home and confront my wife. She begins to deny it. So I tell her I heard it straight from my brothers mouth. So she confessed to it. She says they got so drunk they had no control of their actions. When they realized what they did, they promised to keep it a secret and never let me find out. \n\nI kicked her ass out. She's been staying with her sister since Saturday. And to make sure she couldn't spin the story, I contacted both sides of our families and all of our mutual friends.\n\nIDK what to do now. I feel so broken. 1 month in and my marriage is fucking ruined. So what now?", "summary": "Found out wife and brother had sex 2 days before wedding. Find out now. Help."}
{"id": "t3_sx7vz", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Determination is contagious", "post": "The competitive cycling season is well underway where I live, and I've been training all Winter and Spring to prepare for it. Last night I was waffling about attending today's race on account of the 40F + rain forecast. Late last night I worked up the resolve to race anyway, and sent my teammate the following text message:\n\n>Fuck it I am going to htfu and go race tomorrow. Are you in?\n\nWe ended up coordinating our carpool over email, so as I sat outside his house this morning to pick him up, I gave him a call to see if he was ready yet. I hear someone else's voicemail answer the phone shortly before the following text message conversation ensues:\n\n>I think u have the wrong number but I agree--you should go race--good luck\n\n>>Hah, yeah I figured that out when I got your voicemail. Sorry, and thanks!\n\n>U bet--thanks for the motivation to get my butt on the treadmill this a.m.!:D", "summary": "Forced myself to go race in the cold and rain today, and convinced a complete stranger to go through with her morning workout as well. *Canis lupus* is contagious."}
{"id": "t3_n12sj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Want to commit, but our long-term plans aren't compatible. Help?", "post": "Alright, reddit. I've been stuck on this for some time now, and all of my friends can only seem to come up with \"wow...that sucks\". (understandably) But, maybe there's someone here with some life experience that can be relatable.\n\nMyself (female) and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2 years. He's 29, I'm 23. We've had a pretty hefty share of hardships, but we've fought through and we're a stronger couple than ever. He is in every way my perfect complement, and vice versa. He treats me with respect, is always honest with me, and more supportive and patient than anyone I've ever met. We work so well together.\n\nThe problems come in with our plans for the future. I am going into my last semester of college. He's been out for a few years, and is going to be going to grad school next spring for a master's in video game design. I think it's awesome, and I think he'll be amazing at it, but I know that will require a lot of moving for at least the first 5-10 year chunk of his career. This doesn't fit too well with my dream, which is to open up my own photography studio and be a small business owner. Picking up and moving every 2 years doesn't really suit that.\n\nThe bigger issue is this: He has absolutely zero interest in having children. None whatsoever. I have never even considered NOT having children until he came along. I keep trying to tell myself that I can manage without them, that I can find work/volunteer work with children, and still find fulfillment there. But...I really don't know if that's true.\n\nMy response to this would probably just be to wait it out, enjoy my time with him, and see where our lives take us. However, his grad school endeavors have put us on a timetable. The school he's attending is on the other side of the country. So, effectively, I have a year, and then it's game point: Commit, and move away from everything I know to be with him in a future I am profoundly uncertain of, or abandon this man that so thoroughly completes me and start all over again.", "summary": "Long-term boyfriend has career plans that don't fit with mine at all, has no interest in children whereas I definitely do."}
{"id": "t3_ulmzu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Guy I'm dating has been distant lately.", "post": "Let's call these people A and R.\nR= my good friend who I met from college. (22)\nA= R's best friend, guy I am currently dating. (22)\nMe= 20\n\nAnyway, R and I started hanging out and talking to each other around December of last year. Eventually I met A in February of this year and we started going on dates in March. We slept together in May...obviously we moved a bit fast but we both didn't really find it an issue. We saw each other a lot, whether it was just the two of us hanging out or the trio all together. In early May, R had to go away for military training for 2 weeks. In those two weeks A and I got pretty close emotionally, with him sharing some personal stuff with me, showing me childhood places of memory, etc. But when R got back...things were different. All of a sudden we see each other maybe once or twice a week instead of the 3 or 4 that we did. We started having sex less.  The texting/messaging/effort to talk to me slowed down. Compliments are slowed down as well.\n\nWhile this could be due to outside reasons (he's taking 3 online classes over the summer and working more), part of me is taking wisdom from \"He's Just Not That Into You\" and thinking that if the guy really liked me, he would make more of an effort like he used to- I mean shit...it's been only like 2 months, little early to get bored in a relationship. \n\nThe other day I asked him straight up if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me and he seemed taken aback that I thought otherwise. I explained to him how I'm feeling and he thinks I'm worrying too much. I hate to use facebook as an example but when people chat with him on there he replies a lot quicker and more often than if I do so.\n\nAm I worrying too much or is this just a dying ship that I need to hop off of?", "summary": "Guy I'm into has suddenly stopped giving me compliments, asking to hang out, etc. He claims nothing is wrong/changed in the relationship. I don't know whether to stay or not."}
{"id": "t3_pisli", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sociopathic Friends, Stories or Advice.", "post": "I have a friend of over 2 years now, narcissistic sociopath to boot. He fakes a personality and has a tendency to treat people; mostly women and weak willed people as objects. I am a very giving person, my tao is; If you do everything you can to help me I will do the same for you. This has been rampantly taken advantage of, I don't roll over but I'm willing to buy beer, bum smokes, even help a friend out financially if need be. \n\nThe catalyst; as most ass hats do, he got lucky. Grandmother died about a year ago and left upwards of a 1 million to him(he has never disclosed a number, even a rounded one). In my love of reciprocation I ask for help, I ask if he can aid me in paying off school debt(roughly $900) so I can better my future(Im 23). He say yes, before the money cleared. To this day he has spent much more money at strip clubs, taken me out to the bar a few times, now claiming that I owe him and brags about his new fondness of cocaine. He has now locked all of his money away for 6 years and dropped out of school(because he owes them money) and is getting food stamps.\n\nIve fixed this guys car, gotten him 2 jobs, and helped him mother out to no end. No fucking love just inquiries about when I'm paying back the $100 I borrowed. I'm exceedingly a nice guy, but its getting to the point that I'm going to kick his teeth in.\n\nIf I do discontinue a friendship, a man-break up if you will. I can see, no I expect him to attack me, he sees himself as a social 'god'. I on the other hand give no fucks. The amount of butt-hurt this guy can feel is immense.\n\nIn retaliation, or annoyance, I am trying to bang his mom. Because Im classy like that.\n\nI've come to you redditors because I need and unbiased opinion. Outside input is a beautiful thing.", "summary": "? Sociopath friends? Keep them or tell them to fuck off?"}
{"id": "t3_3017lx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking i was friendzoned", "post": "So this happened maybe 10 minutes ago. I've been texting this girl for a few weeks trying to asking her out. were on spring break.  She's out of town with her family. As were texting she sends \"were like sisters\". Now Im thinking \"oh shit I have to assert dominance and tell her were not sisters\". I send her a long text saying I like her since the day we met and have been waiting for the right time too ask. we can be friends but I won't be called your sister that's where I cross the line. After about 3 minutes she says she was talking about her cousin. So now Im sitting wondering what else I could I say to get myself out of this situation.", "summary": "was told were like sisters by my crush. Tell her my true feelings. Says she was talking about her cousin."}
{"id": "t3_39bk6f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A girl (23F) I (24m) have been occasionally talking to through twitter for the last 2 or so years and lives relatively close to me, how do I ask for a date without sounding like a crazy internet stalker?", "post": "This is a throwaway account.\n\nMe and this girl on twitter started following each other a couple of years back through a mutual interest and hobby and throughout this time we actually share lot of views, interests and hobbies which has a resulted in a bit of regular back and forth. It was never really more than smalltalk and the occasional conversation about a mutual interest. I thought she was cool and attractive but never thought of asking her out or anything. She recently started tweeting about services like OKC and Tinder so at least I know she's currently looking for somebody. \n\nIt turns out she also lives relatively close to me, about 50km from my town, so I thought maybe start talking to her through PMs and eventually asking to meet up for a date but I don't know how to go from just smalltalk to suddenly PMing her without looking like a maniac and just a bit desperate. I have used Tinder before but at least the girl loosely knows what your intent is. Any advice would be welcome here.", "summary": "How do I ask a girl I know through twitter on a date without giving off creepy/desperate vibes?"}
{"id": "t3_2651cc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22] 3.5 years, trying to figure out how to break up with him carefully due to his depression.", "post": "I posted this once before but I didn't get very much feedback so I'm hoping I'll get some more information this time around. I'm very lost as to what I should do here...\n\nSo me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years and have been living together for a little over 2 years. We've had a great relationship in the past but over the last year things have slowly been losing interest for me. We aren't incredibly close anymore.. it feels more like I have a roommate that I share a bed with. I think we both know that we are just growing apart (it happens when you're young) but I don't know how to end things without it really affecting his mental health.\n\nHe's lacking some of the qualities I think I want from a husband and I do eventually want to get married and possibly have children. I'm always left with the house work even though we both work full time, he doesn't cook and isn't very handy. It's not that he's not a great guy.. just not the type I want to spend the rest of my life with. On top of that we lack common interests.\n\nI know now after a couple months of thinking I need to end it before things get even deeper but I'm scared that he might hurt himself or his depression might get a lot worse. Over the past year he's had on and off depression where he gets really down on life and it gets so bad to the point that he'll have random emotional outbursts (crying or anger) He's always had a short temper with things but it's definitely worse when his depression is bad.\n\nI am kind of close with his family so I'm wondering if I should contact them before I actually break up with him so they can be prepared to help him. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for breaking up with someone in a fragile state / has severe depression? I don't want him to think it's because of the depression, because it's really not.. I just don't feel like we are right for eachother anymore. Any help is very appreciated\n\n.", "summary": "Need to break up with boyfriend but scared he may hurt himself / depression will get worse. How to I do this as softly as possible? (Don't want him to think the depression is the cause for the break up because that is not why I need to end it)"}
{"id": "t3_21rsk1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18 M] with my [18 F] of 5 months, PLEASE help and give advice on a problem with her guy friend", "post": "So for the last 2 weeks or so my girlfriend has been spending a lot of time with a guy friend and going for drives with him - she told me yesterday that he has seen him about 5 times in the last 6 days and last night, she left me when he called to go for a drive (we weren't really doing anything but still).\n\nI spent pretty much the whole day with her yesterday and all seemed fine until she left at about 8 when the guy called her and I was very annoyed about it. All of today it has been plaguing my mind I really don't know what to do - she is adamant that nothing is going and I believe her but she still spends more time with him and confides a lot in him.\n\nAlso, the guy is someone she used to have a thing with until she got her previous boyfriend - but that was a while ago and she says they weren't nearly going out.\n\nI want to know what to do.. I feel extremely conflicted and I don't know whether to just end it or what - I cant just tell her to stop meeting him as that is too controlling but it's just making me feel paranoid and insecure. \n\nIs this a red light? Should I take action and do what? Or am I just being stupid?", "summary": "GF seems to spend more time talking to guy friend than me"}
{"id": "t3_1xi4i8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21F] recently learnt that my ex [22M] was talking to another ex [25M] of mine during the last parts of our relationship. Should I ask what was said or just let it lie?", "post": "My longtime SO (we'll call him A) and I broke up a little under a year ago. It was mutual and friendly. I have been struggling with depression for all my life and during the last few months of my relationship with A I was particularly low. I knew that A and my sister were talking extensively about trying to force me into psychiatric therapy and had a system of checking up on me (one would text me every hour or so if I wasn't with one of them), but I was never sure what spurred them to do so.\n\nMy sister visited this holiday season and confessed to me that another ex of mine (who she and A just know as a former friend... we'll call him D) had been in contact with them because he was worried for me. D and I had been in an LDR for a number of years and we still talked almost every day after we broke things off. The relationship wasn't healthy and he was mentally abusive to me. When I was particularly bad he would threaten to reveal how unstable I was to my family in a malicious way. After we broke up he backed off a bit. But I'm still concerned and curious as to what he said. So, do I call up A and ask him what went on? Or should I let sleeping dogs lie? A and I have both moved on and are in infrequent contact with each other. I have since proceeded to seek psychiatric treatment.", "summary": "I'm concerned that an ex of mine may've lied to my sister and more recent ex during the end of the recent ex's relationship with me. Should I bother dredging up the past?"}
{"id": "t3_16unde", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A 21M is falling for his 20F best friend....What should I do?", "post": "Here's a little background on us\nWe have been friends since I was a junior in high school. We have always just kinda clicked and gotten along really well. I find her very attractive and wonderful.I enjoy her company and I think she enjoys mine because she laughs at my jokes/me alot (in a good way). I'm not afraid to talk to her about my problems or anything. and we have a pact to get married when she turns 30 (if we havent found another person)\nNow we are juniors in college, and we both go to the same university (It has 50,000 students). While we have different sets of friends, and dont see each other but maybe 2-3 times a month. we are still close.\nWell today I went to go try on this pair of boots I had made (its part of my schools military tradition, hard to explain). Its a pretty big deal and I asked her to come with me to take some pictures. While we were waiting for others in line to finish, we were talking and hanging out. She always puts her head on my shoulders or messes with my phones. makes us take selfies, etc. Its almost always like this whenever we hang out.\nAfter we left the shoe place, my buddy who also came with us to the shoe place asked what the deal was between me and her. He said it seems like you have feelings for her (which I do) and she has feelings for me. He said we are just really good together. Several of my other friends who have met her/been around us have said the same thing. I don't know how she feels about me, because I have always felt hat she just views me as her close guy friend.\nHowever, I love our friendship between me and her too much to try and jeopradize our friendship or make it awkward between us. What do you r/askwomen think I should do? (should I just continue being friends or tell her how I feel? )", "summary": "Best friends since highschool, like her lots, but dont want to ruin the friendship by opening up about my feelings for her. Not sure what to do"}
{"id": "t3_32a3pv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] got invited last minute to a BBQ and my friend [25F] yelled at me and accused me of stalking her. Wouldnt stop screaming until I left.", "post": "Jill and I share the same friend group. I have actually know Russel [25m] for about a decade now. Jill thinks Russel has a crush on her and always talks about him like he is some sort of Hercules. In reality, Russel and I have slept together in the past and continue to do so. I don't share my sex life with people and Jill has been told by Russ that he doesn't like her, has other interests, and really would prefer she kept it cool. \n\nRuss invited Jill to a BBQ and told her to tell me, and two other girls (Megan and Tina) (24f). Jill told them, but not me. Megan finally asked me for a ride to the BBQ and asked if I had made anything. I called Russel and asked him, he said I was invited, and was surprised I didn't know. He'd told Jill 3 weeks ago, since we are all really close (and Jill lives with Megan, who I spend a lot of time with). \n\nI brought Megan and Jill freaks out at the BBQ, accuses me of stalking her, trying to embarrass her. She was trying to hook up with Russ the whole night. She pretty much screamed at me until Megan and I left, Tina staying to calm her down.\n\nI am not sure what to do about this. I like Jill, but I am not sure what made her freak out on me like this. I am not sure why she thinks she can talk to me like that. I just don't deal well with conflict. What happened?", "summary": "Friend tried to lie about me being invited to a BBQ, accused me of stalking her and trying to ruin her chances with Russ."}
{"id": "t3_14d509", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is this a common thought or am I overreacting?", "post": "I'll try to get my situation across without going into too much personal informaton as my SO peruses reddit as well. \nBeen together with SO for about 6-7 years total. A little background, early on in the relationship we had big fight about texting and the possible get together with an ex after i had said how inappropriate that was and was agreed upon by both of us. We got past it eventually, but little instances have popped up since then because of that situation. Currently my SO has been messaging/texting 2 people of the opposite sex frequently. Yes, I have looked at some of the messages and all for the most part is innocent. One of the people attends school with my SO. My SO is not a social butterfly per say, but the fact that they actually got to the point to exchange numbers is a bit worrisome to me. \"Mostly\" school related stuff. But I feel it is tethering on the edge. I don't think my SO would physically cheat but I don't know anything about this other person. \nFrom our past experiences I know my SO doesn't draw that fine line with the opposite sex of being platonic and flirty. \nIn the end what I need advice with is do I just let it go or confront my SO again, we've had fights before about this so I really don't want to kill this bird again. It's getting redundant and I feel I'm being paranoid but I can't help how I feel. It's hurtful to me and makes me un attracted to them. I'm not perfect, I'm nosy and jealous but I have feelings too. \nIt's not as serious as some people's issues on here, it seems a bit trivial to me but I'm just trying to avoid this turning into those more serious situations. I know I will ultimately have to make the decision myself on what to do but to hear anyone else's experience with this would be appreciated.", "summary": "is texting opposite sex acceptable to most people??"}
{"id": "t3_3iyrgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (31/F) is so insecure about the way the rest of the world thinks of her that it's making me (M/36) think twice...", "post": "Went to the gym with her tonight and got onto a treadmill next to her, ran for about twenty seconds and the mill's belt jerked to a hault and then started again within a second and hurt my back, did it again a few seconds later before I could do anything and I hit the emergency stop and got off. \n\nAching, I wrote a night for staff to find in the morning: ' Warning, this machine stops intermittently! Do not use, I hurt my back!' and left it on the traadmills panel so that no one else would get injured. My GF said she'd stay there a awhile longer and I went right home with a sore back. \n\n    Gf got home within ten minutes of my getting home and said she had modified the letter so it wasn't so 'confrontational'. I got upset and asked her what she thought she was doing changing it and she said they might kick us out if we cause trouble. I explained to her that it's their responsibility to make sure the equipment works Ok. She starts looking for the gym membership agreement that I signed and starts quoting to me gym policy about knowing how the use the equipment and potential dangers! I asked her if she worked for the gym on the side! She cited once again that she was scared of being kicked out of the gym.\n\n My back is killing me right now and I'm wondering what's going through her mind apart from the fact that she seems to be scared of everyone and everything to the point where she thinks it's ok to censure notes I leave for people that are perfectly reasonable.", "summary": "Girlfriend scared of repercussions for someone else's problem to the point of changing what I say as to not offend."}
{"id": "t3_1ja5i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M23] having difficulties accepting limited sexual pallet of otherwise amazing gf [F24]", "post": "We've been together for almost 6 months and are crazy for each other. The only problem is I seriously fiend for oral sex and she has never and seemingly will never go down on me. I do it for her, but its really more for me as she doesn't have any expectation of me to since she won't reciprocate at all and I just like to a lot. \n\nOur sex life is great but lacks variety at the same time. \n\nI feel like if I was properly fulfilled in this one way our libidos wouldn't even be far off from each other, but as it is, I'm horny out of my mind a lot of the time because I get off, but never in the way I want to most. \n\nI've tried bringing it up to her many times, too many if anything as she is just getting upset with me at this point for wanting something she \"can't give me\". I don't think clearly when I am in this state and can't resist making small remarks or suggestions of how I much I want it. (I end up doing this 5 days a week while actively trying not to.)\n\nI feel like there is no good option here as I would regret it forever if I broke up with her over this single issue when she is otherwise everything I want but I also can't imagine going the rest of my life without getting head if we were to end up getting married one day.\n\nAny advise would be appreciated.", "summary": "otherwise amazing girlfriend is leaving me wanting because she won't give head"}
{"id": "t3_2t487w", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drawing a penis in my lecture.", "post": "Okay, so this FU happened about 12 hours ago in my lecture. I have a 2 hour lecture every Tuesday, amongst other lectures throughout the week. After the first hour, we usually get a 5/10 minute break. \n\nI'm sitting next to two guys nearish the front of the lecture hall. During the break, I go to the loo, and one of the guys (we'll call \"Harry\") goes for a cigarette. The other guy (we'll call \"Sam\"), who I've only really known for a couple weeks, went to get a drink. I get back to my seat first, followed by Harry. We both feel it's a good idea to start drawing penises in Sam's book for a laugh. Little did we know, the lecturers walking up and down asking people how the lecture's going as she's new. \n\nShe gets near to the front and is about to ask us when, all of a sudden, she sees this cock spread over two pages. Now this bad boy had the works.. Veins, hair etc.. As we caught eye contact there was, what felt like, an hour of silence. She quickly rushed off looking almost as embarrassed as we did. Not a great first impression to a new lecturer.", "summary": "Drew a veiny penis spread over 2 pages. New lecturer saw. Terrible first impression."}
{"id": "t3_3s4ukk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 25F with my bf 30 M 1 year, How do you all feel about the unannounced drop in? Hear me out first though...", "post": "Hello reddit friends... \nSo... just want an opinion as I'm second guessing myself here... had a great weekend, hung out with the bf and his boys... we had fun, all was well... we usually get together Sunday nights and go play pool or something and just hang out he and I... last night he was CRAZY bogged down with a work project and he was stressed out about it. I suggested we not get together and he should work. He said, sure... I guess but I could really use a hug and support. \n\ni suggested maybe I swing by for a half hour, and then leave but he declined saying he needed to get stuff done and he was in a terrible mood. I was like okay, you have my love from afar. \n\nSo... this morning before I head off to classes, i decided that i'd like to pop by SUPER quick, give him a hug and a kiss and be on my way... we are both very tactile people and we show love this way. So... I did, I showed up at his door and as I had NEVER done anything like that before, I said, I hope you don't mind that I just dropped by before school... just wanted to give you a hug. So, I gave him a few hugs and some kisses and he said I was sweet and I left. I think I was there for all of 2 minutes. \n\nMy question... is this a terrible thing to have done? I NEVER drop by unannounced and I don't plan on making it a habit but I just wanted to give him some support in person as we live and go to school so close. \n\nWhat say you, wise redditors...", "summary": "Unannounced drop in rules? Is it ever okay?"}
{"id": "t3_35vnrv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my[27F] boyfriend[31M] is addicted porn??", "post": "I'm in an on and off relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. First three years was very hard. we broke up and patched up several time for first three years. Probably because we were both too young and i had just got over my 7 years relationship with another guy. However, this last three years has been pretty good. We do fight once in a while but it doesn't lead to let's break up or move out topics. We are both happy with each other. My problem is that our sex life has changed so much. He used to be like that horny type a guy(idk what term i should use) We used to have sex almost everyday. But now maximum 2-3 times in a month. I see him online all the time. I don't like to be that snooping girlfriend but i do want to know what he is doing all the time. So, i do some snooping and i have found that he watches porn almost every week. Sometimes 4-5 times a week. I have gained few pounds in past few years. is that why he doesn't want to have sex with me and watch porn?? Everytime we do it, if i see him closing his eyes i feel insecure because i feel like he is trying to imagine me to be some porn star. I know men watches porn but if he is horny, i am right here. Is watching porn 4-5 times a week normal??", "summary": "Boyfriend of 6 years watches porn all the time/is he addicted to porn or is something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3rl3x3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25m] gf of 3.5 years [21f] not happy with her, can't stop fighting!", "post": "So as I work out of town shift work, ( travel to work for 14 days and home for 7 days) we seem to fight all the time.. I personally don't really like talking on breaks, but after work I text and call her or if I was busy doing something after she may call 10 or more times in a row! \n\nJust about every phone call we fight or argue on and it drives me nuts.. sometimes it starts by when I answer the phone and say hi she might say why are you so grumpy and I'm sure I say it the same as everyother time! \n\nOther things is when I'm home she stays in the house I bought everything in it I have paid for, she spends all her money on her and I spend all mine on house and dinner drinks and sometimes things she wants but didn't have enough money for.. which is fine but if I ask for her to pay for a dinner one of the times I get this attitude and she's all pissy.. she doesn't have to pay at all just at least offer and I'd feel better!\n\nAnd then the sex.. barely do I ever get any try all the time and get shut down and sometimes it goes a couple months and it's not even great cause she only wants to lay on her back doesn't want to try other positions! \n\nI'm just not really that happy anymore and kinda want to break up. But at the same time I kinda want to fix things but it hasn't gotten any better, I guess I'm just used to her and don't want to restart?! But I also don't want to hurt her cause I know she will be torn up if I leave her! Just looking for some advise!", "summary": "not happy, need advise on relationship!"}
{"id": "t3_qe789", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, What's the most bizarre reason you've ever seen someone get kicked out of class?", "post": "Inspired by this post, \n\nI'll go ahead and start it's a little long so bear with me. A long time ago in Jr. Highschool I had this teacher, we'll call her Mrs. R. Mrs. R was just genuinely unlikeable as ar as teachers go. She had bad breath, treated us all like we were 5, took her class way to seriously, and never gave students second chances on anything. So one day I decided it would be funny to rip a massive fart in the middle of her trying to teach the class something. I went over it with my buddies and they all thought it would be hilarious. Thus, Operation Massive Rip was born.\n\nSo basically, Op: MR went something like this. She was in the middle of discussing plot structure or something and I had finally built up enough pressure to let one rip. I let out the loudest earth shaking fart the world had ever seen. My friends in the class started laughing hysterically which led to everyone else laughing. Mrs. R, the bad breath smelling party pooper she was,  got red faced and decided to kick me out of the class. She then sent me to another teacher's classroom where I had to copy 4-5 sentences saying bodily functions are inappropriate in the classroom 100 times. To this day, I have never seen a crazier reason to be kicked out of a classroom.\n\nSo Reddit, what's the craziest reason you've ever seen someone be sent out of the classroom?", "summary": "Ripped a massive fart in class, got kicked out and had to write sentences on how farting in class is wrong."}
{"id": "t3_odglu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need all the advice I can get.", "post": "Ten months ago my girlfriend of nearly two years and I broke up. Her and I were perfect for each other. We got along better than I've ever gotten along with anyone, and we had more fun than you could imagine. We clicked- any problem that we had we could always work through. She made me feel a way I could never explain. I love her with all my heart, and I know that I will never again meet anyone as incredible as she was, and that I will never be able to love anyone in the way that I love her. To me, she is more beautiful than any supermodel or movie star, and it was as if our personalities were made to be together.\n\nTen months later, I am starting to realize that I am not going to be able to get her back. I have had a positive attitude throughout, thinking that if I believed things would get better they really would. I've been depressed, and am finally starting to realize that this miracle I've been hoping for may not come. \n\nI love her so completely and fully that I don't think I'll ever be able to get her out of my heart, and even if I met someone else I know it wouldn't ever be the same.\n\nReddit has been one of the things that has made me happy in this dark time of my life, so I need to ask you, what do I do now? What advice can you give?", "summary": "I love someone with everything I've got, and I can't get her back. WhatthefuckdoIdo?"}
{"id": "t3_16d48g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you have a famous person on your Facebook friends list? Please do share.", "post": "I know some of you out there have some cool stories to share, please open up, I want to hear them all good or bad.\n\nI'll get the ball rolling:\n\nI'm friends with underground rapper Immortal Technique, it's definitely him. I met him at one of his shows in the Bronx like 6 years ago, very cool / nice guy. He doesn't post much personal stuff, he really likes to engage with people - discussions on politics and what not. It's kind of refreshing because the comments he gets are from his Facebook friends and not just randoms posting troll comments or the severly inept. I have a few local big shots as well, but nobody really famous other than Tech.", "summary": "Friends with Immortal Technique, makes me feel cool."}
{"id": "t3_21sv64", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have a strange question on the nature of dating", "post": "So a short history of myself and my dating experience:  [NULL].  I have friendships (really close ones) with people I've known for a long time, but haven't really established any since coming to college (Junior currently).  Luckily I came to school with several of those friends so it hasn't been a big concern.  Well it has but I'm dealing with that on my own.\n\nI was recently talking to one of those friends who just started a relationship with a great guy, and (as I often do) I was talking to her about the nature of relationships and (specifically) why I never had any.  At one point I mentioned the idea of dating being primarily for the purpose of evaluation for marriage, to which she responded that I was wrong and that dating was much more than that.  That it was another level of friendship between two people who just like being with each other more than standard friends are.\n\nNow, keeping in mind that I'm coming from a generally non-sexual perspective on dating (that is, my friend and her boyfriend really do share something special and are [as far as I know] not trying to have sex as soon as possible), is that the case?  Is dating not just for marriage evaluation?\n\nI suppose as a side questions just because I'm curious, is it strange that every time I am put into a situation whereby I meet multiple girls (i.e. joining a new club) I almost immediately check their relationship status, religion, etc on Facebook?  It's just so natural to me but in thinking about it I'm sure it's not the norm.", "summary": "Why date if you don't plan on marrying them?"}
{"id": "t3_vdx9u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "BF spilled guts of traumatic past to me. Did I handle it well?", "post": "25/f, 28/m, been together ~9 months.  See each other daily and have nearly identical personalities but very different upbringings.  \n\nWent out with a big group of friends last night. BF started unraveling his unhappy childhood to me at the bar; he was very intoxicated and repeated himself a lot.  I listened and sort of didn't show a lot of emotion aside from hugs etc.  Went home and went to bed, he was venting a lot so I just held him close and wiped his tears away.  \n\nUpon waking he seemed embarrassed he'd told me, but I'm glad he did and I'm proud of him for turning his life around and being a good person with a promising career path and strong relationships.  I feel like I understand him better and the purity and goodness of his heart has never been more apparent.  No intention of changing how I act around him or anything.\n\nI'm 99% sure I'm taking the right path here, but just want validation/solidarity from other people who've been in a similar situation.", "summary": "I had a great childhood, my BF didn't, he confessed some very personal things to me last night, I listened and offered pretty standard gf-sympathy and have already kinda put it behind me.  What would you have done?"}
{"id": "t3_3dw8v6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex [24F] from 6 years ago seeming to show interest in me again [26M] but now getting mixed messages", "post": "We were young when we broke up and both conceded that \"we wanted to be single\" but would be willing to give each other a chance in the future aka now. Circumstances weren't bad. We needed to grow up. \n\nOver the past 3 years, we've reconnected through social media. She clicks like on near everything I've posted. Flirty conversations escalated to the point where i asked her on a date to which she agreed. we'd talk for days straight...then nothing. texts unresponded to...then she's back again asking me how i am. I'm getting tired of it. I want her again. ..am i wasting my time?  And what should i do", "summary": "rekindled flames but getting mixed messages from ex"}
{"id": "t3_3arijc", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Roommate's \"playful\" dog is a menace to me and my dog", "post": "My roommate decided to adopt a lab puppy. My other roommates and I weren't very keen on the idea because we already have two dogs, but we didn't really have much control over it. I have a 60 lb shepherd mix rescue who is great with other dogs but also timid when he's overwhelmed. So the puppy was adopted, met my dog, and things went okay. She was super hyperactive, as a puppy will be, but my dog could play with her because she was small. \n\nAnd to give you an idea of what this owner is like, she's raising the puppy like her family has always raised its puppies (that is to say, badly). She doesn't take it out enough, shoves its nose in pee and poo accidents, pushes it, yells \"no!\" all the time, and generally just can't control the dog. She's even considering breeding her in the future. I give my opinion about these things but don't try to force her to change her mind. \n\nNow, we're the only two people in the house as my other roommates left for the summer. So, I was gone for a month, and since I came back, the puppy has grown A LOT. She must be 30 pounds by now, growing every day. Now, she's big enough to cause harm. She jumps on everyone who comes in the house, including me, and scratches me. She tries to play with my dog when he's having none of it, but still jumps on his face and back. To get my dog outside unmolested, I have to hold the puppy back by its collar. He can't be free to roam his own house because she won't leave him alone.\n\nMy roommates response to this is to say \"sorry\" and explain she's a bundle of energy. Never mind walking your dog, she lets it get its exercise by terrorizing my dog. Thankfully my lease ends in a month and I won't have to deal with this anymore, but until then how do I cope with a disobedient monster in the house and a negligent owner?", "summary": "Roommate's dog is out of control. How do I put up with her crap for another month?"}
{"id": "t3_39466o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (28F) 1-year relationship with him (31M) has been over for 2.5 months, but it still stings that he'd been cheating on me.", "post": "In hindsight, I found out I was his rebound after reconciling with his ex-wife didn't work out [<1 month before].  Now, I find out he started dating his \"BFF\" <1 month after we broke up.\n\nShe didn't like me crashing their dinners & happy hours, so I stopped going out with them, because I trusted him.  Now it all makes sense.  If not physically, he at least had emotionally fed her relationship with him better than mine.  All while we lived together and I helped his 6 year old daughter get ready for school in the mornings.", "summary": "Tell me I dodged a bullet."}
{"id": "t3_32ga6j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [13F] with my brother [19 M] I'm at my wits end and he's about to make the worst decision of his life.", "post": "My brother D, is about to make the worst decision of his life. His girlfriend is absolute trash. She's the worst person I've ever met in my entire life. She brought weed and alcohol into my GRANDPARENTS house. He's lived with them for a year. His girlfriend has cheated on him. His girlfriend is stealing what little amount of money he has. They both work at mcdonalds. She's using him for a ride to work. She doesn't let him come over and she's not allowed to my house or our grandparents who lives behind us. \n\nThey've decided that they're gonna move out into an apartment together. In one of the worst neighborhoods in our state. He will most likely be shot, or robbed. His gf will make him pay for everything. They're doing a section 8, or something. Whatever it is it's gonna go on his record and his credits gonna go to crap.\n\nWe've tried multiple times to talk to him and make him realize what's going on and how messed up everything is. I love him but I can't take it anymore. What do I do, reddit?", "summary": "My brother is with a horrible woman, he's about to get an apartment with her in one of the worst neighborhoods in my state. Please help me reddit, I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_nax72", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tree removed on my property by a power company without my permission. Is there anything I can do about this?", "post": "I hope that I have posted this in the right place. \n\nI recieved a notice from the local power company letting me know about routine pruning to protect the lines. There are a number of trees at the front of my property that are tall and I expected that they would all be trimmed. \n\nA quick glance at the tree-trimming information on the power company's website states that when a tree must be removed, the owner of the property would be contacted and the power company would provide \"assistance\" with its removal.\n\nThe contracted company showed up yesterday, and mid-way I happened to look out the window and see one of their workers leaning over my fence with a chainsaw cutting one of the trees on my property to the ground. \n\nI politely confronted the worker, and he said that the tree had been marked for removal and that he was only doing his job.\n\nI do not know the name of this tree, as we bought the house only thie year and were not the ones to plant it. I know that it is a unique specimen; it was a beautiful mature tree that flowers in the spring. One of the selling features about this house was its impressive garden and the diverse and unique plant collection within it.\n\nFurthermore, the tree provided privacy for my front yard with its presence, and now there is a gap and a stump where this unique tree used to be. \n\nI live in BC, Canada. I have contacted both the contractor and power companies, and am waiting to hear back. I am upset about not being consulted about this tree's removal, the manner that it was removed seems sketchy to me as well. This tree was a unique mature specimen that provided privacy to my front yard, and added to the property's value. I am curious as to what type of compensation can be provided for this. Does anyone have any advice for how to pursue this?", "summary": "Power company hired a contractor to cut down a unique tree on my property that added value because of its rarity and location. I am now left with a stump and a gap in my line for privacy. It is against the power company's stated policy on their website. Can I do anything about this?"}
{"id": "t3_wnif9", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "This guy keeps fucking with my head.  Am I on his hook?", "post": "So, I'm an 18 year old female and he's an 18 year old male.\n\nWe met in a class we had together while I had a boyfriend but always got along and one time he came over to my apartment and smoked with me alone--I never told my boyfriend but nothing happened.\n\nThen when the class ended he stopped talking to me.  A few months later he sent me a long message on FB asking me all of these questions to catch up.  I responded and he never wrote back.\n\nI broke up with my boyfriend a two months ago and made it \"FB official\" and a couple of weeks later he texted me to say Hi.\n\nThen we talked for a while and were sending flirty texts.  So then he said that he was going to call me and never did.  For a week after that he didn't talk to me.  \n\nThen I texted him and he said that he was really busy this week and said how are you sweetie...we talked for a bit and I said Why didn't you end up calling me? to which he never replied.  \n\nSo then a few days later I texted him again and we talked and I asked him if he wanted to hang out with me tonight and of course he didn't respond.\n\nAm I fucking pathetic?  Why is he sending me all of these mixed signals?", "summary": "This guy keeps contacting me and seeming interested but whenever I show interest he withdraws and makes me feel stupid for reciprocating.  What's up with that? I don't get it."}
{"id": "t3_48ul70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] am feeling burnt out on dating", "post": "This isn't really looking for advice, more just venting because it's been an annoying few days. So I am in college, 22, regular guy as far as I can tell. I've had a couple long term relationships before but lately it just seems like I've been hitting a serious bump in my dating.\n\nStart of fall semester my gf left me for another guy. Then a few months later after I started dating again had 1 girl give me the \"I don't wanna date\" lie then get a new bf, had 2 girls ghost on me and had another just say no. \n\nStart of this year I figured I'd try and turn over a new leaf, had 2 girls I thought were interested. Went on a couple dates with 1, she seemed very interested then randomly she just stopped talking to me. The other also seemed interested, got her number and she just never replied. Truth be told after all of this I am just really sick of dating and trying, since it usually leads to me feeling like crap.", "summary": "Haven't had much dating luck lately and am feeling done trying for a while. Am I crazy for feeling that way?"}
{"id": "t3_3u1m92", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 F] faked an orgasm with my SO [34 M] of 2 years and feel guilty about it", "post": "So, my partner and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I have body-image issues and have a history of disordered eating. It is very important to me that I have my partner's affirmation, especially when it comes to sex. When I don't feel very good about myself, I tend to take it out on him to the point where he feels like he can't please me sexually.\n\nThere's this new position that we tried a few days ago that he absolutely loved. He always wants me to orgasm first so I tried my best to come (I usually have a hard time and need to concentrate) but it wasn't going to work.\n\nI could tell he was trying his best to wait for me, and I knew it would make him extra happy if I could come. So... I faked it. I have never faked it before. Not sure why I did this time, I just wanted to make him happy...\n\nHe said it was some of the best sex he's ever had. He went on about how sexy he thought I looked in that position. He asked if I enjoyed it... and I said I did... but what I really enjoyed was him telling me how sexy he thought I was afterwards, not really how it felt at the time.\n\nTonight, we went to have sex and he says \"I want to make you come again like last time.\" My thoughts: \"Oh shit.\"\n\nSo... I faked it again because I didn't want to let him down.\n\nNow I feel shitty because I basically lied to him. I don't want to tell him that I faked twice because I don't want him to think that he can't please me/I'm a liar/ I fake all the time (I don't)... etc...\n\nAnyone run into this before? Should I tell him? How do I tell him? Please help.", "summary": "Faked orgasm twice; feel like a liar; wondering if/how I should tell my SO."}
{"id": "t3_31jgrj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU and screwed my row over on a Biology Final", "post": "This didn't happen today unfortunately, but rather during the 2nd semester of my Freshmen year in High school. The final exam for my biology class was on the last day, and was our last final that day. So, naturally, most people didn't study much for it because highschoolers (such as myself) are lazy.\n\nWhen we got to the class and took our seats, our teacher began the usual comments that all teachers probably say. \"Pace yourselves, read the question fully and all answer choices, you studied so don't worry you'll do fine.\" The usual things. Then, the final got passed out. \n\nNow, this class was an 'Honors' class meaning it was harder than regular biology classes. Therefore, most of us in there probably had borderline grades (90%, 80%, etc.) as I myself did. And at my school finals were worth 20% of our overall grade, so screwing up could severely effect your grade.\n\nI was sitting in the front row and was therefore the one who was responsible for passing back all of the papers to the rest of the people in my row. I was quite flustered that day due to being borderline B-/C+ and having studied all night prior. So, when I was handed the final, which came in two halves and both had to be passed back, I didn't pass all of it back. Everyone in my row got the first half of the final, but not the second half.\n\nNow, I work at quite a slow pace and choose each answer after careful deliberation (Read: pissing my pants and then guessing). So, when I finally arrived at the second half of the final I was behind the recommended time, and had roughly 1/3 of the class left. Upon inspecting my papers, I realized that I had too many - and then I realized my fuck up. \n\nI decided that the best course of action would be to pass back the papers anyway. So, I began passing papers back 2/3 of the way through the final and was met with remarks such as\n\"What the hell?\"\n\"The fuck dude\"\nand \"Holy shit another final!\"\n\nNeedless to say that when the bell rang I ran out of the room and never looked back.", "summary": "Teacher told us to pace ourselves, I took it upon myself to pace the class"}
{"id": "t3_e70c2", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Does anybody else ever get this?", "post": "Hokay, \n\nI was chilling out, maxin etc. listening to Mumford & Sons song \"After The Storm\" when I heard the lyrics \"Because death is just so full and man so small\" and for a split-second after that my brain was in overdrive and it felt like I had just gained the power to contemplate human existence, like a genuine shock.\n\nObviously, propelled by my own astonishment I tried to return to the thought, hoping for the same emotions. By this stage it was too late though, I was a mere mortal again, and saw death as a part of life but was unable to comprehend the sheer severity of it. \n\nI'm finding this much harder to explain than I thought, but this isn't the only time it's happened. When thinking about the millions who died in WWII I was suddenly struck for a split second and that tumultuous times people were put through to defend our country, then returning to the thought, it was impossible to comprehend again.", "summary": "For the smallest of moments, my brain goes into slight shock when I comprehend the severity and scale of something, to have it soon return to normality."}
{"id": "t3_1c746s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (29 M) am trying to figure out if my relationship with my gf (27 F) is just in a rough patch or if its time to move on", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for a year and a half, and are about to start trying the long distance thing because I have to move for work.  \n\nRecently she had to move into a new apartment, and I moved in with her as my current lease ends two months before I have to move.\n\nFor the past 6 weeks she has grown emotionally cold towards me, which she attributes to being too stressed with everything in her life.  I've been supportive and tried to hear her out, offer advice if asked, and try to make her happy still whenever the opportunity presents itself.  But the relationship has been growing colder from her end, and more than once she's told me she's been yelling at me just to hurt me and act out.  She is an only child and states that \"this is how I (she) am, I'm selfish and you should know that about me\".   She has flat out told me that my presence in the apartment now is distressing for her, and its starting to make me feel like I'm unwanted here.  \n\nThis is despite the fact that I have helped move her out of her old place on my own while she was too busy at work, sacrificed my own time on setting up her (our) new place, dealt with my own family members turning gravely sick (for which she hasn't even tried talking to me about despite me being obviously distressed about it) and have been  solely taking care of a new dog we got together.\n\nI know it sounds like I'm rambling, but I've talked with her a lot about these issues and been very direct about how I feel that she's taking her frustrations about her job/personal responsibilities out on our relationship and on me.... The thing is, I'm trying to figure out if I'm just not being understanding enough about her life right now or if enough is enough and I should just make do for the next two months and start fresh and single when I move to another city.", "summary": "I think my gf has grown distant to me and I can't tell whether I should be patient/understanding or if its time to move on"}
{"id": "t3_1k2cmq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Fallen off the wagon, I think...", "post": "Hi everyone - I see some people post here when they feel like they've fallen off the wagon in terms of dieting and exercise and the amazing community here is able to pick them right back up. \n\nI've been incredibly stressed recently, and when I am stressed I tend to eat. Luckily I normally only have \"healthy\" food in my house (save for a few items, such as some cereals, etc). But the problem is that I end up binge eating to the point where I'm uncomfortable. \n\nThis has been going on a about a week now (big job interview, broke up with my girlfriend, unfulfilled in other aspects of my life). I feel like I am easily stressed and I still turn to food for comfort, and since I've been busy (and to be honest, unmotivated) I haven't been going to the gym consistently.\n\nOver the past couple days I have gained a few pounds back (I was very close to my target weight) and I would like to nip this in the bud before it gets any worse. Has anyone been in my situation before and how did you overcome the stress and the almost overwhelming desire to stuff your face until you felt sick and terrible about yourself?", "summary": "Was doing well; loads of stressful events occured; turn to food for comfort; want to deal with this before it gets out of hand."}
{"id": "t3_te5bx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO is not trustworthy and still wants to \"hang out\" with an ex lover, but has big double standards. What do I do?", "post": "Some background: I'm 20, she is 21. She cheated on her ex (of three years) with me. I was unawares at the time because she said they were through. Fast forward to when she actually broke up with him. She went through a long period before we had begun dating, and during this time it was sketchy at best. We were not dating but had been involved and were considering dating soon. A week before I asked her to be my girlfriend (4 months of being together unofficially) she meets up with a random mutual friend and gets drunk and fucks him. She says she didnt know they would when they were drunk, but thats rediculous because I talked to him and he said they planned to have sex for a long time. (This isn't a huge problem because we werent dating but still concerns me). Did she do this to get it out of the way because she knew she would soon be \"committed?\" She is completely anal about me not talking or even looking in the general direction of a girl whom she thinks I like, however, she can hang out, alone, til 4 in the morning, while we're dating, with a guy she has fucked before. My real question is, am I encroaching on relationship boundaries by asking her to stop hanging out with him? Or is she being rediculous by having this double standard since she has a bad track record with cheating (obviously)? Can I trust her?", "summary": "SO wants to hang with ex fuck buddy but has doble standards about me hanging with ANY female alone. What do I say? Can I trust her? Is she being rediculous?"}
{"id": "t3_1qvpzq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21M] Broke up with my girlfriend [22/F], now we talk, have feelings, afraid to commit.", "post": "I know it's long. If you read and reply, thank you!\n\nI've been dating a girl on and off since I was in high school (about 4 years now). We've broken up several times (I initiated all of the break-ups) and every time we stay apart for a while, but then both admit we miss each other and it's like I fall in love with her all over again. She's incredibly loving and supportive; We never fight and the reason for the breakups basically come from me growing bored of the relationship and feeling that our interests don't align.\n\nI recently moved overseas for work and broke up with her for the reasons above and because of the distance. But after two months of silence, we've been talking regularly and last night we admitted we still have feelings for each other and want to be together but don't know what to do. She told me she'd been with other people in the months we've been broken up, which really hurt me (I know it shouldn't, but it does).\n\nI'm fairly certain I don't want to be with her in the longterm, but I still really love her and the support she gives me. I always wonder whether or not I'll find other people who I'll fall in love with in the same way. I'm really torn here. I am very afraid of commitment (any kind; not just relationships) and I don't want to live just for her. I have other dreams and goals that mean I can't live near her now.\n\nI don't want to lead her on and give her the impression that we're going to be together forever (I'm afraid I've done this recently), but I also really love talking to her and knowing she's there when I need her. \n\nWhat should I do here?", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend after being on/off for a while + long distance. Now we talk a lot and I do still love her, but I am afraid of committing as I know it likely won't work out again."}
{"id": "t3_12mlw8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to know some of your ideas of getting over an emotional struggle Ex; X's, failures, or just dealing with death", "post": "I realize this is definitely something that has been asked before but I am kind of at a standstill right now in my head and cannot get over one girl I used to know. Honestly, the song produced by Gotye couldn't be anymore true. Beautiful girl, friends for years, finally realize we both like each other but we go to schools in different states, fall in love, she breaks my heart by just cutting me off one day. Literally overnight just stopped talking to me. Ignored everything. It drives me up the wall to this day. \n\nI know I have seen worse situations reading through reddit for a couple of months now BUT trying to feel better about myself because some guy on the internet can sympathize with me only puts me at peace of mind for that instant. So I ask you...\n\nWhat have you done or think yo can do to really push forward in a time where your memories hold so strongly? I am only 20 and I realize I have many more women in my future but it is hard to replace certain people... Mind you I am writing this in November and this is a girl who hasn't spoken to me since the end of August. That is literally how much it affects me.\n\nI guess I will start the thread by suggesting what helps me most but it is what I get least of going to Community College until January. Being surrounded by new friendly faces. Having laughs and new memories with new friendly faces. Getting to know more people. I am very well off socially but I am stuck with the same people I have known since high school because of going to community college. I honestly cannot wait to meet new people at a different school.\n\nSo I guess it is your turn to tell me the best way to travel through forgetting about all the memories you have...honestly if anyone has a better idea than just creating endless new happy memories, my hat is off to you.", "summary": "Try to give real advice on how to get over someone or how to make the best of a situation no matter where you are."}
{"id": "t3_31gt7t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] gf [22F] cheated after asking for space.", "post": "So i was supposed to go away for about a week.  Shortly before I left, I had a weird conversation with my gf about whether we should continue seeing each other as she will be moving home from school shortly (roughly an hour away).  \n\nWe reached the conclusion that maybe she needs some space and we would talk more when i got back.  Anyway, we talked very little while i was gone and I had a feeling that something more had happened or was going on.  \n\nI hate myself for doing it because it's not like me at all, however when i got back I checked of her texts and messages between her and her best friends as I figured that they might have talked about what happened between us.  Very quickly I found out that while i was gone she slept with another guy and did something at a bar with a different one.  It sounded like she thought we were broken up while i was gone but the only word we ever used was space.  Anyway, so apparently she wanted to break up with me when i got back without telling me anything for fear of hurting me or something but now I'm not sure that she still wants to break up.\n\nI really do love my girlfriend and I'm not sure how everything got to this point but I think I'd like to give her one more chance if she is willing to be honest with me.  Is that stupid/crazy? Also how should i bring this up to her without causing a blow up?  I still really regret breaking her trust by looking at her messages but I think that my gut feelings were accurate.", "summary": "Went away for a week.  Had a disagreement before i left. Still love her, but i believe that she cheated on me twice while i was gone. "}
{"id": "t3_1y3jl2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] and shes a [20F] we've been together for seven months, she is emotionally selfish and I don't know how to get her to see it without coming across as whiny", "post": "she is currently under stress that much I know, but for the last 2 months it has literally just been me making the effort in our relationship and im tired of it.\n\nI love her but she will at times speak to me with complete disregard for my feelings.\n\nI will do stuff like buy her dinner give her impromptu massages and surprise day trips to places and the relationship works.\n\nThe problem is I'm tired of being the only one putting work in, maybe I'd like her to surprise me one day. For her to go out of her way to show she cares. But it's not going to happen.\n\nHow do I convey this to her in a compelling way, she is lovely but doesn't see it the same way as me. To her she sees it as me choosing to make an effort, shes said before when Ive brought it up that i should just stop doing stuff for her and that she inst obliged to reciprocate what I do which is true but I don't think a mutual agreement of no effort is a good way to form a relationship...", "summary": "How do I get my gf to want to put in effort to make me happy?"}
{"id": "t3_28o7jp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my GF [25 F] of 4 months... i'm thinking about ending it, is this a mistake?", "post": "4 months ago I started dating a girl, lets call her Samantha. Me and Samantha got along well, we had chemistry. Me and Samantha sort of just kept seeing each-other... usually once or twice a week. This went on for around 2 months until she just gradually started referring to me as her boyfriend. At the time I wasn't looking for a relationship, but I rolled with it.\n\nNow it's been a few months later and I feel like we just aren't working. For starters, our schedule sucks. She's a full time student who just recently got a job as a bartender, and I work 8-6, so I really only get to see her *maybe* once a week for a few hours after one of her shifts. We also live 30+ miles apart which doesn't help.  \n\nMy biggest problem is that after spending so much time away from her (including a vacation away by myself) I realize that I'm starting to feel less and less for her romantically... like all of the sudden I don't get amped up to see her. I don't know if this is temporary or a result of not seeing her substantially.... but it doesn't feel right. \n\nThanks for reading, this is part me getting this off my chest and part me wondering if breaking up with her for these reasons would be a mistake? Maybe we just need to spend more time together? I just feel really confused and torn about the whole situation, I really do not know if I should give it more time or if it is just done... I feel like breaking up could be something I could regret.", "summary": "thinking of breaking up.... maybe for a stupid reason. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4q56ar", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26F] have a huge crush on my doctor [mid30'sM] I've been seeing for a few months. About to be phased out of his care.", "post": "Sooo, I'm 26, recovering from an acute condition and just about back to normal after a few months of needing specialized treatment.  I'm in my last two or three weeks of seeing him before I'll no longer be his patient.  My soon-to-be-ex-doctor is a kind of nerdy mid-30's guy who I think is really cute and funny.\n\nOver time I've developed a bit of a crush on him.  I noticed right away that he's really cute and totally my type, but the more we talked as I was spending time there the more I figured out how much we have in common.  Hobbies, goals, food tastes, the kind of places we like to travel when we both have time.  We talk about a lot of mundane stuff while setting up my treatments, and we've gotten to know each other pretty well having seen each other once a week for the last five months.  \n\nIs it ever appropriate for a patient to tell a doctor that they've got a crush?  Especially as my treatment with him is going to be ending soon I'm hoping there's some way I can convey interest that doesn't come across as pushy or makes him feel like he has to accept.  I'm likely not going to see him again if I don't say anything.  \n\nIt's important to note, I think, that I don't see him as a savior, and I don't think I'm Florence Nightingale-ing him.  He's a person, who seems like my kind of people.  He happens to be a doctor, and that's how we met, but that isn't even how I see him anymore other than it's his profession. \n\nThings I know: he is single, has never been married, and can come across as slightly awkward but in a way I understand and find endearing.", "summary": "I'm crushing hard on my doctor.  I'm about to be leaving his care and I'm wondering if there's ever a time where it might be appropriate to convey interest.  If so, how do I do it in a way that doesn't seem pressuring and doesn't make things too awkward if I'm rejected?"}
{"id": "t3_3dcp1m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (f24) second date with a guy (28) ended incredibly confusing. Need your advice!", "post": "Hey everyone! So I met this wonderfully nice guy online. We talked for weeks (both online and phone calls) before deciding to finally meet. Our first date was pretty casual, we both had a drink at a blues bistro and ended the night with a hug. He even called me as soon as we got home and we talked for even longer. We were so excited about the date that we agreed to meet up again the following night. He's busy with an intense program  at the moment, so he could only meet up for a couple of hours. He asked to come over which I was excited about. So he does and it starts off great, I make us tea, we talk. We then start to cuddle and that's when things get weird. We spoke the night before about how he wanted to kiss me and that I noticed but I wanted to wait until next time. So as we were cuddling I gradually kept making more and more moves initiating a kiss but he was so frigid and distant. I kept asking if everything was alright and whether I had overstepped and boundaries and he kept saying no. So when we finally kissed it was as if I had forced him into it, so much so that now I was uncomfortable for him. So I backed off and asked again if he was ok and he mentioned not wanting things to go to where they were headed (sex) which I had no intention of. But I guess the cuddling and kiss were too much for him. That night was two days ago and I haven't heard from him since (odd for him since he used to text me everyday). I'm just wondering whether to give him space and let him come talk it out whenever he's ready or confront him about it as soon as possible?", "summary": "I met an amazing guy. First date was incredible. Second date was awkward with miscommunication and possibility of me pushing on to him too quickly."}
{"id": "t3_3wthif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[19M] boyfriend \"looks at\" innocent pictures of girls, and I've made it very clear it bothers me [18F]", "post": "My boyfriend [19M] and I [18F] have been having serious talks about moving in together recently, starting our futures together, etc. But one thing is keeping me from wanting to pursue this relationship any further. \n\nOver the weekend I discovered that he has an Instagram account where he follows over 30 regular looking, younger girls with pictures of them on beach trips, posing with friends, and just average pictures of their lives. When I asked him if he knew any of these girls in real life or anything, my boyfriend said no, he uses them as material to masturbate to. \n\nThis is incredibly weird to me, and I've told him before that I'm uncomfortable with him looking at these images of other women instead of me. He argued that these girls are \"sluts\" and are posting these pictures because they want guys online to look at them. I disagree. These are younger girls who are just posting a beach picture here and there. They are not \"sluts\" by any means I don't think. \n\nMy boyfriend said he would delete the Instagram account since it made me so uncomfortable and I began crying when he made the above argument. Is it even worth it making him delete the account? I've been so creeped out ever since discovering it and am rethinking everything.", "summary": "Boyfriend looks at pictures of girls on Instagram account and masturbates to their bikini pictures/selifes. This is incredibly disturbing to me. What actions should I take to save my relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1s6tep", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "I'm wondering if the hair loss on my dog's tail is permanent?", "post": "I adopted my dog from a shelter in March this year. She was missing almost all the hair on her tail due to malnutrition, and also had a case of \"happy tail.\" She also had some skin irritation due to allergies. \n\nA lot of the hair has grown back, but in all of the places where the hair lost was the worst, it still hasn't grown back all the way. It looks like just the undercoat is there. Back in March our vet said it would come back and to give it time, and recently has said not to worry about it since she is otherwise healthy. \n\nWe have recently switched to Blue Buffalo. She was on Rachel Ray Just 6. She has also been given fish oil supplements. She has had a skin scrape, so the hair loss is not from an infection.", "summary": "Dog is missing hair on tail since March and it hasn't grown back all the way. She does not have a skin infection."}
{"id": "t3_2j5v5i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by causing a bug infestation in my oven", "post": "This one's been marinating for a whole and is one of the most disgusting things I've ever done. About a month ago I made an amazing dinner consisting of delicious braised short ribs. Because of a recent injury rendering me unable to walk and some time spent traveling. I wasn't really able to clean my apartment for a while and ended up leaving the remnants of this dinner in the pot (cover on it) in my oven.\nDecided to finally get rid of the congealed mess today by just throwing out the whole pot. I was sure if I opened it I would have opened another Pandora's box and puked all over my kitchen from the stench. \nI opened my oven to see this pot still sitting there with fruit fly eggs all over the top and all over the inside of the oven. Duck taped the pot shut and tossed that mess in the dumpster. I'm guessing I shouldn't use the oven without cleaning this mess out. Since I was too lazy to clean the pot and avoid this whole situation in the first place, I'm probably too lazy to clean the oven out by hand and I'm pretty sure the self clean option is a bad idea. Probably just going to move.", "summary": "left a pot of food in my oven for 1+months. Anyone know how to clean out an oven filled with fruit fly eggs?"}
{"id": "t3_4b4l9b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by participating in Earth Hour", "post": "This just happened 5 minutes ago, as it is still Earth Hour here in Europe (GMT +1).\nIt is one of those lazy days where you are on the couch all day and chilling in your pyjamas. While browsing reddit I saw it was Earth Hour today at 8:30pm, and I thought lets for a change do something good for the world and clear my conscience for at least an hour.\nAt a later point, I realized man needs food to survive and I got dressed and dragged myself to the supermarket to get an oven pizza. When I got back the alarm rang so I turned off all the lights and turned on my oven for the pizza. Because it was dark I didn't see that there was still baking paper from 2 days ago that was greasy from the oven-fries I made. Shoving in the pizza made the baking paper touch the 200 Celsius roof of the oven and caught fire. My fucking entire oven lit up within a second because of the oil that was left and I run to the fire extinguisher and blast it empty like I haven't had sex for a month. \nEnd result: I ruined an 80 euro extinguisher, 500 euro oven and my precious delicious priceless pizza...", "summary": "Tried to save the planet, end up killing my pizza"}
{"id": "t3_p544l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am currently heartbroken and dejected. Can you guys suggest a quick way to make me happy, even for just a few hours?", "post": "I found out that I have failed the exam that I have studied so hard with my blood, sweat and tears. I will ask my professors to re-check it again as I am extremely upset at the moment. I have started studying since the end of October 2011 for my finals during December 2011. And the one exam, THE ONE EXAM I was sure I was prepared for, I failed so horribly. I even had some help, so it's not like I studied alone like a madman. My other exams are okay. Definitely up to standard. Just this one... this one exam that may ruin my plans for the future.\n\nThe upside, I can re-do that exam in August/September. The downside, I am depressed as fuck and I would have to miss and re-do a part of my internship to be able to do this exam. Because I know the repercussions, I studied so hard when I haven't started my internship... but I still failed doing so and it's so hard to accept. I don't even know if I'm making sense.\n\nSo", "summary": "I would greatly appreciate someone cheering me up. I've texted a friend, but I think she may be opting for the \"you-need-space-so-I-wont-bother-you\" option.  Jokes are appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_28nr8n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [19 M] of 8 months,are going to have to do LDR, and I have some concerns?", "post": "I have a couple of questions and I would like your view on it: \n\n1. My boyfriend told me that it was fine if I found someone else to be with over the summer and that really upset me and made me feel that he wanted it. I told him that it hurt me and he apologised but is this a deal breaker?\n\n1. We are going to have to do long distance till september,any tips?\n\n1. He had a crush on his best friends sister who is probably going to be around and I feel a bit insecure due to the cheating jokes he use to make (before i told him to stop) how do I deal with this?\n\n1. He doesn't talk to me as much as I wanted him too until I told him to start talking to me more, is that a bad thing?\n\nThank you for taking the time out and reading this and also replying. :)", "summary": "I would like your opinion on some of the problems we are having and what I can do about it please? thank you."}
{"id": "t3_3l2cjf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by setting my truck on fire", "post": "So this didn't happen today, but within the past week. My truck is an older 80's era ford f150, And hadn't been running for a week or two. I knew the issue was rust buildup in the fuel pump, but I put it off so I could do a complete fuel system replacement. Skip to a few days ago, I decided Fuck it, I'll just replace the necessary parts and put it off a little longer. Well here comes the Fuck up, I attached the new fuel pump just fine, the new fuel filter, not so well. I was so happy when it finally started up again that I decided to go for a congratulatory drive. I was so hasty that I didn't check to make sure nothing was leaking, and upon leaving my apartment complex and driving to the closest gas station, I notice a lot of heat. So I pull up to the pump, and now I notice the smoke. Wishing to God It wasn't What I knew it would be, I pop the hood and confirm my fears: bright orange flames. So I jump back in, throw her in neutral, and push the truck away from the pump. Luckily a nice police officer was driving by and put out the fire, but its no longer drivable, but according to him it seemed roughly fixable. To make matters worse, after pushing it into a spot to leave it until I could have it towed to a mechanic, it got towed to an abandoned vehicle impound lot. Fml.", "summary": "I set my truck on fire, got it impounded, and have lots of bills."}
{"id": "t3_29dvc6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 10 months were on a somewhat break and she decided to kiss another guy, but now is certain she only wants me", "post": "We were having small arguments recently and couldn't decide whether we're actually together or not. We still still started to hang out every day and confessed love to each other all the time, had sex every night. But (a day before the party) when I asked, if we were together or not, she said she doesn't know. I already felt I wanted to end the small break we were having, because obviously we were acting like we were back together again and especially because of the rising frequency of \"I love you sooo much\"'s I had started getting from her recently. We also asked each other if we would do anything with somebody else at those different events we were going and we both doubted it very much. But still couldn't firmly agree to be together and in a relationship. Just a lot of love, yet no relationship.\n\nBut then we went to different parties. Throughout them we were still texting each other kisses and messages full of love, but then BAM! In the morning she calls that she had still kissed another guy. And of course there was a lot of crying and \"I'm sorry\"'s following that and that she only wants me and we should still try and she regrets etc. \n\nShe told she had gotten along well with the guy at the party and that it just felt right and natural to do that, especially because the boy was also in a year-long relationship himself. The guy was a stranger to her before that event, so she couldn't have planned to do it with him.\n\nIs that forgivable? What could be going on inside her head? What should I be doing exactly? If not breaking up, how demanding should I become? I'm obviously blinded by love and can't come up with rational decisions.", "summary": "Girlfriend kissed another guy while on a break, but at the same time still confessing love to me and texting kisses. Is that forgivable? What could be going on inside her head? What should I be doing exactly? If not breaking up, how demanding should I become?"}
{"id": "t3_2dsinl", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "This Summer", "post": "I feel like I've wasted my summer. Not as in I've sat and played video games inside everyday, but there has just been nothing happening for the past two months. After I got home from London I've barely talked to anyone I know. My SO and I split up. All my friends are off out to parties and I'm the guy left at home waiting in all day for a parcel my sister ordered while my family are all out doing stuff. Sometimes I'll be in all day waiting for something to come or someone to come and fix something and then they won't turn up because it turns out they're coming tomorrow. I just feel like I'm only alive right now to do things for other people. I'm only here to be a prisoner in my own house because other people want to do other things. If I have gone out from my house it'll only be for a driving lesson, or because my sister doesn't want to go somewhere alone and drags me along to see her friends, but she then makes a fuss if I do anything that seems mildly friendly towards them. So it gets to the point when I have this catch 22 situation of I go out and don't enjoy it, or stay in and wish I was going out. My friends don't help. They're all to busy at parties being like 'oh we thought you were invited' but for the fifth time in a row they never asked me if I was. I just feel so shut out from everything and everyone and it just feels like I could have done so much more than what I have.", "summary": "I have done fuck all recently and feel like a proper under achiever."}
{"id": "t3_qt7vk", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My pup. Is she a German Shepherd/Akita mix, or German Shepherd/Husky?", "post": "This is my pup, Abby. She's a rescue found roaming in central Saskatchewan and now shes with me and my family here in Calgary, Alberta (quite a trip for a dog if you ask me). She's just over a year old according to a few different vets and dog experts. My mother swears that she's German Shepherd/Husky mix. I've seen quite a few Shepherds mixed with something like a wolf, or husky, and they're all way darker than my dog and much thicker built. I'm agreeing with the vets on this one, but i think my mother needs reassurance from more people. And i just want this argument to be over.", "summary": "Is my dog German Shepherd/Akita mix or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2yv4ca", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30 M] have strong feelings for my roommate[34 F]", "post": "We've been living together for almost 8 months and I've developed strong feelings for her. We hang out at home all the time, but also go out for food, concerts, dog parks, movies, fun activities - we have even traveled to another country together. \n\nOn Valentine's day, I got her a thoughtful gift and hid it for her at home while I was out traveling. She loved the gift and I discovered she had checked out my OKCupid profile that same day; however, we have never talked about being more than friends and I've never gotten any clear signals that she's interested in me.\n\nShe has also told me about a guy at her work who asked her out and made things awkward. I don't want to be that guy, but I can't seem to squash these feelings. I think about her every day.\n\nI have come close to sharing my feelings, but I'm scared of ruining our friendship/living situation. Would it be a terrible thing if I asked her how she feels? Any advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Should I tell my roommate how I feel about her?"}
{"id": "t3_3mxh1n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Friend that i like [16 F] Homecoming Response!", "post": "OK so me and this girl have been talking for months. you know doing the average flirting and stuff. I we talk in class and text a lot, but when i went over to her house to talk to her(which is normal cause we hang out a lot) she was acting normal till i dropped the question. \"Will you go to Homecoming with me?\", then she said \"omg are really doing this right now?!? XD\" so i replied, \"yeah?? :}\" then she said, \"sure ken...\" like wth is that supost to mean!!!! Dose she actually like me or is she trying to not hurt my feels. Please help and give advice cause you guys are the best!", "summary": "Am i over reacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2b5ewc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I was comfortable with him. What now?", "post": "[19/f] I was comfortable with my ex. Usually I hate when people say that about their partner, because it generally means that person is just enough good for you to not be motivated enough to actively search for greener grass. It usually means they're settling for something. \n\nBut I was comfortable, and not for these reasons. I was comfortable with opening my emotions to him, no small feat on my part. I was comfortable with my body around him. Not that I have abnormally low self esteem or anything, but that there used to be no room for me to doubt my appearance, desirableness, or his attraction to me. Those thoughts were not entertained. He also could care less about the recent accident and knee surgery that has left me limping occasionally after a long healing process. This didn't matter. \n\nNow that we are no longer together, I'm overwhelmed with anxiety about these things that used to not be a problem. I know that it's silly to think no one could ever want me again. But even so, I worry that there isn't someone as understanding and loving as what I used to have. I've become more self conscious about my appearance and my knee and how it affects me sometimes than I have ever felt before.", "summary": "New feelings of negativity and anxiety about myself after the relationship. Feeling inadequate and down."}
{"id": "t3_24gjhe", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Hot Cocoa Revenge", "post": "Backstory: I live with my boyfriend and his family because of my lack of religion didn't sit too well with my family. I've been living here for almost a year now, I don't pay rent, but I do cook, clean, do laundry, watch their children and animals (3, was 5 cats, horrible dog, and occasionally feed the parrot and two gerbils).... I'm a very nice person until you are rude to me. \n\nTransgression: My bf's little sister is 7 and believes she is supposed to have whatever she wants whenever she wants it, she is disrespectful to me, my bf, and her 14 year old sister, and occasionally her parents. \n\nRevenge: She just had her tonsils removed so now she thinks I'm her servant since I'm at the house watching her and the one year old. I've just put the baby to sleep for his nap and she came into the room whining about me making her hot cocoa, I told her not right now, but soon because I JUST put the baby to sleep. That answer wasn't good enough so she starts punching herself, ripping out her hair, and screaming. The baby is starting to wake up. I go make her her stupid hot cocoa, but instead of warming up milk, I used hot water. I felt so satisfied seeing her face light up when I told her it was ready, and then see it scrunch up after she realized it was water, not milk.", "summary": "girl I babysit throws a tantrum, I make her hot cocoa with water instead of milk."}
{"id": "t3_4be04n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23/F] make friends?", "post": "WOW my time on reddit has been eventful in these past few days/weeks since my breakup. I'm trying to repair my life, per se.\n\nPeople say \"go out with your friends, your friends are there to console you\" well unfortunately my best friend lives a state over from me, and even though I'm going to visit her for the first time since 2013 (we've been friends since we were 12), I want some other people to spend time with. The problem is, I really want people who kind of share my interests, ya' know? Like-minded people. I'm not sure where to find people since, where I live, it's about \"who you know\" and the only people I were closest to are friends of my ex, and IDK if they're still talking to me anymore :(\n\nI'm basically lonely. Having people I can count on is a factor in keeping me going every day, and since I don't have that, I don't know what to do.", "summary": "Only friend lives a state away, I have no friends where I live since the people I were the closest to are friends with my ex and IDK if they're talking to me anymore, so I just need to know how to make friends and where to look."}
{"id": "t3_u5omp", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I need help moving on from him...x-post from r/relationships.", "post": "My boyfriend of 6 months and I have been on and off. This time its off for good, is what it seems like. During this breakup process, my ex went off telling everyone we know that I was a liar, and thats all I do...mind you, he says this stuff loud enough that our whole class is eavsdropping on him. We are both 16, btw.\n\nIts like he purposefully brings up topics of conversations that piss me off with the people around us, only when Im around. I overhear him talking about how hes going to hang out with a girl he knows this weekend, and he makes it obvious he wants me to hear. He took out a letter I wrote him that he had on his binder, and replaced it with a picture of his name in bubble letters that his ex drew for him.\n\nHe will text me about personal things in his life that only I know about, and I tell him I hope they turn out for the best and that he ends up happy, and he accuses me of acting fake, &wants me to \"leave him the fuck alone.\" So I do. I dont talk to him or text him, but lately he's texting me, about the stuff that goes on that only I know about him. He said last week that these 6months have been a waste, that he wont have an impression of me at all because from that conversation on, he wont think of me again...that I screwed him over more than anyone else & that Im the reason he will never trust girls again. So I am leaving him alone, but he always talks to me first. Whats up with this?\n\nSomehow, I still love him...I think of all the amazing memories we created and everything we came through together, and I cry...wondering why and how it ends like this. But I'm sick of his shit, and I'm trying to convince myself not to care about him, not to love him, not to wonder what he's doing or what his opinions are of me. How do I do it? I really need help :/ But please, be kind...I know we're 16, but please dont be rude or call him an asshole...serious advice only please.", "summary": "bf of 6 months broke up with me, is trying to make me mad and is doing a very good job at it. Need to move on, but how?"}
{"id": "t3_2rgva7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my best friend[19 F] decided to stop talking to her for few months,did I make a good choice?", "post": "Me and my best friend had been friends for years,she is pretty hot and I am an average looking guy,6 months ago we hooked up,ever since then whenever there is a party we make out,we don't have sex because she doesn't want to.We were kinda in a romantic relationship,we didn't want to go as bf/gf relationship.When I asked her if we should go that way,she said no its good the way it is.I agreed.I dont see her a lot,like maybe 2 times in a month,I want to have sex with her but she doesn't want with me,meanwhile she is having sex with some other dude,which she is probably in a relationship with.But when she's home she always hooks up with me,we both like it.Today I decided to ask her why is it so hard for her to have sex with me,is she uncomforatble with me,am I too ugly for her,then she answered that she doesn't want to ruin our friendship.She says if we do that(sex)we would be a gf and bf,or maybe she was referring that should fell in love with me,that one is tricky for me.I really like her and decided that we should take a time off each other so further feelings wont develop,she doesn't want that,I promised her  that I would make her my girlfriend,she just laughed and replied \"maybe :P\",we both told each other what we don't like about each other...when I told her that we should stop talking to each other,she didn't want to,but I really want that.She got 5 months of school left so I don't want to bother her,and I will use that time to change myself a bit,like something she told me she doesn't like at me,she also promised me to change herself,because I also told her what I dont like about her.DID I DO THE RIGHT THING? please note that i am not doing this becouse she doesnt want to have sex with me\n\nSORRY FOR BAD ENGLISH", "summary": "She doesnt want to be in a relationship currently.We make out for 6 months but doesnt want to have sex,meanwhile she has sex with her \"bf\".Decided to take time off eachother"}
{"id": "t3_2b79m4", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm going through a rough patch.", "post": "I was a smart kid. I could ace a biology test without really trying, and I loved to read. But I was also a little shit to others sometimes, and a bit of an ugly duckling. And then, puberty lended a helping hand, and I'm a lot prettier and think at least, I'm a lot nicer.\n\nBut now I'm kind of the 'slow one'. I just don't notice things around me, I don't ever *think*. It was kind of OK when I was a bit of a pixie day dreamer chick a while ago, but even that's gone. Less imagination. I just feel a bit... vacant. I want to be smarter, and my schoolwork has been... lackluster to say the least. I'm not a very hard worker, I'm good at picking up projects and working on them, like making games, wood work, no problem. But writing and essay/research? Heaven forbid. I've always loved english, but I don't even enjoy that anymore. \n\nI'm not particularly witty either, I feel like I should stop trying to be the joker, but then I just don't what to say and just end up saying nothing. So, /r/advice , help me out. What can I do to improve myself?", "summary": "Used to be smart and good at school, and now I'm not because I suck at hardwork. Also, I am not a funny gal, and am about as perceptive as a deaf bat. Help would be appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_2zaog8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm speechless!", "post": "I may finally be getting to meet this long distance guy.  I never thought I'd be out his way but when we used to be on good terms, he'd say whenever you're out this way, you'll \"get some action\" with me, something along those lines.  I've never had any reason to go out his way since it's like 8 to 16 hours trip and I don't have the funds or car right now.\n\nI've recently met some new friends from town who are going to his city for their events who don't know him and they told me they could bring me to meet him there!  If he doesn't take this opportunity to meet, when I'll be ten minutes away from him, this is RIDICULOUS.\n\nPeople always did tell me I should spontaneously take a bus down to say fuck it and go...but the only problem is he didn't tell me a place to meet him and he hasn't been answering his phone.  Still, I'm going to have fun exploring his city for that weekend to see if I would even like living there so it wouldn't be a huge loss if I didn't get to meet him.\n\nI'll text him a location I'm at and if he doesn't show up then he doesn't.  He doesn't need to respond like he's been ignoring me for the past forever.  Him showing up or not is the answer.\n\nI'd get to go out of town on a fun road trip and take a vacation.  Not gonna let guy troubles ruin a good time with new friends!", "summary": "Done always wondering what could have been.  I want to freaking know what he is like in person after talking at least a year on Skype.  I've never been insanely attracted to someone on the computer until I met him.  I can only imagine the chemistry in person."}
{"id": "t3_1b5io8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend (F 18) has a very good chance on not moving foward, and I don't know what to do.", "post": "So basically one of my friends, seems to be going nowhere with her life, and she has no ambition also. The two of us are seniors, but she hasn't done anything with her life to transition into being a young adult. She didn't take the SAT's not even for in regards for applying to college, but the community college system in my area, it accepts if you get a certain score you can skip english 101 and even get into the scholar program at the community college. She hasn't even looked at what classes she wants to take or save up any kind of funds to pay for it, since her parents won't. Also, she has no prospect or interest getting a job, she hasn't put her self out there in any respect, I almost got her to apply to where I work, but she didn't actually send in the application because her boyfriend said, \"to not conform.\" Okay, her boyfriend is actually a nice guy, I was friends with him before they started dating, it's just that he's a sophomore with pretty bad ADD, who can't really relate to having to be a senior in high school, getting ready to grow up. When my friend started dating this guy last year, she pushed all her friends away and literally her and her boyfriend only hang out with each other. Half of the time this friend doesn't even show up to school, which could prevent her from graduating on time.\n\nHer parents won't disipline her because her own mother lived with her mom (along with her mom's sister) until my friend was 8 years old. My friend's 23 year old sister continues to live with her parents, without having to pay for rent, food or any living expenses, except gas. They're very laisse faire when it comes to raising her, which would be fine if she actually acted like a young adult, but now it feels like she has the maturity of a 14 year old girl for various reasons which are a whole different topic.\n\nWhen I try and suggest she go to trade school or beauty school, she gets insulted because trade school too pedestrian for her, even though her GPA and work ethic is absolute shit.", "summary": "Basically, this friend has no prospect career wise, high education wise or learning a trade and she's just going to live with her parents, extending her childhood because of her sophomore boyfriend and she can't handle an ounce of responsibility."}
{"id": "t3_2p3xg7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (f/24) in a relationship with a guy (m/21) who is going to be moving away. Need Advice.", "post": "I'm currently dating a guy in the marines who's working on getting out and going to college states away from me. The relationship is pretty new. He asked me to be exclusive and I agreed because I like him a lot. I just don't see how it's going to work out for the long-term though. He's pretty young and I'm sure he's going to want to live it up. I'm afraid he'll just keep me there for companionship and emotional support while he's here and on deployment, then dump me when he gets out. I just don't see how it's going to work. What should I do?", "summary": "Dating a marine who's getting out and moving away. Should I stay or should I go?"}
{"id": "t3_18nkoq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "my friend [19m] is stuck in a love triangle with 2 girls [19f] and i have no idea how to help him", "post": "so back in October I threw a party in my dorm room. my guy friend [A] met one of my girl friends [B], and they really hit it off. my friend eventually tries to ask her out to coffee but she politely declined. fast forward to today and we've all become pretty close friends. however A still has feelings for B, but she got back with her ex over winter break. to make things even more complicated, B has been trying to set A up with her best friend, C. we only realized this last weekend, and have no idea what to do. to make things even worse were all gonna be living in the same apartment building in September. what should my friend do?\n\n(we are all 19)", "summary": "my friend still likes one of our mutual friends even though she got back with her bf. that girl's best friend is apparently into my friend, and her friends are trying to set them up. we are all living in the same house next year and my friend has no idea how to deal with this"}
{"id": "t3_qvocu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've just found out that apparently I'm supposed to be a speech giver at the funeral for a man who's sexually molested many of my family members...", "post": "This man is my great-grandfather. For years growing up, until about the age of 14 my mother, sister, and I would go up to Sacramento 4-5 times times a years for 1-2 weeks at a time, stay with him, help him around the house, in general provide him with some company for a lonely old man who's wife was too drugged up to know left from right. Right around age 14, it came out that there were allegations that he had molested one of the great-granddaughters, about this time it was revealed that not only had he molested her, but he had molested both of his daughters, my mother, her sisters, and his other daughters daughters. At which point all visits and contact with the man ceased. To this day his daughters proclaim his innocence, whilst the rest of the  family avoids him like the plague. \n\nHe is now 92, about to be sentenced for the first time for any of these molestation's, and as such is likely to either kill himself or stop taking his medications and die that way before his record is permanently tarnished.\n\nAnd apparently I'm to give a speech at his funeral, now, I seem to have three options here, I can either get up to the podium, outright insult the mans legacy, point out his wrong doings, and tarnish the remnants of his name forever, I can start out by commending him for his acts of valor in WW2, then jump into a diatribe concerning the foul nature of the horrid creature he is, or I can simply do a cut and paste funeral speech leaving out all of his misdeeds, I am inclined to go with either the first or second methods.\n\nWhat is your opinion Reddit? Which route should I take? Or if you have any alternatives, please feel free to let me know, I am open to suggestions and have no moral or ethical qualms about ruining this mans legacy.\n\nWhat are your thoughts?", "summary": "Have to give speech at a funeral of a known sexual molester who is a relative, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3h2uny", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I think my girlfriend is lying to me. What should I do?", "post": "So a little back story. My girlfriend is 18, I'm 19. We've been dating for almost 3 years now. Coming into the relationship, she knew I didn't tolerate drinking/smoking. What do I mean by that? I don't mean I'm a control freak who won't let someone do that, I just mean I don't like to date people who are about that. Really bad experiences in the past. \nAlright, so about two weeks ago or so I found out she had gotten drunk and hid it from me for like 3 months. I was well upset and nearly dumped her, because you know I just wanted to do what I said I'd do. I stepped back and realized what a fuckass I was being and we didn't break up, we mended things and I'm actually learning to be a bit more accepting of drinking. \nThing is, she knows how much it hurt me, and I'm less concerned about her drinking, I just wanna fucking know! I might be wrong, I really don't know, but I feel like she's either still drinking or planning to even though she \"promised\" me she wasn't (which I didn't ask her to. I said it bugs me that she did, but at least she could tell me about it. That sort of thing.) \nShe's never been a partier, but I know people change, especially in their final teen years when they find themselves and what not. She's going off to college soon and I'm just worried. She's an impulsive girl, and I literally would never have thought she would have done this knowing the circumstances. We're both in love, at least she tells me she is. I'm just very worried and anxious I suppose. \nI try to come online for some consolation about these things but all I find are stories of girls/guys who \"accidentally\" kissed or did worse with someone who wasn't their significant other at parties, and it's fucking me up to be honest. How should I go about this? I don't wanna prod her too much because she's shy/uncomfortable about prodding questions, but I just don't know where to begin. Honestly advice would be much appreciated.", "summary": "I don't date girls who drink, my girl of three years did and hid it from me for months, I got over it but am worried that even though she said she no longer wants to/doesn't, she continues and hides it from me. Not worried about drinking, worried about her continuing to hide it."}
{"id": "t3_wnvll", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need to find a way to make it up to my boyfriend", "post": "Long story short, I (18/f) got incredibly drunk and spent 2hrs being sick in the bathroom at a party with my boyfriend (17/m). He was there with me through the whole \"I'm really really sorr-BLURRHGUGRUGHRUGH\" process and refused to leave me by myself. I feel awful about it because this is the second time it has happened in the last year that we've been together. I need some ideas on what I can do to make it up to him because I know full-well that it isn't fun looking after drunk people.\n\nI'm thinking along the lines of a gift or a day out (or something else if you guys have anything in mind)... Preferably nothing too expensive since I am a student. Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Got horrendously drunk at a party and my lovely boyfriend looked after me for the gruelling two hours that I was practically immobile. Need ideas for something nice I could do/buy/make/arrange to make up for the whole blunder"}
{"id": "t3_q9qq5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How should I break off this friendship?", "post": "So I'm friends with this girl and as you can guess, I want it to be something more. I'm no fool, but I know its not happening. But what bugs me is that because I am open 'nice' or whatever, she feels the need to be very close to me, which I enjoy in our friendship, but it also attracts me to her. this has happened before with another girl and my solution was that I just shut her out of my life after telling her. but I can't do the same thing with this girl on account that we're going to be in all the same classes for the next 2 years. I am thinking of telling her how I feel, and telling her that I know how she feels, and that a potential solution, would be to keep the friendship superficial.", "summary": "guy is friends with a girl. progress to friendzone relationship. How do I take care of this the right way?"}
{"id": "t3_13fzi0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What small victories at your work help your days that tiny bit more enjoyable?", "post": "I work as a window cleaner, and automatic doors are the bane of my existence. The constant opening and shutting from my movement, and impatient office workers going in and out can make a 20 second job take 10 minutes. However, every now and then, I come across one that can be locked. While it's locked, I can still hear the sensor go off, from my movements, but the door is unable to open. I get a sense of happiness when I think of the door, confused as to what is happening, not being able to serve it's purpose. It's not much of a win, but I consider it equal to bitch slapping someone you hate.", "summary": "Window cleaner gets sick pleasure by torturing a machine."}
{"id": "t3_2macsh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[M/21] Is she [f/20] making excuses not to go out?", "post": "I met this girl last weekend on a retreat and we both seemed to have a pretty good time together. I missed getting her number, but I added her on Facebook a couple of days after we got back.\n\nI sent her a message saying I had a great time but forgot to ask for her number. Then I asked if she wanted to grab lunch or coffee sometime. She replied saying it was great to meet me and that sounded great, but she is leaving for thanksgiving next Friday and she has a lot to do this week since she'll be skipping classes next week. She asked if we could \"connect\" right after break and gave me her number.\n\nIs this a good sign or is she making excuses not to go out?", "summary": "She said she's busy for two weeks, is this an excuse to not go out?"}
{"id": "t3_176lrg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "First relationship dealing with time-balance issues - any tips?[21/M - 20/F]", "post": "Hi Reddit\n\nI [21/M] am in my first relationship for about 2 months now. Why is it my first? There are several factors but most important is that I'm always busy in my life. I work fulltime and am a passionate musician in a well-known local band in my area here - besides my daily job. So there is very little time besides working and playing music for other stuff like dating. I really like being independent and don't have the contstant need to have someone around me.\n\nShe [20/F] knew that before we got into this relationship. But now she suddenly expects that we see us more than the average twice per week. And it just isn't possible. I've got a lot of stuff going on band rehearsals, work, fitness, visiting/playing shows and somehow I should also catch up with my friends. If I fill up the rest of my free time also with her - I'll never be able to relax alone for 2-3h and will be burned out soon.\n\nHow do you do that for example? Any tips?\nAm I being unreasonable that I think seeing each other twice a week on average is enough?", "summary": "I'm [21/M] a busy man working full-time and playing in a band who almost has no free time, she [20/F] knew that and suddenly expects that we see us more often. What to do? Any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_552z9g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me (23f) lying to my boyfriend (27) about smoking", "post": "So, I've been a smoker since I was 14 years old, I realize at this point how horrible it is for my health and after many failed attempts to quit I seem to be having an extremely hard time. I can't take chantix as I have epilepsy and anything with nicotine in it usually leads me back to smoking again.  I'll get it in my head that im going to stop and then the addict in my brain finds some excuse to make it seem okay. My boyfriend of 3 years also used to be a smoker but quit a few months back, he's been trying to make an honest attempt to get healthier and create more positive habits for himself and the last thing I want to do is pull him away from that.\n\nHe's caught me lying a few times the past couple weeks. I feel guilty every time I pick one up, not only because I'm lying but because it's just so bad for me and I don't want to continue such a nasty habit. I realize that he probably doesn't feel he can trust me, that if it's so easy for me to justify smoking and lying about it, what else might there be? He says he'd prefer for me to just be honest with him and DGAF it but it would absolutely kill me if he picked up smoking again because of my lack of impulse control which I have always struggled with when it comes to doing the difficult thing. I'm afraid of failing and I know that's exactly what im doing by not trying.\n\nI need to quit smoking, I need to work on healthier habits and I'm having an extremely difficult time working through the mental gymnastics that is impulse control and gaining motivation. Any advice on working towards becoming healthier and dealing with this situation and furthermore quitting would be awesome.", "summary": "I want to quit smoking, it's affecting my relationship as well as my health. Don't know how to do it."}
{"id": "t3_4dd62p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F18] am having a lot of trouble with a breakup [the relationship lasted a year and a half].", "post": "Basically, I had what I'm defining as the worst breakup of my life. I know I'm young, blah blah blah, I'm barely starting out, I'll meet new people, etc. I know all that. I'm not concerned about being forever alone and stuff. I know I'll move on. I just want to know *when* I'll move on.\n\nShort back story is that she cheated on me twice and stayed with the second guy she cheated on me with. They're together for now. I guess we weren't good for each other but I'm seriously torn up about it. Everything reminds me of her, I feel like there's a lot I can't enjoy anymore because I can't stop associating it with her, certain words or phrases make me uncomfortable if I or someone else uses them because they make me think of her, etc. Relationship things I used to think were cute annoy the hell out of me.\n\nI don't want to be bitter like this and I figure it's just a matter of time before I get over it but everything hurts so bad right now. I know I'll be over it one day but it feels like that day will never come. I've been trying to keep myself distracted and my mind off her, but sometimes it all comes down on me at once and I end up breaking down.\n\nI desperately, more than anything, wanted to stay friends, but due to her controlling new thing, she's blocked me on everything. I've been completely ghosted. That's a double edged sword. I'm not constantly checking on her now since I can't, but I'm worrying a lot. I know the guy is manipulative and abusive and I don't say that just because I don't like him, but because she's confided it in me before she had to stop talking to me.", "summary": "Out of the worst break up of my life. I want to be over it but feel like I never will be. Everything reminds me of her, so I think of her constantly, even now. I got ghosted. Her new thing is an asshole and I'm so worried about her. I still care and it's driving me insane. I want to be okay."}
{"id": "t3_dbzoa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Some guy in my apartment complex has just stolen my three kittens!", "post": "Some random dude just set up a goddamn trap in my apartment complex and captured my brand new kittens! They're litter trained and crafty (and escape) but they like to hide up in my recliner and the litter tray is kept behind it, so sometimes they shit behind soft furnishings.\n\n The first two kittens went missing in pretty short succession but the last kitten was still in my house - it then escaped and it's now gone too!\n\nMy girlfriend said she saw some dude with a humane trap waiting on the subway deck but didn't see any kittens.\n\nHelp me find this dude!", "summary": "THEY TOOK OUR CATS"}
{"id": "t3_1llybj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[29M] with my long term GF [28F] of 3 years, both ambivalent about having children.", "post": "I [29M] have been in a relationship with my girlfriend [28F] for three years now, and we have been seriously discussing long-term (aka marriage) prospects. The good news is that both of us can see a future with one another in the long term, and that we have great communication.\n\nThe not-so-good news is that we are both ambivalent about children. It would be one thing if one of us wanted kids and the other didn't, but right now, both of us can't seem to come to a decision about kids. We have talked about it at length, and cannot come to some kind of final stance as to whether we want kids or not. \n\nIn some ways, we can picture ourselves as a family unit of two parents and one or two kids. That image doesn't make us retch or turn our head around. But then detracting issues pop up. One case is my medical condition. I have a brain tumor that is benign for now, but could act up statistically speaking, and that is a concern for both of us. \n\nCan this change or solidify if we finally get stable jobs? Right now, she is working as a contract teacher while I am in my last year of college. We both are going to get a master's degree, so according to our (ideal) timeframe, we see ourselves with the jobs we want in 3-4 years from now.", "summary": "Both GF and I cannot come to solid individual decisions over wanting kids or not. What can be done to achieve this?"}
{"id": "t3_3jdlov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it common for me 25M to not be all that attracted to someone I'm casually dating?", "post": "I'm a 25 year old bachelor.\n\nI haven't been in a serious relationship in a while because, honestly, I just haven't met anyone I really feel that way about. I'd definitely like a serious \"love\" relationship, but I've realized that I just have very high standards and specific wants when it comes to relationships: one is being physically attracted to someone.\n\nRight now, I'm casually seeing someone (in an FWB but slightly more attached sort of way) that for whatever reason, I just don't feel that passionate about. She's very (sexually, at least) turned on by me, and we have great sex, but it's not the kind of emotional intimacy and love and desire I crave. And to be a shallow dbag: I'm just not that attracted to her physically. I think she's cute enough, but for multiple reasons, I just don't feel like she's someone that turns me on in that total way.\n\nThe sexual part of the equation is there, but there's something that keeps it at purely physical to me, and I'm not sure what it is. I think this is mostly fine: we're friends, and we have good sex, and I enjoy hanging out with her. But I don't have a burning desire to be with her, and I (honestly) don't feel romantically into her at all.\n\nI'm not sure if this is necessarily all because of her looks, but I do (honestly) find myself looking at other girls longingly, which never happens when I'm in a long term committed relationship. (Or if it does, I know that there's someone I care about more than physically, so it's not a big deal.)\n\nThis has led me to kind of a slump and to feeling kind of like a jerk for the past few weeks. I guess it's that I know deep down that the person I'm seeing isn't a romantic match for me, and so that feels kind of wrong and takes getting used to.", "summary": "I'm new to dating people more casually, and I'm used to dating people that I'm building towards a \"love\" relationship with. I'm fine with it, and for lack of someone that I really care about, I'm fine with an FWB, but is this a normal feeling?"}
{"id": "t3_49j5ee", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my exgf [26F] 1year, broke up 1 year ago, shes started hanging around my family members/cousins", "post": "I've done my ultimate best to try and move forward. The breakup was awful and centered around a terrible point in my life. Best mate died, Grandad died and she slept with a mate of mine during us getting together because she thought i was out of her league. The love was incredibly deep for both of us but the relationship was terribly difficult all the same. It resulted in all my so called \"friends\" siding with her and i was left completely on my own trying to rebuild my life.\n\nI did the dumb thing of chasing her for a few months but then dropped contact suddenly, removed her from faebook and got to the gym, slept with a few people. Just tried to forget really.\n\nRecently she's been turning up to events she knows i'll be at. She came and seen my brothers bands and now shes been tagged in pictures with a few of my girl cousins on big nights out. It's blowing my mind! We run into eachother again and sometimes will give a casual \"alright\" or \"hi\". But other than that don't talk. There was no contact at my brothers gig, but she kept hanging around his girlfriend and stuff.\n\nI put all this effort into getting myself together but i can't avoid her totally. What is she trying to do? I wish she's just **** off.", "summary": "Ex hanging around family members and cousins, started to see her more often again. It's winds me up and i don't know what it means or how to get away from it."}
{"id": "t3_29ah8m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] have to have a conversation with my long distance boyfriend [26M] about his fears of commitment. Help!", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I have been long distance for nearly 3 years of our (almost) 4 year relationship. We've had the conversation about moving together, marriage, and starting our life together, but when push comes to shove, he's not ready. He's given me a variety of reasons (too young, he wants to get a raise, etc) that he is, in his words, no where near ready for this. He's also been very hesitant to even discuss this for longer than ten minutes at a time.\n\nI know I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him, but it's concerning to me that he's got weak reasons (at least, weak in my opinion) for delaying/avoiding this. It makes me nervous that maybe he's not as into this relationship as I am.\n\nI know I need to have this conversation with him. Does any one have advice before I jump into this?", "summary": "long term boyfriend is hesitant to discuss long term commitment, need advice before I have the dreaded conversation."}
{"id": "t3_4zvc0y", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by kicking my sister's door.", "post": "This happened at around 2:00am. \n\nA bit of backstory. My sister is incredibly selfish, owes me money, and is a constant pain on the ass.\n\nYesterday, we had an argument because her cats entered my room and walked all over my bed (I'm a monster who doesn't like pets). Then, I went to sleep; or at least tried.\n\nFor about 10 minutes I hear my sister trashing her door's handle and grunting in frustration. When I finally get up and see what happens, she tells me she is locked in.\n\nI tried opening it but it's not working, most likely, the lock will have to be taken down. I tried to confirm with my sister if she is in desperate need to get out. She doesn't say anything. I tell her to go to sleep and leave it for tomorrow, but she continues making that irritating metallic noise.\n\nI'm very tired after a long day and just want to sleep, so I turn my back on the problem. But then,  I hear her purposefully raised voice saying \"... BECAUSE THERE IS NO MAN IN THIS HOUSE\"\n\nNow, I really hate being put in a stereotype, specially since it sounds so hypocritical coming from my very unfeminine sister. Also, I'm sometimes insecure because I'm  not the most masculine of men. \n\nIn hindsight I should have known that she was trying to incense me. But at that moment I didn't care. I walked back and kicked the door twice, pulling it off its hinges.\n\nNow my mother is upset and I have to help pay the door. Also, I think I will get some therapy for anger management.", "summary": "My sister got locked in her room, got really angry when she questioned my masculinity and kicked her door down."}
{"id": "t3_3fko6o", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Visiting Eastern China on a Budget", "post": "I'm an Australian setting out in a few weeks to backpack around Asia, starting in Japan and then flying to Hong Kong. I was intending to apply for a Chinese visa in Hong Kong and spend some time there however I'm on a shoestring budget (which is fine, I stay in hostels and eat street food regardless).\n\nI don't mind paying for the visa to get into China but I've noticed (because China is so massive) trains between many of the major cities cost ~$80 one way which is pretty steep for me. I only have 30 days so I feel there's plenty for me to do in China on the Eastern side, just wondering if anyone has any recommendations?\n\nI'd love to go up to Shanghai but that's the furthest up from Hong Kong I'd like to go, I've heard Yunnan is nice and I'm considering starting in HK, up to Shanghai, then work my way down to Yunnan and ultimately enter Laos at the end of my visa. Is this reasonable? Where is worth stopping at on the trip? And roughly how much should I expect to spend on a cheap as possible month in China if you don't mind me asking? (I budget usually around $40 AUD per day)", "summary": "Going to China from HK, too stingy to pay for trains everywhere, what's worth seeing in the south-east?"}
{"id": "t3_1czha8", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Introducing my cat to a new puppy. Help.", "post": "My girlfriend and I are looking at getting an Aussie/Chow mix puppy within the next week or so. My concern with bringing her into our home is my 7 yr old cat (Kwinn). Kwinn is a pretty independent cat and has experience with dogs; he doesn't greatly dislike them, but he really wants to keep his distance from them. Our place is not terribly large, so contact between them will be inevitable. \n\nMy question is how can I introduce this new puppy to my cat in a way that might open up Kwinn to the idea of a new housemate? They don't need to be best friends, but I want my cat to be comfortable in his surroundings.", "summary": "What is the best way I introduce my new puppy to my 7 yr old cat?"}
{"id": "t3_fppgx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I think I need help. I am a 21 years old girl and I can't help crying uncontrollably!", "post": "The problem isn't really that I cry. I don't mind crying when I am genuinely sad about something, like losing a relative. The problem is that I cry uncontrollably about things that I shouldn't, like talking to a professor about a test, or when I'm in a situation that is only mildly awkward. Other people seem to have no problem in these situations, but I can't help but break into tears.\n\nThis is really affecting my life in a negative way. I feel like people aren't able to communicate with me properly because of this. I'm afraid professors won't take my concerns seriously, or that friends will be unable to talk to me in an honest way. The thing is, I'm not looking to be insulated from the tough things in life, I just need to know why this happens, and what I can do to make it better!", "summary": "I cry during inappropriate times and I can't control it! What can be done?"}
{"id": "t3_456jv2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] She [18 F] told me [16 M] to not talk to her for a while", "post": "Was a very unknown post, but felt like updating xD\n\nShe messaged me back saying how much of a bitch she was and she gave an explanation. She said that school was really stressful for her and that made her depressed. Her first reaction to depression is to completely shut down from social stuff and just be left alone, as with most people. I did say I saw a picture of her out with her friends, but that was a picture from a year ago and now that I realize it, she did look a bit different. I told her to at least be open with me and to not ignore how much it can actually help, she has yet to respond. Anyways thanks to anyone that posted, means a lot and I hope things don't fuck up between us again :)\n\n[Original] (", "summary": "She was depressed and she shut down from everyone as a result"}
{"id": "t3_1nvtel", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(26m) got a girl(21f) pregnant and she is considering abortion. My son died almost 2 years ago and I don't know if I can handle that. What should I do?", "post": "A month ago my exwife had a little boy with my exbest friend. They gave him the same middle name as my son and he looked just like Jonah did. \n\nIt kind of spiraled me into self destruction again. I'm not proud of it, but I started drinking hard (even though I had already given up sobriety a little before that on what would have been Jonah's fifth birthday). This did not do much for my relationship with Alex, my kind of girlfriend, who basically called me pathetic and a drunk. She doesn't know about Jonah because I just can't talk about him anymore.\n\nShe does know I was married  in a hasty college kind of way and that my wife left me for my best friend. She probably thinks my descent into alcoholism came from their baby being born.. but it is only because it reminds me of all I lost. My son. My wife. My best friend. My job. My dignity. My house. In a year, I lost pretty much everything that mattered.\n\nAnd she texts me today and says I'm pregnant and probably getting an abortion, thought you should know\n\nThis is a life changer. For the past year and a half, I've been merely existing. Some things I'm proud of (my eight months of sobriety, the first since I was 14) and most I'm not. But I was a good dad. I really was and I loved my son. I don't know if I deserve another child, but I can't help but feel this crazy attachment. Me-mr prochoice- is absolutely revolted by the idea of getting rid of it. Even if it is just a potential baby.\n\nI haven't had a drink since I found out (I know, a whole day, but I even went to a meeting). I text her back and say please don't do anything until you talk to me\n\nAnd she agreed to meet me tomorrow. Now I'm reeling. I don't know where to start. Do I tell her everything? Could that backfire? I just don't know what to say and I need the right words.", "summary": "I(26m) got a girl(21f) pregnant and she is considering abortion. My son died almost 2 years ago and I don't know if I can handle that. She doesn't know about him, or about how good a dad I was. She just knows I am a divorced man who drinks too much. But she agreed to meet with me and discuss it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_54f4oh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need Advice", "post": "My girlfriend(17/F) and I(17/M) have been dating for about a year but have known each other for around 5 years. She said that at the start of our relationship I seemed so much more happy and excited about our relationship and now I seem so unhappy. This isn't the case at all though I really love her and care about her more than anything and she makes me so happy and my feeling haven't changed at all but she's saying it appears that they have and she's now questioning the future of our relationship. I want her to know she makes me happy because well she does but I just don't know how to convey that to her because she says it just doesn't feel that way. I just don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her and I'm happy but she just doesn't believe it.", "summary": "Girlfriend doesn't think I'm happy but I am so I don't really know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_opqxi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friendship going down the drain?", "post": "We're both 24 year old girls and met each other about 4 years ago, and have been pretty close since then.  \n\nWe have had lots of ups and downs over these few years in our friendship, however since we both moved to a new college and live closer to each other than before, the problems seem to be hurting me more. Now I'm not quite sure what action to even take. \n\nBefore the winter break I tried to meet with her, but she made lame excuses such as \"making brownies.\"  Needless to say, we never got to meet up. Over the break I confronted her and told her how her excuses hurt me and expressed all my feelings, she claims to be feeling depressed and not wanting to go out.  However, she has been hanging out with new people much more.\n\nSo now we're back in college and when I tried to meet up with her, she just completely didn't show up, and when I told her to meet me later...she blew me off again.  It feels like she's been blowing me off more and more these past few months since moving to college, and it's getting old.\n\nSunday we are scheduled to meet up and hang out with some friends, but she's already asked, \"Do I have to come?\"  So I'm assuming more than likely she won't even show up, and if that's the case, what should my next action be? \n\nI don't really want to lose the friendship with her, but I'm getting tired of feeling bad because of being blown off constantly. It has started to affect my self esteem and make me question if I'm just not that fun anymore.  \n\nSo any advice or comments would be appreciated.", "summary": "Friend is constantly blowing me off, even after being confronted about it, and am pretty sure it will happen again."}
{"id": "t3_cybmr", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "How do I get my cat to stop waking me up for more food?", "post": "crosspost from askreddit\n\nHe's not underfed. The vet says that he needs to lose weight to be healthy, but he will meow loudly (above the volume earplugs will shut out) every night about two hours after I go to bed so I'll give him more food. I know it's counterproductive to give into him, but this cat has me beat. I can't afford to spend several sleepless nights in a row just to teach him a lesson; I have to be functional at work as well.\n\nThe only other thing that shuts him up is putting his food in a puzzle box, but he figures them out very quickly. I need new puzzle box ideas. He can easily get his food out of a box that is only one inch wide and twelve inches deep, can get it out of compartment toys, and is not challenged by food-dispensing balls at all.", "summary": "My cat is depriving me of sleep and I need new ideas for puzzle boxes. Also, he gets plenty of attention/playtime during the day, so that's not his issue either."}
{"id": "t3_2x4ij6", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "[Europe] I have little to no savings and no idea how to plan my expenses", "post": "My problem:\n\n- European, 21/M\n\n- Moved abroad to study in my girlfriend's country (I met my girlfriend online)\n\n- I have a bank account with almost no savings\n\n- I've been looking for a job for the past months (since I've moved) and I started working 10 to 20 hours weekly as a part time waiter, for around 300 euros/month since this month\n\n- My parents decided to give me 250 euros/month to help me with expenses since I've started working\n\n- I already saved enough to pay this year's university (800 euros)\n\nMy hobbies are all computer related, and I would like to invest some money in it to buy a new monitor for around 150 euros (at the moment I have a 15 years old monitor). The computer hobbies don't bring in any money (music production, web design) but help me keep my days full until I will find a full time job.\n\nMy girlfriend's parents are letting me sleep at their house/feeding me for free, but I would like to contribute even if they don't ask anything back from me (100-200 euros/month?).\n\nAlso, my girlfriend complains that I don't spend money for her. Any ideas for cheap/DIY presents to make her happy?", "summary": "I have 400 euros in my bank account and I would like to have some help on how to save money for the future."}
{"id": "t3_52j7r9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] bf [19M] is driving me crazy for seemingly unimportant reasons. Not sure if it's worth it", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons\n\nSo my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now (neither of us can remember when we actually started dating lol). We've had a pretty good relationship, with my anxiety it's sometimes hard for me to relax which interferes but things have gotten better as I've gotten to know him and have started opening up.\n\nHowever, there are little things that he does that imply that he doesn't want to see me even though he says he does, and that he doesn't really care much about my problems although, again, he says he does. A few examples:\n\n- I can't see him this week due to him being busy. He said last week that he'd try to see me whenever he has the opportunity. An opportunity came up today, but he's playing Overwatch instead (games he plays show up on discord) and hasn't shown any interest in wanting to see me\n\n- My friend stood me up today and I was kinda pissed because it's not the first time, I told him about this, he said \"interesting\" and \"are you ok?\" and that was that. He changed the topic pretty quickly\n\n- A while back I was pretty upset about my grandpa's passing. I told him, he did the same \"oh no are you ok\" spiel and then changed the topic. I was upset about this and confronted him later on, he just said \"I thought you needed space, sorry\" and that was that. He repeats the same behaviour.\n\nI just don't know what to do. Other than little things like this, our relationship is great and I know he loves me. He is generally quite giving and sweet etc etc blah blah. I'm just not sure if I should keep holding on when he frustrates me so much.", "summary": "boyfriend drives me crazy, implies that he doesn't care to see me when he can, doesn't like to listen to my problems. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4gffmh", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Being a Jack of all Trades", "post": "Kind of sucks. In spite of my desire to do so, I find it really difficult to sit down and really put all my effort into one thing -- maybe due to boredom, laziness, or short attention span. For example, I've been playing guitar for about 8 years. I'm good, I know I'm good. But I'm not NEARLY as good as I should be after 8 years. And its because I never truly dedicated myself to it. Even though I love it, I never had the ability to say \"fuck school/work/friends, I'm just gonna sit and practice guitar for 2-3 hours per day\". Maybe it's unrealistic to think that a college student can consistently fit that into their schedule. Maybe it's just the personality I was born with. \n\nAnyway,", "summary": "I don't do anything exceptionally well and that's kind of a bummer. I would rather be a master of one then a Jack of all trades."}
{"id": "t3_1xlgx6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "[Serious] How do you stay awake during the day?", "post": "I find that most mornings it is nearly impossible to get out of bed. I just have no drive to get dressed and start my day. And when I am in class it seems that the only thing I want is to just lay down and sleep. On weekends I'll go to bed around midnight and not get out of bed until 4 or 5 in the afternoon. And then I eat a sandwich, have some water, shower, and lay on the couch and watch TV until I go to sleep again. That's all the energy I have. It takes days of mental preparation to do the most menial things like the dishes or laundry or go get something from the store. I just don't understand how people are so energized during the day and how they can get out of bed and do stuff all day.", "summary": "I sleep a lot and want to know how to get energy and motivation for the day."}
{"id": "t3_uj3kw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need to stop acting Jealous.  I've had a rough past.  Can I get some advice?", "post": "I am 23M and She's 20F\n\nOk so I have been dating this wonderful girl now for the past month,  we seem to click very well and have only had 1 minor argument that only lasted like 1 hour.  today I did something kind of dumb.  She told me she would be going on vacation for a week in the summer to a different country with a friend.  I asked who it was, and because she wouldn't tell me right away I asked if it was a guy.  (I asked it because I know she has a lot of guy friends, she then told me it wasn't a guy)\n\nStupid me.  I know.\n\nshe's at work and I sent her a text saying I was sorry and that sometimes I let my past step into my present and it wouldn't happen again. (due to the nature of her job she cannot text me back until shes on break)\n\nI am just going to say I was in a very serious relationship 2 years ago, where I was cheated on (was with that girl for 3 years and was engaged).  Because of what it did to me it took me a couple years to even feel the want to get into another relationship.  I have told this girl about my past and how I was treated badly.  I was never like this until I was cheated on, now I seem to want to question everything.  I feel this is partly why I may be coming off a bit jealous.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what I should do?  Should I just bite the bullet when I feel like its effecting me where I just want to question everything?\n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "May have come off in a jealous way towards my girlfriend, think it would be because i was cheated on.  asking advice."}
{"id": "t3_df9df", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've been having severe \"pinch\" type pains on my lower back, what causes them?", "post": "So every month or so I'll be sitting at my desk at work or home and all of a sudden I'll get a fairly large pinch in the  lower-ish right section of my back. \n\nThese pains WILL stop me in my tracks if I'm walking or sitting and because they are so painful.  It's sharp, consistent, and debilitating as it always catches me by suprise. I never know it's coming and each time it happens am doin something different.  I've heard about pinched nerves or muscles but no amount of heat, cold, massage, or  cream makes it go away. Usuallly lasts for about 15 minutes at a time. \n\n I don't slouch too much and I'm not the skinniest person in the world but by no means overweight. I used to work in professional kitchens and this annoying pain of mine has forced me to get a desk job.  \n\nDoes anyone else experience this?", "summary": "I need help or advice on curing my pinching back pains."}
{"id": "t3_xhrk0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So today I found out something about my past relationship that changed my entire view of it. Have any other Redditors found/pieced together information about a past relationship that completely changed your view of it?", "post": "So today I finally pieced together the reasons for why my past relationship broke down.\n\nAt first I thought it was because of something I did(or didn't do) and I was beating myself senseless right after the break-up trying to find out what I did wrong and fix it (purely as a self-improvement thing). \n\nWell today I was looking through my chat logs(an old habit) and realized that the warning signs were sown long ago. \n \nI.) Several messages at odd times of the Night of her asking if I will get angry if she hugged her Ex. (Future note: receiving this message should have clued me in, but I was so infatuated at the time I didn't really put too much weight on it.\n\nII.)Frequent Movie visits to movies I had invited her to watch with her \"Brother\", and several visits with her \"girlfriends\" towards the end of the relationship. Which she flat out denied me from even visiting after (for lunch, FroYo and the like)\n\nIII.) Limiting eye contact and constant denial and (soft) refusal to spend time. Tons of excuses such as \"needing to take care of the nephews\", and having a family movie night... EVERY SINGLE TIME I planned something for us to do. To the point that she can't even reserve a weekend for us 4 weeks in advance(Vegas Trip).\n\nIV.)Finding from one of her friends that she was infatuated with her Ex-BF for a year after the breakup, which ended around the same time I start dating her.\n\nI used to feel like I was in the wrong. As if the whole blowout were due to my faults... as if I said something or did something so incredibly bad as to change someone's opinion of me overnight.... but today's revelations taught me that no matter how smart a girl is... she doesn't necessarily know what the hell she wants half the time.", "summary": "TIL my ex-gf was simply using me as a temporary distraction from her woes and seemed to have only hooked up with me so she wouldn't feel left out come Valentines Day. "}
{"id": "t3_14yz7r", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [22 F] have come to the realization that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life. Any advice on how to be happy with that?", "post": "*I'm not really sure if this belongs here, because its more about anti-dating (so to speak), so if I should put it somewhere else please just let me know!*\n\nI've never been kissed, been asked out, had sex, in a relationship, etc. I've been through college and am almost done with grad school, live in a city, have a large social circle, have a job, and am constantly doing fun things and yet I've never met anyone who's been remotely interested in me romantically.\n\nI'm assuming that I give off bad vibes that people find unappealing from a romantic standpoint. Additionally I know that I'm extremely unattractive (or so I've been told), which I'm sure doesn't help anything. I have a pretty strong feeling that I'm never going to be loved romantically, and I'm tired of being miserable about it. \n\n**So, does anyone have any advice on how to accept that you're going to be \"forever alone\"? And, furthermore, does anyone have advice on how to be happy and content with that knowledge?** \n\nI should mention that I don't have *any* single friends, which means relationships are a constant part of my social interactions (which is totally fine because I adore all of my friends' significant others, but hard because it reminds me that I'll probably never have that). This makes it even more important to me that I be happy knowing I'll be alone - I don't want to be that bitter, single friend.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "I'm beginning to understand that I'm going to be \"forever alone,\" and need advice on how to be happy with that."}
{"id": "t3_3i0ywm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my wife manscape my nether region. NSFW + Pics", "post": "Before showering this morning, I asked my wife to get the hair clippers out and trim my neck.  I had the shower warming up and took a seat on the toilet and she got to it.  I took a quick glance in the mirror to confirm she had done a good job.  While, I'm standing nude admiring my newly trimmed neck, she asks if I want her to trim up my 21st digit.  I told her, \"Sure, go ahead.\"  She quickly trims up my man bush.  I thanked her and start to get into the shower.  Before I can get in, she asks if I want her to clean up my danglies.  My first thought is, \"Hey, she may want to touch this later.\" So, I say \"Go for it.\"    \n\nMistake.    \n\nI forgot the guard was off on the clipper.  The first bit of skin it touched got caught in the devilish oscillating blades.  Ow. Ow. Ow. I yell. She yells.  I'm bleeding.  Not bad, mind you....but, I'm still leaking crimson fluid from my second and third most prized possessions.  \n\nNSFW - Man balls 'n blood.", "summary": "Do your own ball shaving."}
{"id": "t3_116mbh", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "High school kid and scared", "post": "Reddit, I'm legitimately scared of my future. I'm 18 and a senior in high school and I feel this immense pressure from school, parents, and friends, but I don't think I can do anything about it. I feel like I'm in over my head with most of my classes and even though I understand most of the material, it's just too much work altogether for me to handle. I've had people tell me to drop down in my classes, but I've been programmed my whole life to shoot for only the highest success, but the problem is I can't handle the baggage that comes with it. I'm scared that if I mess up now, i'm limiting what I can do with my future. I hear all the time about how these are the most important years of my life and if I don't do well, it'll all hit the fan from there. But the biggest problem is that I procrastinate it all. As soon as I even think about starting my school work, I just think of how much effort it'll take and how I'll never get any of it done. And I've tried looking at it piece by piece, but that doesn't work at all. When I'm not doing school work, I'm trying to fight over my social anxiety. I force myself to go out because I don't want to feel like a bum, and when I'm with my friends I just sit and think about how I don't contribute to being there and people judge everything I say. Half the time I sit around stone faced while on the inside I have a full blown panic attack about what I'm doing with my life.\n\nReddit, I just want some advice from people who have felt the same, just so I know that this really isn't as bad as I make it seem.", "summary": "High school kid with first world problems stressing about everything, and I don't know how to deal with it."}
{"id": "t3_15g8po", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I thought I was obvious, Reddit what do you think?", "post": "Hey, here is a brief summary of our current situation. So I have been friends with this girl for almost a year. This semester (I am in 3rd year university) I haven't been able to get her off my mind. She has had an on and off relationship, but still I am the guy she turns to on a regular basis. I buy her drinks, food (when we go out in a group), walk her home, ect. My friends all see that I like her, and they like hanging out with here (which is a major thing her on and off guy's friends don't). Recently, I have been more forward especially since she is ~= off with the other guy. I sent this message and got this reply. It went better than I expected. Reddit, am I still friendzoned, or do you think she knows I was asking her out?", "summary": "Like this girl, have possibly been friendzoned but my friends see that we have a connection despite her on and off bf. Was I forward in asking her out and does she know?"}
{"id": "t3_3yvgsa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F) with my boyfriend (20M) of 5 years. How important are friends outside the relationship?", "post": "My boyfriend and I met in high school, and we now attend the same college.  We've always had each other, and never really branched out much.  Lately my boyfriend has been doing some reading and he's heard a lot about the benefits of having friends outside the relationship.  He's looking up stuff on how to make friends and is encouraging me as well.\n\nReddit, I'm not really interested in making other friends.  I don't have the time or energy.  Classes, job, and other commitments are so much that I barely have time for boyfriend.  How am I supposed to shoehorn other randoms into my life?\n\nIs making friends outside the relationship really necessary?", "summary": "Boyfriend is interested in making friends.  I'm not.  Is this really a requirement?"}
{"id": "t3_1eqx51", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] have a friend [20f] that has become no fun to hang out with and can dump her problems on me. I still care about her, but I don't know what to do.", "post": "(the title of the post doens't explain this all too well; read on)\n\nA friend of mine, lets call her sue, and I have known each other for a long time. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of three years and I know that she is going through a lot of personal psychological issues on top of that. I do not particularly enjoy hanging out with her any more - she has changed, talks mostly about herself and things that I don't care too much about, but I'm sure she must be very alone right now and I definitely feel guilty that I have not been there for her. I have a lot of personal issues myself and I can feel overwhelmed when she \"dumps\" (that term is a bit of an exaggeration) her problems on me as she can sometimes do when we hang out together.\n\nAll of her personal issues aside, I really want the best for her. She has been messaging me and texting me lately and the safest course of action seemingly is not to respond, so that's what I've been doing. She obviously sees through this and I feel terrible about it. I feel terrible blowing her off and ignoring her as if she's not really a person but I cannot imagine how I would go about being honest with her about any of this. I worry that if I show her support she'll kind of cling on to it, and that, once again, would be very overwhelming. What's my best course of action?\n\nI hope I explained this well, feel free to ask any more questions if need be. Thanks very much for reading, and thanks in advance for any replies.", "summary": "a friend of mine is alone and going through hard stuff and judging off of everything I know about her would be pretty overwhelming to help her out, as much as I want to. So far I have ignored her as a result and I don't like that I'm doing this. What else can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2ibbxm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By venting my anger", "post": "So I am currently a junior in college, living off campus for the first time with 2 of my mates. A few weeks ago, one of my housemates used a baking pan of mine. He waited 2 or 3 days to wash it and it stained the pan. Yesterday, he's heating up a frozen pizza on it and cuts it was what seems to be a butcher knife. He left 2 massive gauges in it. It really pissed me off but I went to my other buddies first to tell them about it. I told them what was wrong and asked if I was overreacting. They said I kinda was (I don't really think I was). I decided not to tell him about it because, it's a pan, whatever. Fast forward to today, he comes into my room with a new pan and angrily says to me \"I went and bought you a new pan because apparently ones with scratches in 'em don't work anymore.\" Then he huffs and walks out. It's not even the pan that I'm mad about necessarily, it's that he treat my stuff like crap. That's what really pisses me off. Because I know if I treated his stuff like that, he'd be just as pissed as I am. I'm also pissed that my friends girlfriend decided to tell him about me being pissed off. But I'm not even going to say anything to her because apparently expressing my feelings is wrong...", "summary": "Housemate fucked up baking pan. I got pissed. Told my friends. He finds out. Buys new pan and now hates me."}
{"id": "t3_1gt3p3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to help my gf with her hatred toward her ex? It's negatively affecting our relationship.", "post": "So we've been dating for about 8 months. For the most part, everything is great. We communicate well with each other. We are open. Our sex life is good. I love her and she makes me happy. \n\nHowever, before we were dating, she was in a relationship that ended badly. Out of the blue, her boyfriend became an asshole and dumped her. Less than a week later he was dating another girl. The timing was not a coincidence. That relationship was her first real relationship and it had a big impact on her. \n\nThe breakup was terrible for her and he never apologized or said anything besides \"we are breaking up\". She's had no closure. But we all sometimes see each other through mutual friends and it spurs up the hatred she has for him even more. \n\nShe has told me that she still has a lot of hatred for both her ex and the girl he is currently with. She wants him to regret and suffer for what he did to her. To want her back, but know that he can't because she loves me now. She feels bad that she's not over it by now. She wants to focus on us but its hard sometimes and she sells up with hate. \n\nI've told her that its a reality that he may never apologize, and that she shouldn't take his not apologizing as anything bad about herself or her relationship with me now. \n\nHow can I help her cope with it if she is realistically not going to receive any closure from him? She feels that it's a problem interfering with her relationship with me now, and she wishes she wasn't filled with this hate. I'm interesting to hear your guys' thoughts on this. Thank you.", "summary": "My girlfriend had a bad breakup. Still hates ex. Her hatred is getting in the way of our current relationship. How can I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_1rq6fv", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Neighbor's cat wishes she was my cat- Is there an appropriate course of action here?", "post": "I have a cat named Link. He's nearly four and we adopted him nearly a year ago. The neighbor's got a cat about 6 months ago that we call \"Gray Kitty.\"\n\nGray Kitty really like Link. I mean, some mornings when I let him out, she's already waiting for him and she's frequently with him when he wants to come in. She seems to like him more than he does her, but he's a really mellow cat and there's clearly no animosity there. Gray Kitty is extremely affectionate and I find her hanging out on our back porch a lot or coming to greet me when I get home. Being the cat-loving human I am, I frequently give her a few pats before going in. \n\nThe problem is that Gray Kitty has gotten into our house like a dozen times now. Any time the door is open, she's in, bolting towards the food. It doesn't help that our back door will swing open if it's not deadbolted and we won't notice. The other day, we looked down and she was under the coffee table, just strolled right in. \n\nI know that she belongs to our neighbors and she appears well-fed, just starved for attention. She also had some matting in her fur that I brushed/cut out to the best of my abilities. I think her owners feed her, but I don't know how loved she is. Whenever she gets in, we typically let her stay for a minute or two and then toss her out again. I would kind of want to kidnap her because she really is a sweetheart, but I know her owners and I'm not a catnapper. I mean, she purred the entire time I was brushing her. My cat acts like I'm torturing him and gets wary as soon as he sees the brush.", "summary": "Neighbor's cat wants me to adopt her. I'm a cat lover, but not a cat thief. Is there a certain course of action I'm supposed to follow here?"}
{"id": "t3_23f5gk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] looking for advice to let go of my fiance [24 F] after 8 years of being together.", "post": "Hello, I am seeking for advice, or basically anything on what to do. My fiance was having a 'serious' long relationship with some other guy she has never met from  Switzerland. We been together since highschool and everything has always been good, or that's what I thought. I discovered this other relationship by accident and since then we been fighthing for three straight months. She is going to visit him by the end of the month and she is completely 'decided' on that. I don't know what happened. We spend new years together. I live two hours from her and I try to visit her and she tries to visit me. We talked every day and skyped but she has this infatuation and she actually believes everything the guy tells him. I'm completely lost, I ask her to talk to me but she just hangs up or threatens me.", "summary": "my fiance has a relationship with someone she has never met and is going to visit him and throw away our almost 9 years of being together."}
{"id": "t3_2osnz3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to save a squirrel", "post": "I was driving home after work today when I see this squirrel being attacked by these two small bitch dogs.  I pulled my car to the side and tried to chase the unattended dogs away.  When I walked over to the dogs and the squirrel, the dogs didn't move, so I had to yell at them to get away.  I am standing in a stranger's yard yelling \"Bad dogs! No! Get out of here!\"\n\nAfter the dogs ran off, I walked back to my car, just as it started to rain.  As soon as I reached my car, one of the dogs ran back over and shook the squirrel to send it flying.  I ran back over to yell some more.  By this point, the neighbors have come out side to stare at me.  I am getting drenched in my business clothes as I yell at the little bitch dog.\n\nThe dog ran off again, and as it did, the neighbors (not the ones who owned the dogs\u2026 They were never seen) asked what I was doing.  I told them that I was a huge animal lover and can't stand to see an animal in pain.  I then told them that I would be back with a net to relocate the injured squirrel to a new location, away from the little terrors. \n\nAfter getting a net and a bucket, I went back over to scoop up the squirrel.  I feel pretty crazy at this point.  I am drenched in business clothes, chasing a squirrel who is too weak to climb a tree, but fast enough to get away from me.  I eventually catch him and release him down the road into a big tree, where I am sure he will eventually die.  I am soaking wet, but feel like I did my best \u2013 and on a second thought, I am going to bring some dog food to put by the tree, just in case he is hungry.", "summary": "I yelled at a stranger's dogs because they were tormenting a squirrel that isn't going to make it anyways, in the rain, as the neighbors watched."}
{"id": "t3_3bhgjp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm just really lonely", "post": "Yeah. What it says on the tin. Besides the fact that I lost all of my friends except one, I have zero body confidence and I seriously hate myself. all I want to do is feel something. I used to struggle from self harm and the urges have been really strong lately but I'm in recovery and am doing relatively well. I am so numb and sad but it hurts all at the same time. I am so lonely all i want is to be kissed and held and cuddled and fucked into oblivion. But I cant, because every time I get close (which has been once this year) I get too scared and I wimp out because I am fat and ugly and not good enough and just FUCK.", "summary": "FUCK ME OR CUT ME"}
{"id": "t3_1lcj8v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ex (21/F) and I (20/M) have split up after a 7 month relationship. How to keep NC when we are in the same club?", "post": "Hi all,\n\nShe was my first girlfriend and it was a wonderful, loving relationship. Going into it, she didn't want anything long term but liked me so much that it lasted much longer than she thought it would. We loved each other but we knew it would not last long-term because she will graduate in May and go off to grad school somewhere. When she told me this couldn't work, she was sobbing as she told me she loved me. This was about 4 days ago, on dorm move-in day. I have been up-and-down the last few days. Sometimes I feel great and sometimes I feel like a sack of shit because I miss her so damn much. I want to do my best with NC for a while.\n\nWe are both in a club at college that meets once a week. I am wondering if it violates NC if I go to the club meetings. I won't talk to her, but I don't know if just being in the same room is a good idea. At the same time, I don't want to let her impact on my life. She introduced me to the club and I joined while we were together. I am thinking of skipping this week's meeting and going to the next one, just for the sake of a little bit of time apart. What should I do?", "summary": "Exgf and I broke up 4 days ago amicably. We agreed on NC. We are both members of a club at college. Does going to the club meetings violate NC (even if I do not talk to her)? Or should I just skip the first meeting?"}
{"id": "t3_tc5we", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Getting Over Her", "post": "So, stuff like this pops up around reddit all of the time. I have seen it with my own eyes, but I want to get this off of my chest.\n\nI was dating this girl for awhile, about a year and a month or two. We met freshman year of uni basically when I moved in and a month later we were going out. Because of this all of my friends are awkwardly her friends. Either way, when we \"broke up,\" but it was a soft break... I kissed her goodbye before I got on my train home from uni for winter break and she went home and is away this semester for an internship. \n\nThis semester has been hard because I tried talking to her online, not realizing that we were actually broken up for sure (not just breaking because of distance). At the same time she dumps more reasons on me as to why we have broken up. Throughout this I got aggravated, because she was not upfront when we broke up. So after telling me she needs sometime to find herself and be single (100% no ties to me). She gets an OkCupid and is now going out with a guy long distance at another uni in my area (Northeastern). Which completely contradicts the reasons she gave me for breaking up, besides the ones which point to me being a bad person.\n\nThis girl was always a little odd I suppose, but I really loved her. She broke up with me a month after we started dating, but I somehow won her back. She sticks with guys traditionally, but also is a little flighty and doesn't make solid decisions, ever (changed majors every semester or more)...\n\nIt has been 4 months, I am still not 100% over her and she is coming back to the area for the summer (I am staying in the city this summer). I am worried about my old friends, my new friends (which she feels she has claim to) and just my happiness in general. I still love this girl a little, but I mostly just want to move on. I want to see new people get more experience.", "summary": "Me and a girl broke a few months ago. I am not 100% over it, but I want to be."}
{"id": "t3_wnbxq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I dont know how to handle this situation.", "post": "I'm a 23 year old female who just ended things with a previous rebound relationship (22m) that lasted about 7 months. A few days after I had finally made the decision to end things, a friend of mine confessed his feelings for me. We will call this friend John (27) . I met John around the same time I started dating the rebounder. We hit it off as friends. I rarely ever saw him, but we would talk here and there. I should also probably mention that John has a girlfriend. When John told me of his feelings, I admitted to my mutual feelings for him. I asked if we could talk about it, and he refused. I saw him this past weekend, and he kissed me. I was extremely intoxicated. This happened multiple times over the course of the night. He even came into bed with me where things continued. I ended things with the rebounder the next day, and John left to talk to his girlfriend. I dont expect him to end things with her, I even told him that. I know that I need to be single right now, and collect my thoughts. I just can't help that thinking that hes everything I've needed and wanted for a long time, and I don't know how to handle this. I know I have to back away and let them work their relationship out, but a part of me wants this.. Reddit, I should just walk away right?", "summary": "Hooked up with friend who has a girlfriend, while still being in a rebound relationship. I don't know how to handle the aftermath."}
{"id": "t3_31uvck", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Texting long distance - I(21M) am wondering if should a girl(21F) play heart to get?", "post": "So I met this gorgeous girl online (She is real, don't worry I made sure of that) We chatted a little bit more in the beginning than we do now and if I must think of where the turning point was, I think it was when we exchanged photo's of ourselves, she clearly said she liked the way I look.\n\nIt's only been about 3 weeks that we've been chatting and recently she has started ignoring some messages and by ignoring I mean she would ignore a message and then I send another then she would answer that one... \n\nAny suggestions? I think she is interested in me though. Usually this wouldn't bother me but I am planning on moving relatively close to her in the near future (Not specifically for her, I always wanted to go there) and also she is probably the most beautiful woman I have seen in my life and I love everything about her.\n\nSo I'm wondering do you think a girl should play hard to get in a situation like this? Because she ignores some questions that I ask about her, and I need to know more of her... right?", "summary": "Long distance texting, Playing hard to get?"}
{"id": "t3_3b2pwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF[21 M] of 2 years suddenly never wants to have sex with me [21 F] anymore.", "post": "For the past month, my BF has completely stopped initiating any form of sexual contact. We snuggle all the time and talk about getting married, he just never wants to have sex (unlike the rest of our relationship where he wanted it ALL the time). \n\nI'm fairly in shape (5'6\" and 129 lbs.) but I can't help but think it's something about me physically that he's just not attracted to anymore. We recently moved in together plus it's summer so we're on break from college and I think that maybe after being around me so much he just doesn't really think of me as a sexual partner. \n\nAm I freaking out too much about this? Or is there another possibility for why he's suddenly changed from having a really high libido to none at all and I'll just have to wait it out?", "summary": "BF never wants sex anymore. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_mcc5p", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "New to dating. What's considered appropriate intimacy for dates?", "post": "Early 20s M. \n\nObviously, this answer dependent on the people and situations involved, but...what's considered a typical level of intimacy for dates? \n\nBackstory for why I'm even asking:\n\nAll my past relationships I've kind of...stumbled into somehow or another. Hard to explain..um...I guess what I mean is I've never just cold asked someone out and did the whole \"formal\" dating thing. It's always been friends straight into lovers and whatnot. \n\nI met a cute girl through a friend recently, she's interesting and we get along pretty great so I asked her out on a date. It was a pretty informal thing, we just went to a show together. Anyhoo. I had fun, and I know she did too. We danced (near each other, not with each other *awk me*), talked a lot, shared some laughs, and generally got to know each other. Peachy. So when I dropped her off, the awkward hit like a sack of bricks in the face. I suddenly got nerved up and I think I came across as just...completely uninterested. So parting ways I think I said something ambiguous and unromantic like \"See you around\". There was this instant wipe of disappointment and then she said \"Can I at least get a hug?\" and I happily obliged but...it kind of threw off my entire view of the night. I mean I am so afraid of being too fast or rushing into anything...but of course I wouldn't mind something a little more romantic myself. Now I'm just wondering what people expect out of these formal dates. What's the norm? I feel like I really let down her expectations or something, and I feel like a dick. I'm going to call her of course and try to go on another, but I don't want to have this happen again.", "summary": "New to dating. What do most people expect going into this? What's typical? How do I politely escalate from dating? Merp."}
{"id": "t3_16pzlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [f 20] have been \"casually\" seeing a male [20] for almost a year, but we're not in a relationship.", "post": "Okay, so last year I met this guy through some friends and we hit it off instantly. We made excuses to see eachother and be alone, and after a few weeks of this, I went home with him from the bar for sex. At the time, I wasn't really looking for a relationship, since in a couple months I was headed home to work for the whole summer. We hooked up a few more times before school ended though.\n\nThis school year, the first night we are both back we make a point to see eachother, and end up hooking up. We have hooked up sporatically a bunch of times since, but haven't really talked about what it means.\n\nI notice each time we're together he's a little more cuddly, and more interested in spending time with me or just talking, but hasn't formally asked me out.\n\nI'm afraid to ask how he feels cause I'm pretty much fine with our relationship being mainly sexual.\n\nDo you think this is normally more than an extended hook-up? Should I bring up the topic of if what we've been doing means something?", "summary": "Been having sex with a guy for a year, are we permanently stuck in the hook-up zone?"}
{"id": "t3_26wdno", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36F] with my recent \"boyfriend\" [44 M] few weeks, he kind of rejected me when I told him to get together now I do not want to see him at all", "post": "I am writing this with the premise we are both adults, we meet and I was really into him. It took him a while to get my hints, we had a few wonderful dates together. All over each other.\n\nI wanted to spent the night tonight and ask him and he basically rejected me. So I said ok, we are not little kids here, I get it. So after a while he changed his tune and said sure come over but now , nope the moment is gone and I would rather stay home. \n\nI already told him, I prefer to stay home. I told him that. I have an issue with rejection and I can't handle it. I basically stayed in a very long marriage to a man who treated me like a piece of sh.... and rejected me many times. I do not believe this guy should be all over me and if he is not at this point of the relationship, I dont want it.\n\nI don't know how to just be nice and polite and say listen it is ok if you do not want me. I just do not like to be rejected and maybe we could go back to being just friends.", "summary": "I have issues handling rejection, BF rejected me"}
{"id": "t3_m48jd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's your scariest moment while driving or in a car?", "post": "I would love to hear some stories of scary shit that has happened. \n\nOf course it's obvious I'll start with my story!\n\nThis actually happened a few weeks ago. I was driving to pick my wife up from our apartment. I live in a pretty big town with crazy/homeless people populating it.  On my way, I was stopped by a red light. I was the only car around and out of no where this homeless guy runs in front of my car. I was already stopped because of the red light. He acted like I was going to hit him. Whatever not a big deal right?\n\nWell he starts to walk away, turns around and starts cursing at me and flips me off. I'm not one to take this from people, so I naturally flip him back off and exchange my \"kind\" words. He gets pissed and kicks my car. If I didn't drive a new BMW I probably wouldn't have been to mad.  So I turn into a drive way and scream at him. He starts charging at me, I open my trunk and pull out my 3 wood. He stops dead in his tracks while I laugh at him. I thought it was pretty random.", "summary": "Stopped at red light, crazy homeless kicks my car, almost hit him with a golf club."}
{"id": "t3_35mivr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by missing my exam", "post": "(*Wow, a missed-exam TIFU, how original!*)\n\nMy university offers a free 1-year language course to all students, so, naturally, I took advantage of it. \"It's just like a GCSE refresher,\" I was told, \"It'll be easy.\" I was lied to.\n\nFor the last year, I've spent 2 continuous hours every Monday sitting in Level 1+ French. To give you some idea of just how awful these lessons were, imagine a beetle making a nest inside your skull. Now imagine it's droning on about verb conjugation as it nestles into the contours of your brain. But hey, at least I'm getting a shiny certificate.\n\nIn due time, a written exam appeared on my university timetable, and an email asked me to book my oral exam, so I went ahead and did as I was told, although I had no real intention of sitting in a room with the man who had made dozens of hours of my life a living brain-beetle hell and telling him about my daily routine. So I checked the website just to ensure I could pass without attending the oral. It confirmed that I could.\n\nIt also confirmed that the listening portion of the assessment happened a week ago, and that they didn't see much point in informing me of the date and time of their exam because they think I care enough to pro-actively check the website regularly.\n\nSo now I can't pass, and the 40-odd hours of brain-beetle hell were entirely in vain. Whoops. At least my actual academic department is clever enough to put all my exams on my timetable -- I think.", "summary": "Tortured for hours by the French Inquisition, didn't even get a certificate for my troubles"}
{"id": "t3_3leua3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] agreed to go on a date with a crazy stalker girl[17F], now she has told her friends and some of my friends that we were together and I left her after we engaged in intercourse.", "post": "So I meet this girl that had a huge crush on me. She wouldn't leave me alone, like she would draw picture of me and send them to me over facebook, at my graduation ceremony from school she ran up and hugged me and wouldn't let me go until I went berserk and told her to get off me. Our friend circles blended over a little and I felt quite bad for blowing my lid at her at my graduation cause it might've been kinda embarrassing since she was in the grade below me, and she asked me to go out on a date with her and if I don't enjoy it I'll never have to deal with her again. \n\nSo I went on this date with her, didn't enjoy it mainly cause she just sat there in silence. So it was time for me to drive her back home, she gets in and starts striping down and I told her I'm really not in the mood and she eventually started putting her clothes back on. She kept up her side of the promise and I never had to deal with her again. \n\nDuring my mid-semester break I met up with another girl that was pretty cool, we kept in contact while I was at uni. Now this girl met the crazy one and asked me what happened with this other girl cause she said \"We [plzhelpme121] dated for a while and then when we got to have sex and then I left her\". \n\nNow that my mid-semester break is coming up soon I wanted to see if I could pursue something with the sane girl, which I have explained myself to and I don't know what to do and don't feel like dealing with this shit atm.", "summary": "Agreed to go out on a date with a girl, find out that she told a bunch of people we were together and I left her after we had sex and then left her cause that's all I wanted."}
{"id": "t3_2z1nh7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my mom entering a mosque.", "post": "Today, i fucked up really hard.\n\nIt all started this morning while I was scrolling down my Instagram. I noticed someone that did this weird thing with his hair and i actually really liked it. And since I'm 16 I taught it'd be a good idea to ask my parents before i get a new haircut, and so I asked.\n\nIt turned out that the haircut was 'inappropriate' for a 'handsome young man' like me.. And that the haircut was for criminals and football players. And yes, my parents are very Catholic. After i continued arguing and saying that you can't say if someone is a 'bad guy' just by his hairstyle, my dad got really mad and told my mom that i needed a haircut right now.\n\nSo my mom took me downtown and right in to the first barber shop we saw. And there all my hair got cut off. Since I am black i don't actually mind because it will grow back within some weeks. But deep down I still was freaking mad. While we were walking back to our car my mom saw a cute second hand shoe vendor and asked me if I wanted to take a look. First i couldn't really care but after taking a second look at the store I saw a medium size blue sign which read: Mosque' or something like that. I looked in my mom's eyes and saw she hadn't read that sign. So I just played along and said that I didn't feel very well but that I wouldn't mind if she went to take a look. And so she did.\n\nAfter not even a minute there were already 2people escorting her of the mosque and telling her that she should read better and some other things that i couldn't understand.", "summary": "I was mad at my mom for forcing me to get a haircut. So I let her go in to a mosque while she thought it was a shoe store."}
{"id": "t3_4jhrnv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18 M] just want to confess to her [18 F] but just need a push", "post": "(Throwaway because she uses Reddit as well)\n\nI have been crushing on a girl, we'll call her Amy, for a while now. Amy and I met while participating in the same school club over a year ago, and started getting closer a few months.\n\nAt first I didn't think much about Amy, but after we started meeting up outside of club activities, I started to develop feelings for Amy. I never really thought it would happen (because I never thought Amy would be my type) but it happened. I guess the heart knows best.\n\nA few weeks ago while Amy and I were out drinking, she came back to my place and spent the night. We didn't do anything besides hold hands the whole way back (because it would be wrong since we were drinking)\n\nThe school club is very important to the both of us, and I don't want to ruin that for us, however I feel like if I don't tell her how I feel, I will regret it for an extremely long time. Is it greedy for me to confess?\n\nI guess what I'm looking for is just some advice, inspiration, a push, or just guidance on this, I really care about her and like her. Thank you!", "summary": "Got close to a girl in the same school club, started liking her, don't want to ruin club-relationship, but feel the need to confess."}
{"id": "t3_wcsu6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does the name/location of my post-secondary institution matter?", "post": "Here's the deal.\nI am going into business administration (focusing on accounting probably.. want my CA hopefully in the future :] ) at my local  college. I move around a lot, so I was thinking maybe I should move somewhere else to do it... get a different experience, you know? I just don't know if there is any monetary value in doing so.\nLike, which of the two things is more likely to happen?\nEmployer interviewing me to be an accountant says \"Oh, you graduated from X college. I've heard great things!\"\n\nOR.\n\nEmployer interviewing me to be an accountant says \"Oh, you graduated (with good marks), period.\"", "summary": "is there any reason to think there is prestige in graduating from some colleges but not others that will affect my career?"}
{"id": "t3_2xocb9", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Children were screaming outside when I was trying to sleep, but not for long.", "post": "Sorry for any grammatical errors, etc. Typed this on my tablet.\n\nI work at a bakery and have to get up really early in the morning, so I try to be asleep around 8:30 or 9. These kids have been giving my family trouble for a while, so I already dislike them. \n\nAnywho, it was a Friday night and I was dozing off a little later than normal, around 10ish. Then all of a sudden I hear screaming outside my window (I keep it open because the fresh air relieves my asthma a bit) and after 15 minutes of hoping it will stop, I get up to investigate. \n\nI look outside and see about 10 kids around 9-12 years old running around the cul-de-sac chasing each other. All over the cul-de-sac, around my car, in our garden (destroying our flowers), etc. I don't care if they want to play outside at 10 in the evening, but why do they have to scream at the top of their lungs and run through the garden and destroy things? \n\nI head downstairs out of anger (because after closing the window, I can still hear them loud and clear) and get some water when I have an idea. I grab my car keys and wait. One of the kids decides to run behind my car and another tries to catch him and bangs into my car. So I hit the panic button and watch them scatter. This happens one more time and finally they shut up and go inside and I get to finally go to sleep. \n\nIt was so satisfying.", "summary": "Kids were keeping me awake by screaming while they were running in the garden destroying things, so I hit the panic button on my car to scare them off."}
{"id": "t3_19o7yi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My boyfriend's mom is having the worst day.", "post": "This morning, she and her boyfriend broke up. We've been here with her doing normal breakup things -- eating a lot, watching trashy TV, etc. -- when she suddenly asks my bf where her other TV is.\n\nHe goes...Huh, I don't think I've seen it.\n\nGo back a few months, she was letting some of her other son's friends stay at the house because they had nowhere else to go. They all have criminal records, mostly for theft. The TV was here...until they all left (when my bf's brother got locked up, so it didn't make sense for them to stay anymore).\n\nShe's going absolutely crazy now, ransacking the place as if the TV's going to be in a drawer or something. :/ She's also drunk, which isn't helping things much. I feel so bad...", "summary": "Some kids who were staying at my bf's mom's house *probably* stole her TV and she found out on the worst possible day."}
{"id": "t3_4az12x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] was told by her [30F] that she doesn't know if she 'likes me' or 'likes me as a friend'", "post": "I met a woman a few weeks ago and we've been on three dates. In my eyes, all three went pretty well and I was getting good vibes from her. She was a bit delayed when responding to texts, but I tried not to think about that too much. \n\nFast forward to yesterday's third date. We meet at a bar and have a few drinks. Everything is going well and we decide to part ways. I ask her something like \"so hey, would you like to get together sometime next week?\" She looks at me and says \"look, I like you, but I can't tell if I just like you as a friend or if I actually like you. I'll text you.\"\n\nI basically said if she's not feelin it, she's not feeling it. I told her that I did enjoy her company and I wanted to see her again. She thanked me. Now I understand I probably got let down the easy way, which is fine, but normally I'd just move on to the next relationship and not look back... But there's something about her that I like I don't want to give up on so easily.\n\nIf I don't hear back from her within a few days, is it acceptable for me to text her something like \"look, I know you're unsure about your feelings but I just want to make it clear that I like you and I want to see you again. I'm not looking for a friendship.\"? Or should I wait it out and only text her back once she's texts me (if that actually happens)?\n\nI know this is a lame post, but I've never been in a situation like this before :-/", "summary": "after the third date, I was told \"I don't know if I like you or if I just like you as a friend. I'll text you.\" I need some advice on the next step."}
{"id": "t3_148h7l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would you really do it?", "post": "Would any of you really go back and kill Hitler? All you have is a one way ticket, in the form of a time machine, back to the date and a weapon. You'd have to pick a date before his rise, because even if you could get through his supporters and guards and kill him you would just be making him a martyr. In my mind, you would have to do it earlier before he was a public figure, but then, in history's eyes, you would just be killing an innocent man and you would be nothing more than a murderer. Would you sacrifice your life, whether it be to imprisonment, death penalty, or in pursuit of the death of Hitler, if you could?\n\nThis applies to basically any dictator, villain, tyrant, or even just a person you really don't like, but I choose Hitler because of a comic I read about it.", "summary": "Would you really kill Hitler? Think about it, think hard. Would you really risk or even sacrifice your life to kill him (or any other tyrant)?"}
{"id": "t3_12i7p5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (F/22) stop projecting my fears from a past abusive relationship (M/23) in my current relationship (M/22)?", "post": "My last relationship (4 years) was really bad. My ex-boyfriend (M/23) verbally abused me, cheated on me, and took a huge toll on my confidence.\n\nI'm (F/22) in a really great relationship now (7 months) with a new guy (M/22) who treats me so well! I truly do love him and I'm so happy :) But sometimes I still have that fear inside that this is too good to be true and that he will cheat on me or hurt my heart like the last guy did (I know there will never be a guarantee that a SO won't hurt me/cheat on me in a relationship).\n\nI think it is unfair that I worry about things like this with my new bf since he hasn't given me a reason to worry. It's just hard to not worry about being hurt again after my confidence level was severely dropped by my last bf.\nWhat can I do to get over the pain from the last relationship so that I can be confident in myself and my new relationship?\n\nNOTE: I would love opinions of people who have been through what I have! I think this situation is more than just a relationship thing. It's about gaining more confidence, moving on from past pain, and learning to trust again. Just need some advice on how to move forward please! I really appreciate it :)", "summary": "I was in a past abusive relationship which took a huge toll on my confidence and trust in people. What can I do to quit worrying about these things in my new relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_eb6ar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where to settle and live in?", "post": "Hi Reddit. I'll try to make it short, which is always hard for me.\nI now live in Poland and I'm 90% sure I want to leave in a few years. The country is not like most of you imagine it to be, no polar bears and vodka only, but it's like... not the best. You can study hard, you can work hard and then it seems you should be happy just because you have dinner everyday and can afford a pair of jeans monthly. The situation won't change, as the people are mainly idiots and keep voting for the same liars and thieves over and over again.\n\nMy plan is to start living somewhere else. What I expect is not a life of a millionaire, I dream of having a decent place to sleep and live in, my own car that is not 20 years old and of not having to chose between a pair of shoes and food for next two weeks. I want to be able to take my girlfriend to a cinema and a restaurant instead of thinking about my never-ending debt.\n\nI am 21 years old at present, I'm soon writing my BA thesis at English philology department. I am still learning the language, but I don't think I would have any problems communicating at all. I am responsible, communicative and hard-working (been working *really* hard since I was 16 years old - building site, much experience in that field). I can work anywhere as for a start, dishes, cleaning, hard physical work, doesn't really matter at the beginning. I may be going to study something else and the question here is: what to study? I have basically no problems whatever subject I choose. If you suggest a country then, please, tell me what field-related education is most needed there to get a satisfying job. I'd also like to know if it wouldn't be a better idea to start studying in the 'new' country, perhaps it would.", "summary": "the best place to move in and live happily"}
{"id": "t3_1fht89", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (21 F) left a drunk voice mail to my boyfriend (21 M). He got mad and broke up with me.", "post": "Last night, I got together with friends to have a cooking night and we all had a bit too much to drink. Drunk me thought it would be a good idea to send a lovely voice mail to my boyfriend of six months who is currently in France for vacation. Here's where my story and my (ex) boyfriend separate. When I left my voice mail, I remember saying that I wished he was here with me, that he sucked for being in France and that eating bacon weaves and potato scallops were a lot better than him. I also remember clearly saying that I loved him and goodbye. Today, however, I texted him saying that my voice mail was probably really weird, so don't listen to it. He seemed angry, so I asked him what was wrong. Apparently, in my voice mail, I got really hypocritical with him and said that the things he did were stupid and that he was dumb. I asked him what I said, but he refuses to tell me the exact thing. A friend of mine at the party, who was sober, was in the kitchen with me  and said that I never said anything horrible to him. I'm not sure what to believe because I can't really remember everything that happened, but at the same time I truly believe that I never said anything horrible enough to get broken up with. I apologized for whatever I said that hurt him, but all he said was that he could have forgiven me, but knowing that I was drunk made it worse. His last words to me were, \"Yeah, drinking is a bitch, right?\". I don't drink often, and I only do when it's a celebration, like a big get-together with old friends. Help :(", "summary": "Left a drunk voice mail to my boyfriend, boyfriend gets very angry and breaks up with me for things I don't think I said. "}
{"id": "t3_28jvo2", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slipping over.", "post": "This didn't happen today, but at the end of last year when I was starting an Art course at college.  The college just built some new buildings, all with shiny hard floors, and so us Art students were now sharing the same building as all the Mentally Challenged people, and I mean these guys are severely disabled.  A lot of the time these guys are just wandering around inside the hallways and by the social area, they don't exactly bother anyone most of the time, so everybody just let's them get on with it.\n\nSo this is the part where I fuck up, I'm walking along the hallway to the sound of Wu Tang in my ears, completely disregarding the wet floor signs everywhere, and as I'm walking past the disabled classrooms I suddenly slip on the wet floor and somehow as I'm reaching out to grab something to stop me falling, I full on smacked one of these Down Syndrome kiddies in the face.  Goes without saying that the kid starting going batshit mental and screaming for the carers.\n\nI explained that it was an accident & that I didn't have some kind of hate for the disabled kids and I think they believed me, but subsequently I kinda became known as 'the guy that punches Downies', not quite the best first impression I was hoping for..", "summary": "I slipped over and punched a disabled kid in the face."}
{"id": "t3_3fg94a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using febreze", "post": "So this happened a few years ago when I was at the tender age of 16. I had been talking to this girl for a few months, we had gone on a couple dates but I had only ever kissed her once. Anyways, it was a Saturday and she said her parents were gone for the weekend and that I should come over that night. BINGO! BigWetMoose is gonna lose his V-card tonight boys! Giddy as can be, I begin my preparations. Shit, shower and shave was the idea, but I didn't get far.  The first FU was actually showering before I shit, but I just didn't have to poop yet. Anyways, this is when the real FU happens . I'm about twenty minutes away from leaving to her house when I feel a poop coming on. Whew! Thank god, now I won't have to poop at her house right? Well, to my fear this poop was a steamy burner( one of those where you have to just sit there for like five minutes after because it burns like hell when you move) and I started to panic slightly. \"Will my butt smell later if I get naked at her house?\" \" Fuck, I should have waited to shower after I pooped, should I take another one?\" Then I spotted it. The febreze spray bottle. \"I am a god damn genius I thought\". I grab the bottle, crouch up from the toilet a little bit, and give my butthole the spray it deserved. This is also the exact moment I realized, I am in fact, not a genius. Never has anything burned so bad in my life. It was so itchy and too deep in there to itch. It was complete misery, I couldn't sit still for even a second. I made up some excuse to the girl and ended up lying in my bed all night with an ice cold rag up my ass trying to cry myself to sleep.", "summary": "febreezed my butthole, had to stick a rag up my ass, didn't get laid."}
{"id": "t3_3uzffm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with a girl I can't get enough of [22 F] she wrote me again after two months..", "post": "Hello ladies and gentlemen. \n\nI'd love to get any kind of tip/adive from you ppl to the story i'm about to tell.\n\nAround 2 years back I met a girl online. I live in Switzerland and she lives in Hungary. She used to have a boyfriend back then and played with him online all the time. I tagged along them in games where we had fun.\n \nOccasional we started to write via WhatsApp and we wrote bout kinda everything. She then broke up with him and after I supported her she got a new boyfriend. I didn't have any kind of feelings back then. But after not a long time they parted way. Again i was there to support but... I still don't really know how it happened... we got to like each other more and more. Kinda crazy since we've never met each other anyway. All of a sudden it was her all along. I was happy with her and we started to skype daily and had WAY too long nights calling each other. We decided to meet each other. \nThen I started to have worries. I still think i am not good enough for her. December (Yes this december) we wanted to meet in Budapest. I wanted to book a ticket and meet her. But I was/am still afraid.\n SO i told her I can't come and overall she shouldn't write me anymore. I told her i'd hurt her most likely and am not good enough. After  a long discussing i begged her to stop writing me. In the end she did. We said goodbye.\n\nI wanted to write her several times but thought I couldn't show her my face after what I did. Now after 2 months she wrote me \"hi\" and instead of writing her I chickened out again and ask you for help...", "summary": "I am a pussy and afraid to hurt her."}
{"id": "t3_x9vnm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most frightening/near-death experience you've had on the road, whether you were a passenger or a driver?", "post": "For me, it was a couple days ago when I was driving out to the airport for a pick up. A 18 wheeler blew a tire and the shredded bits came out and hit the car in front of me causing him to swerve into the lane left of me, where there was also a car. The car in the left lane then ran into the median divider and flipped, causing the car to rebound and spin into my lane and right into the car that was originally in front of me. Naturally I braked as hard as I could and successfully dodged all the mess and pulled over as soon as I could to see if anyone needed help. Thankfully both cars in the accident had no passengers in the car, and both of them miraculously walked away with cuts and bruises. Picked up my friends with no other incidents, but I was shaking the entire trip back home. If anyone else has something to share, I'd love to read about it.", "summary": "Exploding truck tire nearly cost me and two other people's lives."}
{"id": "t3_1djnfz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [m36] want to divorce my wife citing unreasonable behaviour (in the UK). We do not live together and she's stopped replying to my emails - I'm have sent this bullet-point list of reasons she should open communication before lawyers get involved. What should my next action be?", "post": "Letter to my wife of 12 years asking for a divorce, after I left her citing 'Unreasonable behaviour' \nShe stopped replying when I said, again, that I want to end it legally. \n\n--------------\nHi [wife],\n\nI'm sorry that you feel it's okay not to reply to me.\nHere are some facts, which I hope will encourage you to respond in a rational, adult fashion:\n\n *   I do not want to come back to live with you at [our home's name]\n\n *   We do not have a healthy and balanced relationship as husband and wife and our marriage has irretrevably broken down.\n    I will be filing for divorce as soon as is practical or necessary.\n\n *   I want a fair split of our assets and have ideas that keep disruption to your life at a minimum.\n    It is in your interest to open communication sooner, rather than later.\n\n *   I want to have a financial agreement in place before our case goes before the judge, to minimise legal expenses.\n\n *   If I continue not to hear back from you in writing, I will start legal proceedings without you.\n    Once served you will have 21 days to respond or it will be assumed that you agree with the divorce regardless.\n\n *   If I do not hear back from you before the 10th May I will reopen communication with my solicitor to see what options are available to us.\n\n *   It didn't work out and we have to move on with our lives. I hope it can be amicably, rationally and fairly.\n\n *   I am genuinely sorry that it is over.\n\nI hope to hear from you soon.\nRegards,\n[me]", "summary": "Wife not replying to 'I want a divorce' messages. What can I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_38fxfe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by punching my friend in the face.", "post": "OK, before I start I want to say that I did fuck up but I got off scotch free.\n\n  So, I was at school and was outside with my friend Mason and Eli.  We always jokingly hit each other but today was different.  I really like magic tricks so I was going to show one to someone when I tripped and got kicked in the face.  My face is actually bruised where I got kicked.  I saw mason start to run away so I thought that he kicked me.  He didn't make it far before I got a grip on him.  I didn't even really know what I was doing but I ended up tackling him and punching him straight in the nose.  Mason put his hand to his nose and then blood showed up everywhere.  Mason had to go to the nurse.  He came back and told me he was so mad that Eli had kicked him in the face.  Eli didn't even kick him but I wasn't about to tell him he didn't.  A few minuets later, someone named Joe came up and said sorry that that he was the one who kicked me in the face.  I just realized what happened.  I never told Mason and I don't plan too either.", "summary": "I punched my friend and someone else  got blamed."}
{"id": "t3_1nhpfb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my roomates [18F,24F] of two months can never shut up", "post": "I have a very busy schedule.  I work a part time job on top of taking 18 hours of heavy classes in college. \n\nI have to be up by 6 every day and often times I don't even get home until 6 or 7 at night.  From there until about 10, I usually am doing homework and then going to bed. I need a solid 7-8 hours of sleep or I simply cannot function the following day, so I try to go to bed at or near 10. \n\nMy roomates, on the other hand, have all the fucking time in the world.  Every fucking night they're inviting people over. Now, I wouldn't mind at all except they're fucking *loud*.  Like, they have no concept of \"inside voices\" at all. \n\nEvery night I have had to ask them \"please be quieter, I need to sleep and you're very loud!\" and they say \"oh yeah, sure, sorry.\" and go back to being just as loud as they originally were. My bedroom is right next to the tv/common area where they congregate, so there is no escaping it. \n\nI don't know how i feel about asking to set up house rules of QUIET TIME AFTER 10 OR 11, but I don't know what to do. I've been losing sleep, my studying and homework quality is slipping, and I am having a hard time concentrating in classes. These people stay over and are loud almost every night and don't go home until 1-4 in the morning. Every night.  I'm starting to lose my mind and don't know what to do. \n\nMy lease here ends in April and I'll move out then to a less socially inclined place, but what can I do in the mean time to survive here? I already spend the weekends elsewhere just so I can get rest, but during the week I am busy for the majority of the day and don't have the extra time to sleep elsewhere, drive home, get ready, etc.\n\nany advice is welcome. I'm going insane. I'm so stressed out that I've started to become sick.", "summary": "My roomates are fucking loud until the early hours of the morning, every night.  It keeps me up but I have a very heavy schedule and need sleep.  I'm starting to become bitter and my study habits are slipping. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2y45c4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This will probably get lost since it's almost one am, but my low sex drive is ruining my relationship. (xpost r/sex)", "post": "Hi. I feel a bit awkward posting this, and asking strangers for help with it. I'm a 21 year old female who has always had a really low sex drive, and it has actually been the cause for pretty much all of my previous relationships ending, but lately it is at an all time low. My boyfriend of eight months and I have only had sex maybe 15 to 20 times since we started dating, and the last time we did was over two months ago, as he keeps reminding me.\n\nI just moved in with him January 1st, and we haven't had sex in the time I've been living here. we both work different hours (he works graveyards, I work swing shift), so we don't see each other very often anyway.\n\nWe argue about it constantly, and we're both starting to think I'm just asexual, even though I am definitely attracted to him. We've both tried coming up with solutions, but they never stick because I forget them and he doesn't bring them up again except for when we are arguing about it. He says he doesn't try to push me into because he's trying to be understanding, but that doesn't make sense. If he was trying to be understanding, he wouldn't throw it in my face when we argue.\n\nHow can I increase my sex drive, and do I need to go to a doctor or therapist or something? Help. :(\n\n(Please do not suggest breaking up with him. I like him, and other than this we have a pretty awesome relationship.)", "summary": "my brain doesn't want to have sex and my boyfriend and i keep arguing about it with no good outcome."}
{"id": "t3_3i0j1q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting caught in a lie and making it worse", "post": "So, today my friend asked me out for a drink. I had a pretty bad day at work, so I wasn't really in the mood. She doesn't like it when I work on Saturdays (she gets worried because I'm something of a workaholic), so I decided to make an excuse. I told her I had a date.\n\nA few hours later I change my mind, and think fuck it, I want that drink. So I text her and we meet up for drinks. Her girlfriend accompanies us. So they ask me what happened to my date. I lie and tell them I cancelled. They, being women, aren't satisfied with this explanation and want to know who she is. \n\nEnter the fuck up. Instead of simply confessing my lie, or making up some random person, I decide to describe the girl I was supposed to go on a date with *next week*. About half way through my not very elaborate description, my friend's GF asks \"Oh? You had a date with [enter girl's name]? I thought she was still on vacation?\". Apparently she knows the girl I was supposed to go on a date with next week. I felt sick to my stomach from getting caught in a stupid lie. I feel a lot worse about this than I thought I would. So I just left. And now I'm at home wondering how to recover from this.", "summary": "I faked a date as an excuse to stay in, got busted, the actual date probably won't be happening, and at least three people, including my best friend, caught me lying with my pants down and bright red hands. TIFU."}
{"id": "t3_2ksqs0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Worth it applying for financial assistance for medical bills?", "post": "My wife and I have about $2,700 in medical bills (after insurance) for having a baby.  \n\nI recently applied for a new credit card that has a 15-month zero interest period specifically to handle these expenses, so if need be I can pay this and pay down the debt prior to the 15 months expiring.\n\nHere are the other facts to my situation:\n\n1. Only I work, and I make $80k annually.\n2.  We have 3 children total.\n3. Other significant debt is my wife's van that we owe about $11k on and student loans of about $26k.\n4. We live in the state of Maryland.\n5. We have about $2,500 in liquid cash.\n6. We have about $2,500 in current credit card debt (not accruing interest as it is on another 0% credit card good for another 4 months).\n\nI already called the hospital asking for a discount if I paid the balance in full but they said they don't do that.  They offered their own 12-month repayment plan.", "summary": "Just wondering if it's worth going through the hassle of applying for financial assistance or if I likely have no shot of qualifying and should just pay the bill and be done with it?"}
{"id": "t3_2u87ts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with girl I've just started dating [23F] found out her previous relationships have been with women. What do I do?", "post": "Okay I know this is going to be one of the dumbest questions you have probably ever come across but I am kind of at a loss here because this is a first for me.\n\nA girl I have just started to see, I'll call her Amanda, has been really nice.  She is pretty, funny and somewhat nerdy (which I find attractive) and we have had fun on the couple of dates we have been on.  Now I am a slow mover to begin with so there has been no advancement by me (or her) for any type of physical relationship yet, this is fine with me I kind of like to get to know a person first.\n\nBut due to a quirk of fate I found out we have  a mutual friend, female, and she told me that she was shocked that Amanda was going out with me because the last she new she was gay.  At first I thought she was kidding but she was dead serious.\n\nNow I'm kind of stressing about things because I don't know the real story here.\n\nAre we just friends and she is hanging out with me as a friend?  If she is interested in me romantically where can this go?  I am deathly afraid of falling for her and spending 3-4 years of my life only for her to wake up one day and decide that she really misses women?  \n\nI know that last one is probably not logical but that is where my brain is.\n\nDo I ask her about this?  Is that rude?  Is it any of my business?  Will she be offended or think less of me if I ask?\n\nIf I don't ask do I just go on forever pretending like I don't know?\n\nThere are a thousand other questions I want to ask but that is a pretty irrational start.\n\nAny advice on this would be very appreciated.", "summary": "Found out woman I'm seeing is either gay or bi-sexual and I don't know what to do or if I should even do anything"}
{"id": "t3_kqw0f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Service workers: is it alright for someone to ask for your number while you're working?", "post": "Last night I went to buy some gelato and the girl working there was gorgeous and incredibly nice. We made small talk for a bit and I had a hell of a time ordering because I was so caught up in her that I really didn't care what flavour I got. She seemed REALLY nice, but I couldn't tell if that was because she liked me too or if it was just how she deals with customers. She gave me a bunch of samples and it seemed that maybe she was trying to get me to stay in there longer. Either way I wound up walking out of there with a cone half the size of my head.\n\nI'm very shy but I STILL nearly asked for her number (I've never asked someone out before, any girl I've been with thus far has initiated things), but I left without saying anything. I even turned back after going about a block determined to ask but a family had come in while I was gone and she was busy with them so I grabbed an extra napkin and left again. I think I might make the trip back there next week at the same time to see if I can see her again. I don't know if I should though, she might just be a great saleswoman and I would be creating an awkward situation while she's working.", "summary": "Typical ramblings of love-sick boy, but the main question I have is: Should I ask for her # if I see her again? Or am I just falling for good salesmanship? "}
{"id": "t3_34gwc4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I might like another guy and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend is going to freak.", "post": "I really like spending time with my boyfriend, who is a pretty laidback guy. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't like me much, because he rarely texts first and his behaviour often suggests that our relationship is based on our physical chemistry; don't get me wrong, he's perfectly sweet and says a lot of the right things, but we also argue when he acts insensitively. And the other guy is my best friend--I know he likes me a lot, and we've talked about it, and I've maintained that I just want to be friends, but somehow I can't help but be really emotionally attracted to him. Breaking up with my boyfriend now (who is going off to college) would completely ruin whatever tentative plans we have for junior prom, prom, and this summer, and quite frankly waste the strong physical connection that we have. I'm really confused and I don't feel like I can tell anyone.", "summary": "I might have a stronger emotional connection with my best male friend than with my somewhat neglectful boyfriend."}
{"id": "t3_4x9tyx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by running into my garage door", "post": "This story actually happened a good few years ago. When I was younger my friends Shelby and Chris were over at my house. We were playing around, and acting a fool like normal barely teenage kids would do.\n\nWell at some point I go in the garage, and their standing outside at the garage door. We're laughing and making faces through the windows of the door when I decide to jokingly charge at it making a weird face and some strange silent hill level movements.\n\nBasically I stop too late, and end up hitting the garage door and the glass pane breaks with them outside. I get cut up a bit on my arms from the glass, and Shelby originally standing merrily outside is on the ground with a chunk of her skin cut off by a chunk of glass that shot out.", "summary": "Kids were being kids, I ran into a garage door, broke a small glass window, and now two kids are cut up and one is missing a chunk of skin."}
{"id": "t3_4rera9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning my neighbour's genetials", "post": "So this FU doesn't happened yesterday or the day after tomorrow.It happened six years ago when I was in the 7th grade.So it was diwali back then and in diwali we all play with a lot of fireworks.\nMy uncle Sam who was my next door neighbour brought a huge amount of rockets and crackers.My cousins started burning the lot.As I was quite small back then so I was not allowed to play with fireworks.So the naughty mode in me got ON.I took 3-4 rockets and went to our street and started burning them.Uncle Sam lives at the opposite side of our house.As I preparing to burn the biggest one my cousins came and saw me doing it.They all urge me not to burn it as I was inexperienced in handling them.But I ignore them and carry on with it.I put the rocket in an empty bottle (to hold) and light it up.I don't remember exactly what happened after that.But remembering now I think due to a strong breeze of air the rocket fell on the ground and it was about to blow up. We all were scared shitless to go and put it off.And as soon as I took a step it went on like the Flash and at the same time Uncle Sam opened his door and came outside.The rocked projectiled it way and landed on my Uncle's Tatas and it caught fire. And that moment was un-seen.He ran like lightening screaming My dick's on fire and somersaulted into the kid's pool.He got 2nd degree burn.\n\nI was grounded for a month.", "summary": "Trying to send a rocket on the moon.Landed on my uncle's tools and scarred him for life maybe."}
{"id": "t3_3b4dq9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Retrieving old text messages...AT&T [MA]", "post": "I've never had the need nor desire to save old text messages.  Texts stay on my phone for 30 days, then cycle off.  It turns out that I may need some old messages (the past couple months) to bolster my case, if it comes to that.\n\nI figured that it would be simple to request access through AT&T (that my old texts would be stored somewhere should they need to be retrieved.) When I called, they said there was absolutely no way that I could receive texts I've sent/received if they are no longer stored on my phone.  They said no matter if there was or wasn't a subpoena, this is simply not possible to recover.\n\nIs this accurate?! I feel as though I've read about court cases/situations where old phone records and old texts are recovered through the phone provider.  I didn't receive (or send) any damning texts, hence the reason for not saving.  If anything, the texts recovered would show that the other party is lying about past conversations.  Help?!", "summary": "is there a way for me to recover old text messages (past couple months) to/from my cell? Provider is AT&T"}
{"id": "t3_1yx6ot", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my wife [28 F] of two years wants to get a sperm donor so we can have \"attractive\" babies", "post": "My wife and I have been together for 5 years, married for 2. I always thought everything about the relationship has been great. We had always talked about having kids one day and I just assumed that meant they would be biologically mine. Within the past few weeks, we both decided that we are ready.\n\nBut my wife has now indicated that we should get a sperm donor. There is nothing wrong with my sperm (as far as I know). When I asked her why she mentioned a few medical hereditary traits she wouldn't want passed on (cancer, diabetes, and mental illness runs in my family). But as I continued to press her, I found out the real reason: she doesn't think our kids would be attractive enough with my genes.\n\nHonestly, I'm a little dazed. I think my wife is the most beautiful woman and to find out she doesn't feel the same is strange. I never questioned my appearance before. I consider myself average. But now I am confused.\n\nShould I consider having a donor? Is anyone has had a sperm donor, how did that affect the relationship with their child/wife?\n\nThanks Reddit.", "summary": "Wife doesn't think my genes are great and wants a sperm donor so we can have attractive babies and dodge some poor genetic traits. Should I consider this?"}
{"id": "t3_3cu2zp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 25/f, and I always chase after commitment phobics. I don't know where to turn now.", "post": "I don't know how to explain this. I'm not good at writing, but I wanted to try and get my feelings across. \n\nI'm angry at myself. I have always chased after non-commitment phobics. Always. I have no idea why, and it's starting to wear me down. I feel frustrated. I feel sad. But most of all, I feel so pathetic. I'm 25 years old, and can't seem to find a proper relationship. \n\nAfter over a year I finally broke it off with a guy. He has always made it clear he didn't want a relationship (his reason... 'I don't want one because everyone else does it?'). He still wanted to see me when I broke it off... I'm just not good enough for a relationship. It sound so stupid, I'm sorry if it does, but I don't think I'll ever be good enough for anyone now. I honestly believe I'll end up lonely and pissed off at men, living with dogs in my house (I prefer dogs to cats... Sorry, Reddit!)\n\nThe thing is, I think when somebody tells me they don't want a relationship... I think I see it as a challenge. I think to myself, \"I can change his mind, I might be good enough for him.\" I then become frustrated with him, and he can't understand why.\n\nI don't know what to do. I'm sick and tired of being stuck in the same relationship pattern. I just want to be with someone who is proud to be with me. Who wants to take me out all the time, do fun things together and most of all... wants to be with me. I just can't keep doing this to myself any more. I don't even know where I'm going wrong for me to end up like this. I don't want a boyfriend now... I just want to know why I'm like this.", "summary": "I can't find a boyfriend who will 'commit'. I feel like I'm stuck in a dead end... How do I date 'normal' guys"}
{"id": "t3_3jkwev", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [21/f] suspect my boyfriend [25/m] is lying to me about how well he is doing in school. Would you leave your SO just because of poor academics?", "post": "I have been dating my SO for a year and a half now. He is the sweetest guy and we have much in common. \n\nI am almost done with my UG degree. He took a two year break from college so he is a little behind. But I think he is not doing as well as he claims because he is very vague about his classes. I think he feels insecure because I am almost done with school and when he was on academic probation before we got into a HUGE argument about it. I feel like if he does not get a degree we can't have a secure future together. \n\nI feel awful for thinking that way. Am I being a total a$$ about this? What should I do?", "summary": "I [21/f] suspect my boyfriend [25/m] is lying to me about how well he is doing in school. I don't know how to confront him about it."}
{"id": "t3_2swr49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Will destroying her old letters help me [25 M] move on?", "post": "Hi r/relationships,\n\nI've lurked for a long time, and occasionally jumped into the fray with my own two cents. This community has buoyed my spirits time and time again because sometimes knowing you're not alone makes a world of difference. Now, I'm seeking the advice and experiences of redditors older and wiser than myself.\n\nLong story short: we met six years ago. Dated happily for 3.5 years, but the relationship was tumultuous for one additional year until its end. Now she's engaged to someone else, and I'm still picking up the pieces. In the year-and-a-half since the breakup, I've met wonderful women who would've loved me dearly, but I couldn't reciprocate.\n\n**I know that healing takes time, but is there any way to accelerate the process?** Lately, I'm thinking of destroying her old letters. On one hand, they're tokens of a happier time and the very thought of destroying them feels like sacrilege. On the other, I'm frustrated that my emotional baggage is holding me back when I've already exhausted one-third of my life expectancy.\n\nI'm thinking of incinerating the letters because I'm revolted by the thought of everything we shared rotting at the bottom of a landfill. I also have half of our stuffed animals, which I intend to clean and donate to a children's hospital or something. If anyone has advice on how to clean stuffed animals without them \"floofing up\" into deformed puffballs I'd appreciate it too.\n\nWhat are your thoughts? Have any of you felt better after discarding the pieces of your past? I want to thank everyone ahead of time for reading and sharing their experiences.", "summary": "Want to accelerate the healing process; seeking advice on whether destroying old memories and getting rid of stuffed animals will help."}
{"id": "t3_3q6gng", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by calling my parents during sex (NSFW).", "post": "This happened on Friday. I went to my Dom's house for some fun. Usually, he gives me very clear instructions to follow, undress, get on your knees, etc. but that day, my own inner dom wanted to get out to play. So I ignored him and started teasing him, tickling him, etc. Of course I knew I would be \"punished\" for my insolence and sure enough, after 30 seconds or so, he grabbed me around my neck, threw me on the bed, pulled my pants down just far enough to expose my ass, shoved his dick in and started hate-fucking me (it was awesome).\n\nNow, you've all read the title to this \"TIFU\" so I'm sure you can all see where this is heading. My phone has recently picked up this habit of redialing my last call when I put it in my pants. In this case, it was my parents and it seems having my pants pulled down and being hate-fucked was enough to get it to redial them...Of course I only found this out when I checked my messages on my way home and had one from mom. She's \"not sure what stunt [I'm] trying to pull\" but she's \"incredibly disappointed and disgusted with [me] and not at all impressed\". No idea if she's told dad or not...", "summary": "Accidentally pocket dialed parents while having really rough sex. Parents heard me moaning like a little bitch. Tonight's Sunday dinner should be fun..."}
{"id": "t3_3m5hud", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my FWB [19M], have a complicated situation", "post": "So I hooked up with a guy I've been good friends with for about 3 months (knew him for about a year but only recently became closer). It was planned, in the sense that I invited him over because my parents were away. We had a great time and everything was good. \n\nI texted him a few days later asking if we should figure out what our situation is (are we just friends, friends with benefits, dating...etc.) and whether or not the sex would continue. From the sound of it, we both want to continue this as a FWB situation for the time being. \n\nHowever, before befriending him, he had ended a 3 year relationship and has not had any experience in the field of dating other people since then so he is (sort-of) wanting to try dating this other girl. His reason for choosing this other girl and not me as his \"tester\" date is that he likes me and values our friendship so would not want to lose it should the relationship not work out; whereas he does not know this other girl very well and therefore does not have much to lose with her. I understand what he's thinking, but I am a little jealous that he didn't want to try dating me. I'm fine with our current situation but I feel that if he's going to date anyone, I would be an appropriate choice.", "summary": "New FWB wants to get back into dating but does not want to date me (as of yet) because he does not want to lose our friendship if it didn't work out between us. What is my best course of action here?"}
{"id": "t3_4vb05z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] boyfriend [24 M] of three months has taken a new job and can now only see me once a week, sometimes only once every two weeks", "post": "I'd like to begin by saying I don't want any answers that just say 'break up', I want some actual advice on the situation and how to make it work, without having to break up. I believe this issue can be fixed, I'd just like some ideas as to how...\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for around three months. We're genuinely happy in the relationship, except for one gaping problem that has arisen in the last month.\n\nHe's taken on a new job, one that requires him to work six days a week between 2pm and 8:30pm (sometimes starting a little earlier). This means we usually only have one day to meet up per week because I have uni most mornings, and the physically demanding nature of the job means he's usually too tired to do anything when he arrives home at night.\n\nIn fact, sometimes we only see each other once every two weeks, if he gets called into work on his day off, or if he makes plans to see his friends/family. \n\n(and before anyone says anything, i know for a fact that he's not seeing somebody else. i won't get into it here but we can rule that one out)\n\nI'm not gonna lie, I hate this. He hates it too. We love being around each other. We're generally really happy in our relationship, and at the risk of sounding needy, I'd spend every waking moment of every day with him if I could. But surely wanting to see your boyfriend more than once a week, or once every two weeks, is not too much to ask?! We're not a long-distance relationship, in fact we only live 10 minutes from each other, so we'd love to try and fix this.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "Boyfriend's work schedule means he can only see me once a week, sometimes only once every two weeks. We both hate it and we don't plan on breaking up, but he needs the money. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_wu9qd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How could a friend turn out to be so mean and just ignore me?", "post": "I was never good at making friends, and I probably never will be. My parents knew that, so my mother decided I should meet the daughter from one of her friends.\u00a0\n\nShe was so nice to me. She invited me to her parties and her friends - even thought I didn't know them very well - were just as nice as she was. I had so much fun. But we saw each other less and less.\n\nI have to mention; I don't live in America but in the Netherlands. And here middle school and high school are one school; one \"middle school\", and you go there when you're around twelve.\n\nSo I didn't saw her in four years when I went to middle school. I was so surprised when I saw her, and decided to send her e-mails. We mailed a lot and I wanted to talk to her in school. Before I could finish my sentence, she mumbled uninterested \"yeah..\" and never spoke or mailed to me again. She didn't even looked me in the eye anymore. Why? Why the fuck?\u00a0This frustrated me to this day. Maybe she didn't wanted to be friends with me because she was one grade higher. Or maybe because she's super beautiful, skinny and tall and I'm ugly, \u00a0plump and short. Or maybe because my e-mails were childish? Or\u00a0\nmaybe I'm a fucking embarrassment for somebody as popular as her. Or maybe, after all those years, she could finally see I'm just some weirdo who doesn't have any real friends.\u00a0How could she be so mean, after all those years? I know I never meant much to her, but she meant a lot to me. She was the only friend I had. And now she's going to the 4th grade from our middle school. They have other lunch breaks so I'll hardly ever see her again. And I'll keep wondering forever..", "summary": "A girl who was my\u00a0only friend a long time,\u00a0decided I wasn't good enough for her to be friends anymore (I guess) a few years ago. And I can't stop wondering why."}
{"id": "t3_2i0lho", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] and my gf [22F] have been dating for 3 months and says she feels the need to be independent, but still loves me.", "post": "My gf and I have been dating for about 3 months right now and everything has been going better than we both could have hoped for. We both connected very well and have told each other that this is the best relationship either of us has had. We do spend nearly every day together either going to the gym or relaxing at home or going on a date. \n\nHowever, over the last week or two we have both been feeling kind of distant between each other. We talked and she would say how she's not used to being in a relationship (she was single for all of college) and is so used to being independent and on her own, but she says she doesn't want to just throw away the relationship and break up. We decided yesterday to give each other some space and see each other maybe only once or twice a week for now to see how that goes. I'm scared because she says her other relationships have ended like this before. \n\nShe is also leaving for the peace corps (27 month trip) in June and I'm starting school right now which I'm sure is adding stress to the whole situation.\n\nWe tried giving each other space a few days ago, but we missed each other so much that we had to see each other again. We get along so well (better than either of us have dated or met before) so we want to try and make this work as best as possible. Does anyone have any advice on this whole situation? i.e. how long and to what extent might be good to give space? Is it worth trying to be together?", "summary": "gf wants to be independent, but still wants to save relationship. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1dwyyy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's a good way to acquire money when I have nothing interesting to sell?", "post": "Mother's day is coming up so obviously I'm treating my mom to a nice dinner because she deserves it. I also am taking my sisters for two days (which means more money spent) so that she can have some quiet. Now, I don't have anything valuable to sell off and my friend who is a HUGE fan of The Killers wants to go to a show and I wanted to surprise her since she's had a shitty year, but I realized that by the time I save enough money for both of us to go (I babysit to pay my way through school) tickets would be sold out. So I'm asking for any advice in getting money in a few days. I mean I could borrow, but that'd be my last resort. Thanks!", "summary": "I need quick money. Any advice helps"}
{"id": "t3_ksdoc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I thought I was straight until... (xpost: LGBT)", "post": "27/f. I've always been very sexual, but all of the sex that I've had has been with men. I have made out with two women, one straight and one gay. I recently met this girl through a friend who, to my knowledge, is also straight but is definitely an LGBT supporter. We hit it off immediately. We have similar interests, career goals, etc. I thought we'd just be great friends, but I also find her really attractive, and she has also said that she thinks I'm beautiful. We've said lightheartedly that we're falling in love, have admit that we have \"lady crushes\" on one another, and to top it all off, we had a sleepover last weekend where we cuddled all night long. We're both cuddly people, but this was the first time I ever spent all night in the arms of a female friend. I don't know her well enough to know if this is how she is with all of her friends or just me. Nothing more has happened, but we aren't going to stop hanging out or acting this way around one another, and it makes me curious where things could go. I'd hate to ruin our friendship by attempting something more or by making things awkward by initiating a serious conversation about it, and so any advice would be awesome. Thanks!", "summary": "I'm a straight girl falling for another straight girl, and I think the feelings are mutual. Not sure how to approach the situation."}
{"id": "t3_1wvtzk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long distance", "post": "I(18m) was seeing this girl(18f) that lives several hundred miles away from me for several months. Recently she found another guy close to her yet we both still go back and forth showing our affection. She wants to be with that guy but she still shows me affection. She has been a great girl cept she kissed another guy once and she doesn't quite stick by my side when her friends bad mouth about me. A lot of bad stuff happened too but I'm sure it was my fault as well. I stayed faithful and I love her very much but I have no idea what to do at this point. I'm slowly losing  her and she is losing me. Problem is I don't want to lose her but I guess she wants to lose me. She has only been talking to him for a month and she seems to flirt with a lot of guys. Any advice?", "summary": "girlfriend(ex?) found someone else and still shows affection. Need advice."}
{"id": "t3_249e2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (24F) am getting extremely tired of always initiating any physical contact with my bf (26M)", "post": "I've been with my Bf for a little over a year and things are not as HOT as they first were. For instance I always kiss him. He never just grabs me and kisses me. I've been yearning for him to take initiative. He doesn't hold me or any thing that you would consider romantic. I don't know what's wrong. Is it me? Is It him? I've been thinking hard about what I can do to change this. I'm actually sitting next to him with my legs on his and all he does is poke them. He doesn't grab them or massage them. We are watching TV it's been 4 hrs and no touching or kissing has occured. I'm falling apart I think I am the problem. I can't bring myself to tell him how I feel. I am afraid....plus I think it's common to be intimate with your gf. I don't think I need to ask for it. This has been going on for weeks now and it's driving me away. Last night I dreamed about getting intimate by one of my Co - worker's I have no interest in. It's the passion I lack in my relationship that I'm craving. I guess I need help with communicating this with him. Any advice? Similar stories? How to get past this?", "summary": "Bf doesn't kiss or touch me and now I'm fantasizing about a co-worker giving me the passion I desire. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_3kymyc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dropping my iPhone from...", "post": "It was stormy weather in London today around noon so while holding my iPhone 6, which I should shamefully add is not backed up and I depend on to run my business (I know!), I reached out to close the window. Some awkward fumbling ensued and next thing I know my iPhone has gone out the window from the 13th floor onto concrete floor/grass below.\n\nRan to the lift, went out, trying to find it and it is laying over the footpath a metre or so away from the building. Some scratches but screen is fine and phone is working! Miracle. Not sure how but it made it.", "summary": "TIFU by dropping my iPhone that I use for my business from the 13th floor window, and could have potentially hurt someone as well at the bottom of the building."}
{"id": "t3_1bhudj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the worst life choice you have ever made, but didn't realize until afterwards?", "post": "Here, I will go first.  This just happened the other day, and I didn't realize how badly it could have ended until the next day.  I was at a party that was a block from where I live.  However, I had left my wallet/keys/phone combo at my friends house, which was 4 blocks away.  I live in a college town, so its pretty sketchy to walk around at night to begin with.  The sketchiness was only increased by the fact that I could hardly stand I was so drunk.  I got to the point that I just wanted to leave, so I made my way back. In The Dark.  BY MYSELF.  WITHOUT MY PHONE/ID! (I'm a girl by the way, if this changes anything)  No big deal right? Except for the fact that if something happened, I would have been unidentifiable and screwed.... Well needless to say I did make it back alive, but I realized that I had been living on the edge that night.", "summary": "> Made the horrible decision to walk home by myself while shit-faced and phone/ID-less."}
{"id": "t3_2zwtdc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by throwing away a patients insulin pen", "post": "So this fuck up happened about 9 months ago, back in June. Some background, I'm a nursing student and it was my first time being in hospital. My instructor for this particular rotation was quite intimidating. So my patient for this week was a diabetic who required insulin. She received a shot of long acting Lantus every morning to help regulate her sugar throughout the day. So my fuck up happened after giving my patient her injection, my instructor said \"get rid of your stuff\" and left the room. So I disposed of the supplies except for the Lantus pen. I brought it back to the med room and stared at it for a few seconds wondering what to do. Finally taking my instructors words literally I dropped it into the garbage. \nFlash forward to the next day, it's time to give the patient her Lantus again. So my instructor is looking for my patient's insulin pen and could not find it. This is when it dawns on me that the pen is reusable and should not have been thrown out. I start to sweat, I try to plan out what I will tell my parents when I've been kicked out of nursing for endangering a patient. My instructor looks at me and asks if I remember where I put the pen. Oh I know where it went, but I act dumb and say \"I can't remember\". She goes out to the patient's room to see if it was left there. Meanwhile I turn to the nurse in the med room with me and proceed to tell him that I threw it out. He has me look in the garbage bag, no pen. My instructor comes back. I am now sweating bullets, my face is red, the room is spinning and I feel on the verge of crying. I tell her that I actually threw out the pen and that I'm so so sorry. To which my instructor replies \"Oh, I'm sure she has some extra in the fridge\". \nSo she goes to the fridge and finds extra Lantus pens. It felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. My eyes went blurry from the tears that had collected. My instructor laughed and said everything was fine, it was just a dumb mistake.", "summary": "Threw out a patient's insulin pen, she had extras so I wasn't kicked out of nursing."}
{"id": "t3_200967", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend's ex [19 F] who I've known for 4 years. Should I apologize?", "post": "First off, let me know if I've flagged this wrong. \nSo, the situation is that I used to know my boyfriend's ex before we dated. I was friends with her sister and she always used to act weird with me. Now I know that she had some kind of girl crush on me and was infatuated in some way, so she was just acting shy. This set the stage, though, for alot of animosity between us. After having just learned some things about their relationship, I think she broke up with my boyfriend partly because she wanted to be like me (it's complicated). She and her sister then both completely cut off contact with my boyfriend, causing him alot of pain, because they were all close friends. \n\nThat's not what I want to apologize to anyone for, they all got themselves into that mess. But my boyfriend and I have had to deal with these girls since then due to a huge family emergency, and they're both friends with his sister still. I feel like I've done alot of asshole-ish things because I thought his ex didn't like me and he was still hung up on her. Now I know it's more complicated than that, he was never hung up on her, and she's probably been much more intimidated by me than anything else.\n\nI unfriended her on Facebook awhile ago. My boyfriend just unfriended her too, after finding out how threatened I felt by her. Now I just feel like a giant crazy cuntwaffle and I don't know what to do about it. \n\nHe doesn't really care about being friends with them and neither do I, but I feel fucking bad. I was thinking of sending a message to his ex apologizing and trying to explain my behavior, but I don't know if that's just...weird at this point. \n\nMy question is whether you guys think I should send this message or not. I honestly just want to clear the waters.", "summary": "I've misinterpreted things and acted like a big hairy cuntwaffle to my boyfriend's ex. Would it be weird for me to message her with an apology?"}
{"id": "t3_3ikwxu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] with my [24/F] seeing for a month, do I have the right to be angry, she put my confidence down by praising/admiring ex boyfriends?", "post": "We've been seeing for a month. I was annoyed because she always manages to put me down somehow by saying little annoying comments. So I decided to start fishing for compliments and asked her who is the most handsome guy she has been with. I usually get lots of compliments from women that I'm super hot and handsome, I think myself as a very good looking guy. She started hesitating between two other guys and chose one of them. She didn't even consider me. I asked her, am I even in your list? She said : Oh yes, you are, may be you are number 3 (but said it with apathetic tone). Now, I understand I may not be the most handsome but what annoyed me extremely much is her tone, when she started speaking about these guys, she did it with so much admiration and praise, and she never spoke about me that way. So what messed me up is her praising tone, while with me she is never like this. Do I have the right to be angry or something is wrong with me an I should get over myself? But I have the feeling she likes to put me down for some reason. She was very ugly in her school years so all kids laughed at her so may be that's her subconscious revenge now to me. I don't know what to think. Am I overreacting?", "summary": "GF doesn't think I'm the most handsome/hottest she has been with, main issue is she speaks with much admiration and praise about others and she never spoke like this to me. Her tone of voice is what drives me crazy. Trying to put me down,do I have the right to be angry?"}
{"id": "t3_35i8g1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] had a miscarriage, didn't even know I was pregnant--how do I tell my SO? [23M]", "post": "Hi reddit. TMI below if you're queasy.\n\nStarted bleeding heavily two days ago, though I still had ten days left in my birth control. My periods have never been heavy, even off birth control, and I threw up several times and nearly passed out. It wasn't a LOT of blood, it was just thick, heavy, and I was cramping unbelievably. There were a few points where it was a heavy clot or the like passing through.\n\nAfter going to the women's clinic and doing some tests and answering a lot of questions, they told me it's likely I had a miscarriage. I have to have an ultrasound to make sure I don't have a uterine cyst but because my pain was more cramp-like they said it was more likely the miscarriage.\n\nI'm ok in regards to my own mental health. I already see a psychiatrist and the clinic is referring me to a counsellor who specializes in these scenarios as a follow-up. \n\nHowever the problem is my SO. I want to tell him. I told him about how badly I was bleeding but I did not tell him that I went to the clinic. He is under the assumption we will go together this week. Because I am anemic I decided I didn't want to wait (he works full time even on the weekends but gets two weekdays off in lieu) and endanger my health.\n\nNeither of us knew I was pregnant and we had been carrying on as usual. I'm afraid he will get mad or think I was lying to him about having my period. We have sex on my period but last time it was so light that he didn't notice at all. \n\nIs there... a proper way to go about this? What should I say? We have been dating way over a year now, and he mentioned he doesn't want kids until we're married and financially set, so I know he won't be upset that we lost the chance, but I just think it's a messed up ordeal and I have to explain why I don't want to go to the clinic again this week.", "summary": "I had a miscarriage, partner and I didn't know I was pregnant, he thinks we're gonna go this week to Planned Parenthood but I found this all out myself"}
{"id": "t3_3fjyse", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26F] with my now ex bf [28 M] 2yrs together, anger problems, abuse, and now leaving with no where to go.", "post": "I'm so embarrassed that this is happening. I know a couple redditors but I don't care if they see this. I really need some advice and don't have anyone to talk to. I was with my ex for about 2 yrs. He has severe anger problems and they seem to always be aimed at me. I broke up with him today because I can't take it anymore.  \n\nAnytime something stressful happens in his life he picks fights, insults me, and throws out break up threats. It's gotten progressively worse since he lost his job. He lost it because he flipped on a coworker and threaten them. I gave the benefit of the doubt when he was fired and knew before he had a temper but it has gotten so much worse. This fight ended with him screaming that if I wanted to call him abusive, he would show me abuse. Then threatening to burn the house down if I didn't leave. \n\nNow I frequent this sub and I already know what you are thinking. I'm not asking for advice on him, that is done with. I've rode this merry go round of abuse long enough. I need to get out before it gets physical. I'm at a place now I can't afford and no opportunity to get an apartment. I'm on disability income and do not qualify for even the cheapest apartments in my area. I have no close friends or family to stay with. I have one place possibly but that is very short term. I don't know where to go. Are there any services or people I can get in touch with for assistance with this? I'm so anxious I can't think straight when I go to look online. I went on craigslist for house shares and that's the most I've been able to find. I don't want to be here anymore and I'm terrified of what's going to happen.", "summary": "My ex is abusive and I'm soon to be homeless."}
{"id": "t3_2iiipz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it too early for me [21M] to bring up wanting to start a relationship with the girl [20F] I have been seeing/talking to?", "post": "I will try and keep this short and sweet but I have been talking to this girl for about a month now. We went on a very easy going ice cream first date since were both pretty busy people and don't live in the same town and she works weekends. It went really well and ended up closing the place down and even just kept talking outside!\n\nFast forward to about a week in a half later she came to visit a friend to \"study\" that goes to my college and we casually hung out until her friend left. By this time it was night time and I told her before she even came she needed to see this really cool thing on campus and made it a surprise for her. I took her to these really nice ponds and walking trails and walked around talking and holding hands while looking at the stars which she loves to do. We stopped on a little bridge and were just talking which eventually led to me holding her and then kissing her. It got pretty late and she needed to get back for a test in the morning.\n\nDuring this whole time we have been texting each other nonstop and Facetimed a few times since were about an hour away from each other.", "summary": "I met a really awesome girl and have met up a couple of times already and wondering if it is way to early to bring up maybe starting a relationship with her."}
{"id": "t3_2thupv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm 25M got 25F number but have had awful luck recently", "post": "So I'm trying not to put so many eggs in one basket, but I had an awesome time meeting and dancing with a girl tonight at ballroom dancing. She had no idea how to do it so I kept asking her to dance to teach her. She gave me her number near the end of the night when I separated her briefly from the 5-6 other girls she came with. I've been online dating on the side of going to dance and have had awful luck with girls being flakey or first dates not getting to second ones. \n\nAny advice? When to text? How long to text or talk before asking her out again? Where to take her? She lives downtown in a young people area with lots of bars so I'm sure she's well experienced in that area. I however live in the suburbs outside the city. I'm kind of a quirky dude and am funny but sometimes a little weird. She seems kind of more like the preppy girl type which I usually don't date or attract. But we got along great with goofy conversation and dancing. \n\nNeed all advice I can get - usually I don't resort to these things but my string of flakes and first dates with no contact after are withering my confidence.", "summary": "Got a girls number at ballroom dancing and need advice on what to do. I've had a string of bad luck of first dates i thought went really well but get no contact from anyone after. Need advice on when to text/at what point to ask her out again, etc."}
{"id": "t3_34o4lv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting my pants", "post": "This took place many years ago when I was probably 3 or 4\n\nMy family had just finished an awesome day at Disneyland with my brother (around 6 or 7 at the time) and I mentioned I had to go to the bathroom. My dad said ok we'll find one soon. After around 10 minutes of walking we finally found one. When my dad asked me to go with him (so he could help me I was only 3 or 4), I told him I already went. He responded confused and said,\"What?\", me being the positive little child I was said, \"don't worry dad, it's a NICE SOLID LOG\" He and the rest of my family laughed but were kinda bummed when they had to clean it up.", "summary": "Take your kids to the bathroom unless you want a nice solid log"}
{"id": "t3_4p0npa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] with bisexual girlfriend [19] who has been unfaithful over ten times in her previous two relationships", "post": "We have been dating for a little over two months, and I have recently come to learn of her cheating nature over her past two relationships, the most recent of which ended a couple of months before we started.\n\nAFAIK, she had cheated on her most recent ex-boyfriend with five other men. She never told him about her infidelity during their relationship, and only confessed about one of the men after they had broken up. That man was also her then boyfriend's best friend. To this date, he still isn't aware about the other four.\n\nAs for her relationship prior to that one, the number of times she was unfaithful is a bit of a mystery to her as well. There were both men and women involved in this one.\n\nI have never heard of anyone being unfaithful this frequent and it has definitely gotten my very, VERY wary. My previous relationship before this was a two and a half year long, long distance one, with complete loyalty from both sides.\n\nHer reasoning behind the cheating was mostly that the boyfriend didn't give her enough attention, but does that excuse the fact that she knowingly was unfaithful with that many different people?\n\nOf course I'm aware of the warning signs this brings up, especially since her reasons for being unfaithful are quite pathetic. But I have found myself having strong feelings for her prior to finding out about this, and I wouldn't want it to end because of her past.\n\nI cannot tell if she has changed or transformed from her former self, especially since her relationship with her ex ended not that long ago. What does the relationship side of Reddit think?\n\nAny prior experiences with the same would be duly appreciated.", "summary": "Girlfriend's a serial cheater. Should I be worried?"}
{"id": "t3_1423x0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I tell my mom about dealing with my brother?", "post": "My brother[20]is in his junior year of college now in another state, and I[18f] am in my freshman year only about an hour away from home. After my brother got a girlfriend[26?], he became distant and somewhat resentful towards my parents.  Supposedly, they have broken up, but I believe they are living in the same place with some other friends. He hasn't willingly come home since he was a freshman.  It's always a struggle to try to get him to visit.  My mom is heartbroken by this and really is a good mother, even though she can be somewhat overbearing at times.  My brother hardly ever acknowledges anyone in the family's calls or texts.  My mom has asked my for advice: she wants to know if she should even call him anymore.  One moment where she really was upset by was when she realized that she has no idea what to get her own son for Christmas. Oh, and he isn't planning on coming home for Christmas.  Some of his wanting to stay may be about money, but if he hadn't lost most of his scholarship, he wouldn't be so badly off, or, if he lived at home and went to a local school, my parents would pay for it.  He pays for everything except his cell phone bill, which wouldn't be the case at all if he lived at home.  Any advice for my mom? She is distraught about this and doesn't know what to do.", "summary": "My family is losing touch with my brother and my mom doesn't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4fnoa8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] I [24F] just found out the guy [30M]I've been sleeping with for six months is getting married next weekend. Not sure what to do.", "post": "Previous post [here](\n. I forgot my password for the original account, so I hope this is ok.    \n\nI ended up emailing her on the Sunday afternoon, after I had messaged him a couple times. Turns out he didn't see my messages because he was talking to me on a separate phone, and didn't have it with him when she was over.  \n\n She responded to me, absolutely devastated, asking for more information, which I provided. Then she said she hates that I told her before the wedding, because either her wedding day is ruined while they try to work it out, or she has to cancel and then everyone will know. She wishes I had either waited or not told her. This was exactly my concern with telling her when I did and I feel awful.  \n\nMaybe she will eventually appreciate it, but I'm no longer convinced I did the correct thing. Maybe it was morally right, but it doesn't seem to have benefited anyone in the situation. And selfishly, it means that I probably won't ever understand for myself why this all happened, and what was real and what was a lie, especially if the wedding still happens. I know her feelings are really the important ones here, but I'm struggling as well. I sent him one more text asking him to give me some answers, with the note that if she asked him to stop corresponding with me to just ignore my text.  I haven't heard anything back yet and I'm doubting I ever will.  \n\nI guess I'm looking for any advice on how I can move forward from this, because I don't know how. This is the first time I've ever been in any kind of relationship/FwB situation outside of my previous 7 year relationship, and I'm struggling to understand how someone could do this.", "summary": "Told the bride about the situation. She's absolutely devasted that I told her when I did, and I'm struggling to figure out if I did the right thing, and how to move on from this."}
{"id": "t3_4o0y4h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I went to the movies with a guy [17M] I asked out [17F] and it went well. What do I do next?", "post": "A little backstory...\nI met him at a party a week ago and we seemed to click. He was really friendly and I added him on Facebook the next day, which is where we messaged each other over the following days. A little more friendly than flirty, the messages were, but I got the courage to ask him if he wanted to come to the movies with me, as I had a spare ticket. And he said yes! \n\nSo, last night, we met up at the cinema. He chose the seats and we ended up sitting quite far away from most of the others, at least three rows away from other people or so. During the movies he sort of leaned in close to me (we were sitting right next to each other) and would whisper things like, \"Doesn't this remind you of [other movie]?\" or \"awww, they're so cute,\" (when a small animal like a kitten came onscreen). I occasionally moved in my seat a little closer next to him, and our arms were touching at one point but neither of us pulled away.\n\nAfter the movie he seemed really happy, like one would if one genuinely had a great time. As we parted ways, he initiated what was then a long, tight hug between us, and I said, \"we should definitely do this again sometime.\" He then nodded, but answered by telling me that he was having a party in a week's time if I wanted to come, so I said yes. Then we parted ways for the night.\n\nIt's been a whole day now, and I'm not sure if I'm supposed to text him first to say thanks, or vice versa. Should I wait for him? He added me to the party event on Facebook (it's on private) so I'm not really sure what I do now.\n\nSo, excuse the noob-y question. I've never really courted/dated before! I'd really appreciate some (hopefully specific) help, as I really do like him. \n\nAlso, side question - do you think it was a date? Or just two friends hanging out? I'm not really sure myself, I'd like a second opinion.", "summary": "First 'date' went well - what do I do now?"}
{"id": "t3_29crys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my ex [20 M] of 2 years, wondering if it's normal to still be good friends after a breakup.", "post": "Basically, a couple months ago my boyfriend and I broke up over because we argue too often to see a future and I'm going abroad to study. Now I'm home from University for the summer and he's 6 hours away but I was wanting some input on friendships with exes. We had a totally mutual breakup and I feel no need to cut ties as I really value his friendship and he is truly a great person. \nWe text everyday and talk on the phone maybe every 2 weeks. It's hard to say whether we're over each other yet but there is nothing more than friendship in the way we talk and I was wondering if this is healthy or if we need time off. How do I talk to him about this?", "summary": "Is it healthy to have a strong friendship with an ex right after breaking up?"}
{"id": "t3_1ymdzl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[35/F] My husband [31/M] is attracted to one of my coworkers and has been flirting with her.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for almost two years and together almost five.  I am expecting our first child in a few weeks and for the most part, it's been a happy marriage.  However, a few months ago, I noticed my husband (who used to work at the same office as me) has been emailing/texting one of my (and his former) coworkers.  She is an older married woman with two grown kids of her own and we are actually very good friends.  Not too long ago though, I went by her office (she wasn't in it) to drop some paperwork off and there was an instant messenger conversation left up on her screen between her and my husband.  He told her he'd had a hard time sleeping the night before because \"someone was HEAVY on his mind ;)\".  She just responded with a smiley and he continued to ask what her plans were for the evening, which she responded \"dinner with her husband in Gainesville\".  His response was \"ditch him and come eat with me :*\".  She just responded by calling him a \"Goober\".  I confronted her later in the day about had my husband come onto her at all (didn't tell her I saw the conversation) and she said they joke a lot, but she would NEVER let anything happen and even offered to stop talking to him completely (something she had done in the past due to a misunderstanding).  Bottom line is I believe her but don't know how to trust my husband.  I tried talking to him about whether or not he was happy with me and would he be happier with someone else and he got very defensive.  He's not very affectionate since we've been married.  If I want a hug or a kiss, I have to initiate it and he RARELY tells me he loves me unless I say it first and sometimes not even then.  Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill???  Anyone else been in this position and what did you do?", "summary": "Found out husband is attracted to my coworker, don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_3gqgp5", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Former EE major here who recently shifted to Med. Technology, Now I want to shift again to Information Technology.", "post": "I just shifted this semester from EE to Medical technology after  studying EE for two years because I was getting unhappy with my former course and I was miserable while working on and designing circuits. The huge amounts of math was also stressful but didn't bother Me as much as the circuits did.\n\nWhile majoring in MedTech this semester realized that I'm not suited for the huge amounts of chemistry on MedTech and the amount of information that you have to cram into your brain and memorize is off-putting, Its ridiculous how most of the subjects just involve memorizing stuff. So once again I'm unhappy with my current major and now getting unmotivated again.\n\nI decided that I'll just shift to something that I'm interested in and stop worrying about getting a degree that will easily lead to a decent paying job. One of my biggest interest is PC hardware and working on PCs(if you check my post history I'm mostly on /r/hardware , /r/buildapc , and /r/pcmasterrace) So I'm thinking of Shifting to Information Technology since I know that it mostly involves Practical applications of computers while requiring minimal programming.\n\nAm I shifting to the right course or are there other computer related courses that are suitable? I'm more interested in maintaining and troubleshooting computer hardware than designing them or programming for them.", "summary": "EE student for 2yrs shifted to MedTech. Now wants to Shift again to IT. Need opinions."}
{"id": "t3_2oemtq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by exposing the people of Walgreens to the Fappening [NSFW]", "post": "This FU began about a week ago.  So I was at a friends house with about 8 other people one night while we were all home from school and somehow the events of the Fappening came up in conversation.  My one friend asked what it was and we explained the leaked celebrity nudes that were released.  He naturally asked to see them, and since no one had them saved I downloaded an album of them.  My other friend asked me to move them to my SD card so he could transfer them to his phone later.\n\nFast forward to two days ago, when I am back at school.  My buddy sends me some pictures and asks them to put them on a memory card so we can go to Walgreens and get them printed.  Since he sent them over text, I naturally saved them to my SD card in my phone.  The Walgreens is in the middle of the city and is fairly crowded with people wanting to print Christmas cards and whatnot.  So we go onto the computer and insert my SD card, and the computer displays all of the pictures on the SD card, which at the time only had photos of naked famous people and two of my buddies pictures.  So as I'm shouting [no, no, no] pictures from the Fappening are filling the large comuter screen for everyone else in line behind me to see.  I just selected the pictures my buddy sent me, printed them and pretended nothing happened.  Safe to say I won't be going back to Walgreens for a while.", "summary": "Opened an SD card with pictures from the Fappening on the picture counter's computer in a crowded Walgreens."}
{"id": "t3_49ae0j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] just found out that my boyfriend [25M] of one year believes in the Illuminati...", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend Max for almost a year, and generally he seems like a fairly reasonable, well-adjusted person. Has some odd religious beliefs, but many people do, so I chalked that up to personal preference. Today, though, I found out about some other weird beliefs that worry me. \n\nBasically, Max thinks that really successful/rich people (Bill Gates is one he mentioned, idk who else) are in the Illuminati, and may have used black magic to get so much power/wealth. He mentioned the Bohemian Grove (which I looked up, there's a Washington Post article about how some of the rich and powerful go there every July to party)--and it does sound like some odd things go on there, but he said \"they probably sacrifice humans.\" Okay then... \n\nHe also thinks they're covering up the fact that limestone can be manipulated via sound vibrations or something, and that's how the pyramids were built. When I asked him why there is zero scientific evidence to corroborate this, he said \"they don't want people to know\".\n\nI'm no scientist or intellectual snob, but I do prefer to evaluate things rationally and not just believe wild theories written about on poorly designed webpages. It really bothers me that Max seems this gullible. I did make sure that he isn't on board with some other brands of crazy like the anti-vaxxers, and he's still a kind, hardworking, thoughtful guy, and at least he doesn't believe in Lizard People. Plus, none of these theories really affect his life in any tangible way, so I'm trying to decide whether it's a dealbreaker. BUT, if he can believe this stuff, who knows what he could be duped into in the future, right? I like him a lot, but am I on board a train to crazytown?", "summary": "boyfriend is a conspiracy theorist, not sure how to process this information"}
{"id": "t3_xz390", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me find my first love?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI feel like I'm filling out a lotto ticket with this request.\n\nHere goes: ten years ago I met my first love playing an online game. We only interacted through the game. As time went by my family watched my life change as I spent hours everyday on the game, unbeknown to them I was in love. They eventually took the computer away from me, cutting off any connection with the one girl I'd ever had feelings for. \n\nTo their credit: I was spending an unhealthy amount of time playing that game and lost track of life outside of it.....\n\nSo, I started living life outside, playing sports, making friends, doing very well in school. High school went very well, college was even better, and now I'm working hard at a fantastic job. \n\nLife has taken me on a crazy, wild ride; alas, I never forgot about her....\n\nCan you help me find her?\n\nWe played Everquest and her character name was Santeey. (US)", "summary": "fell in love playing Everquest a decade ago; want to find out what happened to her."}
{"id": "t3_4elu5k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my Boyfriened[27 M] 5months, Relationship advice,", "post": "So we been dating for a few months, and I just found out he has been lying to me. When we started dating I had asked if he was smoking tobacco(Y), Drugs and he told me no, he reenforced he couldn't if he wanted due to him being a gov worker. A month ago I started smelling pot, he kept telling me maybe it was me, maybe it was the coffee we were making. Keep reinforcing it was my mind, or maybe his friend. Last night I come to find, after helping him look for a document at his house, synthetic weed. \nWhen confronted he said he just recently bought it for us to try, knowing I have sever asthma, calling BS he confessed yet again that he started 7yrs ago for \"sleep\". He was angry that I was \"digging\" after he told me it was ok.\nI did out of anger throw it out, he was angry over that.\nWhat should I do? I really like this guy, but this is just a slam,\nAdvice?", "summary": "Boyfriend that I've dated x4months lied to me over smoking weed (told me at beginning of relationship he didn't do drugs) Should I stay with him?"}
{"id": "t3_2ric6j", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "Getting shit done[Discussion]", "post": "With the new year a lot of people made their minds up and thought of  some new year's resolutions they want to achieve. Many will simply be forgotten or just thrown away thinking they can't or don't want to do this anymore. Two of the most used resolutions are eating healthier and getting in shape. These resolutions are made up to improve ones life or to work on yourself. It's a pity that most of them get thrown away. So here I am telling YOU to stop forfeiting. Simply STOP giving up. Why do you think about these resolutions on the first place when you give up 2, 3 or maybe 4 weeks in? What's the point? Most people will say \"Ok I'll start doing this or that tomorrow\". It's always tomorrow. But we don't live in the future. We live in the presence, the here and now. We live FOR the future yes. But for that future you set some goals so get up and move your damn ass. You won't achieve anything otherwise. YOU have to take the initiative. YOU have to work out, stop eating junk food, stop postponing things. START HERE AND NOW.\nYou can easily say that you'll start working out tomorrow. But that's a simple lie you start telling yourself over and over again. Doesn't it feel bad lying to yourself or maybe even others? Telling them face to face you did something or you achieved something when in fact you really didn't?\nNobody wants to feel the sense of defeat. \nGET UP. WORK ON YOURSELF AND ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS.\nEvery man is the artisan of his own fortune.", "summary": "Stop giving up and start doing things and pursue your goals."}
{"id": "t3_1plkwo", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I keep digging this hole even deeper, hoping to hit paydirt.", "post": "In the most simplest of terms, I fell in 'love' with my coworker. We never really got too close, but we have known each other long enough for her to take my heart and hold it hostage.\n\nThat's beside the point.\n\nShe want's to stay friends, but only because she tells me that \"I don't see us getting past that.\" Being an idiot, I interpret this as \"Just not now.\" So I stay in the hole I dug, and the feelings get more intense each day I see her.\n\nThe problem now is that I'm her tutor now. And I know that this is just going to get worse. I can't find myself getting over this woman as I see her everyday. But now to 'hang out' with her more is just going to deepen my ditch.\n\nI just want a chance with her. One date to show her just how much I feel I need her.", "summary": "I think I may love my coworker. But there doesn't seem to be gold at the end of this rainbow. Yet I still dig this hole even deeper, telling myself that if I show her how much I care, I'll win her."}
{"id": "t3_12ax54", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Mechanics of reddit, please help me out! my Chrysler sebring is acting crazy", "post": "Ive got a 1998 chrysler sebring jxi. i know these cars have been known to have electrical issues, and unfortunately, i am one of those lucky ones to be dealing with one. When I crank my car (which cranks fine), my dash shows me idling at 4000RPM, my gas gauge fluctuates, and my radio goes in and out. ive taken the car to a few mechanics and theyve tested the battery and alternator. everything is working with those. apparently it is some issue with the engine computer or the bcm (body control module). \n\nthis is the question. should i just take this car to the chrysler dealership or should i find another mechanic. i dont really trust mechanics because ive been ripped off before, but i hear dealerships are just as bad usually.\nBefore i take the car in in the morning, can you let me know what possible issues the car might have? and how much you think it would be to fix? do you think it will be an expensive fix?", "summary": "my cars display gauges are jumping around and the radio cuts out on me. am i looking at an expensive fix? "}
{"id": "t3_410avd", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "You know what I hate? Scalpers. I hate scalpers. Especially those that try to profit off someone's death.", "post": "I was trying to hunt down a vinyl copy of Bowie's new album, Blackstar, going from store to store to find it. To no avail, I couldn't happen across one, so I turned my search to any and all major retailers that I could think of online. Amazon, Best Buy, Target, all sold out. Then I thought to go to Barnes and Noble, because not too many people think to go there for records.\n\nI went there and saw they had a clear, limited pressing of the record. I love Barnes and Noble's limited pressings of records, because usually they're cool colors that look awesome when they spin, so I clicked on that. I saw it was sold out. Immediately, I went to see if there were any on eBay. In my mind, I was okay with paying an extra $10 or $20 to get it; $50 for a record isn't unheard of, after all. You want to know what I found?\n\nDozens and dozens of listings of the record from Barnes and Noble. Some with Buy-It-Now prices of over $400. There was even one for $600! How absurd. But not only is it absurd, it's completely inappropriate. The man just died, and these people are trying to get a quick buck over the man's passing?", "summary": "Fuck scalpers and fuck cancer for taking away Bowie, Lemmy and Rickman."}
{"id": "t3_3el01p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33 M] with my SO/ex SO [30 F] of 5 years, got into a text message blowout, and I need help showing where I was wrong and saying sorry.", "post": "My SO and I are on the heavy, heavy rocks.  She's moved out and is at her sister's for two weeks now.  She keeps my son a lot of the time, but she's good about letting me pick him up after work so I can be with him, then drop him off with her in the morning before I go to work.  He's the only thing keeping me sane right now.  \n\nThe roughness stems from my own issues.  I've been diagnosed with BPD, and needless to say it's rough on relationships.  I'm seeking help, and will do everything I can to get my family back.  She said that she might do couples counseling with me if she thinks I've made progress with my own personal counselor.  \n\nI texted her today to ask about having a party for our son's birthday coming up in a week.  She set off one of my triggers (anything that would hurt my son or my relationship with him) and I blew up.  I think I really hurt my chances of getting back together with her. When I'm like this, it gets hard for me to think objectively.  Thanks", "summary": "I ranted at my SO/ex SO via text, please read the texts and tell me how bad it is, and if I can recover."}
{"id": "t3_4cinwh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] fiance [29M] is upset because I want to keep my last name. Who is right?", "post": "Hi, I'm really not sure if it's the right place to post this but I need some unbiased opinions on this, so I'd be grateful if you shared yours with me.\n\nMy fiance got upset with the fact that I want to keep my last name after we're married. I just wanted to make it clear that the reasons for this are honestly purely practical rather than personal. For me the last name isn't really important, what I care about is my professional and academic record.\n\nI've decided that if it's really that important to him, I could make the change but on the other hand, it would indeed be quite inconvenient to me and I can really see no reason as to why I wouldn't keep my last name, other than his wanting to.\n\nI tried to speak with him but it was pointless, all I got was some passive-agressive responses and I have a feeling that for some reason it's personal to him.\n\nSo that's why I wanted to ask for opinions. Is this really such a big deal and am I inconsiderate of his feelings right now? I feel like I'm not objective and I'd just like to know how other people see it.\n\nThank you in advance for your replies.", "summary": "My fiance doesn't agree to my keeping my last name once we're married. Should I relent?"}
{"id": "t3_118sp8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By acting impulsively/stupidly and probably ruining a future relationship", "post": "A bit(lot) o' backstory\nSo this girl and I have been flirting pretty heavily for a couple weeks or so, i've made my intentions clear at least and from the signals I am getting it really seems like she is on the same page. Everything is pretty awesome for a while nice banter back and forth and some teasing and all that but since I'm pretty bad at the whole 'dating/flirting' thing I've apparently misinterpreted signals that to me I think mean 'i want to kiss but don't want to initiate' (for example intense eye contact with her eyes glancing at my lips and back repeatedly) \n\n       Which is when shit hit the fan, I made multiple poor decisions in succession 1. Running after her as she was leaving 2. While she was walking with family 3. At night time so it's pretty dim outside 4. I stopped in between her and where she was going and last but not least 5. doing this whole thing in the first place.\nSo what ended up happening was, I get there out of breath after catching her attention, taking a second to breathe and I say something along the lines of \"I wanted to do this earlier but sorta chickened out its probably a stupid idea\" she clutches her stuff and takes half a step back and I immediately stammer \"oh sorry ummm ahhh I uhhh was just, planning on kissing you... Awkward ok then umm uhhh\"\nShe stood there for a second telling me \"oh ok this isn't really a good time, at all. Trust me it's not a good time. You're more honest than most people though, that's good. Sorry, you ok?\" \"...yeah I'm fine\"\n\"ok then well bye\"\nand then we both just left", "summary": "I got a over zealous and impatient ended up seemingly like a rapist to the girl I fancy."}
{"id": "t3_3ndlr0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my Boyfriend [17M] have been dating for a month, I'm unsure about the relationship", "post": "So, I've been dating this new guy for a month or so, give or take, and everything's going fine. I knew this guy from when I was a little kid, and we were good friends until our middle school year/high school, which we moved apart. At the start of this school year, he moved into my high school, and we quickly started talking. A few weeks later he asked me out, and I said yes. \n\nA little description of both me and him: I'm much more out-going, energetic, and extremely extroverted. Him, on the other hand, is more calm, relaxed, and pretty much the complete opposite of me, and sort of makes me relax, if that makes sense, but its hard not being able to get energetic around him, as he always wants to be calm, and chillaxed. He's also very giving with my love, while I'm... not so much. I didn't let him say \"I love you\" until about a week ago, basically by saying, \"You're only 17, man, calm down.\"\n\nMy problem: I'm feeling... unsure about the relationship. He's starting to get more serious, and I don't MIND it, it's just I'm realizing that its soon going to be too late to back out of it without hurting us both. I haven't talked to anyone about this, and I need advice.\n\nWhy am I shying away? This guy is great, but I want to back off. I need some advice on what to do, and how to handle this! Please help!", "summary": "Relationship is starting to get serious, and I'm shying away. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_mqgjt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Somebody PLEASE tell me what to do", "post": "I can't make a decision :(\n\nI'm 19, a sophomore in college, and I'm studying architecture. With that said, I've been working at a medical billing company doing data entry since August. I work Mo/Wed/Fri, and sometimes Saturday. I work from 9:30 AM to 5:00-6:00 PM, and it's an hour away. I have classes literally all day on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I leave my apartment at 9:45 AM, and get back at 10:00 PM. I'm barely keeping up with school. I spend all of my free time doing homework. I barely sleep anymore. I'm exhausted.\n\nMy boss wants to promote me to executive assistant. He's been very pushy, and insists that I work at least 4 days a week beginning in January. I'd get my own office, health benefits, and I'd actually be important there. Problem is, I don't have the time. I'm trying to override into a Calculus class that meets once a week so as to meet his \"working 4 days a week\" schedule, but I don't know if I can get it. All of the other classes meet at least twice a week during the day. My other classes are night classes so that's fine. \n\nMy problem is that I desperately don't want to take this job. However, I really need the money. My rent is about $500/month. Gas about $100/month (I commute to school). I feel like my body is wearing out and I'm unhappy all of the time. I'm only 19-- I don't want a career! The only thing I look forward to is going to my Architecture classes because I'm actually interested in them. I could take out loans, but I don't want to be starting that already... I still have a long time to be in school. My parents are pushing me to stick with it, because, well, they don't have money either.\n\nPlease tell me I can quit :(", "summary": "Super busy because of job and school, super unhappy. Boss wants to promote me to full time. I need money, but I want to quit. TELL ME TO QUIT"}
{"id": "t3_15rt57", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is what I did (21/f) an end all be all with my 7 year long relationship (21/m)?", "post": "I recently came to my significant other and spoke to him candidly about what I did. 2 years ago I had a crush on someone for about a school semester, spoke to him, hid I spoke to him. I feel like I did it because I felt very low about myself, felt nice to have someone make me feel good. It was not a serious crush/liking. I never expressed my feelings to him, but we did talk often and I hid it and realized it was wrong after looking back objectively. Recently, I had another crush on someone else, I felt flattered someone would like me, but I never flirted, never wanted him over my s/o but again hid speaking to him, even though it was never sexual conversations. Both were ones you would have with a friend. It was mostly about school, studying, sometimes about family things, regular conversations, never sexual or flirty.\n\nI see marriage with my s/o and wanted to come to him and tell him this as I did not want any secrets or hidden feelings anymore. I was honest with him, told him everything, told him sometimes I would fantasize/think about these guys (only the second guy was sexual; the first guy was mostly just thinking about hanging out or having fantasies of him noticing me and seeing me as beautiful (kind of weird thinking back to it now)). I haven't spoken to the first guy in a year or more as I realized how wrong it was of me, and I have also cut off contact with the second guy as well. I have no intentions of continuing speaking to them.\n\nI told him this. I know it could be considered emotional cheating, which is why I came clean. He said the fact that I would think about them ruined everything. He says I ruined the past 7 years now, that it is too late now to make this right. I never expected him to end this. Is this really unfixable?", "summary": "> told bf recently i had crushes/spoke to guys/no flirting. He ended it. Is this unfixable?"}
{"id": "t3_j0w2t", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I used to organize my life pretty well with a Palm Z22 PDA back in the 2006 and on era. How can I reorganize my life using an iPhone?", "post": "I don't see the iPhone the way I used to look at the Palm Z22 PDA (Personal Digital Assistant) that I had. It was great.\n\nThe thing I liked about it was the Tasks and Scheduler. I know the iPhone has a calendar but it doesn't work the same as the PDA I had. I know there are a ton of apps that focus on task but none like Palm did in the PDA.  \n\nI don't want to have ten million apps with different task in each because I always like keeping things in one place.\n\nI am willing to work again with the iPhone if someone can help me use it an a way that the I used the PDA organizer that I had.\n\nPlease help me and thank you.\n\nI just wished that the iPhone was more integrated with an organizer so that I don't have to rely on downloading apps.", "summary": "How can I make my iPhone into a better organizer? Or How can I use my iPhone as a better organizer?"}
{"id": "t3_4aebsx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] crush on [17F] but not sure about her", "post": "I have recently started liking this girl a lot, and I feel like whenever we hang out, she shows a lot of interest in me. Right now I'm on spring break (this has happened before). Every time I try to message her or \"Snapchat\" her, usually she just checks it and never replies. She'll reply once/ twice a day and then at night once or twice, even if it's an important question. I have no idea if she's into me. Can someone give me advice as to how should I go about with this? She's kinda popular at school and really attractive as it is. Me, not so much..", "summary": "girl \"checks\" messages, barely replies. I'm getting mixed signals."}
{"id": "t3_37f2f1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my crush [16 F] have become best friends recently. Do I make a riskier move now or wait until later?", "post": "We've gotten really close over the past few weeks and I found that I really like her. We hang out one-on-one often (movies, coffee) but I don't think she likes me like that. When her brother and friend have said she should/is going to date me, she reacted negatively. When I first met her in the fall last year she admitted that she liked me, but that was because she was \"desperate\". If I ask her out now there is a good chance she'll reject me because she doesn't see me like that. My friend says if I wait she might realize how much we have in common and like me. In the meantime I was going to workout and get my mild acne under control. What should I do about this girl?", "summary": "Is it better to ask her out now or later?"}
{"id": "t3_4061b6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] will no longer have lunch with me[20 F] because I am in a relationship with a mutual friend.", "post": "My friend, lets call him Bob, has known me since we both started uni four years ago. We met my boyfriend at about the same time and I started dating my bf a few months ago. So, my boyfriend and I are both friends with him but since I have started dating my bf Bob will not go to lunch with my during uni unless my bf is there. My bf has told me he respects boundaries but I feel like I am not Bob's friend if he is making me feel like I need a chaperone to hang out with him. \n\nIf he was my bf's friend first or if he met my boyfriend and I while we were dating I would understand but I feel like, because I am female I am now no longer a friend but just his other friends girl friend. I feel like, I am no longer an individual because of this. Similar things happen with other people at uni where, if we are in a lecture they will sit beside me but then get up and move to let my boyfriend sit there instead. Because he is my boyfriend ... I can't be an individual and people just assume he has to be with me all the time. He seems fine with it but I feel like I am just getting lonely only being able to be with people if I am with him, as part of a couple and not just me. I am on an all male course also.", "summary": "Mutual friends not doing things with me that they did before because they have to \"respect boundries\" for my bf."}
{"id": "t3_11gbne", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking to move from Australia to America to be with my girlfriend. Would thoroughly appreciate input from anyone who has experienced this.", "post": "So here's the deal. I met my girlfriend on World of Warcraft roughly 10 months ago.  We've been in an online relationship for almost 8 months now. We have a very strong relationship and we both know that we are meant to be. Now please don't judge me on her age, she is currently 16 and I'm 19. That pretty much eliminates running away and marrying her for a visa. I now believe that it would be best for me to go to America on some sort of student visa. I understand that a lot of you are probably thinking I'm making a mistake; however, I'm not here asking *whether* I should do it but asking *how* I should do it.\n\nOriginally the plan was to wait a few years until she turns 18 and then she could come and live here in Australia with me. My parents are very supportive in whatever I choose to do, unfortunately hers aren't. It would be much easier on everyone if I left to live in America considering how close she is to her immediate family. \n\nI am even more motivated to move to America because I'm fairly dissatisfied with my career at the moment. I'm halfway through a 4 year apprenticeship that I'm not interested in; I wouldn't pursue it after I move. Taking into account my current wage, I am also considering finding a short term, relatively high-paying job to help fund it. \n\nEssentially, I'm looking for someone's help to answer the following:\n\n- Roughly how much money would I need assuming I found my own accommodation?\n\n- Which sort of visa should I apply for to work and/or study?\n\n- What would I include in rough 'to-do' list?\n\nThank you, if anyone has gone through this process I would really appreciate your input. If you need anymore information I'm happy to fill in the gaps. Thank you.", "summary": "I'm planning to move to America to be close to my girlfriend. Currently live in Australia and looking for advice and information on how to do it. I'm NOT asking WHETHER I should do it but HOW I should go about doing it."}
{"id": "t3_3jev4j", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing horse with a chair", "post": "This happened a few minutes ago. \nWe are on a meeting and I was so sleepy so I decided to turn my chair around and play with it. I spun it fast until I got dizzy. \n\nI did not stop playing with it and rode it like a horse having my whole weight resting on the back of the chair. my supervisor remided me to stop doing that but....... *SNAP!* \nthe chair broke and everyone gazed at me. I tried to hide it but there was a security camera inside the room. The receptionist came and guess what, All the chairs in the room was a manager's chair.", "summary": "Played with an office chair, turned out to be a fucked up expensive chair."}
{"id": "t3_ym22f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long should I wait for the \"L\" word? [m25, f22]", "post": "I've been with my boyfriend for almost six months now and we're very happy.  We sleep together most nights, talk about the future frequently, and commonly express how lucky we feel to be together and how glad we are that we're together.  As of right now, I feel like he could be on track to be my life partner. (Maybe it's delusional, but I like to think that its a matter of comfort--a lot of the reason that we're together and so serious is that we're just comfortable, and we strangely enough just fit together.)  \n\nHowever, it's been nagging on my brain: My boyfriend still hasn't said that he loves me.  I know he cares about me.  I can see it in the way he treats me and in the immense amount of time he spends with me.  I'm not particularly UPSET that he doesn't said it, because I'm simply happy to be happy and to be with someone who for some reason wants to be with me,  but I'm just wondering, reddit, how long did you wait for that magical word? And how long do you think I should wait?\n\n(I would just say it first, but I want it to be a special moment, and I dont want it to be an awkward \"oh, I don't feel that way yet\" or a pitty/pressured \"I love you.\")", "summary": "its been six months, my boyfriend hasn't said i love you. how long did you wait and how long until I should be concerned?"}
{"id": "t3_18z8f6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To what extent are S/O responsible?", "post": "Sorry for asking reddit for relationship advice.  However this one blows me away and I am not sure what else to do.  BACKGROUND:My girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile. We typically see each other every night but on one occasion I hung out with friends an hour later than I had anticipated so we were unable to.  I sent a text apologizing for losing track of time and response was sent a picture of the results of her cutting herself.\n  This has never happened before but obviously makes me question the relationship! At what point are significant others responsible? I care about her but if not hanging out leads to cutting I am scared that what will result from ending the relationship.", "summary": "Apologized for losing track of time.  Received the result picture of cutting herself.  I dont know what to do and am scared of what could result if I end it."}
{"id": "t3_53q2dm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [25M] said it didn't feel 'natural' to be with me [22F]", "post": "I was seeing this guy for a month and it started off really strong. We would try to see each other all the time, we would talk on the phone every night for hours, we would text all day.\n\nWhen we first met, there was a lot of chemistry and we were very upfront about what we wanted - both of us wanted relationships as an endgoal.\n\nI was hesitant at first about being so lovey-dovey so quick, but he seemed so genuine when he told me how he felt, so I kind of dove in right behind him.\n\nAfter our first couple of dates, he went on vacation and things were still amazing. We would talk all the time and feelings only grew. He came back and we had another date (and sex) and things fizzled.\n\nAfter that, he flaked on our next planned date, but made sure to plan another one in its place. We did go out, had sex again, but things didn't change. It still felt different. I told him if he had lost interest, it was fine - it happens. But he still said he wanted to talk to and see me, but it was just work and distance (he lives an hour away) that was making it hard.\n\nWe tried make plans one more time for him to come down. He said \"he will let me know,\" and didn't end up texting me all that day. I broke things off because I've played this game before - someone who wants to be with me, would be. This guy did not. So I pretty much ended things, saying it was just disappointing but for the best, and he agreed.\n\nDays later, he texted me and apologized. Said the more he saw me, it didn't feel \"natural for us to be together\" and work just made it harder. Also told me it wasn't anyone else in the picture either. We kind of got into a back and forth and he admit, he just lost interest. He pretty much said he strung me along because \"he just wanted to like me back\" which is confusing to me, because in the beginning all he could talk about was how much he liked me.", "summary": "A guy I saw a lot of potential with fizzled out on me because apparently he didn't like me back, and I can't stop thinking about it and what went wrong."}
{"id": "t3_1b83fl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Serial cheater [M29] looking for advice re GF [F28]", "post": "My GF [F28] and I [M29] have been dating for three years. In the last year, I've cheated several times. Each time I was very drunk, although I wasn't blacked out. I've since stopped drinking to the point of getting drunk. No need for a lecture on my behavior -- I realize how awful it was and that I need to change, regardless of what happens in my current relationship. What I would like is some rational advice from anyone who has been on either side of this situation. I'd like it to work and I'm committed to changing my ways, but I'm worried that the guilt will be too much for me long term. I'm certain she would (rightly) end it if she found out. However, if I were in her position, I'm not sure I'd want to find out (assuming it didn't happen again) since we are otherwise really happy together. Assuming she never finds out, is it possible to have a successful long term relationship? On the other hand, should I tell her and hope she forgives me? Or should I break up with her without telling her?", "summary": "serial cheater wants to reform and keep relationship, looking for advice from those in similar situations."}
{"id": "t3_2603mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (17) of 2 years wants to take a break for the summer so she can figure out what she wants in life.", "post": "Both of us are 17 and going through the college selection process together when suddenly she says she wants to take a break for the summer to figure out what she wants. She says she still loves me and cares about me and I feel the same. We have talked and I tried to see if we should do this together but she said she needs her space and to do this on her own. When we do talk it is great. We just don't talk often. I want to be with her. What do I do to get her back. We both have to make college decisions on June first so all of our decisions have to be made by then because of the ROTC scholarship. Should I try and get back together after that or what. It's been about a week and a half since she has told me. I want to work things out and be together again, but as she says now she needs to figure things out. Which I can respect, but I also want her. So should i try and pursue her again after June first. I have told her i am here when ever she needs me or is ready? What do i do /r/relationships?", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to take break to figure things out I don't. What should I do?****"}
{"id": "t3_2xh7os", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I (20M) poke a girl I met (20F) on Facebook??", "post": "So I met this girl at a party the other night, we were super wasted. Anyways, we seemed to hit it off enough and talked for like 2 hours. (totally had my arm around her too it was awesome) So the next morning I wake up and she added me on FB and sent me a message saying \"sorry if i said anything dumb\" or something along those lines and we continued to talk for like 7 messages, and then I kinda didnt know what to say so I didnt wanna reply. Only thing is though shes a bit of a cutie and I'm tryna see if I can hit it or sum'. So I guess I dont know what step I should do, do people still poke eachtother on Facebook? Like is that still a thing? Either way Reddit I need your help help your boy out.", "summary": "Girl I met at a party got ahold of me on facebook, and Im trying to figure out how to talk to her in a non creepy fashion so I can smash."}
{"id": "t3_2krrao", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "He [28m] seems to have lost interest and I [25f] don't really understand", "post": "In August, I met who I thought was a great guy on okcupid. We hit it off online immediately and began texting constantly. After about a week, he asked me out to dinner and a movie and it was the best date I'd ever been on. We began seeing each other 2-3 Times a week and fell into an easy rhythm. It seemed like we were going to become official and we both said we weren't seeing anyone else. \n\nAbout a month ago, he became a bit distant, and stopped texting as much. I asked what was up and he explained he hadn't lost interest, but was adjusting to a new job. We had a great talk and things went back to normal- talking a lot and hanging out every few days. \n\nWithin this past week, I feel like things have changed completely. Rather than him just taking a while to text back, he has completely ignored my texts or gone entire days without texting me himself. When we do talk, it's me carrying the conversation. \n\nWe only hung out one time and that was in a bar, not alone, but everything was exactly how it always is. We were relaxed and he acted completely normal. He even kissed me goodnight.  But then the next day he didn't answer my text and blew off the plans we had made. \n\nAt this point, I don't know how to proceed. I really like him and that is a big step for me. I never date and I don't want to ruin things with the first person I've fallen for in years. On the other hand, I feel like I'm not a priority at all and that hurts. \n\nI don't want to come on too strong and I want to give him space to adjust to his new job, but how do I know if that's what this is? How do I know he hasn't lost interest all together? And if he has, how do I get over it?", "summary": "After a great start to our relationship, he has stopped texting and asking me to hang out. Says he adjusting to a new job, but how do I know if that's what this is, and that he hasn't lost interest?"}
{"id": "t3_2qidur", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24/M] handle an acquaintance [26/F] who was sexually assaulted?", "post": "Was told to [cross post] this from /r/sex.\n\nFirstly, sorry for the throwaway.\n\nA few months ago I began chatting with a girl on OKC. We got on pretty well but after about a week or two she stopped replying. I was disappointed but just let it be. About a month later she contacts me explaining that she has been sexual assaulted at a party, and has no further interest in dating anyone (obviously understandable) and just sent me this message to explain why she'd been ignoring me. She said she didn't expect to hear from me again but left a phone number anyway.\n\nI already kinda like this girl, and I like to think I'm not an arsehole, so I want to help her in any way I can. I text her some condolences (hopefully they didn't appear trite) and she thanked me, and we have been chatting (not about dating or anything, just small talk) since then at limited capacity. I haven't asked for any details of the event.\n\nI have a few questions for you lovely folks.\n\n* How has my communication been so far, and how could I improve it in the future? Is there anything I could be saying or doing to help her?\n\n* I am still interested in dating her (obviously I don't want to rush or force her or anything, I mean when she is ready). How should I, if at all, express this?\n\n* If hypothetically we were to date at some point in the future, what, if any, issues might we have to deal with relating to this? Would it affect our sex life? If so, how, and for how long?\n\nReally appreciate your help, and please, if you want to yell at me for being insensitive or selfish, please try and keep it constructive. If I really am being an arsehole I want to hear advice so I can not.", "summary": "Love interest was assaulted, I'm still interested, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_qjqa1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! My 4 yr old startup may be collapsing.", "post": "Reddit your my only hope.  Well not really, but I can't sleep and I'm panicked and you guys always seem to have awesome advice for others in need so I thought I'd try my luck. Boy do I need some right now. \n\nSo here is my story: 4 years ago some friends and I started a little software and IT consulting company out of college. We've done ok for ourselves and managed to make it work but never got it very stable because none of us are particularly good at finding new work. About half of our revenue is in repeatable work, where we essentially operate as another company's IT dept.  The other half is semi regular software projects that last a while but tend to be boom/bust.  We were really hoping to pivot this aspect into a product company ala 37signals.  So far no dice but we've come close a few times. \n\nFlash to today:  we get an ominous email from our biggest client (20% revenue for all four years give or take) after hearing they are looking to hire an IT person internally.  We are already in a shaky position because we just moved into new space and got a line of credit to start hiring so our expenses are up a bit. If we lose this client it would essentially mean we are screwed with our new obligations.  It would mean we couldn't hire and would likely have to close our doors because we couldn't pay ourselves enough to pay our personal bills (before you ask we already make less then your average programmer/sys admin of similar experience but love what we do). \n\nAny advice or ideas to help me stop worrying and learn to love my demise?", "summary": "Poor startup owner may lose anchor client at worst possible time. Can't sleep, need advise. "}
{"id": "t3_3fcjuv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Non-romantic] I [24/F] just found out my father [55?/M] took inappropriate pictures of me as a child", "post": "I'm not sure is this is the right place for this, and if not please redirect me to an appropriate subreddit.\n\nMy cousin and I had been drinking, and this came out. Long story short, when I was a kid there were pictures of me taken that a family member came across in our house. She brought it to the attention of my mother, who went to the police. Full report and a physical for me, I was \"intact\". My parents divorced for a number of reasons.....but this is the first I've heard of this reason. My father is long out of the picture, getting a hold of him near impossible, and I do not wish to.\n\nI remember some of it, and none of my memories concerning it really made sense until now.\n\nI'm not sure how I feel, truth be told. I've talked to a couple close friends, and while they're sympathetic, there's nothing.....constructive I can do to feel better at the moment. I've started keeping a journal just to get it off my mind and on paper.\n\nHow do I cope with this news?", "summary": "Father took inappropriate pictures of me, unsure of how to cope."}
{"id": "t3_1lh90c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend is suffocating me with a need for attention. I need help.", "post": "So a bit of a backstory. We've been dating for about 8 months, (Her 21, me 20) but a good chuck of a few months were long distance in the middle (school) The problem is she's back on campus now, and I can't get any time to myself anymore. Whenever I am off work, or have the day off, she wants to be with me. I'm all for that, but when I'm with her I can't get any work done or do anything else but pay attention to her.\n\nWhenever I tell her I need to leave or that I don't want to come over, she get's really quiet and shies away from me. Even if I have to get out of bed to get to the bathroom, it takes 10-15 minutes before she finally lets me go. \n\nShe always says she doesn't want to keep me from things, but when I bring it up she gets very upset and stops talking to me.\n\nAny help here? I love her to death but I need my space.", "summary": "Girlfriend constantly seeks my attention, gets mad when I need time to myself."}
{"id": "t3_3druzn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by accidentally giving my friend a facial.", "post": "Obligatory wasn't today but rather a few months back. \n\nA while back, my friend (let's call him Johnny) turns up and let's him self into my house in the morning whilst everyone was sleeping off their drinks from the night before. \n\nJohnny being a twat decides to wake everyone up by running about the house like he's just escaped from an asylum. Naturally, someone had to do something. \n\nMe, being the hero I am thought it would be funny to chase him and ping a condom filled with the holy juice from the night before at him. \n\nBut. \n\nRather than the condom hitting his face and silencing his shit antics, it burst. \n\nAnd of course he got a face full of the love potion. \n\nFair to say he wasn't happy.", "summary": "accidentally gave my friend a helping of pecker sauce."}
{"id": "t3_21jo4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17M] How to not hurt feelings?", "post": "I'm a 17 year old guy with relatively little relationship experience, and have a predicament that I have no idea how to get around. There are twins that I know for a fact both like me, and I'll call them A and B.\n\nA is definitely more attractive ascetically and personality-wise (They're both still pretty) and I want to ask her to Prom. How do I do this tactfully without hurting B's feelings? They are both in several of my classes and sit next to me, and I would rather B not hate me for the rest of the year.\n\nThanks", "summary": "How to go about dating a twin when they both have classes with you."}
{"id": "t3_3hgtfj", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "I caught my boss adding extra time to her pay sheet and don't know what to do", "post": "I am in charge of checking payroll where I work, and I see how many hours people work during the pay period (2 weeks). We've had a lighter month than usual, and a few people were commenting that they didn't work as much because of it. What should have been 80 hours, was more like 70-75. One person barely broke 60. \n\nI noticed my boss had 80+ hours, even though she took two half-days during this pay period. She over compensated her paid time off (PTO). She added time to her half-days so that she had close to 10 hours for each of her days off, even though she didn't put in more than 8 hours a day at work this whole month (she worked closer to 7 hrs a day). She is constantly complaining about the budget and complains when we (the employees) need supplies (you know, for our jobs). I feel like she's cheating the company by taking extra time off she didn't earn, and even getting some over time when she's pretty much the only one (there is a specialist who has the most work out of everyone regardless). I'm not mad she took PTO, I'm mad because she intentionally set it for more than 8 hours to boost her paycheck. \n\nThe problem is, I can't do anything about it. I have a very low position and I hold no sway. I can't tell the higher ups in the company/corporation, because she's in good with all of them and it will just come back to bite me. I can't tell the other employees because that will just start more drama and tension in the office. I'm also not entirely sure if what she did was unethical in taking advantage of the situation, or if anything wrong actually took place. \n\nSo, is this unethical or illegal, or am I just not used to office politics?", "summary": "\u2013 my boss added hours to her work week when there was a lull, and there's nothing I can do or say to keep this from happening again. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1738ol", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M26] and my girlfriend [F31] are constantly over-analysing our new relationship [3 weeks].", "post": "So my girlfriend and I were both Forever-Alone types until we met. Neither of us have had a major relationship since high school, and as a result we're both out of practice and super-paranoid about everything. And since we're both massive geeks, we're constantly looking for information and validation on what we're doing.\n\nWhenever we do anything, we over-analyse our actions way too much, instead of just doing it. The day after our first kiss, we spent half an hour talking nervously about how we kiss, if we like it, if the other person didn't like it, etc. By the end both of us felt embarassed and apologised for asking so many questions.\n\nWhether it's physical stuff like hugging or kissing, or other stuff like where to go on dates, when to see each-other and the like we're always having meta-conversations about what we're doing. Besides the meta stuff, our relationship is pretty awesome (we're both *incredibly* attracted to one another, physically & mentally).", "summary": "Me & GF are out of practice and overly nitpicky about our relationship. Is this just a natural part of a new relationship, or is there some way we can minimise it?"}
{"id": "t3_2t0aec", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by cock blocking my best friend and her friend", "post": "I was suppose to hang with a gal pal of mine today, I called her, three times. I was really looking forward to hanging with them over break. But neither one of them picked up. I don't have the other girl's number.\n\nSo I woke up early and got ready, because my friend (we'll call her Emily) had told me Friday night that I would need to get ready early around 11 AM. I'm usually up at 8:30 so I was ready by than. I let 11 o clock roll around and I called, no one answered. So I sent her a text, telling her to call me back whenever she was ready than with a smiley face. I never got the call back.\n\nOn Sunday I woke up and got ready again, called Emily again at 11, nothing again. So I laid around the house surfing the web.\n\nAnd here we are, and here I am, I called Emily at 11 one more time, it rung 3 times and went to her voice mail, so i left her a message, telling her to call me sometime today. She didn't call me until just a few minutes ago, and she was mad, and got a little loud at me and she proceeded to tell me that Emily and Hannah were spending the weekend with two boys, and that when I had called I had disturbed their moment over the weekend, and that I should take a hint to leave someone alone...", "summary": "called my best friend, 3 times (once everyday at 11 AM like she told me to do) she called me just now and told me that I was cocking blocking her and her friend over the weekend. So I got ditched for some dude."}
{"id": "t3_3iis9a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 M] have never felt love before,and am unsure if I love my girlfriend [16 F] of 7 months", "post": "Hey there. I am a 16 year old boy, who before this relationship has never actually been in anything serious. Both mine, and her life's have been kinda rocky lately. With me remembering something not so great, and she has family problems. She got her phone taken away for a few days, and during that time I realized, I miss her, but I wasn't constantly craving her attention. She makes me happy a lot. To add on to this crazy situation, some nights I just get overwhelmed by affection and know for a fact I love her. Only 30 minutes later to be doubting myself if I do Just I always seem to forget how happy she makes me. Even though I know she does make me happy, something just feels like she doesn't. I see me and her dating for a long time. But still constantly feel kinda bummed out. She makes me happy, if she is sad I worry about her, I care for her, I want to make her happy, I see a future with me and her. Do I love her?", "summary": "I don't understand my own feelings. Not sure if I love her, even when she makes me happy."}
{"id": "t3_26ohc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my gf [22 F] self esteem issues", "post": "I have been dating this girl I met off okcupid for 3 months now and things couldn't be better between us. We click so well together I never thought I would find a girl like her.\n\nWe both browse reddit and sometimes we lay close enough together and I can see what sub reddits she's subscribed to and one of them is ladybonersgw. I don't mind that she looks at that at all but what gets me is that I'm a pretty big guy and I look nothing like those thin/lean guys she seeks out. \n\nShe mentioned before about how she's glad I'm bigger than her because she feels self concise about her weight but why would she sell herself short like that? \n\nI feel like I hit the jackpot with her in terms of looks and she acts like the same happened to her. Not once has she hinted or said anything to make me think otherwise and says she loves my belly. \n\nI just feel very confused and hurt that she wouldn't go after what she truly wants. Tho I do have an amazing personality, we click like no other so it's definitely deeper than looks but their are guys out there with Apollo belts and a great personality", "summary": "gf settling for a fat guy, not sure why"}
{"id": "t3_1bquuo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F, 30s] life is much harder than his [BF, M, 30s, together 2 years], the imbalance makes me uncomfortable. What do?", "post": "My life is just (or at least seems to be) a lot harder than his.  My job is more intense and my boss a lot less flexible than his, thus I work more hours and get less vacation.  Although we have the same type of job at different places, mine just seems to come with more responsibility and more demands and expectations.  I am also pretty high-up in a field which is mostly men, and I feel I have gotten this far by always being better than the men to be considered equal.  I am also an only child taking care of my parents who are both ill.  Lastly, I pursue more hobbies and interests and social contact outside of just my boyfriend to feel fulfilled and satisfied.  As a result of all this, I am often tired and need a fair amount of care a support.  I don't get much time off from my job to recover, either. This imbalance in our relationship makes me uncomfortable, \n\nWhen this all started, I thought it would be a few months and then we would reach an equilibrium and maybe even he would have some problems and it would be my time to be the supportive one.  But his life is still relatively stress free, and things have only gotten more stressful for me now as my job gets more intense (we are dependent on government funding, which just got cut, and means more work and less people) and my parents' health has continued to decline.  It's been well over a year of this mess and shows no sign of letting up soon.\n\nI shouldn't always be the one who needs to be taken care of, I feel.  His life is pretty great, I guess (except for the over-extended girlfriend), but I feel like I am a parasite.  \n\nThis is a tricky thing to talk about, especially with him.  He knows he is supposed to be a supportive partner so there is really no safe way for him to tell me this is too much for him without making himself look like a bad boyfriend or like some dirtbag that might abandon me in my time of need.", "summary": "Work and family responsibilities mean I am always over-extended, and less flexible and more frazzled than my boyfriend.  He is always taking care of me and I am uncomfortable with this imbalance.  What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3g67ez", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] desperately need to leave my partner [26/M], but I have nowhere to go.", "post": "I need to leave my partner of 4.5 years, but I don't know where to go.\n\nLong story short... we are just two different people and want two different things out of life.  We get along well enough as friends, but we have very little romantic, and no sexual (he was abusive) attraction between us.  All we do is either ignore each other, or bicker over petty crap.  A few days ago, he tried to grab a knife out of my hands because he didn't want me to make dinner for him.  It is beyond toxic.\n\nUnfortunately I am financially dependent on him, 100%.  I cannot survive on my own.  I have no education, no job, nothing to my name.  I suffer from chronic depression and anxiety, and could not handle the stress of a full time job.  It makes things very difficult.\n\nMy family is loving and supportive, but they barely have a sofa for me to sleep on.  They are going through their own financial hardships, and  I cannot burden them.  I also have pets that need safe accommodation.\n\nWhere the hell do I go?  I feel so trapped.  My relationship is so destructive, and I know it needs to end, before I spiral even further down.  But where do I go?  Who do I turn to?  I cannot even fathom starting to get my own **** together when I'm living with someone who, in part, put me in this situation.  He is NOT supportive or uplifting at all, and if you've ever lived with depression, you know how much harder that makes everything.  And it could take YEARS before I'm in a position to financially support myself.\n\nI can't get out...", "summary": "I am depressed and stuck in a destructive, dead end relationship.  I want out, but I have no money, nowhere to go, and no one to turn to for help."}
{"id": "t3_3x6gvo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M20] breakup with my girlfriend [F19] of two years without devastating her?", "post": "We have been dating for two years (we started dating in high school and are now in college together) and it's been good for the most part but we have a lot of bad times as well. That's not really the reason for me wanting to breakup though. For the past couple month I have just lost affection and attraction to her. The love I feel now is more like love for a friend rather than a SO. Also I have just been feeling like I'm missing out on something and that I don't really know myself and kinda just want to be single for a while. Since this is a relatively good time in our relationship this is going to seem like it's coming from nowhere so I just would like some advice in that sense. \nAlso is it awful to breakup before Christmas? I waited until after exams were done as to not put a load of stress/pain on her before that.", "summary": "girlfriend of two years has no idea I want to breakup with her, how do I do this?"}
{"id": "t3_3tsx6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] have never been on a date. Don't know if l ever will.", "post": "This could be long. Oh well. Anyway, l have never gone out with anyone. At least not in the romantic sense. I've never been asked either. I even went to my senior prom by myself. I was probably the only one there who didn't go with someone. I don't know.\n\n  Well, a little about myself. For starters, I'm gay. Most of my friends know lol. I'm really into (old) music. Goth, Punk, Deathrock, 80's indie/ jangle pop. I also like some non- alternative music, mostly old school. Some days, l look like l attended a Victorian funeral. Other days, l look like a cross dressing burlesque performer out of Tim Burton's mind. l also have a kick ass mohawk lol. Last l checked, it was almost 9 inches tall. But enough about me.\n\n  Back to the problem. I feel no likes me. Well, no one has shown any interest. Maybe l'm being impatient? I don't know. I guess l feel unattractive. Unwanted, perhaps? I also don't know if l want to meet someone through the internet (although l wouldn't be opposed to it). I'm not really sure how l should go about things.\n\n  I guess l haven't approached the right people? I mean, l can strike up a conversation with anyone. I have reasonably good social skills. Maybe no one will approach me? Not sure. I'm not trying to complain or anything. I just wanna put it out there. I'm sure there's something l'm not doing right.\n\n  I need input, at the very least. Perhaps a step in another direction that l haven't considered. There's not much else l can think of. I don't know if l should wait or what. I could end up waiting forever. Anyway, I would appreciate any thoughts, advice, etc. I apologize if l don't respond or anything. But rest assured, l will indeed read comments. Thank you :)", "summary": "I've never gone out with anyone. I could be doing something wrong. Maybe l never will, maybe l might. What should l do? I'm really quite clueless, unfortunately."}
{"id": "t3_220c8p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 M] with my Wife [34 F] 13 years, looking to find ways to approach my wife about sex.", "post": "Male, Married nearly 13 years and 3 kids, I've really focused for the last several years on improving our sexual intimacy.  My wife, like most women, needs several hours of thinking about sex to warm up to the idea, which is VERY difficult for her and has been an issue nearly our entire relationship.  It's one thing to just ask, but if I need some ideas/advice about approaching my wife sexually.  Ideal situations would be appreciated from other women, but how about the during the week and we're not going out that evening too and I'm not able to woo her in the romantic sense?  \n\nHow do I 'seduce' my SO so she is open and willing to engage in sex with me on a regular basis?  How does your SO connect with you outside the bedroom?  How does your SO ask you about having sex with you?\n\nI would appreciate comments from those in LTR's.", "summary": "Women of Reddit in LTR's, how do you like to be approached by your SO in the bedroom?  What is he/she doing outside of the bedroom that puts you in the mood?  What do you do yourself to put yourself in the mood?"}
{"id": "t3_gykqd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help! it's my Dads birthday in 3 days and I cant find this album anywhere!", "post": "Guys and Gals where ever you are I'm looking for either a digital or CD copy of 'White Rock' by Rick Wakeman. Its for my dads birthday. the only reason he hasn't already bought it is because its like \u00a3100 on amazon.\n\nSo i was hoping you guys would help me out. non of the torrents I've found work. I'm happy to pay for it, just not stupid amounts of money. If all else fails I'll have to get it off amazon and cry over how much i spent... My dad doesn't know and I know he'd love the surprise.", "summary": "Need help finding 'White Rock' by Rick Wakeman digital copy or CD."}
{"id": "t3_m1gnr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just was wondering if I deleted Google chrome history \" from the beginign of time\" and uninstalled GC would the history be able to be recovered?", "post": "Basiclly I got terminated at a job recently . and I installed GC and when I was terminated I deleted the history and unistalled it . I did not know if a his IT guy could go back and get the all of the history. \nAlso he had servers but I dont think the internet went though the servers. but I just want to make sure.... ( some reddit gone wild on there but I always deleted the history after.)\nHe keeps saying that he had his IT guy come in to \"fix \" the computer I damaged. He said he was going to see if I sent any emails to his vendors ( which I didn't , but I deleted all my emails a week befoer I was terminated)\nAlso could he forge emails to make it look I did send emails\n\nany info would help\n\nsorry about the grammar and my typing ability ,", "summary": "browse NSFW at work delte history and unistalled . is it still there?"}
{"id": "t3_2pe4ia", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex-girlfriend [17F] 2 year relationship ended a few months ago, not sure what to do now.", "post": "Sorry for probably not making sense:\n\nBasically, my girlfriend of around 2 years broke up with me a few (3 ish) months ago. \n\nShe gave the usual its not you it's me, we can still be friends (i guess this is normal), but she has since ignored every question I asked her through facebook etc (not even opening them). \n\nI was curious as to what was even hapening because she never really gave a proper reason, I gave up eventually but later found out that it was because she had no time as we are both in school and she has a lot of work that she's struggling to keep up with and said the relationship felt like it wasnt worth the time she didnt have any more.\n\nI know the 'not being worth time anymore' thing was probably because i acted more of a regular friend rather than a boyfriend towards the end and it took me too long to realise, I guess just got too comfortable and got lazy. (aka didnt do much nice bf/gf stuff/romantic stuff)\nI think she still likes me but im probably wrong, I'm giving her space like she wants and i totally understand her reasoning because its important she does whats right for her because, hey, its her life.\n\nI know im young and it may seem silly to be like this but still, just wanted an outsider opinion.\n\nJust still not sure where I am meant to go from here, does anyone think I have a chance again with her in the future because she's cool as fuck and I enjoy her as a person.", "summary": "Should I continue give her space until she talks to me, or should I make an effort to salvage this."}
{"id": "t3_2jw9us", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not checking I had nice shoes for an interview...", "post": "Probably not worthy of some of the stories on here, but it was a fuck up none the less. I had an interview today, and I checked last week that my smart shoes were still where I left them, opened my wardrobe, saw two leather shoes, good, still there, fantastic, I'll polish them the morning of the interview before I go. \n\nSome backstory may be required here, I may have mentioned on Reddit previously that I have rather large feet. (UK 14-15), so it's difficult to buy nice shoes that aren't for working on building sites. I buy them online, and I usually buy two or three pairs to see me through for at least a few months. I last bought shoes 12 months ago. \n\nAnyway, I pull them out this morning, and place them upon my bedroom floor, when it occurs to me that they're not exactly what I was hoping for. They were both for my left foot. Not a problem, I thought, dig deeper into the cupboard, and the right will be found. Was it fuck. I had the entire wardrobe out, and couldn't find a right shoe anywhere. I then spent an hour ringing around shoe shops in my relatively local area, asking if they did smart shoes in a size 15. No, they didn't. \n\nI was there, in a room full of suited guys, dressed in a shirt with dark jeans and bright white basketball trainers on.... Fortunately the company has no dress code, and someone else was wearing slightly less obnoxious trainers, and nothing was mentioned.", "summary": "Didn't check my shoe situation, 2 hours before an interview realised I had two left shoes and not one right shoe. Had to go in trainers."}
{"id": "t3_27mc0u", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By having self esteem issues, constant worrying and paranoia", "post": "This happened just a few minutes ago. My girlfriend and I, lets call her Jan, were sending pics to each other. Jan is pansexual. She accidentally sent me a picture of one of our friends, we will call her Hope. This is where my low self esteem, paranoia and worrying begins. I asked her why she had a pic of her on her phone, she replied with \"it was a good picture. Plus I kinda like her.\" I start asking her if she'd ever leave me for someone else, cheat on me, etc. She got really mad and said \"Trev, I think we should see other people.\"", "summary": "lost literally the only person I had in my life due to having paranoia and low self esteem and for constantly worrying about little things."}
{"id": "t3_dzlpp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you define your nationality?", "post": "*", "summary": "The place my ancestors are from is now a different country. How does this affect me, and why should it (or shouldn't it) affect me?"}
{"id": "t3_4h35jz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [F20] BF [M21] finally got a car but wants me to meet him halfway somewhere then pick me up.", "post": "We've been together for almost a year. I have a car, he didn't until tonight. He had to pick the car up that's an hour away from where I live. A friend wants him to come visit after he picks up the car but lives an hour and a half from the location of bought car.\nNow, if my BF turned around to pick me up first, it would take about two hours to get to his friends.\nIf my BF went straight to his friends without me from the car location, it would take an hour and a half.\n\nMy bf asked me to meet halfway (about an hour away, because of how the freeways intersect,) park my car in a safe location, and he'd pick me up. I said no. Then he asked if I'll just drive straight to my friends. I said no. There's no point in taking two cars, I don't like driving so far by myself, and I'm just not comfortable in that area by myself and I'm not down to leave my car alone for over a day.\n\nHe then asked if it was okay if I just saw him tomorrow instead. It may sound petty, but I said no. That's just because I was annoyed he would ask me to do that and I had been waiting for him all day. Plus, he's a hardcore lagger and I knew I would end up just waiting on him again all day tomorrow so I'd rather just make other plans since that's not how I want to spend my Saturday off. \n\nAm I being unreasonable? I want to know if I should admit my inconvenience.", "summary": "BF asked me to drive halfway to a location two hours away to park my car and pick me up because that's where the freeways intersects to get to his friends house, or drive the whole way. I said no, because I don't want to leave my car somewhere fucking far overnight, I'm not familiar with that area so I'm scared to drive by myself, and  there's no point in bringing two cars when he could just drive the extra 30mins to get me. Was I unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_2arqi1", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Not negotiating salary on an offer?", "post": "I got an offer yesterday that I knew was coming in. I prepared myself to try to negotiate assuming the base salary would be lower than I thought, but it actually was higher than I thought with the ability to earn a performance/quota-based commission, also a lot higher than I expected. I asked them to email me the information along with the benefits, which are acceptable to me.\n\nI don't feel the need to try to negotiate more, essentially the base salary is the top of the range I had mentioned I wanted. After reading all the advice here, I see people say to always try to negotiate and I'm just not sure how to do it when I think the compensation is good.\n\nMy only concern is that since this is a bigger company than those I previously worked for, what I think is good might actually be the low end. Also, I'm female and I know women tend not to negotiate which helps add to the pay discrepancies between men with the same position and I don't want to put myself at a disadvantage. I know they give yearly pay increases but from what I read on Glassdoor its very low (someone said 1-3%) And lastly, it's a role where I'd have to negotiate with clients and I read that in these roles they expect you to show your skills by negotiating.", "summary": "Is it bad to just accept an offer as presented without negotiating? "}
{"id": "t3_1avd38", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M] How to initiate grinding/kissing at prom? [Both 17]", "post": "I became good friends with a girl that I know has liked me for about a year and we are going to prom together next month. She told my friends that she wants to kiss and grind together at prom, but she said I would have to initiate it. I have literally no experience with girls and feel that things are still a little awkward between us. I feel like we are both ready to start getting a little more serious but I feel like I might get nervous when the time comes and I'll miss out. Any tips on how to initiate grinding and kissing while still feeling comfortable would be appreciated.\n\nAlso, if anyone has any tips on how to grind/kiss/dance at prom that would be awesome too. I've never gone out with anyone so this is pretty much completely new to me.", "summary": "New to dating; my prom date wants to grind and kiss at prom but I have no experience with either so I need advice on how to initiate and how to grind, dance, and kiss at prom."}
{"id": "t3_1iodv0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a pee-towel around my neck", "post": "So we (21 M/F) are cuddling downstairs and being dorks on our computers as usual, when I feel a weird mood come on to me. We talk about it, turns out I'm just having one of those bad mood days, so my wonderful boyfriend leads me upstairs and draws a nice hot bath for me, with candles and classical music and everything on the side.  \n\nAfter about five minutes in this hot bath, I have to pee AND I'm in need of some nice cool water to drink. He offers to get me a glass of ice water, so as soon he's out of the bathroom I hop up and head for the toilet. I have to move his laptop off the lid, sending both our phones (which we were resting on the keyboard) flying to the floor. Amid the loud noises and movement, my bladder decides it's safe to release, and a small dribble hits the tile.  \n\nI'm forced to squeeze those muscles tight (which is no easy thing once it's time to go) while I get everything else in order, phones back to safety on the counter, laptop off in the corner away from steam and water, etc, but there's now the problem of a puddle on the floor.  \n\nWhile I finally release myself into the proper receptacle, I tossed a small hand towel onto the puddle. When the show's over, the boyfriend enters the room, and I tell him I accidentally got water on the floor when I hopped up to pee. I don't tell him about the pee on the floor, however.  \n\nMinutes later, he grabs up the towel, soaks it in the hot bathwater, and wraps it around my neck to soothe my sore neck muscles (I have a nasty condition from an injury more than 10 years ago), and I keep my mouth shut because I know he would get upset and feel like he messed up somehow if I told him the truth. So I awkwardly sat with the pee-towel draped over my shoulders while he played me beautiful violin music and cheered me up for another 10 minutes.", "summary": "Almost had an accident on BF's bathroom floor and covered it up with a handtowel, which he unknowingly wet and wrapped around my neck to comfort me."}
{"id": "t3_1sxv6g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend[23 M] of 2 years, I feel guilty for not reciprocating enough sexually", "post": "We're a college couple in a conservative country. We haven't had sex yet, but when we get the opportunity (that is, a room), things get hot and heavy, with a lot of kissing and hand action. Except the hand action is one sided. He pleases me a LOT, gets me moaning in no time. But I am exceptionally bad at handjobs. \n\nThing is, we don't get a room to ourselves very often (it has happened only around 6 times in the 2 years we have been dating), so I don't have the chance to practice. And since it happens so rarely, he doesn't feel like taking time out to teach me how to jerk him off. He feels it kills the mood, when we could otherwise cuddle, make out or do other things which normal, sexually active couples do (apart from have sex).\n\nAfter every such session where he gives me like 4 orgasms and he gets none in return (not for lack of trying!), I feel incredibly incredibly guilty. He reassures me that it's alright and not my fault, but he also sometimes jokes about how I'm selfish, or that the night was great for me but not so for him. I know he's 90% kidding, but I can't shake off the fact that he resents me.\n\nI know this probably comes off as a rant more than as someone genuinely seeking answers to a conundrum, but I'm willing to have any opinions/berating/comforting come my way.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I haven't had sex (oral or PiV) yet. He gives me orgasms by fingering, I am terrible at handjobs and he won't teach me because we hardly ever get alone time. I feel very, very guilty."}
{"id": "t3_4qi7dv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Did I [19M] cheat on my girlfriend [20F] by doing drugs with a female friend [19F]?", "post": "Last week I was at a party and I was dancing with my friend (who is female). She had some blow and asked if I wanted to go to the bathroom and do a few lines.\n\nI was feeling kind of adventurous and I asked her to do something that I now really regret. I always had wanted to snort coke off a girls ass since I saw in Leonardo DiCaprio do it in the wolf of wall street. I asked her if she would let me snort a few lines off her ass cheeks. \n\nShe said sure and got on her hands and knees and pulled down her shorts. We did a few lines and left the bathroom.\n\nWe didn't have sex or anything, but I still feel kind of guilty for doing it. Did I cheat on my girlfriend?", "summary": "Did drugs with a female friend and I'm unsure if what I did counts as cheating."}
{"id": "t3_3ahjbt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (19M) with my GF (19F), I love our dynamic but her lack of affection is killing our closeness", "post": "So I'll try to make this short. My GF and I met at school and are currently apart for the summer in a LDR. Physically, she is very affectionate and whenever we're together it feels like we're extremely close. Verbally, we both like to rip on each other all the time. This is great and I love the dynamic because it's always fun and light hearted, but it only works when we have the physical affection to balance it out. She really has trouble expressing any affection verbally, so now that we're apart and continue our sarcastic dynamic, some issues have sprung up. I almost feel like I'm looked down at this point because there is just 0 reinforcement of her positive feelings towards me. We've talked about it and she feels horrible, but we honestly don't know how to fix it..help?", "summary": "Gf and I rip on each other, but she can't express verbal affection to balance it out. How can we work on this?"}
{"id": "t3_41v2w7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by spoon feeding my girlfriend", "post": "This happened about half an hour a go at home. So lately my girlfriend has been studying like crazy for her uni deadlines/exams. Last night she was awake until 4/5am revising so when she woke up I decided to be the 5/7 boyfriend I know I can be and take her some breakfast in bed. Made her some coffee and a bowl of cereal and swanned off upstairs like the food providing alpha I really am. \n\nWrong. I goofed around with her and did the whole \"here comes the plane headed for the hanger\" play, threatening to spill either the spoon full or the bowl on her. This is where I would really like to say I did. I think coating your girlfriend in milk and wheat treats is much better than my FU. \n\nAfter a few seconds of fooling around she manages to get the spoon in her mouth and she chews away still giggling. That giggling slowed down only to be replaced by a look of confusion. She commented about how the cereal tasted weird and I run back downstairs the check the box I left on the side. Make sure they were still in date and all. What box? I quickly found it in the cupboard, still sealed. I make deadlock eye contact with the only other thing on my kitchen unit. \n\nGod damn cat biscuits. Actual cat biscuits. I just spoon fed my girlfriend of two lovely years some super healthy Go Cat Chicken and bloody Rabbit. She knew. She worked it out before I told her. \n\nNo words have been said since.", "summary": "Decided to treat my girlfriend to a master chef style breakfast, substituted Cheerios for Go Cat."}
{"id": "t3_2fxzrm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Whirlwind affair...", "post": "I really don't know who this is addressed to, perhaps myself but I just need to get it out there, since I really can't share this with anyone I know. \n\nI know that we broke it off for all the right reasons. We were both involved but really fell for each other. Since I met you I haven't stopped thinking about you, and that hasn't changed. I still can't stop thinking...Just now...every time I think about you it really hurts...just knowing that I won't ever talk to you every again makes me really sad. We tried to be friends, but that quickly didn't work out. And seeing you now brings mixed emotions...happiness and sadness \n\nWe were able to feel so comfortable and share with each other, you put me at ease and I hope I did the same as well. You made me want to be a better person...despite the circumstances. I know you want me to be happy, but right now it is really bad.  I can't eat, sleep, teach...I often cry when I'm alone...I just feel really sad and depressed. I really want to move on and forget, and I suppose I will in time, but part of me doesn't ever want to forget...you really made an impression on me and that time we spent together was really really good. You truly made me happy...in every sense of the word.\n\nI have no clue how you are doing...if you're happy, moving on....I really hope so, because the last thing that I want is for you to not be anything less than happy. But part of me also feels sad that if you do forget...Just right now, it is really hard for me...despite me trying my best. You always said it was up to me to find happiness...and I am really trying, but it is hard. Ugh, life can suck sometimes :-(", "summary": "had an affair, ended for the right reasons...got heart broke"}
{"id": "t3_1auhsz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do you do when your in an almost completely sexless/romantic relationship? (m26)(f27)", "post": "I've tried everything, we've talked about it, I've given her literature to read, I've shown her reddit, and given her suggestions as to how we could improve our sex life.  I'm no sex fiend, but I do enjoy having sex more than twice a month.  She has no, sex drive.  When we do have sex it is un-enjoyable for me, and for her it seems like work.  We used to have a great sex life, and everything that entails.  But, I cannot do anything to get it back.  We've been dating for 4 years and it seems like (to put it in stupid terms) friend zoned.  I take her on dates, lay with her before she goes to bed every night, cook for her, and so on.  Im not saying I'm perfect, but I don't believe this is right.  Am I wrong? Is this how every long term relationship is? This has been going on for about 2.5 years out of the 4 year relationship.", "summary": "sexless relationship (M26) (F27) I've tried a lot of different things, and it just seems like her sex drive is non-existant and she isn't willing to work on it."}
{"id": "t3_t6cc7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I do it? Trying to build up the courage to ask a mum at my son's school out", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nGoing through my post history, you'll all see I'm a single dad (27) with 3 kids. 2 of which I have full custody and the remaining one is shared custody.\n\nI work full time so my boys go to after-hours school care. Most mornings and evenings there's a mum, a nurse for the hospital in the area that drops off and picks up her own two boys the same time I do. We do talk, but not much\n\nNow I don't really date. I haven't done much dating since the seperation as I've been focussing on the kids. But this mum, my brain keeps telling me to ask her but I keep refusing to because:\n\n1) Even though I only ever see her and not the dad, I'm afraid I might be \nasking out a taken mum. It could make her see me in a different light. Do you think I could ask her kids if mum and dad are together? and;\n\n2) Afraid of the rejection\n\n2) I'm a chicken shit sober lol. My last real relationship was with my kids mum. I was with her from when I was 18 until early last year. So I lack any confidence\n\nWHY THE HELL DO I CHICKEN OUT?!? Help a redditor out guys! What do I do to get back into the game?", "summary": "There's a mum at my son's school that I want to bang. But I'm too chicken shit to ask her out"}
{"id": "t3_272vlr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 F] am really insecure. I made a list of why I want to break up with my girlfriend [32 F] of 6 months, and most of them are me feeling like I'm not good enough for her - are such reasons not valid?", "post": "Reasons why we should break up:\n\n* I feel inadequate in bed - she's had over 40 partners (she admits she's a sexual deviant), and she is into scene and kink, things I'm inexperienced with\n* She's very open with her feelings, but this translates to her always telling me why I should break up with her\n* She's bipolar and has been very dark for awhile.  It's been bringing me down. I feel stressed and anxious often\n* I feel like my opinions don't count (I know I'm being insecure).  She has really thought out the answers and reasoning to a lot of things, and I feel like my own viewpoints aren't as good as hers, so why even bother?\n* She's into mindfullness/chakras, and I just don't believe in that all that much\n* My family will never like her - I'm from a country club family and she's tattooed, rides a Harley, and comes off as very harsh\n* There are a lot of silences lately - we just can't hold a conversation anymore. I feel like it's my fault, but she also isn't helping\n* She talks about her ex-wife all the time\n\nBut dammit, I think about her constantly and I really care about her.  I loved her at one point.  Things are so messy right now that I don't feel that way.  I'm also worried about her.  I don't want to push her over the edge. I feel like I need to be around after the break up, but I'll be out of town this week and her birthday is the following weekend.", "summary": "I'm super insecure, but we have a lot of issues - is it a work on myself problem rather than a break up?"}
{"id": "t3_24ozmo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [29/F] am marrying a \"Wong Dong\" [32/M]", "post": "Redditors who have \"unusual\" surnames, \n\nI need your help broaching a difficult subject. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years now and are starting to talk marriage. I am very excited to spend the rest of my life with him and all that goodness. Problem: he has a rather unfortunate last name. Think Dick, Dong, Boner etc. but slightly less common. I have always tried to be respectful about his family name. I've never bugged him about it, never address the 'are you serious' look we get when making reservations, but I notice the looks we get when he gives out his last name, and all the gentle and not-so gentle teasing from friends. \n\nIs there a way to tactfully tell him that I want to keep my name/give any potential offspring my last name to use publicly? I feel like the general consensus from previous threads is most guys would prefer their new partner take their names. Is there a gentle way to bring this up with him? I'd be happy to hyphenate it legally but I would prefer to keep using my last name, and save the kids (especially a girl) a few years of hardcore teasing.", "summary": "How do I talk to my future husband about his unlucky last name?"}
{"id": "t3_3761o7", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I'm an inexperienced teen [19F] who has a crush on someone in an LDR [22M].", "post": "I met him at work last year, at the time he seemed very friendly and welcomed me with open arms. He's always been goofy towards me, wanting to make me laugh, etc. All of this looked like innocent flirting to me until it was revealed that he has a long distance girlfriend.\n\nAfter I learned that, it was kind of hard to feel the same about his actions toward me, but I still feel like he treats me a little differently than everyone else. He's extremely helpful when it isn't required of him, tends to be around me a lot, and often jumps into conversations I'm having. He still acts jokey and remembers our past conversations as well.\n\nI could also just be inexperienced and reading waaay too much into everything, but I dunno. I'm not sure how to get past this and I just want guidance on how to distance myself without hurting my relationship with him.", "summary": "I'm attracted to a very friendly, yet taken coworker and not sure how he feels about me. Don't want these feelings nor do I want to accidentally come onto him."}
{"id": "t3_2k7ups", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my junk to a 3rd grade class", "post": "This was years ago back when I was still in elementary school and only recently remembered this story thanks to a visit to my closet and seeing the poster again.\n\nSo the story goes that in third grade each student was required to make a timeline presentation that describes their life to date.  This essentially consisted of birth date, first words spoken, significant events, siblings, etc.  The only requirements were that there had to be a picture for each major event in your life.  Like all the other kids I had the generic events such as first fish caught, first trip to a theme park, and all the events that made a kid, a kid. However unlike the other students, I had come from China at like the age of three and I had no real image to represent that event in my life.  The night before my presentation date, my mother told me that she had actually taken a photo of me back in China and that she would find it and glue it onto the poster before tomorrow morning.  Being the naive kid that I was, I gladly accepted this and went straight to bed believing everything would be alright.\n\nOn presentation day, I was excited to be presenting my life to the entire class and had plenty to share.  I was called upon as one of the last students to go and that only made mine that much more epic, or so I had thought.  As i moved through my time line I went through each event, date of birth, first words, and finally final day in China.  However as I get to my third event I see my teacher has this look of shock on her face and many of the kids in the audience with a questionable look on their faces.  As I analyze my picture more closely, I realize that it's me naked from head to toe in a bath hugging a watermelon with my junk clear as day dangling for everyone to see.  Having taken no sex ed. class a girl questioned what it was and needless to say, I had the most awkward time answering her question, talking to my teacher afterwards, and explaining to my mom what had happened.  To her it was okay because I had still gotten my A.", "summary": "Don't let your mom choose pictures for school projects"}
{"id": "t3_3sdz19", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] have very sexist views towards my [20F] girlfriend of 1 year.", "post": "I have really sexist views towards women. I can't help but think of my girlfriend as 'dirty' as she has had sex with more people than me. I always think of her as a slut for the way she dresses and her past  sexual activity even though her sexual past is quite small for someone of her good looks (she's slept with 4 people including me). A lot of my guy friends have slept with loads of girls, and I don't really see this as a problem which is why I feel my views are very sexist. How do I change my views as I feel they are both wrong and breaking up my relationship with my girlfriend.", "summary": "I have old fashioned, sexist views on women. How do I change them?"}
{"id": "t3_1mh94w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[29M] gf [29F] of 5 months just broke up with me because she's depressed, and I feel so helpless.", "post": "Reddit, I'm in a bad spot right now.  My now ex literally just broke up with me because she's been depressed, and says she needs to be alone in order to get better.  She can't focus on a relationship because she isn't even happy with herself.  \n\nShe's been depressed for about 2 weeks, and has been cutting everyone off, and says she just wants to be alone now, yet she told me she loved me like 3 weeks ago, and it was not too long after that everything hit the fan.  I feel so helpless and so small, I was supportive without being needy, and this just throws salt in some of my old wounds... and she seemed so numb doing it as well, almost irritated.\n\nThe worst part is I know she'll get over this soon, and since we have the same group of friends, I will see her everywhere.  I already feel the jealousy surging, the anger, but mostly the heartache (I've seen a lot of girls since my last relationship, but she was the first I loved since my 6 year relationship).  \n\nWhat do I do to get through this?  Why would she just leave like that?  I know her head is legit messed up right now, but she's going out and partying with friends tomorrow\n.  \n\nReddit, I feel so sick to my stomach, and I want to text her but I know how pathetic that is.", "summary": "My gf broke up with me because she's been depressed and assures me I've done nothing wrong and she's been so depressed with life.  We have the same friends, go to the same places, and I just feel like a wreck right now and so hopeless and little in her life. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2wdwjl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [23 F] overreacting because my friend [23 F] of 12 years left me out of travel plans?", "post": "So 3 of my friends (all the same age) moved to the next country over, one of them being really close to me. We still talk all the time and everything and a couple of months ago we all started talking about going on holiday. Mary and Bianca (Bianca is the friend who this is about) really wanted to go to Europe and so did Sophie and myself. But Sophie and me thought it would be too expensive to really enjoy ourselves the way we want to, so we should go to SE Asia where its really cheap and enjoy ourselves thoroughly. Mary and Bianca didn't want to because they felt it would be dangerous to travel there and they were like there's no way we are going there (I know, its ridiculous). Anyway we were like ok but everything got too expensive so the plans kind of fizzled out. Now Bianca messages me and tells me that she and Mary are going to Bali in a few months. What? She didn't even ask if I wanted to go! To be honest, I don't have a job at this moment so I would have said no. She knew I didn't have a job so she probably assumed I wouldn't be able to go which in fair enough. But I still feel like she should have atleast mentioned it to me. Is it really childish of me to be kind of pissed off? She only asked if I wanted to come AFTER I called her out on it. I was like, you said no a few months ago and now you guys are going alone. \n\nMore than anything I'm just worried that the distance if affecting our friendship. I'm scared that she doesn't see me as a 'proper' friend anymore because I don't live in the same country :/", "summary": "Friend left me out of travel plans. I am being a child. But is it kinda, sorta justified?"}
{"id": "t3_2h5jxn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my ex [19 F] of 2 years, planned to still be friends but she's moved on", "post": "Hey guys,\nSo my ex and I both 19 were together for roughly 2 years both of our first real relationships.  Towards the end of the summer this year I had brought up the idea of taking a break.  We are both in colleges in separate states and long distance wasn't really working out.  So we said our good-byes 4 weeks ago and went to school.\n\nWe both tried to stay friends talking to eachother 3 or 4 times a week still via facebook or texting.  Very open about how we were both having a hard time with the current situation.  Today which is a little more than 4 weeks probably 30 days or so since we broke up I get a text saying she is seeing someone.\n\nThis news about her seeing someone I did not take well at all.  As far as I knew we were both still slightly hung up on eachother as of a week ago which was ascertained via our conversations.  I called her asking if she was serious and if I was that easy to move on from.  Turns out 1 year of chasing a girl and 2 years dating them and they can replace you in 4 weeks.\n\nI just need to know if I am overreacting that I think it was way too quick and it shows how much she really cared about me.  I feel like an afterthought and after trying to talk to her for 30 minutes I pretty much said I'm all set with this notation of being friends.  Everything just blindsided me since we were both being open about what was happening.  Just feel easily replaceable and the ex thinks nothing is wrong.", "summary": "After 2 years of dating I was replaced in 4 weeks and didn't take the news well want to know how to deal with it and if I am overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_457213", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23F] with my boyfriend [27M] 1year, told me he is curious to see me with someone else during argument", "post": "This is my first relationship and he has past exes before. Everytime we have a big argument, he tells me that he's curious to see me with someone else just to see who is being reasonable or unreasonable. \n\nIs there an explanation for him to say that to me?\nOr is it okay for him to say that to me? \nShould I just brush it off?\n\nI love him so much and its only been a year together and this statement comes up often when we have a big fight usually from something that I bring up initially. \nThe arguement ends up being big because of misunderstandings and little details like tone of voice and attitudes while we're trying to solve the problem.\n\nHe says that he cares about me but would you say that to someone you care about?\n\nI feel so hurt when he says that to me. I would never want to see him with someone else, or even think about him seeing someone else.", "summary": "Together for a year, this is my first relationship. During a fight would you tell your SO \"I want to see you with someone else\" to justify who is being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_37c64b", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Should I say something to her?", "post": "So I've known this girl for a about 4 months now and helped her through a breakup...or at least what I thought was a breakup. She has cried to me down the phone about 5 times, saying how much of a dick this guy was and she doesn't know why she still likes him. He treated her like shit but she still kept speaking to him and still does to this day albeit slightly less. \nSo when they *broke up* she was extremely happy and we went to my friends house and had a good night. Long story short we ended up kissing and I thought everything was going to be good. So we get speaking and we go for days out and spend nights together with my friends but nothing else has happened since the first kiss which I don't mind since she has just gone through a breakup and I know it takes time. But as we speak on the phone she keeps mentioning how her Ex is messaging her saying he misses her and how she should go to his house. Then she tells me that he has been ringing her trying to apologise but she tells him that she wants nothing to do with him. This just really starts to piss me off now since I like this girl and I think she likes me back from what I can tell and how we are together when we are around other people.\nBut, on Saturday we were at my friends house with around 6 other people...one of them being one of my best friend who just happens to be good friends with her Ex. We are partying all night and drinking when my friend tells me that the girl I like still speak to her Ex regularly and he thinks there Is still something there.\nNow I can't get this feeling out of my stomach that I am just chasing nothing If she still likes this guy. I don't know whether to just ask her or leave it and hope that she stops speaking to him if we hang out more.", "summary": "Girl I like and who likes me is still speaking to her Ex sometimes; don't know whether to confront her or leave it."}
{"id": "t3_2kpo1p", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Need help.", "post": "I recently moved for a better job but ended up getting let go due to lack of work that was available. \nI ended up getting a minimum wage job but it didn't provided much due to lack of hours. \nI start a new job next week doing maintenence and making good money. But I'm currently 400 short for rent and 200 short for my student loans. \nI've been trying to sell my valuables to cover the rest but nothing is selling. I'd rather sell my things then take a loan out from my family again. They used to bail me out a bunch in college so I'm doing my best to avoid that. \nI guess my question is whether I should head to a pawn shop or is there something else I can do? I know pawn shops are rip offs so I was wondering if there is another option. \nThanks", "summary": "got let go from good job. Need 600$ in a week for rent and student loans."}
{"id": "t3_msvb7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I could stand to loose a [f]ew. I would rather not look pregnant, cause I'm not. pictures inside...", "post": "Hi, I have kind of the usual story, I was always on the average side growing up. I never really liked what I looked like, and now It's not a problem or anything but it's something that should be taken care of.  At the moment I think I am around 169... or something but I'm only 5'3. I really don't know why I haven't had a doctor or someone say, you know, that's a bit much. Anyway...\n\nIn high school I thought that the way my body looked was due to a hormone issue that I have but it's really not. There are plenty of girls without this problem who look awesome. There's no reason why I should not be the best that I can. I just cant for some dumb reason. \n\nWhy I'm telling all you nice people all this is because I need some encouragement.\n\n I know I should eat better but some days I have a bad day and I eat way too much. (this was initially caused by depression but now it's sort of just a habit. you get used to eating four pieces of pizza in one sitting so you just do it.)  \n\nI am not a fan of depriving yourself, I really feel that I can eat what I like it's just a matter of how much. I really don't need to eat as much as I do.  Also, Lately I have been drinking way too much soda. I really want to drink more tea and maybe coffee, and water too.  \n\nI walk a lot but it doesn't seem to be as much exercise as I really need.... I don't really make much money, I can't really make myself do more than walking wherever I go. Maybe  you could encourage me to change that IDK. \n[not pregnant]  [from front](\n\nAlso, for a while I have been wanting to do things on Youtube... and no one wants to watch a fat girl. There's only so many things you can do when you only film form the chest up.", "summary": "I could stand to loose ~~some~~ a lot. Maybe embarrassing myself on the internet would help."}
{"id": "t3_2h1mp0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21/F] boyfriend [21/M] has been personally messaging/contacting girls from sub-reddit porn and other webcam/forum based porn sites.", "post": "Relationship - 3.5 years\n\nThat's pretty much the gist of it. Say you caught your S/O (snooping in their account or somehow I guess) messaging random girls/boys on GoneWild or other \"webcam/forum\" type porn sites, and they were personally messaging a particular person asking for photos of them.\n\nIs this going too far? I know technically it's a \"random\" person that they don't actually know, but I think asking anyone for nudes other than your S/O (if that isn't something that is okay / you guys have previously worked out) is pretty much out of the question and sort of \"cheating\". Looking at the photos on sub-reddits is one thing, but actually coming into contact seems a bit much, and unnecessary...\n\nTo me, looking at porn while in a relationship is like a \"you can look but you can't touch\" sort of thing; it's normal. But I feel like the messages he's sending girls online is sort of breaching this and is like his \"attempt to touch\".", "summary": "My S/O looks at sub-reddit and forum-type porn, which I have no problem with at all (as I do as well sometimes). But he's actually gone out of his way to start messaging some of these girls, asking for more photos - is this too far / do I have a reason to feel angry?"}
{"id": "t3_2sa4mc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not stealing a package", "post": "Yesterday I was looking through my building's packages for my awesome new bike pump, and I noticed one for the apartment above me (i.e. I'm 302, they are 402). Its from a company called \"Jump Sport.\" Nothing too suspicious as they get packages all the time.  \n  \nFast forward to this morning at 6 AM and it sounds like someone is rhythmically hammering on the ceiling. I can't fathom what the hell that noise is. Maybe construction?\n\nThen, I remember the package. Turns out Jump Sport is a company that sells exercise trampolines. I guess I don't need an alarm clock anymore.", "summary": "BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE BOUNCE "}
{"id": "t3_y5pa9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Lose It! app may be trying to starve me . . .", "post": "5'4\" female here, slightly ashamed to tell how much I weigh because I have some pals on reddit that probably wouldn't guess I weigh as much as I do . . . sorry, I've been fat shaming myself for a long time, I'm still not okay with me.  Okay, so I've been on the diet wagon for about 8 months now . . . first started just counting calories, then incorporating exercise 3-5 times a week.  So far good, but slow progress.  I've been using the Lose It! app for iPhone, trying to lose a total of about 40 lbs at a rate of 2 lbs per week.  I'm almost halfway there, but as I've been logging the dropping weight, the amount of calories the app says I can intake is dropping severely to keep up with the desired pace.  Ex. I started with a daily intake of around 1250 cals a day, but since the weight loss, have been restricted to 992 unless I net some more from exercise, which I have to do nearly every day now for at least 30 minutes in order not to go over and not be starving half the day.  I just checked my BMR on the FAQ and it said that someone of my height and weight would need around 1450 cals/day.  I've also noticed that since the program has become so much more intensive, the weight loss has reached a standstill, and some of it is starting to creep back onto me.  Any thoughts/opinions/ideas/similar experiences/advice?  HELP!", "summary": "Lose It! iPhone App is becoming unreasonable weight management program, progress stagnated, need ideas."}
{"id": "t3_2y7jp3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] am moving and my [23/M] boyfriend of 2 years doesn't want to live together.", "post": "First time poster - but I just need to get this out.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been in an LDR since August (8 months) but it is not an extremely long drive so we see each other fairly often (probably every other weekend). We have talked about getting married, but I want to wait until I am finished with grad school to plan a wedding.\n\nI am about to move to go to grad school in the same city he lives in (the decision was for the program, not for him.. just an added bonus). Over the summer when we talked about this being a possibility, he was gung ho about moving in together but has since changed his tune and keeps asking me where I am looking at apartments, what rent will be, if I am looking for a roommate, etc.\n\nI am not fully funded and will have to have a job on top of my graduate studies in order to pay for rent and partial tuition. My BF knows this but does not seem to understand how unnecessary it would be for us to pay to live in separate apartments less than 10 minutes away from each other when I can't afford it (this is not an issue for him, as he has a great job and more money than he needs). Rent would be cheaper for both of us if we split it and moved in together.", "summary": "LDR; Moving to same city as LT BF - he wants us to live in separate apartments. Is it unreasonable for me to want to live together?"}
{"id": "t3_1nhc9x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] and my girlfriend [17F] have been together for 4 months, and she has suddenly began to doubt whether i really \"need\" her and \"love\" her. Advice would be great, I have no idea what to do anymore.", "post": "We've been extremely happy for 4 months now, and we began dating right at the end of my sophomore year of HS (her junior year) and we truly love each other a great deal. However, she has recently been having extremely intense mood swings, where one day she is happy and is texting me about how great I am and that she loves me, and the next she is despondent and says that something feels off, that she needs me too much, and that i don't need her the same amount. \n\nLast week this led to the biggest fight we've ever had, where she accused me of spending too much time with my friends and that I was never with her when she needed me. Although I agree that I had been spending a lot of time with my friends, I had essentially only been with them when she was unavailable. We managed to resolve the disagreement, and she slept over on Friday and all seemed well. \n\nOn Monday (today) she began anew, and said that she tries to not need me all the time, but that she can't. I try to assure her that I do my best, and that I also want to be with her as much as possible, but she won't listen. It makes me feel as if she thinks I don't love her as much as I do, and it crushes me. Thank you all for any advice.", "summary": "Girlfriend thinks that I'm not with her enough, and seems to imply that I don't love her as much as she loves me."}
{"id": "t3_3u6ge6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making a prostitute joke", "post": "So this hapened literally yesterday so as I sit here on the toilet typing this I remember it like it was yesterday.\n\nSo in English we are reading a book and I was not paying very much attention. I was zoned out for a bit and when I zoned back in the first thing I heard was the phrase,\" Why did she tell her father she was a prostitue,' and the inner twelve year old in me blurted out,\" Family Discount?\" \n\nNow keep in mind that I said this very quietly and carefully so only my peers heard it. But them my dumb ass of a friend decided it was to funny to not repeat so he yelled for the whole class to hear,\" Family discount.\" Then of course the teacher heard. So when my friend was confronted by the teacher he told her that I was the one who originally said it like the dumb ass he is. Needless to say both of us have detention for a week and I am grounded from my computer for a month.", "summary": "Made a joke. friend repeated it, made me take the fallout 4 it and now i cant play fallout 4 for a month. "}
{"id": "t3_lln4b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Choose me a path, oh wise community", "post": "Hey, Reddit. How goes it? (We'll consider that question 1, just for kicks, and so you know I care) I'm a high school senior poised to graduate, after which I'll bite off a larger piece of the world to come. The only problem is that I have no idea what part of it I want to chew-- No idea what I want out of life. So, instead of deciding myself, I'm going to leave it up to you guys. I ask that you keep the advice career based, but within that category you may suggest anything you like. My life will be decided by the most popular suggestion. More information about me: I'm of the personality type INTP, Vice President of my Drama Club, and in my free time I'm usually either walking or drawing (mostly cartoons). So, what should I do with my life? (That's question 2)", "summary": "I have no direction. What should my career path be?"}
{"id": "t3_zb9sa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do to help my dog and save him from being put to sleep?", "post": "I love my dog and I worked really hard to get him. However, he ended up being the worst dog imaginable. Think of every bad thing that a dog may do, and this dog does it. We have had him for 7 years, and he's always been this bad. However, the straw that broke the camels back was when he stole an entire pizza pie, then growled at me and finally attacked my father. This is not the first time that this has happened. However, this was an especially bad incident. He really has no respect for us. He does all of the following:\n\n-Pees everywhere. He always does it, no matter how many times he gets walked. this has ruined a portion of the house and we cannot afford to replace it. \n\n-bites family if someone tries to discipline him. \n\n-steals food\n\n-barks constantly for no reason.  I mean constantly, nonstop for hours. It may be allergies, and we have taken him to the vet, changed his food, and even got him groomed. Nothing seems to work. \n\n-cost money that we really don't have. We're in a tight place financially. We won't give him up on this alone, but if he doesn't start to behave then honestly it's not worth the cost. \n\n-bark at strangers in the house and on the leash \n\n- no exaggeration think of any ridiculous cartoon scenario with a bad dog and he's done it\n\nMy parents are getting a divorce for many reasons (part because of tensions caused by the dog, and my mothers terrible alcoholism), we may lose our house and life seems pretty shitty. I would hate to give this dog up, because that would almost certainly mean a shelter putting him to sleep. I love him but nobody can tolerate him anymore. He's so nice at times but this shit has to to stop. \n\nWhat can I do about this animal? Can I reform him at all? Does anyone know of a caring home who would take him in and try to train him? Hell, does any of reddit want him? \n\nSorry for the rambling and often random post.", "summary": "Dog ruining life, need solution or he gets put down."}
{"id": "t3_4i5sv4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (26) avoiding daiting in fear of hurting recent ( break up about 2 months ago) ex even more (dated six years)", "post": "Long story short I was in a relationship for 6 years. Unfortunately I fell out of love, the sex was no existent for the last year or two and overall it just want not a healthy relationship. \n\nAll that aside she still loved me and believed I was the one. She was completely blindsided by the break up ( she said she was but I tried talking about my issues and was never listened too, she must have seriously been in denial). \n\nIt's been 2 months since we broke up and I have been dabbling in the online daiting scene and there mutual interest with a few girls, one in particular. \n\nI'm afraid to pursue anything with her because of fear I would really destroy my ex. Even though I'm not romantically invested in my ex anymore I still care about her as a friend/person. Am I stupid for having these feelings and should I just grow the fuck up and do what makes me happy?", "summary": "I want to date after ending a 6 year relationship but I'm afraid of my ex finding out and being hurt more. Should I just do what makes me happy?"}
{"id": "t3_uoew8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best way to get my friend out of a University Meal Plan?", "post": "Alright details time.  He is moving to a place on campus that requires a meal plan (at least 10 meals per week) catch is, it costs 1,200 dollars.  Which is $350 more than the actual cost of his housing for his semester.  We talked to the university and they essentially said to be exempt from the meal plan he has to have a physician send them an e-mail with explicit detail about why he is not able to have a meal plan.  \n\nLuckily enough, my neighbor across the street happens to be a doctor and has agreed to help us out.   The trick is though, the physician e-mails them the symptoms/reasons, and then they review it with their medical staff, as well as the head chef to determine if they can work out a way to feed him.  \n\nSo, Reddit, what would be medical reasons that he could not eat in the dining halls?\n\nHere is a list of the majority of the foods that get served at the dining halls:\n\nBreakfast:\n\nEggs, potatoes, pancakes, waffles, biscuits w/gravy, cereal, omelettes, toast, bagels.\n\nLunch: \n\nVarious fish, chicken strips, fries, sandwiches, burgers, jalapeno poppers, pizza\n\nDinner:\n\nAsian food, Mexican food, everything served at lunch, ice cream, pasta, etc.", "summary": "Need reasons my friend shouldn't have to eat at the University.  Requires some kind of allergy of some sort."}
{"id": "t3_31mxs4", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "Waffling on everything because of bar option.", "post": "Locations A and B are both pretty, on the water and fit our vibe.  A has advantages in convenience and setting.  However, A, being a park in Minneapolis, is locked in with exclusive caterers.  All told, both venues can come in under our budget for a 100-ish person wedding and reception, but with A we can only afford beer and wine because we're stuck with a specific caterer (whose pricing is outrageous). I'm annoyed at the prospect of spending at least 2 grand just for beer and wine (no signature cocktails either, we still get charged per pour, not by the bottle of sig. booze, so at least another $700?).  Venue B will let us buy all our own booze (huzzah!) and we only need to pay for a licensed bartending service.  So, $1500 total for an ocean of hosted drinks.  I have no idea what's classy, I want people to have fun, and I'm having nightmares where I'm screaming \"NO! Don't you DARE tip the bartender, we paid that little rat enough! Drink your $7 beer!\"", "summary": "As long as we get hitched, the rest is just a party.   Does anyone really care if they get free beer/wine and have to shell out cash for their own hard drinks?    Should I just start looking for an afterparty spot now?"}
{"id": "t3_zfzlp", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How to show my job history in the best light", "post": "Hello Reddit. My job history is good and bad. From 2003 to 2007 I was a retail store manager. Between mid 2007 and late 2009, I changed jobs a lot. I had an opiate addiction and it was hard to stay in a place too long, due to being so up and down. Things started to get better as I mentioned above (late 09) and I worked in finance from that date until a month or so ago.\n\nI was wondering if I should mention the other jobs at all, or focus on one or two others. If I do that though, how can I explain the gaps?\n\nI know it seems as if I am focusing on the length of time I have stayed at various jobs. However, I know how important that is, especially in full time roles.\n\nI would really appreciate some help with this matter. If you need further information, please ask.", "summary": "I started with a job where I stayed nearly four years, worked at four different places after for various lengths of time and stayed at my latest job nearly 3 years. Do I tell about the middle?"}
{"id": "t3_2r22ws", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my sister borrow my old iPhone", "post": "Recently, my sister's iPhone broke. Me being the amazing sister I am, let her borrow my old iPhone that I no longer use. We switched SIM cards so she could use her number, and felt good about doing something nice for once. \nFast forward to a week later she comes up to me asking what the list of names in notes was, which contained one of her good male friends. Shit, shit, shit I forgot that iCloud also syncs notes and she had stumbled upon my fuck list. \nI had to pull a lie out of my ass, something I'm terrible at doing and told her those were people I was inviting to my NYE party, she seemed to not buy it at all. Now, I'm trying to avoid her at all costs", "summary": "let my sister borrow my old phone, she found my fuck list"}
{"id": "t3_3w6fs3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [35M] of 10 months, he checks girls out all the time around me. It makes me feel inadequate, but he says he can't help himself.", "post": "In a way I feel stupid for even posting about this, but it still bothers me. Anytime we go out, my boyfriend will constantly check out other women. It would be one thing if he was discreet, but he doesn't even try to hide it. It's always obvious, and there are even some occasions where he will point out other women and note what he likes about them. For example, a few weeks ago we went on a double date with one of my coworkers and her boyfriend. It was obvious to everyone at the table that he was ogling her breasts, which was embarrassing enough, but to make matters worse, when we got back to his place he couldn't help but tell me how hot my coworker was and how amazing she looked. It made me feel awful about myself.\n\nI have body dysmorphia, so I already have body image issues. I realize that it's not his problem, but it's not helped any by his comments or actions, especially when he always seems to be drawn to girls that are curvier than I am. He is aware of this, but again, he says he can't control himself. \n\nThe thing is, if I tell him how his behavior and comments make me feel, he always tells me I'm crazy. He says that he can't help himself--that men don't have any control over things like that. I realize that, if anything, he's exaggerating, but part of me wonders if maybe he really can't help himself. Is that possible? If it's not, how can I get him to understand how he makes me feel when he does this in front of me or makes those comments? Or am I just being unreasonable and need to back off?", "summary": "My boyfriend checks out girls and mentions what he likes about them to me. He knows I have body image issues and feel inadequate, but he does it anyway. He says it's because he can't help himself. Is this true? How can I better communicate with him? Am I just being unreasonable?"}
{"id": "t3_dksgn", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "vacation with mom", "post": "I posted this in askreddit, but this seems a little more targeted.\n\nI'm trying to plan a surprise vacation for my mom in late December, and I'm having a hard time coming up with ideas. I can think of plenty of places and things that I want to do, but not many things that she and I could both enjoy. I tend to be more adventurous and love trying new things. Being completely out of my comfort zone while on vacation is perfectly okay for me. Last month, I spent a week camping in Utah, alone. The thought of that completely freaked her out. I definitely want to expose her to new things, but I also want her to feel completely relaxed.\n\nMy mom is 59, just quit her job, and moved across two states to be closer to our family. She also just ended a relationship with her boyfriend (somehow that word suddenly sounds childish in a sentence about my mom). My father passed away in 2000, and she had been living with this man for about five years. We used to be really close but over the past few years (I'm 30), my mom and I have been slowly growing apart, and I'm not happy about it. I figure taking her on a vacation will be a good way to start building a new relationship with her. And, with all she's been through lately, she deserves this.\n\nWe were really poor growing up, so she's never traveled anywhere really. I'm pretty sure she's never left the east coast. *Within reason*, money isn't much of a factor for this trip. Some things in life are worth splurging on.\n\nSince this will be December, I'm sure she'd prefer to go somewhere warm. I could probably just take her to Florida, and she'd be ecstatic, but I'm looking for something a little more memorable. Maybe give her something to brag about, somewhere that her friends probably haven't been before. I tried to get some ideas from her about where she'd like to go, but since she's never had the resources to take a real vacation, she's never even let herself imagine destinations she wants to visit.", "summary": "I'm 30/F, my mom's 59. Where's a vacation destination we could both enjoy in December?"}
{"id": "t3_txl0c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most computer illiterate thing you've witnessed?", "post": "Back when I was a med student I used to follow senior colleagues all day long and I was getting pretty used to the whole two-finger typing 1 inch from the keyboard and 2s double click delay thing, but nothing could have prepared me for what I witnessed one day at the maternity ward.\n\nI was co-piloting the senior physician, a woman in her 50's, when after I had asked her a question she went for the computer to look up an illustrative picture of what she was trying to explain. After settling down at the computer and finishing the obligatory locating-the-mouse-cursor dance she then proceeded with the following:\n\n* She opened up the browser and quickly located the google search bar in the top right corner.\n* She typed in Google in the Google search bar and clicked the little magnifying glass after having located the cursor yet again. \n* After reaching the search results (on Google), she clicked the first result which of course was Google. \n* After getting a blank search field on Google she typed in Google Image Search.\n* Once again she clicked the first link leading to Googles image search.\n* After having successfully found an image that she then proceeded to show me she decided it might be a good idea to save the image to be used in a lecture the next day. \n* To achieve her goal of saving the image she first went to the *My Documents* folder and successfully created a new Word document. \n* She then went back to the image, marked it, chose copy (from the menu, mind you), switched to Word again and pasted it using the menu again, finishing the farce by saving the document and chuckling contently to herself.\nI was in awe that she had managed to develop this method and yet failed to find the save image functionality.\n\nThis is also around the time when I passed out.", "summary": "I witnessed an adult, reasonably intelligent human being triple Google Google to reach Google."}
{"id": "t3_2fqyx4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my ex gf [19F] of 5 years. I miss her. Any help?", "post": "I dated this girl for about 5 years from 7th grade until right before our first year of college. We mutually broke up right before college. The first year we visited each other often slept together sometimes and talked a lot. A couple months ago she told me she has been talking to a guy and fooled around with him but that they stopped talking. I was sad but we kept talking and i was getting over it as she was done talking to him. Then a week ago I stayed the night at her house and looked at her phone while she was asleep (I had never looked at her stuff before). She was still talking to the guy and they were fucking. I told her I couldn't talk to her anymore as I needed to get over her as she had obviously gotten over me. Its been a week since I talked to her and I miss her so much. I don't know what to do anymore. She obviously doesn't feel the way I want her to about me but I cant stand going through every day like this missing her.", "summary": "Cant get over my ex girlfriend. Don't know how to go about not talking to her."}
{"id": "t3_3qndjq", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Allergy question. What allergy medications won't make me grumpy?", "post": "I'm a 29 year old man of Hispanic and European descent. I weigh approximately 220 pounds and am 6 feet and 2 inches tall. I am healthy and work out relatively often. I smoke pot, about 1 - 2 bowls a night and occasionally more like 6 bowls with a night. I frequently have a slightly clogged nose and spit up an excess of boogers with green in them. If I use a neti pot daily and take an allergy medication my nose is VERY clear, but it also makes me irritable, in a way remniscent of the grumpiness I feel when I don't eat enough food. Zyrtec and Benadryl both give me vivid nightmares as well, while Claritin sort of puts me on edge, if that makes sense.", "summary": "What can I take that will cure my allergies and still make me a happy person?"}
{"id": "t3_2oumkq", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I threatened to tell my friend's boyfriend that she doesnt like him and shes pissed.", "post": "So ive got a friend who is fat. Lets call him Mike. Me and a mutual friend make fun of this and often joke about him being gay with a second. We do this because we know hes ok with it and can take a joke. One time i took it too far and kept ripping into him and he took it badly. This was entirely my fault. He ended up bitching to my female friend, Jennifer (who i introduced him to) about how much of a horrible person i am. She started ignoring me and treating me like i had just drowned a million puppies. I got in an argument with her basically telling her to fuck off out of my business if shes got no stake in it, and then decided to threaten to show her boyfriend a screenshot she sent me basically saying she doesnt really want to be with him. She use the 'lol dont care' card for a bit and, although i considered it, i didnt show her boyfriend the message. I have a pretty shitty relationship with her and we both pretty much hate eachother 99% of the time. Mikes acting like it never happened and doesnt care, but Jennifers being a total bitch about it. What do i do?", "summary": "OP made fun of friend 1, friend 1 got offended and told friend 2, OP threatened to tell friend 2's boyfriend she doesnt like him, friend 2 hates OP, OP hates friend 2, OP and friend 1 are cool."}
{"id": "t3_v0yff", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats the grossest thing you've ever eaten?", "post": "When I was 15 years old I came back from a camping trip. My mom was in the kitchen and my older brother was upstairs. I left my lunchbox and sleeping bag by the door.She was cooking spaghetti, which I dont like. my brother brought over all of my stuff to the other room where i forgot to put it. Remembering that I had 1/2 of a steak and cheese sub left in my lunch box, I asked him if I could have my lunch box while he was on his way to the other room. When I proceeded to eat my sandwich I noticed it was quite soggy. I figured it was condensation. When I took the bite I immediately noticed something. Condensation shouldn't taste like piss.. I spit that sucker out pretty fast. The rest of that night is just a blur filled with puke and tears.\n\nso reddit, whats the grosses thing you've ever eaten?", "summary": "Brother pissed on my sandwich and I ate it."}
{"id": "t3_23a01l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deciding to try using a pee bottle.", "post": "Hello.  \n\nSo I've read stories on reddit before about people using pee bottles.  Usually when someone is too lazy to get up and pee, they just use a bottle and do it at their desk/chair.  \n\nLast night i had had a few cocktails and was feeling a bit lazy.  I reached down for the first time in my life and peed into a bottle and thought nothing of it.  It filled up to the brim.\n\nLater that night i decided there was too much trash on the floor so i cleaned up and tied up the bag.\n\nSo this morning comes and i wake up groggy. I got ready for work and took large drinks from a gallon of water i had.  This got me thinking about filling a container to bring to work for myself to drink. I looked around and found an Aquifina bottle that happened to be filled. (I had purchased a 24 pack last week).  I remember thinking \"Sweet, free water bottle\".  I had thought that i just happened to miss that bottle when i finished the pack.\n\nI bring the trash out with my bottle at hand, get in the car, get to work.  Now i work on a high floor at the office, so i hopped onto the elevator.  As i was going up i opened the bottle for a sip.  Poured a little in my mouth, swallowed. That's when i realized it tasted funky.  I look down at the bottle, it's slightly less translucent than water. Thoughts immediately rush into my mind about the night before. I felt sick to my stomach.", "summary": "drunk my own pee."}
{"id": "t3_3igq78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [20F] of 1.5 years is not coming for my birthday. Should I be upset?", "post": "It's my birthday on monday and I wasn't sure I was going to have a party upto now, but am now having one on Sunday afternoon as it's easier for everyone to attend. The problem is that my SO's friend(Lets call her Jo) also has her birthday on monday and the Jo's boyfriend planned a party on Sunday for Jo. When I told my SO that I was going to have a party on Sunday and she confirmed that she couldn't make it, I tried to have it on Saturday but realised I have work that day and can't afford to take a day off.\n\n Her reaction to this was that she simply can't not go for Jo's birthday even though she would be meeting Jo the next day at Uni while I would have to go to work on my birthday and may not be able to plan something.\n\nI really don't want to start a fight or anything, but I don't know how to react to this. It feels like someone punched me in the gut and at the same time I feel like I'm behaving like a 5 year old about it. Help.", "summary": "SO is going to a friend's birthday party instead of mine. How do I react even though I feel like I'm behaving like a kid."}
{"id": "t3_s9871", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "how should i get this girl back to with her confidence, need to talk to her in 2 hours, SOS", "post": "I have been chatting with this girl (shes 20 and im 23) for 2 months, she had a close friend who is a guy that she is not in touch with now because he proposed her. Then came me, we were chatting casually and exchanged numbers, I haven't talked much to this girl. Right now she's so down with her confidence since she did bad in her academics and shes scared so much now. I talked to her in the morning but couldn't change her mood off, I am bad with handling emotions. She started saying that her friend only knows how to handle her and stuff, shes going to sleep now, me told I will be calling in the afternoon. Redditors, help this lad out what way can I get back to normal, tbh I don't know the how to!", "summary": "Need to get her back to normal, shes missing her guy friend now who would've handled the situation better. How should I react in 2 hours."}
{"id": "t3_2msg8p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my SO [22 F] of 2 months, has a fuck buddy who is her best friend.", "post": "I love my girlfriend very much, but I recently found out through another source, that her male best friend was a fuck buddy.\n\nTo make things worse, she gave this friend the key to her apartment just in case she forgets her keys and needs to call him. \n\nShe has never told me that they were fuck buddies, but she has been open enough to tell me that he has the keys, and that he has slept over in her bed before.\n\nThis friend of hers also has a GF of 5 years, so unless they are in an open relationship, he has cheated on his gf with her.\n\nEvery time that I had a chance to meet him, he has avoided me seeing him.\n\nI don't know what to do. He clearly has no respect for his own relationship, and I know he has none for ours. He has jokingly asked her for sex even though he knows that we are in a relationship.\n\nAm I right to start worrying about this guy?\n\n(I found all this out by reading their messages to each other. I did a bad thing and broke her trust, but I discovered all of this)", "summary": "My GF's best friend was a recent fuck buddy, but she hasn't told me this yet, and it's starting to make me uncomfortable, especially since he has keys to her place and is seemingly avoiding me. How do I express my discomfort to my GF?"}
{"id": "t3_1v2ua2", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Want to torture and tease me all day? Game on. NSFW", "post": "**Background** - SO and I have been happily dating for over a year and a half almost two now.  We know exactly what turns the other on, and that can be really good or really torturous.  Sometimes before we have to part ways at night we give a little \"oral inspiration\" to the other for later (don't think too hard). \n\n**The offense** \n\nWe decided we wanted to spend an entire day together. So from 10 am to 10 pm we spent with each other.  A fine day it was... Except for the torture.  Anytime it was possible; she would do anything in their power to try to turn me on.  This went on ALL. DAY. LONG.  When night time finally hit we decided to watch a movie instead of having time in the bedroom together which kinda made me kinda upset because she had been teasing and torturing me all day.  When they movie ended she had to leave, so she went back into my room to change back into her clothes (she changes into mine because its more comfortable).  I went into my room to grab my jacket.  Instead of leaving then, she decided to give me a little inspiration for the night.  All the torture and teasing for some inspiration? I was having none of that. \n**The Revenge**\n\nAs soon as she got up, I decided it was her turn.  I picked her up, layed her down, and started to give her \"some inspiration\".  Except this inspiration was filled with petty intentions.  After a few minutes she started to squirm around and get more vocal, her signs that she is moments from finishing, so I quickly stopped and got ready to leave.  She wasn't going to get away with knowingly torturing me with her body all day and get away with it.  I never thought hearing the words \"No no keep going why did you stop!\" would ever sound so deliciously petty ;), I even got a couple sexually frustrated punches to the arm!", "summary": "SO teased me all day long, so I didn't let her finish."}
{"id": "t3_cefgi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm considering getting a vasectomy this summer, I'm 19.", "post": "I'm currently 19 and can honestly say that I personally will never want children. I don't dislike children in any manner, in fact I think other people's kids are great I just do not wish to waste ~18 years of my life on another human.\n\nI've spoken this over with friends and the like, the only down sides they can present me with are (not including the obvious chances of infection due to the procedure) as follows -\n\n    1. I may change my mind in the future -\n\nI can safely say that I will never want children, I've argued with friends about this and every time it boils down to people having kids due to boredom. Even if I do change my mind reversals have a high success rate, say the reversal fails IVF treatment is a possibility and on the NHS 3 chances are given. Say these all fail I will never be in the situation where I would be unable to pay the money necessary for IVF to take place.\n\n    2. The person I'm with may want children -\n\nIf this is the case they may likely not be the person I want to be with, even if they did and I was inclined to oblige *see No.1*.\n\n__________________________________________________________\n\nMy reasons for this are simple, I never want to be in the situation where I've managed to get some girl pregnant with-out prior thought.\n\nI find it odd that every person I've spoken to has called me a mad-man, even though they can offer me no valid reason as to why I shouldn't go through with it.\n\nReddit, I heed your advise mainly people that have gone through with it at a comparable age.\n\nThank you in advance.", "summary": "I'm going to cut the mains to my baby batter so I don't send a bitch up the duff"}
{"id": "t3_u87hd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21m] I have feelings for a girl[24f] thats in another country and dont know if i should pursue her or drown them out", "post": "I am a 20 year old guy turning 21 next week she is 24. Ive known her for 2 years now but we were always friends. We were always interested in the same things and even when she moved away we would play video games together to shoot the shit.\n\nShe moved away last year to vancouver to pursue her modeling career and we kept in touch. I talk to her 2-4 times a week on skype and we text eachother basically everyday. Recently we started talking about more serious things, previous relationships, sex, what we want in a partner etc. She is an extremely nice girl who has told me things that she says she hasnt told anybody else(most likely b/c talking over the internet is a lot easier than in person). i know with the way things are i cant see her and its stupid for it to be on my mind but for w/e reason she is constantly on my mind and idk if i should tell her anything.\n\nim not sure if she thinks we only friends or if she has a feeling that things are escalating as well but she tells me she has dreams with me in them and i remember feeling an immense amount of jealousy and sadness when she told me she had started dating a guy last fall but they have broken up since then. I get this feeling like she is my dream girl and to pass it up would be stupid of me BUT i know long distance almost never works. so now i dont know if i should bring my feelings up to her or if i should just drown them out. I appreciate everybody reading through my wall of text and thanks for any and all advice.", "summary": "i think i fell for a girl that i cant see in the foreseeable future and dont know if i should attempt to let my feelings known or just drown them out altogether"}
{"id": "t3_54yl5y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Serial dater [f, 24] hoping to break the cycle.", "post": "I am what some might call a serial dater... I have this pattern that I keep following... I meet a guy, feel super awesome about the union for the first few weeks/ months, but somehow as soon as it becomes \"committed\" in any way, within a few weeks/ months i'm suddenly feeling uncertain, trapped, or otherwise just not okay with the whole relationship business. I think \"okay, let's not waste this person's time\", break up with them as kindheartedly as possible, and resolve to \"just be single\" for a while. Unfortunately, i'm pretty extroverted, and it's usually only a few months before i meet another one...\n\nHe's cute, he's funny, he's nice, he shows lots of potential... I have very few bad things to say about any of the men I've dated... And i always feel SO GOOD about it at first. Like \"yes this is definitely good, I feel so much better about this than the others\", and i genuinely believe that until the \"bad feels\" start setting in later down the line. \n\nI know this isn't healthy, and I feel terrible about the mass grave of broken hearts in my wake, and I don't know what to do. The guy I am currently dating (male, 25), I was \"just friends\" with for nearly six months and then dated casually for another two just to make sure I wouldn't feel this way two months into being official, and yet still, here I am, two months into being official, and feeling unshakeably \"off\" about it yet again. I don't want to hurt anyone else, i dont want to go through the whole break up process yet again... If it's something within me I'd really like to fix it because everything was going great and I don't know what changes. \n\nWhat gives? Am I just dating the wrong guys? I've never seen myself as having commitment issues, but is that it? And if it is how do I fix it?", "summary": "see title: I don't wanna be stuck in this pattern forever, seeking sustainability in my relationships"}
{"id": "t3_2xbell", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Are Schools Liable for Injuries that Occur in their Classes? (X-Post from r/Education)", "post": "My wrist was broken in my PE class. It was during an activity that the teacher had us do, all of the students were doing as instructed and the teacher was supposed to be supervising. Another student collided with me, I fell and broke my wrist. It sent me to a very dark state of depression and because of that I was unable to deal with it at the time. It was a around a year ago, so the statute of limitations is not up. Is the school liable for the injury?\n\nThis occurred in a high school in Scottsdale, Arizona, USA and I did not sign any sort of limited liability form.\n\nAlso, is it even legal for the school to take my 1/2 credit away because of an injury that occurred in the class?", "summary": "Wrist broke during the normal course of a supervised activity in PE, is the school liable?"}
{"id": "t3_1x9rrf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28F] with my ex with benefits [36 M] of a year. I'm just more proof that you should run, not walk, away from manipulative relationships.", "post": "I was dumped, brutally, by this man. He and I went through hell after I got pregnant I was talked into an abortion I never wanted and then hours afterward he told me it was a mistake. He was awful to me. Finally, last night I realized he was actually just TRYING to hurt me. I told him I was ok sleeping together, that I just wanted to continue that, this is my fault because I clearly didn't want that. Even though I said that he knows how I felt, it was 4 months ago that he turned out the lights while I stood on the porch and 'dumped' me like that after a text message argument. Then later told me we'd talk only to have me over, cuddle, fuck me and then in the morning tell me it was over. \n\nHe's made every attempt to make me feel responsible for everything. I asked him if he'd been sleeping with other people in that time. Mainly because we didn't use condoms before, weren't using them while we were just having sex but I wanted to know. He led me to think he was saying he had by being vague to see my reaction. Then when I stopped and got upset and said OK I can't do this with you then he was like \"hey, I didn't say I did you just assumed.\" it was pure manipulation. Gaslighting to the tenth degree. \n\nSo last night, I asked him to get a drink with me. I had asked him the night before and he agreed only to then cancel as the time neared. So after I asked him last night he said: \":) sorry I can't. Got dinner plans.\" \n\nWhat woman isn't going to assume he's telling me he has a date. He is trying to hurt me and eff with my head. So, yeah, after four months I'm finally fucking done with him but beware. There are some seriously messed up people out there.", "summary": "For the love of all that is Holy, just don't keep going back to your ex. It's going to suck but if they don't want to be with you then you have no choice. You'll just get hurt in the long run."}
{"id": "t3_2ufr8z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By dropping my cigarette carelessly", "post": "This isn't a regular subreddit for me to post in so forgive me if I accidentally break the rules but I needed to get this off my chest.\n\nSo for a bit of backstory, here in England it gets dark really early in the winter and by around 6pm it's pitch black. I just went outside for a cigarette and wandered behind my house (I live with my parents and they don't know that I smoke) and I was just finishing up my cigarette so I drop the remains on the floor to hear a loud hissing sound. I couldn't work out what the fuck was happening but it turns out my cat was by my leg and I had managed to drop it still lit onto her back. I quickly realised my fuck up and try to grab it but by now the cat has pounded off into the bushes I tried to catch it but I was in a complete daze. I hope she forgives me and that my mum doesn't find a bald patch on her back.", "summary": "I dropped a lit cigarette in the dark onto the back of my cat"}
{"id": "t3_2uy9bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] broke up after 1 year including 4 months in long distance, trying to move on.", "post": "So my (now ex) girlfriend dumped me a month and a half ago. She said she needed space and ignored me for a whole month (even thought after 1 week she told her bestfriends she had dumped me) and i had to wait that long for her to SEND ME a message saying it was over (kinda dick move). Anyways thats not the problem anymore. I want to move on because she also said she moved on. I still love her so much even thought I should probably hate her by now for what shes done. So far I told her I wouldnt talk to her for a while but its not enough, I see pics of her on fb going out and partying and shit like that and its reminding me how much i miss her. Its also not helping that if we had still been together Id be flying over to see her in a week for a few days especially since its valentines day, and her birthday. \n\nSo here is my final plan, I wana talk to her one of her friends and ask her to make sure shes alright and to make sure that my exgf understands why im cutting all ties with her (unfriend from fb, delete from skype/snapchat/instagram/messages) because she does have a \"hard\" time in life and sometimes get depressed, i just dont want to make her feel shittier even though i shouldnt care...\n\nI hope this makes sense, any thoughts?", "summary": "Want to move on from gf by cutting all ties/ asking her friends to make sure that exgf understands and will be fine, good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_1hzntx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/f] wants to have sex with boyfriend [22/m] but feels physically unable to do so.", "post": "I'm a 22 yr old female, fresh out of college. My bf (a 22 yr old male) and I live together in a cute little apartment. We've been together for two years. Although I love him dearly, and he loves me just as much, I've had a lot of problems \"performing\" with him. Every time he touches me to engage in sex (whether it's my tits or my privates) I literally become repulsed.\n\nIt's like my body is grossed out by the idea of having sex with him. I've also noticed that while I'm still attracted to him, and to many men, I'm not really horny anymore -- and I've kinda forgotten how to be/what it's like. BUT when I do have sex, I have a great time. So why is it that when I'm about to have sex, I can't get myself into it?\n\nIs it my bf? Am I just not physically into him anymore? Or is it just me? (I'm also on 20mg a day of Celexa, an anti-depressant that can zap your sex life). And is this what married people go through and why they stop having sex?\n\nSomebody please help me.", "summary": "Every time I try to have sex with my bf of two years I feel repulsed. I'm still attracted to him, and I want to have sex with him, but I'm physically adversed to doing so. How do I fix this problem?"}
{"id": "t3_2n860d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] and this guy [28 M] we are interested in each other but there's an obvious age gap", "post": "I am currently a second year at my university and have met a guy I am currently interested in who is in the graduate program at my university. We have known each other for about a year but about 3 months ago we started having sex and become friends with benefits. Somewhere along the way we both developed feelings for each other. \n\nNow I would enjoy dating him but I feel it may backfire due to the obvious age difference. One, I wouldn't want to deal with the judgment from others. To be honest, I have no idea what the general consensus is on age gaps once someone is of legal age. I am also insecure over the fact that I could never live up to a woman his age. It makes me wonder what he sees in me. Despite these dissenting thoughts, we have very wonderful sexual compatibility, we have a lot in common (same major too) and click on an emotional and intelligent level. \n\nI just want to get some opinions from Reddit and hopefully some advice if anyone has dealt with such a relationship.", "summary": "This guy and I want to date each other, but I am worried about our age gap."}
{"id": "t3_553y1b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I have Carpal Tunnel Syndrome but I can't afford to lose this new job. Help!", "post": "(Sorry this is long, but I've done so much and I'm running out of options)\n\nSo I've had wrist pains for 3 years from typing and drawing. I'd take frequent breaks to stretch and rest and hand, invest in ergonomic equipment, stand when I work, align my desk ergonomically when I do sit, apply cold and hot wraps to my hand, taken ibuprofen, wear a hand brace at night and all day when I'm using my hand. \n\nThe pain has been manageable in the past, and I'm only 26. I'm fit, eat plenty of fruits and veggies, I don't drink or do any drugs. Not even prescription. No diseases or illnesses other than anxiety. As long as my hand gets rest, or I use my left hand whenever I can (the non dominant), the hand recovers fast.\n\nAfter being unemployed for months, I got this data entry job, which I was grateful for since someone with an art degree and social anxiety is not qualified for much else. Plus the 9-5 schedule allowed me to freelance art at night, my real passion.\n\nIt's been 2 weeks, and my right hand is in the worst pain it has ever been. Even with all of my methods listed above, my hand is constantly sore. My temp agency offers health insurance, but I'm not sure if I can afford it. Even if I had it, it would probably take months to get an appointment with a doctor. \n\nI'm terrified. I have some savings to get by for a few months, but I really don't want to lose this job, after struggling for months finding something that didn't give me panic attacks. But I don't want to damage my hand, either. What should I do?? I'm getting desperate, please help!", "summary": "26 year old stretches/does all the ergonomic jazz but still has CTS. I can't afford to quit my data entry job. Help"}
{"id": "t3_ptiga", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What Do You Say to a Man Who Has Already Given Up On Life?", "post": "I'm very close to my grandpa, and about 8 or so months ago he got diagnosed with a terminal lung disease (not sure on the name). The doctor explained he had about 2-5 years left. I could tell he was sick, but it seemed like he started getting well again and wasn't running out of breath as much. \n\nThis past week, he got very sick again and was bedridden for a while. He got some more meds to help him get better, and he's started improving. \n\nTonight, he was at basketball game with my mom and my aunt talking about my cousins new car. My grandma mentioned how they wouldn't co-sign on the loan for my cousin. My grandpa just suddenly said \"hell, why would I co-sign on her car? I'll be dead in a year.\" He just broke down crying right there.\n\nMy grandpa has never been one to show negative emotion like this and it really hit me hard. I feel like he's just giving up and doesn't care to live anymore. What can I do or say to him to help him change his mind? I know it's only delaying the inevitable, but I just want him to enjoy his last years with us.", "summary": "Grandpa is sick and has given up on life."}
{"id": "t3_xs7bv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Reddit, I still have a chance, any pointers?", "post": "I apologize in advance, this will be lengthy. \n\nI met this girl a year ago and didn't think I had a chance so I never tried anything. Well we ended up seeing a bit of each other during that year at college, and then we got to know each other. She dated a friend of mine, kinda and I got to know her even better. Turned out not only did I have a chance, but I guess a pretty good one. Which is great because she's amazing. \n\nSummer happened, our plan was to see each other a lot now that we both had free time. Well, it worked for a bit, until her parents got in the way (We're still kinda young 18-20). In that time we talked a lot less, I felt like I could be boring her. We grew distant even though we had all this stuff in common and everything was great when we first started dating. \n\nI saw her for the first time in about 6 weeks yesterday, and we had an intense conversation about where our relationship is headed since I'm going to move 4 hours away. She said she didn't want to give up on us just yet, but she feels like we don't talk enough and we're growing distant. She also doesn't think that me moving is going to make things any better, which it won't. But I'm not ready to give up yet, I told her I'm sticking around until she does. She left my house with an \"I'll think this through\" attitude. Which is totes legit. \n\nI have 5 weeks to try and save this. Which I think I can, I'm trying to talk more, we're both bad at small talk, she's a bit worse. But I feel like that's what she wants. I know one thing that will help us is seeing each other more. But I don't know any boundaries in our \"trying to figure this out phase\".", "summary": "Girlfriend and I are growing apart, need help. "}
{"id": "t3_1kyhtv", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "My dog is very sneaky and slips away to get into mischief the moment I stop paying attention to her", "post": "Hi, /r/dogtraining,\n\nI just found this subreddit, and I'm hoping some of you good folks could help me out. I have a pup who is about 10 months old; she's a rescue, and her papers say black lab/shepherd, but I definitely see some pitbull or something else in her. I don't know if her mix has something to do with her curiosity, but not a day goes by where she doesn't get into something she's not supposed to. She has several toys that she absolutely loves and will play with them the whole time I pay attention to her, but as soon as I go to cook or even step into another room, she knows my attention is elsewhere. Her favorite things to get into are trash cans, but she also loves hopping up on bedside tables to get things like chapstick. She has never chewed furniture, which is awesome, but it's getting very irritating when she finds things to get into. Usually doors stay closed to keep her away from things, but she knows when they're open and when she can slip away to go through things! She is very smart and listens to commands, and she knows she is doing wrong. When I find her up to no good, she'll nonchalantly look around like she is surprised to be there or she will immediately run away from me. I am starting a new job next week and would love to be able to keep her out of her crate while I'm gone, but as things stand now, that won't be possible.", "summary": "my pup is generally well-behaved but gets into stuff when I'm not looking. She knows she's being bad, but continues to do bad things. Any advice for how to break this bad habit so I can leave her out of her crate when I'm not home would be appreciated! Thanks!"}
{"id": "t3_z12ax", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Employment advice?", "post": "So yeah,\n\nI'm not quite sure how to put this all into words, especially since I know I'm not the first person to hate their job but still, I could use some advice. Of course the following explanation is extremely trimmed down.\n\nI work for a gas station as an attendant, normally an easy job and one that allows for time to study. I used to come in everyday and do my job well, get praise and feel good about it. Please note \"used\" to. Over the 2 years I've worked there I've seen how the boss favors the other attendant who is his church buddy. I am constantly asked to do shit that I KNOW the other guy doesn't do or just shirks off. What really irritates me is that our work day is split into morning/evening shifts, with the morning being busy and the evening being chill. Guess who gets the evening shifts - it's not me.\n\nNow, I know it's easy to say \"quit, find another job\" because I've often felt the same. This is the problem: I'll be graduating school at the end of this term and I don't know if I should find another job for the few months left or just grin and bear it. I would say just hang in there but it's getting to the point where I don't even want to get out of bed in the morning. Again, I know I'm not the only one but I'm just not sure what to do and could use an outside perspective. Any suggestions would help.", "summary": "I want to rock out with my cock out but my cock may be too small"}
{"id": "t3_2rbkbe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting way too drunk", "post": "This fuck up happened friday, i am posting it only now because i needed all the time i could get to recuperate.\nI was out clubbing with my friends and originally planning to leave with the bus at 4. Well, around 3 i met some people from my village and we decide to catch a Taxi some time later. From this point on my memory became kind of hazy.\nThe TIFU happened later, maybe around 5, but it was too late to remember anything clearly.\nI don't know how i got out of the club, but once outside i proceeded to panic: everywhere around me were turks, even the doormen were. I don't know how i got the idea, but suddenly i thought some kind turkish revolution must have happened and suddenly i am one of the minority, at least here in germany. I then tried to blend in with the turks around me by acting as thuggish as possible, i am honestly surprised they didn't beat me up. It only gets better: once i safely got away from them, i don't know how much time i spent strolling around the city CRYING AND ONLY WEARING A DAMN SHIRT, thinking the world is lost and it will never be they way it was before.\nFYI, the temperature is around the freezing point.\nSomehow i ended up at the central station and met a friend of mine who claims he brought me to \"my\" train.\nSeems safe, right? No way. Next thing i remember is being woken up by a conductress in a train leading in a complete different direction than the one i am supposed to be in. As i am getting out of the train without a punitive ticket (i am truly glad about that guys, unusual around here) i notice i don't have my phone and nearly no money with me anymore.\nSo there i am standing at a freezingly cold train station around half an hour from my home by car at 9 o'clock. Thankfully the local hairdresser was already open and let me call my parents.", "summary": "got too drunk, thougt the turks took over my country, panicked and ran crying through the city, shouting at anyone cryingly. Woke up in a train leading in the wrong direction, lost my new htc one mini 2 somewhere along the way."}
{"id": "t3_scmrq", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "My dog is getting humped... a lot.", "post": "So my (male) dog is a year old and about 70lbs (and frequently a little bigger than the other dogs) and is quite possibly the most energetic and playful dog I have ever met.  We take him to dog parks and have a bunch of friends with dogs and seem to be the target for every humper that he meets.  About 20 dogs in the park and 3 different dogs were fighting over who got to hump him, and there are no incidents with any other dogs.  He's too well tempered to do anything but run away.  We had to pull a friends dog off of him every 2 minutes also.  That doesn't deter him for long though, because 30 seconds later he's running right back over to all the other dogs and trying to play with them.  Are these dogs responding to something specific, or does he just have a really sweet ass?", "summary": "How go I keep other dogs from humping my dog?"}
{"id": "t3_2xl3di", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A girl I've been seeing [25F] told me [24F] something yesterday and I'm not sure how to process it.", "post": "I've been seeing this girl for only a few weeks but we've been hanging out a lot/spent the night together last weekend and text frequently. It's been fun and romantic but I'm definitely a monogamous person at heart, so I've been just seeing her. I wouldn't expect the same, but I guess once we sleep together I'd hope for the same. Anyway, we were supposed to hang out last night and she texted me in the afternoon saying she slept with someone else and felt bad. I was upset (mostly just took a hit to my self esteem) but was really calm in my responses to her. I said I wasn't quite sure why she told me about it and she said it was because she was covered in bruises which made my stomach sink. She's definitely into rough sex and it just made me think, you're not telling me because you wanted to be honest with me as much as you wanted me to know you had good sex? Of course I didn't say that. It just kind of sucks to hear this. So I asked what she wanted with me and she said she wants to progress into a relationship eventually. But I feel like things just got incredibly weird between us. Am I overreacting by feeling upset by something when we never defined the relationship? Or is it sort of inappropriate for her to be telling me this? I can't really figure out where to go from here and I haven't responded to her since she said what she wanted. Any thoughts would be great.", "summary": "A girl I was dating told me she slept with someone else, with a little detail, and now I'm confused if she is someone I want to be with."}
{"id": "t3_47wy4k", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [18M] am having issues with my girlfriend [18F] as a result of my self hating tendencies. Any advice?", "post": "So I have struggled with anxiety and, lesser so, depression. It has always revolved around/been triggered by a feeling of not being good enough. One of the ways I have tried to cope is to joke about it. To make light of what I view as shortcomings (I.e mocking my lanky body and lack of a muscular physique). But, one side effect of that is that I kind of reinforce those ideas of myself in my head, jokingly or otherwise. \nMy girlfriend has kind of gotten fed up with these comments. Trying to tell me not to feel like that and that I am enough. But, in a weird way it has made things a little worse. I start to dwell on not being good enough for her because I can't love myself and it gets really cyclical. If I physically perform poorly (in my mind at least) I am almost crippled for the rest of the night. Just an overwhelming feeling of inadequacy. She tries to reassure me all is alright, but I can see this is wearing on her. I feel like every little mistake is going to be the last straw because why would someone stay with someone like me? I don't know, any advice for me from people who have dealt with this or maybe from the other side, how a partner of someone like this deals with it.", "summary": "My self loathing is hurting my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_djqqy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever accidentally injured someone?", "post": "One night while down at a party spot near a creek with some friends (we were all in high school), I pulled out some dog repellent I had found to show it off.  It got passed around and soon someone I knew said she was going to spray this other kid we didn't like so much.  Not wanting to cause serious trouble to him, I told her I would spray the back of his neck to show her how bad it hurt on just skin -- not the eyes or face.  I sneak up behind him and raise the bottle... when suddenly he turns his head slightly... right as I begin spraying the dog repellent.  It bounced off the inside of his glasses and hit his eye.  He let loose a howl and began dousing his eye with creek water, trying to flush out the chemicals.  A few days later I saw him in school and he told me that I had burned away 30% of his retina.", "summary": "I was going to spray the back of this kid's neck with dog repellent to show how bad it burns, but he turned at the wrong moment and it hit his eye.  I'm an asshole."}
{"id": "t3_1zrom6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] results with \"date\" with [19 F]", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nTurns out it wasn't a \"date\". So no-go on the physical contact/ kiss lol. So we met at the dining hall, she grabbed a booth, and we sat down and all. She then excused herself and invited a friend(male) to come sit with us who was sitting alone. Then a moment later, another friend of hers(girl) came to sit with us. I'm confused as to why she did this- instead of wondering why, getting back up and going back out there. Talked with her and her friends, but I distanced myself from the conversation thinking it would just be us two. The previous 3 dates it was just me and her, exception to one meeting on V-Day where her friend joined us for lunch. But anyway, First time dating a girl overall- first time ever in college, it's been good, gained some confidence and I could apply that to the next girl out there. No one said it was easy unfortunately. I'll keep the window open, but the chase with them ends. \n\n*Thought about it: might ask her where we stand, dating over a month, could be she might want me to get me to meet her friends?- I'm probably overreacting.", "summary": "Thought dinner with girl would be a date as with previous meetings, was not. Decided to stay optimistic and continue the search for other girls, throw girl on back burner, advice for the future to prevent this from happening?"}
{"id": "t3_2euhye", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [F/22] started to go high with weed after she broke up with me [M/22]", "post": "We had 14 months of relationship. She broke up with me one month ago. \n\nI got sick since this April and since that i can't go out of home, i need a cane to walk and everything because i hurt my hip. \n\nWhen she broke up with me, she said that I wasn't the same with her. Well, in that point she was right, i don't be the same with anyone until i got sick. But what she said was only bulshit. First at all she was needing  to move out to another city and she was interested in another guy. \n\nSo i only said her: \"it's ok by me, get out of here, go straight home or wherever  you want, don't call me more, talk or come back. And don't cry, you are only hurt yourself and nothing is going to change with that\". Of course, days later I can realize that I wasn't wrong and that made me feel better.\n\nDays after she broke up with me I hacked her facebook account and I got into the fact that she was interested on that guy (both are studying law and i study medicine) since i got sick. But she blamed me for all when she broke up with me.\n\nOne day after she broke up with me, she started to talk more with this guy for go out with him. She made a tatto on her arm, started to smoke cigarettes, and get drunk and go high with weed at the guy's apartment. I'm not sure about sex but i can guess that they are making.\n\nShe text me on Facebook but I don't write back since she broke up with me. Of course, i don't think that she is a lamb but i can't understand, she changed a lot since broke up with me.", "summary": "After she broke up with me she started to hurt herself."}
{"id": "t3_2lbi7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Both part of same group of friends, should I [21/M] tell her (20/F) I like her?", "post": "About a year ago I made friends with a group of about 6 people in college. We've become pretty close and we always find time to hang out even if we all study different careers in the same college.\n\nFast forward, a couple weeks ago, new semester, and I'm starting to hang out a lot more with one of the girls from the group since we are seeing a class together. I've started to like her a lot and i'm not sure if she likes me back, i get some mixed signals.\n\nSo, should I tell her how I feel? I wanna get to know her better and connect as more than friends. My fear is its gonna get akward when we are all togheter and I wouldn't want to loose her friendship and the general relationship I have with the group.\n\nWhat about asking her out and seeing her reaction? I really dont know the best course of action here.\n\nOnce this semester passes I'll start seeing her less each time and that's why I have to make a decision.\n\nI know this all sounds like a High School teenage problem, I guess I never burnt that phase properly in HS. Gotta start some time, right? :)\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Should I tell a girl I'm friends with, who is also part of my close group of friends, that I like her and wanna get to know her better?"}
{"id": "t3_4gmwek", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Cat with kidney failure peeing outside the box. Help?", "post": "Hi r/cats! \n\nMy cat, Cookie, is 7 1/2 years old and was diagnosed a month ago with kidney failure. She currently only weighs 7 pounds (9.5lbs normally), and has been switched to a prescription diet to help her kidneys. \n\nThe past three days, Cookie has consistently peed outside of her litter box. She has been peeing outside of her box on occasion for a while now (vet thinks it's because her kidneys), but this was the first time she didn't go in her litter box at all. I have two boxes with World's Best, and another with Fresh Step. Outside of the litter box, she only pees on soft textures like carpet and towels. She is not declawed. \n\nI went out and purchased Nature's Miracle and a black light to find and pee spots, only to find she's been peeing behind a chair pretty frequently without anyone noticing. This is during the day, and we originally thought she only was peeing outside the box at night.\n\nI went ahead and treated everything that lit up under the black light with Nature's Miracle and Cookie is locked in the laundry room with her litter box at night from now on. \n\nIs there anything else I can do to get her back to using her litter box? She's become very high maintenance very fast due to her kidneys and I don't know what else to do..!", "summary": "Female cat with kidney failure is peeing outside of the litter box on soft surfaces. Need suggestions fast!"}
{"id": "t3_gbzh2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I immigrate to Canada?", "post": "Hi Reddit, throwaway account to remain anonymous.\n\nI am a 17 year old female that wants to immigrate to Canada as soon as I turn 18. I want to leave this part of the world because I am tired of oppression from my muslim family, I hate living in this part of the world. I want to run away and become an immigrant in Canada, but I have no clue how to, the official website does not offer much help and I cannot visit the embassy because it is an hours drive away and my parents would never let me leave the house for that long alone (especially considering I'd be going somewhere to figure out how to run away o_o)\nI feel hopeless, like I'll be stuck here my entire life and forced to marry a man I don't love and have children.\n\nI've read that sometimes immigrants have to return to their homeland to wait while their applications, etc are being processed. I really don't have that option because if I ever saw my family again after I ran away they'd beat the shit out of me and probably kill me. I have been hiding money away to save for a plane ticket to run away but I have no clue what to do.", "summary": "how can I get out of this shithole to Canada? =("}
{"id": "t3_pw0tb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Please help. I need some advice for my dad on possible attorney extortion.", "post": "So I'll try to make this as short as possible.  My dad started a company the beginning of last year selling a bottle opener called \"MyTopOff.\" (www.mytopoff.com  it's hard to explain what it does)\n\nHe ran a few television commercials last year and didn't have much success.  He has been doing a bit of online marketing and hasn't broken even yet on his investment for getting this all started.  He even packs and ships this product from his own garage.\n\nThe commercial for the product says \"buy one get one free\", but there's extra postage on the second item.  This is pretty standard on most commercials, and before someone checks-out online it clearly states the extra fees for the shipping on the additional item.\n\nMy dad received notice for a case that was filed by an attorney out of New Jersey (name withheld by me) who filed a class-action lawsuit against my dad because of the \"deceptive\" advertising.  Upon further research my parents saw that this attorney files about 100 cases a year against companies for this same thing; usually settling out of court for large sums of money.  This attorney ordered the product with the intention of filing this case, and I'm assuming the attorney keeps all the money he collects.\n\nMy dad ended up calling the attorney, and the attorney said this can all \"go away\" for $15,000.   The problem is, my dad hasn't even made $1 on this product yet, and is struggling trying to get his business going.   He called a couple other attorneys about this, many of them know who this bad attorney is.  If my dad tried to fight it, it would cost him approximately $10,000, and then it's a gamble whether he will win or lose.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice on what plan of action my dad could take?  He's a great guy and this whole ordeal has been super upsetting for him.", "summary": "Dad sells product online with a start up business;  a con-artist attorney is filing a case against him for \"false advertising.\" Looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_4nn1qe", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I messed up by auto renewing my lease. Need help making a decision [Housing]", "post": "Hello!\n\nI am currently renting an apartment in Philadelphia for 800 dollars and am planning to move out at the end of June (the end of my lease). Unfortunately, I made the great mistake of forgetting that there was a line in my lease that states it automatically renews unless I tell my landlord 60 days in advance that I will not be renewing. Instead I told him 45 days in advance. I was then told I am on the hook for another 12 months with an increase in rent (850) unless another person takes the lease.\n\n On the positive side, the real estate agency that works for my landlord is attempting to find a leaser now, but since the landlord wants 850 for the lease, it is proving a challenge for the agent to find someone. In the meantime, I've found a cheaper apartment including utilities down the street and already put a deposit down (685 for deposit + 345 for half month of rent). It should be noted that my current apartment is extremely expensive because of the inefficient heating (160/month in winter) and it's in a rundown old building.\n\nMy question is that if a person cannot be found for my current lease, does it make sense to lose my deposit at the other apartment complex and just stay at my current apartment? Or should I gamble that someone will be found by the agent in the next two weeks? Or should I pay a month of double rent in the hopes that someone takes the lease by the end of July. However, I cannot afford to pay the two leases at the same time for an extending period of time(poor, stupid grad student on loans).\n\nI understand that my woes are caused by my own mistake of not being aware of my own lease, but I am trying to rectify the situation now with your help. Thank you in advance, and please ask if you need more info.", "summary": "auto renewing lease. I'm on the hook for 12 more months in a crappy expensive apartment. Already put a deposit on new cheaper apartment. Should I lose deposit and stay at crappy apartment if someone cannot be found to take lease?"}
{"id": "t3_4nuul9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] find it impossible to have any sexual contact with girls without developing some sort of attachment; any advice?", "post": "I'm 19, I'm average looking (maybe slightly above) and I'm ok at picking up girls. The problem is that I develop infatuation too easily. I'm British and travelling round South America. I slept with an Argentinian girl about 3 hours ago, and tomorrow I'll be going home. I only met her 6 hours ago, but I can't stop thinking about her. There are a handful of girls who give me a sad pang of lovesickness whenever they come up on my Facebook feed for the same reason, some of whom I haven't seen in months. Even though I don't even know some of these girls, it makes me extremely unhappy thinking that they may not remember me.\n\nI know the obvious advice is to stop sleeping around, but then my self-esteem would plummet.", "summary": "I get attached to strangers too easily."}
{"id": "t3_1xydl0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My[24/f] boyfriend(ex?) [22/m] (dating for 2.5 years) said he needed to find himself and that he wanted a break. It was very sudden. What should I do?", "post": "So last Saturday my boyfriend (at a friends wedding) said that he wanted to find himself because he wasn't happy with where his life was heading citing his job and his family. He said that he cares deeply for me but the only way he can see himself finding himself is with a break/break up. He also said that he thinks he hasn't been treating me right and thinks i'm better off with a more 'attached' guy.\n\nHe also told me (and i knew this, and respected this in our relationship) that he likes to be on his own and can likes to do things on his own. He said that we shouldn't contact each other for 3 weeks seeing how he turns out, but doesn't want to give me any false hope.\n\nIts been a hard week for me, but I have been trying to do normal things like go to work. Yesterday I meaninglessly tried to call him out of hope, didn't pick up but contacted me later saying 'sorry I was asleep, I've had a big week at work'.  He said I could call in a bit but when i did he didn't pick up, being asleep again. Said so later on, said good night and he hasn't contacted me since.\n\nI don't want to lose him. Everyone is saying forget him but I don't want to and I think our relationship deserves another chance. I love him. Is there anything I can do or say that might get him to think a bit differently about everything? Do I have any chance of reconciliation?", "summary": "my (ex?)boyfriend said that he is not happy with life and wants a break and to change everything. likes being by himself, thinks he is treating me wrong. contacted me but after a little no more response. advice needed and do i have a chance?"}
{"id": "t3_3xnrkx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 M] Was cheated on and am running out of ideas on how to recover", "post": "I was in a relationship with someone I really loved. We lived together and I thought we were very happy. I ended up finding out that she had a very personal relationship with another guy for months. I guy I knew about, but didn't know the extent of their relationship. They may or may not have hooked up, but to me, that didn't matter. She betrayed my trust, so I ended it with her and moved out.\n\nThis was almost a year ago, and I feel pathetic that I haven't gotten over it. I first tried to work on improving myself. I went to the gym every day, kept myself busy, and did a few activities I had been wanting to do. It was nice, but I was still upset about the break up. Not to sound arrogant, but I'm a social guy and above average looks. I tried to distract myself by going on constant dates. This helped a bit, but now I am about 4 months into dating someone (we are not exclusive) and I feel like we should start being exclusive. Unfortunately, I find myself incredibly untrustworthy of her for no real reason. \n\nI have always been very trusting of my partners (obviously to a fault) and I think that is the way a healthy relationship should be. I don't want to be constantly doubting my partner, but unfortunately, that is my reality. My question is, how do I get back to my trusting ways? I don't want to be this guy that I am right now.", "summary": "I was cheated on in my previous relationship, and now I can't bring myself to trust anyone I'm seeing. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3apjoc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22F) husband (27M) keeps assuming how I'll react to a situation, despite my growth.", "post": "My husband and I have been married for three years. He's my best friend and a great man. However, there's one issue we cannot seem to work through.\n\nI've struggled with anger issues my entire life and it's been an uphill battle that I both acknowledge and strive to change. When my husband and I first got married I was still very young and immature and made a lot of mistakes as far as handling marital issues went. (Over dramatic, screaming, snooping, just all around crappy immature stuff.) \n\nMy husband addressed all above issues and over the years I have proactively changed for the better for both myself and for the sake of our relationship. I don't yell anymore, I don't snoop, I try to be understanding and give my husband the benefit of the doubt, ect.\n\nBut, now I feel he's taking advantage of my past mistakes and using it to benefit his own agenda. For example, my husband had to work late, like excessively late with a female coworker who I'm not too found of. Of course, without knowing he had to work late, I tried to figure out where he was and if he was okay. When he finally came home he basically told me that he didn't let me know he had to work late \"because he knew I'd get mad and he didn't want to deal with it.\" \n\nThat's basically the gist of his excuses any time I inquire or get upset, \"Well I didn't do X because I know you'll do Y\" despite me not showing signs of Y for over a year.\n\nI know that it takes time to adjust and to forgive and forget, but at this point being accused of behaviors I haven't exhibited in a LONG time without giving me the chance to show him that I have been able to progress just makes me want to act the way he's assuming I'm going to act. \n\nI'm at a loss. Please help!", "summary": "I've changed and my husband still treats me like I'm doing all the things wrong I used to do in the past. "}
{"id": "t3_2i6yk3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (28F) and ex (32M) split 2 months ago and I'm still hurting...help?", "post": "I was good to him. Supported his goals, respected his space, was patient (he didn't introduce me to any of his family even after a year, never even spoke of plans to do so). I paved the way for him to open up and let me get to know him 100%. He could only do that if he was drunk though. And after time, those sweet drunk moments became hostile, self loathing and sad. He would isolate himself alot after we'd been together about 7 months. I gave him space. I also let him know I was there. \n\nWe finally split in August (14 months together). I'd thought things were going well. In hindsight I knew maybe between us they were looking up but for him personally, not so much. He was drinking alot, hiding from me when he did, and still not talking about alot. One night after a date and alot of fun...he told me he hoped he wasn't leading me on. I guess after months of working so much on us, I crumbled.", "summary": "He broke up with me saying he loves me and he's never been confused about it...but he hates himself, his life, where he stands and that it makes it hard for him to get better being with me bc hes constantly reminded that he doesn't give me what I deserve and doesn't know if he can. "}
{"id": "t3_23l35b", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My boyfriend [21/m] and I [21/f] have been arguing recently, he's pulling back, and has arranged dinner? Public break up or reconciliation?", "post": "We've been together for around 4 months, both in final year at University and we have a lot on our plates. I feel as if I've been prioritising the relationship more than he has recently, granted it could be said I've been really needy and clingy but only really because I've felt he's been pulling away (he says this is down to his extreme work load, which is a valid point). \n\nWe've argued about a cacophony of different things, ranging from his ex girlfriend who he's recently been in contact with (and has hid from me), to me wanting a bit more from the relationship than just staying in and having dinner together once a week; I've felt for a little while now like it's been me starting the conversations and encouraging him to see/speak to me, which I have brought up to him. He responded saying that of course he wanted to spend time with me, that he does enjoy my company and that the reason why he's pulling away is because of the arguing and the workload; this conversation went on for about an hour and nothing was resolved as he hung up saying that he's too stressed and doesn't have the time for it.\n\nI sent him a text saying \"this conversation needs to be finished and it needs to be done face to face, rather than on the phone, and sooner rather than later\" to which he didn't reply. Until last night, when he asked me if I \"wanted to go to coffee\" today, I replied I couldn't as I have work to do, but suggested he comes round here on Tuesday. He then suggested that we go out for dinner at a restaurant, to which I said yes and asked him how his work was going. He didn't reply to that final text, which really threw me off as prior to that he was responding within 5/10 minutes. We haven't had a casual conversation since the argument over the phone where he hung up on me.", "summary": "Boyfriend and I arguing, he hung up, now arranging dinner without chatting or casual conversation."}
{"id": "t3_2pkzlf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 F] unfriended my ex-bf [30 M] of 5 months, We're getting along well lately, should I \"friend\" him?", "post": "Things in our relationship were going well. And we had one fight and it ended. We didn't talk for 3 weeks. And then I decided to unfriend him. I didn't want to keep seeing his posts on fb. Ever since i unfriended him, he's been talk/texting me more often. And we've been friendly. We aren't dating and we aren't getting back together. I feel kind of immature to even ask this, but now that we are on speaking terms I want to add him again, but I feel that he'll see it as kind of childish that I am unfriending then re-friending him. \nShould I friend him?", "summary": "I've been getting along well with my ex lately, should I add him on fb again? or will it seem silly/childish?"}
{"id": "t3_thxwf", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "gf and I ended relationship..cant help but think i'm a bit upset she doesnt feel anything", "post": "me (19m) and her (19f) recently ended our relationship of 10 months on grounds that she didnt think our relationship was \"going anywhere\"\n\nand honestly, I feel pretty upset cause I can't get past the feeling that even though she said I treated her \"perfectly and would be an idiot to break up\", she seems like she doesn't really give a shit about it. to her friends she says she isn't heartbroken, she's glad to be free and she hasnt even thought about it. I don't know, I guess it just hurts to think that even though she thought our relationship was great that she can just drop it that quickly\n\nis there more to it? she's a normally very stoic and emotionally guarded girl, so I feel like it may not be all there..and I know it really shouldn't matter to me this much, but it's my first relationship and I guess it's just shocking how little of a shit she is coming off as giving", "summary": "girlfriend and I broke up after a 10 month relationship, i'm a bit shocked at the lack of emotion she's showed..need help trying to overcome thoughts I guess"}
{"id": "t3_4qdeh5", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "[Help] Dog jumping on people during daycare drop off", "post": "Hi guys! My one year old Airedale Terrier, Darcy, is a very jumpy dog. I am working intensely with her when she greets me to not jump by dropping treats on the ground and encouraging her to keep off. Additionally, when she jumps on someone or something (like a counter), I time her out into a quick \"sit\", reinforcing only with freedom. I try to reinforce with a treat when she listens to my \"off\" before she jumps, as well. I feel like we generally have a good strategy going forward for jumpy greetings during most situations. \n\nThere is one notable exception. Darcy loves going to daycare a couple of times a week, and the drop off usually looks something like this. I walk her in with a nice loose leash, clicking and treating for a lax leash (separately still working on loose leash walking). Then she sees the handler and starts to get excited. I put her in a sit (without a stay, because my criteria is pretty high for a stay, and I don't want to weaken that command). Usually the handler will reach for her leash, and of course, this results in Darcy jumping up. I usually pull the leash back, and I try to put her in another sit. That works okay, but I do have to eventually relinquish the leash, so I stumble through another \"off\" as I hand over the leash, all while Darcy continues trying to jump, and the handler is saying various things like \"down\" and \"stay\" (both of which are not my favorite in this situation, especially because I use \"off\" for what they mean by \"down\"). \n\nI'm having trouble coming up with a good strategy to discourage Darcy from jumping during this interaction, because everything is usually done in a hurry and Darcy really has no consequence for jumping. If anyone has experienced anything similar, what did you do? If not, what would you suggest I try? Thank you for any advice.", "summary": "Excited dog jumping on handlers during a hurried daycare drop off. How can I remedy this?"}
{"id": "t3_16z4wp", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Just fuck! Everything!", "post": "Okay, get yourselves prepared for this one, you'll get to the end eventually...\n\nFUCK! I don't know why this keeps happening! Every fucking time I get into a good mood, I have to go and fuck it up for myself! I always get angry at myself for it, but tonight is JUST AWFUL! I was in such a good mood not too long ago, and I just had to go and tell myself that I'm a worthless human being. I had to go and think about the fact that I'm not useful to anybody, and I'm a burden on people because I ALWAYS DO THIS! I do nothing but complain to people about the fact that I feel like SHIT constantly. Nobody ever tells me the truth: that they just want me to go away and leave them alone because I'm bringing them down every fucking day. They never tell me this, instead they insist on telling me they \"care\" about me...I want to believe them, but I CAN'T! I don't know why, I just can't believe that anybody would want somebody like me around when all I do is ruin their day when they ask me \"hey, is something wrong?\" YES! Something is always wrong! And I can't fix it no matter how hard I try to feel good. I can't just make this shit feeling go away, I've tried! Believe me, I've tried, and it DOESN'T! WORK! Yes, sometimes I have good days, sometimes I don't feel like I'm completely useless, but it never lasts long. Always, every time. The longest it's ever lasted was MAYBE two days. Maybe. Then I go right back to wondering why I'm even alive when I don't contribute anything to anybody. I just...I don't know. I got so close to crying in front of somebody today, you know that? Nothing set it off, I just felt so much like shit that it just came out of nowhere. It's embarrassing and it makes me feel even worse, because I have NOTHING to feel shitty about. I'm in a university, my grades are good, I have friends...and yet there's this BULLSHIT! I don't know...just, FUCK! Fuck everything. I don't know what I expect from posting this, but I'm going to...", "summary": "a lot of swearing...I don't normally swear this much, I promise..."}
{"id": "t3_4slj7i", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "Month in Europe. How is this basic country itinerary? Need suggestions on what to do in solo 4th week", "post": "Yeah, I may be like the overzealous traveler that wants to see all of europe in a month, but I won't have the chance to travel again till after grad school (or maybe for a holiday if I'm lucky)...  I have the entire month of August to live it up basically before I start school. \n  \nSo, I'm really excited and want to start planning intraeurope flights.  \n  \n**1st week**: London. (Friend has free hotel but has to work. So, I can squeeze Ireland at this point too. But then would have to pay for accommodations) \n\n**2nd week**: Mon to Wed in France.  (Paris to see eiffel tower and/or elsewhere)  \nThurs to Saturday in Italy. (Most likely Florence and perhaps visit Venice for the sights).  \n**3rd week**: Greece! My friend is currently asking around for place suggestions.  \n**4th week solo**: Unknown? I've heard that either Denmark, Ireland, Belgium, Netherlands, or Switzerland would be good places. I was leaning towards Demark and then doing a day trip to Sweden, but then I read somewhere that the culture of Denmark is pretty tightknit and not to open to strangers. Though, on the other hand they're very friendly and polite. Since this will be my solo week, I want to go to a place that I will have fun, socialize, but also relax and be able to see pretty sights. \n        \n**Fifth week:** Monday to Tuesday exploring London (or checking out Ireland) before flight on Wednesday from London. Or since my friend didn't really like Rome, I can use these days to go to Rome instead. \n  \nSince flights are so cheap now. It goes as low as a 300 round trip in February. Crazyy... I'm definitely going to make it a priority to travel more since the airfare was pretty much my only deterrent. So I definitely do not need to squeeze everything in one trip.", "summary": "LONDON>>FRANCE>>ITALY>>GREECE>>DENMARK?>>LONDON/IRELAND or ROME"}
{"id": "t3_lnugy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Where to take the wife in Phoenix AZ this weekend.", "post": "Hey Reddit,\nDon't let me down on this one I need some advice. My wife turns 25 this month and we just found out we are expecting a little one and are both real excited. We had originally planned on going to Vegas for her b-day but now with her being prego I don't want her to feel left out. I have already contacted her \"BFF\" who lives in Phoenix that she hasn't seen in a few months and have dinner plans but the rest of the weekend is up in the air so I ask the almighty reddit to help me with my predicament. (don't judge me on my grammar or spelling I'm typing this a little at a time while out with the wife in my phone) \n\n(I live in between las Vegas and Phoenix and my wife has no idea we are going to Phoenix yet)", "summary": "need advice for this weekend in Phoenix AZ with my Newley prego wife"}
{"id": "t3_3933lj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [M19] make my girlfriend [F20] believe that I didn't cheat on her? Her friend is lying.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 18 months and I love her. I have only ever had sex with my girlfriend and I would never cheat on her. Ever. \n\nOne of her friends has always disliked me, we just don't get along very well. A week ago she told my girlfriend that she saw me kissing a girl at a party before taking her to bed. Another friend of hers is backing up the claim. I wasn't even at the party that they say it happened at, I was at home studying. I don't know why they would make this up. My girlfriend believes them and I don't know what to do. I tried to talk to her friend and she just subtly smirks at me like some deranged psychopath and calls me a \"disgusting pig.\"\n\nWhen she confronted me I held her hands, looked her in the eye and told her that I didn't do it but she didn't believe me. She thinks I'm a liar. It really hurts that she believes two of her friends over me, but I do understand. I'm really not sure how I can make her believe me. I would absolutely never do this. If I can get her to believe me and trust me, I think this will just make us stronger as a couple. But as it stands right now, she is refusing to talk to me. I really don't know what to do. This is a woman that I am thinking about spending my life with. How can I get her to believe me?", "summary": "How can I [M19] make my girlfriend [F20] believe that I didn't cheat on her? Her friend is lying."}
{"id": "t3_3yok3n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [19F] Girlfriend distant and cold, how should I go about this?", "post": "I recently started dating this girl, anyways the past couple of days she's been ignoring me and only giving me one-word responses if any at all, seems aggravated with me too, and im just making the assumption that its her time of month because of how she's acting, like a light switch has been flicked, on Christmas eve she seemed a little off, but I met her family, surprised her with flowers, and everything was going great, kissed her goodnight and she said she loves me and the very next day it seems like she's irritated with me, so currently I'm just leaving her alone, my question is this usual behavior? And how should I go about it?\n\n I was thinking about sending her a good morning message considering I haven't spoken to her the past 2 days. One of the reasons I think she's on her period is because we had a date the other night and she canceled because she didn't feel well, but was really blunt about it and I asked how she was feeling, i. e. nausea or anxiety (She has a history of bad anxiety, due to previous ex) usually I'm the type of guy that would stop by and comfort her and she clearly didn't want that by how snappy she was being.\n\nI texted her good morning today and to nobody's great surprise she never replied. Its going to be weird because we decided to take a class in college together and I'll be seeing her either way next week.", "summary": "Girlfriend has been ignoring me and is distant, she's also been ignoring some of her friends too and keep pushing away. I told her if she needs anything I am here but she acts like we're not even together and acts like im nothing to her"}
{"id": "t3_2hhn25", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother (51f) is going to marry a guy half her age (27m) and is pressuring me (30m) to participate even though I don't agree", "post": "My mother let a guy move into her house so he could get on his feet. He isn't in school and didn't have a job at the time. This was probably 7 months ago. I was uneasy with her call but her living in Texas and me being in California I really had no say. Today she called me to let me know she is going to marry this guy and wants me to walk her down the isle. I am totally not ok with this and I feel she is making a huge mistake. I feel my family is forcing me to agree but I am not ok with this and I don't know what to do or say.", "summary": "mother is making a bad choice and I don't want to go along."}
{"id": "t3_3c71iy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a shit before my driving lesson", "post": "Okay so this is my first post on Reddit so I apologise in advance.\n So my driving instructor happens to be one of my friends father. He's a nice guy and a great teacher with a lot of interesting stories. Unfortunately due to his age and other health issues, he is ill quite a lot; resulting in a lot of my lessons being cancelled. Because of this I am always unsure as to whether he is going at actually turn up or not. This wasn't a huge issue for me as I knew he wasn't in the greatest state of health and he often needs to make \"surprise trips\" to the bathroom, many of which would only present to him with only a few minutes warning.\n Essentially I knew that if he wasn't at my house by around 10:30 am on a Sunday morning then he wasn't going to turn up. Or at least that's what I thought.\n So this morning it got to around 10:35 and I assumed it was one of \"those\" days. So I took a shit then jumped in the shower. Now don't judge me too harshly for this but I usually go through this same routine every morning. Essentially flushing the toilet would result in cold water for my shower for the next 5 ish minutes. To to overcome this problem I tend to take a shit then wait to flush the toilet until I get out of the shower. On this particular morning I heard a knock at the door mid shower so I hurriedly got out, quickly got dressed then answered the door to find my driving instructor stood there with a pained look on his face. I opened the door and he quickly asked if he could use my toilet. My heart just sank. I couldn't exactly tell him no but I knew what was waiting for him in said toilet.\n I knew I would just have to suck it up so I said yes and awaited my fate. He came back downstairs after several minutes and said real casual to me \"so is it just you home today?\" Today's lesson was probably the most awkward lesson of my life (so far).", "summary": "my instructor took a shit on top of my shit."}
{"id": "t3_3duclh", "subreddit": "running", "title": "My first truly terrible run", "post": "Last night I experienced my first ever absolutely miserable run where instead of feeling energized and accomplished when it was over, I lay on my bathroom floor shivering and hugging the toilet. \n\nI have had frustrating runs before and I have had runs when my knee/ankle/toe hurt and made me want to quit but last night was far worse than any of those. \n\nEarlier in the day, I ate a sandwich and fell asleep on the couch for a two hour surprise nap. When I woke up my stomach was slightly unsettled like I was about to have heartburn. I decided to do out for my long run anyways because I always have heartburn and it doesn't usually stop me. This run was scheduled to be my longest yet at 1:30:00 (I am training for a half).\n\nAt about 45 minutes I started to get stomach cramps so I slowed how much water I was taking in. The entire run I had to walk several times which is unusual for me but my times were better than expected so I thought I was just pushing too hard and tried to take it easy on the way back. \n\nMy post long run ritual is usually to drink several long drinks once I get back to the car since now I won't be jostling my innards around, I can do what I want. When I got home, I felt like I probably shouldn't try eating right away so I had about 1/3 bottle of Gatorade. \n\nWell...Gatorade was the wrong answer. Within 20 minutes I was violently heaving into my kitchen garbage and I lost all of the Gatorade and likely most of the water I had while running. \n\nMy question is, do I blame my sandwich from earlier or my run? I am worried that 1:30:00 is my limit. I haven't considered quitting my half marathon training until now because everything up to this point has been fine.", "summary": "I went on a long run only to come home and violently throw up and now I am hesitant to continue my training."}
{"id": "t3_3ihwg8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[TIFU] by getting a med card and overdosing on marijuana or \"greening out\"", "post": "Well Reddit, I fucked up big time. I overdosed on THC. Which is found in marijuana.\n\n I was with two other friends, we will call them Kolin and Matt (not real names), and we were all having a good time at Matt's new beach house. Matt has his medical marijuana card, and I asked him how since he seemed to be in perfect health. He told me he had tendinitis in his knees which gave him chronic pain. I did too and he told me that we could go get my card if I had $40 cash. We go to a small clinic where I filled out a paper listing my symptoms and reasons for my visit. Told the doctor about my aches and pains and he gave me a sealed and verified med card for $40 cash. So we were able to go into dispensaries and pick up stuff legally. It felt pretty surreal. We grab some cash and head to the nearest dispensary a few blocks away. Since it was my first time at the dispensary I had to fill out a user agreement. We buy 2 \"Dark Chocolate\" edibles for $30 bucks, and each bar contains 4x the dose of a normal serving of marijuana. Before heading to the pier that night, Matt and I decide to eat our edibles. Yea the whole thing at one time. It took about 30-45 minutes for me to get high, but when it came I got hit buy a brick wall. I broke out in a cold sweat, and I struggled to survive. We decided to walk to the nearest fast food restaurant which happened to be Carl's Jr.\nI sit down and time flies slow as hell. I remember going into third person and feeling the vomit crawl out of my stomach. I threw up four times on my way to their restroom. I was hallucinating traps around me, and I could barely get out two words at a time without my brain stopping itself from further processing. If it weren't for Kolin looking out for me, I would not have made it last night. Anyone at the beach could have simply asked me for my wallet and I would have given it to them. I was that fucked up.\n\n[TIFU] by getting a med card and overdosing on marijuana or \"greening out\"", "summary": "Got my med card, bought an edible with 4x the dose of THC per individual, and I experienced hallucinations. I also vomited 4 times at a Carl's Jr."}
{"id": "t3_2nm9vg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Had a Girl Over - Missed Opportunity?", "post": "There's a girl that I've liked for awhile that today I had over. Was almost positive she was interested, heard a lot of things from her and others that said it. She came over and I shared Pulp Fiction with her. We ended up holding hands, but that's all, and being stupid, I mentioned another guy in school a lot of people thought she had a thing with. Though we're meeting in the morning to head to school together and have agreed to a lunch in the future, after mentioning the other guy and seeing other weird signals when flirting strongly, not sure where to take it, what she's thinking and what my next move should be. Help?", "summary": "Crush who I've heard say a lot about me was over, I made a conversation error and almost no move (excluding have lunch with her and meeting her in the morning) not sure how its looking."}
{"id": "t3_1w9jnn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] & my gf [19F] lost our virginities to each other though we weren't officially together. Before we got together she slept with 4 other guys and I can't shake this feeling of inadequacy", "post": "So me and my gf (of 7 months, seeing each other for 19 months) met the summer before she went away to school and it was amazing. Lots of good feelings and understanding. She was always a chill girl, never a party slut. When she left we weren't officially together but I felt as though we were because we were so obsessed with each other and didn't see anyone else.\n\nIn the 8 month period before we became monogamous there was a lot of visiting each other at school and positive vibes and the lot. A few months after we became an item I found out she fucked four dudes while we were going on dates and all that stuff. It just fucking shocked me because in 9 months she went from not even kissing a guy to fucking 5 of then including me, I'm sure most of them more then once. I know now she wouldn't cheat on me but it just makes me feel so fucking inadequate. How did she fuck four guys & not make it seem like a big deal. I love her so much I just don't know how to comprehend my feelings.\n\n This is the first time in 7-8 months that these feelings of angst have risen again and I just feel so fucking inadequate. Does she love any of them? I don't know how to deal, I just feel like a fucking chump. I know my feelings are stupid I just want some way to quantify and compartmentalize these feelings and chalk them up as no big deal. I feel like when I was seeing her then I was just another option. However her and her friends said all she would talk about is me and she'd cry when she realized she loved me. This is a post that doesn't need a solution as much as I would appreciate anecdotes or just help understanding my feelings. On a phone so sorry. About formatting but it can be corrected if need be.", "summary": "my gf during an 8 month period fucked four different guys when she had just lost her virginity to me while also seeing me and made it seem like no big deal. Feelings of inadequacy fill my mind and general confusion. We are in love but my self consciousness rears its ugly face every once in a while."}
{"id": "t3_1784dw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have proof that my mom is cheating on my stepdad. What do I do?", "post": "So my mom has brought a lot of men into my life. Finally she seemed to have settled down. She has been married to my stepdad for 2 1/2 years now and recently started a new business. I noticed she became \"friends\" with the owner of one of the businesses that she does work for. She has been really sketchy ever since. constantly texting him and is on the phone with him more than she even talks to my stepdad. My stepdad works hard and often has to work out of town. When he is gone my mom will randomly disappear for 3-4 hours saying she went out with friends. When I ask her what friends she answers \"just a few friends from work\" I know this is bullshit because I saw a text message to the guy when my mom was texting him that said \"I can't wait to see you\". Now tonight I saw a message on her facebook from him saying \"I love you\" to which she replied, \"I love you more.\" I know that I should say something to her. The trouble comes here. My brother and sister both know and would be on my side. However if they said anything my mom would probably kick them out. If I said something my mom could make me go live with my dad. or even worse my mom could get divorced and move in with this new guy, who is a total cunt by the way. Even worse is that my stepdad has 2 kids who I have become really close with and I would hate to see what they would have to go through.", "summary": "Mom is cheating. Don't know how to go about saying anything because too many people could be affected negatively by me saying something."}
{"id": "t3_3jpzua", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24/F] am trying to get over an asshole [26/M] whom I have dated for 2 months.", "post": "I was seeing this guy for 2 months. It was really sweet and all at the beginning. We texted each other everyday, met very often. Then came 1 day, it slowed down. I asked him what happened a couple of times but he just brushed it off. I did not want to get into a serious relationship with him but I was really affected. After which, I told him that I liked him and asked if he likes me. He said he feels the same. We were still talking to each other but it doesn't feel like before. \n\nAfter a month later, I found out he's been seeing another girl and they have been really intimate. I would have been cool about it, if he told me that he's seeing someone else. I confronted him about it. he denied the fact that he's seeing someone else and said that he only regards me and the girl as friends.\n\nHe is being an asshole but why do I feel this enmity for the girl instead of him? Why do I still miss him despite the fact that he was a coward and an asshole.", "summary": "dated guy for 2 months"}
{"id": "t3_1drdw9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What secret are you keeping from everybody you know?", "post": "When i was fourteen i went on holidays to Spain, On our first day we went to a water park called \"Aqualand\". Anyways we split up and agreed to rendezvous at a food court. I queued up a five-laned slippery dip and once it was my turn i was positioned on the far right lane. As i slid down the slope water got in my eyes and I couldn't see so i didn't know when i would impact the water below. When i hit the water i was knocked unconscious by a big guy who had crossed into my lane and landed on me. When i woke up a lifeguard was beside me along with a group and she must have applied CPR because my chest was sore. I got up in a daze and walked off to the food court where i acted like nothing happened when i met up with my family. I'm nineteen now and still haven't told a soul, not even my girlfriend and I don't know why", "summary": "Almost drowned on holidays and told nobody"}
{"id": "t3_21xwtu", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Bitch about me taking a large washer? Let me make that worse for you.", "post": "So today is laundry day, and I have a decent\u00a0amount\u00a0due to my boyfriend working two jobs that require two different outfits per day. Made the mistake of going a bit later than usual, no big.\n\nI ask a lady if I can use a 5 load washer after her (perfect for how much I have) and up comes Laundry Bitch Face (LBF from now on.) Miss LBF has about 6 FULL bags of laundry, as well as two baskets. When she sees me ask for a washer, she launches into a tirade with her neighbor about how \"she has kids\" and \"people with only 4 things shouldn't use the big washers.\" Bitch, I'm not stupid. I know you're aiming that at me. I get her to shut up by plonking down my huge, overstuffed bin and she shuts up for a minute. THEN CONTINUES HER TIRADE.\n\nLBF, its on now.\n\nSo I take all my stuff, and spread it out on the largest table in the place. Since our laundry will finish at the same time, she will be relegated to one of the tiny tables to fold ALL of her laundry.", "summary": "Bitch complains about me taking a big dryer, so I take the biggest table before she can."}
{"id": "t3_298tbl", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[DRESS] Cart before the horse?", "post": "I've been engaged for over a year. We haven't made any plans because for a while we were both out of work. Now, we're both gainfully employed. FH knows I'm ready to start planning - after a few gentle nudges and asking about colors, seasons, guests, I finally told him the ball was in his court, and when he's ready to start, so am I. I'm not in any real serious hurry. \n\nThere's a Brides Against Breast Cancer dress dash tomorrow - I only got the email about it today! New and gently used dresses on sale starting at $99, for a great cause. Entry is $17. \n\nI would really like to go to this. I love the idea of supporting a great cause while saving tons on a dress. But since we haven't picked a season, a venue, a date, nothing, am I jumping the gun?", "summary": "huge charity dress sale tomorrow but haven't set a date. Get dress now or wait? "}
{"id": "t3_ucngw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to start walking after 20 weeks of Non Weight Bearing. Advice please.", "post": "Here's the situation; I broke my Fibula (outside bone), tore two ligaments & damaged cartilage as well. I had surgery a week after the injury, Plate & 5 screws were inserted, cartilage filled in with silicone & Ligament sewn back together, additional 6th screw was inserted to hold the two bones together. After 14 weeks I had another surgery to remove that 6th screw as the Ligaments healed. I am now 6 weeks after the second surgery, was supposed to see the doc tomorrow but he had an emergency & rescheduled for next week, so I hereby turn to you Redditors (where else) for advice on how to start walking, I was told that I can start walking (couldn't talk to Doc, only secretary).\nI've seen all advice from people who were NWB for 6 weeks, I'm really looking for advice from people who have been closer to 20 weeks like myself. I've started putting pressure just yesterday & it's surprisingly painless (just pressure), still wearing Aircast (Doc said not to remove when walking).\nHow much pressure can I put?\nShould I throw away 1 crutch if I can bear it with only one?\nShould I get a cane already?\nwhat exercise is good?", "summary": "I've been NWB for 20 weeks after ankle injury/surgery, I'd like advice on how to start walking again."}
{"id": "t3_1gpof7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "x-post from r/deadbedrooms: Had dead bedroom, turned out GF was cheating [m/f 20]", "post": "I have been with my gf for six years now. The last couple of months we have had a kind of dead bedroom, with sex maybe 2-3 times a month (I know that this isn't exactly dead, so I'm not sure I'm entitled to complain). We didn't live together, and we both had hectic days so I guessed that this was the reason for our lack of sex. Three weeks ago we moved together. This was big for me. I thought that now we could start working on our dead bedroom. Unfortunately we only had sex one time the first week. I just thought that was because she was stressed out. So was I. The next week she got her period, so that kind of killed the sex part.\n\nSo, yesterday she was really sad. And I asked what was wrong. She then confessed to me that she had been having an affair with her friend. She haven't told me how long this has been happening, but it seems like it has been going on for a while.\n\nThe worst thing is that I was sickly jealous at her friend. And I was really paranoid that there was something going on. So I confronted her, but she told me that I didn't need to worry. So I felt really bad that I was this paranoid and jealous guy, that couldn't let her have a guy friend. So, I guess my suspicions was right the whole time.\n\nI don't know what to do yet. We have just moved together, and there will be hell to move out again. We have both been living with our parents, and there's no turning back now. I don't know if she's gonna quit seeing her friend, and I don't know if we're going to try to make this work. I know I can't forgive her for what she did, and I'm not sure I can just forget and put it behind me either.\n\nSo, do anybody have any tips? Been in a similar situation? And is it even possible to fix this kind of thing? Anything goes, I just need some perspective.", "summary": "Had kind of dead bedroom. Moved together. Thought this would be a start to fixing things. She tells me that she has been cheating on me for a while. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_uwit7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cat is ill and will likely require surgery that I can't afford.  Reddit, do you have any creative suggestions for FAST fundraising?", "post": "My cat became ill a few days ago. Started with vomiting and general lethargy (he is a young and mostly active cat). It continued this way for a few  days before we could take him to the vet. Very found that he'd swallowed a string and part of it got wrapped around his tongue. They were able to unable it from hits tongue, but he might require surgery. Problem is, we don't know yet as we couldn't afford the xrays to see his intestines. They gave us a laxative to use and wait for a BM which hadn't happened yet (vet visit was 3 days ago). Starting to really get worried, he hadn't improved much other than drinking water, but he won't eat unless I force feed him. We can get xrays done on Thursday, but surgery could cost up to 1500 (more if we have to see a specialist). Reddit my question for you is this: what are some fast methods of raising money in a short period of time? I'm willing to sell personal possessions if need be. Also, I'm in Canada if that makes a difference.", "summary": "Cat very sick, may need surgery. Need helpful suggestions of quick fundraising."}
{"id": "t3_3p89d9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my new GF [26 F] maybe not interested in me?", "post": "Im dating a new girl who never dated anyone before.  She lives in my apartments and we get along great, have same interests,etc.  She never tries to pay for things when we go out or ask me about myself. Most of the time I listen to her talk on and on. I ask her questions but she doesnt ever seem interested in me.....more like she wants to talk and feel special....and like shes interested in a free meal. I know shes new to relationships and this isnt my first rodeo.... unsure of what to do. In prior relationships I would wait on the girl to ask if we could do something and then let her pay for that to even the bounds... this seems way too convenient for her. Im finding this difficult because she lives in my apartment complex so there is no physical boundary. Oh and weve been dating for seven weeks. We go out a few times a week and I pay each time.", "summary": "new relationship with no distance boundaries and she seems interested in talking about herself and going out.....but maybe not interested in me and with me paying for going out activities."}
{"id": "t3_53cbi6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] boyfriend [21M] of 5 years works too much and does not have time to spend with me", "post": "I have bluntly communicated to him several times that I would like to see him more than once per week for two hours. He said he would try to make more time for me but it has not happened yet (I've talked to him twice in a three month period). We've been together five years, and I recently graduated from college and found a job. He literally works everyday and when he's not working he'll hang out with his brother or his friends to smoke weed. I don't smoke anymore, and I don't care if he does but I'm hurt that he barely finds time to spend with me. I don't even text or call to ask him to hang out because he'll usually say he's busy working. I know he's busy and throughout the week I'm busy with work too but we rarely talk. He'll probably send a text every so often, but we usually go 4-5 days without talking. Whenever we do hang out it has to be convenient for him and it's not fair to me. He works at out former high school's garden and does yard work for people which I can understand takes up a lot of time, but then again I don't. Sometimes the one day I do get to hang out with him, he'll cancel if someone calls and I'll be left at dinner/movie theater/wherever alone. I just feel like I'm not wanted and I wonder if I would just be better off single. I just want to re-establish the affection that used to be in the relationship; I feel like it's lacking. I've even told him I feel like I'm not wanted and he says, \"It's not that, I'm just busy\". I understand working and making money, but working EVERYDAY? I'm sorry I'm ranting, I just have no one to talk to this about. Thank you for reading my rant.", "summary": "boyfriend of five years works everyday and does not make much time for me even though I've tried to communicate with him about it. Do not feel wanted in relationship anymore."}
{"id": "t3_2e9276", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Does he [??M] like me [23F] or are we just lunch buddies?", "post": "So I've known this guy for around 2 months now and we've been to lunch maybe 3 or 4 times just the two of us. He's asked me to lunch most of the time except once, where I asked him to lunch. He ends up paying for our meals every time we've gone to lunch...maybe I should be more forward about paying for my own lunch but that's another issue. We talk mostly about ourselves over lunch, where he's asked about family and hobbies, etc. \n\nI know that my feelings for him are developing but I don't know if it's the same for him. He is generally a nice guy and very gentlemanly, but I don't know if he treats other girls the same way. I have a tendency to be a bit neurotic and think too much into situations. I'm also a bit on the quiet side and don't know how to flirt or show my feelings...so I'm not sure if he's picked up on the fact that I do indeed have feelings for him.\n\nAnyways, he's going away for a few weeks and someone had asked me in front of him if I was going to miss him while he is gone. I hesitated and didn't answer the question but he made a comment that we're lunch buddies. I don't know if that was a diversion tactic because I felt like I was obviously being put on the spot, and he may have just been trying to ease the tension...\n\nSo does he like me or are we lunch buddies according to his comment?", "summary": "I like a guy and don't know if he likes me back or thinks of me as his lunch buddy."}
{"id": "t3_2907nf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16F] Should I cross him off the list?", "post": "Okay so, i mean i have zero dating experience, let alone flirting experience, but i'm only 16 so that's expected. Its really simple so i'm just going to try to get down to the point. \n\nA guy i text says he likes to talk to me twice but he never starts the conversations. I hate always doing it because i feel like i'm annoying him or being clingy, and for that reason i can't face him in person or keep texting him, i haven't texted him in a long while (probably like 2-3 weeks) because i get a disinterested vibe from him if i start another conversation with him in the same week so i feel intimidated and i back off. Another thing that is difficult is that i have had no classes with him since grade 9 so...not much time to get to know each other face to face during these 3 years. Despite that, i'm okay talking to him face to face if he approaches me, its just me walking up to him is hard and starting a conversation is bad because i don't even do that with my close friends.\n\nShould i still try to talk to start conversations (via text cause...no other way for us to really communicate) or just forget about him in a romantic-relationship way and stick to being a friend...\n\n(if you need more details feel free to ask)\n\nSorry if i am coming off as those typically teenage girls, its just my friends don't care or want to bother listening to my \"boy problems\" since i never act on them, so i would appreciate some simple advice.", "summary": "Should i still try to start conversations, never text him again or just try to stay friends."}
{"id": "t3_1mew6i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/m] It's been 8 months and I'm still not over her...", "post": "Background: When I was 15 I developed a crush on one of my school friends but since I was really shy and didn't want to ruin our friendship I just left it and hoped the feelings would go, 2 years down the line I still have a crush on her so I finally decide to ask her out, she says yes and we stay together for a good 6 months with no real problem. \n\nAt this point in the relationship I fully believe that I'm in love with her, however in January of this year she broke up with me. At first I wasn't too affected by it as I had pretty much expected it by the way she was acting, I thought this meant that I was over her but gradually over the months I started to care more and more until it was all I could think about.\n\n2 months ago I decided it was time to talk to her and apologise for my behaviour that possibly led to our break up, she said everything was fine and that it's all in the past and we haven't spoken since. \nNow I really don't know what to do, I think I'm still in love with her but I know she's over me, I want to be friends with her but it would be very awkward between us (plus I hate her friends), I want to meet someone else but the only girls I know are friends from my secondary school and one girl in my college class.", "summary": "Had crush on friend, friend became girlfriend, fell in love with girlfriend, girlfriend became ex, still in love with ex, ex is over me, what do"}
{"id": "t3_uuhja", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Cautionary tale about minimalist shoes", "post": "I've had a busted MCL ( for about ten years. This just means when i step on a crooked piece of sidewalk my kneecap dislocates. Fortunately, running in a straight line on a road is a safe activity, so about two years ago I started getting into running. It's now been over a year since my kneecap has dislocated, because I strengthened all the muscles around it so much. That's the good story.\n\nThe bad story? I did it in Nike frees. I had problems with my feet that lead me to choose those shoes. Suddenly, in February, my right IT band went. And I was done. I couldn't run 500 feet. I didn't get it, my left knee was awesome. I had slowly increased my mileage, up to only 4 miles a day. my perfect mid-foot strike and wear pattern on the sole of my frees left me bewildered.\n\n Everyone uses minimalist shoes these days, so it couldn't be that, right? \nWRONG. Turns out that 100% of the problem was the minimalist shoe. Last week I got new shoes and was humiliated as I purchased the chunkiest, ugliest old fashioned sneakers on the advice of the shoe specialist. Now I run on what feels like big fluffy cushions, but my knees haven't even twinged.\n\nWhen I started posting about this issue a lot of people who were ex-runners because of their IT band told me it was hopeless. I hope they see this post and try cushioned shoes.", "summary": "don't start with minimalist shoes or you won't be able to see their effects. Also, if you have knee problems in the first place, don't do minimalist! Even with 12 miles a week they can damage you."}
{"id": "t3_19np6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M17] dont know if i should kiss/be with [F16] maybe be my SO?", "post": "Bad gramma incomming\n\nI made a post earlier going much more in depth with her and me [here](\n\nSo,  ive been dating a girl for a couble of moths, nothing serious because her parents dont like me (cuddeling and hugging), but lately we've started to see eachother more, we both want to, but after the first times she seems a litle more distant, but its only at times, litle svingy, im not asking into it, because i am  afraid she will think im too clingy or getting like too close too quickly.\n\nHer parents and family mean everything to her, and she has said she dosnt wanna disaapoint them ( the are a litle just cause shes seeing me) so i know asking her to be my gf is  to much at this time, but how about kissing her?\n\n* should i do it? could i ruin everything by doing it?\n\n* what if she doesn't want we for making the move, or worse dosn't Because i didn't make it?", "summary": "Family and personal things keeping me from kissing a girl, should i kiss her?"}
{"id": "t3_3bcfwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/19], a college student, have found myself in a summer class with a girl [F/19] whom I've had a HUGE crush on for years.", "post": "A bit about me: I'm a college student and am taking a couple of summer classes at a nearby college. I'm a very easy-going guy, but I also have severe anxiety. Hence, I'm extremely nervous about everything, including this situation and don't quite know how to approach it. If I knew how to (and that's why I'm asking for help), I would feel a lot better about it.  \n  \nA bit about her: She attends a college very close to mine (as in a 5 minute drive). I have liked her from a distance for a while. How do I know her? Well, she is a good friend of a female friend of mine (we all attended the same high school and are now in college). However, we've never really talked, but as stated in the title, we now have a class together over the summer. In fact, she is my lab partner in the lab I'm taking. To me, it's a golden opportunity to get to know and possibly try to start a relationship with someone I've been crushing on for years. She's very sweet and fairly quiet. \n \nAlso, a dilemma I'm facing: She is a member of a very Christian community, and many members of said community don't really date. For this reason, I would like to take things very slowly in order to avoid an early rejection (especially considering we're lab partners), I'd like to take this slowly. I am Christian as well, but not as conservatively as she is. The lab only lasts for a month, though, so I don't have a lot of time to work with before school begins again. How would I approach this?", "summary": "I am taking a summer class with a girl I've had a crush on for years and I'm seeking advice about how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_525cw8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My long-time friend [26/m] and I [26/m] seem to be drifting.", "post": "Hey everyone,\n\nIf you are inclined to check my post history you might noticed that this is a time of transition for me in terms of friends, family, university and self-awareness. In this post I'm particularly concerned about a long-term friend of mine who I have known for 13 years. \n\nI've always known him as the type to hide his emotions and explode periodically and this was something I would occasionally have to deal with but otherwise our friendship was fine because we were in school together and shared many of the same hobbies.\n\nAfter high school, I went into a science program and he went into a technical certificate program for an oil related career. He also had an emotionally abusive girlfriend, which always bothered me because he is a great guy. \n\nI feel as though his ex really did a number on him emotionally and he is much more prone to anger than when I met him, add the fact that oil has tanked and I can see that he is under a lot of stress.\n\nSomething happened to his political views since getting a career in oil. Money reigns supreme, other people can suck it basically - I don't mean to rip on anyone here who feels that way but the way I see it is that he has become much colder during this period. \n\nOne thing that really shocked me recently was when we were chatting about a Chinese fellow I introduced him too. Not sure how he got this idea but apparently the Chinese guy hates white people (most of his friends are white) and is ungrateful because white people taught him martial arts (his Chinese dad did) and white people gave him everything that he has right now. Until this point, I thought he was just grumpy about the economy - didn't know he has become a racist. \n\nI think this is a signal that I should start to distance myself from him.\n\nIf this has happened to you, how did you deal with it? Thanks everyone", "summary": "As time goes on, friend and I share less in common and are generally less friendly as we once were. Might be time to move on."}
{"id": "t3_2rddx9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[24/F] can't stop talking and making jokes all the time.", "post": "I'm a graduate student and I've started noticing a pattern in my behavior that I find rather irksome. I can't a) stop talking or b) stop making jokes. I've held down jobs before and this doesn't happen in a professional setting when it's time to go to work, but whenever I'm in a social setting I can't seem to stop talking or looking for a joke to make. Half the time it's almost like an out-of-body experience where half of my brain is asleep and the other half is just chattering on.  \n\nPeople think I'm funny and have told me so many times, but I'm sick of just being the funny girl who talks a lot. And yes, I'm partially asking because I think it's taking a toll on my dating life-I find a lot of stuff funny but I'm not sure if laughing and joking with a lot of these guys (sometimes about dark or inappropriate topics) makes them see me as more of a friend a less like dating material. In terms of friendships, I've had a couple of other girls admit that they think I talk just a little too much. Has anyone ever \"retrained\" themselves, so to speak, to socialize differently?", "summary": "How do I train myself to be less chatty/jokey all the time?"}
{"id": "t3_4kny4u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF [22 F] got into a fight about not having enough arguments. Suggestions?", "post": "She got angry over me not arguing with her. She says I'm like a robot. For context sake I argued back that saying that  is dismissing my feelings like of the time I told her I used to be bullied in 4th grade. \n\nUsually I talk to her relaxed, but she kept driving the point how angry she was for over an hour that I thought I d try to be angry as well and brought up the point about her talking shit/gossip about people, and eventually I mentioned without thinking that her sister's boyfriend made a good impression on me not considering that he appears to beat her. That I don't approve of, but I said good night instead and she just hung up cursing under her breath. \n\nShe wanted an argument and got one, but now our relationship is probably in pieces. This is why there shouldn't be two people angry at the same time. I want to apologize first, but how do I apologize and lessen her anger without sounding like a pushover?", "summary": "Girlfriend is angry why I don't complain about anything, as if I don't trust her with my secrets. I do complain to her and the situation spirals out. How to mend"}
{"id": "t3_2ecfa0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 F] I can't tell if she's flirting or just joking around", "post": "So I just started at a new high school in a new state, and for the first couple days I was pretty lonely until this girl came up to me and offered to help with some summer homework that I knew nothing about but still had to do.\n\nAt first we only talked on facebook, and it was only about school stuff but over a couple days we started to talk a ton, about everything. Since then we've been together at school nearly all the time, and hardly are ever apart.\n\nI really like her, but I can't tell if she likes me back. The texts she sends seem pretty flirty, she trolls me alot because I'm new and sort of almost makes fun of me in a joking way, and she also wanted to know about any of my past relationships. \n\nToday during lunch she walked off to talk to some of her friends, and I was just standing with another group of her girl friends. One of them told me \"there goes [name]\" and winked at me and laughed. I think it's pretty obvious that I like her, but I don't really know what her doing that meant. Also, another one of her friends said I should take her to homecoming and that we would make a \"really cute couple\".\n\nI just can't tell with her, and I really don't want to ask her and only be rejected and have our friendship ended. I really respect her and I don't want to put her on the spot like that.", "summary": "I'm getting mixed messages from the girl I like, her friends all want me to ask her out, and I'm really unsure of what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1mbupw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "All the Firsts", "post": "It has been almost seven months since we broke up, almost five months since I last physically spoke to him, and over a month since I saw him last. (We were in the same store and pretended not to see each other.)\n\nI moved halfway across the country to get away from the memories and it has mostly worked for me.  I love it here and I have a job interview in my chosen career in 3 hours.  A lot of firsts are happening for me right now. \n\nThis is the first job interview in four years that my ex hasn't been here to support me.  He always talked me through my worries and reassured me that I could do it.  I'm doing that for myself today.\n\nI moved to one of the largest cities in the United States.  My former home was in a tiny town of 29,000 people. This is my first time living in such a big place.\n\nThis is the first time I've lived in a state other than California.\n\nFor the first time, I'm looking at homes to own, rather than rent.  \n\nThis is the first time that I actually love the place I live.  My old town was depressing, dark, foggy, and had a horrible economy.  It was beautiful there, but not a place for optimism. \n\nFor the first time, I took a chance on myself, my skills, my personality, and my ambition to achieve my goals.  I can't fail, but I might, and I have to be okay with that. \n\nThis is the first time that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I'm in a position to be very comfortable financially and get to do all the things I want to do.  \n\nFor the first time, I can go to concerts without driving 6 hours to the nearest actual city.  I can go out to eat every Saturday night and have thousands of dining options.  \n\nI miss him, and wish that we still shared each other's lives, but for the first time I have hope without him.", "summary": "I miss my ex, but for the first time since the break-up, things are good."}
{"id": "t3_1nz6f5", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[21/m]9000 km between me and mygirlfriend [20/f] are messing up everything. please help", "post": "hi reddit, to begin sorry for my poor english (i'm french)\n\nfor 2 years i have been with my actual girlfriend, we builded up a very nice and fusional relationship. But this semester i had to go  to vietnam for 6 month. We left each others in tears 2 month ago. During those 2 month we both evolved in our relationship but in different ways.\n\nFor me i realized that my life was a bit pointless without her, that i want to build something strong with her and starting to accept the idea of having some kids in few years (wich she really wanted and i totally refused before). writing fucking love letters (wich is usually not my thing).\n\nfor her, she actually enjoys to be alone, and to care only about herself, always be with her friends. this started to mess up things because she was barely able to find some time to skype with me. Then then she clearly told me that she needed that, to be less fusional, to have her own stuff alone.\nWich i can uderstand cause i was like that at the begining of our relationship but changed for her... So i thought we will continue on this way, sharing more and more, and i was really enjoying it...\nof course she is telling me that this have any impact on her love, but i just don't feel right about it. I have the feeling of going backward in our relation, and i don't want it. I'm so desperate that i'm considering to end our relationship but i have to admit that i am really lost...\nhave anyone been in the same situation? what should i do?", "summary": "my relationship went from buildind something awesome together to be less fusional and care more about our separate lifes."}
{"id": "t3_358j7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[29/F] boyfriend [29/ M] says I \"set him up\" to lie? Known each other 7 years, together for 2", "post": "I want to keep this simple and focus on the question I have at hand. I know dishonesty is a huge concern to be addressed in and of itself. If I have left important details out to answer my question, I'll be happy to add.\n\nOn to my question:\n\nThere have been a few instances where I have been suspicious that my BF was hiding something from me, stretching the truth, or even lying. Some of these times, I \"investigate\" and find out that my suspicions are correct.  I am here to learn more about his mentality when \"caught\". \nThis is how it goes:\n\n* I ask him a question about (insert issue at hand)\n\n* He answers dishonestly.\n\n* I  may or may not suspicious for various reasons\n\n* I later find evidence that proves his dishonesty.\n\n* I later ask him again about (insert issue at hand)\n\n* He lies again!\n\n* I tell him that *I know* he's lying, because XYZ.\n\nHe then gets **upset at me** for \"setting him up\" to lie.  \"I knew\" the answer already, so why did I even ask him? \n...so yeah, I don't understand how someone who has done something wrong will turn to anger first, rather than remorse. On top of that, I don't understand his mentality that I've set him up. He had the choice to answer with either a lie or the truth. \n\nAnyone had experience on this? He always comes around shortly after and has no problem seeing his wrongdoing after the dust has settled from the confrontation. We are able to have constructive conversations following these incidents...I just want to know what this reaction of his is an indication of, if anything.", "summary": "BF has lied on a few occasions, his initial angry reaction when caught/confronted confuses me."}
{"id": "t3_3buq6u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "New to job [25 F] and in a hostile work environment with multiple co workers", "post": "I am working at my first corporate job straight out of uni. I have less than 4 months working in a demanding public sector agency. The environment is great and everyone is easygoing. My workplace has all \"the babies\" (mid-20/mid-30 year olds). However, I can't help but notice that some people have been condescending towards me at times.\n\nI have a very playful, child-like persona, that's my personality and also a coping method to handle stress. I admit that *I don't always* know when people get irked by me and I can be hard to be around.\n\nHowever, some of my peers have been acting very disrespectfully and condescending to me. I get backhanded answers and under the breath comments.\n\nJust the other day, I was approached to do a task that I had a new procedure and I was unfamiliar about. When asking the people who were more knowledgable, Person #1 of them tried explaining in a way that didn't make sense to me. I asked for him to simplify and he snapped at me with a vague response that got me nowhere. It took Person #2 to calmly break it down for me. Still, I did was stare at Person #1 with a raised eyebrow in anger. I didn't know how to react to it but I knew I didn't appreciate the way he answered to me. \n\nOther times, I just happen to say the wrong things to those who don't like me or don't know how I am. I got that a lot as a kid that has been bullied and whatnot, but I'm getting pretty old for that.\n\nMy question to you, reddit, is should I approach people when I am being talked down upon? How about when I am being to chummy? Should I acknowledge that I passed the limit.\n\nThis is my first real job, so I'm fairly new to this. Appreciate your help!", "summary": "Post-grad in her first real job in public sector. People treat me badly bc I'm kinda of an oddball+fairly new and still learning+don't know how to stand up for myself in a corporate setting. "}
{"id": "t3_xruvy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night my friends bailed on me minutes before our movie started while I was in a diner across the street waiting for them but I met a stranger and ended up having a great night anyway. Every happen to you?", "post": "Last night four of my friends wanted to see The Big Lebowski (which we've been waiting for quite some time for) at the local film house and all of them bailed on me half an hour before the show. An hour before that, we all agreed to get drinks and dinner at the local diner; I was the first one there and got a table for us. They were running late so I ordered for myself because I hadn't eaten all day but 30 - 45 minutes before the movie started all my friends called within 10 minutes of each other having some excuse why they couldn't come. One had car trouble and was bringing another person, another was *too tired*, and the third *just wasn't feeling it*. They called, that was weird.\n\nAnyway, 20 minutes before the movie started at the table next to was a very cute girl eating alone and she was reading a book by one of my favourite authors, Stuart McLean and undoubtedly heard me taking on the phone. I end up starting a conversation with her by asking if Dave has met the duck yet. She smiled and said, \"Oh my God, I almost peed myself at that point.\" We started talking, she invited me to move to her table, I told her I was going to see the movie in a few minutes. Before I knew it, we we're there for almost two hours, we've gone through half a blueberry pie, discussed the inner facets of everything: books, television (she's a very big Breaking Bad fan), politics, school, and our personal lives (she managed to slip in the fact that her boyfriend was working and that was why she was eating alone tonight). But was one of the most intellectually stimulating conversations I've had in a very long time.", "summary": "friends bailed, talked to a stranger about everything and left happy and stimulated."}
{"id": "t3_x1cx1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My SO broke my trust.  How can we fix our relationship?", "post": "I don't really want to go into details, but I (23F) have severe trust issues and my SO (22M) shattered all the trust I had in him.  We're at the point where I can't believe anything he says if there could possibly be an ulterior motive.  Would a no-privacy policy help, or just make me more paranoid?  Any other suggestions?", "summary": "SO lied to me to be with other people.  I feel hurt and can no longer trust him, but I do believe he loves me and I want to continue the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3onvcx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(24/m) let social media make me paranoid about infidelity in my relationship. Am I crazy?!", "post": "I am new to Reddit so someone please correct me if this is an inappropriate post, or should be directed somewhere else. \nI was just wondering how many redditers out there have had social media apps have a negative affect on your relationship. \nWe all know how easy Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram have made it to keep in touch with people near and afar, but it also seems like these outlets are often being used for many different kinds of infidelity, the most common being emotional infidelity, which often leads to physical infidelity. \nI have read a few articles that connect the use of Facebook to raising divorce rates. Unfortunately I don't think that the problem lies with social media sites, but with human nature. Facebook and everything else out there has just made it easier and more temping for those that struggle with monogamy or commitment. \nSo my question is how often are you bothered by friends and followers of your SO? If your SO has developed a new relationship with someone the need to meet in person or even speak over the phone to help your new found friendship flourish is no longer needed, all you need is your Facebook messenger. These virtual realities of ours while being so open to the public are also very private at the same time, it's an interesting virtual paradox. Do you find it appropriate to talk to your SO about their virtual friends? \nIt's one thing to have an outing on the town with mutual friends or a night in playing games, it's an entirely different thing to have people who you only really associate with through social media. What is the purpose, are they there to spill emotional baggage too, are the on the back burner being warmed up for a rebound? \nAfter dealing with infidelity a number of times in my life I would like to know how people in serious relationships are dealing with social media, and how, why, or why not it is having an affect on your relationship.", "summary": "How do you deal with social media in your relationship, does it make you paranoid ever. If so what do you do?"}
{"id": "t3_xbkjj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Long Distance Girlfriend drinking too much?", "post": "Me: 23 Her: 21 Together about 4 months, very close friends before that for about 5.\n\nMy girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship for the summer. We both go out and drink with our friends occasionally, and this is fine. This past week, I have noticed my girlfriend has gotten drunk with friends nearly every day for the past 10 days. I told her why this makes me uncomfortable in the gentlest way possible. \n\nThis is not a trust issue. I simply don't understand how I can miss or like someone (or vice versa) when nearly every single day they are are out boozed up. The calls and effort on her part have become less frequent these past 10 days, and she says this is simply because she has been busy with these friends, not because she needed space or her feelings had diminished. \n\nShe flat out told me I am being overbearing and she sees no problem with this amount of drinking because it's \"fun.\" I guess it scares me because she has never seemed to respect alcohol and the fact that there is such a thing as drinking too much. I don't care if she drinks in moderation, but I don't want to date someone who is... not really there almost every day of the week.\n\nI also understand why someone would get defensive about being called out on this, and put on the spot. I think relationships take certain sacrifices and she doesn't seem to respect that you can't really be a great girlfriend if your main activity is going out and drinking with the girls...every night.", "summary": "For the past 8 out of 10 days girlfriend of 4 months has been drunk with friends. I don't feel great about that, but not because of lack of trust. Is there a best way to voice this to her or am I just being overbearing?"}
{"id": "t3_1fqtlm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Soooo.... honesty?", "post": "M[21] here, she's 19.\n\nI've been struggling with social anxiety, some insecurities and with a lack of confidence. Though, /r/seduction /r/askseddit /r/socialskills helped me so freaking much.\n\nSince I became more confident and social I started dating girls. Though I kinda felt like a loser and I was making up some stuff. Nothing much - just things like that I was in a relationship or even something stupid like having sex.\n\nAnd then I met her. We've been dating now for a while - can't say for how long but for sure more than 1 month. We're getting along, I'm her first boyfriend, she's my first real girlfriend. She has never had sex, I've never had sex. We've only had some oral fun. \n\nI want more, she wants more. She already told me she's a virgin, am I supposed to tell her that I've never had sex? I feel like it can ruin the whole attraction. What are your thoughts?", "summary": "Should I tell her I've never had sex?"}
{"id": "t3_2mcg63", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22M) have found out the love of my life (23f), my best friend, and someone who I have dated on and off again, is now dating someone else", "post": "So, we met about 7 or so years ago. We both started hanging out, dating, holding hands and all that. Well, we tried to make things official here last October(2013), and unfortunately my bipolar flared up so we had to cut it off. I still love her deeply and want the absolute best for her no matter what, and I have tried to take friends advice and \"try to get over her\" but it just doesn't work. So I just decided to focus my best on work and let her work out her issues on her own, and hope for a future with her.\n\nWell, fast forward a bit to yesterday. A friend of mine in high school that she ended up working with for a little while changes his facebook profile picture and lo and behold, it's them. I am absolutely devastated. I know it sounds lame and stupid, and I know the easy answer is saying I am only 22, but she is amazing. And it hurts knowing that now...she is with someone else. \n\nObviously, no guarantees that they will work out. I want her to be happy, but I wouldn't be human if I didn't say that obviously I want to be with her. The hardest part is that at this point, she was and is my best friend and the only person I trust(other than random strangers on the internet while using fake accounts...I should have thought this one through better...>.>), and I know that I would at least not support the ex being around unless I met him. And the dude she is dating used to be a friend...about halfway through high school he turned into an asshole who bullied me for being bi and all he could talk about was sex and cars.", "summary": "ex and current best friend I am in love with now has a boyfriend. I am absolutely devastated and at this point am pretty lost. Any thoughts/experiences to share for me? I would really like to know how to go through this. She is not someone I want to lose just because she is dating other people."}
{"id": "t3_324ecr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my 22 F, found out important information about her past, what to do?", "post": "so what does one do when they uncover aspects of their SO's past that the SO desires and wishes was kept in a vault and thrown away? \n\nI unforunately came upon some old information from before my fiancee and I met that reveals that 1)she was not a virgin when we met and 2) she used to do things with elderly rich men for money in hotel rooms. the texts are explicit of \"be inside me again\" and \"youre the only one ive been with\" etc. she denies any of these and says to trust her and that it was all \"talk\". however the texts do indicate \"meet-ups\" in hotels and whatnot. what do i do? should i drop it? i personally dont care, it's more that why is she still lying to me. she says she wants to escape her past and i get that, but im her present and her future and well, i've broken some trust in finding this information, but so has she in not telling me. am i blowing this out of proportion?", "summary": "found compromising evidence of past sexual exploits for money on fiancee's old phone."}
{"id": "t3_vevar", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have a job interview tomorrow and came across some disheartening information - any advice?", "post": "I am applying for a job with a well regarded firm in DC, and while reading online reviews of the place with pros and cons I was coming across stuff that would be familiar to any office - cons were office politics, an old-boys culture among the senior staff, etc. Then I found an entry stating that the place tends to take stock in those who stay latest - is this something that would disqualify me in an interview if I asked about it? I always hear horror stories from people who have to stay until 11 pm at their office jobs even if they have nothing to do just so it appears as if they are working hard and I am trying not to get caught in that culture.", "summary": "Company cares about who stays latest, would the interviewers disqualify me for asking if it was something that was true?"}
{"id": "t3_txrl5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU: Probably buried my turtle alive", "post": "At least, today I found out I fucked up.\nLast year, my 10-year-old sister and I found a very young box turtle at my uncle's house. We figured it probably would have got eaten by one of the million animals that eats baby turtles, so we took it home. We kept it for a long time, but it didn't seem very healthy - we probably didn't take very good care of it, and I don't think we even got it the right food, because it refused to eat for some reason. After a long time of it not seeming healthy, it just stopped moving. Guessing it had passed away, we had a cute little funeral for it, and buried it (deep) in the backyard. Well, today I found out box turtles hibernate.", "summary": "thought my sister's turtle was dead, we buried it, turns out it was probably hibernating and I killed it."}
{"id": "t3_2suop7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M/18] long distance girlfriend [F/17] is in a really bad position at home and we can't see a reasonable way out of it.", "post": "Alright, so i live in England, and she lives in Wales. I'm on my final year of college and then i'm going to find a job, that's as far as my plans go for now. She is on her final year of college, and when she finishes the course she'll be able to move to England in September to go to University. Seems simple enough, right? Just wait out the day until she can get here.\n\nNope. Her mother has a death grip on her. She's still forced to do chores, gets her phone and laptop taken off her when she makes small mistakes doing said chores (got grounded for a week for going upstairs for 10 minutes leaving the dog alone, for example). She's not allowed to visit me, and her mother has pretty much just taken everything off her because she hinted at it earlier, so now i'm in the dark about life over there for the time being. We both want her to just leave and move up here with me, which i'm completely fine with, but she **has** to stay and wait out these 8 months to finish her course. If it wasn't for that, she'd probably already be here with me.\n\nI can't see a way out of this so i figured i'd come here and see if anyone has an idea. I don't think social services is the way forward because there's no proper abuse, she's just being treated like a toddler instead of a young adult. I can understand some of her mother's concerns, it sure seems like i could just be some 40 year old paedophile, but even when i'm not in the question she just throws her weight around as an authority figure, takes things and dishes out punishment when she feels like it. I can't figure out any way at all to help, and moving down to Wales is not an option due to my own college course.\n\nAnyone got some ideas for me? This whole situation feels hopeless.", "summary": "Girlfriend's mother is a psycho who punishes her for the stupidest reasons, and my girlfriend has no way out of the household without giving up her college course."}
{"id": "t3_xz2nd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF is insecure in my fidelity to her. How can I reassure her?", "post": "My GF (21f) and I (21m) have been dating for about half a year now. Prior I had bumped around a series of unsuccessful or short-lived relationships, which she is fully aware of as we were friends before dating. Meanwhile, she had been in a relationship with her childhood best friend since she was 17 or so. Unfortunately for her, he apparently cheated on her not once but twice. I'm not totally clear on the details, but I think there were a few other relationships somewhere along the way for her which had similar issues, though they weren't sexual. \n\nAnyways, since I've started dating her everything has been amazing. Really. I love her totally, she loves me, we both want similar things in life, amazing sex life, and great communication. \n\nBoth due to her prior BF's infidelity and her own personal challenges though (history of eating disorder) she occasionally has pretty obvious insecurities about me. A major factor in this is that I had (well before our relationship) slept with one of my best friends, which i was honest about but she nonetheless friends threatening. On the other hand it clearly extends beyond that though. I went on a vacation with my aunt for a few days and when I got back my GF was upset that I hadn't emailed her for a day.\n\nI can totally understand why anyone would be skeptical of their relatively new BF after someone who had been with her so long still abused her trust twice. And since we only started dating like a month after they broke up this is all fairly recent. It would probably take me way longer to get over something like that.\n\nFrom my narrow perspective though it is frustrating being implicitly accused of future infidelity because of some random guy I've never met. I'd like to improve her personal confidence so that she can trust me more.", "summary": "My GF got cheated on repeatedly, has issues trusting me. How can I help her build her self esteem and trust me more?"}
{"id": "t3_2qigsr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (25f) ask my boyfriend (27M) of 2 years about his stance on marriage?", "post": "I want to talk to my boyfriend about marriage **but not about getting married**. I just want to know where he stands on the subject.\n\nWe've never talked about realtionship goals before or what we want for the future. So I was completely caught off guard after he said that we would be engaged if he \"cared\" for marriage. He then continued \"that we were better off without\", and when initailly asked why all he talked about was his only married friend's wife and how he doesn't like her. \n\nI want to bring up the subject again, but I don't know how to go about it. I don't want to make it seem like I'm upset, because I'm not. Obviously, I know he's not for marriage, but the reason he gave for why makes no sense to me. I want a more logical answer so I know what to expect out of our relationship.", "summary": "wants to ask bf what his view of marriage is, tried already after *he* brought it up, but all he talked about was a friend's wife "}
{"id": "t3_2wpnal", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not locking the door to my flat", "post": "This was a couple of years ago, approaching Christmas in 2012. I had a really bad habit of not locking the door to my flat, and had the idea that it might bite me in the arse one day.\n\nSo it was a Wednesday night, student night and me and the girlfriend were lying in bed. We could hear some goings on in the corridor but thought nothing of it really, it sounded like somebody had come back drunk and was having trouble getting into their flat. Eventually we hear a door close, it sounded quite close. The girlfriend turns to me and asks was it ours. I was sure it wasn't and so we ignored it.\n\nNext thing we know, a girl wearing just a t-shirt and knickers walks into our bedroom. I jump out of bed and instruct her to leave, she instructs us to leave claiming that it's her flat. She then leaves our room and uses our toilet. (At this point I'm like, wtf I do?). Being a gentleman, I wait for her to finish her business, then tell her again to leave, block her from entering our kitchen/living room, she gets confrontational, and me, not wanting to touch that, do nothing to stop her going in there. Try a bit more to get her to leave, then call the police cause girl wearing next to nothing and clearly drunk is not a thing I want to tackle.\n\nMe and the girlfriend then spend some time waiting for the police to arrive, in the meantime this girl eats some of the lunch I left out for taking to work, drinks some of my rum, then throws up all over the blinds. The police arrived a couple of hours later. I was left to clean up her sick.", "summary": "Left door unlocked, drunk girl ate my lunch, drank my rum, puked on my blinds, didn't even get a threesome out of it."}
{"id": "t3_1fheu6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by practicing vocal warmups at the wrong time", "post": "Not a huge fuck-up, but pretty embarrassing. I'm at my parents house for  the summer, weekends my mom has off, but my dad still works until around 5. \nHere's the scenario: My mom left for Church, and my dad is at work; I figure it's a good time to practice my voice-work while I can. To my father, I'm a rugged metalhead who doesn't really smile or show happiness, not an asshole, just not bubbly (my father worked all day and night when I was growing up, so we never really bonded. I'm actually a really outgoing dude, just not at home).\n \nSo I'm going through vocal warmups, which can be VERY weird for anyone not acquainted with the process. I'm trying to fix this little issue I'm having, so at this point I'm making bird noises. Suddenly I hear, \"Is that you?\"; apparently I had not locked the front door and he came in on me looking basically insane. He assumed I was baby-talking to the dog or some shit, but he was soon to find out she was upstairs in the air conditioned bedroom. So it was just me...alone, with no tv on or anything...just alone, being insane. \n\nI just went to my room to hide for awhile like a little kid haha. \nI just want to be away from him for as long as possible so he can forget that ever happened.", "summary": "Dad walked in on me making some weird noises and he'll probably see me differently from now on."}
{"id": "t3_3x1qo1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21m] with my [20f] gf. Lately I have felt like we aren't right for eachother and that I should end it. I don't think I'm capable of ending it.", "post": "Me and Jess have been together for almost 4 years now (obligatory fake name). But anyways, as of lately I haven't felt nearly the same about Jess as I ever have. \n\nWe have had a few problems in the past. Including her cheating on me and me cheating on her. I fingered a girl when I was on vacation my senior year and she had sex with a random guy she met through her work. My cheating happened before hers. In fact, hers happened over two years later. I don't we've been the same since.  \n\nI've been having urges to be with other girls. I know this is a normal thing even for long term relationships, but I feel like this is different. I don't even feel guilty about it anymore. I almost wish she would give me a reason to break up with her so I could. \n\nWhen I think about breaking up with her.. I just think twice about it and I can never find the right time to do it. I feel like I'm overly attached to her and I'm scared of being alone. But at the same time I just want to be single and have the freedom to just to what I want. \n\nLast thing to add here. We really don't have anything in common. Like NOTHING. The only things she talks about is basically things that she needs to vent about. Almost every other sentence that comes out of her mouth is a complaint about something and it's driving me nuts. I don't mind talking about a bad day that you had like that's understandable, but she will complain about the most mundane things that most people would just forget about after they happened. It's overall stressful for me to even humor it.\n\nI don't know how to approach this situation properly. I'm at a loss.\n\nReddit please help.", "summary": "been with girlfriend for over 3 years. Don't wanna be in the relationship anymore, but can't end it. Help."}
{"id": "t3_36nrq2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22m) girlfriend (22f) had an abusive ex boyfriend (22m) who is now dating someone else (22f) that i sort of know and has been abusive towards her as well. I would like to do something to help but i dont know what i can do.", "post": "Ive been dating my girlfriend for about a year now and I love her alot. Her highschool boyfriend was extremely abusive and controlling which ranged anywhere from choking to the point of passing out to very emotional and manipulative mental abuse. My girlfriend and i have worked through alot of those issues but she is still very much afraid of him. \n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \n     It took a while for my girlfriend to open up to me about it and she still has not told her family about it. I really do try my best but sometimes it is very hard to know what to say in alot of situations. We all go to the same college and he has been dating one of my friends ex girlfriends for a while and still has been exhibiting abusive behavior and according to numerous accounts has been hitting her and really become even more controlling. \n\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I know thats to a certain point its really none of my business but I know this other girl well enough to know that shes a kind person. It really makes me so mad thinking about him getting away with it. And i really wish there was something that i could do about it. Ive weighed out all the options and think that my best course of action would be an anonymous letter to her parents. I dont know what would happen though. This guy is a real piece of shit and i just dont know what to do. Is it even alright to get involved?\u00a0 \n\n\u00a0(Throwaway because my username is too similar to my name)", "summary": "girlfriends abusive ex is now dating a friend of a friend and has been abusive towards her as well. I really want to do something about it but dont want to get too involved."}
{"id": "t3_49k1ol", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Deferred Loan Options?", "post": "Little background on my situation. I just turned 20. I started college when I was 18 and ended up dropping out of university. I had no direction and no idea what I wanted to do. Since I dropped out, the school had to pay my loans back so I owe the school that money. After working full-time for a couple of years, making decent money, I've realized what I want to do.\n\nI finally decided it is not about the money anymore and I want to be a teacher. It's something I've always wanted to do.\n\nHowever, I am not able to get any federal-aid at all until I pay back the previous school. \n\nIs there any companies out there that would help in my situation with a differed loan? Kind of like a student loan(though I'm not eligible as stated) so something I could pay back after graduating? I have decent credit for my age, in the 700s, but would need about $5000.", "summary": "Is there companies that will offer differed loans of 4+ years? If so, where should I look?"}
{"id": "t3_20v4j2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] dated for 1 month broke up 2 days ago", "post": "my brother had been dating his girlfriend for several months when the girlfriend's sister starts to text me. We text back and forth for two months before i get up the courage to ask her out(on the beach i might add). \n\nThen three weeks into our relationship my brother and his girlfriend broke up. She said that he couldn't be her first priority right now and that wasn't fair to him. Then the next week my girlfriend comes to me wanting to breakup saying she cant provide for my needs and she wants to breakup. She was like \"nothing is going to change and we can still be friends\" bullshit is what i thought. \n\nThis left me completely confused as she had not shown any signs of wanting to breakup and she hadn't told me of any problems in our relationship. But I was wondering if it was because of what her sister had done and if she did it just because of her (they do most everything together). I don't know if i am over thinking this because it was my first relationship or not but it left me extremely confused and sad/lonely. I used to text her all of the time and now she wont text me back and its making me depressed.", "summary": "Asked out girl i had been texting with for two months, her sister broke up with my brother then she broke up with me within a week."}
{"id": "t3_1e152p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] think my girlfriend [19F] might be planning to go back to her ex", "post": "I'm [20] concerned. I've been in a relationship with this girl [19] closing in on two years now. We've been happy the entire time, but of late she's been bringing up a known ex of her's quite frequently and with more affection than necessary.\n\nNow, let's get the story of the ex straight. He damaged her, socially and mentally, she has told me he was the worst thing that ever happened and \"a fucking idiot\" many times. He still pops into conversation ever now and then since he's now dating a common acquaintance of ours.\n\nOf late, however, she's been mentioning him much more and with far greater detail - at least in terms of what he is up to. I'm fine with her chatting to him but not anything more (he's across country, and we are at varsity together) but she hadn't done so for close to 6 months.\n\nSo, she tells me the other day he had contacted her out of the blue again. He says he's breaking up with the acquaintance and needs advice on how to move forward, telling my gf his problems etc. She told me this, and I was again fine with it as I thought that was as far as it extended. It wasn't. They had had an hours long, intensive discussion as if he'd never left and never hurt her. She was responding to his obvious flirtation encouraging remarks - even going so far as calling him \"the light at the end of this tunnel [semester]\" and other remarks indicating they intend to meet up (which they haven't done since almost before we started dating). I should mention that I was goofing around on her phone when I found the thread, it wasn't intentional.\n\nHonestly, I've had thoughts about a break up recently. I'd like your thoughts as to whether it's simply those notions making this hurt all the more raw, or do I actually have something to worry about here?\n\nI'm confronting her tomorrow about it . What do I do? Am I overreacting?", "summary": "Girlfriend has begun intensively chatting with her supposedly hated ex again, I've already had twinges thinking about a possible break up, is it a concern or am I being too uptight."}
{"id": "t3_2gz1nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Help approaching crush?", "post": "I posted this question a few minutes ago on /r/askreddit but it got removed because to was too specific and that violates their guidelines. But right before it got removed, someone managed to comment and mentioned that I should post it here. So here we go:\n\nDear reddit community, I've never been more desperate for help. I am currently experiencing the biggest crush in my 19 years of life, and I don't know what to do. I have one class with her that meets twice a week, and a lecture that meets once a week (so in total, I \"see\" her three times a week)...and dear god, I think I'm in love. How do I approach her? How can I muster the courage to go up to her and say something without seeming awkward? My best chance was last week when she was quite literally sitting less than three feet away from me, but I drew a blank...I couldn't think of anything to say. I need some sort of advice on what to say and how to not seem awkward. How can I just walk up to her and say \"hi,\" and more importantly, what am I supposed to say after \"hi?\" Should I just add her on facebook and see how it goes even though I have never talked to her in real life? (All I had to do was type the first two letters of her name and she was the first result which is weird because we have no mutual friends and she doesn't seem to have set the name of the college we attend. Perhaps the only common thing between us on FB is the city we live in.)\n\nI'm 19M. She's F, I would say around 18.", "summary": "Crush on female classmate, no balls to talk to her."}
{"id": "t3_47q0u0", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm 23 years old and my 1995 Infiniti just broke down about 2 months back. How hard is it to donate my car?", "post": "I received an old car from my parents and it was really just so I can make my trip from Los Angeles to San Francisco. It ended up lasting me for a few months after that but at the end of 2015, it stopped working. I try starting it up every now and then and one time it actually started. I think I can take it to a mechanic and they may be able to revive it for a little longer. When I try to start it, I can only hear a clicking noise. I don't know anything about cars an need help. I am unsure on whether I should try and take it to the mechanic and then donate it or just donate it outright. The car is a 1995 Infiniti with around 270,000 miles on it. I have no idea how I should proceed. I have done some research and understand that charities don't really get much in the end (as little as $25) because of third parties involved. Are there any charities that I should stay away from ? Are there any charities that will get me the most possible? I saw one that send a \"free vacation\" voucher....whatever the hell that means.", "summary": "I am 23 years old and have a 1995 Infiniti with 273,000 miles on it. It just broke down 2 months back and I just want to get rid of it. What do I have to do to donate this thing?"}
{"id": "t3_x2t46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lost that \"spark\", and now my marriage is in trouble", "post": "I've never done this before, but in truth i dont have anyone i can talk to. My husband and i have been married for 4 years, together for 5. At the beginning, we were so close. Even when we werent together, we were close. We managed to get through a 6-month deployment for him less than a month after we got together.\n\nOver the years, something has changed. We're not intimate at all, no sex, no cuddling, no time just spent \"together\". We go off and do our own thing and we've basically become friends who share a bed. We talked last night and he says he still feels that \"spark\" for me.\n\nI dont.\n\nOur relationship is complicated by the following things:\n\n- Im schizophrenic and quite often he has to basically take care of me because im too depressed/ psychotic to look after myself. This has put him in a kind of carer role.\n- We live in the US and im originally from England. I have no family and only one non-online friend over here. I dont go out, i dont socialize, he really is all i have over here.\n\n-I take so many psych meds for the schizo that even when the mind is vaguely willing for sex, the body is absolutely not. I cant remember the last time i got genuinely horny.\n\nBecause of my illness, i closed myself off, stopped opening up. I still dont open up very much although im working on it. I've become this walled-off person and i have no idea how to get that spark back. I dont want to lose my marriage, but im scared that's how it will go if we cant fix this. \n\nAny advice would be awesome, im really lost.", "summary": "I've lost that \"spark\" due to being mentally ill and various other things, need to get it back."}
{"id": "t3_29ew11", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20 M] love my girlfriend of 5 years [20 F] but think I am falling for my best friend!", "post": "I need help!\n\nCurrently, I am living together with my girlfriend of 5 years and 6 months. I still love her. Deeply. Sharing my life with her is fun, and has always been beautiful. We reached adulthood together and after graduating school we decided to move in together to study in two close cities.\nBut with the start of university I met new people and one girl in particular sparked my interest. \n\nToday, after 8 months of studying and living together with my gf, I am best friends with this particular girl. We laugh a lot and spend a lot of time together, even outside of university. I often thought about, if I am starting to feel more for her than just friendship but quickly buried these thoughts whenever they came up...\nBut I want to, or atleast try to be completly honest with myself and I definetly feel attracted toward her. Both sexually as well as emotionally.\n\nThen, a few days ago we were at her place studying together like we often do, for the upcoming tests. We chatted for a bit and she admitted that she fell in love with me and had a crush on me since the beginning of the degree course. Vice versa I admitted that I DO have feelings for her but that I do not love her and instead love the relationship I currently have and want to keep.\nShe was devastated (never had a boyfriend, hoped for more etc...) and I soothed her. We came each other closer than before and suddenly kissed for a brief moment...\n\nI do not know what to do or think since then... :(\nI feel like I am in love with two persons at the same time and I can not and simply do not want to decide myself for either side.\nI feel so lost and alone in my own thoughts. I do not know what the right decision is. \nAlso, I feel bad and unfaithful. I never wanted to cheat (even if it was just a kiss) on my girlfriend. She does not deserve this. \nBut I can not forget the other girl since then. Maybe I reallly fell in love with her.", "summary": "I currently feel like I am in love with two persons (my first gf of over 5 years and my best friend) at the same time. I do not know what to do and how to make a decision."}
{"id": "t3_3gavg4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What does it mean when a guy doesn't really reply back to you?", "post": "I met this guy online about a little over a month ago. I'm 19 and he's 26. We hit it off immediately, especially after figuring out that we come from the same background and religion. We talked for some time before meeting up in person, and during the entire duration of speaking he never mentioned anything sexual, but was being very nice and interested. After we met up the first time, we hit it off amazingly in person, and later in the night there were some sexual activities that occurred (besides actual sex). The week after, he came over to my place and we actually did it, and we went on a third date recently and things were going really well. Every time after we'd meet up, he'd text me telling me he had a great time, and that we should plan something else soon. But in between the periods of where we meet in person, he hardly replies back to my texts (once about 6-10 hours). Once he finally does, he gives a nice long reply/somewhat flirty reply, but the fact that he barely replies but in person seems to have a great time with me and always wants to make plans confuses me as to where his head is at. Also, if I ever don't reply to his text, he texts back a day or two later asking how I am etc. \n\nI'm just confused as to what this guy may want, whether it's just something short term or long term. Also, the fact that he ignores my texts so much inevitably makes ME think about him more than i'd like to, but do you guys have any advice as to what I should be doing? \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Guy keeps taking forever to reply to my texts, but seems to have a great time in person and always wants to meet up. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_l68j8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend faints/seizes and the doctors don't know what it is.  Doctors of Reddit, do you? (details inside)", "post": "(throwaway account, and sorry if this is the wrong subreddit).\n\nShe told me she had a history of fainting, and yesterday I saw it first-hand, and it was terrifying.\n\nWe had just taken a 2-hour car ride, and upon getting out of the car, she complained of feeling a \"head rush\" and leaned against the car.  She then tensed up, stumbled and fall ever, and started having what I can only describe as a seizure: eyes glazed over, arms/body tensed, twitching on the ground.  It lasted 5-10 seconds, and during that time she was completely unresponsive.  Then almost immediately afterward, she sat up, asked for some water, and seemed almost completely back to her normal self. She said that she had \"blacked out\" and remembered nothing between complaining of the head-rush and waking up on the ground.\n\nHISTORY: apparently this started happening to her when she was in her early teens, usually after standing up after a period of inactivity.  More recently, it's been linked to times when she's had a strenuous workout or been otherwise dehydrated.  She says happens about 2-3 times a year.  When she was younger, the doctors said it was because she was growing and \"didn't have enough blood in her system.\"  Now, they don't have any idea why it's happening.  \n\nDoctors (and/or med-students) of Reddit, what is this?  If I see it happening, what can I do to make sure she doesn't hurt herself?  Is there anything she can do to prevent it from happening?", "summary": "my girlfriend faints/seizes, and the doctors don't know why.  Seems to be linked to dehydration and/or standing up too quickly.  What is this and what can I do to help her?"}
{"id": "t3_2eg7hg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my [18 F] now ex-girlfriend of 18 months, bad meal on my birthday", "post": "Okay, so my birthday was 3 days ago and she decided to fly us both to Rome at a later date, and on that evening of my birthday we went out on a meal, and she said something along the lines of \"You never bought me anything that you thought of yourself\". This indicated to me her birthday wasn't good enough, I was a full time student at the time so this was pretty annoying to hear.\n\nI felt like just walking out of the restaurant myself, then 9pm last night, she decides to break up with me by text, saying things like she has fell out of love with me the past few weeks. Well, why would you book a flight out for something that was going to change in the near future. I absolutely love her to pieces, so I just need some advice on what to do, she claims I don't see her enough, and it kinda seems that I'm her only source of entertainment, and anywhere she does want to go, involves spending money.", "summary": "Bad meal on my birthday, advice on whether to try stay with her or just let her do her own thing."}
{"id": "t3_2rdz5v", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Mortgage with bad credit, reasonable income and down payment", "post": "Hey all,\n\nI'm 25 and married with 3 children. I have an annual salary of ~$100K (100K base + bonuses and some freelance work on the side) but I have unfortunately had poor credit for quite some time. My score is in the mid 500's due to some bad decisions as a teenager and as I struggled to get my career off the ground and cover the expenses of our first two children. It's not something I've ever felt much need to work on, we don't have credit cards, we pay for everything with cash. I deeply regret that now.\n\nWe're currently living in downtown Chicago and it's very expensive for a family of 5. I was hoping to finally settle into a home of our own this summer, I have ~$30,000 saved to put towards a downpayment on a home in the $250K-$300K price range and if necessary we've talked with my Wife's parents and they would be fine with us staying with them for ~6 months enabling us to potentially save another ~30K if we're frugal.\n\nAccording to CreditKarma, my outstanding debt (that hasn't been charged off) is just about $1500. I'll have that paid off soon but I doubt that alone will bring my score into the 600's.\n\nHow realistic is getting a mortgage in this situation? I don't believe we qualify for USDA or Conventional but I was thinking we might be be able to get by on FHA?", "summary": "Family of 5. Want to buy $250K-$300K home. $30K downpayment saved (potentially ~$60K) and $100K salary. Terrible credit score in mid 500's. Is a mortgage on option for us?*"}
{"id": "t3_mr3kb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Craziness at the rec league... Coaches and Refs of reddit whats your best crazy parent story", "post": "I am a ref for a 6th grade basketball league at the local rec center. Yesterday during a game one of the players pushed another player in the back while he was doing a lay up. It was a very dirty play and I called a technical foul. The players mom runs down from the stands and blows up on me. She starts screaming about how I am a racist asshole(I am white, she is black) and it wasn't even a foul and other craziness. The other ref(an old guy who runs the league) and both coaches come over and try to calm her down. She keeps flipping out for a couple of minutes and then out of nowhere she full swing slaps the opposing coach. Her child's coach picks her up and drags her out of the building. About 10 minutes later we have decided the player wont be kicked out of the league although he wont be back in the game. The mother will not be allowed on the grounds for the rest of the year, instead the dad or the coach will always have to bring the kid.", "summary": "Crazy woman goes nuts after he son gets called for playing dirty, slaps opposing coach."}
{"id": "t3_1j6kjk", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Haha, now you have to use your keys.", "post": "So I'll start by saying there are two doors that you need to go through to enter my apartment building. They're both heavy and the door inside the hallway needs a key and is hard to open sometimes. Generally if I see someone coming I'll either hold that door open or if they're that awkward distance away I'll very obviously close the door gently so that the latch doesn't lock and they don't need to mess with their keys.\n\n^(Seriously I've broken 3 key chains trying to open this door with one hand because of how heavy it is.)\n\nWell anyway, I tend to go out for coffee around the same time every day, which often coincides with when this one woman is returning home. I'll open the inner door and hold it open for her and she'll just push past me without a word, often bumping into me without so much as a look back of apology. \n\nToday when I saw her crossing the street to the entrance of the building with her phone in hand and shopping bag in other, I locked eyes with her and just let the inner door slip out of my hand with a very obvious gesture. It slammed shut and I nudged it with my foot (out of her line of sight) just to make sure it locked. She gave me the most incredulous look and it was *I* who finally got to nudge her out of the way as I exited the building.", "summary": "rude woman thinks I'll just hold the door open for her every day without her saying thank you and today I did not."}
{"id": "t3_t96u3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Married 7 years. Just bumped into ex. Please prevent me from making a colossal mistake...", "post": "OK, here we go. Wind back the clock 10 years. \"N\" just dumped me after a series of falling outs. Turns out she'd been seeing \"J\" on the sly through a friends of friends thing; i.e. no physical contact, but both fancied the pants of each other. To her credit, she dumped me before laying a finger on him.\n\nI'm now married, as is she. No kids to complicate things.\n\nI was visiting the office next to hers (it turns out) and completely randomly bumped into her as she was heading out for lunch. Shock / surprise / awe all around and we go to a nearby coffee bar to get lunch & catch up.\n\nSo... long story short... we got along like a house on fire. It was as though we'd never broken up. We're talking long, lingering looks. Sly smiles. Random hand on knee action. The whole lot. Every feeling I ever had for her returned in a heartbeat; I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual. We finished up lunch, had an awkward peck-on-the-cheek and agreed to be in touch \"soon\". She gave me her cellphone number (she tapped it into my phone).\n\nMy sensible side tells me I'm being an idiot and the \"fuck around with the ex\" effect is kicking in. and I mean in a sexual way; you know \"friends with benefits\" and all that. On the other hand, I don't think I ever got over her and all sorts of rekindling has just happened. I think it might be mutual.\n\nI'm fucked-up Reddit. I think I just need to delete the number and bury these phoenix feelings. What do you think?", "summary": "Met with ex. Still fancy the ass of her. Think feeling is mutual. We're both married to other people. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2f2829", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28/M] with my girlfriend [24/F] of a year, she is having family issues, not sure how to help.", "post": "my GF and her older sister have not been talking for the last 8 months. there was a bit of a falling out between the 2 of them over something. (i do not know what it is) Brief history of me and her sister. I have NEVER formally met her or said 2 words to her. I have been within 3 feet of her and tried to introduce myself to her or her husband and been completely ignored because i am dating my GF.\n\nWell her sister just had a new baby, tonight, and she wasnt invited to even go to the hospital with the rest of the family. I know this whole situation is very troubling for my GF and its making her quite sad.\n\n I am asking you all if there is anything i should do to try to help fix this situation or just let it play out as it is?", "summary": "GF's sister is problems! How should i try to help?"}
{"id": "t3_q9qqt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I live in Montreal Quebec. I have been accused of rape at my college about 9 years ago. I got expelled with no appeal and have not gotten over it since. How do I get justice?", "post": "After the success of this post: \n\nI have built enough courage to ask Reddit for some advice. \n\nAbout 9 years ago a young girl was confused and thought it would be therapeutic to tell our college that I assaulted and raped her. There was a shooting in our school a few month back and I guess they just expelled me with no trial or appeal.\n\nI wasn't the best student (I had aspergers and was going through a lot) and really going through a lot. I shouldn't have been in school but the whole thing through my life even deeper. \n\nAfter years I re approached the school (about 2 years ago) and brought a mountain of evidence to clear my name. They kicked me out of the school and refused to speak to me or give me my appeal.\n\nDuring this time I approached the accuser and she openly admitted to going through some stuff and lying to them. I have this confession as a recording. \n\nI feel I have enough proof/evidence to sue either the women or the school but I am too 'weak' and 'battle worn' to really do anything about it.\n\nI often ask my friends to help me call a lawyer but no one has come through. Maybe Reddit can?", "summary": "I was accused of rape and expelled with out a trial at my college. I have hard proof that she lied and no idea how to do anything about it. "}
{"id": "t3_tz767", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit: I need your help...it is about my cats", "post": "So I moved at the beginning of the month and my two indoor cats (3 year old siblings both fixed) have been a bit skittish trying to settle in. They were just starting to get comfortable but this morning I woke up to hissing. There was a stranger cat in the window. I tried shooing it away at which point my cats jumped out of the window and began hissing at each other. A fight ensued and I broke it up. Ever since both cats are on edge (growling and hissing). I have separated them (one in my room one in the main house). I live in a small basement apartment and I don't think I can keep this separation up for that long. My room has been their 'home base' and I feel bad locking one out. Also the litter box is in the main house and I want to avoid an accident in my room. Today was the first time I have heard either of them hiss and they have both always been very affectionate towards each other and humans. What should I do?", "summary": "my (normally) loving cats are fighting, I live in a small apartment. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_3m5ge5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(21M) gf(19f) is feeling guilty about not doing enough on her part of the relationship(2months)", "post": "I've grown up learning that when you're in a relationship, you should love your SO and to cherish them; to not take them for granted. I admit that in this relationship and my previous one, I love my SO wholeheartedly. The problem right now, is that my SO feels like she's not doing enough in the relationship. She feels I'm doing 99% of the work, which is true to some extent. However, I don't mind doing more on my part. I just don't want this guilt to eat her up inside. She also feels that I know more about her in these 2 months than she knows about herself. I told her many times before, that if she wanted to know more about me, she could ask me anytime, but its not often she'll ask me about any personal subjects.\n\nI give her massages whenever I can, help her with chores, cook dinner for her and give her rides to work when I'm staying over. Now that I'm listing everything, it looks like a lot, but it feels like they're things I should do as a boyfriend. What can I do so that she won't feel guilty whenever I help her, or do something sweet for her?", "summary": "I do a lot for my gf, but she feels like she's not doing her part in this relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1ot7ad", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "What's a good, \"tough\" breed of dog?", "post": "My family plans on getting 2 puppies soon.  1 is going to be a golden retrirever, the other is undecided.  I personally wanted a rottweiler again (my favorite breed of dog) but our insurance won't cover us if we own a rottie, pit, or german sheppard.  I want a \"tough\" dog like those breeds.  One I can wrestle with and it can take it AND return it.  A dog that is lovable and strong, yet is intimidating to intruders.", "summary": "Can't own rottie, pit, german shep, what's a similar strong breed?"}
{"id": "t3_13h9cn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, I want to know the strangest, craziest, most awkward or horrific experiences you've ever had online!", "post": "Hey reddit, so like the title says I want to know what crazy things you've ever had happen to you online. They can be awkward, strange or just downright awful, I don't care. But I know you guys got them, because the internet is a weird place and I want to know. So, get at me.\n\nMine is mostly awkward, but mostly because I was 12. I was really into mmorpg's and on this one game I met some people and lied about my age. I became good friends with these people and spoke to them in game and on msn regularly. Later on the game got shut down and all my in game friends and I, moved to a new mmorpg. You could have weddings in this one and I ended up \"marrying\" this guy I had become friends with online. Probably 2 minutes into \"marrying\" this guy, I realized that I was a 12 year old \"marrying\" some dude on the internet. I know it was still a game but it was pretty weird, so I logged off and deleted the game and all my online friends. Fast forward 3 years and I ended up playing the same game again but on a different server, which there are literally thousands of different ones to pick from. But by some twist of fate, this dude that I ended up \"marrying\" 3 years before, ends up playing the same server as me. At some point I think we spoke, and I was completely freaked out and I was downright rude to him, and at some point he realized it was me, thanks to a friend who told him who I was. I don't really remember what happened after that but it was probably awkward.", "summary": "summing stuff up is hard. idk"}
{"id": "t3_lq9ls", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is a Political Science degree useful?", "post": "I'm a freshman at Florida Atlantic University.  I've always loved political theory and I'm thinking about majoring in Political Science, but I've heard that there are not many job opportunities with a degree in Political Science.  I've heard that there are a lot of job opportunities if you go to grad school, which I really wouldn't mind especially because I have a full-ride scholarship at FAU for my undergrad, but I don't want to waste my time getting a degree if there's not much that I can do with it, when I can instead use my scholarship to get a more valuable degree.  What does reddit think?", "summary": "Is it worth it to get an undergrad in Political Science?"}
{"id": "t3_2bemas", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by creating a frognami in our car", "post": "My daughter brought home some African clawed frogs in a discarded plastic candy tub at the end of school.  She told us she was just watching them for the summer but it turned out they were \"gifted\" to us.  Fast forward a few months and I've gotten tired of taking care of them myself so I said they've gotta go.  On the way to a pet store the whole frog prison tipped over during a hard turn and flooded our car's back seat.  Five frogs went out ... only four came back.  After a few hours each had been scooped up except for a lone holdout that must've gotten into the bowels of the vehicle.  The pet store folks said it'd probably only last about an hour out of water.  No strange odors yet, but last night I think I felt its ghost crawling around our bed.", "summary": "Amphibian rescue goes sideways: possible paranormal frogtivity"}
{"id": "t3_vje0z", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Please help with an unusual flea infestation!!", "post": "Hey reddit, I am starting to get desperate with this infestation of fleas that I have going on in my parents' basement. I am house-sitting for them while they are on vacation and taking care of their parrots. Let me explain why this infestation is so weird.\n\nMy parents have 2 dogs that are on the best flea medication that they can get and the dogs 100% do NOT have fleas, the fleas are localized only to the basement, where the dogs don't go (in fact, the dogs aren't even here right now). The fleas are in the basement, where my parents keep 4 eclectus parrots and 2 cockatoos that I am watching while they are away. \n\nThe basement is unfinished-- there is NO carpet down there, but there is an old sofa located near the birds' cages, but we have flea-bombed the basement twice before my parents left for vacation and the fleas have not been killed. What is unusual is that fleas don't usually (and aren't as far as I know) feed on parrots, so the parrots are not serving as a host for them. \n\nI am going directly from my parents' place to my girlfriend's when they return from their trip, and she has a cat that is not on any flea medication. I am trying to make absolutely sure that her cat does not get fleas from me. I have absolutely no idea how the fleas are still alive downstairs, but I want to try and kill them off. Flea-bombing is dangerous to the birds and we have to take them all out of the basement for several hours when we do it, and I can't do that alone, so I am trying to find a way to kill the fleas that is not harmful to the birds and doesn't require me to move them from the basement (because I can't).", "summary": "Does anyone have any suggestions of how to kill fleas without harming or moving the parrots? There is no carpet downstairs, no furniture besides a sofa, and the basement has been flea bombed twice."}
{"id": "t3_3l2o4b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (22F) approach my parents about cooking my own meals in their house without offending them?", "post": "I still live with my parents and probably will continue to for the next three years.  I am currently looking into going vegan, but think it wouldn't be right to have them change their cooking habits to accommodate me.  \n\nMy mom is the main cook and cooks meat with every meal.  I cook sometimes on fridays and my dad cooks about once a year.  My parents are very controlling to the extent that they get offended and panicked at me suggesting I could take the bus instead of them driving me everywhere I go.  \n\nI am worried it would further strain our relationship if I wanted to cook for myself independently.  I also don't know how to justify it.  I try to make lifestyle changes to benefit the environment and my family will either mock me, act like I'm a freak, or fight me when I try to make independent choices(no disposables, no packaging,etc).  I've only mentioned to my sibling(12) that I may go vegan and they begged me not to because \"it would only make you more obnoxious\".  \n\nI don't plan to preach, judge, or convert anyone.  I just want to do something on my own.\n\nSo my main questions: How can I approach this with my parents without starting something?\n\nShould I mention veganism or use an excuse(haven't thought of one yet. Right now I say raw meat grosses me out too much to cook with, but not sure how long that holds).", "summary": "Parents are controlling and want to do everything for me."}
{"id": "t3_3bnq01", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I[23F] be turned off by dates' lesser intelligence? Do I need to be taken down a few notches?", "post": "Hi r/relationships, long time lurker, first time throwaway.\n\nSo here's the deal. I'm a pretty smart chick, never taken an IQ test, but I know I'd be in the \"above average\" percentile. I've been in accelerated learning/honors/gifted programs since 3rd grade, graduated highschool with a 4.2 GPA, got a full academic scholarship to my top choice university, graduated uni with a 4.0 GPA and internship/job offers. I read constantly and my vocabulary is noticeably larger than my peers.\n\nAs a side note; I know in some instances I can be arrogant about my intelligence. I also have an overabundance of confidence. I've come to terms with this, as it's kind of a byproduct of being in separate accelerated classes my whole academic career. But that's a different post.\n\nMy question is should I be turned off by guys--namely potential romantic partners--who are obviously of lesser intelligence than I am? I work in the tech industry so finding guys of equal to higher intelligence isn't too challenging, but finding smarty dudes who also have good social skills can be an issue. Should I keep my standards high? Or should I give a guy who's a sweetheart but not necessarily on par with my brains a chance?", "summary": "I'm a smarty chick who struggles with dating guys who can't compete with my intelligence. Am I right to write them off? Tell me if I'm an asshole!"}
{"id": "t3_2w9z7s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing a bunch of mormons my ass.", "post": "So, I live in the most mormon city in the country. And like every mormon girl who wants to be rebellious without going to far, I love to wear leggings. Earlier today I bought some new ones, and decided to wear them right away. Why? Because they are the most comfortable damn things I've ever felt. It's like my butt is being hugged by a million angels, who are wearing robes made of unicorn hair and puppy dreams. Well, apparently, comfortable means prone to ripping... in various places on my butt. And I wear thongs pretty much always. So I went to the gym, gas station, and the grocery store without anyone informing me that I was flashing everyone in sight. The person who finally told me was my very mormon, and very sheltered roommate. So not only am I totally ashamed, I'm also going to be the subject of judging comments for the next month.", "summary": "My pants ripped and I had no idea. Wore them in public for like 2 hours."}
{"id": "t3_39awhj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my girlfriend unreasonably controlling? [18M & 18F]", "post": "Alright, so I have quite a few things that have been a problem in my relationship that I havn't been able to workout with my SO.\n\nSome back story. We've been dating for over a year and recently (3 months ago) we moved in and this is when all of these problems became very prominent. \n\nFirst off I used to enjoy responsibly smoking cannabis and sometimes drinking with a few of my friends once or twice a week. By responsibly i mean we'd stay in the house, no driving, no hard liquor allowed, not allowed to do anything reckless which was enforced by all of us. Most nights consisted of playing smash Bros on the wii or watching animation domination. Nothing bad or reckless.\n\nTo my girlfriend this is absolutely the worst and scumiest thing to do and thinks all of them are low lifes. There is no compromising on me smoking or drinking. End of story.\n\nAnother thing is, we have sex regularly once every other day or so. But occasionally she will completely lose interest for anywhere from a few days to over a week. Now this is fine with me, everyone has different sex drives and that's alright. But it recently got brought to attention that she does not like me masturbating during our dry spells and porn is completely out of the question and so are nudes.", "summary": "my girlfriend tries to control the parts of my life that I enjoy most. I love her but not really sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4eoda9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18M] going to dinner with my crush [19F] tonight and I plan to confess my feelings. I'm freaking out!! Help!", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI've been hanging out with this girl, call her Danielle, for the last 2 months. When we started hanging out, I had just come out of a pretty long relationship, and I was feeling pretty unconfident. For that reason, I made no attempt to make a move, even though I was interested. We've hung out every week or so for the last two months, just the two of us. Its been platonic the entire time. She's initiated like half the time, so its not just me asking to hang out with her.\n\nI've started to feel better about myself so I wanted to make a more confident move on her. However, I've come to really appreciate our friendship, so I don't want to screw things up if I'm wrong.\n\nI asked her to dinner tonight. Its in 2 hours. I did *not* use the word date, but I mean, its two of us going alone to a sushi restaurant. That should be pretty clear, right? Maybe not, I don't know.\n\n**Here's my plan for the night:**\n\nWe're going to go to dinner and I'll be my usual flirty self. After dinner, as we're walking to the parking lot, I'm going to turn to her and say this:\n\n> Danielle, can I be honest with you? I like you. I've liked you for a while, I just haven't done anything about it. That's actually why I asked you to dinner tonight. Because I like you. Is that something that you want?\n\nIs this a dumb idea? Should I do something differently? I'm really nervous for tonight! I'm considering just going to dinner again as friends because I really really don't want to fuck this up. Plesae help!", "summary": "Been hanging with this girl for 2 months, just the two of us, alone every time. Haven't made a move. Decided to ask her to dinner tonight and I plan to confess my feelings, but I really don't want to screw things up. Please help!"}
{"id": "t3_2w9i7o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22M] (5 months). Told my friends an embarrassing story (about him) that happened 3 years before we actually started dating.", "post": "I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months (we are both in our senior year of college). We both love each other and besides small communication issues, we get along great. But I feel guilty about things\n\nWe met during our freshman year. We flirted with each other for one week before we kinda hooked up. The night that we almost hooked up ended horribly, in a very embarrassing way for the both of us. I broke off things two days later and for the next three years, we didn't talk/acknowledge each other. After the incident, I told about 5-7 of my close friends the story of my almost hookup. \n\nAnyways, three years later, we meet up again through Facebook and we realize that we were still very attracted to each other. Now we're together. My problem though is should I tell my boyfriend that I told my friends the story of our hookup? \n\nThe people that know it was boyfriend who I hooked up with are my best close friends and I told them if they told him they know that I would stop being friends with them. I told them the story because a) I was extremely embarrassed and it helped to talk about it and b) I never thought that we would meet up later in our lives. I was wondering if I should tell my boyfriend that I told my friends this story? He's sensitive about the issue that is involved in the story and I don't want to unnecessarily hurt him but I always feel guilty about it and feel like he should know.", "summary": "Should I tell my boyfriend that I told my friends the embarrassing hookup story that happened 3 years before we actually dated?"}
{"id": "t3_pchuf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have an email address for a person who tried to hack my hotmail/xbox/paypal account, what can I do to find/stop this guy ?", "post": "I started to get weird emails a few days ago about ms point purchases on my xbox account. In total there was about $180 worth of charges. I signed in and looked around to see what was happening. While looking around the download history I was signed out and got a message saying I signed in on a different system. I called my credit card company and got that cancelled. I went to change my password and noticed a new email listed as a contact email for password resets. I have never seen this email before and I'm thinking it must be the hackers. I'm not usually a poster and there's probably not a lot that I can do, but I figured this was the best place to find out if I have any options, thank you for your time.", "summary": "I have an email address of a would be hacker and am looking on advice of what I should do next"}
{"id": "t3_2ugybp", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Writing here so I don't talk to him", "post": "I'm out of a 3-year relationship with the love of my life. We have been on and off more times than I can count. It just doesn't work. We love each other fiercely. But apparently that doesn't mean we can be together. In all of my Disney, Nicolas Sparks, doe-eyed optimism, even I have come to accept we will never work together. \n\nHe has moved across the country, which I'm grateful for. It means we can stop self destructing by seeing each other every time we're feeling weak.  We agreed to no contact because it's just going to be excruciating for one or both of us to attempt a friendship and then eventually find out the other is moving on with someone else.\n\nHe was my best friend. I miss him so much. He loves football. I hate it. I want to talk to him about the superbowl and how I was forced to watch it with my coworkers. I want to tell him about my insane cat that he couldn't stand, and how he's become crazier somehow. I want to tell him about how I cried during a sad puppy commercial but not a child-abuse commercial because he knows my heart is made to love animals, and I don't have that same soft spot for people. I ache for him every fucking day. It's only been a week. What the fuck am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm dying.", "summary": "This is me talking to you instead of texting him, so thank you for existing. Even if nobody reads this....I didn't text him. I got it out here. That's a good step I guess."}
{"id": "t3_27izay", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "What's best for me?", "post": "Hi /r/loseit! I am an 18 year old man, currently at 220~ pounds. I have been with a girl for almost a year long distance, and in 2 months (August 13th) I will be flying out to Minnesota to stay with her for two weeks. Its going to be the biggest moment of my life, and I want to look my best.\n\nLong story short, I am looking to lose as much weight as possible in these short two-months (unrealistic goal is 30-40lbs, but happy with anything). I don't have trouble losing weight necessarily, I just need motivation like this to get me started. I've been dieting for about a week now, since we booked the flights (it was a surprise birthday present). I work a very physical job so I don't believe exercise to be necessary at this point, but I am willing to cut calories to any amount, eat any food, buy any program... anything it takes. \n\nFor the last week, I've been consuming roughly 500 calories a day which I know is terrible. I haven't been hungry at all and I posses none of the cravings I used to. This happens everytime I attempt to lose weight, then I end up gaining again eventually. I realize quick and fast weight loss is NOT the most healthy or best way to go about doing things but I'm looking for a jump start. After we meet, I'll feel more confident about starting a manageable long term diet that will leave me as skinny, happy, and healthy as I would like.", "summary": "looking to lose as much weight as possible in 2 1/2 months by any means necessary. Interested in long-term healthy dieting after that!"}
{"id": "t3_hg6z5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Too Poor for Minecraft?", "post": "Okay, now this should probably be in the Minecraft subreddit, but since it's a question I put it here. I'm almost 15, and in the small town I live in no-one gets hired unless you're in grade 12 or know people. I have neither of those qualifications, so it's practically impossible for me to get a job. I currently have a torrent of Minecraft, but I'd rather be legit and buy it; plus I'd like to do multiplayer. Does anyone have a gift code they could give me? I'm not into griefing, I just want to be able to play Minecraft multiplayer. My account name is EduardoKhil, so if you ever see him around that's me. If any of you redditors are kind enough to help a brotha out, I'd be very grateful.", "summary": "I don't have a job and would like a Minecraft gift code."}
{"id": "t3_o2cs3", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Trying to move forward after the kiss.", "post": "Okay so this is a throwaway account. But I really need some help. Theres a girl and we have been good friends for about over a year now. Nothing more then friends, anyways she is really good looking and I want to start talking to her but don't know how to start it or whatever. About a week before new years we were at a party and we were just together as friends nothing really, the thought about trying with her didn't really cross my mind until my friend and her friends asked me if i was going to kiss her. By the end of the night I had made up my mind, grabbed her away from the party and finally kissed her. After we finished she said this was always going to happen. I don't really know what she meant by that and i am a little confused. I've tried texting her but i haven't really gotten many replies or enthusiasm. Definitely need help where to go next.", "summary": "Finally kissed the girl, she said it was always going to happen, she has gone a little cold but not to much and need help to get further."}
{"id": "t3_2eolty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my GF [21 F] of 4 months, I'm worried about our age gap.", "post": "I started dating her in April and was really unsure of being with a girl her age but I wanted to keep an open mind.  We became official in May and so far I have been really happy with her.  She had shown herself to be pretty mature for being 21 but I know she has some learning and self discovery ahead of her.  Still I know there is no way I'd want to leave her just based on her age, I am having a great time with her.\n\nShe accidentally dropped and L bomb while drinking on Friday, and I just laughed it off.  She didn't remember saying it at all, however her friends have said she feels like she is in love with me...Starting to get serious I guess.\n\nEvery now and again I feel like my friends are slightly poking fun at me, like I should be able to find someone closer to my age.  I do feel somewhat embarrassed about it at times, but I mostly don't care because I am happy.\n\nI worry because I am set on my career and she is trying to finish college, and I don't know where that might lead or what she might want in a couple years.\n\nAnyone have a similar experience?  Did it work out for you.", "summary": "Sometimes I worry my gf's age is too far apart from mine."}
{"id": "t3_2vwj3f", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My parents tell me how much they love me but I constantly feel like the forgotten child.", "post": "It seems like my parents have always spent their time spoiling my sisters, and just leaving me to fend for myself and being unsupportive. I am always there for family and I move mountains for them and I feel really under appreciated. For example at Christmas, my sister who is 13 months younger than me spent christmas with my dad. Christmas day we went out to the mall so my sister could pick out christmas gifts. He ended up spending over $1,500 on her while me on the other hand, I got a cup of coffee that I paid for myself. I was completely forgotten about, and yeah I know it is material goods but it still hurts feeling forgotten about. Another example, when it came time for me to start driving, I had to buy my own car. I ended up only being able to afford a beater that I have to fix myself. My parents just recently traded in my little sisters already new car they bought her in for another new car and pay for everything for her. Every month she hits them up for hundreds of dollars to go get $300 haircuts and things like that. I might ask my mom to forward me an email and have to wait weeks for her to do it. Now it comes to valentines day and my dad texts me saying he sent a $100 bouquet to each one of my sisters. I don't ask for much, just help every once and awhile and they never are very supportive but tell me how much they love me. Then recently they ask me why I have been so distant from the family lately, I just told them I have been really busy to cover up the fact that they constantly leave me out and let me down, and if they want me to be around to let me down then I don't really want to come.", "summary": "Parents constantly spoil my sisters and leave me to fend for myself for everything."}
{"id": "t3_upxmd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cat was stolen yesterday. Is there anything I can I do to get her back?", "post": "Ok Reddit, here's my sketchy story. I've been living in the same apartment for almost three years with the same asshole downstairs neighbors(mother and daughter in 60s and 30s). A little over a year ago, a stray cat started coming around our building, we knew right away she wasn't ferrel because of how friendly she was. My roommate and I have grown to LOVE this cat. We, along with my downstairs and other neighbors, kept her fed. My roommate and I would sometimes let her in on cold nights, and it was always our deck she chose to sleep on when she was outside. We had food and water bowls, toys, etc. We would have kept her inside however she always wanted out after a while and she also had fleas and ear mites. Anyway, TWO days ago my roommate was approached and informed by downstairs that they were calling a \"friends for felines\"(?) place that would take her and have her treated and brought back when they were done. I thought, \"oh how nice, now we can let her sleep inside!\"...a day later(yesterday), we were again approached by downstairs saying that \"last night a woman from a few buildings over came up to me looking for her cat\"...yeah. So, with that being said, as far as I know this random woman(who claims it's her cat) picked the cat up and is taking her to Petco tomorrow to be adopted. Am I the only one who finds something wrong with this story? This woman lives not even a 2 minute walk away, hasn't even been worried/looking for her cat for over a YEAR, but now wants it back, just so she could have it adopted at Petco? I'm at a loss.. I'm so heartbroken and don't have the money to pay for adoption fees and vet bills. Help reddit!!  What can I do?", "summary": "I've fed an outside cat for over a year, fell in love with her, and yesterday somebody claiming to be the owner took her away and is bringing her to Petco tomorrow to put her up for adoption. "}
{"id": "t3_210scf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this friend [26 F] trying to create distance? Should I [21 M] let it go?", "post": "This friend is an old coworker and a while back I had plans with her that she didn't show up for. This is what happened, after putting in my two weeks at work I had plans to leave the state and on my last day of work she said she wanted to do something with me before I traveled. So for a few weeks we tried coordinating our schedules and in the middle of this I was diagnosed with cancer, so I canceled my travel plans. She was supportive when I told her and eventually I tried to plan seeing her. She said she had plans to go to a brewery with her girlfriend and invited me along. Things got mixed up when the subject changed before plans were solid. We had the time and place, but she then asked about my current health, I said the brewery plans sounded good and filled her in on my health and the conversation didn't return to our plans. When the time came I showed up to the brewery and waited for a bit, telling her I was there, but she never showed or responded. The plans weren't set in stone, but I thought we were good. Anyways, I didn't ask her about it and when I saw her in person while visiting the old workplace, she was friendly but was a bit distant. I don't know if the situation is just awkward or if she was trying to create distance.\n\nThe only reason I can thing of for her to distance herself is because I had feelings for another coworker who both her and I were close to and she was the only one that new about it. Things imploded with me and this other coworker and eventually we left on bad terms and had to avoid each other. The two of them are much closer so I feel like I probably got left behind during the drama.", "summary": "Read it. Is she distancing herself?"}
{"id": "t3_3nbu9k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] think I'm no longer in love with by BF [21M] but with a new friend [23M]", "post": "OK so, I'm gonna do this quick.\nI'm a [18F] and I'm in a 4 years long relationship with a [21M]. This summer I met a guy [23M] and I feel like I'm falling in love with this 23M guy. I wouldn't like to end up my relationship but I feel like I need to meet someone else, because my BF and I are in a routine for about 2 years and it make me a bit sick because we are all day long together and we don't have anything to say to each other... And I'm not even longer excited when we're gonna fuck. On the other side I'm really attracted by this new 23M guy so I need help, should I tell my BF I'm no longer in love? How to tell him?", "summary": "I'm in a 4 years long relationship but i think I'm falling in love with a friend."}
{"id": "t3_vjcmp", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking a 3yo backyard jungle gym swing set", "post": "Last night was one of my best friend's birthday parties. I'm in the backyard and a couple of my friends go out front to smoke and I stay behind with one other guy. After talking for a bit my eye catches a wooden jungle gym complete with 4 swings and a big slide in the side part of the backyard. I ask the guy I'm with if he wants to go over to see it and reminisce about our childhoods. \n\nWe head over there and I take a seat on one of the swings and he on the opposite one WITHOUT SWINGING, just sitting there. Also, we both way around 165 pounds each, which isn't really that heavy. I say to him \"I used to have one just like this when I was a kid,\" and right after the support beam holding up the swings snaps in half and the swing set collapses.\n\nNeedless to say, I felt awful and my friend was pissed when he saw it but got over it quickly because he is nice like that. I still offered to help fix it or pay for a new one, but he told me not to worry about it. After telling his parents this morning, he texted me saying that they weren't at all mad and wanted to get rid of it for a while anyways, so I kind of did him a favor. But when his 3 yo brother saw it, he burst out crying and was extremely upset, understandably so. \n\nI still feel bad about it even though his family is OK about it. I think his and his parents reactions were worse than mine, not caring about the 3 yo being heartbroken by this, but that may just be my subconscious trying to make me feel better. What do you think reddit?", "summary": "Sat on swing, collapsed jungle gym, 3yo in tears but rest of family doesn't care, feel guilty but am wondering if family is worse than me for not caring about 3yo's pains."}
{"id": "t3_2jb7kh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My family ratted me out for cheating on my gf", "post": "Before I start im 23 years old (male), my girlfriend is 23 (female), and so is my cousin (female). I've been dating my gf for a year and I cheated on her 6 months ago with a one night stand. We all lived together in a house, but since this both of them moved out.\n\nI'm going to try and make this is short and sweet as possible. I'm having some trouble in my life right now, mainly with my cousin who I use to live with and recently moved out.\n\nHere's how all of this happened. Me and my gf live in our own place with a spare bedroom. Come August of this year my cousin needed a place to live so I allowed her to move in. Time goes on and she starts becoming best friends with my gf. Time goes on and me and my gf are about to go on our one year anniversary trip. Before this trip im out of town and my cousin and gf are partying together. My cousin tells her I cheated on her 5 months ago and proceeds to move out the following week. Now this whole time they tried to play me and act like someone else spilled the beans but I always knew it was her. Anyways now I have evidence of my cousin selling me out, what should I do? I haven't said anything yet and she still thinks I don't know.\n\nShould I bitch her out and never speak to her again or should I forgive her. I did this girl a favor and she ended up stabbing me in the back I personally don't think I ever want to speak to her again, but I'm on here to make sure I'm not crazy.", "summary": "my cousin who lives with me and my gf told my gf I cheated on her and moved out. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1z8f6w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (19/M) tell my girlfriend (19) she has a mustache without hurting her feelings?", "post": "Alright, so I'm in need of help here. My girlfriend of well over a year has a mustache. It's not like a full blown Geraldo Rivera stache, but it's quite noticeable when up close or in the right light. She's Italian so she's got dark skin which in return gives her dark hair. Now, she has always had this since we been together. She is still very attractive nonetheless but man is it awkward to try and tell a girl she has a mustache. I'm a very upfront and blunt kind of guy. I would tell her straight up she has one, but I don't want to hurt her feelings or make her cry. It's a minor thing that will benefit us both when it's gone. I'm honestly not sure how she doesn't notice it. So I need some advice on how to tell her, without the emotional repercussions.", "summary": "Need advice on how to tell my GF she has a mustache"}
{"id": "t3_g6n2z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Anybody else with Aspergers/Autism find it hard to do 'simple' social things? I need really quick advice for a social situation.", "post": "I have Asperger's. Basically I overreact when things I planned don't go as planned. \n\nI've been having trouble in my life, because I do not have a job or go to school currently. I live by myself.  I have way too much free time and I'm not keeping as busy as I should. I'm in a smalltown newfoundland. It's pretty isolated and friendships are few. Managed to make friends with a few people. \n\nThe problem is, that I'm having a panic attack because my friend can never visit me for more than an hour. It's a 'friends with benefits' situation so I probably have strong emotions for him too. Anxiety (and other factors) prevents me from being around him and his partner. So I don't see him as often as I know I should.", "summary": "my plans didnt work out and I don't want to spend the weekend by myself depressed and anxious again. Just phoned friend and got really upset when he said he can only come over for an hour."}
{"id": "t3_27leih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "One month for me (26M) to \"win back\" my fianc\u00e9 (26F)", "post": "Hello reddit,\n\nI've been with my fianc\u00e9 for 4 years now, living together for 3 of those years. We are supposed to be married in 4 months, but now she's suddenly questioning how she feels about me and the relationship as a whole, to the point where she has even begun considering ending things and moving out. \n\nAbout a week ago she came to me and told me that she has lost the spark. She doesn't feel a need or desire to be around me anymore, she feels bored, etc. I asked her if she thinks she's fallen out of love with me and her answer is no. She still loves me just the same, but the feelings of excitement are gone. I asked if there was someone else, and she said no, and I have no reason to believe she's cheating.\n\nI, of course, am lost and heartbroken. She wants to give the relationship one more month to see if she feels any differently, and if not, she wants to go our separate ways and call off the wedding. \n\nDoes anybody have any advice? I've been trying to plan dates and romance her as I did in the beginning, but it hasn't been working as she just feels like I'm obligated to do those things. I don't want to lose her and the life we've planned together, but I don't know if I can fix something like this. \nAs a side note, she also suffers from depression. She's been on meds for about 8 months but they seem to have stopped working as well as they did in the beginning.", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 is bored of our relationship, wants to give it one more month before she leaves."}
{"id": "t3_3in048", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] want to get back with my ex [22 F] 2 years, were still friends after the breakup", "post": "This is like those songs about the girl who left and the guys all depressed and wants her back. We used to talk everyday, hold hands, laugh and smile with each other. To me this was the most I ever felt connected to someone, never felt like this in my past serious relationships and I was happy to be with her. She goes to school long distance but she visits me, and I visit her for long periods of time. forward it to the last few months, we argue sometimes and she goes to korea for a month. When we talk she said she wants to risk things and breaks up with me. We talk a week later and she said she just came up with it at that time.\n\nThrough the week I felt depressed, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. When I went to work I couldn't talk, I quit my hobbies and cried daily. Now we're friends and the way she talks to me hurts me more. I don't know why she's doing this but it seems like she wants to move on. All my feelings are still strong, but when I talk to her, it feels like she's ready to move on. I never pushed anything on her when we talked, and I don't know what to do honestly. I love her and i'm depressed, she made me happy and now i'm a mess.", "summary": "Gf breaks up with me on split decision, when we talk as friends it feels like she's moved on and I can't do much being long distance."}
{"id": "t3_uejp1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "In highschool my first love left me for my best friend. Reddit, how have your friends back-stabbed you?", "post": "I dated my \"first love\" in High School during a very turbulent period in my life. I came out to my family as bisexual, and had come out to my friends as transgendered. My girlfriend then was super supportive. She called me by my new name, and she she immediately used all the right pronouns. She encouraged me in the face of adversity.\n\nThen it just ends. I get home from a short trip abroad, and she breaks up with me. She says she just doesn't love me anymore, and that's just all there is to it. I am crushed.\n\nSo I am dealing with all of this when my best friend at the time tells me he needs to ask me something. Turns out he wants my permission to start dating her. This isn't months or years later, mind you, its only a few days. Wanting to be a good friend, I say yes. A mistake on my part.\n\nIt kills me to see them together. He takes her out to do dates that I never did because she told me she hated it (nights on the town doing nothing but walking around, for example). Within a week they are officially dating. Its senior year of High School and I just lost my two best friends to each other.\n\nAnd then the clincher to it all. He convinces her that me being trans is just an act I do for attention. She, for whatever reason, believes him over me suddenly. So I am suddenly without my two best friends, and my safety net for all the insecurities that I deal with in only recently having come out to people.\n\nYears later, and I am with an amazing woman who accepts me for the girl I am, and those two broke up in what I understand was quite a messy breakup.\n\nSo Reddit, how have your friends stabbed you in the back?", "summary": "Had a girlfriend that was support. Lost her to my bestfriend in a period of 7 days. She became unsupportive and judgmental. Also something about raptors."}
{"id": "t3_u81eq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I am a teenager who cannot find a group of friends that does not drink or smoke. What do I do?", "post": "As a 16 year old male, I am struggling to find a group of friends that does not drink or smoke. I used to hang out with many different groups of people and have experimented with weed and alcohol. But after being caught by my parents I am trying to be on the straight and narrow by focusing on college and my sport of choice (Wrestling). Recently every group of friends that I had does not even talk to me anymore because of these choices. That leaves me at home forever alone-ing it up playing Starcraft 2. It's fun for a while but after a bit I end up wanting to get outside and hang with friends, to no avail. My very best friend from wrestling has turned into a drug dealing pothead and does not even communicate with me anymore.\n\nWhat the hell do I do Reddit?\nThank You!", "summary": "Former groups of friends all smoke and drink. Teen needs healthy alternatives of things to do."}
{"id": "t3_154qqz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We have been on one date and now she [18] is asking me [20] to go to San Francisco with her and her parents (we live in Sacramento), but I'm not sure if I feel comfortable with that yet.", "post": "We have been talking for about 2 years, mainly through texting, and I felt like I knew her pretty well. This had been almost exclusively a friends relationship until last Sunday, when we went on our first date. It went well, and we ended up making out towards the end of it in my car. This was actually the first time I had made out with anyone, so it was pretty special. On Monday, we talked about it and she told me she had never been with someone who was so passionate and caring, which was great. We even made plans for this coming Sunday to see a movie together. \n\nThen, yesterday, she asked me a lot of questions, starting with stuff like \"What type of women are you in to?\" and \"What turns you on\", then it started changing into \"What do you want to do when you graduate\" and \"How many children do you want?\" I answered all her questions and we talked for a long time about each of them, and I even asked her them back. I didn't really think much of it until she asked me to go to San Francisco with her instead of seeing a movie nearby. This is the moment I realized that maybe she thought we were farther along into a relationship than I did. To be honest, she's a great person, and I know she only wants a person who cares about her (she comes from a pretty broken family), but I don't know if I am ready. This all is going so quickly! \n\nReddit, please help me decide what to do in this situation. I don't want to hurt or offend her, but I'm not sure if I am ready for this level of commitment, if that's what she is suggesting.", "summary": "I am not even in a relationship with this girl, yet she's asking me to do a lot of stuff I am not comfortable with yet.****"}
{"id": "t3_1vv8eg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21/M] With [18/F] dated for 4 years. We recently broke up a month ago and I can't stop having dreams about her.", "post": "Well the dreams started about a week after the break-up. I've been having them atleast once a week sometimes twice since. I can't really recall what the other ones were about but they have never been sexual. She's always just there.\n\nThe one I had last night that is still fresh on my mind was probably the strangest. It didn't even look like her, her hair was a different color, and she was wearing alot of makeup. It's was hard to recognize her but I still knew it was her though. No matter how hard I tried I couldn't get her attention beyond a \"hey\".", "summary": "What do these dreams mean and how can I stop having them? They are making me more depressed than I already am."}
{"id": "t3_423lfq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] boyfriend [20M] didn't say anything when his friend [18M] disrespected me. Am I the one in the wrong?", "post": "Simple story, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, we were friends in high school, and we live together. He has a friend that he plays League with. I sometimes play with them, too, because I love my boyfriend and he wanted to play with me.\n\nHis friend (not my friend, his friend) called me a bitch today. I was immediately annoyed, muted him, and my boyfriend didn't say a thing. I told him then and there not to let somebody disrespect me like that. He didn't say anything for the rest of the game. We finished the game, I ignored him. I didn't know what to say or how to say it without seeing red.\n\nAbout 30 minutes ago, I told him again not to let someone disrespect me like that, and he said he didn't think it was a big deal, because his friend was joking. \n\nI don't give a fuck if his friend was joking or not, I don't like that and my boyfriend (who claims to love me) shouldn't either. He's been defending his friend that he's known for less than a year, and not even trying to see my side or apologize. I'm still angry as hell, so I cant tell if I'm overreacting or if I'm in the right. Please help.", "summary": "boyfriend let his friend call me a bitch, didn't say anything, defended him without trying to understand my feelings. help."}
{"id": "t3_2eofg6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i'm 23 (f), he's 49 (m). do we stand a chance in hell?", "post": "hi reddit! longtime lurker, recently made an account to get some advice. i've been seeing Dan casually for about 2 months now. we really enjoy each other, he's incredibly sexy and smart and i don't see anything wrong with him. we spend most of our time cooking for each other, watching movies, and never really go out much. we also spend a lot of time in the bedroom, i'll admit.\n\ni recently moved to a new city for work and don't have many friends here so i haven't told anyone about Dan. the problem is, i don't know if i want to.. he's a great guy but the age difference makes me feel like i'm doing something wrong... i feel like if i tell my friends or family they might judge me or not accept.\n\nnone of this mattered until last night when he told me he really liked me and wanted to make sure we were a couple. i kind of froze, and he gave me space to think... \n\nam i being an idiot for hesitating because of his age? 26 years is a HUGE age gap and i feel like it might cause a lot of problems, but it also doesn't make sense to throw this out the window without trying it out...", "summary": "he's 26 years older than me, do i stand a chance in hell?"}
{"id": "t3_2ic2nt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (F/23) left me (M/23) out of the blue and I really don't understand/know why.", "post": "So I'm a long time lurker, but now I need help. My girlfriend of 5 years just out of the blue broke up with me. Her reason to me was that she was not happy and talking to other people made her happier than with me. I had a ring picked out and we were supposed to be engaged by the end of the month. I do love her she is not my first girlfriend by a long shot. \n\nBut damn I just don't understand why after 5 years this is how she wants it to be. My friends say don't text her, don't call her, have no contact and move on. But how after 5 years do I even think of just \"moving\" on. I'm pretty sure she is testing the waters, but once again how after 5 years can she even be able to so that. Or is she doing a rebound like what my friends say I should be doing? However I am not one of those guys, I don't have sex just to have sex. It's not my style and won't be. We are both 23 and I really have no idea of what to do on this one, because I was 100% sure we were going to get married. Heck she was even talking to me about our future wedding less than 2 weeks ago. Any advice would be helpful.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 5 years left me out of the blue, because she was not happy."}
{"id": "t3_3wa4eh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making the secretary think I'm a drug dealer", "post": "This happened today. A few classes ago.\n\nI was in video production class, me and my friend were filming stuff for a project. \n\nAll of a sudden, my teacher gives me some sort of sugar pills (don't know the name exactly), and she asked me to give them to the nurse due to them being expired. I agreed and went over to the office.\n\nI went into the office, with whatever the fuck in my hand. I enter the office, and see my friend ,and fellow reddit user u/SteelCasedCondom, working there, as office aid is a class here. \n\nThis is where I fucked up.\n\nI hand him the parcel, and I tell him that it was from my teacher, and he handed it to the main secretary, see looked at me with a weird look, and I again, say that its from my teacher. She asks for my name, so I comply. \n\nAbout 10 minutes later, my before mentioned friends tells me that they are quite suspicious that I, a student, handed some sugar pills to the office, and that they are gonna contact the nurse and pull me on for questioning.\nRight after he said that, he gets questioned by the office as to what my name was and if I was in class. I panicked. And after third period, they announce my name on the loudspeaker and pulled me in.\n\nI explained the whole story to the secretary, and she immediately apologized for the ordeal and misunderstanding. And that I'm all good, but next time, to get written permission from the teacher to relieve any assumptions.\n\nDon't take pills to the office for your teacher. It'll be so awkward coming into that class tomorrow..", "summary": "Teacher asked me to give diabetic sugar pills to the office, made the office think I was some sort of drug dealer."}
{"id": "t3_ijaaw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you percieve the concept of time?", "post": "I have a serious opposition to the concept of time that most people have come to grasp. It is the all-encompassing perpetual order of reference for all human activity. It is a great concept, however it is flawed greatly. I feel that the inconsitencies that we overlook regularly with time are more flaws than exceptions. Things such as time zones and locations that are excluded (i.e. Arizona); daylight saving; leap years; etc. \n\nTime zones are divided into blocks that are generally set an hour apart. They are not divided into smaller sections that may possibly be minutes apart. They are all an hour from the next. FLAWED.\n\nDaylight saving is another anomoly. Every year we set our clocks forward/backward one hour due to the position of the sun. FLAWED.\n\nWe as Earthlings relate the lapse of time to the sun on the horizon and the rotation of the Earth and such. The entire concept of time would be different if we inhabited a planet closer to/further from the sun, or even if the planet were a different size. What if we had two suns? What if humans were all 9 feet tall and the Earth's diameter was 9 feet smaller? \n \nThe bottom line is that time is calculated and tracked based on our perception of what it is here on Earth, not necessarily what its true value is. We are using our sun as a reference point while the universe is infinitely greater.", "summary": "Time\" is bullshit"}
{"id": "t3_39cmih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister[35f] told me[29m] and my mom[61f] that her kids[4f] [7m] aren't her husband's[36m]", "post": "My sister told me and my mom (dad passed away) that her children aren't her husband's. And not only that but her children are both from an exboyfriend that she keeps in contact with. She has even gone out to do a paternity tests to confirm it. \n\nSince our nephew has been little everyone has noticed that some things didn't add up looks wise, but I just chalked it up not being able to tell what little kids look like. Now that I hear this, I don't know what to do. My mom said to just shut up about the whole matter, that my sister's exboyfriend is no good for the kids, and that her husband makes a fine father, and what he doesn't know won't hurt him. \n\nPersonally I think the whole situation is completely messed up and that if I was the husband in the situation, I would definitely want to know the kids I were raising were mine or not. My sister and mom don't feel the same. A part of me wants to tell him or at least hint to him, but I fear that will end the relationship between me and my sister and my nephews.", "summary": "sister came over was crying her eyes out and stressed out. She admitted to my mom and me that her children aren't her husband's. I want to tell the husband, family members disagree."}
{"id": "t3_53s6z3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Boyfriend[21M] of 5 years. Haven't heard from him in a couple days.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend live about an hour and a half apart, he moved last year for work. I plan on moving with him once I'm done with school. \n\nWe talk every day, have had relatively few issues, and have talked about marriage. That's what makes this whole thing so scary. It's been 4 days since I have heard anything from him. He has a history of depression and anxiety (undiagnosed because his family didn't believe him and he just sort of lives with it now) so I'm scared something finally pushed him over the edge. I try contacting his family and none have responded except for his  sister who says she hasn't heard from him in about a month. \n\nI won't be able to make it out there till next Saturday and I'm losing my mind.", "summary": "My boyfriend hasn't spoken to me in a couple days  and honestly I just needed advice on what to do or anything that can help me ease my mind."}
{"id": "t3_1np2o4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Whats your worst example of \"Double Standards\" that you have ever seen in your workplace?", "post": "I was in the navy a few years ago and was training for an very prestigious course which had us intensely training up to 7-8+ times per week. One member was a real \"hot shot\" in his eyes, really fit, cocky as balls, loved by the instructors but liked to drink. One friday morning before muster he rolls up drunk, so drunk in fact that its quite noticeable and the instructors ordered us to all get breath tested. This guy blew .13 something (its a miracle he even made it to work) and was taken by the coxswains (naval police) to sleep it off in the lockup. This being such a serious offence we all thought he was going to be kicked off course or at least severely disciplined...nothing happened, he had a stern talking too by the CO but because he was such a promising candidate he got a slap on the wrist and sent on his way. Anyone else would have had their life made hell by the instructors but this guy got away scott free, he even went out that night to celebrate him getting away with it. That will always stick with me as the epitome of double standards.", "summary": "Navy guy rolls in drunk as fuck to work and gets away with it."}
{"id": "t3_3kh3en", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by going on the bus stoned", "post": "First of all, this of course wasn't today, it was a few months ago. So I used to go to class really high every day since it's only 2 hours. Usually, I would take a couple bong hits right before I leave to catch the bus so I can feel the come up on the bus and spend the entire class very high. On this particular day, I took those hits before getting dressed then realized I was going to miss the bus so quickly got dressed and left. While on the bus I noticed I kept getting weird glances and looks from the other strangers on the bus. I just wrote it off as I'm probably acting weird without noticing or am just being paranoid. I finally get off the bus and begin my walk to class when, to my horror, I look down and lo and behold there is the fly on my jeans unzipped with my lacy hot pink underwear perfectly noticeable. Needless to say, I've never gotten high before getting dressed since then and obsessively check my fly to make sure it's zipped up.", "summary": "Got really high while getting ready for school, noticed everyone on the bus giving me weird looks only to discover that I was so high I forgot to zip up my fly and my hot pink underwear was on display."}
{"id": "t3_2fuwh0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 m] with my girlfriend [20 f] nearly 4 years, she said the relationship feels weird", "post": "Myself and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 4 years, a very pleasant relationship, we tell each other everything but still allow each other to have personal space, and still have our friends around us. We both go to different universities, about 2-3 hour train ride away from each other, but we live in the same hometown so still get many weeks with each other during the breaks. We have lasted 2 years of university and we are both in final year.\n\nShe wants to leave home after university and move to London, and I'm not entirely sure what I want to do yet.\n\nToday, I was laying with my girlfriend, and she started crying and covering her face, and it took a few moments of comforting her and asking her what's wrong, and I said 'is it us?' And this led to a conversation about our relationship, both very upset. This came very out of nowhere.\n\nShe said we are both quite independent now, the relationship isn't the same as it once was, and I did agree with her it an extent. It has gotten quite domesticated and we don't see each other as often, as well as the weeks away at uni. She was upset and so was I, we just kept crying with each other, and cuddling. We suggested a break (until at least Christmas assuming she implied first semester) and cuddled, the thing is I don't think a break will be good. Thus will just make us more independent.\n\nWe love each other to pieces, and if this is headed toward the end I feel very lonely and I really don't know what I am going to do without her. She is such a huge part of my life. I can't imagine it without her. \n\nShe texted me some hearts when I got home...I texted the same back, and she texted me 'I just wanted to say goodnight' in which I said goodnight back too.\n\nI thought at the time a break might be a positive thing, but now I'm sitting like a puppy pouncing at my phone hoping she messages me. I miss her so much already :(", "summary": "GF Of nearly 4 years wants a break, headed to a break up. Both still in love but are doing different things. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_mxc7w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey reddit. How long has your average gf/bf relationship lasted in your experience, and how many have you had?", "post": "So, this has been on my mind for a while, but it would also make for an interesting statistical study (I have some statistical background). \n\nLong story short, I am interested to hear from you guys, (and if you have sources even better), about how many relationships you have been in, and how long they have lasted on average. \n\nThis subject comes up often when I discuss with friends relationships VS career development. \n\nLong story short, my position is that there are times esp when younger (20s, 30s) when career can and should take precedence over fighting for getting a relationship, simply because statistically they dont last that long anyway, but long enough for you to have wasted a significant amount of time that not only is limited within this 20-30 age window, but that could have otherwise been spent on career or other vocation/self-improvement. \n\nNow bear in mind, I am not generalizing... trade-offs in question here are very non-linear esp within this tight window of time - I am not extrapolating anything ...\n\nSome additional context: I often see many friends go through a significant number of relationships in a tight time span, meet someone new, break up, meet someone new, break up, etc etc etc - in the end the net gain was really nothing as far as the relationships go, but there is almost always a net-loss in their personal improvement or growth, (didnt go to grad school, moved away from home then broke up, delayed career advancement, even less money made on average). \n\nEverytime they swear this is it, everything is great, but then a breakup from nowhere. Overtime, I have begun to see those statistics in my minds eye. \n\nYour thoughts? Thanks!", "summary": "How old are you?"}
{"id": "t3_yllq3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "GF's brother wanted by the law. Should I turn him in?", "post": "My girlfriend's (of over 4 years) brother is literally the biggest scumbag I've ever personally met in my entire life. He is currently (and has been for 5+ years) on the run from the law. He calls about every two months asking for $100 here and $200 there, and my GF continues to fill up his pre-paid visa card while he goes and gets hammered every night. He is 31, my GF is 28 and I am 26. Every time its some dire emergency that if he doesnt get the cash that day, he will either be dead, homeless, without electricity, (insert your favorite sob story here). \nMy GF woke up this morning with 7 voicemails from this turd burglar stating that he needs a Greyhound ticket from MS to NY and that he is going to come up here and turn himself in. Over $200 later he now has a bus ticket.....We've been through this song and dance last summer and he ended up leaving, while conveniently forgetting to stop by the cop shop. I gave the guy shelter, clothing, food and didnt get so much as a thank you. I had to kick him out last time because he kept saying \"nigger\" in my house.\n I know this will be the case again, and my GF says she will call the cops on him if he doesnt (not going to happen). I want to inform the police and have them be at the bus station to pick him up, but I know this will be dramatic....What should I do reddit?\nALSO: He is wanted in connection to a stabbing. The story Ive heard is that he was walking home after a late shift at work and some \"thugs\" jumped him and he used the box cutter in self defense. \nA little more back story: My GF's father died when she was 18, and this is her only sibling, making this all the more difficult...", "summary": "GFS's brother is wanted by the law. Should I turn him?"}
{"id": "t3_13jg42", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "After being dumped I started smoking weed with my friends a lot more than I used to. Is it possible that it's actually recovering repressed memories? Story inside.", "post": "Whenever I get more than just a little faded I get a strong deja vu feeling then get glimpses of what I think are dreams I used to have all the time when I was a child. And when I say a glimpse I mean literally have a second. Then back to deja vu. This keeps happening over and over again like a cycle until I sober up a bit. I'm starting to think that they are not dreams but maybe pieces of memories. Reddit, is this possible? Also that song \"Time after Time\" by Cyndi Lauper will trigger these feelings too.\nAny thoughts or ideas would be wonderful.", "summary": "when I get high my brain may be trying to communicate with me."}
{"id": "t3_u5ne8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "\"Friend-zoned\" by a good female friend. I don't care. How do I make her stop talking about relationships?", "post": "Quick background: I'm very close friends with this girl (we'll call her Sarah), and we became friends while we were both in committed long-term relationships. We both broke up with our SO's at around the same time, and over time I developed an interest in her. \n\nHowever, I have the strong feeling that she just wants me as a friend, so that's fine. I don't care about being friend-zoned, and I've been on plenty of dates since, so it really doesn't phase me.\n\nThe one thing that does bother me is that whenever we hang out (and she always wants to hang out with me, which isn't a bad thing), the conversation inevitably steers in the direction of her talking about her past relationship(s) and the dates she's been on. I'm not jealous, but I don't want to be the stereotypical friend-zoned chump who's a sounding board for her relationship problems. Frankly, it's really annoying. I'd rather be just a normal friend to her, and talk about normal things with her.\n\nHow do I bring this up to her without sounding like an asshole?", "summary": "Er, same as the title."}
{"id": "t3_ylknk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Aside from weird dreams that some may already have spoken about, Reddit, what have been some of your funniest dreams?", "post": "One that I can vividly remember happened during 8th grade for me. The back story was that primarily for 4 days straight my friend and I just continually played Nazi Zombies on CoD. Thus, every night the images and ideas being so present in my mind that I would dream about fighting zombies. Well, this final night, my dream began where I was in the beginning stages of Nazi Zombies, fighting off the waves. As the battles teemed on, I somehow came to a final level (which I obviously created in my own mind). The final level consisted of myself and my friend entering a chamber, with an extremely large ceiling, also being dimly lit. THEN, out of nowhere, Hitler emerged from the darkness, *flying*, *wearing a cape*, *dual wielding Desert Eagles*, just firing at us, non-stop. The only image I remember from the dream is his face, screaming, flying, shooting at us. I woke up laughing my ass off.", "summary": "In a game of Nazi Zombies, get to final level, ends up with myself having to fight Hitler who is flying, wearing a cape, and dual wielding Deagles."}
{"id": "t3_3l8hia", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a hard drive too cheaply.", "post": "Years ago, I worked IT in a family business. We did business with Dell and others but tried to keep costs down so would occasionally buy parts from reliable secondary sources. One day a local IT/consultant type calls and says he got a deal on some new in box Dell drives (18GB SCSI hot pluggable 15k RPM in the proper drive trays if memory serves) for half what Dell charged, did I want any? Uh, HELL YEAH! We needed more drive space anyway. \n\nI go throw the drives in a spare server to test them before migrating everything over and one won't spin. Call the guy up and ask if they're under warranty. \"Oh sure, just call Dell, they'll exchange 'em.\" \n\nHere's where the FU begins. I called Dell and they say no problem we'll send out a call tag etc etc.  The next day, instead of the call tag showing up,  I get a call from our receptionist that two FBI agents have arrived and would like to see me! I headed up front wondering what the flying f*ck this was all about. \n\nAs I later found out, a FedEx (or UPS, I can't recall) truck full of Dell parts and computers got hijacked and this drive was part of the shipment. All the FBI would say was that the drives were stolen property and they were investigating the matter. We had to turn over all the drives and when asked where I'd bought them I pointed 'em straight to the guy where I got 'em. I do not mess with the FBI. \n\nBro calls in a panic the next day profusely apologizing and begging me not to sue (which I'd never thought of doing anyway, I didn't think HE had stolen them). He even drove out and refunded the money we'd paid in cash after I told him not to worry about it. He said he wanted nothing to do with that. Never did find out if he'd gotten what he paid back from whomever he'd gotten the drives from.", "summary": "Bought some cheap drive; the FBI did a drive by, the hot drives they did fly."}
{"id": "t3_4fq5za", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my 22[M] 3 years, am I crazy or is it his fault?", "post": "So I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, our parents were friends before we got together so I practically knew him my whole life. Before I get into detail, I just want to say I really love him, there's no doubt in my mind that he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, and we have and we do speak about the future together. I guess you can say we are over the \"honeymoon\" stage, I mean we still have amazing sex and I always get butterflies seeing him but obviously its not the same anymore.\n\nWhat my concern is, is that his small mannerisms that really bother me are truly getting to me. Theyre making me really peeved, and bitchy all the time and I think this might hurt my relationship.\nThese are just a few things he does that really get to me:\n\n1) Eats so sloppy and never uses a knife\n\n2) His hygiene doesn't suck but I have to remind him to wash his hands and brush his teeth\n\n3) Never cleans up after himself\n\n4) Doesn't know how to control his alcohol when were at gatherings\n\nThat's basically it there might be a few other things but this is what kind of gets to me.\n\nPLEASE DONT SAY IF THESE THINGS ABOUT HIM BOTHER YOU THEN YOU DONT LOVE ME. That's not true. I love him a lot, and I know he's not ideal, but how can I stop these things from getting to me.\nI feel like I have to baby him a lot, and it's my fault that I let him get comfortable and used to that. His parents never tell him what to do, or tell him when hes wrong, so he gets away with everything.\n\nAm I just being really picky or is it normal to feel this way?", "summary": "My boyfriend has some \"habits\" and ways of lifestyle that bother me at times. I tell him these things, but sometimes hold back because I don't want to be annoying. I love him and I dont doubt that, I just want to stop getting annoyed over these habits of his because I feel like it affects my attitude towards him and I dont want that to affect our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_51ybok", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing up to work sick", "post": "I was new on the job and my boss was a bit of a hard ass, so when I got sick with a cold, I figured I'd go in to work anyway. She's a bit of a germaphobe so she'd probably just tell me to go home, but by showing up, I at least looked like an enthusiastic hard working employee who wasn't going to let a cold stop him. My boss didn't even notice. Dropped a bunch of work on me and left me on my own. I'm also a huge baby when I'm sick; something as small as the common cold will render me useless and whiny. I had a ton of work to do and no relief, so I quickly ducked out and bought some cough syrup at a nearby drug store. I was dying, so I downed 2 teaspoons and waited for it to kick in. I didn't feel any better. I was getting impatient and still had a lot of work to do, so I took another 2 teaspoons. Still nothing. I said screw it and took a big gulp straight from the bottle. Then 5 minutes later, the same thing just for good measure. 10 minutes later, it kicked in like an angry mule. I ended up falling asleep at my desk. I didn't wake up until my boss walked by my desk. She didn't say anything to me, so I thought she didn't notice. It wasn't until later on in the day that my coworker mentioned it that I realized she caught me and was telling everyone about it. I never got to explain myself to her and for the rest of the day, I was nauseous as hell from taking waaaay too much cough syrup. No work got done that day.", "summary": "Accidentally got high from cough syrup because I thought showing up to work sick was a good idea"}
{"id": "t3_207lvc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my crush [14 F] friends for 2 years , Need Some help", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nOver the weekend I went to a concert with a big group of people (about 10-15) and me and Thai girl I've known for about two years and I spent the entire night together. We hugged and she would follow me around, we even moshed. Me and this girl never really hung out or even talked much, but this week we've been talking all of the time.\nHere is why I need help, I'm really awkward around girls, never had a girlfriend, kiss, etc. and I don't know what to do. I also go to an all boys school and her an all girls school. Another problem, because she is kind of known as the class slut, even though she has never done anything with anyone, it is just the way that she carries herself. And I just don't know what to do about it. We have only ever talked and hung out like 5-10 times int he past two years.\noh yeah one last thing my best friend has a crush on her.\nPLEASEEEE", "summary": "went out with girl; need help with situation"}
{"id": "t3_301hwl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26M] fear of losing my girlfriend[25F] of 7 years because she wants to go to another country for work but I do not want to hold her back.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We met before college where she is an international student and I am a U.S. citizen. We were long distance for the first two years and later on another year when I moved to pursue grad school (3 out of the 7 years long distance). Last year, she accepted a job near where I go to school to be closer to me which is something I really, really appreciate.\n\nAfter almost a year, it turns out she does not like her job due to the work environment and salary. The work environment part I can understand since her bosses seem difficult to work with and her colleagues and her do not get along very well. The salary part really strikes me since it is really competitive given her background but she feels like she deserves more.\n\nShe is on an F-1 visa that her company is sponsoring and so she tells me it will difficult for her to find another company in the U.S. She has been seriously considering moving back to her home country to work for a new company. Her salary overseas will essentially be the same, perhaps a bit more than it is here, but the much lower cost of living means she has much more money left over to spend.\n\nI honestly feel that this is a horrible career move since the opportunity to advance overseas is not as good as it is here for her profession. She disagrees with me and think that the long-term outlook is good and it is a step towards her career aspiration. She pretty much tells me that the only reason she has for staying in the U.S. is because of me. I really do love her and feel horrible thinking that I might be holding her back from her career. We both admit we probably would not be able to handle another long-distance relationship, especially one across borders.\n\nAll advice is welcome.", "summary": "Long-term girlfriend wants to take a job in another country. I feel like I'm holding her back from her career aspirations. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3h07iv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by killing a fly", "post": "My English is not that good. So beer (pun intended) with me.\n\nI wake up today early and went straight to the bathroom to pee, realizing I still have some time left to sleep. While peeing, I saw a fly. I thought let it be, I don't wanna disturb my sleeping time by trying to kill it. But that fucking fly come straight in front of my face and start dancing like he is literally challenging me. I grab the fly with my left hand and closed my fist harder. I thought it died and open my fist to see that little fucking monster is still alive. It flies to my right side. I took care of my boy with my left hand and tried to catch it again with my right hand. After second attempt, I caught it and again tried to close my fist very hard to kill it. I opened my fist to see it dead, but again that fucking monster is not dead yet. It was little bit injured and was trying to fly again. I cached it again (without difficulty as it was injured), and  use my both hand to smack that motherfucker down. I was laughing hysterically with pride, but I was unfortunate to see pee all over my shorts and my legs.", "summary": "Tried to kill a fly, peed on my legs and shorts."}
{"id": "t3_eldr1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Would someone draw something on fire for me?", "post": "I'm the General Manager of my school's student-run TV station, \"Ignite TV.\" Every semester we get to order a new batch of t-shirts to hand out at various events.\n\nI thought it would be neat if on the back of each semester's t-shirt there was a new image of something on fire. Anyone willing to contribute any such illustration is greatly appreciated, and if we end up using yours I can hook you up with 5 free t-shirts with your image on the back.\n\nSo far the best idea I've had is Bob Ross in front of a canvas picturing a smoldering tree.", "summary": "Draw something on fire and potentially get it on 5 free t-shirts."}
{"id": "t3_3a6n40", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by drinking too much and driving slightly NTFS - language", "post": "This didn't happen recently but the more you read the more it will make sense. On a throwaway also. \n\nSo it all starts in college it was my senior year and I had hard week of exams I was taking 18 hours at the time. I studied hard all week for the exams. Fast forward 1 week when I got the grades back they were all straight A's so I was stoked. I was working 30 hours a week at a time so I had manage my time.I figured that Sunday I could go out and enjoy a few drinks. So I went out had about 8~ I would say my count could be wrong. Anyways I go and drive and literally down the street from my house I got pulled over. They said I was swerving (I was texting fucking phone). Needless to say I got pulled over charged with a DWI. I have a feeling this will be a question but I live in a no refusal State and they got a warrant to draw blood(.154) Got a lawyer told me just to keep my nose clean and not drink and drive and he should be able to take care of it.\n\nFast forward about 1 and half years. I go out and and decide to drink at this point I am fairly conscious about me drinking and driving. I go out watch a basketball game and have a few drinks. I noted to myself I did not eat very much that day so to watch it. I drank 4 beers over the course of 4 hours. Basketball games last 3 hours and I wanted to stay a little while to make sure I sober up. The last hour I did not touch any alcohol and just hung out and chilled. I was semi hungry at this point and down the street is this great place to eat it was very close by. So i'm driving and behold get pulled over for swerving again (seriously WTF). I didn't think I was intoxicated at all. Refused all tests they took me in of course. I went and blew because I thought to myself no fucking way I am over the limit (.08). Turns out I was and get charged with a 2nd offense DUI this time it was over .15.", "summary": "Drank and drove got pulled over, didn't learn lesson did it a 2nd time."}
{"id": "t3_332nve", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Short Term Options for approximately 40,000$", "post": "I have a friend who tends to come to me for financial advice, and in most situations I feel I can be pretty helpful, but I'm not 100% sure on this one.\nThey have about 40,000 dollars they just received after selling their house, they already have a significant amount saved in a 401k and in a roth IRA + a decent (50k'ish) invested otherwise.\nTheir issue is they are planning to buy another house, but won't be doing so for approximately 6 months to a year.\nWhats the best option for a place to keep their money for that short period?", "summary": "Where to put approximately 40k to hold for 6months prior to using it to buy a house."}
{"id": "t3_wum98", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Google Street View Cars", "post": "so, the other day i rebuilt my engine for my car, and on the VERY first drive i pulled out the driveway and up the road AND to my surprise there is a google street view car driving down the road (well it was a car that said google with a bunch of cameras) and i was SUPER stoked that i got to be in that. HOWEVER that was about 2 weeks ago and the road still doesn't have street view even (he was headed downhill toward a road with existing street view) so how long does it usually take them to upload the new street views.", "summary": "will i ever see my car on google street view?"}
{"id": "t3_28wvvt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [19 F] have a crush one of my supervisors [mid twenties]. How do I stop it?", "post": "Dear reddit,\n\nSo it's come to my attention recently that I have a crush on one of my supervisors at work. While it hasn't been too distracting it still bothers me a bit, I don't want to feel this way about him anymore, mostly because the chances of things going anywhere are in the negatives, and plus, I'd like to keep my job.\n\nWe don't really talk much for the most part but I still get the \"butterflies\" when I'm around him and it makes me uncomfortable. What's the quickest way to stop feeling this way? I'm starting to go out of my way to avoid any unnecessary interaction with him and distract myself. It's not working too well.", "summary": "I have a crush on my supervisor and I want it to GTFO as soon as possible. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_41xpq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (30f) be at peace with my dead mother (60f), with whom I had a troubled relationship, so that I won't be a burden to my partner (35M)?", "post": "My mother suffered from schizophrenia. She was also abusive to me. I grew up extremely poor, isolated, and neglected. It took me a lot of strength to survive all of this, to get an education and a stable life, and to learn how to maintain good relationships with others. \n\nI don't think that she set out to be a horrible being, but things turned out badly due to her paranoia and delusional beliefs, and the unresolved aftermath of the abuse she suffered in her own childhood. She drove away everybody from her life, including me as soon as I was able. \n\nShe's been dead for 5 years now. Every year, when her anniversary, mother's day, or the time of her death comes up, I go through all kinds of painful emotions. It's really hard.\n\nI get angry at the painful memories of things she's done or said, at the abuse I suffered, at some of the bad decisions she's made. First of all, why she even brought a child into the world that she couldn't care for. I try to forgive, I really do, but I am not always able. I also get sad, because I appreciate that she was very ill and that didn't hate me or wish me harm. Sometimes, I even miss her (as there were still things about her that were beautiful and good). Perhaps it could also be said that I am grieving the relationship that I wish had been, but could never be (if that makes sense). \n\nIt's irrational, I know, but sometimes I have the nagging fear that one day I'll turn into her. I fear that perhaps I'll end up hurting the people around me due to my unresolved pain, due to a ghost as it were. I also fear the mental illness may be hereditary (I show no signs of it, though). History has a way of repeating itself...\n\nI've made some progress in therapy, but it's very slow, and partial. Perhaps some of you here have experienced the loss of a mentally ill or abusive parent, or can otherwise relate? Perhaps you have some advice? Thanks everyone.", "summary": "Abusive, mentally ill mother died 5 years ago. I want nothing more than to heal and move on, I want to focus on the positive things in my life, I want to be at peace with the past - yet I still have sadness and pain in my heart.  Whenever her anniversary, mother's day, or her death anniversary come up, I get mopey, angry, sad, hard to deal with. How I can I stop grieving and move on?"}
{"id": "t3_21ecfl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19F] of just 1 month, question about what I'm feeling", "post": "This is my first post here so I apologize if i did any of this wrong.\n\nSo basically everything is going perfectly, and honestly I couldn't have asked for someone more perfect.  I feel like we have been taking the right steps in how we want our relationship.\n\nThe thing I wanted to get at is how much Im finding that I care for her in this short amount of time.  I guess my question is more along the lines of, is this normal?\nI\n think it scares me a little, I'm in college, and in addition I would always date someone because I was thinking of the future, not just for mere fun.  I would say being the at the stage I am in life, it probably scares me to tell her exactly how feel about the future etc.", "summary": "I guess I'm, just asking for some advice from more experienced people."}
{"id": "t3_4x2qzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my BF [20 M] of 1.5yrs, he friended his ex", "post": "I understand that this is an inane and microscopic problem.\n\nI met my BF in college. To illustrate the disparity between our pasts, prior to meeting my BF I'd only been kissed on the lips once and had been planning on saving myself for my future husband. Prior to meeting me, my BF had sex with 10 people. \n\nI lost my virginity to my BF. After a few months of dating and despite the \"I love you\"s and assurances, I realized I was not fully comfortable with his sexual past (he told me about it after we started dating and having sex). I talked to him about it and he said he'd delete his exes and people he's had sex with off of FB and not contact him if it'd make me feel better. He did so and I felt a lot better about it.\n\nI am currently on a year abroad. My BF wasn't thrilled that I was going but he said we'd work through it. We try to talk everyday but sometimes he's moody and it's hard to communicate. A few weeks ago when I couldn't find him, I went on FB to see if he was online there and saw that he had friended one of his exes. This ex also happens to post lots of revealing pictures.\n\nSo now my problems:\n\n1) I don't think I was/am emotionally mature/prepared to handle my BF's past especially since it's gigantic compared to mine. I've tried getting over it in the past year and I thought I'd gotten myself to a good place but seeing her in my BF's friend list made the emotions and unease bubble up again.\n\n2) What do I do? We'd gotten into a fight a few months ago and now I suspect this may have had something to do with it. \n\n3) How do I talk about this with my BF? Should I talk about this with my BF?", "summary": "BF friended his ex on FB and now I'm paranoid"}
{"id": "t3_2ncsuh", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Federal Student Loan Consolidation Questions", "post": "SO! I've read through a number of the posts here and have found some really great information about student loans and good ways to handle them and such, but nothing that answers my direct question:\n\nI have a number of federal student loans across two different servicing companies: NelNet for the subsidised ones and ACS with all my unsubsidized ones(originally serviced through Wells Fargo).\n\n- NelNet is, by far, the easier site/company to work with.  They let me break down my different loans with them to apply additional payments specifically to the loan I want, and show me exactly what my interest rate on each loan is.\n\n- ACS, on the other hand, shows me the cumulative sum of the amount I owe, and gives me the rate I need to pay them based off this, also telling me I have \"mixed\" interest rate (some are variable, some fixed, but they don't show me which loan has how much money still owed and at what interest rate).\n\n- I have looked at the Federal Loan Consolidation program, and noticed that when I was looking at my options, that I was able to see the breakdown of my loan amounts serviced through ACS, and noticed that I can move my consolidated loan over to NelNet as a servicer.\n\nMy question is two parts: \n- Am I able to just transfer all my loans from one servicer to another and have them be individual loans still?\n- IF NOT, would I be able to \"consolidate\" my loans from ACS one at time, and transfer them over to NelNet? Or would it have to be in one big lump sum (a real consolidation)?\n\nI'm not trying to get a better interest rate, really even, more just trying to make it easier for me to engage in \"snowball\" type divide and conquer finance tactics. Also, NelNet's interface/customer service is MILES and above better than ACS (seriously, it took 8 attempts online & 4 phone calls to get my address updated!)", "summary": "What precisely are the restrictions on moving between Federal Student Loan servicers, and on how you use Federal Loan Consolidation? "}
{"id": "t3_3ngv8p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Advice] I [m22] ruined my SO's [f19] sex drive. We've been dating for 1.5 years and it's all my fault.... help", "post": "In the past we have had a great sex life, best I could ask for. But in the last month I essentially took all the romance out of sex, and I stopped caring about her in bed. As a result sex went from 4 nights a week to once a week, she claims it's because of stress in school and I think she doesn't want to make me feel bad, but I kinda know I ruined it for her. \n\nWell I want her to enjoy sex just as much as we used to, so we talked, I treated her right and we fished at the same time. But she says she isn't interested in having sex as much as we used to anymore.\n\nSo here is what I'm asking you, I want my gf to want me more. I want subtle, romantic things I can do for her. That will subsequently have her wanting me more. So what are some cute little romantic or sexual things that your so does for you, that drive you crazy?", "summary": "? How do I seduce my girl on a daily basis with romantic gestures"}
{"id": "t3_tfrsr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need advice...", "post": "Well, this is going to be long, so be warned.\n\nA year ago, I met a girl. I was on a break with my then girlfriend, so nothing happened, we just went out a couple of times, and there was tension (I really liked her), but that's it. \n\nAfter my thing with my ex didn't work out, I started asking her out, but she declined, saying that we would be friends. Oh well, that's it. A couple of months later, I got into another relationship that worked and was pretty good...until two weeks ago (more or less). \n\nSince I'm past the sadness and all that, I started to talk to this girl again (we actually never lost contact but our \"dates\" were so far and between, seeing that she didn't want to disturb my girlfriend). We went to have a couple of drinks, and of course, we started talking about sex and all that stuff. A couple of days later, she said that I could to her apartment to watch movies, get drunk and/or high.\n\nMy problem is:\n\nHow the fuck do I make my move? I mean, I don't feel love or anything like that for her. I know she doesn't want a relationship, and of course me neither. She mentioned the idea that she's okey with casual sex, and...well, who am I to complain, right?. But I don't know how to make that first move, my previous \"sexual conquers\" (what a fucking stupid term but I can't think another) were completely different, and they all came from a relationship and all that.", "summary": "C'mon, read it, man. I need some advice, any advice"}
{"id": "t3_3319uz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21|F] am developing strong feelings for my emotionally-unavailable friend [23|M]. What do I do?", "post": "Hey, guys!\n\nFirst of all, my friend was in a seven-year relationship, and he was cheated on for two years, and he recently found out (about six months ago). Finding out destroyed him completely, and he only recently began no-contact with his ex-girlfriend.\n\nNow, he and I have had sex three times sober, and a few more times drunk. We're close, and it just sort of began. He's always there for me, and me for him, and we help each other a lot with everything that could be going on. He also takes his time to make sure I feel good, have eaten, telling me I'm beautiful and wonderful. Recently, he told me I deserve the best and that I'm amazing, and that he would love to take a chance at happiness eventually, and that I'd be perfect, but that he isn't ready yet. I also give him plenty of advice about his situation whenever he asks, and I've seen him make progress, slowly.\n\nThe problem is, I've started to develop feelings for him, and I don't know what to do about any of this. I'd love to just tell him, but I know he's emotionally unavailable.", "summary": "I've started to developed strong feelings for a good friend of mine after having slept together a few times, but he is emotionally unavailable due to his past relationship. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qhzep", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M/20] looking for advice about starting conversations.", "post": "Title a bit dodgy, but I'll explain further.\n\nBasically, I find that when I meet a person that I find interesting or attractive enough that I'd want to get to know them better, words tend to stick in my throat that I want to say, and I end up just autopiloting the conversation and talking about very generic topics.\n\nAs an example, I worked myself up to asking if a girl I know is actually single as I don't know and don't particularly want to pry/facebook stalk/etc but the moment I get a chance to I just burble on about whatever was relevant at the time and I always miss the chance.\n\nI don't feel that it's an insecurity thing as I have a few female friends who I can open up to and talk about anything very easily, without needing prior preparation and without wimping out at the last second.", "summary": "talking to new people is hard, would appreciate advice on how to overcome the barrier"}
{"id": "t3_qdy3z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I gave a friend $60,000 in a lotto ticket he threw away. What's the dumbest nice thing you've ever done?", "post": "Back story:\nMe and a friend both were scheduled off at 4 and he leaves early being a complete dick to leave me with the preparation for next scheduled crew. Fast forward to the break area where he has these scratch off tickets (3 dollar monopoly scratch off) that he's working on. Funny thing is I was going to buy one of those because I saw one on the bathroom floor earlier that day but anyways, he starts with this 'holy Shit oh my god' stuff and ls and behold - a 60,000 dollar winner! \nWell, he brings it in to the store next door and the girl has a hard time scanning it. There was also 3 dollars on the ticket so she puts in the numbers and says \"3 dollars\". Another guy says it wasn't a winner because you need all 4 railroads to win it so he leaves it there. \nAfter some thought I go back and grab that ticket and bring it back to him. Anyways, after he calls it in he finds out it really was a winner. This happened yesterday and he was a no-call no-show today (going to talahassee to cash it in). I could have kept it, he didn't think it was a winner but I'm such a nice guy I gave it to him. \nBefore you ask no I'm not well off. I work at burger king.", "summary": "literally handed off 60 grand to a friend because I'm too nice a person."}
{"id": "t3_4j9ii6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] just broke up with my ex boyfriend [18M] of a year, and now I feel like someone gutted me", "post": "I know it's only a high school relationship, but we had been dating for so long. I broke up with him because he can't show emotions and comfort me the way I need, and he was becoming very controlling over all I did. \n\nHe was such a big part of my life, now I can't even walk into my house without thinking about him. It hurts a lot, but I know it's for the best.\n\nI just don't know what to do now. I know it takes time but I don't want it to feel this way forever.\n\nDo I just grit my teeth and move forward or is there some secret potion I can use to get over this faster?", "summary": "I don't know how to handle myself being single again after so long and I'm in severe emotional pain after losing someone I held dear for over a year."}
{"id": "t3_4fpa65", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [30M] inexperienced and have a new older GF [50F].", "post": "For about 3 weeks I've been dating a 50 year old woman. We've moved damn fast and both are riding high on the infatuation train. This is Mississippi, and it seemed magical to meet a fellow liberal atheist who doesn't want kids. Well, she has a 25 year old son, but that's it. \n\nFor various reasons I have virtually no relationship experience. I have no idea how to make a relationship work, and the added challenge of 20 years is daunting. \n\nWe met and bonded over our mutual interest in the outdoors, camping, and backpacking. We are both nerds who originally met because she moved into the house next to me and I recognized her on an opposing (and inferior, lol) bar trivia team. \n\nCan this work long term? What do I need to know and prepare for? We've had such different life experiences,and I dont want to be set up to fail and hurt her or myself. Beyond the age aspect, I could see a great chance at something real. Am I crazy? Does anyone else out there have any experience with this?", "summary": "I'm dating a much older woman and could use some experienced help."}
{"id": "t3_2g801c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M] girlfriend [19 F] of 10 months doesn't believe me when I compliment her, because she found me attractive far before I found her attractive.", "post": "Sidenote: I'm a senior in high school. She is a freshman in college and attends a school 750 miles from where I live. I'm going to visit her at the end of the month. \n\nWhen I compliment my girlfriend (tell her she's beautiful, compliment her hair, etc.), she doesn't believe me, and she says she never can. She's expressed affection for me for upwards of three years, while I only discovered an interest in her roughly a year ago (at a high school dance).\n\nWhen I compliment her, it's not half-hearted or incredulous. I truly believe in what I tell her, and she truly is beautiful to me. I just don't know how I can make that clear to her. It really hurts and bothers me that someone who I trust and love can refuse to believe something as simple as a compliment. I've expressed my feelings, and that it's unfair for her to hold my past actions against me for so long, especially after almost a year of being together. She says it's hard to believe that someone as attractive as me would all the sudden be attracted to her, and she's very wary because of it. I understand her reasoning, as much as it hurts. But to me, two people in a committed relationship owe each other a level of trust and acceptance, and she seems to be breeching that trust. \n\nIf anyone has advice on how I can effectively communicate with her about this, it would be much appreciated. I think that, over a very long period of time, it will probably be a problem that fixes itself. Hopefully, at least. But it bothers me immensely, and I'd like more than anything for her to believe me.", "summary": "girlfriend refuses to accept/accredit my compliments to her because her attraction to me predates mine."}
{"id": "t3_i154l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do you distinguish fusion and fission when talking about nuclear power?", "post": "The debate on nuclear power plants has become very loud since the disaster in Fukushima, Japan. Germany has decided to turn of its reactors and Switzerland has passed legislation to end nuclear power plants until 2050 (to name some examples).\n\nThe ramifications don't interest me as much as the question if anybody distinguishes fusion and fission, because to me (with at least some knowledge about energy and physics) those two are entirely different things.\n\nLately I read and heard more and more people that did include both, fusion and fission, into the debate, despite the fact that there is no useable man-made fusion existing yet. So I was wondering: Do you distinguish them at all or would you treat fusion differently even though it's 'nuclear power' too?", "summary": "Do you distinguish fusion and fission in regard to the recent energy debate about nuclear power?"}
{"id": "t3_3rjnnb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 8 years together. Open relationship..", "post": "My bf and I have been together 9 years in January. We have always had an open relationship. He has slept with several women (probably) however I have never asked and don't care. Last weekend we were having a glass of wine and playing card games when it came up that I don't go out much. I am a bartender and work 30 hours on the weekends so I find that's plenty for me. He asked when the last time I \"went out\" with someone was and I replied maybe a few months ago but I have never slept with anyone but him. He was shocked and thought I was joking. \n\nI guess I just haven't been interested in anyone in that way but I have gone on several outings with men and have kissed a few but nothing intimate. There is a guy who comes in when I am working at the bar and is always trying to gett me to go out with him. I said yes and we are going out this Friday. I am sexually attracted to him but wouldn't sleep with him based on that alone. Also, I don't like the idea of my bf being involved at all. I like not knowing when he's with other women. I am wondering, basically, how do I do this stealthy? \n\nAnyone been in a similar situation?", "summary": "Possible first time being intimate outside open relationship. Want to keep it quiet and would like personal encounters with similar experiences."}
{"id": "t3_43pros", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When and how do I [28M] say \"I love you\" to my GF [24F]?", "post": "Hi,\n\nI've been with my new GF for almost 5 months now, and I've never felt that happy with a girl before. We are both really into each other, and often say \"I like you\", \"I really like you\", \"I like you too much\", and so on.\n\nHowever, the last few times I said \"I like you\" it felt wrong to me. Because I don't *like* her, I fucking *love* her. These scary words even almost slipped out of my mouth yesterday while talking to her.\n\nBut I've never said that to anyone, and it seems to be a big deal... So I'm confused as to what's the \"proper etiquette\" to do it. So when to do it? And how? Or maybe I should just wait for her to say it first? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "When and how do I say \"I love you\" to my GF?"}
{"id": "t3_4xf2dw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I (19f) get back with my ex-boyfriend (21m)?", "post": "He broke up with me a week ago after almost two years together because we had some communication problems and he got very involved in a hobby. I miss him so much and I've thought of ways we could fix the problems we had.\n\nIt was his first relationship and he didn't know what he wanted but a few days ago, I saw a comment from him on Reddit about how much he wants me back. He's blocked me on all social media to make it easier for both of us so we don't keep seeing what the other's doing but he was my best friend as well so it's impossible not to text him.\n\nHe promised he'd keep my number when he broke up with me and told me we could eventually be friends again in the future and that he had no idea about a relationship. I sent him a text a few days ago saying that it's been really hard and I miss him a lot.\n\nJust since we broke up, I've made some positive changes in my life, I passed my driving theory test and I've got a job interview coming up. He was the first person I wanted to tell but I obviously couldn't and he was the biggest motivation for me to do these things.", "summary": "Boyfriend broke up with me, I've thought of ways to fix the problems, he's said on Reddit he wants me back and my life is starting to improve but he doesn't want to communicate with me for a while. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2bj45n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [23 M] has an overbearing mother [60 F] and it's driving me [21 F] crazy.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are in early 20's and have been dating a little over 2 years. Everything is going great, except his mother is extremely needy. She calls him several times a day about pointless things. Whenever I am over their house she checks on us in his room, ignores me and talks to him about whatever is making her stressed out that day. She asks him to do chores every time I am over when she could easily do them such as putting the dishes away or taking out the trash. Whenever we go on a trip somewhere (which we do a lot) She constantly texts and calls him to see what we are doing and if he's having fun. When we go out with friends she texts him saying not to be out too late even though he has off that next day. I have talked to him several times how it bothers me when his mom always calls and when she bothers us when I'm over their house. He said he agrees and that he talked to her about it, but nothing has changed. We plan on getting married in the future, but his mother drives me crazy with how needy she is and it's stressing me out. I need advice on how to deal with this, because I feel like this is straining our relationship. Any advice would be helpful. Sorry this is so long..it has been bothering me for a while now. Thank you for the help!", "summary": "My boyfriend's mother calls and checks in on him all the time when we are together. He has talked to her about letting him have his space, but she continues to do it."}
{"id": "t3_elakr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I won a vacation package from a contest at a local bar I frequent. The owner hasn't given the packet while all my Friends got theirs. What can I do?", "post": "I've been a simi-regular at a local bar for the past couple of years. Over the last two months they ran a local promotion with one of the radiostations in town giving away vacation packages to numerous destinations. \n\nI entered the drawing, and as luck (and maybe some good karma) would have it I won! I was really excited until the bar-owner told me \"I don't have the packets on me now, but I'll get it too you after I get back from a weekend trip\"\n\nThe weekend went past, and I saw the owner about a week later. The guy wouldn't make eye contact with me, and didn't say anything about the packet. I decided to let it slide thinking he forgot, and went on about my business. The proceeding Friday I went up there for happy hour and got some terrible customer service, was called a \"shithead\" by one of the employees, and basically insulted.\n\nI decided I wasn't going to take that shit from someone who can't keep their word, and decided to take a very long (and possibly permanent) leave of absence from the place, but I still feel like I should get my packet.\n\nDo I have any legal options here, or do I just need to stay on the guy's ass until he fulfills his part of the bargain?", "summary": "I won a vacation contest at a local bar, and the owner hasn't presented me with the information packet. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_h6eh5", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Guy left girl 5 months ago, moved cities for a fresh start, but can't seem to see anyone new as an option. Opinions as to the best way to get past this please.", "post": "(Repost from /r/relationships)\nI'm a 24 year old guy, was in a 3 year relationship with a chick roughly the same age up until 5 months ago. Since then I've moved cities with work due to a promotion and been trying to get interested in seeing other people, even trying to re-ignite a couple of old flings. But I just can't seem to get interested in someone new, and faking interest for the sake of sexual gratification (although I haven't let it get that far yet) makes me feel empty inside.\n\nShort backstory about our relationship: We both met in the military, but discharged roughly the same time. For one reason or another, we moved in together very quickly, about 2 months into the relationship. From there, our relationship got tempestuous very quickly \u2013 both dominant people (heck, we were officers \u2013 should have seen this coming), everything was a powerplay. We stuck it out because we seemed to work on so many other levels, but things began to deteriorate to the point where we resented each other more than anything else. The worst part was coming home from work, and lying down next to someone, and not even really knowing why you're there any more. We lived together for a while after admitting to each other that things were finished, and it all ended on kind of a mutual low point (though I secretly felt rejected by her long before this), with an opening that we might look at starting over further down the track (the kind of out you give yourself to make yourself feel better for making a shitbag decision).\n\nI moved because I had nowhere to go, and couldn't stomach keeping on in the same place. Now I'm in a city where I know next to no one, working a job I'm not sure I enjoy (but that's a whole other thing), and can't seem to get myself interested in seeing anyone. Even thinking about the whole introductory backstory thing makes me cringe. But I know that the best thing I can do is get stuck into something new, and get my head off my failed relationship. And I don't even feel like I miss her.", "summary": "24 Y/o guy left GF (of 3 years) 5 months ago, moved cities for a fresh start and can't seem to pull his shit together to even see new people as options for casual stuff, much less potential relationships. How do I get past this?"}
{"id": "t3_4urxmt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [21F] tell my boyfriend [23m] to get a job already?", "post": "So we live together and are both in grad school full time. My issue is that he is constantly complaining about having no money. It's not like he is always asking me for money or anything, but if we do something special (such as go to a concert) I usually pay for both of us because he \"is poor.\" He was raised in a working class family and I come from more wealth, and this difference becomes apparent on occasion, usually in some minor silly way. However, we are presently both dependent on our parents and the fact is he gets about 1000 a month from his and I get about 750 from mine (which just covers rent and food). The reason I have so much \"expendable income\" is because I saved like 7k during high school and then have had a part time job most of the time since then. It's currently summer break and I have 2 jobs and he is taking 3 classes. The problem is that I want to go do fun things, but he often turns down my suggestions for want of money. If it's something I'm excited about, I'll just pay for him because it's better with him there. But then I feel really limited because I have to plan for pay for two. When the issue comes up, it's so hard for me not to get angry when he says something like \"I'm sorry that I'm so poor\" as if there's nothing he can do about it and I'm inherently \"rich\" without working for it. What do?", "summary": "bf complains about being really poor but seems to have no interest in getting a job."}
{"id": "t3_3qgx4q", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Just found out my [22F] boyfriend [24M] has been posting on Craigslist looking for transwomen", "post": "Please help me sort out my thoughts... I'm seriously freaking out about what to do.\n\nI've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and he's wonderful. We've been long distance for the past year, and I'll be the first to admit that I have jealous and insecure tendencies. I snooped on an old email of his a while back and saw that 6 year ago he posted on Craigslist a few times looking for casual encounters with transwomen. Since nothing was posted after we started dating, I didn't think to bring it up, especially because it seemed as though nothing actually happened from the email exchanges he had.\n\nFor some reason, I decided to just check Craigslist's casual encounters page under M4T today in his area, and found an ad with his picture on it. Unmistakingly him, as it's a nude he sent to only me a few months ago. Amongst his ad, it says \"I'm up for anything safe. Still haven't found what I'm looking for\"\n\nI'm in shock, feel like I've been cheated on - if not already, then this feels like premeditated cheating. I seriously don't know what to do or what to think. I know I need to talk to him about this immediately, but he doesn't get off work until a few hours. I don't even know how I should bring up that I found this - it was so random, and I don't know if it would be the best idea to bring up that I had snooped on his email earlier and found earlier postings which led me to snoop on Craigslist today.\n\nPlease help... I can't concentrate on anything besides this right now, and I can't stop freaking out.", "summary": "Found ads on Craigslist posted by boyfriend of 3 years looking for casual encounters with transwomen and don't know how to confront him."}
{"id": "t3_2sx1m3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being a useless lard in a video game.", "post": "I'm playing GTA Online. I get assigned to the contact mission Pickup Sticks. This mission is timed. Our group of four fails the mission twice before we get the hang of it together and finally get all the packages across the area. \n\nOn this third try, we're at the last location before delivery, and the helicopter is sitting on top of a high building -- I'm up here with a rifle, picking off gangsters. Two of my teammates are on the ground because the package was somewhere in that area.\n\nWhere I fucked up: I figure I'd be helpful by taking the chopper closer to the ground so they can just get in and we can fly. I get the thing going and manage to maneuver it down to the pavement, but apparently they wanted the chopper back on the roof, because they started shooting at it. I try to get it back up to the roof but because I suck at helicopters (and honestly, at GTA in general), I waffle around with the damn thing, damage it, and waste our time. Eventually after some struggle, someone else gets the pilot seat and we're off, but because of me, we ran out of time and all that effort is out the window.\n\nI left immediately after that feeling like a complete twat. And someone put a bounty on me as soon as I got back into freemode. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. ):", "summary": "I ruined a mission for three strangers tonight and probably pissed them off."}
{"id": "t3_21te4n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by feeding my dog a midnight snack", "post": "Be me, sitting at my desk studying when my dog comes up and lays her adorable head in my lap begging for a little snack.  So I go to the fridge, grab her food, open it with a can opener, and the lid is a little stuck. I wiggle the lid back and forth and it springs loose in my hand. Grab a plate, look down, and my entire arm, the counter, and the cab of food are covered in blood. I've sliced the tip of my thumb clean open. Deep. \nGrab a wad a paper towels and apply pressure, head over to the ER, and get checked in. \nNow, let me tell you, those nerve endings in your fingertips? They work real well - especially when burning novocaine is injected into the laceration you just gave yourself. \nCurrently, there are 5 sutures in the tip of my left thumb. At least I'm right handed!", "summary": "Don't feed your dog midnight snacks no matter how adorable they are!"}
{"id": "t3_25qotf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting kicked out of college", "post": "Hello all!\n\nMy story begins about 6 years years ago. So I get accepted to a college, an expensive one nonetheless, and proceed to do college things. Throughout my 6 years I faced about 8 academic probations in total, because I'm not a good student. By that, I mean I am not the greatest test taker. I do fairly well on homework and labs and projects, but tests I just cannot do.\n\nSo skip forward 6 years and my GPA is barely above the requirements to stay in school. I go through two bad semesters (Both semesters had 4 C's and 1 D). So I get suspended. Talking to the dean of the college, I am able to take one more semester of 4 courses and get above a 3.0 GPA to prove that I can stay in. If it's not that high, I'm out.\n\nBut I didn't take this as seriously as I should have. I went through each class, doing reasonably well on the homework assignments and projects. However, one class had a lab. I accidentally forgot to submit one lab report, which counted for 20% of the lab grade (you need 70% on the lab grade. If it's lower, you fail the course). No big deal, I can get the next ones done and in one time.\n\nI forgot to submit my final lab report this morning, and ended up with a lab grade of 60%. Because of that, I have failed the course, regardless of what my grade would have been (I was about low 80's). My other course grades are also low B's as well. So it's impossible for me to get above a 3.0 this semester, and that's how I get kicked out of college.", "summary": "The GPA system sucks and I'm a terrible student."}
{"id": "t3_3ku3sx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf [f24] just broke up with me [m25]. I don't want to lose her, but she's unhappy.", "post": "The relationship has been going downhill for a while now. My job has me out of the country 5 days a week, and she works as a waitress so she's working the days I'm not. I live with her and her parents so I can see her as much as possible. We've been together for 4 years in October \n\nI first started noticing that the things were falling apart a year ago when the intimacy started to decline. I prompted conversations about the issue, but it was fluffed off as normal (Honey moon phase). Since then I've tried a few things, since lack of intimacy is a huge problem, to renew the heat - lose weight to be more attractive, seed sexual thoughts in her mind while I'm away, sending photos, little dates (which she's declined), and even that online test that matches your kinks/interests. I've started to notice that she's very uncomfortable with her body, even though she's beautiful (I tell her often), so that may be why the intimacy has declined. \n\nToday, she told me she's unhappy. I eventually got her to explain why, and it was a simple \"us\"... \"Things are different, we're not the same anymore. It's like we're not in a relationship.\" additionally, she feels the need to explore, as I'm only her second sexual partner and she hasn't been single very long in her life; saying that she feels the need to love herself before she can give me what I want - love and intimacy.\n\nI don't want to lose her. She's a great young woman that I can really see raising our children with. I've thrown up the idea of an open relationship, a break, and even starting over (we're going on vacation to Barbados in October for our 4 year anniversary) but they were all shot down. Do i just let her go, and move on?", "summary": "gf [24] broke up with me[25]. I don't want to lose her, but she's really not giving me other options."}
{"id": "t3_2qqwhk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [32/F] three dates with [35/M] Tinder dude, had sex. ZERO texting on holiday.", "post": "I spent the last week of December going on three dates with a guy I met on Tinder that I definitely would have also been into had we not met on Tinder. (I've only been on two failed Tinder dates previously). \n\nThe first date was Sunday evening, just drinks for two hours, which was a good time, ended with a peck on the lips. Discovered we have many mutual acquaintances in common and work in the same industry and share lots of the same ideas, humor and are really attracted to one another. He is not shady and is definitely single. \n\nThe second date came up quickly on Tuesday, which was another quick meet up where he was entertaining a few friends of friends from out of town that he didn't know (he's not American). Also a good time. Told me that he asked a mutual friend about me and she gave me a solid review. \n\n***The next morning, I was talking to a girl at my work (she's in another department) on phone she received a text from her boyfriend asking if he knew me - he was working with the Tinder date guy that day and he asked about me since Tinder guy knew the guy's girlfriend worked with me. She summarized that the guy was apparently really into me. It was flattering.***\n\nThe third date was Friday night, he brought an old friend of his who hung around a little too long and then we went home (to his house) together and had sex, which was FUN and very compatible. I slept over and left in the morning. We determined we'd both be back from holiday the same day (Jan 5th) and would pick up hanging out then. \n\nI want him to be thinking about me as much as I am thinking about him. I don't mind just minimal texting but NO CONTACT is confusing. I want to pick this up after break, and i think I just have to let him drive the scenario where he wants to go with it. I usually have terrible luck in love when i decide to do anything about it.", "summary": "Met dude on Tinder, went on three dates, had sex. Holiday break with NO CONTACT, need advice on what the fuck that means and how I can un-Tinderfy this situation.  (translation: make not casual, i like him)"}
{"id": "t3_22qz6e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it possible to have an long standing marriage with mind-blowing sex or do all marriages end up sexless ? How do you cope ?", "post": "I am a 34(f) married to a 40(m). We have been in a relationship for nearly 7 years. The sex is almost non existent. When it does happen, it is so rote and requires so much effort that is difficult to get and stay aroused. I blamed my spouse for a long time but I don't any longer. We love being together and fulfill our marriage in pragmatic ways. It is our intent to remain together and keep the  relationship intact.\n\nThere are times when I become emotionally frustrated and wish for something more. I feel guilty because what I secretly desire in some ways violate the sacredness of the  marriage. I guess I don't know how to cope. My SO says that our situation is normal and that the downturn comes from being oversaturated with your spouse.", "summary": "Marriage lacks physical spark. Is this normal? What type of expectations should I have as a middle aged married woman ?"}
{"id": "t3_1wdh0z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24M] unsure of [22F] and I should make the next step.", "post": "Hey guys first off thanks for reading.\n\nI've been dating this girl I met for sometime now and I know she is hinting me that she wants to more than date and be exclusive.\n\nI am having a hard time deciding what to do and was wondering if I can get your help. I think my biggest issue is that my last relationship ended badly by my ex cheating on me so I might be having some trust issues. The issue with this new girl is something she said she wanted me to know because she wants to be honest about everything with me?\n\nTurns out she is still friends with one of her on and off dates who sometimes happen to hang out with her and crash in her bed when he's tired. Tell me I'm not being crazy thinking this is not ok?\n\nShe tells me she has no feelings for him anymore but tells me he's the time to always flirt with her but she knows he is joking about it. Personally when she gave me examples it sounded like he was still into her.\n\nShe keeps telling me that if he is a problem she won't hangout with him anymore etc etc But I never really gave her any answers since I wanted some time to process all this. \n\nCan you guys give me some advice on how to handle this? Should I even bother and just move on?\n\nThank you for reading.", "summary": "frequest date wants to be exclusive, but she still hangs out with one of her old on and off dates who sometimes happen to sleep on her bed."}
{"id": "t3_2v2xb5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by yelling at a random kid because he had an icecream", "post": "Okay so this didnt happen today, but when i was around 6 years of age.\n\nSo me and my family and i were road tripping for our annual holiday, but as its a long drive (10 or so hours), we make a fair few stops at petrol stations along the way. \n\nAs were stopped at this one particular servo, about halfway into the trip, i see what excites most 6 year olds, a giant freezer dedicated to icecreams. Yet my dreams of having an icecream to myself were crushed as my parents denied me as, understandably, its a very messy thing to have on a car trip for a kid my age.\n\nWell heres where the real FU begins. I see my older brother, by about 3 years, sitting outside, eating a god damn icecream! I was as enraged as a 6yo can get. So i did what came natural, and i stormed up from behind, tapped him on the shoulder, and with as much sass as i had, proceeded to yell at him \"why do you get a icecream and i dont?!\".\nNeedless to say, the boy who turned around who was infact was not my brother, but wore a very similar shirt, had a look of confusion and fright, and proceeded to hurridly move to the comfort of his parents, now standing just a few meters away. \n\nI then made the walk of shame past them to find my parents.", "summary": "yelled at who i thought was my brother because he got an icecream and i did not. "}
{"id": "t3_nhuf1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, would you give this final an A?", "post": "For my final project in World Politics 116 we are required to author a blog about international relations. I think it stands very well on it's own in regards to quality and effort, but the blogs are graded in four parts, one being \"diversity and quality of readership as seen in the comment section of your blog.\" Unfortunately blogging is hard, yo, and although I am extremely proud of the content and hard work I put into this project, I am not skilled at all when it comes to marketing and distributing a blog. (This is my first try ever.) \n\nIf you appreciate my view, analysis or writing skills, please leave your appreciation / opinion in a comment. If you don't, please let me know! Also by leaving a comment, constructive criticism ftw.", "summary": "Help me do well in class by reading current events and telling me how much my writing sucks/has changed your life. Thank you reddit brothers and sisters!"}
{"id": "t3_35dlhy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "8 year relationship, want to move forward, get married, but Me [27 M] has issues with my girlfriend [26 F] and being sexually attracted to her. Advice?", "post": "I've been in an 8 year relationship with a great, beautiful girl. We have grown up together and we both love each other. She wants to get married, and I would like to get married but I've worried for a very long time about it.\n\nI have a secret desire to be with other women that I find more physically stimulating. I have an obsession with medium to larger boobs and more meat on a female body. My girlfriend's very petite and thin. Though I recognize and acknowledge her beauty, I'm half the time unsatisfied with our intimacy. This is a secret of mine, but she gets frustrated when I lack interest in sex, when sometimes I prefer to watch porn.\n\nBoth she and I are attractive people, but should I let my obsession stand in the way of us getting married? I don't want to divorce or cheat on her. We broke up briefly in the past because of these issues but we got back together because we really love each other and have a very strong emotional bond. Does marriage help kill these desires, or will I always crave this certain body type and live in misery?\n\nAnyone out there go through similar issues?", "summary": "8 year relationship, perfect girl, love her, but desire other women physically more than her 50% of the time. Can we marry?"}
{"id": "t3_17do9d", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is the some laborious, time consuming, and/or stressful a job/task/hobby that is often overlooked or under appreciated?", "post": "My answer?  Video editing.  Most (not all) people don't realize the sheer amount of time, organization, and creative thought goes into editing a movie, whether it be a 2 hour Hollywood production or a 2 minute YouTube video.  \n\nFor the sake of this answer, I'll use a 2 minute YouTube video (without storyboards or script, i.e. filming a spontaneous event) as an example, as that is what I work in mostly.\n\nCreatively, it's not just a matter of throwing a bunch of clips together.  Every clip has to be watched thoroughly, and often movies are not edited chronologically, so you have to organize a mess (often hundreds) of clips in a manner that doesn't bore the viewer, but at the same time doesn't confuse or disorient them.\n\nTechnically, it's not just simply choosing clips to use.  You have to consider the manner in which the clips were filmed and how to edit accordingly, including resolution, frames per second, color matching and toning.\n\nAfter hours upon hours of watching every clip that has been filmed (a 3 minute movie can easily have 3 hours of footage that isn't used), and choosing exactly what clips to use, and what order they should be used, and with what music, audio tinkering, and sometimes dealing with slow motion, or time lapse editing, a video editor can easily put an hour of work for 10 seconds of final film (again, widely ranges, but just as example). \n\nAfter all this time, you upload your video to your viewer audience, they sit and watch it for 2 minutes, and it's over.  Obviously there are many people that understand how much work, time, and thought go into editing, but even I myself catch myself watching a YouTube movie with glazed eyes and forgetting how much work it really took to tell that story.  Some people would argue that a well edited film should be unnoticeable, but I guess it adds to my argument.", "summary": "i edit movies.  takes a long time.  appreciate that shit."}
{"id": "t3_2h1en1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23m] gf [27f] of 4/mo friendly towards guy acting douchey towards me. Haven't spoken since. Am I over reacting?", "post": "Long stupid story short, I'm out at a bar with my gf. She's very attractive and gets a lot of attention. We're sitting at a communal table and some guy and his gf start talking to us, and from the beginning he tries to make me look bad. He took every opportunity to make snide comments about me, from my age to what I do.\n\nNormally I don't care, because I simply wouldn't carry on the conversation. My gf on the other hand asked him what he does for a living. Turns our he's a director for some small company, and my gf desperately wants a new job. Eventually she gets his card and we go our own ways.\n\nI can't help but feel betrayed, like she sided with the person being a jerk to me. Every day she complains about her job, because she truly does hate it -- but even she recognized he was being a douche to me. She apologized at the end, and blamed her lapse in judgement towards her hatred for her job. Is this worth breaking up over?", "summary": "gf gets biz card from guy acting douchey towards me. Ignoring her calls since"}
{"id": "t3_4n423l", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Are these Ethical and/or Legal practices of a Psychiatrist?", "post": "Hello r/needAdvice, I've been going to see my Psychiatrist who has been prescribing me medication without any real diagnosis. He simply prescribes me the medication because I have trouble focusing. That is pretty much the only reason he will give them to me. Is this a valid enough reason? There's no real diagnosis as to why I am taking them.\n\nI decided to get a second opinion in terms of my conditions but that Psychiatrist is also just doing the same thing. I wanted to get a full diagnosis so I can understand what I'm tackling as well as the fact that my insurance company will not cover the medication unless it were under a diagnosis.\n\nSo is this a normal thing that Psychiatrist do? Is this not unethical or somewhat illegal?", "summary": "Being prescribed medication for focus but no diagnosis, is this ethical and legal? If so, whats the rationale behind this and why do this?"}
{"id": "t3_tfhox", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Missed Opportunity", "post": "19M here, hmm I'm gonna lost on what to do right now reddit. The other day while in a class this pretty girl walks in and she sits next to me and does some work on a computer.My friend who knows this girl says hi to her and I don't really think much of it, she starts talking outload to a degree saying things like,\" I hate notebooks they remind me of highschool\"\n\nMe being tired as hell didn't respond since I didn't think it was aimed toward me to any degree. When she finally left I actually started thinking about her and now I'm kinda punching myself for missing an opportunity.\n\nI see her in school on wednesdays and thursdays but don't see her walking around by herself I mainly I only see her in her classes. I would like to get to know her but I'm not sure how to go about it. I've asked girls randomly out but thats always turned out with a \"no thanks I have a boyfriend\" or something similiar. I was thinking of asking my friend is she was single but then I'm not sure since I don't want to create akwardness between us.\n\nJust looking for advice on what to do mainly not alot of experience in this department. Thanks for any responses.", "summary": "Missed opportunity with girl lost on what to do now"}
{"id": "t3_2pmjc1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving a phone-operated phishing scammer the last four digits of my social security number.", "post": "TIFU but I hope the damage isn't too bad. \n\nI received a phone call that showed up on my caller ID as my own number. I answered and an automated voice said that there was an issue with my AT&T account and that they needed the aforementioned last four digits of my social to verify my identity. \n\nHaving recently (about one hour prior) changed my wireless data plan with AT&T, I thought nothing of it and obliged with the digits. The call ended about ten seconds later. \n\nAfter a few minutes I realized that I fell for one of the simplest phishing scams out there. I did some detective work on Google and found that other people receive these calls as well, mostly under the premise that their bank account has been breached.\n\nHow fucked am I? Is there anything I should do to minimize the self inflicted damage?", "summary": "Phisher called, I gave them the last four digits of my social security number without even thinking about."}
{"id": "t3_31ygza", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 4 years, very different opinions on my current state of depression.", "post": "My live in, long term boyfriend and I seem to disagree about my depression on a daily basis. I understand that he wants to motivate me, but it seems that he thinks I can magically just make this go away. And that if I dont, I'm one of those \"dumb people\" because he was depressed for a time until he \"snapped out of it.\" Clearly not all people are the same and I don't seem to have that luxury. \n\nRight now I'm trying out different antidepressants, which usually come with a slew of weird side effects every time I switch. Sometimes I get grumpy, sometimes I feel sick, and most of the time I want to sleep all day. \n\nI guess the question is, when you're struggling to deal with a mental problem that haunts every moment of every single day, how do you explain that it doesn't just go away? It has destroyed my school this year, made things that I care about completely uninteresting, and he has seen this struggle but doesn't seem to understand. It just kind of hurts, even though this medication makes me pretty numb. \n\nOther than that he is the love of my life - I just want to be able to put in words how I feel without feeling invalidated.", "summary": "My boyfriend thinks I can just snap out of my depression and is getting frustrated in my lack of interest in everything."}
{"id": "t3_wsk26", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why all the Starbucks hate Reddit?", "post": "Long term lurker here. During my many travels through the internet, one theme seems to prevail over all; a general dislike, or even hate for Starbucks. I will say that yes, I am a Starbucks employee and I understand fact that Starbucks as a corporation tends to push mom and pop coffee shops out of areas. In this sense yes, I agree with the general mass. No bueno. \n\nOther than that, as a Starbucks employee once you get past the everyday douchefuckery that involves dealing with the general public and their general public needs, it's actually a decent place to work; definitely my least stressful job ever. Great benefits, equal opportunity hiring....generally speaking, Starbucks seems to do a decent job of trying to have a sense of community, at least in the area I work. The baristas I work with are all amazing; as a team we do our best to inform people about our coffee and as a whole I'd like to think we enjoy our jobs to some degree. I know there's a generalization about baristas being pretentious, but I thoroughly enjoy answering questions about drinks and coffee, and dont mind taking the time to help people.\n\nIt just seems to me that alot of the hate I hear coming from people is hivemind. Yeah, the people who come into Starbucks are generalized as being hipster douchefags, but how does this reflect on the company itself? I dont expect everyone to love our coffee, there are only a couple of blends I enjoy myself and I can get down with Caribou Coffee and Dunken Donuts as well as the Mom and Pops in the area.\n\nI dont know, Im just baffled guys. I'm not ashamed to say I love Starbucks, not only because they give me money but because I feel that as a company, they're pretty decent. Is there some underlying Starbucks corporate scandal I dont know about? Did I miss the Starbucks hate train?", "summary": "Why cant we just spread the coffee love?"}
{"id": "t3_rv9bc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What are some moments in your life when you wanted to go \"That is utter bullshit!\", but couldn't?", "post": "For me, it was quite recently. In Sweden, where I live, we have national tests in Swedish, English and Math: Everyone in Sweden in the same age group take the same test at the same time. It's quite a big deal.\n\nRecently, I did mine in Oral English. We were in a group of five, discussing news stories. There is this guy who's a bit shy, and hadn't said anything through the 10 minutes we've been there, and the time is almost up for our group. Suddenly, he starts telling a story, and he's doing it good. \n\nIt was about a couple who was in Vegas, entered an elevator in their hotel. After them comes a black man in a hoodie. When he enters the elevator, and the doors are shut, he says \"down\". The couple dives to the floor, thinking they're getting mugged. The black guy laughs, presses his floor button, rides there and exists, still laughing. The next day, when checking out, the couple receives a bouquet of roses made out of $100 bills. In the bouquet is a note, which reads \"Thanks for the laughs! -Eddie Murphy\".\n\nhowever, as any frequent Snopes-visitor knows, this story is complete [bullshit] All while he was telling this story, I just wanted to go \"No. That never happened. It's an urban myth.\" But I couldn't just ruin his last try at a national test.", "summary": "A shy kid tells [this myth] as a fact on an important exam, and I can't correct him. "}
{"id": "t3_2ixkbr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my SO[26M] of over a year, am I unreasonable to be annoyed with his phone policy?", "post": "Ugh I feel ridiculous for posting about this, but after what feels like the millionth blow up about this, I need outside perspectives.\n\nMy partner of a year and I are both on our phones a lot. I try to cut back when we're together, but I'm fine with us both sitting on the couch or in separate rooms browsing through the interwebs silently. My problem is I put my phone down when he begins talking to me, because to me that becomes more important. \n\nHe does not feel the same. My partner is involved in a lot of online discussions surrounding his hobby, as well as general tumblring or Facebook scrolling. This is fine with me, but when I try talking to him or tell him a story, he literally refuses to look up from his screen. I never attempt to get his attention if he's texting or on a call, but if he's just commenting on a thread I don't really see the issue. When he ignores me while I'm speaking for random people on the interest who aren't even waiting for his reply, I feel hurt and unimportant. The way I see it is, the thread will *always* be there, but my excitement in sharing something with him will not, or the moment will pass. \n\nI've tried to tell him this, and he basically feels that it's selfish and childish of me to expect him to put his phone down \"just because I feel like talking\". I've asked him explicitly how he wants me to act when I want to talk when he's on the phone, and his response was that I should ask to talk to him, knowing he may say \"no\". Apparently 90% of the time he'll say yes, but that I can't expect to be prioritised over online commenting. \n\nTo me this feels weirdly clinical and cold. It ruins the spontaneity of engaging and connecting with my SO in a conversation. Having to ask permission just feels like I'm in school. \n\nI would stress that I am an independent woman who does not need or want my partners attention to be constantly on me. I'm a big fan of my own space, but this just feels hurtful.", "summary": "Boyfriend thinks he shouldn't need to look up from his phone when I'm trying to talk to him. I think I deserve some goddamn eye contact."}
{"id": "t3_4kdwpp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend[23F] doesn't like that I have my own chef and maid", "post": "I have been working from home since I was 18. I moved to another countries for two years and always lived with one or two mates and we always had own chef who did shopping and made food for us and then we had maid clean our place once a week. It made everything so much easier because we would work at home and then we'd have time to do all kind of things while we didn't have to worry about cooking or getting take out every single time.\n\nI moved back to my home country around 8 months ago and met my gf around that time. We have been together for 6 months and we get along well and have small arguments but nothing huge at all. But she absolutely hates that I have own chef and maid still and I should just make my own things and has said she might leave me if I continue like this. I don't see any problems if I hire someone to cook for me and clean my place every once in a while. When she's over here I let her cook and won't have maid / chef here but when I'm alone I just have them over. I don't know what should I do if she isn't fine with this and if I should start cleaning/cooking by myself which I haven't done for past 3 years.\n\nShe has talked how would it ever work if we moved together and started family and I just told her that it won't affect that in anyway and as long as I live alone I'm planning on having own chef/maid. She got really pissed and said to give her some time.", "summary": "Have own chef and maid but gf doesn't like it and said she might leave me if I don't start cooking/cleaning by myself."}
{"id": "t3_2szzu7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [21F] is now forbidden from coming to my house [22M] by her family. Relationship is fading.", "post": "GF and I have been together for a month.  We both live with our parents.  On occasion, she has spent the night at my place, only to be scolded later by her family.  She was warned to stop sleeping over or face being kicked out of the house.\n\nHeeding their warning, we decided to limit how late we spend time together.  However, a few nights ago, after partying at a friends', we ended up drinking a lot.  A friend dropped us off at my house, where GF left her car.  I told her to sober up inside before driving home.  We ended up passing out.\n\nThis was the last straw.  She's forbidden from coming over now.  I'm still welcome to come to her place, but with a strict curfew and supervision.  It's putting a strain on our relationship.\n\nWe still see each other outside the house, but without being able to spend time together in privacy, the relationship is losing some of its steam.\n\nI really like this girl, and I don't want to break up over this, but it may be out of our control.  Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "GF's forbidden from coming to my house, and I can't go to hers without severe restrictions.  Not really enjoying it.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_39416s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (23F) get over ex's (23M) new relationship?", "post": "I'm friends with my ex whom I no longer have any feelings for and who currently has a new girlfriend. It didn't bother me at first but now I notice that he does things with her that I had always wanted to do with him but he wouldn't want to. For example, I would have to beg to spend time with him sometimes and with his new gf he'll be there at a drop of a hat if she asks. It's really taking a beating to my self esteem and I keep wondering why he's such a good bf to her and why he wasn't to me. I know it's irrational but how can I shake it off? I keep trying but the feeling that I wasn't good enough creeps back in. \n\nAlso, keep in mind that he was my first relationship and this is the first time I'm dealing with a situation like this.", "summary": "How do I shake the feeling that I wasn't good enough when my ex does things with his new gf that he wouldn't do with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3nv5lq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking a 2x4 over my head", "post": "After a few drinks with my boys we decided to break up this wooden sign in our backyard. Seeing my friend violently snap a piece in half I felt I had to do my part. Grabbing the nearest 2x4 I gave myself a running start before swinging it over my head and slamming it on the ground. I felt a pain and my head and felt a lot of blood flowing from the wound. Apparently the 2x4 had broken in half and the broken piece flew up and splintered against my scull. Thankfully my only sober friend was able to drive me to the ER where I recieced 3 staples in my head.", "summary": "Slammed a 2x4 on the ground and shortly thereafter got staples in my head"}
{"id": "t3_2lurs1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M/F] with my ex-bf [22 M/F] recently broke up and no contact was set up, but he is still reaching out to me. What do I do?", "post": "Hello, all. I just recently got out of a long term relationship of 5 years. My ex and I used to attend the same university, but I got into med school and since moved away. The distance was rough on us, and it led to a lot of changes on my end. In the end, we decided to end it and did so amicably. When we first broke up, I asked that we remain friends and still update one another one each other's lives. At first, I thought that I could easily fall back into being friends with him, but I realized that it was too painful to talk to him or text him and be reminded of the end of the relationship. \n\nA few days after the break up, he called me, and I didn't pick up because I knew it would be too painful to speak to him. I sent him an email explaining that I wanted no contact for a little while so that we could both heal from the break up. I did have nothing from him for a day or so, but this morning I woke up and saw a text from him wishing me luck for an upcoming test. Seeing the text made me sad and a little upset that he is unwilling to respect the no-contact rule that I requested.\n\nI think that he continues to reach out to me because he doesn't have as good of a support group as I do (family and friends who support me and check in on me periodically), and for the past 5 years, I was that support. So, he is reaching out to me, but I don't think that reaching out to me will help either of us heal. I don't want to be mean and ignore him especially since I still care for him, but at the same time, I told him that I needed distance and time and no contact through texting, calling, etc. What should I do? I hate to think he's having a rough time with no one to talk to, but I really don't think I'm the one he should be reaching out to. Should I reply to his text very generally? Should I just reply at all?", "summary": "Recently broken up amicably with long term boyfriend of 5 years. Established a no contact rule after realizing that it was painful to maintain contact, but am still getting contacted by ex. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2sxsjb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [23/m] was sleeping beside colleague. Ended up she starts fooling around. Should i tell GF? [23/f]", "post": "So me and my male colleague was crashing at a third colleague's place, after a night out. My male colleague crashed on the couch and i was a totally wreck, had gotten to much to drink. I took the choice of crashing beside our female colleague. Nothin were supposed to happen. I kinda wake up of her sittin on top of me and is dry humpin and the next second when I have my counscious back, I have my hand down her pants and she has her hand squeezin my d*ick outside my pants. Then she is questioning me if I want to have sex. I just remember that I'm pulling away and then she leaves the bed. I never even kissed the girl. This small encounter have leaved me with a guilt-trip and anxiety level going thrue the roof.\n\nThere was never any intention or idea to have any sexuall encounter. To be honest i'm feelin a bit used. I love my girl so deeply. I am prepared to spend the rest of my life with her.\n\nI need advice from u guys. Should I tell her exactly how it was and if she might forgive me, she will have to live with the picture of me and someone else for the rest of her life. Or should I just leave it like it was, a drunken mistake that i almost was in no control of.", "summary": "Falls asleep beside colleague. She is tryin it on me. Wakes up with my hand in her pants. Anxiety and guilt. Should I just move on, without telling GF?"}
{"id": "t3_3p58w2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My BF (M19) and I (F19) are LDR and he's ignoring the emotional pain he causes", "post": "We've been dating for about 4 months, and the first half of our relationship was incredible. We talked all the time, and stayed up late texting/snapchatting one another. He plays hockey, and he moved to the city where his team is, and steadily we've talked less and less. Now he doesn't really respond to my texts, and when he does it's a few days later. \n\nThis didn't bother me so much, but this week on monday I brought up that it didn't feel like we were dating anymore, and that I felt ignored and unimportant to him. He responded two days later that he was sorry, and he didn't know why he was doing this. I told him that I wanted to work it out, but if he didn't, I would rather he told me now. He hasn't responded to my texts, but he's been looking at my snapchat stories everyday. I deleted him off snapchat, because that hurt and angered me, but this waiting for him to respond to my concerns is giving me constant anxiety attacks, and my friends are telling me it's not worth it. I'm giving him until sunday to respond, than I'm breaking it off. I've tried to reach out but he's so closed off.", "summary": "BF ignores my texts, but looks at my social media."}
{"id": "t3_10al59", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recently, I discovered my friend thinks I gave her boyfriend/holiday romance guy head. It kinda explains why she's been distant lately, but what should I do?", "post": "Ok, so a bit of background. It was the last day of our vacation and the three of us were sat in his (the boyfs) room. We ended up playing strip poker. Half way through she left but said she'd be back in a minute, so I stayed a bit longer. When she came back, she said she was going to bed, but being the last day of our vacation, I didn't want to leave then, and I still had my clothes on, so I just said we'd finish playing. \n\nI really regret not leaving with her, but I thought everything would be fine as I was still fully clothed. It was an error of judgement. \n\nHe starts getting touchy-feeley and makes me take my top of, which, regretfully, I did. Then he starts trying to get me to have sex with him. I refuse. He starts trying to get me to give him a handjob. I sort of pat it. He trys to put it between my tits but I'm moving away. \n\nAt this point the door busts open and it's my friend. He springs away like a bolt of lightening, which I thought then made the situation look worse. She said she'd forgotten her purse and leaves straight away. Only last week my friend tells me she'd returned to our room crying and saying she'd caught me giving him head. \n\nNow I don't know what to do. It was a while ago, so I don't just want to randomly bring it up out of no-where, but we were pretty good friends, and the last thing I want is to ruin it because of all this. I know I was in the wrong staying, but in fairness it was the sort of holiday where nakedness and psudo-sexual acts were common-place.", "summary": "Friend walked in on awkward nakedness with her holiday romance putting his dick near my face and runs back to our room crying and tells our friend she caught me giving him head."}
{"id": "t3_22j1jo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (27f) with my bf (24m) co dependency, fighting, begging him to see a therapist. I'm at my wits end.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for about 3 years and have a child together. I have been begging him to get help for his bi polar for two years now. He used to be physical but not anymore. \n\nWhen we argue it turns very heated and he ends up yelling and screaming, and I spend most of the argument begging him to lower his voice. \n\nI take care of all of our finances and pay rent, things are very tight money wise as he doesn't work and hasn't held a job for more then 3 months for well over two years.\n\nI tell him to get out when it seems he might become physical and he refuses to. Then at random arguments he actually does storm out but not be for breaking something or leaving with my bank card or taking the only form of entertainment I have with him.\n\nHere is where the co dependence kicks in. I beg him to come back, part of me feels like I can't live with out him and I need him and all that other crap. It makes me feel disgusted with my self to feel this way.\n\nHe says I nit pick at him and bitch at him because I bring things that upset me to him. That I treat him like he's a house pet because I tell him to get out when he is bordering on getting physical. That I'm checked out of the relationship because I don't support him in his struggle with his big polar ( I'm not equipped to sort out his mental issues, this is why I beg him to get help).\n\nMy self esteem is so in the shitter after this relationship has been on my shoulders for 3 years. How do I sort through these feelings of co dependency. So that I'm not some loser begging for him to come back.\n\nHas anyone else had a tough to end relationship? How did you set things final and how did you cope with the massive change?", "summary": "I'm a co- dependant idiot, how do I make changes that last, or fix my relationship so its healthy."}
{"id": "t3_15b0lh", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Exposed English Professor for unmitigated bullshit", "post": "I took a comparative literature my sophomore year of college and ended up with this English Professor who had a very low opinion of teaching undergrad Gen Ed courses. We were reading Moby Dick, one of my favorite books, and in classic nerd style, I spent all quarter working on the paper. I was very happy with how it turned out, but when I got it back, she had given me an F and had just written \"See me!\" on it.\n\nI went to see her and she said \"these ideas are too sophisticated for a college sophomore to have come up with. It had to have been plagiarized. I brought in all of my notes, outlines, previous drafts - it was obviously my work. She said - find, but it is still an F paper because it is terrible! She gave me a \"chance to redeem my grade\" by rewriting it.\n\nThe paper was typed (this was in the 80s - no computers) so I coped the paper word for word in blue ink and went back to her office hours. She told me she could tell I had \"really worked on the paper\" and gave the paper a C. Then she sent me home to rewrite it again.\n\nI recopied the paper word for word, this time in black ink, and brought it back, and she begrudgingly gave me an A. I have her a nice big smile, thanked her for her time, and then went right to the chair of the department with all of the papers. Long story short, she was put on probation and had to have the chair sign off on her paper grades to ensure that she was being objective.", "summary": "English prof gave me 4 different assessments for the same paper - ended up being supervised for failing to grade objectively."}
{"id": "t3_2rbgbm", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Do I (20M) move on or wait for my best friend (20f) to finish her promise?", "post": "I asked my best friend to be my girlfriend twice. The first time she said she wasn't ready. The second time, she said \"I still don't know. I like being friends\". I took that as sign that I'm just going to drop it. Alright, fair enough. Move on. We'll be friends. \n\nBut she hit me with a curve ball. She kissed me. I asked her what we are few days later and she said \"I don't know\". After prying into her a bit, she told me that she made a promise with her parents not to date in college (she admitted it was stupid). I told her I respect whatever decision you make, and she said \"I'm afraid I won't find a guy like you. You're the ideal guy for me. I don't want my first kiss, your first kiss to go to waste. I wanted you to be my first kiss. I like you. But my answer is no, to the most genuine guy I know and love, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry \". She was crying hard and logged off before I could say anything. \n\nShe respects her parents and never breaks promises. I feel like that was the deciding factor, not her true feelings. If I wait, I'd be waiting 2 years for when we both graduate from college.\n\n I need help as I'm blinded by emotion. I don't date people easily and that's what scares me.", "summary": "Not sure to wait 2 years (the rest of college)  to date my best friend or not. She has feelings for me, but made a promise not to date in college with her parents. I don't date people easily."}
{"id": "t3_371m69", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [24F] tell my Dad [53M] that I'm eloping?", "post": "Hello, Reddit. \n\nI'm in love with a wonderful man! We want to get married, and we don't have the money for a wedding, so we want to elope. When we did consider having a wedding, it was going to be small. But if we're gonna spend $5K, I'd rather pay off some student loans. \n\nI have a terrible and complicated relationship with my dad. We do not get along. Like, at all. I already told my mom that my SO and me are eloping. She's fine with it, but she insists I tell my dad before it takes place rather than after. \n\nSo Reddit, what is the best way to go about this?", "summary": "my dad and I do not get along. How do I tell him I'm eloping?"}
{"id": "t3_4bmqzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[17 M] my girlfriend [17F] just bought prescription pills again. What now?", "post": "So my worst nightmare came true last night. \nMy girlfriend was clean off of oxy and Ritalin for the past month but tonight she bought a whole lot from her dealer and I was only able to stop once I called her. I honestly feel betrayed as shes been lying to me for the past month about not needing it anymore and i've tried getting her help and watching over her but nothing has helped.\nAt this point do I just end the relationship and realize there is nothing I can do to save her from herself since she refuses to get any formal help?", "summary": "Girlfriend said she was clean, bought prescription pills last night, Do i break up with her?"}
{"id": "t3_k7cve", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Follow your dreams or play it safe?", "post": "So my dream is do stand up comedy, improv comedy, writing and/or sketch comedy full time. I have done improv for 11-12 years now and I have been featured in some pretty mainstream comedy videos online, I have done my own sketch show, and I have done my fair share of networking. I think I am ready to take my \"leap of faith\" and I feel like time is only working against me... \n\nMy problem is I have been raised to do one thing my whole life. I have learned that there is a \"right\" way to do everything and I have, for the most part, played by the rules. I went to high school, then college, then got a career and here I am. Financially I am fine. I am a 26 year old single man that owns his own house and car. I mean like anyone I have/had my problems but for the most part I have a good, logical head on my shoulders. (WHICH IS WHY THIS IS SO HARD!) :)\n\nAnother issue is my two brothers rent rooms from me and they are for lack of better words... dead beats. My mom cannot afford to house them and I do love the idiots. I have no idea how they would react if I essentially evicted them to just pursue something they would never understand and where I could potentially lose everything. \n\nSo, I have a few questions for you reddit... \n\nDo I leave it all behind? Has anyone here ever done it or something similar? Can anyone lend help, advice, a job in the industry? haha. I could really use any and all CONSTRUCTIVE advice/criticism on the matter because frankly I am not really close to anyone anymore that I can have these kind of conversations with. \n\nIf anyone wants more details about my mundane and lonely existence please don't hesitate to ask! :)", "summary": "Should I quit my career that pays for my general well being (house, car, etc.) or follow my dreams in comedy and risk throwing it all away?"}
{"id": "t3_324q99", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by losing a butt plug up my ass, base and all.", "post": "So a couple of weeks ago, my fianc\u00e9 texted me this:\n\n\"I am going to pick you up from the house after I finish work.  Wear a dress or skirt, no panties, and have your butt plug in.  When you get in the car you are to immediately suck me off.  At some point, I will fuck you.\"\n\nWe're pretty kinky, and have a D/s bedroom dynamic, so this kinda thing pushes all the right buttons for me.  I usually just use a smaller anal douche if I know we're probably going to have anal sex, but since the time frame was left open and he didn't indicate that we'd be at home when all this happened, I went to the drug store to pick up a fleet enema (I love anal almost as much as PIV, but I can only enjoy it if I don't have to worry about cleanliness, so enemas are not an uncommon practice for us), and decided to get the bigger sized one just for the hell of it.  Mistake one.\n\nMistake two was waiting too long to administer the enema.  They aren't terribly comfortable, and putting in a fairly large glass butt plug somewhat soon afterward is even less so.  I kept feeling like I had to go to the bathroom (mostly phantom sensation), so I kept taking it out, doing my thing, cleaning everything, and putting the plug back in (thus further relaxing my butthole).\n\nAt one point I had to pee, but I was tired of the in and out routine, so I kept the plug in, but just held a finger on the base to keep me from pushing it out.  Mistake three.\n\nBecause my generous, penetration loving butthole opened right up against that small amount of pressure and swallowed the base.  The base meant to prevent butt swallowing.  Fuck.\n\nI managed to get it out without going to the hospital, but there was a decent amount of blood (even though there was no pain??), and I had to text the fianc\u00e9 about the situation to let him know why butt stuff was off the table for a couple weeks.", "summary": "Prepping my butt for anal led to an over-relaxation, and my butt got thirsty for whole butt plug.  Managed to expel plug without a hospital visit, laughs and (non-anal) sexy times still commenced."}
{"id": "t3_3m3vlv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I trust her?", "post": "Hello I recently became very skeptical regarding my relationship with my ex-gf/ gf. She is a 20 year old woman with a child who views me as her dad. Her biological father has never been in her life and she does not mind me being a dad like figure towards her child. We had a very healthy and loving relationship with no problems to mention about. The reason why we broke up was because her mom passed away about two months ago,shortly thereafter she told me she needed space for awhile and to live her own life with no strings attached in will return to me in time. I asked her if that means you will see other guys in which she replied no.\n\nOnce this occurred her life began to spiral downhill as well as her personality. Things happened about a month into it and eventually i moved in with her. Are intimacy has decreased and as well informs me that the idea of intimacy makes her uncomfortable. For the most part we have a plutonic friendship were we occasionally cuddle ,have sex and express our emotions for one another but recently we hit some bumps in the road. I managed to see her fb and found her flirting with a old friend of hers that lives five hours away. Flirting as he asking sexy pictures,calling her babe and calling her, she even mentioned i did not live with her and it has been occurring since occurring since last week.\n\n I confronted her about it and I told her just because we are not together you have informed me that indeed we are not done and you want to get back together with me. That when you love someone just because you do not have the label you should do something like that. We talked it out and she told me that i have nothing to worry about that it was reckless talking and she will stop immediately and ask for me to trust that she does without proof that she will. I informed her how disrespectful it is for her to do this and a contradiction to what she asked for so my question is should i trust her or should i be prepared for the worse case scenario?", "summary": "me and my ex girlfriend who lost her mom in the last two months asked for space which was the reason why we broke up,however i saw on her fb were she was flirting with this guy since last week should i trust she will stop after confronting her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_1tknal", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is it worth it for me to consolidate my student loans?", "post": "Hi all, I'm going to keep this as basic as I can, but please let me know if you need more detail to help me make a decision.\n\nI have approximately $56k total  in student loan debt.\n\n$26k in Chase Private Loans (Variable Rates)\n\n* 5k at 5%\n* $5.5k at 5.75%\n* $5k at 6.5%\n* $5.5k at 6.6%\n* $5k at 6.75%\n* $500 at 7.25%\n\n$7k in Federal Perkins Loans (Fixed Rate) \n\n* $7k at 5% \n\n$23k in Federal Stafford Loans (Fixed Rate)\n\n* $5k at 4.5%\n* $2k at 5.6% \n* $5k at 6%\n* $11k at 6.8%\n\nI have an offer from SoFi to consolidate all of my student loans in either:\n\n* 10-Year variable rate starting at 3.92%\n* 5-Year fixed rate at 5.625%\n\nI am not sure what to do. I think these are my options, I'd like some advice on which one to choose.\n\n1. Put all $56k into the 10-Year Variable (Risky, but best potential value)\n2. Put only the loans with interest rates > 5.625% into the 5-Year Fixed rate ~$37k (Safe, best safe value)\n3. Put all of my private variable rate loans and only the fixed rate loans > 5.625% into the 5-Year fixed rate ~$42k (Safest, but might not be the best value)\n4. Put all $56k into the 5-Year Fixed (Simplicity, worst value)\n\nAre there any options I'm missing out on here? I have a pretty good credit score (~760-770) and I can afford putting about $1000 into my student loans every month. Is a 5.625% fixed rate a good fixed rate or do you think I can do better elsewhere?", "summary": "I have a 3.9% variable or a 5.6% fixed consolidation offer on the table. $37k of my $56k loans are above the 5.6% rate and about half are variable rates. Should I consolidate my loans? If so, what's the best strategy?"}
{"id": "t3_3givr9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by ordering a laptop without reading carefully", "post": "This happened during the past few days, only noticed my mistake a few hours ago.\n\nThursday I ordered a laptop after struggling to find a website willing to ship to the Netherlands. \n\nThinking I had found the perfect solution: Use the german Amazon instead of the normal one, I went ahead and ordered it.\n\nNow on to the FU, one of my friends suggested it would be fun to have a lanparty this weekend, to which I happily announced that it would be far more easy for me this time around, since I'd have a laptop (the previous lan party's were a bit of a struggle because of my desktop). Multiple friends were like: oh nice, what are the specs, to which I replied with the link to the german amazon. One of my friends noticed a big mistake, the keyboard layout is qwertz. Which I obviously didn't notice, thinking the german amazon would ship the exact same product as the normal amazon.\n\nSo tomorrow my laptop will finally come, and I guess I'll have to return it, probably having to pay for the shipping too", "summary": "Didn't notice the keyboard layout"}
{"id": "t3_36yel2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M23] have been dating a girl [F25] for 4 months, shes not ready to commit. Am I selfish for seeing what happens with her while also keeping an open mind to other women?", "post": "We have been dating for 4 months and sleeping together for 6. When she first started sleeping with me she had just got out of an engagement with the father of her child. We both agreed that she wasn't ready to be in a committed relationship yet but we struggled to take things slow and rushed into everything.  \n\nRecently she decided she wanted to have a break and it really tore me up because i actually really adore this women with all my heart. We agreed to take things slower and see each other less while she sorts some stuff out and figures out who she is and what she wants.  While i am not 100% happy with that i also understood and have backed off a little. \n\nI really want things to work out with her but i also have no idea how long itll be before she is willing to commit.  Is it stupid and selfish of me to keep my options to other women open or is this a normal thing to do since we are only dating and not in a committed relationship? (Her words)", "summary": "She isnt ready to commit but still wants me in her life. Is it stupid and selfish of me to keep my options to other women open and is this a normal thing to do since we are only dating and not in a committed relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_2w5fgv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling an elderly man I \"don't handle the large ones well\"", "post": "okay so I( 25f)  work in fast food and a elderly guy came up to the counter wanting a large ice cream cone. Everythings fine so far.\n\nThe problem is I'm still not good at making large cones which is sad I know but oh well.\n\nI made the guy his cone and the ice cream was a little off center and tilting. \n\nHe said \"that' okay I'm a fast licker\". This alone was sufficiently hilarious because my mind is always in the gutter and I got a laugh out of it.\n\nHowever, my XXX brain retorts with \"I'm sorry I don't handle the large ones well...\"\n\nI don't think he heard me and if he did he might have not understood how dirty that could be interpreted. \n\nI felt dirty and not in the good way. I told my bf about this and his reaction was one word: \"wow\". So pretty apropo. \n\nSo that's my fuck up redditors.", "summary": "accidentally made a dirty comment to an elderly customer and felt dirty"}
{"id": "t3_1139ow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I think my boss is stealing tips from me at work... What should I do, Reddit?", "post": "So I work at a small pizza shop on a college campus as an assistant manager. Yesterday was gameday (our biggest days sales wise) and I opened the shop at 9 as usual, left at 2, and then came back at 5 to work until 9 again. Now when I left at 2 there was $4 in the tip jar (I think no big deal, I'll just grab that at the end of the night), however, once the end of my night shift came and went, I had forgotten to grab my tips. So I text the GM to put all my tips from my shifts into an envelope so I can get it this morning when I came into work. He said he would do that, but when I got here today there was only $4 in the tip jar (no envelope). Obviously I was pissed. The store was packed pretty much all night, so there's no way that there were no tips from 2 to 9. To futher my case, I checked the numbers from last night and found that the GM fudged the numbers. We came out $45 over what we should have had (basically the tips on credit cards that hadn't been pulled that night due to how busy we were). The GM wrote down that the books came out even, when I really think he took the tips I worked my ass off for... So Reddit, how should I confront this situation? Has anybody else faced a situation like this?", "summary": "found evidence of my boss taking my tips at work. I work too hard for bullshit like this. Any advice, reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_1xy00f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What is the right way to handle the breakup of two equally close friends?", "post": "Apologies for any language issue in advance, English is not my native tongue.\n\nMy partner \"John\" and I are best friends with another couple who will probably be splitting up soon. \"Maria\" and \"David\" have been together for about 4 years, and John and Maria have been good friends since high school. David has been really good to and for Maria and is an all around great guy. Maria confided in me recently however that he has been thinking about breaking up for a lot of typical feelings-reasons (not ready for the long term relationship that she wants, etc). She's devastated about it. Although I'm pretty frustrated with David because he's being really wishy washy about what he wants and hurting her in the process, it's not exactly an unpardonable offense. I know that breakups are really hard. I still love both of them no matter what.\n\nThat said, what is the best way to handle this from an outside perspective? We live in a small town where everybody knows each other and have a large friend group that gets together multiple times weekly and host a big party at our place once every couple weeks. We have multiple tabletop games going that both of them are involved in. How can john and I remain friends with both of them under the circumstances?\n\nEverybody involved is approximately 25.", "summary": "Our best friends are breaking up. How do we handle it without any hurt feelings and with as much tact and kindness as possible?"}
{"id": "t3_2da1ly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23M] not fuck things up with a girl [22f] I've been seeing for three weeks?", "post": "I really like this girl and from what I can tell she really likes me. We've been seeing each other for 3 weeks and it's great. We've gone on some awesome dates. Had a couple sleepovers which have been amazing. \n\nWe have been taking it slow and I am really excited to see where this goes and she is as well. I am seeking advice because I honestly have never been in a real relationship. I have dated casually a lot so this is a whole different world. I am just looking for advice, tips and I Suppose sort of the etiquette of this stage of dating.", "summary": "I really like this girl and am hoping it works out. Need some general dating advice."}
{"id": "t3_46xwec", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] not in a relationship, but dating a [22F] found out she had a relationship with someone and i'm not to fond of it. Can someone help me out and fix my insecurity issue?", "post": "We are both black, and I found out the girl I have been dating used to date exclusively only white men.  Like exclusively until she met me.  Her only partners have been white men.  I mean, I am not cool with this.  I am not into the interracial dating scene and this is really an issue with my psyche.  I know this is racist.  I get it, but this is really bothering me.  She is an awesome chick, and I want to start a relatinship with her, but the thought that she only was with a \"select race\" of men bothers me.  \n\nLike what made me so special, why is she hanging out with me now.....  What changed her perceptions of black men in general as to why she did not like dating them until now...  Reddit, hear me out on this.  I know its racist, I know its a stupid thought, I know a lot of people on thissite are white, but i am not trying to start some kind of race war.   I just have nowhere else to go, and i am an insecure black dude just looking for a hand here.  \n\nSo how does one not be insecure about this situation?", "summary": "Girl i am dating used to only date white guys, I am a black male, and I have a problem with this.  Help me to stop being an insecure idiot"}
{"id": "t3_1aazby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Im (17M) very attracted physically and somewhat emotionally to my best friend (17F) what to do? Break the news, make a move?", "post": "Background information: We first met like in late middle school when my parents sundenly moved. We were deffinatly into eatchother then almost had a \"relationship\" ( it was 8th grade lol ) but I long sorry short my first gf ended up being someone else. We continued to just talk from then on. We are eatchothers best friends. Very open with just about anything, never any awkward moments. Never something we couldn't talk about. Now I'm 17M and she's 17F. I'm single currently and it's been a while. She has only had one relationship and it was a major one. She is still a little attached but it hasn't stopped her. She has cheated in her major relationship. And had a couple fwb's. She kinda always needs someone. Right now she is single. She has always been very attractive. And isn't shy to physical relationships. \n\nThe thing is I'm obviously very physically attracted to her. I have jokingly told her that and she does realize she is attractive.", "summary": "Best friend for ever. She's same age, attractive, I'm considered attractive,she's easily physical and I'm attracted to her and somewhat emotionally attracted to. I have decided I'm going to make a move/tell her. I think I have good chances. And I'm not risking our relationship, luckily were close enough we would just shake it off if something happens. So. How should I do it?! It is currently spring break so wer gonna be together a lot from hanging out to picking out a new bikini for her. Any thoughts are appreciated!"}
{"id": "t3_1sx200", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the best thing to do when your grandparents get scammed over the phone?", "post": "I'm not sure if there really is anything I can do but I feel so bad because .... well here is the story and you'll know why I feel extremely bad.\n\nMy grandfather calls me this morning and the fist thing he asks me is \"thecakey, where are you?\" I, confused about the question, I honestly answered him and told him that I was at work. I hear my grandmother in the background nagging him to hand the phone over. He does but as he is handing the phone over he tells her that they got scammed big time. My grandmother asked me the same thing and I am completely lost as to what was happening and to hear the word scammed I can only think the worst. She asked me if I was able to get out of the Arizona jail okay and get back home safely. I, of course, was blown away at these questions. I assured her that I was never and probably never ever will be. Mind you my grandparents are both retired and in their late 80s and I'm sure I too if I was in their shoes that I would fall victim to the story they shared with me.\n\nApparently, they received a phone call from Nevada 3 days ago telling them that I was put away for a DUI and vehicular manslaughter. Also, they tricked them by putting \"me\" on the phone to tell them that I was on my way home from a funeral for a close friend and I had a glass of wine, which explains the DUI, and a pregnant lady hit me and the accident caused the fetus to die. I requested that they wire me money to cover my bail and cover all the Arizona court fees and \"I made them promise me to not tell anyone because I didn't want anyone to know. 3 days in a row \"I\" asked for more and more money until my grandfather finally called to ask me what was going on.\n\nI feel bad because my identity was used to scam them out of money. If they accidentally signed up for those douche bag magazine scammers then I would feel bad but not as bad as I do with this situation.", "summary": "My grandparents got scammed for a lot of money thinking they were helping me out of a jam. I feel bad. What is there to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1hx5ut", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Energy Saving Backfires", "post": "Firstly, to those who say \"but you're in your parents home so you should do as they say\" my response is: You don't know me, you certainly don't know them. There are so many unknown variables that you could argue any stance. \n\nI'm going to presume most redditors here overly enjoy their techno-gadgets. I am proud of my computer because it's the first one I've built and have upgraded and maintained it running for over 4 years (hopefully another 5+). My dad is a bit of a miser, so I learned not to keep my computer running, to shut off the monitors and speakers. I've always kept my computer on sleep rather than off because it's more convenient. Because it is now summer (increase of fans & a/c = $$) he checks if my computer is off or stand-by. He makes sure it's off... This naturally irks me, so the following is my response to his actions in an email PROVING that he isn't effectively reducing costs by shutting me down. (he's got two alarm clocks in his room)\n\nI felt it was a petty revenge to compare his two alarm clocks consuming more energy than my computer in standby mode with sources (to make him read through), I mean what else am I gonna do, move out?  \u00af\\\\_ (\u30c4) _/\u00af", "summary": "Turn off my PC to save energy? Backfires when proved uses less energy than you!"}
{"id": "t3_2qua36", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "This is my (29F) first very serious relationship. How do I break up with him (34M)?", "post": "We have been together for nearly 2 years. Best friends. Do everything together. Partners in a small online business. Have tentative plans to get a condo together this year.\n\nBut I think I am over it. I'm finding this relationship is a lot of stress and we are fighting more. There are too many issues considering we haven't even been together 2 years yet. And even though I've been head over heels for him all along, I have now found that the problems have killed my sexual attraction to him (which I didn't think was possible -- I was so very excited by him all along).  Now I look at him and he no longer makes me feel excited. \n\nIf I could wave a magic wand and make us just best friends, I would. But it's impossible. He has told me all along he could never just be friends with me. He tells me he loves me so much and is always planning future events. He is excited to hurry up and move in together. And all the time our lives are becoming more and more and more entwined and I'm secretly freaking out.\n\nI've tried talking to him twice over the past month about taking a break but he just freaks out so much and blows up my phone with texts and calls. He pulls out every stop to convince me that we need each other. And when I come to talk to him in person he is all over me, hugging me, clinging to me, wanting to kiss me. It's so confusing. I do care about him and I absolutely don't want to hurt him.\n\nHow on earth do I properly break up with someone? I don't want to be cruel and do a \"no contact\" thing. But we obviously can't continue seeing each other in person because then it all just goes back to how it was and next thing I know he's grabbing my hand and talking about our condo.", "summary": "so inexperienced with relationships. how to break up with best friend/boyfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2h30ys", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 F] with my ex [26 F] duration 5.5 years, Using same accounts and still following activity!", "post": "Hello Reddit World!\n\nAfter dating for five years and six months then being broken up for the past three months we still use the same Starbucks and Costco account.\n\nWhenever one of us buys coffee the other person gets a notification on our iPhone. Well as of last Wednesday I quit texting and replying to her messages because I hate to be the one waiting. In the meantime I go to Starbucks and study. \n\nThis has been our text log since Wednesday:\n\nWeds: I get a retake but idk [her], Thursday: Hi [her], Sunday: Who do u always buy coffee for on the bux card? Just saying [her]. \n\nI know I need to stop using the Starbucks app but after five years I feel like it be difficult to cut out of my life. \n\nWhat do you think?", "summary": "After dating for five years and six months then being broken up for the past three months we still use the same Starbucks and Costco account."}
{"id": "t3_kl97b", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Tired of always being the Second-to-last guy people are with.", "post": "A bit of background:\n\nAll of my exes that I have had, (with the [current] exception of my most recent one [less than two months since breakup]) are married, and all of the ones that had interest, have kids.\n\nEvery single one of them.\n\nMy most recent ex broke up with me under the guise of we needed to take a break so we were better together, and kept saying things like we needed space so we could become better for ourselves, not each other.\nThen today I found out that not only is she with someone else in all possible ways, less than two months after our breakup, but she realized when she met him while we were still together that he was the one she was going to spend her life with.", "summary": "So now here I am again, single, with yet another ex on the way to being with the guy of her dreams."}
{"id": "t3_10658n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I gently turn someone down? (24M/24F)", "post": "Shortly after my recent birthday, a girl I went to high school with whom I didn't really talk back then contacted me on Facebook, asked how I was doing, couldn't believe she hadn't seen me since HS, saying we should grab a drink. I responded saying I was really busy these days blah blah blah.\n\nI'm not really interested in seeing her because I don't really have anything to talk about with her,  different cliques, different wavelengths. She's the sort of person who posts Uncle Kraker videos on her Facebook in earnest. There are other dealbreakers, like smoking and education. And most of my high school life is banished to that part of my brain reserved for things I'd rather forget. I just know it wouldn't go anywhere.\n\nI posted on FB the other day that I'm thinking of going to a Third Eye Blind concert on Sunday and now she's asking me about it. How do I say \"Thanks, but no thanks\" without sounding like a total jackwad, as we have mutual friends?", "summary": "Not interested in old high school classmate, she messages me on FB."}
{"id": "t3_2x39hd", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/f] pretty sure [30/m] wants to be friends with benefits. How do I know if I can handle that?", "post": "this boy asked for my number towards the end of December. We've been hanging out since then. He was super straightforward and told me his whole sex and relationship history and asked me about mine which I'm still a virgin (grew up very religious recently broke out of that). Constantly asks me questions like if I'm looking for a relationship, what type of men I go for etc. Always sends me texts telling me I turn him on how sexy I am etc. \n\nhe has been pretty busy most of February and with my work/school schedule and his we hadn't been able to hang out. Still texting though. We were talking and he told me that I seem like I want a relationship and at this point he is trying to focus on his career and just doesn't have the time but he doesn't want to hurt me and he still wants me in his life and wants to continue hanging out with me and invited me to come over to his place on friday. Which every time we hang out we go to his place he pours me glass after glass of wine. He never drinks any and we end up talking for hours and making out. He has been really sweet about not having sex yet and told me he isn't going to push me into anything until I'm ready. \n\nWhich honestly I think I am ready but I'm not sure since he doesn't want a relationship if I would be able to handle being friends with benefits and I don't want to get hurt.\non one hand I think screw it I'm 20 I'm a virgin I've been a good girl all my life I wouldn't mind just doing something casual and meaningless but on the other I don't know if I could do it without developing feelings for him", "summary": "boy says he doesn't have time for a relationship. Still wants to see me but I'm not sure if I can go through with it without catching feelings for him"}
{"id": "t3_2jpqqv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[18 M] cannot get over first real girlfriend/love [18 F] even after a year since breaking up when we dated for 1 1/2 yrs.", "post": "Hey all, using a throwaway here, thanks for listening :)\n\nI dated a girl for about a year and a half, then broke up with her July of last year because I felt like I wasn't getting anything in return for trying within the relationship. I then regretted it, wanted her back, etc and she had already joined the ranks of tinder and I was heartbroken.\n\nSkip forward to the present. The last several months prior to her leaving for college we remained in somewhat of an open relationship. Fooling around, being sexual, hanging out, essentially dating without the title. Night before she left I wrote her a letter and she read it and broke down and I felt like we still had that strong connection. I also visited her at school, partied with her, and had a great weekend.\n\nIn the last few weeks however, I had met another girl who has very similar likes and the chemistry between us is organic, and not created (which is not how my previous relationship felt(felt like forcing a circle into a square)). Essentially we are dating but I have yet to \"ask her out\" in terms of being boyfriend girlfriend because I just wanted to give myself time.\n\nEven with the new girl in my life, I still find myself with that lump in my throat feeling whenever I think about my ex. She's always there in my mind, seeing her photos on facebook make me have a bigger lump, I get jealous of seeing her at parties, I get jealous about thinking shes hooking up with other guys at parties, etc.\n\nHow do I stop? How do I climb this damn fence that always stops me from letting myself go? Most importantly I just don't want to hurt the girl I'm currently involved with.", "summary": "Can't let her go. Feel like masochist for thinking about her all the time and don't want to ruin my current relationship. How do I put it behind me?"}
{"id": "t3_12f9q5", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Aunt is terrible parent and doesn't want to admit it, therefore placing the blame on my cousin.", "post": "I wasn't too sure of where to actually post this, but I was hoping maybe someone could give me a bit of advice. Here's a bit of the back story. My aunt got married to my uncle who is 12 years older than her, who never wanted children or to be married in the first place. My aunt has always had issues with herself, forced the marriage and kids upon him therefore making for a bad relationship between my aunt and uncle.\nFast forward to today, my aunt has a 13 year old lets call her Mary and 19 year old lets call her Jill. Jill was babied growing up until Mary came a long then she had to grow up fast. Growing up Mary has always been babied and never encouraged to do anything for herself. She was never encouraged to say please or thank you, never encouraged to talk to people, never even encouraged to go to school. Mary is 5'7 and weighs probably 230+lbs. For a 13 year old who is going through hormones this is a major effect on her body image/confidence and many other things.\nAnyways, my aunt is a terrible parent. My uncle? He never wanted children and it really shows, which leave a bad impression on my cousins. My aunt is trying to get Mary diagnosed with something, ANYTHING, because she is in such a deep denial and cannot point the fingers at herself that she went wrong with babying my cousin so now she has the mentality of a 7 year old at best. They went to a psychiatrist and she got \"diagnosed\" with aspergers and OCD. She wont talk to anyone because shes not encuraged to nor was ever taught the social means to do so. There is no way in hell she has either of these things. My aunt was even wanting to put her on meds she doesn't need. Also she isn't encouraged at all to go to school, she sits at home all day on the computer. This is getting to a point where i'm getting mentally sick of seeing this going on in front of my eyes, that my cousin, is doing this. This is abuse.\nSomeone, anyone, could I do anything to help or not?", "summary": "Aunt is a bad parent, therefore trying to diagnose cousin with something, and going to give her meds. Cousin is going to end up a fat blob in the projects on welfare."}
{"id": "t3_35fa96", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Florida - Can a store owner take away the tips of someone making at least minimum wage?", "post": "Hey guys. I know I just asked another question this morning, but I have a second hypothetical...\n\nI make minimum wage plus tips. The owners play this out as being generous to us. So we collect tips, and they disperse it to us through our bi-weekly paychecks.\n\nI put in my two weeks notice after a very tense discussion with my boss, and I'm wondering... if he collects tips from customers, is he obligated to disperse them to workers, or is he allowed to say fuck you to someone he doesn't like, and exclude them from receiving any tips on their last paycheck?", "summary": "Do tipping laws only apply to tipped workers making 2.15 an hour, or do they apply to anyone making tips? "}
{"id": "t3_helzo", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to convince my peers to vote for me?", "post": "Okay, here's the deal. I'm in the National Honor Society at my (all girls) high school. Elections for next year's officers are tomorrow, and I REALLY want to be President. It's a goal I have had all of high school, and I'm semi-confident in myself. However, any suggestions for last minute things I can do to up my chances of getting a vote would be awesome. \n\n There are fourteen members voting tomorrow, and nine people running for four positions (we just run for a position, the administrators will decide which position), so clearly, I've got a lot of competition. However, I know these girls. I've been in class with nearly all of them since freshman year, and they know me pretty well. I'm good friends with a few, and have at least five secured votes, including myself, and I'm hoping that is enough. \n\nHowever, any extra votes would be awesome. I'm already bringing them a snack (Homemade brownies- and not just a bribe, someone brings snack every week). Last week we threw a party for the seniors and I was in charge of that, and it was extremely successful. So they know me, they know I can lead them.\n\n I get to say a short speech before voting. Can anyone give me any ideas of things that might sway someone to vote for me if they wouldn't otherwise? Or any other plans? Thanks, Reddit.", "summary": "NHS elections tomorrow, want more votes. Help."}
{"id": "t3_lb13x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should i do anything with this info, or just forget it", "post": "My company recently lost a major contract (about 25% of revenue). There is talk of redundancies. Today, while I was doing a work task, I was looking on a school wensite for a email address. On the staff directory was listed a part-time teacher with the same name as my CEO. I know someone on the board of governers for the school, so asked if it was the same person. Turns out it is, and she works afternoons which she arranged (with board of directors)to take off to look after her children due to childcare issues. Recently she thas gone from two afternoons off to three, though hasn't informed our board of dirctors about this extra half day off. \n\nShould I do anything with this info, if it looked like I was in the firing line (I shouldn't be but I was last in) or should I just file it as interesting and move on.", "summary": "boss has two jobs, but her bosses don't know"}
{"id": "t3_3gmbsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [23F] boyfriend [23M] of 3 years overreacting? I texted him a flirty uberfact which led him to ask if I wanted to be a porn star.", "post": "I know this sounds really silly, I just think it was unnecessary for him to ask me if I wanted to do porn. This is how the convo went:\n\nI texted him the uberfact screenshot: The average female porn star is a 5'5\" brunette woman who weighs 117 lbs and has B-cup breasts. \n\n(I sent this to him because we had great sex the night before and was trying to be flirty since it matched my height,weight, etc.)\n   \nBF: what are you saying? you're a porn star or wanna be one?\n\nme: (laughing emoji) I thought it was funny\n\nBF: I assume that's a yes\nBF: ?\nBF: be honest would you want to be one?\n\nme: are you f-ing kidding me? I was just trying to be funny and then you got all serious about it. \n\nBF: no, I just wanna know. I won't get mad\n\nme: no, I don't want to be a f-ing porn star.\n\nIt goes on and I basically told him that I felt it was unnecessary to ask me that. He went on to blame my hormones and called me names such as crazy and dramatic. He said I was trying to take the question to another level but that's what I feel he was doing from the beginning by even asking me that. Am I overacting? or is he? I feel that I got defensive right away because we have been going through a rough patch and just recently got back together. He refuses to apologize because he feels he did nothing wrong. I was just trying to be flirty with him and never thought he would take it so seriously.", "summary": "Sent boyfriend an uberfact with a description of the average female pornstar which matched with my height, weight etc. I guess he took it as me wanting to be a pornstar and decided to ask me."}
{"id": "t3_2t1ah5", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "\"I've been so good, why am I gaining weight on my new progra - oh.\"", "post": "I've seen a lot of posts here lately from people who have recently started a new regimen and are wondering why they aren't losing weight or, worse, began gaining weight. I actually almost made one, despite going through this 2-3 times before, because ohgodtheparanoia.\n\nIf you are measuring diligently, being honest with yourself, and estimating burned calories accurately - and *especially* if you are female and/or beginning a new resistance program - it's probably just water.\n\n[Here is a graph of my weight, net calorie intake, and predicted weight based on calorie intake.](\n\nI spent the fall half marathon training and cut out a lot of resistance. This month, I started Kayla Itsines's BBG and daaaayyyyum. So sore. SO sore. People would ask me if I was okay walking up the stairs. I'd laugh and my ribs would be on fire. But I was working hard and totally killing it and kept running and blah blah blah. Finally, I weighed myself.\n\n6 lbs up.\n\nWhat? No. I looked in the mirror - everything normal. I looked at my old progress pictures and back in the mirror - *definitely* better than when I weighed 147 lbs. I'm not keto, but I keep my non-veggie carbs quite low; my sodium intake also remained relatively consistent. I ran through my calorie intake - consistent, with a higher burn than usual. My clothes fit. I didn't look or feel bulky.\n\nAnd then, two days ago, the peeing started. Every 30-45 minutes. I legitimately could not finish a normal run without stopping. And the extra weight just fell off! And now I look sleek as hell, and I'm less sore to the extent that I can walk up stairs without crying.\n\nYour muscles drink ALL of the water when repairing themselves in response to new activity. I'm a relatively fit, active lady and it **still** took my body nearly two weeks to adjust to resistance before I began losing again. I hope seeing it in chart form will calm someone's fears and stave off discouragement!", "summary": "it's normal you'll pee it out"}
{"id": "t3_atjq2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "If you felt you had to, would you do something that you think is so terrible that you think no one should be allowed to get away with?", "post": "Sorry if I didn't phrase that headline well...I'm kind of tired. The example I generally use is torture. I think torture is awful. I think that on a moral level and a practical level it's both wrong and ineffective. I don't think it should be something that is sanctioned, or done by government agencies.\n\nThat said...\n\nWhen I was younger, I was a Sergeant in Iraq. I believe(d) very strongly in the rules of land warfare, and what they say in regards to the treatment of prisoners. However, I think I could honestly say that if one of my soldiers were taken prisoner, or captured or whatever, I would do terrible things to get them back. If I had someone who I thought honestly knew where my guy was, there would be no limit to the horrors I would do to get them to tell me.  But once I was done, regardless of if I got my guy back or not, I think that I should, and would deserve to be punished...harshly. This has lead to arguments with friends because they say that I can't truly believe something is wrong and still do it. I say that there are things I value more than being right. So what say you?", "summary": "Do you think it's possible to truly believe that something is absolutely wrong, but still do it?"}
{"id": "t3_2ks5zr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my schoolmate [~21F], not sure about how to make it happen", "post": "Hi /r/relationships, I'm new to reddit, I'm a 20yo student in an engineering school, and I'm pretty shy/introvert/whatever makes you uncomfortable with girls.\n\nAs you may know, the percentage of girls in engineering schools is very low and it makes it harder for guys to get closer with a girl... \n\nSo here is the story (and I'm sorry for my english, which is not my native language): some students from medical schools get the chance to spend one or 2 years in our school, and they follow the same courses as us (me included). One of these students is a cute girl which follows the same courses as I do 2 days a week. As a shy guy, and because I assume I wont get a gf in my school due to the unbalanced ratio I talked about, I havent talked to her at all until 2 weeks ago. I asked her if I could borrow her lessons because I have missed some courses, she answered me nicely, saying she could give me her courses even if her handwirting was bad etc... Then she asked for my phone number, where it was not essential as she would have put her courses in my locker and I would give it back to here on next course.\n\nSo she first texted me the day after, saying I could ask her if I had any problem understanding what she wrote or whatever, and texted me again the nest day to be sure I found her courses in my locker and that I could ask if I had troubles blablabla\n\nNext course, I give the courses back to her, and she starts asking me how I plan my holidays and stuff, she was quite adorable with me imo haha\n\nNow it's been a week of holidays and I will see her again on monday.\nSo this is simple, I don't know if she might be interested in me, but I am in her and I have no clue of what to do next, except that I must be confident about myself ( this doesnt explain what to do next btw).\nI am pretty good looking but I dont know if she's out of my league or something..\n\nFeel welcome to comment :)\nThanks", "summary": "! : Basically need to know if I may have a chance with this girl and what to do to make sure of this and do the next steps"}
{"id": "t3_iiajy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Neighbor's Kids Underage and Boozing Discard their empties in my back yard - ADVICE", "post": "I was in the back yard the other night and the neighbor's kids who are under-age where partying.  Parents out of town or out for the night i suppose.  There is a fence that separates us with some bushes, so we cant see over and neither can they.  I heard a loud thump and thought...those turkeys are throwing their empties in MY YARD!! Too dark to look for the bottles/cans, I have found them today.  20 Beer cans, bottles, a big Keg Can, and empty bottle of vodka, etc...   \n\nThe parents are nice...only met them twice, but who knows how much shit they let their highschool aged kids get away with.   Looking for some advice.  I'll answer questions to help paint a better picture.", "summary": "neighbor's underage kids threw their empties into my yard...what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2w9o0a", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Is whole life ever a good idea?", "post": "I feel like a bit of a tool here, but bear with me.\n\nI held a whole life policy for the last 4 years. It started when i was a resident in medical school and at that time it seriously ate into my income, but me and the wife managed.\n\n4 years later, another financial adviser tells me that it's not a good idea, and instead i should just save and invest. especially if i've already proved I can do so.  \n\nNo i'm cancelling the whole life policy, my whole life guy is telling me i'm making a huge mistake, the term life guy is saying, basically, forget it, he's in it for the money. \n\nEverything I've seen online seems to suggest the term life guy is correct.  It's the same policy for over 1500 dollars a year less.  \n\nI'm kind of pissed at the whole life guy, but i don't know if i should be.  I thought of him as a friend, he bought me nice dinners and sent me and my wife and kid gifts on birthdays and whatnot. \n\nBut looking back, i think i may have pissed away a ton of money.\n\nHe says with regular investment it pays for itself. The other guy says i can do better (and historically and based on the internet, i can)\n\nwas i being fucked for 3 years?\n\nfinancally at this time i'm doing fine. I don't miss the money but there were times before where it would have made my life better and easier to not be paying into a whole life policy.   I feel a bit betrayed, can i justify this to myself in any way? was he fucking me over?", "summary": "Is there ever a reason for a whole life policy? EVER? or was i a sap for 3+ years"}
{"id": "t3_2y2pd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] can't talk to guys without alcohol", "post": "I'm basically Raj from the Big Bang Theory. \n\nMy last relationship (ended ~2 months ago) only got started, I believe, because I was drinking during each of our first few dates. After a couple weeks I got comfortable enough to be myself around him and didn't need to drink anymore. Well, now that we've been broken up for a while I'm ready to start dating again (I meet guys online). I've been on one date so far, and it went pretty well. We went for dinner and at first I was super awkward and didn't know what to say. After a couple of drinks I was able to let my personality out and we ended up laughing a lot and getting along great.\n\nWell, here's the problem. I have a date tomorrow night with another guy. I really don't want to have to drink during it. I want him to like the sober me. I just find it sooo hard to be myself around new people when I'm sober and I think I come across as boring. What can I do about this? Or should I just stick with what I know and have some drinks?", "summary": "I have a date tomorrow and I don't know how to talk to the guy while sober!"}
{"id": "t3_2p48ax", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[26/M] What is taboo about my line of thinking?", "post": "In 2011, I met who I thought was the most wonderful, beautiful young woman ever. Not many people ever click with me and she just did, perfectly. Our relationship had its issues, but we were both happy. In August 2012, I became ill. I had a brain mass, but my illness was a horrible generalized anxiety that was just confusing everything. I would pass out, get headaches and be at general unease. It was hard to know if the brain mass was causing this or the anxiety (more than likely the anxiety). Soon enough, she disappeared on me. \n\nI still think of her. I never did get the closure I probably needed, but I have accepted she'll never be in my life again. I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship or not, but I have yet to really date since then. What troubles me right now is the Holiday Season. Christmas was my favorite holiday and steadily it became depressing until 2011, when she and I went to Michigan and stayed together. It was such a simple visit, but it was an amazing time for me and brought happiness to the holiday once again. As you can imagine, I think of this often. But bad thoughts come into my head. When I remember the past, I must revert back to the present where she isn't my girlfriend anymore. I have invasive thoughts of her being romantic with someone else, having sex with someone else. \n\nPeople are bothered when I mention this. They assume that I'm trying to \"own\" her by being bothered she's having sex with someone else. But maybe I should explain that sex to me is kind of a big deal with someone. I don't do it, to just do it, I'm afraid. I know a lot of people tend to think it's one of those \"evolutionary\" things, but my Psyche shrouds that with something more important. \n\nWhen I ask this question to people and vent my sadness about it, people become up and arms. Therefore, I never talk about it, no matter how much it bothers me. I want to talk about these things and hopefully get over them. Please, someone explain to me what's wrong with being sad about this?", "summary": "Girl I love disappears, I've accepted that she'll be gone forever, thoughts of her having sex with others makes me sad, this pisses people off."}
{"id": "t3_qjkc2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I start making Android applications?", "post": "I'm interested in making games for droid. I have really basic knowledge of coding in C++ and Java; I started in high school by taking a Visual Basic class. I'm in my second year of college now.\n\nI have more experience in Java than in C++. The problem is, I haven't done any real projects or contributions aside from homework assignments.\n\nCan anyone lead me to any good resources to start making droid apps/games? I chose to make apps for droid because I do not have a Mac to compile apps for iPhone. Also, I do not have a droid :x so I'm wondering if there is any workaround besides buying one?", "summary": "beginner in programming, but really motivated to make a game for droid. where do i begin?"}
{"id": "t3_1maqww", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by playing \"Superman\" right after lunch", "post": "This happened last weekend, but I keep forgetting this sub exists.  I need to come here more often.\n\nMy wife had just finished feeding our son and needed me to hold him for a bit.  My brain didn't process that \"just ate\" = \"warning : splash zone\" and I did what I usually do when this little 6-month old is smiling at me - I laughed, he laughed, I lifted him upwards, tilting him flat and declared \"SUPERMAN!!!\"\n\nThis is the most I've seem him puke to date.  I'm still amazed that he kept laughing through the whole thing.\n\nNone of it got on him, or the furniture, or the floor.  The entirety of the eruption was on myself.  Up the nose, in my ear, a bit in my mouth, all over the shirt, and the beard....  Oh God, the beard...\n\nI wouldn't say that my beard is \"magnificent,\" but I would say that it rivals many of my friends' beards.  Think of it like a red fro on my chin.  Super absorbent.  I could smell it for the rest of the day and most of the next.", "summary": "TIL beards can hold amazing amounts of baby vomit."}
{"id": "t3_2y0cif", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17 M] deal with my ex [17 F] (been together for 2 years and broke up a month ago)", "post": "we have been together for 2 years and it was a great relationship, we had intimate relations too, we basiclly lived in each others house and we were so happy, she loved me and I loved her.\none week (a month ago) we had crazy fights since she went to a trip and met a lot of guys and I was jealous, we had a lot of tenstion that week and there was 1 fight that just screwd everything up, we got to my house after that and we broke up, we did a mistake and she spent the night with me (our last night).\nafter that we fought a lot, we basiclly hurted eachother a lot and she told me things that are really offensive, I guess I did the same to her as well.\nnow we dont speak, if I try to speak with her she will probably block me (using whatsapp,facebook).\nI love her so much and I want to get her back and I think she loves me too but doesnt want to be with me, how do I get her back? I have to I feel, its been a month and nothing has changed, I think she still loves me but she said she doesnt want to be with me.\n\np.s: we broke up in the past, about4-5 times but always got back together, once she told me that it doesnt matter how much we are mad at each other and we will always get back together because we love each other.\n\nsorry for bad english.", "summary": "ex and I broke up a month ago, I love her a lot and want to be with her, I think she still loves me but doesnt want to be or talk to me, How do I get her back?"}
{"id": "t3_350njq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by partaking in communion at a different church", "post": "Today was the anniversary of the death of my grandfather, so my mother brought me and my sisters to a catholic church. I have never been to this catholic church before since I usually go to a Christian one. After most of the service it was time to do communion, and apparently was done differently there. After I received the body of Christ from the pastor, I began to walk back to my seat. Suddenly, I hear a woman call, \"Excuse me?\" loud enough for everybody in the church to hear. I turned around and checked if the call was for me and then quickly noticed that she was right behind me. The woman was part of the clergy, so I was probably in some trouble. She then continued to talk in her raised voice \"Is this your first communion?\" I answered no, then she said that I had to eat it. I quickly ate it, then sweat a few gallons. I made this mistake because at my Christian church, we usually do communion by receiving the body and blood THEN sitting down THEN doing the prayer. I can only imagine the number of eyes that were on me at that moment...", "summary": "ate the bread too late, got embarrassed in front of the whole church"}
{"id": "t3_whlch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What can I do about my drug addicted friend?", "post": "IAMA university student home for the summer, and since I've been gone, my best friend of 8 years has become addicted (her own words) to percocets. I don't know what to do to help her, because I've already loaned her over $100 (she's unemployed), and taken her in when she's been kicked out of her parents' house. But she keeps asking me for more money, and the last time she was over, she raided my jewelry box, I'm presuming because she was looking for something valuable to pawn for more drug money. I love her and want to help her, but I don't know how to tell her that I can't and won't emotionally (or financially) support her self-destructive behavior. She's told me many times that I'm one of the few people she trusts and counts on, but after realizing she stole from me, and that she only contacts me when she needs something or is bored, I feel more used than trusted. Any advice to help me/her would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "My best friend is a thief and a drug addict. Help?"}
{"id": "t3_2jt2rc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my exgirlfriend [23F] 3 years, broke up with me about a month ago, I cant get over her.", "post": "We have been together for about 3 years, and it has been absolutely wonderful. None of us have been good at talking about our relationship, we just sort of were together, and were happy with that. No drama, no fights or arguments. \n\nAbout a month ago she came over to my apartment and said it had to end. And we both were heartbroken, because of our relationship being so good it was. She told me that before she met me she had some problems with existential-anxiety, and paranoia. She was living alone at the time, so she had no one to talk to and it just got worse. Then she moved to the city where i live at, and we started hanging out and getting together, and she almost forgot about how bad she had it when she was alone.\n\nAnd things have been like that for 3years. She told me the reason she had to breakup, was that if we had continued our relationships, for years, she couldnt had handled being alone again, and she felt like something needed to be done about her anxiety and paranoia now while were still young. For example, if we had been together until our 30\u00b4s and suddenly broke up, she would have had to be alone again, and maybe face the anxiety and paranoia again. \n\nThe problem for me is that i feel like we are going to get back together sometime, but its not certain at all. It seems like she is trying to get some distance from me, and i am just trying to hold on to her. I want to give her the time and space she needs, but it is absolutely horrible. \n\nShe is the best person i\u00b4ve ever met, and we are so alike on so many points. I feel like i have lost the love of my life.", "summary": "The love of my life broke up with me, we had it great together, but she had some personal problems that she needed to figure out. Feel like I\u00b4m waiting for her to get over it, even though i know these things take years to figure out. Im lost, what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_3dmc2e", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "[NSFW] TIFU by walking into our garage", "post": "Apologies in advance for shitty formatting or whatever, I'm usually just a lurker but I decided to go to the effort to make a throwaway for this.\n\nThis did happen today, unlike a lot of this page's posts, in act it happened just now. I was bored, and home alone, and decided it would be a really fun idea to go exploring our garage, where my dad usually likes to sit and smoke. It's pretty cluttered usually, but, as my parents' wedding is coming up it's been cleaned out this month. I walk in, and look around. I see what I would usually expect to see, tools, cans, used cigarettes and the like, and so I walk over to the desk. I look it over, and find that nothing out of place seems to be there until I look down and see, right underneath a small spanner, a syringe needle. I can tell that it's used, as it's pushed all the way in. My brain instantly jumps to conclusions, but I'm hesitant to believe what my instincts tell me until I look to my right and see two spoons, along with a kettle on the floor. The spoons seem stained. \n\nI'm not sure what to think, or do. I've found a weed grinder of my dad's lying around before, and I've been told that my dad has done some crazy shit in his past, so I know he's open to the idea of drug use (albeit on a much more minor scale) and I didn't care about that, but something like this has left me feeling awkward and concerned for my dad. What if I'm wrong, and the needle was used for something else? Should I ask him? Should I potentially let him continue? I know my dad's job is extremely stressful and if it's his way of coping, I don't necessarily want to stop him. All in all not a colossal fuck up but I certainly wish I hadn't been so nosy.", "summary": "TIL my dad might be a heroin user, and why you shouldn't snoop around in your parents' shit."}
{"id": "t3_3fuva3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my love interest [21 F]. I'm so confused as to what's going on!", "post": "Alright reddit So I met this girl at work, right? Gorgeous, smart, great sense of humor, the works. I strike up conversation with her and flirt with her, tease her, etc. and she's responding really well. I get her number that day. In the past week we've been texting a lot and she has had shifts at the same time as me and I've been training her in my department as she's new to it. We have the same taste in music, we both like the same kind of videogames and play them often, we both love anime, and as far as I can tell she doesn't have any faults that I personally would consider to be a deal breaker. I'm going on a date with this girl later today. \n\nI guess I don't have a question really but I have this really bad feeling in my gut since the whole dating thing has literally never once gone this well for me. I usually have to bust my ass to get the girl to think of me as anything more than a friend much less agree to go out with me. But with her, it's so easy it just feels natural. It's not complicated, I'm not having to win her trust over a long period of time, we both like the same things and have compatible personalities (which, granted, could simply be a result of our shared interest in anime and videogames), she's not playing hard to get, I mean this is just going TOO well. My roommate with whom I have been friends since elementary school even mentioned this. I don't know if I'm just jaded from all the shitty experiences I've had with women or maybe if I'm simply reading too much into it. Basically this whole thing is just going really really well for me and I'm a little freaked out by that. I don't want to slow down or anything, but still. What do you guys think? Am I reading too much into it? Do you think maybe I just lucked out and met a girl who doesn't want to suck my soul from my bones and just wants to have a nice normal relationship?? Or do you think my gut may be trying to tell me something? I'm already catching the feels for this girl pretty hard.", "summary": "Basically my romantic pursuit of this girl is going extraordinarily well and it's scaring me a bit. Should I just relax?"}
{"id": "t3_2wuai3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being high and trying to deep fry some french fries.", "post": "Last night after smoking a joint outside I go into the kitchen to fry me up some steakhouse style fries. The fryer was already out and heated up so I made the fries in just a couple of minutes, no problem. After they were done I turned off the fryer and got them onto a plate. Here's where my fuck up begins. The problem is that when we don't need the portable fryer we put it on top of the fridge, and my problem is that I am 5'1\" so I am usually not the one to get the fryer down or put it up. In fact, I've never tried putting it back up at all. But there wasn't much space on the counter and I wanted to be considerate towards the other people in the house and put it up anyways. I managed to get it down slowly by standing on a chair before I was high, but when I went to put it back up while high I tried holding it like a waiter would hold a platter with my other hand solidly gripping the side of the wooden board that the fryer sits on. In hindsight, I should have done this after I let the oil cool down more. And it really didn't help that I was pretty baked. I put it up very slowly but when it was almost on top of the fridge the oil inside rocked the fryer from side to side and some of it came out of the top from under the lid and fell onto me. I pushed the fryer on top of the fridge without further incident but then I noticed that my chin and chest were burning. All I could think to do was put cold water all over where it hurt and try to wash the oil off. The oil hit my chin first before falling onto and into my shirt, but luckily my shirt absorbed most of it before it hit my chest. So all I got was a few mild and very annoying burns. And I pretty much spent the rest of the night reliving that event in my head and imagining what would have happened if I spilled it completely or if the oil was much hotter. The fries were delicious though.", "summary": "Went to put the deep fryer on top of the fridge after I was done with it. Spilled some hot oil on me in the process."}
{"id": "t3_1xjfnd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (23/F) left me alone while I (25/M) was extremely sick because she wanted to go swimming.", "post": "Friends for ~10 years, together as a couple for a month. Last Saturday I had the worst flu I have ever had in my life. I felt so bad I was literally just lying on my bed crying with a 38.7C fever. I live alone. I texted my girlfriend to come over and she did. We watched a two hour movie and then she said \"Ok, well I gotta go because I want to go swimming early tomorrow, bye.\" I asked her to stay and help me to which she replied that she can't because she wants to go swimming. She was very well aware how bad I was and she did do whatever she could while she was around. It is Monday now, and I have not seen her since that Saturday evening.\n\nNaturally what followed after she left was the worst 36 hour period of my life. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't make myself food, I could barely stand up to get water. Absolute hell. I am feeling better today and I am wondering what I am supposed to do. I am so mad over this I want to just never speak to her again. Am I overreacting? What is the best way to bring this up? Do people find what she did acceptable?", "summary": "Very sick, girlfriend left me to fend for myself because she felt like swimming. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_q0c1h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hey Reddit, do you have any advice/stories about big cities?", "post": "So, I`m currently studying abroad in Japan and my Japanese friend, female, 19 years old, is going to San Francisco for three weeks (she'll be staying with a host family but she doesn't know how often she'll be traveling with them). She's never been to America before, and Japanese cities and American cities are very different. For example, in Tokyo or Nagoya, population of 12 million and 2 million respectively, a girl could walk home at night relatively safely (despite the hentai you've seen/read). I come from a small town in Wisconsin, and I've grown up knowing that cities are somewhat dangerous and there are places you should not go to, precautions you should take, but don't know specifics and I'd like my friend to be safe on her journey.", "summary": "a young Japanese girl is traveling alone to San Francisco, any advice/stories for her?"}
{"id": "t3_zr2lk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/m] How could I change my friendship with a younger female[17/f] to see if things could work out in a relationship?", "post": "I met a girl in an interest group at my city some months ago and while I initially disliked her (because of paradigms / stereotypes I had about otaku teenage girls) I do have some interest in her at the moment. \n\nWe've talked about some things in the past such as previous relationship problems (bad first boyfriend she had, and how I failed twice at flirting and going out with girls earlier this year) and stuff. I did manage to meet her on a slightly more personal level and that's why I got interested in her.\n\nWhile I still consider myself inexperienced (never been on a relationship officially before), I dunno how I should make things \"escalate\" so that I can have a chance with her but a friend told me that hyperactive girls aren't really worth it. I dunno if I should just ask her out to the movies or how to change the tone of our online conversations.\n\nSo, what's my best option to get started here?", "summary": "20 y.o. guy meets furry/otaku girl from their city and starts to like her, but doesn't know how to make another step since we already talked about personal stuff but still aren't close enough as to potentially being able to start a relationship or flirting."}
{"id": "t3_yzmos", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Should I be worried someone is casing my apartment? If yes, what are my options?", "post": "Hey all, recent incidents got me thinking.\n\nI live in the suburbs of Chicago, right outside the city limit. My city is pretty nice, but there are some iffy surrounding areas. My girlfriend and I rented out a condo from the owner last May and it's been great so far, aside from a couple incidents that got me thinking.\n\nIn early August, I bought a Nexus 7, worth about $300 bucks with shipping and had it delivered to the condo. The UPS guy dropped it off in the foyer. It was swiped by the time my girlfriend got home, two hours later. I talked with the woman who signed for it and concluded that she received a package at the same time (verified) and the UPS guy applied her signature to my package. She told me that stolen packages are pretty common in this complex. Called UPS, they're still working it out, but my credit card company has already refunded me my money. Lesson learned.\n\nRight after that, the labels on our mailbox were ripped off. They were flimsy cellophane taped on, so I thought maybe they just fell off. We got a label maker and put them on again. Ripped off again within two days, though whoever did it obviously struggled with the one on the buzzer, half of it is still attached. I don't know what purpose this would have, but there you have it.\n\nThird incident was last night. I do karate Monday and Wednesday nights, and my girlfriend went to bed around 9pm. I get home around 940 and in a half asleep daze, she tells me she was hearing strange noises. Apparently after she went to bed she heard someone rattling the doorknob, loud enough for the cat to jump up and run towards the door (she's a energetic cat though). I fall asleep and figure she was just half-asleep. \n\nThis morning I talk to her a little bit more, think about all three incidents, and wonder if something else is going on. We have renter's insurance and thankfully our schedules work out so she's home in the mornings and I'm home in the evenings. We've contacted the landlord and he said he'll be in contact with a few other owners in the same building. Thoughts?", "summary": "Worried someone may be casing my girlfriend and I's rented condo. Had a package stolen, mailbox label ripped off twice and the doorknob jiggling late at night. Wondering what everyone thinks and what my options are."}
{"id": "t3_2h6khw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M 21] broke up with my girlfriend [F 21], but I think we still love eachother.", "post": "We had been together for 1,5 years, it was the first really long and serious relationship for both of us, and some days ago we broke up.\n\nTo be honest we had enough of eachothers little problems and flaws and we had no more patience for problems like this. In the last weeks we had some seroius fights and breaking up was a constant topic.\n\nNow we broke up and we are both really sad and everything. When I packed my things to move it from her, we both cried. I feel like I still love her and I think she still loves me.\n\nYet if we were together we would probably fight almost daily.\n\nI freakin don't know if we did the correct thing.\n\nHas anyone been in a situation like this? I would like to hear the consequences please.", "summary": "Broke up with gf after 1,5 years, first serious relationship for both of us, yet I think I still love her and she loves me and I don't know if we did the correct thing"}
{"id": "t3_3wr8sk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F], bridesmaid with MOH [25F], we had a pretty big blow out and I feel terrible for the bride [25]", "post": "Ok. This is super childish, I know, but I'm pretty rattled about the situation.\n\nThe MOH, Erica, has been a terrible person for the duration of the wedding planning. Without getting into too much detail, she has made every aspect of the wedding about her. In addition to this, she has really upset the bride, Ashly, with the financial aspect - Erica can't afford to be in the wedding, but had an absolute fit when she thought she wasn't going to be MOH. Erica and I were close friends for a couple years but have drifted apart due to her moving to a larger city a few hours away. \n\nSo, onto the issue at hand: \n\nI had bought a few cute outfits for Ashly's kids for Christmas. Ashly didn't know I was getting them anything, it was a surprise. I was pretty excited about the clothes, and had sent Erica a text with a picture of the outfits. \n\nSo, she texts Ashly with, \"so OP got your kids clothes for Christmas, what can I get them that's actually memorable?\". \n\nReddit, I know Ashely probably shouldn't have told me Erica said that. And I know I probably shouldn't have called out Erica on how rude she was..... But I did. I was pissed that she ruined my surprise. \n\nI could write a novel about the aftermath, but Erica flipped her shit on Ashly, and said some pretty mean stuff to her. I feel pretty bad for Ashly. Is there anything I can do to help my friend?", "summary": "maid of honour flipped her shit on the bride because I called her out on purposely ruining my Christmas present. Childish, yes, but what can I do to help my friend?"}
{"id": "t3_3mxf3t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] do not want to marry my girlfriend [24 F] of three years, but she's expecting a ring, and I'm too scared to bring it up.", "post": "Hi, everyone. I'll try to keep this short.\n\nI have been in a relationship with a wonderful lady for just over three years. There have been the obligatory ups and downs throughout, but it seems we have a lot going for us. Our families like each other and have really connected, and all of our respective friends seem to approve of the other. We've survived graduating college, a short (3-4 month) period of long-distance, and starting out in the \"real life\" together.\n\nOf course we've had the conversation about moving in together and getting married. It's at the point where she, and both of our families, are quite seriously asking when I am going to propose. The problem is, I don't want to. It's not an issue of infidelity or feeling some cliche desire to sow ones wild oats. It's that I honestly cannot see myself marrying her, and if I do, I can only see it ending in divorce. We are not the same people that we were when we started dating, and it feels to me like we have only grown apart. Grown apart to the point of me not wanting to spend the rest of my life with her.\n\nThis is where I start to create an issue for myself. I have told no one, and especially not my girlfriend, about any of this. I'm at the point where I would feel too terrible about breaking things off after over three years for simply \"not thinking it would work later,\" and I wouldn't even know how to start that conversation if I COULD get the courage to do so.\n\nHas anyone else been in a similar situation? I'm feeling worse and worse about this every day, and I see very few appealing ways out of this.", "summary": "Feeling stuck a long-term relationship, want out, too cowardly, please advise."}
{"id": "t3_4f8fz5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Advice on what to do in this situation [18/M] with [18/F]", "post": "Long story short - I asked out a girl I liked and it did not go well. However that is not the point of this story. Sorry if this story seems too childish but it's been slightly bothering me so please understand.\n\nBefore I asked her out, we were good friends. So on Christmas, she gave me a gift. It is a quite big Santa Claus chocolate. But it happens to be milk chocolate, which I do not really like because it's too sweet. Even though she said no and I was really depressed and wanted to forget about it, I couldn't get myself to throw away a perfectly fine chocolate. Just because she said no doesn't mean she's a bad person right? I kept the chocolate because it was also a nice decoration. The problem is, I am moving out of the country and I need to do something about it. We are still friends, we just talk less. Should I give it back to her nicely saying how I felt? Like telling her how it was really nice of her to give it but I don't really like milk chocolate. I just can't get myself to throw it away because it's a perfectly fine chocolate and she's still a nice person for giving me it.\n\nAny answers would be appreciated, thanks!", "summary": "I have a chocolate from a girl before I asked her out and got rejected. I need to get rid of it since I'm moving out of the country but I can't get myself to throw away a perfectly fine chocolate. I'm thinking of giving it back to her."}
{"id": "t3_10de6c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "OMG Reddit,  My wife just yelled \"Wow, Better than a soap opera!\" at a pair of fighting black women in the middle of Inkster, MI. (Mainly Black Suburb of Detroit).  What idiotic moves has your SO done and how did you cope afterward?", "post": "I brought a TV home from my brothers house, An old tube type, it's about 9PM.  I need my wife's help to move it in so I ask her to come out and help.  As we are getting ready to move the TV from the car these two black women are yelling at each other from their respective houses with another house in between them.  I mean the whole street can hear their business.  I'm not listening and I'm trying to tell my wife how we are going to be moving this TV.  It's not my business.  I'm the only white dude on the block, The last thing I want to do is draw fucking attention to myself.\n\nSo I'm asking my wife if she understands, and she all of a sudden yells \"WOW, BETTER THAN A SOAP OPERA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!\"  About this time the other woman they were screaming about comes out.  Yea the one thing they did agree on was how \"Whitey bitch need to shut her mouth!!!\"\n\nMy wife understands why I'm pissed but she doesn't understand, you know, ..... WHY I'm PISSSSSED!\"\n\nSo reddit, any similar WTF type stories and how did you deal with them when the other person just didn't quite get it?", "summary": "We live in a predominately black suburb of Detroit MI, we're white, my wife decided to interject on two black women fighting over a man.  She doesn't get really why I'm mad."}
{"id": "t3_323zcb", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by thinking that someone wanted to take my picture...", "post": "Ok, so this didn't actually happen today but it still haunts me. I feel it's worthy of a TIFU.\n\nMe, my then girlfriend and two friends were on holiday together in Spain. We went to a Water Park one day and we were queuing to get it. We paid at the entrance gate and walked in...\n\nI walk through the entrance and into this big open space, where you can go off in various directions to wherever you want. I was at the front of our small group. I stopped to look around, wait for the others and decide where we should go\n\nSuddenly, I felt someone pulling at my right arm, so naturally I look to my right and see a Water Park staff member with a camera. She was saying something in Spanish and indicating towards me the universal 'photo' hand gesture with her free hand.\n\n\"Ah, she wants my picture, to capture my enjoyment at this fine establishment\"\n\nI turn to face her and strike a semi-comedic pose with a big grin...\n\nShe doesn't take a photo. \"No no no\" she says, whilst pointing behind me. I turn around and realise that I am stood directly between the photographer and 2 young children stood with someone in a giant penguin suit...\n\nFriends laughing hysterically, I walk away, with my pride well and truly bruised.", "summary": "walked through entrance to a water park, thought someone wanted to take my photo, struck a pose. I was actually stood in the way of some children and a giant penguin and they just wanted me out of the way."}
{"id": "t3_f8t3b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I being an ass charging my GF rent?", "post": "I am buying a house next month.  My girlfriend of 2 years is going to be living with me.  (She's actually lived with me on and off during those 2 years, and helped pay rent for the last 4 months)  She's still in school and living off student loans.  She works, but not really enough to support her.  I can pay the mortgage by myself, but my job is pretty much commission, so some months are dry and others are quite good.\n\nMy GF's dad thinks that because she is not on the title to the house, that basically by asking her with help on the mortgage that I'm taking advantage of her.  (And that if we break up, she loses all the money she put into the house) \n\nI honestly don't see the problem, because if we weren't living together, she would either be paying $500/mo in rent to live somewhere else (which she wouldn't get back anyway), or living with her parents (impossible because it's 2hrs away from her school).\n\nThe only thing I can figure is her dad is still stuck in the \"men are supposed to bring home the bacon and be providers\" mentality.  He is 60ish, so this wouldn't surprise me.  I don't know, I honestly feel bad about the situation now, and I don't know why her dad is making these accusations of me taking advantage of her.", "summary": "Is asking your live-in GF to help pay your mortgage wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3kw7a5", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on when it's financially safe to live on your own?", "post": "Hi guys, I previously lived in an apartment with an ex boyfriend, this apartment was a dream for the monthly price we were paying alas the relationship ended and I had to move back home with my parents. Technically I make enough a month to afford my own apartment priced around 1200 a month but that would leave me with almost nothing being saved which to me isn't worth moving out quite yet. A friend of mine said her friend is going through a divorce and moving out, that she's looking to find a roommate to make the rent cost around $600. As much as I loved the idea of being on my own, I'm scared to be on my own with another person again there are many financial matters that can go wrong. Advice?", "summary": "friends looking for a roommate, nervous after previous experience with having to move out and lose a lot of money invested in that particular apartment"}
{"id": "t3_2js39m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] have a problem with my girlfriend's [29 F] stalker ex from high school.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and she told me about her stalker ex that started trying to contact her again recently - I'm worried for her safety.\n\nAccording to her it's an ex from high school. They didn't have a good breakup and that was around 10 years ago - basically she was date-raped by him, and she had to get an abortion.\n\nHowever, apparently that guy recently divorced his wife and is trying to get in touch with my girlfriend + with my girlfriend's high school friends and asking where she lives and what her contact details are.\n\nShe's already blocked the guy from facebook and email phone etc.\n\nAs her boyfriend, I'm worried about her and don't know what should be done.\n\nIn addition, I'm living in Japan, and Japanese police are horrible with these kinds of situations - they'll provide no help at all for these kind of issues.\n\nWhat do you recommend if this was your situation?", "summary": "living in Japan, my gf's ex is a stalker, and potentially a danger. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_25iywo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I like this girl [15 F] I am [M 15] but she has a boyfriend [M 15] and she know I like her", "post": "So I am a 15 years of age, and I like this girl she is 15 as well but as you probably read in the title she has a boyfriend who in most peoples opinion he's a bit of a wanker ( I've been told by people). she is 10/10 in my opinion, we talk everyday on Facebook and in real life. I was talking to one of her friends after she found out and she said \"He won't last long! Trust me the way things r going. You we be right \" as in saying that her boyfriend won't be with her for very long. also we set up a movie night and her boyfriend isn't coming. Am I just a cringe worthy bloke or do I actually have a chance her \n\nI don't want to come off as the bloke who's in the \"friend-zone\" because I don't know if I am or not \n\nsorry about the title didn't check it too well", "summary": "she's in a relationship"}
{"id": "t3_1oqfoi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "my (28M) friend is in an abusive controlling relationship (22F). how can we make him see the big picture", "post": "So my (28M) friend is in a controlling abusive relationship with (22F). She doesn't like any of his friends and does everything in her power to keep him from hanging out with any of us. She will tell him she's cool with whatever plans at first, then day of comes and she makes him cancel. He's now bailed on three best friend birthday parties(one tonight), 13 dinner parties that we throw as a group twice a month, isn't allowed to come and hangout at any of our homes,  and now isn't even allowed to text or call us. If he does go against her and go out, she will call him 100 times throughout the night to guilt him into going home. She did this on my birthday- she's been invited also to all of these events- and I ended up confiscating his phone for the evening so he could enjoy himself for once. \n\nTwo weeks into their dating my bf, this friend and I went on a road trip to another province for two weeks we'd planned a year prior. She called him 100 times a day tryin to guilt him into coming home. She even booked a plane ticket to come join our trip but couldn't get a babysitter nor time off- thank god because that would've been awkward when she'd show up and we'd have no room for her in either the car or the three man tent we were using. \n\nAlso she will trash talk him to anyone who'll listen. My bestie and I brought her out on girls night and she spent all night telling us how she's embarrassed by him, he has such a small dick, he's bad in bed.. Goes on and on. I should've recorded it and shown him. \n\nYou can tell he is truly miserable, but thinks he loves her so he won't leave. How can we make him realize how unhappy he really is and how psycho she is?", "summary": "my (28M) friend is in a relationship with a controlling psycho(22F). How can we make him realize how miserable he is in the relationship and how controlling she really is."}
{"id": "t3_39y394", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't tell my girlfriend(21) that I(m23) love her", "post": "My girlfriend and I are in a relationship for about 1 month now. She told me in the first week she's in love with me, but I couldn't reply it, because i didn't love her. I do now. The problem is she's already a bit on distance. I dont know why. Maybe it's because she doesn't love me anymore, or it's because i never told her that i love her. I CAN'T tell her that i love her, because i have a very big fear of loss, especially due to her distance. I know it sounds like i'm totally inexperienced, but it's like my 15th relationship and I really don't want to lose her too due to my fear of loss. What should I do?", "summary": "Girlfriend is on distance and I can't tell her that I love her"}
{"id": "t3_4tgdtj", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "College and Mortgaging a Home", "post": "Hello everyone,\n\nI'm currently a 19-year-old college student and I'm finishing up my Associate's degree at a local community college in New York. Because this is a college within the SUNY system, my credits transfer almost perfectly to any of the other institutions within it, which is what I plan on doing.\n\nThe only problem is, campus housing is incredibly expensive. The university I was looking at has relatively inexpensive tuition ($10k/year) but housing will be appx. $1,000/month plus $500/month for the university's mandatory meal plan. \n\nI have a brief credit history (720, ~6 months) but don't plan on moving for about 10 months or so. Mortgages near the university run about $350-$400 a month for smaller, 2 bedroom homes. Obviously, I'd need to pay for insurance, food, electricity, internet, and save money for repairs, but would it be wise or even possible to do this at my age and with my credit history? \n\nI'd rather buy than rent, since it would feel much less like throwing money away, and I plan on staying in the area indefinitely even after I've earned a Bachelor's or Master's degree.", "summary": "19-year-old college student, short credit history, can I mortgage an inexpensive home rather than rent on-campus?"}
{"id": "t3_1fx4ql", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Your partner eventually wants kids and you don't. Do you live in the moment or do you end it? Please help.", "post": "Just broke up with the girl of my dreams. The woman reddit would swoon for and any sane man would put a ring on. \n\nShe eventually wants kids and I don't. We worked all our other issues out and it came down to that. I am worried I've made such a terrible mistake. \n\nWhat are your thoughts? How do you continue a relationship if you know it would have to end in 5 years? (Being fairly certain it would last that long). How does it not end up feeling pointless or like a waste of time that could be spent finding and being with someone else (or no one else, if I can't ever find someone I feel the same way about)\n\nI'm losing my mind, please give me your thoughts. I feel horrible, hopeless and everything else.", "summary": "She eventually wants kids and I don't. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_39w1p6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "20/M: New to dating, forever alone not wanted", "post": "Alrighty so I'm a 20 year old guy, I don't think too bad looking, and have admittedly very little experience (technically none before recently) when it comes to dating and even meeting people (women in my case). I've been using OKC for a couple months, I send messages to girls I have interest in every once in a while when I discover her profile, but generally pretty limited to zero response. Plus, a lot of profiles here locally (Sacramento-ish area of CA) seem to be ghosts, as in not logged into in a long time, and the few that are active and interesting remain quiet when I attempt to break the ice(burgs).\n\nAbout a week and a half ago, a girl randomly messaged me for once, seemed pretty interested, she wasn't bad looking, and we ended up going to lunch the weekend after, and after a week of chatting daily. That was Saturday, and now today she's gone pretty silent aside from one message after I asked her how her day was going. Plus her message seemed unusually rushed, she had previously been much more talkative. Bleh. Thought all went well in person, but perhaps not.\n\nI'm probably rushing through stuff way to fast (or not, again, no idea), but aside from online sites, whats the best way to go about meeting new people? I've heard the grocery store is up there, guess I've never really paid attention.\n\nI think the rush comes from everyone around me (family, friends) finding people, and I'm pretty much the only one aboard on the \"forever alone\" train, and I'm getting more and more tired of this train. I'd ask family for this kind of advice, but it's not really viable in my situation :/\n\nNote: also posted (very slightly differently) in /r/dating. Just wanted to maximize responses that I may not get from one or the other. If I've broken the geneva code or anything similar I'll delete one.", "summary": "20 years old, minuscule amount of meeting/dating experience, want to change that and get off the forever alone bus."}
{"id": "t3_4t7r4h", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Had to give up my 3 years old handfed Cockatiel", "post": "Hi, so, since I am still living with my parents until next year, my mother forced me to get rid of my Cockatiel because she was screaming too much. She's gone today at 3PM. I had handfed her myself, took a very good care of her and all of that. I had to do it since it was unrealistic to keep her knowing I may leave this fall for 2 months for work. My parents would not have accepted to care for her, and I could not bring her over where I might go. \n\nMy boyfriend also works night shifts and it would have be unwise to keep her un our future appartment. The lady I surrendered her to is very sweet and has other cockatiels of which she takes excellent care of.\n\nI'm not sure why I wrote this post. Maybe to rant or to convince myself I'm not a monster for giving her up. \n\nPlease don't make me feel worse than I already feel.", "summary": "had to give up my cockatiel, feel bad. Sad."}
{"id": "t3_399evf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] relationship 0 years. Never been in a relationship. I'm wondering, what are your ideas about pornography within a relationship?", "post": "What I'm wondering is, if you're with a guy, and that watches porn, do you see that as cheating on you?  Do you believe a guy who's with you shouldn't watch porn?  Or do you have no problem with it?  \n\nThe reason I ask, is that I've not gotten into a relationship yet, and currently, I don't think I could stop watching porn right now if I did.  Also, I'm a Christian and trying not to fornicate with the woman I'm with (trying not to even watch porn......), so I wouldn't be releasing any sexual energy that way with her.\n\nSo I'm just wondering, is this something you think a woman would be ok with?  Also, is it best that I eventually tell a woman I'm with that I'm doing this, or what?", "summary": "Is it ok with you if your boyfriend/husband watches porn, or do you see it as cheating on you?"}
{"id": "t3_4ezu1j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend[23M] Saw a text on his phone that seems odd", "post": "So the other night i was playing a game on my boyfriends phone when he got a text from his co-worker saying \" you sent that to the wrong person, im not your GF\" ( our names are one letter away from being the same)\n\nSo i could  see how maybe he accidently sent something to her on mistake. But i went and read what was \"supposed\" to be for me it read \n\n   \" Im at work closing i dont know who you think im out with, but im not, and im not discussing this with you anymore\"\n\nBut what was weird was the night before, the only things i had said to him was that i loved him and if he wanted me to bring him a smoothie while he was at work. ( And i knew for a fact he was at work because i had to drive him there, and picked him up later that night)\n\nI kind of have the feeling that he never intended to send that text to me, seeing as he never did send it to me, and never said anything to me when we got home last night. \n\nIt just seems off why he would send a text like that to his female co-worker. But it makes me feel a little uneasy.", "summary": "Saw a text on boyfriends phone saying \"  you sent that to the wrong person, im not your GF\". Went to read the text, it said \" I'm at work closing i don't know who you think im out with, but im not, and im not discussing this with you anymore.\" But i don't think he ever had the intent to send that text to me, because i never questioned him, and he never did send it to me or say something."}
{"id": "t3_30eu7h", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "If the STAHM is sick should the working parent do the kindergarten/school run if they can?", "post": "Me and my partner are in the middle of a heated discussion. I have a awful uti and have been up all night and asked him to drop my daughter off at childcare. It would take him an extra half hour meaning he would have to wake up at 7am not 7.30am.  He has refused. \n\nMy arguement is that half hour of sleep really isn't that much and it totally doable and the school run would be really uncomfortable for me seeing as I have to pee every 5 minutes and won't have access for a toilet for 30. When I was working I have done similar things for him and used to wake up at 5am on weekends to help him do one of his jobs when he was tired even when I had stuff on that day.\n\nHis arguement is we have had s couple of rough nights with my daughter and his tired. I can go back to bed after dropping her off, he can't.", "summary": "If the stay at home parent is sick who should do the school run?"}
{"id": "t3_t03xj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My friend is becoming an addict to weed.", "post": "Let's call my friend Sam for the rest of the \"story\". I knew he smoked weed and I never said anything about it since I though he had it under control. He's currently in his first year studying to become a Civil Engineer & he's already failing because of not going to classes,...\n\nI've told him a couple of times to watch out with weed and drugs, to not overdo it. But I never judged,... Now, another friend of mine (Jeff) who lives at my dorm had Sam's bag of weed since Sam forgot it during the weekend. Jeff isn't at his dorm 'till wednesday and Sam went apeshit on his ass because he needs his weed.\n\nJeff told him that I will be at our dorm tomorrow, but he said he can't go without weed untill tomorrow,...", "summary": "A friend of mine is getting too addicted to weed which causes him to fail his studies,... What do I do?!"}
{"id": "t3_2lgm3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28 M] told my wife of 8 years [28 F] I want to divorce. She is devastated. What can I do to make it better?", "post": "Clarification: we don't have kids, nor do we own any property. The only thing we share is a small debt with our bank.\n\nThere are some unsolvable issues in our marriage, but my wife still doesn't want to see our situation for what it is. She says she loves me a lot and doesn't want to give up. I don't think I love her anymore, but I care about her.\n\nWe had had many discussions before, but yesterday I finally told her we are too different and are just causing pain to each other... and that we should break up. At first, she just smiled at me, didn't say anything, came closer and gave me a long hug. I didn't understand what she felt, so I asked her what she was thinking. She said that she loves me and that's the only thought she has.\n\nA bit later I asked her if she even realized what I had said. She first said \"no\", then \"yes\" and started crying. She didn't want to talk anymore. Also, at night she slept in another room... or rather cried there half of the night.\n\nHer pain is really painful for me, too. I care about her and don't want her to suffer... yet I feel it is inevitable. I am not even sure what I am asking. I guess, I need some support and advice how to get through this.\n\nIn anticipation of your questions: we really have a lot of problems in our marriage. Emotional affairs from her side, religious incompatibility, she wants kids and I don't", "summary": "Our marriage has to end. Wife is devastated, and I feel really shitty for initiating the breakup. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_js4ch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my job is making myself and those around me miserable, what are my options?", "post": "I work as a software developer in NYC. I am just out of college, so I make barely enough money to live, after rent and loans and bills. I have a good health package, and I'm allowed to work from home once a week. I've been working at this place for around 7 months.\n\nHowever, I am forced to make deadlines that salespeople make and am constantly pressured by clients and salespeople to work after hours, making me bring work home with me and making me a miserable person.\nI've worked here for six months, and no word from what my review yielded me (nothing so far).\n\nWhen I signed on for this job, i was told that I would have 'unlimited vacation' as long as I finished my stuff on time. The problem is that there are not enough developers for what they need and I am constantly working my ass off just to stay on time (thus no vacation in the foreseeable future).\n\nI had to take a day off this week because I got sun poisoning and couldn't get out of bed. I was told that I need to meet my deadline anyways because they had to give me 'vacation time' for that.\nI knew that working at a start-up would be a challenge, but working every night into the hours of the morning is not something I expected.\nI know the economy is bad... and I've only got a year or two of experience, but this job is making my life miserable. I have dreams about my job and it's really taking over my life. All I do is complain about my job to my friends and family and I can imagine it's really getting on their nerves as well.\n\nWhat should I do? I have enough saved up to live for about 3 months. I pretty much need to stay in the NYC area, though. Do you think that would be long enough for me to find a job where I won't be miserable? Are there lots of places in NYC for a developer of my experience?", "summary": "I hate my job and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4vmkph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (27f) friend (29f) is too self absorbed and I find myself avoiding her now. How do I politely bring this up to her?", "post": "I love my friend. She's great but sometimes I can't stand being around her. She's so self absorbed and only wants to talk about herself and I can't stand it.\n\nI used to always want to hang out her because we have very similar interests and the same sense of humor but lately I've been avoiding her. If I hang out with her I already know I'll be there with her for hours hearing her rant solely about herself and the many guys interested in her. I don't take any of these guys seriously because she's always talking about someone new every so often. It's becoming apparent to me that she simply likes the attention. \n\nIf I try to change the subject she will simply cut me off and go back to talking about herself and these guys. The only topic she will comment on is my current relationship status. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend and we've been discussing our future together to which she will say we're being too positive and it's too soon for us to be thinking that way. (Her saying that really bothers me.)\n\nHow should I bring this up to her? I can't imagine being like, \"Hey you talk too much about yourself.\" I don't want to lose her as a friend but her fascination with attention from guys yet bringing down my relationship is starting to get to me.", "summary": "My friend only wants to talk about herself and all the guys interested in her and she brings my relationship down. If I try to bring up any other topics (like work/school) she will cut me off and go back to talking about herself. How do I bring this up with her exactly?"}
{"id": "t3_2x3v70", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Am I an asshole?", "post": "Okay so little background, I'm a 28 year old male, and just before christmas I came out of a > seven year relationship. So in the last month I have started back on the dating scene. \n\nThankfully because of Tinder I have been able to get talking to quite a few people, and met up with a small number of girls so far. I've been really enjoying getting out there and meeting new people, some of whom I wouldn't have the chance to socialise with before when I was in a relationship. \n\nNow, because I am just recently single I'm not exactly looking for anything serious at the minute. Nor am I **just** looking to meet up for sex (I'm not saying I am against this, sex is awesome, but I just mean that's not what I signed up for).  It find myself stuck in a rock and a hard place here. If I tell them I am not looking for anything serious they will think I just want to sleep with them, or fuck them over. If I don't I run the risk of hurting someone. Or is this really not an issue. I mean, I am meeting people from Tinder. Maybe everyone knows the score, and I'm just overthinking.", "summary": "Am I an asshole for meeting women from Tinder I have pretty much no interest in seeing steadily?"}
{"id": "t3_33vdvf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[relationships] When will breakup with my exgirlfriend [F24] stop hurting?", "post": "I [M26] was with my ex [F24] for three and a half years. She left me because I was jobless and she met somebody else (she left him since as well). I was single for a year. Now I am living with new girlfriend of nine months. My new girlfriend is kind and tolerant and best room-mate ever.\nStill, every morning, I wake up with an ache over my past relationship. I can't get over it. I love my ex, and feel like I will love her as long as I breathe. I don't have anybody to talk about this. I don't know what to do, how to alleviate my pain. WHEN IT WILL STOP HURTING?I hope I will just go to sleep one day and never wake up.", "summary": "I can't get over my ex despite having another relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2ipdwt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my ex [20F] had a son together. Was together 2 years broke up. Can't get over her", "post": "Basically I was with my ex girlfriend for over 2 years and I was madly in love with her (still am) I just can't get over her even though we broke up over a year and a half ago. It isn't as easy as cutting off all contact with her because I want nothing more than to be a good father to my son so that means constant contact. I think about her every single day and knowing that she doesn't feel the same way crushes me and send me into a state of depression.\n\nI feel like there is no one else out there. Sometimes it gets to the point I feel like dis appearing for good. I have nobody to talk to. All my time is spent up with working during the week and then spending time with my son at weekends so my social life is thst no existent I'd go so far as to say I have no friends. I just feel I'd be better off not being around  \n\nWhat hurts the most it was such a stupid reason we broke up. I know she is over me because I've tried to tell her how I feel and she has just knocked me back and told me she doesn't feel the same way. Even writing this has knocked me for six.", "summary": "Can't get over the mother of my son. Making me feel depressed. Can't cut out contact because I want to be a good father. Have no one to talk too. She is over me."}
{"id": "t3_1bkbfv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Attraction level fading between myself [27M] and gf [23F] (been together 2 years)", "post": "Is it normal for you to become less attracted to your partner over time? I'm not sure what to do about it. I can still enjoy sex and finish and stuff but I'm usually thinking about other girls I've interacted with throughout the day, celebs / people from tv, or porn if I've seen any recently. We've been together over 2 years. I can recognize that she's still just as attractive as when we first got together but things just get boring to me. I like variety. Her looks aren't below my level or anything and she's the level of attractiveness that I always thought I would end up with. \n\nAlso this has happened to me with my other relationships as well. Honestly it started a year in or so but it seems to keep getting worse and worse. I don't know where it's going to end up or how to stop it. \n\nSometimes I do thought experiments and like if I see a really hot girl I wonder if I would get sick of being with her also and the answer is yes. I think I have a very critical eye. I can start to see all these imperfections that would bother me and there wouldn't be the newness or the thrill of the surprise. \n\nI really can't imagine having a better mental / emotional connection with anyone which is why I want to try to fix this. Do I need a therapist? Will I outgrow this? I don't want to be one of those married men who is seeing escorts every week.", "summary": "Attraction level fading between myself [27M] and gf [23F] (been together 2 years)"}
{"id": "t3_2v6ogg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 21[m] broke up with my ex 20[f] for cheating on me after two years. Its been 6 months since the end, and I can't shake the pain.", "post": "Title. We were in an ldr 4 hours away, I found out she cheated on me with her best friend through a private blog post she thought I didn't have access to. I have zero tolerance for it so I ended it immediately. \n\nShe was my first real love, first girl I really made myself vulnerable to. I have kept NC religiously, thrown out all her shit, deleted everything, blocked her, yet all the signs and memory triggers haunt me everyday. I see her memory everywhere we've been around my house and around my city. \n\nIt's been months and I get really angry with myself that I can't get over it already. My thoughts cling to her and I can't stand it. I'm so exhausted of crying and being sad, I wanna be done with it. She's happily been with her best friend since the breakup and I'm here trying to get myself to sleep without crying.\n\nI'm trying to focus on school and finding a job to occupy myself but holy crap this is difficult....", "summary": "now ex-gf cheated on me and I can't get over it."}
{"id": "t3_qnopa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Roommate ethical situation", "post": "So I have a roommate that plays hockey.  He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room.  It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other.  Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates.  \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum.  I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms.", "summary": "my roommate leaves his smelly gym equipment in the living room and we (4 other roommates) want him to keep it in his room but he refuses to put it any other place"}
{"id": "t3_1k68zp", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hey, losers! To those of you who have already lost your weight: have you kept the weight off? how fast did you lose?", "post": "I'd love to get an idea if the \"conventional wisdom\" is true that slower weight loss = maintainable weight loss. I see a lot of posts (on here and on progresspics) from people who seem to lose a lot of weight relatively fast. I can't tell if it's a good idea to be inspired by their approaches to weight loss though, because i've been led to  believe that they'd probably gain it back. I've also been led to believe that slow weight loss usually results in people being more likely to keep the weight off.\n\nI'm hoping to get a bit of a survey of successful losers to find out if the conventional wisdom is nonsense or not!", "summary": "How fast did you lose weight, and have you been able to keep the weight off?"}
{"id": "t3_1l0map", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [60F] mother is making me [23M] miserable", "post": "Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n---\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n---\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone.", "summary": "My mother is obsessive, needy and does what she can to make it hard to leave. I feel guilty about leaving her and don't know how to get out..."}
{"id": "t3_s6ll0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the strangest thing that has ever showed up to your home uninvited? (possibly NSFW)", "post": "This story takes place when I was about 13 years old, and living in a neighborhood in the not-so-great part of town.\n\nI was just about to climb in bed at about 11:30 one night when I heard this \"BAMBAMBAM\" from the backyard. I assumed it was just my dog screwing around, so I yelled \"shut up, dog!\" and continued getting in bed. When the noise persisted, I decided to look out my window to see what was going on.\n\nBig mistake.\n\nTo my horror, I was viewing a rather large, middle-aged nude woman banging on my sliding glass door. She had her whole muddy body pressed up against the glass, yelling to \"let her in\". I was pretty shocked and so were my parents when they came out. They were well aware that this woman was obviously under the influence of some crazy drugs, so we ended up calling the police. When the cops showed up, the lady took off to the right of my street, and the cops went in the opposite direction. My family decided we'd had enough adventure for the night and we all went to bed. \n\nThe next morning, I walked outside in front of my house to find this lady's clothes bundled up in my driveway. She had disrobed in my driveway, walked casually into my front yard, opened the gate and walked into my back yard, and then proceeded to freak out.\n\nAnd for all the people who are thinking that I'm a jerk for not letting her in and assisting her, I was 13 at the time. I had no idea what to do, and my parents had called the cops before I could even react. Plus, she probably would have ended up in police custody anyway. Meth is a hell of a drug.", "summary": "One night, this messed up tweeker lady decided to disrobe in my driveway and walk around my front yard to my back yard and start banging on the sliding glass door of our house before taking off when the cops were called."}
{"id": "t3_1vps3p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it fair for me(F21) break it off with my bf(M24) just because Im tired of this relationship?", "post": "My boyfriend is what a lot of people dream for. Very sweet, caring, considerate and wonderful. Not only is he always going out of his way for me, but hes always got my best interest at heart. Weve been together 5months today, and I just am so bored. He doesn't challenge me in any way, all he ever does is agree with me and then tell me Im pretty(not that thats bad, but when your hear it 30times a day its meaningless and even annoying) Weve run out of things to talk about, now that we know so much about each other, and we never have any interesting conversation. Ive tried bringing up interesting topics or current events and he just agrees with what I say and thats it, he doesnt have his own opinion of anything and if he does I have to pry it out of him. If hes not saying Im pretty, hes apologizing for either nothing or something thats completely out of his control which is a huge pet peeve of mine(which I have explained to him) \n\nI have other problems besides being bored, hes super clingy and doesnt seem to have a life beyond hanging out with me or seeing me witch means his hobby *is* me. He doesnt have any friends(non that he talks to besides at his work) Not to mention no matter how many times Ive asked him not to he keeps buying me trinket gifts that I dont need or want or he buys me exorbitantly expensive gifts that I dont feel comfortable accepting(Nintedo DS, $275 bong, expensive games ect) Not to mention all those gifts make it that much harder for me to break up(what do I do with all of them? Do I keep them? Give them back?) All these things I could overlook and even work with if our relationship was a little bit more exciting, had some substance to it. \n\nIs it fair to break up because Im bored? Ive felt this way for more than a month now, should I just hope it gets better?", "summary": "Im bored and want out."}
{"id": "t3_cddcd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So my boss bet me I couldn't get access to his wireless router without his help...I know I can do it, but I need a little help.", "post": "Details:\nIts a Linksys WRT54GS.\nWhat I have learned is that the password is the default 'admin'.\nThey have a mac address filter but this only filters internet access.\nThey have a WPA which is just a string of letters and numbers that i dont know...i would need to steal this once i log in.\nWhat im worried about is if they have an ip filter, how do i get it to talk to me so i can log into it. like i said the password is 'admin' so i just need to get to a login prompt and im good. the only way i know how to do this is by the standard ip address of 192.168.1.1 (which is the one they use).\nDoes anybody have any advice? I need to win this bet, because I know his network is vulnerable.", "summary": "I know the login password, but not the WPA key. How can I get to a login prompt if they have an ip filter?"}
{"id": "t3_1387e3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "...yeah", "post": "Fuck me. Fuck the little 13-yr old kid inside of me who does everything prematurely. Forming a good friendship with someone? Why don't you act like an over-emotional retard? Well, the thing is, that is what I am right now. Someone becomes someone I want to be around, they get into who I am and they can fuck around with that stuff so well. Without them even trying, I find myself grabbing onto their shoulder for approval, 'please show me that you are someone true that I can know and will accept all my bullshit and really KNOW me.' Well I mean, I would do the same for you. But I just can't see why someone would be this way. If they could see what I have inside, noone would be so fickle and treat me as such. Who the fuck am I that you can treat me like that, like a friend, then when I begin to act a bit foolishly, begin to show that I might not be as totally strong as  I let on, you just let it expire. Idk, the situation's fucked. The stuff you do, the stuff you say, makes me ache in sadness. I feel so terrible that your life has been how it is so far. Yet you seem so naive, and I just know that I am even more so. Naive=easy to connect with, someone who will get where I'm coming from, but let's not pretend that this is ever something you will care about or value. Your head is emerging from the darkness somewhat and you are trying to be in that space where things are happy, where things are light, where things are superficial, yet you leave me behind here in the dark like it is nothing. I cannot believe the pain you so freely give me. I thought I could trust you. Looks like I called that one prematurely, but if I want to ask this subreddit one thing it is:", "summary": "How do you open up and really become friends with someone without letting them discard you so easily?"}
{"id": "t3_2z6c35", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/m] need help on learning how to not be clingy. Don't want to ruin a great relationship with current girlfriend [20/f]", "post": "Okay, so I've finally come to the conclusion that I am clingy. I guess I've finally matured enough to realize this. I'm fairly certain my current girlfriend doesn't think so, however, because I've really, really kept it under control to where she probably hasn't noticed. We've only been dating for about two months though, so it's only a matter of time before she does. I REALLY, REALLY like her a lot and don't want to drive her away so this is where I need your help.\n\nI know I'm clingy when it comes to texting. If I don't get a response within a few hours or so, I get very antsy and worried. I haven't done anything silly like text her twice or anything, but I could use advice on how to just chill.\n\nI'm also clingy, I think, when it comes to making plans. A lot of times she'll ask me to come hang out, but then get busy before I'm able to. Thus, we'll plan to hang out after she's done with what made her busy. However, she usually doesn't update me on whether we'll still be able to hang out or not so I start getting really anxious and a little hurt that she wasn't considerate enough to let me know that I didn't need to reserve time for her.\n\nI may also be clingy when it comes to feelings and such. I honestly know that I fall hard and fast for girls that return my affections. Thus, I usually want to shower them with affections and complements. I've been keeping it under control, but could use some advice on how to compliment/apply affection more tactfully.", "summary": "I'm clingy/have relationship anxiety and could use help on learning how to chill the hell out so I don't drive her away"}
{"id": "t3_22ne91", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Teach me how to forget/accept.", "post": "Disclaimer before I post: Yes, the root of my problem is based on a relationship, but **I don't need advice on my relationships**, I need advice on managing my own thoughts/emotions. Thanks!\n\nMy SO \"cheated\" on me in December -- and my that, I mean my SO talked to someone of the opposite sex over the internet in an inappropriately affectionate way. My SO had decided to end the relationship and cease communication before telling me his mistake. I made my SO show me all the messages because I believed it was fair for me to understand the extent of their communication before making a decision. I decided to forgive my SO and I have no regrets about that decision.\n\nBut every so often, I will think of their messages and some of the specific compliments that my SO made. It kills me to think of those thoughts and I know I should move on, but how do I do it? They provoke this crazy, irrational emotional response. How do I forget things like this, or accept that they are part of the past?", "summary": "Teach me how to accept the past!"}
{"id": "t3_1krjmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[25/F] with my fianc\u00e9 [26M] of 3 years, he thinks I'm too controlling with the money, I think he's too reckless with spending. Big arguments ensue. What do I do?", "post": "Basically, my fiance has a tendency to spend money.. Little bits here and there and then sometimes the large thing (though he does discuss them with me beforehand)\n\nSo we can keep atop of our finances and save something every month, I've set a strict budget for food, bills and spending money. I also budget \u00a3150 a month each for personal spending.\n\nHowever, he has already 'spent' that and about 6 months of future monthly spending allowance on a football season ticket and a new model dyson Hoover (that he insisted we needed as we'd had our old Hoover for a year already....) obviously I said that was crazy, so he opted to use his personal money to buy it.\n\nHowever, he has now pretty much maxed out his personal spending and we've had a few arguments over him being allowed to spend a bit more on bits and bobs and that he has every right to spend a bit more if he wishes.\n\nI understand he's put himself into a corner - and doesn't now have money to spend on little purchases like CDs or games.  However I feel like I'm being punished for being good with my finances and end up having to give him some of my spending money, rather than taking it out of the saver.\n\nI should add, he does earn more than me so maybe he feels its his right that he spends money how he likes. \n\nBut I like to save and think its healthy for the future....\n\nHow do we stop the arguments?", "summary": "fianc\u00e9 wants to spend more money, I want to save more money and not keep giving him some of mine. We argue lots over it (even though we would both like to save for a holiday fund!)"}
{"id": "t3_lt4v5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why does the US have such poor high schools, and such excellent universities?", "post": "At the risk of that being a sweeping generalisation in this thread:  many informed redditors are upset that the American highschool system (which to my understanding is widely unappreciated by the reddit community) is largely corrupt, and allows students to pass by giving them extra credit assignments and/or minimum grades.  Teachers are, in my understanding, bullied by parents and the administration to pass kids who don't otherwise deserve it.  If any of this is unfair, let me know.\n\nWhat I know for sure is that literacy rates among American adults are surprisingly low for a country of its stature (one link of many :  and though education is hard in every country, the American highschool system in the media takes a large amount of flack for this.\n\nHowever, when doing research on World University Rankings, I discovered that the vast proportion, by most measures (Times Higher Education, Newsweek, and my favourite Academic Ranking of World Universities [ of highly ranked universities are in the US.  Their Alumni score well, they have high numbers of Nobel Laureates etc. etc.\n\nMy question is, why is this the case?  The American Highschool system in a lot of ways is full of oppurtunity, the AP system, for example,  simply doesn't exist in England.  But I find the pass/fail thing bizarre.  In England your year-to-year exams (which aren't done in all schools, though most schools have some form of assessment) are graded by what you got right, and your score on the exam is printed on your report card.  End of story, if you got 22% on an exam, that's what it says.  \n\nIn England we're taught by subject and almost no choice in what subjects we do until we're 14, and even then it's very limited.  I like the idea of taking \"classes\", I think it's a good system.\n\nWith all of that in mind why the disparity?", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_3afrwi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by asking my teacher to wipe my butt. (Mildly NSFW)", "post": "As you might have guessed, this was in my younger pre-school years, nevertheless it was still very embarrassing.\n\nI was about three years old, and nap time was seeming very boring (as usual) so I decided to take a shit. There is a long hallway between my classroom and the bathroom, so my toddler legs walked down and opened the bathroom door. The bathroom contains one stall and one sink, so two kids can't relieve themselves at the same time. If one kid is using the toilet, the other has to wait outside the stall. So anyway, I went in the stall, locked the door, and shat to my hearts content. This is where the fuck up occurs. \n\nBeing my age, I didn't exactly know how to wipe my butt. This was my first time doing it at school, and at home my mom did it for me. Being the genius that I was, I rationally decided to yell, \"Teacher, can you wipe my butt?\" at the top of my lungs. Multiple times. Big surprise, she didn't show up. I'm not sure if she heard me or not, but let's just say, that was the day I learned to wipe myself. \n\nBut that's not all. When finished with my business, I walked out of the stall to see a wide-eyed classmate staring at me. That is the moment when I realized that I probably made a mistake, and walked out without washing my hands to avoid further awkwardness. I never spoke to that kid again. I'm sure some of the students heard me yelling, but luckily none of them ever mentioned the event again.", "summary": "Preschool me yelled for my teacher to wipe my butt; fellow students heard me."}
{"id": "t3_ba6om", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I own a company and regularly refuse employment to people because of their religious beliefs. Is that wrong?", "post": "My company is hiring and I have a specific set of questions that the hiring manager has to ask new applicants. One of which is, \"if tested evidence favors a conclusion that you don't agree with (emotionally, morally, etc) do you accept the evidence and incorporate it into your worldview?\" As well as several other questions along the same vein. If the applicant anwers in the negative to any of these questions they are redlisted from any future employment. \nThe reasoning behind this is that our work requires a substantial amount of critical thinking skills and I am of the opinion that the fervently religious don't posess these skills and would not be assets to the organization.\nI employ people from all backgrounds but out of 47 employees we have zero Muslims, Mormons, or evangelicals and this is a fairly diverse city.\nThe diversity issue in the workplace came up during a manager meeting and I've been stuck on it ever since. My lawyer assures me that the questions aren't discriminatory although my intentions certainly are. What do y'all think about my justification?", "summary": "I use discriminatory hiring practices in order to have a religion free workplace. Is this good, bad, or boring"}
{"id": "t3_2vmk7p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21] Girlfriend [20] of nearly 3 years, said she needed a break", "post": "Fairly straight forward really, for awhile now She and I have been at different points throughout our relationship where I would be distant and she would be clingy and vice versa. Recently I started a new job and a broken car which takes away a lot of time that we can spend together and I have been fairly clingy with how little I get to see her. She's been stressed out with her job and classes and I didn't help the situation. Earlier this night, we had plans to hangout and I was telling her my plan for Valentines day that I had been working out for awhile now, she interrupted me and said she needed a break because she's not happy and that we've at different places for awhile now and she's not sure if she see's a future for us. \n\nI will respect her wishes for space but I love her and I'm frightened I'm going to lose her. I'm aware of my mistakes and I really want to try to make amends and try to repair our relationship. I just don't know what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants a break because she doesn't see a future together at the moment and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_331q7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[27 yo F] dating [26 yo M]: feeling weird about boyfriend's deceased ex-gf", "post": "I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. His ex-gf (first love) who he was still friends with but wanted to date again died about 3 years ago. He has a tattoo in memory of her and art and things she made him hung up in his room and car. The first year we dated was touch and go as to if he was ready to be in a relationship. I tried to be there for him as much as I could but it was hard for a beginning of a relationship. We have since moved forward and are in a very good place. I had been OK with her things everywhere because I knew it was understandable....he was grieving and it was not my place. Now we are moving in together and I feel weird having her things hung up in our place. We got in an argument about it and he got angry and said I shouldn't feel weird about her stuff and that I should look at it like these are things in memory of his friend, not ex. Am I being insensitive or is this understandable?", "summary": "BF wants to hang up things his deceased ex-gf made him in our new place. How should I feel about this?"}
{"id": "t3_4voxtc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33M] with my wife [35F] together for 12yrs + kid [2F], partner in life and in business...", "post": "Our romantic lives got pretty boring after we started working together. However, business is booming. We did try to pick it up a couple of times and the result is a beautiful daughter I couldn't live without. I'm out of my depth and I don't know who to talk to about this. I love them both, but as a guy... I have needs, and at this point we haven't touched each other for over a year, and she doesn't want to change the situation at all. We're both getting more and more overweight and I'm doing my best a.t.m. to be nice and look good for her again (loosing weight, being a good dad, do activities together), she flat-out ignores my health-concerns for her. And we're on edge when we're talking to each other.\n \n\nI'm simply tired of this situation and I catch myself trying to reach out to other women, who in turn think I'm a pathetic creep, the moment they figure out I'm married. But all I want is just some affection.\n \n\nIt's becoming quite dysfunctional for me, because I can't seem to look at or talk to women without the hope I get more out of it. And it's literately driving me crazy. I still love my wife, but she's not there for me anymore when it comes to affection.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "Lack of affection, feel dead inside, don't want to lose my little princess, what are my options?"}
{"id": "t3_2ejzcx", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I hate the best job I can get, and I need a change, but I don't know what steps to take. Suggestions?", "post": "I don't know where to start, but I'll try to keep this as brief as possible because I know no one likes walls of text...\n\nI feel really lost. I graduated high school with no direction. I took a job in retail for two years, and definitely hated that. Then I went to college for one semester before dropping out and applying to university for the following year. I went for a year, plus a month of second year, and then dropped out. It was a combination of not liking the subject matter and struggling to cope with anxiety. I don't think I have GAD, but I've never seen anyone about my anxiety so for all I know, I might have it. Definitely had nothing to do with grades because I consistently had very high marks.\n\nRight now I work as an admin assistant in an office. I hate my job, but it seems to be the best thing I can get considering I have no schooling. The pay isn't great, but it is above minimum wage, so I shouldn't complain. I definitely don't want to do this forever, but I don't know what else to do, and I feel like if I don't figure it out now, I'll be trapped here forever. \n\nI take those career and aptitude tests online, and I literally answer \"No Interest\" to 99% of the questions. I don't have any particular skills or hobbies that I enjoy that I could draw on to inspire a career choice. In fact, I honestly don't ever feel very interested to do anything. I'd rather just sit on the sofa and watch Netflix or play video games all day. Obviously I know I can't do that, though, because you can't pay bills that way!\n\nSo then what do I do now? Where do I go from here?", "summary": "Went to post-secondary education multiple times and dropped out because of no interest in the subject matter and feelings of anxiety. Have a job in an office, but the pay isn't great and I generally just hate it. I don't have any interests or skills to draw on, and career/aptitude tests have not been helpful. I need a change, but I don't know where to begin. I feel like I have no direction or drive. Suggestions on next steps?"}
{"id": "t3_1040de", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Holy shit. I think I'm going to get back with him[f 21, m26]", "post": "Before the summer started I met a very intelligent, kind man at a local bar. We were instantly very interested/attracted to one another, but I soon realized that he had a lot of baggage from past relationships. He had been cheated on by two other girls, who he promptly cheated on in return. He told me that for 7 years, he didn't have a girlfriend, just FWBs here and there for awhile. After a month of dating, I went on an overseas trip to visit family. He stayed in town and promptly cheated on me with one of his old FWBs. Something seemed off, so I broke up with him(only AFTER breaking up with him did he tell me about is FWB). He was pretty harsh during the breakup, telling me that he didn't mean to hurt anyone by it, and saying that it was no big deal. When I came back to town, three months later, he texted me out of the blue, asking me to hang out with him. I ignored his message. But I miss him, a lot. I want to get back with him. All my friends/family warned me about him, but I just don't give a fuck.", "summary": "this is a bad idea and I know it, but I miss him so much that I want him. Any final thoughts that may switch my opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_4ux9kr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25m] friend[25m] is dating[26f] a girl I used to sleep with, he is asking me for sex advice because she is being a prude with him... not sure what to say here.", "post": "One of my ex-roommates is dating a girl that I used to be friends with benefits with two years  ago. Just to quickly describe our sex life, this girl was down for anything. She offered to do anal with me, (wasn't interested), I would usually finish on her face. We would fuck a lot, and she was really orgasmic. \n\nHere is where things get messy and complicated. I had a roommate and now we both work in the same field and we  work at the same company but different areas. However, we have been having lunch together. He has brought up his girlfriend in conversation and I realize that it was the same girl that I used to sleep with. \n\nHe asks me for advice mainly because he thinks of me as being good with women (I am not really all that great myself just better than him). He has told me that his girlfriend and him started having sex two months ago and she made him wait five months. He has been asking me about advice on how to get his girlfriend to open up in bed. He says their sex life is really dull, she doesn't want to give him a blow job, doesn't want to do any position besides doggie and missionary, and any of that other stuff completely off limits. \n\nI don't really know what to say to him. I haven't told him that I slept with her, because I don't want this to go awkward. I think a lot what is going on is cultural, and I should just step out of the way (they are both Indian/Hindus). My worry though is that if he finds out that I have been hiding it from him that he might get angry at me. I am not sure what to do help out please.", "summary": "ex-roommate is dating a girl that I used to date. She did a lot of stuff with me, but is a prude with him. Not sure what to say to him."}
{"id": "t3_4cs7s9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my ex [22 F] of 5 years, can't bring myself to go no contact.", "post": "We were together for 5 years, broke up September of last year after she told me she had feelings for a mutual friend.\n\nIn the past she had cheated on me. I only know for sure of two, but I'm almost certain she also had another long term affair when she was studying abroad.\n\nI stayed friends with her since she had been my first for everything, and we really shared some great moments together,so letting go completely is difficult for me.\nHowever recently there have been times where she has come over to my place to get high and hang out just to leave when one of her fuck buddies contacts her.\n\nNo matter what I do or say she doesn't seem to care for it after some time, only offering apologies and not really doing anything else.\n\nHowever I still feel bad and guilty whenever I block her from messaging me and end up undoing it within the next day.", "summary": "tumultuous relationship with ex, stayed friends, shitty friendship can't bring myself to go no contact."}
{"id": "t3_2fklnx", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "What do the ring bearers do in a catholic wedding?", "post": "We have two little boys in our wedding and we intended to have them both be ring bearers, on for each of us. My mom made two lovely pillow out of her old wedding gown, and the two boys are older (7 and 9) so we fully planned on having them actually preset us with the real rings.\n\nWell, today I was just informed by the church that the priest actually has the rings at the alter, and that the ring bearers and pillows are basically just props. She said we could ask for special permission from the priest to do it our way, but she kinda made it sound like that was frowned upon.\n\nSo, anyone who did a catholic wedding...what did you do? Having the boys just standing there with pillows seems so phony...especially after they were so excited to be involved. Any suggestions?", "summary": "did your ring bearers have your actual rings? If not, what did they do?"}
{"id": "t3_2g057c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (24 m) am unsure if she (22 f) is physically attracted to me. Should I break up with her?", "post": "Hey all, I was hoping to get some dating advice about a tricky situation I have gotten myself into over the last month.  I have been dating an awesome, attractive girl for about a month now who is exactly my type and see her every other day ~15 dates. We have been doing everything together including 3 day camping trips, cooking dinner for each other, and other various activities.\n\nOf course when I think that I found the perfect girl there has to be a problem.  This one started when we first started seeing each other and she said that she wanted to take it slow as far as waiting to have sex (that's fine).  I have to admit that I am crazy attracted to this girl and it takes every effort that I have to not touch and kiss her every time I see her.  She says i'm perfect for her and shows no lack of interest other than sexual.\n\nSo we waited around 12ish dates until we finally slept together on a camping trip.  This was two weekends ago and shes back to not sleeping with me, not handsy, etc etc.  The sex was ok, but it felt very passive and kind of just seemed like she was appeasing me.\n\nNow I really like this girl.  But no sex in a relationship is just something that I don't think I can live with right now.  She makes me feel guilty and whenever I try to go below the belt she will say something snooty like \"can I help you?\" She is by no means inexperienced and has had double the partners I have (~20) so I do not believe that is the issue.  The only thing I can think is that she is not attracted to me in the physical sense.  If this is already an issue so early on I can't help but think what it would be like in 6 months to a year.  What should I do?", "summary": "Awesome girl, I don't think she is attracted to me.  Not sure if I should break up with her."}
{"id": "t3_31g67w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Having a hard time telling my [17 F] boyfriend [19 M] those three little words!", "post": "So ive been with my boyfriend for almost seven months now. I feel like the relationship is going really well and I've already realized I'm in love with him. He's the type of guy that takes a long time to make moves (took him two months to *officially* ask me out haha) which is totally fine with me, but that puts pressure on me now. I feel like if I don't tell him that I love him, it'll never come first from him.\n\nBUT I also don't want to obligate him to say it back to me if he doesn't feel it or something. I aalso don't wanna ruin the moment by prefacing it with some long spiel about why I wanna say how I feel but don't want to force him into feigning reciprocation etc \n\nI've been waiting it out but I just feel like blurting it out sometimes when I'm with him because I wanna say it already. Conceal, don't feel doesn't work for me", "summary": "Too chicken to say \"I love you\" because he might not feel it kms"}
{"id": "t3_3ea4k7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M] can't think of a way to thank my fathers boss [?? F] for her support.", "post": "I've never had a \"big\" family here in the US, most of my relatives are back in my parents' country. However I did have some connections with my parents relatives, friends & other close people. One of them is my fathers boss, she's wealthy, I don't know too much about her.\n\nEvery year for Christmas she would buy our family presents, she does it for other people too but the fact she does it in general is what is thoughtful. Its been about 8-10 years now and she still asks my father annually what I want for Xmas. I always give her a call thanking her a lot, but I feel like its not enough. \n\nJust now my Mom gave me an envelope and told me it was from my dads boss. Inside the envelope was a card and had a little note congratulating me for my academic success in High School. There's also a check for $250, when I saw it I just couldn't believe it. I mean, I feel like I don't deserve it but I'm absolutely grateful for it.\n\nNow tomorrow I'm going to give her another one of those thank you calls, but I also want to do something more. Should I write her a letter too with a post card? Idk, she's in her 60's and I've no clue what she likes because idk anything about her.", "summary": "my dads boss wrote me a check for $250 sealed in an envelope with a card because I graduated from high school. Need thoughts on how I can show her how much I'm thankful rather than just saying it."}
{"id": "t3_wabbt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was the hardest thing you had to say to your parent(s)?", "post": "Today I just received the most heartbreaking news that I have to soon deliver to my dad. Both of his parents died when he was in high school, and throughout his middle years his 2 brothers died, leaving him only with his sister. I just got a call that his sister had a heart attack and just passed away. Since his sister was the last blood relative left of my dad's family, I can't even bring myself to tell him of the news. It is by far one of the hardest things I've had to tell my any of my parents. What was the hardest thing you had to tell them?", "summary": "Both of my dad's parents and all but one of his siblings has passed away. His last sibling just passed away and I have to deliver him of the news."}
{"id": "t3_i8ijm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you prove that I'm stupid?", "post": "So I use a website for work that has a logic based Captcha system for their WAP site where you're supposed to pick the odd word out. Normally, there would be sets such as:\n\n[Monday, Tuesday, Sunday, Uranus], [sociology, mathematics, chemistry, atlanta, biology, astronomy], [latin, lacrose, lizard, recliner, lexus, learn]\n\nYou get the idea. So today I run across this one:\n\n[blue, black, twelve, twenty]\n\nI choose twenty because it's the only one without an L. Wrong. I then chose one of the others, I don't remember which, and was told I was wrong again. After two wrong answers it logs you out and you have to log in again. Given that this is time sensitive, I was pissed and called the support line for the website. The conversation went something like this:\n\nGirl: Hello?\nMe: I'd like to report a problem with the captcha on your WAP site.\nG: Oh, yes. We've had other people tell us it's too hard.\n\nAt this point I got more annoyed and the conversation deteriorated. At some point she tells me that while she cant figure it out either, shes positive there is a correct answer. Reddit, please tell me which one that is, and more importantly, why!", "summary": "Can you pick the odd one out? (it's not twenty, I picked it for it's lack of L."}
{"id": "t3_1umnbf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How interested is this guy [24/m]? Will he ask me [24/f] out soon?", "post": "I've been chatting online to this guy from college for the last few weeks. He initiates most of the conversations. At first they were only about 5 minutes long, then they went on to be around 20-30 minutes long. And since New Year, we've started having really long conversations. We chatted for 3 hours solid one night last week, and yesterday we chatted all day (with a few breaks). \n\nHe always asks questions to keep the conversation going. He responds almost immediately to my messages each time we chat, and when we had our all-day chat yesterday, he apologised every single time when he took longer than 10-20 minutes to respond. I just replied saying \"oh it's fine, don't want to disturb you if you're busy,\" and he replied saying \"nah not at all, I'm here if you want to chat.\" \n\nHe often randomly asks how I'm doing or says that he hopes I'm doing okay and has also said it's always nice chatting to me. He has always said goodbye or goodnight if has gone offline. He never has gone offline without saying anything. \n\nI definitely think he might be interested - what do you think? How interested do you think he is? Interested enough to ask me out soon? I've been thinking about asking him out myself, but I would like it more if he made the first move.", "summary": "Talking to guy from college online for the last few weeks"}
{"id": "t3_358thq", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU", "post": "So this happened a few minutes ago. I'm laying here with my girlfriend and have a picture on my phone I took of her naked, bent over, with her hands spreading her cheeks so you could see her butthole. She wanted me to post it to one of the gone wild type subreddits, so I picked one and tried to post it. So then I decide to text the picture to my girlfriend since she asked for it earlier. This is where I fucked up. \n\nI selected the picture, and hit send, then I looked at the top and realized it said \"mom.\" I had a heart attack. Tried deleting the picture while it was still saying sending, doubting that would work but frantic to try anything. It sent before I could hit delete anyway, so I sent my mom the text \"No\" right after and called her up thinking I could get to her before she opened the text. My mom answers the phone and asks me if everything is alright, and I ask her to do me a huge favor. She relied \"delete the picture?\" I said yeah, apologized repeatedly, and she tells me she has seen worse and she'll delete it. A minute later she texted me saying it was deleted. So here I am now with my girlfriend, with her being slightly horrified about the fact that she has to see my mom in three days for mothers day.", "summary": "I showed my mom my girlfriends butthole."}
{"id": "t3_54fnl1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by dreaming", "post": "This one actually happened today, maybe four hours ago to be precise. My girlfriend and I have a very healthy sexual relationship. We're both open to trying things at least once and love to experiment with new ways of getting each other off. \n\nOne request I've always had but has never worked is the infamous alarm cock blowjob. She's open to the idea but I'm such a light sleeper any alarm she sets just ruins the surprise aspect. Low and behold this morning she woke up before me naturally. \n\nShe starts getting frisky while I'm deep in the dream cycle of sleep. As she starts fondling the boys and going to town I find myself 'waking up' naked in a camping store, full of customers. One old man in particular saw something funny going on under the blanket and died laughing. \n\nPanic mode sets in and as I look down I see that I'm no longer wearing my regular shoes. I have an army boot on one foot and powerlace nikes on the other. Frantically I begin searching the camping store for my shoes. When that fails I at decide I at least need to find one that matches one of the two I'm already wearing. They are nowhere to be found and I'm far too broke to buy new boots and a pair of powerlace nikes. Somewhere around here the panic hits a peak and I actually wake up, jump out of bed screaming I have to find my shoes. \n\nThe girlfriend is utterly confused and a little miffed at the result of her very generous sexual favor. She died laughing when I explained though.", "summary": "Ruined my first real chance at a longstanding sexual fantasy by unnecessarily panicking about shoes. I gusss call me Suzan now."}
{"id": "t3_26pai9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] good friend [19F] has a very unhealthy view of her previous relationship", "post": "My friend is absolutely convinced that \"nobody understands the love\" she had for her ex-boyfriend [19M]. They had a pretty standard break up when he came to college, but instead of actually breaking up they were \"committed to\" each other while he tried talk to other girls. He has some pretty serious issues (would get up in the middle of the night and yell/kick stuff, got kicked out of college in his first year for drugs) and was very mean to my her during their breakup. He was her first serious relationship.\n\nShe can't seem to get over him or that mentality that they had something incredibly special that nobody else can understand. Nothing I say seems to get through to her and she just got angry the times we did talk about it. Does anyone have experience helping someone get over that hump?", "summary": "My friend is stuck believing that her last relationship was a special snowflake and I am at a loss as to how to help her."}
{"id": "t3_2dxizf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting the mail and finding out my dad may have an illegitimate child", "post": "I don't usually get the mail out of the mailbox. My mom typically gets it when she gets home from work. I've been impatiently waiting to get a few books I ordered from Amazon to take back to college with me this Saturday so today I went to check to see if they came in the mail.\n\nMy order wasn't in the mail but while I was flipping through the bills and other crap I noticed an envelope addressed to my father from the Family Court of Delaware. We do not live in Delaware. My family has lived in Virginia my entire life (as have my parents).\n\nAt first I was pretty confused as to what this envelope was. I took the mail in the house and under a bright light inspected the envelope. I couldn't make out much but I could read that it was a calculation of child support.\n\nI was shocked to read this and then remembered something my mom had shared with me a few years ago. An anonymous person (woman?) contacted my mom through facebook saying that my dad had another child and was sending them money etc etc. \n\nMy mom talked to my dad about it but I never got any more information so I assumed everything was fine. The facebook thing was some crazy scheme or something. Now with this new development I'm not so sure.\n\nI really wanted to open the letter but then decided against it. I dont even know it I want to confront my dad about it. Not sure if I even want to know the answer. \n\nWe're about to go out to our favorite restaurant for dinner as a goodbye thing for me going back to school for my last year of college. What should I do? Just hand it over? Confront my dad? Have a family meeting? I haven't even told my brother who lives at home while he goes to school.", "summary": "found mail sent to my dad claiming child support from some unknown person"}
{"id": "t3_3p85xu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] play League of Legends with my friend [24M], but I'm not having fun playing with him anymore.", "post": "We've been friends for around nine years now, and I love hanging out with him. He's funny, smart, and very supportive of me. \n\nThe only problem is that we can't seem to play a game of League of Legends without him getting extremely angry. He starts shouting and pitching a fit if he's not doing well, and it makes the game unenjoyable.\n\nI am a firm proponent of the idea that anything can be solved with open, honest communication--and I've tried it. But when I bring it up, he just gets upset. He says that I'm \"throwing him under the bus\" and things like that, and the conversation never goes anywhere.\n\nAt this point, I feel like the only option is to tell him that I don't want to play League with him anymore, but I don't know how to tell him that without making things worse.", "summary": "Friend gets mad at video games, makes them no fun to play. How do I fix this, or what's the best way to tell him that I don't want to play with him anymore?"}
{"id": "t3_l3u41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Confused/uncertain about how to move forward with a relationship.", "post": "Ok, so first off I am male and I'm looking for advice as to how to proceed with a relationship I have with a female. I apologize if I'm posting in the wrong subreddit.\n\nTo start the woman I'm talking about, let's call her derpette for simplicity, and myself have been friends and co-workers for about two years. She has seen me go through many foibles and failures in that time and we have become close friends. We are very similar in personality and have had some of the same bad past experiences (for example we have both been through divorce) and are within a couple of years of each-others ages, I am thirty and she is twenty-five. I have up until now only considered her a friend and compatriot but recently I have begun feeling more depth of feeling towards her and I'm starting to want to pursue something more than just friendship with her.\n\nMy problem, my confusion, is that I'm not sure if acting on my desire for a relationship with her would be a good thing for our friendship. I am not sure if after so long being friends what a bf/gf relationship would be like and if approaching her with these feelings might damage our friendship. In my confusion I turn to you Reddit, please help? also if I haven't given enough information please let me know.", "summary": "considering move from friends to more than friends and not sure how/if to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_jlil7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have just watched the final episodes of LOST. Could someone please explain what was going on?", "post": "**Spoiler alert, obviously.**\n\nAfter stopping in mid-season 6 for whatever reasons (I watched the Richard-centred episode and thought \"Well, everything is explained, then!\" Little did I know...), I recently started rewatching the whole season, culminating in an 8 episode LOST marathon last night.\nApart from being emotionally exhausted - I cried for the whole time during the last 2-3 episodes (yes, I\u00b4m a girl) - it left me rather confused. Could you help me and answer some questions?\n\n1) What WAS the Island? Hell? Purgatory? Or, as Jacob put it, a stopper to the bottle of evil? But why did the other brother become evil? All he wanted was to leave the Island and see other things!\n\n2) Who were Jacob and the evil-brother-without-a-name? Where did their \"mother\" come from?\n\n3) What was that giant \"stopper\" about in the cave with the light? The Fountain of Youth?\n\n4) Will Hurley really be the watcher, or is the story of the Island over now?\n\n5) I didn\u00b4t understand Charles Whitmore\u00b4s intentions the whole time. And why did his alternate timelife wife Heloise know everything?\n\n6) Have they all been dead for the whole time? \n\n7) The church at the end: was that a sort of pre-Heaven? Will they be able to go on with their alternate timeline lives when they leave the church, or do they have to stay there and eventually go to \"Heaven\"?\n\n8) What about the plane with the last survivors? Will it reach its destination? Where is its destination?\n\n9) So Jack is really really dead? Or will he be able to live his alternate timeline life?\n\n10) Was it all only a Christian allegory in the end? (As Kate put it: \"Christian Shepard\"? Really? ;o)\n\nAnd finally: JIN AND SUN?!?!? COME ON!!! THEY WERE HARMLESS AND CUTE!!! THEY HAD A DAUGHTER, FOR PETE\u00b4S SAKE!!!", "summary": "So what was LOST all about?"}
{"id": "t3_34cxo3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm tired of being defined by my ex.", "post": "My ex and I dated for a year and 3 months or so, and before that we were best friends for three years. We're about to end high school and the break up hasn't been too terrible but people still define us as a couple and I know that really annoys him. (We broke up because he didn't want to help me through my depression and anxiety anymore). So now it's the end of senior year and we're picking colleges and we're down between the same two. He picks and doesn't tell me (which is fine), and I finally make a decision tonight. I end up picking the same university that my ex picked without my knowing. I tell my best friend, who immediately asks me if I'm going to this university just because my ex is. No, I'm not. I'm going there because I picked it. I'm going there because they have a better program of what I want to learn. My decisions are because of what I want, not his or anyone else's. I'm tired of being defined as I do whatever everyone else does or wants. He is himself, and I am me. I am me. I make my decisions and decide my future. Only me.", "summary": "I unknowingly picked the same college as my ex and my best friend thought it was because I wanted to follow him. This is not true. I'm tired of being defined like that."}
{"id": "t3_1q1t5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I (23 F) speak up about minor, inconsequential annoyances with an otherwise great guy (27 M) or just learn to deal?", "post": "About eight months ago, I got out of a serious, long-term relationship. We lived together, and the breakup was really rough for me. Since then, I've been on a few one-off dates and had a few, uh, casual encounters, but I haven't felt ready for anything serious. \n\nRecently, however, I met a friend of a friend at a get-together, and we really hit it off. We've hung out four times since then, and I'm feeling like I may be ready for this to turn into something more. We laugh a whole lot, have really interesting conversations, etc, etc. \n\nBUT, there are a few tiny little things about this guy that rub me the wrong way. It's really dumb, minor stuff that a) totally comes down to weird personal preference and b) mostly has to do with technological communication: he punctuates texts in a way that reminds me of my dad, messages me too often on Facebook, uses smileys that don't seem to make sense with the situation. \n\nNow typically, I pride myself on being really straightforward when something's bothering me. But this stuff is dumb. Really dumb. There's a line between being communicative and being mean, and I don't want to cross it. Therefore, I've been trying to deal, but these dumb little things are really getting under my skin. \n\nSo the question is, do I try to say something nicely, at the risk of looking like a jerk and hurting this guy's feelings? Or is this my own problem that I need to get over by myself?", "summary": "Awesome dude texts like my dad and it's getting to me. Do I speak up or deal?"}
{"id": "t3_xo3qk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the weirdest thing a family member has ever said to you?", "post": "So here's the story\n\nA couple of months ago my father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, it was already extended to his liver and there was not much to do about it. They started chemo right away. Last week he got himself an infection and it seems it's turned into a multiple infection which will eventually lead to most of his organs failing and him dying.\n\nHe's bedridden at the hospital and we (me, my sisters and my mother) try to spend whatever time he has left with him. He is barely conscious. But this morning, in one of his small glimpses of consciousness, one of my sisters started explaining to him again how he had an infection and they were fighting it with antibiotics and how chemo lowered his defenses and that's why it was taking some time, etc etc. He drifts off again.\n\nThere is a beep from my cellphone. An e-mail. He regains consciousness and asks what is it. I tell him it's my phone, an email. He tells me to save it because it's important, but the message is just a notification from a dating website I haven't visited in a year saying I had a private message, probably just to lure me back in (they make money off premium services and such). \n\nHe asks to bring *that* towel (pointing to where there was nothing) and my cellphone. I don't know what for. I tell him it's just an email and he just looks at me straight in the eye and says \"VortixTM, be paranoid\" he gestures towards my sisters \"They're lying to me, be paranoid.\"\n\nI'm quite certain his mind is just wandering off. My father has been in the military for long, he worked with NATO, was part of a few secretive operations during the Cold War and I don't really know what to think anymore. \n\nWhat do you make of this?  \nWhat's the weirdest thing a family member has ever said to you?", "summary": "My dying father tells me to be paranoid about the rest of our family (his wife and daughters)."}
{"id": "t3_10zvvr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How can I [22m] approach dating a [17f]?", "post": "I need honest opinions on how to go about dating someone who is barely underage without ruffling too many feathers. Just to give you a little insight into the situation, we've been talking for about a month now, but haven't gotten into anything too serious yet. I'm a 22 year old male, never really had a serious relationship that lasted longer than a month, and am a virgin. She is 17 years old, turns 18 next summer, and is clearly interested in me. In the past couple of years, I've kind of come out of my ugly duckling stage and become moderately attractive and this girl is one of those that I never would have had a chance with in high school. Smoking body, athletic, and has to fight guys off with a stick. How do I deal with parents? If she's cool with sex, do I go through with it, or do I wait until she's 18 to be safe? What legal, social and emotional ramifications am I looking at? Thanks.", "summary": "After a lot of talking, I'm about to take it to the next level with with a 17 year old, and need to know what to expect."}
{"id": "t3_4x8lot", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Youth Football", "post": "My 6th grade son plays tackle football. I am a huge football fan and I played through high school myself. I read a lot about the risks of concussion and was very leery of letting my son play. When he asked to go  out I spoke with some parents that let their children play and they convinced me to go to the preseason meeting and listen to what the coaches and organizers have to say about safety. I did and was convinced. They are teaching correct heads up tackling techniques and they espouse following strict concussion protocols.  \n\nYesterday was the first full contact practice. It was a hot humid day so I watched practice from my truck. After a drill a boy stumbled to the sideline and took off his helmet. My son was speaking with him on the sideline. No coach came over to see him at all, he just sat out the rest of practice. After practice when I asked him about it he said the boy had banged his helmet into the helmet of another boy and came out because he had a headache and felt dizzy (classic concussion symptoms). I left the boys mom a message letting her know. She called me back and said she spoke with her son. He admitted to her that he had a headache and said the coach knew about it but that he was fine. She said the coach would keep him out if it were an issue. \n\n I didn't see the collision and I certainly don't know how the  conversation between coach and player went (if there was one). I feel this is the opposite of how they told us possible concussions would be handled. My wife is a nurse, she is considering casually talking with the coach about what they look for. I am going to go to practice and watch every night. I'm worried nothing has changed since I played and the same old school attitudes about toughing it out are in place. \n\nWriting this out makes me feel better and maybe I am blowing it out of proportion.", "summary": "Coaches still blow off potential concussion despite lip service to the contrary."}
{"id": "t3_2cae4b", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Am I an asshole for wanting to move?", "post": "I'm in my mid-20's and I want to either get a place of my own or move in with roommates. The only problem is my parents.\n\nFamily Situation:\n\nMy father has a life threatening health condition (he's fairly stable for now) and he needs my mother to help take care of him. My mother doesn't work (she was a stay at home mom and never found a career after me and my sister grew up) and she doesn't drive (PTSD from a car accident). They both live off of his disability benefits.\n\nTheir Problem:\n\nMy parents need each other but they can't seem to recognize that. My father feels alone because my mother is constantly involved in church events (he's an atheist) and whenever she is home she's doing house work or reading the bible. She finds all the religious things therapeutic and won't  give it up because he doesn't believe in God. She's also sleeping in another room for the past few years because he is nocturnal and she isn't. At the moment they aren't speaking to each other.\n\nMy Problem:\n\nHere's why I feel like an asshole. They both need each other. If she disappears he'll have to rely on me to be his housekeeper/cook . If he leaves I'll have to provide for her financially. Honestly I don't want to do either. I wan't to move out and spread my roots. I feel like a kid staying with my parents. My co workers don't respect me because I still live with my parents.", "summary": "My parents are about to break up but they need each other or me. But I want to leave."}
{"id": "t3_3z1ttb", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Help me help my handicapped brother.", "post": "Hi everyone, I wasn't sure where else to post this topic so it's all yours.\n\nI have a younger brother who was born with a chromosome deficiency. He's 21 years old now but has the mental capacity/maturity level of roughly a 10 year old. His bedroom is filled with New England Patriot and Toronto Maple Leafs gear, he's a crazy super fan. This kid is on top of both rosters, he knows what's happened in the league before any of our family, how many goals a certain player had last season, he's crazy about these sports. \n\nThe problem I'm starting to see is that he's got no life skills. A few months ago i taught him to use a can opener for the first time. He doesn't know how to use a blender for morning meals or use the oven. He's need to rely on my parents for literally everything. Now, let me be clear; he is fully capable of doing all these tasks. My parents treat him like a baby, eventually I will be the one taking care of him and I want him to be semi functional on his own. He loves being online mostly browsing about NFL and NHL.\n\nI want to find something productive or engaging that he can start doing online or offline, maybe learning something new. My family had a small garden a few years ago that he enjoyed but never got back into it after my grandmother passed. Once he finds something he likes he can do it for hours on end. I live about 3 hours away and just started my own business so there isn't much time to see them these days. I'm looking for suggestions that might help him learn new skills, or generate a small income, work towards goals.", "summary": "I'm looking for activities my sport fanatic handicapped brother can do to stay engaged or generate an income."}
{"id": "t3_1dnalx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "STD Scare 28[M] Might've given chlamydia to a 24[F]", "post": "Hey /r/relationships\n\nI'm kinda freaking out right now. \n\nI've recently starting seeing an awesome girl. And we've been having unprotected sex (we're exclusive). Things are going really well and I like her a lot, which is why I'm kind of freaking out. \n\nShe called me a couple hours ago saying that she's seen some pink \"discharge\" when she pees. By her googling, this means either its hormonal or its chlamydia.\n\nLast time I got tested in late Winter, I came up perfectly clean. However during and since then I've had a casual thing with two different girls, occasionally unprotected. So, for all intents and purposes there is a very real possibility that I got chlamydia from either of them. \n\nObviously our next step is to get tested and deal with whatever the results of this are. My worry is this possibly ruining an otherwise great relationship. I like this girl, after seeing each other for a month its starting to click that this has real potential.\n\nHow should I approach this? When we spoke on the phone, my first reaction was to tell her very confidently that there is no way that I have an STD. However, I don't actually know this. Now I feel like I've lied.\n\nWe're supposed to hang to tonight, I want to talk to her more about this. I want to be honest and tell her that I'm worried too.\n\nI need advice guys, as I said before I'm freaking out.", "summary": "Might have chlamydia might've given to a girl I really like. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3icnvq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24f] Need help breaking up with my boyfriend [26m] that I live with", "post": "I have been together with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and we have been living together for ~4 of them. Lately (as in within the past year) I just don't feel that there is anything in this relationship worth staying for. I don't hate or dislike him, but he is an alcoholic and there are some issues that would be minor on their own but cumulatively make me very unhappy and aren't being addressed despite numerous discussions about it. Anyway I'm not really looking for advice on whether we should break up since I'm basically already decided.\n\nI have never broken up with anyone before and I'm not really sure how to go about it. We have a lease in both of our names that ends in about 2 months and we have to give 60days notice before moving out. He doesn't really have anywhere to go and has no savings, nor can he afford the apartment on his own (although he is apparently supposed to be getting a raise soon) so I was planning to move in with my parents and continue paying my share of the rent through the end of the lease (basically just a month since I already paid next month). \n\nMy concern is that he tends to be destructive when he is upset especially when he is drunk. I am worried that he will cause damage to the apartment that I would then be liable for since my name is on the lease. We already have some small holes in the wall that he made and we have had holes in the wall everywhere we have lived.\n\nMy other concern is that we have 2 cats. Ideally I would like to take them both with me as I do not think he would be a suitable caretaker and I have always been the one who assumed most of the responsibility for them (paying for food, vet bills, maintaining litter box, etc... he rarely even feeds them). However, I am worried he might try to keep one of the cats that he is very fond of. I love these cats more than anything and I just don't know what the right way to deal with this would be. Any advice?", "summary": "I want to break up with my boyfriend but I'm not sure how best to approach it to avoid collateral damage*"}
{"id": "t3_4zpcjv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18] with my friend [17] who wants to bang my crush's friend [17]", "post": "Let me start off by saying that I know this isn't as important as other people's problems here but I need some advice on how to proceed on this situation.\n\nSo currently I have a crush on a girl from my school and things are actually going great. We're not there yet but we currently are really good friends and things seem to be moving towards better. A couple of months ago one of my friends keep telling me that he thinks my crush's friend is very pretty so I adviced him to write to either ask her out or start talking to her on facebook. He thought asking her out was a bit weird so they started talking and have been ever since. \n\nEver since they started talking, my crush told me that her friend has a little thing for my friend and I thought that was great. But a few days ago I overheard my friend saying that he just wants to have sex with her cause she is hot and then move on to the next girl. I of course told him to tell the girl now and not just use her emotions in his favor but he refuses so I said that if he doesn't and they ask me about his feelings I will tell them the truth. He got kind of mad and said that it's his business and that if I do that then he won't ever speak to me again. And of course any other guy in the class has sided with him saying that I don't know how to be a good friend.\n\nSo I just wanted to ask, do you think that I tell the girls the truth if they ever ask me about his intentions or should I lie for his sake as everyone else says?", "summary": "My friend wants to bang my crush's friend and plans to use her feelings to his advantage. Don't know if I should tell them the truth about his intentions or not."}
{"id": "t3_3lvatu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I (25M) tell my ex (still my wife) about my new SO (26F)", "post": "For reasons that aren't applicable to this post my ex (we are still married) and I separated 7 months ago. I left the door open, for reconciliation, for 6 months before realising that my head was being fucked with and I was being pulled in when it suited and then pushed away again, with no commitment being made. \n\nNaturally I decided enough was enough. I have very recently met someone else and we have been 'official' for 2 days, so a very new relationship. \n\nMy ex is in a fragile place right now and I've made it clear to her that I'll be here as a friend, so I'm not sure whether to tell her that I've met someone else or not?\n\nNeither I or my SO have any desire to go posting it on social media straight away, and telling my ex would only be out of courtesy; I have no desire to go back there and my current partner is my priority.", "summary": "should I tell my ex (still my wife) about my new partner?"}
{"id": "t3_1x17nk", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How to approach a girl you don't know?", "post": "I'm a senior in high school. The girl I have a crush on is two years younger than me and I really do not know her. I had a minor crush on her last year and then that faded when I started seeing a girl, that thing ended quickly, in five or so months. I started getting a crush on her again over the summer, when volleyball practice started as she was on the JV team (I was on varsity). Since the girls practiced at a different time than us and their games were opposite from us (we were away when they were home), I never had a chance to talk to her. I see her every few days at school, but she's usually with a friend and such. I believe she's one of the \"popular\" girls in her grade and I'm the guy equivalent of \"popular\" in my grade, but she doesn't go to parties or hang out with upperclassmen, so I can't get introduced. I know a club she's in and it's too late to join it since it's like a student government/debate club.\n\nWe don't have any classes in common since I'm two years older than her. Her main group of friends is large, and I have this sort of approaching anxiety and just can't approach her (I get nervous even when I'm walking past her). I'm relatively extroverted and good at conversing with people, but not with pretty girls I don't know. I wouldn't say I'm attractive, so like hitting it off and getting her number seems like a stretch. I kind of know two of her close friends as they used to ride my bus, but I don't talk to them often. I've largely spent the last summer and the past four months of school focusing on having fun with friends and academics; I wasn't really worrying or caring much about relationships and dating. But now I realize that the end of senior year is approaching quickly and that I'd like to get to know and perhaps date this girl. What should I do, reddit? Thanks a ton, I truly appreciate the help!", "summary": "Like girl two years younger than me. Can't join the clubs she's in, kinda know two from her large group of girlfriends, she's popular in her grade, she played JV Volleyball for our school, I played varsity, senior year is coming to a close quickly."}
{"id": "t3_3u2fg9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] girlfriend got a booty call a couple of weeks ago and doesn't think it's a big deal.", "post": "I had a conversation with my girlfriend last night about her *friend* Adam. She worked with him when she was 17 and they slept together once then she left town for about 4 years travelling and studying.\n\nAccording to her they kept in touch on Facebook and texting and her last boyfriend hated this.\n\nAbout 18 months ago she moved back home to study a masters and her and Adam hooked up a few times. She says she told him after the last time she didn't want to sleep with him again.\n\nThey went for lunch and coffee a few times around the time her and I got together but every time he tried to persuade her to come back to his place and have sex.\n\nIn the 9 months we've been together they've not been in contact until a couple of weeks ago when he text her at 4am on a Saturday clearly hoping for a shag.\n\nI trust my girlfriend 100% and I know she'd never cheat on me. The issue is she still thinks Adam is her friend.\n\nShe says he really took care of her when she was younger and they worked together and I think he's fixed her car a few times but he crosses a line when he texts my girlfriend for sex.\n\nThey may have been friends previously but whatever that was their relationship now is deeply unhealthy.\n\nShe says it's fine because she'll never sleep with him again but this is not how friends should treat each other and he's not only being incredibly disrespectful to her but also to me.\n\nWould I be in my rights to tell her she needs to cut him out of her life altogether?", "summary": "My girlfriend got a 4am text from a previous hookup. She thinks it's ok because they used to be friends."}
{"id": "t3_2fyclx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my girlfriend [21 F] of 1.5 years are at different places in our lives. Is it worth waiting until we reach the same place?", "post": "I will be finishing up my degree in the next few months, but my girlfriend still has at least another semester of college. I was aware that studying abroad was something that interested her. We've been in a long distance relationship for nearly half of our time together because we have different hometowns that are 5 hours apart.\n\nFor the past year and a half, I was under the assumption that, once we finished school, we'd start looking for a place to begin our lives together. Now that I'm nearing my completion of college, I feel ready to start that process while she finishes up.\n\nI think that she now has her mind set on studying abroad. She says that, while I'm ready to move out of my home now, she isn't ready, but she thinks that she will be once she has been abroad for some time.\n\nOne of the options for her study abroad program is to spend a year in Europe earning a Master's degree. If she made that choice, she wouldn't be ready to live with me for another 2 years.\n\nI told her that I did not like the sound of that, and that I don't know if that's something that I want to do. She said that, if this relationship is really serious, then it's worth waiting a year to two years in order to spend the rest of our lives together.\n\nAm I being unfair for thinking this way? I am ready to start my life with her, but I don't want to wait potentially 2 years to do so. Of course, I want her to fulfill a life-long dream of studying abroad, but at this point, I feel like waiting a year to two years is a very long time to wait.\n\nHas anyone been in a similar situation? How would you handle this?", "summary": "I'm ready to move in with her, but my girlfriend wants to study abroad (for up to 2 years). Is it worth waiting for her to return to begin our lives together? Or is 1 to 2 years of waiting simply too long?"}
{"id": "t3_x5wvi", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Any Canadian students going to school in the US that can help a fellow out?", "post": "I hope I put this in the right subreddit, but I'm a Canadian student from Nova Scotia going to school in Salem, massachusetts. I only know of one student loan that can help pay my tuition and it only covered about 2/3's of my tuition for me. My first semester I had to pay $5,000 out of my dads pocket and I'm yet again in the same position. I owe the school $6400 and I have no idea how I can pay it off. I've received a letter recently stating that I've been put into collection for not paying my tuition. I'm not sure what to do and I need more loans so I can finish my schooling, I still have roughly 3 years left and my parents, or myself, can't keep dishing out $10,000 a year towards my tuition because of this one loan only covering a little bit of it. I'd also like to add that my school doesn't allow international students to work off campus and on campus jobs only let you work about 10 hours a week.\n\nSorry for the big wall of text.", "summary": "Canadian student in need of more loans to pay of school in United States."}
{"id": "t3_3ctm4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (26m) have a huge crush on girlfriends best friend.", "post": "5 year old relationship, me (26m) and girlfriend (27f). Like title says, I have a huge crush on my girlfriend's(27f) best friend (27f), and I believe that she is a little attracted to me. Every time we get drunk, we end up grinding if we're dancing, or just really touchy if we're not. She's a naturally sexual person, and I find her very sexy. I'm very scared to explore any kind of avenue with her, and I'm thinking arms length might be the right distance for us. I love my girlfriend, but I'm not getting enough love or sex from her. The best friend constantly talks about sex, and is always trying to date men but they never work out for some reason or another. I'm a very sexual person; I love having sex and require it a lot, my partner is very low libido. \n\nShe always asks me why I don't know anyone just like me. I'm super conflicted. I don't know what's what anymore. Should I make a move? I'd hate myself but at least I'd be satisfied.", "summary": "I'm very sexual, gf isn't. Best friend is hinting imo of sexy times. Pursue or don't be scum?"}
{"id": "t3_1mnz8f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "When discussing life goals, how would you guys interpret...", "post": "Me [25M], her [21F]\n\nBesides the the fact that she was telling me she loved me within the 1st month, talking marriage within 3 months, discussing having kids and living together within 6 months, talking about spending the rest of her life with me on the 8th month, promptly breaking up with me on the 9th month, in a new relationship by the 11th month, and has currently been living with the new guy (who is 32) since the 13 month.\n\nI have heard from so many different people that this is a red flag and that I should have seen it... When discussing life goals, her only ambition was that she only wanted to get married, have a family, and be a stay at home mom.", "summary": "What do you think about someone who's only ambition is to get married, have a family, and be a stay at home mom?"}
{"id": "t3_2suten", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] boyfriend [28 M/F] went to Las Vegas for a networking event. I can't help but to feel insecure.", "post": "My boyfriend went to Vegas for this huge networking event. We started dating recently, about a week and a half ago.  \nI can't help but to feel insecure about it, because he's going to strip clubs or clubs in general with the people he's networking with.  \n\nI know he's going to be busy but I don't know if I should even attempt to initiate conversation with him because I might be interrupting something important. I don't want to seem incredibly clingy either.  \nHe doesn't know how insecure I am about all this going on.  \n\nAm I overthinking things? I know our age gap is pretty wide but we've discussed this multiple times and we've come to the conclusion that we don't care about the age gap.", "summary": "Boyfriend went to Las Vegas for a networking event; I'm feeling incredibly insecure about it."}
{"id": "t3_3uvsbl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of one month, am concerned that I'm setting myself up for pain", "post": "So like the title suggests, I've been in a relationship with a girl for a month (Megan). We hit it off really well, and I know that were both in the infatuation stage of our relationship but I haven't been able to be this open with someone before. I just feel really comfortable around her because we're so similar.\n\nShe had a rough childhood, and has been battling depression since then. I know that it has shaded Megan's ability to actually trust and get into a relationship because she learned to only rely on herself growing up.\n\nMegan is beginning to have second thoughts about our relationship because she feels like she'll \"fuck me up\", and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. I told her that she shouldn't be scared of our relationship, and that we both know that we work together. She then agreed with me, but warned me that this type of thing might keep on happening.\n\nSo my question to everyone is this:Am I setting myself up for pain? I realize that there is an age gap, and I also realize that it isnt a good thing that we are already having a conversation like this when we just started. But she is also being honest and up front with everything, which is incredibly important to me.", "summary": "Girlfriend of a month is afraid of \"fucking me up\" and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. How concerned should I be?"}
{"id": "t3_1n7b0z", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The moment I've dreaded my entire weight loss journey is finally here.", "post": "I got some interesting news today. I was getting new tires put on my car and the mechanic told me it would take an hour to do so I walked down the street to get some water. I passed this laser liposuction/skin tightening spa and decided since I have an hour to kill and a some skin sag from losing 130lbs I'd see what that's all about. During my consultation the doctor looked at my stomach and said verbatim \"My technique will do nothing for you, you need a tummy tuck.\" The way he explained it was that there is not enough fat on my stomach to make his technique viable. So in short... this actually may all be skin on me and I may be DONE losing weight. The only places he said he knew he could do anything were my love handles and chest. I'm going to get a real medical BMI scan before I make any moves on this so I have hard numbers as to what is actually where but like I said earlier, those numbers could reveal that I'm done with weight loss and it's time to start managing my skin better. I'd just like to point out that I'm not going to do a tummy tuck, down time from that could cost me my job and is just unmanageable (Not to mention invasive surgery scares the shit out of me). This could be a big turning point in my journey and I don't want to take it blindly.Does anyone know anything I could be doing short term to help this out? or any techniques I am overlooking? If I can avoid surgery of any kind I'd like to but if not this seems like the best option right now.", "summary": "Found out I may actually be done losing weight because there is no fat on me just skin so now I need to start seriously taking care of this skin sag problem non-invasively. advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4xnh1w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my [28F] of 2 years. Rolled her eyes at me while telling a story.", "post": "So I was walking home from work (my 11th day in a row working 11pm to 7am at a hospital) and I stopped to pet a little black kitty. Got home and fast forward a few hours to her waking up, using the bathroom, etc. After a little while I walk over behind her while she is brushing her hair. From this angle I can see her face in the mirror as I tell her the story of the cat. Then she rolls her eyes in a disdainful way, which really hurt my feelings seeing as I was in a good mood. I asked her why she felt the need to do that and she said she was \"just being sarcastic\". First off that's not sarcasm and it really was a hurtful look. Anyway I told her this really isnt the first time youve given me such a look and how it hurts me and please try not to do that. Well she replied she would but that I need to start \"wanting to be with her without wanting anything else\", which I guess means not trying to cuddle or have intimacy? I don't know. Am I supposed to just sit quietly and not touch her or be touched? In addition, when I tell her I love her she mostly mumbles it back, and never really engages me in goodbyes whenever she leaves the apartment (a rushed goodbye and out the door) As it stands I don't really want to look her in the face because I feel like I will just get more of the same contemptuous looks. On my way to work last night (13th in a row) I mumbled goodbye as I left and rolled my eyes back at her. Not the most mature move but I wanted to reflect her behavior back at her. So what do you think, Reddit?", "summary": "Gf rolls her eyes at me over a cat story, hurts my feelings."}
{"id": "t3_2gmvrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] haven't heard from the guy [26/M] I've been seeing for the past 2.5 months in a few days...feeling confused", "post": "I've been seeing this guy I met at a local bar for around 2.5 months now. Things have been good-we have not put a label on anything, but we've been seeing each other once or twice a week (he travels for work and I just started a new job, so we're both pretty busy) and have had a great time. He has-based on general enthusiasm while being around me and physical affection-given me the impression that he is into me and I am happy to take it slow as far as labels and such go. This weekend,  he cancelled a date we had planned and after I said I wasn't free later that weekend because I had a work meeting to prepare for, he stopped texting me back. We do usually talk a bit via text every day and he often initiates these conversations, but it's been radio silence for 3 days now, after he didn't text me back over the weekend.\n\nLast year, I got out of a 4 year relationship, so I am pretty new to the dating game and feeling a bit confused.  I don't know if I am overthinking this because I like the guy or if something is up and I should consider asking him about it. Any insight or advice would greatly be appreciated, Reddit!", "summary": "Guy I have been dating for 2.5 months has stopped texting after cancelling plans over the weekend. Feeling confused."}
{"id": "t3_17uuo0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, how do I get out of the friendzone in bed? [NSFW]", "post": "And by friendzone, I REALLY mean friendzone, not one of those stories about the guy being a little bitch and not asking the girl out.\n\nAll of my close friends and I were drinking and one of my close girl friends was really feeling me up. Then a drunk friend of mine decided to turn on his COCKBLOCK ENGAGE MODE and decided to walk the two of us back to our rooms (thanks). When we got to her place, he said goodbye to me and shoo'ed me off (just kidding, fuck you) and I texted her telling her to get back to me after he left. Sure enough, she did, and a few minutes later I was already in 3rd base. However, there was one small problem - I forgot a condom, so that was about all I could do. It was pretty sad, but while she was riding my fingers she whispered \"Bring a condom next time\". So sure enough, next time came and I ran over with a backpack of condoms and suddenly she told me \"I don't think I can have sex with you\", as in she's too friendly with me. She's okay with the whole getting naked and doing everything (except she's not cool with giving blowjobs, and she's really really bad with handjobs), AND she can't have periods. She let me masturbate while she made out with me and that's how I got off for the night... it was a sad ending. Anyways, what should I do, and is there any way I can get it in?", "summary": "I came all over a girl's back but she won't let me do the nasty"}
{"id": "t3_2t6seo", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm in a song-writing mood but have no ideas. Any requests?", "post": "Hi Everyone,\n\nI am in a song writing mood but I haven't really got any ideas at the moment. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am happy to write about anything providing it isn't obscene.\n\nFor an example: I had a friend and for a long time she was looking for the perfect guy but she could never find him. Then she realised that her best friend was the perfect guy for her, and he had been there all the time. She wanted me to write the song is the using Borderlands as a metaphor; she was playing it a lot at the time. So I wrote about her looking for the perfect gun only to realise that she shotgun she had been using for so long was the perfect gun for her. You can listen to the song here: \n\nI have written songs about all kinds of stuff: \n* blu-tac \n* fish-fingers (fish-sticks for you Americans) \n* a man who's eyes change colour as his emotions change)\n*  love songs \n* Muffins (everyone seems to like that one.)", "summary": "I have run out of song ideas and need your help."}
{"id": "t3_33wixx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my LDR GF [22F] of almost a year, are fighting all the time about trust issues.", "post": "To keep the story short, neither of us trust each other anymore for no reason. We just have always been questioning each other and the more we talk the more we only talk about how many guys or girls hit on you tonight ect. I just don't know how to change it up and quit the whole skepticism aspect of our relationship. She goes out and parties and I stay up all nigth studying. To me it seems unfair, but to her she always says we are in different positions I have to live to ya know. I just can't seem to grasp the fact that she loves me enough to not cheat on me. When she is drunk she gets kinda rowdy. I do not trust her Drunk side. But if she loves me and I have never caught her in a lie. Is it even possible that she has even kissed another guy when drunk and just won't tell me? \n\nPlease help", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2lka2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] having trouble thinking about anything not relationship related", "post": "So, it's been a few months since my ex left me and still he's all I think about. These thoughts can be either good or bad but it's always him. This is a problem because I have a life to be living and other things to be focusing on!!  But it's like my brain doesn't get the memo and keeps going on this continuous loop over and over and over again. \n\nI often think of my ex, sometimes it's extremely painful and other times its a nice warm fuzzy feeling thinking of past memories, but it's always coloring the background of my thoughts and I really want to devote my full attention to actually interesting, important things, like creative pursuits or finding solutions to important and relevant problems, but it's like my brain is stuck and there's not much I can do about it. \n\nThis isn't just a problem in this post-breakup phase of this particular relationship though... I've come to realize that all my life (since early teens) the default thing that my brain has been focusing on are my relationships with the opposite sex. It happens continuously. It's like I can't stop. It's like my brain's not even capable of thinking about anything else. I feel like if I had the ability to think about other things I would actually be able to concentrate on them when I do them, and actually accomplish something for once in my life, but this addictive thought pattern regarding relationships, love, and sex is holding me back. \n\nAny advice for how to attain mental clarity?", "summary": "How can I stop thinking about my ex/potential loves/relationships and start actually focusing on life?"}
{"id": "t3_12f0q4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I got an e-mail from my boyfriend over a year after he died. What's the most unexpected missive you've received?", "post": "[Future Me] is the most dangerous place on the internet. You can send an e-mail to yourself in the future, like a time capsule.  However, I keep getting them from men I'm no longer involved with romantically.\n\nOn my 21st birthday, I got a love letter sent by an ex before we broke up. My current boyfriend got all quiet and threatened by it, putting a real damper on the celebrations.\n\nTime passes. We are in love in love in love for six more months.  Then he dies, and I am an open wound for a long time.\n\nOn my 23rd birthday, I get an e-mail.  Of course it's from him.  Never one to be outdone, he wrote it on my 21st birthday while I was sleeping off the whiskey.  It starts with an automated message: \"The following is an e-mail from the past.\" It ends with him saying \"I'm glad we'll always be somehow connected.\"\n\nHe didn't know he was dead.  That was the weirdest part.  He wrote to say that no matter what happens we were people that loved each other once.  It broke my heart, but what an outrageous gift.", "summary": "[Future Me] keeps ruining my birthday.*"}
{"id": "t3_2haabu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [21M] follow up with a girl [20F]?", "post": "Sorry if this seems like such a stupid question, but I really don't know how to ask someone out really. Only ever been asked out and never had to do it.\n\nBeen talking to a girl the past couple of days and things seem to be going well between us. We flirt with each other and have hung out, but I haven't asked her out on a proper date or anything or made it seem like a date when we have hung out. Last night she asked if I was dating anyone while we were texting and told her I wasn't and when I asked her and another question, the other question was just when her birthday was, she didn't answer if she was with anybody and that kind of made me kind of uneasy and I didn't bring it up again the rest of the night. \n\nI really like this girl, but at the sametime I don't want to do or say anything if she is with someone else. Do I just have to flat out ask her if she is dating someone or is there a more tactful way of doing it? I don't want to accuse her of anything she isn't doing while still making sure it would be alright to actually ask her out on a real date finally.", "summary": "Girl asked if I was dating someone and then when I asked her, she didn't reply. How can I follow up on that without making it seem like I am being accusing or anything like that and then ask her out on a real date afterwards?"}
{"id": "t3_qrvct", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Need a coach ! I've made the error to say \"I love you\" after only 2 dates ! Doh.", "post": "I'm male, 25 years old .. She's 20 years old.\n\nSo, yea, I did it, basically.. after a long kiss.. I said I love you.. she replied with; you're cute and I really appreciate you .. however now I feel a bit uncomfortable with that.. We've seen each others 3 times now.\n\nI said it way too earlier.. but I love this girl.. She's really cute and she's making me happy.. txting me good morning and good night every day..\n\nWe're constantly txting each others and speaks about anything. I feel like I known this girl for a long time and she said that she feel the same about me.\n\nWhat's the next step seriously because it's going really fast right now and I fear that it may end really fast too !..\n\nThanks :)", "summary": "I said I love you too fast. Need advices because I want it to last."}
{"id": "t3_49foi8", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking equipment at internship", "post": "Mandatory \"this happened a while ago\" (two years). \nI was interning at a bakery in a big super market type store.  And I was making cookie dough, I put all the ingredients in the bowl, put it in the industrial machine and lowered the mixing part into it... It took some force to do so.... And suddenly I hear a Crack.... I pulled it out and hoped for dear life that it wasn't anything broken....nope...i had broken the mixing stick thing.... Well.... It had a Crack in the bottom part of it.  It's like a K model wing if you know what I mean by that.... The bottom bow on it had snapped.... But no pieces were missing at least... So I put it back in the machine and made the cookie dough... And quickly put the K wing in the washing machine. I made up an excuse to leave to go home.  I never went back to be honest. It was an already anxiety filled period in my life (still is).  Later on the called me from the bakery asking if I knew anything about it(I was fully insured through my school if I broke anything but still). I was so ashamed I couldn't bare to confess. I denied everything.  I kind of feel bad about it.  But I'm still happy I didn't go back.... Anxiety and problems dealing with stress during the Christmas holiday is not a good match.... A lot of ginger bread cookies.... A lot. So yeah.", "summary": "Broke baking machine mixing piece, lied and denied everything."}
{"id": "t3_2kjpb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [ 21/F] with my boyfriend [21/M]. He first suggested a break, and then changed it to break up. What do I do?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for exactly 2 years and just recently we have not been getting along very well. His solution was to take a break, but when it was getting too hard for me, I asked him to choose and he ended up choosing to break up with me instead. \n\nHowever, he phrased it with, it is so we can have a shot in the future, so we can be together in the future. He also continues to say that he does love me still. \n\nFrom what I know about breaks, it is a time where you take to figure out whether or not they want to stay with someone, and I am deathly afraid that he wants nothing to do with me. \n\nDo you think he is just trying to break up with me guilt free? But still keep me around just in case he changes his mind?", "summary": "boyfriend wants a break, but still says he loves me. Is he lying? "}
{"id": "t3_4wkrj2", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I just discovered my British coworkers internet history: His hobby is being abusive to American women online. I'm an American woman", "post": "Holy shit.\nAnyway, we have been working together for about a year. Thank goodness his online behavior predates his knowing me. Anyway, he has always been polite to me. I am married and am busy with a toddler, so perhaps I haven't really been affected by his unfriendliness. Prior to this morning I would have told you that he is aloof, distant, and wants his own life. Nothing out of the ordinary. I'm a married woman with a homelife and he's a single guy living the bachelor life, nothing more than that. I knew he was kinda unfriendly but didn't read much into it, as our work paths don't cross much and he leaves me alone.\n\nThis morning I was browsing forums related to our area of work and recognized a post from him: no mistake; we are in the same narrow field. Without a doubt it is him. I went through his comment history.\nPredating his meeting me, he has a history of seeking out American women in our field on the internet and being abusive to them. Most of the self-identified American women on the 'net he is responding to are seeking advice or help; he is responding to them with hatred and vitriol and derision, I don't think I can type the words he is using and not get caught by the filter, but, he is using all of the typical anti-American slurs and all of the typical anti-female slurs. Dude is really. REALLY full of anger. Like: holy crap: he hates American women with the force of a million suns. He appears to spend every Sunday looking for American women on various internet forums relative to our field and being toxic to them. And his history of doing this under this internet nic goes back several years.\n\nAnyway, I'm not going to do anything at work but ignore him and continue to be polite to him, but: oh my god.", "summary": "my coworker is an unhinged hatebeast and I am the object of his hatred. Yes, I work in Europe."}
{"id": "t3_35dewx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F], Her [20] - I want to distance myself but I don't know how", "post": "This will be relatively short. My very good friend, who may as well be my best friend, recently did something that I consider extremely vile and disgusting on moral grounds. It is something I consider so terrible, I do not think I can view her in the same way ever again with. Because I'm extremely paranoid and anxious, I will not mention what it was, so PLEASE do not ask here. I also engaged to what she did (though she took it to a whole other level, like level 20 to level 5020300) so I feel like I shouldn't be standing on a moral high-ground because I engaged and enabled her in a way. \n\nI want to distance myself from her so we are not as close. She is in a bad place right now emotionally and mentally and I am afraid she will act out in some way. She is a great person and friend, but even I cannot excuse what she did as bad judgment in the moment.\n\nAdditionally, I also realize that my friendship with her also mirrors a long-term friendship I had with another girl for ten years or so, where I was extremely afraid she would harm herself in anyway. I still have not distanced myself completely from ten-year girl because I still feel bouts of guilt for letting her down even though I know our friendship was toxic and brutally hurt my self-esteem and probably my emotional development.", "summary": "I wish to distance myself from my best friend who did something I don't think I will ever forget."}
{"id": "t3_2s8b3l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [21/f] slept over in the same bed [22/m] with me and nothing happened. does it mean anything when a woman sleeps in the same bed with you?", "post": "Long story short, I was sobering up the other night by the time I got home. I offered to let her stay on my bed instead of getting the couch like she normally gets. Instead I quickly changed my mind and asked her if she could scoot over. She happily obliged. Nothing happened though, and we were really tired so we just passed out.\n\nNow, she could have told me that she would just take the couch, or could have just said no. And I would have been absolutely fine with that. It's just that the couch was half way across the house, and my bed was just there, and I was within the past few hours, heavily drinking. \n\nThe next morning she said \"I realized I could have just slept on the couch.\" I didn't comment on it, but she did say during the night I kind of got closer to her. She said she didn't mind.\n\nDoes this mean anything? I mean, the last time I was in bed with a woman, we ended up fucking. I honestly don't know if she's attracted to me in some way, but she does tell me her parents want to meet me quite often, and she tells me they think we are together. Or at least fucking.", "summary": "girl and i slept in same bed, nothing happened because we were extremely tired, but she could have said no. what does it mean?"}
{"id": "t3_29u3bt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [M18] is talking about me to his friends...but it's not bad?", "post": "Like it says in the title, my ex is talking about me to his friends. Now this wouldn't bother me normally , however, he's talking about us and what we've done. A good friend told me yesterday, that when he was high at a party he was telling a few stories of when we were going at it and almost got caught by my dad. I remember these times, so he isn't making them up. I'm kind of confused, because he isn't going into detail about what we did, but he IS talking about those times we had...and he's currently dating another girl. He's talking about the times we had sex and not his girlfriend. It's really confusing and I wanted reddits opinion.", "summary": "My ex is talking about me to his friends, it's not bad. He's just talking about times we almost got caught having sex, but reminiscently. Confused as to why he's doing this, as he's told me he hates me, however, it seems like he misses me."}
{"id": "t3_2m1fiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [26/F] in love with my S.O [29M] but I don't think he feels the same way. Should I tell him?", "post": "Background: Been dating for 13 months. We plan on moving in together sometime next year. It's one of the most passionate, healthy relationships I've ever had. \n\nEssentially, I knew I was falling in love with this guy months ago. In my previous relationships (one of three years and one of six years), I have never been the one to say \"I'm in love with you\" first. I know it seems trivial, but this if the first time I've dated someone for this amount of time without having those words spoken. \n\nThe reason I'm apprehensive to tell him is because he takes love very very seriously. We've discussed our views on romantic love, just for conversation purposes. And he feels that one should not say it lightly. He has only had one previous relationship and was, as he puts it, \"completely and insanely\" in love with her. In his mind, being truly in love with someone means that you would not trade the relationship for anything even theoretically \"better\", meaning that the person you're with is EXACTLY who you want to be with, and you couldn't imagine being with absolutely anyone else. \n\nAnd I don't think he feels this way about me. He's a straightforward, no bull-shit kind of guy (one of the things I like about him), and I feel like he would have come out and said it already if he felt this way. But it's been thirteen months, and I'm starting to think we might never get there. Do these kind of things have an expiry date? As in, if you don't feel it by a certain point, it's never going to happen? \n\nI want to tell him how I feel, but I'm scared I could screw up a good thing. I've always been the \"leader\" in the relationship, the first one to acknowledge him as my boyfriend, first to talk about the idea of moving in together, so sometimes I feel like he's just going with the flow because he's just \"content\". \n\nI'm just not sure what to do. Should I exercise patience and wait, or has it been long enough already?", "summary": "I'm in love with my S.O but I don't think he's quite at that point yet. It's been thirteen months and I want to tell him how I feel but don't want to ruin a good thing and scare him off."}
{"id": "t3_3dv2yd", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to handle late mother's (hopefully) continuing stream of income from book publishing", "post": "For some background, my mother passed away in 2011. She was self employed, was a trained graphic designer and fanned out into designing books. She did book design for actual clients and then found a way to self publish books in the public domain through booksurge/createspace on Amazon. She got a decent volume of books out there in paperback for a decent price and maybe pulled in a couple hundred bucks per year for a short amount of effort. \n\nObviously when she died her business died with her except that her books are still available on Amazon and so I would imagine that income is being generated but no checks seem to come to her at her former address. Candidly when she died it wasn't on the top of my to-do list to track this down. \n\nBut now that some time has passed I stumbled on some papers in cleaning out some of my stuff and it reminded me. \n\nJust wondering if anyone has any thoughts on best ways to proceed. For more detail.. We (my father and I) handled her estate through probate without a will. Long story there but she did have a will but the names executor had since become someone with whom the family never spoke. Not sure it's useful to the story but just thinking that if I call up createspace and say \"hey I'm bir5150 and my mother left this publishing stuff behind\" they may ask for some court documentation on her estate.", "summary": "Late mother published/sold books through createspace, they are still being sold, want to get access to the income stream."}
{"id": "t3_2wy55y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] Dad [63M] has been made redundant and it's making him depressed - please help!", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nMy Dad has been a faithful worker for 40+ years of his life in his field. The company he was last at went downhill and he was one of the last to be let go. He was a senior in his position and was well respected, earning over $120,000 annually. In Australia at the moment there are no jobs in his field available. He has been looking for 3 months so far.\n\nHe has received a big payout, enough to last him a year without work however he is getting very down on himself. It's hard to watch your usually enthusiastic and cheery Dad sprial downward. I don't think he is clinically depressed but I would like some help of what I can do for him. \n\nHe spends alot of time reading and he is exercising at least twice a week, I think it's more of a big hit to his ego.\n\nCan I do anything?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Dad has been made redundant and it's making him sad."}
{"id": "t3_2emx55", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(28/f) always feel like I'm giving in in the relationship while we always end up doing what my bf(28/m) wants.", "post": "Weve been together 3.5 years and I feel like I'm the one that's always bending over for him. We had plans to go up to to new england this weekend but now he doesn't want to because he \"hates being in the middle of nowhere and finds trees and mountains boring\" but we were planning on spending 1 day at the worlds largest arcade (what he wants to do) then go to manchester the other day and tour breweries and explore(shat I want to do). But now he tells me he doesn't want to. This would be the 3rd time he's backed out of a trip up there(I pick New England because my parents have a vacation house we can stay at for free), he also backed out of 2 camping trips (we would have stayed at my family's property). I did get him to go once for labor day weekend last year and he had fun but I will admit we were in the middle of nowhere. He knows I've been looking forward to this Trip and have planned things out. \n\nNow with other things we get paid opposite weeks and we go out and spend till my paycheck is nearly gone(like I have less then $20 in my bank account). I also pay all the cable and electric bills because I make more. But when its his week to pay for things he gets stingy and starts saying we're broke and can't do things when he gets around $150.\n\nI really do love him and can see myself spending my life with him and he is a great guy and I'm sure he isn't doing this on purpose but I'm starting to feel like he don't care what I want to do and only wants to do what he wants.", "summary": "I feel like my boyfriend doesn't take what I want into consideration."}
{"id": "t3_10z618", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22F] My insecurities and emotions are ruining my relationship so I asked for a break and bf [22M] says he has trust issues now cause he thinks I'm gonna f*** around", "post": "I've had trust/insecurity/emotional issues in past relationships and now I'm getting them again with my current boyfriend (we've been together for about 6 months now).  I can see that my insecurities stem from self esteem/worth issues...  I'm really embarrassed about this, but I'm way to dependent on my SO's.  I don't have a good number of real friends to begin with, so I become extra attached.  I don't like this so I've been trying hard since my first break-up to build my confidence and independence, and I have improved a lot, but I'm still not exactly where I need to be.  I still crave assurance and a \"need to be needed\" from my current BF.  Sometimes when I get emotional, he says things that make me feel assured, so I think it's conditioning me to be more emotional...  We've been on a roller coaster ride in the past twoish months, and I'm realizing this, and I decided to take that hard step and ask for a break so that I can try to work on myself a little more.  However, he said that he thinks I'm gonna use this time to \"f*** around\" and he's getting trust issues...\n\nI don't understand why he's saying he thinks I'm gonna f*** around...  Are we both being immature?  What's going on?  I would like a third person to give me any opinion on what's going on between us right now.  And also, how can I work on my insecurity issue without quitting on our relationship?", "summary": "Suggested to bf that we should take a break because of my insecurities, and now he's getting trust issues because he thinks I'm gonna cheat on him during the break... ???????"}
{"id": "t3_11sq5s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you deal with someone who constantly tries to screw up with you on Facebook?", "post": "**Long story:**\n\nA few months ago, the (ex)girlfriend of my girlfriend's close friend has issues with my girlfriend and her close friend being, well, close. Therefore, she keeps trying to shame my girlfriend on Facebook publicly (e.g. creating pages dedicated to shaming my girlfriend) under a false account. The sad thing is my girlfriend's close friend seems to be defending his girlfriend and says she won't do something like that. That's also the reason why my girlfriend has distanced herself from her close friend ever since.\n\nFast forward to now, that girl and my girlfriend's close friend apparently broke up and so the close friend is trying to make up to my girlfriend. The problem is, the girl is now back with another round of her annoyance. This time, she's now attacking both my girlfriend and me. Creating pages and false accounts just attacking us in ways she can think of. I don't know why she's doing this even though she and my girlfriend's close friend already broke up. I guess she's bitter or something?\n\nSo now my question is, how do we deal with her? It's not easy to say that we should just ignore and block her because she knows some acquaintances of ours which could sever ties with potential jobs and the likes. Creating a new Facebook account isn't a viable option since I also use my Facebook for business purposes and I have a lot of my professional contacts there. Not including the personal URL that is already well established.", "summary": "We have someone that's constantly trying to wreck us in public. How do we deal with her? Thanks in advance, good citizens of Reddit. :/"}
{"id": "t3_3yhrl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] am unsure about getting into a new relationship [19M]", "post": "My last relationship lasted 10 months and I gave it my everything. It seemed like a perfect match until one day he gave me the \"it's not you, it's me\" (which albeit was valid, as he does suffer from severe depression). It took me a while, but I recovered. That was about 4 months ago. \n\nFlash forward to now. After that didn't work out, I started going on casual dates and meeting new people. I actually found I really enjoyed it. It gave me space to focus on schoolwork (I'm an engineering major and have 3 jobs on campus so I'm pretty busy) and an openness in my social life. A few weeks ago, I met this guy at a party, and we started flirting, nothing crazy, kissed, then I left. I thought it was a one-off thing, but we ended up going on a few dates before break and talk a lot now. \n\nHe's made it very clear that he wants a relationship. He doesn't play mind games (my ex did and I hated it) and is genuinely very sweet and we're surprisingly compatible. Honestly, I could see it working out really well. The issue is that I have found that I really enjoy the single life. After giving so much to a relationship and watching it flounder, I realized that I can be all that I need, and while this new guy is wonderful, I don't really want the commitment attached to a 'relationship'. I'm still really young and I want to enjoy college. At the same time, I don't want to miss out on a potentially really wonderful guy, nor do I want to hurt him at all. Help?", "summary": "met a wonderful guy, but I've grown accustomed to (and really enjoy) being single. At the same time, I'm having major FOMO about the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_26e9hb", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Banning books in 2014", "post": "My former high school (I have moved away and graduated from college and started m life in another state) recently made the news on my Facebook feed for banning The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison. The school board, earlier this year, approved he purchase of a classroom set, and it was on the syllabus since before school even started. The instructor gave a trigger warning and offered an alternate book (for those unaware, this book deals with incest/rape/racism). The students started the book, then a couple days in, the principal interrupted the class, snatched all the books from the students. \n\nI am against censorship. As a parent, I may not be encouraging my child to read this when she is younger, however, this is an AP English/History course of 11th graders. They are old enough to decide for themselves. A majority of these kids are college-bound, and this course is very similar to a college-level course. The instructors, one of whom I know, are very well-read and are always on hand for clarification/further understanding/questions/whatever from the students. As near-adults who have experienced 17 years of life now, a lot of the themes may be easy to relate to. Books not banned from this course/school include: Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, The Grapes of Wrath, and The Catcher in the Rye. \n\nDespite not living in my hometown any longer, I want to do something. I know someone started a petition on Change.org, but is there anything that can be done, like someone specific to contact or maybe a way to educate the public on the necessity of reading this book? My youngest sister is actually attending this school, and the students have expressed a desire to finish their book. The teachers both need help standing up for themselves as well.", "summary": "Small town high school banned a book. Students/instructors have desire to continue their lesson plan. Need outside help from people like myself. "}
{"id": "t3_kw8g9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to avoid 'corrective actions' from HR over something silly? Longish with a TL;DR", "post": "Not really sure where to post this, but AskReddit seems to be the place since it's a question.\n\nI am being pulled into HR tomorrow because I gave an employee too few french fries at a company function. I shit you not. The man in question, I'll call him J, is the spoiled son of one of the supervisors, he should have been fired a dozen times over, but every time he messes up his mother moves him to another department before any action can be taken against him.\n\nAnyway, celebration of 100 days without an accident, hamburgers, hot dogs, & french fries. I was making plates of fries & handing them out with another guy, I'll call him M. When this particular employee got into the line. M & I thought we would joke with J by handing him a plate with one french fry on it. We handed it to him & with a straight face M said, \"That's all you get, move along.\" As he walked off we started laughing & told him to come back & get a real plate, that we were just messing with him, he looked back at us & walked off. \n\nA few hours later I get a text from my boss telling me J went to his mom & complained that M & I refused to give J any french fries. J's mom got with the other managers & complained about people treating her son poorly, like she always does when he cries to her about something, & they all agreed to take it to HR. My boss texted one of the HR ladies & asked about it, she told me that it could be considered harassment, that harassment wasn't about my intentions, but about how the person in question interpreted my actions or words, plus some other stuff I don't remember. She said not to laugh it off because this could turn out to be serious. \n\nI wasn't worried at first, because being dragged into HR over french fries is retarded. I am starting to worry about it though just because people keep telling me how pissed J & his mom are & how she keeps saying M & I need to be written up. \n\nAny advice on how to avoid punishment or how to argue with HR about this would be welcome.", "summary": "Company function, a coworker & I play a harmless joke on a guy, he got pissed & went to his mom. His mom is a manager & she is going to drag myself & a coworker into HR over us joking with her son. I am scared because I have never had corrective action taken against me & I don't know what will happen or how serious this may get."}
{"id": "t3_2aniwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18M] attempt to remain friends with her [18F] or break it off?", "post": "Hey reddit. This is a bit of complicated situation, and I've been going over it in my head, driving myself insane for days with no real solution. So this is my last resort.\n\nBasically, I (miraculously) managed to get a prom date. (Down under we still have a couple months until our prom). We spoke for the past couple weeks or so pretty constantly, hitting it off fairly well, or what I believed to be anyway.\n\nMore recently we hooked up at a party, spending pretty much the entire night making out. Then the next day, I  get told that she just wants to be friends, as she is 'not ready' for a relationship.\n\nmy question, is should I stick through it, as friends with the minor chance that she might be waiting until the end of the school year to get into a relationship, or just go solo to prom. \n\nThis whole post is cringeworthy I know, but whatever advice I'd appreciate. So far my friends haven't been very helpful with advice, telling me \"fuck the bitch, come with us\" etc.", "summary": "Should I attempt to keep going as friends, or just fuck it all and go by myself."}
{"id": "t3_2fc1s6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I can't tell if my(23f) SO(25m) loves me or not.", "post": "My SO and I have been dating since October last year and there are a few things that are really getting to me. There are a lot of signs that he is either super unromantic/unaffectionate as a person or he just isn't into me.\n\n-He only says I love you after I say it first. I asked him about it and he pretty much said that saying it back is enough. I'm not completely convinced.\n\n-He only ever initiates sex when drunk. And he doesn't do any foreplay. Never goes down on me. Not even making out or heavy petting.  I don't think it's too much to ask to make out before sex. Is it? or even kiss my neck. Nibble my ear. Something. He has refused my advances when we've been sober a number of times but the few times he's accepted he'd have me do everything.\n\n-Never tells me he thinks I'm attractive out of his own volition. He says it's just not something he ever really learned to do. Could that be true?\n\n-He's not very affectionate. Only rubs my cheek. He doesn't like to be touched because he's ticklish/it's uncomfortable. But doesn't do much for me either. No back rubs or hand holding or playing with my hair or caressing of anything other that my cheek. \n\nAs for some background, my SO is a bigger guy who's struggling to lose weight and has medication for depression. He'll treat me to a movie or dinner when he can but I really don't feel loved from those gifts/actions.\n\nI'm losing it here. Am I asking too much of someone who struggles with confidence/self worth and depression and what can I do to help?", "summary": "My SO is unaffectionate and doesn't do much in bed. Does he really love me?"}
{"id": "t3_2jq16c", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M], Am I the Rebound to a [20/F]?", "post": "For about a month I have been seeing this girl. She recently (2-3) months ago got out of a relationship that lasted for about 4-5 months. The thing is, she was best friends with this guy before they dated. But he lives 3 - 4 hours away, so he is no longer a problem. We started talking about a month ago, and one thing led to another, such as being sex. I know she likes me a lot, her family and friends love me, my family loves her, and everything just works. Her ex boyfriend was not liked by her family and most of her friends, so I am, in practice, gold.\n\nLast night I took her out on an extravagant date and have treated her nothing short of gold ever since we began talking. I have been quite the gentleman. Yesterday morning we decided to go a local park, which allows you to climb and do all sorts of physical activities, yet she kept talking about the last time she was there with her ex. Even though not 30 minutes before she said she wanted to make new memories with me, and not hold on to old memories with him. At the end of the night, I asked her to officially be my lady. But, this morning I went to her church with her and she didn't even really acknowledge my existence. I brought it up to her that I don't feel like she is putting forth 100%. Because she consistently talks about her ex, doesn't look at me in the eyes during sex and doesn't say my name when I say hers repeatedly. But she is unaware of the reasoning at this moment.\n\nThis girl says she likes me a lot, and says she does things that she wouldn't normally do with other boyfriends, etc.", "summary": "I feel like a rebound and she knows I am upset about something."}
{"id": "t3_4cw75z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me(M19) and Friend(F18)", "post": "Hey guys need some advice.\n\nI dont mean to come off as a douche but I recently met a girl in my college class. She is nice but I barely know her and I am not interested. For the past couple of weeks she has texted me and I have texted back. I don't know what her problem is but if I don't reply within 5 minutes she starts blowing my phone. She accuses me of trying to shut her out. Again I am friends with her but not close at all. I see her once a week in college. I told her to stop getting so worried and she was acting irrational. I told her if it bothered her that I didnt reply quickly that she should stop texting me. She is obviously interested in me but I have again told her I am not interested subliminally. I also told her maybe it is best to take a break from the relationship and she agreed. 10 minutes ago she texted me as if nothing happened. What to do? Am I being mean or?", "summary": "Girl I barely know won't stop sending me messages and getting mad over nothing. Told her I wasnt interested. Still no progress."}
{"id": "t3_lruzf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Luna Bail Bonds: A scam?", "post": "My husband found a job on craigslist for a [\"Fugitive Recovery Agent\"] for Luna Bail Bonds. He told me he went in for an interview and that they said they like him for the job, so they gave him a spot at an \"orientation/seminar\" this summer to train him. There was a $50 deposit for a seat at the orientation since, as my husband says, there are only 20 seats available, and they told him at the interview that his equipment and training class would cost $540, which he would be expected to pay before attending the seminar/orientation. My husband and I are **extremely** low on cash, so I'm tentative in telling him I truly think he should go for it, since $540 is the majority of his next paycheck and I'm not bringing in any substantial amount of money. I'm at school and only working part time, and his current job is only temporary and will only last a couple more months at the most, so finding a new job is very important.\n\nThis whole situation seems really sketchy to me, but I'm not sure if I'm just being unreasonably skeptical. My concern is that he'll pay the money, go to the seminar, and they'll tell him something along the lines of \"We'll call you when there's a position open.\" Does anyone have any more info on this company? The only stuff I can find is what the company put up themselves...", "summary": "Husband found an ad for a job for Luna Bail Bonds on craigslist. He interviewed, they said they liked him, but they're asking for $540 up front- does anyone know if this is a scam?"}
{"id": "t3_pypj8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I want to romantically apologize to my girlfriend, any ideas?", "post": "I did something that was hurtful to her and I hate myself for it.  When I apologized before for something else I felt really bad about, I spelled out 'I'm Sorry' in her backyard with candles and lit them up. \n\nI want to win her back again, and obviously I know that this isn't going to make things all better, but I want to try at least.\n\nI was thinking of getting helium balloons and writing on them, floating them up to her window and telling her i'm sorry and that we can work things out and then give her a scrapbook afterwards to show that hopefully all the great times we had/will have are worth it.  \n\nhelp anyone?", "summary": "I fucked up and I want to apologize with something showy.  I have used candles to spell out i'm sorry before, any ideas? "}
{"id": "t3_2avoqo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my fianc\u00e9e [23 F] together 1 year, constantly needs to be affectionate", "post": "We are to be married in a few weeks, and I've noticed recently an increasing \"need\" she has to always be hugging, holding hands, kissing, etc whenever we are together in public and in private. \n\nNow, I would say I understand the emotional bond persons have and develop for each other, but it really is concerning to me. \n\nLast night while both watching \"Dumb and Dumber\" (and both enjoying it), she would kiss me every 10-15 seconds, and after this happened about 6 times, I asked in a non-threatening, and curious tone why she wants to kiss so often. Her response was because she loved me. And then she became quite sad, at which point I paused the movie, and we talked about our feelings for each other. I tried to reassure her that I do indeed love her. After a few minutes, we were able to continue watching the movie, and asked if she could resume kissing me to which I said yes. \n\nI am thinking, she may have abandonment issues since she has no relationship with her biological father, and her step-father who she considers her father, has divorced her mom.", "summary": "What can I do so that she doesn't feel an emotional void so frequently?"}
{"id": "t3_qq16k", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm 22, a girl, and a virgin. I hate it.", "post": "It just feels like everyone is in this club and that I'm not a part of it sometimes. I have problems connecting with people and I just can't do a one night stand. The worst is when people assume that I'm not because then I feel like I'm lying to them when I go along with their joke or the conversation or whatever. Except I'd rather do that than make things awkward with the truth.", "summary": "1. Thank you all for being so nice! 2. Romantic connections, not general friend connections are the issue."}
{"id": "t3_2vua4s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu By Inhaling Shampoo", "post": "This happened to me a month or two ago. Having a nice relaxing shower after a hard day at work. Shower is going along good, lathering shampoo on my head when I decide the beard could use a lather as well. Get a nice thorough coating on the beard when I decide to take a breath, that was a terrible mistake. The shampoo foam made its way to the back of my throat and completely blocked off my airways. Im standing there completely unable to breath, trying to gasp for air when my SO hears the ordeal from the living room and rushes in to check on me. There I am choking and in full panic whilst covering my junk. Finally she calms me down to the point where I'm finally able to take light short breaths without closing off my airways completely again. I was very cautious the remainder of that shower. I will never underestimate the power of shampoo again.", "summary": "Had Shower. Choked on beard shampoo. Thought death was near. Girlfriend able to get me to breath while I was panicked and covering my junk for some reason. Finished shower."}
{"id": "t3_25kyv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of five months, am I wrong here?", "post": "A little background on us: we've known each other for years but started dating at the start of January.  It's only been a few months but we really love each other and each of us genuinely cares about the others happiness and well-being.  We both say it's the healthiest thing either of us has been part of.\n\nSo my roommate is moving out in June.  She doesn't want to pay rent until Sept. for a place she isn't even living, so she's finding someone to sublease.  I'm fine with this; she's also one of my best friends and I don't want her to have that financial burden.  Some guy who is researching as a grad student at our university contacted her via craigslist and we're meeting him on Saturday to make sure everyone is comfortable.\n\nI told my boyfriend that I might have a male roommate for 2 months (we have separate bathrooms, only areas shared are kitchen and living room) and he got weird. Started questioning \"how long have you known about this?\" Literally five minutes before I called him but he didn't believe me.  He got weird and hung up and has since refused to call or text me back.  It's only been a few hours but we are very close and in contact throughout the day, so this is weird.\n\nI feel this is unfair.  In the beginning of our relationship, he needed a new place and considered moving in with a co-worker he used to have a crush on and who very blatantly still likes him and has made several sexual advances on him while we've been together.  This bothered me but I didn't attempt to stop him because even though I didn't trust her, I trust him, and he was stressed about finding a place to live.\n\nAlso, this is my roommate's financial situation, I feel it's more up to her than me anyway.  Am I being unreasonable for thinking he should be okay with this?  Or at least talk to me about it like an adult?", "summary": "My roommate needs to sublease, the person who takes her room for 2 months might be a guy.  My boyfriend is upset but being passive aggressive about it.  We have a loving and trusting relationship and I don't see the problem.  Am I wrong?  Is he wrong?  Are we both wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_1skbop", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "It's a shitty feeling", "post": "Not sure I'll really be able to paint this picture properly but\u2026 Today I'm out shopping in a store where there isn't really room for two people to pass by each other in any aisle. I get to the end of one of the aisles and see this cute girl waiting to come down that aisle. We lock eyes and kind of smile to each other and that's it. I didn't say anything. A few seconds later in my peripheral vision I see her look back. Still didn't say anything. Now I'm back home regretting not doing anything. That is a really shitty feeling.", "summary": "Cute girl smiled at me. Didn't say anything. Regretting it. Feelslikeshitman"}
{"id": "t3_s98tq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "She's tempting but dating her could cause mayhem?", "post": "There's two girls in a small (4-7 people, exact number omitted just in case) band that I (male, age 17) play in. One of them (lets call her Kara, age 16. Known since this year) is/has been flirting very obviously with me. Others have seen this, including the second girl (lets call her Zoe, age 18. Known since 5 years ago but only really started talking this year). Kara isn't really the type of person I'd date. I've been careful not to lead her on and haven't really been responding to her flirting in a way that could suggest I'm interested.\n\nZoe is an amazing person. After talking to her both online and in person multiple times we've both worked out that we have an amazing mental connection - we just \"get\" each other. No flirting has happened yet, apart from acknowledgement from each other that both of us are getting on really well.\n\nThe band is really important to all of us. Our leader also very much enjoys it.\n\nA few problems:\n\nI'm sorely tempted by Zoe. However, in asking Zoe out I cause possible jealousy between Kara and Zoe, since Kara has been flirting with me. If Zoe and I were to theoretically get together and end up breaking up before the end of the year (the band are currently very friendly toward one another and we all agree that this shows through in how we play our music), things could possibly (definitely?) get awkward and as a result could impact on how well the band plays. Of course I feel as it our relationship could easily be a long term one but that means nothing of course!\n\nWhat should I do? Would rather not endanger band as it's in no way a professional thing to do, but sorely tempted by Zoe's awesomeness...\nExpecting a reddit-bitchslap for even considering causing chaos but putting this out there just in case.", "summary": "2 girls in band, girl #1 flirting, I'm not interested. Girl #2 I'm interested, me dating her could cause jealousy between girl #1 and #2 which could be detrimental to band. Also detrimental to band if girl #2 and I were to get together and break up before year ends. Band will break up at end of year regardless as we go off to college. Leave it or go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_201v60", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "May have offended my [30, M] GF's mother [a gentleman would never reveal a ladies age] by being ignorant of a cultural naming standard.", "post": "My Girlfriend and I now live together and as such her mother phones the house occasionally to talk to her, The other day I answered the phone as my girlfriend was on her mobile and couldn't pick up. I said \"Hi [girlfriends mother's name], [GF] is on the other phone just now, I'll just go get her\" well not that exactly but along those lines. The point is I called her by her first name. Now she is from Hong Kong and for those of you who don't know, in Cantonese everyone you are related to has a specific name.\n\nSo I pass the phone over and my GF and her Mother talk on the phone, after the conversation my GF tells me that her Mother was asking why I was calling her by her name instead of Auntie, as informally 'Auntie' and 'Uncle' are used instead of all the actual family tree names. It's just a respectful way to speak to your elders. Now I'm not Cantonese, but I do live in an area where I have a few first generation Hong Kong friends. I was speaking to one today about how badly I fucked up, he was the one who explained to me that it's a respect thing.\n\nHowever her mother told her specifically not to tell me, but of course she did because that's what couples do. So I'm in a pickle, do I call her Auntie now as it is respectful, or do I carry on calling her by her first name as if I call her Auntie it means it is obvious my GF has told me about what she said even though she told her not to.", "summary": "GF mum asked my GF why I called her by her first name instead of the more respectful term in her culture, then told her not to tell me she had mentioned it. DO I carry on calling her by her first name or change to the respectful term."}
{"id": "t3_ud4ci", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Depression and Relationship Help", "post": "About three weeks ago, my girlfriend and I broke up. I could tell that she wasn't happy in the relationship, so I suggested that we break up , because I want her to be happy. We had an off and on relationship for about a month and a half, do I figured that we would get back together, because I was still madly in love with her. She is my world. She has a new boyfriend, and when I found out, it hit me that she had moved on. I am devestated, because I still love her, and she is completely done with me, and I can tell she really doesn't want to talk to me. I just want o know what to do. Im depressed. I don't want to do anything but lay in bed and cry. I've been crying non-stop (even at school) since 7:00 PM EST last night. Everyone of my friends that I've talked to has told me to move on, but I can't. It hurts too much. She was my first true love.", "summary": "My ex is with a new guy, and it's hit me that we ate officially through. Now I'm depressed."}
{"id": "t3_2nerhw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] 2 years,I have Bi-Polar 2 and recently my moodiness and depression is getting to my girlfriend.", "post": "On our second date I told her I had Bipolar 2 and she was fine with it. She borrowed a book I had on the disorder that helped her understand. Everything has been fine, but lately I've been in a bad depression. I have lost interest in everything and I really have no desire to be intimate which  is really getting to her.  Also, im irritable on top of the depression so im constantly lashing out verbally. Im trying to see a psychologist but my insurance doesnt cover it so I have to pay a huge chunk of money every visit. I cant afford it right now. \n\nThroughout this depression Ive had moments of semi-happiness. So when I have those moments and im still not interested in anything or intimate, she takes it as im losing interest in her, Which I AM NOT. I love her dearly.\n\nI can see her slowly becoming mentally drained. I want her in my life, and ive told her that it will pass, which she knows, but her insecurities are getting the best of her. Last night, she told me she cried all the way home, and now she is afraid to come over because she doesnt want to get let down because im not being intimate with her.", "summary": "I have bipolar 2, which shes been fine with, but recently my depression is worse then usual causing my girlfriend to become insecure to the point she doesnt want to come over due to my lack of intimacy. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2xuyad", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing a shirt that was too tight", "post": "This happened today.. \n\nobligatory: im the shy-est kid in my grade & i have a reputation of wearing tight clothing\n\nSo here I was, at my high school weightlifting class, surrounded by a bunch of girls doing 3-pound curl and guys doing 35pound-curls.\nI'm definitely not the most athletic of all guys, and although I have some muscle, a nice layer of fat created from vanilla ice cream and candy embraces all signs of muscle. Like any other gym, there are mirrors everywhere. I walk into the room confidently, chin up, staring down the girls lifting 3 pounds and being stared down by the guys lifting 35. I pick up some weights and turn to look at myself in the mirror.\nAnd there I saw it.\nI was wearing the tightest, most ridiculous looking t-shirt. My nipples were perfectly depicted, and all the fat around them just as well. \n[I looked like this](\n\nEveryone is staring at me. I do my thing, and everyone just keeps staring. At the end of the class, all the kids in the class made a remark on it. (Which is absolutely horrifying as a shy kid). \n**ON TOP OF THAT** my teacher told me that he'd drop my grade to a B if I didn't stop wearing these types of shirts.", "summary": "I wore a super tight shirt to PE showing fat and nipples and got told by the teacher to never wear it again, or he'd lower my grade"}
{"id": "t3_27iicb", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "9 days to visit South Germany, West Austria, and Switzerland -- what shouldn't I miss?", "post": "Comrades,\n\nWork (science) takes me and a friend to Prague in **September** for about 5 days, and we plan to take an additional **~9 days** to travel in Europe. We plan to use **trains** (Eurail?) to travel to the Alps region for the bulk of our trip. \n\n**We are but ignorant lads (~23 year olds) who need assistance to optimize the fun integral for our trip. Whence should we go, and what should we see?**\n\n**When:** September\n\n**Where:** Alps, Switzerland, South Germany, Western Austria.\n\n**What:** We are enthralled with **nature** and we like **outdoor activities** (hiking, backpacking, scenic mountains, forests, rail/train rides through the wilderness, and waterfalls). We enjoy interesting **architecture**, historical buildings, relevant historical places, and especially **castles, cathedrals, and palaces**. We will appreciate some museums and culture (but not excessive amounts). We like meat and **ale**.\n\n**Current Ideas:** Munich, Salzburg, the Black Forest in Germany, the Alps x 10^6 , the Jungfrau region in Switzerland, the Neuschwanstein Castle, and Passau. We will both have (backpacking) backpacks, and we both have backpacking gear that we could bring if you have good 2 to 3 day Alp backpacking trips you'd recommend. We are both seasoned outdoorsmen.\n\n**Fears/Restrictions:**  We aren't rich, but we aren't poor (so budget/middle of the range pricing is best). I speak some Spanish, and I can say \"ambulance\" in German, but other than that we communicate with English and grunts. We're mainly afraid of muscle atrophy due to lack of portable weight sets, and of losing our passports and missing our return flights.", "summary": "In summary, we like a decent amount of things involving nature, cool  architecture, historical towns, some culture, and everything to do with the Alps and beer. What should we do in the South Germany, West Austria, and Switzerland regions for just over a week?"}
{"id": "t3_2v0ccf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife's step mom [45 F] told me [22 M] she has no respect for me.", "post": "In the past several months I had been noticing that my wife's step mother ignoring anything I would do or say. So I asked my wife about this and she told me to ask. Sure why not?\n\nSo I asked and she replied with \"do I hate you? Not necessarily, but to be completely honest, I have no respect for you.\" And right now my wife are going through a lot of ups and downs. Especially with us doing a dual-deployment and she won't make it back home for another 2 and a half months.\n\nI showed my wife what she had said to me and she replied \"I don't know why she would say that\". Should I be worried that it could weigh on my wife that she doesn't like me? Family means everything to her. I have handled some certain situations in a way I probably should have done differently. But my wife is telling me that she's willing to work through everything.", "summary": "Wife's step mom has no respect for me, wife and I are struggling; could this affect us?"}
{"id": "t3_4jlfd9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [23 m] break up with my gf [24 f]?", "post": "I have been dating my gf for just over 3 years and we currently live together. Over the last few weeks we have been having discussions about breaking up. Neither of us have done anything extensive like cheating or anything, but things just haven't been clicking lately. \n\nOver the last few months we fight almost every week about small things. Most fights consist of me not paying her enough attention in her mind and me getting frustrated that she's mad at me over small things like not texting her updates when I'm out with my friends after she falls asleep. \n\nI also have not really had the desire to have sex with her any more. Often feeling obligated to do so. Something we used to do almost every day but recently we do it maybe once a week. \n\nI have been told that I am more fun when I am without her, and I feel like i have more fun without her. But I really do care for her and love her. And our talks have been civil and logical about breaking up but we are both afraid to both break up and regret it later or both be in a relationship that isn't working for either of us. \n\nAre these normal problems in a relationship this long or are these really red flags. If it is normal, what advice do you have to make it better?", "summary": "me and my gf are not clicking. Is it time for us to move on, or are there changes we can make to be better."}
{"id": "t3_1i7sh4", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "My kitten's tail was brutally broken and I need some moral support, Reddit.", "post": "So, here's some backstory...\n\nMy boyfriend and I just moved in together less than a month ago and one of our first priorities was to adopt a kitten from his dad. We hand raised this kitten from birth and she is the sweetest, most precious girl ever.\n\nWell, this morning at about 1am, I sat in our recliner. Now, I always check underneath before I sit down because she likes to nap under there. I didn't see her, but when I sat down and lifted the foot rest, I heard a horrible scream and she ran out from underneath. She had been INside the recliner and I didn't know. After getting her to come to me and stop crying, I got a better look and the bone was protruding from her tail (about an inch away from the base) and she was bleeding all over me. Naturally, my boyfriend is out of the country for two weeks and I cannot get in touch with him (or anyone) at 1am.\n\nAfter much hysteria, I finally got in touch with my SO's father and we got my little Kiwi to the emergency vet and only left at about 6am. The vet informed us that the only thing to do was to amputate her tail so she's only going to have a little stump. The main problem? This bill is $2500 and my boyfriend and I are backed up on bills from the move. We have the money to pay it, and luckily his father paid it for us and we can just pay him back over time, but still...", "summary": "My kitten's tail bone broke, was protruding from her skin, I feel like a terrible owner, and the bill is $2500. Anyone have some financial advice, moral support, or a similar story?"}
{"id": "t3_1v2ukr", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(20/M) Just friended a girl I want to get to know on Facebook, need advice on how to proceed. (20/F)", "post": "Alright people, here's what I have going on so far for back story: I have sort of known this girl for a couple of years (i.e. seeing her at parties and dancing with her a few times) yet I never knew her well enough to make any sort of move and I ended up just letting sleeping dogs lie.\n\nAnyways, I just saw her for the first time in nearly a year at a dance before winter break and danced with her a few times, she seemed to be having fun even though she is a far better dancer than I. I wanted to ask for her number but she ended up leaving before I got the chance.\n\nSo, not knowing what else to do, I became friends with her over facebook a little over a week ago and have no idea what to do next. Do I ask for her number in a message? and if so, how should I word it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "the title."}
{"id": "t3_2to8ko", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Being investigated at work", "post": "I'm not sure if this is in the right place, I had a quick look for relevant subreddits but I couldn't see anything.\n\nSo I'm basically looking for some advice. I work as a waiter and at our discretion we can add a service charge to the bill of 7 or more adults. It recently became clear that the majority of my colleagues, and myself, have been abusing this system. If the customer paid the bill in cash, sometimes we would ask the manager to void off the service charge, and then cash it of as the amount without an additional charge, and then pocket the rest. Yes I know it's wrong and I'm not trying to justify it but a lot of us barely make enough money to cover bills and rent due to budget cuts, so why should we let the company take half of our tips on a large table?\n\nThis is besides the point, it is company policy so we should have adhered to it. I guess this has been happening too much recently because my boss informed us tonight that about 8 of us are being investigated on Wednesday regarding this issue. \n\nMy main problem is that I have only done it a handful of times, but I am scared that under interrogation I will crack or be accused of doing something worse than this.\n\nThis is not an important job whatsoever, I graduated from uni recently and I am searching for a better job, this is simply tiding me over. However, if the worst happens and I am fired, I do not want it to be a mark on my record especially if references etc are needed. I could delete it from my CV but I have worked here for over a year, it would look odd.\n\nI just don't know what to expect on Wednesday,  if it has already been decided or something, who knows?\n\nSo basically, is anyone sympathetic enough to offer me some advice, or do I deserve everything I get?", "summary": "fucked up at work, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4bwxdg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] known [18 M] a few weeks, cant tell if hes interested or not .", "post": "Okay so ive been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks, ive seen him a few times and we would spend a few minutes after class together. Ive given him my number and it started out fun for the first few days but now i rarely hear from him. Hes never the one who is texting me first and im getting a bit discouraged. If he were interested wouldnt he text me first at least once?  \n\nWhen we met hes the one who came up to me and then we started talking. At the momment he is no longer taking the same class as mine after dropping it. Though instead using the opportunity to dissapear, he continued to text me and apologized for not telling me about his drop. It's because of this that i assume he still wants to see me. Hes even made plans to watch a movie together, except a few nights ago when i started flirting with him, he completely blew me off and said he was going to bed. What do I make of that?", "summary": "Doesn't text first and ignored my attempts at flirting, but still wants to see me?*."}
{"id": "t3_k4qqb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Caught boyfriend texting girl about leaving me for her", "post": "My name will be Lisa, his name will me Jack and the girl he was texting will be named Mary. We are all in our ealry twenties.\n\n Jack and I have been dating for a year and a half. We are in a long distance relationship, 4 hours away.\n\n I read a text message on Jack's cellphone to Mary where he was flirting inappropriatly. Mary is a girl he knows from the internet that he met in person 3 months ago when he was driving cross country. The texting with this girl started right after this trip.\n\n He said \"I want to leave Lisa for you, I love you and want to be with you instead\". I am currently staying with him for the long weekend. He continued to tell her that \"I can't wait for the weekend to be over.\"\n\nHe also lied to her about staying with me in July, telling her he was with his Grandma.\n\nLast night, I confronted him about it. He said nothing happened between them but he did it because he liked the attention she gave him. I made text her and tell her the truth, he did. She has never responded.\n\nI don't know whay to do, or what to believe. I love him, but I don't think I could trust him again.  \n\nWhat should I do, thoughts, opinions?", "summary": "Boyfriend has been texting a girl he met about leaving me for her, says he did it for attention."}
{"id": "t3_1xkdpy", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Has my roommate's dog become my dogs new master?", "post": "So I might, or might not have an issue on my hands.  I just wanted to run it by you guys to get some insight.\n\nMe - 5 month old, male lab/pit mix, puppy.\nRoommate - 2 year old female boxer\n\nWhenever I am training or otherwise hanging out alone with my dog, he is very responsive.  I have got him to the point where he is botty trained, will come when called by name, sit and lay down on command with no treats.  I have done crate training, and he sleeps in that no problem (some whining but its gone down a lot).  When my roommate and his dog are home, the pups are typically playful; no problems there.\n\nThe problem is I see my dog displaying some traits that I am unsure of.  When my roommate and his dog are gone, my pup will sit at his door and wait there for long period of lime; just longing for her to come out.  Not a big deal.  \n\nThe puppy will also nag the older dog to play, all the time.  If the boxer is on the couch just hanging out while were watching tv, the puppy will try and antagonize the boxer.  Again, alone not a big deal; he's a puppy, that's what puppies do!\n\nLastly, the pup will pretty much ignore me when the other dog is around.  I cant get his attention, unless I have a treat.  When I do have a treat, the other dog gets excited too and that in-turn re-distracts my puppy.\n\nI guess my concern is that the puppy sees the boxer as her mom, or Alpha, and that I might be second in line to her.    \n\nThoughts?  Suggestions?\n\nThanks in advance", "summary": "I think my dog considers my roommates dog the alpha, which I am the beta to."}
{"id": "t3_ft1sv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would a neophyte go about becoming a real estate broker in California?", "post": "I've been surfing the internet in search of a reliable guide of sorts...and I must say, either my GoogleFu is rather weak or there is a real dearth of information regarding the process of entering real estate in the Golden State.\n\nCan anyone give me a short explanation of possible classes to take, etc. in Southern California (preferably the O.C.)? \n\nI don't want to take online classes. I want to take something approved by the state and that will expedite the passing of the licensure exams. I realize that there is a difference between agent and broker, and I am trying to become a broker. I have a BA in Philosophy and I'm not sure if that helps me or not. \n\nIn addition, I want to go to a school that will provide me with connections, etc. in my attempt at making it in real estate.\n\nThe minute I gave up on my internet search I was like \"Hm...time for r/RealEstate (if it exists)\" and lo and behold...it did. However, r/RealEstate is too small my desires. Hence why I came here. This is a cross-post.", "summary": "I'm a recent college grad living at home and would like to get into commercial real estate brokering in Orange County."}
{"id": "t3_3yer2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/f] with my MIL [50's/f]. She said something in front of my daughter and I am irrationally mad.", "post": "My husband and I have been together 7 years and we have a 4 year old. Except my 4 year old is very insightful(?) and pays attention to everyone. She catches on rather quickly. We have told my parents and his parents many times to be careful what they say around her. \n\nI say this because it's relevant to the current situation. My mother, who lives out of state, is Christian (Lutheran to be exact). My mother in law is a Jehovah's Witness. My husband is not, if you're wondering. We technically don't have a religion. Anyway, my mom sent our daughter a Christmas ornament as that's what she's into right now. It's a guardian angel that says \"Watch over our *daughter's name*\". My daughter, not super familiar with \"angels\", loves it and had asked what it meant. My husband and I told her that some people, like grandma, believe in angels that watch over you. We blatantly told her that we weren't sure what we believed, but it was a nice thought. She agreed and said she hopes there are angels. It was a nice moment even if we aren't religious people.\n\nMy mother in law came over on Christmas to see what she received as gifts but doesn't celebrate, as she's a Witness. She went over to the tree, pulled off our daughter's ornament, and said \"Is this a guardian angel? Cute, but it would be nice if they were real. Guardian angels aren't real\" and went on a little rant about how it was a nice idea but garbage. Our daughter cried and ran to her room.\n\nI am pissed. My husband wasn't home at the time and I just followed our daughter. I feel like this is the tip of the iceberg because she's made little comments before and I don't know how to make an even ground. Her comments are ridiculous. She can't just let anything go. Always has to prove herself as right.\n\nI told him and he thinks it was rude, but doesn't want to say anything.\n\nIs this my husband's responsibility to take care of? Is there anything I can do?", "summary": "MIL and I are not getting along. Her religious comments hurt. I don't know how to navigate this."}
{"id": "t3_9z4y0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you feel about \"social decline\"?", "post": "The other day I was with a group of friends just shooting the breeze and somehow we got on the topic of how lazy people are these days compared with previous generations. One of my friends brought up the ipod as an example of a device our society has invented due to laziness. For some reason that idea didn't sit well with me. I wasn't really defensive about it because I'm not a particularly lazy individual, and I'm not particularly invested in macintosh either, but I went ahead and called my friend out on it and said something like \"I don't think there's any proof beyond nostalgia that this generation is somehow inferior to previous generations\" (it definitely didn't come out that well; I have a stuttering problem) I went ahead and compared music players to telescopes. If you've been using a galilean refracting telescope all of your life and then one day Newton creates a reflecting telescope are you lazy for using something that is more efficient at what it does? He said that that was different, because an ipod is only used for entertainment. I don't think that makes a difference though, seeing as through innovations such as the ipod music is more accessible to more audiences than ever before. People are exposed to far more bands from far more genres than ever before also. I'm sure the average \"lazy\" individual knows far more music now than they did a generation ago and I don't see how that is indicative of a culture in decline. Anyway after this debate (no one was convinced either way as is typical with debates) I became aware that most everyone I talked to about the subject said \"they didn't have faith in humanity\". That is really sad to me, and due to the large amount of these type of responses I've began to question my position. Am I missing something that these folks are catching? Anyway, just wondering what reddit thinks about this matter.", "summary": "Do you think humanity is declining from previous generations?"}
{"id": "t3_cpnx8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I am terrible at this whole dating thing", "post": "Alright Reddit, I'll try not to be another \"herp da derp, I can't get women and will never get laid\", because I'm pretty sure I could get women if I wanted to, just not the kind of women that I could see myself in a relationship with. \n\nSo I was wondering, I'm in a few clubs at school, but most of them have a high male:female ratio. I tried OkCupid, but it bothers me for a few reasons [the number 1 being that it like most of the internet seems to operate under the principal that there are more men than women]. But I was curious, because I'm looking for women, and I know what kind of women I'm looking for, I have an education [A bachelors in C&IT next may], and I've got a job with some money. \n\nAnd I guess the Dating system is just weird to me, because like you find a girl who you think looks pretty, you ask her out and get to roll the dice on if she's an airhead or not. Like this seems like a waste of time to go through 20 women, half of whom say no because they have no interest in you, 9 more who once you get to know each other you learn you don't really like each other, and the last 1 you get to keep around to find out if they are hiding something in the closet. \n\nSo... I figure bars are probably a bad place for the whole dating thing, but are there any clubs in particular / areas where one might find the kind of women Reddit would like [Gamer Girls / Etc.] someone I could share my interest with. I would say go to the areas of my interest but such places are a sausage fest.", "summary": "Help Redditor to be social."}
{"id": "t3_1n5q28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [21 F] of a little over a year and I [24 M] are breaking up because of school", "post": "So my girlfriend still wants to be with me but can't handle a relationship because she needs to focus on school. She gets very stressed about school so I understand her shutting out everything but school and work. Needless to say I don't want to break up and want to just be there for her. She wants me to go date other people because she doesn't want to hold me back, but I don't want to. We want to be friends but we are worried our feelings for each other will get in the way of that. What should I do? I've never felt this strongly about any girl before and could definitely see myself spending my life with her.", "summary": "Girlfriend wants to break up till after school. I don't want to be with anyone else"}
{"id": "t3_1l5ey7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me[26F] with my SO[26M] 8 months in, broke things off and need to know I did the right thing. X/post", "post": "SO has only had one long term + serious relationship before me, they were together for 5-6 years. She had cheated on him and he couldn't forgive her so I think that's what ultimately ended the relationship. SO's father passed away a few months ago and he went to see her to talk about it, I had no idea they were still in contact until that night. He was very defensive about me being uncomfortable that he was seeing her, saying that she was his best friend and that she was a big part of his life and deserved to hear this in person. I let it go. He said they barely talked and when they did it was just to catch up (so how does that make them best friends?).\n\nI found out a couple days ago that they are having conversations on the phone which last quite a long time (40mins - 1hr). He did not tell me this until I brought up not talking to MY ex because I believe exes belong in the past. He says that his family knows her family and she just calls him because she was back in the area (she travels for work). He said that he even told her \"I'm glad we're not together\" when I questioned why he felt the need to \"try to maintain a friendship with her\"(his words). Why would he even say something like that to her? Why would he try to maintain a \"friendship\" with someone who cheated on him?\n\nI broke things off with him because I cannot accept why he would need to keep this person in his life, I feel like he is still hung up on her and while I love him very much I would rather be hurt now rather than down the road. I deleted him from facebook and I have not talked to him in a couple days. I hope that I did the right thing but I'm not sure. He tried to tell me that I was making all this up in my head and that I had no reason not to trust him.\nI believe that when my relationship with someone ends, I need to make sure I leave them in the past and not drag them into my current relationship. Has anyone experienced something like this?", "summary": "SO still wants friendship with ex who cheated on him and I can't be comfortable with that so I ended the relationship"}
{"id": "t3_3ba4i9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wearing my underwear", "post": "So I work as a swim teacher, and this morning I had an early shift. I also worked yesterday so I had to hang my swim clothes to dry. I wake up, go outside, pick up all my swim clothes, go back inside, I take off my pants and undies and proceed to put on my work shorts when I feel a strange sensation on my left butt cheek. I'm really confused as to what it was because it hurt way too much for a thorn that might have gotten stuck in my clothes. At this point the pain gets stronger and stronger and I'm like what did I just do to warrant this pain?? I pull back my shorts a little and I see this little fuzz-WHAT THE FUCK THERE'S A BEE IN MY SHORTS. Fast forward a few hours after I've finished work: I got stung twice, and I still didn't kill that bugger although I don't know whether it was a yellow jacket or a honey bee so it could be dead already. Thankfully I wasn't allergic to bee stings because 15 minutes after that I was in the pool...longest 5 hours of my life. I suppose my consolation is that I wore my shorts right way around or I'd be in the hospital I imagine.", "summary": "I put on my swim shorts without looking inside and I got stung by a bee..on my ass...twice. Check your clothes guys."}
{"id": "t3_4g44l5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(M21) got a girls phone number from class, we've been texting and snapchatting. We're do I go from here?", "post": "-Got her number a back at the start of march \n-a few times during the first ten days i asked to see if she wanted to meetup. and she kind of dogged it\n- in the begining i would inititiate most of the texting, now she started initiating more after i backed off because i thought she wasn't interested \n- we have a lot in common and a lot of shared interests and her texts are good paragraphs and she uses emojis and sends multiple text to complete the thought if she has add ons.\n\n- i feel there hasn't really been much flirting, besides when i tried a few times and she didn't really respond/return any of it.\n\n- this might be creepy. i started walking the same way as her after class because i wanted to talk to her. and i live in the complete opposite direction\n\nthis is the first random girl whos number i've gotten.\n\ni think she might just be nice to everyone.\n\nshe's the same age", "summary": "first time getting a random girls number got mixed signals dont know how to proceed"}
{"id": "t3_4lxskt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my mom [59F] told her truth about her family and now she won't talk to me.", "post": "My little sister was in India with my mom's insane family (we are from Canada).\n\nShe messaged me about it a few days back detailing how my uncle hits his wife, my aunt is in a cult and my grandma is a psychopath who manipulates and sets people against each other.\n\nOnce I found out, I told my dad. He basically said that my sister was a strong person and that she would be okay.\nLast night my mom (who I don't have a great relationship with) and I had a fight and I feel very guilty because I told her what was happening with her family.\n\nShe obviously didn't believe me and accused me of being a hateful person.\n\nThis morning my dad also asked me if I had thought about the consequences of my actions.\n\nI feel like I've betrayed my sister's trust and hurt my mother.\n\nI know that I just told the truth and that abuse is often hidden in Indian culture but it just hurts and I feel like the only reason I told my mom was to hurt her. (I've actually been very worried about my sister but still)\n\nShe isn't with them anymore and has left to stay with other family members so really, I didn't have to tell my mom.\n\nThey all act very different when she's around and they've never been anything but kind to me. They did say rude things to my sister but she just pretended she was jet lagged and didn't understand them.\n\nAnyway its been bothering me all day. I do have depression and spent all day in bed just sitting in my guilt and my mom wouldn't even look at me when she got home.\n\nI don't know what to do or how to fix this.", "summary": "I told my mom that her family was actually super messed up and now she is very upset and hurt. I have guilt over this and what should I do next?"}
{"id": "t3_37kp7h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16 F] want my first real relationship.", "post": "I am a gamer who always met guys on the internet. Within the past few years, I've been in a two serious long distance relationships that haven't worked out. Each one lasting a year. We would bond over our love of gaming and Skype/text everyday. The first one was 2012-2013 and the second one was 2013-2014.\n\nI have been doing online school for two years; I used to go to a public highschool and I'm very shy. I don't talk a lot, I pretty much have social anxiety and it's hard for me to go up to people that I don't know.\n\nI don't like the feeling of when someone says hey, I can't say it back, or I do and I get so anxious because I can't carry a conversation. I want to be able to feel confident to make friends, especially ones in my repeated grade (supposed to be a senior, but I'm still a junior.)\n\nI feel like my social skills are the one thing that keeps me away from happiness most of the time, and well, I think it would be nice to legitly have a boyfriend for once. I haven't even experienced anything, and I feel partly like I'm missing out.\n\nI go back to my public school in September. Do you have any tips to overcome shyness? And I guess, how did you meet your girlfriend/boyfriend in school? Thank you in advance.", "summary": "Shy girl always online dated through video games. No social skills but feels ready to date. How do I overcome anxiety?"}
{"id": "t3_2ld7d2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M 23] gf [27] of 4mo has been in contact with her ex. Acts shady about extent and reason for contact", "post": "My gf was showing me pics on her phone when I saw a guy texted her. I told her the name and she said \"I think my ex is tryin to holler\". I didn't think much about it and continued on. \n\nLater that day she got another text from him so I asked what was up. She said it was her ex, but that it's nothing to worry about \u2014 it's just small talk. I'm someone who isn't big on smalltalk, so I asked her what she gets out of it. \"Nothing, I'm just being friendly\".\n\nI basically told her that doesn't make sense. She doesn't take calls from telemarketers and people she doesn't like. After pushing some more, she admitted her ex was trying to get back with her. Apparently that's what she meant when by he was \"trying to holler\". \n\nShe told me that she called him later that day and set things straight, and that she was with me and all that. I really do believe her, but I also feel like she's showing too much courtesy to someone who essentially cheated on her with her best friend at the time. I also feel like I had to pry too hard to get the details. \n\nWhat would you do in my situation? I know she's not the type to cheat, but I'm uncomfortable with how naive she can be.. am I being too nice?", "summary": "GF receives txts from her ex. I found out these texts are basically him trying to get back together with her. She didn't tell him she has a bf until very recently, and I had to pry this info out of her."}
{"id": "t3_413c6t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] feel like I'm becoming a jealous girlfriend in my 3.5 year relationship with my boyfriend [19M]", "post": "EDIT: I'm on phone so I don't know how to flair \n\nSo this is a little bit of a strange question/advice and it's more about how I can change myself. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are neither very social people. We have a few close friends each, but we're not party people and spend a lot of time with each other, especially since we've both recently been on summer break (Australia). \nTonight he went out to a bar event with a few of his close friends and since I'm under 18, I couldn't go. \n\nWe hung out before he went there and as soon as I got home after dropping him off I started feeling pretty sad, and kind of jealous (worth mentioning I do have moderate clinical depression). I'm not worried about him doing things with other people, but I just feel jealous that he's not spending time with me. \n\nIt's completely irrational and I can separate myself from it, but I can't help feeling that way and it's infuriating. I've noticed it before when he mentions making friends or times when a girl has given him her number and we've joked about it - I get a little jealous. \n\nI need to learn how to spend more time by myself and not be jealous if he has other friends but I just don't know how. It's also a complete double standard because I tell him all the time how much fun I have making friends in lines at shopping centres and joke about guys who try and hit on me.", "summary": "I feel like I'm slowly becoming a jealous girlfriend, and I can see it happening but I don't know how to stop it"}
{"id": "t3_fbe6e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need Advice or Thoughts Here: I'm a Small Blogger Who Just Got an Email from a Reporter about a lawsuit", "post": "This is a throwaway account.\n\nI own a very small entertainment blog. Now yesterday I got an email from a reporter from a newspaper company in Nevada who said that I had been added to a lawsuit from Righthaven, apparently a LLC that's been suing hundred of small mom and pop bloggers left and right since last year. He wanted to get my thoughts on it and also added a pdf of the \"lawsuit.\"\n\nNow I'm just a college kid who just posts stuff up and writes critical or parody commentary on the topic so this obviously scared the shit out of me.\n\nFrom what I could make out from the pdf, it appears that it concerned the image of that TSA patdown, the one about some dude ejaculating when he got patdown. I wrote about when the news broke out and had linked it/credited it to current.com (who has since taken the photo/news story down). My comments on the small excerpt/photo was something along the lines of how funny it was that the dude's name was Cummings. hahaha.\n\nNow what I don't get is that I was never notified by Righthaven, and instead this reporter reached out to talk to me for my thoughts. Is this even right??\n\nAnd also that picture and story went viral and nearly every big blog/small blog had that photo or story up. I just went with the flow and even linked back to the original source. And my whole purpose for it was to make fun of the event, which I believe is under Fair Use due to parody, criticism.\n\nAt the same time though, I researched online and Righthaven apparently goes after small time blogs mostly, with the exception of a few big ones, and knowing that we can't afford to fight back, we'll just settle and pay around $1,000-$5,000. Honestly I can't even afford to settle - I'm just a kid already in debt with loans and would rather not have my parents involved.\n\nDoes anyone else see anything wrong with this scenario? And is this really happening? Is this legit? Should I worry? I don't have any contact information listed on my website besides my email as well.", "summary": "I have a small blog and got an email from a REPORTER about my thoughts about getting hit with a lawsuit I didn't know about, from a company that apparently sues first, asks questions later, on copyrights they purchase from the original copyright holder."}
{"id": "t3_226uam", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 5 months, meeting their religious mother", "post": "My girlfriend left her parent's home about a year ago after an argument, and now they're beginning to get along together again, and I encouraged her to do it all way along because I believe it's important to be in touch with the family.\n\nAlthough I'm an atheist, I don't have any problem with the fact that my girlfriend and her parents are religious and I respect their beliefs but I'm afraid of how their parents will react to the fact that I'm an atheist and I don't want to be disrespectful or strain their relationship somehow.\n\nThe best course of action would be not talking about religion but I think it will be hard because her mother teaches in a church, have the habit to invite priests over her home and a bit part of her life seems to revolve over religion overall to the point where she's going to celebrate her birthday in a sanctuary.\n\nShe wants me to meet them on Easter and I'm eager to meet them but I don't want to partake on their rituals (prayers, kissing the cross, eating bread and stuff like that). Is there a way to not do it without being disrespectful?", "summary": "Atheist visiting religious gf's parents. How to act respectfully without pretending to be religious / lying?"}
{"id": "t3_3kmwrm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [21M] tell if I'm ever going to get over an ex?", "post": "Hi, I'll keep this short because if I don't it will be a book. I ended a relationship with a girl who I loved very much. I was very confused - didn't know if I really loved her and felt that I would regret not dating around in college. \n\n-------------------------\n\nThe following year was very difficult for me for numerous reasons, but I never got over my ex. I've been dealing with depression - been seeing a therapist and taking antidepressants. So i've been working on myself a lot. \n\n-------\nThis is my last year at Uni and I'm finally starting to make some progress with other women, but every day my heart still aches for my ex. \n\n------\nThe thing is, I'm ususally pretty good at knowing if how I feel is temporary or whatever, I feel like I'm good at gauging the severity of my emotions. I've been working very hard to get over and to stop loving my ex but I have this gut feeling and deep fear that I never will. I'm afraid that I'm going to live my life and regret not trying to get back with her - but I know i'm not ready to try that. \n\n-------\nfinally, I keep expecting to see her around campus. Every girl who even slightly resembles her I see her face and my heart flutters like \"oh shit there she is\". I'm constantly feeling nervous. I also wish for nothing more than for her to contact me. I made a decision that if I'm going to talk to her again it would have to be her that contacts me - I'd just feel too weak and immasculated if I did again.\n\n------\n\nWhat can I do here? I'm just so sad and anxious. Thanks.", "summary": "I'm still hurting about an ex from a year ago. How can I tell if this pain is going to stop or not?"}
{"id": "t3_29wisc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most unlucky/random thing that has happened to you?", "post": "I have a really stupid experience from when I was about 8 or so.My brother and I had got a [lightsaber spoon( from a cereal box and we using it. I am still unclear on how or what happened but I remember getting a chocolate koala from the fridge and turning around. As soon as I turned around I felt a sharp pain in my mouth. My brother had cut the sidewall of my mouth and I was bleeding a lot. He essentially cut my mouth wall/uper back throat with a lightsaber requiring me to got the the hospital. Awkwardness ensued while trying to explain to the doctors how I had received a lightsaber spoon wound.", "summary": "I had my mouth wall cut open by a lightsaber spoon"}
{"id": "t3_4tx718", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I just shift courses?", "post": "Basically, I really love drawing. I'm good at it. So I took up a course in digital arts. My parents told me that they'll support whatever I do, so they also urged me to take up that certain course.\nI'm just in my second year of college, and I'm already wanting to shift.\nIt's not that I don't like the subjects, no. I enjoy them very much (with the exceptions of a few minors). It's the costs and the tuition that's really stressful.\n\nMy family is just in the middle class, and let's say that I don't even have a decent laptop to run basic Adobe programs (Dreamweaver,", "summary": "My family's short on money but I love my course. Should I shift to a more affordable course?"}
{"id": "t3_esy4s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my landlord has filled my room with weird stuff. Not sure what to do...", "post": "I rent a room in a studio room complex that has a shared internet connection. a few weeks ago the landlord stopped paying for this (rental agreement says internet is included in the rent) i complained to the landlord but got no response (i work online so need a connection) i kept trying this for a few days and finally got an angry response saying that the cap had been massively exceeded and that it indicated illegal downloading. i kept complaining and eventually gave up and went home for christmas early. I just got back after a week, internets are back on but the landlord seems to have filled the room with boxes. The boxes are full of weird things, no idea why the landlord would have them. Examples: biological culture media, several hand towel dispensers, a box of 99.5% glycerol and lots of other boxes from a company called \"beckman coulter\" and \"dionex\"\nNot sure what all these things are but they all seem to be lab shit of some description.  I have tried calling the landlord but again, no response. Just wondering if reddit can help me out a bit. My lease hasnt expired yet.", "summary": "Had slight fracas with landlord. landlord has filled my apartment with boxes of lab equipment. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_24ez0x", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[Virginia] Landlord served us with 90-day non-renewal notice. Our lease renewed on 1/31/2014 and the renewal term is ambiguous at best.", "post": "We signed a lease prior to 8/1/2012. The initial Term of the lease was 18 months, with a Starting Date of 8/1/2012 and Ending Date of 1/31/2014. The written lease Renewal Period is \"1 year or mo to mo\" and the Renewal Notice Period is 60 days.\n\nUnder the applicable following term section of the lease it states:\n\n> 4.TERM: The term shall commence on the Starting Date and end on the Ending Date. THE TERM OF THIS LEASE SHALL AUTOMATICALLY RENEW for additional periods equal to the Renewal Period each, but either party may avoid a renewal by giving the other party notice of nonrenewal prior to the expiration of the current Term by at least the Renewal Notice Period.\n\nLogically, my wife and I assumed the \"1 year\" came first unless otherwise stated because, you know, it came first on the lease. So 12/2/2013 (60 days prior to the initial lease term end) came with no notice of nonrenewal (or renewal). Even, 1/31/2014 (the initial lease end date) passed with no further contact or notice from our landlord.\n\nFlash forward to today, we get a lease termination notice from our landlord giving us the 60 days plus an extra 30 days, so 90 days total, to vacate the residence. \n\nMy question, in general, is what our lease renewal period actually *is* currently since the lease states an ambiguous \"1 year or mo to mo\". Who decides what the term is? When is that decided? Does one have precedence over the other? Does the ambiguity of the term come into play, especially since we're in Virginia? \n\nI'd like to construct a fairly wordy email in reply to them and hopefully have them back off and any advice would help.", "summary": "Lease renewed on 1/31/2014. Lease renewal period written is ambiguous \"1 year or mo to mo\". We assumed it renewed for a year. LL is assuming it's now month-to-month and giving us a 90 day notice to vacate. Who's correct?"}
{"id": "t3_20mhv3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 F) just found out that my boyfriend of 8 months (25 M) married his ex-girlfriend to get a green card and that they are still married. Has this happened to anyone else? How did you take it?", "post": "I found out a few days ago that my boyfriend married his ex-girlfriend because he came here illegally and needed a green card.  They had been dating on and off for a few years and were together and married for two.  I understand the need for it and I'm not upset that he did that.  It just comes as a shock to find out now.\n\nI just want to know if anybody else has been through this before and how they handled it.  It's hard to talk to my friends about it because I don't think they will fully understand the situation.", "summary": "I found out my boyfriend is married so that he can stay in this country. Has anyone else dealt with this?"}
{"id": "t3_1rqdey", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M/F] with my (ex)boyfriend [23 M/F] 3 years", "post": "Hi everyone,\nI'm sure you're going to redirect me somewhere else, but I really want your advice. \n\nMy boyfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. We were in a long distance relationship, together for 3 years, and the reason he broke up with me was because he hated the long distance and just wanted to be single. I'm having a terrible time with it. For the first few nights, to fall asleep, I would drink a glass of wine. Now, I find myself wanting to drink all the time because it makes me feel so much better than when I'm sober.\n\nHe broke up with me and then continued to message me on a daily basis, from the advice of my friends, I told him to stop talking to me so I could try to get over him. It's been 9 days without talking to my best friend who I used to talk to every hour. \n\nI am beyond in love with this guy. Yes he was my first love and I'm well aware there are \"plenty of fish in the sea\", but he is the perfect person for me, and I just want him back. I'm so sad all the time, all I do is think about him and want to be with him. I can't go more than 2 hours without bursting into tears, and I can't see how it's ever going to get better.\n\nI guess why I'm posting here is to ask for similar stories where someone you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with decides he/she doesn't want you anymore. I just need support and for someone to tell me I'm not alone in feeling like this. I don't know how to handle it.", "summary": "boyfriend broke up with me, don't know how to handle it"}
{"id": "t3_41q6zd", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Possible Job venues for an educated european?", "post": "I apologize should this question be misplaced. I do, however, think it best to ask here about possible venues and how to go for them.\n\nAs to my situation:\nI'm a rather smart, educated (Bachelor's Degree in literature and philosophy, currently doing Master at a big university), european male in my early 20's. I know multiple languages (German, English, Italian, currently learning French) and pride myself on being sophisticated. I speak and behave myself well.\nBUT:\nI never had a job I didn't get through connections or friends and am now a bit frustrated by that. I do not know where to look or even what to look for.\nI've got a bit experience as a research assistant and liked it well enough. It wasn't very practice orientedl but provided enough free time and knowledge of some things to like it.\n\nMy main motivation is not money since I'll get funding for my studies for about another 1.5 years. \nI DO however want to enhance my perception of possible careers paths and - if possible - to maybe get a foot in somewhere. I hope and prepare for traveling Europe for a few years, honing my languages and myself - yet I do fear to be unable to find jobs in other countries. :/ So...something possible from somewhere else would be..nice?\n\nI thought of Newspapers, Publishing Houses, University itself, even ghostwriting and make internships at, like, film studios or magazines or ad firms or what not. But there it is again: Me being to stupid to even now what's out there.\n\nI would be rather grateful for you answers since I am...quite clueless at the moment.", "summary": "Early 20's male"}
{"id": "t3_1x09l1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "People say my boyfriend [18 M] deserves better than me [16 F]", "post": "I am a junior in high school and he is a senior. He is the popular, nice-guy, class clown while I am the girl that not many know about, not outgoing at all, not involved in many things. We got to know each other last year through mutual friends, became best friends and finally took the leap this year when he asked me out. It has been 6 months so far and I am very happy with him!\n\nBut obviously people are still judgmental. I thought people would say some things, but my worries were only recently confirmed when someone told me that people think I am \"too ugly\" for him or he \"deserves better\" and I'm not \"good enough\". I know I'm not the conventional picture of 'hot' (he definitely is though) and I don't want to sound cocky but I had a good amount of self confidence and thought I was at the very least 'cute'. I don't even know anymore! \n\nI know I shouldn't care what other people think but it is kind of hard not to. How do you not care about people who judge you and your relationship?", "summary": "How do you not care about people who judge you and your relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_1vo53y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [30/F] feeling very troubled by my lack of desire to marry my boyfriend [30/M] of about 5 years; i fantasize about other men. is there something i can do about this? should i tell my boyfriend?", "post": "my boyfriend and i have been talking about marriage. i want to have a kid, a family, a partner in life. i think he'd make a great father and husband. objectively i know he's a very good looking fellow who loves me very much. he's not perfect but he's really really great. i've always thought of him as a treasure. \n\nso i'm not sure what my problem is and why, when i think of marrying him, i feel a bit nauseous and scared.\n\nis marriage just not for me?\n\nshould i tell him how i've been feeling? \n\nif i can just resolve these issues without him being troubled i'd like to spare him the suffering.\n\ni'd really appreciate any thoughts.", "summary": "think my boyfriend is AWESOME but am not excited about the idea of marrying him - is there something wrong with me?"}
{"id": "t3_3m8dkg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20/M] I can't seem to be able to be the right kind of guy for my girlfriend [21F], anyone have any advice?", "post": "So I find myself being unable to be the right kind of guy for my girlfriend. And it isn't so much that she's trying to change me into something I'm not. I seem to be unable to follow through with a lot of simple rules that we both think should be common knowledge. I've had this relationship for two years and I still find myself messing up things a decent boyfriend should do. Before I met her I was in a lot of unhealthy relationships where I never really felt like I was in a relationship. And now two years later it still seems like I can't figure things out. I continuously make the same mistakes over and over to the point where I'm now just saying \"Sorry\" and \"I won't let it happen again!\" every time something happens, and it's driving both of us up a wall. She gets frustrated that I can't realize that I need to change things and I can't figure out how to stop being such an idiot. It's come to the point where I feel stupid being unable to get it right for the both of us and the sake of our relationship.", "summary": "I keep repeating the same mistakes, making empty promises and being unable to get into the right flow of being a good boyfriend even after two years and it's really hurting my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2u4cz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Jealousy has overcome me [18 m] [19 f]", "post": "Well I've been dating this girl for 8 months. It has been perfect full of lust and true spiritual love.\n\nThis girl let's me do anything to her. I could treat her like a dog and she wouldn't care. I have full access to her phone anytime and she usually drives us around in a sexy car her parents bought her.\n\nThe reason I am now on here is due to the fact that I am possessive as fuck. Yesterday we casually went to BJ's to get a pazooki,(I now fucking hate pazookies) we sat down while she went to grab a drink. Some older dude hit on her at the bar and I got pissed the fuck off left BJ's because she didn't say she had a man and instead told the dude off. \n\nI was pissed the entire night and then this morning realized how jealous I have become. I googled the topic of retroactive jealous and it seems legit. My libido has dropped to shit, I'm always tense all the time, and my girl still loves the fuck out of me for the person I used to be. \n\nI was really insecure about her last older bf who was 23, and eventually overcame it throughout the relationship and fucking her guts out over it. (Worked perfectly)\n\nBut she recently cheated on me virtually over text with some guy over League of Legends. She lied to me about snapping and texting this guy for a month, even when I knew she lied to me until I showed her pics he sent me. (Lol) Then after she has lied to me about talking to her friend after we got in an argument and having a conversation with a different ex. Just flat lied and then told me what really happened 10 mins later cause I knew she was lying.", "summary": "lost libido due to retroactive jealousy towards a girl who let me own the fuck out of her and do whatever I want towards her. I now get angry and jealous over everything and feel like I've lost myself. How do I overcome it."}
{"id": "t3_3d7cas", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28M) constantly date women who are bad for me and am unable to have a relationship with a normal girl.", "post": "I always date crazy girls, the bad ones, hot but nutty, some friends are like I wish I could date that girl right up until she snaps and they see that and are like wow, glad it wasn't me.\n\nIt's a running joke among my friends at this point, nearly every girl I've met has some kind of disorder, they're clingy or bipolar or just aggressive, they're all kinky, almost every girl I've dated we've done some form of hardcore role play/bdsm. Nearly every time we act out these fucked up destructive scenarios that even some of bdsm folk I know were like that's intense.\n\nIt's just crazy, it's like a damn drug to me, I meet these really nice normal chicks occasionally and it's just like why can't I be attracted to you, why can't I like you. Sometimes I feel like I'm cursed to just date the girls who are bad for me, it's an addiction and I dunno what to do. \n\nIf there's something messed up with a girl and she's moderately attractive but there's a normal but extremely hot girl I always go for the nutty one and I do mean nutty. \n\nI dunno if I'm posting this in the right place, guess I just need someone or some people to give me some advice here, I'm gonna be heading into my thirties in a couple years and I want to be able to settle down, I don't want the girl whose a fucking tornado as the one I spend my life with, sure it's fun, but I've been there and been through so much with several of these girls and it's wearing me down as a person. \n\nAt 28 I feel emotionally/mentally exhausted.", "summary": "have been dating hot, crazy women since I was 17, have not a single clue how to have a normal relationship, dunno if I'll ever have a normal girlfriend/wife or something and it terrifies me"}
{"id": "t3_10d3v0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A waitress told my boyfriend and I on our double date, \"We don't even care that you shared your meals, we're just glad you're here.\" What is the worst or most awkward situation you've experienced in the service industry?", "post": "My boyfriend and I went on a double date with good friends. After a somewhat heavy lunch and drinking on the beach all day, we went to dinner. We weren't super hungry, so each couple split $30 worth of dinners and had one alcoholic drink each. We tipped 20% because our waitress was really nice and it was an overall fun, relaxing experience.\n\nUpon leaving the restaurant, the waitress was walking out and I felt the need to thank her, and maybe make her smile. I told her how great she was and that we had a great time. She responded, \"Oh thanks! We don't even care that you shared your meals, we're just glad you're here.\" It was completely unprompted and very, very awkward. I walked away from an otherwise great experience with a weird taste in my mouth.", "summary": "Waitress called us out on sharing dinners and made us feel cheap after I thanked her for great service."}
{"id": "t3_mwcl2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Well my life is over and I didn't even succeed with my suicide attempt. Will my fellow redditors help someone like me? Guess we'll find out.", "post": "So last night I decided it was time to take my own life. I bought a bunch of Xanax, not to kill myself with, but to prepare myself for what I was about to do. I took 4mg (a lot) as I left my dealers place. I figured I had about 30 minutes to an hour for them to kick in. I was wrong. They started working in less than 15 minutes and I was driving. Anyone who knows what Xanax is, knows that an is an amnesiac, so I'm not clear on all the details. All I remember is that I lost control (not on purpose) and hit something. The damage was extensive and it gets worse. I was driving my mother's van and I'm almost positive she only has liability insurance. When the police arrived they gave me a breathalyzer. I was fine with this because I don't drink, but then the officer told me I was going to the hospital to get a blood test. I argued and said I was afraid of needles (I'm not, but more on that later). He told me I couldn't refuse the blood test, so I went to the hospital with him and took the test. Turns out he was lying. I could have refused that too. Now the worst part. At the scene when the cop wasn't looking I took the rest of the pills. It totaled 32mg of Xanax. That's insane, but Xanax alone can't kill you, I planned on injecting an overdose of Heroin on top of it to stop my respiration. Now my blood test will show insanely high levels of the drug in my system and I can't imagine I'll be afforded any leniency. Now all I want is to keep living. I don't understand how this would be life affirming either. Possibly it was my wake up call.", "summary": "I was suicidal. I bought some pills to help. I underestimated how fast they would kick in and wrecked my mom's van. Now I want to keep living."}
{"id": "t3_vhzt9", "subreddit": "running", "title": "I have a running related problem, looking for some insight", "post": "Hey r/running, I have a running (and potentially health related?) issue, and I figured the hive mind would be the quickest place to get an answer. First off, I am a 6'2\", 190lb (1.85m, 85kg) varsity level rower at one of the better American universities, so I am pretty fit overall (train 6/7 days a week, etc.). However, when I have gone running outside for the past several times, I have had a very strange thing happen. About 40 minutes in, I get lightheaded and basically lose the ability to run (or even really walk) in a straight line. It feels almost as if I were drunk. I went running this morning, and the same thing happened. I made it home before collapsing over the toilet and throwing up. I didn't eat anything before I ran, but I had some water and Gatorade, and I don't usually eat before working out in the morning. Also, this only happens when running outside. It never happens when: rowing on the water, rowing on the rowing machine, spinning indoors, cycling outdoors (thankfully) or even running on the treadmill (although I only ever run on the treadmill in the afternoon). Has this happened to anyone else, or are there any possible fixes anyone can think of?", "summary": "Generally very fit guy getting lightheaded and dizzy and nauseous after running for 40 minutes, wants to know what is causing it."}
{"id": "t3_oen2h", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm a fucking failure.", "post": "I attempted to make chili for myself and my dad. I don't know how the hell it happened, the heat was low.. but the bottom got burnt.\ni tried everything i could to mask it, and i couldn't. dad ate some. he threw it against the wall and kept screaming at me \"you fucked up something as simple as chili you worthless failure, i should have never fucked your mother\"\n\ni'm shaking, i'm hurting inside, i did my best even though i had no idea how to make that in the first place, i feel demoralized and as low as worm shit because i failed.\n\naccording to him, i fail at everything. it's not my fault i can't move out or get a job. there's nowhere around for rent, and not many jobs for cripples. on top of that i'm terminally ill with Gastritis and Graves' Disease. this stress is about to make me puke, and it'll go on for hours.\n\ni'm 24. i'm a guy. not a basement-dweller.", "summary": "emotionally abused ill cripple gets railed on by asshole father and made to feel even more like shit."}
{"id": "t3_jtzi0", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I've been trying to leave my husband for two years.", "post": "He's not a bad person. He's my best friend. I just can't imagine being with him forever. We've been married for five years, and dated for two before we got married.  I was 23 when we had our wedding.  We've slept in separate rooms for two years.\nHe's straightedge, I'm not. He's been without drugs or alcohol since he was 17, he's now in his early 30's. \n I'd never want him to start drinking or anything.  But I drink, and smoke.  He's always been fine with that.\nI feel like he and I live separate lives.\nWe have tons of mutual friends.\nHe's handsome, tolerant, and likes some things I'm into.  But I feel lonely all the time.   \nHow can I leave him without feeling horrible/guilty?\nAlso, I don't know the first thing about separations and divorce. He's the first s/o I've ever lived with.", "summary": "How do I divorce someone who is nice?"}
{"id": "t3_41d982", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "The binge-monster digs in its claws and devours my purpose. Please advise", "post": "I have a seriously fucked up relationship with food. I feel like there's something broken inside, like this parasite has got its grip and compels me to feed it. \n\nI have stocked my house for success. No junk. No temptation. But I literally just drove to the 24 hr servo and bought $25 worth of cake and donuts to make this craving stop. \n\nWhen I'm craving something it's like the craving starts screaming inside of my head demanding attention until it finally drowns out all other thoughts halting all productivity until I satisy the craving. It feels like a compulsion. Like an addict looking for the next hit. I HATE IT. \n\nI hate feeling so out of control of my own body. I hate the diet, exercise, success, craving, binge, failure cycle. \n\nI know the key to moving forward is to forgive myself and carry-on towards my goal as if nothing happened rather than further sabotaging by dwelling and caring overt into tomorrow. But I don't know how. I don't want to spiral.\n\n Any and all advice is welcome. thoughts. commiseration. Does it ever get easier? I'm staring down 64 kg/140 lbs to lose.", "summary": "will try reading books and eating more of the good stuff since I dont tend to crave a binge if I'm already very full."}
{"id": "t3_18t4wy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23] and she [22] beed dating for a month, and asked her to be my GF, she accepted but now she needs time for herself.", "post": "Here's my situation.\n\nOne day this girl added me on Facebook out of nowhere, we started talking, and it turned out she was a mutual friend of some of my friends and she served me one day at the coffee shop she works at.\n\nFastfoward, she invited to grab a bite a with her, that was our first date, and we started dating two more times until I asked her to be my girlfriend last week, and she said yes, at this point we had kissed, hugged and exchanged a few \"I love you\".\n\nNow, one week later she told me that she needs time to herself, but that she swears she loves me and want to be with me and we can still be dating, but she needs time because things advanced too soon between us.\n\nOne thing I forgot to mention about us, is that we just got out of abusive relationships recently, mine was a 4 years relationship and hers was a 6 months relationship.\n\nAnd I think my problem stems from a similar situation that happened to me before with my EX; I waited all time for her to recover from her previous relationship, but in the meantime I was the rebound and she was dating different guys until she found the one and then proceeded to dump me, and for this reason, I have this weird feeling that if I keep around this new girl until she recovers, is going to happen the same thing.\n\nBut I'm still taking her feelings as true, but I'm still confused of what to do, any advice guys?", "summary": "Girl I've been dating and was my \"girlfriend\" for a week asked me for time, but she swears she loves me and wants to be with me."}
{"id": "t3_1xah4y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (25/M) wife (27/F) doesn't believe my cerebral palsy effects me as much as it does.", "post": "My wife and I have been together 5 years, married 2. I have Cerebral Palsy It's basically a (non-genetic) neurological \"disease\" as a result of a stroke I had while I was being born. My muscles on one side are much weaker than the others. However, mine is very minor. Nobody can tell unless I tell them.\n\nMy coordination is bad. My brain doesn't recognize where the left side of my body is in relation to anything else. Sometimes this causes me to knock things over, or bump into things. My wife gets irritated and calls me clumsy. \n\nWhen I was unemployed, a warehouse offered me a job. It was pretty much lifting heavy things and moving them. I didn't think I could do that, but I wanted to be employed so I tried. After a couple hours my arm muscles just seized up on me, and they just wouldn't work anymore. So afterwords I told my wife that I physically couldn't do it, and she got mad at me. She told me that I must not be \"trying hard enough\" or something like that. Every time I remind her of my disability she completely dismisses it, sometimes saying \"theres people a lot worse off than you\". I understand that, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't effect me. \n\nHow can I make my wife understand how much this effects my life, and the fact that there are limitations to what I can do?", "summary": "I have cerebral palsy, wife just dismisses it as me being \"clumsy\" or \"not trying hard enough\"."}
{"id": "t3_1cswl3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am moving in with my boyfriend [20M] this summer, and I'm nervous about it.", "post": "This summer I'm coming home from 9 months abroad and moving in with my boyfriend of about a year. I'm getting more nervous about it as it approaches. We haven't seen each other (beyond skype) in 5 months, and before I left we'd been dating for a fairly short period of time. It's not that I don't want to move in with him, I love him and I'm excited to finally spend time with him after so long away, but I'm nervous that the adjustment to life together and being busy with work, etc. will be a difficult time for us. \nIf anyone has any advice about it, I'd love to hear it. This is the first time I'll be living with someone and I'm nervous I'll mess it up.", "summary": "Moving in with boyfriend for the first time after LDR for 9 months, looking for advice."}
{"id": "t3_2xf1c0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 M] girlfriend [20 F] of two months wants to have sex in the dark", "post": "I've started dating this new girl. Things have been going great between us, and we've started talking about having sex. We've done a few intimate things before, but never anything that involved nudity on her part.\n\nWell, she's a bit overweight. Not obese by any means, but she's a little chubby. I don't mind at all, though. I think she's beautiful. She doesn't. She's confessed to me that she hates her body and she says that the only way we can have sex is if we do it in the dark. It seems a little weird to me and I'm not sure what to make of it or what to say. For one, it'll probably be really awkward since neither of us will be able to see what we're doing. For another thing, that takes out a lot of the enjoyment, because I want to actually look at her while we're having sex. She says it doesn't matter if I think she's beautiful, though, because she still thinks she's ugly and doesn't think she can handle me seeing her naked.\n\nI don't want to pressure her into doing something she's uncomfortable with, but at the same time I don't want to have sex in the dark. Thoughts?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1plp2f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "boyfriend left e-journal open and I happened upon it...the entry was about me and it was devastating to read...what do I do?", "post": "I've been dating a guy who is really health conscious. I was never a dieting type until I started dating him, and now all I do is obsess over my appearance and worry about looking fat..he can be unintentionally critical about it. He used to be with someone with an eating disorder, so I think that has a a lot to do with it. The entry was open when I went to use his laptop and caught my eye. It said \"I haven't had sex with her for months. She put on about 15 pounds and I lost interest.... Plus, given that my ex was anorexic, that's a tough act to follow.\"  and describes how he's lost attraction to me then he sarcastically said \"oh well, we'll probably get married soon so she'll realize she's never going to be single again and start working out more and stop eating like shit. yeah, it'll get right back on track.\" The thing is, I'm 5' 8\" and 130 pounds; I wear a size 2. I'm not fat at all, and I don't know if this is something worth throwing away a relationship over or what to even say for him to understand how humiliating that was to read. I've only gained I think 5 pounds since we began dating years ago.", "summary": "I read my boyfriend's ejournal about how he thinks I gained weight and am not attractive anymore and I don't know how to handle it."}
{"id": "t3_3wqk47", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU", "post": "Obligatory this didn't happen today. This happened about a year and a half ago.\n\nMy girlfriend and I wanted to get it on, but we were at her parent's place so we decided to get in the car and find a secluded spot to do the \ndirty. She told me about this deserted road with no lights and suggested we head over there, pull over, and do the deed. Mistake number one.  \n\nShe drives deep into the road and finds a nice area where we wouldn't be noticed.  We start going at it and everything is good.  However, it started hearing up (both ways) so I quickly turned on the AC and then go back to finish what we started. Mistake number two. \n\nWe went for a long time, it was great. After about an hour we were finished and satisfied. She gets in the driver seat and turns on the car. It doesn't start. We try again... Nothing. She starts to panic. Now I jump in the drivers seat and try, still nothing.  At this point she's about to cry because her parents specifically said never to go down this road at night.  This is when I realize the battery is dead. \n\nNow remember this is a completely deserted, lightless, secluded road. Girlfriend is losing her shit. I don't know anyone in this area. So here I am trying to figure this out while trying to keep Girlfriend from having a mental breakdown. I finally convince her to start calling people she knows.  \n\nEveryone is busy.\n\nShe starts to lose it again. She doesn't want to call her parents and tell them we were exactly where they said never to go. Then she remembers an old friend that lives nearby who also happens to have jumper cables. She hasn't talked to him in two years.  He answers and says \"who is this?\" We are off to a good start. She explains the situation to him saying we were watching stars and the car died. Very romantic. He is with his girlfriend but makes the special trip over and jumps her car. \n\nTo this day her parents have no idea.", "summary": "wanted to have sex, couldn't go home, decide to go down deserted road we weren't supposed to go down, car died because I got hot."}
{"id": "t3_yrx8o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why do people text and drive?", "post": "Driving a $10,000 2 Ton vehicle moving at speeds of which could cause you to be left as a mangled mess on the road if you only hadn't been looking down at a small screen trying to type/read. \n\nPeople irresponsibly get themselves into stupid situations all the time yes, but where is the benefit from this at all? Normally stupid things have some reason, but I just can't fathom why someone would rather risk it, instead of just texting, \"I'll get back to you, I'm driving\".\n\nAlso, couldn't the same be said for not wearing your seat belt? I mean, *why not* just take the steps to save yourself. It just seems so backwards that in all their arrogance and pride they don't want to do all they can to ensure their oh so amazing \"swag\" isn't left burning and mangled in a car wreck.", "summary": "Why ever risk texting and driving? There is no influence to do so at all."}
{"id": "t3_14rgp6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by responding to a knock at the door", "post": "I don't know what on earth allowed me to do this but I had a weird knock at my door around 8PM from someone who was going around to all the apartments around. He started off by saying it was a project and that he needed to ask me a few questions to get to know me and asked me things like my favorite color or what I did for a job. He then handed me a little book thing (that really made no sense to me) and said he would be winning things if I donated. Now I do not usually let strange people into my home but I was distracted and off my guard so when he asked if I could let him use my table to write down info on, I did. He also was making jokes this whole time like \"you aren't going to kidnap me are you?\" so I am still confused and wondering what this book thing he handed me is with numbers and pictures. He claims they are magazine subscriptions or donations but does not tell me prices on anything and so I asked him to pick one. He picks this one that he says is a donation for a school and that it is $65. Luckily for me I suppose, I did not have enough cash and was not even willing to spend that much so I wrote a check for $20 as a donation and then he left.\nI then came back down and sat at my computer and thought \"what in the fuck did I just do?\" I then cancelled my check online and plan on calling the bank in the morning to make sure it will not be cashed and my account will not be scammed. I am so ashamed of myself for not using common sense and noticing what was going on. :/", "summary": "wrote a check to random solicitor at my door for $20 then cancelled it."}
{"id": "t3_2eg0nr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24F] realized I'm in love with my [24M] best friend at the worst possible moment", "post": "My boyfriend (M25, together 5 years) and I have had a mutual best friend, let's call him Sam, for 3 years \u2014 I'm probably a little bit closer with Sam. I've always felt that there has been a certain unspoken \"extra\" something between us, and a good amount of sexual tension, but wrote it off because I often feel that way with male friends and know it doesn't mean anything. \n\nIn one week, I'm moving across the country with my boyfriend (he's already in our new city and has been for a few weeks). This imminent departure has forced me to realize what I've tried to deny \u2014 I'm in love with Sam in a big way. The thought of leaving him is excruciating. There's nothing on Earth that makes me happier than spending time with him, he makes me happy to be alive, he makes me love myself when I normally am full of self-loathing, I care about and admire him more than I can possibly explain. I love my boyfriend too, I really do, but it's nothing compared to this. \n\nSo, I'm thinking of telling him, simply because I feel like I can't keep it in any longer. I don't know if he feels the same way, he has a lot of close female friends, so it's hard to know if his behavior towards me is different. I know it's a dangerous decision and the worst possible timing. \n\nRelevant: This cross-country move is a big deal for me regardless so I've gone into it with the idea that I'm trying it for a year and if I don't like it, I can move back (still have a lot of connections here so it wouldn't be hard). I will also be back for work every other month.", "summary": "In love with my best friend, who is also my boyfriend's close friend. About to move far away with BF. Dying to tell him, even for the chance to kiss him just one time. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_3w0z1q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By Playing Hide and Go Seek", "post": "TIFU this happened when I was 8. Was playing hide and Go seek with the sibs when I got the brilliant idea of hiding in the dryer. I climbed in, pulled the door towards me (it snapped shut), and hoped no one had noticed the sound of the dryer door closing. \n\nI gleefully waited for a few minutes, patting myself on the back for my HAGS prowess. When it happened. The dryer started. \n\nIt was on the on/off cool down cycle mode. FML. Was stuck in it slamming my back doing somersaults until someone heard my yells over the noise of the dryer.", "summary": "Hid in a dryer during hide and go seek. Dryer started."}
{"id": "t3_4fa0to", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] and my crush [19F] .", "post": "so my crush that knows that i love her and care about her told me about a guy that she liked and had sex with , the thing is this happened after she already knew how i felt about her and she had the nerve to tell me this .  \n\ni felt so disrespected that she told me this knowing that i felt strongly about her . i felt so angry that i felt as if i was about too blackout so i had to immediately walk away and stop all communication with her but the problem is i still feel so angry and mad , i was actually saving myself for this girl .", "summary": "girl i liked told me she had sex with another guy ."}
{"id": "t3_yc4iy", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "PLease help my puppy's playtime!!", "post": "Reddit,\n\nI have a 6 month old Golden Retriever/Collie mix.  She's incredibly high energy (obviously).  We take her out in the back yard and run around with her and take her on nice long walks to get some of her energy out, however, she seems to take out a lot of extra energy on her toys.  She's had multiple ropes, stuffed animals with the squeakers, nylabones, and the like but she chews through them in a matter of days.  She untangles the ropes and we find her just eating the strings (which are super unpleasant when they have to come out), she's chewing off entire portions of the nylabones and swallowing those too.  We've started monitoring her more closely and taking them away when they get too mangled, but my question is:  Do y'all know of any toys that are more durable that I could buy my puppy?  She loves things that she can chew and things that make noise.", "summary": "My puppy is chewing through her toys WAY too fast.  Know of any durable toys?"}
{"id": "t3_3oszla", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to be polite and keep eye contact", "post": "Long time lurker, made an account to tell this and hopefully stop stressing so much. So I'm a junior in High school, and a clumsy one at that. Yesterday during marching drill before actual practice began, me and some friends were all sitting outside in the small parking lot we have for band and sports personnel. The lot had been empty up until a few minutes before \"the event\" happened. I never noticed a car had come in, and was talking with a friend. Keeping eye contact and walking backwards at a moderate pace as she followed. Last second she yells \"PintoBean, STOP!\" and I quickly stop, stumble over my foot and fall straight back... into a car. I somehow made a 2 1/2ft wide 1ft tall 1/2in thick dent in the back door of this car (I'm about 5' 10\" and 145lbs). I limp my way inside to get the owner of the car, and he seems fine with it and just wants me to cover insurance/ damages if needed, perfect, no issues, just a small mishap. This was reported to the office as an incident and I'm called in the next morning (day I'm posting) and he's in there, they contact my parents, clear things up, and I give the car owner my parents info to talk about insurance and what to do, the school at this point was just a medium for us to work this out through. So later that day I'm called into the office for the school police officer along with the friend I was talking to. We walk in with the principle I talked with in the morning. We are seated, the officer explains everything, tells us to be calm and we can work this out, average stuff. About near the end of him clearing things up, he breaks part of the news (couldn't tell us everything without the presence of a parent/ guardian) that the owners mom is choosing to go through Juvenile Services and charge me as a criminal instead of just working out insurance. I await tomorrow in which everything will be worked out and my future behold. I'll update if you guys want or not", "summary": "I walked backwards into a car on accident, dented the shit outta it, thought I worked out a solution with the owner but now his mom is possibly pressing charges"}
{"id": "t3_2orynf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Lost in Love?", "post": "I (22f) am in love with my ex(30m). We were together for a year but broke up a few times at his choosing over him not knowing what he wants. He keeps saying he wants to focus on career and himself and that we're at different points in life. We have been separated for about 3weeks now, but have hung out numerous time and I ended up staying the night and being cute etc. He told me that I am perfect and did absolutely everything right, and that he thinks there is something off with him because he was unable to fully \"click\" with me. When we are together we are both laughing and having fun and confiding in one another, and we're both super compatible in bed, and it just seems so perfect. But the next day it's like a switch flips and he'll start ignoring me and being short...I just don't know what to do or think. I am seriously in love with this guy, and would do anything for him, and it hurts knowing that he's looking for something else, however I want to be his friend because he became my best friend. The only person I can tell anything to and know he won't judge me. I'll tell him I want to go to dinner as friends, but then he'll kiss me and it will escalate and he'll act like we're together. And the next day, or a few days later...bam! Back to pretending I don't exist. What do I do? :/", "summary": "I'm still in love with my ex and continue to see him rather often, but he closes up when were not together and I dont know what to think or do but feel hurt."}
{"id": "t3_2coqww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [M31] askout my coworker's [M50ish] daughter [F26]?", "post": "So we're not really coworkers. We are both public speakers and know each other through this small academic community.  The father and I have  met a few times but because of the language barrier we don't talk (he is from Columbia and speaks rough English- most of his work is with the Hispanic community).\n\nHis daughter grew up in the states and attends uni locally. But I'm getting a head of myself.\n\n The story began one night as I was looking at profiles on a dating site. This dating site is for a particular community (faith tradition specific). Her profile came up and I was blown away. She's smart, funny, family oriented and looks like she has shared values. I began to look at her pictures and sure enough,  there is a picture of her with her father.  \n\nIt's been months and I've found her on several other dating sites. She's a great girl from what I've read, but I'm concerned to make a move.\n\nIs it ethical to attempt to date a colleague's daughter? If I did decide to message her, what do I even say? \n\nHer father and I are \"Facebook friends\". Should I talk to her on the dating site or FB?\n\nEven if I decide not to date her, how do I meet her? As an FYI, I only meet her father at business meetings and  if I was to push the family thing it maybe too telling, as we have nothing in common and it's a lot of work to communicate.  Mind you if I dated his daughter we would work on that.", "summary": "I saw this amazing girl online and I want to ask her out. I recognize her dad in one of her photos and realize it might not be ethically right to ask her out as we work in a small community of public speakers. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3fc91f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M19) Started new job, Co workers don't seem to want to talk to me.", "post": "So I started a new part time job recently in a restruant and I work in the kitchen. All of my Co workers in the kitchen are Alot older than me and there seems to be no problem. The problem arises during the break time. The waiters/ waitresses are my age or a year younger or older although they don't seem to want to talk to me. I've tried talking to them but u just get short replies and get the feeling of hey aren't interested. I started recently and most of them have been working longer than I have there. Also it doesn't help the fact that they're all from the same country. I'm not the only one to get left out, there's a girl who started recently she seems to be left out too.", "summary": "started new job, coworkers seem uninterested in talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_1j6qi3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She [19F] seems to get bothered by things, but never admits it when I [19M] bring it up. We've been together for almost 4 months.", "post": "First off, we're long distance for the summer until school starts again in the fall.\n\nThere would be times when we would be texting, and she would be replying pretty quickly, usually less than 5 minutes, and then she would ask me what I'm up and I would say I'm hanging out with so and so, and suddenly she would stop replying for an hour+. The first time it happened, I just chalked it up to coincidence.\n\nHowever, it keeps happening, and the couple of times I've tried to talk to her about it, she always has an excuse for why it \"seemed\" like she was upset. Its happened when I told her I was at a party, she got completely unresponsive in her texts, or when I don't reply for an hour or two, she suddenly doesn't reply for an hour or two. Every single time I've asked her if she's bothered by anything, she says that she was \"charging her phone\" or that she \"had no signal\" or whatever excuse fit. The thing is, this is only happening in these certain kinds of situations, and not when we're just having a regular conversation.\n\nShe also repeatedly says that she never gets jealous, and that if anything ever bothers her that she would bring it up with me. But in the 4 months, she's never brought anything up, and I can tell something is off when I tell her I'm hanging out with a girl, yet she never admits it.\n\nI have no idea how to deal with this since she always says nothing is wrong, but it can't just be coincidence that it only happens when I'm out at a party or with a friend. What do I do??", "summary": "It seems as if she gets bothered by certain situations, but when I try to talk to her about it, she brushes it off and says she never gets jealous. It keeps happening, and I have no idea what to do about it since she says everything is fine."}
{"id": "t3_4cnx6p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [23 F] of ~1 year needs to have a sexually open relationship and I [21 M] don't know how to handle it", "post": "My girlfriend I and Have been together since may of last year, and everything is going swimmingly, and at the beginning of our relationship (probably about 3 months in) she brings up that at some point we should have sex with other people. Didn't really think to much of it and said that we could talk about it when the time came. In my head I was thinking DOWN the road like 2-3 years in. \n\nFast forward to saturday night when we are hanging out in her room and she brings it up again, only this time she says that it needs to happen soon. She explained that she LOVES sex and she is in love with me (the feelings are mutual) but that I cannot fully satisfy her sexually and she sometimes needs to go out and have sex with another guy/girl. She also explained that the way she views sex is that it is purely physical and that no physical attraction would get in the way of our relationship.\n\nI am honestly torn up about this... The idea of going out and being able to sleep with other people honestly is appealing, but at the same time I have never ever been in love and I feel like my heart can be broken easily as well as my ego getting in the way. I really want to be okay with this but I am having trouble with the whole idea. What do I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend needs to have a sexually open relationship and I don't know how to emotionally be okay with/ handle it. Halp plz."}
{"id": "t3_3tufzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [22 F] just admitted to me [22 M] that she binges and infrequently purges. How do I help her and support her?", "post": "My girlfriend has always struggled with her weight. I have been well aware of this since we began dating a couple years ago, and always known her to be a bit of a binge-eater. She has kept this under remarkably well control over the last year and actually since lost about 50 lbs and is only about 15 pounds away from her goal weight of 165.\n\nThe last few weeks have been especially hard on her though because the weight is getting harder and harder to come off. Last night we were discussing Thanksgiving and somewhere along the line the act of binging at which point I made a quip about purging. She seemed uncomfortable, so I said something along the lines of \"just be aware that it's a danger to your health,\" not really thinking she actually does. Then this morning she admitted to me that she actually purges maybe once or twice a month and has done so since she was a teenager.\n\nI want to know what I can do to support her. I know that this is a complicated and sensitive issue, and I want to help her help herself. I know that binge-eating itself has its own problems, but I'm concerned about the long-term damage of purging, and the risk of this becoming a more regular thing. She recognizes she has a problem, but I think she is also afraid to admit this is bullimia. How can I help her establish a healthier relationship with food and her weight?", "summary": "Girlfriend admitted to binging and purging about 1-2 a month for the past 6-7 years. Knows it's not normal but feels like it is because she has done it for so long. How do I help her?"}
{"id": "t3_46jbfn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[30f] dating [32m] I'm experienced, he's a virgin. Advice?", "post": "I [30f] am married to Amy [30f] and our best friend is Paul [32m].  Paul became my boyfriend about 4 months ago and it's been awesome. We have a lot of fun,  have all the same hobbies, spend lots of time together alone and as a trio. I'm very happy with Paul,  and our emotional relationship is coming along nicely.  The transition from best friend to boyfriend was smooth.  He and Amy are still best friends too,  but non-romantic. \n\nEnough back story, the reason I am posting is that there is one tiny problem...Paul is a virgin.  In fact,  I am pretty sure Paul has never even kissed anyone before me.  I didn't know this before we started dating, had a small hunch because he hadn't dated anyone while we've known him, but he confessed it to me when we were talking about where we want our relationship to go. \n\nI'm 30 years old! I've been sexually active since I was 15, and I have no idea how to approach is situation.  I've done it all,  and he's never touched a boob.  I don't want to overwhelm him or make him feel emasculated or like I have to teach him to have sex.  I've pulled way back physically and have been letting him make the moves,  but it's going slow. We have gone as far as kissing with tongue. I know he wants to have sex,  but he hasn't really made a move yet.  Maybe he doesn't know how? \n\nDo I need to make the moves?  Is there anyway I can do this without making him feel embaressed?  Should I just jump him and get it over with? His comfort and confidence are important to me as I love him dearly.  Loved him first as a friend,  and now it's growing into something beautiful.  Amy loves him,  and he's important to our family unit.  I have to be cautious about how I proceed as I cannot ruin this. I want him to feel respected, considered, and loved, but not coddled.", "summary": "Any advice for the experienced woman and the inexperienced man?"}
{"id": "t3_4k4m2m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20F), asked to start job during planned trip with boyfriend (20M)", "post": "Hi Reddit!\n\nI'm in a whole jar of pickles right now.\n\nI'm currently a student in the last leg of my program before I start an internship. Last month I lost my job, and lost a lot of income because of it (I was making close to $1200/month), and have been looking. I just got a job today after over a month of looking! But here's the problem:\n\nThey want me to start this weekend so I can be alone starting next week. My school runs from about 1-5, but they want me to work from 4-8. I didn't think this was a problem until my mom pointed out that it will take me an hour to get there, and therefore will only have 2 hours of class time.\n\nBut the biggest issue for me right now is that my boyfriend and I planned to take a trip up to his cottage this weekend since it's Victoria day on Monday and they told me I will be starting the job next week. We have been planning this for about 2 months, and when I got the confirmation that I had the job, they wanted me to start this weekend. I told them that I had planned this trip with my boyfriend and they pretty much said, \"Uh sorry, we need you to start this weekend because we have to train you to be alone next week.\"\n\nI didn't know what to say so I confirmed that it was okay (my mistake!) and immediately called my boyfriend. He was mad, and I got frustrated because I was just looking for advice or something but I didn't get much. So I called my mom after and she told me to just think it over. I also apologized to my boyfriend for getting frustrated at him but it seems like he really does not want to hear it.\n\nI have no idea what to do. I have never had this problem before. I'm really strapped for cash, too, since I'm trying to owe the bank and government as little as possible. I have considered of going back to a job I had a year ago but that job just gives me anxiety and makes me feel awful, plus my grades suffered. I have also considered a line of credit, but I will have to talk to my parents about that first.", "summary": "Got new job, want to start during long weekend when a trip was planned and was told I would start next week. What should I tell my new employers?"}
{"id": "t3_1kbrlf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (19/M) have an issue regarding my SO's (18/F) wish for a tattoo.", "post": "First let me start out by saying, I am not at all judgemental of people to have tattoos, or piercings, etc. Such stigmas exist, I don't subscribe to them at all. But, I've always had some sort of severe uncomfort with them. Not a dislike, nor do I dislike the person for having them. I just get a feeling akin to anxiety, a tightening in my chest. If I see someone with them, sadly, I try to avoid them. I realize this is completely irrational, that I'm likely missing out on plenty of awesome people. (Sorry if I'm rambling, just trying to stress that this isn't a plain dislike). It hurts that I have such hangups, but try as I might I can't seem to resolve it. \n\nNow, for the problem. My S.O. Of eight months, is the absolute love of my life. She has recently told me that she intends on getting at least one tattoo, small, though it's location is still being decided. I had disclosed my problem before hand to her, and she met it with sympathy. I don't want to hold her back from what she wants. (I did my best to be supportive of her.) My fear is that, we haven't been intimate (neither sex or just closeness, it's a LDR) and that I will have difficulty being close with her despite my feelings. I apologize if this wasnt very clear or concise.", "summary": "I'm worried about being uncomfortable around my girlfriend's tattoo."}
{"id": "t3_1wwj3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[22/f] My boyfriend [29/m] wants to take a job that would prolong our LDR and make it even harder to be together. Do I have a right to be upset?", "post": "FYI- This is my first post on reddit so bear with me.\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been in a LDR for about a year. We are very in love and for the most part very happy. We see each other about two weekends out of the month and talk constantly. Since I just graduated college a few months ago he has been very supportive throughout my job search and I probably couldn't have done it without knowing that he was there supporting me and cheering me on. He lives four hours away in the middle of nowhere pretty much, but has a great job where he makes his own schedule, can take off as much as he wants, and has a lot of perks included. As much as I want for him to move closer to me, where both of our families and friends live, I was just coming to terms with the fact that if we eventually want to live together and have a life, I am going to be the one to move to him. It's obviously not ideal for me, and I would have to find a new job and make a new group of friends but I am willing to do that as long as he and I could be together. He's now considering taking a new job at the company which would require him to travel almost every weekend. The pay is only a little bit more and it's a contracted position so if he does not meet a quota he could be let go. As far as I'm concerned if there was any semblance of hope that I would move to him, it's totally gone if he takes this position. I can't move somewhere remote knowing that the person that I am moving for is going to be traveling quite often. I would be so lonely. I want to support my boyfriend the way he supported me when I was looking for jobs, but I know that if he were to take this position it would eventually break us. Debating whether or not I should keep my mouth shut and support him if it's something he wants to do, ask the \" what does this mean for us\" question, or give him an ultimatum?? \n\n**bold", "summary": "my boyfriend wants to take a job that would make our LDR even more difficult"}
{"id": "t3_3c2hsv", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Getting over my high school crush", "post": "Hello, I recently graduated high school. All throughout high school I on and off had a crush on this one girl. For the last 4 years I pretty much had feelings for this girl. I mean I had a long relationship with one person(1.5 years) and crushes on other girls. But this girl, I couldn't shake her off. This school year, we got closer but the thing is with this girl, she's awful at making plans and going through with them, and awful at talking to someone for a day or so and then not being heard from for a couple weeks. It's an actual thing and even an ongoing joke with my friends. But yeah, we got closer this year and it got to the point where it seriously felt as if we were close to a relationship (and I promise it was more than just in my head). I haven't talked to her since a week after graduation. (so like a month) It sucks because that day she kept saying how much we have to hang out. We're going to different colleges with little room to meet up due to distance. \nBut this is what I need advice on. I want to get over her. But in two weeks she has this big dance event for her, she's a dancer and it's her last show. And she invited me. But she also invited a fair amount of our friends. Should I go? I know it sounds like a simple situation, I just want to know what someone else would do in my position. Thank you reddit!!!", "summary": "high school Boy likes high school girl, girl lets boy down, girl invites boy to her big final dance show, boy doesn't know if he should go."}
{"id": "t3_24rz70", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She said she is looking for \"Her Penguin\"", "post": "I (36M) dated (31F) briefly last year.  All in all, probably a month and the half.  We met online and just instantly hit it off.  I tried to play the cool card and be a bit more aloof, compared to the girl I dated before her.  This aloofness apparently was read as \"not interested\" in her and she started dating another guy (43) who showed a bit more attention?They moved in together after 4 months.  He had no real ambition in life, but to work the doors at bars and play video games, which sounded like the ultimate demise of their relationship, after 10 months.  \n\nWe have started talking again, via text.  Everyday.  All day.  And have had a few late night hang outs.    \n\nThe thing is, she says to me a lot that she is looking for \"her penguin.\"  Meaning the one she is just meant to be with like penguins do.  How I am to read this?  Even after not talking for almost a year, we fell right back into being comfortable with each other like nothing ever happened.  Do I let her come to me?  I think I am pretty much everything she would want, but I also feel that my success in life, is greater than hers and she might feel a little inadequate.  We work in the same field, but I happen to have a lot more going on professionally and personally.  Not to sound like a braggart, but I have been there before, visa-versa.  \n\nI am sure there is other things I am leaving out or didn't mention.", "summary": "She tells me she is looking for her penguin.  I want to be her penguin."}
{"id": "t3_2xivm7", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Feeling hopeless all because of students loans. Need financial advice greatly!", "post": "I attended a four year university in the year 2013-2013 all thanks to financial aid and a whopping $8,000 private loan. At the time, not knowingly, I was mentally unstable and did not focus as much on my studies as I know I should have. I smoked a lot of weed and drank too much and ended up leaving my first year. Even though I had a 1.5 GPA I still got credit for my English classes and General Education requirements because I got C's on them.\nAfter an existential crisis and figuring out my dream career I am now at my local community college taking classes to obtain my Associate of Engineering Science then I would transfer as junior to a 4 year university to get my Bachelors in Material Science Engineering.\nEven if I try my hardest to achieve the best grades in all of my classes, will I be still be able to succeed. I am worried that by 2018, the financial troubles will have caught up to me and in order for me to pay off those loans, I would have to be working. And I know engineering is a very vigorous study and demands a lot of time, especially in the last years of your degree. So my question to you Redditors, if you were in my situation, how would you work on getting your engineering degree while paying off loans? Is it too late for me? I feel hopeless. Please drop your advice it would mean the world to me!", "summary": "Dropped out first year college. Want to obtain my engineering degree in less than four years but do not know if I will be able to succeed because of the financial problems that I know I will face from taking out loans for my first year at college."}
{"id": "t3_32mdc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Great relationship, bad timing. How should I approach this? (25F/25M)", "post": "I'll try to keep this fairly short. Sam and I met last summer, both fresh out of bad break-ups. Neither of us wanted anything serious but we liked each other a ton and started dating exclusively despite our reservations. It lasted for about 7 months total and was, in many ways, the most compatible relationship I've ever been in. \n\nThe problem is that going into this we both promised ourselves that we would work on some fundamental bad habits from the past, many of which are heavily enabled by being in a relationship. For example, I had a tendency to rely on my SO and neglect my friendships while dating someone. Because I started seeing Sam only weeks after my break-up with the ex before, I still hadn't pushed myself to cultivate new friendships and social scenes. We recently realized that we were not growing the way we wanted to because we met at a time when neither of us was ready for something serious, and mutually ended things as calmly and maturely as could be. \n\nI realize that as time progresses lots of things could change, but right now I really want us to be able to date in half a year or so when we've taken the time to be alone that we need. Sam is all I want in a partner -- it's just that right now, logically, I don't think it's good for me to have a partner, period. Because there was no animosity and neither of us even really wants to get over each other, we've agreed to stay in touch periodically as close friends and see what happens.\n\nDoes anyone have any thoughts, stories, or advice? Would be much appreciated.", "summary": "Mutually ended good relationship because timing was wrong. Heart wants second chance down the line. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_3nplts", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did I [19m] break up with my girlfriend [20f] for the wrong reasons?", "post": "Hi there,\nSo yesterday I ended things with a wonderful girl who I'd been dating for a year. For the past couple months little things kept ticking me off, like how she would be afraid to make decisions because she was worried I would be disappointed with her choice. Or how I felt like I was doing a disproportionate amount of the work during sex for less enjoyment. She is a very sensitive person and so when I would try to talk to her about these things it would usually end in tears and I would struggle to get my point across. I decided to end it when I thought about whether this was someone I could see myself with 5 or 10 years down the road and the answer was no. Of course, there were so many wonderful things that we had together, and I can't stop thinking about what I'm giving up. She loved me entirely for who I am and I couldn't give that back to her. Do you think we had a chance? Was it possible for her to change? Or was is best just to end it before things got more serious? \nThanks for your time\n\n#", "summary": "I broke up with my girlfriend because I couldn't see us together in 10 years. Did I make the wrong choice?"}
{"id": "t3_2cq03f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've [25/M] never been in a relationship beyond friendship. Not sure how to progress.", "post": "Hi /r/Relationships,\n\nI'm a 25 year old male and I've never been in a relationship and I'm starting to wonder if I ever will. \n\nI have a decent job, a car, a home. I'm successful in every part of my life apart from the part that seem to matter the most to other people. I've never been in love and I've never been in a relationship with a woman. \n\nIt's getting harder and harder as time goes on too. When I was 23 I went on a date and it ended up with the girl in my bed, but I chickened out and just went to sleep. It's stupid to be a virgin at 22, and I didn't want to look stupid nor admit that fact. Now I'm 25 and I just feel even more ridiculous. I mean, the pool of people who haven't done any of this kind of stuff by my age must be pretty damn small. Most people won't encounter them. \n\nSometimes I think about trying online dating, but in the end I'm going to come up against that exact same wall that I did 2 years ago.\n\nThen there's part of me that wonders if I can be bothered with it all. I look around at all my friends and there seems to be a huge amount of interdependence and compromise in relationships. I've always been really independent and liked my own space, so I'm not sure how well I'd even function in a relationship. \n\nMy family all seem to be convinced I'm gay, which is frustrating. My reluctance to talk about it with them is basically proof. I don't even know what's worse at this point.. Coming out as gay would probably be easier and more normal at this point. \n\nI feel like I'm missing a huge part of the life experience and that I'm emotionally stunted compared to my peers. It's not like I'm even an introvert, I'm very extroverted according to all my friends. \n\nSo yeah, I don't know what to do. Has anyone been in a similar situation of felt the same way? How did you get over it? Did you get over it? \n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "I've never been in a romantic relationship and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to now I feel it's too late.."}
{"id": "t3_2coxcy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How do I get out of this vicious cycle?", "post": "I am 30 years old and I reside in Pennsylvania. I was never all that responsible with my credit, I admit to it. I was a dumb kid and it's hurting me as an adult. At one point I was almost debt free, and then I got sick. I've been dealing with a chronic medical condition for about 3 years and it's not only sucking the life out of me, but it's really putting me in a bad financial situation. It all goes back to those damn credit cards. I got to a point where all of my money was going to medical bills just to keep me out of collections that I was putting all of my everyday expenses on credit cards (mostly food and gas.) I'm now to the point where my cards are maxed out, my medical bills continue to pile up (I'm still sick and still receiving treatment ), and if those things weren't bad enough, I also have student loans. Added up I'm about 48,000 in debt. I have to say it's horrifying to type that out. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed that it's gotten to this point. As of right now my credit hasn't been completely ruined, but I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. To make things even worse, my doctor is getting me into a treatment program in another state for the illness I have, I don't know how long the treatment will be, but there's a possibility that I'll be on short term disability for a month or two, which means I'll only be getting about 2/3rds of my pay. Does anyone have any advice or am I to the point where bankruptcy is my only option? Thank you in advance.", "summary": "I'm 30, 48,000 in debt, I have a chronic illness, I'm ashamed, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1nx54i", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by letting my daughter play in her shit.", "post": "I'm a stay at home dad.\n\nI have a 7 month old daughter who loves her bouncer. I put her in that thing and I can get other shit done around the house.\n\nNormally she has a bowel movement in the morning, and lets me know right away. (They stink) To be safe, I don't usually put her in the bouncer until she's done it, but whoops I forgot. Unfortunately for both of us today she decided that the bouncer was so much fun it didn't matter. It **really** didn't help that her diaper had shifted sideways a bit, so most of the poop missed. It was on her onesie, on the bouncer's seat, on the side of her leg- a pretty typical blowout, right?\n\nI wish I'd been that lucky.  \nEnough had gotten out that it went down her leg, to the floor.  \nOnto the carpet.  \nWhere her feet were.  \nThe feet she was using to jump with.  \nThey were *coated* with crap.  \nThe carpet had a dark circle of baby footprints.\n\nThe only good thing about all this is she's on a decent amount of solid foods, so it was pretty dry. She was very confused by the sudden bath I gave her. Once she went down for her nap I washed the onesie and cloth bouncer seat. The carpet took a ton of scrubbing, but carpet cleaner for pet poop works just as good for baby poop.", "summary": "kid was jumping up and down in poop."}
{"id": "t3_2mjihg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 34M with my 28F. Dating for 6 months. Has anyone ever let someone they love go only to have them come back to rekindle the flame?", "post": "I am currently in a relationship that is about to end because of her want to travel for her job.  It's been a dream of her's since she was young and I am in no position to stop this transition in any way.  It has been someting that has been on the back burner since we started seeing each other but came to a reality last week.  I have offered to possiby join her when I can, but she states that it's something she has to do on her own.  \n\nWe have only been with each other for a short period of time (<6months) but i feel a real connection with her.  This feels like my soulmate, as cliche as that sounds. But I want to know, who has ever let a person like this go, only to have them come back into their lives, and how long it was between departure and reigniting of the flame?\n\n\\", "summary": "soulmate leaving, will she come back?"}
{"id": "t3_4r1ahz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dad (M 54) might be cheating on Mom ( F 52) during business trips", "post": "They have been married for around 20 years.\n\nSince around 15 years ago, my dad has frequently been going on business trips. Frequently as in he's gone almost half the time.\n\nTwo years ago, my sister and I found email evidence from around four years before that that my dad was trying to get into a romantic relationship with a women in the country he travels to. We ended up showing our mom some of the emails. We subtly confronted our dad about it but he just blew it off and we kind of just let it slide since it was such a long time ago.\n\nRecently, after he got back from a business trip, my siblings and I found a box of condom he bought during the trip and some of them were used so we are suspecting he is still having an affair but probably with someone else.\n\nWhat should I do? I think we should confront my dad about this first before telling my mom and tell him to tell my mom. \nI'm afraid of the consequences though because realistically, we are going through college right now and we are financially dependent on our dad right now for almost everything. Shelter, food, tuition etc.\nWhat should I do? And how should I go about it?", "summary": "2 years ago, caught evidence dad cheated 6 years ago. Didn't do anything. Recently caught him with used box of condoms. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_hs4rt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I've recently installed RES and I'm noticing that even the most fluffiest, cutest, most likeable content still has a considerable amount of downvotes. It's a strange ratio when compared to YouTube's Like/Dislike system which might be 40:1, yet here it's running 3:2. What does it all mean?", "post": "Why is the kitten doing a handstand offensive enough for someone to move the mouse and say \"I hate that shit.\" Is it a competitive thing, where if I DV it (I like that) my post has a better chance. Or is it a cat thing, a handstand thing? \n\nJust a baby shark is a kid wearing a shark costume at the beach. It's currently running 2317/1647 or 1.4. For every one person that 'likes it' almost 1/2 a person says 'fuck you, die'. I haven't seen this photo before, yeah it's cute but even if I had seen it before I wouldn't DV it. What's going on?", "summary": "I don't DV often, but when I do, it's usually because my hand slipped."}
{"id": "t3_kz1gv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I have iron deficient anemia, need help and/or advice", "post": "Hello World of Reddit\n\nI'm a 21 year old female diagnosed last month as iron deficient anemic: my blood tests tried to count my iron levels and they were non-existent.\n\nI was told by my doctor that I had three routes I could take:\n\n* I could have a blood transfusion in the next week to boost my iron levels;\n\n* I could do an IV drip of Ferritin 2X a week for 6 weeks; or\n\n* I do take iron supplements and see how things go\n\nWell as a full time University student and, at the time, a waitress for four days out of the week options **A** and **B** did not work for me, so I decided on taking the iron supplements. Unfortunately, my doctor likes to have his patients in and out and isn't very forthcoming with information. He basically told me to get an iron supplement from the pharmacy and come back in 6 months. -.-\n\nWell, talk about conflicting information, the pharmacist told me to take one a day and to have my doctor check my iron levels in a month... So my first month of iron supplements is up and I don't feel any freaking better. In fact I feel almost worse than I did when I went and got my blood test done initially.\n\nMy iron supplements are 325 mg ferritin with 60 mg of elemental iron.\n\nI was taking one pill once a day, but then upped it to two pills a day because I wasn't feeling any better, and the result is still the same. I have absolutely no energy to do anything and I could probably outsleep a Snorlax.\n\nCan someone give me advice or any ideas to help me get better? Even just questions and comments to talk to my doctor about, as I plan on seeing him in the next 24-48 hours.\n\nIf you've read all of this thanks a million for taking the time to help me sort out this issue!", "summary": "I'm a 21year old female anemic taking iron supplements but they are not working, any ideas, questions, or comments to take to my doctor would be very helpful"}
{"id": "t3_3dxodp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19F] mom [40'sF] shut off my phone service to try and force me back into the house with her abuse.", "post": "So I posted [this] awhile ago and she is back at it again! \n\nThings have been pretty bad at my house and my mom has been treating me worse and worse lately. We haven't spoken in over a week as I did not want to subject myself to her emotional abuse any longer. \n\nI stayed at my best friend's [19M] (we have been best friends for 5 years and she knows him and his family very well) house for a night to get away from the chaos that is my \"home\" right now. \n\nWell, as a way to either punish or get revenge on me, my mom called our phone company and made it so I have no phone service. Can't make/receive calls or text anyone, and my data has been shut off. When I called my phone company to reactivate my call/text abilities, they said they needed a 4 digit pass code, otherwise they couldn't do anything. I do not know the password and neither does my dad. \n\nNow, this is not the end of the world, but because of this, if something were to happen to my grandma or my dad (he is not in good health) then I would not be notified. If something happens to me while I'm out, no one would know. I am worried about not having a way to contact anyone if I am in trouble. \n\nThe only reason I think she is doing this is to try and get me to come home. She needs to be in total control of every aspect of my life. I am unsure of what to do. I am couch hopping between friends and my boyfriend at the moment. \n\nSo reddit, what should I do? My BF recommended I get a burner phone just so I can call him or my dad, etc in case of emergency. \n\nThere is no way to patch things up with my mom or even talk to her as she is hell bent on bringing me down.", "summary": "mom shut off my phone service in an attempt to get me to return to her and her abuse."}
{"id": "t3_dv2kz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tipping Advice.... what do you do?", "post": "Ok, aside from sitting down at a restaurant, I'm usually lost at how much I should tip for services.\n\nEmbarrassing story, I was getting pickup from a restaurant and I actually stared at a guy filling out his CC receipt to see how much he tipped for pickup.  I must have been too obvious, cause he looked up and gave me an suspicious stare (like it was a poker hand or something).  Usually, I tip $1 or some nominal amount for pickup, but this guy gave like 15%!  I thought to myself, either I've been cheap my whole life (very possible) or he's generous.  The next day (I get a lot of take out), I tipped 15% too. \n\nSo I figured that the wise people at reddit would have the answer.  Let me have it reddit... how much do you tip for\n1. Takeout\n\n1. Hair cuts\n\n1. Taxis\n\n1. Maid service at a hotel\n\n1. Bag Handlers\n\n1. Deliveries\n\n.... anything else!", "summary": "I'll update as I see more responses"}
{"id": "t3_4jpi13", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I[26F], a person in a poly situation, navigate this ridiculous jealousy I feel over my girlfriend [29F] regularly hanging out with her recent ex?", "post": "So. Background. I'm [26F] married to a dude [26M]. Been in this second relationship with my girlfriend [29F] for 3 months. I met her days before her most recent ex dumped her. We started 'dealing', as the kids say (...do the kids still say that?) right after. So far, (supposedly) she's only been dating me, but it's an open relationship, so that door is open if she finds someone else to start things with. \n\nCrazy, emotionally abusive ex wants her back. Gf lies about staying over at her ex's house last month....where the ex makes a move and kisses her..... They hang out about once a week since. Each time they hang, the ex tries to get her back and/or asks her for sex and/or tells her she's sure that they would be back together if I wasn't in the picture. Gf insists that she just wants to be friends, is maintaining boundaries, and is just trying to help her ex through a hard time........\n\nI feel like because this is a poly thing that I'm not allowed to be jealous. But...she lied about staying over there. When we got together, I asked her repeatedly if she wanted more time to figure things out with her ex. Offered space. Offered time. Even offered for her to see both of us at the same time. She said she wanted me, only me. So. To me, this ex was the one person in the free world she said she wasn't going to date. She knows how I feel about all of this. \n\nSo, Internet, I'm turning to you since I have no unbiased perspectives in my life? Am I a dumb fuck who needs to end this? Am I supposed to get over my jealousy? If so, HOW? If I stick it out and let her figure out what she wants...how long do I wait?", "summary": "girlfriend won't stop hanging with her ex. Feel guilty for being jealous because this is an open poly thing (aka, I'm the married one)."}
{"id": "t3_nh4y2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girlfriend and I broke up, seeking words from people more experienced than myself", "post": "Hey RA. Please excuse the wall of text!\n\nMy girlfriend (18, freshman in college) and I (male, 19, sophomore in college) broke up tonight, and I'm looking for some words (advice is welcomed too, for sure!) from people who are more experienced than I am. We had both been in relationships prior to this one, but none had been as good. We were at schools about 2 hours apart, but we could only visit each other once every few weekends.\n\nWe had been dating for a year and a half, and it was an extremely mature relationship - there's really no other basic way to say it. We both were open, trusting, always communicating, and very happy loving each other. We didn't have fights, per say, because we ended up talking out our disagreements in a totally reasonable manner. Neither of us could have asked for a better relationship, or better best friends. Our relationship didn't put any strain on relationships with other friends, either!\n\nThis year, my girlfriend entered her freshman year of college. We decided we would stay together and remain communicative about our feelings, which we did. This thanksgiving, she initiated a discussion about how she wanted to start exploring other people at school. I totally understood, and agreed - I would also like to see who else is out there! The problem was, neither of us had a reason to leave the other. We were both very happy and we both still loved each other.\n\nSo, tonight, my girlfriend told me she wanted to break up - not because she was unhappy with our relationship, but rather because she was sad about the distance between us. She was happy every time we got together, but when one of us had to leave to go back to school, she would become sad. She also expressed that she wanted to begin exploring other people at her school. I totally understand both points.\n\nI'm looking for advice partly in that I'm seeking words of encouragement. We don't dislike each other after the breakup. Neither of us cheated, and we were both extremely happy throughout our relationship! It just really, really sucks that it's over for the forseeable future.", "summary": "Girlfriend and I extremely happy together. Breakup occurs because of \"LDR\" and the desire to explore others. We both are still very friendly... but we're sad that it's over. Words of encouragement/advice?"}
{"id": "t3_14hgn0", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I need help. I can't stop hurting myself.", "post": "Throw away for reasons.\nAlso, I apologize for how long this is; I just need to get it out.", "summary": "I'm depressed, can't stop cutting myself, feel like I'm going crazy, and I don't know how to get better."}
{"id": "t3_3uc15l", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not noticing the depth sign at the pool", "post": "This was just about 5 hours ago. My friends and I went to a local pool to take a dip despite the relatively cold weather. I should mention that I am severely short-sighted. I cannot read anything 5 meters away when I take my glasses off. I am also 171cm tall. So we went to the pool and got changed and did all the normal stuff before dipping into the pool, I took off my glasses. There were 3 pools in the place. 1 is 1.1m to 1.5m deep, 1 is 2m to 12m deep, and 1 is for competitive swimming training. This was my first time being at a pool for several years so I just followed my mates to one of the pool, not noticing it was the 2m to 12m deep one. I jumped in and was immediately surprised. I know how to swim because I learnt it 5 years ago but I didn't use it ever since, so my skills were mostly forgotten. I tried to waddle my arms and legs and kept myself floating for 5 seconds, then I started drowning. Then I just yelled out for help while hopelessly trying to float while swimming back to the edge of the pool. The lifesaver at the pool pulled me out of the water and was pretty pissed at me. Despite that, I still thanked her for saving me. We went to the 1.1m to 1.5m deep pool and quickly forget about the incident.", "summary": "Didn't read the sign at the pool, ended up almost dying."}
{"id": "t3_ga94b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most embarrassing sex story involving you?", "post": "I'll start ~ Mine happened just a few weeks ago, I was taking medicine for something at the time and little did I know it had sexual side effects (who ever reads that long list of side effects in size 5 font?) Well during the time I post a mopey quote on facebook about how being single sucks and this really hot girl I know responds that she's single and it's not so bad. Fast forward a few days of talking and she's over at my place to \"watch a movie.\" Movie ends and things start to get hot and heavy, we start having sex. TWO minutes into it I can't keep it up, I was like OMG this can't be happening right now. So talk about blowing my chance, first time with this girl way out of my league and I can't keep it up for more than two minutes. Talk about an awkward drive taking her back to her apartment. Now I want to hear some of your stories!", "summary": "Stay away from meat grinders"}
{"id": "t3_3waanq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [M/18] need some advice on how to read and react to different mixed signals.", "post": "Basically right now there is a person who I've known for a while and is by best friend. The problem is he [M/18] is, well, a guy. He's straight as far as I know. I am too, or i thought. I don't know. But since we have gotten close I feel he and I do things that couples would but neither have mentioned it though. \n\nWe spend everyday together and when we don't we text/Snapchat ever minute that we aren't next to each other, and he has even said that I'm his favorite to text and the majority of his texting goes to me. And times we're gone at college (different unis) we Skype every other night. We go eat at places, watch movies, and hang out just us 2 a lot. It has gotten to a point where I constantly think about him and being next to him again. He has said the same thing.\n\nOur conversations are unique too because we talk about everything, and even sometimes we get into just texting about gay things we would do but we both see it as jokes. We talk about girls we've been with, and girls we see out in public. We have been asked if we were a couple out in public before and he replied \"so what if we are.\" \n\nI don't know if anyone of you have had the potential same problem, if there is any advice, or anything at all I should do about myself or him.", "summary": "My best friend and I both straight, as far as I know, but do everything as if we're a couple."}
{"id": "t3_128u3j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you consider facilitating the occurrence of an ant mill for a school project as animal cruelty?", "post": "(Advise if this doesn't belong here)\n\nHi okay first an foremost, [what it looks like] and [the wiki page](\n\nOkay now a bit of context: I'm in an art school and I am throwing around the idea of making a video documenting this phenomenon. So seeing as this is a very premature stage of the idea I just thought I'd check in with Reddit to see if it would be considered animal cruelty. I've never really thought about this before and other than the legality aspect of things I guess you guys can help draw some sort of moral chalkline for me. Yes I'm pretty bad at this.\n\nNow I don't wanna kill them, I just need them in formation for maybe a couple of minutes, maybe up to 5. Then I'll let them go - if it were technically possible. (That's the other thing, I haven't yet done research on whether it could be done or not, just thought I should first get ethics out of the way.)\n\nThanks!", "summary": "? **WE DON'T NEED YOUR KIND HERE!!!**"}
{"id": "t3_30jc03", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Awkward Turtle", "post": "So normally I'm not the type of woman to be messaging females who are flirting with my guy/crush, but chalk it up to being long distance 16 hours round trip, and he isn't on my good side right now paying more attention to females nearby him than me, ignoring me, a while ago, I ended up messaging one of his females on Twitter asking why is she all over my man on twitter.  I usually cuss him out because it's he who's the one that's doing something, and it has nothing to do with her, but his attitude just got the worst of me and I told him I was going to fuck things up with one of the girls down there he's trying to talk to if he didn't stop being a douche to me.\n\nI then ignored her for a while and said that was so stupid why did I even do that?  I'm too grown for this.\n\nThen today, I saw her name drop me bragging about saying \"ily\" to my guy cuz he always favorites and retweets her shit.  And I told her, \"Why you braggin' about saying ily to someone who doesn't love you?  He's just talking to you because you're nearby and someone he can see, bitch.\"\n\nThen she asked who I was and then she was actually curious how me and him met and it turned into a funny conversation in the end.  I told her [which is true, he doesn't even have to say this to me but this is the vibe I get.  He never said anything to me about being embarrassed but that's just what I get from him] he doesn't tell anyone about me because he's embarrassed about meeting me on Omegle and it being a long distance that's why he didn't want to work it out and stuff.", "summary": "I can tell from her comment when she asked how me and him met, that he definitely doesn't say anything about me to people, ugh.  I don't care about the social stigma from being in a long distance with someone and over the computer with someone I've never met.  If I like someone a lot I'm going to tell the world.  I wish my guy felt the same way, but he's too much of a coward."}
{"id": "t3_21qg1v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have never been too attracted to my bf [22M] of about 2 years and I often find myself fantasizing about other guys. Is that a big enough reason to end it?", "post": "To note: I would NEVER EVER cheat on my bf.\n\nI've never been super attracted to my bf, which was generally fine. We used to get along really well and are pretty much best friends, but lately, as is when you're with someone for a few years, the little things start to pick at you. The thing is, I think if I was more attracted to him, there things wouldn't bother me as much. Because of all these little things, I've been fantasizing about being with other guys.\n\nHe, on the other hand, has stated that he finds me very attractive and I think that blocks him from telling me some of the issues he has (aka: he's able to better accept the annoying things I do that bother him because I am attractive to him.\n\nWe have tried talking about it but overall I just don't know what I want to do, and that's what it comes down to. Ultimately, it's my choice because I know he wants to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure if I can deal with the little things if I'm not attracted to him. We get along well enough and I don't want to rick losing him because he is a very good friend of mine (even before we started dating). Or should I try for someone else who I'm more attracted to?", "summary": "All the little things are adding up and I find I'd be able to deal with them better if I found my bf more attractive. Would the little things that bother me affect me as much if I was more attracted to my bf? Should I risk losing him for someone I'm more attracted to?"}
{"id": "t3_3slccz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21/M] want to be single right now at this point in my life and I don't know how to go about breaking up with my gf [21/F] of 2,5 years.", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 2,5 years, and everything has been great up until the last couple of months. I'm currently in my last year of university and I'm living with my girlfriend, but I feel like I've reached a point in my life where I'd be happier being single. There are certain ambitions I have in life that I don't believe I'll be able obtain if I stay with my girlfriend.\n\nLike I said, I'm in my last year of university and I'm looking into graduate schemes across my country (UK). I can be more ambitious with my career if I'm not tied down, and my girlfriend is set on staying in our city. I had plans to travel that I put on hold when we got together and I'm disappointed that I won't be able to fulfill them if I stay with her. I'm not as happy in the relationship as I have been before, which is not down to her, I just feel like I want to get out and live my life a bit more, instead of settling down, which I don't feel ready to do. I know she has her heart set on us marrying soon, which I definitely am not comfortable with right now. I just feel a little trapped right now.", "summary": "I'm not as happy as I once was in my relationship, and feel I would be happier going on in life if I was single."}
{"id": "t3_38bqw7", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Would you quit if you were in my position? Is it too rash to give the employer an ultimatum?", "post": "I have been a minimum wage temp for a year. I was hired as a \"consultant\" under the guise of being given an accounting job only to end up doing data entry and mail. They have changed my job 4 times. The current situation is I have the same pay but am now doing accounts payable, shipping tracking, and inventory processing. Those had previously been **three separate jobs**. I am a slavish idiot worker who showed that even during power outages I keep working. I am now completely overwhelmed and work is backing up like crazy. \n\n\u00a0\n\nIf I ask the manager will say she can't give me overtime or delegate the jobs to others. The manager is completely spineless and the other workers are relatives so they have a pact. For example, when someone's car was broken into on the facility my boss said they can check the camera, told a lame joke, chuckled and told the employee to deal with it (and slunk back to her office). The employee had to call the cop, file the report, and push through to higher up to get corporate to act on the security problem. \n\nWhen a fellow temp stole over $3600 she fired her via email and didn't have follow up investigation or punishment. That is more money than I take home in three months. \n\n\u00a0\n\nI am going to work for at least two week to be able to pay my cellphone bill and health insurance in advance if I do quit.  Should I go to my manager and ask for more money or to the temp agency? Both? Neither?", "summary": "For a year I have been a minimum wage temp who currently performs the work load previously done by three employees. Boss is too spineless to fix the problems of nepotism and likely won't remedy the low pay."}
{"id": "t3_3fxc6h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Uncle is getting catfished by a con artist. What should I do?", "post": "I hope this is the right sub, I searched a few, and couldn't figure out the appropriate one.\n\nI am female, age 30. Uncle male, 62, paralyzed from the chest down for the last 44 years. Other individual age and gender unknown, but claims to be female and 32. \n\nI am the primary care provider for my disabled Uncle. He lives in my house. Last night, he told me that he has been in an online relationship with a woman is Ghana. She says she is in love with him, but in a bind, and needs money. He is asking me to go purchase a money order (a few hundred dollars) to send to her. Obvious scam. \n\nHe is lonely. He has been single for decades because of his disability. The woman makes him happy, even if she is just a con artist. Part of me just wants to just give in because its not worth getting in between my Uncle and his happiness even if he is getting used. If I don't do this, it will cause a big rift in my relationship with my Uncle. On the other hand, F--k that b--ch. Nobody uses my Uncle with my consent. \n\nI don't know what to do. Help? Advice? Experience?", "summary": "My Uncle is getting catfished by a con artist that is asking for money, and I am the one that has to send his cash. Do I? If I don't, how do I tell my Uncle no?"}
{"id": "t3_jp3f1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A question of right and cancer/tumor.", "post": "*Quick background information for my two questions:*\nMy girlfriend has been going nuts over me smoking. It started with her dad offering me a smoke. My willpower is very weak so I accepted. Ever since ive been smoking about 1-3 a day and every time shes pounded my arms saying she does not want a boyfriend to smoke. About a week ago my right arm had a big lump under one of my bruises(I bruise quite easily). And 2 weeks later when it hadn't gone away I went to the hospital to check it out and they told me it was a *tumor* and since I had got it due to the pounding it was most likely benign.\n\nNow I haven't smoked for a couple of days since we made a deal. She cried and told me she wanted me to quit due to heath reasons so we agreed that I would quit and use those nicotine chewing gums to help me. And it worked great until today when we had a fight and I just needed a smoke so I had one and she got upset and threw all of my gums away. And later that night I had another smoke because I didn't have any nicotine gums left. \n\n**Question 1:** Was it that wrong of me to have another smoke due to her throwing my nicotine chewing gums away? (I know its my fault she initially thew them away)\n\n**Question 2:** Does anyone have any experience with tumors due to physical trauma? I haven't been able to find any information on the subject online though my brother did have one when he was younger and it keept growing and growing until it was removed and he was told to go for a checkup a few years later to see if it had spread or grown back. This really bothers me since I was sure they could check if the tumor was benign or not when they removed it.\n\n Also since my mother died of cancer a few years ago and my father recently had it I am sort of paranoid right now.", "summary": "So my girlfriend threw away my nicotine gum because of me and I had a smoke was it right of me to have another smoke? I've also contracted a tumor due to my smoking(WAIT FOR IT) because my girlfriend hit me. I find it hilarious how smoking gave me a tumor(tumor = most likely benign as in not cancer)"}
{"id": "t3_500zj3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M23) got drunk and talked to my ex's (F21) best friend.", "post": "Me and my ex were together for over 2 years and broke up exactly 4 months ago today. This happened 3 days ago.\n\nBasically I went out with some friends and got completely and utterly shit-faced.\nWhile not bad in and of itself I then met my ex's best friend and got talking to her.\n\nThen she mentions that it took my ex a very long time to stop being sad about the break up and then in my drunken stupor I started laughing in her face saying that I was still hopelessly in love with my ex and that I would have probably married her eventually if we hadn't broken up. I was very drunk and know I should have just shut up but it was all word vomit.\n\nWhen I woke up the next morning I texted her to please not say anything to my ex because I don't want to put her in that kind of situation as that wouldn't be fair if she has already started to move on and I would rather she do that and be happy than get set back because I'm an idiot.\n\nShe never replied so I assume she will/already has told my ex and considering she told my best friend when he asked what we were talking about and she can't keep things to herself in general ( sounds rude and mean but I can't really think of a better way to phrase it)\n\nNow I don't know what to do. Should I contact my ex and explain myself or let it go ? either way she knows.", "summary": "Got drunk, told ex's best friend I still loved her, pretty sure she told her and now I have n clue on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4vfuv5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24f) good friend (34m) took me by surprise by telling me I don't smell so good.", "post": "I will start off my saying that I do have feelings for my good friend (he's aware of this, has reciprocated, not good timing atm). \n\nWe spend a lot of time together. We have deep conversations, we have good chemistry, and we laugh lots when were around each other. I have been good friends with him for around 2 years. We have been intimate on multiple occasions (this is new as of a few months ago).\n\nA few weeks ago I noticed  started distancing himself from me (we talk everyday/every other day normally) where he was then avoiding me completely for some time. He then messaged me and asked how things were, I replied, trying to keep things normal. I mentioned to him that I felt something was up with him and that I was there for him. We met, discussed a few things. He told me he was stressed about life's regular stressors. About a day or so later he told me something was actually up, something was bothering him. \n\nHe told me that since the last time we were intimate he became turned off. I asked him to elaborate. He told me that he was turned off by a \"smell\" down there. Now, I am a very hygienic person (to my knowledge) so I was really taken back. He said something along the lines of the wasnt sure if was something he could overcome. This was news to be because I had felt the sex was amazing and had not noticed any problems. I asked him if it was a continuous problem for which he said no.  Im confused and hurt by all of this. \n\nWhat I'm really concerned about is how to approach or if I should even approach being physical with him again? He has not mentioned it. I'm not sure if that's because of what happened or if hes not sure I'm not comfortable or confident since that.  He mentions being together emotionally and wanting to be my partner but I do not feel desired physically anymore.", "summary": "A good friend of mine said that after being intimate recently he noticed a \"smell\" that had turned him off. Ever since I have not felt attractive or wanted by him as I normally do. Not sure if I should give up hope that we could ever have anything intimate again?"}
{"id": "t3_28cqtz", "subreddit": "books", "title": "A question for the Sword of Truth fans.", "post": "Okay, im loving the series so far. It is very original. I'm halfway through the fifth book, Soul of the Fire. So uhhh... can anybody explain the zombie chicken? \n\nI figured that Zed's explaination of the Lurk was feasible, as it gave the undead poultry not just an origin, but a cause. Then he says he was lying. So now what? Where did it come from? If it isn't a Lurk, what is it? Zed is incapable of using subtractive magic, which I assume covers animating corpses. The Bird man says it is a chicken that is not a chicken. Yes, it is most definitely not a chicken. But then what the hell is it? Is our satanic, striated powder puff one of the chimes? Is it just an anomaly? If so, why does it work to Zed's goals? Why on earth would he have it peck out a respected warriors eyes? And what killed the bloody chicken in the beginning?", "summary": "paranormal poultry has no feasible origin."}
{"id": "t3_louvk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Pregnant girlfriend is losing State Unemployment benefits.  My jobs pays in peanuts.  What are options?", "post": "Not actual peanuts, but barely enough to buy them.\n\nMy girlfriend was layed off last December and has been on MO State Unemployment since then.  Yes, she tried mightily to get a job, but didn't have any 'luck'.  So, here she is 15 weeks pregnant (unplanned!) with my baby and her last check comes in this week.\n\nShe doesn't want to file for Federal Unemployment, because she will be required to report about all of the jobs she has been applying for, but she won't be applying for any jobs due to the pregnancy and pursuing a cake decorating business with her family.  The cake business has a long way to go before it *could* be profitable.  \n\nLiving off of my meager salary while paying both of our bills (mucho student loans) and trying to raise an infant is terrifying to think about.  Crunching the numbers says it's possible, but there is no room for unexpected expenses.\n\nIs there anything she can do given her condition (pregnant) that will help us along?  We are applying foor stamps and WIC.", "summary": "Pregnant girlfriend is losing MO State Unemployment.  We need help."}
{"id": "t3_2rykko", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my boyfriend of 4 years [23/M] trouble with an ex work colleague", "post": "So we just got back from visiting our family, before which I told his old work friends from home that we were visiting and to message my BF if they wanted to see him. \n\nWe were the for 3 weeks and nothing.\n\nWe get home and his ex work colleague, a 19F is having her birthday and has invited him to a birthday dinner...after a few messages back and forth saying how she wanted to do dinner and drinks, she finally said ''You should definitely come and your gf too\". Like he could bring me if he wanted to but probably better if I didn't come.\n\nSo he actually wants to do it. He wants to take time off of work, spend probably $100 on petrol and drive for 4.5 hours to see a girl who messages him probably once every 3 months. And if I mention a bad word about her, he gets mad and defensive, I feel like I can't even voice my concerns because if I say something bad I'll be the one who's done the wrong thing.", "summary": "Ex colleague invites bf to birthday celebrations 4.5 hours away and I can't say anything about it. Am I being touchy or should I be mad?"}
{"id": "t3_22a1z7", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Breaking my will.", "post": "The most concentrated and sustained effort I ever put into anything was thirteen years ago. I had to stop being so goddamn shy. It had already hurt me more than I ever had been hurt in my life up to that point. It was goddamn pulling teeth to get me to open up to people.\n\nI had finally decided I was going to break with what I had been. I had decided to talk to her.\n\nBut I found out none of it fucking mattered. As I find out everytime I ever try to do anything to better myself. It's always the same. Same as it had been all of the times before same as it always had been every time since. But it was that time 13 years ago that should have fucking made it clear to me I shouldn't have even bothered going on.\n\nNo, I didn't get turned down by the girl. In fact, thirteen years later with the girl in a rotten marriage, she told me how much she still wants to be with me. And I don't know how much of a good fit we'd really be together. I don't know this because we never went out that long.\n\nAnd we never went out that long, because I was flat out told by parents who never once let on that they would not be okay with it, they were ready to throw me out of the house if I continued seeing a black girl.\n\nI see this basic premise reflected in almost every single horrible thing that has ever and, honestly, will ever happen to me. I work as hard as I am able, I allow my hope to get slightly above zero, only to later realize information was being held from me that made such an hope farcical to begin with.\n\nIt's breaking my will to continue. I'm not just becoming shy again. It's making me outright afraid of people. It's making me fucking paranoid. I wish I could just be numb to this and go on. \n\n(I realize this is only slightly more detailed than a passive-agressive facebook post, but IDGAF right now.)", "summary": "I was abducted by aliens, probed and sent back to earth with the intention of helping the shapeshifting interdimensional Illuminati reptilians bring in the New World Order by means of obsessive Rickrolling. Hail Satan. Just fucking read the goddamn post."}
{"id": "t3_2aiyyf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/22] feel like everytime I go on a date with her [F/20] we have no chemistry again- like it's the first date all over", "post": "Hi, have taken this girl out that I met about month and a half ago on about 5 dates now. Thing is, she can tend to be a bit quiet, even after a great talkative date two nights before.\n\nShe says she's just not very great at making conversations in general, and her texting is almost amusingly brief. But it's strange how we can have a wonderful 2 hour conversation about every random thing, and then a couple days later we hang out and it's like we don't know each other- our date will always start with awkward silence then gradually get more comfortable over the night, in some cases it stays a bit awkward (first time I had this issue with a girl).\n\nThe way she can behave can almost make her seem uninterested in me, but I know she is (talks about me to family, holds my hand all time, loves to kiss, etc). Things to note: she is actually a virgin, has very little dating experience, seems kind of overprotected by her mom, usually just stays at home, and doesn't party often.\n\nI wanna keep seeing her and build something out of it, but I'm worried it will always feel like this (I'm used to very talkative girls). How can I make it so the chemistry and comfort is sort of held and continued from the last time every time we hang out? Or will she become more comfortable with me after spending just enough time together? Thanks", "summary": "Inexperienced quiet virgin girl is interested in me, but she doesn't always know how to show it, been on 5 dates, still a little awkward, how can I get her to feel comfortable/talkative when we hangout?"}
{"id": "t3_qnbbm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Girl I like is confusing the hell out of me!", "post": "Lot of reading here...\nIm 25 and havn't had an dating relationship for 4 years or so ever since my 3 year relationship ended. I've met plenty of different women but have had strong feelings for this girl I've know for like 2 years on and off. We kissed a few times at the bar and got real close at times but never actually hooked up. She's told me she has feelings forever too but never actually wanted to go farther than saying that. \n\nThere's been quite a few instances where i see her out and we flirt for a while but it never turns out to be anything afterwards. i text her the following week and get really short answers like she doesnt want to conversate. just recently i went out with someone else and ended up seeing her out too. she literally hid her face in her jacket right in front of me, not in the embarrassed way, the jealous way. she kept finding me throughout the bar which made it really uncomfortable. i found her before i left and we talked about what was going on. basically she said she still liked me a lot and was really jealous and mad even tho she shouldn't be. we ended up leaving on good terms but when i talked to her the next day, she was all upset at me and just wanted me to know she wasn't looking for a relationship.\n\nWhen i fall for someone, I tend to really chase them forever. thats how i got my last relationship by just waiting. im older now and still cant figure this out. When you like someone and you know they like you back but wont make anything out of it, what then? I wish i could just forget about her, but i keep seeing her which restarts the cycle. \n\nI try texting her every so often but get short answers and no conversation holders. This shit sucks. Anyone have any similar experiences? She plays these games but i can just look right past them. I'm nervous of actually asking her out to hang out normally but because of these mixed signals, I just dont.", "summary": "really like this girl who likes me back, we have a really good time out at the bars but the next day, she says she doesn't want a relationship, i try to pursue her. We don't talk till i see her again annnnd cycle again."}
{"id": "t3_34d7gh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I be offended?", "post": "Girl (Alex, 22) I have been seeing (pretty much dating) has a nickname for me with her friends: The BFG.\n\nNow any of you who remember the book, The BFG, is the big friendly giant. \n\nI am male, 23, 6'5\" and 300 pounds, and I just finished a college football career. So being called big isn't new to me.\n\nHere's where I am not sure how to react.  My girl claims the nickname means big friendly giant like the book. Her friend admitted that they all take it as big fucking giant. \n\nNot sure how I feel that second one. So I come to reddit, the most soulless place on earth for some honest opinions.\n\nSo redditors. Am I being dumb, or does big fucking giant need to end?", "summary": "should I get mad about a dumb nickname my girl's friends have for me?"}
{"id": "t3_1jgx9g", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I blame my best friend for me not having any other friends.", "post": "I have acquaintances, but no other *actual* friends. I have been best friends with A (I'll call her that here) for almost 10 years. I think because her parents are pretty cold to her, A feels like she needs to belittle others so she can feel better about herself. Ever since we've met she has been like this, but for some reason I'm only just recently realizing that she might be one of the greater reasons I have no real friends. (She also has no real friends... Basically all we have is each other and our boyfriends. But that's it.)\n\nMy thoughts on this are that since she is always talking shit about everyone, other people over the years must think that I am like that too. Which I will admit, after having been around A for so much of my life, some of her negative traits have rubbed off on me, like her negative views on life and pessimism in general. \n\nI don't know... I'm just very upset with my life, so things are festering.", "summary": "I blame my best and only friend for me not being able to make any other friends because of her negative and petty attitude."}
{"id": "t3_rol9o", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Family wont accept my Fiance due to her race/creed, Any input from you guys would be appreciated!", "post": "hi there guys Ill make this as short as possible:\n\nI come form a strict Muslim Indian family, all my siblings have accepted the religion that they've been brought up with and are in arranged marriages living nice Indian Muslim lives.\n\nI decided through my teenage to adult years that I simply did not want this culture/religion for my family when I grew up and moved out.\n\nJust before I turned 19 I moved in with my long term girlfriend (neither Indian nor Muslim) without my parents consent of course. since then shes been my rock, shes helped me find work, taken care of me with nothing but love and devotion, with been through plenty of hard times and now been together for more than 5 years in a very stable relationship.\n\nJust one problem, my family. I still go to visit them, I call them every so often but as far as my life is concerned they never ask about her, I've tried countless times to get them to come meet her but they simply wont and insist I come back home (to live with them). It makes her really upset and today I've decided enough is enough.\n\nI was just about to text my mother stating that Ill no longer be coming to see her since shes made to effort to come see me and my partner (now fiance'). First I wanted reddits opinion on whether I was making the right choice her or not. I truly am fed up of their ignorance and have given them countless years of patience while I pretended not to exist and not make any mention of the woman who has brought me so much happiness for the past 5 years. any thoughts would be appreciated guys and thank you for reading.", "summary": "from a religious Indian family, been living with gf (now fiance) for 4 years family refuse to acknowledge/accept her due to her race and creed not being the same,fed up,want advice on how I should deal with them."}
{"id": "t3_3doljo", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "[32/M] Hi... need help with an engagement idea.", "post": "I love my girlfriend been with her for 4 years and the time has finally come. \nUnfortunately I suck at planning and to be honest I see this as more of a bigger moment for her than for me so I'm not entirely too picky about how I do this. All I know is originally I wanted her friends to be around when i do this and selfishly I want to do it at the beach. The 2 things i love in this world, my girlfriend and the ocean.\n\nI'd love to have her friends there when i do it as well, but i called around to a few restaurants and to be honest I wouldn't be able to afford the expenses for a large party.\n\nCan you help me figure out how to do this?\n\nHow can I get her to the beach without being obvious? \n\nAny ideas on how I can have her group of friends be there even though I can't afford dinner reservations at any restaurants on the beach? I was hoping her friends could record it.\n\nI don't mind it being just her and I, but how what would be a reason we go to the beach since she rarely goes? At least if we were meeting her friends up for dinner that would be easier to sell.\n\nEither way the go date is 8/8 so hopefully ill come up with something instead of dropping on one knee in her living room in our pj's lol.\n\nThank you in advance. =]", "summary": "Come from broken home, love/marriage wasn't acknowledged much. Have a ring, want to purpose to my wife. I can't think of an idea to surprise her at the beach with her friends there in affordable way."}
{"id": "t3_3g3mcq", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[California Renter] HELP! Just moved but the house is full of cockroaches. My biggest fear.", "post": "So my fiancee and I just moved into an older house in California. We relocated for a job and put down most of our savings on our deposit and first months rent (our deposit was huuuuuge). But upon moving in, we realized the house was not adequately clean or ready for move in and within a few days we realized there is bad roach infestation throughout the entire house and garage.\n\nWe have notified the landlord of the problem in writing and said we will begin by deducting extermination traps from further rent if it not dealt with immediately and go from there. But we have not heard back.\n\nHowever upon talking to some friends in pest control, we could easily be looking at $350-500 in traps to make a reasonable dent in the population. And even then, it may still require professional assistance and cleaning.\n\nI literally have a deep phobia of roaches. Its actually my only and greatest fear. I haven't been able to sleep at all and want to cry because they are everywhere. My skin is crawling always because we keep finding them. I'm afraid to be alone in my house and want to leave so badly. I don't think I'm cut out for the extermination work (pulling out cabinets, drawers, pantries, garage, etc. and cleaning carcasses, eggs everywhere).\n\nEven though, I want to break the lease and leave the house as uninhabitable immediately there is a severe lack of housing availability in our city and it is next to impossible to acquire another place, especially with our current landlord holding all of our deposit/savings.\n\nPlease help! What do I do? I am considering living in my car or a hotel (if I can get it reimbursed) but am just at a loss of what to do. My goals are to not be living here with the roaches and to have the problem dealt with as timely as possible.", "summary": "California renter spends all money on move in/deposit. House uninhabitable by roaches. Has massive phobia of roaches. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1ipp4i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am a [22M] cant tell if [21F] whom i've been texting and chatting with for 2-3 weeks is interested or not", "post": "I ran into a girl i met a couple years back in 1st year of university. Only had a couple conversations with her back then so we weren't too close. We take the same train to work so we often end up chatting on the morning rides there and sometimes the way back. Usually fun conversations, a few somewhat awkward silences here and there.\n\nFrom what I've gathered, shes a sweet nice girl and super close with her family. We've also texted back and forth and I've gotten some good responses. Though I'm not sure if it's just her personality and if she's like that with her other male friends.\n\nI think she cares what I think of her, she checks her reflection on the train window and adjusts her hair when she thinks I'm looking away. But thats probably just a girl thing?\n\nAlso once she texted something slightly negative about someone she knew (whom I dont even know) and afterwards she immediately texted, \"i sound ungrateful right now! im not usually like that, k?\" \n\nSo last night I finally texted her at like 9pm asking if she wanted to grab a drink at this bar thats pretty close to where we live. She replied saying she couldnt tonight cuz she was in the middle of doing photo editting for a friend and her mom just made food for her. I said \"no biggie, another time then\" She followed up saying \"yea let's go next time\" with a smiley face. \n\nCan't tell if it's just an excuse. My buddy told me that if a girl doesnt specifically suggest another day it's a terrible sign and she probably doesn't rly want to go. I think there might still be hope but I haven't dated anyone for a year so I'm not very sharp on this kinda thing.\n\nWhat do you guys think?", "summary": "chatting and/or texting almost daily with girl for 2-3 weeks. finally asked her to grab a drink, she gave a couple excuses and said \"next time\". Not sure what this usually means."}
{"id": "t3_16shdj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What do you know about Australian literary agents.", "post": "My partner has written a fantasy novel and we think we should try to get it published. Does any one know any agents in Australia that you would recommend?\nWe found an agent and she said she likes the book but is currently very busy with another book. She has said if she didn't like the book and wasn't interested that she would just tell us and not waste our time. But it has been a long time since we have heard from her and she has not replied to our last message. So it is time to move on and try find another but we don't know where to start.", "summary": "Can you help recommend any Australian lititary agents?"}
{"id": "t3_zinjv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dentists and dental assistants of Reddit, can you help me?", "post": "Greetings dentists and dental assistants (or anyone else able to offer advice),\n\nLet me begin with offering some back story. Last February I went in to my dentist office to do a regular cleaning and check-up. My normal dentist was away on vacation so temporary dentist was there to fill in. He noticed I had a cavity and proceeded to do a filling. Now my gut told me to tell him no and just wait for my normal dentist but I didn't speak up. Upon leaving the dentist, I immediately noticed a small bump on the side of the tooth of where the filling was, so I just assumed it was excess filling that he forgot to smooth out. I decided to put up with it and assumed it would erode away. However, it is now September and it is still there.\n\nThis is where my problem lies. I go in to my dentist and see my regular dentist. She examines it and notices that it is a cracked filling. She then proceeds to take pictures of it and blames a \"heavy bite.\" She says due to the size of the filling, it would be in my best interest to get a crown, which will cost $1200 (Canadian). If that is too expensive she said we could try to do another filling but it may not hold.\n\nThis is where I am a little skeptical. Why should I have to pay full price for something that I strongly believe was the fault of that temporary dentist? I would have you know that I am friends with my regular dentist's daughter, and she told me that 3 fillings so far have failed that were performed by that replacement dentist.\n\nSo Reddit, what should I do? Any advice would be welcomed!", "summary": "Went to my dentist office where a temporary (not my regular one) dentist performed filling that failed. I originally thought it was just excess filling I felt, hence why I waited almost 6 months to return. Regular dentist now wants to charge me $1200 for a crown, while her daughter admitted to me that 3 fillings performed by this temporary dentist have failed so far."}
{"id": "t3_3pe5ij", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by applauding abductions", "post": "This happened about 3 hours ago in Spanish class. So a little back ground first, I'm a junior (11th grade) in High School taking my 4th year of Spanish, a class which I have BS'd my way through up to this point, and I've had the same Spanish teacher for the past 2 years, and let's just say we don't get along. So today we were listening to a song in Spanish about government abducting people on Peru and people getting murdered, but me, not paying any attention or speaking any Spanish, had no idea what the song was about. So once it was about finished I started clapping and chuckled once I saw no one else was. I started to get nervous when I noticed that everyone was looking at me with horrific expressions of Pity and disgust. I got taken into the hall where my teacher starts talking to me about how she's worried for me and I might need counseling and some bull shit like that, and how disgusting it was that I would applaud something like that, no real consequences, just kind of a funny fuck up.", "summary": "clapped after song about abductions and murder because I don't speak Spanish"}
{"id": "t3_3vm997", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by joking about cancer", "post": "This happened yesterday. \n\nI was at lunch at school, sitting with my white friends because I have nowhere else to go. \n\nI was sitting next to one of my friends--we'll call him Tigg--and he's just really chill and never acts out like the rest of the group. \n\nAnyway, for some reason, the people at my table started doing some kind of really white and cringey \"roast-off\" which took form as a rap battle. \n\nTheir raps were complete garbage, even if it was a joke. Instinctively, since I'm one of those \"offensive humor\" people or something, I said \"your raps are giving me cancer.\"\n\nAbout 1.5 seconds later, it hit me. \n\nTigg's little sister has leukemia. \n\nI'm 110% sure he heard me, because he went from smiling in my general direction to instantly frowning and looking down at the table. For a solid 10 minutes I sat there thinking \"I fucked up; I *reaaaally* fucked up.\" I was hesitant to apologize because I would have to bring up the matter, which is also touchey. For the rest of lunch, we both went on and acted like I had never said anything, but I'm hoping that Tigg wasn't acting. I feel like more of an asshole than I usually do.", "summary": "Lunch friends were having a shitty rap battle, I said that their raps were cancerous, realized that the sister of the kid sitting next to me has Leukemia."}
{"id": "t3_40tr1l", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "My boss thinks I'm depressed", "post": "I've been with my company for almost 2 years. My boss just called me into her office to ask me if everything was okay. She said she's been worried about me for a while and is concerned that I'm depressed. She wanted to know if there was anything she could do. I apologized for appearing that way and said that it hadn't been my intention, that I'm fine (which I am) and that I'd certainly try to be more cognizant of it and it may be because I haven't been sleeping well. She said that she's advocating very hard for my promotion as our company will be expanding soon but needed to know if it was something I'd be able to handle. I assured her it was and that I'm excited for the future.  \n\nAbout a year ago I noticed that people at work didn't take me seriously. I assumed it had to do with my age as well as my bubbly and pushover personality. I decided to make a conscious effort to approach work more seriously and to be more assertive. I'm afraid that has given me the appearance of being depressed. I should note that she had me take a mental health day due to a small meltdown at work 6 months ago. (I cried a little bit when she asked if I was ok - I'm a crier, I don't know how to fix that). I took the next day off to take care of some things. I was working and going to school full time and had some health scares but I've addressed both of those and things are going smoothly. \n\nI'm not sure how I should handle any of this. What is this fine line between being assertive and coming across as depressed? Have a completely ruined my chances by appearing weak?", "summary": "Tried to be more assertive at work but now my boss thinks I'm depressed and is questioning my ability to handle future promotions."}
{"id": "t3_4oq2rc", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "How much weight should a company's stock performance hold when considering employment?", "post": "I am considering a possible employment opportunity with a company, and have been researching them to determine if the move would be good for me. The company's recent stock performance is pretty underwhelming.\n\nA general overview of the stock performance:\n\n* IPO'd in 1999 and ate it hard when the Dot-com bubble popped.\n* After that followed the overall market's performance until about three years ago.\n* From mid-2013 until mid-2015, the stock performance stalled out and under-performed the overall market.\n* In the last year, the stock has taken about a 70% hit\n\nObviously there is a lot more to think about that just stock performance when determining if a job opportunity is a good move (pay, benefits, etc.), but I am unsure of *how much* a company's market performance should factor into my (potential) decision.\n\nA little extra info in case it helps:\n\n* Software Engineering position\n* I am for the most part happy with my current job. I am currently underpaid, but expect this to change in the next year if I stay\n* This position *would* be a move up in seniority and pay from where I am now\n* I have not been offered a position with this company, but an acquaintance of mine recommended me to the company for a position they recently had come open, so the company reached out to me to see if I would be interested.", "summary": "should a company's under-performing stock affect my decision when considering a possible employment opportunity?"}
{"id": "t3_2n3onz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/f] have no friends because of my [20/m] boyfriend", "post": "Throwaway because my boyfriend looks at my reddit..\n\nDuring the summer after graduating highschool, life was so great. I made a new group of friends that extended to about 10 people and we would all hang out just about every night. I loved it and I had so much fun with them. My boyfriend started working in a restaurant with his best friend, we'll call him Dave. Him and Dave have been friends for years. But when they started working together, they got into fights and they hardly talk now. \n\nSo, as a result we have not hung out with the group of friends in weeks. My boyfriend also throws a fit when I hang out with my other friends without him at night, and bringing him with me to hang out with a bunch of girls is not ideal. I would just like some time away from him and talk to my girl friends. \n\nTonight, Dave is having a party because he is moving half way across the country soon. I'm not invited, but an acquaintance to Dave is invited and asked me if I was going tonight. I'm just really fucking sad that I'm not longer invited to hang out even though I'm not involved with whatever conflict that Dave and my boyfriend have. \n\nI have lost just about all my friends over the last month. I'm depressed about it and I haven't made a single new friend in college. It's a somber thought to know you don't have any friends. Spending every night in my house is not what I want to do. I just want to enjoy other peoples company, but it seems they've forgotten about me and I'm not invited to hang out anymore. I just don't want to be alone anymore.", "summary": "boyfriend got into series of fights with his best friend, they no longer talk, which disbands me from the group of friends I had. No longer invited to his party or hanging out. I've lost all my friends."}
{"id": "t3_1r9vjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [16F] I just need advice on some things, duration: 2 weeks", "post": "my bestfriend and I have recently started dating after her telling me that she is in love with me and I have been in love with her for 3 years and I have known her for three years I just feel almost anxiety if I think I did something wrong and I just want to know if it is normal I am also always scared she regretted telling me, also I know I am still in highschool but she is the one I know it I would like to know anyone else's thoughts on like if this is normal I just love her so much I am always scared I am losing her also if anyone else has married their highschool sweetheart I would  like to know how it is because I decided that I want to marry this girl thank all of you reddit", "summary": "I need your opinions on highschool sweet hearts actually getting married if it works out"}
{"id": "t3_1c0rgg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Tobacco users! How did you start using tobacco and why?", "post": "I'll give my story. When I turned 18 I decided I would try some tobacco. I went to a Tobacco Shop and purchased rolling tobacco and pipe tobacco. I sat outside the shop and rolled a cigarette with American Spirit. It was harsh in my opinion and a bit dry. Lighting a pipe was to much of a hassle. In other news, I really enjoy smoking Bugler tobacco. I have been rolling those occasionally ever since I tried their pack.\n\nBTW: have tried American Spirits(rolling tobacco, full flavor, and menthol) i say \"meh\" to those. I have also tried Camel which are also lesser to Bugler.", "summary": "Filtered cigarettes are for pussies."}
{"id": "t3_1rp2mz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of one year, recently broke up because I treated her poorly.", "post": "Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. In the months leading up to our break up I was very stress and did not handle it well. This led me to treat her terribly. We both had a lot going on but she was able to curtail her outbursts at me, I failed to. I would start petty arguments and yell at her for different things. \n\nShe broke up with me earlier this month. We talked off and on until this past week. I finally was weak and had to tell her how I felt, how much she means to me and how much regret I feel.. Promised her I've identified and am working on what brought me down and promised will never treat her like that again.\n\nThis only made her more frustrated with me. She said she never will get back together with me and that she will never be with anyone who treats her like I did.\n\nI've been in longer relationships in my life but none of them felt the way this one did nor have I ever fall this hard for the person she genuinely is. For the majority of our relationship I treated her like a princess, up until other things came up and I got overwhelm.\n\nShe very raw right now, extremely mad at me, says she's done with me. I told her how I felt, albeit not to gracefully but I needed off my chest. My question is if anyone here has been in this situation: what was the ultimate result?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me because I treat her badly (Insulting her). I lost myself for a while, that's why we failed. She doesn't want me back. Need some input."}
{"id": "t3_4z9obb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] like someone [18F] to some extent I an having trouble gauging", "post": "Hey everybody. I recently, like last two months recently, met a girl who lives just outside Ottawa, about three hours away from me. We hit it off and hung out with some of her friends a few times. I really really like her, which is rare for me, as I don't like people in a romantic way very often. Last time I had a crush was about three years ago, and I don't really remember how it felt. I don't know if I'm just temporarily infatuated with this girl or if I have a crush on her or if there's something more going on in this weird brain of mine. \n\nAs she lives a little whiles away, we communicate mostly through Facebook and other social media outlets, at least an hour a day, most days more. When we hung out, I felt a million times more happy than I normally feel, and I consider myself a happy guy. She makes me feel like myself, which I know doesn't make sense. When I talk to her, I feel like I'm talking to someone I've known forever. But at the same time, I get nervous when I feel that I'm being overbearing or super excited about our chats. Overall, I'm just kind of a mess. \n\n This part is kind of creepy, but I find myself daydreaming about her a lot, but not in sexual ways, more in ways of how I see a relationship with her, e.g. me and her watching an old movie together while cuddling on a couch, or trying on potential Halloween costumes, or playing video games late at night. Just stupid, juvenile, kind of creepy stuff like that. It definitely doesn't feel like a normal crush, but then again, I don't think I have the normal crushes that other kids my age have. \n\nPut my insecurities to rest, /r/relationships. Am I infatuated or am I seriously crushing on this girl?", "summary": "Really like a girl in ways I never have, don't know what's going on in my brain."}
{"id": "t3_4urg6v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My bf [28M] of 4 years won't move out of his parents house", "post": "I need advice.\nMy boyfriend of 4 years has been 'looking' for a house since our first date. Every year he tells me he is going to move out, but its been 4 years no and he has made no progress.\nI do not want to live with him but I don't want him to live with his family anymore. He needs to grow up and start his own life. I also don't want him to rush in to buying a house and resent me for it down the road. \nAm I being ridiculous to get mad about this? Is this a stupid thing to end a relationship over? \nHow do I push towards moving out without having to keep getting in a fight over it. \nI feel like I wasn't being pushy at first but after 4 years, Ive had enough.", "summary": "BF 28 wont move out of his parents"}
{"id": "t3_2j512r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F] with my boyfriend [16 M] 2 years don't seem to understand each other", "post": "Me and my boyfriend seem to get into arguments a lot throughout our relationship. One most recently being that I want to meet his friends (never met one) and asked if I could tag along to go explore an old WWII abandoned place. He said sure, then later changed his mind.(2nd time he's done this; feels like he's keeping me a secret) He's saying how he wants time with friends, etc etc. But we never have time together. We get to see each other on Sundays (recently we haven't been able to these past weeks, and time being cut short because he keeps scheduling things during Sunday) and he gets to see his friends everyday at school. He knows I don't have any friends, so why doesn't he be more sympathetic with me?\n\nYes I know I shouldn't rely on him. But if I was in his situation I would always take him along with  me and friends. Do I have a right to be upset?", "summary": "I don't have friends, he does, should I be able to tag along once in a while?"}
{"id": "t3_14vf8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What to do when you are being constantly verbally harassed and physically threatened?", "post": "I'm at the point where I would like to involve the police.  I know who they are but not why they have so much hate for me. The all believe they are hardasses and want to fight me and through their stupidity I believe they may begin to endanger my friends and family. **Context** - It is a group of four guys, my buddies and I used to be friends with but they just got stupider and stupider so we completely stopped associating ourselves with them. A few weekends ago they heard I was talking shit about them. I wasn't.... But they thought I was so it began with dumb prank calls, but soon they took their \"fun\" to one of my buddies cars and in the middle of the night and coated it with syrup and penut butter. He knew it was them and did nothing about this. Now they're calling me on private numbers and screaming swears and other \"demeaning\" things at me and its easy to tell its them because of their foreign accents. One of them slipped up and forgot to block his number so I assume thats a bit of evidence against them. They have also threatened me bodily harm through these calls and want me to fight them.  I know where they all live and feel its best to just talk to the police and give them their addresses and names and explain the situation, I can not deal with the anxiety of them causing any kind of damage to my home or endangering my family and friends (or myself for that matter). I believe at this point I have no other choice but to bring the police into the situation. But I want the advice of reddit first. (Extra info they are all between sixteen and seventeen and we are in high school together)", "summary": "Multiple friends and I are being harassed and threated by ex-\"friends\" and want to know what we should do."}
{"id": "t3_18gzhx", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [F/20] am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend [M/20] and wondering if it's really worth it.", "post": "Let me preface in saying that my current long-distance boyfriend is the only serious relationship I've ever had. We have been dating for almost a year and a half. We met in college that we both went to and have now went back to our respective state, 9 hours away. I'm starting to think it's not worth it, especially me being so young. I love him but I also feel like I don't know what love is because I haven't had any serious relationships like he has. He tells me that he wants to marry me someday and it hasn't bothered me until recently. I don't want to make a life long mistake that I will regret. \n\nHe is so good to me and has never done anything wrong but I just seems lately like we don't connect on many things anymore. Because of the separation it seems like it's a chore to talk to him because it's so hard to know what's going on over texting and phone calls.", "summary": "Is it really worth it for 20 year olds to have a long-distance relationship when it's my first serious relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3a44k2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it rude not to go to a funeral?", "post": "I'm 23/f. My uncle (my mom's brother) passed away earlier today. Most, if not all, of the family would have to fly in from another country to attend, however my mom and I live an hour away. If you flew in and noticed someone wasn't there who very well could have been, would you see it as disrespectful or look down on that person? My reasons for not wanting to attend are personal. I have dealt with plenty of deaths and I found that the deaths where I didn't go to the funeral were easier. The only reason why I would go is so that I don't look bad in front of the family. Do you think it looks bad?", "summary": "Don't want to attend a funeral I am capable of attending. Does it look bad if I don't go?"}
{"id": "t3_3m08rz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[25/F] / [32/M] - new revelations after serious commitment", "post": "I've (25/F) been with my partner (32/M) for maybe five years now. We've been engaged for ~2 years and have a one year old child together. We recently bought a house together.\n\nAfter our child was born (so 4 years into the relationship) my partner \"opened up\" to me about his \"kinks\" - he wants to wear women's clothing, be dominated etc. Okay, not my thing but I'll work with it. Now a year later he's started telling me that he wants to cross dress, like in public. He says that he has felt like this for a long long time but was \"too scared\" to tell me.\n\nI don't know exactly how I feel about the cross-dressing thing. I don't know if this is going to \"progress\" any further. I don't think there's anything *wrong* with cross-dressing per se but I'm not attracted to women, I don't want to be judged for his choices (our families/friends WOULD judge) etc.\n\nI am absolutely FURIOUS that he waited until we had a child, bought a house... He waited until I was financially dependent on him to bring this up. I feel like it has the potential to change the nature of our relationship and I really don't like that he allowed our relationship to progress so far while lying (even if by omission) about this to me. I sort of feel like he waited until I was \"trapped\" to bring this up.", "summary": "partner waited 5 years, 1 child and 1 house to open up to me about wanting to cross-dress. Am I over-reacting to feel mad that he has allowed our relationship to progress so far on false pretenses?"}
{"id": "t3_1qhabh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "M(29)married and have a crush on my sister-in-law (x-post /r/marriage)", "post": "I've been with my wife for 8 years and married for 4 and we are in our late 20's. We have a really good relationship, the only thing that could be better is the intimacy. My wife has a younger sister who is only a couple years younger than us and over the passed year or so my affection for her has grown stronger. I love her like she is family, but I also have a strong physical attraction to her. The feelings between us seem mutual but I can't tell if they are legitimate or just her being really friendly. I could never imagine cheating on my wife, but her sister seems to just brighten up my day whenever she is around. I don't know what to do to get her out of my head.", "summary": "Married and have a crush on wifes sister. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_16e6qa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Permanent Life Insurance as a private reserve?", "post": "I just hired a new financial planner to help me get organized and create a plan for getting out from under my mountain of student loan debt. I'm 25 years old and have a decent paying job with high potential for growth and a sizable savings account - my biggest hurdle right now is a huge student loan debt with a high interest rate. \n\nHer advice is to take out a personal life insurance policy as a private reserve strategy. According to her, by taking advantage of the MEC I will enjoy tax deferred growth, tax free distribution, competitive returns, high contributions, collateral opportunities, no loss provisions, guaranteed loan options,  unstructured loan payments, liquidity, use and control. \n\nBasically I would use it as a personal bank over time and take liens against it to purchase a home, pay off my loans, etc. Sounds great right? Only problem is everything else I have found says this is bad advice if I ever plan to use the money before I die. I'm looking for a second opinion...any thoughts on this? Any alternative ideas to start growing my wealth?\n\nShe has also advised me to pay the minimum amount on my student loans for as long as I can. This is hard to do because my interest exceeds my payments right now and my principal is growing by about $700/month. Feeling pretty uncertain and any advice would help.  Thanks!", "summary": "Is using a permanent life insurance policy as a long-term personal investment strategy a good idea for a recent college graduate?"}
{"id": "t3_kg2nf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "cyberschool vs. private school advice needed! ( college perspective)", "post": "So I have a ton of questions I need to address,\n\n first my situation: Ive been going to a private, Christian school for 11 years, I'm currently a Junior in Highschool. I have a decent amount of friends, I get along with most people, I play sports, but I HATE SCHOOL. I hate getting up early, I hate my teachers, I hate religion class ( which is completely worthless to me...im sorry but it is) The only thing that keeps my going through the day is sports, I look forward to sports after school and I feel so relieved.\n\n I also have a bit of social anxiety, it's not to severe, my biggest problem is a blush like a freak and when I don't have classes with people I know I tend to feel really tense and on guard. And I blush atleast 50 times a day. I have been learning to control it and it's getting better each day.\n\nBottom line: I cannot stand school, I have to take music and art classes each day, which is completely worthless to me and religion class which is everyday aswell. \n\nI have been thinking about going into cyberschool for the second quarter of my Junior year. BUT my problem is I don't know how that would affect me college wise, Seeing this kid who has gone to a private school and then xfer out Mid school year, also..I kinda feel like I would be giving up, throwing in the towel and not sticking out for another one and a half years, I guess I still have to weigh that option, I dont want to feel weak because I gave up on school. But on the other hand I really cannot stand each day....it's sooo bad.", "summary": "Im fed up with the private school bullshit, religion class, taking classes which are completely useless to me, I have a tiny bit of social anxiety. Im looking into cyberschool but I dont know how that would affect me college wise and I don't want to feel like im giving up on school and couldn't stick it out for a few more years. "}
{"id": "t3_3cj7ld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M, UK] fell in love with someone [27 M/F, US] who I've known for 2 months and have never met. How crazy am I?", "post": "We met online, on a random group video hangout thing, and were both flirting with each other. Our first video hangout lasted about 6 hours, and have easily clocked way over 50 hours since then. Other than that we spend an insane amount of time texting and are always sending snaps to each other. We're both fairly intense people and have already fallen madly in love with  each other. \n\nWe both work full time but I have more flexibility when it comes to taking time off so I'm going to visit for a couple of weeks in a few months.\n\nWe both realise how quickly we've fallen for the other, and have expressed an interest in pursuing something serious if the trip goes well. Neither of us wishes to be exclusive or anything at the moment, neither of us has sacrificed  hobbies, trips, social life or anything to spend time with each other, we mostly just sacrifice sleep to video chat and spend every free moment messaging each other. And yet it seems completely insane that I am considering moving country for someone that I've not only never met, but have only just met recently.", "summary": "Known for very short time, never met, considering moving country to live with her. 6 year age gap. How insane am I?"}
{"id": "t3_1h5f6r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "He's the perfect man... but he's my best friends ex. But she wasn't exactly the best girlfriend ever..", "post": "Here's my story (23/F):\n\nIt's winter 2008. My roommate (F) and best friend since high school (let's call her Mindy) starts dating her second-ever serious boyfriend (let's call him Jack). I carry on dating other people, they carry on dating eachother.\n\nFast forward to fall 2008. Mindy switched schools closer to Jack. She comes up to visit me for a weekend. She fucks a random guy. Mindy tells Jack, Jack takes her back. \n\nWinter 2009 We all get together as a group of friends. I am with my serious boyfriend at-the-time. Friends who were present at this shin-dig later tell me how shocked they were at how heavily I and Jack were flirting. I guess I didn't notice, or see anything wrong with what was being said, but friends tell me he was eyeing me whenever I got up, talked, left the room, etc.  \n\nIn the spring of 2009 Mindy cheats on Jack again. A little bit worse this  time since she lied to him about her \"special relationship\" with a guy friend of hers. This time Jack wizens up and they break up. \n\nSince then Jack and I haven't spoken except for the occasional, \"how's life\" on Facebook (initiated by me).\n\nFor all intents and purposes I think that they had a fairly good relationship outside of her cheating. I do know that they no longer speak. \n\nShe has had two long term relationships (one lasting 2010-2011) and the other 2011 to today. Mindy is happy with her current BF- they live together and have a dog! \n\nSO my burning questions: Is it always wrong to try and make sparks with a friend's ex? How should I approach her? What if I ask for her permission, and he simply isn't interested? Interested in non-biased opinions since I'm too close to it all.", "summary": "if she cheated on him and is in a happy relationship now, can I make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_4wirtk", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[AL] Maintenance has been stealing cash from our apartment.", "post": "About a month ago my roommate had a friend stay over and I had $260 in my drawer. I later found there was only $160. I assumed it was the friend but now I am not sure because a few weeks ago we noticed $60 missing from our drawer, and our door was locked. We assumed it was the maintenance because they live on site and just stand around outside all of the time and have keys to all the apartments. Today I accidentally left $40 on the table when I left to go see a movie. I was gone for 2 hours. When I came back the money was gone, meaning the maintenance guys must have been watching waiting for us to leave to come in and take our stuff. \nIs there anything I can do about it? Theft aside, I thought it was illegal for them to enter our apartment without notice. Furthermore, we have never put in a request for maintenance so there was no reason for them to come in. \nWe have rental insurance but I'm not sure if they cover cash theft. Is there anything I can do to get our money back, or get the maintenance guys in trouble?", "summary": "Maintenance is stealing cash from our apartment. I don't think I can prove it. What can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_rbc0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I just lost the friendship of the woman I wanted to spend my life with. Help remind me there are more fish in the sea.", "post": "Background. We dated on and off for about a year. I'd been through two serious relationships before and feel I have a pretty good grasp on what I am looking for. After about six months of being apart but still great friends, she started dating my roommate's friend. A month in to them dating, I came to realize what an idiot I had been and asked her to take me back. It didn't go well and now we aren't even friends. I know I brought this on myself but I've never met anyone like her and can't see myself finding anyone more perfect for me. So please Reddit, give a guy some hope for the future.", "summary": "Asked my ex to leave her new bf for me and now we aren't friends. Cheer a guy up. When have things worked themselves out in the end for you?"}
{"id": "t3_27k1yg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15M] with my Friend [15F] 9 months , she wants the D?", "post": "This girl and I have been friends since September (The beginning of the school year). And like many friendships it gets stronger within the first 2 months of knowing each other she friend zones me. I go along with it at the time i really wasn't into her. towards the beginning of the school year she kinds gave me her number in a friendly way.\n\nAbout 3 months later she brother zones me. now at that time i was into her, throughout our friendship i always hinted that i wanted to be  more than friends. let me explain her to you.\n\n she is pretty popular she was a freshman and she went to prom with a senior and she has always been in a relationship with someone.she has a lot of guy friends and she always showed more interest in them than me. she was liked when i walked her to class but when she saw another guy friend she would hug them and stuff like that. at the time she never showed an interest in me.on the other hand i have never been in a relationship before i have never liked a girl so much i wanted to date her until now. there was other girls throughout the year that plainly told me they liked me a lot but i felt like they weren't worth my time. \n\nnow back to the story she always considered me as a friend the whole school year. but a few days before school was over. she showed an interest in me, she started saying she would miss me a lot and she just started hugging me every chance she got. me liking her i went along with it. she says she wants to hang out this summer and i want to also but thing thing is i don't know how.\n\nwhere im stuck at is if she wants to hang out like friends or start dating because of previous behavior im confused.", "summary": "I really like this girl we have been good friends for about 9 months. she wants to hang out this summer and i want to be more than friends. how do i approach her?"}
{"id": "t3_3i2mdw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21M] I think my mum may have a mental illness", "post": "Firstly I'm not perfect, not is anyone else in my family. \n\nSome back story, she hasn't worked for 25 years and has been at home raising me and my sister. Sometimes I hear her whisper stuff to herself like when she's washing clothes or whatever. I've never heard exactly what it was. Plus, she isn't great at talking to people, doesn't get social queues well and always seems to say the wrong thing and make you feel bad. \n\nLast night my girlfriend was over and we realized she had no where to sleep as the spare room was taken. And to be honest my older sister(traditional/conservative) is more bothered than my girlfriend sharing the same bed as me. Anyways, we go to speak to my mum at around 12 30(Saturday). I'm already trying to contain the situation with my sister and not feel my girlfriend feel uncomfortable and my mum goes into a fit when we wake her up. She starts swear and launches herself out of her bedroom and is loud and angry, giving very filthy looks. I noped out of there straight away. My girlfriend heard some of it. I'm embarrassed and told her my mum and sister were fighting about something I made up. \n\nI understand the time wasn't ideal and I should have been more organized, but her reaction was nuts. I was pretty stressed trying to keep my sister at bay too.\n\nSome advice? Do I reach out to an aunty, speak to my dad, sister or just wait it out and let it be someone's else's problem.", "summary": "My mum whispers/mumbles to herself sometimes and isn't great at dealing with other people"}
{"id": "t3_10x9ph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[F21] My boyfriend [M19] is treating another girl like he's courting her. What to do?", "post": "Me [F21] and my boyfriend[M19] of 2 years and 7months have been having issues lately (some are small issues like we've had in the past, others are new ones that's starting to bother me).\n\nWe've been friends for a good 2 years before we started dating so we know each other pretty well. We may not have much similarities, but that's one of the reasons why I love him, because I learn so much from him. He's a gamer-geek and because of him I was able to try out video games that I never thought I would ever play (ie Skyrim) and movies I thought I wouldn't watch (ie Pulp Fiction, Ultramarines). \n\nI've never had any trust issues with him before and vice versa. We've never had this kind of issue before and I'm not really sure if I should be having trust issues with him. I guess I'm just worried because we're in a different situation right now -- I've already graduated and he still has about a year of college left. \n\nI know he has new friends, and I'm happy that he does but sometimes he sends me mixed messages. He would tell me about his friends and his day but I can feel that he holds things back, especially when it's about a certain person. I guess what really worries me is that he's the type of person that isn't aware of what he/she is doing. He wouldn't know that someone is flirting with him unless they tell him upfront and he wouldn't know that he was flirting back or entertaining other girls unless someone tells him. I've noticed him falling into a \"pattern\" when he talks to a certain girl, similar pattern when he was starting to court me. We started out as close friends, and I can tell that they're starting to get pretty close. Is this a sign?\n\nI'm not sure if this is just my imagination or I'm onto something. I love him very much. I just want to make sure that this isn't just in my head. What do I do? I tried to talk to him about it, but he misunderstood me.", "summary": "BOYFRIEND IS TREATING ANOTHER GIRL THE SAME WAY HE STARTED TO TREAT ME BEFORE HE COURTED ME. WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP...."}
{"id": "t3_3274pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (21F) and my six other roommates (20-22F). One of my roommates refuses the lock the front door.", "post": "Me and my six roommates all attend university and live in a large house less than a mile from campus. For the most part, we don't see one another much and don't have many issues other than doing dishes, taking out trash, etc. however,  a few of my roommates are very care free people, which is fine, but it is interfering with our living situation.\n\n On nice days, one of them likes to leave the doors and windows to the house unlocked and open, even when she is not home. I will come home from class with everything left wide open, no one home, and being so glad I locked the door to my room before leaving. I will lock the door behind me then go to leave five minutes later and she has come behind me to unlock it and leave it open again. I've sent a message to everyone who lived in the house asking that we please lock the door when we leave so that no one gets hurt or has something stolen, to which I received apathetic responses such as \"but it's nice outside and we need to air the house out\". If I wake up in the night to go use the bathroom, I check the doors and more often than not find that they are all wide open and unlocked in the middle of the night. \n\nI don't know if I am overreacting, but I feel very uncomfortable living in a populated city and college area with our doors left open for safety reasons and if anything were to get stolen. We don't live in a \"bad\" area, but there have been several thefts in our neighborhood lately and a student was shot during a break-in last year. I'm trying to avoid possible trauma but 4/6 roommates are overall apathetic towards the issue.\n\nAny ideas how I can address this or should I just deal with it and keep my door locked until I move out in a few months?", "summary": "roommates leave doors unlocked all day and night, it makes me uncomfortable and anxious."}
{"id": "t3_4kgmc3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] and my best friend [23 F] of ~3 years are in a bit of a pickle, need some thoughts", "post": "Okay, it's really tame for this subreddit but I need thoughts.\n\nI had developed feelings for her (she knew this) before and we went out for some drinks with a couple of mutuals (~3 others). We made out a few times (she initiated) and I left - about a week later, she texts me that she doesn't have feelings for me. Obviously, not her fault and I'd never be angry at her for not reciprocating feelings but rather, what she chose to do (she talked about this situation to other mutual friends we have). She showed some remorse, talked about her bad experiences with boys in the last couple of years and I basically implied that I had forgiven her. I have seen her a couple of times but she has been pretty awkward since (the make out was like, 2-3 weeks ago).\n\nCouple of nights ago, she held a gathering at her house that I was originally invited to - the night before, she texts me and says she's not sure if she wants me to come since she just wants to have a good time. In the morning, she basically says, \"yeah okay, just come\" - so I did - and later that night (after some drinking), she shouts at me that she was so angry that I turned up. I took it as a joke and was like, well, you did say specifically to come. Then she proceeded to tell the story to some of the people there while I was next to her (they essentially said that she was a bitch). \n\nAnyway, other details about the friendship...I feel like I'm not being respected (ie doormat) and what she did was emotionally abusive (because she was aware of my feelings). I can't think of many times that she has actually invited me out to do something with her, just as friends. I'm not sure on how I should proceed with this friendship - either cut it off (which might seem drastic, considering mutuals and all that), not talk to her until she initiates a conversation. Also, I don't want a relationship or anything with her anymore - not after all of this.", "summary": "made out with my bestfriend, not really happy with how I'm treated, not sure what to do - need balanced perspectives."}
{"id": "t3_3kmv2p", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Boston, MA. Landlady gets a new smaller fridge for us. What can I do?", "post": "So I just moved into a new apartment with my two roommates and the previous tenants really did a number on this fridge. It was dinged up on the outside and it was filthy on the inside. When we first looked around in May I didn't think to look inside and I don't know if it would have been the same but I know that it was a decent sized fridge and it was what we were paying for in the rent. \nThe landlady decides to buy a new fridge for us though after we reported to her that it was not in good shape and didn't even seem to keep a cool temperature. She buys a new fridge for us and It is pretty tiny. I am a head taller than it and I stand at 6\"0. The bottom line is, can we and should we get a reduction on our rent or try to do something since the bigger fridge is what was there when agreed on our price.", "summary": "Landlady swapped older bigger fridge for newer smaller fridge. What can we do?"}
{"id": "t3_vf837", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the worst thing that happened to you before, during, or after a music concert?", "post": "Last summer I went to see my favorite band, Ludo. We got to the train station and it was about 90 degrees. It was brutal. The intercom said the train would be arriving late. It then said it again once more a few minutes later. After about two hours, we got sick of waiting. One of my friends went online and apparently all the trains on that track were suspended. We were all dissappinted and decided to go home. WAIT, not over yet. We decide to go to the neighboring town to see if the trains are still running. They are! We run to the trains and all movie style like, we all jump onto the train right before the door closes. Due to the suspended track, this train was packed. Keep in mind it was 90 degrees. In the train it felt like 100. About half an hour in, my side starts to hurt. I tell my brother. He tells me to grow a pair. A few minutes later, my vision goes a bit fuzzy and fades completely to black. I don't remember much cause I was completely out of it, but my brother wrote on his blog about it. Turns out I compltely froze and my lips went white. My brother asks my friends for help. He told me to spit out my gum and he's holding out his hand. I barely heard him telling me. To lighten the mood a bit, I swallowed it. My brother kind of chuckled a bit. Some girl, who was pretty attractive, gave up her seat and gave me water. I could see again. I was chilled and shakey. We decided to get off the train. In the end we didn't go. It would be too hot in a crowded room. We in turn went to a friends house and watched My Neighbor Totoro.", "summary": "Me and a few friends went to a concert. Train line was suspended. Boarded train in neighboring town. I passed out. Instead watched My Neighbor Totoro at a friends house."}
{"id": "t3_f0lol", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Old schoolmate Facebooks me for alumni information: best course of action?", "post": "So she's in charge of the alumni stuff, and she wants my current address, occupation, etc. I'm afraid that giving her this information might lead to further solicitations for alumni-related banquets, funding, idk. I really have no clue how that stuff even works.\n\nI did go to a private school, but I consider these dealings to be over and done with. I'm under the belief that any obligations to my high school would have been completed upon graduating. Am I a dick for not wanting to give out this info? Do I really still have obligations to my old highschool?\n\nSo, should I ignore her message, or is there any reason why I should disclose my private information to her? Help me out.", "summary": "Schoolmate soliciting information on behalf of high school alumni organization. Am I obliged?"}
{"id": "t3_r8jcl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should I sell my pizza shop to my partner?", "post": "Hello again, Reddit. I need more advice, and you guys are smarter than most of the people I know.\n\nIn July of 2010, I opened a small pizza shop with a partner (thanks for the [name suggestions] btw)). So far we've been pretty successful. We've turned a profit since day one; we've already won several awards; we have a loyal and growing customer base, and we seem to just keep getting busier. That said, neither of us is getting rich just yet.\n\nMy problem with all this? It's killing me. I work a ton (every day of every week, sometimes 80+ hours); I don't bring home that much money; I have no life outside of the shop; I smoke a pack a day and am physically exhausted all the time; I'm sick of dealing with customers; we're having a hard time hiring reliable staff; and my partner and I don't always see eye-to-eye.\n\nBasically, I'm burnt out, and I'm thinking about selling my half of the business to my partner.\n\nWhy I'm hesitant: As I mentioned, the business is still young, so the appraisal value is not that high yet (apparently, at the three-year mark, the failure rate for restaurants drops off significantly, so the business will be valued much higher in about a year and a half). Also, I'm not sure what I'd do with myself once I left. (Go to grad school? Get a normal job? Travel a while?)\n\nI'm definitely not going to do this pizza thing forever (food service sucks), so the question is, do I get out now and save my sanity and physical health, or try to hold out for another couple years for more cash?\n\nYour advice is greatly appreciated. Let me know if you'd like more details.", "summary": "I opened a pizza shop with a partner <2 years ago, and we're successful but I hate it. Should I sell my share to my partner now or wait until it is more valuable, at the expense of my physical and mental health?"}
{"id": "t3_2trxmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [23 F] 3 months, she backs away from me when we get intimate and has starting trying to avoid sex.", "post": "Really torn up about this. I love her, but the feeling that she is not attracted to me and is just faking it because she can't take a breakup is killing me.\n\nWhen we kiss, she stops in the middle and ruins the flow. \n\nWhen were about to have sex, there's always 'something'. She's tired, she doesn't feel 'comfortable', it 'hurts' (even though we did not have sex yet, could she be cheating?). I really don't know. \n\nI feel like she 'might' love me, but i don't think that she is attracted to me.\n\nShe initiated sex with her ex, but never with me. And she says (because i stupidly asked) that her ex was 'bigger'. Though i'm not exactly tiny, it still hurts.\n\nDespite all of this, she always wants to be around me. Always texting, showing high interest in other ways. But when it comes to being intimate, well, you can see the above here.\n\nAnyone who has been here before, i would more than appreciate your advice. \n\nI love her, but i'm ready to end this relationship. This, i've discovered, is my line.\n\nThank you.", "summary": "GF never initiates, blocks true intimacy and avoids sex. But always want to be around me. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_128xrk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, How do I (kindly) tell my ex-boyfriend that I dont want to be friends?", "post": "***How do I gently tell him 'no'? I don't enjoy his company, and due to my moral stance feel it completely inappropriate for my new boyfriend.***\n\nHere's the situation: In my teen years I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 3 years. I eventually broke it off as it was too difficult. Three years have passed and he has since moved to my city, but we never talk or see each-other. We are both in new relationships, so I'm certain I've moved on, but has he?\n    \nHe messages me every fortnight asking how I am, and asking why we aren't friends (to which I dont reply). For some freakish reason he still calls my mum, and hangs out with my older sisters. I told him and my family that this weirds me out, but it still continues... \n\nI've been ignoring all of his messages for the past few months but he won't stop! I need to end this (nicely), please help reddit!", "summary": "My ex still wants to be friends 3 years after our break up. How do I say no?"}
{"id": "t3_1iuc94", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [F/33] try to maintain contact and interest in someone new [M/39] with out seeming desperate??", "post": "Throwaway account..\n\nI [F/33] recently rekindled a friendship with an old friend [M/39].  We've both been through a lot over the years, but I know from where we re-met (dating site) that we're looking for someone.  Now I know he's only looking for someone to date right now, where I am looking for someone long term. We've been chatting a lot.  We text each other good morning/good night everyday and have been generally texting back and forth daily.  We have had a coffee date and perhaps gone a little to far in a text or two.  \n\nWhat I am wondering is what's the best way for me to try to maintain what we have, without seeming like an \"OAG\", clingy or desperate.", "summary": "How do I keep his interest and maintain contact with him without seeming desperate??"}
{"id": "t3_351lqg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my husband [28M] of 2 and a half years, found out that he browsed escort ads when i was abroad...but swears on his mom that he never cheated on me.", "post": "I am married 2and a half years back and know my husband for 4years. I recently went abroad to meet my parents and stayed away from my husband for 2months. And when i went back, i found out that he browsed a lot of local escort ads with pictures when i was not there. I was shocked because we video chatted almost every day for these 2 months.\n   when i confronted him, he told me that he would never cheat on me and sweared on his family for that. According to me, my husband is a very good man with a lot of guilt. But am i trusting him blindly?? pls help...", "summary": "husband browsed escort ads when i was absent. But swears he did not do any mistake."}
{"id": "t3_2rlzmg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Here it goes..", "post": "i come here because i just feel really bitter about life, especially late at night when im alone with my thoughts. like, a few years ago, the kid i loved passed away (we never officially dated). and the only real \"boyfriend\" i ever had was a compulsive liar, addicted to drugs, and would put me down about the kid who passed away, as if i wasnt hurting enough. it was abusive. and in the meantime, there was another guy trying to talk to me and i kept turning him down. and 3 years later, i finally told that kid i messed up and he said hes getting serious with another girl. this has happened to me on two occasions.. i wait to say how i feel and then its too late. \n\nthe fact that the only official 'dating' relationship i had was poisonous, and im always late with feelings, and i have no post graduation plans just makes me feel really shitty. i have a dream of moving pretty far from here, and i just think that my parents dont believe in me and wont help me out. if all these things havent worked out for me, and all this bad shit keeps happening, then when is the good coming? i feel like SOOO down all the time, its like a weight on my chest. i know that what is meant to be will happen, but when? will i have bad luck forever?", "summary": "deeply troubled about thinking nothing good is in store for me. "}
{"id": "t3_p08lb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thoughts for being different at prom?", "post": "So, as prom is ahead of me, I was planning on wearing something different. My plan was wearing a stormtrooper suit, but since they're quite expensive, I'm opting for a kilt instead (using the tartan of my family's name).\n\n Now, my girlfriend and I (both 17) have been dating for almost two years now. She is quite opposed to me wearing anything different than a tuxedo to prom. Asking why, she told me that she's had this idea/dream of going to prom, dressed up any everything, since she was quite young.\n\nThe thing is, I'd really rather not go to prom. I don't have that many friends and I just don't like my graduating class. The only reason I am going is because of her. She's quite bent over me not wearing a tuxedo (or at least something traditional) and I'm not quite sure what to do, even saying that she won't go. I told her that either I'm not going or I am and wearing a kilt. On one hand, I'd like to be an individual and be different (well, as different as one can be). But on the other, I don't to ruin her dream of this 'special occasion'.", "summary": "Girlfriend is upset because I'm going to wear a kilt to prom."}
{"id": "t3_2mje4t", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Free tuition or a better education?", "post": "I am a senior in high school looking at several colleges with no particular preference over the other in terms of extracurriculars, size, dorms, e.t.c but the looming factor of student loans is a constant factor for me. I did well enough in school that most average colleges that offer full tuition would give it to me in a heartbeat. The kicker is I'm part of a grade where 50% of the class is in the National Honor Society with 40% above a 4.0 GPA. All the competitive schools give merit scholarships based around class rank and to meet any decent amounts for them I would need to have earned straight A's all 4 years.\n\nI am aware that outside scholarships are a possibility but those still will only make a small dent in the price. I am also being hit by both sides of the argument that employers either say \" I don't care where you graduated as long as you get the job done.\" or \" You went to (Blank), Wow! You've got the job and a bonus, Mr. Qualified!\" (Which I think is a little optimistic, though I do understand the power of networking and connections.)\n\nI just want some advice that can help determine if its worth setting myself back more for potentially increased future gains or if its better to settle for a school that doesn't offer as much education-wise for an easier transition to post-college adulthood.", "summary": "Title"}
{"id": "t3_1f8r30", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My birthday (23f) is Friday and I'm not sure if I should bother asking my boyfriend (24m) for something specific.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years. We have a really good relationship and we're moving in together in August.\n\nThis question is going to sound incredibly stupid but I still wanted to get peoples' opinions on if this is something I should just \"let go\".\n\nAnyway... My boyfriend has always given me nice gifts for special occasions. I've gotten hockey jerseys, an expensive jacket, tickets to see Anthony Bourdain, nice dinners, all kinds of great stuff. I've never gotten treated like this before because I was usually dating someone financially unstable and I was kind of the one who would do the spoiling/treating to my partner.\n\nAnyway... This year my boyfriend has a surprise planned for me. I told him I've never cared about the cost of gifts or getting something \"special\", I would enjoy whatever he got me. What I really want is a card from him.\n\nI know that sounds stupid but I'm a huge card person. I make cards for people on special occasions and put a lot of thought into the message I write in them. I know my boyfriend is not really this type of person and feels awkward writing a message in a card. He's a physically affectionate guy but doesn't verbalize his affection very well or often.\n\nHe wrote me one (short message) card and it literally made my week. I'd really like him to do it again despite knowing it's not really his thing. \n\nBasically... Should I just let this go because it's a small detail, or should I directly ask him (or drop hints)? \n\nI love saving that kind of thing and it's just nice to get an actual message I can look at that says how he feels.", "summary": "Boyfriend of two years is not very verbally affectionate and I kind of want to see if maybe he'd get me a card for my birthday and write a nice message in it. Is the sentiment ruined by asking this? Should I \"let it go\"? Or should I outright tell him I want one or drop hints about it? I know this seems trivial but it's something I care about."}
{"id": "t3_40krou", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] miss my ex gf [19 F], what if she misses me too? Do I tell her how I feel?", "post": "My ex gf and I have been split up for about 2 months now. We'd been together for just over a year. We ended on very good terms. But we had a massive argument a few weeks after and she basically told me she hated me and that she never wants to talk to me again. We started talking casually again about a week ago now. \n\nEven though I know she is still very angry at me on the inside, it's almost like we are best friends again. She tells me the other day that she's going on a date with a guy. I tell her that I'm happy she's moving on. We both hurt each other a lot in our relationship. Some more so than others. But she's unconditionally important to me and I just want her to be happy.\n\nThe real truth though is that I miss her. A lot. The thought of her with someone else...hurts. I'm sure that everyone here knows that pain. My question is, should I tell her? A piece of me feels like she misses me too. She was talking about giving us another go just before we had the argument. Or maybe I just want to believe that she still feels that way about me. After all, why would she go out with someone else so soon if she still had feelings for me? And if I told her all this, that I miss her and really want her back, it could ruin our friendship.\n\nPlease give me any insight you can. I just want answers guys.", "summary": "Should I tell my ex gf that I miss her, or should I stay silent to protect our friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_q68m9", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[request] I have an odd request for all of Loseit!!", "post": "An odd request indeed.\n\nI know a lot of you donate your clothes to goodwill or the likes, but I have a few projects i want to complete and do not have the supplies.  You lot can help though!  Let me explain\n\nI am looking for your old t-shirts.  The ones that just got too big.  The ones you've grown out of.   \n\nI want them to make yarn out of.  I'm a Vet Tech student, and we have some events soon that we sell things at.  We donate to the local shelter all the time, as well as perform essential veterinary procedures on the animals there so they can be adopted.  In order to help raise funds, i want to crochet pet beds to be sold.  They're awesome if you make em from t-shirt material because they're fluffier. \n\nSO I NEED YOUR HELP!!  \n\nOur thrift stores are expensive for some damned reason.  They expect $3.50 a shirt, and i can't afford that, since one shirt does not a bed make.  Hooray for being a poor college student =/   I know your guys have a lot of t-shirts that don't fit anymore, and i'd love to have em =)\n\nas for other fabrics, if its the same thickness as t-shirt, that should be fine.  Or if you have actual yarn sweaters that are not felted anywhere (armpit areas tend to get felted, as in, the yarn does not separate anymore. if you can't see through the yarn anymore then it's felted).  I can pull these apart and re-use the yarn, though it is a much more involved and lengthy process.  \n\nIf you would like to help out, please message me and i will give you my address. =)  I would appreciate the shirts be washed of course.  \n\nAll beds not sold will be used in our hospital for the dogs while they are staying with us there.  So you're still helping the sick puppies and kittens =)", "summary": "I need your t-shirts that are too big, message me for my address to send em to me. I will make puppy beds with em! "}
{"id": "t3_38qkrj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My wife [23f] and I [26m] have argued over a friend married to someone in prison", "post": "Our friend married a guy that she met while he was in prison. he's \n\nserving 20 to life. I don't feel comfortable having him around our son\n\nor our home, but my wife claims he's her son too. I feel she should \n\nrespect my wishes.\n\nShe has also told me not to make her choose between the friend or myself.\n\nI don't plan on doing that but I'm afraid that she would choose the friend anyways.\n\nI'm also afraid that this is going to lead to divorce. He's also \n\ngotten into trouble for conspiricy to commit murder against a CO \n\nsince he's been in prison. I feel like I'm being forced to be ok with \n\nthis but I'm not. My wife is also very easily convinced by this \n\nfriend.", "summary": "Friend married to a dangerous man and my wife wants me to be ok with him being around. Any tips? or am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_2y2938", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I fear the image I left at HS is still haunting me.", "post": "Yesterday I hit up a former high school classmate (now 22). We talked for about an hour about how our lives changed since then, what are we doing now for a living, etc. \n\nIt was a pretty funny conversation, and I thought it went well. We say each other goodbye, and she says she'd like to keep in touch. I feel the same and say that's fine with me.\n\nBefore this we never actually had a real conversation, so I felt this went pretty well and I sincerely looked forward to knowing her better.\n\nOk, so here's the deal now:\n\nToday, there's a post of hers on my FB feed that says something like this (in an image):\n\n\"I hate you, but I won't exclude you because I enjoy seeing you being ridiculous on the Internet. You freak\" \nfollowed by a comment from another of our former classmates \"you're going at it strong today!\"\n\nSo now, it's one of 2 things:\n\nI hugely misinterpreted everything that she said in our conversation, and she was blowing me off from the get-go\n\nor\n\nThat post isn't meant for me (pretty unlikely).\n\nI don't even know this girl that well, and she admitted that she didn't know much about me either. \n\nIs it possible for a person to hate you before she even gets to know you? \nI'm pretty sure you can't do that without outside interference. (i.e. her friends talking shit about me, they're all former classmates of ours) \nAnd this doesn't fit her personality at all, she used to be really nice to everyone.\n\nThis is a bit of a blow to be honest. I feel I should never talk to her again, I don't want to intrude where I'm not wanted, but I'm available to read any thoughts on this...", "summary": "I init'ed conversation with a former HS classmate, thought it went fairly well, next day she calls me a freak over a PUBLIC FB post."}
{"id": "t3_4je2xq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21 F] friend, who I've been interested in for months, is afraid I [22 M] don't have a \"fucked up\" enough past to be with her.", "post": "So I met my friend the beginning of last summer. We got a long really well but she had just gotten out of an engagement and didn't think she could possibly start anything then, so we just started becoming a bit closer friends. A few month later she starts dating someone else, another close friend of mine, and I'm a little hurt but I couldn't get her out of my head. We still had lunch together 3 times a week and hung out. \n\nThey broke up about 2 and a half months ago and ever since then we've been getting very close. I'm graduating college and will most likely be about a 2-3 hour drive away, and she still has a year left. She also leaves to study abroad for the summer for 2 months soon. I told her that I liked her about about a week ago and she said that she felt a connection with me and that she would've said yes when I asked her out last summer. But she said she wasn't over the previous guy, which I fully knew, and was glad I told her my feelings before we both left. I told her I didn't expect anything now but wanted to keep in contact over the summer and see where things went from there. \n\nI talked to her recently and she believes, even if she gets over er ex, she's worried that she's too messed up for me. She's had a rough past and blames herself for some really messed up stuff that happened to her. I'm a fairly happy and optimistic person. I haven't had any horrible experiences like her and she's afraid that my optimism and happiness will be consumed by her. \n\nShe's a beautiful, intelligent person and brightens my day every time I see her. Even when I see her panicking or sad, I just want to comfort her and am not afraid in the slightest. I want nothing more than to be there for her, even in her darkest times. But she doesn't want to hurt me and I don't know what to do to convince her that I can be there for her without destroying who I am.", "summary": "Girl I'm interested in thinks I can't handle her because I'm a fairly positive person and she's had many bad life experiences. How can I let her know I still want to be there for her and I want my happiness to brighten her day instead of the her pessimism darkening mine?"}
{"id": "t3_r9ipx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever had to choose between two people you want to date? How did you choose?", "post": "Just as an example,\n\nMy mother told me she was dating two men, my father and another guy we'll call Mike. My dad seemed scrawny, nerdy, romantic, polite, and was sometimes boring. He was always on time and treated her nice. On the other hand, Mike would usually flake or just show up randomly, drunk. He was very fun and spontaneous. She couldn't decide who to commit to.\n\nOne night Mike took her to a party. Early in the night she had gone out with my dad and still had a flower he'd given her tucked in her hair. She was telling her chick friends about her dating dilemma when one girl asked her to point out Mike. She pointed him out just as he was bending over to light his fart on fire. \n\nHis fart catches on fire, and so does his ass. He got burns all over his butt, balls and legs and had to go to the hospital. My mom choose at the moment. \n\nluckily for me.", "summary": "my mom choose the guy who didn't light his ass on fire "}
{"id": "t3_2rcr21", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to teach my nephew how to play football", "post": "I was helping my dad babysit my five year old nephew yesterday. We were up in his room, where he showed me a plush football he had received as a gift. We started tossing it back and forth and I decided it was time to show him how to snap a football.\n\nI turned around, crouched, and hiked him the ball. He started laughing uncontrollably, repeating that I had showed him my butt (I guess I should mention that he is in a butt/poop phase right now). He started yelling \"butt!\" and trying to add other random words to it... and this was when his (uptight) mother walked in.", "summary": "Tried teaching my nephew how to hike a football; when his mother walked in, he informed her I had just shown him how to do a \"butt-shooter\""}
{"id": "t3_3qibh7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [16] and I [15] are having difficulty communicating.", "post": "As the title says, we just don't know what to talk about or really how to talk to eachother. I really like her (a lot) and she feels the same towards me, and I just don't know what to do. She was grounded for 2 months a couple days ago (her mom's a little crazy when it comes to punishments), so seeing her in person is sadly out of the question. We're both just as awkward in person, anyway... \n\nI've seen on some other places that this happens in every relationship at some point and not to be worried about it, but I never see how to deal with it. Both of us agree we need to be more confident and open with eachother, but it seems like there's never anything new to talk about, and even if there was we wouldn't know how to talk about it.", "summary": "GF and I don't really know why we're having trouble relaying feelings and don't know what to do about it."}
{"id": "t3_3bxmnc", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by grabbing medicated muscle rub instead of the diaper cream.", "post": "I'm happy enough that circumstances have put me in charge of my two year old for the time being, its great to bond with him, it really is.  But today I was changing a number 2 diaper, grinding my teeth to do a good job and not rush through something I loathe doing.  \n\nI notice his hindparts are chafed so its \"ooooook I'll spend thirty more seconds on this awful project to apply the diaper cream\".  Its not in the diaper bag.  Exasperated and in a hurry to get everything over with, I glance around the room, spotting the tube on top of the dresser.  \n\nBeing the conscientious dad I am, I remember my wife's words in my mind: \"Be *liberal* with the usage, it doesn't work if you just dab it on.  So OK, I squirt what had to be a couple ounces worth onto my hands and plaster that crack like I'm grout in the bathroom.  Then I notice that this diaper cream smells *really* strong.  I flip it over, and mirrored in my saucer sized eyes reads \"ultra strength muscle rub\".  \n\nSHIT.  I have ten seconds before this stuff starts really kicking in, and I know that any tiny little bit of this stuff starts tingling/burning in a very uncomfortable way.  I'm wiping away with whatever blankets I can find around me when \"the look\" hits my son's face.  Profound confusion, followed by rapidly increasing vocal action going from an annoyed grunt to extremely loud hollering in a few seconds.  \n\nI'm running around, grabbing wet towels, trying to think fast, while my two year old is slapping his buns on the bed hollering \"it hurts it HURTS!\".  I'm suffering from extreme cognitive dissonance as I'm absolutely horrified and laughing from the sheer sad comedy of the situation at the same time.\n\nLong story short, we finally got all the stuff off him.  Although he kept pouting for awhile saying \"booty huts\", a popsicle made him forget the whole episode.", "summary": "Be very careful to read the label before you give/apply anything to your child!"}
{"id": "t3_tahl0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tell me this isn't a big deal", "post": "Basic Info: I (19) have been dating my girlfriend (19) for almost 2.5 years.\n\nSo my girlfriend went skinny dipping with some of her friends, all girls, at our college the other night.  It was late at night, and they did it in a pond that's on our campus.  Now, this probably isn't a big deal at all, but honestly, I don't like her doing it.  I just don't want there to be a possibility of another guy seeing her naked.  The thought of it just bothers me.\n\nI told her this and we got in a bit of a fight.  She thinks I'm trying to control her, which I don't want to but I realize I am being a bit controlling.  I ended up telling her that I'm not happy about her doing it, but I'm not going to stop her.  She told me that it wasn't a big deal at all, that tons of people do it, and that its just \"youthful fun.\"\n\nI think what the problem is that I have a really negative view of skinny dipping, streaking, and the like.  I just feel like it's really promiscuous and kind of slutty to do in public.  However, if you guys could convince me that it's not bad at all, and just a normal thing for a college kid to do, then I think I'd feel better about it.\n\nI know my view is really conservative, and after typing this out I can see I'm being really controlling. Just help me to understand that this isn't a big deal at all.  I really don't want to be controlling.", "summary": "Girlfriend went skinny dipping with her friends, I got upset about it, am I overreacting?"}
{"id": "t3_33vngi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pulling a Daniel Tosh.", "post": "This fuck up happened Wednesday not today as per usual anyway:\n\nSo my one of my boyfriend's close female friends was drugged and raped recently and he's taken it pretty hard. Just totally can't get his head around how something so random and awful could happen to this girl he respects and cares about so much. Anyway, so he's over at my place, he hasn't really been \"high libido\" since the incident. But tonight he's in the better spirits and so eventually we're having sex. Now I don't mean to humblebrag, but my boyfriend is Italian and crazy tall. Point I'm making here is that his dick is so long it's almost a problem. Anyway, so he's fucking me and I'm making some cute little sexy moans n' shit and he starts getting a little more zealous with his thrusts and the moaning slowly transitions from \"oh\" to \"ow ow ow OW OW OW\" and so he stops:\n\n>Him: \"Oh, sorry I didn't know I was hurting you, ha ha. 'Oh' and 'Ow' sound pretty similar.\"\n\n> Me: \"Haha yeah, walking that thin line between Yes and No hahahaha.\"\n\nAnd his face just stones-up. I can feel him almost immediately go soft inside me. And I just make this face like, \"AHAHA I CANT BELIEVE I JUST MADE THAT JOKE LETS PRETEND I DIDN'T JUST SAY THAT HAHA, HERE LETS MAKE OUT\" and so we make out for a little and I try blowing him some but his dick just is not getting back up then we cuddled for a bit and he left. And I'm over here like, \"How did I manage to be the insensitive asshole tonight haaaaaaaaaaaa\"", "summary": "Made rape joke during sex with boyfriend who's friend was just raped."}
{"id": "t3_2ssbfp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] find it really hard to relate to my peers/make quality friendships.", "post": "Just wondering if anyone can offer some insight.\n\nI'm 21, so I've been out of high school for a few years now. Haven't gone to college yet (will be starting this year) so I've just been working instead.\n\nI really struggle to make friends/relate to anyone, especially girls. I have a few female friends from work that I hang out with pretty regularly, but I can't bring myself to really like them that much. \n\nThe majority of girls I meet seem to be so... vapid and one-dimensional and I can't stand it. All they ever think/talk about is gossip, boys, clothes, makeup, home decor with the occasional 'hobby' such as cooking and going to the gym. Oh and I can't forget clubbing/partying.\n\nNot to mention completely caught up in what is/isn't fashionable, trend following and other such nonsense.\n\nThey don't read books, they find documentaries boring and anything other than what I mentioned above is considered geeky/uninteresting.\n\nI do have a couple of other friends who I really get along and relate to who I've been friends with for years, but unfortunately they don't really live near me anymore.\n\nPlease don't get me wrong, I don't think I'm superior, in fact I kind of envy these girls in a way and wish I could be more like them. I'm just getting so sick of feeling like the odd one out/black sheep in the group. I'm at a point where I'd rather dis-include myself and have no one to hang out with, than hang out with them.\n\nCan anyone relate? Or suggest places where I might meet people who are 'more like me' ?", "summary": "I hate other girls, they annoy me, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1chvmy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M/20] Can feel my relationship with [F/20] slipping away", "post": "Me and my SO have been together 21 months, we met on the internet and live about 100 miles apart\n\nThe first year of our relationship was awesome, we shared everything, literally. We could only see each other roughly twice a month because of the distance, but when we did see each other it was great, we went to see concerts we went on day trips, we had a great sexual relationship... just in the past 6 months or so, we've been fighting a lot more, when we're apart we talk all the time, we're both needy for each other. We enjoy talking to each other, but the fighting is taking its toll\n\nI was planning to move to her city this summer (as i finish studying very soon) but cant quite muster the funds (I have a crappy night job that pays minimum wage)\nwhen i do work, i get home to skype my SO and most of the time she's angry at me, like i shouldnt have gone to work, like i made her feel shit for leaving her, but when asked, she denies this... this puts pressure on me because I HAVE to work, we're both students, we both live with our respective parents, we both understand money troubles\n\nFast forward to last weekend i was able to stay at her place for 4 days over easter. And booked a bus back on the monday. On the commute, after another fight, she put us on a break... We're not seeing other people just (in her words...) finding ourselves, taking some time for ourselves. A week into our \"Break\" nothing has changed, we're both still at our normal schedules, not really taking any extra time for ourselves and we're still texting constantly in the same manner too. But she feels better... i don't\n\nI realise im putting pressure on her to take me back. I acknowledge this is wrong and i should stop. But every day this intense feeling of jealously... of anger, confusion and hurt that im not with her looms over me, I love this woman and i can't be without her, she loves me too but is increasingly threatening to leave\n\nI write to you now, Reddit, On the brink of what looks like a break up, and in desperate need of a rant.", "summary": "My SO grows increasingly unhappy in relationship, I have very little issues, but she's threatening to leave"}
{"id": "t3_pw88t", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "The end of a less-serious relationship...", "post": "My ex (26, i'm 27) broke up with me a few days ago because he doesnt see himself ever falling in love with me. It hurts, even though I completely understand and feel the same way about him. I mean, I like him a lot: I admire him, i find him attractive, I am happy when i'm with him etc so for those reasons I wanted to keep dating because, simply, it was making me happy. \n\nBut i can see that our interests arent very well-aligned, we dont have the same sense of humour and other things like this, so I knew all along he wasnt going to be 'The One'. So anyway, he's made the decision to end it 'sooner rather than later' to minimise hurt. \n\nI am still waking up in the night to cry etc but I think that is due not just to the loss of him but to the sudden general loneliness, embarrassment, self-doubt etc that comes with the end of a relationship. \n\nMy question is about remaining friends: I dont have too many friends in my current location (i moved countries 6 months ago and met him shortly after) so I would really like to continue the friendship. Anyone been in a similar situation to mine? if love is not in the equation can friendship work? How long will I keep feeling shit? Ballpark! At the moment the idea of him with someone else makes me feel sick, but that will go soon, right?? \nWe broke up on holiday and spend three further days together after it happened, just as friends. I like hanging out with him, and so far (only 6 days on in total) we have talked casually every day. I genuinely don't want him back, because I have no illusions of it working out, but I still feel hurt, depressed, embarrassed, powerless, and of course still attracted to him!", "summary": "We didnt love each other but it still hurts. How long until we can be friends?"}
{"id": "t3_3eos1g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my ex [15 F] who I dated for five months without kissing", "post": "First, some background information. We are both in high school, I am a junior and she's a sophomore. We're both pretty smart and I'm a bit of a nerd. We both do theater at our high school but hadn't known each other long before our relationship. I asked her out on Valentine's Day, and broke up with her just a few days ago.\n\nPretty much throughout our entire relationship, I felt like I never really emotionally (or physically) connected with her, because whenever I tried to talk to her about something serious (like our feelings for each other, kissing, etc.) she would reply with \"I don't know\" to my questions, and seem to appear slightly irritated at me asking it, although she didn't remain angry at me at all. She told me that she has an in ability to talk about her feelings to others, including her own family, and she gets stressed and \"shuts down\" whenever she attempts to. I really am attracted to her and honestly besides this, she doesn't have a lot of flaws. She's polite, kind, works hard in school, and cares about her future. However, last week I basically told her that i couldn't take the lack of connection anymore and said that we should part ways for now. Obviously I miss her, but I really didn't see any other option. Does she have some sort of actual disorder, or is it just a part of being a teenager? Should I wait and see if she matures to where she's comfortable talking about stuff and then try a relationship with her again? I really just want another opinion in this because I feel hopeless.\n\n(Please only serious replies)", "summary": "Girlfriend didn't seem emotionally mature so I broke up with her, but am wondering what the best thing to do is now"}
{"id": "t3_161x01", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How to make my money work for me?", "post": "Dear PF,\n\nOne of my goals in the coming year is to understand and maximize my monetary situation.  I currently have only school and car debt, which, combined, is less than $45k (~$40k school, ~$2k car).  I have a solid job, where I currently make ~$70k/year, and I expect a 2-6%/year increase (not including bonus pay, and promotional salary increases), and I have a decent credit score (last check was a few months ago; 750).\n\nI am not against reading to understand my finances for myself, and being able to understand and maximize them is one of my long term goals.  I'm concerned that with my current income, situation, and lack of understanding, that I won't be doing myself the *most* good on my own.   Is it worth the while (ever) to pay someone to interpret and explain your finances to you?  \n\nI'm not against working with someone at fee to learn about these things, or even letting someone else manage a portion of my finances fully in order to help maximize them.  I am concerned with where one goes to get that sort of advice or information, and if it's a useful investment.  Other than 'self teaching', I wouldn't know where to turn for financial planning advice- my CU? My parents in another state? Their financial planner? Peers in this state? Co-workers?", "summary": "Is it beneficial to pay for financial advice and planning?  And if so, where do you go for that?  I've been going ad hoc forever and now I want to get all long-term serious about my finances."}
{"id": "t3_r91s5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "For good or for evil, what's the most vindictive thing you've done to an ex?", "post": "I'll start: My ex and I had plans to move in together, signed a lease and everything. Three weeks before we were supposed to move in, we got in a stupid fight and he ended up breaking up with me. In a text message. After two years of dating. Refusing to talk to me otherwise, a few days later he told me he had found a new place to live and that I should do the same. No explanation. I was supposed to crash at his place for a week after my lease expired; he literally said he didn't care that I'd be homeless for that week. When I asked for an explanation, he texted my mom 27 creepy messages about me, about how I deserved this, etc. I told him to stop harassing my family and asked what the hell his problem was, he said if I ever contacted him again he'd call the police. TO THIS DAY, nine months later, I have no idea what I did or if he just went off the deep end.\n\nLuckily, my now-landlord let me move in early so I only had one day of homelessness. But after all the shit my ex put me through (this is just the beginning), I chose not to find a new roommate. His name is still on the lease so he is still legally obligated to pay every month. He does. I don't regret it.", "summary": "boyfriend of two years dumped me three weeks before move-in date via text message; I'm making him pay his rent."}
{"id": "t3_398pej", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40F] leaving the 'convent' after 10 years.", "post": "I have been completely single for the last ten years. Not so much as a date or a kiss. Quite a few reasons - developed a chronic physical illness that took years to get under control, got depressed from that physical illness, got fat and unfit and stopped living life. Stopped all hobbies and activities and reduced contact with most friends. Also I have always been particular and not into casual relationships so I didn't date for the sake of dating if I didn't feel well enough for a relationship. \n\nSo now my health is a much better and while I am still somewhat fat and unfit, I can't wait until my life is perfect to be social again. However I have no idea how to even begin to explain having lived like a nun for a decade - especially a decade that is in the prime of life (my entire 30s). I don't want to focus on having been sick and unwell but I can't just skim over it as though it didn't happen. I am just starting to get back into hobbies and rebuilding friendships. I also feel like I have forgotten how to date or relate in a relationship as I have been on my own so long. \n\nSo I am looking for tips on how to go about getting back into the dating world. How should I explain my decade absence from the dating scene?", "summary": "Lived like a nun for 10 years, how do I leave the convent?"}
{"id": "t3_12rtdy", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do you deal with a relationship ending due to the other person changing?", "post": "Hey reddit, I've been in a relationship for the last year and the girl is amazing.  She has complimented every bit of me and I've thoroughly enjoyed the time we've spent together.  Our relationship was great, we never fought.  I've honestly never met a girl like her before. However, we have decided to break up due busy schedules not allowing time for a relationship, but our feelings are fully in tact.  I figured that once our schedules slowed down, like they will in the next month, we would be back together again.\n\nThe problem is, I'm noticing that we are just becoming two different people.  I absolutely love her and I'm willing to adjust to keep her in my life, I'm just not seeing that from her.  I'm a rational person and I understand that sometimes people do change and grow apart.  As much as I hope this doesn't happen, I'm starting to think we never will be together again.\n\nSo my question is, how am I supposed to deal with this?  It's not like we have done each other wrong or anything to cause a change of heart towards her.  She's become my best friend and it's sad to see her slowly fade out of my life.  \n\nTo make it clear, I'm not trying to force her back into my life.  I understand people change.  I just want to know how I'm supposed to deal with it, because I'm having a very hard time knowing the person I love won't be there much longer.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I took a break, but we are changing.  My feelings are fully there.  How do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_2cxjkb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] mutually ended my relationship with [22 F] 1 year and a month", "post": "Hi reddit!\nToday i am single, we both wanted to end this relationship, we dont feel like we used to, dont get excited about stuff , i love her she doesnt and she seeks new things (\"want to feel something, not like im withering\"). Anyway, i wanted to end aswell cuz i seek fulfillment in my needs emotional and physical and she is not the right person.\nWhat do i do now? Its my second breakup from long term relationship , last one lasted 2 years and 7 months, and until i met my recently ex, i was alone for almost 1 year. I dont like to be alone, i dont have many friends and sometimes im socially awkward.", "summary": "Now im single and i dont know what to do, where to begin."}
{"id": "t3_3ecbmj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gf(23,F) of two years \"fell out of love\" with me (24,M) soon after starting a strong birth control regiment. What should I do?", "post": "I'm completely at a loss & could use some advice.\n\nBasically, my girlfriend started taking a new, significantly stronger birth control pill to regulate her period about 3 months ago. 3 weeks ago she said she feels she's fallen out of love with me & wants to end things. She said it's nothing I've done & that she's \"afraid of hurting me\" & she's had \"an uneasy feeling about the relationship recently\". \n\nOur relationship had been amazing up until this point. Everyone in her life has told her how amazing we are for each other & she's always agreed. Friends she hasn't seen in years can immediately tell that she's happier than she's ever been because of me. This came out of nowhere & completely blindsided me.\n\nWe didn't officially \"break up\" 3 weeks ago, but we haven't been in contact since, until yesterday. I'll be meeting with her tomorrow to talk. If she still insists it's nothing I've done...what should I say?\n\nI honestly think it's due to the hormonal changes the pills are causing. If something comes up tomorrow like another guy or something, I don't bring it up. But if it's nothing like that, how do I approach the subject gracefully? Nobody wants to hear, \"Hey, your emotions aren't your actual emotions, the drugs you're on are causing them\". I'm so scared of losing her over something that can be fixed. Help?", "summary": "GF wants to end things because she has \"an uneasy feeling\" & thinks she doesn't love me anymore. I think it's due to the strong birth control she recently started taking. How to approach the subject?"}
{"id": "t3_1qhzcm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "16 Year old guy wants to get with 15 year old girl How to go about this!!?", "post": "Hello, Im 16 and theres this girl i like thats a grade below me. i dont see her often, occasionally at lunch, i know she likes to play guitar, and i heard from a good amount of people that she's a huge pervert. i personally know only 1 or so of her friends. i want to get to know her better and eventually develop a relationship with her, but im really bad at conversing with people in general.idrk her opinion of me since we've hardly talked and its only been 2 or so weeks since i started to take in interest in her. i have no clue on how to go about this and start to build a relationship and im just  a total amateur and i need some advice\n\nbtw, i cant play guitar or any instrument for my life.", "summary": "how do i talk to girls and initiate a conversation???"}
{"id": "t3_3o6k9l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29m] give my gf [26f] mixed signals", "post": "It seems I've gotten myself in a pickle somehow and I'm not sure how to proceed. I've dating my gf for a couple months now. We developed a fantastic connection unlike anything I've ever experienced before. Everything seemed to fit together so nicely. There have been a few bumps but we've survived. Last night something strange happened (from my perspective). We and one of her friends were in an apartment. I went to the fridge to get some beer. This fridge is really dirty. The power often goes out in India so there is some fungus in fridge. I make a joking comment and say:\n\n> As a single man, I have seen my fair share of disgusting fridges, but this one takes the cake.\n\nThis deeply upset her because she heard it as \"I am currently single\" where I was using an infinitive to refer to my past experiences. Now she is extremely uncertain about me and my feeling towards her. She said she thinks I think subconciously I'm still single. Which is all extremely curious to me. Naturally I'm quite confused by the situation. I understand why she interpreted the sentence in that way, the temporality is implicit, not explicit. I don't fault her for that, not is it important. The communication failed and so be it. She explained some other things to me (which I can't understand either). I'm doing my best to be patient, kind, and understanding. At the end of the day she feels this way because of my actions (regardless if I had that intention). Right now I feel like she does not trust me at all. If I had heard those same words I wouldn't have given it a second thought. She had the opposite reaction which to me tells the only difference is the frame of mind. Like if this is enough to push her over the edge then she's probably very close to the edge. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I gain insight into her perspective? I'm not really sure what to do differently.", "summary": "GF & I have communication problems which is making the relationship unstable and preventing her from trusting me. Not sure what do to differently or how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_335giu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] am unsure of how to move forward with potential date [20 F]", "post": "Me, and this girl, someone that lives on my street and goes to my college, have been friends for a while. The last 2-3 months we have texted a lot and hung out -- got drunk with our houses, etc. We were flirty together as well. \n\nI never really pursued it because I was in a sort-of thing with another girl that has recently definitely ended (about 3 weeks ago).\n\nIn light of this, I asked the girl on the street out to dinner for vietnamese food which is something we've both said we've liked but haven't found other people to go to for dinner. She said yes and we set a date. \n\nWhen the date arrived there was a huge thunderstorm that night so we decided we wouldn't go because there was a lot of walking involved and planned on rescheduling -- this was about 2 weeks ago. \n\nEver since, she has been much more standoffish -- not replying to my texts quickly (or at all), not hanging out... we have yet to be able to come to a schedule for the date. \n\nTo be fair -- This upcoming week is finals week and last week was a busy week as well. Should I just chalk it up to her being too busy? \n\nAnother important thing to note is for the summer I will have an internship where I will be living with family about 2 hrs away, but would be able to drive back here most weekends (I have a bunch of friends staying at college too). I'll be heading home next week though for 2 weeks before the internship starts.\n\nI really want to kind of nail down where we are at, is it ok to blatantly ask? \n\nThanks", "summary": "Unsure if girl has stopped liking me due to her inaction -- upcoming end of semester is possible obstacle"}
{"id": "t3_1qwqwn", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "My coworker is joining me at the gym today. What can I do to help her?", "post": "Hi everyone! I tried posting this in the Moronic Monday thread in /r/fitness, but didn't get much of a response. In my experience, /r/loseit is much more helpful with sensitive issues, so I thought I'd have better luck here!\n\nSo, this morning at work, one of my favorite coworkers, \"Betty,\" approached me about joining me at the office gym today (I go after work every day). Betty's never been to the gym, but she's noticed my progress in the last six months since I joined, and she felt \"inspired.\" She wants me to show her the ropes, and if she likes it, she's going to join. She basically asked me to tell her what to do the whole time.\n\nI'm not really sure what to show her, though. First, because I'm no expert. I'm not sure I'm comfortable showing her how to lift any free weights, because I've never tried to advise anyone on their form. I know what feels right for me thanks to a couple training sessions, but I don't know what good form looks like on another person. I'm just not qualified. Second, I'm 25 and in decent shape at this point, with no injuries, so I push myself pretty hard at the gym. Betty's in her fifties, borderline obese, with bad ankles. So my routine would not work for her, at least not until she's in better shape.\n\nSo what should we do together today? I really want her to enjoy it enough to come back. I was thinking maybe 15 minutes on the elliptical (low resistance and incline), then picking 4 or 5 weight machines and have her do a couple reps on very low weight. Also, I know this won't be easy for her no matter what, but I want to make it fun if possible. I can sympathize with that feeling of wanting to get into fitness but feeling like you're starting from scratch, and I think the more positive I make this afternoon, the more likely she'll be to come back. Do you guys have any suggestions?\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Taking out-of-shape, older friend to the gym for the first time. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_4fa5q7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my boyfriend [20M], he's staying out late after work. Help me control my reaction.", "post": "So, my boyfriend usually never stays out after work. On Sundays and Mondays, he drives his coworker home, and recently they've been getting a little closer. Tonight he called me (we usually talk on the phone after he gets out of work) and told me he's going to his coworker's house to hang out and play vid games or something. Coworker is a guy too by the way, if that matters.  \n\nWhy does this make me upset? I just really look forward talking to him at the end of the night, and especially since he knew I had a hard day today, it upsets me that we won't be talking tonight. I know I'm being unreasonable. Am I insecure? Am I needy? Is that why I'm reacting in this way? \n\nOn the phone, he asked me how my day was and asked me what I was doing, etc. etc. -- just a quick check-up. Then he said he'd call me after he leaves his coworker's if I'm still awake. And he told me that if I wanted, I could call him to say goodnight when I started to fall asleep. \n\nI just miss him. I won't see him until Tuesday or Wednesday, and we haven't seen each other for like a week. I know this question seems silly, but my neediness is really something I've been trying to conquer, so I'm trying to fight these feelings of being a bit upset.", "summary": "Bf is hanging out with his coworker after work so we can't talk tonight. I know it's stupid, but I'm trying to fight my feelings of sadness (and slight anger) at this. Constructive advice wanted."}
{"id": "t3_jpsun", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girl,sleeping with two bi boys", "post": "First post on reddit ! it's the first time i'm doing this ( sleeping with two guys, who happen to be bi as well) and i'm a bit confused about the situation . It started as them being interested in me and then I found out they're interested in each other, they hesitated to tell me. I feel a bit like I'm the third wheel ( umm.. yeah?) of the wagon now but I'm not sure if i'm just being paranoid or they don't have interest in me anymore. Also I feel like one of the boys is a bit jealous on my relationship with the other one . \n\nI want to know if anyone's been through a similar situation, such a triangle and if there is any advice that they can give me so that I won't mess this up and everyone can just be happy and enjoy this.", "summary": "I'm sleeping with two guys who like each other, i think one is jealous, i need advice from people who have been in a similar situation."}
{"id": "t3_1t8ann", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My mother in law [50.f] planned a gathering with my boyfriend [24.m] and excluded me [24.f], am I wrong in feeling bad?", "post": "My mother in law [50.f] planned a gathering with my boyfriend [24.m] and excluded me [24.f], am I wrong in feeling bad?\n\nWe live together and have been for well over a year. My parents include him in everything. Never have we just not included him if he is off of work. His mother asked him today to spend time at a theme park....never mentioning me. \n\nNow, I realize sometimes mothers want family time. But I guess I just feel a little bad since, well...I live with him and have that day off as well. Had she asked, both she and my boyfriend know that I'll most likely say \"you need some family time--go take her out!\" Or something. They both know me well enough that I wouldn't and don't like to intrude.\n\nToday, my boyfriend spent all day spoiling me so I know he noticed I got kinda upset because I went from giddy to kinda quiet. I tried hard to hide that I felt bad. I admitted and he said he understood and that she probably didn't mean it that way. It's his mom and he loves her so I know he's trying to get me to not feel so bad but it sucks. \n\nYesterday, too, I tried talking to her. Her and I used to talk about relationships and I tried getting advice from her. My boyfriend has an issue with his temper (real great guy but he has a short fuse) and I asked her since she's known him all his life what she thinks I can do that'll help him out. She was short and said she was busy and had to figure it out. I apologized. I was kind of shocked because she was always open and tried hard to advise me before, and seemed happy to do so...I don't know if this lead to that? It's weird.", "summary": "My mother in law [50.f] planned a gathering with my boyfriend [24.m] and excluded me [24.f], am I wrong in feeling bad?"}
{"id": "t3_44366z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] have never been in a serious relationship, and it's starting to worry me. Advice?", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nWell, it's just at the title says - I've never been in a satisfying, serious relationship. I really don't know what's wrong, because I'm in graduate school, surrounded by intelligent, nice, beautiful women, but somehow I can't make it happen and I don't know why.\n\nI've dated a few girls, but only for a few months before they broke it off. Usually their reasons were confusing to me, as if I was just supposed to be \"doing\" something that I wasn't and they were frustrated. Because of that I feel like I can't get experience because I haven't had much experience, and it really sucks.\n\nI put myself out there. I'm social and extroverted. I have lots of friends, including female friends, and they're constantly trying to help me to no avail. \n\nA recurring problem in my life is that I get fixated on certain girls I feel emotionally close to, and I think it holds me back. I have the \"oneitis\" as it's called. I have it now but I just found out the girl is dating someone. It really upset me and prompted my thoughts about this situation.\n\nI know I'm still young. I'm confident that I have a good professional future ahead of me. But for the first time in my life I feel lonely, and to be honest a little scared. I just want somebody to share life experiences with, to laugh with, to love and hold. I feel like I'm missing out on something beautiful, and the longer it doesn't happen the less likely it will.\n\nSo, reddit, what should I do? Any and all advice is appreciated.", "summary": "Never been in a relationship, wondering if there might be a reason I'm missing."}
{"id": "t3_1vkrgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 F] am thinking about asking my friend [19 F] out, however distance between colleges and friend group makes me think twice.", "post": "So, I have a great great friend group (definitely my closest friends) of about seven people whom I would trust with life. We all met at a summer camp and, for the most part, live some distance away from eachother. Now, there is one girl who I think is beautiful, musically talented, and has very similar interests with me. I know that she thinks of me as more than friends because of the last group meet-up during the last week of December.\n\nNothing physical has ever happened between us besides just your basic body language (longer than usual hugs, always sitting close to eachother, legs on lap.)\n\nIf we went to the same college or lived in the same town, the only thing that would discourage me from dating her would be the threat of losing the friend group, but I think that if we did break up that we could totally be friends. But since she lives in Ohio and I in Wisconsin, I am hesitant to start a long distance relationship. I'm not woried about infidelity since we both agree we aren't too into the \"hookup culture\" of college, just the strain of an LDR while in college.\n\nAlso, since I can't ask her out on a date or anything, how would I go about starting the relationship.  We are sending letters to eachother back and forth, and I was thinking of asking her in the next letter.\n\nSo basically, I'm wondering if anyone has any experience in this field or knows someone or has any advice at all. I appreciate the help! Thanks!", "summary": "Wondering if I should start a LDR with a friends from a group of my closest friends."}
{"id": "t3_2rvb2a", "subreddit": "weddingplanning", "title": "[Funny] More conversations from the FH", "post": "My beloved FH is working from home today, drat his eyes, while I'm an hour away in the office. While thinking longly of my bed, I realize that the save the dates that I'd designed & had printed should be coming in today, so I send him a quick message so he'd keep an eye open for them.\n\n>**Me**: Oh hey--We should be getting STDs today\n\n>**FH**: I don't want them!\n\n>**Me**: lol\n\n>You sure?\n\n>I paid a lot of money to get some...\n\n>**FH**: what are you referring to\n\n>**Me**: Save the Dates lol\n\n>**FH**: you spend too much time on that subreddit\n\n>and if you keep it up, I'm going to only speak to you in programming jargon\n\n>**Me**: :'(\n\nI mean, really--who doesn't want STDs?! ;)\n\nHope this story made you smile today!", "summary": "I am threatened with jargon when FH decides I spend too much time on /r/weddingplanning."}
{"id": "t3_1e07qe", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Thinking of adopting. I am away from home for 11h/day; is that too long to leave a cat?", "post": "There was a stray at my apartment complex that was super nice and brought me \"presents\" all the time.  It disappeared one day, and I've felt guilty about not taking it in ever since.\nI've been thinking about rescuing a cat.  I'd get an older black cat, since I hear their adoption rates are low. (In fact, my co-worker who claims to love animals [she has \"the license plate to prove it\"] advised me against getting a black cat simply because she's religious and superstitious.)\n\nI am away from home 11 hours each day (work, commuting, workout, misc), and when I am home, I am usually working on my new side-business.  I'm worried I won't have enough time to play with the kitkit... am I nuts or is this a real cause for concern?  I don't want the cat to get bored/sad while alone in a small apartment for most of the day... especially after taking out of a shelter where it had plenty of other caretakers and cat-companions.", "summary": "Busy guy wants to rescue a cat.  Will it like having a home with no other cats, and where its owner is gone most of the time on weekdays?"}
{"id": "t3_208ya5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Vehicle forfeiture after brother does snow drifting", "post": "Fellow Redditors,\n\nI'm a long time reader with almost no contributions. I've watched many of you assist others, complete strangers, demonstrating the strong community built of selfless individuals here. I sincerely need some guidance here and would appreciate the same. I'm located in NJ.\n\nWhile I was 1500 miles away on a business trip, my brother (17, minor, licensed, and insured) took my car out after a snowstorm and went to a local football field in my community to do donuts - residents apparently called the police and they arrived shortly thereafter. He states he immediately stopped and waited for the officer to confront him. The police ended up towing the vehicle to the station (where it currently resides) and simply brought my brother home to his legal guardian, my grandmother. No official correspondence has been received from the police department at this point - its been 9 days since the incident.\n\nAttempts at retrieving the car have been unsuccessful. Initially, I was told that I could not obtain the car as there was a hold pending investigation and that I could get it back once these investigations were complete. Today, after countless calls to both the trooper that was on site, and the sargent on duty at the time, I was contacted and told that they have applied for forfeiture on the vehicle. \n\nDue to the ongoing and aggressive nature of my brothers activity, I've been told there is $3800 worth of damage. I want to make it clear that I acknowledge my brothers wrongdoing and will ensure, as the courts most certainly will, he repays back the township in more ways then one.\n\nMy issue here is that I've committed no crime but am somehow being punished. I'm an upstanding citizen that has no record, is a good person, and treats everyone fairly. Is this legal? Is it possible I could lose my car over this? If so, how can someone take my property like this? What are my options? What can I do?\n\nIt's worth noting that the car is complete legal and is registered, insured, and maintained as required by law. Additionally, there were no weapons, controlled substances, gambling, or prostitution involved here. According to NJ sanctions on this topic, apparently they play a role in the outcome. What I've stated is what happened, nothing more.", "summary": "17 year old brother takes car I own, does donuts in the snow of a county football field causing damage, police impound it and state I may never get it back."}
{"id": "t3_w4lp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I saw my friend's girlfriend with another guy. Should I tell him?", "post": "A little backstory here. \n\nA few years ago, I started a two years program preparing students for selective schools (French system, nevermind). I befriended the guy, let's call him Max (18 at the time), and we would hang out with two other friends I made at the same time. A few months later, he started dating his girlfriend, let's call her Jen, who was in the same class.\nThey became very exclusive of everyone else, and spent all their time together, leaving no space for other people, so we stopped talking although we were in the same class. They stayed together for the two years of the program, and then were admitted to different schools, in two different cities.\nA few weeks ago, Max started chatting with me on Facebook. It was the first time he spoke to me since the last time I saw him two years ago. He told me him and Jen were still dating, and I was truly amazed at their commitment to each other.\n\nA few days later I saw her in the subway with another guy (we live in the same city). They seemed fery flirty, and then started kissing. It was obvious they were dating. She didn't see me though.\n\nNow I really don't know what to do. Usually I would keep my mouth shut because this is none of my business, plus Max is not a close friend so I don't know if I'm in the right position to tell him. But I should mention here that Max spends a LOT of money in Jen. I always thought she took advantage of him (he's kind of wealthy), at least let's say I don't have the same conception of a relationship. Still, it's bugging me to see that he keeps buying her explensive clothes, taking her to restaurants, trips... for nothing. It's not like she cheated on him once, she is literally dating another guy at the same time.\n\nSo Reddit, what should I do?", "summary": "my friend is dating a girl for whom he spends a lot of money. She is dating another guy at the same time. Should I tell him?"}
{"id": "t3_4nvm0x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know how I feel [F/20] with my boyfriend[21/M] roughly 10-11 months", "post": "So..age old dilemma. I've been with my boyfriend for roughly 10-11 months, and I haven't been able to say \"I love you\" to him...I underwent a lot of scarring trauma past few years, and initially felt like my emotional disconnection was due to this, where I had trouble processing or just letting myself feel emotions; have been seeking psychologists and am still working on it. That being said, now, I'm starting to wonder if there are internal factors.\n\nOn paper, he is lovely.\n\nI keep feeling like something is missing when I am separate from him, and am a bit empty. He is a sweet, sincere guy with a good heart and I know he loves me. He knows how I feel, and this makes me feel all the more guilty for not being able to reciprocate. \n\nThat being said, I want to feel the desire to love him back, not like I am entitled to, if that makes sense. I've asked for breaks, even an open relationship, but then I didn't know if this was the right way to approach it.\n\nI would appreciate any and all thoughts, ty :)", "summary": "Been with bf of 10-11 months, I dont know if I love him, what should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2cn87h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with someone I was involved with [22F], now 'close friends', but I still like her, looking to change things.", "post": "I know I shouldn't have ever become involved with her (though the definition of how involved we were is debatable) as she is in a long distance relationship. That was months ago, and she had enough sense to truncate our relationship before it even started. We did kiss once, and said some things but that's not terribly important, as we couldn't be together. \n\nBut she wanted to remain friends. And me, a guy who was still reeling from how things had gone down, both angry and in love with her, agreed to remain her friend. I know how dishonest that is with her (because I still had some dumb hope that we could be together, and she wanted a friend) and dishonest with myself (because I knew deep down I would probably always love her). \n\nThe past two months have been rocky. She has much more control over her heart apparently and no longer has feelings for me. Things go from good to bad. She goes from hot to cold. I go from angry to happy to depressed. But hey **didn't we all know that nothing good would come of this?** And now with summer coming to an end I will no longer be in class with her in the incoming semester.\n\nSo I ask you /r/relationships, if I am truly honest with myself and her and it is unfair to both of us to remain close friends as I still have feelings for her, do I tell her all of this and say \"I'm sorry I just like you too much to be this close to you\" (or something along those lines) or do I say nothing and tacitly allow the friendship to fizzle out in the coming months. Or do I just scale back the amount of time I see her and try to meet someone new.", "summary": "I am close friends with a girl who liked me at one point, but I no longer feel as though I am being honest by remaining her close friend, when that really isn't my intention. Do I tell her, let it fizzle out, or scale back time with her and find someone new?"}
{"id": "t3_2yd1il", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend and I [18/M] both like the same girl [18/F]", "post": "I've always had an eye on this girl \"lissa\" and we've been friend/acquaintances for a while. I'll see her nearly every day and well say hey and small talk for a bit before we go our separate ways.\n\nWe have prom coming up A week or so ago I was just having another one of those nice short convos when her and I realised stuff I hadn't realised before. She had pretty blue eyes and lush blonde hair that I'd love to play with. So I delayed whatever I had and just talked to her. It was great! We had common interests and we really hit it off.\n\nWhenever I talk to a girl I like I really get nervous and I hadn't texted her before so it took me a while to balls up and text her for the first time. It was going really well! She was laughing and we were both having a great time. However abruptly out of nowhere she just stopped the texts. It was just a jolt.\n\nI don't make much of it. So next day (still haven't got a text back) I was just talking to my best friend about Lissa for the first time and he tells me my other friend had also been talking to her for a week and wants to go to prom with her.\n\nI'm just not sure what to do at this point. We were really hitting it off until the sudden cut off and my friend who is also interested in her has also been talking to her for a week. Do I go for her and ask her to prom in person; do I talk to my other interested friend?", "summary": "Girl I like also has interest from one of my other friends. Do I go for her or leave her for my friend?"}
{"id": "t3_2s37n9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M]with my ex [17 F] of two years, I feel like im back at square one", "post": "So, we broke up during the second week of december, which was right before winter break. During winter break, I was sad and laid in bed crying for the first couple days etc. Then I started having fun with friends, hitting the gym, and shit. I felt an improvement and that I was starting to move on. She moved on way quicker than me shes already back with her ex. \n\nNow, today was the first day of school back from break. I cant stop looking at her. She talked to me about some classwork and it was hell. I just feel like shit again. I fe lonely again. When I saw her, that feeling of emptiness came back. I dont know how to fix this please help.", "summary": "Feel like I've moved on during winter break, but come back to school to feel like im right back at square one."}
{"id": "t3_1io8pq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[23F] broke up with my [25M] boyfriend after almost a year of dating. Ended badly. Now don't know what this means.", "post": "A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend, because I felt we were drifting apart.  I was feeling lonely, and tired of feeling like he would rather be doing something else.  I don't really think all of me wanted to end the relationship, I just wanted to see that he really wanted to be with me. We were dating long distance as well, which makes things even more complicated.\n\nAfter I told him I wanted to breakup, he didn't say anything.  I would try and text and call him and tell him that I wanted to talk, but he would never reply.  He did text me once in the early morning, when I'm assuming he was drunk, to tell me that I ruined everything. And then he never replied when I tried to bring it up. Eventually I just gave up, realizing that he just didn't want to speak to me ever again.\n\nThen, this afternoon, he texted me for the first time since our breakup, and it was a scary picture of something I'm terrified.  He used to do this all the time when we were dating, and always as a joke. So I don't know what he was thinking, or why he did it. I'm really confused.", "summary": "Broke up with my boyfriend.  He then refused to talk to me whenever I texted or called so I gave up.  Texted me for the first time this afternoon with a scary picture of something I'm terrified of."}
{"id": "t3_115df2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The good girl(26) was revealed as the slut I M(28) don't know what to do now.", "post": "I meet this girl 6 months ago. It had taken me some time to get her number but from our very first date everything was magic. She was reserved throughout mostly but at the end of the night after a little dancing I went in for the kiss. It was a first date but it went through quite nicely. Days later we spoke about the kiss and she said it was something she didn't do. She said that she wasn't like that and that she was a good girl. I said fine. That gave me confidence that I was unique while also instilling in my mind that this girl has some virtue to her(which to me is good). 2 weeks pass and we have sex. 2 months pass I'm in love. 3 months later she drops a massive bomb on me.\nShe tells me that she was traveling the world for some time and she would sleep with random guys a lot. It got so much that she was one week having sex with 3 different guys. I felt like all the stuff she told me about {she doesn't kiss on the first date and she's a good girl} were disingenuous. She even told me she was having unprotected sex with one guy because he refused to wear condoms and she just kept sleeping with him ( while sleeping with the others too). She even made it a point to sleep with him one more time before leaving that particular country. What would you do or think about this situation. I'm at a loss and my brain is fucked behind thinking about it.", "summary": "girl poses as virtuous (I don't do that type) guy falls in love then months later girl tells guy she was a massive international sperm toilet for guys who she calls \"gross\" while traveling"}
{"id": "t3_wguc9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I be worried about my boyfriend's relationship with his ex?", "post": "So some background: I'm a 18 year old female and my boyfriend is a 20 year old male, his ex is a 22 year old female. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. He and I attend the same college, but are currently dating long distance as I live on the Canadian border and he lives just outside of NYC.\n\nI guess I'm a little concerned about their relationship and am just looking for some advice on how to handle the situation and if I should be concerned. We have had some issues in our relationship in the past (stemming from the fact that his female friends treat me horribly and I really just don't know how to handle it...but that's a different story) and she has been involved- as a side note, they were together for 5 months, most of which was long distance. During one of our rough patches, where I was upset that his female friends would refuse to talk to me and called me numerous inappropriate things and he refused to stand up to his friends, they talked about me and she called me a \"psychotic, immature, insecure, pathetic bitch with trust issues\". Honestly, I really don't think I'm any of those, I just don't like being treated poorly and expect my boyfriend to stick up for me. \n\nThe other week he texted me saying that his ex had invited him to her family's beach house for the weekend and he wanted to go. I told him that I was uncomfortable with it and he reluctantly agreed not to go. I'm extremely uncomfortable with their relationship, they hang out all the time and honestly, if their relationship allows her to bad mouth me, I'm not going to be comfortable with it. \nAnyway, how would you all handle this? I'm really just at a loss.", "summary": "Boyfriend is weirdly close with his ex. How should I feel? What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1gq4a8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My sister (19/f) is going out with a guy (35/m). And as her brother, I find this really, really weird.", "post": "I'm not sure if it's just a phase, a normal relationship, a common occurrence, or a potential pedophilia-type situation. But here is the story:\n\nAbout six months ago, my sis announced that she has a boyfriend, I didn't really care much about the relationship until I found out about that guy's age, which is 35. I'm not a pro on relationships, but according to my experiences and some logical thinking, that doesn't really seem 'right.' My parents (asian, chinese) are sh*tting themselves and I'm just worried about the motives of this particular man. The only info I got on him is that he and my sis hooked up because they met each other through music (she plays the violin and he prolly plays the cello), I don't know much about him as my sister stopped communication for 6 months already, because she claims that my parents have been telling her to 'be careful' and she does not view the guy as a threat, etc, etc.", "summary": "> My sis hooked up with a 35 yr old guy, she is 19, something seems fishy. What should I do? Communications have been halted. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_130rz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Ladies of Reddit, I (22M) know I am going to marry my current GF (21F).  We've been dating for over 5 years.  I want to ask her to marry me soon (within a year) but she knows that I am going to ask her soon. Will it make it less special?", "post": "I am just so worried that because we have talked about it quite a bit and we are both certain we want to be with each other forever that the act of asking her to marry me is something that will be very underwhelming. I want it to be special but it is tough to surprise someone with something they know is coming.  I feel like I almost need it to be special and not just feel like I am going through the motions of this whole thing. Will it still be special for her?\n\nLadies, help me out here, is this the case?", "summary": "= Popping the question might not have wanted effect and that worries me."}
{"id": "t3_4yt3qu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Someone keeps trying to reveal my name on reddit", "post": "I like to use reddit with the feeling that I'm kind of \"anonymous\", but recently it's not possible to do so.\n\nApparently, a user (/u/lol_my_balls) seems to know my real name and yes, he keeps harassing me in PM in a possible attempt to enrage me and make me do rash things, which i luckily did not do.\n\nIf it helps, I can show you the screenshots. Really looking forward to a solution as I do not want to browse reddit with people knowing my real name.\nI request that the reddit moderators delete the comments from lol_my_balls revealing my name on my other thread in this sub.", "summary": "how do I stop people from knowing my real name in reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_2u1mu1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Im [16/M] and need some advice on how I can tell a [16/F] how I like her.", "post": "Okay so basically I met this girl I like through an app called fling and we have been talking for 2 weeks. Just normal things like selfies and talking about random topics. I really like this girl and she has been all I think about since I met her, at school, work, anywhere really. I haven't even been doing what I normally do such as playing video games with my friends...I just want to talk to her. Shes from Germany and im from the US so thats obviously a problem. It seems like she likes me in a relationship kind of way by the way she talks but im not sure. Whats the best way I can let her know I like her without outright telling her and forcing it onto her? Im not sure how different our cultures are so I dont want to shock her. And no im obviously not expecting this to turn into a serious relationship as we live halfway across the world. Thanks for the advice and sorry if it's long.", "summary": "need to know how I can tell a girl I like her without directly telling her."}
{"id": "t3_30kdio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (20 M) is being ignored by the guy I'm seeing (24 M) out of nowhere.", "post": "This guy messaged me on instagram about a month ago and we have been talking every day since (he found me on tinder). We have gone on two VERY good dates and communicate as much as we can through text and phone calls throughout the day because our schedules are both crazy this time of year.\n\nOn our second date we knew we weren't going to see each other for at least a week after that so we both deleted our tinder accounts because we have been extremely comfortable and confident with how things have been going. I have never experienced things going so well so soon when dating someone. We have made sure not to rush into anything, but we have both remained very transparent with our feelings and how much we like each other.\n\nHowever, as this week has been progressing I have been hearing from him less and less. We were originally planning on hanging out Sunday night and I have been trying to confirm those plans starting last night and into today, but I haven't heard ANYTHING. I sent a couple texts and tried calling to try and confirm plans then just to ask if he is okay and making sure he's alive (this is very out of the blue for him). Still nothing. I'm not concerned about him being okay anymore just because he has been posting on social media today (ouch). We haven't ever fought or anything, actually no bumps in the road of any kind.\n\nI just would like to know what my next steps should be? I really like the guy and he has always been the one to stress transparency. It has left me bummed out and confused obviously.\n\nThanks in advanced guys.", "summary": "I am being ignored by someone I really like for no clear, apparent reason."}
{"id": "t3_4m7icy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] In danger to get kicked out of college help!", "post": "**Sorry for my English i'm a french speaker.** \n\nSo as the title say i'm in danger to get kicked out of my college.The reason why is because i'm currently failing my network.The real reason why i'm failing my course is because the final exam you need to save your work on the teachers portal and I think my files got corrupted otherwise I had good grades  for my but because of the 0 I just got (due to the corrupted files) and the exam being 40% of the whole grades i'm currently failing.\n\nI don't know what to do,I studied a lot for this exam and this course a lot this semester and I'm in danger to get kicked out...I sent a message to the teacher to explain my 0 but I have little hope that it will help.Does any one have an idea on what to do?", "summary": "Currently failing a network class,and in danger of being kicked out of my school,because the final exams(40%) files got probably corrupted  while saving in my teaches's portal and I'm currently sitting at 0% with this exam and failing the class.Help!"}
{"id": "t3_2kpjas", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Weird situation. My wife[23F] and I[30M] are probably getting a divorce. Unrelated, my ex-wife[28] from 10 years ago is for sure getting a divorce. Ex-wife and I have one kid together. She suggested we become roommates. Thoughts?", "post": "I married my ex-wife because I knocked her up and yeah, that was two stupid moves. We got divorced maybe a year and a half later. The divorce was really stupid, and she was really bitter at first, but 10 years later we have a pretty good co-parent relationship. She's been married 8 years, has two kids with her current husband. I've been married 4 years, and have no kids with my wife.\n\nMy ex-wife calls me crying last week because she thinks she's getting a divorce. Friday she tells me she was served with divorce papers. I tell her about my wife going insane and getting locked up in the mental hospital, and that we're probably getting divorced too.\n\nShe jokingly said that we should rent a house and be roommates. A few hours after getting off the phone with her, I was like, that doesn't sound like a bad idea. I talked to my ex-wife some more and I told her that it sounds like a good idea, but it's really something I need to think on. I don't want to be setting ourselves up for failure.\n\nIt sounds like a good idea to me. Split bills 50/50. No romantic interest between the two of us. Get to see my son daily.\n\nMy mother brought up that this wasn't a good idea because we have bad history together and would fight. But my ex and I have agreed that we would not be romantically involved if we moved in together.\n\nAlso, a friend said this could be bad for my son if he thinks his parents are getting back together. We divorced when he was 1, so he has never known us together.", "summary": "Ex-wife is getting a divorce, I might be getting a divorce, ex suggests moving in together as roommates."}
{"id": "t3_1s028q", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by putting a spoon in a microwave.", "post": "Hello Reddit, here's my story.\n\n  Today in school I got isolated because i was being disruptive, I was put in this room with a microwave and some draws...\n\"Hey, Varicto! you know what would be a good idea?, Put a spoon in that microwave and set it to 30 seconds!\"\nAnd so I did because i'm weak.\nas soon as I realized what I had done, I ran like Usain Bolt, running to the school gates waiting for something to happen.\n30-45 seconds later the microwave blew up and the fire alarms went off.\nI was caught and Now I've possibly got myself kicked out of my school for good.\nBrain, I hate you.\nVaricto, You're weak.\n\nSo yeah, Reddit.\nTIFU", "summary": "I put a spoon in a microwave and it blew up."}
{"id": "t3_4k86rv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27/F] obsessing over something stupid that my bf[28/M] of 5 months did/said a few months ago", "post": "Ok so this is probably going to sound stupid, but a few months ago my phone broke and I needed a new one. I called my aunt and asked if she had an old phone I could use until I could get a new one and she said she traded all of hers in. My bf knew I needed a new one because mine wouldn't work at all and at the time I swore he said all of his old phones didn't work. He has an old phone by his bed and I always thought \"why doesn't he get rid of that phone if it doesn't work?\n\nThen recently he mentioned getting his old phone to listen to music on it and last night we were talking about old phones and he said he still has his original smartphone and that it still works.  I said \"where were you when I needed to borrow a phone a few months ago?!\" He said he didn't remember my phone breaking and he didn't offer one of his old phones \"because he didn't think of it\". Now I'm worried that he's got stuff on there that he's hiding from me, even though these phones are several years old. For some reason this is really bothering me. What should I do?", "summary": "Bf didn't offer to let me use one of his old phones when mine broke a few months ago. I thought he said they were all broke, turns out at least one of them still works. I'm a little worried that he's hiding stuff from me, even though these phones are old and from before we were together."}
{"id": "t3_1qt1vg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] broke up with my girlfriend [23 F] of 9 months and I'm crushed", "post": "She [23 F] was an amazing person in many aspects, she was childish in a good way, full of energy, super caring and loving, and also very beautiful. The problem was she would get angry very easily and we would fight a lot, she started being very negative and almost everything I told her she would have something negative to say about it and I would feel bad, even the sex got affected, I wouldn't always be able to give her an orgasm and she would pretty much tell me I sucked at it and wasn't putting any effort, to my defense I had no problems on my last relationship getting my ex off so I know I couldn't have been that bad. It ended up being too much for me and I had to leave her.\n\n---\n\nIt's been a couple of weeks and I am so sad, I keep telling myself all the negative things about her so I can feel better about breaking up with her but then I remember all the good times and it's crushing, I know I have to move on but I feel so hurt.", "summary": "dumped gf of 9 months because of her negativity, now I feel sad."}
{"id": "t3_21m5sq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband [28M] has anger problems that scare me [28F], how can I make him see the problem?", "post": "I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 4. Overall we're very happy. No infidelity or money issues and we're both on the same page for the big stuff like kids, home ownership and where we'd hideout if there was a zombie apocalypse. There's just one thing that I can't cope with and it's getting worse.\n\nHe has real anger issues when things don't go his way. \n\nHe screams, shouts and throws things when he loses in a video game or if his sports teams concede a goal. If the playstation won't connect with the TV or the gadget he's trying to fix won't go back together he'll swear and hiss and generally become very unpleasant. \n\nI'll say now that I have no fear for my personal safety. Although he can be violent, it's never to me or any living thing. That isn't the source of my concern.\n\nI grew up with a very violent and abusive father. The whole family walked on eggshells around him because you never knew what would set him off. I have mental and physical scars from my childhood and one of them is a deep fear of angry men.\n\nI have explained this to my husband in every way I can think of. I've spoken to him when he is calm, pointed it out to him when he is getting angry and, unproductively, engaged in long arguments about it when he is in a full blown rage. Nothing I can say or do seems to stop him, he won't remove himself from the things that make him angry. He won't turn off a game when he starts to get mad, he refuses to step away from his triggers and just calm down. If I point out that he's getting angry, he just gets worse and will swear nastily at me.\n\nHis anger causes anxiety attacks in me, I can't help but be reminded of a time when I had to fear a man I should have been able to trust. He knows this and yet refuses to change.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "SO of 10+ years gets incredibly angry, knows I have anxiety issues because of it but won't stop. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_36y78s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20F] girlfriend and I [22 M] still haven't had sex after 7months of dating and still no \"I love you\"", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7months and I've never fallen for someone like this before and she tells me that is the case with her as well. However, I am not able to tell if the fact that she is still not ready to have sex as a red flag or not. She is a virgin and is waiting for the right person, it isn't for religious reasons. But it worries me that after this much time she still doesn't believe that I am \"the right person\". We still hook up and do other things and after talking about sex a couple times I basically just said I wouldn't ever bring it up and let her decide when she is ready. I don't want to pressure her but I don't know what to do.\n\nIn addition, neither one of us has said those big 3 words yet after that much time. I am certain that I feel that way towards her, I have completely fallen for her, but I don't know how I feel about expressing that before we are completely intimate. I also have reservations about being the first to say it because I have always been the one to initiate conversations about our relationship and intimacy. It would mean so much more to me if I heard her say it first rather than the \"yeah, me too\" that I am so used to hearing.\n\nShould all of this be a red flag that maybe things aren't going to go anywhere? Should I let her find someone else that maybe she would feel more comfortable with? I'm not sure what to do.", "summary": "GF and I still haven't had sex or said I love you after 7months. I'm not sure if this should be a red flag."}
{"id": "t3_3an79e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] ex-girlfriend is still in love with me [19M], I love her but I'm not in love with her and I have no idea what to do", "post": "We were dating for a while until a few months back, since then we've been off and on, not exactly seeing each other but neither of us have moved on. Over time my feelings have became less and hers have became more (she still gets butterflies from me, I get none from her). \n\nI feel as though I'm no longer in love with her whereas she's in love with me. We still see each other but emotions are running high and I have no idea what to do as I don't want to be in a relationship, but I don't want to lead her on. \n\nThe problem is I want to let her go but the thought of her being with anyone else is heartbreaking for me. I know I'm stopping her from being happy but I can't bear the thought of her falling in love with anyone else. I realise this is extremely selfish and that I'm messing her around and that isn't fair on her.\n\nI can't be in a relationship with her however because I'm not in love with her and therefore it wouldn't be right on my part. I can't even spend time with her or go out to the cinema etc. with her because of the same reason. I just feel so unbelievably guilty. \n\nI love her so so much and I just want the best for her. But I just can't let her go. \n\nAnother thing that is stopping me from letting go is the totally irrational fear that I won't find anyone else and that no one will fall in love with me again. And I realise it's totally stupid to think that but I can't stop myself from thinking it. It's almost like an innate fear.\n\nPlease, if anyone can give me some advice I'd appreciate it so much.", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend is in love with me. I love her but I'm not in love with her, I want to let her go and let her be happy but I can't. Help."}
{"id": "t3_13a0g1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you break up?", "post": "So I [20/m] strongly think my gf[22/m] and I will be breaking up soon. She says that we are simply too different in our beliefs. This is my first relationship and I have no clue how to handle it. We had an arguemnt that stemmed from something stupid and we decided to settle it Sunday as I am busy with school work and she is with her sorority things. \n\nI want to know how to handle it? What do I say? How can i make sure that we end peacefully and without resentment? So I ask you reddit to please tell me how you break up and what you do to make sure there is no bad blood between the two of you.", "summary": "how do you break up?"}
{"id": "t3_e9fjg", "subreddit": "self", "title": "So, Where's All The Slo-Mo Porn?", "post": "High speed video capture is prevalent in contemporary television and advertisements.  For less than $1000 one may purchase a camera that can do 200-600fps.  The Science Channel even has a 30 minute program based around two dorks and a bunch of high speed video equipment, it's called Time Warp.\n\nAnyway, where's the 1200fps money shots?!?\n\nIn pornography's golden age of the 1970s, porn was shot on 16mm film.  This allowed the cinematographer to shoot slow-motion by running the film through the camera at a higher rate than normal.  The best films of this era have beautiful shallow DoF slow-motion sequences, oftentimes with full bush!\n\nFor years, video cameras were locked in at 30fps (NTSC).  True slow-motion isn't possible, fake slo-mo looks like shit, frames are repeated and motion is stuttered.\n\nThis is no longer the case!\n\nThere's 100 guys on youtube shooting water balloons with airsoft guns at 600fps, but for some reason I'm still watching Alexis Texas bounce around at 30fps.  This is unacceptable.\n\nHD content is everywhere, but I'll take framerate over resolution anyday.  Porn is usually at the cutting edge of technology, but they are sadly trailing in this respect.", "summary": "1200fps squirting pussy."}
{"id": "t3_1dsrzw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20f] first relationship. He says he might finally be able to feel deep feelings again...but after six months?", "post": "Okay, I am just very confused. I really need unbiased perspective on this. So this is a \"long distance\" relationship (we see each other on average every 2 weeks, but now get a full few weeks together), and we've been dating almost six months. He told me at the beginning of our relationship that he was...damaged? Not sure what word he used. Seemingly from whatever happened with his last girlfriend. I think they had been separated for 7-8 months before we started dating, and their relationship was like a year and a half.\n\nWell last night I finally got the details of what he meant. He says he thought she was perfect, and that his senior year when he was dating her was the best of his life. But that then she went to school and decided he wasn't as important to her as she had said. That messed him up, and he admits he shouldn't have believed she was perfect. But he says ever since that break up he hasn't felt capable of feeling deep feelings, and that now he is feeling anxious because he thinks maybe we are at that stage...and that so far he has been very guarded (I have too).\n\nI got upset because that means at the beginning of the relationship he knew he couldn't feel deep feelings. I didn't think that was fair to me. And I don't want to have to \"coach\" someone into feeling again...I shouldn't have to. It also seems like he's not over her...but he claims he is enough and no one is ever COMPLETELY over another person. Am I right in being upset? I have no idea how to proceed from here...\n\nAnd an outside issue--for the past few days I have been really distant with him because frankly he was annoying and I am pretty pessimistic about us spending longer than 2 years together (that is when I graduate)...I haven't told him that.", "summary": "Boyfriend of six months finally says he may be able to develop deep feelings for me...but apparently has been closed off and incapable of doing so for our whole relationship thus far. What does this mean for me?"}
{"id": "t3_2olkpy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The girl I'm dating [20f] told me [20m] that she is anorexic. How can I be supportive?", "post": "I've been talking to this girl for a little while now, and she told me a few days ago that she doesn't eat. She is extremely thin, technically underweight, and thinks she is fat. \n\nShe was in a verbally abusive relationship before, and I feel like that's where this insecurity comes from. It's just so upsetting to me to think of how she starves herself to try to feel pretty, when she could eat all she wants every day and still be the cutest and most interesting person in the room. \n\nI've never dealt with a situation like this before, and would love it if anyone who has had experience with this (an SO who was anorexic or someone who has been through it themselves) could give me some tips on ways to help her gain confidence and let her know that she is in fact beautiful on the inside and out no matter what she weighs.", "summary": "She thinks in order to be attractive she can't eat, and I want to help her feel better about herself and to be healthy and happy. Thanks in advance for the help."}
{"id": "t3_4918m9", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This is innocent, but should I (17f) message him (21m)", "post": "Hi all. I'll give some background. My mom has a good friend who well call Ana. She has a son that I've always thought was cute and recently I've found we have quite a lot in common. He knows I think he's cute, my damn mom told him once. Anyway.\n\nI added him once on facebook months ago but I guess he didn't recognize me, understandably, and didn't accept. I also don't have the option to add him again, so I'm assuming he clicked \"I don't know this person\". \n\nQuite often his mom comes into the place I work (local mom and pop restaurant) and I told her once she should bring him in, jokingly, and that I think he's cute. She said she would sometime and we started talking about him briefly before she left. She came in a couple days later and she told me I should ask him about his car, and how he remembered me, and how he remembered I added him and he didn't accept. This was yesterday she told me that.\n\nMy coworker, after Ana left, told me I should message him on facebook. I've been thinking about it but I don't know if I'll come across as pushy or creepy or something. I also don't know if he'll even be interested in me and I'm afraid of rejection (who isn't?) lol.", "summary": "uncertain if I should add a guy in fear hell think I'm creepy/pushy"}
{"id": "t3_1ijeyo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[41F] hate my husband's [43M] foot fetish, but I've been playing along for years. Can I back out of it now?", "post": "So my husband has a very particular foot fetish. He likes injured feet/dirty feet. If I step on something or go barefoot on pavement or for long periods of time, it's a huge turn-on for him. \n\nWe've been together for 20 years, and I used to kind of get off on it, too. But most times I just kind of feel like a non-descript body attached to a pair of feet. I hate that the fetish is a requirement for him to be turned on -- that's the basic definition of a fetish, right? When he goes to rub my feet or stares at them, I feel more turned off than anything.\n\nThis is such a part of his sexuality that I'm terrified of being honest with him about it. But it's so uncomfortable for me that I'd rather not have sex at all.", "summary": "I've had enough of my husband's foot fetish, which I initially encouraged. Do I tell him or keep acting?"}
{"id": "t3_5014sy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] broke up with my [23 F] EX girlfriend about a month ago. Still can't deal with it.", "post": "July 29th is the night that my scrambled my brain, getting a call in the middle of the night from my crying girlfriend, telling me that this isn't going to work anymore.\n\nWe've been dealing with some distance for quite some time, and I guess it got the best of her, even though we saw each other almost every other weekend. (We've been dating only for about 5 months)\n\nFor the past month I've been trying to just forget about all of this and move on, Just trying to convince myself that i'm going to be okay, But I'm really not Okay.\n\nI was addicted to her, our normal routine of talking every single day, every single night, all that is gone now, Going to work and sitting in my office with nothing to do but think gets the best of me, My drives home from work get me really down just remembering talking to her on my way home, My own house seems unfamiliar now, I really am at a loss, I've never felt this much pain from losing someone, I've had relationships longer than this one and I was able to walk away from quicker than this one.", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, I've been a wreck every since."}
{"id": "t3_37aki2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm(f,20) taking my boyfriend's virginity (M,21) Is there anything that I should know beforehand?", "post": "Alrighty, so I'm SO not a virgin. I've had my share of sexual partners, and previous to my current boyfriend, I had a serious boyfriend for two years that I had very frequent sex with. I'm very confident with sex and my abilities, but I have never had sex with a virgin before, and I'm pretty intimidated by the whole situation. \n\nMy boyfriend is a bit nervous, and has asked me to take the reigns for his first time, which is totally fine with me. Is there anything that I should know/expect before having sex with my boyfriend? I'm used to wild one night stands, not emotional,meaningful sex, so I have no idea what to expect. How can I make his first time special, and important for him? He's a really great guy, and I adore him, but taking his virginity is pretty intimidating for me.", "summary": "I'm pretty experienced sexually, and I'm taking my boyfriend's virginity soon. What should I expect?"}
{"id": "t3_qfryk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My life seems to be going to shit, and my boyfriends keeps getting better and better.  How do I stop from being a bitter bitchface when it's not his fault?", "post": "Basically I've had a pretty bad few weeks.  I am a teacher (female, 25 years old), currently working in a completely shitty school which doesn't care about anything but making money-which makes my job difficult and unpleasant on a daily basis. I have a child with clear emotional instability and a possible mental disability and everyone keeps saying they will help me but does nothing, so I get to deal with a screaming irrational little dude on a daily basis. I got my wallet stolen. I was pushed off my motorbike by some crazy bitch and now my whole right side is covered in road rash.  My phone randomly stopped working.\n\nMy boyfriend (28 years old) on the other hand, got a free trip to Australia for work, is seeing tons of his friends and going to a music festival, partying and taking drugs, got a raise at his job....and I'm SO happy for him.  We've been together and everything has been going pretty well until now. \n\nI know I am over reacting, but I'm feeling so alone in all of this shit and I feel like he's rubbing all the good things that are happening in my face. I skype with him and he's dancing around drinking beers and reading me the line up of the music festival he's going to, despite the fact that I'm saying \"Stop, ok stop...seriously...STOP\"  I spoke with him last night and I was trying really hard to be positive about everything that's happened and again he's drinking and I told him \"Hey, don't rub that in my face...I SO wish I could have a beer right now\" (Can't cause I'm on antibiotics due to the huge ass cuts I have) He said \"If you don't like it then hang up.\"  So I did.  I sms'd him...sorry but I was in a good mood and now I'm not. Have a great weekend talk to you later.   \n\nNow he's not speaking to me.", "summary": "Boyfriends life rocks, mine sucks, feels like he's shoving my face in it. Am I just being a complaining hobag?  How can I stop from hating him?"}
{"id": "t3_2n00ef", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/f] I slept with one of my oldest friends [22/m]...now what?", "post": "So, I've known the guy for 18 years. We have a lot of shared moments, went to the same schools, stayed in contact since leaving, have laughed, cried, been drunk, know each others'  families, know everything about each other. We have no secrets. Having gone a year or so without meeting up since he had been studying abroad, we had lunch, there was suddenly all this amazing chemistry, he was incredibly affectionate, and, long story short, we ended up having some sort of fling. This lasted a few weeks, then he decided he actually quite wanted to pursue another girl. The only reason I agreed to act on the very blatant sexual tension with him was my understanding, based on a lot of things that he had said/talked about, that this could seriously go somewhere, but timing wasn't right. I was hurt beyond belief - he was the first person I'd been intimate with since a serious sexual assault a couple of years ago, and actually, excepting that experience, only the second guy I've ever been with, which he knew about. I really felt like I could trust him. We talked, I explained all this...he is distraught and genuinely sorry for the hurt he has caused me, and I, whilst acknowledging that hurt, have made my forgiveness clear - I've known him long enough and know him well enough to know that this was not at all intentional. \n\nNow looking for advice on how to take our friendship forward. I really truly forgive him, I'm not angry or bitter - just wanting to protect my heart. I told him I needed a few days cold turkey after the conversation we had but now we are back to texting ALL THE TIME (I mean constantly, all day, every day) and I just don't know how to deal with it!", "summary": "slept with one of my oldest friends, he was a bit of a dick (unintentionally) and hurt me, neither of us want to lose the friendship. How do I take things forward healthily?"}
{"id": "t3_4fm56t", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Should I give up on a 12 year friendship", "post": "My best friend and I have been close friends for the past 12 years and never had any problems. (Both 25/F) A year and a half ago she got her first boyfriend and I started seeing a lot less of her, maybe once every 3 weeks. For reference I'm not a big fan of the BF.\n\nTowards the end of last year it felt like I was the only one asking to do stuff and I was lucky to see her once a month. When we did meet up she was always 30-40 minutes late (no excuse other than 'losing track of time.') and would answer calls from her boyfriend.\n\nI hadn't  seen her in a month and a half but she arranged lunch with me last Saturday. I got a text 2 hours before we were due to meet saying she had been feeling ill since Tuesday and wouldn't make it but could we reschedule for after work this week. I text her yesterday asking when she would be feel and she responded saying she still didn't feel right but maybe later in the week if i was available.\n\nI gave her the days to which she said those are the only days she already has plans (despite being ill?) and we could see about meeting the following week. At this point I'm not sure if she is telling the truth and wants to meet up or trying to phase me out. I'm not sure if I'm over analysing it and making a mountain out of a mole hill. Do I confront her and try to speak to her about my issue or just let things run their course?", "summary": "I never see my best friend anymore now that she has a boyfriend. Do I give up on the friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_191028", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Comfort eating - all time low, advice/support needed", "post": "Hi everyone,\n\nI've had a really tough week and feeling at an all-time low and just need some support/advice. I am over working and studying long hours and haven't been sleeping well. My whole body is aching from sitting all day and all I have been doing in binge eating. I want to lose weight, but it's this vicious cycle I can't seem to get out of. I have tried so hard to work out and eat healthy this week, but from a lack of sleep, and stress l I seem to be failing. I find myself snacking on kitkat/biscuits/other sweets people bring at work non-stop. It's like I can't control myself. I don't remember being like this. I feel good for the few minutes I'm eating and then I feel guilty for it and promise myself I won't do it again. 10 minutes later I find myself in the kitchen thinking \"fuck it I feel awful, I deserve it.\" I feel so shitty and alone.\n\nI was talking to my boyfriend about it this morning, but he has the opposite problem. He is very very skinny and forgets to eat/not hungry and is trying to gain weight. He complains about not getting enough sleep and being sore when I sleep MUCH less than him and work out more. He is not encouraging with my workouts and doesn't even do what I do, and I'm an out of shape girl that smokes. When I told him about the binge eating he didn't say anything other than \"Have a good day at work.\" I was livid. I am so angry with him.\nSorry about the rant \u2013 really need some support PLEASE PLEAS PLEASE, have no one to talk to about this.", "summary": "Binge eating at work on sweets, over worked and feeling shitty. Boyfriend is super skinny and not encouraging.  Need support."}
{"id": "t3_478rz7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (23M) got broken up with 3 months ago by my (23F) ex girlfriend (1.5 years). Is there any way I can work things out?", "post": "She broke up with me on Thanksgiving. She said that it was the hardest thing she had ever done, and we both cried for an hour. I begged to her to reconsider, but she said she needed time to think. I haven't really given her the break she needed from the relationship until now. \n\nI have been NC for almost 2 weeks now, and I haven't heard a word from her. I miss her every single day, and I have a surgery coming up in 2 days, and I wish I could talk to her about it because I am scared to death. I really want to work on us, but obviously I need to give her the space she needs. I realized that I have a lot on myself I need to work on, but can anyone give me advice on what to do?\n\nShe is 23, very independent, likes her alone time, and doesn't talk very much. She insisted when we broke up that she wasn't doing it to be with anyone else, and that wasn't a lie from what I can tell. She told me she lost feelings for me, but insisted it happened over a 2 week period, and that doesn't seem right. She said that I was the best thing that ever happened to her, and I hope that is still true.\n\nThis might have been foolish on my part, but the day of me starting NC, I had flowers sent to her for Valentine's Day. She was very nice about it and thanked me, but I can't help but shake this feeling I made her uncomfortable. \n\nSo I am just asking for general advice on how to improve myself and improve my chances with her. Obviously, I don't want to force her to get back with me. But I do love her more than anything in the world.", "summary": "Ex broke up with me, trying to get advice on how to improve myself and improve my chances and over standing with her."}
{"id": "t3_19c4r3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the most passionate \"volunteer effort\" you've given to a cause?", "post": "Hello there!\n\nI'm in the midst of a pretty serious campaign to save a TV show from cancellation. I didn't really envision that I'd spend almost all of my free time this past weekend/into the week seeing it \"take off.\" I've created multiple social media accounts, as well as something a little bigger in the works. :) But, I'm not here to talk bout that.\n\nI get that this sub is not a soapbox and all, but *so many posts on Reddit as a whole* **become** a worthwhile call to action, and this is a fantastic effort. Most recently, the badass mall cop ended up getting about $20,000 for some new equipment after protectin' the bejesus outta that mall, and tazing that silly woman. In his defense, she was advised to *\"Back it up, or I'll hit cha.\"* She did not heed his multiple warnings, and antagonized him as well. \n\nOther impromptu causes are anytime any artist or author posts some work of his, and everyone was asking for *The Stickwick Staplers* book title to be revealed on Amazon. To his credit, the author now has 81 5 star reviews, grats to him. I hope most of you actually bought the book after making funny reviews. Furthermore, that artist from a couple weeks ago that had a site, and his buddy posted $20 print links in the comments, and he sold out of stock in 2 hours. \n\nThe power, generosity, and kindness of strangers is something we've all relied on, at one time or another, to quote Tennessee Williams. I'm continually impressed with the awesomeness of the global community we have to offer here at Reddit.\n\nI also give blood every chance I get, and will give my 8th pint (ONE WHOLE GALLON) of blood to the American Red Cross on March 7th, I started when I was 17, almost 23 now.", "summary": "trying my best to save a show, and it's a bloody fuckin' mess."}
{"id": "t3_51totl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] sister [17F] left her ex [17M] of 4 years for another guy [17M]. She has lost her mind because he has moved on to another girl and is full on stalking her", "post": "So basically my sister left her ex boyfriend because she wanted to date some other guy. She did this before the summer and she spent all of her time with this new guy. \n\nHer ex Travis must have met this girl Tara over the summer and they don't go to the same high school. My sister has been stalking this girls Facebook and basically she is not impressed. My sister keeps saying Tara looks like a wh***. Basically she hates this girl \n\nMy sister somehow found out she comes from Louisiana and moved to the west coast. Tara and Travis from what she tells me have been dating for 2 months now and she basically hates her. She keeps moaning about how pretty she is and hates her red hair, her shirt and everything. \n\nShe is a junior at high school as is Travis,  how do I get her to stop feeling this way and to leave them alone", "summary": "sister is jealous of ex new girlfriend"}
{"id": "t3_g56y9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How would one go about making silicone sex toys?", "post": "I first saw [this] how-to on making silicone dildos, but the suggestion that one use silicone caulking seemed a bit sketchy, and a bit more searching around seemed to confirm that silicone caulking is probably not great for putting in your body. The clay model and latex mold method seems unproblematic, but I could be wrong.\n\nMore research seemed to suggest that platinum (rather than tin) cured silicone provides minimal interactions with bodily functions. One can purchase platinum-curing silicone mixes from art stores. I found a [shop] which deals with making molds/casts and has a pretty good selection of platinum-curing silicones.\n\nBut the consensus also seems to be that silicone used for sex toys should be \"medical grade\". I can't seem to figure out what that means and if it is significantly chemically different from the kind of silicone you'd get from an art store, nor where one would get small amounts of it that would be simple to mix in a \"homemade\" setting. I do know that there are a number of people who make silicone sex toys in their homes (or very small shops), but no one I've contacted is willing to divulge their methods (unsurprisingly). One person seemed to use both \"medical grade\" and \"art store\" silicone, perhaps coating the inside of a mold with the former and then filling with the latter (just a guess).", "summary": "I'm curious if anyone has any information on anything from the safety of different kinds of silicone, how handmade silicone sex toys are usually made, and good sources for appropriate kinds of silicone."}
{"id": "t3_3gck04", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20M] confused between two girls, my current girlfriend [21F] and my bestfriend [20F]", "post": "So basically, I've been in a relationship for almost two years and it's had it's ups and downs. It started in university and since me and my girlfriend are both studying away from home, the relationship becomes long distance during summer and winter  holidays. We tend to fight a lot more during this time, for example we haven't texted for two weeks.\n\nNow my best friend, I've known for around almost 6 years but haven't spent as many of those years with her due to studying abroad. However, when I come back home for summer break or winter break, we meet up and catch up. Everyone  always told me that she's into Mr and said we should be a couple , friends family, but I never saw it and neither of us have ever brought up the topic with one another.\n\nLast winter break, I came home and my family went to meet my best friends family since they live in a different city. We ended up spending the night there and  I hadn't seen her for two years at this point. That was the first time I felt something towards her. \n\nFast foward to today, my sister's wedding was yesterday and since my best friend is also sort of a family friend, we've been meeting up alot more then usual, and my feelings for her have escalated like crazy. However I'm heading back for university in 2 weeks and I want to tell her how I feel, but I'm still in a relationship even though we haven't texted in weeks. I can't bring myself to end it over texts, and I can't bring myself to tell my best friend how I feel while being in a relationship. Also, my family is moving this year, out of country so I may not see my best friend for another couple of years, and I'm afraid if I don't say anything now, that she'll find someone else thinking that I never liked her. I'd love some advice/guidance, literally anything would help..", "summary": "In a up and down relationship, but in love with my bestfriend and not sure whether to end relationship to let my bestfriend know how I feel."}
{"id": "t3_tlhto", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Could I get some advice! I have several questions and I need all the help I can get! :)", "post": "So I've been dating a girl for about a month and we've probably made out about twice and kissed several times. We're just a couple of high school seniors.\n\nShe really likes me and thinks I'm a great guy and thinks I treat her well.\n\n1) Anyway, I'm going home for summer break for about 3 months. She said that we should keep in touch and talk to eachother and then pick up once I get back. I'm worried that she'll meet another guy while I'm gone. How could I talk to her about this and my feelings without seeming clingy and weird? I understand that we're not exclusive but she's looking for a relationship..we just need to wait until I come back.\n\n2) I'm not sure if she's ready to have sex. What kind of questions should we ask eachother so I can find out if it's something she wants to do?\n\n3) I got her on the bed while we were making out and she said her mom was on the way so we couldn't do anything. So I said \"that's fine, we'll just do it next weekend\" and she said something like \"uh, there's actually this thing I have to do all day and I'm not sure if I'll have free time\". I don't know if she's lying because she's scared to be honest or if she just wants to wait.\n\n4) I've been on four dates already. Is it too early to ask for a relationship? Should I wait to ask her to be my gf after I come back from summer break?\n\nI don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want to, but I want to make her happy. She has had several partners in the past and is experienced.", "summary": "How can I stop worrying about her fooling around with other guys while I'm gone. How can I talk to her about sex and let her know that I'm ready?"}
{"id": "t3_4f492m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF [26 F] isn't affectionate but wants to be. She's asking me for help but i'm not sure what to tell her.", "post": "We're both an attractive couple.\n\nShe's quite shy - so what's challenging/adorable about her is only after she gets 'absolutely' smashed late at night would she say something along the lines of: sowouldyouliketohavecoffeatyourhomeorsomething.\n\nThat's if she didn't have liquor (it makes her sleepy) and if the miracle of going to bed for sex happened - we're always too numb from the booze for sex - which is why i implied we should attempt sober sex nowadays.\n\nSo flirts, tender touches, caresses, compliments, and hints have never really come from her side and whenever i do such things - she rejects me most of the time regardless of how subtle and in context it is - her standards of a good day/night are only something I admire.\n\nShe tells me its too awkward and out of context to do something like kissing after (one of many examples) coming over, playing board games, having wine, cheese, talk flirty, sit close, caress and maybe lean in for a small kiss. She says she never feels the need to want to flirt or do anything, i'm not certain what to say or how to help her when she asked me for help.\n\nApart from affection, our lives are exciting at work, when we travel or do other things. Feedback is much appreciated!", "summary": "GF is asking me for advice about being more affectionate since she doesn't think she is (her exs told her that) - she often feels shy as well - i try to convince her she's normal. We're curious to doing the small/internal that leave a big impact."}
{"id": "t3_48pgqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F]- I think I'm afraid to love again after death", "post": "i have only been romantically close with one person in my life. He was 19 when he died last summer, the same age I am now, ironically enough. It feels very strange to admit this because it's easier if I deny it, but I was in love with him. I don't mean passing type, I mean he was the first person who I had ever loved with that intensity. He was mentally ill and an addict and I still thought him the most perfect being in the world. I wanted nothing more than to be around him. I loved him with all of my soul. When he died, I felt like I lost my only chance at a romantic love in my lifetime. No one since has ever sparked my interest like he did. With him it was literally love at first sight. Now, people don't even seem attractive to me anymore. It's like that part of my brain switched off. Guys I would have been excited to talk to before- I have no interest now. I suspect I'm afraid that if I ever date again I'll miss him even more deeply, or I'll compare the new person to him. I worry that I'll never love as deeply as that again. What if we really do have soul mates, and I lost mine when I was still a teenager? Am I doomed to loneliness? I don't know if I'd just be better off swearing off love altogether. It's so painful.", "summary": "since my boyfriend died, I can't love."}
{"id": "t3_29vgyv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25 M] recently had a breakup with my now ex fiancee [26/F] of three years :/", "post": "Last week my fiancee/girlfriend of three years broke up with me. Things had been weird for a couple of months and it was almost expected, but still sucks. She essentially said she doesn't love me anymore and I could tell that love hasn't been there in a while. Its still sucks though.\n\nwe currently live together and I'm moving to my new place next month. I know its for the best, but there's so many thoughts and feelings going through my head. I just feel lost and alone right now. I don't know what I'm posting this for. Just felt like getting this out in some way...", "summary": "me and fiancee split and I'm sad."}
{"id": "t3_wu8k3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm pretty positive I just ate a worm or larvae of some insect. Any idea as to what it is?", "post": "So my sister and her husband brought me back some macadamia and chocolate candy back from Hawaii. I was watching a show in the dark when I opened the box so I didn't notice anything odd right away, so I picked one up and felt some weird stringy thing on it which almost looked like a web so I tossed that one back in the box thinking nothing of it. I ate one and it seemed fine, but when I went to take another I noticed there were multiple pieces with worms crawling both on and OUT of the candy. I'm obviously terrified right now as I am living one of my nightmares. I've googled everything from \"macadamia nut worms\" to \"koa seed worms\" (that's what came up) but I can't find anything out about them or a picture that matches what they were. I know there probably isn't much I can do about it now, since I've already threw up all of my stomach contents, but I'm still pretty interested in what they are and such so I can put a name to my new nemesis.", "summary": "I think I ate some worms, what the fuck are they? [Here] is a picture of  two of the jerks who ruined my day and their string of whatever (I know it's not the best picture but it's all I wanted to get before throwing the box into the garbage.)"}
{"id": "t3_10g58o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was metaphorically carpet-bombed on Monday. What's your biggest 'when it rains, it pours' story recently? I'll start.", "post": "I started off yesterday, after an 8 hour day at work, with a surprise telephone interview for a job. The position is great, and they're having me come in for a live interview later this week. It a dream job, but it means being away from my SO for at least six months, and maybe up to a year and a half.  \nThen, I found out that my younger sister is pregnant by her longtime boyfriend. She hasn't finished college, and probably won't now. Her boyfriend can't provide anything, because he works in fast food. But the biggest problem is that she just had *gastric bypass* and now we're concerned that she won't receive the medical attention/nutrition she and the baby need. My mother threatened to disown my sister if she told anyone. I argued that was going to be a difficult secret to keep, because there will be a human being as evidence.  \nThen I find out that my father, whom I haven't spoken to in a while, is now a double amputee living in a shelter. He has dementia too. \nThen my sister tells me that three of my father's siblings have died before 65, from complications due to alcoholism. Of his remaining siblings, one is fine, and the other is in a nursing home because of their dementia.  \nThat all happened in about two hours, and it was only this morning when everything stopped spinning  \u00e0 la Maverick-and-Goose-flew-through-the-jet-wash.  \n**So, Reddit, What's your biggest 'when it rains, it pours' story recently?", "summary": "New job, unplanned, risky pregnancy, father missing limbs, everyone has alcoholism/dementia"}
{"id": "t3_4stp8s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M,18] have a strange relationship with a girl [W,18]. Should I fight for her?", "post": "Hi guys,\nI had a very nice holiday together with 9 people (7 of them girls). one of them stood out. She was funny, educated and on top of that gorgeous. We had a great time together. After we got back home we kept in contact and after a few days I asked her out on a date (movie+dinner). A few hours later she responded with a text. I will try to sum it up a little:\n\nHi,\nI'm really busy at the moment. It's actually somewhat of a bad joke, but on Saturday I am on a friend's birthday. The movie you suggested isn't my type as well. Right after this I will holiday again and after I get back I'm going to start to study (quite far away). Overall I don't think we could become a couple. Sry.\n\nNow, since I don't have too much experience with texts such as this, I'd love to know what you think about this. Should I fight for her or just let her go?\n\nThanks in advance, RoooK3y", "summary": "met a really nice girl; it looked like we wqere soulmates; asked her out on a date; she replied with the second paragraph; should I fight for her or let ehr go?"}
{"id": "t3_506kvg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15m] friend [14m] thinks I don't care about him", "post": "LTR;FTP, Throwaway because he knows my Reddit account\n\nSo a couple of years ago, I made a friend (let's call him Mike) while playing Minecraft. Long story short, he lives in Canada, I live in Michigan, his birthday is the day before mine, and he's 1 year older than me. Last year I drove over to him in Canada, and we agreed that every year we would alternate who would drive over to who's house and have a birthday party. This year he's coming over here, and we were planning on going go-carting. Around a year ago, I made a friend in school (let's call him Steve) and eventually introduced him to Mike. We all became good friends, but Steve started playing less and less, only when we asked him to come on the server. Recently due to family issues, Steve has been without a computer for a month or so, and is moving schools, but him and I have still been in contact fairly regularly. So like I said, Mike and I were going to go go-carting, and wanted to invite Steve, because he's our one mutual friend. I texted him, but he said he couldn't come, and when I asked why, he said he was planning on separating himself from me, and I always bring him down on whatever he tries to do, and that when the time comes he won't be prioritized, and that he's not putting in that much effort to see you when he's not getting anything back. Steve has been working on an album and a YouTube channel for a few months, and Mike and I like to poke fun at him because we don't think he really knows how hard it is, but we still support him.  I don't really know how to respond, and I still like him and think of him as a good friend. Help?", "summary": "friend doesn't think I support him, I don't really know what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_510i60", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Overstepping boundaries with porn", "post": "I [26M] was masturbating yesterday. And I was scrolling through my phone and trawling around Twitter for material. Now, my GF [26F], who I've been in a LDR with for 3 years now, and I have a \"friend\" (read: we both know her and she knows us but we don't talk much) who likes to post almost-nudes of herself on Twitter. I'm getting towards the end of my session, and I come across something she posted. Out of curiosity, I checked out her profile to see what else she had posted. It was a lot of the same stuff, but it was pretty nice. And I ended up finishing with her on my screen.\n\nAfterwards, and I mean immediately afterwards, I just felt gross. My girlfriend and I both recognize that we each enjoy porn, and that's really all I was after, but there was something about porn of someone that I sort of know that just made me feel disgusting, like I had crossed a line. I ended up telling my girlfriend about it, and she seemed to understand why I felt bad, and she was really kind and told me not to worry about it, that they were, in her words, \"just boobs.\" And she's right about that. I mean, this wasn't something meant just for me in secret; they were out there for everyone to see. But I still feel like I overstepped a boundary because they belonged to someone I know. I just don't feel right about it. Am I wrong, or am I just overthinking?", "summary": "Fapped to publicly shared porn of someone I kind of know, feel dirty about it. Did I mess up?"}
{"id": "t3_239o9h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of two years. I can't deal with breaking up", "post": "So I was going out with a girl for almost 2 years. And recently she broke up with me. It was not an issue of anger. She claims she just fell out of love. And I really don't know how to deal with it. Angry break up with screaming yes. But when it is calm, sad goodbye. I dont know what to do. \n\nWe are trying to be friends. We knew each other for long time before and we are trying to stay friend even now. She seems she can manage. But I dont really know how. She used to fill my life. Now I don't know what to do all day. I am desperate. Every time she asks me how I am, I feel like screaming that I miss her and how bad I feel. But I cant really do that can I? I don't want to make her feel bad.\n \nEveryday I miss a person who I can tell everything to. I miss a person who held me as I was bleeding on the ground after injuring myself. Person who always came to my house with a silly plush toy when I was sick. Who helped me get through bad medical state. Who always made me feel better when I felt really bad. And I am unable to exist.\n\nI still have her photo as my wallpaper. I still feel anxiously when my friend goes to buy flowers where I once bought flowers just to get that smile. I am lost. My love went from happy and returned one to unhappy with few calm words.\n\nI am writing this here in a hope at least somebody might read it and that is all I suppose. If indeed anybody bothered to read my rambeling. Thank you. I dont know who you are but i am eternaly grateful. I am not a native english speaker so please excuse my mistakes.", "summary": "I am lost after my girlfriend left me with felling out of love as a reason. Writing this in hopes of helping me feel better. Thank you"}
{"id": "t3_1qvftm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just need some uplifting words after my (25M) breakup.", "post": "It's been exactly 1 week since we broke up. I've kept contact down to a minimum and I blocked her on Facebook. She has tried getting back together with me and manipulating my emotions by saying how she loves me and wants us to raise a family together and blah blah blah. I've ignored her mostly. I'm trying to stay tough and keeping myself occupied with work and other nonsense. Been playing a new game for most of this week to be honest. It's mostly very enjoyable but I'm finding I don't have the attention span to play video game like I used to and it's slightly depressing. \n\nI'm resisting the urge to check up on her now as I type this. The urge will pass, I know this, but I can't help but think i may have made a mistake by leaving. Maybe it's because I'm vulnerable and lonely but I'm questioning my decision to go back to her. The relationship wasn't all bad but her constant bitching and our fighting was ridiculous. \n\nI would just like some words of encouragement or something of the like to kick my ass  in the right direction.", "summary": "Broke up with girlfriend. Trying  to stay busy. Getting depressed thinking about her. Did I make a mistake? Words of encouragement would be nice."}
{"id": "t3_1e6to1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by breaking bad news to my mom on mother's day.", "post": "Because I've been so caught up this week in trying to clean my mess, I didn't even get a chance to get my folks a proper anniversary gift. Not to mention, it's Mother's day today and I still didn't get a chance to get my mom anything because I've been locked in my room trying to get myself together. Girl whom I've had a relationship with for 4 years (on and off) had to be told that I messed with her closest friend a couple years back when we were having severe issues. My parents know this girl's parents and probably have to put their heads down in shame every time they see them now. They supposed to be somewhere today where they're going to bump into them.\n\nTwo years before this, I had to drop even worse news on my mom for stupid legal stuff I got caught up with that she's finally come to terms with and has accepted me for.", "summary": "I'm probably the worst son my mother ever gave birth to."}
{"id": "t3_qkenv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Today I left a job \"voluntarily\" after pretty much being told I was set up to fail from the moment I was hired. Reddit, what's the most frustrating thing you've ever experienced at a job, or after leaving a job?", "post": "Long story short, I completed my Masters in a communications-related field last May.  Right after school, I was hired to work in IT, even though I had no experience or knowledge of anything IT-related.  I failed to meet the expectations of the job, and today when I went in to discuss a plan of action, I was told that when I was hired, they didn't have a training plan in place to help me, nor did anyone have the time to work with me.  I said to my manager, \"so basically, I was set up to fail from the moment I was hired,\" and she agreed.  My manager offered a two-week plan to \"get back on track\" but explained that if I didn't meet the expectations, I would most likely be terminated, so I should take the severance package and leave on my own terms.  So, I voluntarily left in order to get severance, but now I don't have a job.", "summary": "Was hired to work in a field where I had no experience/knowledge.  They never trained me and didn't have time to work with me.  They asked me to resign today."}
{"id": "t3_4xrr4p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I ama 19 M with my SO [19 F] 5ish months, She wants to go to a party without me?", "post": "So my ex and I have recently been trying to get back together and in a few days there is a party she wants to go to without me. We are in collage and she plans on drinking at the party, I have no problem with this, I'm worried that she will end up grinding on some random guy or maybe even making out with someone. We are not back together entirely yet but we are close to it, I have told her I'm uncomfortable with it because I don't want to be up all night thinking about what she's doing and worrying about her. She says she doesn't want me to be there because I would know no one there but her really, and its really a band only party. I don't want to tell her she cant go have fun without me but I'm worried about what might happen there. I'm trying to think of a way we can both be happy but I'm not seeing a good solution.", "summary": "She wants to go party without me but I'm scared she'll end up doing something with a random person there."}
{"id": "t3_3kqnv5", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by talking shit to my friend.", "post": "This happened about a year ago but I'm bringing it up because I still feel pretty bad about it. I work a job where there are long periods of time where there is no access to the internet or electronic devices in general; so basically everyone is bored out of their minds all the time. \n     \nOne thing we do to pass the time is talk shit to each other. Its all in good fun and although sometimes someone gets mad mostly everyone understands it's nothing personal. \n      \nOne day while at work my friends and I were talking shit to each other as usual and one of my friends said something to me that I can't remember now but my come back was, \"if you don't shut up I'm going to fuck your wife.\" Everyone immediately got quiet and I knew that I had crossed the line. \n\nI apologized like a million times and he just kind of shook it off and accepted my apology so I felt bad about it but I didn't feel like it was a huge deal. That is until later that day another person who was there pulled me aside and said, \"That was a dick move sanduskyandtheboys, Ryan is going through a divorce right now because his wife has been cheating on him.\" (Ryan is not his real name.)\n\nI felt my stomach drop when he said that and I felt a thousand times worse than I had before. I'm honestly amazed he didn't punch me in the face when I first said it to him. He's a really cool guy and to this day I still feel really shitty about it.", "summary": "Was talking shit with friends, crossed the line by telling a friend I was going to fuck his wife, felt bad about it, found out his wife was actually fucking lots o' dudes and it was a sensitive subject, felt terrible and still feel like a huge dick about it."}
{"id": "t3_38xkjw", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching softcore porn on the main TV", "post": "This didn't happen today and I wasn't aware of the internet when this happened. It was 14 years ago and I was just an innocent 10 year boy. Not really innocent. So, my family and I lived in India and we had a small house with two floors, each floor having a medium sized room and a small room. The main TV was in the first floor (in India, the second floor is called the first floor and the first floor is called the ground floor.) We had cable TV and a channel called Fashion TV piqued my interest. That channel usually had a file of pretty ladies walking down the ramp and it sometimes featured women who didn't wear any clothes on top at all. So, whenever I had a chance to watch TV alone, I would switch to that channel and hope to see something interesting. Also, something I didn't mention to you was that we had a lot of electric blackouts; everyday. Sometimes you couldn't predict the times of these blackouts but they happened everyday because of \"maintenance\" but the real reason was that there were too many people in India and we struggled to harness power for everyone. I was watching FTV one day and the power went out. We didn't have a back-up generator and I was shitting my pants. I couldn't wait there until the power came back because I was going out somewhere. When I came back my dad was watching something else on TV. He knew that I was watching Fashion TV. He came to know that I wasn't the innocent little kid he thought I was. But none of us uttered a word and an awkward silence ensued. A couple of years later, that channel was banned because Indian Government blah blah. No filter blah blah.", "summary": "Watched naked ladies on TV; Power went out. Parents came to know I was watching naked ladies when they turned on TV when power came back on. Faked Childish Innocence lost."}
{"id": "t3_1ug1tx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my [28 M] boyfriend of 3.5 years - I'm incredibly jealous of his porn/nsfw browsing habits. JEALOUS because he'll get turned on by it then want to be intimate with me.", "post": "Not really sure what to say but I am really *jealous* I guess is the right word of bf's porn and Nsfw browsing habits. He will sometimes be in another room and open nsfw links or when I leave he browses stuff.\n\nI'm not comparing myself per se to the women and feeling bad that way, but I have an overwhelming sense of jealousy. It makes me uncomfortable knowing my bf looks at other girls and is attracted to other women. I know I should be fine with this but it makes me uncomfortable a bit, which is fine. BUT I CAN'T GET OVER IT. It's like an obessive negative obsession!\n\nhe will sometimes browse nsfw posts on reddit...when I'm around him but in another room..just looking though not fapping. But even something simple as this bugs me.\n\n**I guess its just the fact that he's getting turned on throughout the day by various other women, nsfw pics, etc. and then wanting to be intimate with me later on in the day or he'll just grope me later on....but it makes me feel negative and i'm jealous and I get kind of mad sometimes.**\n\nHow do I get over this. It's like a negative obsession I have. :(", "summary": "how do i get over bfs nsfw browsing/porn habits. i'm jealous and feel uncomfortable - he gets turned on by various women and it bugs me."}
{"id": "t3_4httwh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How long should I (m24) wait before attempting to ask her (f20s) out again?", "post": "I met this girl in class, didn't really get around to talking to her until the last week or so. Our 2 or 3 conversations were pretty light and brief, but I wasn't getting any \"fuck off\" vibes from her. Last day of class I caught up with her after our class and I asked her for her phone number so I get in touch with her in about a week or so for some lunch/coffee. She agreed, and wasn't awkward, weird, or hesitant about giving me her number.  \n\nObviously, we have both been swamped for the last two weeks for finals (she's a grad student, I'm a philosophy major so we both have tons of writing to do) so I decided to give us a week to get some work done before I tried to set something up with her.\n\nLast Saturday I texted her and asked if she wanted to go to X place next Friday/Saturday (right after finals are over). She apologized and said she'd be busy all week, didn't let me know when she wouldn't be busy. I have a feeling it might be due to her parents being in town, but I didn't ask for specifics.\n\nTypically at this point the contact between me and the girl stops and I usually move on to someone or something else. Whatever, no big deal. However, after telling me she would be busy she asked me how I was doing and since then we've been having some pretty nice text conversations. Normally, I wouldn't try to ask her out again, but I do get the feeling that she would at least be interested in hanging out, even if it's just as friends or whatever. \n\nI'm definitely going to try again and ask her out for some lunch, it's just that I've never been in this situation before and I don't know what an appropriate amount of time would be before I try again. Obviously, I don't want to be weird and push the issue too hard. On top of that I don't want to wait too long because I might be leaving town for a job opportunity in a couple of weeks for the remainder of the summer.", "summary": "Got this girl's number, asked her out, she told me she was busy. We've kept in contact since and I absolutely feel like it's worth trying again. How long should I wait before I make another attempt? Is there an unwritten rule? Am I overthinking this? Any advice in general?"}
{"id": "t3_n52ef", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what should i do reddit, don't want a suicide?", "post": "I'm a 23 years old regular guy from and i live in  Turkey. I'm going to university and this year last session, school is realy good my results is 90-100 (in 0-100 system): i have a girlfriend more than one year, we ok. i'v lost my father 5 years ago, sometimes i realy miss him but i don't cry anymore. So my life is regular i think i dont lived worst things BUT! i'm so boring. I don't want, i don't smile. In normal time, i like reading, wathin stuff, surfin net, more in reddit. but i don't want anything. What should i do reddit. Because i want to live, enjoy, smile but i had most things but i don't satisfaction, i'm boring.", "summary": "Regular guy, have a good life (peoples says) but don't happy."}
{"id": "t3_35t2et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F] with my [18/M] friend of a couple of years, I have feelings for him, but I don't think I should act on them. Am I right?", "post": "We are graduating at the same time, so the age difference isn't really that big of a deal, except it feels weird that I can legally buy alcohol and he will graduate college without legally drinking. \n\nI like him and think about him a lot. He is always there for me and is a great friend. He always knows what to say when I'm down and I like his sense of humor. \n\nThe thing is, even though our major is the same, we have so many differences. He hates traveling and I want to travel the world. He is picky about his food, I will eat pretty much everything. I watch Netflix and just browse the internet in my free time. He likes to research and learn. It just seems like we have fundamental differences in our personalities and interests. I'm worried that if we date, we will waste a great friendship and see that we just bore each other. \n\nMaybe I'm thinking way to far ahead about this, I just don't want to date someone if I know nothing will come of it. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Can't decide whether it would be a good idea to date my friend"}
{"id": "t3_31qpf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO (34M) pays me (35F) rent, stay the way it is?", "post": "Weird story, but the way we met is that he was looking for a room to rent, and I had just bought a condo, looking for roommates.  Well, he moved in, we started dating and now it's 2 years later :)  \n\nSometimes I feel funny still charging him rent though... what would you do?  We are not married.  We share a bedroom now obviously, but he still has his room (\"The man cave room\").  He also pays the cable/internet bill, which at the time that he started I took $50 off his rent for doing so.  I pay everything else (mortgage/heat/electricity/condo fee/insurance).  Thoughts?", "summary": "My SO pays me rent, yay or nay?"}
{"id": "t3_3ty7qv", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by reinstalling windows 10", "post": "so this started late last night. I decided to do a fresh install of windows 10 because I upgraded my motherboard. here is where the fuck up starts. i had my backup cd but i decided to see if a reset would work. i started it and went to bed. at some point my pc restarted because when i got up it was in a bootloop. no big deal. i put the windows 10 cd in there........ and it wont read it. i look at the cd and there is a big gash on it from what i assume to be my cat somehow getting in there and scratching it up. so now i am in a bootloop with no pc and no cd for it..... XDXDXD so my phone is rooted. i got the drive droid app on it and installed linux through that. i now am putting a windows 10 iso on a cd... but now that ive played around with it a bit linux kicks ass so im gonna install it alongside windows 10 and use that for gaming and linux for all other purposes. at least i discovered something really cool i had no idea linux rocked this much :D so thats a small win.", "summary": "accidentally put pc in bootloop, had to install linux to fix"}
{"id": "t3_37tb0m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] and my ex-gf [28F] are still emotionally attached at the hip. Only problem is, she's married.", "post": "A couple of years ago, she and I started talking, and eventually, we dated. Last year she stayed for a week at her ex-husband's house and while she was there, broke up with me.\n\nNow, before we broke up, we had plans to get married, spend the rest of our lives together, etc, etc. I was devastated when she broke it off. I had just started a new job, making a hell of a lot more than I had been. Only problem is, I had to move to Ohio to do it. \n\nNow that I'm up in Ohio, she has started texting and calling me at odd times during the day just to talk, making plans for me to go down and visit. This past week, she sent me some NSFW pictures because I was having a bad week.\n\nI still love her very much, but since she got married in the time between us breaking up and now, I don't want to screw over her husband, who happens to be in the Air Force (I was in the military as well, so I know what that does to a man) She has stated in the past that she still plans on having sex with me.\n\nI had a girlfriend for about 2 weeks, but that didn't work out, due to the fact that she (ex) decided to meddle in the relationship. I was angry with her at that point, asking if she planned to do this to every gf I had. She stated to me that she was uncomfortable with me dating, seeing as we still had shared bills.", "summary": "I love my ex, but she's married now."}
{"id": "t3_3z43pm", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Need help finding a new direction in life. Can't pursue life plan after accident.", "post": "Hey /r/advice. I'm having some life problems, and need some guidance.\n\nI feel like I'm stuck in a shitty situation. 5 years ago I broke my right arm and as a result lost my job. Due to complications, I can no longer use it for load bearing tasks like poring milk, lifting items, and driving. Last year I was diagnosed with Osteochondritis dissecans (floating chips of bone in the knee). Luckily it's in my left knee, which allows me to use a cane in my \"good\" hand to walk. Unfortunately, I can't afford the surgery to correct it. I like to think of myself as smart, however I have dysgraphia. I have a typing speed of about 5 words a minute with 30% accuracy. I have taken computer typing classes but have not improved. I have contacted State and federal disability for help and they have stated that \"None of my problems are severe enough to warrant disability\". So, I'm officially not disabled. I just can't use my arms whilst standing and I can't use a computer effectively when sitting. I'm trained in construction and auto maintenance. What should I do for work? What's my next step? I'm living off savings and food stamps.", "summary": "Can't find work that doesn't involve arms. Can't drive. Can't physically support myself. How do I financially support myself?"}
{"id": "t3_3iz9qn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [18/M] too stubborn to let go", "post": "*I really need therapy. Something's wrong with me.*\n\n\u00a0\n\nSo a year after the break up, I'm still trying to find excuses to talk to my ex [18/F], even though she already told me she feels uncomfortable about it. The most recent example is asking her to draw on my newly-bought phone casing because there are stains on it (she's quite an amazing artist btw).\n\n\u00a0\n\n# \\*insert facepalm here\\*\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe f\\*\\*k is wrong with me? Am I too obsessed with her? Am I just f\\*\\*king horny (especially at this age)? WHY DO I NEED HER SO BADLY?!\n\n\u00a0\n\n> #### Quick summary of the relationship:\n> \n> Started off as friend, then to best friends, then to a couple. No major issues with each other. Lasted for about 10 months. Broke up due to disapproval from her parents.\n\n\u00a0\n\nA few people around me really did suggest that I seek therapy. I would love to, except I'm not exactly oozing out money to be able to afford the fee. I've tried distracting myself. I've attended special programmes where we work on projects similar to the ones in the industry. I've started a ton of projects. My life is MUCH busier than during the relationship.\n\n\u00a0\n\nHelp, /r/relationship?", "summary": "Trying to at the very least communicate with my ex even when she's feeling uncomfortable. Not sure what's wrong with me."}
{"id": "t3_1lx05l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I [17M] salvage this friendship [17F]", "post": "A little background: I met her online and right from the start got along really well with tonnes of shared interests. We met up a couple of times, including just last weekend, and have exchanged thousands of messages over facebook and text (talking almost every day), with a few skype calls too. At one point we expressed feelings for one another but decided to make nothing official or make any serious moves until after we finish school (november), for the sake of our schoolwork. \n\nNow, the problem turned up mid last week. Due to some communication problems, I got a bit irrational and we had a bit of an argument, leading to my decision to remove her from facebook altogether, a move which I regretted immediately. I left it a couple of days to cool down, then sent an honest apology for everything I said and did. So now we're back in contact again, but I feel our friendship has been heavily diminished by what happened, and she seems to have gone a bit distant despite her assurances that it was all fine and forgiven. \n\nWhat can I do to help improve the relationship back to how it was beforehand? She means a lot to me and it's the first time I've felt this way for someone.", "summary": "I was at fault for severely damaging a close friendship, not sure how to recover it completely."}
{"id": "t3_1hbqom", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I posted this in /r/relationships and got nothing. My ex sent me a letter in the mail and I don't know what to think", "post": "My ex and I broke up over a year ago and we dated for 2 years and it sucked when we broke up, but I moved on. We tried to be friends but she didn't support my decision to join the Army, so that kind of got to me and I haven't talked to her. Other day I'm home and get a letter in the mail saying how much I mean to her and how she wants to still be friends and how it was the 2 best years of her life... Does she still like me? Because it kind of caught me off guard and I have no idea what the hell to think. I won't lie the letter stirred up some old feelings but I keep telling myself I'm only remembering the good times. I really want to see her before I leave for basic training and she said we should hangout but I'm nervous to bring it up. Any advice? I would really appreciate it", "summary": "my ex sent me a letter and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2xahcy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24 M] recently got back together with my GF [25 F] but it is not the same, and it is not easy.", "post": "After a painful month apart, I went to her house and got her back.  This was a few days ago.  We talked for a long time, both of us talked about our grievances, and also what we had wanted out of the relationship to begin with.  I found myself apologizing for everything that I had failed at.  She did less apologizing, to the extent that I worry that she doesn't believe she did anything wrong in the relationship or that I had no reason to doubt her.  \n\nSince then, I initiate most of our meeting, texts and everything.  She no longer seeks me out as she did before.  When we talk about things that caused the split, she gets mad and I find myself apologizing for wanting to see her.\n\nShe doesn't have many friends, and during the time we were apart she became more active in a college club.  Now its where she would rather be.  Any time I talk to her, that's what she brings up, like every time.  I understand she needs to be more involved, but this is a weird time to be hiding out.\n\nI don't know if I'm just overcompensating because the breakup/reconciliation is so recent or if I'm just fooling myself and don't really have much of a relationship.  I really just want her to meet me half-way here.  I don't want to over-react to anything but I also won't eat shit either.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I got back to together after a painful split.  We still are extremely on edge and it is difficult to see ahead."}
{"id": "t3_4mjgf1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] with my Friend [22F] of 1 year, Gets Mad at me over Political Views", "post": "I have this friend who I have been having some tension with recently. She is very into like social justice type stuff and identifies as a Communist. I'm a Republican from Cuba who just came to the US when I was 13 and have basically the opposite views of her on everything political, but we have a lot of similar interests and have a lot in common. I was aware of her political views so I'd purposely avoid the topic when it comes up because I was worried that she wouldn't be accepting of my views. \n\nAbout a month ago she asked me what I thought of Communism and I said I prefer the free-market. She asked what the free-market was and I said Capitalism, and she was like wtf?? Why would you support that? I asked if she knew of any Communist countries, she named some Nordic ones and I said they aren't Communist. I told her Cuba and North Korea are. And she said my family would've been better off in Cuba than being Hispanic living in the US, we should go back to where we came from, etc. And I just said I disagree, and she got really angry at me and says I don't understand economics or racism. She continues to bring up politics every time we've hung out since and she just wants to fight with me. So I try avoiding it.\n\nBeing a young person with conservative views I know I'm obviously in the minority, so I just don't bring it up with my friends, I only really talk about politics with people online and stuff. How do I stand up to her and tell her I don't want to continue talking about politics with her or if we do I don't want her to insult me? She accuses me of being racist against my own and a lot of stuff like that and it makes me upset. She's much more outspoken than I am, I'm like a small quiet girl and I'm afraid if I verbally stand up to her she'd maybe even get physically violent.", "summary": "My friend is a communist, I'm from Cuba, I told her I prefer capitalism, she got mad. Now she accuses me of being racist amongst many other things, and she always brings up politics and I don't want to talk about it with her."}
{"id": "t3_2bdf8w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "This girl (24f) wants to hang out with me (25m), but she feels uncomfortable with herself. Is there a way I can comfort or better understand her?", "post": "I met someone (unfortunately online) who seems really cool.  Someone who makes me laugh and someone I really look forward to talking to.  We started Skyping each other.  Unfortunately, she lives about 3 hours inland from me, which requires a decent amount of planning to hang out.  She has expressed interest in hanging out, but whenever I bring up plans she gets iffy.  Just the other night though I laid everything out that we could do one afternoon x, x, and x and that we would have a lot of fun.  Also that I am not coming to hook up with her.\n\nShe just kept saying that she feels weird about meeting me as opposed to other guys closer by (who she admittedly has not had a great track record with).  Mentioned that she feels dirty meeting all these guys (she has had 8 other dates, but hasn't really skyped or befriended them as much as she has me) -- like a whore.  I asked her if she wasn't comfortable with me (which is ok) but she said I was fine and that she just feels like she isn't as fun of a person to hang out with in person. \n\nAfter insisting that we would have fun and that I can go home any time, she changed her mind and said we could give it a try. So we set up a day and I was going to call her the day before just to make sure she was still completely ok.  I don't know what gives though or what to say when she gets pessimistic about that.  She specifically said \"I want to hang out with you but I just don't know\"  Maybe she is nervous about what would happen?", "summary": "Girl nervous about meeting me and claims that she feels uneasy with her self or track record with guys or something.  I just don't know what it is or how to comfort her."}
{"id": "t3_1cbodc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "16, f, struggling with whether or not I should move in with my grandparents and away from my mother 45, f.", "post": "Hi, I'm sixteen, female. Living with my single mother and my little sister. About once every few months my mom flips out and blames me for all of her problems. She tells at me, takes my car, my phone, turns off the Internet, turns off the home phone and basically isolates me. She isn't usually physically violent but she did kick my sister across the room once. \n\nEver since my youngest sister died I feel like my mom has been different. In addition to all this she absolutely refuses to talk about feelings with me. She says I \"argue\" and it's not worth it. So when she's mad she just takes off and we never get to talk about it. \n\nI am going to be starting my senior year and applying to colleges and I'm taking 5 AP courses next year and one over the summer. \nI just feel like this environment is not conducive for me to study in and I am no longer helping anything.\nNo matter what I do I cannot please her or have a relationship with her and she tells me I'm pushing her away.\n\nSo... I'm definitely seriously considering moving to my grandparents. My dad (parents are divorced) has offered me free room and board at his parents with food, a car and gas all paid for. He's also offers me 500 dollars a month for whatever I need or to save.  \n\nI'm terrified of leaving though. It's such a big change and I am scared though I think it may be for the best.", "summary": "! There's too much drama at my house for me to really get anything done so I might move out."}
{"id": "t3_34yqbz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Almost Mutilating my Own Genitals NSFW", "post": "Ok this happened literally minutes ago. I did my wonderful 45 minute workout and was looking forward to a nice cool sudsy shower. I get some music going and I'm covered in bubbly soap and enjoying myself, so I start shaving. I always start with my legs and work up. I was gleefully depilating my southern girl when my left hand and my razor got really excited about their new idea... To shave INSIDE! I stared at my crotch for about 20 seconds before it really set in that half of my brain had attempted to cut off my built in senzu bean. I finished shaving and sudsing, watching blood dribble from the wrong part of my crotch. Now I'm going through the rest of my routine (moisturize me!) with a small box's worth of tissue shoved where I can't feasibly place a bandaid.", "summary": "my razor slipped in the shower and I cut myself IN the twat"}
{"id": "t3_3hzpiy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My in-laws (60'sm/f) are hoarders and my husband (29/m) is oblivious. Please help me (28/f) navigate this for the sake of my kid (1/f).", "post": "My husband and I have been married 2 years. We have a 1 year old. We live adjacent to my in-laws. They are hoarders. They are in denial. The city has even written notices that their yard needs to be cleaned up. I rarely take my daughter over there. It's a safety/sanitary hazard. He will take her sometimes but only if he's staying.\n\nWe got into a huge argument because they go to yard sales every weekend. I've had it. He's helping the problem. He's involved. He's helping buy shit.\n\nI am 2 seconds away from taking her and leaving. I can't handle seeing it anymore. I don't know how to approach this. He doesn't get it. He just gets defensive and calls me stupid, inconsiderate, and rude for simply saying that they have a problem.\n\nHow do I navigate this without hurting feelings?", "summary": "In-laws are hoarders and it's hurting my marriage."}
{"id": "t3_pbkki", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the nastiest thing to happen to you?", "post": "So I was dating this girl, let's call her Jessica, and we both decided to go to a party. It was sometime during January and we live up north. Once we get there we both enjoy ourselves and she leaves for a while. Nearing the end of the party I was pretty drunk and crashed on the couch (the party was at my friends place). I wake up the next morning with my gf (now ex) cuddled next to me. I was pretty hung over but I noticed something odd... The first thing I always do when I wake up after drinking is check my pockets for my wallet. It was there, but it was soaked. After moving around a little bit and separating from the body heat between us I realize that most of my left leg is soaked and some of my shirt. I suddenly realized that my drunk ass girlfriend had pissed herself after falling asleep on me. At this point I'm hung over, covered in piss and furious. I wake her ass up and tell her I'm going home; she can come with me or stay here and explain herself. I had to tread through the cold winter breeze and fresh snow on the floor in my piss covered pants. Upon arriving to my place I immediately look for a bottle to fill with water. I was pretty thirsty. I grab an empty bottle of powerade from my trash and proceed to fill it up with water from the sink. I start chugging it until it occurs to me that I tasted something weird. I look inside and realize that my fucking girlfriend had thrown her used tampon in it and put it in the trash. I spend the rest of the day trying to purge it all out of my system.", "summary": "I got pissed on by my gf and drank period water."}
{"id": "t3_ffb6f", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can a girl tell you she loves you and still date somebody else? Time for a story.", "post": "So I was meaning to get this off my chest for a while, here it goes.\n\nIn December 2009, I started talking to this girl I met online. I didn't think anything of it, and all we did was just talk online, or text. Soon after, she called me on the phone, and we became pretty serious. She is an amazing person with an addictive personality after talking countless hours with her. The problem? She is 35 with 2 kids and I'm 21 studying to become an Accountant. For the longest time we both wanted a relationship so badly, but I told myself it would never work because we are both in 2 completely different stages of our life. I wanted kids and she already had kids. So after fighting her desire for a relationship, we became best friends, and we are both extremely happy.\n\nShe broke up with her ex boyfriend (who is around my age), and after a year and half, they recently got back together. I feel a little be crappy about it, but I keep reminding myself that I was the one who didn't want a relationship. She is forever grateful that I came into her life, and says I was the best thing to ever happen to her life. She had a dark time where she fell into depression and she tells me that I am the reason for her getting out of that depression period.\n\nEven after she got back with her ex, she still tells me she loves me, and will forever do so because of all the things I helped her with to get rid of her depression. She goes on further by saying that given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me because she knew I was the one. I feel the same way. You may call me an idiot for thinking that way, but it's how I feel, i'm entitled to have my heart express the feelings I have for this girl.\n\nAnyways, how would you feel if the girl you were dating was just dating you because the guy she really wanted told her it could never happen?", "summary": "I'm 21, she is 35. She got back with her ex, and tells me she still loves me. Given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me, but I told her it could never happen."}
{"id": "t3_2gquj5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my new girlfriend [20 F] of a couple of weeks, she kisses wrong. How do I tell her?", "post": "So I just started dating this girl, and it is pretty great except for the kissing.\n\nI want to address this early, so it doesn't get into the \"how come you've never mentioned this before?\"-area. My question is: **How do you approach a topic like this without hurting her feelings?** I really like her so I don't want to mess up a potentially great relationship.\n\n**Onto the issue itself:**\n\nIt's not really her technique that's wrong. It's just that she does this infinite kissing kinda thing. You know how a good kiss starts off slow, then you lean into it, tongue action, and then it slowly winds down, and then you separate. Well she doesn't do that. She starts up, and leans into it, and goes on for *minutes*. For me this is really boring, i like to separate every once in a while and do other stuff (neck kissing, ear biting, what have you) to mix it up. But every time I try to pull away, she pulls me back in. Every time our kiss ends, it feels sorta like I ended it in the middle.", "summary": "My girlfriend kisses too long. How do I tell her it's too much, without hurting her feelings?"}
{"id": "t3_4ci82m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 6 months, I'm losing interest and everything she does annoys me", "post": "First of all, this is mainly due to us using Facebook messenger, when she's visiting it's normally alright, although we do have bored moments. \n\nAt the start of our relationship, everything was fun, and interesting. I stayed up until late with her, just talking. Recently, I've found it a chore to talk to her, maybe because I feel like I have to, maybe because we don't have anything to say. She's been getting upset over this, and I don't want to lose her, although I get annoyed and stressed. It feels like she talks about nonsensical horseshit, and I have to answer. First of all its rice, then chocolate, then imaginary Internet points on imgur. \n\nI'm not sure if this is the root cause of this, but I've been feeling like this towards other people, definitely with a disinterest in online chats, and I've been snapping at people a lot. My mood swings often, mainly at night, when most of our Facebook conversations happen. During the day I hardly speak to her, and I like it that way.\n\nTo summarise, I'm not sure if it's her, or me, or the constant talking online, as I hardly spoke to people online before we got together. She's madly in love with me, and I'm always annoyed and yelling at her, somehow,  she thinks she's doing something wrong, even though I know deep down she isn't. \n\nWe've got a holiday booked in July, and I don't know if it'll last, I know I need to put some work in but I don't know how. I'm an impatient arse of a person.", "summary": "losing interest in my girlfriend, and I don't know if it's a mental health problem or its her. Also don't know about the future of the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4749vc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Graduate infatuated with older professor", "post": "I have an extreme infatuation with a professor of mine. Took his class in the fall, got 100% and honors, and am now no longer a student. He is not married and neither am I.  I understand this to be unrealistic and definitely a fantasy that I want to come true. How can I even go about pursuing this? I liked him from the moment we met and tried to keep my feelings under wraps while in the school. I'm not sure if he suspects this of me or not. The attraction is physical, intellectual, and to his personality.\n\nI don't believe moral, ethical, power differential, or professional conduct is an issue at this point as I am no longer a student. I am an adult, albeit young, but I want to pursue a relationship with this man. Realistically, mentoring. Ideally, sexual, mentor and friendship.\n\nI just want the point of view of other readers to hear if I am completely off the deep end with this.\n\nCollege professors occasionally have sexual relations with their students so it wouldn't be unheard of.\n\nWomen who go after younger men are called \"cougars\", and women like myself who prefer older men or as they say \"silver foxes\" are called \"cheetahs\". Just wanted to add that for the humor of it all. I can laugh about it but I am quite seriously interested and open to anything.", "summary": "Is it feasible for a woman to sleep with and befriend her professor who is 40 years her senior?"}
{"id": "t3_gcqg5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My husband refuses to help himself. Is there any hope at all?", "post": "My husband (26) and I (22) have been married for 2 years now and I'm starting to regret it (which is a thought I really don't want to be having).  On average, I'd say we fight about 4 times a week.\n\nThe minimum wage job he's at now makes him miserable, which he takes out on me by either shouting or ignoring me all night.  I set up an online CV for him so he can find a new job, but he refuses to even look at it. If it isn't coaching, he's not interested.  Problem is, he's out of shape and has no experience in the field (unless you count playing NCAA/Madden obsessively...).\n\nLast summer, he told everyone that he had gotten a coaching job when he had only briefly spoken to the employer. I had suggested he keep it to himself until he had the job in writing, but he completely ignored that. Obviously, he didn't get the job and the fallout was very awkward, to say the least. He also got even more depressed and we fought every night, without fail, for weeks.\n\nThis year, I decided to get involved and encouraged him to come running with me. He didn't want to - said he didn't have time - and spends all night playing games or watching TV instead. He did buy one of those fitness programs, but only used it for about a week before giving up.\n\nI love him, but I can't take much more of his laziness.\nAs a brief example, which is pretty typical behavior - I went abroad for 6 months, leaving him alone with our new puppy. I came back to find he had moved our entire living room into the bedroom, shut himself in there and not taken the puppy outside at all. Our carpet is completely ruined, as you can imagine, and the puppy has a lot of issues due to the neglect.\n\nI really don't know what to do and walking out isn't an option right now.", "summary": "My husband is lazy, fixated on an unrealistic job, won't do anything to help himself and is making me miserable too. Is there anything I can do to save this marriage before it's too late?"}
{"id": "t3_3fiqzs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by deficating while being drunk", "post": "So this happened last weekend but I just wanted to forget it. However I have come to terms with what I have done and I am ready to share.\n\nSo a little background,  I'm 21 and live right off of a college campus. So there is no shortness of drunken nights for my friends and myself. Typically we handle ourselves pretty well when we are drunk (don't break stuff, don't get violent, that kinda thing) however I brought shame to myself the other night.\n\nSo my friend calls me up and asked if I want to go to The Valley (string of bars all in one small area) for dollar beers. I agree and meet him at the bus stop that will take you right to The Valley. We immediately start pounding down some of the dollar beers and also start running in to some of our other friends that went out there. As we run into these friends I start taking some shots with them as it comes up. Still feeling pretty in control of myself at this point, but then one of my roommates shows up. This is were my night ends. He starts buying me shots of Jameson. With the alcohol that is already in my system and the continuous shots he is buying me this is were I blackout for the night.\n\nSo fast forward a couple hours I wake up in my bed feeling like crap with just the 'best' hangover... while laying there I try to piece my night together but can't remember how I got home or anything, its all a blur. So I finally get up out of bed and walk into the kitchen (my bedroom is on the first floor of the house). In the middle of the kitchen I see my shorts and boxers. But wait, there's something else. There was a fucking log on my kitchen floor, I must have taken my cloths off the squatted in the kitchen to take a shit. By far the most embarrassing this I have ever done. I'm pretty sure at least one of my roommates saw it as well but he has not brought it up yet and I hope he never does.", "summary": "Blacked out, shit on the kitchen floor."}
{"id": "t3_ghx67", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Update: Girl I'm dating doesn't want to see me anymore. Would it be okay to contact her to send pictures of our date?", "post": "Here is the original thread: \n\nBoth in our 20's. Basically, when I asked the original question, a girl I just started dating and I had a lot of fun on our dates. I called her for about a week without any response and assumed it was over. I asked Reddit if it would be okay to contact this girl one, last time to get a pictures she took of our date.\n\nThe consensus on Reddit was that I should just not contact her for the picture, and that it was creepy. I agreed that it was creepy and decided not to ask her for a picture. Most of Reddit also said that I should just let this go and never contact her again.\n\nBut seeking the advice of a RL friend, I asked what I should do. I had an incredible time with this girl on our dates and for the life of me could not figure out why she wasn't returning my calls. My friend advised, in the name of love, I should call her one, last time. I was really falling for this girl and understood the reasoning, so I took his advice.\n\nI gave her one, last call. She didn't answer her phone, but I left a message. I agreed with Reddit and thought asking for pictures would be creepy, but I did ask her what was going on and if she wanted to still go out with me. A few hours passed, and she didn't call back, so I decided to let this go and move on.\n\nWell, she eventually called me back and we talked over the situation. We agreed to go out again, and while I won't go into details, we spent a lot of the weekend together, and I am still recovering from the happiest moment of my life with a girl I'm really falling for. It was an incredible weekend. :)\n\nReddit was right about not asking for the pictures but wrong about not contacting her ever again. Reddit thinks from an outsider's detached point of view - logically and with their head. My lesson is that while many things make sense logically, sometimes you've just got to ignore what makes logical sense and just go with your emotions and your heart.", "summary": "My head agreed with Reddit and wanted to let this go because the girl wasn't calling me back for a week. But my heart wanted to make this work and wanted to reach out to her in the name of love. I followed my heart, and I'm currently recovering from the best weekend of my life."}
{"id": "t3_2s8l20", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[14/F] Kind of a loner in class, need friendship/social advice", "post": "Last year, I entered a pretty selective school in which only a certain number of people can enter the school each year, so in every grade there isn't many people. I'm in my second year, and the class I was put in just happened to contain absolutely nobody I knew, while everybody else knew each other. On the second day, I noticed some other people who didn't seem to belong with everyone else; in a desperate attempt to not be alone, I blurted out, \"Hey, My name is BlackLotus770, want to be friends?\" which I immediately regretted. \n\nSo being an awesome person, she didn't mind that I had asked her like a kindergartner, and so everyday in class we sat next to each other and I discovered that she was a very awesome person indeed. However, I couldn't really keep up conversations with her and we didn't have all too much in common, and we slowly drifted away. She formed a group with some other people in the class, and doesn't really talk with me very often anymore. I mean, she does, but really only the typical \"hey\"s and \"how's it going\"s. \n\nSo now I'm all alone. In classes where I used to sit next to her, I now awkwardly join another group as my seat was taken by somebody else. I have friends outside of class, but during classes I just feel so awkward, especially if we have to get into groups. \n\nShe's an awesome person, and I don't want to latch onto her as she obviously likes being in the company of her group and not me, but I also don't want to be alone. I don't really know if I can call anyone in my class a friend, but I'm on friendly terms with everyone. I can't help but feel a bit lonely, though. Is there anything I can do? I'm the quiet and awkward one in class, but I'm trying to improve socially. And yes I know I'm young, but help would be appreciated.", "summary": "Quiet and awkward gurl gets friend, friend drifts away and gets new friends, lonely now but doesn't want to be clingy. Have friends outside of class, this is only in travel class."}
{"id": "t3_32b30h", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "In 20+ years my wife has been in one car accident and had one speeding ticket. Her driving scares the shit out of me.", "post": "My wife does the bulk of the driving and there's nothing I can do about it.  I have epilepsy and even though my driving record is just as good as hers, it's just safer for everyone that I don't drive.  That goes double for when my kids are in the car.  She regularly goes 20 mph over the speed limit, will swerve through three lanes just to get ahead of one car, and then rides the bumper of the next car in line.  When the light turns green she either takes off like it's a drag race or doesn't notice the light has changed until someone honks.  When a light turns red she accelerates until she is forced to slam on the brakes.  When I drive the SUV I get about 22 mpg.  When she drives she gets about 16 mpg.  \n\nWe've fought about this more times than I can count and she always calms down for a month or two.  Then she inevitably goes back to driving like she's sponsored by Marlboro.  The biggest problem I'm facing, and the reason I'm never going to win this fight (other than that she's my wife) is that she always knows exactly where everyone else is on the road.  She has perfect spatial awareness.  I'm at a loss as to what to do and need some new arguments to get her to slow down.  It's one thing to drive so aggressively in L.A. where that's the norm, but we've moved to a place where the only traffic we ever see is for local sports and church.", "summary": "My wife is excellent at driving in the city but scares the shit out of me now that we're out in the boonies."}
{"id": "t3_31p5pb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] and my GF [29F] (dating for 3 months) are in conflict over the way I interact with my ex [29F] (dated for 5 years)", "post": "My ex [29F] and I dated for 5 years and finally ended things in November 2014 (which made me very happy).  In January 2015, I started dating a new girl and things have been really great, but she doesn't like how nice I still am to my ex.  \n\nMy ex and I adopted two dogs together and when we split, I took both dogs.  Every month, I drop them off to her so she can play with them for an hour, which made sense before I was dating someone new, but now it's starting to cause some problems.  Then recently, my ex told me she wants to drop by to pick up the rest of her stuff from my place (actually a lot of stuff), but this is making the girl I'm seeing pretty upset.  \n\nI have no romantic feelings for my ex, and am glad we're broken up, but I don't have the heart to not allow her to no longer see the dogs, and I think it's reasonable to allow her to stop by and pick up the rest of her crap from my house, but this is not something the girl I'm dating is cool with.    \n\nIs my openness to my ex definitely not OK since I'm dating someone new?", "summary": "The girl [29F] I've been dating for 3 months doesn't like the fact that I still let my ex [29F] (dated for 5 years) see our dogs every month, and that I agreed to let her come to my place tomorrow to pick up the rest of her stuff.  Is my friendly and non-romantic openness to my ex reasonable or am I crossing the line?"}
{"id": "t3_na1f2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your most scarring childhood memory?", "post": "Mine happened when I was about five years old at a live Barney show. Kids were getting called onto the stage, and I was the last one to get called up. It was awesome. Barney literally said \"the girl in the blue dress, come on up!\" So I get onto the stage and join the other kids in a line, and Barney starts asking each kid one by one what sounds different animals make. I was like \"fuck yeah, I have been training for this shit my whole life\". I knew those animal sounds. As he gets closer, I'm hearing the other kids' paltry impressions of cows and horses and ducks, and when he finally gets to me he asks \"and what sound does a skunk make?\" I had nothing. I think I tried making a \"tsk\"ing noise. Then all the other kids shouted IN UNISON \"PEEE-YEEWW\". I was quickly ushered off the stage.", "summary": "Barney humiliated me when I was five years old."}
{"id": "t3_4eepjx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (27m) tell my employer (4+ years) I'm moving/quitting, without burning bridges?", "post": "In 3 months I'll be moving from my current hometown to live with my girlfriend of 2 years, who lives about 8 hours away. The reason this is complicated is because our company is going through a lot of big changes right now (changing locations, hiring new people, low sales, and so on). Over the last 4 years I've worked hard and been promoted a few times, and now I have a fairly large role in our store.\n\n We have 10-12 employees at our store and just today we had a person (also of 4 years) quit. I feel like the timing for this is all bad. I think my bosses will be angry with me if I tell them now, but I want to give them a heads up so they have time to replace me. Not only are they my colleagues but they're also my friends. I don't want to screw them over. I know they're going to feel like they have invested a lot in me and now I'm just gonna leave for no better reason than a girl. I would just like to have their support because I would like to maintain my friendships and they could also be nice reference for my next job.", "summary": "I'm quitting my job and I'd like to maintain a good relationship with my bosses."}
{"id": "t3_3rqyex", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20M) am confused about what to do with my relationship with my ex-girlfriend(19F) of four years", "post": "Okay may not be as exciting as other posts on here but I am really confused about what to do:\n\nWe have been together for four years and had a lot of difficult patches which has ended in multiple breakups.  During one of these break ups she slept with a friend from home, she explained that she was just moving on and never expected to see me again and it didn't mean anything. I believe her and moved on\n\nAs of last year I started really suffering from depression and it made our relationship very difficult. We eventually broke up before both going back to university in the same city! She was a fresher and has slept with somebody else.  I have talked to other girls and dated since but not had any sexual encounters.  \n\nWe recently started talking and it is coming more apparent to us, especially me that we do still love each other and joked a lot about how stupid we are when we keep breaking up (probably 3 break ups lasting over a month in last 3 years). I love her and want to be with her but I am scared if things change I'll have missed on the whole sleeping with other people and that i should play the field - but to be honest I don't want to be with somebody else.\n\nThings are looking more and more likely we are going to get back together and even though I want it to happen I am so scared that it'll backfire and I'll leave myself in a terrible position in the future.\n\nI love her to bits and probably would end up having children with her in the future if we do get back together. Am I being shallow?", "summary": "ex-girlfriend has slept with others since our breakup where she is still my first and only, we want to get back together. Good idea?"}
{"id": "t3_mun3v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I build credit while avidly living within my means?", "post": "Currently, I only have one source that will add to my credit score which would be my student loans. I live within my means as best I can, I drive a beater ('93 honda) that I paid cash for, I dont buy many games(League of legends + <$15 steam sale games), I dont have a large wardrobe, my only 'luxury' item is my gaming computer which I put together myself for less than 1k, I go out to eat maybe once a week with a group of friends.\n\nI dont have a credit card, strictly debit card. I'm really just wondering how I can build a credit rating for when I want to buy a house when I already have financial responsibility and save before buying something and knowing what I can/cant afford.", "summary": "I dont want to waste money/risk a lapse of judgement with credit card by buying any big ticket or $5ing myself everyday for meals. What is an effective way of building my credit?"}
{"id": "t3_2aupnt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend [24F] of 5 and a half years is breaking up with me [24M] apparently it's not me it's her.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time and have lived together for about 3 and a half years. A month ago she wanted to break up after I caught her lying about deleting texts etc. She has cheated on me once by just kissing another guy while drunk but I know she is not deleting \"cheating txts\" as I have seen them before she has deleted them before.\n\n Now tongiht everything happened exactly the same. She was found to be deleting txts from the same guy. I am 100% sure she is not cheating on him with me but I can't help but feel she is complaining about me to him or something. Anyway I don't think that's the point. \n\nWe are best friends she says she still loves me and wants to be with me down the track and we will get married have kids etc. But I can't handle that. Once she is gone I cannot bear to think of her with anyone else. She has a lot of friends but most of my friends I have met through friends of hers and my school friends live a few hours away. \n\nShe is saying she just wants to be alone and has found herself developing crushes and finding other people attractive. I am absolutely wrecked and really scared about my motivation and financial situation if she leaves. I love her so much I don't know what to do. I made a throwaway account because I get pretty embarrassed to talk about my relationship with anyone else but her.", "summary": "girlfriend of 5 years is breaking up with me. I don't know what to do. She want's to be togerther down the track but I cant do it thinking about whoever else she has been with throughout our time apart."}
{"id": "t3_3rot2w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "\"If you lie down with dogs, you get fleas\": Me [34 F] with my gradschool friend/colleague [31 F] of 1 year, has been accused of plagiarism. I am worried my reputation will suffer if I maintain our friendship and continue to support her.", "post": "I probably sound like a horrible person. It's a research masters with some coursework elements. She submitted an essay and basically it was found to be 60% plagiarised. She admitted to sloppy checking and referencing, a few quotes disguised as paraphrases. But she did lift a full copy/paste from the internet for at least 1 paragraph. It is a very small department, everyone knows everyone else, and the academics/staff/professors will be partly making decisions next year for who is successful in getting onto a PhD program..\n\nBasically everybody knows about the accusations at this stage. I have been very supportive, (while silently judging her a little, to be honest) but generally all round being a good friend. She was going through a tough relationship breakdown when submitting this, so I understand she was stressed/rushed and ended up pulling some all nighters. Everyone makes mistakes/fucks up every now and then. \n\nBut I am really worried if I continue to be supportive and constantly around her, that the professors will start to associate me with her and what she has done. Obviously plagiarism is practically as bad as murdering someone in academia! Some of them are quite cool towards her and I really don't want this to affect my career as well.\n\nI realise I sound coldhearted and selfish. Please understand I have never said this to her. But if I need to cut my losses with her, to protect myself, I will have no choice.", "summary": "My friend/colleague in gradschool plagiarised and the department professors/academics can have a say in our future PhD acceptances, as well as references. I am worried that if I maintain my friendship with her I will be associated with what she did. Should I end the friendship?"}
{"id": "t3_1kdyzc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [M24] and I [F21] are moving in together soon! Is there anything we should know ahead of time?", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together two years, I'm a full-time student and he works full-time. He's going to be moving in with me into my apartment, where we'll be sharing space with our cat. We're already expecting issues, as no relationship is perfect, especially when you begin coexisting in such close quarters. I was just wondering what you guys experienced when you moved in with your significant other, what problems arose, what you wish you had known ahead of time, or what surprised you! \n\nSo, Reddit, what would you tell someone who's moving in with their significant other?", "summary": "Boyfriend and I are moving in together, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_442sna", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Is my dog mourning in his own way or just being gross?", "post": "My family sadly lost our beautiful boy Kevin a month ago. My two other dogs (Timmy and Benny) didn't get to say goodbye to him at all as my family were away on holidays and just brought Kevin home to be put to sleep while the other two were left with friends. So all of a sudden Kevin's not around and they obviously don't understand why he's not there.\n\nFast forward to now, it is quite obvious that both dogs (Timmy and Benny) miss Kevin a lot. Especially Benny, he was always at Kev's side like an annoying sidekick bossing him around. So he is very lonely now because he doesn't have that company anymore and Timmy is too busy doing his own thing to hang out with Benny.\n\nSo the other day Benny came up from the bottom of the backyard smelling quite vile, I went to check if he'd been at Kevin's grave -which he had. My dad reburied the grave and said that all was intact as in Benny had just dug up a little bit and probably rolled in it. \nBut today I went down again and two different spots were dug up  unfortunately exposing parts of Kevin (mostly skin with bits of hair on it, quite confronting really). I thought Benny had just dug him up again and hair had been moved in the process until I noticed there was a lot of dog poo around and some of it (definitely Benny's) had Kevin's hair in it :( \n\nBenny is a notorious pig, he eats everything he can including his own poo sometimes (he doesn't digest food properly so it is still apparently enticing to him, Timmy and even rats).\nSo I wouldn't put it past him to just be attacking Kev's grave like it's just food to him. \n\nWhy is he eating it? Does he just miss Kev and this is his way of mourning him?\nHas anyone else experienced this? Or heard of it happening?\nWhat should I do?\n(I already fixed up the grave and then covered it in logs and sticks to hopefully keep Benny out.)", "summary": "Dog keeps digging up dead dog friend and eating bits of it."}
{"id": "t3_167whh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I 18 (m) don't know if i should stay in relationship with my girlfriend 18 (f)", "post": "So let me start somewhat from the beginning, me and her had met back in middle school when we were 13. We had become each others first girlfriend/boyfriend, gave each other our first kiss to our first fuck. Everything went well until we entered highschool where i had started to smoke trees, because of this she broke up with me and we went on a 4-5 month break where we would somewhat still keep in contact. During this time i had come to realize that i am bi sexual. We had got back together and these feelings became suppressed as i was happy to be back with her. The rest of high school was good up until after graduation where we decided to take a break during the summer. During this summer i had come to realize that i am more attracted to men to girls. I have not told anyone but here that i am gay now and dont plan on telling anyone else. I had only told her because i had grown up with her and she knows me best in my life as i know her best in her life.\n\nNow the problem that i see is that i am a gay man in a relationship with a girl. Now dont get me wrong, i love her to death and would never wanna loose her as she is my best friend and most important person in my life. The hard part is having to suppress my true sexual attractions, but also, pretend that i am attracted to her.  I have tried to ask if we could just be friends but she tells me that she cant just be my friend and that its either were together or not. i can understand this because she is deeply in love and attracted to me and would not be able to be by my side if i am not with her as a boyfriend. I am afraid that i will cheat on her and just hurt her which brings me to the question....WTF should i do? i cant stand the thought of loosing her in my life....", "summary": "gay man in a straight relationship, cant breakup with her because that means i loose her for the rest of my life and she is too important to me"}
{"id": "t3_3qo238", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[TX] My soon to be former roomate is refusing to pay bills", "post": "My lease is up on saturday. However there is the issue of the last month of electric and internet bills. They are both only in my name and we never had a signed contract stating she had to pay me her part. I have old text messages informing her of when bills are due and how much she owes. \n\nHowever we recently got in an argument and no longer friends. Because of this she says she shouldn't have to pay me because she is mad at me. \n\nWhat the hell do I do? I am struggling financially as it is and I cannot really afford her part. Please help.", "summary": "my soon to be former roomate refuses to pay bills what do I do"}
{"id": "t3_2ccsfx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend give me ultimatum f25, m29. One year", "post": "Background: \n\nI am from a rural town in mexico where old traditions are still a rule. my parents believe in dating = just talking never kissing, holding hand or anything. Is difficult for them to understand that I am dating someone from US, and often get in arguments with them about it. I cannot imaging if they found out that I am sleeping over at his house. \n\nNow my boyfriend got mad see background please. He called me coward, but I do not know what to do. I cannot tell my parents. I do not want to be dishonest, is just that they will not understand. :( . I am just going to cause an argument with them of not ending, just to give you an idea my grandpa only advice to me was \"if you lose you virginity before marriage you are worthless, so be careful\" how can I deal with this!!! \n\nIt took me years to do not feel guilty myself, and now my boyfriend who I love very much is thinking of breaking up with me. I am dying.", "summary": "I do not know how to deal with Mexican traditional family and my boyfriend no accepting my \"hiding\" (sleeping over at his house)."}
{"id": "t3_35xbmj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(20/f) my bf's (32/m) ex has been bothering me a lot lately. Help.", "post": "My bf and I have been together for a year and a half now. But a few of his exes have contacted him a few times when we began dating and it really bothered me at first.\n\nThis one particular ex has been trying to add me on different social media accounts countless times. She succeeded in adding me on Snapchat and at first I didn't realize who it was so I deleted her after a while. Before this, my bf went out of state for a trip and I found letters outside his apartment from her and I got really mad but immediately got over it.\n\nFast forward to this year, she adds me on snapchat AGAIN and I ask her who she is. She tells me that we have already had that conversation before and other things which was a total fucking lie. At this point, I know who she is and I get really pissed off. I don't like when people invade my privacy and I know I shouldn't have added her back in the first place. Dumb decision, I know.\n\nRecently, she tells my boyfriend that she knows I'm the reason they broke up, \"she's so young\", at this point, I'm just angry and my boyfriend just says that she needs time to get over him. It's been a year and a half! She has a bf now and she still contacts my bf, and I hate it. I really just want to tell her to leave us alone but I don't want to look like a bitch. But at this point, I'm ready to call her out and make her fucking cry. I'm just angry.", "summary": "bf's ex doesn't back off even after knowing he is in a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3s35vb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girl[19/f] I like just broke up. What should I[19/m] do?", "post": "So i have known this girl for about 3 months now. I had no idea that she had a boyfriend until yesterday when I overheard her friends talking about it. All these time she never hinted or said she was in a relationship. She is now pretty heartbroken. Like really really heartbroken. I heard it they did not work out at all but she's still deeply in love with him. I have not talked to her since they broke up, we always do before that. Now, I am also unsure if she knows the fact that I know what is going on (that she broke up and had a boyfriend).\nMy relationship with her got pretty close after a month knowing her. We almost have lunch and dinner 3-5 times a week. She always gives mixed signals to me to i am very 50/50 about her towards me. Really, I would never thought she had a boyfriend. She always said he was a friend. They probably only meet up like once a fortnight. Now, should i give her time to let her cool down from all these emotions? I shouldn't comfort her or anything right? What is the next step? :(", "summary": "Girl I like just broke up. I din't know she had a boyfriend during the 3 months i knew her. She gives mixed signals before breakup. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1urbd4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "MyGF [27/f] and I [26/f] have been happily dating for 3 months, until last week when she decided to criticize EVERYTHING I do...", "post": "MY GF and I met and started dating exclusively 3 months ago. We're very happy, always laughing, lots in common, similar life goals... \n\nBut starting about a week and a half ago, we cannot go a whole day without her criticizing SOMETHING about my career (I'm a successful freelancer, but she resents that I have so much time off between my gigs), my mannerisms, my habits. EVERYDAY. literally. I don't fight with her about it, and let her vent her frustrations about me (I always welcome honesty), but it seems to be getting worse.\n\nToday, when I confronted her about her frequent nit picking and why she suddenly insisted on doing it so often, and how it affects me, she said that \" It just annoys her, and wants to make me aware of it, because it will never change if she doesn't tell me\".\n\nI suppose I just don't really know how to feel about this. She seems resentful and frustrated all the time recently, and is insisting I alter several of my harmless (seriously, harmless) habits and mannerisms( i.e. \"I eat too fast\" \"I exaggerate too much\" \"I don't put the dishes in the dishwasher in an organized-enough fashion\" ). \n\nI'm happy to compromise for relationships, but is this crossing the line? I have never put any expectations like this on her, ever. I'm worried it's connected to a deeper problem.", "summary": "GF is asking me to change a lot of things, which I'm happy to do, but I don't know if it's crossing the line or just asking for more demands."}
{"id": "t3_30q6dr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] fell hard for [18F].", "post": "I basically love the stupid fucking girl. I've had girlfriends in the past and some casual shit, but have never truly cared for any of those girls and she's the only one good enough to get me emotionally invested and now I feel like a big fucking pussy about it and act like one too.\n\nWe're both military she adored me, I adored her back but knew orders would eventually seperate us. So she was my girlfriend for a few months and she's heart melting and beautiful and all that annoying shit, but she has some skeletons and problems of her own which is cool because she's still the best.\n\n She likes me so much that she insists I be her boyfriend over the distance which is like 3 gazillion miles. So we're eventually seperated (fuck you military stop giving me good people and taking them away) and I get all nervous and paranoid because of course the only girl I ever fucking care about is now not with me and I eventually get all annoying about her friends because they're all guys because she's military. It was my first long distance thing because before that I was like \"lol why would I wait for some dumb girl\" and then she comes into my life and I'm like oh I understand why people fall in love now and do stupid things because of it.\n\nSo she is becoming more distant and some more awful shit happens in her life when she's goes home. She's tough but has her own way of handling things which is to not communicate with anyone and this makes me frustrated because I can't stand not talking to her.\n\nShe eventually says that it won't work over the phone and I'm like wtf you dumb perfect girl you wanted this to happen. So I've been trying not to talk to her and delete her from social media but I still end up texting her and saying stupid shit especially when I'm drunk. She probably hates me now and I accused her of just using me because I checked her Facebook from my buddies account and what do you fucking know? It says in a relationship.", "summary": "Me and girl really like each other. She drops me for long distance even though she wanted a long distance relationship and now probably has a new boyfriend already. Should I even try?"}
{"id": "t3_553qzi", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[20M] My girlfriend [20F] of 2 years tried to break up with me... But now she's having second thoughts", "post": "So my girlfriend and I are in somewhat of a ldr, about 2 hours apart by drive, but even then we don't get to see each other all the time because of school. We've had what I would call a very good relationship up until this point. Its had its ups and down (partially due to her depression which she has only recently started medicating for) but overall it made me happy.\n\nRecently however, she started acting distant towards me, not answering texts, phone calls, and when she did answer only giving short responses. This all culminated to her telling me that she thinks we need to take a \"break\". I pressed for a reason and she told me a couple things: that she had started thinking about other people (romantic interests) and a future without me, and that she feels as though she's not really into our relationship anymore. I was crushed to say the least, what she said hurt me... Until only a day or two later, then I started feeling good about the whole situation. I felt somewhat relieved.\n\nWe had been talking consistently from the point she said she wanted a \"break\" and things mostly seemed like they were set in stone, that we would break up. She went as far as to change her status on Facebook (not super important to me, but I know how much she values social media for pda, so take that as you will). Now about a week has passed and she's telling me how sad she is, how she feels like she's slipped back into her depression, and how she wants to get back together.\n\nI have no idea how to handle this situation. I would love to get back together with her, but now I have conflicting emotions about it. Additionally I don't know if this is just going to happen again. If things end, I want them to end peacefully and with us both walking away knowing the other is happy. Any advice anyone can offer would be greatly appreciated, thank you.", "summary": "Girlfriend was distant, said we should take a break, which turned into us really breaking up, I feel somewhat relieved, but sad as well. We had been keeping in contact, now she's unsure of her decision because she's sad. Unsure of how to move forward"}
{"id": "t3_1ai0na", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I cant be the only one.", "post": "I(21m) have been dating my gf(21f) for over 5 years. We met in high school our sophomore year and have been best friends and deeply in love ever since. I about two years ago she moved up to new york (I live in Alabama) to go to her dream dance school.  While most people probably would have said seeya, I completely support her decision because she is seriously talented. For the most part our relationship has stayed pretty strong while she has been away, but  with in the last month she has decided that she want !s an open relationship for a few reasons. \n1. she feels incredibly lonely and she feels like she cant make friends with other guys because she will feel guilty about it ( even though I told her I dont care because I trust her)\n2. About 6th months ago she ( and her mom) found out that her dad had been cheating for the past 15 years. Even though her mom and dad have miraculously worked things out, it has scared her shitless out of any kind of relationship. She keeps saying she isn't ready for marriage and that she want to make sure that she absolutely loves me. \nI have responded honestly and said that I am not looking for marriage any time soon and that I completely understand the situation that she is going through.\n\nAnyways Im not really sure of what to think of the whole thing. Is she just trying to breakup with me without hurting my feelings ( because we are so close)? Do open relationships ever work? Im going up to newyork in about a week to see her/figure some things out. Just wondering if anyone has any advice because im clueless.", "summary": "girl friend wants a open relationship. I dont know if its legitimate or not."}
{"id": "t3_wem94", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dog thinks he's a cat.", "post": "A few months ago, our family adopted quite a large dog into the family. since moving in, Axle (our dog) and our kitten Karma have become best friends. That being said, they've adopted some of each others characteristics. Karma will now sleep on the floor beside the couch, because that's where Axle sleeps, as he is far too big to be on the couch. Karma also gives \"kisses\", which is cute and all but.. ouch.\nAxle will now ATTEMPT to sleep on the back of the couch like the cats do, and he thinks he's small and swift enough to weave between the chair legs and in between the cracks in the stairs.\n\nHave any of you seen this happen with your animals ?\nI can't tell if they're going through some serious identity crisis or if that's how they show affection for one another", "summary": "my cat thinks he's a dog and my dog thinks he's a cat"}
{"id": "t3_150lqx", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Plotting Revenge...", "post": "22(M) she's 20(F). We went out for a year and a half. It has been about 2 months since we broke up. It was mutual, but very difficult. We had a very heavy honeymoon phase, I suppose. We got back together twice but couldn't make it work. She was the first person I opened up to... and the only person I have ever had an emotional relationship with. I probably miss her more than she misses me.\n\nWe have been in contact occasionally. I initiate contact more frequently than she does, but we are both guilty. We have many mutual friends and live two blocks from each other, so NC is just not realistic. She has been... not nice to me. I still do nice things for her. I bought her lunch a while back. I sent her a Christmas gift. I try and stay positive. Throughout the breakup she has said many hurtful things and treated me very poorly. My friends all think she is a bitch. She was very untrustworthy towards the end of the relationship. I don't think she cheated on me, but she put herself in positions that are just not acceptable if you are committed to someone.\n\nI drunk texted her over the weekend. I was just sort of mopey and emo, \"I still have feelings for you. Why do you resent me? I wish we never dated. Breakups are hard, etc.\". She sent my Christmas gift back and said she wanted nothing to do with me. It's payback time.\n\nShe is part of a charity organization to raise awareness and funding for pediatric cancers. My sinister plan for revenge... is to try and raise donations for her without her knowledge! I will kill her with kindness.\n\nThoughts and advice?", "summary": "I feel hurt about my breakup, so I will raise money for children with cancer. Good revenge?"}
{"id": "t3_gnzc9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Fake Girl, Real Girl??", "post": "So here's my situation. I love www.omegle.com, it's a great site to have some good conversations and meet some awesome people. About a week ago, I was on said site, and I met this girl. Named Sammie. We had a really good conversation. And I asked her to email me, she responded by telling me to add her on facebook. I though (what have I got to lose?) \n\nSo I did. Holy Gorgeous Reddit.\n\nWell I've talked to her quite a lot, and I actually really like her. However I have a nagging suspicion that all is not as she says it is... She has 130 someodd friends, the majority of which have <9 friends!! She doesn't have a single friend from her hometown. All of her friend's posts on her wall are exactly the same. They use the same format, all have little quirks that hint to me that they are all the same person!!! \n\nNow this is all well and good, I could simply ask her for a phone number, or an address, and confirm my suspicions. But I'm better than that =) Luckily I'm a programmer.\n\nSo here's what I'm thinking. Simple detective program to discover her identity.\n\nIf she isn't who she says she is, I'd still like to talk to her, I just don't want to be lied to, you know?", "summary": "Met a girl online, I think she's fake, should I do a little advanced detective work and find out?  "}
{"id": "t3_3y89br", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by opening to LAN (Minecraft)", "post": "This happened a couple of days ago but was only realised today.\n\nSo I couldn't be bothered to buy a decent computer so I play modpacks on my laptop. Since it can't run big packs I tend to join servers or play light packs like agrarian skies or regrowth. \n\nThis time I used curse to build a custom lite modpack which included botania and agricraft in it. \n\nAs I was progressing pretty far into agricraft I started on the botania flower seeds. Realising I would need podzol and the only place to get that was a mega taiga I jumped on chunkbase to find where the closest one was.\n\nApparently the seed I had there was none within 1000 blocks and so I decided to cheat it in. The goody 2 shoes within me relinquished control to the dark side and typed that game changing command, literally. \n\nOnly to discover this command is not available. When I had loaded my world I turned cheats off for this very purpose. However it was vital I got this podzol.\n\nI decided opening to LAN was my best option so I opened to LAN. Turned cheats on. And as if by magic had a new stack of podzol.\n\nNow my computer is set to do nothing if the charger is in and the lid is shut so that I can afk. Now I had things to do so I paused the game. Shut my charging computer. And left.\n\nToday I opened my laptop to see Minecraft open with me dead and was very confused until I remembered the above and weeped as not only could I not figure out where I died but I lost the very thing that made me cheat in the first place", "summary": "opened to LAN to cheat in an item. Left my computer runnk"}
{"id": "t3_140x1b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [37] am trying to deal with my very narcissistic father [64].", "post": "How do I deal with my father's retaliatory BS? The details are below.\n\nWe've been estranged for over 3 years now - I disengaged to distance myself from him, due to two decades of his alcoholic behavior and emotional abuse that was directed toward me. I tried setting some boundaries, and his responses were late-night phone calls that made me feel harassed and threatened.\n\nI'm trying to give him what he wants - a relationship. But I am also making clear that any relationship will be on my terms, and that boundaries must be respected. I expressed this in a recent email - I won't talk to him on the phone because he gets immediately verbose and nasty when I suggest he did something that hurt me, or I assert myself - in his world, everyone he has a relationship with must act like they are his subordinate.\n\nI'm getting massive pushback via email. It's like he didn't even read where I stated that his behavior hurt my feelings and made me feel harrassed. Instead, I get a lot of \"well you did [x] to me and it hurt MY feelings! How could you do that to ME?\" \n\nI admit I've made a lot of mistakes with my father, I've said a lot of things out of anger, but he's had many years to bring these things up with me - he chooses to bring them up when I say how hurt I feel by his treatment, as if \"well you did it too\" somehow justifies everything.\n\nI know his responses are petty bullshit. Retaliatory. Makes me feel manipulated. But I'm not sure how to respond. I *DO* want to apologize for some of the things I've said in anger, but if I do, he goes into \"you screwed up and now you're going to lick my boots...see everybody screws up....let's forgive and forget\" mode, and I end up right where I began, not getting any acknowledgement about MY hurt feelings.\n\nHow do I respond to this? I feel like I'm in a lose-lose situation. I know I cannot change him, but being completely estranged is very painful.", "summary": "my dad saves up my transgressions against him, and when I express my feelings, he immediately unloads them on me - what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1kytw6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (24 F) Fiance's (24 M) dad (50s M) is having an affair (w/ 30s F). What do I do?", "post": "Throwaway.\n\nMy Fiance is a wonderful man.  He's very positive and has a great sense of humor.  He attributes a lot of this to his dad.  He admires and respects his dad A LOT.  I know it's not uncommon for someone to look up to their parent but he idolizes his dad. I know that his relationship with his father is incredibly important to him and I don't want to do anything to ruin that.  However, I have recently discovered that my SO's Dad is cheating on his wife (SO's stepmom).  I'd rather not get into specifics but I am 100% certain that this affair is real.  What should I do?  I'm terrified!  The repercussions of this decision could end up defining my life.  What if he finds out I knew and didn't tell him?  What if I tell him and devastate him?  Is it my place to get involved?", "summary": "Fiance's Dad is having an affair.  I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_4gu08b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The guy I'm seeing [17M] is going into the navy in 5 months while I [18F] am moving away for college then. Is it pointless to get into a relationship?", "post": "I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and we really hit it off. I havent felt this sort of feeling for over a year and a half (the last guy I really felt a connection with was with my first ex boyfriend). We've both talked about how we feel about each other. He really likes me, I really like him. But we're both going separate paths in September. \n\nWe're both hesitant to get into a relationship because we don't want to get hurt. We know we won't intentionally try to hurt each other but after the 5 months is up we'll most likely have to break up. But I've thought about this for a while and I think I'd rather be with him and gain some relationship experience with him than be alone. He still doesn't know what he wants, though. What should I do? Would it be dumb to get into a relationship? I really like him, I wanna try it out.", "summary": "This guy I'm really into likes me too, but we're both hesitant to get into a relationship because we're going separate paths after high school and summer (5 months from now). I'm thinking I want a relationship but he isn't sure because he doesn't want to get hurt in the end. What should I do? Would it be dumb to get into a relationship now?"}
{"id": "t3_xvk3c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what's the most painful/embarrassing \"I immediately regret this decision\" moment you have ever had? I'll start.", "post": "One time, I was hanging out with my friend, we'll call him DJ, my brother \"Brock\", and our family friend \"Kurt.\" We went to the Mc Donald's connected to a BP in our small town and got large soft drinks, then afterwards we decided to go across the street, and down this steep hill to the lake our town sits on. About halfway down this steep-ass hill there was a pot hole. Brock and Kurt went over it with ease, and DJ wanted me to go first. So I thought, being the genius I am, that I could jump the pot hole and sprint down the hill. I would clear the hole and get to the bottom faster. Two birds, one stone right? Wrong-o. \"DJ, hold my drink!\" I said, then I jumped the hole, started sprinting. Now, I think it is important that I mention that I am no stranger to food, I am a heavy set guy. This being said, I realized shit got too real, too fast. I fanatically looked for a way to slow down, and noticed a small tree in front of me... I steam rolled over that like it was a rolling pin going over play-doe. Adding insult to injury, I somehow swallowed a spider that was using the tree as shelter. I then made it to the bottom... on my face. Right into the jagged rocks at the bottom. I rolled right across them. I basically cried and laughed at the same time. Then DJ came down and I said \"DJ, dude.\" and he replied \"Uhhh... yeah?\" I said \"You still have my drink?\" He replied \"Yeah dude.\" \"Gimmie that, I swallowed a spider and its in my throat.\" I said. I took a drink to force the bitch down, and tried to at least go out like a spider eating boss. So ends a perfect day...", "summary": "Tried to jump a pot hole then sprint down a steep hill, steam rolled a tree, then took my drink from my friend to help swallow a spider from the tree that was in my throat somehow.***"}
{"id": "t3_121r5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19M]irrational jealousy over GFs[19F] friendship with fraternity", "post": "Me and her have been BF/GF for two months, but have been seeing each other since March. I originally had no interest in dating her, but she's always made an effort to see me and I've fallen for her enough that I decided to start a relationship with her, even though I started as a transfer at a new school this year. I met her at a frat party last year and she's been friends with a lot of those guys before she met me. I have several friends in the frat and was offered a bid there last semester, but didn't do it because I thought I was leaving and a lack of real interest in joining a fraternity. I've seen her 4 times this semester so far, and we talk for hours every day. We connect really well and I couldn't ask for her to do anything more in the relationship, but her being friends with the frat and going there every so often for parties frustrates me, even though it shouldn't. She has showed no signs of cheating and I trust her completely, but I get feelings of jealousy and insecurity whenever we talk about her going over there. Despite the fact that I know a lot of the guys, I have no doubt in my mind that while she's there guys are hitting on her and she's drinking. My imagination runs wild and it can put me in a shitty mood and I won't want to talk to her, which she picks up on. \n\nIs this just me being immature? This is my first serious relationship, and aside from this we have an awesome connection and we really love each other. I don't have any friends with whom I can get some feedback on this from so I turn to you, reddit.", "summary": "Feelings of jealousy/insecurity over girlfriends' platonic friendship with fraternity"}
{"id": "t3_4buc78", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19 M] mom [40s F] is being gaslighted. Need help getting her out.", "post": "Throwaway because I'm playing this as carefully as possible.\n\nMy mom has been with this guy for several years. They have been married for a little under a year and have a child (my sister). They have always had issues, but I only began to realize how fucked up it all really is as I grew older. \n\nI'm 99% sure he has a personality disorder. He's horribly narcissistic and controlling. He goes out of his way to nitpick things about my mom and sisters. He used to do the same to me, until he got wasted one night and assaulted me (he ended up on the floor, I had been waiting for a moment to knock him on his ass for a long time). He hasn't said or done anything to me directly since then. \n\nThrough all of this, he tries to blame everything on my mom. He makes her believe that the situations are her fault or that she is the reason they happened. She is scared and feels trapped, which she just admitted to me over the phone. She wants to get away from him, but she fears for my sister and doesn't know what to do. \n\nI am several hours away at college right now, so I'm trying to put together a plan. I want her away from him and my sister with her. Does anyone have any advice for how to go about this? I'm not even 20, I don't have the slightest idea how to handle this.", "summary": "Mom and baby sister need away from my abusive stepdad, any advice or guidance is appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_4j4l5w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] friend [21M] is cheating on his girlfriend [21F] do I tell her??", "post": "So recently I was hanging out with Matt* and he got a message on his phone, which just consisted of the kiss face emoji from a girl that definitely wasn't his girlfriend. \n\nI asked him why another girl was sending him that stuff and he told me that they'd been seeing each other recently. I asked if that meant he'd cheated on his girlfriend, and he said yes but that he was planning on breaking up with her soon, he just felt bad and didn't know how to go about it. \n\nI'm not friends with his girlfriend, but this is completely wrong, and I don't know how long he's going to drag it out. Should I contact her and tell her what's going on?", "summary": "my friend is cheating on his girlfriend, I don't know her personally, but should I tell her?"}
{"id": "t3_1979h5", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "I (18m) am still in love with my ex (19f), though she seems to have moved on.", "post": "I (18M) was with her(19F) for two years, and was her first everything. Kiss, sex, etc. We argued a decent amount and it was semi-long distance for most of it, but it was generally really pleasant and we seemed pretty good for eachother. About a year into it, she met a guy online in like a \"searching for friends\" thread somewhere. He ended up being a pretty regular fighting point, because I constantly felt like she prioritized him over me. Anyway, this continues for a year, she gets kicked out of her house and I help her find a new place and job in my town. With her work and how busy she was, she started prioritizing a lot of things over me, but still kept talking to the guy. In addition, she had said she was curious about being with someone else, though she took this back pretty soon after saying it despite me telling her I understood and wasn' angry. So this goes on for awhile, and then in December after not having seen each other for two weeks I go to her place and help her unpack and move some things and after about 30 minutes she makes it really clear she wants me to leave, and I do. She refuses to talk to me about it at all, and in my hurt and frustration I break up with her and tell her she acts like she outgrew me, and she says this is true. I feel alright for a bit, talk to her as a friend pretty frequently. Then recently I find out that 1-2 weeks after our break up, she started a long distance relationship with the guy. I didn't exactly take this well, been just going to school/work and drinking when I get home every day for about a week. I feel like I shouldn't still want her because of how little it seems like it meant to her, but I can't really help it. I want to do something for her for her birthday this weekend and I know she would like it, partly for closure and partly as a last ditch effort to make her love me again. Advice?", "summary": "I recently broke up with my girlfriend of two years, and she is now with a guy I absolutely hate who we fought about while together. Not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3jkf1f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23F] have a lot of unfounded anxiety about my relationship with my partner [25M], hoping to find some reassurance", "post": "PSA: i suffer from mental illness, including extreme anxiety and panic disorder, so please try to be gentle.\n\ni have a lot of insecurity when it comes to my long distance relationship. fortunately for me, cheating is not one of the things i worry about. however, he and i haven't seen each other in about six weeks. this is my first ldr, and i'm trying to keep in mind that he's not avoiding seeing me and that this is just the nature of a long distance relationship. we have tentative plans for next weekend but he hasn't confirmed yet and it's been the source of a lot of anxiety for me.\n\ntoday i kind of took that out on him, telling him i was afraid that he was embarrassed of me or stringing me along, and asking him to explain to me why he couldn't commit to our plans yet and telling him it was the only way i could calm down. i sent him a lot of panicked texts and it was kind of intense. \n\ni have since calmed down, and we talked briefly, and i'm just trying to gauge how angry he is with me right now. when he got back to me he texted me \"woah, holy shit, what did i just walk back into\" but then after that he told me that he hasn't committed yet is only because he doesn't know exactly what is going on yet for next weekend and he's uncomfortable finalizing everything if he doesn't have a solid plan.\n\ni'm very anxious about the status of our relationship right now. to me it seems like he's definitely a little angry, but i don't think he would have tried to reassure me like he did if he was thinking of breaking up with me or something like that. is that a reasonable conclusion? how can i better handle things like this in the future?", "summary": "lots of relationship anxiety when it comes to my ldr, not sure how to manage it or how to be more sure of myself"}
{"id": "t3_35ulh9", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Babysitter negligence.. Criminal?", "post": "I have two small children, ages 2.5 years (Liam) and 7 months (Emma). I have a big problem. There was a death in my family and I had to travel several hundred miles because of this with very little notice. Long story short, I ended up leaving my kids with my trusted sitter (we'll call her \"Mary\") for the ~48 hours I had to be away. I felt like that was best for them under the circumstances, but it turns out I was very wrong. Shortly after I had picked up my children, I come to find out that Mary had apparently managed to enjoy a date night while my kids were in her care. The only thing I know for a fact is that she left my kids for at least an hour (probably longer). I don't know where she left them. I don't know with whom she left them. I also have no evidence against her, other than the word of a friend and a Facebook post. Additionally, Liam was extremely hungry and thirsty, and they were both incredibly exhausted. I am not exaggerating when I say that I am very concerned that they had not eaten or slept even remotely enough since I dropped them off. \nObviously, I feel like this is totally unacceptable, if not criminal!! I don't know what to do and I am very upset! I need advice. Is there really nothing that I can do from a legal standpoint? Also, if I spread the word about her negligence, could that hurt me down the road? Defamation or something? I feel strongly that I cannot just let this go! Please note that Mary has watched my kids at least a dozen times, and I've been completely satisfied with their care up until now. Needless to say, I will never consider leaving my kids with her again. I am located in North Carolina, United States. \nSorry for the novel. If there is a more appropriate sub for this, please let me know if I'm in the wrong place. Thank you guys in advance.", "summary": "My sitter left my kids after I trusted her to keep them while I was out of town. What, if anything, can/should I do? Also, what should I avoid doing? "}
{"id": "t3_1l6o0f", "subreddit": "Pets", "title": "Looking for advice - cat wants to sleep on the bed, but wants to groom first", "post": "The situation is: my husband and I sleep in a queen-sized bed.  We have two cats, the boy cat (\"B\") and the girl cat (\"Peanut\").  Peanut is overweight and stressed out because the two cats do not get along; we just recently figured out a reduced feeding schedule that works for her, so now she's hungry a lot of time too.  She's never been a snuggly cat.  B recently became an excellent bed-sleeping-cat, and I'm starting to think Peanut feels even more neglected.  I really want to make sleeping a bonding time.  She occasionally tries to sleep on the bed with us, but...\n\nSince Peanut is more shy, she likes to wait until we are quite settled on the bed before she jumps up (about 40 minutes).  She picks a spot, lays down - and then goes into a vigorous and lengthy grooming routine.  I swear she uses the bedsprings to propel her to hard-to-reach areas.  My gut says this lasts about 10 minutes.  \n\nBeing woken up 40 minutes after I go to bed and kept awake for another 10 is not an option for me.  (This part is not Peanut's fault, but I am a light sleeper, and when I am woken up at the beginning of my sleep cycle, I can be extremely irritable.)  Right now I try to let her jump up and get settled, but nudge her off the bed when/if the grooming starts.  However, Peanut is also a bit touchy, and will sometimes squawk and swipe her claws at me when I interrupt her, at which point we are both furious and miserable. \n\nI've had some success in training cats in the past - I know consistency is key, but I can't figure out what plan to follow.", "summary": "My cat wants to sleep on the bed with us, but wants to energetically groom herself before settling down."}
{"id": "t3_26ji7u", "subreddit": "self", "title": "To ignore", "post": "Today I realize something, I am ignored almost all the time, specially by women. It is not something new, I knew that, you talk to someone, and you never get an answer, or she only answer with monosyllable until you stop by boring. But as I told you, this is not the one thing I discover today. \n\nI guess than from their perspective is something like that: He only wants to fuck me, I am not interested in him, I have better candidates (I am not perfect as most of us, in my case I am not ugly but I need to lose 12kg) and I don't need a new friend so better to ignore him.\n\nAs I really hate being ignored, without realizing, I completely stop to talk to girls, and in the last 5 month I almost hadn't talked to anyone.\n\nAnd this happen, a girl surprisingly makes up her mind to talk to me without any apparent reason, except that automatically I have assumed (as they assume men wanna fuck to every women they talk) that she is going to ask me something. Unconsciously I began to answer using only monosyllables and after 3 minutes she was asking something to me.\n\nI reject it, she was a little surprised I didn't accepted and after she insisted one more time I have answered that she wasn't interested really in how I am, or what I am doing right now, that she hasn't talked to me in months and that I have better things to do that spend my time helping someone that has ignored me all the time.\n\nShe didn't know how to answer and I left so,", "summary": "You can ignore girls than only talk to you because she want the **F** *(avour)*. And katorce recommends you to do so."}
{"id": "t3_3n4l91", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [28/F] stopped showing me [28/M] affection", "post": "So this girl and I are finally dating after being really good friends for about 5 years.  The first week, we were all over each other. It happened to be my birthday weekend. We kissed each other, called each other babe. Well after another week it started to slow down, to the point where it was extremely noticeable. I asked her if I was smothering her, she said a little. So I pulled back a little too. Now it's like we hardly talk on the phone, and she doesn't show any affection when we see each other. At first she says she's not the affectionate type, but I have to doubt that as the first week was awesome. She keeps blaming the stress in her life as to why she tried to keep her distance from me. She said she didn't want to take it out on me. Although she considers me her boyfriend.  I asked her again as to what's wrong and if there's anything I can do. She says she feels trapped and overlooked / judged by her mother (her mom is visiting and originally from AZ). But she stopped showing affection a week before her mom even got here, and doesn't even call me babe anymore. Hardly ever texts back, she'd rather be on Facebook.  I even have to ask for a kiss when we first see each other for the first day.", "summary": "girlfriend stopped showing affection, blaming it on stress in her life."}
{"id": "t3_31y1u5", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Kansas. Guy seeking damages for a car accident in a shady way.", "post": "Hi.  First off, I've already made an appointment with a lawyer but I figured as much information as possible couldnt hurt.\n\nIn february, I rear-ended a car after skidding on water.  The car accident was pretty minimal honestly (my airbags didn't deploy/car function fine/only cosmetic damage).  A cop was called and took accounts and photos.  The guy seemed irritated but not hurt in the least.  I gave him/the police my insurance and contact information.  As far as I knew he took care of it and I hadn't heard from him.\n\nApparently, the cop miswrote my cell number (making a 1 look like a 7) and the guy had been trying to contact me.  I found out my insurance policy that had been in effect was cancelled due to lack of payment (I was on my parents insurance and I was unaware they hadn't paid/they did not inform me).  I got my own insurance asap but I found out I was basically boned because I technically didn't have insurance during the time the accident occurred.\n\nThis morning I received a manila envelope on my car windshield addressed to me.  In it, the guy wrote me a letter describing his attempts to contact me.  Additionally, he included a large amount of my information he could find online (facebook photos, employee page, white pages info, etc.).  He also included the incident report and two quotes for repairs to his damages.  He's seeking me to pay him in a cash order for the full repair of his car or he will seek more, including damages for \"whiplash and a concussion\" although as far as I can tell he has no proof of either.  Basically, what is my best option here.\n\nAlso, while I know he had active insurance, am I responsible for the full amount or for whatever the deductible would be?", "summary": "I rear ended a guy, discovered my insurance had expired without my knowledge.  Months later he's seeking money for damages in form of a cash order for full repair of his vehicle."}
{"id": "t3_34w7i2", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Does my girlfriend (21) deserve me (22)?", "post": "Some background information, my girlfriend Ruth (which isn't her real name) and I have been together now for almost 13 months. We've known each other for like 15 months and everything between us is going quite good actually. I love her and she loves me. I like spending time together with her and so does she. And we never have had a real argument worth mentioning. And we talk to each other every day. \n\nBut here comes the problems, it has been appearing to me that due to the fact that I really do love her, I'm starting to see some fundamental differences between Ruth and I, which have been showing enough for me to know that she just isn't the person I want to commit to. But she does see her future with me (from what I see and hear and feel). \n\nAt the moment everything between us is going great, despite the fact we only see each other twice a week, but still call almost every day.\nBut in my opinion, I do not deserve the attention she is giving me. This girl is a straight 8 out of then who loves to love and get loved and should do that with someone who doesn't think the same way I do. \n\nThis is just something I really had to get off my chest. And Ruth, I really do want to tell you this, but doing this means that I will also lose you as a friend. \n\nNot telling you this is even worse and will only mean that you will be wasting your time one someone who doesn't deserve your love and warmth.", "summary": "girlfriend for more than a year is great in many aspects, but isn't the one for me. I have no idea how to tell you this and I feel like the biggest douche in the world for not being able to tell you this and make you spend time with someone who doesn't deserve it as many others would love to feel the warmth and love you can give and share."}
{"id": "t3_mfpnb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Workers of reddit, are you a slacker or a hard-worker?", "post": "Just interested how common it is to have jobs where you can literally do nothing all day, nada. I'm not saying everyday but where the average workload is 50% or less than the time you have at work and where you can literally spend a day doing nothing if you decided on it.\n\nAlso interested in how many of you can say you actually get worked off your asses and have too much work compared with time?\n\nRealize posting this on reddit probably means I'm more likely to get the slackers...", "summary": "Slacker or hard worker, let me know what you are and what you do, can you do nothing all day and get away with it? Or do you never see the light of the internet at work for fear of being fired?"}
{"id": "t3_15xml5", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Previous job end date (termination) was not mentioned in interview- my fault.  Am I screwed?", "post": "Throwaway here. To give a little back story, November 27 I was terminated from my job.  The reasons were something similar to \"this isn't working out\" \"We've had some attendance issues\" and a few other various things seem to be thrown in there.  The main reason I was probably fired was due to (*speculation*) not working overtime and lack of work coming up.    \n  \nShort version:  I requested PTO and was approved before thanksgiving, I was told to work 10-6 the sat and sun before thanksgiving week.  I had previously worked both weekends, along with my 40hr weeks, and this time I told them no, I already had plans and requested thanksgiving week off.  Tuesday after thanksgiving week I was fired.  I was told it was my last day but I would be kept on payroll and be compensated through Dec 31, and so technically I was still employed.\n\nAfter that point I spent my time job searching.  I applied to a job on the 17th which I was contacted about on Jan 2, the company recruiter passed my info along to the hiring manager and they decided they wanted to interview me today.  I completely forgot I had not updated my resume and nothing ever came up about \"current\" job or \"do you still work here\" so I never really had a chance to insert it and honestly I was so focused on making a good impression and what I could bring to the company it passed my mind.\n\nSo I choose to follow up with an email a few hours later because my gf asked if they asked about being fired and I had already worked up how I would discuss it. I felt like a complete dumbass for excluding it.  The email was an interview thank you follow up and I inserted a paragraph about them not having an updated resume and I did not want to misrepresent myself and my employment ended Dec 31. If they had questions to contact me.  Was this bad or am I completely screwed either way? I really liked the job and I'm now just down about it and rambling...", "summary": "Never updated my resume and forgot about giving them and updated resume with my then current job terminated. Say goodbye to that job opportunity?"}
{"id": "t3_2m4ami", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Cashing in EE series bonds, am I doing this right?", "post": "I think I've thought this out correctly, just wanted to double check before I did something stupid.\n\nI've got a fair amount of bonds that my great-aunt bought for me growing up and has gifted them to me a year or so ago. I've held onto them mainly because I didn't know what to do with them and they still have time left on their maturity.\n\nDigging into it more, it seems that the majority of them have a flat 4% return (purchased 1994 and before) and I won't be touching those at all.\n\nThe others however, have about a 1.4% return. I dug into those and it seems that they guarantee to double in 17 years, which I've just hit. From the IRS website, it looks like two are going to have another interest accrual next month, but otherwise the top three should be good to cash in December, correct? I'll have to wait until 2017 for the last one to reach it's \"doubling maturity\" point, correct?\n\nI'm aware that they continue to generate interest until the 30 year maturity mark, but I have space in my Roth IRA and those funds would be better served sitting in there instead IMO...is that flawed thinking or am I on the right track?\n\nBonds:", "summary": "The top 3 bonds have done their \"doubling\" maturity, the middle 2 have an interest accrual in December, but after that I should be clear to cash in the top three to put in my Roth IRA for higher returns?"}
{"id": "t3_1w8yaf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(23/F) Need advice on if I should make it official with him (23/M)!", "post": "So, I've been seeing this guy for a couple months and he finally asked me to be exclusive with him. I have a few concerns I'm not 100% sure about. I want some third party opinions that are unbiased or just a slap to tell me that I'm over analyzing this. This will be my first real relationship.... :$\n\nPros:\n\n- He's attractive/likes me\n- He's really sweet and nice\n- He's willing to go my pace\n\nCons:\n\n- I'm more educated (he's a high school diploma)/ I have a degree from University \n- I'm slightly better off financially/better at managing my finance\n- He doesn't drive or have a car to drive/ I have a car\n- We live about 20km/13mi away from each other with a crappy transportation system connecting us\n- He has a decent entry level job/ as do I\n- He has tons of friends who are girls / I do not have a ton of guy friends", "summary": "Guy asks girl to be exclusive, girl is concerned about materialistic obstacles; girl needs advice."}
{"id": "t3_2j0g9e", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Fapping and video games ain't so bad after all.", "post": "I wanted a weekend off from everything; from home, from internet, from tv shows / movies, from porn, from video games, from work, from everything. So I booked us a weekend at a 3 star beach hotel.\n\nI know we are not together but as soon as we met I knew I fucked up. I was only 15 mins late and you made sure to point it out. Sorry but I've got a job where people actually relies on me to get shit done; job which is paying for your weekend off with me by the way.\n\nYou complained all the fucking trip. You complained about your unfulfilling job, your ex pissing you off, about me having to stop by the supermarket to buy drinks so that I don't get ruined by the hotel. It was a long fucking trip.\n\nWhen we got to the hotel, you started sulking. WTF. There was a free cocktail at the reception, but you didn't even want to go. I've never ate dinner that fast so that I didn't have to bear your stare.\n\nI'm not a big drinker. Matter of fact, I drink mainly at social gatherings. Guess what? You didn't even want to drink. I had to beg you to have a drink with me so you could at least start to chill.\n\nWe had sex. Just sex. It wasn't great, it wasn't bad, but DMHS. But two mins after, you started asking questions about my exes; how many chicks I dated when I studied in France? How many I fucked this year? And then what about us? What happens after this weekend? I have no fucking idea. I always \"Carpe Diem.\" And you know that. You know it fucking well. I never compelled you to come. I asked and you said yes. Full fucking stop.\n\nMy cousin recommended me to date you, even though I knew we had very little points in common. I thought maybe this weekend with you would open my eyes. Maybe I would see what other people see in you.\n\nAnd goddamn did my eyes open. I regret everything. Worse idea I've ever had. It was a long fucking weekend.", "summary": "Beer, beets, battlestar galactica."}
{"id": "t3_1f0ja5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "21M isn't sure of poor communication is his fault or hers 21F, needs advice", "post": "Me (21M) and my GF (21F) have been dating for almost 2.5 years. Things have been great, have have the usual rocky road every once in a while but nothing terrible. Anyways to my question, within the past couple of months I have been noticing more and more that my gf, as it feels like to me, does not hear/pay attention to me. \n\nI have brought this issue up to her and she assures me she does indeed love me and listens to me, but there are still many times throughout each day that I find that I personally feel as though I am not receiving the acknowledgement I feel is good for the relationship for both sides. \n\nJust for clarification she is doing great in the relationship. No big problems, no worries.", "summary": "feels like f2f doesn't listen to me, wonders if my fault or hers and if the grass is greener on the other side."}
{"id": "t3_1pqgjk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend[21F] will not have sex with me[21M].It sucks.", "post": "This is the run of the mill story. I started dating a girl, we started having sex and it was great. However, three years later, she will not have sex with me. We have made love less than five times in almost 12 months. She keeps making different excuses each time I ask about it.\n\nThis has been bothering me to no end. I feel as though I am in my sexual prime as far as age and physical ability, and it is being utterly wasted. She says she likes sex, and wants to have sex...but she never ever does.\n\nShe continually shrugs off my advances. We have talked about it numerous times, and she knows it bothers me. This being said, nothing has changed. I need advice.", "summary": "Girlfriend of 3 years will not have sex with me. She claims to enjoy it, but seems to avoid any sensual contact like the plague. Less than 5 instances of sex/intimacy in almost 12 months. HELP"}
{"id": "t3_qj5x4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just found out my girlfriend may be infertile", "post": "I was having a talk with my girlfriend, and she said that she had never gotten her period up to this point in her life (we're both 17 years old). She had struggled with Anorexia at around the time of natural pubescent development, and as such, never received her period. First off, does that mean that she is entirely infertile? I told one of my male friends about it, and he said it could be a plus, because at least I don't have to worry about wearing condoms; this being said, I really actually would love to settle down and have kids eventually with this girl. I'm not in it for the sex.", "summary": "my girlfriend didn't eat, period never happened."}
{"id": "t3_1virem", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 F]; Dad who I'm not sure if he is reasonable or crazy.", "post": "My father is very reasonable and logical. I know he wants the best for me but he is also a very shrewd individual generally. I unfortunately got mixed up with a guy who he doesn't exactly like. Not only that, but I think he suspects that I am an atheist (him being a Muslim, this would probably make his blood boil).\n\nThis information is available on my facebook profile. He knows I have facebook, but has only recently gotten an account. He never attempted to add me. He does however have a tech savvy friend. I don't know the extent of this guy's ability or how far he would go, but  recently found in my facebook activity log that an active session was open on Chrome on Linux. That frightened me a bit, because I don't know anyone with a linux OS. I do know that the \"openness\" of that operating system makes it a go to OS for hackers and programmers. I took measures to secure all my accounts after that.\n\nToday, my dad mentions my facebook account and when I tell him he is free to add me, he declines. I don't know if I'm taking my paranoia too far, but I somehow connected the dots to mean that this guy was asked by my father to access my facebook account. I was thinking of asking my dad about him, using my own tech needs as cover. Mind games are part of my father's repertoire and I don't know how to confront him about this issue without enough information.\n\n---   \n Sorry about the bad English, I was writing in a hurry.", "summary": "Dad might have set his tech hound on me, how can I confront him about this in a diplomatic manner?"}
{"id": "t3_4dtcte", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] girlfriend [20F] is going through a bad depression and suggested we broke up. Do I accept this?", "post": "We were dating for 8 months when last month she started to get withdrawn and more insecure with us. It seems she'd get upset with me at the drop of a hat. \n\nThree weeks ago we had the talk. She said it'd be best for us to go on a break for now and she's not ready for any sort of relationship. Initially I fought back, because I love her. I said we could work on it, etc. Was not having it, said she just wasn't ready. \n\nSince then we still talk every day but significantly less. Today she let it slip that she's been having a very bad episode of depression in an unrelated context to our relationship. \n\nBasically, I'm asking if I should pursue her still. IE remind her I'm not going to abandon her because of depression, how much I care for her, etc etc. I feel conflicted. On one hand, she told me wasn't ready and I really want to respect her boundaries for obvious reasons. On the other hand, since it is depression I'm not sure if she knows what she *really* wants and if stepping away would be best. \n\nI'm thinking if she really wanted nothing more to do with me, we wouldn't talk as much as we do, even at the limited rate it is. I've given her opportunities for a NC break. \"If you think it's best to stop talking and go our separate ways, you just need to say\" etc stuff like that. \n\nP.S. I'm feeling a bit insecure today about it, a \"friend\" of mine brought up that it could just be an excuse to sleep around since she said \"break\" and that must translate to promiscuity. I'm 90% positive that's not the case.  \n\nCan someone weigh in?", "summary": "GF elected we go on a break. Discovered today it could potentially be due to depression. Would like someone to talk me through my options"}
{"id": "t3_30gpik", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My parents aren't supportive of me (23F) moving out of home??", "post": "An opportunity has come up for me to move in with two of my friends in a great location with cheap rent. I have never lived out of home however I am financially independent and am debt free. \n\nI would like to move out for the experience and see how I like it however my parents are not being supportive. I am the youngest child and the first one to be moving out apart from my sister who is married.  They haven't said 'we don't think it is a good idea' but they are implying that and I find their negativity a downer on an exciting phase in my life.\n\nHow can I not be put-off moving out because of this? They were like this when I flew on my own overseas aswell. I am usually swayed by them quite easily but want to be able to stand my ground and not ask for 'permission' to move out.\n\nThank you!", "summary": "Parents don't want me moving out and I am ready to."}
{"id": "t3_1rtvlx", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "[BC, Canada] Rent Increases", "post": "Okay, first post in this sub, I hope you guys can help me.\n\nFor the record, I've already sent an email to the Gov't Rental Tenancy Branch.\n\nI am renting a room from a woman with no formal contract between us, on a month to month basis, and have been since September 2013.  She has recently had her rent increased by $30 by the landlord whom she has a lease agreement with, and is attempting to pass this onto my rent.\n\nFrom what I understand, she is not allowed to do this.  Am I correct in saying so?\n\nFrom what I understand, she is allowed to increase the rent a maximum of 2.2% every 12 months.  Does this mean that she is allowed to increase the rent at the earliest on September 2014, or any time before that?\n\nShe has said she does not want to rent to me if this increase isn't paid.  Is she allowed to kick me out (with one month's notice) if she is not allowed to increase my rent?\n\nSince I can't be bothered to really fight her about this, and it's a small amount of money, I'm going to end up paying the increase regardless, so this is mostly a moral point more than anything else.\n\nThanks for your time", "summary": "Rent is increasing, not sure if legal, might get kicked out"}
{"id": "t3_2z6rof", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 3 years, on a road trip with her and some friends, just found out she's cheating", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for three years now. We've had our ups and downs, as with any relationship but I love her. I thought our relationship was in a really good place the past couple months. But, the last few days she's been acting very strangely -- not nearly as interested in sex, being very careful to not leave her phone or computer around me, etc. I got pretty suspicious but tried my best to be trusting.\n\nI am ashamed to say I broke. I snooped her texts with her guy friend and found some messages that made it very clear that they are having sex.\n\nI am burning up inside, but I don't think it's fair to my friends to ruin our vacation with an explosion of fighting, especially since we're all stuck in a single car together for the next few days. But, at the same time I don't know if I can manage to act normal around her for that long. How should I go about this? Also, how can I confront her when we get back since I also broke our trust by snooping her texts?", "summary": "Just found out gf is cheating. She, I, and several friends are on a road-trip vacation together. Don't want to ruin my friends' time."}
{"id": "t3_40bclv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with GF [28F] of 5 years, unhappiness and proposing - a chicken and the egg problem.", "post": "I have been together with my GF for 5 years now and lived together for two. She's beautiful, sexy, passionate, caring and extremely devoted. She's always been by my side through good and bad times, and given up on a lot in her life to follow me around the world to build my career and my dreams - things which I appreciate and because of I love her deeply.\n\nThe thing is, she is also extremely jealous and controlling. She freaks out anytime I go out and pressures me to stay home or take her with me so that she is there and can SEE what's going on - although I am not seeing other women, nor am I flirting. I am just an extroverted people's guy. There is zero trust from her side. Furthermore, I am being constantly criticized for all my actions and words, and feel as though I need to walk on eggshells all the time. She constantly demands more and more, and I need to constantly keep compromising in order to make this relationship work.\n\nKey point: I have spoken to her about these things and she said that it's all because she feels that our relationship has been stagnating for the last 1-2 years. She would have expected that by know I would know she's the one and that I would make longer term commitments to her (to demonstrate my love and willingness etc.) such as proposing, buying a house etc. This makes her very insecure and that's why she acts like this. \nHOWEVER, the reason why I don't do these things is exactly because of the way she acts as described above, which makes me doubt that we're fully compatible and that she's the one. She also said that if I would demonstrate such a commitment, she would no longer act like that - which to me sounds very wrong to condition it like that!\n\nSo reddit, it's a chicken and the egg problem. Take her word for it, commit more and pray for improvements? (IS THIS NORMAL?) Or am I in an incompatible / abusive relationship which needs fixing first from her side, and then maybe making more long term commitments?", "summary": "Chicken and egg problem. GF is controlling, insecure and constantly unhappy - blames it on lack of more long term commitments from me (buy house, propose etc.). I feel that I can't commit more because of that behavior which makes me doubt our compatibility for marriage. What to do? What comes first?"}
{"id": "t3_pkflt", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most disgusting thing that you have eaten  accidently?", "post": "Few years ago I was renting a basement in a house. One night I was at my desk watching a movie. Lights were off. I cracked a can of coke and had a sip. Then I set the can down and forgot about it.  Few minutes later I had another sip and this time felt something wiggly in my mouth. I can't explain why, but while panicing, instead of spitting it out I swallowed it quickly. \n\nI turned the lights on, poured coke out of the can and another cockroach fell out of it. I had noticed a couple of them few days ago and let the landlord know but didnt think anything would crawl into a can in front of me. Needless to say, I never drink from an opened can that I have not been holding the whole time since then.", "summary": "my instincts inverted and I swallowed a live cockroach from a can of coke."}
{"id": "t3_3fph76", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19 F] broke up with me [20 M] a month ago after our 11 month relationship and I'm still so hurt.", "post": "I don't know what to do. I'm trying to get back together with her but it hurts so bad. I finally talked to her today after a 30 day no contact and I feel just as bad as I did the first day we broke up. Found out she has a new guy and everything already. She's super happy while I'm absolutely miserable. I never been this depressed ever.\n\nWhat hurts the most is that she was my first everything, and she means so much to me, while I feel like I mean nothing to her now. I think about all the things she used to tell me. \"I'll never leave you,\" \"I'll always love you,\" \"If we ever broke up you know I would do anything to get you back.\" Those lies hurt. Can't get her out of my head. I thought we had something good. \n\nShould I try to get back with her or just move on? And what makes it easier to move on? I hate this feeling.", "summary": "Debating between getting back together with her or just moving on. I just don't know how to move on."}
{"id": "t3_1ftyrh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can anyone please give me some input on my 6 year \"relationship\" (F21) (M22)", "post": "Long story short: We are high school sweethearts, we have had our good and bad times together. But for the past 6 months our sex has been limited to maybe 2-3 times a month.  Most recently he has begun to stay out and drink with friends. We still don't live together because we are waiting on friends to move in for cheaper rent. I love him, but at the same time I am beginning to feel like we are not right for each other. We both have very decent jobs, good hours, but our spending is ridiculous. I'm starting to feel we are less in a relationship and transforming into friends. I tried breaking things off not too long ago and broke no contact. My family and friends have always told me that I need to allow myself to find someone that motivates me to be better, but honestly I feel like we are both together for the simple fact that it has been 6 years. \n\nI don't want anyone else but him, but at the same damn time I don't see our future being successful. Am I just being paranoid? I sometimes feel like I over think a lot, but only because I am not satisfied with our relationship anymore. I want it to work, but will my stubbornness only bring me worse heartache later on?", "summary": "I am trying to save a 6 year relationship from turning into a friendship, am I too late?"}
{"id": "t3_uoq51", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What does reddit think of this new website me and a friend made to support my year abroad ?", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n\nAbout 2 weeks ago, we made this thread : [link](\nWe made a prototype of our website and asked for some feedback on how to make it better.\n\nTaking the information supplied to us by our dear redditors, we re-build the site from scratch. Do note tough, that there are still improvements to be made (such as a tagging system & a search bar).\n\nNow you may ask, what is this website for ?\nWell basically, we tried to make a catalog like website with reactionfaces (as in popular pics or gifs people post to express their feelings about a post) and we tried to keep the design as simple as possible.\n\nNow the main goal of this website is to finance my year abroad to Panama. I am a 18 year old student who will attend university in Panama for a year, but since a lot of you know, this is expensive! So I made this website, which will generate revenue through google ads. \nSo now reddit, do you like our [webpage]  ? We would love to see it being used here.\nIf you have any feedback or are a web developer/designer, please leave a comment if you want to help us out, that would be greatly appreciated.\n\nI will be keeping a blog about my exchange year to panama, so that if you would use my website to support my trip, you get to see some of it too ! (I will also make videos in full HD for you to enjoy and do an IAmA when im done with my year.)\n\nOnce again, the link : www.reactionbox.net\nEnjoy and thanks for reading :)", "summary": "Me and a buddy made a website to support my year abroad, leave a comment if you would use it, if you like it or if you have some feedback."}
{"id": "t3_20wwwz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My GF [20F] wants to take a break from me [22M]. Can't sleep, need some advice please.", "post": "We've been together for 6 months and see each other like 2-3 times a week. I haven't seen her since Sunday. We're both in College and I work. We do not live together and she lives in a dorm. She lives 30 mins away from me so its sort of a long distance relationship. For the past week or two I've been noticing that she has been distancing her self from me. I confronted her about it and she would just play it off and say she's busy with school and is stressed. Today we talked over the phone and she said she needs a break. She stated multiple reasons why she wanted a break. She said, stuff I talk about bothers her, school is stressing her out, and she needs to find herself. I asked her if there was another guy and she said \"hell no\" and that she loves, still wants to be with me and couldn't see herself with other guys. I told her that I was hurt and she was sobbing over the phone telling me she loves me, misses me and wishes I was there. She kept on calling me \"baby\" and wants to hang out on Sunday instead of hanging out tomorrow like originally planned. But she wants a break for like a week.\n\nI know shes not being honest about something. One of the main reasons for a break was that she said was she really needs to focus on school because her grades aren't as great as she is expecting. Yet shes going out partying today and tomorrow. Please any advice would be great. I've been up all night, hurt and confused while I'm sure she slept comfortably. I have work in 3 hours and class right afterwards. I told her I'll give her space but now I'm also thinking of breaking up with her because I don't want to be stuck in limbo. I'm not too sure.... Any advice would be great... Thanks in advance guys..", "summary": "So pretty much my GF wants to take a break after 6 months because apparently school is stressing her out and I guess I am a part of that even though shes partying today and tomorrow. She apparently still \"loves\" me and still wants to be with me but doesn't want to talk for like a week."}
{"id": "t3_2uofdk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Not sure if my girlfriend is cheating", "post": "Hi all, girlfriend and I (both 22) have been together for nearly two years, but lately she has been far more distant: ignoring messages, not wanting to hang out etc.\n\nIt's been like this for a while, so I decided to check her phone. Lots of txts from and to this guy who she knows I hates. To make to worse, they're planning on moving in together as housemates with a couple others.\n\nNormally this wouldn't concern me, but it's making me a bit suspicious for a few reasons:\n\n-she keeps telling me she thinks he's a dick and that she doesn't like him\n-quite a few flirty txts where she has lots of xs and in one she said she loved him (apparently a group txt but cmon, that's bullshit)\n-he hits on her, asks for \"extra cheeky snapchats ;) \"\n-they're moving in together despite the fact that she knows I hate him (other reasons irrelevant to this, know him longer than her, he's always been a dick).\n-they seem to hang out much more than she makes out that they do, usually at night\n-haven't had sex for at least 8 months. I know it's not all about sex but balls be blue\n\nI can't stop thinking about it, any advice or anything would be awesome.", "summary": "is my girlfriend cheating or am I just a snooping paranoid asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_2w1j5j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my boyfriend[20 M]4 months, I'm about to abandon him", "post": "i used to live in a smaller town than now (the capital) of my country: Peru\n\ni met him there we met and started dating because he is rich i used to live in his house\n\nthen i told him i wanted to move to the capital\n\nwe did (there was abuse when we were living with his parents back in Trujillo but i really want to come to the capital to be near my bestfriend)  i wasnt expected him to lose control of his actions again... but yesterday he fought physically with me it feels like i was fighting a psychopath when it happens\n\nwe have gone to the psychologist once they told me he was never going to stop being impulsive, he was diagnosed with being hyperactive too...\n\nim going to leave him in this rented room and go to live with my best friend im scared he would try to follow me but ill try my best to scape", "summary": "scapping from abusive relationships"}
{"id": "t3_28q4gx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Why is he [23M] confusing me [20F]?", "post": "We meet, date for a few weeks, take things too fast, and we mutually decide to slow things down. Apparently to this guy, slowing things down meant being friends. While slowing things down to me meant dating but holding back much of the physical part of the relationship. Thinking I had a chance, I agree to being \"just friends\" (while under the assumption that there is potential for more). He continues wanting to talk to me regularly which confuses me. So to clarify, I ask him if he plans on talking to other people and he reiterates that that's what \"being friends\" means. And that he can handle me talking to other people as well. Days later, I find out that he already went out on a date with another girl. I bite my tongue and say nothing and try to keep my options open as well. Despite this, he continues to text me throughout the day and the dynamic did not change from how we always were, despite the fact that we were no longer dating. I end up breaking and telling him that I need space. He doesn't understand this but agrees. He stops texting me for a day, but I stupidly text him happy birthday and he's backing to wanting to talk 24/7. And to wanting to \"hang out\".\n\nA week or so later, I agree to hang out with him (he pretty much invites himself). During this time, I ask to use his phone and as I do it buzzes to a text from another girl. Nonetheless, we go out for a run that ends up being fun. As he walks me back, he puts his arm around me and begins to stroke my arm (wtf), and rests his head against mine. I feel like this isn't a \"real friendship\" despite what he claims. I've finally come to my sense today and realized that maybe there's something wrong with this picture? I posted a status on FB implying that I'm over something, and he comments \"hi\" seconds later (having not spoken to me the entire day) then messages me and asks what I'm \nover. I haven't replied (although tempted).\n\nShould I run for the hills?", "summary": "not sure what he wants!"}
{"id": "t3_2qtguz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My psycho ex [22F] broke up with me [23M], finds out I'm dating and loses her mind", "post": "So my ex broke up with me about a month ago after she was seeing someone behind my back. She did me a favor honestly and I just wish she had done it sooner.\n\nAfter she did it, she was posting pics with this other guy and all this crap, so I blocked her and all her friends on literally everything. The only possible way to contact me is through a carrier pigeon. I have completely removed her from my life, she is poison.\n\nI recently went on a date with this girl I really like and plan on asking her out on a second date. Psycho found out about it...\n\nI woke up yesterday morning to an email (the only way to block on gmail is to have them routed to the Spam folder) from her saying how I was a jerk for not telling her I was going on a date, that she's over me, etc. (uuuhhhh????? yeah ok).\nOk whatever, I found it hilarious.\n\nFast forward to around 2:54 pm and I decide to check my phone call blocking app, which keeps a log of phone calls and text messages blocked. Turns out that she tried to call me 28 times in a 25 minute period and sent 33 harassing texts...to which I burst out laughing at my desk. Bitch be cray.\n\nNow I know ignoring is the the best option and that's exactly what I've been doing. I'm just nervous that she's going to say something to this girl I went on a date with. Nobody wants to be harassed by someone just because they went out on a date, and a second date goes out the window if she finds out about this crazy person.\n\nHow/can I get this situation under control without making contact with that lunatic? Am I obligated to tell this new girl about this wacko? Should I contact my ex's friends?", "summary": "ex went off the deep end, don't want this girl I like to find out and get scared away, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2dzxpd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 8 Months, he won't share his feelings because he wants to protect me.", "post": "So we've been dating for a while and for the last few months we've been in a LDR. Things have been going bad for both of us, him financially and me in my family life. \n\nThe problem is that for some times he'll just clam up completely, says he just wants \"quiet days\" and won't reply very quickly to IM messages, or just disappears. I am not a very chatty person myself, very introvert, and I find it difficult to keep the conversation going, completely on my own. Or if I do talk, he gets irritated by something I say or will roll his eyes or give me the \"disappointment\" face. \n\nOver the days i'll get more and more frustrated, until I'll snap at him. Then he will apologise and say that he is dealing with his own issues and doesn't want to cause me any more stress than I already have (1. I am stressed because of my family but he's making me more stressed because I am thinking, by cutting contact, he is weakening our relationship and causing the \"lets slowly drift apart until we break up\" scenario) \n\nI know I haven't help by becoming more and more worked up and therefore causing more female \"drama\" but I am genuinely worried for our relationship. \n\nI've tried talking to him, saying lets set aside a time to talk your problems through, but he always says \"oh i'm ok\" when I say I have time to talk. \n\nAny help appreciated.", "summary": "Boyfriend won't talk to me about his problems because he feels it stresses me out too much and causes too much anxiety for me. I am stressed because I don't know what's going on with him."}
{"id": "t3_3ew1hv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) keep having sex dreams about my ex (25M) from three years ago! HELP!", "post": "On mobile, so sorry if the formatting isn't great.\n\nSo, a little about the situation: me and my ex broke up three years ago after being together for three years. He wouldn't get a job, wouldn't stick to going to school and basically had little ambition to do anything. It was a hard decision because I loved him very much and we were a great match personality and emotion wise, but I was moving forward in my life and he wasn't. I can honestly say I have not had any feelings for this guy or anything but passing thoughts since I started dating my current boyfriend.\n\nFast forward to the present and I have an amazing boyfriend who I've been with for two years now. He has a fantastic job, we've lived together in my state since we started officially dating and we are starting to even talk about engagement! We have a relationship that I think is perfect. Literally the only thing i could possibly nitpick at is that my boyfriend has put on weight since we started dating (at least 40 pounds) but we had a talk two weeks ago and he is going to start a new diet and exercise with me starting in September (his job has him working very long hours currently, so it is not feasible for him).\n\nThe problem: About three weeks ago I started having vivid and intense sex dreams about my ex. These occur about two to three times a week. I haven't gone on any new medications or anything, the only thing I changed was starting an exercise routine just to be a bit healthier and to be in the groove when my current boyfriend joins me so I can help motivate him. I wake up and immediately feel confused and ashamed. I have a fantastic relationship with my CURRENT boyfriend and feel like these dreams are somehow a betrayal of that. it has started to effect our sex life because I feel so guilty.\n\nWhat do I do?!", "summary": "Having intense sex dreams about ex from three years ago. Have had an amazing boyfriend for over two years. Feel guilty, ashamed and confused. Haven't changed anything physical besides starting new exercise routine. The guilt is starting to effect my REAL sex life! What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_19b8cq", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Looking for some guidance.", "post": "Hello all,\nI'm a male currently at 5'11\"/285lbs. My personal goal is to lose 95lbs by March 2014. I was originally 305lbs. My elliptical workout began December of 2012.\n\nI'm a generally muscular person, mainly in my legs. This is also where the majority of my weight/mass resides. While lifting weights has never been an issue, I've never been good at maintaining a good diet and cardio program.\n\nI've tried going the route of a no Carb diet but I've not been able to maintain it as at my current salary I've had to move towards food with carbs in order to eat at all.\n\nI currently (6 months to date) do not drink soda of any kind anymore, and rarely drink anything with sugar at all.\n\nI'm looking for a good starting cardio work out that I can build and eventually turn into jogging, and any info on a diet that can work on a budget, without starving myself.\n\nI can currently do a 45 minute elliptical \"jog\" ranging between 4.9 and 6 MPH with the settings up to 15 (highest being 25) but I'm not seeing results as fast as I'd like. I acknowledge I may be a bit impatient.\n\nAlso I'd like any personal opinions on things like the p90x, insanity, etc.", "summary": "Guidance on a budget diet and beginner cardio-centric work out ideas. Also some opinions on some extreme workouts. "}
{"id": "t3_3jejeh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[27F]am bitter towards my bf[27M] of 3 years for getting a troublesome pet.", "post": "My boyfriend and I are on our second apartment. He'd been campaigning to get a cat for over a year. A little over a year ago I started night school part time. I work all day Mon-Fri, then go to school nights Mon-Thurs and Saturdays. \n\nI kept saying \"no\" because it's just not the right time. Selfishly, I just didn't want to have to bother with the responsibilities and messiness of a pet when we had just moved into a new, clean apartment and I was exhausted from my schedule. We even got into several stupidly big arguments about it because he thought I was being unfair. \n\nMind you, I love cats. I want one, just not while I'm in school which will be done in December. That's all I asked and that wasn't good enough for him. 3 months ago, he starts telling me about a cat he \"found\" online and was going to visit it. I told him I felt pressured into this but he sold me his story and as long as HE took full responsibility for it, I reluctantly agreed. I also need to preface this with I have terrible anxiety and sleeping issues and have had these for a long time. \n\n3 months later and I never get a full nights sleep. I love the little shit, but I can't go a full night without him waking me up in some capacity. We have tried everything. BF is now frustrated and getting super pissed all of the time about this and all I can do is sit there and bitterly fume about this. And of course, I can't say anything to the effect of \"I FUCKING TOLD YOU THIS WAS A BAD IDEA, YOU STUBBORN ASS\", but of course that won't help.\n\nI'm carrying around a lot of bitterness and frustration right now, but I don't know how to bring this up without starting a fight. He knows I'm angry, but I'm just keeping this all bottle up currently. Advice?", "summary": "BF got a cat when I didn't want one, now we are both suffering."}
{"id": "t3_j6dst", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need help understanding my sister's reaction to my father's death", "post": "As much as I want to talk about this to someone, I don't want anyone I know to misunderstand and think ill of her, which is why I've come here. My dad died yesterday after a long battle with cancer; it was very emotional and we all cried, the air was somber. \n\nI know everyone grieves differently, but I can't detect serious sadness from my older sis. She was close to my dad, but today she just laughed and joked around (as did I to an extent) and even yesterday, she was planning on going on a long hike with her boyfriend this morn. I told her not to go, that mom needed us around. She left my room an hour ago, trying on my dresses and picking out the cutest one (and raving about it) in preparation for going to the movie theatre with her bf tonight. I couldn't help but feel completely annoyed that she wasn't spending time with us. \n\nShe's gonna get dressed up as a cowgirl to go on the weekly themed bike rides my area holds tomorrow. I looked at her in disbelief, and she scoffed and told me not to judge her. That I can be sad and mournful all I wanted, she didn't care. \n\nI don't think she's in denial, as we've been discussing all the funeral planning, but I really don't know how to feel about this.", "summary": "older sis *seems* to have moved on rather quickly, and I don't know what to make of it."}
{"id": "t3_3t392l", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Unusual situation, please help!", "post": "So I was recently employed by this company that opened their first store in Canada. I don't know if I'm allowed to reveal the company name or anything, so I will withhold it for now.\n\nMy first day of recorded work (I clocked in and out) was on Tuesday November 3rd. The manager told me that he would like for me to come in for training that day, so I agreed, and worked a couple hours. After that day, I was scheduled to work Friday November 6th (7 hours) and Sunday November 8th (6 hours).  \n\nI was told that the weekly schedule started on Mondays and the schedule was compiled on Sundays. On Sunday night, November 8th, I was told that my first day of work that week would be Thursday for 6 hours. The manager said that he would have the full schedule completed for the next day.  \n\nI go to work on Thursday November 12th expecting to see the full schedule there, but there isn't one. So for the work week of November 9-15, I had only worked one day. \n\nAll of these work hours have been recorded in their POS system (Nova POS).  \n\nTheir lack of professionalism and the fact that for the entire day today (November 16) my calls to the store AND to the manager's cell phone have been ignored have contributed to the decision to resign from this company.  \n\n**However**, I have not been legally employed yet. I did not sign any documents for employment. The only agreement of employment was verbal. The condensed version of the verbal agreement was that I would work for their company at the store as a sales associate with an hourly wage of $11/hour.  \n\nNow that I wish to resign from said company, is there any legal reason the employer might have to not pay me for the hours worked?  \nI haven't talked to my manager about this yet and he has no idea of my intentions to quit, so I'd like to get all of this sorted out before resigning.", "summary": "Employed Nov. 3rd, no employee contract signed, I have worked 3 days with all hours logged in their POS system. Can they say they won't pay me?   "}
{"id": "t3_4b979c", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "New car / Car insurance", "post": "Alright so background  \n-Im a 25 year old male   \n-Making $45k before tax/bonus.   \n-Around March/April of 2014 i got a DUI, i could go into my story or excuse but wont, entered into a plea with the court in may 2015.   \n-Drive a 2008 Nissan 350z  \n\nThe 350z is a fun car but i want to change because A. I want something more practical with ipod hookup, side curtain airbags, rear view camera, traction control, be able to fit more than two people etc. and B. Pretty sure I'm paying $1850 a year for liability atm....   \n\nEven though normally i would look to get a gently used car a couple years old, I really want to get a car with autonomous features like auto braking or lane control etc. was looking at the new 2016 civic.  \n\nOr was looking at 2013 accord, just to give an idea. Want something safe, reliable, well rated. etc.   \n\nI have 5k cash and got a carmax estimate at $7k for the 350z, might be able to find one of those used dealers who offer $500-$1000 over carmax offer but thats what i have to put towards new car. \n\nIs a 2016 civic or 2013 accord a bad idea or out of my range? I want something decent that i can drive for a while but know im kinda more limited in everything i can do because of my DUI. \n\nSuggestions for insurance or car choice?", "summary": "25 male w/ DUI on record currently with '08 350z and $1900/year liability insurance. Want safe practical car, what car/insurance do you suggest?"}
{"id": "t3_4xcdnn", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Mom has beat me, want to change custody", "post": "So my mom has beat me on many occasions to the point where I have had a bruised face and bloodied nose. The last time she did this was awhile ago and I never told an adult. She additionally verbally abused me to the point of calling me her worst mistake at one point. I'm on vacation without my parents and finally told my grandmother and cousin(we are in Washington currently and I live in DC). My grandmother has decided to let me stay here for a little longer after I begged her not to let me go home and she told my parents something about the flights which is why I couldn't go home on the right date. So basically I don't know what to do. I don't want to live with my mom anymore and my dad is nice he just never steps in or anything. I know I no longer have any physical evidence of the abuse so I think it would be hard to press charges but is there any way I could fight to get my grandmother or another family member legal custody over me? I'm 16 if that's important. Thank you.", "summary": "I have been beat on multiple occasions but there is no longer any physical evidence. How can I fight to change legal custody?"}
{"id": "t3_3zic96", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Realizing I've Been Stuck In A Loop", "post": "I'm a 22 year old male in rural midwest United States. I dedicated much of my time to drawing instead of doing homework while I was in school. I've never had my driver's license, much less owned a car. My only experiences driving have been a beat up Monte Carlo without brakes when test driving for my uncle, and some fun with a golf cart which I accidentally backed into A. My boss' back bumper, and B. a parked trailer. Yeah, I'm not exactly the brightest bulb in the chandelier. This lack of motivation didn't seem like much of a problem until reality bitch slapped me across the face over the last few months.\n\nI went to Colorado in April with the intention of moving in with a couple who I looked up to. Shortly after my arrival, our apartment complex was bought up and our rental rate doubled making my $10 per hour (which I was my highest paying job) useless when it came to making a living. We ended up moving in with another friend of ours on a one acre plot. Five people including myself, and six dogs in a double wide. We had the intent of starting a permaculture garden there for our own garden of eden. Unfortunately, I was also a dumbass and didn't consider the unemployment rate of the town is 23% for folks my age on top of the fact I don't drive. Needless to say I was feeling some immense pressure as the last of my funds dwindled. I found a way out through my grandparents (lifesaving wonderful folk.) This did not make my Colorado friends happy as they felt I could've done more to get work, and maybe I could've in retrospect.\n\nNow back home (grandparents' home, which I was raised in since I was a youngling), I've been unemployed since October. It's shit weather, I have no vehicle, I have good relationships with people...but they are over sixty miles away. I feel pretty low, and I'm not sure how I can crawl out of this hole. I just want to make some goddamn progression.", "summary": "I'm a 22 yr old unappreciative burn out still living with his grandparents :\\. Living the lyrics from Ill Mind of Hopsin 5 -_-."}
{"id": "t3_34ejby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[M 24] sex was a taboo topic in my family; nowadays every girl seems to not be interested in me.", "post": "Hi, I am trying to find books and advice to read on my issue. I am really bad with people and especially girls, I feel like I don't have a faintest idea of how relationship works.\n\nI have some body image issues, but I asked on /r/amiugly and people rated me 8 on average, so I feel my problems come from my character.\n\nI believe my problems really started from my childhood. I was born in a family with a **very** emotionally distant half-Asian mother. She never expressed her feelings and never touched me as a child. My father constantly shamed me about any contact I had with any girl. Also, in my early childhood, it so happened that all my friends were girls for some reason. \n\nGoing to places like Reddit became a shock for me. I realized that relationship could be enjoyable and not some form of codependence or perversion. I also realized most girls did enjoy sex or even did want it. \n\nThe problem is, I am completely out of grasp with my own sexual side. I've spent years trying to prove to myself I'm asexual. I want to get some basics. Yet the last thing I want is to become an asshole. \n\nWhere do I start? Are there any good books on how to get in touch with the opposite sex? I am afraid of picking a book like \"Fuck her right in the pussy: how to show a woman she must be naked and in the bed\".", "summary": "don't wanna become a 40-year-old virgin."}
{"id": "t3_1zbqck", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I am [22 M/F] in love with my boyfriends best friend[27 M/F]. This has been going on for 4 months.", "post": "Dear Reddit,\n \nI am having trouble getting myself out of this situation. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, however for the last year we have been doing long distance. He got a great job abroad and I stayed behind. He didn't ask me to come with him and at that point I think I would have. We try to visit each other every few months. I have always been friends with his best friend but we didn't become close until the last few months. Very slowly I started realizing that I have feelings for him. I have a lot of guy friends and this is not normal for me. From the way he interacts with me, I think he has feelings for me too. I can't hide this anymore, especially from my boyfriend but I am scared that it will ruin his relationship with his best friend. I understand that even if I am right and we do have feelings for each other it wouldn't be right to go after him. \n\nI was thinking of just confessing to both of then but I am afraid to ruin their friendship but at the same time I can't disappear out of their lives with no explanation.\n\nWhat would you do?", "summary": "! In love with my boyfriends best friend. I think he feels the same but not sure what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1ot5i8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [17 M] deal with my gf [18F] of a year, (recently started LDR) who is going through depression and is unwilling to seek help.", "post": "My girlfriend of a year is going through depression and I'm trying my hardest to help her.\n\nShe recently went off to college, about 2 hrs away from me, and we try to see each other as much as possible but it's worked out to about 4 times the last 3 months.\n\nShe's very independent and at school she's having a hard time making friends and she has issues in her past with abusive parents and it's all hitting her hard (no pun intended).  I try to help but she feels that she's a burden on me by being depressed. She's had psychiatric help before and claims that it's no use.  What do I do to help?", "summary": "My LDR girlfriend is depressed and won't respond to my help"}
{"id": "t3_280dlb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] in love with my boyfriend [24 M] for 3 years, might be falling in love with mutual friend. halp.", "post": "Made a throwaway.\nBeen madly in love with boyfriend of 3 years, always thought he would be the one i marry, we get along great, its fun, we laugh, we joke. Zero Problems. \n\nJust started having feelings for a mutual friend in the last month, mutual friend likes me too, told me. Now i think i love two people. Im confused and dont know what to do or how to act. \n\nI think about the friend constantly, but yet im still in love with my boyfriend and dont want to break up. This goes against all my morals, beliefs, and values. I never thought it possible to have feelings for two people at the same time. I would never cheat, ever. I have to much respect for my partner, and the relationship to do that. Yet i cant help but feel like im emotionally cheating.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me reddit?\nI havent been sleeping properly, im sad, a little depressed, a little self hate. What in the fuck does a person do in these situations?", "summary": "In love with boyfriend, but might be falling in love with our mutual friend. Shitty person."}
{"id": "t3_3l5v8j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20/M] admitted to my [21F] girlfriend that I have thought of other girls during sex", "post": "I recently asked my girlfriend if she ever thought of another guy during sex. When she answered no, she asked me the same question. I felt that I should answer truthfully, and probably said one of the stupidest things I've ever said: yes. She proceeded to get extremely pissed off and for the first time in our relationship she threatened breaking up. She has troubles with body image, so you can see how much this affected her. She eventually calmed down, but said that she will not have sex for a long time with me if I'm going to be thinking about other girls. \n\nI feel as though this is a common behavior, and I have no control over where my mind wanders when we have sex for an hour. I still really love her, but how do I explain it isn't because she isn't good enough or anything like that.", "summary": "How do I explain that randomly thinking about other girls during sex doesn't mean she isn't good enough/ what should I say just in general."}
{"id": "t3_2uqcb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] might have to breakup with my GF [21F] of 8 months because I think I'm gay", "post": "To start, I've always had these random episodes of gay thoughts to the point where I would masturbate to gay porn. Well, a while ago I met this wonderful girl and eventually we started dating.\n\nShe and I have been together for eight months and I can tell I make her feel a way that no other guy has felt before. I'm only her second boyfriend and I have always treated her as best as possible. \n\nI think I have to breakup with her though because I'm getting the idea that I might be gay. There's a feeling I get thinking about gay sex that I don't get with women, even though I would always check them out when I was single. Overall I'm confused and want to explore my sexuality, but breaking up with her would break my heart.\n\nJust thinking about doing it makes tears swell up a little bit. I want to keep making her smile and feel loved, because I do believe I lover her. I can't imagine not being in her life. She has made me a better person and her companionship is great.", "summary": "I may have to break up with my girlfriend to explore my sexuality, but I don't want to lose here. I still love her."}
{"id": "t3_wqrnm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How to deal with pending death of a close relative?", "post": "My parents got divorced when I was a teenager and my grandfather was my defacto dad for some most of my most cherished memories. He's always been there for me and the whole family in fact.\n\n I work full time, and go to grad school full time and life gets busy. I suddenly regret the past 10 years of my life living farther away and only seeing him on major holidays and when I make trips to my hometown.\n\n I just found out about an hour ago that he isn't going to recover from a recent illness. I want to call him but I don't even know where to begin or what to say. I'm sure I'll go home this weekend and see him though. I know as the word spreads lots of family will be flocking to see him, some with more nefarious purposes than others. I hope that he understands I'm coming to spend time with him because I love him and I'll miss him terribly some day when he is gone not because I'm eying his valuables or trying to get in his will. \n\n Like I said I don't even know how to begin the conversation without getting very emotional. I really wish I could talk him into taping some videos. He lived through a lot, very poor Kentucky farm up bringing, drafted into Korea, retired and traveled the USA in an RV. \n\nAny advice on things to plan for?", "summary": "my grandfather is a badass, I wish he could live forever."}
{"id": "t3_2kfcrc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23 M] in a new relationship with a girl [24 F], recently made a terrible mistake", "post": "I've been dating a girl going on two months now and we are both pretty happy.  Recently I was at an event without her and drinking with some friends but we got separated.  I ran into another group of people who I didn't really know that well and they started talking to me for a while.  \n\nWith the new people, one of the girls asked if I was planning on heading to a party at a particular house, and I said yes.  She followed me there and we had a bit more to drink.  Because I was pretty drunk the details aren't super clear, but I think she started to make out with me and I didn't stop her.  \n\nNext, she isn't feeling too well so I get her some water and crackers and call one of her friends who can take her home.  Her friend gets here and tries to get her to leave but she wants to sleep here.  I tell her friend it's ok, and that I'll sleep downstairs (I really did mean this).  The girl wants me to sleep with her though, so I do.  We lay there for a while, then make out a bit, then she keeps trying to get me to have sex and I keep avoiding it, but eventually it happens.  \n\nI've never cheated in a relationship before and I feel absolutely terrible for letting it happen.  How do I let my girlfriend know, and any other advice?", "summary": "got drunk and didn't say no to a girl who wanted to have sex.  How do I handle this with my girlfriend?"}
{"id": "t3_2lta75", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/M] can't seem to be happy with my GF [26/F] after a rough breakup.", "post": "So, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We started living together, and then she went into a deep depression after a friend's death. It got really bad and destroyed our relationship. I ended up moving out and we broke up. It was devastating.\n\nWe were broken up for about a month and a half and I started to get better and do things for myself and got happier. Then, she came to me and told me she was on new medication and seeing a therapist and was feeling like her old self again. She apologized a lot and we got back together because we still love eachother.\n\nIt's been about 3 weeks since we've been back together, and I am just not happy. I feel like I want to see her when we are apart, but then once we are together, I don't want to be with her. I've been trying to figure this out for a few days now. I didn't know if I should just break up with her or give it more time and try to change some stuff in the relationship to make it better.\n\nI ended up talking to her last night and told her all of this. I told her I don't want to break up because I love her and don't want to lose her, but I am also unhappy. She was devastated and told me to take a few days to think it over and figure out what I want.\n\nI honestly don't know. I have no idea. I'm literally 50/50 on the matter. I don't want to hurt her and I will miss her, but i'm also not happy and feel like I might be happier single.", "summary": "gf and I had an ugly breakup. we got back together but i'm unhappy. She told me to take a few days and figure out what I want, but I can't figure it out."}
{"id": "t3_b57g2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Does Comcast just prey on stupid people?", "post": "Let me add my Comcast horror story to the hundreds out there. I was on \"promotional pricing\" for 6 months of basic cable ($39/mo) and it reverted to the standard pricing of $63/mo as of December. Well, no fuckin way am I paying $63/mo for basic cable so I call to cancel the service. \n\nCustomer service rep says he can keep the promo pricing @ $39 for another 6 months if I keep the service. Sure, why not. Tells me to ignore the current bill ($39 for Dec + $63 for Jan) and check my account in a couple days for the new total. Awesome. Comcast isn't so bad right?\n\nFast forward to February and they're still charging me $63/mo (which I have yet to pay). I just finished an online chat with another customer service rep who encouraged me to (I shit you not) \"just pay what it says and then call back and we'll adjust it to the $39/mo price and credit your account.\" YEAH FUCKIN RIGHT.\n\nMind you this is after calling them 2-3x a month asking why my account pricing hasn't updated and acknowledging my bill is past due because of it. Prior to this I was told to just keep \"waiting till the billing cycle updated.\"", "summary": "comcast suck balls"}
{"id": "t3_2gg8dg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need help moving on. Ex has a new boyfriend and I am in a bad mood at all times.", "post": "I (M- 21) was in a very loving relationship for over a year with my ex (F-20) until mid-June when we realized that we both did not want to try the long distance thing (We both got into uni's and she's staying near home and I've moved out of state). We were very civil about it and both agreed to remain friends. It was awesome until recently- we would talk frequently all the time about everything. \n\nNow she has a new boyfriend and I have slipped into a phase of pseudo-depression because I just cannot handle the idea of some other guy with a woman I still very much love. I have issues with self-worth and this has been awful for me. We have talked about it and I have resolved to do some soul searching and trying to work on myself. I am very supportive of her and her choices and want to preserve a friendship with her (she was by far my best friend before we dated and I trust no one else more than her). \n\nWhat can I do to expedite my healing process? She was the first relationship I've ever had so that might explain why I'm being such a dipshit about all this.", "summary": "Broke up with my girlfriend of over a year, we decided to stay friends. She has a new boyfriend now and it kills me inside. Still want to be friends with her- what do I do to help myself move on?"}
{"id": "t3_4du431", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my no strings fling [24 F] 2 months, developing feelings, what the heck do I do?", "post": "I've been in a no strings sort of thing with a co-worker for a while now. At first, it was pretty damn awesome, she's incredible in bed, really gorgeous, totally my type. We decided to keep it no strings, due to obvious complications like working together, and she'd just come out of a relationship.\n\nOf late, we've been getting pretty close, she's been spending more and more time at my place, and, completely at odds with how I usually am around girls - I honestly didnt mind, even to the point of being happy about it.\n\nNow though, she's been flirting with another guy, and has said she's going to meet up with him. I'm annoyingly upset about this. Everything was made clear between us at the start, and she's been really honest about everything- no games.\n\nSo what do I do? I really dont want to end it, but I also am finding it really hard to deal with this other dude thing.", "summary": "Getting feelings for no strings girl, and now she's seeing someone else. Dont know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_fit2q", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Sending Valentines Chocolate to an Ex", "post": "So I had been seeing this girl for the last few months and all.. in the beginning.. it was good (obligitory animatrix reference). As things went by our contact dropped as the excitement started to wear off and  I was seeing her twice a week but only on my initiative. I should mention that she had a serious illness that effects her energy levels and she's one of those high maintenance girls who hates being seen at anything other than her best - So despite my best effort it was tricky to see her. Needless to say I broke it off - Call me a sucker but I get emotionally attached and someone not letting me care for them really got to me!\n\nAnway, The crux of the matter is I still owed her a night out (my turn to pay) so I'm thinking about getting her a valentines day collection of chocolates to essentially say I enjoyed the relationship and to let her know that despite the decision i made I still care. When it comes to writing meaningfull messages my logical brain falls to shit! Thought I'd check with the hive mind for any funny, meaningfull spin they can put on the sentiments:\n\nHere's to what we had, I'm still here for you.", "summary": "I've just broken up with this girl and am sending her chocolates - what should the note read?"}
{"id": "t3_168w0g", "subreddit": "self", "title": "in love with my best friends girl...", "post": "I made the wrong decision over a year ago, i gave her up. my gf (call her N) and i of 3 years were on a break and i met this girl (call her J) and she was the most in sync and similar girl i've ever met and i threw her away for a relationship that would later crumble into shambles. i broke J's heart, i watched it crumble. i told her all along that it was strictly not a bf gf thing and she knew i was going back to N but she had hoped for me to stay. i let her go. she moved on to my best friend. it took her a very long time to befriend me again and now we talk very often and we all hang out. i think she still has feelings and i know i do. i just want to ask reddit....is there a way to talk to her to get this off my chest? is it selfish of me because i would be gaining closer? do i not say anything at all? any comments or questions please.", "summary": "in love with best friends gf and idk what to do. any feed back is welcome."}
{"id": "t3_onqeq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Dear Reddit, I made a decision today on which I would like other people's perspectives.", "post": "I am president of the study association that is linked to my university. We're rather small time, but we're there in public view for all to see.\n\nRecently, a teacher of ours suffered a fatal myocardial infarction(heart attack). I did not know the man, he teaches a course that isn't in my Major. We never exchanged words on the hallways nor did I knew who he was when I heard the news until I saw his picture.\n\nNow, my peers(read; the school's supervisor to our association) who would abandon us if it would give them another euro to spend on free iPads for all teachers, are pressuring me into attending his funeral.\n\nI consider a funeral a rather sacred thing, though I am not religious. It is the final chance for friends and family to say their farewells to the person on display and I do not consider myself the right person to be part of such an intimate and private undertaking over a person that I did not know. I am told that I should \"represent the students as a whole\". I am eager to reply that \"If the students wish to pay their respects to the good man, they should come them-fuckin'-selves instead of using me as an excuse for their friday-night hangover\". I volunteered for the function on a free-will basis and I will not be pressured into feeling guilt over something I have no say in.\n\nI have already made my decision and I will not attend.\nMy only question for you, as a generally unbiased community, is; What is your view on this whole situation?\n\nShed a light on the matter that has a different wavelength than mine.", "summary": "Not attending teachers funeral on account of not knowing the man. Peers pressuring me to attend. Me pressuring them to fornicate a cactus. Your opinion?"}
{"id": "t3_g41lm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How reliable do you think self-diagnosing an injury is?", "post": "a few days ago I injured my foot so i went to the doctor to see what was up. doctor takes an xray and comes back revealing this brilliant diagnosis:\n\n*\"well it doesn't look like any bones are broken but it appears that your foot is still injured. you can either get the 300 dollar moon boot or the 25 dollar orthotic sandal, which doesnt look as cool.\"*\n\nlike honestly what the fuck is that supposed to mean? no shit my foot is injured thats why i came to the office in the first place. and they still didnt tell me whats wrong and to top it all off they asked for more money, trying to entice me with fashion sense?!\n\nlooking online, i found, within a few short minutes, a plausible condition which fits all the symptoms and suggests a course of action. thing is, having no medical experience whatsoever, i dont really trust myself or some random website. is the internet reliable for a self diagnosis? also anyone else have horribly incompetent doctor stories?", "summary": "i got a bullshit diagnosis from a doctor and now am asking whether online offers better answers"}
{"id": "t3_lsc2e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hipsters vs. Hipsters, what's the definition?", "post": "So, while talking to my brother (who lives in Monterrey, Mexico, I live in South Texas), we started discussing the definition of hipster. He, said that over there a **hipster** is a person who dresses nice and listens to music that isn't popular anymore (but that was, so, I'm assuming *oldies*).\nThen, I said, for me, hipsters are douchebags who wear fedoras, vest and 3D glasses, who look as if they were anorexic, and like music that's odd, and nobody understands, and thus, makes them different and *cool*, when in reality, not even they understand it. Oh, and also, do recreational drugs.\nAm I wrong??", "summary": "Brother says hipsters are cool (Mexican definition) while I say they're douchebags...am I wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_qoflz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I'm 25 unemployed with only 2 semesters of college education. I'm thinking about going back, but I'm currently broke.", "post": "Hey Reddit, I am a 25 year old musician from Florida who is going nowhere fast in the music industry, like I said in the title, I only have 2 semesters of college at a community college under me, and I'm currently unemployed. \nI've been feeling incredibly unproductive as of late, and I despise this feeling. \n\nI was dumb enough at 18 to think that I could make a living in music without college to fall back on, and I'm starting to wish I had that backup plan.\n\nI'm pretty much doing just enough odds and ends to save up money for this one last push at promoting a solo album, and if it doesn't work I want to return to college, but I don't know how to go about getting financial aid and all that, my parents are letting me stay with them again and I hate to take advantage of their generosity for too much longer.", "summary": "What's the best way for me to go about getting financial aid, and on my feet for the first time to enter the real world outside of music?"}
{"id": "t3_2akz93", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Mixed Feelings and Emotions towards this friendship.", "post": "I [18/f] just recently told my friend [18/m] that I have feelings for him. We have been friends for a year and have gotten extremely close. We would both message each other on social media and discuss our relationship problems. We we're both always there for each other.\n\n(Problem #1) The problem is before I told him I liked him, he confessed that he had this 6 year long crush on this one other girl. But then he proceeded to ask me who I liked. After him trying to assume it was this one guy I got frustrated and admitted it was him. He thus proceeded to confess that he also liked me.\n\n(Problem #2) Unfortunately that night, before we confessed everything, he just broke up with his girlfriend... which was probably his first somewhat serious relationship. Meanwhile I also just got out of a serious relationship.\n\nAfter the whole us confessing our feelings. We both have been txting each other non stop for hours on end till 3 oclock in the morning. He would always txt me first. This has been going on for 2 weeks now. In the beginning he would tell me that he kinda miss his ex and/or he would talk about the girl he had a long crush on. He would always say that he has a lot on his mind and that his brain is contradicting itself.\n\nI have very mix feelings about this whole situation. We both agree that we wouldn't date at the very moment (maybe once college starts; also we are going to the same college) but I'm not so sure if he truly has feelings for me. Sometimes I guess we flirt via txt but then again a txt message can be interpret in differently than what the person sent. He is such an introvert, he doesn't really go and hang out. But when I txt him nonstop to hang out with the group I manage to convince him. \n\nAny advice? How should I handle this situation? What should I do if I want to become more then friends?", "summary": "I like my friend, just broke up with his girlfriend, still crushing on a girl for 6 year, admits he also liked me. He is always txting me til 3am. How is this relationship between him and I going? How should I handle this situation? I want to be more than friends. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_j7pf9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the truth when it comes to Nitrogen filled tires?", "post": "Ok Reddit, I need help wading through the crap on the internet. A couple of days ago I came out of the bar to find my tire pressure sensor was indicating low pressure. A quick check revealed a screw in one of my tires of my brand new car. It was still pretty inflated so I went home. Long story short it's in an area that isn't easily patched and I've been trying to find a place that'll patch it and refill it with Nitrogen. It's just now getting lower than I care to let it and I was going to top it off when my mother (who had called a few places for me out of the blue, best mom ever, today is her anniversary) said you can't because once you put regular air in you can't put Nitrogen back in. When I bought the car the dealer said that doing just that would be totally fine. Come to find out, there is a lot of confusion at tire places and on the internet about Nitrogen in tires. So I ask you, the great Reddit, what's the real story here?", "summary": "What's the truth about Nitrogen tires? Are there any real benefits and can you add regular air to them without ruining them?"}
{"id": "t3_3yhfnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my gf [16 F], Just started dating but worried about the age difference.", "post": "So, I just started dating a good friend of mine from the gym that I go to, and I really like her. She's into alot of the same music that I am and also does weightlifting with me. I'm really liking her but I only yesterday properly came to terms with the fact that she's a bit younger than me. \n\nShe turns 17 in January and I turn 19 in April. When I see older people who are dating that are a few years apart from eachother (i.e. my parents) then I see it as being normal. \n\nWhat do you guys think, are we too far apart from one another?", "summary": "Gf is 16 im 18, i'm looking for thoughts on the age difference."}
{"id": "t3_3lyevw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] found out my girlfriend [20 F] lied about sleeping with her best friend.", "post": "My girlfriend of a few months and her best friends have been friends for about 5 years. He has been in love with her pretty much the whole time and she admitted to having feelings on and off since then. They both have dated different people during their friendship. I asked her when we first started talking whether the two of them have ever done anything physical, and she replied no. She went on to say that he has loved her loved her for a while and that she has no feelings for him. I was okay with that. A couple days ago I find out that she hooked up him with a couple weeks before we started talking. I confront her about this, and she continues to lie about it. After a little bit, she finally admits to only making out with him. I believe it, but I'm still upset that she lied to me. She looked me in the eyes and lied. A day goes by and I find out from a reliable source that they actually slept together. I ask her about this and she never admits it but she doesn't deny it and basically implies that it happened and that it was a mistake and she regrets it. I know it happened in the past but it still bothers me. Am I wrong to be feeling upset about this? Am I wrong to be uncomfortable with the best friend relationship they share? They text and Snapchat everyday. I'm just kind of lost. I don't know what to feel.\n\nSorry if this doesn't make much sense. I'm at the hospital drugged up and getting ready for an infusion haha.", "summary": "my girlfriend lied multiple times about sleeping with her best friend. How should I feel?"}
{"id": "t3_214s53", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by flashing the FedEx driver.", "post": "I took advantage of the early spring weather on Friday. Temps were nearly 70, and after this shit winter, it felt like a mid-summer day. Kids weren't home, husband was at work, I had nothing but free time. I decided it would be a perfect time to work on an early tan. Because we live in the middle of nowhere, I often lay out in just a thong to keep the tan lines to a minimum. \n\nFast forward to late afternoon. I'm laying on my stomach, butts soaking up the rays, I'm about half asleep. Thought nothing of the truck pulling in the driveway. Our drive has a pull-in area that runs around the pole barn that my husband often uses when he's pulling the trailer, so when I heard the truck stop, I just figured he was parking the trailer. It never crossed my mind to double check that it was indeed my husband. \n\nAnd then it hits me. That sound of throat clearing sounds nothing like my husband. \"Ma'am?\" I'm so startled I sit straight up and turn to face the source of the sound. Yeah that's definitely not my husband, and I'm definitely showing him my boobs. He was turned away at this point, so I throw on a shirt and pants as fast as my shaking hands will allow. \n\nI walk up, sign for the package I didn't know I should be expecting, and do the walk of shame back to the house. \n\nIf you happen to be reading this Mr. FedEx driver and you were offended or embarrassed as I was, I'm sorry.", "summary": "FedEx guy saw ass and titties."}
{"id": "t3_2rfz41", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Manipulative ex [25M] refuses to log out of my social media.", "post": "I just recently broke up with my ex-boyfriend. If you want the info on that, then heres a link \n\nWhen we were together, he demanded my passwords for my social media sites including facebook and instagram. I know, that was crazy of me to do. But I really loved him and thought it was ok, so I definitely learnt my lesson. I would never do half of what I did in that relationship. Thank goodness for that. \n\nNow, I've changed all my passwords and on Facebook I've logged out all devices so I know he is off of that. BUT instagram doesn't seem to have that feature that I know of? I'm still getting notifications that his friends have got a instagram account, so that means that he is logged in on one of his devices still. \n\nI've approached this topic several times. I've asked him to please sign out of my instagram. It is my personal account that I made the bad choice of letting him on. He keeps telling me he will or he has, but I still get the notifications about his facebook friends getting an instagram. So, he obviously hasn't.\n\nIs there anything I can do in this situation? I know this is all my fault for being so foolish in this relationship, but I'd like to get this fixed as this is my personal information.", "summary": "Ex is still logged onto instagram. Changed password but doesn't do anything if you're already logged in on a device. Any advice that you know of to fix this that I haven't thought of?"}
{"id": "t3_2baut3", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "an off my chest post ABOUT my chest.", "post": "I'm 15 and I have Pectus excavatum,for those of  you that don't know what it is it's like having a gap between your pecs A.K.A. the middle of your chest is sunken in and on August the second I'm going with my school  AND another school on a 9 day long trip to the beach.I'm not sure if I should be excited or terrified.\n\nA year ago I didn't care because I had a smaller circle of  friends and none of them noticed it (or they did but just didn't make a big deal out of it).Now I have a bunch more firends but I also met some assholes that I could see making fun of me.This wouldn't be bad because I have thick skin and I don't get offended easily but that doesn't really work when something is genetic.It's not MY fault i was born like that,so that sucks that I can't defend myself but oh well...\n\nThe worst part is my friends that I talked to about the beach were all talking about how they have to atleast bang one chick and I'm here thinking that would be probably impossible considering most of them are in fit shape and I'm...well...me.\n\nBasically,if anyone has been through this situation or has any advice on how I should tackle this please let me know,It would mean a lot to me.", "summary": "I have a sunken in chest and I'm going on a trip with 2 schools and I'm terrified of having 9 days of hell over there."}
{"id": "t3_273oe1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27M] hooked up with my acquaintance [26F] the day after she broke up with her boyfriend. A little unsure if they really broke up. Feel like a jackass.", "post": "Have met and hung out with both 26F and her (ex?)-bf in group settings maybe 2-3 times this year. They were together for almost 2 years. I don't mess around with girls in relationships. My mom cheated on my dad and seeing that damage shaped my beliefs, I think cheating is vile. I was never close to this girl or the guy, but definitely knew who they were, greeted them in passing, etc.\n\nThis weekend 26F and I were at the same bar, people all night had been saying she dumped her guy, and then she told me the same. Moved to an after party that she invited me to and there she was openly hitting on me. I let her initiate everything. I assumed we'd make out and then she'd bail, but she invited my back to her place, initiated taking off my clothes, her clothes, and getting the condom. Sex was great. \n\nI assumed it was a one time thing given the circumstances but she's been texting me so that led me to look her up. Found that Facebook and Instagram still have all their \"in a relationship\" status and couples pictures up so now I'm feeling a little guilty and worried about the whole thing. \n\nShe outright stated to me and everyone at the party that they were broken up. I did ask her if it was a temporary or permanent break and she said never say never but it's over indefinitely. It's a hippie/yoga/weed crew so I took that as they have no plans to get back together but there's no way of predicting the universe... that kind of philosophy. I've been told they were never an on-and-off couple or anything unstable like that.", "summary": "Casual sex with a girl who had just dumped her boyfriend (who I've met) that same weekend. Feeling guilty. Am I supposed to wait longer than that? Or is that the girl's concern and not my issue?"}
{"id": "t3_28upnn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by coming close to death.", "post": "This actually happened 5 years ago when I was 13 and is an x-post from my own subreddit /r/storiesofourlives but I found this subreddit today so I thought I'd share. \n\nHere's the context: I was not the brightest kid to walk the Earth at that age, and was lucky to have lived until today (no kidding I really was THAT dumb), also I had recently acquired an electrical kit in order to install extra fog lights onto my ATV. \n\nHere's the story: I'm in my room and it is about 3am on a Monday. Everyone is my house is asleep and I'm playing around with my electrical kit when a genius idea presents itself. \"Maybe if I put two wires into the electrical socket then make them touch I can weld something!\" so I preceded to follow through with this idea. The first wire goes in: nothing. So I stick the second wire in and as I release it, the two touch creating what looked like a small blue orb followed by all the power in my house going out. I panicked, REALLY not wanting to wake up my father and tell him of my recent discovery, I decided to figure out how to work the breaker box and fix the issue myself. Anyways, long story short I flipped the box back on (apparently the blast had done was flip the main switch) and went to bed, with my parents being oblivious of the whole matter even to this day.", "summary": "Should be dead because of electricity."}
{"id": "t3_4mlx3k", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my boyfriend [19M] 3 years, he's moving across the continent and going to be roommates with a girl", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been dating for roughly 3 years.\n\nI trust him implicitly and don't think he would do anything wrong or unfaithful, but this rubs me the wrong way.\n\nHe will be moving across the continent next year for university, I'm staying here. In the process of him trying to find a roommate, a girl he met last year (on a visit to the university campus) reached out to him and asked if he would want to room with her. He admittedly told her \"yes\" immediately, then backtracked and said he would need to \"sort some details out.\"\n\nThis is when he told me. He asked if I would be okay with him rooming with a girl, which I told him previously I'm not, and gave me more context about the whole thing. He said he would take a day to think about it and weigh both of our feelings in the matter.\n\nBasically, I told him that I would trust him, but it made me very uncomfortable to think that he would be around this girl pretty much all the time while I'm back home, far away. He talked to some friends, and decided that he would accept her offer.\n\nThis is where we're at currently. I feel so icky about it. I've talked to him multiple times about it, outlining why exactly it doesn't sit right with me, but he keeps reiterating that it's the best thing for him since he has a tough time making friends and she actually reached out to him first. I don't want to be crazy girlfriend (he keeps saying \"you know I'll have friends who are girls,\" which has never been an issue -- it's the fact that *she* contacted him, he said yes without thinking of me, and then didn't mention me until after I told him he should make sure she knows he has a girlfriend).", "summary": "Boyfriend is moving far away, rooming with a girl who he met previously and who reached out to him. I feel uncomfortable but he stresses it's the best thing for him. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2qnpiw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (28F) nicely but forcibly make my husband (31M) move out?", "post": "We've been married 4 years, together 11, and have a son. We live together and are both on the lease. We need to split up, for both our sanity's sake, but he \"refuses to quit\" as he says, and is dragging his feet on moving out. \n\nHe is not in a good situation to live independently (no car, no job, has 6 months of unemployment left, no friends or family to take him in) but I believe he made his bed and he needs to figure it out.  He agrees that my son and I should stay in our apt while he moves out. But he seems to think he can take 6 months to make his plans. Currently,  his plan is to wait for our tax refund and hope its enough to fund his move. Thats 3 months away and there's a strong chance we'll owe the govt anyway.\n\nI can't wait that long, we may kill eachother by 6 months. Today, I got so frustrated that I yelled at him until he left the house. He asked why I was being such a bit** and I replied that I'll keep being a bit** until he moves out. I feel like I have to force him or he'll never leave. Am I terrible? Is there a better way? I eish I could afford a hotel or something. How do adults with lower incomes manage to split up?", "summary": "How do I force my husband to move out and how are grown-ups supposed to amicably break up?"}
{"id": "t3_3gjipx", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not sharing my cookie.", "post": "So I went to by usual coffee shop today and decided to treat myself to one of their awesome spicy chocolate cookies. Server behind the counter mentioned she'd been eyeing them off all morning but opted for some banana bread instead. Cue banter on how she'd made a mistake and should have gotten the cookie instead, and now will have to double up and get her own cookie. \n\nMoney was exchange, I go to wait for my coffee and the server goes to munch on her banana bread. \n\nNow here's the fuck up, while waiting she comes out and offers me a bit of her banana bread. I'm like \"that's really kind\", took the proffered bit of banana bread, thanked her for sharing, and blissfully started munched away tuning back out my coffee waiting world. Didn't even think to share the cookie I was holding, the exact one we'd been talking, that she said she'd be eyeing off, even after she shared her food.\n\nIt only occurred to me what a jerk I was half way down the street while guiltily sipping on my coffee.", "summary": "Someone kindly shared their food with me. I kept sweet delicious cookie to myself. Need to find a new coffee shop."}
{"id": "t3_1xkpwa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Looking for a lawyer dealing house fires/personal injury? Trouble finding reviews of local lawyers.", "post": "Our home was burned down due to some type of faulty leak within the gas pipes.... something to do with the furnace and the gas line being exposed or leak.....Nonetheless a family member has had over 50% of his body ravaged by 3rd degree burns.  We've been focusing on our family member, and now we're being told to contact a lawyer ASAP.  I've gotten a few names/numbers, yet I can't find any review sites/apps for local lawyers....AND for the sites I did find, there was only ever 1 review from clients, and then 3-5 peer reviews or colleagues of the lawyer giving them praise..", "summary": "House burned down, family member severely burned--- I found 1 review site, only ever 1 review of lawyer, and the rest are peer reviewers/colleagues giving praise."}
{"id": "t3_4kp7zq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] girlfriend [20F] is incredibly clingy, I'm starting to resent her.", "post": "I've been dating this girl for 6 months, we're currently doing long-distance. I initially liked her a lot because she's very sweet and devoted to me, but she's becoming horribly clingy, to the point where she gets upset if I do anything but talk to her. I wouldn't even mind the clinginess if her and I had something to talk about, but when we do talk now she's just constantly sad because she thinks I don't love her. I reassure her of this the best that I can, but it's never enough, when I talk to her for hours she tells me I'm not being affectionate enough, and when I am affectionate with her, she finds some other thing to be sad about. So what it amounts to is that I have to spend hours on the phone in silence with her because she's too sad to talk, and I don't want to leave her alone like that. It's gotten to the point where I really am starting to avoid her now, because talking to her makes me feel completely miserable now. Her and I barely share any hobbies, and so we have nothing else to talk about (not that it'd matter).\n\nThe only thing I'm really looking forward to with her at this point is that her and I both, for the most part, want the same thing in life. However, her and I can't be together for another three years due to college, and I'm starting to question whether I can really handle another two years of this. Not to mention that I'm afraid things won't be better even when her and I are together, and that I'll have wasted my 20s.\n\nI know I seem really harsh and selfish, but I do really care about this girl. And I don't want to lose her, but I really don't know what else to do at this point. Is this relationship even salvageable at this point?", "summary": "Girlfriend constantly wants to spend time with me, but due to distance her and I can only talk, and this is a probable since she's too sad to speak most of the time. I'm to the point where I dread talking to her, and I'm wondering if it's time to end things. Please help me."}
{"id": "t3_zdoj6", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to overcome fear of physical intimacy and whether it's ok to talk about it...", "post": "I've been on a couple dates with a girl I met online, and I'm worried that my fear of physical intimacy and the slow rate at which I get used to people is getting in the way (or will soon).  \n\nTo give a little background, I'm 27m and it's been over 2 years since I last did anything with a girl (not a virgin, though).  I'm sort of a shy guy who doesn't fully open up until he's gotten to know people. Once I do I make friends easily, but it takes time.  I'm also afraid of girls: in general I have trouble interacting with them unless I somehow remove all sexual tension (and thus interest) from the relationship, and so you can see why it's been a rather prolonged dry spell.\n\nAnyway, I've been on OKCupid for a while and been on a few dates, but none of them have gone past the first date until the most recent one.  This girl (~25f), in contrast to most, I felt pretty at ease speaking to, and while I'm not comfortable enough yet to deploy puns and silly humor I usually do when among friends, I can see it getting there.  But now we're up to the third date potentially, and I haven't even hugged her.  I'm scared and out of practice and in general am not a very touchy guy (and if I'm not comfortable enough to crack a joke, how am I going to do much else!?), but I also know that this is sending weird and mixed signals.  More or less I want to, but am immobilized with doubt.\n\nOn some level I know I need to sack up and do it, but thinking about it makes me nervous enough to feel a little physically sick.  Is this something I can bring up casually (and just say that I really like her, but need to move slowly), or is that not ok?  To give a little more insight into the dynamic, she sent me message after the first date saying that she'd had fun and wanted to hang out again, so I think she feels something there, too...", "summary": "Is it fair to bring up (in as casual a manner as possible) my rustiness/fears to make up for my lack of move-making?"}
{"id": "t3_ov3cl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I get my property manager to fix my bedroom and bathroom faster?", "post": "I'm renting a two bedroom two bathroom condo in San Diego. Unfortunately one of the sewer lines got backed up and flooded my bathroom and all the way into my bedroom. So the Home Owners Association had to come in and tear our all the carpeting, drywall, sink and tiling. This started in December. All they have done so far is put drywall up and didn't even finish it.\n\nI spoke to my property manager about this and they say they're waiting for the insurance to accept the contractor's bid so they can get started. However, I think the owner should at least be able to pay for the repairs and get reimbursed by the insurance.\n\nWhat they've been doing to compensate us for not having the other bedroom and bathroom is giving us a discount on rent. I'm really sick of living in my living room and this is getting really ridiculous. I like the place itself. I just have no idea what to do now...", "summary": "Condo got flooded with sewage water. HOA and Owners are being slow as fuck to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_2xmcgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27F] with my BF[30M] 8 months, we're both at fault", "post": "Throwaway because my boyfriend is a redditor. \n\nFriday night my boyfriend arrived around 5am from being out drinking with his friends. Something just felt keenly off when he came in. Several weeks ago he told me for the first time that he loved me and I said it back. Since then he hasn't said it once to me without me saying it first. Friday he came in, laid down, said he loved me a handful of times and was just generally being very loving. \n\nMaybe it's weird to find this behavior odd but I did. Something was up. Like a damn asshole I felt compelled to look at his phone and like an asshole I did. I went looking for trouble and found it. Turns out he lied to my face about where he was and who he was out with. He was with some girl at a bar. I also noticed messages between him and a different girl who he I assume at least made out with two solid months into us dating. He told her last week he wanted to take her on a real date but she wasn't feeling it. Texts from the week previous show him telling me he'd be over shortly then immediately texting three other girls asking them what their plans were for the night and if they wanted to hang. \n\nGod writing this out makes it so obvious I need to leave. It's just hard because he made me believe he loved me, he's the only person I've ever loved. I've been shaking all day, feeling sick to my fucking stomach. What the hell should I do? I feel like shit for snooping but I was following a very strong instinct. I don't even know how to bring it up if I were to break up with him. What do I do?", "summary": "Went looking for trouble and probably found it. :("}
{"id": "t3_471u2g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/M] thinks my SO's [22/F] friend [22/F] is gaslamping my SO about Me.", "post": "My So and I recently went to a little small town event where we met her friend, It was suppose to be a double date but her BF got sick. So she was the only one who went, I was very shy at first because that's my nature but I warmed up to her and was generally friendly. It didn't go too bad except for the beginning when my GF thought I was upset, but really I was just shy.\n\nI thought everything had gone smoothly for the most part, but then I got a text that I was extremely rude, and she was mad and was considering breaking up our 3 year relationship. So, of course, paniced, I drove to her house to discuss this.\n\nA short note, My GF has really poor memory due to a mental diease, which makes it easy to manipulate her memory. I've even gaslamp her before by accident (about small stuff like movie facts), simply because I don't remember correctly. \n\nBut anyway, back to the story, She started talking to me about how I wouldn't shake her friend's hand when I definitely did. Or about how I was really rude and I insulted both of them, but she can't really list what I said/did. She can't give me details on anything but I don't remember any of this happening or me being rude almost at all. But the problem is my GF really trust this friend, and I don't wanna cause a divide but I think this friend, for whatever reason, is gaslamping my GF about me. \n\nIt's causing huge problems, we might break up over this. I'm freaking out because I don't know how to approach this and just straight up tell her I think this friend is feeding her false memories. Reddit, I'm really panicking, what do I do?", "summary": "I, gf, and her friend hung out for a bit. I was shy at first but got over it, was on pretty good behavior. GF texts the same night that I was extremely rude and she is mad and might break up. Lists a bunch of things that did not happen but said her and her friend did happen. Gf has memory problems and might be being feed false memories from her friend. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_ryeb0", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend thinks she's better than me. How do I nicely tell her that she is not?", "post": "Hello, long time reader first time poster.. My situation is this, My fiance and I are graduate students at different schools with equal credibility. I am a masters student in geophysics while she is a PhD student in social work. she constantly tells me that her program is far more rigorous than mine is even tho I have seen the work she does and I fell like I honestly can do that work in my sleep, I however tend to hide my work from her. I am in no way trying to slam any majors here. I believe that every program in college has challenges equal to the next, but it really ticks me off when she claims that I should have more time than her, and that my program is easier than hers because Im in a masters program and she is in a PhD program. I'm currently researching and writing my thesis, and she is in her first year of the program (she went through the non-thesis option for her masters btw). Also when I finish this I highly doubt that I will do this school s**t again, and when we are married and she is addressed with Dr instead of Mrs (my last name) I am afraid she will disrespect me further. How do I get her to understand that I am working just as hard as she is (probably harder but I'll settle for equality)?", "summary": "my fiance is in a PhD program and I am in a masters and she constantly tells me that I'm not working as hard as she is and that is soooooo not the case. how do I let her know?"}
{"id": "t3_377cqa", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My ex-girlfriend cheated on her boyfriend with me last night.", "post": "Hello reddit advice-givers,\n\nLast night, my ex-girlfriend hit me up to hang out when she got off work. I said sure. It had been a year since I saw her last, and I figured it would be cool to see what's new in her life. We broke up about three years ago, and she's been through a couple of boyfriends since then. She seems to be in a pretty serious relationship now. She's been dating this guy for a little over a year, is planning on moving in with him in August, and thinks he's going to pop the question this summer (he's already talked to her dad, apparently). \n\nYou may know someone like her. She's one of those girls who's very flirty, and is always able to make guys give her what she wants. When her and I dated, she cheated on me several times. One guy even messaged me, admitting to it, and hoped for us to work it out. \n\nAnyways, we spend about an hour and a half reminiscing and talking about when we used to date. She calls it \"the good old days\" and says she misses it. After we say goodnight and goodbye, I get in my car, and she texts me before I drive off and says, \"Hey wait, I want to kiss you for old time's sake, but not if you're going to judge me blah blah blah\" I kissed her and instantly regretted it. \n\nI feel like I have to tell her boyfriend. Especially because someone did the same for me when her and I dated, and I was eternally thankful. But she's probably going to marry the poor guy, and I feel like she hasn't grown up at all since high school. What should I do?", "summary": "Ex-girlfriend hit me up to chill last night. She's in a seemingly serious relationship, but instigates a kiss with me, regardless. She cheated on me a couple times when we dated, and one guy told me about it. I feel like I should too, but they're probably going to get married. Help."}
{"id": "t3_3uwngj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (30m) have never fallen this hard for somebody (30f) this quickly (3 months.). Should I tell her? Am I misinterpreting my own feelings?", "post": "The last two weeks or so I've realized I don't just really, really like my girlfriend. I'm in love with her. What had been a really good relationship has, lately, become something that's completely overcome me. We get along incredibly well. We agree on all the major things. Life goals, politics, finances, etc. We can spend the day doing nothing in particular and have a great time. She's brilliant and creative and beautiful and she is absolutely my dream woman.\n\nI've never felt this way about somebody after only three months, but I should also mention we've spent A LOT of time together in that span. Usually six days a week, we're hanging out for hours and hours. \n\nThe last week, I've been actively fighting the urge to say \"I love you.\" when I'm with her. Yesterday morning we were lazily cuddling in bed and it was almost overwhelming. I'm bursting at the seams here but I'm scared 3 months is too soon. I'm scared about not hearing it back. I'm scared of spooking her. Like I said, I've never wanted to express these things to somebody so soon and I'm in uncharted waters.\n\nShould I wait? Should I open up completely and, if so, is 3 months way too soon?", "summary": "I want to tell my girlfriend of three months I love her but I'm worried it's way too soon."}
{"id": "t3_1286rk", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "This girl (19) that I have been somewhat talking to, decided to just get into a t-shirt and panties last night. What signal is she displaying? (More story in the info)", "post": "Reddit Bros and Bronettes! I'm at crossroads on how to take this.  Last night when we were hanging out at her house, it got pretty late, at around 1:30 she decided to get into her night-wear.  Which would be panties and a t-shirt. I'm not complaining but I'm not sure if this was her signal to me or not.. \n\nNow, a little backstory, a couple of days ago I asked her if she would want to date me. Her reply was\n\n\"I don't know, I will have to think about it\"\n\nI decided not to push the question and just to keep hanging out, then now she presented herself with her panties and t-shirt.  \n\nWhat do you guys think it could be?", "summary": "Talking to a girl for a bit, asked her to go out and didn't give an answer, then seems comfortable enough to be i her panties around me. Now I need to know if that is her signal for something, or nothing at all."}
{"id": "t3_1911lr", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is there a good solution to all the mass amount of usernames and passwords I need to remember for every website?", "post": "I'm sure I'm not the only one that has this problem. I have nearly 100 active accounts between forums, social media, email, financial institutions, and whatever. Some assign you a username others allow you to pick. Some require different lengths. Then you have the password problem: remember when you could have lengths less than 6 characters? I still have some of those passwords. Alphanumberic only? Special characters mandatory? Its insane. As of right now, I have a txt file with all my websites, the username, and password I used. This works kinda okay, but then I have multiple computers so I have to maintain the file in 3 locations? Sure, you can \"always remember\" but that doesn't work on my banking, phone, and utilities sites. Oh, and getting a new computer? Enter everything all over again (if you remember your username/password). On top of that, I'm a developer, so I end up using multiple browsers (sure, I have a favorite that I use more often than the others, but that doesn't mean I don't use 2-3 different browsers per computer). \n\nTo preempt any doucher that says \"I only have a facebook, gmail, and reddit account, that's all I need and that's all you should need.\" Don't fucking bother. I'm here looking for a solution, not listen to some dickface pat himself on the back about something so trivial. I have a social/entertainment side, a finance/professional side, and a developer/hobby side that I'm trying really hard to keep separate (for security AND professionalism) so I'm going to need facebook and reddit and several developer forums and youtube and three financial institutions and multiple email addresses (for each version of me) and lets not forget about every place I buy something from online... I need an account for all of them too.", "summary": "Is there an efficient way to maintain the mass amount of usernames and passwords you acquire through years of using the internet?"}
{"id": "t3_2rel4s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I, [22 F] get along better with my stubborn, short tempered, dad [55 M]?", "post": "I want to get along with my dad.\n\nHe's a good guy most of the time but can get easily offended and has a short temper.\n\nExample: My family and I are planning a trip to Europe. My father makes a plan to travel to 4 cities in 10 days. When I point out that this is rushed and may be better to spend more time in fewer cities he blows up and starts yelling that I don't appreciate him. I did not raise my voice. I did not belittle him with my tone. I even apologised if I seemed to disrespect him. It does not matter to him. The damage has been done and my family, mother, little brother and I sit while he rants and yells on. It's uncomfortable and I want to know how I should avoid these situations...\n\nI think because we have many differing ways of looking at life we often offer conflicting ideas. But I don't think this is reason to act the way he does. So it may be best to simply ask you all for help. This is but one situation where he has acted like this and I want to stop it for future reference. \n\nAny and all help is welcome! :)", "summary": "I need advice on how to avoid conflict with my father!"}
{"id": "t3_2ymsst", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "15M my girlfriend 14F ended it and I'm confused.", "post": "Go ahead. I'm 15, I shouldn't be dating, blah blah blah, relationships come and go, blah blah blah. Whatever. I did. Me and this girl were EXTREMELY close for 2 years before I decided I wanted her and she felt the same. She ended it claiming she still likes me but enjoys being the best friends that we were more than being my girlfriend. You can say what you like, but I really and truly love this girl. I've talked to her, there's no getting it back. I am attracted to no one else. I think of her 24/7 and come up with some way something or some event correlates with her. Today, I saw a completely beautiful, gorgeous girl. She kinda smiled when we made eye contact, and I recognized her attractiveness. I processed it. But I didn't feel attracted to her at all. AT ALL. I literally only like my ex girlfriend and I'm scared by that. You're free to ridicule me now. Just keep in mind I'm an innocent, sensitive, sweet 15 year old. Seriously though, I'm not so sure I'm getting over her anytime soon at all. I'm significantly less happy than I was when we were dating, and I've been a complete ass to my friends for it. I just feel like crap, all around. I don't know. Help?", "summary": "Girlfriend broke up with me, says she still likes me but wants to be best friends as we were very close before dating. I'm attracted to no one else and I'm kinda hurt."}
{"id": "t3_4wk1ef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (26/f) Finally Going to Confront Her (24/f) About Why We Stopped Talking. Does This Sound Okay?", "post": "This post is an update to this [one](\n\nI never ended up seeing Jess that week, but today my co-worker (and mom) told me that Jess stopped by my store looking for me and my sister. My mom said she was there \"with a girl.\" But left quickly when she didn't see us. Apparently the girl (her american gf) said \"but you wanted to stop here!\" as Jess was leaving the store. I explained to my mom that a few weeks ago Jess invited me and my sister to a boat dance cruise taking place tomorrow, so I'm sure she stopped by my store to ask if we were still going (and to show off her new gf lol -_-)\n\nHonestly, I'm really glad I didn't see Jess today. I wasn't prepared lol \n\nBUT I plan to FINALLY send Jess a message either tonight or tomorrow morning. I was gonna say \"Hey, I won't be able to make it. Completely forgot I already made plans to see this girl. Thanks for inviting anyway~ Also this is kinda random but back in Feb I saw a fb post you made about how people don't like black people unless it's a fetish, just a couple of days after hanging out with me and toni. Not gonna lie it felt like a low-key jab at us, and it shocked and disappointed me. That's why I distanced myself; I don't really know where we stand anymore.\" \n\nPlease let me know what you think of that message, I could really use some feedback. And definitely feel free to tell me what you would say. Thanks for reading!", "summary": "My ex-crush/friend invited me and sister out tomorrow. I'm not going because our unresolved past, and I'm going to send her a message very soon telling her why. Does this sound ok?"}
{"id": "t3_3qfz8u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update] Me [25 F] hooked up with my close friend's [25 F] short-term crush [26 M]; shit hit the fan", "post": "[Original Post](\n\nNot too many people commented on the original but I always like seeing updates to posts I read here so I figured I'd make one.\n\nAfter my original post I found out from a mutual friend that she had been telling people really private things I had told her, spreading false information to try to convince them that I wasn't a good person and that they should be on her \"side\". I pretty much decided then that I would apologize for what I did but that I wouldn't agree to not pursue things with the guy involved. \n\nI did end up eventually talking to her, she asked me again to not date him, I told her that I WAS very sorry for how I handled things but I wasn't going to give into ultimatums, and that I'd be happy to be friends again when she was ready to forgive me. After talking to her I felt ok to continue things with the guy.\n\nShe continued to not speak to me for the past couple weeks but I think realized that I was one of her only really close friends. She has since decided to ~get over it~ I guess and now is acting like nothing ever happened in the first place which is weird but I'll take it. I'm kind of glad the whole thing happened because she blabbed (and twisted around) some really personal stuff I had told her while she was mad at me to try to make me look bad, so now I know not to trust her with that kind of stuff.\n\nAs a plus, things with the guy are going really, really well and I'm SO glad I didn't give in to her demands because I've been really happy about it!", "summary": "Originally had hooked up with someone my friend had a brief crush on, she gave me ultimatum to cut him out of my life or we couldn't be friends. I found out she was talking shit, decided to just apologize and pursue things anyways, now things are going real well and my friend got over it."}
{"id": "t3_4150rr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my boyfriend [25 M] Almost 2 years", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. About 3 months ago we opened our relationship. He has a fetish for older guys and I have a really high libido. It seems like the perfect answer, right?\n\nThe only problem is I get really jealous and I can't seem to control it. He says that in the long run he can't be happy without being able to satisfy his fetish. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and I'd like to make the open thing work. I just don't know how to manage my jealousy. \n\nAny tips for dealing with jealousy?", "summary": "How do I manage my jealousy in my open relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_jw3q0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help with convincing father I need the car.", "post": "I leave for college tomorrow in a town about 40 minutes away from where my parents live and I'm living out there. Recently, my parents bought two new cars and they dont need one of their old ones, so my dad put me on the insurance and let me drive it around. \nHowever, I just found out today that he will not let me take the car to school. For the past two weeks, I've come to realize that I do need an car in my life, for I need to apply for jobs near campus. The campus has minimal bus transportation around it (one or two busses showing up a DAY to go from the edge of campus to an accompanying town). \nNot only do I need the car for a future job, I am a part of the Student Activities Board, the Student Senate, and Residential Student Counsel. I plan activities and need to buy supplies for the events. This car lets me have that mobility I need to get work done. While I could occasionally bum a ride off a friend, no one is willing to do this regularly, as since it's college, everyone's doing things on their own schedule.", "summary": "I need help convincing my dad that I need the car."}
{"id": "t3_162kfw", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I'm becoming decent friends with a guy I met through his girlfriend. I don't want him to feel weird about that.", "post": "So I met this wonderful girl through an acting class I took. In a perfect world, in a perfect time, in a perfect place, I would have worked as hard as I could to be a romantic part of her life. She's the perfect girl to me. BUT she already had a boyfriend and I completely respected that. A few months down the road, after a big shakeup in my own romantic life (long term significant other leaving me) I get invited by acting-class girl to come hang out as part of book study. \n\nSo I jump on the invite and end up meeting some truly wonderful people, one of them being her boyfriend. He's a great guy and they are truly made for eachother. I can do nothing but wish them the best. He's a quiet and reserved guy so getting to know him and befriend him has been a slow but rewarding process. We still aren't very close but I can tell the relationship can take that turn and I'm happy about it. It's hard to make new friends as a 24 year old guy.\n\nI'm just concerned that.. Well his girlfriend, acting-class girl, is very out going and sweet and I love talking to her. Nothing inappropriate and I try to be respectful of their relationship but I am terrified that I ama n open book and that when I talk to her, and joke with her, that a little bit of my old crush on her is still peeking through my eyes/smile. I don't want to upset her boyfriend because I value his encumbent friendship but I don't want to abruptly change how I interact with his girlfriend, because our talks are very rewarding and soothing to me. I know she doesn't have feelings for me and I know I will never act on those feelings I had for her. I really appreciate her friendship. I just don't want her boyfriend to believe I have ulterior motives because I don't want to poison our time together.", "summary": "I worry that when I talk to a new friends girlfriend, he can see in my voice/body language that I had a crush on her before I met him. I don't want to hurt him/mess up our burgeoning friendship but I also don't want to give up talking to her/making her laugh etc. Am I over thinking this?"}
{"id": "t3_14xmi9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (20f) boyfriend (20m) is scared that I'll break up with him over little issues/mistakes", "post": "I (20f) have been with my boyfriend (20m) for about two months. We met the first semester of college, so we've known each other for 1.5 years now.\nThings are going really well so far, but we're having a little bit of trouble communicating. His previous girlfriend (from over 3 years ago, during high school) broke up with him (two different times) after he did something \"stupid\"--just a miscommunication, but she made it a big deal.\n\nSo now, when he does something \"stupid\" (his words), he's scared I'm going to leave him too. I've told him this isn't the case, and that whenever we have a miscommunication, I want us to talk about it so we can understand each other better. How can I bring up little issues in our relationship without freaking him out that I'm going to dump him for it? We've already discussed that I won't leave him over stupid things, and he understands why he reacts the way he does. Can anyone give me advice for how to frame discussions so as to not scare him?", "summary": "Boyfriend's ex made him scared of the possibility of my dumping him whenever he makes a mistake--I want to show him I won't do that, want to address our issues constructively, and that nobody's perfect. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_h8qjq", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Recently I have been unmotivated to do anything, not even things I find intriguing or enjoy.", "post": "So I got to college as a junior and for the past two quarters I have had troubles doing anything anymore. I cannot tell if I am just being slothful and lazy, or if I am legitimately having a mental block.\n\nBasically, I know I have to do things like my programming project, an editing project, and soldering project. These are all things I genuinely *enjoy* doing, but I find myself unable  to bring myself to actually do them. \n\nI even set aside time to do these projects, but end up doing anything else. \"I need to get this done on Tuesday so I can get this done on Wednesday before work.\" I will then get ready to do it, then I feel really anxious, look at my project, and just mentally shutdown. I cannot even start a simple c-class object anymore. I will do anything other than this.\n\nThe only things I do is just show up to work and some of my classes. If it is outside of those 26 hours a week, then I cannot force myself to do anything. Hell, I rarely hang out with my friends anymore or go drinking. I don't even play my favorite games, as I get that same anxious feeling when I try to play them as well as when.\n\nThe only thing that makes me feel better is consuming really interesting media. Nothing that makes me think about personal things long, so it has to be music I know the words to, really engaging TV series, interesting articles, or reading novels (this is what I end up doing most of the time). If my attention is snapped, I get that anxious feeling again.\n\nI used to be able to get work done when I had people counting on me. \"These people need this bit edited by such and such time, ON IT\" I would always put those tasks first, and personal tasks second. Then it became just those group tasks. Then I lost motivation for group tasks.\n\nNot only is this damaging to my self-respect, but it is fairly damaging to my networking as well as my grades, which is why I am finally asking fellow redditors: has anyone else had this problem and how did they combat it? Is it medical, or purely motivational problems?\n\nThanks for your time.", "summary": "Can't seem to do anything, even that which needs to be done/I enjoy doing. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_j8amc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So you want to make a difference? (American Politics)", "post": "This is an open discussion, thank you for taking your time to contribute. If you think this is a \"circle-jerk\" or pointless, that's cool, the back button is at the top of the screen.\n\nFirst: This is about United States Politics, if this is of no interest to you then you clearly did not read the title. This doesn't mean Americans only, we live in a global society and our governments decisions and actions affect everyone. \nSecond: This should not be an indictment of the wrongs committed by the government. Everyone has their own opinions on what injustice has been done to the people or to industry. The ceaseless bickering has stagnated us, we argue and drain our energy and then retire to the conveniences we are so blessed to have, believing that to act would be as fruitless as the senseless arguments we get caught up in.\n \n\nFor the sake of accomplishing something let's start this discussion with how to get started. How do we organize effectively? How can we communicate efficiently? What can be done to overcome the mass polarization of the nation? All I know for certain is that we are divided. Is this the worst divide in our nations history? I don't know, but I doubt it. We aren't killing each other yet, that's something at least. Our freedoms are threatened but they are not gone, if nothing is to be gained what is there to lose by engaging to try to accomplish something? What do we need to do? How do we go from one to many?", "summary": "Hello. I'm Loraint and I want to make a difference, if you're here I assume you do to. How can we do this?"}
{"id": "t3_34bfum", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my crush [16 F] duration 0, gave me an odd sounding rejection. I need help understanding what she meant.", "post": "So yesterday I asked out this girl I like and she asked for a day to think about it, and she replied to me today. Here response was \"Yeah [my name], I can't do this right now. You're a good guy but I'm not a good girl I'm sorry.\"  \n\nShe parties a lot and knows a good number of people who commit a lot of felonies, and I'm a generally tame person. That being said, I don't believe I've given any sign that I'm uncomfortable with that type of environment, hell, we both intend to go to a party together later this year.  I just want to better understand what she meant by this.", "summary": "Yeah [my name], I can't do this right now. You're a good guy but I'm not a good girl I'm sorry.\" What does this mean?"}
{"id": "t3_2ybja3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my girlfriend [23F] Should I let her sacrifice for me?", "post": "My girlfriend, call her Susan, just got into several PHD programs. The obvious top choice for her is University X. University X is ranked 8 in the field she is interested in. We have been together for a year and a half, and she doesn't want to be in a different city from me. We have lived together before and genuinely make each other happier when we are together. I will be in a different city for the next few years, and there is nothing I can do to change that (different PHD program).\n\nTherefore, she has decided she wants to go to university Y instead of university X. University Y is also a very good university and is located where I will be studying. University Y is ranked 15 in her field, still decent, but not in the top ten.\n\nI completely understand why she wants to go to University Y, I am really moved that she cares that much about me. But I am not used to people sacrificing for me. Should I let her jeopardize her future for me?", "summary": "GF has choice between two schools. Should I let her choose the worse one to be with me?"}
{"id": "t3_2mnrby", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25f] seem to have trouble being seen as a romantic interest by men", "post": "I keep running into this problem where the guys I'm romantically interested are not interested in me. Which is valid, not everyone is meant for everyone but it's becoming a pattern and I'm getting very annoyed. Despite knowing my feelings, they justify continuing to have a friendship by not sleeping with me (bc I guess they don't realize feelings can occur without sex). Of course I don't want to be used but it's incredibly frustrating to tell someone how you feel about them and have them just brush it off.\n\n The most recent guy this happened with[25m] although I told him I didn't want to continue a friendship with him for my emotional sanity, he kept reiterating how he really wants to be my friend and just doesnt want to start anything physical bc he values my friendship. He's open to being in a relationship but isn't romantically interested in me. Apparently he's pretty sad that I don't want to just be friends. Im just looking for some advice to get out of this rut I find myself stuck in there's a pretty limited dating pool where I am so I can't just date to my hearts content.", "summary": "for lack of a better phrase, I eke getting friend zoned by guys I've expressed interest for, any advice to avoid this would be great."}
{"id": "t3_1ir1wt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (23/f) let go of the person (23/m) that used to be?", "post": "I've been in a LDR with my current boyfriend for 2 years. We liked each other so much in the beginning of the relationship that we knew we would end up together and worked really hard to keep it together. I was supposed to stay with him (permanently) last month but a lot of things happened.\n\nFinancially, I struggled to do this. And it was taking a longer time than we had planned. He became depressed due to a number of factors. Completely changing. He was smoking weed and lying about it. He set up a dating profile and lied about it. When he came clean, he said he was going to get better and change. While he stopped doing those things, his depression just keeps getting worse and it's difficult to deal with.\n\nAt one time, I wanted to be with him and make it work. Even if it meant struggling financially. But now I'm not so sure. We put me coming there on hold. We haven't seen each other in so long. He's depressed most of the time. He feels nothing. He's literally empty. And isn't able to care. On the other hand, I do care about him very much. And can't let go of the person I once knew. Which is why I'm staying around. I'm afraid if I leave, I'll miss out when he's back to normal.\n\nI am by no means blaming him for his depression. But I still think he should want to see me at least. I don't know what to put up with, what is real, how to let go of the person I fell for if need be. And one of my biggest fears of this entire situation is that he's going to meet someone else and she's going to get that person I want. Not the one he is now. Any suggestions are appreciated.", "summary": "Think I should end things with my boyfriend but can't let go of the \"old\" him. Afraid when he moves on, this new person is going to get the side of him I'm looking for. Not his depressed side."}
{"id": "t3_u844z", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When I was at a club last night a seemingly genuine girl was instantly in love with a guy who said \"Is that a *insert designer name* dress? I am wearing Hugo Boss\"... Reddit, what are your thoughts/stories about the clubbing scene?", "post": "After the a few more similar encounters I only began to have a good time when I started treating the whole night like a massive joke. eg. girl compliments my jacket, and asks \"what brand is it?\" I reply, 50% off from target. \n\nSeriously, am I the loser to think it's lame to talk about brand names and openly judge each other like this?\n\nI had another conversation with a dude I just met who proceeded to boast to me about how \"successful\" he is after i subtly asked what he was up to this weekend (in charge of all these projects etc etc). After 15 minutes or so when he was done telling me how good he is and offering me a job, he asked me what I do. So I said I do online surveys for a living. (I am 21, he is 21...)\n\nReddit is this normal?", "summary": "Call me slow but I think I have learnt that the clubbing scene is not a place you can expect to meet genuine people."}
{"id": "t3_12yk7r", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm (23f) literally going crazy over my bf (23m) of 2 months, i'm obsessed about him breaking up with me. Should I break up with him for my own sanity?", "post": "I have been very emotionally unstable the entire time we've been with each other. I think about him all the time, but it's gotten to such an extreme I have to retake classes because my work suffered so much from it. When he doesn't text me back I burst out crying. Im so afraid to lose him, the fear is paralyzing. \n\nHe is in love with me, and he wants to be with me and me to trust him. \n\nI'm not usually like this, and I try to hide it from him as much as possible (i'm afraid I might scare him away if he sees how obsessed I have become), but it's ruining my life. I overeat because I feel stressed. I can't concentrate on anything. I can't sleep. Nothing feels important but him. I am very aware how unhealthy this is, and I'm really embarrassed this is happening to me. \n\nI'm constantly afraid and waiting for my heart to be broken, I can't function. Should I just end this, so the insecurity is gone and I can get over this whole ordeal and get my life back?", "summary": "My obsession with rejection by my bf is ruining my life. Should I just end it myself so I can get on with my life?"}
{"id": "t3_2pbcgo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I need an outside perspective", "post": "Short version because I'm tired . Me (21 M) and the new girl (25 F)at work went to the zoo .( date I guess . I'm bad at these things ). I thought things went well. Made plans with her to hangout again. She stood me up twice. Decided to be polite at work. she's just so charismatic it's hard not to like her . I don't know What's up . She seemed interested in me before the second time she stood me up( happened a month or so ago). I just recently started paying attention to her again( I just didn't really feel like talking to anybody) but she seems to be avoiding me.  I should mention she has 2 boys .What am I missing ? Is she not interested in me?", "summary": "hung out with a girl . Stood me up twice . I don't understand women."}
{"id": "t3_1a21oa", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My girlfriends mother is a bad person and I do not know what to do.", "post": "My(17) girlfriend(15), we will call her J, have been together for around 6 months now and since the day I have met her mother she has been belittling her, treating her poorly, and has previously hit her. J's mother is in her mid-forties and does nothing but smoke, drink, work, and constantly have sex with random dudes. It's not that these things are bad in itself, but she projects herself onto her daughter. \n\nTwo weeks ago we got caught being at her house home alone. J and I were just cuddling watching a movie, but her mother freaked out. I can understand why she was mad but what she did was what I believe out of line. Because from before this point the only belittling I heard was from J. But the next thing that I know her mother comes in screaming at J saying,\"You're a stupid whore. You are worthless to me. I'm glad that your brother is at least somewhat valuable.\"\n\nI wanted to stay and protect J, but I knew there was nothing that I could do. J's mother took everything thing that was of use to J. She took her phone, iPod,", "summary": "Girlfriends mother bullies daughter, leaves her home alone most of the week with little food, and girlfriend wants me to let her mother basically walk all over her. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2d7l9i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i'm [18/f] having a hard time not being clingy with my LDR bf [21/m]. how do i sort this out?", "post": "i have found that since getting together with my bf (we are about 9 months now on the 22nd) i have gotten increasingly needy and clingy.  at the beginning, i was the opposite. distant and i remembered at one point i told him \"i need me time\". but now... i'm this mess of a girl. \n\nwe are LDR which also adds to it. we spend more of our days talking nonstop and when we aren't, i worry and almost break down because i'm so bored and i feel so.. alone. like today, he's been ignoring me for hours and i'm not sure why. regardless of whether he's mad at me or not, i feel myself going slightly mental and i have sobbed hopelessly at random points of time today. so fucking lame. i NEVER saw myself as that type of girl until him.\n\ninclude all that with barely having friends (i've lost my closest friend because she is into hard drugs now and we had a falling out) and not having much to do outside of work, i feel like i've lost that part of 'single' me that could just enjoy being alone. before him, i could lose myself in hours of netflix or hours of video games. now, if i try to watch tv or do anything that i used to like... i check my phone constantly. i wonder what he's up to. \n\ni don't know. any tips to not be so pathetic?", "summary": "i'm in a rut where i'm super clingy, needy, and insecure. i just feel like every second i'm not spending with my LDR boyfriend, i just... feel lost. instant of enjoying my alone time like i used to, i constantly 'obsess' over him. how do i enjoy being alone again while still being in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_v159k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend broke up with me tonight. I'm not sure how to react or what to do. Can I have some sincere advice, Reddit?", "post": "I'm sure this topic/question has come up a lot on askreddit, but honestly I don't have the patience to look through and find a previous one right now. I am on the verge of being inconsolable and I just want some advice from impartial people asap.\n\nWe've been together for six months. But we have been good friends for another six months before that. We met through a mutual friend but we live an hour and a half from each other, and when we went to school we were four hours apart. Most of our relationship has been based on distance, but we learned to accept it.\n\nTonight on the phone she said she just doesn't feel the same way as she did before about us. She thinks we're two different people now and thinks there is no returning to what we were. I am just extremely saddened. All I can think about is how great things were between us, and even more, all the things we talked about doing and experiencing together in the future but now never can.\n\nI know it's a pretty vague question, but where do I go from here? Yeah yeah, hit the gym, get a hobby, ect. But that's not what I am looking for now. It will be helpful down the line, but not right now at 12:30 a.m. Can anyone offer true, sincere advice, or share an anecdote about their break-up experience and how they recovered? I'm typing this only a couple hours after the break up, so I'm still really upset.\n\nOh, also, she wants to meet in person sometime next week to \"finalize\" our breakup. She said she felt bad doing it over the phone. I don't know if I want to see her.", "summary": "girlfriend broke up with me, wounds are still fresh, looking for sincere, non \"hit the gym/get a hobby\" advice for how to deal with this heartbreak."}
{"id": "t3_2zymt8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (19 M) be happy on vacation with GF (18 F) problems?", "post": "So I am going on vacation with my family tomorrow morning. Last night me and my girlfriend of 9 months got into a big fight and she had told me a lot of things she has been lieing to me about. She didn't cheat on me, and I know this. Tonight she was going to stay the night with me before I left in the morning, but instead she just now called me and said shes staying at her friends house. \n\nIt seems like every vacation I have been on for the past 5 years have been terrible. Me and my old ex gfs always fought when I was on vacation, and one time my ex GF even cheated on me while I was on vacation, so I always have a rough time trusting my SO while im away, no matter who it is. \n\nI have been extremely depressed for about a year and a half. Like actual depression and anxiety, not just some little sadness. I have extreme anxiety so I am always worrying about something and my brain is just always racing. My parents have tried everything they can to make me happy, and I greatly appreciate it, I really do, but I just cant be happy. \n\nI really want to go and enjoy this time with my family this week. but I know that I will just be sad and wondering what my GF is doing, (she doesnt have a cell phone so she can only message me when she has WiFi). I want to be able to not worry about all of the stuff she told me last night ( all of the stuff she has been lieing to me about). But i just cant help but know it will be running through my head the whole time.. all of the things she told me. And it will sadden me. \n\nI really want to be happy and have fun on this vacation, because it makes me feel so bad when my parents try so hard to go on vacation to make me and my brothers happy, and it hurts when they tell me they hate it that Im always sad on vacations. \n\nAny advice? Thank you all for listening. Sorry for the wall of text", "summary": "I am always upset about something when I am on vacation. My gf told me everything that she has been lieing to me about last night. Im leaving for vaca in the morning. How to be happy on the trip?"}
{"id": "t3_1lmsw2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[26F] with my ex[26m] of 3 years, he is emotionally abusive and broke NC after only a week, do I ignore it?", "post": "I broke up with him because he was emotionally abusive and very manipulative and immature. Last time we spoke he called me a bunch of names (bitch, slut, whore) for no good reason at all. I blocked his number. Today I got an email with a short apology for \"speaking out of anger\" and that I'm a good partner for hanging out and maybe we can do it again soon. Also that he's \"slowly but surely moving on\".\n\nWe've been separated since pretty much May and I've been moved out since July, but no contact has gone on and off since then.\n\nPretty much put the ball in my court for any further contact, but I don't think it was a very heartfelt apology...\n\nDo I keep ignoring him?? Do I tell him exactly how I feel, that his apology was weak and he needs to take a better look at himself?", "summary": "Manipulative ex broke no contact"}
{"id": "t3_oj5h2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Ladies of Reddit, I am a guy who is on the cusp of breaking out of the friend zone, Advice Needed!", "post": "Start by saying, Throw away account. I will try to be brief yet thourough and then answer any additional questions.\n\nI am 23, M, I have been friends with a girl lets say \"Amy\" for 5 years now, There has no always been strong emotions but I have always enjoyed her company and would call her one of my best and consistent friend over the last 5 years. Last year I told her I liked her, was not sure what to expect, her response: was she wasn't sure what to think because she didn't want to lose her best friend if we didn't work out. I with sadness agreed.\n\nFast forward to January 2ed, I have the same Talk, say that I still have these feelings, and want to see where they go. She gives same response about not sure cause not wanting to risk losing me as a friend, This time I grab her Hand and tell her no matter what happens in this new stage of our friendship I Promise that if it doesn't work we will always remain friends. \"IT WORKS!\" for the most part, we hold hands and go for a walk, 2 weeks later it is not un common for us to hold hands or when she comes over to watch TV/Movie we cuddle, Tonight I go in for the goodnight kiss! its successful but then we end up having a long talk about how she goes back and forth and still is afraid to risk our friendship and how that she doesn't want to keep moving forward and end up hurting me. I just don't know what to do to keep things moving forward without scaring her off. I have explained that it is worth the risk but I don't think she sees that as comfort. Any Advice?", "summary": "Just as I took one step out of the friend zone, girl is nervous that it won't work and our friendship will be over, I really want her to follow her heart, and not over think it, any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3ehn79", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/M] Really need some help", "post": "I really don't know where else to turn. I've been trying to find a girlfriend for so long with no luck and I'm starting to lose hope. I'm struggling with depression very badly and I feel like the only thing that can make me happy is to find a girlfriend. I've been told that I'm very wrong in this assumption but I can't feel any other way. I feel like I can't move on with my life until I get a girlfriend. I've never been on a date or anything with a girl and I'm already 24. all of my friends have had multiple girlfriends. I don't know what to do. My biggest fear is that I'll be alone forever. Also this has nothing to do with sex, I just really want some companionship. I'm incredibly envious of my friends that have girlfriends and I know that's not healthy. I just really need some advice. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this and thank you in advance for any advice you can offer.", "summary": "never had a girlfriend and it's starting to negatively affect me."}
{"id": "t3_24bwk2", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Looking for opinions on where to intern. Washington D.C area or Seattle area", "post": "So here is the deal; I have two internship opportunities presented to me. \n \nThe first one is 12 week internship for a T-mobile located in the Seattle area.  I found a temporary living situation which would cost me about 1,100 every month for a furnished studio apartment and all utilities.  It pays 22/hr at about 40 hours a week along with $2,000 dollars for living expenses for my stay during the internship.  After gas, food, rent and all that jazz I budgeted around a $8,000(minus taxes) dollar profit for my stay. The west coast is also where I desire to live someday, so it would be neat to test out the area even though its only a temporary spot.\n\nThe second internship is a 8 week internship in the D.C area, in Virginia technically about 20 minutes away from D.C.  It puts me in an apartment with another intern paying for all my rent, appliances, and gives me a food plan. They also pay me 500 dollars a week so around $4,000 dollars for my stay (again minus taxes).  They also mention that they train their interns and hope to hire them after graduation for a full time job which is comforting in today's job market.", "summary": "Choice 1- Seattle area 7,000-8,000 dollar profit over 12 weeks in an area I wish to live in someday."}
{"id": "t3_j6hyw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the worst thing you've ever had to confess to your parents/authority figures?", "post": "I'll start us off.  Flashback: I'm in sixth grade, painfully awkward and unfathomably shy.  Some boys in my English class tease me every goddamn day, using words I pretend not to understand (such as whore, slut, cunt nugget, nigger, etc.)  Sometimes calling me them, sometimes ridiculing me for not knowing what they meant (I did).\n\nI fake sick or have some excuse every single day for why I can't go to school.  Eventually my parents confront me about it and force me, in the middle of McDonald's, to repeat everything those douches said.  NEVER had I been so horrified, each syllable felt like a block of poison cement.  But, happily, the little bastards got suspended thanks to my ballin' English teacher finally laying down the law.", "summary": "Or actually it might've been the time I inadvertently came out as bi to my mom when she discovered me careening toward third base with my high school \"girlfriend\""}
{"id": "t3_2wt14b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Trying to help a friend [M21] deal with a breakup with his long time girlfriend [F20]", "post": "So my housemate and buddy has been dating his girlfriend for about 3 years now, pretty much the only girl he's ever had in his life so she's a pretty big deal, but they recently decided to go on a break because she wasn't 'feeling it' anymore.\n\nWhile they were on the 'break' he decided to go to a party for one of our friend's birthdays, and she got upset that he didn't invite her. Apparently she was so upset she decided to go out and have sex with some random dude.\n\nShe admitted to doing it right after and she's apparently very apologetic about it, but the whole situation's got my buddy pretty torn up. He can't decide if it's worth ending everything they have over this, and he also blames himself for not inviting her to the part initially, which isn't very good for him IMO.\n\nNow I know this sub is usually for people directly dealing with issues like this, and I definitely don't have as many details as you guys might like, but I really suck at helping people out with stuff like this and he's coming to me to talk about it. Anyone got any advice for a friend trying to help another friend deal with something like this?", "summary": "trying to help a good friend deal with a break-up, suck with this kind of stuff, wondering if there's anything I can say that might do any good."}
{"id": "t3_2hai46", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] is nervous/afraid to get a girlfriend and...", "post": "Whenever I'm close to getting a girlfriend I sometimes purposely try to make the girl stop liking me. Its not that I don't like her, but I get anxious and nervous about getting into a relationship.\n\nMy brain even sometimes makes me notice all the flaws in the girl so I find something not to like about her.\n\nObviously this isn't healthy, and this issue needs to be addressed.\n\nI've never had a girlfriend before so that could be a possibility why I'm overthinking and stressing this.\n\nCould this also be a self-esteem issue?\n\nHow can I get over this irrational fear?\n\nThanks!", "summary": "I'm afraid to get a girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_iawhv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need to tell a guy I've been talking to for three months that I don't want to talk anymore.", "post": "Me - 31, Him - 31. We had been going out for three months. I know him through his father. He wasn't my type but I was up for hanging out. He called me every day, and we'd talk. He was polite and gentlemanly, just not my type. He offered to pay every time we went out. Then it really annoyed me that he would go on these racist rants. I would very patiently hear him out and offer my opinion, but being black, I realized that, either way, whether hearing him out respectfully or telling him to fuck off it validated his opinion. Every date has ended with a hug and expressed interest in hanging out again. Yet he has never kissed me or expressed further interest other than calling me every day. He was also evasive when it came to him meeting my friends/family and vice versa.\n\nThen I meet another guy (35 y.o.), who is everything I've ever dreamed of and more. He's really smart and accomplished, and he is crazy about me. I don't like to juggle guys, so the first guy I just stopped talking to. It was unclear what we were doing (he gladly pays for dinner yet doesn't make a move) and he seems socially inept. It's been a while since I last talked to guy #1, but he keeps texting, writing and calling. He says he misses talking to and hanging out with me. I'm not even interested in being his friend.\n\nToday I blocked him on FB. But I want to give him a verbal message that it's over. What do I say?", "summary": "How do I express to a guy who was interested in me, but never made a move, that I am no longer interested in communicating or hanging out?"}
{"id": "t3_gp4cg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Should we invest in fresh water?", "post": "It's no secret that earth's population is rising as the amount of drinkable water naturally available to us remains the same. Mexico City, for example, has to truck in fresh water daily despite being the 8th richest city in the world! As demand for water continues to grow, surely there must be some investment opportunities available? I have no knowledge of the \"water industry\", if such a thing exists, but vaguely speaking the supply of drinkable water is a universally demanded service that is struggling to meet the growing demand. Putting money into this area is a means to achieving adequate availability of drinking water. Coincidentally, I imagine there could be positive returns for such investments.", "summary": "anyone know how to invest in water?"}
{"id": "t3_mzze5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Getting Internet access at work.", "post": "So Reddit, I have a lot of respect for you guys, and know some of you are very knowledgeable. I work at a fairly small Bank, and it get's really slow here after 4pm and on weekends (Yes, we are opened on the weekends and stay open till about 8 pm, I don't want to get into it). My Manager is able to get Internet access on our work computers, he can go to youtube, and Reddit, and all these good sites, but I can't access anything. I learned this when he left his computer logged on when he left for the day, and I jumped on it, just being curious. (Ended up watching 3 hours of The Fabric of the Cosmos with Brian Greene)\nSo my question is (Maybe some IT guys can answer), is there a way for me to get Internet access as well, possibly without letting onto my Banks IT guys.", "summary": "My manager has internet access, but I don't. How can I get Internet access on my work computer?"}
{"id": "t3_15ixx7", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Looking for the correct career for me.", "post": "I have  degree in civil engineering, and an aptitude for how mechanical things work and how to improve them.  I am looking for a position where I can use my degree, but not be stuck behind a computer.  My last position I climbed cellular towers which was great from the physical stand point, just lacking in other areas.  I have also worked in pavement materials research, construction and construction management and for a short time in pharmaceutical manufacturing.  I don't really care what kind of work I do as long as it is physical and doesn't require over 50% travel.", "summary": "Want a new physically demanding engineering career with less then 50% travel, any suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_lis9c", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What was your first major injury? As in needed stitches and whatnot.", "post": "I'll start:\n\nWhen I was in year 2, I was in school, when I slipped in the hallway and faceplanted. So I stood up and brushed myself off when I noticed a pool of blood forming around my feet. Looked down, saw a large gash where my knee should have been, then collapsed. Then I just sat there holding my knee until what I assumed was a girl going to the loo came out of the classroom, saw the pool of blood, ran back inside and brought the teacher. Went to the hospital, got a few stitches, and after that was done, a piece of glass about the size of my thumb fell out of my pants. Incidentally, what's the weirdest thing that fell out of your pants?", "summary": "I fell down in school, a piece of glass had an orgy with my patella."}
{"id": "t3_28uz1i", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I, (21/M) am going through a strange situation with a co-worker, (22/F), and I don't know what to think of it.", "post": "So I've had an attraction to a co-worker for nearly a year now since she started last summer. We got to know each other pretty well since then, constantly talking, hanging out alone on breaks, going for drinks after work etc. Overall very friendly for just being work collegues.\n\nHowever she has a boyfriend so I didn't really pursue anything further than that but since almost everyone else figured out how much I like her, I'm sure she did too. I mean we guys are blatantly obvious right? \n\nUp until about several weeks or so ago, I've noticed a change in her behaviour. She would purposely walk around where I am to avoid me, would dart her eyes/head down and away from me whenever I'm around her. Practically avoid any interaction with me whatsoever and only me, not to any other co-worker.\n\nSo in your opinion, why is this going on?", "summary": "Like this girl at work, got friendly for about a year but recently has been giving me the cold shoulder."}
{"id": "t3_14rr3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What should I do when I am ready to \"settle down\", but my very compatible boyfriend is not? (25 and 30)", "post": "Me (female): 30\nPartner (male): 25\nLength of Relationship: 1 Year\n\nSo me and this man have been seeing each other, consistently, for a year now. When we are together, we are very very happy and we are very compatible in every way. I love spending as much time with him as possible, sleeping with him at night, waking up in the morning with him, making meals together, and sharing resources. I very much want to live with him eventually and wake up with him every day.\n\nHowever, as it stands, I don't get to spend every night with him. In fact, I never know when he will be around or not. So I'll spend a night on, a night off, maybe a couple of nights in a row, and then maybe not see him except for a meal and some sex here and there for a few days. I find myself lonely, and longing for him often. And of course, I want to have a home with someone one day, and I would like it to be with him. I want to grow old with him.\n\nHowever, as far as I know, he isn't \"ready\" yet, and who knows if he ever will be? What should I do? He's told me that he doesn't want me to leave him. He's told me that he feels \"at home\" when he is with me, but I long for something more consistent. Also, I don't want to scare him off by giving him an ultimatum, but I also don't want to wait around when I could potentially be having an awesome relationship with a guy who is absolutely certain he wants to have the kind of future with me.\n\nSo what should I do? Do guys normally take such a long time to feel like they want that with a girl? Have any of you \"waited\" for someone in a similar manner, and had it pay off? I've never been in a relationship, at any age, where a guy didn't want to share his home with me and sleep with me every night he possibly can.\n\nThanks for your answers.", "summary": "I want to share a home with my boyfriend, but he isn't \"ready\" yet. Not sure if I should wait or cut my losses."}
{"id": "t3_2or6j5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dating a new guy, not sure how to have the \"what are we\" conversation", "post": "He's (m27) only the second person I've (f31) been with. And I've *never* had that kind of a talk. \n\nMy first relationship was straight out of high school, we went from friends to lovers to living together close to a decade and not once was there a moment we couldn't talk. The relationship ended amicably just over two years ago. \n\nSince then I've gone on dates but nothing else. \n\nA month ago a guy asked me on a date. It was fantastic, we drank coffee and tea and talked for five hours straight and I was so attracted to him that I invited myself over to his place the same night and had sex with him. \n\nSince then, I've slept over 2-3 times a week, we've gone out (at his initiative) three more times in the past month. Mostly parties and Friday drinks. I've met / been introduced to a lot of his friends. By name. No descriptives a la \"friend\" or \"girlfriend\". \n\nHe kisses me on the street, amongst his friends and holds my hand when we walk around. \n\nStill. I'm afraid I might have put a strong sexual spin on whatever this is by blatantly following him home and jumping in bed with him. \n\nHe texts me daily, but along the lines of \"I'm horny. I'm lonely. I miss sleeping with you. I sleep better when you're here.\" etc. Everything is sexual. \n\nA couple days ago while in bed I told him \"I like you\" to which he replied \"good\" and kissed me. I hadn't thought of the relationship as solely sex based before, but now it's all I can think about. \n\nSo yeah. As this is my first relationship that didn't evolve slowly I'm not sure what's going on here. Is a month in too early to ask for clarification? How do you go about asking anyway? I'm also a few years older than him at 31 while he's 27.", "summary": "Don't know how to have the casual or relationship talk with the guy I've been seeing for a month."}
{"id": "t3_2f2z44", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Update: My \"friend\" (36F) manipulated me (28F) into believing my boyfriend (27M) was having an affair", "post": "OP: \n\nI returned Tom's phone to him and we talked about the situation. I tried to explain everything but he told that the trust in our relationship was irreparable and that I need to learn how to effectively communicate my concerns. He's a firm believer that \"without trust, there is no relationship\" so we've officially split up. He initiated NC and I have not spoken with him since.\n\nI finally got ahold of Jess through the phone and she admitted she lied but she won't tell me why. I'm sure she has not slept with Tom but I can't be sure she isn't trying. \n\nI'm unbelievably mad right now, mostly at myself. \n\n\u2014", "summary": "Broke up. Why did I do this to myself?"}
{"id": "t3_3qizy7", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by submitting the wrong file.", "post": "This fuck up happened 5 hours ago and I didn't realize until now so there is no way to fix it. I am a freshman in college taking engineering classes, so all of my classes are either \nmind-numbingly boring or they are soul crushing, weed out classes. Except for one, programming fundamentals with java. It is by far my favorite class and the work is challenging but fun. In this class 40 percent of your grade comes from 5 programming projects spread out over the year, the third one was due yesterday. Now I have always been a slacker, putting off my work until the last second and never really applying myself, but since i really enjoy this class I decided to do all of the work early to make sure I got the best grade possible. I finished the project early and spent a whole week perfecting my code and making sure that there weren't any bugs. I waited until the last day to submit to be sure everything was perfect. I even submitted it 5 hours early. The problem is I submitted the wrong assignment. The teacher made it very clear that no late work would be accepted so just before the deadline I checked to be sure I submitted it and i saw that i had uploaded the wrong assignment. I now can no longer get an A in the class and the 10 or so hours I spent on the project are practically wasted.", "summary": "I upgraded the wrong file and downloaded my grade."}
{"id": "t3_3ggfxa", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I need a little help or advice", "post": "So for some back story I am moving in with a few friends of mine. One of them and his family previously lived in a home with 3 bedrooms and an office. My friend and I thought I would be great to get 2 of our co workers to move in to make the payments possible. Well I don't make too much money and my friend said I would only have to pay 600$ a month of the 2700$. Because I get the office. Which has no doors. No closet and is the smallest room. He agreed to pay extra cause he wanted to master bedroom. Now he is taking his word back and saying I have to pay 700. But I think it is unfair cause everyone else gets their own closet and door to their room which are actually down the hall away from the noise. My room is right next to the noise and front door too. I know 100$ doesn't seem like much. But it would really help me out on making the rent cause I am going to school and working this semester too. What is a polite of saying. If I don't get the 600. I will be moving back home the next month.", "summary": "Moving out for first time. Friend said I could pay less. Now is changing his mind cause he is secretly very cheap. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_paeab", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do I justify whether I should call the landlord to complain about my neighbors?", "post": "I live in a small Apartment building, and I also work the midnight shift, so I sleep during the day. My Neighbors (in my own opinion) make A lot of noise. However, since I sleep during the day, and or sometimes afternoon. I have been on this schedule for quite a while and really have no perspective on whether this is normal \"day time\" noise, or obnoxious and extreme. \nI should also mention that, in lieu of being just a tatletale, I HAVE considered talking to them, but on the few occasions I have run into them outside they have made it clear in no uncertain terms that they want nothing to do with me, and won't make an attempt to be nice. (i.e ignoring my greetings, and moving into the house if I come out for a cigarette, or too sit on the porch and read a book.)", "summary": "How do I decide if my neighbors are being overly loud, or if I am just being bitchy because I sleep during the day?"}
{"id": "t3_3xs7gg", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend[21/F] gets incredibly jealous and self-concious if I[25/M] speak too enthusiastically about other people, including celebrities.", "post": "I love my girlfriend deeply. We're heavily compatible when it comes to our interests, sense of humor, etc... But she has a very difficult problem with her self-esteem and body image ever since overcoming an eating disorder. She constantly puts herself down, calling her self ugly or fat (she is neither) and she is inconsolable about it. I tell her she's beautiful all the time but she doesn't remember those times when she gets upset.\n\nNow a particular problem I've been struggling with is her getting into jealous fits when I speak too enthusiastically (from her perspective) about other women. For instance, I recently started a new job and got a long very well with my new female boss, I tell my girlfriend this and she gets upset, suggesting I already have feelings for her (I do not). This is a daily pattern that is starting to take its toll on our relationship. I would understand her concern if I were constantly talking about how cool someone is, but it isn't constant and I am not always talking about people in that manner. I have relayed stories from work that only tangentially involve my boss and she still gets the same way. \n\nHer reaction is not limited to people we know or even real people. If i show interest in a female singer, like legitimately enjoying her music, I get the same reaction. I cannot tell her I enjoy a song if it's sung by a female. I cannot talk about actresses without her comparing herself too the, or really, comparing my interest in them to my interest in her. Which is not the same thing. This problem even arose when I talked at length about pin-up girl tattoos, an Idea she liked and I intended to get one, but apparently I spoke too enthusiastically for too long about the fictional drawings of women. \n\nI really like having in depth conversations about movies and music and have not been able to have them with her because I may talk about a certain actress or singer in a way that makes her think I hold them in a higher regard than her. And I do everything I can to make my girlfriend feel special and beautiful, but she doesn't remember that when she gets into fits like this.", "summary": "My girlfriend gets into fits of jealousy and self-consciousness If I speak about women, celebrities and musicians too positively."}
{"id": "t3_3e4lyw", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Girlfriend wants me to get tested for STDs", "post": "Edit: [26M] and  [24F]\nBackstory: Had sex with a girl I've been seeing, she ~~is~~ was a virgin (we had sex once)\n\nShe wants to me to get STD testing, which I happily obliged... took a day off work, went to the clinic, got the full panel and paid a ridiculous amount of money\n\nNow that I've done my part, I'm asking her to get tested too -- I trust her, that's not the issue -- I just don't think it's fair that I am the only person in the relationship making compromises\n\nThe problem is that she doesn't want to get tested and she explained that she has had only one partner (read: me) and that it would be a \"waste of time\" to get herself tested\n\nLadies, am I being unreasonable here? I'd like to hear some of your opinions...", "summary": "I feel it's unfair that I should be the only one getting tested for STDs"}
{"id": "t3_39lz7q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [37F], I'm always the butt of my family's jokes.", "post": "I have a tight I knit family, we all get along well and usually meet a few times a month for dinner or drinks. We like to joke and banter a lot, but over the last few months I guess I've felt ganged up on as I seem to be the constant target of their teasing.\n\nWhat can I do about it? It's gotten to the point where I don't really want to hang out with them so much anymore. Is it a case of talking to them individually or should I say something to them as a group? It's mostly my siblings as opposed to my parents, but sometimes it's embarassing when other people from outside the family notice. \n\nI don't have a quick wit, but I do have a good sense of humour and am able to laugh at myself. So I never really do anything but laugh along, they don't get much of a reaction out of me.", "summary": "My family like to tease each other, and lately they are all ganging up and teasing me exclusively. I laugh along, but it makes me feel bad at this point. How do I approach it?"}
{"id": "t3_2xbspw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "It's been three months... help please! 21m", "post": "So I dated this girl for about 4 months. \n\nWe never said I love you, or really ever had that solid of a relationship. \n\nShe broke up with me randomly one day, and I'm still hurting so much. My friends are sick of hearing about it, and my really good friends have told me multiple times to \"just get over her.\" \n\nI haven't talked to her since we broke up (fuck yea self control) but I see her every so often as we both go to the same university. I was pretty into her when we dated, and now I'm doing all the classic stuff (boy is her pedestal huge and whatnot). I just miss her more than I feel like I should. \n\nAny tips/words of advice?", "summary": "Why am I not over her yet?"}
{"id": "t3_35xf9d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my (22f) girlfriend too old for me (19m)", "post": "We have been dating long distance four and a half months, she is my first actual girlfriend. She was in two other relationships before she met me, we had a pretty long discussion that lasted a month about these previous relationships. \nWe see eachother once every three weeks for 2-4 days at a time, the sex is really good. Dating long distance is tough, and I miss her everyday, but I feel like things will get easier when we get to see each other more often. Sometimes I randomly start to think about her past, and it bothers me. I don't think about her past as often as I used to, I think it's unhealthy.\nI know I mean everything to her, and she seems worried that I am going to break up with her, I've reassured her the few times its been brought up that isn't the case. What should I do?", "summary": "girlfriend is three years older then me and has been in previous relationships, sometimes I feel like she is too old for me."}
{"id": "t3_2bd28z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [36 f] single mother unsure of if/how to pursue [40 m] guy that I really like.", "post": "I promise to try my best to keep this short. \n\nFrom ages 20-31 I was in a serious relationship. We have a daughter together and he left when she was 5 (she's now 10) to be with another woman. We fixed our relationship (I did not take him back)  & we try to be good parents and give her a good example of how to be kind and forgiving. I'm not looking for another father figure for her. \n\nThat being said, I think the guy I'm crushing on thinks that I am. He is a bachelor type. No kids, no serious girlfriend, works two jobs and basically he's happy with his life.  So am I. However, I still want to know him a lot better than I do. \n\nI've tried to be aggressive and all I did was scare him.  I tried to be nonchalant and he was totally cool with it. I brought a friend along to make it more social. I didn't get anywhere with him. My friend believes that he is interested and just too scared to make a move. \n\nEvery time I see him we have a great time. Great conversation, we can talk for hours. About everything. Sex, bodily functions, family, movies, you name it. What am I missing? How do I make it clear to him without scaring him, that I really want him as a \"friend\"? I'm not all that interested in a truly serious relationship. I'm too devoted to my daughter to spend a lot of time chasing him. An occasional date night is really all the commitment I can give at this point. \n\nI could really use some advise. I like him a lot, and since my ex left I've been terrified of trying again.", "summary": "terrified of dating again, but really don't want to miss out on a potential friend."}
{"id": "t3_1dbecf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (almost) Boyfriend (18) asked another girl to prom without saying anything to me(f17)", "post": "The guy I really like (m18) asked another girl to go to prom with him without saying anything to me(f17). I had told him weeks earlier that I really wanted him to ask me. And I left it at that. a couple of weeks later I asked him if he was going to ask me or not because I need to know if I can get a dress. That's when he told me He had already asked someone to his prom. He then said we can go to my prom which was in just under a week. We ended up going and I had an amazing time, but now I'm left with the feeling that some other girl will get to be all over him. and I want to ask him just what happened. Like if he asked her before I had said anything. Or just what exactly happened. But I'm not quite sure how to take this, or even approach him in this.", "summary": "the guy whom I share mutual romantic affections for, asked someone else to his senior prom without said anything to me."}
{"id": "t3_3qjop1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21F] am socially clueless. Can I change or should I just accept it?", "post": "Hi /r/relationships! Long-time lurker, first-time poster, sorry much words, etc.\n\nI suck at understanding social nuances when I interact with people. Anything more subtle or implicit or whatnot goes way over my head. Things like \"no, he was actually annoyed by/jealous of/got the hots for the other guy but didn't wanna show it\" or \"actually, when she said this she meant that but it came off as something else\".\n\nI love nothing more than reading books and articles that delve into the intricate system of motivations, biases, etc. that inform society and each individual. Then I realize it may be fascinating in its own right but I can't apply any of it in real time to real life.\n\nI'm a computer science major (what a surprise /s) and while there is the not entirely unwarranted stereotype of STEM folk being socially awkward I don't want to use that as an excuse. The majority of my peers don't even fit that image anyway especially given the modern entrepreneurial bent.\n\nI'm worried in my tone-deafness I'll systematically misunderstand or offend others or get conned. I tend to trust people automatically when I'm around them face to face even though I'd be skeptical otherwise. I can't shake the feeling that someday what little common sense I have won't be enough, that I'm ill prepared for the real world and I just can't see it coming.\n\nI'm not sure how to judge the scope of this problem, or whether this is even as much of an issue as I think because this is exactly the kind of thing I have no sense for! And if it is a problem, can I fix it? How?", "summary": "I'm too oblivious for my own good probably because people is not computer, wondering if/how to improve."}
{"id": "t3_1kuzkd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get a cellphone company to actually pay attention to you and show some customer support?", "post": "I'm in Canada.  My dad is on the last few months of a 3 year phone contract, something which I'm trying to explain that he should never do again.  His phone is an utter piece of shit.  It bricks a few times a week and he loses everything on it.  Essentially it's used like a disposable phone. Telus also claims that he uses data from time to time, and the monthly bills for his and my phones combined range wildly without any explanation.  I've heard about customer retention but not sure how to make use of the system to your advantage.  Any tips? I realize everyone will have had different experiences with different carriers, who has treated you well?", "summary": "At Telus, we put you first\"* is a bunch of bs."}
{"id": "t3_4lrutn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my cousin[31 M] : My cousin is not visiting my aunt in her death bed. Should I call him out ?", "post": "Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.\n\nBe sure to explain in detail with line breaks. My aunt is hospitalized. They are giving her a Dialysis because both her kidneys don't work. None of her children are at the hospital taking care of her. My uncle is paying someone to be at the hospital because he doesn't want to be there. Only my mom, grandma, and aunt are there. My cousin (my aunt's son) is in town but has not gone to the hospital.\n\nIs his behavior wrong? Should I call him on it? My uncle has been humiliating my aunt for years. It became normal in their family and I don't think they see my aunt as a human any more. I used to get along with my cousin and I feel bad to see this behavior. The doctors said my aunt has a lot of chances of dying. I can't believe her son would not be by her side.\n\nMy aunt got depressed from how her kids and husband treat her, and has been drinking a lot. that was why she damaged her kidneys.\n\nI see bad that my cousin is not visiting his mom in the hospital. Is he wrong? is it wrong to call him out?\nLike literally say: your mom is dying, why are you not at the hospital with her?\nOr am I exaggerating? the doctors did say her life was in danger", "summary": "My cousin is not visiting my aunt in her death bed. Should I call him out on this behavior?"}
{"id": "t3_csbiy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Barefoot shoes?", "post": "So I jacked up my knee (fractured) a while back and it's still a little awkward, plus my gait seems crappy in general (I don't feel like I'm walking \"right\"). I wanted to go barefoot but have encountered too much broken glass/too many nasty ground things to believe that no cover is the best cover. \n\nI'm kinda sporty, so I would like a performance shoe rather than a moccasin (though come to think of it, Native Americans climbed hella mountains just wearing those, ya?) and was concerned with which product out there truly does mix the qualities of barefoot exertion with shoe protection. Wiki has given me a few options, and so far I'm leaning towards the EVO. My question for all y'all that have tried these fine products is: which one did you feel gave you the best experience?", "summary": "Which \"barefoot\" shoes are the best?"}
{"id": "t3_lw12w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How did you handle growing up? When it hit you that you are no longer a kid and are moving into adulthood how did you deal with it?", "post": "It hit me 2 years ago I was a sophomore in college and I went on Facebook one day and all my friends from back home(My friends were mostly Jr's when I was a Sr) They were at college I went home one weekend and there was nothing to do no one to hang out with. My group broke up shortly after and I have new friends, but that made me realize I was no longer a kid.\n\nI have a car, a credit card, bills, and a savings account. I am now a Sr in college and I graduate in a few months. It just seems surreal to me. It seems like yesterday I was out trick or treating with my dad as a kid. Now I am spending Halloween studying for a big test tomorrow.\n\nWhere did the time go? It feels like yesterday I moved into college. High school feels like it was yesterday. Now I am getting ready to graduate. I remember being in 4^th grade on my last day of recess before we moved to a new building. I was talking to my friends and said \"12^th grade that's like 10 years away that will never happen.\"(Math was never my strong suit) 8 years later that quote was going through my mind as I was handed my diploma. \n\nI am 21 years old and I already miss being a kid sometimes. Don't get me wrong being older is awesome. I am excited to get a job and actually have money to do things. I want to see Europe a bit and travel. Then I want to have kids of my own. The thing is I just don't know where the time has gone.", "summary": "How did you handle the mindfuck that is growing up?"}
{"id": "t3_pb3tr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Cheating - how best to handle it.", "post": "First off, the data: \n\nI'm 23, female. He's 29.  We met in the fall of 2010, and I decided that I wanted to date him by January 2011.  We started dating officially in July, building naturally from a close friendship - so I guess that puts us at around 7 months technically.\n\nThe situation:\n\nHe cheated on me, with his ex-girlfriend.\n\n A lot of people are likely saying 'that soon?? Get out now', but considering context and such I think we can work through it. I am keeping an open mind to all possibilities though. \n\n There's a bit of back story to this, but I'm mostly just wondering if anyone with experience can chime in, give some advice or anecdotes.  Whether from cheaters, the cheated on, or just someone with an opinion.  I'm happy to answer questions and provide more details as needed. Ideas on how it works, how you handled it before, lingering feelings or thoughts you wish you'd tabled right at the beginning, how you dealt with it in your own life... all are welcome.\n\n I am taking several days to be certain of a course of action, so no hasty responses required.  Thanks, Redditors.", "summary": "He cheated on me with an ex, now what? Or, what steps (other than a simple 'dump him') would be wise? "}
{"id": "t3_42uffr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25F] felt an urge to kiss my coworker [25M] tonight. Except I have a bf of 2 years", "post": "I'll keep this as short as possible. \n\nI had a terrible day today and needed to go out with friends. My coworker, who I socialize with outside of work often and consider a friend, invited me out with him and his friends. \n\nI went, had a few (three) beers. About beer two my friend and I were talking, and I got that weird urge to just kiss him. This was not a romantic situation, we were not talking about romantic things. He's hinted in the past that he's been in to me, but has always always respected my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and love him deeply. \n\nI immediately freaked out and went to the toilet. I then removed myself to the other side of the table and talked to other people for the rest of the evening. I did not kiss him, nor did I mention to him that I thought of it. \n\nI'm just freaked out. What was that? My boyfriend and I are long distance, and I only see him a few times a month, so I thought that perhaps it was just me wanting attention. I've never been attracted to my friend, and have never thought of kissing him before. Should I be concerned, or is this just my emotions being weird at the end of a trying day?", "summary": "thought of kissing completely platonic friend (coworker) when we were at a bar after a long day. Freaked out and am now really confused as to what that was about."}
{"id": "t3_28istk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is this girl a hoe or what?", "post": "Some of you know that I work on a campaign. And a mom happens to be my bosses boss said told me her daughter was cute. But she has a boyfriend -_- \n\nWell her daughter is cute.\n\nToday in the car my boss told me since he spends a lot of time at their house she said me and one other guy is cute, and this other guy isnt at all (sorry dude :(). Bad grammar sorry!\n\nSo I'm at their house and she is bubbly and stuff. And she really is flirting with the guy she said isnt cute. (Oh my boss told me NOT TO FLIRT!) and she talks to me were both 16 different school but we know alot of the same people. she says stuff like your sooo cute :)() ! and like you make me laugh alot. Doesnt really say that stuff to the other guy.\n\nAnd a bunch of other people come and she flirts with them too. And as people were leaving she challenges me to climb this rope i did. \n\nOh and all the volunteers are like 3+ years older were the only same age people.\n\nSo I think I will just ignore this girl she seems real weird and she has a bf, what do you think.\n\nI'm 16 M and she is 16F", "summary": "Thinks I'm cute flirts w/ everyone is she a nasty hoe?"}
{"id": "t3_34u6v1", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Guilt and frustration...", "post": "I'm married.  I love my wife.  We have a good relationship, but I guess you could say some of the \"fire\" has died.  I'm constantly wishing for validation from other women.  I don't really want to sleep with them - not that I don't fantasize - but I just want to know they desire me.  I feel pretty guilty about having these thoughts and feelings because my wife is wonderful, but at the same time I'm frustrated because I never really have any way of addressing them either.  I feel sometimes like its pressure building up inside me and I just can't release it because 1) I don't want to betray my wife, and 2) I don't even get much opportunity to flirt because my wife and I share the same friends.  I thought about talking to her about all this, but I don't think there's a pot of gold waiting at the end of that rainbow.  I guess that's why I'm writing this here...  The other night I was at a bachelor party, and my friends and I were out at a club, and it was just super depressing because my single friends were all talking to girls (and even some of the married ones, which I didn't think was cool), but I just couldn't because I think if I seek out that kind of validation I am doing something wrong.  Hell, even if I had tried to talk to the women there, I feel like I don't even remember how to...  I've always thought I was a reasonably attractive man - nothing special, I'm 5' 9\" and in good shape for my age (30) - but that night I just felt like an non-sexual entity, like I was just a shadow of my former self, a guy who was confident and fun (which women noticed) and who felt like he mattered.  Part of me feels like I should only care that I matter to the woman I love, but I just can't shake the feeling of defeat... Just venting because there's pretty much nobody I know who can relate...", "summary": "Love my wife, but feel inadequate because I still want validation from other women"}
{"id": "t3_jig14", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Would cutting contact be a good idea or should I stay friends with (F) co-worker. Stuck in a weird situation and not sure what to do.", "post": "I'm a 27 year old male and work at a store with a 19 year old female. Over the past few months, she's been very flirty to me specifically but I did not express any interest in her at first due to the age gap. She would find ways to team up with me on projects and we would be together every day at work until all the co-workers just assumed there was something going on between us but neither of us addressed it. \n\nI am starting to like her but don't know what to do. She texts me a lot and we chat on skype, mostly just joking around and flirty shit. I'm pretty sure she has a thing for me from the hints she's dropped but I'm also pretty sure she has a boyfriend but whenever I try to bring it up she changes the subject or vaguely says he's a friend. \n\nA few days ago I saw her randomly with a guy holding hands. She didn't see me and later she texted me asking something and I replied and asked what the did that day. She said something along the lines of \"just hung out with a friend shopping\". Now I'm stuck in a weird situation where I'm not sure what's happening. I'm still having reservations about the age gap so this might be a good thing. Should I not pursue anything? Cut contact? (difficult...we work together and everyone there sorta knows what's happening so they usually team us up anyway) Stay just friends? She doesn't seem to be the type of person who would cheat but then again...I've only known her 4 or 5 months and have been serious friends 2 or 3 months so I wouldn't say I know her TOO well. Sorry for the rambling post. sorta drunk...", "summary": "Falling for co-worker who might already have a possible boyfriend. Hard to cut all contact since we work together. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1baie4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23M] girlfriend [22F] of 4 years became a born again virgin", "post": "Hey guys\n\nI'm an agnostic atheist and my girlfriend is a Protestant Christian. We've been together nearly 4 years. I am going to be attending grad school and she is in undergraduate school. We have lived together for a year and we're pretty boring people. We're both introverts and have had maybe two fights through the duration of our relationship. I'm flexible and she's flexible. There has been no cheating or jealousy feuds. Sex maybe once per 1.5 weeks on average. You can said we are 'content' or 'happy.' We're best friends.\n\nAround Christmas time last year a member of her close family died and she's really starting to develop her relationship with God. I've noticed her becoming more distant and I suspected it's because she's re-evaluating what she wants in a partner and in life. We've had a talk before about Christianity. She wants a Christian husband with Christian values (all of which are the same of mine; I was raised Catholic/Protestant). It's important for her partner to be Christian because it has something to do with purity of marriage and how that helps you build a closer relationship to God. She wants to better serve God in any way she can. I respect her views and her motives. I went to church with her last weekend.\n\nAbout two weeks ago when I was kissing her before bed she said that she doesn't want to have sex out of marriage anymore and that doing it makes her feel guilty. I'm flexible, but this one is definitely a curve-ball. We've talked about marriage and agree that we're far too young, and want to wait until we are 28-29 years old to get married. 6 Years is a long time without sex. She's okay with that wait. Sex is important to me because I believe that it creates and shows love and also it's fun. I just don't believe you have to get married to do it. \n\nIt might be easy for you to type \"just break up,\" but if you haven't built something for 4 years, it's a little more difficult to understand why this isn't easy especially because we're good friends in good standing.\n\nAnyone have any insight?", "summary": "Girlfriend and I have a major incompatibility with partner beliefs and sex. I want sex outside of marriage and she wants a Christian husband."}
{"id": "t3_e2qox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm a little uneasy about the number of sexual partners my girlfriend has had.  Am I being dumb?", "post": "So my girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, we are both 21 years old.  The relationship has been awesome, we have had minor differences but no huge fights.  I know that we are still a fairly young couple, but bear with me.  I'm not a very promiscuous guy (I've slept with only one other person before my current girlfriend, and the other person was a girl who I dated for a year).  Basically, I don't really sleep around.  This weekend, for some reason, I asked my girlfriend for the first time how many guys she has slept with. She told me I was the 9th guy. I was expecting around 3 or 4.  To me, she doesn't seem to be the type of girl who sleeps around (I don't even know if 9 guys qualifies as sleeping around).  Even in our relationship, being comfortable sexually is something we have had to work on.  That's why I was kind of shocked when she told me I was the 9th guy she's slept with.  She told me that she used to view sex as not very meaningful, but that it is very different with me.  She's told me numerous times that I mean a lot more to her than any other guys ever have.  I'm not mad at her, because I know that I can't be mad at her for doing stuff before we even knew each other.  I'm just a little uneasy/put off by the number of guys she's been with.  Am I being stupid for feeling like this?  My apologies for the big block of text, I don't really know how to format these posts well.", "summary": "I've slept with 1 other person, my girlfriend has slept with 8 other people, and I feel weird about it.  Am I being dumb?"}
{"id": "t3_1ejqup", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Started my new lifestyle four months ago, down 66 pounds, feeling great! (Face Comparison Pics)", "post": "Obligatory stuff - Male - 24 - 6'5\" - Starting weight: ~320 - Current weight: 253.3\n\nI've been taking a picture of my face once a month to see the progress that I've made.  The one I took today at 4 months made me excited, so I decided to show off a little bit.\n\nAs far as how I've been losing weight, I haven't been on any particular diet, and I haven't been on a strict workout regiment.  I just cut out the junk and replaced it with reasonable portions of good food.  I also got a FitBit, which tracks your activity level throughout the day.  Compared to the high octane crap and complete lack of activity from before, this method has been successful and not terribly difficult to maintain.  Eating right and maintaining a reasonable activity level has made me feel like a new person.\n\nMy goal is to get under 200 lbs, and then put on muscle up to about 210-220.  I know the journey is far from over, but I wanted to share!\n\n[Face Progress Pics!](", "summary": "started eating healthy and being more active, lost 66 lbs in 4 months and feel like a new person"}
{"id": "t3_42i7bm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] with my (now ex) boyfriend [19 M] of 3.5 years, had our relationship end a couple of months ago and I can't get over it.", "post": "He ended it with the only explanation being that he just doesn't love me anymore and I feel like I have no real closure and am so confused and upset about what actually happened here because it seemed completely totally fine and everything was amazing and i genuinely thought that we were going to be together forever and get married and all that jazz and I really couldn't imagine my life without him.\n\nWe are both at uni and he did hint towards the fact that it may be to do with the distance but we had already done a year and a half of distance and it had been working well, if anything it made us more appreciative of one another's company (well I felt this way anyway).\n\nI can't stop myself from messaging even though I really know that I shouldn't be and I am just so desperate to carry on speaking to him, we were so so close and he was my best friend in the whole entire world and I feel like I can never be that close to anyone ever again, not that I even want anyone else at all.\n\nI just feel so so alone and so lonely and he was my everything and I wanted more than anything to spend my life with him and now I'm just getting ranty haha sorry!!", "summary": "Please could I have some advice on how to win him back/get over him/ get some closure"}
{"id": "t3_3546nq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 M] need tips on keeping conversation interesting with a girl [22 F] who I'm really into", "post": "So I've never been much good at facebook/text message conversations and keeping them interesting, but I'm trying really hard with this girl, although I think I'm coming across as a bit boring by just asking questions. \n\nA mutual friend set us up, and I don't know if she is into me, but it seems like she's into giving us a chance. We've been chatting over text for the past 2 days, but unfortunately a date isn't possible due to both of our commitments for another week. Do you guys have any tips or pointers on sparking interesting and immersive conversation? I want it to be natural and fun, but damn I'm struggling! We have a few things in common but the convo just seems to hit dead ends easily. \n\nI feel like there is some secret training some people get to make them great message conversationalists who can captivate anyone by message that I never received. Some of my friends are so natural and good at it, and I'm just desperately trying to make her want to reply, rather than feel like she has to.", "summary": "Give me the secret to great text message conversations"}
{"id": "t3_3e53hw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my boyfriend [17 M] going out for 4 weeks and are crazy for each other, then suddenly cuts it off for seemingly no reason.", "post": "So me and this guy have been going out for a few weeks, and we were both as happy as could be. We were always talking, and when we were together it was amazing. We were so grateful for each other. \n\nThe other day I was over to his place, and we were alone. We were just cuddled up on the couch and we were having a great time. Then his mother comes home without warning, and we scatter (this was low-key). \n\nI'm pretty sure she caught a glimpse of us together, then he went upstairs for about 10 minutes and comes back down and takes me home, and I thought nothing of it. On the way, he says we should take a bit of a break, and I thought okay, it was a close call, I get it. \n\nThen today he breaks up with me. I was blindsided. This is very sudden and I'm confused and angry (not at him) and crushed. He said he just doesn't feel the same way about me but still want's to be good friends. \n\nHow can someone go from wanting to never let go to not interested in 24 hours? I'm just so confused, I wish I knew what was really happening. What do you guys think?", "summary": "Boyfriend who was crazy for me broke up with me after his mom came home and possibly caught us in 24 hours. He went upstairs to talk I guess and now we're back to friends and I'm feeling crushed and very confused."}
{"id": "t3_2dnt1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting reddit banned from my college", "post": "Again not today but still probably more recent then most on this page, I've just finished my first year of college in England (For Americans that's 16-17 years of age). One of the subjects I took was IT and the teacher was unbelievably dull. He couldn't teach and so most of my time was spent on reddit with you lovely people. Now being the usual slightly dumb teenager I was subscribed to a selection of NSFW sub-reddits. One day after about 10 months of harmlessly browsing the front page during lessons I go to click on some news article, and my stupid fingers click on a different link. The error screen that appears when the college intranet blocks a webpage appears in front of me. Naturally I panic and close the page down as quick as humanly possible.\nI go back the next day to find reddit now on the list of banned webpages. The website doesn't work on my computer or phone, the apps doesn't work on their WiFi, I don't know how they did it but reddit is well and truly gone for everyone.\nI have no idea if they know it was me but I won't be returning to that college anyway because I failed my first year of A-Levels but that's a different story dear Redditors...", "summary": "I got reddit banned from my college's intranet by looking at porn"}
{"id": "t3_3trl1x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Have you ever decided to end a friendship with a best friend?", "post": "Thank you in advance for taking the time to read my post. I'm a 23-year-old male and I'm considering ending a relationship with my best friend of 5 years.\n\nI finally forced myself to see her for the massively narcissistic, attention seeking person she really is - and how I've always been a punching bag for her emotions in this unhealthy friendship.\n\nLast week, I told her that I will be renewing my work license in New York (I live in Philadelphia) for two days during my day-off when we were talking about work; out of nowhere, she mentioned \"I guess you don't miss and want to visit your friend in California afterall\". I just don't understand why she always takes my words out of context in order to make me feel guilty and be manipulated by her. When I was talking to my family when she was calling, she left a message saying \"I won't bother you by calling anymore if you're busy\".\n\nWhat would you do in my situation? I just don't know what to do anymore. I will miss her very much. But I won't miss the friendship. I won't miss the friendship at all.", "summary": "! Know my best friend for 5 years / she always tried to take things out of context all the time to make me feel guilty. Considering ending a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_1091hv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Last night out at a bar and my friends and I decided to teach my friend cockblocking is not cool. People of reddit have you ever cockblocked a friend to teach them a lesson.", "post": "So me and my roommates were at a bar, our friend who sulks and cockblocks everyone's night whenever he doesn't have a girl to talk with or do anything with and has ruined each one of our nights on separate occasions many a times by telling girls \"did you tell her about your son\" \"dude are you even gonna call this one tomorrow\" or \"wow she looks just like your ex someone's got issues\" was with us. So he found a girl and was talking, joking, and hitting it off with. So we all decided to cockblock him just to show him how it felt. So I run back to our place have my friends call me and give me updates. I photoshop some pictures of my ex-girlfriend to show just them, put them in his frames on his bed, grab a bottle of lotion throw it on his bed, put balled up tissue all around his bed near the picture frames, print out abortion  brochures and put them in his room. All the while my friends at the bar are dropping subtle hints to her about \"how good it is to see him out having a good time\" how \"this is really helping him move forward\" \"he really needs something like this\". I called my ex who lived down the street and hated him come by and wait for the right time in my room. They come back go into his room we're all on the couch and after a few minutes we hear him tell her \"no none of this is mine, she's not my girlfriend\"  \"I've never made a girl get an abortion\" i grab my ex and tell her to start banging on the front door  and call \"mike a coward\" \"a pro-choicer\" \"and the least he could do is pay for the abortion like he promised\" needless to say the girl storms out of the place, he runs after her, he comes back in and we all start busting up laughing he gets pissed slams his door and finally lightens up the next day about it.", "summary": "got some payback on a cockblocking friend through creative photoshop and careful planning essentially cockblocking him to show him he reaps what he sows."}
{"id": "t3_3ri8w1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By accidentally getting a friend expelled", "post": "This happened when I was 6 or so, I was living overseas and my parents forked over a large amount money to have me go to an \"international\" elementary school instead of the one on the army base. \n\nIn this school there was a program similar to the Boy Scouts, that was where I made most of my friends. Mostly we fucked around and occasionally we would tie some ropes together or go swimming or something. As we were preparing to move on to the next level of the scouts, we had to throw a \"feast\" for our parents and the school staff, celebrating our graduation.\n\nMost of us were still learning to tie our shoes, so we did nothing while our scout leaders actually set everything up. We mostly just watched movies on the VCR, and the night before the feast we watched \"Raiders of the Lost Ark.\" All of us thought the bad guys looked pretty cool (none of us knew about nazis, ww2 or the holocaust) so we started acting out the scenes, running around and being little shits. \n\nThe cards that showed people where to sit looked like a guy riding a plane, we began stealing them and throwing them around and having a \"plane battle.\" At some point I decide to grab a random place card and draw swatsikas all over it because it was \"the bad guy plane\". I threw it from a balcony overlooking the table where everyone was sitting. A few minutes later, a very angry scout leader comes up the stairs looking for the only German kid in the group.\n\nThe guy carries the kid away kicking and screaming and we find out that he is being dispelled from the scouts for \"hate speech\" (it turned out that the place card had his name on it, this was an international gathering so some people were very offended by it) I saw him in school the next day and he seemed very moody, after that his family moved back to Germany.", "summary": "I ruined some kid's life because I thought that nazis were cool-looking"}
{"id": "t3_37ii5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [42/M] of over a year doesn't want a partnership with me [29/F].", "post": "I'll start with the obvious - my boyfriend is much older than I am. He's taught me a lot about maturity and what it's like to be in a respectful, healthy relationship. I have a son from a previous relationship, and he has two daughters from a previous marriage. We've been dating for over a year.\n\nIt all started a couple of months ago when I suggested we see more of each other, and do more activities together as a \"group\" (not just hang out when our kids are at their other parents' houses every other weekend). He explained that he's not looking for someone to live with, or for another parent. \n\nFor several weeks now, I've been feeling like I'm compromising. My son's dad is not healthy, and not in the picture very often. I think it'd be good for my son & I both to have a strong, healthy male figure in the household. \n\nI've finally brought it up with my boyfriend, and he maintains that he doesn't believe in combining families. I know in my heart that he loves me (we are super compatible, and do really fun things together) but, we just don't have the same vision.\n\nI'm hurt, sad, afraid... What if I'm making the wrong decision to leave him for the chance at something more... what's the word? Permanent? For the chance to have a partnership with someone? He's taught me so much about relationships... what if his way is the best way?", "summary": "Do I stay with someone I love and care about even if it means compromising my vision for the future?"}
{"id": "t3_jlaj0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "A Facebook Business Page I Run Just Got Shat Upon By An Unhappy Customer and All Their Friends. What Is The Best Course of Action?", "post": "I work in a small retail store and run the store's facebook page. Earlier today we had an incredibly unsatisfied customer who has proceeded to trash our business, our owner and our staff on the internet. And they got a bunch of their friends to do the same. Would it be best to remove these post and block the users or address it in a different way? I fear just removing the post and blocking the users may make it worse, but I don't want to allow these exaggerated claims stay on our page. \n\nIt sucks because I was not in the store the past few days so I have no idea what really happened, but from what I can gather, two people SOMEHOW (big mistake on one of the staff's part) put the same item on hold (which only last 24hrs) and when one of them came back to buy it, the other got incredibly infuriated. The person who ended up not getting the item apparently had put the item on hold one day, came back the next day and put it on hold again (which is a mistake an employee made when they allowed this; this is NOT our store policy to allow this). This created confusion, yadda yadda yadda, now my facebook page looks like a hate speech convention. \n\nHelp me Reddit-wan-Kenobi, you're my only hope.", "summary": "Customer and all their friends shat on my business page on fb, most likely do to an employee promising something they shouldn't have. How do I clean up this mess?"}
{"id": "t3_3wdcka", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [25M] really like this girl [21F] I've known for only two week-ish. Am I taking things too fast?", "post": "Some of you might recognize my name, here is my latest post: \n\nAnyhow, some sort of an", "summary": "I really like this girl after the first date. I want to move further and be more than friends. What's the best way to do it? Am I going too fast?"}
{"id": "t3_2pcvy9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting heavily intoxicated at my wife's company party", "post": "So Friday night was my wife's company holiday party. She works for a Dr's office and every year they host the party at one of their houses. This year was no different. We arrive at the party and head for the open bar after the usual pleasantries. Now, I'm no alcoholic but I can usually hold my liquor pretty well, not this night. So through the course of the night I was sipping on rum and coke and taking a random shot here and there. At some point later in the night the Dr who owns the house asks if I want to taste some of the tequilas he has. I should probably mention that this man apparently loves his tequila, as there was a shelf running around the top of the bar with different bottles of tequila lined all the way around. That's where the night goes blank. I remember \"tasting\" around 5 different types of tequilas, all pretty much one right after the other, and then I'm in a hospital room getting staples put into my head. Apparently at some point during the night I tipped over and fell into the Christmas tree and something gave me a gash about 3 fingers wide. I have no recollection of about a 4 hour time span. My brother had to come pick us up from the party and drop us off at the hospital and my best friend and his wife, who is having a baby tomorrow, came and got us at 4am from the ER. Saturday I pretty much spent all loopy and a combination of the gash and the tetanus shot have had me running a fever, chills and nausea and just all out not feeling well. Amazingly my wife has taken it all pretty calmly but I'm still semi in the dog house and I made a complete fool out of myself at the Dr's house. Moral of the story: Leave the tasting for wines and beers. Pictures are still surfacing from her coworkers of my shenanigans. I'm done drinking for a while..", "summary": "The tree won."}
{"id": "t3_29s74h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is it wierd that me (M21) is terrified about marriage etc and my gf (F20) has already decided that she want me", "post": "We was talking about one of our Co workers who is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend of 3 weeks and she asked me why haven't I asked her yet and I said that it was because I hadn't decided whether I wanted it to be her that I wanted for the rest of my life and she got upset and walked away because she has already decided that it is me that she wants kids and marriage with. Is it a common thing for girls to already have decided that 6 months in she wants to marry me or am I completely normal in not wanting to decide something that big yet?", "summary": "am I normal for not having decided on marriage and kids yet?"}
{"id": "t3_1ldv4z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A dilemma regarding bf's (23M) family's friends camping trip (25f). What is the best course of action?", "post": "I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and this year I was invited by him to his family's friends annual camping trip. Just to clarify he invited me, not their friends. The family who is organizing the whole trip has met me and I spent Christmas and Thanksgiving with them as well as I saw them about 2 months ago when the whole talk about this trip was initiated. I was included unofficially back then but not after.\n\nHowever the whole trip has gotten complicated. Me and my bf recently went on 8 day vacation to Mexico for which I had to ask days off at my fairly new management position job (~6 months). I have to work this weekend but I have Labor Day off as well as the day after. I wasn't sure if my boss will give me another few days off to go on this trip but at the end he gave me Sunday off. Okay. \n\nThe problem started when we discovered that the whole family is leaving tomorrow, which is Friday. Another problem is that he told his mom (his dad and mom are divorced and bf has 3 other siblings) that we are getting there on Sat morning instead of Saturday evening which now with new events seems a stretch. \n\nAnother problem. He only told their family friends that I am coming as well only a few days ago. The trip is tomorrow. \n\nAnother problem. Bf has a car that is registered on him and he has insurance but he doesn't have DL. He also also a very new and fairly bad driver.\n\nAnother problem. We planned on joining the fam on Saturday evening meaning we would leave around 8.30 pm and my bf would drive part of the time and I would drive the rest. Now it's not happening because his family friends are taking his car. I don't want him to drive my car knowing what kind of a driver he is.\n\nAnd the main problem is I don't know what should I do. Either just tell him to go with his fam and then drive 3 something hours on a mountain range alone or drive with him on Sunday morning with his mom being absolutely furious after (she already doesn't like me).\n\nSo reddit, what in the world do I do.", "summary": "bf's family camping trip is turning into a nightmare due to horrible timing. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_l3u70", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So I might have spinal meningitis.", "post": "Today I got a call from my boss telling me that one of my co-workers is in the hospital with spinal meningitis. We don't know yet if it's bacterial or viral, seeing as how the spinal tap will take at least 24 hours before we get any clear results. I've been vaccinated for it but when I talked to the doctors office they told me that there is now another vaccine that you are supposed to have.\nThey told me to watch for the symptoms which include a severe headache and flu like symptoms along with back/neck ache. When I asked how long the virus lays dormant in your system, they told me either a month to a week. Well I have definitely been working with her over the past month, and my recent contact with her was just last weekend. \nNow this evening I have a severe migraine and some slight neck ache but haven't gotten sick to my stomach at all. In my town there have already been three cases in just today, one of the patients is dying. I'm a bit scared reddit, I've been around my newborn niece and my younger siblings and I don't want anything to happen to them. Any advice or reassurance that I'm just stressing myself out and to relax until the results come back would be appreciated.", "summary": "Co-worker has spinal meningitis, may possibly be bacterial. Been working with her for the past month and I've been around very young children and am scared for their safety and mine."}
{"id": "t3_jv72a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you get back from leaving a bad impression?", "post": "I've been to a party last week and it was hell for me. There was this one thing that quite messed up what my friends will *really* think about me. There was enough food for 5 people so most of them started digging in. As I was going to get my share, the bowl was empty. We were joking around and they eventually gave me my share. Before that ever happened, I walked out of the kitchen and said I was **full**. The reaction that came from me was unnecessary. I could've been a sport and took it as a joke which I didn't. I'm completely humiliated by what I did after that and I don't know if I can show my face to them again.\n\nAfter a week, we will be meeting each other again and I'm not sure what do. What should I do?", "summary": "I went drama mode right after they took my share of food from me."}
{"id": "t3_19i44s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(f, 19) want to ask one of my friends to buy me a bottle of champagne to surprise my husband(m, 21) who will be returning from a deployment soon.", "post": "My husband has been gone for nearly six months and I want to surprise him with a romantic evening his first night back because he did something similar for our first night married(candles, champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, flowers, etc.) but I'm underage, obviously, and can't buy alcohol. In our state, however, I'm legally allowed to drink alcohol as long as my husband is with me(strange, I know). I feel extremely awkward asking one of my friends(all military wives like me, ranging in age from 22-30), although I'm sure they would. I just need a third party opinion- would it be inappropriate? Should I just go for the sparkling grape juice since it's the thought that counts?", "summary": "want to buy champagne for surprise. Is asking an of age friend appropriate or crossing the line?"}
{"id": "t3_25hid1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend [F/22] won't tell me she loves me [M/24] in native language", "post": "She speaks Spanish natively, but my Spanish is terrible so we almost always communicate in English. Anyway, I noticed a while ago that she never said she loved me in Spanish. I didn't think anything of it at first, until I realized she was consciously avoiding doing so. If I tell her I love her in Spanish, she'll respond in English, 100% of the time--little things like that. \n\nIt made me feel a little weird, so I asked her about it and she dodged the question. That made me feel weirder. I let it sit but asked again last night and she again dodged/ignored the question. I haven't pushed the issue at all, but it's been on my mind and I don't understand it.\n\nOverall, I feel petty and paranoid, but also uncomfortable and awkward about this. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little worried that she isn't being honest with me about her feelings. I think the awkwardness is exacerbated greatly by the fact that she doesn't respond to any questions about it, which just leaves my mind to theorize on its own.", "summary": "Girlfriend won't say she loves me or variations thereof in her native language, won't respond to questions about why. This causes me to question her feelings for me. How should I be reacting? Is this nothing but childish paranoia?"}
{"id": "t3_3r1rzl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (M18) don't drink and it's a taboo here.", "post": "Disclaimer: Well I don't know if this is the correct subreddit for this but I honestly don't know where to post this so I apologize if it's in the wrong place. Please don't attack me for this. Thank you.\n\nWell I'm currently a college student in a big college party city and I'm just not into alcohol. It seems to be such a taboo to the point where I have arguments with my girlfriend (F18) about it. \n\nI am majoring in business and I plan on doing business in Far East Asia, specifically China and I keep getting told I'm going to need to drink if I'm going to be a business major. \n\nI just don't want to drink. Nothing is wrong with alcohol, I just don't want to do it. I can't seem to pinpoint why though but I know I don't want to do it. Beer is the only thing I've tried and I plainly don't like it.\n\nI don't like partying because it's basically drinking around these parts.\n\nI don't know what to do with myself because I feel like I'm going to be a terrible businessman and I feel like I'm a partypooper to everyone around me. \n\nI especially feel bad when my girlfriend says it irks her when I don't give her a reason.", "summary": "I don't want to drink alcohol and it seems like such a taboo thing that I don't. Girlfriend doesn't like that I don't drink for no reason. I don't know what to say or do."}
{"id": "t3_23ylhm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M18] suspect my friend [M19] is flirting with the girl[M19] I like even though he knows I like her.", "post": "So my friend (let's call him Al) is talking with the girl I like and that I've told him is the only girl I've liked in a long time. She also knows I like her because I told her and she rejected me. However Al doesn't know I told her so as far as he's concerned I'm still attempting to date this girl. The girl is still good friends with me and she told me he keeps talking to her on facebook. Even though she hasn't said that he is flirting with her I know Al well enough to know what he is doing because he told me a few times that she was hot and that I should totally fuck her . Note that Al is not a good guy, he's admitted to me that he cheated on his current girlfriend, he does drugs and is always skipping class, he'd be a terrible influence on the girl I like and that concerns me as she is still a good friend (even though I'm pretty sure she's not interested in Al because she knows he does drugs and she's a very good girl and she's a bit creeped out by him). The worst part for me though is that Al is attempting to make moves on her while thinking I'm also trying to make moves on her, so he's definitely an untrustworthy friend. My question is: how should I handle this? Should I ask the girl I like if Al is flirting on her and/or warn her he's a bad guy? or confront Al himself and if so what should I tell him?", "summary": "My friend is breaking the bro code, how should I handle it and what should I tell the girl?"}
{"id": "t3_1691q4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Found BF's homemade video of him fapping which he emailed to himself... what's that about??", "post": "Well, I've been on reddit for a few years, have another account, but felt it necessary to make a throwaway here as my BF is also a redditor. I (female) have a BF (male) of over two years (both of us are 28), and we're pretty much in it for the long haul now, talked about marriage and kids and plan to move in together this year. He borrowed my computer a couple weeks ago to check his email and other things (he was at my place and didn't have his comp with him). When he left, he obviously accidentally left his email open. Just before signing him out (which I would of course do, as I have no reason to look through his email), I saw something odd...an email he had recently sent to himself with no subject. I don't know what I was thinking, but I opened it...I just had a weird feeling. In the email was a video he made of himself masturbating in his bathroom. He obviously shot the video with his iphone and emailed it to himself. It didn't show his face, just his body, and him rubbing one out. I checked quickly to see if he had sent it to anyone (wouldn't you at this point?), and he had not..well, not that I know of. If he had sent it to someone or done something with it, there was no evidence of this. Just a random video of him fapping that he emailed himself. \n\nI'm not jumping to any conclusions, I just want to know from the guys, what does this mean and why might he do this? Would he only do this with the intention of sending or posting it somewhere? Do I need to be concerned? Should I address this with him, and how so?", "summary": "Found random video that my boyfriend made on his iPhone of him fapping, which he emailed to himself. Why would he do this?"}
{"id": "t3_1ihwzn", "subreddit": "Dogtraining", "title": "Best walks when on a choke chain: dog isn't being choked, but is it bringing up bad memories?", "post": "My 3 year old GSD x Husky rescue stayed with some relatives for a few days while my boyfriend and I moved house, and the relatives found an old choke chain to walk him with, instead of his Mekuti harness. We have had real problems with him pulling on the lead, and the Mekuti harness has worked wonders, but didn't eliminate the problem. He hasn't pulled when on the choke chain at all, even when it was first put on apparently, so we think that is what he was trained on (and damage from that process is probably why his barks and whines sound a bit odd). We now think the people who had him before us were violent towards him (if you mime kicking he runs across the room terrified), so, my question is: he is best behaved on walks when wearing a choke chain, and it isn't hurting him at all, but will the harm chokers and the people using them caused him in the past affect him in any way now? I 100% DO NOT want to use a choke chain on him and I don't think anyone should ever, ever train a dog that way, but this chain is the only lead we've used that has completely solved the problem with him pulling, and he hasn't seemed stressed out by it. If he ever started pulling on the lead so that the choker was tight, I would stop using it straight away. The last thing I want is my dog being hurt. If I'd known these relatives were going to put one on him, I wouldn't have let them look after him. Still, it works and doesn't hurt him, my only worry is it'll do psychological damage somehow.", "summary": "Presence of choke chain makes walks much easier without ever choking, harming or stressing out my dog, but is it bringing back bad memories from his previous owners?"}
{"id": "t3_3gybxh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by becoming a neurotic med student's \"fixer project\"", "post": "So I'm a hedonist or rather a complete trainwreck; I'm a college dropout who went into mediocrity for the simplicity it offered (also a variety of drug related convictions, chiefly opiate related) and live in a \"rapidly gentrifying neighborhood\" (shady, sketchy and shitty) near a medical college. I'm 22, I've been living in a three apartment townhouse for 3 years, every year around June the leases expire and new leasers occupy the other two apartments; I generally don't pay attention as my landlord is a slum lord and we have a mutual desire to be left the fuck alone; my life constitutes of working and getting high at home, life passes me by. Anyway about two weeks ago I nodded off in front of my apartment's door and I wake up being observed by this Indian chick who woke me up, got me inside and layed me on my side. Sweet girl, didn't call an ambulance, so she was alright in my book. Only now she's around an uncomfortable amount of time, surpassing the neighborly and creeping into the maternal. I wasn't aware until she attempted to lay out a two year \"self renovation\" plan for me a few hours ago. Now I'm not entirely sober currently so I'll update come morning when I'm not nodding off but I had a college catalog shoved in my face, she had a alarmingly detailed journal of sorts with my details and called my current profession (welder/machinist/professional junkie) as a \"phase.\" I thought it was kinda cool having a little assistant/secretary to manage my affairs; it just hit me a bit ago that normal people don't buy you clean syringes and amazon prime you micron filter syringe attachments; she taught me the safest way to make a morphine solution from a tablet, that's mental, she's mental.", "summary": "turns out I've been encouraging someone who's batshit insane with most of my day to day decisions for the last two weeks."}
{"id": "t3_4yqwoz", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "How do I get out of this large hole?", "post": "I have $406,000 in education debt.  I went to medical school and its a combination of Direct Grad Plus, Direct Sub, and Direct Unsub loans.  I have 7.8% interest on most of it.  I haven't refinanced because I am using the income based repayment plan and paying 500 a month.\n\nI have $10K in checking, $5K in roth, and no credit card debt.  I also have another $20K in very liquid assets (cryptocurrency) (all profit at this point).\n\nOnce I start working as an Attending (next July) my salary will be around ~200k.  I was debating fellowship but maybe after a year or two of working to get this monster under control.  Fellowship wouldn't really add to my income, just give me more interesting work.\n\nCurrently single.  PGY4 salary (~60K before taxes).  \n\nWhen do you suppose the earliest point where I might be positive net worth be?  \n\nTwist:  The place I did my residency for the last 4 years was a 501c3.  If you make 10 years worth of payments while working in a 501c3 then the debt is forgiven.  I have 6 more years of making the IBR payments.  \n\nHow should I play this?  Pay minimum amount?  Consolidate for lower interest? If a non 501c3 organization offers me a job, how much more would they have to pay me before it makes sense to forgo the benefit of having debt forgiven?", "summary": "I have $400k in Direct Plus loans at 7.8% interest, decent savings, and no credit card debt.  I will make $200k starting next year.  If I work another 6years in a 501c3 the debt is forgiven because they are all Direct Plus loans."}
{"id": "t3_4px55f", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pouring piss all over myself", "post": "It literally just happened 5 minutes ago. I don't feel good.\nA bit of backstory here. Sometimes while staying up late I would need to use the bathroom. My parents always grill me about why I'm using the bathroom and get super suspicious of what I'm doing every time and it gets on my nerves, so I turned to the ever so elegant solution of using ziplock bags to piss it, sealing them and pouring the piss out next morning down the drain and throwing the bag away. Efficient? No. Unethical? Yes. One night (the night of this post) I needed to use the bathroom. Now next to my bed is a little cardboard storage box filled with things like magazines, books, hats and you guessed it, empty ziplock bags. Now I was being a cheap ass so it was filled with old ziplock bags because the day prior, I was exchanging coins at the local coinstar machine and I like my coins sorted. Anyways I pulled out my plastic bag and began to piss in it. When finished, I would put the bag on the other side of the bed, just incase people walk in and see a bag of piss. Not the best sight. I was moving it over my bed and I felt something warm. At first I thought it was just the piss or something and then I realized a wet sensation on my body and could finally hear dripping noises. Turns out the bag had a small hole in it. So I was panicking, piss being sloshed all over my bed, floor and of course, me, when I managed to stuff the piss filled plastic bag into another ziplock bag. When moving it over again, I realized that same wet-warm feeling. Turns out, THIS bag had a hole as well. More piss everywhere. Yay. After finding a bag that DIDN'T have a hole and putting the first and second bag in there, my bed looked and felt as if I pissed my self and my floor looked as if I took a water gun and went Rambo. My upper body was also covered in piss as well. I'm going to clean this mess up in the morning and just sleep in my desk chair.", "summary": "Pissed in a bag in bed and tried to move it over me. Didn't know the bag had a hole until it was too late."}
{"id": "t3_2f3ubg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] talking with [17 F], she suddenly loses interest.", "post": "So I've just started college recently and I met a cute girl at the concert the school held for us before the first day of classes. She remembered me from orientation that summer, and we danced the whole night and then hung out in one of her friend's rooms.\n\nThings sort of progressed from that as we hung out most of the week, cuddling a lot and making out some. I thought she was really into me, but then last night we were at a party, her first ever time drinking. She seemed to ignore me most of the night, but I chalked it up to the alcohol. Then today, I get a text from her saying she didn't want a relationship right now, but she wanted to experience college and still be friends.\n\nI can kind of understand her wanting to experience college before she finds someone, but this blindsided me as she seemed like she really liked me and I really did like her. I told her that of course we could still be friends, but I'm kind of at a loss right now, because even though it was just a week, I thought there was something there. What can I do? I definitely want to stay friends, but I want to know if there's anyway we can still make something out of it down the road.", "summary": "Meet girl 1st week of college, things go good for a week then she loses interest."}
{"id": "t3_2i0hcq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [27M] , how to talk about problems/ issues constructively", "post": "I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) ... sadly can't remember any of the old talks.", "summary": "boyfriend handles small annoyances by shoving them under the rug. me: I'm open about it, speak my mind, if nothing changes then I either accept or move on. Advice on how to mesh these two confrontation styles."}
{"id": "t3_1wffle", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Had a slow workout today. Something to be worried about or should I just shake it off?", "post": "16 year old kid in high school preparing for outdoor track as well as currently competing in indoor. Ran 30 mile weeks all December. First two weeks in January were 35's, last week was 43, and this past was 45. Up till today, we had ran 2 workouts (6x400m and 8x200m repeats and 3x1200, 2x800) I ran a 4:23 indoor 1500 (around low 4:42 1600) this past Saturday, the 25th which was a bit ahead of where I thought I was at.\n\nCame into this week quite confident and hoping to get some strong work in. Since I've been running decent mileage, I figured I'd be able to handle a 80% tempo run today. 5 miles and my pace was supposed to be around 5:55. First mile come across at 6:02 and already feeling pretty out of it. Mile two feels just as crappy with 6:06. Third one I'm fighting hard for a 6:05. I was feeling a bit angry at my self for the first 3 miles being slow, so I close out the fourth in one in a solid 6:00. The last mile takes a lot out of me but I come across 5:50 to conclude the workout at 30:03 instead of 29:35.\n\nIs this something to worry about? I ran a quite fast 1500 race the other day, however I can't even run under 30 for an 8k tempo run. The pace I was pushing myself at was definitely not at the 80% we were supposed to run and I was sucking air the whole workout. I figured with the good amount of distance runs I'd been doing and with the speed I'd just displayed over the weekend, I'd easily be able to run around 29:30. \n\nAny thoughts? Am I over thinking this? What can I adjust in my training? Thanks for reading", "summary": "Up to 45 mile weeks for 8 weeks training. Ran a 1500 in 4:23 (4:42ish 1600) on Saturday. Today run a 30:03 in a 80% tempo run in which I was suppoed to be around 29:35. Effort was quite harder than 80%. Should I be worried? What adjustments can I make in my training?*"}
{"id": "t3_4w53ue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] can't get past my long distance partner [29 F] sleeping with someone else 3 days before I arrived to see them. It was a sort-of-open/not official relationship", "post": "She was in my country backpacking, she approached me after a lot of time spent interested (we worked nearby) and we started casually seeing each other. \n\nI have never been interested in a relationship and she was much more invested than she let on. She flew back a few months after leaving because she wanted to see me again, but not letting on I was hugely important in this decision.\n\nAfter she left again, she soon sent me tickets to see her in her home country. It wasn't until this point that I got the hint and realised she was a bit serious, so I stopped seeing anyone casually and waited until I got there.\n\nI was under the impression she would too, but I found out (while I was there) that she had been seeing someone quite intimately for a couple of weeks, and (she told me after I left for home) the last she saw him was only three days before I arrived. \n\nShe told me she cut him off completely and has no interest in him anymore, and I believe her.. But I feel cheated and gross for not knowing this before hand. It's an awful feeling that she was sleeping with someone so shortly before I was there. We've spoken about it at length, but I still can't let go of that shitty feeling.\nShe says it was because she was emotionally lost and didn't know if I even cared about her, and thought I might also be sleeping with other people before I got there.\n\nI adore this girl, and she means an awful lot to me, and I clearly mean an awful lot to her. She regrets what happened immensely.. But I still feel like shit about how close it was to me arriving to see her, like it was disrespectful and shouldn't need a conversation to be known not to do. What the fuck do I do, am I overreacting?", "summary": "girl slept with someone shortly before I saw her on the other side of the world and I can't get past it in my head"}
{"id": "t3_x45ha", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "24/female with 24/male boyfriend...Am I being too controlling?", "post": "Background- We have been dating for a little over a year. He has not finished college and I have. We have problems with the fact that I'm more responsible than he is. To the problem- This past month I've been working a lot more than usual, but it is also the month before we have to make a huge change in our lives because we want to move out and he is supposed to start college in the fall. I've been a bit too naggy and getting mad when he doesn't get the things done for his finaid and college paperwork. I feel like I am the one that has to keep this to-do list and it's really hard on me. We have talked about it numerous times, it doesn't seem I get through to him. I'm just worried that he won't get all his paperwork done in time and he will have to wait another semester to finish college which could delay things for us in the future. I guess, I just want him to be done with college so he could get a good job so if we do \"make the jump\" to getting married and having kids we have a foundation to be successful.\nDo I have the right to be upset when he doesn't get things done or is it not my place? I'm actually kinda getting worried that I am being too naggy. He told me literally just now when I asked him and he said \"no, you're not and you are a wonderful girlfriend\" but...I still want advice.\nI don't want to be stressed anymore.", "summary": "I'm a naggy girlfriend because I want my boyfriend to fulfill his goals."}
{"id": "t3_4unm4z", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Dog is over \"Ideal weight\" but ribs are still visible?", "post": "We rescued a Staffordshire Bull Terrier from a shelter ~6 months ago, when we got her she had a broken leg and was visibly skinny. 6 Months later she has put a lot of weight on and is a very energetic young dog (she is approx. 11 months old now) however, while searching online i find the ideal weight for bitches of her breed is 10~16kg, she weighs 16.5kg and her ribs are still *just* visible when you look at her. She gets fed 454g of raw minced beef  per day and a handful of \"WainWrights\" dog kibble (not a cheap brand, but certainly not the best) per meal (2 meals per day), she also gets small portions of veg and gravy once a week when we have our Sunday roast dinner. Should i be able to make out the lines of her rib-cage when she is stood, I have been assuming this means she is still slightly underweight? I often vigorously play tug with her and she has become noticeably stronger since we got her and I believe it looks like she has packed on a lot of muscle which could account for the weight gain i guess?", "summary": "Dog is over the ideal weight for its breed, but ribs are still faintly but easily noticeably visible when standing at rest. Is this okay, or should I up her daily feed?"}
{"id": "t3_3m4144", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By mishearing some words", "post": "So todays fuck up occurred from monday to today. Just a quick little background here, I go to an engergy academy meaning theres loads of different engineering type of stuff going on. Half the time im down the workshop working on my project and theres this *one* girl thats notoriously known for being abit slutty.\n\nAnyways, towards the end of the day me and my friend are just finishing up cleaning our workspace when my lecturer, called john, goes into the back room to put some stuff away who is shortly followed by the mentioned slutty girl above. After about 10 seconds I hear faint talking followed by a *\"Do you want a hand Job?\"* to which John replies *\"Hmm, I could do with one\"*.\n\nNow my friend heard this as well and we were in fucking shock that we'd overheard such a thing, so naturally we spill the beans to our friends.\n\nTuesday comes and the word got spread around that she'd given our lecturer a hand job in the back room, now the fuck up begins here because today my head of year pulled me out of my form class at the start of the day and she looked fucking livid, she demanded me to come with her to her office where I was greeted by two lovely police people, John and said slutty girl. \n\nI sat down knowing that some teacher had over heard or someone had told a teacher about the incident in the back room because there was no way this was a tea party for me. Anyways some genreal chit chat went on and I was asked by one of the detectives (i assume?) to give my statement on what I heard said slutty girl say, I say what I heard, look up and said slutty girl is looking directly at me giving me the biggest evils of my life. She just stares and says *\"you fucking twat, are you thick? I said \"do you want a hand john?\" not a hand job you prick\"*. Shortly after I was suspended for awhile.\u00af\\_(\u30c4)_/\u00af\n\nTurns out she meant tidying up.", "summary": "misheard a word, wasnt as sexual a I thought, wasted popo's time, got suspended."}
{"id": "t3_myxz8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you have any (non-cheating) advice for someone who suffers from anxiety and has to take a polygraph test for a job?", "post": "I've been offered a job on the condition that I pass a background check and polygraph test.  I have had anxiety since I was in my teens and I am afraid I will over think the questions and somehow convince myself that I am lying.  I have some skeletons in my closet that I intend to be truthful about but I am extremely concerned that my anxiety will cause me to fail the test.  I don't want to cheat, I just want to do the best I can and hope that my honest answers still land me the job.  That being said, I can't seem to get my mind to give a simple \"yes\" or \"no\" to a question without going into a dialogue with myself about how I -might- actually be lying.\n\nI'm really in need of some advice here.  This job would mean the world to me- it's pretty much my dream job.  I can live with not getting the job if they don't like my honest answers, but I'm going to be devastated if I don't get it because they think I'm a liar.", "summary": "I'm afraid I will over think questions and convince myself that I might be lying, even if I'm not, causing me to fail the test."}
{"id": "t3_3un4s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My old roommate (25?) texted me (20) to move elliptical my mom (52) and I left behind in June 2015.", "post": "Backstory: My mom and I moved out of the old apartment because someone broke into our house and raided our rooms (bad neighborhood). I was given an elliptical by my friend and when we moved out, realized it wouldn't fit anywhere in the new apartment. My mom asked landlord if we can leave it, he said it was not a problem. \n\nThe old apartment was basically my sisters old place. We moved in when she moved out and her roommate/friend (not anymore though) remained. Our landlord is the roommates dad. \n\nOn Wednesday \"Ashley\" (not real name) texted me how I've been.. now I've never been close with her due to our age difference..so it was weird that she was texting me. \n\nWe had the usual catch up anyone would have. Then tells me.. \"Oh so you left this here and I need help moving it or if you can dissemble it\". \n\nNow I had no problem doing that at first, however she expected me to do it while she was on vacation and believing I still owned a copy of the house key. \n\nAfter speaking with my mom about it today, my mom told me \"Ashley said it was ok that it was left there\" and \"the landlord said we could leave it\"\n\nAfter multiple texts back and forth (passive aggressive) I told her, \"My mom is going to text your dad if he can help you because we can't right now.\" \n\nShe then proceeded to tell me how it's still my responsibility/inconvenience to her and her sister is coming to visit in mid-December so my mom and I have to figure out when we can come. I was pissed off after this.", "summary": "Moved out of old apartment back in June. Left elliptical because landlord said it was fine. Roommate (landlord's daughter) texted me to move or dissemble it before she comes back from vacation to accommodate her sister coming to visit. Was it right to get her dad/old landlord involved? or Should I/My mom have gone to get rid of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1rkqss", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Self diagnosed tibial stress fracture, 4 weeks relative rest from running, original pain causing site on bone painless for three weeks. Ready to start gradually rebuilding..?", "post": "..or just a desperate running crave kicking in?\n\nTwo months ago i started feeling localized pain 6cm up from the ankle, medially on my left tibia. As the pain always subsided after icing and compressing the leg after runs (i typically ran 50km weeks) i didn't think much on it before one day it suddenly hurt a little, tiny bit more, during a run. \nWhen i got home i iced it and googled for an hour to find sufficient information on the subject to make up my mind about what it could be. As the pain was very localized and with some minor oedema, i settled on a stress fracture and took the appropriate steps (no running) to facilitate it's healing. I  didn't feel the need to go see a doctor about it.\nAbout the same time i started a high dose prednisolon cure for IBD, and after about a week i could no longer feel any palpable pain on my leg. This is now three weeks ago, and once a week i have done a short test run out of desperation to check if the pain will return. It hasn't.", "summary": "Is the six-weeks period when you are to refrain from running completely non-negotiable? Does anyone have any experience starting their training regime before these six weeks? Will the bone healing process continue if i start running 5-10 kms a week the next month or will the healing plateua at the stage it is at now? How much has the prednisolone affected my recovery negatively by boneloss and inflammation suppression?"}
{"id": "t3_1qatwn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18/M] is getting extremely mixed signals from [19/F]", "post": "A little bit of backstory.\n\nI have known this girl for three years now. We shared classes for two years of High School, we have been extremely close friends. Able to talk about anything, super comfortable around eachother etc. I am very certain that she was into me junior year but i was going to study abroad for a year so I didn't want to start anything.  Now I'm back and here is when the confusion starts. \n\nEverytime we text eachother and make plans she is super positive and very insistent that I'll be sure to make it. And during the first five minutes of when we see eachother she is overjoyed and uses lots of body contact, sort of makes a point of being closer to me than anyone else. In a much more than a friendly way. But then later on she stopd completely, every time i try to approach her she makes some sort of excuse after a while so she can leave.\n\nI am extremely confused. Before and at the beginning she's acting exactly like she really likes me and later she's almost avoiding me. And this happens every time I meet her.\n\nI really like her but i have no idea to proceed or what response i can expect. I'd love your second opinion on this.", "summary": "girl alternates between overjoyed and avoiding towards me"}
{"id": "t3_h574p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm tired of seeing people that can't communicate properly.", "post": "I've been on an exploration into the ways people communicate and interact with each other (not for school, just personally), and quite frankly I see so many people (mostly the people I meet) that are compltely oblivious to their own types of communication. Mostly what I'm looking at is emotional intelligence and validation. It enrages me when I see people competely invalidate another's opinion/feelings when they are in sensitive environments. It goes completely unchecked because many people do it. A simple example of this is when someone is upset. Most people would tell them to not be sad and that they should be more postive, which is completely unhelpful and invalidates their feelings. So my question for reddit is, why are there so many (in my view) emotionally unskilled people? Am I the only one who's taken aback that many people don't understand simple emotional skills? Why don't they teach these things in school? I find it to be *such* a helpful skill when I'm connecting with other people. Conversely, I used to feel confused and angry at myself when conversations would go poorly because of my lack of knowledge.\n\nFor some reference to what I'm talking about, check out this [website] and the general one is [here] It has some helpful information. I'm not aware if this is something that other people have experienced or that its just who I've been around, but for the most part I've been able to conclude that there are many people that just don't get it. I was never brought up to have any of these skills, and I've always wondered why my parents were so clueless as well.", "summary": "Why are there many emotionally unskilled people? Is it not a problem?"}
{"id": "t3_33r6pl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "So I [f17] want to learn how to let the small things go in our [m16] relationship", "post": "So. I've been with him for over 8 months now. Breaking up is not an option here, just saying. \n\nI'm really bad at letting things go, even small things. If something bad happens between us, or if he does something that has bad effects, even small ones, I tend to take it and scrunch it around in my mind until it seems a lot bigger than it initially was. \n\nFor example, today, he doesn't reply to texts, and I found out from someone else that she and her friend are at his house. I get jealous quite easily, I know that already. But when she told me who was there, my heart starting beating ridiculously quickly. The reason is, is because my friend is there, as well as his ex. It's just them three. \n\nHe has no feelings for her, and I believe that, but due to their past I feel I'm pushing her away because of it. I don't know if she still has feelings for him, she apparently doesn't but the way she acts around him sometimes makes me doubt it. It's bad enough that I'm constantly racked with what I believe is anxiety, paranoia, and slight depression. \n\nI stress him out so much with my ridiculous tendencies, and I want to be able to trust him, but I have trust issues due to a bad long term relationship in the past. I don't want to ruin what we have, but I don't want to talk to him about it because it'll just make things worse and I'll end up pushing him away too. \n\nSo I'm asking for ways to let it go, or lessen my paranoia and jealous tendencies. I really hope you guys can help.", "summary": "trying to find ways to let go of bad feelings around SO's ex and small issues"}
{"id": "t3_3733i0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using my laptop.", "post": "So I have a laptop which is quite old and I use it to store files and browse Reddit. Last night it decided to completely lock up on me so I held down the power button and restarted. Crap. It got stuck in a reboot loop and kept BSODing. I tried to get in to start up repair but it won't load. I think Windows has corrupted or my HDD has failed (it's over 6 years old). To top it off, I'm going on holiday tomorrow and will be recording lots of footage on my phone and camera so would need to transfer it onto my laptop which I can't now :/\n\nI also already had about 65gb of GoPro footage from an event and 5gb worth of dash can footage on there which I've probably lost now.", "summary": "Used my laptop, now can't use it."}
{"id": "t3_fctx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you know if it's love or infatuation?", "post": "I am a first time poster to Reddit. I am 27 year old Female who has been working with a 29 year old Male for 9 months now. \n\nAlmost right away when he started working at my office we seemed to click in a friendship sort of way. We chat every day, send each other emails back and forth and flirt constantly. It's gotten more and more intense as the months have gone on.\n\nAfter about 4 months of knowing him, I started to think that I had fallen in love with him. (And strangely I have never been the type of person to think you can fall in love so fast. I am not a believer in love at first sight or anything quick like that). \nThere are a lot of factors in our lives that are keeping us from being together, and this has caused me to cry many tears over this guy. \n\nI can't get him out of my head. When I'm at work I always want to be around him or talk to him. It distracts me from my work a lot. When the weekend comes it is brutal because I know it's 2 days without him.\n\nAlthough I feel like I might have fallen in love, I'm honestly not sure if it's love or infatuation.", "summary": "What`s the difference between love and infatuation? How do you know which one you're feeling?"}
{"id": "t3_3fipnl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my co worker [19 F] 2 months, not sure if she is flirting with me", "post": "I'm not sure if this girl who I work with is flirting with me. I am a teenager and this is a part time job.  It seems like she is flirting since she is always smiling at me, talking to me and laughing. She always says I am doing a great job and compliments me. She has touched me when talking and stuff like that but it could be because we are trying to walk by each other when working. She always defends me too if a manager is giving me a hard time even if they are just kidding. She even gave me a nickname. \n\nI don't want to misinterpret her being nice or just being an outgoing person. Also I heard her say she has a boyfriend once when one customer was hitting on her. Plus there is some weird relationship with two of my managers and her. She lives with one of them I think and another one who is a guy drives them home a lot since they walk to work. This male manager is older than us and it could be that he is just friends with the other manager.", "summary": "I'm not sure if this coworker is flirting with me. How should I proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_2d9bnu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [45 M] with my [46 F] wife of 10 years - How did people here decide whether to get a divorce or not?", "post": "Maybe my story details aren't important.  I care for my wife and some aspects of our relationship are great.  We share a lot of common activities and interests.  We are attracted to each other.  We have built a good amount of contentment and a nice home together (no kids).\n\nI have been very unhappy at some inequalities though - I do more of the cooking/housework, I am the sole income provider, I give more effort in the bedroom (oral from her is rare, she doesn't take much action or initiative).\n\nI am working to address these problems but I really can't decide how much more effort I am willing to give.  In the past we've talked about these things, she's started arguments and personal attacks and I've basically lost my temper and then given in to her laziness. \n\nI feel really lost.  The good is very good but the bad is just filling me with resentment.  I don't know what to do - I'm afraid of what the future would be like without her, the painful disentangling of our lives and social circle, the alimony I will likely be stuck giving her for letting her sit around and do nothing these past 10 years.\n\nI'm not sure if I should try to work to fix this anymore, or if I'm buying into the sunk cost fallacy and I just need to take the loss and let this one go.\n\nThe problem is just with this crazy middle ground, nothing is terrible but I don't have any clear signs about what to do.", "summary": "I'm wondering how do I decide whether or not to get a divorce."}
{"id": "t3_33ssl9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21F] mom [49F] said she is done with my shit and she said she has been thinking in abandoning us.", "post": "A lot of stuff has been going on at home. Long story short: I basically blame her for my personality issues (scared of being judged, depression, skin picking, etc), and she thinks I don't appreciate all the things she do for me, but more recently, she just found out I had sex (I don't know how). She said she has been thinking in abandoning us, and that wasn't something she said because she was mad, as she told me she already told my dad about this. I have abandonment issues. I'm not going to lie, thinking about makes me want to kill myself (and throw away 2 years of therapy). \n\nUnfortunately I can't move out as my parents are paying college (private university and it's a big opportunity. Unfortunately I'm graduating in 2 1/2 years).", "summary": "I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3cko41", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not listening to my boyfriend", "post": "Obligatory this actually happened yesterday.\n\nLet me preface this by saying I'm a fucking idiot. Anyways, I was meandering around my boyfriend's apartment yesterday morning while he was on the couch watching tv. Suddenly he stops me and tells me tie my untied shoe. I looked down, and lo and behold the laces on my left converse were indeed untied. \n\nNow instead of tying them like any rational human being I instead smiled defiantly at my boyfriend and untied my other shoe. He's like \"pfft whatever\" and continues staring at the tv. Now fyi, the shoelaces on my converse are ridculously long for some reason, so at this point I decided to continue on my day walking around with long dangling laces. \n\nAgain I'm a fucking idiot. Well, about an hour later I'm moving a heavy fan from an upstairs bedroom to the living room. This was a very taxing job so I decided to take a rest in the kitchen. However, as I'm turning to leave, my right foot stepd on the shoelace of my left converse, and as I lift my foot to take a step, I trip spectacularly. I mean this was a circe de soleis quality fall, if circe de soleis specialized in being dumbass klutzes. I drop the fan and hurtle head first towards the ground. Unfortunately I instead hit the granite countertop with full force with my face. \n\nNow I'm lying on the ground with blood all over my mouth, specs of teeth floating around aimlessly. I'm crying like a banshee, which alerted my boyfriend, who was in the bathroom to come storming out. He quickly rushed me to the hospital where I found out that I had a broken jaw and chipped front teeth. Woo me!\nI'm better today but my face still looks like shit and my pride is irreversibly damaged.", "summary": "I should invest in velcro shoes."}
{"id": "t3_3rmg7x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My dad (56m) is cheating on my mom (54f) of 35 years with 2 women online. Should we confront him now while our mom is away?", "post": "Hey guys, I'm going to try and keep this short. My sisters and I had been suspicious that our dad was talking to other women. He works night time and when he gets home at 12:30am we hear the Facebook messenger ring for notifications. \n\nMy sister and I decided to snoop on him (Ik, it's not right but I can't stand here looking at my dad talk to women and hurt mom) so we went on his computer. He deletes history and everything, but when you go to his Facebook and you put in his email, his password shows up automatically. So finally, there my sister and I are, reading what he has been saying. We thought it was one women, it was 2. The third one ignored him. Guys, what he says to them breaks my heart. He says he loves them and want to marry them. To one, he asked for her number and got it. These women are not from the US. He offered one a Visa. \n\nAs of Friday, our mom was out the country visiting family. She comes home Sunday morning. We were planning on calling him out on Saturday before mom comes home. We don't want her to find out. Lately she hasn't been feeling well. She has had a lot of high blood pressure and we don't want her to get even more sick. \n\nOur mom is a hard working woman. She gets up at 3am to cook and leave him a meal, goes to work are 5:30, does overtime and gets home at 6pm and cleans the house. Why is he doing this to her? She treats him like a king...\n\nReddit, should we wait on calling him and and collect more evidence or tell him this Saturday before mom gets home? Idk... If anything, what would you guys do?", "summary": "Dad is talking to bitches on Facebook. What should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_15pjfc", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why...", "post": "Why did I let you lead me on? Because you told me you loved me. I've known you for so long. I left Aliiee for a lot of reasons, And you we're number one. But that happend four months ago, and last night you just told me you'd rather be with Clint. That you hope he does the right thing and tells Marcus about how much you guys like each other. And There isn't anything I can do to make you mine that I haven't done already. You say Only time will tell, and that you aren't ready for a relationship, So if I get friend zoned, then so be it I guess.  You don't like how I smoke bud, So i've told you I'll quit the pot if you want. You got jealous over me and Frances being fwb, But I asked you for weeks before me and her even thought of this little scheme to take a leap of faith for me. But Like I tell you everyday, I'm here for you. And I'm here just chillin. Your choice is your own, But my choice is you.", "summary": "I want her, but she doesn't want me."}
{"id": "t3_34rh9q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 F] with my [26M] 2 month, casual dating", "post": "I've been seeing a guys for almost two months now casually. We agreed on this but I always will have questions when it comes to\ngaps in certain stories. We have been spending the night with each more often as of late. \nThe other morning I was getting ready to leave his house and hanging up one of his jackets I was wearing and in his closet and found a huge box of tampons on the shelf. Not an old box, recently purchased. Since we are casual/not serious we haven't reached a point where I've asked him to buy something like that for me. I generally do my own thing during that time of month. \nI'm curious if I should even mention to him. I wasn't snooping. They weren't well hidden. Is it possible he is seeing someone more serious and lying to me about it? I think I should gtfo because it seems a little weird to have them there and not in the bathroom. Help me shed some light on this!", "summary": "Found large box of tampons in new guys closet. Not"}
{"id": "t3_2hsoc8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28f) think he (28m) is going to end it just because I was too touchy in public with him. Any way I can save this?", "post": "We've been dating a month and a half. Everything was going great until last weekend. I guess I was touching him too much, according to him. I thought it was normal for new couples to have regular contact but he's from a country where men are really expected to chase the woman and the woman is expected to resist. I told him on Wednesday when we talked about it that I won't do it again, but I'm afraid the damage has been done. He went out of town this week. I did not attempt to contact him. He texted me this morning and it seemed very cold. He always calls me \"beautiful girl\" when he texts me and today he called me by my name. And he didn't give any kiss signals and it felt very unromantic. I told him I couldn't meet today (we made plans before with his roommate but i thought I should give him space) but that I could on Wednesday. I think he is going to end it. I'm just wondering how I can tell him to just relax and that it's not serious. I'm just trying to get to know his boundaries. What's my best bet? Should I be really flirty when I see him so that he feels excitement? Should I act aloof? Should I kiss him when we meet like we always have?", "summary": "Guy was freaked out by me touching him too much. I think he's going to break up with me. How can I do my best to stop it?"}
{"id": "t3_3x2vpx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [15m] want to find anyone possible to get with her [16f]?", "post": "Alright, so about a year and a half ago I met this girl at a small chamber music group. At first, all I though was that she was very good looking and alright whatever. \n\nBut then as I got to know her more, I developed a giant crush on her. I learned that not only is she a great violinist, but she is also an amazing guitarist, singer, and actress. She is incredibly talented at performing arts (which is what I'm into, and what to go into more.) While we were in this group, she would always throw me compliments or talk to me about something, and I would just kind of awkwardly thank her for her compliment or awkwardly talk to her (I was very shy around her, since she was really talented and pretty.)  I've come to very much regret this, because I've come back to think that all these compliments might have been her attempting to flirt with me. \n\n So when I was around her, I was very shy and we weren't very good friends, even though she attempted to talk to me. After that, I got sick and missed several weeks of practice. In between, I learned that she was moving to Tennessee, but I was so sick I've never gotten to say goodbye. \n\n When she left, that only made me miss her more and I got very sad that she was gone. I grew almost an obsession for her, and I think I may be in love with her. Unfortunately, my sickness didn't get much better, so I left the group I had her in and quit the teacher. When I got a little better, my mom suggested a new teacher since the old one was kind of mean. However, recently I learned that this girl is coming back, rather for a quick visit or a prolonged visit or permanently I have no idea. However, if she is coming back to the same teacher I won't be there. It seems like I'll have no chance to see her let alone date her, but I think I'm in love with her and she's so incredibly talented. What do you guys suggest?", "summary": "There's no way I can talk to her, but I want to talk to her"}
{"id": "t3_qkmq3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My 12 year old little sister is in a relationship going where it shouldn't for a 7th grader.", "post": "My 12 year old 7th grader little sister is in a sexual relationship with a douche bag who is disrespectful to my family, myself, and quite often my little sister.\n\nShe left her facebook logged in and i was reading some messages. I knew it was bad and that this kid is a scumbag but i didn't realize just how bad it was. There talking about sex, making out, having kids, getting married all that first love obsessed shit. Meanwhile she is flunking out of 7th grade because of how much time she wastes on this kid.\n\nWhat should i do, Kick his ass and set him strait? Do my best to not let them see each other? I could try to keep them appart and try to get her to realize how big a mistake shes making.\n\nFrom the facebook messages you can tell there not great for each other, They have constant issues where every other day someone will be pissed off and say they need a break but nothing happens, They always end up right where they were before.\n\nSo i don't really know what to do. Im afraid if i mess this up by kicking the little punks ass that she will hate me and just go back to him because of what i did, But i need to show her how wrong she is being wasting all her time with this kid.", "summary": "7th grade sister is in a bad relationship with an absolute scumbag. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1el33u", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "How do I keep a large group of kids occupied without them being loud?", "post": "So tomorrow I am working as an invigilator at the English exam for kids, who are not native speakers. There will be a point when I have to keep a group from 10 to 25 kids (6-12 years), who are waiting for their turn, occupied and I have no idea how. That should be something not requiring them being active as it will be in the classroom and there will be exams in the classes next to it, so they should not scream too loud:) Unfortunately, the amount of skill to deal with kids is zero, I am veeeeeery far from parenting (if ever). And the games should be preferably in English but easy for those whose first language is not English", "summary": "Games to have 10-25 kids busy without running and being loud."}
{"id": "t3_136q7a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Symptoms of anything serious?", "post": "I came here for advice for my boyfriend, because he is too busy working all week and has no time to go to the doctors. I just want some insight, to see if it's something small or something we should really be worried about. He is really nervous and I want to tell him it's nothing serious, but I don't know for sure. This has happened a couple times already, but whenever he ate a big meal, his stomach would ache, and it would extend to his back, to the point where he feels like his back is going to give up on him. Another issue is back pains he has been experiencing recently, and the fact that he has a small bump on the back of his head just above his neck that hurts when touched. A little more information is that he dedicates most of his days working and it involves him taking the bus in the cold for hours, if that has anything to do with it. He is 18 years old. Thanks Reddit.", "summary": "Boyfriend has been feeling weak, stomach & back pains and a irritating bump on the back of his head."}
{"id": "t3_19i2hc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Found out my co-worker is sleeping with my boss. Need Advice.", "post": "So I'm at work today and my coworker unlocks her phone as we are talking and the first thing that pops up is a naked picture of her that the recipient was the boss. She didn't notice that I saw and quickly changed the screen. The problem comes in that I thought her and I were friends but as it turns out I'm on of only two people who didn't know this was going on. I feel lied too and like my friend dosen't trust me as she has told me they are not having sex, and even later that day told me its been years since she's had sex. Am I stupid for feeling like this or should it be expected as both could get fired if upper management finds out?", "summary": "co-worker sexting/sexing boss and lies to a supposed about it."}
{"id": "t3_hpka6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is your worst craigslist experience?", "post": "Mine happened very recently and would not probably compare to other people's stories but anyway, I sold a latest generation Kindle for $100 through craigslist (Los Angeles) which included a nice sleeve worth $29 bucks on Amazon. Met the buyer at a coffee shop, at a fairly busy cross-street walkable from where I work. He asked if he can get it for $90. I told him no, because the Kindle is in like-new condition plus I'm giving him the sleeve as well. He then said okay and gave me his money. He counted it in front of me, but I wasn't really paying attention (it was a little distracting since we were outside the coffeeshop and there were lots of people and cars around). So I said thank you and he went away and crossed the street. Before leaving, I decided to recount the money and noticed that this old guy only gave me $90! So I started to follow him and texted him about it, he didn't reply. I called him and saw him looked at his phone and rejected my call. He turned off his phone (or maybe he was rejecting it promptly after that). Anyway, I texted him and told him that what he did was not cool. I mean seriously, who would do shit like that for 10 dollars?! A few minutes, he started replying to me and said that I may have dropped his other ten bucks which of course was a lie. I told him I was walking behind him and saw him reject my call. He didn't say anything about that and insisted that I probably dropped the other ten. Unfortunately, I lost him in the crowd after he 'illegally' crossed the street. It also didn't help that there was a farmer's market on the next street. Anyway, I'm still shocked from this experience. I've sold many things online before and on craigslist in particular; and this is the first time something like this happened. People can be just depressing sometimes. Sorry, throwaway.", "summary": "sold a kindle 6\" for $100 with sleeve, man gave $90 in cash instead and immediately rushed away and disappeared. man denied giving the wrong amount. wtf right?"}
{"id": "t3_16ustf", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[22/m] Am I being whiney baby or should I break up with my (22/f) girlfriend?", "post": "First a little bit of back story.  I live with my girlfriend that I have known for 5 years, and been with for 4.  She was my first and only girlfriend.  I moved across the country to be with her.  We met through some mutual friends and chatted all the time online but she was in a bad relationship.  She eventually broke up with this guy she \"dated\" online and asked her out shortly afterward.  \n\nNow I'm wondering if I rushed into something because I was desperate and young and I'm worried that I haven't dated enough.  Although we make each other laugh and generally have a good time, I find myself not being a physically attracted (to her body, she is still pretty in the face) to her anymore.  She is really hard to hold an intellectual conversation with and I feel like we aren't getting along as easily as we used to.  She is interested in a lot of the same things I am and is generally cool with me wasting time on myself in order to better my career.   \n\nIn short, I am very inexperienced with relationships and dating in general.  Am I being whiney about this and should just accept the faults in this relationship and work harder to fix them somehow, or should I break up and see what else is out there?", "summary": "I'm in my first relationship ever with a low maintenance, fun girl.  I don't find her physically attractive anymore,  I don't feel intellectually stimulated in the relationship and she doesn't take care of herself as well as she should.  Should I break up?"}
{"id": "t3_1yrfb9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my [20 F] bf [22 M] embarrassed by me?", "post": "This may be trivial but lately it's been irking me. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are both pretty introverted and mainly like to spend our time alone or together. However, we've moved to a new place recently and we've both made new friends. \n\nHe's only ever invited me to hang out with them once, and the one time he did, he later said to me \"I'm glad I invited you, you were actually funny.\" Emphasis on the actually.\n\nI understand my family and I may have a bit of a strange sense of humor at times, but I do hold the opinion that I'm relatively funny, and this comment kind of surprised me. Does he not think I'm funny? Is he embarrassed by the way I act and that's why he has so rarely invited me to hang out with him and his friends?\n\nThen, just recently, he was playing league over at my place and was talking to a couple of his buddies that he was playing with online on skype. I made a couple of jokes to make my presence known since I was in the room with him and could hear everything they were saying. I heard the guys on the other end laugh, boyfriend was too but kept trying to shush me. \n\nHe later told me he worries about my joking sometimes because he remembers meeting his friends' \"weird\" girlfriends in the past and that it made him feel awkward. He says it's never gotten to that point with me, but it seems he's worried I'll breech into \"weird\" territory with my joking at some point and that's why he tries shushing me. wtf?\n\nI just don't know if I buy that. Seems he already thinks I'm weird. He also seems a bit overly concerned of what his friends might think of me.\n\nI always make the same sorts of jokes, it's my sense of humor. Up until this point I thought we shared similar ground on that, but I guess we don't? I'm not even that eccentric with it! I know that the way I joke can be stupid at times, but I also know when to quit it and I know what's inappropriate. This is all just confusing to me.", "summary": "Boyfriend is very hesitant of me around his friends and has tried shushing me. Is he embarrassed by me?"}
{"id": "t3_3lofx7", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "(25M) looking for advice regarding exgf (25F) suffering from depression and anxiety wanting to keep contact", "post": "Sorry for the long post, skip to last paragraph if you prefer.\n\nI've been with my GF for 5 years, we had overall a great relationship, talked everyday and saw each other very frequently. Around a year into our relationship my GFs started a depression following her parents divorce. Ive always done my best to be there for her and support her when she needed to talk. Over the 5 years my gf had on and off periods of being \"down\" where she basically just wanted to stay inside and sleep. We still had great times and memories, many trips and family events together. She often talked about how excited she was about being able to get married together and have kids as soon as im done law school (in a yr and a half). I went on a 3 week trip last month and everyday she msgd me and told me she missed me. Super happy to see me when i got back.\nLast week she unexpectedly broke up with me, saying she was unhappy with her life (she often complained of saying she not beautiful and as skinny as she use to be... shes by no means fat and is still extremely beautiful) she said she needed to learn to be happy by herself to be happy in a relationship so she broke it off. I struggled alot this week wanting her back, but i stuck to simply asking her how her day was and a quick hello.\nYesterday she messaged me saying she misses talking to me, and she she has to be happy alone but wants to keep talking regularly and would like to keep seeing eachother occasionally.\nMy hope is that she might want to get back together after abit of time alone although i know its unlikely. Do you guys think keeping contact with her and seeing her will help my case or most likely just antagonize her even if shes the one who mentioned wanting to still see each other.\n\n(", "summary": ")"}
{"id": "t3_1dix1p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most creative thing you could do with $350? More info and story in comments.", "post": "My wife and I have a pair of very close friends that we did a lot for (with no expectation of anything more than a thank you) about a year ago when they were getting married. We threw them a shower, I married them (thanks to the internet), and my wife recorded the whole event which we later edited nicely. They recently offered to pay for a nice dinner to repay us. We didn't want to accept but they said that wasn't an option. So they give us a card with a $350 Visa gift card in it and after several rounds of refusal it is clear that they will be offended if we decline.\n\nSo reddit, how can we use this $350 in a way that will make them proud? Some of our thoughts are to get them airbrushed shirts and souvenirs with their names on it, document every penny that we spend and make them a video, buy $350 worth of PBR and hot wings and dedicate the feat to their honor. Hit me with your most creative ideas, we really want to do more than pay for the hotel room.", "summary": "Very generous friends gave my wife and I $350, need fun ways to spend it that they would get a kick out of."}
{"id": "t3_544kul", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've (25, f) never felt so alone in my life.", "post": "I really feel like I'm in crisis. I am 25, f I have a good job and will finish my masters in a two months. My husband is 24, m and in the Army. \n\nFive weeks ago he decided he was done with our marriage of two years. He didn't like having to consider my opinion when he made decisions because of my reactions. I told him that I could work on my reactions and went to counseling. He agreed I did change for the better and he could tell I was working hard to fix us, but he didn't change his mind.\n\nTwo days ago, I find out I'm six weeks pregnant. I told him, of course right away. I asked him what he wanted, and laid out our options after going to planned parenthood yesterday. However, since I told him he hasn't come home. I have never felt so alone. If he is done with me and wants to end the pregnancy, why isn't he just telling me? I feel neglected during a time I really need to at least heat his opinion. Does the Army have resources to help me?", "summary": "husband is done with relationship. I am pregnant, scared and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2fath3", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Lots of disposable income. How to use it wisely?", "post": "Hi there! I am a 26 year old male that, like the title says, has a lot of disposable income. I'd like some advice on the best way to utilize it. I read the \"I have $X, what do I do with it\" thread and I seem to be a little outside of it. Here's a breakdown: \n\n- I make about $100k a year at my main job. \n- I make $1k to $3k per month at my side job, most of which is (legally) tax-free. \n- My house is mortgaged at $1500/mo for 30 years through FHA. When my credit will allow it, I'll refinance for 15 years, drop the PMI, and continue on. Don't have the credit history/income history for that just yet though. I have only made 2 payments on this house so far and can probably refinance after filing taxes next year. \n- I'm financing a car for $600/mo. I pay $100/mo extra on it, and my company pays me $400/mo for it. I have 3.5 years left on the loan. \n- Besides the car and house, I have no debt. I use credit cards for all of my purchases and pay them in full every single month. \n- I'm single, have no kids, have no health issues, and no reason to maintain a large amount of cash on hand other than to deal with the usual ridiculousness that life likes to throw at folks.\n- I'm maxing out my company's 401k match. \n\nSo, I'm wondering how I can best use my additional income. I enjoy fun purchases like games and going out with friends, but now that I've bought my house and tons of new furniture, the extra money is just piling up again and I'd rather put it to good use. \n\nI've been extensively educated on day trading and swing trading but the market sucks right now. I've made quite a bit of money in the past at it but haven't been able to really get anywhere in the past year or so.", "summary": "lots of income, only debt is house/car. what do?"}
{"id": "t3_zm7zb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I've created a very messy situation and I'm not sure what to do next. [m-19 + f-20]", "post": "Hi, so first thing's first I'm 19 nearly 20 and my girlfriend is 20 nearly 21. She's moving into her third year of University and I'm moving into my second. We've been going out since I was 14, for just over five years. \n\nBasically, I have serious doubts that she is the person I want to be with and that I found my soul mate at 14, but I do really feel like I love her. About a year and a half ago we broke up for just over a month because I felt like that, but we kept talking and didn't really ever break contact and so we decided to get back together. \n\nHere's where I did the stupid things; my parents were worried I was settling into a relationship too early, so when I got back together with my girlfriend, I didn't bother telling my parents. One and a half years later, I still haven't told them, but my girlfriend believes I have. Anyway today I told them, and they were shocked, but understanding, and said they had their suspicions, which I believe. I also believe my girlfriend questions whether I have actually told them about us.\n\nNow I have two things here really - I feel like I probably should never have got back with her, it was only the familiarity etc that bought us back together. She really loves me, and I'm not unhappy around her, but I feel like I don't want to spend my life with her, or at least shop around first, which sounds awful, but I mean I'm scared, because what if she is the one? I really feel like I've warped my head getting in a serious relationship so young. \n\nMy other thing is, do I tell her the truth? It would really crush her, but it might make her hate me a little bit, which could be easier to break up with her. \n\nI know I sound like a callous person, and I know I really fucked up, but it was honestly just one of those mistakes that carries on. There's a part of me that doesn't want to let go, just in case, but there's a part of me that really wants to explore the world, single, with different girlfriends etc.", "summary": "started serious relationship when I was 14 and having serious doubts now, on top of that I've lied to both my parents and girlfriend about the relationship."}
{"id": "t3_3egsyn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (18M) and girlfriend (18F) my girlfriend out up a wall and i don't know what to do", "post": "i have been with my girlfriend for about a year and 3 months now and i don't know how much longer that will last. I'm in love with this girl but I've done terrible things to her. \n\nlong story short is that I'm jealous and possessive and i did not realize that this was wrong until recently she called me with the intentions to leave me. i tried molding her into something that i liked and had a problem with her talking to guys or wearing certain things out etc. \n\nshe lied our entire relationship saying that she didn't want to talk to boys or do these things that i made seem not okay. i was mentally abusive. I realize now that i put my girl through abuse and I'm repulsed by myself and saying sorry will never be enough. we talked about it and i know what is wrong with me and i know what i have to do and shes giving me a second chance but the only thing is is that she has put up a very thick and tall wall and i don't know what to do. \n\ni know that a lot of you probably have no sympathy for me and i don't blame you but if you guys could give me some advice on the matter that would be very much appreciated. Thank you", "summary": "I put my girl through a mentally abusive relationship and she put a huge wall up and i don't know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_cnh8h", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What should I do to diplomatically \"stir the pot\" at work?", "post": "So the company I work for is good, our CEO is cool, and I like my job. Here's the problem: we're understaffed for what we do, management blows off our complaints and says we're doing fine, and no one is communicating with us peons and people are jumping ship, which then increases the problem of being understaffed. \n\nOur CEO is approachable and open to hearing our concerns, but the last time I contacted him, it was in an email that I copied to all the middle management, and I got my ass handed to me by several of those middle management people for sending him an email. I would prefer to not have my ass chewed out again, but I am also at a point where I don't mind sticking up for my colleagues and getting the help we all need. It's not like they can fire me for bringing this up, and hell, if they want to fire me for it, so be it.", "summary": "my company is understaffed, CEO is approachable, how do I get him to help us?"}
{"id": "t3_3bbf4g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How to have conversation with my (29M) fiancee (30F) about the costs of treating a pet with cancer. [Four year relationship]", "post": "Using a throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nMy fiancee and I have been dating for about four years and she's had a very beloved cat for around a decade. A number of years back (before we met), the cat had a nasty bout of cancer, she went into a significant amount of debt treating the cat (surgery, chemo, etc.), and miraculously the cat survived. It's now been about 4-5 years since that round of treatment. We are both in love with our furbaby.\n\nWe recently found out that the cancer has returned. The vets are running a number of diagnostic tests to evaluate the viability of various treatment options, but I'm concerned that (1) treatment will not be particularly effective and (2) we can't afford the  extreme measures my fiancee will want to pursue.\n\nWe're both currently well-paid but are in the midst of relocating to a different city and to significantly lower paying jobs (think 70% paycut). I still have a huge amount of debt (six figures) from a post-graduate degree, we have a wedding to pay for, and we'd like to buy a house in the near future. Money is tight right now.\n\nHow do I bring up the cost of treatment for the cat (evaluated against the amount of time and quality of life it's likely to bring the cat) and my related concerns without seeming completely callous? I love this cat dearly, but I'm experiencing a lot of anxiety about the sorts of expenses my fiancee may be willing to put us through, expenses we frankly can't afford.", "summary": "We have a very sick cat and cannot afford the sort of treatment finacee may wish to pursue. How do I bring this up and convey my concerns appropriately?"}
{"id": "t3_466fcy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I cheer myself up?", "post": "Hey guys! Wall of text incoming, but I need to get something off of my chest. For context, I'm a 17 year old guy that's a senior in highschool. Around friends, I'm always making jokes, making people laugh, and what not. I'm living a great life. I play on a football team that just won a state championship, I'm starting to talk to an amazing girl, I've just recently gotten into the college of my dreams, I have a great part time job, and I'm graduating in just a couple of months. However recently, I just haven't been happy. My core group of friends have stopped talking to me, and everything just seems to be falling apart. One of my best friends told me that the reason we all don't hang out together is because the other guys just don't want to go if I will be there. Hearing that instantly made me sad/angry. It hurt. A lot. Anyways, everything in my life seems to be going my way except for that and, in theory, I should be super happy. I'm just... not. I have no idea what to do. I've been in this slump for a few months now, but nothing seems to change. I just don't have a core group of friends to talk about it to anymore, and it sucks. I don't think it's depression, but what do i know, I'm just 17. Nothing seems to make me truly happy anymore, and I just don't know what to do. What do you guys think?  Anyways, thank you guys for taking the time to read this, it means a lot to me!", "summary": "Living a great life, but nothing seems to satisfy me or make me"}
{"id": "t3_38c9yp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "should I [M,23] tell my new gf [F,23] that Im upset with her?", "post": "So, a tiny bit of background then I'll get to it,\n\nWe have been together for around 5 months, we see each other normally once between Monday to Friday and we try to spend as much time as we can together on the weekend, I have to work long hours at work pretty much every day and she's very understanding.\n\nHowever it seems she only wants to see me on her terms. If I try and see her during the week she normally says its too late (9pm) or she's just going to go to bed, we see each other on the weekend however she sometimes goes out with her friends in the evening, never invites me and my mates along. We normally spend Sunday at her auntys which she then wants to be dropped home at around 7pm and then asks me if it's alright if I go home.\n\nNow I get past all this, sometimes its annoyed me but its ok, however her and her family are having a family day on Saturday, I've been out with her family a few times and now they are making an active effort of just not inviting me? And my other half just thinks it's all ok and that I'm very understanding. Which I'm obviously not.\n\nIt isn't that I need to spend every waking hour with her however it would be nice to just spend some? As most of the time it just feels like we are just partners over the phone.\n\nWould you be annoyed? And how do I approach her about all this?", "summary": "seems gf never wants to see me and only when it's alright for her."}
{"id": "t3_2e8n5a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] was asked by my friend [14F] to help set up for a party", "post": "Today my friend texted me, asking me if I'm available to set up for a party that she would be hosting at her house tomorrow night. Originally i thought it would be a party that i would be able to attend so i eagerly accepted. But after texting her repetitively throughout the day i found out that she wanted me to help clean and prepare for a party that i wouldn't even be invited to. She wanted me to help her set up simply because \"Out of the goodness of my heart.\"\n\nBecause I'm not a band (marching) member she said i wasn't invited and wouldn't be allowed to attend.\nNow i don't particularly care if i was invited or not,but what really ticks me off is she had the audacity to ask me to help willingly knowing that she wouldn't pay me or at least allow me to attend.\n\nThen when i said i thought what she did was inappropriate that she should have asked someone else she started angrily texting me and calling me \"childish\" for \"whining\" about not being invited. Also that i should \"not care that i wasn't invited and simply just help.\"\n\nDid i do something wrong here?", "summary": "Female friend asked me to help set up for a party that i wasn't invited to"}
{"id": "t3_286s9w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I have this problem. I [28 M] am nuts about my roommate [22 F]. We are really into each other, but she has a boyfriend. What should I do.", "post": "Ive been living with this girl (and two others) for 5 months and Im moving out in a few weeks.  Ive been nuts about her the entire time Ive been living here, but we have just started to hit it off in the last few weeks.\n\nLast night we went to the huge park nearby and just talked for three hours.  I otld her that if she is ever single agian Id like to see where things could go between us.  I figured that was a respectful way of saying that I want her to dump her boyfriend and date me.  Now Im at a dead end and no clue what my next move should be.", "summary": "Im been nuts about my roommate for months.  Now that Im moving out how do I get her to dump her boyfriend and give me a shot."}
{"id": "t3_552898", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [21M] girlfriend [23F] of 2 years is mad at me for getting sad about our sex life.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been having sex for a long time now which included a fetish of mine. I wont get into detail, but I can assure you its nothing extreme or disgusting. Its in fact a very common fetish.\n\nYesterday she informed me that she no longer wants to perform said sexual act, which in turn made me very sad. Now one day later, she is extremely upset about the fact that I got sad and called me out for only seeing her as a sex object. \n\nI dont know what to think myself Reddit. Was it okay for me to get upset or should I just have brushed it off? I was planning to propose to her soon. Should I cancel my plans?\n\nPlease help, I'm really confused.", "summary": "Girlfriend is mad at me because I got sad when she stopped performing a certain sexual act."}
{"id": "t3_4po8ib", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33F] with my boyfriend [31M] of 6 months, I am curious about something but don't know how, or if I should, approach it with him.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months and things are really great.  I had some trouble opening up to him at first but I'm getting better at it, and things are going really well.  \n\nThe only thing that sometimes bothers me is our sex life.  It used to be more adventurous but it seems to be a lot of the same old same old now.  We definitely don't sext anymore and it's dropped off a bit, where we have sex maybe once a week.  And he only seems to be able to finish half the time.  I don't want to ask him about it since I don't want to put pressure on him or seem like I'm bitching, but I'm kinda curious as to why it's happening. \n\nI know I shouldn't let it bother me but it's started to a little.  I want to feel like enough for him and when it happens I don't.  Also, I might add that he's incredibly lazy and also that I don't think sex is the most important part of a relationship for him.\n\nAny thoughts, especially from men or women who have been in this situation before, would be appreciated.", "summary": "My boyfriend only seems to be able to finish half the time we have sex.  Seemed like a lot more in the beginning.  Things are better than ever so I'm not sure why."}
{"id": "t3_51gjjw", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Former employer refuses to pay me for my remaining PTO after leaving. Who is right?", "post": "First off I will preface by saying I am in the US, and more specifically MA. I know many states have differing laws on this so I feel that this is important to say.\n\nSecondly, if this is the wrong sub, please let me know and I'll change it. It just seems like the best place to get some help.\n\nI had been working at my most recent job for roughly a year and change when I had to move for family reasons. Before I left I confirmed that I had about 6 days PTO unused, and according to my knowledge of the MA labor laws this is something that I have earned and therefore should be compensated for. I left assuming that I would be getting this with my final paycheck, but was surprised to find ~~that not only was~~ this not included~~, but I was paid much less than I usually am per period, despite being salaried.~~\n\nSo from my point of view, I should be entitled to the 6 days worth of PTO, ~~plus the remainder of the pay period that I was not paid for.~~\n\nMy employer does not see it that way, and claims ~~that since I only worked 4 days out of the last bi-monthly pay period, then I only earned 4 days worth and~~ that the PTO is not mine until I take it.\n\nIf it helps, this is a very small company, ~15 people, and I'd like to not burn any bridges.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Was not paid for my remaining PTO ~~and paid less than expected for last pay period despite being salaried~~, what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_zp893", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Are humans meant to be aware of our own mortality?", "post": "I'm inclined to think that humans are not meant to dwell on their own mortality. ***More specifically, we are not meant to think about the possibility of a gruesome and/or accidental death***, or witness the occurrence of these events. I've come to this conclusion by the following reasons:\n\n1. Many people are highly disturbed by, or literally nauseated by gore videos or photos. I'm not talking the Saw series, I'm talking real videos of death. Sure, many people are intrigued by light gore--think video games, movies, etc. But there is a line that is crossed when we're aware that what we're seeing is no longer fake--that it is very much real. \n\n2. The immortality complex. All people seem to have the innate belief that, while other people die, we will live many years and die of old age. Without even addressing an accidental death, I find that most people don't even consider the likelihood of contracting a common disease or condition that would be fatal before old age.\n\n3. What our higher-thinking mind is not interested in entertaining, our instincts and reflexes can handle. We're all very capable of sensing danger, identifying it, and reacting to it in a way to protect ourselves from harm. I make this point to say that it would almost seem that we're hardcoded to avoid death, which has the added benefit of keeping it off of our minds.\n\nDoes reddit agree? Are we meant to be blissfully ignorant of our mortality and enjoy life unburdened by disturbing thoughts and images of death?\n\nSome background information that might be useful to this thread--I'm a college student in my early 20s. I have never witnessed any person die. I've seen my fair share of real gore videos.", "summary": "are we supposed to think about the act of dying? "}
{"id": "t3_52c60o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19F] texting girl [18F] but she suddenly stopped answering. What do I do now", "post": "Tbh I'm terrible at texting. I'm good in person but my words don't translate well into text which is why I usually try not to text women but rather see them in person\n\nMet this girl at a party, really hit it off there, she specifically walked up to me before she left to give me her number\n\nNext day I texted her in the afternoon and we talked consistently until maybe 7 when she just suddenly stopped replying. Text was something about how I might go smoke some herb (she smokes as well). Could be a number of reasons for her bailing but also could also be my admittedly rather boring texting\n\nShould I text her again soon or leave it be? Tbh I don't really care either way not particularly attached to her after meeting her once", "summary": "terrible at texting girls, what does it mean if she suddenly stops answering?"}
{"id": "t3_fs9n7", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Just got an eviction notice, how can we fight this?", "post": "Some background information: \n\n8 college students living in an 8 bedroom house, we received a \"lease termination notice\" today that cites two incidents which I will explain. \n\nOne incident cites us for having more than the allowed number of persons in the house, which we are guilty of...a party got out of control and the cops came to our house. HOWEVER, our landlord said he would serve us a formal warning, which NEVER happened...we never heard from him on this issue again and assumed it was no longer an issue.\n\nThe second incident was my 21st birthday, we all went out to the bars and one of our friends sustained a head injury at the bar that we did not realize until we got back to the house.", "summary": "our landlord is trying to kick us out with a month and a half left of school"}
{"id": "t3_ph2zw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me prove Apple lied, I need my computer fixed!", "post": "Help me out guys, i'm pissed off at Apple right now-\n\nI recently had my 13\" MBP (bought August 2011) repaired at an Apple Store because of a few problems it was having:\n\n\t1. It would randomly \"turn off\" for no reason. Battery wasn't dead. The screen would go black and no combination of pressing buttons would turn it on/ reset or anything. The white light on the front would not turn on (i.e. it didn't just go to sleep). Eventually it would turn back on with the faded screen with load bars at the bottom as if it had been plugged in after dying because of dead battery. It would do this without being plugged in.\n\n\t2. The sound jack stops working at times. I'll unplug my headphones and the speakers won't work. I plug headphones back in and still nothing. I can turn the volume up or down on the computer but it's not outputting any audio. The only way to remedy this is to turn it off which is a pain. \n\nI took the computer in and they covered a replacement of the logic board under warranty. Cool. Not one week later the computer does the shut off thing randomly and has done so a few times in the past month. The sound went off again, it currently is right now as I type. \n\nThinking this shouldn't have happened, I look at the connections on the side of the computer and they are still the same. The power connection has the same dust it had before I took it in. If the logic board was replaced, wouldn't all the connections have been new too??\n\nFinally, I call Apple today and tell them all of this and they say I can't take my MBP to a different Apple store than the one I had my repairs done at. I'm in college and can't just go back to the one in my hometown. They guy on the phone told me that was my only option.\n\nReddit: How do I prove that they did not change the logic board? What options do I have for getting this repaired through another channel other than my hometown Apple store.", "summary": "Apple claims to have repaired my logic board but I suspect they didn't. How can I prove they did not actually repair? (I'm in college and can't go back to the Apple store where I had the repairs done and there is not an Apple store anywhere near my school)."}
{"id": "t3_4cb7to", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] and my friends decided to play a prank on my BF [23m] and he did not take it so well", "post": "So boyfriend has always talked about his small town he came from and how it was surrounded by woods and how the locals would call it repeating woods. \n\nBecause it is really easy to get lost in there if you don't go on one of the trails  and if you don't know the woods if you go off trail.\n\nWe went down to his home town to see where he was from and just meet his friends and family. We decided to play a prank on him and one of his friends from there. \n\nWe were having this BBQ at the local park it was him and his friend and the rest of us all in all about 12 people there. \n\nMy boyfriend and his friend were at the seats talking and the way we played the pranks was myself and two others sneaked off and hid in the bushes that were near by. \n\nsomeone said hey have you seen Mira (me), Tyson and Nicole they went to go check out the woods and they left a while ago. and apparently my boyfriend and his friend looked panicked and they started asking which way we went. \n\nThey were directed in the way their was no trail, and I saw them take off towards the entrance to the woods and they were screaming our names . \n\nwe let this go on for 20 minutes, they went into the woods a little I don't think they went far into it. to have a look for us. They came out and they ran back and they were getting ready to go the police, they were going to get a search party ready\n\nat this point we decided to tell them, that we were just messing with him and we came out and my boyfriend absolutely went ballistic mainly at me. \n\nHe kept saying do you have any idea how worried I was, do you have any idea how dangerous it is to be lost in the woods, you scared me, I thought you were in trouble. \n\nhis friend was actually trying to get him to calm down, and they left together because he clearly needed some space. \n\nand I realise now it was really immature prank to do and I was wondering what is the best way to apologise to him", "summary": "played a prank on my boyfriend and he did not take it so well."}
{"id": "t3_2zmlwq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "In a pretty emotional spot with my GF (24F) of 4 months and I (22M) need advice on how to make this peculiar situation better.", "post": "Cut to two weeks ago; I went to a bbq where the host, who we will call Jackie and her new friend, we will call her Ashley, were black out drunk, I put Ashley to bed since she was in bad shape and continued on having fun. \n\nFast forward to Tuesday, they see my GF at the bar and Ashley said I made out with her and was acting single, which isn't me at all. My GF isn't trusting me now since she asks why two girls would just say that. I called and texted people that were there with me trying to find out what happened and found out a different guy was the one who was the one who made out with Ashley after I put her to bed, which is the source that made these claims. \n\nNow my GF and I are who knows what because she said this has happened before and doesn't want the past to repeat itself as well as not looking stupid and feels different toward me and us. I know she's got her new job at a restaurant that's opening in a few days and that's her focus. I can't believe in the hurtful words she has said since maybe it's all of her stresses in her life coming out toward me. I just don't know what to do besides just wait it out.", "summary": "two girls mistakenly claimed I cheated on my GF and now my GF isn't trusting me. I'm trying to see if her stresses in her life are hindering her mindset."}
{"id": "t3_511e1g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Need help expressing my interest in a girl...", "post": "(15M) I know this is probably silly compared to some of the more important relationship problems on this subreddit, but any help would be greatly appreciated as I am lost :/\n\nSo she (15F) joined my school around 3 months ago and I remember noticing how nice she looked, she is quite friendly with this girl I'm friendly with. According to her we have the same taste in music. I'm not saying that her group is outcast because labels like that are stupid; but she certainly isn't one of the popular girls and I am also not popular per say. I can be quite loud and somewhat obnoxious to an extent when I am with my friends just because we are having fun, not too sure if her friend group are my biggest fans; I have never done anything to them just to be clear. My friend says she is quite shy but I have seen her looking at me a few times and quickly looking away when I notice, don't know what to make out of this. I haven't felt this way about a girl before but I am only 15 so I'm not surprised, I really want to talk to her but I don't feel like walking up to her in school due to the fact that we have never conversated before.", "summary": "I like a shy girl, want to talk to her and at least become friends, never spoken before."}
{"id": "t3_3832hu", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [24/f] had already been thinking to break up with bf [26/m], called me this morning saying he quit his new job after 1 week, believe he is severely depressed", "post": "I have posted on here before about our relationship, I have been battling major depression for the last 6 months and finally feeling like I am coming out of it after therapy and different meds. Much of that time I wanted to break up with him, but that scared me so much because I knew I loved him deeply. I received lots of advice to not make a major life decision while I was depressed, so we stayed together. Things seemed to get better but the relationship was still rocky because I could tell my different meds were sapping away my sex drive, and even though he tried to never pressure me into sex, I knew not having sex bothered him.\n\nLast week things seemed to be looking up, I turned in my 2 weeks notice at my job I've had for a while to move into my freelance career, he finally got a job and was planning on moving out of his parents house in July.\n\nThis morning, bf calls me and tells me he quit his job after 1 week of working there. I lost my cool and started crying and asking him why and basically I know I made him feel even worse for doing it, I asked him why he couldn't just get through it, even though we both knew it would be hard. He hung up on me and we simmered down for a bit.\n\nI called him back to be supportive an apologize for how I acted even though it was too late and I'd hurt him. But now I don't know what to do bc I already had it on my mind that maybe we needed to break up to figure ourselves out. We've gone on a break before and that helped things for a bit. He also refused to do couples counseling, he thinks we can work it out ourselves.\n\nI believe he is severely depressed but doesn't know it or doesn't want to believe it. I wish he would go to the doctor and see a therapist but any time I have mentioned it he just shrugs. I'm at the end of my rope but all this hurts so much because I've never loved anyone like this before. Completely lost.", "summary": "I am depressed, want to break up, bf maybe depressed, he just quit job of 1 week, no idea what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1pjvvp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my GF [24 M/F] of 2 years, She doesn't want a baby, but I do", "post": "About six months into the relationship we discussed having a baby in the future. She didn't want any, and I wanted at least one, but she gave in and said that she will carry one, or else I would have ended the relationship. So now we are living together after two years, and the topic comes up again. However this time, she expresses that she doesn't remember saying that, and that she doesn't want a baby. *I suspect that she just said that before because she was going through a hard time and just wanted to stall and have someone to depend on.*  \n  \nWe discussed options like surrogate and adoption (She's ok with these), but I don't trust anyone enough to be the surrogate mother, and I am not really feeling it for adoption. I know it's a bit selfish to have a biological child, but I don't want to regret it later in life. \n  \nShe says that she doesn't want to ruin her body, *but I have a feeling it's more than that because every time kids are around, she clamors about how annoying they are or such a hassle.* We are about to get a new apartment together in less than a month, and I'm trying to figure out what to do.", "summary": "GF does not want a baby, but I want at least one. Surrogate is an option, but I don't trust anyone enough. The GF expresses a disliking towards other children in public places."}
{"id": "t3_3g0x4j", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How can I get my wife to stop snoring?!?!?", "post": "Hey reddit. My wife snores. LOUD. It literally vibrates the bed sometimes. I get up for work at 4:30 and we usually go to bed around 10. Sometimes I can't fall asleep until 1 because of her snoring. I try to ignore it, but I simply can't.\n\nI have mentioned it to her. She just laughs and says \"I don't snore\". So I recorded her, she just laughed and said \"that's not me\".\n\nI thought I was being clever, I ordered the breath right strips sample. I put a fake name in the address so she didn't know I ordered them. I told her I would try it if she did. She said okay. \"Yea!!\" Or so I thought...they didn't work. At all.\n\nI tried to have a serious talk with her about it, and she still says she doesn't snore. Sometimes she gets pissy when I bring it up. I have tried everything I can think of. I even bought a humidifier. I read that works. I told her it was for our son, since he is in a crib in our room for now. Nope, didn't work.\n\nReddit, what can I do?!?!?", "summary": "my wife snores, make her stop!!"}
{"id": "t3_3mdgvj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) brother (24M) is self destructing. He lives far away. How can I help?", "post": "(God I hope he doesn't read Reddit) \n\nMy brother and I aren't exactly very close. We were ok when younger, but drifted as we became teenagers. Our lives have completely different paths. Up until recently, he was working up north in Canada. Then his girlfriend (of 6 years) left him a couple days ago, and it really messed with his head. He missed work, which hadn't been going well in the first place, and was fired. Now he is alone up North with nothing to do but get drunk. We talked at 8:30 AM and he was already drunk. He then got a DUI later that day. \n\nHe is coming back to live with our dad soon, but we don't know when. Dad is too busy to pick him up, and so is my Mom. So his ex is supposed to give him a ride down. I don't know the details of their breakup, but I don't really blame her for leaving. I don't think them being together in a car is a good idea. In the meantime, I'm worried for him because he is alone and getting drunk. I'm scared that he will get into a pit of despair and kill himself.\n\nWhile I don't agree with some of his life choices, he's my brother and I want to help him. I don't have a car, no money, and don't know a lot of people where I am. I don't know how I can help.", "summary": "My brother's gf left him. Now an alcoholic. How can I help him, or make sure he doesn't kill himself or get in further trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_2h35fy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[Serious] How do you get remotivated about something you've lost the will to do?", "post": "First time poster - I hope this is the right place to ask this.\n\nAnyways, I've been a student at a really intense prep school for the last two years. My life there's a grind - I routinely get under four hours of sleep a night, my day is completely structured from 6:30 AM to 9:30 PM, and my classes have really high expectations. I also do a lot of extracurriculars.\n\nThus far, I've managed to cope and be relatively happy. I got through two years of basically killing myself physically and mentally for a 4.0 GPA. I was super motivated to achieve.\nBut since the start of this year, I just haven't been able to keep up with this utterly crazy way of living. I'm still motivated - I want to work. But I can't. I will literally just sit in front of an assignment for hours trying to get myself to do it, but I just can't. I don't know why, but I just don't care anymore. I find it impossible to do my homework. I've tried setting timers, doing things in chunks, switching up subjects, cutting corners, giving myself rewards and breaks. But nothing works - I get my homework done, but only at 3:00 in the morning or between classes on the day it's due. This is unsustainable.\n\nMy parents tell me I'm suffering from burnout, that I can't keep doing this after two years. They're right. But the fact of the matter is I have to keep doing this, at least until college. I'm just starting Junior year, and from an academic/college resume standpoint I really can't afford to slack off. (I've already cut out extra courses and activities, so even now I'm already doing the bare minimum.)\n\nI'm also sort of disillusioned/depressed with school - the beginning of the year was tough for me both academically and emotionally. I'm not sure I've recovered from it yet.\n\nLooking around at other posts on reddit I'm starting to think I might be in the early stages of a psychosomatic breakdown.", "summary": "I've been working my ass off in school for two years, just started Junior Fall, and now I'm completely demotivated to get any work done."}
{"id": "t3_12cjc3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "We've all punched our time card in the depths of the emotional dumps, but sometimes it's hard to pull those you love out of a spiral of not seeing their purpose. Reddit, tell me the ways you've turned your lives around when you thought you had nothing going for you?", "post": "A little backstory for those curious: My best friend of 15 years is an incredible person who has been my source of joy throughout all of my big and small places of turmoil; she has been the forever optimist, the one who empathizes with my feelings of worthlessness, but always helps me to discover that because love for others exists, love for myself should also. Now, she's enveloped by insignificance herself... talking about not having a reason to live, no motivation to do anything, feeling lost. \n\nI wish it was as easy to just hold the mirror up and say \"Just repeat all the things you'd say to me in times like this, to yourself,\" but of course it must be more than that. I want to be able to be the person who has all the answers, can be the \"fixer\" to all that ails her... she goes to school (towards a career in massage therapy), but with no financial assistance outside of grants that barely cover the tuition. She's stuck in a living situation that's crumbling, but because she only works as a caretaker part time (since she's in school full time), making $500/mo, she can't afford to get a place on her own. With all that's on my plate I could only take her in for a short stay, but I know that still doesn't fix anything. Additionally, she suffers from what I think is PTSD from a past relationship filled with emotional and domestic violence, but has yet to truly seek out professional help for it... something I should really push harder at for her.", "summary": "My best friend is going through an extremely rough patch, feeling like she has no reason to exist and lacking motivation to be a \"functional member of society\" and I don't know what to say to her to help. This obviously stems from a very personal situation, but I'm curious how others have \"pulled themselves up by the boot straps\" or the like. How does one help another to find their purpose? What situations have my fellow redditors been in that made them feel like all was spiraling downward, and what was the fire that lit under your ass, so to speak, that helped you out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_1v9dei", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [19F] going away to Europe for six weeks this year and I'm already getting crippling anxiety thinking about being away from my SO [21M]", "post": "The title pretty much says it all.\n\nI think it's sort of like, a separation anxiety type thing.\n\nI feel nauseous just thinking about being away from him for a \"long\" time. \n\nWe've been together for two years. We've never been apart for this length of time before.\n\nI'm going traveling with my dad, and we haven't always gotten along, and I am always able to turn to my SO to talk about things and he helps to calm me down, and I fear that my dad and I have a big argument whilst I'm overseas, and I won't be able to get the comfort and support I need from my SO (which isn't anyone's fault, obviously).\n\nI'm also insecure and I fear that he's going to find someone else whilst I'm gone.\n\nI would just like some advice on how to deal with this, as I obviously want to have a good time whilst I'm away instead of constantly worrying and stressing.", "summary": "I'm going to be away from my SO for six weeks. We've never been apart for this long before. I don't know how to deal with the anxiety and worry of being away from him for this period of time."}
{"id": "t3_17yvum", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me[16] and my gf [16] are trying to work things out. Is it that i still have feelings for her or not wanting to see her with anyone else that i wont break things off 100%", "post": "So my gf and I have been arguing lately, there's been TONS of drama and our parents said we couldn't be together anymore because of all of it. I was upset but i got over it and said that we cant be together anymore and that after all this was over we could come back and see if we wanted to get back together. She wasn't up for that she wanted to just ignore what our parents said and that our relationship shouldn't be affected by it. Pretty much the whole Romeo and Juliet situation about dying in the name of love and she wouldn't live if i wasnt in her life.. We tried to keep seeing each other we only could at school and never hang out or see each other. I ended up telling her the same thing again that i couldn't do it, and that we were too young to be dealing with all of that. She again didn't listen to it and wanted to date  me.. I keep going back and trying and i cant tell if it is that i still have feelings for her or i just don't want to see her with anyone else.. We did have sex with each other many times and spent as much time together as we could. For six months we spent almost every day together.. I'm just ready to either move on or fully commit to working things out.. Thank you for your time.", "summary": "GF and i are having issues I think i want to break up but dont know what i really want. I don't know if i still have feelings for her or just don't want to see her with anyone else"}
{"id": "t3_3z9dw4", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Employment advice.", "post": "So I've been working at a video game store for the last 3 years. I am now one of the most experienced there besides the manager since I worked roughly 30 hours a week(granted it's a part time job for whe. I was in high school and I know it's a lot of hours but I maintained a high average, besides the point) I am now down with school till September and will be quitting anyways. I don't have a lot of money for school, really any, but am trying to save so I asked for more hours at least 35-40. The past few weeks has been slipping and I'm now getting 27, no one else is getting my shifts or anything they just aren't there. I need more money so I can save and still live.  I get payed 14 cents more than minimum wage so it's not a lot at all. I'm debating on finding a new job that either pays more or can consistently give more hours, both is better of course. My boss is a great guy so I don't want to screw him over and I feel bad for even thinking of leaving to find something else because of this. Talking him to increase hours works but gradually starts to slide down to lower amounts after 2-3 months.\n\nJust a bit torn I guess, any suggestions are welcome.", "summary": "boss is cutting my hours, no reasoning behind it just not as many shifts. Need money for school but need consistency and better wage. Really like boss and he doesn't want to lose me because of hours, changes to higher hours but goes back after 2-3 months"}
{"id": "t3_nfyhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "The bickering needs to stop", "post": "BF and I both in our early 20's been together for 1 year. My bf is a frequent reddit user so I don't want to be too specific.\n\nOur relationship has been great, there have been the small bumps along the way but nothing we can't work through. Lately it just seems like we've been bickering to each other over little nothings and they turn into these big fights where we won't actually talk to each other for a couple of days, only text. I feel like a majority of it is my fault. I'm very emotional and before I met my bf went through years and years of depression and harming myself so I have to wonder if I'm just emotionally beating myself up over nothing?\n\nI can only imagine how crazy my bf thinks I am. I take these small issues and all of the sudden explode about them. What can I do to change this? How can we stop our small bickering from becoming big fights?", "summary": "Bf and I turn small issues into big fights. I feel like it's my fault."}
{"id": "t3_4s9yfo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Having commitment issues and I'm a girl", "post": "So I love my boyfriend and we have been together for over a year. He is very sweet and thoughful and often speaks of having a future together. However, growing up, staying to committed to one thing/person/place has never been an option much. The idea of staying with one person for the rest of my life is almost terrifying and a strange concept to me.\nWe are both in our twenties so it's a good time to start thinking about this kind of.. life. \n\nThe problem is, recently I've been feeling very antsy and bored. I feel like he tries so hard to keep me \"happy\" but it just doesn't fulfill me. I want to meet more people, more guys and have fun. Not settle down for one person. \n\nMaybe it's a combination of my commitment issues and him, but I'm honestly very surprised at myself for thinking this way. Feelings like this did not spawn from hate for my boyfriend or because of something he did. I know the problem is in me but I don't know what to do about it.\n\nTo me the most realistic course of action is to just end the relationship before more time passes. Better now than later.\n\nOn the other hand, I don't want to quit just because I don't think I can do it. I think I could try to make it work and learn to be committed. But how to do that? These aren't mere feelings of the fear of commitment but feelings of desire to involve myself with another man. Feelings that should be exclusive between my boyfriend and me.\n\nAdvice on what to do would be helpful, or stories of people in similar situations.", "summary": "Find commitment scary, feel like cheating on boyfriend. Is this normal and how should I handle?"}
{"id": "t3_vhhds", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Newly single and just got a girl's number, now what do I do?  She's only here this weekend.", "post": "2 months ago, I (M/22) got dumped by (F/22) after a +2 year relationship.  Thanks to the expensiveness of apartments in the city, I've continued on sharing an apartment with her.  This has made getting over her very difficult, especially since most days I just want her back.\n\nLast night, she, our roommates, and I were hosting a small party with a few friends.  Afterward, four of us went out to one of our favorite bars.  There we met up with another friend, and met her new roommate and a few of that roommate's friends from home.  I hit it off with one of the friends-from-home and got her number.  Unfortunately, this girl is leaving either Sunday or Monday, I can't remember which, so I have a limited window.  Dating seems off the table.\n\nI have a party tonight I might be able to invite her to, but then I ought to invite her whole group.  Also, though the host is a good friend of mine, (a) the whole group might be too many people and (b) he wanted to have a strict dress code of business wear for this party.\n\nOther concerns, how much should I expect out of this?  If we met one night and *might* hangout for a second night, am I doing this just for a make-out?  It's been a couple years since I've been single, and I was never one for getting girls' phone numbers or hooking up before that.  Also, if we wanted privacy, there's none to be had.  She's a guest in someone's apartment and I live in my ex's living room.\n\nFinally, I absolutely want my ex back, but she has wrecked any notion of that whenever I bring it up.  Is it OK to be going for other girls when I want my ex?  Will it help me not?  (This is just something I felt like throwing on the pile.  The most pressing question is how to get as much as I can out of my limited time with this other lovely girl.)", "summary": "I haven't dated in awhile and have almost never hooked-up, but I just got a phone number from a girl who's only in town for a couple of days.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_dqscz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "(For science geeks) So I saw a mention of cold fusion in a comment earlier...", "post": "I'm by no means an expert on quantum theory or particle physics.  However, I was wondering why Bose-Einstein condensates never get the attention they deserve when people discuss cold fusion.  In my opinion, someone should throw a lot of money at this (there's only so many labs that can produce this condensate I'm sure).  \n\nIt just seems like a perfect environment for fusing particles as all the particles are in the same quantum state, indistinguishable from one another (where attractive and repelling forces between the atoms are crucial).  Not to mention in several experiments the atoms have imploded when critical mass of the condensate is reached.  Also, some experiments have reported missing atoms after the implosion/supernova-like explosion.  Surely there is some way a condensate of this nature to be a source for many future technologies, whether it be cold fusion or atomic storage (i.e. putting lots of atoms in a singularity for storage).  I mean, I've never even heard anything close to this mentioned on the Science/Discovery channel special (and you'll NEVER hear it in the news).", "summary": "Anyone have any thoughts on the usefulness of the Bose-Einstein condensates when considering technologies such as cold fusion."}
{"id": "t3_10l7jk", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Worst Vacation Stories", "post": "So I went to Cuba for my cousins wedding, pretty much my entire family went so about 35 people including 15 kids. Anyways she suggested that we should go on a boat ride to go swim with dolphins. I was pumped because dolphins are fuckin sick. So flash foward and ten minutes into the ride (ride takes about and hour) the sun disapears and a storm is blowing over us. We ask the captin if we should go back he says it is going to be a small storm. Well it turns out we were about 10km from a small hurricane and it starts poring rain and thunder was booming. These kids start crying and go under to the boat cabin. I went down to supervise and I notice that there is a smell of urine well it turned out that 6 out of 15 kids pissed themselves and on shit in the corner. We finally get to the dolphins nobody exept me swims with them and then we went home. On the way back we wore garbage bags so we could stay drier as the boat roof (tarps) had ripped. This all finished with one kid faceplanting into the other kids shit. So what is reddit's worst vacation story.", "summary": "Went to swim with dolphins ended up with kids that had shit and pissed themselves."}
{"id": "t3_fyybz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My dad is a bipolar alcoholic, Am I?", "post": "Too poor to afford a therapist \n\nBasically everyone on my dad's side of the family has something wrong with them. All of his siblings are addicted to something (From cigarettes to pain killers and meth and whatnot). My father is an alcoholic and was pretty distant to me and my sister for half my life. About a year and a half ago he tried to kill himself and that led to him going into heavy therapy and substance abuse counseling, both of which he is still doing today. It was there he was finally diagnosed with being bipolar, which has been fueling his alcoholism. His sister and some other members of his family also suffer from this. \n\n What I want to know is if there is a chance that I am also bipolar. I know that i go through phases of being really eccentric and phases of depression with little middle ground, but I don't know that much about bipolar-ism and  I don't want to draw any false conclusions.", "summary": "my dad is a bipolar alcoholic, my moods have dramatic ups and downs. Am I also bipolar? "}
{"id": "t3_3eea07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [34 M]have been struggling with my _wife__ [28 F] for 5 years due to my financial standing. What can I do?", "post": "My wife is threatening to leave me if I don't go to school this fall to earn my Bachelor's degree and/or get a high paying office job.  \n\nAt this point in time, she is working overtime to make ends meet due to my job not giving me the hours I asked for.  \n\nI want to leave for another job but I want the right job at a university.  I am hoping I get this job as it will, 'kill two birds with one stone'.  \n\nHow can I allay her fears and have her not leave me to go back to her home country?", "summary": "Wife is threatening to leave me if I don't go to school this semester.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1i2ara", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17M] recently started dating her [15F] but her previous boyfriend[18M] and friend of mine is still attached.", "post": "I[17M] recently started talking to a friend[16F] over the summer on Skype. After hours \nof talking we finally admitted to having crushes on each other. I \"kinda\" asked her \nout but I'm waiting to ask her out when I see her in person again.\n\nThe problem is her previous boyfriend [18M] is still attached to her. I'm good \nfriends with him but he keeps texting her begging for her to talk to him and that \nhe still loves her. \n\nTonight I was forwarded a text from another friend asking him to tell her that he\n (Ex-Boyfriend) still loved her and that I was stealing \"his girl\". He (Ex-Boyfriend)\n thinks she blocked him even though I told him her phone is broken.", "summary": "Starting to date this girl but her ex-boyfriend and good friend of mine"}
{"id": "t3_521j0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my friend [27M], how can I be a good 'wingwoman'?", "post": "My friend recently moved to the city and hasn't been dating for a while. I want to go out with him and be his 'wingwoman' to help him find a special lady friend (as does he, I'm not pressing this on him).\n\nI'm in a committed long term relationship of 4.5 years, how do I go out with him in a way that he still seems approachable by other women when my SO can't come too? I worry that people will automatically assume he is my boyfriend when it is just the two of us and that will be no bueno for his chances.\n\nWhat ways can I talk him up or help him break into circles of ladies to talk to? What's the best way to excuse myself when it seems he is hitting it off with someone?\n\nI just want to be a good friend and see him happy, please send me your tips!", "summary": "I want to be a good wingwoman for my guy friend and need your tips on how to do so gracefully."}
{"id": "t3_2qxbhb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18/f] with my ex [20/m] both attended a party last night, I feel pretty upset", "post": "In february, I went through a very hard breakup with this guy I was totally 100% in love with. He ended it by saying he loves me, but hes not in love with me and never talked to me again. It crushed me and I cried for 2 months straight. Last night we were having a party for my friend who is moving to Switzerland for a year. Somehow, he was invited and he was there. I wanted to leave immediately but I didn't want to come off weak so I stayed. He was with this girl that I've always hated, and just with her the entire night. ( They're not dating)Not my business, I don't care. \n\nHowever, he wouldn't even look at me. I've never felt so absolutely shitty to not even deserve a glance from someone that I dated for 1 year. I feel this is a really stupid and mundane thing to be upset about, but honestly I'm still not over the guy. It fucking hurt. I couldn't sleep when I got home and became increasingly upset about it. I also had multiple dreams about him and I would be lying if I said I don't miss him, but fuck I do and he just has no respect for me left. It just hurts and don't know what to do to calm down.", "summary": "saw ex at a party, he wouldn't even look at me the entire time. it just hurts and dont know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_2co3aa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (17 F) might break up with me (18 M)", "post": "Ok so I (18 M) wasn't having a good day (I don't feel like going Into why, not very important) and me and my girlfriend (17 F)were walking to the park, I was trying to tell her about my day but she was interrupting me (we do this as a joke to eachother sometimes) but it was w/e then she started like play slapping me (again we do this when we goof around) but I told her to stop because I was sad, n she wouldn't so I got upset because I wanted to be taken seriously, but she got upset because she thought I got upset at her for being herself but I didn't, I was upset because she wasn't listening to me wanting her to stop slapping me, and I felt like she wasn't taking me seriously. I told her this but she's still upset and saying its because I \"don't really know her' but it really wasn't ! I swear I just wanted her to listen to me n take me seriously. She texted me later saying \" guess we're breaking \" n I really really don't wanna lose her Do you think this will blow over and she'll apologize? Or do you think she ment it n she's really over me? We've been together 1 year and 8 months ,What do you guys think", "summary": "my girlfriend (17 F) might break up with me (18 M)"}
{"id": "t3_zsbwe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19m] am feeling more and more distant from my girlfriend/best friend [18f]", "post": "I have known this girl for about 2 years, we don't really call our periods of time together dating, but we have been living together for the past 6 months.\n\nEvery time something emotional comes up in a discussion with my friend, we make ourselves unavailable.\n\nHer modus operandi for handling stress is to \"Just move on\" and I understand where she is coming from, but when something has been coming up over and over again and I want to address it, that makes it hard. I get stuck on some things, things that are too personal to ask my friends about and things that she has made clear she does not want to discuss. I don't want to become too codependent but we should be able to talk about anything with a level tone and a clear goal, no?\n\nWhenever she has a problem with me, she will tell me I'm hurting her by doing X, etc and I ask her why or what I can do to change it, not trying to completely rely on her input but since she brought it up I want a good starting point, usually she will then nix the conversation and I am then at a complete loss... Silence follows because I want to be able to address the issue she brought up but I can't. The few times where she has continued to talk she either melts down by crying or melts down by yelling.\n\nWe are living together, we are both trying to find work, and we have until the end of this month to figure out an income situation or we are on the streets. I am tired of hurting her when we should be focusing on the present, but whenever I am in a good mood she constantly asks me if I am ok, and I reassure her to just be here now, if anything changes I'll let you know, everything is positive and good and nice. But sometimes she keeps asking until I'm pissed off. Whenever she's in a good mood, she likes to complain about her family and make fun of people, etc, and I get butthurt because I see a lot of those traits that she is hating on in myself. I don't want to join in on hating the people she hates because I feel like a massive hypocrite.", "summary": "My gf and I both have unhealthy, counterproductive behaviors, and we have a hard time talking about those behaviors and we seem to fight often because of it*"}
{"id": "t3_2f1aa5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] think I'm scared of commitment?", "post": "Okay, so for the past 6 months or so I have been dating around A LOT since a nasty break-up. I had never dated so many people and felt so single and free before. However, at the same time, I began to feel like I wanted to make a real connection. \n\nI made that connection with a really great guy, who is a little older at 22. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now and about 2 weeks ago he asked if I wanted to \"make it official\". I told him that I would prefer to have no labels right now, but would be dating him exclusively. \n\nSo, here's the problem. I really dislike the idea of being \"in a relationship\". It sounds weird. I don't want to be anyone's anything right now. But, at the same time, I definitely do not feel single because we've hit it off so well! Trust, caring, communication, and all the fun little things are there.\n\nWhat I'm looking for is maybe some advice or input on how to work through these feelings and move forward.", "summary": "Had so much fun being single but met an amazing guy and am now afraid to be committed."}
{"id": "t3_mxetx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help Reddit! Some crazy female is trying to ruin me.", "post": "Long story short, there was some chick at my work who was always a crappy employee and was a bitch to me. I am her boss but because the way the company is structured and because my boss is a bum, she was never disciplined. The other day she walked out on me so that i had to finish her shift. I had just worked an 11 hour shift and then had to stay an addition 7 hours. I heard through the grapevines that she had been planning it for awhile to 'show me who's boss.' She then goes on her Facebook and tries to talk trash about me. She has even gone as far as calling my corporate office to try and get me fired over making her do work. She is spreading false rumors about me on a daily basis. She is obsessed.", "summary": "dumb bitch trying to rain on my parade. "}
{"id": "t3_2shoxh", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I'm terrified. Is there anyone who can help?", "post": "I've been living with my sister since last march since she needed help with bills and i needed a place to go. Her husband was in prison since January 2012 and she was doing her best but then she lost her job toward the end of 2013 and needed money. In march 2014 my father stole the rent money and caused problems so we had to move from home. My sister said i could stay with her as long as i helped with bills. I lost my job that same month so we were both on a fixed income but managed to make things work together. I finally found work in october and i started paying more to help out instead of saving up for a new place. Today her husband showed up and decided to throw both of us out since its his house. There were problems between them for a while so i guess thats what cause him to decide to just come home and kick her out and me too since he never wanted me there to begin with. I have til next week to get out. Im scared cause i have no friends or anything so i have nowhere to go. My sister is going to stay with a friend from what she told me. I only have about $400 to my name and its difficult trying to find a place to rent since everything is more than that and most require a deposit. Does anyone in the East Los Angeles area know any place i might be able to rent with what little i have? I'm very tidy and quiet and keep to myself so i wont be a problem. I don't do drugs or anything and i'm very open minded. Can someone please help, I really dont know where else to turn to.", "summary": "Been living with my sis while her husband was in prison. He got home today and decided to throw us both out. Only have $400 and need a place to rent in East LA asap."}
{"id": "t3_1lhi5i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[22M] don't know if 9 years difference with her [31F] is too much.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI'm 22 and I recently moved to a building with a lot of single babes.  One girl in particular has caught my eye.  The catch is she's 31 and I've absolutely no idea if it would be totally unacceptable to date a 22 year old from her perspective.  We've hung out a few times on our patio and it's always a good time.  This past weekend she was texting me from a party that she was bored at, telling me to come join her.  I did and we had a blast.  We went back to our building,  headed to her apt, had another drink and called it a night.  We hung out at a BBQ I threw at our place and she told me she really liked my cooking.  I made her her favorite baked goods this week too.\n\nI've never dated someone this much older than me, but if age was no issue, I think we'd be a good couple. Essentially I'm curious if other people have had success dating people significantly older than themselves.  I'd really appreciate any insight to things I could do to make the age difference a non-issue.   \n\nThanks for reading!", "summary": "Is a 9 year difference too much?"}
{"id": "t3_2ws4lh", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using snapchat next to shower", "post": "Real TIFU when I was using snapchat with my gf since i'm overseas. It was fun while it lasted and stupid me decided to use the shower back n forth until I eventually gave in and decided to do the dirty deed.\n\nAs I was sending a video of me playing with my monkey, my hands were wet and my phone being touch screen. Decided to automatically click 'My Story' and post it within a second... I hastily rushed to take it off as I didn't know how so I asked my gf and ended up taking it within a couple minutes. Still a couple of friends saw it and they were eating dinner at the time but couldn't. Thats what they get :P", "summary": "snapchatted gf in shower with video of me playing with le monkey and it automatically gets put up for all friends and family to see... :("}
{"id": "t3_33r6au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28F] get stuck in my comfort zone and would appreciate ideas for outings", "post": "I don't know if this is the right subreddit, but I couldn't think of anywhere better to post this.  Recently I realized that I don't really enjoy myself when I go out with my friends... I've put some thought into it and I don't think it's the fact that I don't like my friends themselves.  I'm just bored with the same old boring routine of going out to eat or going shopping, etc.   Add social anxiety and an innate desire to always stay at home and we've got a perfect formula for me to view time with my friends as a chore or \"friendship maintenance.\"  Obviously I should change that!   So, I'm looking for new and exciting things to do that will put me outside my comfort zone and make the time I spend with my friends more enjoyable for everyone.  Throw some ideas my way, /r/relationships!", "summary": "Looking to spice up my platonic relationships.  Suggestions??"}
{"id": "t3_3bec74", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15 M] with my Crush [15 F] 0 days?, I am making a video to ask her out on a date. Its my last chance and I will regret not making it all my life. Any advice/help is greatly appreciated", "post": "So there is a girl I have liked for the past 3 years, she has flirted with me in the past but I never realised it until now. I want to make a video to ask her out. I think it's my last chance.\n\n\u00a0\n\nThe theme of the video would be making the video, here is what I have so far:\n\n\u00a0\n\n**OPENING**\nIts in my bathroom, you hear a voice say something like can you pass me a towel from the shower, then I step out **fully clothed** and really wet *(hahahah)* I say  something about having an idea to make a video\n\n\u00a0\n\nNow I am sitting at my desk and decide I need to find out if she is single, so I shoot I video of myself somewhere opeing up a book with a face on the cover *(facebook hahaha)* and look in and say she is single. Then I get my friends who's last name is Graham *(insta-graham hahaha)* who will say that all her bio says is cake, and then he is going to eat a piece of cake *(hahaha)*\n\n\u00a0\n\n I also want a scene where I am working on something on my desk or workshop and smoke and sparks fly, and say something like oh I was just working on the video! (I have no idea how to do this)\n\n\u00a0\n\n**CLOSING**\nThen it would end with the song I'm gonna be (500 Miles) and me walking in some kind of montage and make it funny with me getting lost and asking question about where I am to random people on the streets, then walk home and just email it instead (she lives too far to actually walk)\n\n\u00a0\n\nI got this idea from my Dad who did I very similar thing for a girl in the 80s. He has passed away :( and I would appreciate any ideas, suggestion or really anything.", "summary": "making video for girl, I will take any ideas, thank you for reading!"}
{"id": "t3_3gwl5q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend's parents neediness and hypocrisy is ruining my relationship; Me[23F];[24M] 4 years together", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now, and have moved in together as of 6 months ago. Around 2 years ago him and I were moving out of the country for school. When it came to the topic of the Christmas holidays, his mother threatened him to come home for Christmas or he was \"not her son\", and that I was not family.  I of course wanted to spend the holiday together, as it would have been in our first ever apartment together.  \n\nSince this time I have lost total respect for his parents, particularly his mother.  However, whenever I bring this Christmas fiasco up to my boyfriend (in any way) he is increasingly telling me to let it go.  I can't however, as his mother had recently lectured me on the importance of family, and yet she did that to her own child.  It was also in this \"talk\", which was more of a talking down to where she said \"we were willing to pay for a flight home for you, so that kind of negates your argument that we don't think well of you\".  If you thought that, you would have never said those words to your son or ruined our plans. Oh and it took her about 3 months to realize what I was upset with at the time.\n\nRecently, the disrespect and anger towards me has escalated and is causing me to decide whether to move on.  His family thinks that I have not been trying to get over things, despite the fact that we would see them almost every two weeks.  Additionally, they think that I am being rude and disrespectful.  After a rather large blow up on their part, they decided to take away the car from my boyfriend (their car though), to make him act like an adult, at a time when his grandfather was in hospital. The hypocrisy is unbelievable.", "summary": "I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because of the neediness and lack of letting him have his own relationship, but I am hitting a crucial point where moving on is more appealing.  All I want is for them to act like adults, and realize that we are a unit, and it is not functional or healthy to want to see him every 2 weeks."}
{"id": "t3_uvdop", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How does someone live with a relationship like this?", "post": "In February of last year I got into a relationship with a guy, that was already in a long term relationship (3 years). He said he was not very happy and wasn't very fond of long term relationships, that was kind of confusing.How the hell do you not like long term relationships but stay in one for three years? I asked him tons of questions on why he was still with the girl and he didn't know why, and he also said he had cheated on her once before this that she never found out about. She eventually found out about us (more like the possibility), but she just *blatantly* denied that it could be true even though he told her that it happened. She didn't want to end it with him, which surprised him. We kept the relationship going for a few more months and then I ended all contact with him in July of that year. Months go by, it's the next year, he makes a bit of contact with me and I let it happen but I'm in a good relationship of my own, and then he says he misses me (abort!, abort!). Anyways, today I see posted on Facebook today that they have just gotten engaged. I really don't want to live on this planet anymore. How can a relationship that fucked up keep going? I doubt that their marriage will really be successful, but I could be wrong. I do not have feelings for him anymore, not jealous over the situation, but the reasoning with this is wacko.", "summary": "Was with this guy who was cheating on his girlfriend, she found out, denies the possibility, stays with him, we continue, I eventually break it off, he says he still prefers me over her, they just got engaged, *the fuck*?"}
{"id": "t3_27wm2p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My 25f boyfriend 26m of 5 months is severely jealous. Or am I just crazy?", "post": "My boyfriend freaks out if my guy acquaintances chat me on Facebook, text me, or even if I give them hugs in public. None of the conversations are flirty or inappropriate in any way. \n\nA friend I know has his own start up and I sometimes do work for them when they have it for me. Said boyfriend is incredibly jealous over this guy, even though said friend is less attractive than my boyfriend. If I see friends in public and we will hug he will get upset. Friends who I text maybe once a month will make him upset. \n\nHe has called me a slut in his jealous rages and said that my behavior is unacceptable. I have tried to talk to him about it but he says he can't change it. I love him so much, but I can't be interrogated over meaningless interactions. I don't know what I should do because I think he is the love of my life. The little things are there with us. \n\nHe is very attractive and smart so I do not understand why he acts this way. I am afraid that he will just move on to someone else and be a better guy because I feel like some small, insignificant thing I somehow did deemed me untrustworthy, so he never will trust me.", "summary": "Boyfriend is jealous of acquaintances, tried talking to him, says he can't change it, am I crazy?"}
{"id": "t3_4aq4i3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I get over knowing that all our plans are now gone after a break up, M 22/ Ex GF 19", "post": "(Full background under my submitted)\n\nI decided I couldn't wait for my ex to come around since there was no guarantee that me waiting for her would be worth it. Sure since the breakup we hadn't talked as much obviously but now that we are done seemingly forever I can't comprehend at all knowing that we will never laugh, kiss, talk etc etc together ever again. \n\nWe had so many plans and so much love but now all that is gone. How do I coupe with that? How can I move on and be happy after knowing all the hard work we put in and all the love is out the door now. I just can't wrap my head around knowing that the girl I thought I would marry will now move on and live her life away from me till the day we both die.  \n\nI still do care for her, yes I still love her even after everything that happened at the end. I feel so alone and lost even though the actual break up was months ago, I'm honestly just afraid of the future now.", "summary": "EX broke up with me a few months ago, recently decided I  couldn't wait around for her and now I can't coupe knowing the girl I loved is actually gone forever."}
{"id": "t3_l5ddr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Huge Fight Last Night, Need Help", "post": "So I'm 19m and she's 20, and we've been together for a year and a half.\n\nLast night we were cooking brownies together and it was suppose to be a fun night of us cooking at my cousin's just enjoying each other's company. First I bought butter instead of oil so we couldn't cook the brownie batch right and then I tried finding materials to make cookies but she got upset because she thought she'd do all the work, so I found a box of Betty Crocker brownies that required butter. \n\nJust throughout the night things would go wrong and I'd try to fix them or take initiative to solve a problem. Every time I tried to solve something and it didn't work she got angry and said I wasn't listening to her. We eventually headed back to her place where I tried to figure out how to fit the brownie batch into her minifridge. \n\nShe suggested taking all of the things off her top shelf and put them there, I thought that was too much and we could just clear the smaller bottom shelf. I was wrong and apparently this was the straw that broke the camel's back. She went off on me for everything that I've ever done that she constitutes as me not listening.\n\n I always thought I was fairly decent listener but nothing I could say could get her to stop screaming at me. I started screaming back. She kicked me out and said she didn't want to talk to me for a while.\n\nSo one, what just happened? And two, what can I do?", "summary": "My girlfriend doesn't think I listen and we had a fight"}
{"id": "t3_2dy2f2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months, isn't interested in sex.", "post": "So, we are dating for 6 months and she was virgin before we met, we did have sex twice (1 month ago) but that is it. I kept trying... we sleep together sometimes and I try to initiate but she keeps saying she doesn't want to do, so I talked to her and she said that she doesn't know why, and that she can go forever without having it no problem...\n\nI asked her if I was the problem or maybe I did something wrong on our first time, she told that it wasn't, she just doesn't know why.\nI love her, I realy do, but I think that sex is a big factor on a relationship, I don't want to breakup with her because of that, I don't even know what to ask, I think I'm just trying to vent out or something, because I'm getting sadder and sadder because of that and I think this is going to be a bigger problem with time and in the end I'll end what I have with her, and I don't want...\n\nMaybe because of how much I love her, maybe because I don't want to make her sad or maybe it is because I'm insecure that I'll not find someone after I lose her, I don't know...", "summary": "Getting frustrated for not having sex."}
{"id": "t3_ukq2j", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear trouble-makers of Reddit, what is the most absurd reason that you've gotten in trouble for?", "post": "So here's my deal...\n\nOn my eighth-grade end-of-the-year field trip, my class went to St. Louis for the day. My class was relatively small (14 kids), so we were split into groups of five for the day, one chaperone and four kids. Throughout the day, the groups were obsolete and we were allowed to roam around our destinations with ease. First, we went to the Gateway Arch, then the City Museum, and finally the St Louis Zoo. By the time our charter bus had gotten to the zoo, I was bored because I had 'been there' and 'done that' before, so I put on my headphones and I blasted some music. No one seemed to care whether I was paying attention, so they decided to **NOT** inform me that we had to stay within our groups or else. I ended up finding my two best friends, who happened to be in my group. Along with my two best friends, there was a nerdy-ish kid in our group as well as our computer teacher. The nerdy kid had begged our chaperone all day to let us go to the sting ray exhibit, where you could pet, feed, etc. the sting rays, but the exhibit cost money, so my two friends decided to constantly argue with the nerd and the chaperone until the chaperone just said \"GO!\" in a strong voice. I wasn't really paying attention to any of my surroundings, so I didn't hear the teacher or any of the bickering and I just kept on following my two friends. Eventually I noticed that our chaperone was gone along with the nerdy kid, so I asked my friends what the situation was, and they said \"Oh, he said that we could do anything that we want.\"\nWhen we got back with the rest of the class, we were informed that we would be in big trouble. And on the day of school, all three of us served an all day detention (to the end of the school day(3:30)), while the rest of the class would be getting out of school at 10:30.", "summary": "I got an all day detention for listening to music when I was allowed to."}
{"id": "t3_3o8hzs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] with my friend [19 F] of 6 months, I found out she is a very popular webcam girl and more.", "post": "This is the weirdest thing that has happened in  my 19 years. This girl had stole my number from a mutual friend and started texting me about 6 months ago. We hit it off instantly and still do, the conversation never stops and we enjoy each others bodies alot.\n\nI can't remember how the conversation came about but we have both escorted before and we are both aware of this. I have recently stopped and I am well aware that she still does it, it doesn't stop me liking her all the same.\n\nBut today on twitter I was scrolling through and I saw a picture of a cat I was sure I had seen before. So I looked at the picture and I looked at a picture Sarah had sent me, It was her cat. So this confused the fucking life out of me, Sarah said she didn't use social media at all. But I did some digging and some searching around to find out that she is a  popular camgirl (I'm fine with this entirely). I found her social medias and so on and they are all under a different name. I'm aware of this, I have an alternative name for escorting myself (still fine with this).\n\nWhat i'm confused at is that how far does this go? I don't want to scare her away because she is amazing but then again I dont want to be lied to because I'm paranoid as it is.", "summary": "Girl and I have mutual interest, she has lied alot to me. I feel like she doesn't want to scare me away though and I don't know what to do as I don't want to scare her away. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_1v856y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24m] seem to struggle to drop grudges over fairly pedantic things and it's affecting my ability to build relationships especially with a really lovely girl [23f] I met just recently.", "post": "Ok basically, I've started to notice that I have a lot of trouble dropping the little things. For example there was a girl a while back I was seeing and she kind of messed me about a bit, was rubbish at texting back, organising stuff, but usually when we were together it was amazing.\n\nAnyway, one weekend, I'd organised for us to go to the ballet and I was trying to make plans for what we were gonna do before/after and the day before I texted her asking what she fancied doing/what time she'd be free but didn't hear from her until 3 the following day, 2 hours before the ballet started. Anyway, she didn't really have any reason for not replying, nor did she really make much of an apology and it annoyed me. Consequently I couldn't really shake the feeling of being pissed off with her and so when we did meet up, I found it hard to act like I wanted to be with her. Kind of ruined the evening, and made things really awkward.\n\nSo I'm now seeing a new girl and I feel like this is going down a similar route. Not as bad, but I really don't want my hang-ups to be the downfall to this situation, I just don't know how to shake that feeling short of have a few drinks before I see her and that's probably not the best plan of action! Has anyone felt the same, or got any advice?", "summary": "Feel like I can't drop things as easily as I should. Tend to build up grudges over fairly trivial things and it ends up ruining any prospective relationships."}
{"id": "t3_3amzvc", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My girlfriend of 2 years (25f) just told me she no longer feels passionate towards me (26m). What do I do?", "post": "To add more specifics, she mentioned that she just doesn't feel the attraction she used to. That since it is not new, it is no longer exciting. I just confronted her today about it, but apparently she has been feeling this way for a few months which is shocking because we still have sex at least once a week. \n\nTo give you further context, when we first started dating we would have sex up 4-5 times within the course of a day. She said that everything else is amazing, so she feels like this is not a big thing. Since she loves talking to me, and hanging out with me. She just no longer has the urge to be physical with me. She is comparing herself to her friends, and her friends always want to be physical with their relationships so she is concerned.\n\nShe specifically said that she did not think it was an issue, until I brought it up today. Now confronting it, she is worried it is a bigger deal. She mentioned taking some space away from each other, but I think that is the worst thing to do. \n\nI love this girl more than anything. Her and I have had the best chemistry of any girl I have ever been with so this is very hard for me to hear and deal with. \n\nPlease reddit, if you can share any examples or advice on how I should proceed it would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "my girlfriend does not desire me and I do not know what to do"}
{"id": "t3_18c319", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[Q] People who feel successful at dating, how many people have ever rejected your requests for a date?", "post": "I feel like a lot of people come here to ask for advice out of fear of rejection. Their whole strategy revolves around minimizing risk and panicking when rejection approaches.\n\nI feel like once you get used to rejection, dating becomes a lot more fun. Hopefully this thread can provide people with insight to just how common rejection can and should be, and can hopefully provide you with the confidence to act without rejection in mind. Ironically, in my opinion, losing the fear of rejection can instill confidence in you that may make you less likely to be rejected in the first place. People love confident people pursuing them, it strokes their egos.\n\nSo, personally, I'm 22 and I'm in a 2 year relationship, so in my dating experience before that, starting at maybe... 16, I've been rejected by girls I've had total absolute dream about them every night crushes five times. Amongst all that I've had 2 big relationships and about 3 smaller ones that didn't really evolve into much.\n\nSo if you do the math, I've dated less girls I've had huge crushes on than those I have. The relationships that did work were totally worth the risk, and those relationships may not have ever existed if I just stayed in pursuit of the same girl who \"just wanted to be friends\"\n\nAn alternate way to think about it is also that rejection is a *good* thing and the sooner the better. Rejection allows you to move on to bigger and better things. So really, embrace it.", "summary": "Be brave, it's worth it."}
{"id": "t3_151tsz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by poopin so long at work that the motion activated  lights turned off....and then someone came in.", "post": "After sleeping at friend's house with filthy toilet, i got to work extra early to take a relaxing dump and get in a few moves of words with friends ( yea i still play it, fuck scramble). It was so early that I didn't even bother locking the door.1 min turns into 20 and before I know it i was so glued to the toilet that the bathroom decided no one could POSSIBLY still be sitting here. That didn't prompt me to leave. But as the thought of getting up crossed my mind 10 minutes later, a coworker walks in to find me shitting in the dark starring at my iphone blasting 2pac. No Shame.", "summary": "I'm addicted to my phone and I love to shit."}
{"id": "t3_2qnh07", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22F] sister [28F] is pregnant and I'm having a tough time being excited for her.", "post": "I don't really have a question or anything. I just need to vent and maybe reach out to those who have been in similar situations. \n\nMy sister told me yesterday that she's pregnant. At first I was thrilled. But then reality hit me. *I can't have children.*\n\nI'm so happy for my sister and my brother-in-law, I really am. But they weren't planning on having children for at least a few more years. My sister's never really wanted to be a mom. Me, on the other hand, have always lived for it. As a kid when people asked what I want to be when I grow up, I always said, \"a mom.\" \n\nBut, 3 years ago I found out I can never have children. I was devastated but have tried to tough it out, tried to believe it isn't true for years. I'm in a serious relationship and we're planning on getting married in a little over a year and starting to **try** having kids immediately, but we will probably end up adopting. While adopting is wonderful and that thought excites me, I still so badly want to be pregnant one day. \n\nMy sister being pregnant is like a kick in the side. A reminder that I'll never be pregnant. I don't want to be around her, I don't want to be happy for her. I'm jealous. I don't know how to deal with this. I never expected to feel anger towards my sister for getting pregnant. But really, how am I expected to feel about this?\n\nI would never dare tell my sister or anyone else in my family how I feel about this. I wouldn't want to upset anyone and I really don't want to be selfish and make this about me. It's just so hard.", "summary": "My sister's pregnant, I feel terrible for being upset about it ... But I can never have children of my own and I have no idea how to feel anything else about this."}
{"id": "t3_24plf5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I just found out my (27f) boyfriend (27) of 6mo's used a prostitute when travelling to China last summer.", "post": "We weren't dating at the time, but I am absolutely horrified by this. \n\n We're a relatively new relationship, and He revealed this to me indicating it was a big secret of his but that he doesn't regret it. He went to a spa that had prostitutes and every male friend in his group got one, even one with a girlfriend. I just can't believe it and can't stop picturing him with some little Chinese woman he paid for; and wonder if he was dating me at the time if he would still get a prostitute (I feel like he probably would).  \n\nAm I making a big deal out of this for nothing or should I talk to him about it? We were having a really good heart to heart chat when he told me and I felt good initially that he was opening up to me, but now I wish I didn't find it out.", "summary": "Boyfriend used a prostitute when we weren't dating and I'm not sure how I feel about it"}
{"id": "t3_1d4d47", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I had a false alarm and not sure how to feel", "post": "So this basically just happend to me Im a 16 year old high school student and basically what happend to me was I was cleaning out my pigs pen after school and I hear a truck I look out and see the truck along with a couple of people from my class. Everything was perfectly fine but all of a sudden I hear a \"BANG BANG\" really fucking loud and I was in the pen inside the building and during the loud BANG I heard yelling, then my stomach just dropped I was sure it was gun shots or something. It was extremely loud and had a Pop-ing sound So I droped the shovel and what I was doing and jumped over the walls seprateing the pens then sprinted out the back door onto a trail. After I got out far enough I called my Father warning him not to go the the Agriculture area. After the trail ended at a no trespassing sign I ran through bushes and branches getting scraped up until I reached the clearing where I ran down to the schools office. The first thing they notice is im shaking, sweating, and stuttering like a motherfucker and asked what happend. I reported the incident and someone went up to check it out. Turns out what happend was one of the older boys that were up there was angry and he has some issues so he grabed a pig cane and smashed it against the building twice breaking it. It takes alot of force to break one of those or even dent a building which lead me to belive it was a gun shot. But I don't know I just feel like a bit of a coward and a idiot all at the same time and feel kinda bad about myself a little bit. The boys both aplogized to me but i still feel like a jack ass. Along with having to go to that class tommrow I know for a fact my teacher is going to question me and im gonna get a call from the therapist. Also could this have any kind of long term affect on me?", "summary": "I reported false gun shots and now I feel like a god damn idiot about myself and not sure how to feel about the whole incident. "}
{"id": "t3_4f0ca1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My [15/f] bf (18/m) about to graduate high school and is sending me major mixed messages about his level of commitment.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year.  He is graduating in a few months, and, I think, this has prompted him to be a little nervous about the future. We have talked about it and agreed that the relationship should terminate this summer when he goes to college. He and I clearly agreed to this plan, but he has repeatedly spoken in direct contrast to it, making me confused.  He will get worked up and say desperate things like, \"stay with me forever\", \"never ever forget me\", \"never leave me\", and even \"lets get married\". Obviously we are too young for any of this to be realistic. Last time he did this, I played along for the sake of the mood, and said \"of course we will be together forever\". It made me feel dishonest, because it is lie and we both know it. I'm worried he might actually believe me when I say those things, when this goes against what we agreed on rationally. Is this just some cute tactic he is employing where you make up alternative endings when you want to be romantic? Am I over thinking this? Is it all just dirty talk? When I remind him that we are breaking up and not staying together forever he gets sad and says I am scaring him. I don't want either of us to feel lead on or get hurt when the time comes to say goodbye.", "summary": "Bf agreed to end the relationship when he goes to college. Now his overly committed statements have me confused. How do I remind him of the plan tactfully when he forgets?"}
{"id": "t3_13u9kc", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What bathroom behavior has made you really worried about humanity?(NSFW)", "post": "Let me start....\n\nToday I found out about a local company having an issue with their restrooms.  They are a place that has several stalls inside of a bathroom, rather than a locking bathroom for one individual at a time.  Well, recently they have had someone coming in on a regular basis to use said bathroom.  The person proceeds to make a nest out of toilet paper on the floor in one of the stalls and then poops in it, leaving a nice little poop filled nest for the person after them.  This has been happening on a fairly regular basis too.  It made me so thankful no one has done that at my work yet.\n\nSecond story... when I was going to college, there was a girl in my hall who used to collect her used tampons in an empty shampoo bottle.  One day she left the bottle in a shower stall.  I am SO glad I was not the one to find this bottle.", "summary": "poop nests and bottles filled with used tampons.  WHAT ARE PEOPLE THINKING?!"}
{"id": "t3_1umidz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] feel like I shouldn't be in a relationship until I'm in decent shape.", "post": "A couple of months ago I went through a pretty messy break up and have, sense then, let myself go. My grades fell, I've gained weight, etc. Because of this, I feel I hit a pretty low low in my life, and now that I'm on my upswing of that low and are getting back into dating I'm running into a conflict.\n\nI feel that in a relationship I'm obligated (barring some sort of extraneous circumstance) to maintain my body shape. But since I'm now overweight, I feel like I shouldn't be dating. I'm hitting the gym, I'm dieting, and I'm losing weight. However, I feel like I shouldn't date until I've regained some semblance of health, but I'm not sure if this is reasonable to expect of myself. Is it rational to lose some weight before dating, or should I just jump right into it now?\n\nNote: I'm not getting healthy specifically for other people but for the most part, myself.", "summary": "Being overweight, is it reasonable to expect myself to get back in shape before dating again?"}
{"id": "t3_3n5n49", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[25f] husband [30m] suddenly made a pornhub account and has been apparently watching a ton of porn since he got a laptop.", "post": "We bought a laptop about a week ago. I haven't used it since today when I went on and stumbled across his history, truthfully on accident. Not only is there a ton of porn on there, but he made a pornhub account. What is the purpose of an account?? It's not even premium or anything it's just a basic account. I'm concerned that he's taken this leap from looking at pictures on his phone to tons of porn when I'm asleep (I like sex and we have a good sex life but he turned me down for road head last night and then watched porn. But we had sex this morning.) and this pornhub account. Is this just from having a new gadget or is something else possibly going on? Mainly, what's with the PH account? It has no messages in it (yeah, at that point i snooped) and says he's taken, but it rubs me the wrong way. \n\nThanks for reading, I hope I'm overreacting haha.", "summary": "Hubby got a computer and has watched damn near all the porn on the internet since."}
{"id": "t3_1ge2zz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] girlfriend [24F] of 9 months is getting back in touch with a former \"hookup\" of hers", "post": "Before we started dating, my gf said she \"hooked up\" with this guy (whatever that means) a few times until he stopped contacting her.\n---\nA few months later, he tried to contact her again while we were out together. She was not sure what to respond to him, so I told her to say she is out with me. At this point, I think it is over with.\n\nFast forward to the other day: she told me she ran into him, apparently they are working in the same area. She said it was nice for them to catch up, and she intends to get coffee with him at some point. I said I was not that comfortable with this, but she insisted that any feelings are in the past, i'm her man, it's just friendly.\n\nI'm not sure how to handle this. I love and trust my GF fully, but I don't trust this guy's intentions. Now I'm not sure how to proceed...I don't want to put her off with my jealousy but I just don't feel 100% comfortable with them meeting up one-on-one. What should I do?", "summary": "worried another guy may be trying to steal my gf...how to proceed?"}
{"id": "t3_grs6g", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I was wondering if anyone has an unused Bulletstorm Epic Edition code that they are willing to part with...", "post": "I bought Bulletstorm when it came out and I got the code for the bonus Epic Edition content, including the Gears of War 3 Beta. Well, a friend of mine really, really, really loves Gears but he was unable to purchase the game due to money issues. I was willing to part with my code to give to him, but apparently a friend of mine who was over my house decided to enter the code so now mine is already used and I can't give it to my other friend. So what I'm asking is if someone has a code that they received with the game that they would be willing to give to me so that I could give it to my good friend. If anyone is up for it, I would be very appreciative and so would my friend. Thanks a bunch in advance.", "summary": "I'm asking if someone can give me an unused Bulletstorm Epic Edition Code so that my friend can play the Gears 3 Beta."}
{"id": "t3_1i6qef", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't feel attractive [26/M] hard time believing she [23/F] actually does", "post": "I don't feel attractive. I know that believing that or feeling like that makes me unattractive. But I don't feel comfortable in my own body. I have manbreasts, hair is growing darker on my shoulders and back, lipomas start growing in my legs, fibromas on my back as well. I feel unsexy. \n\nMy girlfriend tells me she doesn't care at all. I have a hard time exposing myself naked. I try to cover everything up, making sure she doesn't see it. Sex isn't going all that great because of it. She wants to massage/kiss my back, wants to give blowjobs or even rimjobs, but I don't understand why.", "summary": "I feel very unattractive naked and our sexlife is pretty much non-existent because of it. she tells me she likes my body, but I don't believe her. Why would she think lipomas, fibromas a hairy back are no problem at all? Most people are disgusted by it."}
{"id": "t3_opsmx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Cure for Cancer? Probably not! But generally  speaking, Scientists of Reddit, is there any truth to  the claim that Big Pharma/Corporate America is  \"corrupting\" scientific inquiry?", "post": "So there's this...\n\nAnd doing my due diligence, I thankfully reviewed the comments to see a great deal of information I never knew about cancer cells. Having no specialized knowledge of this scientific area, I yield to those that do, and so I have serious doubts about the article. But my question is this...\n\nGenerally speaking, is scientific inquiry compromised by our methods of medical research funding and pharmaceutical distribution? I'm an average guy with no professional experience or specialized knowledge of any sort to even engage in discussion of this sort. However, I am left with serious doubts about the influence of huge institutions on scientific inquiry and discourse, especially considering their most important priority being the bottom line - profitability. \n\nWhile this sensational article is erroneous and unconvincing to me from reviewing the comments (some of which I vaguely understand), what prevents these large institutions from corrupting scientific inquiry?\n\nThanks, \n\nConcerned Redditor", "summary": "Sensational article - I don't believe it but have no specialized knowledge to be certain. Is scientific inquiry compromised by the business of research and distribution? Are any preventative measures in place to ensure scientific inquiry is being carried out without corrupting the results?"}
{"id": "t3_4c3d9l", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Tips on getting back into running after 4 years of not doing so & shin splints", "post": "Hey everyone, I was hoping to gather some tips from people who left running and had to start over. \n\nA semi-lengthy background on myself to help you understand where I am coming from. In high school I was a very good cross country runner, running from 35-50 miles a week and never slower than 8-9 minute miles. At the end of senior year, I planned on taking a break from running and then try to race half or full marathons in the spring. I ended up not running at all after xc. 4 years later, I was noticing how much I miss the sport (especially after seeing the success of xc friends) so I decided to join a running group to get back into it. But the only group at my university that I could find was a triathlon club. I joined them, but only did the running workouts. After about 4 weeks, I developed shin splints. This is because I haven't ran in 4 years but thought 6 miles was ok after 4 weeks. Also, being 25 pounds heavier didnt help. After taking 3 months off and training on the bike and in the pool, I finally was back to running in february. but my shinsplints was still around. I finished my first sprint triathlon last week, and have been trying to get miles back under my feet again. I havent felt shin splints severely since the beginning of March, but I can feel it looming around. After a half year of it, I am getting really really frustrated. I cant run more than 4 miles still and my fastest mile is 8 minutes. I know I will probably never run like I did when I was 17, but its difficult because of remembering what I used to be capable of running.", "summary": "I want to get back into running shape, but am having a difficult/frustrating time doing so due to shin splints and high expectations."}
{"id": "t3_35b8eu", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by shitting my pants while laughing at someone who put shit on their nose", "post": "This happened 10 minutes ago and now I am hiding in the bathroom and sharing my shame with you guys. \n\nLet me preface this by saying I ate at Taco Bell last night. \n\nI work at a small company with maybe 20 employees in one small office. I share a desk with another person and the office is quite open. When I got to work today it was quieter than normal and I thought hey, this could be nice. I'll spend most of my day on Reddit. About 2 hours in I start noticing that I really have to fart. Badly. I clench my cheeks tight and try to ignore the building pressure. Finally it's lunch time and I come up with a plan to let my winds go free. \n\nI go to the bathroom and after washing my hands I turn to the very loud hand dryer that will mask my fart noises. I put my hands underneath and.... Nothing. Its not working! At this point I am thinking about my other options. I can't go back to the bathroom after just going. I can't walk the half mile to my car just to fart in peace. \n\nI decide to hold it. This is my fuck up. \n\nHalf an hour later I am sitting at my desk, forever clenching, when I come upon the tifu of the guy who wiped his nose with his shit rag. I start laughing loudly. I start to hear something and realize, when its too late, that I was farting. I'm talking about the long, drawn out roar of a fart. It's far too gone and now I'm just laughing even more and it just keeps coming and coming. My co-worker is just looking at me and then it happens. I feel it coming out. I jump out and run to the bathroom but it was too late. I shit my pants at work.", "summary": "insta karma for laughing at guy who rubbed shit on his nose"}
{"id": "t3_17shv8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest thing you've ever seen happen in a classroom?", "post": "I went to camp with a kid named Isaiah. He told me a story of how in his low-quality mid-projects school there was a kid in his class named Dante. At one point in Spanish class Dante got all jittery and couldn't even sit down properly. He \"levitated' to the front of the class, and started swearing at the teacher. And because this school is in the projects, he was raging at the teacher. Anyway he jumps up, grabs the $5000 smart board off the wall, and just full out body slams it to the ground. So the entire class is silence, this kid Dante is freaking out, covered in blood, rolling around on the floor. There is glass smashed everywhere (I never realized that Smart boards had glass in them). The Spanish teacher starts yelling in Spanish at the kid. Now just imagine a kid lying in a puddle of blood on the floor, surrounded by glass, being yelled at in Spanish in front of a whole class. Anyway, they get 4 Janitors in the class to pick this whole thing up. Took them 3 days to clean up all of the glass. Dante ends up suspended for like 2 days only. Apparently stuff like this happens a lot in his school.", "summary": "Kid bodyslams a $5000 smart board in Spanish class, and is barely punished."}
{"id": "t3_2yzfnf", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Playing GTA 5 Online Heists", "post": "So today, I noticed that heists for GTA 5 Online have recently came out after waiting nearly a year and a half for them, so I decided to go on my", "summary": "Me and 3 other people took part in a heist on GTA 5 to earn in game money, did our roles to rescue a Russian prisoner, until I failed in the last part of the heist in which I landed the helicopter in the water when I was supposed to land it on the beach. Had I landed on the sandy area on the beach near the water, we all would've made 125,000 easy dollars."}
{"id": "t3_zyji8", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to start talking and then asking out girl you used to be friends with but it has been a while.", "post": "So the title might seem strange but trust me it sounds less weird in a larger description. Anyways I go to a Catholic military school. We have this huge formal dance and I have to bring someone from the sister school. So I think I know who I would like to ask, but how can I even start talking to her again. We used to be friends 2 years ago. But we kind of just went different ways. Funny how we both ended up going to the same joint schools after going to public school together for a while. But to the point, how can I start talking to her again? The schools only see each other 4 times over the year. I don't want to start an awkward message online either. What should I do? (Also this would probably only be for the dance I don't really have time during the day for a solid relationship since I have practice twice a day from 4 am to 6 am then 4pm until 6pm but if the chance came then maybe ages Me:17 Her:17)", "summary": "Want to ask girl I haven't talked to in a while to dance. How can I without seeming like a sketch?"}
{"id": "t3_13z9bq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Do I want to get into law enforcement and or military service for the wrong reason?", "post": "As a 17 yearold of course I have no idea what I plan on doing with my future but the idea of law enforcement or military service has always seemed appealing. I love the survival of the fittest feeling I receive from sports and physical training. Pushing my self, proving my strength, and of course the brotherhood aspect and bonding that goes on with your teammates or people you train with. I've tried to think of an alternative but I can't seem to find myself happy in anything not involving my body being torn to shreds and vomiting from physical strain while being surrounded by people I've bounded with and would risk my life for. Of course I don't wanna pursue these professions just for the adrenaline high or the physical competition but it plays a BIG part. Perhaps I'm just too brainwashed and jacked full of testosterone. BTW: Its not like this is my only option or I'm some meathead jock rocking a 2.0 gpa and a 16 on my SAT whose resulting to beating people senseless overseas to fulfill some sort of childhood issues I have. So please by all means tear me apart and let me know whats what.", "summary": "Might be pursuing a career strictly because of my need to be apart of a wolf pack and or adrenaline addiction."}
{"id": "t3_1qcipu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22 F] ex [22 M] thinks that I emotionally blackmailed him and I'm looking for advice/support to stop this kind of destructive behavior", "post": "For some background, my ex and I have known each other for almost a year through an online game, and we've dated for about a month. We have never met in person, but we thought we had enough of a connection that things were worth pursuing. Before any of you guys asks, we've videochatted and I've met his best friend irl so basically we are who we say we are.\n\nWhen things were good they were great. I felt comfortable confiding so many things in him that I have never been comfortable telling anybody else, including past boyfriends. We have a lot in common, and find each other incredibly attractive.\n\nThe first problem about me is that I'm really clingy. I have my own thing going on with school/career and creative hobbies, but we have gotten into fights about me wanting to spend more time with him while he wants to play LoL with the guys. Objectively I have no problem with this, but this changes when I'm PMSy.\n\nWhen I'm on my period, I get exceptionally moody. Unfortunately, I find myself taking it out on my ex. In the past month of dating, I have broken up with him and gotten back together 4 times. Most recently this past Friday and Saturday I have gotten extremely drunk and broken up with him and attempted to get back together. My ex told me today that he did a lot of thinking about it and he just can't deal with this behavior anymore and suggested that I try to figure out some way to deal with it on my own.\n\nHe mentioned emotional blackmail, and after reading an article about what emotional blackmail is, I feel like I unintentionally have been engaging in this type of behavior: \n\nWhen I'm in a levelheaded state of mind, I feel like I'm good at communicating and not being manipulative, but when I get stressed/PMSy/drunk it can amplify negative emotions that I'm feeling and in the heat of the moment I find myself doing things that I later regret.", "summary": "I guess my two questions are:"}
{"id": "t3_3bk1ay", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Girl [16F] that I [17M] like suddenly stopped talking to me after seeing me again", "post": "There's this girl I work with (she's 16, I'm 17) who I met back in March when we started working together. We gradually started talking to each other and by May she was definitely interested in talking to me. In mid-May we stopped seeing each other for a little while because of our work schedule. I got her number and Snapchat in early May and ever since she's been texting/snapping me a lot every day, and she's called/facetimed me too. She's said cute things to me, told me some secrets of hers, and she's asked me tons of personal questions about me. She's told me she loves talking to me and laughs at most of the stuff I say and do. \n\nJust last Wednesday things oddly and abruptly seemed to go sour between us. We saw each other again last Wednesday at work and we both knew we would see each other then, and even earlier that day we were happily texting and snapping each other. The second I got to work, however, she just glanced at me and turned back around. Didn't even say 'hi' to me. I tried talking to her and having fun conversations with her but she was barely responding, and I could tell she didn't want to be talking to me. I tried texting and sending her snapchats on occasion since Thursday and her responses seem like she really doesn't want to be bothered, and like I'm some random stranger. I didn't say or do anything different so I have absolutely no idea what happened as to why she went from messaging me happily all the time to not wanting to talk to me as soon as she saw me again.\n\nI'm going to see her again this Wednesday at work. Should I try talking to her about it? Should I just ignore her? Should I try texting/snapping her the way we used to? Any advice will help. Sorry for the long read.", "summary": "Girl I like and work with loves texting and talking to me but ever since we saw each other again last Wednesday, she suddenly stopped talking to me."}
{"id": "t3_cfgi3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Telcel blocks VoIP over 3g. Help me reddit.", "post": "Hello\n\nI wrote to you before asking you why in Mexico when you want to change your iPhone do to a manufacture defect it takes 60 days for Telcel to check with apple and get a response, I didn't get an answer but that's not a big deal I guess. Now a different thing happened, Telcel, the only company in Mexico that sells the iPhone has an \"unlimited\" data plan, I get 3GB of full speed, after that they slow it down but whatever, no big deal either\u2026 Now when you (Apple) started to allow VoIP apps on the app store I thought it was great, I downloaded Skype the first day it came out and updated it when they allowed it to work over 3g, the thing is, in Mexico Telcel blocks VoIP calls over 3g, I went to a Telcel store and they just told me that it should have been obvious to me when I got my phone that VoIP apps would never be allowed to work over Telcels 3g network.\n\nI'm going to contact the Mexican authorities that should take care of this injustice. I really don't think a company that offers an internet service is allowed to block the competition out of their network in Mexico, I'm also emailing you this because its your product that offers this app in the Mexican app store and you never get a warning either when you sign up for an iPhone plan with Telcel or by the apple app store that in Mexico apps that compete with Telcel, like skype, get blocked over 3g.\n\nThank you for your time.", "summary": "This is an email that I sent to apple and skype, basically Telcel doesn't allow skype calls over their 3g network. I\u00b4m going to take this case to the Mexican authorities but I don't think I could do anything to fix this injustice, therefor I'm trying contacting the companies involved in this matter in hopes that they could pressure Telcel into playing fair."}
{"id": "t3_11k860", "subreddit": "self", "title": "scumbag dad (not the worse probably).", "post": "Hello Reddit, I'm new to this site and honestly my whole life isn't all that exiting with the exception of my dad and his grandparents. My grandparents are, as far as I know, drunk gamblers, they got all of their money by playing slots at Las Vegas, and drink a lot. Because they wanted to share some their wealth with the grandchildren they may possible have in the future they invested their money into a secret account that the grandchildren wouldn't have direct control over until they reached the age of 21 (The legal age in this state where my grandparents live is 21 btw). By then it was believed that the savings would be either all used up because of school, or so little would be left it would be useless to cash it in at that point anyways. Because my grandparents saved the money for me it's technically my money so obviously I get to spend it however I want right? Well partially correct. This account supposedly can only be used if i go to school. As soon as i receive the money it's mine to spend it how I please. Of course I get chewed out for spending my money on things i don't need (like food for my mom when she needed help) by my dad who wanted me to spend it on selfish things like a car, or moving out. All I have to do is wait until I'm 21 to get all my money (which was, in reality, always mine) and guess what, low and behold, my glasses got damaged and I wanted my glasses replaced. So i had to ask my dad for some help but, when i asked my dad for a little bit of money he sends a check for my birthday (which was the 12th ;P). It was for $150 but it came out of that account. I mean What a jerk! He couldn't even send me a little bit of his money? Why does it have to be mine? At least tomorrow I'm gonna claim the account and be done with it once and for all.", "summary": "? Point: Dad gave me some of my money for my birthday. =[."}
{"id": "t3_2h906r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/m] feel like I'm caught in a never-ending limbo with my ex-gf [21/f]", "post": "Where to start...\n\nSo we dated for over 18 months. It was great when the going was good, but the last couple months of the relationship got a little rough. Lots of disagreements about the way I should act, how fast we should move (she wants to be married and planning kids right now), how much time I would spend with friends, etc. There were things about me she wanted me to change and I worked on them. One week I'd get a \"you're doing great!\" then the next week the change wouldn't be happening fast enough.\n\nWe've been broken up for 5 weeks now and it's still a struggle. I went cold turkey on her and didn't communicate at all for the first three weeks which was nice, but i still thought about her a lot. Lately we've talked a bit more, and typically it's nice and cordial.\n\nMy issue is she wants to get back together and i have absolutely no idea what I want at this point. I won't rush in to a big decision, but I could probably take a year and still not know what I want. I'm horribly indecisive.\n\nMy parents and friends have all said something along the lines of \"She is nice and we loved her, but we never really thought you all were right together.\"\n\nThe evidence that this won't ever work out is there..... what I'm struggling with is that I still think about her a lot and miss her. I loved her family and miss them too. I know I'm probably only remembering the good parts and me missing her probably stems from general loneliness, but goddamnit I still miss her. I have no idea what to do.\n\nI'm not really sure what I'm looking for here but I'll take anything. Anecdotes, advice, ridicule, whatever.. I want it all.", "summary": "GF of 18 months wants to get back together after 5 week breakup, I still have zero idea what I want"}
{"id": "t3_38v5om", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [F, 28] had an urge to look at her husbands [m, 29] phone and found 3 text threads. 2 exes and 1 fling", "post": "This dude has told her before that he needed attention from women but promised to stop after he got caught the first time. He never physically cheated on her (that we know of) but has had many emotional relationships with women over the phone that are flirtatious.\n\n  Something told her she needed to check his phone last night and she did. She found 3 threads to different girls (2 being exes) saying things like 'her my girl' and \"are you over me? Because I'm still not over you\".  The thing is though that these girls live in other countries so it's impossible to physically cheat, but I feel that texts like that are still cheating.\n\n  This guy also is a huge manipulator. He'll threaten to leave her (which I believe he does in hopes she'll beg him to stay and the whole thing will be forgotten) which he did today. \n\n   She is very against divorce so she always tries to fix it even though he hurts her with stuff like this.  They have known each other for 2 1/2 years and have been married for 8 months. \n\n   What do you think reddit. I know what I think but I want to see if you think the same.", "summary": "this chicks hubby is emotional cheating on her in texts with 2 exes and an old fling. All 3 live in other countries. "}
{"id": "t3_il9wr", "subreddit": "cats", "title": "Multi-cat people of reddit, I'm cat-sitting and I need your help!", "post": "Hi guys,\n\nI'm cat-sitting for a friend and her fiancee while they are off getting married in a far-away city. There are four cats (2 hers + 2 his), and they have recently combined households, so the cats are sort of, mostly getting along with each other.\n\nUnfortunately, one of the cats is pooping outside the litterbox, and it's missy, quasi liquid poop that is a pain in the neck to clean out of the (white) carpet. Today, the culprit pooped right on top of a cord, so the poop embedded the cord inside the baseball-sized pile, and the poo hardened a little, so I had to finagle the cord out of the poop, then clean the cord off and clean the stains out of the (white) carpet. I don't want to have to clean that up again.\n\nObviously this sucks for me, so I'm hoping you guys can help me reduce this problem until they get  back. There are three litterboxes (one more than usual): one had a lot of poop, one had a couple pieces of poo, and the third had only one piece. So I don't think it's that they are running out of OK places to poop.\n\nI'm currently going over every other day (the owners said that should be fine, although the owners also warned me that they may pee/poo in the corner). If I stop by every day, will that keep them from pooing outside the litterbox? I hate cleaning up the poo, but I'm already busy, so if it doesn't make a difference anyway, I'd rather spend the time with my pets.\n\nAlso, they have a facial pheromone dispenser already, which helps keep the cats calmer.\n\nSo what helps? Visiting every day? Making a fourth litterbox out of a cardboard box and a plastic garbage bag? Any advice guys? Thanks in advance!", "summary": "Cats pooping outside of litterbox; need advice to make them stop!"}
{"id": "t3_2bcbkq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [40 M] with my wife [35 F] of 15 years, No Longer Having Sex", "post": "I read an article about a man who sent his wife a spreadsheet of the number of times he was rejected. I realized how much I could relate. My wife and I have been married now for 10 years (together for 15). No sex in the last 4. Prior to that it was once roughly every 4 months. On our Honeymoon which lasted 3 weeks, we had sex once, and that was cause I convinced her not have sex on the day one is married is bad luck. I loved her and still do, she is my best friend. But now I am demoralized and depressed. I lost my job and can no longer focus, my relationship has no intimacy and my resentment grows. \n\n6 years ago we were in therapy which she chose not to take seriously.\n\n5 years ago she asked me to stop talking about it as she considered it a turn off. I did, now we don't have sex at all.\n\nI understand she is not obligated to have sex with me, it is her right to say 'NO'. \n\nBut then why stay with me? \n\nI don't understand why a woman who views sex as an obligation/chore would want to stay in that relationship?\n\nI can no longer continue feeling the way I feel, I no longer want to feel this way.\n\nIs my only next step Divorce and losing my best friend?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2ptxcs", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by Being Kind to a Hippie", "post": "In order to get a ride home from university for Winter Break, I consulted a local campus bulletin board designated for carpool listings.\nI got a ride with (in her own words) a \"free-spirit\" who decided to travel the country.\n\nI have been home in LA for over a week and she has parked her fucking Vanagon in front of my house every single day without fail.  I ended up giving her $100.00 for gas yesterday in a futile effort to send her on her way.  Instead, she bought an ounce of weed and sits on my curb smoking it all day.\n\nMy parents are suspicious, as they absolutely should be, yet none of us know what to do.  I honestly feel sorry for her and have let her shower in my house, which I instantly regretted when I found out she stole my damn shampoo.\n\nAs I type this she is staring in my fucking window from the cot in her van.  I pretend to be oblivious to her loitering, yet it is inherently troublesome for me.\n\nLast night is where I really fucked up.  I was under so much stress that I drank 15 shots and went to bed in my guesthouse.  She fucking saw me enter and crawled in bed with me.  I did not kick her out due to sympathy of her predicament and drunken stupor, and as a result, she thinks I am in love with her and lingers on my goddamn street all fucking day.", "summary": "I got a ride with a hippie from Denver to LA and now she lives in front of my house in her Vanagon."}
{"id": "t3_1ytwzw", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I am in big trouble for being a good guy", "post": "This is not your average story but im saying it before I get all my comps taken away and grounded till I graduate. This is not a sob story, I am just very much in trouble for trying to help.\n\nI am not your normal high school senior insted I prefer to be alone and and I am very quite, but that comes with a price. I spend all my time on computers and have grown to the point I cant function without one. I know conputers so well I decided to what many people call \"hack\" to see what I could do/find. The things I was able to do were limitless on my schools network.  I could acess any account, remote shutdown all computers in my school. Which my school is one of the biggest schools in texas and on top of that got around their firewalls.  I decided to tell my house office principle that it was easy for someone with great knowledge to get accesd and he seemed amazed saying he has always wanted to meet someone like me. He setup a confrence with the lead IT guy and head principle with me tommorrow and he said he is proud I told him about this rather than hiding it. He also mentioned he ia going to contact my parents on what I have been doing. I told my dad what i was doing before I did it so he already knew. But he calls my mom and tells her they want a conference today at 3 so my dad had to leave work to go to the school to talk with my house office principle about it and my mom texted me saying they are foing to press charges. The meeting started 40 minutes ago and im still shocked about how I told him what I had access to and he should fix it. Sorry of the story seems not detailed enough im typing this on my phone before its taken away. I will fill in any gaps and provide updates whenever I can get ahold of reddit again.", "summary": "dont be a good guy \"hacker\""}
{"id": "t3_248nrk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [29M] of 4 months doesn't want to know anything about my dating past. Should this bother me?", "post": "I'm  really happy with my boyfriend, but my one (kinda big) issue is that he doesn't want to know anything about my previous relationships. He doesn't like to talk about his either,  but the other night he ended up telling me a lot about his previous relationships. I liked hearing about his other gfs, because it helped me learn more about him. However, he doesn't want to know anything about mine; he says he wants to learn about me on his own. This upsets me because it makes me feel like he doesn't care, and there are things I would like him to know! \n\nr/relationships, what's your perspective on this?  Am I asking too much or being unreasonable? How much do you know about your s/o past? Do you share anything from your past? Why or why not?", "summary": "Bf doesn't want to hear about my past, I know a lot about his, this upsets me. Would like others perspectives!"}
{"id": "t3_2z2dau", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my Parents [Old Enough M/F] my lifetime (see earlier in title), I'm afraid that my current life goals differ from their hopes for me so much so that it will cause my parents to resent me.", "post": "The title describes the situation pretty well.\n\nMy parents are pretty anti-war/anti-military. They recognize it as a necessary defense force but don't really agree with how it's managed, the actions it has taken or the value they place on violence. (Note: this is just their opinions. Many, including me, will probably disagree with at least part of this.) \n\nSo the problem is that plan A for me is to join either the Marines or Army right out of high school (and go infantry) instead of going straight to college. I do want to attend college after the military but just not before.\n\nI'm just trying to figure out how to best deal with the inevitable friction once I tell them what I want to do in life.", "summary": "Want to join the military, anti-military parents certainly won't approve."}
{"id": "t3_4ajnsh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [45 M] 1 month, Hispanic and white couple, cultural norms or narcissistic abuser?", "post": "please help. 1.5 years ago ended an abusive relationship with a narcissist. White male, 7 years older. After him, I'm paranoid about getting involved with another. Terrified.\n\nMet new guy online.\n\nRed flags: \n\nrushed things \n\nDeleted dating profile after a week of texting \n\nConfessed he had omitted one of 3 divorces \n\nSays he falling for me\n\nSeems to agree with everything I say\n\nI can do no wrong \n\nWe talk for hours and hours and hours \n\nBasic timeline:\n\nHe lives out of town since I'm moving to his area for work in 3 months \n\nMet him in person 2 weeks later \n\nDecided to date\n\nVery attentive \n\nSaid he wants me to be in his house as often as possible \n\nFast forward to this week:\n\nCame to stay with him for a week\n\nPassionate first 2 days\n\nI feel nervous now\n\nI feel distance on his end \n\nHe seems more genuine when drunk\n\nHe can be very self centered \n\nHe can be kind of cold and off putting \n\nI'm scared he will turn out to be another narcissist \n\nHoweber he seems to do anything I ask\n\nAt the same time, I feel passive aggressiveness \n\nAs a result of my abusive relationship I became super Independent\n\nSo while here, I'm working and networking as well. Don't need him next to me 24/7.\n\nBut physically we are good.\n\nIdk- are white men typically cold and just not as passionate and caring as Hispanic men?? He seems to be super into me but shy in a way. \n\nIs it the age difference?\n\nOr worse yet- sociopath? I can't help but feel worried about that. I kept asking him to tell me about feeling scared or worried about ANYTHING and he's like, nah sweetie I don't freak out :)\n\nThat worries the fuck out of me. Help. Should I still keep waiting it out??", "summary": "Young Hispanic female dating older white guy and confused about actions./ is it the age difference? Culture? Or sociopath???"}
{"id": "t3_s0u63", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "reddit, I need some advice on how best to approach a shitty situation between me and my friends", "post": "So basically, the other night I was convinced to host a little get together at my apartment with me and just 10 or 15 of my really close buddies.  Some of these people I've been great friends with since elementary school, others I met freshman year here at college, basically all dudes that I would trust with any of my personal belongings.  And I'm just the type of person that, if I get convinced to entertain my friends for a night, I have no problem with going the extra mile, hooking up the good sound system, etc.  Well, part of that sound system included my $400 tablet that I use to stream music.  \n\nAnyway, fast forwarding a few hours...we're all having a good time, everyone's buzzed, laughing, dancing, and people start to rotate picking songs by plugging in their own devices.  I paid no mind to it because I figured my tablet was just sitting right next to the speakers, whatever.  This was until I went to go look for it later in the night and couldn't find it anywhere.  So it got jacked.  I don't know why I needed to provide so much detail, but yeah.\n\nThere were only 3 people that I didn't know (and they came with my really good friend) so I figured they'd be cool.  I talked to the guy who's better friends with them and he sympathized, asked them for me, and all of them deny anything.  I'm 99.9% sure none of my good friends would do something like this to me, but I'm not sure what else I can do to get to the bottom of this.  I don't want to question the people my friends hang out with because it's entirely possible this is just a huge understanding; but if it's not, and these strangers DIDN'T take it, the alternative explanation is something I never hoped I'd have to deal with.", "summary": "400 dollar tablet got stolen at a party full of 10-13 really close friends and 2 or 3 strangers who came with one of my close friends.  How do I best address this situation without stepping on too many egg shells?"}
{"id": "t3_2pu37l", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "How can I stop the noise?", "post": "I don't know what to do about this since I live in an apartment complex and sure, I understand that there is going to be noise. That is the way most places are but my upstairs neighbor is so annoying. He blasts his music so loud that it shakes my floor. I live on the first floor so that says something. I have talked to him a few times to ask him to lower the music and he lowers it for a few hours then it goes right back up to the regular volume again. I am not sure if anyone else is bothered by this but I want to tell the landlord but I am too afraid that this guy will retaliate against me and I just want quiet. I don't mind a little noise, just not enough to shake my floor. \n\nWhat can I do to remedy this issue?", "summary": "Upstairs neighbor is too loud, talked, nothing, afraid to tell landlord, not sure what do."}
{"id": "t3_36enbm", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Standing up for myself begins here", "post": "I've always said I'm a resilient person. I'm a strong woman. But I've been through a lot of hell in my short adult life.\nI thought I was ready to move on after what had happened to me 6 months ago. Apparently, what they said about this sticking with me for life was true. The concept of a normal relationship seems too far gone for me now that I'm a different person. I was raped. And I've been trying to reclaim my life for 6 months.\n\nThat's not the beginning though. For 3 years I was in an emotionally, physically and sexually abusing relationship. Following that I spent another year with someone who sexually abused me. I was so done with being abused that I had a one night stand, believing that it was my chance to take ownership of my own body. It wasn't until a stranger raped me that I finally understood how fucked up my sex life had been. \n\nNow that I'm dealing with the aftermath of my rape, I'm unsure of where to go. I had two friends with benefits, both ending badly. One became my best friend and the other tried too hard to get me in his pants. I finally found the strength to tell him no. \n\nIt's been a long journey, but it turns out that the first person I fell into after my rape was the first person to even attempt understanding me. I fell in love with him, and I still am. He treated me like I was more than a body. He started out as a friends with benefits, but the moment he saw how scarred I was - something he noticed before even I did - he assumed the role of my best friend. For that I am forever grateful.\n\nRecently I fell into a new friendship that took a wrong turn. We had sex. Or do I even call it that? I didn't have the heart to say no. I don't know if I've ever been able to say no, after the first guy took advantage of me. I just assumed that any man who took the time to touch me had owned me.\n\nI'm ready to stand up for myself and stop giving my body up to people who take it for granted. It's my body. \n\nWhere do I begin to take a stand?", "summary": "Had 2 abusive relationships, one night stand, was raped, and had 3 fwb. I need to stand up for myself and my own body. Help me figure out how."}
{"id": "t3_4wmngb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25F] boyfriend [25M] of over a year wants to bring other people in our sex like; I'm not sure what to say", "post": "*", "summary": "My boyfriend cam up to me (we are both 25) and asked if we could open up out bedroom. Specifically, he wants us to experiment with bringing in another person to help \"spice\" up our relationship. I'm not sure how to respond to this situation since he really wants to do it. Personally, I don't get a good gut feel on this situation. How do I approach this situation, considering we have talked about it and he really wants to do it?"}
{"id": "t3_oujyw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Given all the talk about copyright lately, do you think that copyright hinders quality?", "post": "This is a thought I've had recently. The entertainment markets are so flooded with mundane, average media. From music, to movies, to [books](\n\nI've been trying to figure out why so many people are trying to be authors, musicians, or make indie films. It's not just because they think they have good ideas. I think it has to do with getting paid to do something you don't hate, or even love, even if you're only mediocre at it.\n\nBack before the internet, the cream still rose to the top because of how difficult distribution was. Only the best stood out. Fewer choices, but better quality. Now anyone can call themselves a musician with a webcam and some guitar lessons. Anyone can distribute a book online. Anyone can shoot a movie and edit it on their Macbook.\n\nI have a hard time finding good quality entertainment, especially music. It's not that the good ones aren't making music; it is that I don't have the spare time to hunt them down through the hordes of the average.\n\nDo you think that we have so many people trying to make a quick buck because of the way the copyright laws are written? If you you could only only own a copyright for 14 years, would you put in the effort to make a mundane one-hit wonder?", "summary": "I know the issue is multi-faceted, but do you think a big reason for the entertainment market being flooded is the way copyright law is written?"}
{"id": "t3_1lml3s", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need advice on next career move.", "post": "I guess to start with the story so far. I graduated with a B.S in Psychology (plenty of jokes have already been made at that degree).  Last year a left grad school early not finishing my masters after realizing that I was a tad impulsive and jumped into a grad program that wasn't right for me or my interests. After a about 6 months of unemployment I finally got a job. Not one that I wanted but a job nonetheless as a claims adjuster for an insurance company. Basically a glorified call center position.\n\nI have been at my current position for about 8 months now and I have no plans for staying in the long term as one I'm not a fan of working in auto insurance and two call centers drain the life out of me. Unfortunately, for the most part the only full time positions readily available to me in my current city are other call center positions. I want to attempt to move out of this city by early next year.\n\nMy question is what are my best options for a next career move that would make sense with the experience I'm getting at my current job and what is the best option for getting out of this city? Where would be the best places to look for a new gig. I do have experience in the health care field from an internship at an oncology clinic I had during my undergrad, and a year of research experience.", "summary": "Hate my current job, unsure on what the next reasonable career move for myself should be."}
{"id": "t3_jaa1n", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Someone stole my shit while I was eating cake in my kitchen. I know the approximate address. Any idea what to do next?", "post": "3 days ago, I left my room at 22:00, to eat cake in the kitchen. I usually lock my room just to go to the toilet, but just this once, I was too lazy to look for my key.\n\nI come back to my room 30 minutes later, looking for my laptop, to find out it's gone, together with 2 phones.\n\nAfter panicking for a few hours, I manage to track the Android phone down with [Plan B] The location of the phone is emailed to me on a google map, within 27 meters.\n\nI called the police, but there's not much they can do with such an approximate address. Any idea what to do next would be appreciated.", "summary": "Know where my stolen shit is within 27 meters, need help!"}
{"id": "t3_dxzv2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why can't mortgage holders buy their subprime mortgages back?", "post": "OK, I admit that I don't fully understand this enough to fully understand. But this question has been simmering for a while, so here goes. \nI get that mortgages are bundled together and sold as securities. They are generally bundled together by region and risk.  I also understand that these securities are nearly worthless in a lot of cases. Say a 100K mortgage is worth $2000 in a security. Why can't the the people who are part of that bundled security band together and buy it? Even if some people aren't part of it, wouldn't it even be worth it at 10K?\nPeople own the house, banks take the hit for taking the risk and we all move on. Why is this not viable.", "summary": "why can't you buy your mortgage back at the price others are paying for it?"}
{"id": "t3_4k1klg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my partner [27 M/] of 2 years, should I go attend a party where ex will be present ?", "post": "This is my first time posting here in Reddit. So I'm a bit nervous. \n\nI have been with my partner(Ben) for 2 years now. He's one of the most wonderful guys I know. He has never ever given a reason to ever doubt on him. He treats me like a princess all day everyday. \n\nWe have a birthday dinner coming up next weekend. It's Ben's Bestfriend's (John) wife's(Ruby) birthday. I know Ruby is best friends with my partner's ex. I know their 'relationship' lasted for a month. He wasn't ready for a commitment then. And I'm also not very close with Ruby.  I don't know if I should go. I also have work on that day. So I'll have to find someone to replace my shift. So should I tag along with him or just let him go alone ? \n\nAll the advice will appreciated!", "summary": "my boyfriend's bestfriend's wife's birthday coming up. They invited us. I don't know if I should go knowing my partner's ex will be there."}
{"id": "t3_2vpvnx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20F] told my SO [23M] that I loved him and he does not feel the same.", "post": "Not long after our 6 months together we had a conversation about the topic of love and it basically came down to him saying that he just was not ready/did not love me yet.  I was okay with this because I did not straight up tell him that I loved him.  \n\nTwo months later we were out at bars for a friend's 21st.  I was drinking and he was not.  I was so pleased with him being so great and sweet all night and putting up with me while I got drunk.  I slipped and said \"I Love You\" and he got mad at me, we left the bar and I cried all the way home.  \n\nNow we are approaching 10 months and Valentine's Day.  I'm always hoping that he will say it randomly, but at this point I feel like its never going to happen.  We've been talking a lot about what to do for Valentine's Day because I will be gone all day long.  He told me he thought of a cute idea and I was like DO IT!!! and he said he couldn't \"because of the 'i love you thing.'\" I hate that the fact that he doesn't love me back is now a \"thing.\"  So now I pretty much know that I won't be hearing those three little words on Valentine's Day.  \n\nI think part of the problem is that he takes \"I love you\" a lot more seriously than I do.  I feel like I fall in love with things every day, all the time, so telling him I love him is just natural, especially when I'm out drinking and we're having a good time, and, I love him. \n\nBy now its just looming over my head and I deserve to be loved.  I do so much for him, and I put so much into this relationship that I at least deserve to be loved back.  I know that there is some guy out there who would gladly love me, but then it wouldn't be the guy that I love :\\", "summary": "I said I love you at 8 months, going on 10 months he has yet to feel the same."}
{"id": "t3_31ramr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [30 M] with my wife [29 F] of 8 years, how to tell her to shut up in the morning?", "post": "So this is definitely a smaller issue: it's not like my wife is cheating on me with my best dog whose mother wants to live with me for the next fifty years. Throwaway because my wife occasionally looks at reddit and I don't want to passively-aggressively use the site to talk to her.\n\nMy wife and I wake up early most days, whereupon I work out and she reads Facebook and tinkers around. I generally enjoy my wife's company and conversation, but in the morning I really want to be left alone. I've tried putting on light music and moving rooms, but my wife will always come in mid-set to talk about something she saw. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I really need a way to tell her to shut it before I blow up at her accidentally.", "summary": "How do I tell my wife to shut up in a nice way?"}
{"id": "t3_3d8xd7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24,F] ex wants to meet me [28,M] after 4 months of no contact to \"get some things off her chest\". What do I do?", "post": "It's been a HORRIBLE 4 months but I've been healing really well and feel that full recovery is right around the corner. \n\nShe's contacted me 4 times since SHE dumped me, trying to be friends, but I keep telling her I need time. We have a number of mutual friends (mostly my friends) who she has been in constant contact with. She's always asking about me, has been on my FB and keeps telling everyone she wants to see me/talk to me. \n\nI'm really not sure what to do. I told her that I did not think it was a good idea, but she says she's seeing things from a different perspective. She says she wants to tell me where she went wrong in the relationship.", "summary": "ex wants to meet up to talk about what happened 4 months after dumping me."}
{"id": "t3_3plxld", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26/F] plan on going to the Peace Corps for 2 years. I have been with my boyfriend [27/M] for 8 years. What should we do?", "post": "I plan on joining the Peace Corps for 2 years, then returning for Grad School possibly in another state.\n\nWe have not talked about what would happen with our relationship, but so far he's been supportive in what I want to do. We have been together for 8 years, he is my first boyfriend and my only partner. I am his first serious relationship as well. We are both very much in love and committed to one another.\n\nBut 2 years is a long time, I don't think it would be fair to make him wait for me. I do not mind a long distance relationship, although where I end up may have minimal access to communication.\n\nI know I need to talk to him about this, but I want to get other people's opinions.", "summary": "Leaving for 2 years. Is asking my boyfriend to wait unfair?"}
{"id": "t3_1cfm9q", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Beginner here in need of some help. Also prayers going out to any of you with family victims of the bombing today.", "post": "I am a 19 year old male who has had knee problems my whole life. I'v had surgery for them both in high school and just finished my physical therapy and have been running for about a month now. Today I ran the farthest and longest in my life. (6.5 miles [10.5 K for you non American folks] in 1 hour). my calves are screaming and I know I wont be able to walk tomorrow without extreme pain even if I stretch. My ankles are also in extreme pain now that I've cooled down and I have no clue what to do to help out the little guys. \n\nI was wondering if any of you know any tips or anything I can do to make walking easy tomorrow/relive some pain. Certain stretches, oils, creams, voodoo tricks, anything at all will be appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Idiot who probably pushed himself to far and in need of some tips for calf and ankle pain."}
{"id": "t3_18l2uw", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Exasperated new parents: please help!", "post": "My wife and I are new parents of a baby boy, who is now 2 weeks old. Although in good health, we have had problems with him from the start. All the problems revolve around feeding. Initially, the problem was that he wouldn't latch to my wife's nipple when Breastfeeding, or hardly if at all. As a result, he gained the lower end of normal weight in his first week of life. After consulting with pediatricians and then a lactation consultant, it appears the problem is that his mouth is too small and/or my wife's nipples are not large enough for him to suckle properly. My wife has made due with a nipple shield but it is only marginally more effective than a naked nipple, and we often have to supplement him with breastmilk from a bottle that my wife pumps into, which he devours. \n\nLately yet another problem has appeared.  He will demand food seemingly continuously. Not every 2 hours, but almost every hour and sometimes even more!  This has been going on for about 2 days, and my wife and I are beginning to lose our sanity. \n\nWe have further appointments with the pediatrician and the lactation consultant soon, but I was wondering if any parents here have dealt with similar problems, and could offer any solutions. All thanks is appreciated.", "summary": "newborn son won't Breastfeed, then starts feeding on anything he can almost nonstop. "}
{"id": "t3_2cuvmq", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Being a young, adult gay male in a back wooded community it's hard making friends.", "post": "I get along great with people, and if it means anything I got voted friendliest in high school,  but I moved away from where I grew up for college and in the process between work and school I lost contact with my old friends. I changed a lot from being extremely active in church,  to becoming an atheist and learning a lot about myself and not who I was being told I was supposed to be. In the process,  I'm not overly fond of being around the \"church\" minded community not from bitterness, but a lack of common ground now.\n\nSo here is my \"off the chest\" rant. I don't have trouble finding close girl friends,  but I honestly want bro-type friends in my area to chill, play video games with,  and go to the gym,  but most guys that I've come in contact with here don't want to be close friends with a gay guy even though most people don't even realize that I am gay. So I've tried being friends with some of the gay community in my area and that isn't working for me either because they just want to have sex with me and they always stop wanting to talk to me when I tell them I'm in a relationship and I just want friendship. I know what you are probably thinking \"why don't you just hang out with your boyfriend?\" Well I would love too,  but we live two hours away from each other and circumstances only allow us to see each other on Saturday and Sunday until December when we move in together.", "summary": "it's hard making friends as an adult."}
{"id": "t3_1yfqzl", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Start career as blue collar worker, end it as white collar worker?", "post": "Hey\n\nWhat do you guys think about starting career as a blue collar worker, and later on switching to white collar job? What I mean by that, while we're young and our life expectancy is constantly rising, starting out as a blue collar worker wouldn't be too bad in this day and age, where trade jobs are in high demand, and which can earn you a decent salary after few years. One wouldn't start their career in huge debt, and could live pretty well off.\n\nAs one would get older, naturally, blue collar work will become more difficult to do (health, family). One would want to settle down and start a family, and thus the switch to white collar career. By the time one reaches that age (50/60?), one could've saved up quite a lot of money, and then go to college if one wants to, or perhaps start his or her own company.\n\nWhat do you think of this? It's not very well thought out, but as I'm a engineering dropout (it was killing me, don't tell me to go back), and thinking what elso to do with my life, this came into my mind. I don't feel like going to college for history (which is one of my passions), and have started thinking about learning a trade. And perhaps if I'm still interested, go back to college and study something which interests me.", "summary": "In this day and age, should one start their career by learning a trade,  or go straight to college?"}
{"id": "t3_4jf0gm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (20/m) conflicted about breaking up with my girlfriend (18/f) of 2 years.", "post": "Her family was going on vacation over next weekend and I was invited but I would feel guilty going and wanted to break up with her before then. I feel like it isn't the best idea though. \n   \n   I love my girlfriend but she is always wanting to drink and smoke weed which I'm not okay with. I tried getting over it but it always keeps me up at night knowing what she's doing. I know it seems like I'm being tight. \n  \nI grew up with an alcoholic step-father who was physically abusive not only no my mother but me as well whenever i tried to step in and alcohol has been a no for me ever since it just eats at me. My actual father was also a drug dealer so I always blamed drugs for the way he acted and for never being around. \n  \n From a point of view I can see how I'm being unreasonable but I can't get over these things. I've tried talking to her about it and she told me she wouldn't do anything if I didn't want her to and she still does saying she only tells me those things because it makes me feel better and that my past shouldn't affect her decisions. I love her extremely but these reasons eat at me.", "summary": "My girlfriend is drinking and smoking weed even though i asked her not to and I can't get over my own reasons to be okay with it."}
{"id": "t3_3gwhgq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[17 M] think I am falling in love with my classmate[17 F]! I don't know anything about dating/girls.", "post": "Hello people!\n\nSo, me and this girl. I don't exactly know how to begin, because it's my first post on reddit, ever. So it says i can use fake names. Let's name her Lea. And i know her since 1 year\n\nWe usually talk nomally just like friends. But when we're together at parties, well, we just get closer to each other. I guess that's mostly because alcohol makes conversations easier. But well, the furthest we got is holding hands and going a little bit around in a small forest next to a club. (we were very drunk and i don't remember much... Lea told me about this). But we have this more often, that we get closer while being a little bit drunk.\n\nSo the next thing is i know from friends, who are also somtimes texting with her, that it looks like she's kinda interested in me. And yeah, so i just wrote her one night, that i think we should talk. I am very sure that she knows what i mean and she answered that we only see eachothers at parties and normally you can't really have serious talks there.\n\nWell now i need your advice. I have no idea what to do and i am in panic. I hope somebody knows what to do. I am being serious and I'm hoping for a serious relationship. And I don't know if she wants to talk or not and to be honest I'm to afraid to simply ask her if we want to meet. aaaah. What to do??\n\nSorry for my not-so-perfect english.", "summary": "I'm always getting closer with a girl at parties while being drunk. I dont know what to do. already told her that i think we should talk!"}
{"id": "t3_w5spx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Need help! Finding favorite toy as a child...", "post": "I've been here long enough to know Reddit can work miracles and I need help indulging my nostalgic needs!\n\nSo my favorite toy as a child was a small, maybe 2-4 inches tall action figure. It was a buff man with grey shorts and short sleeved shirt, a green mask that sort of looked like a scuba diving mask -without a tank on his back, and I believe green boots. He didn't have many points of articulation beyond moving his arms up and down, legs forward and back, and maybe swiveling hips.\n\nI've no idea where he came from, but he met an awful fate one day as a child while he was swinging at the end of my string being badass... when suddenly he collided with a wall, causing him to explode into many peices, never to be recovered.\n\nHelp me Reddit, you are my only hope! Any information would be great", "summary": "need help finding green scuba mask action figure"}
{"id": "t3_21sg8d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17 M]Feel extremely anxious when around girlfriend ,worried 24/7 that I need to break up with her.", "post": "Im curious if anyone has been in the same situation I'm in. Im 17/M, I've been in my relationship for 5 months and its been one of the best times of my life. It's my first relationship and I love her to death.\n\n The weird thing is that about a month ago I started feeling incredibly anxious while spending time with her. Kind of like a repulsive feeling that wont go away, and it really upsets me that I feel this way because she never did anything wrong. I've been worrying 24/7 for the past month about this anxious feeling that I get with her. The anxiety calms down a little when I'm not with her. I'm scared that I've just lost feelings for her and that I need to give up.\n\n I began seeing a therapist, and they think I may have a subconscious fear of intimacy. I don't have a history of mental illness or anything like that, but I've been really depressed and worried ever since this whole thing began. Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this? If so what did you do about it and how did things turn out? thanks.", "summary": "I feel anxious around my girlfriend and don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1bxn3m", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Why I hate my neighbors.", "post": "They are loud. All the fucking time. If they are in their room they have their music on and it is all the way up.\n\nIf it's not music, their TV is literally ALL THE WAY UP. Like, imagine movie theater speakers in a 10' by 14' room.\n\nI live in a suite style dorm. The walls are normal drywall type walls. Not cinder blocks like a normal dorm. \n\nThey have motherfucking subwoofers or whatever. My room shakes.\n\nThey play music from 10am till 10pm. Or 2am on the weekends. I lose sleep because of them and then I'm tired all day. But I can't nap because they are fucking loud.\n\nI wish they would fail out of school. Like, now.\n\nI complain to the desk downstairs but there is no noise ordinance since it's a state school and it's run by the state and not the borough or some weird shit. \n\nI have written around 10 noise violation complaints but that has literally done nothing.\n\nI have never hated something or someone as much as I hate them.\n\nI'm doing bad in school because of them. I failed a class because I never slept before my 9:30am class. How is this okay? I've complained to many people about them and no one has the authority to do anything. I pay just as much to live here as they do. Why do I have to suffer? \n\nSome people aren't at school just to party.\n\nI'm exhausted, I'm stressed, and I don't know what to do.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "rude ass neighbors don't realize I'd rather not listen to the song \"Pussy Nigger\" on repeat for two semesters."}
{"id": "t3_1n6qsy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [27, M] falling for my best friend [25, F], also a Mate's ex (also a workmate)", "post": "I met this girl (lets just call her Scarlett), and my mate when I hired him about 2 years ago, he and I quickly became fairly good friends outside of work. \n\nI started talking to Scarlett this past Christmas when their relationship was on the rocks, purely as moral support as I had no feelings for her then, their relationship did not last and they went their separate ways a month or 2 later.\n\nScarlett and I have since then become very close friends, we have dinner every week, coffee every other day and she is also my boxing partner. We spend a lot of time together.\n\nNow, over the past few months I started to see feelings develop, and they have grown into something much much greater. I have perhaps picked up on a few signs that she may be starting to feel the same way, although this could just be wishful thinking.\n\nScarlett is currently overseas, due back in a week, and I miss her terribly, however we do Facebook more or less every day.\n\nSo being her best friend is one massive hurdle to climb over, the second, although my mate doesn't care that we hang out, is if the feelings are mutual and a relationship does occur, I would lose both that mateship and a harmonious workplace.\n\nWhat on earth do I do?", "summary": "Falling for my best friend who is also my mate's (whom I work with, and am also his boss) ex girlfriend, and I am after advice on what to do."}
{"id": "t3_hmbj7", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Hi r/loseit! Needs advice: fasting and weight loss.", "post": "I am 22 y/o, 156 lb 5,3' female. I went from ~120 lb to 160 lb in the span of three months because I had a horrible semester (sucky relationship, academic burn out, financial problems). But I am all zen now because as someone who is not involved in it, I can see that I was in a poisonous relationship. I got a great internship, and am making monies, aaaaawwwww yeaaaaaaa. \n\nBut my problem is that I don't feel attractive now. So I've started fasting, eat two meals a day (~1200 cal/day). I don't have much time to work out between my research and job. I've lost 4 lb since I started 2 days ago. I am not looking to shed poundage in any specific amount of time. So any suggestions/advice for me? And stupid question: does it affect my fast if I drink water in between opening and breaking it?", "summary": "Got any advice about fasting and weightloss? Is this a good idea for effective weight loss?"}
{"id": "t3_3ipdvi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by forgetting my phone in the taxi NSFW", "post": "Mendatory 'didnt happen today'.\nA couple of weeks ago i went to a music festival with my friends. One of the nights we were exhausted so we decided to cab it back home (the festival was in the city we live in). There were 3 of us in the taxi, and we asked the driver to drop us off in our homes one by one, me being last.\nIt was 5am and we were all intoxicated in some way (ehem) and just wanted to sleep, so the moment the taxi stopped by my house i just bolted out, not realizing my phone slipped out of my pocket.\nI got into the building, pressed the elevator button and.. FUCK!! Ran outside, taxi is gone.\n\nWhat do i do?? I know! Ill get my roommates phone and call mine, hopefully the driver will pick up.\n\nRan inside, up the stairs, into my house, quick knock on my roommates door and open it immediately (its 5am, hes asleep right?.. wrong!) \nI find my roommate sitting in the dark furiously masterbating in front of his laptop. He literally was sweating, i think i could even see smoke coming up there.\nQuickly i shut the door, but i still need to make that phone call! So i ask myself 'what would jizzus do?'\nI knock on the door again, explain the situation quickly through a closed door, and ask for his phone.\nThe door slightly opens, and the phone appears through it. I grabbed it with 2 fingers, avoiding any awkward hand touch, and the door slams shut.\n\nIm glad to say that at least my phone was recovered, but as i stood downstairs waiting for the cab, his phone got a message from chaturbate (yup.. thats a thing apparently).\n\nWe never spoke about it, and the next day i ordered a surgery to remove my eyeballs.", "summary": "forgot my phone in a taxi, burst into roommates room to ask for his phone, found jizz everywhere."}
{"id": "t3_1mlfs2", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Update on my daughter's skin issues with extra craziness thrown in.", "post": "Original post [here](\n\nShe had a full body rash developed by Tuesday or Wednesday night and I took her in Thursday to her regular pedi. They did a rapid strep test which came back negative and a KOH test that later came back negative. Sent in a culture for the strep and skin which both later came back negative. No bacteria, no yeast, etc. Were started on Penicillin V and fluconazole while we waited on the cultures.\n\nSaturday night had to take her to the ER for crying in pain off and on (she'd tense up while walking and shake) then she passed some blood while trying to poop. X-ray and labs came back fine so they sent us home to wait. Had us bring in a stool sample for testing once/if we could get it. Thankfully she was able to poop middle of the night without no blood passing and everything seemed normal there. Took in a sample to just be safe expecting it to be negative.\n\nSunday afternoon I receive a call from the on-call pedi on her cell. Turns out she has C DIFF! Yay us right on top of everything else going on with her skin. Add in metronidazole. The diarrhea had actually started that morning, but she doesn't have the classic C Diff smell people talk about. Still doesn't. Monday when we got the other results we were told to discontinue the antibiotics (which I wanted to do anyway). She is still on two oral meds and two creams, but yet we have no answers for her rash. Full body rash is clearing up slowly, and her diaper rash has bounced back and forth (was better, got worse with diarrhea, getting better). Back to Derm Thursday, and back to Pedi next Thursday.", "summary": "No answers for daughter's full body or diaper rash despite multiple tests. Ends up with C Diff."}
{"id": "t3_325thn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by waking up in the middle of the night", "post": "So I'm on vacation with my family in Vietnam for 2 weeks. It's currently 3 AM and I'm currently sitting outside the bedroom where I'm staying writing this right now. We are actually headed back to the states later tonight. \n\nAnyway my family is staying at my Uncle's which had a little limited number of rooms available so the sleeping arrangement ended being both of my parents, my little brother, and me in one room. There is a main bed on a frame and mattress next to it on the floor. It's hot as fuck here and the air conditioning blows right onto the main bed and my parents can't sleep on it because of the cold air. As a result my brother and I were sharing this bed. My brother is on the opposite side while I'm on the side next to my parents. \n\nMy dad is an earth shatteringly loud snorer when he's asleep and has been diagnosed with sleep apnea, but refuses to get a mask. So tonight I wake up in the middle of the night and I don't hear my dad snoring at all. I'm a little astonished at the fact and decide to make sure he's alive to see if he's  breathing. This is where I completely wished I hadn't woken up. I see my dad under the covers on top of my mom riding the wave, doing the hump pump, and yeah basically doing what I assume is old people sex, extremely quiet under the covers covert sex. I'm fucking frozen at this point and I just turn and close my eyes and ears until it's all over. Thankfully it took less than a few minutes for my dad to pass out start snoring, but the damage has already been done. I didn't know what the fuck to do, but I figured I'd at least let my dad do his thing and have someone have a positive from this situation. He will never know how I much I didn't cock block him. I highly doubt I can go back to sleep at this point especially in the same room. I suppose at least my dad gets some.", "summary": "I woke up in the middle of the night to discover my parents doing the deed while sharing a room on vacation."}
{"id": "t3_nalng", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Don't know if my first shot at a relationship in a long time is worth it.", "post": "I'm a 20m and the girl that's causing this indecision is 17. We used to work together and there was always a little harmless flirting here and there. I no longer work with her but we kept in touch, I stop by from time to time to visit everyone and such and if she's there we do a little eye flirting. The last time I stopped in, she gave me flak for not texting her as much anymore. So, I changed that and texted her, to which she replied almost immediately \"We should hang out, movies this weekend?\" \n\nI asked a mutual friend what she thought and was told that the girl doing the asking out had recently had a big hooplah with her mother about her seeing some 27 year old guy and the mother forced her to take a rape kit to see if she was sexually active. She hadn't been but I'm nervous that if I were to get involved with her, I'd get the same treatment. I don't know too much about her except the fact that I think she's cute, I graduated with her older sister, and she's into me. I've always been one to jump into relationships without really establishing a connection and hurting for it later.  I haven't been in a relationship in a couple years and I'm getting pretty down about the whole loneliness thing. Is it worth going on this date?", "summary": "I fucking love sharks."}
{"id": "t3_4nt33w", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Its been 4 months since the breakup. Why am I still not over it?!", "post": "(28/f dumped by 27/m) \n\nWe started dating while he was dating someone else (I didn't know until 4 weeks in). \n\nWe weren't sleeping together at the time so I didn't think much of it. Until he told me he wanted to \"see what was there\" with this other woman while on a date with me. (We slept together that same night because I was sure I would never see him again and honestly didn't want to)\n\nSo he rejected me and offered to be friends. I told him there was no way I could do that. \nTwo days later he tells me he made a mistake and wanted to be with me, dumped the gf. \n\nWe date for 2 1/2 months and then he dumps me 4 days after the death of an immediate family member. Claiming everything in the book of dumping as his reasoning. And again offered to be friends.\n\nOne week after dumping me he started sleeping with the same chick he dumped to be with me....\n\nI wrote a closure letter 2 months later and sent it like an idiot. He responded nicely but then turned very mean and angry. He said I hurt him and said horrible things...I was confused because I never said anything horrible to him, if I had I would apologize. It almost sounded like he had me confused with someone else...maybe an ex or something. \n\nAfter spilling my heart out he made a point to tell me that he and this other woman were \"talking again\". I wished him luck and said I was happy for him (through streams of tears). Then he said that things didn't have to be this way. I told him that things are the way they are and I wished him the best.\n\nHe called me a sociopath in response so I blocked him.\n\nI am still having trouble getting over this. I feel rejected and wronged....I don't want to think about it anymore but I also can't bring myself to date anyone. I know this man is not a good person and tell myself that everyday. How much longer will this hurt?", "summary": "Took a chance on someone after being single and celibate (not by choice) for 2 years."}
{"id": "t3_26hfwk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] ,4 months, has a high sex drive and is constantly in the mood", "post": "In the morning, in the afternoon, at night, everyday, he is always trying to have sex with me. He's not rough about it at all, but will just gently hug me and shower me with kisses, while lightly grinding up against me. He jokes that I'm just \"too sexy and irresistible.\" I first thought it was nice and affectionate in the beginning, and was turned on.\n\nHowever, now it's getting annoying. In the occasions that i do deny him, he seems a little sad, but nothing out of the ordinary. I personally just feel bad though, like i'm not a good enough lover. 3x a week satisfies me, but he seems to want it everyday. The thing is, the times i do \"give in,\" I enjoy it. It just takes me a lot to get warmed up, and that process is a bit exhausting and time consuming, so i'd like to do it NOT every day.\n\n This is my first sexual relationship, so i'm not sure if i'm normal or he's normal. I'm also not sure if i should bring up how i'm feeling to him, as he's really a great guy and i don't want to mess things up.\n\nThanks for any advice.", "summary": "Boyfriend wants sex more often than I do, how do i handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_jme2e", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The current school of thought is that a person should go directly from high school to college to job. How do you jump into this if you only have a vague idea of what you're getting into?", "post": "The setup: A buddy of mine who'll be a senior this year in high school is trying to approach the college search, major selection, figure-out-the-rest-of-your-life-right-now with a bit of trepidation. I can't really offer him a ton of advice because a. I'm only starting college this year so I have no experience, and b. I know where my interests lie so I'm not in his unsure situation.\n\nThe buddy: He is fairly good at physics, computer science, building stuff with his hands, making new things, friendly debates, video games, and chess. He is an excellent chef and great at cheering people up. His personality leans to liking some freedom in his work and being able to twist ideas into a more interesting way when completing assignments. \n\n***HIS BIGGEST CONCERN***: that his interests are only what his friends like and that once he goes into a major in college he will realize that he never liked it after all.\n\nPossible paths include: Physics major, undecided major, taking lots of shop classes, traveling a bit, working on his grandparents' farm.", "summary": "The question: What's the best path for my buddy to take if he doesn't quite know what to do with his life yet?"}
{"id": "t3_2mkp5m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by watching TV", "post": "Ok so this didn't happen today, but a couple of years ago. My dad is ex-military and a soccer ref and now a judge. Needless to say he loves keeping fit. One day he was benching at home, and had me spot him while he lifted. Heres where I fucked up. While I was spotting him, the TV was on, and I decided to pay attention to a football game rather than him. As I'm watching TV, I didn't realize that my dad was struggling with the weight, until I heard a pop and him yell in pain. Two years, multiple surgeries, and a lot of pain later, my dad's doctors still don't know whats wrong with him. I feel very badly about what happened and it sucks seeing my dad in pain", "summary": "Watched TV while spotting dad lifting. Dad's shoulder popped, my fault. Don't know whats wrong"}
{"id": "t3_312p2t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can a happily married man be friends single woman he is attracted to?", "post": "I (30/m) am attracted to a study buddy (35/f) at school.  I have been married to my wife (29/f) for 6 years.  We have small kids.  Busy life.  I am starting a new career, almost done with school.  I have changed a lot and my wife does not always want to hear about my hopes, dreams and struggles for my career.  My study buddy totally gets it as she is going through the same stuff.  She is a really awesome friend, the kind I have not had in awhile.  But I have a huge crush on her. Her and I have talked and don't want to do anything to jeopardize my marriage.  Study buddy and I have been studying together a lot and also hanging out some, with other students and with my kids.  We have talked about getting our families together (she has older kids and is single).", "summary": "I don't know how to be just friends with someone that is so attractive to me.  Help!"}
{"id": "t3_hm58i", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I've cheated on my GF twice already...been with her for almost 5 years...what do?", "post": "M; 24 here. GF: 26\nFirst met at 19 and she 21.\n\nI first cheated on her the first year we were together. It seems as if she knew that I was flirting around with the first girl so did some of my friends. \n\nSecondly was a completely drunk situation. about 1 1/2 yrs ago. I met up with an old family friend who I've known since I was a kid. We went out for a couple drinks to catch up, went back to my place, after a joint later we ended up fucking. She was married and has 1 kid....\n\nI felt like horse shit the next day and even more throughout the years. I'm feeling pretty disturbed by everything that I've done...and everything that I kept to myself. I'm too ashamed to let anyone know or talk about it with anyone. She loves the hell out of me and I've matured to a point to realize the shit I've done.\n\nReally feeling like shit, I've had feelings of just straight out breaking up with her and not letting her know why...other side of me says to say and fight your way back up to a respectable level. \n\nI've been avoiding keeping in contact with other girls as well as limiting myself from partying/going out. I realize what I've done and the effects of it so far. I've already begun reevaluating my morals and practicing them on a daily basis. I prepare myself mentally to deal with what I've done to her and myself as well as what to do now that I realize this. \n\nI just want to see what the community has to say about my situation", "summary": "Cheated on GF twice, realized what I've done, changed lifestyle around 360 to become a loyal man, havent met up/called/PM'ed another girl since then yet, still feel like shit :( What do?"}
{"id": "t3_2gggsc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27M] with my roommate [26M], not sure how to tell him I want to live alone", "post": "After college I moved across the country, a good friend of mine from college decided to join me. We've been roommates for the last three years and our current lease will end in February. He's a good roommate. We get along really well but I don't want to continue living with him once our lease comes up. \n\nWe do have some problems but they are mostly typical things that arise when you share a space with someone. What it boils down to is not that I don't want to live with him specifically, but that I just don't want to live with anyone. Last month he went on vacation for two weeks and I LOVED IT. The house was exactly how I wanted it. I realized that I'm tired of compromising certain things no matter how significant or not they are.  \n\nThese are the problems. I'm in a financial position where I could move out on my own, he is not. He's also not the type of person that would want to move in with a random roommate. I have a co-signer and he doesn't. Nearly all of the furniture in the place is mine. I feel like I would be putting him in an uncomfortable situation and it makes me feel really guilty. I'm also concerned that no matter how I spin it, he is going to take it personally. On the other hand he has told me that he has thought of moving back home sometime next year and that puts me in an uncomfortable situation of him leaving and me having to find a random subleaser. I don't want to live with a random roommate either. \n\nMy question is, how do I bring all this up without him taking it personally? Has anyone been in this situation before?", "summary": "Want to live alone, nervous and unsure of how to bring it up to my current roommate/friend"}
{"id": "t3_1m2wxb", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (18/f) have to choose between my parents and my boyfriend (21/m).", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. It's been a long-distance relationship (we met online) but we've spent time together in person and are madly in love and want to spent the rest of our lives together. I recently started attending college and my boyfriend and I were so excited because we had been planning on him moving out there with me (he attended trade school and is now working and has the flexibility to move). He has purchased an apartment and a plane ticket and is planning to come out here at the end of October. \n\nMy parents, however, are completely against it. They've gone overboard (my mom threw away everything in my room back home, she's trying to convince my dad to sell my car, and she's trying to get me to pay for everything entirely on my own i.e. insurance and whatnot). \n\nMy mom and I were always friends and my dad was the mean one, but the roles have flipped, even though my dad is still against it too. They are concerned I'll begin to completely ignore my friends and not get involved with anything (I'm in music ensembles, the cycling club, and the residence hall senate).\n\nHe completely refuses to wait any longer, which I fully understand. At home, he has only one real friend due to everything being expensive in New York City so he doesn't like going out with people. He isn't close with his family and is just very lonely. He will not wait any longer to move, regardless of what my parents will do.\n\nI don't want to completely ruin my relationship with my parents, I mean, they're my parents and they've given up a lot for me over the past 18 years. But I also couldn't imagine my life without my boyfriend. My parents want me to have the \"college experience,\" even though I feel like they are the ones that are messing that up. They call me daily and cause me to cry, which then causes me to lock myself up in my room and not spend time with my friends.\n\nI love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him. And I don't want my children to not know their grandparents. What the hell do I do :(", "summary": "BF is moving to my college town to be with me after 2 yrs of long-distance. Parents threatening to completely cut me off if he does. I don't want to lose either of them."}
{"id": "t3_4zjy2i", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Large unemployment gaps, outdated skills & portfolio, never worked in my field of study.", "post": "I am 45 years old, have been living out of the US for two years; previous to that my career history was spotty at best, lots of temp jobs, and short term employment. \n\nMy BFA is in Industrial Design, I've never worked as an Industrial Designer; my first job out of college was as a laborer (fall '01) then I was hired on as a marketing assistant for a real estate company. This had varying degrees of graphic design, nothing complex.\n\nMy computer skills have suffered because the ID field has moved onto software that is out of my price range and my computer's capabilities. I do still have solid Adobe Creative Suite skills. \n\nI also have a depression, anxiety, and attention disorder. The attention disorder is the biggest factor in my design work, little things slip by me at times but they are frowned upon when they have happened. \n\nI'm looking for suggestions in possible career changes or career advice in general.", "summary": "45, out of the US for 2 years, spotty job history, outdated skill set and computer skills, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_5215zc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15M] dad [??]cheated on his wife with my mom [37F]. He has not even spoke to me my entire life but now he wants to come and visit", "post": "So I would be lying if I said I knew all the details, I don't. All I know if my father cheated on his wife with my mother and I was the result. From their the events start to get hazy and confusing. \n\nSomewhere along the way my mother decided to make the move to her small town in Massachusetts where she grew up and I have been here ever since.  I have a half sister [13F] who my mother had with her current husband. For the most part life is good here and really no drama. It's really honestly boring here at times. \n\nI have reached out to him and he basically told me he wanted nothing to do with me. He told me he has his own children to worry about and that was over 5 years ago. \n\nI got home from school and my mom asked my Girlfriend and Friends to leave because we needed to talk. She told me my dad wants to meet, she does not know why. All she said is he wants to come here and meet me. \n\nI don't know if I want him to", "summary": "Dad wants to meet me for the first time, I don't know if I want to."}
{"id": "t3_22zsgw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my friend? [28 F] 5 months, Is it going to happen?", "post": "I met her at work but really started getting close after the company christmas party. I can list off thousands of reasons why she is the most amazing woman i have ever met (but i'll try and be brief). I asked her out after the first week or so to no avail. She listed a couple of reasons why she's not in the right space to be in a relationship. I remember asking her point blank if she thought there was a chance we would ever get together; her response was basically never say never. \n\nI've spent the majority of my free time with her since then. I know her biggest fears and she knows mine. She came to my place with my favorite food (comfort food) after she learned my grandfather passed away. She stayed up with me after my dog passed away and has just been unbelievably supportive. I have yet to regret a single moment i have spent with her. \n\nIn the short time that i have known her i feel like she has made me a better person (just by being herself). I have a tendency to internalize my problems and keep the world at a distance. She has helped me drastically change this unhealthy point of reference which has improved all my other relationships tremendously (friends, family, co-workers). I really love that she is kind of blunt and a straight shooter so she always calls me on my crap and my distorted thinking. \n\nI don't consider myself to be very vain but this girl is way out of my league (probably 4 points higher on that 1-10 scale). She has so many quirks that are pretty awesome. Example, Her stomach makes some gnarly noises which for some reason really help me snap out of \"getting lost in my own thoughts.\" I fear that at this point i may or may not be rambling on so lets get to the question. Will we just be friends or do you guys think that down the line we will end up together?", "summary": "I have found the most amazing woman in the world/ Do you guys think we will eventually get together?"}
{"id": "t3_22asf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Over-attached Drug Dealer [21 M]", "post": "Duration of relationship: 1 year.\n\nI'll call him J because that's the first letter of his first name. \n\nA quick background on me, though, first: I'm anti-social as fuck. Don't have a single friend that I'm not dating. Don't even talk to anyone. I'm OK with that though. I really don't like anyone I meet.\n\nI met my drug dealer J through my old work. I smoke weed once every few weeks, and I use a vaporizer and buy 1oz+ at a time - basically, I only buy weed once in a very long while. The last time I bought was October and I've still got enough to last for another month or two. Not a week has gone by that this guy hasn't texted me asking if I wanted to buy any weed from him. I keep saying I'll just text him when I need some, and that it will be likely weeks/months away.\n\nI can't just tell him to fuck off because I do need to buy drugs from him at some point in the not-so-far future, but I really don't need them now and I wish he would leave me alone. \n\nThe other day he texted me talking about how he was trying to \"step up his game\" and trying to find out \"who was legit and who wasn't\" and talking about me basically cheating on him with another dealer (Which I'm not, and if I was it wouldn't be any of his business). \"I can get u better bud cheaper i swear to god. you can try it before you buy.\"\n\nI agreed to buy some weed from him next week just to get him to shut up. But I'm sure after that he'll keep hounding me. So what do I do?", "summary": "Drug dealer won't leave me alone, but I almost never buy drugs. Don't know any other dealers/ am not willing or able to meet any."}
{"id": "t3_35vjqj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with various people in my life--what does it mean when someone says or does hurtful things and then buys someone a gift to say \"thank you.\"", "post": "I'm not really sure where to post this, so I hope it's okay doing that here.\n\nBut, I've noticed a very 'strange' thing which is that two different people (who don't know each other, but have similar ways of thinking) have said or done hurtful things to me (one co-worker and the other a family member) and instead of saying \"I'm sorry for treating you badly,\" and owning up to their behaviour and hurting feelings, they've each on different occasions given me a card with a thank you note for bringing stuff from home to my brother's new place overseas or buying a plant and writing a nice card for a coworker dealing with a family death.", "summary": "Me [24F] with various people in my life--what does it mean when someone says or does hurtful things and then buys someone a gift to say \"thank you.\"  Why do people do this instead of owning up to their actions and saying \"I'm sorry\"?"}
{"id": "t3_j0rua", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me Reddit: What's the best way to help someone through an awkward situation?", "post": "So, I was taking a man's order at the cafe I work at. He was pretty overweight, crazy hair, sunglasses with one of the arms broken off, and just seemed generally socially awkward. He orders a cupcake, which is pretty expensive, and I tell him the price is $4.26. He reacts: \"Oh wow, $4.26?\" And I reply that it will change his life.\n\nThe response that floored me: \"Oh, well, I'm going to hold you to that, if it doesn't I'll put it on my blog. Yeah, I've already been taking pictures of you with my phone, oh my god what am I saying.\"\n\nI laugh quietly and just finish the transaction in silence, pretending to not have heard him. But seriously you guys, this shit was hella awkward. And I felt super bad for this dude because it obviously just slipped out, as a joke that just turned out to be really creepy. SO WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?", "summary": "Socially awkward customer makes creepy joke about taking pictures of me with his phone and is completely flustered. I respond with feigned ignorance."}
{"id": "t3_41feas", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (25F) have been dating coworker (26F), unsure how to proceed.", "post": "Over the past 2 months I've been casually dating a coworker. I knew that this was not a great career move, but since transferring to a new country for work, and putting in 80 hour + weeks I've been incredibly lonely and craving intimacy/support.\n\nAt first things were going well: he was very supportive and intimate with me, seemed to genuinely enjoy spending time with me. However over the past few weeks things have been going down hill fast. He know longer calls/texts me daily, we've only had sex twice over the past two weeks, he has stopped responding to my text messages.\n\nI am trying to strong and move on, but I can't help wondering what I did to cause him to lose interest. Lately he has sent me occasional 'body call' texts, and I am not sure how to respond. Should I have a face to face conversation with him explaining that I want more than an FWB relationship? Or should I just ignore his texts completely? I would like to survive this situation with minimal drama and emotional stress. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Started casual relationship with coworker but hurt and saddened by his recent disinterest. Unsure how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_q90gq", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "How difficult is it to find work while on a working holiday in Australia?", "post": "I'm in the process of paying off some incurred school debts, and saving a moderate sum of ~$7000 - $10000 in order to travel as cheaply and efficiently as I can. My intended area of the globe is Asia & Australia, I'd like to use the **Subclass 417 Working Holiday Visa** to supplement my travels (as well as using the country as a home base) and I'm hoping to find work eligible for the 1 year extension. As you can see, I've got a fair plan already mapped out, I'm hoping to start my adventure in early 2013.. But the one variable is I don't know how difficult good, eligible employment is to find! So help me out if you can r/travel!", "summary": "Pretty much the title of the post!"}
{"id": "t3_2zwgr5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on how to break up with my bf. We live 3000 miles apart.", "post": "Hello,\n\nI'll try to keep this short. I'm 22[F], I have been with my bf (23) for 4 years. We lived together for 3. He lives in the UK, we've been apart for 6 months now, and it made me realise how unhappy I was in that relationship. I'm coming back to the UK in 6 months. I loved him, he is a very sweet guy, but he's got aspergers syndrom and depression, and I just don't think I can handle this anymore. It seems like a shitty reason to break up with someone, but I just want to be happy, and I don't think I can be with him. Now, I was thinking I could wait until I come back to tell him face to face, but he's started looking at flats for us to live together when I come back, and I don't know if I want to do this to him, letting him believe that it will continue as it was before I left... He's started an accountancy course that should end in August, he's dropped out of Uni twice due to his mental problems, he's doing fine in this course and I'm scared telling him I want to move on might make him drop out of this too. Also his parents have some of my stuff that I left in the UK, and I can't just tell them \"so I broke up with your son, but if you could hold onto my crap for another 6 months it'd be great !\" ... \nAlso we have a joint bank account I can't close while I'm away.\nAdvice needed. Please ! =(", "summary": "I want to break up with my BF, but I don't know when to do it, how to do it considering his mental issues, and how to sort out the logistic problems."}
{"id": "t3_354xe5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "i (23/f) think I need to break up with my boyfriend (24/m) of 2.5 years. How do I handle this situation?!?", "post": "Hi reddit- this is a throwaway for (somewhat) obvious reasons. My boyfriend is a redditor and we're in an awkward situation. \n\nI am super unhappy with my boyfriend. He's super disrespectful, frequently groping me or making inappropriate jokes about my body in public. When I convey to him that these jokes make me uncomfortable, and that I wish he would stop, he makes passive aggressive comments like \"well I'm not intending to be MEAN,\" or \"can you tell me what I'm doing to make you mad?!\" I explain the situation/my feelings, and then he continues this same behavior. He has also recently demanded that I get a second job, even though I work 40+ hours a week, and he works part time as a substitute teacher. I'm due to start graduate school in the fall, and I'm not comfortable taking on another job just to quit it in four months. I've expressed this to him, and he seems to think its all a big joke. He also displays other behaviors that have led me to conclude that I can't be with him anymore. \n\nHere's where the situation get awkward: we're both recent college grads, and have been living with his family while we get our ducks in a row, financially. They're great people and I love them dearly, and I hate the sever any ties with them, especially because I don't get along so well with my own family (besides my mother, who is fantastic, but not the best source of support in situations like these). Furthermore, the graduate school I'm attending is in his home town. While it's not exactly a small city, I don't know many people here and all of my friends, I know through him (they are also great people- I really don't know how such a douche managed to surround himself with so many fantastic people, but he did)! I'd hate to run into any awkward situations, but I know I can't be with this guy any more. I know I'll Have to burn some bridges, but I'd hate to make too many people hate me. How do I handle this without making people hate me?!", "summary": "how do I end a relationship without burning every bridge I've built in the town where I'll be living for a while?"}
{"id": "t3_1wb1rt", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[26/m] Past experiences talk gone bad", "post": "Gf[26/f] and I are together for 8 years. Some time before meeting her, I had a long distance relationship with a girl but only met once. This is important because the wanting to really meet at least once and get down to business was great. A couple of years went by and I finally had an opportunity to meet that girl and I didn't let it slip. This happened only once and it worked as a closure to me and the other girl.\n\nYesterday when telling her how the sex went, I changed the timeline so it won't *conflict* with our relationship, to which my gf said *So you lied to me, I was not your first :(*, this really hit me hard.\n\nWe are in our first relationship, we were both virgins when we met and we did a lot of first things together. So this is part of our history together and I think this is important.\n\n**Question:** I don't want her to think she was not my first girl, but if I tell her I cheated on her, will it be worse? Sounds dumb, but I' am at a loss right now.", "summary": "Cheated on gf, now she thinks she was not my first girl. Should I come clean and be a cheater or leave her to think she was not my first."}
{"id": "t3_1js8zf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [19/F] wont leave me [19/M] alone, after 4 years of being broken up...", "post": "Ok, I will try and summarize this as best as I can, because 4 years is a long time to still be caught up in someone, and me of all people! But ok, we will call her Julie, yeah, me and Julie started dating in the fall of 2009. Things went well, she was great, it was fun, all happy good times. Then came the following winter, roughly February of 2010 was when we broke up, just a huge stupid fight over her grinding with another dude and I didn't appreciate it and manipulated me to believe that I was wrong to be mad of it. But its all behind us. We talked through out that spring, even into the summer, had flare ups of getting back but never took off, that sort of thing. Sounds pretty fucking normal right? Not this chick. \n\nI ended up getting a new girlfriend in early 2011 into early 2012 and broke up. Thats a whole other story and is next to irrelevant to this, but after that girlfriend, I got another girlfriend who was basically a rebound, we will call her Sally. Well me and Sally knew we weren't right and mutually broke it off after a month or so of dating and became really good friends, about a year later and we still chat. Well Julie and Sally work together still and Julie talks to Sally about me still about \"why can't me and him have a friendship like you and him do?\" I simply just don't want to, this is classic \"Julie\" and it just shows how immature she really is that she is gossiping about me to my ex that I still am friends with and in a whole different situation with. I am texting Julie at this moment because she texted me, and I just don't know how to tell her that I am perfectly fine with the way things are and not being friends because she is the creepy ex. Please help me on this guys.", "summary": "My ex of 4 years is still haunting me to be friends, while I am completely fine with the absence of her and don't want to be friends. How do I tell her that I don't want to be friends and keep her away from me"}
{"id": "t3_3t2e3e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [31 M] with my gf [26 F] one-year relationship, major doubts, need to get this out", "post": "I (31m) have been with my girlfriend (26f) for a little over a year now. We live together. I have one child and she has two. Since about June/July, I have been having doubts about our relationship. Over the past month or so, it's become pretty major, where I contemplate ending the relationship daily. Maybe I'm just too scared to end it and I don't want to deal with the breaking-up part of it.\n\nShe's not a bad person or anything, but we have some incompatible differences that cause conflicts on almost a daily basis. These include: differences in how we raise our children, differences in sex drive/activities, differences in how we view new people/experiences/food/etc. I love her, but I feel like this relationship isn't good for my child and for me. \n\nI'm afraid of ending it and I'm worried that she will make my life a living hell during the time I give her to move out. (I own the house we live in, so she'd be moving out.) I'm not cruel. I don't want to just kick her out and have her live on the streets, but I am miserable living with her. I feel like this relationship is getting in the way of my relationship with my child. Seriously, I need out, but I need some advice on how to go about getting her and her kids out of my house swiftly. I have family in town that my child and I can stay with during the moving-out process. I really need help here.", "summary": "Live with GF of one year. Need help ending relationship and getting her/her kids out of my house."}
{"id": "t3_3ev9or", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (26M) a worthless piece of shit. My wife (24F) is scared of me, as much as I'm scared of myself.", "post": "My wife and I have been having a lot of arguments lately. Usually about the same stuff, she or I take something the other person said wrong or offensively.\n\n I have mommy and daddy issues, major ones to the point I have to feel loved everyday and shown affection. Sometimes I feel as though she doesn't love me, or she's disgusted by me.\n\n Today we started arguing bc she didn't want to hug or kiss me, as usual it turns into a 2 hour seaming contest and i noticed that it's starting to get more and more physical. I've never hit her, and she's never hit me. We have just been grabbing and poking a lot. I feel fucking horrible. I never wanted her to be scared of me, I want her to love me. I'm so lost, I feel like self harm on my part is inevitable. Please give me advice on how to make things better! I know I have a lot to work on!", "summary": "wife and I's relationship is getting more physical, need advice on how to not be violent when we feel wronged."}
{"id": "t3_4a9sjq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [20/f] depressed and dragging my boyfriend [22/m] of 2 years down with me", "post": "I have had anxiety for most of my life and for the past 2-3 years I've also been pretty depressed. Boyfriend did not know any of this when we got into a relationship but was very supportive and nice when he found out. He's been my rock (therapist has suggested I rely maybe a bit too much on him for comfort) and is generally very upbeat and positive and tries his best to help me.\n\nI've noticed though for the last 2-3 months that I seem to be dragging him down. He's more irritated than usual and more stressed about things that didn't stress him much before. He tells me the latter is a good change because he was rather careless before. I disagree with him on this but won't argue about it.\n\nWe live about an hour's drive from each other, so we usually see each other once a week. When I've spent time with him I have more energy and feel slightly better than normal. But I think when he has spent time with me he feels tired and stressed.\n\nI'm starting to worry that this relationship isn't healthy for him but he's too loyal and kind to notice or do anything about it. \n\nLike I said, he's more stressed and not the same upbeat happy person he was when we met.\n\nWhat made me think about this was seeing him with his female friend. I watched them chat and laugh together and realized what a perfect match they are. They're both gorgeous, blonde with blue eyes and fit, their eyes lit up as they talked about their favorite type of music (genre that I dislike) and I know her sex drive is very high and would be a much better match for him than me. He seemed so relaxed and happy with her, like he used to be when I first met him. It was very eye opening seeing them together like this.\n\nI don't want him to waste his best years in an unhappy relationship. But then again I know my depressed thoughts aren't perfectly logical so that's why I want a neutral person's opinion on this and whether I should even mention this to him.", "summary": "I'm depressed and it's dragging my normally optimistic boyfriend down. Worried he would be better off single. Not sure if I should bring this up with him."}
{"id": "t3_3l7mgu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18F] have talked to and been on about 4 dates with this guy [22M] since July of this year and he stood me up. Is he actually busy or just not interested?", "post": "Everything started out great. We had long conversations in text and in person, but once the fall semester got started he got busier and would have to reschedule things. I have no issue with his job (it's a full time computer job) being a priority, but usually he at least let's me know that he's busy and we might have to reschedule. \n\nThat brings me to another thing: I always had to invite him. He never initiated any text conversation unless it was to cancel, yet he would keep conversations going and seemed genuinely interested in person and over text. \n\nIt would be one thing if he stood me up on our first or second date, but we talked so much and had a lot in common and we have been on 4 dates. Relationships are new to me and I could be overreacting, but I really don't know if he's busy or just doesn't like me. Is this normal?", "summary": "I ask out a cute nerd and things go well until he stands me up."}
{"id": "t3_48emsy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by coloring my hair fire engine red and making my boyfriend think I was dying.", "post": "I usually dye my hair dark reddish brown, but thought I'd like a change. And being in college still, there's no better time to experiment with cool hair colors.\n\nI bought a box of hair bleach, and another of red dye and went to work in my apartment bathroom. After a while of sitting around waiting for the dye to take, I got in the shower to rinse it out. \n\nThere was a lot of it in my hair, so when i stepped into the shower, the bright red dye started rinsing out and pooling in the bottom of the shower, which doesn't drain well. And of course, some dripped into my eye, causing me to flail around, splattering dye all over the shower tiles and sliding glass door as I looked for a towel. \n\nJust as I was dabbing my eye with the wet corner of the towel, my boyfriend (He lives with me) came home and came into the bathroom. \n\nHe saw the red splattered glass door, and me in the shower, and screamed. I, startled by hearing him scream since I hadn't even heard him come into the bathroom, yelped too. I jumped back and stumbled to the ground in the shower, and he pulled the door open, freaking out. \n\nHe saw me fallen down in several inches of blood red water, with more red splats all over the wall, and that was when I realized how scary it must have looked. \n\nI quickly said that it was just hairdye, and we ended up laughing about it.", "summary": "Dyed hair bright red. Boyfriend walked in on me washing out the dye in the shower, and thought I was covered in blood."}
{"id": "t3_3ecqll", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[F19] My boyfriend [M19] is not good with gifts but our situation is kinda difficult.", "post": "This relationship has had its crazy ups and downs. We probably broke up at least 10 times in the last 3 years and this has left me incredibly insecure in our relationship, especially when its time to celebrate anything. Birthdays, valentines day, and anniversaries are like anxiety overload for me. Im always worried that he's going to do nothing. Maybe I'm just blind to the efforts that he does make for me but I still feel like he's not giving me his all.\n\nMy birthday was yesterday and the weekend before I planned for us to eat dinner and go see a movie. We had a really great time but I was still disappointed because -no gift, no flowers-. But i figured maybe he's waiting for my birthday. The day before my birthday he has off work and again I arrange to have lunch with him. When we meet its all kisses and smiles and happy. Spent an hour with him at lunch but he paid but there was no birthday gift you know. When we're together I dont feel insecure about our relationship but at night i cant stop thinking about every aspect of our dates. Am i just creating red flags? Am I being to demanding? I would be okay if he said like,\"okay I want to take you out for birthday lunch,\" or something but I asked him out to celebrate. \n\nI really dont want to break up with him over this. We communicate a lot. He knows that these things are important to me. He expressed that thats exactly why he fails to deliver anything. \"too much pressure\" and my response was that i would literally be happy with anything you spent time thinking about getting me. giving me something is better than giving me nothing at all. \n\nwhen i asked him how he feels about this he said \"idk\"\n\nmaybe i should just accept him making time to come out as his \"present\" to me and move on.\n\ni feel like im always just accepting the way things are.", "summary": "my boyfriend [of three years] didn't get me a birthday gift. We had lunch the day before and he had plenty of opportunities to get me something. He's busy a lot this summer but sent me a cute text in the morning. Am I being difficult or is he just ______(lazy?)?"}
{"id": "t3_37hfn4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22F] have no passion or sexual desire for my [22M] boyfriend of 2 years.", "post": "I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 2 years. We've had our up and downs, and love each other very much. The problem is: I didn't desire him much sexually  when we got together, and it's only gotten worse. He's fit, really attractive, but I have no interest whatsoever in having sex with him and he's more of a fraternal figure in my life right now. It's not a problem of *\"mixing it up\"*: I've tried several things by now. Sex is mostly awkward, I never get off and even though he's open to trying new positions and pleasuring me, when we end up doing it it's just awkward as hell. Most of the time I want to cry during sex. \n\nI'm attracted to other people, but don't want to break the relationship off as I really love him and want to work something out. I want to get past this, but it's hard to be in a relationship in which you don't find your partner attractive. \n\nWhen we met he was having sex every week with different people, was into really kinky stuff and had sex with both male and female partners. I'm not so experienced, but have enjoyed sex with my former partners much more. At first he tried domination stuff on me which made me super awkward, and when I brought it up we switched to more vanilla sex (he never had that) and just didn't do it for me anymore. It's been like this since the 6th-7th month of our relationship. I could seriously go months without sex, but I try to have sex at least twice a week to make him happy. He's very willing to try anything to make it work and tries pleasuring me and other things. \n\nIs this normal? Will I get past this?", "summary": "Have lost absolute sexual interest in my partner of 2 years, wondering if it's normal and what I can do about it."}
{"id": "t3_2ysllk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [20F] still try to show my ex of almost a year [21M] emotional support, or just stay out of his life?", "post": "Okay, I dated \"Jason\" for only about 7 or 8 months. We broke up because I was going through a lot mentally with myself (anxiety, recovering from an eating disorder, and depression) and I didn't feel in the right place to be in a relationship. I needed time to work on myself.\n\nJason has a lot of family issues. I won't get into that too much, but basically his dad is an asshole, his mom is extremely sick and Jason's the only one there for her. He's had to call 911 for her a few times as his dad does nothing to help, yet still is an idiot to Jason.\n\nAbout a month after we first broke up, I told him I'm still here if he needed anything. Unfortunately, when he wanted to hang out, I told him I would but i really really couldn't bring myself to be social yet/ see him. This happened a couple times, i feel REALLY stupid for it, but I honestly tried. I think as a result of this he blocked my number and we haven't talked since.\n\nI haven't had contact with Jason for a few months, but I still see him post on more personal websites (like tumblr) about how his mom is getting even more sick (may even be on life support, I can't tell completely by what he typed) he's extremely depressed and dealing with a lot of anxiety, and he said that the worst part is how he's still in love with his ex (me) and he can't get over it and move on or be attracted to anyone else because of it. I don't know if i should try to contact him and apologize and show him my sympathy for his mom and everything, or just stay out of it? I feel terrible and even worse for \"ditching\" him in the past, even though I don't want a romantic relationship.", "summary": "My ex is going through a lot with his family, and still misses me even though we haven't talked in months. Should i show him support for what he's going through, or just stay out of it?"}
{"id": "t3_fran8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How do you help someone with depression?", "post": "I am really worried about my SO, she is suffering a very big depression. Things hasn't been well lately, we have money problems and her parents are about to get divorced for her dad's drinking problem so I understand her to be sad, but now she is beyond sad, she doesn't cry or talk a lot about her feelings but every day she spends more time in bed, she is tired all day, she talks about dead, she says thinks like \"I just want to sleep forever\" or she starts conversation with questions like \"If I were dead...\" or \"If something happens to me...\" I am really scared and I can't even talk to her about it, she says that talking about the problems makes her feel bad. We don't have money to take her to some kind of therapy and I really don't know what to do. We love each other very much, she says that love is the reason the keeps waking up every day. Please help me, she is everything to me.", "summary": "My girl is depressed and I don't know how to help her."}
{"id": "t3_1e0i28", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Has casual sex with multiple people ever help lessen your emotional involvement with one person? [23F] [21M]", "post": "This is most probably fail logic but it's something that's been purported by a girlfriend of mine. I'm insanely into this guy. We have been casually dating/seeing each other non-monogamously for a month and a bit and I'm just trying not to get tunnel vision. We've already had the talk and he's said that he's interested in dating me but is experimenting with non-monogamy as a lifestyle choice. Last we hung out he expressed that I'm basically his girlfriend (which is not really the same as being his girlfriend.) I currently have him pegged as my best sex ever (which is true.) Will adopting an fwb or entering into casual sexual relationships help divert the attention a bit? Or will that only be accomplished with distance and time? (Sidenote: he is going away for a month to another city so this might help.)", "summary": "Will casual sex with other people reduce your feels/feelings for one?"}
{"id": "t3_sx3y9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What song did you rock out to when you were a kid?", "post": "I recently watched the new viral video of the dad driving his kids to school rocking out to bohemian rhapsody( and it reminded me of when i was a kid driving to school or the store listening to music with my parents.\n\nI remember whenever my dad would drive us anywhere we would listen to appetite for destruction by Guns n' Roses. More specifically Welcome to the jungle and Sweet child of mine. For example when listening to welcome to the jungle we would all yell at the end \"Its gonna bring you down!\" and grunt with the song while making a thrusting motion that to this day i can't help but do. But, the one i remember the most is paradise city. You know, right when the whistle blows and starts the guitar solo? Looking back i remember my dads ugly piece of shit car with no bass(because bass didn't matter back then) with \"ok\" speakers that for some miracle didn't blow out from the years of abuse. I remember every time that solo started the car would in sync start banging there heads and the whole earth would start shaking with us and swerving side to side, Honking the horn and raising hell(probably over imagined that) every single car ride. \n\nEven though i am probably not gonna be able to hear anything when i'm in my 60s it was still one of my favorite memories as a kid. and it certainly made a major impact on how i am today.\n\n(", "summary": "): So My Question is what song do you guys remember rocking out to or singing along to or rapping to when you were a kid with your parents and do you have a cool story along with it?"}
{"id": "t3_e5clg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can we change 'NSFW' to 'Not safe for Public'?", "post": "Labeling links NSFW just strikes me as odd, because I consider *all* of reddit not safe for work.  If your employer caught you wasting time on the internet, you would most likely get in trouble or fired.  I would think that Reddit-use on the clock is not something you'd want to advertise.  Then again, you might have an awesome job that has wiggle room on stuff like that.  However, if I'm browsing in a cafe or library etc, I would still like to be warned that a link contains nudity (or whatever).\n\nIs this something others have thought about or am I just splitting hairs?", "summary": "Semantics."}
{"id": "t3_2h9qsm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "22[m] just found out that my gf[21] of 2 years is flirting with another guy.", "post": "Today I just found out that my gf has been flirting with another guy for some weeks now. She hasn't really been texting me normally(daily basis) the past couple of weeks ( a lot less). I became suspicious last week when I was going to set up a printing app on her phone and I saw she was messaging someone ( it wasn't him) and the last message read something something do you like frank? \n\nI'm not really a jealous person but these things get you suspicious. So fast forward a couple weeks and shes talking about wanting to take a break from this relationship. I naturally ask her if she's seeing someone else to which she replied no. She assured me that she wasnt. I'm not sure if we decided to take the break cause we were still seeing each other after that (had sex, and I'd help get out with some problems that's she's going through). \n\nSo today i go over cause she needs a ride to work and while she's showering the suspicion gets to be too much and I decide to check her Facebook where I find out she's been flirting with some guy. They'd call each other cute and stuff. I'm furious at this point and I checked her phone and it just continues since sept 4 send each other kissey faces and shit. I confront her about it and she acts like it isn't cheating and I ask her if they've done anything and she's says no. What bothers me is that she kind of doesnt seem like she cares. This pisses me off because i think shes just using me now.\nIdk what to do.", "summary": "Girlfriend has been flirting with someone before and after she wanted to take a break.."}
{"id": "t3_12vlew", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Can Reddit help me out in sending a huge thank you to a veteran?", "post": "Over a year ago I befriended my mailman. Come to find out, he is one of the most humble/giving/amazing people I have ever met thus far in my life. He served in the Army. I started making weekly cards to brighten this man's day. Last year for Veteran's Day, I decided to send a mass text via phone/facebook to get others to write thank you letter's for a random veteran they didn't even know. I received 50 notes and placed them in a card for mailman. The next day, after he was able to read all of the letters, he sent me a very heartfelt thank you letter. THIS time, I want to do it bigger. Being that the Reddit community is amazing at joining together and helping out, I figured this would be a great opportunity. All I ask is that you write a note of thanks (doesn't matter how long) to Mailman for his service and sacrifice. I understand that this one man is not the only veteran out there and I also understand that veteran's day should also be a time to thank those that are currently serving. I have the utmost respect for anyone in the military, active or veteran and I also ask that you thank those, remember those and love those who are serving and who have served. My deepest gratitude goes out to all of you.\n\nFor the letters, you can start off by calling him Mailman or Mike if you choose to do so :)", "summary": "Befriended mailman who is a veteran. Gathered 50 letters from strangers thanking mailman for his service last year and sent them to him in a card. Doing it BIGGER this year. Write a letter sending your thanks to Mailman/Mike."}
{"id": "t3_2b6aoo", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by giving my tickets I was trying to sell to a homeless guy.", "post": "Me and my brother went to the neighborhood concert in Dallas but when we showed up two hours early the line was already hundreds of people long. We kept debating whether to stay and be packed into the back where we couldn't see the stage all too well, or go see rise of the planet of the apes and then play super smash brothers. Eventually we decided on the latter. My brother set off to sell the tickets for 80 bucks a piece. He was offered a maximum of 30 bucks. He then sent me to try my hand at selling the tickets.  I have grown up in a small rural town all my life and now I was bargaining on the street side in Dallas, and I guess this homeless guy sensed it. He asked to see my tickets. I hand them over. He says he can give 50 dollars. I'm elated I beat out my brother. He gives his guy a call. It goes to voicemail. He says he will be right back with the money. He doesn't come back. My brother is still berating me.", "summary": "I went to a concert with my brother and we backed out. I tried to sell the tickets and a homeless guy tricked me and took them."}
{"id": "t3_3cdrmt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by messaging the wrong person", "post": "So this happened a few months ago, but here's what went down.\n\nI had a Facebook chat open with my cousin, and another one with a group of friends from high school. Both chats were active at the same time so I would alternate which one I would respond to.\n\nAfter a while my cousin messaged me with this, \"What are some good gay movies that I can watch\"? and my friends sent a message saying \"When is everyone free?\" because we were organizing a trip. I responded with \"My gay or your gay?\" and \"The T days\" to each group respectively, I waited for about an hour and I thought it was strange that I hadn't had any more messages from either chat that was open, so I decided to check that the messages had actually sent.\n\nWhen I opened the Facebook message app I was in shock, because it turns out that I sent both message to the wrong chat groups. So I accidentally outed myself to my high school friends that day.", "summary": "Sent a message to people it wasn't supposed to go too, ended up outing myself"}
{"id": "t3_3s3wlp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25M] with my ex-gf [26F] of 5 years i broke it off and feel like garbage. I need insight.", "post": "Dated this girl for 5 years she was amazing and the most beautiful girl. We were each other's firsts.\n\nShe turned abusive at year 4 and cheated on me with my best friend. She dumped me after. One month later, she dumps him and wants me back. I foolishly accepted.\n\nWe've been \"dating\" but it's really just sex and then she would be distant for a week, then sex, then she would bring up something from the past and use it against me. I never instigated, all I say is 'okay' and talk about other stuff.\n\n**I finally left her today**\n\nI told her it's over and i never want to see her again. I blocked her on everything.\n\nMy problem is i feel extremely empty and depressed right now. I've been crying for 3 hours and I'm a wreck. Did I make the right choice? What do I do now?", "summary": "Finally mustered the courage to leave an abusive girlfriend. Now I feel awful and i dont know whats going on or what to do. I miss the old her so much. So so much."}
{"id": "t3_2tw71z", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by blowing my nose in the shower", "post": "Well reddit, I fucked up hard. I woke up this morning with a nasty cold, and I hopped in the shower before getting ready for school. I thought to myself, \"Why don't I just blow my nose in the shower, I mean, it's all just going to go down the drain anyway?\" \n\nSo I let it rip. Huge chunks of mucus came flying out my nose and onto the bottom of the tub. They were actually so big that I had to intentionally get water to flow onto them to make them move. I got out of the shower, feeling MUCH better with myself, and put my clothes on. As I was downstairs getting the last of my stuff together, I could hear my roommate getting up and walking into the bathroom. I was then serenaded by the lovely sounds of her screaming, \"Oh my f***** god!\" I half-jogged upstairs and saw her standing in the bathroom looking down into the tub. She told me, verbatim, \"Shadowheart321, I know guys have needs, but can you **PLEASE** keep it out of the shower and keep it in your room?\"\n\nI realized when I looked into the tub that we had just gotten a new drain catch and all of my nasty phlegm was stuck in it. I quickly caught on and started telling her that it wasn't what she thought and I was just really sick and I just had to blow my nose and it's not that, etc. She was listening to none of it and was still just staring into the tub with an appalled face on. As I bantered, my other roommate walked into the room to see what the fuss was about, and before I could even try to explain what happened, he looked into the tub and started absolutely hollering. In a last ditch effort to prove to them that it wasn't *that*, I leaned over, stuck my hand into the drain catch and scooped up some of my nasal droppings and told them to take a deep wiff of it. Then both turned out of the bathroom looking queasy as I stood there with a handful of mucus sitting in my palm. I will forever be known as the guy who picked up his own load from the bottom of the shower and told them to smell.", "summary": "Blew my nose in the shower, my roommates thought it was a wad of baby gravy, and I picked it up in my hand telling them to smell it."}
{"id": "t3_2n6f82", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[20F]'ve been dating this guy[21M] for a month and we've barely touched.", "post": "I was asked out by this really cute guy I met in library. He was one of those freakishly good looking guys and he was really polite and courteous too.\n\nOur first date was awesome. He took me to a really nice restaurant and we took a long walk afterwards back to my place. At the end, he planted the world's most awesome kiss on my lips. Seriously, best kiss ever.\n\nBut after that, he has not even touched me. After dates, he usually just hugs me and says goodbye. When I'm over at his place to watch a movie, which has always been the universal signal for getting down and dirty, he actually watches the movie. He'll make something really good to eat, and he'll sit on his single person sofa and I sit on the other one. I've never spent the night there. He cancels out any opportunity for physical contact. I can't seem to get close to him.\n\nNow, I'm painfully shy when it comes to stuff like this and I have no idea what to say to him. But, very honestly, to put it brutally, I want to fuck him. The memory of that awesome kiss is still etched in my mind. He's got a great body, he's really good looking, and is a damn nice person. He's even introduced me as his girlfriend to his friends.\n\nSo, what do I say to him ? I need words...", "summary": "I've been dating this guy for a month and we've barely touched, only kissed once."}
{"id": "t3_g652k", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "The Break Up: Should I have hope or just move on...", "post": "So my bf and I have been in a relationship for eight months, friends for a couple of years. \n\nI wasn't happy with how the relationship was progressing so sent him this message:\n\n*I feel like us being together isn't working. I don't think you'll ever like me as much as I want you to. I know I can't change you, but I really thought that by now we would be much more closer to each other.\nI feel like I'm a girl you hang around, I don't feel like a girlfriend. I don't feel special and I've been trying to hold back my feelings of love cos I don't want to put them out there and find out that you don't share them.\nI just don't see the point. I want a boyfriend who can express his feelings, I know you've been hurt before, but I thought you would get over that, that you would know you could trust me and maybe even fall in love with me.\nBut I can't wait forever and I don't sense things changing anytime soon.\nPlease can you tell me how you feel, otherwise we should just go our seperate ways.* \n\nHe replies with this:\n*To tell the truth i kind of agree with you. I've been thinking about it lately and trying to figure out why i haven't been able to open up and it's certainly not fair on you to let things go on the way they are. I thought that i would, given time, fall in love with you, but you shouldn't have to wait around for that. I do like you a lot and i don't understand why i don't feel the same way as you. You're beautiful, intelligent, funny and you deserve better. I'm sorry if i hurt you and i don't blame you for wanting to break it off.*\n\nWe talked on the phone and he said that he really liked me but wasn't in love :(\n\nDo you think I should just stay friends and hope that maybe he will see in my a different light?", "summary": "Wasn't happy with how intimate relationship was not getting, found out boyfriend wasn't in love with me ... do you think I have a chance in the future."}
{"id": "t3_zyiwo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(22f) dating a guy, one of his best friends lied and told him (24m) i'm a hard drug user/addict. I'm not.", "post": "Okay, so this guy (24m) and I have been dating for about 9 weeks (over 2 months) now randomly asked me today what drugs i have done with my brother. I was shocked at this question and answered it in full truth, saying that I have only gotten high (on weed) with my brother and gotten drunk, and sometimes shitfaced. (he knows all this already) \n\nApparently, one of his friends, a girl that he previously dated for a month (about 9 months ago or so) Told him that I told one of her friends  that I used a drug, the she can't remember the name of. But she seems to think it was worse than weed, and that I used it EVERYDAY until I met him. (She also thinks that the guy and I are not a good match - suprise suprise) The guy I'm dating has decided that she can't be lying at that I must be lying about the drug use (which I am sooo not)\n\nI've tried explaining the many reasons why I would never ever do anything harder than weed, but I'm still not being trusted. I'm extremely hurt by this and by his lack of trust in me. I confronted him as to why he doesn't trust me, and he pretty much said that Trust is built over time. (which is funny, considering I have a key to his place....) \nI'm really concerned about this, Why this friend would do this to me/us. I want to continue dating and hopefully build a relationship with this guy but i'm not even sure how to deal with this huge issue relatively soon in our relationship. Any help and advice is appreciated!", "summary": "Guy (24m) has a friend (whom he dated casually for a month) (22f) who told him that I (22f) did hard drugs everyday until i met him. Says I must be lying because why would she AND doesn't know who to trust HELP"}
{"id": "t3_2yaw14", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My[27F] boyfriend[33M] thinks I want to be with my husband.", "post": "My boyfriend, lets call him M, and I are both still married to other people. We have both been separated for years but haven't sought divorces because of taxes and other legalities it will take at least a year to get. But we are actively working on it. M and I have been dating for over a year and live together. We both have children from our previous relationships. Both previous relationship lasted about 5  years. \n\nThe problem: I'm still friends with my husband. M is civil with his wife, but is by no means close to or friends with her.  I'm still close to my ex and his family. We spend holidays with them. We go out to lunch or coffee.  I genuinely enjoy spending time with my ex, not at all in a romantic way. It took a very long time to understand you can love someone and not want to be with them because they aren't perfect for you, ya know? We had a very platonic marriage. We were always just better friends. M is perfect for me. I am head over heels in love with him. I adore him and have been planning a life with him. \n\nThe situation: Recently, my ex has been calling me. We've been hanging out more frequently. Maybe once a week for both. Usually with or about our kid. When he calls, I don't leave the room or ignore the call. I pick up and talk to him in front of M. When I meet my ex for lunch, I tell M. Well yesterday, I went to dinner with my ex, and our kid while M was at work. I told him when he asked about my night and he was furious.  He accused me of wanting to get back together with my ex. Said I was just using him to fix my relationship with my husband so we could go off and he a perfect family together. I get it. It looks bad. But I don't get it.", "summary": "Can you be friends with your ex?"}
{"id": "t3_2sijos", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU 'cause I got high.", "post": "So I get home from work yesterday at around 3pm when my buddy calls me up and tells me to swing over to his place to check out his new IPA home brew that was finishing up. I get over to his pad and we take some samples and its pretty good stuff. Afterwards he tells me that he also had made some serious brownies (the best kind).  Now the problem here is that I was starving and my stomach was empty, so not only was the IPA hitting my instantly, but an hour or so later I start taking a magic carpet ride through the universe of mind, body, and spirit. I occasionally dabble, but I was at an honest [9] and at one point was going through this:\n\nSo anyway. The day is a complete blur and I find myself waking up at 6:00am to get ready for work. I stroll in about an hour later, feeling fine, when I see my boss who gives me a super confused look.  He comes over to me and asks me if I'm feeling alright. \"Yeah, I guess I do, why?\" I ask.  \"Because you left me a message last night saying you wouldn't be able to make it in today.\" After some really hard thinking, an awkward pause that lasted what felt like several hours, and me babbling about something complete irrelevant, he just nods and walks away. \n\nI just got off the phone with my buddy and he said that I had called in to work after I realized I had to bike home 6 blocks and didn't think I would be able to make it back home in time for work tomorrow...", "summary": "I got so high the day before I forgot I had called in to work. Thought 6 blocks was 60 miles and it would take days to get home."}
{"id": "t3_1tb3rk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] one month, Silly argument", "post": "So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over a month now. But tonight was going well until we started talking about how some people wear sweatpants out on dates. \n\nShe asked me how I would feel if she showed up to a date wearing sweatpants and I responded \"Wouldn't you be a little embarrassed if i showed up on a date with you wearing sweatpants\"\n\nShe then didn't say a word, demanded i take her home. Apparently me saying this meant to her that i only like her for her looks, and she told me this really really hurt her. \n\nI dropped her off, kissed her farewell and drove to the gym to meet my friend, while at the gym we exchanged a couple of text messages where i get the vibe that I may not last long and she may break up with me. This is where i told her hurting her is the last thing i want to do and i said i was very sorry and poured my feeling out to her, and called her as soon as i was done at the gym, my phone call woke her up, i asked if we where still on for lunch she said \"Sure\" and told her goodnight, then texted her goodnight and asking that she text me when she wakes up. \n\nIts only been a month, we got each other Christmas gifts. Am i over thinking this? is she over thinking this? will we both be over it by tomorrow? would bringing her flowers be a bad idea? I dont know what im asking for in this post, but im probably not going to sleep tonight due to being scared for my life that this girl is going to break up with me.", "summary": "Silly argument or so i thought and i think she is breaking up with me? what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_4vfekn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26/f] with my boyfriend's [27/f] family. How to be less introverted/anxious spending time with them.", "post": "How to be less introverted or society anxious?\n\nI'm not sure which I am, but I know that I really dislike being with people for too long. In particular, it happens when I have to visit family/my boyfriend's family. I get really anxious when we're at his family's house for too long and try to come up with excuses to leave.\n\nHe comes from a large family with lots of kids and it can be rather demanding. One of the three kids always asks me to play, and the other two don't even acknowledge my presence. They absolutely love their uncle (my boyfriend), but don't really care to say hi or talk to me. So that, combined with my already apathy, makes it really difficult to want to play. He continuously asks me to play or will make up excuses as to why I don't want to eat all the food offered to me, and I think it gets to him. \n\nAnother thing is that all of their gatherings involve a lot of food (most of which I'm uncomfortable with). I have been recovering from bulimia for the past few years and whenever I visit I am pressured to keep eating things I wouldn't by my own preference. When I'm stressed or uncomfortable I eat, a lot. And I keep eating because the food is there. \n\nIf anyone has any advice for being in this situation, I would greatly appreciate it.", "summary": "I hate spending time with others for more than a couple of hours and it might be straining my relationship."}
{"id": "t3_239glp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 2 months, I still get tongue-tied around him when I try to say things like 'I like you'.", "post": "I got together with my boyfriend a little less than two months ago. Things are awesome, and I'm really happy, and he's a great boyfriend. I want to let him know that, but I have trouble expressing affection. \n\nI'm making an effort to be more tactile/physically affectionate, and I think that I'm doing an okay job, but I also want to communicate that I really like him in a clear and unambigous manner.\n\nI get disproportianately nervous because we can both be scarcastic people and we knew eachother in a more antagonistic capacity before getting to be friendly. I think that I'm having trouble leaving the old attitude of 'don't make yourself vulnerable' behind.\n\nI also have trouble putting my thoughts and feelings into words.\n\nAny advice?", "summary": "I get tongue-tied around my boyfriend when I try to say nice things to him, and I'm bad with words in general. Help would be greatly appreciated."}
{"id": "t3_1wugv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23M] with my ex gf [23F] almos2 years , broke up because she doesnt feel the same", "post": "I recently broke up with my gf of 2 years. I have been trying to focus on myself and is honestly trying to improve myself. But sometimes i wonder what will happen when i see her again. \n\nShe broke up with me because she doesnt feel the same way anymore. That she fell out of love. She said that when she see me she doesnt think i am hot and she wants me to be her boyfriend anymore. that she see me as more of a good friend. I am confused on how this can happen.the worst thing is that just a few days prior she told me she love me so much. I think its just the infatuation period ending. Thats part of the problem. I wonder if things would have been different at a different time\n\nWe were having a tough time previously and actually took a break. But during the break she was more affectionate that she had been in a long time\u3002when i pointed that out she said she was fooling herself. \n\nI want to just focus on myself. But sometimes i daydream about her reaction when she see the improved me. This makes me feel like i am motivated to improve cuz of her and not for myself. I want to just get over this and move on with my life.", "summary": "Ex-gf broke up because she doesnt see me as a boyfriend anymore. Confused on how that happens. Just want to move on."}
{"id": "t3_pwylv", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, can you help me reunite two old friends?", "post": "Through CouchSurfing.org, I have been planning a trip to Spain.  The woman that I am staying with in Cordoba is named Antonia and she is 56 years old.  She's asked me to help her find her old friend named Edward Carlson, who she did a lot of travelling with and has lost contact with.  Since she doesn't really know how to use computers, she asked me to help her, but I can't find anything on Facebook or Google, and I'm not really great at stalking people down.\n\nI think it would make her really happy if she could talk to her friend again.  This is the information she's given me:\n\nEdward Carlson, from New York City, used to live at 309, Avenue C and also at 17, Honey Lane, Miller Place in Long Island.  He served with the Peace Corps in the Tonga Islands in around 1973/1974.  He owned a sailboat named Erewhon, which my friend Antonia sailed on with him.  Antonia thinks that he is probably just over 60 years old now.\n\nPlease let me know if you can help me find Antonia's old friend!  She would be very happy and she's been trying to find him for a very long time :)  Thanks, Reddit!", "summary": "If you are good at finding long lost friends through the internets and would like to help out a nice middle aged lady, read this. :)"}
{"id": "t3_37mhxz", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I'm clinging to my relationship", "post": "I've been in a relationship for about three years (highschool and some college) and I feel like I'm putting much more in than my SO. It seems as though I value the relationship much more than my SO does but I'm definitely less happy in it than he is. \n\nThe last time we went out on a date was for Valentine's day. He's been busy with schoolwork and himself, and I've tried to be understanding, but I feel neglected. I think that if he has time enough to see his friends nearly every night, I deserve a phone call every now and then. He doesn't so much as compliment me anymore, even when I explicitly ask him to. Sex is a chore for him, and he'd very much appreciate it if I left him alone because he just isn't interested. \n\nI feel like I take his shit too often. He's cheated on me, insulted me, made me feel utterly and completely worthless, cajoled me into losing my virginity to him, insulted my parents to their faces, ignored me, and more. And every time I consider breaking up with him, and every time I forgive him instead. I feel like I've put in too much to get out now.\n\nThere are upsides to the relationship. We get along well, we never argue really, we have the same friends. The pros don't make up for the cons, but I can't let go either way. I feel emotionally dependent and afraid of being alone.", "summary": "I'm posting on reddit instead of breaking up with my SO because I'd just get back together with him anyway."}
{"id": "t3_2ct8p8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Gf's [20] grandma dies and suddenly I've [19] become the bad guy.", "post": "So just as some background my gf[20] and i[19] have been living together for a little over a year and dating for two and a half. Recently she got pretty upset with me and still kind of is and I can't decide if she's being unreasonable or I'm being an insensitive dick. \n\nSo last Tuesday my girlfriends grandma passed. She was really close to her and her only living grand parent her whole life. The funeral was two days later on a Thursday, really short notice, but I got off of work and drove three hours with her to the funeral.\n\nBefore the funeral, about a month or so before, my brothers and I had planned to get together four hours away where one of them lives. I told my girlfriend once, but we both forgot about it until the day of the funeral when my brothers texted me, so I told her about it. (We would be getting together the weekend after this coming one). Also note the funeral was originally going to be on Saturday, a day I had committed to help my family move across the country. \n\nAfter the funeral, she's really upset with me, won't tell me why. Finally I find out it's because I wouldn't have originally attended on Saturday because of my prior obligation to help parents move, and also that I \"sprung\" leaving to see my brothers, who I don't see a lot, on her so that I won't be here for her.  I don't see my brothers very often anymore either mind you. Anyway she's super pissed about all of this and we have a big fight, probably one of our biggest. Finally I give in, apologize profusely, and cancel the trip to my brothers which it now seems will not be able to do again for who knows how long. \n\nAm I being insensitive? Is she being unreasonable? I'm so confused and so upset I don't have anyone to go to. Please help.", "summary": "Gifriend's grandma died and apparently I'm a dick."}
{"id": "t3_3o0yf7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (28/f) outed my trans friend (27/f) in my sleep", "post": "Mary (27/f) has been one of my closest friends for four years. We met through work although we both have moved on to different jobs by this point. We mostly hang out with our mutual friend Julia (28/f), and all three of us share a common hobby which we are very into (I don't want to be too specific). We often go to meetups for this hobby, and are very active in the hobby community in our city. \n\nMary told me two years ago during a very emotional heart to heart conversation that she was born a man. I never would have guessed in a billion years and was very moved that she felt comfortable telling me something so personal. We talked about it fairly extensively at the time but until last weekend the subject had not come up in well over a year. \n\nLast weekend was a hobby meeting two states away. Mary, Julia, and I all attended along with 2 other more distant friends, and we all shared a hotel room to cut down on costs. Now the horrible part: I am a sleeptalker, and apparently *outed Mary as a trans woman to these three other women who had no idea, in my sleep*. Julia filled me in the morning when I woke up. By her description, it was very clear to all present that based on Mary's reaction to this, I was not just talking sleep nonsense but was actually saying something based in real life. \n\nMary, understandably, is totally furious with me. She won't even speak to me. I've called her probably 25 times at this point and she won't pick up. \n\nWhat the hell do I do, reddit? Is our friendship over?", "summary": "outed trans friend in my sleep, see title"}
{"id": "t3_2nv69p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [26 M] need help getting over someone [23F] I dated for nearly a year but had no feelings for", "post": "It's a strange thing to ask, because it's not like I'm in my first relationship, but the situation is this: I've been dating someone for nearly a year now. \n\nEarlier into it she'd told me she loved me, but I never reciprocated. I've never felt like I love her. She was just at the right place at the right time, and it snowballed from there. \n\nFor quite some time I've thought of how to break it off. She had her issues with family and stuff, having nowhere to go (more like unhappy with the options she had) and that's the only reason why I tolerated her being around (she slowly moved her things in and we didn't really notice). Aside from the sex, of course. \n\nBut now, things have come up and she's more occupied than before, and able to stay with her friends which she's fine with. Also she's been rather bitchy (which she owes to being more comfortable with me) and demanding; her money is for her, and mine is what we use for everything else. So I'm thinking, this is the perfect time to end whatever it is we have.\n\nBut for some reason, it's harder than I thought. I kinda don't want to break up, even though I can name so many things I dislike about her and things I tend to look for a partner that she doesn't have.\n\nHow do you \"get over\" someone? My past relationships ended in train wrecks so they were different; breaking up wasn't an option, it was an unavoidable consequence.", "summary": "Getting rid of someone I dated for almost a year is harder than I thought. How do you get over someone?"}
{"id": "t3_1hqrre", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18F] Ex [19M] blocked a cute guy I just met from my facebook", "post": "Hey guys.\n\nI recently broke up with my bf for a multitude of reasons. I went out a few nights ago and met this REALLY cute guy that I have quite a bit in common with. He got my number and I got his, and he added me on facebook. We haven't spoken since except when he texted me to say that we should hang out again. This was a little complicated by the fact that I was staying with my family ~3hrs away for 4 days but no biggie.\n\nI didn't realise my ex new my fb password. He got jealous and blocked this guy, along with a few others. I went to re-add the guy he blocked, but he has friend requests hidden (I can't re-add him).\n\nI don't want to be the girl with the crazy ex-bf, but how can I approach him so that we can be friends again on facebook? I would love to see him again but I imagine it would seem strange to add someone as a friend only to be then blocked and deleted for no apparent reason.", "summary": "Ex-Bf blocked a cute guy that I want to get to know from my facebook. Cute guy does not have the \"add friend\" button on his profile. What do I say? I don't want to be the girl with the crazy ex-bf"}
{"id": "t3_3plxrv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my colleagues [22/27/30s/40sF] and boss [40sM] - finding it hard to delegate/manage", "post": "So I've been working for my current company since April '14 as my first job in the industry. Other than Naomi [22F] I'm the newest member of staff. \n\nI initially came in to cover Lesley [27F] whilst she was on maternity leave but was told within a fortnight I could have the role permanently. Lesley came back and took over other duties which involve less responsibility and effectively reports to me as does Susan [30sF] who had been in the job around 4 years. The aforementioned newbie, Naomi, came in this summer as an intern but has now been taken on 1 day/week as my trainee/assistant. \n\nManagement loosely consists of me, Sally [40sF] and Liam [40sM] who is the director. There are no other staff of boards or departments, we're super small. \n\nNow the issue - I hate delegating work. With Lesley and Naomi particularly I feel like I'd be quicker doing it myself and with Susan I don't feel like I have the right to tell her what to do...even though I have! The main problem is that I find myself doing these tasks that I know I should delegate which means it takes me longer to do everything else and I'm up to my elbows. I get everything done, but it shouldn't be as stressful. \n\nAre there any online resources or hints and tips people can give me to get over this? Do I need to just suck it up?", "summary": "I hate delegating work to my colleagues and end up overburdened."}
{"id": "t3_38qsc2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [22 F] feel like my boyfriend [22 M] of three years has been using me.", "post": "We've been together for close to three years now, living together for two of those years. All of a sudden, he stopped being able to pay his rent and I took up his part of the share. (Big mistake, since once this pattern started it never stopped). Since he is still a student, I could make excuses for this, and he still payed for some bills where he could help and genuinely was helpful.\n\nHe quit his job several months ago at my bequest to spend more time with me as we were doing fine on money and he was working a ton to be making minimum wage. Then, emergencies came up and money has been scarce since then. There always seems to be too much month left at the end of my monthly paychecks. We've tried budgeting, but even now I'm not sure how to pay the bills that are left for this month.\n\nI've asked him to get a job about a month ago and I feel like he's not taking me seriously. I am seriously considering breaking up as he brings along some seriously expenses and I feel like I am digging myself into a huge hole of debt. I told him today that I was ashamed of him, and I have been unable to respect him since he doesn't seem to put forth much effort. \n\nAm I at fault for telling him to quit his low paying job in the first place? How else can I help encourage him to find a job without it stressing him out so much he won't bother applying? Should we break up due to the money issues because it will make my financial load lighter?", "summary": "Money problems and having trouble paying the bills are causing me doubt in a long term relationship. Considering breaking up to lighten the financial load.."}
{"id": "t3_1u7206", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend [M/21] lied to me [F/22] about not using tobacco dip anymore", "post": "I previously found out,by accident, that he had been using tobacco dip. I was in his jeep and was looking for a pen in the center console and came across it. I later confronted him about it, and he blew up on me grilling me about why I was snooping around in his jeep and that I was violating his privacy. I should note we have been together for over 3 years. I explained that I was just looking for a pen and this isn't about me, and how I was concerned for his health. So he said fine and immediately got up and threw it away. He then expected the topic to just disappear. \n\nFast forward several months till now. I am alone in his apartment and trying to be a nice girlfriend I am cleaning up some stuff off the floor and putting things away. I opened a drawer and found about 3 cans of dip. I think he placed them in this drawer because its not a drawer I normally open. I really don't know what to do. I am afraid to confront him again because I know he will blow up again, and there never seems to be a good time. Should I just throw them away and next time he goes to find them he will know I found out? I can't believe he lied to me. He said he would stop. What if he notices that I am upset and asks me what is wrong? What he did was not OK , but I don't want to make it worse by my approach to the situation . what should I do?", "summary": "boyfriend said he would stop using dip. I just found out that he never stopped. What should i do?"}
{"id": "t3_2s3vn3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my best friend [20 F] of 3 yrs, she broke up with her bf of 2 months three months ago. Since then she wont stop talking about him or feeling sorry for herself and im beginning to feel fed up.", "post": "For the 2 months after her breakup I was fully supportive of my friend. I unconditionally agreed with whatever she had to say about her ex, even if i knew she was wrong. I gave her all the sympathy I could; I was'there for her'.\n\nBut here we are three or so months later, and still she goes off about her ex almost daily, making small-minded comments about how he did her wrong that just really make me want to scream. Her ex didn't really do much wrong, yet she insists on referring to him like he stole everything from her and ran. \n\nIve tried to give my friend alternative ways of viewing her situation after she makes all these doom and gloom comments. Im really tired of playing into her mindset of, \"my ex is such a dick, feel sorry for me, the world hates me.\"  I really wish she could see it as, \"my ex left and who cares why because it's over now. Feeling sorry for myself solves nothing, so id better move on and allow myself to heal. There are other people out there for me.\" But anytime i approach any of those concepts with her, she shoots me down and i am labeled a bad friend who is supposed to just cater to what she wants to hear (that her ex is a buttface and i should just feel sorry for her). One big factor is she believes shes always right, never wrong. She thinks i should treat her word as gospel which makes it impossible to bring up opposing view points.\n\nI dont know what to say to her. It makes me cringe every time her ex is brought up because i already know what she wants me to say. I hate it. Im tired of letting her play the victim. I really wish she would get over her *first ever* ex whom she dated a measley 2 months. But no matter how gently i try to coax her away from her rut of playing the wronged victim i always get shot down.\n\nHow can approach this subject with her *without* any hostility arising?  What do i do?", "summary": "best friend cant stop talking about her ex and im tired of her feeling sorry for herself. It's almost all we ever talk about"}
{"id": "t3_2sk3uo", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Is he (30m)busy or doesn't want to talk to me(20f)?", "post": "I recently got together with a guy. We got along swell, have tons in common, never a dull moment. Last time I saw him we talked about our expectations from the relationship. I told him I like to hear from his regularly and I like goodnight calls. Things were fine, ever since them he never talks to me. In a week I've heard from him like every other day. He says he's just been busy, but too busy to say \"hey ill be busy\"? \n\nDo you think he is just busy or should I just break things off with him? I'm not particularly attached to him, I'm not really even angry at him. Its too soon to have strong feelings for him. I just dont want to be that stupid little girl that doesn't know when I'm not wanted.", "summary": "Dating a new guy, he drops off the face of the planet all of a sudden, should I take a hint and leave or should I give him time to explain himself if he does choose to talk to me again?"}
{"id": "t3_2he8aj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by getting a new phone number", "post": "Backstory: I recently got the iPhone 6, while doing this I decided to get a new phone number as well because, well tbh I just wanted to shed my past. I'm an idiot. Whatever. \n\nSo I got my phone on Friday, but the fuck up itself happened about 20 minutes ago. \n\nThe Fuck Up: \nOkay, so because of iCloud/iMessage when I got my phone everything transferred over accordingly and everything went the way it was supposed to go. Perfect. \n\nHowever, iMessage ALSO allows you to have one more than one mobile number that receives messages. Cool. So I set to have all the iMessages that are being sent to my old number, sent to my new number. \n\nThis would give me a few days to tell the people I wanted to tell, my new number. What I didn't realize, however, that when people texted me old phone I was replying from my old number. I learned this earlier today.\n\nFast forward to about 20 minutes ago, I text my boyfriend. I'm expecting him to know it's me because afaik I'm the only one who calls him \"Babe\". Wrong.  \n\nOur conversation: \nHim: Hey, is this Lauren?\nMe: Lauren? Who the fuck is Lauren? \nHim: Who is this? \nHim: I thought this was someone from The Dirty Nelly's the other night. I didn't meant to offend you. \n\nSo apparently he's been going to a place called \"The Dirty Nelly's\" and been giving out his number to girls named Lauren.", "summary": "Got to a new phone number, texted boyfriend, found out about his extra curricular activities."}
{"id": "t3_17qdrf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "No Kiss by Second Date", "post": "Met this girl almost a month ago on campus.  We went out on a short coffee date last week and had great conversation but no physical contact was made.  We went out for dinner and a walk around town last night.  Once again we had great conversation. I initiated holding her hand when walking around town.  After leaving a building she reached to hold my hand. Then later on when we were walking side by side she hugged my arm as we walked.  When we got back to her house her brothers girlfriend was outside and I felt that it would be awkward going in for the kiss.  How bad is no kiss this far in?", "summary": "Two dates with a girl so far but no kiss.  Am I in trouble?"}
{"id": "t3_4s9ct1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Serious advice needed.", "post": "My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Everything is good for the most part, but I'm having some concerns. We don't have sex very often at all. Most of the time he just wants me to take care of his needs and that's it. It's been 6 months or longer since my needs have been taken care of. I don't understand why he doesn't think about me when it comes to sex. It is always making sure he is taken care of. I use to say something about it when we first started dating, but it made him really mad when I brought it up, so I stopped bringing it up. Its extremely frustrating. I'm 19 years old and my hormones are raging all the time. Why won't he take care of me? Why is it such a big issue when I bring it up?", "summary": "my boyfriend is all about himself when it comes to sex. Why won't he take care of my needs and why is it such a big issue when I bring it up?"}
{"id": "t3_323jzj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(24m) going for a meal with my ex (21f) tonight for the first time since break up. Advice please", "post": "We broke up a fortnight ago after a year and a half together. We booked this meal ages ago and both wanted to go still. I haven't seen her since the break up. \n\nGenerally I feel okay about the break up as it was coming for a good 6 months. But even last night when trying to arrange tonight it still hurt me getting the cold shoulder and her making no conversation whatsoever. Whilst I appreciate this is probably her trying to not lead me on or anything, it upset me. \n\nIf anyone has any do's or don't or just general advice for tonight then that would be appreciated. I don't want to get back together as I feel it is for the best.", "summary": "keep me calm and tell me I'm not being stupid."}
{"id": "t3_2ujtvx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do you get an ex girlfriend back ?", "post": "im (21 M) had a mutual break up about two months ago with my ex (18 F). we message on facebook and she said she will always have feelings for me and hope things get better in the future but we can stay friends .Also that i was the best relationship she ever had and she was almost on the verge of crying. next day we went out to eat and just talk nothing about are relationship because we didn't want things to get awkward . After that day she just ignores me and never replies to my messages.\n\n#part 2", "summary": "i want serious responses how do you get an ex back?. "}
{"id": "t3_4h9pih", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (40F) do not get along with my (43F) friends husband. how do i handle spending time together?", "post": "My friends husband is extremely negative. He rarely smiles, always complains and gives constant digs at people around him.\nHe yells at their 5 year old daughter for small things ( running, laughing, general kid stuff) and will often yell at people around him when he gets angry  or frustrated. This is his go to emotion.\nAt parties he hides away and doesn't talk to anyone, even rebuffing attempts to include him - other guests notice and ask what is wrong.\nHe comes from a very negative family who fight and scream to solve problems.\nWhen we spend time together his behavior makes me feel on edge and i worry about the example he sets for my own children.\nI really love my friend but her husband's behaviour is souring our time together.\nI have tried to spend time with her separately however she often wants us to get together as families and i hate to refuse her. When we do spend time without hjm, a large part of the conversation is spent discussing him.\nShe knows he is negative and has told me they struggled in the past with maintaining friendships.\nI feel like im between a rock and a hard place.", "summary": "how do i (40F) deal with spending time with my friends (43F) negative husband?"}
{"id": "t3_1xeo82", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "10 years IT Experience but 2 months unemployed...", "post": "Hello Reddit! \n\nI need some job-hunting advice and I was hoping this subreddit could give me a fresh take on the situation.  Background: I lost my contract job as a Sr. Systems Admin in December due to the dissolution of my department and I've been looking for work since.  The problem has been that my last job before this one was also contract and also one in which I was let go before the end of the contract term.  That unemployment stretch lasted about three months.  During that time, I applied to about 15-20 jobs per week and had an interview roughly every week and a half.  \n\nThis time around, with more experience and the same level of effort, I have had a total of 3 interviews, but these were not direct hires so I'm faced with the same risks as I have been at the last two positions. I've been targeting System admin/SQL developer/Business Analyst and Jr DBA-type positions both locally and out-of-state. Honestly, I'm not sure if it's my resume or the positions I'm applying to (or the fact that I don't have a CS degree), but I was really hoping for some feedback/advice on what I can do to get some interest.\n\nPlease see the redacted resume below.", "summary": "Started working in IT since high school, fast forward ten years and I have been unemployed for the second time in this past year. Not sure what to do to get interest and get a job."}
{"id": "t3_2i7edn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M/F] with my gf [20 F] 5 years, Help me out guys, thinking about breaking it off but I don't know if I can handle it.", "post": "I have been dating this girl so long happily. My reason of concern is her attitude/temper. she uses her PMS as an excuse to be a TOTAL BITCH to me and my friends. \n\nour relationship seems good for 3 weeks of the month and one week comes around now where we can barely be near each other at all. I want to break up with her so bad sometimes. i'm starting to feel like now I do all the time. \n\nmy main question is to people who have been in a relationship as long as mine. How did you cope? was it quick?", "summary": "Girlfriend ruined relationships with my friends, I want to break up./How can I cope?"}
{"id": "t3_zsib5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Tell a girl I'm seeing about my criminal record?", "post": "I'm a 20 year old boy going into second year in college and am seeing a girl who is in 1st year of college and is 17. We're not in a relationship yet but id like to eventually have that with her. \nThe problem is though, that almost a year ago, I was in a drunken fight with someone over a girl and I hit him with a bottle of beer and was convicted of assault in april. But I'm only getting my community service done now and to make matters worse, its in the town that she lives in but she doesnt even know about the fight.\nIt seems likely that she will eventually find out. Many of the people who know, know her too and one or two were there and arent my friends and have told others about the fight to undermine me making friends (this has only happened once I think). I'm afraid that she will be freaked out by what I have done.\nsince the fight, I haven't attempted to or actually made any kind of emotional connection with a girl, but have been with close to 50 girls in the past year. I saw no reason to want to talk to them after I had gotten them but I've started to care for this one.\nI want to eventually be able to tell her about it because it wouldn't be smart to keep a secret this big from someone when it was extremely likely that she will find out, but i want to show her that what I did i'snt a reflection of who I really am before I tell her.\n\nshould I leave it sooner or later before telling her or should I just avoid telling her?", "summary": "was in a fight over a girl, new girl doesnt know and want to know if I should tell her before or after we start a relationship."}
{"id": "t3_2sjpwu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 1.5 years. We're both graduating this spring and she has to go back to Germany. Anyone else deal with this situation? How did you handle it?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and everything has been great. Unfortunately, she's a German citizen and I'm American, so when she graduates, she has to go back to Europe. We've talked about her working in America so she can get a visa, but the labor laws in her field (hospitality) are sooo much better in the E.U. that I don't blame her for wanting to go back rather than work here. We've also talked about me trying to find something in Germany (I speak a bit of German) or elsewhere in the E.U., but that seems unrealistic considering the language barrier.\n\nI'm feeling pretty lost about what to do, and I'd like to hear from other people who went through this same situation. Did you stay together? Did you split up? Was that the right move? \n\nThanks!", "summary": "My girlfriend will leave the US when she graduates this spring. If this happened to you, what did you do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lzyne", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What stupid things have you done as an adult because you honestly didn't know any better or weren't told otherwise?", "post": "For example, I had a flat tire and my gf and I decided we could change it ourselves. My car came with a jack and full sized spare so we had everything we needed. We followed the directions on the jack and 20 min later we had the new tire on. Sweet success! Amidst our joy and girly high fives, I rolled the flat tire to the dumpster at our apt and threw it in. More high fives, the tire was heavy. Turns out my spare was flat too with a huge nail in it. We took the flat spare off, left my car on the jack and drove to the nearest tire shop (in my gfs car) to get it fixed. I explained what happened to the guy at the counter and he said they could patch the spare tire but the original tire would have to be replaced. I was like yeah, I figured. We rolled in the spare tire and he asked where the original tire was. I told him I threw it away because it was flat. Then he says, \"Ok. Where is the wheel?\" And I respond, \"I told you multiple times, I threw it away, it was flat. I need a new one.\" He gave me a weird look. Then it hit me... rushed home, checked the dumpster...empty.", "summary": "I'm an idiot. Tires and wheels are two different things."}
{"id": "t3_43fexn", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "Tifu by not wearing shoes", "post": "This fu happened a few years ago but I'm currently sick and it reminded me of this event. When I was a teenager, I stopped wearing shoes outside. Ive always preferred going barefoot and see no reason to wear shoes outside of work or public stores. Since I've been running around barefoot for the past 12 years or so, my feet have developed a thick amount of callous on the bottoms of them. Fellow barefooters will know that as time goes on, you start to lose sensitivity in your feet as time goes on. Well a while back I was fishing with a buddy of mine and wasn't wearing shoes of course. No big deal right? Well a day or two later, I came down with a nasty fever. Really high temperatures, aches, vomitting, the whole shazam. I noticed that my left heel had some pressure in it and was a bit sore when I stepped on it. I looked at the bottom of my foot and it was extremely enflamed and infected. I went to the doctor immediately and it turns out I had stepped on a rusty hook. The tip broke off inside my heel and had managed to get just deep enough into the soft tissue that it gave me a gnarly infection. All my foot calluses prevented me from really feeling it in my heel the whole time until it was too late. The worst part about this whole event was that I didn't have the best medical insurance at the time so I ended up having to pay $150 out of pocket for the antibiotics.", "summary": "wear shoes kids. It could cost you more than the price of a pair."}
{"id": "t3_3yu3nz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should my husband [30/M] and I [29/F] start a joint bank account?", "post": "We recently married, after having lived together for a couple of years.  We have been together for 5 years.  We generally split the bills 50-50.\n\nI make 3-4 times as much money as him, but his parents (who are wealthy) sometimes help him out by direct depositing money into his personal checking account.  Needless to say, his parents help him out quite a bit with stuff (like buying him clothes, flights, etc.).\n\nWe are both cheap, but he is probably the cheapest person I know. He refuses to spend $10 on food, etc.  He never buys anything pretty much, outside of food. That's not a bad thing in general. \n\nI work long hours in a demanding job and I like eating out more often than he does.  He stresses about it though (even if I pay for it). He gets mad if he has to pay for food when he didn't want to eat out. If I spend $50 on something, he will worry about it.\n\nI like having separate accounts, because then I'm free to do whatever I want with my money without asking him first.  I invest most of my money in the stock market or save it liquid.  \n\n I think he saves his own money as well, although because he has a low salary, he does not have much savings.", "summary": "We are both cheap, but husband is cheaper. I make 3-4 times as much money as he does.  I like having a separate account to invest/do as I please with.  Should we get a joint bank account? Maybe put some of my money in a joint account?"}
{"id": "t3_czvi4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Have I got it all wrong?", "post": "Obvious throw away account because I post and comment allot and just need some quick advice. \n\nSo a while ago I made an OKCupid account and started talking to some people there. I met this one girl who seemed really awesome. We started meeting up and have become quite good friends. \n\nAbout a month ago I invited her over to my place to hang out, watch a movie, jam on guitar etc etc. The evening went really well and when she sent me a message not 10 mins after leaving saying that she really enjoyed herself. So, I bit the bullet and decided to tell her how I felt. All I got from her was that we have loads in common but she's happier with us as friends at the moment. I was kind of bummed because we seemed to get on so well and have something going. \n\nThinking that was it, I put it out of my mind (after much difficulty) and got on with things. We went out again just before I graduated and spent the entire day together walking in London and sitting around in parks. It was really great and it's frustrating how well we get on, knowing that she doesn't want anything more.\n\nAfter this I went travelling for a few months (post-graduation trip). Whilst I was away she got in touch asking me out again. This is where my problem is, we went out and again spent hours just sitting around chatting. I can't help but think maybe I've done something wrong, or have I just got the wrong idea? I asked her out to a gig tonight and even though she's got something else on she's cutting it short to come and hang out. I just don't know what to think. When we're together things seem amazing but when I asked her about it she wasn't so sure. \n\nI should say that she's very shy and I believe her previous relationship was quite a serious long one (5 years or so).\n\nThanks for any advice the great hive mind of Reddit can give!", "summary": "met girl online. Hang out all the time. She says she hasn't thought of anything more than friends, but makes a huge effort to hang out for hours."}
{"id": "t3_2ijn3m", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by doing to myself a \"medieval punishment\" at school. (it was actually yesterday)", "post": "background: live in Israel and go to a class of autistic middleschoolers in Raanana, even though i live in Even Yehuda (small suburban town).\n\nstory: so i get a little hyperactive and careless, and i am also in the middle of an emotional roller coaster. and i tried getting to my class, and there were people on the stairs. so instead of being patient and waiting for them to clear the way, i tried jumping over them, and kicked one of them in the leg. after the incident i ran to the class and looked for ways to do to myself \"medieval punishment\" (or harming somebody who harmed as punishment). started punching myself in the leg. then after a while where i thought it didn't hurt enough, i took a fork and stabbed myself in the arm. it caused damage to my skin but i wasn't bleeding. i hid under the table of the microwave for 5 minutes and then decided, to get to English lesson, but the teacher stopped me, and brought me to the computer forcing me to write an essay about the value of life. after 2 lessons that i was writing the essay, my grandmother came and brought me back to Even Yehuda.\n\nSo now i am expelled from school until i go to a psychiatrist.", "summary": "stabbed myself in the arm as \"medieval punishment\" for harming others accidentally, and now i am expelled until further notice from a psychiatrist."}
{"id": "t3_fnrzn", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever reported a company you work for that was in violation of software piracy or copyright", "post": "Throwaway account. My company sucks balls. I'm getting out of here ASAP. \n\nThey have a website with some badly-photoshopped stock imagery that I highly doubt they paid for.  It's such a low quality, I'm sure they ripped it off of whoever the agency was.  It's pixelated to all hell and on top of that, it just plain sucks. \n\nI've tried to run some through Tineye after a screengrab, but had no luck - I'm still sure they didn't take these/pay for these pictures. \n\nThey also have some illegal copies of MS Office.  I'm sure this is widespread (especially where I am), but what would happen if these two things went reported?  Do you think action would be taken?\n\nHave you ever done either of these to your shitty company?", "summary": "eh, fuck this. I'm horrible at writing concise shit."}
{"id": "t3_1ztiwg", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "NSV - I conquered the Carry-In!!", "post": "We're having a Carry-in at my work today for lunch - typically these are full of things like cheese or cream heavy dips, cheesey potatoes, things like hot dogs or sloppy joes, cakes or cupcakes, etc. \n\nI brought my homemade salsa w/ baked tortilla chips (not homemade) to offer a healthier option (and my salsa kicks ass, if I do say so myself...)\n\nThe table today is loaded with: hotdogs and buns, two kinds of pizza, veggies and crab dip, cake, cheesey potatoes, and soda. I took about a 1/2 cup of my own salsa, and three big celery sticks, and that was it! Plus, I made lunch plans with a friend to go OUT for lunch today - to a restaurant where I KNOW I can eat healthy foods for reasonable calories (and I already know what I'm going to eat AND have already logged it on my LoseIt app!)\n\nWe're having a Biggest Loser competition here at work right now - I knew I'd conquered the Carry-in when, while I was getting my salsa and celery I overhead a coworker - the one heading up the Bigger Loser competition - saying \"these cheesey potatoes won't be good for my diet, but hey, I've got another week before weigh-in right?\" as she was piling spoonfull after spoonfull of cheesey potatoes on her plate.\n\nTook my salsa and celery back to my office, drank some water, feeling pretty darn good!", "summary": "Didn't eat crap, feel good about it."}
{"id": "t3_1391b1", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what was your most awesome childhood adventure?", "post": "Just curious. So, here's mine:\n\nWhen I was in elementary school, I had a best friend called Dani. She had 2 brothers and all their neighbours had children (all boys) about our age. Dani's family lived in a huge house with a big garden, and owned a piece of forest, right behind their garden. And the whole forest this piece belonged to was really large. We always went out and played in the woods, and went to discover them. So, one time, we, toghether with her brothers and 2 of the neighbours' boys, found an old house in there. Thinking back, that was actually kinda creepy. The house must have been small, with thin walls. The roof had given in, so there was basically no ceiling, neither a floor because it had given in, too. There was a bed, some bottles, a table (of course the stuff was broken). We tried to explore the whole thing, but we couldn't go far because the floor was broken and I think we kinda got scared a bit, because we probably expected the zombie owner to show up or something. (we later searched for the house again, more than once, but couldn't find it anymore...)\nSo, we went on and finally found something like a gorge, not very deep but wide and probably still deep enough to cause severe injuries in case of a fall. From one side to the other, there was a dead tree laying. We decided that walking down that tree would be a dare. Looking back, this was actually really dangerous. But also pretty awesome. Me and two of the boys crawled to the other side, the others actually tried to balance over. Luckily, none of us fell.\n\nThis was the most awesome childhood adventure I have experienced.\nI'd love to read some of yours!", "summary": "bitch, don't be lazy and read the whole thing"}
{"id": "t3_1s87cw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Did my friend cheat on her boyfriend?", "post": "Apologies in advance if this question is not suitable, as it's primarily about a friend of mine, not me. \n\nI think I just lost my best friend. To be honest, my only real friend. \n\nShe is my housemate and we've lived together for over a year now. I haven't had good friends since high school (I'm 25 now) because I have trouble trusting people and she was the first one I've trusted and opened up to at all in years.\n\nAnyway, today I saw her sitting on our other housemates lap like it was no big deal (he's a guy). This isn't inherently wrong, except for the fact that SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND!. She was just sitting across his lap on the couch while they were looking at something on a phone and talking\n\nHonestly, I don't know how to feel right now. I've been betrayed in the past and so I absolutely cannot stand cheaters. To me, sitting on another guys lap like that when you have a boyfriend is definitely cheating and completely inappropriate. \n\nThe funny thing is, neither of them seem to care at all that I saw them. I can only guess they don't feel the same way about it, and she doesn't think it's cheating.\n\nAm I justified in not being friends with her after this? I feel physically ill right now. Am I overreacting and this kind of physical intimacy with someone other than your partner is somehow acceptable?\n\nI feel like I don't even know her anymore. I don't know how I can be friends with her after this.", "summary": "is it cheating to sit on someone's lap other than your partner when you are in a relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3oe18u", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How often should you contact a girl when first starting to date?", "post": "So im hitting that transition period between just friends (not long time friends, like \"just met and been flirting when I see her\" friends) and an actual relationship. Right now (and in previous attempts at this) I actively avoid too much texting with them because im worried about coming off as clingy, but last time I did this, the girl let me know I was basically treating her like we werent dating at all, which she had a point.\n\nSo I want to know how much you should/can contact a girl via text (in person I have no problem or questions, this is exclusively related to non-face to face communication) around this period in a relationship and if you could give some personal stories that would be great.", "summary": "what is a typical sweet spot for texting frequency when first dating a girl?"}
{"id": "t3_3c0huy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26F] boyfriend [25M] keeps bringing up a rough patch we had three months ago.", "post": "We've only been dating for 5 months but 3 months ago I had attempted to break up with him and he is still hurt by it.\n\nA little background on why I almost broke up with him: I didn't really have faith in the relationship from the start. Before we were dating, he would always jokingly call me his girlfriend, but when I asked to actually be his girlfriend, he would say he wasn't ready yet (it felt like I was in high school or something). I constantly felt like I was a bad girlfriend because he always told me I wasn't talking enough, or being intimate enough. The almost-breakup ended with me staying.\n\nEvery two weeks or so he starts crying out of nowhere and saying that he still has heartache over the almost-breakup. He said that the conversation that night felt one-sided and that we didn't resolve his feelings on it. I reassure him, telling him I won't leave him and that I love him when he starts crying. \n\nI'm trying, but I just don't know how to help him feel better about it. He's a much better communicator while I mostly shut down at a whiff of confrontation. I don't know what to do, I feel lost.", "summary": "Boyfriend still upset over me almost breaking up with him 3 months ago."}
{"id": "t3_37rzcs", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Finding it difficult to adopt an Aussie", "post": "I am looking to adopt an Australian Shepard. I have spend a lot of time with the breed over the years and the Aussie and I click like no other breed.\n\nBut, with that being said, I can't get a shelter to let me adopt one. One reason after another. And it's weird because if I show interest in a breed like a lab puppy everyone is like, 'oh when do you want it, you can take her home today'.\n\nBut for some reason I can't get the 1-2 year old Aussie that I really want.\n\nI have been to 4 shelters that had amazing Aussies but none of them have let me take one home.\n\nAnd that's odd, because I have a lot of experience with dogs. I have been a foster, a volunteer, an extended stay sitter. I've trained puppies and helped seniors. I know my dog ownership ability and I believe that an Aussie is a good fit for me.\n\nWhy would so many shelters say I can't have an Aussie?", "summary": "have tried multiple times to adopt an Australian Shepard but each shelter has said no. Why?"}
{"id": "t3_2nylmi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I, [21 M] , am torn between two women, 19 and 21, and have little time to decide. Need advice", "post": "I am graduating from college soon, have a few options on the table... not going to starve. But my personal life is fucked.\n\nI recently broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, a succesful 21 year old future teacher, and was single for a while. During this time i rekindled a relationship with my old ex of 7 months, a 19 year old community college English major, and have now been dating her for two weeks.\n\nI broke up with the 21 year old because she was insanely attached....constant calls and harassment. But i love her. The 19 year old lets me be me and doesn't pry, but is cold and narcissistic, just like me. I don't love her, but not that i couldn't, i just don't yet.\n\nWhat do i do? I'm at a crossroads in my life and torn between two women. Both are objectively gorgeous. Do i choose based on success, how they treat me, how i feel, or just leave both of them?\n\nThanks.", "summary": "i care deeply for two beautiful, insane women and need to choose between cold or obsessive."}
{"id": "t3_lfpok", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Another marriage question.. What if we just did away with them? Pros/cons/thoughts???", "post": "There is no such legal contract as a marriage anymore.. at all. You could \"marry\" ANY consenting adult, but it's just a personal thing. No religious (which i guess is where marriage originated)/legal consequences at all.\n\nNo marriage tax breaks for anyone. Divorce would be more like a normal break-up, just a decision to no longer be together.\n\nAn SO would not have claim to any of your stuff unless you signed a different contract saying so.\n\nAn SO would not be the guardian of your children unless you went through the appropriate legal channels, whatever they may be.\n\nAn SO would be included in your health insurance only if you purchased health insurance that included such an option.\n\nNote: alternate tax breaks could be introduced/reinforced. ex. a larger tax break for having a child dependent on you, but only legal guardians get it. everyone else in the marriage pays normal individual tax rates.", "summary": "as far as the gov't is concerned, all adults are just individuals. no legal binding whatsoever for SOs."}
{"id": "t3_vleih", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most unintentionally scarring thing you've ever done that may have ruined someone's childhood?", "post": "The other day, I was driving home from the grocery store. As I approached the intersection where I planned on turning, I saw the light was about to change to yellow so I sped up. The following unfolded in the few seconds after my entering the intersection: I noticed, what seemed to be, an entire little league team with their mothers/fathers and siblings of varying ages standing in the parking lot of the 7-11 on the corner. Rather than being bunched together in a random configuration, this group was all gazing at the street upon which I was turning. Curious, I looked to see what was demanding their collective attention and nothing caught my eye. As I finished my turn and looked back at the group in hopes of seeing what they were seeing, I only noticed several of the parents as their faces went from delighted interest to horrified shock. Quickly, I looked to my left at the cars, expecting an accident or someone mooning the group.\n\nAfter seeing nothing of the sort, I shrugged and wondered what the problem was. Glancing in my rear-view mirror, I saw what appeared to be small mounds of feathers on the road, rustling in the wind. I put two and two together and realized that I had run over what could only have been baby geese crossing the street. \n\nI felt terrible but decided there wasn't anything I could have done to rectify the situation.", "summary": "I accidentally ran over baby ducks or geese infront of a couple dozen children and their parents while they watched."}
{"id": "t3_393nsz", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU (Actually TIFOIFU: Today I Figured Out I'd F'd Up)", "post": "anyway, here goes. Over the past few months, and with increasing regularity, I've been receiving prank calls on my cell phone. Always from a different number, and from area codes all over the U.S., but every call comes from some smart-ass adult, saying they were from some Automotive group, or something of the sort. At first they sounded completely legit, but then they'd ask to speak with Bob. Since I'm not Bob, I'd tell them there's no one here named Bob, you have the wrong number. They would repeat my number back to me, and say they wanted to speak to Bob Zurncle. (Bob's Your Uncle, just in case you missed it) Needless to say, this has become increasingly annoying, especially since the caller is going through a lot of trouble, spoofing fake area codes, and always using this horribly stereotypical fake Hindi accent. Today I received another one of these calls and I'd had enough. I answered, and right away they asked for Bob's Ur Uncle, and I snapped, started cussing a streak, yelling, asking why they didn't have anything better to do with their life, when I hear a woman on the line, saying please sir, let me explain. Our records show that you filled out an online request for an auto insurance quote back in January, and you submitted it with, what is now obviously fake name Bob Zuruncle, but apparently you used your real phone number, hence the calls. \n\nJibber's Crabpst, I do stupid well.", "summary": "T.I.F.U. by asking telemarketers to prank call me, asking for Bob's-Your-Uncle."}
{"id": "t3_tehlw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I take my anger out safely?", "post": "I am the type of guy who really no matter what (excluding physical violence) will basically cop anything on the chin. I'll argue a little bit but as soon as I feel myself about to snap I quickly change the subject. This for me is a must because whenever I snap I basically go ape-shit. I've punched holes through doors, dented walls, broken the nearest thing to me in the most satisfying way possible etc.  One person I have never snapped with however is my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. I've always warned her of my temper but until tonight she's never really believed me or seen it as I'm the 'nice guy' by nature. But tonight she really really got me going and I snapped and picked up the closest thing to me, threw it at the closest door and then proceeded to throw a huge punch at the closest door, which fell of it's hinges (it's a flimsy sliding door). She basically burst into tears once she saw what I did.\n\nNow I don't want her to ever have to see this side of me again but I'm sick of having all this anger slowly building up inside and then letting it all unleash in one go, however when I try to talk about my problems I can't talk about just one I start to compound them together and basically wind myself up to the point of a burst of anger like mentioned above.\n\nWhat can I do to help myself with my anger issues?", "summary": "I have quietly let my anger build, then when I can't take it let it out in a huge burst, how can I manage my anger better?"}
{"id": "t3_dwiu6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Going to San Fransisco with two girls tomorrow. (xpost from /r/needadvice)", "post": "So a casual acquaintance, who just so happens to be a girl, asked me to go to San Fransisco tomorrow with her and her friend. Now, I am pretty awkward around women. I've had one girlfriend and she dumped me because I never talked to her. That was 4 years ago but to be honest nothings really changed. It's an 8 hour drive and I'm pretty nervous. I've never met her friend and we're staying at the girl i knows' friends' parents house. I'm pretty sure the girl who invited me was/ still is interested in me. She has a boyfriend now who just so happens to live next door to me (she was hanging out with him when she asked me). So i guess i just need some encouragement or helpful advice on what to do in this situation.", "summary": "I'm an akward 19 y/o with no real women experience taking an 8 hour road trip and spending two days with two girls."}
{"id": "t3_ofb1r", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Advice on mending open sores", "post": "I very recently broke up with my ex-bf.\n\nWhile I told him that I wanted to end things, he told me he loved me. What I thought would be a regular hard breakup turned to an ultimate hard breakup. I sank into an immediate depression, battling thoughts of returning to him. I blocked him on facebook, email, and phone. He noticed all of them. I sent him a long letter that was honest but also very nasty and a bit over-the-top, explaining very clearly why I couldn't be with him, why I needed to make some distance, and why I thought he was a soul-sucking douchebag. (not my greatest moment)\n\nAnyway, it's only been 3 days since then but I already feel better about the breakup but feel bad about the instant severance of communication and the terrible things I said in the letter. \n\nI emailed him telling him I owed him an apology for my behavior and that if he was willing, I would like to see him in person to do so.\n\nSide-note: I'm painfully neurotic about stuff like this so I proceeded, for the next hour or two, to literally *script* what this would be like ideally as well as non-favorable outcomes. I wrote full quotes and italicized all my blocking (this all from 1 acting class as a freshman in high school). Here's an example:\n\n> ME: \"I wanted to make sure you had this.\" *Pull out some object and place on the table in front of him*\n\nI feel comfortable admitting this because I don't actually assume it will go this way but it allows me to prepare mentally for everything that could happen and to know what I would like to happen so if I feel like I need to, I can guide our discussion in that direction. That's not the point, though. The point is....", "summary": "I acted like a child after breaking up with my ex. I feel better now (it's been 3 days), and want to apologize. By sending a polite email asking to meet him in person to apologize, am I being self-righteous or am I taking the high road?"}
{"id": "t3_2ep3et", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [23 M/F] 2 months, Should I be worried my LDR is failing?", "post": "So I'm in a long distance relationship and things were going really well at the beginning. We would skype hours on end and make sure we keep in contact with each other. \n\nThis all changed when she started preparing for school a month ago. She started to say she was just too busy to talk but she would at least still respond to my texts or snapchats. We would talk on the phone every now and then but not as often.\n\nShe is now in her first week of school and she says she is really busy. She has to make all As because she is spending money she does not have to go there. She is also joining clubs and trying to become a CA (Community Assistant) and not have to pay for room and boarding. \n\nSo obviously she is really busy and I am trying to be understanding about that. But we planned a trip (first time visit) about three weeks ago to where I would finally come up and see her and meet her family. She sounded so excited when we were planning it and even started counting down the days. Now she's thinking of canceling the trip because she's not sure if she can balance school and a weekend trip.\n\nI won't get a text or anything all day. I have to initiate all of our conversations and she doesn't sound as lively as she did before this period. All the emotion has been drained out of her texts even though some posts online are filled with emotion. Her responses to me are very to the point now. She says she is stressed and I'm trying to understand. \n\nI ask several days in advance even if she'll be free on Friday (a day where she has no school) to have a catch-up phone conversation. She says she doesn't know at this point.   \n\nI suffer from depression and anxiety so I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if there are any legitimate concerns that I need to be stressing out over.\n\nAlso maybe some advice to better handle this situation?\n\nI care about her and want her to succeed. I'm worried that she is thinking she can't handle a relationship while in school.", "summary": "Communication is decreasing ever since my girlfriend started school./Is there anything I need to be worried about or is this just my anxiety?"}
{"id": "t3_1dn75z", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "(New York) 153.09 Public Urination - Misdemeanor?", "post": "Using a throwaway because this is slightly embarrassing....Hoping for some guidance on how to handle this situation I've made for myself.\n\nI received a Summons that says its for 153.09 - Health Code for Public Urination in NYC a couple weeks ago. I've consulted a couple lawyers and surprisingly I am hearing different things about this. One is telling me this is not a misdemeanor and it is not worth getting a lawyer over,  while another is told me the opposite. Can one of you fine ladies and gentlemen help clear this confusion up for me?  \n\nAlso, I've also read online that this is in fact a misdemeanor but still not worth getting a lawyer over - I should just represent myself and ask that it is reduced to something less. If this is the case, what do I say to the judge? Courtrooms scare me since I've never been in any legal trouble other than a speeding ticket so I don't know what to do at all.", "summary": "Public Urination in NYC - to lawyer or not?"}
{"id": "t3_26ho3d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "40 m with my 42f 7.5 year relationship, spark gone but I want to look after her - complicated", "post": "My gf and I have become best friends over the 7.5 years we have been together. The spark is gone for me. We have not been intimate for 2 years. When I tried a year ago I found I just wasn't attracted to her physically. However,  we are comfortable. She has a low paying job but great benefits. She is very introverted, has 1 other friens besides me, and never leaves the house but for work. But she looks after me, cares for me, and is incredibly comfortable at our apartment.\n\nI am catch. We have both gained weight. I snore, I am medicated for being bipolar, I am a slob and an overly critical jerk. But I want to protect and look after her. I write smutty erotica for fun online and someone who became a fan contacted me. Upon exchanging a few emails I found myself ashamed of potentially hurting my girlfriend and immediately cut off contact,  deleting that email address. But it got me thinking that I am unhappy.\n\nI want kids. She does not. I want to travel. She does not. I like parties and crowds of friends. She does not. I spend most of my time at home watching tv with her or playing video games... but I am miserable.\n\nif we break up, she has no where to go. She is from a state far away and her parents are too poor to support her.\n\nI am going to try and get the spark back, even take viagra, but I would rather split as lovers and become great friends. She is too proud for that. It would hurt her and I would rather suffer than hurt her.\n\nhelp. Anyone dealt with this?  If I split, advice on how and what to say?", "summary": "I love her, but maybe not romantically. If I break up with her she is emotionally and financially in peril. What do I do."}
{"id": "t3_1e9jhf", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Is this a bad sign? or nothing really (23m, 21f)", "post": "I want to preface this all by saying I am a compulsive worryer \n\nI've been seeing this one girl for about a month. We've hung out once a week, and last week we had sex (on Friday). It was great. Saw each other again Saturday night in a more casual setting but nothing really accumulated. We were both tired from the night before. Made tentative plans to hang out tonight.\n\nI called her up earlier to confirm and she said she's busy 'applying for jobs' and doesn't want to 'break her groove.' That's fine I guess but I was a little confused because if we're leaving at 6 or 7 to hang out, isn't that enough time? Also she said she's probably going out later tonight but I didn't push that issue or ask anything and she only mentioned it once. \n\nI said that if she wants to hang out this week, then it's her prerogative to organize it. She said that since it's grad week she'll probably be busy on the weekend (I said I'm probably going to graduation since my good friend is graduating, partially true) but during the week if she hears of any bbqs or whatever she'll let me know. \n\nI don't know if she's being sincere or not but idk what to think of this. Last time we went out casually it was at a bar. I might have done something stupid like not buy her a drink (the night after we had sex for the first time) but I didn't think it was that big of a deal... is this bad? or is it nothing", "summary": "Am \"dating?\" a girl. She bails on plans for tonight but has tentative plans with her friends. Doesn't really clue me in on much at all and leads me to worry"}
{"id": "t3_33nuh1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm not sure what to do after 5 year relationship? Should I date or wait?", "post": "I [21/M] got out of a 5 year relationship a little over a month ago. The breakup was mutual and I'm feeling much better about being alone now than I did a few weeks ago. But, recently, I went on a date and things didn't feel right. I mean, the girl was pretty much insane so there's that, but while I was listening to her talk I realized that I have to start from the very beginning again. The thought of having to spend all of that time getting to know someone just seemed daunting (might've just been that I wasn't clicking with her or something). I'm not a big fan of party culture either which makes it worse. Like I'm dtf, I just want it to mean something with someone I care about. And to make things a little more tricky, most women my age aren't looking for anything serious, they're just having fun. So, with all that in mind, should I keep looking for someone right now or should I just focus on making myself as awesome as I can and stop trying to find someone for a while? Maybe wait until after I'm established in my career and women my age are generally looking to settle down rather than party all the time? I'd love your input. Thanks in advance :)", "summary": "Does it make sense to seek a serious long-term relationship in your early 20s?"}
{"id": "t3_28qy54", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21M] went on a drunk tinder spree and my one year girlfriend [20F] found it the next day", "post": "The title describes it all. I turned 21 recently and have taken a liking to drinking in the evenings, especially since I'm home on leave. I leave for training for about three months tomorrow. My girlfriend and I were going to spend my last night together getting a fancy dinner when she pulled up tinder on my phone and found some pretty dirty conversations. \n\nI feel awful. I downloaded the app while drinking alone last night for fun. Girls offered me their phone numbers unsolicited and wanted to snap chat dirty photos. One even suggested meeting up that night. I politely declined all contact outside of the app.\n\nI wouldn't have done this sober. In fact, I won't be drinking for a while as I'm leaving for military training anyway. I thought it would be fun to drink alone on my second to last night home but didn't expect myself to have dirty conversations with other women.\n\nMy girlfriend is very upset (rightfully so). We want to works things out though. Reddit, what advice do you have to offer? I really love this girl and wouldn't want to be with anyone else other than her. I feel so stupid.", "summary": "Girlfriend found dirty tinder conversations on my phone after a night of drinking alone. We want to work things out before leaving for three months of training."}
{"id": "t3_2t3tlq", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Employer is downsizing then moving out of state... How to get laid off?", "post": "My employer of +5 years is owned by a larger parent corporation. Our small company is not meeting profit margins and is planned to be sold to another corporation in in an adjacent state. Significant layoffs are expected. I am told I am on the \"keep employed\" list, but the commute would be far, far to much for me (+3 hours each way). It may also be noted the \"keep\" list of employees are planned to be around for a year (or less) transition period, so moving closer to the new location is kind of off the table. If I am offered a job at the new location, and refuse in some way, am I not eligible for the severance pay the other layoff employees will receive?", "summary": "How can I ensure I get laid off and receive severance pay instead of kept, during a company downsizing and relocation to a place way to far away for me?"}
{"id": "t3_3b57mv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] decided to end my relationship with [16FM] because she seemed too controlling.", "post": "So I don't know if I made the correct decision because this was my first real relationship and I really liked the girl. We dated for a year and a half but I just got tired or feeling controlled.\n\nShe wouldn't let me hang out with friends or she would normally get jealous and say I hang out with them too much. Also I had friends who've I've been friends with since grade school who have girl friends who hang out with them while we hang out sometimes and my S/O didn't like those girls and wouldn't let me be with my friends if they were also with their girl friends. So I decided to end the relationship because I'm going off to college in a couple of months and I felt like time with my friends would be better than time with her. Did I make the right decision?\n\nAlso I feel like our maturity levels were too different because I was making a big change in my life going off to college where I wouldn't be with friends much longer so I wanted to make sure I was ending my summer right. I just feel like she wasn't mature enough to understand this.", "summary": "Girl friend seemed to controlling for me and I felt like memories with friends at this age would be more important."}
{"id": "t3_ewnsy", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My 10 year old stole $1000 dollars from me; appropriate reaction? (Follow-up)", "post": "I promised to try to post a follow-up to [this] so here it is:\n\nMy son initially denied any knowledge of the money, on the day that it all happened. Fine; it just meant we needed more info. We widened the list of suspects, and came up with three other kids who could have been involved (including his friends and other members of the extended family who live with me).\n\nSo the next day (yesterday) we got a confession when we had a family meeting. My step-sister (who is only 10) came to the meeting, saw the tub, and freaked out. It was obvious to everyone that she was guilty, which she later admitted.\n\nIt's kind of a complicated story, but she got into the tub (which she knew was off-limits but didn't know it contained cash) when she was cleaning the basement.  For some reason she poured it into another container and was sorting the coins when I walked downstairs and interrupted her. The money was in a container under a bunch of junk downstairs where nobody thought to look.\n\nThanks for all the constructive input. I'll pass it on to my step-mom, but (knowing my step-mom) she's probably going to get off with a light punishment given that she:\n\n* got into something she knew she wasn't supposed to\n* lied about it when I interrupted her (and I didn't realize it at the time)\n* let her family member take the fall until she was confronted by it\n* created stress for the rest of the family\n\nEveryone who said it should have been in the bank was right; now it is.", "summary": "my step-sister confessed, we got the money back, and my son is innocent."}
{"id": "t3_281wsb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Can someone make me feel better about my boyfriend maturbating while I'm gone? (F23, M29)", "post": "So, been together 4 years. Live together.\nI'm going away this weekend with my family from today until Sunday. \n\nWoke up and tried to get some action but didn't have time before he had to go to work. So he said when I get back, we'll have sex.\n\nI asked him if he'd \"save it\" for me, he said yes, then I asked if he promised and he said no and dont worry about it because we'll still have sex on Sunday. \n\nBut now I just keep thinking he's gonna just jerk it all weekend while I'm gone. It makes me super uncomfortable. He did a \"no fap\" for months, and the second I leave he'll be right at it.\n\nMakes me want to not even go, I'll just worry the whole time.\n\nAt least he gave up gonewild and will stick to just real porn, and usually only takes him a few minutes but I wonder if I'm gone entirely if he'll drag it out for hours. I don't know why this bothers me so badly... \n\nAlso, I'm pregnant. Haven't been feeling too attractive lately anyways.\n\nNot asking for people to jump on ME for the way I feel, asking for help accepting this before I ruin my entire weekend because of it and just stay home.", "summary": "leaving for the weekend and I know he's going to masturbate.. how do I feel better about that?"}
{"id": "t3_54xkjw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24f] recently joined a tennis league with lots of older women. Opponents [40s+] keep questioning my age. How to respond?", "post": "Like the title says, I'm 23. I look my age. I recently decided to get back into tennis since I stopped playing throughout college and wanted to introduce some sort of athletic activity into my life while avoiding my least favorite things in the whole world: getting fat and running. Everyone on my league team is very nice, although I do seem to be the youngest. (Ages range from 27 - 40s.) That's fine and no one has made comments.\n\nThe past couple weeks we've had matches against other teams that seem to consist of older women (40s - 60s). At each of these matches, one of my opponents has, at some point, asked: \"Are you even 18?!\" I don't really understand why they're saying this - to discredit me if me and my partner are winning? - but they're often very persistent. Not persistent enough to question my presence on the team, but enough to make me uncomfortable with their faux-joking. \n\nEven though it makes me uncomfortable in the moment, this isn't hovering over me or haunting my dreams. I just need some suggestions on how to shut this kind of thing down, especially with some quippy one-liner or something. I wrote the first time off but am now 2 for 2 at matches and so want to be prepared for the next time, since I'm assuming there will be one. Last time it happened, I tried to ask if they wanted to see my birth certificate but I don't think they really heard me. Awkward.", "summary": "Older women tennis opponents keep accusing me of not being 18 even though I am a full-blown grown-up woman with the student debt to prove it? Pretty irritating and need some clever comebacks to shut them down."}
{"id": "t3_rxzhw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is something awesome that you were doing that turned out to be one of the most awkward situations of your life?", "post": "Alright, so a while back after a Pokemon tournament, some friends and I crashed at one of our friend's house. Lets call him Mr. Brown. While we were all just chilling playing some cards, he got a call from a girl, so he told her to head over. Now I have to say that she was pretty cute, and was getting pretty friendly with Mr. Brown. After a while they both headed into his bedroom, and we all knew what was about to go down. That's when I said out loud, \"What if he doesn't have any condoms?\" Both my other friends said that he should have it covered, and not but 30 seconds later he walked into the room asking if we had any. I immediately grabbed my keys, told him to go entertain her for a bit, and the rest of us hopped into my car and sped to the closest gas station. We all ran into the gas station, and ran to where the condoms were. We decided to grab him some fruity flavored ones just in case that there might have been a blowie waiting for him afterwards, so we grabbed the box and took it up to the clerk. That is when he looked at the box of condoms, looked at us, and had the most disgusted look on him face. Apparently we grabbed a box of only 3 condoms... There were 3 of us there buying them... And the were fucking fruit flavored. We all just stood there super awkwardly for a couple seconds, gave him some cash, and sped back to Mr. Brown's house. We inserted the condoms under his door, and in the morning he told me something that made me feel like the biggest bad-ass in the world. He was a virgin up until that night. So reddit, what are some awesome things you were doing that led to one of your most awkward experiences ever?", "summary": "Friend needed condoms, so me and 2 other people ran to the gas station to buy him condoms. Ended up grabbing a 3 pack of fruit flavored condoms, and the clerk thought we were all going to have a gay threesome. Then found out the next morning I got his virginity taken away."}
{"id": "t3_2vhwir", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of 10months, might break up due to 'uneven sexual pasts'", "post": "I need help with what to say when breaking up with my girlfriend, she has had many sexual partners >20,she is my only sexual partner.\n\nBeen going out almost a year but I am scared of missing out, im only 18 but this is not the only reason.\nI hate the thought of feeling like i missed out when im 30-40 if i never end it.\n\nI also find that since i encounter people she has had one night stands with in person and on social media on a frequent basis it puts me in a bad mood and i can be quite passive agressive to her.\n\n I love her and wish i didnt care about this but i do and i often think about it and can sit up at night and so think i may have to end it.\n\n I don't blame her at all for having sexual partners before me, it really is one of those \"It's not you it's me\" kind of things. \nI would honestly appreciate any advice", "summary": "the differences in me and my girlfriends sexual pasts affects me and i don't see another option at the minute"}
{"id": "t3_31vb3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [25M] girlfriend [23F] is starting to eat more and more bad foods and she is putting on weight. What do I do?", "post": "So this is a pretty short and (not so) sweet issue. Basically, my SO  used to be quite over weight before I met her, I believe she peaked at 97kg (213lb). We have been together for just over a year and she is in good shape now and has been in fantastic shape for the entire time I have known her. However, since we have become really serious (talking about marriage and just generally really close and comfortable with each other) it seems as though she has 'let go' and has stopped exercising and is eating junk food constantly. \n\nShe still looks great, but she is starting to gain weight slowly and I'm scared she is going to get to the point she was so many years ago. I have improved my diet and exercise and I've dropped hints that she should do it with me, but I am so scared that I will come across as some shallow douche bag, when it's not just about looks, it's about her health too. \n\nThat being said, I've seen her old photos and I find that I am not attracted to her at all at that size. Some might think that's horrible of me to say, and I do love her, but attraction is pretty important in a relationship in my opinion and I am scared that it could affect us in future. Am I a terrible person? Do I risk sounding like an asshole and confront her about it? help me Reddit!", "summary": "SO is slowly gaining weight, I'm less attracted. Help??"}
{"id": "t3_52ifyd", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Dad died when I was a kid never bothered my until now (24)", "post": "My dad died when I was 6, we never talk about it. He died from cancer I think, I don't even know for sure. He was only about 30.\n\nWe were fairly wealthy, I went to a private school that was like 15k a year and was one of the best elementary schools. Then he passed and we were poor, moved to another province and basically grew up poor, not like can't afford heat poor, but certainly didn't have much.\n\nI cut myself off from pretty much everyone. I have friends but no best friend I would ever tell important stuff to, and it's kind of ruined me as now I'm fairly awkward and come off as cold I think, not sure exactly what people think of me, but I'm not the most well liked guy. I don't talk much and when I do people tend to not listen (lack of confidence).\n\nAnyways, it never really bothered me and I never started thinking about it until recently at 24 as I graduated a university that was about half the tuition of my elementary school.\n\nI'm somewhat successful (big 4 accountant) and he was a lawyer so I feel like if he were alive he could have helped me out a lot in my career, maybe this is why?\n\nI'm just wondering has anyone else had this happen? Not been upset about a death until like 18 years later?", "summary": "Dad died when I was 6, never cared until now, 24."}
{"id": "t3_23ul3m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm (20f) living in a de facto relationship with my partner (20f). Are we always expected to split payments 50/50?", "post": "I've been living with my girlfriend for almost a year, we've been together for 2.5 years and have usually just split every cost down the middle, which I've been very happy with so far. However, she's decided not to go to college and work long hours instead. I'm in college, working full time hours when I can and doing a course on the weekends and doing unpaid work sometimes. She also gets money from her family every week as well as from her job and has her own business. Some friends have said that seeing as we're living together, we should be pooling our income. What are your thoughts? I can give you more info if you need.", "summary": "girlfriend and I are living together  and she gets paid for more of the week, but not through lack of effort on my part. Should we still be splitting payments (bills, rent, groceries) 50\\50?"}
{"id": "t3_3510k0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [19m] boyfriend [19f] won't stop talking about me and our relationship to our mutual coworkers.", "post": "Hey relationships. \n\nSo my boyfriend and I work at a pool and have worked there for 2 years. I've worked there for a few months longer than him and he became a lifeguard because of me. \n\nWe have had a rough go at our relationship. Lots of fights and breakups but we really do love each other. \n\nAll of our coworkers are very nosey and always ask him or I what's going on with us. I usually just say either \"we are back together\" or \"we are good\" or \"we aren't seeing each other anymore\". Very brief answers. He on the other hand will vent to coworkers about me and our problems. \n\nThis makes me very uncomfortable and I have asked him to stop. He always says he will stop but never does. He is a people pleaser and wouldn't never tell someone that something isn't their business. \n\nHe is creating an environment that I don't want to work at. Lots of people will barely even speak to me at work because he's already made me seem to be a bitch. \n\nRecently we had an argument at work about him giving out my guard shirt to another guard out of our locker. This made me really angry because I don't want my stuff to go missing. He told the situation to a coworker and didn't explain it fully. I asked him to explain the situation so that I don't seem like a bitch and he refuses. \n\nI don't know what to do. He makes me hate working there. \n\nQuitting isn't an option. \n\nAdvice?", "summary": "My boyfriend bitches about me to coworkers. It makes me really upset. I hate going to work now."}
{"id": "t3_3bxv9v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my friend [19F]. Not sure whether to ask her out over summer or wait until college to start again.", "post": "So I met this girl in one of my labs. I know I shouldn't be expecting her to say yes, but in the event that she does, I don't feel I would be able to maintain a good relationship with her as she lives around a 3 hour drive away. For me, I think I would be much better off waiting for school to start again then asking her out, as if she says yes, I will have more of an opportunity to build a rapport with her. We'd literally be able to hang out every day. \n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Pursue LDR (3 hour drive) over summer or wait until school starts to ask her out?"}
{"id": "t3_1iis02", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Need advice - Divorced, non-custody dad, got a job offer in another state", "post": "I've been out of steady employment since January of 2011.  It's been a mixture of bad employer experiences, but mostly really bad personal choices.  Way behind on child support, I haven't been able to make a full payment in quite some time and it absolutely guts me that I don't have the means to make sure my children are taken care of.  I've spent the last few weeks refocusing on what I need to do to take care of my kids.  I'm divorced with two kids.  I don't have full custody, just every other weekend.  \n\nThis morning I was offered a job in New Mexico (I live in Louisiana).  The pay would be double that of what I've made at any job in the past so I would absolutely have the means to fulfill my responsibilities.  I just hate the idea of being away from my kids, but I could always fly home on weekend.  As with any normal parent, my kids are the two most important people in my life and even not seeing them for two weeks is hard enough.  Do I take this job and make sure they're set up for life, or do I try to stick it out here and hope I can land a minimum wage job (I work in TV news, there are two stations around here but they won't hire me as I was laid off from one of them).", "summary": "Got an amazing job offer in another state but don't want to miss being in my kids' lives, however, I'm unemployed down here, can't support them like I need to, and job prospects are very dim."}
{"id": "t3_2gx9ml", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] have a huge crush on my co worker [22 F]", "post": "I feel stupid even posting this. It's not going to be very long, I would just like some opinions or input on my situation. (Don't even know if it's the right place to post this)\n\nSo, I have been fantasizing about how great it would be to be in a relationship with her. Thing is, she has a boyfriend (they don't get along very well. Very frequent fighting). I'm not hitting on her (I don't think) but I'm very very nice to her in hopes that maybe one day... I don't know, she might like me. I'm also overweight (Currently losing weight, just the slim chance that maybe she would find me attractive is one of my main motives) and she isn't. I mean, she isn't skinny, but definitley not fat and is pretty attractive. I don't know how to describe it. Like I said, I feel stupid posting this (I have already written this out and then closed the tab once), I don't even know what I'm looking for. I just want to get that off my chest.\n\n___", "summary": "Have a crush on my Co worker, maybe there is a chance something could happen?"}
{"id": "t3_rxgrr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "In love with a friend who knew for a long time. Is starting showing interest again, slowly. What will help push that along?", "post": "We used to be in love with each other. I did something stupid and she broke whatever we had off. Remained friends since then (late 2009). Neither of use dated anyone afterwards and we've hung out a lot over each others homes.  We had several fall outs and arguments. Mainly with me constantly telling her I felt. (Yes I was young at times drunk) \n\nFast forward to 2012. All seems to be improving we hang out about once a week when she isn't busy with her college courses. And is a becoming slightly more open to my advances. She says the only reason she can't be close with me is because she has some sort of feeling that makes her not want to be close to me. (Since in the past I hurt her.) Yet I talk to her almost everyday. And I see that it doesn't help anything. Any tips or advice for pushing things along?", "summary": "In love with a friend I want. Advice."}
{"id": "t3_1qv1hn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (28m) can't seem to participate in simple tasks. I'm(24f) about to loose it.", "post": "Hello reddit! I need your help. Throwaway because my bf is a redditor.\n\nMy boyfriend (28m) and I(24f) have been together almost 5 years and have a toddler(3) together. We've lived together for the past 3 years, and he is an amazing person and boyfriend. There is just one BIG problem. He can't \"remember\" to do his share of responsibilities. I do all of the cleaning, cooking, and meal prep. I also take care of 90% of the responsibility for our child. I'm going to loose my mind. We've been talking about marriage in the near future, but I can't seem to think I'll ever be happy carrying most of the load for the rest of our lives together. If it's going to be like that, then why do I need a partner?\n\nPart of me feels dumb for making a big deal out of this, but in every other aspect he is great. He is one of the most supportive, caring, real people I've met.\n\nWhy I'm going crazy: During the start of our relationship, he was very helpful and willing to do whatever to help me. I guess after the \"honeymoon\" phase wore off that went out the window. I've tried so many things to get him to help me again. I've asked nicely, I've waited patently for him to do it on his own, I've made share charts, etc. I make our meals and prep our lunches to save money, I'll come home from work and see the lunch I made for him in the fridge. 9/10 he will always leave it. If he does take it, he won't bring the container back. \n\nI'm at the point where I'm getting mean, resentful, and naggy. I'm not that kind of person, and I don't like to, but otherwise the place would be a mess and nothing would ever be done.\n\nI don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any suggestions? I feel like I was jipped since he was so helpful in the start of our relationship.", "summary": "Bf(28m) can't seem to remember simple tasks such as picking up after himself, taking his lunch to work, or bringing the Tupperware back. He is otherwise a wonderful person, but I'm(24f) about to lose it. Is there anything that I can do to help him?"}
{"id": "t3_3o7foj", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taping my nuts", "post": "so,this happened like three hours ago.so,bonus for today!\ni was on my bed browsing reddit (naked,because i live alone)and there was a peice  of duct tape stuck to the bed,i figured because my brother had came a couple of hours before with my neice he played with the duct tape(4 y/o r very easy to entertain)so i took it and started like doing stuff with it and reading a very intruiging story and when i got to the best part of it,i had the piece of tape close to my balls and i accidentally put the tape on my balls and freaked out,i then proceeded to \"carefully\"take it off,but after like 5mm of careful taking the tape off,i found that it still hurt when i l do it slowly,so i had a brilliant plan,to take it off in one movement and then put my balls in cold water,so when i took it off the pain was unspeakable(it still hurts)and there was of course no hair where it was and it was red,like really red and because of the immense pain,i was unable to put it in cold water,but was able to lie on the floor and cry like a baby,so,there i was,a 27 year old man,on the floor, crying with his balls in his hand screaming.", "summary": "accidentally shaved my balls with duct tape and cried on the floor like a lil' bitch"}
{"id": "t3_2x1w38", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'[M25] absolutely terrified of getting into another committed relationship after previous disaster.", "post": "My last relationship was almost 4 years ago. I haven't even spoken to another girl since then until recently. I met someone who is shaping up to be absolutely amazing and i've never, ever had this much in common with anyone. Not even my close friends. I'd hesitate to use the word perfect as nobody is perfect but she could just be perfect for *me*.\n\nNow we get to the bad part. When my last relationship fell apart, my life did too. I gained 9 stone, 4 of which i've managed to lose in the last few months. I became incredibly depressed and contemplated taking my own life on several occasions. I didn't handle it well at all. I absolutely hated myself. Words cannot describe the resentment I felt when I looked in the mirror.\n\nIt was as if every little problem i'd ever had culminated into one giant one and weighed me down entirely. I didn't have a life for several years and never even saw my friends or family for over 2. I made the conscious decision that i'd never, ever put my self in a position where I could get that hurt again as I slowly started to pick up the pieces of my life.\n\nFour months ago I went on anti-depressants and things felt better, most of the time that is. I started exercising, I started losing weight. I started to realise that I was a bit lonely and I wanted to explore relationships again.  \n\nLittle did I know i'd meet someone who is a perfect match for me. Now i'm full of fear & doubt. So many negative questions flood my mind. Sometimes when she compliments me I feel it inside. The little voice that tells me i'm worthless and shouldn't listen to what she says. Other times I feel on top of the World, like nothing can bring me down.\n\nI'm confused. I'm feeling vulnerable and undeserving of happiness and I was just wondering if anyone had any advice to help me come to terms with whats going on. Everything has been going right lately but I still feel down. Life has only just started getting better, I couldn't bear to see the lights get shut off for another 4 years.", "summary": "Became depressed and life stalled after last relationship. Gained loads of weight, lost contact with everyone. Didn't want to live. Recent improvements lead to an amazing girl. I feel like shit despite everything going well."}
{"id": "t3_2htqfu", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "[19/f] worrying about whether I can handle months apart in the future with my [20/m] boyfriend", "post": "I submitted this to /r/relationship_advice yesterday and received no response. So I'm posting it here in hopes that someone will respond.  \n\nI'm not sure if there's a bunch of pessimists on this subreddit; I haven't visited here much. So, please, if you're going to be negative don't respond.  \n\nI have been with my boyfriend for a year now. In the past, I have never pictured myself ending up with anyone, I always ran away or avoided relationship situations. When I met him, something inside of me melted. He is everything I secretly wanted but was too afraid to find. He just appeared when I least expected it and I couldn't be happier.  \n\nAnyways, fast forward to now. He's going to college to become a shipping merchant, working in the engine room. When he graduates, he will have a job that requires him to work a month on/month off. He is doing this to pursue his dream of having enough money and time to travel. What we both want in our futures is to travel. I know some of you may be thinking I'm naive or fooling myself, but I know that this is the love of my life. It doesn't make sense to be with anyone else. Being with him is right. The only thing is, is that I'm afraid that I won't be able to handle being alone for a month at a time. I know that in order to be with him this is how it would have to be. Basically, either handle being apart so we can be together, or not have him at all. I can't imagine a life without him. I know it's a ways down the road, but this is the only thing that could tear us apart, and I don't want that to happen. We have reached the point in our relationship where we see each other in one another's futures; it just makes sense. I don't want to lose him because being apart is something I'm not able to handle.  \n\nBasically, any advice/similar stories/anything would be helpful.", "summary": "How can I handle being away from my boyfriend with a job that requires him to work a month on/month off?"}
{"id": "t3_xcjph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I being paranoid or has he lost interest? (f)", "post": "I've been dating a guy for almost two months now, although it's not an \"official\" relationship, we both have seemed to be pretty serious about one another. We're both in our late-twenties, early-thirties. Initially, he was really into me and talked a lot about things we were going to do in the future. We spent all of last weekend together.\n\nThe problem is, I haven't seen him since. This is isn't entirely unusual because we both work a lot and he's been busy. We never talk on the phone (I'm really shy), and he's still been texting every day, but his texts are much less frequent and less in depth than they had been. As I said, he's been busy, and he hasn't indicated that anything else is going on, but I have extreme anxiety and have convinced myself that he doesn't like me anymore.\n\nDoes it sound like I have a reason to be worried? I'll be happy to go into more detail if needed.", "summary": "Guy I'm dating has been texting less. Has he lost interest?"}
{"id": "t3_36gujl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 M] with my internet friend [24 F] of 6+ months got into a fight and no longer speak", "post": "I was a moderator and friend of a very popular twitch streamer.  She was always a somewhat distant friend, but a friend none the less.  I use to make little pointed jokes against her, nothing I felt were malicious.  About two month ago, I made a stupid criticism about her stream time and she got extremely offended.  I apologized deeply the next day and thought it was over.\n\n\u00a0\n\nLast month she made some comments about me that I found distasteful. I wrote a letter confronting her about the comments that pretty much said that I wanted to have a discussion about our problems.  If she didn't want to do that, she should unmod me and I'd stop coming to the channel.  She sent me a message a couple of hours later telling me good luck.  I felt totally heartbroken and unappreciated.  I've never had a friend breakup with me before.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI tried to have intermediaries help out. Through them I learned that ever since I criticized her, she thought I was never a true friend or supporter. Given the amount of time I spent helping her out, those words hurt.  Weeks have passed now and I've tried every method I know to try and repair the relationship. She sent me one message saying I was welcome back at a reduced role. She never mentioned discussing resolving our tensions. In fact, I imagine she doesn't even want to deal with it. I tried going back once, but I felt so awkward and angry still.  I don't know if I can go back without some resolution.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI don't really know what I should do at this point. Just suck it up, go back, and pretend nothing happened?  Move on and chalk it up to a learning experience?  Keep on sending messages asking for a discussion?  I feel like I miss her much more than she misses me, and that totally sucks.  I don't know why but this has been harder on me than breaking up with a girlfriend.  Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Got into a fight with an internet friend. Communication has been non-existent. Don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_1fqzly", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Why do I (25m) have a hard time dealing with my girlfriends (26f) past?", "post": "I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and I really love her and enjoy her. My girlfriend is also stunning. She gets hit on all the time and guys drool over her. I feel lucky to be with her. However, I know a lot about her past including ex boyfriends and her sexual past. Its not that shes slept with a lot of guys, she hasnt. Its just that one a few occasions in her life she slept with guys quickly. Even a few one night stands. I have such a hard time dealing with this for some reason. I feel like an immature little twat but I cant stop thinking of her with these other guys. To the point where I feel betrayed by her. Shes so special to me that it drives me nuts to think that others guys were with her, and especially if they were able to get with her easily (quickly). I dont know why I think about it so much, it sucks.", "summary": "my girlfriends sexual past haunts me and I hate myself for feeling this way."}
{"id": "t3_2h0ejp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23m] gf [27f] of 4/mo friendly towards guy acting douchey towards me. Haven't spoken since. Am I over reacting?", "post": "Long stupid story short, I'm out at a bar with my gf. She's very attractive and gets a lot of attention. We're sitting at a communal table and some guy and his gf start talking to us, and from the beginning he tries to make me look bad. He took every opportunity to make snide comments about me, from my age to what I do. \n\nNormally I don't care, because I simply wouldn't carry on the conversation. My gf on the other hand asked him what he does for a living. Turns our he's a director for some small company, and my gf desperately wants a new job. Eventually she gets his card and we go our own ways. \n\nI can't help but feel betrayed, like she sided with the person being a jerk to me. Every day she complains about her job, because she truly does hate it -- but even she recognized he was being a douche to me. She apologized at the end, and blamed her lapse in judgement towards her hatred for her job. Is this worth breaking up over?", "summary": "gf friendly towards guy acting douchey towards me. Ignoring her calls since"}
{"id": "t3_2gfq0t", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My Girlfriend (18), whom I am in love with, of 2 years broke up with me (18M) yesterday, what do I do?", "post": "Two days ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me. We are both seniors at the same high school and our high school is only 150 people per grade, so we will be seeing each other everyday for the rest of the year.  \n\nWe had a rocky month before she broke up with me. We talked less, hung out less, and basically stopped hooking up. I was always the one initiating everything, which was fine, but it became ridiculous and frustrating for me. I tried really hard to make things work during our bad month but she just put no effort into it at all.\n\nI absolutely loved this girl (still do) and my love for her outweighed the issues we had so I never wanted to break up. I had hoped that we would stay together until high school ended but that is just not the case anymore. When she broke up with me she said she was emotionally drained from our issues and that she just could not do it anymore.\n\nShe was my first love, so I was devastated when she ended things with me and I have been an emotional wreck since then. Throughout our relationship she would tell me how I was the only one she could talk to about anything, not even her best friends. She told me she wants to stay friends but I don't know if I can do that, knowing that she will be with other guys soon.\n\nOther than going to the gym, which I do anyways, what can I do to help take my mind off of her? And what do I do when I see her at parties dancing with other guys or just hanging out with other guys? Seeing her have a good time without me is going to kill me.\n\n I am a very sociable person and a good looking guy (in my opinion haha) so I won't have issues finding another girl, but I don't want that at all right now. Could you possibly give me advice on breakups since this is my first real one? Thank you so much.", "summary": "GF of 2 years dumped me, how do I cope with the pain/heartache and rebound?"}
{"id": "t3_3gpngo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [27M] stop being bothered by my girlfriend's [28F] tattoos?", "post": "She started getting inked at 16. I personally don't like tattoos to begin with. On top of that, she has like 7 tattoos dedicated to a couple of her exes. I love her but I feel insecure. Some of them can stand on their own kind of but some of them are literally matching and some of them are like pieces to a puzzle. \n\nFor example she has a batman logo and apparently someone else has robin's boomerang. And then she and some other guy have the exact same picture. And then she has one where you have to hold hands to see the whole thing.", "summary": "I need help with my mental block and insecurities"}
{"id": "t3_21z35m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My LDR BF (40M) got mad I (32F) didn't get his child a birthday gift.", "post": "In a LDR with my BF of 1 year. I didn't send anything to his young child because I have only met them one time, and I didn't think it was appropriate. I have approached him about forming a relationship with said child, and was met with indifference. Yesterday, he texted me saying that the child made a card and wanted to send toys to me on THEIR birthday, which I took as more of a dig at me than fact. My feelings are hurt, and I feel guilty I didn't do something now. However, I didn't think it was appropriate. \n\nOur relationship has been rocky lately so I was trying to tread with caution. The last thing I would ever want to do would be to hurt his child.", "summary": "I feel guilty I didn't send a gift to SO's kid that I met once after a guilt trip."}
{"id": "t3_zpfp9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Are some people just incapable of love?", "post": "My SO (21) and I (20) have been together for over a year and 6 months. The one thing that really interests me is how difficult he finds it to say I love you, to anyone really. He was bullied a lot as a kid and conditioned himself to stop feeling so the bullies couldn't hurt him.\n\n'Love' hasn't been an issue between us at all because I accept that it's hard for him to say it and when I say it myself, I don't expect him to say it in return.\n\nA year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked but after a while he stopped saying it. I was worried that he stopped having feelings for me, so last night I asked him if he did love me because I've been confused about what his feelings are towards me. He shrugged and told me that he doesn't know what love is and doesn't know if he's feeling it. I then asked why he said it to me earlier in our relationship and he said that he thought that I wanted him to say it. I told him he was crazy for thinking that and that I didn't care if he couldn't say it. But he says he feels guilty that he can't say it because then he feels like everything is one sided (which it isn't).\n\nI thought about us today and realised that although he can't say it, he's shown it. During some off our worst fights (in cases where most guys would up and leave) he couldn't bare to leave me (even though he thought about it) and he was there for me when I was at my worst (he's always tolerant) he'll always want cuddles, be happy to drive me when I need him to (he hates driving), buy me flowers, pay for dinners, cook for me, the list goes on. A word to me doesn't matter because he treats me well. I'm not saying we are perfect, we're probably worse than must when we get into huge fights but will always stick around for the other.\n\nDoes anyone have a similar relationship? I don't know what I can do to make him realise saying I love you or thinking you can't feel love towards someone isn't an issue for me?", "summary": "boyfriend is incapable of love and it doesn't bother me but he feels guilty about not being as emotionally available  as I am."}
{"id": "t3_jd6mc", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Looking forward I see nothing and I need help", "post": "I'm looking for advice on my life and how to improve it. I'm 20 living in a really run down town in Maine (where my family/friends are) with no job and none available to me. Not even fast food is hiring around here because of how many unemployed there are. I'm stuck with a lease for my apartment which my girlfriend is barely paying for with her part time job (that she was lucky enough to get) while shes at college. I fucked myself over in my first two semesters of college because of medical problems that had me in and out of the hospital every week or two and caused my g.p.a. to drop to an abysmal low. So no college is going to accept me even though I've been trying. Currently I'm working as an editor/writer for a website for no money what so ever in hopes i can get credentials to be an editor but i doubt that will happen cause I'm not that great of an editor. In truth i don't know what i want to be but i like reading so i said while the hell not to editor. My family has always been trade school jobs such as welding, ship fitting but I'm a scrawny guy with no body strength and no desire to do those so I'm just trying to figure out what to do with myself.\n\nAlso while I'm an editor there is probably many grammatical errors in this text, I am tired.", "summary": "20 no money, lots of bills, no job, no future. "}
{"id": "t3_p452w", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "how should I get back at my cruel coworker?", "post": "So there's this guy at work that I've had a crush on and have been flirting with for about the past month. He's been consistently flirting back and generally acting like he likes me. Today, I found out that apparently he's just been playing games, which is shitty on its own, but I also found out that another girl we work with (who has a crush on him, after previously having a crush on his twin brother and just about every other attractive guy that works with us) has been 100% encouraging him to play these games and is actively plotting against me. They're currently convinced that I dyed my hair strawberry blonde just to impress him (not true; he did suggest it, but I actually polled everyone at work that day, and strawberry blonde was by far the most popular choice), and are presently conspiring to get me to dye my hair some other color just to see if I'll do it, and are trying to think of other things they can convince me to do, by having the guy ask/suggest that I do these things. The guy's twin brother and another mutual friend finally had enough of them treating me like shit, so today they told me exactly what's going on, and I'm pissed enough that I want some satisfying revenge.\n\nMy current plan is to divert all my attention, in an obvious way, from the evil twin to the nice twin This should piss off both of them, since the evil twin just wants my attention, and the girl is extremely territorial over \"her boys\", which includes both of the twins. I may also get the nice twin in on this, since he's sick of how they're treating me and he's also a bit of a troublemaker himself.\n\nMy question is this: does anyone have any good ideas on how to exact revenge? I rarely see the three of them outside of work all at the same time, so whatever I do, it has to be vaguely work appropriate. And I'm aware that this is petty, and that I'm definitely not being the bigger person her, but idgaf at this point.", "summary": "coworker and I like the same guy; coworker is convincing guy to fuck with me and take advantage of me as much as possible; need to exact revenge. Suggestions?"}
{"id": "t3_198srm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Need advice on pursuit of guy or just leave it alone?", "post": "So I'll try to make this short and sweet but no promises. a few months back I (17f) went to a musical and saw a guy from around the various activities. Remembering him, I looked him up on facebook and friended him only to find out that we're pretty much the same person, same likes, same activities, and a mutual friend. I thought that was pretty cool and didn't give it another thought for a while. A few weeks ago at a speech tournament the mutual formally introduced me to him, and I honestly don't even know what happened. I could barely form a sentence , my face flushed, it was almost scary. I decided that I really wanted to go for it.\n\nLater on I got home and contacted him through facebook, and we talked about some stuff we did for school and whatnot. I ended up inviting him to a local play and the conversation ended. About a week later, while being upset about trying to find a prom date, I suddenly got up the courage to ask him out, so I did... As easily predicted he said no, that he was flattered and kudos to me for having the balls but we don't know each other whatsoever. Anyway I still think that maybe I can do something because I'm weird like that, but I was wondering the ladies' input on this kind of thing.", "summary": "I have the hots for a guy I barely know (and evidently so does my psyche) and I'm not sure how to proceed after blowing it."}
{"id": "t3_3nop40", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my datee [33 F] of 3 months, looking for different things but have strong feelings for each other..", "post": "Ok, I met this 33 year old woman a few months ago. We really hit it off and have been seeing quite a lot of each other. I think we both needed a bit of affection in our lives. \n\nThe future of this thing we got going came up. I've never been in a relationship and she is the 1st person I've become this involved with. I've explained that I'm not looking to settle down or have children for a very long time. She's convinced herself she's ok with that. But I know that I won't be the guy to give her children, no matter how long we stay together, and I know she'll become increasingly demanding of such commitment.\n\nWe were discussing whether it was worth seeing each other for any longer. We're both having a really good time together (great sex, great conversations, plenty of excitement) and none of us wants that to stop, but this relationship is essentially going nowhere. I've said it all depends on how long she can tolerate that for.\n\nThe question is, have you ever had a fulfilling short-term relationship with someone even though you both knew it wasn't going anywhere? Was the pain of parting worth the experience? It's coming up to halloween and bonfire night and christmas and it just doesn't seem like a great time to spend alone (though we do both have plenty of friends/family).\n\nMy thought was to have as much fun as we can together for the next few months and then amicably call it off. The only thing is, I don't want it to become even more painful to stop seeing each other. Surely a few months more won't make it much worse than it is now?", "summary": "moved really fast with someone have known for a few months. relationship going nowhere but we don't want it to stop, and want to share as much joy while minimising pain involved in eventually parting ways."}
{"id": "t3_187n3w", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[17/m] How can I meet up with a girl[16/f] again who I met awhile ago and still talk to?", "post": "I met a girl this August at a soccer camp and I decided to ask her for her phone number (mainly because she told me she visits where I live frequently because her aunt lives there). We've been texting each other roughly once a week since then. I haven't seen her in person since camp and I would really like to be in person with her again because she's the first girl I've had a crush on since I was 14. I'm unsure about how to do this because I'm not sure if she's interested enough or if a relationship would work out even if she was interested.\n\nI'm unsure about the interest because in November I decided to tell her I liked her and I never got an explicit response if she liked me back and our conversations are somewhat rare, she has told me recently that she loves our conversations though.\n\nI'm not sure if the relationship is feasible because she lives about an hour and fifteen minutes away (I can drive, she can't) and a majority of her time is taken up by select volleyball(4 practices a week, a tournament almost every weekend). The volleyball also leads me to be unsure about her interest because I can't tell if that's part of the reason for the infrequency of our conversations.\n\nHow should I make an active attempt to see her again or should I wait for her to visit her aunt and see her then?", "summary": "How should I go about trying to see a girl in person again and try to start a relationship with her when I'm not sure if she's interested in me or if we could make a relationship work out."}
{"id": "t3_qogch", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Applied for a Canadian pardon... Mixed feelings.", "post": "Record consists of assaults, possession of marijuana, numerous Theft Under 5,000's, and a handful of Driving While Suspended's (not sure if those even show up?), a few breaches of court conditions..  And i think that's it..\n\nLong time ago. Now i'm pretty alright:) I'm respected by my peers and I surround myself with positive people. I  got married, run my own business and want to start a family and do some traveling. I live a life of good character (try to anyway). \n\nSo i started the (Canadian) application process for obtaining a pardon. Got a good lawyer. But i just realized some things.. The world i live in now is beyond crazy. And i feel strongly about freedom and helping others, locally and globally. I think the government is an absolute joke..  I think criminals run the world and..   Well..  At any rate, i can see myself being actively involved in a protest at some point. But after my pardon, i will be thinking twice about getting arrested then.. I don't want all this effort and money to be waste! But at the same time i don't want to be afraid that i can't speak my mind and stand up for things i believe in..\n\nWhen someone is arrested for protesting, what kind if charge is that? How bad is it compared to regular 'illegal' actions?", "summary": "Was a rank guy with criminal record, now i'm legit and a pretty solid dude. Once i'm pardoned, how lame of a square do i have to be while my world changes or the worse? How scared should I be of public protesting? "}
{"id": "t3_2o2m15", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20 F] brother [13, almost 14 M] made a suicide attempt. I go home from college in a few days. What should I expect? What can I do to help him and my parents? Anyone been there done that?", "post": "My brother's been having problems with anxiety and depression for the past year or so. He and I spoke almost every day, but it's fallen by the wayside lately. I've been away at college and I spent last summer at an internship in another city (Los Angeles; we live in Connecticut). I feel like a terrible daughter and sister. \n\nI'm going home for the weekend, and school will be out for the semester soon. I'll be at home for winter break. \n\nWhat can I do to help my family out over break? What should I expect? I can't even begin to wrap my head around what my parents are going through, let alone my brother. Please help.", "summary": "Kid brother made a suicide attempt, and I don't know what to do or how to act when I go home."}
{"id": "t3_4i7kl6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend [26F] and friends believe it's racist for me [28M] to be unwilling to seriously date outside my race, how do I deal with this?", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been together for close to a year now. We are both from India originally, but both of our families immigrated to Canada when we were kids. \n\nSo the topic came up while we were talking about our past relationships with a group of friends. We started talking about interracial relationships, and I mentioned how I had never been in a serious  relationship with someone outside my race. Everyone got curious when I stated this, and asked me what the reason was. I responded saying I was unwilling to have a relationship with someone without a similar background to myself, primarily because I feel there would be too many differences to overcome for it to work. I understand it works with many couples, however personally I feel this would not be the case for myself. \n\nAfter my response, everyone, including my girlfriend, remarked how they felt that was really racist for me to say, and that plenty of interracial relationships work in the real world. After we got home, my girlfriend was especially angry with me, stating how she felt that was a complete bigoted view to have. I tried explaining that it wasn't because I believed my race was superior or whatever else, just that I felt everything from food to religion, to cultural values would be too different to fully overcome. She was unwilling to accept that however. \n\nSince that night, it has been tense between my friends, girlfriend, and myself. I can tell my girlfriend is still pissed at me. How should I approach this?", "summary": "Friends and girlfriend feel it's racist that I am unwilling to date someone outside my race, I disagree obviously, how do I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_eohk4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Advice on home-brewing!", "post": "I have been a beer lover since about the age of 16 (used to live in Germany) and have developed a strong passion for artisan beer over the last five years. I also rather enjoy cooking I've found as well as professions / hobbies that are ancient to a degree (i.e. baking, black-smithing, being a prostitute :P).\n\nAnyways I will be living in a medium sized single bedroom apartment come June (in Houston) and was hoping to maybe pick up a new hobby with my job. \n\nHow much does an average home-brew kit cost to get started? What should I know before making the investment? What should I avoid? \n\nThanks Reddit!", "summary": "How expensive is home-brewing as a hobby and is it feasible for someone working 40 hours a week in a 750sqft apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_4fvxoa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(F18) Serial monogamist (nervous about being alone for an extended period of time)", "post": "I've pretty much been in a relationship sine I was 12. I'm 18 now and 6 months ago my ex boyf (M18) of 3 years and I broke up because we didn't have time for each other. I had felt lonely even while in the relationship but I feel like it's getting worse. I try distract myself I see friends, go gym and study hard but I feel strange/incomplete. \n\nI am actually quite independent I love going places by myself and chilling st home but recently it doesn't feel rewarding.\n\nI know this is clearly a self confidence thing (I never thought I was attractive despite people being interested in me) but I don't know how to improve it? I'd like to remain single until I complete my degree so I can find out who I truly am. How do I do this? I'm already making conscious decisions to go what makes me happy", "summary": "what else could I do to feel comfortable by myself? And avoid jumping back into a relationship because I feel vulnerable?"}
{"id": "t3_2jtxv8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [M27] disappointed that inexperienced girlfriend [F20] tries to give oral sex but it hurts NSFW", "post": "We been together for about 3 months, I really like that girl and want things to be serious. She is a virgin and doesn't feel ready to go all the way yet. We still do favours for each other when things heat up. \n\nI know she wants me to feel just as good as I make her feel but somehow she does it so painfully I just pull away from her. She is very inexperienced and super uncomfortable with talking about such things\n\nAny guys here who dated inexperienced girls? She is wonderful but like any guy I want to have that satisfaction. Thoughts?", "summary": "gf (f20) inexperienced with bjs, uncomfortable with discussing things like that. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_1veris", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the craziest/weirdest thing you've done to satisfy a food craving?", "post": "For me, one evening I had finished up my homework and sparked a bowl and fired up Netflix to relax. Suddenly I wanted Oreo cookies. At first I was too lazy and unmotivated to go get them, but the craving kept itching away and got so severe I eventually caved. It was about nine at night and the wind was gusting at nearly 50 mph and snowing pretty heavily (a pretty severe blizzard). There was a convenient store about half a block away so I threw a hoodie on and left. It was pretty apocalyptic outside and when I arrived at the store it was closed. There was another store two blocks down so I walked there, it was closed. This happened two more times before and every time one was closed I was like I need to get indoors quickly.... But I've come this far... So after wandering around town in a hoodie, sweat pants and running shoes for about half an hour I ended up at Wal Mart a solid mile away from my apartment. Bought the Oreo cookies and walked home. I was pretty frozen and miserable when I got home, but happy I had made it and with my prize. Open my fridge to find I have maybe one or two swigs worth of milk left.. FUCK! I got so pissed I bundled up this time and walked all the way back to buy milk. Total time wasted for a carton of Oreo cookies and milk nearly an hour and a half in a fucking blizzard and sub zero temps.", "summary": "Wandered around in a blizzard completely under dressed for cookies and milk."}
{"id": "t3_pb0e8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "So, who thinks the 'slow loris likes being tickled' video is cute?", "post": "I know I do! He's [adorable] \nHowever, I must apologise for leading you here under somewhat false pretences. I don't really want to know if you think the video is cute. I want to draw attention to [this](\n\nThis is not good. As Wikipedia so eloquently puts it, 'All five species [of Loris] are listed as either \"Vulnerable\" or \"Endangered\" on the IUCN Red List and are threatened by the wildlife trade and habitat loss'.\n\nAt this point, if you can view [this] video (I assume non-Britons will be unable to, unfortunately) please do so, make sure to chop onions beforehand so you have an excuse for the tears.\nIf not, please direct your attention towards [this] website. \n\nImportant points for people who don't like clicking links:\n\n-Lorises are traded both internationally and domestically as pets, food or traditional medicines.  \n\n-Several thousand lorises are traded in Vietnam, Cambodia, China, Thailand, Myanmar and Indonesia each year. \n\n-Very few lorises survive the trade. They are often kept in terrible conditions, usually in tiny cages. Young infants are taken from thier mothers.\n\n-Lorises have a painful bite so traders often pull out their front teeth with pliers. This carries high risk of infection with few survivors. Lorises that have been rescued from the pet trade cannot be returned to their natural environment if their teeth have been removed.\n\n-Lorises have an amazing ability to produce a liquid from glands under their arms that, when mixed with their saliva, gives the loris a toxic bite, the wound from which is difficult to heal. This makes them the only toxic primate in the world.", "summary": "Lorises are cute, awesome and endangered. Don't get a pet loris and [donate] some money if you want."}
{"id": "t3_2a2hjz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with a girl I've been on 2 dates with this week [22 F] known each other for one week, not sure how to respond to being flaked out on.", "post": "So this week we had plans to hang out on Sunday, it was supposed to be a little date where she comes over and we go hiking and then watch a movie at my place, and it wasn't until six PM until she reached me yesterday, saying she left her charger at her friend's house. No big deal, okay, I acted cool even though I was a bit upset, especially when she said she actually made plans for that night, but she suggested \"what about tomorrow?\" I said alright, sounds good, but now it's tomorrow, and I have to be in work in about and hour and twenty minutes. She extended the time of arrival today saying she had some chores and stuff to do, so I said okay. She knew I had work today, unless she forgot.\n\nBUT... we also hung out outside of work twice this week (yes we work together but no longer we will see each other at work because of a schedule change), where she invited me both times. Our second date we were holding hands and I kissed her and everything went well. I have a much longer thread [here] about what's been going on with us, but we seemed to hit it off well so far, so I'm confused on how I should react to all this. Do I play it cool again, let her initiate the next time we hang out, which would be this weekend (when I'm available again), or do I set it up later in the week, or set it up now and take initiative? \n\nAlso I just started talking to her Monday, a week ago, so we *did* hang out twice last week and maybe she just needs some space?", "summary": "Had two great dates this week, flaked out on Sunday and (possibly, minutes are going by) today, not sure how to react."}
{"id": "t3_2s3z7s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20's M] girlfriend [20's F] and I are moving in together - she's suggesting letting her brother [19M] live with us", "post": "I currently live in city A, where my girlfriend is from. My girlfriend is in city B for the next couple of years, currently living in residence for school. This April I'm also moving to city B for school - I have 450 hours (1-3 months) of placement before I can work as a registered nurse. Until I'm finished with that and working, I'll be living on student loans. I'm moving to city B for this as placements often lead to jobs - and city B is the place to be. My girlfriend and I are planning on moving in together with a relatively low budget, however it will work out to be the same as if we were living in dorms. Her parents control her finances so we're fairly limited in what we can afford. Recently, her parents suggested that we allow her brother, who's also moving to city B for school, to move in with us. This would allow us to go from renting a small basement apartment to a decently sized unit. I feel like this won't work out smoothly, though. Her brother is a great guy - very quiet, introverted, and spends most of his time in his room. I fear he may feel left out as the third wheel. They get along great and never fight, however aren't very close. Additionally, I fear that with all three of us having social lives the place may be cramped. I was initially excited as moving in with my girlfriend meant us starting our adult lives together - now with her brother it will feel like we're in dorms again. That being said, it would save money and help out her brother as well. He says he doesn't want to impose, but wouldn't mind it as long as we're okay with it. What do you guys recommend?", "summary": "Girlfriend's parents are **heavily** suggesting we let her brother move in with us to save money. Pros include a bigger and better apartment, cons include awkwardness. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_4vchfd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (f/31) have been talking to a therapist and she's got a weird way of showing empathy", "post": "So my therapist, who's in her late 30's, has been pretty great so far, been talking to her for about a year, not regularly, and she's helped me through some major transitions, insecurities, and bad situations.\n\nBut there's one thing I noticed, and I don't know if I'm being oversensitive. When I was telling her about my sister refusing to hear me out or take my side about abuse I encountered from our parent, part of my therapist's response was \"That's REALLY sad. That's really, REALLY sad\", shaking her head with an incredulous and almost disgusted look on her face. \n\nNow, that's not ALL she said, but I just feel like she was unnecessarily rubbing it in.  Like, I KNOW it's sad. You're not being empathetic or helping me by saying that, or repeating it. Do you think I'm paying you to remind me of how \"sad\" it is that my sister's acting like this, or to rub that in my face ? It just really turned me off.\n\nAnother situation was when I was telling her about this girl Jen I'd become acquaintances with on a trip with friends, and how we ended up confiding to each other on the last day of the trip and really hitting it off, and I'd confided to Jen about personal stuff about what had happened between me and a guy on the trip, etc etc... and I thought I could trust this girl, but she ended up stabbing me in the back. \n\nSo I told my therapist about the eventual backstabbing, and she gave me good input, advice, reassurance, reminded me of the good friends I do have, etc etc... but then KEPT saying \"That's too bad though, because I know that you had thought you and Jen would become friends\". \"That's really too bad because I know you really thought you and Jen were forming a friendship\". God stop rubbing it in.\n\nAm I being too oversensitive? Should I tell her? or maybe wait til she does it again and say something?", "summary": "It sometimes feels like my therapist \"rubs things in\", saying things like \"that's Really sad\", shaking her head.. It's like, I Know it is! can you please f'in empower me instead of reminding me of how much it sucks? This is not empathy. Am I being too oversensitive?"}
{"id": "t3_2143k0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How to proceed after first date?", "post": "So we just finished our first date today. I have to say that it felt like one of the most successful dates I've ever been on. We asked questions about each other back and forth and I made her laugh quite a bit. I paid for her meal and we had a great time for about 3+ hours. No kiss, but we hugged when we left our separate ways.\n\nThe only issue is that I'm limited to seeing her because she goes to college of state and visits occasionally. I'd say that I'm fairly confident in the actual in-person conversation area, but I'm still weak in the making the move/flirting department. Also, my texting/phone aspect isn't the greatest too.\n\nSo an hour or so after the date, I was about to text her, but she messaged me first. I really don't want to make assumptions, but most of the time, I'm the one sending the I hope you had a great time, thanks for coming out messages. I did text her back, telling her to let me know when she's back in town so we can plan something for next time, but she didn't reply at all after that (it's been 7+ hours already). Did I do say something wrong?\n\nSo how should I handle this? And if I do land a second date, how should I make it more clear to her that I want to be more than friends?", "summary": "Had chemistry with a cool girl. She has to go to college out of state so I can't see her as often. I don't want to mess it up and my texting/phone game is weak. How should I proceed? And how to become closer at the 2nd date?"}
{"id": "t3_2k0pta", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28 M] with my EX fiance [27 F] 1.5 yrs, I reached out to her after a year later...", "post": "I knew this might've been a bad idea but...I did it anyway.\n\nSo a bit of a back story. We became friends for about 6 months before we started dating. 8 months later we decided to take it to the next step and get engaged. 4 months later after that, shit just started falling down hill slowly and she left me. For reasons that were never clear to me for 5 months later after the breakup, we finally talked one night for 5 hours playing catch up and stuff and came to find out she left me because she felt controlled. While I we forgave each other, the long talk ended good. 2 days later it was Eid celebration  and we had talked to each other on the phone again. Things escalated quickly and here we are arguing again. Next day she apologized and just wanted to stay friends, and I told her no sorry, we can never be friends. For rest of the year she texted me now and then to see how I was doing. I gave her small answers and ended those conversations quick.\n\nWe had no contact with each other for over a year. Around the same time this year, it's Eid again and I wished her and her family to have a good one. She wrote the same and we texted back and forth for a bit for about an hour. Couple of days later, I texted her on her bday, and she was surprised to know that I still remembered. I told her that I can never forget, and hope you have a good day, etc. She said that's sweet of you, and I didn't say after that because I didn't want to say too much.\n\nNow it's been about three weeks, and I've been thinking about her almost everyday since then. I really thought hard before texting her a year later and thought to myself that maybe I can stay friends, but do it at a slow pace. Of course I have feelings for her still...she was my first.", "summary": "I'm trying to patch things up with my ex fiance after a year later of no contact. I know this may not sound like a good idea, but I feel like we both may have grown allot since then and want to give this another try. I don't know how to approach this while being careful. Any ideas?"}
{"id": "t3_3g27wq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Girlfriend (26F) lied to me (26M) about the number of guys she's slept with.", "post": "I've been dating my girlfriend for four years now, and it's been great so far. We met during our last year of undergrad and currently live close to one another (1 hour drive). We've never argued, we have similar goals and beliefs, and I believe we have a very healthy relationship.\n\nWhen we first started \"talking,\" I asked her how many guys she'd had sex with, and she said two ex-boyfriends in addition to being handsy with a third one. I was totally fine with that, seeing as it was essentially the same situation with me.\n\nHowever, this past weekend she sat me down and told me that she needed to get off her chest the fact that she had lied - she had actually slept with a third guy, some older frat guy who she met one summer on plentyoffish. She said they had sex a total of 3-5 times (no oral, minimal touching) and that he left for graduate school soon after they first met, but when he was back in town, they'd hang out and sleep together.\n\nWhen I asked her why she did it, she said that it was several months after the end of her long, emotionally abusive relationship (with the first boyfriend she's had), and she realized that sex without the drama, pain, and hassle of a relationship was really physically enjoyable. She mentioned that she had lied to me because her ex-boyfriend used to randomly make her feel guilty about it. I'm also not really worried that she's trickle-truthing me, and that she actually also gave him oral because when we started dating, she wanted sex within the first week, but she didn't feel comfortable giving me a blowjob until a month or so into the relationship.\n\nI get that it's the 21st century and all, and I really do think my girlfriend is a wonderful person, but something is just nagging at me. It really bothers me imagining some douchey fratstar fucking her, and I don't relish knowing that my girlfriend is the type of girl to just have sex outside of relationships.\n\nIs this a legitimate reason to be kind of disappointed with her?", "summary": "Girlfriend of 4 years originally told me she had slept with 2 guys instead of 3."}
{"id": "t3_4d4xbs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I have the right to feel resentful because my girlfriend [18F] chose her friend over me me [19M] during the basketball game?", "post": "Been with my girlfriend for a month. I asked her to come to the semi final basketball game at school (university) and she didn't even know that it was happening. She said yes and said would come after she wrote her midterm so since she heard from me first, it's wouldn't be unreasonable to assume she'd sit with me.\n\nShe finished her midterm and by the time she was done, the half time approached. No problem, her midterm comes first. However, I put my sweater on the seat beside me to save it for her, and it did make me look sort of selfish considering the gym was packed and that every seat was needed for this attendance. \n\nShe texted me and said that one of her friends was coming. Now I didn't have a problem with that because for the sake of her friend, coming out for a game and being involved is awesome. I only saved one seat though so eventually that friend would have to bug off or at least be close but she wouldn't be able to sit beside us. I understand that my girlfriend wouldn't want to leave her friend alone while she stayed with me, but my gf chose to accompany her rather than me. I was hurt to say the least because I saved that seat, invited her exclusively and now she decided she would rather be with her friend rather than me. If I had known that the friend was coming before the midterm, I would've attempted to save two. \n\nNow for the rest of the game, I have my sweater on my seat and I look like an ass for saving it for my girlfriend who wasn't going to sit there. My friend though it was a douche move. What do you Redditors think? What should I do?", "summary": "I exclusively invite my girlfriend to basketball game. Before the basketball game, her friend decides to come and she chooses to sit with friend instead of me. I have a feeling she's not putting in the effort."}
{"id": "t3_3khj7g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24F] housemate [26M] took his roommate's [26M] dog for a walk and it attacked another dog, he's really upset", "post": "So my housemate, Rich (lives above me and my boyfriend) has been watching his roommate, Kent's, dog for a week. Usually Kent takes the dog out 4 times a day but does not walk her. Rich works 8-9 hours straight so wasn't able to take her out and the dog went to the bathroom on the floor. He felt really bad about it, so he thought he'd take her for a walk because Kent had talked about taking the dog for a walk soon. While on the walk, the dog launched at another dog and bit onto its neck. Rich put his hand in the dog's mouth and pulled her off. He got cuts on his hand/wrist and there was a lot of blood. The woman even said it wasn't his fault (he told her it wasn't his dog and apologized profusely) ... she took her dog in. The dog had no cuts/bites, the blood was all from Rich.\n\nWell he called Kent who is on vacation who ended up being a dick over it. Saying \"Well you shouldn't have done that\" and that Rich will have to help him pay if the woman wants him to help pay any vet bills. Rich feels terrible and is really upset. Kent never told him he shouldn't take the dog for a walk. Kent made it sound like this has happened before but Rich had no clue.\n\nI guess my question is .. is this in any way Rich's fault? He had no idea. And should he have to pay for any vet bills the woman racked up? The dog never acts aggressive, just apparently does not like other dogs.", "summary": "Housemate walked his roommate's dog, dog attacked someone, housemate feels horrible and like it's his fault but he had no idea"}
{"id": "t3_15hwmm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I [24f] always fuck up dating, how can I make this one [25m+] work for once? Advice would be greatly appreciated.", "post": "Met at guy at happy hour through my cousin, we connected in the fact that we both love Breaking Bad and Mad Men. He's cute and I would to get back into the dating scene. We texted back and forth a few times talking about the shows we like and initially he said it was great meeting me. I haven't heard from him a week or two so I texted him about a BB comic to which he said he had a book that I would love.\n\nI don't know though, I have flickers of hope where he'll text me but then he doesn't. I was thinking it's because he's socially awkward/too shy to do so.  Is there anyway I can wink nudge him in the right direction to ask me out?", "summary": "How do I get a guy to ask me out without seeming desperate and pathetic?"}
{"id": "t3_t7x3r", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Curiosity about promise rings.", "post": "Me and my boyfriend are in a very serious relationship (I'm 20, he's 21) We've been talking to each other every day for almost a year, and have been together for 6 months now. Just recently I was thinking about promise rings, but I'm not sure if he even knows what they are, or if couples even give these to one another anymore. Neither one of us are ready for marriage yet, but I still want to do something like give him a promise ring. We've also both mentioned that we don't want to get married until about 25 or so. \n\nMy question: Would it be a weird thing to get him? Would it scare him a little to know I'm thinking about stuff like that? Has anyone been in a relationship where a partner has given the other a promise ring?", "summary": "I've been thinking about getting a promise ring for my boyfriend, but I don't know if its a silly thing to do or not."}
{"id": "t3_241qyc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22F] with my ex [24M] of 5 years, how to move on", "post": "I moved in with him in May of last year, and he told me we had to break up and I had to move out this February. I have been having a hard time getting over him because I see him everywhere. We study at the same small university, though we are in different programs. \n\nSince I see him all the time, we have tried to have a friendly relationship. This was hard for the first couple of months but by April I was able to have a conversation, or see him in a crowd, without bawling. But now he's acting like we never broke up, being friendly and cute to me, and even sleeping with me sometimes. \n\nBut whenever we sleep together, the next day he acts cold and distant, getting impatient with me and treating me like he just wants me to leave. Then he gets annoyed when I ask if I should just leave. \n\nI want to move on from him but I don't know how to when I see him every day. I have a feeling I'm about to go back to where I was in February, crying every time I see him. \n\nHow can I finish the next two-three years of my degree if I can't even stand to see him? I see him every day and I can't handle this. He was my best friend and I feel like I have nobody now.", "summary": "How do I continue my life and my studies when I haven't been able to get over him?"}
{"id": "t3_xz7er", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "The Sting slowly goes away...Slowly", "post": "I posted about a break-up sometime ago. for whatever its worth 27/M\n\nand \n\nNow i am currently in NC mode...id say maybe 3-4 weeks. im not sure, i lost count.  But being the idiot i am, i got curious... I re-activated my facebook account to see what i could find. I thought wow id see hers and his face and start pissing and moaning.  This chick is already saying she loves him after a couple months. \nI for the most part am unphased by this. yes i sometimes wonder the what if's...what if she came back, what if we got back together and the many other what if statements. But i have moved on. And im not sharing as some success story to show you all that im awesome and i want praise. I hope to convince some of you that are in broken heart mode that its ok up to come up for air :)\n\nok heres the point :) I think what helped the most is...Meeting other people.(letting your heart heal is obviously the first thing to do)\n\nThis sunday i will have another date with a 4th girl i met online. You have to disregard looks...you really do. Take those people for who they are. My most recent ex is a very attractive girl. I have been told on many occasions that she was way too good looking for me. I guess thats a compliment.  But the girls im meeting arent on the same level, attractiveness wise. But there all cool people, with many things to offer. My ex turned into a shallow, self-centered opportunist(bitter much right). But once again this is why meeting new people will help. It will put your ex into a different light. Itll take them off that pedastal you have so graciously put them on.\nDont let the stigma of online date ruin the opportunity to meet someone. It also allows you to get to know people from a distance.", "summary": "Pain of a break-up goes away when you make it go away :)"}
{"id": "t3_2w3gh9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by making beer slushies", "post": "As you all know, saturday was valentines day. Well, i've been seeing a girl who agreed to go out with me again saturday. It being valentines day i decided i should probably get her something, and decided on beer. You may think that strange, but both of us really enjoy good beer. Unfortunately, i am only 20 years old, so i had to have my friend purchase the beer for me. I called ahead to make sure they had the IPA i was looking for (Ithaca Flower Power), and the woman working said they didn't but had some others i would probably like. So i picked up my friend and went to the store. He comes out 7 minutes later and tells me \"she wants you to call her and let her know how you like them\". She had realized that my friend was not the one who called. This, is not nearly the FU. \n\nWell turns out i got ditched on valentines day more or less, which leaves me with 4 Sam Adams double IPA's for myself. Well, being a little upset about being blown off, i forgot about the beer (i know, who FORGETS beer!) so i accidentally left the beer in my car overnight. Aaaaand yesterday as well. Normally this wouldn't be an issue, but i happen to live in northern new york where the temperature happens to be about 20 degrees BELOW zero. So i'm getting in my car to go to class this morning, and hear a hissing fizzling noise. I turn around, and there it is in my back seat, a beer oozing and hissing at me. Of course i grabbed the beer and got out of the car, and i popped it open just to see... Slush come pouring out. Continuously, it just flowed and flowed.", "summary": "beer slushies 3/10 would not recommend."}
{"id": "t3_4mjt7v", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Is this a sick tease or will I get to smash?", "post": "This female friend[16F]of mine[16M] I've gotten to know this year is quite interesting. Often throughout the year whenever having convos(either me and her or me her and others) she'd randomly change the tone to something sexual, say something sexual or imply something sexual. Examples include: \n\n1. my friend-\"ima get this L on this test\" girl-\"ima get this D\" \n\n2. I'm talking about used car purchase, girl-\"first you gotta find out who's fuc ked in it\" \n\n3. During Spanish when our teacher was explaining our \"10 years from now\" project, the girl was like, \"when I grow up I wanna be a prostitute.\" \n\n4. On the bus about to go home from a field trip, she shows me a song and I listen through earbuds. All I hear is noise and \"fu ck me\" and \"suck d1ck\" and moaning noises. I was like wtf at first, then I laughed it off. I asked why do you have that and she made a masturbation gesture(as in she's implying she has that stuff I just heard for the purpose of rubbing her puss)", "summary": "Anyways she's said all kinds of wild dirty sh!t throughout the year(signatures in her yearbook highlight that) and I just wanna know, is she horny or just joking??? Is it a tease? I just texted her bluntly asking if she's horny, reminding her of how nasty she is and she replies \"'dont ask me any weird fvcking sh1t', 'I'll block you'\". I need to know what's up cause I REALLY WANNA FUCK HER!!!"}
{"id": "t3_297v4t", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is regained weight harder to lose?", "post": "Hey everyone! New to this sub, so I guess this is an intro post.\n\nI've been pretty obese most of my life, at 16 I was 220 lbs at 5'4\". When I hit age 22 I got the news that I was full on diabetic. The doctor clocked me at 165 fasting blood sugar and an A1c of 7. That was a huge wakeup call for me and I hit the gym, cut sugar & carbs and got down to 165 within the year. My diabetes basically became nonexistent and my blood sugar returned to great levels.\n\nProblem is: I backslid. Significantly. I got married, got a crazy busy job in the tech world and just forgot about working out completely. 3 years after weight loss I got back up to 198lbs. I took a blood test and was back in the prediabetic range. So I started over again, started tracking calories and doing personal training.\n\nBut this time around it's going much slower. I've been doing everything right (1300 calories a day, working out 5 days a week) for 2 months and I've only dropped 5 lbs and plateaued for the past 3 weeks. Is it just harder to lose weight the second time around? Any advice on how to break the plateau? I cross train twice a week, cardio thrice and eat low carb.", "summary": "lost weight gained half of it back, seems super hard to lose again, advice?"}
{"id": "t3_2an8mf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] boyfriend [24M] of 2 years just told me he is not a feminist and it's bothering me", "post": "When I asked him why he isn't a feminist, he basically said there are a lot of privileges that come with being a woman, and most feminists don't acknowledge that. Then he started talking about the legal system favoring mothers over fathers in custody battles, and alimony... it's like he read an MRA handbook over night and has become completely indoctrinated. I explained to him that rape culture is one of the biggest issues facing our society right now, and he looked confused and seemed to not understand. He then said that men and women will never be truly equal because we are so different, and there are pros and cons that come with each gender??\n\nI'm angry and confused. How do I educate him? Before last night he seemed to be on board with feminism but it seems like something has changed his opinion.", "summary": "My boyfriend is not a feminist and I don't know if I can date someone who isn't a feminist"}
{"id": "t3_488xmn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15m Sophomore] with Freshman [15f], How do I ask her out?", "post": "So I met this freshman girl who I have a huge crush on and I am thinking about asking her to hang out or do something with me. I have never really done this kind of thing before, but I am worried because I am close friends with some of her guy friends who are also freshman, who I met her through, and at my school the grades don't really mix much. Also, even if I did ask her out, I can't drive, so I would need my parent(s) to drive me/us somewhere, which would be weird because I really don't talk to them about this sort of thing at all. I really like this girl and I want to get to know her better, but i'm afraid if I wait too long she will lose interest, plus pretty much every guy is chasing after her. I think she might be interested in me, how do I do this!!?", "summary": "I need help asking out a girl, am worried."}
{"id": "t3_2qa4su", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[18/M] My girlfriend [16/F] said something I can't get off my mind", "post": "So earlier yesterday my girlfriend of about 6 months and I were talking about sex the other day, and she mentioned in graphic detail what she's done before. I knew she was in a (in my opinion) inappropriate sexually active, and illegal in our state relationship with a 23 year old when she was 13, and it was in my knowledge that they were active. As of recently I learned she had another sexual partner after (or before) him that she won't disclose, but I shrugged it off even though they most likely have never dated as it doesn't add up with her previous story. So my problem is I can't stop picturing her with her ex having increasingly rougher and more graphic sex depending on how upset I am about it. I know this is a personal issue, but her ex was such a scumbag and I was so happy with her til now and saw her like as so perfect and like a little angel or something of that matter. Now it's killing me picturing her being a super active sexual deviant before the age of even 16, and it's like eating at me. Her way of making me feel better was by telling me I was \"the nice one\" whom she \"cares most about\", but I've been in this situation with my ex girlfriend and it literally put a huge weight on our relationship and eventually just ripped it in half. I feel the problem enroots in me being very, very calm when it comes to sex and often don't even want it, and now I feel like kind of a pussy whose the \"nice guy\" at the end of a chain of assholes. So I first want to know of a reason to not be so upset, and I want to know how to help this situation before it ruins another relationship, or if I should even be in this relationship?", "summary": "Young girlfriend was very sexually active before me, and i'm feeling very threatened because I have barely any sexual history. This is the second time I've been labeled as the \"nice guy\" within the relationship and I'm hurt."}
{"id": "t3_4efrv4", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Need advice regarding job application, failed one subject for my final exam repeating it this July, what are my chances of landing a job now?", "post": "Hi everybody, I'm a university student with a finance major. I finish my final exam earlier March this year and right before my finals I've applied to many different places for a job, mostly jobs that requires me to have a Bachelors Degree because I'm so confident I'm going to graduate. Got my results two weeks ago, and I failed one subject, my school refuse to let me take a re-sit paper or even supplementary paper (Coursework marks too low), so i would have to repeat that subject next semester which commence in July. I would have to attend classes for 2 hours/week for 3 months. In my resume, I've stated that I'm expecting to graduate this April. \n\nWell so way before my exam, I applied to one of the big 4 audit firm, passed the aptitude test, passed the essay technical test, and now have an interview scheduled next week. Should I tell the hiring manager I such a fucked up or should I keep quiet in case this problem affect my chances of getting hired? \n\nThanks, any advice is greatly appreciated.", "summary": "failed one paper in final exam, already applied for several jobs, and a few interview scheduled. "}
{"id": "t3_hj6ta", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me think of fun ways to avoid awkward conversations about my facial scars! [pics]", "post": "Hi, Reddit,\nLets just say I had a crazy day on Saturday and ended up getting [lacerations] on my [face] and a small cut above my right cornea. \n\n13 Chin + 7 Under Eye + 3 On Eyelid + 3 On Eye = 26 stitches total.\n\nI've been wearing obnoxious sunglasses because my eyes are still very sensitive to light, but I get asked about it frequently. It's not a short explanation, and the story ends up being disappointing for everyone involved. \n\nSo, Reddit, help me have fun with this situation. I will seriously use all of suggestions that I like, and maybe a few I don't if they get up voted enough.\n\nThere's a picture of me pre-stitches taken on my buddy's phone. I will post it when I get it, if there's interest.", "summary": "Drunken moron breaks a screen door frame, the top left corner of which smacks my face and gives me facial lacerations. To stay in good spirits, I'm thinking of funner ways to explain it in casual conversation."}
{"id": "t3_32ga0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] can't feel happy with any of my girlfriends [21-30F].", "post": "Years ago, when I was with a girl I liked, I always felt the rush of oxytocin and the world became an incredibly awesome place. I figured it was how relationships always worked. You're attracted to each other, you get this feeling, you're together, it's great, and then you see if it works out over time.  \n\nA couple years ago, I met a girl who surpassed every other girl I've ever met. I had that awesome feeling almost the entire time. I was hurt when she ended the relationship after six months, but I got back up, brushed myself off, and started going out and meeting new people after a couple months of recovery. \n\nThe problem is, that intense/happy feeling I got with relationships disappeared. I'll meet a girl, she'll seem cool and sweet, we're attracted to each other, have similar interests, etc. but I don't feel the rush the way I used to. I'm starting to wonder what's wrong. It's like there's a part of me that's missing inside now, all since that ex.  \n\nI feel like I'm over her. I don't think about her more than any of my other exes, except for wondering why I haven't felt the rush since her. She had plenty of qualities that were turnoffs for any serious relationship. I don't want her back, and wouldn't take her back if she asked me to. She left me for an ex boyfriend, and I don't play that game with anyone. \n\nI've been with plenty of other wonderful girls since then, but I just don't get that intense feeling anywhere. I don't want my ex back, but I do want that feeling again. \n\nIs this just something that happens as you get older? Or am I missing something?", "summary": "I feel like my excitement about relationships is gone."}
{"id": "t3_2d2ryh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [20M] friend [20M] got mad at me lastnight for grinding with my girlfriend at the bar. Was I wrong?", "post": "Me, my girlfriend, and my buddy were all lounging at my place lastnight having casual drinks when A (my friend) throws out the suggestion of hitting up the bar. We like the idea so we call a cab, get there, and start dancing. It's just the three of us, so my girlfriend and I tried to include my friend when we were dancing, but it was mostly grinding music (Like Fat Man Scoop - Put Your Hands Up).\n\nA ran into some of his friends, so my girlfriend and I grind for a song or two. She asks him if he's okay that we dance alone for a little bit; he says yes and we think nothing of it. A few minutes later he texts me, and the conversation goes like this;\n\n**Him:** Im going home. Come meet me if you want a ride.\n\n**Me:** Nah we're gonna stay, they're playing house music now come flail!\n\n**Him:** Nah I'm good, no fun tonight.\n\n**Me:** Awh :(\n\n**Him:** don't wanna dance by myself while you grind.\n\n**Me:** Yeah fair enough. It wasn't flail music though man but either way I feel ya.\n\nAnd that's that. Haven't heard from him since. We're usually bar rats and he's always off on his own doing his own thing. I figured he'd be fine, but I suppose not. Was I in the wrong here?", "summary": "Friend got upset I danced with my girlfriend at the bar. Am I in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3yl0iq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My EX (22f) sent me (24m) a 'Merry Christmas' text after 3 weeks of NC. Am I reading into this too much?", "post": "To preface this, she broke up with me and we haven't had contact in 3 weeks since the breakup. \n\nSo the conversation went like this; \n\nHer: Merry Christmas! I hope you get to enjoy time with your family and relax! \n\nMe:Thanks! I'm off until Sunday, so it should be a nice 4 days away from the crazy bin to relax! Butttttt, then I'm going to nightshift. I hope your finals went well and you have a nice Christmas too! \n\nHer: Aw thank you. I got straight a's and got into SUNY and Temple so far. Good luck with night shift, I hope you like it!! \n\nMe: Haha of course you did. You'll get into all of them. I'm probably gonna hate it just because of the boredom and lack of action but it's better for having a life I guess. And I won't get punched in the face on nightshift, I hope. \n\nHer: Punched in the face? It sounds like things have been hard at the jail lately lol\n\nMe: Yeaaaaaa I gave a dude a 24 hr lockdown and he tried to spit on me, so we went in on him to take him to the hole and he clocked me in the jaw hahah oh I love my job. \n\nHer: Awwww well I hope you stay safe and relatively assault-free lol \n\nAnd that was the end of the conversation, I was busy and didn't reply. She responded to all of these texts within literally a minute. \n\nI feel like she would only contact me on Christmas Eve if she was still thinking about me a lot or is still interested in being with me. But maybe that isn't the case. Was I too responsive? Should I have just given her a \"Merry Christmas too\". I just didn't want it to seem like I am bitter or still upset but I want her to take me back more than anything.", "summary": "Ex gf contacted me Christmas eve with a Merry Christmas text after 3 weeks of NC. She responded quickly and seemed to still care a lot about me. What was her reason or motive behind this?"}
{"id": "t3_xk892", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what motivated you in your early 20s?", "post": "I finished my freshman year of college right after high school before realizing that I should have taken at least a year off. I ended up taking the year off due to my fiance broke it off(yes I know we were way to young to be engaged, trust me I realize that now), and me just needing the time in general. \n\nRight now I'm living on the other side of the country, my only friends are work friends. My job is decent, (admittedly I don't have any bills except paying my mother back what I owe her from wasting my freshman year). Its a dead end job unless I get a degree in a hospitality related field, which I am considering just for a future with this company. It helps that I have already been singled out by management, especially by my Assistant GM, and the guy directly below her (who have taken me under their wings). \n\nTo be honest I'm not very motivated to do much of anything though. I'm going back to school this fall, still not sure for what, and because of that, there's no motivation.", "summary": "I'm kinda in a rut, need some motivation to get out of it. "}
{"id": "t3_12ustm", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(21/m) been getting close with a (20/f) Chinese foreign exchange student. Need advice about the cultural differences of dating.", "post": "So I have a class with her, one day afterwards she approaches me and we make some small talk and I get her number. Since then we text/talk pretty regularly and we will go out of our way to meet up throughout the day to talk or grab a bite to eat together. Last night she even invited herself over to my house (we went to get coffee and after she asked if we could go to my place since her roommate was there) we just hung out talking and listening to music.\n\nSo I'm fairly certain this girl is into me, and I'm pretty into her. However I'm nervous about the cultural differences. Do I try and kiss her? Will this be offensive? How do I take this \"courtship\" to the next step? She has lived in America since August and prior to that she was in Australia for a while, so she isn't really new to Western culture.", "summary": "Spending time with a Chinese student, want advice on taking it to the next step."}
{"id": "t3_2uhsb1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm[23F] going on dates with a cute guy[23M] who has never dated before. Any advice?", "post": "We've gone on a few dates and we've been texting about our interests these last few days. While I have been away from town (medical reasons: had to have a planned surgery) he opened up to me over a phone call and told me he had actually never dated before and wanted to ask if he was doing ok. Of course I think he is doing just great! (not awkward or anything don't worry) It just left me wondering if I should treat some things more delicately... Although I'm much more experienced than him I've been out of the dating game for QUITE a while. years)\n\nI just wanted to ask if you guys could think of any advice for dating a less experienced guy. Any tips or things I may have forgotten from when I didn't have a clue about dating?\n\nSo far we have only hugged and I want to keep this thing moving nice and slow, but I want to make some moves so that way he can feel comfortable with being closer to me. Does that make sense? Everything is still way to polite and formal for my taste... Although it's great he wants to pay for our dates and open the car door for me...It's just really not something I expect or want to happen forever. So how do I warm this guy up?", "summary": "Recently started to go on dates with a man who has never dated before. He is doing great, but is there any advice, tips, or concerns about dating the less experienced?"}
{"id": "t3_3uew1l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20's M], my sexy ass Neighbor [40ish F] just bought over sweet potato pie.", "post": "So about three days ago my sexy ass brown skinned neighbor comes ringing my bell about how she couldn't get her back door open and she wanted a drill basically bust the lock. I offered to do it, it took me about 20 minutes to fix the situation. On my way out I asked her about a dinner date she promised me last year in her new kitchen that was being renovated at the time. She said \"I never told you that, but for thanksgiving you might get some of my pie\".  I asked if I can get  a 'sweet kis' with that. She said to just be happy with what I get. \n\nLo and behold, the doorbell rings lil while ago, I hop up and look out and see her. I spritz a lil cologne, throws on my fresh black silk robe, drop to magnums in my robe pocked and gets to the door all calm n shit. She whips out a dish with aluminum foil on top talking about \"here's some sweet potato pie hun\" In a teacher to student type way. I thanked her and everything.. but this isnt what i thought she meant by I might get \"pie\".", "summary": "Neighbor cleverly gave me blue balls through clever use of double language."}
{"id": "t3_16uwr9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am i playing to much?", "post": "Ive been an avid gamer since middle school and im now 24. I play all kinds of games from fps to mmos. My wife knew i was into games the day she met me andwould even play some co op games with me from time to time. We play cod together a lot most husbands cant say that and im very lucky to have a wife that shares my interest.\nThe problem started when we finaly moves in together. Im in the service and she quit her job in pa to move to tx with me. We did over a year long distance until she finally made the move. Gaming is a way i relax after long days. I wake up at 430 every morning for pt and go to the gym after work so im exhausted at the end of the day. Sometimes i want to sit relax and enjoy a game for an hour or so. I dont sit there all day and ignore her. We live in a small one bedroom apartment and my pc is basically right in the middle of everything except the bedroom.\n\nWhen i sit and play i feel this enormous gilt ans i cant enjoy myself. Weve gotten in a few fights over it. Its always the same thing. I play to much and dont pay enough attention to her. I understand shes dropped hee life for me ans moved across country and left her friends and family. And shes been lonley and struggling to find her way. She cant find a job and is bored at home all day. Her highlight is me coming home and spending time with her. Theres not a whole lot to do in the city i live in. Its in the middle of a desert but i do my best to find things for us to do and get out of the house.\n\nSometimes i just want some time for myself and play some games with friends back home or just lose myself in a single player game. Am i in the wrong here or is she just taking her stress out on me. Im drastically cut down on the hours i play. When we were in long distance all i would do was play games the majority of days from the time i woke up till i went to sleep", "summary": "i occasionally like to play games to relax after work. Wife thinks i dont spend enough time with her"}
{"id": "t3_1tvf8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I think my [21 F] FWB [23 M] is looking for more and I'm not sure if I want it", "post": "I started a FWB relationship with a guy I live with. We tend go beyond just sex though (eg. cook each other meals, cuddle and fall asleep together even without sex, etc.) I overheard him talking to one of my other housemates telling him he practically sees me as his girlfriend and he hates the idea of me sleeping with someone else. He doesn't realize I heard him talking about this. My FWB is a lovely guy, very loyal and caring but I feel like we have nothing to talk about when we're not having sex!! There is always awkward silences and I feel like we don't really click intellectually. But the sex is great. Would you pursue a relationship if you were in this position?", "summary": "I think my FWB wants a relationship. I'm not sure if we click intellectually and we never really talk but the sex is great. Do I go for it?"}
{"id": "t3_3gh63s", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by handing a phone with letting a coworker use my phone.", "post": "Was having an in depth discussion with a group of co-workers this morning about 80's movies and actors that went from \"cheesy\" movies to become bigger stars.\n\nThey had never heard of Big Trouble in Little China (I know right) and I was trying to convince them it starred Kurt Russel and Kim Cattrall. Them not quite believing me lead me to say, \"then check IMDB\".\n\nThe main disbeliever did not have her phone on her and asked if she could borrow mine for a second which I gladly handed over to settle this.\n\nShe starts to click and then stopped looked blankly at the screen and then handed me the phone back and said \"you know what? I believe you\" and then she gave reason to leave.\n\nI found it odd and I was a little disappointed because I thought this would give me a chance to show them the awesomeness that is Big Trouble in Little China. \n\nI didn't really give it another thought until a short while later I unlocked my phone again to check something and noticed Chrome was still open. In an Incognito tab. With a paused video on pornhub. \"FUCK\"\n\nI had been watching some videos the night before and must have forgotten to close the tab so when Chrome was opened it was the first thing she saw.\n\nI did go over and talk to her and basically apologized and told her I would never intentionally show her that. I think I've dodged an HR conversation but it's going to be pretty fucking awkward going forward.", "summary": "Handed female co-worker phone with porn open in the browser."}
{"id": "t3_32yydb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Sometimes I (19F) don't feel like hanging out with my boyfriend (20M) even though I love him.", "post": "I've always been independent and I love spending time alone. My new boyfriend of nearly 3 months doesn't seem to understand that. How am I supposed to convey my feelings without making him think that I don't love him anymore. When I cancel plans or tell him that I don't want to hang out with him/make excuses not to hang out, he gets angry and upset. \nI'm not sure how I should handle this situation. I know it's only been a short period of time but I love this guy, he is everything to me. \nIs it wrong that I don't want to always be with him? Is it wrong that I don't always want to talk to him?", "summary": "I love my boyfriend but sometimes I just want to be alone. How do I tell him this without him getting upset."}
{"id": "t3_1yhul2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "(M33) was FWB with (F28) that was on the verge of a LTR. Not sure what happened, can anyone shed a little light?", "post": "For the better part of the past year I was in a FWB relationship with a woman I've known for the past 10 years. Early January we started talking about actually dating. She brought it up and after a moment regressed saying things were good as they currently are. \n\nThings are good(so I thought) for the next month and after a night out at the bars that ended staying over at her place I barely hear from her other than a few texts for the next few weeks. I assume she's just real busy with starting a new job and visiting a grandmother a couple hours away. I think, no big deal as she goes to visit her pretty regularly but she has always gotten in contact when she gets back but not this time. I ask her why she has been ignoring me and I get this: \"It doesn't feel right. I don't know why I do or don't do things sometimes. Please don't be mad at me.\" \n\nAm I missing something here? I'm not mad, more so confused about the whole thing. I know what I have to do now which is not talk to her and move on. Maybe you can enlighten me a bit.", "summary": "Don't know why FWB cut things off after seemingly wanting a LTR"}
{"id": "t3_4ctgye", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Did I get stood up and if so what should I do now?", "post": "This might be a bit of a rant but I'm just really confused at this point and I don't know what to do. So here's to start off I'm friends with this female who I've known for years and I never made a move on her. Recently she gave me what I assumed to be hints like direct eye contact and a smile out of the blue. A couple days ago I finally gained the nerve to ask her out to go eat together and she said yes and told me to message her. (Neither of us suggested a friend coming along or anything so I assume it was just one on one). So on the next day it's the go out day and I message her in the morning to meet up with me at ____ later and no response. Later I go there being the hopeful idiot I am and I just wait. Some more waiting.... I message her to ask her if she does plan on coming, no response. I'm pretty sure she was just ignoring my messages at this point... And I eventually go home. Hours later she messages to me that she has a boyfriend and I just... \"Uh ok.\" Next day she greets me and smiles at me like nothing ever happened. At this point I have no idea how to react cause I sorta end up seeing her everyday and yea...", "summary": "I ask girl out, she says message her, I do, I wait, she tells me she has boyfriend after a long time of waiting, she pretends nothing ever happen wit plans for outing"}
{"id": "t3_29nrda", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "I want to take college classes to help my future, but I was home schooled and barely did school work the last few years of it, so I don't know if I could handle it.", "post": "Lately I've been really worried about my future, I'm 19 years old, and I really don't want to work at the grocery store I currently work at for the rest of my life. \n\nI was home schooled, but being careless and stubborn, as teenagers can be, I barely did any work the last few years of my schooling, aside from some self-taught programming. I believe I technically graduated but I'm not 100% sure.\n\nI want to take classes at my local community college, but I'm afraid I won't be able to handle the work they give me due to not doing much work through highschool. Especially the math, science, etc.\n\nWhat I've been interested in doing is taking the general education classes for 2 years at a community college, and depending on how well I do, transfer to a 4 year school to finish up and get a degree in something like computer science. I'd love to do some sort of IT work, I'm good with technology, and I know a good amount just by teaching myself. I feel like I would be able to progress with that type of thing.\n\nAnyway, I don't know how to go about doing any of this. I don't know if I'll be able to pay for it (my family doesn't have money, and I currently work at a grocery store for $8.60/hr) and I don't know if I'll be able to handle the work load because I didn't do much math, science, or any of that stuff. And now I feel like I'm screwed. I'd love any help and insight into my situation!", "summary": "19 years old, was home schooled, didn't do much school work. Want to take classes at community college, but don't know if I'll be able to do the work, or even afford it."}
{"id": "t3_1thnzu", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Redditors. Have you ever been the \"other\" person in a relationship? How did you handle when they suddenly changed face?", "post": "Throwaway, obviously.\nHere's some background.\nThrowawayman2465 was the other guy. He knew. And did it anyway. The girl's boyfriend treats her pretty shittily. Not noticing her, diluting her problems into \"it's just a woman thing.\" All the time. \nHe's an ass. But that doesn't justify it.\nObviously we both feel terrible.\nBut here's the thing. We were amazing friends for a year before this. I mean, every day texting and intimate friends. She is the first person I have ever actually loved. Not in love, but loved.\nSuddenly, two weeks ago. She turns it off. I say anything about my day and the \"what's wrong? What's the matter? Talk to me.\" Is gone.\nShe just gets angry with me at the drop of a hat.\nShe stopped texting me as much and just doesn't give a shit. I keep asking her why and she just says shes not feeling great. While increasing the gulf of distance.", "summary": "Was the other guy, were super close friends, now she suddenly doesn't even seem to like me let alone care. "}
{"id": "t3_3m86ov", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being courteous", "post": "Quick backstory: I am a duel enrollment student (still in high school but goes to college full-time) and don't have my license so I bike home. \n\nNow let's get to the fuck up. I was riding down the sidewalk and up ahead was a golf cart blocking the way. The man who was using kindly moved it out of my so I could get past. As I go by, I give him the nod and say \"thank you\" just to be courteous.  Well he didn't really give me that much space so as I was saying thank you, my goes into the grass and I quickly try to readjust, resulting in my tire hitting the side of the sidewalk and me falling off my bike. I looked like a complete dumbass and just laughed to myself and kept riding.  Luckily, I don't take myself too seriously, so I wasn't that embarrassed.", "summary": "Said thank you, fell off my bike."}
{"id": "t3_35uirj", "subreddit": "self", "title": "I want to start living in the moment", "post": "I'm sure this has been said a thousand times, but I felt the need to pen down my thoughts somewhere. \n\nI am pretty happy with my life. I've got a great family and I'm going to a decent university end of the year. I have a small number of close friends. \n\nBUT I just can't seem to get over my lack of confidence. Every social situation I am over-analysing and my mind is flooded with self-doubt. I am a serious person, but I hate that about myself, I think people are really put off by it. So when I meet new people and I wanna make a good first impression, I sort of fake it. Fake enthusiasm and try to be as outgoing and social as I can. I think people can see through it though. Soon I get discouraged and the doubts rush in, I go back to being awkward, quiet and wishing the ground would just swallow me up. \n\nThe whole time my mind is screaming\n\n'No one likes you'\n\n'Why are you standing there being quiet? Say something now!'\n\n'That was a stupid thing to say'\n\n'Look at (sociable friend), they are so much better than you'\n\nAnd that just spirals down until any remaining strand of courage I managed to muster is completely gone. \n\nI just want to start living in the moment and not worry about all this. I want to be able to connect with people and make friends without this destructive thought process but I can't seem to get rid of it. Over the past year I've tried to get myself out of my comfort zone and meet as many new people as I can. I've managed to strike up some conversations and make some new friends. But every time my self doubt catches me in the end and I somehow convince myself that it was a negative experience and I screwed up. \n\nI've heard lots of success stories of redditors who managed to build up their self-confidence and go from social recluse to butterfly. I would love to hear your advice and thoughts and stories of how to get rid of my internal monologue and start being confident in these situations. \n\nThanks for listening.", "summary": "20 year old girl goes on journey towards confidence needs advice on getting rid of destructive self doubt thoughts in social situations."}
{"id": "t3_2vknv9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do I [29F] really need to officially come out to my brother [44M] and his wife[40F]?", "post": "Due to the age difference, I've never been close with my oldest brother.  He moved out at 18 so I never really even got to know him.  I only ever see him at Thanksgiving and we never talk.  I'm a bit closer with his wife, in that we actually have conversations when I see her, which is still only twice a year (I live 2000 miles from where I grew up so I only visit twice a year).\n\nI came out to my parents and my other brother when I was 17.  It took them a bit to get used to it but we're all good now.  They've met two long-term girlfriends of mine, and my oldest brother and my sister-in-law also met them, but they were just introduced as, \"This is [name].\"  It was pretty damn obvious that I was in a relationship with these girls, but nothing was explicitly said.\n\nA few years ago, I moved in with a girlfriend.  We also went on a trip backpacking around Europe together and moved across the country together.  Brother and sister-in-law knew about this.  Again, pretty damn obvious, but again, nothing explicitly said.\n\nOne little thing that might be worth mentioning as backstory: when my brother was in high school, several of my mom's friends came out as gay.  When he found out, he asked my mom, \"You're not going to suddenly say you're gay, right??\"  It gave my mom the impression that he really wouldn't like it, and while I know that a gay sister is totally different from a gay mom, it gives me pause.  When I've asked my mom about coming out to him, she says we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.\n\nIt's starting to feel ridiculous.  I'm planning to bring my current girlfriend home this spring and I would really like to introduce her as, \"my girlfriend, [name].\"  It's all but been said at this point, so can I do that?  It seems unnecessary to say, \"oh, by the way, I'm gay,\" when I'm pretty sure they already know.", "summary": "I've never said the words \"I'm gay\" to my brother and sister-in-law, but I'm pretty sure they know anyway... do I have to actually \"come out\" at this point?"}
{"id": "t3_3n3en4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (20F) and I (21M) are abroad for the year but she can't travel because of her parents. Help?", "post": "We've been dating two years and are spending the year abroad in London.  London was the only program that worked for both our majors.  We like the city but we've noticed that all the other students in our program travel on weekends, to other European countries and such.\n\nI've never been out of the country before.  I'd love to see more of Europe, I may never get another chance.  But my girlfriend's parents have prohibited her from traveling.  They said she can take day trips if she's with a large group, but seeing as we don't know the others in our program (we're pretty solitary people) that isn't a possibility.  Overnight trips or plane rides are out of the question.\n\nMy girlfriend wants to travel too, and we've thought about sneaking to go on a trip, but her conscience is killing her.  She wants to try writing an email to her parents begging for permission, but is scared.  She's told me to travel without her, but as much as I want to see Europe I don't want to go without her.  What do we do?", "summary": "Girlfriend's parents are prohibiting her from traveling while on her year abroad.  It's isolating us from most activities and we've gotten quite bored.  We don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3qeewi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my GF[19F] Few weeks, Pressured with disseminating time", "post": "First of all this is my first real girlfriend as in relationship and we are still building up.\n\nI always had problems with dessemination of time as in doing my hobbies, going out with friends and work. Now when I have a girlfriend I don't know what I should do with my spare time after work.\n\nI have the feeling that I can't handle all the things happening and that I should spend most of the time with her and doing less with my hobbies and such.\n\nI am almost always gaming with a friend of mine and its part of my life and it became something that I think I need to do but with a 40 hour work week I don't have much time (For my doing). \n\nI'm more comfortable at home gaming because I have my rig there and I can voice chat with my friend and just relax. Now I don't really know how much time I should be spending home vs being with my gf and playing games but not really playing with my friend (We almost do everything together as in playing WoW and currently ARK)\n\nNow before it escalates and getting really stressed I am asking for some tips on how to spend my time, explaining this is really hard for me so I hope I have explained it well enough\n\nSorry for my bad english I'm from holland so english is not my native language.", "summary": "Not feeling good about the fact that I have to game with my friend AND have to do things with my GF in a little amount of spare time."}
{"id": "t3_53fxxv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [33/M] used to be very social and fun and all of sudden I find myself without friends or much of a life.", "post": "I was always a social / likable person growing up. Back home, where I went to high school and college, I had dozens of friends from all walks of life that I could hang out with. I moved out West for a job in 2010 and my social life hasn't really been the same since. \n\nI used to go out with co-workers, who I guess I'd call friends, when I first moved out here. We'd go to bars and have fun on the weekends. I was then dating a girl from 2013 - 2015 and I would hang out with her and her friends a lot. Once we broke up, I mostly cut ties with a lot of those people.  \n\nThe \"friends\" I had for a lot of 2015 were female who I was dating. I was just dating around, going to bars, hanging out with random people. It was fun. \n\nAbout this time last year, I started dating a new girl somewhat seriously and things are going great. The few friends I do have out here are married / long term relationships and have kids. I feel like it's mostly just her and I that hang out now. \n\nI've also stopped drinking a month ago, which has really put a damper on my social life, since I'm realizing a lot of the \"friends\" I would hang out with were really more like drinking buddies and that's it. I'm not never drinking again, I'm just trying to cut back on it. \n\nOn the weekdays, I go to the gym in the morning, work a normal office job, do errands after work, come home and relax and go to bed around 10pm. On the weekends, I go to bed at like 9:30pm so I can wake up and have a full day of playing with the dog, getting a good workout in and hanging with my girlfriend. \n\nIs this just a part of growing up and living in your 30s? Is it normal to not do much? I feel like I need some male companionship outside of grabbing drinks at a bar, but I don't know how to find it.", "summary": "I'm in my mid30s and not sure if my social life is normal or not."}
{"id": "t3_qvez5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What is the Difference between a MBA w/ a focus in Finance and a Masters of Science in Finance?", "post": "Hi, I'm thinking about x-posting this in r/eduction or maybe just r/askreddit... anyways,  \n  \nI have a job now, and while I truly LOVE my profession its been about two years and I still find myself deficient in some areas. I was hired to replace a man who will be retiring in about 3-4 years. There is zero training!  \nI was thrown into the deep end from the get-go, and while not his fault my 'mentor' is a terrible teacher. I'm afraid that once he retires, I will come upon financial questions that I haven't encountered or have the fundamental skills to solve. My GREATEST worry is that I will then be laid off and with a less then well rounded skill set, I'd have trouble finding new employment.  \n  \nSo. I was looking at going to graduate school to get a masters. This would be a huge increase in my professional confidence as well as give me a broader knowledge base in my profession. I saw that alot of schools in my area (okay, just two) offer an MBA with a focus on Finance or, alternatively, a Master of Science in Finance. For some reason I'm leaning towards a Master of Science, as it seems to be more focused on Finance. I've aced marketing and management classes in the past, but never found them very commercially useful (sorry, i'm sure thats not the case with MANY people out there, but I just want to master finance)  \n  \n  \nWhat is your opinion? Is one commercially viewed as 'better'? Do employers have a preference? which might better equip me with financial acumen?  \n  \n  \nBIG SECONDARY QUESTION: Is it stupid to go graduate school just to get better skills when ultimately I may stay with the same company and receive the same pay just so I can be better at my job?", "summary": "Whats the difference between MBA w/ focus on finance and a MS in Finance?"}
{"id": "t3_2c4dhj", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Communicating a negative attitude at work, How can I change this?", "post": "I recently began working in my graduate role, the only problem is a lot of the time I have nothing to do and the work is somewhat mundane when I do. \n\nAs long as I'm happy, I'm pretty satisfied as I feel more valued but most of the time its the opposite. I don't want to gain a bad reputation on my team, as they frequently informally discuss bad past workers. I also interact with about 30 different people each day. \n\nSome days I come in with a very positive attitude (which just seems to happen irregularly) but sometimes, like today... I just feel like shit, am bored and unfortunately this seems to be easily picked up by my colleagues. Today was one of the many shit days I've had so far. Unfortunately for me my team are a really lively bunch and love to chat/make jokes. Sadly, I'm a pretty serious person..... and don't quite get along with people as easily as they do. \n\nAs I said, I just started in this role; I have only been in it 3 weeks. \nWorkers, do you have any advice? I want to seem more interested in my role and communicate more positive body language tomorrow :)", "summary": "I act like a sad sack at work; co-workers pick up bod language; how can I be more positive?"}
{"id": "t3_1wa3p2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my girlfriend[25 F] of 4 years, need help fixing the past.", "post": "I have been dating the same girl for 4 years  We have lived together 3 of those years.  I have always been a flirty guy and I know it can cause problems.  From the start of our relationship I wasn't ready for anything long term, wanted to be single and play the field.  Throughout our relationship I have been a dumbass and flirted with girls, even sent some pics that I shouldn't have.  This has happen not just once but about three times.  However, in the last year I wanted to get my shit together because she is a pretty kick ass girl.\n\nI don't know why I sent naked pics and flirted like I did while in a relationship.  It just something I got a thrill from doing (and in the end, help me get off).  I would feel guilty about it afterwards though.  \n\nMy partner's father cheated on her mother and hurt her pretty good by it.  So I understand her trusting issues and I haven't done anything to help it with what I've done.  It is too the point where she monitors me closely everyday.  She does go through my facebook, phone, and email to see if I'm doing it again.  Once again, I understand why.\n\nMy biggest problem is because I have done these things in the past, I feel like I've doomed this relationship.  How can I ever feel like the perfect guy for her when I've screwed up so many times.  I can't pretend that I the knight in shinning armor.  Because of all this, I feel like this relationship is at a standstill and we are just together cause its comfortable.  I don't want that, I want to go back and treat her right and be the best I can, but I don't think the past will allow that.  What can I do?", "summary": "I screwed up in the past with flirting and naked pics, now I want to salvage the relationship and turn it around."}
{"id": "t3_1sz6jh", "subreddit": "pettyrevenge", "title": "Talk down to me? Have fun working your shift!", "post": "I'm currently working retail (thanks to  the lack of graphic design jobs in my area). This isn't my first round with retail. I spent six years working retail,  five retail Christmases dealing with customers. So when I started working at this new store I haven't found any problems in this new environment. The store isn't over stressful and my fellow employees are pretty nice. Well,  everyone but her. We'll call her Sally. \n\nSally thinks that because she was. trained a day before me that she has some type of authority over me,  which she doesn't. Anyways! Sally and I exchanged phone numbers if we need to have someone pick up our shift/trade shifts with. We traded shifts a few weeks ago and despite her needing the shift changed she made me do all the leg work (get the shift change approved). When I seen her next after that she was taking over the department from me and we'll, she was a snob. Talked down to me about my duties,  things I am aware of and don't need her to tell me about. \n\nI normally wouldn't let this bother me but this trend has continued so she texted me asking me to take her shift,  she sent 5 texts, and she'd take one of mine. I thought about this long and hard. Should I trade shifts with her? Nope,  I decided I had \"plans\". Sorry,  be nicer next time and maybe you'll get people to be nice to you.", "summary": "Coworker talked down to me so I made her work her own shift instead of switching shifts with her."}
{"id": "t3_hcmv2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, does it ever bother you when people compare their loss of a pet to the loss of a child?", "post": "I'm not sure if this has been asked before. I did a search on reddit and came up with nothing, but here is my exact situation that I want to get some opinions on it:\n\nMy friend's cat got out of her apartment and her reaction to it is really bothering me. First off, she's spending lots of time and money looking for this cat. It's been a few days and my gut is telling me the cat isn't coming back. This whole time I've tried to be supportive and understanding, but at the same time, feeling as though she really needs to get over it and move on. \n\nWhen I told her I think she's done enough and she shouldn't spend a lot of money hiring pet detectives, her response to me was, \"You obviously don't value life as much as I do. I'll spend as much as I need to find my baby.\" \n\nAfter this she told me, she's going to put off going to grad school for another year (she's put it off 2 years already) because she's too devastated about her cat. At this point I kinda want to smack some sense into her and tell her she needs to stop this martyrdom over a cat, but am I the one who doesn't understand and is being too out of line?", "summary": "Friend is treating her missing cat like a missing child and it's starting to bother me."}
{"id": "t3_3aicbg", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Dear reddit, how do I keep my head up right now?(serious)", "post": "So i moved to south florida 2 and a half years ago. This area is broken and so are the people. I dont drive and have no means of meeting people outside of work. i've had a girlfriend for about 18 months that i recently lost to the needle, and this is a big deal for me as i completely despise needles and the people who use them.   I've always been open about it and she knew. I feel very hurt and betrayed and it is so hard for me to not be depressed right now. she was basically the only thing i cared about in this foreign place and now i dont even have that. i dont feel responsible or anything, i just feel like i missed out on the last year and a half of my life because of this asshole. What do I do to stop being so abysmally sad? pm's welcome", "summary": "i lost my girlfriend to iv heroin and I'm really fucking upset about it."}
{"id": "t3_2husnq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My(27f) boyfriend(M30) of 3 years is not sure he wants to stop doing drugs...", "post": "I've always been fine with him smoking pot, and the deal with cigarettes was that he stopped smoking when I got pregnant. \n\nI found out recently that hes been using coke at parties and with certain friends. He says its just recreational. That because I never noticed, it clearly isnt affecting him or us badly. \n\nI've always been upfront with what I am ok with and what I am not. I have watched loved ones change into horrible, miserable people because of addictions, and I never want to put myself through things that happened in the past. I also never want to be the person who gives ultimatums to change someone. \n\nWhen I finally told him that its really bothering me and I cant go through my past again, he said if it meant that much he wouldnt....Then a few mins later suggested that I think about how I feel and take into consideration that hes not addicted. He thinks its fun. \n\nMy logical side is telling me exactly what I expect to hear, but my heart tells me that I love him and I cant imagine not being with him. Not sure where to go from here. Help :(", "summary": "boyfriend uses coke occasionally, doesnt see the issue. Might not want to stop. I hate that he does it."}
{"id": "t3_36mpb6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by realizing I got friend zoned.", "post": "Well, this kind of happened over a period of time, but I only came to the realization today.\n\nFor about the past year I've been hanging out with smokin' hot girl who has all the same hobbies as me and we get along like PB&J.  Anyways, I know she has a BF, but for the whole past year, all she does is complain about him, so I have been playing the long con game trying to wait it out until she breaks up with him (which she's mentioned she wanted to do several times).\n\nEVERYTHING IS GOING SO GREAT!  JK...a few days ago I learned that she is about to move into a house her BF just bought (while I can only afford my tiny little apartment) over looking a serene lake, but still nearby enough for her commute to work.\n\nIpso Facto or", "summary": "Don't ever give a girl more than a month or two in the friend zone before you're there permanently."}
{"id": "t3_2ntipl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] have had inappropriate behavior while in a relationship with my boyfriend [29 M] of 5 years.", "post": "I sound like a horrible person, I know....\n\nThe first time I had a guy texting my phone, it was sexually explicit. He really thought we really had something going. Meanwhile, I knew I didn't want THAT with him. Needless to say, my boyfriend was pissed. But, he took me back. I think I was just seeking attention?!?!\n\nThe second time, it wasn't anything sexually explicit...only FLIRTY text. But similar situation as before; He's pissed.\n\nI should also include that he went through my stuff to find all this information out. He calls me out my name and even brings my friends into it. He threatens to talk to my mom and his sisters about it. Do I have a right to be mad that he went through my stuff? Should I expect to get cheated on?", "summary": "! Inappropriate; Will he Cheat; Relationships; Sucks; Bad Behavior"}
{"id": "t3_2n1xvk", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by slipping while walking down the stairs and dislocating the 2nd toe on my right foot", "post": "So I had just gotten home from working out, and eating dinner, and my legs were pretty sore since I normally do legs on Mondays and Fridays. My room is in the basement of my house and when I walk down stairs I tend to walk on the balls of my feet which was a huge mistake for once in my life. I was carelessly walking down the stairs and near the end of the steps  my foot slipped on the edge of a stair causing me to jerk forward catching my curled up foot on the edge of the next step hence popping only my second toe right out of its socket. And the worst feeling of it all was when i went to examine my crooked toe and the motion of lifting up the toe popped it back into place causing me to panic and go all light headed. Now I'm sitting here in slight pain with a jimmy rigged splint on my toe.", "summary": "Title says it all"}
{"id": "t3_21b9gh", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Need to lose 50 lbs. Need help!", "post": "Alright so, I need a bit of help. I'm a 26 year old male who is in the process of buying my first home, I have a fiance and money is tight. I had a tonsillectomy a few months ago and since the surgery, it seems I have ballooned and I am not happy with myself.  I couldn't eat any solid food for around 3 weeks after the surgery and when I finally could, I went over board and haven't stopped. On top of that, I have become a couch potato. \n\nI'm at the point where I am now unhappy and have lost all confidence in myself and want to change, but the problem is that money is very tight. Fruits and veggies are very expensive and a gym membership is out of the question until I move into a new home and get a handle on all of the new bills. \n\nMy question for all of you is, what can a person on a tight budget to lose weight? I will be starting to walk today as well as opting to take stairs over elevators etc. \n\nI know this won't be easy, but I've never been the extremely athletic type and I want to change that. So, and support advice will be appreciated.", "summary": "I'm 50 lbs overweight and on a very tight budget. Need any help I can get."}
{"id": "t3_ti8g4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My old tv got killed by a mattress, I just got paid by my insurance company and I have little knowledge on current tvs... what do you think I should buy?", "post": "Calling all techy tv fans!\n\nI'm a uk redditor, I bought [this tv] for \u00a3550 four years ago. It recently took a nasty tumble off it's stand and the screen was totaled. My insurance company gave me \u00a3500 for it, minus the \u00a395 charge for claiming on my house insurance.\n\nAwesome result indeed... problem is, I would really like to replace the tv but have no idea where to start looking. I was going to pop down to my local currys as I have close ties to a few people working there and I might see a bargain like I did with my old tv... but I'm looking for other options.\n\nI have \u00a3400 to spend, I'd prefer the tv to be 32\" or above, as the last one was 42\" and downsizing wouldn't work well for me.\n\nAny ideas?", "summary": "What tv would you buy for \u00a3400?"}
{"id": "t3_4sognj", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Should I [28/m] be there for my friend [25/f] after she lost someone, even though we fought?", "post": "Small background: My friend and I met through Tinder a year or two ago, but it actually worked out great. We didn't really get closer until much later (small city). We ended up becoming really close and hanging out constantly. We weren't boyfriend and girlfriend, but we were pretty damn close. About a month ago we fought because I did something stupid. I got kind of mad at her because she was being really terrible at communicating to me. She told me she needed space, and I barely talked to her since.\n\nNow: She told me wanted to get back to where we were before, but she hasn't really taken any effort and I told her I'd give her space. I saw that her ex (of 7 years, and they broke up a while ago) had passed away from a car accident on Friday, and I just now found out through Facebook. I messaged her and told her if she needed anything she could get a hold of me. She said thanks and she knows I'd be there for her.\n\nThis is where my question comes in, she's an independent type and would never ask for my help. I can understand how devastated I would be in that situation. I really wanted to take her flowers and see her, for multiple reasons. I know she wouldn't ask me to be there, but I want to be. Would it be bad to take her flowers and just show up?", "summary": "Fought with a friend who recently lost someone, and I want to be there for her. Should I?"}
{"id": "t3_vmt73", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend doesn't seem to take my trust issues seriously? Advice please.", "post": "Hey Reddit. This is my friend's throwaway, first time posting on reddit so let's see how this goes.\n\nI am a 20 year old girl, dating a 23 year old guy. We've been together for almost 9 months. I love him. He loves me. I have been cheated on in the past, have been lied to, don't have a very positive male figure in my life. My boyfriend knows all this. \n\nWe have had problems with him looking at other girls infront of me, but nothing that we have not dealt with. We spend a lot of time together, and I love being with him.\n\nLately, my insecurities have been getting the best of me. I am an attractive girl but I have allowed my boyfriend's wandering eyes to make me feel horrible about myself. I am constantly worried he will leave me for another girl.\n\nWe have been fighting to no end recently, about everything. I expressed my fears and worries and we got through it. However last night he made a joke about wanting to go see his doctor to get a check up on his private part (he was specific to include that detail.) His doctor is a fairly attractive young woman. I was very upset about this, I don't understand what is funny about telling your girlfriend you would like another girl touching you.\n\nI got really upset, and he apologized for his joke. This does not make me feel better. I love him a lot, and I know he loves me. But I really just don't know what to do.\n\nDo you guys have any advice on what to do? I feel even more insecure in his satisfaction now... I just want to feel loved, appreciated, wanted, and respected.", "summary": "Boyfriend (23m) doesn't seem to take my (20f) trust issues seriously. Makes jokes about other girls touching him. etc. Need advice!"}
{"id": "t3_t1may", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My question for a drug addict: if you had the option of free, government-sponsored drug rehabilitation, would you take advantage of it?", "post": "Recently was talking to a friend about places like Portugal and the Netherlands, where drugs have been decriminalized and the government spends a fraction of the money they would have wasted incarcerating non-violent criminals on things like rehab programs, access to often much-needed assistance, clean needles, etc. I tried to inform him that this actually decreased drug use over time and saved these governments a lot of money, but he seems to be sticking to the idea that decriminalizing drugs will create more addicts and drug-related violence, and few would actually welcome rehab. I know that in the U.S. free rehabilitation isn't offered and I'm sure there are many who wish they had the option, so I was just wondering if any fellow redditors had experienced this issue before/currently and could tell me about it, since I don't currently know any drug addicts, at least any that are aware they have a problem.", "summary": "Any redditors wish they had the option of free rehab available to them?"}
{"id": "t3_398fc8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "20/m wants to help his 21/f gf deal with her shitty roommates even though she doesn't want the help", "post": "Throwaway because my gf knows my reddit account. My girlfriend lives with shitty roommates. They antagonize her, they bitch about cleaning the living room of the apartment (I've been over numerous times, it's not dirty at all), are hypocritical as fuck about dishes (they bitch at her over text or leave pissy passive aggressive notes around their apartment, even though they often leave the sink filled to the brim with dishes too. Oh and the \"man\" is 25 and the girl is 21), they don't share the garage key for the unit, and generally just shitty people. \n\nI really want to confront and engage them, and tell them to fuck off, specifically the 25 year old and tell him not to be a fucking coward and talk to her face, and stuff because they make my girlfriend feel miserable, she cries when she sees these passive aggressive texts that they send her. She hates conflict though and will do ANYTHING to avoid it, so I can't do anything because she won't let me. She's also living with them for another four months.", "summary": "Shitty roommates make my girlfriend miserable, I want to tell them to fuck off, she won't let me because she wants to avoid conflict. What should I do reddit?"}
{"id": "t3_3d9amx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "MyNetDiary Hates Eggs! Question for MFP (or other app) Users", "post": "Stats: F/50/5'7\" SW: 234 lb / CW: 207 lb / GW: 159 lb (for now)\n\nHello, loseit! I have enjoyed lurking here, it has been very helpful and informative, so I thought I would ask this question of MFP (or other calorie track app) users.\n\nI have been using MyNetDiary for logging, which I like very much on the whole \u2013 easy to use, good database, etc. The only thing I dislike is that it seems to hate eggs! Their suggested macros skew towards low-fat, high-ish carb, lean protein only intake, which is basically fine with me because it's how I pretty much prefer to eat anyway.\n\nHowever, I have adjusted my diet to bump up the protein a little more, at the expense of sacrificing some carb calories. Not low-carb by any means - just low*er* than they suggest- because by experimenting I have found this tweak increases my level of satiety substantially. Yay!\n\nMyNetDiary tolerates this well enough (i.e., no warning flags in my \"Analysis\")\u2026unless, Ed forbid, I include as little as a single large egg in my day. Then I get yellow flags about my sat fat and cholesterol intake. And if I want to see it really go apeshit, all I have to do is happen to also have red meat (rarely) and/or a few grams of *light* butter (occasionally) on the same day. Then it goes all DANGER WILL ROBINSON! Grrrr.\n\nI eat at most 1 large egg in a day, and I'm not going to drop eggs from my diet, I just find it irritating AF to see these warning flags, as if I am chunking gobs of lard into my food or something. X/\n\nDoes MFP / other apps \"behave\" the same way? TIA for your replies!", "summary": "MyNetDiary hates eggs and flips out warning me about high sat fat/cholesterol intake if I add a single egg to my day. Does your calorie tracking app do that, too?"}
{"id": "t3_4k1e9z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22/F] with my Brother [20 M] , He shut himself in for more than one month, he mostly plays piano and doesn't talk??", "post": "My brother is acting weird recently, he has always been calm and such, he's very nice, but recently he just shut himself in...\n\nDuring the last month I have been always getting awaken by him playing piano at 3:00 - 4:00 am, he continues on playing till like 9:00 - 10:00 am then goes to the fridge, eats something quickly then goes back to his room either playing again or doing homework or turning off the lights while lying in his bed listening to music...\n\nHe doesn't talk unless you go and talk to him!? and it's impossible to make him angry now, I know he's very nice but before he used to get angry if someone teased him but now he's kind of numb... I tried making him the food he likes he thanked me but he never finish the dish and he even lost weight I wonder what's wrong with him he's acting numb and spaces out a lot...\n\nI asked him a lot what's wrong with him, but his answer is always ( nothing ), I thought he was in love and got his heart broken but he said no that's not true and there's nothing wrong with him ... last night I asked him again but this time he said he's annoyed by my insistence ...\n\nI don't know what to do I'm really worried ... do you think he's depressed or he's acting normal ? Am I worrying too much ?", "summary": "In summary my brother is acting weird recently he used to be calm, yes, but not like now, he's acting numb I'm worried, what do you think ?"}
{"id": "t3_my4nv", "subreddit": "self", "title": "How can I quickly get/borrow about $2,000 to remove a fallen tree in my yard while I try to sell it?", "post": "I need to clean up a pretty big [tree that fell in my yard] in a mobile home park back in August, which is going to cost quite a bit to remove. Homeowner's insurance offered a whole $150 to help me remove it (they paid for the belongings in the shed pictured), but that's my own fault for putting the lowest possible amount of insurance on the place just to satisfy the park's demands.\n\nI've been trying to sell the place cheap for the past month or so with the tree in the yard but to no avail, just to clean my hands of the mess that I can't afford to get rid of.\n\nI got a \"final notice\" in the mail today that the tree needs to be removed by December 12th or else I'm in violation of some community policy and they'll bill me to have them remove the tree and I'll no longer have a \"positive relationship with the management office\" (which obviously could hurt me on future rental applications).\n\nI need to find a way to make or borrow about $2,000 for the complete cleanup. I'd be able to pay that amount back when I sell the house, which should be soon (my house is priced at about 60% of its actual value because of the tree and the fact that I want to leave ASAP).\n\nI'm 22 with minimal credit. I don't know why I'm asking Reddit for advice, but I guess that's my form of panicking.", "summary": "There's a big-ass tree next to my mobile home that I can't afford to remove, and it has to be gone ASAP."}
{"id": "t3_i3ipj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "When is an anniversary? A first date, first kiss, or when you decide to be officially BF/GF?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are trying to decide when our anniversary is. He thinks it should be as far back as it can go which would make it January 17th but it was kind of an accidental thing that neither of us knew was a date. This was exactly a month before our second date on February 17th.  Our first kiss was March 2nd and we decided we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend on May 2nd. So I know it's either the 2nd or the 17th but we can't decide.  This has recently become a long-distance thing and we have a special trip planned in July so it would be great to celebrate an anniversary.  What does reddit think?", "summary": "What do you consider the start of a relationship/anniversary?"}
{"id": "t3_h88lg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get my cat to let me vacuum her?", "post": "So my other vacuum blew up and I bought a new one.  It came with the pet brush that connects to the hose and you can brush them and it sucks up their hair.  The only problem is my cat is deathly afraid of it.  I picked her out of my other three cats because she's the least timid and has disgusting skin flakes that fall all over my bed and she can really benefit from a good vacuuming.  I started by just brushing her with the brush without the vacuum going and she really enjoys it.  Then I plugged it into the vacuum and turned it on and she ran away.  I would like to know if anyone knows how I can train her to love being vacuumed?  I know if she just gave it a chance she would find it really pleasurable.", "summary": "I want to vacuum my fucking cat."}
{"id": "t3_479z66", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Our[25F,30M] friends and family[20s-60s M/F] demand money because we're \"rich\", what can we do to make them stop?", "post": "My husband and I both make a good amount of money. We're also responsible with money, when I graduated college we spent two years putting all of my salary and 1/3 of his into paying off our loans and now we're debt free for the most part.\n\nOur friends and family ask us for money a lot. They say that it's not fair that we have a live-in maid but they struggle to pay off debt.\n\nThat's not our fault. They were the ones that took out private student loans and partied or bought tons of junk.\n\nHow can we get our point across without burning bridges?", "summary": "We earn a good amount of money and were responsible with student loans/money. Now people think we're rich and demand we help them."}
{"id": "t3_4g48zu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] struggling with how to support my long distance boyfriend [21 M] through his grandfather's death.", "post": "We've been together 3 years and have worked out most of the kinks of living 1,000 miles apart, but this is a new challenge. Yesterday he found out his grandfather was in the hospital, so he rushed to his bedside. As of today, his grandfather is unresponsive and is likely going to pass within a few hours. I am making a point to always be available over text, call, and Skype and I'm doing my best to make sure that he feels supported and loved, but it doesn't feel like I'm doing enough, and I'd do anything to give him my shoulder to lean on right now. It's not necessarily practical for me to fly out because both of us have final exams to take in the next two weeks, and I don't want to burden his family with having to host me. \n\nMy question is if anybody else has advice or ideas on how to best support an SO in a time like this in a way that can be done from a distance.", "summary": "Long distance boyfriend is losing his grandpa, looking for advice on how to show my love and support of him and his family."}
{"id": "t3_3d88mm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU By accidentally posting a photo meant for my girlfriend to Instagram", "post": "hey reddit. I recently made up with my girlfriend of six months but I wasn't able to stay with her tonight so we were chatting on Instagram via direct message. I sent her a photo of me in my boxers telling her how she excites me. Only this one slipped through my radar of selecting direct message and instead sent it to all my followers, for twenty minutes it stood up there while we chatted. My closer friends had tried to warn me via text but my phone was nowhere to be found because I was using an iPad. She laughed but I'm losing sleep over it. How many people do you think see a photo in 20 minutes at 1 am? I only have 150 followers though but I would like to hear stories of similar experience and what the backlash was.", "summary": "sent a photo to gf that instead got posted to my Instagram newsfeed"}
{"id": "t3_3p3qvh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "How do I [M, 23] get over other girl [19] while still in relationship with gf [25]?", "post": "I'm a European student living in another European country's capital to attend university. My girlfriend is an American expat who has been living here for about 3 years. We've been dating for two years and have been living together for about 6 months.\n\nAbout three months ago, I met another girl, also a foreign student. I was instantly physically attracted to her, but didn't think much of it, things like this happen all the time. However, after getting to know her better over a period of two weeks I fell in love hard. I could tell she had similar feelings for me, but I kept her at a distance because I didn't want to betray my girlfriend's trust. I have considered leaving my girlfriend to pursue a relationship with the other girl but have decided against it. I love my girlfriend very much, she has inspired me to make a lot of positive changes in my life over the time we've been together and I am happy and proud to be with her. Also a relationship with her is far more likely to bring me happiness in the future. The other girl is the kind of girl I used to go for in the past and a relationship with her would most likely only end in heartbreak.\n\nOn a night out with some of my friends I ran into the ''other girl'' and a group of her friends. Long story short, I came very close to spending the night with her but instead ended up destroying any chance of us being together, like I had decided before. I'm still not entirely sure whether I did it because I wanted to or because I felt like I had to.\n\nAbout a full month has passed since then, but I can't get the other girl out of my mind. I think about her constantly, even when I'm with my girlfriend. I feel guilty about it and I feel it's still effecting my relationship. I don't want to be with her (the other girl) anymore, whenever I do speak to her or hear about her, it confirms I've made the right decision to end whatever we had. I've made my decision and want to move on with my life but for some reason I can't.", "summary": "fell in love with a girl while in a relationship with someone else, decided to stay with girlfriend and end things with other girl but now can't get her out of my mind."}
{"id": "t3_2zz7pc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M/F] with my exboyfriend [027 M] a few months, hurt that he has moved on", "post": "Around September, I met a guy and soon after were in a relationship. It lasted about a month, and then he broke up with me.\n\nWe didn't talk much for about 2 months, and then he started texting me again. He said that he missed me and wanted to try to work things out. We kept texting for a bit, but then he stopped talking to me again.\n\nA few weeks after that, he texted me again saying he really missed me and wanted to talk again. I tried texting him a few times, and again he stopped responding.\n\nIt has been a few weeks since then, and now I found out that he has a new girlfriend. I am hurt because i still really care about him, and he kept telling me that he wanted to try to work things out and try again, but then never followed though.\n\nI am beginning to think that he was just messing with my head, and that he only texted me saying he missed me just because he didn't want to be alone.\n\nI need help to move on, but I just can't seem to do that.", "summary": "Was with my xbf for a month, he broke up with me a few months ago, he is with a new gf for a couple days, and I am hurt because I still love him."}
{"id": "t3_1b47bc", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "[F19]Ex is in my class making NC impossible", "post": "*Background: We were friends then went out for 4 months, which lead to [F19] breaking up with me due to stress/school. We're on/off for a month or so before finally ending it for good and we tried to be friends but it was clear neither of us could see each other as anything other than a SO*\n\n[M21] I deleted her phone number/pictures and got involved in other activities but it's impossible to have NC because I see my ex [F19] in class twice a week. And it's not a 200 person lecture either, it's a 15 person small english class that requires group work and of course she's in my group. I'm trying to get over her, in fact I'd say I'm almost there, but every time I see her in class its a step in the wrong direction. How do I deal with this situation and finally get over her?", "summary": "How to get over an ex if she's in your class making NC impossible?"}
{"id": "t3_29p8ti", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of only a few weeks, feel like I maybe rushed it?", "post": "About a year ago I got out of a terrible relationship with a guy I had been seeing for about three and a half years. He treated me like shit, and every interaction we had was another indication he didn't give a shit about me.\n\nAfter that, I felt very awful. I distrusted pretty much all men. Expected them to do nothing more than to leave me and disappoint me. Then I met my current boyfriend. He treats me so well, it's amazing, he bought me flowers for no reason. I almost cried when he did that because it was something I thought I never deserved.\n\nThough we are still in the incredibly early stages of a relationship, I am starting to feel this weird doubt. Sometimes I feel like I don't really know him at all, his hobbies, his hopes, his likes and dislikes, almost like he has no personality. Maybe it's just because we're still kind of in the getting to know each other phase, but I don't want to lose someone this nice. I like him a lot as well, I just feel sometimes I don't know him. I'm also trying to keep my distance with some of my more private and meaningful thoughts, as they have scared people away in the past. I haven't really told him my history, as it scares a lot of people off too. I feel like we're really formal with each other when all I want to be is comfortable. He is the nicest guy I've ever dated and I want this to work.", "summary": "This guy treats me better than anyone I've ever been with, but I feel like I don't know him at all."}
{"id": "t3_1glbok", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [28f] need advice to give to my friend [28f] about her bf[29m] of 4 years.", "post": "My lifelong friend, K, has been in a four year relationship with D. They have a really good relationship except for that he won't talk about commitment. She says the times she brought it up (not very often, maybe 3-5 times in their entire relationship) she felt she communicated that she wasn't expecting a proposal, just wanting to know the status of the relationship.  \n\nThey've lived together for about 2 1/2 years in a home that he officially owns. They act like a married couple in every other sense (no kids or shared bank accounts, though) and I feel that he loves her and is \"all in\" their relationship.  She wants kids and he says he does, too, but they're not making plans to have them together. \n\nRecently, her mother got engaged to her bf (both late 50's) after losing K's father to cancer in 2007. It's hard for her because she wants the security of marriage and helping her mom with wedding stuff is drudging up emotions she ignores before in he name of not being \"one of those girlfriends.\" \n\nI've secretly felt that he wants the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibility, but I want to make sure that I'm giving her the best advice. Personally, I think she should end it. Yes, he's wonderful in most ways, but he refuses to talk about the future and is making her feel like a placeholder. To me, not talking about it is the problem. It will be hard, but I think she needs to end it before he (IMHO) uses her any longer. Am I missing something to consider?  \n\nJust to let everyone know, D's parents are still together and seem to have a good marriage. As for as she knows, they never had any \"big\" issues; yeah, no marriage is perfect but as far as she knows (and she knows the family pretty well at this point), they always had a good marriage.", "summary": "my friend's boyfriend refuses to even talk about settling down after 4 years together, 2 1/2 living together. What advice should I give her? He's a great boyfriend otherwise, but I feel he's stringing her along."}
{"id": "t3_1054wx", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "55 lbs down and counting", "post": "Ran my first half Marathon and two more scheduled for next year. I've been watching my diet and exercise daily. On my diet I have cut out all sodas , reduced alcohol intake, and calorie counted. I started with the 4 hour body diet called slow carb and now currently follow the paleo diet.  I played football, wrestle, and tennis in high school so I knew what was needed to lose the weight, just didnt have the motivation. I joined the USTA this year and started the coach to 5k running program, all the help to motivate started there. I went from an 18 minute mile to running a half-marathon in 2:30 hours. Reading posts on here have inspired me to keep going. I weighed 260 a year ago and now down to 205. My ultimate goal is 160.", "summary": "stopped eating crap food, ran some more and started being concerned with my health."}
{"id": "t3_1hw0al", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming I was home alone.", "post": "Its a summer day and being a 16 year old female enjoying the days of being home alone, I decide to put my favorite broadway soundtrack *Chicago* on. I hop in the shower to enjoy the jazzy tunes (because, who doesn't like to sing in the shower) and I don't bother to close the bathroom door because I'm home alone right? Getting out to dry off when my favorite, \"When your good to Mama\" is on. \nFor those of you who don't know *Chicago* very well, \"When you're good to Mama\" is very sudctive if sang/danced right. So I feel hot when I sing this song and began to dry off in a senutal mannor, I put my leg up on the closed toilet seat and having a little sexy time in the mirror to see what I look like if I ever get a boyfriend and I do my little number when I turn my head to see-...\nMy Uncle, starting down the hallway. Gets a glance of my sexy-nakedness through the wide open door and my towel only covering one boob. He dives down the stairs and I grab my towel, turn off the music and shamefully dry myself off like a normal person, got dressed, and came out to the computer where I write my story of shame.", "summary": "Did a sexy towel dance in the mirror after my shower with the door wide open to the *Chicago* song \"When you're good to Mama\" thinking I was home alone, BUT, my uncle saw it all."}
{"id": "t3_i1olg", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Need Help With Internal Anger", "post": "To start, I appear to be very unemotional person. If you were to ask any of my friends, they would agree. I am very \"cold and calculating,\" and it shows. Despite this, at least a few times a week I feel deep rage towards anything and everything. Ironically, it's usually triggered by irrational, emotional people, such as religious people, but especially people who are in relationships or those who seek relationships, or others who are also na\u00efve. This total hatred of everything, especially them and humanity as a whole, then turns to sadness, maybe anger again, then back to normal, until at least a few days later when it happens again. These instances usually have a duration of between a few hours to several days.\n\tAs touched on earlier, relationships are the quickest to make me this way. I have never been in a relationship, nor will I ever. I have a moderate case of a physical deformity called pectus excavatum which prevents it. I've accepted it, but simply seeing someone in a relationship, or someone who wants a relationship automatically makes my blood boil. It's been like this for most of my teenage years. (I'm 18 now) Posting this on reddit is the first time I've \"told someone about it.\"\n\tThis gets in the way of my productivity, so I just need a way to keep it under control when it occurs. I have looked up many methods of achieving this, but none of them truly do away with the emotions. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n\n\tSincerely, Russkii144 (throwaway account)", "summary": "How do I get rid of this type of internal anger?"}
{"id": "t3_2pgknf", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "I (27/m) had an amazing connection with a woman (25) online, but lost interest after meeting in person. How do I proceed?", "post": "I (27-year-old guy) started talking to a woman (25) online over the summer and she seemed to be perfect for me. We would talk on the phone for hours and had an amazing connection, had almost everything in common, and she seemed like exactly who I was looking for for my next relationship. After waiting about 4 months, I finally met her in person over the weekend.\n\nWell I've hung out with her a few times and she's really fucking cool. But now I'm already missing being single. I know we're not bf/gf but I don't know if I'm into it romantically like I thought I would be. Also, she's cute but she looked a lot better in the pictures. I feel like a fucking dick even thinking that but I have to be honest here. Now I have no idea what the fuck to do. I told her before we met I was ready for another relationship but now that I've been hanging out with her I don't think I want that anymore. The connection isn't there in person like it was virtually. I feel bad like I've led her on, but I was really feeling it before I met her. I can tell she's super into me, but my feelings toward her aren't nearly as strong anymore.\n\nWhen we were talking online I told her I wasn't into one night stands anymore and that I was ready to settle down and have a stable relationship, and she wanted the same. Now that we've met I'm just not feeling it anymore.\n\nI've already met her family the day I met her (they were at my work Christmas party) and she asked if she was going to meet mine while they are visiting me for the holidays. I'm just not ready for all this. I thought I would be based on the connection I felt online, but in person it just wasn't the same. Maybe this sounds petty, I don't know. \n\nSo, how do I explain all this to her without looking like an asshole? I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm not the womanizing type and I don't want to have sex with her without explaining all this to her first.", "summary": "I've had an amazing connection with a woman online for months. Finally met her in person and the connection isn't really there for me anymore. How do I handle this delicately?"}
{"id": "t3_y8enh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "How do you play it cool?", "post": "Here's my dilemma. I am a 28/f, I am a very easy going, lighthearted person. It is not that hard for me to get male attention... my problem is once I get it, I get stupid. \n\nGuys always are interested in me, because of who I am, then when they start to pursue me, and I start to like them I turn into a fumbling idiot. I definitely have a life of my own, I have great friends, I keep myself very busy, but I can't help but stare at my phone all day waiting on that call/text. No matter how hard I try to NOT focus on it, I can't help it. And I usually end up running the guy off by coming on too strong. \n\nso how do you play it cool? How do you not show that you're interested? Or what's the right amount of interest to show without coming on too strong? \n\nI'll take any tips.", "summary": "I am so cool with guys until I like them, then I turn into a pathetic idiot. any tips?"}
{"id": "t3_2gcccl", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Me [m/17] her [f/17] I dont feel like things are going the right way what should i do", "post": "I know her for more than 3 years but we only started being close this summer and I want to know what should I do to become her boyfriend since I'm clueless . So in the last 2 weeks this is what happenned. First: saturday (not today the one before) we were drunk and I kissed her 3 times and I slept at her place and she was in my arms all night. I didnt see her until thursday and nothing really happenned but when I slept (like sleeping nothing more) again she slept in my arms and friday too and we went for a walk and we were holding hands. What bugs me is that is that I've never kissed her again since when we were drunk and when we wake up everytime it's like nothing happenned :( I feel like im not going the right way and wanted to know how to change the way things are going \n\nI don't know if my text make sense since english isnt my native language.", "summary": "I dont understand"}
{"id": "t3_29jv5o", "subreddit": "travel", "title": "I know that I want to travel, but the whole idea bewilders and overwhelms me.", "post": "Disclaimer: sorry if this falls into the mediocre and vague category of questions, but I don't know how else to put it.\n\nI'm a recent graduate, came out of uni in the UK last year. Haven't found anything I really want to do with my life yet in terms of a career, so have been muddling along in a call centre for the time being. With respect to this question, it probably doesn't help that my university (Oxford) is really the kind of place that holds your hand - at least in terms of providing accommodation, food etc. \n\nI'm sure that I want to travel and see the world, especially now that I'm in a time of transition, but I cannot even begin to imagine where to start. Every time my mind returns to the subject, and starts to think about the impossible complexity of the world outside my small country, I am hit with almost a sense of dread. Part of that dread is, I suspect, the worry that I will never pluck up the courage/resolve/whatever to actually do it. \n\nDon't misunderstand me, I have been abroad - many times. However, it has been exclusively in Europe, and only on what would be called holidays rather than 'travel'. \nWhen I hear or read about people going away for long periods of time, like a year or more, I wonder how can they do it? Does it cost enormous sums of money (which I lack)? Do they work while away? If so how on Earth does one organise such a thing? Down to even the basics, how do they choose where to go, how to move between places, everything. \n\nPart of this post is really just me tossing my frustrations out into the void. However, if anyone has any words of encouragement for a young man huddled in the corner of a room made of windows but no doors, they would be appreciated.", "summary": "How do you brave and wonderful people look at the world in all it's magisterial complexity and get out of bed and explore it?"}
{"id": "t3_273b2o", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "Family drama", "post": "Two days ago my aunt asked me if I wanted to take someone to the airport and get some money for doing so. I really didn't want to and simply declined. The next day, my cousin needs a ride to the airport to visit some friends for just a day, so I end up taking him. My cousin and aunt aren't on good terms, so he supposedly wanted to keep this trip a secret so she doesn't think he just loafs around and has fun all the time. He never mentioned to keep it a secret, so I just mention it to my aunt later on that day because I was at her house for dinner.\n\nSo she calls my cousin's SISTER (who works for my aunt), who says that my cousin actually never even went to the airport (she's covering up for him). So now my aunt thinks I'm a liar and never took him to the airport, and just said that so I had some excuse for not taking up on her job offer earlier.\n\nI'm kind of pissed off that I was thrown under the bus here a little bit. I can convince my aunt of the truth, but then my cousins will be mad that I did so. My girl cousin has a lot more to lose as well for lying since she works for my aunt. But if I don't tell my aunt will find me untrustworthy, and I'd hate for that. I love all my family members, and this is a really tough spot. I REALLY want to tell my aunt the truth, but then my cousins will be upset, and I'd hate for that as well because they are really cool and nice to me all the time (we all grew up together).\n\nWhat would you guys do in this situation? I can't stop thinking about it, I'm really a regular guy that rarely has drama in his life, so this is kind of hard for me to deal with.", "summary": "did a favor for my cousin and tell my aunt. aunt asks cousin about it and says it never happened. aunt thinks im lying now. I want to tell her the truth but either way someone is going to be mad at me. Help!!"}
{"id": "t3_1d2l06", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [M22] gf [F24] found pictures of my ex in my phone. What do I do now?", "post": "We've been together 6 months now. I'm her first bf, she's my second gf.\n\nI bought my phone around a year ago and right after it, I took it on a trip with my ex and snapped a few pictures with the two of us around famous landmarks and scenery and such. I then completely forgot these pictures existed in my phone until this week.\n\nEarlier in the week, I was showing my current gf some pictures on my phone and I guess she wanted to look through the rest of the pictures so I let her play with my phone while I went to do something else. After that, she handed my phone back as if nothing happened.\n\nThen, yesterday, we had a pretty big fight out of no where were she brought this up. About how I had these pictures of my ex in my phone. However, not only are the pictures from around a year ago, I took maybe 50-100 pictures since then so I rarely use my phone for pictures and i rarely scroll through my past photos. As a result, I had absolutely no idea that these pictures even existed.\n\nI tried explaining this to her and I said I was sorry for forgetting to get rid of them and that if she had asked, I would have deleted them right there. But she didn't say anything about it until the fight and I can't seem to get her to understand that I simply forgot about them. It's not like I was secretly looking at them and reminiscing. I just simply forgot.\n\nOf course, I have deleted the pictures now. But no matter how many times I try explaining to her that I just forgot, she doesn't seem to accept my explanations. So what should I do/say?", "summary": "my current gf found pictures of my ex and i from a vacation a year ago on my phone and she's extremely upset. What do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_4lifhj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24/F] with my best friend [25F] We had plans to hang out today but she canceled last night, but she posted a snapchat today hanging out with another friend, i'm hurt.", "post": "So super simple, my best friend and I were supposed to hang out today. I asked her last night what time she wanted to meet up today and she asked me what time I got off work. I told her 5-5:30 ish I should be off and she told me that she couldn't hang out because she was going to clean her place up before her Fiancee came over tomorrow (sunday), and she said she wanted to hang out earlier but i work so that couldn't happen. I said it's not problem at all, I understand that some things need to get taken care of. I didn't think twice about it. She starts posting snaps about at about 7 pm today with her friend, and they're out together. I just saw the snaps and i texted her what's up with that and she still hasn't responded. I feel like she'll give me some sort of excuse when she does respond but do I have a right to be upset about this? What should I say to her when she responds?", "summary": "Best friend lied to me to hang out with another friend. What should I say to her?"}
{"id": "t3_1ijoos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 18/F my Best Friend 22/M his S/O 16.", "post": "His girlfriend is insanely jealous to the point that we can no longer publicly associate. She barely turned 16 while he's 21 (I'm 18). I didn't approve of the relationship from the beginning being that if he had sex with her it would be considered statutory rape, but he assured me it was going to be a chaste one at least, until she turned 18. It started off fine, but then.. it went batshit insane. If we go to a concert together, we'll take pictures but they can't be posted on Facebook or Instagram because she'll find out. We can't go out in our hometown because someone might see and tell her. Mind you, me and him have never had a romantic relationship. \n\nShe recently went as far as to delete/block me off of his Facebook friends (she has his password to everything) and because of all of this, I don't even want to jump through hoops to hang out with him. \n\nIt's obviously an emotionally abusive relationship, but he won't take any of my advice. I know they're long overdue for a break up but I mean... shouldn't he take me as his \"best friend\" into account? Instead of disregarding me?", "summary": "Best friend got a psycho jealous girlfriend."}
{"id": "t3_sn6mw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most random thing you've found in your floor/carpet?", "post": "For me, it would be when I would walk into my room, about three or four steps in, and something would catch my foot and cut it pretty good.  I would look at the spot where I got cut, but I couldn't see anything.  This has been an on-going problem for about six or so months. Almost everyday, I would get some kind of scratch or cut on the bottom of my feet. \n\nToday, I got cut again, so I decided to take another look at what it could possibly fucking be.  I found it! It looked like a staple of some sort, I assumed from laying the carpet down when my house was built.  No.  It was not a staple.  It was a fucking needle. A two inch needle. In my carpet.", "summary": "Something was scratching and cutting the bottom of my foot in my room for months, turned out to be a fucking needle in my carpet."}
{"id": "t3_225rom", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] only 7 weeks, It's been months, and I still think about her everyday..", "post": "So, I met this girl through one of my close friends, and after a week of first introduction, we were dating. We went to school football games, but her parents were very protective, so most outside of school activities were prohibited. I had a strong relationship with her as a texting buddy rather than a real meaningful relationship.\n\nAnyway, over a week in school she went on vacation and I figured I would give her some space because well..she was on vacation. So I didn't text her for a couple days, but after a few days we went back to our regular texting life..\n\nA week or two after that we broke up.. It wasn't incredibly harsh or anything, just a simple \"We should be friends\", which we really aren't. We haven't talked SINCE then..\n\nAnyway, that was around October 29 or 30, and now it's April.. I still can't get her off of my mind. I have had many more meaningful and long relationships. I would think it's because I see her everyday, but I see my other Ex's as well on a daily basis..\n\nOverall, i'm just looking for some advice. Any input helps", "summary": "Short relationships a long time ago, still can't get over it!"}
{"id": "t3_3r6vqe", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by pissing in a wine bottle at a frat party", "post": "This happened yesterday while my friend and I were at a frat party who I will call Steven. Steven and I came with a guy who is actually in the frat that was throwing the party, so we only knew a handful of people. The party went on through the night with heavy beer drinking as frat parties usually do, and Steven and I had held our piss in the entire night. Everyone starts to leave and about 6 guys and 10 girls were left at the party to just hang out. Steven and I both drunkenly went outside to piss but saw an empty 1.75L wine bottle right outside the door so i thought, hell, I'll just piss in this (I don't know why, I just did). After I fill the bottle a quarter of the way, Steven proceeds to fill the bottle another quarter of the way. So now the bottle is half full of clear, odorless piss. We set the bottle on the table and walk back to the room. About 10 minutes later, we hear some arguing in the other room. The girls come in to where the rest of us are sitting and ask \"what kind of wine is this?\" \nOh shit.\nThey then proceed to drink our piss... every single one of these girls takes a gulp of our clear urine. They pass it to the guys around us to see if they know what kind it is, eventually drinking all of it. Steven and I make eye contact and burst out laughing. Quickly, we realized if anyone knew it was piss, OUR piss, we would get the shit beat out of us, so we settled down and proceeded with the party and eventually went home. We haven't told a soul about this, even our close friend in fear he will tell someone else. You will never understand what it is like to have a bottle of your own piss passed around and drank between girls and guys that you dont know while you sit and watch. I can never look at my friend the same way, and he will never know.", "summary": "went to frat party, pissed in wine bottle, everyone drank my piss"}
{"id": "t3_36jgi4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27/M] with my gf [24/F] of 4 years - Flinches whenever I reach for her", "post": "My fiance has days when she gets kind of mellow or depressed. Me, not knowing what else to do one day, tried tickling her while she was lying next to me. Can't help thinking she's cute when she's being tickled. She doesn't really laugh when she's being tickled, though. She pretty much holds her breath and gets out a \"no\" once in a while and curls up, facing away from me. \n\nThis time after about 2 minutes, she broke free of my arms enough to get on her stomach. When I saw her face her eyes were teared up. I asked why and she said she was scared.\n\nNow any time I lean over for a kiss or touch her, she flinches. After a few seconds she'll relax, but it's kind of annoying knowing I've never hurt her and I don't feel like I did anything that horrible.\n\nI don't know what to do. Help?", "summary": "Tickled my gf, now she flinches all the time when I get near her"}
{"id": "t3_4hn4xy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with girl [20's F] I am dating + other women. Unsure of dating etiquette.", "post": "Hi all,\n\nI am after some advice with regards to dating etiquette/ethics. I am currently casually dating multiple women (3), however one in particular I am developing strong feelings for. I have been with her the shortest amount of time (3 dates) and saw and had sex with another one of the girls in between our 1st and 2nd date. I knew pretty much straight away after our 2nd date that I really liked her.\n\nI have never had a girlfriend before or fully understand the process of becoming \"bf/gf\" officially. We have had (protected) sex but have not explicitly discussed exclusivity with each other yet. I am unsure how to broach the topic or whether I even need to just yet. I am ready to become exclusive with her, I'm just not sure if I am jumping the gun or if my previous behaviour is considered \"shady\". Should I tell her I was seeing other girls?\n\nMy question to r/ relationships is whether or not I need to bring up the topic of exclusivity and/or is it okay to continue dating other girls until she brings it up. How long is considered \"normal\" dating before one can be categorised being in an exclusive relationship?\n\nThanks for the help.", "summary": "Casually dating multiple girls. Have developed feelings for one in particular. Unsure if behaviour is shady and/or whether or not to bring up exclusivity with her yet."}
{"id": "t3_4xbll2", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Guy blackmailed my sister for sex. Sent naked pictures of her to whole family.", "post": "Hi Reddit. Need some advice. SO's question is typed up below:\n\nSo today I received a Facebook message from some guy I never met with a bunch of naked pictures of some girl. Then get a message from my sister profusely apologizing. Turns out the pictures he sent me are of her. Now, she is 18, and sent them to him to him a while ago. After discussing it with her, he apparently was blackmailing her into sexual acts or else he would send the pictures to my family. Luckily she stood up to him but now he's going through with his threat. What action can we take against this guy? He is ~27, my sister is 18, all pictures are of her at age 18, so she tells me. We are not in a situation to get a lawyer involved due to her living in an unhealthy environment still - whatever actions can be taken need to be able to be taken by her alone.\n\nIf it helps his Facebook is littered with him openly with drugs/money from selling/etc. The guy is not a good guy at all. It appears as though he is not in school either. We are located in central CT.", "summary": "Guy blackmailed my sister for sex. Sent naked pictures of her to family without consent. Need advice on what actions we can take."}
{"id": "t3_4cu36j", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "She[20/F] begs to sleepover at my[22/M] place twice...no sex... am I friendzoned for sure?", "post": "I started hanging out with this girl a lot a few weeks ago, but since I'm a senior in college I didn't really want to get into a relationship with her so close to the end since she's a junior. She acts really girlfriendly around me and when were out at a party she wants to spend the whole time with me, but then she has some excuse that leads us to split up before I can take her home. Eventually one night she texts me demanding she sleep over at my place. Score right? Wrong. We spooned most of the night, not even a makeout, but she wore pjs and a bra and claimed to be super tired, I forget from what.\n\nNext week we go our separate ways on spring break, but we get even closer via texting and at this point it felt like we were basically dating. Last night she texts me again demanding to sleep over at my place, this time I go for a kiss and she says \"I want to hook up, but I'm way to drunk, can we just sleep?\" Same pj and bra shit again. I'm getting tired of being the boyfriend in this relationship without any of the reward. Am I clearly in the friend zoned and should break it off? Why would a girl want to sleep at my place and not want to fool around? How should I confront her about this?", "summary": "Girls demands to sleepover at my place twice, but does it clothed and we don't do anything but spoon. Why would a girl do this when she knows I want more?"}
{"id": "t3_2cki5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My friend [22F] has totally changed and is acting very bizarre. [22F]", "post": "I have been friends with this girl for about 5 years. Best friends all of high school. We went to different colleges so we did not remain as close, but would still spend time together over christmas and summer break, text each other, etc.\n\nOne day, she deleted me off Facebook randomly. After we had hung out about 2 weeks prior and everything had been totally fine. When I asked, she said I wasn't a good friend, that she didn't want to be friends, and that \"I know what I did\". I continued to contact her over the next few months or so, hoping she would cool down. I tried everything. I was so upset. It escalated into her personally insulting me and even threatening me. After countless attempts over the course of 6 months or so I finally gave up.\n\nShe totally changed personalities. She was always a girly-girl that was into fashion. She shaved off her hair, got very dark and negative tattoos, dropped out of school, etc. I was very worried about her. Her sister told me her parents were also going through a divorce that was affecting her. I wanted to be there for her but she would not talk to me, no matter what I said. What could I do?\n\nThis was all about a year ago. She recently contacted me saying things like, its been too long! Lets hang out soon! I am very confused. I know she went through a tough time, but the things she said to me were very, very personal and insulting. The last time we had spoken she threatened to kick my ass for no reason. She was my best friend and completely cut me out of her life and I'm still very hurt by it. Should I give her another chance? What do I say to her?", "summary": "My best friend cut me out of her life about a year ago, in a very aggressive and hurtful manner. Now she is contacting me again."}
{"id": "t3_4k49sv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [27 M] am currently at final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies however if successful it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend [25 F] of 18 months", "post": "Hey All,\n\nSo I've been having a hard time at work lately and have been eager to try something new. My girlfriend has been in a similar situation and until recently was also seeking new opportunities.\n\nWe're both based in London but were considering job opportunities in Dublin. Unfortunately her circumstances recently changed and she now needs to stay in London as she needs to help her family which is totally understandable and she also got a promotion at work.\n\nI've been applying for new jobs in London for months but have been getting hardly any responses. Last week I decided to send off 2 final applications for roles in Dublin and have successfully made it to a final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies - an opportunity that I don't believe comes around all that often.\n\nMy girlfriend is absolutely amazing and she knows how ambitious I am and has said that she'd definitely want to give it a try if I was to go there but I'm worried that I may be being selfish or this could end up with me loosing her?\n\nThankfully Dublin isn't too far and I'd plan to come back every few weekends and also fly her out every now and again too but I'm still slightly worried.\n\nIf this was for any other company then it wouldn't even cross my mind but this opportunity could open up so many doors in the future as well as travel/relocation opportunities that I'm not sure if I should pass it up.\n\nAny help or advice here would be greatly appreciated, especially from those that have been in a similar situation.", "summary": "I'm currently at final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies however if successful it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend of 18 months - what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_200o00", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Suffered an unexpected set back today", "post": "Hey r/loseit!\n\nSo I recently (re)started counting calories with MFP two weeks ago. I've lost 20 pounds just by counting calories with MFP in he past, but after some skepticism from my boyfriend, I decided to add working out to my weight loss plan.\n\nI signed up for Daily Burn (I stream I through Xbox on my boyfriend's and my tv) one week ago, and so far, I love it! I'm doing a cardio sculpting program that focuses on toning and weight loss. The workouts are daily for about 30-45 minutes, which has been perfect for a beginner like me who was always really turned off by the thought of spending hours at the gym.\n\nAs someone who has never consistently worked out before, I don't own any weights or other basic workout equipment. I decided to splurge and bought some light weights, a medicine ball, and a yoga mat, but for the meantime I've been using household objects as substitutes when the workouts call for them.\n\nToday I was doing one of the workouts that uses weights and I was using two cans of crushed tomatoes as substitutes. I was about halfway through the workout doing a lunge/bicep curl when one of the cans slipped out of my sweaty hand and flew right into our tv and cracked the screen :(\n\nI kind of broke down for a little while crying; I felt stupid for not turning away from the tv during that exercise, I knew my boyfriend would be mad, etc. I was just going to give up for today, but after cooling down for a while, I decided I wasn't going to let this set me back and I finished the workout on our bedroom tv and I'll buy a new one for the living room after I get my taxes back.\n\nSorry for the wall of text, just wanted to let you guys know you are all an inspiration to me and maybe sharing my frustrations will help someone else who is frustrated by a stupid setback to move past it!", "summary": "Broke my tv with a \"weight\" during a workout and got super frustrated, almost gave up, but decided to keep going!"}
{"id": "t3_4bhshc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My sister (25) thinks I'm (29) super judgmental and a bad person", "post": "Over the past year, my younger sister (25) has decided to distance herself from me (29) because she says I am \"too judgemental\" and gossipy.\n\nSome examples that ticked her off:\n\nHer best friend, who is ethnic with a beautiful face and a quirky nose decided to get a nose job. She was always a beautiful girl and her nose was perfectly nice and was not by any means hideous looking or disfiguring. She however, goes and gets a nose job and it wasn't a very well done job at all. The new nose doesn't flatter her face and she objectively looks worse than she did before. I think the entire procedure was unnecessary and have always found this girl to be superficial and shallow with her extreme standards of beauty. I told my sister, in casual conversation when she showed me pics of her friend's new nose, that I did not like it. And the nose looked super odd and the nose job was so unnecessary since she was already a beautiful girl to begin with.    \n\nAnother example is when I told her about a friend of mine whom I have always been concerned about. This woman is inloved in a long distance marriage with a foreign man who only spends maybe 3 months out of the year with her. I am supportive of her decision to be with him since she loves him but privately, I am deeply concerned and don't think he's a very good guy. When I tell my sister this, she gets annoyed and says its none of my business and she and I have different standards for relationships so if this arrangement makes my friend happy, I have no right to judge.\n\nDo holding these opinions mean I am a bad person? Am I being judgy? What is wrong with it?", "summary": "sister (25) thinks i'm judgy because I (29) disliked her friends nose job and don't think my friend's BF is good for her."}
{"id": "t3_2zgiy0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by eating stew for dinner", "post": "So my fuck up happened just a few hours ago\n\nIt's a lovely Wednesday evening in Adelaide and I felt the need for some dinner before I went out for the night, so I decide \"why not have some left over Irish Stew from yesterday?\". I grab a nice delicious bowl of Stew out of the fridge and heat it up, and then begin eating.\nAbout 1/3 of the way through the stew I take a mouthful and feel a rather sharp bone, which I promptly attempt to remove from my mouth without losing all of my dignity in the process. However, in the process of getting it out I drop the bone on the ground, so as you do I go to slide my chair back so I can pick it up. \n\nThis is where I fucked up. \n\nWhilst sliding back, I stepped on the bone, which was the moment I realised that this bone was actually a rather large shard of glass, which was now sticking out of my foot. Safe to say I threw out the rest of the stew.", "summary": "Had Irish Stew for dinner, dropped a bone on the ground, discovered bone was glass by stepping on it"}
{"id": "t3_2n08s9", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Roommate probably had sex with his girlfriend on my bed last night.", "post": "So my roommate had his girlfriend over last night and he asked me if it would be okay for me to spend the night with my parents (20 minutes away from campus) so I said sure you guys have a good night. I made my bed and tidied my room as I always do. When I returned today, my bed wasn't made and it smelled like a girl, so naturally I suspect they had sex on my bed, or at the very least, someone was on it. What's the nicest way I can ask him about that? I don't want to just accuse him, but I also don't want to just sit around and take it if something DID happen.", "summary": "I want to address the problem but I don't know how to phrase it in a respectful way that doesn't sound like an accusation "}
{"id": "t3_2xn1jc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Dude won't leave my so[18f] alone. I'm [20M] confused.", "post": "We been together for over a year. This all started valentines day. She received flowers from someone (not me) but had no idea who. I was worried but she didn't seem at all interested in who sent them. Week later, I ask her to find out at work who it was and she then tells me it was some dude. She also casually dropped he asked her out but she declined saying she had a boyfriend.\n\nI was upset she hadn't told me sooner. She said she would handle it and I told her ok just because there wasn't reason for me to get involved.\n\nWell, apparently this guy doesn't know when to stop and today came in and brought her a teddy bear knit by his mom in Russia. She accepted the gift and told him it was sweet but that she has a boyfriend. \"I know. That's why I didn't give you a love letter\" was his response.\n\nNot sure why he is still after we unless she gave him some type of interest or reciprocated his affection. I'm confused and clueless. She said, \"I didn't know what to do?\"\n\nHow about say he makes you feel uncomfortable and uneasy? How about decline gift? How about handle it like you said you would?\nI don't know if I'm overreacting but I feel justified to be upset considering she kept the bear in her purse and didn't tell him what she told me; that he makes her want to hide and that she isn't interested.\n\nWhat to do?", "summary": "guy gives my gf gifts she accepts"}
{"id": "t3_38e22m", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "Easy, fast, cheap and yummy Egg McMuffin", "post": "So Buzzfeed just posted this video on [\"Homemade Egg McMuffin Hack\"] but it's a disaster. They've toasted the English Muffin separately, making the inside hard. Buttered the shit out of that bread, which is totally unnecessary.And microwaved the egg in a cup and knifed that bastard out. In the end they just pile everything between the muffin. \nThe soft egg, combined with the harder exterior of the muffin with soft fluffy inside sucking up the melted cheese is the best part of Egg McMuffin. But Buzzfeed failed at both. \n\n***\n\nI just wanted to teach you my way of making it.\n\n**Egg**\n\nGet a microwaveable bowl, and rinse the inside with water. The water left in the bowl will help slip-out the egg after it has been microwaved (so you wouldn't have to go around it with a knife to get it out). Crack the egg into the bowl. BEFORE you put the egg into the microwave, poke the egg white with a toothpick/fork. Gently poke the egg yolk as well. This will prevent the egg from 'exploding' and will look beautiful as fuck. Apply microwaveable cling wrap, and nuke it for 35~40 seconds. \n\n**English Muffin**\n\nIn the mean time cut the muffin in half so you have two pieces. Re-assemble the two pieces so its one complete muffin again, then put it in the toaster. This will keep the inside of the muffin soft and moist  Let it warm up.\n\nAfter you have let your muffin warm up a bit take it out and open it up. Get a piece of American sliced cheese and rip some up and lay it on the bottom muffin. Lay the egg on top, then the ham, and put the remaining cheese on top. Put the top muffin on.\n\nIf you have [the side-ways toaster] then you are done. If you have [this type of toaster] secure your creation in place by poking a toothpick through, and toast it until the cheese has melted and the outer-layer of the muffin get nice and toasty.", "summary": "Make my Egg McMuffin"}
{"id": "t3_vpoow", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have any funny stories about needing to go to the bathroom at inconvenient times?", "post": "Sometime ago my friend and I were in really bad traffic on the way to work. Apparently there was construction ahead and it was rush hour so basically we weren't moving. My friend suddenly had to urinate IMMEDIATELY. He said he was in immense pain and needed to go fast. Problem was we weren't going anywhere and we were surrounded by cars. I suggested that he run out to a store around us and use their facilities but he said no he didn't know if he could wait that long. Next thing I know he throws the remainder of my coffee out the window, grabs my blanket in the backseat, goes under it and pisses in it. I was so shocked I didn't say a word. He then emerges from his stolen blanket piss fort with the most relieved look on his face and just says: \"I'll buy you another mug.\"", "summary": "Friend marked my coffee mug as his territory in traffic."}
{"id": "t3_244oeo", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29M] with my GF of 6 months[27F] are in a bad way because of my insecuities", "post": "I screamed and yelled, in a really out of character move for me because I was insecure about her sexual history, and I don't think she can trust me because as a kid she watched her stepdad to the same thing to her mother. It its both an isolated incident in our relationship and my own life that I get that upset without checking myself and cooling off. Ive inquired about an anger management course, and started to look at some counselling options,  but I dont know what else to do. I want her, and I really think this is an extremely special relationship and I dont want to have ruiened it.", "summary": "what can I do to save my relationship after causing sever emotional distress to my GF?"}
{"id": "t3_3rghuh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my GF[21 F] of almost 2 years, I don't feel like she's the one..so do I break it off?", "post": "Lately we have been having arguments regarding miscommunication, in the way that I would try to explain to her one thing but she would take it in another way (this would ALWAYS be in text form btw which I hate). I've always kind of felt an uncertainty, which was that we never truly understood each other or at least she never truly understood my feelings for her or maybe it was just my feelings were always stronger for her. I say I love her, but I don't know if she truly loves me, she has even said to me before she doesn't know what loves supposed to really be. I am not even sure I truly love her anymore, I used to think about having a future together, but I haven't been thinking those thoughts much anymore. Sometimes at the end of the arguments, I just stopped feeling anything. How should I bring this up? Do you guys advise that I break it off with her?", "summary": "Think I'm exhausted of this relationship, I guess I should probably break it off..."}
{"id": "t3_15sgoh", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Friend's gf is getting a sex change...", "post": "A friend of mine [24/m] has been dating his gf [22/f] for a little over 4 years. He was planning on proposing within the new yaer, however recently she came out and stated that although she is a female on the outside, she is a man and is getting a sex change and is about to start hormone therapy...He has tried talking to her and she is 100% she wants to go through with it. He is crushed, and I honestly have no clue how to console him. Plz reddit what should he do. He loves her but as a woman not as a man. He has nothing against gay love or transgender people, hes just straight.", "summary": "FRIEND'S GF IS GETTING A SEX CHANGE, WHAT SHOULD HE DO NOW?"}
{"id": "t3_47ije9", "subreddit": "askwomenadvice", "title": "Unplanned Pregnancy, with Medical Issues, help!", "post": "I have just found out I am pregnant, completely a shock and unexpexcted. Me (27) and my boyfriend (30) are really struggling on coming to grips with this and how we should handle it. \n\nI have been suffering for the last 8 months with a diagnosis of a rare disease and all that comes with it. My health has been far from great. After seeing over a dozen doctors and finally finding a medication that began to work for me I have just begun to find some relief and start to feel somewhat normal again in just the last 2 months. I've had to stop this medication immediately upon finding out because it is not safe to take during pregnancy. I'm worried my health may begin to decline.\n\nIt is a super rare and incurable autoimmune disease, not any of the more common ones which makes it even more difficult to find information on how pregnancy may be affected by the disease and vice versa, what being pregnant may do to me. I'm awaiting more information from docs on that end. (Which they may not be a ton of help on either since there are so little studies on the disease alone but pregnancy during it is even less it seems)\n\nMy boyfriend has said he will support my deicison to end or keep the pregnancy either way, but I can tell he's very hesitant about going through with having a child at this time. Besides already having difficultly of feeling ready to have a child in general, the unknown threat to my health is making this decision that much harder.\n\nI fear that I may not be able to get pregnant again too but not sure I can take on a high risk pregnancy either, this is emotionally tearing me apart with the idea of termination and thinking this would make me a terrible person (I'm not overly religious and am pro choice but I feel being this old and relatively stable that it makes me a terrible person) I would greatly appreciate an outside perspective.", "summary": "Unexpectedly pregnant with current serious medical issues, is it right to abort or keep the baby with risk?"}
{"id": "t3_32vs0o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] duration, Her drop in sex drive", "post": "Have been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and have lived together for 6 months.\n\nWe had regular sex (two or three time a week) up until around a month or two ago. I have a higher sex drive than her, and im finding it hard to only have sex once every couple of weeks.\n\nI confronted her about the issue and she completely lost it, saying if I really loved her that having sex wouldn't be an issue and she was ashamed I would even bring it up and to just deal with it.\n\nI'm kinda stuck on what to do as i'm afraid of it getting even worse in the future and seriously effect our relationship\n\nAm in being selfish any advice would be great.", "summary": "Sex has became a lot less, need some advice"}
{"id": "t3_1jeatq", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/F] The best way to get over someone...", "post": "...is to get under someone new? \n\nHas this worked for any of you? \nFinally completely ended an almost 5 yr relationship about a month ago, and I will admit it wasn't my call. We haven't talked in a while and its been very difficult for me. I feel lonely. He's already moved on so I'm trying my best not to contact him despite our formerly close friendship and the total lack of closure. \n\nI have been kind of seeing a new guy and I've made sure to keep him at arms length and prevent anything too serious while I deal with the heartache... but a lot of my friends have suggested that kind of committing to someone else could distract me and help me move past the whole thing. Just want to know other opinions. I know my friends are just anxious to see me with someone new after the longest and worst break up.", "summary": "feeling heartbroken after ending a long relationship;  is it better to get involved with someone new as a distraction or just cope with the withdrawals alone?"}
{"id": "t3_4ifhge", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] and my [28M] of 8 months invited me spend Mother's Day with his mom but I feel weird about it", "post": "Hi guys \n\nSo my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8-9 months. Today is Mother's Day and I live across the country so I can't spend Mother's Day with my mom. My boyfriend invited me to spend Mother's Day with his mom and dad, but I feel awkward bc that's like implying that she will become my mom too one day, but we have only been together for like 8ish months and I think it's too soon. We never talk about marriage or kids or anything like that so its not like she's really going to become my mother in law soon because we plan on getting married you know ? We haven't talked about this stuff because it's still a new relationship and still figuring things out. What do you guys think too soon to spend Mother's Day with boyfriends parents or am I overthinking this?", "summary": "my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and he invited me to spend Mother's Day with his mom and dad, but I feel uncomfortable too soon?"}
{"id": "t3_2n0igg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] older sister [31F] is jealous of me and it's ruining our relationship.", "post": "Ever since I was a kid, my sister would vacillate between affection and hatred. She's told me many times that she's jealous of me, hence her behavior. It makes me really fucking sad because she's my only sibling and I love her and admire her a lot. \n\nI've always looked up to her and try to be close to her but she pushes me away. When she is happy, she's a great sister. She's a really fun and creative person. We get into a lot of arguments though, and always about the same thing. It's basically always about how she won't let me be close to her, I get hurt, she gets defensive, then later says she's jealous.\n\nI told her I look up to her, always have, and that I just want to be close to her. I told her how amazing SHE is and her great qualities, but she doesn't seem to care.\n\nA few years ago, she finally started on plans to open her own clothing boutique. She'd wanted to for years. I offered my help, and thought it would be a great way to bond. Also thought that if we put our money together, we'd also share the losses in case it failed. She took none of my advice (fine), and said \"this is my project and I want to do it alone\". Okay, great, push me away again. Her boutique closed six months later due to low sales.\n\nHer reasons for being jealous: I'm stealing our dad's attention; I'm skinnier, prettier, and smarter.\n\nIdk what to do, but it hurts me a lot. She always breaks plans with me, I was the last to know about her engagement, wedding plans, and it's only getting worse. When my boyfriend died recently and I reached out to her crying, she said she was too busy to see me.\n\nI told her happy birthday this year and asked if she had any plans. I got a text 10 hours later just saying \"thanks\". That's it. I'm starting to dislike her and want to ignore her, but I feel this love for her and I can't do that.", "summary": "My sister is jealous of me and pushes me away more every year; what can I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1r4f1n", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "is my boyfriend[30/m] being rude to me[25/f], or am I just interpreting this wrong?", "post": "lived together for two weeks; dating for two months. \n\n* I made cookies from scratch. gave him one, he said: \"is it warm\"? and told me about this girl at his office who bakes amazing food. no thank you, no compliments.\n\n* we leave notes for each other on our bathroom mirror. I drew a flower and wrote underneath it: E+M=\u2665^2 he laughed at it and called me a \"dork\". \n\n* he commented on my makeup for the first time and called it \"different\". and talks about how he likes girls who don't wear makeup. \n\n* he has a tendency to speak over me if I try and express my feelings on the above mentioned things, he uses termination type phrases like: \"lets talk about it later\". \n\n---\n\nWe're both very busy right now. I'm an artist, he's an economist, we both work full-time and he's one semester from his MBA(4.0), it's finals week. Weekends are blissful because we spend quality time together. Weekdays are very busy and consist of us eating dinner, talking, *maybe* smoking a bowl before bed. \n\nI haven't been in a relationship in 2 years, him 5+ years.\n\nthis list is of things that happen briefly, most of our time together is actually really good, we laugh a lot. When stuff like this happens, it makes me kind of sad and I feel sort of deflated. I need to communicate this but I'm not sure how?", "summary": "boyfriend and I adjusting to new living arrangements, not sure if I'm taking somethings the wrong way. how can I communicate my misunderstandings to him?"}
{"id": "t3_3e3c5o", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being sarcastic to my teacher", "post": "Well today in my class I needed to go to the toiler really badly. So normally I raised my hand and asked my teacher may I go to the bathroom. She asked me why. I told her I'm going to slay the magic dragon n smoke some weed with him.. so what happened after that? She sent me to the principal for \"insulting the teacher\" and I got detention... I didn't even bother complaining, beucase I didn't get long one, because the insult basically wasn't the insult.. 1 hour after the school.. \n\nWell it was worth it.. I went to the bathroom while going to the principal. (our teachers have phones connected in every class and room, so basically when someone goes to the principal, teacher calls them and tells them she sent the kid there and you go there. If you don't you'll just get bigger punishment..", "summary": "Asked my teacher to go to the toilet, she asked me why, I responded sarcastically and got 1 hour detention for that, but I still went to the toilet!"}
{"id": "t3_gkzc3", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Is obesity morally wrong?", "post": "According to the UN in 2009, there were almost a billion people going hungry in the world; most of whom reside in Africa and Asia.  However, worldhunger.org reports that the world has the capacity to deliver \"2,720 kilocalories (kcal) per person per day.\"  This is more than the recommended diet of 2000 per day in the United States (FDA).\n     Meanwhile, the United States and other 'developed' countries that make up western culture are dealing with an \"obesity epidemic\" of sorts, with some people even calling for the problem to be labeled as a disease.\n     From an economic standpoint, this is a problem of resource allocation, supply, and demand.  Based on the most fundamental law of economics, corporations and other food producers take their supply where demand will consume their goods for the highest price. If Americans and other westerners ate only what was required to sustain themselves (i.e. demanded far less food), then one can see that a possible outcome would be for holders of resources to sell their goods elsewhere in the world, even for pennies on the dollar.  Assuming that suppliers didn't simply reduce their supply because of the reduced price (which is of course possible), food could be made available for millions of people.\n     Disregarding the technical discussion, it seems to me a moral issue.  I am ashamed to say that I am obese. In fact, even though I have recently been losing considerable weight, I am still classified as 'morbidly obese.'  One of the reasons I have been losing weight is because I have been mulling over the question I put in the title. \n     Can a moral person be overweight while so many millions go hungry each day? Is obesity morally wrong?\n     \n     What say you, Reddit?", "summary": "Coming from a fat guy, is it wrong to be fat with the current state of the world?"}
{"id": "t3_52axal", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Boyfriend is leaving next year for college.", "post": "My (17F) boyfriend (17M) is leaving for college next year, however, I'm currently only a junior. We are in a very serious committed relationship, especially for a high school relationship. We've talked about the future, as in when he leaves for college and what will happen as a result... We've come to the conclusion that we'll need to break up as he wants to go out of state for his college education. As a result, we've had a copious amount of problems in our relationship.  For example, I harbor feelings of insignificance regarding the relationship because it's so temporary and essentially has an expiration date, which causes me to feel the need to push him away so I'm not attached to him and reliant on him and won't be depressed when he leaves for college. I know it's unhealthy, but neither one of us can end the relationship, we're too attached. At this point, I don't know what to do. Either option is selfish, leave the relationship to protect myself and as a result hurt him, or stay in the relationship when I know I won't ever be completely happy, and end up pushing him away because of this. What do I do? End the relationship and hurt him and myself as well, or stay in the relationship knowing full well I won't be able to be genuinely happy?", "summary": "Boyfriend is leaving for college next year, I'm only a junior. Questioning the significance of the relationship and if all the stress is worth it."}
{"id": "t3_320s0b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We (23F/M) dated for 8 phenomenal months. Broke up because the timing was wrong. Words of wisdom?", "post": "Jake and I met last summer, about 8 months ago. Despite having both come out of shitty relationships and not wanting something new, we experienced such phenomenal chemistry that we decided to start seeing each other exclusively. \n\nFrom the beginning we made it clear to each other that we would prioritize personal growth first. Neither of us wanted to repeat past mistakes, and we'd both languished in our own lives by focusing too much on relationships before. We kept a healthy distance, took things slowly, and grew to care about each other very deeply. It's honestly been the best relationship I've had. \n\nWe recently had a reckoning where we acknowledged that we both needed to be alone to truly grow the way we want to. We need the space to figure out who we are, change in response to new experiences, and work on bad habits from the past. I think he's been struggling with striking the right balance more than I have, so it's fair to say that he wanted to break up more than I did, but I want what's best for both of us and agree fundamentally that he and I both need that time and space to be free. \n\nWe left things a bit open-ended, but I'm not going to sit here pining for him. I believe firmly that these things tend to work out for the best. If there's something real and special here we'll find our way back to each other at the right time. If there's not then we'll both find that elsewhere. \n\nI'm still a bit sad, though, because we were highly compatible and had a great time together overall. There was passion, respect, care. We never fought. We had just as much fun going out together as we did staying in. We challenged each other intellectually. Even the way we broke up was calm, mature, and filled with affection. \n\nAny stories or words of comfort you guys have would be much appreciated. I know we did the right thing, but it still hurts.", "summary": "Ended good relationship for practical reasons. Know we did the right thing, but still hurts. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_50kz68", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Knee swelling 1 year after surgery.", "post": "I'm male 23, 1.81m 84kg. Suffered knee injury in the army. Underwent left knee athroscopy for repair of lateral tear on meniscus. Prior to injury, I found out I had tight quads and hamstrings which caused patellofemoral pain syndrome (PFPS).\n\nDuring my recovery from surgery, I experienced expected swelling, pressure, clicking, aching, and pain. It has gotten better to the point that I was confident walking quickly, or even running for the bus.\n\nHowever recently it has begun swelling again. It started feeling like a minor sprain, then mild build up of pressure. Now it is swollen even after icing it through the night. I am wondering if it is going to be a permanent problem or is there anything I can do about it. Anyone have advice? Thank you.", "summary": "left knee athroscopy. 1 year recovered relatively well. Swelling restarted. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_4nu60a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my [25F] of 6 years, I cheated on her. How do I break-up with her in the nicest way?", "post": "I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. Recently we've been having a lot of issues with stress, and diverging life plans. \n\nFor my reasons, I was out one night and drunk and went home with a different girl. I'm not going to sugar coat it. I had made life plans with this girl and now I've ruined it.\n\nIn between the differing directions life will take us, I can't stay with someone who I would do that too. \n\nMy problem is - what do I say when I tell her my feelings. Do I give her a simple - our lives are going in different directions, or tell her straight up that I cheated and say - \"sorry, I'm an asshole, goodbye.\"", "summary": "How do I tell my girlfriend I'm an idiot?"}
{"id": "t3_3hjobt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a couple of seizures and ending up in the hospital.", "post": "So today I fucked up and I'm now sitting in the ER being pumped full of fluids and fealing generally shitty. For all you armchair doctors out there I'll give you some background. Around the beginning of July I decided to get serious about taking care of myself I'm a 30 year old relatively In Shape guy. I'm 6'0 I have wide shoulders and can fit a 32 waist but wear a 34 for comfort weigh in at 195 to 197. Anyway I jog about 3 miles a day doing 10 minute miles, usually follow that up with some sit ups and have been running about 1000 kcal deficit a day, didn't get to that today instead I stopped at my parents to pick up my dogs was talking with my neighbors when I felt incredibley light headed and my heart started racing then according to them I seized up. When I awoke the two neighbors were completly freaked out and I knew shit had gone down cause I peed myself. Anyway so everybodies kinda freaking out and I just couldn't bring my heart rate down. I ate a banana and drank some water went down again for just a second, I sat up again and leaned against my truck where I went down for a third time and was out for a few longer seconds. That was my last seizure and than my heart went berserk I was hitting about 120-130 and blood pressure was plummeting. This would come in waves that started with me shaking and loosing the feeling in my fingers tips. Neighbors got me into their house and called another neighbor who is an ER doctor. She came by agreed that I was not doing well and that I should probably go for a ride to the local ER. That brings me to now, I've taken a saleen bag, a potassium bag, and magnesium.", "summary": "Standing around after work, collapsed and had three seizures. That were accompanied by crazy heart and super Shaky limbs syndrome. Getting my fluids replaced and vitals monitored for the night."}
{"id": "t3_1sz0cz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My cousin [16 F] is in an absuive relationship with her boyfriend [19 M] of six months, but not in the way you think", "post": "I have always known that my cousin was controlling, but I've never seen her do it to this extent. I had a sleepover with her last night and I got to witness her manipulating, putting him down and abusing him myself. She actually thought that him being afraid of her was hilarious but I didn't agree.\n\nShe is currently pregnant with his child, and he is madly in love with her and that is the reason he won't leave. He has diagnosed severe depression, OCD and an anxiety disorder and she bullies him everyday. He is not allowed to look at or talk to women, he is not allowed to listen to female artists or work around them. The idea of him watching porn or masturbating males her so angry that she has thrown a knife at him and physically abused him.\n\nWhile I was there I tried to talk some sense into her, I asked them both if they would ever consider therapy and he said that he would but she said that there is nothing wrong with her or them, that he just makes her angry. I am scared for this guys life, along with the life of her child.\nHe is not allowed a cellphone or facebook or access to his own computer so there is no way for me to privately speak to him. \n\nI have seen this kind of relationship end poorly, my own mother bullied my father until he killed himself which resulted in me growing up without either of them. I want to intervene but I don't want to get him hurt. Is there anything I can say/do?", "summary": "female cousin abuses her boyfriend, and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_3ctf9o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26 M] with my wife [28 F] - So we just got married last week, and only now (while she's been away) am I starting to realize that I really don't trust her. Help.", "post": "So, I feel like the biggest moron in the entire world. Allow me to explain the situation. \n\nI met my wife on tinder, we immediately hit it off and met up once while she had been drinking, proceeded to have sex on the first date, and then started seeing each other about a week later. She'd told me she's only ever been with 3 guys, and 1 whom she wasn't in a relationship with. Which is fine and all, but she's a woman who absolutely loves sex. Now, fast forward 7 months later. We married, already. I know. \n\nAll of her friends are guys (with the exception of a few). Her parents are divorced. She's been cheated on. And apparently she has a crazy stalker who harasses me on the regular yet she was merely \"Friends\" with the guy for a year and she helped him with a physical ailment. \n\nI trust her. And she's only ever told a couple white lies here and there. And all of her exes seem to be on good terms with her. Her family is amazing. Her two best friends are in fact women. And she's always worked hard her entire life. Am I just fishing for things at this point? Or do I legitimately have reason to be concerned? I've talked to her before about the past and even us hooking up on the first date. We chalked it up to a connection that was built up over days of talking nonstop online. What should I do in order to just forget about the past and believe I can trust her while moving forward? I really need some advice. I've never had much good in my life until I met her, and I really need to turn this around before I ruin it or possibly before I get my heart broken.", "summary": "I married far too quickly, and now I'm paranoid that my wife is actually untrustworthy and likely going to cheat on me at some point in the future. That or I'm just grossly insecure and fishing for reasons why I don't deserve her."}
{"id": "t3_1sogwg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(F23) can't seem to let people get to know me. Beginning to be a problem for a budding relationship with (M27)", "post": "This is a bit difficult to explain. I have no problem with anyone getting to know me as a.. concept. I'm completely open about my opinions and general personality traits - but I have a problem sharing anything else. I've never been in a relationship, never really had a loving relationship with my family and have kept all my hobbies, thoughts and feelings to myself since I went through a bout of depression between the ages of 8 and 17. \n\nSo basically, I don't really feel like I'm a person to others. My passions, interests, hobbies, everything I do is mine, and I keep it to myself. \n\nNow there's this guy, and I have a feeling it might turn into something. We've been seeing each other for 2 months, and I think he likes most of what he knows about me - but he doesn't really know me. I know him extremely well though, and I like him a lot. Which makes it even harder to let him in - because the more he knows about me, the more is there he might dislike about me. \n\nHow do I get over this stupid hangup? I'm totally lost here. And I don't really have anyone to turn to, because no one actually knows me.", "summary": "Never let anyone get to know me as a person, because I've kept everything that makes me a person to myself. Don't want to do that anymore. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1en3ss", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "She [18,F] just isn't into me[18,M], even though I can't stop thinking about her. How can I stay close to her AND her new boyfriend, without feeling bad?", "post": "Classic situation, friends for a LONG time (for 13 years, we are both 18). Boy goes to senior prom with girl, asks girl out, rejected, dejected, good night. Only the next day do I realize how seriously bad I feel.\n\nShe has 2 proms. Mine which was yesterday and her other friend's (let's call him Pat). I sweet talk her, I mean seriously. I tell her how much she means to me, how I feel, and how I want the whole \"more than friends shebang.\" Cheesy, you betcha. She stepped back from us slow dancing as I said this and from her face I could just tell it was going to be a \"let him down easy\" moment. We are now just as good friends as before but I now know she is crazy about Pat.\n\nTHE TWIST: I'm part of a group of friends who is seeing her off next week for their prom. I shouldn't be so selfish. She is my friend and I value that so much and she is happy with this guy who is actually nice. I feel like such shit though. I know I should just move on; she just does not see me as anything more than a good friend. But I can't do it. I'm such a hopeless romantic, really. I do not want to \"give up\" on a relationship. I'm crazy about her guys. How can I hang around with her and Pat to stay close to her, but not feel like crap everytime I do? Any other advice is also greatly appreciated. Thank you.", "summary": "I got rejected by a longtime friend. I don't want to give up loving her though.  She just does not see me as anything more than a friend."}
{"id": "t3_1j25o8", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "16/m. My crush 16/f her bitch friends fucked up my chances with her beyond belief", "post": "This is a really long story so get ready. 8 months ago my crush broke up with her douche bag ex ( he's a year older and has his head firmly lodged up his dads money filled arse). Fast foward 7 months and were at a party getting off and having a good time, and two days past and she tells me after thinking for a bit she says she loves me and I tell her I love her too, she tells her friends how she feels about me and they organise her to meet up with her ex, who then acts all nice to her and claims he's changed, she told me he hadn't changed but her friends convinced her he had, at the next party she just seemed distance and like she was being watched, so me and my friends are sitting in a shed just talking about life and I say how much I like her too my friends who agree I should go for her.it  turns out her bitch friends were listening in to our conversation and obviously heard my feelings for her and how I would love to be in a relationship. They then full on sabotage my life by telling her that at the party I called her ex a dick and said I liked another girl. I didn't know they had done this until I numbed into her at town ( that week she hadn't responded to my texts) she was really upset at me and didn't want talk to me despite me telling her the truth. Her friends are now trying to get the ex and her back together. You're probably wondering why her friends hate me so much well a year go one of the group was super drunk and was literally willing to shag a tree, she tried to have sex with me and I refused  1.because I didn't want to take advantage of a drunk girl 2. I was sober 3. She is a virgin and has said she wants to save herself. This made her cry in front of her friends who gave me shit about this for a good few weeks. How do I win my crush back and stop her friends from sabotaging my chances with her", "summary": "my crush loved me until her bitch friends started to sabotage my chances with her"}
{"id": "t3_2tb91f", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] and my dad [50 M] , very controlling and somewhat restrictive, includes my girlfriend, [16 M, 1 month]", "post": "Hey guys.  This topic makes me nervous, as I made a throwaway some time ago to ask a similar question.  \n\nBackground story.  I'm 16.  Almost exactly a year ago, I met a girl at a Lord of the Rings thing (yes, I'm a nerd hush) and got her number and we started texting.  About 3 weeks later, my dad, who goes through my iPod, wanted to know why I was on it so much.  I told him I was texting her and he immediately took my iPod and told me I could not talk to her.\n\nFast foward 9 months--I have a job (where I work is unrelated to the story, so not including it).  At work, I met another girl, who I've really clicked with.  She's beautiful, great personality, etc etc etc (the usual sappy teenager love crap) and so I got her number and started texting her using an app that I can easily delete.  A month ago, I asked her out, and we've gone on a couple spontaneous dates and we've kissed a couple times.\n\nOur family is Christian, and while I hate breaking my dad's rules, I think this whole thing is a bit over the top.  I'm pretty sure he's paranoid that I'm going to get someone pregnant...but I honestly find sex rather repulsive (albeit somewhat intriguing, but still...)  \n\nI've spoken to him about the first incident a couple times and he just says \"Oh, it's a bad idea.  I just don't want you liking a girl.\"  I find his reasoning ultra frustrating and somewhat circular, and it frustrates me when he uses his Dad trump card.", "summary": "Restrictive dad, won't let me text girls, and I have a girlfriend without him knowing it. What do I do and how do I either a.) tell him without him killing me or b.) convince him that me liking a girl isn't a bad thing?"}
{"id": "t3_16xatm", "subreddit": "self", "title": "Haven't told many people... Why not tell the Internet?", "post": "My ex husband was extremely jealous.. I've told bits of the story before on reddit I believe, but I've never posted it all.  \n\nI couldn't look up while in public, I had to watch the ground or my feet.  I wasn't allowed to wear make up or talk to any guys whatsoever. \n\nIf I broke any of his 'rules' then I would get beat... Plain and simple. \n\nI can deal with that... What I can't deal with is now that I'm away from him and divorced... I can't move on.\n\nI still can't look people in the eyes.  It's extremely hard for me to talk to men.  And I always feel so awful about the way I look, even though I get compliments from everyone.  I flinch every single time someone moves to quickly towards me, and it's embarrassing not having an explanation for them... \n\nI feel like my mind will always go back to the way it was trained while I was with him, and I don't know what to do.\n\nI feel, right now, that I could go my entire life not dating anyone else, and be fine with it. Because then I know I won't get hurt again...   (I know this feeling will go away eventually, so I've been told) \n\nHas anyone else ever been in this type of situation? If so.... What did you do to go back to your normal self.  I want to trust people again, I want my confidence back... I just want my life back.  \n\nSorry for the rant. I haven't slept tonight and I'm feeling sorry for myself. Thank you for taking the time to read, if you've gotten this far.", "summary": "ex husband beat on me. I don't feel like I will ever be able to restore my faith in humanity again."}
{"id": "t3_niqjz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what is your creepiest \"Haven't seen this person in years, but now they seem to be stalking me\" story?", "post": "When I was in 2nd year of college in Welland, Ontario (ugh) I lived with 6 girls. I'm a guy. One of them was my cousin, and the other her friend. The other 4 are not part of this story.\n\nAnyways - haven't spoken to/heard from/seen/had on Facebook this friend of my cousin's for 2.5years+ and today she is asking my cousin for my D.O.B., my middle name, and my home address (in Toronto, far from Welland).\n\nThis is significantly creepy to me as I have never had anything like this happen to me before. So Reddit, what are your creepy stalker stories involving people from your past?", "summary": "Ex-roommate (a female) asking my cousin for my personal information after we haven't been in touch for over 2.5 years."}
{"id": "t3_52vviy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "I'm a contractor for an online publication, and they're not taking taxes out of my pay. How much should I set aside?", "post": "I read the Wiki and couldn't find any information relevant to my specific problem so I apologize if something like this has been submitted before. \n\nI, along with a few others, submit to an online publication. Each week the editors read the pitches and select a few to be published. You get paid upon publication. Since I'm submitting with so many other writers the pay is very inconsistent. Maybe I'll get paid once or twice a month. \n\nI just got my first check. This and all future checks will be $125. How can I estimate how much I should set aside for taxes since they didn't take any out when they paid me? I don't want to spend it all and then find out I owe taxes at the end of the year.", "summary": "How much money should I set aside for taxes per $125 check?"}
{"id": "t3_372ogy", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Buy a New Home, or Pay off the Old?", "post": "My wife and I have been saving and clearing debt for the last 2 years in order to start home shopping this September.  Currently we're unable to sell our existing condo as it's worth about $80k (we owe about $99k).  The difference is about the same as our new home deposit.\n\nAfter some number crunching - we realized since clearing all other debt - if we were very frugal, we could pay off the condo entirely in a little over 10 months. (Combine income of about $140k pre-tax)\n\nWhile we don't want to wait another year - having an additional 100k in buy power + possibly the ability to use the condo as a cheap equity line for new home needs sounds appealing. \n\nWaiting seems like a solid win.  Are there things I'm considering?\nCan I use equity in my old home as a source of down payment for the new one? (Would I want to?)", "summary": "= Are there disatvantages to paying off my current home and using its equity in various ways of purchasing a new home?"}
{"id": "t3_3k6idi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18 M/] with my GF [17F] of almost a year, is acting very depressed not sure how to help.", "post": "Hi, first time posting in /r/relationships. So I've been dating my girlfriend now for almost a year. For the most part its been pretty awesome. I am a college freshman and she's in her junior year of high school. When I was nearing the day I had to leave for college, she was very worried that we wouldn't last. She made it clear that if either one of us weren't happy we would end it. I agreed, but it kind of hurt. I don't know. \n\nI was just home for Labor Day Weekend, and we hung out a lot. We had a ton of fun. I returned yesterday. Its not like I live that far away from home. Its about an hour and a half away. Anyways I'll get to the point. She doesn't like to seem it, but she's sad that I'm not home. I'm sad too. I miss her everyday. She just told me that she's feeling depressed. To quote her \"I look forward to nothing. I've barely been eating lately. I just get up and do what I have to do every day because I have to do it. I hate school. I've never hated school, and this year I hate it. I'm depressed.\" I believe her. Her friends all ditch her at lunch, she literally sits by herself. Her parents can be very harsh on her, they strive for her to be perfect.\n\nShe has self harmed herself before. Before we started dating she burned herself on her hips. She stopped like a month before we even met. I don't know what to do. I obviously just want to make sure she's happy. All I want to do is come home and make everything better but she would just be furious with me, and its really not the best option for me. I need help. Can I make her happy again?", "summary": "My girlfriend is depressed and I don't know what to do."}
{"id": "t3_2dk6zg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [23F] tell my father[47M] that he won't be walking me down the aisle next summer?", "post": "Long story short my real father has never really been in my life. Parents divorced when I was 3 and I was lucky to see him on holidays. Now I'm lucky to see him even on holidays. I'm getting married next summer and decided long ago that he wouldn't be walking me down the aisle. The only problem is I'm not sure how to tell him. \n\nI think he's figured out he's been a deadbeat dad because he's paying for my wedding. I'm grateful for that but it doesn't make up for the past 20 years of my life that he wasn't involved. \n\nI'm having my mom walk me down the aisle because she's been there for everything and couldn't see anyone else doing it. But how do I break it to my father that the responsibility isn't his and that I don't really want him to do it?", "summary": "Getting married next summer;don't want father walking me down the aisle"}
{"id": "t3_rq29m", "subreddit": "self", "title": "My first meaningful relationship ended in me getting used. Where do I go from here?", "post": "I'll sum this up best I can. To start, and what was probably a bad idea to begin with, I got involved with a girl online. Talked to her for a few months, ended up caring about her. She felt the same way so we became an item. Had a great time, perfect happy little couple and all. The only flaw was that there was a great distance. No ocean or anything; just lots of land. Cue to around the end. She confesses that she cheated on me by being drunk one night, letting a drunk guy friend come check on her (she's at a university), and he kissed her, she kissed back, they fingered/handjob until I guess she realized what was happening and stopped. After talking to a mutual friend for a few days, I took her back mainly because I love(d) her, I'm co-dependent, and I have no other options.\n\nCue to last week. It doesn't take us a week back together before she blows up (bad temper problems) and we have our worst fight yet. As much as I hated to, I ended it. It hurts me just as much as it may have hurt her by the way she acted. Today, I find out that the mutual friend from before had asked for a chance with her in case we broke up and she agreed (he actually is across an ocean). He's also told a friend of mine and even myself that he'd fuck her, how hot she is, all this stuff. It honestly disgusts me and makes my stomach cramp when I think about it. I'd like to get over it but I'm just a boring guy who stays at home all day except for class and I don't exactly have options to get my mind off things.", "summary": "ex had a backup plan with mutual friend who I thought was trustworthy who seems only to want to fuck her. How in the HELL do I manage to wipe my memories and forget this being used shit? Please help."}
{"id": "t3_4ixaos", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my ex as of 12 hours ago, [22F] dated for 14 months mostly long distance. We broke up because it would be years before we were together again.", "post": "I met this girl just over a year ago at a university a few hours from mine and we began dating within a few months, initially we only saw each other on weekends and managed to have a few extended periods together, a month being our longest.\n\nShe then had to move back to where she was originally from, 30 hours away.\n\n80% of our relationship took place online and we were both very involved in it and always there come the end of the day. Just recently a plan for a 2 month visit was cancelled because we are both getting jobs that won't allow such a visit, and it crushed me.\n\nIt had been a rough road part of the time because the distance was hard on us and caused lots of frustration, but we still loved each other and still do. We both agreed that it would possibly be years before we stood a chance to be together, so I ended it. I know I broke her heart and it kills me because I broke my own too. \n\nI guess I'm just here to tell someone what I did and why, and see if anyone has ended a relationship for similar reasons. The distance was just too much for me, I'm just hoping I didn't make a huge mistake.", "summary": "I couldn't handle a long distance relationship even though I still loved her and I don't know if I did the right thing."}
{"id": "t3_2ki0tm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 M] have compared my past exs to my best friend [19 F]", "post": "Yesterday I broke up with this girl [18] who I had asked out 3 months ago. At first i was head-over-heels about her, she was just about everything i look for in a GF, then it just died... She said she felt it too, I was becoming less romantic, less like how i usually am, as if she was boring me. She said she was going to break up with me if I didn't change because it felt as if though we were holding each other back.\n\nThis situation happened with my past three relationships, they start out big as i get to know them, then it just suddenly dies. Seeing as I have no idea what's going wrong I talk to me best friend (let's name her Rose). The whole time I kept catching myself saying \"just like you\" and then it hit me, these girl aren't you. I've been comparing girls to her and they fail to meet her standard.\n\nNow this is where it gets complicated, she's already rejected me, five years ago and that's around the time we became friends too, and believes that we're platonic...so did I. We tell each other everything, things that I would never be tell anyone else unless i married them, I don't trust people all that much.\n\nI don't know if I want to tell her again, this friendship between us means so much to me, and for her. But I also can't go on like this, ever other girl is inadequate compared to her. Plus I don't want to her reject me, she is the one person's opinion that I care for...", "summary": "Have compared every girl to my best friend, think I'm still in love with her, have no idea what to do..."}
{"id": "t3_1ywg3v", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19M] with my friend[19F] of 6 months. Does she like me?", "post": "So I met this girl in the beginning of last september. She was hooking up with a friend of mine but it wasn't exclusive. More like if they saw each other out they might hook up. My friend has told me many times he doesn't like her.\n\nIn the beginning of the month we made out at a party one night drunk. Since then we have beginning to talk a lot more. I told my friend and he had no problem with. We text almost every day or every other day with her starting the texting more often than not. Stay up late till 1-2 A.M. texting.\n\nI was drunk one night and accidentally told her best friend I liked said girl. Then comes the following thursday and she asks me if I like her. I stupidly lie and say no. She then tells me some pretty personal stuff that happened in high school that only 2 other people know. We end up kissing again. Both of us are drunk as well. I walk her to her room and make sure she is in bed.\n\nThen saturday comes. We grind for a short amount of time, then we eventually stop and she leaves. She says her friend isn't feeling well and neither is she. (Both had been a little sick even during the day). She texts me saying to text her when I get back if I want to chill. I do but she is asleep. She then texts me apologizing sunday morning for leaving early.", "summary": "Can't tell if friend (19 F) likes me (19 M)"}
{"id": "t3_1zvr6d", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "WTF I'm a doing ?! [18 M] with [18 M]/[18 F]", "post": "Ok so recently (2 weeks ago) I broke up with my (ex) girlfriend and it has affected me pretty badly. \n\nI loved her, we had fun together, we had PLENTY of sex and everything, life was pretty good. I have to say that I'm 100% straight and the thought of having gay sex is completely out of my mind because it's simply not what I want..\n\nBUT, yes there is a big BUT,\n\nYesterday night, I went out, drank a fuck ton and BAM! Gay sex occurred.. \n\nSo what the fuck does that mean ? I'm completely lost and I don't know where to go now ? Was it just a *mistake* ? \n(I'm completely fine with gays, I'm not homophobic or whatever.)\n\nCan anybody share thoughts with me or any advice.. ?\n \n(Sorry if bad English, not native language :) )", "summary": "Broke with ex girlfriend, 100% straight, gay sex happened, HELP."}
{"id": "t3_g858a", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm finding myself becoming more and more misogynistic, based entirely on my interactions with women. Thing is, It's working well for me. Maybe I'm a cunt. You guys decide.", "post": "The only relationship with a woman I respect is the one I have with my mother. She's consistent in the way she treats me. It's a mutual love and respect, like any healthy person has with his/her mother.\n\nNow, to explain my post better. I realize the stupidity of title. I realize that misogyny is a higher form of generalization. I realize that it's not based on logic, but just experience. I can't stop it though. I can't stop the way I think. \n\nI'm by no means a social outcast or not in contact with women. I'm apparently attractive (sounds really douchey). Every time I've treated female partners, coworkers, friends with respect and politeness general niceness, I get walked all over. They're never, never, reciprocal relationships. As soon as I started treating girls like shit, with disrespect/generally not giving a fuck about them, the dynamics  changed. I don't wait for response I take complete control. \n\nMaybe I'm crazy, I don't know. Women of reddit, tell me in what situations you'd start treating a guy like shit/walking all over them or don't, I don't give fuck. \n\nThere's more to this but I can't be fucked typing more.", "summary": "I started treating women like shit and life got better. When ever I treated women with respect I was disrespected. The relationships were never reciprocal. "}
{"id": "t3_404smf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [28M] with a date with a [28F] tomorrow, divorced 3 years ago. No idea what I am doing.", "post": "I divorced my wife of 6 years 2 years ago. I have not been on a date nor have I been intimate with a woman since. I have 2 kids and this woman that I am going out with has 1. I am 100% lost on how to court a woman. This is a 'blind' date set up by a co-worker. I have seen her and she has seen me that is all. \n\nDon't crucify me for spelling and grammar..im typing on my phone.", "summary": "First date in two years since my divorce. I am clueless. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4ne6l7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [30 F] boyfriend [25 M], who lives in Scotland, is very bottled up emotionally and I worry about really stupid crap from afar", "post": "We've been close friends for five years, and have been in a long distance relationship for about five months now. He lives in Glasgow, Scotland, and I live on the east coast of the US. We voice chat most days, but often it seems like I dominate the conversations, and if I don't, there's a lot of silence. He's a very emotionally pent-up guy, and especially from a distance (we're aiming to meet in person next spring, as money constraints got in the way of it happening this summer), it's hard for me to gauge what he's feeling. He really hates discussing emotional stuff, so I try not to ask about it. \nBasically, I'm a giant blob of insecurity and sometimes I worry that he may not really be happy in this relationship and is just sparing my feelings or something. I don't know how to stop thinking like this. I know it's stupid and unhealthy. I just really adore him and I want him to be happy.", "summary": "Scottish boyfriend is emotionally unreadable a lot of the time. How do I stop fretting that he's not happy in this relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_3dwhaf", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23,F] am afraid of the dark. WTF??", "post": "I am an intelligent, well-adjusted college graduate, and yet, I'm scared of the dark.  As a kid, I always had an active and morbid imagination, but throughout high school and college, fear of the dark hasn't been a problem for me.  But since I moved back to my parent's house, I've developed this ridiculous fear. \nThe funny thing is, I'm not scared of running into things lurking in the dark that might actually be a threat to me (such as intruders, etc.). I'm afraid of seeing GHOSTS! When I am downstairs at night while my parents are upstairs, I am preoccupied with thoughts of seeing horrible, scary faces in the windows and darkened doorways, especially the one that leads into the basement, which has to be open (Because of my cats). I am overwhelmed with anxiety when I have to walk through the downstairs rooms, turning off lights until I get to the staircase. As I walk up the stairs, I have this horrible sensation like there's something awful behind me.  \nNow, I do not think that my house is actually haunted, and I'm not so terrified that I can't go downstairs and turn lights off, etc.  I don't feel as scared in my room (so long as the windows are closed),  it doesn't effect my sleeping, and I don't have nightmares. However, this irrational fear is causing me a lot of stress and anxiety - It's like I can't get this scary imagery out of my head.  \nWhat do I do? Does anyone have experience with this?", "summary": "I am an adult who is scared of the dark. Why am I feeling this way??"}
{"id": "t3_49cvly", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 8 months, she wants us to live together next year, not sure if i want", "post": "We've been together for 8 months now, in a long distance relationship for 4-5 months, with ups and downs but we love each other. \nIn september I'll be moving from my current place for university and she wants me to go to the university of her city. \nI'd like to live with her, but a few things are tearing me apart : first of all, she lives in a small city (150.000 inhabitants) where the weather is shitty 24/7 and there is not a lot of things to do. This city also is 600km away from where our parents and friends lives. Finally I'm not really sure if I (we ?) can live together 7 days a week for a year at least.\nWhat I fear the most is being in this city that I don't really like for years for uni if things turns bad, but I feel like she would feel betrayed if I don't jump on the opportunity to close the distance.\nWhat do you guys think ?", "summary": "Gf wants me to close the distance in september to join her, I don't like the city where she lives but I feel like we will break-up if I don't."}
{"id": "t3_38u02u", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (22M) friends (21-25 M/F) constantly rely on me for rides.", "post": "I'm one of the very few people amongst my friends that has a car. With that comes the expectation that I drive everywhere. For the most part I'm totally fine with this. I love driving, and going places with people to other towns and such is great.\n\nWhere it's not so great is when I'm expected constantly to drive people somewhere, or when they need something they just say \"Oh he's got a car he'll do it.\" The worst offender for this is one of my friends refuses to get her licence, or a car and sees no need for it. Yet if she needs to be out of town for something or to go somewhere she'll just get me to do it in the guise of wanting to hang out. Another offender is a friend who planned a trip to another country around the idea that I would drive her to the airport, and when she was ready to come back (a month later) she expects that I'll pick her up. It's almost 2 hours one way to the major-cities airport, it's a big day.\n\nI don't mind helping people out. A ride here and there is fine, if your in a bind and need a lift i'm perfectly willing and happy to help. But when it becomes expected of me, it feels like i'm only around because I have a car. They have the money and resources to get a car, so there is no real reason they cant get one.", "summary": "many of my friends don't have vehicles, constantly plan their lives around me driving them, or expecting rides all the time. I feel guilty for saying no."}
{"id": "t3_316ito", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Feel like such a loser", "post": "Seriously, why can't I get hired?!\n\nI managed to land a relevant job that paid a good amount for what it was just a couple of months out of university. \n\nMy awful boss decided that 'it wasn't working out' after 6 months (even though, by his own admission, I met all the targets he set for me in my employment review).\n\nSo now, even with 6 months of experience, I'm having trouble getting far lower paying jobs that are much easier. \n\nI live in a huge city, so it's not like there are a lack of opportunities. I've sent out at least 10 applications for highly relevant jobs just this week and I've heard nothing (except for one company telling me that I had applied for the job twice - that's how bad it's getting, I'm forgetting where I've applied to because I've applied to SO many).\n\nI've even got several agencies looking for things for me, and they only come back with empty promises (\"I'm sure they'll call you for interview!\" ... 3 days later, no contact).\n\nI've met with CEOs and partners and graduate recruiters and heads of HR in my field who have all looked at my CV, and they all say there shouldn't be any problem. They tell me I present myself brilliantly in interview situations, but I don't even get that far!\n\nI don't understand what's wrong with me. I feel miserable every time I go to my email and see no new messages. I dread answering the phone, because I know it's just going to be an agent talking at a million miles an hour about a job that I'm simply not going to get.\n\nI've tried everything to stop feeling so awful - I go to the gym every day (and it's the only part of the day I look forward to), I talk to and go out with friends (who are all happily employed) and I do all the housework while my bf is out, enjoying his job.", "summary": "I can't get employed and it sucks."}
{"id": "t3_2qwrm9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Thinking about anonymously ratting out a cheater to his wife. I don't know either of them.", "post": "Alright I'm anticipating a lot of judgement for posting this but I'm willing to take it in order to hear your thoughts. \n\nSo, I (28/f) posted before about always getting cheated on and now being paranoid to the point of going the psycho stalking gf route. Recently, while my bf was on business, I posted a craigslist ad to the casual encounters section of the city he'd be in as bait to see if he would be among the replies. (Let's ignore the absurdity of this as it's not relevant to my question). \n\nHe wasn't one of the replies. Thank god I guess. But amongst the onslaught of dick pics and other yucky stuff that flooded my inbox, there was one man (mid to late 30s) who replied who said he was married and a meet up would have to be discreet. What I don't think he realized was that his email signature auto-posted and gave me all his contact info including his title and business number. And obviously he also hadn't bargained on the fact that I'm not in fact some kinky barely twenty-something but a woman scorned sick of philandering douche bags, who's used to Facebook stalking. So I looked him up on Facebook. His profile wasn't private and I saw that yes, he is married and his wife (early 30s) actually works with him at the same business and they're fairly recently married with no kids. Both of their facebooks are littered with wedding pics and cute statuses related to one another. But this woman has no idea she has a disgusting cheating douche for a husband trolling craigslist for hook ups. \n\nI know it is NOT my business especially as these people are strangers to me but that utter hate I feel in my gut for cheaters makes me really wanna anonymously send her the screenshots I took of our convo so she's not in the dark and see him for what he is. What do I do reddit? Leave it the fuck alone or expose this asshole?", "summary": "should I expose a cheater to his oblivious wife?"}
{"id": "t3_15tuf8", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Not a bad Christmas, but I'm pissed and feel guilty for complaining.", "post": "My MIL came in from Iowa. Normally I get along really well with her, but 12 days of her is way too much for anyone. I thrive on routine. I get up, internet, coffee, work, work out, get kids to bed, watch tv with my wife. I can tolerate some interruptions and have went out of my way to cook, clean, spend time with people. MIL got sick, I bought her tea and honey. She complains that people are eating her nuts too quickly. \n\nMy four year old has Autism, just diagnosed. The most frustrating part has been bedtime. Not because we cant find a solution to help him get to sleep, but because we will find one and it will stop working after three or four weeks. Over break, he hasnt been in preschool. There are extra people around and I just cant get him to go to sleep or stay asleep.\n\nI worked hard to pick out a good gift for my wife this year. Of course, everyone else gets her the same thing. She gets me....oven mitts...I'm not kidding. If it's the thought that counts, my contribution to your life is worth oven mitts!?!\n\nThere are plenty of things to be thankful for; my 4 year old let me get snow boots on him so he could go sledding. We had a great time. He has been very verbal and worked on his social interractions. I got to spend plenty of time with my older son as well. We made a surprise trip to my mom's house. My sensei gave me a nice gift for helping with the kids class at the dojo.\n\nI just cant shake the sense of hurt, anger, melancholy I am experiencing. On top of that my MIL is now acting like she thinks I hate her, but I haven't said anything to her. So now I'm a heel.\n\nugghhh...don't even know what I posted this, just wanted it off my chest.\n\n*edit", "summary": "MIL won't leave, wife gave me oven mitts, need to scream."}
{"id": "t3_2l6ych", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Should I pay off my mortgage?", "post": "I bought my house when the market was crap and I figured my goal was to buy a house I could easily afford and pay off quickly. Just so happens I landed an amazing deal with a home I love for 38k. I've had some savings because I lived with a friend that charged me a modest rent and I inherited some cash from my grandparents. I managed to knock off half the principal with a bulk of cash assets in the first year and now it's three years down the road and I think I could make a push for the last bit.\n\nI'm going to be entirely honest because I love this community and what they do for people and in order for you all to be able to help me to the best of your ability. I have 8k in an untouched money account that was left to me and it's literally doing nothing. 6k in savings and 5k in checking. The remaining principal on the house is 13k.\n\nThe annual interest I would be paying is something like ~$552. Which is something I'd love to save at the end of the year. Alas, I'm not crazy about the idea about of taking up the responsibility of making the homeowners insurance and ad va lorum tax at the end of the year. Having it bundled into the escrow is very convenient.\nAlso there's something else I've been considering. I've had a IRA but haven't made any large contributes to it. I figure it might be a nice idea to max that out this year. I'm in my early 30's and think that's something i've put off way too long already.\nIf I do both then I'm pretty much wiped out going into the new year. Well,  what would you do?", "summary": "first world problems"}
{"id": "t3_o3hb5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Do you stick up for your partner no matter how wrong you think they are?", "post": "Ages = 18 to 19\n\nRelationship length = about 9 months\n___________________________________________________________________________________\nJust been in a fight with my girlfriend whilst at my house despite the circumstances:\n\n- She and a friend of ours got upset with each other because of something stupid. I don't even know what it was about or who was right/wrong etc. It was something to do with my gf assuming she would be given a lift back home\n\n- After a bit of shouting and clearing away stuff, my gf storms out of my house, leaving me and another friend to comfort the now-crying friend\n\n- After sorting out the crying friend, I run out the house to find my gf, who upon seeing me, turns and heads in the other direction. Cue completely unnecessary argument where I find out I've pissed her off because I didn't stick up for her, despite not knowing a damn clue as to why either were annoyed\n\nCurrent situation looks grim, but I wanted to ask the couples of Reddit if they've ever been in a situation where there partner has expected you to defend them no matter what, even when you were not involved in the fight?\n\nI feel angry this has happened because I did not take sides, but also guilty that I've upset my girlfriend and probably lost her trust. Should I be? Or am I missing an obvious flaw in my logic or an easy solution to this case?", "summary": "Should I blindly fight for my partner in every situation regardless of my own alignments, beliefs and personality?"}
{"id": "t3_1kt31n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Dating] I (M/22) have a huge crush on my art teacher (F/27)", "post": "It's only the beginning of the semester but I'm not sure to confess or not. On one hand if i confess now I don't want her to think I'm confessing for the grades, also if I'm rejected it would make for an awkward situation for the rest of the semester. \n\nOn the other hand, seeing her only once a week is torture enough. Having to wait 13 weeks to confess? Unimaginable. Also there might be others interested in her as well...\n\nHowever after a little bit of facebook snooping she might have a boyfriend already. It'd be weird if she didn't because she's so nice to be with. So thats depressing. I really want to confess and get it over with. If I get rejected at least I can move on. \n\nDon't really know whether to be patient or not. Also I've heard that girls don't usually date younger guys... Please help.", "summary": "huge crush on art teacher. Should I confess now or not?"}
{"id": "t3_2msx1t", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by burning the evidence.", "post": "So some background first. My family is a uber health conscious crazy about healthy food and I agree with that for the most part. But I can't just eat healthy food every day without a single bit of sugar. So I go to a fast food place once a month to get my fix. I usually eat it at home in the comfort of my computer playing games till my parents get home, but if they found out they would probably beat me for this. So I got a bright idea to burn the paper bag and wrapper that it comes in and carefully collect those ashes and throw it outside.\n\nI do this once a month and throw the ashes over some little flowers in my backyard. I do this steadily for a few months and nothing goes wrong. Well one day at school we have to take home this fish once a week or so to collect data on its habits. Well I take a fish home every week and then I always take it back to school the next day at 5 in the morning. Well my neighbors see me come home sometimes because they're this amazing old couple who just sits and watches the outdoors together and they probably see me come home with a fish every week or so.\n\nSo every week I take home a fish but since I leave so early they never see the fish leave my house. Then they see me in the afternoons after I come home go outside and spread some ashes over some flowers because in my mind I think ashes are good for plants so I do that, but this old couple thought I was cremating my dead fish and tossing their ashes once a month.\n\nBeing the amazingly nice people they are, after last weeks burning of evidence, they stop by and they're carrying a little fish tank with this beta fish in it and when I open the door they say they saw me spreading the ashes of my fish and hoped this fish would outlive the rest and then they said goodbye and left me there kinda shocked at what just happened. It was then that I realized that they thought my fish were tragically dying every month and that I kept replacing them in hopes of outliving the rest.", "summary": "I burned trash and threw it on flowers and my neighbors thought my fish kept dying and bought me this bad ass beta fish."}
{"id": "t3_3va6g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (M20) and my girlfriend (F23) have been dating for a while but apparently her Father (M50) doesn't want us dating, what should we do?", "post": "Hey Reddit, since you guys were pretty helpful last time I asked for relationship advice I'm hoping that can be the case this time too. So I've been dating my current girlfriend since this past August and things have been great. I've actually known her for 3 years but when we tried dating when I was 17 and she was 20, her mom was having none of that so obviously things didn't last very long. So, 3 years later and we're trying again, this time with her mother's approval and her father's approval, or so we thought. Last night my girlfriend's dad gave her a long winded conversation of basically why he doesn't like me, how apparently he thinks I'm not going anywhere in life (to be fair I'm only a student in my 2nd year of Architecture technology, not sure where he got that idea from), he also said I don't talk to him enough when he's never really tried to make conversation with me and says I don't look him in the eye which I have, not sure where that's coming from either, point is he doesn't like me. She mostly thinks it has to due with him being raised by an abusive father, for he kept saying to her well I would never bring a girl to my house when I was your age, which my girlfriend said to me she wouldn't have either if she lived in that house. On a side, my girlfriend has cerebrallypalsy affecting the right side of her brain but its an extremely mild case. The only things she can't really do is drive and cut her own food and other two handed tasks that most people take for granted. So I guess because of this her parents are a little bit more protective. But last night my girlfriend's Father also compared her to her older brother and older sister, saying he never had to deal with any of this from them, (neither of them have any disabilities) so my girlfriend got pretty upset and doesn't know what to do. She wants to move out but her mom won't let  her. I say they shouldn't have it both ways but I'm worried they're going to make her dump me regardless.", "summary": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while but her dad wants to put a stop to it because he doesn't think I'm good enough for her, what should we do?"}
{"id": "t3_y6em9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Freshman in college, can you help me not be a SAP?", "post": "So, I just had my first day of college at a community college, Gainesville State College, in Georgia. (Chose to go there because of scholarships. Paid $74.70 in tuition)\n\nI'm trying to meet new people, but I'm terrible at starting a conversation cold. I'm pretty socially awkward, but yeah.\n\nDuring lunch I found an empty table and just sorta ate. One guy sat with me (a senior I think) and we sorta talked a bit, but then we had to go to class.\n\nI had a 3 hour break between 2 of my classes, so I went back to the student center. Saw a girl in one of my other classes, and asked to sit with her. She said sure. I then sat there and did nothing.\n\nAny advice? Also, anyone here happen to go to GSC?", "summary": "version-"}
{"id": "t3_2st4je", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18F] with my sorority, want to know how to do well", "post": "So I just went through Spring Rush. At my school (I don't know if all schools are like this), the only houses that do Spring Rush are those who couldn't fulfill their quotas. There were two houses that needed girls. One of them, the one I worked really hard to get into, went to all of their events, really made an effort to talk to the girls - rejected me. They took most of the girls who came, but they didn't take me. The other one took me, but they literally only met me once before and I know they did it to improve their numbers. I'm choosing to see this as an opportunity for future possibilities rather than what some people might see it as. My question is: what should I do?\n\nI don't know what exactly it is that I did that made the other sorority reject me and I'm honestly really afraid of making this house feel the same way. What should I do? I'm honestly just relieved any house took me and I'm really afraid of doing something that makes this house not want me, like the other one did.\n\nI will be so thankful for any and all advice.", "summary": "please help me not screw this up"}
{"id": "t3_iqo8r", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "Perplexing Potty Training Problem", "post": "So I've had puppy about a month now, and she is about 7-8 months old. She had one accident the first day we brought her home that seemed to be due to nerves at being in a strange new place. For the last 4 weeks she has told me when she has to go, and we go out every 3-4 hours (I am home almost all day with her). She sleeps through the night no problem. When we are not home she stays in a small laundry room. The previous owners stated she was completely potty trained.\n\nWe got her spayed about 2.5 weeks ago, and she had been fine, however we went on Wednesday day to a doggie playdate with about 4 other dogs, one dog at the beginning pooped on my friend's rug. My dog was fine until later that evening where she peed on the rug (in the same spot as where the poop had been). I stopped her, and we finished outside, and she went several more times outside. \n\nNow since we've come home from that playdate, she has started having an accident about once a day, either poop or pee. Today she had just come in from being outside (where she peed and pooped at least once each) and playing with the neighbor dog about 2 hours (I share a backyard), got a bath and was chewing on her kong. I walked around the corner to wash dishes, and came back and there was a puddle of pee on the rug next to her kong. She usually tells me she has to go, and there wasn't ANY warning from her at all.\n\nI haven't ever come across this before in my years of training.. Does anyone think she might have a bladder infection? Isn't feeling the urges from the spay? Suddenly forgot all her manners? Help!", "summary": "Puppy is suddenly peeing in the house after a dog playdate accident after being housetrained."}
{"id": "t3_51jcyl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Gone cold? Or am I overreacting?", "post": "I'm [23F] and I've been with my bf [30] for a little over a year now and I'm not sure if this is me being \"petty\" but I texted almost 2 days about something not serious at all and he's yet to respond. We've been pretty happy lately and I'm not the clingy type so usually I don't worry if he doesn't get back to me ASAP but this is just a bit annoying and rude, I think. I'd even understand if he said he was in a funk and didn't feel like talking. Should I let it rest or say something?", "summary": "bf hasn't texted me back and I'm not sure why"}
{"id": "t3_dydjy", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "gf and i disagree over abortion. help?", "post": "gf is 23 and has no kids. i'm 26 and have 2 kids already. she feels abortion is murder when the fetus was conceived with someone you love. i feel that the option is always open, that its never murder or morally reprehensible, and that i'd rather not bring another child into the world (due to financial and logistical reasons more than anything else.) we love each other a lot, but a disagreement over this would most likely tear our relationship apart.\n\nam i in the wrong? am i being a pussy? do i have to \"grin and bear it\" if she decides to go ahead with this? I'd really like to know.", "summary": "gf thinks abortion is murder, i dont. lost on what to do. "}
{"id": "t3_1mzm60", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25/f] in FWB relationship [29/m] with neighbor - not sure how to navigate?", "post": "My neighbor (29/m) has always been friendly in our neighborhood.  We both have dogs and chit chat while we we're at the local dog park with our critters. He knew I was seeing someone, and would make little comments about how he never sees my boyfriend around. \n\nMy boyfriend (at the time) lived 3 hours away and we were having problems.  I finally broke things off when I realized it just wasn't going anywhere.  I did not tell my neighbor this, as I suspected he'd make a move and I just needed to deal with stuff on my own.  Also, soooo not his business.\n\nA few weeks later, my neighbor randomly shows up on my doorstep, asking if I wanted to grab a bite to eat.   First time we'd ever hung out. This begins a two week long binge of hanging out, going out to eat, running errands together, playing video games and watching movies.  Nothing sexual or inappropriate.  Finally one night, we get drunk and have sex.  Now I stop over at his place every other day or so and we hang out and hook up - the going out has stopped.  Sometimes he's very sweet, snuggling up to me and kissing my forehead as I nap.  Other times, it seems very, \"Welp, we're done here.  Go home.\"  I can't get a good read on exactly what's going on.\n\nHe still has no idea my boyfriend and I have technically broken up, although I would assume he's figured that out.  This isn't a guy I want to marry, but I would like to casually date him.  More than anything I want to ensure I'm being respected and not just a booty call.\n\nYes, I know the obvious answer here is, \"Talk to him.\"  But I feel like I have to tread more carefully than usual, as I gotta see this guy every day.  Any advice as to what, exactly, I should say?", "summary": "In weird FWB/casual dating limbo with a new neighbor after breaking up with boyfriend.  Getting mixed signals, want to approach the subject but want advice as to how to do so delicately since we live next to each other.  Trying to prevent any awkward fallout."}
{"id": "t3_kouf0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Am I being duped?", "post": "SOLVED\n\nSo, about 6 months ago, I would lose my Internet connection at my house and had no idea why. Asked my dad why and he told me Surewest ha a deal where they reduced their price if you turned Internet off during low use time. Seemed legit so I went with it. I eventually discovered that my father was just unplugging the Ethernet cable to our router before he went to bed. I would just plug it back in and keep browsing then unplug before I went to sleep. We hot a new router and he stopped doing this.\n\nFast forward to this week and the same situation is occurring. But all the Ethernet cables to the router and everything are connected. My computer even say I'm connected to the web but browsers and games requiring Internet connection don't work. So' my question is does Surewest have a program where they reduce the price by limiting access at certain times, or am I being lied to again?", "summary": "Does Surewest limit access to Internet at certain times to reduce rates?"}
{"id": "t3_10le5p", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "The girl I am seeing just told me that she wants to wait until marriage. What do I do?", "post": "I recently started seeing a girl and I have come to like her. With time I feel I can definitely fall in love with her. Here is the problem, today we were talking and I asked her about her religious views. One thing led to the other and she ended up saying that \"I wont do anything [sexual] before getting married\" even though she mentioned she was not religious. I was in shock, that was the last thing I was expecting to hear. A few hours after I let her know that what she told me earlier scared me and she responded with \"Were going to go slooowwwlllyyyyy..\".\n\n What does this mean?\n\n Im really confused, I dont know if I want to invest in this relationship because living without sex would torture me. Being a 20 year old male, Im at the peak of my sexuality and waiting a couple of years is not an option. Blue balls for full duration of this relationship?...no thanks.", "summary": "Girl im seeing says she want to wait until marriage before doing anything sexual, I am confused."}
{"id": "t3_14vaf5", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can you guys figure out what this skin problem is?", "post": "I have these weird rash type bumps that can get pretty large on my waste. I was wondering what they were and how I can get them out of there.\n\nThe bumps get moist at times and itch really bad. The itching does go away at times though. They sometimes often flare up and when they are not flared up it seems to leave a grey-ish area where they would be. \n\nPic (\nNote: I am naked in this picture but you cannot see any private areas.\n\nAlso, if you have any questions that you need to ask I will answer them.", "summary": "I have a skin problem around my waste"}
{"id": "t3_251pd0", "subreddit": "GetMotivated", "title": "This is the Summer of Change", "post": "Hey guys and gals! I've already posted this on r/decidingtobebetter, but I thought this was a good place to post as well. I'm a 21 y/o male, average build, currently finished my AAOT, and now working full time until Fall term. I struggled with severe anxiety issues for a time, not to mention being lazy when I was younger. By the end of every summer I can remember I've always looked back and felt like I hadn't accomplish anything (and it felt terrible). But, this summer is different. I've decided to make an effort to build as many good, sustaining, life-changing habits as I can. I've deleted my facebook and blocked it, deleted many useless subreddits from my frontpage (leaving only ones that will help me improve), downloaded several helpful apps to help me improve and keep track of my progress (habitbull, Lose it!, Rundouble, etc), learning to cook so I can make myself delicious, healthy homemade meals, I've been making the effort to meditate daily, picked up several books for self help (ranging from being more social, meditation, diet, etc.) and some for fun so that I read more, and I finally got my first gym membership! I'm really excited about this change and that I'm finally taking hold of my life. If any of you have suggestions for resources, please feel free to share! If anyone has questions or wants a buddy to help encourage them this summer, feel free to PM me anytime! :)\n\n I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul (Invictus- William Ernest Henley)", "summary": "Getting my life in order this summer, and I encourage all of you to as well!"}
{"id": "t3_3rl8xe", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20m] want to leave my girlfriend [23f] of four years.", "post": "I have been dating this girl for a little over 4 years and I have fallen out of love. I have changed much since then, since I was only 16 at the times and she was 19. She's my first ever. Sex, kiss, love, everything. I feel like our relationship is only about sex. I don't feel anything for her anymore. Every now and then she makes me laugh, but most of the time I'm just there, content and okay. Not happy, not thrilled, nothing when I'm with her. She went away for almost a year and I was the happiest I've been. I felt like I was free. But, she came back and I feel trapped. She's a good girl and I don't want to hurt her, but I know I'll have to. Her best friend is a male who is in love with her. And my best friend is a female and that's all we are. I've never broken up with anyone, like I said, she's my first. Does anyone have advice?", "summary": "first ever break up with my first ever and don't know how to do it. "}
{"id": "t3_4hc0eq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [31F] of 7 months, family troubles because of us living together", "post": "Hi Reddit.\n\nI'm 27 years old and have a job. I'm not rich, but I can say I'm financially independent.\n\nI have this really great relationship with a girl I'm sure is the ONE. We love each other very much and over the course of the last 7 months, we've been doing things together with great intensity. At some point, I started sleeping over her house very often. Then it started to be every single day. She lives with her parents, and they are totally awesome and love my presence there, and the fact that her daughter is very happy. The problem are my own parents. They simply cannot accept the fact that I \"moved\" to her house without getting married. They blame her for \"ripping\" me out of the house.\n\nOne of these days, my GF slept over my house. In the morning, my mother was very sarcastic and told her I should move to her house for good, which of course made her very upset. That same day I had a very serious conversation with my parents, and they told me they think this is too much, sleeping there every single day. I told them to stop saying these things, specially in front of her, and I promised I would try to balance things better. I should call them more often and not be too distant. I should tell them what's happening in my life, and that I'm very happy.\n\nNow comes the problem. My GF doesn't want me to sleep there anymore. She said we should get used to being apart, and I think that will be the end of our relationship if nothing is done.\n\nI'm thinking about moving out and renting an apartment. Then I'll invite her to live with me. Or, in her own words, I could move to her house for good. The problem is my parents... I can't find a way that will make her happy, and also my parents.\n\nPlease, Reddit, give me some light. I'm desperate about losing the girl I really love and invested so much.\n\nThanks for reading.", "summary": "Want to live with GF, my parents are being a problem about it."}
{"id": "t3_30je2x", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [15F] with a group of friends [15 M and F], one of which who hates me", "post": "I am in grade 10, and I am having an issue with one person in my friend group.\n\nThe guy in question is someone who I haven't known very long, only since September. Let's call him Ben. Ben thinks that I like him (I don't) and won't even talk to me anymore. I wouldn't really care about it, but today when I tried and sit with my friends (they have lunch in a group of 4 people, he is one, as well as 2 good friends and one aquaintance), he told me (through someone else) to \"fuck off\". I left, and I could tell that one of my friends was a little uncomfortable with what happened, but he didn't do anything because he is good friends with Ben.  \n\nI only ever sit with that group when my other friends want to or when all my other friends are busy. This has happened multiple times now, and I have no clue why he hates me so much. \n\nI don't know what to do. I really would like to go wherever I want without having to worry about it (he sits right next to my locker, and I have become uncomfortable going there), but I definitely do not want to be close to Ben. I know my friends really like hanging out with Ben, but I can't anymore. What should I do?", "summary": "Friend of friends hates me, can't sit with friends anymore because of it. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_2f7sty", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my ex boyfriend [21 M] duration 7 months, No contact for a week now texting.", "post": "So my ex boyfriend dumped me. We went five days with out talking then he texted me about our relationship and didn't go anywhere. Then Friday I saw him at my friends apartment. I made eye contact with him and walked the other way. But texted him the next day saying sorry for ignoring him and he said it was okay. But now we have been texting all day and he is wondering what I have been doing and how I have been. What does this mean? I am still in love with him. But what does it mean with him responding and asking what I have been doing.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1wjq65", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "A question about Louisiana out-of-state taxes for an offshore worker.", "post": "So I live in Texas (No state income tax) I work offshore out of Louisiana. My office is in Louisiana therefore as a default they withhold Louisiana state income tax. \n\nI've heard several times that in this situation I am not required to pay Louisiana state income tax but I am assuming there is a form that would need to be submitted for this to prove my situation. \n\nAfter researching several times I've been unable to find anything about it. Is anyone able to help me with this subject. Other than hire someone to prepare my taxes, I'm hoping to do them myself this year.", "summary": "I want my money back from Louisiana."}
{"id": "t3_poiqx", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, I told my boss that I refused to work off the clock any longer and now he won't speak to me.  Did I go about it the wrong way?", "post": "I am an hourly employee at the corporate office of a large retailer.  My hours are 9am-6pm Monday to Friday.  I have been with the company for almost a year.  A few months after I started working, my boss would call or text me after work hours to ask me to do things.  This happened maybe once a month....  At first I would answer the call and if it was a minor task, I would go ahead and complete it no questions asked.  I felt as though this showed my willingness to go \"above and beyond\" and somehow score me a promotion sooner or what have you.\n\nLately, my work load has increased significantly and I feel as though I am being taken advantage of.  I have asked for a raise since I am no longer doing one persons job....to only be shot down.  That being said, my enthusiasm in the work place has lessened and the fact that I am so overwhelmed at work makes me not want to have ANYTHING to do with work once I clock out.  That being said, I have stopped answering calls from my boss after hours and he made a comment one day at work about how I never answer his calls anymore on my personal cell phone after work.  I would come up with reasons like I didn't hear the phone ring and it was too late to call back or whatever...\n\nThis past Friday he texted me at 9:30pm while I was out celebrating my sister's birthday and asked me to remote into my workstation to complete a minor task....I finally had enough and I texted back \"Since I am not salaried, I would prefer that you not contact me after hours or on weekends about work.  Thank you and have a great night.\"\n\nHe replied back, \"Sorry to bother you\".  And that was that.\n\nAll day today, he has refused to speak to me, answer any of my emails or return my phone calls....which is not like him at all.  WTF?  Was my response to him too bitchy or something??  Would you have gone about it another way?", "summary": "Pretty much told my boss to piss off when he texted me on a Friday night to perform a work related task when I was off the clock and now he is butt hurt.  Did I fuck up?"}
{"id": "t3_14hhpe", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "[NSV] Stuck to my shopping list at the grocery store", "post": "I have a habit of just 'finding' myself in the chips/cookies aisle, the bakery (all those cupcakes and cookies and muffins and ...), the section with pop tarts, etc... And these usually end up in my cart when I'm shopping for groceries. Needless to say, this did not do well for my expanding waistline.\n\nI made a resolve to buy ONLY what was in my grocery list. Today, I stepped into the local store to buy some tofu, spinach (new love! :O), whole wheat pasta, and other ingredients for the upcoming doom called finals week.\n\nProduce is next to chips. Chips is across the aisle from cookies. Cookies is down the aisle from the candy.\n\nI gazed at that food. I gazed at it so long that the employees in the store probably thought I was thinking of a way to sneak it out; my eyes were like \u2764___\u2764. I wasn't sure if I had the will power to stay away from buying *just one bag of chips*, which would be a huge improvement from my usual store rendezvous. My hands reached for a bag of chips when ...\n\nI remembered something that someone in /r/loseit posted a while ago (paraphrased):\n\n>Start at your current weight. Slowly count down, pound by pound, to your goal weight.\n\nBy the time I counted 10 pounds down, that Doritos did NOT look that exciting to eat anymore. Those red vines? No sir.\n\nWhoever said that, thank you. I left the grocery store several bags lighter than usual and no junk food. I also left with a new found confidence that yes, I can do this. And I *can* go to the grocery store without bringing home chips.", "summary": "will starve during a zombie apocalypse"}
{"id": "t3_16rnvg", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "I have no idea if she's [23F] interested in me [24M]....", "post": "A little bit of backstory. I met her at a friend's birthday party. She was brought by another friend (she's new to town and doesn't know a soul). Anyway, I thought we hit off quite well but I didn't get her name that night as I had to leave early and the opportunity never really arised.\n\nLater my friend just gave her my number and this girl said she was, \"very interested\" at the time. I never heard from her. Last week, another party and I actually got a hold of her number and we've been texting since Sunday. The conversations have been good but her response rates our response rates are hours apart. Apparently she is shy as well....", "summary": "Friend of mine says the girl I am interested in is interested, but  actions are proving otherwise."}
{"id": "t3_rri3p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can someone help me find a video for my environmental geology class?", "post": "In my class, we're discussing greenhouse gases, and how humans are affecting the planet/climate.  I saw a video a few months ago (I think it was from BBC?) about the permafrost beginning to melt in Russia, releasing tons of methane.  I found the BBC video explaining that, but I saw a really awesome video about one scientist who has attempted to reverse the permafrost melt in one area and has succeeded.  He bought a lot of herd animals that trampled the snow into the ground, and cut down some of the vegetation, and it has helped keep the permafrost cool enough to prevent methane release in that area. Does anyone remember that video, and if so, can you help me find it? I'm not having much luck.", "summary": "looking for a video about a scientist that has reversed permafrost melt in a part of Russia by buying a lot of animals and removing vegetation."}
{"id": "t3_3kqn1q", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 M] with my \"Girlfriend\" [18 F] of no more than 3 weeks, already breaking up", "post": "First of all I have posted about this girl before on here and got great advice, well now I just need some comforting and even better advice\n\nI have been \"together\" with this girl for a little under 3 weeks. Some back story on her is that her boyfriend beat her, she lost her virginity to him by him raping her and her getting pregnant. With this I already knew that there was gonna be emotional pain, trust issues and so on. She has a very low self esteem and very very low confidence about herself.\n\nWe said I love you very quick (first mistake) and we really were. We had a lot of fun hanging out and getting to know eachother. Then one day she texts me that she needs my support because she just had some school trouble and also her mom was being a bitch to her. I calmed her down and we were joking around. Now I have a very offensive sense of humor (Jimmy Carr style) and I said a joke that offended her so much that she started being really sad and saying how heartless I am.\nI told her I was sorry but she said that it was too much and that she needs some time to think about stuff now (wtf!?). Yesterday I ask her how she was doing and she said that she is afraid of me hurting her like her ex did and that she can't trust me anymore. \n\nI asked her if you wanted to break up, how she felt about me etc. and all I got were: idk or hmm. So I said that I'm not gonna text her for around 2 days and if she still doesn't know the answer its over.\n\nIt.. is.. killing me inside. I haven't felt anxiety like this in forever and I just don't know what to do. Should I just accept that its over? Or keep my hopes up that she will forgive me and not move on?\n\nI would love some advice/help with this as its making me not being able to sleep..", "summary": "Offended gf, long break up process, don't know how to feel"}
{"id": "t3_4byudt", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by taking a large swig of phlegm.", "post": "Hope this doesn't break the bodily discharge rule, but it says it's okay for the weekend and Friday's count where I'm from.\n\nThis is a rare kind of TIFU, it happened today at 2am, I've had man flu from hell, been running a fever with elevated heart rate for a few days, and good god the amount of shit I have coughed up has been ridiculous. \n\nI decided to keep a pint glass by my bed so I could just phlegm in there & save waking everyone else up. I went to bed around 7pm almost entirely unable to human.\n\nOrange juice is good for you when you're ill  (the pure kind with bits, not squash/cordial), so I shot off to bed armed with my OJ and phlegm glass. Now the mistake I made was having the exact same glass for both. You can see where this is going but sit back and enjoy the gross details.\n\nThings worked out alright for a while, I'd cough then have some oj, pretty solid tactic & one that I should've stuck to. The moment of doom came when I went for the oj without coughing, in a virtually pitch black room I reached for it and I was sure it was the right glass...\n\nSo sure that I went for the proper mouthful, yknow the kind where your mouth is drier than ghandi's flip flops, and you just wanna swish that moist goodness all around in there.\n\nPoor decision, I realised my mistake as I felt my goopy mucus with chunks collide with my tongue, tonsils and teeth. Vile. I got most of it back into the glass as swiftly as possible. \n\nBut your body lets you know when you fucked up and this was one of those times, I ran across the hall in my boxers and just about made to the toilet, sprogged and wretched to a standard that'd make Gollum envious. Super attractive, I know. I emptied my glass of shame and broke it by throwing it to the recycling bin about 5m(15ft) from my window.", "summary": "using a glass to phlegm into is a subpar idea, having orange juice in a seperate, identical glass was an even more foolish idea. Made myself sick by drinking my own phlegm and disposed of the evidence."}
{"id": "t3_354dp1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] freaking out over upcoming Tinder date with [26 M].", "post": "So met this guy on Tinder. Been talking for quite awhile in \"Tinder\" terms (About three months?). I've gotten to like this guy in that time, we also have a good few mutual friends which shows he must be pretty cool. We were meant to meet up a few times but it didn't happen due to clashing of schedules etc.\n\nWe're meeting up this weekend for a few drinks. Its suddenly hit me like a tonne of bricks and now I'm really fucking nervous. I have managed to completely blanked on how to do all this dating shit again.\n\nResulting in me over-thinking and freaking out at 1am. I'm not the most confident person in these situations. Came out of a relationship a year and a half back that ruined any confidence I had in this department.  \n\nSo any advice would be really appreciated.", "summary": "Date at the weekend, nerves have gotten the better of me, need advice."}
{"id": "t3_1jtr17", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [24M] SO [24F] of 3 months is taking me on an emotional rollercoaster ride and I'm lost at what to do. [Dating]", "post": "Background: \n\nMet on okcupid, clicked like clockwork, all the big life/relationship issues (worldview, politics, money management, living situation, future dreams/wants, schooling, pets, hobbies) are all *perfectly* compatible. We get along fantastically, and have great sex. Like she has been brought to tears and laid comatose from intense orgasms on multiple occasions by myself (said it's only happened once before), and I have had the best sex of my life with her. She's wicked smart, pretty, and down to earth.\n\nProblem: I am way into her. I have strong feelings and can really see this heading somewhere. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months. We are exclusive but she is uncomfortable making things \"official\" or being \"boyfriend and girlfriend\". her enthusiasm for us is like a rollercoaster. One day she will tell me we should take things slow and that she is unsure about us, and the next day she will say something along the lines of \"don't let what I said dissuade you, I like you a lot!\". we see each other about 3 times a week, and talk every day.\n\n...........................\n\nIt's all terribly confusing and this makes me feel very strange. I have no clue what to think and it's fucking with my head. I've talked to her about it and she says that she is just not good at expressing her feelings. I told her explicitly I want a relationship. She says she does too but wants to wait, and then the flip-flopping begins where she can't articulate exactly what she is feeling/thinking.\n\nI don't want to be lead on further and get hurt, but at the same time I don't want to abandon this potentially awesome partner. wtf is going through her mind, what should I do/think about this? we have opened up to eachother quite a bit, am I really \"rushing\" into things after being together for 3 months and wanting some kind of commitment?", "summary": "girl alternates between passionate sex and strong interest, and vocal apprehension about us. no idea what to think, have talked plainly to her without gaining insight."}
{"id": "t3_1qt0f4", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I [22/F] need some advice for the holidays...", "post": "I'm [22/F] recently married to my spouse [24/M], however we've been exclusively dating for about 4 years before this. Last Christmas was the first year we decided to split our time with my family and his so we could also spend most of the holiday together as well. The way we worked it out was so that all of Xmas eve was with my family and all of Xmas day was spent with his family. His family tolerated it but mine has given me grief ever since then because we made the decision not to come visit them on Xmas day too.\n\nFor this year we plan on doing the same thing. Even with the hurt feelings from my side of the family, we just have to put our foot down and not stress ourselves out over driving back and forth and fitting in both families in one day. We know they will be upset since they have made their voices heard about this from last year. \n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions about how to talk to families about these types of issues without stepping on too many toes and hurting feelings. I know my family doesn't want things to change but now me and my husband want to start making our own traditions for the holidays and need to accommodate his family as well.", "summary": "my husband and I want to celebrate Christmas eve with my family and Christmas day with his. One day per family is the most fair way to do it but my family is still upset about not seeing us on Christmas day. Any advice on talking to them and explaining that this is our decision."}
{"id": "t3_1154ag", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm being \"bullied\" by 2 girls that are 2 years younger than me, also I'm male. I wanna trick them, and teach that I'm the wrong person for this. What should I do, any ideas?", "post": "I have never had to face with a problem like this, of course some skin-headish (or soon to be skinhead) people tried to beat me up, but I could always handle it smoothly because I didn't fear from them and they were males as well as me. \n\nHowever it's different in this situation. I can't fight or anything like that, because they are girls and they only provocate me by words, if they actually had the courage to do something physically I could at least always drive them off, but with words I can't do anything. They just fucking say some unpleasant words when I show up, or run into them on the corridors, actually it's pretty hard to avoid them since we are on the same level. I'm getting enough of it, and I don't want a straight up talk, because I know that it won't solve anything.\n\nI want to do something that will teach them to never-ever do something like this to anyone. Oh and btw they are ugly and I seriously don't get it why do they do that.", "summary": "Ugly stupid girls provoking me by words and I wanna teach them not to this, but with a funny and even disgusting thing. I just wanna shut them up."}
{"id": "t3_hpq3p", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "The lease on my family's condo is being terminated because my little brother was caught (allegedly) smoking weed on the premises of the complex. Is there anything we can say or do to forestall or prevent moving out?", "post": "Long story short, I have lived with my parents and little brother in a large, comfortable, rented townhouse for a little over a year.\n\nI moved in with my parents with the aim of getting my life together, and I subsequently somewhat have and I have found a great job. Meanwhile, my parents have hit a bit of a rough patch, so we've all been making ends meet together. We have always paid rent and bills here on time, and our initial one-year lease converted over to a month-to-month lease a couple of months ago.\n\nAlong comes my little shit head brother, who has never had a job, and who we're all trying to be supportive of, to ruin everything. Only a couple of days ago, we received a notice to quit in the mail that says we have to vacate the premises by the end of this month. Not long after that, we receive a follow-up letter detailing the reason: security discovered the shit head (allegedly) smoking weed in a vehicle with someone else, and management has a zero tolerance policy. There were no police involved.\n\nMy parents have attempted to discuss this with the office to no avail. Now we're kind of screwed--we've been kind of skating on the edge just to stay here, so to come up with moving expenses, find a decent new place at the worst time to search for the year (summer), and do all of that in a month looks impossible.\n\nFuck it. I should mention that I'm the only one in the condo with a job--I'm making decent money, but I have terrible credit. My dad has been collecting unemployment and going to interviews for months, and my mom has always stayed at home. Shit head is a shit head.", "summary": "Condo management has told my family to hit the bricks within a month, because little bro (allegedly) smoked weed. Is there any way out of this, or at least to buy a little more time?*"}
{"id": "t3_3anccr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I (20F) have been dating my current boyfriend (21M) for more than a year, why do I still feel weird about my ex (22M), who I only dated for four months?", "post": "So I have been dating this amazing man for more than a year. I love him completely and I have never been happier in my entire life. It is also the longest relationship I have ever been in.\nI met my boyfriend at college which is out-of-state and during the summer we are in different states. I am in my home town where my ex lives.\nWhenever I'm driving around I find myself peering at all of the places he usually is, looking for a glimpse of his car or of him even.  I'm not entirely sure /why/ I do this.\n\nI had dated my ex for four months, the longest relationship I had ever had until my current one.  At the time I was certain he was the first person I ever fell in love with, but now that I've been in my current relationship I'm not even sure if I ever was /in love/ with him and not just infatuated.  He ended things with me and then proceeded to ignore me if he saw me in person for the next few days, blocked me on FB, etc.  I haven't really seen him since, I mean once I walked into the coffee shop he works at and saw him unexpectedly and turned right around and left without even getting farther than the doorway.\n\nI am just kind of confused. I don't know why I still feel weird and act weird about my ex when I am so in love and so happy with my much longer term boyfriend.\n\nDoes anyone else have experience with this? Any help for me to understand what I'm feeling more would be really appreciated, or really just anyone sharing similar experiences so I know I'm not alone! It'd be really appreciated.", "summary": "I dated a boy for four months and have been dating my current boyfriend for more than a year but sometimes still feel weird/attached to my ex."}
{"id": "t3_uf538", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU Got Caught... At Work!", "post": "Okay so I'm basically fucked. Let me get started on how badly I'm going to lose my job.\n\nSo today at work my boss was sick so he called in her daughter who is a year older than me to come in to help close. So she came in and we proceeded to get done clean up and the other workers left. I work in a grocery store by the way so nothing too special. Anyways I was getting my stuff from the back when she came back there and she started to get really touchy.\n\nSo this is where shit got hot and heavy and we proceeded to carry on, she blew me for a bit and then she asked if I had a condom. I had one in my car so I went out of the store, but I took the short way which was to open the loading door, at the time I thought nothing of it. So we finished up and she said she has been wanting to do that for a long time and next time we should make it even more kinkier and all over the store.\n\nSo this is where shit gets bad. I was driving home when I was thinking of how awesome it was, when the thought hit me. The alarm was set because we had locked up. So tomorrow my boss is going to get to work and see the alarm had gone off, and do what anyone would do. Watch the camera's. So I'm basically fucked.", "summary": "I fucked my bosses daughter in his store, but was dumb and opened the garage door making an alarm go off. So now he is going to watch the camera's and see us. "}
{"id": "t3_4aom9m", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me late [20's M] with my gf [early 20's F] almost 3 years, live together 2", "post": "Hi, using a throwaway, because it seems like the thing to do. \n\nThis is about me (late 20's male) and my gf (early 20's female), we've lived together for about 2 years now and are talking about marriage and children in the upcoming couple years.\n\nI love my gf with all my heart, she is the first girl I've been with that actually holds my attention. I was a serial cheater before her in a couple of longer relationships, but with her I don't have any interest in other girls, even if they come on to me a bit. \n\nHowever, we both have some insecurities, mine from previous relationships and hers from what I've said about those. I told her everything about my past, how I acted, what I felt bad about, etc. So naturally, there was some trust issues early on, but it seemed as though we moved on.\n\nRecently, a lot has been going on in our lives. Sick parents, parents visiting, and I got arrested and had to spend the night in jail. While it wasn't a huge deal, I'll be losing my license for a month. \n\nThere was an enormous amount of pressure on her and she felt alone for a while, about a week by her accounts. Last week, I did some snooping (yep, never good) and found a couple messages to an ex that really hurt, not only because it was explicit about sex but because he said something about me sexually not fulfilling her and I felt like she didn't stand up for me. \n\nAnyways, we talked about it and she cried and explained that the stress had made her feel lonely and I get that. I am just having a hard time moving on past this, even though I know it was just some messages. \n\nI feel like a baby not getting over this... Any advice?", "summary": "gf is stressed, reached out to ex for attention, didn't stand up for me and now I am having a hard time getting over it."}
{"id": "t3_2kejx9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "tifu by stopping a fight on the subway", "post": "This was yesterday.  I got on the Metro rail in downtown LA headed towards north Hollywood. I found a seat in the back.  Soon after the train left the station a commotion began near the middle of the train car.  A little old man in a suit was standing and yelling (in what I think was Farsi) at a middle aged guy who looked like a pimp who was sitting down.  He was wearing a lot of gold &  sunglasses & a flashy shirt.  Imagine the old man from 'Up' yelling at Samuel L. Jackson.  The pitch of the conflict was starting to rise and I sprung into action.  I immediately stood and walked directly to where the confrontation was taking place (I'm a big guy).  As I walked through the train car, I noticed a kid had begun filming the men on his phone.  When I got there, I stood across the train car from the two men and just stared past them and did nothing.  They both saw me approach and expected me to do something. I did nothing, but my presence was known.  The old man was seething and muttering under his breath.  The pimp looking guy was smiling.   After a moment, I looked the old man in the eye, and then the pimp guy.  The argument stopped and we all stayed there in silence as people came on and off the train, until the last stop.  It was kind of awkward and I wished one of them would move.  At the last stop I moved across the train to make sure they got off before I did.  In my head I was a train Marshall.  The old man said one more thing to the guy as he exited and then they walked to opposite sides of the station.  Fight averted.  This is in TIFU because that would have been a great video and I stopped it from happening.", "summary": "TIFU by stopping a fight on the subway because the 'old man vs middle aged pimp' fight would have made a great video]"}
{"id": "t3_1gb5uu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend of 2 years [17/F] is spending time with a guy who likes her/she used to like (not sure if she still does). Am I [17/M] wrong in being angry/jealous?", "post": "Recently (this past month), my girlfriend has been hanging out a bit with a guy who tried to ask her out earlier this year.  They have been friends for as long as her and I have been dating, and I found out in late-2011 that she had a bit of a crush on him.  I expressed how that made me feel a bit uncomfortable in a calm way at that time and she understood.  They didn't talk quite as much and that made me feel a bit better.  \n\nFast forward to earlier this month, they are both in our school's choir program and went on a field trip to sing.  It went until later in the day, and the guy offered my girlfriend a ride home.  Since he had tried to ask her out earlier this year, that made me feel a bit uncomfortable, but I let it slide.  They went to the movies, and he paid for the both of them before she was home, which added to the jealousy a bit.  \n\nYesterday was the last day of our school year, and she told me that she was going to the guy's house to watch some old movie.  I told her I felt it was inappropriate, and we then went back and forth a bit before she called me stupid.  Childishly enough, I just shouted the insult back at her.  She stormed off, and we haven't spoken since.  I'm not sure what to do; we've been together a long time and I feel very strongly for her, but knowing her, this kind of event will happen many times throughout this summer.  I don't know if I can trust her, and I kind of want to break it off at this point.  I'd really like some outside opinions on this matter.  I understand this may sound a bit childish, but I could really use advice.", "summary": "GF is hanging out with guy who has a crush on her, she will be hanging out at his house a bunch this summer.  Am I wrong in being angry and jealous? Should I break it off?"}
{"id": "t3_2dj0js", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] have been having trouble trusting my girlfriend [18F] of almost 6 months at night time.", "post": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now. During the day, I completely trust her because she's usually always with me. But once it gets to the night time, I always have this thought that she's going to sneak out to a party or some where without telling me.\n\nThe reason why I feel like I dont trust her at night is because I've caught her going out at night a few times during these past months without telling me. I would usually find out by seeing Instagram posts she was tagged in or her friends I follow post some pics with her in them.\n\nI've actually already told her that I want her to tell me when she goes out at night so I at least know. She's agreed to do so, but I caught her once again after telling her to tell me.\n\nWhat should I do? Should I speak to her about my trust issues that come alive at the night time or just trust her that she'll tell me?", "summary": "I get trust issues at night because my girlfriend has gone out in the past without telling me when I've told her to tell me. I find out when she goes out by Instagram and twitter posts. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_153moy", "subreddit": "BreakUps", "title": "Reality check", "post": "Me boy 21 here girl 20 \n\nBeen together for 4 years now , the first year at age 17 we both cheated on each other , then one year went good , then one year in the army where we hade a long distance relationship (skype) , she broke up with me 2 times that year over the phone. then i came back and lived at here parents house for six months and then moved out in a shitty apartment on a farm cuz she got here horses there and i hate the place now after moving here and it has now gon six months , and in that last year she has broken up with me 5 times.\n\n but when she breaks up with me it goes like this every time , she gets mad , breaks up , i say ok , then she realise that she actually CAN lose me and begin to sweet talk , play the i'm sick card,talk about how its going to be different and then have sex.\n\nthe girl is cool , she smokes weed with me , she love to game , and is cind of nerdy , cute and fucks like a god. But am very atheist like and she is down with healing and shit. She is bad as fuck with economy , don't have a real job , and is completely incapebal of cleaning up after here. \n\nbut im so so tired of the breaking up stuff and now i have had enough , but i dont have the balls to say \"i want to break up\" .Are really scared of what to do next , so much history with here family , where can i move? , how is it being single?\n\n am i right ending this??", "summary": "! Me M21 GF20 , 4 years rollercoaster relationship , am i right ending it?"}
{"id": "t3_2wr0fp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Marital Advice/Help?", "post": "Mighty users and smartasses of reddit, I need some help from you.\n\nMy wife of 3 years recently was...sexting, for lack of better term with one of her exes from 8th grade and somehow \"explaining\" to one of her friends that was a chick how to talk dirty to her husband.  Problem was, she was running a scenario involving the words tight, wet pussy, raging hard on, etc.\n\nI broke her phone in half after leaving numerous voice mails, had no idea where these people lived or they'd be broken as well.  Couple weeks go by, I decide to try and trust her a bit and got ger another phone.  All was well, until I decided to put a little sms tracker on her phone.\n\nShe was telling another person she loved them.  One of her \"female\" friends.  I pointed a loaded glock 20 at her twice and almost shot myself.  I'm still hating myself.\n\nIs this girl worth it?  She is literally my first with everything; dating, sex, kids, moving to a couple different towns.  She helped me expand all my views, made me a stronger, more open person.  I have two kids with her, a 22 month old and a 7 month old.  I work and risk my life countless times working in an underground coal mine just to make a bunch of money to buy clothes, food, and spoil her and the kids, and she just kinda sits around all day, asking me to do extremely menial things so she doesn't have to.", "summary": "I really need some help and advice with a lazy, slightly unfaithful spouse.  Please."}
{"id": "t3_27wdjd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (22F) never told my GF(24F) that I love her (I do) and she broke up with me this morning", "post": "We were together for 3 months and had problems for a bulk of it (mostly of my causing, ex. I couldn't orgasm, I lived with my ex, I have emotional issues). I used to spend the night at her house 3/4 times a week, and talk constantly. That changed a couple of weeks ago, last night I straight asked her if she was done with me, and this morning she said that she\n\n \"thought it would be better for both of us if we didn't sleep together anymore, but she still wanted to talk/be friends, but it was fine if I couldn't.\" \n\n1. Should I tell her that I love her? I didn't because whenever I wanted to it would have been horrible timing, which now seems incredibly foolish. I think I would regret not telling her. \n\n2. Do you think she actually wants to still be friends?", "summary": "GF of 3m broke up with me, said she still wants to be friends. Does she actually? Should I tell her I love her since I never got the chance?"}
{"id": "t3_53qmda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My LDR four month girlfriend [21] has told me [22] she is short on money to buy tea to detox herself for her upcoming job interview. Should I send her money?", "post": "We live 200 miles away and she has a drug test coming up for a good job, I've never given her money. Should I help her out with this? A little insight in the relationship is that she's never asked me for money, we at least see each other two periods of time during the month and when we started dating we where in the same town.\n\nHer family is doing worse then her so they are not an option for her to get help from.\n\nAny thoughts?", "summary": "LDR GF needs money to pass drug test for upcoming job. I've never sent her money before."}
{"id": "t3_14dg2j", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Is it possible for my fiance to change the status of his B-1 visa to a green card if we get married? (x-posted)", "post": "My fiance and I have been together since last spring. He spent 3 months here using the visa waiver program, then after a month of being apart, I went to Australia for 10 months with a work and holiday visa. We came back here so I could spend some time with my family and get a job, because my work visa in Australia ran out and I obviously need income.\n\nHe applied for a B-1 visa while we were in Australia and got it (he does a lot of work that require attendance at certain events in the US) but we've since decided to stay here permanently. Is there a way to change the status of a B-1 visa to a green card? Someone online said an I-130 or something would be the application we would use, but I'm not sure and don't want to spend $1000+ on an application that wouldn't be applicable, and all of the legal jargon is confusing. I-130 is for relatives, is a husband a relative? Is a fiance? We're fine with getting married now, since we've been planning on it for a year or so anyway.\n\nThanks in advance for any help you provide!", "summary": "Want to change the status of my fiance's visa from a B-1 to a green card. Need help figuring out how to do so."}
{"id": "t3_2n756i", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [28 F] 1 year 1 month, Indian couple who met at work and are very serious...", "post": "So, I am from India and having an older girlfriend is a bit of a taboo. When my parents found out they were upset...and that is an understatement. The relationship was only 7 months old, but we were serious even then. Things cooled down, and now my parents are okay. \n\nI met her mom by accident at her house when I was visiting. She talked about her concern for her daughter. How she wants her daughter to be married soon, and that I should do it within a year if I want to be with her. I had already told my gf that it wasn't going to happen before 2-3 years as I want to establish myself a little financially before I take the plunge. She seemed to understand. She's been okay with the idea. \n\nHowever she has been unsatisfied on the work front for a few months now. I too suffered from depression about 4 months ago and  am still recovering. She's going to quit her job after July next year and explore different jobs for a year. She has saved up enough to do that. I fully approve of her plan since I myself will be exploring different avenues next year. \n\nShe's gone through a strange turn of attitude towards the relationship of late though. She wants to get married next year or early 2016. She says that this is non-negotiable. I don't want to be married this soon. I feel I need to work a little more since I only graduated in 2013. I feel I haven't worked enough, not been on my own enough. \n\nShe had gone through a break up after a 4.5 year long relationship with her ex. 4 months before she was to get married, the guy who always knew she had diabetes told his parents and they immediately cancelled the wedding. She didn't take it well, and has become extremely insecure. That's the theme of our relationship too. She's been very insecure when I've constantly tried to reassure her that I'm serious. \n\nI don't want to get married next year but nor do I want to give up on this relationship. Please advice.", "summary": "Serious relationship of 1 year with 4 years older gf. Gf wants to get married next year, I don't. Help!"}
{"id": "t3_1uyb1a", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling a customer to be careful of heatstroke.", "post": "As some of you may know, today in Perth (Western Australia) the temperature reached about 44 degrees (111.2 farenheit, for the Yanks) - which is strangely late for a hot January day. Some people were at the beach, some were staying at home in their luxurious air conditioning, some were even frying eggs in the sun. I, however was at work, slaving away at a small corner shop counting down the hours until I would be free from this retched slavery.\n\nThe clock rolls on to about 2 o'clock, nearing the expected time for the temperature to peak at 44. Customers were few and far between, when a lovely old lady walks in and says hello. I respond in kind, and await her purchase. She waddles up to the counter, places down $2.50 and asks for a paper, before make a quick comment about the heat. I respond \"Yeah it's going to be bloody hot soon, better stick to the shade so you don't get heatstroke.\"\n\nShe turns towards me. A smirk crawls across her face. Well...\n\nHalf of it, anyway.", "summary": "Stroke victims aren't worried about heatstroke."}
{"id": "t3_22tkq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I[23 M] want to sleep with my [20 F] ex gf. dated for slightly under 2 years", "post": "So, my ex and I broke up, ostensibly, Jan 1st.  We have been on no contact for almost 8 weeks now. However, I really just want to sleep with her.\n\nA little back story. We were always a volatile couple. I was controlling, she was abusive. I suppose it sounds worse than it was. Perhaps I'm wearing rose colored glasses. \n\nI went out of the country for the new year, and when I came back, she wanted to end the relationship. After a pleading portion on my end, we had a big fight and it was over. She blocked my number. No contact began.\n\nHowever, a month before I left she got a tattoo, symbolizing me, on her wedding ring finger.\n\n(my name is a common noun, so, it was fairly easy to transfer that in to tattoo form. think 'Cloud' or ' River')\n\nAlthough, she was very shady throughout our relationship involving other guys. And to be honest, I was equally as shady when it came to other girls.\n\nOn Valentines day (we were broken up at this point), I dropped off some chocolate at her house, along with all of the old letters she wrote me. She sent me a text saying \"Thank you, Really.\" before she realized I had included all of her letters. To which she sent another text saying something along the lines of how angry she was, and just to throw away the letters.\n\nI also, stalk her tumblr. Because I'm lovelorn. She constantly posts sad song lyrics, almost always involving regretting a breakup. \n\nHOWEVER. She is all I can think about. and even on a more primal level, I really just want to fuck her. For instance. that is what I want right now.\n\nCall me shallow, but I would love nothing more than to sex her. Well, tbh, after typing all of this, perhaps I want more than that. \n\nBut for now, I'm sticking with sex. I really want to sex her.", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_2zy7ra", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by having a belt", "post": "I'm on my phone so I'm sorry for any formatting/grammar mistakes. So this actually happened minutes ago. Some background,My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year and a half and we have no problem play fighting or anything like that. \n             It started off, she was helping me fold clothes and put them away, and we started playing and messing around. She knows I like being whipped and reaches for it. It being my belt. She winds this motherfucker up and unloads on my back. I went along with it and she stopped after a few hits. Me, figuring that she was done, started picking up and folding laundry. That's when I make the mistake of bending over, and her attempt to whip my ass goes a few inches south, and she whipped my ballsack. She whipped it with the might of Indiana Jones on steroids. I am now sitting in the bathroom, icing my balls, and waiting for \"I accidentally slave whipped your ballsack\" sex.", "summary": "Was having fun, got my ballsack leather smacked. "}
{"id": "t3_3gv2y0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [20M] got hurt by girl [19F] and it's really gotten to me more than I thought it would", "post": "I'll try to be brief. I rarely date. I have a decent amount of confidence and I believe I could date more than I do, but I just don't. Third year in university and finally pursue a girl I met, let's call her Steph. Things were going well, flirting early on, a few solid dates. Things continue, flirting and making it apparent there are feelings. Spend a weekend together, more or less. Come to find out she says she has been dating guys all summer (whatever that means) and that she doesn't want a relationship. I understand that, to an extent. But am I wrong in being hurt? She said things like her liking me and spending time with me and we did the usual stuff as things progressed: ie held hands etc. i know this probably sounds juvenile for someone my age but this really rocked me and I can't shake the feelin (not a very emotional person normally). I guess I'm just looking for any friendly words on what to do from here", "summary": "dating a girl, apparently were not dating, now what?"}
{"id": "t3_2yio5p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19 M] was planning on moving in with my friend [20 F] of a couple years and her boyfriend, but another mutual friend [19M] has asked me to move in with him.", "post": "We're all in university, and looking for places to live for our third year.  Originally I was going to move in with my friend(who I'll further refer to as Jen) and her boyfriend, both because we're close and thought it would work, but also in part because everyone else seemed to already have roommates for next year, and I felt I was out of options.  \n\nJust today though a  mutual friend of ours (we'll call him Sam) asked me to move in with him and his current roommate, and now I'm not sure what to do. On one hand Jen and I are close friends, and I get along fine with her boyfriend as well.  on the other hand Sam asked me to move in with him, he already has a place in mind which is in a perfect location, and I was always a bit uncomfortable with the idea of being the '3rd wheel' so to speak.  Sam doesn't know I've been looking for places with Jen, he just knows I'm looking for a place for next year.\n\nI don't really want to ditch Jen, although I'm starting to lean that way, and more importantly if I do move in with Sam instead I don't know how to tell her.  any advice helps guys.", "summary": "was gonna live with a friend and her boyfriend, until another male friend asked me to move in with him instead. who do you guys think I should go with, And how do I her if I do go the other way?"}
{"id": "t3_17pupz", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the strangest question you've been asked that you answered honestly?", "post": "My strangest question actually wasn't that strange, yet somehow the circumstances made it weird. \n\nI was babysitting a four year old boy who asked me what happened when you die. At this moment I was very surprised because I didn't expect a four year old asking this question. I decided to answer him as honestly and openly as I could, of course in terms that he was able to understand. We sat there talking half an hour about this, I told him that no one actually knows what happens, that some people believe in a form of afterlife while other people don't, that he doesn't need to be afraid because it happens to everyone eventually and that it's an inevitable consequence of living.\n\nI was very surprised how he reacted to this, he seemed happy and he slept well. Somehow it still is strange that he asked, though... But I was glad to answer him as honestly as I could.", "summary": "A four year old boy asked me about death and I answered honestly. When did you receive strange questions (maybe even normal questions in strange situations) that you answered faithfully to?"}
{"id": "t3_2k4cwy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by leaning forward on a public toilet.", "post": "I had eaten a hearty McDonalds breakfast earlier with two cups of coffee, and the urge to drop the kids off at the pool hit me in the middle of a Sams Club.  I raced to the restroom, and secured the cleanest stall available. After a few reassurance wipes of the toilet seat I sat down. Instantly, the gates of hell opened from my ass as I plastered the entire bowl. Depleted, I commenced to wiping, and used the last of the TP in my stall on the last swipe. \n\nThen in my haste I went to put my phone back into my pocket which was around my feet, and had to lean forward about three inches from my shitting posture. The douchebag sensor in the toilet thought that I left, and started to flush with a force equivalent to opening a hydrant. The slurry had no chance of staying in the bowl, and covered most of my cheeks. I started to swear loudly, and curse my life. There was a constant flow of people in and out of the restroom, so the ol' stall switch was not possible. I sat there for a minute gathering my thoughts on how to remedy the situation. I had nothing. \n\nOut of nowhere a guardian angel, the GGG in the next stall, slipped a brand new roll under the partition. I thanked him, and finished the deed. Never again will I shit in public.", "summary": "explosive flushing toilet spattered   poo juice on me in a public restroom."}
{"id": "t3_37kugl", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (25F) with my sister(27F) and my parents(56 M/F) upset about my relocation to CA.", "post": "My partner and I have been given a wonderful opportunity from his aunt.  She is going to let us live rent free with her for a few months in CA until we can find a job in our desired fields.  Him and I currently have interviews with a few companies and we are both very excited.\n\nThe problem is that I told my sister, and she FREAKED OUT.  She started crying and asking me not to leave, and has been passive aggressively sending me texts since last evening.  I'm not quite sure what her angle is...Growing up, whenever she didn't get her way she would kind of steam roll you and then come back crying and asking for forgiveness.  I'm just not sure why she cares, if the roles were reversed I'd be extremely happy for her even though I'd know I'd miss her and I wouldn't try to get in the way of that.\n\nUnfortunately, I know my parents are going to have a similar, if not worse reaction.  My mother is going to be upset and tell me how sad she is, while my dad will make passive aggressive comments about how dangerous CA is and how I will never see them again.  I once had a job interview in Boston, and they treated it like it was the end of the world.  My question is, reddit, how do I deal with this?  I'm taking my SO's advice and I'm just going to repeat to everyone that this is a decision for me that will improve my life that I'm very excited about and that I will talk to them often and that I'll also offer to set up Skype on their computer so we can do that too.  But I know it's going to take a huge emotional toll on me, and I'm already under a lot of stress because I'm leaving a job that's been pretty awful.  So, again, how do I deal? Thanks for the help everyone...", "summary": "How do I deal with my family going nuclear and acting passive aggressive about my decision to relocate to CA?"}
{"id": "t3_2u275e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can i[19M] be certaint of a girl's[16F] feelings towards me?", "post": "First of all i am sorry if this isn't the right subreddit to post this to,if it's not then just tell me and i'll delete the post righ away.\n\nThere's this girl i've been texting to for a few months,we skyped,talked on the phone for countless hours we text eachother everyday until sunset and stuff like that.\n\nWe call eachother cute names like ''my love'' ''my angel'' stuff like that she constantly tells me that she loves me and i tell her all the time that i love her too,she always tells me that she miss me and that she want to be in my arms,she always says ''i'm yours''(even though i never know how to respond to that),she wants me to be her first and that she'd love me even with my body (i have a big problem with my physical appeareance)\n\ni really love her,still we haven't met,i'm supposed to go meet her on the 14th of february,you know for valentine's day  and i'll bring her a rose and her favorite chocolate..but for some reason i'm unsure about her feelings..\n\nor maybe that's not it but there's definetly something weird about all this and i can't put my finger on it..i have difficulties about trusting people,i try my best to trust her.\n\nshe says i'm the one she loves,yet sometime she shows herself to old guys and i don't know how to react..sorry if this post make no sense at all..", "summary": "met this girl online a few months ago,been texting and saying cute stuff to eachothers,want to meet her but unsure about her feelings,or maybe that's not it,what do i do?"}
{"id": "t3_1vjbw0", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my adult brother is very obese. As a family we are very concerned about his health. My mum cries often. We have tried to talk to him in the past but he blocks us out of his life for a few weeks and remains in stubborn silence. How can we get through to him that we want him to be healthy?", "post": "More\n\nWe don't want him to be thin to be more attractive or so that we will love him more, but we are convinced that he will be the first of us to die, beating even our parents.\n\nHe has been fat for twenty years, living alone and creating a now very long-term habit of unhealthy food and no exercise. \n\nHe doesn't seem depressed or unhappy, but I don't kid myself into thinking that he is satisfied with his life.\n\nMy mother has tried offering him every surgery, program, theraphy, etc, known to man with all expenses paid. My dad has done the same. One drunken night I told him he would get diabetes, lose a foot, go blind, etc, by message.\n\nWe walk on egg shells so as not to hurt him and not to push him away from us, but I feel we need to do everything we can to help him lose the weight (though I have no idea if he is even trying).", "summary": "Reddit, how do you help a very stubborn, private adult begin to lose weight when mentioning the very subject to him is greeted by a poker faced silence?"}
{"id": "t3_ob7qp", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "Advice on graduate school?", "post": "**(Let me know if there's a better subreddit for this or if it has been profusely addressed before. I have been browsing this subreddit for a while and have not come across it.)**\n\nI am 23, recently financially independent, with a degree in Linguistics that by itself doesn't do much, but coupled with a Master's could be quite useful. However, getting my masters would put me about $40,000 in the hole. I just started off, am NOT currently in debt, and don't really want to start my financially independent life by going in debt. \nWhen I went to undergrad, my dad paid for everything and I didn't have to worry about financial aid, so I have no idea how it works and have never dealt with the system. My question(s) is/are:\n\n1. I know some people get living stipends and tuition wavers for graduate school. How common is this? Have you done so before?\n2. Would you recommend going to graduate school? Right now I am making $23,000 a year and with a degree in speech language pathology could be making significantly more (and it's a field I'm interested in.)\n\nBasically (", "summary": "), as someone who used to be all sheltered and whatnot, I am asking for help from those of you who have dealt with the woes of not having the money for school, but wanting to go anyway."}
{"id": "t3_4184e5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Despite knowing how I feel for [18F] I[22M] don't know what to do or how to approach this situation.", "post": "I met this girl who is actually amazing in every way. I haven't met anyone like her ever and I don't just mean her perfect appearance. I always tell her that even her personality is amazing and one of the greatest I've see. \n\nAnyways, I feel so in love with her even though I'm sure it's not love since I'm dumb, but I don't know how to deal with this. I don't want to stop talking to her at all because we get along so well and apparently I'm the only person she really talks to because \"there's nothing to talk about with other people\" and she's the only person I respond to without thinking as much. \n\nMy problem is she doesn't want to date anyone right now and feels like it might be forever but she's still young. I don't know what to do. I can just stay hurt and keep her in my life until she decides otherwise or I can cut this right now and feel depressed for a while (which I already feel a toll from).", "summary": "I like this girl a lot and I dont know if I should end our friendship based off her not wanting to date anyone"}
{"id": "t3_1a157z", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "Possibly pregnant, would like input on options. [m18] [f17]", "post": "So I screwed up big time and had unprotected sex with a girl from out of town. She was in the area and we've been texting/calling pretty frequently for the last two months. Anyways, we did the deed without any birth control. I pulled out but I'm not sure if it was in time, so the next day we got her some Next Choice and she took the first dose 10 hours after we did it, then took the second dose 12 hours later. I think our chances that she isn't pregnant are decent, but I'd like some input on options if she is because I can't really talk about it with anyone. She's religious so abortion isn't an option. She's already attending college but if she's pregnant that will really throw a wrench in the works. I'm currently in my last semester of high school and have plans to begin college in the fall. I don't think this is possible for someone who has a child to raise. Are there any military options for me? I have a decent ASVAB score.", "summary": "(stupidly) Had unprotected sex. Took Next Choice. Still worried, I want advice on options if she is pregnant. Determined to make the best of whatever situation ends up happening"}
{"id": "t3_54ukjy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26M] with my long distance girlfriend [22F] 2 years, breakup, feeling Annihilated", "post": "Guys, I don't know what to say exactly. 2 years long distance relationship. I chose her to be my most trusted person, I consciously developed 100% openess with her. She was actually my first girlfriend. And it turned out she was cheating on me for more than 1 month and started another relationship without telling me (yesterday she told this herself). I've not slept for more than 24 hours, feeling devastated. This night was neverending hell. Not much emotions left. I thought I am so developed, mindful and conscious. But still suffering deeply because of break up. I also noticed that now I mostly try not to avoid suffering, as I would do several years ago, but to fully let myself feel it, be conscious of all the pain and let it be. \n\nThis couple of days are probably worst in my life. Still, after more than 24 hours, the emotional pain is very sharp and strong. And because I cannot sleep or eat now, I also feel really bad physically. Can you suggest me anything in this situation?", "summary": "Feeling totally devastated and incredible suffering after breakup. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_278bb6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my freind[18F]: Should I still ask her to date me with college around the corner?", "post": "Hi guys, little bit new to reddit and this side of it so let me know if I did something wrong with my post.\n\nA little info about us:\nWe both just graduated high school, she is going out of state, I'm staying in state. I met her because she was one of my mom's best students at her school. Lost touch for about two months then reconnected on her accord, went out a few times, texted a lot, decided we would go to prom together. \n\nA little info on me: I enjoy focusing on fitness and am a pretty active person overall, but I am a nerd in terms of gaming and movies/tv etc. I have never kissed a girl before (you know where that goes).\n\nA little info on her: Studious (valedictorian of her school), kind to everyone, hard to read (in terms of feelings). I'm unsure about how strong her feelings are for me. I am usually the one to ask her if she wants to do something. Not sure if she has dated anyone in the past.\n\nHere's the catch: She has already told me that she does not want to date anyone before college, but she is the first person  I have had strong feelings for in the past couple of years. College for us starts in August.", "summary": "Should I still ask her to date me with the chance of rejection and losing her freindship forever or should I wait until next year when everybody is settled in and perhaps feelings have changed?"}
{"id": "t3_1mnaqj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Why are vaccines seen as such a black and white issue when, all bullshit aside, there is reason for healthy skepticism?", "post": "The autism link is bullshit. The evidence was falsified to begin with, Jenny McCarthy is an idiot, etc, etc. Vaccines have also, on the whole, been an enormous boon to the health of humanity, saving more lives than anything else ever (probably). The evidence here is overwhelming.\n\nAnd yet, the \"vaccines are good and everyone should them\" mentality is too simplistic. The issue has many angles, and in a community that often engages in exploring and exposing the more hidden side of things I am consistently surprised by the vociferous down-voting and down-shouting of any opinion that questions the aggressive vaccine schedule recommended by the CDC.\n\nThe fact is, every medication--vaccines included--carries a real set of risks. Medications are, or should be, given as the least-bad alternative: the risks associated with giving the medicine are outweighed by the rewards of giving the medicine. Each vaccine has its own risk/reward profile, and for that reason each warrants individual consideration. The CDC has given this consideration to the vaccines that are on (and not on) the recommended schedule, but that doesn't mean all medical professionals are in agreement regarding the schedule or even the need for all vaccines, nor does it mean that all individuals should refrain from individually investigating each vaccine should they so desire.\n\nThere are vested interests in the vaccination schedule, and the CDC is heavily lobbied by the pharmaceutical industry that produces the vaccines we all pay for through our private insurance carriers. This does not necessarily mean that we are having vaccines pushed on us that we don't really need, potentially at risk to our health (however minimal that risk may be), but the incentive is definitely there. Big companies make big money with a more aggressive vaccination schedule. This is as indisputable as is the evidence that vaccines do not cause autism.\n\nSo why not some actual skeptical discussion instead of the blind faith attached to the recommended vaccine schedule? Why not a little more critical thinking and consideration?", "summary": "There are valid reasons to question the recommended vaccine schedule in the US. Why does the majority of reddit fail to even consider them?"}
{"id": "t3_1me91h", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF (18F) of mine (17M) repeatedly having doubts about loving me. (2 year relationship)", "post": "My girlfriend (18F) has had insecurities about whether she loved me (17M) for 4 times in our almost-2-year-relationship (after 6, 11, 14 and 21 months of relationship), while I never had serious doubts about loving her.\n\nThe first 2 times she was unsure, she just told me that she didn't know whether she actually felt anything, nor whether what she felt was love, and that she had to think about it. After some days however, those doubts resolved.\n\nThe last 2 times she had such doubts, she spontaneously broke up with me for those reasons, but revoked it within 24 hours.\n\nEvery time her doubts were gone, she told me that she now knew that she really loved me, that she didn't really understand why she keeps doing that and that she was really sorry for causing me so much worries.\nI think that those things are actually heavier and more difficult for her than they are for me, since she really gets extremely sad, almost desperate, afterwards.\n\nTherefore, i never really was angry at her afterwards, but that doesn't change the fact that i don't know how long or how often i can / want to be part of this.\n\nNow my question is, are those repeating doubts common, do they stop after some time and is this something i can consider normal;\nOr should i probably overthink this whole relationship?", "summary": "GF (18F) having repeating doubts about loving me (17M), causing 2 almost-breakups and 2 breakups revoked shortly afterwards. i'm slowly getting sick of it and wondering whether this is probably common and stops after some time."}
{"id": "t3_2of9g9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by showing my mom the music video of \"I know I'm not the only one\"", "post": "If you haven't seen the video it is about a guy cheating on his wife. I just heard the song on the radio and liked it and my mom was on the computer so I proceeded to show her. About half way through she started crying and I asked what was wrong and then she just left the room. Five minutes later she is on the phone with my dad (he was at work in another city) yelling at him about him cheating on her a couple of years ago. I'm assuming the video reminded her of what he did, and it just sparked some anger in her. Don't get me wrong she definitely has every right too.", "summary": "I showed my mom a video that resulted in an argument about cheating."}
{"id": "t3_4mvaop", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "[Help] Dog barking at ghosts - can she be scared of woodland animals?", "post": "Three days ago, me and my 9 months old rescue pit-lab mix girl moved to a chalet in the middle of the woods, 1000m. altitude, Eastern Europe. Before, she's lived for two months with me in lowland big city suburbs. She used to be really quiet, never barking at neighbors, which was a big surprise, as my last dog was a barker. However, recently she'll often bark when she hears the neighbors outside. It's annoying, but I can usually calm her down by doing some mental training. So, that's not what I want to talk about.\n\nMy main issue is this: since we moved to the cabin/chalet (for health reasons - I had to escape grass pollen), she barks much more often. Tonight, she went into a long barking fit, while there was literally nothing to bark at - there are big glass windows through which she can see outside, but there were no people or animals visible. I even closed the curtains, but it didn't stop her. Also, no cars went by. \n\nShe's not bored, or I don't think she is - when at home, she's usually asleep from 8 p.m. until morning. Also, we go out often, for long walks. Right now, she's lying on the floor and, between naps, occasionally barks aloud without even lifting her head. \nAnother thing - I took her for a walk at night and she seemed very excited, but not in a good way. Can she be afraid of the woodland creatures? I wouldn't be surprised - we saw a deer cross the road on our walk, as well as some foxes. \n\nBut it still amazes me - could she smell or hear them while inside the house, with windows closed?\n\nAnyway - she seems to be prone to being afraid of things. Today, on a walk, she saw a rock, which, I guess, she thought was some animal, and didn't want to go past it. I had to throw it away for her to continue walking. \n\nMy question is: did you encounter something similar in a dog? Is it normal?", "summary": "Dog barks at nonexistent threats indoors."}
{"id": "t3_kk357", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do people get over embarrassment about bodily functions?", "post": "21F, my boyfriend is 22, dating for a year and a half.\n\nOne of the things that makes me most self conscious are bodily functions, particularly the ones related to the colon. I've always been overweight and somehow I relate this to colon problems 'cause I think it makes me really gross farting fatty or something. I have a terribly sensitive colon, and almost anything makes it upset. Most of the time, it's just gas, but it's a lot of it, especially in the night. Lately, I've been sleeping over at my boyfriend's, and you probably can guess where this is going. Sometimes I can't sleep at all for hours because of the effort I put into not letting one rip. When I go to the toilet, even if it's only peeing, and a fart comes out, I feel like I want the toilet to swallow me right up.\n\nTo make things worse, I have the most proper boyfriend I could find. He won't even shower with me 'cause he's too shy about... something, I still haven't even figured it out, maybe washing his genitals I figure. The rest of our relationship is beautiful though, we get along really well, we're very sincere to each other and we even have a healthy and active sex life.\n\nI actually think this is pretty stupid, but it's really bringing me down. I've been getting real serious about this guy, thinking about living together long-term and all, and it just drives me crazy thinking about how I will work around this stuff. So, how do I talk to him about this? How should I act? Won't it be terribly awkward to be sitting there playing games and just... farting? This is really driving me crazy.", "summary": "I have a farting problem, but my boyfriend is too proper and I'm too shy about it. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_4bst4l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24F] with my BF [26 M] 2 years, I don't know if I kissed someone else", "post": "Hey everyone, I'm having a hard time and need some advice on what to do. I started dating my boyfriend about 2 years ago. We have a steady relationship and we're very happy.\n\nEarly in the relationship, I went to my friends cousin's house to hang out. My bf didn't come. We were all hanging out and drinking and another of my friend's cousins who I had kissed a few years back showed up. \n\nI got really drunk. The cousin was trying really hard to sleep with me, I kept saying no and he knew I had a boyfriend. \n\nEventually I blacked out. I found out in the morning that the guy kept trying to get me to sleep in his bed with him which I refused (thank god). However someone told me that i was leaning against him on the couch and she wasnt sure but he may have been kissing my neck.\n\nI felt absolutely disgusted after I found this out. I had a huge talk with my friend and she thought it was best for me not to mention it to my boyfriend because it was a new relationship and I had been adamant that I didn't want to hook up with him. I didn't say anything to him.\n\nI hadn't really thought about it much until recently. About six months ago I came to terms with the fact that I have an alcohol abuse problem. I've been sober now for three months. I've been seeing things much more clearly now and this event is really starting to bother me. \n\nI know nothing like this will ever happen again, because I am confronting my problem, and I'll never let myself be in that state again. I can't. \n\nMy question is, do I talk about this with my boyfriend or will it cause too much unwarranted pain now that it's been so long?", "summary": "Got too drunk, might have kissed someone else. After addressing alcoholism I don't know whether I should tell my bf."}
{"id": "t3_1xzuww", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] of 3 years. Bit of a weird one - too content?", "post": "Hey guys. This is a bit of a strange question but I feel almost too content in my relationship. My boyfriend and I get on really well, we're totally compatible sexually, emotionally, morally and intellectually. We're very comfortable with each other. We've been living together for 5 months now and it's been great. We've never fought - but have sat down and had very emotional conversations about our relationship before (when either of us has breached the other's trust etc).\n\nMy problem is - I feel like this relationship is too good to be true. He's my first boyfriend and we're both so young. I'm very cynical that it's just going to end one day and I shouldn't put too much faith into it. We're not still in the 'honeymoon period', I think. I grew up without parents so I really have no idea what makes a good relationship and am very often naive about things.\n\nDo I sound crazy or am I just young and/or dumb?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_4ycv5e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [30M] suffers from chronic pain/illness & is sometimes emotionally abusive to me [25F]", "post": "My boyfriend suffers from chronic pain due to an error they made having open heart surgery as a child. I can understand the correlation between chronic pain and depression, mood swings, ptsd. While he doesn't always take it out on me, sometimes he will have moments of being really negative, emotionally abusive, or just generally acting like a entitled selfish a**hole demanding things from me. \n\nI feel bad knowing that his condition makes him act this way. At the same time I do not think I have a thick skin to deal with it. Of course he always feels bad after but it takes a toll on our relationship\n\nOtherwise, he treats me amazing and truly does love me.", "summary": "Should I look past the emotionally abusive moments due to my boyfriends chronic pain condition?"}
{"id": "t3_3vw2mo", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "Not supposed to work due to illness, and I feel guilty about it.", "post": "I was diagnosed with mono a couple weeks ago, and have been out of work for those two weeks except for one day I was feeling fine. I work in a salon, which is an active and draining work day as I spend 95% of time there on my feet. One of the things with mono is that you get very fatigued and lethargic and my doctors have recommended that I don't push myself. Doing this job 9 hours straight with only 30 minutes for a break would be pushing myself, I just feel so terrible and guilty that I won't be working. Especially because right now I don't have a lot of money, and selfish as it sounds tips are a lot better around Christmas so I'll be missing out on that. \n\nMy job is very important to me and I'm so torn. My doctor's note says that any absences until January 7th should be excused. The first day of work I missed was 11/28. That's over a month. While it is nice that I won't have to work Christmas eve and the day after Christmas, as well as New Year's Eve and the day after New Year's, I'm not sure if its worth being out of the money. \n\nMy bosses are very understanding and know that it's important for me to rest so I can get better, but I can't help feeling like I'm disappointing them by not being able to work. I also feel like I'm letting them down by not being able to work when its so busy. \n\nOverall I just feel terrible about this whole thing. I don't want to push myself and prolong my illness/make it worse, but I just feel so guilty not being there and working. I'm thinking maybe I could talk to them about putting a limit on my shifts, for example I can work 4 hours on my work days so I can still be there to help out, still make some money, but not push myself. I don't know.", "summary": "sick with mono and have a doctors note to excuse absences from work until 1/7/16. Feel guilty and like I'm disappointing my bosses if I don't go, but don't want to make my mono worse by pushing myself."}
{"id": "t3_3sdoa9", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not knowing where the door unlock button was.", "post": "Long time lurker, first time poster, happened half an hour ago, yada yada.\n\nContext: We have two cars in my household, I learned how to drive in one of them, took my drive test in that one, took my mom places in that one. I've only had my license for 4 months and my mom still looks for every opportunity to tell me I did something wrong while driving. Well unfortunately, today I was driving the other car. This will be relevant later.\n\nSo I dropped my mom off at Safeway on my way to the gym today, and was supposed to pick her up on my way home from the gym. On my way back, I saw her and drove over to let her in. And that's when I realized... I had no idea how to unlock the doors. I had never even been in a situation where I needed to unlock the doors of this car, as I usually drove alone to the gym in it. So I rolled down the window and told her I would park and find it. Took about five minutes to find, turned out to be what I thought was the window lock button. Drove back to screaming as it was quite cold out, and had an awkward drive home.", "summary": "didn't know how to work car, pissed off momsicle"}
{"id": "t3_323ctv", "subreddit": "college", "title": "Group member plagiarizing (Canada)", "post": "I'm enrolled at a Canadian school, if that makes a difference.\n\nI'm taking an online course this semester, which is heavily based on group projects, it operates off a forum to do projects. After the first project, I had to do the bulk of the work, since 2 people submitted awful work (and refused to respond to emails). I emailed the teacher asking to be switched groups, or at least let me be marked my own. She emailed me back with a \"suck it up\" kind of response.\n\nI've been kind of okay with doing all the work (I get fairly high grades) until today. One of the members \"Reginald\", responded out of blue, did some work, and submitted two of the assignment components (incomplete and little to do with the topic to boot). I didn't trust him, so I ran it through a plagiarism scanner and it showed up **52% plagiarized**.\n\nI sent him an email that I wouldn't include that unless he fixed that (Plagiarism is taken extremely seriously in Canada, I could be nicked for his laziness). So he sends me an \"edited\" assignment back, in which he simply took a Thesaurus and changed the offending words so \"his\" sentences make little sense.\n> ***ie. \"an expected 5.5 million labors\" was turned into \"a normal 5.5 million labors\".***\n\nThis is due tomorrow, and I don't know what to do. He isn't responding anymore, and while I would like to just write it all on my own and not include his name, I don't want him bringing me up that \"he did work, and I refused to include it\" charges.", "summary": "group member plagiarized his section, I called him out on it. He changed individual words using a Thesaurus, so nothing makes sense, but is no longer flagged with a plagiarism checker. Do I submit his work or not?"}
{"id": "t3_1frlo5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I (f17) get my boyfriend (m18) to stop smoking cigarettes?", "post": "We've been together for a year and 7 months now. We both drink, smoke pot, and smoke cigarettes occasionally. I take an 'everything in moderation' approach to cigarettes - If I'm at a party or in a large group and they're there, then I might have one. He used to be completely against smoking (his parents are both smokers), then he started. He told me it was only sociable smoking (like me). Now he's begun smoking them frequently, and he told me he's addicted. I really want him to stop. Having a nicotine addiction is unhealthy, expensive and hearing him cough all the time is getting really fucking annoying. How should I go about this? He told me he's not willing to quit.", "summary": "Boyfriend recently became addicted to cigarettes, I don't like it at all. How can I help him realize this isn't good?"}
{"id": "t3_3nj798", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My girlfriend doesn't want to sleep with me", "post": "and she claims it's because of the anti-depressant she started taking a few months ago. we never had any sort of issue in the past, and while I know it's a common side effect of many drugs (I'm on some myself), I can't help but feel it's something to do with me.\n\nit's not that we won't sleep together, but she never starts anything any more, and if we do have sex, it's usually painful for her. I told her how it was concerning to me and bothering me, but she kind of puts it off to the side and it's something that is seriously bothering me. if I ask, she'll rarely not be up for it, but it doesn't seem like she's enjoying it at this point, which is something that makes it not enjoyable for either of us. I've brought up my concerns and she's dismissed them as silly, but when I ask her to try and take another drug or talk to her doctor about it, it just goes nowhere.", "summary": "girlfriend doesn't want to have sex because of (perhaps) antidepressants but I feel shitty because I think it's somehow related to me. what do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1lv4da", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23M] am uneasy about the future with her [24F] but unsure if breakup is the right move (1 year relationship)", "post": "Having a daily inner battle about breaking up with her and I can neither go through with it nor cease my own feelings about uncertainty in a long term relationship with her. My reasoning: \n\nStay with her: She's a wonderful friend and companion. We share a great sense of humor. She's unbelievably generous and caring towards me. I want her to stay in my life. \n\nBreakup with her: I'm not comfortable with the intimacy anymore. I feel like I should be searching for someone else (I'm ashamed to admit I'm excited about having sex with other people) or enjoying my life alone without the pressures of a relationship. When we hang out and she or I suddenly leaves and I find myself alone, I feel at peace. \n\nThe other part of my brain then takes over and tells me that I'm being selfish and to just accept that you have a great relationship and to compromise your time for her. \"You may never meet a girl like this again, you don't want to go through the relationship process again, she is really special, she is good enough, you are never satisfied with what you have..\"\n\nI'm really looking for similar situations you have been in and possible decisions to make. I feel like it's really difficult to tell her this without offering some solution (we break up, we take a break, we compromise more..) which is why I'm just keeping this bottled up. Our relationship still makes us both really happy in a lot of ways which of course makes any depressing moves unbelievably difficult for me.", "summary": "We love each others company, she's in for the longterm and I'm not so sure."}
{"id": "t3_39rm2s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boss [30ishM] admitted to picking the lock on my [19F] work locker.", "post": "Well, one of my bosses. There's a general manager and 3 managers below him. It was one of the 3 who bragged about picking the lock to my locker one day I wasn't there in order to use my apron.\n\nI honestly don't care if someone uses my apron, but I had a pay stub with personal information and tampons. Really couldn't care less about him finding the tampons but I left them in the pockets because it's my personal apron. Some people leave their stuff, some don't. I find it easier to. But he openly bragged about how easy it was to break open. I keep my purse in there during my shift (lockers are located in break room which isn't always locked).\n\nAm I overreacting or should I report this to the general manager? To be honest, the guy is a total asshole and if he gets in trouble I really wouldn't care.\n\nThanks in advance.", "summary": "Rude manager bragged about picking my lock and using my stuff. Debating reporting him to general manager."}
{"id": "t3_2uz5v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [32 m] with my wife [30 f] 10 years, she travels for work and sometimes I feel jealous.", "post": "Here's the deal, my wife and I have talked in the past about the fact that I get jealous sometimes when she travels for work. It's usually when she goes to conferences that have multiple late night parties and stays out late. I'd call that my main trigger. \n\n.\n\nIn that context she's usually hanging out with groups of people she works with frequently but its still hard knowing that she's out so late going to clubs and bars and parties.\n\n.\n\nRight now I'm dealing with a new situation,  she went to a trade show as opposed to a conference. Shes hosting a booth, the guys in the booth next door to her invited her to come out for dinner at 5. anyways she said that she just didn't want to eat alone.  I knew I was starting to feel jealous but I told her to have a good time and just ignored it. I did ask her to send me a text message when she got back to her hotel room safe and sound. Part of it is also not trusting a bunch of random guys\n\n.\n\nCome 1:45 in the morning tonight I had still not gotten a text message. \n\n.\n\nI texted her to see if she was alright she said she was \"Great, I'm heading back to my room now.\" Am I crazy for being super jealous right now?\n\n.\n\nMaybe.\n\n.\n\nHow do I deal with these feelings? \n\n.\n\nWhat should I say to her about her staying out and my feelings about? \n\n.", "summary": "I struggle with jealousy and my wife and I have talked about it in the past and the reasons for it. It's definitely been triggered tonight and I'm wondering how to talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_4s4ufv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (16F) dad (30sM) is dead. Don't know what to do. Please help.", "post": "My dad left me and my sister when I was five and she was just 1. He left to go to another family and his whole family ended up leaving too and never contacted us. To clarify his new family involved a stepson my age and his own new child who is only 5.\n\nHe wasn't a good man during the five years he was with us and the few after he left. He broke into our house, keyed my mums car, attacked her, attacked one of her friends years later who now has a scar on his skull. I'm not sure what else as most of it was hidden from me and still is. \n\nHe came back in our lives 8 years later and so did the rest of our family. We never found out why he left and his whole family acted like nothing had happened. \n\nMy mum didn't like it but at the time I knew nothing about him and she thought my little sister should get to know him as he looked like he was better and more stable. \n\nWe got to know him and spent every other weekend amd two evening a month with him for two years. He was good and getting to know my brother was good. He was quite well off amd paid for all these things for us. \n\nBut I never felt connected to him. Not like my little sister did. I never called him dad or planned to take his last name but she was going to. \n\nHe killed himself last night. \n\nI don't really feel sad. I haven't cried, I haven't even got like wet eyes. Everyone is looking at me like I should be bawling but I can't fake it. Most of my close friends are on holiday so I don't have anyone that close to to talk to. \n\nIs that normal? I don't know what to do? How should I act? \n\nI am worried for my sister and brother. They were both really close t him and even had plans to go out all this week. As in the tickets amd on the fridge. \n\nI want to make it easier for her. She has cried a little bit but seems to be in shock. What can I do in the coming weeks?", "summary": "dad commited suicide, i wasn't close sister and brother were. Scares because I'm not crying and worried for them."}
{"id": "t3_riipm", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I wish to get into talk radio.  Is there anyone here with experience who could give me some suggestions?", "post": "I should start out with this:\n\nI am a recent graduate (more-or-less) from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth with a BA in History and Political Science.  I've completed 100% of my History requirements but need to fulfill an internship requirement for PoliSci.  I would like to do that for a local radio station - WTKK.\n\nI'm going to be writing up a cover letter and tweaking my resume (haven't done that it some time) so that I can maybe arrange some sort of internship with them.  They have a 12 week program which would be great for me considering I work full time and they ask for 10-15 hours a week.  Travel would suck, but it would be a chance for me to get some experience in a possible future career.\n\nI'm not sure if I want to be an on-air personality since I've never tried making any pod casts or anything and have almost no on-air experience.  I've called into their morning show 3 times, but that's it.\n\nSo, I'm just wondering if anyone has had experience that could perhaps help me out?", "summary": "I wan't to get into the radio business, on or off air, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_11aub7", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F,22] am having sexytime issues in my casual relationship with M,[23]", "post": "So M[23] and I [F,22] have been essentially friends with benefits for 6 months now. This hasn't been a GF/BF kind of thing at all, we aren't 'dating', we are just playing around a couple of times a week.\n\nNow this was was all going swimmingly until about a month ago. Normally he initiates sexytimes (not because of a lack of interest or any shyness from my part, he just beats me to it) however this night I decided that I would (**NB:** first time I have initiated). So we were lying in bed in such a way that I had easy access to his nether regions and so reached down for a little pants action. He grabs my wrist and pulls my arm away telling me that I \"don't have to\" to which I replied that I know that, but I *want* to.\nAnyway, that wasn't good enough, and sexytimes did not occur. I was a little hurt/worried. Had I been doing it wrong the whole time? Or am I not attractive to him anymore?\nWhatever, maybe I do just suck at handjobs, but I was a little hurt and  feeling a bit... ugly (for want of a better way to describe the feeling).\n\nNow, after this little moment, and since, there has still been sleepovers, but there has been no sexual activity. \nSo I am confused, I thought that's what we were doing? It now feels kind of like sharing a bed with a cousin, just a bit of chat, and then sleep. \n\nI don't really know how to approach this seeing as I am **not** the GF, so how do I do so without sounding too desperate/clingy/crazy? I don't feel comfortable initiating it seeing as the first/only time I did, I was stopped.", "summary": "we have been seeing each other *casually* for 6 months, sexytime ended approximately one month ago after I attempted to initiate? How to fix this?"}
{"id": "t3_2hqkdx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my wife [22 F] 2 years, she says I dominate conversation and I want to fix it", "post": "Hi all. My wife tells me that I dominate conversation, particularly when we're out and about with friends and whatnot. I am conscious of this and try not to dominate or over-talk, but at the same time I struggle with dead air and try to overcome this by making sure the conversation is always moving forward and SOMETHING is always being said.\n\nUnfortunately, this habit tends to make me overbearing and/or over-talkative in conversation and I \"don't make space\" for my fellow conversation partners. I don't think I'm as bad as some people I know who literally won't stop talking for 10-15-20-30 minutes straight, but she still says I fill up the space more than is appropriate.\n\nSo how do you handle conversational lulls, Reddit? And/or, how do I make space for my friends in conversation and not talk too much or be overbearing?", "summary": "I tend to be overbearing in conversation and want to fix it."}
{"id": "t3_3detmu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "18M looking for answers", "post": "Alright so I posted here earlier about a girl I like and whether or not I should ask her out. This is sort of an update but not necessarily a positive one. This girl and I continued to talk at work and through calls/texts but about a week ago something crazy happened. Long story short, she called me around midnight on a weeknight and wanted me to drive over two hours (she was in her hometown) and have sex with her. I'm not going to lie, I considered doing it but in the end I did not. So, once she came back, we continued to constantly be in contact with each other and we both knew we liked each other a lot. But, three or four days ago, she just stopped. No replys to texts, snaps, calls, or anything. I honestly have no clue what is going on and would love some insight because I am so lost with this whole situation.", "summary": "Should I still pursue this girl?"}
{"id": "t3_1gk4g6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm so incredibly confused as to what's going on...", "post": "I'm a 23F and have been dating a 25M for about 3 months now. It isn't official...we haven't had that talk. He travels a lot for his job. For the past couple of months, we have been hanging out all the time...spending the night, etc. Usually, he is the one inviting me over. We have PDA, I've met some of his friends, had lunch with him and his dad. Usually, he initiates conversation on facebook at least once a day regardless of if we've seen each other. \n\nWell, he recently left for a long trip for work and has been pretty distant. When we do talk, it's very brief and vague (if I ask him how his day was). Why has he gone from always wanting to spend time and talking to this incredibly distant person? Also, he's not working at the moment...he's with his parents and roommate while he waits for the job to finish up.", "summary": "Why did the guy go from acting like we're in a relationship to super distant?"}
{"id": "t3_jrmye", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "To those who have taken a temporary break/hiatus in their relationships with their SO.", "post": "We've been together almost 2 years.  I'm 27, she will be 27 in a couple months.  She is a very emotional person and is having continual stress issues with her job, her family, and problems in our relationship that stem from lack of communication.  I live alone in a 1br apartment.  She lives alone in a condo.\n\nBasically the problem has become that over the months, she has been consistently stressed out to the point where I will call her and she will describe it as having a meltdown and that she is not able to progress in her personal and professional life, usually because of simple things like not having time to clean her house, and not feeling adequate at work, respectively.  (even tho at work they all said they like her).  This has happened more than a few times.\n\nI don't have a lot of stress in my life so I don't know what shes going through, but I feel it is not normal.  I did find out last night that when she was in college, she saw a therapist for this same reason.  I have been supportive but it has been consistent for so long that it is taking its toll on me as well and just causing more issues.\n\nSo last night we had a long discussion, and it ended with us both agreeing (more reluctantly on her part) that we need to take a step back.  We decided to take a temporary break to allow both of us to have quality time with ourselves and get some perspective.\n\nI love her and neither of us want to break up permanently.  But if things don't get better we can't keep destroying ourselves.\n\nHas anyone ever done this temporary break thing before? How did it work out? How exactly do you \"do\" it anyway?  Any other advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "Stress in my girlfriend's life has been constant and is taking it's toll on both of us.  We decided to take a temporary break to get some perspective and be ourselves.  Advice would be appreciated on this process!"}
{"id": "t3_uxm02", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Recommendations for I/O Psychology Graduate Programs?", "post": "I'm in junior standing right now where I'm supposed to figure out what I need to do with my life (grad school vs full-time job) and so I intended to go to grad school for a Masters and be done with school forever.  The thing is I don't know what schools are truly good and worth their money for I/O programs.  I've already crossed-searched to narrow it down to these and could narrow it further: CSU Long Beach, CSU San Bernardino, CSU San Francisco, San Jose State, San Diego State, Chapman University, and Claremont Graduate University.  Yes? No? I should just travel back in time and start over?\n\nI am firm about staying in California for grad studies and if I/O doesn't work out, maybe MBA might?  I would only stick around for my 4th year to buy time with getting research, internships, and minor in business administration.  Would it even work out if I get a really good GMAT score with a minor in business administration?", "summary": "Recommended I/O grad programs that may be overlooked from searches.  Optional to answer last question pertaining to MBA decision."}
{"id": "t3_f3d8g", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "What do I do? Anyone have experience in this? I love my girlfriend but she has 4 children from a previous marriage and the idea of having that many people in my house terrifies me.", "post": "She has 3 young girls and 1 boy, I have one 6 year old son, we both have full custody of our kids and the oldest child is 10. Girlfriend's a few years older than me and I'm 27. I still want another baby but I'm completely against bringing a ton of people into the world and I wouldn't want another if we would already have 5. I'm worried I won't be able to love them.. I'm worried they will take away from my time with my son and lessen his quality of life. He's not spoiled by any means but when you throw that many people in the young ones always get left out. I'm worried I'll resent them for making me lose time with my son.\n\nI love her so very much and her kids are well behaved and everything, it's just the idea of having to take THAT many people everywhere I go and other sensationalist scenes that keep playing in my mind. I picture going to restaurants and having to push a bunch of tables together or never even being able to drive a car again. Never being able to go out in the first place because that many people will make it impossible to agree on where to eat. Never being able to go on vacation because even a small one would cost thousands and thousands of dollars because of so many people.. not even being able to stay in the same hotel room together because you can't have 7 or 8 people in one room. Never even having time with her because of all the kids. Making everyone lose out because if one wants an ipod another will and another and another that's like 2 thousand dollars. When they get older and want to have friends over or they can drive we'll have to build a parking lot outside just for all of the cars to fit. \nSo yea.. basically just freaking out.", "summary": "my girlfriend has 4 kids. I dislike kids (other than mine) and having a ton of people around me all of the time. I'm worried we'll never be able to do anything because of the amount of people involved and I'm worried they'll take away from the time I have with my son, adversely affecting his life."}
{"id": "t3_2d2osi", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "My brother hasn't spoken to me for 7 months and it hurts", "post": "So my brother hasn't spoken to me in 7 months. He's my older brother by 1.5 years and it's only the two of us as siblings. The last time we communicated was when I asked his new year plans and he wished me a happy new year.\n\nAt first I just thought he was at work or busy when he didn't answer or return my calls. Then, when he never responded to any of my text messages asking how he was etc, I asked my mum what was going on, why wasn't he returning my calls/messages. She said he had severe anxiety and wasn't able to talk to me right now...that was in January of 2014.\n\nWe haven't always had the best relationship, when we were teenagers we fought a lot and I had severe depression, which took a lot of our parents attention. But in the last 3 years we've gotten along well and enjoy spending time with each other, hanging out, gaming, whatever.\n\nHe smokes weed everyday and has quit his job about 5 months ago, as he couldn't face the idea of going to work and seeing people. He sees just his housemates and one friend regularly, and talks to my parents on the phone a fair bit. He's got pretty severe anxiety, and depression as a result, which I know is contributing massively to the whole situation.\n\nBut I'm really struggling right now, he bullied and hurt me when we were teenagers because of my mental illness, and now he's going through his own issues he's just cut me out, like it was nothing. I'm scared and worried for him because I want him to be happy and healthy but I'm also really hurt by what's been happening.\n\nI just don't even understand, we didn't fight or have a disagreement. It was just, one day he responded to my texts and the next he didn't, how am I supposed to improve/help/not do whatever it was, if I don't know what I did?\n\nSome days are good and some days are bad...tonight is a bad one and it just really fucking hurts. I don't understand how he can cut me out of his life like I never meant anything to him at all.", "summary": "My brother hasn't spoken to me since 2013 and I don't why and it really hurts me"}
{"id": "t3_48hibc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I [20M] go about finding finding women who want to wait for marriage?", "post": "I'll start off by saying I'm not incredibly religious but I was raised catholic and both me and my family believe in saving sex for marriage. I'm not looking to start arguments so I'll make it clear that it's a personal decision and I don't think any less of others who feel differently. Each perspective has its pros and cons. Okay, basically I've only had one gf and I'm still new to dating overall since we really only hung out and went to stuff like lunch or movies. I'm not quite sure how to start off and where I can find similar women outside of church. Also when is the right time to discuss my views on this with her?", "summary": "How can I find girls that want to wait for marriage outside of church?"}
{"id": "t3_2nxtmv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my GF [29 F] duration, dating for a year made official 6 months. Fell out of love but want to love her again. But she keeps pining for her ex a year later.", "post": "I have been in a relationship for a year now, when we started going out she mentioned she just broke up. The had been going out with this guy for 6 weeks and things were intense. It took 6 months for her to get over him before we became official.\n\nThings were going well and then one day over pay day drinks at the bar with her friends whilst really drunk she tells her friend about how much she misses her ex. Describing everything she misses about him and about how he was really intelligent. They thought I had passed out when really I was tired and the lights were hurting my eyes. My head was burried in my arms and I just shed a few tears. 4 days since then I've been torn apart inside, hoping it will blow over and I'll fall back in love. We've had sex and stuff and for the first time I wanted it to end and just stop. But I had no choice but to carry on otherwise she would wonder what was wrong and I would end up prematurely ending the relationship. Ever since then I've felt sick and have tried to avoid spending time with her in fear she would want sex and I'd have to face the issue. When we talk or meet its after our gym session at 9pm which frankly isn't the best time to open the can of worms. I now need to wait until the weekend. All of this weekend I wanted to go home but couldn't in fear of raising suspicion.\nDo I wait it out and see how I feel or should I just bring it up with her?", "summary": "Going out with a woman who I want to love but who I've fallen out of love with after she made evident whilst really drunk that she misses her ex a year later. It tore my world apart. Wait and see if it blows over or talk to her about it?"}
{"id": "t3_2hm5ph", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [36] of 9 months, am afraid he will never love me as deeply as he loved his ex.", "post": "We have been together for about 9 months now. When we met it was instant chemistry. We both are rather impulsive and passionate people and that was very noticable at the start. \n\nHowever, he had a girlfriend about 8 years ago for about a year, whom he loved very much and it took him until me to get over her. Now, I've never met anyone who took that long to get over their ex so that fact alone already makes me insecure. Their relationship was very passionate, though also very dysfunctional. They were miserable. He was very jealous and couldn't work or do anything besides 'being' in that relationship.\n\nIt seemed to kind of be that way with us at the start, but somehow it changed. And I fear - constantly - that she will always be his great love. We argue a lot too, so it's not all dull, but when we do, most of the time he is able to go on about his day & work. I can't, and he couldn't with his ex. He says he needed her, but does not need me but chooses to be with me. He does say he loves me a lot, and he absolutely wants our relationship and our life & never thinks about her anymore. But he doesn't seem to be as intense with me as with her. He doesn't seem to love me more, and I don't know how to feel about that. He says he loves me better. He wants us to have a love, but to also have a life beside our love. \n\nAm I in the wrong for wanting him to love me as intensely?", "summary": "I am afraid my boyfriend loved his ex more passionately than he loves me, and I don't know how to feel about that."}
{"id": "t3_rg0zm", "subreddit": "dogs", "title": "A Different Sort of Dog Park Question", "post": "Background: I have a 120 pound Bernese Mountain Dog that is a great big baby. He greets with perfect manners, and he thinks that little dogs are just about the greatest thing in the world. He LOVES them, and he learned very quickly that if he wants to hang out with them he has to stay perfectly still so that he doesn't step on one.  So when we're at the dog park around new dogs, his approach is typically to stand perfectly still and wait for dogs to come to him.  He never demonstrates any aggressive posturing.  \n  \nYet without fail, dogs always hate my dog.  They approach him to greet, then end up getting scared and snapping at him. I can only guess that they're intimidated by his size, because he does not move at all. I know he's also fairly oblivious to the body language of other dogs, so when at the park I always keep him leashed so that I can pull him away the second I suspect another snapper.  But every time a dog snaps at him, he gets this utterly heartbroken expression and acts dejected for the next half hour.    \n  \nI'd really like my dog to be able to play with the other dogs off leash, but I don't know how to facilitate that happening.  He's not doing anything other than failing to run away; it's the other dogs that approach him, then attack him while he does absolutely nothing.  \n  \nDoes anyone have any suggestions?  Should I just give up dog parks?  Is my poor boy doomed never to have any little dog friends?  Is there something I can do to help him learn when to walk away? Thanks in advance for any advice!", "summary": "My dog love little dogs, they hate him.  He gets snapped at every single dog park visit. Is there something I can do differently, or should I just give up dog parks?"}
{"id": "t3_1w758e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19M] am not sure how to ask out girl in class at new university [19? F]", "post": "I just transferred to a new university a week ago so I've already got a bit on my plate, but I am already pretty attracted to a girl in one of my classes. It's not that big of a class and there are desks and I sat next to her last class so getting close to her shouldn't be that much of a problem.\n\nThe problem is that I really don't know how to ask her out. I'm pretty inexperienced at dating, but in this case I don't know her name, nor do I no pretty much anything about the area I live in. It's a decent sized city so there's stuff to do I'm sure.\n\nHow do I approach her and ask her out when all I know about the situation is a class she's in?", "summary": "just transferred, like girl, don't know her name or city we're in, but wanna go on date with her."}
{"id": "t3_1nq7cg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23 M] have some pretty serious trust issues. I want help to trust my SO more [21 F] when I know nothing is wrong, but nagging doubt remains. I hate it.", "post": "I've had 7 girlfriends prior to my current lady. And she's by far the best I've ever been with. We were close friends for several years and about 5 months ago we got together. Shes amazing in every way.\n\nMy problem stems from the fact that I've yet to have a girlfriend who didn't cheat on me. and all of them were the same. A close guy friend she swears is like a brother, and I catch them in bed. (for full disclosure, she had been single for about a year before we got together, I didnt \"swoop in\" and do exactly what I'm worried about.) she is fully aware of my feelings towards \"guys like a brother\" and has offered to not see them as much if it makes me more comfortable. I don't want that. I want to get over this nagging fear because she has given me no reason to believe I have anything to worry about. I told her that I didn't want to be more comfortable, I wanted to get over it, and the best way to do that was to continue hanging out with these guys and make me realize I have nothing to fear. Am I off base here? How would you get over this?", "summary": "trust issues I want to solve, not just ignore. Advice greatly"}
{"id": "t3_2pwoux", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I lied [38 F] to my BF [40 M] about my lack of relationships and virginity. Do I ever tell him?", "post": "I lost my virginity two weeks ago to the most wonderful man I have ever met, and he has no idea that I was a virgin before that night. \n\nI had never seen a man naked, had never intimately touched a man, or been touched like that myself!  I thought that I would be found out after the deed, but he thinks that I am great in bed!! (Thanks r/sex for the great guides and advice)\n\nWe have been close friends for over a year and during that time I lied to him about past boyfriends by saying that my longest relationship was 18 months (it was 3 months) and by telling him that I lived with someone for 6 months (I have never shared my home with anyone).\nI also told him that I have been with 6 people, because I was so very ashamed to be a virgin at my age. My family and friends have never found out. I have only admitted it to a therapist once and I broke down in tears as I said it. I was humiliated.\n\nI did not know at the time that I would become so close to him and that I would lose my virginity to him. The lies have become so deep that it has become incredibly difficult to tell him the truth.\n\nWhat should I do? \n\nI can see myself with him long term. Perhaps even longer. I can keep this to myself, as I can tell him that I do not want to talk about past relationships but I feel afraid that if he ever found out he would be devastated.\n\nI truly think that I am psychologically unable to confess the truth. I am so ashamed of what my life has been for the past 20 years. This is my first chance at true happiness and I feel like a normal person. I have never felt this way before.\n\nAny advice would be welcome.", "summary": "I was a virgin with no relationship experience but I lied to my current BF and he thinks I am experienced. What do I do?"}
{"id": "t3_1pxs31", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My (21F) boyfriend's (20M) parents just ruined a big decision. Rant and advice?", "post": "We've been dating for almost five years. We were planning on moving in together in the next few weeks - not with just the two of us, but with some roomies - and his parents told him that they don't want him living with me.\n\nI get that we're both young, but this is a serious relationship, we've been planning this for a year and his parents have known about it and never said anything.\n\nMy parents are out of pocket because I can't afford my rent by myself, and me moving out with him was going to stop that. His parents are very well off so don't care.\n\nHis parents have ruined what was supposed to be an amazing step for us, and what was supposed to take a load of mine and my parents shoulders. I don't know how to deal with this situation and neither does he. He's been at college (or on campus boarding) for the past three years but his parents are saying he needs \"guy time\" before living with me.\n\nWHAT THE HELL. How do I deal with this??", "summary": "His parents won't let him move in with me, I'm now broke as are my parents and I'm heartbroken."}
{"id": "t3_287d0e", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [21/M] of 5.5 years packed up his stuff and left without much warning.", "post": "My boyfriend of 5.5 years decided that he needed to leave me with little to no warning. I arrived home to him with all of his stuff packed. It's been 3 days and I have not heard a word from him.\n\nA little back story. We started dating when we were 16 and since then have been head over heals for each other. We moved away from home together about a year ago so that I could finish my 4 year degree. He moved with me to support me financially and the agreement was as soon as I graduated,  spring of 2015, I would support him through school. We've been through a lot together and I supported him much of our relationship because his dad was sick and didn't have a job. All of a sudden after almost a year of living here he decides,  he can no longer support me because it is too much for him and he feels I am holding him back. \n\nI forfeited going to 4 year school for him and stayed home and went to Community College FOR HIM, I supported him emotionally and financially for 4 years and he can't handle one more year of taking care of me?? I am completely heartbroken. Of course things between us weren't perfect but I never thought they were so bad he would just up and leave me high and dry. I was pretty blindsided. Now I will more than likely have to move out of my apartment and I have no idea how I'm going to make it through the rest of the summer let alone the rest of the year. \n\nI am still in love with him but he crushed my heart when he was already out the door.", "summary": "how am I supposed to move on from the person I love when he won't even talk to me? And how do I go on with out him?"}
{"id": "t3_50vwr1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29 M] am dating multiple people. How do I navigate this situation?", "post": "I had always dated monogamously since the first date, and for reasons related to a past experience of trauma I opened myself up to the possibility of dating around. (Long story, but this is actually a healthy development for me and is one encouraged by my therapist).  \n\nSo I'm seeing three different guys right now. One is an old fling who, to be honest, is mostly just somebody I have a more physical relationship with. Pretty simple, no complications.\n\nThe second is a guy I've been seeing for about two months now. We have lots of fun together, great convo, but nothing has been defined yet. While I can't prove it without flat-out asking, I'm pretty positive he's seeing other people, too. I'm also pretty sure what he and I have is a really casual dynamic. It's not no strings attached, but it's not a serious relationship, either.\n\nThe third is a guy I've started seeing more recently. I really like him! He's smart, handsome, engaging\u2014if I'm going to be honest, he might be one I'd choose out of the three, but I'm not sure. It could just be the rush of getting to know someone new. (I felt like this for guy number two in the beginning, too). \n\nI've read number of articles online about the benefits of dating multiple people at once and what to do when you think you've found someone you'd like to focus all your attention and energy on. I'm not sure I'm cognizant of how to transfer that to my life, though. At what point do I make the decision to become exclusive with someone? I'm not sure how to navigate these waters, and I should admit I'm pretty bad at deciphering my own emotions. And do I disclose that I'm seeing other people? (My friends are actually split on that: Some say yes, others say no; some say monogamy is always assumed, others say it is never).", "summary": "I'm dating multiple guys. Nothing has been defined with any of them. How do I navigate this, and at what point do I make a decision to be exclusive with one of them?"}
{"id": "t3_23h9s8", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 M] Got broken up with by my SO [20 F] of over a year less than a month ago, feeling pretty depressed and could use some people to talk to...", "post": "I was broken up with by my girlfriend of over a year a little less than a month ago. We really, really bonded over the time we were dating. She went from having some serious emotional walls to being open, loving, relaxed, and supportive. She made me feel special, attractive, and important in the kind of ways I've so often had trouble with. She really made me take a better look at myself, and realize what a worthwhile, strong, successful person I can be. We connected on a really wonderful, intimate level.\n\nWe actually spent a lot of time talking about pretty serious long term plans. She always wanted to see NYC, and over last summer, I got to be with her when we visited. It was a fantastic trip, and a fantastic time. We'd talked about spending some time living in New York. We talked about getting married, about a family. Silly shit, being college kids and all, but stuff that felt... earnest. I've had relationships before, and for the first time, I really, really felt like I could spend the rest of my life with her.\n\nShe broke up with me, not over any issue, not because something happened, she just... 'lost that spark', and had a hard time feeling like she loved me properly. She wanted to be honest, and be fair to me. She said I hadn't done anything wrong, that I'd been a wonderful boyfriend, and that she was afraid because she didn't want to ruin such a close bond. We've since been trying to be friends, we hung out a bit, played basketball, grabbed dinner. Tried making new habits to counterbalance the things we weren't doing anymore. Things have been hard because, as of a few weeks ago, she left school to return home due to some outside influences. We haven't really talked like we used to. She's started seeing a good friend of hers back home.\n\nMy friends are all doing their own thing right now. Watching shows, going out or whatever. Nobody is really around. And here I am, feeling like I lost one of the closest friends I had, and I don't know what to do...", "summary": "Got broken up with, but not for any real negative reason. Ex-girlfriend left college and I'm feeling like I lost a close friend. Just need someone to talk to..."}
{"id": "t3_2nfa93", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 F] with my ex-bf [22 M], jealousy of what happened after break up still bothering me", "post": "I dated a guy for approximately 2 years. he had chased me for 10 months before i gave him a confirmed yes. he dumped me because our relationship got too emotionally draining for him and he couldn't see a future in us.\n\nhe started hooking up and dating someone else within months. i didn't really keep in contact with him except for the texting on occasions, which were short lived. i hung out with him 2-3 times in between as he lived in the house i used to live in with some of my old roommates. \n\nThat relationship only lasted about 6 months because the girl he was dealing with was clinically depressed and his job required dealing with kids of special needs. needless to say, it took a lot out of him.\n\nhe ended up coming back to me for the sole purpose of hooking up, and hinted rekindling the relationship SLOWLY.\nhere's the kicker: while we were dating (we broke up a year ago), his close friend and roommate had a thing for him, but he didn't and never acted on it (she tried once while they were single and she got rejected). I still had an insane insecurity and jealousy, to the point it was hurting our relationship. i eventually let it go. after we broke up, one night she proposed them hooking up, AND THEY DID. he admitted it to me before we begun anything. \n\nwhatever we tried to rekindle recently didn't happen, and we both agreed. and perhaps in the future it might sound like a better idea. however, today for some reason, the whole him hooking up with the best friend is hurting me a lot. i'm so mad and upset and can't concentrate on anything. maybe this post is for /r/MMFB, but i'd also like some relationship advice. how do i get over this hurt? i feel like though he's hurt me, he's an amazing guy to me otherwise which outweighs what he's done negatively. will i be able to find better love?", "summary": "ex ended up hooking up with the girl i hated with him because she asked and he didn't feel restricted anymore (it was awkward, he said). can't help but feel hurt and betrayed though we were broken up. still love him and don't think i can do better."}
{"id": "t3_337iqy", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by wandering into a stranger's house at 1 AM", "post": "This happened last night and since i've been a lurker forever I figured this wouldn't be a bad first post. :D\n\nSo, it's 12am, and I'm out camping with my friends. Everyone's asleep except for me. I realized that home was only a mile or so away, and me being my extremely bored and stupid self, I decide to play a trick on my friends.\nA few hours previously we had hot dogs roasted over the campfire, and no camper in the right mind would forget to bring ketchup to a camping trip with hot dogs.\nI made a messy trail of ketchup leading into the woods which was only a few meters away from where my tent was. Made sure to use as much as possible so it would still be there in the morning. I proceeded to leave the camp.\nI was almost exactly sure where I was going. I live in a suburb with nearly identical houses so you can see how this fuck up happened. Keep in mind that it's pitch black outside, this is about 1am. I typically enter my house through the sliding glass door at the back because it's always unlocked. I walked up to my door, surprised to see it locked. I'm just tired and want to sleep now so I thoughtlessly walked up the stairs to the deck and tried the door up there. I made it in half asleep, and started across into my room. I was halfway there when I realized that this wasn't my house and a 12-13 year old girl was staring at me from the living room in shock.\nImmediately I dash out the back and around to the street. I made it to my own house (and I did check, it was my house.) I pretty much just collapsed on my bed when I made it to my room.\nNow it's 8am, I checked my phone and saw a couple of missed calls and texts, from my friends reading things along the lines of lol nice try.\" I was sort of relieved they didn't fall for it at that point, even though I didn't really expect them to.", "summary": "Went camping, at midnight pranked friends then wandered into a stranger's house thinking it was mine. Would've been so much worse if my friends fell for the prank"}
{"id": "t3_1x5vx2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (21M) need help on how to proceed with this girl I'm seeing/sleeping with (20F)", "post": "Hi everyone, first time posting here, I posted in relationshipadvice with a throwaway but fuck it it doesn't get much traffic, and I meed guidance - this girl and I are in college. I'm a year ahead of her and we met through a mutual friend and kind of hit it off. Since about November we've been hooking up, each time we go out together she ends up sleeping over and we have sex, cuddle and chat in the mornings, etc. She had previously been in a long term relationship before coming to college and ended it about a month before we started hooking up. \n\nHere's the thing - she says she doesn't want anything serious between us. The problem is I'm freaking infatuated with this girl and can't stop thinking about her - we get along so well and sex is great. We just click, yet she is adamant about just being fuckbuddies-ish and not getting serious. (I say 'ish' because I don't know what the fuck we are) Don't get me wrong, I'm always down for a no strings attached thing but I'm afraid I've got myself in too deep.. I'm really starting to develop feelings and don't know how to proceed. Another thing to note is she's slept with 2 people, her ex boyfriend and myself while I've slept with 14 (she knows this) which could impact her decision? Maybe.\n\nAnyways, I don't want to tell her all that in case she gets cold feet/nervous that I'm more into her, yet she's always sending mixed signals. Like, she told me shed be super jealous if I ever hooked up with another girl and we talk daily (texting, calls, on campus) yet she doesn't seem to want to be \"exclusive\" even though we basically are... I'm just really looking for some guidance here. I'm fine with going with the flow, but at this point'im scared getting too involved will end in me getting hurt. Any advice?", "summary": "I have feelings for my fuckbuddy that I'm not sure she reciprocates, but she seems to want to. What should I do?"}
{"id": "t3_mvrg8", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Legal repercussions?", "post": "This past weekend I was going to drop my boyfriend at his class, while I was backing out of his parking and actually bumped a car behind me. It was raining cats and dogs so I hopped out of the car, checked for damage and didn't see any so I got back in my car and drove my boyfriend to his class, figuring I'd leave my information when I got back just in case. It had stopped raining by the time I got back and so I left my information under his windshield wipe and headed back to my university which is about 2 hours from my boyfriends. It apparently began raining extremely hard again and my boyfriend reports that the paper I left my information on is waterlogged and destroyed and that there might have been a dent that I didn't notice in the rain. What should I do here Reddit.", "summary": "Backed up into a guys car in a typhoon, one witness, left to drop boyfriend off at class and came back to leave info. Info washed away, slight damaged to car that I didn't notice. What do?"}
{"id": "t3_1in73p", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [26M] girlfriend [23F] have totally differing outlooks on life. I'm very positive and she's very negative. Help!", "post": "I'm very easygoing and laid back, and she has a lot of viewpoints that I think make her life harder than it has to be.  She's pretty defensive and has low self-esteem, so I can't really bring up any of these viewpoints of hers without her saying something like \"you're basically saying I'm a horrible person!\"  when I just say something like \"well you can be a little defensive,\" or \"maybe you just inferred hostility?\" (referring to a conflict with a customer at her work).  \n\nI either need to accept the fact that, at this point in her life, she has some self-esteem issues, but I just feel so bad that she puts herself in these horrible moods because of her viewpoint on life.  \n\nI think one of my main issues is that I'm just SO happy when she's happy, but I feel her anger and frustration when she's in a bad mood, and I just wish that she could shake things off like I can so that she could just be happier, but when I try to play devil's advocate with someone she's having a conflict with, or I try to make her see the bright side, she just ignores me or even worse, gets mad at me for not sharing her viewpoint.  \n\nI'm sure in her eyes I seem apathetic or that I don't care, which is why I'm looking for a solution to our problem.  I truly do believe, at least looking at her mother, that she will learn to look on the bright side and mellow out, but right now she just gets so angry so easily, and I have some personal issues with that.  \n\nHow can I smooth out these differences of ours and wait until she starts to see things with a more positive view without me seeming apathetic and non-caring?", "summary": "I'm easygoing and an optimist, and my girlfriend is a pessimist with low self-esteem.  How do we communicate and get along better?  What can I do to change the way I look at her view on life?"}
{"id": "t3_25zyht", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] 4 years, he's suddenly dropped all contact", "post": "We have been together for 4 years. On Thursday, we were at his friends house for a party. We were both drinking, and both drunk, though he was much drunker than I was. I went to another room and was talking with some people.\n\nWhen I came back, he was furious. He was yelling at me and I was crying. Then we left the party and he was still mad. He said I made a scene and embarrassed him and that I am too much of a child and he's sick of me. \n\nIt's Monday now and I've not heard from him since Thursday. I keep trying to contact him and he's ignoring my calls, texts, e-mails, and Facebook messages. I know he's getting them, but I can't figure out why he's ignoring them. TBH, I'm not even sure what set him off. He gets mad easily but this has never happened before. I'm not sure how to handle it or get in contact with him. \n\nI don't want to just forget it and move on. It's been a 4 year relationship and I love him very much. I'd like to try to work things out, or at least get the decency of an explanation about why he's acting like this. I just have no idea how to reach him. \n\nI do not want to talk to one of the people at the party, because I don't like dragging people into my messes. I also don't want to just show up at his house because I know that would piss him off beyond words, and the results would not be pretty. \n\nI just feel very hurt and sad right now. I love him so much. I understand relationships end, and if that's the case I will need to accept it and deal with it, but I want to at least know what's going on. Why won't he talk to me??", "summary": "Got into a fight with my BF on Thursday for reasons unknown to me. It's Monday and now he's refusing all contact. I would just like some communication about whatever happened, and he is refusing to give that to me. Advice?"}
{"id": "t3_ok6he", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend doesn't clean up after herself often, and gets upset when I ask. How can I relate to her how much it bothers me?", "post": "First, I'm 26, male, she's 25. We've been together for the past 4 years, living together for almost 3.\n\nTo give the latest example, she planned on having friends for dinner last night and the apartment was a mess, so I cleaned it while she was at work.\n\nAfter dinner there was a lot of dishes created, the sink was full and the counter was a mess. Leaving that over night didn't bother me because we were both tired. She works an early shift and gets home at noon, and I worked late today and got home after 7pm. The kitchen was in worse shape than when I left for work and she was playing a video game. When I went to fix myself dinner, there were no clean plates or cutlery.\n\nI'm often hesitant to ask her to clean specific things because I feel like I get attitude or resentment in return, and who-cleans-what has been an issue in the past. I know I can often be terse so I feel that it could be the way I ask her to do things that causes it\n\nHow can I relate to her that it's important to me that she cleans up after herself and doesn't let things get to a point where I have to specifically request that she cleans up? Just so it's clear, I do frequently do the dishes and clean other parts of the apartment", "summary": "Girlfriend frequently ignores piles of dishes, gets upset when I ask her to clean up after herself"}
{"id": "t3_2umox6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by buying a sweatshirt in a christian household", "post": "I bought on of these:\n  \nIn my mind that wasn't a fuck up, I don't believe in any religions, it isn't even much of a symbol for Satan anymore because it has skateboard trucks on it, and I thought the goat looked cool and I like thrasher so I thought \"fuck it whatever.\" I wore this thing for about 4 months and I wake up to my mom asking me why we bought a Satanist sweatshirt. I tried to explain that it doesn't matter to me but she didn't care and said that we can't have devil symbols even though I don't believe in anything. No I'm out a sweatshirt and apparently worship the devil", "summary": "sweatshirtless and godless"}
{"id": "t3_109ju9", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My Dad is trying to tell me I can't pick a certain day for my wedding because hunting season opens. I think he can go hunting one day later. Reddit who is the Diva here?", "post": "I have always wanted a fall wedding and so I'm hoping to have my wedding on October 4th 2014. My Dad is being kind of an ass and telling me I can't because that is the day moose opens. I also can't have it at any point during moose season, which means I can't have a fall wedding because moose season is all of October. He says I can have it in September but where I live the leaves aren't turned yet in September and even early October is risky but I'm trying to not have it right in the middle of moose season. It's not like we rely on him getting a moose to eat or anything like that either, it is recreational for him. He goes moose hunting every single year and it causes him to miss every single thanksgiving (Canada) so I think he can suck it up and go 1-2 days late so I can have my wedding when  I want. He says I'm being a diva, I say he is. Am I over reacting reddit? Should I move my wedding day?", "summary": "I want my wedding on a day that happens to be opening day of moose season, dad says no he doesn't want to miss any days of moose hunting. Who is in the wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_3z266a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (F/19) don't know what to do/expect from this guy (M/21)", "post": "Okay, so, we met online, and we dated (because we live in the same city). We are together for 7 months, but he isn't my boyfriend. It's kinda weird for me, he is really good and polite and smart, but not romantic at all. We have a lot in common and it's really calming to be in his presence , but there is no passion from his side. He doesn't want sex, he doesn't want me to meet his parents (even though he knows mine).\n\n It's really weird, because he doesn't hide me, I hang out with his friends, but he doesn't want to post anything with me anywhere. I really like him a lot, but it seems like he doesn't want anything serious with me, not even a relationship. \n\nSometimes I have the urge to just tell him that, and every time I start, he says he doesn't want to go fast. But it's been 7 months. Then I end up crying at home and I want to dump him because he's a coward, but I can't because I think I'm in love...", "summary": "He (21) is a good guy, but I'm afraid he doesn't want anything serious with me (19).  How should I react?"}
{"id": "t3_2bm06n", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Question about how to handle myself after a break up. Me [22M] and my [22F] ex girlfriend", "post": "Hey, first time post on here and I'm unsure how to handle myself.\n\nAbout last October (in 2013) I broke up with my long time girlfriend. We dated for about 6 years, throughout most of high school and a large portion of college. She was the first girl I dated and I really did care for her. I broke up with her because we were both abusive towards each other, physically (nothing extremely drastic but I have a scar on my arm because of her) and verbally.\n\nWe decided to stay friends after the break up and all seemed to be going well. However, I noticed that almost immediately (within like 2 weeks) after we broke up this guy she met from a club started hitting on her. She claims to have no attraction towards him but anyone with a pair of eyes can see there's a mutual attraction. Now I don't like this guy because he was hitting on her while we were still dating. I just got onto Facebook today to see her and a picture of him together celebrating his 21st birthday.\n\nI know I'm the one that broke it off and it's my fault for doing so, but I can't help but feel...betrayed? Is that normal? How should I handle myself? I feel like I want to punch something, as I still find myself caring for her, but that would only break my hand. I'm at a loss as to what to think/feel and I don't have anyone else around I can talk to about this. So, anyone have any thoughts?", "summary": "Ex girlfriend of a long term relationship almost immediately starts flirting with another guy after I end the relationship. I am confused and feel betrayed and would welcome any kind of input."}
{"id": "t3_26cbi1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [26f] deleted my ex [32m] off of Facebook After amicable breakup. I want to add him back on... Who do you think?", "post": "We broke up a little less than two weeks ago. Although the breakup was amicable, it was one sided and I was hurt at the time. I deleted him and all pics of us together. I wasn't thinking, I was just being rash. That was far from what I wanted to do. I don't want to send the message that I wanted to cut him out of my life. \n\nWell, he noticed it and bought it up during our last interaction. I explained to him why and said I regretted it immediately after and he simply said to add him back on when I'm ready.\n\nYesterday, I learned that he is upset/bitter about it. And he has been avoiding me. We have a mutual group of friends and they've been taking turn hanging out with each of us individually. I'm thinking it's due to me deleting him (?) or still torn about the breakup. \n\nI'm fine, I have no resentment or anger over the breakup. I care for him and I know he made the best choice for him. And I'm happy that he was honest with me rather than dragging me along. \nMy question is, is it okay for me to add him back on so recently after the breakup?", "summary": "deleted ex off of Facebook immediately after our breakup, he's upset about it and I regretted my action. Should I add him back on?"}
{"id": "t3_4bdcbj", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Is MFP setting me with a too-high calorie goal?", "post": "27F/5'10\"/SW: 275 CW: 231 GW: 160\n\nFor the past three weeks, I have bounced between 231-232 without any loss. I know plateaus can happen, but I went through the typical troubleshooting steps to see if I could break it. \n\nOne of the things I wondered about is if MFP is setting my calorie intake goal too high. Currently it says I should aim for 1330 per day to lose 2 pounds a week. I didn't think anything of it until I saw a post earlier where someone mentioned determining your TDEE on your own. When I did that, it showed my calorie intake should be 1234 per day to lose 2lbs. Both were set to sedentary. \n\nAm I confused about something or is MFP setting my calorie intake goal a little too high?", "summary": "Checked MFP calorie goal set at 1330. Did own TDEE calculation that shows it should be 1234. Did I do something wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_l94fd", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My cousin touches me when I'm asleep, Reddit, what should I do?", "post": "I'm a 25 year old female, and living with my aunt and uncle until I can get back on my feet. For now, I sleep in the living room on a cot. For the past few months I have, on several occasions, awoken in the middle of the night to my cousin either touching me or standing over my bed. The touches haven't been anywhere sexual, mostly my feet, and a couple of times my leg or stomach (still incredibly uncomfortable). It has only been in the past 2 months that I have been aware of this behavior, but previous to this there have been times when he went out of his way to \"bump\" into my feet under the table, or to sit close to me and touch my arm. \n\nLately, when I have woken up to these unwanted touches, I tell him to leave me alone, and he backs off quickly, without a word. I have told my sister, who also sleeps nearby, and she tries to keep an eye out for me when she stays up late. We can't really say anything to my aunt or uncle because of our living situation, and our belief that they would take their son's side over ours, especially without proof.\n\nI find myself dreading going to sleep, and I've completely stopped talking to my cousin, opting to avoid all contact with him at all. He seems to show no remorse for his actions, especially after the first time I blatantly caught him in the act and told him for the first time to leave me alone. I can't stand this! What do I do? What's wrong with him?", "summary": "My cousin touches me when I'm asleep, I can't tell my aunt and uncle because of my living situation, what do?"}
{"id": "t3_1s3bsn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] of 5 months, and she's been forced into making a big call", "post": "**Background:** I met my girlfriend over the summer. She's originally from my hometown, living 2 states away, and she was here for a visit.\n\nOver the course of our relationship, we discovered we loved each other, and she made the decision to live here again and move back in with her parents, and that way she and I could be together and she'd be with her family and have a safe platform from which to start a new life. This is supposed to happen by the New Year, she already moved her dog in with her parents.\n\n**Conflict:** We're finally a month away from her moving here when one of her friends offers her a tattoo apprenticeship. Friend knows that this is a long process, and he also knows that her plan was to move here to be with me and to start a new life. And becoming a tattoo artist is her life dream.\n\nI love her and I want her to be happy and live her dreams, but neither of us can take a long distance relationship for much longer. I've offered to use my network here to find her an apprenticeship, but she says she'd rather work with somebody she knows.\n\nI get the feeling that this is, in a sense, her leaving me at the altar. I feel hurt, a little betrayed, and perhaps a bit suspicious of her friend's motives (but of course I have no proof, and she has a clean record, so that's probably just the shock and stress talking).", "summary": "Girlfriend has a big opportunity ahead of her, but if she accepts, it will cost us our relationship."}
{"id": "t3_4pk3m8", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Job Threatened for knowing a coworkers compensation", "post": "In a recent discussion with upper management and HR, I was asking for a well-deserved raise that I had been promised over 6 months prior, but had not yet received. In the course of this discussion, I had pointed out that one of the new-hire employees I manage, who can barely keep above water on the best of days, was making quite nearly as much as me, and that I had been trying not to take it as sexism thus far.\n\nThe discussion had been entirely with my manager up until this point, who assured me that things were being handled, but the HR stand-in perked up at this, and told me it was against company policy to discuss compensation, which could result in punishment up to and including termination. I told her that I had not disclosed my salary, it was another employee who had told me without cause, and she went back to being quiet.\n\nI called my friendly neighborhood employment lawyer, who assured me that it was in fact illegal to threaten or punish employees for discussing their wages, so I followed up in an email outlining our discussion, reiterating that I had not spoken or asked about coworker wages, and advised them that if they have such a policy as I had been 'warned' about, that it was against federal law and that they should revisit it at their earliest convenience.\n\nThis whole thing has me seething, as this feels like just one more thing the company is doing to try and not follow through on their promises to me, and its just infuriating that I have to jump so many hoops to get whats due. And threatening my job is an all new low.", "summary": "Complained to HR that I make the same as a subordinate and asked for an overdue raise, was told I could be fired for knowing that information, despite that reprisal being federally illegal. Is there something I should do at this point, either to solidify my position or just to get this behind me?"}
{"id": "t3_2hs8ix", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by crashing my parents car into the house", "post": "Okay, so (very) small backstory first:\n\nI've had my learners for quite a while, but I have been hesitant to take the wheel... until today.\n\nSo my mum convinces me to spend 5 minutes learning the basics (car's a manual, so all the gear jazz) just to get me used to it. All is going well, then she instructs me to start the engine. I decided to see what happens if you try and start it without pushing on the clutch pedal. The power cuts out as I turn the key and comes back to life again as I return it to that engine-off-but-powering-the-electronics setting. Neat. \nI soon decide I've had enough fun and slam the clutch down while turning the key. The engine roars to life as I begin to gain some composure. \n\nBefore I know it, the car lunges forward and nearly takes down the wall of the storage room! Ah fuck! That's where all my dad's drum equipment is! I look over to my mum, who has already said several expletives under her breath; she isn't one to swear very much at all. \n\nAs I begin to comprehend the situation and how it could have possibly happened, my mum jumps out to assess the damage. Nothing but a few scratches on the car, a now unusable shelf and a dent in the wall. The drums were spared! \n\nAs for how it happened, I have no idea. The handbrake was on, I had my foot on the clutch pedal and even though it's a possibility, I'm almost certain I didn't have my other foot on the accelerator. \n\nI've been assured it is in no way my fault by both of my parents, but it's gonna cost them $800 alone for the car, so I can't help but feel guilt.\n\nAnd to make things a tad more interesting? I spent most of last night watching car crash videos on YouTube. So yeahh... I think I'm good in the passengers seat for a while.", "summary": "Read the title."}
{"id": "t3_2ff0q4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [24 M] with my GF[24 F] 1 Year are both pretty reserved people and have trouble communicating. How can we change that?", "post": "Like the title says, my GF and I have been together for about a year now, and are doing a LTR thing (about an hour apart). We both have very demanding jobs that require long hours, and end up spending the weekends together. \n\nThe problem is that we are both generally fairly reserved people (more her than me). We both definitely enjoy spending time with each other, and much of it is spent in silence. Now, I dont mean that as a bad thing as we both require a good amount of downtime to just spend relaxing and resting, but I feel like we end up not talking about anything really meaningful. We have both acknowledged this as a problem, but dont seem to have any good way of really fixing it.\n\nIs there something we can do to make this less of a problem? \"Communicating more\" is not really helpful advice as neither one of us is really good at really opening up.", "summary": "how can I communicate better with my SO?"}
{"id": "t3_3z3eku", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What do I [18F] do about missing my ex boyfriend [21M]?", "post": "My ex boyfriend and I dated for about 3 years and it did have a lot of issues because of us both being so young for the duration. I broke things off before I left for college this fall and simply explained that I thought we both needed to grow and expand on our own a little bit, because we had become too reliant on one another. As many new people as I have talked to, there is nobody personality or interest wise that I click with or that I do not have to compensate for many of their traits which I never had to do with him. I feel as though we've both grown up a lot in the time we've spent apart and truly want to rekindle our relationship. I think being together from ages 14-18 for me and 17-21 for him called for a break but I miss him more than anything in the world and want nothing more than to pick up where we left off. Is it insane of me to think that anything good could come out of it?", "summary": "long term relationship ended, both had time apart to grow up, should I try to reach out and rekindle?"}
{"id": "t3_348anc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me: [19M] Her: 19[F] Not sure how to apologize", "post": "Her texts are the ones in quotation marks.\n\nThis kind of stuff [starting a relationship] is still new to me lol.\n\n\"Loo why so new\"\n\nJust never got very far before lol. Focused more on other things.\n\n\"Well that's good don't wanna ruin anything for you\"\n\nNot focused on other things now though. You couldn't ruin anything for me.\n\n\"I see\"\n\nYeah those were back in the high school days, but those days are long gone. Now I'm glad to have someone like you to do stuff with.\n\n\"Really\"\n\nDefinitely. :)\n\n[insert day long silence]\n\nI think she's mad at me because she misunderstood one of my texts. I could see how \"focused more on other things\" sounds like I mean *right now* and not in the past. I tried to recover from that confusion I caused, but I was already getting the cold shoulder replies by then.\n\nI came here because I'm overanalyzing any apology I start to text. \"I'm sorry if I made you upset. I could have been clearer with what I typed and that's my fault\" is the current draft that I haven't thrown out. Probably already in deeper shit because I went the whole day without saying anything because I figured (until this place told me otherwise) that it would be better to leave her alone for the day.", "summary": "Need someone to smack sense into me on how to apologize properly because I keep overthinking it."}
{"id": "t3_2kmsov", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [23F] ex and my best friend [both 23 M/F] are into each other...", "post": "So. This is a silly situation, and I'm not looking for advice so much as for commiseration. I dated B for 2 years; we broke up fairly amicably 3 years ago and after about 6 months of no contact we fell back into a pretty close friendship. Meanwhile, I started dating my current boyfriend, M, 2 years ago and we now live together. We all three went to college together, and B and M had/have a solid friendship outside of me.\n\nMy best friend since childhood (so, 20-odd years), C, just moved to our city, and she knows no one but me and my boyfriend (and I love her) so we spend a lot of time together. B, meanwhile, lives in a relatively nearby city and is good friends with both me and my boyfriend, so he decided to come visit us. He is now here, staying in our apartment.\n\nAnyway, over the past few days it's become pretty painfully obvious that he is crazy into my best friend, and she just got out of a longterm relationship and finds him attractive and is looking for a rebound. So basically, his visit has turned into a flirtfest. And... I guess I just am feeling weird about it. I promised C that I have no issue with it, and on the surface I don't, but... It makes me kinda sad that this visit totally turned into ways for B to hang out with C, and honestly, I know it's selfish but I DO feel weird about them hooking up. They met through me. I feel very very close to both of them, and I know I should just be happy that they like each other etc., and I am. But at the same time... I dunno. It's weird. \n\nI guess I'm looking for anyone to tell me it's okay to be not entirely comfortable with my ex and my best friend having a thing during this trip?", "summary": "My ex and my best friend are about to hook up all over my futon. It's weird."}
{"id": "t3_d370l", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, do you mind helping my poor, decrepit grandparents with their ISP issues?", "post": "Alright, so here's the story. My grandparents are currently paying for two separate sets of high speed internet, one with their tv service through Comcast I believe, and one with their landline included, provided through AT&T. They want to drop their landline. Now normally, this would seem easy, but my grandparents have been paying for AT&T only after they purchased Prodigy, which was their original provider. So here's the issue. My grandparents still use their primary email as ~@prodigy.net, hosted through yahoo. This email serves as the basis of all their internet accounts. So they worry that dropping AT&T as their provider will drop their access to their email accounts. They have no desire to change their accounts. So is there anyway they can drop the provider but still keep their accounts? Needless to say, I am not really qualified to offer advice to them, having no experience with ISPs.", "summary": "My grandparents don't want to change email accounts, but change ISPs. Possible?"}
{"id": "t3_qn1h6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit. Is it insensitive to say your pro life argument is invalid because it is based on \"I love babies!\"", "post": "Had a friend at work talking tell me I was insensitive for saying that her reason for being anti abortion is that \"you should think of the babies.\"  This lady is that one lady at your job that is really hard to get along with and really doesn't like anyone she works with.  I try explaining that babies grow up and you aren't really a person that likes people and the baby will eventually become someone she will dislike.  I make a observation that the thought process, like many others, see babies as a very cute accessory like a purse and that's all she likes them for.  Do you know people that say their reason for pro life is \"I heart babies!\"?", "summary": "Babies aren't purses"}
{"id": "t3_xzyyb", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I need some idea's for my Circus themed haunted house?", "post": "**what I've got so far is :**\n\nthe guests come to my door and are greeted by a magician, who will be wearing a top hat, when she bows to the guests she will take off the hat, reveling a rabid rabbit chewing on her brains. \n\nbeside her will be a motionless glass walker, laying on the glass with blood seeping around\n\n the magician will lead the guests through the haunted house, there will be 4 rooms starting with :\n\n*the bearded lady, her beard will be very long, wrapped around her neck and pulled up to the ceiling as if she were hung by the beard. \n\n*They will then be brought to a gymnast/acrobat who is laying on the ground impaled by one of the [\"swings\"] also  there will be broken strings coming out of the ceiling to show they broke, lots of blood will be used. \n\n*onto the next  room will be the elephant tamer, we are going to block off a portion on the room and make a faux hallway coming out of the hallway will be a long elephant nose wrapped around the trainers neck or belly, the trainer will be holding a ['bull whip'] which will be bloody, and there will be wounds on the trunk showing abuse (which is why the elephant attacked) \n\n*after that room the guests will be lead to the lion tamer room, were a bloody and clawed up lion tamer will be fighting off [my cat with a fake mane] (Not actually my cat but that's the idea.) \n\n*They will be lead to the back door were a zombie [cigarette girl] will have the candy, and a tip jar. \n\n**The** **end**\n\nsorry for the long post, but if anyone  has idea's to make it better, or to add to it, I would very much appreciate it.", "summary": "making a circus themed haunted house need more idea's."}
{"id": "t3_2nyels", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I kissed my ex girlfriend and she has a boyfriend.I am [M22] she is [F21]", "post": "Me and the ex dated for just shy of 3 years , normal relationship troubles, in the end I was too insecure and she wanted new experiences. We broke up 3 years ago and barely spoke through text and never saw each other in person. She even came to my brothers graduation and we didn't speak.\n\nLast week on thanksgiving eve at our local bar crawl she texts me with a picture of her and my mom and then asked where I was. I told her the next stop of the crawl and she said she would come say hi. When she gets there we just start talking instantly , she was smiling, twirling hair and biting her lip, for her means she is nervous. I lose track of time and her friends start saying they want to go to the next stop. She wants me to come and I reluctantly agree, she is \"forced\" to sit on my lap none of her friends because the car is packed.\n\nAt the next bar , same thing , we just keep talking just sucked into conversation. She has been clearly drunk the whole night and I am pretty tipsy. She says she wants to go home and not wait for her friend to go with, which as I took an opportunity to walk her home since we lived close to each other. As we walk she grabs me and holds me for \"warmth\" . \n\nWe get back to her house and she invites me inside. We go upstairs and start talking for a little , then her friend gets there, she didn't want her friend to make a mistake. So my ex decides Its better I leave. As she sees me out the door , we hugged tightly, as I was turning to go she grabbed my head and gave me on good kiss goodbye.\n\nI asked her the day after what it meant because she has a boyfriend whom she seemed to really like and be happy with. She doesn't fully answer me and tries to just end it with she was drunk. I take it for what it was as a mistake but its bothering me now, why did she do all that to me. I don't need to be with her but that just wasn't fair emotionally and I want to know why it happeenrd..", "summary": "Ex girlfriend and I drunkenly speak for first time since break up, feels from both sides, we walk home and share a kiss, next day she claims its a mistake. And I am now confused."}
{"id": "t3_1rwkoq", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(19F) College dating/relationship advice please", "post": "Hi, so I'm a (19F) freshman at a large public university. I've got a huge crush on this amazing guy (18M, also a freshman) in my major. Since our major is rather artsy, we spend a ton of time together with classes and working in the studio (we're in the same studio group) and whatnot. As we discovered more and more common interests, we've become really good friends. A few weeks ago, we went to see the local symphony play, and we ended up deciding it was a date. We had a great time and have gone on a couple more dates since then. After 3 dates or so, we finally figured out that we like each other. Since then, we've been texting each other regularly and I got to cuddle with him for the last 10 minutes or so of this movie we watched. We're going on another date in a couple of days and I am starting to wonder if/when we should dtr. Also, when/how do I kiss him? Is it too soon? I've only known him for ~3 months.", "summary": "This awesome guy in my major and I like each other and have gone on a few dates, but we've also only known each other for 3 months. Is it too soon for us to dtr/kiss?"}
{"id": "t3_2dqe5n", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an overprotective mom", "post": "Well, it's been over 2 hours since this happened and my face is *just* relaxing from the cringeface position....Although my almost 19-year old daughter is all grown up and has her own life, I still can't let go of worrying about her of course. \n\nNow, she just got her 5th tattoo on her forearm about 2 weeks ago and I haven't been able to see if it's healing correctly since I barely see her (work, social life, new girlfriend) so I always try to spend quality time with her for a little bit.  \nShe came in this morning after spending the night at her girlfriend's house and I met her at the door. I notice right away a series of small, red welts resembling either flea bites or irritated mosquito bites. More worryingly, they were all along the edges of her fairly new tattoo. Oh no! My mind went into overdrive. Allergy to the inks! Dirty technique/needles!!  \n\"[Daughter]! What the heck are those!\"\nDaughter smiles wryly and walks to her room. \"Nothing, mom I have to get ready for work.\"\n\nI followed her to her room, exclaiming to see her forearm. \"Please explain what are these, you could be having an allergic reaction or something!\"  \n\"Moooom! It's nothing, believe me!\" She begins to look embarrassed and I'm slightly puzzled, but oh no, I have to press on.  \nI look her in the eye and say, \"[Daughter], I don't care what it's about. You can tell me anything, ok?\" (Ok I'm a worrywart.)\nShe looked off past my head and then sighs. \"They're fingernail marks.\"  \nI stare back, processing what she said. \"What.\"  \nShe points at the welts--all the telltale marks of fingernail marks...in a certain...pattern.\nMy face is instantly blank and I stammer, \"Oh, ok well ok ok.\"", "summary": "Lesbian porn is *RUINED* for me, for life."}
{"id": "t3_2knn6z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21F] Becomes a horrible person when in a relationship. Jealous, controlling and moody. Its ruining every relationship I have and I want to change.", "post": "In the beginning of a relationship I am always care free, fun loving, always bubbly and happy but as things progress I always become such a horrible person. I start to care about someone and suddenly I am jealous that they have girls as friends. I'll become annoyed that they hang out with friends instead of spending time with me. I become controlling, jealous and very moody. It causes me so much anxiety and anguish. In the past I have broken up with partners because I can't cope with how terrible I feel, how crazy it makes me. It's like I am so insecure it consumes me and no matter what I do I can't let things go, I can't just shake it of and smile and pretend its ok. Example if a partner was to go away for a weekend with the boys this would cause so much anxiety that I would rather dump the person then go through the emotional pain/craziness it would cause me. \nI want to be a kind caring person, with no jealousy  or controlling attitudes towards my partner. Why am I like this? Its ruining every relationship I have and I want it to stop. I want to be a kind person that will put another's happiness ahead of my  insecure thoughts. Does anyone else have these problems? What can I do to change?", "summary": "Mandatory summary/question!"}
{"id": "t3_1xzlz1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[Update 2] After getting back together, my[27M] girl[27F] still talks to the guy she ended things with me for.", "post": "So you guys gave me a lot of amazing advice for my screwed up situation (which was here:  but pretty much this girl I was with ended things after I called her out for texting her ex too much, and she exploded at me, yelled at me for accusing her, and then proceed to go to ex's house.)  \n\nAnyway, I've been doing a good job avoiding her even in the same social circle, but two nights ago I saw here and she was all over me, trying to hook up, saying she was sorry, that she is bad at relationships, etc.  The same thing I heard twice before when I gave her other chances and got back after we ended.  \n\nShe tried to make out with me, and I cheeked her.  It was one of the toughest things I had to do.  Reddit, I have been with a lot of girls, but she is the second one ever I've loved, which makes this really hard for me.  I feel awful, like I messed up not giving her another chance, and I know she was really upset, then wound up going to a party with these guys she knows. I can deduce what happened from there.\n\nI've been seeing other girls and even that night I wound up hooking up with someone else but all I could think about was her and upset about the whole situation.  I realize it would be dumb to give her a fourth chance, and my feelings are sadness mixed with anger towards her... how do I keep sane during this?  I feel so depressed about it all.   I know she is really upset about it too (she may have drunk social media...)", "summary": "girl treated me like shit three times and the last time was really bad. You guys helped with advice, and now she's trying to come around again. I stayed smart and rejected her advances, but I'm really depressed about it.*"}
{"id": "t3_471a03", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [21 M] don't feel a spark with this girl [18 F] I'm dating, would that mean our relationship can't work out?", "post": "I've been currently dating this girl for about two weeks now and while we're incredible affectionate to each other and have awesome conversation I just don't know if I have strong enough feelings to continue dating her. she's only the second girl I have ever dated in my life so I don't have much experience with understanding how relationships work. I've also made the mistake of saying I love you to her now she might think I'm in love with her. \n\nBut the thing that really bothers me was that on our second date we just spent most of the time just making out in my car until I ended up fingering her and eating her out (Idk why I'm just a horny virgin I guess and so is she). Anyway I like so much about her, but I don't feel a spark. I just don't want to end up wasting her time or emotionally damaging her.", "summary": "I don't feel much of a spark with this girl does that mean there no chance for our relationship? I still like so much about her, but I just don't feel the \"spark\"."}
{"id": "t3_17i50b", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [F21] got an abortion and didn't tell my boyfriend [M21] that I was even pregnant. What should I do now?", "post": "Boyfriend and I have been together 10 months. He was out of town when I realized I was pregnant (I have a copper IUD in, I really don't know how it happened) , in the past we have always discussed what would happen if I got pregnant, and we both agreed that it would be best to get an abortion (I am uninterested in *ever* having children)\n\nWhen I found out I was pregnant I sort of just panicked and booked the abortion right away, so I didn't consult him about it at all (he was still out of town, and it's not something I wanted to discuss over the phone)... got the abortion, he came home, everything has been great between us since...\n\n...Except I feel guilty for having not told him about it, and now I'm afraid that if I tell him about it, he won't trust me anymore. There's no reason for me *not* telling him, I just have a hard time with conversations like that, I guess. What should I do now? Can our relationship be salvaged either way? I know I *really* fucked up and that I *should* tell him, but I'm really afraid that he'll leave me (which I probably deserve in the first place). Help?", "summary": "I got pregnant (despite the fact that I have a copper IUD in, ugh), got an abortion. Didn't tell my boyfriend of 10 months about any of it. Now I feel guilty but I'm afraid that if I tell him he'll leave me. How should I deal with this?"}
{"id": "t3_4i8eig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] 4Y, lost romance", "post": "So, me and my girlfriend have been together for around 4 years. We have a 2 year old kid at the moment.\n\nI've lost my love for her, mostly do to some issues we had lately with trust, her unwillingness to commit (she'll be with me, but wants the option to bail if she wants to) and etc. \n\nThe only reason we still live together is because of my daughter. If my GF leaves (ie, I ask her to move out) she would need to move back 1.1k miles back to her mother. \n\nI love my daughter more than anything, but the relationship with me and her mom is dead. I want to go back to my old life, before everything that happened with us. \n\nIs having our daughter be our glue bad, and should I just end it?", "summary": "Should I ask my GF to move back with mom 1k miles away and lose daughter?"}
{"id": "t3_29ddwm", "subreddit": "needadvice", "title": "I consider myself a bad human. How do I recover?", "post": "As the title states, I dislike the person I've become. \n\nI've always tried to be helpful to others and have viewed myself as a leader or as an aid for others. I've always lead my group of friends and would support weak links in whatever way I can. \n\nHowever, as time passed I was exploited and bullied upon and I allowed a lot of people to utilize my personality for their benefit. This made me become cold and judgemental towards others. I now evaluate people on if I think they deserve my help. This was the beginning of a slight depression for me. \n\nThis judgemental behaviour made me calculate everything, even my relationships. Now to the root of my problem; i dont know if I'm capable of falling in love. \n\nBefore I used to be timid and only approached women if I felt a compulsion to talk to them. Nowadays I choose women on whoever I think can take care of me the best (I basically look for women that offer the best value if I dated them), I don't even get that butterfly feeling I used too in high school. My last 2 ex girlfriends I spoke to because they were the prettiest Asians in my class and I never dated an Asian before. My current girlfriend I chose her because she can cook and has a good sexual appetite.", "summary": "i feel like I'm a fake person who uses people for his own self benefit and only commits to favours only if I'm certain I'll get the favour returned. I want to become into a person that let's life take its course and enjoy it instead of constantly stressing over how to squeeze the best value for myself out of situations"}
{"id": "t3_1nzqqz", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "several years difference and at different stages in life plus long distance. anyone been through something similar with success?", "post": "so basically I'm at a point in life where I want to settle down, buy a home, start my career and go on yearly vacations and in around 5-10ys start a family.\n\nmy partner is just entering adulthood. figuring out what they want to do in life. wants to spend their money on traveling the world before \"settling down\".\n\nwe are on fundamentally different stages of our lives.\n\nI'm in my late 20s close to 30 (big freak out for me due to the expectations of what I want accomplished by then etc) they are in their very early 20s.\n\nand we live on opposite sides of the globe literally.\n\nanyone been in a similar situation with words of advice as the older party?", "summary": "trying to reconcile my feeling of wanting to settle down with the feeling of letting them be free to do what they want."}
{"id": "t3_4xtpzr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [23/F] have a crush, but still love my boyfriend [26/M].", "post": "Hey. Throwaway here...  \n\nI have a heartache. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. I will be visiting him soon. The distance is hard, but we try to be pretty consistent about Skyping and visiting. It's less than 2 hours away by plane, so it could be a lot worse. We've been friends for five years, and he's been great. I sometimes contrive loneliness due to lack of attention, but we're both busy with full schedules. I never felt the head-over-heels attraction for him, but fell in love with him pretty gradually. He was there for me after a bad break up and eventually feelings developed. We've been together since, and for the most part I've been pretty happy.\n\nI met someone recently, and I began to realize that I was quickly developing a crush. We would message each other throughout the day when I was at work, just to talk, and I now know I look forward to it. It doesn't hurt that this guy seems to be reciprocating. I realize that having a crush isn't the end of the world and can happen to anyone, and I don't feel any desire to cheat, but I'm at such a loss on how to deal with my emotions. I haven't done anything save for talk to this guy, and I feel immense guilt because I know I'm enjoying it. I'm trying to muster up the willpower to just cut the connection before it gets harder for me, and then another part of me tells me not to. \n\nI'm not 100% sure what I'm asking, but I felt like I had no outlet and needed to get this off of my chest. I feel so mixed up. My SO knows that I'm friends with this person, knows that we talk (though he doesn't know the extent of how much we talk). I set a boundary with new guy, saying he needed to curb how much he flirted since I was in a dedicated relationship, and here I am crushing like I'm fourteen again.", "summary": "Dedicated relationship in which I love my SO and I'm crushing on another guy. Tried to set boundaries with new friend, and I'm on the verge of breaking them myself (flirting)."}
{"id": "t3_3204cx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do I let a family friend know I like her without making things awkward?", "post": "I'm a man and she's a woman. She's a family friend and is actually my sister's sister in law. We've never really been that close but I've had a huge crush on her for a long time and she knows who I am at least. She just got out of a relationship a while back, and I figured I would give her time to get her bearings back.\n\nWe are both in our early 20's\n\nI've made small talk on Facebook a few times and she seems really friendly, but it doesn't ever really go anywhere beyond very formal small talk.\n\nI've tried hinting to my sister to hook us up or help us get to know each other but she's missed all my hints entirely. I'm afraid to be too blatant because I don't want to make things awkward with her or that side of my sisters family because I have a lot of contact with them.\n\nWhat should I do?", "summary": "Like my sister in law and want to ask her out without making things awkward around my family and around her family"}
{"id": "t3_k636k", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Girl I'm in love with.", "post": "Dear Reddit,I am a freshman in high-school, and there is this girl that I've kind of been on and off with since 7th grade. Now I know what your thinking, I am too young for 'love', but i am definitely certain that I am in love with this girl, for example her best friend who is extremely hot wanted to hook up with me over the summer, but I had to decline because I couldn't do that to her, it just wouldn't feel right...Now the reason we have been on and off is because I am incredibly shy, and so is she..Now the problem is that I have liked her for years and my family just moved 5 hours away from the city that I previously lived in, and i haven't talked to her in months. I am very scared that she has lost all interest in me. But i will go back to my hometown for voodoo fest, and jazzfest, and for the entire summer. But im just not sure on how to ask her on a date...Its really troubling me.. So Redditors of Reddit. PLEASE HELP ME OUT HERE!", "summary": "I need to know how to ask my ex girlfriend, and the love of my life on a date.."}
{"id": "t3_2r9qqa", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] confused by mixed signals [18F]?", "post": "Hi guys, I know It's another teenage post that isn't \"real love\". I understand it guys, but please be understanding as I'm sure you were once an adolescent in the grasp of lust. \n\nI realise dating at the work place isn't a good idea. Back story: I go to high school A, she goes to high school B. Both are close in distance. We work at the same restaurant. She has been flirting with me heavily and her friend we'll call her \"E\" has been saying that she is almost certain she likes me.\n\nI ask her out on New Years Eve, under the moon and she says I'll think about it. Fast forward a few days and I'm at work. I ask E what she thinks about \"i'll think about it\" she says it probably means no. Albeit, E does have feelings for me as well she knows that I'm really happy being with said Girl. \n\nSaid Girl I like \"M\" asks girl \"E\" if she can cover her shift as she has something to do tomorrow. I'm working with E and E can't work tomorrow so she asks me. I said I'm busy as well, because I am. She asks if I'm mad at \"M\" and I said that I'm not. She says that she has told \"M\" about our conversation about the whole \"ill think about it\" means no conversation.\n\nM texts me at the end of my shift and asks if I wanted to get dinner sometime next week. A pity date? Oh and I should mention that she said okay originally but then said i'll think about it when I couldn't think of a place to go. Pity date or wants to go with me? She is also moving in about 2 weeks, about 30 mins away, but she is still going to the same school.", "summary": "Reading makes it much more understandable, but I like girl, she said I'll think about it, her friend says it probably means no, but girl I asked texted me for date? Pity Date or Nah?"}
{"id": "t3_2jt57s", "subreddit": "Cooking", "title": "I made a new sub dedicated to Southern Food & Cooking yesterday.", "post": "Hello, I created a subreddit tonight dedicated to the style of cooking my grandma, or mamaw as I called her, used to uphold and I would warmly like to invite you all to visit. Cooking in the American South has a long, and savory, history leading to food being one of the biggest parts of their culture that southerners still cling to. From crawdad boils, to biscuits and gravy and chicken fried steak, food is a big, pun intended, part of the south. I'm hoping that /r/DixieFood becomes reputable enough to have a active healthy community and become part of the /r/food network. Southern food has left a personal mark on me, obviously. \n\nThe Pig Roast was my favorite event as a kid with a father who lived in Southeast Oklahoma. Every summer my dad would hold a big labor day party on his farm. It seemed everyone in the county would be invited because there was always a crowd. The party would take place in the barn, where beer, sweet tea, and appetizers consisting of sausage, corn, cheeze whiz and chips met the reveler. Outside the barn, near, but not quite under a shade tree, was a hole we dug the day before, filled with hot coals, and a cleaned and seasoned hog. On top of the pig we layered burlap sacks to keep the smoke and heat in. The hog was phenomenal tasting, and was followed by more drinking, a bon fire and us kids shooting off sack-loads of fire crackers. I can't think of a soul who went home unhappy that night, and its a party I will forever hold dear. It is these types of sentiments which I wish to promote with /r/DixieFood. Come on by yall!", "summary": "I made a subreddit dedicated to Southern food and want you to visit! "}
{"id": "t3_2j2576", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] [2 months], Am I wrong for feeling weird about her speaking to her ex lovers?", "post": "She recently told me that she's still in contact with her ex's that she's done stuff with. She's still a virgin but she's done pretty much everything else. I'm about the same, virgin but have done stuff. I've cut off anybody who's had any action with me but she continues to talk to them as if nothing happens. Am I wrong for feeling somewhat hurt?\nI told her about how it makes me feel, but she dismisses it really quickly. There's 0 possibility for her to do things with them because she lives in a new city but it just ticks me.", "summary": "girlfriend talks to people she used to mess around with and it's driving me nuts"}
{"id": "t3_2v2iwi", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by accidentally groping a stranger.", "post": "Earlier today, I decided to go to the school basketball game. Everyone was having fun and we were all hyped up. There was also the school mascot who ran around getting people pumped for the game. In earlier games, a good friend of mine was the mascot and he often poked me to get my attention. Anyways, I was enjoying the game when the school mascot decided to come over and start touching my face. Assuming it was my friend, I told him to stop but he kept going so I thought it would be funny if I put my hand on his chest and stare passionately into his eyes. \n\nThe person in the mascot suit was not my friend.  I quickly realized this after staring into the eye mesh of the mascot hemlet. The mascot quickly realized what was happening, shoved my hand away and took off behind the bleachers. Realizing what had just happened, I started to ask people who was in the mascot. Not only was it not my friend, but it was a girl. I had just accidentally groped a random girl who I have never met in my life. After returning home, all I could think about was how I'm probably going to be known as a pervert who sexually harasses strangers.\n\n I have never met this person but I know her name. I don't even know what she looks like. How do I fix the situation?", "summary": "went to a basketball game, thought my friend was the mascot, groped the mascot, and realized my friend wasn't the mascot."}
{"id": "t3_l4fxa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Wedding?", "post": "Hello fellow Redditors.  \n\nI proposed to my girlfriend on the Fourth of July during the fireworks this year.  Thankfully she said yes and we are very excited to get married.  \n\nSince then, the question I have been asked the most is \"When and where?\"  After three months, we decided we are going to have our wedding at one of our favorite places (Cooper's Rock, West Virginia).\n\nWe met while going to school at West Virginia University, and feel it would be perfect to get married there.  The only problem we have is we don't have the money for the wedding.  \n\nBoth of our parents are unable to contribute and student loans are dragging us down every month.  We are able to save every two paychecks, but it is so little that doesn't look like we would be able to save a decent amount for about two years.  \n\nMy girlfriend says she is fine waiting two years for the wedding, but I know it really hurts her to wait.  So finally my question for you folks is, \"What are some ways to cut back and/or raise money for a wedding.\" \n\nI have no clue what the budget can or would be. Getting a second job is not possible as, I work over 40 hours a week and she is going back to school to get her nursing degree.  We have thought about a destination/cruise wedding but don't want to exclude those who could not travel.  Any ideas?", "summary": "Ideas for raising money for a wedding."}
{"id": "t3_1o4b4r", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Stereotypical post school, university dilemma", "post": "So I've been going out with this girl for a year and a half during sixth form. We went to the same school for two years and now we've both gone to university. The main problem with the situation is that she has remained in the home country but I've gone abroad and my degree is for 6 years, so I'll be here for a while. Now, we'd previously decided to just break it off soon as summer was over and just stay friends, but now I've been regretting that decision. My question is if any of you think that an open-ish relationship is a good idea? Basic principle of it is that when we are separate, we talk to each other etc but what any of us does on nights out doesn't matter. Then, when we're back together for xmas easter and summer we date like normal. If not feasible, are there any suggestions? I'm basically just looking for any advice.", "summary": "dating in sixth form, now in very distant university for long time. Decided to split, changed mind now trying to see if an open relationship is a feasible option."}
{"id": "t3_10jon1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My co-worker [30f] is single and always talks about just wanting to have sex...", "post": "OK... I am currently a 26 year old male. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a girl I am unsure of. My older co-worker who is now 30 dates guys occasionally from Match.Com. Anyways I get drinks with her as co-workers frequently (a bit less frequently in the last 5 months) and we generally get a long GREAT. Every time she gets drunk she says she can't find a guy and starts talking about how she would just like to let go of some stress. We have talked a few times about this and a few other people have mentioned it to both of us that we might be compatible. I am not the best looking guy but I do well with the ladies. Anyways I have a question.\n \"\nEssentially she tells me that we are both just friends but then just says that she wants to get laid. I always kind of bluntly play it off. I am unsure if her being like \"Yeah we are just friends\" when I say \"If we were not co-workers I would certainly be attracted to you\" is code for \"please make a move on me.\" I know she is not seeing anyone else and I think I may be in this case", "summary": "30 year old girl from work says we are just friends but then says she just wants to get laid in odd ways and gives me the impression that she only says that we are friends to avoid embarrassment. Should I make a move?"}
{"id": "t3_1a5g25", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Forgot to take care of ticket, license revoked, got caught driving, big fine, can I reduce it?", "post": "So essentially back at the end of November I got pulled over for expired tabs. The officer asked to see my proof of insurance, which unfortunately I did not have on me.I had just switched to another company so thus hadn't transfered the card from home to car yet, however I was insured. I got a ticket for not having my proof of insurance on me, which I could resolve with a phonecall or a quick trip to the courthouse. I knew it wasn't a big deal.\n\nUnfortunately I forgot about it, so naturally three months later someone runs me off the road into a ditch and the police get involved. They see my license is revoked and write me up a citation. Now I have to pay about $570 combined from the ticket and citation(each one is about half that value). \n\nNow it's totally my fault for getting into this mess and it was absolutely avoidable. But now that the worst-case scenario has befallen I find myself in a bind. Is there any way to have this fine lessened?\n\nRelevant info:\n\n-This is Anoka County in the state of Minnesota we're talking.\n\n-I was insured when I was pulled over, I just didn't have my proof on me at the time", "summary": "Is pretty much the title."}
{"id": "t3_4thmpx", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16F] don't trust my parents [50sM/F]", "post": "My parents have lied to me a lot throughout my life, and they always excuse it as either being for my own good or that they are the parents and I am the child and that they don't owe me the truth. This has caused a lot of problems in our relationship. For instance, they lied to me and told me that my grandfather was fine and getting better, when he really wasn't, so I didn't get to say goodbye to him. Yeah, it would have been really upsetting at the time, but it's more upsetting to me now. They refused to admit that they did anything wrong, even though some of our other relatives actually told them off for doing that. That's the worst example, but this kind of thing has happened a lot. \n\nThe last time this happened, I stupidly believed that they were being sincere when they told me that if I ever was in an unsafe situation, they would come pick me up and not punish me because they would rather that I be safe and do the right thing. My friend and I went to a party, when some kids showed up with vodka, and some people started getting drunk and out of control. We left the party once we realized that things were getting weird, walked to a convenience store down the street, and called my mom. My parents screamed at us both that we should have known better than to go to the party at all, and told my friend's parents where we had been. My friend didn't get punished because her parents believed that we hadn't done anything wrong and that we left on our own, but I was grounded for six weeks. \n\nI don't trust my parents at all, and lately they have been asking why I'm so quiet, and if something is the matter. Something is the matter, it's their shitty parenting. Is there any way I can make things better with my parents and get them to understand that they shouldn't lie to me?", "summary": "Parents lie to me all the time."}
{"id": "t3_3eeioy", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "We dated for a bit, I left for the summer, now she's [27F] talking to both me [28M] and another guy [28M]. What do I do?", "post": "I'll be brief with the backstory: About 3 months ago I started dating a woman, and we went on about 12 dates over 6 weeks. Then I had to leave for 12 weeks. We agreed to not be exclusive, but to keep in touch (text and Skype) and to let each other know if we see other people.\n\nAbout 3 weeks ago she told me she got asked out by another guy, and wanted to \"see where it goes,\" but wanted to keep talking to me. I visited her last week (for the first time this summer), and we had a nice date. I told her I was coming back in town the next week, and the next day she texted asking me if I wanted to hang out when I was back in town. So we lined something up.\n\nLast Sunday she posted a picture on facebook with another guy, and then on Monday she took all her self-posted pictures down (or maybe blocked them from me). On Tuesday, she texted me a lot.\n\nAnyway, I've got this date with her on Saturday, but I don't know how to feel. We're very open with each other, so I'm 95% sure she would tell me if things were serious with this other guy. But I still have a lot of stress thinking that she's falling for this other guy.\n\nI go back for good in three weeks, and soon after that I'd like to be exclusive with her. I just can't tell if she is just hanging out with this guy because she's lonely (a lot of her friends are out of town), or if it's because she's genuinely falling for him. It could also be that she doesn't know what to feel, and is dating around to see what sticks.\n\nI guess my question is this: how do I know if things are serious with this other guy, and where I stand in my relationship with this woman?\n\nAlso, just a note, since we're not exclusive, I've been going out meeting other people too, I'm just not interested in anyone else at the moment. I'd really like to make things work with this woman, but am just wondering", "summary": "I dated a woman for 6 weeks, had to leave for 12, so we aren't exclusive. She started seeing someone else (but keeps talking to me) about 3 weeks ago. Now I'm wondering (1) how do I know whether things are serious with this other guy, and (2) how do I know how she feels about me?"}
{"id": "t3_1dgzkn", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[30m]confused. propose or bail on 10 year relationship with [30f]", "post": "Would really appreciate some help here folks.\n\nBeen with my SO for 10years, since we were both 20. I've always been in long term relationships, but this is her first and only long termer. We are at the point where she is desperate for marriage and kids, and I'm not 100% sure. I worry that if we aren't perfect for each other and we end up breaking up, will that screw our children up etc etc. I love her, but not sure that I'm in love with her and I feel like she's so obsessed with the idea of marriage and children and following her 'plan', that the person she does these things with is largely inconsequential.\n\nWe have no sex life to speak of but thats largely due to the fact that I have no interest in it (partly due to the depression meds i take), but things aren't bad or uncomfortble at all, everythings just rather, routine.\n\nAm I wasting both our time here, or just afraid to commit?", "summary": "Stick or swim?"}
{"id": "t3_1mfwgs", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "24m went on great date with 24f, made a dumb mistake, unsure of how to proceed.", "post": "I know this is long, but please be patient and help a neurotic redditor out:\n\nAsked this girl from my grad school out, she said yes, we go out and really hit it off. Being the idiot that I am, I fail to realize that a girl saying \"I'm a little cold\" twice plus a flirty demeanor when walking outside means \"put your arm around me and walk me home\" and therefore awkwardly leave to go back to my place with just a hug (I am not a smart man). I text her to make sure she got home alright, she said yes, I suggest going out again, she says yes enthusiastically.\n\nI ask her out the next week (monday the 9th) to go for drinks sometime after classes one day during the week, but she explains that she's really busy and can't, and states the things she has to do that make her unable to go out. The excuse is completely legitimate... it's truly a crazy time in school at this particular moment (this is when most job recruitment happens), the jewish holidays were on friday/saturday, etc, and I asked her without much notice. I say maybe some other time, and she agrees enthusiastically.\n\nSo, this is my plan: text her on monday asking if she's free sometime this week after school for dinner/drinks.\n\n1.\tIs tomorrow a good time? Maybe today would be better to give her more notice, although I don't want to seem really pushy/desperate. Maybe later this week suggesting the weekend or early next week? Also, I see her around campus once in a while, so maybe wait til I do and ask her in person? Any advice related to this would be very welcome. \n\n2.\tI want to come on somewhat strongly, to let her know that I'm still very interested. What are your thoughts on putting my arm around her when we're walking to dinner?\n\n3.\tAny other advice is very, very, very welcome. \n\nThanks!!", "summary": "Want to ask for a second date, not sure how to go about it."}
{"id": "t3_2c79v0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend [22/M] told me it turned him off. I'm [22/f] Read below.", "post": "I texted him and told him that I'm scared of giving birth (I'm not pregnant lol, its just a saying) because it hurts a lot when I poop and I'm on a period. It sounds gross but it wasn't too detailed. He asked me why I said it and said he will find me less attractive for saying it. Also, he said that he will never see me in a sexual way whenever it comes to sex. I got hurt when I heard that and thought he went too far. Do you agree as well? I don't know. I don't think what he did was right.", "summary": "My bf said he will find me less attractive for saying gross thing. Don't you think that's a bit too far? Any thoughts?"}
{"id": "t3_3r3vv4", "subreddit": "offmychest", "title": "I might have just embarrassed myself. Again.", "post": "I feel kinda depressed lately, mostly because of girl trouble and how I consistently embarrass myself, at least every month. But this one feels kinda different, and the outcome just depends on luck.\n\nSo, I'm in Mandarin class (on a side note, the new teacher is not that good) and I'm talking with my friend (let's call him Josh). I ask Josh about how I can start a conversation with a girl. He asks me which girl I'm talking about, and I mention this girl I've been thinking about, but not really have a crush on. Then he tells me something and I go \"Thanks.\" I should've considered a girl sitting right next to us probably heard is and told a few people. I found this out when my friend Morgan said she heard that I took girl advice from Josh. I kinda had a mini panic attack, because I started fretting if it got to that girl I'd been thinking about.", "summary": "I probably just made myself look worse to my crush, and now I feel like she's gonna think I'm weird. Can anyone help me calm down?"}
{"id": "t3_sl1jr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "GF summer travel, am I being selfish?", "post": "xpost from r/relationshipadvice\n\nAge: both 24\n\nI am in grad school in an Asian country. My girlfriend (who is in the same grad program) is from this country and has lived here most of her life, but did her undergrad degree in the US. We have been dating for about six months and have a fantastic relationship.\n\nAnyway, here's the situation. She is thinking about going abroad for a month or so this summer for school. There are two options for this, one is a country relatively close to here that I could easily visit during summer. The other is all the way on the other side of the world. If she does this, she will take next semester off to do an internship in her home country. This would mean that I would graduate a semester before her and possibly might have to leave the country if I can't find employment here.\n\nMy opinion is this: she has lived in the US (and in the place where she might be studying there), so that's not a valid reason to go. It's super far away and I can't visit her. I don't want us to graduate at different times. I don't like long distance relationships. There is no real benefit for her to do this program other than being able to travel and live away from her home country.\n\nHer view is simply that she wants to enjoy her summer and take one last opportunity to travel before getting a job. I don't really understand this.\n\nI just don't want her to leave me behind and go to the other side of the world. If I were in her position, I wouldn't even consider doing such a thing. I just don't know if I'm being too sensitive and selfish about this. I want to support her in whatever she does, but I just can't get over this. I get a sick feeling in my stomach whenever she talks about it.\n\nCan anyone tell me whether I'm being a selfish asshole or is it okay to feel like this? I'm going crazy.", "summary": "GF wants to go abroad for summer, I don't want her to."}
{"id": "t3_euav4", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "My girlfriend's mom is sick, and I want to be there for her. Could you give me some advice?", "post": "Hey Reddit,\n\nMy girlfriend of approximately a year and a half told me last night that her mother has cancer. She gave me very few details, as it was over the phone and she was pretty upset, but she did happen to say that there is a high rate of success if treated early with chemo. I've met both of her parents, and they are wonderful and generous people. Basically, I'm looking for advice on how to approach her and provide the right kind of emotional support. I've been very lucky so far in my life, not having gone through a situation like this with a loved one so close to me, but I think that's put me at a disadvantage in terms of knowing how to connect to my girlfriend now. My dad is an existentialist, and I share his mindset to some extent, so I'm really not the best at providing emotional support. I'm also a staunch atheist, and she's one the fence, so I want to be very careful not to interject my thoughts at a time when she might be turning to something I don't believe in. She's an amazing and beautiful girl, and I want to find a way to be more helpful through this process. Does anyone have suggestions about what to say on a daily basis, and maybe how to treat things through the longer term? Don't be afraid to point out the obvious, I don't want to miss anything. \n\nThis is a throwaway account, as you can see from my history and obvious lack of kharma. My close friends know my username and that I'm often on here, and given the nature of the situation, I don't want them knowing about this. She's asked that I not tell any of our friends.\n\nThanks so much everyone. I know this is a sad post, and it is a big holiday, so any time that you take to give this a thought and perhaps a response would be amazing, thank you. Be safe tonight.", "summary": "My girlfriend's mom is sick, and I'm not good at talking or being supportive in these situations. Could you give me some advice? Thanks"}
{"id": "t3_rhyy3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "SO proposed, I said yes. But I've been hiding my past from him - how do I come clean?", "post": "I'm 27(f) and he is 25(m). We've been together for 3 years and everything is going great. He is a lovely guy and my heart still flutters when I see him, as corny as that may sound <3.\n\nLast night he proposed to me. I was happier than I've ever been in my life until the realization set in; I have to tell him about my past.\n\nI've done some things that I am not proud of and I've lied about them. I was a total whore; from age 16 to 21 I would sleep with any asshole that hit on me. I was a stripper from age 18 to 21 as well and had an off-and-on-again drug and alcohol habit during that time. At some points I took enough to kill a small army... I'm not sure how it's going to effect my future health, but nothing major so far.\n\nHow do I tell him? I've wanted to, but it's all so confusing. That's not something to admit until I'm in a serious relationship, but by that point I felt like I was already hiding it, so I continued to hide it. I've lied to him about my number of sexual partners, work history, why I dropped out of highschool, etc. I'm not the same person any more and I don't want him to think of me as just some slut or drug addict (I haven't taken anything or even drank alcohol since I was 21).", "summary": "I have a really bad past and I've been lying to my SO about it. How do I tell him without scaring him away or making him think I'm a slut?"}
{"id": "t3_33d7mg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [44m] with my friend [42] of 15 years, how do I \"fade out\" a friendship.", "post": "I have an old friend from college who now lives abroad.  We work in the same field and have kept in touch over the years.  The problem is that he has become self-involved and career driven in a way that I find very tedious.  He's also argumentative - he loves debating politics, culture, and professional issues for hours and I find it exhausting.  (Last time I saw him he wanted to argue about the war on terrorism - on the way home from the airport.)  He's not a bad guy but it's frustrating to be around him.\n\nPart of it is also that my priority is my family and his is his career and that while I enjoy my career, it's not how I define myself.  I'm bored by his talk of promotions and success (it feels like he's trying to prove something), just as he's probably bored about my talk about my kids.\n\nIn short Skype chats, it's fine, but because of the fact that he lives abroad, he visits for lengths of time that are waaay too long.  An afternoon or a dinner is also fun, but three or four days makes me insane.  My wife tolerates him but also thinks he's self-involved.\n\nHow can I fade out this friendship without hurting him or causing drama?  I'd like to limit it to occasional chats and not long term stays.  He wants to visit this summer and I'm already wincing.", "summary": "Old friendship has become tiring.  How can I fade it out without hurting him?"}
{"id": "t3_1yqqx5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Really attractive bartender [??? F] at a place I [23 M] go to sometimes, but is there any way to *actually* talk to her?", "post": "I went in to this restaurant/bar in town for lunch today, and ended up being served by an extremely gorgeous bartender. Nothing extraordinary happened or anything, but I was really pushing myself on the inside to try to start an actual conversation with her, but I didn't have the guts to do it. I like this place a lot and go there semi-often, so there's a pretty good chance I'll get her again. If I do, I want to actually talk to her, but I don't really know what to do. I don't want to be \"that guy\" obnoxiously hitting on the bartender super hardcore.", "summary": "pretty bartender. want 2 talk to."}
{"id": "t3_2sluar", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I need help. Bad.", "post": "So here's my situtation: I met this girl over a year ago and we started going out, since then most of her friends have never been a bother. However, in the last 5 or so months this group of boys that are her best friends have been complete assholes to the both of us, and are completely 100% against everything that we do in relation to anything sexual. Recently we decided to go to third base, she made me promise not to tell anyone because her school would never let her hear the end of it, and she goes and tells the worst possible person to tell, one of those boys. He flips his shit and goes all depression-make-her-feel-bad mode and completely turns her world upside down. Keep in mind, the whole lot of us have depression and my girlfriend and I are absolutely head over heels for each other and we're generally really happy when we're together. She's really really upset because of some of the things that he said and I'm not sure what to do. She doesn't want to talk to me for fear that I'll get upset which probably is the best way to upset me, and she also doesn't want to talk to her friend because, and i quote; \"I don't want to talk to him because he's going to keep doing this until we break up or i kill myself and neither are good for you.\" \n\nOne of the major problems is that she doesn't think about what's best for herself, and she only thinks about me. Now that kind of attention to some would be fairly flattering, but I don't do well with attention and she's giving me half of her attention as well as the other half to her friends.\n\nWhat can I do?", "summary": "my girlfriend is upset because her friends are assholes and say horrible things to her because they're jealous of what we have and they do not. (I forgot to mention they're all \"in love\" with her.)"}
{"id": "t3_4w14nm", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Should I [18f] just trust how he [19m] acts around me, even though he doesn't really text?", "post": "I know this is probably stupid and maybe I shouldn't even be wondering. He works full time, so he hardly texts and the conversations we have over text are honestly bad, like he's just not good at texting. We've been seeing eachother for a few weeks and when we do se eachother, once or twice a week usually- it's awesome! We laugh and talk. He holds me hand, like he's always touching me in some way... \n      I guess it freaks me out because I'm used to just talking to people I'm seeing all the time, like almost constantly, that's what phones have done and because he doesn't, and doesn't seem interested in talking over text I'm not sure how he feels about me... Should I just trust how he acts when we're together and not over think everything?", "summary": "because he's bad at texting and busy all the time, I get confuse about how he feels about me."}
{"id": "t3_ty8hh", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "(x-post from r/relationships) Is it a bad idea not to discuss 'relationships' (dating) in a grey area?", "post": "(I think r/relationships was the wrong subreddit. Sorry I'm a noob. :))\n\nI am a 25 year old female graduate student. I had a 2-week fling with a 24-year old graduate exchange student for the first 2 weeks of May until he started a road trip and I went to visit another state.\nIt was awesome and we ended up really liking each other, and there were some tears on both sides when he left (more on mine). We're still in contact daily, using pet names, sending photos and long emails. He can't move to the US for 2 years. I have no idea where we stand in terms of dating.\nI'm pretty much taking it day-by-day, but once he's out of the country, he'll be 6 hours ahead of me. All we've decided is that we don't regret going for it (we knew he was leaving when we started) and we don't know what the future holds. I feel like it's worth discussing, but I know neither of us like LDR's. At this point I am afraid of over-thinking it.", "summary": "had amazing 2 wk fling w/ exchange student"}
{"id": "t3_2afswj", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Is it ever acceptable to be honest in a cover letter?", "post": "I want to say something like, \"I never realized what I wanted to do until blah blah...\" or \"though these jobs taught me a lot, I know now that I want to work in this field because so forth.\" \n\nPhrases like this break the rule about being super-duper positive whenever you apply to something. Then again, there's that rule about being genuine when you write a cover letter to, you know, \"stand-out.\" It's kind of impossible for me to be both.\n\nI am 25, a college grad, and trying to scrape together a cover letter that reflects what I want to do even though I do not have direct experience in that field (or a lot of work experience at all - I am focusing on entry level jobs). Advice out there seems oxymoronic. What are the boundaries when it comes to being honest in a cover letter?", "summary": "Imperfect past (i.e. not a criminal history ... just lukewarm qualifications and lack of a plan). How honest is too honest when writing a cover letter?"}
{"id": "t3_3aac5s", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 2 years, should I be distrustful of her friend she made at work that happens to be a single guy?", "post": "My own situation, I'm in a serious relationship and my girlfriend wants us to hang out with a friend of hers from work. Her friend is a single man of the same age as us, and I can't help but feel he's got self serving intentions. Why would a single man just want to be BFFs with a pretty girl he met at work? Frankly, I trust my girl with my life. I don't believe she would ever cheat, she's the only person I trust completely. Him, some guy I don't know, it wouldn't shock me if he would try to do something to piss me off. Just saying. What do you guys think? Do my concerns have merit or am I just a distrustful asshole?", "summary": "Am I wrong to distrust her new friend because he's a single guy?"}
{"id": "t3_2qonuq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17M] want to meet a cute worker [19F] at my local grocery store. How do I do it?", "post": "Hey /r/relationships, I'd first like to say that this is my first post and I see lots of great advice in this sub and so I wanted to say thank you!\n\nSo I've been going to my local grocery store for a while now (Albertsons) and there's a super cute girl who works there. I've never really talked to her and I know nothing about her, but I'd really like to try talking to her somehow and see how things go.\n\nI wanted to perhaps bring her a coffee one day but I fear that's a little too weird or awkward to just do out of the blue. I don't really know how I can go about approaching her, or what I would say. I'm really nervous to meet her but I really want to.\n\nWhat is the easiest, or perhaps just most smooth way of going about trying to meet her and maybe flirt a little bit? Somehow ending up with her phone number would be the best outcome :)\n\nAgain, thank you so much for the advice!", "summary": "There's a cute girl at my local grocery store that I really want to meet and try flirting with, but I'm not sure how to approach her. What's the best way of doing this?"}
{"id": "t3_h51dq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Student in my class incited for a drawing?", "post": "A student in my careers class today drew a 2D war scene with stick figures. All stick figures with little rocket launchers, etc. The student had drawn it after the lesson during a sort of free bit of time. The teacher confiscated the drawing, sent it to the administration and cited that he had violated the safe schools act of Ontario.\n\nIs this true? What will happen? I feel this is a bunch of crap, especially since earlier in the class, he was joking with a friend, to which the friend responded that he would punch him. The teacher turned and said that she \"Wishes (he) could punch (the student) because it would be nice and (the student) deserves it, but there is a safe schools act in place that permits it\"\n\nThe very act he is being accused of violating was basically tossed out the window there! The teacher incited violence against him! What can happen to the teacher and the student? What can he do so he is not wrongfully accused. The police may possibly be involved, to which I've already informed him not to speak to, as to not place guilt on himself.", "summary": "STUDENT IN MY CLASS IS POSSIBLY BEING INVESTIGATED BY THE POLICE AND SUSPENDED FOR DRAWING A WAR SCENE WITH STICK FIGURES"}
{"id": "t3_pu4lx", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "Friend of 3 years asked for a kiss...Haven't seen her for 3 days.", "post": "I'm 21, she's 20. She's never been with a guy sexually and usually only dated women due to her mother scaring her away from guys as a kid. \n\nI have known this girl for 3 years now. I've firmly believed I was in the Friend Zone and accepted it without question. Recently, she moved to the same college as I and we have been hanging out on a highly regular basis. A week ago, we were watching a movie and her hand snuck over to mine and we held hands for a small bit... I didn't think it meant anything other than just friendly interaction, so I didn't do or say anything.\n\nWell, V-day was approaching and she asked me to be her date (as friends). We went out and came back to my house to have a little wine and watch a movie (which is pretty common with us) when she looked at me and asks for a kiss... \n\nAfter not responding for a minute or two, I gave in and started kissing her. She was very receptive and all-in-all it was fun...Until I realized what I was doing and stopped. I told her that \"a kiss is never just a kiss and that she has meant a lot to me for awhile\"... She said that she couldn't promise anything and, me being the idiot I am, went back to kissing her. \n\nAfterwards, I went to drop her off and she asked for another kiss before leaving my car...Now, it's been 3 days and I haven't seen or hardly talked to her. I've invited her back over (like we usually do) once and never got a response, and she's said like 2 things to me. \n\nI don't want to push this issue into a confrontation when she could just be struggling to figure out her emotions towards me...But at the same time, I can't be left hanging like this. I mean, if she told me she regretted kissing me then fine...But I have to know something :/\n\nHow in the world would you deal with this?", "summary": "Friend of 3 years kisses me, hasn't talked or responded to me asking her to hang out since."}
{"id": "t3_l6vjw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Taking into account recent political events, how do you feel about reddit being owned by a large private corporation?", "post": "With the Occupy Movement receiving little or/and inaccurate coverage from mainstream media, an increasing amount of people rely on social news websites to keep them in sync with the current social unrest. \n\nEarlier posts on here offered updates and advice for protesters such as 'what do if you're arrested' or 'how to free yourself from wrist ties' as well as alternative ways to help for anyone willing to contribute. \n\nNow, all I see is an array of 'protesters dissing Fox News' videos and multiple links to stories on mainstream media websites.\n[PARALLEL INSTITUTIONS] are a crucial element to a non violent social movement:\n  **\"These institutions are vital to creating organizational space for the entire campaign\"**\n\nIf we do not provide this, then how are we that better than MSNBC, CNN or huffingtonpost?", "summary": "We are quick to condemn CNN for being a \"corporate, bullshit-driven media empire\"... Well folks, reddit.com is owned by a Forbes USTop50 company and let's face it - our front page often needs a bullshit filter. "}
{"id": "t3_28ablh", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17M] and old friend [16F] started dating a month ago, she abruptly stops making contact to me after last date.", "post": "Me [17M] and a friend ive known for about five years [16F] recently started dating a month ago after not seeing eachother for 2 years, whenever we meet its wonderful and we share the same affection towards one another however the last time we met she asked me what i wanted from \"this\" and i replied that i wasnt sure but i would like to be in a relationship with you, she smiled and kissed me and i then asked her the same question to which she replied I dont know, i dont trust myself to be in a relationship\" and that was that, we ended the night by kissing eachother goodbye and eversince then she has stopped texting me and when i text her its like talking to a brick wall, i asked her out a few days after and she said yes however it didnt happen because she lost her phone the following day and was out of contact. \n\nShe makes no effort to talk to me like she used to and shows no emotion when replying to a text that i send. What should i make of this? I tend to get very anxious", "summary": "girl ive dated for a month abruptly stops showing interest after very successful dates"}
{"id": "t3_4al8s0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My ex [25F] broke up with me[25M], now sending mixed signals on getting back together.", "post": "My now ex broke up with me about a month ago because I'm on a three year contract working overseas, and she's in uni. Said the distance was too much and she couldn't take another two years of it. \n\nI was distraught, we stopped talking for a while, but then she got back in touch because she was going through some super stressful shit with uni and I knew the material, so she wanted help. We chatted a bit outside of study assistance, and she keeps sending very mixed signals about our future. One day saying that she doesn't think we'll work out, other days making plans on coming over to visit me during break. It switches back and forth regularly. \n\nWhenever she needs a shoulder to cry on or help with studying, she bugs me about it, but doesn't reciprocate when I want someone to talk to. I'd love to get back with her, as she isn't usually like this, but I'm starting to think I'm fooling myself, and just playing into her hands, whilst not getting what I need. Opinions, comments, ideas?", "summary": "Ex broke up with me, now wants help from me but doesn't reciprocate + mixed signals about getting back."}
{"id": "t3_1kc5a1", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[23/M]Women I talk to never seem interested in me yet they gave me their numbers. So confused.", "post": "Every girl I talk to and try to go out with just doesn't seem to be interested in me. I talk to them. Get their number. Feel as though they want to go out, and then when I try to set up a date, they seem to always be busy or ignore texts. I don't text back for days and NOTHING so I just say \"whelp...\" and let it go. This has happened with about 2 or 3 women so far. It's very frustrating. I have no idea what I'm doing or saying wrong. It's getting to the point where I'm getting depressed over women not being interested in me. Feel as though I have a personality disorder or something.\n\nI work out, groom myself, and I'm sure my looks have nothing to do with it anyway. It would be nice to have an outside opinion without going to my friends about it.", "summary": "Can get girls number but they never seem to want to go on a date or ignore me. What's the deal?"}
{"id": "t3_2eqmlc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My boyfriend (20) who I've been with for 2 years now has never posted pictures of us or me and never tags me or talks about me on social media.. Should I be concerned?", "post": "My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old and we live together. For a while we were long distance up until May of this year. He's never posted a single thing about me or us on social media. No pictures, no statuses, and if we go out and do something fun or cool it's always somewhere along the lines of \"can't wait for the concert tonight\" and that's it. No tagging, no recognition, nothing. I know this sounds like such a first world problem but like idk it's just weird. I was the one that had to initiate making our relationship fbook official too, after waiting a few months to see if he would. Idk reddit, maybe I'm being ridiculous, but should I be concerned? And how would I bring this up to him without sounding stupid?", "summary": "my boyfriend of two years never has tagged me or posted anything (including pictures or statuses) about us on social media."}
{"id": "t3_1xzq51", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Boss asks me to order office supplies\u2026 because I'm a woman?", "post": "I just started a corporate banking position where I work with underwriting software as system/application administrator, manage a database, and build reports based of the data for executives and management. In addition, I compiled and maintain a guidebook for the department and am working toward managing the department's portfolio. After three months, I've been asked to give up my windowed office for another guy who's been there two years and moved to my floor after I started from a cubicle on the Executive floor. Most recently, I asked my boss to order business cards for me since I have travel coming up for internal and external client training. He at first did not want to order the cards, citing that how money is spent is at his discretion, then said that I needed to ask the woman who currently orders cards and learn from her how to order office supplies as well. My boss is asking me to order office supplies.\n\nI only earn $40,000.00 per year. Ordering office supplies was not in my job description either. This is troubling because my boss is in his 50s--a short, leathery white \"good ol' boy\"--and has taken to delivering great life lessons/corporate politics advice \"speeches\" to me that always have as a caveat, \"you're only 25, so you don't know [blank]. Let me tell you [blank.]\" I'm likely the youngest female person on my floor. And the only black female in my group in a predominantly southern white employee base.\n\nThis is my first corporate job at a company of this size. It's with a low-mid revenue publicly-traded bank at their corporate headquarters downtown in a major lower east-coast capital city. I'm wondering if I should expect this treatment or look for another position. I love working with data and the portfolio and am grateful to have landed the job, but this treatment is a bit fishy. Any input appreciated.", "summary": "millennial \"office bitch\" wonders how much is too much"}
{"id": "t3_2nsh4a", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [22M] currently seeing this girl [20F] and she seems somewhat unexpeerienced but aside from that she's incredibly amazing.", "post": "So I recently started dating this girl, lets call her stephanie. We met on OkCupid exchanged numbers and went out on our first date.\n\nThe First Date: Amazing despite getting caught in the rain, we went out to eat and got to know each other. We seem to have a lot of the same views, she's incredibly intelligent, beautiful, quirky, and funny. Needless to say, I liked her a lot from the moment I picked her up in my car to the moment we started texting.\n\nThe Problem: Going over her profile, which I had looked at before but didn't look into her questions until now, I realized that she's never had a boyfriend, thinks she's asexual, and she's a virgin who doesn't drink. I'm not a virgin and I would definitely like to get intimate with her at some point down the line but she say's she was waiting for marriage on her profile despite her being atheist. I personally don't see how you can be a virgin and think you're asecual if you haven't experienced these things before but she says she was very sheltered as a kid but open to branching out and what not. I don't know how I should approach her about this, I'm thinking not too soon since it's only our first date and we've only been texting for about a week (we've been texting A LOT we passed 1000 messages already). I like her a lot and I don't want her to think that I'm only interested in sex. \n\nQuestion: How/when would be a suitable time to bring up the subject? Also considering that I may be her first bf or partner of interest would it be too forward if I tried to kiss her on our second date? I think there's chemistry there but I feel like i'm walking on egg shells....", "summary": "Met this girl online, started dating last week and her inexperience worries me"}
{"id": "t3_pgoaa", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "It's almost Valentine's Day; I'm tired of writing the same boring message on a card when sending flowers, what are some of the more clever things you've seen/written?", "post": "Yesterday was the \"we're officially together\" anniversary of my fianc\u00e9e and I, but I'm traveling for business out of state and couldn't be there. I had a shitty morning and didn't get the order for her flowers in on time, had to have them sent to our house instead of to her work since she'd be out of the office by the time they were to be delivered, and had to use an unknown florist. I thought everything was going to be fine, she'd see them when she got home after thinking I had forgot and be completely surprised. Good hell was I wrong. She thought I sent them AFTER she yelled at me for not sending her flowers, I sent them to the house and not her office (big mistake, the only thing that matters is showing them off- like dick-waving for women), and they looked like shit.\n\nSO, I am (trying to) make up for this on Valentine's, but I will still be out of town. I've got the florist set and the arrangement picked out, but need a good message in the card. But I don't want anything boring or conventional.. I also want a bit of humor. But I'm having a hard time coming up with something that doesn't make me sound like an ass (such is my nature sometimes).", "summary": "Share your witty/comical/best flower card message(s) for all to see (read: use in the future)!"}
{"id": "t3_3aadgt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] can't stop thinking about physical stuff with other guys even though I have a boyfriend [20M] of 2 years.", "post": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.  I know it sounds really bad but I think I have somewhat good reason.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and are currently long-distance because we go to schools in different states.  It is hard to see each other because of our busy schedules (and we are both broke college students) and because of this we haven't seen each other in months.  \n\nWe keep in touch through facetiming and texting every day, and I know that I love him and I can't imagine life without him...but it's really frustrating because of my sex drive.  I am constantly thinking about fucking every guy I see.  My teachers, my friends, strangers, etc. I don't know if there is something wrong with me or if this is normal.  I have stayed faithful to my boyfriend, even though in my mind I always fantasize about other guys.  Maybe because they are here and he isn't?\n\nIt's not that I'm not attracted to my boyfriend because believe me, I am, but I haven't been physical in so long I am starting to go crazy.  Is this wrong?", "summary": "Can't stop thinking about fucking other guys, don't know if it's my problem or my relationship"}
{"id": "t3_23lvtw", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M20] will be visiting my friend [F20] in Germany this summer and don't know if I should tell her how I feel about her", "post": "Ok, so I met a girl from Germany while she was a foreign exchange student at my high school. My group of friends and I became very close with her and we did a lot together and still remain good friends, even though we are in our 3rd year of college and an ocean apart. I always thought she was attractive, but I had a girlfriend throughout the time of us first meeting up until a couple of months ago. I finally have an opportunity to go to Europe this summer and she was more than willing to let me stay in her tiny apartment for the three weeks I will be there, and she and I are planning to travel  around all of the neighboring countries and sightseeing. \nShe is one of the few girls I have met that I could actually see spending the rest of my life with for a plethora of reasons, but I've been hesitant to tell her that I like her because of the possible awkwardness and lack of ability to act on these feelings even if she felt the same way. So...\n\nDilemma #1: I'm not sure if I should tell her how I feel about her for fear of making my trip awkward. \n\nDilemma #2: She is still good friends with my ex and would never want to do anything that would hurt her, and I don't know if that includes never being in a relationship with me. (Our relationship did not end on a good note)\n\nUntil now, I've never actually considered telling her how I feel because she lives in Germany and will be there for at least the next 3 year and I had a girlfriend. I will be the first person from America to visit her and I even sent her a Christmas present, both of which she seems very grateful for, but I am still leaning towards not telling her.", "summary": "Don't know if I should tell my friend from Germany that I'm attracted to her while visiting her this summer"}
{"id": "t3_2a0fvv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I'm [23F] just not that into my boyfriend [26M] of 5 months", "post": "Hey Reddit. I feel kind of silly posting this here because I don't have a super big problem like a lot of folks who post here do, but I'd really appreciate some advice! My boyfriend is a great guy, but I'm just not that into him. \n\nWe've only been dating for five months, but I can just tell that this is not someone I want to spend my entire life with, if that makes sense. He loves me dearly and makes sure to tell me, he gives great hugs and is pretty okay in bed, but there are things about him that repulse me. He's unhealthy, for one; he eats a truckload and is always talking about going on diets but never actually does. I'm actually fine with his weight, but what annoys me is the fact that he always talks about exercising (for my sake, he says, but I've never complained about his weight) but never actually does it. \n\nHis house is dirty and I'm always a little skeeved to use his bathroom. He has a strange odor that I'm not quite used to and this is especially worse when he sweats. I can't stand to give him head if he sweats a lot because it smells horrible down there when he does. \n\nA little of my own backstory. I've only had one other boyfriend before, who broke up with me because he got a job offer out of state and he didn't want to have a long distance relationship. When he broke up with me, he framed his conclusion as, \"I would've turned them down, but I can't see a future together with you.\" I think his breaking up with me in this way has made me look at relationships from a lense of \"Do I want to be with this guy forever?\" I don't want to lead my boyfriend on but I don't see us living together or marrying or anything, I'm not that into him. But he's done nothing crazy to make me want to break up with him. I've never broken up with anyone before, and while I love him, I don't know if he's \"the one\" or not. What do I do? Am I looking at this too critically?", "summary": "My boyfriend loves me, but I'm just not that into him and I don't want to lead him on. I also would have no idea how to go about breaking up with him since I've never done it before and he hasn't done anything \"wrong.\""}
{"id": "t3_g23ae", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I just got offered a four month internship in D.C. I've never been to D.C. What do I do?", "post": "I grew up pretty poor - not sheltered - but poor. I didn't step on a plane until I was 21 and I have never seen the ocean. I was in Chicago for two days when I was 21.  And I have driven through Phoenix - those are the only big, populated cities i have even touched on.  I don't know anyone in D.C. nor do I understand the parts of the...city?  the...District?  I have had several people give me advice, and have talked with several people renting rooms.  Some people say it's better do deal with an hour commute both ways and live somewhere like Silver Spring - while others tell me, \"In terms of neighborhoods, stick to Dupont Circle, Capitol Hill, Adams Morgan, Mount Pleasant, Columbia Heights. And try to be near a metro station (very important!!).\" And yet others tell me these are dangerous areas to live.\n\nAlso, they want me to start, on a Monday morning.  I graduate Saturday, 1200 miles away.\n\nI am excited, and scared, and I will miss my cat, and my best friend and my apartment.  Should I move to D.C.?  Am I going to get lost?  Am I going to get mugged?  What is the worst thing about D.C?", "summary": "I am headed to DC for four months after my graduation and I don't know where to live, or how to DO IT."}
{"id": "t3_n0q5x", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What traffic laws do you think are utter BS?", "post": "I'll start.\n\n---\n\n* Stop signs. Seriously, they should all be yields. Whenever you stop *behind*the line, you can't even see the cars on the intersecting road. And making you wait 3 seconds (Ontario) is just complete and utter bullshit.\n\n* Highway speed limits. Yes, for highly congested areas this is a good thing. but for rural areas that don't even have any concrete barriers or street lamps, it's just something that can get you a ticket. eg, There is a highway I go on daily, where the speed limit is 100km/h. Even the *slow* lane is at least 105km/h on a day with bad weather. The fast lane goes upwards of 130-140 (there are hills, which contribute to this).\n\n* Road tests. Seriously, if I fuck up once on the road test by speeding slightly, you're like **oops, you mucked up, you don't meet ministry standards. GG, QQ, GLHF**. Fuck off, I drive better than at least half the people on the road who don't even fucking signal when turning. How can you justify giving someone a license from a 30 minute driving session?\n\n/rant", "summary": "What traffic laws make you rage?"}
{"id": "t3_w6178", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, what are your douchebag cop stories, false accusations, and so on!", "post": "So there i was, in the car with my friend while he was doing a doughnut around a blacked out lightpole, in an abandoned mall bothering nobody. He finished and we are about to leave. He steps out and i get in the driver seat and as i was leaving my car stalls. He comes out turns his light on and says \"what the fuck are you doing you little dipshit, then proceeds to keep cursing, saying he say me doing doughnuts and calling me names and kept on insisting on seeing me do something he couldnt have possibly seen. I was in the car, tires fresh with burned rubber smell, one of those wrong place in the wrong time moments. He asked for my registration and still caling me names, so i politely said \"sir i do not appreciated the name calling, can you please stop. Nope, he responds by slamming me on my car and handcuffing me saying \"hows my fucking voice now, and called me something along the lines of faggot or cunt. I forgot, i was to in shock that he was treating me like this when i was nothing but courteous and polite! even the other cop that showed up had a look on her face like wtf? i get put into his buddies car and he continues to go on and belittle me. So he ends me giving me three tickets, which im fighting, and im going to complain, my friends heard and saw it all (friend is a cop, told me the guy was out of line). All in all i could see if i had done something wrong, but even after trying to calmly talk to the guy, he was to busy being a jackass. oh, and i overheard him saying \"this is what happens when i have no action except for stupid shit like this\"", "summary": "douchebag cop was bored and treated me like complete shit for assuming i was doing something i wasn't. arrested, and made fun of. Friends hear and saw it all"}
{"id": "t3_2ntclg", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by using someone's loo", "post": "(reposting as my original was rejected.", "summary": "I pooped in someone's house that didn't have a plunger and it was embarrassing."}
{"id": "t3_341fan", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [18M] girlfriend [18F] of four years is being threatened and I don't know how to help.", "post": "Before our relationship started, my girlfriend was sexually assaulted by this vile, toxic excuse for a human being. He then ruined her friendships, school work and she is terrified of him. This guy had bullied (Verbally and also beat me with his friends) me in the past for being a late developer and generally wasn't a nice guy. \n\nWe're now in a happy relationship and have cut him out of our lives. She had him removed by her dad whenever he tried to contact her and the next time his friends tried to beat me I had hit the gym hardcore and fought back and won. I don't get problems any more. \n\nHe sleeps with a 15 y/o girl (UK age of consent is 16) and also abuses her. And now this guy is trying to get back in to my girlfriends life and hurt her again. She is scared of him and feels like she has to talk to him or she'll get hurt again. \nWe've blocked his number but today he followed us home from college and tried to force his way into the house. I stopped him and threatened him and told him to stop pestering us. \n\nMy girlfriend is now a wreck and I don't know how I can help. I know it's not right to seek him out and break all of his bones but it feels like I should. I keep calm for her sake.", "summary": "How can I help my girlfriend? Demon from the past is trying to hurt her all over again. "}
{"id": "t3_tncqn", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "fianc\u00e9 inviting ex to wedding", "post": "Hi all,\n\n   I'm a guy, she's a girl, we're both 30ish. I would love to hear thoughts on my situation: I just proposed to my girlfriend of 3 years, and we're getting married. On our preliminary guest list I see that she has included her ex. This is an ex from Europe, and although they were never married, they were together for ~5 adult years, and she states that he was the equivalent of a husband (being Europe, getting married isn't as important). She states that they are friends, that she doesn't think of him as anything other than friends. They will occasionally skype. I don't actually think anything is or would go on between them, but it does make me uncomfortable.\n\nHere's my query, a two parter: \n\n1. It makes me uncomfortable. She didn't even ask me before putting him on the list. It makes me uncomfortable for her to have an ex there, let alone anyone that has had carnal knowledge of her.\n\n2. She has stated that she has been with a handful of guys before me. She's the kind of person to stay friends after a relationship ends, and I have no clue who most of those guys are. It bothers me that not only will her ex be invited, but other guys that had sex with her; and I wouldn't even know.\n\nSo I guess my question is: Thoughts?", "summary": "I'm uncomfortable with 2 things, and looking for opinions:"}
{"id": "t3_32tavc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me 27F with my BF 29M of 7 months, I think he may like to occasionally cross dress, how can I ask him?", "post": "So basically as the title says, my BF has dropped a few comments such as \"we could wear matching maid outfits\" ( for cosplay), wanted to wear a girls Oktoberfest outfit etc. I'm wondering if perhaps he does like to cross dress but I'm not sure as he's never said so outright and I'm shocking at taking a hint. >.<\n\nI want him to feel comfortable and happy and would like to potentially investigate that sort of thing if he wants to. Ultimately, I just want to make sure he's happy. \n\nSo! Essentially I have three questions; \n- Should I ask him? \n- If do, what would be the best way to do so without making him uncomfortable?\n- Is there anything else I should keep in mind, do or read that could help me understand better so I can be there for him?", "summary": "how do I ask my bf if he enjoys cross dressing and make sure he knows that I don't mind whatsoever?"}
{"id": "t3_3328gr", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Bf [26m] stills keeps in touch with his ex's family...", "post": "Bf and I [both 26yo] been together over a year and half now. I don't like the fact that he still keeps in touch with his ex's family [mainly her parents and her brothers & sister].\nHe knows how strongly I feel about this and how much it bothers me, yet he still keeps in touch with them. I believe when you break up with someone, it should be a clean, no contact whatsoever break, and that includes family too. I'm not in contact with any of my exes or their family, out of respect for my significant other, but I don't get why my bf doesn't understand this, and he knows that it bothers me.\nWhat to do?", "summary": "I absolutely don't like that my bf talks to his ex's family. He knows it bothers me, yet keeps doing it..."}
{"id": "t3_3d6xlr", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by not having an updated version of Notepad++", "post": "This fuck-up happened about 45 minutes ago.  I was facilitating a project meeting at work and had an in-depth discussion with the project team about the project's status and upcoming deliverables.  I took extensive notes using Notepad++, but I had been lazy about updating it (and by \"lazy about updating it\", I mean \"too lazy to click the goddamn 'OK' button when the periodic update notices popped up\").  After the meeting, my computer crashed, and now I need to re-construct all of the various status and action items from memory so that I can send out the meeting recap email.  If I had kept the software up-to-date, the feature that auto-saves an open session every seven seconds would have been enabled, which would have allowed me to recover my notes.  Now I'm doubtless going to get called out for forgetting critical items in a project that's already behind schedule.", "summary": "failed at technologically-advanced note taking, should have used a pen and paper."}
{"id": "t3_ps8z0", "subreddit": "running", "title": "Strained Quad help", "post": "About two weeks ago, at some point on a 7 mile run, I strained my left quad.  I say \"at some point\" because I didn't fall... twist it awkwardly... or anything of the sort.  Following my run, and 7 miles is not unusual for me, I felt a little something \"odd\" in my left quad.  But I'm used to aches and pains being a regular runner (1200 miles last year).  Sunday, I did a light 2 mile run but it was still aching a bit.  Monday, I set out and overdid it on a 5 mile run... I knew about 3 miles in that I had gone too far.  \n\nNow, after nearly two weeks of icing it, heating pad, icy/hot, NSAIDs and two days into an \"all running stop\" 5 day break, I'm looking for some advice or encouragement.  I hate missing a day of running... so missing several is killing me.  Can anyone give me some advice for treating it... maybe something I haven't thought of?  Can anyone give me some encouragement as to when I can realistically be back on the road?", "summary": "Strained left quad looking for advice or encouragement."}
{"id": "t3_2m3iti", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by whining about a cancer patient. Repeatedly", "post": "TIFU in a small, day ruining way. \nMy first FU was about three months ago. A beat-up, rusty van parked in my apartment parking lot hadn't moved in weeks if not months. The license plate was expired as of December 2012 so I took a picture and emailed my landlord. I thought perhaps someone had abandoned it (looking back, they probably wouldn't have left the license plate on it, but whatever). She said the van belongs to my neighbor who is undergoing chemotherapy. That's why the van hadn't moved in forever. Apparently the 2014 license renewal sticker had simply fallen off. I felt like a big jerk for tattling on someone who is ill. Within the next week the van had moved parking spots twice so I felt guilty that this poor sick woman might be moving her van just because I had complained. I've seen my neighbor since and she's always been friendly to me. However she referred to herself as \"a big pain in the butt\" so I was a little worried my landlord had told her who had reported her van.\nToday's FU began when I was coming up the stairs from the basement, having put laundry into the washer. I ran into this neighbor and we began chitchatting. I mentioned that I had just had to completely clean out one of the washers because some terribly rude person washed a bunch of Kleenexes and left the washer completely disgusting. I practically had to climb into it to pull some of the tissue out of the drum. Shortly after this the conversation ended and I went back to my apartment. 30 minutes later when I went to move my clothes to the dryer the same neighbor was taking hers out of the dryer. She must've had the Kleenex in her laundry. Now I feel horrible for having complained right at her. Even if she wasn't sick I would have felt bad calling her a rude jerk right to her face, but she is on oxygen and everything and probably wasn't able to clean the washer out herself. I'd like to apologize to her but I'm not sure whether that would make it more awkward.", "summary": "I accidentally moaned about my cancer ridden neighbor to my landlord and felt bad. I accidentally moaned about my cancers ridden neighbor to her face and felt worse."}
{"id": "t3_4lv585", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to climb a tree", "post": "So I had just bought a brand new drone to fly around and do drone stuff with and I had been practicing in my house to get the hang of it. My kid says that I should fly it outside and I agree that it's time. So we go outside and I get it started and I was flying low because it was windy(probably not the best time to fly it). My kid says fly it higher and in my head I said, \"Fuck it, why not.\" So I did and the wind pushed it away from us and for some reason I stopped making it ascend and tried to let it fall to the ground or close enough so that I could turn it back on but there was a tree that decided to catch it for me. It's a pretty big tree too, like at least 30-40 feet tall, and while my kid is screaming that I did a good job, I'm screaming in my head because it's either I go get it out the tree or I'm just SOL of $110. After about 10 minutes of ranting, I decided to climb the tree and I have never climbed a tree before but I wasn't gonna that stop me because I wasn't about to let that money go to waste. After about another 15 minutes of standing on a trash can(first branch was too high to grab) I managed to get to first branch and was ready to start my adventure to get the drone. Then I realized that I had never climbed a tree before let alone a tree of this tall and start running scenarios in my head about how I'm gonna die if i fuck up and  regret my decision and now I can't get down from the one branch I was currently standing on. Luckily my neighbor came by and saw me in distress and not only helped me out the tree, but decided to climb the tree to get the drone down for me. Now we play Smash Bros at his house on the weekends and I'm not out $110.", "summary": "Bought a drone and got it stuck in a tree. Tried to climb said tree and got stuck with it. Neighbor saved us both."}
{"id": "t3_twe0v", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Dear swimmers - what's the biomechanics of the front and the dolphin crawl?", "post": "I went to the swimming pool today to give my back muscles some training. As always, THEY were also there. You know THEM. Even when you were in highschool with THEM, THEY looked like THEY were training for the olympics. Always wearing goggles and looking very serious - and ridiculing my sorry little self (yeah, I don't like THEM). One thing that happened a lot was that I got sprayed with water by them.\n\nNow - I'm not a good swimmer, but I do an ok breaststroke. They were doing mostly front crawls and some dolphin crawls, moving a lot of water. In fact, it often looked as if they dropped heavy weights in the water. Now, I don't really mind getting water squirted on me (if you can't stand the heat and all that...) but it made me wonder whether this was really efficient. After all - shouldn't you make sure that your stride pushes you forward rather than making water splash around you?\n\nBear in mind though: as I understand breaststroke pretty well, I still don't \"get\" front crawl. I understand how it works, roughly, but I never got the biomechanics and I simply can't do it. Especially the leg part feels unnatural and it doesn't work for me. Dolphin? Don't even ask.\n\nSo, as we have so many brilliant people here:", "summary": "How does the front crawl and the dolphin crawl work? What are the biomechanics like? How do I learn to do it? And: should there be much splashing about when doing these styles or is that a sign that you're doing it wrong?"}
{"id": "t3_2ymb1i", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "I'm too shy to use the gym machines yet", "post": "Full story: I'm 17, 5' 11\" tall, I weigh about 220-240 pounds (haven't weighed myself in about 2 months). I've been going to the gym for the last 2 months, only using the static bike or the treadmill, about 45 mins per day. I honestly haven't noticed any change yet.  So, today I finally grew tired of making excuses and from now on i'll radically change my diet on a healthier one.\n\nStill, every time I work out only using the static bike for almost an hour, i always get really tired and walk back home. So from now on I want to use the other machines too, for musculation and stuff. \n\nBut I always feel observed when I think about give it a try. How can I surpass this 'fear'?", "summary": "How can i stop having fear of using new machines at the gym?"}
{"id": "t3_prscq", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever left a significant other to pursue your dreams? Or did you give up your dreams to stay with your SO? How'd that work out for you?", "post": "Reddit. I could use your advice. Ever feel like you met the perfect person for you at the most imperfect part of your life? I'm about to graduate college and what that means to me is I can finally escape my shitty hometown and move to the other side of the country. My dream city.\n\nProblem is 2 years ago I met an amazing woman and fell in love with her. She says she loves me but she's not willing to make the 3000 mile move to a place where neither of us have friends or family or support of any kind.\n\nI feel like now that college is over if I stay here much longer I'm going to start planting my feet here. Then I'll be kicking myself forever for not following my dreams.\n\nBut what if this girl is the best it gets for me? What if I make no friends in the new city. What if I threw everything away for one giant risk that didn't pay out? \n\nIt feels like no matter what I'm setting myself up for regret.\n\nI figure this isn't an uncommon situation to be in. Perhaps if I hear how it worked out for other people it might make me less nervous about my choice.", "summary": "Should I stay with the girl of my dreams in an area that makes me unhappy? Or should I risk everything and move across country to my dream city?"}
{"id": "t3_4vgqpk", "subreddit": "personalfinance", "title": "(AUS) about to finish school at the end of the year and am thinking of becoming an electrician. Is this a wise decision?", "post": "G'day,\n\nSo as I said, I'm about to finish highschool in a few months and am thinking of becoming an electrician, originally (and up until a few months ago) I was planning on going into IT, I didnt know what area, just that I was going into IT. Then I entertained other options and found that I might instead become an electrician. \n\n**Reasons:**\n\nI'm getting really sick of school, and honestly don't think I could take another 3-4 years (university) without flipping my shit.\n\nI would rather do a 1-2 year paid apprenticeship than 3-4 years of university that I will have to pay for later on.\n\nI would rather keep IT as a hobby and nothing else interests me enough to make it my job.\n\nStart making money quicker, means I can live my life quicker (move out, etc.)\n\nI hear electricians make good money/a comfortable living. I don't care if I'm insanely rich, its not what I'm looking for, but comfortable living is ideal.\n\nPractical, most interesting trade IMO and sounds quite interesting.\n\nLastly, I'm still going for my OP, so if I decide I dislike I should be able to go back to university.\n\nI wanna say I'm not 100% educated on this so some of the information could be very misinformed (I'm only a teenager who searched around on the internet a bit)\n\nAlso, long post so I apologise, but all advice would be greatly appreciated.\n\nThank you very much for reading, I know there was a similar post to this about 1 month ago (I searched before posting) but I'm thinking these decisions are fairly case-by-case based.\n\nAnd finally, if you want me to add more, I'd be happy to.", "summary": "I'm thinking of being an electrician, reasons above."}
{"id": "t3_4e8n1z", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me (23) with my husband (29) I don't know how much more I can take.", "post": "We've  been together for 3 years and married for a year. He works full time and I'm  in my last semester of school and will graduate in may.\n\nSo I love my husband  more than anything but for the last 6 months I've  been absolutely miserable  in our relationship and it's  like i don't know  him anymore. Things changed soon after we got married, now I have nothing against video games I play some myself. But my husband plays them all the time......he either plays them on his computer or he's  on his phone and for the last few months he'll stay up all night on the weekends, drink coffee and play video games. The weekends are really the only time I get to see him because I go to class at night and he works during the day. \n\nHe believes that spending time together is being in the same room or same place even if we don't  talk or do anything. For example, if he's  playing video games and I'm  doing something  else like doing chores around the house or watching tv, in his eyes this is spending time together. I don't see it as spending time together at all.\n\nWe hardly have sex anymore and it's  gotten to a point to where I have to beg him for it and there is nothing more humiliating than begging him for sex and then get turned down. I've tried to talk to him about some of this but he tells me  he'll  do better or I'm  overreacting. And he sleeps a lot, he'll sleep til noon be up for maybe  2 hours, take a nap, be up for a few more hours and then go back to sleep at 8.\n\nI guess what I'm  trying to ask is am I overreacting? What can I do to help our marriage? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.", "summary": "my husband has done a complete 180 in his personality since we got married and I'm  totally  miserable."}
{"id": "t3_f3olv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "A year later and I'm(M-27) still hung on my ex (F-22). How can I truly get over her?", "post": "So a year ago on the 28th I met the girl of my dreams. Everything was just fantastic, there was great chemistry, attraction, you name it it was there.\n\nFast forward 2 months (yes I know) I get my ass dumped for \"not showing her I was serious\"... at the same time she she we might be moving fast. I was okay with her wanting to slow down. A kiss each night would have been enough, I didn't need sex. She left me and I've been devastated since. She said she needed time... I was waiting.\n\nI wasn't perfect though, I lied. When we first started talking I implied I had relationship and sexual history, I was tired of being laughed at for being a virgin by choice, yes it happened several times. So I let her think I had experience.\n\nI told her about this after she dumped me. It pissed her off so much and basically got to where she said \"I hate myself for letting you in\". Midsummer this was and then 2 weeks later she has a new bf. I guess she just needed time without me in the picture. That's fine, I messed this up and will have to try and live with that.\n\nMy question, how can I really get over her? I fell hard and fast. I've been living in this personal agony since March. I try and forget her, I try to tell myself if she was my one she wouldn't have let her ex's sins become problems I paid for. What should I do? Anything, everything, I just need to hear any advice. Because I can't figure it out myself.", "summary": "Fell in love with a girl I think is my one... she dumped me after some ex issues that I got blamed for... I'm living in agony since April while she's moved on. Help."}
{"id": "t3_1oyeo9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [34M] with my wife [34F] but I've been thinking about cheating on her", "post": "I'm not in a position to cheat on my wife but I've been thinking about it constantly. I love her but we're emotionally distant and have been for a while. We've been together for many years, married for 4. There's a girl at work who I'm absolutely smitten with, but I know she doesn't even know I exist. Why am I so transfixed on her? I know even if I were single she wouldn't be interested in me - and I don't want to cheat on my wife, but I'm literally thinking about this other girl *all* the time. I don't know what to do. :(", "summary": "Wife and I are emotionally distant, I'm interested in someone at work that doesn't even know me."}
{"id": "t3_45rv7c", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [22/F] boyfriend [27/M] makes offensive jokes that don't sound anything like jokes, and gets upset when I take them seriously.", "post": "We met while I was at the vacation in his country, exchanged contacts and talked online. I've flown over a couple of times, we fell in love, so we're currently 6 months into the relationship and we're long-distance.\n\nThe problem is that he has a weird sense of humor. His understanding of a joke is to say something offensive in a completely serious tone, but others are somehow expected to understand that he's kidding (Poe's law in action, in other words). Needless to say, most people who heard him make those jokes don't understand that he's joking. I've gotten somewhat used to this, so I can recognize when he's serious and when he isn't most of the time, but sometimes he sounds too convincing. For example yesterday he said something sexist to me. It hurt me, but I thought that he probably didn't have any malicious intent and might have just been ignorant when it comes to this issue, so I gently tried to explain what was wrong with what he said. His reaction upset me greatly, so to avoid making a scene and saying things I'll regret, I said goodnight and logged off. I woke up the next day to messages of him apologizing profusely and clearly being very sad about it. Turns out he thought I was joking too so he played along, while to me it looked like he was mocking me for what I was saying. And this is not the first time it has happened. I tried talking to him before about it, but his only reply to this is \"How can you seriously think I'd say those things? Do you really think I'm such a terrible person?\". But what the heck else am I supposed to think when he sounds like he absolutely means it?! Even when I say that what he said upset me, he thinks I'm joking too.\n\nHe's not a bad person, he's actually very kind and sweet, so I understand why it saddens him when I take him seriously. But I also think that he's old enough to understand that not everybody gets his sense of humor and not everybody is kidding all the time, like he does. What should I do, reddit?", "summary": "Boyfriend has a peculiar sense of humor almost nobody understands, makes rude \"jokes\" in a serious tone, and gets really upset when I think he's serious and feel hurt. Not sure how to deal with this."}
{"id": "t3_2b66c2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I don't know if she (17/F) is interested in a relationship with me (18/M)", "post": "I'm going to try to keep this short:\n\nA girl I made plans with for a date was attending the same party as I was. Sometime throughout the night she had approached me and we started speaking about our upcoming date. She started expressing how she was looking forward to it, which seems like conventional behaviour.\n\nIt was her behaviour after that which made me wonder; she has hooked up with many other guys at parties (nothing major, just making out, maybe a bit more) yet told me that she didn't want to just hook up with me like she has done in the past, and said something along the lines of \"wanting to do it right\" Alcohol was involved, and we were very close to each other - it seemed very intimate until we agreed to just one kiss. The kiss was mediocre at best, and after that we went our separate ways, with her seeming evasive of me for the rest of the night.\n\nWhat's going on?", "summary": "getting mixed signals, so confused"}
{"id": "t3_t2oo2", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How can I make it work with a guy who is addicted to video games?", "post": "I love video games and I love playing them with my boyfriend but I wouldn't call myself a gamer. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years we are both 23 and I'm convinced that he has a gaming addiction to some degree. It seems like no matter how how much he plays he never gets tired of them. \n\nHe gets home from work and games he wakes up and games his definition of spending time together is either playing something or me watching him play. He's really a good guy otherwise and I love him but i just can't take his constant gaming anymore. \n\nI've tried talking to him about it but he says it's just his hobby. I feel like he loves his games more than me sometimes. He's canceled dates and even makes excuses and lies so that he can play. Ive talked to him about this too but he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. Does anyone have any tips on how to make a relationship work with a video game addict?", "summary": "My bf is a gaming addict. He breaks dates and lies to play but thinks he's doing nothing wrong. We've been dating for 5 years and are both 23."}
{"id": "t3_2cdlvz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [19F] being shallow with my SO [23M]?", "post": "I have been dating a guy for a month now who is so sweet to me and treats me like his princess. His personality is basically what I want in a guy and he makes me very happy. However, lately he's revealed how jealous of a person he is, and how he doesn't want me to hang out with any of my male friends. I was offended and brought up trust, but he said he trusts I won't do anything. He thinks I don't understand where he is coming from, but will try not to be jealous.\n\nOn another note... I am in college and trying to make something of my future, with a job and extracurricular activities. I want so much in life. He, on the other hand, is only a high school graduate and I don't see much motivation to get very far in life. This has been bothering me..\n\nShould I end it before we make anything official? Should I wait it out? I don't want to say all this to him and offend him.", "summary": "guy I'm talking to is jealous of my male friends and isn't going very far in life. Do I stay with him?"}
{"id": "t3_2y8308", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is she [20s F] just not into me [20s M]? - 3 months dating, 1 month official.", "post": "Ages generalized as she's a redditor.\n\nI've recently started to feel like maybe she isn't as into me as much as she proclaims to be. After about 2 months of dating, we became exclusive and soon after we decided that we wanted to pursue a relationship. Though I'm starting to notice that while I'd like to see her more, her schedule doesn't seem to be open for me. She makes time for family and school (as she should), but when it comes to us, she'll cancel plans to get work done, but ends up procrastinating and telling me about her procrastinating. If this happened once in a blue moon, fine, but it's becoming very common occurrence: make plans, forget about/cancel said plans to do hw, then not do hw. If we do end up seeing each other, it's only for a few hours and then back to the dance.\n\nIf she didn't want to hang, I'd rather just hear it, but it just feels as if she isn't too keen on us seeing each other. \n\nWhat gives? Am I just being nuts or is my time being wasted here?", "summary": "SO doesn't seem to want to spend time together. What gives?"}
{"id": "t3_33b02b", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my friend about a feminist.", "post": "This was today, but began on Friday.\n\nLast Friday in theology class, a seminarian came to our class to answer any questions we had. Class began and the feminist in question raised her hand and asked why women can't be priests, he began to respond but she cut him off and began lecturing him about how it was sexist, unfair, doltish, and threatened all the rights of women. She continued lecturing him for the next 40 minutes, he didn't get to say a word. Today, in theology class, she began yelling at our teacher about how everything she believed was wrong and how she was a disgrace against humanity. All because the feminist didn't agree with something the teacher has said. Our teacher is young, just out of college, and really really nice, to the point where you can't even get in trouble in her class because she's to nice and timid to say anything. Well anyway, being yelled at pushed her over the edge, because she was already sad because her cat had just died, and she began crying and left the classroom. The feminist just said \"see I was obviously right because she couldn't back up her ideas. Here's the FU. A few classes later I was telling a few of my friends about how she had made our teacher cry, and I suddenly feel a tap on my shoulder, I turn around, and it's her, the feminist I had just been talking about, I had forgotten she was in my class because she had just recently transferred in. Well before I could react when I turned, she smacked me in the face, I had been badly sunburned at a track meet over the weekend so it was the most excruciating pain I had ever felt, like a volcano exploding on my face. Before I could recover she punched me in the nose. My nose broke. Right after punching me she kneed me in the groin. So there I was in fetal position on the ground, my cheek stoning, and the blood from my nose forming a puddle on the ground. She smirked, looked me in the eye and said \" That's what you get for disagreeing with me you uncultured swine.\"\n\nSorry for any formatting issues and grammar, I'm on mobile.", "summary": "Told my friend how a feminist had made my theology teacher cry, got beaten up and called an uncultured swine by said feminist."}
{"id": "t3_1v0b0g", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 F] with my SO [18 M] 1.5 years, not your average \"break-up\"...", "post": "My [18 F] SO [18 M] started college this past August, so we've been long distance since then (I'm currently a senior in high school). I've gone up to visit him a few times, and he's come down for when he has school breaks.\n\nRecently, we haven't been as happy as we used to be. It's getting a lot harder because, obviously, we aren't seeing each other as often. I find myself getting upset that he isn't able to come home for a weekend because his parents don't want him at home; they want him at school (which I understand).\n\nThere's no chance of us going to the same college, because I was rejected from his school. I'm also definitely going very far away from his school for college.\n\nWe decided it would be too difficult to continue our relationship as is for the next four years, so tonight we broke up. We really didn't want to break up, but it seems like we didn't have any other choice.\n\nThe worst part about having to break up is that we're not doing it because one of us is losing feelings; it's completely the cause of external factors. If we were living in the same area, we wouldn't be breaking up. I'm almost positive that when he comes home on breaks in the future, we'll still act like a couple when we're together.\n\nWe both still love each other very much and intend to stay friends. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with this and/or has anyone been in a similar situation?", "summary": "broke up because the distance was getting to be too much but we're still in love and it fucking sucks"}
{"id": "t3_1ftkqt", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (F19) started talking to a new guy m(18) but need a little advice.", "post": "So, I just got out of a long relationship that I knew was failing for a while. I told myself that I wouldn't start seeing anybody anytime soon, but I've met someone that I get along with really really well, and that I like a lot- and I'm not about to throw away an opportunity if I'm not still heartbroken (which I'm honestly not) over my last boyfriend. \n\nMy problem is that I don't know what the intentions of this new guy are. We've only been talking for about a week, and he's in town just for summer and I'm assuming holidays because he goes to a school out of town. He's told me he's a virgin, but he's so gorgeous that it's almost hard for me to believe. My question is as to why, after only a few dates, he's already told me this info. Would it be because he's ready to lose it to someone he's comfortable with, or because he sees a future (whether it be short or long, whatever) between us? I asked him why he hadn't lost it yet, as he's almost 19, and he said that it was because he hasn't really felt that it was the right time with anyone else. \n\nBasically my dilemma is that I really like him, but I'm not sure if he's trying to just use me to lose his virginity to someone that isn't totally random and then go back to school. I know I should talk to him, but I feel like its too soon... And I think he wants to have sex relatively quickly into this. He's already hinted and told me that he wants to. \n\nI just don't want to end up hurt!", "summary": "Trying to find out what the intentions of a new person in my life are, and I don't want to end up hurt."}
{"id": "t3_4j0y8l", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [22M] with my GF [22F], when can I pop this question?", "post": "I'm dating a girl I met online. We know each other for two weeks. Things are going okay. She is a little conservative and she is a virgin like me. So she prefers to lose her virginity when she feels ready. Like me. \n\nMy question is a little weird. I'm very fond of her butt and I'd like to play with it. Without escalating things, though. Instead of playing with her hair, I'd be playing with her butt. That simple. Just clothed and squeezing. I'm more interested in playing with her butt than to have sex with her, right now. Not that anything wrong with sex. It's just sex is something more serious and playing is... just playing. Considering we are virgins we want to do it right.\n\nSo I want to ask her if I can play with her butt sometime in future. When and how should I pop the question? When this is not a weird question to ask to your GF? Should I wait until we have sex?", "summary": "When this is not a weird question to ask her? \"Can I play with your butt?\""}
{"id": "t3_4mqd62", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16M] with my girlfriend [15F] of a week, I'm afraid to kiss her because of my severe food allergies.", "post": "Hello, me and this girl, Pepper, have been talking for a few weeks now. As to say, I asked her out. But I still haven't kissed her. It wasn't until last week actually that she knew of my allergies. I thought I had mentioned it sooner. I'm severely allergic to all nuts to the point of life-threatening. I told her that my allergy is severe, but I don't think she realizes that kissing is hard for me. How do I bring it up? I feel like my only options are to say to stop eating food with nuts.\n\nI also know doctor sites are highly criticized (rightfully so!), but according to an allergy site (allergicchild.com), it says a doctor did a research and the protein remains in the saliva for several hours even after brushing and chewing gum, they recommend several nut-free meals and waiting hours for physical contact!\n   \n\nI should also note, my girlfriend hates peanut butter. But that doesn't rule out that many as there's Hershey almond bars, etc,.", "summary": "I [16M] have a life-threatening allergy to nuts, how do I go about kissing with my girlfriend [15F]?"}
{"id": "t3_3k95v1", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by being an extremely dense guy", "post": "As with most stories on here, this happened a couple of days ago (Monday). I went to a large Labor Day party in the town I live in, at the request of some of my friends who were playing music at said party. I was standing in front of the stage, just zoning out and listening to the guys play. \n\nAll of a sudden, I noticed two (lady) arms shooting out around my sides. I ignored it thinking she was trying to dance with someone behind me. She continues to dance and makes her way in front of me. I'm still kinda just zoning out and don't really pay much attention, until her face is about two inches away from mine. She asks me if I'm having a good time and I of course say yes. She then asks why I'm not dancing, and I lie and say I don't know how. I proceed to do a kind of stupid shimmy thing, because why be serious? \n\nShe laughed and said that was how she danced too, and started doing it next to me. I continued to do so for a minute or so, and then stopped. She leaned in again and said something, but I couldn't hear her over the music. Instead of asking her to repeat herself, or moving away from the stage and speakers to talk, I proceeded to just give her a small smile, like she said something funny. She kept dancing next to me for a few songs, gave me a weird look, and left with her friend, who I guess was behind me the entire time. \n\nAbout fifteen minutes later, the band takes a break, and my buddy who was playing came up to me and asked me why I didn't dance with the girl. Evidently from the stage he saw her make a beeline for me from the back of the party. Of course, I had just assumed she knew someone in the band and just wanted to be close to the stage. It took me a few more minutes to realize that she was probably into me, and I completely blew my chance.", "summary": "Went to a party, had a girl come dance up on me, was too dense to realize she was flirting, and blew my chance with one of the cutest girls I had seen in a while."}
{"id": "t3_33shfm", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by sexually harassing a girl at school.", "post": "A little background about myself, I am a 6'7\"male with hands the size of a man with big hands. I was sitting at my desk in chemistry class balancing chemical equations. As I peak up from doing my homework I see a pair of white basketball shorts go by, it was my friend (we will call Connor). Being a junior in high school, I felt the need to give him a firm slap on the ass as he walked by. All went well and I went back to doing my work. Not five minutes later went by when I saw out of the corner of my eye the same shorts again. Without looking up, I knew what I had to do. I grab a handful of that juicy man booty covering up a full cheek with my bear paw. At this moment I realized that this was not the same rump shake I had slapped earlier. I slowly raised my head and low in behold... it's the horse girl. Her eyes peaked into my soul. I had two choices; do I play it off cool like I meant to do it, or do I use my 99 speech to talk my way out of it? Being the genius that I am, I said, \"I thought you were Connor.\" If you wanna know how she reacted... Well I heard she plans on asking me to prom", "summary": "Swiggity Swoogity I came for that booty"}
{"id": "t3_454zq6", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by assuming it was Chinese food..", "post": "So this just happened a few hours ago. I'm sitting here at the office when someone says that there's a delivery guy here with some food.\n\nThere's probably about 30 people in my office, and we're all kind of spaced out and it's a pretty relaxed environment, so we usually just communicate with each other by shouting across the office.\n\nSo my first co-worker yells out, \"WHO ORDERED FOOD?\"... nobody responds.\n\nI look over at the door where the delivery guy was standing with a white bag with the food, and me thinking on my feet (seeing that he was Asian, and didn't look like he spoke much English), I yell out even louder.. \n\n\"WHO ORDERED CHINESE?!\"\n\nThe delivery guy just stood there and mumbled.. \"Burrito\".\n\nMy face immediately turned to the same one as that [\"awkward seal meme\"](\n\nI quickly ghosted myself back into my cubicle while my co-workers laughed at my expense.", "summary": "I wrongfully assumed that the Asian delivery guy was here to deliver Chinese food. He wasn't."}
{"id": "t3_4ftp9d", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Am I doing actual work or my boss's personal work?", "post": "I've been working the front desk at a college gym for over a year now (I'm a student at that college).  When I started the job, I was aware that \"miscellaneous data entry tasks\" were on the job description, though I mostly just sit and do homework and swipe people's ID cards when they enter.  \n\nLately, however, my boss has been asking me to do more and more of these \"miscellaneous data entry tasks.\"  Since my boss is the coach of one of the college's athletic teams, all the work revolves around this, not the actual gym.  For example, I've spent hours entering the contact info of potential recruits into a computer database.  Or watching through videos of the team playing and cutting out all of the \"dead space\" where nothing is happening on the field.\n\nNow, I recognize that I kinda signed up for this, but the work makes me feel brain-dead, and it's annoying.  I'm just wondering: I signed on to work for the gym, not the coach/athletic team.  Is my boss technically allowed to ask this of me?  (Especially the video-cutting task seems like busywork, since I feel like it's not meaningful.)", "summary": "Not sure if I'm doing actual work or my boss's personal busywork."}
{"id": "t3_3kumgd", "subreddit": "jobs", "title": "Heard a company was hiring through my old supervisor whose wife works there. How do I approach this in an email?", "post": "I graduated in Dec, unemployed for 4 months, got a job through a staffing agency, and temped there 4 months. \n\nMy supervisor from that company sent me a message saying his wife (at another company) is hiring my position (also freelance aka contract).  She is high up and probably a partner. He gave me her email and said she would probably forward it to the person who would be my supervisor.\n\nI feel like it's kind of awkward for me because I've never networked really. When I interned I was the only person who got in without knowing someone. \n\nIs there a better way to word this in the email besides \"Hey, your husband told me you were hiring for job x. Here is my application?\" Obviously not that but Idk. \n\nI definitely send over my application and cover letter, right? Sorry if this is a dumb question. I've never really networked before. Also would you suggest only mentioning the long term position. Basically he said he is hiring my position salary and hourly. It is common in my field for them to hire juniors on contract.", "summary": "how do I mention a network in an email basically sending over my stuff?"}
{"id": "t3_34v6bd", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "Very odd NSV.", "post": "I am a social networking fiend. In fact, I'm just an internet fiend. Whether it's on my phone or on my laptop I'm constantly scrolling on something. Today, as I typed 'f' into my browser, I hit enter expecting to end up on Facebook. But instead I got a little surprise - I was brought to www.Fitbit.com! I just wasn't expecting that and I got a little chuckle out of it. Realising I've been spending more time over the past while looking up and checking my daily goals as apposed to what my Facebook friends have been up to was nice.", "summary": "my most visited website beginning with an 'f' changed from Facebook to Fitbit. \ud83d\ude02"}
{"id": "t3_2m44r6", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my friend [16 F] 3 months, Met a girl in class, but it turns out my mom is her therapist.", "post": "To begin with, I met this girl in class. She  is nice and cute and we hit it off immediately and it soon led to me meeting her for coffee and the usual such that happens.\n\nWell, when i told my mom i was going to meet a girl for coffee and to chat, she asked her name. I thought how harmless could it be, and i told her. \n\nMy mom is a therapist, and sees kids in my school. But based off her reaction it would seem that she is this girl's therapist.\n\nI do not know how to approach this situation, I do not want to not see this girl anymore, but i also do not want to cause any akwardness if the two happen to meet. I also do not want to get my mom in trouble with HIPAA guidelines.", "summary": "Asked a girl out, and i think my mom is her therapist."}
{"id": "t3_i4wlj", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help me build an epic trip through Europe for my pal. $10,000 budget", "post": "So, a friend of mine is swimming the English Channel early in August. He plans to travel Europe alone for about a year. There are a few events he'd like to hit in the first month or so, but in large part has no idea what he's up against.\n\nHe has $10,000 (after swim and flight over)\n\nHe plans to start his travels after the swim, starting in Callias, France between the 10th and 13th, and staying til the 16th.\n\nThe other solid destinations are Amsterdam after Callias, Madrid, followed by Valencia (La Tomatina August 31), and then Munich (Oktoberfest September 22). It'd be cool to see Italy and Austria between Valencia and Munich. After Munich, he'd like to find something more permanent, and hopefully work.\n\nSo far what we have planned for him is that he is going to buy a month long Euro Rail pass (15 travel days out of 30). for the portion starting in Amsterdam. \n\nThe floor is yours, Reddit. Help.", "summary": "Needs help planning trip, man. Just read it..."}
{"id": "t3_1y5z0b", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "How do I go about contacting a guest speaker for school.", "post": "Hi, I'm in high school and my teacher gave the class a project where students bring in a guest speaker ,who has a career I have an interest in. The guest speaker comes in and talks about their experiences and such things like, qualifications, preferences , classes they took in college and such. Well I have an interest of bringing in a computer scientist or physics/astronomy professor ,but I'm confused how to go about contacting them and such. I have all the questions to ask but confused how to reach them. Do I use their email listed on the website or call the University? Any suggestions would be great.", "summary": "I need to find career speaker,have interest,but no idea how to go about contacting them."}
{"id": "t3_lw00b", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Can my wife take her mother to court over a phone bill in wife's name?", "post": "Here's the story: My wife's mother needed a phone (before we even met), but her credit prevented her from getting a contract. So my wife was nice enough to add her to her current plan. She ran up the bill close to $300 (including $50 in Facebook credits). She decided to cancel her account and leave my wife with her past due $300+ bill.\n\nIs there anything we can do about it? I'm pretty pissed that I have to pay my mother-in-law's outstanding phone bill (wife is in college and doesn't work.)\n\nI know it's a long shot since it's in my wife's name, but can we take any legal action?", "summary": "Mother-in-law ran up our phone bill, can we take her to court or make her pay it?"}
{"id": "t3_em8bp", "subreddit": "Parenting", "title": "Holiday gifts for childcare workers (etiquette question)", "post": "When my wife went back to work after a 16 month unemployment spell, we enrolled our (then 15 month, now 18 month) daughter in a wonderful state university early childhood education center. She has two 'main' classroom instructors and they are supported by a rotating group of early childhood development students on a semester-long basis.\n\nThis is the first year we have a child enrolled in any form of childcare (in-home or otherwise), and are curious about what kind of holiday gifting is appropriate or expected (if at all).\n\nWe'd like to do something nice for the teachers that helped and encouraged our daughter to walk, talk, socialize and be way more awesome at home, but are drawing a blank as to what monetary level is appropriate, and if we should include something small for the students that our daughter interacts with.\n\nOur gut says to spend an appropriate amount on the two main teachers (maybe a massage - who couldn't use one this time of year?), and then give out small denomination gift cards (maybe to Starbucks) for the students.\n\nThoughts?", "summary": "What is an appropriate gift for a childcare worker?"}
{"id": "t3_haqkr", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm being strung along and it's depressing the hell out of me", "post": "I got involved with a girl with a boyfriend. We've been hanging out for the past couple of months and the most we've ever done is kissed and cuddled. Last night we had a heart to heart and I told her that I can't keep doing this while she's in a relationship.\n\nI told her that I want her to be single. She tells me that she's of course considered being with me, but she loves her boyfriend too. She tells me that I should keep hanging out with her and show her why we'd make a better team. Also, she told her boyfriend that we made out. Why would she do that? Out of guilt?", "summary": "like girl with a boyfriend. she's stringing me along. feeling so down."}
{"id": "t3_3vv5t1", "subreddit": "legaladvice", "title": "Changing Rent Concessions After Signing Lease: Maryland Edition", "post": "In short, we signed a lease for our apartment this past Saturday, and got the keys that day. Today, the leasing office called saying they couldn't give us both of the rent concessions that were in our lease.\n\n- concession 1 was 2 months free (next month and last month, on 16-month lease), in total worth $3100\n\n- concession 2 was 5% preferred employer discount on monthly rent, over the life of the lease worth over $1200\n\n- the call this morning involved the leasing specialist saying the manager said they couldn't offer 2 concessions, that they never didn't, and their \"system\" couldn't support input of 2 concessions (and would be questionable in audits), and that I needed to choose only one\n\n- I'm livid, because it feels like a bait & switch, and if I give up the smaller concession I'm losing out on $1200, which was a consideration in signing in the first place; even if it was a mistake, why should I take the hit? \n\n- they're not willing to negotiate on how to make up the $1200 in another way (3 rd or 0.8 of a month free to offset any \"system\" limitations, other than telling me I can buy out the lease ... their stated concern is that's getting into fair housing issues\n\n- conveniently, my copy of the lease doesn't have any of their signatures -- just those of me and my spouse\n\nHow can I fix this tomorrow? We just moved here for work. The movers are bringing our things tomorrow, utilities are being started, and I don't want 16 months of drama or to have to buy out a 16-month lease then try to find a new home while starting my new job.", "summary": "Days after signing a new lease, the concessions I was offered are now  attempting to be changed by property management. I want to resolve without drama or getting shafted."}
{"id": "t3_318ta3", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by trying to trim my armpits", "post": "So I'm a dude, and I tend to sweat a lot. Excessively so - I'll be just sitting there, and there'll magically be pit stains in my shirt. I tried prescription strength antiperspirant, I tried different deodorants, nothing worked. At a friend's suggestion, I tried trimming my armpit hair, and things got a lot better.\n\nFast forward to today. It's time to trim again, and I'm getting my electric clippers ready. At this point, it's habit, and I just clip on the usual guard and go. Except it wasn't the usual guard, it's a much closer one. One swipe, and my hair is not trimmed, it's all but gone. Now I've got no choice but to cut it all with this guard. So now, instead of nice, soft, trimmed armpit hair, I've got coarse, itchy, shaved armpit hair. It's driving me nuts.", "summary": "Wanted trimmed armpits, got shaved armpits."}
{"id": "t3_q1q91", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "This may be none of my business (xpost from /r/relationships)", "post": "My stepdaughter is hanging around with this boy who is quite possibly the lowest form of life on earth. He is the dirtiest, slimiest, most disgusting person I have ever met. He lives in a shitty apartment with three other guys who are all slobs. He doesn't work, doesn't bathe, and quite literally lives in a pile of his own amassed garbage. Nine times out of ten, whenever I see him, he smells like rancid milk due to not bathing/not washing his clothes/not *NOT* wallowing in his own filth. He claims homeless benefits since he technically is only temporarily (permanently) sleeping on the couch of his apartment. He draws food stamps, and unemployment (whenever he does work for as long as an employer can stand him). I helped him to get a job working with children once, and he was almost immediately let go due to \"inappropriate (non-sexual) physical contact with a child\". He is very manipulative. I've caught him going through the text messages on her phone and going through her facebook account as well. I know that he and my step daughter are sexually active to some degree, as I've caught them mid-fingerbang (they were doing it while I was 10 feet away). Yes, unfortunately it is consensual. Is there anything that I can do to scare him off, or put them off of one another?", "summary": "Is there anything I can do to to chase away this scumbag so that he doesn't drag my step daughter down with him? Or is it none of my business, and I'm a nosy asshole?"}
{"id": "t3_39kcbq", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [17 M] and my Ex [17 F] recently broke up and she sent me this text...", "post": "First of all, I would like to say sorry for the punctuation and grammar. Also, sorry if I have not adhered to all of the rules; I am new to this subreddit.\n\nOkay, so here goes:\nMe and my ex were together for 3 years 9 months since we were 14. We broke up on the 2nd of May as a \"mutual decision\". The relationship had faded and we were more like best friends. We said we'd still be friends and see each other etc... However we don't talk or anything. \n\nOn the 4th June she text me saying: \"Hey, hope all your stuff was alright :) I just wanted to let you know out of respect because we were together for a long time that I'm going out with *BOY'S NAME*. I know your probably not bothered and stuff but I wanted you to hear it from me because if it was the other way round I would appreciate that :) xx\nHope your okay! I'm sorry xx\"\n\nI looked the boy up on a Social Media site and it says that he was \"In a relationship\" since the 13th May. \n\nI haven't replied yet because I don't know what to say. However, I want to reply. What does everyone think? She is talking about respect but personally I don't think that is respectful; 11 days after long term relationship, she's got a new boyfriend. I obviously didn't mean that much to her.", "summary": "What should I reply?"}
{"id": "t3_1eapda", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My girlfriend (F 21), of 2 months, is distant, but says she wants to be with me (M 29). What do I do?", "post": "So to cut to the chase, when we are apart, I barely ever hear from her and her text messages are very distant and impressionable. When we are together it's passionate and amazing. She says she has commitment issues and its hard for her to flirt or show her feelings. As we spend more time apart than together, this has become a problem for me. I know she wants to be with me, but as soon as I'm out of sight it feels like I no longer exist. She's constantly telling me (in person) that she's so thankful to have me in her life and appreciates me being patient. But most of the time I feel as though I'm dating a brick wall. Every compliment is met with a standard \"Thank you\" and ever suggestion of a date is met with \"maybe\". I've called her out on this several times and she tells me she is truly working on it. I just don't know what to do to help her, or how for me not to feel like I'm dating a brick wall.", "summary": "Distant Girlfriend actually wants to be with me, I'm just not sure how to date someone who is extremely independent. Any advice?"}
{"id": "t3_3trmv1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [M30] am considering breaking up with my girlfriend [F26] of 5 years", "post": "First off, I love this woman. She's loving, beautiful, and smart. \n\nWhen we met, we lived in neighboring towns, but she moved an hour away when she began law school two years ago. Everyone warned me that law school may make her distant, but, surprisingly, she remains devoted to our relationship with frequent phone calls and visits. I am the one having issues with our relationship.\n\nI'm about to take a stab in the dark in attempt to explain what's going on in my head. When she visits, I'm beyond nervous, which combined with my stressful job can put me over the edge. Also, I can be pretty anal retentive about things; when she rearranges my house, as little as putting the milk on the wrong side of the refrigerator, I get annoyed at her. My guess for the reason behind my unhappiness in our relationship is that I'm dealing with some inner turmoil. I'm dealing with some trauma from a few years ago and the relationship may be digging some of the negative emotions up.\n\nMy girlfriend is a great listener and seems willing to make any changes. The thing is, I don't know what changes would make me happy. I can tell her that I need X, Y, and, Z. And because she is awesome, she will give X, Y, and Z, but there's a chance I could still be unsettled. \n\nI've told her that I'm not sure whether I want to continue the relationship. The last thing she said to me was that she is devastated, feels she did something wrong, and just wants to help me through whatever I'm going through. She agreed to give me some space and is probably waiting by her phone. It just kills me that I'm hurting her and I fear that I'm going to continue to hurt her if I were to try and work on our relationship. Yet, I'm afraid to lose her. \n\nBy the way, this is the longest and healthiest relationship I've ever been in. A couple of months ago, I was certain I was spending my life with her. What the heck is going on with me?", "summary": "My girlfriend is wonderful. I have issues. I'm not sure if I should continue our relationship because of my emotional state."}
{"id": "t3_4ud5k0", "subreddit": "dating_advice", "title": "[35/m] When is it okay to ask out a retail employee?", "post": "So. I'm under the distinct impression that it is bad form to ask out someone when they are at work. I've only done this once several years ago when I didn't know better.   \n\nLately I have been noticing this young woman who works at the local convenience store. I find her to be friendly, warm, and incredibly attractive while still not quite being out of my leauge (even though I know that's not supposed to be a thing).  \n\nIn the last month I've been seeing her in there a lot more on my way to work as I've had to go in early. Otherwise it's pretty rare that I see her working there during my regular schedule. We've been making a little chit chat here and there. Sometimes it goes pretty well and I love when I manage to make her laugh.  \n\nMaybe it's stupid and just a little crush that I should get over. A few years ago my cousin started dating a girl he met when she was working at a gas station. They are now happily married. So it must have been okay for him to ask her out at some point.   \n\nWhat do you think? Do I keep building a rapport with her and see if it goes anywhere? Do I try to kick it up a notch? Or do I forget about her altogether and go back to scrolling through online dating sites?", "summary": "Starting to develop some rapport with a local sales clerk. Is it ever going to be acceptable to ask her out, or is she permanently off limits because that's a faux pas?"}
{"id": "t3_4s9l2y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [16M] am wanting to be with a girl [14F] who says she is sick of boys", "post": "Big Web of Events, Stay with me here.\n\nI recently got dumped by my now ex [15F] and she was my first girlfriend (not the girl this is about). The first day I met her we were cuddling on her friend's couch and within weeks I was kissing her neck all the time and basically it was fast and hot and ended in a mess.\n\nNow that i'm not with her I feel lonely and desperate. I had a thing with this girl before her who recently caught her boyfriend cheating (her friend told me that she thought I was cute), I asked her out to a movie and she pretty much friendzoned me by asking if her friend could come with.\n\nThis girl is seriously beautiful and funny and everything. I put a picture on my snapchat story of a friend and she instantly got really jealous. So being frustrated I said stuff about her being pretty jealous for someone who doesn't want to go on a date with me. she responded by saying that because of her ex she was sick of boys and just didn't want a relationship. (it's been like two months since they broke up)\n\nThe thing is we have been through this before with me waiting for her to get over it and it got interupted by previously mentioned girl [15F]. and now that I broke up with girl [15F] I am back in the cycle of waiting for [14F] to go out with me and I am on the edge of giving in and going for another easier girl.", "summary": "What do I say to her to get her to drop her boycott on boys"}
{"id": "t3_ta3m9", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "What to do when things get dull?", "post": "Eighteen (him) and nineteen (me, female), we've been together for about a year and a half now. After about the first eight months of the \"honeymoon\" stage, things just seem to have gotten dull. We used to go out to dinner nearly every weekend, or stay back and watch a movie, something date-ish. Now we live together and it's school, work, homework, video games, sleep.\n\nHe and I have talked about this many times, and nothing ever seems to change. He seems content playing video games with all of his spare time. It's not that I want to take that away from him, but I want us to have some sort of memories and fun times, aside from \"Woo, another Wal Mart trip!\"\n\n[This comment] seems to really explain what I'm trying to get at. I don't want to go out and spend a bunch of money. We have a patio, a park nearby, a pool in our complex. Every time I make a suggestion, it somehow gets shut down.\n\nAlso, I'm fairly certain he's not looking to break up, rather that he's become much more of a homebody lately.\n\nSide note: any good (cheap) date ideas are appreciated, because I'm out of them.\n\nThank you, r/relationships!", "summary": "How do I get him out of the apartment for some quality time?"}
{"id": "t3_3zkpde", "subreddit": "books", "title": "Cat's Cradle Discussion (maybe spoilers)", "post": "I just finished reading Kurt Vonnegut's *Cat's Cradle* and I am still digesting it, unsure of my final opinion on the book.  I found *Cat's Cradle* after reading *Slaughterhouse Five* which is possibly my favorite book and this one took me a bit longer to get through after putting it down for a couple months after losing interest in the middle.  \n\nI love the ending of the book, one of the best last pages of a novel I have ever read.  I hate when a book drags on for the last 20 pages \"concluding\" itself.  This one was sharp and made you think.  There were parts around the middle where I lost interest.  I enjoyed the parts about Bokononism but didn't like many of the tertiary characters who were not members of the Hoenniker family.  \n\nI can't help thinking I am missing something for two reasons I was hoping /r/books could help me find out.  \n\n1)  By reading the book too spread out, did I miss some references to the beginning of the book during its ending?  \n\nMainly I am thinking of the part about *The History of Human Stupidity* which I thought I had seen referenced earlier in the book, but could not find it.  I started to wonder if the book (Cat's Cradle) was meant to pick up at the beginning where it left off at the end since the narrator was also an author who was documenting his visit of San Lorenzo.  And at the end the surving crew made mention of his writing being his contribution to the entertainment of the group.  I can't help wondering if the book was the book he was writing and planning to take to the top of the mountain with him.", "summary": "Are *Cat's Cradle* and *The History of Human Stupidity* the same book?"}
{"id": "t3_47475o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How do my roommate [26F] and I [25F] tell our third roommate [27F] that we want her to leave?", "post": "Three of us rent an apartment and share the kitchen, living room, dining room, and bathroom. Ashira and I get on well enough, but Vivian has been horrible to live with. She has started stealing, lying, and not paying rent.\n\nWe've been trying to resolve multiple issues amicably with no luck (see:  We recently discovered that this roommate (Vivian) has been stealing and possibly ruining our kitchen things, and we caught her lying about it. She still hasn't returned all of them, and we have no idea where she's keeping them. \n\nWe met with the landlord to discuss what our options were regarding subleasing our own rooms to get away from Vivian as well as if we had any means to remove her from the lease. The landlord told us that Vivian has been over 4 weeks late with the rent for three months in a row now and hasn't paid for February yet-- so technically she is also delinquent on the rent.\n\nOur landlord suggested we take her to housing court, however our district's policies will not allow us (roommates) to do so, and if the landlord does, he has to name all three of us because we're all on the lease. \n\nWhat are creative solutions to convince or obligate Vivian to move out? How can we approach the topic with Vivian? How do we break it to her that we met with the landlord behind her back and found out about her getting behind on the rent?", "summary": "Horrible, awful, no good roommate hasn't been paying rent (and when she does, it's late). How do we tell her we found out about this? Do you have any advice for getting her off the lease or out of the apartment?"}
{"id": "t3_2xv5lz", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 8 months; Plan to move across the country and don't know what to do about my relationship.", "post": "So, my boyfriend and I have been together for an absolutely amazing 8 months. I've never felt so in love, and I don't want to imagine being with anyone else. The problem: I don't want to stay in this godforsaken state and plan to move almost immediately after graduation in about a year.\n\nI have done extensive amounts of research and networking to get my career started halfway across the country, and I am so stoked. My boyfriend is happy for me too and has already said that if our relationship lasts until graduation, he is willing to move with me. I don't know if I can let him do that though.\n\nWe will both be starting new jobs in a new city with no friends or family within about 8 hours (by plane) of us. I'm absolutely terrified that we'll either drive each other nuts, find someone new, or he'll be unhappy being away from home. I don't know if I could live with dragging him across the country and then breaking up.\n\nWe've had the conversation a million times, and we finally decided to break up. I'm scared that I've made a mistake though because I'm afraid of the potential consequences of that sort of commitment. It's like my mind, my heart, and my gut are all battling against each other, none having the same solution to the problem. \n\nBasically, I just need to know if I'm being an idiot. Should I commit to the break up and move on or give the relationship a whole-hearted try before throwing away the best thing that has happened to me thus far?", "summary": "I plan on moving, and my boyfriend wants to come with me, but I'm not sure that I want him to, because I'm scared of our relationship ending badly. However, I've never been in such a great, loving relationship, and I'm afraid I'm making a mistake by ending it instead of giving the relationship a fair fight."}
{"id": "t3_1vvvtv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [16 M] with my Girl [16 F] one week, talking is weird.", "post": "Alright, so me and this girl \"Abby\" have met on Tuesday in class (I just left a military academy and came back home to a new school) and we've been texting ever since, one week now since yesterday. We text into the night and I've even told her on Friday I had feelings for her. Luckily she told me that the feelings were mutual and she had already kind of guessed it.\n\nWe started playing some games like \"secrets\" where each of us shares one secret then the next person shares another. We shared a LOT of deep secrets but talking in person is still super awkward. I've even called her 2-3 times and talking there goes well, but again in person its weird, and we are usually pretty quiet. Mostly because we have no idea what to talk about.\n\nOn top of that her parents are SUPER Christian and are strict, and Abby isn't super religious and her parents know. She says she is going to somehow figure out how to tell them eventually, but yeah..\n\nSo pretty much I`m wondering how do I break the silence, what do we talk about, and any other advice?", "summary": "Me and Abby are having issues communicating."}
{"id": "t3_dy179", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, my boyfriend is having a problem with his female roommate...", "post": "So, my boyfriend is currently rooming with a girl friend of mine from high school. They both brought a number of McDonald Coca-Cola cups to the apartment. He labeled his, she didn't label hers. One day he accidentally broke one of his own cups, so he took the rest of his away so no accident would befall them. Somehow or other my friend's cups went missing, and she accused him of stealing them. I can swear without a doubt that he did not. I was there when she accused him, and I even looked through his stuff with him later. He did not have the cups.\n\nShe didn't believe him. So what she did was take all the dishes, cups, pots, pans, utensils, etc. that were hers out of the kitchen and keep them in her room. A couple of weeks later, while I was in her room looking for a book of mine she had borrowed and hadn't returned yet, I saw that my friend had taken my boyfriend's cocktail shaker. I don't know if it was an accident or not, so I told him about it.\n\nHe asked her if she had his shaker. She said no, she hadn't seen it, and they left it at that. Later, I was in her room again (this time to see if she still had the cocktail shaker), and I saw that it wasn't in the box anymore. When my boyfriend asked her again if she knew where it was, she denied it again, but said she'd, \"Keep an eye out for it.\"\n\nShe assumed he had stolen her cups and in order to \"get even\", she stole his cocktail shaker and then hid it and lied about it. What can he/I do about it?", "summary": "My bf's roommate stole his stuff and lied about it."}
{"id": "t3_1ov8e0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [24M] had sex with my friends' mom [45F], I need to get this off my chest and learn how to deal with it", "post": "Throwaway account.\n\nRecently I went to a birthday party for an older friend. At this party was also a woman who has 3 sons, aged between 20 and 29. I am close friends with all of them. \n\nAnyway, I know she's been having a thing for me since last summer and I've always been attracted to her. We went out for a cigarette and I told her I only came to this party because I knew she was coming as well. Then she kissed me and things escalated from there.\n\nWe went to her place and had sex. Afterwards I went back to the party and she stayed at her home. The first one I see is her oldest son, who was also there. He stopped me and wanted to make small talk while smoking a cigarette. It felt really awkward, knowing what I just had done with his mother.\n\nBut to get to the point, I feel really scared now. I am afraid they will find out and that would be a disaster. We live in a small town so it would be terrible, not only for me (they will beat me up like never before), but it would of course be very embarrassing for them as well.\n\nI have to live with this secret for the rest of my life, and I will be reminded of it every time I see her sons, which is often. I don't know what to do.\n\nPlease, help me figure out the best way to deal with this because I feel really lost.", "summary": "Had sex with the mother of 3 close friends, I need help to deal with this. They will kill me if they find out."}
{"id": "t3_3xihr0", "subreddit": "tifu", "title": "TIFU by telling my 3 year old niece the secret identity of Superman", "post": "I love comic books. I enjoy posting about them on Reddit and i have a budding collection. When my niece comes to my house, she loves to look through my books, but [there is one in particular] she likes to take off the shelf because she can ask me who each character is when she's looking through it.\n\nAnyway, last week it blew her mind when i told her that these characters have normal names and begun teaching her them. In particular, she wanted to know who Batman, Superman, Green Lantern and Wonder Woman really were, so i told her.\n\nFast forward to yesterday, it's the last day of her nursery before the holidays so her mother (my sister) goes to pick her up. The teacher at the nursery told her that there had been a tiny incident and she just wanted her to know.\n\nIn front of say 20 children and 3 adults at the nursery, she told everyone that Superman's real name was *Clark Cunt*.\n\nThe adults tried not to laugh at her mistake and explained it was actually Kent, but my niece was adamant and said \"My uncle told me it was Clark Cunt\". My sister found the funny side to it, could have been worse i guess, it could have been the Winter Soldier instead.", "summary": "told 3 year old niece that Superman's name is Clark Kent, she misheard and called him Clark Cunt at nursery."}
{"id": "t3_15m2sg", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Have you ever written off an entire group of friends because of the actions of one of them? If so, what did they do?", "post": "I'm at work right now when I'd rather be at my friends' white elephant party. It's not because I have to work, but because I have to avoid one person that managed to enrage me so much that I had to cut her completely out of my life.\n\nThe backstory: I started subletting her room a year ago. We had a long, strange history before that I'd rather not get into, but I figured it would work out. It was a tough leap for me financially and had to work more, but it was close to the school that I wanted to go to, and that alone was worth it. Within a month of me moving in, she started shit talking me to all my friends with the obvious goal of ostracising me. Word got back to me. I completely stopped interacting with her. By June, she managed to kick me out. That made it infeasible for me to continue attending the school, and served to completely waste all the time and energy I spent (not to mention money) making myself at home there. I broke down the glass shop and bike shop I had set up, put most of my things in storage, and had to spend a month renovating a room at my folks' place.\nThe very thought of her enrages me. But even beyond that, she has demonstrated a determination to make me miserable. I resolved to never speak to her or even see her again, to neutralize this potential as much as possible. This has ultimately resulted in not being able to see the majority of my friends. From a group of easily over fifty people whose company I regularly enjoyed, I'm left with a meager handful, and of those, only one that regularly visits. In the past 6 months, I've missed a wedding, thanksgiving, christmas, and numerous other get togethers of people who I've considered family for the past 8 years.\n\nSo who's ruined a good thing for you?", "summary": "'friend' tried to ostracise me and basically succeeded. missed out on lots of cool stuff, miss my friends, but can't do much about it except work."}
{"id": "t3_4idjwd", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Am I [25M] receiving emotional abuse from my [23F] long term gf.", "post": "So let me start off with I love my girlfriend very much and she loves me, she is normally super sweet and tries to do anything she can for me.\n\nSo this coming week we are both about to get swamped with work and with our schedules we aren't going to have much time together. Now where my concerns started to rose was over the weekend Sunday was going to be our last day we both had off for a while. So she wanted to spend it together.\n\nI was down for that but also wanted to have my bud over for bit to have a drink or two for a couple hours I hadn't seen him in a while and he was in town for a couple days. At first she wasn't happy but said sure. So he comes over and we start chatting and talk about highschool and this is my bad we exclude my gf a bit. This really upsets her and she gets upset with me.\n\n So now for the part that concerns me now we fight quite a bit but I think that's just who we are but this time she told me she wanted to break up. Now this hurt but what hurt me was she later told me she only said that to try and hurt me now I had never thought about it but this wasn't the first time she's said she said something hurtful or harsh then admitted to having said it only to try and hurt me, it's happened a lot.\n\nNow this feels worse then saying them because you feel that way, does that qualify as emotional abuse? Or am I just  being a bit over sensitive.", "summary": "Caused a fight with gf, she said something hurtful, then admitted to saying it only to hurt me. I realize she has done that a lot."}
{"id": "t3_4748ox", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] recently moved in with my sister [23F] and her boyfriend [23M] and he wont stop hitting on me.", "post": "The title pretty much says what part of the problem is. I recently moved in with my older sister to help her pay for her place and be closer to my work.\nI guess it started during Christmas when let's say \"John\" drunkenly kissed me under the mistletoe. I dismissed it, but ever since then he's been hitting on me. Lately he's became more aggressive about it.\n\nI've asked him to stop and I've told my sister about it. She seems to just dismiss it as harmless flirting.\n\nThe other part of the problem is that I'm not very experienced with guys. So all of his flirting is a turn on. Even though I know its completely inappropriate my body response to hit. If you know what I mean.", "summary": "Moved in with sister. Sister boyfriend hitting on me. Even though it's inappropriate is a turn on."}
{"id": "t3_2y3ahb", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21/F], would it be wrong of me to squirrel money away from my future husband?", "post": "Just to be clear,  I'm not getting married anytime soon but after reading and hearing about women in abusive relationships I've started toying with the idea of keeping a little nest egg in case anything bad were to happen should I need to get out of an abusive relationship. As a logical woman I know that sometimes you make bad decisions by marrying the wrong person. And I don't want to be put in a position in the future where I'll be stuck without any options. So every year because I'm native American I, along with the rest of my tribe receive two checks, one for $500, the other for $1,000. This money comes from the combined earnings the tribe receives from multiple business's owned on tribal land. Ergo, the money trickles down to the tribal members. Now the women in my family aren't necessarily forward about getting this money and I've heard that the men they date aren't happy when they find out about the extra \"income\". My problem comes into play here, I plan on getting married one day but I'm not sure how to handle telling my husband. On one hand I'd like it for myself to get out of a bad relationship, on the other, I think it's a nice extra amount of money to invest in towards yearly vacations with my future spouse, new furniture, or things around the house. Should I tell my future husband about the money or be dishonest and never say anything?", "summary": "Hypothetically speaking, would it be wrong to keep a secret stash of money away from my future husband in case of an emergency?"}
{"id": "t3_4qdej3", "subreddit": "AskDocs", "title": "Vertebral X-Rays - Second Opinion", "post": "First off, I am a 24 year old male in good health: 5'11\" 165 lbs.  I have never had any kind of surgery.\n\nAbout a month ago I played my first full contact sport in my life and got knocked around quite a bit.  I experienced soreness in my lower back, but at times there would be a sharp pain from a very specific location on my lower/middle back.  About a month went by and nothing had changed.  I feel the pain when flexing/extending my back, or when working out (squats, deadlifts, bent over rows).  Since I first noticed the pain I lightened the frequency and lightened the weight of those specific lifts and just this week had some x-rays taken: \n\nBack-Front View: \nLeft-Right View: \n\nI was told there was a misalignment in L2, and disc degeneration between L4-L5 with small red arrows pointing to bone spurs.  I have looked this up online but have not come across anything that is overly conclusive as to whether or not this is the case.  I am merely looking for some reinforcement, or other thoughts as to the condition of my back.\n\nLike I said, this is completely new to me, so I am skeptical as to whether or not this is something I need professional treatment for, or if this is something I can treat on my own.", "summary": "I hurt my back 1 month ago and these are the x-rays.  I was told L2 is misaligned and there is disc degeneration between L4-L5.  Second opinions?  "}
{"id": "t3_ofwi6", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "How can I get back at/report a credit card scammer?", "post": "I get a call nearly every week from the phone number  1 (720) 539-6698. I think the number is a credit card scam. The automated message says it is cardholder services and that it can lower the interest rate on your credit card. I pressed 1 to \"speak to an agent.\" When the person picked up I asked what company he worked for and why they continued to call me when I'm on the National Do Not Call Registry, and he hung up. I called back and it went straight to voicemail saying \"The mailbox belonging to Mike(?) is full.\" I'm damn near positive they are more than annoying telemarketers, they are attempting to steal people's financial information. \n\nI already filed a complaint with the [National Do Not Call Registry] but I have a lack of faith in their ability to do anything about the fact that this scumbag is trying to rip people off. It seems like they're more worried about telemarketers than anything. I wouldn't be as up in arms about this if it was just stupid telemarketers,  but I'm pissed that there's probably poor people out there getting ripped off. This asshole has been calling for months, but I just hang up. Today I've had it. \n\nWhat else can I do to make sure this scumbag sees justice?", "summary": "I keep getting calls from a credit card scammer. What can I do to see that he gets justice, aside from reporting him to the National Do Not Call Registry (which I've already done)?"}
{"id": "t3_dcmv2", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Reddit, Let's make a facebook application.", "post": "Redditors,\n\nA few friends and I made a Facebook application that overlays images on to your Facebook profile picture.  The idea is to make it really easy for people to wear their hearts on their profile pictures.  For example, we could make an application for people to put their favorite football team's logo in their profile picture.  \n\nIt's easier to show than tell, so here's an example of an app we built: [\n\nWe'd like to provide the Reddit community an opportunity to design its own app.  An obvious example would be an application that puts the alien in your profile pic.\n\nHere's how it will work: if you have an idea for an application, post a comment here.  If possible, provide the images as seen in this app: [  If you don't want to provide graphics, post the idea anyway. Hopefully, the reddit community will fill in the details.  We'll take the idea with the most upvotes by **September 15, 2010**\n\nTo get the creative juices flowing, here's a few ideas to start off with:\n\n  ** * ** A reddit alien in the bottom left corner, with the same look and feel as the NBC peacock/other network television logos.  (Reddit admins, can we get permission to use the alien?)\n\n** * ** The look of disapproval.\n\n** * ** Mormon bubbles all over your picture\n\n** * ** The 'i' in 'Team' (again, maybe we can get permission to do this?)\n\nLimitations: In short, don't get us in trouble with either Facebook or the law.\n\nSpecifically, please follow Facebook's [Developer Principles and Policies]  Most relevantly, nothing that falls under Prohibited Content in section **IV.A**, such as hate speech and politically inflammatory messages.\n\nAlso, please only submit content that you have permission (with respect to copyright) to use.", "summary": "help make a facebook app that puts stupid and probably unfunny images in your profile picture."}
{"id": "t3_52j8pv", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [18 M] with my girlfriend? [19 F] of 7 months told me she no longer loved me. We stayed FWB until..", "post": "Last week my girlfriend of 7 months told me she no longer had romantic feelings for me and thought we would be better as FWB. She also made it very clear as FWB we were both single and that I should not wait for any hope to get back with her.\n\nFor the next week we still talked everyday, we met up and during that time she still told me she did not love me in a romantic way and that we are just FWB. \n\nAlmost 5 days since the change to FWB I sat with a female friend and posted a picture of the two of us onto snapchat which my FWB was able to see. At first she acted fine and encouraged me to move on. Later in the night she starts going on a text rampage telling me things like \"How could I\" and \"I should have known she still loved me\" and she said I cheated on her although SHE called off the relationship and SHE wanted to be single. I want to get her to stop fighting with me about it but its all she talks about saying i betrayed her and that I should have known she loved me. \n\nWhat do I do? Am I the crazy one?", "summary": "FWB got jealous i was talking to another girl after SHE called off the relationship and wanted us to be single."}
{"id": "t3_3hwfq3", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "How should I (21f) proceed with guy (21m) I like", "post": "First time posting and I'm writing on mobile so I apologize in advance for any mistakes. \n\nWe've been talking on and off all summer. We both will be going back to school soon. (We are about 3 hours away from each other at school) Our conversations are very casual. The closest thing to flirting we use is maybe a \"(;\". \n\nThe first time we talked on the phone/face timed we talked for over 3 hours. Talking to him comes so naturally. I am really at ease and comfortable with him. We just recently last week went on our first date. We went to dinner then hung out. I had a lot of fun. I felt like I was hanging with a great friend...and that's the problem. \n\nI like him, I think he's cute, but I don't feel the kind of attraction where I want to be involved romantically. There's no spark. I don't think about kissing him and I feel pretty neutral on the idea of kissing him. I think he likes me to the point of wanting to date. \n\nHow do I explain to him that yes I love talking and hanging out and I do think you're cute but I don't want to involved romantically right now? This has happened before to me and a few months later I actually started liking the guy romantically. So who knows maybe in the future I will feel different.   He's such a nice guy I really want to let him down easy. \n\nI don't know if I should just say hey right now I am not interested in anything serious but that doesn't mean we can't still talk and hang because maybe down the line I will feel differently or if I should be blunt and say I like you but just as a friend and that maybe the best course of action is to not talk as much. I don't want to give him false hope and I'm worried that by saying \"maybe\" in the future my feelings will change will do just that. I'm worried that if we just stay on the same path, talking the same amount, etc...that he is just going to be \"waiting\" for my feelings to come around. I'm worried they never will and then he will feel basically lead on. Any advice would be appreciated.", "summary": "Been talking on/off with a guy all summer but recently began talking more consistently. I like him but I don't feel any spark. Both going back to college soon. I don't know how to proceed."}
{"id": "t3_27rzg0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [19 F] with my boyfriend [21M] (2.3 years). Am I being selfish for wanting certain things?", "post": "Am I being selfish for wanting flowers? All I've ever wanted from a guy is a flower. My boyfriend doesn't celebrate Valentine's day or anything like that, so I get really sad around that time of the year seeing all of these other girls get all these gifts.\n\nWas it also wrong for me wanting him to go to my senior prom with me? It was the only school dance I went too. I never got to experience having a guy ask me to a dance like all the other girls around me did.\n\nAm I asking for too much?", "summary": "too selfish for wanting flowers and a dance date?"}
{"id": "t3_3jrdtu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [29M] cheated on my wife [29F] of 9 years with a one night stand. She filed for divorce. How do I get back her trust so we can rebuild?", "post": "Me [29M] and my wife [29F] have been married for just over 9 years. Shortly before our 9th anniversary I had a one night stand with a random woman I had just met. I love my wife and have never cheated on her or any other woman I've been in a relationship with before. I don't even know why I was so stupid. Somehow my wife found out and she served me with divorce papers and moved out. It's been 3 months since she left and she won't talk to me except through her lawyer. I regret my actions and that I hurt her.\n\nI have heard of relationships surviving when one partner cheats and even coming back stronger. I am willing to do whatever it takes to make it work with her. I'll go to therapy, give up my cell phone, stay home and only go out with her, whatever she wants. But it's been 3 months and she refuses to talk with me and let me apologize. I don't want to get a divorce. People who are in relationships where one person cheated and you stayed together, what worked? How did you rebuild trust? How long did the wronged partner not talk to the other? Did they start divorce proceedings and then change their mind?", "summary": "I cheated on my wife of 9 years with a one night stand. 3 months ago she filed for divorce and refuses to speak to me. I want to make it work and will do anything to rebuild our relationship. How do I get her to talk to me again so we can rebuild our relationship?"}
{"id": "t3_10wndi", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[21 F] Having trouble with expectations/pressures of sex with boyfriend [23 M].", "post": "We've been together around 5 months.  Due to both our work schedules, we can only see each other around 2-3 days a week at most, and I feel like sex is an *expectation* because of this -- as in, every time we get together in those 2-3 days we HAVE to end up back at either of our apartments at the end of the night having sex.  If we don't have sex (I'm not in the mood, I just want to have a relaxing evening, etc.), he blames himself and thinks it's his fault or that I'm not attracted to him. \n\nSex is really mentally and physically exhausting for me and is usually painful (which yes, I've talked to my doctor and him about this, and I'm slowly but surely making it less painful).  It's not him, but my own problems.  \n\nI've had some sexual abuse in my past and this is the first sexual relationship I've had since (or ever), so I'm trying to work through my own problems, including being touched too much or doing sexual acts that might trigger me (but that I want to do).  Since my only sexual experience was abuse, I feel like I have trouble distinguishing between what is okay in a sexual relationship and what isn't.\n\nThe pressure to *always* have sex when I'm with him, though, is kind of a turn-off?  It makes me anxious and nervous and freaked out.  And then I'll say I'm not in the mood, and he gets sad or upset because of it.  We've tried the route of \"you initiate\", but I still feel like I need to initiate every time or he'll be disappointed or feel bad because I don't.\n\nAm I overworrying about this?  I'm not sure if it's just me being weird or if he's being too pushy about sex.  Do I just have a lower libido than him?  Or is this how normal relationships function?", "summary": "Pressure to have sex with bf all the time is killing my mood most of the time and makes me anxious.  What do?"}
{"id": "t3_39muid", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [17F] have to pick collges soon, but boyfriend [21M] of 6 months might not be able to come with. Help?", "post": "A little background info: I'm crazy for my boyfriend. He treats me like a princess, makes me incredibly happy, we support each other, never have lulls in conversation, etc. It's absolutely perfect. He lives 3 hours away from me, but it feels like he's right here. \n\nThe problem: I'm fairly smart for my age. I have quite a few opportunities for colleges and my future, and I'm smart enough to know that this is an important decision. My boyfriend went to a community school for a semester, got caught up with the wrong crowd, and took a break. He's refreshed now and wants to go to college with me, and I'd love to finally be able to have a real relationship with him. My main two options are UNT and Tulane. He can go with me to UNT, but Tulane is out of his reach. Both schools have plenty of ups and downs for me, but I just need reassurance. Should I pick the possibly lesser-school to be happier, or should I go big? I immediately tear up at the thought of leaving him, but I wanted some outside advice.", "summary": "should I go to the college that has a better reputation or the college that could make me happier?"}
{"id": "t3_1j2gkk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Best friend's [f/27] boyfriend [m/26] already has a girlfriend [f/~25] and a three year old daughter", "post": "My best friend (we'll call her Sarah) startet a new job in may last year. She was with her then boyfriend for four years by then but things were not going that great. She startet to get along with a collegue (we'll call him Bob) really well. After a few weeks, she admitted that she has fallen for Bob and broke off with her then boyfriend to be with him (Bob). And now here start the problems. \n\nBob already has a girlfriend (Jen) and they have a three year old and live together. He says that the relationship is basically over and he has no feelings for Jen and he loves Sarah and wants to be with her. But he is afraid to leave Jen because she is mentally unstable and clingy and has no job and he is afraid he will lose his daughter and Jen won't be able to care for her and he doesn't know how to care for his daughter alone (though I'm sure Sarah would be more than happy to help) and yeah ... \n\nBob and Sarah are in a relationship for ~ 9 months now, and Sarah gets more and more frustrated. I keep telling her to push Bob for doing the right thing but she never does and it hurts me to see her like that. She would never leave him and I'm starting to believe that he will never leave Jen. Somedays I think I just tell Jen (I have no contact with her or even know her, besides her name and facebook profile) because Bob and Sarah are both unable to do anything, but I don't want to be responsible for ruining Jen's life. \n\n**I know it is highly immoral what they do and in no way do I approve it** (I've been cheated on before and I know the pain) but Sarah has been there for me in more ways than I could have hoped for and I want to give it back now. But I don't know what to do. Please help me?\n\nSorry for any mistakes, my english is not that good", "summary": "Best friend falls for guy, they get together but he already has a girlfriend and a daughter. She (the mom) doesn't know and nobody does anything to change/improve the situation"}
{"id": "t3_2d1v05", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [18M] broke up with my girlfriend [18F] of one year because I was going through a lot of stress that was mostly from other sources. Now that I've cleared things up, I completely regret it.", "post": "Hi, so recently I've been going through a lot that's had me really on edge. I got my wisdom teeth taken out, I've had a ton of stuff to do to prepare for college, and I've had a lot family problems. My girlfriend got mad at me a few times during this, and eventually I decided to break up with her to eliminate the source of stress. This was a week and a half ago, and I've felt awful since. Yeah, my girlfriend isn't getting mad at me anymore, but I've got no one to help me work through everything else now.\n\nI feel a bit better now that my wisdom teeth sockets have stopped hurting and I've settled down about leaving, but I still regret what I did. I just don't know if I can fix what I did. It's been a while and I have a feeling that she's probably already started moving on. Do you think that I should try to fix things, or just let her go?\n\nAnother thing is that I'm leaving for college and she's not yet. I know it's usually recommended that you break up with your partner in that case, and I wouldn't try to pass this off as an \"Oh, she's the love my life\" scenario. I understand a lot of times the college situation doesn't work out, so if that factors into your advice then I'm fine with it.", "summary": "Was really stressed out by health/college/family, broke up with girlfriend in depressed state. I regret it now and want to do something about it but don't know if I should or if she's moved on. Also I'm leaving for college if that changes anything."}
{"id": "t3_i5r0o", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "what moment in your life did you realize that everything you thought you knew about someone or something was a lie?", "post": "me and my best friend had known these 2 girls for a while, by the names of Stacie and Lauren. they were nothing more than friends, they just liked to come hang out with us when we went out at night sometimes. I believed they were great people. If you had asked me about them 2 nights ago, I wouldve had nothing but good things to say about them. Well, me and my friend went and picked them up one night. I knew they had been in the hospital the day before and had some medications they had to take, which was fine. But Stacie started acting weird, and i noticed she was taking ALOT of medication. But i didnt say anything. then she got really quiet and accidently spilled her purse. and about 20 or 30 different pill bottles fell out. everything from Oxycodone to methamphetamine was in these bottles. only half were marked in actual labels, the rest in sharpie. then I notice my best friend get real quiet, and pulled into a church parking lot and got out and walked away. I went to chase him down and he told me to go back and tell Stacie and Lauren that he didnt wasnt to hear a single word out of them on the way back home. so we went back to the car and drove them home and we left. come the next day, me and my cousin go and pick Stacie and Lauren up, because my friend was so pissed he didnt want to see Stacie, and I wanted to see what the fuck was up with the pills and shit. my cousin thought he didnt know Stacie, but as soon as she walked out to the car, he sped off after taking one look at her and said if i ever hung out with her again, he beat the hell out of me. Apparently, Stacie gave what my cousins friend thought was some tylenol for a headache, and it turned out to be some unidentified drug that almost killed him.", "summary": "after months of hanging out with what I thought were very good friends, I realized I was hanging out with an attempted murderer and substance abuser."}
{"id": "t3_1uu6q3", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "I'm [21/m] looking for advice on getting rid of unneeded jealousy.", "post": "Hello. So my four-month (and going!) relationship with my girlfriend [20/f] is going pretty well, although there is one thing that's absolutely killing me. That is jealousy, which I am sure is a prime topic in this subreddit. It was never really a problem until my partner began to talk more with a male friend that she admitted to liking before we started seeing one another. I have met this friend in particular and he's a nice guy, and she's still friends with him, but I can't stop myself from feeling constant jealousy.\n\nI have read many articles detailing how to control and vanquish jealousy, but I still feel myself compelled to be wary of when she is with or talking to other guys. I try really hard to look at every person she talks to as people--not girls, not guys--just to give myself a boost of confidence knowing that they all don't mean what I mean to her. Yet I still can't lose grip of the jealous feelings I have! I truly have no reason to feel that way, as she has been incredibly loyal and helpful in trying to get me to understand that she wants no else but me, that I'm her best friend, etc. I have told her about how I feel and it has resulted in some pretty deep conversations about it, but only to help me. I was cheated on in my last relationship but I don't think that is affecting me in any way, as it wasn't too severe. However, I still unable to push myself over this jealousy. I want her to have friends of both genders because I know at the end of the day, it will be me and her sharing a bed, cuddling, talking about our problems, and all of the other stuff that two partners, couples, best friends do. But knowing that just doesn't seem to give me any satisfaction toward fighting off the jealousy. I mean, maybe it will all come in time, but I would like to hear what some of you have in advice to get a hold of myself a little better and mature so that I can be more confident in me, in her, and in us.", "summary": "I am jealous of my girlfriend spending time or talking to other males. She understands I am, and is trying to help me, and I understand I am, but I can't seem to break free from it regardless."}
{"id": "t3_4s4xpj", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I really don't know what to do, do you?", "post": "Hey guys/girls... \n\nI'm an 18 year old male and I think I'm in an emotional affair with another 18 year old female.... She has a boyfriend...\nThe main idea that is looming over my head is the idea that we may turn into something...\n\nThe signs:\n\n- we hang out as much as she does with her boyfriend\n- there's sexual tension (always has been since we became friends in year 6)\n- we can talk for hours and not reach an awkward phase \n- we can sit in silence for hours and not reach an awkward phase\n- she's commented on the idea of being my girlfriend\n- she's asked me, \"if I wasn't with **** would we have kissed by now/be together by now/ had sex by now?\"\n- she's also said to me, \"wouldn't you prefer me to be your first because you'd feel so comfortable with me?\"\n- her personality completely changes when we're around her boyfriend (more defensive and closed)\n- there's so much more....\n\nSomething else; today we were annoying each other and I may have pushed it too far (wanted her to pick my nose as a joke) and she screams out ,\"YOURE NOT MY BOYFRIEND...\" But almost straight away she went back to her normal self and was giggling and chuckling.... It came out of nowhere and now I can't stop thinking about what it meant... Through text obviously the shout can't be experienced but it was intense and real but there was a joking sense to it...", "summary": "!"}
{"id": "t3_2o03l0", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [19F] think my neighbours [M/F late 30s] are a danger to their children and my family.", "post": "So my neighbours Calle & Mark (late 30s) have 2 kids, Christina (7F) & Alex (5M) and a 1 y/o dog. On the other side of the house there's my parents, Derek [60M] & April [51F], and me, forgotmyfuckingname [19F]. My room mirrors Christina's so not only can I hear everything, during the summer when we have the windows open, you can hear everything that goes on in both sides of the house.\n\nTonight, I'm in my room on Netflix, when I hear a thud and yelling. Even without trying to listen, I can hear Mark yelling at his daughter. But it's more than just yelling. I can hear shit getting thrown & knocked down, Mark's yelling at Christina, telling her she's a worthless bastard, and something about a shit, and I think that I could hear him hit her.\n\nThis isn't an isolated incident either. \n\nI her them lock a kid and/or the dog in Christina's room, I hear them throw shit, yelling at each other and the kids. I've watched Alex run BLOCKS away while Calle was too busy scolding the dog. They've had the dog for a year, and haven't trained him, but yell at the dog for not behaving.\n\nThey let their crazy hang out too. They've yelled at my parents over little shit like TALKING to loud in the drive way, and Calle has ripped my mom a new asshole for **letting** me have musical instruments (friendly reminder that I'm a grown ass woman). \n\nCalle and Mark have yelled at me not only in front of my friends, but they've yelled AT my friends for coming over. Calle yelled at one of my friends for bringing alcohol into the house. HE'S 20, HE'S ALLOWED TO BRING ALCOHOL INTO MY HOUSE.\n\nThis is just some of the shit they've pulled. God, what do I do.", "summary": "Neighbours are cray-cray, I fear for their children & dog, as well as my parents and my own well being. "}
{"id": "t3_495pio", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "My [15F] friends [14-16F] and parents [43M, 40F] constantly diss me for my looks", "post": "So, sorry if this sounds kind of superficial but it really bothers me at the moment. Changed some names as well for privacy reasons.\n\nI'm a fairly average 15 year old in terms of looks, awkwardly shaped, a few spots here and there, features are a little off, whatever. My friends, on the other hand, are legitimately gorgeous, long hair, even skin tone, nice bodies etc. My parents and brother are also quite good looking themselves (for context, my father is Indian, my mother is Irish/Spanish). Which is great, I'm happy for them and that's not what bothers me.\n\nWhat bothers is me is that they take every chance that they get to bring me down when it comes to my appearance. On Valentine's day, my friend, Anna, was bitching about how no one in our group received a rose and the gist of what she said was basically, \"I mean, Kylie's face is gorgeous, Olivia has a hot body, I can be a solid 7 if I tried. But I guess with you, I can understand.\" \n\nAnna also bitched about the fact that I have been asked out by guys a few times, while she has not, \"I mean, you're not even attractive, lets be real.\"\n\nThat hurts like hell, but they're teens, I can understand. But my parents are like that as well.\n\nI'm quite self conscious about my weight and proportions and my parents are very aware of that. I am quite underweight at <50kg and 168 cm. But my parents take every opportunity they can to prod at my stomach, make comments like, \"Oh, you're gaining weight.\" etc. These comments have actually driven me to a mild eating disorder which I hate with all my heart.\n\nThey also love to point out my pimples and \"butch\" haircut (I do have a pixie cut) and overall teenage weirdness.\n\nI'm really bitter about it and it would be great if you guys could give me some tips on how to confront them. Thank you so much in advance.", "summary": "People around me constantly make negative comments about my appearance. Getting sick of it, please offer suggestions on how to confront."}
{"id": "t3_3d2dq4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I [31 M] met a woman [32 F] at a meetup, should I ask her out on a date via private message?", "post": "I just came back from a meetup that I went to from Meetup.com. There I met a wonderful, beautiful, charming woman. \n\nThe thing is because we were in a big group the whole time, I didn't really get a chance to speak to her one-on-one, find out if she's single and ask her out on a date.\n\nI have no idea if I'd ever see her again at this group, she hasn't signed up for any future events. So I doubt that getting to know her first is an option.\n\nWould it be OK to send her a private message asking her if she'd like to go on a date with me? I'm not sure if that's a bit too creepy or forward or maybe socially inept? Do I need permission first before I send a private message to someone?\n\nI've never heard of anyone PMing anyone like this before so I wanted to get some opinions on it first before I go for it.", "summary": "Should I PM someone out of the blue, asking them on a date?"}
{"id": "t3_l1elf", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "I'm in trouble for painting rage faces on our homecoming club windows", "post": "So heres the story. Every year for homecoming our school paints windows for clubs, after school activities, sports etc. My friends and I thought it would be funny to put a me gusta face on the boys sport page and a f7u12 face on theirs (like they're frustrated by us copying their design, which we did, and such).\n\nHere's the thing. One of the girls didn't think it was funny, and I was called into the office. They see it as me saying \"Fuck you\" to the girls team, and saying \"I like\" to the boys team. Hence, that we're better than the girls. That is TOTALLY not what I was aiming for.\nWhat should I do reddit? I go in tomorrow to talk to the people in the office. I've already explained that they don't have negative connotations, and that I absolutely meant no harm. I'm a good student, and I'vd never done anything bad. I'm just applying to colleges, and I don't want this to be seen as negative on my applications or anything. They're seeing it as graffiti or vandalism!\n\nHelp me out here, reddit!", "summary": "I'm in trouble for putting rage faces on our school spirit windows, they take it as me saying \"Fuck you\" to the girls."}
{"id": "t3_3ce96a", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "My Tinder experience so far [21 M] [Asian] [First date]", "post": "Hey what's up ladies and gents, \n\nSo pretty much, I'm back at my home town for the summer and had my first tinder date (first date ever) yesterday night so it was pretty monumental (; I unfortunately don't have as many female friends as I would like to hang out with so I figured I would give a tinder a spin.  \n\nI don't know if other normal looking asian guys go through this or I'm just butt ugly, its whatever but I probably get a match or two on the daily if I'm lucky and that is if I use all my likes. But I match with this one girl on the second day on the app and was able to see meet with her that weekend. And yeah, she didn't turn out to be a psycho or anything and she was actually pretty chill(she drinks and smokes occasionally with a college degree/job). We didn't hit it off right away, but after a few drinks we were able to expand and talk about life a bit more. We had dinner and took off to sight see and it became a pretty lame 8th bench date type of thing since I really didn't know how to escalate but it was still chill. She told me and I could tell that she was an avid tinder user so I was a little intimidated since this being my first time out and all. I don't know if she was bored at all or just wanted to hook up but I had a pretty good experience either way. Dropped her back off and was back on my way. This sound like a typical exchange on tinder or did I majorly fuck up in some way?\n\nHow many matches do you asian brothers get typically?", "summary": "Never went on a date before and met a girl on tinder. Didn't do anything with her but I still left with a 'I just benched press the world' smile on my face."}
{"id": "t3_2jlvlk", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [25F] with my boyfriend [27M] of 6 years and I want something more out of our relationship.", "post": "We've been happily together for awhile and I am ready to move forward in our relationship. I've been hesitant myself about having children, but with out a doubt, I have always wanted one. He's told me that he wants kids too, but at the right time. He says that he wants to save up money and be prepared. Which is very understandable, but at this point nothing is being saved and there's no effort to do so. We don't live pay check to pay check and are doing well. There's no need to borrow money, take out loans, things like that, but yet he's not ready. I know with out a doubt he loves me and want to have kids, I just feel like there will never be a \"right time\" to have a baby. \n\nMy birthday is coming up soon and I'm hoping to get something special whether it be him proposing (we have talked about marriage plenty of times) or a baby, but I feel like this will be another year of \"Oh, we aren't ready, maybe next year\" thing. I HOPE not, but at the same time I'm scared too! I'm afraid to express that I really want a baby, but I do NOT want to hear \"Not yet\". I'm tired of waiting for nothing.", "summary": "I want a baby and he's not ready."}
{"id": "t3_1v87y1", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 M] with my wife [27 F] duration 10 years, Need help to make our 10th Valentines day perfect", "post": "My wife and I met 10 years ago in college. Since then I've joined the army and been away a lot more than we expected, we've got a kid who is a low functioning autistic, we've had lots of struggles and managed to somehow stay together without killing each other.\n\nOne problem though is I've never been home for valentines day. I've always been away for work or dealing with some crisis or another (dodged the bullet this year, not leaving until the day after valentines day.)\n\nI'm the only one out of both of us who has a job and with a disabled kid life can get expensive, but I'd like to try to plan the perfect valentines day for the two of us. Problem is I'm not very creative and on a pretty tight budget. The only thing I know is I want to leave her some notes around the house leading up to V day and then I plan on taking her out for a Sushi dinner. That's all I've got so far.\n\nAny ideas from anyone? Help?", "summary": "I'm useless at valentines day but it's our 10th year together and our first year that I'll actually be home. I'm not creative! Help!"}
{"id": "t3_3fazue", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "[20F] Nervous to meet Little Brother's [15M] GF [17F], How not to seem like an Over-Protective Weirdo?", "post": "My little brother has been dating this girl for 3 weeks and she's coming over to our house tonight, and I'm really nervous. Our parents won't be home but I will so it's pretty likely I'll cross path with her, I don't want to just avoid them or something because that'd probably make me seem rude. My brother's had one girlfriend before, but they were the same age so I didn't have much of a problem with it. But this girl is two years older than him, and I know some people think it's normal or whatever, but I think when you're that young the age difference makes a huge difference. I've never met her and don't know much about her, so I'm not saying she's a terrible person or something, but I do feel a bit of animosity towards her, is that normal? How do I like talk to her/introduce myself, without seeming overprotective? I feel like when I talk to her I'll seem confrontational even if I'm not trying to be, I care about my brother a lot, I think it's okay to be protective of him, but maybe she thinks it's not? I'm a first gen immigrant from Latin-America so please excuse my English if it's kinda crappy lol. \n\nThanks :)", "summary": "My little brother's girlfriend is coming over to our house and I'll be meeting her for the first time, I'm kind of protective of him and I don't want her to think I am. He's younger than her and I feel slight animosity towards her for that."}
{"id": "t3_44yow4", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [23 F] with my coworker [28 M], despite my asking, he won't stop touching.", "post": "We've been working together for about a year now, and we've grown to be good friends. Only in the work place, never outside of work. He is married with two children. We have the same group of friends at work and get a long pretty well. Just one problem... he won't stop touching me.\n\nIts usually only a touch on the arm to say \"Hey I'm here\" or a shoulder squeeze. Yesterday it went as far as him sneaking up on me and squeezing my side. He does this with most of the people in the office, most of which don't seem to mind. I've known only of a couple people who's asked him to stop.\n\nI have asked him numerous times to stop. One time I even snapped at him \"You have to stop touching me\" to which he took as a joke and said I was being rude to him. \n\nI'm guessing someone said something to him because today he asked me if it was seriously something that bothered me. He went on to tell me that its just second nature to him, he doesn't know if he can just stop doing it and that no one has ever asked him to stop before. I would feel weird to report him to HR because other than the touching, we are pretty good friends. I have no other issues with him, and we have the same group of friends. I feel it would cause a lot of problems.\n\nMy question is am I wrong for hating it? If no one else seems to mind it, am I just over reacting? I just like my personal space and it just weirds me out. What should I do from here?", "summary": "problem with a touchy coworker. Told him to stop, but he won't. What to do?"}
{"id": "t3_37nkzp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [29 M] with my ___ [25 F] of 2 years: is it unreasonable not to want to go to a wedding?", "post": "I hate weddings.  I would practically rather be anywhere else.  I don't like dancing, I don't like dressing up, I don't like chit-chatting with a huge room full of people I don't know.  I understand I'm unusual in this regard.\n\nMy girlfriend's friends are getting married soon.  I know them but not well.  I know a few people in the wedding party but again, not well.  She'll be the only person I'm friends with there.  She's a bridesmaid and I imagine she'll mostly be doing bridesmaid-y things and hanging out with her friends.  I would feel like an accessory with nothing really to do.\n\nShe's told me she really wants me to go.  When asked why, she can't really articulate it beyond that she wants me to go and that's just what couples do.  I don't think that's a valid reason to ask me to do something I hate.  But at the same time, I do care about her feelings and would like to not make her sad.  She's very nice and would probably not get mad at me if I didn't go, but would probably be sad.\n\nHere's my question: would most people (who are ok at weddings) consider it unreasonable for me not to go?", "summary": "I hate weddings.  Would I be wronging my girlfriend by not joining her at one?"}
{"id": "t3_4m1cyy", "subreddit": "Advice", "title": "Boss told me I was going to be fired, but haven't heard anything since.", "post": "Throwaway just in case.\n\nLet me preface this by saying I understand why this company would fire me. I know it's nothing personal. I've worked here for two years, and lately I've been getting a little burnt out, so I hit a bit of a lazy streak. Totally understandable; no issues with that.\nMy issue is that on Saturday, my immediate supervisor pulled me into his office, and to make a long story short, told me he had to start the process of termination due to my recent work performance. Tough to swallow, but fair. I messed up.\n\nThat was the only thing I heard about it on Saturday, and we are closed Sunday.\n\nOn Monday, Memorial Day in the US, I asked my supervisor if he had any updates on the situation for me (apparently some kind of form has to be sent to corporate, they sign/approve it or whatever, then send it back and you clean off your desk). He said because of the holiday, no one is at corporate. He also said that his supervisor, the GM, was waiting to hear back from someone.\n\nThat was the last I heard of it on Monday.\n\nOn Tuesday, I came to work not really knowing if I had a job or not. I came in, did my work, acted normal. I asked my supervisor via text if he had an update. No response. I know he saw the text, though, his phone is always with him and he has one of those smart watches. He saw it. Never hearing anything, I finished out my shift and went home.\n\nIt's Wednesday, and here I am at the job I was told I'm getting fired from.\n\nI've never been fired from a job before. Is this normal? Do I just wait it out? Is what they're doing (telling me I'm going to get fired and not following through) normal?", "summary": "My boss told me I was getting fired, hasn't done it, and won't answer my questions regarding the matter."}
{"id": "t3_2pnka5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 6 months. I will be going abroad to Australia in February for 4 months, what are good options for couples where one person studies abroad?", "post": "I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months now. At the end of February, I go to study abroad in Australia for 4 months. I'm incredibly in love with him and we have a very close, caring relationship. However, both of us  have a hard time being physically apart for a long time. Every time I've brought up a conversation thus far, he has said \"its a few months away lets not worry yet\". \nObviously I'm getting worried now that the time is coming closer. \nWhat are some options for couples when one studies abroad? Is it better to stay together or to take a break?", "summary": "Going abroad to Australia, how do I stay with my bf?"}
{"id": "t3_4un3dg", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [27 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] for four months now, he talks very slow.", "post": "I don't know how to ask this without it sounding really silly, but this is a genuine problem. I created a throwaway because of too much personal detail in my main account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I are both grad students and have been together for four months now. I absolutely love him. He's sweet, caring, tolerant, liberal, basically every single thing on my 'checklist', if I had one, is there. \n\nThe problem, though, is he talks VERY slowly. I mean his speed is really slow. If I ask him anything, he takes about 3 seconds before he starts to talk, then when he starts, the words go at a very slow pace,and he even pauses for 3-5 seconds in the middle of his sentence. I get really impatient and sometimes just feel like telling him to hurry up (of course I don't, but I really feel like doing so). \n\nI asked him today, very gently, why he spoke so slow, and he said he just gets thoughts very slowly in his brain. He then went on to say he's just generally slow at thinking. I felt really sad when he said this, I don't know why. He's a Math PhD student,and we are at a pretty good school, and his research has been going slow for a while now (but this is totally normal in grad school), so I think that response was kind of a self-deprecating one since he's already low on self-esteem. \n\nAnyway, my point is, his speed of talking is just a part of him, it can't be changed. I love him so much otherwise but I just want to know how to deal with this. Conversation is so important in a relationship! How do we manage? He's an introvert and talks very little in general; I suspect this has something to do with his pace of talking?", "summary": "Boyfriend of four months who's otherwise fantastic, has a very slow pace of talking, and I feel impatient talking to him. How do I deal with this situation?"}
{"id": "t3_hb3an", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Deja Vu? What do you think it means?", "post": "The science of Deja Vu isn't really cut and paste a lot of it is still speculation. Just a few days ago I had a very strange case of Deja Vu. I was at a bar I had never been to, in a city I had never been to with friends I just met for the first time that week. Then all of a sudden it hit me, the situation, the setting, the atmosphere, the lights, the sounds, the ambiance, everything seemed like that moment in time had occurred for me before.\n\nSo I ask, what do you think Deju Vu means? To me, I think it is a sign that your life is on the path it is intended to be on. That you are heading in the right directions. Kinda like a butterfly effect. You always start at point A and you always end at point B. But the way you get there is up to you, and there is a right path for you to take and there is the wrong path for you to take. Not morally, but just the way that your life is \"Suppose\" to go.", "summary": "What does Deja Vu mean to you? To me it's a sign that things are on track in your universe."}
{"id": "t3_2m12rc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I (20 M) have different life goals than ( 18 F) girlfriend", "post": "I met her my freshman year of college, and she was a senior in highschool. We hit it off very quickly and have been dating since last October, so its been more than a year. \nShes been away at college 3 hours away, and her family only lets her come home for holidays, the holidays I leave Texas for Alabama cause my entire family lives there, except my parents but we have a roadtrip. \nI have made 2 trips to see her, and stay the weekend, that were great but its expensive and I can't keep paying to see my gf, pay for school and gas and all. \n\nRight now, I am doubting our relationship which is horrible for me because I really love her. She always talks now about how much she wants foster kids when she gets older, and has always wanted to do that apparently(never told me). \nShe also is talking about living close to her parents, cause she does not want to be far away at all from them. I've always wanted to live in Alabama, its where I'm going to work this next summer, and possibly college if I can get in. \nI feel as if its unfair that she wants these things for her life, and I dont want to foster kids for years and years like she does, and I don't plan on living in Texas anymore..cause I dislike it here. I only look at the future, because I have to start making decisions on moving and such. Shes having doubts now, which she never does because she 100% is faithful and loves me and wants to spend her life with me she has said, but I don't want to do a lot of the things she wants to do in life and I feel like a jerk :/ Any advice is great", "summary": "gf of over one year wants different things in life, different goals. This is making doubts arise in our relationship"}
{"id": "t3_ki2tw", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Hopefully someone can clarify this car insurance situation I have. Is it supposed to work like that?", "post": "First of all, i got into a car accident like 4 months ago while my sister's friend (lets call her Kim) was in the passenger sit. I made a U-turn and while i saw car was coming but i guess i was wrong and i got hit from the back while about to get into my lane. My car was totaled after sniping out of control and Kim (I must say, i think she's a total brat and i highly dislike her but my sister begged me to take her to her house, so i did) ended up in the hospital to get stitches in her head. I felt fucked up as well but i was too scared and too busy panicking to think about anything else. The police report said that it was neutral fault. Well here's the thing i don't understand. Kim ended with a check of 10,000 to pay for her hospital bills while i ended up having to buy another car at my expense and my insurance went up. They gave her a check and i'm pretty sure she wasted all the money already without paying the hospital bill yet. Why does it work like that?", "summary": "Got in a car accident, my passenger ended with a check of 10,000 to pay for her hospital bills while i ended up having to buy another car at my expense and my insurance went up."}
{"id": "t3_q8ro1", "subreddit": "loseit", "title": "After only one week of changing my diet, it's insane (in a good way)", "post": "I come from a family that eats way too many carbs. I'm 17 years old, 6 feet tall, and 350lbs (159kg). Last week, I decided to make some big eating habit changes. **First**, was not snacking during the day. I only 3 eat meals a day, no snacks. **Second** is I'm cutting out a lot of carbs from my meals. My usual judgement at home is 40% of my daily carbs maximum for breakfast and lunch combined, and then I don't pat attention to the exact count for dinner, but I'm still mindful not to take additional carbs. **Third**, drinking primarily water and juice. I'm a big pop connoisseur, and I think that's one of my main problems.\n\nI've lost 5 pounds (2.25kg) in one week, and I don't need to eat nearly as much. Today, I had a Nutrigrain bar for breakfast at 6:30am, and a regular serving of popcorn chicken and an apple for lunch at 10:40am (I'm in the earliest lunch period at school). It's currently 5:45pm and I'm barely hungry.\n\nThis week, I'm gonna start doing cardio regularly: at least a mile of walking a day, whether around town or on a treadmill. I haven't been at a healthy weight since I was in 2nd grade, but I'm hoping to at least get closer to 200lbs (91kg) by September for when I go off to college.", "summary": "Lost 5lbs in a week just from cutting carbs, snacks, and soda. Not nearly as hungry, and starting to walk a mile a day this week."}
{"id": "t3_l5m5m", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the best way to learn a foreign language on my own?", "post": "Hi Reddit,\n\nI'm a student who's very interested in learning a foreign language - specifically Spanish.  I am taking a class on it in school, but unfortunately, the teacher is boring and the class is dull.  Regardless, I think learning Spanish is an extremely important skill and one that I wish to acquire.\n\nI've also heard that learning via translation (like in my class) is actually detrimental to achieving fluency in a language, because you will forever be stuck translating in your head.  My goal is to be able to speak Spanish without having to process each individual word in my head.\n\nTwo things that I've tried so far: Watching some Spanish Telenovelas, and Rosetta Stone.  Telenovelas are entertaining and I get the gist of it, I'm just not sure if its working well.  Are they good?  The Rosetta Stone license was issued by the school, but the contract has run out and I no longer have access (purchasing it is not an option).\n\nSo are there any ways to be able to learn the language through association and immersion, rather than literal English to Spanish translation?  I'm learning the grammar rules and specifics in school, so its a matter of expanding my vocabulary and being comfortable with casual conversation.  I understand that its hard to learn speaking skills, especially over the Internet, but learning proper speech patterns and pronunciations is very important.", "summary": "What's the most efficient method of learning Spanish on my own time?"}
{"id": "t3_14yuod", "subreddit": "relationship_advice", "title": "[24/F] My boyfriend's friend [26/M] is maybe a little too friendly?", "post": "I have a boyfriend of.. I want to say maybe 3 months now. Relatively recently (within the past month or so) he introduced me to one of his closest friends. He's a man who's been in a relationship with a woman for the past 8 years. Within the time we've been introduced up until today, I've become fast friends with him, enough of one to the point where we have each others' phone numbers and IDs for various gaming stuff.\n\nFrom my past experience, and I realize it might be different for others depending on the situation, it's usually good to get along with your SO's friends, but I've never had someone like that send me so many messages throughout the day and want to do stuff with me. Moreso than my SO. Text messages all the time, game invites after work.. I just don't know what to think of it. His girlfriend also does these things, but it seems like he's excluding her almost every night. There's nothing sexual at all exchanged in the messages, but he does have a tendency to bring up a ton of inside jokes. Should I be worried?", "summary": "Boyfriend's friend (who's been in an 8-year relationship) is messaging me constantly and wanting to spend time with me almost every day at night... what gives?"}
{"id": "t3_qaj5s", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "What's the most awkward situation you've ever been in? I'll start", "post": "Mine happened today. \nLittle back story, I'm going to university and I'm in lecture. This really hot girl decides to sit next to me one day and we start talking. Soon she becomes flirtatious as the lectures go by. The only problem is I'm not single so I painfully ignore her advances. Slowly, I try to distance myself.\nAnyways, back to the present, I'm on the bus and lo and behold she's there. I had successfully ignored her for about a month by this time. So I see her and sit down in the farthest seat from her. I sit there for awhile and realize, 'why don't I just catch the next bus?'. So I get off the bus and turn around thinking I had accomplished something. Who's there? The chick, staring into my eyes with a fury. Most awkward thing I've every experienced", "summary": "Ran into a girl I had been trying to avoid while trying to avoid her"}
{"id": "t3_1pxmjc", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Friend (17f) and I(19m) have been talking again", "post": "We went out for a year and half, broke up, she went out with someone for like 5  months, they broke up, then few months later we talked a little, but nothing happened. Two weeks ago she txted and weve been talking since.\n\nNow she says she enjoys being with me, doesnt want to lose me, but doesnt know if im her soulmate.  Tonight she was crying because her best friend from out of state (been talking since last december) said if my friend(ex) and I are talking then he couldnt talk to her anymore.  \n\nShe told him she wasnt going to pick him over me, but she is clearly upset.  I told her if she wanted I wouldnt talk to her anymore, but she said that wouldnt make her happy either.  \n\nIm not really sure what to do. I want her happy, but im not sure how to go about that.  I tried talking to her on the phone, but most of the time she was crying. I wont see her until at the earliest saturday ( out of town training)\n\nHave any idea what I should do? If you need more information just let me know.", "summary": "Ex and I started talking again. Her best friend from another state (never met irl) quit talking to her because she is talking to me.  Now she is upset because she doesnt know if im her soulmate and she lost her best friend."}
{"id": "t3_2yfq9y", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Wife [35F, married 5yrs ago] wants me [44M] to have the \"Find a Friend\" tracking app on my phone, and I find it creepy.", "post": "Question for you: my wife (35F) recently (repeatedly) asked me (44M) to instal the \"Find a Friend\" app on my phone. For those who haven't heard of that app: it enables whoever you allow to track where you are at any time, set an alert if you are on the move, and has a few other features.\n\nHer reasoning: I often go (kite)surfing in remote locations and this way she'll know where I am in case of emergency. And she recently did a long Coastrek where I helped with support and she thought in hindsight that this app would have helped me find where she was.\n\nI'm a little creeped out by it. IMO my wife has insecurity and trust issues, and this is just a way for her to reassure herself that I'm not cheating on her whenever I work late etc.\n\nI've 'let her' instal it - for now, to give her the reassurances she seems to need. But I did voice my opinion on the matter, explaining that I perceive it to be a creepy little stalking tool that I can understand using on your teenage children's phone, but not on your husband. I told her to feel free to instal it but that I perceive it as her having trust issues, to which her response was that my 'defensive manner' was suspicious in itself.\n\nI asked if she knew of any other friends who use it (none), and who else she tracks on her Find a Friend app (only her brother).\n\nAs a side note and to provide context: we have been married for 5 years, have 2 kids and an almost barren sex life (which I gather is pretty normal for 'married with kids' couples) - which I think makes her insecure about my fidelity. And no; I'm not cheating on her. \n\nAm I handling this the right way? Any constructive advice welcomed.", "summary": "if your partner asked you to instal a tracker app on your phone so that he/she would know where you are at all times; would you? And if not: how would you handle it?"}
{"id": "t3_wb3wp", "subreddit": "AskReddit", "title": "Help finding a script online?", "post": "I need to remember lines from a script for school, but i cant find it anywhere. I've looked on google but nothing useful has shown up\nI only need one scene, i think its scene 2 or 3 of act 1, it starts on page 19 though.\nThe play is called 'Away' and its written by Michael Gow, its Australian (if that helps) and its set in the 60's. I think it was written in the 80's\n\nIf anyone could provide me a link, or even enail pictures of just that scene, i would very much appreciate it.\n\nAlso, if theres a more appropriate subreddit for this please tell me, thankyou", "summary": "where can i find the script for \"Away\" by Michael Gow"}
{"id": "t3_2131ig", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Relationship: Girlfriend (f21) came clean for cheating on me 3 times in her one year of dating me (m21)", "post": "A little background:\nI've known this girl for a while and we have dated about a year now for the second time and I have been very serious about her.\n\nThere was a guy that led her on before we dated and used her for sex. I knew it was recent when we started dating again but I was hoping she would be able to move past him since she was with me. She promised that she would never speak to him again.\n\nOne year later she decided that she needed to tell me that she had had sex with him 3 days in to our relationship. I asked her questions about it and we talked for a while.\n\nHonestly I didnt think it was too big of a deal and, although I was disappointed and had less trust for her I had forgiven her. I asked if that was the entire story and if anything else ever happened and she swore that was all.\n\nThe next night at a bar we got on the subject again and after some serious probing she admitted that she had also invited him over while I was at work and \"he had sex with her while she 'froze'\" about six months ago. Twice that month he came over and \"had sex with her\"\n\nI left her and she has been begging ne to come back. I've explained to her that I dont can't possibly trust her anymore. I am young and dont need someone like this in my life no matter how much I care for them. \n\nShe shows genuine remorse and has said she is willing to do anything to make things right, i am just sick of being lied to. \n\nShe is a great girlfriend and I wanted the world with her but is it worth it to go back?\n\nShould I allow her an opportunity to make up for this or attempt to gain my trust again? \nIs it wrong for me to hate her and stay away from my life? Does she get credit for coming clean or still hiding things?\n\nAlso, she decided to tell me these things because she didnt want to feel guilty since I had just agreed to move to Oklahoma with her so she can go to school there.", "summary": "GF admitted she cheated on me once and then twice more. Thinks she deserves for me to stick around after showing remorse"}
{"id": "t3_3fy7au", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "me [28 f] with my husbands family [various ages, m/f] I announced our pregnancy on Facebook and everyone is really mad at me", "post": "Op:\n\nSorry, forgot to mark title with [UPDATE]\n\nSort of small update- my husbands dad finally called and asked my husband why he couldn't announce the baby over the phone to him, and my husband says he didn't notify him because he \"didn't know we were telling people.\" \n\nAm I overreacting to be furious? I feel like I just totally got thrown under the bus. I feel like the implication when he acts clueless is that I went behind his back and announced via Facebook before he had a chance to tell people and the announcement was a complete surprise to him. Am I looking too much into it?? \n\nHe of course says I'm overreacting and no one even mentioned my name in the conversation, and I need to get over it. I feel like my name didn't NEED to be mentioned because by saying he didn't know we were telling people, when I post the announcement, it makes it look like I'm instigating shit. Also he says we should just drop it now because nothing he says about it will ever make me feel better and I'm just being mad for no reason, which infuriates me more!\n\nAm I being hormonal and crazy?", "summary": "Feels like I got thrown under the bus by my husband..."}
{"id": "t3_3vy8xu", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Is my bf(M26) behaviour validated towards me (F26) after I made a foolish mistake?", "post": "Background: I (F26) Have been in a relationship with my bf (M26) for 10 years. I currently stay at his parents house with him and I have a part-time job, he works full-time. \n\nToday I was suppose to attend an assessment for a job in another city but I didn't go as I felt doubtful about enjoying the job so I missed the assessment. This was a mistake and a terrible reason to not attend a job assessment. I currently work part-time and need a full-time job so not going to this assessment was just childish and wrong. I feel guilty and bad about not going and beat myself up over it. I will not do this again. \n\nMy bf was extremely disappointed with me (expectingly so) but also very angry I made that decision. I already feel stupid for not going and it was a mistake but my boyfriend has decided to react with calling me names and making me feel terrible for it. \n\nHe had work at 2pm and I told him this news around 8am. By 1pm I asked why he was still angry with me and he responded with ' Im not angry cos I dont give a shit about you any more'. This made me feel horrible. \n\nBefore leaving for work, I told him I already feel like shit for it and he responded to this with ' you should feel like shit cos you are a piece of shit\". He has told me I am a waste of space, time and money and that I am pathetic. Today I have felt extremely depressed and worthless all day because of his reaction, as well as for the mistake of not attending that assessment. \n\nIs his reaction validated? Should he be behaving like this? I can understand he will feel disappointed with me but I feel it is too extreme.", "summary": "I foolishly didnt attend a job assessment and feel horrible for it, bf responds with extreme anger and makes me feel worthless for my mistake and calls me names. Is this justified?"}
{"id": "t3_3srds5", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "23F and 23M bf/gf on different relationship stages, this normal?", "post": "Hi, I [23F] have been been dating this guy [23M], I am his first girlfriend, for soon to be 3 months and we are on different relationship stages. He is still in the honeymoon stage, where everything about your partner is perfect (not complaining, just surprised). I on the other hand have already passed that, probable because I am a single mother; idk okay). I kinda assumed that he had moved on due to some awkward moments.\n\nWe are on the same page as to what we are doing with the relation by talking about what we want; i.e. taking it slow by not meeting the parents, no major holiday being shared, or sex until month 5-6 (was not a one sided decision and I compromised; wanted to wait until marriage this time). \n\nSo what I want to know is this normal and just not talked about or no.? Should I even be asking at this point.", "summary": "Is it normal for a couple to be on different relationship stages i.e. honeymoon and none-honeymoon (reality?)"}
{"id": "t3_2u9otp", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "I(M23) am suspecting my wife(F24) of hiding a meet up with another male.", "post": "Hey guys posting this on a throwaway account and on my phone so sorry for the mistakes. So on to the story.\nSo my wife let's call her Jessica is going to go to Arkansas in about 2weeks to see her best friend well she has a guy friend that lives there to and here is the problem. This guy friend well call him Matt and if come to find out that they actually have never met before and I have a bad feeling about him from long before. So I did something bad but don't regret and that is went through Jessicas phone and saw texts between them nothing serious but one stood out\nMatt: I'm excited to meet you.\nAren't you excited to meet me?\nJessica: why wouldn't I be?\n\nThen nothing worth mentioning. That was this morning and then later in the day I checked again and low and behold the messages are deleted. We kinda had a fight months ago about him before where she was liking and commenting on all matts photos and it was kinda bugging me well that stopped. Now when I have a bad feeling 80% of the time it happens and this is one of those times. I really want to confront here on this in the most tactful way and avoiding her knowing I looked through the phone. I'm military and we are moving overseas soon and Matt is military too and I know how military guys are.", "summary": "wife going to see best friend and another male friend she has never meet without telling me."}
{"id": "t3_2r1y1o", "subreddit": "relationships", "title": "Me [21M] with my [20F] girlfriend of four months, finds my sexual fetishes weird and disgusting.", "post": "Relatively new relationship, everything is great with this girl including our sex life which is good and all etc. However I have an odd fetish for engaging in sexual acts involving pissing and everything around it. She often thinks I'm joking and just says it's weird and grim and that she would never consider engaging in it.\nIt's played on my mind for a long while wanting to indulge in it and whilst it wouldn't affect my feelings towards the relationship it is still very frustrating.\nWhat I want to know Reddit is, shall I put this out of my mind and accept it's never going to happen or, is it one of those things in time where she may become more likely to consider it?", "summary": "girlfriend thinks my fetish is weird and not sure how much that bothers me"}